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divorce,RodSerling22,2020/01/01,"I have a selfish request. Can someone tell me everything will be okay? Not sure if it’s the new year, but I (27M) am really struggling today and am selfishly asking for someone to tell me that everything will be okay.

About four months ago my wife left me. I took the dog for a walk and when I got back, she was gone. Since then I have taken a look inside myself and realized the issues I possessed. My ex-wife does not feel as though she did anything wrong and filed for divorce. As of early December my divorce was finalized and I have been riding solo since. 

Most days I am okay, but today is especially difficult. It’s not sadness but anger that gets to me. Lately I have been feeling like a total looser and I can’t shake the feeling that I’m a complete joke. 

I had everything that I ever wanted. I Had a wife, dog, good job, money, white picket fence, nice house. Now I have nothing. Wife is gone, dog is gone, cats are gone...I’ve got nothing. Money is super tight, and I’m on a budget of about $13 a day. 

I feel lost, and I’m a total wreck. How does someone go from having all the stuff they want to having nothing?

I’m back to square one and I feel like I wasted a huge chunk of my life.",1.803231505336768,3.559771562753042,3.5505796834744214,89.60369065145382,78.31174089068827,6.110342289289657,21.75358851674641,6.980632752743323,0.5560461538461539,924,26,196,10,22,309,134,247,0.139,0.7120000000000001,0.149,-0.3254,1,0,0,0,2,0,38.0,0,0,1,2,9,19,1,2,15,3,28,1,0,1,5,33,51,19,0,3,7,3,6,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,7,9,0,2,6,1,3,8,4,9,0,2,15,9,29,10,16,32,4,28,0,2,3,0,12,3,0,2,19,125,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10142644248816277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09415792581943856,0.0,0.10696727151604403,0.0,0.0,0.1759638626479503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11996721222493155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14758289210538592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20025945810325346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10349945719556146,0.0,0.0,0.3085000037291353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28927099587284005,0.163483367829644,0.0,0.12534153720929436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059779737034367085,0.0,0.06502753319362105,0.09597008270450466,0.18302428215741331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13202533875872274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194247718206474,0.11354421283526447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12907076439459875,0.0,0.1243176846396212,0.0,0.08081824270657617,0.11179968269744367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09608399792945298,0.0,0.12490296620749043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09132896695306067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11050756664215004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32936728036721724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07753396559360552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733003935962551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892988429948108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29084313052142985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11961664634600605,0.13098354617047456,0.0,0.0,0.10783951311488366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20001627847016756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11241708700884463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169135970781903,0.0,0.12712485035726026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13497578259307474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251003280236751,0.0,0.07368274035870383
divorce,The_Big_Jeff_Bridges,2020/01/01,Do we have any PC gamers here in r/divorce? I was thinking maybe we could all help fill each other’s social needs with a discord server and some gaming.,4.704193548387097,5.240725387096777,4.919516129032257,87.39927419354844,69.3225806451613,6.2,25.177419354838708,3.1291,0.440148387096774,121,3,24,0,2,38,30,31,0.08900000000000001,0.8220000000000001,0.08900000000000001,0.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3.0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,10,6,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,2,4,3,2,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,0,16,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31852569106753503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3739765021255205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3139563095126052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4705672544137855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3473100796060232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4774712587795427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30012957272175544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,LyricstoLiveby,2020/01/01,"Hard things and small steps Divorced 2 years.  Was Married for 13. 3 children from the marriage.  
The marriage ended because of infidelity. He was sleeping with a newly-married CoWorker.  Once I discovered the affair, I also uncovered the devastating details and lies. It was crippling. I  cannot begin to describe the pain. 

Fast forward two years later it did get better and my life is completely different now, however  I still harbor resentment and anger towards my ex and the other woman. The therapist helps but I have made  mistakes and can act or make decisions out of anger and resentment towards them. I am working extremely hard to try and get to forgiveness, but it’s very difficult. He married that co-worker last year. 
Knowing that I have to adapt to the fact that this person will be in my children’s lives, I am making the conscious effort to try and be kind. It’s incredibly hard.  When I have to see them, I usually just say nothing and keep a distance but recently I noticed my kids are watching and I don’t want to give them the wrong idea. So, today I made an effort to be kind. It felt completely uncomfortable and I wanted to crawl out of my skin, but I think small steps like this will make the world a difference as time continues to pass even though it doesn’t feel right for me. I struggle with accepting what he’s done and being kind to her. 
Can anyone else relate? 
Thank you.",3.6342264150943393,6.081129252830192,4.574188679245285,81.14769811320758,75.33962264150944,7.7116981132075475,28.71320754716981,8.608573733854374,2.4951313207547168,1112,48,197,23,25,360,157,265,0.151,0.738,0.111,-0.8593,2,0,0,0,1,0,29.0,0,1,3,4,8,17,4,1,15,0,23,4,2,5,1,42,41,23,0,3,6,1,6,1,0,2,2,1,0,5,14,17,0,1,9,0,0,5,3,9,0,1,8,9,27,8,26,27,0,30,0,0,2,0,22,10,0,1,18,132,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09104335940644002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07960442981219977,0.11664964719607905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06940003993222353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10068836965434133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387327079933197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378916492744818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650494978629435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951045125868191,0.0,0.10083460017993948,0.0,0.0,0.07519483231802654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057564435238494124,0.0,0.10931091913023888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189606580053306,0.10921236183668286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3059534980714375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07630920628766094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12851934146159238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10119239413521114,0.0,0.3556622165484709,0.06256730266997529,0.09280045371944394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08041346289029055,0.05561986585366335,0.0,0.10052893668582988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154494608642831,0.2279811560191758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10923921254283027,0.1296154994927414,0.0,0.1212432790271794,0.0,0.0,0.12114117445250505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09940675958771912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11241012188795822,0.0,0.0,0.09722466750899124,0.0,0.09053565877517497,0.0,0.0,0.09072127397792627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11392916217737906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09091831596269544,0.0,0.0,0.11901754393408615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10481496954977378,0.0,0.13218507589638942,0.07563485037823403,0.07294852431348395,0.11185404373664663,0.0,0.06638506815738604,0.0,0.10791359045243863,0.0,0.0,0.15458920275021915,0.0,0.11121192097326917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12538632384405593,0.09393565121953712,0.13429975363412555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16576386123166764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12447376048027352,0.0,0.21994109655420985
divorce,pandarez,2020/01/01,"During this separation So me and my wife had discuss separation and come to terms with it being the right thing for us. We discussed finances and rules for the kids thus far. It seems we've become closer than what we've been for the past year or so. She claims she couldn't tell me anything and now that we are separating she feels a lot better and is able to talk to me now. Im still in love with her, though she told me she feels nothing for me. It's hard for me to let her go, but I must.  For her sanity and mine. This first week was definitely a roller coaster of emotions and spontaneous bursts of cries. I feel we lost ourselves in a routine, we've never did things to strengthen our relationship. We only made plans for the kids. Not really knowing we needed time for us. Time away from the kids.",3.2046581196581165,4.799881450617288,3.9835802469135833,88.69764957264961,74.0,6.959924026590691,22.95536562203229,7.61054688173877,0.8001741690408357,633,17,135,8,13,202,103,162,0.047,0.885,0.068,0.5187,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,8,0,0,4,6,3,0,0,8,0,10,1,0,2,2,30,22,12,0,3,3,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,9,15,0,0,5,1,1,2,3,1,0,1,7,4,26,2,22,11,2,19,0,1,0,1,27,6,0,3,11,94,35,1,0.16087627946525787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13238747045253538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511485602808924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776752112620198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422819957148405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13858066980002506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17671503882447334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18096416104317867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24403164206693936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368412811294629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09142969701542117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14411354707924734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17377398833063848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08841339591592763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645068954546352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17561546310968598,0.13677125981116664,0.14519712324669978,0.15222502545573252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11928772276755335,0.1240777044316447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15436512900416574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12235365989612368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15357461228004488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103061464098013,0.0,0.0,0.1727209178788093,0.0,0.13738746365027316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14645572273467275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12847600459331693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293062595490164,0.14061295916168515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21375810323182648,0.0,0.15806012776113065,0.0,0.1876165045779216,0.0,0.0,0.1537241792305512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3870287120457325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290452474794439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035990494396163
divorce,aekintz,2020/01/01,"Just had the “D” word dropped on me. Need to hear from folks who have been through this that it’ll all be okay in the end.

My wife and I have two little girls together and how they are affected by this is my primary concern.",3.8403546099290766,4.0786052340425565,4.328510638297871,91.93333333333334,71.12765957446808,8.819858156028369,28.43262411347518,8.841846274778883,1.7131900709219852,174,6,42,3,3,55,42,47,0.035,0.9229999999999999,0.042,0.0772,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,2,1,8,0,0,2,1,8,10,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,5,1,6,6,1,5,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,1,31,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4146166085273783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5276068320903943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4691806158244691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3471060814654269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4572865803947034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,mirapainting,2020/01/01,"What is legally owed to my partner? I currently live in Ontario, I am considering divorce since my relationship is really toxic. We have a 2-year-old son. I was just wondering, financially what would happen after a divorce. What do I owe my partner? I want shared custody, will anything affect that? I am the only contributor to everything we have, any money she had or made while we were together is in her personal savings account (her mentality: what's yours is ours, what's mine is mine).

My partner doesn't work right now, she did before our child was born. If she starts working again, do I owe her less? Can she refuse to work and expect me to pay spousal support forever after we've separated?",3.563041691133293,6.173872832061067,5.004122137404579,77.13364063417501,76.40458015267177,8.000234879624193,29.92425132119789,8.841846274778883,2.907953141514973,555,26,96,13,13,185,89,131,0.027000000000000003,0.902,0.071,0.6623,4,0,0,0,2,0,22.0,5,1,0,3,3,3,0,0,3,0,20,0,0,2,0,15,29,4,0,4,3,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,5,6,4,0,1,1,0,6,0,1,0,0,0,6,0,27,3,8,21,1,11,0,0,0,0,24,3,0,3,8,72,33,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499581024567972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814654681580745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18764244958945392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981851133482168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19500112924214366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947192273857721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20865709885742648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22222775917612625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313939235656737,0.0,0.0,0.16771197529500564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925456297656459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14126787654204584,0.0,0.0,0.2367511224168889,0.0,0.18831903295021976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824127011448222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15608200657201848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502383772712732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13006575583039345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391396542380201,0.48161373309435906,0.0,0.0,0.15664788498867036,0.0,0.0,0.14200475273852806
divorce,cherry30,2020/01/01,"Should i stay for my son? I've been in unhappy marriage for 10 years now with 9 years old son.
Now after a long time thinking about divorce i found that would be inevitable for me.
Now i want your advice related to my son and my life.
We are living in Turkey which is not our country, and i have to go to USA to do my medical training  for specializing in medicine.
It will be so difficult to take my son with me due to visa issues.
I'm so afraid to leave him for year or more,
Even though his father is taking care of him so much and his relatives also taking care of him.
But I am afraid how much being far from him will affect his life.",4.414179104477611,4.240895305970149,5.38429104477612,86.29345149253733,69.82089552238807,8.491044776119404,26.451492537313428,8.07648339933343,1.3415701492537309,497,13,111,6,8,164,86,134,0.055999999999999994,0.887,0.057,0.0503,0,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,2,1,0,0,11,6,0,2,1,0,14,3,0,2,0,16,24,11,0,3,3,5,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,3,0,0,2,0,22,3,22,15,3,17,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,1,11,81,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17756770269746094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14531570764890905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3705367404474477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12001962955973867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19923877067294102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10327160531408686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18966101425782853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924076803593638,0.0,0.0,0.2566983323239561,0.0,0.0,0.1604557835841502,0.1608101619979419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18305658822681456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267159718951211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906770780719216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19368172997234528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4098763664515795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11643426276961093,0.1785319613089,0.0,0.10595822934812793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071789522248046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12908360139936306,0.0,0.0,0.3510513704153941
divorce,4agreements,2020/01/01,"32 year marriage, permanently disabled spouse, alimony and retirement questions (F-57) has progressive MS, unable to work and has receives SSDI for last 16 years. (M-62) healthy and earns 5 times what disabled spouse receives. 
Asset split 50/50-No debts, adult children.

I realize everything is negotiable in this type of divorce. I am only interested in how the COURTS would rule. Washington State, USA 

Would courts expect that spousal support be paid to disabled spouse until his full social security age of  (66.8 months)?  

If husband wants to retire at 65, would courts rule that he can stop paying support? 

Is it common for courts to provide an unequal asset split (60/40, or 55/45) because of her anticipated extra medical care and costs?  

Would courts rule that able spouse help pay for wife’s medical insurance?  Thank you",8.200869565217396,10.431862420289855,6.722434782608698,71.44539130434784,62.47826086956522,9.577971014492757,36.98840579710146,9.888512548439397,4.1044614492753615,666,32,97,14,10,198,103,138,0.039,0.7829999999999999,0.17800000000000002,0.9664,1,0,0,0,1,0,31.0,0,1,0,3,1,6,0,0,2,0,11,2,0,1,0,16,17,8,0,7,2,6,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,6,4,0,2,2,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,6,14,11,2,16,0,0,0,0,19,4,0,3,9,47,11,5,0.18395969577577911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11214012309275027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18755917011443696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16533111277361145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12330430637454247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14995170483078565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3706400799050701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14683487409035534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13990963817885171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060769604230488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875237432526496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15379854283845512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41751056549066135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693653721057436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072683779715424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10850419479992332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13392484947416955,0.0,0.0,0.5227187592703739,0.0,0.0,0.2369280254481197
divorce,wide_heart,2020/01/01,"Guilty I separated from my husband six months ago. In one sense, there was nothing ‘wrong’ with our relationship. He is gainfully employee and dedicated to starting a family. In another sense, it wasn’t right for me. We don’t have kids and it will be a clean break but I still feel an overwhelming sense of guilt.

He would hold money over my head (he made more than me) and once refused to help me pay for having a small medically necessary surgery, which was an unexpected expense for me. He would also continuously say that my career was just for fun and something he was allowing me to do.

We didn’t have as much sex as he would have liked and he started saying things that indicated that I owed him sex, partly because of the income difference.

I asked for therapy but he always said that there wasn’t a problem for him so there wasn’t a problem. When I told him I wanted a separation, I expected a grand gesture of love. But, he told me that no one else would want to be with me. 

Now that I’ve come out of the post-separation depression, I feel happy but incredibly guilty for leaving. I wonder if I should have given him more opportunity to change. I feel guilty for being happier. But I love going to the grocery store and only worrying about cooking for one. I love making plans for the future in which what I want comes first. 

I also feel like I failed at our marriage because I couldn’t just make it work. Knowing that I made a commitment that I didn’t see through to the end has been torture.

I wish there was something I could do so that I didn’t feel guilty about being happy.",4.974436813186814,5.8967595480769255,5.861978021978025,79.4973076923077,68.90384615384616,9.14798534798535,29.28021978021977,9.362217197678863,2.431037362637362,1257,45,248,25,21,414,158,312,0.13699999999999998,0.67,0.192,0.9708,3,0,2,0,0,0,29.0,4,0,0,6,15,18,1,2,15,0,34,8,1,5,1,50,64,19,0,15,8,1,5,2,0,6,1,3,1,1,16,13,1,2,7,1,5,3,9,8,0,5,18,9,40,10,36,34,4,23,0,3,1,5,32,8,0,2,13,176,56,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09191074886655344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16583416941399706,0.08627446291796023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10872306148511514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09693174470157488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264111743513325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10968528302504386,0.17863138367766346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08278426287742831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08930398377289492,0.0,0.0,0.10832905421427426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08661575075426403,0.0,0.09183438681333364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09774525865272814,0.0,0.2621319766701799,0.0740727881006101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819465019058406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05892673671826657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2207498271473876,0.0,0.0,0.10641101529841007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06949806073643452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05698272086176761,0.0,0.0,0.10978774551461397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10131078550807247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2807400527324793,0.19621904676001306,0.13842146532145866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104452016081077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08276060502510653,0.0,0.07622061442970852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09948882706868747,0.0,0.0,0.1104214442743836,0.2107794969088132,0.0788573312454392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11228105926321193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993018414741232,0.0,0.0,0.19842562889160734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11131919262365338,0.0,0.0885466665994154,0.09862844943250414,0.16490940001790155,0.0,0.0,0.08262374771973137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15964399551977235,0.0,0.0,0.14677795633916202,0.0,0.08280320229004226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11857315930641732,0.0,0.06888389594254776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981514657151811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834688019116877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11923296036991385,0.0,0.112442268329356,0.07548412214089002,0.10529743960728598,0.0,0.2946202054735897,0.11336358202102348,0.0,0.0
divorce,amynicole3714,2020/01/01,"Served on our anniversary Yesterday would have been our 5th anniversary .  I have a lawyer and we have been trying to serve him since December 19th.   
He has ignored all correspondence to try to reach a settlement . His name is the only name on the house but I contributed and made home improvements . We are in a community property state and he thinks I’m not entitled to Anything. 
Well ironically , he was served yesterday on our anniversary. I’m sure he thought it was done on purpose but it was not . 
I’m trying to go into 2020 with a positive attitude but it’s hard . Especially since he runs around with his AP like I never existed and we aren’t divorcing . 
Luckily we have no kids and only spent 5 wasted years together . 
Just feeling kind of down today .",3.2710798122065765,6.001034746478879,4.721718309859156,78.07140375586856,78.29577464788733,9.702159624413149,27.776525821596245,9.888512548439397,3.434164694835681,602,26,109,21,15,200,89,142,0.08199999999999999,0.7609999999999999,0.157,0.9077,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,7,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,6,0,15,0,0,1,3,30,24,8,0,1,6,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,13,0,1,3,0,1,2,5,1,1,0,9,2,13,4,16,14,1,16,0,0,0,0,19,8,0,0,6,68,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17232695780945173,0.18641969851134305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21429959658552167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588421583727327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11901278486740433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18759063121611505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21005575610514404,0.0,0.0,0.2416315438562477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21806875921540195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10230736836885083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981492315668786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615102491466644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3185321679563448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3464529772321114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19736687129639216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13418176103731325,0.0,0.16624850629828553,0.0,0.0,0.19849662132358026,0.0,0.0,0.42652784941691735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882851441559396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487591757340158,0.0,0.0,0.13485346431089054
divorce,bslie,2020/01/01,"Rant Angry at STBXH and life in general I’m so angry. All the time. I look miserable. I feel miserable. Our life was one, big fat lie. Every time I think of the promises, I want to scream. I believed him and all his bullshit. Meanwhile he was having affair, after affair. I was to stupid to not notice and blamed myself for all of it. People suck. I feel I was Robbed of a life of happiness and bliss because he was a coward. Fucking asshole could have left a thousand times over.   Before someone replies with , it was your choice, blah, blah, blah. Yes, it was. I chose to stay and work on my marriage because that was the lie I chose to believe. We were allegedly working on things and we would be together forever. We’d always have each other. I’m so disgusted by him and now, life in general. People are selfish and use people all the time. I don’t like lying and if you doing something wrong, I will tell you. People suck. Thieves. Souls sucking thieves of love, hope, life and bliss.",1.3364062499999996,3.9283173281250012,2.587291666666665,90.761875,86.65625,5.075,22.583333333333336,6.6274283507984215,0.7404645833333339,765,28,148,9,24,245,113,192,0.257,0.615,0.128,-0.9819,0,0,1,0,1,0,35.0,4,3,0,2,3,16,6,2,7,1,20,8,1,1,4,30,34,13,0,5,2,0,2,4,0,2,6,1,0,0,6,14,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,11,0,2,9,4,24,5,20,20,5,15,1,2,1,2,17,8,4,2,7,98,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11473073518052855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16810590849060075,0.0,0.11732933445153765,0.3106966474594868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110089347647834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617342094580894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943683162093196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12747176006991615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14678033976101382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13695016419996744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14981163258603186,0.0,0.4869585899103674,0.06736327593317462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11578803640794798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12444591193899494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15698212362679967,0.0,0.0,0.09343393098189427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3823662891644553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11682887095845268,0.10615002605439304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14696625609504507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12051690517025655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916041636921312,0.08835065487529321,0.0,0.0,0.3216056418326699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11908771434983308,0.0,0.0,0.08132769850268443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20076274101912148,0.0,0.0,0.0979490095613988,0.15075477340656482,0.0,0.0
divorce,Spandexduck,2020/01/01,"I was dumped on New Year’s Day Exactly what it sounds like-
My husband dumped me on New Year’s Day 2020.
Apparently he has a lot of resentment towards me that he doesn’t have the motivation to deal with or want to fix.
The hardest part is he loves me. And I love him, but he doesn’t think we’re good for each other anymore. 12 years and high school sweethearts. We got through everything together.
I have so many questions that will never have answers. Why can’t we work through this? Why doesn’t he want to? Does he like who I am anymore? 
It hurts. Like nothing else has ever hurt before. We love each other but can’t be together. 
This subreddit has helped so much. Thank you for being here.",1.1593863732543357,3.677000935251797,2.200262378332628,93.85099026661028,86.41007194244604,5.5727465086754115,21.845535336436733,7.048011613610866,0.6497317816335166,546,19,116,8,17,172,89,139,0.09,0.6809999999999999,0.22899999999999998,0.9689,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,3,1,0,2,4,14,3,0,3,0,17,3,0,1,3,21,25,7,0,2,3,1,0,3,1,1,0,1,0,0,10,8,0,0,4,0,0,0,6,5,0,0,2,1,13,9,12,20,5,13,0,2,0,3,20,4,0,3,12,70,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28450094979571283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220539049981485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850093648601018,0.14787674303275675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12552225607712894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11982279832790417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297465347504009,0.0,0.0,0.12891148591150162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12030773888109678,0.11471927983271772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961424688152608,0.15154854751219768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3071035001180045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21022749987151246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12194459105053405,0.38837114991435934,0.0,0.0,0.14542210739663305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10544233850897264,0.0,0.11062707871738574,0.27706374939583434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13763119938256976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15532776201766027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16068171764280947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14516540533776096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13205706665751413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919083235840508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16920513924614047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588582794287069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10442348724664828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771052281286355
divorce,TeddyPSmith,2020/01/01,"Daughter's step-father took her to shoot guns without talking to me... Im having some issues with my ex wife and her husband. We've been divorced 4 years and share equal custody of a 7 year old daughter. My ex and her husband have two toddlers. 

My ex wife sent me a picture of my daughter shooting a gun. As a gun owner, I looked forward to the day that I could take my daughter shooting. This was something I planned on discussing with my ex to make sure we were on the same page. It turns out that her husband decided to take my daughter shooting by himself. I was livid. I never even had the opportunity to discuss this with my ex from a safety standpoint, much less taking the joy of shooting with her the first time.

Im not saying that hes an irresponsible gun owner or that it was done unsafely. Its more that there is a trend of lack of respect for me. I dont really know how to handle this. I told my ex that I dont want her to take my daughter shooting again until we talk more about it. She never responded to me. 

Does anyone have an idea of what I could do?",3.4149828767123296,4.509875484018266,4.565476598173515,86.70931078767126,72.6986301369863,6.5708904109589055,28.75599315068493,6.6274283507984215,1.3149198630136985,837,33,173,6,16,275,120,219,0.09,0.8320000000000001,0.077,-0.1988,0,0,1,10,1,0,21.0,2,0,0,3,5,5,0,0,13,0,17,0,0,2,3,27,29,7,0,4,3,17,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,14,10,0,0,3,0,0,3,6,0,0,2,10,2,34,5,29,17,9,16,0,0,1,0,40,4,0,2,11,127,48,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029383217637077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350833546359272,0.0,0.0,0.09494349845024476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12883155546576547,0.15065523409261594,0.34507704445648585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09723616967525596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252236446101016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16619132070217674,0.31804163155427523,0.1536574527917207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0809072202303766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236261300800924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09826922802214612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10822224605102423,0.0,0.2270873560309014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15448063608090812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09431168757471994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11707374572086858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11333568938651425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13875132137926785,0.0,0.4427587727147672,0.2366566719922544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08584406071888466,0.0,0.0,0.14067320788771442,0.16356473112430167,0.0,0.16013102311780372,0.1438106966171869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683305241298016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14191299939366162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18960726532072295
divorce,AfternoonFall,2020/01/01,"Coming to grips with divorce: Self Worth I have learned so much these past 2 years but in recent days I learned the most important and impactful thing so far and I feel so different and at peace that I wanted to share what I have learned in hopes that someone somewhere can benefit from it and hopefully not suffer as much as I did learning it. 

For all 28 years of my marriage I thought I was truly happy. I doted on my wife and lived to make her happy. I thought that serving her and my kids was the ultimate meaning to my life. Once this became my ultimate and complete purpose I slowly and inexorably lost myself. But so blinded by the rigors of constantly trying to keep everybody happy I didn't realize how unhealthy it was for me and my family.

Looking back I see clearly that my self worth was so desperately low and the people I strived to serve had become selfish and expected to be served. 

When my wife left she told me all these things that were wrong with me and to a large degree I acknowledged these faults. I accepted the blame because inside I already hated myself. Then came 2 years of depression and self loathing. Then the hammer broke through the glass and things changed. 

I discovered how my ex lied to me before after and during our marriage. The things I discovered made any character faults I had pale in comparison. I discovered that I was not a bad person. I was healed, reborn. The self loathing was gone, the pain was gone, the guilt the shame all gone. I wasn't afraid of her disapproval anymore. And most importantly I didn't want to die. For the first time in two years I wanted to live. 

That was about 2 weeks ago and I still cannot believe that things have changed so much. I don't dream about her anymore, when she calls to bitch at me I don't get upset anymore when I meet a woman I feel confident because I know that I am worth having. Even my daughter (14) sees the change in me and she is changing too. She senses my happiness and it is infectious.

My Ex had the habit of making people feel belittled and worthless. Since my divorce I have even talked to friends of hers that have told me this and they told me how bad they felt for me. I laugh now thinking how happy I thought I was hating myself for her benefit. Letting her stomp my personality into the dust and getting more materialistic and selfish every year.
Unfortunately my kids experienced this as well. I always wondered why my kids had the problems they did. Anxiety, depression,  no self worth. I keep thinking about all the times my ex lost her mind when the kids acted like....kids. The situation is complex and I know I can't relate it completely here, but kids need to be built up, not put down or ignored or made to feel like a burden. 

The key is this. I sacrificed everything for my wife including my self worth. I made her into some spotless angel and hated myself for not being able to gain her ever so elusive approval and love. Only now do I realize that she doesn't really love anyone but herself. Not even our kids. She has said to me since leaving that she wished she never had kids. I think that my kids always felt that from her. 

Now that i have taken her off the pedestal and smashed it. I can see that I am not a terrible person, that I can be loved, that life is worth living. Not everybody is self absorbed and narcissistic. And that ultimately my ex will end up just like her mother, alone and bitter. 

If you are suffering try to remember that you are not bad. That even if you made mistakes that you are worth so very much....maybe not to your ex, but to someone someday. If you are hurting and filled with guilt and shame you might have forgotten who you are and why you are special. If you are suffering it is probably because of that very fact that there is good in you. That you cared and they didn't. And that makes you worth very much. 

I made mistakes. But over the course of our sham marriage I was ultra faithful and sacrificial. Putting everyone before myself. I still feel bad about my mistakes but nownthat I know what a liar she was I was able to realize how good I was compared to her. I was a fucking angel. Lol

I hope I was able to get across the point I really wanted to share. YOU ARE WORTHY worthy of a good life, worthy of love and worthy of something better. 

Sorry about the wall of text .
Happy new year.",3.729986475063399,5.622461302958584,4.395016906170753,85.0530325443787,73.24852071005918,7.4321217244294155,26.62764158918005,8.192908349453996,1.7134493660185963,3431,123,666,55,70,1094,329,845,0.161,0.623,0.21600000000000005,0.9963,1,1,1,0,2,1,82.0,3,14,4,6,38,71,7,6,33,1,71,11,0,13,8,139,136,72,1,18,23,10,8,2,1,2,6,1,0,19,48,44,0,3,29,1,8,9,20,41,1,2,49,16,141,30,76,80,12,63,3,11,5,5,94,22,2,14,34,479,189,4,0.14577539333503362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0430736968691933,0.0,0.0,0.05032644797890859,0.05362225715999951,0.0,0.08086453671868618,0.0,0.0,0.03304408877302046,0.0,0.037172592298834316,0.0,0.14457001917166426,0.03397651482219178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03736409309887189,0.16228848585667416,0.08886332673875352,0.053665822982518534,0.0826960819087089,0.054746316271152784,0.0,0.04297549636438399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049617658420376964,0.055576071655793736,0.04954257630858079,0.0,0.20561471602813536,0.04185753117422493,0.10189515094590766,0.052510470845973066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031337689667899765,0.0,0.08370408844845874,0.0,0.05043061443843196,0.05076808644141158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04303791002191743,0.0,0.0,0.12837769660974865,0.04395406302343649,0.04094068537530867,0.04643154513295458,0.043671174625968034,0.0,0.04580802238616757,0.0,0.12284736488446348,0.03471399004194962,0.09331149215735676,0.0,0.0,0.04133215836712846,0.0,0.0,0.03754190242638295,0.04492233404828167,0.0761616263600766,0.0,0.0,0.12226948366273488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31036123377513564,0.0,0.14392302094544626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447878578153379,0.0,0.0,0.05201852452118379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08638124504727393,0.0,0.0,0.08011434382104632,0.0,0.0,0.051451697745545186,0.05279513046385278,0.04968840542338115,0.10296547140308793,0.07121849378396129,0.0,0.12872234304384714,0.0,0.04080487197681682,0.0,0.10608737470235984,0.0,0.17542397858161946,0.2298936697919379,0.09730620701561543,0.0,0.04881699204987761,0.05293071295426551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05154821854469463,0.04906386379167007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17860281205497042,0.03603020234820848,0.0374769900359718,0.04693026108898253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05174867876921558,0.0,0.03695625184069927,0.051705098812635006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04638636925595466,0.06737486860315703,0.1272854506411115,0.0,0.0,0.045934955157592716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05239017654846815,0.04649578800824235,0.0,0.0976963558236784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062258299841801784,0.0,0.047978538147952034,0.0,0.05504503447799857,0.0,0.04622192709693184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11616411488422247,0.0,0.3548428979209243,0.0,0.0,0.08039127451205938,0.05461921661937701,0.0,0.0,0.0823433451424949,0.03740833991021855,0.0,0.05439453934377804,0.0,0.0,0.07761094494873999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03905624642964741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16141115645278387,0.09340698589669147,0.0,0.11572937903856953,0.056668536098878425,0.0,0.0,0.13929463539886375,0.0,0.0659812820842374,0.0,0.04746712576507408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202799663356314,0.1146428051989454,0.0,0.03897740916572925,0.0,0.043689861843045734,0.0,0.0876930790485914,0.0,0.05587816936675118,0.0,0.052695731903297176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05312750280241085,0.0,0.1877491477475032
divorce,maingroupelement,2020/01/01,"The morning aftermath after a newyears party with the STBXW I feel a weight upon my chest. I am glad I went even if it hurts so bad. You asked me to watch the kids in the morning, and used the excuse that they wanted to see me even though I know you wanted to sleep. I told you it was your turn to watch the kids this week and you stormed off. 

Thank you for alluding to already fucking around, or at least working on it. Whatever hope remained is dead and buried. Now I need to protect myself. I cannot bear this pain, I cannot watch you through this journey. It is your own. I have my own. 

Where did we go do wrong? How did we get here. I still love you so much, but you felt trapped and you ran, again. You always run. But that's just who you are. Now I am in for a year of deep recovery. My family is shattered, me and my oldest are in therapy. It hurts. It is so unbelievably painful, only people here can describe it. 

Why get married at all? People just treat it like dating. Break it off at anytime without really trying to patch it up. I know it was not only your fault, I know I have some of the blame. But u stayed and tried to make it work, and you ran. But it hurts, and I feel hollow inside. I need to find meaning in my life again. This is the worst.",0.5841852254209671,2.6682913498098912,2.026826453014668,97.26094581749052,84.17110266159696,4.973872895165671,18.898560564910376,6.1826913282559595,-0.2681264530146663,967,25,224,8,28,311,141,263,0.151,0.769,0.08,-0.9777,0,1,0,0,0,0,37.0,2,15,1,2,18,16,1,0,11,0,19,8,2,3,1,40,46,19,1,6,10,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,0,2,20,12,1,1,8,0,0,6,4,10,0,0,9,8,43,6,30,37,7,34,0,3,4,2,25,15,1,4,12,162,63,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13998648933926716,0.0,0.10555264928067458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11292691097927712,0.11859132014972287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10591775038242968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16757167647976362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11958661527955372,0.0,0.1282823383092079,0.0,0.12179968630508364,0.0,0.11594221305051235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172744335916507,0.13255190737562267,0.0,0.0720940236972836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12599459619939102,0.0,0.0,0.407399334567428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20914684183778187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08960069710029041,0.061974432812476374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144906434761498,0.0,0.08467599732198032,0.0,0.0,0.13818114113665864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325224997931243,0.18812119459497853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19295629196961486,0.2699630954408989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17588911442702224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08126588928437196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10108617510153416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12694556339492966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13520943329862686,0.101305729123445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167900747045108,0.1450685483869452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12463336277363615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12121438637627292,0.0,0.17225101161848147,0.13798067164660516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10956108427812464,0.0,0.0,0.14964349393126142,0.0,0.10175458777070737,0.15447393765077716,0.0,0.11759488346180705,0.11446595989734408,0.0,0.0,0.1222826819592375,0.0,0.18470237428596767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386948815392172,0.0,0.08168978536652048
divorce,MamaGia,2020/01/01,"How to realize divorce is about what I'll gain, and now what I'll lose Can anyone relate? It's time for me to end my ten year relationship, but I'm very scared and sad. It was (and is) abusive.  A lot of name calling and put downs. 

Does anyone have experience or tips on how I can frame this transition as what I'll gain (peace in my home, self esteem) and not what I'll lose (house, companionship, someone to do things with). 

Anyone been through this? I'd really like to learn from your experiences.",4.034757142857142,5.0007067900000015,4.967428571428575,84.89300000000001,71.1,8.514285714285714,25.285714285714285,8.841846274778883,1.547971428571429,389,11,84,7,7,127,71,100,0.179,0.7290000000000001,0.092,-0.898,0,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,0,1,0,4,4,5,0,1,1,0,8,0,0,2,0,15,9,10,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,9,6,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,4,0,1,2,0,5,1,14,7,1,8,0,3,0,0,7,3,0,2,5,50,14,1,0.0,0.22476179264074814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39792496483624495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937034555144096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660065020818701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680166326821255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37112321496687184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19028313865331306,0.0,0.0,0.2188866871117678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09267714211478773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4244483667177835,0.0,0.16127494550181048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906994638267741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12152576519871178,0.0,0.0,0.20366527775196672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899213676092768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19789698633294345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607309877219692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12602730462847062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11061476509326594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15652119191770367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221596633348359
divorce,space-request21,2020/01/01,"2020 entails a lot of changes in my life - I’ll be filing for divorce next month
- I’m moving, and not completely sure where yet
- I’m getting out of the military (served for 7 years)
- I’m going to be getting my own job and trying to figure out how I’m going to live on my own and support our daughter
- I’m going to look for opportunities to always stay happy instead of mope around all day dreading being around my husband and arguing and fighting all the time
- I’m going to get back into shape. I’m not really that overweight, maybe 10lbs from where I’d like to be, but I want to get back into my gym habits
- With that, I’ll get back into healthy eating
- I’m getting out of this depression and I will be happy again",4.709316816816816,4.767240547297302,5.971981981981982,81.53578078078081,69.20270270270271,8.1993993993994,29.28228228228228,7.793537801064563,1.8052543543543529,563,19,114,6,9,190,83,148,0.10099999999999999,0.773,0.126,0.4416,1,0,0,0,3,0,15.0,1,0,0,1,11,10,2,1,3,0,6,3,0,1,3,25,27,8,0,1,3,2,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,15,2,0,1,1,0,5,2,4,0,0,0,1,8,6,27,21,5,29,0,1,1,0,6,13,0,1,11,70,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12234179354637753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26177800221990943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3391739085714816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15553958607295346,0.0,0.1541594872888273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482300437602584,0.0,0.12663781582740072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15044969373378245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.460906614760717,0.0,0.3342450321506265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31303503800360416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459058463614127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038525329393341,0.07183205079141501,0.0,0.12983130353141364,0.0,0.1234692344912799,0.0,0.0,0.12500072630984013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14771267122194956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11735895549280875,0.1562709692788838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15636942173168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09419199534020327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15671576873600945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16684934071944138,0.13857523020621074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08573511486379869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998245797011996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08672285141519842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09468331609170262
divorce,momlife25,2020/01/01,"Advice on letting go of hate 2 months ago my now ex husband kicked me and my son out of the house out of the blue. Said he didn’t want to be together anymore. My son and I moved back to my home state and moved in with my parents who have been incredible supportive of our situation. 

Our divorce has been final as of a few weeks. It went fairly smoothly, no lawyers or anything like that. However, even though I’m glad that we have gotten divorced and I know that’s what was best for my son and I, I can’t seem to let go of the hate and anger I have for him for just giving up and kicking us out. I hate that he didn’t fight for any kind of physical custody. I hate that he can be a dad when he wants to and if he doesn’t want to he doesn’t have to. I hate that I still have to talk to him about our son. I just don’t know how to let go of the hate and anger. Does anyone have any advice or has gone through something similar?",2.5257708628005666,3.04826084158416,3.823281471004247,93.35039603960396,74.24752475247523,7.157567185289958,24.32956152758133,7.1686216300943375,0.6268630834512021,718,20,177,7,14,236,107,202,0.159,0.763,0.078,-0.9661,2,0,1,0,3,0,14.0,5,0,0,1,10,14,9,0,6,0,23,0,0,1,0,26,45,16,0,4,5,8,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,9,14,0,0,3,0,0,7,7,9,0,0,9,3,24,5,31,31,2,22,0,0,1,0,28,6,0,4,9,117,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113698508952588,0.09587026126332232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14709419688299988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10725776607876704,0.07562242365015914,0.0,0.08899991685477496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08316224581637666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11349889746460755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09464458230924803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07143340489055308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11847527749781728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10374929528585587,0.18439589648358404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6406665144971548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10848531805973384,0.0,0.0,0.12479293771596682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11262371068057135,0.11887506964923905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3317783767780865,0.0,0.0528376256054301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08632592949043955,0.2298970132909574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12009004565273383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10287736017491464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09845755872316556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12156742856782192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08326072710942088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637036184431386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12272965758761716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08692851603951779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625883386630057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13009359222114045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19137263257946305,0.0,0.08675304586540962,0.0,0.0,0.10025802808506362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,flawedfeline,2020/01/01,"New Years is the worst My husband and I have been discussing divorce seriously for the last few months, but it has come up over the course of our 10 year marriage with two kids.

He has extreme anxiety and depression and recently added maniac breakdowns every few months that him resulting in threatening to kill himself. 

After the last one, I asked him to seek a medical professional beyond his regular doctor.  I believe this may be bipolar.

We’ve been “trying” to let it be and let things calm down and then last night he texts me, from across the room, “Fuck You.”  We were home alone and I immediately removed myself and went to bed.

He wakes up this morning, doesn’t remember it, and then tells me it was a joke.

I’m seriously at a loss.",5.944822695035459,6.7057727021276605,6.337021276595745,77.53333333333335,66.65957446808511,9.954609929078016,31.97872340425532,9.994966539143718,3.069927659574468,585,23,111,13,9,189,101,141,0.23800000000000002,0.727,0.035,-0.987,0,1,0,0,1,0,14.0,2,1,0,1,1,10,3,0,8,0,14,5,1,1,0,15,19,11,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,3,1,8,11,0,0,1,1,0,3,1,8,0,2,5,0,15,2,17,9,3,25,0,2,0,1,17,9,1,1,13,78,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788807812796569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13212659783564248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16146532698916774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19459080106092916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14877878689195198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14875928402732586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17678124894073735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14551994190269613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15967234991092694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1732473526435367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19108369586943455,0.0,0.0,0.42235763641586027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3532258341140935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739923178225316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757191298545372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16680934392138544,0.0,0.16208144471107347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11703623856069532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705353493685529,0.0,0.1956525677535721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15096063192327944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11474425449468438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11726223251448488,0.0,0.1687175805754198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16010865117650958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224457555447995
divorce,hunterCOWBOY,2020/01/01,"Want to leave my wife but don't want to lose kids I don't love my wife, she has hurt me so many times and I have tried. There is no passion, I would leave as soon as possible if there were no kids involved.. But there are, 2 boys ages 3 and 6.

Me and her separated for a year and I would see the boys on a Sunday, more if I could. I'd pay a certain amount each month (less than child support) in addition to this and was left with very little if anything each month. 

She showed some signs of change and said she wants it to work with me and the boys need their dad around daily.. Which I agree with because she had kids young and has struggled to parent and 'enjoy her youth'. I moved in with her and I save more money now but am so stressed and unhappy as all the problems she had have reared their head again. 

I want to leave but I will see my kids less and I think she will have a poisonous effect on them morally, she lies, steals, no manners etc. When I address it she says ""chill out"". The kids have started emulating this behaviour. It runs in the family, her parents are like this, her siblings are like this. I dont want anything to do with them, but we are bound by are kids.

It comes down to this, I am scared for the state of my  kids and dont have the financial means to take custody, I work a lot to repay debts I owe and to keep my head above water. So do I stay where I can save money and be around my kids daily (if she doesn't decide to go stay at her family house for a few days without notice) but have to tolerate ber or do I leave and potentially have less money plus the child support etc. I'm not sure how to navigate this at all. I considered moving to a city that's cheaper for rent but that would mean being further away from the kids. I dont know what to do. Thank you.",2.41079575596817,3.5710847745358123,3.345782493368702,94.22938992042442,75.25994694960212,6.5793103448275865,21.75331564986737,6.953978226594392,0.2648334217506632,1388,33,327,13,29,443,185,377,0.154,0.747,0.099,-0.9547,7,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,1,1,4,4,14,20,1,3,16,0,40,6,2,2,4,73,64,37,0,15,14,5,0,2,0,5,1,2,2,14,14,30,1,2,6,1,7,5,11,8,0,0,5,4,51,12,47,51,15,38,1,2,2,2,44,16,0,7,16,226,65,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14822150885259364,0.16034292802725578,0.0,0.0,0.08461324772333098,0.0,0.0,0.05489903490649423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09527031470785648,0.07757771904451924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07190465812436976,0.0,0.0,0.05808050346881637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.316644880450666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008788322512764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16979892463640786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051182515985981926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848527101588888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10391581349784122,0.096409854265361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08004843777216958,0.0,0.0,0.04949398496944225,0.0,0.0,0.38143724582832733,0.09784919662355956,0.0,0.0,0.08799640345961858,0.09026262017325612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007528093583569,0.0,0.07656480793682607,0.08128162210183569,0.0,0.0,0.09130553169002524,0.0,0.19620096375491208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437682188293985,0.1914365956447648,0.0,0.06677749108642339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10253258986628816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1999993752114395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152781409547693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0861741502107056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856665831316418,0.07161840679392728,0.09016461291528,0.0,0.14353047611326436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0637441127330418,0.1919814882387616,0.0,0.0,0.10316210058548453,0.09414905676284477,0.0,0.0,0.20439541598990607,0.08487939389440781,0.0,0.06771304210994825,0.0,0.0,0.08291408301285971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0577060702929611,0.0,0.0,0.0525140356922208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061144042901413675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07430797734845641,0.2655951952583124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08681351106809199,0.0,0.1311278208611979,0.0,0.0,0.19192565484163554,0.0,0.0,0.0579949423126858
divorce,modeshapes,2020/01/01,"Been lurking here a while; interested what folks might think of this. I was unsure what flair to apply to this post. I'm just looking for feedback. 

So, my wife and I have had problems for a while (completely dead bedroom 5+ years, no apparent enthusiasm to resurrect it from my side or hers). As a musician I usually work on New Years' Eve so I decided it would be nice to FaceTime her from my music stand as it got a few minutes to midnight (several other bandmembers were doing this too, BTW). Anyway, it was loud and it wasn't like I could talk to her while I was playing music and doing my job, but I could see that she was smiling and understood what I was doing and seemed to appreciate it. I waved hello and blew her a kiss. Shortly after midnight I hung up and continued playing my gig.

Anyway, to my surprise, when I got home later I saw she had made a Facebook status with a couple screenshots fo our call and a post to the effect of ""My husband is always working New Years' Eve but he makes an effort to make sure we can be together even when we're apart."" I didn't react to the status right away -- felt weird about ""like"" but wasn't sure ""love"" was what I wanted to leave there either.

This morning I went back to Facebook to look for her post, and it's GONE.

I haven't said anything about it, she hasn't mentioned it, and is acting like everything's normal.

Thoughts? TIA.",4.280657894736843,5.19180690942029,5.252799389778797,83.27557208237991,70.48550724637681,7.9844393592677365,28.29443173150268,8.20500826718156,1.843872463768116,1081,38,215,15,19,355,157,276,0.06,0.813,0.127,0.9692,2,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,2,0,0,4,14,14,0,0,11,0,28,2,0,5,2,38,48,23,1,6,6,2,1,3,0,2,0,2,2,0,19,12,0,0,7,2,0,3,6,2,0,0,23,7,33,12,30,19,2,31,0,0,4,2,19,7,0,3,20,153,52,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884927360956996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10765030521075443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290580513990453,0.10058932031085847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13357761749268185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371579386324064,0.0,0.0,0.2088916366614874,0.1447452591367373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08640264070425215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11756885845398896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12560373870795094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20925078440032124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13121897202524804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298145542210709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13851510570238842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19173006191626416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21970474844168109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11806641957733255,0.12378112819143025,0.17464120253684534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387749530792968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526855423713956,0.0,0.0,0.12817176637281236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3758562944458789,0.0,0.0,0.12517310939919676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11171602828823513,0.12443583784665185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10424330234017476,0.11908984436636473,0.0,0.14778468471229186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24658479675642456,0.0,0.0,0.10514483174677246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382151993511851,0.0,0.10385317927814584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440751864769807,0.0,0.07715858259276369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12126761130346425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904710058155919,0.0,0.0,0.09292783250067173,0.0,0.0,0.25272337148515583
divorce,gerardoe20,2020/01/01,"It's been exactly one year and one day I'm still far from being over it. But I definitely feel better now than I did a year ago. Had a much better 31st of December than I had a year ago. And while my ex now decided to tell me when was actually never truly happy with me and that she's happy we separated and how happy she is with her new boyfriend...

You know what? I don't care. I moved to a beautiful new country, I feel way better now than I did before. Do I miss her? A bit. Do I still love her? Not anymore. As I won't be feeling sad and guilty over someone who wasn't happy with me and tells me she's thankful for us to have split and didn't care about how much I suffered after splitting.

I also met someone who's really friendly and who I actually want to keep meeting so there's that! For a better 2020, to be able to finally divorce and for all of you who are going through this! And though I'm far from 100% right with everything, far from being totally over it. I have mostly moved on. 

And I don't care about her anymore. I'm happy she's doing fine because so am I.

Cheers people!",1.9520303992740475,3.3440015215517254,4.074691470054447,87.5973502722323,76.88793103448276,6.9531760435571695,23.417422867513608,7.669130373188453,0.9852637931034488,851,26,187,12,19,293,118,232,0.14,0.6970000000000001,0.163,0.8306,0,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,2,2,0,4,15,20,0,0,6,0,23,1,0,2,4,32,40,21,0,1,2,1,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,11,16,0,1,5,0,0,3,7,3,0,2,9,3,33,17,30,26,6,30,0,3,0,1,24,8,0,1,18,138,44,0,0.0983055117479056,0.0,0.1918639974508056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17428380949870126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07861488222799695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19498530434984535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05992612752275168,0.0,0.08365074995440216,0.0,0.0,0.3477729457133871,0.10732415792439468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3006870628377041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06339892246532343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08835065518302786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491186614696227,0.0,0.0,0.10768888298437812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07595059451906634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05586928777774199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5232402261960434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08737845570696234,0.0,0.0,0.054026138345413664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08872456245591523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20896640282783085,0.14453172462372754,0.0,0.07581927100254908,0.18988815165308853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13322871785404347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06815266402772409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06297702808220103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08395236990052075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16658788218111406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15701381733656747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17184670051698914,0.09050650745543214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09658466616797193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11824942659431965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057983137836898416,0.07803033948056072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899165794785319
divorce,pinkholla,2020/01/01,"One year ago today... One year ago today, my stbxh and I would have the ultimate fight that would change us forever. It was preceded by many things and there were so many factors that contributed to our divorce.

But our marriage was always broken after that fight and we just kept applying duct tape to try and hold it together.

This year, I have no one to fight with. I woke up without stress or worry of what ensues for the day. I woke up with just my dogs. And it was great. 

He won’t sign papers to finalize, but that’s a drop in the water compared to last year!

Happy 2020 everyone!",2.9663793103448266,4.8638421896551725,3.8874482758620696,87.85237931034484,75.3793103448276,7.398620689655173,22.806896551724137,8.238735603445708,1.2308993103448276,458,13,93,8,10,147,77,116,0.1,0.81,0.09,0.4316,0,0,0,0,4,0,15.0,4,0,0,0,4,6,3,1,4,0,9,1,0,0,0,19,12,9,0,2,6,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,10,8,1,2,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,3,7,0,10,2,15,2,0,17,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,1,13,64,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2930067070876269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13751925970077802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17483550069755646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10658654729833994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579241524788623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810470237250153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18221258721120004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759347539332163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347184603802587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3351190430814383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33597705966093233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893181266817784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10979914629352712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31331641553843537,0.0,0.0,0.11220860756178408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19880145609084732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15931598128384328,0.0,0.0,0.16784139191861466,0.0,0.23480848897399936,0.0,0.0,0.4257181183144833
divorce,Cannonfodder1491,2020/01/01,"Starting the Year of Right I'm 28 and spending the first afternoon of 2020 discussing how to divide my life in two with my wife. This is the first time I've seen her since she asked for a divorce at the beginning of December. I tried so hard to be the man she wanted and just kept failing. We'd been going to therapy together for a few months and nothing seemed to change. No matter how much I opened up; she still wanted a divorce.

April was supposed to be our 4 year anniversary. We have a house and two pets, but thankfully no kids. We always talked about having them and this was supposed to be the year for it. Now we're talking about who gets the house. We are trying to do the DIY approach because she doesn't want to stay in the area and we don't have many shared assets. It just feels so easy to divorce. We can file by mail after I leave for deployment in the spring. She doesn't even want to wait until I get home.",2.9500701754385967,4.392471410526318,3.6342105263157904,91.56780701754387,74.36842105263158,6.750877192982457,23.719298245614038,7.3011,0.7718666666666658,728,21,158,8,15,230,116,190,0.077,0.86,0.063,0.3418,0,0,0,0,3,0,15.0,7,0,1,3,11,3,0,0,14,0,17,1,0,2,0,27,34,12,0,4,3,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,5,13,0,2,2,0,1,2,5,1,0,4,5,3,20,2,28,25,2,27,0,1,1,0,27,8,0,1,16,107,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12474202311207233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14015111226314222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09138733003503548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585911247361226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09901802599375642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580197427203614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550367448336723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15664972131046753,0.0,0.08520065040125317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13429518355193173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15037785277123572,0.0,0.0,0.3459655988547449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15873927260989412,0.0,0.0,0.10589002080678793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15199117384837055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11966142651769295,0.0,0.11020542261559232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14384833177572445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12802734387282794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364777882822369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12401196655684238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061112327028519,0.15979038298374126,0.11972301680556505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409934140473253,0.0,0.13802240206507144,0.17144187605940353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741715622962451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203566085918456,0.0,0.2928920656454961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.353697084928826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896227379508252
divorce,wide-eyed-wonderer,2020/01/01,"2019 my intensive year course This year was the worst .....
I was a laparoscopy ,....removed a cyst.....broke my nose .....started getting sick very often ...went back and forth to the er ....got diagnosed with lupus....life was shit .....my ex became distant.....infertility and infidelity issues........finally  to top it all a divorce 
I wanted to post this because i saw a-lot of people struggling and saying how bad this year was ....its true ....this year kicked my ass .....but
I am starting to do things i have never done if i stayed with my ex ... my skin is clearing up i am beautiful again ....i feel like my old self again ......things are becoming better slowly but surely....i want to heal completely before getting into something new .....life goes on ....TURN YOUR GRIEF INTO POWER",1.813269384492404,4.563971050359712,3.1267026378896894,86.39982214228621,86.6978417266187,5.391047162270183,22.11071143085532,6.937597516519254,0.9493929656274979,572,20,104,8,18,185,97,139,0.133,0.79,0.077,-0.872,1,0,1,0,1,0,89.0,0,1,0,3,5,8,1,1,5,0,11,8,4,1,4,19,22,7,1,3,3,2,2,1,0,0,4,1,0,1,8,7,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,5,1,0,8,5,16,3,12,14,2,21,0,1,1,1,6,5,2,2,13,66,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12876107916751706,0.13981632392409518,0.10207784087447888,0.18493876630049008,0.14249023415762002,0.0,0.0,0.14809863777490853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755713642375043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16996134726069095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17136263519428607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08466930661773152,0.11962851093920507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17497464165799614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339275219912501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11827705974084875,0.08180911454251094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14236261701999126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12915013535087533,0.16172722424816913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17571383460225495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160908785763368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603737584838191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13316540709405802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17469007840657427,0.0,0.1718881761286635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12891355890691925,0.0,0.0,0.23704829811055786,0.1784826986545416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17505831297560892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22249676596769727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18214086130558754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13816632478875926,0.19753632554583966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552306790745406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43133716306685904
divorce,lalalamu,2020/01/01,"What should I do with pictures? I got married in my early 20s and got divorced in my early 30s last year, no child. Most of my memories in my 20s is with my ex and so do the pictures. I don’t know what to do with pictures. They are def memories from the past that I want to look back some times but also they work as triggers that bring not so nice emotions from the past although they are not as intense anymore. My current thinking is to put the pictures that my ex is in separately from the rest of the pics. Just wondering if there are other ideas? Or something that ppl have done and worked well?",4.417295081967211,5.007322491803283,4.768975409836067,88.03329918032789,69.98360655737704,7.411475409836067,30.004098360655732,7.1686216300943375,1.5425049180327872,472,18,100,4,8,149,71,122,0.06,0.909,0.031,-0.5539999999999999,1,0,1,0,1,0,9.0,0,0,3,2,7,2,0,0,6,0,13,0,0,1,0,21,21,12,0,3,6,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,7,6,0,0,4,0,0,2,4,0,1,0,3,1,14,2,17,17,3,15,0,0,1,0,7,4,0,5,9,77,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17493580353808974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.216943089704278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682066969481937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238591275619004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460664276181832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34991173187196833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24694425178668736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12022031523376292,0.17831198283926572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18369648947324504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4176468533742601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21990606427260675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16840588845452614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14016737520336392,0.0,0.0,0.12755598339906732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12902552953956234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19668421581369855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23722708813689336,0.31850795545322313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408690419876198
divorce,strugglingtocope12,2020/01/01,"Stuck in limbo State: SC (No legal separation, must live 1 year apart to divorce, separate support and maintenance in meantime will settle all assets, custody and financials)

Married 7 years, together 15 with a 3 year old and 2 pups.

Status: Still cohabitating while she drags her feet. I do not want this but she has made it clear theres no chance of reconciliation. Home life is awful. 

We have made verbal agreements on everything. She buys me out of the home, 50/50 custody, no support, no alimony. She has not lawyered up. I have and they are drawing up the paperwork. I am having to pay for my own misery to move this along. I have put my foot down and refuse to leave home, or my bed, or give up my full time dad status until i am off the loan and i am legally required to give up the things i love most in this world. She has done NOTHING to move this along. Wont look into refinancing, wont file, wont do anything. Wont communicate, just sits on her phone and masturbating constantly with her new line of sex toys, and lord knows what shes doing with all the lingerie she has been getting sent to her work to hide from me. She has been an alcoholic for my daughters entire life until this came up and she is toeing the line until she can party again. I 100% fear for my daughter when she will be with her mom. Even if she drinks on her non custody days it will spiral out of control like always, including driving drunk with her in the car which she has done. I have in the decree no drinking/drugs but that only covers custody time. If I was sure I would not end up with less than 50% custody, I would file for physical custody and fight. As this drags on, and my home life is miserable, I am increasingly becoming more hostile by the day. At this rate we will be legally married until late 2021. She WILL NOT leave the home, refuses. I cant make her obviously, but wish she would. As my work begins to ramp up in the next 2 months I wont have time to concentrate on that, my kid and all of this. I am wondering if I should ask for the moon on the maintenance papers? I will run out of money fast if there is a fight but so will she. I do not deserve any of this, I just want my kid, my dogs and my life. She says I was a great husband, and I am a great dad yet all of that gets me no wife, no house and half time with my kid and dogs at best. 

I actually have a great place to stay when I need to go, for cheaper than the costs of our home. I would save a ton and be able to buy a new home when this is over. She wants to refinance and buy me out, but do not know it she even can even though she has said she can. I am beginning to question everything we have agreed to, and at a loss everyday on what to do next. Im stuck hostage.

Does anyone have any thoughts or advice on my situation? I am desperate for my happiness again, yet so heartbroken over all of this.",3.245933792121498,4.30493602891157,4.372615092548648,88.06873042240153,73.06462585034014,7.782692611928492,25.239044454991298,8.20894155585173,1.2829274165480138,2227,68,494,34,43,729,262,588,0.126,0.76,0.114,-0.1606,0,0,4,0,3,0,70.0,4,0,1,6,18,18,3,2,23,1,68,12,3,4,9,90,97,44,0,15,20,7,0,1,0,18,5,2,8,3,21,37,3,4,5,3,7,10,19,6,0,1,14,3,80,12,86,62,13,85,1,2,1,2,58,37,0,10,36,353,101,9,0.07407694721716918,0.0,0.07228841475585529,0.0,0.0,0.0723871354862488,0.0,0.07916572833695452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06163795426520061,0.0,0.0,0.10074972862886666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05179632386905718,0.0,0.06095901579477324,0.0,0.06925194599522673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08181216827119843,0.0,0.0,0.07773918591996032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08472429329253152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08005086362413591,0.08308359519472781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09554700544426434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648252357054829,0.15161287193980566,0.0,0.0725672068844829,0.08590574089768141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06561018803160383,0.0,0.0,0.14678137500183625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13315116729932294,0.0,0.0,0.08335716023653791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07740429501545072,0.14212271547055416,0.042099636207435766,0.0,0.0,0.2450102874645773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07885628776791298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5201365254674006,0.0,0.0,0.08547485132729801,0.0,0.0,0.08001581466250653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08142150582204669,0.0,0.08356202302567582,0.1568735824723521,0.0,0.0,0.20929095414032214,0.03619025463917522,0.0,0.06541130154534673,0.0,0.062205978906528625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06685733702061003,0.14018679712507556,0.04944693748438255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08675802528380422,0.05912751253344405,0.15746414333445274,0.0,0.054927117735940965,0.0,0.14308795445003458,0.1575633475002058,0.0,0.0,0.07107882872118836,0.0,0.07773129502064338,0.0,0.0,0.056338856393741726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07739464336742742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07446779214336531,0.0829831341890204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07046414025375276,0.058908961658044996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08326559237451954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07895616948205124,0.059157945736724935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681232837010066,0.06981664608752153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04921343215724282,0.0,0.07278022453166459,0.058808821615133275,0.1727794545334428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13107750820862632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0851848334909227,0.0,0.08033328934601175,0.10785779965256488,0.0,0.0,0.21048855172652375,0.0,0.0,0.14310937589922318
divorce,Rick_Perrys_Asshole,2020/01/01,thank you all for walking with me this past year may the new year bring peace to us all,0.4247368421052649,2.437888578947369,0.5360526315789471,108.13986842105264,84.26315789473685,3.8,14.76315789473684,3.1291,-1.7018631578947372,69,1,18,0,2,20,17,19,0.0,0.7390000000000001,0.261,0.7184,0,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,3,2,2,6,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,11,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4011197816633634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3964710588936569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3823719404669452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4995802398875995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5349064434791094
divorce,Throw-998687,2020/01/01,Divorce in colorado So I’m just wondering if I can get some comparable information for other divorces in Colorado recently. I have two children and have been married for about 10 years. My wife stopped working about 4 years ago and I am currently making about 200k per year. I’m hoping someone has gone through a similar situation to give me some guidance on how terrible the costs will be and whether it’s “cheaper to keep her”...  any hello is greatly appreciated.,6.4327450980392165,8.051201235294121,7.01029411764706,70.03465686274511,66.05882352941177,9.901960784313726,41.22549019607843,10.125756701596842,4.705313725490196,375,23,61,9,6,123,69,85,0.059000000000000004,0.865,0.076,0.3384,1,0,0,0,2,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,2,0,9,0,0,2,0,15,18,7,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,2,0,6,2,11,14,2,11,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,5,7,41,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221181874846989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703984946459566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13091425187209155,0.24037282383547065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27625804208055593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.248875910244397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22272113815583253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16725968053431353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474109887514787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2816549838796638,0.0,0.0,0.21231001636591695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094905701849747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447737878655867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27173614779536803,0.18242040893553704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4840831346113034
divorce,ShawnaeJames,2020/01/01,"Lonely is Okay Lonely was my worst fear for so long. I used to wake up in cold sweats after recurring nightmares of him leaving me.

He would leave me for another woman, for a man, for a coworker, he would vanish into thin air, taking with him the babies I always dreamt of having with him, he would have a fatal accident at work, he would drive us off a bridge into a ravine...

For years in my dreams I would experience him leave me over and over and over.

So this year after he really did leave me, I thought the holidays would be so hard. New Years, I thought would make the loneliness impossible. But as my phone pinged with memories of last New Years I realized I was already so profoundly lonely back then.

And even though I was by myself tonight eating Chinese on my couch with my cat watching Netflix, somehow I realized lonely wasn’t so bad, and that it really didn’t feel lonely at all comparatively because this kind of loneliness shows itself for what it is. It doesn’t masquerade as someone who cares or is present.

2019 taught me that lonely is okay, because for me it’s meant growth, understanding, and authenticity.

Happy New Year everyone, and know that even if you’re lonely, you are not alone.

❤️",7.003033819628648,6.897050185344828,7.188103448275862,75.31339522546422,64.38793103448276,10.586737400530504,31.63925729442971,10.214889679676881,3.0288769230769232,961,32,180,20,13,311,132,232,0.188,0.733,0.079,-0.9764,0,15,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,1,0,1,10,16,0,1,8,2,22,3,2,2,1,35,33,18,1,8,4,0,3,0,0,7,0,0,1,2,12,12,1,0,8,4,0,2,4,11,0,0,10,5,27,5,33,15,2,33,0,7,1,0,15,14,0,3,17,125,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086056024460164,0.11571803251081066,0.0,0.08725374111969451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10995714768556396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08063255015638457,0.08755554725371532,0.12784603355892452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10691398981656967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10730019765165907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13852097297604707,0.0,0.0,0.10020031482804627,0.0,0.1025753417740416,0.0,0.11799911542259067,0.05302147323321624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11162774950248776,0.09393592381241476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10919783263550364,0.05762951638535727,0.08547667935123716,0.0,0.4441356666273878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09279973695179253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06999632505421846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3038296651089217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13435480613329484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888493919774433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07884331544907776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10302656773124548,0.1664977288079187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10916523633329732,0.12613630135671078,0.09056726239979626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763409220894439,0.0,0.0,0.5214376301892516,0.0,0.0,0.3376390565783169
divorce,Variagatedvic,2020/01/01,Never in my life did I think I’d be staring this new decade alone But it’s okay. And I’m gonna be okay. I am nowhere near where I was only 2 months ago. This new year will be for me and I will focus on me. We will all be okay ❤️,-3.5722368421052617,-2.107541140350877,-0.18317982456140136,109.06628289473686,100.75438596491229,2.85,10.633771929824562,3.1291,-2.269138596491228,173,2,53,0,8,61,41,57,0.039,0.848,0.11199999999999999,0.4019,0,1,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,3,10,1,0,0,2,7,13,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,8,3,4,3,1,10,0,0,1,0,1,4,0,0,6,31,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3001154121610042,0.0,0.0,0.35064885941080715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23913685253076775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27023752275009943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611204314632157,0.6539719445171136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574921949880232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21693731216240256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180232831737685
divorce,Fall_On_Me,2020/01/01,"Ex being insensitive on social media My 2 kids, aged 10 and 12 are with their dad and his fiancee for a holiday. He has been with this woman about a year. He cheated on me with her, and his feelings for her are the reason our 18+ year relationship ended. 

My daughter started the holiday having a terrible time. She told me she hated being there. She was texting me about how her dad keeps getting frustrated with her and telling her to ""be more positive"". 

So today he posts a picture on facebook of 4 hands, one from each kid and adult on the holiday, and they are covered in henna tattoos. It's a very ""we are a family together"" type of picture. I'm here in a different part of the country, alone, struggling with dating, and feeling very replaced. Why did he have to post this?? I am so tempted to write something in the comments (I won't).",4.199363636363636,5.459891436363641,5.5058333333333325,80.07875,71.0,8.166666666666668,31.931818181818183,8.59863814320734,2.6345454545454543,657,30,123,11,12,220,107,165,0.12300000000000001,0.82,0.055999999999999994,-0.9092,1,1,1,0,0,0,26.0,2,0,2,0,7,5,3,1,12,0,15,1,1,2,0,20,23,10,0,0,0,4,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,3,14,0,1,3,3,0,0,1,5,0,1,4,3,21,0,23,15,3,17,0,0,0,0,33,7,0,0,8,90,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20411743494352208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059086622953171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17455608634818656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18579129671973996,0.0,0.19930108336115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10296717026576126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19457759650233367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17517546811238066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13354781122685108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134205166072868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3775000066178752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20263304030910845,0.0,0.21159222894711546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009002009080152,0.0,0.15172329251548314,0.0,0.0,0.13949559914211326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20603281650181576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722582870289445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11492005391832046,0.0,0.18681061837448767,0.18832022273805227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3252264523524687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17783578095159436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25382859304987776
divorce,Classic_tika,2020/01/01,"New to alone We met almost 13 years ago and were immediately inseparable. Bestfriends. We married in 2010 and have 2 young boys together. We grew up together. We overcame and we struggled together. We dreamed together. I helped him as he has battled anxiety and depression. We have gone through medical problems and money struggles and moves and everything life has thrown at us and have always said we could make it through anything together. One day he just asked for a divorce and I was devastated and he disappeared for days just leaving me with the kids. The next week I'm trying to figure out why and he says he has a girlfriend and he's so happy with her. They have the strongest connection he's ever had with anyone and he's so lucky he met her, and even if he hadn't met her he still would want the divorce. They didn't ""become a thing"" until after he asked to divorce me but they are suddenly very serious. He tried to say it wasn't actually cheating. He said he met her and tried not to talk to her for months until he just couldn't. Now almost 2 and a half months later life is a roller coaster. We have filed for divorce and it will be official in February. I feel like my life is a soap opera sometimes. After being a stay at home mom for 7 years I have a great new job. Our kids are adjusting slowly to their dad sleeping somewhere else and being ""home"" less but they really don't understand the change, and on the surface I am doing ok and managing and moving in a positive direction. I am struggling with my ex's new relationship and the new person he is becoming for her. His girlfriend has a brain tumor. She is getting it removed next month and will have a long recovery and he is dealing with her medical issues (sometimes emergencies) and helping her with preparing for the recovery. He is meeting her family and going to events with her and she is meeting his friends and he wants her to meet the kids soon. He is suddenly always dressed up and in eith great moods or insanely stressed and blowing me and the kids off to do other things. I'm struggling with being angry at the level of support he is willing to give this woman after so short of a time compared to how long we were together and how little of an effort he put into our relationship. I am keeping things as civil as possible since we will always have to co-parent. I am so angry with him for choosing this woman and never trying to talk to me months ago about trying to build our relationship again. I am angry because he is deciding to be irresponsible with money while we are working to split bill's and become financially independent, but he is spending money we don't have. I'm angry because the more I think about how he has treated me over the last few years, the more I want to be divorced and am seeing just how much I was willing to compromise myself. I am angry because now he is out with his new ""amazing"" girlfriend and I am alone for my first new years in 12 years. I lost my person I shared everything with, and he no longer wants to share anything with me. One day he decided he was done with me and then he just was. He got all dressed up tonight and went to a fancy dinner with her family and I am home with my boys. He just assumed that's what I would be doing tonight. He didn't even ask if I had plans, just told me what his were. He is treating me in ways he said he never would and is breaking every promise we ever made to each other. I keep getting to be ok then breaking down over new triggers. I'm struggling to overcome this level of hurt by the one person I thought never could.",4.569704225352112,5.70952205492958,5.504056338028171,80.89298591549297,70.0,8.327887323943663,29.83380281690141,8.66781300935515,2.302394929577465,2849,111,544,47,50,936,282,710,0.1,0.8220000000000001,0.078,-0.9257,2,2,0,0,5,0,53.0,18,0,5,5,26,29,2,6,29,2,78,8,2,8,6,129,115,63,0,13,14,3,1,1,4,8,5,5,3,11,15,75,1,2,10,3,5,9,12,13,0,5,28,7,79,15,87,68,7,92,0,3,1,0,130,25,0,7,55,379,94,3,0.0,0.0,0.055588426142013855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009898970186049,0.0,0.11408198219589062,0.1179945806401674,0.0,0.0,0.14219526931616938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04357713106880777,0.0,0.0,0.039830395140733055,0.0,0.09375266447997832,0.0,0.15976031698085807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10417376343770318,0.1887360383605516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06359041065348871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06026011959296905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09096187644919694,0.0,0.0,0.11021076488882764,0.058727149555312025,0.04906281493620703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058293718035377425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0475859236092322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752480707627443,0.1030539893468228,0.0479944362853218,0.0,0.1023907337591992,0.0,0.10740075265547204,0.0,0.02880259562202119,0.04069493141124742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048453356926026335,0.0,0.0,0.04401007036192588,0.0,0.059522441473825675,0.054644842460025225,0.03237382540240498,0.0,0.045559133677439294,0.12560552351076007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06063899648684664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07636323371661005,0.0,0.17141792910302509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060980898045593174,0.0,0.0,0.059455380233044974,0.05652775587899666,0.10126403902775163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04643307853099261,0.0,0.06031641157403528,0.0,0.0,0.12070559424058908,0.02782962254553404,0.057092666305285214,0.0,0.10082229460112203,0.0,0.0,0.06218268818846175,0.0,0.0,0.05390050013125745,0.038023761367332175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11477001849619672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06671528345176618,0.1818717632432312,0.12108695330123714,0.0418749281062174,0.0,0.13180192226570858,0.3851117741504578,0.1211632394317266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158003821585695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14921571035856748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0642180960372291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0545066384365724,0.0,0.057264326206364936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03649245216094881,0.0,0.0,0.1834733250119568,0.0,0.0,0.1625567804765964,0.09059975862773273,0.0,0.0,0.04539275262364513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047121022365588065,0.0,0.05700491239348365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11267725776997525,0.0,0.0,0.06071580363925224,0.045491343369551934,0.0,0.06525181047009337,0.2977545228800634,0.0,0.0,0.06464181549927579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09157064732199333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135326005380266,0.03650008617854762,0.0,0.045222873511511205,0.033216034615047935,0.0,0.0,0.054431327030412015,0.0,0.1933733161759448,0.0,0.0,0.059301297499982926,0.06852040616175774,0.0,0.0,0.047001079144754376,0.13439483875884822,0.045215192226604,0.045692903370389816,0.0,0.0,0.05280598904278033,0.05140094573990234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041470305788806144,0.0,0.0,0.1213962916904494,0.0,0.0,0.1834140136025808
divorce,kikroxx888,2020/01/01,"Im going to lose my house!! Help Divorcing, ex refused payout and now i might lose my house! Help!

Im located in CA- Backstory: I and my soon to be Ex-husband decided to divorce a year ago, he cheated. We went to court and his lawyer created the divorce decree. He got a payout of over 200k.  Kept all the savings and basically got the better end of the deal. Fine, i just wanted things to be over. We agreed i would refinance the house and pay him out. I did the entire process and once it came to wiring him the money he refused it because he wanted MORE money. He claimed i owed him interest and extra 45k. I had to take him to court, on our ex-parte hearing he asked for an extension to get a lawyer, which was bullshit and he just wanted my loan to fall through. At  the next hearing the judge said that he had no grounds and that he had to accept my offer.  At this point my loan couldnt be extended and i needed to re-apply all over again. I waited maybe 3 weeks and then began the process. The issue is that since all the paperwork was done and i had a new mortgage company for some reason the payment never made it to the original mortgagee so now i have a 30 day late and they wont help me remove it. On top of that my credit took a huge hit and now even if i do qualify i get a shitty rate. I have court coming up on the 6th and the judge asked me to go back and present the money, which now seems like i cant do. I dont want to lose the house, what can i do? Is there any way i can explain to the judge because im trying to comply. Is there any way i can penalize my ex and have him wait the recommended time of 6 months so i can qualify?",1.5611904761904754,3.082600642857148,3.4571428571428555,91.0561904761905,78.28571428571428,6.609523809523809,22.809523809523807,7.42949916751922,0.7606666666666668,1275,39,289,17,30,430,173,350,0.083,0.815,0.102,0.5767,4,0,0,0,2,0,34.0,3,0,1,5,14,11,1,0,28,0,30,0,0,3,4,51,60,21,0,8,3,2,0,1,0,3,0,3,0,0,13,22,0,5,5,0,8,8,6,4,0,0,17,3,40,7,35,35,6,47,0,3,0,0,37,15,0,4,23,187,53,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08734395513873718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340122449278499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18423094284709554,0.0,0.0,0.07576613823833565,0.0,0.12013014884264325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871448261781394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11269601316627835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848778393970312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06354592151254015,0.10158365673429898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10083392583347613,0.11548046543862447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08727138730708542,0.0,0.0,0.06508041211059798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10295931793811346,0.0,0.11199765668029324,0.0,0.15761239670732194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22210871075698704,0.0,0.19813467654384467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4547774715479855,0.0,0.0,0.3192990918760917,0.10284331833460422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11115001944704962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04813846483470138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3307011682031073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09323472950076847,0.0,0.0,0.09899009078698692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104528415606458,0.0,0.0,0.07864845691838519,0.0,0.0,0.07306130205397628,0.0759950683215672,0.09516421661352703,0.10479143817167337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10493490472000754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106702120526239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931459557504153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10130879370630537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937278715370224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08970114902018925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08150788514683073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07408488911609266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06546124355621244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057455645028908375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10947428455768904,0.06689774225629319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.232470318595693,0.15642252692672098,0.07903758732235834,0.0,0.0,0.09134149205359723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0699953333184492,0.0,0.0,0.06345230898876242
divorce,nebraskaheat,2020/01/01,"3 yrs later I’m finally ok. After I ruined my life lol. So many people on here have great strategies on how to properly deal with divorce. I’ve read and watched so many of you who were shell shocked like I was deal, cope, grow and move on. I for whatever reasons (some I’ve realized, co-dependent, depression,alcoholism) was not one of those people. So for anyone struggling wondering why you can not seem to heal like others I’d like to share a few things.

1.Youre not alone.
2. Do not cope with drinking or drugs
3. There is actually hope for us too

I basically just threw myself into a world of self pitying alcoholism for about 18 months. I was devastated!  It was like a nightmare that consumed my every second month after month with no relief. Financially it ruined me and physically it took a hell of a toll. I ended up losing my job and being broke with no one still willing to pick up the phone when I called. 

A little less than two years ago my ex wife’s new husband (boyfriend at the time) showed up at my door. He was an alcoholic who went through a similar situation years earlier. He didn’t know me from Adam but cared about my kids and was tired of seeing their worry and pain. He introduced me to a treatment center he went through and I’ve been sober ever since.

Almost two years later I have two awesome jobs one working with kids struggling in school and another working at the rehab center I went through. I have my two boys in my life and am helping coach my youngest baseball team and while my ex and I don’t speak more than we have to my ex’s new husband and I get along great in fact my mom is selling her home and he’s her realator. My kids went house shopping with their dad,step dad and grandma the other weekend.

I have found I truly enjoy the silence and me time when I do have free time so I date but only occasionally and haven’t met anyone better than a quiet night with a book.

All in all things are good. Occasionally I even am thankful things happened as they did as my codependency would have kept me from finding out how much I enjoy finding adventures in life. So hang in there as there is hope!",2.931250466592012,5.005039612293146,3.982521463232548,86.33644736842103,76.0449172576832,6.816697772800798,25.315976110488982,7.7627490962704995,1.3720865248226954,1688,60,336,25,38,546,226,423,0.084,0.752,0.165,0.9904,3,1,5,0,1,0,37.0,2,2,3,5,20,29,1,2,16,2,31,11,0,4,4,56,51,32,0,3,8,8,0,4,0,2,10,2,2,5,12,27,3,1,8,8,3,9,9,10,0,8,19,4,47,20,55,29,7,56,1,5,2,0,39,21,1,7,30,220,59,8,0.0,0.0,0.07932103237896312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07205297439880624,0.2606022274216962,0.081393747148898,0.0841852576253009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08523290324966097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136707146395393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07188870620328862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08299960606467185,0.0,0.08287400993821245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16759956900022266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07962694695098074,0.0942631274775861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07199311074701861,0.0,0.0,0.053687026883775635,0.07352563647761258,0.0684849077193207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08904217036600016,0.1485834083603979,0.0,0.0,0.08912323156342095,0.0,0.0,0.04246730691167954,0.0,0.0,0.06817679633164711,0.0,0.1792308307473997,0.0,0.0,0.07187878648625932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05448265902260813,0.0,0.08153404133670421,0.16146583755600327,0.0,0.09379031858172676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16132278841401199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04467132058067003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17223895356597133,0.15884417273402265,0.08146748427511427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093551567991702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16481755023087638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951983268123074,0.1946392939446624,0.0863915639466013,0.059752771551659006,0.0,0.0,0.15700834367863162,0.0,0.0762791177546944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16523953815907452,0.061819812584004236,0.08649144215199818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11270357632242688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08130555967707095,0.0,0.0,0.08357304071815476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0822633054711044,0.06477247604441669,0.07399750313148741,0.08479648369410822,0.0,0.0,0.06723860343233758,0.0913661306739035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06491315856218326,0.0,0.0,0.16995045760075253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07483498419467602,0.0,0.0,0.16200356276211064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14219129808442132,0.09342349859227923,0.0,0.0,0.09030902951479104,0.0,0.0,0.3176089210937377,0.0,0.09777411833699358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3014027096910217,0.07334577292992618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08814855695542108,0.11835080417048208,0.08254740401799238,0.0,0.05774151115116365,0.0,0.0,0.1570318491251189
divorce,BarkFire,2020/01/01,"How to pull the plug? 
Any insight how to end a nasty divorce proceeding and just agree to all her demands?  I just can’t fight any more. Her lawyer is a junkyard dog. I (foolishly) thought I could represent myself. But today I sat through another court hearing with the lawyer saying all these horrible things about me. And the court granted their request to limit my overnight visitation. I know I’m never going to “win.”  I know I’m never going to have a minute with my daughter that she doesn’t want me to have. Fighting the court battle is getting me nowhere. I need out. I can’t take it. Where’s the court form that says I quit?",2.217214640198513,4.664125895161291,2.975161290322582,90.72120347394545,80.37096774193549,5.750868486352358,25.66749379652605,7.010146845296331,1.1373307692307688,497,20,99,6,13,156,78,124,0.152,0.8,0.048,-0.9275,0,0,0,0,4,0,15.0,0,0,1,3,6,4,3,0,8,0,8,0,0,2,4,22,21,5,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,5,5,0,1,4,0,0,4,5,3,0,0,2,3,19,1,12,18,4,11,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,0,5,66,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3215729458547387,0.2479266681286305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18877712040416927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20941457342408226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12352949982435978,0.0,0.2687472059504689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664836801166045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598811315867149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17531635368192747,0.3647123142180853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514817380590587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3760512032226698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17777253152657724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15707941420591126,0.0,0.0,0.18770597466012226,0.0,0.0,0.22411630998616727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394577137612578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Quisenburg,2020/01/01,"Future possible significant other, I'll go ahead and apologize now. I'm a mess and come with more baggage than a cargo ship can handle. I'll mention my ex wife way too much. I'll randomly cry if you are nice to me without expectations.

You will have to be patient with me. I'll try not to lean on you too much but my emotions are likely to get the best of me. If you give me an extended hug, I can't promise I won't be emotional. 

I am better than I was, but if I have anyone in my life soon, she will have to deal with a lot. Chances are, you will not put up with this for long. 

Sorry babe.",1.7125781250000005,2.788722601562501,3.9676250000000017,89.41487500000002,76.890625,7.307500000000001,23.7375,7.908726449838941,1.0084412500000006,455,14,107,7,10,158,82,128,0.07200000000000001,0.772,0.157,0.9208,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,5,0,3,4,7,0,0,5,0,16,2,0,0,0,18,21,7,0,4,8,2,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,1,2,7,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,1,0,0,1,0,18,6,18,14,5,12,0,0,0,1,13,3,0,5,6,77,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493421286510148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22414207491314764,0.18889671705524952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18398275509859116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346107848749569,0.0,0.22019458991577007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4805040265842782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11158824913484117,0.2048881780847261,0.12138408321305133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508599175770356,0.10434581569726888,0.0,0.0,0.1890141440727641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18158054247158145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3140160110586148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24078262659029664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21470980494187572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23908856853338545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450087681027701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16953216332971535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20588629238923228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,lemonbug89,2020/01/01,"Last Year.... Last time this year I went to bed at 10pm, alone in a cold bed while my now ex played video games. I felt lost and unsure and afraid.
Now I have goals and plans and am so excited for what is to come.
My question, what is your post divorce or mid divorce new years resolution?
Self improvement? Confidence? Health? Love?",0.7312649572649583,3.2600627076923097,1.3866666666666705,97.98444444444449,91.15384615384615,5.350427350427352,17.991452991452988,6.937597516519254,0.05255555555555613,256,7,57,4,9,78,51,65,0.084,0.691,0.226,0.9132,0,1,0,0,2,0,14.0,0,1,0,3,3,5,0,1,1,0,4,2,0,0,0,8,9,7,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,3,5,0,0,2,3,0,2,0,2,0,0,3,2,6,3,5,6,0,16,0,1,0,1,8,3,0,2,10,28,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24648807199316705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20500914671849124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22850976693518665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529745051600391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3879907006480106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25979652353132804,0.0,0.21479718914434165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298542821620791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22793067342433035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26660565264055536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482776957289861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13877512487610544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220621088836962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4597773864950396
divorce,jackiegatsby,2020/01/01,"Turning Point The shock wore off today (day 3). I spent the day crying, I talked to my STBX a little. By the end of our conversation, I felt so firm in my decision. Not in a resentful way, just like, I'm ready to take a few steps forward. I'm sure this feeling will come and go, but damn didn't I need it.",-0.23071428571428496,1.6406296515151515,2.211385281385283,96.00136363636366,85.81818181818181,5.58961038961039,18.51948051948052,6.868970318607317,-0.06399740259740216,231,6,57,3,7,79,52,66,0.11599999999999999,0.754,0.129,-0.287,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,6,0,2,0,0,0,1,10,13,3,0,1,3,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,1,4,2,3,0,0,4,2,7,2,7,8,1,14,0,0,0,0,3,6,1,0,6,30,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23536133366526604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3001276244115095,0.3524183212586087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419985034177489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381520544827321,0.0,0.262341287509752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15528150828837195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13348517545429084,0.27384577589742626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025947598678644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582883415351217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575137242205194,0.0,0.2054331075187196,0.2196099480731334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25898776155529857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29719310574053515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168753046395981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,BostonTopChef,2020/01/01,"Somebody that I used to know.... So surreal! At the moment, at 1045 I just heard the number 3 song of the decade, ""Somebody the I used to Know"" by Gotye. 
How ironic!!! 
Than number 2? 
""We could have had it All"" 
By Adele!! 

What's number 1???",-1.1239285714285714,0.9538504166666684,1.3426190476190492,97.65000000000002,96.91666666666666,3.576190476190476,13.107142857142858,5.288315135182226,-1.1716107142857144,172,3,39,1,7,58,35,48,0.032,0.838,0.13,0.5466,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,0,3,0,0,3,1,9,8,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,4,0,8,5,1,3,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,26,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3633170096921224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5001624953349215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7860268625999487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,GTDDcha,2020/01/01,"Going to get divorce. Alone in a new city. So scared. I moved to this city a year ago for my husband with no friends or family. Tonight he told me he quit his job and would want a divorce and move back to his home country at the end of the month.

Thousand things going through my mind right now. Anger, sadness, confusion...

Should I just quit my job and leave this city. I don’t want to leave here. Trap by myself with the memories hunting me. We moved here to start a new family and he’s just going to walk out of my life and abandon me like that. He tells me he will always love me and wish the best for me and hope we still can be friends.

I have no idea how I can return to work normal Thursday. Feels like everything is falling apart.",1.392127192982457,3.4448895723684245,2.2580526315789484,96.9220350877193,80.90789473684211,5.369122807017543,21.31754385964912,6.42735559955562,0.10968807017543858,573,17,130,5,15,179,94,152,0.147,0.693,0.161,0.6605,2,1,0,0,2,0,18.0,2,0,0,4,9,12,1,2,8,0,9,2,0,1,0,28,21,10,0,7,3,1,1,2,2,3,1,0,1,0,4,12,0,1,2,0,0,8,3,5,0,1,1,1,20,7,18,16,1,26,0,2,0,1,17,5,0,3,15,80,24,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145586716653604,0.0,0.0,0.13384806620169734,0.0,0.0,0.10753353652763616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993734270449628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13562373521978446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11446349307645345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11614772166897562,0.0,0.2436617507948177,0.0,0.06534489473467638,0.0923252211085353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996926563706649,0.0,0.06751974237843246,0.0,0.2203409971282125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12963283679786813,0.12835911372214676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14589012824296366,0.0,0.0,0.25649079034227074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736815540378141,0.0,0.0,0.09128221698078977,0.12627499129650213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11663926842402073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13049010118200152,0.0,0.10315382144979883,0.4120677692236807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496311559970857,0.0,0.0,0.12662246484528394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749138010073875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11036563874321684,0.0,0.0,0.12938637561879754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914729121203449,0.0,0.1032069151972418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11295673303175065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08585772301529823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12348919457632625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524518259886689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486134073234224,0.0,0.0,0.09408432496661964,0.0,0.0,0.09180454898108267,0.0,0.0,0.08322284261465526
divorce,Slickpickle09,2020/01/01,"Stbxw is out ""cruising"" around and going to a party I have my son all this week and we've been having a good time so that's not the issue. 

When my wife moved out on 12/6 I gave her the family car but I took the tags and insurance off of it because I wasn't going to pay while she ""finds herself"".

Long story shot after begging from her and her parents I reinstated everything because she was trying to fixed herself and she's about to start a new job. This was 3 days ago and she already couldn't facetime our son earlier today because she was ""cruising"" and now she's supposed to be going to a new years party with the same friend that convinced her to cheat in the 1st place. 

Would I be wrong for taking the tags and insurance back off, signing the car back over to her, and not worrying about it anymore?",5.064329268292681,5.233295310975612,5.627951219512196,83.92314634146345,68.45121951219512,8.267317073170732,29.20487804878049,7.908726449838941,1.7617141463414638,637,21,130,7,10,206,98,164,0.049,0.835,0.11599999999999999,0.8421,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,0,8,5,1,0,11,0,12,0,0,0,1,22,19,13,0,2,3,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,6,13,0,0,1,2,1,9,4,2,0,0,7,0,22,3,23,8,2,34,0,0,0,0,20,9,0,0,16,94,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15096935302513326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879410884042853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16890154818037886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15161182096753828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619154319926465,0.0,0.3114578018727162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10983572524161272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530634577095097,0.0,0.1605529129297152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15566006273580074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315809213649662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29037293552538107,0.14284777164848825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17775917299910704,0.1690061874494758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507188049081451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810123541001787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3289725131056283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891088671090126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17793748207077187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205461460174124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12805176684556713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09930900820644267,0.0,0.161433767220371,0.0,0.1892204433187362,0.11562916805441932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13661224069565794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17295785888760015,0.0,0.12098318846541775,0.18620701980324664,0.0,0.10967392100310162
divorce,underwaterdude1,2020/01/01,"Am I an asshole for wanting to leave? My wife has severe anxiety and she has a panic attack about twice a week. We have been married only about two years. 

Tonight she said something that unintentionally made me feel a little sad. Once she realized my feelings got hurt she went into a full blown anxiety attack. In fact every time she does something that makes me upset she goes full panic attack. it makes it so I can’t take care of myself. Her panic attacks use to happen every time anything would make me feel less than optimal i.e. bad day at work, guy cut me off, etc. 

I don’t know if I can live this way. I have been really supportive over the last 2 years and she has gotten so much better but I feel trapped. 

I don’t want to start a family with her because I don’t want to have my kids around constant anxiety but I want kids. 

Am I an asshole because I want to leave more and more after each panic attack? I feel like there isn’t enough of a reason for me to leave now because I love her. But I also don’t want hope and hang on to the thought that things will change but then they don’t and I have to deal with custody, child support, etc. 

I’m lost.",1.9681245225362891,3.9213153235294134,3.3047211611917504,90.6377387318564,78.53781512605042,5.839877769289534,21.322383498854087,6.782984794422108,0.3899344537815126,909,25,192,9,22,296,134,238,0.201,0.6759999999999999,0.12300000000000001,-0.9278,0,1,2,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,1,3,8,22,6,5,10,0,21,1,0,6,1,39,53,14,0,9,5,1,5,1,0,2,0,1,0,4,7,11,0,0,9,0,0,2,7,15,0,2,9,6,36,7,25,42,10,26,0,3,0,1,20,10,0,2,14,127,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06544295973914598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878093323486425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06734275865204309,0.07284998774664989,0.0,0.4654923595801432,0.0,0.0,0.06832832626519539,0.14965651692082765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07237589830217979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08343564979762444,0.0,0.08656997030648034,0.0,0.0,0.08843394071644482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05277643383565127,0.0843676983638243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07161385638792499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08455683627100223,0.1825340306318876,0.0,0.0,0.1378980643304713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07714621237959404,0.0,0.20688971948529455,0.05846252924308815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0654504650220619,0.0,0.0,0.08102894628508167,0.07236591135890573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08128004839301849,0.0,0.0,0.08760544401052688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04497405957241644,0.06670597829572687,0.0,0.2599525188911299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039980166214083235,0.08201959206438425,0.07226129614549961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893319413637597,0.0,0.07385876317713266,0.07743371117391258,0.16387534150669222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06015771802690222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08715099134903506,0.0,0.062238767463518835,0.0,0.3840602599464601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052425227850901764,0.08413941793188645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07784327763275757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09244960648800753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260002761591912,0.0,0.0,0.05792282688930064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18572947037371,0.0,0.0,0.06152930283472935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05436715539111549,0.0,0.0,0.06496739209130316,0.0954366220892541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07994034176919794,0.0,0.0,0.07067866798052876,0.0,0.0,0.2896083831052133,0.06495635712139562,0.06564263919006645,0.0,0.0,0.07586133141314236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059576435708841274,0.0,0.0,0.05813282724929085,0.0,0.0,0.10539737271427788
divorce,Different_Round,2020/01/01,"How do I initiate divorce with codependant and overly sensitive spouse? My wife and I (early 30s) met 3 years ago and and were married within 8 months. It quickly became clear that she was codependent after we got married. I've cut contact with most of my social circle because her values didn't align with theirs. Every argument or heated discussion we have end in a fight or her crying for hours (in the apartment, her parents place, airports, train stations, hotel lobbies, restaurants, you name it).

Just tonight she starts asking me why I'm not being very sexual and I tell her that all the arguments we had through the years are affecting my mood. This was enough to trigger another tantrum. During the last big fight a few months ago I mentioned that I want a divorce because I can't stand the uncontrolled crying that go on for days and the lack of social circle since meeting her. For what it's worth we live in a foreign country. She's threatened to hurt herself on several occasions and once neighbours even called the police on us, she freaked out and just walked out of the apartment into the forest in the middle of the night and was gone for hours. It took me breaking into her old phone for the police and I to locate her.

Honestly for the last year or so I haven't felt any attraction for her because of these issues. I walk on eggshells everyday and sometimes wish I never met her.

How do I plan my exit in such a situation? I'm thinking of just walking out one day and never come back.

*TL;DR:* I'm in a codependent marriage with a a spouse who can't handle her emotions and I want to leave but affraid she will hurt herself.",5.6576190476190495,6.67942434920635,5.806031746031746,80.15285714285716,67.4126984126984,8.285714285714286,32.14285714285714,8.418075326091056,2.533,1310,54,234,18,21,415,177,315,0.099,0.8590000000000001,0.042,-0.9369,1,1,0,0,4,0,31.0,5,1,1,1,10,11,4,1,21,0,15,0,0,4,4,51,32,20,0,4,8,4,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,12,27,0,0,2,1,1,7,7,8,0,1,12,1,42,2,40,18,5,57,0,2,0,0,48,23,0,4,25,166,54,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21260969426599605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155201575413194,0.1257501279615035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11211217871586153,0.0,0.0,0.09221368245221324,0.0,0.2193125515411505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12245518673480575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10330337946969016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634604196967492,0.15468132766797765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13489766953525167,0.10621652605527424,0.12391291668675727,0.0,0.07920826632799602,0.0,0.10104062610551276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11514525836571787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06815522467319714,0.0,0.09591368808307177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362007596489412,0.0,0.2567609329703729,0.0,0.0,0.12516885933141889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955071333221506,0.0,0.12698155164585567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10589454813868313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19144340731250287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849846187513222,0.0,0.0,0.11253997520589644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12583942175098434,0.1277144936642423,0.08126319091794328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331607296890996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12529441540108424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13547929288362662,0.0,0.09920186527968436,0.1347989119875078,0.0,0.24449358221392906,0.0,0.0,0.11860729653379044,0.0,0.08488239081689455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048183263913838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07684206432722551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13323929591251302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144253069218888,0.0,0.0,0.09894935396653752,0.1414678419475097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10821220420425233,0.0,0.13790597706631225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316801888546928
divorce,renvlovee,2020/01/01,"How many times do you have the “talk” before you just realize it isn’t working I moved countries to be with my husband of 4 years almost 5 now 

We have a 3 1/2 year old child my husband is a great father 

And a really good roommate . And that’s about it 
We never talk , he never tries anything with me 
Never touches me anymore 

This last year I’ve become clinically depressed with panic disorder and agoraphobia 
I’ve been working on therapy and medications but I progressively have gotten worse

I’ve been focusing on eating healthy and exercise and keeping up with looks etc 

I clean the home it’s never messy I cook lunches do everything “house wife”

I really try with him I keep giving the” talk “
But things have not been good my immigration is completely messed up I don’t have a green card yet due to a mix up from the federal application process which means I can’t work I can’t drive here in the USA 
I have 30 year old responsibilities with the ability of nothing

I have no family I’ve met no friends due to his career moving us constantly 

I’m lonely like really really lonely 

All I wanted was a date for New Year’s Eve and I tried endlessly to find a sitter because he couldn’t ask around I guess and it didn’t happen
It’s not that big of a deal that it’s not happening it’s just he didn’t even try to ask his friends if they knew anyone 

It’s like the only thing he wants is a quickie and it’s over 
There’s no romance no dinners no flowers
No talking 
No hand holding 

Nothing 

This isn’t how I planned my life I’m almost 30 in a country I’m not from with no career I’ve given up literally everything for him and he can’t even give me anything back .... 

I just wish he’d try a bit 
I told him I’d give him another year but it’s been like 2 weeks since that talk and I think he’s held my hand once since than",1.2402968337730869,3.4634012585752005,3.3611866754617417,87.84056629287598,82.58839050131925,6.639604221635884,22.667612137203164,7.822599999999999,1.1672674934036942,1443,50,305,27,40,490,184,379,0.067,0.741,0.192,0.9935,1,4,0,0,0,0,7.0,3,2,1,5,14,14,0,1,18,0,28,10,2,2,5,55,53,17,0,5,11,4,3,3,2,0,4,0,2,1,19,21,4,4,5,2,0,3,25,5,0,0,13,5,39,9,31,37,3,38,0,3,2,0,39,11,0,4,27,179,58,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597110916855662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362214852101144,0.0,0.0,0.07908803584011788,0.05576126718477628,0.0,0.13125070326019725,0.07099213275215642,0.14910619037241826,0.0,0.0,0.061320862051520125,0.0,0.0486133017776077,0.08807478664835237,0.06785920131269361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870635546277437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08361367795464406,0.08617865635024616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0822161132417478,0.06868635680938219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09139748001448372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08160154435816565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08893948053547247,0.10534486951773467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433437213519675,0.0,0.07517879302361383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07288771922550172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12322535508880655,0.0,0.0,0.2295030453439329,0.0,0.1337767451574969,0.0,0.08792183873170445,0.08785080056067777,0.0,0.1410408030208206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0799931887126382,0.0,0.0,0.09201784347649017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141766385105768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06500481074892812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05632797823006822,0.11688171906881342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06696776819657027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808513915330605,0.0,0.08686834546654958,0.0,0.08033716014561182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695178250620927,0.0,0.0,0.24602458087456236,0.0770205785181016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15303964696501846,0.0,0.16736305538679774,0.08492842536706198,0.0,0.06065152484948653,0.0,0.09356644318790787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043530191437496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13193581981115227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3204898742256498,0.0,0.0,0.09119815246817946,0.0,0.1059613167350376,0.05109894216409463,0.0,0.0,0.046501376008050765,0.0,0.0,0.07620210040700287,0.0,0.2707163991618545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959263562938594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09407421751414163,0.0,0.06396858942227353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09170562514023607,0.0,0.0,0.17417126743182754,0.0,0.08126945862497753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3081284365406615
divorce,myownbestenemy83,2020/01/01,"Obligatory New Year’s Eve post This is the first New Years I’m excited to not go out and party. I picked up my daughter from my stbxw house earlier. We laid out blankets on the floor of my moms house and have spent the past few hours just hanging out, eating snacks and candy, watching cartoons and doing spiral art. I will say there is nothing I would rather do tonight. Hopefully she stays awake to midnight and we can celebrate the countdown together. If she falls asleep I’ll try to wake her up anyway.

On the other side of the coin, when I picked up my daughter my stbx was already on her third white claw. She’d rather spend nye with her new boyfriend. I’ve been to that party and with her starting drink that early, I hope he knows the shit show he’s in for. 

Tl;dr I’m having a fantastic night with my daughter. Stbx is about to show her new beau her drunken demon side. 

2020 may not be so bad. Good luck out there friends. Remember what’s important.",2.11042105263158,4.54225630526316,2.585526315789476,93.44618421052631,80.6842105263158,5.694736842105264,22.657894736842106,6.961326702584282,0.651715789473684,758,25,156,9,20,233,123,190,0.022000000000000002,0.8009999999999999,0.177,0.9827,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,0,1,9,8,1,0,8,0,15,6,3,2,0,30,23,9,0,6,6,4,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,5,15,3,0,2,4,3,3,2,2,0,2,3,3,22,6,24,15,1,34,1,0,2,0,19,14,1,5,15,93,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16642162887823048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12591932713621726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477355371526871,0.0,0.1543153930695887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282781718790027,0.0,0.0,0.11651476241188315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08570830594236614,0.1264915460541989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29957499510598606,0.14851661827014767,0.3480269839787544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08288075574928079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766258344214975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5826096033820283,0.0,0.14152415566002122,0.0,0.14470543089834725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439643822953744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14443346235845755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17083734972500292,0.0,0.0,0.1199294759616728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15480340830977093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10674348087234638,0.16074247047317042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023895022468772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10713048148356727,0.0,0.0,0.19423227495134984
divorce,AconiteBlackbird,2020/01/01,"Today my husband left me Hello. I moved to Canada two months ago with my two kids. My husband stayed in our home country because of visa problems. We talked every day, thought about how to handle this situation, I contacted a lawyer...
I was married for almost 12 years now. It was not always perfect but I didn't expect what happened today. 
This morning he send me message that we need to broke up. I called him and we talked. He met a woman on his workplace recently and decided to leave me. 
He spend last evening with his new woman and told me than he will celebrate New year with her.
I am crashed totally, feel empty, cried all day, but tried to hide tears from kids.
I feel pity to myself and most of all to kids.
I am sorry for mistakes, not native, just need to talk to someone.
Thank you.",2.489230769230769,4.722903820512826,3.3672820512820536,89.44438461538464,78.1025641025641,5.6984615384615385,24.5025641025641,6.742157984588678,0.879905641025641,620,22,122,6,15,197,105,156,0.162,0.7879999999999999,0.05,-0.9308,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,4,1,0,1,5,6,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,1,4,31,15,7,0,5,5,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,5,5,10,0,0,4,0,2,2,3,4,0,2,6,2,25,2,22,8,4,20,0,2,0,0,30,4,0,2,13,78,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315846492495264,0.0,0.14864296386173653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12351542210513132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09048870911927627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15157561700949926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16305628507022554,0.1914652887010636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09804437166813967,0.0,0.1250685712328109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15011321149090354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13126654363949106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14889917204256814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12099983329918206,0.0,0.15717837318909952,0.16128238876885514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11848478353406325,0.15777008145578933,0.0,0.22013534397923,0.0,0.2867319219585767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14203870114108194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14656831367122738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668547392848667,0.0,0.0,0.12577420765057734,0.0,0.0,0.16616837886881486,0.0,0.1582191478876802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3579355519254601,0.0,0.13666521374048152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11784616332407273,0.0,0.0,0.2814108322128906,0.1418424473522049,0.0,0.10078219994042316,0.0,0.29001202815946764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19118323206446894
divorce,givingup516740,2020/01/01,"I filed today. I filed this afternoon. 

9 months ago tomorrow my STBX screamed at me in a parking lot in the middle of the night that they wanted a divorce. The day before was the last time we lived together. They took half the savings, demanded that night I begin paying them a large sum of money, took the kid, got a new rental.

We ""tried"" to reconcile until June; I know now they didn't really mean to, I believe it was an attempt to assuage any lingering shreds of guilt they felt. I understand. A lot of people do that. In their position I probably would have done the same.

They told me they were done in their car in the parking lot at work on my lunch break. They took their ring off soon after. They wanted to want to but they didn't. Marriage is work and they didn't want to anymore. I still don't really know what those mean but I've made peace with not getting closure.

They're largely a stranger to me now, almost unrecognizable physically, emotionally or socially. They drink more. They dress differently. They do things I never saw or got to do with them.

I was not a good husband. They were not a good wife. They call me abusive but I wasn't. A therapist I saw individually suggested that anything less than gentle, anything that overwhelms their ability to cope is abusive. I spoke less than gently the last several years, sharply, shortly, more and more frequently. I don't know anymore if I agree with that definition, but it served a purpose at the time. It helped me see I played a role too. 

I never physically abused them in any way. I never name-called, I never belittled, I never demeaned or insulted them. I built my wife up in every way I could every single day we were together. They had access to my bank account years before we married, within a couple months of cohabiting. They had their own cell phone account and phone, they had their own car titled in their own name and on their own insurance. They had their own keys. They saw friends and/or family every week. 

We argued eventually over her going back to work sooner rather than later. The spending got worse over the years. I ***wanted*** them to have their own income and an identity outside of our home. 

They call me abusive and controlling and manipulative in the same paragraph of an email or text or the same breath when we speak as they say I am genuine, kind, hard-working and generous. 

I suspect they have depression, even perhaps PPD. Things seemed to get worse, even relative to other parents, when our child was born. 

It's been 20 days since they last stated they were filing ""ASAP.""

9 months. I have waited 9 months.

  
My wife is probably still my favorite person. She is probably still the smartest, funniest, most attractive person I know. There is a hole the size and shape of her that I cannot fill. It's not fair that, especially after our child was born, she gets prettier every day and I get uglier.

I miss my wife and I filed for divorce today. I broke my promises, my vows. She finally, really, in a way that will hurt forever, won by forcing me to do this instead of her.",2.8250306851618308,5.4073597384615395,3.802813507075804,84.87944514501893,78.96581196581197,6.981364719069639,24.291018635280928,8.089982424148904,1.613381392742049,2417,86,455,46,61,776,268,585,0.111,0.769,0.12,0.8319,4,1,1,0,3,0,90.0,9,0,40,6,15,18,2,2,33,0,40,3,1,3,5,72,76,25,0,9,15,6,1,0,1,2,0,5,1,5,21,20,2,2,11,2,6,7,16,9,0,1,34,10,103,9,56,39,19,84,0,5,4,0,87,23,0,12,49,318,124,4,0.0,0.31204021515772146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0583635016856072,0.0,0.06592960441340641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0895473976454927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305918796682676,0.0,0.0,0.10836200358535564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050627168528848736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112050584618474,0.07417953308431803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13446072667724498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07384555609202666,0.05256816559076869,0.07285109995197403,0.0,0.16984632726647655,0.0,0.05670820085503062,0.0,0.0,0.06878915704859184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13475508387502502,0.0,0.06449848172638817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07406153694436064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08697386638568502,0.0,0.2218933533537208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06206842658219909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06321706546748057,0.07212489010491528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05086809456353352,0.0,0.13759547106574802,0.0,0.037418590754572836,0.1104475311622197,0.15797563837627313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05898002526945573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0441314017670176,0.0,0.06604324385903412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07048346123609074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0685625974262321,0.14473654783924814,0.16100602954049564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05813823927573475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679253447705792,0.0,0.06229973538216747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.143438895626166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2102125712368076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25390070160198996,0.06358902465443557,0.0,0.12357342510280868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07310792199290066,0.0,0.0,0.045645411737346,0.1149785159391004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21296111405863485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12653705109621655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05235889253764811,0.0,0.0,0.052466238157989176,0.05993858594707565,0.0,0.07438085987448817,0.0,0.054463821618807806,0.0,0.0,0.06711594994257511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15774057646223294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07644572622072397,0.08748281189159318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07678408036746079,0.0,0.12481791511302966,0.06291328025226206,0.21945316929481465,0.04470127883190949,0.0,0.0,0.06854213102051858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941717347477324,0.1567830263603279,0.05281316095186712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19173024892672128,0.0,0.1341938922710576,0.04677109878556631,0.0,0.0,0.1271970889137886
divorce,russellwilsonthedog4,2020/01/01,"Alone on NYE. After 19 NYE spent together, half my life. Just gone. For stupid reasons he didn’t even tell me before he left. But hey he’s going to counseling to understand it (1 session in 11months soo) 
My heart hurts. Probably one of the hardest days since he left. Idk why. Our 20th anniversary would of been Valentine’s Day and it didn’t suck this bad. He’s taking the kids and going to a NYE party with all our mutual friends.",0.7194961240310072,3.2482905232558146,2.160813953488372,92.33525193798452,91.44186046511628,5.657364341085271,19.95736434108527,7.1686216300943375,0.7086155038759694,339,11,69,6,12,109,66,86,0.179,0.76,0.061,-0.8786,0,1,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,3,0,4,2,1,1,1,9,11,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,2,0,1,3,2,4,0,2,5,0,5,1,10,5,1,10,0,1,0,0,11,4,1,0,3,33,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2241545302800407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807086570678872,0.0,0.0,0.18416461066371104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27915680083417216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429489037953352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16721202950249395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24600247187874044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564686723440806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316910570520181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4703001362288883,0.0,0.1528697653309108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466574714882404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23334639910275184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22252442072022155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790317924326444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16272720690439246,0.0,0.1891679435737633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22530957632100895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952929496552736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15374451150766508,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,maidenhair222,2020/01/01,Delete social media pics of ex? Did you delete social media pics of your ex?  Why or why not?,-0.6628070175438552,1.4995949999999991,1.1642105263157916,97.99614035087721,99.0,2.533333333333333,6.333333333333332,3.1291,-2.3976456140350875,71,0,15,0,3,23,12,19,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,1,0,7,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7487812750573719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6628171709630467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,thedogsbreakfast,2020/01/01,"What are your goals for 2020? I'm not quite ready to share the details of my story just yet... but I want to know what others are working towards for 2020. Here are mine: 

​

Buy all new bedding 

Go skating on my lunch hours

Lose those 10 post baby pounds 

Take a quilting class 

Visit more of my province

Travel home for a visit with my little one",1.6504285714285702,4.16920082857143,2.1510714285714307,95.22517857142859,83.57142857142857,3.5,20.17857142857143,3.1291,-0.4990000000000001,278,8,55,0,8,85,56,70,0.07400000000000001,0.8809999999999999,0.045,-0.4645,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,4,3,2,0,0,3,0,3,1,0,0,1,7,8,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,1,1,0,1,1,1,4,1,1,0,1,0,0,7,1,10,8,2,11,0,1,0,0,4,3,0,0,3,35,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909544693311479,0.3262959511915203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15261300759604005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693596384437369,0.0,0.26445007333876724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475782453947466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691397574498377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30041878488624096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25935002112355576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18196433262900966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571795679039077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2856169928534695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019027554781949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15838721786373294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954946013851985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3262959511915203,0.0
divorce,shadowstar36,2020/01/02,"Old friends won't talk to me as they now hang with my ex wife. How to make new friends at 40 when divorced not a drinker. Some of my good friends aren't answering texts or phone calls. I've been friends with this couple since 2004, before I was married or even knew my ex. I have no idea what she told them where they won't respond. She cheated and got pregnant 1 month after I moved out with a dude closer to her daughter's age then hers and he has 4 kids from 4 different women as well as no job. I'm an ex addict with 15 plus years clean and living in a new town, away from people I knew. I never relapsed during marriage and was a great husband and great step father that turned two kids lives around after my exs previous divorce (I should of seen the numerous red flags with how she treated her ex before me, but love is blind, so they say). She strayed because I wasn't exciting enough and she got some bullshit mid life crisis, and wanted to party. I did that phase of my life when I was a teenager and in my twenties it led me down a dark road. Going back there is like flirting with death and dispair, I wasn't having it.  Now she is smoking weed in the house and my step kids don't like it. The dude even pressured one of them to try it. Me not being blood related can't do anything. (but that's a whole other topic). 

Back to my issue, going to a bar to meet friends like I may have done in my twenties isn't an option. I'm kinda clueless on what to do to meet friends let alone a date. I spent over a decade focusing on my ex and my step kids where now I'm alone and really only have a few living family members left. It makes it worse having no siblings. I have some friends but they live hours away and it feels strange now without having kids or a wife hanging with other families. Which makes it infuriating that the couple that isn't talking to me won't respond. How can I get them to acknowledge me. I wrote texts explaining how their are two sides to every story and they didn't hear mine. No answer. I don't want to just show up there uninvited as it's an hour away but maybe I should just do it.

Any suggestions on how to meet new people for friends or date, without alcohol in the mix. I have a dog and love animals as well as hiking, gaming and paranormal photography, as some of my hobbies.",3.5392436974789945,4.518191579831933,4.396890756302522,88.47457983193277,72.27731092436973,7.280672268907563,26.18487394957983,7.510576382923642,1.1800016806722686,1816,58,390,20,34,586,230,476,0.102,0.7609999999999999,0.13699999999999998,0.9387,2,2,2,0,2,0,41.0,0,0,9,0,25,23,1,1,21,0,40,9,1,9,1,70,65,41,1,4,14,11,1,3,8,6,5,2,1,6,21,26,2,0,8,3,1,9,21,2,2,3,17,6,55,21,59,40,7,57,0,0,3,2,65,25,0,11,26,262,76,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08647299959429433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08477139974246377,0.0,0.1643079308381046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05394187421096214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06527548226236253,0.07061365138812148,0.0,0.0,0.2235776950463232,0.12198788254022695,0.0,0.04835412899248703,0.0,0.13499484518093585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08099692224951653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17553720032365058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08287490545025418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08117423816659768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08196112509569495,0.0,0.1047832429210475,0.0,0.06683244666830053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14955598251661065,0.0,0.0401077309122613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4902736080233711,0.0,0.04144262026245634,0.0,0.09016136565466054,0.06653176964951872,0.12688255587169545,0.17490619957222306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940198071648399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15623294590203113,0.09152726744271857,0.0,0.08954520517758179,0.0,0.08279185747585792,0.07871512872039194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0861838952798627,0.0811124111638294,0.11205535216195947,0.116258585902518,0.0,0.28017212536081826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14318291920886994,0.0,0.15884472453868145,0.0,0.0796898974155412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06331429150018157,0.08430703613875841,0.0,0.0,0.06117823663445768,0.2298298728470075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08323539517817358,0.0,0.05375083352559562,0.060328172514996524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10998417030458173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05081588724874772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06308026518586962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06561621425204837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275124968058126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07579584306853045,0.0,0.05385462499682984,0.08627986864654609,0.15497269389168886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09357267830430303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426405217598904,0.0,0.0,0.08856049898859343,0.0,0.1529277051819593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08083618560778072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051080951172927117
divorce,TikihutWaterfront,2020/01/02,"At last court date to finalize; Can I make a request to the judge to order he pay child support? We wrote up a dissolution of marriage and went through a mediator. In our dissolution it says STBXH will be responsible for paying for her healthcare, half her tuition, and her car insurance and above that split her expenses 50/50. HOWEVER, over the last three months, he has not paid me a dime in child support stressing instead he is paying the alimony and the car insurance. Can I request the judge to order him to pay a set amount based on his income vs. mine or will this delay the divorce going through? He makes at least four times what I do. Or should I just wait until after the decree is final and take him back to court to pay? I do not want to delay the divorce as I need the half equity out of our home to purchase mine and he won't get the equity out until the divorce is final. He is technically already violating our dissolution agreement which is why I am asking.",8.337397660818716,6.781296026315792,8.604385964912286,70.97459064327488,62.42105263157895,11.602339181286553,36.90058479532164,10.504223727775694,3.7347777777777775,775,30,145,15,9,257,109,190,0.08900000000000001,0.8540000000000001,0.055999999999999994,-0.5126,2,0,0,0,3,0,16.0,4,0,0,0,3,5,1,1,16,0,16,0,0,2,0,24,30,11,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,1,2,5,9,0,3,0,0,10,4,3,2,0,4,3,1,21,3,28,22,2,30,0,0,0,0,28,9,0,2,14,104,26,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990530021537816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16863026151025107,0.0,0.0,0.13870051911264808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5927899972992187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09424072004685437,0.0,0.10251369201431038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18093510803219204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940663485167775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408091174635638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14397700682162146,0.0,0.0,0.13374893794976525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434448298446109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20662383634806344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4093845001614392,0.0,0.0,0.1356227573125251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518059883682264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10639236279298324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16721338395926744,0.16276422867324114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,raytheater,2020/01/02,"The famous Scorched Earth Technique My Divorce is going to be on Jan 30th this month and this is what my ex's lawyer proposed for a divorce settlement.

* $1642 a month of 4 years 5 months.
* $100,000 life insurance with her as the beneficiary.
* $800 a month health insurance for life.
* Half my retirement account (current balance $164,000)
* Half any other retirement I will collect when I retire
* I keep the house and give her $2500
* Also pay her Attorney's fee of $7,000

I make about $6,000/month. Mortgage is $1350. Power $100-200/month. Water $35. Internet $75. Car Ins $68.
Trash $15. Home ins $50.


I have to accept these terms in 5 days or a date will be requested to appraised the house and put on the market.

Holy hell. How the f*ck is anyone suppose to move one with this kind of offer? I wished she worked this hard to stay married... but seriously... Holy F*ckin' Hell!

Edit: Add the attorney's fee she is requesting. And also my financial situation.",0.04913939790575839,2.33058495287958,2.0592784685863883,90.92959833115185,99.99476439790577,5.319437172774869,21.151996073298427,6.9077264865688965,0.9082629581151828,750,29,152,14,32,248,118,191,0.071,0.9059999999999999,0.023,-0.8439,3,0,0,0,2,0,57.0,0,0,0,2,5,5,2,0,11,0,10,4,0,2,0,14,15,11,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,7,7,1,1,1,0,4,4,0,3,0,3,0,1,15,2,19,11,1,20,2,0,0,0,12,5,2,1,10,75,22,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23097315080571734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09820541072651794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10097653520085167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09313407630017533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13853357062397895,0.08207291714736449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12936517997268346,0.0,0.0,0.15350366977223487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14485745112470028,0.0,0.0,0.3332651311570995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12836041125548814,0.0,0.15038333257602904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20400555309095106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09639642450472907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6916117868633743,0.15348756846605094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09785760618234284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14517438831573795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16232563223368549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15392444543331027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166067178036035,0.0,0.0,0.10513397563538203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09299687605624707
divorce,ODarling87,2020/01/02,"How to tell the kids (advice welcome) For those who told your kids about your impending divorce do you have any advice on what to do or what NOT to do? Kids are ages 4, 10 and 12. The 10 and 12 year old know we are talking about divorce (been separated since around the start of the school year, live in the same house but different rooms). We agreed to wait until after the holidays to let them know that it is definitely happening, but now the time has come and I have no idea how to do this. Do we ask grandparents to come over? Schedule a family counseling session to tell them? I'm dreading this so much.",3.1485950413223165,4.884619768595041,3.9521404958677695,88.27911983471077,74.45454545454545,7.815206611570248,24.49669421487604,8.548686976883017,1.465723305785124,476,15,101,9,10,152,80,121,0.057,0.866,0.078,0.4098,2,0,0,0,2,0,14.0,3,3,2,0,7,2,0,1,8,0,13,0,0,2,0,20,23,10,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,8,9,0,1,3,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,2,0,9,1,18,20,2,17,0,0,0,0,20,5,0,1,10,70,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3707831530882787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12901568007514294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16889046570384372,0.17736200445787256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3268528836006697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19821636612053126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788505412161369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677682158711235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21891068538627265,0.0,0.21417008052542166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085296127212354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940009137967513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675256830628366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13946556928159892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19907856878011498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19200613512286707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569378266794433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13428434939808173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15248924637974656,0.3316461901933433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11062689266270392,0.0,0.0,0.18128499210299956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24434611332511266
divorce,IggyNoBiggy,2020/01/02,"I miss my dogs so much. I left my husband in September. I know this is such a small thing to complain about — a lot of y’all have kids and have lost so much more than me — but man I miss my dogs and I need to vent. 

My parents wouldn’t let us have any dogs growing up. Makes sense — they’re a ton of responsibility, and we probably wouldn’t have actually taken care of a dog if we had one. 

So I got my first ever puppy at 20 years old when I was engaged to my now ex-husband. We got a second dog the next year, a couple of months before our wedding. Then we were only married for a year. 

I miss those dogs so much. I walked them, fed them, took them to the vet and the dog park, hung out with them, gave them toys, etc. But he was the one who paid for them, and it was his name on all the vet bills. 

STBXH did not take either one of those dogs on any walks during the entire time I was with them. Maybe 5 walks total over two years, when I took them either on a walk or to the dog park every single day. So I worry all the time if STBXH is taking care of them the way they need to be taken care of. I worry that they are bored and lonely and not getting the love they deserve. 

There’s nothing I can do, so it’s silly for me to sit here upset about it. I got a new puppy the day after I left him, and he is actually way more well-behaved than the other two were. But they’ll always be my first dogs, the dogs who I cried on and received comfort from when I was in the beginning stages of divorce. I’m really glad I have a new dog to love on or else I’m not sure how I would cope with the loss. 

You always hear to be careful who to have kids with. But seriously, be careful whose name you put on your dog’s vet bills.",2.3101546710661967,2.8187542627345863,3.861300268096517,92.93102650030936,74.73726541554959,6.596370385646527,20.780470200041247,6.297961479604792,-0.049674283357393545,1312,24,322,8,26,438,175,373,0.121,0.7959999999999999,0.083,-0.9148,1,4,0,0,1,0,36.0,6,4,13,4,17,22,0,1,25,0,30,3,0,2,5,47,62,28,0,7,13,2,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,3,13,18,1,0,1,1,3,9,5,10,0,8,20,1,54,12,43,33,14,51,0,6,0,2,46,15,0,5,23,222,67,0,0.0,0.0,0.1793252350889976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15290473136453278,0.0,0.0,0.12496448312321592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07818397719348222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.468394096408637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10166459651342427,0.10092698159076986,0.11851130828646785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07675479888882042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10247162040330116,0.0,0.08311163918936125,0.07741371871045248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15630789041252752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04800403857043882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22045692577136228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355658265352538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050495403454867034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19965798528010234,0.09395456391007104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10029898264590227,0.07811395404111078,0.1658524082888969,0.0,0.061331291596068926,0.0,0.09230683014209624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07333855031333819,0.0,0.2026293560047425,0.13625721817285855,0.0,0.17747851544965473,0.09771650280100792,0.0,0.0,0.0881623128223687,0.0,0.09641367016019699,0.0,0.18678286286546167,0.06987965292622962,0.0,0.0,0.10202299479682388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09906327540281146,0.0,0.0,0.09236579870902434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0588613315478468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08659677013982411,0.0,0.13816617848044613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061041664289775886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10715311854396677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20416637886188366,0.0,0.0,0.17950880344505776,0.0,0.11052154914369786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14586174746008435,0.0,0.0,0.08261206778076742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18661926335995133,0.0,0.06526963751623167,0.0,0.0,0.2366734472666819
divorce,satirerocks,2020/01/02,"Wife want to separate and take 3 year old son to her parents in neighboring state. We are in NY and her parents live two hours away in CT. She says she will try and come back on the weekends. If I go there on weekends I would need to find a place to stay as I am no longer welcome at her parent's house.

To further complicate things, she says she wants to move back to our area (NY) in a few months. But why have our son transition schools twice in a few months? I tried to reason with her that this won't be in his best interests. Her response is she can no longer live with me and I should move out. But I don't want out of the marriage, only she does.

Any suggestions on what is fair?",2.441736677115987,3.5276142896551765,3.2226332288401283,95.43614420062694,75.06896551724137,6.9278996865203775,23.52664576802508,7.348242739294969,0.5847931034482752,532,15,128,6,11,168,92,145,0.031,0.868,0.10099999999999999,0.8426,3,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,5,0,12,0,0,1,0,21,19,8,0,7,3,6,0,0,1,4,0,2,1,0,4,10,0,0,2,2,0,4,4,0,0,2,0,2,22,3,25,14,3,31,0,0,0,0,27,16,0,1,9,85,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09734794024642754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13449556222118556,0.22014936028865173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502286850542229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12331235615546275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12527285696548915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13083789287658332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08135630588177191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14097540829517088,0.1651776304079894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528108238478377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22852434980659286,0.3042948149814713,0.0,0.10614503578394442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502134361239151,0.0,0.0,0.10887317912236301,0.0,0.0,0.4768584554436978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14956286672850064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14718360104285585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22767966355885025,0.0,0.14487697741857325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525804699115246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076321251497493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09510350684145127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19438096628536272,0.0,0.13983823110960966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25330342047368964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12917197804857494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10169073026247223,0.0,0.0,0.09218488336288193
divorce,Business_Clerk,2020/01/02,"My Tenant and I talked at length, and he validated so much I have been feeling My (26f) husband(31M) and I rent a portion of our house out to a somewhat close friend of my husbands... The guy is nice, respectful, and generally tries to be a good person. My husband and him have been butting heads, and the tenant has started to distance himself more and more from my husband. (I would give more details, but tenant has reddit)

I started off talking to him just to see how he is doing personally(tenant has had personal issues, recent deaths in the family etc...) We ended up talking about my husband, and the things he was saying pretty much validated everything I have been feeling about my husband... and I realize I am not the crazy one.

​

Gaslighting is real yall.",5.722083333333334,7.052225930555558,6.251000000000001,75.89399999999998,67.47222222222221,8.26,33.84444444444444,8.548686976883017,2.9023327777777768,610,28,104,9,10,198,88,144,0.0,0.85,0.15,0.9474,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,2,1,0,0,5,4,0,0,8,0,18,1,1,1,0,24,24,13,1,1,4,5,2,0,1,1,0,1,4,3,1,12,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,5,4,21,4,15,17,8,10,0,0,1,0,23,6,0,1,4,86,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18309794986709085,0.205338381123482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14967281934851445,0.0,0.18846579843027828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15187512189140293,0.0,0.15930643137238726,0.0,0.17089037495017434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305593691004523,0.0,0.0,0.16210826516529792,0.0,0.14173874715546528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16732425186379762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734299887233361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19498895469388705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17637910753192826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484506000428624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11451034359394968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2951068372015797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17192109990206916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19234483853454107,0.0,0.0,0.16685482796834708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13438568979570722,0.0,0.0,0.1346612058453584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23922052845139544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4074773970194227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11226782549751703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11473146010979855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12004391361566838,0.0,0.205338381123482,0.0
divorce,01bx,2020/01/02,"Rough one today Been doing ok trying to work through everything and go through the motions of the divorce process. Been thinking I’ll be better off in the long run yeah stay positive on kids yeah focus on me yeah. But today for whatever reason I can’t get the images of the cheating evidence out of my head. I just want to call her and yell  and scream at her. I’m so pissed like it just happened yesterday. DD was 3 months ago.
Maybe it’s because it’s pouring raining today and I can’t go run to get it out of my system. 
Maybe it’s because I know I have to see her tonight at my sons practice.
Maybe because I got a bill from my layer to replenish the retainer.
Getting out here so I won’t confront her. 
Bitch.",1.1386479591836718,3.4182431496598653,2.8434651360544234,91.04029974489798,83.48979591836735,5.579761904761906,25.5140306122449,6.9077264865688965,1.1197214285714283,561,24,116,7,16,185,90,147,0.113,0.7609999999999999,0.126,-0.2654,0,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,0,0,2,5,8,4,0,7,4,9,2,2,1,0,15,21,7,0,1,3,1,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,5,7,0,1,3,0,1,5,3,5,0,1,4,4,16,3,22,15,0,24,0,0,1,0,8,9,2,0,9,70,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454273267668839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30002430704924793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14509577786489514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16752134014455972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14744455768240736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571402625922694,0.0,0.18647563863233788,0.0,0.13121199676645906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14507575651335636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16837061697610844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09016186756199976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08015034634569085,0.0,0.0,0.14518597617386653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4944542844446276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13094935792423928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11116980023458428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16867872565747333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13073281315320145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17486376907846202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10512160357444822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4665227891555756,0.0,0.0,0.11138446624748743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09676553154799764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194360206142256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,straighthoney92,2020/01/02,"Unhappily Newlywed  

# Unhappily Newlywed

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I'm a 27 y/o female and my husband is 30 y/o....

My husband and I had a rocky situation the led to break up right before our engagement. To put this simply, we moved into his parents house to save money so we could move out of state. The reason we had to move into his parents home is because he works in the food& beverage industry as an expo/ food runner. He worked part time and had no prospects for another job in San Diego, CA. With rent being outrages, I accepted the olive branch his parents gave me to alleviate some financial stress. (I work in IT as a project coordinator and make closer to 50k). Flashfoward - living there for 2 months. My husband (then bf) basically became depressed, wanted to stay home, never wanted to have sex and only wanted to assist his step mother with anything she needed. I attempted to talk to him about it multiple times for months prior to our move in (there were early signs of depression). He refused all my attempts to communicate about his emotional state and our physical connection for 2019. In the meantime, I thought he lost attraction so I lost 65lbs and now am 5'7 and weigh 129lbs. He still rejected me.... this is the part in my story where I share a huge character flaw. I cheated, multiple times..... through out the course of 2 months while we stayed at his folks. I don't have any excuses to offer other than selfish ones but that was my reaction to it all. By cheating i mean, I had multiple flirtatious conversations with men and went on a few dates (no physical contact) then I had 1 full fledged affair. I broke up with my then bf and felt terrible bc the break up consisted drunk me on the phone with my lover in front of my then bf. I basically regretted everything and was given another chance. We immediately moved out of state and got engaged. His family provided us the ring bc he didn't have a job. We lived out of state for 3 months before the actual wedding. I have been employed and paid for the entire event (it was a small wedding and was 3k- 3.5k). This happened 12/21/19.... I feel completely empty inside. Everyday I convince myself that I can put all my doubts aside and just make it work but I feel like I'm dying of regret.

I've really, really fucked up now. I don't know what to do.",3.586252913752915,5.764255977272725,4.927727272727271,79.82780885780888,74.45454545454545,8.603729603729603,27.645687645687648,9.265573868473778,2.6156089743589743,1810,72,336,45,39,601,237,440,0.128,0.8009999999999999,0.071,-0.9793,7,1,0,0,0,0,72.0,10,0,0,8,11,25,4,2,20,0,26,6,0,4,4,62,49,26,1,7,3,7,3,1,4,0,0,1,3,1,12,32,3,1,8,2,3,12,6,16,0,1,21,4,53,9,61,26,8,67,0,8,0,3,49,26,1,2,22,215,65,8,0.0,0.0,0.08223124789575784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913019397565048,0.0,0.057303621460585465,0.17672003971185918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06934355880165967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05136763867353164,0.0,0.14340794828754078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08835106936343866,0.0,0.0,0.06727937027977735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451559893844035,0.0,0.08745457802316901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09478766305750763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757326515097862,0.0,0.07943827995094177,0.0,0.08521462271965985,0.06019949160693967,0.0809083655058042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20378903652524108,0.0,0.0,0.07790235775938455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06739504381315725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07451595286555324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16905090022201075,0.0,0.0,0.09723139886365774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16724157272599682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04631027013050034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04116800473071055,0.0,0.14881645892293946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18397211081985726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11249612784280767,0.0,0.0,0.09179014012474733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690405734871002,0.4478059537257911,0.0,0.062482009738327925,0.06499096601679898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057100674802206486,0.06408792448864738,0.0,0.0,0.2807015366925333,0.18250326086155105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16942077085719565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10796563559129224,0.0866392584991048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07196251753793627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09471826973742893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17963222371125864,0.06729476247764014,0.0,0.09652616875148078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06772964376318867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06689761844998435,0.14740816566200735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101361360557516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491064246942657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07811522427823549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.245385972030951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,TillYouSaySo,2020/01/02,"Getting help mentally.. I am seriously going insane with this process.. I gave him a big talk about how serious this choice is and if he is sure if he doesn’t want to work it out somehow.. and he has made it clear he doesn’t.. he says someone else will make me happier than he can. 

I just feel so unworthy for anyone. I don’t even want me. It’s just so fucking pathetic. Getting jealous of others having what I have tried for years to keep and I failed... it’s really sad when the hook up sees it too. So I have decided to seek psychological help. 

I just feel anxious and judged 24/7 and I can’t turn that feeling away... if I didn’t have to take care of my 3 year old I’d honestly just be in bed.. it’s not worth waking up anymore and I just get disappointed to wake up... it’s pathetic and sad to think about that but I don’t know what to do or how to feel.. I can’t express how I feel to the person I’ve been sleeping with and it’s just gotten depressing.",0.7783823529411791,2.6561763480392173,3.0223137254901964,91.56141176470587,82.08823529411767,6.629019607843138,21.964705882352945,7.734863291789972,0.8323517647058827,741,24,172,13,20,253,115,204,0.138,0.775,0.087,-0.8709,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,0,2,18,12,2,0,3,0,20,4,3,5,2,42,43,20,0,5,12,0,5,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,15,11,0,1,8,0,1,1,8,9,0,0,5,7,18,3,24,36,0,12,0,5,1,1,14,7,1,5,4,110,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914669485568448,0.168081067821602,0.11850608289792225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592343585255313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727986724278914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459750020930513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14158085522588362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11194157226172044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4284771431965959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15668381146664073,0.26564278456166823,0.0,0.09632079278412244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22720105269353474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15064380558114027,0.0,0.0,0.0931431325417415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16036840995990945,0.1131308640239854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17079846591934253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17784334105961888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14798555457413345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10857480940507362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13477926177400507,0.0,0.0,0.1350555847205578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16960486708258748,0.0,0.14360194588255942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15973522116779765,0.0,0.12742972423710475,0.13622358859627448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085975226500518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11506747124161665,0.18434825801500465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1999303025583271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12338525586417262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21828230650315406
divorce,Kerrypug,2020/01/02,"Changing my name after separating (UK) Happy new year everyone!  

I'm recently separated from my husband and it is well and truly over, but I cannot get divorced until we have been apart for 2 years due to UK law (until/if/when no fault divorce comes into play in this country). If I were to change my name by deed poll back to my maiden name, will this cause me any issues in the future with the divorce or any other official matters?  

On a more opinion-finding note, would I be best going back to 'miss' at this stage since I am still legally married for the foreseeable? is Ms a good option?

Thanks for any input you can give.",4.93209677419355,5.525234306451615,5.8711290322580645,80.57669354838713,68.83870967741936,8.135483870967743,29.20967741935484,8.07648339933343,1.952164516129032,490,17,94,6,8,162,94,124,0.048,0.757,0.195,0.9564,0,0,0,0,3,0,16.0,1,1,0,1,4,8,0,0,5,0,11,0,0,1,0,17,18,6,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,6,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,2,1,0,2,0,11,6,18,13,2,21,0,1,0,0,10,7,0,3,11,62,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3915898384917959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2951894418490927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014356145879073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971815429347364,0.40610709525114574,0.16534458941375335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18341274677427724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17543527957705765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10028392729912552,0.18413221208149214,0.10908740544444934,0.16099530165709278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20433021780038896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20034188387431834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853827622689872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18952364050630427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15877981696194632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15328842225726952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767182018397807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17258261692295732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363530190051303,0.0,0.0,0.247214020800546
divorce,MarieFromOz,2020/01/02,"Help a divorce newbie make a checklist. Also, what important details and to do items should I be considering? I am planning an exit and need to know how to plan accordingly. Any tips, tricks, ideas.. anything that you wish you had done differently, things that you learned along the way... things that you should have prioritized. Adulting world things...

I have been with my husband since I was 18... I am now 42. I have not told him of my desire to leave just yet... but am not asking these questions as a way to screw him over either. I will tell him when I have some details figured out. My youngest graduates this spring from high school, I plan on telling him then.

I am considering moving across the country for a new start. (I really do not have any family here or there)

My situation:

* I am a nurse, so steady and ok pay is covered. (Never will be as good as a two income, of course)
* My youngest child is now 18 and she will come with me. (student, no income)
* Should I wait to relocate for when the divorce is final? Does it matter?
* My credit is fair, not horrible. I have one credit card that is used more than I want it to be used.
* 6K in my 401k- so probably not a good option to pull from.
* The car is in his name. How do I go about getting that in my name with just ok credit- and not having a car payment out the you-know-what for the little compact car that I have?
* Getting a car for my 18 year old is also something we need to do.
* The house was mortgaged in his name, somehow my name is on the title. No real equity in it as the point in buying was to fix up and sell eventually (10 years ago- and he has no interest in fixing it and turning a profit.)
* He can keep the house (or should we sell it?)
* If we want to sell, Do I fix up the house by pulling funds from saving? or
* Do I just save money for my move? Can I? Or is it his money?
* He has no savings, no 401k either. His credit is much better than mine.
* He has a few credit cards and a home equity loan. The equity loan would likely take any profit that we could get from the house sale.

Moving to another state!!! Exciting, scary... Help me adult lol

Yes, I will be talking with an attorney too, but in the meantime...

Thank you, everyone!

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divorce,ohwelp__,2020/01/02,"Setting of Your Divorce Talk I'm curious about everyone's story of how and when the talk with your STBX occurred. I'm preparing to have it happen on a Friday night so she has the weekend to process it. For all I know it'll pop up an hour after this post. Best laid plans of mice and men...

Was it impulsively during dinner? A call during work? Or, crafted perfectly according to your plans to minimize distraction?",2.3843194444444435,5.051514237500001,3.954166666666669,82.5452777777778,81.625,7.555555555555558,26.38888888888889,8.515128840125781,2.3634722222222218,329,14,60,8,9,109,61,80,0.031,0.833,0.136,0.8638,0,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,0,3,0,5,4,3,0,1,5,0,4,1,0,1,2,8,8,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,2,13,6,2,9,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,1,5,39,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33148191000041394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32253453149981004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3018235268055203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793192862392194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31106441215207753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17359170890206074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29641887082041385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3025123423016528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5077622985591812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299542310237537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Throwaway19721990,2020/01/02,How do you look up a family court judge's case history? Is it possible to look up a family court judge's case history to see what their usual rulings are and see where you stand?,5.896216216216217,5.165798216216217,7.252027027027029,76.01966216216219,66.83783783783784,12.80540540540541,29.31081081081081,12.161744961471696,3.5838756756756767,142,4,30,5,2,49,25,37,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,0,2,7,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,4,7,0,5,0,0,4,0,3,3,0,0,1,17,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5584274476242583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4974360236849952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3339003365870009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4720368966049327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3262022709163577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Manifestotrifecta,2020/01/02,"I need some advice A brief overview:  my STBX and I have been married for 23 years, together for 26.  Divorce was decided on last March, and I moved out in may.  The original plan was for me to stay on the mortgage for a year or two to allow him to repair his credit and refinance, and buy me out of my share of the equity.  Since the split, I've learned of extensive cheating with different women, and he is in a relationship with the most recent affair partner.  She lives in a different state.



Since we broke up, I have bent over backwards to be more than fair.  I have agreed to take only half of his base pay, not demanding a share of his bonuses, which can be quite large.  Because of his bad credit, some of the loans that we have taken out for house things are in my name only.  I've agreed to pay the bill every month for the windows in the house, until he can refinance and pay them off.  I live in a tiny rental house with our two minor children, while he stays in the big house with our adult daughter.  From the beginning, I've made it clear that I don't want his side piece ""girlfriend"" in that house or around my kids.  I know that legally, he has the right to do whatever he wants, but I also have the right to not cooperate and stay on the mortgage so that he can keep the house.  If he can't buy me out at the time of the divorce, we will have to sell it, if I don't cooperate.



Until last weekend, he had respected that.  I am sure it isn't out of respect for me or my feelings, but at least the possibility of me not going with the plan was enough to keep her out of that house.  However, I found out that he had her stay at the house with him and my daughter last week/weekend.  He demanded that our daughter keep it a secret from me, and manipulated the fact that she gets lonely when he leaves for AP's state a weekend every month to make her feel like she had some complicity in this.  He regularly threatens to kick her out or charge her rent whenever she is ""disrespectful"" about his side piece.  She is a college student and not able to support herself yet, and he knows this.  He also knows I wouldn't let my child be homeless, and that if he kicked her out I would take her into my already full house.



I am absolutely livid that he had that woman in that house.  Because of the lack of storage space in my rental, that house is still filled with my things.  She was left alone there on Friday while he was at work, with free reign to go through whatever she wanted.  My books are still on the shelves in the bedroom where he and I lived.  Things of mine are still in the closet.  My photo albums are still there.  Maybe she didn't look at any of it, but I feel violated.  This disgusting thing was walking around the home we worked for together, feeling like she belonged there, probably fantasizing about getting out of her mommy's house and living there.



I haven't spoken to him since I found out.  Once he found out I knew, he sent me a suck up text thanking me for not interfering and acknowledging that I am upset and saying it wasn't his intention to upset me.  I didn't respond to it.  Then he had the kids for the holiday, and he decided to buy me salt for my driveway.  When that didn't work, he started being a jerk.  He wanted to keep the kids longer than the agreed upon time yesterday, but wouldn't text me a time.  He demanded a phone call.  I am not ready to speak to him.  For one, I am still too angry.  I don't want to unleash every angry, venomous thing I have to say.  Two, I haven't decided what I'm going to do.  I don't want to give him anything to argue against, and I know that I am weak to his manipulation and based on history, he always gets what he wants in the end.  I told him if he couldn't text me a time, to return the kids when we agreed.  He said it was complicated and he needs a phone call, and if I don't call he's bringing them back whenever.  I didn't call, and he brought them back almost five hours after the agreed time.  I found out they didn't even do anything in that extra time.  He kept them just to punish me for not calling him.



The advice I need is about what to do about the house.  I want to make the right choice.  The pros for letting him keep it are: financially, I will make more money if I let him buy me out.  If we have to sell, there are repairs that will need to be made, and I will eat half the cost of the windows and the air conditioner/furnace he replaced after I left.  The difference between my payout from him and what I get from what's left after we sell could be significant; I might get less than half of what I would get from him.  Our daughter would be able to keep her home.  Our other kids would have their bedrooms when they are with him.  With his bad credit, he might have to move in with someone until he is able to rent or buy his own place, and there may not be a place for the kids at all.  The cons for letting him keep it are:  that woman is guaranteed to live in that house eventually, maybe as soon as this summer if he can pay me off by then.  (In fact, I am very sure this is their plan.  He always says that if she even moves here at all she will get an apartment and see how things go, but I don't believe him.  It makes better financial sense for them to live together, she wouldn't have to find a job here before moving if she moved in with him, and she could help with his bills once she gets a job rather than financing her own living situation.  Who cares about what's best for the kids and the fact that it would be better for her to live elsewhere while they get to know her and determine if it would even last.  They don't want to live apart after a year of this ridiculous long distance crap they've been doing.). I don't know if I can live with that.  He also gets away with doing whatever he wants with no consequences, yet again.  He sees me as a doormat, and he thinks he can get away with walking all over me, and because I have let him for pretty much our whole life together, he thinks I have to take it and I won't do anything about it.  If he keeps the house, he wins.  Despite being the one who stole seven years of my life and controlling our relationship through not giving me the information I needed to decide if I wanted to be with him, despite trashing me as a person, despite being a liar and a cheater and making a joke of me and everything I cared about in my life, he gets everything he wants in the divorce and continues his life as it was with just a change of the characters in their roles. While I have to pick up the pieces and start over with a front row seat to watching him flaunt his gross relationship and his sweet life, because we have kids together and I can never be completely free of him.



What should I do?  Let him keep the house and get more money and just cut him out of my life as much as I can?  Suck up the pain and disrespect and complete disregard for everything we had and that I've given him?  Stay in my role as ""the better person"" and let him take advantage of the fact that he knows I'm not vindictive and spiteful by nature?  Or do I stand up for myself for once and make him sell?  Take the hit financially?  Put my daughter out of the home she loves, even though I know she will be ok and she will be moving out in a few years anyway?



I know this is long and a huge vent.  If you've read it all, thank you.",5.7617992592592575,4.988035587333336,6.075422222222228,84.48830370370372,67.12666666666667,9.354074074074076,28.85185185185185,8.552402840862174,1.7477096296296295,5711,155,1264,73,81,1836,448,1500,0.092,0.8220000000000001,0.086,-0.8849,13,3,0,0,3,0,149.0,16,1,12,15,49,51,13,2,86,1,138,11,1,16,12,249,241,104,0,47,40,5,4,2,2,22,8,5,11,17,69,100,1,12,29,6,28,19,35,22,0,10,36,15,199,31,224,157,27,179,0,2,4,1,206,90,3,30,64,888,268,19,0.08734836939858527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0569038770961736,0.0,0.0,0.029155591502288344,0.03015552260234537,0.03213036589538002,0.069852459449952,0.04845389378106894,0.0,0.0,0.019799962164751512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07188026545162382,0.0518390451296416,0.0,0.0,0.05471111225497519,0.04477700291629455,0.04862149326932765,0.07099567366283252,0.0,0.024775676282265967,0.032803900215683336,0.030555574905891687,0.07725253444310122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486540854818717,0.0,0.059371656043674864,0.0,0.030800997614414436,0.0,0.06105540229476272,0.0,0.032656207887706484,0.04649371024217598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09126045486878476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02979306281302632,0.0,0.0,0.025788242972513132,0.030084738426560505,0.0,0.07692369891423177,0.0,0.07359476852258898,0.0,0.07850308216007598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05888794679035636,0.04160112836758585,0.0,0.0,0.026611609060390264,0.0,0.0,0.1276973047117973,0.0,0.0,0.19775564397231446,0.05586167679785585,0.06618945503090498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.019515923594422373,0.0,0.08761753645749769,0.0,0.028673516289495563,0.5375375502368097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05778651903572804,0.2329177324098191,0.0,0.0,0.14401313839276586,0.09493410572188048,0.0,0.03082977036140269,0.09490425892944243,0.2084124600673309,0.12339347300879393,0.02844933410105813,0.0,0.2571007015842096,0.051533705483241016,0.0244502103486103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026278437896751487,0.05510075941343835,0.11661142968951987,0.0,0.05850211831979658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061775210922361976,0.0,0.0,0.0464804234012648,0.18567498629076434,0.04280740129343739,0.1079461818698019,0.022456149112117976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302316266710818,0.03945967713203295,0.044288247330597434,0.03098160785268139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050846151316783834,0.060840303245856514,0.0,0.0,0.0328240540544117,0.0,0.029621564661334532,0.03139210527455265,0.0,0.0,0.0292697456756971,0.0,0.030968580926236125,0.02912400236928645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028748658998433717,0.09377945951938206,0.0,0.07459503020300988,0.027696100624459683,0.06946292925258926,0.0,0.0,0.04640356091944193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07225547379965315,0.03272774231907437,0.0,0.0,0.024669996645082928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04121708362660577,0.15516956618088595,0.11626086772366455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033040631489502016,0.054883202955117415,0.0,0.10945850524839652,0.0,0.0,0.053612428612453175,0.0,0.0,0.11606075069051244,0.037312872092027466,0.028606443147405018,0.0,0.10186707326658896,0.0,0.0,0.027821703397494492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08532666468793595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02402385087170311,0.2060813255580003,0.0,0.023355197719708055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03250711168113839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06359065323622867,0.0,0.0,0.12409955094720918,0.0,0.0,0.0937491434398416
divorce,sweet-tea05,2020/01/02,"How did you tell your spouse that you are moving out/initiating a divorce? I am moving out on January 8th. I plan on moving my stuff out while he is at work. 

Should I break the news now? He’s currently on a break from work. However, I don’t want to give him time to stew. He needs to be in a good headspace for going back to work on January 6th. 

I do fear that he’ll get violent and verbally abusive. He’s been one to lightly slap me, get rough, throw things, scream in my face and break my things. 

I want to get my things out before he has the chance to ruin them. 

I don’t know what to do.",1.1800501073729457,2.6558280787401567,2.942648532569794,94.52896206156048,79.23622047244095,6.822906227630638,20.20687186828919,7.686295010490155,0.3872897637795276,454,11,111,7,11,151,76,127,0.142,0.787,0.071,-0.9195,2,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,0,3,1,4,3,5,1,1,5,0,12,1,1,1,0,12,22,4,0,4,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,7,5,0,0,1,0,0,5,2,4,0,1,2,3,17,1,20,17,0,23,0,1,0,0,15,10,0,0,5,68,24,3,0.0,0.20810673848857847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350576548747083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494581824903737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976457866625373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2752966764218419,0.16849155982572075,0.09982124742270214,0.14731995664512296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09652810582667204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5600381129617471,0.0,0.1302361232462823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11901938737454353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20106776819681774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15351862081473866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.350065698692724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024181099544518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071960956934756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38360783164031137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,mystic_bird,2020/01/02,"Divorce People in the UK! 

How much did your divorce cost in total? 
My current partner is married but obviously wants to get divorced to his wife but we're unsure on how much in total this would be. 

Any help would be greatly appreciated 😘",2.6243478260869537,5.269528391304352,4.415391304347828,79.79265217391305,80.30434782608697,5.419130434782609,28.76521739130435,6.742157984588678,1.6962834782608691,190,9,33,2,5,64,36,46,0.048,0.785,0.16699999999999998,0.8037,1,0,0,0,3,0,3.0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,2,3,10,8,4,0,3,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,6,3,4,5,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,1,25,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498369451045348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19194545601078225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4050473886953665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24625293175580104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5401460001805275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547010974376698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21669540069526874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5219648475337447,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,cakelovinhippie,2020/01/02,"Burning question for women Recently told by wife that she wants divorce. Always been very spiritual (saved Christian and me too). What could be so bad to make her want to divorce and split our family up. We have kids. Been married for quite a while. She is not willing to work it out. I just can't understand. 

I guess I also need to mention we have no major arguments. No yelling or cursing. No abuse. 

I mean we bicker over normal married couple things, but never did I imagine this.",2.1549703557312228,4.8840160978260885,3.3196442687747063,86.15895256916995,83.67391304347825,5.519367588932806,25.75494071146245,6.980632752743323,1.4137260869565211,379,16,68,5,11,122,74,92,0.132,0.856,0.013000000000000001,-0.8336,0,0,0,0,4,0,14.0,4,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,1,0,10,0,0,1,1,23,18,7,0,5,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,5,6,0,0,4,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,4,1,13,1,10,11,1,6,1,0,0,0,15,3,0,3,3,53,18,1,0.0,0.2680698105157586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18093241933050866,0.1882585158094598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889096921845221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806425903399096,0.2503418419977591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21328880759156416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492404007027056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510239457669435,0.0,0.0,0.24645308971896795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16776185689371118,0.17449831056900394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.221677423338368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534523065516826,0.24064522484986314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22339504432859247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15031075911360667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161920200910537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355347186993765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866803328363944,0.2668967786221077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16471303698450093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Jacques_Henri,2020/01/02,"Packing our Christmas ornaments into separate boxes Tl;dr I'm doing what it says in the title, fielding really tough and painful questions from our 6yo daughter.

I'm 5 months separated. Back story, if desired, is contained in my post history. If we don't pursue divorce, it will be because it's not financially beneficial to stay together.

We are still living together, as neither of us can afford to be on our own. What she does on her own time is obviously her business, but it's hard to ignore her being dressed for a date at 7:30 am. Also, our shared bank account has charges for either sex toys or lingerie; the trigger notwithstanding, these are luxuries we can't afford. I'm not here to bag on her, but her process of 'moving on' has involved constant (several times a week, including two weekend long rendezvous) dating. While I've seen a couple women, it's just really hard to not be effected by this. And I don't judge her, do you boo, I know I plan to, but she knows that her activity while we cohabitate (with two children no less) is hurtful to me. If that's toxic, I'll own it, but it feels like more than one should have to deal with.

The real reason for this post is reassurance that I'm doing this well and that all this is for the best. I'm currently sorting thru our Christmas ornaments and, like the title says, putting them in their separate boxes. I keep coming to the family ornaments and it just crushes me. I'm putting them in her box, because I just can't. I'm not being passive aggressive, but I'm sure it'll be perceived that way. She made half of them. Whatever.

My daughter (almost 6) asked me why I was separating them. We've been pretty honest with her; I want her to have a healthy idea of how to end a relationship that isn't working. I reminded her that her mother and I were moving into separate homes and explained again how that will work. She asked me when this arrangement would end, like when would we all be back together again...

I explained that we would never be together like that again. That she and her sister would never be apart from her mom and they'd never be apart from me, but that her mom and I would not live together again. Then she wanted to know why I was crying, if this was something I wanted. I told her that if I was honest, I don't want this, but know it's for the best in the long run.

Sometimes I feel like this is all too much for her. I think I'm doing okay, but her mother is basically avoiding me, because she's overwhelmed by the emotions of it all, so there's no reassurance from my co parent.

I'm just at a particular low and wishing for any positivity in my life.",4.9994422490685295,5.697474610364687,6.05911313085695,78.91463108275941,68.73128598848369,9.046878175454443,30.486677204471043,9.168548406835145,2.5356929660155823,2076,79,403,38,34,692,230,521,0.073,0.7859999999999999,0.141,0.9903,4,2,1,0,1,0,69.0,12,1,6,6,21,23,1,2,15,1,51,3,0,6,9,93,82,35,0,17,24,8,4,5,0,9,2,2,1,2,35,23,0,4,14,2,2,6,17,8,1,4,9,7,72,15,50,53,14,55,0,3,1,1,69,17,0,9,33,298,107,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08664274504317013,0.0,0.0,0.06919437545150985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058840276780882085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16177924150979134,0.0,0.0,0.13306546866556607,0.0,0.1582353436009207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18160625456772994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07453401837083458,0.0,0.09350327859529814,0.0,0.0,0.09573877069964454,0.09504414987423927,0.0,0.08920394523468067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757190091369369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09732949135776592,0.15327174280126746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08156849881687836,0.0,0.08749974013513248,0.12362760530439007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15501962547865844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679208665688026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09262728960644236,0.09767670727278964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07690780039618875,0.0,0.0,0.19020850988625926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061115488036277726,0.21135983478267614,0.0,0.15280712473991453,0.1531446105274119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08187247803168203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20267513531343329,0.06906379302814522,0.18392573167108325,0.06360616549207827,0.0,0.20020129607248124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05863188789992824,0.0,0.09206918508227367,0.0,0.0960762786645634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16573493692565489,0.08802749464130573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739639624089815,0.09692831236923136,0.0,0.0,0.09848491111926833,0.110860844726629,0.08896257898262391,0.0,0.09289595789068887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13761703008063894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09774913615114272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06661152284603851,0.08557588787652735,0.0,0.0,0.09222462291677123,0.06909934048080335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08154921776187551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05544201809872752,0.0,0.0,0.10090737776820917,0.0,0.0,0.0826787806361815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16904559464144067,0.0,0.10407946929136527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20413982165398054,0.06867987909678333,0.06940550121587037,0.0,0.07779677572656298,0.0,0.15615153071492133,0.0,0.09950000359014624,0.0,0.0,0.12598312414144786,0.0,0.0,0.30732600502625784,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,PNW-Traveler,2020/01/02,"Post-Divorce Desire For Intimacy My wife divorced me last year. There was no abuse or infidelity on either side, but for several reasons she stopped loving me and left after many years. However, she had cut me off from affection and intimacy long before she left. 

I’m not a hook-up or FWB kind of guy, and I’m not ready for a relationship.

Fellow Redditors, how do you manage your desire for intimacy and touch? I’m not necessarily speaking of sexual needs, although I feel those too.",4.236181318681318,6.539022879120883,6.092403846153848,71.64322115384617,72.95604395604396,9.385164835164835,28.957417582417587,9.827888789773867,3.2387681318681327,386,16,67,11,8,133,67,91,0.157,0.6970000000000001,0.146,0.2255,1,0,0,0,3,0,13.0,0,2,0,0,3,3,1,0,2,0,3,1,0,3,0,19,9,9,0,3,7,1,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,3,10,2,10,7,1,11,0,0,0,1,12,5,0,2,6,42,11,1,0.0,0.2664657371693304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19137047201127252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137144960712098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2226830269022652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341952373823427,0.0,0.18332077412321116,0.0,0.0,0.4887017040501508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19902644493859525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029779936872949,0.0,0.0,0.2280098890223119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667580052377833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21538880921004525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312311973174059,0.0,0.24145482083210346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25406918332915673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18802365711002586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28965211889819104
divorce,fabrab91,2020/01/02,"Has anyone had it all, but still chose to walk away? The house, the dogs, the white picket fence, the years of amazing memories, great family, and pretty amazing spouse...

I’ve got all that but am so unhappy and unfulfilled deep down. My head tells me I’m an idiot to leave, my heart tells me I’m an idiot to stay. 

This has been the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through. I crush my husband a little more every day. He doesn’t want this. And he doesn’t understand how I could feel this way. Honestly, I don’t understand it either.",2.1767924528301883,4.261703660377363,3.3496603773584934,89.92694339622645,78.43396226415095,6.881509433962264,20.97735849056604,7.908726449838941,0.8680747169811318,412,11,86,7,10,133,72,106,0.163,0.639,0.19899999999999998,0.7704,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,0,4,6,2,0,8,0,9,2,2,1,3,16,17,7,0,2,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,1,3,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,4,2,8,4,7,12,4,12,0,0,1,0,6,4,0,0,4,52,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401224271761264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18827982716845126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16000090965105385,0.0,0.0,0.12923965749101127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18127079917783764,0.1688433388493236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18891670656861292,0.0,0.10132687846229092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16027599948150814,0.2209386921579482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20566540853116705,0.0,0.0,0.2374717239334827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23123153799056584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121917685839076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20085070580863884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038760626508013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21359682081538428,0.1600375147151223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3503120850030802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13313503832769236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41724124056672535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11819949902766252,0.15906602125439698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12904926839566214
divorce,Mazzoun1,2020/01/02,Coping with divorce I am 41 m currently going through a divorce after 13 years of marriage. Any advice on how to cope with this change? Also what kind of emotional support can I provide to my daughter (she is 12 years and will be staying with her mom most of the time). Thanks.,4.334444444444443,5.74472188888889,4.971296296296298,83.46583333333334,70.85185185185185,6.881481481481483,32.01851851851852,7.1686216300943375,2.0784962962962954,218,10,40,2,4,70,46,54,0.0,0.872,0.128,0.7102,1,0,0,0,2,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,1,0,6,8,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,11,6,1,8,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,5,29,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764948862541336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22627453893336066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924152998336645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993229553591885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3182799994636911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16080666884140818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29464826646042275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3313869263004014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3015864207549562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.321087634503868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605017989539571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16499007491928852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3644202831102274
divorce,Felinoface,2020/01/02,Do you think that you can ever feel the same about anyone again? Divorce finalised a year ago. I'm in a relationship with another divorced person and I've started wondering:  do you think that you could ever truly love again after divorce? Or does divorce take away that ability to totally trust someone in a way you need to in order to love someone?,6.87318181818182,7.43993859090909,7.293484848484847,72.16022727272728,64.60606060606061,9.630303030303034,36.196969696969695,9.516144504307137,3.625315151515151,281,13,46,5,4,92,45,66,0.0,0.759,0.24100000000000002,0.9567,0,0,0,0,4,0,5.0,0,5,0,0,5,3,0,0,4,0,4,2,0,0,3,13,14,2,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,3,10,13,2,14,0,0,0,2,13,4,0,2,8,34,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19023444851541266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22503213060050176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500568567240429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016285302704024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17134468806372016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878023454126074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3882451494547897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085107729728296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3873789139018812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15912694223634982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18738487187266675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.230405534489644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3636683635413755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518985750999618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16135630682099594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2750205305650271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703435177513206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327300470210955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13819863078484934
divorce,ghostturtles,2020/01/02,"UPDATE: I’ve never been happier Hi, Reddit! I’m writing to update and thank you for the advice you gave me on [my original post, “How Do I Divorce My Wife When She Relies On Me For Everything?”](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/cth73w/how_do_i_divorce_my_wife_35_f_when_she_relies_on/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) The tl;dr was that my wife wouldn’t work or contribute in any way, relied on me for everything, but for many years I was too racked with guilt to leave. 

However, since that post, I followed your advice to leave my wife (which was the same advice I received from literally every other person in my life), and it was the difficult thing I’ve ever done. I’ve never wept so hard as I did after I told my now-ex — whom I’d been with for half my life — that I had filed for divorce and that I was leaving and did not plan to speak with her again for the foreseeable future.

But despite any pain and stress I’ve experienced in the last four months, filing for divorce was *by far* the best decision I’ve ever made, and since I did, I’ve experienced a sense of lightness, possibility, and fierce, fearless joy I never knew possible.

I am happy to answer any questions y’all might have. Here are the highlights, though:

- The divorce process isn’t a ton of fun. I’ve had to switch attorneys when I realized the first law firm was unethically making the process more contentious than anyone wanted to boost their billable hours, and I will end up paying a not-insignificant amount of spousal support for a couple years. But all of this is a (very) small price to pay for the freedom I now have.

- There have been emotional ups and downs for sure. Aside from one brief texting conversation, I haven’t spoken with my ex since I left in September. Old habits die hard, though, and during long weekends alone, I’ve twice been overcome with guilt about leaving and broken down in tears. I actually know I don’t have anything to feel guilty about; I think this is simply part of the process of grieving and extricating myself from the familiar emotional ruts I’d taken for reality for so long.

- Modern dating is STRANGE. And fun! But strange! For context, the last time I was single, my phone flipped, haha, so dating apps took some getting used to. That said, I was very relieved to find that my worst fears — that I would be an undesirable guy to date, that I would be Forever Alone — could not have been less realistic. I often had dates with 3-4 different women a week (I live in a major city, which helps); and more than once, I found myself jokingly saying on a date with a gorgeous woman, “Are you sure you’re on the right date? Like, have you SEEN me?” I’m not the Cryptkeeper or anything, but I look like what I am: a mid-30s creative guy who works in tech and owns entirely too much Nintendo memorabilia. Luckily, no ladies bolted mid-date.

- I did not plan on dating seriously for at least six months or so, but I met a woman on Tinder who is my “dream girl” and so much more. We’re deliriously happy and in love. She’s a few years younger than I am but is deeply wise, as well as hilarious, kind, thoughtful, generous, and beautiful. This sounds like I’m making it up, but she’s literally a professional model. As I joke with friends, “I swear she’s real, you guys, she just goes to a different school.”

There were many folks who reached out and said how much they related to my previous circumstances. So if I had any advice to share to those struggling with leaving a partner who is dependent on them, it would be this: Do not set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. We’re on this earth for all too brief a trip and we cannot make ourselves miserable to avoid making someone else uncomfortable. Relationships should be about two people coming together because they WANT to share their lives together, not because one of them NEEDS the other. And anyway, people are more resilient than we give them credit for.

Thank you so so much, Reddit. You changed and saved my life. If I can repay the favor by answering any questions, please let me know.

tl;dr: Per Reddit’s advice, I divorced my SO of 17 years, met and am dating a new woman I believe is the love of my life, and have never been happier.",6.372664750110572,7.249752835839603,6.2752602093469,77.9412052189297,65.75438596491227,9.216217013121037,30.05808639245172,9.273590166951584,2.4757496388028892,3385,115,626,59,51,1066,369,798,0.10300000000000001,0.6940000000000001,0.203,0.9985,5,3,0,0,6,0,137.0,2,9,7,6,32,45,0,7,38,1,66,7,0,10,10,110,105,56,2,11,20,4,5,3,2,7,5,5,0,10,28,37,0,2,14,5,4,7,16,13,1,8,38,15,83,32,96,54,23,82,0,3,2,2,71,29,0,11,45,417,111,7,0.0,0.0,0.057583303391569335,0.0,0.0,0.28830971037538705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222289999397634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557406062426459,0.0,0.2006373431291904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04125977090510642,0.0,0.0971171248620463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07194146745762997,0.0,0.0,0.06648181778111373,0.061925263451431525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0624226478380465,0.05083017360491191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04711309252810225,0.06529123803806654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0612409957060813,0.12330161741575332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0603856788979442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09858723718344113,0.1327521325357362,0.05226358021214921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10675224225829588,0.04971679138143893,0.0,0.053032592355454,0.0,0.0,0.06640041373118406,0.029836221625170245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05393224990878563,0.05019218110409146,0.0,0.06469923459688387,0.045589440281341286,0.0,0.030829248495342118,0.05660585773954682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752816141925954,0.0,0.12563024263870248,0.10571916887728112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0395518236460865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05811100120926064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05244902839211316,0.0,0.061447759498694424,0.06485851554753562,0.09619880374464752,0.0,0.3124047997226325,0.06411237289178945,0.060339685666338815,0.16671640331408738,0.0864849956833634,0.0,0.10421030354156542,0.10444045967084227,0.049551864821521206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10651406133645644,0.055834803527018466,0.15755321305985798,0.119649716028114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06259817108526075,0.0,0.0,0.09419925736374914,0.0,0.1735107004814448,0.04375368993351658,0.1820424526987907,0.05699030142383917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06191897774090745,0.06284160226066543,0.07997070615216624,0.0,0.0627886804399908,0.0,0.0,0.06389992192179518,0.0,0.08181744531114274,0.051523516174720535,0.0,0.06477307255176118,0.0,0.1330453248628972,0.11302671988535418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13220494621519202,0.0,0.0,0.06716403112401619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06335251701156105,0.0,0.050392516059845516,0.11226025581448458,0.04692553603636422,0.0,0.05971925395908308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146436100928632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09999458667021344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06759347331671807,0.0616879815356237,0.0,0.0,0.06696158772632227,0.11122869762789857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10865329080936643,0.0,0.0,0.03920229824408187,0.03780994861894808,0.11595013569650645,0.04684576676085713,0.034408043750271955,0.0,0.0,0.056384679976197526,0.06556006760859533,0.0,0.0,0.05764224920772765,0.0,0.0,0.05096397267310252,0.0,0.09737557214551147,0.06960890343199268,0.04683780982107763,0.047332664373280216,0.0,0.053055285392085774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08591706460180296,0.0,0.0,0.12575278668915646,0.0,0.0,0.15199688891440466
divorce,houston_veronica,2020/01/02,"Just thinking about it? This is a great little video ....(11 min) I was out for a walk and I normally never listen to this sort of thing, but since I'm new to thinking about separating, I found it extremely helpful. Shoutout to my own therapist for asking me question #1 (""On a scale of (x), where do you fall in the desire to actually divorce or separate from H?"").

I said ""60%"" - which she said is still pretty low for being certain.  Here is the video, and I hope this helps someone.

The link: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qIHuDb-WU7o](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qIHuDb-WU7o)",6.2949713631156925,9.337813938144329,5.036013745704466,78.15328751431845,69.41237113402062,7.197709049255441,26.241695303550976,8.167268648758528,1.7670444444444446,460,15,76,7,9,135,72,97,0.024,0.736,0.239,0.976,0,0,0,0,1,0,50.0,0,1,0,0,6,4,0,0,6,0,6,0,0,0,2,17,15,4,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,7,3,0,0,5,2,0,2,1,1,0,0,4,3,9,3,15,10,1,12,0,1,0,0,10,6,0,4,4,53,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.20852425268317712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19976520904880835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342929069516358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23558679153864964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.286455065350228,0.0,0.0,0.2122359108323861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21416698405140894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16480587327326573,0.2063768369415042,0.0,0.0,0.20936444151876288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21739292019117312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23937440183901215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4065238458196018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767611831525683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810533195358695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17064790349442982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481029904274329,0.14196180947144188,0.27383949219244685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,FinalJeopardyWin,2020/01/02,"He Took the Soap from the Shower I initiated two years ago. Wanted to mediate and keep things cordial. No infidelity, one great kid, not a lot of money. We'd done counseling and all the professionals pretty much told me he didn't drink or cheat so suck it up.

In short, he decided to make me pay financially and emotionally when I told him I couldn't do it anymore. And honestly, it was the best thing that could have happened. All my guilt about breaking up my kid's family for the benefit of my mental health was absolved by his unending passive aggressive acts. 

We are finally done. The settlement is with the court and he had to move out. Today, I went to take a shower and there was no soap. And no conditioner. And none in the closet either. He took it all. I sat on the toilet and laughed. And then I told my daughter I couldn't wash her hair until we went to the store because ""Daddy accidentally took all the bathroom stuff."" 

Thanks for the final gift, X.",2.5327407614781663,4.947326792553191,4.085968645016799,83.39184210526318,78.94680851063829,7.574916013437848,23.72452407614782,8.532816995589336,1.7312085106382984,759,26,149,17,19,252,120,188,0.087,0.753,0.161,0.9534,2,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,3,0,0,1,4,10,3,1,14,0,15,4,1,1,4,29,31,15,0,4,3,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,2,8,14,1,1,1,1,3,7,8,4,0,2,16,1,19,6,20,11,9,23,0,0,0,0,17,7,1,2,8,105,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11940084509942755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13358332129820769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08211009720677395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14135628813929224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075446677390212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756837823541711,0.0,0.13195187066131592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515160990194644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12698043081493088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2951081611799157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14850401969989008,0.0,0.0,0.11911219381004302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431767103145221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11972496452657524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11451465099556934,0.0,0.0,0.08991135499983788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135742987867978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14316169222371944,0.09901786123099067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912742356793878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370353672709628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15419594459994795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10127545009277608,0.0,0.0,0.12401098539513815,0.0,0.0,0.1789735257455672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276770937111165,0.3861265318124169,0.4489602768301754,0.0,0.0,0.13157948685022638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07944783487526254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497311079288467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674051117486158
divorce,sziesig,2020/01/02,"One extreme to another (still sleep on my side of the bed) Little update, she's been gone for almost two months now.  Left a week after mom passed.  Everyone was telling me to give her time, she's not thinking clearly.  Every conversation we had was basically her saying she wants out.  After a couple of weeks of no contact we briefly talked about separating the bills more.  Finally I heard that her mother, basically on her deathbed told her she didn't have to stay in the relationship.

That was Monday.  It hurt, but after a while, I came to the realization.  I can't fight a ghost.  This is all on her now.  She has to figure it out.  There's nothing I can do.  So i resigned myself to talk to her after the new year and tell her that if this is truly what she wants I'll give her the divorce in 6 months of living separately (no fault in my state).

I spent Tuesday thinking about exactly how I was going to word it.  A 14 hour work shift was interrupted half way through... I was served.

No warning, no nothing.  Broke me.  Now it can't even be civil.

Today was talking to family, going over everything put in the paperwork, the next steps.  Then after work, forcing myself to go meet up with friends at a bar.  There with a couple of girls I never met.

Forced myself to make an effort.  Talked to one of them, she seems nice.  Want to keep talking to her, at leas I think.  Did everything you are supposed to and got her number.  I don't know what I was feeling inside truly.  Drove home, texted her while in the driveway saying it was nice meeting her and that I'll talk to her soon.

Opened the door to the empty house, saw the dogs.  Broke down again... I think this time because it was just a reminder that it's over...

But I'm still on my side of the bed... I still lock the bedroom door...",2.0969840478564308,4.229103646892661,3.3372549019607867,89.68061814556333,78.91525423728814,5.972615486872716,21.99368560983716,7.048011613610866,0.6007340644732468,1377,41,286,16,34,446,187,354,0.071,0.823,0.106,0.9289,0,0,0,0,2,0,60.0,2,1,1,3,16,9,1,0,23,0,25,2,1,2,4,36,52,11,1,4,5,2,1,0,1,0,0,3,7,1,17,11,1,1,8,1,2,9,10,6,0,4,23,5,47,3,52,28,2,66,0,4,1,0,51,22,0,3,32,199,64,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09797045109410656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10259149224514703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05964103124036916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11190040979170356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21651138933712213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06462096200194585,0.0,0.08243258895706156,0.09348823644497282,0.1758606605733863,0.0,0.09223279595050883,0.0,0.04946974502818904,0.0,0.0,0.10717655720158638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0755892624417699,0.0,0.0,0.1877099174725911,0.16681047527046092,0.0,0.07824984790624034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09813931768824567,0.0,0.09635055166401303,0.11289171639809607,0.10473741733189637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08696275601281939,0.0,0.0,0.053769111038119134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10630108530342118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09805920557182556,0.08639259371170477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06530750924463481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11458648050868378,0.15618644016567354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07545856369190945,0.09449238298118036,0.10405163895878627,0.0,0.0,0.18775606741157466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13259488727401214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09835403912257283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10504121141170304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556091339039843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08906788316757742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09790848430701253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10428210584323114,0.2344002450696778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4718300358619565,0.17102914634684035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25076211608917043,0.0,0.0,0.11410004742750428,0.0,0.09273882011768014,0.09348823644497282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09557334058519038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17312185576310524,0.07765911309536659,0.1569592066627946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424542065955171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06300435284783369
divorce,Bumpaudio,2020/01/02,"What is the main reason for your divorce? (In 3 words or less) This might get pretty interesting if enough people comment..

Cheated on, alcohol, drugs, money, lazy, bored, abuse, I met someone else, kids, etc.

If you feel comfortable, Please reply with who’s filed for the divorce & Age/sex

Example:

Cheated on [EX] (35M)",5.878103448275862,7.198749051724143,5.933965517241383,78.34508620689657,67.10344827586206,8.558620689655173,31.74137931034483,8.841846274778883,2.6957793103448284,247,10,43,4,4,78,52,58,0.217,0.621,0.162,-0.5994,0,0,2,0,3,0,24.0,0,2,0,0,0,5,2,0,2,0,2,2,0,1,0,8,5,3,0,2,3,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,3,2,6,3,4,3,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,4,0,23,6,0,0.0,0.31416058788887546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2833657910840442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28729100750707864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30749099060292784,0.0,0.22149964461175276,0.0,0.0,0.2739718716623482,0.2957134645743641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134068317062905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385304585148197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812833191162764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18382232403712725,0.0,0.0,0.2910561845633333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269753899693816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726193981229266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246615895051325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,bbg1995,2020/01/02,Anyone on here from or near Lynchburg Virginia Looking for someone close by to talk to. M or F,1.912105263157894,4.294683631578948,3.020263157894739,90.32934210526315,81.10526315789474,3.8,30.552631578947373,3.1291,1.0344526315789473,75,4,14,0,2,24,17,19,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,7,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,2,0,10,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43718231264179136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5250440897553548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5297637831374091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.502544190496802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,aprilnaomi3,2020/01/02,"Money issues Money issues


So I find out 2 days after being married that my husband secured all his assets into a trust fund and bought an investment property with his mom, without my knowledge so that if we ever got a divorce I wouldn’t be entitled to anything. Now, I can understand his reasoning because we fight often, but I find it super disappointing that he did all this 2 weeks before marriage without my knowledge. After a lot of discussions & arguments, he agreed to put me on the trust and his mom taken off after a year. We ended up having a baby, and it’s been pass a year but there’s always some excuse or blame about why he won’t do it... or that we need to be on our ‘best behavior’ or ‘not fight’ before it happens. I am no gold digger and once I’m on the trust, I still don’t have access to accounts etc and I don’t care to have access, I just don’t like that I could potentially spend 50 + years with this man, and not be financially cared for if needed. Should I be upset or no? Do you think I should get a divorce?",6.224335334476844,5.157210533018869,7.344288164665524,76.73450257289882,66.31132075471697,9.784562607204117,31.065180102915953,8.841846274778883,2.3975415094339625,811,25,161,11,11,277,125,212,0.11199999999999999,0.7390000000000001,0.149,0.8132,0,0,0,0,4,0,21.0,5,1,0,2,9,13,2,1,10,0,22,0,0,1,3,46,34,16,0,8,13,3,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,11,14,0,1,7,0,7,2,11,4,0,0,5,0,25,9,22,19,6,21,0,1,0,0,24,7,0,9,13,122,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12104664260715405,0.15762182676781372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11971332090039408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08868005505758389,0.0,0.2475765886506908,0.0,0.15266677109589358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29664239834204903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11614974748147265,0.0,0.0,0.09381917649662627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12884744597264378,0.0,0.16224279656543714,0.0,0.13159023655670765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26592256512461443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07600455065949363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116349443935772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12864283765861625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3036756790891414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0710716127975615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236774270235465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34075652915561305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157353620601016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549258569590537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14624230036153096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14957226791520375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617632026132348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09321434337511897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514443412739758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669106652895928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312683313285198,0.0,0.0,0.28046492818582736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2810429009968985
divorce,serenity8989,2020/01/02,"Fought for half our marriage I'm 30f, he's 33m. We live in one of those overfunctioning/underfunctioning set ups. Lots of emotional labour on my part. 

We have fought for half our marriage. Went to counselling. He's gone separately for depression. He does this thing where he ignores me when he's upset - often after I try to bring up an issue with him. Longest it's gone on is 3 months. 

I've gotten so used to being independent and trying to focus on my day-to-day happiness. If he's in a good mood, we're a happy couple. If he's not, I'll read a book or hang out with my friends. I'll go to the gym, take on extra hobbies - I try not to expect anything out of him. I bury my resentment, and focus on the happiness he brings me. And I can - he's funny, and affectionate and a genuinly good human being.  he's great in bed and a honest, lovely person.

Issue is: I want to have kids someday. I want to buy a home and tbh - grow up. And lately - he's getting incredibly upset that I don't show him affection when he wants it. He gets irritated that I'm busy - that I want to go the gym, or do groceries, or take on a hobby. If I try to include him, he gets irritated because he'd prefer to stay home. He wants me on the couch with him all day, smoking up and watching Netflix. He feels like I've gotten self absorbed since I focus on myself now.

Anyway. All in all to say - I do love him. We've tried to fix things. He does try to work on himself. He's quit drinking. He loves it when I'm happy. But he wants something out of me I can't give. I feel horrible but I feel suffocated. He feels insecure and all he wants is this attention that I can't give him anymore because I'm refusing to be the OF anymore. And when I think of the future, I'm so scared. Because right now - with no assets or kids, he can be as immature as he wants with little repercussion. But what about the future?

Am I right in thinking we should leave each other before we drown one another ?",1.0657242164559229,3.1055738501228567,3.4156157487864824,88.25509138850605,81.99754299754302,6.231173967759334,21.720441061904484,7.407850130929222,0.7967068855995691,1515,48,325,23,41,522,186,407,0.10099999999999999,0.794,0.106,-0.7036,0,0,2,1,0,0,60.0,6,0,0,2,12,24,3,4,15,0,19,4,0,3,4,65,60,29,1,14,12,0,4,1,1,1,0,1,4,5,14,24,1,2,8,7,1,9,6,9,0,4,7,6,41,14,54,47,8,48,0,1,1,3,56,25,0,9,13,189,55,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893666871704484,0.0,0.0,0.1690421947499499,0.0,0.0,0.07013357553356922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15585857846706005,0.0,0.07252088259636386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09430073184574926,0.0,0.164890780370167,0.0,0.07340486067898046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14916335198514588,0.0,0.0,0.08348884277310466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09586755917314001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723709103586079,0.06088533188459199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06584524527566875,0.0,0.1335808961228567,0.16351271539631254,0.09687157764588268,0.1429667228912073,0.0,0.09396175052130563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3628978153510144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17097686194113387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17790719543088138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961384198416074,0.09024182150993368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04163702323969158,0.08541864590077214,0.0752559469320204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07245593142613121,0.2307588484545524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680264241853445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11550242181001165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09229124126269916,0.0,0.0,0.07441588532460805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09064813391734217,0.08524886798230617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455647430432099,0.0,0.06777498058626591,0.0853258982356955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08890910132731564,0.0,0.0,0.07049966632152062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06561098819043643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09083936812322238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281583972579486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132404753083994,0.1092185087297072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34717636200981555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07360773153111819,0.0,0.0,0.4021471017467863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07900517476914101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06204540083360671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ayamyi705,2020/01/02,"Financial abuse during divorce So almost a year later I’ve spent $86,400 leaving an abusive man, who by law is still my husband.
Today I sold the couches, and my bedroom set, so I can feed the kids, pay the mortgage for a house I’m court ordered to stay in until the children are 18 and pay a lawyer still.
He got half my pension. A vehicle fully paid off. And it just doesn’t end.
When does the abuse through the courts end?
When are we free of abuse?
It’s a lie to tell women to leave. We were lied to. Men win all the time. I tell my children someday we will be okay again. Someday. But when?",0.17591397849462356,2.4324400322580644,1.7178709677419342,97.47013978494623,88.19354838709677,3.9518279569892476,21.16989247311828,5.2151,-0.1970068817204305,460,16,102,2,15,148,86,124,0.18,0.752,0.068,-0.9318,1,0,0,0,4,0,19.0,3,0,0,1,9,3,0,0,13,1,8,1,0,0,1,11,13,10,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,6,3,6,1,0,0,0,6,0,1,0,0,1,5,0,10,4,11,6,1,18,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,1,13,60,13,4,0.0,0.7293916478148332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15410995271416586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13468009250910368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726217991333493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230889541290148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775814736141209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32591857738241764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16403834238751136,0.24581160462473325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690330947944492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08974110416643029,0.0,0.14588046725818288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09910741177296012
divorce,beachmom77,2020/01/02,"2000 Wedding Date - is it getting to you that this would be your 20th anniversary? I watched all the posts regarding decades then came the “last twenty years” posts and it hit me.  I would have been, among many others, celebrating my 20th anniversary this year.  While I do not miss him, I do grieve that I don’t get that and the others, 40th, 50th.  

Any others out there?",4.881,6.1932079571428575,4.19857142857143,89.89642857142859,69.42857142857143,7.885714285714287,25.42857142857143,8.238735603445708,1.2509428571428574,287,8,60,4,5,85,51,70,0.038,0.883,0.08,0.4412,0,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,0,1,8,14,4,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,1,10,0,3,8,1,11,0,2,1,0,4,2,0,0,6,42,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971240720489905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3315383162334709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3028941126726817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362857734337153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29388645796336466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5552377968790023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4118359523217475,0.0,0.0,0.3733383478654421
divorce,yellow-front-door,2020/01/02,"I started the new year with some simple changes ... I changed all my passcodes that included anything about him  or our anniversary date. I bought a storage tub to start putting photos and keepsakes in as I run into them around the house we’ve shared for almost 30 years. I took off my wedding ring. I got rid of my lingerie. I made a “single lady” budget. I got the name of an attorney. I looked at houses online and calculated what I can afford. 

He’s been gone for months and it’s taken me this long to do these simple things toward my own future. I’m heartbroken. And relived. And so sad. And hopeful. And ready to make 2020 a better year than 2019 ... or 2018 ... or 2017 ...

It’s time.",1.5262222222222237,3.9520254740740763,2.8666666666666667,90.54000000000003,83.14814814814815,5.377777777777778,21.592592592592588,6.742157984588678,0.5555037037037036,529,17,106,6,15,171,100,135,0.062,0.8540000000000001,0.084,0.2669,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,0,1,1,3,4,0,0,7,0,3,0,0,2,1,20,16,12,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,7,10,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,8,2,18,3,17,8,4,21,0,1,1,0,7,6,0,6,11,67,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18354688910786093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508389807018354,0.16317445432586966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621125559124877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3878108453468139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932009804171997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18205668874283346,0.0,0.4230035305444031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16221333264508114,0.1539245069738344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17344139591583155,0.12235311793880953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14630704918212298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17703075516029299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18426553833870268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25947912863192163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12177532472684585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688278209651733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036512878006049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35411451625446866
divorce,parisinthesoringtime,2020/01/02,"Huge rant ahead So we have separated. It’s been a long time coming. A few days ago he took all his stuff and put it in the guest room. Early the next morning he left, went to stay with Mia relative. 

This would all be fine except there are kids involved. Kids he didn’t say goodbye to. Kids who don’t know what’s going on. And when I suggest that we need to talk to them together, he puts me off. 

Finally saw them today (it’s been 3 days). Took them out, got a fancy lunch and expensive toys. Dropped them off and left. Didn’t call or text them to say goodnight. Didn’t make arrangements to see them again. I’ve had to deal with 2 of my 3 kids in tears because they don’t know when (or if) they will see him again. These kids aren’t babies, they are teens and tweens. And I have to hold them while they cry and make up a story about a meeting and promise that he will call them tomorrow. 

I am furious. I guess the behavior only reinforces the problems we were having. But it sucks for my poor kids.  (Me too,  but that’s not the issue right now!)",1.017808965228319,3.0661065852534577,2.286311269375787,96.23907729367409,82.2258064516129,5.7887725178047775,19.08022622538752,6.980632752743323,0.04337050691244304,807,20,187,10,22,258,130,217,0.07400000000000001,0.902,0.023,-0.8122,1,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,3,0,12,1,9,5,2,0,10,0,20,1,0,2,2,33,36,17,0,4,7,0,0,0,1,3,0,2,1,6,12,15,1,1,2,1,2,7,7,3,0,0,12,5,25,2,22,20,3,38,0,0,3,0,39,12,1,4,17,115,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12983592372248776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08928613787370812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991224335129684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12617006711200598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16088930974542398,0.18892076515821132,0.1510030990267853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604496210765214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08324170337112904,0.0,0.11714463287187825,0.0,0.16135210743470535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15287557351221015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16099105470351727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.318277976122645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12962044855779872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19553837864084656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10860490145515124,0.0,0.0,0.15577143434386373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139626834514472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14015104400227846,0.0,0.2944835833619889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12508371863202036,0.0,0.2329560420939739,0.0,0.0,0.23343364598585906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156116456849208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16767195311494298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11772622739408145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08540724694170901,0.0,0.13883547797657014,0.0,0.3254648781779803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13577822273025747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10404736931398446,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Mikeylikesit79,2020/01/02,"Inherited house and divorce Well I have a question. In 2012 my father passed and I got the house with 6 acres that not only I grew up but so did my dad did as well. Me and the wife shortly afterwards moved in and made it our home. Now I am facing possible divorce and the wife made it clear she wants the house (the odds are she wants so she can sell it because it’s worth about $500,000 and keep the money). The title is in my name and own it free and clear. But I really don’t want to lose this place because my family has owned it for 60 years so what are some things I can do so I don’t have to give it to her or force to sell it.",0.9219761904761904,2.2846208642857126,2.614285714285714,97.09904761904764,79.64285714285714,6.095238095238094,18.80952380952381,6.816661863887847,-0.20311904761904787,491,10,124,5,12,162,83,140,0.025,0.8370000000000001,0.138,0.9339,0,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,1,0,0,1,8,4,0,0,8,0,14,1,1,2,2,24,22,16,0,3,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,12,9,0,1,1,0,6,3,3,1,2,0,5,0,17,4,12,17,3,12,0,1,0,0,14,6,0,3,3,85,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20461280471127127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15821331953279608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609959280021262,0.0,0.0,0.13422739777752987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683451864179917,0.0,0.0,0.5809530009915924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14917325407647333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877566239594747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3176058580371471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783746236430617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12764077069113156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17534455896199316,0.0,0.0,0.1892008742381612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18800578996894127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10751492613457593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114974781348947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2969679407599884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3017950879365964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10807574145773632
divorce,operationDIE,2020/01/02,"I need your ovjective thoughts on this Not asking for advice, just want you to give me your 2 cents. To say in advance, nothing big happened. 

Ok, so me and my ex wife are communicating only about kids, alimony, etc. We've blocked each other on social networks to minimize the contact and urges to check out on each other, obviously.

Today, one of my friends who has her on Facebook wanted to show me some pics of our kids she had posted. He did it out of best intentions because he knows how much I love them. I was happy to see them, but of course my curiosity made me scroll down to see other posts. Judge me all you want, I admit it was a moment of weakness.

What I saw was nothing hurtful, but rather interesting, to say. She had a few posts of which only she and I can understand the true... Meaning? Intent? I don't know how to word this, so I'll give examples.

For example, as a cover photo, she posted a screenshot from an obscure song I showed her shortly before the separation (she got really hooked up on that song). It's very easy to recognize for her and me, her friends would have no idea where that screenshot could come from. 

Another one, she shared a song that our photographer used as background music for the intro of our wedding video (A Million Years Ago Efe Tekin remix by Adelle, if anyone's interested). Again, we haven't shown this video to a lot of people, so, it's a very specific remix. 

There are some other examples, but what I want to say is that they are very, very specific and cannot be accidental. Now, technically I cannot see what she is posting, so I believe these things are not some kind of a direct message or a signal to me. I'm also not getting my hopes up whatsoever, she is in a relationship (she says it's going well), so all this is just a bit confusing to me.

I don't know what to think of this. I'm not upset or anything, I'm just puzzled why would she do those very specific things that only she and I would fully understand, knowing that I'm not able to see it?

Any thoughts, r/divorce?",4.29785007072136,5.26048200990099,5.429717114568597,81.83306930693071,70.48514851485149,8.444695898161246,28.53748231966053,8.738905477910976,2.070476944837341,1588,57,320,27,28,527,206,404,0.042,0.858,0.1,0.9673,1,0,0,0,1,0,61.0,4,4,3,2,18,17,0,2,17,1,28,2,0,6,4,68,65,22,0,12,15,2,0,0,2,3,1,7,0,2,31,12,0,1,12,7,2,3,11,4,1,3,11,12,51,13,48,49,13,29,0,1,5,1,50,15,0,11,6,225,82,0,0.08626596907071224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0842981065710935,0.07646957659045595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0689868642988124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058663817154212074,0.0904573902390469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060319171357928886,0.0,0.07098954220826928,0.0,0.08064703603128802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05258693405372962,0.0,0.07340598589032911,0.09719220613581492,0.09053081235236576,0.0,0.09418009553511447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07431049384349574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06887635677717363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962093588929236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13329774742408732,0.0,0.04507040834287725,0.16550835634580285,0.04902693822292314,0.0,0.0689947760120984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07628471155149291,0.09183172818494996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568157202914496,0.0,0.0,0.09234950408540757,0.09738377875098987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08983273182216887,0.18963808220508127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07334024200367242,0.07785840513461878,0.08162694575857903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09396893005342473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06341541315659148,0.06396512299380805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16554904785880048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116912106446284,0.19682747031516576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059805961055154636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4130947612669326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05526418875308155,0.0,0.0,0.09261736664426104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744086442699864,0.0,0.0,0.27497123382676386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08793729173793935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11462255332672015,0.05527574971334984,0.0,0.13697108687978654,0.0,0.0,0.08177005186402865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17961183227082378,0.0,0.07450609960534746,0.0,0.35589229493240715,0.2035276145283803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07756346632096718,0.0,0.07784161927316778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18384260800879845,0.0,0.0,0.05555245574064347
divorce,zomgchels,2020/01/02,"Divorce sucks. Anyone else dealing with a ruthless and hurtful future ex? I left my husband 3 weeks ago and he’s treated me like complete shit. It’s not fair. I left the marriage because I was unhappy and I didn’t feel I had a husband or a partner, and now he’s just showing me how he never cared in the first place. It’s so hurtful and so unfair to us people who actually have good hearts and actually wanted our marriages to work.",3.2140097402597405,4.763717965909095,4.867402597402599,82.55681818181822,73.88636363636364,6.392207792207793,31.88961038961039,6.868970318607317,1.97682922077922,343,17,65,3,7,116,63,88,0.252,0.69,0.057999999999999996,-0.9516,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,2,0,0,2,5,8,2,0,5,0,4,2,2,1,1,14,8,10,0,1,3,3,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,7,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,4,0,1,3,1,10,4,4,5,0,10,0,2,0,0,14,4,2,1,7,41,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.36102321938870335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16397162268205526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129340750235447,0.1895315740422379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11276072515537465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18859715370698987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19394566125554785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19070394747114627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15452518205049087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09353031305156816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573419875473221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15515056827340884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191995353795491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3960450342197214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4019577533898764,0.0,0.0,0.090370789596501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426662514735898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282402874125164,0.0,0.19326238793807546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18987701169871365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22250546870261811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10910467503161107,0.0,0.14837800080768254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346660118300516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,LifeCoachingWithKC,2020/01/02,"Thank God for 2020 I know how easy it is to feel super defeated. I'm 26 and I'm at the end of my 7 year marriage. Started the process of divorce a few days ago, and although I thought I was going to cry …..I'm in the phase of ""I don't care"". I've been mentally unavailable to my husband for a very long time and a lot happened to drive me to this point. I'm working on my memoir about this and let me just say, I am approaching my BUTTERFLY PHASE. It's coming and I have something to live for. I'm going to live for me! I hope that anyone else who might be going through a divorce finds the will courage to get over their emotions and to find themselves. Maybe even use this time to get back to yourself and YOUR needs. No one else's!!!",1.2771428571428558,2.9080695668789858,2.7631892629663355,95.22574840764334,79.44585987261145,5.759599636032758,24.590081892629666,6.5431188927421005,0.5809839854413101,570,21,133,5,14,186,97,157,0.054000000000000006,0.825,0.12,0.8825,0,0,1,0,2,0,18.0,0,1,1,3,5,6,0,0,8,0,10,0,0,2,0,20,30,9,0,2,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,7,8,0,0,5,0,0,6,2,1,0,1,3,2,16,5,24,23,2,20,0,1,0,0,8,5,0,3,9,81,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14208522863069994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11207677138198464,0.16423352156943036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12325122049899866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634238245938242,0.0,0.0,0.1380735186224517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760683307362236,0.1033721998541996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267799335784061,0.18030190282560726,0.14196718019866947,0.0,0.0,0.10586840519674896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810461938258745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29299980637531553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16748724288545294,0.0,0.2732853000000782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14174173789231706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15920168901155235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08808983738560214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16390486440752638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2830736601164637,0.14184942456999552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13627073036812445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16103037307277746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615321353058702,0.17003974466530147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11885117624805028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10861498202796542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515235301378427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12746708134711854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233971754265606,0.0,0.0,0.11345234230806008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475712269700767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12725039854306525,0.1869299013787439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384369662918828,0.0,0.13225400308986873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669123453610508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10321991734280514
divorce,throwawaygeorgina,2020/01/02,"So Depressed I just want to get absolutely trashed every night. I hate my husband for hurting me so much.  I'm angry and sad for everything we had that is now GONE because of his actions. All I want to do is stay in bed all day and just keep getting drunk every night until my liver shuts down and I'm put out of my misery. 13 years of my life, in the trash. And now I'm alone and heartbroken and not only do I not have anything, I don't even WANT to have anything. All I want is to not fucking wake up in the morning.",2.5653378378378378,3.36137493693694,4.17260135135135,89.85998310810812,74.4054054054054,6.631081081081081,26.487612612612608,6.6274283507984215,0.922918018018018,402,14,91,3,8,135,66,111,0.25,0.7120000000000001,0.038,-0.9801,0,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,7,5,2,0,2,0,9,5,2,0,3,21,22,9,0,4,5,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,8,1,1,0,1,0,3,4,5,0,0,2,0,13,0,16,20,4,18,0,3,0,1,3,7,1,0,7,61,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19742957149103085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3137355677523979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162029722864091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12293708161651447,0.0,0.16418466808299612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12590573470081953,0.0,0.3212188538950249,0.0,0.17132107746861552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762293489349004,0.1991869465617976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18820230378575806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040675513224591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694358819212942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346437755485487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14013099698943082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3577765028421596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14497858000790514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19163034985687452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20318043473177147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4497412556205673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12275597714588818
divorce,missinglunch,2020/01/02,The end of this chapter is an emotional trip. Is it possible to get through a divorce without struggling? Is it possible to stop feeling lost and make this process a positive stage in life? This feels like the right step to take but the sadness takes away my breath. There is just so much loss in a family break-up.,3.973278688524587,5.871759114754099,4.063081967213115,87.66183606557377,72.60655737704917,8.158688524590165,31.872131147540983,8.841846274778883,2.6220531147540984,250,12,50,5,5,77,47,61,0.161,0.715,0.12300000000000001,-0.6769,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,0,0,2,3,5,0,1,7,0,4,2,1,1,0,8,11,3,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,1,2,1,1,9,10,1,9,0,3,0,0,1,4,0,0,3,32,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.213653248984998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25579853942947034,0.20141216910431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21437595706850612,0.0,0.22996427305626946,0.16245723895639552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11880904036993632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16062194878563635,0.11109795454026863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482379864926355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15179372644835953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16716787486103088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5127269766259618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19420150561897148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19011966424057133,0.0,0.2377317075929739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3419585427746041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21920903870917813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,KSleepCHB5423,2020/01/02,"Went and saw my movie on my own, felt accomplished to do something alone. I was really afraid to go do something on my own, during my separation it's been difficult to be alone but I decided to go see a movie and try to get out of my head. I was really nervous and was slightly sad going there but I felt very accomplished afterwards. 

Just thought I would share a positive story with everyone out there. 

Small victories 👍🏻",2.8244879518072277,5.15018028915663,4.521310240963857,81.12606174698799,77.43373493975903,9.451204819277107,27.24246987951807,9.827888789773867,3.05102530120482,336,14,65,11,8,113,53,83,0.128,0.722,0.15,0.6059,0,2,2,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,2,3,5,0,2,2,0,8,1,1,0,0,14,18,5,0,1,3,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,4,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,9,4,10,1,11,7,2,10,0,1,2,0,1,5,0,0,1,42,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4530118193945356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20897599157797156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4199701203861898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11426105063711454,0.0,0.3728745540702921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22444797323646806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802079901959812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17427455855852586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33672990651673695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17362234855661396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14848206978312498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804493414981769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027358972031844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15535729033225146,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,henryisadog,2020/01/03,"How do you forgive yourself for the failure of your marriage? I didn't cheat, I wasn't abusive, I wasn't controlling, I wasn't an alcoholic, I didn't run up a bunch of debt... but I made a lot of mistakes. And I made them enough to finally push my wife away. Enough to kill any desire she once had for me. 

I'm not saying she didn't play a part, but I can honestly say I was the one who wasn't the one giving the relationship my all. I didn't always listen when she told me about she problems she was having. 

By the time she made it very clear about how unhappy she was it was too late for me to change — she was already out the door. 

She was a great wife. I was just a decent husband. 

We still get along. We don't hate each other. But I feel like I'm 90% of the reason why we're getting divorced. 

I don't know how I'll forgive myself.",0.9844820441988952,2.504320662983428,2.9036429558011068,94.39369647790056,79.93922651933701,5.850966850828731,21.257251381215468,6.6274283507984215,0.18357707182320399,644,18,153,6,16,216,99,181,0.139,0.701,0.16,0.6177,1,0,1,0,1,0,22.0,2,2,1,1,10,11,3,0,13,0,21,1,0,8,2,29,34,8,1,3,5,3,1,1,0,0,1,3,1,0,4,6,1,1,5,1,1,2,11,5,0,2,20,4,33,6,17,14,7,10,0,0,0,0,28,3,0,1,6,109,37,0,0.0,0.17939776368832086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16181275177722426,0.0,0.0,0.16708625770894991,0.0,0.12598642371000635,0.0,0.0,0.1029649519603767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422560052933059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16017319696427107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16982077280691454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128969258684617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765581590745221,0.1081683426519744,0.0,0.1658638004021069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15821242649995934,0.14524762269891694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16693161574339727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14948742208661406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16751429339333154,0.0,0.08321175202755357,0.0,0.17079866722510273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07397196758878045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12872456756128994,0.0,0.4298074156993841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16124821174780435,0.20520058202458372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16396380375494082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14488027227845168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15567614858999593,0.0,0.1625591918465575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408168633188112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209173488356417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08828921168269427,0.0,0.0,0.14468009231242998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12493027159979968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13662524836920156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,lucidparoxysm,2020/01/03,"I can't believe I'm here. I'm hoping I can post something more substantial in the future. But right now the idea of laying it all out there is just too much to bear. My husband (31) and I (29) decided to separate on New Year's Day. It is absolutely for the best but it's hard, it is so fucking hard. 

I just can't believe my marriage has failed and my children will inevitably have to go through so much pain, even in the best of circumstances.",2.0336956521739147,3.739741717391308,3.5167391304347824,90.33206521739132,77.47826086956522,6.773913043478261,26.71739130434783,7.645422480735847,1.3718217391304357,346,14,76,5,8,114,61,92,0.127,0.748,0.125,-0.0371,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,3,9,6,1,0,4,0,9,2,0,0,1,11,14,6,0,1,4,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,2,7,3,11,13,6,12,0,1,0,1,3,5,1,1,5,54,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4612670605373817,0.42965257567550014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320184167784959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13520636361277238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18924737215467904,0.0,0.0,0.11633912111036135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36675268440337133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20331921891390173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310881250381404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30096488579165515,0.0,0.0,0.19770630297342387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178215866248713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960517348342952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17481778125064332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15759265796539035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13182393416048346
divorce,divthrowaway2019,2020/01/03,"So this just happened... I haven't worn my wedding ring since March or April of this year. I took it off and put it away, and honestly, I haven't thought much about it since. 

But a few minutes ago, I was walking down a hallway at work and went to fiddle with my ring like I use to.  When I realized it wasn't there, I panicked for like a half second.  I was like ""Oh Shit! Where's my... Oh yeah... Dummy....""

It was the weirdest thing.  I'm not saddened by this realization. I'm more amused with how my brain can play a trick on me like that.",0.2009882005899684,2.1830203008849587,1.7621460176991164,99.20097713864307,84.92920353982299,4.828613569321534,20.03613569321534,5.985473137389443,-0.2743386430678467,406,12,99,3,12,131,75,113,0.057999999999999996,0.715,0.226,0.9533,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,0,0,1,7,9,2,0,5,1,7,2,2,2,0,13,15,8,0,0,4,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,10,5,0,0,2,2,0,4,4,2,0,2,8,2,13,7,13,7,3,15,0,0,0,0,1,6,1,1,9,65,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106197374461088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22323479495227347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652422864330801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101105646782525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4643211225522773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17466472634745592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23885552330825666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24389492338305335,0.3930934737760556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15785213651941093,0.0,0.0,0.18862935851490886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639844398392152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20521174350232327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22025933041051696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729770041341677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15300782565129598
divorce,thunderGunXprezz,2020/01/03,"Wife ended our relationship over a year ago and refuses to move out or file for divorce. We have been married for almost 10 years. Have 1 10 year old child. I make 90% of our income and in many years have been the only one working. She doesn't make enough money to live on her own and claims that her mother is going to let her stay there (this has been the story for several months now) but I see no  action being taken by either of them to make that happen. 

No sex. She never cooked or cleaned so that still isn't happening. She's literally just a shitty roommate now. She sleeps till 12. The only thing I've ever convinced her to help me pay for is car insurance and her cell phone. I know she doesn't want to file for divorce because she can't afford to live alone and is basically just using me for health insurance, a roof over her head and a free car. I'm in Pennsylvania, do I have any options to get rid of her?",3.287777777777777,4.438088333333333,4.534259259259262,86.59916666666668,73.07407407407408,7.3047619047619055,23.023809523809533,7.7094869923839395,0.8917238095238091,721,18,153,9,14,238,116,189,0.083,0.856,0.06,-0.3363,3,1,0,0,2,0,17.0,3,0,1,1,8,2,0,0,7,0,18,5,2,4,2,25,31,11,0,1,6,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,5,8,1,1,1,1,3,5,7,0,0,1,4,1,23,3,25,25,3,26,0,0,1,1,27,6,0,4,14,102,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135178482409563,0.0,0.15270269283148452,0.1579398416512117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10370249357766446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09296013208005856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350661722979033,0.1575691088450754,0.0,0.0,0.1379413416332962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07967285387231837,0.0,0.08666697792320853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697033774309953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15650486735327224,0.16209609237349953,0.0,0.0,0.1022148388149799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380780077034684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559374682623929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693134828541641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.305376746122976,0.15460698535049594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12172083383668628,0.16207908979096589,0.0,0.0,0.11761429843660084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600188751347605,0.0,0.1033352205502236,0.23196012427455745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16372360912619305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12151954984025044,0.0,0.0,0.17227704760270104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15260610763513502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16254042110210518,0.12178348411099935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10131155094266003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13170756167314304,0.0,0.0,0.0899460781891487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11101888737560714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3928096372947278
divorce,amare_plango_vulnera,2020/01/03,"It's true: Don't get involved with someone new too soon. I thought I was different. I thought it would help me take my mind off the pain. I thought I found someone who understood me and who cared for me. I thought wrong.

Perhaps my expectations are too high given that I've just recently (a few months ago)  lost what was supposed to be a lifelong partnership. In hindsight I should have been warier of someone willing, almost eager, to jump into something with a person in my situation. Sadly my desperation for companionship clouded my judgment to the extreme, especially since he said exactly what I wanted to hear. Now I'm back to where I started in terms of loneliness and pain, with an added bonus of feeling like a naive idiot.

I now realize I should have made sure I was whole again before putting myself in such a vulnerable position. What constitutes ""too soon"" isn't so much a timeframe as one's emotional state with respect to the divorce. I had accepted my situation, but I hadn't figured out myself yet. Hopefully I won't do something so stupid ever again.

Now I'm just waiting until we get a chance to talk again so I can pull the plug on this thing before it gets worse. It's a hard conclusion to come to, but I'm not going to play the fool any longer. My biggest regret is ignoring the wisdom of those who came before me and listening to my stupid, bleeding heart instead.

Be careful out there.",5.66011111111111,6.6825353814814825,6.211851851851853,77.24333333333334,67.4074074074074,9.25925925925926,34.25925925925926,9.444778638647367,3.236925925925928,1123,52,204,22,18,365,160,270,0.18100000000000002,0.708,0.111,-0.9718,1,0,2,0,1,0,29.0,1,0,0,3,23,23,3,0,15,0,21,4,1,1,4,45,50,10,0,7,5,0,2,1,0,5,3,3,0,1,14,13,0,2,11,1,1,6,5,11,0,1,17,5,31,12,32,26,4,37,0,3,0,0,14,12,0,2,19,146,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10192014392395136,0.0,0.1151328240526158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07818828028180681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08841019051115083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2935107913657121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13150302002374692,0.23445336132015476,0.0,0.0,0.09904247630598564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12012645890520188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293336123877528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10400324919858624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05813580918176331,0.08213956819157002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260663097353272,0.0,0.0,0.18021215925984185,0.0,0.06534405998600293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10299677864571358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295873980698391,0.13624825947637498,0.07706663736335342,0.12147947829910105,0.0,0.11419807120954785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056171938360676486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255109415267282,0.0,0.0,0.1087939861932658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11609396041157152,0.0,0.0917735181076482,0.0,0.08452130015747096,0.0,0.0,0.11104547118635312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07791136846012542,0.0,0.2446871987138345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003934527078362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155836086769274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11352588397856835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10936942506857336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09511013523381867,0.2584778564870203,0.0,0.0,0.2922588330503285,0.1770297729114781,0.0,0.0,0.08138128901914915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10836443069212963,0.0,0.08644837011683912,0.09241413081694294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07638558792182568,0.0,0.0,0.36511547495478697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06781639408155161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12836767758079914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11717135212051767,0.08167633849978223,0.12570926401756174,0.0,0.0
divorce,Sirlagzalott,2020/01/03,"We slept together I’m 45 (STBX is 50).  We’ve been married for 21yrs. January 2019 I caught her sending sexy texts to a guy at work, she reconnected with her old boyfriend and was on dating websites.  She was remorseful and became super wife so I stuck it out. A few months later sneaky behavior resumed and she began going out every night (without spending any money so someone was buying).  I then discovered a mountain of debt ($65k).  In August, I told her I wanted a divorce. We put the house up for sale and still lived together. The house hasn’t sold and muddled through the holidays routinely breaking up over and over. Last week she moved out with her dad. 

Last night she invited me to dinner to talk. My gut said not to go. But I went and we had a great time talking. Well we drank too much and she hit me with reconciliation. I didn’t say yes but also didn’t say no. 
Well drinks continued to flow and then one thing led to another and she spent the night. Now today I absolutely feel horrible because I still feel divorce is the right option.",1.6478536585365828,4.28248832195122,3.091902439024391,87.50029268292684,85.29268292682926,6.206829268292682,23.3219512195122,7.554174236665415,1.3050643902439027,826,31,161,15,25,269,134,205,0.071,0.8540000000000001,0.075,-0.0552,1,0,1,0,3,0,26.0,4,0,0,2,9,4,0,0,10,1,10,5,2,1,0,29,27,17,0,1,4,2,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,2,20,3,0,2,2,7,9,6,0,2,1,17,5,27,4,24,9,2,41,0,0,0,0,27,11,0,1,20,101,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11369474884385875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09668170926976044,0.14907954389334965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08666661864511327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927425302292956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11978588569802215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437726825865833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615990372803358,0.0,0.0,0.1567449276084279,0.0,0.1407724487658557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3280943716024691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23177800878648136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12554031708134802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134801860888518,0.15110613927660269,0.10451264229721373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4002558513165108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14918540364573404,0.0,0.0963393010707226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429219418840788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12141395293329353,0.1352379527899793,0.2261214668036229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12046171722347865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270771897275588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285446385534653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09445263634447873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08290152846230063,0.0,0.13476225661397526,0.1358512615773893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838566198499917,0.0,0.1140416540741872,0.0,0.25565907111314445,0.13179469657786155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13704855594996304,0.0,0.10350277435385137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,FredFredworthson,2020/01/03,"Just over a day, she doesn't want it to end, feeling extremely guilty, now she is saying all sorts of new things I (M33) have been married for 2 years to her (F29), no kids. We'd known each other for much longer. I left yesterday. I've tried leaving before, but never went through with it / came back promptly. I don't know what was different this time but it feels real.  

She is very dependent on me for emotional support.  She has deep issues with her family (she doesn't believe they love her), has very low self confidence in her career (even though she is amazing at it and I tell her every chance I get), and is constantly worried that her friends aren't real and they are taking advantage of her. Since before our marriage I've been working with her on these things, trying to be more loving, supportive, positive and happy around her.  I think it had already reached the point a year ago that I am just acting when I am with her. If I grumble / moan / be pessimistic about anything it will make her upset, really really upset (sometimes screaming and throwing things), so I just hold it in - which is really crap because I love moaning. She doesn't like me going to see my family or friends, she will often have serious emotional trouble if I am away for a night for family/business etc. I convinced her to see a doctor about it before our marriage but he just prescribed anti depressants. She only took one, and it seemed to really mess her up, she slept for almost a day and felt terrible. She hated me for a while after that so we never went back there. I floated the idea of counselling, but she was afraid they would ""side with me"". 

I love her, but it feels like we have been going around in circles for so long that it has to stop. For the past few months, I have looked forward to any chance to be alone just so I can be calm. I feel so guilty. I'm now staying in a hotel out of town so I can be alone. She is calling me every hour, begging me to tell her where I am so she can find me. She says she can't live and if I don't talk to her she will kill herself. 

In the last 24 hours she has started saying all sorts of stuff that I have never heard before. She is saying she has realised she was being selfish, that she was not being mature, that before me boys gave her attention and she could do what she wanted but now she realises she can't. She actually said she was relying on me for her happiness and now she has realised she needs to be happy independently.  I wasn't expecting any of this. I don't know what to do with the information. I had mentally prepared myself to go, but this is all new. I don't feel like I can make any decision at the moment in the state i'm in, but I don't want to tell her there is hope, I don't want her to go through this twice. 

Don't think I'm looking for advice, I'm pretty sure there is no flowchart for the zone I am in. Just venting.",3.989833333333333,4.7808946307692315,4.939391025641027,85.69831730769235,71.06837606837607,7.96965811965812,26.419871794871803,8.158263871857827,1.4983,2249,69,470,31,40,735,249,585,0.166,0.705,0.13,-0.9577,1,2,0,0,0,1,72.0,5,0,3,2,31,34,3,3,15,0,71,7,2,4,7,87,120,32,1,12,19,0,6,3,2,4,1,7,0,3,32,23,0,2,17,1,0,11,20,14,0,2,20,17,100,20,64,86,8,72,0,2,4,4,84,27,1,11,37,347,132,3,0.0,0.0,0.06660054987413319,0.0,0.0,0.06669150296738317,0.06049804914415141,0.0,0.06834086942456949,0.14136942702292887,0.0753137572272359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13923366591343148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05616258131305914,0.12151101149915418,0.0,0.0,0.06412157644609537,0.10495754508310604,0.0,0.04160356396062288,0.0,0.2903716183530092,0.07689252543823935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.069689201431897,0.07805793694656836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07375222645665855,0.0,0.05449075832460697,0.0,0.0,0.08802908630527641,0.0,0.05878220845426231,0.0,0.0,0.07130500541465519,0.0,0.06985508362711945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15354042757363387,0.060447785651519585,0.0,0.07611495684883703,0.045077395040500214,0.0,0.1150043658129617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12867695094436205,0.0,0.17254209548299124,0.09751327739177557,0.065529123903541,0.0,0.062377760363087786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10545702008599332,0.0,0.035656948821326036,0.0,0.15514845250851647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21795493001665903,0.0,0.0673811214035799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06778601617122483,0.1344217648631742,0.0,0.0,0.07704408596733182,0.0,0.07123355150189561,0.0,0.0,0.07550669335531812,0.0,0.07501502249900993,0.05563151859368118,0.0,0.0722651540268945,0.07415203777548125,0.0,0.0,0.10002809719348857,0.0,0.06026454813839949,0.06039764683076267,0.1146228594063328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463872211740375,0.0,0.09111261430131223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06877829000433308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05447518610993067,0.0,0.050170393935762496,0.05060529071732912,0.1579120170615778,0.13182937375128045,0.0,0.06404645822188948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0462468518638059,0.05190594962935051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06515077764018393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06451675561997057,0.0,0.0,0.06943311311357954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553631397005883,0.1748865761347955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06491981465021478,0.2170953258383488,0.0,0.0,0.1087702061329036,0.062130739478083126,0.0711979190391672,0.0,0.0,0.056455744801300826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06749936854317576,0.0,0.0483065371862948,0.07274366606626867,0.0,0.057058681028359995,0.0,0.0,0.07812803859527476,0.0,0.15489484973420278,0.0643232672275477,0.0,0.051314269607612636,0.05485544282540586,0.17895621222144367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136023524126329,0.08746158071589011,0.0670536626116721,0.0,0.039796164841019735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07582643397212714,0.09267230668053568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11262408141296193,0.16101859294806958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265338183136124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04968561552591707,0.06930951770792358,0.0,0.04848167349686179,0.0,0.0,0.08789940646526878
divorce,sleepjournal,2020/01/03,"Should I give my husband a 11th chance? My husband is an alcoholic. He is verbally abusive when he drinks. He has been sober for 2 months. His sobriety came after he got drunk at the airport on his way home from a work trip, drove his work truck home drunk, came on to me sexually but then changed his mind and lashed out at me instead, accusing me of going to the gym so I could cheat on him. That night his favorite term to call me was “petty bitch” which he screamed at me over and over until 2 am. I announced during his screaming that I would like a divorce. 

I filed about a week later, after a sober conversation in which he blamed me for his drinking because “I cause him stress.” The stress being me asking for my needs to be met (affection, romance,sex) and him feeling like he is in trouble because I asked.  He says he can’t meet my needs because we’re fighting and until I stop bringing up my needs, he is incapable of meeting them. 

Yesterday we went to a marriage counselor, an appointment that was made before I filed. Without knowing our issues the counselor condemned divorce and said it would cause irreparable damage to our daughter (4).  The counselor did lay into my husband pretty hard for choosing alcohol over his family, though. 

After our appointment I asked my husband for the umpteenth time to go to individual counseling for his alcoholism, and he refused. I told him I was absolutely not changing my mind about the divorce than and my decision was final. A couple hours later he backtracked, saying he didn’t say he wouldn’t go. He said he would go if that’s what it took to keep me living in our home. (I’ve applied for rentals and should be able to move out this weekend.) I didn’t respond, as I feel he should be making this choice to go to fix himself and our marriage, not be using it as a bargaining chip to keep me in the house.

Today, I woke up from a text from him saying he was going to go to counseling for his alcoholism no matter my decision to stay or go, because it was what he needed to do. He acknowledged he was being stubborn and digging his heels in about it, but blamed his stubbornness on me for “giving him whiplash” about wether I was staying or leaving. 

My concern is that he’s been sober many times before but never stayed that way. Now he has agreed to go to counseling for it but he blames me for his stubbornness (still not taking responsibility for his actions), And he’s fucking broken my heart and I’m not sure I ever want to let him back in emotionally or touch him ever again. 

I’m pretty sure I know what I have to do, but I needed to write it all out to be sure. Still interested in your thoughts.",5.9533954876002255,6.16659901541426,6.286175647958236,79.81303374976694,66.55298651252409,9.008912921872088,32.734228354776555,8.748949900417786,2.5778161601093923,2095,83,403,30,31,675,232,519,0.17,0.7709999999999999,0.057999999999999996,-0.996,1,0,6,0,5,0,51.0,6,1,1,2,15,19,7,2,19,0,41,11,2,6,7,80,87,29,0,15,14,5,4,2,0,7,4,8,3,0,20,19,8,7,9,6,1,18,11,13,0,0,26,12,74,6,76,45,2,75,0,1,0,1,87,23,2,4,31,270,94,2,0.0692752410192817,0.08207983263660726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2961366588140608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942889966486774,0.0,0.0,0.053268384238394695,0.0,0.16891817574325496,0.0,0.11789625548962852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07073776651696277,0.15846484118255022,0.0,0.1423295105403763,0.14656803885848654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05531064297623089,0.07665173655169245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13572672567838953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07792532195416417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253268431686743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06530653189441478,0.0,0.07005528669488785,0.049490246026022505,0.0,0.0758876403895935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06404384403596394,0.0,0.13291024722810765,0.3543364432783221,0.0,0.05540573865682316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06205700890922489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08209149415512973,0.0,0.0,0.20846614530072136,0.0,0.06822215796934877,0.07993432706435065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07230535335147077,0.0,0.1231500344459864,0.0,0.0,0.07614372152026005,0.0,0.0,0.07335247768425555,0.0,0.07083862748339302,0.0,0.06768876706887189,0.0,0.06117130700127647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06554990805769788,0.04624176131143297,0.07023422121452699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398964905562689,0.0,0.05529483645723955,0.0736286178843818,0.0,0.2568335671620285,0.053429336557212166,0.0,0.0,0.0650101208630696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409556500306294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13179323615981306,0.2203618086524405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22151456868732625,0.1106465939289505,0.05791720343207433,0.15870910906195942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19587328446561375,0.0,0.052086359836380366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06806257257183414,0.05499680324979768,0.08078990027014829,0.0,0.0656648283449577,0.06619546151915742,0.07696734173910617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05983156583259652,0.0,0.0,0.040860332012776966,0.10997492364811136,0.05556841972754533,0.0,0.0,0.06421884246381482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06677886024984687,0.0,0.10086640105235113,0.0,0.0,0.14763343084899852,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ComprehensivePeanut5,2020/01/03,"SO's touch makes me cringe. Is there a way back? I'm posting this question here because I'm guessing many people felt this way toward their SO toward the end. 

When I look at it objectively, I don't think our marriage will survive (I'm 49F, he's 48M, married 15 years, two preteen kids, house, dead bedroom that has never been good). Until recently I would have been willing to try to repair our relationship or attempt to build a sex life. We're essentially roommates raising kids (and we don't really agree on parenting issues). I hate family vacations because we've never traveled well together. I fantasize about taking my kids on vacations that I want to go on, without him. 

Within the past year, my physical attraction to him has died. I actually recoiled recently when he touched me. Can a marriage come back from that point, the point at which their touch makes you cringe?",5.4839090909090915,7.063487163636367,6.006439393939399,76.48965909090909,68.27272727272727,9.136363636363637,33.14393939393939,9.516144504307137,3.280666666666667,702,32,122,15,12,227,111,165,0.102,0.871,0.027000000000000003,-0.9153,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,3,1,2,2,10,4,1,0,6,0,12,2,0,2,2,15,26,7,2,2,2,1,4,0,0,3,1,0,1,3,7,3,0,0,3,1,0,3,5,1,1,1,3,5,19,3,17,20,0,29,0,0,1,1,18,10,0,3,13,75,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.14671340594997034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23120948623384724,0.0,0.18329580100632356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12950746927271184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560326437458633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13315956897996425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14173031435913738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14435317688780935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08544358094043412,0.12610085492566234,0.0,0.0,0.16562013141466395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14843291589229266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17347602106988358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15691937947219167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10619194244385674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12625053498063593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20071068473780335,0.15242454258017998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319080939253325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16693847962256486,0.0,0.1435197232747316,0.10422913727350196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842460903321773,0.0,0.1439873545024978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16841894091042398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09631378903085444,0.0,0.2968918080276905,0.16141247547167248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11303947613339255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096333937338708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020732544703974,0.0,0.14686359082901904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08867639320294213,0.2386710800302349,0.0,0.0,0.13517671208595933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14492560822335052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10679959036857094,0.0,0.0,0.19363235480596355
divorce,spotsylisty,2020/01/03,"If you are contemplating divorce whilst having kids, read this. My parents have been married for 20+ years. I am 18 years old now and live in a different country but I have a sister who is 15 who still lives with our parents and they are going through a divorce. No one cheated. They just stopped loving each other. My mother became ill and addicted to painkillers whilst my father couldn't handle her psychotic episodes anymore. I don't hate either of them, as I'm old enough to realise that shit happens in life and there's only one way out of a heavily toxic marriage and that's divorce. 

I called my sister to ask her how she's handling things whilst my parents are filing, and for the love of god the pain in her voice made me want to cry. The position my parents put her in, how she has to choose between my mother or my father, how she's drawn into every argument they have just so they can assert dominance over one another. Parents who are going through divorce, please take a moment to think about how it might be impacting your children. It is never okay to bring someone into this world and ask for them to choose between their parents. It is pure selfishness. And as we grow older, we will be more distant, and chances are we will probably not want to associate with you anymore.",5.834382530120482,6.620280538152612,5.833591867469881,80.95713478915664,66.91164658634538,8.313353413654621,32.831576305220885,8.278499904357787,2.5081744979919685,1030,43,188,13,16,324,146,249,0.128,0.769,0.10300000000000001,-0.8464,7,0,0,0,4,0,22.0,4,3,7,0,11,8,3,0,8,1,23,7,1,5,2,40,38,19,0,4,7,12,0,0,0,3,4,1,0,2,12,18,0,1,3,1,0,5,5,5,0,3,2,1,34,3,32,30,4,28,0,0,0,2,48,9,1,3,13,141,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11208598962819574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10781286174912158,0.0,0.0,0.20393418788797865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922405172897523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049879179601642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11293993201274015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074221529993948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10623771420550414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08662797589115141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11686683638876624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092096332138644,0.0,0.0,0.10151075777351384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07262287129587403,0.0,0.0,0.18157904828465254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18559318252722112,0.09728817728232364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10907286461830376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07929900927518631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21577883696439085,0.0,0.2090149086069512,0.078197159235009,0.10940481363049916,0.0,0.6849983967306045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11286247586574172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11085439604562672,0.0,0.0,0.10335974446157098,0.0,0.0,0.1028450836553414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10554043970678163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08711673061173109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210999652638616,0.08595983308224245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730578363729047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06830721880483033,0.06588114852944296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12128856751941144,0.08161155511514859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324218886873183
divorce,nkenne_coaches,2020/01/03,"Who is going through divorce anxiety or depression ???? Girl it's so difficult to say good bye to someone you have shared part of your life with.  Soo difficult. 
Are you having that feeling of ......... too??
How are you feeling???",1.4446428571428598,4.010788750000003,2.568571428571431,86.825,99.0,6.285714285714287,28.214285714285715,7.447530270364453,2.4811785714285715,170,9,30,4,7,54,33,40,0.237,0.61,0.153,-0.7609999999999999,0,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,0,4,0,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,0,5,8,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,3,4,2,6,8,1,1,0,1,0,0,10,0,0,1,1,23,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30243666393532537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34050874182499674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.399795063096182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246827983711946,0.3315953363594349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2792427766971975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4281184400207951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31439298642046715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3349732297652024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Dabeast987,2020/01/03,Iv been really struggling It's been over 3 weeks since I found out my wife has been cheating on me and the same amount of time since I have seen my kids. The pain and heartbreak that I'm feeling makes day to day so hard. I miss my kids so much. Iv lost so much and just want my kids back.,3.1916666666666664,3.2267754285714285,3.4763095238095225,98.19160714285714,72.49206349206351,6.934920634920636,22.099206349206348,5.985473137389443,-0.12144126984127013,224,4,58,1,4,69,44,63,0.282,0.6779999999999999,0.04,-0.9531,0,1,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,5,6,1,1,2,0,5,3,0,1,0,10,13,6,0,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,2,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,6,3,8,0,5,7,4,8,0,3,1,0,4,3,0,0,5,33,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984198137451332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3328339071767912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13047473784499058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829317927333837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311566293102107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28168537469183136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17224629201439326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3793838818303792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27457687916922835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16530951555561696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42691312413784505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26976348815753226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15046746013873274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15220096467081876,0.0,0.20698723361133445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Kstate913,2020/01/03,"Dealing with ex and her new relationship in too close for comfort situation If you've been in this situation, say maybe she/he is with a mutual friend, a colleague, a kids teacher, a neighbor that you have to see all the time - how did you deal? Bonus if it is the person they had an affair with. Life is fun.",1.968924731182799,4.096624387096775,3.6658064516129047,87.18537634408602,79.32258064516128,6.713978494623658,23.23655913978495,7.793537801064563,1.0848301075268814,240,8,51,4,6,80,49,62,0.0,0.8059999999999999,0.19399999999999998,0.91,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,1,1,2,4,0,0,7,0,7,1,0,1,1,9,8,4,0,2,2,1,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,2,3,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,4,4,7,5,1,5,0,0,1,0,14,3,0,2,2,34,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5176543314210831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19396483331393766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17732790301853624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522189637142109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424709373040981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2192119527001048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695396198403229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19964938633356635,0.0,0.0,0.20005870528948733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5643937340730036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14639246346289686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Sosadadontheinside,2020/01/03,"I don't know what I want.... Is this a mid life crisis, or am I done I feel so lost and confused I don't plan on writing a novel so let me be brief if anyone wants more BG to help give me advice let me know.  My husband has at the very least had numerous emotional affairs over our 20 years of marriage.  I forgave him and the last time I caught him out with someone (April 2019) I haven't been able to let it go.  I love him but I don't love him like I think a wife should.  Before with time all was back to normal this time is different.  Our bedroom is/has been essentially dead for a while.  Now though I have zero desire to have sex with him at all. ( he never initiates anything with me anyway) I brought up the idea of an open marriage to him at one point and he told me it was ok as long as he didn't know about it.  I did take him up on it a couple times with a friend because I feel so alone and unwanted.   I am considering therapy, but he never admits he has done anything wrong. He tries to explain it all away.",0.7100307219662056,2.525051308755764,2.6326267281106013,94.59274961597542,81.99539170506912,5.607987711213519,20.47158218125961,6.655083550727371,0.12337849462365602,782,22,183,8,21,261,123,217,0.12300000000000001,0.762,0.115,-0.4428,1,1,0,0,0,0,22.0,2,0,0,2,8,8,0,1,10,1,26,4,0,0,5,37,45,15,1,7,4,2,2,1,1,1,1,0,1,0,8,11,0,0,9,1,0,4,7,3,0,2,13,2,31,5,27,27,5,30,0,1,0,3,29,13,0,3,14,127,39,0,0.13011010780246854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12714209150677316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13475483252791487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09097601258617499,0.0,0.21413906524355356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12224272924326175,0.10004664168244153,0.0,0.07931391407802539,0.0,0.1107141186776487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439643595496297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13593737012876875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26629562709298443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14635635893603566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13157515975249667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10052274653611004,0.0,0.0,0.12481347116561173,0.07394457265275382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08721006265663023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14687847465223433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145153377248742,0.10605710342377216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3991392013725864,0.09190061695390504,0.06356522655688641,0.0,0.0,0.11514335107886545,0.0,0.0,0.14203055237808462,0.0,0.2348589042589859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006978723419628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12748028065482536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08816597632300904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12299610717674428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11024187211777302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978266086647516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14879224748045491,0.0,0.0,0.08336930346393011,0.1278325203108258,0.0,0.3034730007095591,0.0,0.0,0.12432578375143465,0.0,0.08833622254609337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073544651698448,0.1534846252370987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14225497785509442,0.0,0.08378664359734074
divorce,magicalsiren,2020/01/03,"Despite knowing why I should, I’m having a hard time I’m going to court to turn in the paperwork to start the process

Saw stbx yesterday and realized how they have slowly been preparing for this on their own time
Time, during which I had been waiting and still hoping for them
It hurts so much to be the one left behind
How could someone say they love you and do destructive things that push you apart?
How could someone see everything you do right and well, give up on a lifetime with you?
I’m not ready. But in 30 minutes, I’ll be at court turning in the paperwork for their freedom and mine. 

He’s saying we need to go to therapy to help close this chapter. He’s dealing with the divorce in a healthier way than our marriage when we were together. 

Man I’m salty. 
Man I’m breaking into pieces. 
Could I believe in marriage again?
Could I love as hard and fierce than I have?
I gave up so much. 
Why am I not enough? Why wasn’t it enough? How do I manage these thoughts and gain closure?

I can’t believe I’m spending a grand this month. On this process and on distraction. I can believe I have all these additional responsibilities for me, while he goes home to his lump sum of money that gives him the freedom to still do nothing. 

I want to do nothing. 
I want to be on the beach and heal. 
Man,
I can hate him so much some days. I envy him. Oh how easy everything is for that dude.",2.387607142857142,4.299898260714286,3.359428571428573,90.92557142857143,77.10714285714286,6.48,25.485714285714288,7.404127859558343,1.1085685714285716,1083,40,232,14,25,346,150,280,0.079,0.8,0.121,0.9502,0,0,0,0,1,0,28.0,3,4,5,1,14,9,2,1,11,0,27,4,0,5,1,39,53,21,0,9,3,0,2,0,0,1,2,2,1,3,13,16,0,1,3,1,2,3,4,4,1,1,8,6,33,5,37,37,9,35,0,1,2,2,34,18,0,2,12,157,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35942825971426845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3396172050707409,0.0,0.0,0.06858087769176004,0.10963247006500466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21975649451276424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911441154353439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040231511513476,0.12087160610361394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905205471021014,0.10498930841306628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07127785017573653,0.0,0.1066682736649902,0.10562019167457358,0.0,0.0,0.11383979181935068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05844200251276337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155393528825082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19195305312553804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08488003755679308,0.0,0.2345176891867645,0.07885019370087648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20407331182534733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07205913009937741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09081427551438497,0.0,0.16913259711841602,0.0,0.0,0.0847396754458994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18020405913114965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526841087494437,0.0,0.1698474514068471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12160972254979427,0.0,0.07064795711544106,0.0,0.0,0.08442254330485872,0.18602414461726646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23133603227931576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254448602451183,0.08440820380014878,0.0,0.0,0.09561295370465717,0.0,0.2878675035897287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Lenorah1209,2020/01/03,"So angry My STBXH told me right before Thanksgiving that he wasn’t happy in our relationship and hadn’t been for awhile. He said it was a combination of lack of intimacy and sex, that I don’t do enough around the house (that it’s always so cluttered and messy) and that I spent too much money.  I’m not denying that these things happened. I wanted to see if he’d be at least willing to let me work on these things. He refused, said I’d tried in the past and nothing really changed.

Then a couple weeks later he told me he wanted to separate. Which was ok, since things in our house had gotten really awkward. Then he told me (via text) that he’s been talking to another woman, thought I should know. I asked him how long, and he told me since October. Then he started staying away at night ( I can only assume with her, since I didn’t ask him where he was staying and didn’t want to know).  He would stay at home when I worked overnights to stay with the kids. At this point I’m the only one with a job since he quit his back in early November.

We told our children yesterday we were separating and that Daddy would be living in the basement. 

All of this to say now I’m angry. Yes, I wasn’t a great wife but now I feel cheated. Cheated because now he’s fucking another woman, can come and go from the house when he pleases, and still gets to stay at home.  I don’t want him back or anymore, I really don’t want him here.  I feel guilty for wanting to kick him out since he claims he’s got nowhere to go and no job. I feel like he gets to eat his cake and have it too. 
 
Thanks for letting me vent. Sorry about the length.",3.943274360370168,4.449411422155691,4.709951007076757,88.33503538377792,71.0059880239521,7.749373979314097,25.96026129559064,7.686295010490155,1.1409149700598804,1261,36,279,14,22,407,166,334,0.08,0.846,0.075,-0.5531,2,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,5,0,0,3,17,9,3,1,11,2,28,3,0,1,1,44,65,23,0,11,4,1,3,1,0,4,0,3,2,4,18,20,1,1,7,0,2,3,10,4,0,1,23,7,35,5,36,33,5,44,0,0,1,2,49,17,1,3,20,168,53,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06359852737222248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16029370379107782,0.0,0.0,0.07580117477601414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06804173356064709,0.14290940818727596,0.0,0.07181148714352124,0.11754479251905525,0.0,0.04659295613223904,0.0,0.06503900525817574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08085616808106523,0.06584041534494929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08457185812949583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782102230783731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07897590517504749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11594073469396945,0.05460387792889742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07066124181315117,0.0798663621133031,0.0,0.08687747338853047,0.0,0.06113059507901403,0.0842678490309632,0.0,0.0,0.06758960724440892,0.08136453968769859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15333741985337268,0.0,0.0,0.26458087731400715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15169627148004736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08401135190877923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563162068630639,0.0,0.037341390182651535,0.0,0.06749189685766564,0.06764095768188748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05618718064631729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07172736021323059,0.0,0.07333969609958628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05179309979750602,0.11626175278500485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07296411738771866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839006774425885,0.07225405898496656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08129609358600717,0.0,0.0,0.1468951538204471,0.0,0.0,0.0820606292949208,0.0,0.06527351673921174,0.14541091138122098,0.060782731275583264,0.0,0.0,0.06090734735660733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3161315751013016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08556068555464312,0.054099797078723866,0.4073379921407527,0.06103963501179493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06143409356943025,0.0,0.07036940155947992,0.0,0.0,0.15233642239326362,0.0,0.0,0.060679405989465314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3651758872181137,0.0,0.05189311093547663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704936136530911,0.0,0.061310085343062926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11128852839595473,0.0,0.0,0.10859187393632118,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,prouddada29,2020/01/03,"Trying to move on My partner of 11 years, 1 child (3) and I have separated almost 2 months ago. I've spent the first month with some friends but had to move back few weeks ago due to having to pay rent at our shared house. I have been finding it hard to stay at the house so my ex has agreed to take over all the rent so I can move out. 

While living with my ex I have struggled to sleep. Everytime my head hits the pillow my mind just starts going in circles. I built my life around her, I don't really have any friends of my own so I haven't left the house in a while. I think my feelings for her have somewhat gone but she's been hooking up with randoms every week since we split. It just makes me so mad, not because she's moving on but for the last 2 years she told me she wasn't interested in sex. Now she's probably hooked up more than we ever had sex in one year. Then I just found put she wants to start stripping to pay bills. I don't care what she does but how can I be okay with the mother of my child doing that? 

I've started doing yoga and more exercise plus writing down my thoughts but I still can't sleep. I'm looking to move out asap and I'm hoping this will help.

I don't know what I'm expecting from this, just hoping that putting on here will help me think about a bit less.",1.7422912105098547,3.1345266510791383,2.8339849859243067,96.27249452611824,77.45323741007195,5.841976853299968,20.36033781670316,6.280692351149826,-0.14031986237097316,1011,23,242,7,23,323,154,278,0.071,0.825,0.10300000000000001,0.8719,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,0,1,16,10,1,1,9,1,24,7,3,2,2,44,48,17,0,4,10,3,2,0,3,2,2,0,3,3,8,13,0,0,7,2,6,9,7,2,0,2,10,3,38,8,39,34,9,49,0,0,1,2,25,17,0,6,22,154,46,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758962679955354,0.0,0.09934951666548138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06746961970942991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08832240768680245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07629023059116391,0.0,0.0604805587908331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10831711160642933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115633104382983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682373759505954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08974567092002465,0.08359293826769991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05016609807577819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09068073606508753,0.08439225018294205,0.0,0.10878415467583648,0.15330656549649824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0563861855208451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08887717521700739,0.0,0.10182323991169996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13300348073776158,0.0,0.0,0.19708581409614145,0.0,0.3434424564070052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05452598343186645,0.08087348800485036,0.0,0.0,0.10779741573065288,0.0,0.0700785067942377,0.0,0.0,0.08760868540342456,0.0,0.08331563365171751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06622680007718397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001788929402111,0.0,0.15838497390663978,0.5272493540792876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06723066912457819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10697057838438738,0.0,0.0,0.19947700842041455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06355968601427511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820716945251876,0.0,0.19857335522540429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106747175585142,0.10575001642517512,0.07923324769143493,0.0,0.0,0.10372108676127433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745973518698856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271459646926698,0.0,0.07876564798599156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948042088302175,0.0,0.06736048981019002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058519592735073615,0.0,0.15916861812922795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19167367099007654
divorce,julieweatherley,2020/01/03,"Fuck you Fuck you.
Fuck you for only thinking about YOU
How do I still love you, still want you?
I want everybody to know, I want to blast you out on a megaphone in the middle of time square.
“My husband actively cheated on me for years!! My husband lies to my face every day!! My husband projects all his insecurities onto me!! He blames me for all things!! He uses me still!!! He laughed in my face the day I found out he had sex with a customer in her car!!! My husband moved out right before Christmas secretly planning it for months!!!! My husband is soon to be my ex, stay clear of this narcissistic asshole!!! My husband...my husband.. is the father of my 3 beautiful children. 😥

 
How am I stuck with you now? How do I move on when I am forced to communicate with you? I just want you gone. I want your face whipped from my memory, *eternal sunshine of the spotless mind* style.
But they, they think the sun shines out of your asshole. They don’t even seem to mind that dad cheated on mom. That dad lies to mom. You after all, are dad. I don’t want them to hate you but secretly I do. Or at least feel bad for me, but they don’t.
I’m just here. Trying to get through the day. Trying.
Trying to forget you.",0.32145360414177304,2.6858513086419755,1.8893189964157744,95.47870967741936,89.41152263374485,4.616965352449223,21.007433957254747,6.207218560251982,0.1420108588875615,920,32,202,9,31,297,119,243,0.133,0.789,0.078,-0.9498,0,0,0,0,0,0,53.0,0,15,5,1,14,11,6,1,8,0,13,8,3,4,4,38,35,8,0,6,6,13,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,7,0,0,8,0,0,4,3,8,0,0,4,4,49,3,40,30,4,34,0,0,3,5,43,15,3,2,14,136,54,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10619851382498068,0.0,0.0,0.10822950194519404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460814926115136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08400793510557536,0.0,0.10716323881840188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06431119254913481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13945750189868758,0.0,0.35275590291896075,0.066451635902063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12557400153950915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06990041390344473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11479413167417304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568517114289096,0.2979272768566931,0.10152201331677514,0.27036613196729303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09673388722081208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086197456257701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11578919157699175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13556784221329155,0.3047228014951481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08449952485327046,0.16299670356750068,0.0,0.0,0.07416563513511466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25906141377649683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098515053556162,0.0,0.0,0.45012049260008813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08190632608115937
divorce,cheeseandwich,2020/01/03,"Can somebody please point me to a resource sheet/website for 'protecting yourself' prior to divorce but during separation? If an SO cheated and things looked like they could potentially get nasty in the future, do you know of any resources that outline the necessary steps to preemptively protect oneself? Looking for steps such as: separating bank accounts, changing passwords, seek therapy, screenshot evidence etc.",14.257641025641027,13.861150661538465,11.55846153846154,50.78487179487182,50.07692307692307,13.589743589743593,57.05128205128207,12.45797560212912,7.756589743589744,343,23,39,8,3,103,60,65,0.145,0.748,0.107,-0.7139,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,1,1,0,2,2,1,0,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,7,5,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,1,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,1,8,6,1,6,0,0,2,0,3,2,0,1,3,27,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20555313874397504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3197602946615544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413370286420472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3371095959371284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15792296425235042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16611901898649115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14767325995347153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5076593013954722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33180035584234785,0.28574170332141546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3456706981383684,0.0,0.20081394929706087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,MyOldAolName,2020/01/03,"How does divorce work when you have 5 kids and a full time job? I've come to realize how emotionally abusive to me and our children my SO is. I'm not quite ready to file for divorce, but, tonight certainly moved me closer. When my SO is stressed, they usually lash out verbally at me and our children, it sucks and gets everyone upset and stressed. Tonight, however, I feel like it went too far, and I'm worried that this sort of environment is bad for our children. We recently moved after just moving 1.5 yrs ago, and we have 5 children (12,9,6,4,2), which is stressful in and of itself. My SO has been threatening to leave (with and without the kids) at least once a week, blaming our children for everything in life they're unhappy with, and tonight told our 3yo daughter that they were going to ""call the police and have them find out what's wrong with her.""  I'm the sole income earner, and I feel helpless about my situation. I would certainly want primary/sole custody, but, I don't see how I can be the primary caregiver and work full time, especially when my job often requires travel. Anyone have any advice on how this would even work? I'm 41, just graduated college, and finally have my dream job and house after being poor my whole life. I don't want to give everything up I've worked so hard for, but, I also don't want my children to have to grow up in an abusive household.",7.349819437068508,6.594047022304835,7.344463621879977,76.62915427509296,63.907063197026034,10.808390865639934,36.68640467339353,10.125756701596842,3.5372568242166738,1095,47,212,21,14,352,146,269,0.223,0.7240000000000001,0.053,-0.9955,5,0,0,0,2,0,43.0,7,1,3,6,18,11,1,4,7,0,21,2,0,4,2,48,38,30,0,5,7,1,3,1,0,2,2,0,0,8,9,23,0,1,4,2,1,8,5,8,0,0,4,4,30,3,31,30,4,37,0,1,1,0,26,14,1,2,16,138,39,10,0.0,0.2531657189818736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10439863010118927,0.09470342057717246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854364874933303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726519538400463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07470202018471007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08920336451263229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10909121610130894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09202951376922226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934926594094161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12017580644177228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07056398613568415,0.0,0.0,0.10208610976967472,0.1920341144741705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080387011941991,0.07632346043661288,0.0,0.11703331027810095,0.09764591351122387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05581725474615913,0.10248655856955123,0.06071720228036453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09570382135112657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232740780075197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3180539042418942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11312360268967038,0.0,0.0,0.1509224585145464,0.052194536804966406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3406483916737609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11377655613533134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136329399633922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10548738574034801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08513423757785703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12008782665692334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.367139872371556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12459353614254265,0.0,0.0,0.10208610976967472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11766445305597527,0.0,0.18904342881004807,0.0,0.0856971711631894,0.0,0.0,0.0990377837179236,0.0,0.11927826718455425,0.0,0.10298582261242628,0.0,0.31111070921145584,0.10849686061536452,0.0,0.15178606187840438,0.11680808957241127,0.0,0.0
divorce,LennyBruceWillis,2020/01/03,"Does anyone need to talk?... ...the stress of this is killing me.  I feel so dead on the inside.  I’m barley a shell of the person I should be.  I feel so toxic to my own friends and family, I don’t want to burden them with my problems anymore.  I’m a stay at home dad, and I feel far less than the father I want to be for them.",-0.4563095238095229,1.085487416666666,2.024206349206352,98.87000000000002,84.55555555555556,4.669841269841268,15.841269841269842,5.288315135182226,-0.9817563492063496,242,4,62,1,7,83,48,72,0.23800000000000002,0.688,0.07400000000000001,-0.9392,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,2,0,2,5,1,1,6,0,5,0,0,0,0,11,13,4,2,5,0,2,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,3,11,1,11,10,2,4,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,0,40,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25633182952889444,0.1807275586312235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22618799388858635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436616025775903,0.0,0.3920691299158264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19969253489943775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592655158867845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2859576913078482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19165151403720806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256851913155232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473199590169881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2754936003844239,0.0,0.0,0.2960754057513035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20774761930318195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049034665072187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,cherry_like_thefruit,2020/01/03,"Mutual property issues My STBX husband moved out a few months ago, and took a lot of what would be considered mutual property with him- several guns, a ton of expensive camping gear, decorations from the kids’ rooms, dishes, it ranges from the serious to the very petty and ridiculous. He keeps taking things and when I asked him to stop bc it’s mutual property that must be divided up fairly, he actually said “Make me.” He filed for divorce already and I have to file a response soon. Our home which I now live in belongs to his mother and I can’t prohibit him from continuing to come over and take shit whenever he wants. It’s so violating. In addition he is refusing to pay his half of mutual debts. What are my hopes of getting a judge to tell him to cooperate? He definitely isn’t capable of being a rational adult. He also wants 50-50 custody, which is strange bc he was not involved in parenting at all and literally slept in the living room on a blow up bed for the last year to avoid the bedtime routine with our daughter. Any advice would be great please. I have very few financial resources so an attorney is out of the question.",4.898955479452057,6.362431278538812,6.2896775114155306,74.34766695205481,69.54794520547945,10.589155251141554,31.95234018264841,10.686352973137794,3.777842237442922,906,40,166,28,16,307,139,219,0.109,0.8270000000000001,0.064,-0.7934,2,1,0,1,1,0,20.0,2,0,0,0,6,7,3,1,15,0,16,3,2,1,2,28,29,11,0,6,1,4,0,0,0,3,0,2,4,2,9,13,1,4,1,0,3,3,3,5,0,1,4,2,16,2,33,18,5,25,0,0,0,0,29,13,1,3,9,109,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.15918006754917166,0.0,0.0,0.15939745193345528,0.1445946552627388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18000525499369022,0.1304457577209745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11092613292785412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15249372224667418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14051209276664406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08522265255621372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17983865621516876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636210954180118,0.16201341660717403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702532721016325,0.0,0.14498716451837554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13296329991780606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28807314238756776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13867746471516876,0.0,0.0,0.10888282549073523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301995827529993,0.17336908726802858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18112372411241984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17905506382717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827299844693344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551629904081988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18427740764481867,0.16743873482383467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363743199947446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24528953342917115,0.0,0.1425727064996151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10836864360041812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812305890042488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691795926739264,0.19242296460453875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317493196891653,0.0,0.0,0.10504292746168327
divorce,DeviL-In714,2020/01/03,"I guess this is it...(maybe a long read, please forgive me) So...

I sit here at work, at a job she helped me get, in her home state after she moved me here when everything back home for me went belly-up...(edit: mind is so erratic I cant keep my thoughts straight anymore. I cant even log in at work. My credentials are my last name. I was to be so proud to know she shared that with me, now my own name seems to betray me) 

I'd reach out to a friend, but... I miss my brother terribly. She helped me through his death a couple years ago. I'm trying to reconnect with old coworkers, and none of them seem to really believe me when I tell them everything. Everyone tells me to forget her.

We got married July, 2018. I was so scared because we had split up a few times, but I wanted to keep working on improving myself for her, and myself. I wanted to give her that commitment, because she had helped give me a second chance at life. I wanted that life to include her so much...by October of that year I was moved out. She met a guy online. I had to work so hard to show her I wanted her no matter what. I had to work hard to put aside my petty feelings of betrayal.

We moved back in together in April or May. I got shingles, which is *loads* of fun. [/sarcasm]. Started this job her and her friend helped me get. Tried to expand my circle of friends. One of them wanted more from me than I wanted to give, and I could see it was hurting my wife. I cut everything off with that entire group of people, further alienating me at work. I focused on my wife: gifts, dates, everything I could think of, I did. She told me in was just trying to shut her up.

She was retreating back into her phone all the time. I got mad about it. She told me she feels like she cant trust me, or that she has to sacrifice a part of herself to make our marriage work. We fought for weeks. She would ignore me entirely, shutting herself in the bedroom to hang out with people online, wouldnt let me sleep in the bed. 

I begged her to let this go. Let go of the animosity. My car (dream car she helped me get) started to die, and I was taking Uber back and forth from work. Walked to get my car from the car shop, in the snow. We had one good day before she left. I was later told she was faking the entire thing that day.

I talked to her friend that helped me get this job (same friend that she was staying with last year when she wanted to leave), and this friend told me I was narcissistic, abusive. I found posts from my wife online, talking about how I am a beast, ready to lash out, using her as an emotional punching bag, posts wanting to meet men in our area. She denied it all. 

We finally had a talk, and I thought we cleared up so much of all this. But she still wants this to go through. She wont speak to me, preferring to ""heal by herself"", and I know she isnt by herself. 

She is going to leave. She is going to run. She wants nothing to do with me. 

I feel this...tightness in my chest. This burning. I started going to therapy because I started to think I was being hurtful to her without realizing it. My therapist tells me I'm not a narcissist, far from it. He is worried about my safety. Hasn't had me committed yet, but I wonder how far off that is. 

She has spun such outlandish tales about me. When I tell people about last year and this year, no one believes that she is capable of doing that. I still dont believe it, and I have all the screenshots. I look at them every day. I read them every day. I look at her pictures everyday, trying to see how unhappy she claimed she was. 

Everything I am, everything I have, everything I see, is because of her. I took her back after she left me 3 months into our marriage. I stayed loyal and faithful. And it all means nothing to her. I'm starting to hate her, and she doesnt care. 

My best friend...my person. My wife. My other half...she doesnt care that I think poorly of her. I care deeply that she has this beastly view of me, and I care that she doesnt care. 

I cant move on from this. It's been like this since Sept. I still love her so much. I tried making a tinder profile, just to bury her and forget her, but I cant. (And no one matched me anyway). I'm alone. She found someone when I was trying so hard...twice

I don't know how I can trust her ever again, and she isnt giving me any reason to do so, but i cant disregard her then way she has disregarded me. I feel solely responsible for this, despite being the best husband i could be. 

Once i sign everything...I won't have anyone. The best parts of me were hers. All I want to do is come home to our cats, and be able to sit with her. Grown old with her. Maybe have some kids one day. 

And she wants nothing to do with me

(Edit 2: god damn does my head hurt. Ice had headaches for years, but this doesn't seem to stop. She could make it stop. She would cradle my head in her hands and tell me things would be ok, and it was like medicine. She says being without me is medicine for her heart)

(Edit 3: I think about her being happy without me and I feel this crushing sense of despair. That I was that bad for her when I did everything I could. I'm so mad at her and myself. Thinking of her with someone else when I cant bare to be alone, and when she thought I was cheating when I was doing everything I could to show i wanted her...I feel played. Like I was fighting a losing battle.  No points for effort or style. I was going to lose no matter what I did, and everyone else knew that before I did. Her, who ever she is with that she is lying about, her friends, people we know...they all benefit from this when I'm left with pieces of my life, and glimpses of what could have been)",1.20104048582996,3.1622407666666703,2.64322986954566,94.39174089068828,81.07692307692308,5.609536662168241,20.519568151147094,6.678205002080027,0.16276923076923122,4347,120,979,44,114,1411,392,1170,0.154,0.74,0.106,-0.9967,3,3,0,0,2,1,204.0,12,0,5,15,52,54,9,1,24,1,109,11,6,9,12,162,207,64,2,25,16,6,9,4,7,7,4,2,5,4,53,54,0,7,29,7,2,23,29,21,0,6,52,17,239,33,147,129,21,135,2,7,6,1,158,44,1,10,64,688,292,15,0.03632507137116593,0.04303926965520399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03219998404114858,0.0,0.0,0.07524363774438665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024702294172166864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03602470996234626,0.02539933450269724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396586883579233,0.030329917295678733,0.08857370540295967,0.0,0.06181992053787262,0.12277774872188307,0.11436276397568895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18517915601001486,0.0,0.0,0.031290832544626314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20301829584341846,0.04019300055829538,0.0,0.11713332968112815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03769968909411695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031788314747243536,0.0,0.04257271311199157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06068987199851525,0.04086081607162119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02399236705074776,0.06571621340960608,0.06121087863537791,0.06942032474376783,0.2938196870485261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020228518920618,0.02595063824565339,0.0,0.039792340131650984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965713165854511,0.22451728026501813,0.0,0.09489175264701463,0.13938527374236134,0.14451062620282293,0.030467746434795974,0.08715743380182916,0.0,0.04001616144009711,0.03596753167703975,0.0,0.038668713936563626,0.09762038693223364,0.035863487576272016,0.07456000602032109,0.0,0.0,0.0430453844732312,0.14608757784270354,0.0,0.1093110250516898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166602205874871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10814108485625903,0.06457478494180753,0.0,0.0,0.07985323697162675,0.08882934423057691,0.0,0.07692601131162596,0.1184018889914885,0.1114345397276989,0.07697241650832247,0.07098638008689506,0.0,0.0,0.03214654508014824,0.061007822497554764,0.0812769265418544,0.0,0.0,0.032784795137951704,0.0,0.07274180162716548,0.0,0.07298683322755044,0.03956865178277617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03667796697104007,0.0,0.028994325407068807,0.15443120862566462,0.08010932122226286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10456465701967872,0.0,0.07623410373864832,0.03868501548821141,0.123074042306691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07867302488521781,0.0,0.10073292294294636,0.03171765119798315,0.0,0.039874020151334524,0.034338933746437504,0.0,0.06957875439282855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03651672978005676,0.0,0.0,0.07266980290272967,0.0,0.023270770876980984,0.0373482233016522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028887154735958036,0.03636773340247363,0.0,0.08683913657992381,0.0992069421061213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030048474411158512,0.0,0.03635130490328335,0.0,0.0615562301869536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12855536240313764,0.07743538575425077,0.08702774676006207,0.060738772390639885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027311932960206186,0.08759014919668533,0.158748567353651,0.0,0.04154088487428924,0.04217620761655498,0.04826552666353773,0.11637819496273585,0.0,0.08651414735657828,0.04236288247002541,0.0,0.0,0.1388406494875357,0.04035849086607681,0.14797403412427998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031373198665779485,0.0,0.0,0.2785310871831831,0.0288331508615341,0.0291377811594212,0.0,0.0,0.033673705086387916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10504821761582757,0.03939299037822735,0.2115606767017664,0.03688987323834388,0.0,0.07741286545459017,0.0,0.0,0.14035292999270424
divorce,Lonestargal15,2020/01/03,"Help Posting here and reaching out because I’m losing my mind tonight and can’t stop messaging his family. 

I’m angry that he left. I’m angry that no one cared. 


The agreement was we’d call off the wedding celebration off and he’d agree to therapy with me. But he walked out and divorced me instead. If he had actually done what he’s said, I wouldn’t have texted everyone.

If he can’t figure out after dating someone for 8 years, spending $10k on an engagement ring, going to a wedding planner the weekend before “deciding that he didn’t love me”, paying for my ticket and inviting me that same weekend to his cousin’s graduation, and AFTER he has legally married someone, that he doesn’t want to be married that’s his problem and he shouldn’t ruin other people’s lives with his indecisiveness and immaturity. You think I fucking enjoyed having my wedding called off two years after trying to recover from surgery/chronic illness and piecing my life back together? There is a special place in hell for families like his that just use people Willy Nilly and throw them out like yesterday’s garbage.

And no one can even fucking respond and say I’m sorry it happened this way.

It’s been two years since he walked out. Two years since the divorce. Two years since he filed in a totally different state than I have ever lived. I couldn’t contest anything or do anything because I was on the opposite side of the country, sick in bed. 

I have physically moved on an lived my life but mentally I can’t seem to crawl out of the hole of being abandoned because he didn’t want a sick wife.",7.1026470588235275,6.939546192810463,7.356143790849675,74.38264705882355,64.19607843137257,9.81437908496732,37.281045751633975,9.325443323948027,3.4742732026143788,1269,59,227,20,17,413,169,306,0.11,0.8009999999999999,0.08900000000000001,-0.8592,1,0,0,0,2,0,24.0,1,1,1,2,7,16,3,1,13,0,26,8,0,1,2,44,42,17,0,8,6,2,0,2,0,2,5,3,1,0,12,20,0,2,4,3,2,5,11,8,0,6,8,3,25,8,34,27,3,42,1,3,0,3,36,18,3,5,18,143,37,3,0.0,0.0,0.10099716126798698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17033677027656197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07958203143280311,0.0,0.18927059310748948,0.0,0.08806746857756909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21136196409658056,0.0,0.10552106415692886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10813128637359233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059123355334536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683581283495433,0.09361805238720336,0.0,0.0988948580784896,0.0,0.0,0.19513362563164166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19136075861951915,0.0,0.0,0.058819158806101376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09152116623768572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06937118358881134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124487009748974,0.0,0.14620456347418276,0.10112583036900066,0.0,0.2741665781399308,0.0,0.0,0.11578554472455282,0.0,0.0,0.09340917589386988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042996200546672,0.0,0.10450145117000972,0.0,0.0,0.10999986326984007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14026312889766662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14350218261069767,0.0,0.10813128637359233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09912055390629096,0.0,0.0,0.09903168940762036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09844839122360027,0.08230416894327204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421886646020604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25683886873203576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17538364076097532,0.0,0.0,0.11585529263013444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08652728574239729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183566896081545,0.0,0.0,0.06631605436448945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0702669866883905,0.0,0.4044021927324656,0.0,0.0,0.08938730958037068,0.0,0.0,0.12208923822591933,0.0821503031837396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.333240136414438
divorce,killerbutton,2020/01/03,"Happy 2020! Call out from the future. Twenty years ago on this date, found out my ex-wife was having an affair with her boss who had a lot of young children, we were only married for sixteen months and it hit out of no where like a bomb.   Was lost in extensional crisis for two years, did a ""light"" divorce, meaning no alimony, no kids, just a hard break.   Very dark place for the two years afterwards.

Now very successful, happily married for 15 years and three awesome children.  If you're close to the same spot I was in twenty years ago, message me and I'll walk you through how I drove through it.  Hang in there, it gets a lot better if you do the work and it's a new start not an end!",3.5806474820143883,4.61709371942446,4.092870503597123,90.4761402877698,72.23741007194245,6.99884892086331,25.41079136690648,7.1686216300943375,0.9091519424460428,533,16,116,5,10,168,95,139,0.115,0.743,0.142,0.7995,0,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,1,2,0,4,5,5,0,0,12,0,8,0,0,2,0,21,15,7,0,2,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,6,10,0,0,2,0,0,3,4,1,0,3,9,2,8,4,18,5,3,30,0,1,0,0,12,10,0,4,17,73,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2960988281606468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14771188727728252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705417874737439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14792641043410595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831241850041941,0.0,0.0,0.0872588530633593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17779140617684827,0.1496133359273565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08159547506388355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18231745598364574,0.2839816915766209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819291495580317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13331040421278584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613048835339168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12702302865333018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17449594527387405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11821463051873778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3263003024299201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756110238330816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12158947884922612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5377634406930829
divorce,truthinherefornow,2020/01/03,"Help. Am I asking too little? I got served divorce paper in mid-December, which means I need to respond in about two weeks time at the latest. Most lawyers were on holidays for Christmas (he served me at the worst time possible). I’m just feeling so drained and lazy with the whole process I am inclined to ask for nothing but just child support (required by law in Canada). I mean NOTHING. 
Been married for two years. Reason for divorce is abuse, mostly verbal and mental but there were a few occasions when it escalated to physical. 
I will have the sole custody (he doesn’t want it). 
We don’t own any properties together. 
I have accumulated some debt but I’m ok paying it off slowly on my own. 
He has investments and properties but he’s changed the ownership all to his mom. 
I’m on mat leave at the moment but once I’m back to work I’ll be making similar salary or even slightly higher than what he’s making. 

Is asking for nothing reasonable given my case?",2.2437327188940093,4.8838942795698985,3.597619047619048,85.045,82.01075268817203,6.5536098310291875,26.061443932411674,7.793537801064563,1.814892780337941,760,32,141,14,21,248,123,186,0.09300000000000001,0.8390000000000001,0.068,-0.7624,2,0,0,0,3,0,23.0,1,0,0,2,9,3,0,0,7,1,14,0,0,4,1,28,31,11,0,2,8,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,5,0,1,5,1,3,0,2,1,0,2,5,1,12,2,24,24,9,19,0,0,0,0,16,11,0,4,8,90,17,5,0.0,0.16860705257948794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09677164704900887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3991052859304852,0.0,0.0,0.10942304551071544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15053883664513984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939904957783752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07195321327914135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11381356407335007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09538341811970667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15067946247528086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14262606222191446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18997814275093008,0.0,0.0,0.3100216990244079,0.0,0.0,0.14340903174391595,0.0,0.0,0.16666480626187538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055166643781684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4096337778338989,0.0,0.0,0.15154918967521347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16042645673969558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926245682336165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16148497164659026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16595729456525768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2780207965497963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839346271403215,0.0,0.1141477408737144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15887741158364566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10359905740202817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916391551116998
divorce,czkne,2020/01/03,"Help Wife and i are going through separation (her idea) and we are currently living together, she's sleeping in another room and i want to get up so bad and go hug her, i love her so much help me get this thought out of my head.",0.7381250000000001,2.7991382291666684,2.904,91.341,83.375,7.173333333333334,24.18333333333333,8.238735603445708,1.4409533333333333,177,7,41,4,5,60,37,48,0.079,0.669,0.252,0.8311,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,9,9,6,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,6,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,10,2,6,8,1,7,0,0,0,2,9,4,0,0,1,26,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.297544562869658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23692572591022826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29650324673969275,0.0,0.3225319426931788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2912171401263995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3803934477128831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32032776760953874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505631409444786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561022936908573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20859447013685567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2839625053386322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252718217037159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16736757200466534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,MotoAdventureJunkie,2020/01/03,"Struggling with loneliness Feel so alone since the start of my separation. 
Having to start all over in a new place at 30 just feels like a hole of despair that I can’t climb out of.",6.1508108108108095,5.483628000000002,5.976351351351353,85.16560810810813,66.29729729729729,9.562162162162162,29.31081081081081,8.841846274778883,1.8382,144,4,32,2,2,45,33,37,0.25,0.688,0.061,-0.7713,0,1,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,1,3,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,6,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,2,2,1,9,6,1,9,0,1,0,0,0,5,0,0,4,20,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3521509831756854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34384163446413896,0.24290539495946006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661132043123998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32838672799047824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3552412751598089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812623133072353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4813259817826794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3554554706100701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,blondeleather,2020/01/03,"I think it's really over. What is my duty to him? I made a vow for life, how am I supposed to move on without breaking it? My \[20f\] husband \[20m\] wants a divorce. He's acting like a rebellious teenager. He's not the man I married anymore. I feel like a failure for having a marriage that only lasted two months. He refuses to talk to me. He says I cheated  but the more I think about it, the more I realize that's just an excuse. No reasonable person would consider kissing another woman while he took videos and laughed  cheating. I tried my hardest to be there for him and I'm still trying but there's nothing I can do for him. He's been binge drinking and ended up with alcohol poisoning. He left the hospital against medical advice and kept drinking. I suspect he's been doing drugs and cheating. Any time he talks to me he's aggressive. I try to meet his aggression with love but it's so hard to love him. I just want to forget he ever existed and move on with my life but I feel like I'm breaking my vows. I feel guilty for abandoning him. He's going to end up dead in a ditch somewhere and there's nothing I can do to help him.",0.9566603083770459,3.3310854163090187,2.9686886027658552,89.14888729931648,85.39484978540773,6.026959147989192,24.93864250516611,7.3871296695380915,1.3886466062629161,894,38,181,15,27,300,126,233,0.192,0.675,0.132,-0.9372,0,0,4,0,1,0,29.0,0,0,0,0,10,14,6,0,11,0,12,11,0,3,1,37,27,14,1,3,8,1,4,3,0,1,6,1,0,3,7,10,3,4,8,3,0,5,3,7,0,1,5,5,30,7,28,20,2,22,0,1,0,3,34,7,0,0,11,114,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12886505200224901,0.0,0.14093244097047536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896783588116824,0.1382806420131353,0.0,0.0,0.13078286751722742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25837123754132546,0.15293114852119585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23360118440316255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11928694000681135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20003729216779212,0.18842060836665456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07494662929682554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181325646061938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08839188600863432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10749433162489874,0.0,0.0,0.1432807146164255,0.0,0.18629200829487447,0.193279883838112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23804158443400414,0.12478169484261045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328484651366729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052600013276302,0.2803208730802533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530719553381114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10029557890581192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11514666957538762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08448140589636942,0.13558770480509594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10487093261073388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10531417913556587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21198950924106585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16899815787123973,0.0,0.0,0.07689637545334968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14651607659437746,0.26859992101383995,0.0,0.12882104165012112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15556456542694794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12712114491906076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09367900104732477,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Honestly_IDFK,2020/01/03,"Therapy First Thoughts First time posting so apologies in advance. 

We are at an impasse in our marriage (10 years together 8 married). Mainly regarding what I (29F)  (not so professionally) diagnose as functional alcoholism and my husband (36M) completely disagrees. I’m sure you can assume the issues that go along with that type of ‘disagreement’. 

I’ve reached the absolute end of my rope, which has landed us in couples therapy after declaring I wanted a divorce (this is the first time I’ve ever said this and I actually mean it).

Today was our first session, and after I wondered what the general feeling for other couples was after the introductory session? 

I felt relief, like I/we were going to find some sort of “answer” as to wether or not this is something we can overcome or will be the end of our marriage. 

Maybe I’m being naïve, but I feel a weight is lifted and I can actually speak truthfully and hopefully get some truth in return. I’m not scared of honesty or it ending, I’m scared of thinking it’s going to work, reinvesting and nothing changing. 

TL;DR for those who have been to couples therapy, how did you feel after the first one? Or even after several sessions?",4.304452054794517,6.788575187214615,5.491458904109589,75.19472260273973,73.38356164383562,8.032968036529681,32.41118721461187,8.841846274778883,3.2368902283105023,942,47,152,20,20,312,133,219,0.024,0.861,0.115,0.9509,0,0,2,0,1,0,30.0,6,2,0,7,5,8,0,2,10,0,17,3,0,1,4,40,36,16,0,2,8,1,5,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,14,10,2,0,11,0,0,4,3,2,0,6,8,7,17,6,26,25,3,30,0,0,0,0,16,6,0,10,20,112,31,6,0.0,0.0,0.20828256281177607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11404898586150107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11289339360052095,0.0,0.11189169339559132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35424399748087115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10831642756428796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28356116583697955,0.0,0.0,0.07048617002155362,0.09653245512967903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16187933842000876,0.0,0.10246592476514124,0.0,0.09753823215751524,0.4538709789877887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055755700940830905,0.0,0.18195073482403168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10599495948326024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11138576703224676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05213697803801699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072124798134822,0.11624708438250934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10239870840790044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07231481456515093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022062537982884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151316616879663,0.0,0.2136864807447499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12056085703292235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215665732502339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10058036286411916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3661236760718463,0.0,0.0,0.06838052468598968,0.0,0.08472209636433052,0.12445613765700712,0.0,0.10115609610108013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283685003404711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06294498555746084,0.0,0.0,0.12995365877916068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11573101610124875,0.07769190611921556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06872283217938846
divorce,class-memes,2020/01/03,"My parents are going to get divorced...help...please My parents are going to get divorced by the way we are (4 boys) my 6 yr old bro has autism too my bros will get kicked out probably (i heard everything) i have to take care of my lil bro too my mom is going this sunday im afraid that i will get into self harm my dad was crying my mom was having a mental breakdown i was silently in my room my dad wanted to leave now but my mom didn’t let him no one knows yet its only me i will tell my uncle he is my main supporter and he is more than an uncle he helped me through my worst and best moments of my life,my mom and dad ALWAYS wanted a divorce i never let them but...this time i will do as i want i will do as i wish and help please.",-0.3098087333092749,1.4944846809815964,2.048798267773368,97.45140743413931,85.62576687116564,4.571490436665464,16.950198484301694,5.5289334501034215,-0.7092703717069648,565,12,137,3,17,192,94,163,0.08199999999999999,0.787,0.131,0.8481,2,0,0,0,3,0,15.0,1,0,1,1,4,6,0,1,4,0,22,0,0,0,1,14,38,7,0,4,1,12,0,0,0,5,0,1,1,2,3,7,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,3,0,1,5,1,30,3,14,26,4,15,0,0,0,0,26,4,0,0,7,89,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10004342487528564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12617703652180254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12258547967196308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320702219029908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10805759991200002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25126696256285896,0.0,0.2049934253531839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24176878475181274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12987219057564864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06607687096405979,0.0,0.0,0.12730930682307098,0.0,0.2458926227421553,0.0849240703119644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12116650884974355,0.0,0.0,0.563261392320977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09273104352922554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12616422894889678,0.0,0.08147294132022749,0.0914425570150525,0.0,0.0,0.2670088681866707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26395929174860866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12963142817384046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12542916212076638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13643889794233455,0.0,0.0,0.09040019608131017,0.0,0.10508887552782556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0701087851863064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21274948206243266,0.09543529911714464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13826192954418462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,parundrum,2020/01/03,"Well she's out. I'm just writing here since I really have no friends and if I did, don't really want to talk about it. I posted a [couple weeks ago almost](https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce/comments/eekddz/hoping_getting_it_out_will_be_cathartic/). Divorce was a Birthday and Christmas present. Anyway, she's officially out and all that's left is signing and filing the divorce papers. They are on the dining room table. Right now, what frustrates me more than anything is she left all her shit that she didn't want to take with her for me to deal with. I mean just stupid shit. Like dozens of those hangars, you get when you buy clothes some crochet crap and just some general garbage. Two trash bags full. The first thing when I got home from work was to get rid of that stuff. All that seems to be left is a small box of things I wasn't sure if she forgot or just doesn't care about. Little do-dads her sons gave her.  Meanwhile, I've used the other part of my bonus to get stuff that I otherwise wouldn't have. I've ordered a new computer, gotten 3 new pairs of Addidas for work. Laid-back casual usually with a button-up shirt, khakis of various colors and sneakers. I got a new suitcase set that I used to visit family over Christmas and a new router woohoo! :)

So the new life begins. Thanks for allowing me to more or less vent. It does help. The dogs just look at me and cock their heads.",3.5908706467661697,5.8149440820895535,3.4269402985074637,90.38217661691543,74.59701492537314,6.556218905472638,22.733830845771145,7.492282038375204,0.7944174129353234,1106,31,222,14,24,333,160,268,0.105,0.8,0.095,-0.196,0,0,0,0,3,0,48.0,0,2,2,4,14,13,5,0,13,0,15,8,6,3,4,40,35,15,0,5,9,1,0,1,1,1,1,0,2,0,15,13,1,1,2,1,2,1,6,5,1,3,10,2,27,8,29,23,11,31,0,0,2,1,23,13,4,7,15,138,42,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09630775369494547,0.0,0.10879285717391024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940605729421851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08354174674463133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110771412331509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12021427069909325,0.0,0.0,0.11200882507162596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09507648150206134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10242138608666394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924138770765426,0.0,0.0,0.08393930762663787,0.0,0.17028849821661698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17378759477113215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11150171202138577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07282284388084853,0.0,0.10898037778908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3541312302340446,0.0,0.07673958803742571,0.05307874376869265,0.10889141600578447,0.0,0.0,0.09123492631317894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11834689001916478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.524652903548404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176525785447502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10405243573882547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392022845134213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09278273392970053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09890685797623806,0.0,0.0,0.22304625856475413,0.08987274865728473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487463977482759,0.0,0.0,0.10239717585345813,0.0,0.08168795702206115,0.08732520388993538,0.0,0.10002625548384583,0.0,0.0,0.1443585949585771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10613094740097173,0.0,0.0,0.18766980044867787,0.11965775992569412,0.0,0.12816395908072456,0.0,0.08714893297874635,0.0,0.09768542658699933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581905562227332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ksuar,2020/01/03,What made you finally quit? At what point did you know you HAD to divorce your spouse? I know people it’s not easy and people don’t want to get married and then WANT to get divorced. I’m just curious what we’re some of you guys boiling points? I know there’s the big ones like cheating or abuse but what about the little things that made you for from I love this person with my whole heart to wanting to split ?,0.8842352941176479,3.269297482352944,1.468529411764706,99.6733823529412,85.94117647058823,4.341176470588237,17.911764705882355,5.6839178017228535,-0.5861529411764703,326,8,73,2,10,99,62,85,0.075,0.78,0.145,0.737,0,0,0,0,3,0,5.0,0,6,0,1,3,3,1,0,2,0,3,3,1,2,0,16,15,5,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,8,3,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,4,0,10,2,11,11,2,7,0,0,0,1,12,5,0,2,3,45,18,0,0.0,0.22757293133135556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104045807663749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006985200450766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19018065785202332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.227605263828495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3166718794169849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09383627284102382,0.19250577343902905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17335173185819902,0.3634847744204112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301523971150676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.266315933557321,0.16770913902340695,0.0,0.0,0.3631386812125008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20429133412901476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12760355221019518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3398656612454969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21444060449003488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,NiceShoesWannaDuck,2020/01/03,"How do you deal with not seeing your kids every day? She wants joint custody. Has no intention of keeping the kids away from me but circumstances likely result in me being 4.5 hours away. I can’t even imagine missing one day of them let alone a couple weeks or a month, especially with them being toddlers and growing so much.",6.147580645161291,7.0426152096774235,6.061451612903228,79.21217741935486,66.25806451612904,8.135483870967743,30.01612903225807,8.07648339933343,2.109503225806452,261,9,46,3,4,82,53,62,0.11,0.858,0.033,-0.5927,0,1,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,2,0,3,2,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,3,0,12,10,5,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,0,1,8,1,8,7,1,9,0,1,1,0,8,3,0,1,6,35,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25886203839518074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4696529464254392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765534034673962,0.0,0.3223807183621566,0.2576767434664978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.165082742590958,0.0,0.21058488518779825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461401505964599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221577924734742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25558016567934905,0.0,0.122107859205409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19949939693942936,0.0,0.18373435777163166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16936553532020865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991694942051416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14742084645819772,0.0,0.20048646374232929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Runnin-DownADream,2020/01/04,"Pending divorce, and a toxic one to be sure. Need advice. Pleas read description. Formerly Head-of-Household, no longer wanted by wife. Divorcing with 3 kids. I left the money going to the joint account, seeing the kids often, assuring the welfare of the wife and kids, being civil. The wife immediately picked up a new SO, now keeps the kiddos from me, and threatens to take me for child support and spousal, showing no mercy. Wtf is a man to do...",3.5621987951807235,6.071120807228922,4.663478915662652,80.10678463855425,75.86746987951805,6.559638554216868,27.24246987951807,7.645422480735847,1.8886156626506017,349,14,59,5,8,114,62,83,0.121,0.765,0.114,-0.1779,0,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,10,0,4,0,0,1,2,12,11,5,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,5,0,1,0,2,2,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,3,3,10,9,0,6,0,0,1,0,10,2,0,1,3,37,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2950596959892104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17160377706867694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30988534515707183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683848967861112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32806694630520544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22389031630916065,0.0,0.2916228695619923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046075053679067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3020293070908712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406131405522107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34264655345389644,0.28458203562266593,0.0,0.2270270141870317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780965151853888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,altitooties,2020/01/04,"Advice!!! Hi, all! 
I’m 25 and recently divorced. I’m writing a book about tips on how to have a successful marriage (POV from a divorcee) - what are some tips you’d give someone about to get married to help them succeed? What are some things you may have learned? 
(Examples: don’t be afraid of therapy; TALK about money, don’t just assume your partner is on the same page; etc). 
Thank you!",1.16,3.7736293333333366,2.1243333333333325,93.1905,89.0,5.133333333333333,24.83333333333333,6.742157984588678,1.043133333333333,300,13,60,4,10,94,57,75,0.0,0.821,0.179,0.9291,0,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,0,4,1,2,5,4,0,1,4,0,10,0,0,1,1,11,15,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,5,3,10,12,6,3,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,4,1,39,8,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3298445460147213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37645130593343196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763530520820998,0.32380340959665216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262489407243956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33328443894407483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28600033104349765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713054561693057,0.0,0.3107655941709179,0.3860115146688946,0.0,0.2242495448768759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ac_reddit_user,2020/01/04,"Something a little more up beat for a change I finally did something for myself today! I bought a newer to me truck, I payed in full with cash. (2005 international 4300 crew cab, with a dt466 engine and a manual 6 speed eaton transmission). I've looked around quite a while for a great deal on one. 

My stbxw and I always made sure to consult each other before we spent any money over $100. Even when we separated I had a hard time spending any of the money on just myself without having her opinion. It's been 5 months separated and the only extra stuff I've bought for myself is multiple self help books about marriage.",5.322830578512399,6.199760487603309,6.009576446280995,78.9161828512397,68.0909090909091,8.36404958677686,25.868801652892564,8.472884824447931,1.680511570247933,493,13,92,7,8,161,90,121,0.013000000000000001,0.899,0.08900000000000001,0.8502,0,0,2,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,10,0,5,0,0,1,1,14,10,5,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,9,0,0,0,1,8,0,1,0,0,1,7,2,13,2,17,3,4,16,0,0,1,0,8,8,0,1,8,60,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17135113999908422,0.0,0.0,0.28008036705561623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833223046957384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752321658356882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21784775763061714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21230588205064446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13601552396857905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255874120921195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270397223542139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844737821618891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13803124971334452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063970236994126,0.0,0.0,0.17293022663489874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19485694963893246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164372208628537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395442168408633,0.15661985191423872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190330325088433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2148310090874616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.317071584117935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357417968945648,0.0,0.0,0.19408758841244586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12008005804079795,0.0,0.19519856745794406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19851019466260889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,milwaukeemommy,2020/01/04,"Did you have a plan? I've wanted a divorce for SO long. We've been married almost 26 years but it's been over for years. I told him last spring I want a divorce, he went ballistic so I backed off. But I am so unhappy. My friend keeps telling me to just file.....everything will be worked out in court. Neither of us wants to leave our house. Kids are 21 & 17 (17 or old is Jr in his, 21 yr old in college) so of course they should stay in their house. I'm just so miserable & depressed. Just curious how many of you just filed & hoped for the best? I feel like I should stay in the house since the Jr is still a minor & I want him to finish his at HIS hs. But I know hubby will fight. 

I should add we don't have a lot of money so whomever moves out wouldn't even be able to rent an appt, they would have to stay with friends.",0.2643333333333331,2.0812732111111103,1.6177777777777784,101.275,83.55555555555556,5.1111111111111125,17.777777777777782,6.139981653823899,-0.5997222222222223,638,14,162,5,18,203,109,180,0.10400000000000001,0.746,0.15,0.7963,1,0,0,0,3,0,31.0,3,2,3,3,14,8,1,1,9,0,20,0,0,1,0,29,31,11,0,10,8,0,1,1,2,7,0,0,1,1,1,5,0,1,2,0,2,2,3,3,0,0,5,1,24,5,23,17,3,25,0,2,0,0,22,10,0,4,11,98,25,2,0.11504032275770547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151962657016488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4985845665785388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08845890718533565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207277213103176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908406142097548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759830482103405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033908242517929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058167843761238874,0.08218482956424816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17775973598548833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11426099778164872,0.0,0.3982232605589961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10225312465059194,0.0,0.0,0.06322315282328257,0.0937732172748735,0.0,0.1218110912891003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05620289078826008,0.0,0.0,0.10180706553272996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09780316852772876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11663283098367555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12226965710975267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24143093373795654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09516254377906752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3678530323731548,0.09187135035794657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055031269771288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099259583397131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383793437361762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27141505181792336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10664353173606758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08375072509124093,0.0,0.0,0.08172134461896713,0.0,0.0,0.14816439222164782
divorce,GEEDESIREE0824,2020/01/04,"I started dating a man before his divorce was even final. I started dating a man who is still technically married still. This is new and confusing territory for myself and I'm not coping with it very well. I'm beyond happy with him, as he is with me too, but I'm afraid I'm going to ruin it for myself.
His divorce isnt final until March 20th, 2020. He has to spend alot of time with her due to the fact they have a child together. They talk on the regular,  texting or on a call. But I feel as if they spend more time together then I can handle. I know for a fact him and I have started a very solid relationship and I'm not worried of him going back to her in the slightest. Just not understanding how this whole divorce thing with kids works. 
I am newly out of a 7 year relationship with a guy that I've had two kids with. Him and I are doing it completely different. We dont speak throughout the week, we only speak when it has to do with our children. We dont hang out and rarely see each other. Hes moved on, as am I obviously. 
Maybe because I am doing it differently then my new boyfriend is with his ex, maybe that's what got me twisted. I get in this weird mood when they are together. I almost dont want to talk to him cause I feel like I'm intruding. Like I'm this side chick.
Am I doing things wrong with my ex? Is he doing them right and I'm jealous of it? I dont know what to think of how to act. I'm afraid I'm going to push away this new amazing relationship with this man I've come to love.. 
Tips from other people who can relate please.",0.905973104909272,2.8922026018237084,3.1109477756286275,90.5157575757576,82.25227963525836,5.93316754167818,20.000092106475087,7.106945922332613,0.3602616008105368,1212,33,269,16,33,413,154,329,0.055,0.866,0.079,0.6908,2,0,0,0,3,0,32.0,4,0,5,1,13,14,1,3,13,0,30,1,0,3,3,49,58,21,0,2,8,2,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,9,22,25,0,0,6,0,2,8,8,7,1,1,3,5,41,6,44,55,4,43,0,1,1,1,48,11,0,5,26,180,63,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09951148230895776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09336774866730194,0.07641460357961301,0.0,0.060579157887750215,0.0,0.08456231360840909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014747952990254,0.0,0.0,0.10208731953412603,0.0,0.08560428973977324,0.1041946548202377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076551511447294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4658753471068046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06563742072461781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10049576381908516,0.07099478584165886,0.0,0.21772479266541286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051920261795047405,0.0,0.16943432916196766,0.0,0.07948068288591237,0.0,0.0,0.09839862836869602,0.0,0.10578842179954956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922975003347817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971009422627174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08969141674468809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996746494325133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10562178162885827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879361172379649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07558051326771373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06889534106869842,0.0,0.0,0.10908585347661487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3200803875364406,0.0,0.08486722038435714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07919042100629753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21101817233654255,0.0,0.1587248371318343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15975057017076594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13204302324189174,0.06367662290080389,0.0,0.0,0.11589478995178733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09707666632784627,0.10345472446183283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16399248911310116,0.05861499494548623,0.0,0.07971405226076532,0.0,0.08935165278466771,0.0,0.0,0.110950617095833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07234747365738711,0.10092193592659844,0.0,0.0,0.10865289985972057,0.0,0.06399538303423906
divorce,CleanUpOnAisleLife,2020/01/04,Women: what did you do w your wedding dress/albums while going through the purge? Pretty self explanatory but going through the house getting it ready to sell and just wondering what’s the best way to go about getting rid of the wedding stuff?,6.689333333333334,7.967391711111107,5.731111111111113,80.69000000000003,65.22222222222223,7.777777777777778,32.77777777777778,7.793537801064563,2.328111111111112,197,8,34,2,3,59,36,45,0.0,0.772,0.228,0.9102,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,8,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,6,7,1,5,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,1,1,23,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3071818607415988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.305858558857545,0.0,0.499062773826553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3377488915868534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29779205198301906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053611376017619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33508376461007466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323401592822316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3174323091858503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,majikutatomachan,2020/01/04,"Weird dream I just had the weirdest dream. I'm currently visiting my parents, staying in the room where my ex husband and I used to stay at. We lived with them for two years so it already feels weird being in this town without him. I'm passing by places where we used to frequent and the memories are just coming in like a flood. The thing is, I don't know how to feel about it. Then last night, I had the weirdest dream. We went out on a date to the place that my current boyfriend had taken me. Yet we started disagreeing and I told him ""You see this is why we don't work well together"" and he just had tears and said that I was an asshole for saying that. I made him cry and I didn't like that feeling. I woke up at 3:34am after a strong sense of sadness woke me up. Now I'm out alone trying to think why my brain decided to do that. I'm facing this town and the people in it as a divorced person trying to be strong and in a sense showing these memories that I am over him. For some reason, this vacation feels so long and feels like hard work emotionally. I get too tired at the end of the day and the quiet no plan days are making me over think things.",3.726880165289257,4.207414280991738,4.449245867768596,90.10295971074379,71.47933884297521,7.537603305785125,25.868801652892564,7.413659706084162,1.0104702479338847,904,26,204,9,16,290,132,242,0.11800000000000001,0.8,0.08199999999999999,-0.6229,3,1,0,0,1,0,21.0,5,1,1,5,13,9,0,0,16,0,16,3,2,6,0,39,42,15,0,0,4,3,6,3,0,0,1,3,1,1,16,19,0,0,10,4,0,4,5,3,1,1,13,10,29,6,33,27,1,44,0,1,1,0,21,22,0,1,19,136,45,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348315068274874,0.14366143494577208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453285539330923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11214210871119913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14300116403936078,0.16791599996033502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464396344008104,0.11530450671569115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3291250621164459,0.09300357512439653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680158396294586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166194180374394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07154579834718375,0.10611744897106838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19080418381404296,0.0,0.11495498008151593,0.11520886662015466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12318338032176784,0.08689892387584701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221689958129416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14455408043295448,0.0,0.0,0.09025329047536568,0.1136717689960908,0.2720294345634088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13385097733308138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12383492833751038,0.10352765277615993,0.0,0.0,0.10373990402081183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09214500384711598,0.27751794187521955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729771149548801,0.1668334797102166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496275172591139,0.0,0.1243965240151352,0.0,0.17677297013998716,0.0,0.12717098759596554,0.0,0.0,0.22487459548276512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11705117571284535,0.1206820013855809,0.2349418737324517,0.0,0.0,0.12549286464857282,0.0,0.18955120778480766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08383431745133799
divorce,lostandconfused88888,2020/01/04,"Killing me to see old photos of our little family If I want to ruin my day and torment myself, it's as easy as opening the photo gallery on my phone.

I still need to backup all my photos somewhere so for the time being they are still on my phone.

Anyone else dealing with this? Kills me and makes me want my old life back and always forgetting why I am here. It's easy to get caught up in those feelings.

It's like no matter how badly things got or how badly they treated you, you still have this feeling of being with them, it's like some sick joke.

Whyyy?!?!",3.6555,4.484384234782613,4.381467391304348,89.25307065217393,71.86956521739131,6.445652173913044,23.07065217391305,5.985473137389443,0.3768478260869563,437,10,92,2,8,140,77,115,0.18600000000000005,0.682,0.132,-0.9239,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,2,3,0,8,9,2,0,2,0,5,2,0,3,1,20,15,10,2,4,2,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,8,6,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,5,0,0,2,3,18,4,15,11,2,15,0,1,1,0,9,6,0,3,10,64,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411134065064973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11858206186124247,0.17376615488021055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13040511136668229,0.28320302082092824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093722494562669,0.17484100915636264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416716283435414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598754249152648,0.0,0.17150074277430374,0.2423118754909117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08860436623892705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13563751976333752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3752549184771309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11978723110547025,0.16570732028187504,0.1699748662727428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11320339672068648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12574967462341766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35591472699856697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351421742277523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40630708843376656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126688116173534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09888995219830736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000584858275165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15302961735426282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,penny_lane69,2020/01/04,"How do I take care of myself? How do I learn to love myself again? Feels like silly questions to ask, but right now I am so lost. 

I keep fighting for a relationship that he doesn't want. I am completely heartbroken, yet for some reason I cannot let go despite of everything hurtful he has said. For some background - I am 29F, he is 28M, together for 14 years, married 6.5 - high school sweethearts. No kids, own a house. 

I can't shake this dark cloud that looms over me. Journaling, taking baths, reading, exercising, and other forms of ""self care"" don't really seem to be making any dent. I feel like I am existing instead of living. My emotions range and change constantly - I am sad, angry, hurt, confused, and very very lost. I worry that I am codependent and didn't even know it. I feel like he broke me into a thousand little pieces, and I am not sure how I can put myself back together. I am seeing a new therapist who I like, but I've only done two sessions and I feel like I haven't made any progress (we are still scratching the surface of my life/our relationship). 

How did you guys pull yourself out of this?",3.645088235294118,5.138317631818187,4.582513368983957,85.2578877005348,72.68181818181819,7.72192513368984,26.577540106951872,8.313332769828598,1.6876283422459897,869,30,175,14,17,282,139,220,0.218,0.64,0.142,-0.9722,0,0,0,0,2,0,40.0,1,1,0,3,12,20,1,2,5,0,24,2,0,7,1,33,45,13,0,1,3,0,5,5,1,0,1,2,1,3,8,9,0,1,9,3,0,4,8,9,0,2,7,8,29,11,16,36,5,19,0,6,1,1,18,7,0,5,13,111,37,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15302930151917374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518715105954823,0.0,0.0,0.08651775977381718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294348589861111,0.0,0.1190268726729845,0.0,0.117970750264524,0.12158968478748106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11514280092868072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265652108942382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0743156717748193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10112200998246626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275656208391446,0.32152544350990897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06394536254055302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11140840222257248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887919548826965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298282087116603,0.24090113448775655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000092761275788,0.0,0.0,0.0618357802753285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11505510150048093,0.07947328732853384,0.2748478563964704,0.11277046193703966,0.09935357566885253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456487295234477,0.0,0.10154996668412404,0.10646523786325036,0.07510521773583492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10866852954987684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08557339021807663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11310952766287766,0.12604352622721807,0.0,0.1125463196073385,0.0,0.07208054823364518,0.11568505510054447,0.0,0.24159987559041501,0.0,0.09608793924103212,0.10702835940037787,0.0,0.0,0.1138720686048978,0.08966058187911878,0.1024302233532259,0.11737859247658501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985532009469231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10604487704916372,0.0,0.16919586476093804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13063959864022032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10991165698118442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18567475473474765,0.06636477602810026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11426532886883335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07245653208448864
divorce,AnalGlandRupture,2020/01/04,"First ""crisis"" on my own Well, it may not be the biggest crisis in the world, but my car won't start. Roadside assistance came by and jumping it didn't work so now a tow truck is on the way. 

I'm grateful when I got my own car insurance after he left me that I chose to have roadside assistance, but I'm so scared that it's going to be more than I can afford. When my STBXH left me, I had no notice. I don't have savings built up because when he left, he left most of our utility bills 2-3 months behind (he took care of our finances which I now regret not having a larger part of). In the months since he left I've been playing catch up. I know I should have asked him to help pay for what was behind but I've really tried to limit my contact with him. 

I don't know why I'm writing this. I'm just scared for my future and how I'm going to pay for emergencies like these. It seems like once I feel things are going better, something like this happens.",3.5471504357711265,3.738383684729065,4.683251231527095,89.29868510799547,71.75862068965517,7.428419856006062,24.48237968927625,7.010146845296331,0.7516558544903367,740,18,168,6,13,244,117,203,0.105,0.758,0.13699999999999998,0.7735,1,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,0,4,10,11,0,2,6,0,18,0,0,1,0,22,37,11,0,2,6,0,1,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,1,4,1,4,9,7,3,1,1,7,1,22,8,23,25,5,34,0,1,0,0,13,13,0,3,14,105,34,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196009011687298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07798730135707106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11314711396497752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14632226839328066,0.13043710956067595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06468721001858663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10882048676137536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21812330427358925,0.0,0.10232040497781254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11313150111822465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08575137813878267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14061822134937513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6950026350760256,0.0,0.0,0.1875060840313209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042311932534777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14565356200601035,0.0,0.13624539911282946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13853991706642127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195771478400074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25616824962931345,0.0,0.0,0.1164661928435036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10582822152746713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09848974548598642,0.0,0.0,0.09055225356726217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08499358033950533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14213923986448287,0.0868587017615887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10154795331559947,0.0,0.0,0.1150279157954311,0.0,0.1154404212684534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09313738300879093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,idunnodanny,2020/01/04,"Tips for Finance Advice? Hi all! I've been lurking here on this sub for around 8 months with my divorce happening in the next couple of months.
Question - is there a repository or chat area for divorce advise focusing on the financial laws for divorcing parents / my options / etc?
I had a 1 hour consult with a local attorney (Texas) recently but he wasn't exactly sharp in his knowledge of the financial side. He stated that I had a right to 100% of my assets / property before the marriage and birth of my son regardless of a prenup. Given it was sizable amount of net worth, I'm hoping to get more clarity on the law in this area.
Thanks in advance!
Edit: My stbx and I are trying to share a lawyer and have all the details worked out amicably before finalizing things. This post is hoping to find out a specific detail prior splitting everything we have 50/50.",4.687435897435896,6.650945654320992,5.7317283950617295,76.16431623931626,70.85185185185185,8.935232668566002,30.980056980056982,9.466822959209583,3.1598655270655267,684,30,117,16,13,226,109,162,0.008,0.8490000000000001,0.14300000000000002,0.9724,1,0,0,0,2,0,20.0,1,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,13,0,10,0,0,0,3,23,17,5,0,3,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,9,0,0,3,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,6,1,10,4,26,11,5,26,0,0,0,0,16,15,0,5,8,76,16,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880794760609424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713391238878897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3275556220078677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129644163837043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21465494954479986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17297964351218806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108414991408224,0.17591411146757827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055764158631586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17020060311751778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3823323163665321,0.18954419964877425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072554675185213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20469404988319007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21371518001110967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843330756120372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21561047132650707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19004092507586606,0.0,0.0,0.16436834551267832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17720053532983096,0.0,0.0,0.1278685290296272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13067450957252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14012046692740138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,nr7228,2020/01/04,"Wife purchasing home We are in the process of selling our home as our divorce continues. My wife wants to buy a new house, in the town we live in, and wants me to sign off on it. In my state it’s a ‘right to marry’ state and I’m only on the title. I would then need to give my STBXW a quick claim deed to remove myself. She is using the children as pawns in this move, saying it’s for them.  They would benefit from it but it’s for her just we much as it it’s them and then I’m selfish if I don’t do it.",-0.7734210526315799,0.9421370087719332,1.674649122807022,99.9767105263158,86.80701754385963,4.852631578947369,16.517543859649123,5.985473137389443,-0.7356350877192983,385,8,100,3,12,131,68,114,0.039,0.9420000000000001,0.019,-0.4854,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,5,0,3,0,2,2,0,0,7,0,6,0,0,1,0,16,13,10,0,6,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,1,9,6,0,0,0,0,3,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,17,1,20,11,1,19,0,0,0,0,16,10,0,1,5,69,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23757029929493256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4968301598492022,0.0,0.0,0.2857570789410258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21868119299505967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632148107804532,0.1820526650877503,0.18363076946188905,0.0,0.2391837789733011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188350453776244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114933966312518,0.0,0.1969427562078214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138917547529536,0.0,0.0,0.29214305166119275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3518496537746469,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,an0nchu,2020/01/04,"Journaling Someone here recently mentioned journaling down daily how you feel. Especially if you’re still in the process of deciding if you want to divorce or not. But even if that isn’t your case, tracking how you feel every day I think is healthy and important.

With that being said, and app that really helped me was called “Daylio”. I have it set to remind me to enter my feelings, I select on a scale how I’m feeling, what I’m doing, and then write a little insert summarizing my feelings.

I’ve discovered I am unhappy 99% of the time. Even though I’m still unsure if I want a divorce, it’s clear changes need to be made.

Anyways, just wanted to give a little tip.",4.831594571670909,5.865423541984737,5.759949109414762,79.69164546225619,69.30534351145039,8.87565733672604,30.586089906700593,9.150863307647796,2.6187652247667508,528,21,100,10,9,174,88,131,0.039,0.87,0.091,0.5267,0,0,0,0,2,0,16.0,0,4,0,0,11,0,0,0,6,0,8,0,0,4,1,29,24,14,0,8,8,0,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,4,0,0,7,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,6,13,0,11,19,0,13,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,5,6,66,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19072738689435528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19759274592735426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204602524977306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467381914967409,0.0,0.15737360826543506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.47221811018894705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17918026956096295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12519740368817495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3744133527704341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17673957336512688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13849799772748847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11965863786546152,0.0,0.18442670410685835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17767439361464785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15826150958303062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29833194865954704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196836697855771,0.18351436935488244,0.0,0.108915274857356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3305101957338701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,BlueGlassMan,2020/01/04,What did you do with the money you got from selling your wedding band? I'm contemplating getting a tattoo. What did you all do with the money?,2.244880952380953,4.758528964285716,3.6428571428571423,85.56880952380955,80.78571428571429,5.161904761904762,23.619047619047624,6.42735559955562,0.7769619047619051,113,4,21,1,3,37,20,28,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,1,3,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,4,0,3,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,17,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5468960380572971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8372005276857101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,thefakestsmile,2020/01/04,"The bad thing has already happened. You control what happens next. Attitude is everything. You can do it. So it's happened. You've been hit by a car. You might have gotten dumped, you might have left. Either way, the impact has happened and you're laying in the road, bleeding. But you have 2 choices. You can sit in the road and keep bleeding. Lock yourself away, shut down, feel sorry for yourself, lash out at your ex, blame the universe, God, whatever. Keep laying there and bleed, maybe another car comes by and hits you again. OR you can crawl to the sidewalk and get help. You first might need to call for outside help. Mental health professionals, friends, family. USE them show them your wounds. Talk to them. That's what they're there for. Or reach out here, you're in good company. The first few months after you're recovering will probably be a blur. I felt like everyday lasted a month and the pain would never end. But time really helps and the pain will lessen. The important thing to remember is after the initial help goes away, you're going to have to help yourself. You may have residual wounds that need long term care. Somedays you'll feel great, whole even. Then the days will come where you feel like you got hit by a car all over again. But let me tell you from my own experience. I was hit by a car, but most of the pain after the first few months, I brought on myself. 

I'm less than a year out from a breakup (a divorce actually) kids involved, infidelity, lies, didn't even break up with me to my face even though I tried to have conversations about our relationship over and over. Ugh. What a mess. I'm lucky the divorce went well legally, we worked together so not to hurt the children any more than they were already being hurt by the initial split up. I'm grateful. But now to the meat and potatoes. 

This situation has stripped me down to nothing. Broken me in ways I didn't think possible. I've self medicated with food, marijuana, alcohol, attention from guys. But I've had an epiphany. Some of it came on my own and part of it came from my awesome therapist. Here's what I've learned. 

1. You can't drink poison and expect the other person to die. I was so angry with him, that I wallowed in self pity and made worse decisions and dug myself deeper into the depression and misery hole. 

2. This might get hate but PEOPLE ARE ALLOWED TO MOVE ON FROM A RELATIONSHIP IF IT'S NOT WORKING FOR THEM. The WAY he left was some bullshit. He still hasn't been honest and forthcoming to this day. That sucks. But he wasn't happy. He wasn't fulfilled. I have had to look at myself and realize that a relationship takes 2. I thought we were happy. I see now we very much weren't. He's not a terrible person just because he left. I'm not a terrible person because i was left. WE just didn't work well together. People grow, and change. Sometimes it's not meant to be forever. 

3. Learn something from this shit to better yourself. PLEASE. The trauma has already happened. Please love yourself. Please don't let one person's opinion of you define how you see yourself. Just because one person doesn't want to be with you, doesn't make you worthless. They're are billions of people in this world. Chances are some of them do think or would think you're pretty fucking awesome if they knew you. Work on yourself before you date. LOVE yourself. Really look at bettering yourself and using this hard time as learning what you want different in the future. Say this relationship didn't work for the following reasons. Write them down if you want to. BUT be sure to include the things you could have done better. Use it as a map, the things you don't want to take with you going forward. 

It sucks my ex left, but I'm going to be better and stronger because of it. Maybe I'll meet someone, someday, and it will be amazing. Maybe not. Either way I'm going to love myself. (Even if it kills me). 

Please get help. I'm here, THOUSANDS of people are here and know what you're going through. But reach out in real life if you have good people around you. I wish you all happiness and above all else peace.",2.3155653467946635,4.865359179422836,2.9778782352426236,90.21901075253132,80.79422835633628,5.865069592366724,23.069198447667127,7.1686216300943375,0.8827345977648733,3234,110,640,43,86,1010,332,797,0.081,0.7809999999999999,0.138,0.9934,3,0,3,0,2,0,119.0,5,31,8,13,28,45,8,0,41,0,70,21,2,9,5,130,142,49,2,16,30,2,5,2,1,12,13,1,0,10,34,41,3,3,19,2,0,19,20,22,2,7,29,10,71,23,92,87,19,96,0,5,4,4,87,43,4,20,32,407,105,10,0.0,0.0,0.0477314798150312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0522725166531822,0.0,0.0,0.16192826138882194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03326213235315899,0.05128895173226035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04354243623841692,0.0,0.0,0.09190968355753733,0.0,0.04083983926019037,0.11926626294664212,0.0,0.04162087870586065,0.0,0.0,0.1730362919472548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04994506378338708,0.1118855879961786,0.049869486237367484,0.0,0.0517428695436522,0.0842674616605132,0.0,0.0,0.05485945376435517,0.03905259845439935,0.0,0.0,0.06308894692396301,0.0,0.04212820767426277,0.0,0.05076338414487699,0.05110308297893165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050054401947634185,0.0,0.04791556409610336,0.0,0.0,0.04086006224444973,0.0,0.04332189848494687,0.0,0.0,0.12922480523395688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04395934172688914,0.047845745946533236,0.04611028961673805,0.0,0.07419478875193089,0.03494305257478665,0.046963607069456716,0.0,0.0,0.1248146739490334,0.05914510926405999,0.0,0.03778962512397307,0.045218757006449714,0.07666418383093908,0.0,0.1389903169575738,0.08205085789631135,0.03911974165196648,0.053926131087015806,0.0,0.048430999595418994,0.21626551895507945,0.15620458633356135,0.04381593342269603,0.04829090213620401,0.0,0.051991630022081625,0.0,0.0,0.19670984061194904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10472354431224976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08695123734018621,0.054114361166691854,0.0,0.026880994518832454,0.03987016191085743,0.0,0.0,0.2657175129193991,0.10003255523023184,0.03454829859928643,0.047792289114230765,0.0,0.0,0.04328596484602902,0.08214825118462643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13243614387992236,0.0462821276404282,0.03264942946144414,0.0,0.14741734249048713,0.0,0.0,0.0492741313383001,0.049292229077063814,0.20755345133960798,0.0,0.0,0.11712431434005778,0.05198617651627797,0.035956266877416355,0.07253589998800045,0.03772428440490992,0.0,0.052018928387039004,0.0,0.0,0.04693279953419723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06628866219326299,0.0,0.1561388348626409,0.0,0.0,0.05296739946737383,0.0,0.1695486151962407,0.21354225334814395,0.0,0.2147646573200656,0.0,0.0551414200310311,0.0,0.0497615296471114,0.0527358765536093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05567305811013035,0.06266911530365614,0.050290128437326435,0.0,0.21005459630587792,0.05540825273675809,0.0,0.0,0.03889713066473999,0.0,0.0,0.07795375426060687,0.0,0.10205267199483356,0.0,0.05020791054149678,0.0,0.054979625091157135,0.0,0.0,0.04144334654444703,0.03765518128681365,0.048375647847275036,0.054753465267866085,0.0,0.0,0.03906153292153194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046099390126822286,0.0,0.07355212617997049,0.039313961625148455,0.04275162316009557,0.0,0.0,0.05679110572154219,0.12998099081715295,0.09402333799993036,0.048056217997022865,0.03883100897078584,0.05704246713922526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03320833194391055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12673391537117745,0.0,0.040357880519069717,0.11539928324421415,0.15529765347795954,0.0,0.0,0.08795630450558092,0.04534231628844808,0.0,0.054608985722297484,0.05624688512054317,0.0,0.0,0.1780441722369171,0.0,0.049845948883698775,0.06949197939920193,0.0,0.0,0.031498003795609096
divorce,Ninabee00,2020/01/04,"Please tell me I can do it My husband of 5 years asked me for a divorce for over a year ago, it was out of nowhere and without really an explanation other than we weren’t compatible and that I wanted too much in our marriage (meaning I wanted to have a house together, maybe have a family one day and work together for our dreams). He became obsessed and addicted to video Games and started to put me aside in the relationship. I moved 8 years ago to US from another country, met him online, dated and got married and he has been all I know; so this divorce was a heartbreaking moment for me, especially because I truly loved him and thought we were good together. He never had to support me fully financially, other than some bills we paid together or my health insurance throughout his company. We couldn’t divorce immediately after he asked because my job doesn’t allow me to really pay for a lot of things and I needed to save some money before moving out. This past December after feeling so lonely and sad decided it was time to go and be on my own and leave this roommate life with him even knowing things aren’t going to be easy emotionally and financially. I’ve been looking for apartments and finally I’ve found one that I think with hard work I can afford. I have a mixture of sadness, fear, excitement and pain. I don’t know how I’m going to do it, I won’t have health insurance, we didn’t have properties or things in common so there’s no money for me to have. I fear knowing that somedays I won’t have enough to buy me a meal and that I am leaving with nothing, just my clothes and some kitchen supplies. I am a hard worker and I’ll do anything to survive but this feeling of fear and sadness and thinking how am I going to do it by myself is killing me. We don’t have kids and I’m thankful for that but his company, his help and support sometimes were a big help and now I am alone, no family to help me out, not really a big group of friends and just praying that life makes me stronger with everything I am about to face. 
Thanks for reading.",6.659254988913523,6.044943253658537,7.305986696230601,75.8756762749446,65.2439024390244,10.38137472283814,35.465631929046566,9.800150414767053,3.3193170731707315,1634,69,316,30,22,543,198,410,0.11199999999999999,0.772,0.11699999999999999,0.7351,4,3,0,0,3,0,30.0,9,0,0,4,12,20,1,4,13,0,40,10,1,4,2,72,73,33,1,4,8,1,4,0,1,2,6,0,1,1,20,37,2,0,12,4,6,7,14,11,0,2,15,5,51,9,51,53,8,35,1,5,1,1,37,11,0,6,17,228,71,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09954543205655496,0.0,0.0,0.16188820457288014,0.0,0.0,0.09457347404586204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09575039609919438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07514341025514291,0.0,0.1707320015272462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113279910459614,0.0,0.07770124924538109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0588897945212916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027156433177767,0.0,0.09435148136147968,0.0,0.0603118501601676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08206688264135396,0.0,0.17216489500892598,0.3082599616000488,0.0923419199334108,0.0,0.0,0.1000297157202653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10012077963414584,0.07054875274014542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20758276319801489,0.07658961509744512,0.07303192270388922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16359831265727373,0.0,0.0,0.1941244264240176,0.0,0.0,0.18361698298618587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10536377164303257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09061477611071296,0.0,0.10102510075491566,0.0,0.20073452747910533,0.0,0.0,0.19337608739615972,0.0,0.0,0.1289951603106836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07668052596244243,0.0,0.0,0.07763165843393006,0.08241419646963546,0.0,0.060952616455594875,0.0,0.09173690407399733,0.09946740946047117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19410406432562435,0.06712609011260895,0.0677079655626304,0.07042676935931201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761797606826276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237530783437382,0.0,0.0971642350488316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716927709160648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10023504240178084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09179550855385367,0.0,0.0,0.09133842972992,0.0,0.17549371972453964,0.0,0.0,0.09803676093702156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09031160291814352,0.0,0.06463232025539084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20724345227486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07981221516929295,0.16813880803117384,0.0,0.0,0.18199433214794888,0.11702028802171957,0.0,0.07249289299756673,0.053245763839823664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10983916072404676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10771839457625887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802316652121812,0.0,0.132954949860011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764091234798912
divorce,milkand_,2020/01/04,"He asked, now whT do I do? My STBX just returned from a 6 month deployment. He asked me for a divorce, I asked for counseling and he refuses. We have a two year old little boy and I’m just sure what to do next.
I don’t want this but I do want him to be happy.",-2.0957203389830497,-0.27957423728813424,1.0862499999999995,100.41039194915257,96.45762711864408,4.983898305084747,15.84957627118644,6.6274283507984215,-0.4408830508474577,196,5,52,3,8,69,40,59,0.0,0.8290000000000001,0.171,0.8074,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,0,1,10,13,3,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,8,2,5,12,0,7,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,0,6,32,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6899932021926891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618954203046787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465790778971876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963727330418096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26164761419931776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581591241040126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23187320109677514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403281370231824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902207722975993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15843035988445298
divorce,Hurtcallkurt,2020/01/04,"New to all this and need advice I'm 33, wife 32 married 11 years and have 3 kids all under 9. We live in NC. After many years of trying in every way I knew how (talks with her, patience, therapy, marriage counseling etc) I finally decided that this is just not good for anyone involved. Told her a few weeks ago I think we should split. 

Told her very clearly I want the best for her, I think we should split kids and custody 50/50, and I will make sure to support her in the best ways I know how because I want her to succeed. She seemed relieved to hear this, and we also agreed to keep things very civil for our kids. 

I told her the first night that I'd be looking for an apt because after all she is the mom. I also told her I'm willing to not have the kids with me right away, in that there could be a gradual ramp up of my time with them, to give her time to cope with the changes. I also mentioned I'd need to likely move the marital funds once I move out (it's only logical), but that I of course will continue to pay for all household expenses.

All this to say I was as gentle as possible and tried to be kind. There is no point in being dirty at this stage. What happened happened, and now I just want us all to move on and prosper.

Cut to this week I get a letter from her lawyer(!!) saying since I have a new apt (not true) I am no longer welcome in our home and my wife is prepared to change the locks. A ""trusted friend"" will bring me my belongings, and I can see my kids per a schedule outlined in the letter - which amounts to 5 days in the entire month of January. They also demanded $20,000 cash to be given to my wife immediately (lol).

So....I retained an attorney who told me of course I can go home. So here I am at home, being treated like a murderer by my MIL and my wife won't even look at me. My kids are elated to have me around (I work 1 week out of town every month).

I guess I am posting because this is all new, I'm a little hurt by the aggressive stance my wife decided to take, and I just want some general advice. My ultimate goal is to be able to see my kids. I don't give a damn about money and property, but I also don't want to be a chump. I need to know how aggressive I should be, what mistakes to avoid etc.

Tried to keep this brief but please ask any questions you may have, and I can clarify! 
Thanks in advance for your advice!",3.4066060606060624,3.8693137414141385,4.610707070707072,88.7227272727273,72.1919191919192,7.858585858585857,26.11111111111111,7.898369717300924,1.24489898989899,1822,55,413,23,33,602,234,495,0.075,0.7909999999999999,0.134,0.9787,0,1,0,0,0,1,66.0,7,2,2,7,19,24,5,1,23,1,40,0,0,4,10,79,83,28,1,13,9,6,0,2,1,9,0,3,3,7,18,25,0,4,10,0,5,7,8,8,0,1,8,7,69,16,69,56,14,56,0,1,4,0,57,23,1,5,24,272,87,6,0.07266154618311213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21301206593101266,0.06441007654450462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2905370611537059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04941234307510495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05080664255633124,0.0,0.0,0.0646841812453495,0.0679287370934783,0.0,0.06826791451086947,0.0,0.0,0.13288141239940973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525076197160436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15373256256906945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058014332103390465,0.0,0.0,0.0468606861483714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16207366241293786,0.04799226596658247,0.0,0.12244097305212327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07959717217528096,0.0,0.06180587406418709,0.0,0.0,0.056138130336313895,0.0,0.03796265888595388,0.13940715218133973,0.041295231181851515,0.06094505753468585,0.0,0.0,0.08004488505584896,0.0,0.12850873064256932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08189484342868979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21865636584602655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777856880108649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12916984168785892,0.0,0.075665818889731,0.07986577103728093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07099752237720544,0.07282595814858232,0.0641614765009253,0.0,0.12203479703156045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04850214630338031,0.07366740314903895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08510032469931006,0.11599550586354647,0.2316831730971087,0.0,0.1616328474110071,0.0,0.21053092225920866,0.0,0.06818793886472156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07738217526868574,0.0,0.05526238012692802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07976055785625677,0.06868864743033014,0.08191497572352738,0.06958967573689387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813975611011325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06205256342443447,0.0,0.11556675589145025,0.0,0.0,0.11580368957168526,0.06614834266828393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060106381866370365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08245546153031645,0.06848264736350594,0.0,0.054632439888703414,0.058402598451534726,0.0,0.06689698933880148,0.08309481057693041,0.0,0.048273102602885684,0.09311716969899113,0.0,0.0,0.08473906381609685,0.0,0.0,0.3471561061005856,0.0,0.14799726068752486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08740289347807338,0.0,0.0,0.1199067706675742,0.21428831267272816,0.11535070648714615,0.17485412841357412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05289847101614395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358330687910814
divorce,the420badger,2020/01/04,"I don't understand. So this will be a bit everywhere, but I need somewhere to let this out. I'm still married, have been for 10 years I love my wife., we have 5 kids together my family is my whole world.  She has lost interest in me sexually, we have 5 kids so sex never used to be an issue.  I noticed about 4 years ago that she would be annoyed when I would initiate sex, then it turned into anger. I would try to talk to her let her know ""hey this is hurting me, I'm not happy with our marriage, can we talk about this."" She tried, but mostly just just said idk, and avoided talking.  So for new years we have always stayed in watched a movie with the kids and kissed at midnight. The last 14 years we have done this. This year 2 days before new year she took the kids to her parents and dropped them off then ignored my phone calls and texts until after the new year. She came home like this was no big deal. I'm not sure what to do. She is being super secretive with her phone. I called yesterday to talk to a lawyer but no one was in the office.  She is still sleeping in our bed, I asked her not to do so tonight, as I dont think I'll be able to handle it.",1.9078278688524577,3.293299864754097,3.095868852459017,94.59626229508196,76.99180327868852,6.355409836065574,21.626229508196722,6.961326702584282,0.2868072131147539,893,23,210,9,20,288,136,244,0.132,0.785,0.083,-0.8702,1,1,0,0,0,0,29.0,7,0,1,2,11,13,2,1,9,0,30,5,1,1,2,37,45,16,0,4,8,2,0,1,0,4,0,1,2,4,11,15,0,2,4,0,0,2,8,6,0,1,8,2,35,7,28,26,3,37,0,2,1,4,41,10,0,1,24,140,46,1,0.10584537213833832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09382553605632553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08807182871507313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895113487438603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09006661580970225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11555573266402705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161599183505936,0.12105890819738373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06826150866006536,0.1091219310199326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10831656442580526,0.12404998785093453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09978159685513953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126743668279586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10617153835888862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11330966002014745,0.0,0.0,0.1104750690214174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058169848431611375,0.08627810528637818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164681285096336,0.0,0.051710702370533115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115542727043893,0.0,0.09552958083408446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07848300227873732,0.08163447615329977,0.3066783599264044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12050565771790114,0.0,0.0,0.07172356346069958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11752875980434024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10068318724989088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059218124002472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11281708352458195,0.16905650183143606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997580106118576,0.0,0.0,0.3402980030934361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06782144061743925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11759810300200706,0.14372411961845946,0.11512937062277492,0.0,0.11018876523354626,0.0,0.09141641743849008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11817257803629973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255685465449704,0.0,0.0,0.4771266456617458
divorce,Wakeup823,2020/01/04,"HE'S GONNA BE HOMELESS??!?!?!? Eff my ex! Seriously, screw him!!

UGHHH I'm SO UPSET.

46 days ago, we came up with a parenting arrangement and division of assets at settlement conference.

According to it, I had 60 days to pay him out.

He had 60 days to find a place to move.

I did my part.

Last night he tells me he will take me up on my offer of our child living with me more for awhile because he hasn't secured a place. (Sweet! More time with my baby, I'm not complaining) But he's supposed to move out in 2 weeks!!!!???  Where's he going to live?? Why am I making this MY problem? Why the F do I have to be the type of person that cares?

When I offered him 60 days move out clause, his lawyer scoffed at me and said 'he plans on being out well before then'. REALLY LAWYER??? Cause after 17 months of separation and co-living - he seems to be quite comfortable and in no rush to leave to the point where he will be either homeless or living in AirBnBs (all of our family/friends live 40 min+ away, so he theoretically could stay there and just drive a lot...)

The reason why I'm mad at him is because he KNOWSSSS that I'm too nice to allow any of that because he's family. But I also refuse to enable him. UGHHH. (edit: ok ok i may have been angry when writing this.. I dont think he knows I'm struggling. I think he knows i like to help people, but I've also been pretty cold with him since serving him a year ago) 

I made it clear a month ago that I wouldn't be an option beyond 60 days.

And now, I've offered for him to store his stuff in my shop until Feb 1st. I'm tempted to tell him 'I'll leave the door unlocked' because technically it has a woodstove in it but it's not supposed to be used. But then I feel like a dick because it's not offering inside a nice warm house. But really, I just wanted him to move out, he had enough time to find a place.   Like- I didn't just secure his buyout because the day of settlement I was like uuggghhh ohh um here I think I can come up with this amount.   It's because the moment we separated, I figured out ALLLLL of my housing options, so when the time came, I would have a clear plan.  My mortgage broker and I already knew our options for my buying new and my buying ex out and all ppwk was done. I had already started looking at other homes to see what was out there.  And it was my ex who offered to settle, so he walked in to that court room knowing he was moving out of our marital home and planning on offering to move out sooner than my offer-with absolutely no clear plan. I'm so happy I'm done with this man child. But I also feel responsible to continue to hold his hand because his my kids, dad - and I really will always see him as family.",2.0209551590025185,3.5721147544802925,3.885374056280028,88.35231640356899,77.08243727598567,6.684420041180508,22.445817128040886,7.459000224883572,0.7747685807976814,2075,59,451,27,47,702,247,558,0.057,0.828,0.115,0.9892,2,0,0,0,0,0,83.0,6,0,0,6,23,23,2,2,20,2,39,3,2,6,5,85,73,35,0,5,15,5,4,4,0,7,0,1,4,5,21,33,0,4,14,1,6,13,9,7,2,0,20,10,63,16,74,38,9,80,0,0,3,2,64,35,2,7,35,274,84,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17963407106598808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14908378048982385,0.16205649143896553,0.05620609556591453,0.0,0.0,0.045935567971559815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0634644146002991,0.0,0.0,0.3294174570728681,0.0,0.05747913821428625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15451589146082767,0.06887060488008066,0.0693913269284595,0.0,0.05818739568164949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053932299701096025,0.0,0.0,0.2613807117574588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13825195321387493,0.07916680706899946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06979607008341021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12735818139313113,0.0,0.06830950635121982,0.048256947258838535,0.0,0.0,0.12347694067843434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052188112147210766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03838959621833693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07190705952353281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04527660342681303,0.0,0.13551410748346465,0.0,0.0,0.1558847213362756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11136932573227076,0.055061368677385716,0.0,0.14304906243759646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320039209641763,0.0,0.238587663044767,0.0,0.0567240629068959,0.0,0.0,0.05742765873475812,0.0,0.06391640191682978,0.04508941490386372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10783377416228884,0.4307627399693508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06523914800568288,0.0,0.06339006623911914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07500505895792306,0.07314887550434615,0.0,0.046829901674004235,0.058981093510934265,0.2117226686020356,0.0,0.06385554370725892,0.0,0.0,0.0687215150010244,0.0,0.06463517408861577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07184656931579159,0.0,0.0,0.12982066401442904,0.0694515188805051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06425447191242116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10765545454082397,0.061493981093478686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055877147650143504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047811458697885216,0.07199813913895918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0706167761360697,0.0773273289293969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05078836581671978,0.0,0.1180814309025243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298478217737762,0.0,0.0,0.11816491943685448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05834056099214315,0.0,0.0,0.0398420910229951,0.0,0.05418365264620354,0.0,0.060734572895769334,0.0,0.18285712556375008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047984800091553766,0.0,0.0,0.04349927656349538
divorce,xPWEEZYx,2020/01/04,"I think my wife is cheating (long) 
So background, my wife and I have been together for 5 years. We have 2 kids (one together and another from her previous relationship) we’ve been married 3 years and have had pretty normal marriage. We fought occasionally over normal married things, mostly due to stress about other factors. I work in the oil field and am gone for long periods of time but it was something we discussed as a couple before I started and agreed financially it was a good decision. We always communicated well while I was away and have had a ton of trust between each other. 

Now enter the last month or so, my wife approached me about adopting a family for Christmas since we’ve had a good year. To which I agreed, thinking it would be gifts and that would be it. However it has turned into my wife and the single father becoming friends. Which I was okay with, of course with the stipulation  when I went back to work just before Christmas. Which in the beginning it did, but eventually it has turned into my wife ignoring me whenever they are together. I voiced my concerns to her and was met with ‘I am over reacting and they are just friends’ . Being a trusting husband I listened and chocked it up to stress and isolation at work and kept an open mind about there relationship. 

Now, I have never been a big social media guy and haven’t had a Facebook in years. But with my unusual amount of alone time I consulted my wife about reactivating my account as another source of entertainment, to which she agreed. After reactivating said account I decided to take a look at said fathers profile to see what he looked like and his kids since I have yet to meet him in person. To I was greeted a meme about sleeping with a man with a woman in exchange for Christmas gifts for the children. Accompanied by comment from my wife seemly flirting and alluding to the fact that, that is what there relationship was based on. Along with comment from there mutual friends saying how funny and now they get what there exchange was about. 

I’m sitting here alone and heart broken struggling with the fact of do I confront her now or in person when I get home. As well risk being wrong about the nature of the conversation and pushing my wife away further. Now if she cheated I’m gone but if I’m wrong she will most likely leave anyway. So I am stuck not wanting to lose her and not wanting to be taken advantage of.",6.057301239970823,7.062947264770241,6.282291028446393,77.1539106491612,66.50547045951859,9.156790663749089,32.30116703136397,9.2995712137729,2.8704378409919773,1928,78,349,35,30,617,217,457,0.10400000000000001,0.769,0.127,0.9032,1,3,1,0,0,0,35.0,4,0,3,5,31,27,4,4,23,1,41,2,2,2,3,70,70,38,0,8,12,11,0,2,3,3,0,5,1,8,21,37,0,2,5,1,4,6,4,12,2,1,26,9,47,15,67,36,6,52,0,1,3,0,56,19,0,7,28,260,68,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942465487033144,0.0,0.0,0.07802883871657394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19666385492219934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17621058788120586,0.07210767321515414,0.0,0.0,0.1035678188737462,0.15959231325828271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10376095407563828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08840332080625196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2173524638914806,0.0,0.09798779540515393,0.0,0.0,0.15730910331135195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09285261987699843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11112457640521478,0.0,0.0,0.09406460571742864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07643965681628004,0.0,0.09929485502520256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09162807481254273,0.0,0.0,0.16597696819941826,0.1574958271463757,0.10491094624904568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946866567214874,0.0,0.07485081544617506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07232554911611205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18376041942540408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06354479573211205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16376253096942806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09540353152773386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3020398052973115,0.0,0.0,0.1784042024336391,0.07457414709773336,0.0,0.0,0.07472703818640289,0.08536981415398236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15514434504072971,0.0,0.09384335646174198,0.0955924482173268,0.0,0.0721930636086786,0.0,0.0,0.06637487557139338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21483934112383568,0.0980346522975232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0705076053600576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062300363570868336,0.12017527803548728,0.0,0.0,0.10936265124343307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040019203172897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11062259576164743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16863111181406895,0.08693095112313423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048093326687358,0.0,0.0,0.13323103800369696,0.20505786668908024,0.0,0.2415537319278939
divorce,yqopoemw,2020/01/04,"What is happening with her? Throwaway account.

She broke off almost 17 years of relationship, marriage and three kids, for a fling - that according to her own words, isn't something serious. I'm completely crushed and physically experiencing pain over my loss - but that's not why I'm here. She wanted out - and that's ok, a relationship has to work for all parties involved.

But: What is happening with a woman, when she puts a fling - over her kids? Everything gets planned in a way, so that they can spend time together. I like having the kids, they make me feel loved. All i focus on is their well-being, but she doesn't work that way right now.

Can anybody help me understand this behavior, from a caring and loving mother?

I'm growing angry - and maybe having some perspective on things, can stop this.

Small edit: I understand the divorce-part, I have problems understanding that she chooses to have the kids less, to spend time with i fling. That is just odd to me.",4.561333333333334,6.690290244444448,4.888888888888889,81.385,71.55555555555556,8.355555555555558,28.11111111111111,9.029198982220553,2.379511111111112,764,29,141,16,15,241,109,180,0.109,0.728,0.162,0.9239,0,0,1,0,1,0,34.0,0,0,3,4,5,10,0,0,9,1,14,3,0,1,2,28,29,10,0,2,5,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,5,12,9,0,1,5,0,3,2,3,5,0,1,0,2,20,5,19,29,5,19,0,2,0,2,24,9,0,2,7,94,32,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15369083110684098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15648592073369014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16092377205772193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13794042377410107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07760550393631138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801884164662603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27144862648515955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10287627046801523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07498393236310501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2770483980902429,0.0,0.10245094578246168,0.0,0.1541940794679913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16331649658114838,0.0,0.0,0.16620689122540888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468622897483044,0.0,0.15429258359689518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3295661273790984,0.0,0.1310734533538866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11815854059562708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12831847447869998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10196713742490134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17899408365098354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4793429526585509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905281187604632,0.2436549694597667,0.0,0.0,0.13799944949678733,0.0,0.1384943339585099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2234745799557484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09883787656781258
divorce,YoungLostOne,2020/01/04,Heartbroken It’s been 2 years and a half years since we divorced and I’m still in love with my ex husband. We married young but still reach out to each other every so often. I can’t imagine a day he is not on my mind. I like to imagine the universe will bring us together again one day.,1.026284153005463,2.9769467377049215,2.689754098360656,93.88632513661207,81.62295081967213,5.3781420765027335,23.281420765027317,6.42735559955562,0.4799486338797814,225,8,50,2,6,74,50,61,0.045,0.835,0.11900000000000001,0.5187,0,0,0,0,1,0,4.0,3,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,0,0,13,7,4,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,0,7,2,6,5,1,12,0,0,0,1,8,3,0,1,9,34,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3846136598409864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512365621950319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14567977533811852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26912664566676603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.301085249404708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20206015645531214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24666450077393964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4762672343875558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3586838937319101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3840470671388884
divorce,poetrybydeadm3n,2020/01/04,"Jack Gilbert Poem My friend recently shared this with me, and as my first reddit post, I thought I would share this with you. 


Failing and Flying
BY JACK GILBERT

Everyone forgets that Icarus also flew.
It's the same when love comes to an end,
or the marriage fails and people say
they knew it was a mistake, that everybody
said it would never work. That she was
old enough to know better. But anything
worth doing is worth doing badly.
Like being there by that summer ocean
on the other side of the island while
love was fading out of her, the stars
burning so extravagantly those nights that
anyone could tell you they would never last.
Every morning she was asleep in my bed
like a visitation, the gentleness in her
like antelope standing in the dawn mist.
Each afternoon I watched her coming back
through the hot stony field after swimming,
the sea light behind her and the huge sky
on the other side of that. Listened to her
while we ate lunch. How can they say
the marriage failed? Like the people who
came back from Provence (when it was Provence)
and said it was pretty but the food was greasy.
I believe Icarus was not failing as he fell,
but just coming to the end of his triumph.",5.419285714285714,6.865190928571433,4.7253571428571455,86.11964285714286,68.28571428571428,7.028571428571429,26.94642857142857,7.1686216300943375,1.252139285714286,944,29,177,8,16,282,136,224,0.040999999999999995,0.8170000000000001,0.141,0.9581,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,2,3,8,9,17,0,0,18,0,17,6,1,1,2,33,31,18,0,5,6,0,1,4,1,3,0,5,1,0,17,14,3,0,3,1,2,8,3,6,0,1,15,8,22,11,24,11,3,39,0,4,1,2,30,10,0,1,23,125,39,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10880151642534876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095131404796668,0.0,0.1119600074754226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092326822836784,0.11359855272579182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532851147792174,0.0,0.12032780178818282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15560836057978247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3515927777845702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10862723127624237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24100510963669736,0.14057909433017082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11463050090551548,0.13000444979403342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11572659259845886,0.16451579964359336,0.0,0.10511419241353674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07477115797921179,0.11090133487453112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26587444873326976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455862469241558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20986488627986585,0.0,0.0,0.1276765022840882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427647126207656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886440069486734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303011432974594,0.1384147893756203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134335901077295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25883507358843616,0.21638957590157196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11891629853693655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080108663469541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09904818752355253,0.0,0.0,0.2899443935922245,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,rbllmelba,2020/01/04,"Wish I understood when the pain stops It’s been six months and three weeks...we made a decision to move countries and settle down in the UK from Australia. 
Left my career job. We had been living together ten years at this point. After everything I thought we were going to be able to make a home for us...
Four months later it was over. Yes there were issues but no infidelity, and there was real love there. 
Been spending half a year trying to work out why she agreed to make the move if she was having doubts. 
Now 32, one serious relationship in my life that meant everything to me and I feel as shit as the day I left...
Tried all the right things, therapy, friends and family, health and fitness. Feel pathetic. Nothing helps one bit. 
It’s like I’m okay when I’m well distracted but as soon as I’m not, the sadness always comes. First thing in the morning, middle of the night, all day every day...
In the last 180 days I’ve NOT cried my guts out for maybe 5 days. 
I thought I was a strong bloke. I’m 32, I work in a men’s type job...
When will this pain stop...",1.251447927199191,3.5142196372093046,2.380303336703744,94.64649140546007,82.86046511627906,5.971688574317493,19.115267947421643,7.255503002510835,0.2514914054600608,822,21,183,12,23,261,132,215,0.129,0.715,0.157,0.7756,2,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,3,0,0,4,9,13,1,2,14,2,13,7,2,3,2,33,30,16,0,2,5,0,2,1,1,1,4,0,1,1,8,11,0,2,7,0,1,4,3,7,1,8,15,2,16,6,25,13,3,41,0,1,0,1,10,16,1,2,22,107,24,6,0.11144953835124473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09273494394460632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216740307021972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09600390887305704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12242208461169099,0.3593786612314335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09390104284009798,0.0,0.20032731752476216,0.0,0.10506470600264732,0.0,0.11270447054866566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09479892038754573,0.0,0.0,0.08610563686763842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06333934100063156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11846564765200553,0.0,0.0,0.07470227630139709,0.0,0.11179297400621688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11632436253959927,0.22119293973545945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09084624872799747,0.0,0.0,0.2421804990311511,0.0,0.07872010489190423,0.05444861490478961,0.0,0.09841198421434544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10058755964248976,0.10545624792505,0.1487868645386083,0.0,0.11196604110992413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17791591644269167,0.2369064431077352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10458784194386417,0.0,0.1069388378586906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15104218304705305,0.0,0.2371803331648614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053558374162556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12685397405280788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11965509536384834,0.0,0.09517729680203116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11440134954465175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18635360888324307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274522600282269,0.0,0.14808424214689486,0.0,0.0,0.17695696883329998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15133384160132304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13406007221682667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10020651952925123,0.0,0.10056587349522107,0.0,0.12816146890149602,0.0,0.0,0.16227318255460324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435396973631088
divorce,sadhusband6969,2020/01/04,"Whatever you do, let your partner know how you feel. My wife asked me to separate at the beginning of Dec... I had no idea, and I was immensely hurt. 

She never told me she was unhappy with the relationship, but I'll admit I was feeling depressed at the end of it and not being a great husband. I wish she told me how she was feeling so I could have improved myself. 

I am a sad, broken man. And I hope that if you are unhappy with your marriage, LET YOUR PARTNER KNOW! It may not fix your marriage, but at least you will know things aren't right.",3.371554054054055,4.367835918918922,4.704132882882885,86.0491722972973,72.69369369369369,8.072522522522524,28.289414414414416,8.472884824447931,1.8833684684684688,421,16,90,7,8,140,68,111,0.20600000000000002,0.659,0.135,-0.8817,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,8,0,0,3,5,0,0,5,0,16,0,0,2,1,25,29,9,0,4,5,2,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,3,4,5,0,0,8,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,7,3,24,2,8,16,1,7,0,3,0,0,24,4,0,3,3,71,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18789676883321704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604726661301465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17311078064798704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17801582549792727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30487691050540305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22159012132628905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996265619306947,0.0,0.0,0.21516194859617732,0.2268911328245333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3313734575462767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4110479577012138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15501443529747602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21578603240355296,0.0,0.171642763639557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13352758182674068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3841055400588864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23112642881751244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,KootenaySwing,2020/01/04,"Quick question about exes seeing their kids What is the etiquette when the parent who doesn't raise the children because they moved away wants to come into town to see them and demands to stay at the other parents house?

I'm torn between being happy for the kids that they will see their Dad but should he have the right to demand of the mother that he stays at her place?",5.2261643835616445,6.336441205479453,4.4903013698630145,88.87353424657536,68.45205479452055,5.84,24.189041095890413,3.1291,0.2565309589041096,300,7,57,0,5,89,57,73,0.049,0.919,0.032,0.1179,2,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,5,0,3,1,0,0,7,0,6,0,0,0,0,7,12,3,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,5,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,6,1,12,9,0,13,0,0,3,0,17,7,0,1,2,40,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19096596620375256,0.0,0.0,0.12390314196250178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17508728800555085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163700899987105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345304578468789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21602925923371244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4513840912038194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21235955210210086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276935514095988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17357975287028946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.485906819348391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4332883015509216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198858203562199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,My0wnBestEnemy,2020/01/04,"This just keeps feeling worse. So this is my fourth account since this started. For some reason part of my spiral is deleting everything from my phone and regretting it the next day. So some of you may recognize me. Let me explain. 

I’m having a tough time.  I’m pulling out of my spiral now and without the crutches I’ve been using I’m waking up to the reality of the situation. 

My 33f stbx left me 36m. 

I ruined the marriage. I was sending messages to other women. I won’t call it an emotional affair because 95 percent of the time no one answered and of that, there’s only one or two times that I remember that it got inappropriate. But it escalated at the end and was entirely inappropriate on my end. It’s all my fault. I one hundred percent understand that. 

She found her new boyfriend after less than a month that she kicked me out. A guy that was around the whole time she has been at her job. About 6 years now. I’ve seen his name on her phone. She told me that HE had sent her inappropriate messages and she told him to stop, though I’m not sure I believe that now. He almost immediately was sleeping in my old bed. 

Anyway, enough of the back story. It’s months later. He’s still around all the time. As far as I know he hasn’t met my daughter. Though there was one morning she walked in on them sleeping but thought he was me (that hurts an absurd amount more) I’ve lashed out at her over this more than once (never physically, just want to make that clear) . Not proud, just being honest. 

And even though I did what I did... I love her. I can’t ever seeing myself not living her. This will be the single greatest regret of my life. I hate myself for what I did. It’s making me reevaluate where, what, and who I am. 

I’ve been jealous, and angry, and upset, and more than anything, fucking sad. And every day it gets worse. 

Work. Days off. Nights (I barely sleep). Getting ready for work is especially hard for some reason. It all sucks. And it has not gotten better. It just keeps getting more painful. 

Not sure what I’m posting this for. Nothing will help right now. Just need to get it out into the universe. 

I know eventually I’ll be a version of ok. But I don’t see it yet.   

This fucking sucks.

Edit: my daughter hasn’t met him. He’s always here at night. My daughter has nothing to do with this post (yet). I’m just trying to get by the fact I fucked everything up to the point that she had to run to another man a month later. If that. And began calling him her boyfriend just as fast. 

Ps since that all started she hasn’t brought up filing paperwork at all. Not sure what that means.",1.3235057471264362,3.69895909003832,2.7717241379310344,91.22068965517245,83.5785440613027,5.2091954022988505,21.260536398467433,6.566583216259969,0.35487662835249,2023,64,422,21,58,657,246,522,0.147,0.8059999999999999,0.047,-0.9945,1,0,0,0,0,0,77.0,0,1,1,4,30,24,7,1,21,1,36,10,4,5,12,80,83,26,0,5,19,3,2,0,0,4,2,0,1,3,42,21,0,3,12,0,1,6,15,16,0,5,26,5,61,8,58,49,22,72,0,5,3,4,53,27,5,7,37,294,103,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786550905059148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06535873917040634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08236507046321348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0646388164713094,0.13984983930413955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06039903557930443,0.0,0.04788250597694268,0.0,0.0,0.08849738960737799,0.0,0.06946986581695104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604138341248595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15197207341947971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08835661829303035,0.139141514918834,0.0811617155358403,0.0,0.051880618677156286,0.07105171827354438,0.06618059499212188,0.0,0.14118885867477393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039716539314074914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08612450084128344,0.0,0.2178507835296141,0.20519204396438945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06282250209532456,0.0,0.0,0.07777547716522124,0.0,0.0,0.07036412954218868,0.07755049426519636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05264948016936406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08408791577046894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07794737905454974,0.13963523426592778,0.0,0.0,0.08633652796113854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08534329884207839,0.0803212795531845,0.05548120896229047,0.0,0.0,0.0693598651588084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07089319079535125,0.0,0.10486361944824447,0.0,0.0,0.08556246786193655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18809026267359968,0.0,0.0,0.058242801927519176,0.06058153341493092,0.07586274078053518,0.08353734200662905,0.14742510624879251,0.0,0.15073902702669514,0.0,0.08242355699823127,0.08365171026346188,0.21290629455489707,0.059739760413762666,0.08358126328804383,0.0,0.0,0.0850604943567084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07425382929957859,0.0,0.1504557185645985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615221147028851,0.0,0.0,0.08898026742153294,0.06708008709579981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12518615112401224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12995245024871496,0.0882919330914281,0.2358160223351752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111942264243236,0.0,0.06272902453296683,0.06567015840188152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22209341707321045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315208430569671,0.06235882547828975,0.2290116422072743,0.0,0.0,0.1501131334335571,0.0,0.05332935277765779,0.0,0.0767305822289204,0.08177187724473728,0.0,0.06784078257969323,0.0,0.0,0.04633000760783506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769672229648093,0.0,0.07571806079428117,0.0,0.11436865287019905,0.0,0.16009549633782896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05058273203981457
divorce,howtoleaveandlive,2020/01/04,"Breaking Up after 20 years How the F are you supposed to break up with someone who’s been such a meaningful part of your life?  Thru kids and all. 

Damn, this is hard.",2.106960784313728,3.8974000882352975,2.712352941176473,95.8022549019608,77.52941176470588,5.7098039215686285,23.098039215686285,6.42735559955562,0.3258156862745105,129,4,29,1,3,40,33,34,0.11900000000000001,0.8140000000000001,0.067,-0.2023,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,2,0,0,2,1,1,0,2,0,3,1,0,1,1,5,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,7,2,2,6,0,0,0,0,4,2,1,0,2,21,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4716945444487716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3719250668942573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5702134226235022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4461527791757512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3390875280023036
divorce,zenitismyuserid,2020/01/04,"Rant and advise Just want to reach out to rant and get advise. Constructive criticism welcome. 

Working dad on the road during the week. Wife and kids are in good place. Somewhat financially secure - house and CC debt, no saving, wife insist kids be in private school, almost no left over from paychecks.

Been fighting with wife over spending for years. Burnt through her trust fund and my pre-marriage savings; relocation from state to state, raising kids, etc. 

I feel emotionally empty, we got married for practically reasons; I have good job prospects and she was single mom. (Not going into details to expose our identity.) She has social anxiety issues, out of shape, does not make an effort to improve her image, etc. She is a country girl and does think looking good is important. I’m a city guy and work white collar. Opposites attract until I’m embarrassed to bring her to company events. She has anxiety attending so we skip out. I feel my career advancement prospects are affected.

We grew old and out of our common interests. Now the common is our kids (one is not biological). Her habits which I used to tolerate, now start to annoy me. We watch different shows in different rooms, we don’t sleep in the same room, no sex for months. This past holiday just amplifies the gap.

My situation - a few male friends,  no best friends like beer/sports buddies. Hard to keep friends when I’m on the road. Wife makes a big deal if I have female friends she does not know about. I’m just concerned for my financial, emotional and future health.",4.5272225274725235,7.1341549035714324,4.708571428571427,80.48565934065934,73.17857142857143,8.021978021978024,29.340659340659343,8.841846274778883,2.6669368131868145,1223,52,211,26,26,382,176,280,0.115,0.7070000000000001,0.17800000000000002,0.9675,4,0,1,0,3,0,48.0,8,0,0,5,8,19,2,1,11,0,14,3,1,5,0,45,33,14,0,2,8,6,3,1,4,0,1,0,2,7,2,21,0,2,5,2,3,5,9,3,0,1,3,6,27,16,35,29,7,42,0,0,3,1,40,21,0,3,15,123,29,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11768350115349255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17981136918172042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12333438799898473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12116228065824833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455755321119323,0.0,0.0,0.30853863510446755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643977935547505,0.0,0.0,0.26214107861196784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188475245560664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36319559436193294,0.0,0.06140153927037902,0.0,0.0667917062055419,0.2957211470455854,0.09399483174257432,0.0,0.0,0.1163674264159477,0.0,0.0,0.10527859121235082,0.0,0.0,0.12492271956765545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13560713754592774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12266472187032047,0.11662462548673838,0.1044609010497978,0.0,0.0,0.06458822196091134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12769037761096125,0.0,0.0,0.057416383444582025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986907213848835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568966204338532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764291233246684,0.09380668817040196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233218689685048,0.0,0.07963743350772988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11219013864071603,0.0,0.0,0.12278776605596615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12083444218096805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11894075581246782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13210211498043867,0.11760906576630162,0.11980111275897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0831842274257161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07530475630270764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10150316735533847,0.0,0.0,0.06931881291711145,0.0,0.09427081723145922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711180218012886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756817259514396
divorce,jumpstart7171,2020/01/04,"The horrible regret feeling you get after connecting with a new person post divorce Throw away account here 

I met someone new during the new year. Fuck she was gorgeous, I couldn’t believe my luck. One date turned into two nights with her and her friends (who turned out to be amazing people). She was extremely funny, caring, kind and accommodating. I was hooked. 

Of course I wanted to fuck her, but for the first time since my divorce from my cheating ex wife I had connected with someone that I didn’t just want to fuck. This was different. We spent those two days kissing, cuddling, talking and laughing. We had so much in common it was insane. I honestly thought I struck gold. 

Then after it was all over, I sat in the car and drove home. The sinking feeling of dread started to take over. Her expectations of me, my expectations of her, where this all was going. Whether I could live up to a girl like that. I started thinking of my ex and feeling guilty, even though she cheated on me and ended our relationship. I keep comparing this new girl to my ex wife, and any differences there are scares the hell out of me or feels like a turn off. I kept coming up with stupid examples in my head of how this new girl isn’t a good match for me, even though I know she doesn’t deserve the slightest bit of criticism. 


I think I got wrapped up in the moment with this new girl, and wanted for a moment not to be the broken divorced guy, but a sexy man she desired. 

I haven’t replied to her msgs, I don’t know how. I feel sick to my stomach that I went all in only to pull out now. I feel bad for saying all this stuff to her to win her over, only to feel like this. I wish I’d met her later in life. I fucking hate this so bad. I’m way more broken then I admit. 

Fuck my life

Update: so I msged her, she’s seen the msg but hasn’t replied. She works in hospitality so may be busy I dunno. I sent a simple msg about how I’m feeling pretty freaked out about everything, but in no way was she to blame. Also asked if she would like to take things super slow. She usually replies pretty fast, so Not sure what’s going on. Hope I haven’t upset her too much.",2.1328793103448263,4.1058152505747145,3.2995258620689647,90.77618534482758,78.10344827586206,5.913218390804597,23.05890804597701,6.853354925485097,0.6186563218390808,1674,53,354,17,40,540,217,435,0.195,0.632,0.17300000000000001,-0.9590000000000001,1,0,0,0,3,0,52.0,3,1,0,4,21,35,10,3,17,0,25,12,2,3,5,70,76,28,0,13,10,5,8,4,1,2,3,1,1,7,18,21,0,2,14,0,2,9,11,17,0,4,22,10,66,18,60,47,8,64,1,1,1,7,50,24,6,6,32,236,84,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06163428785662469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05241146455925159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07205172584748946,0.0,0.07241148990813875,0.0,0.1287034616581166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683352216805056,0.0,0.0,0.0841424404134801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785798331498022,0.0,0.0,0.06639052832550324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061535558156873386,0.0,0.0,0.049704932784800204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610472470003503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06826273562307099,0.0,0.0,0.10181038948112543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06926716112197978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3117585286768238,0.11012021371152783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06555723077420224,0.0,0.0,0.059545478830506024,0.356258169965442,0.04026683267684535,0.0,0.08760335620045334,0.06464416630042498,0.061641356344503725,0.0,0.0,0.07631319579616062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07609244287086628,0.0790978984752503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730929599091492,0.07654968417724349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06850495400974241,0.0,0.080258415980357,0.08471328756572752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10887617837567606,0.15061354699216198,0.0,0.06805580837537235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133132769192244,0.0,0.0,0.4466185282427685,0.0,0.07232666007650514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05222584397678343,0.11723314853051928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05343187948432297,0.06729611995062626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0738134764836038,0.15681944980692322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08274626618118668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061290586052820575,0.07716231363124669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06375458654502231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306053662205921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10910362857042698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08822876778521425,0.0,0.0,0.07263925614214546,0.0,0.11589679860596815,0.061947390639991676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05120307697998967,0.0987689904143677,0.1514452975931007,0.0611863974583408,0.04494118436390385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.251495948772189,0.15057589252071932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08488369527961259,0.0,0.1363768274016582,0.12235200941081567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07144632755213826,0.0,0.0,0.08862876242459743,0.0,0.0,0.05610918580985217,0.0,0.0,0.054749592972015315,0.0,0.0,0.04963171008078657
divorce,carlyg92,2020/01/04,"In need of a friend Officially separated and he left today. He came back two times due to him being super depressed. I told him I’d take him to a mental hospital he refused as left again. 
I’m heart broken. I hate him but I also love him. I’m so confused. I missed therapy because of him today. I’m just lost. How does it get better? What do I do with myself? 
Thanks I’m so lost",-1.5578835978835992,0.2818450370370371,1.8170458553791884,92.3402777777778,104.80246913580248,4.289594356261023,15.66225749559083,6.1826913282559595,-0.2547890652557321,292,8,64,4,14,104,54,81,0.226,0.585,0.18899999999999997,-0.1442,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,4,7,11,1,1,2,0,3,2,1,1,0,9,18,7,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,1,4,0,12,5,7,13,0,10,0,4,0,1,13,3,0,1,6,36,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14891278244793935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14318468125067926,0.0,0.11351243095248174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16468840103360716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21297565243032748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16038316776693146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16295440577657788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14386607265540838,0.0,0.09728750510143434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838447037389376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206608026890751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40463735635446346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4065423692014459,0.0,0.16806259950207073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18765678110019635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13807301638431765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14000741598061772,0.0,0.0,0.17143797043091955,0.21294838257224752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10858106814996536,0.0,0.3530123036537098,0.17793248647160015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819009832400627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,oooo_la-la-la,2020/01/04,"Divorced and Dating It’s been 10 yrs since I walked away, 7 yrs post divorce. It took me failure after failure of dating to finally decide that I needed help. There’s some trauma of a 15yr relationship that takes therapy to unravel. Unravel my heart, unravel my mind, unravel my dying desire to be whole again. It’s exhausting...",3.156978922716629,6.058376360655737,5.2184074941452,73.17032786885248,80.47540983606558,8.731615925058549,28.386416861826696,9.23628265651192,3.4733400468384072,262,12,41,8,7,90,44,61,0.147,0.768,0.085,-0.6124,0,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,6,5,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,2,0,6,0,7,2,2,9,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,5,26,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539196843780273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2804888882455662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29605838966873443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3202613158123813,0.18115066410446795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27288718888718994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20039556353710009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588359205885503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901598326293465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2235632012778702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032031005009302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30906771103703096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002705992092977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30173744228222465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,gskneiskenthrowaway,2020/01/04,"Things are getting easier Just left my stbx after dropping off my daughter. On the way back I just felt so upset and hurt because he’s the one leaving me and he’s about to go out with all his friends, people who I’ve known since we were dating, without me of course. I was worried I was going to fall into a downward spiral, but after I got home and made dinner I realized I didn’t feel upset anymore. 

It seems like every time he does something mean or I run into a situation that would make me really sad before, I get over it soooo much quicker. It seems to get better and better with every event. 

I think I’m FINALLY getting to the point of being ‘over it’ with the whole not being wanted/loved thing. It turns me off emotionally now. I’m tired of it. I thought this point would never come, and I used to criticize myself a lot for wanting someone who did things I knew I didn’t deserve. Now I realize that I had to make it there in my own time. 

You aren’t ready until you’re ready. You can’t make yourself be ready.",2.061601503759398,3.9496832904761945,3.66719298245614,88.45657894736843,78.0,5.944862155388472,22.4812030075188,6.8360192770164,0.6387142857142858,801,24,164,8,19,266,128,210,0.106,0.779,0.11599999999999999,0.2838,1,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,1,2,0,2,8,8,0,2,7,0,15,2,0,5,2,41,40,9,0,3,6,1,2,1,1,2,1,0,1,0,15,13,1,0,11,0,0,5,7,4,0,1,12,2,27,4,27,23,5,32,0,2,0,0,11,13,0,4,13,113,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273409785373354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09873375277872992,0.0,0.07827309595607887,0.0,0.10926124294437356,0.0,0.0,0.22712351253146865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11060755907945972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123660706830896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14443575834011904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163696304760323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06492426470475343,0.0,0.12328673110972713,0.14065888485851105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09920360981869003,0.0,0.2683404507589076,0.0,0.14594843030912344,0.0,0.10269537139673067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287983804223137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374577492459981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359599225869602,0.13950991250731615,0.0,0.0,0.06273107481320929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10916338636381027,0.0,0.12149774222309433,0.2571294039411801,0.0,0.0,0.13986818610582452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09439076090704758,0.0,0.09903208032672103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08700899463873836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08901826684995018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427641155068601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08225805947890237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337859966801425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10621604279591533,0.14433001803082132,0.0,0.0,0.10879519356671057,0.0988506739554647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559151510745897,0.08227526740647424,0.0,0.1019374034583936,0.14974529740929596,0.14758001829421236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13966526909621893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11089870875080846,0.0,0.0,0.07573524102686251,0.10192008898503388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14335703237110192,0.0,0.12377562362782177,0.0,0.0,0.1303991777088279,0.0,0.18242719231087404,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,0bl1viousfriend,2020/01/04,"Giving up How did you know when it was time to throw in the towel?

I've been doing everything I can to save marriage and it does nothing. I'm running out of hope, and honestly that kinda sucks more than the divorce itself.

I really don't want to give up on this. The marriage. Him. But... I'm starting to feel like I have to.",0.8125840336134473,2.8570142500000024,2.9485714285714306,91.22500000000004,82.97058823529412,5.650420168067227,21.478991596638657,6.868970318607317,0.5320226890756308,251,8,54,3,7,85,52,68,0.052000000000000005,0.753,0.195,0.8832,1,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,1,0,0,2,5,1,0,3,0,7,0,0,1,0,11,17,5,0,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,3,1,5,4,12,14,1,10,0,0,0,0,7,5,1,2,4,38,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2758007000894724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2832476022588353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15935555590322856,0.225152048884267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6046648962987173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3130273299160091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17320498771561116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15397240684551164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024067789264572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20190107435782176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22307353650520687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837737032607898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18589092214111835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,YI9B3,2020/01/04,"Why does it still hurt years afterwards? M (36) was married for 11 years, got divorced two years ago and it is just as painful as the day she filed. Why does it still hurt so much even after counseling and other helpful resources?",3.4452272727272732,5.69701215909091,3.1818181818181834,91.8427272727273,75.13636363636364,6.218181818181819,26.90909090909091,7.1686216300943375,1.2317000000000005,181,7,36,2,4,54,34,44,0.19399999999999998,0.752,0.054000000000000006,-0.8053,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,3,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,2,0,1,0,4,1,1,9,0,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,9,21,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867067200188237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13583596663712427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3686394362058906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13911609868527833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16845638359739615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14117777439294266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4509577212777034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15483391326353307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22412028939314624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3364114534432837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20575042321608736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3801133486924817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40690758061373655
divorce,divorcethrowaway672,2020/01/05,"(UPDATE2) California Divorce - 23 yr marriage 3 kids - Separating finances  

This is an update to previous post [https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce/comments/ehv3qa/update\_california\_divorce\_23\_yr\_marriage\_3\_kids/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce/comments/ehv3qa/update_california_divorce_23_yr_marriage_3_kids/)

My STBXW and I have a settlement we have agreed to, and I will be contacting legal help next week to draft the actual legal documents.  At the same time, I will be going ahead and starting the process of separating the checking & savings accounts, and credit cards.  (The retirements accounts will wait until later...)   I have already created a spreadsheet of all the accounts, and printed out a copy of the latest statements/balances and given these to my wife.  There is $0 debt, except for credit card debt which is paid off every month.

We have a joint savings and checking account.  Our payroll direct deposits go into the joint savings account.   We have a bunch of automatic payments coming out of the joint checking.  And we have about 10 credit card/store cards which need to be split.

The STBXW is currently underemployed making $10k/year. She already is the primary cardholder on Target REDCard, TJMaxx Store Card, and Kohls Store Card.  But is not the primary on any Visa or MasterCard.  She is concerned she may not be able to get a Visa credit card on her own credit. I don't think that will be much of a problem, esp. since she will be paying it off every month, it doesn't matter what the interest rate is.   I told her she should apply now, before I call the credit card company and drop her as secondary on the Visa and MasterCards.  Otherwise, she can just use a debit card and pay directly from her checking account.

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1. Pay off all credit card balances from the checking account, so all credit cards have $0 balance.
2. Split the joint savings and checking accounts 50/50 into his and her personal accounts.  (Optional) Reinvest savings into CDs if the money won't be needed to get extra interest.
3. Change his and her Payroll Direct Deposit from depositing into joint savings to depositing into his , and her personal savings account, respectively.
4. Change any automatic payments from joint checking to his or her personal checking.  For now, all automatic payments would be from my personal account, since the agreement is that I am continuing to pay all living expenses while we continue to live together until the divorce is final.
5. Close the joint checking and savings accounts.  Double-check that we didn't miss any automatic payments.
6. Close credit cards we aren’t using.
7. For remaining cards, if we share the card, call the credit card company, and remove the secondary person.  The other person can open a separate account if they want.  For example, my wife is primary on the Target REDCard.  She can drop me off the card, and I will sign up for myself.

I will be keeping a log of each account change, money transfer, etc. so there won't be any questions later. And if possible, I will have STBXW sit side-by-side with me while all these changes are made.  (The divorce is amicable and we are still friendly to each other, but see previous post...)

Credit Cards

|Credit Card|Cardholders|Balance|Notes|
|:-|:-|:-|:-|
|Visa XXXX| His (primary), Hers | Paid off each month | Not used, cancel |
|Visa XXXX| His (primary), Hers | Paid off each month ||
|Visa XXXX| His (primary), Hers | Paid off each month | Only used for hotels, cancel? |
|Visa XXXX| His (primary), Hers | Paid off each month | Not used, cancel |
|Visa XXXX|His| Paid off each month ||
|MasterCard XXXX| His (primary), Hers | Paid off each month ||
|Target REDCard|  Hers (primary) His| Paid off each month ||
|TJ Maxx Store Card|Hers| Paid off each month ||
|Kohls Store Card|Hers| Paid off each month ||
|Amazon Store Card|His| Paid off each month ||",5.662627391382082,8.923393141337389,5.2561639549436805,74.6133823529412,72.75379939209726,7.274843554443054,29.73726086179153,8.313332769828598,2.6558846057571963,3109,132,470,56,68,952,254,658,0.021,0.902,0.077,0.9774,5,0,0,0,7,0,218.0,10,0,1,1,9,28,0,0,39,0,53,0,0,7,6,104,87,36,0,10,14,2,0,0,1,13,0,0,0,7,13,54,0,2,2,1,77,4,10,2,0,0,15,1,60,26,65,49,24,72,0,1,1,0,63,31,0,9,32,297,73,20,0.06790630709662142,0.0,0.06626676012373932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14987259695683516,0.0,0.0,0.14715291073646775,0.08251359583809696,0.18471446972877936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05778326580337796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13867986385187708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873434754129168,0.058495270728387526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757334826343474,0.0,0.0,0.1144279850078263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07438804019028067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05246424441397177,0.0,0.0709564854570359,0.0,0.0771854384489422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04551616624334523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0603582458538184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11992502653507067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0642545896806392,0.04532798728811112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6504259975267628,0.0,0.04991894911585293,0.10070333254890372,0.0,0.0,0.0722191279775145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05164580652237195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3557590085304161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07655415814131103,0.13007094232305588,0.0,0.0,0.06497716494437306,0.0,0.0,0.07607060503667319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054112534896789515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11234559790948084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04806443367483314,0.0,0.05423006456551471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04351161965101109,0.0,0.0,0.03959671375609595,0.0,0.0,0.06488738649168108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932462322555589,0.0,0.0,0.040052899317337014,0.0,0.054470343507608564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048238692234308,0.0,0.08251359583809696,0.043729435374491636
divorce,nunyachucks,2020/01/05,"Trying to do this right, but afraid I’m (35f) having a lot of anxiety regarding my stbx (35m) and what’s going to happen when we go to court. We worked out the custody agreement a couple months ago, and I was going to wait until after the holidays to file - until I found out he’d removed me from the family health insurance plan (which is illegal in this state).

Rather than argue that out in court - it would be slow and expensive and we’re close to the finish line anyway - my lawyer and I agreed I should just file for divorce. 

Here’s the thing: we had (stbxh and I) agreed that I would take less than 50% of the value of the house and ignore his retirement and bank accounts. I was willing to make this concession because we have two children (5 &6 years old), and I didn’t want him to let his anger with me for leaving to color his interactions with them. I also recognized that paying for my insurance was pricey and was willing to take a hit in the settlement because of that. 

But now I’m angry. Removing me from the insurance without my knowledge or consent and then telling me he thought I knew - it’s not right. So I asked for 50% of everything. 

I’m scared now, though, that he’s going to find some way to use my precious agreement against me, and that a judge will agree. 

Someone who’s been there before, please help me. Please tell me it’s going to be okay.",7.599450549450547,5.92199942124542,7.512087912087914,78.60791208791211,63.94505494505494,10.744322344322343,33.82051282051282,9.466822959209583,2.8218776556776564,1074,35,218,16,13,345,155,273,0.09,0.76,0.15,0.9398,0,0,0,0,1,0,38.0,4,0,1,2,11,9,2,2,13,1,21,1,0,2,0,44,41,22,0,5,7,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,1,16,22,0,2,5,1,4,7,3,5,0,1,10,1,33,4,39,20,3,31,0,0,1,0,21,9,0,3,13,153,49,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12303276601187235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11099374563854858,0.0,0.15038355803270392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10617725393401699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297539277185808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692154250405979,0.0,0.11810372031068435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15357324484026108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12473936067148092,0.0,0.13084290667734172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268554689558672,0.0,0.0,0.15218077791589346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39439997497071655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273533456139728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475318427085461,0.0,0.0,0.09303088866438564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601499787694501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469631155381207,0.0,0.14192656777343368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11799794422842536,0.0,0.0,0.0926462680586042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11078428016987107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14564126235926173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3047089082381316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23705913502401146,0.0,0.0,0.1389572997418507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11759995370628558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20871206972841289,0.0,0.24262465865799876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09220876073799142,0.0,0.1363646877717284,0.11018716484286042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09423221397139113,0.0,0.1355818562601091,0.0,0.0,0.11987370569992213,0.0,0.0,0.08186446980520501,0.11016844911472208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13379274517006196,0.0,0.1010438980369497,0.0,0.0,0.19719096650507564,0.0,0.0,0.08937897387778294
divorce,Broken-Bloodpump,2020/01/05,"Numb, no will to do anything My (30s, F) husband (also 30s) and I are separating slowly. We still love each other very much, but neither of us is getting what we need in our marriage so, after exploring all of our options, we've made a joint decision to split up. This is all very fresh, having been made official just after the new year.

I find that I am having trouble doing *anything* in the days since we decided. Sometimes I'm numb, sometimes I'm overwhelmed with heartache. I've basically been in bed for the past six or so hours, doing nothing. Nothing sounds entertaining to me, I don't want to eat, and I find the mere act of existing tiring.

I know this will, eventually, pass, but I was wondering if anyone had any thoughts on how to try to shake myself out of this funk. I've got to work tomorrow and the prospect is daunting.",4.8768823201338565,5.794057803680985,5.753508087005018,80.20558839933075,69.12269938650307,8.626659230340213,31.99609592861127,8.841846274778883,2.608673619631902,654,28,126,11,11,215,108,163,0.081,0.8420000000000001,0.077,0.0816,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,6,0,0,1,6,7,0,2,6,0,17,5,0,3,2,30,29,11,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,2,3,1,1,0,6,9,1,0,8,1,0,4,3,5,0,1,8,1,16,2,21,19,5,19,0,1,0,1,9,6,0,4,9,86,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13220940176087154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11242586903752126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11559826121971688,0.0,0.27209484014176283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10662018912799756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16916754437070802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3022059587999922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637487418358533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13222456410940092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16281066399949434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09085764969261106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14921120519867898,0.3128667979331429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12153203252631085,0.12258552016427153,0.0,0.15967077873832836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3172653345235564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15782029611765178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13675757504064573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3270189771201765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13202781884258544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13124864884766682,0.0,0.1900154147631902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11224402387798338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19886420364099336,0.0,0.0,0.272818936663148,0.09751227437321593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792866341236043,0.1203577123575511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10646312184889674
divorce,rockcall,2020/01/05,"Dating I live in a small town how will I ever date? I am not interested in tinder have three kids who the heck is going to date someone with three kids! Uggg 

Not thinking anything soon but its starting to sink in 
It won’t be easy for my ex who is a social media addict which started the cheating.... I just want the feeling of hope 

Look what I’m eating I’ll post it!.... ( sorry I’m sarcastic)",1.2513888888888864,3.271993691358027,3.218009259259261,90.0247916666667,81.22222222222223,5.037654320987656,21.23611111111111,5.985473137389443,0.19345555555555605,303,9,63,2,8,102,61,81,0.039,0.8170000000000001,0.14400000000000002,0.8557,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,1,0,5,0,7,2,0,1,1,11,17,2,0,2,4,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,7,1,1,0,2,0,0,1,3,1,0,2,0,2,5,2,8,14,0,14,0,0,1,0,6,5,1,1,7,41,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970229963532064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242124064266504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787958947908173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24645681348343976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13776460245833788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15484601614196428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706155139684105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405882892918845,0.0,0.22879884202385886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609425772437579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777399484752427,0.2308555462161198,0.0,0.0,0.3049980801642625,0.3856989723568557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17458217752563174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607047137091137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,anon16ymous,2020/01/05,Need advice on divorce I'm at the end of my rope. I've done everything to try to make things better. He doesn't seem to want to change things. Now we have a child involved. Is there any tips or advice on divorcing with a child involved or just advice in general? Things you wish you knew when going through it? Thank you.,0.9652692307692304,3.443873892307696,1.9202884615384617,95.76658653846157,87.0,5.096153846153847,18.89423076923077,6.6274283507984215,0.056730769230768814,253,7,54,3,8,79,50,65,0.019,0.853,0.129,0.8041,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,1,3,0,1,4,2,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,1,0,12,13,3,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,5,2,11,11,0,8,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,3,3,33,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.615360192148523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427449135160865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18564692626215049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22205525970680326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21480917703208813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18591654277988925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886521395082157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11929578394451948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14011549035222295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15564442262246106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910927283708169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932554573082952,0.0,0.0,0.418361451453238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14251402829550716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12380941585175667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413843065391645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,z0iks1,2020/01/05,"Transition from separation to divorce - is it a drastic change? I’ve been separated for a year. We’ve established a sort of “normal” and things are relatively stable emotionally and financially.

Does divorce upset the entire apple cart again or does a long term separation help one acclimate to the transition any easier?

Is being able to financially sustain separation for a year any indication of how things will be after divorce?

Or is it just a kick in the balls no matter what.",7.2639215686274525,9.088822000000004,8.676176470588237,58.091127450980395,64.29411764705883,12.254901960784313,35.34313725490196,11.855464076750405,5.196019607843136,390,18,58,14,6,135,58,85,0.055999999999999994,0.8340000000000001,0.11,0.5484,0,0,0,0,3,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,9,0,8,0,0,1,0,9,8,5,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,10,4,1,7,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,3,6,41,5,0,0.2637678634646904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3587423842828691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790314251750659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.461650069636431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2967033442139461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767980388924457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334262588756449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584365029752471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17873593064963514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35047129617327905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3397157122043172
divorce,Ready524,2020/01/05,"23 years and done I told my husband of 23 years I wanted to divorce in November but agreed we needed to get thru the holidays.  Years of drug and alcohol abuse and I am over it and ready to move on.  He keeps asking why I would want to throw away so many years because he has been on a self improvement journey since I first told him.  The back and forth is wearing me out, the house is in my name and I am the only one that can afford it alone but I can’t afford the house and a place to live.  I am just ready to start the next phase.",2.67254347826087,3.2572848956521767,3.765815217391306,93.66698369565219,73.95652173913044,7.141304347826088,22.20108695652174,7.1686216300943375,0.3731086956521734,413,9,100,4,8,134,73,115,0.068,0.785,0.147,0.8271,2,1,2,0,2,0,6.0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,8,0,11,3,1,0,0,18,20,10,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,9,1,1,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,2,4,0,13,0,16,15,0,19,0,0,0,0,11,8,0,0,8,65,16,0,0.0,0.19255819351300893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17368316376409604,0.0,0.16832045563829026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519331323028665,0.0,0.1526917550836746,0.12496691953203892,0.0,0.0990699472933849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663131497621436,0.0,0.0,0.1884702026753561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13823840164091605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.084909361219995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3750497320659644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444541698139856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14350707101395904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16476854697959803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17273175633100574,0.0,0.12050562516416576,0.0,0.0,0.17284057926315402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110126939628747,0.12360286486176933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16979754750988527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695425443186809,0.0,0.0,0.1344372243485537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11503163761407025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31058734111511765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19171558873800654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14664793179889754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11544868710226915,0.0,0.0,0.4186270952111776
divorce,needpassion68,2020/01/05,"Divorce/move Hi all,
Would love to get your input. I’m ready for a divorce. I have a daughter from my first wife(deceased) and a son with my current wife. In order to be able to afford to get divorced and for a lifestyle change I’d like to move, but don’t want to give up custody of my son. I’m in a bit of a quandary because I’m truly finished and can’t stand to be around my current wife but have stayed primarily for the kids. My wife is horrible to my daughter and doting to my son...I feel like my daughters sanity would be better without my wife in the picture. Anyway what are my options? Feel like I’m stuck in a circle...:-/",2.689772727272725,3.828999340909093,4.129212121212124,88.9688181818182,74.53030303030303,6.1890909090909085,27.593939393939394,6.2581,1.0375703030303032,491,19,105,3,10,163,71,132,0.054000000000000006,0.784,0.162,0.91,3,0,0,0,3,0,21.0,0,1,0,2,2,5,0,0,9,0,11,1,0,0,1,16,23,6,0,3,3,9,2,3,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,6,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,2,12,5,23,17,2,14,0,0,0,1,16,6,0,1,7,65,13,0,0.22598639768757026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20117580584052944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13775921050043394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19986660416484148,0.24671861631097794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390636440264573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285310256046776,0.3228894553244351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922239144278425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361371310943195,0.21678674476559665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33121661668884944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20396154701107388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401877767235025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408714314879659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13329263246179782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21784282302741026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3210685061014903,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,pdcid,2020/01/05,"Stuck I've been married for almost 14 years, we have 3 boys together.  My husband was in the Army and medically retired several years ago because he hurt his back.  He has not been able to keep a job since and he will start getting Social Security next month because he has been deemed unemployable.  Not for physical limitations, but for psychological reasons.  While he was in the Army I was a stay at home mom because it cost us more for childcare than I would earn at work.  I started working 4 years ago but I have hardly any work experience and everytime I tried to go to school to earn a degree my husband prevented me.  At first I didn't realize he was trying to control me, but it's obvious now.  
My husband has cheated on me numerous times with numerous women (it was never because I wasn't giving him any).  He continuously steals money out of our kids piggy banks.  Even though he doesn't work and I do, he refuses to do any house work because he's not a woman.  
I wake up at 6 am, get our boys ready and out the door for school and get myself ready for work.  I get home around 6 pm and immediately start making dinner.  Then I clean up after dinner, get the kids ready for bed, then I try to give the boys all the attention and love that they need, put them to bed.  Now its 9:30 and I'm exhausted, my house is still a mess and laundry is backed up because I didn't have time and I fall asleep.  Wake up at 6 am the next day to do it all again.  I try to clean as much as I can on the weekends and do all the laundry, but there just aren't enough hours in the day.  
I want to divorce my husband, I hate him while he sits on his ass watching TV and I'm trying to keep up with the house work and I hate myself for hating him.  
We are $1100 over drawn because he took all of our money this month and lost it all at the casino.  I don't know how I'm going to feed our boys.
I want to leave him so bad, but I can't afford a divorce.  I can't leave him because I can't afford to move.  I am stuck, and I don't know what to do!

My kids do have chores and they do them for the most part...",2.9332060117302063,3.6696368704545455,4.480938416422287,88.21673020527861,73.47727272727273,7.495601173020527,24.875366568914966,7.717688229018142,1.0207976539589447,1613,47,369,20,31,542,193,440,0.11699999999999999,0.8109999999999999,0.07200000000000001,-0.9757,5,0,0,0,2,0,42.0,7,0,4,13,13,12,4,0,19,0,41,10,4,4,7,59,72,31,0,4,9,5,1,0,0,2,2,0,8,9,9,24,3,7,5,3,5,6,14,10,0,1,15,2,55,2,54,55,10,61,0,2,1,2,51,21,1,2,32,231,64,13,0.07628068700576034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13523645303464107,0.0,0.07638408931386019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15562044882039808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06790598387991867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11731027956324518,0.06369118740338506,0.3719999902957784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855552767554305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09838946514985897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788183407899015,0.0,0.0503826743470116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07461714900787772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06488431339909273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992675529562937,0.14635077149487816,0.08670414462899098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06833251250328667,0.2259341579363376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15303149722766152,0.0,0.07512111112639751,0.2640530134906934,0.08166005311436073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07569681155012224,0.1356035589931506,0.0,0.0,0.08384374133211728,0.0,0.0,0.16154046695477628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08326938078981723,0.0,0.06884629821955936,0.0,0.05091795090558706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07684476702301428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08933901868971507,0.1217730332155871,0.08107429830438273,0.0560750819175721,0.05656116286569584,0.058832368374030525,0.0,0.16225075203230482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08260455052855513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07668315930791329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07842925077240208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15440025536269408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08617546388219073,0.0,0.06310017255403429,0.0,0.0,0.0777585541489426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16197558863165554,0.08130506287978044,0.060917855178580574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07494538768495737,0.0,0.08895976405218826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08475064999387033,0.2589478964055509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091756274274663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899846511208979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3887327404715371,0.0,0.0,0.054187611449062686,0.0,0.0,0.14736678441344006
divorce,Glittering-Rock,2020/01/05,Sad for my only child I am shockingly not sad for me bc I know I will be happier but I am so sad for my two year old that he won’t have a sibling I’ll be 37 when divorced and not planning to run out and get knocked up ASAP so...maybe I’ll get him a dog lol Anyone else feeling this way?,-2.242106135986731,-0.4682413134328343,1.0506467661691552,100.78933665008292,96.46268656716421,4.171807628524046,17.892205638474298,5.82211442006289,-0.5283485903814258,220,7,58,2,9,78,49,67,0.051,0.7559999999999999,0.193,0.8540000000000001,0,0,0,0,1,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,2,1,7,0,0,0,0,8,11,5,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,4,0,1,0,1,8,0,6,7,0,7,0,3,0,0,4,2,0,0,3,33,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23879513289454501,0.3499223356037469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852918458887057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17268017615608836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3568548409255974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18768763737367064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3430975826999338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3583623998383476,0.0,0.0,0.2597374426355236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33361039719675833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27107860211917495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21992437483081456
divorce,research002019,2020/01/05,"Can the respondent set a court date? I (39m) filed against my STBX (F38) several months ago.  Her attorney sent a proposed final decree, and there are several important things I do not agree to.  I have discussed briefly these points with my attorney, but there has been no communication or counter proposal sent.  STBX is pressuring me to respond to her directly, but my attorney has advised me against doing so.  She is now stating that she would like to set a court date.  Does she have the power to do this?",5.326838905775078,7.016530468085108,5.58969604863222,78.90500000000003,68.78723404255321,10.052279635258358,34.705167173252285,10.290406445055957,3.819937993920972,400,20,74,11,7,127,64,94,0.083,0.868,0.049,-0.4879,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,1,5,0,13,0,0,0,0,7,15,5,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,3,0,13,1,8,11,0,12,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,1,7,53,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27262747543296784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691419966772274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33690964622214176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15025502472675278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454861383629793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2907373123038748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.694895455634246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043247702841644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21847706557811605,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,jokergal92,2020/01/05,"One year later.. Hey everyone! (Longish post alert) 

I haven’t posted on this sub for a while. A year ago today, my now ex-husband, sat me down and told me he wanted a divorce. My soul was crushed. I did not know how I would get through the pain. We were together for just shy of 10 years. I was 16 and he was 18 when we met. Our relationship definitely wasn’t perfect, we had our struggles. 

The first few months after he declared his desire for divorce, I felt numb and lost in the world. It was my first time single in my adult life (I’m 27f btw). Slowly, I started to find myself again. It took some time. June 26th 2019 the divorce was final. 

I look back at it now and I’m so grateful, to be honest. I’m happy with my life now and wouldn’t want it any other way. Of course it hasn’t been perfect, I went on a wild spree of dating. It happens. I’ve made mistakes but I’m constantly learning. I’m excited for all the opportunities I have in front of me. So I say thank you to my ex for letting me live the life I deserve. He set me free, in a sense. 

I wanted to post this to let people know who are struggling with divorce that it will be okay! When there is darkness, look around and you’ll find the light. It may take a little time and searching, but it is there :). Having a support system is so important during times like this. Whether it is this sub, a therapist (this helped me immensely) or your family/friends, just know you have support. Also, I kept my self super busy. I enrolled in some adult art classes, spent a lot of time in the gym and just took better care of myself. It helps you forget the pain, even just for a little while. 

Hang in there! :)",1.2740588235294121,3.341790288235295,2.7129411764705864,93.42323529411765,81.41176470588233,5.294117647058823,21.176470588235293,6.37848985222837,0.17967647058823474,1278,38,280,11,34,415,184,340,0.069,0.743,0.187,0.9929,0,0,0,0,4,0,59.0,5,5,0,8,21,22,0,2,19,1,29,6,0,2,3,48,61,21,0,7,9,1,1,1,0,5,6,1,0,3,19,14,0,1,7,2,2,5,5,7,0,3,21,5,40,16,33,31,6,55,1,1,2,0,31,15,0,5,30,183,59,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09012812383575457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08130889336374036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06914200408705788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09051167472945114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07818125340047825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08992264745686225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10366371538161673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10987378755651896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06715490994962428,0.0,0.0,0.09715414171058433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09762326351969328,0.11137921542187132,0.18585691902909568,0.17296819908559385,0.0,0.0,0.07855330461163239,0.0,0.05312062032473517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08991023928784089,0.10823417284276576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13630026741469736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16763259310782974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20793770132150471,0.2154466746981626,0.04967292256222657,0.20380869971293056,0.08978026125406971,0.0,0.17076159335926225,0.0,0.1109894986912863,0.08643984585990483,0.0,0.09620667203461193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08115544863261517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06889713058124035,0.0,0.2163772272845254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07048815103244649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921275947329964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10916013743558868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08085547669768847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606845931048407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07196558611714768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21258408853191707,0.0,0.0,0.23075755988595265,0.0,0.0,0.07644641292013153,0.0,0.0,0.09360802630316177,0.0,0.11805168779368655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29643548211225873,0.0,0.0963753389132412,0.09715414171058433,0.2259277556133964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17991039244716128,0.08070431923514218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942530859070075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07222649877979087,0.0,0.0,0.19642472864160798
divorce,Lost-in-Ct,2020/01/05,"Dating with young kids Separated from my STBXW for almost a year now. The process has been collaborative and the only reason we haven’t finalized anything is because it makes more sense to sort out the financials and then pull the plug, rather than the other way around. She’s dating someone else, made easier by the fact that I have the kids (who are 5 and 8) 80% of the time and every school night. I’m lonely. I miss physical intimacy and I miss having someone to talk to. I’m not sure I’m quite ready to date, but I’m getting there. Besides all the other hang ups I have to get over I’m really wondering about the following : 

1) How do you find the time? 

We’re finally settling into a sort of regular schedule where I could get Friday nights to myself, but even so much of that is dependent upon the kids needs. I can see finding the time to go on a date - on several dates. I have trouble seeing how I would have the time to develop a relationship into something you’d eventually feel comfortable about bringing around the kids. How do people do this? 

2) How much should I talk about my kids? 

My kids are so much of my life it’s hard for me not to talk about them. I get the idea of not wanting to bombard a date with personal information, but at the same time kids are adorable. And why waste someone’s time who wouldn’t be interested in that kind of thing. Again, how do people do this?",3.490987573577499,5.081052971223024,4.661203400915632,84.15081752779598,73.24460431654677,8.076128188358405,25.586003924133426,8.710501217029153,1.7442388489208636,1098,36,224,21,22,361,153,278,0.054000000000000006,0.8759999999999999,0.07,0.8087,0,2,1,0,0,0,29.0,1,2,1,1,19,9,0,0,22,0,25,1,0,9,3,49,47,17,0,7,7,0,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,8,12,14,0,0,7,0,0,5,5,4,0,0,2,4,21,5,39,39,6,41,0,3,2,0,20,13,0,5,22,150,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141827660719264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09383548875014877,0.2030185380723737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06951052937243422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09104223524296592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095255925242597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07531454744985744,0.0,0.09607367238256624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057656081615524414,0.0,0.0,0.24982462819504844,0.2084394090856711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383001024356529,0.0,0.06480485106629487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10214686540556804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12872395272850531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11874281808387745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08054148642613908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10789623530697907,0.07611470568464987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514715309918513,0.08455046183391482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21401547327275544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08672358069443245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15810558601205035,0.0995650217044374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12128302151586955,0.0,0.0,0.07304938165134155,0.11723997595028825,0.0,0.1224236076958897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11540262113411875,0.1817314164575656,0.0,0.0,0.12881940364790684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2898471590637723,0.08778447551533979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10747022443036994,0.0,0.0,0.2749546317735352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07575526604783413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3989445453822396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06725678384920541,0.0905102737089973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10289271014273213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12365871348822642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810023581830157,0.0,0.0,0.07343041909470252
divorce,blessedtheloops,2020/01/05,"Possibly divorcing my husband I love my husband with all my heart. However, he is at times verbally absolve and is addicted to porn. He isn’t very kind and prefers porn to being with me. I try my hardest to make him happy and nothing seems to work. This has caused severe depression and heartache. 
I think it’s time to leave. I begged for counseling and he refuses. 
We live in CT: 
1. The house belongs to him. We’ve been married for 7 years and together for 10. I’ve lived her for nearly 10 years. I’ve paid “rent” and towards the mortgage the whole time. We always did a portion split based on income (40/60).  
2. We have a 4 year old. If anyone knows what getting child support is like, please let me know. I do majority the childcare (90%). I want a 55/45 split. My husband has never taken our child out of the house without me present. I actually want 60/40 but I want my son to have a relationship with his father. 
3. My husband makes about $130,000 while I make about $80,000. I went back to school to get an advanced degree and was offered a job making 120,000; however, husband refused to relocate 30 minutes away to split the commute. I wouldn’t have been able to see or son or keep up with housework/family duties if we moved and he told me not to take it. Would this impact anything? I have documentation of the offer and text messages. 
4. Is there anything else I should know? 
I’m always crying and feel so alone while married it is unbearable. 

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. 
Thank you",1.994069707312029,4.566853989761097,3.2570276140242034,87.52541938152862,82.48122866894198,6.008853035474196,25.94363429517013,7.348242739294969,1.4558473265073943,1181,50,229,18,33,382,177,293,0.054000000000000006,0.8440000000000001,0.10099999999999999,0.8654,6,1,0,0,0,0,49.0,5,1,0,2,5,8,0,0,13,0,24,5,1,5,2,52,50,19,0,10,7,8,1,1,0,4,1,0,1,2,6,20,0,4,7,0,2,3,5,1,0,0,8,2,34,7,34,35,4,23,0,1,1,3,33,8,0,5,13,136,40,4,0.11254737159050793,0.0,0.10982999951880187,0.12269324764964434,0.0,0.1099799889439156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11656513445643422,0.0,0.0,0.18729685829052087,0.0,0.0,0.07653607209536686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07869573907281552,0.0,0.18523379432288026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10574196044220173,0.08654198161845279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11561715322379215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12362800287474415,0.0,0.0,0.09693688623362537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09401888720057897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10609964547596848,0.0,0.05690733274630231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11760271286916765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240838745056604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11980876986796656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333691772292183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597291118321669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11168589995925066,0.10003727510899964,0.0,0.11720076825535408,0.18555927617428852,0.0,0.0,0.11917141595677053,0.0,0.11508731276901545,0.0,0.05498496077179474,0.0,0.1987627821557044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10157839700319617,0.0,0.3005049779253086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11962004454697685,0.0,0.0,0.08680347129597354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10799223846048986,0.0,0.11809953397852872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12354321666500295,0.0,0.12688025091497449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12083375741019654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139039486669948,0.08968568360031327,0.10245890011233916,0.0,0.12714649456160387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277174235342137,0.0,0.0,0.084621616742847,0.0,0.0,0.10361849854428552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07211581125151248,0.0,0.0,0.19688183236923665,0.0,0.0,0.1075438366663806,0.0,0.07641227750645478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928633684764461,0.19915006729779053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10433254102826647,0.0,0.12565512108244847,0.0,0.10849164995092853,0.0,0.08193582695061599,0.0,0.0,0.15990084727210646,0.0,0.0,0.21743045188128987
divorce,skitrooper,2020/01/05,"We told the kids today and I’m the only one who’s sad My wife told me she wanted a divorce the day before Christmas. She already has someone new and we didn’t want to tell the kids till after the holidays. We told our 11&13 year olds this morning and they were not very surprised and seemed to get back to ok pretty quick. It helps that my wife and I are united in our desire for the kids to be happy. While I’m ecstatic  they are handling this well, my wife has already moved on and now I’m just the sad guy in the basement till I move out in a month. Just so lonely",2.7698255280073454,3.817109876033058,3.793829201101929,91.8087235996327,74.20661157024793,6.038934802571165,23.36179981634527,5.82211442006289,0.30357226813590504,449,12,99,2,9,145,77,121,0.083,0.72,0.19699999999999998,0.9253,0,2,0,0,1,0,8.0,5,0,2,0,7,7,0,0,10,1,7,0,0,0,0,17,17,10,0,3,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,5,10,0,0,1,1,0,2,2,3,1,1,5,0,15,4,13,11,0,20,0,3,0,0,23,5,0,1,13,66,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3752289918489715,0.0,0.0,0.18420992050731355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307301457210883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14466925250776358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10964485946456627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08882521235972858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16834042738954674,0.0,0.18098289004470824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11395669067667882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13570342203975433,0.3613956038985587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642004224391744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784009217014934,0.0,0.11520577541156818,0.12930318355795234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729651925075007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154774211216496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14405217170874193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14859958651458574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611532375352046,0.4873665188573552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402792201662317,0.20055713101176506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15286285659768978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094833363995226
divorce,Udjebfk,2020/01/05,"Everything changed... Apart from the separation, my whole life changed. I am back in my hometown, parent's house, no job. I miss the old life, the old house, the pets, my business, the old routine, tye old town by the sea, our road trips, and how I felt a year ago, when things were shitty but I believed they could be improved and fixed. If it was only the separation, it would be hard enough, but changing m6 whole life and basically starting over is ver6 hard. I see my kids half the time or more, which keeps me from spiraling down but even wyen I am enjoying them there's always this underlying sadness...these are supposed to be the best years of my life, not the worse. I don't see myself ever being as happy as I once was.
Sorry for the rant, had to get it out there.",3.933565062388592,5.0533843529411735,4.411016042780751,88.21139037433157,71.48366013071896,7.3937017231134865,25.673796791443852,7.686295010490155,1.1260901960784309,598,18,128,7,11,189,105,153,0.079,0.7809999999999999,0.14,0.9515,2,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,1,0,2,1,7,4,0,0,12,0,15,4,0,1,1,16,22,12,0,3,6,1,3,0,0,1,4,0,1,1,6,4,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,5,5,18,3,14,11,5,21,0,1,2,0,5,8,0,2,12,88,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394490416218156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09757064206572323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09016656007176392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13211312266320527,0.12305830675758672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3721401372300932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09362345946527817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12116207865241607,0.0,0.07744986117157407,0.10606939270581256,0.0,0.0,0.10538672997888784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11258906031424942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06126409331178996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12482663839443152,0.2100858549283544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706071680638234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11636356389714975,0.10422706768258136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3312999760854832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4921832630026949,0.1248792615019945,0.0,0.08918236267113502,0.0,0.0,0.1302045923492338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18688385513466435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13126421900133764,0.08299802141176471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07790307499791685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06837589970158696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618356966531388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11949909505434154,0.08329893238781662,0.0,0.0,0.15102462823511206
divorce,throwthrowawaywayyyy,2020/01/05,"Lost I don’t know what to say other than I’m lost. I thought I knew what I wanted. I’m less confident now. 

I hope I’m not making a mistake.

Watching him cry just fucking wrecked me. One of those deep wails from your soul. And I caused it. 

And I don’t know that life will actually be better when he leaves. It’ll be different, that’s all I know for sure. 

I’m hurting him; I’m hurting me. And for what? Is it worth it?

I’m scared. I’m lost. I’m hurting. And the one person I want to run to, the one person I want to hold me through this pain, is now the one person that won’t.",-1.8180620155038767,0.08046382170542543,0.8344573643410875,101.8445542635659,96.82945736434108,3.7968992248062015,16.468992248062015,5.46131890053228,-0.8846403100775198,439,12,113,3,18,149,68,129,0.193,0.674,0.132,-0.8737,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,0,4,4,13,1,1,4,0,9,3,0,2,2,21,31,5,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,3,13,4,0,1,5,0,1,1,4,10,0,4,5,2,16,3,10,21,2,5,1,6,1,1,8,1,1,1,3,66,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.13233601775914225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11993622391787286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13930905680889086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14896146458744794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141683822141151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12536946797881204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134691552199042,0.0,0.0,0.4355206524167497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22358349972468533,0.0,0.0,0.14359164788794812,0.0,0.0,0.09578551251083456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4441037406274024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905208783339438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3675719927910095,0.0,0.1442988408163514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3552288536737305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10784269405382448,0.13576949279369535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12781103234489766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10765937097858587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399592730412705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,lack_of_creative,2020/01/05,Moving on from sadness about marriage ending. I don’t know if anyone else feels this but I’ve moved on from sadness about my marriage ending. I see now that it never would have worked. It’s not the we were incompatible it’s that she cheated and threw it away. Now my sadness is about myself and my own self worth. Everything seems pointless. Anyone else have shift like this? I just want to know I’m not alone in this.,2.0778580990629187,4.5811823012048185,2.650040160642572,92.48890227576977,81.40963855421687,4.6527443105756365,20.065595716198125,5.82211442006289,-0.10003239625167384,333,9,67,2,9,103,55,83,0.156,0.742,0.10099999999999999,-0.787,0,1,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,1,6,5,1,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,1,15,14,4,0,3,5,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,9,3,0,0,4,0,1,3,4,4,0,0,2,2,9,1,10,11,1,12,0,3,1,0,5,4,0,2,6,46,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20470651869827647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764039325670726,0.4050330024801777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856993405737812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.330223598685243,0.0,0.3501197118592053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17763570615778426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999381335527379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21724731335799485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965621491610101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42014283258766894,0.0,0.0,0.15244040598233682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575020193860535,0.17993377564790053,0.20619278795981494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165795048555587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14389206489521775,0.0,0.0,0.14040538765994154,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,thisisntmylifewtf,2020/01/05,"Can’t bring myself to start the paperwork Separated 4 months in a divorce that I don’t want.  Still having a hard time accepting this as my reality. 


My wife has stated there is no going back, but is somewhat dragging her feet in the process.  I told myself I was going to use this weekend to begin the paperwork to file, but instead I’ve spent it crying and grieving.  This is the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through and the pain is immeasurable.  I can’t bring myself to start...",4.274604863221885,5.702946734042556,5.4641641337386035,79.80500000000002,71.02127659574468,7.924620060790273,29.386018237082077,8.418075326091056,2.2051507598784195,379,15,71,6,7,126,61,94,0.16899999999999998,0.8,0.031,-0.9313,0,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,7,0,10,2,1,1,1,9,22,5,1,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,1,1,5,4,2,0,0,4,1,10,1,9,18,1,17,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,1,9,53,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228116941465492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31829366799018144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621093792096286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32936069074658825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25957286834252563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312879649860618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.308330798554984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41019486041938974,0.0,0.23140700996788585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19250724554309775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16896452564209571,0.0,0.0,0.276883242035063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250264255941009,0.0,0.0,0.1709111310456313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,fearlesshark,2020/01/05,"10 years with my now ex (32M) and I'm (29F) I'm in the process of getting divorced This is my first post in Reddit. I'm not sure how this goes but I was in a 10 year relationship (8 as girlfriend/boyfriend) and 2 years married until I realized that I was in a toxic relationship and needed to get out.

Im happy now that I'm no longer with him howver I feel like I have no north. Like whats next for me? I thought i was going to have kids with this guy and live ""happily ever after"" little did I know that wasn't the case. 

Do things get better? I mean this was my only boyfriend and I have never dated anyone. I guess I just need a plan to see what's next for me. Will I find someone Ever again that is not as toxic as my ex? I guess I have never really experienced self care and being alone. This is scary as my best friend is in baby #2 and have little to no friends.",-0.2580952380952404,1.7245263650793667,2.217354497354499,95.19523809523814,86.93650793650794,4.8698412698412685,16.936507936507937,6.1826913282559595,-0.4602,669,15,158,6,21,229,102,189,0.081,0.703,0.21600000000000005,0.9868,0,1,0,0,1,0,21.0,0,0,0,4,7,9,0,0,5,0,18,0,0,1,5,31,36,14,0,2,4,2,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,3,12,11,0,0,6,0,0,1,8,0,0,1,7,3,23,9,22,27,1,27,0,0,1,0,11,9,0,2,18,104,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14044947189554471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948205914637147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14231271716257599,0.11993466678507142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13826186743401864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453312398241312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06856771425240711,0.09687871416680012,0.0,0.0,0.1239436798396527,0.11534849066636045,0.0,0.0,0.20954152663225176,0.0,0.21254947707538435,0.0,0.07706941549921506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2987760246595883,0.13427370023197396,0.0,0.14435773213730396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464804122379496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07452686564620177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325028918571206,0.271830614191994,0.11974475865547694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14771737287314265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011039163430043,0.20917921570752507,0.0,0.28844228097619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10313634803791943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298754233922139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08687425484071652,0.0,0.0,0.2911854817404141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080623889552732,0.0,0.141469203627612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149006119428775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278093729734055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09009223814620693,0.0,0.0,0.10765797323624868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26198221520647125
divorce,plstcglss,2020/01/05,"Getting a cheap divorce when we live in separate states My separated husband (Louisiana) and I (Massachusetts) were married in 2013 in NC. We have been separated since 2014 and are trying to find the cheapest, easiest way to get an uncontested divorce. Since we live so far away from one another, it is difficult to go together to the courthouse for obvious reasons. How can we proceed with this with the smallest cost and least amount of ""headache""? We are looking to cut all ties and have no kids or shared property- what's his is his and mine is mine.",6.219537815126048,7.590405127450983,6.635994397759102,73.43911764705884,66.35294117647061,10.534453781512603,38.10084033613445,10.608840637214634,4.388989915966388,441,24,78,12,7,143,75,102,0.064,0.887,0.049,-0.1531,0,0,0,0,2,0,14.0,5,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,5,0,10,0,0,2,2,18,14,9,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,12,0,0,2,0,2,1,1,2,0,1,2,1,11,1,14,12,3,10,0,0,1,0,12,5,0,1,2,56,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2864422148715346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566518951663765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24967212755411655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854397536073394,0.0,0.15524861745217608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4824276428720711,0.0,0.2293937214780987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851068366402777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2808639149218751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4519375442512373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18546427316079708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21682936735963174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwaway-nightmare9,2020/01/05,"If my counciling doesn't work, how should I prepare for separation? I've never been divorced before. We have kids, house, cars, 401k, ect. What do I do before saying I want to split?",1.9195714285714305,4.5051923142857175,3.3310714285714305,86.76517857142859,83.0,5.785714285714287,20.17857142857143,7.1686216300943375,0.6534285714285719,141,4,27,2,4,46,30,35,0.0,0.946,0.054000000000000006,0.168,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,1,1,6,7,2,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,5,0,2,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,17,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6762731687905925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4585170278262785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3064798503554133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3160082947480085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23438188170910365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892934995300892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ItsOkayImNormal,2020/01/05,"Advice please! Ex husbands attorney wants to talk with me.. My ex husband is in the process of changing our child custody. His lawyer has offered to talk to, I assume, compromise on a schedule to avoid going to court. I don’t have representation and I don’t have the money to look for one. Is this situation normal? What should I look out for as far as being taken advantage of? I already don’t trust my ex husband so I am very untrustworthy of his lawyer. I don’t want to say something to his lawyer that he can take to court and hurt me further. Please help!!",1.907702702702704,4.3610602432432435,3.32560810810811,87.69489864864866,81.70270270270271,5.8621621621621625,24.565315315315317,7.1686216300943375,1.11150990990991,441,17,88,6,12,144,70,111,0.05,0.8140000000000001,0.135,0.8194,0,1,1,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,1,1,4,0,1,3,0,13,0,0,0,0,10,20,5,0,4,0,6,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,4,0,1,1,0,1,1,4,2,0,1,1,3,15,2,20,17,0,7,0,1,2,0,17,5,0,1,1,58,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20843181824422186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353790611879597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256404401288163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121221867161784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429687974556058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283393522515272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.358232307496476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20898623242919875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14453588527999656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4682731382044023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16962270860404452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397552921416575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642068125255212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16037315160553178,0.3428808522813811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17599275036933548,0.2516167473066716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,eatalltheveggies,2020/01/05,"Best coparenting app? We’re having some communication issues. Which we always had and that’s why we’re getting divorced. I think an app where we can share calendars, documents, photos, etc would be really helpful for us. Does anyone use one they recommend?",4.7360000000000015,7.9590350444444455,5.751111111111115,69.86000000000003,76.33333333333334,8.933333333333335,26.777777777777786,9.3871,3.2629111111111118,207,8,31,6,5,68,40,45,0.0,0.75,0.25,0.9072,1,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,3,0,1,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,1,0,7,8,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,5,2,1,5,3,1,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,0,20,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25207945557701866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21183034507643345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3179283267479878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26511441398560265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33787038573419503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582793652014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20306163285835951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3162020780089275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20528740112469784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19407813321022346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19411873327398285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3644126861091288,0.2616523475769742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733661073375471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21520765961879765,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ReminiscentSnake,2020/01/05,"My (18F) parents (50F 50M) just announced that we are selling the house and they are getting a divorce. I spent Christmas with my long distance bf 1000 miles away and come back to my house being packed. I have no idea how to come to terms with this. My father apparently has begun talking to another woman and recently confessed feelings for her. My mother is heartbroken. 
I don't know what to do. The semester is about to start and we are planning on selling the house in 2 months. I have to be packed by the end of next weekend, but I can't be home again until next weekend (college). 
I keep seeing family photos and family ornaments being thrown away and I hate it. Their marriage was always very dysfunctional but I'm still in so much shock. 

Has anyone else dealt with this at a similar age? Any advice?",3.3739285714285714,5.5533188653846155,4.337765567765569,83.8096153846154,75.08974358974359,7.021245421245422,26.52747252747253,7.957251820313856,1.7503934065934064,637,24,118,10,14,206,106,156,0.08900000000000001,0.9109999999999999,0.0,-0.9257,2,0,0,1,1,0,19.0,2,0,2,1,7,2,1,0,6,0,17,0,0,1,0,22,28,11,0,0,3,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,5,13,0,1,4,2,3,2,3,2,0,0,2,2,17,0,21,22,2,25,1,0,1,0,14,7,0,0,16,82,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14482446577053756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12331864961478252,0.0,0.0,0.10078465964421307,0.15540613839669862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103628564424116,0.15185380396577752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784874426270506,0.11396069753205305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553314186945086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12380647826858655,0.0,0.1312658715799937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27942946025092585,0.0,0.07493703302345528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07743113191768224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463220121919542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14866196068552198,0.0,0.0,0.5130269182696269,0.0,0.16730570004480452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13173164558317293,0.0,0.0,0.08144973553450452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13115699222344307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11829602535692975,0.0,0.10894791953928157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3152359528174691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16456440341281195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14633481560599987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11810040480459058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10490044653291546,0.0,0.11835691286652986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11912177486359915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12228486162252805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwawaysfordaysayy,2020/01/05,"Thoughts on seeking companionship outside of marriage once discovering partner is a serial cheater? She’s cheated on me God knows how many times throughout the course of a decade long marriage which I remained loyal and devoted to. 

After countless attempts at reconciliation, empty promises and manipulation, I’m done. I can’t continue to hope that the person I’ve always seen in her -the good and beautiful person- will one day finally come through. 

I’m finding myself more lonely than ever and tempted to see what’s out there. Nothing serious by any means, mostly just for some conversational companionship I guess. Oh, and perhaps the attention and validation that I’ve so longed for from her while she was getting it elsewhere all along. 

Can this come back to bite me? I’m fighting my own morals here. I took vows. I’m a loyal man and I like that about myself. But at the same time, I’ve just learned that what we had was never really a marriage anyways. It was over before it ever started.",5.363114754098362,7.6067971147541025,5.933027322404372,74.25527868852458,69.65573770491804,8.158688524590165,33.511475409836066,8.841846274778883,3.1563154098360653,804,39,132,15,15,260,128,183,0.084,0.773,0.14300000000000002,0.8831,0,2,0,0,2,0,20.0,1,0,0,1,11,11,2,0,9,0,9,0,0,2,4,32,25,11,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,4,11,12,0,0,6,0,0,3,2,4,0,1,8,2,15,7,22,16,6,24,1,1,2,0,16,7,0,4,15,93,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14662651311664898,0.0,0.0,0.11983348232762167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13549985962109504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14994753733475402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3035903793080063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11364527273854973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18033099103587175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3187964098950513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19303691611420176,0.16105898372497596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09206601690198886,0.0,0.0,0.1478023105267034,0.0,0.0,0.19412269732234735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17502306610166052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09684415741660876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860906386301304,0.0,0.0,0.3118926861535406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17865620013129466,0.0,0.19195177990721785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359092772694295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16908479419939831,0.0,0.0,0.1876651653300147,0.11940907974746305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30773146557292225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11288900906130772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14042199300961256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12472717425586435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398964737996556,0.2055068931022126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957833741377253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,RobMarenghi,2020/01/05,"My 2 Minute Song About The Yearning For Divorce... Hi guys, I'm sure you can relate. And before anyone brings the hate please remember this is totally free! :)

 [https://soundcloud.com/cats-on-the-beach/divorce-me](https://soundcloud.com/cats-on-the-beach/divorce-me)",17.209000000000003,23.758855233333332,8.383333333333333,45.64500000000001,63.33333333333333,6.4,22.66666666666667,7.554174236665415,1.8268666666666675,227,5,22,3,5,55,29,30,0.09300000000000001,0.5760000000000001,0.332,0.8207,0,0,0,0,3,0,32.0,0,1,0,0,1,4,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,2,5,5,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,3,2,5,1,1,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27332133305861483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3326209804669226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3870453260794097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3859257112203788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4290829092790397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4428053401156185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3684118360709111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,locust_elysian,2020/01/05,"Terrified about telling husband I want to separate I've known for a long while now that I (35F) want to separate/divorce from my husband (43M) but I have been putting it off due to health issues and unemployment on his side. I believe he is probably depressed but won't get help from anywhere, this makes me terrified of telling him I want to leave. But I am so sad and tired and unhappy in our marriage, I just want to be by myself. I still love him but not in the way I used to. I'm really worried about how he will cope if I leave, he has no job at the moment and relies on me for income. I will be fine but I'm incredibly worried about him. Any advice?",3.7490673154906737,4.186921116788324,5.161265206812653,85.17130575831307,71.4087591240876,8.716626115166262,29.820762368207625,8.841846274778883,2.1376008110300067,511,20,113,9,9,172,88,137,0.282,0.634,0.084,-0.9875,4,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,1,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,3,0,10,3,0,3,0,20,20,13,0,5,8,2,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,0,20,2,21,14,0,15,0,2,0,1,15,7,0,1,6,75,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17128250458861569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191970488972716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974815944341021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15096921558688348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09157705597205937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18631544124086646,0.0,0.0,0.11748711838960092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18294776049587613,0.17393928528224625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3711944108460765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551181149042504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15819789052421715,0.0,0.11700138760388795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18898249785853108,0.0,0.0,0.17620575622754253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11228945760131356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13997958399705646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3064065323381273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20145965406951227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15138645298954834,0.0,0.0,0.41354095586912426,0.13912985041596293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35601260300425863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Regevent25,2020/01/05,"I can now brush my teeth in peace You ever do something and have a memory from your marriage come back, only to pull up past emotions. I just had that while brushing my teeth.

My ex wife used to get so angry at me because my tooth brush was wet after I brushed my teeth. She would always say I needed to dry it.

Okay, I started doing that. Whatever. 

Then she started yelling at me because my tooth brush was dry and she did not believe I was brushing my teeth.

Why the hell was she even checking my tooth brush?

I'm glad I don't have to deal with crap like this anymore.",2.334102564102565,4.033904504273508,3.0926581196581218,93.72873076923081,76.60683760683763,5.363760683760684,24.52051282051282,5.6839178017228535,0.3917528205128207,445,15,96,2,10,140,76,117,0.094,0.8170000000000001,0.08900000000000001,-0.3697,0,0,1,0,1,0,11.0,0,2,0,0,6,5,2,0,2,1,13,8,8,1,1,10,20,5,0,2,2,2,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,2,0,0,6,10,23,3,11,13,0,15,1,0,0,0,11,4,2,0,10,64,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006755497774972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391791610665594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185447421794752,0.0,0.2940340751248163,0.0,0.0,0.271719781298583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20774948875148366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486391371644055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712875611967545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592927251654983,0.21815510531811735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260031229340687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11782511819027625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17882698543057154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834232027235303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302272548720275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19179073037834224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856670298838648,0.0,0.0,0.34140748127968995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082963428352033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21762143906144565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17132263044393814,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,queenabb,2020/01/05,"Handling visitation question with XH So quick backstory. I've been divorced from XH for nearly 13 years now. We divorced for many reasons, but one was his lack of motivation of not feeling the need to be employed. We have one son together who was 2 when we divorced. DS will be 15 next month. I am remarried and have been for 12 years. My husband and I have don't the majority of the raising of DS. XH gets DS every other weekend. We have an agreement for him to come and visit DS twice a week during the week, but he eventually just stopped showing up because he ""couldn't afford"" to drive to my house twice a week. (He told DS this). I have never stopped him from seeing DS, nor would I. 

So I found out on social media that XH and his gf of a year and a half decided that next weekend they are talking a trip to Florida to look at homes. (We live 1000+ miles away from Florida.) He hasn't talked to me about this at all. He told DS that if they find a house on this trip they will be putting an offer on it. I fully expect this to happen. 

He texted me yesterday (less than a week before the trip) and asked me to switch weekends with him. What irritates me about this is that he has 26 weekends out of the year that he doesn't have DS. He could have easily picked a different weekend. Second thing that irritates me about this is that anytime that I have tried to change weekends with him he not only says no, he finds a way to berate me. He is never accommodating. (and understand I truly have probably asked to switch weekends 3 times in 13 years.) DS was looking forward to having three weekends in a row at our house, but now I'm supposed to just accommodate XH and his lack of planning and give him back time.  I really want to tell him that if course DS will be here next weekend, but I'm not trading weekends. I also think that I'm going to confront him on not communicating with me on his planned move to Florida.  My son's feelings are hurt that his dad is leaving with next to no discussion. He feels like his dad is picking his gf over him. 

How would you handle this? (Any of it) Am I being ridiculous?",3.4913204225352104,4.778353023474182,4.5873210093896715,85.88478433098592,72.75586854460093,7.4846244131455375,27.397007042253517,7.972316293177498,1.5894415492957754,1652,60,343,23,32,541,199,426,0.069,0.875,0.055999999999999994,-0.6555,3,0,0,0,3,0,48.0,6,1,3,3,15,5,2,0,18,0,40,0,0,5,3,63,63,21,0,11,12,5,3,1,2,5,0,1,1,0,24,22,0,2,12,11,1,11,13,3,0,7,8,7,46,2,58,43,5,65,0,1,3,0,64,18,0,3,38,233,70,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07595024488713052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06458521233226942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17757473682139832,0.0,0.0892306958094267,0.07302873149171557,0.0,0.057894942172533326,0.0,0.08081542277966272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10046933193206158,0.08181122975311499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07582858298213396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09922705585994783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08001923963331774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14406431116964258,0.06784906169330167,0.0,0.0,0.1736080511030835,0.0,0.0,0.10413350124668584,0.0,0.0,0.04961971508050448,0.09110720079174976,0.053975608283464684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08398472060397362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09526612810422112,0.0,0.0,0.32875987839401505,0.1016710575525102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10056318534239424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04639923723944076,0.0,0.08386330874991349,0.0,0.1595075802462742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09628818587120742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580691290432437,0.1009417620313142,0.0,0.07042162018804468,0.1464987808060738,0.0,0.4040214258668785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12871295434453311,0.07223159907756818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10239745752258524,0.0,0.0,0.095474563216174,0.10639201543336957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0608424330044148,0.09764853885061756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07552671056760052,0.0,0.0,0.07568155459132334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09681348630774786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588041371505841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15267214574364235,0.08301099370382696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06309614941363874,0.06085516090228973,0.0,0.0,0.11075958128684064,0.0,0.0,0.18150242979468384,0.0,0.06448074786745457,0.0,0.0,0.09887072549425993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056017809773787966,0.07538551511133539,0.3047279365967233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13493284787741208,0.0,0.0,0.30579898510157283
divorce,jjeeddyy,2020/01/05,"Kids taking stuff to mkm So, not sure where to ask this, maybe some one has been down thg his road and has some advice. I strongly suspect that my stbxw has one of my kids going on missions to ""recover"" items from my house. It is every day items that I use all the time. A few weeks ago it was family ornaments off the tree, this week it is a good clothes iron that I use to iron my work shirts. It is all stuff I would give her if she said she wanted but it is just disappearing. I thought I was losing stuff until I heard that she was complaining to people that I wouldn't give her any of her stuff and it made me start to connect dots... half of my garage is full a pile of her stuff that she would only come get if I wasn't home. She was supposed to get it before September but the only times she could do it was when I wasn't home and I didn't want her boyfriend in my house without me here. Any suggestions? I am really afraid it is messing up my daughter.",2.6685385878489316,3.6496368719211816,3.5806108374384245,93.49571100164205,74.36945812807882,6.9896880131362895,21.90771756978653,7.3011,0.4014186535303774,747,17,176,8,15,239,110,203,0.053,0.9279999999999999,0.018000000000000002,-0.6862,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,3,5,7,0,1,6,0,24,1,1,3,3,27,41,10,0,8,7,1,0,0,0,3,0,2,2,2,22,4,0,0,2,0,0,3,6,4,0,3,13,2,33,3,19,24,8,20,0,1,0,0,22,8,0,4,9,128,55,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10927465882061548,0.0991266261126724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520904529269628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045418183833185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09515532898466353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632783216419176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892836232482298,0.0,0.0,0.07211824553574786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421787092756644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10541920099925713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11684849624517127,0.21454656465380495,0.06355305196340454,0.09379398776962866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22434034121352134,0.0,0.0,0.2580634018404462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251042158686448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058120640089948,0.0,0.0,0.11234382164987704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15155180897382098,0.1700967794737311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07752577436872157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07163832755719209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063717307446096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07915071838191118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6400676534458912,0.0,0.0,0.10539428214648544,0.0,0.0840789164212319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08877701644730668,0.13041278549377516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19316278729375325,0.0,0.0,0.13191524426118556,0.0,0.17939946399052858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10779586493065592,0.0,0.08141035129381041,0.0,0.0,0.15887536176874145,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,simsfreeplaylover179,2020/01/05,"Ooting not to pay my (33M) soon-to-be-ex-wife (28F) alimony because she cheated and has financial support BUT no means to be self-sufficient? *TL;DR: I can legally get out of paying my wife alimony, but am worried because she has no means to earn on her own, which is a lot my fault. No kids involved.*

My wife and I are still in the process of divorcing so maintenance/division of assets hasn’t been set in stone yet. We have no kids. 

Anyway, her brother has told me she’s been having affairs with other men. Keep in mind my wife and I are still legally married. In my country, if a spouse committed adultery then it bars them from getting alimony. My BIL has given me materials that my lawyer says would be sufficient evidence to convince a judge not to award my wife any alimony.

ATM my wife is being financially supported by her parents (and possibly her lovers). Her parents are quite wealthy so she is not a financial burden to them. However, BIL has recently told me they want her to move out.

My wife has NO work experience even 8 years after graduating college. It is my fault. I enabled her and basically promised I would always provide for her so I encouraged her not to work if she didn’t want to. Dumb move- yep. I don’t need to hear it again. But I’m worried what she’ll do if her parents kick her out and her new lovers dump her or refuse to support her.

Should I just let it go and save myself the $? The few people I’ve told about this say I’m being way too emotional. I’m definitely going ahead with the divorce despite lingering feelings for her. If I chose to not present evidence of her adultery to the judge and paid alimony I could still live/save comfortably. But then I’d have to pay alimony until she dies or remarries. I’m really not sure if that’s in my best interest/if it’s worth it. I know I sound like an absolute doormat but this issue is really tugging at me. Advice?

*Edit: the main reason I’m divorcing her is because she’s very financially irresponsible (I have a post on that) and after a big blowout fight she just made no effort to contact me or maintain our marriage. The adultery happened after that fateful fight, but it’s something I can still technically use against her in our divorce trial.*",2.903134618589924,5.129441874715261,4.444623590199456,82.2677565420301,76.72209567198178,7.836457580976722,29.158342130118342,8.700769036622559,2.5171540752264008,1769,81,337,39,41,590,216,439,0.127,0.725,0.149,0.7741,4,0,1,0,4,0,59.0,3,0,3,9,15,22,5,0,14,1,38,3,0,3,2,58,67,29,1,12,22,11,1,1,2,4,0,4,0,3,16,15,1,2,5,1,6,4,15,8,0,0,9,5,66,14,44,48,5,37,0,0,0,2,67,13,1,9,18,233,82,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981822487223026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08360260308338179,0.0,0.0,0.06832591764059379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837444629121863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10544149918617536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08022049209942053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10427638154447068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11301997839466832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06636227727217975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828307043836078,0.0,0.0,0.05080278650209295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10498727010443963,0.0,0.11420363371118986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884902434838436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132417525473942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10486898569901117,0.0,0.0893061066887531,0.0,0.0,0.055218005811842254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10274170124558853,0.0,0.04908663063455477,0.0,0.08872058045168513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08541959214333779,0.0,0.09507113999235284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21889176964830426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10145032412865457,0.0,0.0,0.21357639837322312,0.0,0.07450036389648024,0.0,0.09703863150965268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3346942058598157,0.0,0.0,0.0696561759479311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11326959088561868,0.09622653282819534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10686670470406064,0.0,0.0,0.12873272120330012,0.1033042360983003,0.0992061747724632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15980227112541284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048165281120244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07734996626276458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3209553798866369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34205087572801274,0.09469576693533058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.288022279912588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08677746986655699,0.0,0.08290175720598372,0.11852460087362525,0.07975176221906287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14629286324142654,0.20407290295287825,0.0,0.1427480117840602,0.0,0.0,0.06470210599644566
divorce,itdoesnttasteright,2020/01/05,"Update to ""does your husband drive a Honda accord"" I put his clothes into garbage bags and kicked him out.  I packed up his  gaming desk that was taking up half the dining room and moved to to the garage. Now me and the kids can eat at the table on a proper family room. I spent new years day cleaning him out of the home and put it all into the garage. 
I've been unpacking my last 13 years marriage and 8 more of friendship before and I realize I have been in an abusive relationship.  Living scared of him. Belittled by him. Under his rules. Even though he didn't participate in the home. Cleaning for him. Being gaslighted by him. I am horrified when I look at the whole of our marriage. 
He keeps texting me that the affair means nothing and he can make it up to me. He says he'll live in the garage and I can tell him what to do and he'll do it. But I don't want that. I don't want to dominate someone. I want to live peacefully. 
I'm so scared I'll lose time with my kids. They are my whole world and I've done 100% of the work so far.  I cannot bear to think of them visiting him in a crap apartment eating garbage while he sleeps all day while I sit at home waiting for them to come back to me.
I'm staying strong but I'm wrecked. The kids haven't even noticed his absence or asked for him. 
But I can't stop seeing the video of him at the hotel replay over and over.",0.9585717694785814,2.959229730103808,2.4238873642763394,95.43418685121107,82.14878892733564,5.3702899415344225,20.00011931750388,6.48374012150746,0.001442095215368422,1068,29,244,10,29,346,147,289,0.066,0.897,0.037000000000000005,-0.6005,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,1,3,3,8,5,1,2,18,0,19,5,2,1,2,33,38,21,0,3,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,7,3,7,17,3,3,3,3,1,6,6,4,0,1,6,3,40,1,42,29,5,46,0,1,2,0,39,24,1,1,14,157,47,2,0.0,0.14431353200283376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11386691239082078,0.0,0.0,0.09365697305403976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10364315138740053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10492024144462306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15710233614052108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10658833233797216,0.12464407576128254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492643901417981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608960030195666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114822557232352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36652713297499456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10826177311943376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928356525027668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32265589805722983,0.0,0.10228164203245868,0.13626346861315344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813026986839714,0.0,0.0,0.13267631958230053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12945452691680046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11763556488843542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11687074848980512,0.13867053861869744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448860444877861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13076802437549132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09686054997809262,0.2438868549719367,0.0,0.09705913240258716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12188834163617004,0.0,0.10320106575024812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12982299780784795,0.0,0.10183057058624596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09157872665795554,0.0,0.10645889969197037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07804476468924508,0.11966825381488234,0.0,0.07102278040551152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21552305757050486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719715465080513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08867212644502305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15687090120610775
divorce,AccurateStrength1,2020/01/05,"A ""should I or shouldn't I"" post My husband and I have been together for 10 years. 2 kids, have a bunch of assets but no property. Like most situations this one is complicated and I'll try to provide relevant info but please ask if anything is left out.

I have been pretty unhappy throughout our marriage. There were 2 infidelity incidents (one-time ""slip up"" things, not ongoing affairs), and more than that I felt like throughout our marriage we grew apart instead of together. I felt like my husband was not an equal partner in raising our children, that he prioritized work or friends in moments when I really needed him, and that he generally took me for granted and was selfish and unloving.

Eventually I stopped wanting sex and that's when the conflicts REALLY started. We had frequent, horrible fights and he asked for a divorce. I asked for marriage counseling first, we made a lot of progress about the issues I had with him.

Then he got an out of town work assignment and was gone for 3 months. I had never been happier. I realized while he was gone that I had been abusing alcohol to try to numb myself into tolerating sex with him and everything else I didn't like about my life. While he was gone, I stopped drinking, started working out, slept better, ate better, and felt better in every way. I did not miss him at all.

My husband had the opposite experience, and said he realized I am the love of his life, he took me for granted, he will do everything he can to fix things between us. He has done a lot of kind and loving things since coming to that epiphany. Yet, he intersperses his repair attempts with anger that I'm not trying, too, and threats about custody and finances.

I feel very little love for him and do not know that our relationship can be repaired. If we didn't have kids I would certainly divorce. It was very, very difficult for our kids being away from him, and I can tell that the oldest knows something is up with us and seems very concerned about it. I am also going through a horrible job nightmare and may be unemployed soon.

My husband is a warm, funny, ambitious, successful, kind person. We are aligned on politics, parenting, morals/values, and finances. He has never and would never do anything emotionally or physically abusive. He takes criticism well, and tolerates my worst qualities. In these respects, I think we are well-matched.

I see a lot of discussion on relationship forums that ""love is a choice,"" and sometimes I think I need to just keep going to marriage counseling, keep trying to fix things, and keep choosing my husband. But I was so much happier apart from him than with him that I doubt the wisdom of that advice.

What should I do?",6.479083083832336,7.377975992015972,6.626117140718563,75.44210984281438,65.52694610778444,9.935154690618765,35.616329840319366,9.978442167317967,3.6475353792415173,2136,100,377,46,32,684,239,501,0.138,0.679,0.183,0.9785,4,0,3,0,3,0,72.0,13,0,0,11,15,30,3,1,17,0,53,13,1,1,5,94,94,39,0,10,14,6,5,4,2,7,4,1,0,6,21,40,3,6,13,1,2,9,12,10,1,2,34,7,61,20,53,50,10,50,0,1,1,6,70,19,0,12,24,272,82,10,0.0,0.17937287679499098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07396847681437957,0.0,0.08089515217932472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06053342690538278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12458140569188995,0.0,0.2122943915637481,0.0,0.07111813543884478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20083876861848626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06520471531934208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07746247401219117,0.0,0.07415248198264242,0.0,0.0,0.06323362954288178,0.08514691566184009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06377647367123257,0.0,0.13605993613407366,0.07404443381132847,0.0,0.0,0.03827376928506155,0.0,0.21803779791090835,0.0,0.0,0.0643863014434577,0.0,0.0,0.058481926467899126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08603865711180395,0.0,0.060540369141745626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07900612624146151,0.0751158095300571,0.20184412461381104,0.0,0.157649812344398,0.08320020850575081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08224306010343163,0.0,0.10693152163569644,0.14792341170581927,0.07586647976847002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930600654346083,0.2732715060520447,0.07162463180213932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060419189273663576,0.0,0.055644684187439765,0.11225406855624122,0.1751424222429628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10258605782205836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08405056558329888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06609413201176874,0.0,0.08309060261971139,0.0,0.0,0.07249508088332952,0.07700923489464319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09698457132012386,0.0,0.0,0.16253664087833972,0.0,0.0,0.07200347257276173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06031927691277115,0.06891007036972127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06261585456270016,0.08508458025888102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058273865801167835,0.07486449180059716,0.0,0.1071549093021622,0.0,0.0,0.12656915909570876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05691337266118971,0.0,0.0661609442758394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201154118948143,0.09700485995189367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682003125923688,0.2055682977001364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18210401945502108,0.0,0.0,0.2498258813813129,0.044646992229985735,0.06008332923084346,0.0,0.0,0.13611815718225687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16532102905977653,0.0,0.0,0.10754340155533172,0.0,0.0,0.04874522930082855
divorce,PatrickBateman22,2020/01/05,"Where to start We finally had the conversation, the one you know is coming but have tried to avoid. Married 15 years and even though you know it’s coming, it’s no easier. No one cheated, we had some problems that just continued to grow. The biggest shock was her finally telling me what she really thought of me. I mean I thought that’s how she felt, but to hear it was heartbreaking. She hasn’t liked me or been attracted to me for years. She didn’t say it outright, but I think she regrets ever getting married. She could have done better. I think we kept sweeping it under the table because of the kids. Besides all the feelings that have been brought up, I don’t know what to do next. I need to find a place close to my kids and I’m worried about sports practices and pick ups and the school bus. How does anyone figure this out? I really love my family and the comfort and warmth that it gives me. Now I’m alone. How do I do this while protecting the kids?",2.696004266991768,4.625017740932642,3.4500822919841525,90.54803413593416,76.25388601036269,6.820969216702228,24.824443767144164,7.724431198458867,1.1793775678146905,756,26,159,11,17,239,110,193,0.149,0.722,0.129,-0.3117,0,2,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,2,0,1,10,11,1,1,10,0,18,1,0,4,2,43,40,15,0,4,5,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,1,3,14,13,0,3,12,1,0,4,5,6,0,2,13,4,27,5,16,26,2,22,0,2,0,1,21,8,0,2,11,111,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15816447419305282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067803872034954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09309234615942397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13506212058730824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26309722521903983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12192879776465855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336400588329111,0.15627828349067252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10086540823875416,0.13813753097901232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14396409970296714,0.0,0.07721621395214008,0.0,0.14662830068419191,0.33457896202277754,0.13957679360994882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0797861699013454,0.14649609716244733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1721184996940012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517809933871681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07460779288378805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13782932457722455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663490812342518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11323465569956315,0.0,0.0,0.16241186631008994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069643815401897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15955244250813214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14612558918517946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19566354579124726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12144340110900635,0.0,0.15455357413207427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10809095311560213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13347777665767516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19570447751448214,0.150039616245645,0.24247391606092855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10368201220768156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15508732907391393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966841586364468
divorce,cum_dog,2020/01/05,"wife has left after i ate a family pet, really sad right now. Long story short, i ate my son's dog because it died (not important). Wife said what i did was irreconcilable, and she's kicked me out. I've been living at a friend's house for a few weeks now, but I think he's sick of me too. Don't know what to do right now, any advice?",2.3227397260273968,2.7118755205479492,4.3286575342465765,90.03243835616442,74.61643835616438,8.031780821917808,18.709589041095885,8.238735603445708,0.2925583561643834,255,3,64,4,5,88,56,73,0.136,0.8640000000000001,0.0,-0.8379,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,3,0,6,3,0,0,0,6,11,2,1,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,3,2,2,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,6,1,8,1,6,5,1,12,0,1,0,0,7,6,0,0,6,34,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610252220864152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18164982019140535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628330302845186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772269529902339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518156601904872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063751817227793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082190212479076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468014067489069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29022516013728866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23587063361664734,0.2363915712801831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711230267139268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4562356806813036,0.2540909753551193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17115882469734908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21426644308807105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Wh0_Is_Y0u,2020/01/05,"For those with children If you are the initiator of either being separated or actually already in the Divorce process and your child (teen) keeps asking  you  to please reconsider your decision, tries his best to voice his feelings and thoughts about the awful situation his family is in. Would you actually Stop and think things through? Or would you just dismiss his feelings entirely because this decision is what's best for You and continue on this path?
How many of you can actually say that you'd be willing to try harder if your children asked you too?",12.406300000000002,9.651429830000003,11.152,59.63600000000001,55.7,14.8,48.0,13.023866798666859,6.190299999999999,453,23,74,12,4,144,67,100,0.048,0.85,0.10300000000000001,0.7929,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,0,11,0,2,4,2,0,0,3,1,10,0,0,1,0,22,17,9,0,4,6,0,2,0,0,3,0,2,0,3,6,5,0,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,15,2,13,10,3,5,0,0,0,0,22,3,0,4,2,60,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.5263606168874809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984077498316992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3361672557335431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10960108503816984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3773665623125453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16949429448224468,0.0,0.1818190470181268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598096514881059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822834474277794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19736041767872486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429798375634272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020966001987828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15031628918796752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11944750573990752,0.11520508380829965,0.0,0.1427367844410139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441373862775356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554417705536773,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,annachabra12,2020/01/05,Abusive husband What if a husband has been abusing his wife emotionally and mentally for 10 years and now wants to sell the house and flee the country? Need some advice on BC divorce if for example the wife is financially broke how can we overcome this situation?,7.568749999999998,8.564326708333336,7.612500000000002,68.9825,63.16666666666666,10.566666666666666,41.0,10.504223727775694,4.67395,214,12,35,5,3,69,40,48,0.191,0.809,0.0,-0.885,0,0,0,0,1,0,2.0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,1,0,10,6,6,0,4,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,4,5,1,4,0,1,0,0,7,1,0,3,2,24,4,0,0.0,0.6634219546781672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27357710011446257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31492126475596816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3230402999339462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821373682254454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075893939842252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3146907133168896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16512973078739865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18028732036756973
divorce,JoeJ757,2020/01/05,"Torn on whether I should send a text *Backstory:* My STBX and I were together nearly 10 years and we have been separated for 2 years; however, we have a young son together and we communicate nearly every day (she takes coparenting very serious). After Christmas - I went into complete shut down mode (I have clinical depression, horrible anxiety, and PTSD from my dad killing himself, my step dad getting ran over a year before that, my youngest brother [25] overdosing on fentanyl, my best friend having a heart attack and dying 18 after my brother, and my uncle overdosing a year after that). That all happened within a 5 year span. In the middle of that chaos - she left me and took our son due to me not contributing 50/50 to the relationship, lack of intimacy, not meeting her 'acts of service' love language, and some other things that I can't remember.

Nevertheless, I once made over 6 figures a year, but due to my issues I don't/can't work and I'm waiting for a hearing with a disability judge. While waiting I'm currently living with my Mom who had me at a very young age (15) and we've always been close in my opinion, but recently things are getting pretty bad between us. She said I'm extremely lazy and I don't do a good job of taking care of my son and she doesn't think I even want to be a father (when she said that, I instantly shut down right after Christmas). To give you some insight - My son grew up with his grandmother in the house (we all bought a big $850k house just outside of Malibu, CA) after my step dad was killed and my mom had no one really left in her life. So my mom has basically lived with my son since he was 2 (he's 6 now). They are literally best friends so he sticks to her like glue when she's around. No matter who else is around; me, his mom, his best school friend(s), doesn't matter - he goes right to wherever she is (she has a very kind soul & I think kids can sense that). So she does a lot of things for him and with him because her & I live in the same house and she doesn't have the sleep issues that I have, or the depression/anxiety/PTSD. I literally don't take care of myself very well anymore (I was once an active/attractive guy and my STBX is described by everyone that has ever met her as drop dead gorgeous). She really is a good looking woman and an even better Mom. 

Fast forward..... 

This weekend I missed my first weekend ever with my son, and I didn't show up for hockey practice yesterday morning either & my STBX called and she was livid. She then sent me a text to follow up to make sure I knew that she was livid. I haven't spoke to her since basically Christmas (she has sent text messages but I just haven't felt like responding or doing anything - I'm in a really bad place mentally right now). 

I wrote a text but I haven't sent it yet & I don't know if I should... 

*Here's the draft that I wrote:*
 
""Yes, I could tell that you are very upset with me. I apologize - I never wanted to let you and J down, but my brain is under a severe psychological attack right now and I'm in a lot of pain physically (and mentally).

I hope you can someday remember the good times (if you had any with me), and know that I always tried to do the right thing for all of us. I don't think people fully understand what is going on with me and quite frankly no one can really do anything & it's really sad knowing that my life could possibly be over this week, this month, this year. 

It's very confusing how I changed so much and I really miss the old me tremendously & I also miss you a lot as well. I feel deeply connected to you and I was so proud to say that you're my wife, we were together nearly 10 years, we accomplished SO much, and we had such a great life together. You were like a real life angel to me. Sorry, I know that sounds kinda corny but I think you understand. 

Nevertheless, I honestly don't know if you were really in love, but if you were - maybe that statement will mean something someday when I'm no longer here & you think back on our past life together.""



TL;DR: Son's mom is pissed that I missed picking him up for the weekend and didn't go to hockey practice yesterday. She called and sent a follow up text so I'm debating on what to say back. Depression, anxiety, and PTSD suck - I hope none of you suffer from this shit.",4.013335237333639,5.0555898803716675,5.072477675596428,83.83535385845664,71.21835075493613,8.665646122503379,26.6583081053293,9.026175615902524,1.9293422859427665,3361,108,696,65,61,1106,344,861,0.14300000000000002,0.745,0.11199999999999999,-0.973,4,0,1,0,0,0,136.0,11,13,1,9,31,47,7,2,38,1,66,14,5,4,7,126,133,60,4,13,19,20,2,3,2,3,7,7,0,3,35,50,0,2,21,6,1,17,22,21,2,3,36,10,129,26,87,89,17,112,2,8,1,2,110,48,3,16,51,457,164,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0373682777640093,0.07776269765516601,0.3544075546566719,0.0,0.03177656842932327,0.0,0.07149341783899779,0.0,0.04634151197805948,0.0,0.0,0.0769061460769753,0.08319546023200729,0.0,0.10631944434756327,0.0,0.07186172808767577,0.07803167476547856,0.028484888803841993,0.0,0.0397619937965203,0.0,0.14711411700920776,0.0413270225239791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05216378049560878,0.09542880295039087,0.0,0.0952843987951002,0.0,0.04943191306336247,0.0,0.04899330495826069,0.0,0.0,0.07461683778738548,0.0,0.0,0.030135624165310893,0.0,0.08049332855467481,0.0,0.04849617375268813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040891892541576165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039035157161650035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06172666296141436,0.08453610574677974,0.03937026374998975,0.0446505025855394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.023627025840703045,0.0,0.0448661035283479,0.0,0.0,0.0397467204408745,0.0,0.0,0.10830555863833777,0.0,0.048826789128983576,0.044825651195028016,0.05311307490358436,0.11757941461527475,0.0,0.05151766508596888,0.0,0.04626795890306773,0.041321319926300656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05266572953775982,0.055372776137584775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928226790820286,0.0,0.16175313814651246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097543556391214,0.04637022185073071,0.0,0.10339497674803677,0.04865990807308447,0.1284021350024511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10153998117142322,0.047782434732144184,0.1650264575495045,0.0684866620685004,0.0,0.12378475225061406,0.0,0.03923965994425493,0.0,0.0,0.11917914645035138,0.08434749249454691,0.04421506055011129,0.031191230268837838,0.0,0.04694444743330933,0.05090037234064551,0.0,0.0,0.09418144775991412,0.0,0.0,0.3283628489814753,0.03729775699934388,0.0,0.06870075332285293,0.0,0.03603943042833886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049033061407486096,0.09952735833221997,0.06332805689988974,0.0,0.0497217708695326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044607059585591566,0.03239523621442545,0.0,0.048820700849480654,0.0,0.0,0.05267867640902179,0.0,0.04753906439883007,0.0,0.0,0.16386721294605575,0.0,0.0,0.04970086421243057,0.0,0.053186570299310114,0.2095455857723829,0.0,0.046138155331493985,0.050168267795778286,0.10586718349532484,0.1995268191263845,0.0888978503489591,0.07431978931170667,0.0,0.047291120645398164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05278921656641907,0.04796550888787776,0.07730758905776483,0.0,0.046761637591374035,0.0,0.0,0.03597341361565977,0.0,0.05230804860475762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04404048451740091,0.0,0.10540067662520496,0.0,0.04084223658265849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241757385052384,0.14970672967214954,0.0,0.0,0.027247409173616424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051916406539887466,0.031725170871047176,0.0,0.0,0.09729076551337522,0.11241579948173516,0.0,0.0,0.2313324242163101,0.0551226418945502,0.0,0.03748229579154814,0.0,0.08402797208659847,0.0433172233513481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034018461368976516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407298395355459
divorce,wildrosepetal,2020/01/05,"I’m going to ask my husband of 6 years for a divorce and it breaks my heart. I need some help/advice with this. My husband is 12 years older than me. When I met him it was on unusual terms  we were friends and he smoked. I hated the smoking, he told me he decided he was going to quit smoking. I was so happy for him. See, he did it because I had said I’d never date a smoker.  After several months if no smoking he asked me out. 2 years later he asked me to marry him. Apparently though he had picked up smoking again along that time and was hiding it. 

He’s been trying to quit cold turkey for 7yrs now and is failing miserably. He says he’s trying but now I’ve just realized he’s 42 now. Lung cancer starts developing in your 50s-60s.  There’s a good possibility I could lose him in 10-20yrs (I’m 30). 

I’m going to ask for a divorce so I can leave while he’s still alive and hopefully that’ll make it easier. Because the idea of him dying and leaving me so early is literally making my heart physically hurt.",0.7469091283741989,2.932917080568721,3.2551246651555736,88.06471048835773,84.35545023696682,5.944446733978982,21.02225427570575,7.255503002510835,0.7079777869359156,788,25,167,12,23,273,123,211,0.121,0.789,0.09,-0.6754,1,0,2,0,2,0,23.0,1,1,0,4,12,9,1,1,6,0,15,4,3,3,1,24,35,14,1,4,3,2,0,0,1,1,1,2,0,0,8,10,0,0,3,0,0,3,2,5,0,0,12,4,23,4,20,21,2,29,0,4,1,0,33,5,0,3,20,95,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12470194214328027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4772036967506121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15558339503937024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018885928431076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13244214170575827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09859348366911072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175762183429726,0.10703572596311027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358464065308427,0.0,0.12599141313291445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024440279043139,0.08553630083346238,0.0,0.0,0.1267484985432353,0.0,0.0,0.1366123509038352,0.14405953867134905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27024747248069503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427662996847444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703653306881092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10185947540944358,0.0,0.0,0.09462341909227284,0.09842300912492706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14386447808057687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714642575511028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12138918168365305,0.10148297593289568,0.0,0.0,0.10169103520377773,0.0,0.0,0.14416636117891873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032513494700624,0.0,0.1019119029510126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253791200295072,0.0,0.07441216383976798,0.0,0.0,0.12193968581571953,0.0,0.17328169424540313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465357551955629
divorce,ESLTATX,2020/01/05,"Now what? Good morning, (1 AM)

  I posted about 8 weeks ago or so. During which I've gone to counseling for my previous childhood traumas, joined a basketball league, started doing things I loved again. It has really opened me up to be a better man and actually FEEL my feelings. 

  I've been separated for about 10 weeks now, and this morning I get a text that,""I'm going to pack the rest of your things, because I have a friend who just moved back to town and is going to move in with me to help with rent, so she'll meet your closet"". Which is where about 80% of my clothes and shoes were still at. I was confused and felt really weary that this is it, this is the inevitability that I thought wouldn't get here. Because I'd been working on myself and was now at the stage too be able to work on the marriage. It didn't seem like she'd been working on herself, though. Like, at all. She couldn't even look me in the eye today when I was over there. 

  I'm sad to see my step kids' rooms a mess, seemed like the structure we worked to build for them was and has completely been thrown out. 😕. Shit, this is really hard to type right now. 

I'm going to ask my wife if she'll meet with me sometime this week to discuss EXACTLY what is going on, at home, with herself, and with us. 

Thank you for reading this. 

FG~",3.524661654135336,4.4999877067669205,4.06548872180451,90.85056390977444,72.30827067669173,7.254135338345865,24.90225563909775,7.475848149327749,0.9017398496240592,1014,29,226,11,19,320,152,266,0.085,0.838,0.076,-0.1043,1,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,2,3,1,5,20,13,1,1,11,0,28,4,3,0,2,30,49,14,0,3,3,1,4,3,1,3,0,0,4,2,18,16,0,0,6,1,1,8,3,5,0,0,13,7,29,8,39,29,2,43,0,1,3,1,24,18,1,5,18,151,47,6,0.12675226953776714,0.0,0.12369193083416358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123582391509136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11849626171915725,0.0,0.0,0.09746467132387268,0.0,0.1545340140763828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11210208199222782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13289734304750367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08371867860057047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12817951191572846,0.0,0.12170205616647878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09792848902227967,0.0,0.13244565865296992,0.0,0.28814494314204336,0.1063137899675832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11354513682284192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495937444799374,0.0,0.12714286109473455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857742691751464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10643998303690208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11439887199684125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694352060695636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139363665369768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267865705020301,0.0,0.24360224862974925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10824574562261867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10100514814994188,0.2307810114097355,0.0,0.0,0.13010938320146095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253612356199916,0.0,0.08971590876918259,0.0,0.10122452618544224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166964600858942,0.0,0.0,0.16841715140841196,0.0,0.12453346126443275,0.10062714364708804,0.0,0.0,0.12014633076793868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15246737365861834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3050190751324781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.369108647342955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,xelt303,2020/01/05,"Any suggestions on coping? Hey guys, first time posting here. I ruined my marriage by seeking out inappropriate images of others (as well as a few other things nothing physical! But cheating is cheating.) and not being able to come forward and tell my wife that's what excites me. She works at T-mobile and decided to go through everything I was doing on the internet, found out and now things are set in stone. We had issues in the past (My doing) I feel awful about the whole thing I really do and cant seem to find a way to cope with it. Any suggestions?",4.421666666666667,5.853608018518517,5.517592592592597,79.5491666666667,70.66666666666666,8.362962962962964,28.314814814814817,8.841846274778883,2.284514814814814,438,16,81,8,8,145,84,108,0.055999999999999994,0.863,0.081,0.3971,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,2,4,5,2,0,5,1,9,0,0,0,0,17,14,8,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,8,10,0,0,5,0,0,3,2,3,1,1,3,1,10,2,18,10,2,17,0,1,0,0,9,8,0,1,5,63,18,1,0.2127722528360832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893848563999609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18328445567547064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19122598121500864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10758404412479897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19446998439781066,0.1809839695676166,0.0,0.2332937929325412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12092337462523685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21067798231366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22207895199411012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041607150956144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031151910142838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037770025338765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13630735351170858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936998678150226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859723272954046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4240692910519397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240692116978518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16888871056812327,0.0,0.0,0.1913078082199488,0.0,0.0,0.2375526217562796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549007341699693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,travelinman67,2020/01/05,"Divorcing My Wife - She Lives Out of Country My wife no longer lives in the US. I was trying to avoid going through a lawyer for our divorce (I don’t have a lot of money to pay a lawyer, and we have no shared assets or anything that needs to be split up, it would be a very simple divorce). The only thing is that my wife is already gone, so I don’t know how much that complicated things.

Are there any cheap/free resources to help people get divorced on their own? I live in Utah.",3.3871861471861493,4.2605441111111135,3.9903607503607503,91.6436363636364,72.53535353535355,6.465223665223665,24.24386724386725,6.1826913282559595,0.44918066378066346,373,10,83,2,7,118,72,99,0.083,0.847,0.07,-0.0516,0,1,0,0,3,0,12.0,3,0,1,0,3,2,0,1,6,0,11,0,0,1,0,10,16,4,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,1,1,0,2,2,4,1,0,0,2,0,12,1,13,11,3,7,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,2,0,58,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568911833066383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583061869414022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19156755023568967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162393848148305,0.0,0.13230076091162413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15603521982343765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12793610759187993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.616677416690402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19791098882026004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17112852073269527,0.17261193031078625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17704840804458685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16138829878934582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3093126263321881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15805013187092207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28001948365671503,0.0,0.0,0.19207734820416156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653683859605792,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Ok-Forever,2020/01/05,"Day one So caught him on dating sites again and cyber cheating and texting and emails and videos and all that.  Even after we discussed last time how I consider this cheating.  So done.  We are month to month tenants so he is moving out by the end of Feb.  Married 5 and a half years.  I loved him beyond measure.

The kids are the tough part.  I have a 15 year old.  He wont mind but will worry for me.  I can handle that.  Together my husband and i have a boy who just turned 5.  He will be confused and ask questions but think we will get through this pretty well.  There is also a 7 year old.  My husband has full custody because the kids mom was abusive/neglectful etc.  CPS always involed... all that.  This boy considers me his mom.  He has only had me and no contact from birth mom for almost 4 years.  Legally though i am nothing to him.  This will destroy him.  He already came with abuse issues, separation issues,  lost his birth mom and siblings from that side.   Now I will see him briefly every month or two at most.   This will break this child I love.  I hurt for him",1.0212468100619745,3.515442180094792,2.059360189573461,94.75238698505287,86.91469194312796,4.383594604447685,21.385526795479397,5.8734145424116955,0.1186695588771416,824,28,170,6,26,259,133,211,0.147,0.778,0.075,-0.9464,0,0,0,0,1,0,28.0,3,0,0,1,13,10,3,1,8,0,21,2,0,1,2,29,31,19,0,0,4,6,0,0,0,7,0,0,1,5,11,16,0,0,2,1,0,3,2,7,1,3,6,1,25,3,16,17,6,30,0,2,1,2,35,7,0,5,19,116,36,1,0.0,0.13621795495900435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11512356995281525,0.0,0.1268697438525989,0.09193964848025314,0.09566235742041716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10747930376389893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700832583230977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314924501269222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07414467185212972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11765189904453115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10182728049174704,0.0,0.1282194041870401,0.0759350983522903,0.0,0.09686526718218624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060065891413141635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12307532787925594,0.0,0.0,0.2399928715676449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09371404075375273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12550085325877766,0.0,0.20752572165925265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11608462905793948,0.538595242021169,0.2752984247182223,0.12219249762694237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103146332354806,0.0,0.24127857634674454,0.0,0.07790510613150403,0.08743813582467433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244988431048742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116963508393693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12879016406841273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916143922367311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736666762547044,0.11295520650037348,0.0,0.06703860523731936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12505187144159574,0.11230676226972353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10336979221974056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11675530582839512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29614178321756285
divorce,Harveyquinn6,2020/01/05,"How do I help my friend through her divorce? I met a friend on r/askreddit about 4 months ago. She was going through marriage struggles and wanted help. I had been through a similar situation and gave her some tips and reassurance because we made it through. 

Over these months her and I became really good friends. We text daily, and probably call 3xs a week. 

When it came to her relationship I recommend books and gave lots of encouragement... this girl has been trying so hard. Im so proud of her. Despite her efforts her husband asked for a divorce. 

How do I support her through this? I think her husband is a total stupid face. Im so sad that he is “too afraid to try and make it work”. This is my first friend to go through a divorce. I don’t want to be offensive. What are somethings that you would recommend i can do? What do you wish your friends would of done? What are some things I should avoid?",1.677506053268765,4.274683740112998,2.3638095238095254,93.12745762711864,84.48022598870057,5.63131557707829,25.37772397094431,7.07126945348624,1.091545278450364,710,30,148,10,21,220,103,177,0.087,0.691,0.223,0.9765,0,1,1,0,3,0,22.0,2,3,0,4,8,16,2,3,6,0,21,1,1,4,1,26,35,13,0,6,0,2,1,0,5,3,0,0,0,1,13,10,0,1,1,1,0,3,1,6,0,1,10,1,27,10,17,21,4,11,0,1,0,0,38,2,0,3,6,103,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12472236299657348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13153582576194664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08576962199035801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436707794861292,0.16092370719948612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14398529904211765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196796382477166,0.0,0.0,0.5435236724891045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15992649255529354,0.11801277061728113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12603986924619706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18861694558299466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039610253370531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11961839849627495,0.0,0.13313406472390152,0.0939185702284223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22461133978451603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15169876495105192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09013624133539737,0.0,0.0,0.15105951068956205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15815307848959193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10831799656180437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470905458183695,0.0,0.0,0.15966507968560315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934750546624156,0.09015509733470403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19105259156372215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16597741318083567,0.0,0.11286132670239732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617984484709607,0.0,0.0,0.10243152404081604,0.0,0.0,0.1998989708295913,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,thicknstuff,2020/01/05,"Seriously considering divorce. Husband is mean, rude, nasty, inconsiderate, unappreciative and disrespectful. Been married 7 years and together 11. We have a 3yo and a 1.5yo. I also have two step children 16 and 13 that live with us full time since their mother lost custody. We have had the stepkids since my 3yo was only 6m old. My husband is an alcoholic who doesn’t think he has a problem. A year ago almost to the day, we had a blowout argument that I will never be able to forgive or forget. He got drunk, accused me of cheating and called me every name in the book. I haven’t felt the same about him since and I’ve tried to get my feelings back and I just can’t. I did counseling for myself but it didn’t do much other than confirm things I’ve already known. Basically the only thing holding me back and making me reconsider is the fear of being alone and raising my two young children by myself. Then again, I basically am now as it is. I get no help whatsoever from husband. Things are really bad with my stepkids. They had an extremely terrible upbringing for the first half of their lives with their mother and they are very damaged and troubled kids. They are negatively influencing my younger two. I’m talking drugs, partying, fist fights, sneaking out, sneaking people into my house, trying to teach my kids cuss words, school suspensions left and right, constant detentions, stealing from stores, stealing from ME(money, make up, phones etc) for the last 3 years we’ve had them, I’ve handled the majority of the issues but I’m worn out, burned out, mentally and physically exhausted and completely overwhelmed. I have asked my husband to please step in and help me but he’s apparently not the kind of father or man that knows how to handle anything in life. He avoids everything, even when it’s extremely important. He’s impossible to talk to, we can’t have a discussion about ANYTHING because he will literally cut me off and won’t listen to me or respond to me. He isn’t handling anything with my stepkids and he’s getting more mean and nasty to our younger two. All they want is his attention and he’s just mean to them. I am weighing out the pros and cons and I just can’t see this working out. I’m so scared, but for the sake of my children’s well-being and childhood, I feel my best decision is to leave. Start over fresh. Get my younger two away from this constant chaos. I didn’t bring my children into this world to fuck them up. It absolutely breaks my heart. I need opinions please and thank you!",4.571275850749533,6.420202276507276,5.1207993215887955,80.89409754896597,70.93347193347194,8.140080971659918,30.53731261625998,8.766177420268882,2.4994457380457384,2009,86,375,37,38,643,253,481,0.179,0.753,0.068,-0.9953,1,2,2,0,2,0,59.0,6,1,10,4,14,23,5,4,21,0,38,8,1,4,2,78,67,36,0,3,11,10,3,0,0,3,4,1,0,7,15,38,3,2,12,2,1,3,13,19,0,7,13,5,57,4,52,49,8,44,0,3,1,1,60,19,1,5,21,244,72,4,0.08695545331952104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07708076277592589,0.09292893475656648,0.08707332581029223,0.09005962524641499,0.09595750502241544,0.06953824460348099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21467078699152076,0.0,0.08129161073039225,0.0,0.08169751079217552,0.13372675232580716,0.07260417139008843,0.05300723725224203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09125438353369283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08879124004174721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117113840878646,0.18793590709533287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05607907374592164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10084071932132556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969783160872755,0.0574332568211317,0.0,0.07326371977964583,0.0,0.0781499545235881,0.0,0.0,0.09784906003950604,0.08793457983477034,0.0,0.08349087162278195,0.0,0.0,0.07396426417237068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08038891541238974,0.18172254162186768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06954621955145561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10304263085781656,0.11656881483557167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10033491826808427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09075890152955662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09055072356660844,0.047788443062844764,0.07088030024516251,0.0,0.09207326968908218,0.0944773544598822,0.0,0.061419208257844936,0.0,0.0,0.15356651675778574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949221492154048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11608688062188242,0.0,0.0,0.2841599415888337,0.0,0.0,0.08763064480518623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06392226341254037,0.06447636682787658,0.06706540623367166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09124512077715413,0.0,0.0,0.13226708122458236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060283962619115526,0.0,0.0,0.19090195102456156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08320462523629653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05570589001812167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07425948201834599,0.0,0.0,0.08705757827432119,0.08800356108944726,0.06929223813516494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21579134867630548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06154751741681903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13978299912840222,0.0,0.08005689858301747,0.0,0.0,0.173308018084094,0.05571754337983275,0.0,0.0,0.05070442410784471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11807408979617964,0.0,0.4247142138581473,0.0,0.1045967038008076,0.0,0.0,0.07174735570038067,0.051288579305963415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07818339546437576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.063304605651062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16798938297374186
divorce,ornages,2020/01/05,"What does tomorrow look like? I legit need a divorce coach. Someone to hold my hand and guide me.
I just asked for a divorce. I can't be yelled at and made to feel bad one more day. So I told him to get a lawyer and sleep downstairs.
What the hell do I do tomorrow?",-0.5843609022556393,1.5061923684210576,1.2488721804511298,100.61210526315791,90.22807017543859,4.660651629072682,18.669172932330827,6.1826913282559595,-0.3377248120300753,203,6,50,2,7,66,43,57,0.145,0.757,0.098,-0.5803,0,0,0,0,2,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,4,0,4,2,2,1,0,8,11,4,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,2,4,8,1,5,8,1,4,1,0,1,0,5,1,1,0,4,30,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31582412872117976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2820727620571684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21787149308723053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2956360762373436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708162860303393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17650149523752634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16504598499517914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836909318152103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3196615807972489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504956193334249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289213960760472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3380725663868633,0.0,0.2862410685362254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32280969566260703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,okay-now-what,2020/01/05,"20+ years married ... How did you get the courage to ask for a divorce? Over the past few years I’ve tried and tried to keep us together, even at the cost of my own happiness.  Eventually irreconcilable differences caught up with us. 

This past October we had a huge fight.  Divorce was mentioned. Since then I’ve felt that it is time to finally go through with it and start proceedings.  I’ve met with 4 attorneys, and have decided who I will use when the time comes.  I decided to hold off asking for a divorce until after her birthday this month.  

But after almost a quarter of a century ... how do i gain the courage to finally do it?  It’s hard to imagine not having her in my life.  It’s not like we don’t get along.  Not seeing her face or hearing her voice.  When I think about it, I just want to cry.  A lump in my throat grows and my heart begins to ache.  I then start to question my decision. I begin to question if I’m asking too much out of life.  Should I just toughen up and take it.  Be grateful for the life you have and not what is missing.  As idea the of committing to commitment and keeping the status quo pops into my head. We don’t have kids but I don’t expect it to be a simple divorce regardless. 

So how did you all gain the courage?",2.0602036973639137,3.9514329251968494,3.629554946935983,88.71012153372133,78.01574803149607,7.0945566586785365,25.61040739472784,8.04050195162591,1.4909577541937695,969,37,207,17,23,321,139,254,0.034,0.852,0.115,0.9515,0,0,0,0,5,0,31.0,5,3,0,2,11,7,1,0,16,0,19,8,4,4,3,51,43,21,0,5,10,0,2,1,0,2,4,2,0,1,13,17,0,3,9,0,1,4,7,2,0,1,7,5,27,5,38,32,4,35,0,1,1,0,27,10,0,5,22,145,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290658723986284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3614874897669616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11102831633062936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14158088035867994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13466382280063258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08513139158671765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12375572063014635,0.2823879180186068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13468061631194794,0.0,0.07325181309117866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13720703010775948,0.11546115714214013,0.0,0.1322795090579892,0.0,0.1452696980324971,0.15273663802493598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14550242413149175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22912875965432355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731189014108428,0.06296970727938966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028796893945886,0.0,0.09474982856413716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24608238157872575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2887751811147806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10270956210922014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066200944770922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18245964433880768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09691010707311716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08258824705850984,0.0,0.0,0.1503149367742534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750172657975652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3100803765204625,0.1113205735513754,0.0,0.0,0.07602334205807901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16600335457077076
divorce,ervinonreddit,2020/01/05,"Don't Get Pulled Into Their Games My STBX is notoriously bad with money. I can't even count the number of budgets we tried to set up and she blew right through in a matter of weeks. Every stroke of good luck was an excuse to spend, every stroke of bad luck meant it didn't matter if she spent a lot of money since everything sucks. I've literally had to scrounge around for loose change to buy dinner for the kids since she maxed out all our credit cards. I was raised to not spend all my money, to keep some for a rainy day. Didn't matter when we had joint accounts, I couldn't stop her. Didn't matter how much money we made, it was all gone by the end of the month and then some. 

Needless to say we have significant debt to deal with as part of the divorce.

Currently she makes a good deal more money than me, which means legally I can walk in and demand child support and spousal support. Partially this is because I had a business I ran for a while that petered out, partially because I was the primary caregiver for our kids for a while. I don't plan on going after the spousal, but I could. 

Meanwhile during her therapy, our marriage counseling, and in our first conversation with the mediator she's told this sob story about how I was a deadbeat and she has this plan that we simply split all debts 50/50 and she pays zero child support.

I have corrected her many times. Explained how she's the one who never could stick to our budgets, how she spent a lot (I mean a lot) of our money on herself and her hobbies. How we have almost no assets because of her. How she took advantage of the fact that I was able to stay home with the kids to get an advanced certification which now leads to her high salary. I tried to explain things like how the state does not like it when people try to get out of the mandatory child support payments through ""negotiation."" About how she's not writing me a check, it's for the kids. She never listened. 

It became exhausting and I realized there was no benefit. She was playing a game where she set a completely unrealistic expectation of what our final financial settlement would look like to benefit her greatly. The only person she was convincing was herself. I know I have the law and logic on my side. 

So I stopped arguing with her... for now. I let our conversations be peaceful. We've been able to peacefully negotiate every other aspect of our divorce including kids, assets, custody, etc. I haven't agreed to her financial plan verbally or in writing but I just listen and say, ""Let's just talk it over with the mediator. I don't know much about these things."" 

Except I've done a fair amount of research. I know a lot more than she does about these things. I know her plan is insane and unworkable. I know no judge would sign off on the kids living in poverty with me and in relative luxury with her. I have prepared all sorts of calculations and proposals to bring up with the mediator. I have a strategy where I plan to concede things and where I will draw lines in the sand. She only has a fantasy. 

The downside to this whole endeavor is it's possible she walks away from mediation but if our mediator is any good (and he is) he'll be able to explain to her that she'll do much worse with a judge and I can go after things I'm willing to waive in the interest of mediating vs litigating. 

Just remember when talking to your STBXes, they're telling a story about the divorce. They have their own version in their heads about how the situation came about and how it's going to go down. You need to think long and hard about if it's in your best interest to engage with that narrative outside of the official channels. Sometimes it's best just to let them have their fantasy while you keep marching forward into reality.",5.747606918611544,6.312955280653956,6.243125222130081,78.72278166094068,67.03814713896458,9.543371638431466,31.21537732496149,9.54385415503706,2.7215544129842435,2992,112,579,58,46,971,311,734,0.067,0.794,0.139,0.9936,5,0,0,0,3,0,68.0,16,4,6,11,34,30,2,0,46,0,55,5,1,13,9,125,97,45,0,10,16,0,4,3,0,6,3,4,1,10,31,43,1,4,15,6,19,15,17,6,0,3,27,9,95,24,108,56,24,76,0,1,1,0,97,33,2,14,29,422,126,6,0.2187307352389607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07300907858419177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04958146685300168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06490557599049936,0.0,0.0,0.06850157531083721,0.0,0.1217540183570784,0.13333622601638562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530296080128789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08338989686020952,0.0,0.0,0.0771293717407787,0.0,0.07644500479055465,0.0,0.0,0.11642579587093085,0.0,0.0,0.047021076362294266,0.15033452239800948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12760849360535206,0.07461249461289415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06457683623330601,0.0,0.08131419621669696,0.04815652924221293,0.0,0.1842900782180798,0.0,0.06552702699785055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07986960966013609,0.0,0.06201741721853735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142777813841851,0.0,0.16574628998409732,0.1834609631089968,0.0,0.08038380259609443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06531325855975703,0.0,0.07482694605793927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07703367697688451,0.0731349205529085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296119517003991,0.0,0.0,0.20034781964070805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22366699624254965,0.0,0.10686078872155913,0.0,0.0643810821829464,0.06452327254388295,0.06122624295245739,0.0,0.0,0.2479427322867358,0.0,0.06898943679034297,0.04866815474800031,0.07391954479529665,0.0,0.15884126252501746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05819626201826675,0.0,0.1607922578815956,0.05406202288420224,0.11246575155892614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04940586899794699,0.11090305368909854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07895469036974948,0.0,0.050546783682233545,0.06366241372430076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08219534636168199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08259309467239856,0.062264950923213186,0.0,0.11596230658059535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12062421632714584,0.08195417028904868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0721100966939167,0.0,0.0,0.07771262023811852,0.0,0.12191245918250508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3309507283635857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11720498640805592,0.06372676784875415,0.0,0.08337921943944931,0.0,0.2421916354946544,0.046717941060378014,0.0,0.0,0.042514550234605285,0.0,0.0,0.06966886367351953,0.08100596499932418,0.1485038113647068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058484200724710736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140168485647276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0743017686326658,0.10358669241491897,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Ahaak,2020/01/05,"A poem to help express feelings... Everything is lost.
There's nothing left
There is no us
We're finished. 

It's time to pick up the peices 
Say goodbye, 
It had its sweet moments.
At times we really did try. 

Didn't think we would die
Although now we'll be born free
A chance to taste something new
No longer stuck with me. 

Let's go our own way
Smiling you and I
Let's not pretend anymore
Even i don't want to see me cry. 

The year has had a bad start
But the middle is our choice to make
Don't dwell on it anymore
At least the end won't be fake. 

May God help us through the hard truths
Show us with pain comes ease
And again I'm sorry
I was so hard to please.",-0.7701288185498711,1.3614704265734296,0.795612808244389,102.7636216415164,92.986013986014,3.5699668752300333,17.316525579683475,4.9825596385082,-0.9345720279720277,513,14,125,2,19,163,99,143,0.182,0.628,0.19,0.5142,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,8,1,0,1,6,8,0,1,8,0,19,2,0,2,1,17,30,5,1,2,2,0,3,0,0,4,1,1,0,0,4,7,1,0,2,2,1,2,7,5,0,0,7,7,14,4,13,15,2,20,0,1,1,0,13,6,0,1,11,72,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873749883713391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12097334911592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248060379672776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15914992961675076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15036828507916947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12832555770836535,0.0,0.0,0.09569551301615092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13021375426461956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07325846726187983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08234177431462583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595779173866909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942274068161564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574185307234856,0.29631050087458105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15815964945281674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09671220308952007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399313285560555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13902155458707516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15416839800349394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15904078185896928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928173678171781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11521877296172332,0.0,0.0,0.11545499321121808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11153994419055732,0.0,0.16218746667821946,0.10255070981637086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928367846932013,0.0,0.0,0.1689678122311671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09836775086732608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5228382883382217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854572277494083,0.11500337410353947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10292250945280518,0.0,0.0,0.09330151828817533
divorce,Amazing-Community,2020/01/05,Ideas how to leave stuff for kids Looking for ideas how to leave it all for the kids to inherit,1.4680000000000002,3.583901800000003,1.8800000000000023,99.395,81.0,6.0,20.0,7.1686216300943375,0.11850000000000005,76,2,18,1,2,23,12,20,0.11800000000000001,0.882,0.0,-0.1027,0,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,5,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6629624603168732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6218398687883994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24658171982466945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3361449229783676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,six_feet_above,2020/01/05,"Ex wife’s overly critical nature is taxing our kids My ex wife and I split in 2014 through a series of events that were largely precipitated by personality incompatibilities, not the least of which was her constant criticism of things. 

Well now I’ve noticed how much of an effect it’s having on my kids (14 and 10) particularly my youngest. I see her bracing herself every time I’m dropping them off with their mom, expecting that the first thing out of her mom’s mouth to be a comment about her unbrushed hair, or her lack of a warm enough sweater (for the 20 foot walk from the car to the house) or a accusing question about whether or not she practiced her instrument.

At its core, I believe this tendency in my ex is  a manifestation of mental health issues, but since this a very particular pattern that she should be able to easily address, I wonder if I should mention it to her? It will of course open the door for her to lob ten different criticisms back at me but maybe at least it will lead to a modicum of relief for my kids. 

Anyone else have any insight? I’d love to cultivate some sort of respectful feedback rapport with her; we haven’t really been able to yet...",9.382466960352424,7.192268414096919,9.169607929515418,69.75220925110133,60.894273127753294,12.25180616740088,39.440088105726865,10.793553405168565,4.047444405286344,938,38,179,18,10,306,147,227,0.04,0.872,0.08800000000000001,0.9328,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,2,3,7,5,0,0,14,0,14,5,3,3,0,28,18,10,0,5,9,7,2,0,0,4,1,0,2,4,13,7,0,0,4,0,1,3,3,0,1,2,3,3,27,5,37,9,6,21,0,0,1,1,31,10,0,8,7,129,40,3,0.3354303569104545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11405207254808235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172703523480276,0.17184401999021465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289626197919306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18895757356141005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18124052600139093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17522666512961085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14010451085769168,0.0,0.0,0.1732946124374183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14130727134486226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14265844511667766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17827339198259026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935207980664356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750510725359281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513694965935906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16849243921041784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16901745285190808,0.0,0.0,0.3928519799888264,0.0,0.0,0.1232899537203552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909448422799944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14644242475110256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878793832915929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10744263791100434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336472830714616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13873572873899692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228450244432634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09779606928698076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13838258677996726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15079608721445986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18187995678416724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ThrowRA12342,2020/01/05,"Reasonable to ask for stuff to be shipped? My wife ran away from home at the beginning of September saying that she couldn't live near her father. In November she said she didn't want to be married. I found out she was sleeping with another guy while out of state. She's been strictly No Contact since. I can't even get financial information out of her, such as passwords to bills. Throughout our marriage she refused to give me the account information for anything (credit cards, bank accounts, utilities, etc). 

While out of state I was financially supporting her. She's been bouncing around jobs all year and is on her fourth one in 2019. She's been spending about $2500 a month on the credit cards. I also found out she spent some of that money on a new phone and plan. So I wouldn't even know what number she uses. 

I've been told by her mother she's looking at apartments and may ask (probably through them) to ship her some stuff.

Considering how much I've been taken advantage of during this, I'm inclined to reject her request. We had agreed on a date for her to move back in and I bought her a new car just before she skipped town. Thinking it would help the situation, I had cashed in all my retirement accounts to pay off the debt her friend was struggling to pay off. Her kids were kicked out of daycare because she hadn't paid in months. A couple days prior she was asking if we could give her friend the money anyway. 

I feel completely taken advantage of and manipulated and feel that asking me for anything else feels a bit unacceptable. 

Am I obligated to have more of her stuff shipped?",5.098149350649352,6.4642919967532455,5.271298701298704,82.20551948051948,68.96753246753246,8.327272727272728,29.584415584415584,8.710501217029153,2.2158974025974025,1277,48,244,21,22,402,173,308,0.073,0.855,0.07200000000000001,0.3265,2,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,3,0,1,3,11,9,0,1,12,0,25,1,1,4,2,43,53,13,0,6,2,3,3,0,2,3,0,2,1,2,9,16,0,1,11,0,17,3,6,2,0,1,24,6,44,7,52,22,8,41,0,1,1,0,55,24,0,4,12,169,53,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08867266332860098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162699274967476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824936338262801,0.09870889798841624,0.4146405288680479,0.0,0.10417772134697637,0.08526176749664395,0.0,0.06759291853927593,0.0,0.09435280671641197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12105492818847324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11625814984985845,0.0,0.0,0.08853062184923895,0.12268933314808125,0.0,0.07151001372564084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09262806733650886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12366325353216005,0.14647363835555752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681965105049599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431537886677823,0.17133502732636105,0.0,0.05793150892842251,0.21273711900794628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097910684731831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07432217574278001,0.0,0.11122414834288924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11003373226374837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060938100276657324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791124378143594,0.0,0.09311334007255002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17701064363743085,0.11785050718006512,0.08151136651641334,0.0,0.0,0.21418194194824094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07513682466451348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195500460873888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140056364913422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054746114393023,0.08817818281468555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172311687143604,0.12463653101192915,0.11096253814585967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11591842252162853,0.38080166545842825,0.0,0.12582810177208434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07104900323252206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10595294244557564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09576684421567366,0.0,0.0,0.06540134786739042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07876771832391084,0.0,0.0,0.0714046689182811
divorce,warriorfordragons,2020/01/06,"Why would you get papers served while already in an ongoing divorce? I ask because well, apparently someone just tried to serve my babysitter, thinking it was me  and I was just notified. Back story is- it’s a high conflict divorce and through a motion, his attorney tried to Subpoena my phone. We negotiated that we wouldn’t,  because of his harassment and the on going no contact case relating to domestic violence. My question is, why would someone try to serve me in regards to this? Anyone with some wisdom they can teach me or warn me about?",4.708255555555553,7.231289670000006,5.4993333333333325,75.42522222222225,72.3,8.444444444444445,35.111111111111114,9.150863307647796,3.7088777777777775,437,24,71,10,9,142,73,100,0.132,0.8170000000000001,0.052000000000000005,-0.8196,1,0,0,0,3,0,12.0,2,1,1,0,5,3,1,0,4,0,8,0,0,0,0,16,12,5,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,1,2,0,0,2,2,1,1,0,2,0,15,2,12,7,1,8,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,3,2,54,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24000952219323396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15207653538219046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033270940627536,0.0,0.0,0.16723910194764047,0.0,0.26516407825989474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136313943766466,0.0,0.1236065870516766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297938590376315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436425329049385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36856312975548255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13936107406346807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44299149715432135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955528062600844,0.0,0.3925081694958271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30900233156611645,0.0,0.0,0.0
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divorce,DG598,2020/01/06,"Anyone in a similar sitch? I deeply desire & long for my STBX. He was physically abusive for most of our marriage - amongst many other things and constantly blamed me saying I made him so it and that I was a burden.

It’s like a war between my heart and my head. I know I shouldn’t have endured the abuse for so long but being that I deeply loved him and wanted to protect him and our family (three kids), I stayed and kept quiet about it all

It’s about 8 weeks post-filing and I feel so deeply alone. Words of wisdom?",1.910188679245284,3.928881905660383,3.0156981132075447,92.32128301886793,79.0,5.749433962264153,19.090566037735847,6.742157984588678,0.044867169811321,406,9,87,4,10,130,71,106,0.134,0.706,0.16,0.7086,0,1,0,0,1,0,13.0,2,0,0,0,5,5,1,0,4,0,5,3,2,1,1,18,11,11,1,3,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,8,7,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,4,3,17,3,10,5,2,6,0,0,0,1,10,1,0,1,5,58,25,0,0.0,0.4872719299679706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129689518156413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22279822658711992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14378012036659746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22221119082553614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19384810381249376,0.0,0.10397186999456977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21103400640275788,0.0,0.0,0.24367057964177802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11300796111630095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10045962298932433,0.0,0.0,0.3639492302842136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855876102040532,0.19457051252716664,0.0,0.2084748678309108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969351141955402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635239137680363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191724567271194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13661033584371535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12128492590345555,0.0,0.16494265555943072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,WiscoByron,2020/01/06,"STBXW doesn’t want to follow the GAL recommendations She’s wasted months and thousands of dollars insisting that a GAL be appointed. Investigation is finished with the report stating her claims have no basis or merit. Recommendations actually are equal and in favor of my suggested parenting plan from the beginning.

Now she doesn’t want to follow the suggested parenting plan because she finds it unreasonable. When she is the one who insisted on the report in the first place. I feel like this is dragging out forever. Ugh.",6.565302197802197,9.446641505494508,7.1297664835164865,64.20585851648353,68.01098901098901,10.703846153846156,33.35302197802198,10.686352973137794,4.590526373626374,431,20,63,14,8,141,66,91,0.085,0.8059999999999999,0.11,0.1027,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,3,2,4,0,0,8,0,8,0,0,0,0,9,14,4,0,2,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,2,0,1,2,3,1,0,3,0,1,7,3,10,13,1,14,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,1,7,47,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.2771387054704515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17312106102418598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14359669123358748,0.20288648902757614,0.0,0.0,0.2595668022237509,0.24156648327964686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387458883310845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266825512296808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19244274532028727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6306869346565301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2967149209958121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33501588568440005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ANUS_CONE,2020/01/06,"She is breaking the divorce decree. How to prove it without being a stalker? Hey friends!

My divorce from my wife was approved and signed by the judge (Arkansas) on October 1 of this year. Here is a relevant part of our agreement:

>Neither party shall have overnight guests with whom they are or have been romantically or sexually involved while the minor child is in their custody. Unless otherwise agreed in writing, neither party shall introduce their romantic or sexual partner to the minor child, unless they have been dating for at least six (6) months and until the other party has been introduced to the new romantic partner. Unless mutually upon in writing,  romantic partners shall be of good moral character and shall not have a significant criminal history, meaning not a convicted of a felony, sexual crime or violent crime.  Further, they shall not be convicted of drug related crime within the past five (5) years.

She has been spending quite a bit of time with a new guy, and there was an ""event"" Saturday. I called saturday evening about 20 minutes before when our son's bedtime is supposed to be. She sent a text that they were playing a game and they'd call me back later. I text back about an hour later asking if he's asleep yet. She responds ""Oh shit.. just put him down. Will call you tomorrow"". In the morning, my son calls me from her phone and innocently tells me about the visitors they had last night. Her engaged (female) friend, and a single guy. The same guy who has been our/their favorite waitor at the local chili's for like 5 years. My son also told me that they've seen him three days in a row now. 

I know this guy through the grapevine because he used to live with one of my fraternity brothers. He's a fine dude, but I kind of have a problem with what happened Saturday night. I clearly was denied a phone call with my son because she did not want me to find out that he's there. I don't care if she's seeing or screwing the Chili's waitor, but according to our agreement, these types of people aren't supposed to be there while our son is there. Knowing her, they were up to all hours of the night drinking and ""kicking it"" after he went to sleep. I do not know if anyone ever technically went to sleep or not, or what constitutes as ""staying the night"". I'm also kind of at a loss of how I would go about proving that this is going on without literally becoming a stalker and driving past her house every night, which I obviously don't want to do. 

I contacted my attorney and her response to me was ""do we have proof that she is romantically or sexually involved with the guy"". That's kind of my sticking point now. How does an individual go about obtaining ""proof"" without crossing a creepy line? I have a gut feeling that it's going on. I've known her for long enough to know that this is how her flings go - there are months and months of non-committal relations before anyone is ""facebook official"" or ""technically dating"", but the behavior I feel that's going on is just that. Call it dating or talking or whatever, the point of the part of the agreement is supposed to be to prevent a revolving door of involved individuals in our son's life, and this seems mega sketchy to me. 

If you were me, what would you do?",7.264534155597722,7.015983914516131,7.356603415559776,74.79843453510439,63.88709677419354,10.455407969639467,35.815939278937385,9.987195323819016,3.4781831119544604,2577,109,475,49,34,832,275,620,0.048,0.858,0.094,0.963,0,0,2,0,2,0,83.0,6,3,9,4,27,19,3,0,42,0,59,9,5,5,8,85,86,44,0,9,32,8,2,1,6,8,2,0,1,10,27,20,1,1,12,3,1,12,13,5,0,4,19,4,62,14,79,52,9,78,1,1,2,1,86,22,2,16,43,340,89,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11229328524089463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09818445849997727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06563655786461099,0.0,0.0,0.10797379505973766,0.0,0.08559831854455273,0.07754105736078422,0.11948650508693602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07665076851537213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4301514987222533,0.0,0.07158343127610428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04527942472594936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06144094975704002,0.0,0.0,0.06877874123674241,0.08142091969114612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07254535073210906,0.0,0.04637282064930103,0.06350866031161098,0.05915466970684005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07100023096808071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06417036058147628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10848762388030038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394106188610693,0.05888853475860525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3475930265924792,0.0620861736566756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13828475198626566,0.08101252527257374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21933768147763005,0.1543415799082638,0.057230246598659835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04959116175203853,0.0343008952112762,0.0,0.061996419265627475,0.062133342922907786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07647890633617731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16812205095548116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13561786123144984,0.0,0.3294350658105014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04757588510046401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15206044760916984,0.1340461366037808,0.048674540523998916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13274165175479405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06718116604969254,0.0,0.07058010396422244,0.0,0.07467661952433842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055948011818970786,0.06391624085724064,0.0,0.0,0.07206921075258604,0.0,0.0,0.14052073637273552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07483415971204466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0564318681124992,0.061366340608688764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04093981946038711,0.0,0.0,0.06708834234550128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06063860693052125,0.0,0.0,0.08282295733010908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13017012312837672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20303883083831414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09974986122547666,0.0,0.0,0.1356381643459545
divorce,Ghettoceratops,2020/01/06,"I (24M) posted this to another sub, but I thought someone may need some hope, because it definitely is out there.  I have a lot of words that are swirling around in my big, dumb head, but I will do my best to be brief.

2019  was the emotional equivalent of getting stabbed in the kidney while   watching someone simultaneously piss in my cereal and kick my dog. I   went through a pretty whirlwind divorce after the discovery of some   pretty unsurprising infidelity. It was a dark time for me that left me   couch surfing and ultimately back in my childhood home for a stint. I   had quite literally lost nearly everything but the clothes on my back.

Now,   I'm out on my own, living by myself as a single guy for the first time   in my life. After countless hours of writing, therapy, and tears, I  can  really confidently say that I have stumbled across an elusive peace  that  I have never truly known. In this time, I have tried online  dating on  Tinder to very little success (arguably no success at all).  About two  weeks ago, however, I matched with this cheeky little  so-and-so, and I  shot my shot.... I was met with no reply.

Until   I was! She responded finally but detailed her dislike for texting and   most of the people on those kinds of apps in general. That was   understandable, but we exchanged SnapChats and eventually phone numbers.   Her texting habits are weird to say the least, exacerbated primarily  by  her third shift hours. Honestly though, I figured she just wasn't  that  into me which is fine. Ya' know; to each their own.

I   offhandedly mentioned my plans to see a string band that was playing   here this past Saturday, and Miss not-that-into-me took me up on the  offer  with no questions asked. I won't bog you guys down with too much  detail,  but after sweating bullets for a half hour, drinking two  fingers of  cheap whisky, and knocking on wood, she finally arrived. The  chemistry  (as far as I can tell) was nearly instantaneous. We wound up  spending  the whole night talking, only venturing into the actual music  venue for  about ten minutes before retreating to somewhere quieter to  continue  talking.

Eventually, she  had to  go, and I offered to pay her tab and mine. By that time, the  venue had  filled with jocks and their accompanying woo-girls. The bar  was packed,  and these muscle shirt laden neanderthals don't understand  the concept  of getting out of the way once you have your drink. I stand  there for a  good ten minutes until she hunts me down, crams her way  through the  crowd, and asks what's up. I tell her that I'll probably be  a while, and  that if she is in any kind of hurry, she may just want to  go.

She  says she will stay, and  again, I mention how long we might be waiting.  Another wave of frat  boys file in, and she wriggles into my arm and  smiles. Her chest  presses up against mine. She pierces me with her big,  slate blue eyes  and quietly says, ""I want to be here with you.""

Smooches   followed, but that's not the point. The point is, I don't know if I   have ever heard such sincere words out of anyone's mouth directed at me.   Words mean so much to me. They are everything to me frankly, and those   seven little words washed over me in a flood that I would gladly drown   in a thousand times over. It was a first date, and we aren't anywhere   near anything serious or official. My head is buzzing though with that   strange tightrope anxiety of wanting to be serious and sincere and   earnest but not be smothering or clingy.

Inexplicably,   she's special to me already, in ways I never anticipated and ways she   will probably never know. I frankly have no clue what she thinks about   all this or if those couple hours made a real impression or not. She   could ghost. She could disappear in an instant, and I may never hear   from her again. But I want her to know me. I want her to know that  amongst the calls for more drinks, the cheers, and the droning beat of   house music, her whispered voice was the loudest of all.",6.422517220724767,6.8830668072776255,6.282445642407907,79.38907427373468,65.5633423180593,9.344881701108116,33.470020964360586,9.21078282632365,2.831874836777478,3089,126,586,51,45,971,359,742,0.069,0.809,0.122,0.9935,2,0,4,0,1,0,105.0,4,5,3,9,22,24,3,0,37,0,52,18,11,2,8,116,87,52,2,13,21,0,2,0,0,9,3,9,2,3,29,46,4,1,13,6,4,8,16,8,0,10,21,15,98,16,108,49,17,105,0,2,4,0,68,50,2,17,40,423,127,4,0.0,0.0,0.06786492757107332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061646573956496274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07674355075132608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04729231550654185,0.14584592843107305,0.05320098173286165,0.0,0.0,0.04862679282279733,0.0,0.05722879946514677,0.06190891824513845,0.13002853403259246,0.0,0.0,0.10695011090094787,0.0,0.04239338654443707,0.0,0.05917683528278464,0.0,0.07298215405207759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07101221561383067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105047552853832,0.07694913072888808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20437997938742836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07822765740079342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06290654375665439,0.0,0.0,0.12500335434510948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15236414003765303,0.0,0.11830820861736355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07266775585901285,0.0,0.07904693363758519,0.05833022095539611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13771901866334973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14274444730950173,0.0,0.07838116010612227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06975831811487902,0.06907289934521205,0.2739473879316495,0.08024445706918043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14483878145810486,0.19109786173908835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07555977664435197,0.0,0.04912099501692047,0.0,0.2091041210853359,0.061408640052450815,0.061544265556055563,0.0,0.0,0.07591550837045717,0.05912383531140158,0.0,0.06580422924922001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757538207276313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07377521080884794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10224570689273313,0.051566006522995665,0.21454652893485687,0.0,0.0,0.06526234778281358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07406210715057117,0.0,0.05289135778549755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06638763214577334,0.04821306414407523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13148314707745273,0.0,0.06660394339011284,0.14150253117706846,0.1499604226215805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07790521358614201,0.07396862114013103,0.0,0.07915631509740742,0.04455167729459895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212167706104822,0.0,0.0,0.05541757669456698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11784883780854767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07412466771177569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11179369123110486,0.1215690701628757,0.0,0.07952964288269945,0.0,0.0,0.044560997257177055,0.13665328484873984,0.05521018039931383,0.2027583743412336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07726596040447717,0.04721582173574136,0.0,0.13586879658206366,0.14479554608815606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05738109626943079,0.2050943116961597,0.22080321092245767,0.05578401464041191,0.0,0.0,0.0644679993736795,0.0,0.07764341007517689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04940207350550456,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,mdm2266,2020/01/06,"Missing the partner I had 4 years ago and not who she became. Together 11.5 years, married 4 years, struggled 2 years, separated mid-October 2019, she asked for divorce 12/4/19. 

I see a lot of posts about missing the ex partner and I was certainly feeling the same in the beginnings of the separation. But now I feel enough time has passed where I'm sort of in an in-between phase where I don't really miss HER any more, but I miss the idea of her--the fantasy I must have created and maintained. It's not that I miss having a long term partner necessarily, but I miss the comfort she used to bring me.

I've tried meeting new people but I'm having a hard time even entertaining the idea of allowing someone to be that close to me again. In the past I've had zero problems opening up and being vulnerable with people I trust. But it's as if she occupied a special place in my heart and she currently still takes up ALL of that space. I'm wondering how/when/if I'll be able to make room for anyone else.",5.476914191419142,5.524317202970297,6.45519801980198,78.76401815181518,67.56435643564356,9.901650165016502,33.16996699669967,9.725611199111238,2.9847808580858075,793,33,161,16,12,265,121,202,0.064,0.7929999999999999,0.14300000000000002,0.9377,1,0,0,0,1,0,24.0,0,0,0,0,7,13,0,1,14,0,12,1,1,3,3,31,31,12,0,3,8,1,3,0,3,1,0,0,1,3,6,8,0,0,5,2,0,2,3,8,0,1,3,4,19,5,21,24,6,32,0,6,1,0,14,13,0,4,16,97,25,0,0.1616494370648785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14329247258909572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099271603995099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11302904493238357,0.1656289511196483,0.0,0.0,0.15112040258566642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350373622649903,0.0,0.0,0.16702708010630785,0.0,0.10676792862920204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634696248042691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448061444248782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19155536123357506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36496507681828605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14305466499128613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13742857075398668,0.0,0.0,0.1079022544692566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15612203361865926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543126786934887,0.22413473219700944,0.0,0.1688892564039408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15481547667658674,0.0,0.0,0.15467668003775525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355676865416176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12881367251753886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13696504345282098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12909344925110233,0.0,0.0,0.1689910894758536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215402591521274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885181734057366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10974935681932388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396132123576079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17530191899353825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4163877503392174
divorce,GorillaGlue32,2020/01/06,"Everything is dark and Sad I'm sorry if this doesn't belong but we are not married but it feels almost like divorce. I'm 35 my SO 30, we share a 1 bedroom condo with a dog (she will take) and cat (I will keep). Been together almost 7 years. Things were changing for the worst a few years ago then I tried to take responsibility for my part (I have bipolar) and started reading/listening to relationship help podcasts. Went to therapy, got on meds, still could sense some distance with her. She became completely focused on work and withheld sex and intimacy, for a while I tried everything to make her happy, cooked, paid most of the bills she she could stress less about school, walked the dog (majority of the time ) she then started falling into depression (or was always depressed) which triggered me big time, made me angry she wasn't trying to either make us better or help herself , she didn't want to go to thearapy. We would have an explosive fight monthly until about 3 months ago where we got in a huge one, decided to stay together but I could sense she was stand offish, wasn't wanting to get close or work on trust. She brings up bad stuff from 3 years ago to justify this behavior . Finally flipped out last night, I was yelling and asking why she just sits back while I'm in heartache over her carelessness. She just gaslights me, acts like I've pushed her away with my anger . 

At this point I feel she already was either checked out with our relationship, obviously staying in it was easier but was waiting for me to give a reason to leave. I developed strong codependency and know our relationship is toxic. I know it should end but I only have 2 close friends and my family lives 600 miles away. Right now I'm at work and I have a panic feeling inside thinking about my life without her brings me so much grief. I've always went to my two friends when we got into the last big fight and I just don't want to keep telling them the same crisis I'm in. She isnt close to family, she has no friends other than school mates, she just hasn't put any effort in any relationship latley. I feel maybe I'm holding her back and we are making each other depressed?

Can someone offer some advise when things are still fresh and your still in love. She blames me for ruining her and that makes me want to just die honestly. I feel like a horrible emotional wreck. I really tried to be better and it didn't work and now I'm alone. I have really high anxiety and literally feel overwhleming  pain in my chest about this and I don't know what I'm going to do.",4.8166171428571385,5.976762056000005,5.274228571428573,82.69340000000003,69.44,8.674285714285713,27.885714285714286,9.002800196639251,2.080311428571429,2028,68,402,37,35,648,251,500,0.17300000000000001,0.6890000000000001,0.139,-0.9567,0,1,0,0,4,0,49.0,9,1,1,8,22,29,3,2,15,0,38,7,1,7,1,92,86,35,2,10,18,0,6,3,4,4,3,1,2,0,16,35,1,5,12,1,3,11,12,15,0,2,19,7,66,14,57,59,13,77,0,6,0,2,55,31,0,9,34,255,82,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18756844065812925,0.0,0.14125623875511414,0.0730504078466014,0.07783437759873184,0.0,0.11737739548203667,0.0,0.0,0.09592904958442867,0.0,0.05395717633963187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0659383747391143,0.0,0.1325352280134679,0.1084702914393987,0.05889169888169876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12476054491841244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07461404225971441,0.0,0.07395199376388605,0.0,0.0,0.1689434074952082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18224863998400487,0.0,0.07320160870932288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07933957922441286,0.06247086782846267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12678014227843382,0.0,0.13298354453142386,0.0,0.2139801349330579,0.0503884385325593,0.0,0.07726491602287389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16347972450195142,0.0,0.03685032483778535,0.06766120963794901,0.08017050058976312,0.0,0.16923387217710026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07508316739192387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09455290806101198,0.07452146827659899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12538506956908868,0.0,0.0,0.11628846710864578,0.1149868173897336,0.0,0.07468374295534076,0.0,0.0,0.049819197010588526,0.10337586350857428,0.0,0.06228149767470166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06365834315801178,0.06673956543363095,0.18832398984262505,0.0,0.07085938551797619,0.0,0.0783457170984339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11259675155094236,0.0,0.05184950969968466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06618998170630642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04779465350346847,0.0536431514216184,0.07505156250237957,0.08275470224972736,0.0,0.07637983391917716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06667601913975303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07090465276863325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903698627247774,0.07251916643903017,0.0,0.3029020745050037,0.0,0.0602343773147499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427653293459231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05976196600079589,0.0,0.0,0.07895536925944527,0.09984654581767556,0.15035653991965398,0.168982058427061,0.0,0.08079475077089766,0.0,0.0807428480659282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606333779873316,0.0,0.06164852172428632,0.0,0.08066007102645513,0.0,0.0937173298207656,0.0451943837981883,0.0,0.0,0.0822561464267818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915477749796768,0.0,0.06890001253213382,0.0,0.08484192390488894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16640760500266594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13076868498162558,0.0636446187550189,0.0,0.0,0.067990821730902,0.0,0.20539402640085627,0.0,0.0,0.05010427072689631,0.0,0.0,0.13626186991733294
divorce,angerretailworker,2020/01/06,"I’m watching him use another girl the same way he used me and there’s nothing I can do about it. My ex was abusive and no one knows except me and my close family. And now I’m watching In horror as he updates his Facebook with the same engagement style pictures he used with me. The same exact time frame in the getting married and she looks just like me and just as scared. I can’t even tell her anything but watch in horror and their wedding day gets closer. I don’t love him anymore or care about him, I’m scared for her. For the all the children that she will loose to him. To all the nights she will cry. 

This is a very short story off what I went through and no one knows. The question is- is it right to share it publicly on my own Facebook or social media? 

I had just started going to college. I was very young, 17 years old. Around the time I turned 18 we began dating. He asked me to marry him 3 days after we met. He introduced me to his parents 4 days after we met. I was crazy to say yes, but he was a master manipulator. He was the same religion as me, and convinced me God had brought us together. He told me exactly what I wanted to hear. I always dreamed of my dream guy finding me and then he used my dreams against me. 

We got married after a very weird dating period. My family was very scared and I didn’t understand why? He sometimes wouldn’t get out of bed to see me, claiming he was very sick all the time. It was weird. I cried a lot during that time but after I was so broke he would always come back patching it up and saying the right things. But he never changed. He would repeat the same habits then just tell me how understanding I was. There was even one night his dad warned me about him being “broken material” but I never understood him. Until it was too late. 

After we got married I knew I made a mistake. As we entered the vehicle his whole demeanor changed. He stopped smiling. The chase was over for him. On our wedding night we procreated and he immediately convinced me that we should have kids. I cried begging him to give me time, as I was only 18 and still confused on how soon I got married. We fought but he got his way. We started trying for kids. 

We got kicked out of our apartment 5 days after being there because he stopped going to work. I had no warning. His family just stopped by the house one day, threw all our stuff into plastic garbage bags, and moved us into their basement. 

My first round of depression came. I dropped out of college. My family wasn’t allowed to see me or call me. I lived in his parents basement. I hardly went upstairs during the day due to my depression, but then for the rest of the miserable months there he hurt his back and wasn’t able to get out of bed. From then on we started using my saving because neither of us worked, I bought the food he could eat but nothing for myself. It was all junk food, and the little bits I did get were just fat and sugar. I began gaining weight. My depression got worse. Finally we started fighting, as I begged to leave the house just to go on a date. 

Then he started involving his family. One night after fighting I came out of the basement to sit in his car (I didn’t have one, wasn’t allowed) to call my mom. I cried to her all night, never telling her what was going on but that I missed her and I missed my old life) his family came out and lectured me on how I needed to be nicer to my husband and not leave the house. I found out this was the event that sparked them telling him to divorce me. 

I enrolled in school and he did too, and we moved out. We stopped going to our churches as he said “the pews make his balls uncomfortable” and he refused to sit on a cushion in public. Suddenly after moving in the sex stopped too. He said “sex hurts my balls.” Around this time I developed and was diagnosed with anxiety, and with that anxiety my body began to wig out around the no sex period. My “down there” began to hurt as my anxiety rose, feeding of each other. I was in constant pain and was not allowed to do anything about it. One week into school he had his gallbladder taken out. What should have been a two-four week recovery took him 6 months. I failed that semester of college, lost my cappa betta, lost my deans list, and lost my scholarships. I had two miscarriages as a result of stress, lack of food (again, no jobs) and he started getting rough. 

I started having break downs, in private with just him. I was so unhappy now. My dreams of getting a degree were over as he told me we wouldn’t be going to college anymore. Then he secretly used my name and social to take out 4,000 dollars (I’m still paying off today) in FASFA loans and deposited them into his own personal account. Which he spent on junk food and video games and porn without my knowledge. 

We got kicked out of our apartments and he moved us to his grandparents. We lived in their attic for 6 months. I got my first job, had 3 more miscarriages. I worked full time and he laid in bed all day because “working made his balls hurt.” This period of time was the first time he hit me in the face. Bruises started showing now. 

He told me to get in the car one day and drove back to his moms house. I lost my job, and all of my personal stuff. My journals that I had kept since I was little. Piece by piece he was removing the old me and making his little minion in the new place. 

We lived with my grandparents for a very short amount of time. I worked full time. He got a job. He quit his job. One night I started crying over missing my mother. I told him that I was tired of the “my balls hurt” that I wanted him to get a real job and help provide. Turns out he was thousands of dollars in debt too so there was that. I dropped him off at his parents (who quickly helped him come up with a story and got a lawyer, which is fine I’m not hurt about that) I broke down at work, my coworkers found out. Many of them that knew him told me it was okay. He came back the next day and my anxiety went out the roof. Despite his love for me being fake (he confessed later) I did love him. I loved him as any teenage girl could and as any first love felt like. I told him I wanted to go to counseling, I wanted to fix it. He agreed and we got back together for 5 days. 

I was watching coco, I cried because it made me miss my family. He turned over the said “I can’t do this I’m leaving you.” He held my body through the night as I cried and shook as it went into shock. That’s when I started having panic attacks. 

The next morning he grabbed his stuff and left. I moved back to Virginia. He followed me, going to the same school. After one week his “balls hurt too much to go to school” and he left. I wish the story ended there but it didn’t. After trying to reach out to one of my old friends from his state I found out they had all blocked me. In horror I learned that he told my old jobs, colleges, friends, and his family (some of whom I really loved and took care of) that it was my fault the marriage ended. That I was emotionally abusive and just a horrible person. The attacks started coming on Facebook. Even three years later his family still makes jokes about me on social media. Jokes like “fear for him who lies with *my name*. “

I believed I was what he told them I was. He switched it all around on me. The sad part is, this story is the short version of all the times he hit me, and manipulated and lied to me. I met my now husband (who is normal THANK GOOD ESS) who showed me how okay I was. He works, he’s going to school, his balls never hurt, we go on dates and we live in our own house. He has reminded me many times I’m not who he said I was. His family loves me and even tells me how good I am for him and how loving and gentle and hardworking he has become after meeting me. We are almost out of the debt that my ex put us in, and we are excited to spend eternity together. It’s just crazy to me how he (my ex) tricked me like that into believing after all he put me though that I was the reason he stopped loving me. 

Will what he did happen to her? Should I just stay out of it? No one knows the truth because I’ve never said it, because I don’t think it’s anyone business, but I don’t want her to be broke like he broke me. My anxiety has gone down but it’s still there, sometimes during the night I still get panic attacks when I forget that I’m remarried and think I’m still with him. The pain in my “down unders” has gone down but I don’t know if it will ever leave. What do I do?",2.0735424306163104,3.9153353773802655,3.2327712897641625,91.79916680006704,77.799769186382,6.087953390540364,22.836732870465163,6.968188349444268,0.6027304722372167,6591,202,1423,70,155,2124,508,1733,0.179,0.736,0.085,-0.9995,19,0,0,0,7,0,187.0,35,1,8,19,71,83,7,10,67,3,107,31,4,26,21,275,271,109,0,20,34,12,6,5,2,11,7,8,3,9,68,129,9,10,22,16,12,42,31,50,0,19,123,22,278,33,219,127,38,289,3,26,8,13,255,98,0,9,145,950,346,32,0.024531796677143253,0.058132335186672275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0245650507614708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04082484007328239,0.0,0.0,0.033364925943220665,0.02572372778274036,0.0938337865576716,0.0,0.04865790082663612,0.01715320262934197,0.0,0.040375156841494064,0.08735400034232703,0.02293391834400069,0.08372538073621923,0.0,0.11318062432370507,0.0,0.08972613335089155,0.02709344206452528,0.0,0.05527786832307872,0.0,0.0,0.02678236829180594,0.05449859162124068,0.0,0.0,0.0500994144533214,0.1122313602137916,0.05002360334178047,0.0,0.05190277616851957,0.06339591193089551,0.0,0.026510157127558668,0.0,0.03917328695247105,0.0,0.1886291870778972,0.1582097939185408,0.0,0.06338760159368904,0.024899257237037117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025102152370471958,0.0,0.027594969372223548,0.043455780865856,0.0,0.0,0.06481208136147358,0.02219041456634124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312639463321734,0.027605091507238052,0.0,0.0,0.023554371909504497,0.026873384155062085,0.022421617731939847,0.08346693488601563,0.11865578367296944,0.08069354652182494,0.03790641051801619,0.0,0.12816851251238798,0.023533134734249873,0.15336183925806465,0.0411522142991556,0.2158235070748566,0.0,0.0,0.02429033559395117,0.02169338678409509,0.0,0.021975671286788363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02764911777181579,0.0,0.032886292409217185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14153199831676685,0.21009436577255144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17040816018617905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05392813556739914,0.0,0.02767293518166905,0.10390252227712876,0.05330773773756895,0.0,0.017327533484484958,0.059924983537693224,0.07376191501417816,0.08664810363706958,0.0,0.02060053071792797,0.0,0.10711741590964724,0.020856056269556243,0.19926813857769715,0.0696377375098255,0.04912549432354865,0.04974278282576352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05746268755199041,0.05874313818211039,0.13036708764795113,0.018033693222403082,0.018190016394834703,0.09460216967353227,0.0236929620980858,0.052179688146614576,0.18417143481613465,0.024035952149983532,0.047077841075868175,0.0,0.1287099696014128,0.0,0.19948056379584506,0.01865753681806301,0.052207122569498665,0.05756555545951361,0.0817189712026878,0.02656554519521165,0.0,0.0,0.06426065586891898,0.02563050620085068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04932246277647333,0.027481226643817646,0.026092585444682133,0.0,0.0279225553123732,0.015715697123932743,0.02522277274907024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041900040645641096,0.11667678182438107,0.0390173387037699,0.0736818242410571,0.1241374396369352,0.03909733161852077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.020292955715924918,0.0,0.0,0.07502123205103453,0.0,0.0,0.04852514838022294,0.0,0.191001051478012,0.026147631198425125,0.11754674709228133,0.12305808289939507,0.028101090209378468,0.0,0.0842491140431887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0184448580814458,0.0,0.10720935789265454,0.02258558242948483,0.0,0.0,0.016297835653600528,0.031437969520357045,0.024102365680558333,0.0,0.1859609429850282,0.028195691507300356,0.023253274822236308,0.18752946409648946,0.05451145750033312,0.033310959268708334,0.0800506509059468,0.047928001488190944,0.05107693100236597,0.1475436544107319,0.12712557499195154,0.0,0.12144780861737732,0.07234744638557199,0.03894439668234293,0.059033782677719186,0.02987311944825715,0.0,0.09096488517306256,0.02213613082423791,0.027388874909064692,0.028210355497631387,0.023647776577560196,0.0,0.12501608107274007,0.0,0.024999996624032177,0.034853369015621534,0.0,0.0,0.03159534550706493
divorce,57ashdot,2020/01/06,"Im (M30) Divorcing a gold digger and addict (F29), need some advice so I dont end up in an even worse position. Quick rundown: Announced I was going to file the Monday before Christmas. Meeting with a lawyer this week. Story is long like everybody, Im sure. No kids. Owned home for 5 years. 

Almost all of our finances are in my name. Stupid me for trusting somebody to not abuse my kindness, I know. Credit card debt unfortunately all in my name. A solid $22k worth now. My STBXW continues to drain our finances on cocaine and other irresponsible shit. Having announced that Im done, Im trying to avoid any legal reprocussions of taking my name off shared accounts, locking MY cards out she knows the info to so she cant use them anymore. I feel like I should have every right to put a hold on my own cards without issues, they are in my name, right?

Will there be reprocussions to closing out joint accounts that I own, or cancelling MY own cards she uses, knowing she will be totally ubable to support herself? My main fear is paying my ex alimony every month knowing its going to likely go directly up her nose. I dont want to be further punished by a judge for wanting out.

Obviously I will be using my lawyers advice, but that is a few days out, want to do something to keep moving forward in the meantime.

Thanks in advance for any help. I feel so lost and aimless.",3.4582101994115746,5.4918718984962425,4.5798332788493,82.82637953579605,74.37593984962406,6.430598234717227,27.730630925138932,7.255503002510835,1.59423066361556,1079,43,198,12,23,353,165,266,0.106,0.797,0.09699999999999999,-0.1325,1,1,2,0,1,0,36.0,2,0,2,2,7,16,3,2,10,0,21,3,2,3,5,42,42,8,0,5,4,1,2,3,0,4,1,0,1,1,6,9,0,3,7,0,8,7,6,6,0,0,3,3,32,10,36,31,10,36,0,1,0,0,20,20,1,3,14,129,38,7,0.0,0.12885520296790787,0.0,0.11855744948095795,0.0,0.2125454698267967,0.0,0.0,0.10890099603333947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14791232076321545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078543235339698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09254128232406407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07013705897559845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11129266575397777,0.2549167601070988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632338776032126,0.0,0.0,0.07183071066892144,0.0,0.1832591550366124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223780072722191,0.10997815049172932,0.07769357577577073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854214888558445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07289522895724265,0.0,0.10908870304186233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4698900932264992,0.1135104773302712,0.0,0.09666517446677353,0.0,0.1132501130073712,0.23907248287563074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15939451030417173,0.0,0.0,0.09624349168105947,0.0,0.0,0.11871737410954605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08680606606886697,0.1155878392654908,0.0,0.08063939791922785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10932738090653267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18574991781838773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116339820011479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08372381532483504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234122682263154,0.10249895747858692,0.0,0.08176915391982577,0.0,0.0,0.10012568044116367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07383653871536193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817845131353928,0.0,0.0,0.19243702889183092,0.0,0.08723555802433854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10483456550838367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108291840966756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700337367332771
divorce,ksoq9273ejjw82i2j1,2020/01/06,"Give me some ideas for living arraignments after divorce with 3 kids So it's most likely happening.... married with 3 kids and we still get along well. Been living together for 4 months since she said she wants a divorce. The reconciliation road honestly could be traveled but she is wishy washy on that and honestly it likely isn't going to happen. 

She suggested ""nesting"" where we keep our home, three kids stay in the home and she moves out several days a week to a friends available room in her apartment. Eventually we would rent an apartment together to share so the kids keep the home and her and I rotate between family home and apartment. 

We get alone very well... we still eat together as a family and hang out alone with each other as well as with our families and friends outside of home. We enjoy each others company. 

---

I'm not really crazy about this idea. Because 1: we dont really have the money for the mortgage and rent. 2: I dont know if I want to see her that much after the divorce to be honest. I really really dont want to live as roommates after divorce either. I wouldn't be able to really move on if we are still living ""family life"" and not in a relationship. 

I've been wanting to go back to school for my masters for a long time and that might be an option to consider in the short term (2.5 year masters). I love my current job though and dont really want to leave it just yet....

I dont want to move out of our home either, and she hasn't suggested that I do. 

I'm just all mixed up and I dont know what to do.
 
I want what's best for the kids but there are some things I just cant do. If shes going to break up our family I have to be able to move on. I want to be the best father I can possibly be and I want to see my kids every day. But I need to be able to move on from her. 

Give me some ideas and feedback people.",2.100522766936379,3.792717856020944,3.9062208472156112,87.67461129620816,77.24607329842931,7.457528161193082,22.04696176423925,8.296473431620573,1.1240268760907508,1439,40,311,27,33,485,164,382,0.042,0.828,0.131,0.9924,5,3,0,0,4,0,45.0,12,0,0,4,17,15,0,0,18,0,33,3,0,0,1,74,62,29,0,16,13,1,0,2,2,3,1,1,9,6,13,34,1,2,5,1,3,10,12,0,3,1,3,3,44,15,56,47,13,49,0,0,2,1,44,20,0,9,19,216,57,3,0.1796716368274007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240570864150974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04605213275066723,0.0,0.036508720719381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257028653275061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04781772733084323,0.0,0.0,0.07724889459334451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4211476404743732,0.0,0.0,0.06128297984924605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0504603677337465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28229738139114874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09254257394538946,0.0,0.06258067637932065,0.11490493726785644,0.10211153174350734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10592202338118503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3604506025354157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20282740827133594,0.0,0.0,0.059432125254276165,0.10646693748349216,0.0,0.0,0.06582855518740112,0.0,0.0,0.0634154402879537,0.0,0.0,0.0423024635375864,0.05851899079262595,0.0,0.2115377960741014,0.05300124821852181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054053555695259575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0635344044668478,0.0,0.0,0.047804062116076115,0.3182708593041686,0.04402644211721173,0.04440808069882463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041520563402421086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06751759145446336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302045026136657,0.0,0.0,0.06430003257320581,0.0,0.0,0.05696962367123092,0.0,0.0,0.06061242956007332,0.09545002159079996,0.0,0.0,0.0676592693722704,0.0,0.049542078219696806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.063835352928681,0.14348600126167704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03978861729485815,0.0,0.058842156980064765,0.0,0.03492265877169545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0494159723728762,0.3179249595971799,0.0,0.04804058314562524,0.0,0.161546379203969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04254452525702903,0.0,0.0,0.03856754778361307
divorce,trrr197,2020/01/06,"I left 6 months ago Hi guys.... So I finally left my husband 6 months ago.... We have been married 18 years and have 3 kids. I don't wanna go into detail about why I left but the top reasons are.... He drank the first 12 years of our marriage..... He doesn't work.... He is a mizer.... I worked but was given an allowance and not allowed a penny more. He seen to my lady requirements and kids requirements and not a scent more..... Erm, and all that jazz, in any case I felt I left the marriage on our 13th year together and when I told him  he became sober and has been so for the rest of the years.... That however did not make me come back, that did not change the feeling I already had....so I tried for his sake and the kids and I stayed, he came depressed and a hoarder, I began to feel cluttered, I wanted to buy a house, he wanted to continue living with his mum and so on and so on.... Basically I left because I wanted a different life style and didn't want to be controlled any longer. Before I ask for advise.... I would just like to say his a nice guy and I feel bad, so now I give him an allowance after I have moved out, his not taking it well, his looking terrible. My question, I met someone and the divorce is going to take a long time and money. Do I let this new  relationship go away? Can I keep it.... I really wanna keep it but I don't wanna hurt the husband. I'm 40 and the husband is 52 if that makes a difference.... Please advise",0.9515887526035628,2.8464655335570512,2.9498009719972234,92.21640939597314,81.58389261744965,5.7210830826197645,21.014117102522565,6.8039241337230125,0.3485939365887525,1091,32,243,12,29,367,160,298,0.066,0.877,0.057,-0.4009,3,0,0,0,1,0,72.0,3,0,0,7,11,7,0,0,21,0,22,2,0,7,1,58,51,27,0,9,10,4,4,1,0,1,1,1,0,5,8,23,1,5,6,1,2,6,9,4,1,1,14,8,39,3,25,34,4,39,0,2,2,0,39,13,0,2,20,156,47,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17190021673217734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10699891462143143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13187365920899435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09064548014194433,0.0,0.09109808534510626,0.07455705185002408,0.08095841522675197,0.059106547755130835,0.0,0.08250670035461935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11089759478697936,0.0,0.0,0.10257191980728496,0.08352334723641161,0.0,0.0,0.10875004694978728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08351239846765025,0.0,0.0,0.20260729161137375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14707923988562654,0.0,0.09309780034764463,0.106216075824293,0.0,0.08247500792530794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930138611830004,0.16531557415385398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920133402148122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11188001762662768,0.10379879473121068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723668482683897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5267422480998344,0.09914922890522122,0.06848644740150253,0.04737026463420069,0.0,0.08561837144180955,0.08580746591995947,0.0814228502123334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12944448926040278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15478674818935154,0.10305423676235197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936455730395362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10643410098027356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086185512067143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06211572266877406,0.09969209413134167,0.0,0.10409986630747918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07710730777911902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215477138770404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10334756359572292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458052646620713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05653875999356992,0.0,0.0,0.0926504253373394,0.0,0.0658301789430302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22876052548183085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08717961616605377,0.0,0.08749225391625377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14117757842117906,0.0,0.0,0.0688783382236953,0.0,0.0,0.2497589134817613
divorce,BeverleyPepperCo,2020/01/06,"About to separate I’ve been with my wife 8 years. We have two kids oldest is 6. A couple years back I found out that she had cheated on me in varying degrees in the first year. This put a major strain on us and my trust. But it was like 4 years ago when I found out and we already had a kid together so I tried to work through it. Over the years after the disclosure she’s done other things to disrespect boundaries, usually if she drinks too much. And she lies, not about random stuff but about things she thinks I’ll be mad at if I know the truth. I’ve caught her lying in this regard countless times. This past weekend she again crossed boundaries by putting her hands on another person while we were out. I was upset and ended up leaving the bar. I came back in 30 mins later to find her dancing very close with several people. Needless to say I have had it. We had a huge blow out fight. She wants a divorce, I want a divorce. Problem is I’m so sad about it. My kids are gonna be crushed. I love her. I know we need to stop this pattern and just bite the bullet. I’m already feeling lonely. I’m not going to see my kids but like 4 days a month. That’s crushing me. The thought of her eventually moving on and then living in my house with my kids makes me so jealous/sad/mad. The thought of having to take care of my two young kids by myself on my weeks makes me sad, I know it’s gonna be really tough to be a good dad when one is 2 and the other is 6. Like I’m not going to be able to do anything fun with the oldest because I’m going to have to tend to the 2 year old. I’ve been tearing up off and on all day. I just don’t know what to do. All my friends live in a different state and I work from home. I’m gonna be so alone. I just don’t know what to do. The idea of having to find someone new and start all over is daunting and I just feel like I don’t even want that. It’s crazy to think that my wife’s poor behavior results in me losing my children, the home I worked so hard for, the person I love, and money. Can anyone relate?",0.7055102040816337,2.460825639455784,2.4188321995464857,96.42239795918371,81.72108843537416,5.1977324263038565,20.25056689342404,6.052691113681939,-0.14529569160997724,1581,43,374,11,42,520,204,441,0.146,0.742,0.11199999999999999,-0.9459,1,3,1,0,3,0,41.0,6,0,0,5,20,23,3,2,23,0,34,5,1,3,4,69,74,26,0,7,12,3,4,4,1,3,0,1,2,9,21,27,2,1,16,4,2,10,6,11,0,4,16,6,53,12,59,49,5,70,0,4,1,2,37,25,0,3,38,236,74,3,0.08940922361640763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07925588209208806,0.0,0.0,0.0926009912555872,0.19733060312378706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09375336669562108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06251700802058753,0.0,0.07357617287673217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13750034811801615,0.0,0.054503032850151616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022603329282221,0.09115866228931586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09892960534094287,0.0,0.11532310518412325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09341360889594816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09149667797898946,0.0,0.08758700069714871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07919003406059083,0.0,0.0,0.05905394896016645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09041597981407816,0.0638739672163692,0.0,0.0,0.16343682120147662,0.07605143993339326,0.0,0.19606519762419075,0.06907734437686787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15243996665271375,0.07499221477756023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08009310259903615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793694825395112,0.0,0.0,0.103166239741185,0.0,0.10093213053482168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24568485523188266,0.0,0.0,0.0946714581370237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17472332169859106,0.0,0.1578999650123991,0.0,0.0,0.10002605123307907,0.0,0.0,0.1613906301659196,0.0,0.11936270207590324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07136558927686687,0.09502785503350933,0.06572606691518096,0.06629580641140742,0.0,0.08635198531286332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09381993993514416,0.0,0.060586003851372215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08535122080638939,0.0619850979844831,0.1561373707746508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08555255202149989,0.0,0.1797619294555143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05727783810268663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07110180324323312,0.0,0.0,0.07124757537107225,0.0,0.0,0.10100697336284628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07575614502628494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328430866244175,0.0,0.0,0.07475011442333335,0.0,0.0,0.10235217007145124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06722460904436839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11879903062900485,0.11457964061435125,0.0,0.1419618728884711,0.052135237300657285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06070299385996328,0.0,0.17467963960983707,0.0,0.1075482873431942,0.0,0.0984716281735052,0.07377197317492643,0.15820762980618994,0.0,0.07171868610385114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19527293895437586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34545965167453746
divorce,throw-away-MIL,2020/01/06,"What do I need for my own place with kids? (especially clothing) I am finally moving out at the end of the month after months of negotiation with my STBXW. And I need to outfit my new place for my kids (6F, 2F). I expect us to be sharing parenting time about 50/50. 

I am starting to think it through but pretty overwhelmed with the huge list. A friend is giving me a bunk bed. But I'll need a crib, changing table, etc. I'm trying to think through everything else.

Probably one of the biggest things I'm struggling with is clothing. My STBXW has always handled that (though my older kid's clothes often don't fit properly, partly because she is overweight) and I don't know where to start. And how do you handle clothing purchased by one parent that's obviously going to go over to my ex's home? 

Thanks for your advice.",3.3009107142857133,5.350207412500005,4.28089285714286,84.72625000000002,74.875,6.571428571428572,26.42857142857143,7.447530270364453,1.4350446428571435,646,24,123,8,14,209,104,160,0.039,0.825,0.136,0.9402,2,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,2,0,0,5,5,0,2,7,0,11,1,0,1,1,20,25,7,0,4,2,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,3,5,8,1,0,3,0,1,3,2,2,0,2,0,0,18,3,25,24,3,22,0,1,0,0,13,9,0,1,10,80,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14519634938095766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236353100934308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09057654033189112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15718410200226185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12412439140492686,0.0,0.13160293911888216,0.0,0.16571247274402065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335393594304301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16276850943234353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11479704049081925,0.0,0.0,0.14253706347002176,0.16888949801715186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490436983040778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08165888404789401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23719957724984944,0.15792321810348242,0.0,0.33052352149471553,0.0,0.1435051165305506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20137120209363396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3299739513826872,0.16090396984362115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31048112632461755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15116520248730006,0.16020065126825062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21033962464800915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15533416664999586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367978653338341,0.0,0.0,0.0987138203734629,0.1904155951807828,0.1459848195143954,0.0,0.08664158996543919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008800223418798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787304536418939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Kelpie-ardbeg,2020/01/06,"Sometimes I miss her voice

Sometimes I feel life is so overwhelming 

It has been a year, but sometimes I wish it never happened to me 

It hurts so much",1.003,3.5776343,1.8883333333333359,94.8825,89.33333333333334,4.333333333333334,24.16666666666667,5.985473137389443,0.569666666666667,119,5,24,1,4,37,23,30,0.17,0.7190000000000001,0.111,-0.2263,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,1,0,3,1,0,0,1,4,7,3,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,5,0,1,6,1,2,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,18,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13343799995807445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333697996425105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2825151308457035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18640349051158195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940001077753456,0.0,0.2035393514363131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7830246333471319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3034770492891873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16994578864065568
divorce,needadvice1203,2020/01/06,"Husband wants a divorce due to his severe depression and I don't know how to talk him out of it My husband and I met when we were only 12 and now at 28 have been married for over 3 years. I love him with all my heart and have never had a doubt he is my soul mate, and everything I have done with my life has been to build a future for us. We just bought a house not even a year ago, adopted a dog 4 months ago. He has always struggled with depression but I've gotten him through it. This past year though, he got worse than ever before and started to really distance himself. When I tried pulling him back, it made him angry, so I finally caved and started giving him distance. Now I feel that was a mistake.

He completely blindsided me a few days ago by coming home and telling me he wants a divorce - he has no interest in working on anything, he just wants out. He swears he has ""been trying"" to save our marriage, but to me its not really fair that I wasn't given the full scope of his mental state nor given the chance to try myself/along with him. He says he still loves me and I did nothing wrong, he just wants me to move on to someone more stable. He doesn't believe that I am happy or that he treats me well enough. To me, I knew what I got into with him and I expected this sort of thing someday and was ready to get him through it. Now I'm not being given the chance. My entire future has been ripped away from me, I have nothing. The pain is honestly unbearable. He won't discuss it with me openly, he has made his decision in stone. 

I have no idea how to begin coping. I'm completely numb except for a few moments of sobbing when I look back on the good times. I still love him with all my heart and want nothing more than a future together. I didn't see this coming at all. But more importantly, I'm terrified of him forcing me out of his life like this in the state he's in. He has been pushing me away for a long time, but I've gotten periodic bursts of openness where I can be his rock - what is he going to do next time he needs a place to land and has no one? It's all just so unfair...",3.658138714733546,4.0981170568181815,4.755423197492164,87.99227272727273,71.61363636363637,7.7053291536050175,26.081504702194362,7.6298220110432995,1.1780094043887148,1635,48,362,18,29,538,206,440,0.102,0.755,0.14300000000000002,0.9709,0,0,0,0,2,0,43.0,4,0,0,1,24,20,0,2,19,0,37,9,2,4,6,69,73,27,0,8,13,2,1,1,1,1,4,1,1,0,18,30,0,0,5,1,1,6,13,9,1,1,25,4,57,11,55,45,11,66,1,3,2,3,56,22,1,3,37,247,75,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24446622333500045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07649156883138115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07564901866302995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17273900949227414,0.14137411602503164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07822406827619692,0.10357152317306892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15837588920162815,0.19276979176365708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059286039183965335,0.0,0.15835512828811574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09407439432374608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09498633280235763,0.0,0.06071766323722469,0.08315425707247365,0.0,0.0,0.08261907618343116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046481624940255546,0.0,0.0,0.1007027736123012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04802865402171221,0.08818583941109412,0.052244875079432485,0.07710495440954998,0.14704664759995642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978592043732372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178705546505096,0.0,0.0,0.0922114103090338,0.0,0.0,0.10607272015426623,0.0,0.10377566986693232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0505212964251314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12986311449866048,0.04491144112030617,0.0,0.0,0.08135350273227293,0.07719647697552752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489061808212265,0.17396923972211714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09264193387313653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07337615676407568,0.0977050544743818,0.0,0.06816354398997558,0.07090064147407872,0.0,0.09776660974794273,0.0,0.0,0.2646225617508999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06229288038329432,0.06991548572786116,0.09781801232643708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08775580250025246,0.0,0.0,0.09604533052554748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778302877665507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07310493914291942,0.0,0.0,0.07325481807774697,0.0,0.0,0.10385262122594786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07789040670182742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13013440791770173,0.0,0.14682784762045764,0.0,0.0,0.09610324179390488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07388834916501573,0.08034923800209579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06107296515857191,0.0,0.09031892152641154,0.0,0.16081209658050186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18723949897914732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11057822224639137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711079658875781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08265442949427343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06692477390333643,0.0,0.09368261867621824,0.0,0.1005089796430118,0.0,0.17759610628725336
divorce,judeta,2020/01/06,"I want a divorce and the guilt of breaking her heart is killing me My wife and I have been married for about 6 years and together 10. No kids, two dogs, no house. She's a very kind and caring person and loves me very much, but I have had doubts about whether or not I'm truly in love with her off and on for years now. I care about her about her a lot, but she's a very difficult person to be with due to some mental health problems, specifically anxiety and at times it causes some anger issues. I've come to realize that through most of our relationship I've adapted and changed a lot of my behaviors to avoid fights or having her worry about things, I at times don't tell her things so she won't be nervous because she can become obsessive and annoying when she's worrying about something. There have been times in our relationship where I dread coming home or dread her coming home because she can be so stressed and angry that it's impossible to relax, I can sometimes just feel the nervous energy coming off her and it makes me crazy. She's also very codependent, and I've really enabled that, I've found it difficult to stop because talking to her about it ends in fights and guilt trips and I've just found it all not worth it. 


Lately things have been better, but I'm still not happy which has really gotten in my head. I've come to realize that really the only reason I'm staying with her is to not break her heart and it's made me distant and she's definitely felt it. Now her major anxiety is revolving around me wanting to leave which makes it harder for me to talk to her about it. How do I tell someone that's dreading me leaving that she's right and that I do want to leave? She keeps making me promise that I'd tell her and promise that I love her and it's really killing me inside, but I've decided that I need to tell her probably in the next couple of weeks.


Now my big problem is this: I make almost no money, and I have nowhere I can go. I have no family that can support me and the best I could do is probably sleep on a friend's couch for a few nights if/when I do leave. I feel very trapped, but I also feel like I need to leave because my emotions are tearing me apart. How do I deal with all of this? And how do I deal with the guilt of breaking her heart?",5.030714285714282,4.973478834394904,5.701567333939946,84.1459633757962,68.51167728237792,9.021565059144676,28.92333939945405,8.738905477910976,1.9365237488626024,1805,57,386,27,28,588,190,471,0.22399999999999998,0.6609999999999999,0.115,-0.995,0,2,1,0,3,0,32.0,2,0,0,3,25,37,6,12,13,0,35,9,5,10,2,87,68,39,2,8,15,1,4,1,1,1,1,0,3,3,30,33,0,3,10,1,2,7,10,22,0,1,9,4,67,15,51,54,11,44,0,0,0,3,50,16,0,10,18,262,97,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06683076588818618,0.0,0.0,0.1067443812929756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10211228761918202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059413013257753326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16273706006830374,0.07370941347938875,0.0,0.0,0.07003982316580024,0.05902636827234003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13609235968124064,0.06856066851416485,0.07060238378391154,0.2874542773295748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053286695696503884,0.0738468681695473,0.0,0.0,0.13761262936235802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07507385006911019,0.059112092739686616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06291681139102255,0.0,0.10123769702820247,0.04767928084052586,0.06408115049354424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14635457961943046,0.05156338717940714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03793004828156074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0710462861865135,0.0,0.0,0.06849479833332478,0.0709418137947177,0.0,0.2372627165188931,0.0,0.0,0.1338919172383808,0.0,0.0,0.07700934092943579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06965952941324069,0.0,0.05932184166939899,0.1476764983854935,0.0694997480729117,0.0,0.0,0.07528596095823188,0.35334168494707624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03260593747229207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348042610908875,0.1807071687275353,0.06315128184471484,0.17819866346747051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06725852094320668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04906179684090463,0.09897416773037282,0.0,0.0,0.07097906201184194,0.06263124674055981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05075900258646674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11655010445253915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14391465446182145,0.12772289971089915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17102217055566227,0.06862013993017732,0.0,0.14330820221954216,0.0,0.0569958481723623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06678849510352736,0.0,0.05654883627109648,0.051379940542755034,0.06600785934818088,0.0,0.0,0.07113627552088783,0.05329888664538173,0.0557978759386999,0.0764507836446795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07573609706047059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10728664379091124,0.2333358418158717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13301786138682864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11675041003129337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0651955715062025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753386692932424,0.11809546739270255,0.0,0.053535039786642716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355560205997632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08595712499201795
divorce,Ragnarok1201,2020/01/06,How did everyone handle family photos? We’ve got two little kids. 6 and 3. Theres family/wedding photos on the walls still but we’re starting paperwork to initiate the divorce this week. We’ve talked to our kids and they kind of understand what’s going on but since he’s moved out I’m not sure how to transition everything. Is there a good timeframe to change out photos without causing too obvious change and trauma? The older one is really observant and will realize fast. And since it is not amicable and he’s not acting kind to anyone I would love to not have to stare at them anymore and start moving on.,2.9620308123249286,5.476166428571432,4.539684873949579,80.17798669467788,77.99159663865547,8.336414565826331,24.202380952380953,9.075114841892004,2.3316380952380955,491,17,88,13,12,164,80,119,0.052000000000000005,0.8640000000000001,0.084,0.7066,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,1,0,2,0,6,6,0,0,4,0,7,1,0,3,2,24,14,11,0,1,7,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,9,0,0,2,0,0,4,5,1,0,2,2,1,4,5,15,10,0,18,0,0,1,1,10,8,0,0,6,54,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17044944936067147,0.12017591771418346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176558447202769,0.36363260510290896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16422972092463692,0.15446621043380795,0.0,0.1620243028968333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09767802111694443,0.14415690253993946,0.1374606172146718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3579535575328221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722594903652019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155119924199449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36534248994454827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11646396467143795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11010470552922184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2843462680401061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24330178654461826,0.0,0.13725608089426355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16198600380415334,0.0,0.0,0.13814307564260647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678925996361023,0.17892335297005796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13786422595507902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16567712243117655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12209194100344177,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,BigMamaHouse,2020/01/06,"Need Advice: Ex Keeps Sending Kids in Clothes/Shoes that are too small, are stained or have holes in them, or are not appropriate for weather. When I send them back in clothes that fit I never see them again. I think he buys the worst items from second hand stores to send them to my house and keeps the nice clothes I buy for himself. 

It is really getting annoying. What do I do?",1.971899999999998,4.40582744,2.0689166666666696,96.927375,81.26666666666667,5.3500000000000005,22.708333333333336,6.6274283507984215,0.3618333333333337,298,10,65,3,8,89,54,75,0.08900000000000001,0.804,0.107,0.1082,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,4,0,4,3,1,0,2,0,7,1,1,0,1,9,13,4,0,1,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,2,1,0,3,3,2,2,0,1,0,2,11,1,8,13,2,12,0,0,1,0,11,5,0,2,4,44,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32734572117791194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575845629472149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17501704276524355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3865303781170403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5955042236261346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24838884487853946,0.25836286387168816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146014478680249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26694151417354506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21464634129482255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,stk12345,2020/01/06,I don't want a divorce! Wife has asked for a divorce but we are still making plans to hang out and she is still thinking about giving me one last chance to prove that I love and respect her. Any advice on what to do or how I should act to save out relationship. This girl is the love of my life and I don't want to lose her.,1.2038497652582194,2.5681927887323965,2.486971830985919,98.30867370892021,78.85915492957747,5.2967136150234735,18.875586854460085,5.46131890053228,-0.6121004694835683,252,5,63,1,6,81,51,71,0.028999999999999998,0.633,0.33799999999999997,0.9840000000000001,0,0,0,0,2,0,4.0,1,0,0,2,4,5,0,0,3,0,8,3,0,2,1,16,16,6,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,6,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,10,4,11,15,0,8,0,1,0,2,13,3,0,1,3,44,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498605155130084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17388019959559287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390387022557819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452842947510141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20842415144530216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18060372655457674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860553783206423,0.0,0.0,0.4615463391826015,0.0,0.17067725097001993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17326438501761776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27451889391698103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4083939699831505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16383793041778233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30162904456404505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,VestigesOfVader,2020/01/06,"Fearful of what ex may do. Recent break, we own a property together.

Past 2 nights they have been staying at friends/family and not in this property. I have tried to go no contact for this period and so did not respond to a good morning message today. 

They have now contacted my family whom they are not on good terms with, have been liking various posts about causing exes physical harm (tho part of a Twitter joke format) and violent film synopsis, there is one instance of physical harm being inflicted upon me in the past (though, they iterate as a learned trauma response of a past relationship to stop me from restraining them (holding wrists) when they were causing themselves harm.)

They said they were worried about my wellbeing because of the silence, and I replied I'm okay, the next thing I know my Mom calls to tell me they've been asking for my Mom's number from my brother - I have 3 missed calls from them, I get a message asking what they've done, that they feel scared to come home because I didn't respond, that they think I just want to paint them as an abuser now because I cheated on them (this is hard because slightly true in part, I have not cheated, just fallen for someone else and broke off the relationship immediately when I realised this. I am not ""with"" or even seeing that person.)

I mentioned that I felt scared too due to above and they just said ""Wow okay"" kind of thing, that I'm not willing to work on my own issues of ""infidelity"", that we should get a counsellor before deciding (this is just an attempt at getting me to go to couples therapy with them, I have absolutely zero desire to stay in this relationship), and I honestly feel scared about what they may do or attempt to do next. 

Legally they have very little they can push against me with as contracts were all signed and they have (with evidence) been in breach of them on multiple occasions, but I am mostly scared of potential trauma I'll have to go through. I've done nothing wrong in any way, fully receipted, even down to emotional factors, so I'm not concerned about the outcome of anything there. 

I'm just scared of going through such a messy and tough break when it really needn't be. They're taking our animals when they go and that's hard enough.

Any way I can start to prepare for the worst to ease my worries? Or relief from this thought pattern?

I have been screenshotting everything of concern.

I'm hoping I'm just completely wrong. Many thanks for reading.",7.718222698072807,7.343404488222703,7.36115289079229,75.55788351177732,63.00428265524625,10.641164882226981,36.88128479657388,10.078955797065145,3.6353195546038535,1964,85,358,37,25,620,225,467,0.132,0.778,0.09,-0.9556,0,0,0,0,1,0,56.0,3,0,21,3,27,33,3,6,16,2,40,1,1,2,2,59,72,25,0,5,17,4,5,1,0,4,0,2,1,1,21,18,0,3,8,3,0,8,10,20,0,2,16,8,54,13,67,50,10,50,0,2,1,0,47,16,0,7,20,254,75,4,0.0,0.09298427163111364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10673623644720526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06458117567172872,0.0,0.14673373681043847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19135922957203835,0.0,0.06677948219797883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16027078723496385,0.0,0.0,0.16123821703928906,0.0,0.06760233842726053,0.0822832867240837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683504417064737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16062164700630605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06555877444455109,0.08827782746107084,0.0,0.0810893406621311,0.0,0.1036687096594524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.070531477699732,0.0,0.14796522131912704,0.08831020872869594,0.07936224524327014,0.0,0.07535173354727964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230054400230594,0.0,0.2230058971737369,0.13164820096515814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14060276654258835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07872040369263729,0.07794692687001896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08191123690739917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08172335324910704,0.04312976925884965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038340664821848516,0.07865614343187922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07956495150428276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18382630358235055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669256973996111,0.07364682094158151,0.0,0.07530230375827969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053179109553969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699692855983196,0.2247500231057991,0.0,0.06852445959518233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516077584549627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07849980664890167,0.0,0.05027538100960727,0.0,0.07748811939296467,0.2527698407164481,0.0,0.0,0.14930218150520475,0.0,0.3928536924992467,0.0,0.06253725902450487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06649463703897886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05554753523046488,0.16729542579407408,0.0,0.06561159791693587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05900611728515962,0.0,0.06859372859305582,0.07225252262192303,0.08974708339365811,0.0,0.1042753484818603,0.05028589833910109,0.07710479581447413,0.0623032178301659,0.0,0.0,0.0743885073751337,0.0,0.0,0.05328179704098079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06475303855831084,0.046288693443546816,0.12458527076170288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05713333307725139,0.15939759299408868,0.0,0.0,0.17160799136932442,0.0,0.0
divorce,Far-Discussion,2020/01/06,"Any advice please! This is a throw away account because it is a situation regarding my boyfriend and his wife and I know that he monitors my reddit. Here’s the thing I think he is being an absolute idiot and I just want to know what steps people think he should be taking. 

He and I have been together for about a year.  I am not sure when exactly the separation with his wife happened, but I think things continued to remain sexual at least up until the point he met me. He has one child with his wife and she had 2 older children with a previous ex. 

So we meet, and I’m pretty sure that’s when it really fell apart for them. When we met he told me he was in the middle of a divorce. Well, not really true... here we are months and months later and nothing has happened. And the communication between these two is constant. Between her flying off the rails mad at him, walls of texts, to her begging for his help. CONSTANT texting and calls. 

Now, the father of the other boys has come forward trying to claim my boyfriends son. He even did a DNA test which confirmed it. This has been filed with the court, but so far I haven’t heard anything come from it. But of course she is freaking out because she lied and now faces fraud. The bio dad has also told his other sons that the boy is their full brother, so this isn’t going to be some well kept family secret. 

My boyfriend says he wants to remain the boys father. Ok great, the boy is 6, he has raised him since birth, he and the mother were married at time of birth. He is legally in every way his father. 

What I don’t understand is his complete fear and refusal to get a lawyer. He acts like this has nothing to do with him and he can just sit back and let it play out. 

At this point I think everyone in this situation is a complete dumbass. Especially me who remains involved when I should be running for the hills. 

But seriously, what should my boyfriend do here?",3.731721422753189,5.157896220472446,4.4309059643406625,86.69527559055119,72.35958005249344,7.354909946601503,25.736356231333154,7.873277556716777,1.3279612815639428,1504,48,308,20,29,481,196,381,0.085,0.8340000000000001,0.081,-0.5948,0,0,0,0,1,0,40.0,3,0,2,0,20,14,2,1,24,1,40,1,1,0,4,55,63,28,0,5,8,12,0,1,0,3,0,2,0,6,24,27,0,2,8,1,1,9,5,5,2,2,12,2,38,9,39,43,3,49,0,0,0,0,67,20,0,1,21,210,62,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11173824670373783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914429941061248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07775965962215428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09409756996099644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074324645445537,0.08792553431919575,0.0,0.1394093426222636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11676073916031178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19699906988440932,0.23978062488353385,0.24713626498399516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0755248999300652,0.0,0.09634200480907117,0.10926314748969902,0.0,0.0,0.1077958679139216,0.1286717988281588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05974141782422355,0.0,0.06498585011113894,0.0,0.0,0.12606761206840592,0.0,0.0,0.2022327728529816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0766441654426918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256838835163188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11692722167131947,0.0,0.05586400917758999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825408489522396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2194374358291781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07748426580454262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07927358635391378,0.0,0.0,0.1255183106931121,0.21618913460429093,0.0,0.0,0.1163316761100444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14650681511015715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093306492364384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945887505869556,0.2570609056479209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21554077453546994,0.0,0.08597446843628266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15193369889787384,0.29307492703862426,0.0,0.0,0.06667646532187549,0.0,0.0,0.21852629497939804,0.0,0.0776338859205084,0.0,0.1117000855459439,0.11903892057327467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13488926221620362,0.09076306764062976,0.0,0.0,0.20562278531511427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07363550923070249
divorce,ijkortez,2020/01/06,"She wanted divorce and now she runs away from the court saying she needs time to think? I have posted a few times on this subreddit regarding my wife.

She didn't have a legit reason for divorce but because of her delusional disorder issue (for real), she couldn't see all my hard work, like helping day and night with the kids and waking up all nights to let her sleep, cleaning the house, doing the dishes. Her delusional issue removed all my hard work and she completely without hesitation believe it to be true.

So she did everything to speed up the divorce and i tried to change her mind but all she did was worsen the situation, didn't let me see kids for 5 months and didn't let me see my son after he was born.

She didn't some horrible things driven by anger issues which she couldn't control (learned behavior from her mother and grandmother) her mother choked me once because she thought I didn't like her. her grandmother hated me for many years. 

When I stopped trying to get her back and started to think straight and getting over the pain in my chest and trying to heal all the damage she did to me. 

Suddenly the day of the divorce in the court she found an excuse to leave and told me she needs time to think.  
Although my greatest wish was raising children together and getting old with this woman and I even waited for her 10 years and loved her even from 8,000KM away while living in paradise where I have everything. When she got in contact after many years and 2 bad marriages she had. I took her in and asked her hand 3 months later. 

When she got pregnant first time she throw me to the street because of the same anger and delusional issues and after she gave birth she let me see our daughter and suddenly we were back together and moved in to live together, it was beautiful time but slowly her self destructing thoughts started to affect the marriage and family life and I was aware and tried my best to let her vent and let her handle those issues.  Just before giving birth to our son she throws me to the street again and I had to gather my thoughts and calm down, so I took the first flight that day and went to a motorcycle solo trip to do what I love. When I came back after 3 days, I brought her expensive earnings and tried to settle things down. She filed for divorce without telling me.

Then she didn't let me see the kids for months, then the judge got angry and let me see them twice a week, and still she missed already few times and I try to emphasize because of the bad weather and I gave her enough chances to stop this behavior and just let me see the kids because I need them and they need me.

Finally, the day of the divorce came and she runs away.

I don't freaking understand why she acts this way.  She completely ruined her relationship with me and she stole an important time with my kids. 

All I wanted is a happy family living in harmony and what I got from her is complete chaos.",6.18898452012384,6.448890049122809,5.9363054695562445,82.36198142414861,66.05263157894737,9.091847265221878,30.62435500515996,8.841846274778883,2.2696026831785354,2328,79,455,34,34,724,235,570,0.11900000000000001,0.7490000000000001,0.133,0.8563,0,0,0,0,6,0,37.0,3,0,3,8,17,19,4,0,29,0,37,10,4,3,7,86,85,50,0,9,7,6,3,2,0,0,3,1,1,8,13,44,1,4,10,0,1,15,11,11,0,3,35,11,97,8,66,38,13,90,0,3,7,2,91,20,0,1,55,319,110,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058153415490850936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049265399445522384,0.0,0.1485341648437767,0.12156423911441065,0.08800104888576406,0.16062067741505298,0.0,0.04484201025288054,0.059372459223607774,0.05530316862403479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12054466027810555,0.0,0.0,0.055747364273287116,0.0,0.16575815799154608,0.0,0.059105147816647274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16992884897991284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060396330292945465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05445099191680555,0.0,0.06961289887918239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09472290416345648,0.0,0.0993577331401179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05772794622330351,0.0,0.08964957112809811,0.0,0.057780499933823684,0.0,0.0,0.08259739400676358,0.05055260359341944,0.0,0.0,0.16858921875673982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05609786786273218,0.0944138901855238,0.05202824149908185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03532227479666932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0608062724111207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2750144508711757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05579944066469423,0.0,0.4849843283056205,0.037222067581928184,0.05149103971625655,0.0,0.13959956731490855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09512377932054904,0.0,0.0,0.1068547480062065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0532098312861012,0.0,0.126188823201345,0.05600950130884051,0.0,0.15629922635467214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989067716926505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05529755508781936,0.056121517014648514,0.0,0.0,0.05607425448866902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05046999722289264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05998171879615188,0.0,0.05418219233049802,0.0,0.056577796133161225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04190746534696058,0.0,0.0,0.29395368497094143,0.0,0.05497537661646965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05923461946732141,0.052735932786584366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07459965433520953,0.0,0.04208459105679389,0.0881155663284901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04606026551290345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700202531053437,0.10130001138128897,0.0,0.12550867904808224,0.21509988292998167,0.0,0.0,0.05035507789129647,0.11709855628809453,0.21467038772060512,0.0,0.0,0.0548603463773384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062165144073273275,0.04182912029994197,0.04227105664739562,0.0,0.0,0.04885145809306616,0.047551635567748426,0.0,0.060599955543774627,0.10159774196603692,0.0,0.07672936127404975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10180711121909264
divorce,kidvisions,2020/01/06,"How do you divorce after ten years together? (F30/M31) We met almost eleven years ago. We were students, young, learning and hungry for love. Having had an abusive childhood and teenage years, I found refuge in him. He was my haven, he was my soul mate. We worked hard to build a life together. We overcame so many social and financial obstacles to be together. In my society, you can only live with a person when you are married to them. So we did that.

 There were so many problems. My narcissistic controlling mother wanted things to go her way, his father was also a narc, a controlling heartless, emotionless person. I made so many sacrifices and helped him so much. I encouraged him to get his driver's license, open his business  get a car, and I even helped him with money. There were some red flags but I didn't want to pay attention. When we got married, two years ago, I started seeing some even stranger patterns of behavior. He is very agressive, has no patience and hs is extremely selfish. He grew up without relatives and it was basically just his father, mom and brother. 

His mom is very submissive and he seems distant from his family. It's like there are no connections, there are no bonds. He didn't learn to make sacrifices for others, to show others he cares by making gestures.

 He calculates everything, he is very very obsessed with money and wants to control everything.
Yes, he has done sacrifices for me, but or seems like they all had conditions. He has no notion of unconditional love, of selfless love, of giving your all to the other person. 

He is so accustomed to taking, much more than giving. He takes things for granted and almost never initiate acts of love. I have to talk to him explicitly and have long conversations to convince him of something I need him to do. He thinks because he is rational and blessed with a great intelligence, his opinions are more superior than everyone else. It takes a long time to explain to him my. Point of view and feelings and sometimes he just doesn't get them. It is exhausting... 


In the meantime I developed a friendship where my friend cared for me in a very unconditional way. I have to say, that I may have developed some feelings for this friend. Please note that I am not interested in getting involved in infidelity. It's a red line for me. However, I am considering ending this relationship...


I've been thinking about it for a few months now.
But how do you do it? How do you decide its time to let go? How do you let go of ten years of relationships and so many shared memories?",4.392378048780486,6.64007854831933,5.076040172166426,79.34815638450503,72.34033613445378,8.509448657511786,29.67698298831728,9.18016646516576,2.7925797909407666,2023,86,362,46,41,651,234,476,0.07,0.757,0.17300000000000001,0.9963,1,0,1,0,1,0,71.0,6,7,3,4,25,22,1,1,14,1,47,6,0,10,4,73,84,34,0,5,8,6,3,2,3,1,2,1,0,3,18,27,0,3,12,1,3,6,10,5,0,4,18,8,54,17,54,62,10,39,5,0,4,4,80,10,0,10,23,251,72,5,0.0,0.08976397308011243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343144771649361,0.0,0.1517266800436259,0.0,0.0,0.060585758563621035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046182984580662716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544860487480048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549160084041143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775294409744719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0632882955490799,0.0,0.06710144244665182,0.0,0.0,0.10007837992255963,0.0,0.0,0.07239254071262778,0.13617756109670495,0.0,0.07142039137530169,0.0,0.0766137145629955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08306763426888274,0.11706496917340425,0.0,0.1583272355385128,0.14535302364802785,0.12916955738508842,0.0,0.06059270680160581,0.0835263759911936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06786665491658846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10156152361835516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15494078012082654,0.053511982419128815,0.07402564637158313,0.0,0.06689803546808061,0.1340915694113848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27350775157442897,0.07168655190057964,0.10114163453313853,0.3072376022166341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17745989807443166,0.06047142217250547,0.0,0.11138557897271087,0.056175556572758925,0.05843127811484902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057619382648223014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19845381283944985,0.0,0.08316243514665395,0.07161829531747828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07249270332732106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.162677155175588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06024790385275625,0.0,0.0,0.06037142343653418,0.1379392874138048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07722843442914998,0.0,0.058324244049769165,0.0749292127853386,0.0,0.0536237728126228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17088772425598198,0.06089353480795436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10066400919048578,0.09708872147168486,0.0,0.0,0.08835327997196947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07400713942686939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3125523224542186,0.13405676979427286,0.12027054355168985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07303055599938438,0.0,0.05515465016136587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24393684981394415
divorce,linearcomplexity,2020/01/06,"Scared. In so many ways. Hi everyone, I read the posting guidelines, so if I break any standards, let me know.  
  
The background the faq’s suggested.  I’m about to start the process.  I have an appointment with my attorney this week to get things in order.  I’m the one seeking a divorce after 2 3/4 years of alcoholism, substance abuse, emotional abuse, and neglect.  We live together in my house (Bought and paid before she moved in).  We have a prenup that stipulates no access to each other’s real properties, inheritances, retirement accounts and no alimony.  
  
I’m not emotionally great, as evidenced by seeking strangers opinions in the middle of the night, but I have two specific questions (keeping in mind that I just started, and I’ve never been divorced before).  

The first is easy: any recommendations as to the worth of The Divorce Roadmap by Karen Covey?  It’s $375 for the basic package, but I’m feeling lost.  Is it really worth the money (my sincere hope is that we’ll be able to settle everything through mediation).  
  
The second and more worrisome thing is that she’s threatening my dog.  He’s highly anxious, and he did bite her once (Unprovoked - not her fault at all).  But now it seems like she’s provoking him then acting scared, and has said if he bites her or the kids she’s putting him down immediately.  I’m afraid she’ll cause an unsafe situation and actually do it, and treats any suggestion that we take active steps towards improving their relationship as a direct insult and “Victim blaming”. 
  
I agreed to have them continue living in my house until the end of the school year for my 3 step kids, but I can’t afford an entirely separate place because she’s spent all my money.  I’m at a complete loss as to what to do here.  

Does anybody have experience or support to share?  I could really use some insight or ideas.  I feel trapped, scared, and heartbroken.  I know she’s doing t His to hurt me, and it’s working.

Sorry for the bare bones post, but this is on my phone, so I’m not at my most eloquent.",4.349873662932701,6.275636767624023,5.249274825233723,79.43321991072182,71.66318537859006,8.597287964288721,30.109407900277944,9.19923166143015,2.7687185883938352,1594,68,292,35,31,520,224,383,0.16699999999999998,0.7340000000000001,0.099,-0.9831,1,1,1,0,5,0,57.0,4,0,2,4,7,18,2,4,24,0,22,2,1,3,3,55,47,31,0,4,14,0,2,1,0,2,1,1,0,2,16,17,1,2,8,1,9,5,7,11,0,4,7,3,40,7,41,35,6,40,0,4,0,0,36,16,0,11,15,186,56,3,0.1033532088783298,0.2449133041580743,0.10085782298563196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11045314857302846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108511785094366,0.0,0.0,0.11675970771121198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06300315684242737,0.0,0.17589193686386478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061722154697058,0.0,0.0,0.10836387313184244,0.0,0.0,0.08251912736219867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904450895744104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325168980530337,0.09154026620855636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09875842018770732,0.09288719988646328,0.1010992702089099,0.0,0.0,0.1045169756506911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08791218667389611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05399778589254247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139472776572383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10919833966488103,0.0,0.10265305666123163,0.0,0.2385114531562903,0.1106417477061618,0.11667319262781235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09186508084415697,0.0,0.0,0.11360044135922102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568565847223127,0.0,0.0504931572857216,0.0,0.18252555391625885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11282223645008947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10478393187504637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10435727827914004,0.0,0.0,0.10984810462816263,0.0,0.0,0.07971236621018962,0.0,0.0,0.09698998519393337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11006779437158216,0.07003480913802569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10798210566867968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979676092794749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10389852127056108,0.11577924743675805,0.0,0.10338117772446663,0.11763857860053355,0.13242142423524564,0.0,0.0,0.11096266747665873,0.0,0.0,0.09831256928997867,0.0,0.3104237766008242,0.10459896514934988,0.0,0.0940888796877742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617333710894315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156954556874506,0.1463078664002571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11728399664419148,0.0,0.0,0.07770875061095654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373265590563683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009610672655131,0.0,0.0,0.08926398854812684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08203696651172965,0.08290370999273998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07524236699420092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13311215589917194
divorce,not_sure_why_imhere,2020/01/06,"The straw that broke this camel's back I (33F) and my husband (42M) have been together for 10 years, married 7. We have a 5 and 2 year old. 

I feel like I've gone through hell and back. He's had massive anxiety since our oldest was a few months old. He burned through his short term disability with his job, at the end of which they kicked him to try for long term disability that he was not recommended for by his own doctors. He stayed home, refusing to watch our children to save on daycare costs and rarely helped at all around the house (like dishwasher unloaded once every other week). I've been managing two kids, him, the household tasks and stressing with my job to get promoted to increase our income (successfully done, but although I make more now, my job also comes home with me) . 

Then his back went out last July. This took some time to get through all of the various appointments and doctors before he finally got back surgery recently. He doesn't take his after care seriously. He's lifting things he shouldn't (like our 2yo), doing outdoor activities he shouldn't even consider (ice!), and the worst part is his drinking is out of control. His medications are interacting terribly and he doesn't remember any of the things he does when he mixes them. He keeps doing it though. Been promising me to go to AA (or wherever he wants to get help) but never follows through for years now. 

He rolled his truck yesterday and got a DUI. This throws a big kink into an exit plan that would get me and my kids back near my family (I moved 1200 miles away to be with him after  long distance dating for some time) so I have some support close by. I was planning on bringing him too to try to snap him out of it by changing up the environment.

I don't think I can let this pass. I've broken and can't let this go to abide my time until I can get out according to my strategy. 

I've been dealing with so much anger and resentment trying to help him for years when he could give a shit less. I can't help him. I'm exhausted from trying. I feel a bit like I've failed him reaching this point, but I need to look out for my kids and myself too. I have built up this stone facade to try to endure this until he makes it through but this broke it. We are months away from listing our home to move, but I don't know if I can deal with him anymore. 

I just need advice I guess. Thoughts or experiences from anyone who has gotten out of a bad marriage and moved or wanted to move out of state with custody. I'll be making an appointment with an attorney this week to get the more legal tidbits, but any things to be prepared for, aware of, etc. would be appreciated. 

Throw me any other ideas as well. I'm emotional after today and know I'm in a fog.",5.396507672705113,5.557402513711153,5.802516204088416,82.98464627998452,67.73857404021939,9.189718021162262,29.555647886543678,9.0124134603493,2.1339255332114564,2153,71,449,35,33,692,268,547,0.102,0.818,0.079,-0.9522,4,0,1,0,0,0,62.0,7,0,2,6,19,23,4,1,20,0,40,6,1,4,3,79,80,36,0,10,12,1,2,4,0,4,4,0,3,4,24,36,1,3,8,1,1,16,10,13,2,1,16,4,56,10,82,53,19,84,1,3,2,0,59,25,2,8,45,285,80,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06990495873183959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05720797415278104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14594248497475532,0.0,0.05472547632054075,0.0,0.07094530917865825,0.050020212268453115,0.0,0.0,0.06368294210183514,0.0,0.0,0.13442240632894453,0.2750370186295718,0.059730261871757735,0.0,0.0,0.06087257025169138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07809968645251253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07293656210032043,0.0,0.07567647678895732,0.06162264156065263,0.0,0.0,0.08023463360397286,0.05711633480221982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14750265350361955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14644194600176352,0.06260235878009587,0.07320701036844568,0.0,0.07007885542740272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08046930100265688,0.06336039485370687,0.0,0.07978247123919152,0.04724939909640548,0.0,0.06027286152231635,0.0,0.0,0.0699767429697445,0.0674385532284663,0.0,0.07234233764467761,0.05110592300800541,0.0,0.07836509652771803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22425023503313474,0.06862464230065722,0.08131205391503098,0.0,0.11442907002355206,0.0,0.07880587931112082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19179850697007328,0.0,0.2152718086289655,0.0,0.0,0.08254389284101414,0.0,0.08075636940904825,0.0,0.0,0.21296778539124528,0.06358521814096965,0.0,0.0,0.07862953777823771,0.05831206133385245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463025033359293,0.0,0.1397971194772256,0.0,0.0,0.12661568029947048,0.0600729170884327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14325416115899156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07206582644924768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11420002451545905,0.3041293005338074,0.052587798468942286,0.10608730053475487,0.055173610554005714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15013173084111806,0.07618438530833332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07746741167848302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06762542360654174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07063398571189362,0.0,0.08103727893584446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734315241931099,0.059176001962953736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762487385664741,0.0,0.0,0.0819451928378452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08117914274431297,0.0,0.0,0.05378679051556248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425776660823021,0.04583790976757511,0.07028456863507923,0.056792249347330084,0.12514109611193824,0.0,0.06780854675821882,0.0,0.07948004620913242,0.24284404631184986,0.0,0.06988108459527992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438854722316466,0.0,0.11476505405849967,0.0,0.06432019807814891,0.0663153546840979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016354178344476,0.0,0.0,0.18426948286089612
divorce,Kelexa,2020/01/06,"Stay at home mom help 3 kids, married for 12 years I love him, but I’m tired of my emotional needs being laughed at. I’ve been a stay at home mom for 11 years. I want out. I don’t even know where to start. I have no income, I will not move in with family. We have about $30k equity in our house, a ton of credit card and medical debt, two car payments. What do I do? Do I start looking for a full time job? Do I tell him why? Would I qualify for any sort of state assistance until I get everything taken care of? I’m terrified to make this move. Please, any advice?",-0.43343091334894623,1.5761948606557397,2.0266042154566755,96.05393442622952,88.09836065573771,6.108665105386418,16.911007025761126,7.447530270364453,0.09965152224824304,431,10,105,8,14,147,84,122,0.11900000000000001,0.701,0.18,0.7193,3,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,3,0,11,3,0,1,0,12,24,3,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,2,1,2,4,0,0,1,0,2,3,3,0,0,1,2,1,15,4,19,19,2,20,0,0,1,1,10,8,0,1,6,59,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497169986725464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20837883535608204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15620985076385022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17234288453857838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10119508472827614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376970714747218,0.0,0.14443464336938372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08004694933866467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026947777896184,0.0,0.30736826753950786,0.0,0.0,0.17678608383579705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15203927456719704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08420131144291401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286594972823924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13827981685870375,0.0,0.10227020345510324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543449769311385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35888009848699104,0.0,0.32568023006044244,0.0,0.1136047608172156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16818077345751212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21688849229662494,0.3266072249475664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13391404599526152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08933915256924634,0.17609466205167545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496658669054092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09036841049470556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13825000445960248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10883741291784076,0.0,0.0,0.197327016719273
divorce,adgezaza87,2020/01/06,"I'm posting here because it just happened and I don't think it will feel real until I share it. - 6 years
- 2 kids
- dead bedroom
- no shared interests
- different perspectives 

Still lots to figure out. But, I'm happy to give her everything so her my girls are taken care of.",1.8266666666666684,4.369096603773588,3.4399056603773595,86.1333176100629,82.9622641509434,6.552201257861638,23.927672955974842,7.793537801064563,1.5521220125786166,212,8,40,4,6,70,45,53,0.11,0.6609999999999999,0.22899999999999998,0.7184,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,9,11,4,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,3,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,5,5,5,9,1,5,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,3,24,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854917659990052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3102429419045638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3179172676516773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734753559846993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15385767445597398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2919017609470072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690817808460457,0.32392132650979083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586956485075932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29142477374341724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34634752904208665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24300560930578696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19497612126944447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19595215629770504
divorce,Butterflyinterrupted,2020/01/06,"Cancer and Divorce Im not sure where to start. Ive been trying to get my stbxh to accept service and now we are doing alternative service. In the meantime the spouse is at my house and tells me he was in the hospital with a collapsed lung. His doctors believe he may have cancerous nodules that weren't there a year ago, so he is waiting for a diagnosis.

My question is has anyone dealt with illness while trying to get divorced? We are only allowed email contact at the moment for reasons im not getting into. I have no desire to be married to him but his family are shit human beings and he has severe mental illness. I struggle because i feel like if this is for sure cancer this would push over the edge and he would try to kill himself again. 

Its 50 steps ahead but im curious as to peoples experience.",4.164979166666669,5.609801206250005,5.392500000000003,80.14916666666669,71.3125,7.083333333333335,30.833333333333336,7.492282038375204,2.099895833333334,643,28,116,7,12,214,105,160,0.215,0.731,0.054000000000000006,-0.9838,1,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,2,0,0,1,6,7,2,1,8,0,21,8,2,2,2,27,27,11,1,4,5,1,1,1,0,3,6,0,0,1,4,10,0,1,4,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,3,1,14,4,21,19,0,17,0,0,0,0,19,7,1,3,9,84,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375425707002784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10849352462761784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09458587869177132,0.0,0.0,0.17481548192094742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15881582818750753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15177911373112296,0.14627379620613898,0.0,0.07845503682340726,0.1108484243675051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431986720362321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17903718246421915,0.0,0.0,0.5028077541158276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17166478681688332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580476739818848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15636773333012116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180083960996652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107570435112797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738179863029202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15953332888093086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752899394752595,0.1592725123942194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10982511668103767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16220997831897588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29247844039523624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13561923522014638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31603632201083226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204465796482489,0.0,0.0,0.09991983625335232
divorce,herbyx18,2020/01/06,"The worst is knowing I love you more than you love me. through all of it, there’s been very little top the misery of realizing no matter what i cannot ever reject you wholeheartedly. i am always soft for you. always partial to hearing you out. or listening to you. or interacting with you in any way. even though it’s jaded and cynical and superbly horrendous, the acceptance that i love you more than you love me is so hurtful. i could never imagine myself saying some things you say to me, to you. they’re not even hurtful or offensive, but it’s the blasé nature of them. the feeling that i can look at you and not melt. the feeling that when i see you i don’t crumble like butter and want nothing more than to be lying down sweet talking you and giving you those dopey loving eyes. there is coldness to you where there is true and tender warmth for you with me. there is indifference in yourself where there is true adoration in me. there is impatience where there is never ending curiosity and excitement. 

it’s a deference, a supplication of sorts, a dream for us that doesn’t die even though it must, a base desire for you that i cannot transcend. you are bloody beautiful. in soul and everything else. and i knew i was punching and that dynamic led to insecurity which led to over reaching and ultimately pushing you away through the dreaded self-fulfilling prophecy. fear of being alone, but that’s how it came.",5.001863468634689,6.554789656826571,5.500404059040594,79.76145479704797,69.40590405904061,8.519630996309964,29.41715867158672,8.982922981607832,2.4260950553505527,1131,43,209,21,20,363,145,271,0.163,0.61,0.22699999999999998,0.9642,0,1,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,20,1,1,20,23,2,3,11,0,21,7,1,3,7,45,37,21,1,4,7,0,3,1,0,1,1,4,0,0,17,15,0,0,7,1,0,4,9,9,0,0,4,13,39,14,33,29,6,24,1,3,3,5,34,14,0,5,6,167,56,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309751597746283,0.0,0.0,0.21045088700219666,0.0,0.0,0.08599762114081977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11881400238916225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14463736578060074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10096858886820707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13124625418377373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10564169835475933,0.0,0.11200665590087124,0.0,0.0,0.25057832412503045,0.11439095462591245,0.0,0.0,0.1136547343174109,0.0,0.0,0.1423034599289726,0.12788467209430587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12131263882173228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14253041406804934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.270757616880007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06949950045218488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061782316435100765,0.12674685652043788,0.0,0.0,0.1061951487016656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5706786527199801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19506859533940066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12134246447481944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011332689591432,0.0,0.0,0.10077281507737666,0.0,0.13192610337542807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10164433060056507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08401487827899498,0.0,0.24849401625185485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15211666664974918,0.0,0.0,0.10434333199313993,0.07458980481910962,0.1003786274588278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,divorcethrowaway55,2020/01/06,"Serious question: How d you learn to ""love yourself""? I see this in posts all the time.

  


But how do you do it? Are there any links, recommended blog posts, books, podcasts, etc?

  


I know that I hate myself and I'm trying to change it. But I don't even know where to begin to learn how to ""love myself"" and learn how to ""enjoy alone time"". Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.",1.7804054054054037,4.202145351351351,3.006689189189192,89.98138513513516,81.97297297297297,5.8621621621621625,20.06081081081081,7.1686216300943375,0.4241675675675678,292,8,61,4,8,94,48,74,0.084,0.706,0.21,0.9106,0,1,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,2,0,0,7,6,1,0,1,0,6,2,0,4,1,17,14,8,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,7,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,8,4,7,12,2,7,0,0,1,2,6,2,0,1,3,39,12,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300825550980673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021420617234981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350074420578196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24775829005969094,0.14672935225805314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449234501024881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21932918459652875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441779444223375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4010018473233301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42552056416058026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488611690906781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770264439251276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590773261955884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15082667841916805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15781046225474205,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,gildakid,2020/01/06,"Am I an A Hole Middle of divorce. STBXW refuses to get a job to get on her feet and move out. I still support her 100%. Here’s a mindf*** for you though. She is gone all day everyday I’m home. Ok fine. BUT, I’m filling her damn gas tank every 2-3 days!!!! I just told her I’m not providing gas anymore. That said, until she moves out, I can’t have my father move in (from another state) to help with getting my kids to/from school when I work. So she’s putting me in the position where if she’s on E, she can’t get my kids to school. WTH do I do??? Any advice is greatly appreciated",-1.2173129921259829,0.7502059055118124,1.6284596456692917,97.5248941929134,92.30708661417322,5.064763779527559,18.173720472440944,6.6274283507984215,-0.13832244094488194,438,13,110,6,16,152,86,127,0.07400000000000001,0.8059999999999999,0.12,0.5787,1,0,0,0,1,0,28.0,0,1,0,1,7,5,1,0,5,1,8,1,1,0,1,10,19,7,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,1,4,0,1,0,0,0,6,3,1,0,0,3,1,20,4,15,16,1,21,0,0,0,0,18,8,1,1,6,61,21,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16658486691541188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11592792022134868,0.1787564742249422,0.0,0.0,0.16906404212519194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2198827882769662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436313932152134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3562617610771365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879477886783117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142648867040664,0.0,0.1709989593569067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16916878206386715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5435594982129572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17137309219873262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16215946863528272,0.0,0.0,0.34505684737806963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13614046821086848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19345146518496092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16748948464723162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16289486742699769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12410683942815308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,backflippled,2020/01/06,"A love before Listen to Lindsay Webster A love before, lyrics explains Narcissistic behaviors beautifully.",10.579999999999998,15.533331333333333,10.148333333333337,35.66250000000002,69.0,11.0,47.5,10.125756701596842,8.129000000000001,90,6,6,3,2,29,12,15,0.0,0.452,0.5479999999999999,0.9201,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6859962085683062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7276051139388104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Tom_A_Haverford,2020/01/06,"Does anyone else have to deal with nightmares? Several nights a week I still dream about her. But it's never happy dreams about us, it's about her and him, or her telling me about her Affair all over again. It seems like I can't get a restful night's sleep no matter what I try. I exercise every day, I eat healthy, I go to bed at an early time, nothing is working. I hope it fades soon. Anyone else have to deal with this?",1.0143434343434343,3.0890324545454533,2.168787878787878,96.92873737373738,82.4090909090909,4.8202020202020215,18.868686868686872,5.82211442006289,-0.3710646464646463,328,8,74,2,9,104,63,88,0.142,0.762,0.096,-0.6164,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,1,7,3,0,0,3,0,4,3,1,0,2,10,8,3,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,6,3,1,0,1,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,14,3,11,8,2,14,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,3,12,48,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469870438830463,0.36192648573615466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11390225533290214,0.3641652314292638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15455723630498613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18072154055007844,0.29507883517503103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488060047993624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092274202982281,0.0,0.10037454319840222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880102674528104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754188404309791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08628531276950731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13621660477921174,0.0,0.0,0.3314829833520808,0.0,0.16946714049530515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16078393288129514,0.0,0.1995250136910547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767428461245669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14104520406356513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543695539234826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029857997905948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199101931060563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21244645582552896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14167013771782735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12857803945344826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,shesaidzed,2020/01/06,"Trying to Navigate Amicably I will try to keep this as brief as possible, but I have a tendency toward long-windedness. 

So my [33F] husband [36M] are trying to separate and divorce as amicably as possible. We got married when I was 24, he was 26, but had been dating since I was 21.  We have had a cat together since the begining and added a dog 3 years ago when we moved from our home state of Wisconsin to Illinois. We do not have any children nor do we share any property. 

Our problems began with communication. I have Generalized Anxiety Depression and Clinical Depression. In the beginning of our relationship it was untreated. He was afraid of bringing up problems in case it would ""send me over the edge."" We struggled with money, I struggled to finish college (due to my untreated and undiagnosed issues). We got married anyway and SURPRISE nothing was magically fixed. Two short years later I got hurt at work and had to have back surgery. It was a long road to recovery which ultimately ended up killing our sex lives. I was interested. He wasn't. I put up to my weight gain from the surgery, which he later admitted was a turn off. 

Finally a turn in our fortunes was three years ago. I was turned down for a promotion, but recommended for another position in the Chicagoland area. We adopted a rescue dog at the same time. Surely this would fix everything! It didn't.

He continued to turn me down for sex. I continued to be depressed, trying to figure out how to live in my new body that wasn't quite as strong as my old one.  He has never gotten along with my family and that year had a major blow out with my father over a joke. Yes, the ""joke"" my father made was cruel and not at a funny, but I said I wouldn't choose between them. Neither let up, neither apologized. It was clear they cared more about their spat than me.

Around that time he made a friend through work. Everyone at their job thought that something was going on. To be honest, so did I. I cautioned him to be careful, to pay attention. He raised a few things that were obvious red-flags. (I.e. ""She said she's never met anyone like me before. What does that mean?') I thought at first it was one sided. I tried to believe in him. 

One night he came home and told me he was in love with her. I was mad. So mad I was quiet. I told him he was stupid for going after a child (she's nine years younger), that she wasn't even pretty, that he's just going to screw this one up too. I told him to drop the friendship and we went to marriage counseling. I caught him still texting her several times. I never ""snooped"" he was just terrible at hiding it. 

He said he never cheated, I chose to believe him. But we did have a weird sock in our laundry. We had shared laundry with the other apartments on our floor, so I didn't think much of it. Later, I noticed those are the kind of socks she wears.

Eventually I fell out of love. It's easy to do when someone doesn't love you back. I said we need a divorce. I gave him permission to pursue her and they started dating last April. Call me stupid, but I want him to be happy. 

I dated around, getting my feet wet and met someone too. My ex and I have been living together in separate rooms.  His girlfriend has been living with us too. Naturally, I'm slowly going insane.  I chose to remove myself from the lease, giving up my portion of the security deposit.  

I got a great deal with my boyfriend in the same community, $300 less than we have been paying for this apartment. My ex tried negotiating his payment as well, but the leasing office said no. He then realized with his brand new promotion (where his gf who has a master's degree works part-time and attributes nothing to rent) allowed him to get a house. If he leaves the apartment as well, he'd owe $4000 to break the lease. 

He thinks it's fair for him to pay half and me half. I don't have that kind of money and I'm not sure what to do. I don't want to leave the guy hanging, it was my idea to move out.  At the same time, I didn't expect him to move out, much less buy a house. Should I be on the hook for half of this 4k? 

He also wanted to do it all without lawyers, but I want to make sure I'm not getting screwed over.  I have a tendency to protect the people I love ferociously, but tend to let people steam-roll me. 

TL-DR: Married when we were too immature, started falling apart after I had a major surgery, things got worse with family feuds, bad finances, and emotional (and likely physical) cheating. Not sure if I'm being taken advantage of for my kind heart.",3.0415593349335523,4.864155913236933,4.2753473157309285,85.4791189772262,74.96218020022245,7.445705754932381,26.178224342837076,8.247132709527115,1.6761370411568417,3542,129,715,61,76,1162,386,899,0.135,0.736,0.129,-0.7242,4,0,1,0,2,0,134.0,22,1,5,11,27,53,11,3,42,1,78,15,5,6,11,115,144,49,1,14,19,5,2,2,3,5,1,6,4,3,35,51,1,3,11,2,10,18,24,23,2,11,67,8,118,30,125,63,15,122,0,4,0,8,111,51,2,2,52,485,153,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959917955105008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0432993960862912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736403337276404,0.056775306555861674,0.041420450737965034,0.0,0.0,0.03785914490780523,0.0,0.0,0.0964002999527178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08326767017640006,0.04520845748210101,0.0,0.0,0.046073044346571064,0.12200478664305832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06014241544405409,0.0,0.0,0.055287663550944964,0.06192696812002015,0.11040800302139782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05582067808218055,0.1399039261617911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047382281384695885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06090535783693101,0.04795602140407367,0.0,0.0,0.03576198032901423,0.0,0.0,0.05173746055712813,0.04866165164705776,0.0,0.10208537082356524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05931273400509245,0.0,0.0460553467935864,0.0,0.0,0.04183196338745113,0.0,0.08486491518832755,0.05194040887238379,0.12308643615500715,0.0,0.2165218092456639,0.059694583734514826,0.0,0.053611640635407964,0.0,0.05763790559817096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06416158061980681,0.0,0.0,0.1086228443508544,0.0,0.0,0.12495113709436258,0.05796288607127585,0.06112263329225486,0.0,0.056512867819620685,0.05373013482729378,0.048126184964464996,0.059902948696474466,0.16914972478675014,0.0,0.04413505420694645,0.0,0.1146625715377322,0.0,0.11073299018490744,0.0,0.05290460759719723,0.0,0.19124260247301625,0.0958324879217118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19547036711038465,0.10246580973461536,0.03614192343458488,0.0,0.0,0.058979313867122275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726413394323087,0.07960498335884866,0.04014751539105549,0.16703853281072945,0.10458633349695094,0.0,0.050811014634194934,0.0,0.10390635764945153,0.0616439561111109,0.05681562207961891,0.0,0.14675905785117518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0586332970485611,0.0,0.07507406003647063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12207974312012132,0.0,0.0550844968552224,0.0,0.10361808943729008,0.0,0.05443025147590085,0.0,0.05758941899746019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05813100919370458,0.0,0.0,0.2575194432151983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061167956726008436,0.0,0.0895779018831947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917530433082257,0.04168313815684164,0.0,0.0,0.07664761599763904,0.0,0.04323992655843118,0.0,0.0,0.11320732911476973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20412248003441516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07194249785609012,0.06938731322641763,0.0,0.08596948714017401,0.1262885455502544,0.0,0.0,0.1552123816713844,0.0,0.220563668701978,0.2355749930475137,0.052891381064287424,0.0,0.06512925560627299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277434898010583,0.0,0.0,0.06593350422533477,0.09736494865197348,0.050192562341067504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05219343696586407,0.0,0.11825368370175633,0.0,0.05517794637747976,0.07692550345266014,0.0,0.0,0.17433665155887448
divorce,raucous_mute,2020/01/06,"Dear r/divorce readers Wanted to make sure everyone here, whether you're new to divorce or recovering, knows it's possible to get thru it. Please feel free to discuss your own feelings about this.
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That being said, I got separated in July 2018 after 15 years. Blindsided.
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No kids. Found a cheap place to live, leaned *heavily* on my friends, and made sure to get out and about and involved myself in all kinds of new things. I built a routine of involving myself in the community and became a regular at a few different bars. Went to dance classes, went to the gym, volunteered at nonprofits. Worked on building a network of single friends, some men, some women, some older, some younger, some parents, some not.
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I could go on, but the basic message I want you to understand is this: after all this time, I'm really only *now* starting to feel normal again. It takes time. You can do this. When you're going thru hell, keep going.
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It'll happen. Keep working. I love you and if you need anything, dm me.",3.0839109742441195,5.63539446276596,4.023202687569992,83.84184210526318,77.77659574468085,6.9366181410974255,26.916013437849944,8.032893268588372,1.9581234042553184,781,32,142,14,19,251,125,188,0.042,0.851,0.107,0.8047,2,0,0,0,2,0,43.0,0,5,0,2,6,9,1,0,8,0,6,2,0,2,4,36,33,10,0,6,5,1,3,0,2,1,0,1,0,3,10,6,1,2,6,3,2,6,2,1,0,0,6,4,14,9,28,24,11,28,1,0,0,1,18,10,1,8,12,91,24,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11766064050552735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11415817037267025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14938402780264656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13662384610587405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168854742149187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567705673680161,0.2209325183961416,0.0,0.14940265702547026,0.0,0.24377707366010185,0.0,0.11435444270512934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12643704611582227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25417499882846484,0.0,0.14889202600501386,0.07857825787574442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12625426338962625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12904534290419709,0.13529145873750376,0.0954404899684759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10601811347629164,0.0,0.2761826146586233,0.0,0.0,0.14009037964755647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10874299465321992,0.0,0.0,0.15876275157531894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14938402780264656,0.15694948166509445,0.0,0.16118885481701647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915968696717204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13600704943859573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10120222349220807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26951456448251404,0.0,0.10750342466365796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949897873776531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16674597696132426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14884758071376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686670229237074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2650884229377084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20818278683111135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09207465382609101
divorce,HappinessSuitsYou,2020/01/06,"Would love to know some examples of your parenting plans, for 50/50 custody or close to it. I’ve been a stay at home mom for 9 years, we were married for 11. We separated this last summer and I’ve continued to stay home only because plans were already set into motion for the school year. Our elementary aged daughter does non traditional school, basically homeschooled but has classes all over town all through the week. 

Ive been determined to find a job before child support and alimony were calculated which will be coming in the next couple of weeks or so since we have now officially met with a mediator. I’m a fair person who knows her worth and income potential, I want to work. I NEED to work for my own self worth. We will be needing a full time nanny to finish out this school year with us and hopefully will be able to travel between two homes.. 

Anyway back to the point of my post! I should start work officially in a few weeks, full time M-F. Our parenting plan has basically been every other Friday night- Sunday afternoon for him. Plus every Wednesday night to Thursday morning, he takes them to school. And if he didn’t have them on that weekend, he will take them Monday night to Tuesday morning (like 6pm to 7am). 

So far the parenting plan is revolving around his work schedule and he’s relegated me to stay at home mom status of which I held for 9 years. It’s not totally his fault, we are just figuring this out and trying to make sure our daughters feel the least amount of change too fast. We have two girls ages 6 and almost 9. The 6 year old is in regular elementary school. Things will have to change. The logistics of this are so confusing to me, because I overthink everything. 

I’d love some examples of parenting plans that are 50/50 or close to it. I like 4-3-3-4. I would love the same days and times each week but then someone will always miss out on a weekend?

Thank you :)",4.8620008293593235,6.041314272237197,5.464487870619943,81.29997874766745,69.35040431266846,8.942193655401203,28.55494505494506,9.265573868473778,2.319413767364711,1509,53,296,30,26,487,204,371,0.013999999999999999,0.853,0.133,0.9929,6,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,10,2,3,9,9,12,0,1,16,0,31,3,0,1,4,58,52,20,0,8,8,8,1,2,0,9,0,0,4,4,14,27,0,1,5,3,2,3,2,3,0,2,9,1,31,9,50,31,13,66,0,1,0,3,40,20,0,9,40,180,45,11,0.0757860805779283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07588881242213688,0.0,0.08363182445801999,0.0,0.06306009013717108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.067465679296496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05827481796885251,0.0,0.09239698259867353,0.0,0.06448837266322982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16034324875154884,0.06528299785970647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08385585668518733,0.0,0.04887575234674667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06632090982712968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12770608302751546,0.0,0.0681116425087565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038319719457135484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06926710466761367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30407847215588835,0.07527267811159286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07520599098952276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08330009581679541,0.0617757707044431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07405050173516285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20519968982315007,0.0,0.050587797274327315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17751948323854244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11238883693318734,0.0,0.0,0.08059935646896545,0.21336030819747565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07952474297558285,0.0,0.0,0.05763872933109791,0.0,0.0,0.3366058952153084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06617348235524805,0.0,0.0,0.07164234237219955,0.0,0.07258211598604679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3834977978530204,0.0,0.0,0.07906141037280028,0.0,0.0,0.06269102900580982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06421330013855155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05364177790187368,0.24233363471157224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600114613414607,0.07142748405327451,0.0,0.1139634018010038,0.0,0.0,0.06977364081511313,0.0,0.0,0.05034890441760488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325744191215172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05145377398343083,0.0,0.1480639771528584,0.0,0.09116132364126424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04470059387450295,0.0,0.2431640899748143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22069267707438067,0.0,0.0,0.10767251446736498,0.0,0.0,0.2440187557396578
divorce,nrscoco75,2020/01/06,"Oh well I came back hoping we had changed enough to make it work. But now, I think, we are ending anyway. I’m disappointed that we couldn’t do better. 

I’m glad that I had a chance to try everything I felt I could. I can walk away with that closure. 

Oh well.....",0.10933333333333196,2.1389563272727297,1.9304545454545448,97.54901515151516,85.72727272727272,5.121212121212121,16.439393939393938,6.42735559955562,-0.5492424242424248,198,4,48,2,6,65,38,55,0.055999999999999994,0.71,0.233,0.8271,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,0,0,2,5,6,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,1,0,12,14,1,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,1,2,0,4,1,9,5,4,8,1,6,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,1,3,32,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428304202343181,0.19873875684200396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285856825033873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2956078543591911,0.0,0.0,0.2734149932645298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063582100788592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289176593206844,0.267056887482557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322859792696801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481608465827501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25670776835479925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17252316338506266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16560987406050134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17547646535356212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4647707523000454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18816098365738013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Lansky628,2020/01/06,Day One My husband(37M) cheated on me(35F) with a 22 year old co-worker. He's been lying about it since November and continuing to be with me and give me hope that we could save our marriage. I'm pretty sure he is with her right now. I feel like my whole life is a lie. Please tell me that it gets better.,1.1600512820512847,2.9069038000000016,2.6134615384615394,95.62070512820513,80.23076923076924,5.564102564102565,18.525641025641026,6.42735559955562,-0.28782051282051313,237,5,56,2,6,77,53,65,0.08900000000000001,0.653,0.257,0.8909999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,1,2,6,1,0,2,0,5,1,0,0,1,11,10,2,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,9,5,6,7,1,7,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,1,6,31,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23165228386206285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091266177956999,0.0,0.0,0.16892061748345105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13243766820344002,0.18712000454861535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368455374303523,0.2512633100753237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601516428030939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18500609748416832,0.12796382538851794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748473024690404,0.0,0.1774878531945306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875161204691764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26647293146427103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236833941547135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166679144948084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24686217873373786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22893489064976505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924310529219402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19068526567633332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16867177247586715
divorce,1stinkysloth,2020/01/07,"Husband is no longer excited by me sexually. Is it time to call it quits? I agreed to be the responsible one the other night. I drove while my husband got drunk. On our way home a touchy topic was brought up. I asked him why he no longer wants to have sex. Very frankly, he responded,” you don’t excite me anymore”. I’m 24 and he is 27. We have been married for several years now. We have kept the bedroom exciting. We always try new things, but somehow I’m still not enough.. Needless to say I cried myself to sleep that night. 

Our relationship has many other faults.. hints why I’m on this page. I have been trying to make it work between us. After that comment I feel like there is no point and that I deserve more.",0.9911274509803896,3.4090112500000025,2.3815849673202654,93.07485294117649,85.80555555555554,5.332679738562091,21.66503267973856,6.794906146795322,0.4909351307189542,556,19,119,7,17,179,100,144,0.077,0.838,0.085,0.0516,0,0,0,0,0,1,21.0,6,1,0,2,4,5,0,0,4,0,14,3,1,1,0,12,25,4,0,1,2,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,10,5,1,1,1,1,0,2,5,1,0,1,7,2,19,4,13,17,3,16,0,0,0,1,19,4,0,1,10,75,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14810654329821507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17652374100288834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664017967549319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18175334141240354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955197361852046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839169679333276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08999989020961291,0.12716004512800852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14235928882325086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17854403357355994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869596270607666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11881340117138625,0.1804595340761445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17190919599656262,0.0,0.3340735020140536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12061438046847713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16826331296788286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18932016042136476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19110059065699792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415491929359174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20108428912133544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781240803484956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14214746346045354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182523237109698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10379062733733006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416945674437451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141067115132289,0.0,0.0,0.14686495683489995,0.10498637771891704,0.14128456996041175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3212265681864162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12958286874319264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146232881491834
divorce,Whatiswrongwithme007,2020/01/07,"Want to leave but when faced with the chance I freeze. Seriously what the hell is wrong with me? Been married almost 20 years, stopped being unhappy in a long time. We don’t had sex, we fight constantly, and today we had a serious argument, one where she basically told me if I want to leave, please stop wasting her time and I froze. I can’t do it. In my mind I want to at least keep the family together until the kids graduate. I want to still take care of her since is sick. 2019 has been our worst year so far. Only had sex once and we barely talk when we’re in the same room but something is holding me back. Fear? Probably. I don’t like being accused of abandoning the family. I don’t want to be that dick who left when his wife was sick. I know a guy who left when his wife is sick and I know what people say about him but why do I care what people I’m not even friends with say or think? Why do I feel so bad at the actual thought of doing it?

In my mind it’s easy peasy. I even said next fight if she tells me to leave, I’m leaving. 

Here I sit alone in my bed upset with myself for not going through with it and I keep telling myself next time will be different but I know it won’t. 

What the F is wrong with me? 🤦‍♂️😩",-0.1929448621553896,1.839647875939853,1.8860451127819533,97.3330776942356,87.15789473684212,5.651929824561403,17.137343358395988,7.0316486544052195,-0.15339558897243055,949,22,232,14,30,316,143,266,0.297,0.611,0.09300000000000001,-0.997,1,1,1,0,2,0,25.0,5,0,0,0,13,16,3,2,11,0,26,7,2,0,0,45,47,19,0,7,9,2,3,1,1,2,3,3,2,2,12,15,0,6,6,0,0,1,7,12,0,1,9,6,38,4,26,32,3,33,1,1,0,3,28,12,2,4,20,143,50,1,0.0,0.0,0.09719755632371607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09973739732869996,0.10315802851088277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07658808312464363,0.08316382798368242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031025317536823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076347897812883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10406328916280637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13157286694046064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18779252139232372,0.11208037006261308,0.050361956697398264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07695255271098468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05660632862541432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09862201694210206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770623458887209,0.0,0.0,0.1642165917905774,0.0,0.0,0.42185816135425797,0.2164365574104644,0.0,0.0,0.048660692388138686,0.0,0.0,0.08814497313832237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20114002331324207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118565249345715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10607328540477344,0.0674931512926241,0.07575209922694995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13810350015550968,0.0,0.0,0.10933350462369808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107388213218267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947446733234886,0.1584156226988136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08239211906646735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07667877924983661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07954259036057941,0.16654410131724615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07488859506148629,0.0800566212105042,0.1741137428018775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0638211841633433,0.0,0.07907316505104701,0.17423684853562552,0.0,0.09441141126304667,0.09517434368976388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2937403254705335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17975131391138305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21779913619574132,0.0,0.12828133591802982
divorce,Divorceornot66,2020/01/07,"I feel conflicted. Me and my wife have been together for 17 years  

Our relationship started off badly at 17 and since then we have been unstable. She wanted me as an out from her dysfunctional family and me who left my dysfunctional family at 16 wanted a new one with her. To make a story short she and my mom had a giant falling out screaming at each other. I do blame my mom who have been hostile and rude to her  i tried patching things up because we have a kid and I wanted atleast some parts of my daughters life to be with my side. My wife warned me that it could have negative consequences for our relationships. Naively I said its better to patch things up. So my wife meets her and all is okay for a time.

About one year ago my mother sent me voice mail out of the blue disowning me, telling me how much she hated my wife etc. This caused a huge problem where understandably I made her patch things up and my idiotic evil mother continues the feud. 

My says because of this I have to disown my mother. I do agree she did totally fuck me over by sending that shit. 

Now.she dosen't respect me. Says a piece of our relationship is forever lost. She says she wants to seperate but live in the same house for our daughters sake.

I dont know if this is a.good.idea. if its over its done. My wife is very final in this regard. No couples therapy etc.",3.2103154625694685,5.1824060563909775,4.091863354037269,86.32487577639755,74.90225563909775,7.483229813664598,25.47499182739457,8.321376580360154,1.5896066034651843,1065,37,216,19,23,342,147,266,0.142,0.833,0.025,-0.9738,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,6,0,0,2,4,15,8,0,11,1,21,3,1,4,2,37,36,15,0,8,3,12,1,0,0,0,1,6,0,1,16,16,0,1,3,0,0,3,3,12,0,2,10,8,49,3,34,24,10,32,0,1,1,1,45,20,2,3,9,160,65,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10206063008022652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09613329203897687,0.14037100407277056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10182794967145012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11827582328443645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09192628864622446,0.12739518617625376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11782354013716118,0.1349378906176499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25681292419897994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21707891206362304,0.0,0.0582159432559458,0.0,0.0,0.12612525835457272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644086881061586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09657015339778204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11367242090030973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13285085160946253,0.0,0.1299739093907822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06327543259691594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12509500395733014,0.0,0.08132357371769677,0.0,0.0,0.10166671225794063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12568394510645944,0.0,0.0,0.10894394721527484,0.07685380731609555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696904964192121,0.0,0.0,0.08463780384482213,0.0,0.0,0.11119853564268252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15603752210919775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12468047313069815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101690768407622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3708371571105731,0.0,0.0,0.1095201792723093,0.2746809945442177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11818488549873978,0.09524123451220844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0814934645327115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10063345862372028,0.0,0.1316674219136936,0.0,0.2294726321668196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06713640713890169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07816941326708729,0.0,0.0,0.11986006454305476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949988047038112,0.27163948727923914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14828691064314325
divorce,threwen_away,2020/01/07,"Asserting myself, how long to keep blame for cheating, and when to ask I've been married 18 years with a young kid. I'm a self-diagnosed ""people pleaser"", and this has manifested mostly with my wife, who for the majority of our relationship has benefited from my doing whatever she wanted. While she's great at domestic affairs (I'm the sole breadwinner) and being a mom, physical affection has basically been limited, and sex is infrequent. She is loving, but doesn't seem to desire me.

I've been trying to break out of my people pleasing habits, which about 8 weeks ago culminated in me asking for more in an intimate way- cuddling, hugging, and a general increase of desire during the non-having-sex parts of our relationship. She reacted poorly and said some hurtful things, but agreed that we need to go to a sex therapist. In the week or so after my request, things were very bad. It was like a new stranger was in my house, and we alternated between cold responses towards each other. She kept telling me to wait until therapy to find out what to do. In the meantime, I was researching my butt off to figure out what was going on, and why she would have such a negative reaction. Our levels of effort seemed to differ a lot.

We finally went to therapy, and have been going since. It's mostly been identifying the cause of why she isn't able to easily give me these things. She has said she has to start slowly, and build back from the normal hugs and kisses that were our staple before my request. I have said I'm looking for a grand gesture from her to show that she's capable of such a thing. Little has changed, except I've felt myself grow distant from her and her refrain, ""I'm trying!"" I gave her the example of sending me text with a description of something sexual or romantic she wants to do via text during the day (and follow up with at night), and she said she needs to work up to that. I showed her a long loving note she wrote me when we first met, and came back to find a sticky note on my keyboard that says ""I love you forever."" It's like everything is filtered downward to a lowered expectation, and I'm supposed to wait until she's ready and able to work her way up to what I am asking.

The second part of this- about 4-5 years ago now she went through what I believe is an emotional affair with a friend of hers. It was typical cheating behavior- locking her phone, turning away from me, texting while I was pumping gas. One morning, a month or so after the behavior started, while she was showering she left her phone unlocked and I looked. The texts were explicit. I saw for only a moment, but confronted her later that evening. She says they were just flirting texts that went over the line, but would not show me them again. She said they were jokes. She made a big deal of me going onto her phone. While she said she would stop (and did, I think), I got convinced that I needed therapy for invading  her privacy. In recent therapy sessions I brought this up again, and she said it was so long ago. But remembering it now, it feels awful. Is it too late for me to still consider it. 

We had a big discussion after the second therapy session- she was feeling great, while I was feeling even more pessimistic- I had even suggested we might need to go our own ways in the session. During the discussion, she finally apologized for the emotional affair (though she still doesn't admit that's what it was) and has been forthcoming with affection. She bought some book about sex and has filled it with bookmarks. But it feels like it's...too late. I've tried going along with her hugs and kisses, but I don't feel anything. The thought of sex with her is so remote I can't picture it.

At this point, I'm ready to ask for a divorce. She seems incapable of coming towards me enough on my request, plus the memory of her indiscretion is lingering with me. I don't want to wait forever to see if she can get here, or worse, get where I want and then when things are better, fall back into old habits. And so much of my people pleasing instincts are triggered by her. Even now, I have to stop myself, where before I'd blindly agree to do something I didn't want to.

We get along. We parent together well. She's kind and helpful. She gets overwhelmed by the kid easily. If we were roommates, we'd get along famously. But we're not- or at least we shouldn't be.

Her birthday is coming this month, our kid's a week later, and we have a big nonrefundable trip for the two of us at the end of the month that I spent over $4k for. The idea of going together sounds terrible. The idea of losing that huge chunk of money does, too. I don't want to ruin her birthday, or the kid's. But I also don't want to string her along now that I've made this decision.",5.417744291242029,5.973634833869243,6.007084491434593,80.16044307591696,67.7566988210075,9.412240449070794,30.068650425999603,9.439911062865573,2.549134299780188,3752,133,731,72,59,1220,384,933,0.077,0.7809999999999999,0.142,0.9971,4,0,2,0,1,0,128.0,19,1,3,7,38,31,3,1,50,1,72,15,1,8,1,146,156,64,0,21,21,3,6,3,1,5,1,10,1,4,45,61,0,9,19,5,4,21,13,9,1,5,51,22,124,22,128,97,16,124,0,4,5,14,124,41,1,17,61,525,169,9,0.10399338246973007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13827578843665006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041581735194634435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042788846481074144,0.0,0.19443954906893146,0.0,0.048852603041563934,0.11994673798621795,0.04341506527786846,0.0,0.0,0.08849070900720106,0.05858246522144585,0.0,0.04598684793094455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05947036269608653,0.0,0.05341492504600275,0.055005604811271765,0.08958109079429333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033533564267547826,0.05360630549609546,0.0,0.052775547081636086,0.0,0.05432547540884481,0.0,0.0,0.04550265489914924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11697855815183238,0.0460536349984741,0.05372648163731659,0.0,0.13737329667261586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04673127331589118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13145544707055432,0.03714644660761774,0.04992497775553497,0.11391966733921237,0.09504806757836012,0.044228359001854164,0.0,0.0,0.040172514664687284,0.0,0.13583062542964627,0.04987996422232547,0.2068564252509547,0.0,0.041586503968663216,0.1146530713017684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03485228609151917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059997200475634685,0.055663533388070466,0.11739587069030588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04621704827319663,0.0,0.05414655245468726,0.0,0.0,0.1173090650587636,0.0,0.0564945571669461,0.0,0.0,0.07620887064909396,0.052114344638252964,0.0,0.13804630650721444,0.08732824987192829,0.058170997253294075,0.0,0.04420572746860756,0.14078713177749194,0.09840105294765378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05516027243121167,0.0,0.06089789634018579,0.12450978859889596,0.0,0.038223550873598966,0.1542195508118804,0.0,0.050218728406524096,0.0,0.04879537237145706,0.05094571746728758,0.0,0.0,0.05456178066606145,0.0,0.035234303665690636,0.03954582674475847,0.0,0.0,0.057736172222775786,0.11261469913357593,0.0,0.1081438761247859,0.0,0.0,0.11415350532511175,0.04915368003282985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05134045966685876,0.11164997433554404,0.05890211501992512,0.0,0.34622532340787177,0.08269971172866925,0.0,0.0,0.0414346308798791,0.1420075045232196,0.05424388901495332,0.0,0.0,0.043012200308461576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08005918648218327,0.0,0.0,0.07360705136307705,0.0,0.08304924957405489,0.0869431242601156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04544739998620971,0.0,0.2973137399182161,0.0603721661683051,0.17272145604125513,0.033317380208930165,0.05108648513663372,0.04127956475371066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590702058805904,0.056557468837775,0.05079321192172508,0.0,0.06254561737181204,0.0,0.0,0.042902715802796254,0.2146829697469778,0.12381765976643287,0.12512582794962826,0.0,0.0467512699717231,0.14460436112183336,0.09383785254301336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07570842099317097,0.0,0.05298907056993617,0.1108108727858854,0.0,0.0,0.06696832875353208
divorce,divorcedthrowaway201,2020/01/07,"Difficult Ex-Wife. How to convince her to use some type of mediation My Ex-Wife wants to to have a ""conversation"" about the kids. A conversation to her is talking at me until I agree with whatever she says. If I don't agree, problems ensue. Whenever I attempt to tell her anything, she immediately pushes back and misinterprets what I am saying because she cut me off and is talking over me. I am never allowed to get a complete thought out of my mouth during our ""conversations."" During marriage counseling, she was forced to shut up and let me talk ONE time. She couldn't take it and stormed out of the session. When I stepped outside after finishing up, she was gone. However, she doesn't believe she left me because I should have called her to come get me. If I hadn't been so prideful, I wouldn't have needed to walk, according to her anyway. 

When we were getting divorced I suggested an additional counselor so we could work through parenting and initially she agreed. I asked her to make the appointment because whatever I do is a bad idea. She didn't make the appointment and now refuses to go because previous therapists never ""got through"" to me (I didn't cave to her).

Before I involve the state, any suggestions on getting a person to agree to some type of meditation in this scenario? How do I get her to think it's her idea? Again, everything I suggest is horrible so it needs to be her idea. 

Also, I think the conversation will be 10-15 minutes about the kids and 45 minutes of get trying to impose her will if I let her. Also, I need a witness present in case I need to physically defend myself again. Thanks.",4.552043010752686,6.28149862903226,5.62491935483871,77.74071236559139,70.7741935483871,8.908602150537636,32.916666666666664,9.408791572840183,3.209956989247312,1285,62,235,29,24,425,160,310,0.057999999999999996,0.885,0.057,-0.3404,3,0,0,0,1,0,42.0,3,0,0,3,17,7,1,0,14,0,30,1,1,6,2,44,54,20,0,13,3,1,0,0,0,4,0,2,0,3,5,14,0,1,6,0,0,6,9,4,0,1,10,2,55,3,43,34,2,32,0,0,0,0,48,12,0,5,13,176,60,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18035220088782214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07668234122379919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09279389857338913,0.0,0.10541768053351484,0.0,0.0,0.08670737317667601,0.09415194601549963,0.2749558018307021,0.0,0.09595255015735787,0.1270446806352298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11514308171281053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09713487668960576,0.11822929643416527,0.0,0.0,0.09003165066390745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10134363024247793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3534823950401253,0.0,0.064085505995724,0.0,0.0901864422308471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3818852836774632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12251674533962638,0.2306145153957536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15053963853805935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33444774825610146,0.17393872518135256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07641076283989634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12520936996106394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09845983271957116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10789844761670417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17934647211377705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08478333826563546,0.27190258774068066,0.09855936234714599,0.10381652526628207,0.0,0.1309259100161857,0.0,0.1445072655186426,0.0,0.08952079945889012,0.06575269863902758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07655831004936436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09739056253657724,0.0,0.0,0.06651022190008711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08209241562400016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,FailedCandidate,2020/01/07,"Really just need to tell someone it is finally happening. I (37M) finally told my wife (43F) of 9 years of marriage that I couldn't do this anymore. We have 1 child together (elementary age) and own a house together, that we are upside down on. 

Sorry I am trying to follow the guide lines the best I can. The reason why? The list is long and I am probably even forgetting things: 

Constantly accused of cheating. You shaved must be cheating. You left with 5 minutes late... Cheating. Have social media? Cheating. Learning Spanish, also cheating.

Now because there was no trust and cheating was always the accusation she separated me from friends and family. I haven't talked to any friends I had before the marriage in 8 years, I haven't spoken to my family directly in over 5 years. If I left I have nowhere to go, so I thought.

Everything is my fault. She over sleeps it's my fault. She forgets something, anyone does something she didn't like, anything that upsets her is my fault. I've done nothing but say I'm sorry for over 8 years.

She would get black out drunk and start fights with me. And then try to get my arrested, only reason it never happened was she was to wasted to use a phone. I spent our 5th anniversary sitting on a curb waiting on police to arrest me for false accusations of abuse as she went door to door trying to get someone to call the cops for her. Most our anniversaries were like this until I started refusing to drink and go out.

Not allowed to talk to females ever including co-workers. She got upset because Siri voice was female and forced me to change it to a male voice.

The hitting was always in the context of ""playing around"" until it wasn't and just became backhands. Never in the face and honestly she doesn't have the strength to hurt me if she wanted to. But one day when she back handed me across the chest I knew it wasn't right.

Finally I told her I wanted a divorce. She said she would changed and repeatedly told me how I was going to ruin our kid's life. How could I do this to our child ECT ECT. So I stayed for almost another 2 years.

I finally told her I was done again and stuck to my guns this time.

I am doing really OK, so much stress and pressure has just been taken off me. I know the process isn't going to be easy but I am excited to regain control of my life. I am still dealing with the isolation because I don't really have anyone to even tell I am getting divorced, but I am sure that will change with time. 

As of right now she is moving out in a couple of weeks and has agreed to 50/50 custody with zero fight. actually after the 1st night there hasn't been a single fight and she almost seems to giving and like a different person. 

I just wanted to tell someone because no one knows what I have been living through and it feels so great to start getting away from it.",3.9841488095238127,5.384056926785719,4.9078571428571465,83.62380952380954,71.69642857142857,7.6904761904761925,27.619047619047624,8.192908349453996,1.81904761904762,2229,80,433,33,42,726,264,560,0.182,0.747,0.07,-0.9958,2,1,3,1,6,0,61.0,6,2,0,3,23,32,9,4,23,1,57,8,4,7,5,74,97,36,0,11,11,1,2,3,2,4,2,4,2,5,18,28,2,4,9,3,1,7,15,18,0,3,30,7,73,14,73,58,5,67,0,2,1,0,59,23,0,6,38,303,91,1,0.0,0.08195639297669602,0.06750097471266332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13852964600404752,0.0,0.0,0.055316070214492925,0.11511172312320207,0.0,0.0,0.04703869152099487,0.0725318856095485,0.0,0.0,0.06859910287043074,0.09673202433619424,0.0,0.05692188710416475,0.06157690687250726,0.0,0.0,0.06498848610715507,0.05318827404538882,0.0,0.16866414011115408,0.0,0.05885947579941569,0.0,0.07259075801688172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07063138416259816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21952142331402105,0.0,0.0,0.07474934039526683,0.07758122345354401,0.055227461435295166,0.07653646019223108,0.0,0.044609610130104484,0.07131232366522802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07226903346109355,0.0,0.0,0.060532059125612624,0.14157201633881644,0.0,0.06776130329350355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09137366308512454,0.0625691822176039,0.0,0.0,0.06216648689273682,0.0,0.13041663512107826,0.0,0.03497496536013072,0.0,0.0,0.3030940526099393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688277588624204,0.0,0.1806951147751605,0.0663551819158952,0.15724602558504808,0.0,0.055322414101725566,0.0762613358094572,0.0,0.0,0.122335476568323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07981411402503145,0.07404904838311295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07602920916336417,0.0,0.07802796647630536,0.0,0.15030911415099968,0.0,0.0977151280099884,0.1013804551460001,0.0,0.0610793116220218,0.06121420977953665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0735178879857035,0.050848686666738085,0.05128946315748219,0.10669796861681397,0.0,0.0,0.06491235230102033,0.0,0.06637149585198282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09374419833165616,0.05260770669294968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060397499927496386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07457809989319288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329382532378012,0.14223873641041204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181434114375983,0.06579751631685718,0.055007601766600696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0629707334596349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06922101266439501,0.07051118287067791,0.17582523931453142,0.10650251991732848,0.0,0.15486267296967535,0.14687889294746706,0.0737271444894288,0.05524009639323752,0.0,0.07923521341015799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06519290370377133,0.0,0.0,0.11119415278124573,0.1813756609917314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04595417745414517,0.0,0.0,0.05491409369166034,0.0806684005363737,0.0,0.0,0.2643836413047575,0.0,0.14088782393604304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05974158528681457,0.0,0.0,0.12239664677765998,0.0,0.05548485051678266,0.0,0.0,0.06412226390341834,0.062416121113632074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05035735415903262,0.0,0.0,0.09827427019518614,0.0,0.0,0.22271946794296066
divorce,figuringthingsout778,2020/01/07,Falling out of love How did you know you fell out of love and it was time to move on?,-2.7891666666666666,-1.1293802500000003,-0.5999999999999996,111.23833333333332,101.5,2.666666666666667,11.666666666666668,3.1291,-2.2183333333333333,65,1,19,0,3,21,16,20,0.059000000000000004,0.63,0.311,0.8316,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,5,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,6,3,0,7,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,1,13,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450432115135016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8048456687881475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4738983760043499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599953906217353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,tealcakes,2020/01/07,"Filing for divorce online? My STBX and I are planning for an uncontested divorce, and I thought it would be easiest/cheapest to file online, but I have no idea what I'm doing. We live in Texas, if that helps. The websites I'm looking at are [divorcewriter.com](https://divorcewriter.com), [onlinedivorce.com](https://onlinedivorce.com), and [texasdivorceonline.com](https://texasdivorceonline.com). Are these legitimate? I don't want to waste my money.",11.930476190476195,16.473803873015875,9.295476190476194,47.12035714285719,57.88888888888889,8.009523809523811,31.13492063492064,8.841846274778883,3.0121873015873017,376,13,46,6,6,111,48,63,0.067,0.8240000000000001,0.109,0.561,0,0,0,0,8,0,39.0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,0,0,10,13,5,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,7,0,6,10,0,2,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,1,0,33,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3094625375906637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5211942761959565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4076826553641995,0.0,0.3877051527947632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3665320210495436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723180110191878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3279728795495068,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,PhoenixRoseX2,2020/01/07,"Need reassurances re: finding a man that would want a middle-aged divorced woman with kids We filed last week. My much younger self (I am 38F now) would have been really surprised to know that I would end up in a divorce with almost 3 year old twins. I was loyal to a fault in my marriage but am positive this divorce is for the best. Anyone outside looking in would agree that it’s for the best. I am not throwing the towel in for future love/family, in fact, I find myself getting excited about the idea. But the reality of my age, my extra weight now, my life revolving around my children (they are seriously amazing) is setting in and I am worried finding someone who wants a life with me at this point would be a bit like finding a unicorn. I am hoping for some encouragement that there are men out there that like the idea of being a family man, even a blended family man at this stage in life. I have primary custody and I love doing things with my kids. I have a lot more love to give too. I have a good professional career that I enjoy and I want to put my love/life into a relationship that can be really remarkable for me, my kids, and future mate. But I sometimes let the fear creep in that my hopes are too high. That I may not be attractive enough anymore (I was a looker when I was younger :P but I am 38 and well...TWINS). I also know that my priorities are my kids and their happiness and that may be hard to expect someone in the future to be serious about me and my children that way too. It’s possible my previous marriage jaded my hope a little too. I feel I would have the capacity to be serious for a man in a similar situation (the right one of course). But I also think I am letting fears consume my hopeful thoughts. First time post too...so go easy on me. :)",4.359348739495797,5.120142837535017,5.713210784313728,80.59569852941178,70.20448179271709,8.863165266106444,29.44082633053221,9.075114841892004,2.3458254901960784,1391,52,280,26,24,469,174,357,0.064,0.69,0.24600000000000002,0.9977,1,0,0,0,3,0,45.0,1,0,2,3,15,26,0,2,26,0,41,6,0,0,1,55,60,16,0,15,7,0,3,2,1,8,3,0,0,13,19,16,1,0,11,0,0,3,2,6,0,2,5,5,47,20,39,38,9,42,0,0,2,2,29,21,0,9,16,209,66,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08498370432587618,0.0,0.0,0.13573887441942994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08416690641352995,0.059342140777508386,0.0,0.0,0.07555110112390344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17812884661288048,0.0,0.09265459657129896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516844292759071,0.08769201321000378,0.0,0.05605494990272023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400198602539177,0.1910016761064012,0.04291214481102864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31027367300663555,0.07218923934065187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04434037233224094,0.08141375255178812,0.04823281561099362,0.07118380593456464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09034426732184968,0.07602564998270944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08966839952361907,0.0,0.3371749176871536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19161277510909747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932831927034702,0.0691792856481452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17356791095702995,0.1798357345125252,0.08292508136295673,0.08506069370591714,0.0,0.0,0.07126830017524048,0.0,0.0,0.07215230029956927,0.30638911869624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062388230645141964,0.0629290364588246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905538284134254,0.0,0.057509200832369066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08022831623065686,0.09567666306196396,0.0812807169783217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08531644477189912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087380743173646,0.0,0.0,0.0911171802615188,0.0,0.07247737242734192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08853652216000282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09539593035796863,0.0,0.0,0.14381788141334964,0.0,0.08393727540718557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05638296699592825,0.05438041085822624,0.0,0.067376236585188,0.049487598484328994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15017320465725362,0.06736479246346375,0.06807652032469534,0.10334716484543767,0.0763071181846621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08618824444954537,0.0,0.3617295688836863,0.0,0.0,0.05465263489008846
divorce,throaway485736283957,2020/01/07,"I didn’t know paper could be so heavy He handed me the divorce papers a few hours ago. 

That manilla folder was screaming on the table before I knew what it was...

I kept asking what was in the folder with no response...

I’m still in shock",1.2526530612244926,3.379523244897964,2.9217959183673483,91.56963265306123,81.85714285714286,3.92,17.963265306122448,3.1291,-0.646848163265306,185,4,37,0,5,61,39,49,0.156,0.8440000000000001,0.0,-0.7506,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,4,0,6,1,1,0,0,5,11,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,6,2,4,0,4,3,1,6,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,3,26,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3991951215479651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4210027671973696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3832022193188846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3595561377657277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44348961265996784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24749253445398556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3596383971446764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,necesitoadvice2019,2020/01/07,"Finding a love like never before... My life has been a blur since last year. I (34f) have been separated from him (34m) since May of last year. Logically speaking, I have felt so alone and discouraged with the marriage for a few years before that. We got married in sept 2013. A month into our marriage I find a woman in my home. That was the beginning of this crappy marriage that I decided to stick around for. There was infidelity on his part so many times. The cherry on top was finding a used condom in my home last February. I started therapy last March and it was as if I had a blindfold taken off. I needed to find the courage and strength to leave this man. He was NEVER going to change for me, nor was he the right one for me. I couldn’t waste any more time being stuck in a loveless marriage. I also lost a big amount of weight and found a new confidence and he never once complimented me or said he was proud. We also had a dead bedroom situation so that didn’t help either. 

NOW....

I met him (30m) that summer when I moved out. It was as if the universe bought us together. I fell for him fast and I’ve never felt this kind of love before. To tell you the truth, I found everything I’ve ever wanted in this man. I have never felt so alive, loved  and wanted in my 34 years of life. He knows my situation and understands the process as he is also divorced. We are upfront and honest with each other. He is my entire world. He reassures me everyday and says to take as much time as I need. Filing isn’t easy! 

I know many people may not agree and say that it’s crucial to spend a year minimum alone after everything is finalized but it’s not fair! I haven’t been this happy in YEARS! The way he treats me and makes me feel like a princess is unreal and I never want to lose that. I am on my way to the courthouse to file. I wanted to wait after the holidays to do so. My mother and only a select few know about my new guy and I feel ashamed that I have to hide him. My ex already has countless girlfriends since I moved out and he doesn’t feel guilty so why should I? Why do I feel this pain? Why do I feel ashamed to feel this love so soon after a toxic marriage? I do not want to lose this special love ever and he reassures me but I’m still afraid he won’t meet me on the other side once everything is finalized. Has anybody been in this situation? How did it work out for you? Please tell me I’m not going insane? My marriage was toxic, abusive  and full of lies and Infidelity. I need to finally take care of me first and this guy makes me a priority. I have a therapy appointment soon so that’s something I’m looking forward to. I can definitely use the help!",2.064993669000448,3.903489636861317,3.736961120214509,88.1897758081335,77.81386861313868,6.809235811112767,23.04498733800089,7.745696148679241,1.0198007150305377,2083,65,443,32,49,695,235,548,0.094,0.753,0.153,0.9890000000000001,0,2,1,0,1,0,59.0,5,2,0,8,22,28,0,3,30,0,46,10,0,5,9,91,97,44,1,12,10,2,10,2,1,4,3,4,3,5,26,31,1,2,21,1,2,6,17,8,0,2,29,15,64,20,60,62,9,74,0,4,1,6,56,25,0,6,45,292,90,1,0.0,0.07227909649323115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12636232437486689,0.0673188087484744,0.1463532775703009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041484428485378484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054305991661421776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15572829316890507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0621970688304401,0.0,0.06453354668971029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11036220103768338,0.0,0.0,0.16447786468749218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18507102162227568,0.04358086698136435,0.1757185959880225,0.20047884746478128,0.22302414191718528,0.051889491633596914,0.0,0.13377423807715194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0693393171882915,0.0,0.04879002066665032,0.0,0.0,0.1208059854888252,0.0,0.06493929214600627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177863472084933,0.0,0.12238284076814453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06352569129837768,0.10057767940663444,0.1989037699604178,0.0,0.06459383069201445,0.0,0.0,0.08617706209069807,0.059606395009835965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05122752226593027,0.13649448197552388,0.06659245681234924,0.0,0.2752899143352803,0.0,0.08144053467173784,0.12369581879550898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048692360735732784,0.12967399678529487,0.04484454472251232,0.13569982482146795,0.2822976642522322,0.11783499755851058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12993333714604466,0.04133750712297105,0.04639586211936536,0.06491195713568837,0.0,0.0,0.06606077661921332,0.0,0.042292101584012864,0.0,0.0,0.06696345391499631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052096601163046485,0.05802823743394074,0.09702476186524936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15138801834960314,0.2057112545609616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04696342551377125,0.0,0.0,0.043178546096611946,0.0,0.04871742291827697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09173398404118653,0.0,0.10663938407727484,0.0,0.1395254915009885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10671478260361753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06350672844369959,0.07337962254481872,0.10537476457345052,0.0,0.0,0.17990703595683186,0.09684337629426887,0.0,0.0742857508208075,0.0,0.0,0.16513833796912736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04441122807148787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357052768627494
divorce,intime777,2020/01/07,"I got a divorce. What next? I feel lost. After almost 8 years dating. I got married to the woman of my dreams. We were happy, in love, spontaneous. We used to be in love with each other. After getting married serious fights started to show up out of nowhere. At first i thought it's just normal to fight the first year. It was true after almost a year we stopped fighting a lot. Maybe i stopped caring. But when we got to the third year, we decided to have a baby. We did. Then things starting getting sour. Less then a year after having a baby girl we filled for divorce. 
I didn't want to, but my pride won't allow me. I reached a breaking point.",0.5089140271493235,2.9449016923076954,2.096968325791856,93.64861990950227,89.76923076923076,3.9819004524886883,21.49321266968326,5.5289334501034215,0.1054343891402718,500,18,101,3,17,162,80,130,0.121,0.7490000000000001,0.13,0.7278,0,0,0,0,6,0,21.0,7,0,0,4,2,11,3,0,10,0,8,2,0,2,1,26,23,5,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,10,0,2,3,2,0,1,2,5,0,3,9,2,17,6,20,12,3,28,0,1,0,2,16,6,0,3,20,72,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3065480521245281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15606153548769114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07739504007653106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26039663579938954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15994189564629385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3672638768141008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16294217454873894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16709020629838328,0.13013169576795175,0.27629705092734225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15377590962855908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627879982533803,0.0,0.14997270683626013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14469735263263933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166825649721099,0.0,0.0,0.25594095704831915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10169060552671527,0.0,0.0,0.12151773242003715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13220034215614246,0.0,0.0,0.09028260914675576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4928491556683186
divorce,itsmyyear2020,2020/01/07,"1st post. Married to a gaslighting narc for 7.5 years, together 12. Time to end it. No kids, but own a house. ​

Hi All, Thank you to whoever reads this. I’ve been lurking for a little while, but now I need support. I first met my husband when I was 18, (I’m 33, he is 34). Bought a house. We have no kids. 

He has been emotionally/verbally and occasionally physically abusive. My sister tried to warn me once many years ago, over a facebook message. I only saw a few words of the description:  “domestic abuse”, I didn’t even open the message all the way, deleted it, & didn’t talk to my sister for a month, stupid. 

And then 3 years ago at my 30th birthday party I mentioned the D word to my bestie (divorce), I also said words like verbal abuse and she said “I KNOW” and “we know” So I guess her & her husband knew. How was I the only one who couldn’t see his true colors until now? I was blinded for so long. 

Over the years he has done things like slap my face (once while drunk) call me a b\*\*\*\*, grab my arm and squeeze it forcefully while angry(sober). Once during this arm grabbing, we were in the front yard in daylight, he said “are you scared” I said no, but I think I actually was. He has anger issues, but after that moment I realized I have no reason to be scared. 

Some things he has said to me: “you’re so stupid” and just recently he said: “you’re an idiot”. He tells lies to our friends and family about small weird things just to make him seem better, like, why? And he wants me to go along with it?! No thanks. 

I have trouble making simple decisions because literally whatever I choose will be wrong. I’m constantly apologizing for nothing, and constantly walking on eggshells to not upset him because I don’t want to deal with it. I have learned how to deal, but I don’t want to anymore. He also does pretty much nothing to take care of our house. I do everything. I’m a caring & super patient optimist so it’s no wonder he chose me for this messed up ride. 

So here I am. I have thought about this for 3 years. It's time. I’ve compiled a huge list of documents and things I’ll need to do for the divorce. He thinks I’m stupid.. so he doesn’t even know what’s coming and how prepared I’ll be. I told myself I would try to do this in May, so I have some time to prepare. He works from home so I’ll have to find ways to gather documents to copy. I’m going to leave with a note because I can’t deal with the confrontation and his reaction. I also have major anxiety because of him. I do have a good job and I could stay with my mom at first. Also have my sis and good friends to stand by me. Although I haven’t told anyone yet, I might tell my best friend soon for support.",1.6079861658048848,3.6241019836660655,3.005726124028353,92.02983563332536,79.98003629764065,6.1185631613190425,22.55593603396911,7.206552242816932,0.6764069513406152,2087,67,457,27,53,679,263,551,0.149,0.698,0.153,0.7011,1,0,0,0,4,0,97.0,5,2,0,6,27,31,6,3,22,0,45,5,3,6,3,72,89,41,0,8,8,6,3,3,3,4,1,6,2,2,19,25,1,0,15,3,1,6,15,13,0,3,23,13,65,18,58,57,9,54,0,0,4,0,65,13,0,7,33,276,84,4,0.0,0.2279494446474824,0.06258128719456348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11369413001412493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20513783045674386,0.0,0.2779377941857708,0.07792454360161494,0.0,0.0,0.04905900641196668,0.0,0.0635993802504077,0.04484094208760517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15637135666042531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06730011076822708,0.05671746362881128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06548354236431284,0.0,0.13076890356469606,0.0,0.0,0.05524201470150875,0.0,0.13860273748025725,0.0,0.0512023069269916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19834455843649024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05612028852536838,0.06562689687761497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05679983485545353,0.0,0.0,0.08471405747681302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0576355939550836,0.0,0.060455726248421486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058613337926091136,0.10909729437497227,0.0,0.0,0.14863922459702422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07289271546989559,0.10757781494451704,0.0,0.0,0.07064603907291761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06432726735890218,0.0,0.0,0.22199101627386195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0669346927743647,0.06363878185883651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573193485164782,0.0,0.0,0.06790403933395918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09399152243970704,0.06427475636073103,0.0,0.05675272185192255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08561407816322664,0.06501739914594451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06803142389907893,0.0,0.07510787053577178,0.05118767447664765,0.0,0.04714267130664891,0.09510264518628404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12306825675115735,0.0,0.0,0.2048879515698476,0.043455910256040335,0.09754697662406372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061418477242488535,0.0652429086664517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06414700399203263,0.0,0.0,0.06593596056489145,0.06332029231953723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3660118938586284,0.0,0.12840993351102234,0.0,0.05110302783595227,0.058381224452902884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06835367375017233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14554713278635764,0.0,0.0,0.04821751546439559,0.051544983158990185,0.11210428075490596,0.11808393051953513,0.0,0.0,0.17041955849021378,0.08218338004139265,0.0,0.05091177842950837,0.11218354319287638,0.0,0.0,0.1225572568134599,0.0,0.08707964499268707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11347598662463905,0.10180626172295464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057867034033363025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06954586940142461,0.04668714868784778,0.0,0.0,0.045555863104946366,0.07011570459445694,0.07792454360161494,0.20648695884007706
divorce,mythrowaway12525,2020/01/07,"Would you remarry? My ex husband told me a few months back that he just didn’t want to be with me anymore. Our one year old and I moved back to my home state. Anyways, I have since met a wonderful man. How do people feel about getting married again? I feel scared to even let myself fall in love again let alone remarry.",1.3282417582417594,3.627685076923079,2.191428571428574,95.89,82.84615384615384,5.560439560439562,21.59340659340659,6.868970318607317,0.40003296703296704,250,8,55,3,7,78,53,65,0.07200000000000001,0.789,0.14,0.6868,0,1,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,1,0,0,9,2,0,1,2,0,7,1,0,1,0,9,15,2,0,2,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,2,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,3,2,10,1,6,8,1,11,0,0,0,1,9,1,0,1,7,37,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22596999962076775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163771965460815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3355358640419397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441066736240634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22063801528761534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11399071045716187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21885360702866724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4462102693750051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969171179643711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17415021117127047,0.2318921652427652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22894454480567802,0.0,0.1478452776982814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512594236641261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184375170983339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18048180430512725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084815570628505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286889681653391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366082844391193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15498971697640362,0.0,0.0,0.14050158696901952
divorce,jvelez1199,2020/01/07,"Another birthday coming up 28M (Soon to be 29 oh man) divorced 2 years.

I reached out on my first birthday alone to kind of her advice and I'm back on here. The holiday season has always been tough on me and after a breakup with my first girlfriend after the divorce everything is starting to hit me. 

I keep being asked what I would like to do for my birthday this Saturday and I genuinely don't know what I want to do that would make me happy. Its the last birthday if my twenties and I just feel empty right now. 

Any tips or things to do on your own that's helped you all?",1.8691749427043547,3.7977890420168094,3.2055614973262045,91.34866310160429,78.74789915966386,6.007944996180291,24.26355996944233,6.980632752743323,0.8527075630252101,452,16,96,5,11,147,84,119,0.055999999999999994,0.855,0.08900000000000001,0.6983,0,1,0,0,3,0,8.0,0,2,0,2,5,4,0,0,4,0,11,0,0,1,1,18,21,6,0,4,3,0,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,7,7,0,1,2,1,0,1,1,1,0,2,1,1,16,3,17,15,2,20,0,0,0,0,9,7,0,2,13,70,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21846749594369694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23154842334112055,0.0,0.0,0.18602600355651008,0.0,0.0,0.15203351246532462,0.23442993370746645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20900535888285554,0.0,0.0,0.17190954645240303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19258353683942572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009279819298096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11304240530756306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3803326675152983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379916764539495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14985252943296082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987169957367317,0.0,0.23281106507913726,0.122866807571677,0.18223728693969826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922374888128196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14923298928370654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909253556455452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582421709998388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14852826013857526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13186585710531354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3176317622711056,0.0,0.0,0.14397008892419302
divorce,iwalj2019,2020/01/07,"50/50 Custody with 1 week off 1 week off I (29F) and my STBXH (36M) are just starting the divorce process. And by just starting, I mean we are still in the talking phase. We have been married 8 years and are great friends, but the whole marriage thing just didn’t work out. We have a 7 year old daughter. 

Our top priority is her happiness, health, and safety. Recently my state has allowed for a no contest divorce which allows us to skip the year of separation if we agree on all terms. We would like to adopt a week on week off custody schedule but are receiving serious push back from our families. 

It would look something like M-Sun night with me, M-Sun night with him. Has this type schedule worked for you? Or if not, why?",4.4282517482517525,5.485088083916086,4.510076923076927,88.19742307692309,70.25874125874124,7.678041958041959,31.08321678321679,7.908726449838941,1.9187572027972035,568,24,119,7,10,176,97,143,0.027999999999999997,0.789,0.183,0.9729,1,0,1,0,2,0,23.0,8,1,0,3,6,6,0,0,7,0,13,1,0,2,1,28,17,9,0,4,9,1,0,2,1,2,1,0,0,0,4,13,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,2,1,16,5,17,13,3,29,0,0,1,0,18,8,0,3,20,75,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12158653489537767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490639341253586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12216514441620666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17433074740594168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16832446988038152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16807695152424962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15450145066184393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13278317708346707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17224188904093404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.296774735779316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659230912057886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561270117628335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12173051849100712,0.0,0.0,0.2238400093914421,0.0,0.1262769290465947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270929728398565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10504964300681613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19020204342708905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5073457136636285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14268107066870828,0.17653825898777897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302303020199968,0.0,0.0,0.22465154579387375,0.0,0.0,0.30547735018983296
divorce,Brolyguy2734,2020/01/07,"I need advice Hello!! I really need advice on my situation. I cheated on my wife while we were together and my wife slept with different partners when we were separated. She ended up on ice while we were separated. She's currently in rehab, and you can't tell she was on ice at all. She think we should work our marriage out, but I'm not sure if I love her anymore. Also me and one of the guys she was sleeping with got into a fight. It's was over my daughter because I felt  she didn't need to have different men around my child. On top of that she was doing coke behind my back when we were together. I just found out about this  Sunday when I visit her. 

I really don't know what to do. I can have any woman I want, but I don't want my daughter seeing me other women. Should I fix my marriage or get a divorce?",2.1238403361344496,3.5872198882352966,4.2774789915966425,86.02294117647061,76.58823529411767,7.210084033613445,22.731092436974787,7.957251820313856,1.0700504201680676,631,18,135,10,14,218,98,170,0.08199999999999999,0.8859999999999999,0.032,-0.8758,3,0,0,0,2,0,17.0,6,1,0,2,8,4,2,0,3,0,19,5,2,0,2,33,34,13,0,8,6,4,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,6,5,14,1,0,4,0,0,1,5,2,0,1,13,2,38,2,21,19,1,24,0,0,1,1,34,14,0,2,9,104,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3461471816536976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14163787076297454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12044348206002024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756493335325978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15766886446873482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136189607398623,0.0,0.10796695059310653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37009252399298576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15687028863867067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17005705784243685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19419617953296875,0.0,0.0,0.0925346692734494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14165411440928766,0.0,0.0,0.17537054356545792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09733713240958264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598521520923555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39398299586537616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12001691910318475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269273173665424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14113679638922688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19908337258794293,0.1772417456233732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669276944955236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15480529938516369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348739464827005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089326588204089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289409821175921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwin_thatshitaway,2020/01/07,"Are online divorce services reliable? I want to start the process but don’t know where to start. I took to google looking up how to file in my state. I got lots of ads for “online divorce.”

But how does that actually work vs going through the county?  Seems like a gimmick but I truly am unsure.",1.390443349753692,3.944967896551724,2.696600985221675,90.48706896551724,85.55172413793103,4.693596059113301,23.802955665024644,6.1826913282559595,0.6531300492610845,230,9,45,2,7,74,45,58,0.042,0.812,0.146,0.7278,0,0,0,0,2,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,2,0,10,12,5,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,1,5,1,9,10,1,8,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,2,3,28,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.3150472895274715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2825212708145272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834785881256432,0.0,0.2582062953469509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17742555847376149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15772432788696106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711060287197335,0.0,0.0,0.2744687827422827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2939032951814997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4570185572269875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3586894183696611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19042061727601012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350328717935072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,failandfail,2020/01/07,"From r/deadbedroom to here ☹ I am 32yo male, 2 children, love my wife. After 8 years of dead bedroom and nagging from my side, exploring reasons why etc. 
I normally let things built up and then approximately once  a year spill it all out - I know it's wrong. Nevertheless after numerous 'talks' with wife, she finally admitted ""she's not sure if she loves me 'that' way"". I'd say she dosesnt love me hence lack of intimacy, no sex, no time together and feeling unloved. 
So I stupidly offered marriage counselling-we had divorce talk many times before due to above-she said there is no point. After which she said the weirdly worded I don't love you. 
So either though I am unhappy with how things are and were I still wanted to try. 
Well it looks like divorce is going to happen therefore I would appreciate some advice. 
I am uk based however hoping to avoid legal system and share child custody equally etc. I want to stay in the house and pay her off her equity as she can move in with her parents who will also help her with childcare- think she is ok with that. 
So what bumps on the road do you guys see. What to watch out for. How to stay friends when I am really pissed off with her? 
Ps. I am sure I 've done many things to mess this relationship up so definetly not all her fault but I was never shy from sex or intimacy, good father, good husband, looking after the house, helpful etc. I just don't think I was ever her type.",2.360810879511945,4.686702334519577,3.567344941535336,87.36120551601424,79.03558718861208,6.576563294356888,23.91471784443315,7.7094869923839395,1.2358895780376211,1120,39,224,18,28,363,178,281,0.106,0.741,0.153,0.9251,2,1,0,0,2,1,34.0,0,2,0,0,15,23,3,1,5,1,21,7,1,4,6,46,40,20,1,7,7,5,1,1,1,2,0,3,1,4,13,14,0,1,7,0,1,3,8,9,1,0,7,8,36,14,35,30,9,34,0,0,4,6,45,12,1,4,16,150,49,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10178673060702093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08329899279391652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08863491262950657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10659475920017147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3485073328633783,0.0,0.0942212604484672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05266786624943032,0.0,0.0,0.1141053097514663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08047595882913253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05919814757850024,0.17473371170781082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10313759707084652,0.09211086345785977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13963632418897162,0.0,0.0,0.10345721208769383,0.0,0.2403798853839051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05724517777265155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10651357045579883,0.0,0.05088870660252881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17494111832364692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3760441524150325,0.0,0.0,0.2112095599677015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11070862405443592,0.0,0.0,0.0803368106634669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10205747625308552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11093003478605644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11566051708573015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09846756080966784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06672938837696718,0.1070967571749377,0.0,0.11183191807754972,0.0,0.0,0.1981654450969835,0.08283447839659057,0.0,0.0,0.08300430472480631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220474756694453,0.08318458584554256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19634450512401505,0.0,0.0,0.1674443049792768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076035055505591,0.13348669558618936,0.10233947037910253,0.0,0.12147638993370895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07071973711130948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12287589433351323,0.0826796212356763,0.0,0.0,0.0936549107980352,0.0,0.09399076981984268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07399429942396224,0.11388572373510825,0.0,0.13415491941714155
divorce,UnluckyLynx,2020/01/07,"It's been three months... I had no idea just how bad things had gotten.  She asked for a separation in June, we co-habitated through the second half of June and July.  She attacked me and beat the shit out of me in the beginning of August, moving out that same day.  That was the day that I actually realized that it had been an abusive relationship.  The whole time, she had projected onto me that I was the abusive one and that I had to change.  I changed so much that I didn't even recognize myself.  

Fast forward to October.  The paperwork was finalized and the decree showed up in the mail.  It was over.  We were officially divorced.  I felt like a weight had been lifted off me.  The time since October has been simply finding myself again.  I knew that I was in there somewhere.  She never quite broke me, no mater how much she tried.  That's one thing that no one can ever truly take from me.  

It gets better.  I truly hope that everyone finds a better life after their divorce.",2.80952380952381,5.087425746031748,3.926164021164024,85.61559523809527,77.25396825396825,7.162962962962964,23.198412698412696,8.167268648758528,1.3829809523809522,762,24,149,14,18,247,109,189,0.106,0.777,0.11699999999999999,0.2614,1,0,0,0,2,0,25.0,2,0,1,4,8,8,2,0,14,0,19,3,1,2,2,21,27,7,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,17,8,1,0,6,1,0,2,5,4,0,6,20,2,26,4,19,7,4,27,0,1,0,0,13,11,1,1,17,121,43,1,0.0,0.3379632608672165,0.13917675422888587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333306464141138,0.16225108108994502,0.0,0.0,0.11908192022307205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522719761711319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30174654821015545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839564768287477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09419930530133254,0.1290081474063242,0.0,0.13627972493968718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13693776987717454,0.15623347161984308,0.2607045809624346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07451317462147672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14165405136515213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16100086016901002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10073687389982937,0.06967703182326745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11383809297555465,0.15158271522993985,0.20968453262203285,0.0,0.10999750017030364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2899294411775625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15169415150834986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15312073414652785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14639759866777174,0.11797691361210567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10723265052781883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895010639046761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16632598571027696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09682976248001074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17367299676830314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15923037404274046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Snerfblatt,2020/01/07,"<3 Just want to say to all you newly-divorced or about-to-be-divorced people that you are still beautiful and there are people out there who will love and accept your flawed, broken self unconditionally. We love that you gave your all and that you once believed in true love. We think it's sweet that you still have feelings for someone who used to be your best friend. We'll hold your hand and walk with you through the pain.

Love,

Someone Who has a Crush on a Newly Divorced Man Who is 13 Years Older (but who can't act on it because he's still healing)",6.617567567567568,6.066315936936937,5.870045045045044,85.92777027027027,65.30630630630631,8.12072072072072,29.31081081081081,6.42735559955562,1.2292810810810813,443,12,93,2,6,134,70,111,0.059000000000000004,0.637,0.304,0.9872,0,0,0,0,3,0,14.0,3,10,0,1,6,10,0,0,3,0,9,7,1,1,3,20,18,6,0,1,3,0,2,0,1,2,2,1,0,2,11,8,0,1,3,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,4,13,9,10,14,3,11,0,0,0,4,29,4,0,1,5,60,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10600643249288004,0.0,0.0,0.1959231741489905,0.1824949223765597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08792790932194904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343529425895701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6277979058047716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18519539017502007,0.0,0.0,0.1850394285687588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411175584713681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13829044204472862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18141324155311664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946859377799695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4166248174876383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11142663355301607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501917911786284,0.0,0.0,0.10256937734711633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119844264597618
divorce,send_me_40k_bits,2020/01/07,"My wife told me yesterday that she wants a divorce Right up front, this is absolutely my fault. A flirtatious affair I had over 4 years ago that lead to a kiss came to light a few months back and this, I feel, has been the inevitable conclusion since the moment I confessed. The summer over which the affair occurred, I spent a large amount of time away from home at training events that this other woman was also attending. I don’t want to spend this entire post on it. I was wrong. I lied and tried to hide it from my wife, knowing it would be the end of us. My wife and I have grown so close in the years since the affair. But that lie was still there. I felt trapped in it. I was too scared of what would happen when it came to light. So I kept lying. Not the best idea. Not even approaching a good idea. Since the confession, my wife has been (completely fairly) pissed. She doesn’t see me like she used to. If we didn’t have kids, the day I confessed I would have been kicked out. As it stands, she’s been trying to figure out if she can handle this with me at home and her not loving me (or often actively hating me). She is now questioning everything that I’ve ever done. She doesn’t believe anything I say (understandable) and accuses me of sleeping with this other women as well as having affairs with others (I didn’t and I haven’t). Now that I’m a liar to her, that’s all I am. 
In this time I’ve been repentant. I’ve been doing my best to be as much of a husband, partner and friend as she would allow. It’s been some kind of defensive measure to show that I can add worth to her life. My wife and kids are my absolute life. They are all that is good in my life. Why did I do such a stupid thing, then? I wish I knew. I wasn’t in the best place, mentally. I had just acquired a great new skill, but couldn’t find a job with it and I felt like an absolute failure. It’s no excuse, just a statement about my mental state at the time. 
So now my wife wants a divorce, My best friend doesn’t want me in her life anymore.  My depression over the last 5 months has lead to poor work performance, making me expendable at work. My friendships have disintegrated as I’ve been too sad to reach out to anyone. The only family that I feel close to is her’s. 
Four years after the worst decision in my life, I’m sitting in this sad break room typing out how my world is ending to a bunch of strangers, hoping that god will be merciful enough to drop a boulder on me when I drive home today. Five months ago I thought I was the most blessed man in the world. But now I’ve just ruined 3 other lives.",2.881408605097288,4.147624535580527,3.7865159404403066,91.1129967114278,74.2434456928839,7.0824152735909385,22.387686124052248,7.590005382236693,0.6673784233123228,2018,50,450,25,41,647,242,534,0.14800000000000002,0.768,0.084,-0.9879,1,1,0,0,2,1,63.0,2,0,1,12,25,30,5,1,33,0,54,9,2,6,3,79,81,29,0,13,12,7,4,2,3,5,5,1,4,6,35,23,0,2,19,1,4,9,13,13,1,2,29,8,69,17,62,43,14,78,4,4,1,2,45,31,1,8,34,312,104,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447757820112128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06530458041406575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08098615126425028,0.05709953940494567,0.0,0.06720036219674133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0767235597271542,0.0627925647287289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200441715577506,0.34279434354969185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867977401501694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856204089362427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05266483791573217,0.0,0.07033483159956297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835679495084358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446554981912329,0.0843780405994626,0.0,0.05393657490067751,0.07386739831169879,0.0,0.0,0.07339198765575057,0.0,0.07698308649341566,0.0,0.08258090023327079,0.0,0.1568154724301875,0.0,0.07463702684987414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12618276760580335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369873913782097,0.0,0.0900319657116196,0.0,0.0,0.07221289343287401,0.0,0.0,0.08062371168987369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457390835051662,0.0811081814987957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18437152855428698,0.0,0.0,0.08103632446731775,0.0,0.0,0.08503776651864756,0.04487896179513748,0.06656492831430531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28839925766848473,0.07979125607711658,0.0,0.07210849942863512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07370258861167214,0.0,0.0545096088765108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16459093907384162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955440162329765,0.0,0.06003051436050157,0.0,0.0,0.07886907489948032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062107163412147136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853187670202623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07820903393705954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09147944075240633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973837695539394,0.0,0.06494041133114882,0.08175729274570495,0.0,0.06507355144167606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20265342564580727,0.0,0.08172036029234557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06521488787986549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05425219588592895,0.0,0.0,0.06483001835537111,0.1428522316193419,0.0,0.07740544495959521,0.07803095328718085,0.0,0.11088544060725747,0.0,0.0,0.0850123821619301,0.0982285919547662,0.07052921773543441,0.0,0.0,0.1926640035685808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07342339262749299,0.0,0.07368669872234193,0.0,0.09390656311662328,0.0,0.0,0.11890092233112118,0.0,0.0,0.2320396208808663,0.08928390553380866,0.0,0.15776176450345492
divorce,LinksTriforce7,2020/01/07,"Shes pulling this divorce stunt AGAIN A short backstory...my wife (33F) left me (33M) the day after Christmas 2 years ago, moved out, separated our accounts, etc, and wanted a divorce claiming she was unhappy.  6 weeks later she reached out to me, expressing her desire to make it work.  I was so happy and readily agreed to do whatever it would take.  After a 6 month separation to work on ourselves, she came back.  15 months later, here we are again...

2 months into a deployment, she hit me with it again, giving a long list of reasons why we dont work.  2 months after she told me we were great, and would make it through the deployment before I got on the plane.  I'm completely devastated and struggling to make sense of it all.  I know, and recently have learned a great deal on some of my shortcomings (the positive to come out of all this).  Knowing what I do now, I can be the husband she needs, and it kills me to not get that chance.  For now, she has agreed to wait on divorce until I return in 3 months, and I cant help thinking/hoping that she will change her mind again and want to give it one last real shot.  She has followed almost the exact same pattern she did last time, so I feel like there is something going on with her.  

It's been a little over a month since she told me.  I spent most of that time trying to work on myself to save my marriage.  Just a few days ago, after getting what felt to me like a cold response to my possibly being in a dangerous location, I decided I would no longer message her, and instead try to focus on working on myself for me, so that whatever may come, I can be a better person moving forward. 

I really hope over the next 3 months, she decides she wants to try and reconcile, but with each passing day, I find it harder to believe she will.  I just need some advice, straight talk, help, whatever to help me get through this, because its tearing me apart.",6.96651875699888,5.801274742021277,7.19172452407615,78.74868421052633,64.87765957446808,10.256215005599106,34.15117581187011,9.276330184999452,2.8457414893617026,1477,54,297,22,19,480,199,376,0.059000000000000004,0.8540000000000001,0.087,0.7426,1,0,1,0,4,0,57.0,4,0,0,6,15,11,2,1,19,0,26,0,0,4,3,64,57,15,1,10,4,2,2,2,0,6,0,0,0,1,19,24,0,1,10,0,2,10,4,3,0,1,11,3,53,8,50,36,9,67,0,0,0,0,41,22,0,6,39,204,72,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08309853949516881,0.15076281992459015,0.0,0.08515367302172219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06538927987325485,0.0,0.05183861885092638,0.0,0.07236141434024845,0.09580915525532234,0.0,0.07520955351509911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09726127419017924,0.0,0.0,0.08995935065816907,0.14650610218276766,0.08916114363191477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16452819728714674,0.08767085554568765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09966437052270473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09484029398721967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04299796975061373,0.060751449375843675,0.08165019902828374,0.0,0.07772355626304182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13328716124550272,0.1631531625800283,0.048329281972767466,0.0,0.06801297624124457,0.1875102706471518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09052495722488067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17099833934213834,0.0,0.0,0.08446231815737561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09408238922138512,0.0,0.09346976050177846,0.13863529053451246,0.0,0.0,0.0923944695435443,0.0,0.0,0.08309093278169623,0.08523081638168932,0.0,0.07525630728454286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702913753884491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08586454146356984,0.0,0.4751378724623541,0.18076472077606495,0.0,0.1261097909697769,0.0,0.0,0.09043930228268364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05762422010508918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742522500924495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958680178372416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967923155579271,0.05447777605649298,0.0874336374970688,0.08396516009539629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0703446425760488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06546671430001827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08890059865380259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06393829303471242,0.06835064407502325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09917314886170983,0.0,0.0,0.16251566934127454,0.0,0.17320647295729386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15047355334114634,0.0,0.06821267439645659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07673392839593547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095448370792803,0.0,0.0,0.18122651675017096,0.0,0.0,0.05476194098765743
divorce,Itsgonnabeokaytoday,2020/01/07,"Bouncing checks My stbx has money to take his affair partner to Breckinridge, but bounced a child support check resulting in a fee on my end. I’m so sick of these games.",6.08818181818182,6.4599634242424235,5.863181818181817,82.41477272727273,66.27272727272728,9.024242424242424,34.68181818181819,8.841846274778883,2.838345454545455,135,6,26,2,2,42,30,33,0.157,0.748,0.095,-0.5126,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,5,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,1,14,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5453676967109827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6987406281425328,0.0,0.0,0.4629639402449571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,aztecjoker,2020/01/07,"Frak me. 41M here. Currently drinking at home, while the love of my life sleeps. About 25 hours ago, I was told by my wife of 9 years (14 together total) that she wants a divorce. Via note. 

Decided to go to work today, and it was hard to not break down. I was fighting back tears all day. All day, my skin felt like it couldn't sit still. And cold. I've been cold all day. 

And now that I'm home, alone, and drinking, all I want to do is cry. I just want to let it out. Playing the saddest music I can find. And guess what? IT'S. NOT. WORKING. Not a damn tear. Frak me. 

I failed my marriage. So of course, I'm gonna fail at crying about it too. She deserves better. I know she will have better. 

My crime? I wasn't affectionate enough. I thought I was with my actions, but apparently she needed the words, and I didn't have them. I did my best to show her, but I didn't tell her enough. Frak me. 

My apologies. Just needed to get this out somehow. Not sure it'll be of any use to me or anyone. Not looking forward to tomorrow. 

I'm not sure I can do this.",-1.2599565158309574,0.7826099237668167,0.8033020790868335,101.3392893056122,97.74439461883408,3.779263486886806,16.174616116320152,5.565023196281405,-0.8478687593423024,795,21,194,6,33,260,128,223,0.126,0.792,0.081,-0.7017,2,1,2,0,3,0,46.0,0,0,1,7,11,13,2,0,5,0,21,6,2,1,7,42,40,11,0,6,11,1,3,1,0,3,1,0,2,0,11,9,2,0,5,4,0,3,10,4,0,0,12,6,33,9,22,22,8,23,0,2,1,1,15,6,1,3,15,124,44,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12030899374069612,0.0,0.0,0.14056662777919987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922953300579974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09489968603083347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10436151919836716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14243142727169592,0.2400694205007444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29816757033253305,0.26258757785889386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659109618235275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2804733503714517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13031400299800522,0.0,0.12404706742195624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07090892505203952,0.0,0.07713370292837901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14951262429419518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12157987930869685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722796262243887,0.0,0.13365841953847846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07458903220819017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387845133242377,0.0958641673452591,0.06630670955174407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11397194678128172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12249402695359662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012716671127844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13581959880745495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10838743094658294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558319702448881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862664510447135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077477761014129,0.0,0.0,0.12864819051598678,0.12968778811197731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11721987057768254,0.0,0.0,0.2401563170032951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19761385670691733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08740024919682275
divorce,demoman33,2020/01/07,its hard to deal with parents got a divorce and its been very hard to be normal lately. been very sad.,1.7628571428571431,3.7807921904761934,2.5526190476190465,95.4632142857143,79.47619047619048,4.2,20.02380952380953,3.1291,-0.5313047619047624,80,2,17,0,2,25,16,21,0.267,0.733,0.0,-0.6361,1,0,0,0,1,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,10,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3094276803897511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24004667621572814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5377269245273302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3385671849039057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29407016648149026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3332662021779871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4952882953012645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Same_Same_8,2020/01/07,"My STBX claims no financial support I'm military and my ex and I split up 6 months ago. He divorce is not final yet since we all lived abroad for my work and her and the kids moved back to the states. I'm in the AF and we have no court order in place as of now. I recieve a housing allowance from the military for the and give them the full amount the AF pays to me for them.  This is a little over 1700$ a month. My STBX got her own lease in her name for her and the children and the rent is 1000$ monthly. She says that in addition to the 1700$ that the AF provides for her in the kids for housing, I should be paying her child support. The divorce up until this point has been in her control and on her time table since she is the one filing.  In total, in 6 months, I've paid her around 15,600$ including the housing payment the AF provides and more on top of that. She plans to contact my supervison and claim that I am not paying her child support. Has anyone dealt with this? FYI: Each branch of the US military had different guidelines on financial responsibility for dependents that don't live with you. The AF guideline is outlined in AFI: 36-2906.",3.6253983618764,4.653544734177217,4.435244477537854,88.09483246463142,72.12236286919831,7.433010672623483,27.02134524695953,7.724431198458867,1.346260064532142,910,31,196,11,17,293,124,237,0.019,0.924,0.057,0.8269,2,0,0,0,2,0,24.0,3,1,2,4,4,3,0,0,21,0,14,0,0,3,2,27,22,13,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,5,8,18,0,1,0,0,5,1,5,0,0,1,4,1,29,3,35,16,7,35,0,0,0,0,32,21,0,1,11,132,37,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11961686531988013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09435373540996783,0.0,0.0,0.12012590904166258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10376113537641947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513475662429268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14098440114977975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14782103569392865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12944749829307628,0.0,0.0,0.10792447399328883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4671106501726152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13524611823168886,0.2383103733165999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4308337933119567,0.14342070061087764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09143936918825604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14098440114977975,0.0,0.1275626599046409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10731032950544203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232488259692443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4593876160019215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07868505773952222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16231715126919108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09823849966695204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,DaddyBishop,2020/01/07,"Question about custody. I have been flip flopping back and forth on this situation.

First, the wife (who wants the divorce and has been adulterous), brought up custody arrangements. She originally said we would do joint custody with our son being picked up by me Friday after school and dropped off to school Monday morning. So basically I would only have weekends. Oh and I would like to mention that she oh-so-graciously stated she wouldn't be asking for child support from me. I told her that a week by week basis would be better and more fair. I could drop him off at school on Monday, she would pick him up for the week and then the following Monday morning she would drop him off at school and I would pick him up for the week. She thought this was also better and more fair.

However as I have had time to think about it, I think I would like to have primary physical custody. I think I want my son for the week, and she can have him on weekends. Plus, I think she should pay me child support. The child support because the affair she had been having is actually on going and isn't about to stop. So she is already set up with a dual income lifestyle and I will be single and alone.

Where I am flip flopping is the physical custody of our son. If I give her weekends with him, chances are they could go out and do stuff together all weekend, while I will be stuck with only the hours of the day he is not in school and I am not at work. Which may be limiting the actual time I get to spend with him and the chances of going out to do things together. Has anyone had this type of issue and if so, how did it end up for you? If it comes down to it, I assume I can be awarded primary physical custody and still have the week to week exchange if I agreed upon it?",4.710315309767214,5.324426436260623,5.2041507574824495,85.08755142258902,69.33994334277621,8.178790491439832,28.662273679024512,8.18289091462,1.7646409410025858,1384,47,285,18,23,443,155,353,0.028999999999999998,0.8690000000000001,0.102,0.9716,2,1,0,0,1,0,33.0,3,1,1,6,11,8,0,0,16,0,52,0,0,5,1,63,74,30,0,18,6,4,0,2,0,13,0,1,0,3,14,27,0,2,7,4,3,6,4,0,0,1,13,1,49,8,53,39,4,60,0,0,0,0,41,22,0,7,29,222,63,9,0.0,0.0,0.16165586634839418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0857845665079244,0.091402478624655,0.0662373194726245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05791508664973336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07743276266314722,0.0,0.0,0.06368942490818652,0.0,0.050491025884513034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14650882286095773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0713487701015113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13226243269151325,0.0,0.0,0.053417044744490674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07336079939884738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07045323941492858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043274079297733685,0.07945592241430986,0.14121875241801454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08156864656562034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08645064870240883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0809309069347241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12598846814067652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927860328306934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07878815490481138,0.0,0.0,0.4191305104010742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09310185814542933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06614634586856084,0.06924770540009201,0.0,0.0,0.09481795412416856,0.0,0.28197583774468177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05502707479632904,0.2122907037486564,0.0,0.06575597928956174,0.09659505089487493,0.0,0.0,0.07914546190887392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09770790252637686,0.0,0.4650759587085838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06029958640037344,0.0,0.0,0.4707076410610298,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,fudge-this-life,2020/01/07,"Happy National Divorce Day kids! I was on my way to yoga this morning when I heard today was national divorce day! I sat there in my car thinking how strange! I guess today is the most popular day for people seeking or applying for divorce based on divorce attorneys, said the DJ. 

It’s probably because everyone is waiting for the holidays to be over before dropping the bombshell on their spouse? 

Personally, I thought it was appropriate because my sock day is coming up this week and found it amusing in a fucked up sort of way that national divorce day was the same week as my sock day. 

Happy Monday everyone; what a fucking shit show this is, am I right?!",5.400421146953407,6.9462625725806495,6.341397849462362,74.13765232974913,68.43548387096774,9.382078853046597,37.16487455197132,9.725611199111238,4.013886379928317,525,29,88,12,9,174,76,124,0.075,0.797,0.128,0.7979999999999999,0,0,0,0,5,0,12.0,0,0,1,0,3,7,3,0,7,0,10,3,1,1,0,12,21,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,8,2,0,1,3,5,0,2,0,3,0,0,9,2,11,4,15,11,2,29,0,0,0,2,11,12,3,4,12,58,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17827833718289512,0.0,0.12442916990014925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12596238510617833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5658293774454539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27945404351576275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16033134113829053,0.0,0.2703706684326596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16108651409641528,0.0,0.0,0.3113246302725527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137601176410252,0.12768055912752976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576584048091798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12487782480810075,0.13909621561528313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15010083461355922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09369693178314313,0.0,0.11608861616705313,0.0,0.0,0.277213896189185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321377961078772,0.23459039680763424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,crazyfuckingemini,2020/01/07,"STBX is falling apart Long story short. He had an affair 2 years ago, I tried to make it work. I can’t get over it enough to be happy. We separated but stayed living in the same home through the holidays for our 3 children (9, 5 and 14 mo). He is moving in with his father this Saturday. He wants no parts of this divorce and would give anything to get me to change my mind. It is not changing. 

He has had plenty of time to digest. He has had plenty of time to get things ready at his Dads for the kids and himself (cleaning and rearranging). He has had plenty of time to get his shit together to prepare for this. He has done none of that. 

He has been crying and barely functioning the past week. He hasn’t even gone to his Dads to see what needs to be done. He acts like I just asked him to move out yesterday when it was months ago. He plans on taking suite case there Saturday and that is as far as he has gotten in his planning. 

We are on good terms, still talking and trying to support each other. I have tried to encourage him to pack and go there to make preparations but at the end of the day, it is not my problem. The separation agreement is signed, this is my house...he needs to go and figure it out on his own (for the first time). 

I do not know how to deal with this. I want my kids to have two happy homes (we are going to try for 40/60 custody if he can get his shit together). We agreed and signed on everything, he understood what was happening, he knows how hard I tried after he gutted our marriage. 

How can I be supportive without giving him hope that things will change between us? How can I make him see his life is over? How can I make him see he needs to be strong for our babies? I am scared he will go to his Dada and fall into a depression and not be able to be what our kids need.",2.8418067226890784,3.947078371657757,3.9117990832696736,90.8074465240642,74.10695187165776,7.161038961038963,22.715431627196327,7.5804360353943165,0.6974854087089382,1397,35,315,17,28,453,182,374,0.083,0.8009999999999999,0.11699999999999999,0.934,0,0,0,0,1,0,44.0,9,0,0,5,11,15,2,1,10,0,44,5,3,9,0,58,79,23,0,10,9,3,1,1,0,3,2,0,3,4,20,22,1,0,5,1,0,10,9,5,0,2,12,4,40,10,57,58,7,49,0,1,3,0,58,17,2,2,22,210,60,1,0.0884131074317353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15674577039317486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07275645413134638,0.0,0.0826543205564714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28058803350927314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971176469540714,0.057019140059583875,0.09115003155559948,0.0761500798779582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809546105558346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07830777078391889,0.0913543742903424,0.0,0.05839602361478587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07946000004956655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07520414401557718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309609975832203,0.16962781787632422,0.200988825737262,0.07415671978226936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07818341891311227,0.1882347937922692,0.07920077815472816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17737111103636,0.08781416489419164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09717906328393876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06244879246525535,0.04319417837258886,0.0,0.0780703936654394,0.07824281787884736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360657429988557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08927203476225737,0.0,0.0705704988417642,0.1879382823439084,0.0,0.262228795528861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957427795541464,0.08440031519522401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08459940336119773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08851694433046355,0.0,0.21136139921845684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18150956849636574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09423660878396636,0.07060682180285055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006602931416164,0.0,0.0,0.06647565364168358,0.07106310672464251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11747547996670812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062175757712828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3001334817867721,0.0,0.08636675903383632,0.0,0.10635008222158428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10429668293572636,0.0,0.07091966178530902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852270805350966,0.0,0.06436579520533067,0.0,0.0,0.0628061348235278,0.0,0.0,0.05693514244844593
divorce,MissEmKayZer,2020/01/07,"The guilt of being better off Going through a very civil and friendly divorce.  Best friends for the better part of 20 years, had a go at it for 10, didn't work out but we can still send funny videos and memes to each other.

Problem is, I (35F) make much more than he (36M) and tomorrow I will be turning off the services in my name and asking him to start up his own.

All my long time friends have said that giving him the past 17 months to ""become an adult"" has been way too nice and I need to just pull off the band aid and let him sink or swim.  But I feel guilty, like I have been enabling him to not worry about these things for so long because I took care of them and I worry that the pressure of finances on his part might stop this from being civil.

Anyone that has gone through this, or has advice on how they would handle this situation even if they havent, is greatly appreciated.",6.641221001220997,5.157059043956046,6.4307326007326,84.97537851037853,65.7032967032967,8.748229548229551,29.562881562881564,6.42735559955562,1.3056061050061047,694,17,152,3,9,218,126,182,0.08800000000000001,0.7240000000000001,0.18899999999999997,0.9641,0,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,1,0,3,5,7,13,0,2,9,0,20,0,0,2,1,27,33,14,0,4,7,0,1,1,3,3,0,1,0,1,10,10,0,1,1,3,1,7,3,3,0,0,7,2,19,10,26,19,8,27,0,0,0,0,22,9,0,4,11,111,29,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14254691177338308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10199886981507476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13637300287689888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889237653596384,0.16110696816783293,0.0,0.0,0.153086329528433,0.2580283517511318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14872881511383804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09634875760641816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07375855024301205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3381069222289223,0.0,0.0,0.1399361505817791,0.16580772502851415,0.0,0.0,0.16082719485158165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14916660000653853,0.0,0.07126693162332393,0.0,0.0,0.2581887542200189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09737238789327776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547498341149798,0.0,0.0,0.11643566575563115,0.0,0.10723457111912237,0.10816412271706467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3159358219552293,0.13925375406196214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13958223357577712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13876009205872092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16396909437345936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10325074991547464,0.0,0.11649559572956812,0.12195764690493048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09691256222062457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08506061711169198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16207198087590466,0.0,0.15866961011701744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203617723578927,0.0,0.1157884196049199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10619840215991216,0.2962853516916258,0.0,0.10362508756120016,0.0,0.0,0.09393842079451528
divorce,yellowbean1919,2020/01/07,"Weird Circumstances, Mom is sneaking money behind dads back So Ide like to start this off by saying I’m a senior in high school. I live with my mother, stepdad, and two younger brothers. My real dad has since disowned me and there have been zero contact between any of us. 

My mom found my stepdad 6 years ago after leaving my dad. It forced me and my brothers to move across country to follow. They have been happily married ever since, or so it seemed. 

Today I found out my stepdad is a porn and sex addict. He frequently sexts women, hooks up with them and cheats on my mother. Due to the nature of his job it allows him plenty opportunities through business trips. A few months back my mom caught some texts from my stepdad. She confronted him and  he admitted his addiction, saying it was only texting and they agreed he would go into coucling for it.

Since, more information has surfaced. Finding out it was more than just texts, the behavior never stopped, he was getting tested for a whole list of std’s, and the counciling had been canceled. My mother has kept this fact a secret for the time being and is planning to divorce him once things are in order.

We are getting ready for a move and so she is waiting for our house to be sold before she brings things to the front. He makes a very sizable income (180,000) and she makes less than 20’000. She has decided that in the coming months as the house is being sold, and things are working out (me leaving the house hold, layers, etc.) that we are as she puts it “stock up” on things for her, me, and my two brothers. 

Seeing as our income level and quality of life will seemily drop significantly after this decision. I don’t feel bad about doing this considering the circumstances of what he’s done and the fact he will have plenty of money left over. 

However my mom plans to take the roughly 50,000 that will be left over in the bank account once the hosue is sold and exiting mortgage is paid off and transferring it to another account of her own. She is going to take this money, two cars (that are mine and my moms but under his name) and a settlement against him, in turn for anonymity about this situation.

Due to the nature of his family, freinds and his job this sort of information is extremely damming towards him and his future. I’m talking being dishoned and never being able to work in his field again. She hopes to take the 50,000, the cars, and a reasonable settlement out of this situation in turn for her signing a nondisclosure agreement.

I know this is a weird situation and it will be a few long months ahead of me but I’m still not sure how to feel about this situation.

Is my mom in the right here?
Should I go along with stocking up on things?
If so, what should I try and get? (Clothes, essentials, anything)
How should I handle this situation personally?

Thank you for all of your responses and those who may help. 

TLDR: Stepdad is a proven cheater, with no remorse. Mom wants to take money in bank account, car and a reasonable settlement in turn for a NDA due to the nature of his family and job.",5.421503407155021,6.543840688245318,5.6320574957410585,80.82130600511073,68.01192504258944,8.527580919931857,29.8368398637138,8.769984970463412,2.2960875979557063,2432,89,455,39,40,771,270,587,0.043,0.91,0.047,0.5329,7,0,0,0,1,0,70.0,5,2,3,6,17,11,2,0,33,0,50,6,0,7,7,90,90,41,0,7,6,16,3,1,0,9,4,2,0,2,33,41,0,4,15,0,13,15,5,5,0,4,16,6,62,6,89,58,10,78,0,0,1,3,71,35,0,7,27,331,95,11,0.06241047190305226,0.0,0.0,0.1360732530119463,0.0,0.0,0.055323117709660585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04244126104034873,0.06544282145964027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05135850065937424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09597960104984693,0.052110137151895684,0.0,0.0,0.05310671484103935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05376109534363268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06386758120984766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06960417363509372,0.0,0.056453844903258665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176700770408787,0.0,0.0631132196380903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05704204065835935,0.0,0.0,0.1368597222137762,0.0,0.0,0.09782068701633173,0.0,0.106407928297182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041832423760329716,0.0659400901382555,0.0,0.06198768067337205,0.0,0.21603991555729876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18579828980995386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034299163183072384,0.0,0.0,0.1321673567691607,0.13561832066648505,0.0,0.044082362002055286,0.03049060409712798,0.0,0.05510959010324543,0.05523130369118387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08331894924108807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5116607327817815,0.14944632972714852,0.13266490942860173,0.0,0.0,0.09626960683036792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13293023143858815,0.0,0.047465976205844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05449441678162358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06273976215057424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0710367804168196,0.0,0.12833671913150987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053298202000181635,0.0,0.09926262446045486,0.0,0.06316272950196318,0.04973306579569607,0.056816149647141864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15487976187067848,0.3507599265764898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04417445323791638,0.0,0.04984108348067064,0.05217794906689326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058821131171030425,0.0,0.1876996311681338,0.05016317324901491,0.0,0.0574591774169873,0.0,0.0,0.2073137217640693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036392048058389886,0.0,0.05915782989915645,0.0,0.0,0.04237261369120264,0.20365401543709624,0.18289788735909152,0.0,0.07507211330064674,0.0,0.0,0.05149517547338995,0.036811313327989995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06967906307331463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908711337011099,0.0,0.0,0.04433460859601143,0.0,0.0,0.04019029769786783
divorce,BquinnIJ,2020/01/07,"And it was not final today. I went to court this morning to what I hoped it's going to be the final court date and my divorce would be complete. I have not been to a court date prior as my attorney said I did not have to go. I went today though, because I actually thought this was supposed to be the end. It wasn't.

My STBXH attorney did not show up for the second court date in a row. I'm hoping that the next court date, which will be on January 28th, will be the last one. I initially saw my attorney in June and filed on July 2nd. There are no small children as we have been married 36 years. There's only a division of property. And he doesn't believe I should get anything. He thinks he only worked for it. I believe he is holding this whole process up.

I'm going to contact my attorney this week to see what the heck is going on. By the way I know many worse things have happened to people then being disappointed that it wasn't their day to be divorced. I get that. I just wanted to share that with this community. And I appreciate you listening.",2.5813888888888883,4.218575101851855,4.167777777777779,86.555,75.75925925925927,7.207407407407408,25.42592592592593,7.984000788550335,1.4182981481481476,826,29,173,13,18,276,114,216,0.040999999999999995,0.909,0.05,0.2263,0,0,0,0,2,0,21.0,1,1,1,1,4,4,0,0,10,0,27,0,0,0,0,21,48,9,0,5,5,0,0,0,0,4,0,2,0,1,18,7,0,1,3,1,0,6,8,1,0,2,13,4,21,3,25,24,1,32,0,1,2,0,14,8,1,2,17,119,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.1409712765704458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887755879127353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08806094743201295,0.0,0.0,0.3255119511847772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15146265383588425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09316419080050632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12794791522375998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31649584098018385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15094787065419274,0.0,0.3283978202790989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277447353545771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869610311428924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07939096226406178,0.1177534751368417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14645888839579888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15363392815318053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09788924801560987,0.2197353623860312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014977460404856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13741371750313375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11511522682894007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09597222983863543,0.09256358023837252,0.14193036596478126,0.1146844163714,0.0,0.0,0.2738607362564238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852057402017125,0.11466493676720498,0.1158764038736737,0.0,0.0,0.26783012949162915,0.0,0.16128346448343805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10516797025120736,0.0,0.14721619931396654,0.1026196242529613,0.0,0.0,0.09302694619347324
divorce,GhostlyGamer27,2020/01/07,"Wondering about custody Hey all, I don’t know how common it is for kids who’s parents got divorced to post on the sun but here it goes, my parents separated a long time ago for reasons they still won’t tell me, but it’s fine. I was just wondering if my custody agreement was unique or common. Bassicly on sundays I switch houses meaning I spend equal time at my dads and moms, I had never heard of this agreement before and wondering if anyone else had insight, thanks",5.383840579710146,6.172463326086959,5.524782608695656,82.76297101449278,67.91304347826087,7.872463768115942,32.72463768115942,7.793537801064563,2.262102898550725,374,16,71,4,6,118,68,92,0.0,0.8420000000000001,0.158,0.9398,2,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,0,0,1,0,5,4,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,2,2,18,15,8,0,2,6,4,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,5,2,0,0,7,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,6,1,10,4,8,8,2,13,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,6,9,46,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15906618607075304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12547134380303945,0.1838614763320548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526935381488104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14990234870286695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351767550417055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070541624636016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09861767193928424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15880220048296373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19546700765456024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101625212935239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13839819434438275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3985024197352647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17185764872860645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18449821060534696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14330412650478466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568418737156653,0.16520782965358635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209270356682765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5837977493447524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,darkasian17,2020/01/07,"This past Saturday my wife asked me for a divorce. I can't say I didn't see it coming. I knew she'd been cheating for years, but I ate the shit I saw for the sake of keeping our family together. I'm also our kids' favorite person, so I decided to stick it out for them, until I couldn't take it any longer. I reached my limit a little over a month ago, and called her out on it. She denied, and deflected. Blamed me for everything, and then Saturday night told me she wanted a divorce. Even though I know it was coming to this, I'm still pretty devastated. I've tried so hard over the last couple of years to do the little things, but it all seemed worthless. Going to consult a divorce lawyer this Wednesday to cover all of my bases. She's telling everyone how she can't wait to get me out of her house. Any advice from here?",3.5236274509803884,4.419528558823533,4.71970588235294,86.45700980392158,72.23529411764707,7.784313725490197,25.34313725490196,8.07648339933343,1.3324313725490189,645,19,137,9,12,213,102,170,0.126,0.7859999999999999,0.08800000000000001,-0.7614,0,0,0,0,3,0,20.0,2,0,1,1,8,3,2,0,9,0,8,2,1,1,2,22,26,12,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,10,8,1,3,4,0,0,3,4,3,0,0,7,4,26,0,23,17,2,24,0,1,2,0,22,8,1,1,13,91,36,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16281962614127984,0.14769902169913582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332463552347868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266153100132509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15576767723652932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17013816181013613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2870576177358833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843624162678713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11005127012217056,0.0,0.0,0.15921303000628886,0.14974776342730953,0.0,0.15707498042147444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08705233527675071,0.0,0.09469427104600292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14925924217184486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19225768838768198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14809995790912273,0.0,0.0,0.09157027038543393,0.13581794765556232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3339950315201274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329948950278332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15636205392553792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15905812264234578,0.0,0.1454865954762576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16951295166502986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13250331083146613,0.0,0.0,0.13277496764865762,0.15168504717385414,0.0,0.0,0.17103355088114605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13306334811341522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12527788131136428,0.0,0.14563366282610904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11069525781267736,0.0,0.16370379721649794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15921303000628886,0.0,0.11312438358717425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982770890559385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145962808142877
divorce,cemetaryofpasswords,2020/01/07,"Need advice about what to send to ex’s So apparently the asshole is going to pick her up for a weekend. He’s supposed to every other weekend but hasn’t since October. Whatever. She’s 12. She misses his dog a lot lol. I’m glad that ex has decided to do something that at least makes her feel like she matters to him. I don’t personally like it because she’s told me that she feels strange visiting him because he has recording devices all over the place. She even found one in his car. I’m sure that he has those because he’s trying to record her saying something bad about me but I’m not really concerned about that. Maybe I should be because he’s very manipulative and good at subtly asking leading questions, but there really isn’t anything that I can do about it. 
Anyway, I’m not sure about what clothes I should send with her. He doesn’t buy anything for her to wear at home or there. He didn’t pay any child support for months, so I do try to take care of the good clothes that my family and I (and the Salvation Army when she was picked to be part of their clothe a kid thing in September 🙇🏻‍♀️) bought for her. I’m sure that he takes pics of everything I send. But I’m kinda hesitant about sending her with nicer things. I’m thinking about just sending her with play clothes, the kind of stuff that I don’t care if it gets stained up or ripped or whatever. Maybe one nicer outfit and just tell her not to wear it for play, just if they go somewhere. Of course, unless I send her with only nice stuff, if he takes her to his aunt and uncles house (the only members of his who like him right now fwiw lol) he’ll take her in the worst clothes that I send. What to do?",2.9325808178120316,4.305169725433527,3.731477199743093,91.13432134446586,74.28901734104045,6.860029972168701,24.95354313851423,7.3871296695380915,0.9307006208520652,1319,42,291,15,27,420,164,346,0.05,0.772,0.17800000000000002,0.9936,1,0,2,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,2,1,18,19,0,0,10,2,20,2,2,5,4,47,48,19,0,6,17,3,2,3,0,3,0,1,1,3,24,9,0,0,6,4,3,12,9,3,0,2,5,3,41,16,45,38,5,28,0,1,0,0,58,11,0,9,8,176,65,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10780901285958512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07502527014218274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18157732789342973,0.0,0.10313965162731142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09211736459127236,0.2690141299846825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22496884066754808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07286909494264425,0.0,0.09295417407898092,0.0,0.09915363974009196,0.0,0.10400526635212863,0.0,0.11156799390077056,0.07881671358832418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12096645315169785,0.0,0.0,0.057640633108717934,0.0,0.12540129377362935,0.18507195250469166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11066568860450827,0.0,0.0,0.12730106370442495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148872558846874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616987162806443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09379497849848847,0.0,0.0,0.07364327215480966,0.0,0.2216740211072903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08806093398024148,0.0,0.0,0.08180512051701402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495191208912715,0.16781535704230352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11947199931670098,0.0,0.0,0.09633215979127308,0.11526689163776965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12359005119925336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14135495750265278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421755869493824,0.0,0.08773543755082626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09126257238883327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16986825248007606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525930993557465,0.0,0.12519631515161073,0.31194204517013546,0.0,0.3318048330512469,0.0,0.09642953862813147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14659100694245356,0.07069226408595525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10542094958790564,0.0,0.14980783845185708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09103026998272336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Wizard-of-mods,2020/01/07,"Unsellable house What do you do if you can't sell the house that's binding you to the area and person you're considering leaving? Tried several times before, gave up, sat on it, tried again, gave up, sat on it...",4.073571428571427,5.1852335000000025,4.479523809523811,87.88214285714287,71.14285714285714,7.504761904761906,25.904761904761905,7.793537801064563,1.2062761904761912,165,5,35,2,3,52,30,42,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,7,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,3,0,5,3,0,7,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,1,2,20,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25209600017005995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6836900475089606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.313697261205911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25868338012185416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3346902174123355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17275197272091586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4022830807846765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,wutsupwidya,2020/01/07,"Stress management I have a good friend who has, let's just say, a stressful job, About a week before NYE he noticed that I was much more stressed that he had ever seen me.  And I rarely show stress.  He suggested that I try two things; Rhodiola Rosea and Theanine (or take Rhodiola with Matcha tea; i opted for the latter). I've been taking them daily and damned if I don't wake up in cold sweats anymore, or laying in bed for 40 minutes trying think my way through a hellish situation.  I kind of even wake up feeling normal again.  It has been working so well for me I wanted to share here in case anyone else was looking for a natural way to manage stress and it's manifestations.",2.9933333333333323,5.068992835820897,3.999328358208956,86.27844527363185,75.86567164179105,6.556218905472638,24.59950248756219,7.492282038375204,1.1340069651741298,536,18,107,7,12,173,96,134,0.11199999999999999,0.747,0.141,0.276,1,0,0,0,0,1,14.0,0,0,1,1,8,12,2,5,6,0,10,4,3,0,1,14,17,8,0,3,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,7,5,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,7,1,1,6,5,12,5,15,10,2,10,1,0,2,0,9,5,1,3,3,67,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12929616657254892,0.09116066689017542,0.13358376733537705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11093883547877333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089109087538596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08611092469323459,0.11793092136490038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06592110913773815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10072677787657193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10935168727912216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12937626919157727,0.0,0.0,0.13576465918076205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333164451624775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10948148629256296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09584003268491482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12773902778859095,0.0,0.14843188250876288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036787908757994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14654605506475446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7467159862747431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19605033529108892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0866148205179628,0.08353851840607268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17703103771959658,0.0,0.12735664216147652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07689807673615713,0.20696993149984785,0.1045783133377275,0.0,0.11722205655273127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09491396503824626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,IDontWantADivorce19,2020/01/07,"Breaking down right now and I don’t know why I’ve been being strong and doing what I need to do to face this new hell. Had a therapist appointment today and she seemed impressed with the steps I’ve been taking. Did all my regular work, taxied kids and met my personal obligations. Now all of a sudden I’m in tears and feeling horrible. Only the second time I’ve cried. Tell me something good will come of this. Help!

I’m not suicidal",2.080919540229885,4.4550934137931035,3.506436781609196,87.1405747126437,80.3793103448276,7.085057471264367,22.310344827586206,8.167268648758528,1.3821862068965522,345,11,68,7,9,113,64,87,0.129,0.688,0.183,0.6378,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,2,2,4,1,0,4,0,9,1,1,0,2,14,18,5,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,7,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,5,1,6,3,7,11,2,12,1,0,0,0,6,3,1,1,6,40,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22175243411901127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28277385339030503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13016392235293153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21591937269170292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17254934511020442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14147633852092453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19088046639109246,0.0,0.24862669484747266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19578648266376167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22477722021808014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2198431031243273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343538464198333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19818155057722228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815857276308936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19355469707568,0.0,0.22500443970848225,0.0,0.0,0.2988951057004081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15010901820250555,0.0,0.2440127511072014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23228978380825505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874115004593359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,CalmMicrobe,2020/01/07,"Memories I found a love letter today that she had snuck into my wallet years ago I had completely forgotten about. I’m just beyond myself as today I attended the first court meeting.  Should I throw it away?  37(m) married to her for 4 years, share a child together and she filed for divorce 2 months ago. Gawd this hurts",1.994631147540982,4.802210983606557,3.0526024590163963,86.75792008196724,86.70491803278688,6.328688524590166,20.739754098360656,7.645422480735847,1.2210475409836063,254,8,46,5,8,81,50,61,0.09699999999999999,0.797,0.106,0.1486,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,3,0,3,1,0,0,0,5,6,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,3,0,9,2,8,2,0,13,0,1,0,1,9,3,0,0,8,29,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4592696136198695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24338877084222565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716120858326835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22035030404974207,0.0,0.2840381848647503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773215372071593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338053984183988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20677359047533025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4911038062417655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3336432084655289
divorce,itsyoutheguy,2020/01/07,"She wants to separate and have us live separately in a duplex so we’ll be close to the kids. Someone please tell me I’m not the only one that thinks this is the worst idea ever. 

A week ago my 41yr old wife of 11years (been together for 17yrs) decided to call it quits without getting majorly detailed there was no infidelity and she doesn’t trust I’ll be there when major events happen in our lives (when she had her miscarriage at 3 months it hit her really hard but I don’t know how to process the moment and didn’t spend enough time holding her and helping her through it emotionally) amongst other intimacy and romance issues. I’m the sole bread winner 45hrs a week and she’s attending school during the day plus I take care of all the chores, cooking, cleaning, laundry, taking the kids to school and putting them to bed, it really feels like everything. And perhaps she hasn’t been doing this because I’m not the greatest romantic or making her feel loved. Getting babysitting she wants to use family but not pay them to watch our 2kids so going on date nights are next to none unless I have a day off and we go during the day.

So... she’s done and her logical thought is that she wants to go through a full divorce and be done with this marriage and then she’ll consider getting back together like it’s a Hallmark movie. To do this she wants me to buy a duplex so we can live next door to each other and the kids will be close to us. Personally, I thought she was nuts in considering this an option so I can I have a front row seat to watch her move on with her life. Am I the crazy one? Thanks for any advice and apologies for any missing info.",4.7958181818181815,5.6035728242424225,5.206666666666671,84.45000000000003,69.24242424242425,8.424242424242426,28.93939393939393,8.575989854853784,1.958030303030303,1312,46,268,20,22,418,181,330,0.064,0.823,0.114,0.9647,0,0,0,0,1,0,24.0,7,0,2,1,12,9,0,0,21,0,29,4,0,3,2,51,58,28,0,4,8,1,3,2,0,3,1,0,6,4,14,22,2,1,10,1,3,7,10,2,0,2,10,5,38,7,34,40,9,37,0,1,2,1,40,10,0,2,22,177,52,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106151160047015,0.09629319795617404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14774311065821635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.083529120431635,0.0,0.0662193290001302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11092252004522836,0.0,0.11075467058767864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101704688021641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22233069628134708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12219318635709135,0.0,0.11224296292827296,0.0,0.0,0.09826129632074897,0.0,0.0,0.0976288865106586,0.0,0.1024059063471488,0.0,0.109852336669755,0.07760469516023485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17026276119336886,0.0,0.18520936866574475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09606040935467072,0.0,0.09731039236345916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728118375988883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12262910170421555,0.0,0.11338062256436365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05969974663127076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07672798978750246,0.1061414431318422,0.0,0.2877646211270246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09804206002515728,0.0,0.07251080926854121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08670676086238871,0.11545560801985953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.231056692680084,0.10194110995640997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11398803230672845,0.0,0.1472198632640316,0.0826173728487151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948507943857766,0.0,0.1192421993388034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092023115579685,0.0,0.11554048539693898,0.0,0.0,0.1391812457910752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21987702310286614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09204113659269852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633512217734054,0.0,0.09494667576176148,0.10001113773902004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06960518086597907,0.0,0.17247884153753434,0.06334253803460556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26133501387197405,0.09382071822711743,0.0,0.0,0.25628917733245626,0.0,0.1742715229673599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10471463589234037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,LittleAmy389,2020/01/07,"Who is responsible for credit card debt in a divorce? So my question is who is responsible for credit card debt?

I will most likely be divorcing my husband due to his ex seaside gaming habits and his poor choices with money. 

Since I have been with him he has amassed a huge debt spending frivolously on his credit card. 

All of his debts are on two cards that are in his name only. Some of his debt was from before we were even married. 

When I divorce him could I be liable or responsible for paying any of this? 

I have credit card debt as well. But I’ve never asked him for help paying my bills, where as I have been paying his minimum payment on his cards for two years.",4.728061821219718,5.628034421052632,5.256040100250626,83.70021720969092,69.45112781954886,7.414870509607352,26.807852965747706,7.3871296695380915,1.3265963241436929,530,16,104,5,9,170,79,133,0.105,0.727,0.168,0.8095,6,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,1,0,0,0,5,6,0,0,2,0,17,0,0,0,2,13,18,7,0,1,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,1,1,17,0,1,0,1,2,4,0,21,6,19,10,3,11,0,0,0,0,25,7,0,4,5,77,25,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19651606835493216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701569589937492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459003938145431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23072673230384755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908683303048764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19369696483151191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411808577798362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228789175042804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2197820421908128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3237233388621482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23904694884566965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5645822461945172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598274062069323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18609341701912754
divorce,littytitty94,2020/01/07,"Feeling Trapped as a SAHM I want a divorce. If I need to get into details, I will do that. But basically, I'm looking for some direction. I gave up my career to be a stay at home mom 9 months ago. I made *decent* money, good money if it was just me, and no baby involved. After about 5 months I started working again, only part time to help out with bills. I feel like I'm at my breaking point though. Id have no help. How do I leave a marriage but remain financially okay? I can't be homeless. And I certainly don't want to not be able to see my daughter. Has anyone else been in this position? Thanks",0.07738095238095255,2.283019912698414,2.5764761904761926,91.55185714285713,87.96825396825398,4.947301587301588,21.89206349206349,6.42735559955562,0.4520196825396825,463,17,100,5,15,159,90,126,0.055,0.769,0.177,0.9083,0,1,0,0,1,0,19.0,0,0,0,1,5,5,0,0,4,1,12,0,0,2,1,20,26,9,0,5,6,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,5,0,0,2,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,4,4,14,5,16,18,2,16,0,0,2,0,8,7,0,3,8,64,17,2,0.197040070566118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17466413383930932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377749987496656,0.2018908374132428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16460169532837293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992587601398352,0.14076546578290236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10294530434179427,0.0,0.0,0.16526786268803131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26414361174807915,0.0,0.1976472564431681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086369843893063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626382560020093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654640334656767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18644407899925425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307709492128705,0.3145510089078981,0.0,0.0,0.14610271563910796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14985785263116674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133751950084016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18626655566419945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15701542537726093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394659761063758,0.21001849820787294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814080238089109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19359086890412927,0.0,0.1148956497013766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324386775041801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14344751810804812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,allthecoffeesDP,2020/01/07,"Anyone else feeling extra fatigued? I'm (42M) living alone for the first time in many years. I'm taking care of myself-- going on walks every day, getting extra sleep, eating well, and even have a sun lamp.

But I just feel so fucking tired. Like there's a filter on everything and I need to strain to focus or see/hear things correctly. Like I just crammed for and took exam finals. Every question at work gives me pause.

I'm doing ok in general and then a thought or memorywill come out of nowhere and I burst into tears for a moment or too and that bone-tired feeling will just drown me.

Anyone else? Any recommendations?",2.8019972451790665,5.221668586776862,3.750764462809919,86.13099517906339,78.00826446280992,5.686225895316805,22.480027548209367,6.816661863887847,0.7320903581267211,493,15,92,5,12,158,87,121,0.11800000000000001,0.745,0.13699999999999998,0.3512,0,1,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,2,8,8,1,1,5,1,3,5,1,0,1,24,19,12,1,1,7,0,3,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,9,1,0,5,0,0,4,0,3,1,1,2,3,7,5,14,16,2,18,0,1,0,1,2,7,1,4,9,53,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16765079370849392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110078655113759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22636962893848925,0.3317144210928731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16503950852995056,0.0,0.0,0.1394385776436635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10439418549895843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656356844972204,0.2704469245674407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10691506948847528,0.0,0.2727686404976073,0.0,0.14548030672250434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455423625745492,0.0,0.0,0.177323096186623,0.0,0.1376884209837002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14964825178182284,0.08457154983232539,0.1552825758741701,0.09199570852571484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824417476353987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581651727750048,0.0,0.14293612898703667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16411301629723574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12002619425249952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18133392383222172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12899119543761156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619891143508561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217077583103254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10754070505455116,0.0,0.0,0.1285084551654867,0.09438898866116084,0.18604829553093624,0.0,0.0,0.1798459837776663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455425588166039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11784489835223058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042403974518318
divorce,iiiiiithrowaway,2020/01/08,"50/50 custody I miss my 9 year old son so much when he is with his father. I know I should participate in activities that will further my own growth but I’m an anxious mess. My son, of course, is unaware. Please share suggestions on how to get through the long 3 day weekends without him.",3.027368421052632,5.020069280701755,3.7612631578947346,88.4008421052632,75.49122807017544,6.665263157894738,28.94385964912281,7.554174236665415,1.6286238596491236,227,10,47,3,5,72,50,57,0.152,0.7240000000000001,0.124,-0.1779,0,1,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,6,8,4,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,8,1,7,6,2,10,0,1,0,0,8,3,0,0,6,28,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4198352314940448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23967009875477435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19416092575730645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042376969366736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3288801596846115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731902323159612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38996234507425775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40793727854557504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3582373004412649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23931702931641455
divorce,soooooiguessdivorce,2020/01/08,"I don't know what to do I'm alone with no one to talk to. My wife moved all of her things out of our house said she was never coming back. She has not filed for divorce yet but no longer contacts or answers my calls. No Kids, Everything is split down the middle the house is in my name. Do I need an attorney? Also how do you live through divorce?",0.31648648648648603,2.3746240945945982,1.7310135135135134,99.12733108108112,85.08108108108108,4.781081081081081,18.70945945945946,5.985473137389443,-0.4066432432432432,269,7,64,2,8,86,57,74,0.121,0.879,0.0,-0.7941,0,1,0,0,2,0,7.0,1,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,1,2,13,13,4,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,2,6,0,0,1,2,1,10,0,11,11,1,9,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,1,3,47,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586906389396029,0.0,0.19974425696301654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19206086472060996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25504728179571884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21515827002995694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22448085491686726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5764115505412184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13726931281393775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22055510574857864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2654703389494792,0.0,0.18520432974899112,0.19264118345887926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16925339388484215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23759236612002105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20075895973628746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16593881297662927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwaway828213,2020/01/08,"I got married 2 weeks ago, i still havnt sent civil papers in, but i may get divorced now, what to do. (Canada) I got married two weeks ago. I still haven’t sent the paper work to register the civil marriage, i just applied for a marriage license only.

Though we may be getting divorced already...sigh... what happens in terms of the legal process? Should i register it and everything than file for divorce ?? This is all confusing",2.293125,5.122662062500002,3.312500000000004,85.56250000000001,84.625,5.2,29.25,6.742157984588678,1.8563500000000004,335,17,57,4,10,107,57,80,0.04,0.9359999999999999,0.024,-0.2824,0,0,0,0,3,0,18.0,1,0,0,1,5,1,0,1,4,0,7,0,0,0,1,9,14,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,4,0,8,0,8,6,2,12,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,3,8,40,12,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4359765170321218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22101198633995608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25696022557807063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3933603856637583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21746127236417095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18702896583266684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3927750799412299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416096278578097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402226145973509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3945153614888407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17902859604589885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,pamperednerd,2020/01/08,"Has anybody else left an abusive relationship and still have issues coming to terms with it? It's been almost a year for me. Yet, I still struggle. Was he really abusive? Did I make situations worse because I felt the need to leave? 

I know the clear cut answers, logically. He was incredibly emotionally abusive, called me worthless on multiple occasions, had a porn addiction, told me I was replaceable, picked fights about anything and everything, hid my only car key and magically found it after the car was sold, and so much more. But, I had convinced myself that I was overreacting to each thing to the point that I still struggle with it. 

Have any of you done the same? How did you cope? How did you come to terms with the fact that your life isn't the picture you created for the public? I'm so much better off now, but I still blame myself and whatif everything to death...",5.312636363636361,6.849674400000005,5.72037878787879,78.54056818181819,68.63636363636364,9.136363636363637,29.50757575757576,9.516144504307137,2.6703030303030304,696,26,129,15,12,223,103,165,0.149,0.807,0.044000000000000004,-0.9258,0,0,0,0,1,0,24.0,0,5,0,1,11,7,2,2,11,0,16,3,0,4,2,27,26,11,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,8,11,0,0,5,0,1,4,1,5,0,0,16,1,20,2,16,10,7,18,0,1,0,1,12,4,0,1,10,93,28,0,0.0,0.4646265938015381,0.0,0.14249830469490796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13089187885093814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08889047058840849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075670510352336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0796824608693572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11560651957573548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13347431175294786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22519825977369395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13376650952217098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091953493124698,0.14703643086419466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349558670124602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12550659977566472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433219090805963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13643217406824676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07183737432385368,0.0,0.0,0.1384079814271729,0.14202189153843395,0.0,0.0923276501913072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08725306960048779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921806725678786,0.09692328525466187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09941441084571986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12356763136859915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08373917660411456,0.0,0.0,0.14033865685939964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14692878662251735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41755567639905933,0.0,0.0,0.27330274727670384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08684103080501249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12490348653176055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13320943486585973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08417597375476915
divorce,fitzla,2020/01/08,"Why is it so hard to ask for a divorce?? My marriage has been over for months. To the point where we don’t sleep in the same bed, we don’t talk, we only communicate about the kids. I’m so lonely and scared. I want a divorce. I want to be done. I just don’t know if I’m strong enough to ask for one.",-0.9190336134453788,0.6953043235294132,1.3868067226890766,102.42205882352944,86.64705882352942,4.473949579831934,15.596638655462186,5.288315135182226,-1.1847420168067226,226,4,62,1,7,76,45,68,0.13,0.782,0.08900000000000001,-0.5763,0,2,0,0,2,0,10.0,3,0,0,1,5,3,0,1,5,0,8,1,1,0,0,10,15,4,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,2,1,7,1,10,12,2,5,0,1,0,0,10,4,0,1,1,40,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4972396252975019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2721509357976139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2747891128714932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23823174026348115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461547342254592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21227231779832967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18020913992281865,0.2022608277668096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514010915840264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662542740357295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2661339982385827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21375405618448975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3137188908793984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399712345592236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Pheliont,2020/01/08,"Guilt I just have so much guilt. She blames me for our marriage failing and has drilled it into my head, even calling and leaving a drunk voicemail months later. I know what I am responsible for, but no matter how much I try and rationalize it, saying the things that I did wrong and the things she did wrong, I just feel like I am to blame for all of it, mostly because that's what she said. Most of my life when things go wrong, I am to blame no matter who did what, and I hate it.",8.685400000000001,5.006347540000005,8.084,81.63200000000002,63.6,10.8,34.0,7.1686216300943375,2.0471000000000004,374,9,86,2,4,118,60,100,0.326,0.613,0.061,-0.9849,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,1,6,8,1,2,3,0,8,3,1,1,1,17,13,9,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,13,6,1,0,2,1,0,1,2,7,0,0,4,3,16,1,8,9,5,5,0,1,0,0,9,1,0,2,4,67,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11807006791485394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977765355339241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12792872982934886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09793419117232276,0.13837034845312993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11007703776233628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19122625138148347,0.1987791960266589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644555367270264,0.0,0.0,0.20508703657957167,0.0,0.0,0.13680716947709973,0.0946259014428595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15459946964547325,0.0,0.2847651141097945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842411129014205,0.1540280292452343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3860319934805169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13150106026917893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6353004422422219,0.0,0.0
divorce,SunnySideUp8888,2020/01/08,"Friends after divorce? Has anyone stayed friends after divorce?  Or plan to do so? 

If you have, what is your dynamic?  Do you hangout, do things together, etc?

If you plan to, what dynamic do you hope to achieve?",1.3846153846153832,4.071303230769232,2.3757692307692326,89.60673076923081,93.6153846153846,5.676923076923077,29.57692307692308,7.1686216300943375,2.177953846153846,162,9,30,3,6,51,24,39,0.0,0.69,0.31,0.9356,0,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,0,5,0,3,1,5,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,4,8,4,0,3,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,5,5,8,1,3,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,4,2,25,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704507028868467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4313701291167322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5976618821594435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38416710405764254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41226384304138536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569643234150767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Sheogorathah,2020/01/08,"My husbands been hurting me on purpose I'm not sure what to do anymore.
 I think about divorce daily but I feel like it isnt an option for me.
My husband and I have had a really hard relationship over the years that I feel like we havent ever come back from. We were happy and healthy and then one day he moved away to his parents claiming it was to work on himself and be a better man. That whole time he insisted we were still together. Though he was cheating on me the entire time. I went across the country to bring him back and we never picked back up. We would just go through the motions and eventually it just became so toxic. Constant fighting. He would say something really mean and I would challenge it and then I'd sleep alone. Every night for so long. Lately hes been admitting to hurting me on purpose and I dont know what to do with that. An example being right now. I'm very sick. I'm scared I might have pneumonia with all my symptoms, I havent been out of bed in a week because I'm very faint. And he'll just come home and not even look at me, then go to the living room until he falls asleep on the couch. I stopped existing entirely to him. He can hear me coughing up my lungs, and moaning in pain and nothing. Not even asking if I'm okay. 
He makes a good amount of money that hes very happy with. I have really horrible epilepsy that gets in the way of my life but I work as much as I possibly can which is a couple hours a few days a week at a very active job. I make very little money but he knows how much I value it. Usually less that 100 a paycheck, which always seems to be what we use for groceries, which is okay. I never buy myself anything but I'm happy to help. Yesterday at the peak of my sickness I didnt notice him take my card. By the time I noticed my bank account was nearly empty. I asked him why he would take my little amount of money and all he said was that was wrong. Hes knows it's wrong because he does it almost every check. My little amount of money just disappears completely. He'll get himself food instead of buying groceries so I eat very little. Usually ramen or ham sandwiches. Easy cheap stuff. He told me in the end he did it to hurt me. And if that was the end of the conversation maybe I'd be okay, but it's not. Because he says it everytime
 That means every week hes deliberately trying to hurt me. And it's working so well. I have severe depressive disorder, and have been battling a very severe addiction to self harm for about ten years. I keep trying to force myself to be happy. Make art so that I can tattoo one day, and not lay in a unmade bed. I force myself to get up and make my surroundings better when all I want to do is lay in bed and cry. The last six months I was self harming horribly every single day, but for all of december I stopped. I picked up more shifts even though I realized I might be pushing myself too far, and tried everything I could think of to made myself happier. But he would come home and either treat me like I was invisible or criticize me for not doing something well enough. I havent had a conversation with this man in atleast a year that didnt involve him laughing at me and rolling his eyes every few minutes. 
All I want is to be happy, and all I do is cry anymore.
I've come to a point in my life where I just want to give up because I dont see a way out. I would have nothing if I left, and I dont have the health to hold up a job that I would make enough at to pay rent. 
I feel completely worthless",2.598938992042438,4.004482956043958,4.071381205001895,88.22879120879122,75.2087912087912,6.998711633194393,24.36491095111785,7.6298220110432995,1.0715328912466844,2744,86,588,36,58,911,291,728,0.151,0.732,0.11699999999999999,-0.9826,4,1,2,0,3,0,59.0,6,0,0,6,31,35,3,1,32,3,67,17,4,10,10,117,119,52,0,14,24,3,4,3,0,11,10,4,8,4,31,41,3,4,13,1,12,13,17,15,2,4,23,11,90,20,81,77,20,96,0,6,3,0,59,41,0,10,43,394,121,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05514651520992056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05065485518134925,0.05239213309117112,0.0,0.0,0.04209183978071383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003359994544596,0.0,0.0,0.04162820062106173,0.0,0.09458269178733728,0.0,0.04752747801170131,0.11669318720570615,0.0,0.12334771419783574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08947891280249164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17430241411568784,0.10607751041639754,0.05466580074149602,0.0,0.04038903067660607,0.05597275989599066,0.11113331290035247,0.1304958703653004,0.0,0.043569891363132864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05797626282824216,0.0,0.044268397087323656,0.0,0.1778602405422994,0.0,0.0,0.05176239631716061,0.0,0.0,0.08960886374413445,0.10453830566576468,0.0,0.10023528835476443,0.04575818902988569,0.213105625686704,0.0,0.0454636892754757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07673383379201147,0.07227770126616655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06116913411604835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07928773487788111,0.048526972058869605,0.057498700701369164,0.04242937407206819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692501941375109,0.045315373347046536,0.0,0.0,0.05377085323376353,0.05701441736160051,0.0,0.03390691913515633,0.0,0.10148433266514903,0.0,0.049817298855708576,0.0,0.2166146485094586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10039816043380012,0.04496341256782641,0.0,0.0,0.0834026944588496,0.04123457224950588,0.05706353052886511,0.0,0.054962144417327975,0.0,0.07146117529569583,0.07414170788381085,0.2028029799584246,0.044668614611194736,0.04476726853589972,0.042479737180608164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0478659640338804,0.1688336833247778,0.0,0.05082072046212582,0.1102065839763879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10732810421026599,0.0,0.0,0.040377488413741655,0.053765213101687394,0.07437347697229127,0.0,0.07803051988266746,0.0,0.0,0.047471799721380006,0.0,0.09707780558259654,0.11518563679973487,0.0,0.0,0.06855714899384037,0.0,0.05382737163606345,0.0,0.056170080711218734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04782038830084282,0.05702843327532915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09722060454302467,0.0,0.0,0.05431073647933201,0.0,0.043200409223793486,0.04811913920902508,0.08045648514193349,0.05064569406172216,0.0,0.04031071806738612,0.046051852091904585,0.10554505110951512,0.11429620179672365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050622815738933215,0.0,0.0,0.07788758404397296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04039827089316986,0.08458479526721599,0.0,0.0,0.0579091912931343,0.0,0.0,0.04767697299781876,0.05257851710646475,0.07606917844612139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06482729503441945,0.09940153227702954,0.0,0.08849180514245368,0.0,0.0,0.048337361167511333,0.0,0.10303429661672812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04369030656325215,0.11142728774319284,0.2921728686918449,0.08951130095321219,0.08030607358496601,0.1217317945476155,0.0,0.09096628704553256,0.04689399107874732,0.04564625215169048,0.05647777835146205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11048224935912344,0.0,0.0,0.25154530801667857,0.11061631843328196,0.0,0.09772772301219797
divorce,uwrwilke,2020/01/08,"She Left w/ 7mo Daughter and Dog to Utah I don’t know where to begin. I just need to vent and find support. 

My wife of 6 years had been caught (at least) emotionally cheating on me for a second time. I confronted her and said that she could come clean. All she said was “what do you know?”. I stayed in a hotel that night after confronting her as I didn’t want to explode in front of our infant daughter. 

The next morning, I got a text that she’s taking our daughter and dog and moving to Utah. 

We’ve been going to marriage counseling, but she never mentioned anything remotely close to the events that would have unfolded. 

I miss my daughter, Clementine. She’s my world. 

Filed legal separation papers yesterday. Likely switching to divorce soon. 

I’m just gutted.",3.2372309197651674,5.646649650684933,3.833307240704503,86.15410958904111,76.46575342465755,6.089236790606655,25.497064579256357,7.1686216300943375,1.2646845401174165,603,22,111,7,14,190,99,146,0.051,0.9,0.049,-0.0772,0,1,0,0,1,0,20.0,2,1,0,0,4,6,3,0,5,0,10,1,1,0,2,19,25,7,0,4,3,5,0,1,0,1,0,2,1,1,5,7,0,0,3,1,0,5,3,4,0,1,9,2,22,2,17,14,2,24,0,1,0,0,22,8,0,0,11,73,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18287433192786606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19142934993143398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17743060934662225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24997607357052026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20311194725844509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12629703326839375,0.0,0.17773566608879338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442608904956162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414508744477505,0.0,0.0,0.10856915180061008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361927078336363,0.0,0.1647789064459388,0.17139558016719922,0.0,0.2363415118727109,0.20854549391857444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42277856378650297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368649912955373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25218118097452,0.0,0.0,0.1670874549114882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12958266675859634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13107556189950392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15786406970973674,0.0,0.0,0.14310725093447815
divorce,cappman-,2020/01/08,UK - sale of home and capital gains tax I moved out of the family home 9 months ago. This means my capital gains tax exemption has just ended. Does anyone know if the tax is charged on profit made from this point forwards or the whole period of owning the house?,4.062058823529412,5.743902607843139,4.653088235294117,84.41139705882355,71.94117647058823,9.02156862745098,22.553921568627448,9.516144504307137,1.7966039215686271,207,5,41,5,4,66,40,51,0.033,0.826,0.141,0.7096,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,1,0,8,5,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,6,4,2,9,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,2,5,22,4,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22617546860712354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17840711896364386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22328386793610605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22598755562214864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405331253693037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.511873386508446,0.0,0.0,0.2944093485804093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14022400809867858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24142951394632256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779336271622035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036586455294807,0.27118453641031864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411996360508889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2848663523523779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,glass_eyes0,2020/01/08,"Friends planning their weddings-I'm just sitting here, divorced I would have never imagined to end up like this, yet here I am. My (28,F) friends are currently making lifetime commitments, planning pregnancies or welcoming their second babies to the world, assembling ikea furniture in their brand new flats and I feel as if I took 1292726 steps backwards. I had it all - the promising long-term relationship, a lovely wedding, a flat, future plans and dreams about to come true. In a split second everything was taken away from me and I don't really know how to go about it. My divorce was final in September, 5 months after my husband told me he had never loved me and that he had never really figured out what he wanted-sorry, not me, and I can go f myself. It's been almost a year since the dreadful piece of news was shared and everyone expects me to be OK, yet it's not really happening. I found out that I have a tumour and my first reaction was relief that there might be a way out, and soon... 
I am also kind of seeing someone since October. The moment things started looking good, he told me he would never want to start a family, which is my huge dream. I can't even look at pregnancy announcements as it just breaks my heart knowing I'll never experience this kind of love. 
Does anyone here my age struggle with feelings of shame, inadequacy, their life being over before it has a chance to start? How do you deal with it?
Thank you for reading and lots of love x",6.8952357651245535,6.912753957295376,7.006705960854095,76.10870662811391,64.58718861209964,10.014323843416367,32.50911921708185,9.673873057562805,2.9790656583629898,1166,42,212,21,16,375,174,281,0.052000000000000005,0.767,0.18100000000000002,0.9882,1,0,0,0,2,0,37.0,0,2,4,4,15,20,0,3,12,1,25,6,1,3,8,47,51,16,0,5,6,1,2,1,2,3,1,0,0,0,15,15,0,0,7,3,0,5,9,3,0,3,13,5,31,17,31,32,3,43,0,0,3,4,28,13,0,5,23,151,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10564192242182498,0.0,0.0,0.0843674428809115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07376729317803744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09911970189317212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08977180488874532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09087797232873186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10876474721002287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09232281000695623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09344072348124308,0.0,0.0,0.06968103727598253,0.0,0.0,0.10080873275133016,0.09481562069924036,0.10319818089914212,0.09945498633248406,0.0,0.10668684094299906,0.0,0.0,0.11556890281593665,0.0,0.08973732179139242,0.0,0.11567411311807055,0.16301639748756425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11991492734710806,0.08848748314610479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932923406495254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12501672026331975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21972176726326567,0.11595888747155465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745170024643554,0.051541440101132464,0.0,0.0,0.09336321844717896,0.17718503324773646,0.0,0.0,0.08969140344335927,0.38086755296149305,0.0,0.07042134386578681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11191767519687992,0.0,0.0,0.0842082261082681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40683632884091975,0.1018915079074462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10552746284251248,0.0,0.2027559160157009,0.0,0.0,0.11326635105916312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08406897494025041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745395826182216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08938888691460711,0.0,0.0,0.11809739615894847,0.2240180215822755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11029037049104227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09712922517586167,0.0,0.0,0.07008879022801716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016174655026603,0.11721317452726494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06222599246950735,0.08374012683771308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14988680224762846,0.0,0.0,0.06793784127210703
divorce,iglypuff,2020/01/08,"I don't know where to go... My(25f) husband(27m) walked out on me and my two kids(7&2) about 3weeks ago. I didn't see it coming, I knew we were having issues(we've been together 9yrs married 6yrs) of course we met young and have grown to be different people, but I didn't know how different until he left. I was a sahm for most of our relationship except I finally got the spark to start going to classes to get my GED at the end of 2019(which I passed). I think that also added to the drama as he wasn't use to me wanting to further myself and having goals. Obviously my mind is all jumbled with feelings but I haven't been able to process because my mind is on bills. He left me behind on everything(honestly I think he did it on purpose but I have no evidence) but to my question, how do I go about this? I don't know where he is or where he's staying, I think he is still in our home state(LA) but he has family and friends in NY,FL, and CA. Also any advice from sahp on how you got back on your feet. Sorry my post is all over the place, I'm still trying to process.",1.8991891891891903,3.7287885135135137,3.2498108108108106,91.53336486486486,78.27927927927928,6.241801801801803,22.811711711711716,7.1686216300943375,0.6465506306306308,838,26,185,10,20,273,126,222,0.021,0.9470000000000001,0.032,0.5023,2,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,4,2,0,1,13,1,0,0,5,0,23,1,1,4,3,37,44,18,0,1,7,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,10,0,0,9,1,1,7,7,0,0,1,12,2,30,1,34,31,3,36,0,0,1,0,18,18,0,3,9,123,34,2,0.13844543335944587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13528727517161865,0.12272352335369878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2214295260771829,0.0,0.15000556920306848,0.0,0.09414764218062392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10645599252681598,0.0,0.08439505117186402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11925848204271801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892920225043993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226215611747673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13051403324325056,0.0,0.07000217092636637,0.0,0.0,0.1516602050859526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10696259838476166,0.0,0.07233202480577322,0.0,0.2360451907633106,0.0,0.2214549205771531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13887205781018028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282579685404321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3008427368618176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795808426727448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959806315856954,0.0,0.14464601125219967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13259245530584085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15509057008846605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14863858367098198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11032308579679627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549783279513257,0.09799239030655066,0.14756441121011638,0.22112540383622065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2661307305454396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09399536145414147,0.0,0.13524107148391426,0.0,0.0,0.11957240333472792,0.0,0.0,0.08165870359289301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,MatabiTheMagnificent,2020/01/08,"[Rant]Ex Logic: She has a crappy relationship with our son so I have to lose 50/50 custody of our daughter My ex has a terrible relationship with our son, for many of the same reasons we got divorced: she almost always assumes the worst possible motives behind other peoples actions and she refuses to admit to being wrong or apologize, no matter how clear-cut it is that she is wrong.  Because of this, even though we have 50/50 custody, our son has decided that he does not want to live with her during her time, but remain with me full time and only see her every other weekend.  She has agreed to this but now says that since our son is staying with me full time, it will ""work out best for everyone"" if our daughter lives with her full time and only sees me every other weekend.  
What the ever loving hell?!   Why should I lose opportunity to spend time with our daughter because she has alienated our son?",10.588320802005008,7.710903070175444,9.808487886382622,68.2505263157895,59.233918128654956,12.110609857978279,40.21804511278195,9.957137785484203,3.9794571428571435,719,27,126,10,7,230,98,171,0.10300000000000001,0.784,0.114,0.7322,0,0,0,0,1,0,21.0,10,0,0,6,6,10,1,0,5,0,13,1,0,3,1,32,19,10,0,3,5,9,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,11,13,0,1,6,2,1,1,2,7,0,0,1,3,26,3,20,15,6,15,1,2,2,1,38,4,1,4,9,96,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13976875220624044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11614136301748801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17017279033966298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464801212215364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221470005375463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09219097314049388,0.1262576896336524,0.23520357354670765,0.13337423690459926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163451306024677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24650259109957376,0.0,0.0,0.31230761583102995,0.0,0.0,0.12597598901294318,0.0,0.0,0.14151175086777434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123130675058716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09676688187699237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573549649018518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351101931563995,0.0,0.2997123905276945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11099925658585642,0.0,0.0,0.22245365205942091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11546164209194168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14877322344006536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13713619438857008,0.0,0.4069497761191399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08232763208842513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259488292542239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10161557122596092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052166420319862,0.0,0.0
divorce,Jai-jo,2020/01/08,"One year to the day It's been one year to the day that I came home and my husband had bags packed and a plane ticket purchased. I'm angry everyday. I was used and then tossed aside when it was convenient for him. I have nightmares where I get to relive his leaving over and over again. I went from my mother in law calling me her daughter to being accused of neglecting my husband and not supporting him. She bought him his plane ticket to leave me. She blamed me and my family for her son's actions. I lost people dear to me. I worked a job that left me emotionally drained and mentally defeated for 6 years while he finished his Ph.D. I worked a second job for the last two and a half of those years after he was no longer eligible for fellowships. He left a week after he got his degree in the mail.

I want the nightmares to stop. I want to feel comfortable alone. I want to be able to trust again. I want to be done with all of this.",3.0861954624781838,4.5330239371727785,4.017884816753927,88.93579755671905,74.0261780104712,7.3969982547993025,24.251657940663176,8.021203637495839,1.157311762652705,736,22,158,11,15,237,107,191,0.15,0.7759999999999999,0.07400000000000001,-0.9301,2,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,4,4,7,0,0,10,0,10,0,0,1,1,21,24,11,0,4,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,10,0,2,1,2,2,3,2,3,0,5,11,1,32,4,27,10,1,28,0,3,0,0,22,7,0,0,18,107,38,4,0.14240937347856775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474931625039018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454158926440979,0.1628783849695057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18368452932030754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14573423254697634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16019137738574507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13425088320592238,0.0,0.07200645815366855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07440301991241942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138977853146596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428482129495815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826386581013376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160826465109154,0.0,0.3015819284470754,0.30945640193733404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15545665375733533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435151534242869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930005541052628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872872855768727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906061289771284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16160446939605133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13911326499726964,0.0,0.0,0.1229959748835833,0.0,0.0,0.3359869527091928,0.0,0.11423220940351868,0.0,0.0,0.13201491595309264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20735143995969899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3668278697819343
divorce,lavenderserenity,2020/01/08,"Confused and afraid I’m undecided about whether or not I even could bring myself to ask for a divorce even after everything that’s happened to our relationship, because I do love my husband and I don’t want to hurt him — but I don’t know if our relationship is capable of recovering. 

I’m just looking for other people’s experiences and advice in order to take into account making my choice. 

Did it improve your life overall? How complicated was the process? How did your spouse take it? Do you ever regret it? Are there extras steps I should take before making a choice about this? 

Thank you so much for helping me, I’m absolutely desperate and confused right now.",4.41061818181818,6.761277640000002,5.456218181818183,76.18410909090913,72.6,7.745454545454546,29.763636363636362,8.575989854853784,2.57892,535,23,91,10,11,176,86,125,0.11800000000000001,0.74,0.142,0.6408,0,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,2,4,0,0,11,7,0,3,3,0,11,2,0,4,1,23,27,11,0,5,6,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,6,5,0,0,1,0,1,2,3,5,0,0,3,1,16,2,13,22,2,9,0,2,1,1,15,3,0,4,3,69,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18800976391729007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17986679442300746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11728444989731347,0.0,0.16371710633521147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15361469081441886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25415502792659306,0.1740356216106221,0.0,0.0,0.17291552816047612,0.18820282801268934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17013751782430706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12896077999795727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20596676683756115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573728318273684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13589687799367794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16156643483540126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17364732096314886,0.0,0.2568552265654385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414351678970755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13338501985621068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4131283594784717,0.0,0.16430742196081474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4339795904389996,0.0,0.0,0.17713485549366334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348172667988322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,SweetAnnj,2020/01/08,I found out about husbands affair in September with a woman from a sugar daddy site he got pregnant and... And I completely cut off contact and would not go back and forth with her and worked on my self and my children to move on and now she lost the baby and her family is harassing me and my 15 year old son on social media. How should I handle this so that it doesn’t come back on me in divorce court? It’s unacceptable that she’s reaching out to my son who is struggling with what his father did asking him for my contact info because I have blocked her on everything.,11.503965517241376,6.191465258620693,10.87689655172414,68.73275862068967,60.206896551724135,13.66896551724138,41.93103448275862,10.125756701596842,4.11474827586207,454,15,90,6,4,149,80,116,0.13699999999999998,0.848,0.015,-0.9229999999999999,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,0,0,2,6,4,2,1,3,0,7,1,0,1,0,23,13,11,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,7,15,1,1,3,0,0,3,2,4,0,0,4,1,18,0,18,7,0,19,0,1,0,0,22,11,0,0,5,68,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22408278406008625,0.0,0.0,0.3686218380376762,0.0,0.14611605296160174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064763091711168,0.2513160009625725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21542271369052315,0.0,0.22596343184588005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628135656115464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13622438407621426,0.0,0.191706257975742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616557757195789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547582101913259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515199355989542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25005451261168915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24433921102440234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505816101808621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745010604496776,0.0,0.0,0.17027269055697705,0.0,0.0,0.1543559386225752
divorce,brittnijo,2020/01/08,"Working with an ex Soo long story short. Currently I’m going through a divorce. They decided out of no where they didn’t want the accountability of being married and was never ready.. literally out of nowhere when I was visiting family.... we also just bought a house together which they moved out of and have 3 dogs. Sorry I still can’t believe all this has happened. Anyways, the problem is this all came up a week after I started working in the same job as them.  I don’t see them on a daily basis but knowing they are a few floors up and the possibility of seeing them stresses me out daily. I did not want the divorce. Is there any recommendations on how to handle it? I don’t want to look for another job. this is my first job after getting out of the military and it is a really good federal job. I just hope there is some advice or tips on what I can do? Especially because I feel like this is their space. I just want to know if it is going to get easier. The divorce hasn’t finalized.. not even sure what she is doing all about it.",3.083805235012669,4.721180712918663,5.013318322544329,81.01675766957503,74.4066985645933,7.979848015761329,26.648184632704755,8.671277953709913,1.9889975232198145,815,30,162,16,17,280,124,209,0.054000000000000006,0.8420000000000001,0.10400000000000001,0.8834,5,0,0,0,3,0,23.0,1,0,8,3,13,6,0,1,14,0,23,0,0,1,5,38,43,11,0,7,8,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,12,0,0,4,0,2,5,9,2,0,1,6,4,22,4,28,36,6,31,0,0,3,0,15,15,0,4,12,128,33,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13202621850350338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10804601894711803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187824325946904,0.14167278073897266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08236073534998935,0.0,0.0,0.1522207314739951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15452784508815962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08923772508315597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273680340511565,0.0,0.0683147908975175,0.096521361006182,0.0,0.1480044841583496,0.0,0.11492300868028467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14117696878281485,0.0,0.15357026442624752,0.11332239017937545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11947577953343685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13419297788027196,0.0,0.15589678085874914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5362963634884492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14850392195154508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0660070665124862,0.0,0.0,0.1195665499018006,0.11345690236489385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435986881832805,0.0,0.0,0.10420381178642413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15231425181923058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12928034876391928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865538047830266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21532756592091107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15124262472914232,0.09563031495668237,0.0,0.10789762321150234,0.0,0.15476604422903956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12733792696195212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31876138623064904,0.0,0.10837568878209336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19672083069154975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,lightsout33,2020/01/08,"Need help in NYC Hey guys-- I'm just completely and utterly defeated and don't know where else to turn since I can't find much online and the therapist I've been working with just isn't helpful.

My STBXW and I will have been separated for a year next month, she filed the final paperwork a few weeks ago so we've got probably 2.5 months left of officially being married.

I'm completely defeated. I've got no hope left in me and literally just came back from crying in a bathroom stall which is tough when you're a 6 foot, 205lb guy who leads a sales team.

I need someone to talk to but I don't know where to turn. Does anyone know of a support group or counselor in the NYC area? I don't know how much longer I can go feeling this pain because it's gotten worse every day for the last year.

​

Thanks.",2.753806672369546,4.463638071856291,3.8298075278015418,88.8508532934132,75.46706586826349,7.406159110350728,24.503421727972626,8.192908349453996,1.3032295979469637,646,21,139,11,14,209,112,167,0.136,0.784,0.08,-0.7984,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,5,9,7,0,0,10,0,12,2,1,2,0,23,31,10,0,3,5,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,4,7,0,0,6,1,1,3,6,4,0,0,6,1,9,3,14,23,3,24,0,2,0,0,10,9,0,2,12,69,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11218719527626868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13712696331420374,0.15378341852411198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08849321465811888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09731630005043328,0.0,0.07714938283576618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14475013887177413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653900646510146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13901946312527158,0.08162028722438798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11075290812241327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10572406670277212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10663168009219567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06399219159349788,0.0,0.0,0.1386395417818969,0.11567291973457867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07192657442932815,0.0,0.20244208885753814,0.0,0.0,0.25062723600738185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696600801823656,0.0,0.0,0.1257019547040499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27821475557658365,0.10316273215874497,0.0,0.0,0.2750141288764314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020368731978091,0.0,0.18607131506496985,0.18768425468364688,0.0,0.0,0.13459726570399652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346680326717099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13645234549637264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10469117196489007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072332956381238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14361800917756726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10172358221926137,0.0,0.11651881210172076,0.0,0.14694511754553422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753203813583837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151824735912404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09213668755080072,0.0,0.12897475273325076,0.0,0.0,0.15378341852411198,0.16300009698313625
divorce,locked4rae,2020/01/08,"Manflu Ugh, first case of influenza since I've been on my own. I need someone to make me hot toddy, chicken soup and to adjust the thermostat as my fever and chills require.",6.048529411764704,6.151108558823534,6.310588235294119,80.09764705882355,66.35294117647058,9.15294117647059,31.70588235294117,8.841846274778883,2.5124,137,5,26,2,2,44,30,34,0.083,0.917,0.0,-0.4215,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,6,3,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,4,0,5,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,15,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4814739402325873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3778365704556448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41971201546943504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4682347260435351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4796044581743834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Nature_Goulet,2020/01/08,"Struggling 8 months later My ex continues to do disrespectful things to me as my kids father 8 months later and it's exhausting. She surprised the kids on Xmas, telling them they're going to Disney soon, a trip we could never afford together. I asked the kids who's going and they said her mother and boyfriend as well, a detail she failed to mention to me when she told me they were going.

It was pretty tough to deal with.... It's a trip she's taking with my money, and something I always wanted to do with my kids. I asked her for the respect of telling me who's going on the trip and she said she didn't see the issue.

Things keep happening that make me feel as if her boyfriend and her are trying to disregard me as their father. I was doing really good mentally a few ago and now I'm back to feeling exhausted by everything. 

My kids are my life and I just want to maintain a normal existence with them and move forward.",3.7489861751152063,5.112255204301075,4.753794162826424,84.64354838709681,72.2258064516129,7.679877112135178,25.1136712749616,8.192908349453996,1.475618740399386,732,22,145,11,14,239,100,186,0.08,0.8320000000000001,0.08900000000000001,0.1513,1,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,5,1,6,9,0,1,10,0,10,3,0,1,1,26,29,15,0,5,2,4,2,0,0,0,3,2,0,5,8,14,0,2,2,0,1,9,2,5,1,0,7,5,33,4,23,21,1,22,0,1,1,0,36,3,0,1,12,102,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13815638162654967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12968415305619174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29140746382475285,0.0,0.0,0.11984315906233825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244378307848671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16068004276325631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14007275683875905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15761031588567978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35430479357213124,0.13072408975009148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13782238886745318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626725136617364,0.0,0.13853141387387008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11008525693938202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10403466963381934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15706555526805374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24880453858762075,0.1656495929211614,0.0,0.0,0.12020526943270675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15270517125722805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15856094218810762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09984494085201112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2965082945590162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12419655113415053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199850781405342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16293387243070787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11718384171206535,0.0,0.27244892576284274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20708676478264088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14892648495854488,0.0,0.105815565535525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838550704610129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401326950024594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Paug91,2020/01/08,"Can anyone help? Hi, everyone, I am currently studying Child and Adolescent Mental Health at the University of Worcester. I am undertaking primary research for my Dissertation. I am looking for parents who have separated to be participants of my research.

There is no pressure for anyone to take part.

Thanks

Grace

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divorce,13140101,2020/01/08,"I don't know how I don't know how to figure this out.  Been married for over 25 years.  How much happiness is a reasonable amount to expect?  How much pain is a reasonable or tolerable amount?  (I don't mean abuse.)  He's hurt me so deeply and I don't trust him.  

I'm don't know if I can end this relationship because it would hurt too many people.  (Mostly our kids.)  But the thought of this being all there is breaks my heart.  

I'm in a constant state of flux and the indecision is taking a toll on me.  

How did you figure out what to do?   What was it that made you realize your marriage was no longer viable?",0.5642857142857167,2.751167015873019,2.435873015873017,93.62857142857143,85.19047619047619,5.822222222222222,18.52380952380953,7.1686216300943375,0.16313333333333313,468,12,107,7,14,155,80,126,0.145,0.826,0.028999999999999998,-0.925,0,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,1,3,0,0,8,6,0,1,6,0,17,2,1,8,1,28,26,11,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,8,4,0,0,10,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,6,0,13,2,11,18,6,10,0,2,0,0,9,5,0,4,3,73,21,0,0.0,0.2241221291796133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153093883985022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20441335587966306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16753846377482615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20136295456519526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2241539714029313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4049966033050403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3118700253630102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17898653651575466,0.0,0.19177723314278924,0.0,0.2060492791203816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781068201714747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012781945030081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13113882594502435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3889732978510164,0.0,0.2030856541649274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422238020322015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15017087933144235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13437291393473466,0.0,0.0,0.121812001607539
divorce,Throwntothecurbwow,2020/01/08,"Just need to talk to someone So my wife and I have been unhappy for a while. We've grown apart over the last few years, due to changing lifestyles and her drinking patterns. We got into a large fight the other night which led to her yelling at me again and swearing. She had treated me poorly enough times, and considering how unhappy I've been for years I did some deep thinking. I haven't slept much in the last few days, and she hasn't either. Last night I told her I had been doing a lot of thinking but didn't want to talk. She then begged me to tell her what I was thinking, so I said it. ""I want a divorce"". 

We have two dogs and a house with no kids. So I realize it's not as messy as it could be, but it doesn't change how sad I am and how bad I feel for her. She immediately broke down, I've never seen her cry so hard. She fell to her knees and was saying ""please no"" and I felt so bad for her. We hugged and talked a little but I told her I need time and space. We already had a couples therapy session booked for next week (I booked this after our argument). So I agreed that we could still go, but I plan on using it to talk about separation and help her understand that this is what we need. 

She's a sweet person, and generally treated me very well (aside from the occasional cruel remarks I've heard from her after drinking). I just know if I stay with her I will remain unhappy, we've been to couples therapy before so I don't see this as giving up on her. I'm just really sad. I love her, but just not as a wife anymore.",2.66638028895769,3.6815731547987625,3.9794930340557286,90.50234584623324,74.41795665634675,7.117079463364295,23.67505159958721,7.492282038375204,0.7651094943240446,1191,33,274,14,24,392,161,323,0.11800000000000001,0.757,0.125,0.7535,0,0,2,0,3,0,37.0,7,0,0,1,18,13,2,0,13,0,24,6,2,5,1,59,49,35,0,8,13,2,3,0,0,1,0,4,0,2,14,22,2,0,8,4,1,4,10,7,1,1,19,10,54,6,34,26,7,37,0,3,2,2,46,12,0,3,20,190,68,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669924925992604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10487692733315047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17659592738229454,0.0,0.0,0.0899866136433613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22374182166258985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688677028527284,0.23402372445244146,0.1161628971128418,0.06820087499995266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071921347115926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10926941821928278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05347106225983875,0.0,0.10153788425573904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10144633531309656,0.060100931749277914,0.0,0.08457901868775126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947324418639964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0708829037147892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12202286453473628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058118178744142636,0.2586044048559737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10599063899144087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.089906019810907,0.09544472615904574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07773941339446185,0.23523986796227545,0.08156196388133688,0.0,0.11246776513267184,0.19848096463175294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09233800364655158,0.0,0.11608323060096963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06774702555003102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10059375485563814,0.08409772157141968,0.0,0.0,0.0842701377867715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08960277941123712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11271687313029664,0.08445316823242327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33999573152250795,0.09243134492959154,0.0,0.24187178016807298,0.0,0.0,0.20328359355054973,0.0,0.0,0.12332893036683555,0.0,0.0,0.20209990201741154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033037069808922,0.11009088945742357,0.0,0.09133521630343623,0.0,0.08725594256190196,0.12474977750236313,0.0,0.08482735768032346,0.0,0.0950831678371924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13620081008493898
divorce,wardisciple2388,2020/01/08,"Military father and husband who was cheated on I’m currently active duty in the army, a husband, and a father. While I was gone my wife had an affair and has openly admitted it to me. A divorce is something I’m considering and I would just like to know if anyone has experience as far as child custody, child support, etc. is affected as far as the military goes as well as the fact that infidelity is involved. Thanks for your help",6.2025000000000015,6.447439964285718,7.5381904761904766,70.94014285714289,66.02380952380952,10.529523809523807,35.84761904761905,10.355215969177356,3.872650476190476,343,16,61,8,5,118,58,84,0.055,0.7559999999999999,0.18899999999999997,0.8779,1,0,1,0,1,0,8.0,0,1,0,0,2,5,1,0,7,0,9,0,0,1,1,13,16,12,0,2,2,5,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,5,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,4,0,5,4,11,11,1,8,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,1,3,44,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516452977151934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4013754203938544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3520440541766116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412284464567022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977875797209665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758253621644458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2770629325286058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4084018963078376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.331340784421013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3235866994647711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556574014729644,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Hawkaholic02,2020/01/08,Stay Or Go? My wife and I have been separated since July. I moved into an apartment since then to have my own place.  I have filed and we are to have mediation this Friday. I'm starting to have doubts and second guess my decision.  We have a 7-year-old and 4 year old.  I haven't had the opportunity to see my kids as much as I'd like so I'm not sure if I'm having doubts because I miss them or if I miss the relationship. My wife and I have been together for nearly 20 years..married for 13 so there is history there. Our relationship wasn't abusive or anything like that. We got along well but I feel we just lost that connection over the years.  I'm just looking for advice from others who might have been in my shoes.  Do I stay in a relationship for the kids...where the relationship with her is just ok?  I'm just really confused right now and the doubts and overthinking have crept in.  Is it possible to pause the divorce process?,1.8354302422723447,4.059790253968258,3.3984683932052384,88.41461152882209,80.32275132275132,6.941910331384015,22.1166805903648,8.032893268588372,1.0662423280423288,734,23,158,14,19,242,104,189,0.10400000000000001,0.841,0.055999999999999994,-0.7733,0,0,0,0,1,0,21.0,5,0,1,2,10,13,0,4,10,1,22,1,1,0,1,34,37,18,0,2,11,2,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,14,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,7,1,1,7,3,22,6,20,29,2,19,0,3,2,0,16,9,0,11,8,108,28,0,0.0,0.1648119432686359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359278907962452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144682737663048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08479468068878104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07033364692361979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07905430591397103,0.0,0.11125177967520104,0.0,0.15323543782059568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13591544816458764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11680980951769301,0.0,0.15184517719177365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14756418284079406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14784235303492446,0.10225524279217653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29192620788327506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14533094259352886,0.0,0.0,0.15681548121782174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891116647731191,0.0,0.0,0.5973696829567409,0.0,0.11879149701569462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11084549037940604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301315751700779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09845640627734502,0.2965263236610568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13110104967404773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12506850757037008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26872945708486795
divorce,hailmarythrow123,2020/01/08,"After the talk, where did you ""go?"" I think it's time for me to tell my spouse that I want a divorce. We own a home together with a child. My curiosity is, what did everyone else do after the talk when it comes to living situation? Separate rooms until you have an initial agreement regarding custody in place? Did you still do family time in the morning and evenings with your children? 

Tell me about how the logistics of your situation played out and what your feelings about it were. Did you like how it worked out or would you have done things differently?",4.187568134171909,6.315878301886798,4.6995597484276725,82.34659329140463,72.58490566037736,8.484696016771489,27.815513626834374,9.150863307647796,2.3776406708595395,444,17,85,10,9,141,71,106,0.0,0.903,0.09699999999999999,0.8541,1,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,1,8,0,1,8,3,0,0,8,0,12,0,0,2,0,15,17,7,0,2,1,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,2,8,8,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,1,15,3,15,10,1,16,0,0,0,0,17,7,0,1,8,68,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17246174412043247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20917508719994032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20488262707073435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16724836516226252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13223571029145242,0.0,0.0,0.1913076340433306,0.0,0.0,0.18873859049506064,0.0,0.10123134458355236,0.14302886720897995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11378300476131332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20082527371896589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781167456252532,0.0,0.17678761874582033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20917508719994032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4500850908507456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15988662676953036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3218397353641405,0.34998180075118945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13300951480618975,0.12828541044560976,0.0,0.0,0.23348616839548295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11808805715973532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14575404489178198,0.0,0.0,0.14222224964898195,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,finland--fish,2020/01/08,"Considering a divorce before prison sentence As stated in the title I want to leave my wife because I am at risk of being sent to prison. The reason for this is that she has a big mouth and will tell everybody I know, my family and friends about it. I will tell her I am moving to a different state or something. It is also worth mentioning that there is no emotional attachment as she is a terrible woman who ruined my life. If she knows about me being locked up she will turn my kids against me. I would like your options on this Thank you",4.949841269841269,5.583133666666672,5.723439153439156,81.50833333333334,68.81481481481481,9.134391534391536,28.3915343915344,9.23628265651192,2.245675661375661,428,14,85,8,7,140,75,108,0.155,0.703,0.142,-0.5461,1,0,1,0,1,0,6.0,0,2,0,0,4,6,0,1,6,0,13,2,1,1,0,10,19,7,0,3,2,1,0,1,1,4,1,0,0,2,7,2,0,0,3,0,1,2,1,3,0,0,1,0,19,3,14,12,0,9,0,1,0,0,17,5,0,3,1,66,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919169359757426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14629340467245971,0.0,0.20421064267147854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25073457702256685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269952256084022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22623770014437924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18541279936490512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26378035913817965,0.0,0.0,0.25411081203957103,0.0,0.0,0.1695094020005154,0.11724517091206807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550674288125298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467458585099872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847531577801233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41951716120508825,0.220947117192607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610361514516577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14155012176503293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704793629408157,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,TimesUpK,2020/01/08,Temporary Protective Order Saturday my wife and I got in a huge fight because she put her hands on someone else’s penis under a table at a bar and the guy called her out. During said fight she hit me. I said a lot of cruel things over text. On Monday police showed up to my house and served me a temp protective order. I cannot be in the house I solely own. I cannot see my children. I am staying in a hotel. I cannot speak to my wife. I cannot believe that she literally hit me and then ran to a judge for a protective order and this is what happens. I’m now learning about the process and divorce and I’m terrified about the divorce process being a man. Anyone ever have to deal with this? Any advice?,1.9103767660910518,3.6620743129251694,3.8308843537414963,87.73728414442701,77.9795918367347,6.427838827838827,23.55259026687598,7.321109707123232,0.9670747252747258,552,18,115,7,13,187,87,147,0.1,0.883,0.017,-0.9013,1,0,0,0,6,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,3,0,13,0,9,2,1,0,1,12,19,8,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,3,5,9,1,3,1,3,0,2,4,3,0,0,4,5,20,0,19,11,2,22,0,0,1,0,19,11,0,1,5,78,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20296709836383287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412466451627256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14523229149761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266151501010787,0.0,0.0,0.23401261149714075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21209021198461386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21413492065305784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17351102604883215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878812269866664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16612080696768775,0.0,0.0,0.2056607839238717,0.18367300504039816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4793277822211201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17658351673928466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088010748231798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3951503810707705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16551413707101875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17598792529497695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213860862160968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13799009255420047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,bigchib,2020/01/08,"For those who need to hear it. Hello friends,

I posted here for months after my divorce to try and find the ""closure"" from my divorce.  Long story short, YOU are the one that needs to find closure, YOU are the person that will make you not have the ""divorce"" droopy face that we all know.   The best thing for me was that I needed to find myself and connect back with me before I was ready to portray that onto someone else.  We've all been there, ""OMG THIS GIRL/GUY IS HOT"" sure.  Okay that's fine, have a one night stand, why not?  But once you're ready and once you know what you're after, you'll find it. 

I started dating a woman a little over a year ago today, and things are so perfect.  I can't even begin to describe how perfect they are because I would run out room in this thread.

See, when I got married I just felt it was a do-diligence and it what would help our relationship.  I was wrong, and it bit me in the fucking ass.   Coming home to a letter under your door that your wife is leaving is the last thing you want.

I guess the moral of this is, **be kind to yourself**.  If you get any red flags DO NOT RUN, acknowledge them.   People have far deeper insecurities than you know, get to know them.  They are another person JUST like you.  Your spouse/girlfriend/ex-wife/ex-gf/ex-bf/whatever is NOT you, YOU need to express how you feel or you will have to be someone that you are NOT in your next relationship.  JUST like you were in your previous one.  I don't want that for you.  And nor should you. 

I have found it and I hope all of you do too.

Sincerely

Reddit Poster",1.4385624999999995,3.547152731250001,2.4331250000000004,95.429375,81.0625,5.0,19.375,5.985473137389443,-0.25215624999999964,1214,30,269,8,32,383,167,320,0.036000000000000004,0.8170000000000001,0.147,0.9861,0,0,0,0,3,0,55.0,2,23,4,3,12,15,1,1,14,1,34,3,2,3,6,55,59,16,0,11,11,1,3,2,1,6,0,1,3,3,25,12,0,0,12,0,0,3,8,3,0,3,9,6,48,12,30,42,5,32,1,0,2,2,45,12,2,4,17,186,73,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09387566000079693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07201693534948989,0.1110473941305962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08143203752953168,0.0,0.06455682588843294,0.0,0.0901147316451062,0.0,0.11113752866061163,0.0,0.11561746542219566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09122512462575838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08846746293327168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06994721764433456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05354719142361702,0.0,0.1016824483226102,0.0,0.3871697356391543,0.0,0.0,0.11611598624800995,0.08181955866627295,0.09790461613650883,0.11065876178059267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846994376525849,0.0,0.11666290148116358,0.10485954808135477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11935915760351795,0.0,0.07098382290281204,0.0,0.10622825784610744,0.10518449928419887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11028055032454856,0.23280369686928906,0.08632419720484989,0.0,0.1121348394750643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10347665503822714,0.10614154264612297,0.0,0.0937198643417912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07069035219262614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08452990008902407,0.0,0.0,0.3140997194340593,0.0,0.0,0.11262789056406787,0.09938177546795464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22556417148878544,0.21528563993837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07341905521594473,0.184938938856662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10142476285567653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22739805315859304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08439011698393073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17946070186173674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07495792219532854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09981130383238858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110695846169764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100382634889509,0.0,0.0,0.07190045031619488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124927389388894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09556000844539014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15045936726377998,0.115787121892886,0.0,0.06819736266159535
divorce,Antique-Kaleidoscope,2020/01/08,"Trying my best but feel lost Everything seemed fine until it wasn’t. We were still intimate and he (36m) still gave me kisses and said I love you every time he passed me (37f) going from one room to the other just the night before telling me he wanted a divorce. “I’m unhappy and think I’ll be happier alone” was his reasoning. He moved into our 3yr old’s room and otherwise still acts like everything is normal. Our 12 yr old and I have supported each other and I couldn’t be more proud of how she’s opening up to me. I have had to run damage control because 12yr old feels like her dad doesn’t love her and he’s not done much to reach out to her. I am trying to focus on what I can control (my actions and behavior) and I genuinely want to get to a place where we can be the best we can to each other to be the best we can for the kids. I still love him and care for him and he says the same (without my provoking) but he has thought of NOTHING beyond wanting a divorce. I have days where I can see the possibilities in starting fresh with the kids and having a happy life with just the 3 of us, but then I have days where I am so crushed by the loss of what was supposed to be “our” life (he was even talking about different adventures we’d have just days before he dropped the bomb). It just doesn’t make sense. Thanks for reading my rant to the end.",3.2367667844522963,4.069361749116609,4.355355123674912,89.03953445229685,72.85159010600707,7.638798586572437,25.45742049469965,7.908726449838941,1.187770459363958,1057,32,236,14,20,346,151,283,0.07400000000000001,0.688,0.23800000000000002,0.9956,1,1,0,0,2,0,22.0,9,1,0,8,16,19,0,0,16,0,31,6,0,6,0,49,54,19,0,5,9,1,2,2,0,0,2,2,2,2,7,23,0,2,6,1,0,6,6,3,0,1,11,5,37,16,32,36,8,36,0,3,1,4,39,13,0,1,18,162,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10812470786664764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06363997215217038,0.0,0.17766979505175529,0.0,0.3286773690474909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644058552615074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341821751493144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20198396727565787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090735534867642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10683526648155678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246552528922997,0.0,0.0,0.06895380808685089,0.0,0.08795970754623447,0.0,0.18765214666471486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055733990675186,0.07458185870269553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05454357785713557,0.0,0.0593317149850405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11113347316283426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14747860502661,0.1020070512204727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113962606727575,0.0,0.28266945908181096,0.0,0.0696863884345948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11095841335361938,0.07674444612383012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09797032825226172,0.10228774616825632,0.1001725712397296,0.0,0.32864400672196337,0.0,0.07074269809009151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090735534867642,0.0,0.0,0.11769291159146693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044261208672183,0.0,0.0,0.10733839710270332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09930628059591544,0.0830213759078155,0.0,0.0,0.08319158541123434,0.09503989932019673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07389334923837995,0.0,0.3334890931843177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184694649348942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08391105283931875,0.09124833930902217,0.09611553177480243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06689393925977387,0.0,0.08288024688581272,0.06087523714657642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14175860082585062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12557778262270514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18472970454338308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10063582057891436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,thisisover1985,2020/01/08,"Forced into the talk So, I've been thinking about this for a long long time.  Tonight my husband came home and told me he's ready to move.  Now I have to tell him all the reasons I'm not.  Where do I begin?

1-He wants to move to somewhere where we know no one.  Theoretically, I'm ok with that.  But I will have no one close to me to reach out to/hang out with when inevitably I will get lonely and need company.

2-I have not been happy in our relationship in probably at least 2 years.  Between our non existent sex life (2x last year, ALL year) and our past problems (too many to list, infidelities, countless arguments, some instances where I felt threatened by him, and the list goes on), I would not be comfortable trapped somewhere all alone with the person I'm not sure of. (I should add, things have been relatively calm between us for the last 3 years, but all the years of resentment for past issues have started to add up, and I just feel over it)

3-The idea for divorce just keeps coming up in my brain.  I think constantly about what my life could be even if I was constantly weighed down by these negative thoughts about my marriage.  

So I guess I have to do this now, and I'm just scared.  How will I afford this?  A house, a car, a dog, it's a lot to do alone.  I make the majority of the money now, but still the thought of doing it alone is scary.  Not to mention the process of finding an attorney, getting the house appraised, etc.  I don't know how I will afford it.  

I also know I'm about to break someone's heart I still do care about, I'm just not in love with anymore.  It's the old adage, I love you, I'm just not in love with you.  That is the past I know that I am personally dreading the most.  

We're not young (30s), but not old either, and I just don't want to waste any more time feeling unhappy.  But I'm about to blow up 10+ years of my life and someone else's.  

Advice?  How do I do this?",2.7854961832061065,3.993806620865144,3.7210356234096738,91.71712595419848,74.3944020356234,6.970279898218831,25.059287531806607,7.42949916751922,0.8910960814249362,1474,47,338,17,30,473,191,393,0.166,0.79,0.044000000000000004,-0.9935,2,6,0,0,1,0,60.0,5,2,0,0,29,14,1,2,20,1,31,10,2,5,5,79,67,21,0,8,22,1,3,0,0,6,3,0,1,2,15,22,1,1,14,0,1,5,14,5,0,2,9,3,39,9,54,49,12,54,0,1,0,4,23,19,0,5,29,221,54,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08647739465727781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27496590695625944,0.0,0.07077032370952671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0601804035048966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08776438198698258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09879094923508852,0.0,0.101215997827529,0.09022770315751072,0.0,0.0,0.07623158057365885,0.0,0.19126575681656566,0.0,0.0706569593298263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392716158417427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986965785725015,0.05845085966867225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949260533758706,0.0,0.08497016347230364,0.0,0.08088386017322205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09247115144501172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974884650550206,0.0,0.0,0.09420577665777537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10486834091471874,0.0,0.0,0.08876883457727175,0.0,0.0,0.20422530610862666,0.0,0.09990135971991304,0.0,0.09236696838398842,0.0,0.07865942707496727,0.0,0.0,0.19454063613003608,0.14427231580497768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875223026627682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566325816321512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07523624562863741,0.2396136390987974,0.0,0.059071854393837726,0.08972118646404906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881147634318316,0.0,0.06561875954795955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18572360493525628,0.0,0.11993453685513575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534387107593388,0.0,0.15454281566065214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09541379658057947,0.08467884537033303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09098876131986612,0.0,0.0950117255677486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886000650573333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14996496864105682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06263801676247625,0.0,0.14134624850738647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08340655583069771,0.0,0.0,0.07112983764412074,0.07734951881458339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058792896921712384,0.11340949440915203,0.0,0.14051208524772846,0.10320561090026917,0.0,0.0,0.08456184525622218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644994893302333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10439462142830867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06286511213705685,0.0,0.0,0.3419316400811255
divorce,2boycrew,2020/01/08,"Assigning time to grandparents My divorce was final October 2019! Wahoooo

Ex-husband lives in another state. Has kids every other weekend but travels up once month. 

I received an email that he would like to “assign” his time to his parents who live 3.5 hours from us. The kids see his parents every time he is in town and spend half their summer with them ...
I am cordial for the sake of the kids and invite them to sports/school activities. They are by no means cut off from the kids. 

Just when you think it’s smooth sailing. Blah

What the what?!",3.289326923076924,5.721724663461544,3.4429230769230803,88.90207692307693,76.40384615384616,6.083076923076924,24.823076923076925,7.1686216300943375,1.086572307692308,431,15,82,5,10,132,81,104,0.071,0.8809999999999999,0.048,-0.3578,3,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,1,1,4,0,2,2,1,0,6,0,6,0,0,0,0,8,9,4,0,1,2,2,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,4,6,3,0,0,2,2,1,2,1,1,0,1,1,2,12,1,14,7,0,17,0,0,1,0,21,5,0,0,10,51,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21211701496037014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.340873386717975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22159704367108726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992133164406929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09882788946393282,0.0,0.35724870925986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22035135978694448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16146466310317414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21543053356993405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4492346361706053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20472665053062308,0.1611976566125993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296182323844129,0.0,0.0,0.3538679612339454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433280262820047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14369986845114865,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,tellmerdivorce,2020/01/08,"Need Advice on Post-Divorce Relations With Former Spouse I want to hear your thoughts on the current status between myself and my ex. Recent developments the past 2-3 months have left me baffled, and I’d like a sanity check. Please chime in.

**The Background**

Ex and I were together almost 20 years. In hindsight, Ex was a bad life partner. Erratic, demanding, controlling, insecure, combative. I was ‘happy’, but looking back, good grief those were a lot of tough times.

Couple of years ago, Ex wants a divorce. Ex made it clear that I had done nothing wrong, but kept saying Ex ‘just needed to be alone.’ This was not true (see below), but Ex never would level-set with an honest conversation about why Ex’s view of our relationship changed (much less so suddenly, as Ex claimed).

We were living together at the time, of course. Due to economic necessity, we continued to live together in the same house for a few months after that. During this time, it turned VERY ugly. Ex was emotionally abusive, began openly dating / sleeping with others in less than a month, and the environment turned incredibly toxic. Easily the hardest experience of my life, and one I would wish on no one. Eventually Ex forced me out of the house (eventually I just surrendered to her antics for my own mental well-being and gave in to her demands). I found a place of my own and moved out. Ex stayed in the house.

After I move out, another year goes by. Life goes on. Divorce gets finalized, and during this time we have no extended contact with each other. Even birthdays and holidays have zero communication. I eventually blocked Ex’s phone number to set boundaries — Ex kept sending immature and aggressive texts at random over minutiae, and I felt these were unneeded invasions of my mental space and privacy. After that, we only correspond as needed by e-mail (which to me is far less personally intrusive, and which I control better).

Now, here’s the mindfuck part…

We have had a few phone calls the past 2-3 months (initiated by me, at her e-mail request) to resolve some outstanding property issues stemming from the divorce. During these calls, I stay on-point, only discussing necessities and property matters. We have nothing else to discuss, and I have no desire to engage. Ex, however, keeps going off on lengthy tangents, wanting to know why things can’t be ‘normal’ between us. She keeps saying she has no animosity at all towards me (why would she?), and says she’s baffled why I have so much against her. Ex keeps asking how I’m doing in life. Ex, for example, wants to be able to have a ‘normal’ dialogue, and to be able to call and casually ask how my holiday was. All of this, of course, being expressed with Ex believing (with complete sincerity) that Ex has done nothing wrong, and that I should have no reason to have anything against Ex. In Ex’s mind, Ex handled the break-up and divorce perfectly and appropriately — I am the one at fault here.

I absolutely refuse to engage with her. Ex threw me into the cold, with admittedly no reason, and is not part of my life any more. Why should Ex be privy to what I’m doing, or how I’m doing? I refuse to speak, meet, or generally keep her informed as to my life. Ex is, for some reason, is confused by this.

**All Right, Let’s Hear Your Thoughts**

This all makes no sense to me, Reddit. Is there something obvious I’m missing here? Am I wrong for not engaging? What could be motivating Ex’s behavior in this? What would you do?",4.104976844284625,6.405469150621117,5.215384112455052,77.79429933529477,73.33229813664596,8.370229922632669,28.68954996186117,9.08713915112311,2.6902623188405794,2719,112,481,62,57,895,308,644,0.111,0.7829999999999999,0.106,-0.4713,2,1,1,0,5,0,124.0,8,3,0,6,15,24,1,2,25,0,52,7,1,11,9,118,92,35,1,19,10,27,1,1,1,6,6,6,0,2,25,42,0,11,12,3,1,5,12,11,0,4,23,11,56,13,90,54,20,70,0,2,3,0,81,33,0,8,30,324,81,1,0.12489691062087102,0.07399120789588473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06102390777809642,0.05535678770851818,0.0,0.06253310733272106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04246709105987588,0.0654826503741159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0513897577672546,0.0,0.11676175158690286,0.0,0.0,0.04801900742062536,0.052141851710492716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07035802422180988,0.0,0.055230583902188136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19130056508349227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06606218534876543,0.0,0.06547601726140932,0.0,0.1400825054611787,0.049860010088326114,0.06909802801239356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12781290284631616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05216767120110525,0.07024610689194796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04124661576713362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06108657221268445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059960310323563325,0.0684092303362017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06847150795255913,0.0,0.0,0.032626740434761006,0.0,0.03549089627813787,0.052378801467499146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06647754190226661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14076789550069566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21617139881440986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06517996272604508,0.0,0.22202822565245886,0.0,0.0,0.0343200378704183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06785042941650236,0.06385777656721499,0.26465514483595737,0.03050916087135942,0.0,0.11028626029570623,0.0,0.05244097441539652,0.0,0.0,0.05309144352703727,0.0,0.0590902383552147,0.041684828839918336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258667098389514,0.0,0.06305513781004603,0.0,0.1993830449430932,0.1327456501303884,0.09181360012906208,0.13891421499355164,0.04816409856056072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12237245428342647,0.17976293134354912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12695006849123255,0.0949897285975137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13525118308731382,0.11922823356763375,0.0,0.05452758242786232,0.0652453443232293,0.06854965101168622,0.05903397539294576,0.0,0.05980835783994301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19262223850401744,0.06166031578127142,0.06704627032142146,0.0,0.053330639622549116,0.0,0.1489845544809628,0.0,0.0,0.04976333365365219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06249355483801331,0.0,0.0,0.04807587185345855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13312348865910711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04148797884090469,0.0,0.0,0.0991541959126746,0.14565678595475812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13585197370477678,0.0,0.0,0.07511780266295519,0.0,0.0,0.05152651576242536,0.14733486770312315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05614866108206575,0.0,0.28175008840900617,0.0,0.07181264168175404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17744636367527716,0.20483274767763215,0.0,0.12064427330066314
divorce,BornAsADatamine,2020/01/08,"Being friends with my wifes sister? Hey all, recently divorced 31m here. My ex wifes sister was a good friend of mine, and to complicate things shes engaged to one of my best friends who I was friends with before I started dating my ex wife. My ex wife lives in a different state as me, my friend and her sister. I'd like to continue being friends with my friend and my ex wifes sister, but at the same time my ex wife and I are not on speaking terms and I still feel very angry with my ex, and I'm also feel like I'm subconsciously projecting some of my anger on her sister as well. Do these feelings ever go away? I've only been divorced for like a month but I'm pretty certain I'm never talking to my wife again. Do you think it's possible to remain friends with your exs sibling in the situation? If it helps I know my friend and my exs sister did say that they want to remain friends but i definitely have mixed feelings about it. I haven't seen the ex sil since the divorce so I'm not sure how it's going to feel and I'm scared.",2.663689346706427,3.9917059354838753,3.96150718351857,89.395874220656,74.89861751152074,6.764868528056384,24.746272702629447,7.285733465282438,0.9334984548658176,816,26,178,9,17,268,114,217,0.068,0.6859999999999999,0.24600000000000002,0.9888,1,0,0,0,3,0,15.0,0,2,1,1,9,21,1,1,7,0,12,0,0,1,5,35,30,17,0,2,6,22,5,3,10,0,0,2,0,0,8,13,0,0,7,0,0,2,4,2,1,1,5,8,29,19,25,23,5,20,0,0,1,0,47,6,0,2,14,108,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08321192943050712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09776213853903204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885422722103347,0.0,0.10919823136360796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10871426131785998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09412278122844096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26306409132974845,0.07433618340453584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8039184607561345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11827254840657955,0.08727554079635166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06974518877493982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05718534562404218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15250655454246978,0.0,0.09188156983400456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830548933227747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.080252843346368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0705096691236885,0.07913773989837057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11730522695006132,0.0,0.10586030474644373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10274075111900838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08274790053948114,0.10417618536478024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860745267114389,0.11696103211194135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07364994191491107,0.0,0.08309764205925392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980696438003065,0.0,0.0,0.08363464684349382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06912884007348465,0.06667358824199845,0.0,0.0,0.06067471194786631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08585543010768938,0.061373732773017886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09355702352160608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,qwaalude,2020/01/08,I am afraid we will miss each other for the rest of our lives. Saddened by the loss if our future together.,2.0536363636363646,3.9597834545454553,3.1818181818181834,91.8427272727273,78.0909090909091,6.218181818181819,20.090909090909093,7.1686216300943375,0.3473818181818187,84,2,18,1,2,27,20,22,0.289,0.711,0.0,-0.743,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,3,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,0,3,2,2,1,0,2,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,15,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Fernanda3103,2020/01/09,"50/50 custody options. Hi there, 

My STBXH and I have a parenting agreement signed, but as we still live together I am the sole responsible to take care for our children. That is about to change as I am planning in moving out as soon as the divorce is finalized, in March. I am starting about having a cold feet about the agreed parenting schedule 2/2/3. My job schedule is going to be from 7:00am to 3:30pm, while his is from 6:30am to 6:00 pm, Monday to Friday. I believe he can negotiate with his employer a better working schedule for the days he will be responsible for the kids. However, it will be easier for me to transport the kids to and from school, and I would be able to keep them in a more consistent schedule. I am thinking about a fixed schedule 4/3, but my STBXH does not agree with it.  Is anybody here experiencing the same situation? Any suggestions of how to work this out?",4.281808960270496,6.311343254437869,4.8977387996618775,81.44877218934913,72.07692307692308,8.14218089602705,29.8229078613694,8.841846274778883,2.494585460693152,706,30,132,14,14,226,102,169,0.015,0.8540000000000001,0.131,0.9647,5,0,0,0,1,0,26.0,2,0,1,4,9,3,0,0,12,0,19,1,1,1,0,18,25,11,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,4,8,0,1,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,2,16,3,33,18,2,21,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,1,13,98,20,5,0.204037991625957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13875283106651562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298809455834467,0.0,0.18045502262164428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20803033088196501,0.0,0.21584514066805702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315876249568474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785550214596366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2235136465279968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11595949269839358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2024762231101715,0.1813583419365708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18016928475501548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21686009457755406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4531200868645471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20649734059395672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293472514443045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14441914065063188,0.0,0.16294500367910775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15341117686135414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130739306340906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29708417596889697,0.0,0.0,0.1449427351151091,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,PainfulDelusions,2020/01/09,"Completely lost with how to start divorce procedures Me (33M) and my wife (31F) are pretty much on the door steps of divorce and I have no clue how to even start. We live in California and have been married for 3 years and 4 months now. We own a home that was bought within 8 months of marriage using money that I had saved before marriage and stock options from my company that had been offered and vested to me before marriage. There might have been some stock options that I sold that were probably issued to me after our marriage but it will be a small part. I make all mortgage/tax payments for the house, the mortgage is only in my name but it is a community property. We do not have any children.

I know nothing about the divorce process but from what I read mediation is what I find most appealing since I am too lost to go it alone.

The basic cause for divorce is my wife is convinced I am a cheat and the accusations and fights have made life horrible to live. I have not cheated on my wife in any way or fashion and I very much suspect it is a case of delusional disorder based on the accusations she makes about me. The sad part is we love each other but this issue has become too much to handle.

I have some questions about the process. 

If we go to a mediator, will the mediator help us through the entire process? Or will I have to take some steps before we even go and see a mediator. Any step by step reference would be really helpful. Searching online has just confused me even more.

In any small discussions we have had about the finances I have insisted that I get to keep the home because I have made all the payments on the home and the downpayment on the home ($220K) was almost entirely from money I had saved before marriage and stock options granted and vested before marriage. She is currently working but there was a two year period where she didn't work because her work required her to move to a different state and with the condition our marriage was in I didn't think that was a good option. She agreed at the time but is bitter about it. I think I should compensate her fairly for the period she was not working.

Will the courts even approve an agreement where I get the home in entirety?",6.755537634408604,6.461782276497698,6.878629032258067,77.95461021505379,64.9447004608295,9.99831029185868,34.212365591397855,9.516144504307137,3.0238098310291863,1764,70,339,30,24,567,198,434,0.1,0.802,0.098,-0.1583,4,1,0,0,5,0,30.0,10,0,0,8,19,14,4,1,33,0,51,2,0,8,2,72,74,25,0,3,13,3,0,0,0,7,1,0,6,1,16,24,0,2,7,1,5,8,6,8,0,1,22,2,49,6,45,43,14,39,0,3,1,1,41,17,0,15,12,250,65,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08544336616093902,0.08837376388966206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321030485123677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10402994808285436,0.0942377409824174,0.3630379408190693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876550526728303,0.0,0.0,0.08946447020231771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08914928560393423,0.0977929368417234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254325648741053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07798797211506492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08916040313725099,0.0,0.14548109515514554,0.07156882655848529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11438671758837485,0.0,0.42795320233683787,0.0,0.0,0.09845670968151388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781199002929985,0.0,0.07584318048337232,0.0,0.0,0.04689387250207901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06026947807097206,0.0,0.0,0.15069184505462532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862905287404664,0.0,0.07701158082055731,0.1614782660793797,0.11391380488976667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09051920565724646,0.0,0.0,0.13621551240618932,0.09068984154276737,0.18817703267105806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08187422961529142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06489556099380557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18480316832396715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08680894693629143,0.09199769263216023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09558655235357123,0.0,0.08535079105891867,0.0,0.05466310967045618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06799512962205077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07058395533393469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12079077072120828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06415581136560893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10934908977666108,0.0,0.0,0.04975526815715158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335276446773232,0.0,0.10263871718361883,0.07369573652916317,0.0,0.07040428888110924,0.0,0.06772915671856428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484783278912353,0.0,0.0,0.060614350030469326,0.0,0.0,0.1098964826637261
divorce,Alive-Minimum,2020/01/09,"Its been so years and still stupid dreams of ex :(. Help please. I am miserable. I try not to think about him and focus on my work and daughter.

 He gave me divorce papers 3 years ago. We were kind of sort of separated when he moved out 10 years ago to go live with his parents 3000 miles away (dad was terminally ill). I never followed him because we were having trouble and I was really scared of what could happen. Heard him discussing divorce with his mom. My kiddo was 2 years old so financial stabilty with my new job and health insurance was vital. I thought that if I had no job they could take my kid away. I had no idea how divorce worked. But he came back after his dad passed away. 2 uneasy years later he gave me divorce papers. There was a lot of screaming in between.

Now here is the problem. I have accepted that we are divorced and probably should be since we made no effort to resolve our issues. I don't even know what they are anymore since I was in survival mode all these years.... I am terrified and I miss him even though its probably been 10 years like someone died every day when I wake up. I don't know what to do. It should not be this difficult no ? its been so long. will i ever be able to move on ?",1.5472326454033762,3.8505322723577287,2.6821138211382127,92.68519699812384,81.96747967479675,5.5732332707942485,21.65666041275797,6.844919456158928,0.4820911819887428,953,30,201,11,26,304,146,246,0.158,0.7759999999999999,0.065,-0.9736,4,0,0,0,5,0,29.0,5,0,2,5,16,13,1,2,2,0,31,3,1,2,3,39,45,16,1,6,4,6,0,1,0,3,2,2,0,1,11,16,0,0,7,1,0,6,9,8,0,0,19,2,35,5,25,18,2,38,0,2,0,0,35,10,0,3,23,137,46,6,0.10855634021835826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924572913776184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076587195378336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3059767652740443,0.08347312484493419,0.0,0.06617493741358964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241595334707895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17334680870912186,0.0,0.0,0.07000985879888465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11266434231085536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14340087778999486,0.09819542469527234,0.09146339863052884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06169506982793505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09599601314227507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11539031332879125,0.0,0.0,0.0727630265789225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12254689458338107,0.0,0.11330461536533905,0.21545083429727074,0.0,0.0,0.11304472323771447,0.1193194511809002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05303514443814383,0.0,0.09585723725715972,0.096068945024439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922907184421856,0.0,0.10271863389710856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12713987364747525,0.0,0.23075641961721244,0.0,0.0,0.08372534186249203,0.10484438984026276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11391161791719695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205389690357601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11916226270261032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340841907285828,0.10387375673498653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695439712878375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086838343652444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17959785283778545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09197943478837584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08669323352632219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08162085784097309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06955851949902267,0.10665605309389277,0.08618160827250562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07370262918294486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15806061715747366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4893470675884166
divorce,throwaway36200021,2020/01/09,"Getting a Divorce Hey everyone 34M here... Little background I've been with my wife 10 years total married just over 4 (no kids). Let me start off by saying that I care very deeply for my wife and her happiness which is why I've been considering and ultimately decided on Divorce (not yet happened). I recognize that we just don't make each other happy anymore and that she will never throw in the towel but is starting to stray in other ways I'll go into later. A huge problem I had for years was letting her manipulate me into believing everything that was wrong with our relationship was somehow my fault or ""not that big a deal everyone has problems"" which lead me to be unhappy for a long time. I watch other couples interact and I realize that we are nothing like that anymore, no PDA, no affection on a daily basis on her end (I hug her and kiss her all the time), but our relationship feels pretty one sided. I pay all the bills, she contributes a minor amount but has an OK job now from a referral I got her, but generally speaking everything comes from me so she has money to play with. I drive around an old 2000 Honda Civic while she has a 2018 Civic which I pay for. Currently the only thing we own that's in her name is the house (she's not on the loan just the Deed) due to her shitty credit score. But all the equity in the house has been from me and owning a prior home which I rolled into this house. I think when I originally started writing this post I was looking for affirmation that I was doing the right thing. But as I go on I realize I am and it saddens me, on Thanksgiving she got a call from a guy named Ben, she never leaves her phone laying around it's always with her and always locked if she's not on it. By the grace of god she must have ran to the rest room after work one day and it was laying on the table when he called. I confronted her immediately and asked who Ben was... she looked like a deer caught in the headlights. She quickly said he's a mutual friend and shrugged it off... When I asked a mutual friend of who since I've never met this guy or even heard his named mentioned by her or her friends. I was told not to freak out and I was overreacting, then she called him back, before he even had a chance to utter a word she says you called to wish me a Happy Thanksgiving right? Because my husband is freaking out because he doesn't know you (I was already walking away at this point)... I think this was a defining moment where I realized I was not only being manipulated but having things hidden from me. I'm pretty sure she expected this all to blow over in time, she left shortly after that to go to her aunts house for Thanksgiving (I was supposed to attend but did not). When I got back I asked her to unlock her phone because I wanted to look at it, she did, but had deleted pretty much everything which made it even more shady. She then told me I was overreacting and that she deleted the text messages where she was having personal conversations with her friends about our relationship and that Ben had never texted her. I hit Ben up on facebook where he told me they were just friends but my wife would sometimes give him relationship advice and that he's not that type of guy but could sympathize with my situation. At first this made me feel better but then I realized she had someone she talked with on a regular basis that I didn't even know existed (who also looks a lot like me, kinda ere). The trust was gone from then on.... so here I am... writing this post. Working on getting the ball rolling with a Divorce so I can hopefully be happy again and maybe start a family one day if that's what is supposed to happen. Honestly my confidence has been better, I'm sad, I tried so hard to make this work and make her happy.... But I feel fortunate things played out the way they did or I may have gone many more years without knowing something was up. Feel free to hit me with your thoughts, I could always use some perspective, thanks for listening everyone.",5.4678447742733445,5.858377621212123,6.014936095650381,80.727012987013,67.6111111111111,9.243083900226756,29.29457843743558,9.18150861145379,2.2732429086786223,3164,104,630,55,49,1027,335,792,0.066,0.773,0.161,0.9981,3,0,1,0,4,0,81.0,6,3,2,7,32,37,1,0,42,1,64,2,0,11,11,129,123,51,0,12,32,5,5,3,5,4,0,6,2,5,48,39,0,0,15,3,7,13,19,8,0,4,47,16,114,30,86,63,15,109,0,1,5,2,117,49,0,12,46,457,162,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05377001642172896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060721707904395725,0.044003655326497235,0.13735619419577194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10914048184234454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979682387263911,0.15432348227568995,0.0,0.051698013466272036,0.08462200837583568,0.0,0.10062860564677356,0.0,0.04682241662744145,0.061994589588787764,0.0,0.097330686005929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247476418243516,0.0,0.05610188766326274,0.0,0.0,0.04739936205923875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08786633497762199,0.060884368704245365,0.0,0.07097344047770877,0.05672859440174297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04873602007033751,0.0,0.0,0.1453745777936283,0.0,0.0,0.1577368915691348,0.14835938190185166,0.0,0.051872888280537134,0.0,0.11128963534796757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0468044312259798,0.0,0.0,0.21256177509538574,0.0,0.057496821584876616,0.052785213100497184,0.09381631618725947,0.0,0.1320261055705436,0.0,0.0,0.16345088171486738,0.09731725562284883,0.29287689447545184,0.049291796651780656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05519479063718469,0.05465246756356552,0.0,0.2539669032979896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05460404872332657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09072127959736094,0.0,0.0,0.05826377193276434,0.059785071733085574,0.1125340483654407,0.0,0.08064764159474185,0.055149734572016634,0.0,0.04869559565200069,0.1848293338237801,0.0,0.0,0.046780481523452176,0.0,0.10413240326324064,0.11018930184264024,0.05578694511633182,0.05528023789037947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04044987420856157,0.0,0.16975539357174266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05279819075451047,0.0,0.05773972103836383,0.0,0.11185955662386003,0.08369833156468523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04804590707702455,0.0,0.0,0.052016626628719226,0.0,0.10539791699032007,0.1679413178387136,0.0,0.10530342465058676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23630601103474386,0.0,0.09398248891936913,0.052341592924436936,0.08751654045881703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04551743760448042,0.06185066226572021,0.0,0.0,0.04662269751806792,0.042361109164779885,0.05442135794717277,0.0,0.1557885596942845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05186062663509067,0.0,0.0,0.04422719432467788,0.0,0.0506598375015509,0.0,0.0,0.14622526709969252,0.07051588916302858,0.0,0.04368388502662812,0.09625695966411174,0.0,0.0,0.1577368915691348,0.0,0.037358518179511836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047524130283043184,0.0,0.04540157619493755,0.032455305405456776,0.08735293029007056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04965171006637368,0.0,0.06327629716138285,0.053042356664144995,0.0,0.12017706501796205,0.0,0.0,0.03908834355336237,0.06016144932564391,0.0,0.10630332918293764
divorce,puddboy,2020/01/09,"First Mediation Appointment today, nervous In a couple hours my STBX and I are meeting with our mediator to go over custody and financial arrangements on our way to getting the D.  I'm nervous and full of anxiety.  She's a great person but I don't know how adversarial this process will become due to the nature of the meeting.  Wish me luck.",3.841128205128207,6.253895907692312,5.699615384615388,73.49455128205129,74.53846153846155,8.64102564102564,32.371794871794876,9.2995712137729,3.4492564102564103,274,14,47,7,6,94,52,65,0.065,0.748,0.187,0.8838,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,2,0,0,1,1,4,0,2,5,0,3,0,0,1,0,9,8,5,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,7,2,9,7,1,10,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,1,4,32,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23665374859877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3416554346910397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3422925601231879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631350037851866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616238673249254,0.0,0.17581210488281074,0.0,0.0,0.34106212656125595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3046498117196449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.170011995481017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701145940548906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932299151381583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455495456353949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3557400070237584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,duhvorced,2020/01/09,"Just emptied out my divorce folder I was going through my files this morning (looking to revise my estate plan), and noticed the ""Divorce"" folder.  It had one piece of paper in it, a notice of summary judgement or some such... whatever it was it wasn't very interesting.  So I chucked it and, the folder being empty, chucked that as well.

It was surprisingly moving.  Honestly, I'd forgotten I even had that folder.  I still have a scan of the divorce decree on my laptop, and I'll be making child support payments for years to come so I'm not completely rid of all things divorce but, still, that I'd needed such a thing...  It was an unexpected reminder of a darker time.

""*Oh yeah, I went through that shit, didn't I.""*

It's surprising how many of these sorts of things there are.  Little physical manifestations of a time when we found ourselves compartmentalizing not just the paperwork of our divorce, but also the pain.  Christmas ornaments, address labels, tea strainers, tax statements, that stupid tea set your in-laws gave you.  Things we forget about but that ever-so-subtly fuck with our home's feng shui.

Sometimes I wonder if I'll ever be completely rid of it all.

Good thoughts going out to everyone this morning, as we restore balance in our lives one tiny step at a time.",3.9866959511077202,6.4412514663865625,4.792116119174941,79.9738731856379,74.25210084033614,7.016348357524827,28.885408708938122,8.00094639256281,2.187287394957984,1011,43,174,16,22,326,142,238,0.126,0.8059999999999999,0.068,-0.935,0,0,0,0,5,0,46.0,6,2,0,1,16,11,3,0,12,1,13,5,1,2,3,32,27,15,0,2,9,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,22,10,2,0,4,0,1,6,4,4,1,2,12,2,19,7,26,12,4,22,0,0,2,1,15,7,2,5,8,123,41,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11330122727194382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12204454046764425,0.29709699841858433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09357812411234227,0.2563148505368347,0.0,0.13538105162885436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15534450888088186,0.0,0.13098062551363707,0.0,0.0,0.16103970883450022,0.11883423387397088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421163190151008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14200030802824734,0.12510579549245388,0.0,0.11897528854540422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09457231858260412,0.14364100665125604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15058312896998075,0.0,0.1050537230741193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3226066186866741,0.0,0.0,0.192011700748372,0.0,0.15075721972603956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454322047711304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14012487370583301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262912275476314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16077647632218847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3765028631743389,0.0,0.0,0.11247787823079107,0.24784376621645526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11690061347857053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12738709049837113,0.13133852725874373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15364562133335544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09123709966179168
divorce,spacerider1986,2020/01/09,So it’s happening or at least it looks that way. So the wife and I are probably calling it quits. Gotta talk  out the details more later in person. Anyway we are thinking of doing it ourself (no lawyer) anyone done this? Got any sound advice?,1.115624999999998,3.652699312500001,2.7716666666666683,89.44000000000004,87.125,4.866666666666667,20.5,6.42735559955562,0.4376000000000002,189,6,36,2,6,62,41,48,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,9,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,6,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,4,6,2,5,0,0,1,0,5,3,0,1,1,26,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964473525900543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20630040217482895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121217117065776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3097722850646307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3104504288173445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426308196386461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682670074382271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547524175150753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648889270194814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3270816322459401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.322668833743523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438354224630354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943857380845612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407991167639885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,nonopenada,2020/01/09,"Move out and Minimalism - Or the Great Purge I filed at the end of November and so our 60 day waiting period is almost up (TX). STBX is keeping our rental property and I'm keeping our house.  He and my oldest (20M) are moving out at the end of the month.

Our 22+ year marriage was shit, but the transition from married to divorced has been surprisingly amicable. I'm excited to have the house to myself. I don't feel the need to purge the house of memories or anything like that, but I really want to just minimize the shit that I own. Has anyone else done this? Am I fooling myself that it isn't about getting the memories out? Will I regret it later?",2.364974554707377,4.379933786259547,4.430858778625956,82.73931615776084,77.54961832061069,8.030788804071248,25.4204834605598,8.841846274778883,2.0578239185750635,510,19,102,12,12,175,82,131,0.10800000000000001,0.794,0.098,-0.5268,1,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,4,0,0,0,3,8,2,0,10,0,13,2,2,0,0,20,22,9,0,3,5,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,3,1,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,3,1,13,4,16,18,1,16,0,1,0,0,7,6,2,3,9,69,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16521156449294588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11536338638074213,0.16904961636439172,0.13577099622553185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10640355611389626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16883991970262724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13782623225854593,0.0,0.2922606434980896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08342284719423823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08619937600176775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18189975882901224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5711217068861296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932976793113999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08060476144429153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316917797365692,0.3507120863350895,0.0,0.1223364484740452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10569548315424536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3387154477694714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09731414700088513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062468079672071
divorce,Helpabitch9,2020/01/09,"Needing emotional support right now. This is such a long story that I don't know where to begin, but I'm very lost and I just need some support right now. 

I caught my spouse flirting with another woman, making plans to meet with her and lying about it to me, and texting her at some point telling her to text him because his wife (me) was out of town for the night. This all was because I went through his old phone after I came home recently and he told me that he had just came from her house and had spent an hour and a half there with her while she waits for someone to come pick up a dresser. I confronted him about it and he denied that he did anything wrong at all, but agreed to go to marriage counseling starting next week. He then started to act normal again and even though I wanted to, I was still in shock and very hurt and low. Well yesterday I told him that in order to move on, I need him to cut her off, delete her number, delete her from facebook, ghost her and stop talking to her. He said he would limit his interaction with her but would not be deleting her number or her from facebook. He maintains that he didn't do anything wrong and that I'm being jealous and immature to ask for that. He said he doesn't want to be in a marriage where he's not trusted and that I'm being controlling by asking him to cut her out, and that he'd rather get divorced than to be controlled. I was stunned and still am. We went round in circles arguing about it. I told him that if he didn't cut her off then I would suffer deeply and his response was trying to argue me out of how I felt about it. He attempted to flip the script onto me saying this is all my fault for not trusting him and going through his things. I told him that he would be right except for the fact that he did do things untrustworthy. He is adamant that he didn't do anything untrustworthy and that I'm punishing him for nothing and taking away his friend. He says that she is the ONLY person he wants to be friends with. 

I got sick of arguing and was very much in shock from everything he was saying, so I told him we'll talk about it more in counseling. I went to bed without eating dinner which is something I never do no matter how upset. He didn't voice any concerns about it. He didn't check up on me but stayed in his man den playing video games and watching tv. I couldn't fall asleep so I basically cried for three hours until he finally came to bed. I was at an extremely low point. He came to bed and turned his back to me. I pathetically asked him to cuddle me and he refused, saying he felt disrespected. I told him that I really needed to feel loved and cared about and he said he knew that I wasn't okay but that he wasn't going to comfort me. 

I feel totally lost and manipulated at this point and I guess I am just waiting until we go to counseling, but I have no one to support me and I feel so alone and confused right now. I don't know why I'm posting but I just need advice I guess? I don't even know.",5.124498381877025,4.9104364174757285,5.578139158576054,85.64578478964405,68.32038834951456,8.549514563106799,28.655339805825246,7.984000788550335,1.5850077669902922,2358,71,513,26,36,758,252,618,0.196,0.738,0.066,-0.9982,0,1,1,0,1,0,44.0,3,0,0,7,32,36,9,2,10,1,49,6,1,7,6,111,116,50,1,16,19,2,6,0,2,5,1,8,6,3,31,45,2,7,9,4,2,16,19,22,1,3,43,15,88,14,85,59,8,81,0,6,2,2,109,34,0,7,28,345,119,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062014136017882235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06572728523195541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04315619987575114,0.06654523013961144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566709611432865,0.0,0.17798464753175075,0.0,0.05962444968969966,0.048798206572657626,0.0,0.07737144792027062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29033356896738144,0.06470353412433746,0.0,0.0,0.054666721000193486,0.0,0.0,0.1423556088702888,0.0,0.0,0.06970980684316265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06493726417107566,0.0,0.07138598274244845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08383184012933566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057035373373827025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626457796273437,0.0,0.12186655936886892,0.0695192993928614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980608577805146,0.0,0.03315617096333589,0.0,0.1442672125942734,0.0,0.05075619842693802,0.0,0.13982065384963152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06365735928378287,0.0,0.1249941782548458,0.07322639610910246,0.0679371689411143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046308360507316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05616169555445088,0.0,0.0,0.13855210166021645,0.0,0.057276751786608925,0.0,0.04236124397278765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06744984959749578,0.04665172466010762,0.2352806011362304,0.048945652090562834,0.0,0.06749234375469113,0.059554599835279574,0.06217908931995974,0.06089330821973037,0.0,0.06659248317916984,0.0,0.043003357763335213,0.048265558237998565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05541239551068982,0.0,0.0,0.17997573965634284,0.0,0.060778861484574974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04065525380882895,0.0,0.06266087094372927,0.0,0.0,0.21678412018448334,0.181100111866264,0.2018694806138972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0537709767973524,0.04885599373838816,0.0,0.0,0.08983717668167936,0.06764183443397957,0.101361350157382,0.05305690603530441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160470941384571,0.0,0.0,0.04771537532541582,0.10201638113807714,0.05546840997807082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0843223994209812,0.0,0.06235089582148279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36384281425859133,0.0,0.043086396136463735,0.0690282143701859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15708789259963754,0.11229424079751037,0.0,0.050905227623300235,0.0,0.057059779229920275,0.1764891718724656,0.05726440322105341,0.0,0.0,0.061174910103803576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803257663021544,0.13877103076374506,0.0,0.0
divorce,partylunchbox,2020/01/09,"How to support my brother (26) going through a divorce? Hello! Sorry if this isn't in the right place but I'm looking for help.

I'll try to keep this short and sweet. My brother who I love very much (we don't really get along on a lot of things but I would do anything for him) is currently separated from his wife. Not to give too much information but it isn't something he wants, he is still hoping to try and make things work. She moved out before Christmas and they haven't been attending family functions together for several months. It's been very hard on my family to see him so sad. I continue to try and invite him to hang out (pizza, games, drinks, etc.) just for fun (we don't bring up his wife unless he wants to vent and talk about it - even then try to be unbiased and positive) but he frequently says no or doesn't respond at all. 

Aside from continuing to try and get him to do something fun (which 95% of the time he says no to) and remaining positive (ex: we never ever speak ill of his wife, I remind him how he's smart and strong and he'll get through this) what can I do to support him? 

Bonus: I'm thinking about baking some cookies and dropping them of at his house. Any other ideas for a care package? Gum? Candy? Starbucks gift card?

TL/DR: Brother is separated from his wife. She wants a divorce, he doesn't, and he's majorly depressed right now. It's bumming me out. How can I make things a little brighter for him?",2.35350928381963,4.2752087275862065,3.652413793103449,88.74281167108755,77.24137931034483,6.944297082228117,24.60212201591512,7.882392219407189,1.274095490716181,1121,39,236,18,26,366,155,290,0.062,0.7340000000000001,0.204,0.9942,1,0,3,0,2,0,45.0,3,0,2,3,12,13,0,0,7,0,19,5,0,5,3,47,42,24,0,6,9,8,1,0,0,2,1,3,1,0,14,19,3,1,3,2,1,5,11,2,0,0,2,7,29,11,41,37,7,31,0,2,2,1,50,14,0,5,11,149,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08036721975825857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09725299879809328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10056343562014744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12049353652726134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10178923251916773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577251357989797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13180319767844487,0.07805752056263797,0.10690159642583408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228212995727191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852342851658295,0.11337010692046535,0.06716505862341975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10586707769986388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0792143190601905,0.0,0.0,0.11738052623472932,0.0,0.13636515460463952,0.0,0.13341210864606162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10504481681114433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11844853772137028,0.0,0.0,0.09924238298397137,0.0,0.0,0.10047336897186218,0.1066630822715252,0.0,0.15777364148816758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09433104899049773,0.1256078362059232,0.17375345459771593,0.0,0.09114857167912464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12347412536533516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757098569055848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20185207545065245,0.0,0.18796475312575486,0.0,0.0,0.09417505818818143,0.0,0.0,0.13351103590986638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18196321254352826,0.0,0.1322940973533483,0.0,0.0,0.09437960161628263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26822108747214085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09498951420040214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355428706994687,0.0757256949856752,0.0,0.0,0.0689123662226059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.401186142067646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950236153362898,0.20911887408398105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08603726883723138,0.0,0.0,0.08395248266880323,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ItsMyTime2020,2020/01/09,"First consultation with a lawyer, what to ask? So... I haven't talked to my husband yet, I'm one to prepare until I feel well enough informed before acting.   
There is another post out there with my situation, but this one is supposed to be a collection of questions YOU would ask your lawyer on the first consultation.  
Things you, retrospectively, would have liked to know up front about the process and things you would be interested to know if you would see a divorce lawyer, if you haven't yet.  


My main goal is to find out as much as I can about the process itself, asset division and finances during separation/before divorce (no kids, so custody is not an issue).  


Thanks everyone!",6.742857142857144,7.659996420634923,6.473134920634923,76.70589285714287,64.95238095238095,9.474603174603176,32.41666666666667,9.516144504307137,2.8864952380952382,543,21,99,10,8,170,77,126,0.025,0.878,0.098,0.8494,0,0,0,0,2,0,20.0,0,6,0,3,9,4,0,0,7,0,14,0,0,0,0,20,22,10,0,6,4,1,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,5,6,0,0,6,0,1,2,4,0,1,4,0,2,12,4,19,16,3,12,0,0,1,0,17,4,0,3,6,78,17,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17830886998508855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3179415595427685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893945615644339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17570377469306508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16248698047561952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08598075865149628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15541967147165606,0.289283399481281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17748465330818866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869065205991933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08307626475234628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12500394527973374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304561908421573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16285780494797256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904913047614757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355052634519064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191139699508458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13667715629306,0.0,0.15655622369237693,0.0,0.0,0.2259430424035233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152892472304028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4831853996308091,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,TruckThunders00,2020/01/09,"What gifts are considered income in a child support case? How can gifts be considered income in a child support case?

Located in Tennessee.

Tennessee child support guidelines 1240-2-4-.04 (3) 1. (xviii) defines income as ""gifts that consist of cash or other liquid instruments, or which can be converted to cash;""


Currently filed an agreed divorce with soon to be ex wife. We have one child together. We split custody 50/50 and each have the kid every other week. 



We filled out everything and filed, waited the minimum 90 days, and have court on 1/24 to finalize. 


My income was easy in determining child support because I’m on a salary. Ex’s income is hourly and there’s shift differential involved. She works full time at a hospital, 3 twelve hour shifts a week. Her income was determined by taking her schedule, (which does not change unless she requests off, trades shifts with a coworker, or during the holidays), adding up her base pay and shift differential (3/hr for nights and 6/hr for weekend nights). The math is simple. 

Now she is claiming that I manipulated her to inflate her income and is stating that she will not agree to the divorce. She claims that she is frequently called off work and that her determined income is too high. She provided me with paystubs and over the last three months she has averaged 30 hrs a week. 


I have seen her request to be called off but I know that it is also possible to be called off by her employer when the census is low (which is common during the holidays).  I know I have a decent case to argue that’s she’s being willfully underemployed and I’m preparing for this scenario if it comes to that. 


So now she’s requesting a bunch of documents for my income which I provided because i have nothing to hide.


Here’s the thing, she for a time was making money on the side as a virtual sugar baby (find the sub on reddit if you’re curious about what that is) and was essentially making money by sexting with people. For at least a couple months, she had one guy give her 800/month to help her pay rent. She’s also had another guy pay for her to go on multiple vacations, one as recently as the last week in November. We separated in March and she has had five vacations (that I’m aware of since then).

I requested documentation to verify all of these things since there’s a chance they may be counted as income... if not then I’m fine with that, but I feel that it’s probably worth bringing it up. 


Also, her mother bought her a brand new car in November that was approximately $30k. 


With our combine income from what we’ve filed,  which she is now disputing, I make 58% and she makes 42%. 

Since we had filed an agreed divorce I have not hired an attorney but of course I can if I need to. 

My question is, based on the cited statute above, do multiple paid vacations, a $30k new car, or all the money made from sugar daddies have a chance to count as income? Is it worth to make a case for this stuff or is this stuff generally not considered gifts in these cases? What’s the best way to go about proving that this is income?



Btw, I have no problem with her doing whatever or being with whoever in her free time. Please limit advice to the questions I asked. She has not been contributing any money to childcare, health insurance, or any other expenses since November. She helped pay for some things prior but not as much as she agreed to. My only issue is that she’s not helping financially and claiming that she can’t afford it yet her recent lifestyle says otherwise. If she was helping me pay for things for our kid I would not care at all.",5.4596819587303616,6.443030917271415,6.059068908941757,78.29998974569321,67.8388969521045,9.648778948696917,29.637186849245914,9.814636969101091,2.7750546223259933,2838,101,532,63,46,923,298,689,0.054000000000000006,0.871,0.076,0.9445,21,0,0,0,3,0,91.0,7,0,1,4,17,11,1,0,36,0,58,3,0,8,4,82,88,47,0,8,26,4,1,0,0,4,1,1,1,9,46,30,2,2,7,3,19,7,11,3,0,5,15,5,68,9,86,61,10,75,0,1,1,0,80,30,0,16,36,366,114,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07644897017294397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18769014912536594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064030638474926,0.08203475273166559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.073137856861502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09538095495821522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210133839034127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23965576323488985,0.0,0.07976437096421325,0.0,0.08276077722934719,0.06739132061746912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08656399229196501,0.0,0.050454201014144925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06846275208450499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06591518364860764,0.0,0.07031131670690538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039557259693510316,0.0,0.0,0.08570108667153398,0.0715040946638282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07504879950644146,0.08892391751916899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15492713117232976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.083158660275269,0.0,0.0,0.2097533365954461,0.08265809555493554,0.0,0.0,0.15408867749831906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08165555448262475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08599028305531307,0.1275416542261437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07402652557021927,0.2611076832571373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873359435363346,0.0,0.05751069894819694,0.058009224391514014,0.0,0.15111700011856805,0.0,0.1468338710759767,0.0,0.07506725083583654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590393397097877,0.05950017945994195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05423732891335874,0.0,0.0,0.08587700159443301,0.0,0.08819663114060672,0.0,0.0,0.08434905466086666,0.07485899118089487,0.0,0.0,0.1752790770862587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15449248708089766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062214500165854836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588625751929329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17911751352078234,0.0,0.3551142565512149,0.0,0.0,0.05882193221222452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20789971487748546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368559269274505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06209819158216029,0.25101710533214017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11390998764034115,0.0,0.0,0.055574906040259324,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,JamesMattDillon,2020/01/09,"My story about depression and life before and during separation Long story short.

It all started this around Thanksgiving of 2018. She left to go back to Ohio, since her family is there, and also my step children are there. And wanted to spend the holidays with them. I understand that.

When she landed in Ohio. I didn't hear from her for about a week. I'd call and text and nothing. Well she had met up with an old friend of hers.  And he forced her to tell me she wanted a divorce. She had to message me in private, or he would get pissed and it would be hell for her.

She ended up leaving him, when he was at work. She got to see her family and friends. Then she moved back. Not long after, she was following me location on Google Maps. Which I had no problem with me. 

But on her maps. It showed that I was at different places. For example: stopped and got gas on the way home from work. Well looking at that gas station, someone has it as a park. When you click it, it shows a pic of a house, that is on another street about 2 miles over. I always saved the gas receipt, So I was able to show her proof, that I was where I was at that time. 

She started gaslighting me. Accusing me of cheating on her, which somehow she figured it to be with one of my exes. Then she started accusing me of doing cocaine with my ex and her ""gang"". Also that I ran the drugs all over to own. 

After a while of being accused and me denying it. I started to just agree, just to shut her up. After about 6 months, we find out her youngest is pregnant. Of course my wife wanted to be there for the birth of her first grandbaby. 

So she wanted us to be separated for a couple months. That she will come back and  we can work everything out. Well it didn't work out that way. After the grandbaby was born, she was there a few day afterwards.  

Then she moved to Texas. To be with a mutual friend of ours, since he always treated her with respect. I knew he crushed on her. But he was always out of sight, out of mind. 

But now of course, since they are together. He had her block my cell number, blocked me on all social media. And when I had to email her about another mutual friend, was in the hospital, because of a heart attack. Also about my father who was having to go to the hospital. 

He told me not to message her again. She says that she is going to file for divorce, but as far as I know, she hasn't yet. 

*Okay, so I apparently lied, and it wasn't shorten after all. 

My wife was the only one who I could confide in, who wouldn't put me down or my feelings down. Every day is I struggle with depression. It's worse each day.I cannot express my feelings with family or friends. I always want to share my feelings with them, but it is hard for me too. 

And yesterday, I felt brave enough, to post my feelings and say that I still miss her and love her. Got told by a friend, that if really did love her, I wouldn't post about what happened on Facebook, or in messages to our friends. WTF? 

And also, STBX's man wrote me, telling me to stop posting that stupid shit on my profile and onto a relationship group page. WTF? Nice to know that everyone else can post what they want. But I cannot.",2.034763132452465,3.9099337009345843,3.2103856482973505,91.76074766355144,78.03426791277259,6.421355677301536,22.751208507895583,7.372421405659032,0.7456843055107956,2444,75,532,32,58,788,265,642,0.11699999999999999,0.802,0.081,-0.9592,3,0,2,0,2,0,94.0,5,1,4,5,38,30,6,1,22,1,49,7,3,0,5,91,89,49,0,13,15,4,6,0,7,5,2,3,1,2,34,40,0,4,11,4,1,10,11,11,3,3,31,13,99,19,106,46,9,100,1,3,4,2,99,43,3,6,41,389,133,4,0.0668185808305695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2137391797972724,0.22239364790376648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14013021604047973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059482703300994866,0.0,0.07601578193829958,0.0,0.15413809258157596,0.0,0.040731986686670274,0.0,0.056857690865792815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682292417932123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05755829086404955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053349199715803104,0.07393348877930599,0.0,0.1292773706173339,0.0,0.11510149151828783,0.0,0.0,0.06981119535796622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07748834026804056,0.0,0.05581835031091844,0.0,0.05918142981035924,0.06904145573051414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05629753621151524,0.0638480174309834,0.06005223196355209,0.0,0.18897183391696404,0.0,0.1351419285666058,0.0,0.06415631615008968,0.0,0.06107097235848352,0.056835850720194585,0.0,0.0,0.361367088593292,0.0,0.03490995064875185,0.0,0.11392361796243647,0.0,0.16032276925119246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05908745035672065,0.0,0.05985632391737596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07530939682258729,0.07918034000314814,0.0,0.0,0.06702448462713377,0.0,0.0,0.07709967104408746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07344348913525622,0.0,0.0,0.07075122925813816,0.07259858358094266,0.0,0.04719593970082933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11826468275387655,0.05611077920807202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12061275594231954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06746771880263308,0.0,0.10666790746502963,0.14203515377684042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06411423041402199,0.0,0.07011486048655485,0.0,0.09055599929851546,0.050818541682216715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06981119535796622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25597492029584595,0.0,0.0,0.06393635780840233,0.0,0.06717112915058453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0428056938676101,0.0,0.0,0.0717381496562252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10627363475585247,0.0,0.0,0.05324575789114053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06858831301377191,0.16581906164162755,0.0,0.0,0.06811312849446391,0.056615166703251035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891781417009009,0.0,0.05336140496437235,0.11172665102469886,0.0,0.06985328855340431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11680476958816854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03896245182309816,0.0,0.0,0.1276960348619668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06956049912844063,0.08037452558431323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364679811016228,0.10607495862875067,0.05359783510761866,0.0,0.1802337862669272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19457889060044575,0.0,0.06809384233741278,0.0949320054065918,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,DMoDooM,2020/01/09,"Feeling alone My stbxw and I have been living seperate for about two years. But in that time we were trying to fix things. Everything looked like it was getting better, then last week she told me she was going to file the paperwork. Monday, despite trying to talk to her about it, she started the process. Others have reached out to me but I feel more alone then I ever have. 

She wants to stay friends and I'm trying for our daughter. But I still have faith in us and our marriage, though she says nothing now could change things. She's a strong woman, which is why I love her so I know I can't change her mind on this.

I just don't want to feel alone anymore so I'm posting here.",1.3956521739130423,3.7356542173913065,1.8501739130434809,98.18395652173916,82.91304347826087,4.259710144927536,20.069565217391304,5.2151,-0.3952382608695649,534,15,116,2,15,162,90,138,0.054000000000000006,0.777,0.168,0.9546,0,3,0,0,0,0,14.0,4,0,0,2,10,6,0,0,3,0,12,1,0,0,1,18,26,11,0,3,4,1,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,8,5,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,5,5,24,6,15,20,1,18,1,0,1,1,21,4,0,0,12,80,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4613053027640816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14724070795747016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13130818988137388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3141196549041206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11853989600688905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342981219949896,0.0,0.0,0.13343377913562918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22521017527621676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11470627844561405,0.0,0.07756858475016351,0.0,0.08437798441173537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08159432204094966,0.12102152055796052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07253413608504562,0.0,0.13110027257598386,0.0,0.12467602077674846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13399848191416885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499107093131727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14245938545144826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421916382714407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180679905166523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10508666185932744,0.15824750610529414,0.11856701560575544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11933323535706845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972715484262735,0.0,0.14586939945886626,0.0,0.08657308847906403,0.0,0.0,0.1418678703117051,0.0,0.30240079054841623,0.0,0.14503200405729028,0.0,0.17858914388823102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17514095830283566,0.0,0.1190923544063862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13396959254829802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095608749279921
divorce,backinthesaddle2,2020/01/09,"Encouraged by Brad Pitt?? So I’m not one to really watch award shows, but the other night I was watching the Golden Globes. At one point, Brad Pitt won an award for best supporting actor. As he goes up to give his acceptance speech which was charming and entertaining, I couldn’t help but think that a couple of years ago, he was probably experiencing the exact same thing that I and many of us are going through right now. 

If you believe what you read in the entertainment magazines, he was pretty devastated after the end of his marriage, which was as public and scrutinized as any divorce ever. 

He seemed to go through a really tough time and during the awards, it was great to see a man who seems to have bounced back and found himself again. I know this is probably kind of flaky and shallow, and certainly I’m no Brad Pitt, but it was just cool and inspiring to see a guy like that come out on the other side in such a big moment for everyone to see.",11.024907834101384,7.0160575430107555,10.188986175115208,69.33919354838712,59.59139784946237,14.069431643625196,39.474654377880185,11.765960540728905,4.268710599078341,757,24,150,16,7,243,121,186,0.045,0.6509999999999999,0.305,0.9965,0,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,1,2,0,5,7,18,0,0,13,1,11,0,0,0,3,28,27,16,0,2,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,13,10,0,0,7,5,0,3,3,1,0,2,9,8,10,17,26,17,2,24,0,0,5,0,19,10,0,3,12,98,23,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13448903267350565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10317358057648883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166619329854656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17093446007442806,0.1592188936212303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13069179770703174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16787330572658266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134377295376213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13723780050836826,0.0,0.14497324456339913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16635117844489586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14554192488563492,0.17244990205340271,0.0,0.0,0.1672698542538305,0.0,0.15022487392283196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10169351328752932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15799116124163054,0.08338035651227625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0741218503298036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15381844457579213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423772557012892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20561636149748308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14342274134969554,0.0,0.0,0.15435195597638793,0.327155766870661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15175925994983522,0.0,0.1943891314239498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12956651625925705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3626992939472216,0.2762371074738957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17216801865151402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10079483244714274,0.09721489827340107,0.0,0.0,0.08846810416698425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824983174582866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977015483583748
divorce,manderinne,2020/01/09,"I'm trying to divorce him, not control him. Sanity check? Can someone explain me this. I have been NC since November with the exception of kid logistics. I have initiated legal separation proceedings. Since he called me a bitch in front of our toddler, I no longer allow him in my house. I asked him to buy his own supplies for when our son is in his care because he loses the stuff I send with him. I don't ask questions about his parenting time or comment when he returns our son late or cancels visitation to be with OW. I've reached a pretty nice state of meh and I really just want this chapter closed and him out of my life. 

So how can this guy tell me that I'm still controlling him? He says he left me because I was so controlling (in reality there was OW but I didn’t find out until later). I broke NC because he asked me when I was going to reply to his email about changing the custody arrangement that he sent me on Christmas Eve. When I said I needed time to think about it, and had other things keeping me busy over the holidays, he accused me of 'lawyering up' behind his back. First of all, it's no secret I have a lawyer. That's how divorce works. And it's not the reason, but it would be completely reasonable and routine if it was.

Then he came at me with the control accusations. I'm trying to divorce him and get away from him, not control him! I would have to care about what he does to want to control him, and I truly don't. I just want to get on with my life and make sure my kid is safe and happy. I think he feels like consequences and boundaries = control. It's like a little kid throwing a tantrum. I can't deal with the gaslighting and blameshifting which is why I went NC in the first place. Back to NC now. I just can't with this guy. At least I can say he's now more of a headache than a heartache, but damn.",2.8437842617152924,4.303617856763928,3.990575596816978,88.83474049513707,74.6763925729443,7.042581786030063,26.35977011494253,7.675431598112923,1.3101254465075152,1440,52,309,19,30,469,181,377,0.07200000000000001,0.807,0.121,0.9533,1,0,0,0,3,0,38.0,3,0,0,11,21,13,3,0,15,0,25,2,0,13,2,65,50,27,0,7,13,3,1,2,0,2,2,3,0,5,18,22,0,9,9,1,2,8,10,5,0,2,11,4,54,8,50,35,4,47,0,2,0,0,59,18,2,4,22,208,72,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363748471351363,0.0,0.07918503295856008,0.12961419739332378,0.0,0.1541312503218763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08606060577564807,0.0963953266961141,0.17186075540605253,0.0,0.08915841446934382,0.0,0.0883673141294854,0.0,0.6617003215313484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689029454343418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07375511239033801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04261514539975619,0.06021056025233733,0.0,0.0,0.07703155917235792,0.14337922023459618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08806697601990496,0.0,0.04789899128448743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669034273968953,0.0,0.08971898526418066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09724927642120536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07491307039763583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09507295010577893,0.0,0.09157185273091377,0.0,0.11906071514364695,0.08235114826189698,0.08447197981001812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09428918927442552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05625840603322625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06249349806141945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358438272924507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08805599482751958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0857443571265944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09441431754171063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053992743405510864,0.17331037704234764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801707934779558,0.13404770659460133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394366845159898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07141125145927978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06730713570278045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09648189664137943,0.0,0.0,0.07943410498800661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07366554987309577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05599273462517803,0.10800807677299784,0.0,0.0,0.09829017935045888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11444290776308355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14913384031020194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07812958701942506,0.07605074227116493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06135777254780307,0.0,0.0,0.11974200032223077,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,MNCPA,2020/01/09,"Going Back to Court...Now We Are Co-Parenting? I need some advice about my upcoming court hearing in a couple of weeks. 


Does it look good or bad if the other side starts doing what we motioned for, right before the court hearing date?

For example, for the past year, I have requested to be part of the children's appointments as I had been before the separation. Now, my ex is scheduling a whole boat load of appointments, including a few with me. 


Another example, I had asked for the child care schedule from my ex. She refused. We went to court and the court ordered her to provide it to me. She refused. I sent it to the parenting time expeditor and he agreed that she needed to provide it to me. She refused. We motioned the court to allow me to schedule the child care and NOW ALL OF A SUDDEN SHE IS SHARING THE CHILD CARE SCHEDULE.


Questions ---->>>>>

Does it look good or bad for me if she starts doing what I asked her to do in the motions?

Does she have a valid argument to say that she is perfectly fine scheduling appointments and child care, even though SHE JUST STARTED DOING IT?


* I apologize for the capital lettering but it is very frustrating to work with this level of immaturity.",3.8301503759398514,6.231319157894737,4.5846365914787,81.53078947368421,74.52631578947368,8.20250626566416,28.83959899749373,8.976282227363876,2.6298756892230584,960,41,175,22,21,308,111,228,0.066,0.831,0.10300000000000001,0.6959,2,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,4,0,0,2,7,12,1,0,18,0,15,0,0,1,2,26,33,11,0,4,6,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,5,13,10,0,3,1,0,0,6,0,3,0,0,5,5,30,9,31,27,5,29,0,0,2,0,38,5,0,6,17,127,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11994581278942328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12870971408927318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22950157908167754,0.0,0.0,0.09438397316921096,0.20497529612502052,0.0,0.0,0.2088953358353052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5005902517873617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13581593565313654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3222471313609523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08107246869525556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06975928870675081,0.20590677141820374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766869618033208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20615118004559554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18202896790326356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13629472767971948,0.13292178161656407,0.11717479184322348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375034308410597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10482427541951847,0.0,0.0976124174439458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606404088097873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12059716312583732,0.0,0.07157408553369238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101278171758602,0.0,0.0,0.098459307741491,0.0,0.0,0.11378662204087805,0.0,0.13704134519483868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08936043233443944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790442956229439
divorce,whensmynap,2020/01/09,"Update: Wife Whose Husband Opened Accounts in Her Name Post history tells this in more detail but in a nutshell what happened was I found out by accident that my husband had been opening credit cards in my name and his was maxed out.  Met with several divorce attorneys and they all said it would be next to impossible to prove that I had nothing to do with these accounts and that divorce would be much easier with the debt handled in some manageable way.  I have not told my husband that I will be seeking divorce but am currently working my exit plan.

Step one was to figure out how to handle over $100,000 in debt.  I definitely looked into bankruptcy and spoke with three bankruptcy attorneys and considered every possible option.  Early fall I met with my father-in-law without my husband and told him what I’d found and what options I had found for us: bankruptcy and we’d lose our house, sell the house to pay debt and still owe about $20,000, cash-out refinance and still owe about $40,000.  Our credit scores are too low to get a loan from a bank.  We attempted the cash-out but were denied due to credit scores.

My father-in-law considered options with me and he offered to take a loan in his name with our house as collateral and that’s what we did.  The loan came through this week and my father-in-law and I sat and wrote $100,000 worth of checks to the credit companies.  My husband was present for this but he sat there like a bump on a log.  We have a plan to pay his dad back and I will work as many shifts as I can to make extra payments.  I had gotten a part time job when I was just planning on divorcing but once I learned about the debt I got a second one.

I believe when I divorce my husband will want this house and I don’t care about it other than my kids all have good friends here so I’d want one of us to have it.  If we trade the house for debt I figure he can keep the house and keep all the debt to his dad and I can potentially walk out with him having to pay me around $5000.

My husband is acting nice to me when we run into each other in the house.  I really have very little to do with him and am sleeping in the basement.  I still do all the mom stuff.  Hustle my kids where they need to go, leave dinner in the crock pot for them and my husband to eat while I work.  I am resentful that I work like a *dog* and he sits home watching tv and eating snacks.  He has a skill that he could use for side jobs but he’s perfectly content to just let his dad and me solve this for him.  The kicker—once I confronted him in September he stopped paying 4/10 accounts in my name while accounts in his name were paid monthly.  I can only assume this was a passive aggressive attempt to punish me for outing him.  My credit score is even lower now than it was when I found out and it’s pretty dismal.

So for now my plan is to make sure my relationship with my kids is solid, be the best mom to them I can, work to make extra payments, and potentially file this summer.  I can’t live like this forever.  I deserve a happy life.  My kids know some parts of this.  I told them about the money my husband stole from their bank accounts and how I was working hard to pay them back.  My oldest is really mad at his dad.  He sees how hard I work.  One time recently he was upset I had to work so much and I was explaining that it’s ok, I really want to take care of this for you and your brother.  It wasn’t right for Dad to take it and I’ve got this for you.  He yelled back, YOU shouldn’t have to!

He’s right.  I shouldn’t have to.  But nobody else will. I’m going to take care of my kids.  And I’m going to get us out of here.",3.0554503519117366,4.189195873502002,4.095571381015787,89.58530875499335,73.62050599201066,7.2284668061632145,24.196333460148374,7.645422480735847,0.9553007228457292,2835,81,623,35,56,920,287,751,0.096,0.779,0.125,0.9806,12,0,0,0,4,0,69.0,12,4,7,18,32,27,5,1,29,1,63,6,1,7,7,118,113,54,0,10,12,18,2,3,1,8,1,3,1,5,36,59,4,3,11,1,34,9,7,8,0,6,39,8,102,19,100,59,15,75,0,2,3,0,96,35,0,7,31,418,138,23,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05389393893316558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13965587452927916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06820848611591385,0.06353358878149068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06924227911766709,0.18517542503975012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04833671558381676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238962256238849,0.050573874354435534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03998647275841021,0.0,0.051008037804165074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655184224499631,0.04677349098215434,0.0,0.06325989385193892,0.0,0.10321979615560188,0.05077855428971311,0.09683964195885553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0535358224243365,0.06444655807226693,0.1084649112076547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060727123702550824,0.0,0.0,0.4889897924433094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201543400455482,0.10762247315965884,0.0,0.0,0.03327151170706718,0.0,0.0,0.0641037178453307,0.0,0.06190683030902722,0.04276159204229239,0.0887311873259182,0.06067755153801455,0.05345842878163067,0.0,0.050838827765273965,0.06772940748570029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121233893388259,0.06137863153310976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14180875800656192,0.048322902054055726,0.0,0.08900856354226518,0.04489006245551352,0.0,0.0,0.06438557857693541,0.0,0.0,0.058090305701059435,0.0,0.0,0.12894745355521992,0.16409541683168094,0.046043828375367565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13111906631556994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06825039158508207,0.05798112710613607,0.06159152017443097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11635151009961787,0.0,0.0597765050879015,0.06499791102611556,0.0,0.10340262485994728,0.05758794175350039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04824299275226875,0.0,0.0,0.06839360719987207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060584287501657764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14504332222353972,0.05061462386017275,0.0,0.0,0.0693044636707851,0.0,0.0,0.0570587668257091,0.0,0.18207588454825235,0.0,0.05291512296804058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07060338157850124,0.0,0.0,0.17354731517581645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21846853958723916,0.052287610936424235,0.0,0.04995230712992863,0.1071251828338362,0.04805428322371102,0.048561990157423886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05835894506407086,0.0,0.35259402366563725,0.0,0.0,0.08601256194252747,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,wanPeak,2020/01/09,"My friend doesn't want to get married again My friend needs help with getting her marriage annulled. Yesterday she had signed the paperwork for her marriage, but she now regrets it and wants to get the paperwork annulled or if need be divorced. The person she had signed the paperwork to marry, is not a good person he has cheated and more on her. He is in the military and is getting ready this month to be deployed to Japan and my friend was going to be going with him, but now doesn't want to go and regrets her decision.  
Any help/advice will be gladly appreciated.

Small note, we live in California",6.484372670807452,6.991347052173919,6.516273291925469,77.60521739130434,65.43478260869566,9.354037267080745,33.81987577639751,9.23628265651192,2.9713354037267075,481,20,88,8,7,153,67,115,0.122,0.722,0.156,0.6855,0,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,1,0,0,0,3,8,1,0,6,0,14,0,0,0,0,23,26,9,0,8,5,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,2,8,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,3,0,0,3,0,12,5,13,18,1,12,0,2,0,0,20,4,0,2,5,61,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903250404719761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324489223811897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4514318329068889,0.0,0.4070329757507543,0.0,0.3320734372708181,0.1633621620140425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610977766368188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719837168623385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15546196351522712,0.0,0.0,0.2888360158439445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3401278190888626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34463764710667083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,sad_dad77,2020/01/09,"I feel like I need a plan My wife's behavior is becoming increasingly hostile towards me as well as the children. I don't know how much more I can handle her. If it were just me, I would have split a long time ago, but there are three young kids who she treats poorly.  I already handle a good chunk of the household responsibilities as well as being the only one with a job. I'm concerned that if I did leave, she would take out even more rage on the children.

Running two households would be doable, but it would be pretty tight.

There's also the issue of custody and how getting primary would be a challenge for me.

The tl;Dr is that things are falling apart at home. Im scared for my kids and don't know where to start...",5.069467275494669,5.330905246575345,5.446255707762556,84.90917047184173,68.45205479452055,7.858751902587517,28.55098934550989,7.3871296695380915,1.4337939117199392,570,18,119,5,9,182,96,146,0.09699999999999999,0.797,0.106,0.0927,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,2,10,9,2,1,11,0,19,0,0,2,0,21,27,13,0,8,5,1,2,1,0,5,0,0,1,4,6,4,0,1,3,0,1,3,2,3,2,3,2,2,15,6,14,16,4,14,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,2,6,87,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468125457941458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827662972322749,0.13244662290085168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182914787140932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10939075254964677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08374268146781527,0.11831929049898375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08652985518982671,0.0,0.0,0.1389145849571468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16613082634552534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17889851859669148,0.17286473183677373,0.16435275198065816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18204134813741274,0.0,0.0,0.1753681545931321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08091379147851414,0.0,0.0,0.14656889629733144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12175009543950775,0.12280547333288977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11222871072936837,0.12596182380674906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16849555056442614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16581497427939385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172270148070572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124525975022933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11003087508543433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09657462274911073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16178712489583272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978253694848079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5882601183944908,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,writingforaliens,2020/01/09,"I am by myself I’m alone.  No husband.  Just me and three cats.  I have been for a while.  I have so many feelings about everything 

It’s refreshing to be alone, without any sort of romantic partner.  Anyway. I have a story 

I cross stitch.  In September I was working on a Viking symbol of protection with colors that reminded me of me and my husband.  I was doing it because I was stressed out about our marriage.  He was trying to be friends with another woman who was demanding his attention more and more.  Not to mention pointless arguments that lasted for hours...because he wanted me to tell him not to see her after he told me she helped him grow.  I figured if she helped him grow who was I to
Stop that? I supported him.  Like I always did.  I did the cross stitch, so that I wouldn’t cry at work.  Several of my con workers were trying to make sure I was okay.  I felt embarrassed by it.  My heart felt so beaten.

I remember when I paid off the irs.  How his head slowly turned and his eyes lit up and how it felt like he was looking at me for the first time in months.  But still things just....were uneasy for me

For a month after I still tried.  And ultimately as I was coming out of a daze he apparently couldn’t tell I was in, he got angry at me all over again.  It wasn’t even a bad argument.  But I sat there, thinking about how I had just apologized to him for doing something he didn’t like, told him I’d stop, only to have him get heated at me.  

I am not a child.  I am not incompetent.  I am not on drugs, I don’t even smoke weed.  I went into a depression that I’m coming out of right now.  I feel like I’m on the other side of that awful feeling.  I feel whole, even though I’m by myself.  I’m alone and that’s scary but it’s freeing. 

The cross stitch has been at my desk this whole time .  I look at it.  I analyze everything.  I miss him.  I want to run to him.  But I don’t trust him, and he doesn’t trust me.  That cross stitch was supposed to symbolize our strength.  But now when I see it, I just remember stabbing the cloth  while fighting back tears, because the night before my husband gave me an entire list of reasons as to why I wasn’t enough. 

I am enough for myself right now.  I am growing.  No one can take that from me",0.9622057809843304,3.0007122138228937,2.753426772666701,92.8677036900878,82.36933045356372,6.013859657184873,21.08216534166629,7.211369081168443,0.5197436606773587,1717,52,384,24,47,569,205,463,0.105,0.802,0.09300000000000001,0.113,1,3,3,0,2,0,59.0,2,0,0,6,27,20,2,2,16,2,41,4,3,5,2,57,75,27,0,5,15,3,7,4,2,1,1,0,0,3,22,16,0,3,13,0,2,11,16,8,0,3,30,14,78,13,61,41,7,55,0,2,7,0,46,22,0,2,26,275,100,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28747421980717563,0.0,0.0,0.0769855961654444,0.0,0.0,0.06291803495479617,0.09701723339991264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07114359641741738,0.07725188532228533,0.16920139442650767,0.0,0.07872928510597929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593987734164186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163091459112994,0.0,0.0,0.07968893920838603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10729597949645184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911996203000814,0.0,0.18332944036203636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16630535709473615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18712732194851228,0.06609763258665242,0.2665064740732498,0.0,0.0,0.07869904365537911,0.0,0.0,0.07148215662285914,0.0,0.04833885118811231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07399818046984782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09495411706136422,0.0,0.0,0.10963884512317863,0.12403089992514725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07541766156559916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808060220031753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15539011403815864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06175905748610847,0.09380264035071667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14770012588613482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682549448151107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06269520427463349,0.07036704086722577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09512787771107482,0.0,0.0,0.20961845413043312,0.15802631940116646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14745588116092756,0.0,0.0,0.10452336225510407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07122784514468808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477761478218312,0.1547048293470495,0.10598347372749402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10499270603081563,0.08720075455771929,0.0,0.06956492140756354,0.0,0.16173636084432844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0614674101231815,0.05928426961162037,0.09090225399950436,0.0,0.10790047683256036,0.0,0.0,0.17681719715422484,0.0,0.18844880128429312,0.1006372112724146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10914357594137114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0857686876739596,0.08348658440504247,0.2065946966984011,0.0,0.08918776776799407,0.0,0.13471402654960815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,troubledturquoise,2020/01/09,Share with me your story about your marriage and divorce My parents recently settled their divorce case. It baffles me that these two persons were once in love and had kids together. How does a couple move from loving each other to hating each other in such extremities? What happened? Help me understand by sharing your story please,6.458275862068965,9.223042068965519,5.820206896551727,73.9954827586207,67.96551724137932,7.398620689655173,34.01379310344828,8.238735603445708,3.163657931034482,272,13,38,4,5,83,48,58,0.046,0.6970000000000001,0.257,0.9344,1,0,0,0,2,0,4.0,0,3,1,0,3,5,1,0,1,0,2,2,0,1,0,7,7,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,0,8,4,7,5,2,4,0,0,0,2,15,2,0,0,1,31,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772149086418712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2192469993812748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22154942804625444,0.0,0.0,0.2473538500221087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679299628577537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4522396368904084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662816460326556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668141936509533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781921745810215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21875962622972026,0.0,0.2750148707460701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473754938862832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24473867134692465,0.2608183074997945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Amitrans2019,2020/01/09,"Is it worth trying to fix my marriage before ultimately divorcing? I told my wife that I don't love her and have been unhappy and wanting to die for years. Since I made the decision to part, I have been excited about the future. 

I let her talk me into getting family counseling or going to an intensive marriage retreat. However, I don't really want to save the marriage and would only be doing it for the sake of our kids or to appease her. 

I realize info I get here will be skewed, but I am wondering if others here have been through similar processes. Would I be wasting time and money and just postpone the inevitable divorce? Would it be better to just move forward with separation and a happier stabler future sooner? Or would the effort to fix the marriage smooth the divorce process?",6.857375093214022,7.391546087248321,7.655928411633113,69.66064131245344,64.63758389261744,10.91752423564504,37.36092468307234,10.746095033038511,4.386981506338554,633,31,104,16,9,212,93,149,0.08800000000000001,0.797,0.115,0.6235,1,0,0,0,2,0,12.0,1,0,0,2,5,4,0,0,10,0,21,1,0,1,0,27,30,11,1,7,7,1,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,5,8,0,0,4,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,5,1,17,4,15,15,1,8,0,0,0,1,16,2,0,5,5,84,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700685201396706,0.0,0.0,0.17676240277083494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074260296091538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884128582135398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088401253929248,0.0,0.1135866336978123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20437325163199735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18038397796962247,0.1891150115390196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124225240491657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15200466371296864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21643193327858826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12803722590141306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653285714733255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16064214601685792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11654160451588225,0.0,0.0,0.1909774680081502,0.0,0.13569372021001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357685125441463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21674267838623645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5679071881937272,0.0,0.0,0.12870508887450932
divorce,mrsackles13,2020/01/09,"He broke into my house. I need to file for divorce ASAP. But safely. Please help! I tried amicably splitting, after months and months of marriage counseling and trying to heal our relationship. I resigned from my soul-sucking job that consumed my life, I reinvested emotion and attention on him when I'd been just mentally checked out, and we went on many trips trying to rekindle a sense of fun from our youth. 8 years now and I didn't think he was threaten suicide when I finally said our separation was a permanent situation for me. I tried to let him know it wasn't his fault. I just wasn't ready to marry, having eloped to avoid a domineering mother, and I'm naturally impulsive and shortsighted. As I lost weight, he got more insecure. As I got less volatile on Prozac, he got more panic attacks. As I depleted my $10K in savings, he continued to rack up thousands because we didn't have joint accounts. I thought he was strong enough to handle moving on, given that for at least 6 months, I've said the word divorce as a potential future for us, if all else failed. Hubs refused to get anger management counseling, and I was sick of him breaking things during what felt like tantrums. I shut down every time, no discussion was had about any conflict in fear of breaking our tentative truce. We've been together since we were in high school. I've grown to be someone that no longer seeks a partner with his goals, and I hated him repeatedly sacrificing them for my happiness....like he was trying to appease a vengeful god. Anyway, he broke into my house as I was sleeping on some medication and I woke up terrified in the pure darkness of the room with him laying (clothed) on top of me, holding me tightly in a firm hug and sobbing onto my chest. I was on my back and I had never felt such pure terror at the severe lack of awareness of what he was triggering. He knows my sexual assault history. He knows I'm scared of the dark. And I've had no sleep since, no moment of rest due to hypervigilance and anxiety, and my stepdad changed my locks with a new deadbolt on my bedroom door. I'm a prisoner in my house, waiting for him to drop by. He said he hopes my next husband rapes and hits me every night, and Jesus, I get that it's spoken out of angst and hurt, but I am so shaken up. I've lost everything sue to him and now he's taken my peace of mind too. If I get a restraining order or file for divorce, I'm scared he will react violently or come back to harass me. And worse, I'm scared he's going to harm himself and it will be on my conscience the rest of my life. I kept wondering why I couldn't just figure out how to be happy with him, if something was wrong with me, with not committing enough or giving ample effort. What are my next steps to safely handle this situation? I've already screenshotted and/or forwarded all emails and texts to my family lawyer. I don't know what next, because the lawyer is advising me to try to get back with him, since she's a family friend.",5.896255154014067,6.050287366723263,6.519492602473928,78.29457724957558,66.67402376910017,9.787455736114481,32.10870725200097,9.606745405546679,2.845103866116905,2365,90,460,45,35,776,294,589,0.174,0.755,0.071,-0.9937,1,1,1,0,3,1,68.0,8,0,1,7,16,37,8,8,18,0,33,12,3,3,6,88,72,39,1,7,12,2,4,1,2,2,6,3,3,1,13,38,1,10,11,0,2,8,12,27,0,1,36,7,73,10,85,28,12,69,1,8,0,2,56,32,1,9,28,286,86,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853209676576413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05257804834784639,0.0,0.059147110048277524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08795897671669063,0.0,0.17835544870856626,0.0,0.09426315897152572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08179088062176139,0.06660154295423529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06458823220877051,0.08697094885084931,0.0,0.15977776304441355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13028541049160158,0.0,0.06948731879591502,0.0,0.14577472129935784,0.08700285074118061,0.0,0.0,0.1484724296608509,0.08469673175835099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05973473725975795,0.0,0.1615792646209578,0.07416928171454144,0.0439408966766604,0.0,0.18551182883532213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08230512909997216,0.0,0.07633429391478308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05182379470033159,0.08168940230250188,0.0,0.07679298850985881,0.0,0.2676394821171169,0.08276919106607379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.076724954483073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16996507793826238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07906162583641807,0.10922222873763532,0.0377730636903023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16880075448625895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07838705965720356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07788850192453843,0.07791710934433947,0.0,0.07806788743034772,0.0,0.1851405014175244,0.08217548031110962,0.0,0.05732939812804023,0.05963145201485815,0.07467300894458984,0.2466817553394595,0.07255654201461299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907145594529912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487058508525422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08300926563423483,0.0,0.0,0.22063783338011264,0.0,0.2322226954075393,0.07824868922671566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08734593186320418,0.0,0.19187166941146472,0.17381455617440528,0.15474519519451432,0.0,0.0655102401486158,0.059522219478420735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08457198681320241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05136582004818604,0.04954145812319155,0.0,0.061380871357988365,0.04508402472942756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3149580304641718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09300254294856768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941509848590325,0.0,0.07167341145496195,0.06976635036994701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08384672849562301,0.0,0.0,0.07879238416001581,0.0,0.08453374006264576,0.0,0.04978945874072622
divorce,VallenwoodMeemer,2020/01/09,"My mum is thinking of divorce My mum has recently found out that her husband of one year (my step dad) is cheating on her and I feel very conflicted about the situation.

No this is not the first time he has cheated on her and their relationship is going down hill fast, whenever they argue he uses the line of ""oh I'm in the shit again, it's my fault again"" and trys to turn the argument on her when he has started it. This is not the first time I've been in the middle of a divorce with my family and I feel like everything is falling apart again.

I understand why she wants a divorce but I don't know how I feel about it as he is nice at times and I do have some sort of love to him, but I don't know if these feelings are just there because I've never really had a farther type figure and the only partner my mum and myself has ever had true love for died of a aggressive infection.

Any advice would help, I guess I'm looking to understand the situation or my own feelings. I'm not sure anymore.",5.012387820512821,4.683021360576923,6.203653846153848,81.45801282051283,68.56730769230771,9.625641025641023,30.794871794871803,9.2995712137729,2.430344871794872,785,28,168,14,12,265,119,208,0.1,0.7809999999999999,0.11800000000000001,0.8758,0,0,0,0,3,0,14.0,0,0,2,2,10,12,5,0,13,0,20,4,1,2,4,41,43,14,1,3,8,5,5,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,7,9,0,1,12,0,0,3,7,6,0,3,4,6,24,6,22,38,2,29,0,0,1,2,26,11,1,5,16,115,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397084010559767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972243437940463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14178759114634587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08715304259991466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14838004550787706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12932433888220513,0.0,0.0,0.12849200729637314,0.0,0.13477917177835466,0.0,0.3614490482628003,0.1021376296827176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24322002052703884,0.0,0.1567589694309484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08125301298455831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574973162433514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09582962074444312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571448892618354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06984780618109007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12005859592004275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580715921763303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11026709765403866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09688001379913208,0.10873494981145074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09159009330579987,0.0,0.14116539631865507,0.1534960241719343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14675641067863174,0.0,0.3214080152635057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10119473651911816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347473128541132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916092534428356,0.0,0.0,0.2501004615603628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15551005104105614,0.0,0.2976731378435937,0.0,0.12347997444049125,0.0,0.11796503028503008,0.08432727244151299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290079766511807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10156162004741597,0.0,0.0,0.09206784211354484
divorce,pearlessence123,2020/01/10,"Can we not do this the easy way? The finish line is in sight. Within the next 60 days, I'll have that blessed piece of paper in my hands and I can fully delete stbx from my life. Deleted much of it over the last few months but I kept a few lifelines open to avoid a blowup. Deleted more today. Can't wait to delete my email account and cut off all ties once I have the divorce papers in hand. 

Instead of being a decent human, stbx choose to be combatative and difficult. I should have taken them for everything they were worth, but taking/protecting what was mine was more important at the time (and still is). And I have a conscience. Damn conscience. I've tried to be even-keel, no anger, no outbursts, factual and (probably) cold. 

LAZY. Ugh the lazy quality hasn't ebbed at all. They've barely done anything to finalize this divorce process. They're like like a child, can't do anything without having their hand held the whole way. Getting a lawyer, signing documents, doing all the things adults do. I've had to do everything to get anything done and push. Thank God I stepped up otherwise we'd still be in a loveless sexless marriage years later. 

All I want is what we agreed on. Nothing more. It didn't have to be mean or nasty or combatative. Let's be civil and polite and end this already. But no... They just couldn't NOT be a jerk. 

Have to remind myself that all the money in the world isn't worth still being married to them. If I'd come out penniless, it still would have been an improvement. 

Just sign the fucking papers so we can be done. Just fucking sign. Stop fucking around. Let's end this.",2.4512499999999977,4.871866557324843,3.0056648089172,90.99059912420384,79.28662420382166,5.835828025477707,23.50676751592357,7.04035,0.8418283439490448,1265,43,252,15,32,393,174,314,0.131,0.7490000000000001,0.12,-0.7669,0,1,0,0,2,0,48.0,4,0,5,0,11,14,7,1,21,0,47,7,3,0,6,48,60,16,0,5,12,0,3,2,0,2,1,0,0,3,12,16,0,5,2,0,4,3,12,10,0,0,12,5,21,4,30,33,13,38,1,0,1,3,16,16,4,3,19,172,33,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13348406448122482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2986231162045915,0.107681413670505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041976538513391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07801018476042426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3713569492970261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21427203779807574,0.0,0.0,0.07989395467387186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217424860439933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13250745172916706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33548097668785304,0.12639482163421745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09859979754750492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473827348861236,0.08543871116241304,0.11819139439490772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13176257537877287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09655034515652967,0.0,0.08892064804261203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286439673625569,0.0,0.0,0.11606585753917653,0.0,0.0,0.12882008963250113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13041699613113672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.386400160257129,0.10112926161183336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11136513199385588,0.0,0.0,0.08036147061711144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07053364523716901,0.0,0.11465739384639904,0.0,0.0,0.08212494380837351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07134624879657278,0.19202727627197747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13504923678343106,0.0,0.11660260558448987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08592760565227082,0.0,0.0,0.07789526424149926
divorce,amaario,2020/01/10,"Stbxh moved out of state Things were not going well, we had an argument that ended with him choking me. After he calmed down, I told him that was it, he had to leave or I would call the police.  He moved out of state that day.  We have a 13 month old baby and he texted last night saying he wanted her to visit him for a week.  Given his temper, the fact that I am her primary care giver, and just generally feeling anxious about him not returning her as promised, I said no.  Am I being unreasonable?",3.893457142857141,4.824311260000002,4.967428571428575,84.89300000000001,71.4,7.7142857142857135,23.285714285714285,7.957251820313856,1.0323714285714278,386,9,80,5,7,127,72,100,0.14300000000000002,0.745,0.11199999999999999,-0.3213,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,0,3,6,1,0,5,0,9,0,0,0,1,16,16,4,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,6,7,0,0,1,0,0,4,3,1,1,0,7,3,16,5,12,7,0,18,0,0,0,0,21,3,0,1,9,56,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574423475291143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326934992730127,0.0,0.23234138432275375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14696535266083066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018362454662758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152242331520217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12951086961543046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18575464297845048,0.0,0.2412946514024016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18189362797987987,0.4844060418007089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138522780212693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391243374373632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167684308719832,0.1812213011742828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15139499933063008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217751483193792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13441099579006632,0.0,0.18279358639876409,0.0,0.20489372450590448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16188118137099108,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,DogtownLB,2020/01/10,"How many of your all's spouses ""affair-down?"" Mine did. Former high school boyfriend who had his own girlfriend at the time of her cheating, which continued until the girlfriend dumped him. But my wife is with him now. He's uglier and that's not me being petty. It's undeniable. Second, he doesn't make any money. He's a stoner who also has a drinking problem. When I confronted him, he was a coward (not surprising).

What's your story and how do you cope with something like that?",2.4145161290322577,4.979741473118281,3.3896881720430123,87.32453225806455,80.50537634408602,5.440430107526883,22.203225806451613,6.742157984588678,0.7244761290322588,379,12,70,4,10,121,71,93,0.184,0.773,0.043,-0.9227,0,0,2,0,0,0,18.0,0,3,0,0,5,6,3,0,5,0,8,1,0,3,1,12,9,8,0,1,3,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,7,4,1,0,0,1,1,0,3,4,0,1,3,0,12,2,6,5,2,8,0,0,0,0,18,2,0,0,7,51,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2870277635228479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440775415527423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3516044300021865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3792181169030453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753499190660198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395815274690928,0.3638879991151681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3434374513263944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3632456566251303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763137365225302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20928882423442868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,EddieCox93,2020/01/10,"Don't date yet.... Ish... Maybe? I've seen a number of posts and comments about dating again post divorce/seperation. I must admit that I support the advice of waiting a year. However, I didn't wait a year. I was probably about 4 months post seperation when I started again.

I'm going to say now, things are going really well at the moment. We're six months in and things are great. However, I have found that this relationship does require extra focus and work. Why? Because, I haven't fully sorted out everything in my head and my self. So, I have to be careful. I have to take time to be by myself. To reflect, to process, to go to therapy. It sometimes causes bumps and upsets.

Yet, some of these problems, would have come up whether I had waited a month, a year, a decade. This is simply because, until I was put into that situation again, I wouldn't have known what the issue, or upset, or echo of hurt, was.

I knwo for some of us, in the midst of all this mess, the last thing we want is someone telling us what to do, in the form of ""wait a year until dating again"". Of course, we know better. We're the ones in our own shoes. So take it as advice. Spend time by yourself and enjoying your own company again.

If you don't wait, that is fine, just remember to look after yourself. It might work out, it might not. Yet if you want to give yourself the best chance at the next relationship, take time. Reflect. Look after yourself. Because by the time you get to that next relationship (or no relationship for that matter) you will realise how much you're worth. And how much you can love.",2.1705272952853605,4.439616032051283,3.3499048800661697,88.97143920595535,79.38461538461539,6.077088502894956,22.24400330851944,7.233258080335977,0.7805435070306039,1230,38,248,16,31,397,160,312,0.052000000000000005,0.8290000000000001,0.11900000000000001,0.9515,2,0,0,0,1,0,64.0,5,6,0,5,18,14,0,2,17,0,28,3,2,3,2,50,55,21,0,8,8,0,0,0,0,6,0,1,0,1,19,13,0,6,7,0,2,5,7,5,1,2,7,4,27,9,43,40,10,52,0,1,3,1,22,11,0,10,33,177,46,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792788762207033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16775690744181654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962670631765114,0.08112948986324675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09352687653323273,0.09423402157445404,0.0,0.0790189861288992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08027528185742996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08244279691600806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10057939130602388,0.0,0.0,0.04792617822148095,0.08799768268160027,0.15640021015895794,0.0,0.0,0.10113484185668424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09414348552547844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09820099160832403,0.0,0.0,0.09574436393130316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0504135022263278,0.07477381444532814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540635351524552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08279170164456058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09215711269706267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19462628835887685,0.0,0.0,0.21965879564474092,0.0,0.1348671336549789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951160222300496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06215996987609788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635616655641144,0.0,0.09890259931343504,0.08777512492036199,0.0,0.09221598561967972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05876586116762628,0.0,0.0,0.3939433063422502,0.103914461600166,0.0,0.0,0.0729489596075333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956964706646148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311059920025993,0.0,0.0,0.07772421670713177,0.0,0.09072528282910328,0.0,0.06492837404720105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10409637418991648,0.0,0.0,0.20691311891347425,0.0,0.08017780174950967,0.0,0.1049035240907126,0.0,0.18282797252953287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21395864220007785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22068457651964632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082118077639024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08247807479565425,0.0,0.08277385219040473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13356396121672012,0.0,0.0,0.0651637731576338,0.0,0.0,0.2362895737897409
divorce,Talubaty,2020/01/10,"California divorce My wife just served me with divorce paperwork shortly after I found out about her affair(s).  We have been married for 10 years with me being the sole bread winner.  We have 2 kids, ages 7 and 9.  I've been told the under California law, after 10 years of marriage, I am probably going to have to pay her alimony for the rest of her life.  What are my options to escape this nightmare?",4.316017316017317,6.023991272727272,5.352662337662338,79.54423160173161,71.33766233766234,7.730735930735931,29.71645021645022,8.344100000000001,2.2963177489177493,316,13,57,5,6,104,55,77,0.018000000000000002,0.909,0.07200000000000001,0.6249,0,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,8,2,0,0,0,10,11,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,6,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,11,0,14,6,1,9,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,1,5,41,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4569178502859997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368346267963864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943454473778095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44930042307072304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3981989419860783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5367149407998917
divorce,snitz427,2020/01/10,"How long to settle up? Im contemplating divorcing my husband.  Things have been on a downward spiral, and I feel my husband is emotionally abusive, though he may be shocked to hear that.  He ridicules, lectures, yells at and belittles myself and my now 16 yo from the time we wake up until the time we go to sleep.  While I credit some of this to a gruff personality, I feel like Cinderella who is barely living between housework and work-work, while he is the evil stepmother telling us how we do not do enough.  I have literally used 90% of my vacation time these past 5 years on housework and improvements (with little to no help), and spend EVERY weekend working from the moment I wake until I fall asleep on “house stuff,” while he is out visiting friends and family everyday (retired/injured military).  When he comes home from a day out, he begins houndinf me and blaming me for what HASNT gotten done.  (He gutted the house before we met, and then lived like a semi hoarder for 5 years after his injury - I’ve been “helping” clear it out and finish renovations for 6 years.). I’m physically exhausted and he has emotionally drained me.  I love him but sometimes cant help but feel used (also extremely minimal intimacy and physical contact.  Sex maybe once in last year (im ready!) and couldnt tell you the last time he hugged me or kissed me (I initiate often).  He’s also a total jerk to my son, which he thinks is joking and “toughening him up.”  I dont want my kid to suffer or grow apart from me because his step dad is an asshole.


Financially we are fairly equal, although I feel I have financially contributed more and helped him pay off 65k in debt, his daughter’s wedding, and other daughter’s college tuition.   I came in with zero debt, and a 10 year old.

I just want half of what I’ve put in at this point, and my stuff.  By “what ive put in” I mean by me paying the mortgage for 6 years.  Not including helping with his debt or his kids stuff.  Maybe I should request some of that, too?

If we agree to uncontested divorce and it proceeds thru the courts, how long does he have to settle up?  He is the type to drag his feet and never do so.  Hell, he doesnt even collect on substantial debts owed to him.  Just a major procrastinator.  I dont want to divorce and then be stuck in limbo.  If we divorce its because I want to start over and start feeling like an actual person again.  I cant do that without a financial settlement.

Thanks in advance, sorry this turned into a bit of textual diarrhea.",5.700488980716251,6.16409209297521,6.427206611570253,77.71793112947663,67.1198347107438,9.428539944903582,32.04242424242424,9.3871,2.8050966391184566,1959,77,373,36,30,645,255,484,0.128,0.792,0.08,-0.9715,6,0,0,0,3,0,64.0,8,1,0,2,15,17,4,0,20,0,32,11,6,5,3,75,60,45,0,8,12,6,5,3,1,2,1,2,1,4,20,38,0,0,7,2,10,10,12,7,0,2,7,7,53,10,60,48,8,74,1,1,0,4,63,27,1,9,40,246,73,8,0.0,0.09708671895727897,0.07996262308828289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13105642080325944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09990098010901308,0.0,0.06972577949514593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894583799191002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09371870657079366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07058493997544146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052845184178941865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07170714570008965,0.0838541208518672,0.19206854885155006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18434525483779388,0.0,0.08466698603101253,0.0,0.05412127611914951,0.0,0.06903885008748623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0772467085328806,0.0,0.20715922877578968,0.11707737339883653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06330743488669667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04656897448337444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09235349372802824,0.0,0.2746167187700185,0.0,0.08219353203981307,0.0,0.0,0.1890978891512664,0.0,0.0,0.17702074255105044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335857485123572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12009674168212195,0.0821264366293001,0.14471085771765144,0.14503046230323205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07395497686484144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16464155228266486,0.08925780121104654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06319797221528964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08598332480926854,0.08726452044029613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07822198294452684,0.0,0.14309548988693208,0.0,0.0,0.07746075703981876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647467305926554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08200020472347164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08104177181292843,0.0917262721155569,0.11599656258177662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28140861815529045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14324014015113326,0.07544028935966691,0.0,0.0,0.05443797792165082,0.052504502040203134,0.0805066438676428,0.0,0.1911218892670173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08912830838919772,0.0,0.0,0.09856496742273473,0.14154147809927453,0.0,0.0,0.19332376508069649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898822681654383,0.0,0.17896213265731473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3166040125261448
divorce,redneckskier,2020/01/10,"Post divorce mediation- could it help? HI helpful divorce friends. I haven’t posted in quite some time. My ex and I got amicably divorced through a mediator and were final October 2018. He had always handled all the finances and I probably was not as astute as I should have been. I did not stand up for myself through our marriage, and was very resentful and felt like a doormat.Needless to say, that didn’t make for a great relationship. However, we were good roommates, had great life and friends.  In the best interest of the kids, we decided to “nest” in the marital home to minimize transition, then list it and sell it. It sold in September 2019. 

To get to the point, 2019 was hell for me. I rented and later purchased a home about.2 hours away in metro area for work opportunity as well as social life and better weather. I also maintained original home  (and then got a rental after we sold it) in a small, extremely expensive area so that my kids could attend their private school and not have any change. This was “in the best interest of the kids” but it’s proved to be incredibly stressful financially, all the driving back and forth, small town gossip, extreme snow and cold weather a lot of this time as well. I had a medical event on the major highway connecting the 2 and had to go the ER. I was diagnosed with heart arrhythmia, dehydration, other deficiencies. And, also anxiety. Now, I’ve had a few panic attacks on the highway and have been hospitalized again for heart rate. I’ve spent thousands this year on therapy, acupuncture, etc to try and just be OK with this situation of the 2 locations. 

During this time, we still maintained 50/50 custody.  It has been really hard for me to maintain a residence in this expensive town, pay for private school (we split this) as well as just be in such a small place with gossip, all my friends are also still married and it’s been hard to carve out a new life. My kids have caught me crying a few times because I’m just so miserable in this place (to note- i was unhappy before divorce with location but my ex had a way to talk me out of moving to a metro area and I should have pushed back more). 

I don’t want to be selfish. I want to make this work. After much discussion, my ex has agreed to go back to the mediator to come up with any creative solutions for me to not have to be up here in this small town for school.  While he has agreed to go, he’s made it clear to me he won’t move, he won’t move them from private school, he won’t let me split them up for school, he won’t let me have weekends only (worst case scenario). I don’t know what my options are.  My kids are 9 and 16. 

Does anyone have any advice or creative solutions I may not have thought of? Sorrry for the ramble. Our parenting plan says location decisions must be made “for the best interest of parent and child”.  Is it too selfish for me to expect to have some happiness for myself, career prospects, cheaper cost of living, etc.. I want to be assertive with my needs but I feel so damn guilty too.",4.6458096855040845,5.888328468590835,5.305431724472474,82.00321024335034,69.91680814940578,8.801374403751314,29.983062494947053,9.172331337620626,2.485519492279085,2384,94,468,47,42,770,260,589,0.095,0.765,0.14,0.9536,5,0,0,0,4,0,74.0,7,0,3,9,24,32,4,3,31,1,59,7,2,5,6,78,83,41,0,10,12,5,4,1,3,8,5,2,4,6,24,35,0,0,7,1,11,11,13,12,4,1,30,7,47,20,86,34,17,73,1,1,0,0,47,34,2,6,25,320,71,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07067943690217697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17352534667578026,0.060183841645372424,0.0,0.0,0.14755938413024053,0.0,0.055331780759316836,0.0,0.0,0.050574387010565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08228511606956382,0.0679558371732366,0.16685049492894646,0.0,0.04409132112824999,0.0,0.06154697844372126,0.0,0.2277156783100042,0.06396946233237227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07651489770135528,0.062305359804866574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11549825520169868,0.0,0.07945043195979552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07341280220333025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06329593132725668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613327650612517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036571909787739436,0.0,0.0694475513688816,0.07923330470176071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16764450789266802,0.0,0.03778911783669996,0.0,0.12331936721656812,0.060666455625815775,0.11569683154423632,0.15948680233406515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07699597419061986,0.12958584218830874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17142133650285826,0.09696172286808462,0.0,0.21765680848443697,0.0,0.07122987356104851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03975033785058959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14792339114067068,0.1532651487863554,0.035336483507200284,0.0,0.06386817117720965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061491855724152986,0.0,0.1368796239188429,0.09656085088757847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07286424490803495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23062406548627096,0.053170419540167484,0.053631321728062856,0.0,0.0698561697467225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055009755792570746,0.0,0.0848629478470537,0.16062644257620265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15113762343845585,0.0,0.06837464677029463,0.0,0.1385431123009257,0.0,0.07798330929997171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0769312030470786,0.0,0.0,0.04633605546797464,0.0,0.0,0.07765468986255457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11503845843640305,0.0,0.3660059902726081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08130125805952403,0.0,0.07373069829864137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11552467893291787,0.0,0.08285306495690979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05813561904303536,0.0,0.0,0.08271495413277571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057421451597954275,0.16870338179093852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04910690388706292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059679316717349926,0.12798523395757438,0.05741169833604805,0.0,0.0,0.195098407784172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10531330593126302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04657775186172674
divorce,takingthisback,2020/01/10,"With Heartbreak comes strength and sometimes creativity. Yesterday was my sock day and I went in and came out of the courthouse feeling...shocked? 

I guess I could use the word shocked, maybe even liberated, heartbroken, disappointed, justified, strong? 

I didn’t feel strong going in, nor coming out even. I pretty much sprinted out of the court room and down the hallway, taking the stairs down 4 flights because I wanted to avoid being near the ex at the elevator. 

I had just freed myself from a life of broken promises, lies, deceit and abuse. I asked for the divorce and it was a very difficult decision to make, because I did love him....but just not the man he really was when his mask finally fell off. 

His “love” was not the love I had asked for or envisioned or even promised to, by him.  He wanted unconditional love that would lay down and take his outbursts and crazy making behaviors and accept his lies. He wanted a punching bag, not a partner. He couldn’t handle me as an equal, someone who deserved the same respect I had shown him, someone who wanted more than the unhealthy household he called a home. 

When I returned home I was still in shock. I sat down and wrote an unsent letter to him on reddit. But it turned into an unsent letter to hundreds of other women (and men) liking, commenting and awarding me silver and gold (a first for me). I was shocked to see this outpouring of love and kindness on the same day that I ended the most unkind marriage. The day I stood my ground, took my life back and demanded real love, for me, was the day I wrote something that others genuinely loved. It filled my heart with happiness knowing that I was not alone is taking this step forward into this new journey of peace and self-love and respect. 

Towards the end of the day I kept checking back to read the comments, reply when I could and thank kind strangers for the awards given to this post. Then someone PMed me and asked if I was okay and was sad to see that I had removed the post. But I hadn’t removed it. Somehow it was removed without even a notification from the mods in the sub. I still don’t know how it was removed or why, but I continued to receive messages from other readers asking for a copy of the post because they loved it so much. Still, the shock that something I wrote would be cherished so much was amazingly uplifting. 

The reason I’m sharing this now is because I realized something. Despite my feelings of pain, embarrassment, anger, brokenness, defeat and confusion (to name a few) I ended up writing something beautiful, something that touched at least 700+ people (based on the upvotes), something that inspired and encouraged others to rise up and remind them that they too were strong. Yesterday was a whirlwind of emotions as some of you (most of you) have already experienced or are about to, but keep in mind with heartbreak comes new beginnings, new talents you didn’t know you had. It’s a new life to do something you never thought you could. 

In closing, I learned about myself yesterday in so many ways. I learned that I was stronger than I thought I was. I also learned that I hold a talent that I never really thought about pursuing or gave much credit to, but that changed yesterday. So with my divorce came growth and passion and creativity. My passion for writing has been reborn and I plan to continue writing. 

I hope you all find the same kind of rebirth, passion and creativity that speaks to you, as I did. A new life starts now. 

Best wishes to all of you. You are strong!",6.326506015416754,7.146243475037824,6.078870758590881,79.51136283408978,65.83812405446294,8.65529860961026,34.346264678337285,8.634040054169528,2.823202262084864,2791,123,503,39,42,870,292,661,0.087,0.7090000000000001,0.203,0.9979,0,2,7,0,3,0,88.0,0,10,3,11,27,57,1,3,44,1,44,17,1,5,4,120,101,52,0,13,18,1,3,1,1,2,5,1,3,4,33,42,0,4,17,1,2,20,13,16,0,1,43,7,74,41,82,50,17,91,0,5,2,11,65,31,0,13,39,365,107,7,0.0,0.06972586669258972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06094931323022877,0.06494079910281729,0.04706113577778343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200616683376099,0.0,0.0,0.09050175028450158,0.0,0.14349403288837506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06175788529441919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060090912954585136,0.13461404631116475,0.0,0.0,0.06225392529786454,0.1520783532935456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409572508237089,0.0,0.0,0.18976211715567495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06619665800987402,0.1563669500259335,0.0,0.0,0.15547555523334464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059511154254234734,0.0,0.0,0.06446567113320445,0.05378647611485835,0.05005651636402585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03344496695029093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648282733530074,0.0,0.0,0.06264533796029963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973577301744215,0.0,0.0,0.11805971649990407,0.05844985325687484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05230726360630413,0.0,0.18384501596973185,0.09702481362939794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16626578457183006,0.028750411627453613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4249046554267047,0.0,0.07856368077908406,0.059663157055194364,0.05912124258506241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059420223811087074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17304171739360885,0.0,0.09077520454397643,0.2841813100228701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06261896854814676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04079815022967949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690818289539983,0.059870095661109075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058864439735675685,0.06698249307120073,0.07539973057168205,0.06050607410391319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09378929381436417,0.0,0.0613918349991593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14958646607499754,0.3171312307390379,0.058202685585100514,0.0,0.041653281449003036,0.0,0.14098949907285055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132740277329731,0.0,0.0,0.054179805596861794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14015744119111614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06538286491815319,0.0,0.0640102849908422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050826221853087966,0.0,0.04855618757082509,0.13884151423901378,0.04671121163078498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05455316251202163,0.053101631028041024,0.0,0.06767288740292597,0.05672786795604711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08360859249734802,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,VeronicaMaple,2020/01/10,"Court: being right/what's fair/so tired/anger Hello all - I'm in the thick of a very ugly, difficult court battle with my STBX. We were together 17 years, married 14, two kids ages 7 and 4. He left the home 18 months ago after having an emotional affair of 3-4 months. He's been emotionally abusive for most of our relationship. 

The kids have been entirely with me since he left, with visits with him several times per week for a few hours each time and then starting about 4 months ago staying overnight one weekend night. 

He has a very, very aggressive attorney. I have a very good attorney I trust. 

He's now going for 50/50 placement; we had one court hearing three weeks ago and he was denied 50/50. We were ordered a schedule very similar to what we'd been doing on our own. Three days later, he filed an appeal. 

I'm so tired. I am told by my attorney that we have to prepare for a real fight this time, but I just don't if I can do it. I'm emotionally and physically sick from this. I'm so tempted to give in just to have some rest, but I know that sets a precedent that could be hard to undo. The other option is to settle but he's agreeing to nothing less than 50/50. 

It's so, so hard to imagine that a man who left his children (with two weeks' notice to me that he was moving out, and he didn't talk/hasn't talked to them about it... I've had all the talks, done all of the comforting) will just come back 18 months later and get exactly what he wants. How is that possibly healthy for the little ones? They've been in the home they've always known, with their mother who stayed, surrounded by friends and neighbors and all the things they know and love, for these 18 months. 

I've stayed as strong as I could. I handled my own heartbreak, the children's heartbreak, all of the practical parenting tasks, homeowner tasks, working outside the home. 

I'm just so tired. Anything you've got - advice, comfort, tough love, trips to Hawaii - I'd surely welcome.",3.1431177756950963,5.020305020618559,3.806279287722589,88.71497813183382,74.82474226804123,6.86797875663855,24.64417369572009,7.686295010490155,1.1632120274914093,1540,50,314,21,33,487,203,388,0.102,0.79,0.10800000000000001,0.8282,1,0,0,0,1,0,61.0,7,0,3,2,14,17,3,0,22,0,31,5,0,1,7,50,49,22,0,5,8,2,3,0,2,1,3,1,4,5,18,22,0,0,4,1,0,5,2,7,0,7,14,4,25,10,42,29,13,50,0,2,0,2,47,11,0,4,29,183,43,1,0.0,0.09720652072926628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08017063006674185,0.2181762219424296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06826563306134538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06751369109562062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06308534179898721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07067203943637182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13100794653960132,0.0,0.0,0.052910393373089414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08395759403928549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27685909609763965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06338555414915455,0.0,0.04286363218806678,0.07870229682064922,0.04662643904415742,0.06881305489415808,0.06561659436014429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14698728613733628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246745485800223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468848683481237,0.0,0.08079498215113437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901764295394229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26741707674966964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08222777791203027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480924696777105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3274262686486528,0.08719781145671235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0769909910667831,0.0,0.07872164639069347,0.0934055206029622,0.0,0.0,0.16678163278182032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910980878677378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924901862289426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338191707146744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08808255536238828,0.0,0.07006353962039699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09268426627119856,0.0,0.06786610632873351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05806984923494383,0.262338016797266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07732374638649188,0.0,0.0,0.19782709422759984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05450515257013483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435182954763297,0.1885907429783595,0.0,0.07839478097906727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16028649993892782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33846678983906964,0.048390580039185664,0.0,0.19742776894000785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059727655319370875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05283244855240175
divorce,theearthboundone,2020/01/10,"Having ""the talk"" today I haven't seen my STBXH since August. He asked for a divorce over the phone at the end of October. I moved back to our home state from Miami after finishing my graduate degree in December and he flew to the other side of the country the day after I arrived back. Today we are meeting to have a discussion of division of assets. 

It's going to feel like seeing someone back from the dead and I'm afraid of how I'll react when I see him. I already cry easy, but I know I need to find the strength within myself to not. I want to handle this with grace, courage, kindness, and class. I never wanted this divorce, but I can choose how I react to it.",3.4480882352941187,4.591912338235296,4.984588235294119,83.54864705882355,72.67647058823529,7.498823529411764,25.364705882352943,7.908726449838941,1.4442141176470589,522,16,103,7,10,176,89,136,0.044000000000000004,0.799,0.157,0.9461,0,0,0,0,2,0,15.0,2,0,0,1,6,6,0,1,10,0,5,0,0,4,1,20,17,8,1,3,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,5,0,0,4,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,2,4,17,5,23,15,0,22,0,0,3,0,12,5,0,0,14,73,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154935161686874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825580503288024,0.0,0.0,0.4504689037784341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21450310354124727,0.12593779696719734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17295785463676774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09873814349895976,0.1395062455514245,0.0,0.0,0.17848004675709506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11098067202488532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958791990391371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20335140860977025,0.10731937669110846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09540269566267648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075490196753038,0.0,0.1447957509344952,0.15061000386785092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3112216816278543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16153552024297152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16545794524185775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15695661311612602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3702003688713545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303593927615527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,thelizziepants,2020/01/10,"Laughing Because He Never Cared I sat outside the courtroom today watching my ex laugh like everything he had put me through was nothing.

I know he will never acknowledge that he assaulted me and did so many abusive things over the years. I have accepted that.

To watch him laugh though makes my stomach turn. I am glad I finally realized I was with a person who is incapable of feeling. But it is still terrifying. He sat happily because he doesn’t have any empathy. I watched it with a new perspective. It bought up so many memories - I could see the things that he pretended were innocent or accidental were actually him being very calculated and manipulative.

The same happiness I saw him have today was the happiness he would get in his eyes when he was hurting me. I realize now just how bad his lack of feelings really are. I want nothing more than for me and my kids to be completely away from him. It feels like he is a monster that I will never really be able to escape. 

It feels like he broke me just for fun. Because he wanted to see someone in pain. It makes me physically ill.",2.907176573426576,5.550305644230771,4.549195804195804,79.2867132867133,79.09615384615384,8.589510489510491,29.166083916083913,9.218907990703514,3.104165384615385,866,41,158,25,22,290,123,208,0.145,0.674,0.182,0.7946,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,0,9,17,1,0,8,0,24,4,2,4,3,31,42,10,0,5,4,1,4,3,0,3,2,0,0,2,13,5,0,0,9,1,1,1,4,5,0,0,12,11,27,12,18,23,3,17,0,2,7,0,22,5,0,1,14,110,40,0,0.12612249281539753,0.14943453028359988,0.12307735959951517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08576762003903401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11849623369865005,0.0,0.10530701336081262,0.2306493029808332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285902870488144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13223703413610266,0.0,0.0,0.10069854783245084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11335076411719608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25508528769744354,0.1802038681355713,0.0,0.13816102606052286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06589379698212247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26851947768043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13501673708632433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06931362366320502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18485123788924995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16837548662296967,0.2557368240136097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918203249928579,0.1218098894801085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24203586679763106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13420322465249912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11012529595507624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12678794054573653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615945968970903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2010065952793608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10686317887952744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007215856814421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675803600673842,0.0,0.12391470883225565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390987521459832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13718505519763508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10406426518868588,0.1487806279672661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08959380026495922,0.0,0.0,0.08121875028475987
divorce,Slight-Scallion,2020/01/10,"Mediation 180 I'm going through a bag divorce. We have mediation scheduled for today, and my stbxw kept saying that she's okay with all terms we've agreed to previously.

Now I get a pre-mediation statement from her, completely reversing all we've agreed to. I can't believe she suddenly decided to ask for way more kids, money, etc. I truly believed we were almost done with the process, now it seems like it's only the beginning.

Feeling sick to my stomach.",4.652906403940887,6.622119643678165,5.939901477832514,74.61310344827587,70.95402298850574,9.109359605911333,33.118226600985224,9.606745405546679,3.4827123152709367,367,18,64,9,7,123,64,87,0.039,0.807,0.154,0.7717,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,4,1,4,2,1,0,2,13,12,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,3,5,0,1,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,3,2,10,2,10,9,5,9,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,2,8,38,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585239037962154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413577792777867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5817472331394374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706904599732028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26420157264491284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879321838824528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13054049932061793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13488522584462484,0.0,0.14672619747219467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12613074427989365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19635291212150024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20531027628199827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23503185503585464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447187038798876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049264534209508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,knashingofteeth,2020/01/10,"Are Expensive Lawyers worth it. My husband is a hoarder and I am looking to file for divorce in the next year or so.

I was a stay at home mom to our two kids for the majority of the marriage as such my husband makes the majority of hte money. ( I do work part time as a photographer) .  While I would like a peaceful quick separation - he has stated that if I were to file for divorce - He would be prepared to fight me to the death for everything. 

I am not really asking for much - just half of marital assets but I would like to keep physical custody of the children and split all other custody 50/50.  I found a reputable attorney that I trust that can help me. He charges 600/hour. While I can afford the retainer and some basic services , It is possible that the attorney fees could add up if we are not able to resolve our differences through basic mediation. I think, in that case, the lawyer would just take a large portion of the settlement ? 

Is it possible that a lower cost lawyer would be wiser ?  I have no idea what the divorce process is or entails. What should I expect",5.099644565960356,6.018009521531103,5.871377306903624,79.55714114832537,68.61722488038279,9.225017088174985,33.11038961038961,9.424239791934726,3.0028753246753253,846,38,163,17,14,277,123,209,0.07200000000000001,0.821,0.107,0.7379,2,0,0,0,4,0,22.0,3,0,0,2,5,5,1,0,18,0,24,0,0,1,1,31,31,13,1,10,9,3,0,2,0,6,0,0,1,2,12,5,0,2,4,0,5,0,3,1,0,2,3,1,20,4,24,19,7,12,0,0,1,0,18,4,0,5,8,122,32,5,0.1603656166094945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14992020376290485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12803889579369435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16754793727531966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14412627577396192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758326212939834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10748969245122562,0.0,0.16085978887247615,0.0,0.15792782916684242,0.0,0.0,0.1810332613821774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14254032839751693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15669307979043734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13466672883936767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10704529434625858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878182719877892,0.0,0.0,0.11788718011231725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17055065257245192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736603352728266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3615762747010845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10273432039634124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17092840998148207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057498594310564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10275581184357116,0.0,0.0,0.09351048067112327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566539053920113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11674807883698772,0.0,0.0,0.569595664625335,0.0,0.0,0.10327019930324408
divorce,Throwaway9129344,2020/01/10,"Wife says it isn't going to work My wife told me last night/this morning that our relationship isn't going to work.  We've been together for a bit over 9 years, married for 5, have a two year old daughter and own our home.  I work, wife stays home with our daughter.

We've always had our issues, never thought they were abnormal.  She's suggested counseling in the past, individually for our own issues or marriage counseling depending on the occasion.  Usually this was brought up amidst an argument.  I was often somewhat resistant to it or left the ball in her court to initiate it.  It never happened.

She told me back in December, after an argument of some sort I think, that she was getting to the point where she wasn't sure she could keep going if things didn't change and asked me to go to counseling.  I agreed and have been working to get something set up (waiting for a call to schedule right now actually).

After Christmas she told me that she was struggling and wasn't sure if we could get back to where we were but that she hadn't given up.

Last night we talked about it again and she said that this relationship has been mentally and emotionally draining on her and that she can't keep going.  I asked if we could try counseling before giving up, but she says her heart wouldn't be in it.

I told her that I thought we owed it to our daughter to try counseling, she said she felt like I was trying to manipulate her into going.  I get that, but I'm just grasping for any remaining shred of hope.

I have no idea where to go from here.",4.764186704384724,5.842645475247526,5.381037246581801,82.18207920792081,69.4950495049505,8.939745403111743,28.95002357378595,9.23628265651192,2.320295426685526,1221,44,244,24,21,394,144,303,0.039,0.9209999999999999,0.040999999999999995,0.5556,1,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,11,0,1,4,11,5,0,1,9,0,27,1,1,2,4,47,60,15,0,8,9,6,1,1,0,1,0,4,2,0,18,14,0,3,6,1,1,8,11,1,0,1,26,5,45,4,38,29,5,45,0,0,0,0,53,18,0,11,18,170,63,4,0.0,0.0,0.08766240043933825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747468463280967,0.0,0.0,0.061088371387359765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16796029741529958,0.0,0.0,0.13814946518600182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07643982859717037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09807252464022463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172781146351114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09502961499190038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21516897467914808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010481330186036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862521452289434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877326077293596,0.08617437826783095,0.3573724262762916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07943753094322152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10645053511569337,0.0,0.0,0.1802162570690725,0.08922276024776901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10140861491857084,0.0,0.1875210978971417,0.0,0.1596923920219833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464490148872436,0.0,0.0,0.0976019813823163,0.0,0.0,0.043887040612189177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905288321385838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13856688871185105,0.0,0.0,0.16860119857806788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094262848808924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08575415021680285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08491962419069135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928904174650234,0.0,0.07671544808647993,0.1709002943390132,0.1428749268821081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06915653135776084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09574822424406808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09391118989644633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16932989351962882,0.0,0.0,0.07220300439449698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05967993088979701,0.05756027635104905,0.0,0.1426320520986068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3433506661544557,0.0,0.18296868884459824,0.0,0.0877521370719374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09893649692063662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615930548645268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11569683707568396
divorce,Luke49783,2020/01/10,"Wife says it isn't going to work My wife told me last night/this morning that our relationship isn't going to work.  We've been together for a bit over 9 years, married for 5, have a two year old daughter and own our home.  I work, wife stays home with our daughter.

We've always had our issues, never thought they were abnormal.  She's suggested counseling in the past, individually for our own issues or marriage counseling depending on the occasion.  Usually this was brought up amidst an argument.  I was often somewhat resistant to it or left the ball in her court to initiate it.  It never happened.

She told me back in December, after an argument of some sort I think, that she was getting to the point where she wasn't sure she could keep going if things didn't change and asked me to go to counseling.  I agreed and have been working to get something set up (waiting for a call to schedule right now actually).

After Christmas she told me that she was struggling and wasn't sure if we could get back to where we were but that she hadn't given up.

Last night we talked about it again and she said that this relationship has been mentally and emotionally draining on her and that she can't keep going.  I asked if we could try counseling before giving up, but she says her heart wouldn't be in it.

I told her that I thought we owed it to our daughter to try counseling, she said she felt like I was trying to manipulate her into going.  I get that, but I'm just grasping for any remaining shred of hope.

I have no idea where to go from here.",4.764186704384724,5.842645475247526,5.381037246581801,82.18207920792081,69.4950495049505,8.939745403111743,28.95002357378595,9.23628265651192,2.320295426685526,1221,44,244,24,21,394,144,303,0.039,0.9209999999999999,0.040999999999999995,0.5556,1,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,11,0,1,4,11,5,0,1,9,0,27,1,1,2,4,47,60,15,0,8,9,6,1,1,0,1,0,4,2,0,18,14,0,3,6,1,1,8,11,1,0,1,26,5,45,4,38,29,5,45,0,0,0,0,53,18,0,11,18,170,63,4,0.0,0.0,0.08766240043933825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747468463280967,0.0,0.0,0.061088371387359765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16796029741529958,0.0,0.0,0.13814946518600182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07643982859717037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09807252464022463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172781146351114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09502961499190038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21516897467914808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010481330186036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862521452289434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877326077293596,0.08617437826783095,0.3573724262762916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07943753094322152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10645053511569337,0.0,0.0,0.1802162570690725,0.08922276024776901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10140861491857084,0.0,0.1875210978971417,0.0,0.1596923920219833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464490148872436,0.0,0.0,0.0976019813823163,0.0,0.0,0.043887040612189177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905288321385838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13856688871185105,0.0,0.0,0.16860119857806788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094262848808924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08575415021680285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08491962419069135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928904174650234,0.0,0.07671544808647993,0.1709002943390132,0.1428749268821081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06915653135776084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09574822424406808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09391118989644633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16932989351962882,0.0,0.0,0.07220300439449698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05967993088979701,0.05756027635104905,0.0,0.1426320520986068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3433506661544557,0.0,0.18296868884459824,0.0,0.0877521370719374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09893649692063662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615930548645268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11569683707568396
divorce,lxm21,2020/01/10,"I Miss My Kids I'm about a month into living separately and sharing 50% custody of my three children.  I find at times (especially when they are with my wife) that I get very emotional and I miss my kids tremendously.  Just walking around the house, I will come across a toy they were playing with or clothes that they changed out of and it creates the worst emotional pain and guilt I've ever experienced.  On the weekends that I don't have them, I find myself wondering what they are up to all day.  I try to tell myself that living in 2 peaceful households is better for them than 1 broken household and that my pain will lessen with time.  This is the hardest thing I have ever experienced and I feel so awful that they have to grow up with divorced parents.",6.057278911564622,6.507118673469389,6.031700680272112,80.90972789115645,66.34693877551021,8.710204081632652,31.97959183673469,8.515128840125781,2.35790612244898,603,23,116,8,9,190,92,147,0.15,0.743,0.107,-0.8245,1,2,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,0,7,1,7,9,0,1,6,1,11,2,0,0,3,23,18,9,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,10,14,0,0,4,3,0,3,1,6,0,1,1,3,24,3,21,15,2,20,0,2,0,0,15,9,0,2,8,87,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15789144490618487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15686392699276427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876274536203237,0.15278326650468904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11438502123412984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3990209555828319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3208715438529656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08968050031626983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32421472234417986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09266530005610632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20465408912810645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31323108794157195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14157014644701826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3774553190278248,0.0,0.19694158464600697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15502383734047173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11783267212062168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068445942783402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12041842318694485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14634376527799822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923435478678868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,EmGavin,2020/01/10,"Semi rant: girlfriend of guy who’s in the process of getting divorced I’ve never posted on reddit before but looking for some support and comment. My boyfriend is going through a divorce and it’s hard for me to listen to conversations between him and her. She was a horrible person to him and broke him down to a depression, yet he still stays civil with her and wants a friendship with her in the future. They had a dog together and he still wants to continue to see the dog even after all is said and done. 

Doesn’t anyone have any advice or words of encouragement for me to stay strong for him and not to be (for a lack of better words) jealous and angry? I know that sounds dumb but I hope I’m not the only one. It’s hard for me to look past myself and selfishness to be there for him, so I hid in my room and cry because I’m so hurt and then I feel guilty for these feelings of anger and jealousy. Thanks in advance for the comments.",6.3928272251308895,5.461482863874347,6.624445026178013,81.58776701570685,65.91099476439791,9.105968586387435,32.189005235602096,7.908726449838941,2.123022617801047,741,25,152,7,10,239,115,191,0.259,0.627,0.113,-0.9881,0,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,0,0,1,3,7,13,3,0,11,0,9,0,0,0,2,32,26,19,0,4,5,0,4,0,1,0,0,3,1,2,5,15,0,0,3,0,0,2,4,7,0,1,4,10,20,6,35,20,3,21,0,3,3,0,24,7,1,3,9,111,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16596955097126098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11549971627338343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11875884515616045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10353530093219984,0.0,0.14452469945509244,0.0,0.0,0.1502131794551664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865656136322988,0.0,0.0,0.14628635295600362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17380933855362335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11218033304010157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17175641775509465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08873645849269612,0.0,0.09652623591838233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681722221749258,0.0,0.0,0.30429365290492083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686933742004744,0.0,0.0,0.18182147083632774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09334179802746943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28525229842271005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13099413167868382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11509066217062434,0.12917398423204587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16213527704808414,0.0,0.14830119375522946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626635634531873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615604988225146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13534364549977582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3620621235339868,0.27127521000390026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927369118575684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15636949813189396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20035673497031076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,MyopicVision,2020/01/10,"How to get him to move on... So first post. Been married for over 10 years when he sent me a text message saying he didnt know what to do about us. I was devestated. We have a 6 year old and thats what the end summed up to... a text message... so he told me he had gotten a studio and basically moved some stuff out. He wanted to spend the night on the couch ""for the sake of our daughter"" but I said no. This was October. Since then we have been on a roller coaster. I went to Jamaica by myself and it was the best thing. I came back focused and ready to move forward. Him not so much.   
Now its flipped. I dont want him back. I met someone else who may be a rebound but I really dont care. I just know that I dont want my STBX. He never treated me right and now the blinders are off... Im good..   
He comes around to see our child and I go into another room and/or upstairs. His ""studio"" doesnt seem to exist and he wont remove his clothes. I gave him 30 days.   
Yesterday he texted me with a link for a disney trip. Oh he is also a terrible communicator. You basically have to play pictionary with him to know what he wants. I deduce that he is trying to use a Disney trip as a hint that he wants back.   
I dont want him back. I told him Im over him and Im good.   


My question to you guys is... what can I do to make it CRYSTAL clear that nothing happening here?  We arent legally divorced.. not even in the process cause this was all so recent.   
What can I do to make it clear that this aint happening? Can I drop his stuff to his mothers home? How did you guys let a regretful ex know that its done.",-0.44964912280701697,1.593254663742691,1.7871900584795313,97.47780263157897,88.61988304093569,4.823508771929825,18.49152046783626,6.2581,-0.2881300584795321,1213,34,294,12,40,407,174,342,0.061,0.852,0.087,0.9163,1,0,0,0,1,0,52.0,6,3,0,2,19,8,0,0,19,0,34,0,0,7,4,50,64,20,0,7,5,3,0,0,0,2,0,2,5,3,24,18,0,0,8,2,1,12,13,2,0,1,19,3,45,6,36,41,4,45,0,1,1,0,52,14,0,4,19,195,69,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07214360920404027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09459659715444567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08030903656348011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2774740896877794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946733789636212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031800761917848,0.09197855562581453,0.0926739940058868,0.0,0.07771084078243409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058180168393951674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923196114743127,0.4229176485609845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07536170495394609,0.0,0.07990227993621937,0.0,0.0,0.059585088163292374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0767354568689931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04713276881336709,0.0,0.05127034410935069,0.15133340979772772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17865086354000495,0.15955079200515518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904913779612782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29233780062062525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983156624360816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09224929550950532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12043626636042412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2876476452384021,0.06631721604950012,0.0,0.06957812188129371,0.0,0.0,0.084659148033492,0.0,0.0865621733515424,0.0,0.09466376916268804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08639948292762435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010596344391224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0577930027245675,0.0,0.08907483156305572,0.0,0.0,0.07704173553667512,0.08581358519058566,0.07174130247707608,0.0,0.0,0.07188838569914653,0.08212687503627877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07462544204889167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07643750603955594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20654547866139952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05993376258815202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724055055273455,0.0,0.06124896479592705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085155911838832,0.07791539719740558,0.0,0.0,0.3192611412478445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362870916876025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11618892083334535
divorce,Lou_Blue_2,2020/01/10,"Pros and cons of lawyers vs online divorce documents My wife told me this week that she wants a divorce.

Wants it to be simple.

She spoke to an attorney who said his services could cost up to $5000. 

I got online and found Legal Zoom. Much less expensive.  ... My wife is skeptical.

Would welcome advice.",1.6335526315789473,4.39124154385965,2.5080482456140345,89.77154605263159,89.70175438596495,5.6570175438596495,22.91447368421053,7.1686216300943375,1.1978789473684208,236,9,44,4,8,74,48,57,0.039,0.884,0.077,0.29600000000000004,0,0,0,0,2,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,8,11,2,0,4,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,5,2,7,1,5,3,2,2,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,0,1,26,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3385318020831317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765997734603074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3798475683140263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27707533191151146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25466923242981643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32953855988503666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.331033028637324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4086721097458203,0.0,0.27788887420440017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460971423139996,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,keepinitSecretsafe,2020/01/10,"Feeling depressed, angry, and alone I think I've been in a slow burning state of shock for the last few months. Somehow I managed to walk through the cloud without doing too much damage to my life. But now that the cloud is lifting, it's hard to not see my life as being really and completely shitty. 

I struggle to feel emotions now almost all but one, but when I feel them they are overwhelming, good or bad. The emotion I do feel is anger. I spend a lot of my time trying to shake a sense of anger, I have mental arguments with people. And I keep coming to moments of clarity and trying to remind myself that those thoughts are ultimately pointless, and even if I had the conversation it wouldn't make me feel better.

I feel completely abandoned by my friends. They just aren't there. Most of them are in relationships and for the first time in my post 18 year old life, I'm the odd one out. I walked one of my close friends through his divorce, and now I stand at mine, alone. 

I hate this feeling, I hate being bitter, I don't want to be angry, I don't want to grow to hate my friends, I don't want to resent my ex. I just don't know what to do anymore. I've sought out therapy but it's really not an option for me. I have 0 support from those I expected to be around me. 

I dont want to be angry. I just don't know what to do. Where do I go from here?",2.583133462282401,3.867432858156029,3.8871050934880738,90.02454545454546,75.02836879432624,6.829400386847197,24.520309477756285,7.348242739294969,0.90756170212766,1054,33,233,12,22,346,142,282,0.248,0.65,0.10099999999999999,-0.9921,0,2,0,0,1,0,32.0,0,0,4,2,14,21,7,3,11,0,27,3,0,1,1,51,52,15,0,7,12,1,8,0,3,1,3,0,0,0,10,13,0,2,11,0,1,6,11,15,0,4,3,10,41,6,39,43,5,31,0,4,1,0,12,9,0,7,13,165,51,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10801403453900474,0.2234370487496932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10697588683038936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960252240237118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09006511929142208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09540031595549306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929185707427302,0.2261947020262552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929063903886333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12642027499156105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426735449331243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07124567401365954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3817884557951578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09175230773167713,0.0,0.0,0.250015217230771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06130376467636519,0.09047440487355576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09662837420682177,0.3194914040095561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958778695685802,0.0,0.0,0.11856265949463107,0.08792666557260465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285706817920932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917053583207167,0.0,0.0,0.07200260364658767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10870538602470403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860990602481471,0.0,0.07929525493371438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11318912577902493,0.0,0.21928206781379414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07478196060497255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10330754867293193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382057678961924,0.0,0.0,0.1158096641460203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08595668229697917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11276686011043223,0.0,0.0,0.122407117366063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12335624641505852,0.0,0.0,0.06911733988626834,0.0,0.08563499559532314,0.1257971799262023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14647033054867634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544929265102673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039807237046523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0694633358182315
divorce,SpaceyBakedBean,2020/01/10,"Need some opinions on how to deal with this separation and upcoming divorce. So my wife decided that she was going to have sex with someone I thought i was friends with, literally shook the man's hand a month before everything happened. We're obviously getting divorced and right now currently separated. Since I've been on my own, I downloaded Tinder and have actually had multiple encounters, 2 of them have actually been really helpful as a FWB thing (helpful as in talking about stuff..among other things). 

I'm just wondering if you all think this is a good or bad idea. The past 2 months has been a nightmare and this is the best I've felt in a while. Just wondering if it's healthy or not.",7.873344155844157,7.441363022727277,8.212770562770565,69.7677272727273,62.71212121212121,12.391341991341992,40.069264069264065,11.765960540728905,4.847762770562771,557,28,102,16,7,184,94,132,0.036000000000000004,0.7879999999999999,0.17600000000000002,0.9627,1,0,0,0,2,0,14.0,0,1,1,1,6,5,0,1,8,0,12,2,1,1,2,27,22,13,0,3,7,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,8,7,0,0,7,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,8,2,8,3,13,14,4,13,0,0,0,1,12,5,0,8,6,68,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.3511473302672512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15022371588240005,0.0,0.0,0.15309666175840625,0.0,0.1888124652140919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18548718871685546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16169837544866833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17274915114790426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13900392388321256,0.0,0.09399954210398784,0.0,0.1022513421368543,0.15090638195211645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15910057660944976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24119000582654665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031051181366937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2872170906165925,0.0,0.0,0.13340665179470118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17175174736861484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11525984850232646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15364868319151567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14882973265754926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15244363418877566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20596265514019946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14461098545862278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390585735441729,0.1152839602202242,0.0,0.14283451073081105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39022601589356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Cnguyen832,2020/01/10,"Dating after divorce I've been divorced for awhile now and I think I'm ready to date. Im 25 and I have no kids. I need your opinion, is being divorce something I should disclose when I talk to someone I'm interested in?",0.9860869565217384,3.22436282608696,3.1327826086956527,88.98830434782612,83.78260869565217,4.5495652173913035,26.591304347826085,5.6839178017228535,0.8515008695652178,174,8,35,1,5,59,34,46,0.053,0.821,0.126,0.4588,0,0,1,0,3,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,6,9,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,6,1,5,6,0,6,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,1,5,21,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5345184110652783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3669219118801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4192812648995499,0.3809564949834517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3977383327556891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3170772260907173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,themetalstigma,2020/01/10,"kidnapping? if our son was born prior to marraige, my STBX never signed the birth certificate, and now has completely vanished with him and our daughter without any contact from him, his family or friends to confirm their safety....can i go to the police? will they finally help me?

its been a year, courts on tuesday and he realized he isnt gonna be able to take my rights. i think he ran away with the kids",3.3509584086799293,5.469084746835442,4.046871609403259,86.14962025316456,74.9493670886076,7.552260397830018,27.74141048824593,8.418075326091056,2.0495663652802896,321,13,62,6,7,102,65,79,0.0,0.9179999999999999,0.08199999999999999,0.7461,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,0,1,12,11,5,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,3,0,12,1,10,5,0,13,0,0,0,0,16,3,0,2,8,40,13,1,0.3079280699625853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094016468780089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28930855810206546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32285672277907435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902871794643042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3373201492388623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23790446300448945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750026183648942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063976944507825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374931107185101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629688892576581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23152358649072266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973078736415128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2968316710051305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982955812375603
divorce,juligirl1983,2020/01/10,"Arg! Removed from Health insurance AGAIN [F 36] [M-ASS 49]This divorce should have been over 1.5 years ago, we are going on two years of this and I am so sick of his pettiness. I was a good women to him. Gave him 17 years of life and two beautiful children. Did not cheat and communicated what I needed, he is the one he didn’t want to talk about relationship anymore. I decide it was my life and that off my children. They needed to see a healthy relationship and happy mother.

From calling CPS on me, filing a retraining order (not winning) and removing me from health insurance not once but twice. We live in CA. 

""In California, we have statutes to guard against insurance revenge,"" says John Harding, a Pleasanton, CA-based family law attorney who runs the law firm Harding & Associates. ""When you file for divorce in California, there are automatic temporary restraining orders that take effect, and standing court orders prohibit either party from canceling any insurance.""

Now I have to pay unnecessary lawyer fees to add me back to his health insurance. Open enrollment isn’t till September or I would just sign up. 

On top of that, he is asking me for spousal and child support. We share 50/50 custody and he works as a nurse. 

So frustrated with him and the legal system. Wish I did not need to pay high priced lawyers I cant afford. 

Arg!! Taking great pleasure in the fact that he turns 50 this year and lots of bad karma are coming his way.",4.784305508617777,6.872611568773234,5.233654950996961,79.31799847921596,70.85873605947955,8.757080094626563,29.69939168638053,9.339509955726095,2.8016304832713748,1148,47,206,26,22,366,170,269,0.054000000000000006,0.805,0.14,0.9714,1,0,0,0,2,0,46.0,4,1,1,4,9,10,2,0,9,0,19,6,0,1,1,43,33,18,0,7,8,1,2,0,0,2,6,1,0,4,9,19,0,2,2,0,4,5,7,3,0,4,7,4,26,7,34,24,2,34,1,0,1,0,33,13,0,2,10,128,35,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11331627987902845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385070490050885,0.0,0.08693085302434536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12677602918800826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11950663929105768,0.0,0.0,0.0982957196331576,0.10673525156388004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13053182979812264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11011684768984777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12050961637166248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07265046441978046,0.10722029172053778,0.0,0.14093638152611512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360806516362929,0.2290265956524669,0.0,0.0,0.4076416418489004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13506262876522845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18058451790692445,0.0,0.0,0.11287891924188173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10867908205890424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28435974551613297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13613801909295445,0.08662297848375529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27448969664177664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10165796687307488,0.0,0.0,0.10186638490844024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14506342264424746,0.0,0.0,0.1922290790828349,0.10274735797315644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390456429255564,0.2497486168685531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07539924097699077,0.10146791963140686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14700169103941407,0.0,0.0,0.0930639780049984,0.0,0.0,0.09080892624956934,0.0,0.0,0.3292811548513146
divorce,losingmyself169,2020/01/10,"I’m needing help I’ve (24F) been in an abusive relationship with my husband (31M) for 4.5 years.

Mostly mentally and emotionally, but once or twice, physically.

However I feel like I have gotten that Stockholm Syndrome or whatever... I can’t get away from him. We have a daughter (2) together and I know that this relationship is terrible for her. He would never lay a finger on her, but I know that witnessing all of our arguing is not good for her.

My husband has needed mental help for a while and when I finally whipped out the divorce papers and started getting them filled out, he went to a psychiatrist to get help. They diagnosed him with depression, anxiety, and PTSD and gave him mood stabilizers and require him to go meet with a psychiatrist 1x a week.

He asked me to give him one last chance since he is now getting professional help and is showing that he’s making an effort to change his angry ways.

I’m stuck. When we fight, I hate him. More than anyone on the planet. I see red and I want nothing more than to stab him with a fork. But when we don’t fight, I love him. He’s a great dad and takes care of us.

I told him I would give him one last chance under one condition, we separate for a year. (This even means moving to different states).

I’m scared. I’m scared to be without him and I’m scared he won’t change. I’m scared I’ll be stuck with him and I’ll lose the opportunity to leave when I should have. And mostly I’m scared I’m dragging out this relationship if I already feel so broken by him and we end up divorcing anyways.

I don’t know what to do, and I’m slowly falling into a dark place because of it.",2.324818181818184,4.298320330303032,4.040000000000003,85.69000000000005,77.51515151515152,7.430303030303031,24.93939393939393,8.344100000000001,1.5923212121212122,1279,46,267,25,30,429,171,330,0.213,0.6759999999999999,0.11199999999999999,-0.9904,2,0,0,0,3,0,43.0,7,0,2,4,8,19,4,5,15,0,19,3,1,1,2,55,58,27,0,7,8,4,3,1,0,4,1,0,0,0,9,29,0,1,6,1,0,5,7,12,0,4,7,5,44,6,38,45,5,33,0,2,2,1,56,11,0,5,16,166,53,3,0.0,0.11185302946738042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041769067956904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0722186250331633,0.0,0.0,0.06600931041213741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825478061724666,0.0,0.08869544873273053,0.0,0.0,0.05754766147196001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09625093436699796,0.0,0.19973334061237796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08130982806910053,0.09581783854052756,0.0,0.09863184598181758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061915339348152,0.0836137189759925,0.0,0.0,0.062352799204505385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954667644331221,0.06744207156957252,0.0,0.10341471472398496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972882921121696,0.18112139513661707,0.05365183756438025,0.0791814026371112,0.0,0.10408048880265508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093204177598928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531074261585415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15564552801908038,0.15390334358038887,0.0,0.09995996074026034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04612091310593423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10561367017068944,0.0,0.0,0.08520308746001097,0.0,0.06301524898924403,0.0,0.0,0.1028333800573271,0.0,0.0,0.1902735906729464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10033626655070947,0.0,0.13999839733188935,0.07281000660436368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905829626181437,0.0,0.0,0.10053693317785622,0.19191131156848654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09863184598181758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103529542969613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040629554456972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4725732091316826,0.0,0.07522758154440973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07809177341267337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668194737237103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07097988573418282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09020684704231398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113556110701792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05568178898349425,0.07493331784645296,0.07572500929380313,0.0,0.0,0.08751323982674057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09100186468938863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13412345810720427,0.0,0.0,0.12158586441385652
divorce,pissinginthegrass,2020/01/10,"My sock day poem. I gave you
My whole entire me
So freely
I spent every night
Hoping and wishing 
For more
From you

Yet
You gave me away
As well
You took
My body 
packaged it
and sold it

And I wonder 
What did you get 
What did you get
From giving my
Body away
So freely

It is my sock day
Today
The day I get to unravel
Me from you
Untie my name
From yours
Release my last
Bit of fretting 
Over
How are you
How are you
Are you 
Okay

When you have cut 
Yourself
Wide open
And I feel it
In my bones
I feel it in the scars
That scrape my own legs 
Your addict heart
Was never fully mine
Dear

Dear ex husband
I am no longer yours

This body
Of mine
You showed to him 
It 
Isn’t yours 

Isn’t yours

I am my own
And I will fight
For myself 
To be freed of
Your addictions
Your 

Lack of empathy

You feel it now
After 13 years
13 years 
I finally said
Enough.

Enough.

And you feel
My scars,
My cuts,
My wounds

My whole soul
On fire
From detaching 
Myself from
You.
 
You feel how I am
Drowning

And I will 
Let you

Feel it

While I 

Find the surface
And I
Swim up
And out

And move on.",-1.064554347826089,1.0200873434782594,0.6548641304347846,103.16925271739132,95.13043478260867,3.7445652173913047,12.839673913043475,5.3872612403679225,-1.4056413043478262,819,13,203,5,32,262,113,230,0.078,0.836,0.085,0.38299999999999995,1,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,0,24,0,0,9,9,3,0,3,1,17,10,6,3,1,28,36,18,1,3,0,2,7,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,12,12,0,0,8,2,2,3,4,3,1,0,9,8,60,6,26,23,9,30,1,0,0,0,33,12,0,2,15,148,72,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27335833514683217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355911740488209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13687894248200436,0.4177959267789816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425729014617191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25909540328237585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10563532224364698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.380365522190685,0.0,0.0,0.13734410504626493,0.11459208126947674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19651253684187436,0.12027280637075585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14857205651360714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12452740574224976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10219878788087916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12820622494603928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13325564712788934,0.0,0.0,0.09669828149871272,0.0,0.0,0.1176575898664022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11926200352648444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11884250235946932,0.0,0.13929818630119348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11272875850178063,0.0,0.0,0.27995733554837804,0.1441770789455755,0.0,0.13596574091128436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16147703717761766
divorce,smooth2019,2020/01/10,How do you say it’s over? I feel it’s time to just tell him I have to go. Of course we would coparent our 12 year old. I know that’s not going to be easy and it will be an hard adjustment for our child. But I’m just very unhappy. For many reasons. For years. My SO is happy but I’m not. We have been together for 21 years...I’m tired and I have nothing left to give in this relationship anymore. I’ve checked out. We are good friends but I feel I wil be happier divorced or seperated. How do you say I can’t do this anymore? I’m so damn afraid of the outcome.,-1.5474796747967474,0.4249268130081312,1.0815040650406509,99.47965447154472,97.9430894308943,5.0097560975609765,19.028455284552845,6.691623216298621,0.07924065040650374,430,15,108,7,18,146,78,123,0.09300000000000001,0.768,0.139,0.7854,1,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,5,2,0,0,6,5,1,1,2,0,15,1,0,3,0,22,24,10,0,1,8,0,3,0,1,2,1,2,0,1,6,6,0,0,5,0,1,2,3,2,0,0,1,5,16,3,13,18,0,10,0,0,0,0,16,4,1,1,4,66,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3971228751140069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20247143504284573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15468713687218796,0.0,0.0,0.19206636470833335,0.2275758397982708,0.16793249793096576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131346910426184,0.1793550814093566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110034012371224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175363272615552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20298858557750601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192113585713656,0.0,0.21009403330432627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20585639458936086,0.0,0.21495810015846584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31844114649631755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17499845953959078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11674812720350328,0.2301199576426692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16519997134780776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14222839329020376,0.0,0.0,0.2578663328015475
divorce,extensiver,2020/01/10,"expertise needed  

I am 32 years old will be 33 soon and I have been married for 11 years now, we have 3 kids moved from california to indiana in 2017 currently renting a town house. Not employed haven't been since 2009 due to work related injury.

I've had the divorce papers for a wile now and I have finally started talking to her about it now, she has agreed and has also agreed to letting me have our children or as the primary parent? is that correct? 

The basic reasons for the divorce is because she has cheated in the past, and the emotional abuse, the endless shadiness and the little white lies, I've had enough of it.   
I've tied to keep the family together as long as I possibly can, mainly because of the fear of a broken home has kept me from going through with the divorce, so I buried everything and coexist to keep the kids happy, but I'm at my wits end and I think, I can't take much more. 

Emotionally? I'm exhausted but I think I am fine? I have a therapist who is extremely helpful.

I need help with regarding information, I'm not on my first child's birth certificate nor does she have my last name, this is stopping me from moving forward with the divorce, will I still be able to be the primary parent regardless? she is mine 100% without a doubt, would the court order a blood test for something? or swab?   


Idk how family court works? and I'm scared of it.

Thanks.",4.217747252747252,5.529495783882787,5.250716117216118,81.72970054945056,71.01465201465201,8.829963369963371,30.133516483516477,9.255337874911486,2.624093186813188,1091,45,213,23,20,359,158,273,0.09,0.8240000000000001,0.086,0.4504,5,0,1,0,5,0,29.0,2,0,0,3,9,8,1,3,21,0,31,2,1,2,1,35,46,19,0,4,7,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,4,6,12,0,4,4,0,1,4,6,5,0,1,5,1,26,3,31,34,4,30,0,0,1,0,23,7,0,3,20,143,32,6,0.12606871431220648,0.1493708115512444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10081710528809956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15370063623443966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11032358145668572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836206704323668,0.11165946170375267,0.13026268217607778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11330243146618588,0.0,0.23769272805060085,0.14186235279011686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381021143389495,0.0,0.10723398399173027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07164775559828836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13420249062356093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16900240357805232,0.0,0.1264571994698108,0.0,0.0,0.14546637000669918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22411133157643146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10276282833160476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12891380180094958,0.0,0.0,0.12635397118042865,0.0,0.11156684501522003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679821840153589,0.09267501067165446,0.18695670850324472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322879086302851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2799687760344609,0.0,0.12034685278336488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14212353321461346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12961963502766702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12621677589154806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042853432372045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09705385543765578,0.0,0.0,0.0892320848622913,0.0,0.1006786380993252,0.10539909014835254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09478798371770007,0.10132925716612788,0.0,0.1160671342727388,0.0,0.14637549406177847,0.0,0.16155948339937418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12152574182440568,0.0,0.18355905098085426,0.0,0.0,0.08955559755927292,0.0,0.0,0.16236823738380465
divorce,Ijustleftmyhusband,2020/01/10,"Southern CA divorce lawyer I need recommendations, please.",11.418749999999996,16.514873375,8.180000000000003,50.66500000000002,65.25,8.200000000000001,45.5,8.841846274778883,5.7013500000000015,49,3,5,1,1,14,8,8,0.0,0.723,0.27699999999999997,0.3182,0,0,0,0,1,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5597528882789671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8286595827379023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,LazyMouser,2020/01/10,"I don't know how to ask him for a divorce and I'm positive he's going to prison tomorrow My (36F) husband (39M) has committed a nonviolent yet unforgivable crime. For years our intimacy had dropped almost to 0 to where I stopped even initiating sex and I was lucky to have any 2-3 times a year, and none in 2019. Despite this we were compatible in every imaginable way and he was a great partner.

Anyway, so 2 years ago I came home from work to police raiding our home. About a year later after the investigation he was arrested and charged. He has been convicted of this crime and will be sentenced tomorrow. 

I've made up my mind about divorce and want it but I have no idea how to tell him or his family. I've been carrying this for weeks now but he's so emotionally sensitive but I'm afraid manipulative as well. The kind of manipulative that I never picked up on before all this. My family will get behind me but they're all on the other side of the country and because of the legal issues I've been feeling isolated from friends. 

Anyway I'll be shocked if he doesn't go to prison for at least a year and I feel like I'm going to throw up all the time now. How do I buck up and deal? Where do I even begin?

Additional Details: I have been in very intense and specialized counseling but that's only taking me so far. Also there are no kids involved so at least I don't have that to worry about.",3.043757437070937,4.629398687719301,4.934538520213575,81.75466819221971,74.40350877192982,8.324942791762014,26.42639206712433,8.964715089967882,2.0306506483600306,1106,40,228,24,23,379,157,285,0.115,0.797,0.08800000000000001,-0.8347,0,0,0,0,2,0,23.0,3,0,0,1,22,9,0,1,12,0,25,1,0,7,5,43,41,27,0,2,7,1,2,1,2,2,0,0,2,2,9,14,0,1,5,0,1,5,7,2,1,0,11,2,22,7,37,26,6,41,0,0,0,1,22,15,0,4,20,151,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124664459468849,0.0,0.14082565747111822,0.0,0.0,0.11246577438661616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09563663592747028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13147475902017894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0857298026382746,0.0,0.11967004344493745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16084899685791246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14498852997365627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581954681255492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18577620820789714,0.0,0.1184910695753952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651563606184363,0.0,0.14221858306708113,0.10046968612257183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108654267304476,0.0,0.07347599325934223,0.0,0.2397783677699682,0.0,0.0,0.15505060562529344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821367827313295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15875981900678324,0.0,0.1467864223666248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464497314428504,0.07728932886414144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06870716684109399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330722559846939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14200127928690445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10846639701119674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10695926968391913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11757717362847607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10574003251624264,0.0,0.1229212058944309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640108218041128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11603861968398585,0.08295017830441183,0.11162953255950464,0.11280892977210573,0.0,0.1264477722326041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10238396924430916,0.14282168901871467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4528217087015248
divorce,supadupachop,2020/01/10,STBX wants to keep our couples photos and I don't really want her to I want to go as close to NC as possible. She's asking me to pack the pictures so she can have them and I don't understand why she would want to look at them. It kind of gives me the hebee jeebees.,0.011581920903957156,1.8196278135593216,2.245000000000001,96.48128531073448,84.42372881355931,5.967231638418079,18.30790960451977,7.1686216300943375,0.025574011299434932,207,5,51,3,6,70,41,59,0.079,0.9209999999999999,0.0,-0.3218,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,1,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,10,15,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,12,1,10,14,0,3,0,0,1,0,9,2,0,0,0,33,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369111557235325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.280401646123805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24310115977835864,0.14402300651784342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252491198002443,0.0,0.2638953316218022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21280687703238207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28569015706887274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16234574104541816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638165570548279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5978888345117288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286698791787307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18002052267072913,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,mronesteak,2020/01/10,"My story so far.. We were high school sweethearts.  I'm 38 and so is she.  I got the paperwork yesterday.  At 30 we decided to have children.  Things were so fantastic with our first born.  Just the three of us and our dog.  Things got rocky but first kid and all.  No big deal.  When she was pregnant with our second child I knew no matter what happened I would spend my life with her.  So we got married.  Our second child was born and my wife slowly stopped communicating with me.  She would just stare at me.  Then she would get sad and I would change the subject.  Things got worse.  We started a small business.  I starting working 6 days a week and she became a stay at home mom.  Then we had a miscarriage.  And things were really bad.  She wouldn't discuss anything important with me.  If I didn't bring something up...it didn't get brought up.  Then we had our third child.  By this point we weren't even saying I love you after saying good night.  I remember one day after the birth of our third child I said to her that if she wasn't going to speak to me I wouldn't speak to her.  And then the talking stopped.  Our business slowly fell apart and so did our marriage.  We still ran our household, had sex, and most importantly took care of our children.  But there was no real talking.  I tried everything I could.  I suggested counseling.  Time away together.  Time away alone.  I asked her family for help.  I tried to always respect our privacy.  We tried some.  Nothing worked.  She wouldn't communicate anything important.  Then in Jan 19' I walked into our bedroom with tears in my eyes and asked her if she was going to talk to me.  She didn't answer and I told her to leave.  My wife and children moved to our old city.  Throughout 2019 she focused on rebuilding herself and I was sitting at the house every weekend with our children.  Waiting and hoping that one day she would talk to me again.  We had some weekends together with the kids.  Most of the time we would be intimate.  But she still wasn't talking to me.  So in Sept of 19' I filed.  But I couldn't submit the paperwork.  So I withdrew my petition and tried to save my marriage again.  Now she doesn't want to.  I never cheated.  I never abused her in any way.  I never had any substance or medical issues.  I loved her with all my heart.  I tried my best to give her the life we always dreamed of.  Then one day she just stopped loving me and couldn't tell me.  The worst part of what's to come is not only my time with my children but she was my best friend.  The one I could talk to about all these things.  And now she's gone.  She didn't even say Merry Christmas.  I know I won't ever get they why but damn I wish I could.",0.9203136858082496,3.420633595103581,1.9675621890547283,95.07210220086012,87.8135593220339,4.978058858251117,20.354751665401803,6.548210646343621,0.2333427270427526,2073,66,439,24,67,651,227,531,0.106,0.769,0.125,0.9551,0,1,1,0,1,1,66.0,27,1,1,6,22,17,2,0,16,0,42,9,2,0,7,96,76,42,0,20,14,3,0,0,2,10,3,6,2,11,11,42,0,4,5,3,1,11,21,5,0,11,33,8,109,12,52,27,11,76,0,1,2,4,99,19,1,9,43,314,120,3,0.0,0.0823683336358496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07200044409855902,0.0,0.0,0.11569031372946705,0.0,0.0,0.09455024791285807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11441599167282,0.0,0.1299812664789746,0.0,0.1306302806099587,0.0,0.058045240241573766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14591124762930685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0708789838992711,0.0,0.07354160417515078,0.05988423491911285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16651516022637425,0.0,0.0,0.1793353327107223,0.07167076361785966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09183293814144952,0.06288367617261176,0.058572532874900725,0.0,0.0624789567643079,0.0,0.06553607670589125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11826520159866682,0.0,0.0,0.05371000250478959,0.0,0.1089620098659098,0.06668870559091176,0.07901819875103251,0.05830901694146901,0.2224019333582568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06147518810610372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08238003614324396,0.046596942932193464,0.07345036077086645,0.06973295979590452,0.06904779018745964,0.0,0.08021528686276944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07255949820072775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03820567889205704,0.0,0.0,0.0736103030529122,0.0,0.0,0.09820627742225152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18823011861535646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700328121519927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08141950266914556,0.0,0.07388741385350274,0.0,0.0,0.16085140325409625,0.0,0.0,0.06523862382448398,0.0,0.06670510152638151,0.0,0.0729482184697773,0.0,0.18843077700607694,0.05287213088958085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07528201586366354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06571767537379447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.079127540448859,0.04453548201245604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07875117531635381,0.0,0.06612823697521925,0.1658522659522481,0.0,0.07035667163124355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053518918872525516,0.0,0.0,0.09841143742381203,0.0740977221514682,0.11103550374864507,0.1743623268581384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33525915704631754,0.060762438883149736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309257937681789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16214773461637635,0.0,0.0,0.06642813081416117,0.07723787293157422,0.23599328996198785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362247904427482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04100395129459557,0.05518073631271448,0.055763736215198166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06272984573155993,0.0,0.07994311483112608,0.0,0.0,0.10122093463945547,0.0,0.07084553050246296,0.2963046901377815,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,JigsawZball,2020/01/10,"Divorced parents please weigh in TLDR: Ex husband is insisting daughter witness him marrying the woman he cheated on her mother with. 

I’ve been divorced from my husband for two and a half years now. We have a 12 year old daughter. He had an affair for a year and a half and did not want a divorce but rather wanted a separation. His mistress was also married but separated from her husband. Her husband very conveniently lived in the basement of their house. I think my husband wanted to copy what they were doing. My husband continuing to be married to me and still having a mistress was a deal breaker for me. 

My parents had recently moved out of state and I really needed their support. At first he refused to “allow” me to move out of state with our daughter. His sister spoke to him. My brother spoke to him. Eventually he relented. But his caveat was he would give me permission to take her out of state if I promised not to  take any of his 401K from the divorce. Obviously, I took my child.

My child was 10 at the time of the divorce. My ex never showed any interest in her. He rarely ever played with her as a baby. He never went on doctor visits, school functions, birthday parties, nothing, nada, zilch. When he spent time with her at home it would always be something he wanted to do. He would never ask her what she wanted and then he would get upset with her when she just wanted to be by herself. I spoke to him about this several times through the years. I always told him he would reap what he sowed. If he didn’t put any time into her, when she gets older, she wouldn’t give him any of her time. He never valued my opinion or even respected it. It was like I didn’t know what I was talking about.

If my child had a relationship with her father I would never, ever have even entertained the thought of moving out of state. But rather, with the relationship they had, I could foresee us constantly fighting which would not have been good for her. I could see him always showing up late and arguing with me about whether we had a plane to catch- why does he have to be exactly on time? Or were we standing out at the corner waiting- so what’s the big deal if he’s late?  I had no interest in engaging with this person. To be fair, he also had no interest in being a father. This is evident from his past interactions ( or lack thereof) with her and the fact that he sold her to me so he could keep his money.

He’s physically seen her three times in two and a half years. Each time he’s spent anywhere from 2-3 days with her. He calls her once every 4-6 weeks. The conversation lasts 2-3 minutes. I could bet all of you money he does not know what grade she’s in, what school she attends or even how old she is. She has no desire to have a relationship with him. She is aware of the affair. She knows some of the facts. I do not subscribe to the school of thought where I am going to lie to my child to spare her feelings. We don’t reminisce about the “good old days when we were a family” because like I said, he barely spent time with her.

He’s now engaged to his mistress. He wants our daughter to be at the wedding. I have a difficult time saying “our daughter” because I truly feel like he’s abandoned her. My daughter does not want to go. She is adamant that she wants to have nothing to do with him. She has asked me when she can stop taking his calls and visits. He told her that when she grows up, she will regret not being at his wedding. I can’t imagine how a man can say to his child you will regret watching me marry the woman I cheated on your mother with. I can, however, imagine this man, forcing his child to be a part of this. They have had two phone conversations about this. He is practically bullying her to be at his wedding. 

My heart breaks for my child. I don’t think she should have to witness these two people get married. I have had friends tell me that I need to “intervene” and tell him no. I haven’t intervened yet. I want to empower her to stand up to him. I want her to know that she should not let him or anyone push her around. So far, I think she’s holding her own. If she gets to the point where she can’t deal with him anymore, I will intervene. It will get UGLY. When he has visited her in the past, she’s cried the day of his visit and the day leading up to his visit. I literally have to dry her tears and beg her to stop crying because he would get very mad at her if he saw her crying. I can’t imagine her having to get on a plane with him and be 900+ miles away from me. She’ll be bawling. My child didn’t ask for this. No child of divorce deserves to go through this.

My dilemma is whether I’m allowing my past with this man to cloud my judgement of the situation. Should I just give her my blessings and encourage her to go? I love my child more than I dislike him. I will do anything to ease her pain even if it means putting myself in pain. Am I the unreasonable one here?",2.3977880152880147,4.2529955095095096,3.6257747520247534,89.28721795659295,76.88788788788789,6.382750932750933,24.565485940485946,7.259408732682427,0.9797666666666665,3850,132,809,46,88,1252,343,999,0.12300000000000001,0.81,0.068,-0.9949,6,0,1,0,8,0,104.0,9,3,5,2,38,31,5,1,44,0,98,6,1,5,12,151,163,49,0,42,30,22,2,3,1,18,3,6,1,16,28,46,1,7,15,4,7,21,28,12,0,10,40,12,173,19,135,88,7,124,1,3,4,1,228,41,0,15,58,577,201,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07906882527572964,0.12340557663700352,0.0,0.0,0.1344742700141423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04902780022063805,0.03456720398407048,0.0,0.040682090469839685,0.04400903455038381,0.13864957769373118,0.0,0.046447291293611394,0.0,0.0,0.09040823516352177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10096054458821983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053423376898173724,0.0,0.1578843356629245,0.0,0.16291127488720994,0.12753000910290652,0.15290081990716525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050600431202685696,0.12978684461922982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13060957102097584,0.08943642809811925,0.04165244816962816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046604404901920284,0.0,0.04999323730629593,0.03531750037226613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0420507270052682,0.0,0.0,0.038194576633717725,0.0,0.1807999968554208,0.14227220764335533,0.11238378353773168,0.08293011030148742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05858258158302975,0.0,0.0,0.04958891738243956,0.0,0.0,0.05704317219129685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04394150096873408,0.0,0.0,0.10867619901196288,0.040297408336472884,0.11153322396208534,0.0,0.0,0.050552249249277495,0.0,0.07245664291796355,0.0,0.04365340306963955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04461844073076765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05385092500768589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15762977243074047,0.0,0.07331319063627932,0.19064267863581374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09487145757932527,0.0,0.1556261137981867,0.05264834089908633,0.03349950389533024,0.0,0.10520800659080537,0.0,0.10978693631239232,0.05353499515828621,0.1415784193766432,0.03427309773520551,0.043166112038874535,0.0,0.05426651584472608,0.04673354442741542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09939482839633908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031670337019489465,0.0,0.04881265555625868,0.1592291472106959,0.0,0.0,0.047025505436858336,0.07862790028386216,0.0,0.15009736516433106,0.03939455116616032,0.0,0.0,0.055849260266858616,0.0,0.0,0.05556878367933628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038058692103917005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03948011412411393,0.08266238372294034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05610004154789288,0.0,0.0,0.11151045997694724,0.03973524783960333,0.08641949432667019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09503088683243124,0.0,0.07849423978320369,0.28826865513721744,0.0,0.0,0.09447753545682112,0.05492585587660866,0.0,0.0,0.19316940862776785,0.0,0.059466114973150325,0.0,0.0,0.08158070662003801,0.3207487126543515,0.0,0.03965503997256145,0.0,0.0,0.045828202014387136,0.04460882123030432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809466062586329,0.0,0.0,0.15917767321503912
divorce,Skurvey,2020/01/10,Credit Card I am in California and signed papers in July with a moderator lawyer. I was under the assumption as was my soon to be ex wife that everything stays the same until 27th of this month which is the cool down period. She put 15k on a credit card that I guess I was the primary holder even though she said they were hers. I know I should have known but is anything can be done since she admitted to racking up the card just to make me do something or she wont pay it off?,6.406060606060606,5.095836676767682,7.030989898989898,79.91981818181819,66.07070707070707,10.748282828282829,28.89090909090909,9.888512548439397,2.274347878787879,377,9,82,7,5,125,75,99,0.0,0.9109999999999999,0.08900000000000001,0.6479,0,0,1,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,0,7,1,15,0,0,1,0,13,20,6,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,5,2,0,0,3,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,6,2,14,3,14,10,1,13,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,2,4,63,19,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497078536229965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31052769094209376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20042133568853404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727151329480725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3342768351279586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16676441698160482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20255065582135506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422054236324972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30504417267441497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28864391904541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510113055601752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336053582107147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3234300185887688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29813134967904104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,muffinchopped,2020/01/10,"(I am in Maryland) I need advice on getting things started on a divorce, married abroad I recently took a break from my husband. My husband is emotionally abusive and has complete control of the finances, he makes much more money than me. I moved in with a friend in another city, I have not spent a penny of my husband's money since I left and I intend to find a job in the next week to support myself and become finally independent. 

The thing is, I haven’t officially told him I want a divorce, but it is what I am planning. My heart is set on it and I'm thankful to have a great support system around me. I am unsure how to proceed because we were married in the UK and never registered in the US as spouses. However, we file our taxes together and I am under his health insurance plan. So I guess we are spouses in the US...? I am so confused and emotions are running high.

Will this be treated like any other marriage? Is me leaving for another city technically the start of a separation that will be acknowledged by the court? I have posted in r/legaladvice without much success. I will be so appreciative of any advice or help here. Thank you!",3.4939779135338367,5.4452086562499975,5.180216165413533,78.92136278195494,74.04464285714286,7.572932330827067,32.325187969924805,8.371475516178862,2.7623160714285717,905,46,163,16,19,307,134,224,0.055999999999999994,0.7859999999999999,0.157,0.9766,3,0,0,0,2,0,26.0,6,1,0,4,6,10,0,1,16,0,24,2,1,5,1,28,39,14,0,2,4,5,0,1,1,3,1,0,0,0,8,12,0,1,2,0,5,3,4,1,0,0,4,0,33,9,28,29,3,30,0,0,0,0,21,15,0,3,9,128,41,4,0.0,0.14697410162249114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424324261823089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16871092483929914,0.2601458736594204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11042714594396497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561722633344654,0.13699894540646484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13005976099694933,0.0,0.13912801925165996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27906987185421417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13588621482564714,0.1133757008897966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09583755088675804,0.0,0.06480886041239924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13676103732765746,0.13665053856990153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13185498590103176,0.0,0.1469949830150737,0.08314534874641309,0.1310612988223361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12309641034462797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13134669215467004,0.13477622803810616,0.0,0.0,0.06060255857200982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08280159824739201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13184115536849128,0.1823760116834917,0.09197845947678868,0.09567184152955617,0.0,0.13192421676617386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11880167810493332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224803564561827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10261204632621933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17560064610130185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815316236205703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22840958833219546,0.0,0.0,0.1648211616400448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185311686896063,0.1378195537563901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2984238770038368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0731654828800933,0.0,0.0995021347594097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11957581634027098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,VanillaLlfe,2020/01/10,"“Facebook mom” is really a POS Rant:

Fuck you and fuck your self pitying memes about being a strong single mom.  Bathe your child. Give your child the doctor prescribed medicine she needs. Brush her hair.  Be a fucking mother and stop begging for affirmation on social media!",3.3898214285714268,6.588707625000001,2.817619047619047,87.075,87.33333333333334,4.40952380952381,21.44047619047619,6.1826913282559595,0.5848476190476188,218,7,35,2,7,64,40,48,0.263,0.679,0.057,-0.8956,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,4,0,1,1,5,3,0,4,0,3,5,1,0,0,4,8,2,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,6,1,3,6,1,2,0,1,0,3,14,1,3,0,1,19,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352303507924197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6373942333780301,0.0,0.2204641377982443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5383244523000978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704085038525145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14722847829038366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397522213368541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342723912116128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19213968199793524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,NellieRae92,2020/01/10,"Questions Hi there. I haven't posted in awhile. My husband left me last November. We have been separated for over a year. He told me right after he left he would file. Then in March of last year he said he filed but had to wait an additional 60 days to avoid us going to court. We have no shared assets and already split everything. I kept waiting and decided in December to take charge and file. I began the process. While at work today I got a slip on my door saying usps tried to deliver a letter that required a signature. I have ordered nothing, have no bills that aren't paid up, or anything like that. My gut is that he filed finally but I was wondering if I could get someone else's opinion or insight. I am at the point where I am completely over the whole situation, but I am having this uncomfortable feeling.",3.2477639751552796,5.255355484472052,4.432888198757767,83.76374223602488,74.90062111801242,7.829813664596273,27.64906832298137,8.634040054169528,2.125315527950311,647,26,127,13,14,212,109,161,0.078,0.858,0.064,-0.5023,0,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,0,2,2,3,0,1,8,0,16,1,1,0,0,25,29,11,0,3,6,1,1,1,0,1,0,2,1,0,5,6,0,5,5,0,2,1,4,1,0,0,9,3,18,2,17,18,1,29,0,0,0,0,17,14,0,6,13,80,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19066572624173214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14218224860772574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811553073721131,0.0,0.0,0.1379498300433578,0.0,0.0,0.11142804640691834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443345350953947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552824641649191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736216371007949,0.0,0.0,0.1892707538879032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09026980319239504,0.0,0.09819418610189706,0.0,0.13818700741591514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2816756004508245,0.0,0.0,0.3754493907961251,0.0,0.0,0.08441100492185617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16578593935974414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16333183362406406,0.0,0.16547435077884576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935518226743289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475521697448818,0.1643522254561689,0.13740065390631356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942106348193139,0.0,0.0,0.14639493499799125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12990817138201866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16377412054142895,0.1650975684758107,0.0,0.11730547848269494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20783164889514047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19290138421973424,0.0,0.0,0.1873712619594222,0.12578504003503085,0.0,0.0,0.1227371177194548,0.0,0.0,0.22252779288850744
divorce,heroball222,2020/01/10,Living Together Waiting for Divorce Process My wife and I agreed on getting a divorce several months after we had a baby.  This entire situation sucks and while we are trying to find a divorce mediator we are still living in the same house and still have to do some minor communication regarding our child.  However besides talking about our child our interactions are minimal and cold.  When one of us takes care of the child the other one just pretends not to exist.  How can I survive past these months while the divorce process is starting?,7.969725085910653,8.979927020618561,7.745927835051546,68.32274054982818,62.298969072164965,10.178006872852237,38.84707903780069,10.125756701596842,4.272705841924398,439,22,68,9,6,140,68,97,0.04,0.905,0.055,0.34,1,0,0,0,4,0,5.0,7,0,0,1,6,2,1,0,7,0,8,0,0,1,0,14,14,8,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,7,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,1,10,1,10,13,2,12,0,0,0,0,17,2,1,1,10,54,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22460714150784275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013471693490093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11509591994016086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25419278460711026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3890519989539165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3516774074333583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2985574557303433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2102981027593983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24887253706493564,0.0,0.0,0.2476226920429879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15592711996868566,0.0,0.35185841741620955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656356828549856,0.1770661221562195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495669812330328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649897748340493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,HvyMtl1sLfe,2020/01/11,"How do you know when? How did you know when it was time for a divorce?  I have been out of love with my husband for several years now.  He has not cheated on me, nor I on him, but we have just drifted apart over the years and while I still care about him, I am not in love with him anymore.  We are living as glorified roommates with children.  We don't have sex (I really don't want it at all, not just with him), I am not attracted to him anymore and everything little thing annoys me.  We have been going to couples and individual therapy for a long time now but neither of us feel like we are getting anywhere.  I will admit that our communication is terrible.  He is a sensitive soul who is prone to depression who when told something difficult that feels like a criticism, will not be able to sleep that night and will end up driving off at 3am to the beach to ""think"".  So now I am afraid to say anything.      


I am currently the sole breadwinner in our family.  I have been working my ass off to try and make ends meet without his financial contribution to our family.  He has been helpful in doing all of the household and kid wrangling stuff so I am somewhat dependent on him, and he is a great father.  I feel conflicted about my feelings and don't want to go down the path of initiating divorce proceedings while he is unemployed (this is part of the long list of reasons we have drifted apart).  Would it be really shitty of me to ""kick him when he's down?""  My anger and frustration has superseded any of the positive things and I see no light at the end of the tunnel.  I feel stuck.  Advice?",4.033540372670807,5.278266015873019,5.1849551414768795,82.2824844720497,71.38095238095238,9.033816425120774,29.251207729468604,9.43228470229965,2.536468599033815,1245,49,252,28,23,412,160,315,0.14300000000000002,0.74,0.11599999999999999,-0.8651,4,0,1,0,2,0,33.0,10,2,0,1,16,15,4,1,14,0,39,5,2,5,2,52,60,24,0,3,10,2,5,2,0,4,0,1,0,2,12,21,0,1,10,1,0,5,12,8,0,0,8,8,41,7,47,46,5,46,1,1,1,4,41,19,1,2,24,193,53,2,0.12178779347351372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11900962226336492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08281987584337891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415615315387961,0.0,0.0,0.1002209770361837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241707721771967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13475587703758954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10489564806133543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32360350945588234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109455015851738,0.0,0.2296213857015576,0.0,0.3078978384698105,0.17401044798365994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06362909548410578,0.0,0.13842961926359965,0.0,0.0,0.13427147225322922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08163179078878882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13386277253417386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189987283041866,0.12206336386180135,0.10754085289292303,0.21555672957139904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21983647704553225,0.0,0.08129429784128536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11428959404350522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318843121979801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560407581076283,0.12521813541913202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09685054157423864,0.0,0.0,0.09704910347961468,0.0,0.0,0.13758554110788154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12187574716144875,0.0,0.0,0.09375819342916088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09725988918765427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13941788605286964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392749557484094,0.0,0.16182079680248765,0.07803670048226011,0.0,0.0,0.14203088353179447,0.0,0.0,0.1163734557651729,0.0,0.08268591740779305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14649572021313692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14366719200720526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11739908690092225,0.0,0.08866296413433769,0.0,0.0,0.08651455422108484,0.0,0.0,0.15685469205457428
divorce,wisetiger59,2020/01/11,"What to do with the stuff? Last month when I put my Christmas tree up, I found a few of STBX's Christmas ornaments. I gave one of them to him, but it's a pop culture character and not at all sentimental. I've also found a bunch of old bank statements and statements from our home together which we sold. He hasn't asked for any of it, but I doubt he's even aware it exists. His filing system is throwing things in drawers for years. 

What do I do with this stuff? 

We're not on good terms. If he found stuff of mine, I'd want it back, but I know with fair certainty he'd just trash it (and I was quite careful to pack up the important/sentimental things immediately when we separated). Do I spend the time (and money) and ship it to him? Or do I just dispose of it? None of it is world ending stuff.",2.5178081556997185,3.807588343373496,3.8912048192771103,89.90796570898983,75.20481927710844,7.276367006487487,23.612604263206677,7.882392219407189,0.9182683966635774,619,18,142,9,13,204,99,166,0.055999999999999994,0.879,0.065,-0.3659,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,3,0,1,1,7,3,0,1,6,0,10,0,0,0,1,28,19,13,0,2,9,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,18,10,0,0,6,0,4,2,4,1,0,1,6,0,19,2,22,12,5,19,0,0,0,0,14,6,0,3,10,98,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11727572476064682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997268355927394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13709768803812875,0.0,0.0,0.11276457932122926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495191589728612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12988812027751218,0.0,0.0,0.0968607542147449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4823815320958156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230028238837721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14710162205752514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08059484859497698,0.11953909147265952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11705440405009546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15388420761886526,0.0,0.09937364276620617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14742346932551184,0.0,0.15598002424819052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6715153559213334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19485510976527176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08551262862222198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08649780195558278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09443760889027496
divorce,Stunning_Look,2020/01/11,Can I legally take my child to my parents house? Am I legally allowed to take my newborn to my parents house (2 miles away) ? I am married and my spouse says the baby cannot leave her house. Her parents also won’t let the baby leave the house unless it’s one of his Dr. Appointments. I feel like this is so unnecessary and of course the baby would be dressed appropriately and everyone would wash their hands and handle the baby properly. Can I just take my child without her consent or anyone else’s consent?,6.1357575757575775,6.519355858585862,6.459141414141418,78.14204545454548,66.17171717171718,8.620202020202019,33.671717171717184,8.344100000000001,2.6109717171717173,406,17,75,5,6,131,59,99,0.035,0.879,0.086,0.4222,4,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,5,0,11,3,1,1,0,12,15,8,0,2,4,4,2,1,0,3,2,1,0,3,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,3,16,1,8,10,0,2,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,1,1,51,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11012476886096514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09628840028015624,0.14109777493857134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12938088304941425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115037082710256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13158557394085502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06962913238900924,0.09837838242012424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6355846194255813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2916250647568378,0.0,0.14081541605215686,0.0,0.06727700857202001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09331427678520547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4587241916088074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10951066130789222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3106170753825684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13274527364008465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19564714644876224,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,_brdi_,2020/01/11,"When do I tell him it's over? My father in law died a few months ago, suddenly and unexpectedly, and my husband is overwhelmed with grief. We have had so many life upsets in the last few years that sometimes I don't even know if life can truly ever be pleasant or worth living. The times I remember it is are the times I am away from my husband.

I've wanted out since the first year of dating (dated for six, married for 1.5), but my husband is kind and loving and I always told myself that those qualities were enough. Honestly? They're just not. Especially when an adult does not take responsibility for any of the labor it takes to keep a house running. 

I want to leave him, but the cascade of events following his father's death makes the timing hard...not that there is ever a good time to split. He quit his job to come live with me (I moved across the country for grad school...he opted not to come with initially), he hasn't found another job, his depression is all consuming, and does not leave the house except to take the dog out. I wanted out LONG before it got this bad, but I feel like I owe it to him to help him through this hard period. I don't have a choice, anyway. With the move, we are not eligible to file for divorce in our new state or in our previous one. Part of me wants to let him know I plan on leaving him once he's doing better so he can cut his losses and move home now or something. The other part of me knows that he would go to a really dark place if I told him now, and I don't want to do that to him. 

When I think about how I would do...I wonder if leaving him now would make it harder for me to continue my studies. Then I remember how unnecessarily difficult things are with him around and I think that maybe I could actually enjoy school and thrive like I did when I was alone if he were to leave now. I just...daydream about leaving him almost every day, and have for years. I always thought it was a character flaw on my part, but I think I am realizing that I was roped into a relationship when I was in a vulnerable place, then everyone told me that I was lucky because he was kind and came from a good family. But honestly? It's so not enough. Sometimes I feel like I am selling my soul to be with him. Settling, if nothing else.",4.568762940344083,4.8367445982721415,5.571324942280481,83.55526997840172,69.53995680345571,8.805213376033366,26.54867058911149,8.74248658614541,1.639337290533999,1771,49,382,28,29,586,217,463,0.08800000000000001,0.777,0.135,0.9771,3,1,1,0,1,0,56.0,4,0,0,5,23,22,1,2,22,0,40,3,0,4,3,82,73,36,3,14,21,5,3,3,0,3,2,0,1,1,21,27,0,1,14,0,3,9,10,8,0,3,17,3,63,14,55,49,8,60,1,4,0,1,41,17,0,11,36,264,84,5,0.0,0.0,0.06769607127221725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06149318968736035,0.0,0.06946501757289225,0.07184741586625876,0.0,0.0,0.11544442796548413,0.0,0.0,0.04717464640047223,0.07274152289850051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06175488123109892,0.0,0.0,0.06517632087700981,0.0,0.057921872106573735,0.04228790657703607,0.0,0.05902959602767158,0.0,0.0,0.06135299595641658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07934192244483937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11951391644686656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055387084133556766,0.0,0.0,0.04473854428989213,0.0,0.05974912490330043,0.0,0.07199612675759423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12141402716819695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05795055373532409,0.0,0.0,0.14335753629370654,0.0,0.045818879171338235,0.12550004905492534,0.058448044043207886,0.06628694585952967,0.0,0.0,0.06539678770433356,0.0,0.07015210544266583,0.09911728640043824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059006921611032125,0.0,0.07606170085007324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03942512756516277,0.11637017636201755,0.05548231123955815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12428554753952868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046497906767947725,0.0,0.06958475082713726,0.0,0.0,0.1600895979522432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13767999047380194,0.06166011595491192,0.0,0.14447840472975387,0.11437343203270475,0.056546608921650976,0.0,0.4407231195611277,0.0,0.07093652883432353,0.0979975518619738,0.10167347281114034,0.0,0.1225116955843499,0.061391135842821465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06261001942432642,0.0,0.09261133794234984,0.07033128725579192,0.06969247522927342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05537125576942787,0.22119112528590185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06699892642106058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06656332790401302,0.0,0.0,0.07387783150560227,0.04700757254714219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253660391428824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14495582206870358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07378457809987096,0.0,0.0,0.04444082723397054,0.0,0.0,0.07447847299981222,0.15716759844329795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404142740768715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057384392936961626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05340517088593708,0.13721934946075268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15647503477991045,0.0,0.06063329567120214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046086997786838106,0.13335037202200134,0.0,0.055072810670131686,0.16180310922537358,0.0,0.0,0.19886083757858905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2045840117867819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07522987050506277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14783746518501115,0.0,0.0,0.13401791342798294
divorce,throwawayanxietyyyyy,2020/01/11,"He says he would seek full custody I am the mom. We are egalitarian parents. However, my partner has severe ADHD, is a sex offender and is underemployed. I am the breadwinner, have technical knowledge in human development, and provide 98% of my child's practical needs. Much of my mental energy goes to pulling weight on behalf of my spouse due to his executive functioning issues, or my attention would be more fully on the child. 

​

Anyway, spouse and I have a toxic cycle (duh) and today I was trying to discuss something, he was stonewalling as usual, got up to leave the room to attend to the preschooler who was calling for me, in spite of my insistence that he stay and finish the conversation. I pushed him (bad call I know). 

​

He is saying that me having a raised voice in another room and pushing him means he has to stick around to protect our kid, and if I seek a divorce he will seek full custody. I believe that my husband's ADHD makes him unsuitable to be a primary parent. I also believe that my issues with my husband and his inflammatory communication style have nothing to do with our kid. I have read the research, and the issue for children isn't exposure to conflict but whether they see it resolved. My husband is avoidant, so if anyone is harming our kid long-term related to conflict, I think it is him. 

​

But many of you here have been through custody stuff, so you would know better than me. I know the courts generally look for what is in the child's best interest. I believe if my husband and I get along this poorly, clearly we should not be together, but can he actually get custody based on what transpired between us?",7.3598397435897445,7.6135240224359,7.584102564102569,71.56089743589746,63.58333333333334,10.138461538461538,37.846153846153854,9.861636050157227,3.8549923076923074,1333,64,227,25,18,434,171,312,0.038,0.877,0.085,0.941,4,1,1,0,1,0,49.0,6,2,1,3,8,9,2,1,15,1,33,2,0,1,1,44,45,22,0,8,9,9,1,0,1,5,0,3,2,9,11,16,1,4,8,1,1,4,2,5,0,0,5,6,43,4,36,32,5,22,0,0,2,1,49,13,0,4,4,167,54,2,0.0,0.0,0.09185887864750993,0.0,0.22625581997135305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07527701937224006,0.0,0.3059747000923611,0.3431406502766136,0.0,0.0987052069491472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06581901463386917,0.0,0.0,0.08379709537482448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07859596754853275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3181622903931194,0.09878532361922393,0.08325176490019738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922378091313865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09835976852770062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07528565246783518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29474685308499976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15519682333328025,0.0,0.0,0.09967178989881444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08330351808366958,0.07904684985586204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06283358467894742,0.09543468416614584,0.0,0.10253692554253543,0.0,0.0,0.09486252901862403,0.0,0.0,0.11024581107717607,0.0,0.0,0.06919756874309074,0.06979740058768692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032182437474083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20904403986747047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09415708943451304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14971447855021222,0.0,0.0,0.07501071075621561,0.0,0.0,0.10634193267378847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07246711691486535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10033177813373613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10775817962245797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06031573871750191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08922576552509758,0.0,0.0,0.06390918835835621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11322874402687612,0.0,0.10367267630015978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11462694918328425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20060519789069026,0.0,0.3431406502766136,0.0
divorce,lookingforsupport555,2020/01/11,"Looks like a Divorce is Inevitable, Having Serious Issues Accepting and Coping My wife said she isn't in love with me anymore and that she needs to figure herself out. Said that maybe in a few years if she can't let go of her love for me (still loves me, just not in love) that maybe we will get back together.  I am still very much in love with her and am having trouble accepting that this is my reality. No kids, but two dogs and we own a house. She's really cool so it doesn't look like we need an attorney to split stuff up. 

I'm a wedding photographer and shot my first one since the news the other day, it was not easy, to say the least.",2.2706852103120743,3.7540114552238784,3.6027001356852115,90.93015603799186,76.23880597014927,7.260786974219811,21.883310719131615,8.00094639256281,0.793367164179104,501,13,114,8,11,164,89,134,0.102,0.795,0.10300000000000001,0.2683,0,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,3,0,0,1,5,12,0,0,8,1,12,5,0,0,0,22,26,8,0,3,5,1,0,2,0,1,0,3,0,1,9,11,0,0,3,0,0,1,6,2,0,3,3,6,17,10,13,21,4,13,0,0,2,5,22,6,0,1,8,81,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14108668263308494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10939147636109896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917478748767226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12100884699667562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07432655310313346,0.0,0.08085134928417005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641524175084268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484856254796492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14547357038505535,0.0,0.1390050452739165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389302037363993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6419896220751756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2858446379369168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10457968425052976,0.21097244448192756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09640110005295972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911373295934794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27064940835088114,0.11313325871783055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11768143525059994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272228534292721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16285711485280682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13897029301150593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11738188550257506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09161271671213833
divorce,kryzav,2020/01/11,"Guilt, relief, heartbreak, and hope I asked my STBXH for a divorce the day after xmas. I'm going through all of the emotions basically at once. He is moving to his parents today and it's settled in that it's really real. We havent been happy, we've grown apart, theres no intimacy and we want different things out of life but I still love him. Hes not a bad person just not the right one for me. Its heart wrenching to see him in pain but then alternative is I'm miserable for the rest of my life. The pain now is temporary at least. I just feel so torn, afraid, and relieved and guilty. 
I have always made all the decisions because he refused and now I've made this one and the one to have him move. It is hard to be the one to break everything and end everything by oneself. Theres so much more but I'm not sure how to feel when I feel all the emotions at once...",0.9240971212561816,3.0534554254143664,2.728578075021812,92.46744693224777,83.14364640883977,6.020471067170688,21.128525734225065,7.273561745256523,0.5636563535911598,676,21,151,10,19,224,104,181,0.175,0.733,0.092,-0.9387,2,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,2,0,0,0,11,13,0,3,11,0,10,6,1,3,4,34,24,16,0,2,8,1,4,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,7,11,0,1,4,0,0,4,5,7,0,4,3,5,16,6,21,20,7,22,0,2,1,1,15,8,0,1,9,102,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110883023606569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124580143097398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11126656219475778,0.08123407990995991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08594169766431375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392283726777984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2997992040953803,0.118028836535334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23953105197763805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20214083176475148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07573474835540721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14185778425538134,0.11937481561172653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15791378202572376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13235728217041598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882510060987272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12027238359067415,0.25218773270879025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2832686537164953,0.09796145815654976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.283835174350278,0.3612017916007637,0.0,0.2835961436181237,0.0,0.14796949760173506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11635752169343493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15167909313544906,0.08536979016004334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380334099746725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106190993939679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10642163536801233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12559600506768906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08853204530723204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12631493063613894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07860022075820833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,whatsthedealwithbees,2020/01/11,"So terrified that we are heading towards one... My wife and I have been married for almost 3 years.  When we first met/dated/married we had so much in common (we were young and still growing) and we initially were growing together in many ways.  Well, over the last year that growth has hit a fork.  Mostly in myself, I have begun to change from my “boyish” ways into more of the man I am meant to be, unfortunately that man is looking less and less compatible with who my wife looks to for a companion.

The big one is that over the past year, I have come to discover my desire to live a childfree life and to never procreate or raise children. We had talked about starting a family before marriage, but alas, things change... but it has been a bomb dropped on her life and the well being of our relationship.  It’s hard to even see the future as it feels so unclear of how we could have similar views, morals and values anymore.  She tells me she does not want a divorce and would rather have me than leave to have kids, but she’s still got a good decade of fertility left, and she breaks down multiple times a week into a sobbing ball over the topic.  

I am trying to be as loving and understanding as I possibly can, even though I am the source of it all. I am also noticing her temper and anger towards me is much more easily provoked in formerly innocuous arguments, so I can only chalk that up to a battle she is having with resentment toward me.

This is easily the hardest thing either of us have gone through in our lives. Its fucking terrifying. We have all of these wonderful memories, and such a beautiful foundation to our relationship but damn... it feels like it is crumbling. She is anti-divorce but I also don’t want each of us to live a life of feigned happiness and walking on eggshells because of this.  Ayiyi, I feel like I’m rambling but I could really use some talking to here.

TLDR; We got married three years ago with similar visions for the future, we grew up and my worldview and visions changed but no longer reflect hers and it is hurting us. The biggest issue being that I no longer want kids in any shape or form and she has always dreamed of being a mother.",5.280548408937033,6.173461824644555,5.862738659444822,79.87351895734602,68.19431279620855,8.872173324306026,30.474272173324305,9.04235418022936,2.4999191604603928,1718,65,325,30,28,557,220,422,0.133,0.748,0.11900000000000001,-0.5787,0,0,0,1,2,0,46.0,16,0,0,1,19,15,6,0,24,0,42,6,1,3,3,70,64,38,0,8,12,3,4,2,1,1,3,0,0,5,20,34,0,0,7,2,0,7,5,8,2,4,10,8,49,7,56,45,13,55,1,2,4,2,44,23,3,7,23,256,69,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08238329219898091,0.0,0.09306326228010274,0.0,0.0,0.1486438202700821,0.07733126294292357,0.0,0.0,0.06320053811735413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09216880987949852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0566537039586231,0.0,0.0790827810796591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29494596114650146,0.08005723845636346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14840571319923726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813300410021546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227683953359158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761299743454731,0.0,0.1409756453626794,0.13278882440498582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07905240384437587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08591901882484339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07795138202474469,0.14866086738911946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09893346391488128,0.08325354914191348,0.0,0.0953804628362602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09949128161445403,0.0,0.0,0.09700237562650643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07575628828717931,0.0,0.09840716162295547,0.10097662786863457,0.0,0.19693305041279754,0.09080892222451536,0.0,0.2461959657589363,0.0,0.15608781857832044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387952472529428,0.0,0.0,0.0942238159734837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13663919024891316,0.0,0.07167896060205485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058097105402568,0.0,0.0,0.1259534138464771,0.07068299020669766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08871915090242187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10477282038068857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05953800208111765,0.0,0.0,0.1995597182345746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07405898042298001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06578148592290914,0.0,0.14843966551020615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14939893232662327,0.08123128007611849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12348679990582065,0.0,0.09131040683290034,0.0,0.054192476003393386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630983133177131,0.0,0.0,0.09675098725607706,0.3353763183683809,0.08026797123864025,0.0,0.0,0.16445044898103114,0.14753857575876808,0.0745486810247789,0.0,0.16712355409284615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10078651693658992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0660199780074012,0.0,0.0,0.2393942478935385
divorce,SingleISuppose,2020/01/11,"We're telling the kids today, any advice? An 8-year-old girl and a 5-year-old boy. We're planning on telling them this afternoon and then spending the evening just cuddling with them and hanging out. We really want to show them that even though we won't all be living together, that we're still all a family. As much as I'm disgusted by my ex-wife, I know that feeling will fade over time and I realize the importance of putting on a happy face through this. Does anyone have any advice?",5.6062499999999975,6.114388791666666,5.522916666666667,83.96375000000002,67.33333333333334,9.316666666666668,31.625,9.2995712137729,2.5808250000000004,388,15,78,7,6,121,69,96,0.037000000000000005,0.857,0.106,0.6432,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,3,1,5,2,1,0,7,0,4,2,1,0,2,15,8,8,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,5,8,0,0,3,1,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,8,1,11,5,3,12,0,0,0,1,10,4,0,0,6,48,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38110547227355374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652147557201697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363492445000874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706467033322219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575926641535315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838296033917385,0.0,0.09859837289657973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075822077338504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10716745876561774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1721894698554747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14334818398372376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40924152752120985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19602988088510126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12492264423991295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15572806340023446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3408789662869785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915875083051493,0.0,0.11370666068082558,0.0,0.18483816245144272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11501665163459615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511485220980449
divorce,Audisans,2020/01/11,"How I found the perfect divorce attorney, and never lost in court again. I went from having zero parenting time with my daughter to having full custody and parenting time with her over the course of 10 years. 

The details of my case don't matter, but what does is that after burning through 3 attorneys that I could sense were not serving me well, I finally set out to find the best attorney to represent me.   

I'll share with you my process that led me to find her, and never losing in court again.   

Here's what I would do (based on what worked for me when I spent the better part of a decade in family court, and went through 4 attorneys):

1. Search your area for law firms that have a Martindale-Hubbell's **AV Rating.** This isn't a hard rule, but it helps you find more established, credible firms. You can also search [Avvo.com](https://avvo.com/)'s lawyer directory (like Yelp for attorneys). Take note of 5 of them you want to speak to. Weed out anyone that doesn't fully focus on family law.
2. **Set up consultations with all 5.** You are now speed dating attorneys. Most will have free initial consults, some charge a flat fee.
3. **Write a 1-page document of what the current situation is, what the issues are that are arising, and what you want to be changed**. I say 1-page because it forces you to be concise and to strip out anything that won't be pertinent during an initial consultation, and so that you can use it to send to your attorney and as your outline when discussing this in the consult.
4. During the consult, beyond discussing your 1-pager, come with your questions to help you determine who might best represent you. **Never forget that you are hiring this person to be an extension of you**. How they represent you will deeply impact the next 18 years of your life, at a minimum.
5. I like to ask them why they got into family law, were their parents divorced or if they've been divorced (it didn't matter, but I was always interested to hear their story), how long they've been practicing in this county (how well do they know the judges) and what their strategy would be if I hired them to achieve my desired outcome. Obviously, ask them anything else you think is pertinent and the basics: what's their retainer, what's their hourly rate, who are the other attorneys in their firm, do they work their cases 1 on 1 or collaboratively.
6. If they speak in generalities, walk away. You don't want a lawyer who manages your case based on a template. **If you get a sense that they are driven by ego or aggression, walk.** You want someone who is compassionate, cares about your case and the best interests of your children and someone that you are proud to have on your side of the aisle.

**Hire the person you think will serve you and the best interests of your children the most.** Hire the one you feel you can trust and work well with.

Or--if after talking to these 5 attorneys that they urge you to go ahead and file on your own, or to not file at all because you don't have a case, don't hire anyone.

The idea here is that you are getting the opinions of 5 established attorneys on your case. Then, only you can decide what you want to do next.

Feel free to AMA or if you want ongoing support and accountability as you go through this time of transition in your life, DM me and I'll send you a link to my (free) private divorce mastermind group!

Good luck.",3.4129367547952327,5.7624415054432365,3.986389580093313,85.56971397096942,75.62519440124417,7.334878175220322,25.335640228097464,8.291686609442984,1.6785996060134782,2660,94,513,49,60,839,269,643,0.021,0.8220000000000001,0.157,0.9983,4,0,0,0,4,0,116.0,0,44,18,16,18,28,1,0,34,0,52,2,0,6,7,94,82,41,0,15,15,4,3,2,0,7,2,4,0,4,38,28,0,1,13,0,6,11,13,3,3,2,13,7,84,28,81,56,13,66,0,2,0,0,103,28,0,17,27,356,122,18,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06630966161395878,0.06899459215469883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11595667906440893,0.0,0.13646924149417286,0.0,0.15503466417143735,0.0,0.07790438666121753,0.0,0.0,0.10109234092202116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34807017792374223,0.07333441740033478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08454064007303476,0.0,0.0877164703404975,0.07142669479489876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06620344260487432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07256228329039685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06926752361409869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23450372315432666,0.0,0.08385187555794839,0.0,0.0,0.09083284472232248,0.2273572219394182,0.0,0.0,0.09091553609347912,0.0,0.0,0.08664268354259967,0.0,0.09424865781546936,0.06954785950750504,0.06631726629401076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07427842828219476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09345484762117222,0.0,0.11115665502577328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08165773305953762,0.0,0.0,0.09360456488783957,0.0,0.08654506715256145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04556967905394242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11713516610602186,0.08101929691116637,0.0,0.0,0.07338000549763332,0.0,0.09276426598258428,0.09051501990069093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08796311607312135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918549030989561,0.0,0.17636891147510572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056187524218010286,0.06306303422440011,0.0,0.0,0.2762125744674205,0.08979233980198076,0.0,0.0,0.14480196322666766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09288737057132554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06593988772512316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09320354081969916,0.0,0.0,0.1405126584605094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09409460071266952,0.0,0.0,0.062344173713664935,0.06664651534160711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10626128020760628,0.0,0.0,0.1450508230726979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07161470960047024,0.0,0.0,0.2934438472956975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22366028334342897,0.15373202054554558,0.07482078633301825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810963306564497,0.0,0.0,0.11780543297333156,0.0,0.0,0.10679321576440763
divorce,throwRA311,2020/01/11,"I cry intensely and way more often than I ever did We're filing for divorce in 4 days. We've been separated since August/made the decision since, even though there was a lot of emotional push/push and back and forth, but the nail was set in the coffin. 

We were together for 4.5 years and married for 1.5. Everything went downhill since the day we married. 

Ever since we married, I (29 F) snap often, cry often, get angry often, stopped socializing, I have uncontrollable emotions and mood swings. I have been seeing a therapist ever since I decided to end the marriage (My spouse (32 M) laid the foundation for divorce very neatly, knowing very well it'll push me to take this call). 

Therapy did help for a while and for a bit. But now it doesn't seem to be having that effect. I feel very uncomfortable crying in front of ANYONE, but I often run to a closed space and wail. And I've never been such a crier.

I also have a high libido but lately, I'm not only scared to even think about sleeping with someone else, but also feel guilty for even considering a rebound or having fun (we don't talk anymore)

I don't even have friends or family who care. No one ever asks me how I am faring or if I need a hug. They don't even call to ask how I am. I've never felt so alone. It's a very dark path to take, but I had to take the call (there was a lot of abuse, gaslighting, and more involved)

I wish someone showed the slightest bit of care or concern. Divorce itself is a time when one feels unloved. It gets worse when you know you don't have ANYONE who cares. The one person who you thought did, you've lost that too. 

Am I having too many expectations from those around me for wanting them to care for me, call me or ask me how I am? Is this even normal? I feel the only thing that may help would be pot/maybe other intoxication/drugs (I don't think I'll take this route though).",3.5440576705616276,4.7415122928759885,4.508981341877122,86.84400725593667,72.50923482849605,7.208480964945345,24.089803995476817,7.5804360353943165,0.976192536750848,1465,40,307,17,28,476,192,379,0.136,0.746,0.11800000000000001,-0.8135,1,1,1,0,4,0,55.0,4,3,2,2,36,14,0,2,22,0,36,2,1,4,6,67,67,32,1,7,13,1,5,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,17,16,0,1,14,1,0,4,10,4,1,3,15,6,35,9,30,47,6,31,0,1,1,1,31,7,0,15,18,205,52,0,0.0,0.0844614770188251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07383011876215577,0.0,0.11401372909424155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0706959071789604,0.09968874121606408,0.0,0.0,0.06345907031537436,0.19992652395022176,0.0,0.0,0.05481403003220218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15565026773647953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2911612292138526,0.0,0.2907206401038763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349108121515148,0.0919463003183638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08266836846349243,0.0,0.0595497585129008,0.16037283649335268,0.06313765695375123,0.0,0.0,0.2824997879171392,0.2579267024336472,0.0,0.0,0.0640666714739995,0.0,0.06720147892113537,0.0,0.14417604902835848,0.0,0.06844511012121124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05507488062457186,0.0,0.07448730101304389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09556212808709852,0.07531688070441757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07835312254819303,0.0,0.0804129739975021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07781637476901868,0.1212085020605404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07227215103262971,0.0716157103351334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05285717997637282,0.10995930514959147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06984450267213241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14491438371297186,0.10843143404622754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062243613546672925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07136906605543157,0.0,0.05680519052591164,0.06489550068988319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29483986964239184,0.0,0.07133682630513072,0.07266643193161701,0.12079968277696483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059597740267455825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21439083112129206,0.057296459974949025,0.0,0.0,0.08152100445150573,0.08276777972500128,0.04735881560900247,0.09135354124810482,0.14007497882139208,0.05659260118568923,0.04156705786201244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352715005302823,0.042045943350760916,0.056582988707321674,0.0,0.0,0.06409408607430586,0.06608222888254227,0.0,0.0,0.08197462857478148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07264585651173018,0.05063906372741847,0.0,0.0,0.04590542492190505
divorce,brd_knock_life,2020/01/11,"How can I figure out how much child support I will get in Louisiana and make sure I don't get the shaft?  

I  will start off by apologizing because I'm sure these types of posts are  not allowed, but I figure it won't hurt to at least try.

My  ex is incredibly crafty and will do almost anything to get out of  responsibility. He also just graduated law school/passed the bar, so he  will soon be a lawyer and would most likely have a few tricks up his  sleeve to ensure he comes out on top. I just want to make sure my  children will get exactly what they are entitled to. We have twin  toddlers together. I have a full-time job and gross around 2100/month.  He will soon start pulling in about 5,000-6,000/month (at least). He has  a job offer and will be moving to VA soon. I will remain here in  Louisiana. I was planning on hiring my own lawyer, but I'm not sure if  one is truly needed or not. I also just used one of those online child support calculators and with our incomes, it says I'll only get $50/month. That can't be right. Anyone know where to get some legit info online as to how much my children would be entitled to?",4.237057971014494,4.740847430434783,5.268260869565218,84.60210144927538,70.34782608695652,8.046376811594204,24.89855072463768,8.021203637495839,1.1534724637681162,879,22,190,11,15,290,132,230,0.031,0.8170000000000001,0.152,0.9771,4,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,2,0,1,2,16,10,1,0,6,0,28,1,0,7,5,47,47,17,0,5,10,1,0,1,0,11,0,1,0,4,6,13,1,0,4,1,0,3,6,3,0,2,1,1,18,7,29,31,8,25,0,1,0,0,17,16,0,5,6,124,24,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12507005594395335,0.0,0.0,0.1997661640202024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873335061792202,0.0,0.10278267230027104,0.11118814505849632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07613833590112723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075909338135953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3915329103733032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13370883260037858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24788943719552306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0686421839492657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0610201958569129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16674443658406465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2990837531784541,0.1327497272747608,0.18363284017630926,0.092612321065979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16927195684046906,0.0949926461080838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11962038958271225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066645552351891,0.0,0.099326086924245,0.0,0.1264062237923992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17681078274887968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834717744272981,0.4708699024981966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08479940830854316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078741428933421,0.0,0.0,0.07366969647005843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17745181375550473,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,blondeambition41,2020/01/11,"Community waste? I am getting a divorce an my husband and his attorney are accusing me of community waste. Wasting marital assets. He was the spender. He even got a loan on his own after he told me I had to move out and is trying to make me responsible for half. We live in a community property state. I have not been able to talk to my lawyer yet.

What in the world is he thinking is community waste? I looked it up and I did not have any crazy purchases, loans, I didn't give anything away. We had a little clothing online business a few years back that did we closed but we got most of the money back. And we were joint owners.  I only spent normal money while we were married. He was the spender and racked up credit card debt on credit card that had his name only so its not like I charged anything on his cards. But I know we have a community property so I may be responsible for some of those credit cards.

I live  in Reno, NV.

This divorce is going to be a fight. I don't understand this community waste. In the answer and counterclaim says I should reimburse the community for plaintiff's community waste. I am the plaintiff.

Can someone help me understand this better?",1.9764247491638791,4.552902943478267,3.8156521739130436,83.46224080267561,82.6086956521739,7.016722408026756,24.933110367892976,8.139509932561175,1.8282508361204013,927,37,179,20,26,311,121,230,0.10800000000000001,0.774,0.11699999999999999,0.4936,1,0,0,0,3,0,23.0,7,0,0,1,6,6,1,0,15,0,27,0,0,1,0,32,40,11,0,2,5,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,9,15,0,0,5,0,13,2,5,1,0,1,15,2,31,5,23,21,4,23,0,0,1,0,27,14,0,3,7,128,40,4,0.17702465250962768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203828341405426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2913524110749936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16632048832801247,0.2722420614004505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15656391938896955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11692311342334848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09248807451319338,0.16981817734835233,0.1006071895559394,0.0,0.28316557224343425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11865589305767922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09728811942467393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864853033556174,0.1774252078595296,0.3126320228159634,0.0,0.14865612331007558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11816533016913125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18814919015754866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17344657356683946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692704505398508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14077710892493922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14999241360469698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14228571011258165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11343024938598904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16915464169777028,0.0,0.1201881188506603,0.0,0.0,0.3685778127444108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11399807223498322
divorce,ahlehsunlee,2020/01/11,"Why can't I do it? Stats: Me (34f) husband (41m) Filed March 2019, haven't submitted financial paperwork so everything is just waiting. two step children: 17f lives with us full time, 10f here every other weekend. Married 5 years. 

I am miserable. I know for my mental health and now physical ( I'm losing my hair due to stress) I need to finally go through with it. I am just so scared of what will happen to my stepkids and to him. It's so much easier to just tell myself ""tomrorow I'll submit the papers."" But then all heck breaks loose and I wake up to an empty house and $500 out of the joint bank account. He is currently getting unemployment but I haven't seen a penny for that in two months. I work swing shift  in a pretty crap environment where one wrong move can cost me my life.  

I used to cry. Then I'd get angry. Then I had a blissful period of not caring. Now I'm back to mad and I am so infuriated with myself. 

I know i deserve better. I know something is deeply wrong with me to believe all the stuff he tells me that is wrong with me. I just feel so guilty. Who will pay his bills for him  ? Who will pay for the kids? He tells me all the time I'm throwing away the family, and at the time I know it was HE and his drinking and blowing money and disappearing for 16-24 hours that is the problem. But later on I feel bad and end up saying I'm sorry.

Money is a HUGE thing. We came in not having much, but in the past 5 years there's been a house purchased (in my name only, he had issues making him not eligible), $30k in my 401k and a small savings account, all from me. I know, I know, teamwork and you are a couple and what is yours is his, but I'm the one walking away down 50% and he's going to walk away with way more than he has contributed. I really lost my stuff when Christmas came and went and I spent $1600 without getting one penny of his unemployment money to help cut the cost. 

I tried going to a therapist for a while but my schedule doesn't really allow appointments. I have 4 vacation days to last me the rest of the year, and one request off a month. Currently January, February and March requests have been used for doctors appointments. 

I'm sorry this is so disjointed and all over the place. I've started writing this probably 20 times and I end up discarding it each time.

I could really use some positive thoughts of ""It gets better"" and stories of people getting their confidence back, and maybe even telling me this financial ruin will bounce back and I won't have to work swing shift in a steel mill til im 80.",2.381643162393164,4.151803194230773,3.9616666666666696,87.24111111111112,76.67307692307692,7.314529914529915,23.863247863247857,8.167268648758528,1.320935042735042,1991,64,419,35,45,663,260,520,0.171,0.762,0.067,-0.9946,6,0,2,0,0,0,64.0,2,2,1,6,20,18,3,3,26,0,35,7,3,5,5,75,73,41,0,3,14,2,3,0,0,5,3,1,0,2,20,34,1,1,9,2,13,12,9,14,0,6,12,5,57,4,58,55,12,76,0,4,1,0,35,24,2,1,38,270,77,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21615975411386765,0.1769107872498425,0.06403336602362228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08640393407408319,0.0,0.1356530341248126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17542700800762429,0.07819107820926474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0612311256925462,0.08485658207527229,0.0842409156252913,0.04945902951147134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07849597871909096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07512749583676541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13585004411263102,0.0,0.0,0.05065335345812212,0.0,0.06461505578924068,0.0,0.06892447840016946,0.0,0.07229698025187709,0.0,0.07755404446998435,0.0,0.0,0.08401069662492995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20033811073843685,0.0,0.13075493930495133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0678171578752422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08151841769401673,0.0,0.0,0.051404027099226715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07552469660193775,0.1769810858908183,0.0,0.0,0.08283890259827917,0.08004495954260504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528825664768828,0.06251299508780478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05416876975463377,0.0,0.0,0.06771911853171032,0.0,0.0,0.08579705535944745,0.08371674255191168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05119150577081248,0.0,0.07704591742541092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07728598848058127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224272544695246,0.08150986706454405,0.11275268656842972,0.05686503568480061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078698763917552,0.058326582775973086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07320976211945578,0.0531675380330993,0.0,0.08012525212152903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07802181153280972,0.08268533243776738,0.07338245338533579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14738969856306294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060987365529419274,0.07678057152967896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05904009539956135,0.0,0.17169747707487013,0.05428193222427518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08784871122996195,0.0,0.17558455409415974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681235169877705,0.0,0.0,0.08904358404511481,0.05094976199637621,0.0,0.0,0.06088369238310513,0.22359424298572955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05206781693852485,0.0,0.1498309542866094,0.0,0.0922492315676486,0.19870791211658528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060873351045832975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07109286392532957,0.06920124984610503,0.0,0.0,0.07392690747277207,0.0,0.1116631980511494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25154707543742016,0.0,0.14815850717784726
divorce,Leslina,2020/01/11,"Contemplating divorce in Texas My husband and I have been married for almost two years and have known each other for for three. For the past year I have been for of a mother than a wife and have been contemplating divorce especially now since he is unemployed and unmotivated to find a new job. Would I have to pay him alimony though, because of his bad credit everything is in my name 2 car one is leased and the other is being payed off and we rent an apartment. Please help.",5.742210144927538,6.619843293478258,6.166086956521743,78.16514492753625,67.15217391304348,9.1768115942029,29.46376811594203,9.2995712137729,2.399059420289855,381,13,73,7,6,123,62,92,0.078,0.841,0.081,0.0772,4,0,0,0,2,0,5.0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,6,0,14,0,0,0,0,13,14,7,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,8,0,0,2,0,4,1,0,1,0,3,3,0,8,1,13,9,1,10,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,1,5,55,10,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733049361533322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278892903375033,0.1663786177692564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452963422804095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494576079726097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18294254985457176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708458323396284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2636022842524325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849477918901923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26054730168371104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29960062424850675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257746185895196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681572115373416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666177960281681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19388516404947653,0.0,0.0,0.3515223302568837
divorce,firmchica,2020/01/11,"Sexless Marriage - cross posted from Dead Bedroom I have been married for 17 years and I really don't know what to do at this point.  My husband is a great guy, and we are truly best friends.  He is a recovering alcoholic and is not interested in sex very much.  We have had penetrative sex maybe 5 times in 10 years.  He says he loves me but there is no physical chemistry between us anymore.  We are able to hug, but I don't want to kiss him or anything else after all we've been through sexually.  

This past spring, a much younger man at work was flirting with me.  During that time, my husband had a drinking relapse (I was really upset about the relapse) and I decided to flirt back - not the best choice, but someone was giving me attention that I wasn't getting at home.  We began an emotional/texting affair.  I felt horrible about it and began talking to a sex therapist to process all the things going on with me that were leading me to cheat in this way.  Nothing ever happened physically, and I ended it this summer.  

My husband and I continued to work with the therapist, but it wasn't working, and the chemistry was nil. As a last ditch experiment, we decided to open up our marriage.  I went on some apps and immediately began meeting people.  I got involved with a much younger man who had just broken up with his gf.  We started a sexual relationship. My husband was incredibly hurt by the fact I was dating other men (even though he agreed to it initially with the therapist and me), and we decided to separate.  I moved out and continued seeing the man.  He turned out to be a user and didn't care about me at all in even a basic way.  It was devastating and awful to be used in this way and very confusing.  I moved home after 4 weeks and ended it with the guy.  Honestly, that was one of the lowest points in my whole life - being used for sex and moving back home.

Now I'm back home, and the shame and guilt have eaten me alive this winter.  We are seeing another therapist, but we still don't have that chemistry, and I feel like my option is to stay married and not have sex or be single and deal with the world of dating and all the bad stuff that would entail for me.  

My husband has been my world since the year 2000 and the idea of leaving and starting over is devastating to me.  I can't imagine someone else caring about me the way he does, but I also crave physical intimacy and sex.

I don't know what to do and I'm feeling so low and down about this.  We don't have kids.  I feel like we've tried everything, and the sex between us is just nonexistent.  I also feel so much shame about sleeping with the other man and the emotional affair but have tried to handle myself with integrity, honesty, and not cheating.  But this is eating me alive.  I'm afraid to stay and I'm afraid to go.",4.9572101449275365,5.639868126811596,5.909565217391307,80.00427536231884,68.81884057971014,8.959420289855073,30.18840579710145,9.075114841892004,2.4352731884057968,2194,82,430,39,36,726,237,552,0.128,0.762,0.109,-0.9501,1,0,2,0,0,0,58.0,13,0,0,6,22,27,2,7,30,1,50,16,1,3,6,98,83,48,1,2,16,5,5,2,2,1,2,1,5,8,27,55,4,0,13,1,0,8,14,12,0,1,25,8,56,15,67,53,13,69,0,2,2,10,49,24,0,5,32,307,83,4,0.07338847617236302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07842996216747138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11737747576102515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0769542161258379,0.0,0.0,0.07278164829117251,0.0,0.0,0.06039246278643255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16929362452878158,0.06127631216522553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540333560674486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14964888508653273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756602964565314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06422275005464853,0.0,0.0,0.07189276736423708,0.0,0.07509473257748908,0.12261330967685972,0.08255215787506462,0.130000814069876,0.0,0.0,0.0969447927372854,0.06638407826745588,0.0,0.0,0.06595683026745898,0.07178801184106763,0.0,0.0,0.1484296745189194,0.10485748408249412,0.07046444597538329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05669975464278136,0.0,0.03834244980240863,0.07040091357493769,0.08341672449370198,0.0,0.058695468559924475,0.0809110540641107,0.0,0.14533225906085373,0.0648971871100561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2944585013259041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07856388159908165,0.08284665672257645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066477445974238,0.0598214031099102,0.0,0.07770779980709762,0.0,0.0,0.05183645107562628,0.07170780492539734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06623596502296826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07372858839677478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340010077066927,0.21579589669192573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07041822218553011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049729930763084886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07005760458568981,0.050878328907008136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387516624694188,0.0,0.07028587372458757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09402907411069583,0.0,0.0,0.07879175853861703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058361461850010815,0.0,0.0,0.11696222774266525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06070770586536595,0.0,0.07344147645217099,0.0,0.12436363541247294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10388948232642488,0.15644470190455045,0.05860813187100845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08401224717826437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05898687724127603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3408387090096812,0.04875604258695637,0.0,0.07210380522570099,0.0,0.0855868212611935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09965191594987724,0.07982558804409258,0.0,0.0,0.1765546015012268,0.12676816071238287,0.0,0.1211063574103726,0.04328642467631241,0.23300942573293845,0.05886780886082745,0.0,0.0,0.06803185265946082,0.0,0.08193561279286599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16028305411803906,0.0,0.0,0.05213306785459994,0.0,0.0,0.14177931755788736
divorce,wut_why_me,2020/01/11,"Told a week ago, paperwork getting finalized today, she moves out tomorrow. I'm a 35M and she is 32F, married for eight months today. I've started writing something several times and just didn't know where to start... so here it goes.

After we got married, she immediately wanted to try for children. I was hesitant to jump into it so fast but figured it could take a while so sure... we can start trying. Immediately the sex was unromantic, I felt like just a sperm donor. I conveyed my feelings around this to her and it did improve somewhat. Fast forward to August/September when we found out she was pregnant. I was happy but still reserved as she immediately wanted to go out and buy baby clothes, bed, furniture, changing table, car seat, etc. I wanted to wait a little bit longer and do due diligence on purchasing as we had a good bit of debt ($20k). Unfortunately we got the news in October that it was a miscarriage, I took a few days off work to spend time with her and be there for her but I constantly kept getting pushed away. It wasn't until mid-November that she was medically cleared to have sex again, so I was patient around that. I tried initiating a couple of times but she would always say she was tired, had a headache, or would look at me with revulsion.

Fast forward to the first weekend in December, she asks me if she can go shopping with a male friend and help him pick out some clothes for work. I'm hesitant as she had only met this individual in July, it made me uncomfortable but figured I was just being paranoid and there was nothing to it so I agree. The very next day she goes out on a girls night, I had other plans for the evening but had planned a romantic night for when she got home. She texts me that she is going to stay at one of the girls house for the evening and if I'm alright with that, I said I would strongly prefer not to as I had plans for us that evening. She decides to go ahead and stay there anyway despite me straight up asking her not to. I was giving her space to enjoy her time out on a girls night, but something just didn't add up mentally and felt off. When she texts me that she gets there, how she was talking to me completely changed. Everything was very matter of fact and long delays of response with no words of affection when I told her I was going to bed. Alarm bells were ringing in my head, so I decided to just take a quick look at the phone records... which is where I just get crushed. Turns out she had been texting this guy over 10,000 times (literally) in a month. While she was out with the girls she was taking 45mins-1hr to respond to me, but was responding to him in sub-2min intervals. I couldn't sleep that night and was crying for most of it.

When she got home in the morning, she acted as if everything was normal. She asked me how my night was and I said horrible, then talked to her about how I was feeling. She was initially empathetic and assured me there was nothing going on. That night I asked her why she was texting him so frequently and if I could see some of the messages. In the messages that night she had sent him several selfies of her all dressed up for the girls night and he was also at the house post-girls night. Several other spouses were there which she never told me or invited me to, she said it was just an honest oversight. Looking at some additional messages they came across as extremely flirtatious. I told her that the quantity, frequency, and content of the messages made me extremely uncomfortable... especially since she was telling him feelings that she never expressed to me. I said she didn't have to cut off contact with him but if she could make sure to not send any selfies and limit the contact, which she agreed to.

Things improved immediately, our communication improved between us. We went to her company Christmas party, I took her out on nice dates, and we spent Christmas with her family.

The Friday after Christmas I had prepared a romantic night in... I had gotten her flowers, gone shopping to cook her favorite meal, and prepared a bath with candles for when she got home. She saw the flowers and was initially happy but quickly her demeanor changed. She poured a glass of wine and a couple of minutes later said we needed to talk. She told me she had been thinking of getting her own place and had been researching divorce laws in the state where we live. I was absolutely floored. She suggested marriage counseling which I immediately agreed to and that night I sent her some contact information for various marriage counselors to see if she liked any of them. She said she reached out to one she liked. That night things seemed to be back to ""normal"" as we talked about things and made plans together for things she wanted to do. Fast forward to NYE, where she says we were invited to the house of the group of people where she went post-girls night. I told her we already had plans to attend one of my coworkers parties, but if she really wanted we could go there after spending some time with my coworkers. Once we get there how she behaves towards me completely changes. She starts drinking a lot of alcohol, and for the new years kiss she pushes me away extremely quickly. The individual she had been texting was at the party and she was spending a lot of time around him and was very flirtatious with touch which made me uncomfortable. When it reaches 1:30am (I'm the sober driver) I tell her I'm extremely tired and we should leave soon, she states she doesn't want to leave and that I should go ahead and go and she'll stay there tonight and Uber home in the morning. I tell her I'm not comfortable with that and we should leave together. She storms off and starts talking to another girl when the other guy enters the room. Shortly after she has him turn his back to her and she immediately flashes her tits at the other girl... and the other guy can clearly see it in the reflection. He turns around and sees me and immediately walks outside, the other girl looks at me and sees how hurt I am and through body language/hand gestures can see she is encouraging her to go talk to me, and the wife is giving dismissive hand gestures. I walk up to her and tell her we need to leave because that made me EXTREMELY uncomfortable, where she started chewing me out how we always do what I want and nothing she wants to do. I tell her we're leaving because of her actions that night.

When we get home I try to talk to her about what happened but she completely shuts me out. When she is talking she is cussing at me, chewing me out, saying the dates I take her out on are the type of things a fifteen year old does, that I need to start acting like an adult, and I should be fine with her flashing other people. She tells me I should sleep in the other room and I immediately start bawling my eyes out. I go for a walk and talk to a couple of friends because I'm absolutely devastated and have no idea what to do. The next day I also talk with friends and family because I fear she is going to want a divorce. On January 2nd she texts me to say that she has nothing else to give and she wants a divorce. I'm extremely devastated at this point and that night I talk to her asking if she really wants to do this and is marriage counseling completely off the table... she states it is. I asked her if she had talked to anyone about her decision and some of them are mutual friends and her parents, I reach out to the mutual friends if they had heard from her at all and they said they haven't heard anything since the miscarriage. I come from a broken home and her dad is in HR, so I reached out to him for advice (they are also pretty close). We spent two hours talking about what is going on, and he had no idea any of this was going on (neither did her mom).

Over that weekend she changes her paycheck to a bank account in her name, looks at apartments, starts packing, and goes out drinking every night. One night in particular she came home tipsy and was pretty verbally abusive towards me, saying I never put in any effort and how I made sure that she couldn't move in with her parents. She said I needed to get a lawyer to get this over with as soon as possible, and started running up purchases on the credit card. To protect myself I remove her ability to use the credit card and move my own assets to a separate account (as we had been using joint accounts). During this week she tells me she signed a lease on a new place and would be out this weekend (the 12th), and that if I didn't have divorce papers ready for her by the time she has surgery this upcoming week (week of the 13th) she would get her own and see me in court. At this point I engage a lawyer, have the paperwork drafted (including a settlement agreement), and today on what would be our eight month anniversary she signed and notarized the papers. Throughout her packing and preparing to move out she has wanted me to help her sell her car (that I paid for even before we got married) and get a new one, getting verbally abusive when I declined. She has tried to demand that I help her pack, and become cold/distant towards me (which is to be expected considering).

I start seeing a therapist/counselor this week... I've been barely able to function since the start of the new year. I've started to break down crying while I'm at work, lost 20lbs, have to force myself to eat anything, and have just been constantly blaming myself for how this turned out (which she has already been doing to me as well). I know I'm not perfect and have my faults, I could/should have been there for her more after the miscarriage... but it's also really hard when you are being pushed away. Her mom called me recently and told me what her reasons for the divorce are; how there was little to no communication, the marriage isn't what she should/would want, and that she was done putting in all the effort. I've been reading books starting January 2nd to figure out what I have done wrong and could have done better and made lists of things I've done for her. It was like getting hit by a brick wall. I drove half an hour out of my way from my commute to/from work to take the dog to daycare (even though her work was literally two blocks away from the daycare and on her way), I did all of the house chores/cleaning, I did all of the laundry, and I did all of the planning for date nights. I came to the slow realization that the only times she seemed to be really happy with me is when I took her to concerts/events she wanted to go to, and that she never liked going to the concerts/events I enjoyed. I saw how she has been isolating me from my group of friends, and once I started becoming friends with people from her bridal party how we stopped hanging out with them completely and she made new friends. I found out from a female friend I've known since college that my STBX cussed her out a few weeks after the wedding, and how she should never talk to me ever again. I came to realize I married a narcissist, and that the person I fell in love with and thought I was marrying apparently didn't exist. It's been extremely difficult in such a few short days to come to this realization, but I'm done letting her manipulate me. Even though my life is in a million broken pieces, it's time I start to put it back together and focus on myself. My emotions have been all over the place; being depressed, sad, lonely, angry, pissed, numb. Sometimes I feel like I'm on autopilot and I'm just a shell of who I was. But with therapy and time, hopefully I can move on and heal.",6.212712397183744,6.328382039982232,6.247087859941037,80.64736482438781,66.00577521101732,9.30899532867547,32.42397654914314,9.0124134603493,2.565769110025174,9136,346,1795,140,132,2897,639,2251,0.077,0.8140000000000001,0.11,0.9978,6,2,6,0,5,0,243.0,27,1,8,21,99,56,2,2,112,1,176,27,8,27,21,355,360,172,0,53,42,7,9,7,9,13,7,16,12,15,93,173,9,7,28,12,19,61,26,13,1,12,148,41,343,43,311,180,30,343,0,5,16,5,323,134,2,26,152,1296,436,16,0.02214943087031525,0.052486907359169215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02164416749859259,0.01963413404634924,0.02367100552830449,0.0,0.0,0.048884895491765036,0.07085156745848857,0.036860201676029235,0.0,0.0,0.06024949011265105,0.023225609511979915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.015487397064443768,0.0,0.03645418870489958,0.07887075770649105,0.12424036746216473,0.0,0.08324047766935815,0.051094635409495735,0.0,0.05400834989983819,0.04892461240771842,0.018847534287969692,0.0,0.0,0.019589371650386333,0.0483628837161681,0.024603024465160824,0.0,0.0,0.02261704537342386,0.10133219295971713,0.0,0.0,0.11715580475534335,0.03815954690026893,0.11611628428484184,0.04787133208267192,0.0,0.1061071094061204,0.07352377190728683,0.04866021950778678,0.05713820213862325,0.0,0.01907727235272354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.01938311621699353,0.11333278949238182,0.0,0.04339601975301655,0.0,0.022664397391811232,0.01850300733925645,0.024915128497213213,0.0,0.0,0.02470247035803185,0.08777694116151327,0.020035428301048847,0.018661850805360758,0.0,0.039812960525384335,0.0,0.041761024351334025,0.024924267637436597,0.044797671055858086,0.01582355783941877,0.04253385426020249,0.02426361886280268,0.0,0.01884029458324815,0.0,0.048571415399862296,0.1540133581173002,0.0,0.1504381247940181,0.06374325710644793,0.20140851195895795,0.0185778917413906,0.1062895395360502,0.0,0.0,0.0657942566705186,0.019586668569001,0.07073544308533218,0.019841539468203884,0.0,0.022731706183904243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04453888986722316,0.0,0.15552379581992204,0.021999382571867454,0.04362545548835351,0.1022298775393196,0.02371142385209796,0.050008022829188564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024345495897330958,0.0,0.0,0.11726524583159127,0.0,0.022649293734751656,0.01564479806019515,0.07574765178587298,0.04439909719266062,0.01955835325487336,0.019601549318287337,0.09299971727176544,0.0,0.02417872027396313,0.0376613081095971,0.019990726131977343,0.16766661632260654,0.014784917099084862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.022313221363530776,0.02232141671553894,0.0,0.0,0.0518822914728132,0.053038393208366834,0.11770669851968145,0.0,0.06569408934367711,0.08541503278143697,0.10696029178195167,0.047112342020789816,0.3741433277075005,0.04340347896689498,0.08501190517408601,0.0,0.023242101763080933,0.04717684199532578,0.0750451379475104,0.03369128053691109,0.0,0.0,0.04918864354613035,0.0,0.0,0.04606687947612633,0.01934002869258369,0.0694243229802895,0.0,0.0418767430023987,0.024970155293137914,0.042426064211119933,0.0450678681184926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06679888721557015,0.0,0.0,0.022155424820873282,0.0,0.056757970336463175,0.022773303917186242,0.02186989085718597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16855344741041972,0.08807058220566763,0.0,0.0,0.1412018296572742,0.040328019979778716,0.0,0.0750676568958455,0.0,0.0732889524073114,0.0,0.04433085384879084,0.0,0.0,0.03410342801450757,0.02190635349022264,0.0,0.2508396987600669,0.07082503869661033,0.01768856410462001,0.018517915993445027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06262672940257484,0.0,0.08326807741897008,0.2492402293924187,0.13551705199437813,0.0,0.025329804542246696,0.0257171964076712,0.08829058602499917,0.01419246094687825,0.04352340674256341,0.01758417399559347,0.14207062387634076,0.05091502494503879,0.0629852118002565,0.14815311272715306,0.0738264980405234,0.07519004817058328,0.09636888167086527,0.04327355104423088,0.0,0.05328607629899455,0.03825999337636239,0.0,0.05482680043219585,0.18290031478988625,0.03516237450742395,0.10660162446655518,0.0,0.01991499839212441,0.041065488644868836,0.01998641623687256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08062524736018993,0.0,0.0,0.11014024134438087,0.024216925580779973,0.0,0.04279052184859916
divorce,farfrominteresting,2020/01/11,"Selling wedding band/engagement ring Okay, here we go.

I'm not technically divorced yet, but...I see my jewelry box and there are those two. I can't stand to even look at them. They remind me of 11 years of emotional abuse, belittling, gaslighting. But...I also have a really hard time letting go of things and I obsess over losing the smallest things (think of a hair tie or something). 

I'm thinking of taking the big step of getting rid of those rings, but don't have the courage yet. Not because they mean anything to me, but because they won't be there anymore. On the other hand, I could use the money. I'm still not getting child support and this divorce thing has set me back over $10K.

Any suggestions?",3.364782608695652,5.4014387391304375,3.9442753623188413,87.26684782608696,74.65217391304348,6.6289855072463775,28.16666666666667,7.492282038375204,1.6318579710144931,558,23,108,7,12,176,95,138,0.10099999999999999,0.847,0.052000000000000005,-0.6732,0,0,1,0,3,0,27.0,1,0,4,1,9,5,0,1,7,1,10,2,2,1,0,15,25,7,0,1,6,0,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,7,4,0,0,3,0,2,3,6,2,0,1,0,7,12,3,13,21,0,16,0,1,2,0,10,5,0,1,6,68,19,0,0.0,0.22328838089418612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15070741045345082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12815587518707133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18689673928289688,0.0,0.0,0.15508242307033496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14491027682889995,0.0,0.22976086057763934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504659977933585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21198653080639016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244727625607544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969199382657422,0.0,0.21420666027185267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16881868051345075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19270802494885586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15825475218899065,0.2108329611187074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052827629632803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12072911071464687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15017425063605655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14508188055721935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505004214569574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21385652204976224,0.0,0.0,0.14169472062678504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3756034217603209,0.2415087331434323,0.0,0.0,0.10988963698178074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840931697897084,0.0,0.0,0.1627646284352439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12135885337154602
divorce,1985throwaway85,2020/01/11,"Afraid of the unknown New here. I am seriously considering a divorce. I am in no means bashing my s/o but I am to the point where everything he does causes me to get angry. 


He has undiagnosed ADHD. I say that bc our therapist basically told him what I have been saying for years and he has yet to get tested and treated. We also have custody of 2 of his children who also have ADHD. I am in no means hateful or spiteful about that because they needed to be removed from their mother's home. We have 5 kids in our home (youngest 2 together/ toddlers) and at time I feel like the only adult. His laziness and the amount of time it takes him to complete tasks drives me insane.

 We work diff shifts. There is no reason why when I come home, I should be prepping and cooking dinner. He could at least have it prepped so I can cook it. Or times when I do that and clean the kitchen and give our youngest 2 baths (other 3 are middle schoolers).  I have no time left for myself. He pulls his bs frustrated act to get out of doing stuff. 

I am at the point where my sympathy is low because he is an adult and needs to get treatment. It can be exhausting dividing my attention and time.

On top of this, he has done some things that married men should not do. Nothing physical but you should not be meeting other women, having convos, saving pics of them in your phone, and some other stuff.

He promised me therapy so save our marriage  and that he'd stop that other stuff. It took him months to get a therapist (he promised to do it to show more initiative). And essentially it was me leading the charge to find one. We have only gone to 3 sessions. Just last week I found out he'd met someone and was texting her. He claims he felt guilty and stopped before I found out. I found out because she texted him and I just happened to have his phone at that moment.

One minute I am afraid that I am giving up too soon and the next I am like no, this is not fair. Just some advice please.",2.3953009845288307,4.39683842531646,3.386888185654012,90.32300457102673,77.40506329113923,6.110407876230661,24.136779184247537,7.054809383877858,0.8506694796061876,1538,52,320,17,36,492,204,395,0.12300000000000001,0.797,0.08,-0.9466,0,0,0,0,1,0,42.0,8,2,3,3,17,15,3,2,11,0,45,5,0,3,0,60,69,26,0,6,10,1,2,2,0,3,1,2,6,6,27,25,4,2,10,4,0,8,8,8,0,2,12,4,53,7,38,47,6,48,0,1,0,0,55,22,0,5,20,223,80,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230518146845997,0.09068173713375692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14842204525083005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16970753168134872,0.0,0.07896479040056745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09532974496060123,0.0,0.07993779389709645,0.09729758715969378,0.0,0.0,0.07409214671661751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08120869743485225,0.09496520691823193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08340141567270498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04692177039329403,0.06629535243655255,0.08910122765313135,0.0,0.08481625719253091,0.0,0.0,0.30524668993098697,0.0,0.0,0.2424172432872512,0.17804178378470045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08206151290483507,0.0,0.0,0.09161942476968213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2792537456074479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07564326070040964,0.0,0.0,0.1008259717999942,0.0,0.0,0.0906734362659467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021698033432951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07407097287264885,0.0,0.0,0.1376180012812283,0.0,0.08962548514514668,0.09869238479980147,0.0,0.0,0.08904277836901807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12576549267538564,0.1411550638548004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10186501749866164,0.17544938151159398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09541243661229863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14759437405593162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07862796930617254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15516760258778886,0.0,0.0,0.3186966529516217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06977301306350879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10612330907616642,0.2154926997870702,0.061651279448416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705581069907782,0.0,0.0,0.0886730578951921,0.1031026809609238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07443745517536624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08373632035308266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06755850034829276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05975926854726212
divorce,SalemArchie,2020/01/11,"Ugh So my ex (31) and I (28) broke up in October 2019. We still are living together & were together for 7 years.
We’ve got 3 kids together (5,3,1)and his son from a previous relationship (9) which I have have taken care of since he was 2.
Ex keeps going back and forth about moving. He has no where to stay until his apartment is ready. He wants to mend things. I’m waiting on therapy. I don’t feel like I want to mend things..
Ex has had alcohol addiction during our relationship and some scary things have happened as a result. He went to detox in October and is much better now and I am very proud of him. He will have a few beer occasionally now.
I was the one for many years watching all the kids on my own as he would go to work then leave to drink then come back and say very hurtful things and I have no idea how to get it out of my head. He says now that he just wants his family back, but I figured after the lying, hurtful comments, sending another woman explicit messages, and trying to harm himself in front of me a few times that I could never trust him in a relationship again. He says he loves me but after putting me through a lot it’s hard to believe. I’m glad he’s working on himself, he’s becoming the father the kids always needed.
Now that he’s been in therapy and is a more active father, I’ve been able to leave the house more. I go visit friends! But he makes me feel crazy for not wanting to get back together and gets upset when I do want to go hangout with friends when I’ve not really been able to do that for years but he spent years partying while I stayed home.",3.071376146788989,4.359722596330278,4.342392660550459,87.22668990825693,73.80122324159021,7.800807339449541,25.31241590214067,8.364918446050245,1.4511808929663608,1247,40,269,21,25,411,174,327,0.11599999999999999,0.774,0.109,-0.0782,0,0,3,0,0,0,37.0,2,0,0,4,17,15,0,1,13,0,25,7,1,3,3,43,53,24,0,8,7,6,3,1,2,2,3,3,1,4,11,14,3,2,4,3,1,11,6,6,0,1,11,7,28,9,40,39,9,49,0,3,1,1,47,12,0,2,25,165,39,2,0.1826667841006896,0.0,0.0,0.09956687864987963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09760761984363088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07599669875137606,0.09895969212786046,0.0,0.0,0.09577102506994062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809189632515064,0.0,0.0,0.10087055581942614,0.0,0.1029014565403412,0.0,0.08077696313915173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09312048024681856,0.0,0.0,0.07867563004015407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07292228168644957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08947195322383368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08610099356133252,0.0,0.09236181456406052,0.06524859353004096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14112790427164318,0.0,0.14315378309869434,0.0,0.20762748592422686,0.0,0.07304765708680958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0807658169569606,0.0,0.08181677957064648,0.0,0.09373440992789824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09161483909609912,0.0,0.0,0.10538647177014937,0.1955485703840784,0.10310428248615004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08118131537022091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19341774936114825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04462088192796769,0.0,0.08064905848576599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764838380819543,0.08243195221913949,0.0,0.060965748409017466,0.09259772419631997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09707294156490254,0.06714055211178238,0.06772255292412216,0.07044194247424472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061889870180078535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918152854627516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05851050967261545,0.0,0.0,0.2941736474828305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178959376370976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07555192571727648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946984872623436,0.07293896487155753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20889538718722794,0.0,0.24271138929001204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05325723538823872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06200937792087341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15071922729628992,0.26935400498942275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08466696946076893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329835943762007,0.0,0.0,0.06488062122952906,0.0,0.0,0.2352628399901532
divorce,toolsroaster,2020/01/11,"Feeling helpless, like my life is over. I don’t even know where to start.. I’m a 33/m working through a divorce right now. I wanted so bad to make things work, and keep our little family together. But my STBXW wasn’t having it. I tried to recommend marriage counseling, because at one point, we were really happy. She will not communicate on anything divorce related (what we are doing as far as getting lawyers, or just going to a mediator, etc.)

This process is dragging out and she is just putting me through hell. I try and be so nice, and still continue to do everything I can for her and my son. But as stated, she wants nothing to do with me. I just feel like my life is over, and I don’t want my son having to grow up in two different households; the thought of that kills me.

Somehow I need to be strong, and quit texting her. I’ve told her I missed being there with her and my son, etc. But I’m thinking it’s making me look desperate.

I guess it may just be time to go no contact unless it involves our son, or the divorce process (which she won’t communicate on AT ALL). Do you guys think that is my best bet?

Thank you all for any advice.",3.0534239389604174,4.398235489270392,4.24631616595136,87.67407129232237,73.93562231759655,7.4095374344301375,28.395088221268484,7.984000788550335,1.7063497377205532,891,36,190,13,18,292,140,233,0.091,0.794,0.114,0.56,1,0,0,0,3,0,36.0,4,2,0,5,12,12,2,0,5,0,24,2,0,2,2,43,48,19,1,4,11,4,2,2,0,3,2,0,0,1,10,13,0,1,6,0,1,4,6,5,0,2,4,3,35,7,29,37,5,24,1,2,1,0,26,14,1,6,7,137,45,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414063470675179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09840595982802887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11908181870254456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208245923307369,0.0882122570777678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518614354760935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15118838074840302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3227738925140052,0.09557783952048626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130053634869624,0.0,0.13641721040330598,0.0,0.14633676766623346,0.10337895933531704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07560361749326752,0.0,0.1644810429083994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15941145983044094,0.14328302677700866,0.0,0.15404366427352076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286225410603168,0.16009724194916744,0.0,0.0795273748138539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20442216079181968,0.14139340294633498,0.1450347800976423,0.0,0.0,0.1215177280305877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19318655880976895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10729866601037656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13885060454160925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09805744501862174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13679521874517686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454708545992526,0.0,0.15391407848159894,0.0,0.0,0.09270323347811464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12357928573210335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10242460671992844,0.0,0.11556347616819088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13322708529494665,0.0,0.0,0.09613713294861384,0.18544525295574046,0.0,0.11488147146699905,0.08438001914903011,0.0,0.0,0.1382740736623795,0.0,0.19649358282455084,0.0,0.1413580535773058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25605643176770715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21069734765933296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,the_hite,2020/01/11,"How do you handle seeing your kids a certain percentage? I was a 24/7 mom who is soon to be 50-50.  I understand this is better for the kids, hes a good dad who will now have to be more present. But how am I gonna handle 4 night away from all I know?",1.3949999999999996,1.7223989824561414,3.6306578947368418,94.41335526315792,76.71929824561403,7.1035087719298255,21.267543859649123,7.1686216300943375,0.22830175438596445,190,4,50,2,4,66,44,57,0.0,0.8390000000000001,0.161,0.8053,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,2,0,1,4,3,0,0,4,0,10,0,0,2,2,7,14,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,7,3,5,9,2,5,0,0,1,0,9,1,0,0,4,35,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3645669583077973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3431810022095183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32546115416747545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21325114022146247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4544560464300354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3641398692680377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092096717063752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4039529147694888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ler330,2020/01/11,"How to not search for intimacy right away when you had a very lonely and intimately anorexic relationship I (27f) and my husband (31m) recently decided over a month ago  it was best to divorce after a very long and painful marriage. We currently live overseas with the US Military and can’t file until we live in the states again so we’re stuck in this awkward still living together limbo until the end of summer. We have two children which is why I’m staying here, I don’t want to take the kids to a different country - I feel like it would be even more traumatic and expensive. But while I’m stuck in limbo I feel so lonely. I got married at 20 and haven’t been physically alone for a long time, but he’s been emotionally and sexually checked out for years now so it’s been a very lonely and depressing marriage. Our therapist thinks he may have a mild form of aspergers which prevents him from connecting physically/emotionally/spiritually/sexually although he rejects that idea. 

Now that we’ve decided to divorce i crave connection and intimacy, it’s like now that I know I can have that again I feel anxious to do so even though logically I know I can’t look for that right now or until we move again and live separately which will be 8 months after we decided to divorce. 

So my question, for those who were in very lonely marriages where you felt starved for love and affection how did you not just immediately search for it and be comfortable with being lonely enough to wait?",7.285622791519432,7.3339861554770325,7.778089664310952,70.80091541519438,63.77031802120141,11.456625441696112,36.4154151943463,11.080906280650957,4.112031978798588,1194,53,218,31,16,395,154,283,0.14,0.774,0.086,-0.9179999999999999,2,11,0,0,3,0,20.0,7,3,0,1,22,14,0,1,11,0,24,2,0,3,0,47,41,29,0,2,6,1,4,2,0,3,1,0,0,2,16,20,0,2,13,0,2,1,6,9,0,1,11,5,24,5,33,23,4,40,0,7,1,1,27,11,0,3,28,154,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069933359940914,0.0,0.0,0.1250088789534023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13635673155716602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11340169592610973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266672846341303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039587998058549,0.0,0.0,0.12610589118687726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357713412949813,0.10690444290032272,0.12471544512440877,0.0,0.15944252555366525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18308875730338456,0.08622815941554958,0.115891002609095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09653487806313886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13625569572696378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13266721192474706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11793592204790615,0.0,0.4263215187081594,0.21363154058798214,0.1013576659293886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10893653230416936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926833004784233,0.12828508060240312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12843339234772214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352117102046216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191767650721572,0.12958671239058694,0.0,0.2061544132206635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12865022285801575,0.0963912377307282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09075143689901047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401420928255112,0.0,0.07733973594596671,0.11858721322319934,0.0,0.07038118577949387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11790643721803855,0.0,0.14518733171033849,0.0,0.0,0.39836081837716136,0.07119203288497336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891304616243493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574187193451079,0.0,0.0,0.07772689254169858
divorce,Nahlvy,2020/01/11,Moving back in with parents Today I packed all my crap to move in to my parents house I’m 29 with a toddler and pregnant. It feels so weird to be back home especially with my son. Any advice on how to cope and not miss my house? My parents home is definitely spacious and comfortable but it’s just not my house.,2.0073958333333337,4.026065781250002,3.504375,88.93645833333336,78.6875,6.1416666666666675,24.729166666666664,7.1686216300943375,0.9825291666666672,246,9,52,3,6,81,42,64,0.054000000000000006,0.8640000000000001,0.08199999999999999,0.2026,3,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,5,4,1,0,1,0,2,1,1,1,1,13,5,6,0,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,6,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,1,7,1,10,4,1,8,0,1,0,0,4,3,1,0,3,34,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16161491157340127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11246928320911136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25434581037802395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362497248805713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3317946246539075,0.0,0.0,0.5725054781993039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3515618269742608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5509302871760026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15676816762440834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Txrowaway,2020/01/11,"Hard time after a hard day Had a really rough day with work. 

Usually in the past my STBXW would do everything to make me feel better. I could tell her my frustrations and there would be a hot meal at home and her making sure I would at least have a good night. I just moved out this week and this whole divorce is my fault, but it just really hurts tonight. I feel absolutely alone and just empty inside. 

I still love her so much and it feels like she has just died. Knowing that I can't just go home and talk to her hurts tonight. Living the wonderful dream of sitting in my room alone eating a frozen meal.",4.561402439024392,5.12497273170732,4.604623983739838,89.4342530487805,69.65040650406505,8.426422764227643,23.50508130081301,8.472884824447931,1.0333422764227644,478,10,106,7,8,148,82,123,0.19699999999999998,0.65,0.153,-0.6437,0,2,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,0,0,2,8,9,1,0,7,0,11,4,0,2,1,26,20,8,1,4,6,0,7,1,0,3,0,0,3,0,5,8,3,0,5,1,0,2,1,4,0,0,1,7,16,5,10,14,3,20,0,2,0,1,9,6,0,1,12,67,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002029455627587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12817684451937245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11571303993714467,0.0,0.0,0.18693285783605906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15041215512866984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14829730082527515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13025174421603922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21983952140867186,0.10353643542652773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823657975833173,0.12155854632463385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596536494207363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2907487612838062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31029637322372833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07964851803497408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07080439302163212,0.0,0.12797388547965113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13080298035987709,0.0,0.193480837881172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15403529489674378,0.10653859435333964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13600490442643545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13834996551351464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856888946948056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157395128068908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13659271807615356,0.0,0.0,0.11648746028846405,0.1266732682046313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08450855435268571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15961747510053448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11625232369727985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16180669138289636,0.0,0.0,0.15716799586755098,0.10550915036643556,0.0,0.0,0.3088576114949364,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,LoosePhilosophy4,2020/01/11,"I'm a SAHM contemplating separation/divorce, how do I make money to go back to school? So my spouse is refusing to pay for me to go back to school. I've initiated talks about separation and divorce. I recently came back from living with my family for a month, and I sense he is pretty bitter about the fact I left in the first place. So he says he doesn't owe me anything. Its a really long story about why I wanted a separation, and I don't really feel comfortable going into detail. But I want to circumvent him. How do I make money, to pay for school, to finally be able to be financially independent enough to leave? Everything I'm thinking of will take some type of financial support from him, if not ongoing, at least initially. Asking family for help is not an option.",4.5543648404575565,5.913689927152319,6.564960866947619,72.44486453943408,70.25827814569537,10.788922335942203,27.634557495484646,10.832165505486646,3.318147019867549,613,21,114,20,11,215,91,151,0.08800000000000001,0.8440000000000001,0.068,-0.2187,1,0,0,0,2,0,18.0,0,0,0,1,10,3,1,0,7,0,10,0,0,5,1,23,26,9,0,3,4,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,6,0,1,2,0,5,4,4,1,0,1,1,3,14,2,25,22,3,17,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,3,8,75,15,6,0.1472189723326674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121148670360397,0.0,0.13762986603059785,0.0,0.0,0.3396069073169471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16837928476684125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521165525315604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13231091959846622,0.0,0.2775698899244623,0.0,0.07443833584657743,0.0,0.0,0.16127118818391978,0.0,0.12522438265932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510038039176109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09867777391183626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15588363495877727,0.1599538441963426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12999704974635107,0.13028415780352218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965396144122213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11750877916501147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15381249212663456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497746210382477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18862448686707944,0.0,0.14536097454935154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170744357358158,0.0,0.4469803789394437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16706234517935856,0.0,0.0,0.11069034556699907,0.11832903340543972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09433197302921006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736671283877112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132842224083902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,cloud9988,2020/01/11,"Emotional abuse criminal or civil lawsuit My STBX has been sending me vicious, emotionally abusive and accusatory texts throughout the day, everyday for the past 6 months. They have also sent texts calling my friends names and accusing them of adulterous behavior. Texts include text, music links, and images. Live in and are divorcing in Colorado. What are the legal avenues available for seeking civil or criminal actions for the emotional distress and potential character defamation incurred?",10.065887445887448,13.201991194805196,8.570844155844156,56.47150432900432,59.12987012987014,11.886580086580093,50.495670995671,11.538034831475384,7.59631774891775,410,29,43,13,6,125,59,77,0.256,0.6629999999999999,0.081,-0.9578,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,0,2,0,1,3,1,1,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,9,6,8,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,2,0,5,1,6,4,0,9,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,2,4,29,6,1,0.0,0.5049133534763599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17039441036085584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21757136779039954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374144653637249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7190353774744559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646196801783659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18814737288323435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17007284498957362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20340229924481634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,1AoxomoxoA1,2020/01/11,"Going through hard times Anyone want to help a recently divorced schizophrenic mom make ends meet this week? I'm teetering on homelessness and it's been real tough for me lately. I usually don't find myself in this bad of a spot but the post holidays are especially tough for me. If anyone wants to get me some dinner tonight, a pizza would work, I could possibly pay them back if this job as a dishwasher goes through.",6.410875000000001,7.118863337500002,6.580000000000003,76.385,65.625,10.9,32.25,10.793553405168565,3.55045,337,13,62,9,5,108,65,80,0.10800000000000001,0.81,0.08199999999999999,0.0097,2,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,0,1,1,1,3,0,0,5,0,5,3,0,1,0,12,11,5,0,6,3,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,1,2,0,1,1,1,1,1,3,0,0,1,1,7,0,10,8,1,12,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,3,8,37,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30882897311689617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698101550961892,0.18438981564950385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763205135006506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19559618793633415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018411759425537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11537830853059562,0.0,0.12550685499810502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19782673077749516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14802250247116294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191468191444088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491139509034393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14741052826144502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586418287693694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489607319313012,0.2115009673541653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25136105106019946,0.0,0.0,0.2180500670157614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12877193189944008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24322094716975096,0.0,0.2605109734629541,0.0,0.17714226003467345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16077209259848896,0.0,0.0,0.15687639205559195,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Artattack83,2020/01/12,"Did anyone else move on too fast and find you just delayed the grief? I (36f) got into a new relationship 3 months after seperating from being with my daughter's father for 11 years. At the time I thought it was the best thing in the world, I was so wrapped up in the feeling of new love. A year and a half later the honeymoon phase has worn off and I find myself grieving for my family. As soon as my daughter leaves or or even my current partner I burst into tears. I can't stand being alone.

Did anyone else go through this? Any tips on how to cope",3.5971902654867267,4.531209637168146,4.433794247787612,88.4326382743363,72.09734513274337,7.065929203539826,25.629424778761074,7.1686216300943375,1.0014787610619478,431,13,92,4,8,139,82,113,0.11,0.79,0.1,0.128,1,1,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,1,6,4,0,0,9,0,8,1,0,1,0,15,14,9,2,0,3,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,6,0,1,4,0,0,2,1,2,0,1,7,1,12,2,19,5,1,25,0,2,0,1,7,10,0,2,12,64,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919135987424758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12600948901170048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25913035765951953,0.3797208882732833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19445958271599909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095866199883241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12238806206317175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17468314932716145,0.0,0.09369260433753633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3387193603277271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10530953717244053,0.0,0.14820031991622656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19620459762818826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16723933630995988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14790367661074685,0.1969432226694302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35792533179711755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1989414874550946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12310424103453815,0.0,0.0,0.1471064917385783,0.10804917826469172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386526107846693
divorce,vroomvroomguineapig,2020/01/12,"Divorce in Wisconsin.. My wife has decided to move on and wants a divorce. I think I have all the paperwork, not sure though  if someone knows what I need and dont need that'd be awesome , we have no children, and it's just really confusing in general if anyone has help on this sub it would be awesome to hear. Thank you !",3.257846153846156,4.628522169230768,4.729230769230772,84.31076923076925,73.46153846153847,8.892307692307693,29.92307692307693,9.3871,2.6636769230769226,251,11,52,6,5,84,50,65,0.08900000000000001,0.718,0.193,0.8533,0,0,0,0,2,0,8.0,1,1,0,0,2,3,0,1,2,0,9,0,0,0,2,19,16,6,0,6,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,5,4,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,6,2,6,12,1,5,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,3,0,37,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19932674180472526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3340985250420416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3212932697363342,0.0,0.19107561595388786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566663640973026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029830333256432,0.0,0.42274982459016497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18262238082262872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.241537879656732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26867398202892184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26245306224800097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18266058440683805,0.2800786608020161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16814097142722695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20250470529969225,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,qtpiemom2,2020/01/12,"Getting through it How and what have you guys done to allow yourself to get through the process of everything. I am so sad for my children mainly. I keep thinking this is the wrong decision, but then part of me thinks it is the best decision.",5.644184397163119,6.330463063829789,5.332765957446809,84.73333333333333,67.29787234042553,8.819858156028369,36.94326241134753,8.841846274778883,3.095317730496453,192,10,38,3,3,59,38,47,0.086,0.777,0.13699999999999998,0.5725,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,2,0,9,10,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,5,1,7,9,3,1,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,32,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3347364565841797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3264142460787648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28666720267505874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3332944528714932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3158277315213601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2835127529013869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34541045524793795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4087626767793429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3487406222506861,0.0,0.0
divorce,teal_heart,2020/01/12,"This process is just tearing me up emotionally. How do I rid this pain? Afters years of trying to make it work, marriage counseling, all the lies and broken promises, I can't do it anymore. He's never going to change and I've had enough. I've tried leaving a few times the past year, but I tears me up when I see him cry or hurt. So, I would stay... I've been living with my mother for about a month now, trying to get myself financially stable again and I've been pretty happy without him tbh. He's been calling me & texting me to come back (I don't answer or reply). I filed for divorce. & I've remained firm up until today... I don't want to get back with him..But I have this pain in my heart and I've been crying most of the day. I just want to get this over with.",0.2423848238482407,2.3200506097560982,2.281626016260166,94.93234417344178,85.58536585365854,4.376151761517615,17.647696476964764,5.46131890053228,-0.5622929539295392,596,14,134,3,18,199,97,164,0.174,0.745,0.08199999999999999,-0.9283,0,0,0,0,1,0,30.0,0,0,0,1,10,5,0,0,5,0,13,3,1,2,2,23,22,11,0,3,6,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,6,8,0,0,1,0,0,2,5,3,0,0,5,1,19,2,22,16,4,23,0,1,1,0,8,5,0,3,15,86,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3153764763258313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14433264463827364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238164621836552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486085683934493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539578325658051,0.12536641152197453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3197290114322515,0.09385870568193153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16370845599754716,0.0,0.1503776332002583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281097218251556,0.0,0.08271148521583108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15492582044542855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724609077210209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15579934049967067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15410165225043776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12851098936006095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09714643657622088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11616547835857652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122463657949262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30972121449535944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13893061759775327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14806247348081591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11597338099122473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551220540870109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848632350932175,0.0,0.13795114851139273,0.0,0.0,0.2964282530695562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17168185379570086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14029154876265748,0.0,0.10595197019540424,0.0,0.0,0.1033846269386236,0.0,0.0,0.1874408759038914
divorce,da1981,2020/01/12,Conflicting Feelings I don't understand why I miss her so much while simultaneously not missing her. I wish I could hold her so tight but I have to push her away because of her offense. I hate feeling so alone. I was doing so well and then it's like it all came rushing back. It feels like it's happening all over again. Today is a bad day.,0.4914603174603194,2.906546685714286,2.446190476190477,91.37769841269842,89.28571428571428,5.396825396825397,22.063492063492063,6.937597516519254,0.6745873015873021,268,10,58,4,9,89,51,70,0.233,0.586,0.18100000000000002,-0.7344,0,1,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,8,8,2,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,2,15,16,8,0,2,2,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,3,4,0,0,3,2,5,1,0,2,4,12,3,4,13,3,11,0,2,0,0,5,2,0,0,8,42,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514352099135197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22808923220852956,0.18667418363164376,0.20270176590359212,0.1479895767830076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2776627758191799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19383109270821708,0.0,0.0,0.1565657600781861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3682535233560629,0.17343404360250908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146796039865072,0.0,0.0,0.23968388018676245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23720909718351435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784629646781612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301163889212121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.252730830588274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2182782617243855,0.0,0.2190610367314824,0.0,0.2791720816498003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,jiveabillion,2020/01/12,"Not sure how to tell her or how to split from her and have enough money to start anew. I'm 38 years old and my wife is 34. We've been married for 10 years in WV and we have no kids. 

I started a side business working from home in 2011 and had some work for her to do and I made enough for her to quit her job that only paid $8/hr. I still worked my normal job while she did that. We did that for about a year before I got a different job doing contract work that paid more than what we were doing together, which was good timing because that work dried up almost over night.

Since I still made more than enough money than we needed, I told her she didn't have to go back to work, but I would pay her $500/mo as an employee under my contracting business to do secretarial work so we could also get a group insurance policy by having 2 employees. That increased to $750/mo about 2 years ago. She has no other income. We keep our finances somewhat separate, but she has an American Express card and PayPal account that are tied to my bank accounts.

She actually has more education than I do, Bachelors in English literature, and I never went to college. Her hobby is studying and remaking historical dresses and accessories and attending costuming events with people who do the same. It's an expensive hobby, but she doesn't spend the money I pay her on it, she instead spends the money I make. It's often over $1000 per month, and sometimes $2000+ when she has an event and goes on a trip.

Her and I have almost zero interests in common any more, and the majority of things I enjoy doing are things that she won't do or can't do because of her motion sickness. Long story short, I no longer want to share my life with someone with whom I cant share my time doing the things I love, and I want a divorce.

She must have assumed our marriage would end in divorce years ago, because she's told me that she just wants the house if I ever leave her. I also asked her a couple weeks ago what she does with the money I pay her every month, and she said she hoards it. I asked her how much she has, and she said about $7k, which I thought was pretty low considering I have paid her close to $40k over the last 7 years. I asked her why she was hoarding it, and she said it was in case I left her. I think she has spent some of it supporting her mother, who doesn't work and who I have been supporting by buying her a truck, paying her car insurance, and giving her money to feed her horses (long story) and pay for gas. In the summer, she mows my lawn for about $160/mo

Everything we own is in my name, which is really just the house and cars. I want her to have the house and all the furniture and her stuff inside it, besides what I use in my one room. The house still has about 18 years left on the mortgage, and the payment with escrow is just over $900/mo. The utilities are about $500/mo and her car payment is around $300/mo her car insurance is unknown because it's part of mine, her phone bill is around $200 with her mom on it with her. Her and I together have health insurance costing us $1,100/mo. I pay $89/mo hosting her blog she uses for her hobby, and several hundred per month in food because she is vegetarian and doesn't eat food with preservatives and she buys expensive organic food that I do not eat. Basically, she won't be able to afford her way of life without a really good job, which she is unlikely to get, even though her education is better than mine and she's intelligent. She has problems with her joints that prevent her from spending much time at a computer, and her anxiety prevents her from being able to handle interacting with customers.

I don't want to have to pay her alimony because it's not at all my fault that she doesn't make any money with what she does. I have urged her numerous times to find some way to make money with her knowledge and skills, and she just never would. I don't know how to give her the house when it still has 18 months on a mortgage she can't afford without having to continue to pay on it. I need the money to buy my own house and start a new life finding someone better to spend it with.

I don't know how best to go about this, and I need help. She currently knows that I am unhappy with her, but does not know for sure that I am going to seek divorce.",7.116867760617758,5.239904647522522,7.485444015444018,79.05337837837837,65.02477477477477,10.754440154440157,32.40411840411841,9.424239791934726,2.5622253539253528,3389,100,725,51,42,1116,336,888,0.051,0.873,0.076,0.9783,15,0,0,0,3,0,95.0,10,0,0,13,33,17,0,0,34,0,79,12,0,12,8,133,129,56,0,16,17,3,0,0,0,6,5,3,3,1,46,60,6,3,10,1,36,12,24,3,0,2,25,3,141,14,103,95,22,94,0,1,0,1,119,33,0,11,47,502,187,23,0.10431742240200163,0.0,0.05089937814763136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13870665120941206,0.0,0.10445882991515866,0.0,0.0,0.08342260500603406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07093942443019964,0.0,0.039901271304094994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09286462251565797,0.1462840621934462,0.0,0.0,0.04010682934846874,0.0,0.19077279737085406,0.0,0.044383221561447715,0.0,0.05473734946869306,0.09226028284915752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04164448670104106,0.05771262186936495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05449475178926475,0.0,0.0,0.13693331899004382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10674276599030036,0.0,0.0,0.046197136598396665,0.1616816747190054,0.0,0.034450336827739965,0.04718054042387641,0.04394596377361104,0.0,0.046876886414346286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09534423420597797,0.0,0.18921156186737406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05450154766221541,0.1000707770745244,0.08892899272050024,0.0874965046042159,0.04171608613638759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055442270955368786,0.0,0.0,0.034960884659585675,0.0,0.05231944009596818,0.0,0.0,0.36110489858003003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20703789058330094,0.04636105906346588,0.0,0.0,0.11466025443171687,0.04251631115926454,0.0,0.055228544038497716,0.11334118466843328,0.0,0.11052372071284043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09231763614792796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04707527327095,0.09870766736652692,0.1044490342370946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06108765216634422,0.16653034263003036,0.0,0.07668530838193,0.11602507036473675,0.08045602712152355,0.05037520829942835,0.0,0.04894741713414199,0.051104462634004616,0.0,0.0,0.05473179336582908,0.0,0.035344092587853926,0.03966905022990402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05648280140138257,0.0,0.036160282952564266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05306416068657637,0.0,0.04990884243154446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055477209704931287,0.0,0.0,0.06682841199098533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488446357304986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05892449727024662,0.0,0.04314622489871723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838781347838512,0.0,0.05158629907258181,0.0,0.11075461274244486,0.0,0.16661605656509282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05970924546282335,0.0,0.11837817472440705,0.09831793606790264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045589012577931465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10395579022341499,0.03342119606115049,0.05124566893074183,0.04140819050901663,0.12165665580219195,0.0,0.0,0.09967976753003854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06274050744208112,0.09009675944967004,0.0,0.0,0.1538227962597957,0.08280231432637508,0.041838571960483184,0.0,0.0,0.048351647839094236,0.04706512409035058,0.0,0.0,0.10055827261963013,0.0,0.3037773036926466,0.0,0.0,0.1111561557919742,0.0,0.0,0.23511949946046964
divorce,Adarkes01,2020/01/12,"Got the news today, am lonely and scared. Today was the day.  She’s done with it.  I was trying, but it was too little too late.  She ran out of forgiveness.  I wasn’t there for her for way too long.  Communication was bad.  Our daughter is 16 months and I’m just scared.

I want my wife so much.  I want my daughter to have a family.  I wish she believed I could be a better man.  More like I was when we dated.  

It’s hard to eat.  I’m just scared.  And sad.  And tired.  I’m torn up at the idea of not seeing my daughter everyday.  She’s so perfect.  I love her so much.  

I would do anything to fix this.  But it looks like it’s too late.",-2.0272526737967915,-0.22367413970588146,0.7032620320855614,101.03104278074863,102.89705882352942,3.6491978609625666,12.79946524064171,5.565023196281405,-1.2511794117647062,471,9,118,4,22,160,79,136,0.17600000000000002,0.617,0.207,0.785,0,2,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,0,0,2,11,12,0,3,5,0,14,3,0,0,1,21,25,10,0,5,5,4,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,6,7,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,6,0,0,9,3,20,6,11,13,3,16,0,2,2,1,15,4,0,0,12,77,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281894495071849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13006551416968098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17550494077545484,0.0,0.13777021830784394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12437356242449288,0.0,0.0,0.1004619076462388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15941178133188807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15939658669061918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14685068884098207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12458739809752105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13954369098123887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17585087325108456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35144168886947624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15220747117503464,0.15612734859679386,0.0,0.13785586270701838,0.13081166236229133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14059290683172704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12433801929986628,0.0,0.2290249140912819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.46787347602024804,0.0,0.12413240738738815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790403037682165,0.29531273504684685,0.0,0.0,0.10576091500958652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18376011490087105,0.12364684530385198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17913341889123605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11065800202642556,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,MsKahlua,2020/01/12,"I too was married to a narcissist. Together 17 yrs married for 15. Your planning sounds great!  I pray that you have the to stand by your conviction to go no-contact.  While you are doing your planning, consider taking or destroying any thing of yours that he could use to embarrass or discredit you with.  If there is any negative thing that he can use against you, get ahead of it.  Divorce can be very messy especially from a narcissist.",4.5331216931216884,6.831261888888887,4.947548500881833,80.20111111111113,72.08641975308642,9.566843033509699,32.55908289241623,9.957137785484203,3.627397178130512,347,17,63,10,7,110,59,81,0.141,0.787,0.07200000000000001,-0.7339,0,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,0,8,0,3,2,3,1,1,3,0,9,0,0,2,0,7,14,4,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,1,10,1,12,11,0,4,1,0,0,0,11,0,0,3,2,47,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4239035323078011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488495664506884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16283892035935196,0.0,0.17713382199713595,0.0,0.0,0.34362615734869595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23434310949608614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41413010262874855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5383795384156307,0.0,0.25716703798253443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Shtekinat,2020/01/12,"I don't know what to feel Hey guys, i'm new here but anyways, my parents are considering divorce and I don't know how to feel about this situation. But before you ask the divorce is not happening because of cheating or because one of them stole money etc. but because one of them basically ghosted my whole family. They don't come home, they don't answer my calls or texts or my sibling's, when they did come home it was only for an hour for food or water and the rest of the time it was spent on their phone and they're considering buying a flat down the road to 'get away from this mistake of a family'. They were fine a week ago and my parents weren't fighting at all and seemed pretty happy up until now recently.

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But... to be honest i'm happy they're going to be gone, for a year they have been toxic to me and my sibling, calling us names, forgetting me at school and not making food for me yet barring me to make my own food. and it's even worse for   my other parent, they have stopped emotionally supporting them, calling them worthless but demanding money from them to go shopping for clothes for themselves and calling the other partner a slob when they can't clean as soon as they come home from work to clean a whole house while (the abusive pos that i share have of my DNA with) sits on their butt all day on social media, sharing facebook minion memes while complaining about the struggles of society and how they have to clean the house and pick me up from school (did i also mention they didn't have a job but instead saying i'm a 'stay at home mommy' while the youngest child is 12 and fully independent but hates them?)

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so yea. I also kept it gender neutral so that way noone takes bias in the comments and sorry if you think this was a rant (it was) but i needed to let off steam, hope this doesn't get buried!",8.143937020460356,6.2399513125000015,7.762679028132991,77.96377877237853,63.04891304347826,10.28925831202046,34.690537084398976,8.4952907291091,2.6301762787723795,1465,48,292,15,17,465,188,368,0.129,0.777,0.094,-0.8981,4,0,0,0,4,0,37.0,1,2,18,1,17,15,3,1,20,1,27,6,1,6,2,54,55,40,1,4,15,3,2,0,1,0,0,1,7,3,14,17,5,2,7,2,5,6,10,7,0,2,13,3,41,8,47,39,7,41,0,1,0,1,45,13,1,7,19,204,55,4,0.0,0.09644155317757798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07215309409522264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13018551777120246,0.0,0.1763861671135801,0.1978113355937051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07609474824779648,0.0,0.07647469966883058,0.0,0.0,0.14885566927926142,0.0,0.06926243407183381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3324597456923249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21034765564092586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05249401457695693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09156011701917924,0.0,0.0,0.0907786237946629,0.0537616265637743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15346676927139336,0.0,0.08231304134192692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29527494554048384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08505263293113624,0.0,0.0925190237614247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08059534110793239,0.07197866414352233,0.17329619490746803,0.0,0.08036220112304439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3265893410017759,0.08084509950872518,0.08015916534356657,0.18784128589590485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077347555226498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894667853508721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08323344529359257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10866560370037733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060354480094777285,0.0,0.07861325566156678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11031276219126138,0.061905713005465976,0.0,0.0,0.2711435720431145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08280951228478843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08036923294634414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06472977101924329,0.0,0.16475522543699395,0.0,0.07410032480694094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09149308656076503,0.0,0.08297349048011447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911167278596166,0.0,0.08675784850524139,0.0,0.06805112626654931,0.0,0.08509330434384124,0.0,0.0,0.09236779388627396,0.0,0.0,0.061200044890763736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05215559635711494,0.0,0.0,0.047462959004863685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09790997830845152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06460876019427401,0.06529136980425441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18175259105174774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05925762802166526,0.0,0.08294999662799153,0.0,0.0,0.1978113355937051,0.052416683143706684
divorce,throwaway-brk11,2020/01/12,"Moved for my spouse, now divorcing, not sure where to go I've been married to my now ex for a little over a decade. We went through a ton together, but it's always been kind of clear that we weren't suited for each other. Today it finally reached the end; she sat me down and said it wasn't working out. I agreed and without getting into too many details we made our peace with it.

Emotionally I'm pretty torn. If I could flip a switch and this whole divorce process would be behind me I would probably be relieved, happy, mixed with a bit of sadness. But as it stands the process is still to take place and so those feelings are being overwhelmed with fear. There's SO MUCH to figure out.

For starters, I am from Europe but I moved to Canada to be with my wife. I'm not a very outgoing person, and as a result all of my friends are through work or via online channels. I currently live in Quebec, while my work is in Vancouver (I work remotely). So my entire support system is distributed over the world, none of them local. My wife and I are ending things on good terms but it's not like she can be my support system.

I'm torn on where to go from here. Do I move to Vancouver? Do I go back to Europe? I am bringing my dog with me and there is no way I'd trust his life to the hands of airline operators, so Europe is kind of impossible. I've also always been very interested in small house living, so I'm considering maybe buying an RV and living in that, while traveling around. None of these options are simple though.

During this process my ex will still be living with me in the house we bought together. We agreed to try it for 2 weeks to see if it works or if it would be too painful. But the idea is that she would move out asap and I would take my time. So far it's a double edged blade, it's painful seeing her around the house, but it would also be painful to be in an empty house. I do think it'd be easier if we ended things cold turkey, but logistically that's not an option.

I'm not sure why I'm posting this. I guess I'm hoping for people to give me some perspective or options that will feel less like ""maybe"" and more like ""of course!"".",3.2118565747977503,4.3921571855203645,4.2901974496092175,88.16006101741398,73.29864253393666,7.167530508706981,24.25366790072673,7.5764669431780325,0.9703942684766212,1684,48,362,20,33,549,209,442,0.10300000000000001,0.779,0.11800000000000001,0.919,1,0,0,0,1,0,49.0,7,0,1,5,23,22,0,2,18,0,41,5,1,2,4,73,70,37,0,12,20,5,3,3,1,8,4,1,0,1,26,29,0,0,5,2,2,10,11,6,0,0,10,7,43,16,59,40,13,57,0,2,2,0,24,25,0,13,20,250,69,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12063229065396562,0.12551678732447916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13428581059017955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057996015526289635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08234292697519928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060219527111288626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08484128524941009,0.2004085011172564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487240595596045,0.07627277517321274,0.0,0.0,0.08262275706714743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05827200864331145,0.0,0.03940566551598202,0.07235309341604149,0.12859473875993,0.06326165296479512,0.0,0.0,0.08308748805640345,0.0,0.0,0.08028971774742308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07491255332275219,0.0,0.3481143676339376,0.0,0.0851439503931267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15708393656614097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05327384825821376,0.1105443362514876,0.07559416099660356,0.2664013276417241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07136753892228948,0.0,0.07646759034036213,0.15154608577703926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3206529747094533,0.05544495049602473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407677637664748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05228915787211219,0.06585689057244068,0.07880150393868432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07223486357190614,0.07673281426285844,0.08131928920340238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0717450198637264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020552802919884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12046660831152448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711793869228573,0.14217151141927745,0.0,0.11341817015734812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002160433652774,0.04832833303347768,0.07410320534539769,0.0,0.04398004911755622,0.0,0.0714926585192042,0.0,0.0,0.05120760525454135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12446457220561645,0.0,0.05986766325456878,0.06050018185021675,0.0,0.0,0.0699183397030327,0.06805797695386598,0.08420764370042598,0.0,0.07270556205619877,0.0,0.2745460297487618,0.0,0.0,0.3214721403750224,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,oneydasodapop,2020/01/12,What should I have ready I have a 30 min meeting with a lawyer tomorrow. What should I have ready for this meeting?,2.955217391304348,4.8901473478260895,2.7471739130434787,95.84945652173916,75.52173913043478,6.339130434782609,24.54347826086957,7.1686216300943375,0.7373652173913037,91,3,20,1,2,27,14,23,0.0,0.762,0.23800000000000002,0.6124,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,15,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,solargrayson,2020/01/12,Scared of divorce at 20 I’ve been married for almost 2 years and I’m 20. I haven’t been a great husband. I haven’t cheated or anything of course. But I feel like I haven’t given 100% that my wife has. I’m changing as much as I can this year. Working as hard as possibly. Saving for a vacation. Getting in shape. My wife deserves the best and I need to give it her to.,-1.0731363636363618,1.0044160499999997,1.4063636363636398,97.93318181818184,94.75,3.9090909090909096,21.022727272727273,5.565023196281405,-0.08962499999999984,284,11,66,2,11,96,55,80,0.098,0.762,0.14,0.6369,0,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,0,0,0,2,0,6,1,1,3,0,7,0,0,0,0,8,14,8,0,1,2,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,2,9,4,12,11,2,5,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,2,3,40,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708500128348085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22258475781124976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28385559781169784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861355290471221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13676451344445953,0.19323336574081806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14131639130763232,0.259472284698557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29820885822790044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422999613506105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13214450658304366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988363911060131,0.20055998344337936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049293464421764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27080102859904875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19691510681984234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3483648301484873
divorce,Z_3r0,2020/01/12,Is this a scam? Googled affordable uncontested divorce and [This](https://thedivorcecenter.com/new-york-divorce-center/) site came up. They offer divorce by mail where neither of us would have to go to court. Some to someone over the phone and they said with their fee + the court fees or would come out to just under $900. Seems fairly affordable for a NY uncontested but just wondering if it's too good to be true.,5.983599999999999,8.252344093333335,5.333000000000002,79.09150000000002,68.06666666666666,8.200000000000001,29.83333333333333,8.841846274778883,2.3951333333333333,337,13,60,6,6,102,60,75,0.032,0.8640000000000001,0.10400000000000001,0.7351,2,0,0,0,4,0,20.0,1,0,3,0,4,2,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,1,17,11,5,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,6,0,0,2,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,2,1,4,2,13,6,2,9,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,5,0,39,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3432544587640119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585246452356715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17056368697759336,0.25172431340561163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2898553440322751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28548046121271603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732156931940901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542885771484602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3610043905186256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3254646180404169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4263897112097694,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,itssatisfactory,2020/01/12,Just found out recent ex has moved on I just found out that my ex-husband has a new girlfriend only a month and a half after moving out of our home. He told me to hurt me in the middle of the day while I was at work. And yeah it really really hurt. The worst part is that I was just starting to talk to someone that I really enjoyed and it threw me for a loop and I basically destroyed that blossoming relationship. I’m so mad at him because he continues to destroy my life! Feeling damaged and forever alone today.,3.3445,4.680350914285718,5.149702380952379,81.5188392857143,73.19047619047619,8.29761904761905,27.410714285714285,8.841846274778883,2.124071428571429,406,15,81,8,8,139,67,105,0.231,0.7070000000000001,0.062,-0.9678,0,1,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,1,4,8,3,0,7,1,5,1,0,0,0,14,12,7,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,6,8,0,0,3,0,0,3,0,7,0,1,6,1,12,1,15,6,2,20,0,3,0,0,9,8,0,0,9,58,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863750290148404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096964966693152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11605354750171552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09098866347306676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3946141007837666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18050558670807573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3852826657270902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12710475631898155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436352202259469,0.382518998964166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737978562643403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13686089095691126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19486946318941897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34584377316754,0.0,0.17767996348881426,0.1932000949367453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524719502014448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12737028732870131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14463784657695114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17057256490342926,0.17195095062113205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13100651576894462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,batooni7590,2020/01/12,"What if he wont sign the divorce papers? I filed foe divorce back in May and my spouse said he wasnt signing and then proceeded to say he wasnt able to respond until Dec. 26.  It is now Jan 2020.  How long can he keep pushing it off. The lawyer says it needs to go to court, but I don't want to keep paying $$ only to have my spouse keep delaying it. ?!",2.6738461538461564,2.655905871794875,4.2606666666666655,92.30100000000002,73.61538461538461,7.2656410256410275,24.57435897435897,6.742157984588678,0.5846020512820504,270,7,67,2,5,91,55,78,0.053,0.9470000000000001,0.0,-0.4469,0,0,0,0,2,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,4,1,1,0,2,0,8,0,0,1,0,14,15,7,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,5,2,0,4,0,0,1,2,4,1,0,0,3,3,4,0,9,10,0,11,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,2,7,36,9,3,0.2606568168360286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20042900276180672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14813727584661626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6950512657834762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306730805082073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19327372691338165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982412548498113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2479443226215141,0.41456952549315534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537421439551443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,diaryofladybee,2020/01/12,"My stbxh is now seeing someone else I knew this day would come, and I have been preparing for this day, but nothing can prepare anyone for this day. 

It’s been very difficult. Any words of encouragement? 

I have been working on myself and being the better version of myself. I’ve actually been really good the last 3 months and finding out just reset me. I commit to continue working on myself, always. It just hurts a lot, and I’m reaching out to our community for support. 

Thank you in advance",4.0867021276595725,6.2013593191489385,5.437180851063832,77.00875,72.82978723404256,7.67872340425532,28.77127659574468,8.472884824447931,2.407472340425532,392,16,67,7,8,131,66,94,0.073,0.7070000000000001,0.22,0.9413,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,1,0,4,3,7,0,0,3,0,10,0,0,0,1,16,16,5,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,5,1,11,5,12,9,2,14,0,1,1,0,3,5,0,1,7,50,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.2109724450452199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17988926666650287,0.0,0.0,0.14701814016991374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15116664444663244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912044720545973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18623047612567686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41827833872285786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18060087954148846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975957953067383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18133179796147264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314382697014055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17622553449586342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18379891561858813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725625873904251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20744228984555055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384982880864879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17227722878639304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18317898764548585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453323976686011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19904077288154887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17838124363514296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3147810584414005,0.0,0.0,0.15357676801238407,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,AspiringToBeHuman91,2020/01/12,"I (M28) left my husband (M27) a week and a half ago when I caught him cheating. Again. And I’m just starting to realize how unhappy I was. TLDR: just venting 

I spent two years being criticized for every decision I ever made. I didn’t cut the broccoli right. I didn’t fold my clothes the right way. I put the wrong oil in the pancakes. And why did you use that mix??? And those pancakes aren’t going to taste good! 

And why do you always misplace stuff? You know if you would just put it in the same spot every time you wouldn’t have this problem.

And why do you never have sex with me? I mean sure, I’m not going to get off my ass and do anything remotely romantic or initiate play time EVER, but come on! 

And you never want to spend time with me!! I mean, yes, you suggested every vacation, every concert, most of the activities we did together were your idea, but that’s not enough! How dare you get engrossed in a book or play something on your phone instead of hanging on every god damn word that fell out of my mouth. 

How dare you not wipe the sink dry every time you used it. Or not pick up your socks. 

And because of all this, I don’t love you anymore, and I’m going to take all the energy I should’ve spending on fixing our marriage and devote it to all the people I can easily find on Grindr. Therapy? No, too expensive. Why do we need therapy? I’ve already given you my demands, you’re just too stupid and lazy to meet them. 

And I’m going to drag you through this shit hole because I’m too big of a coward to end it. I’ll make you suffer and think it’s your fault because I don’t dare tell you that this never stood a chance. You were just a play thing for a minute. A way for me to live another fantasy: marriage. But now it’s played out, and I’ll just squeeze the life force from your body until you can’t take it anymore. Until you pack up and leave. 

Wait, where are you going?",1.9915345268542204,3.6871087800511546,3.3809335038363173,91.30572250639388,77.56777493606137,6.441432225063938,22.753196930946288,7.285733465282438,0.713554475703325,1467,44,321,18,34,480,193,391,0.135,0.769,0.095,-0.9456,1,0,1,0,0,1,52.0,3,25,1,0,19,17,5,0,18,1,22,8,4,8,9,74,54,29,0,6,17,1,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,18,23,1,1,8,7,4,11,15,9,0,2,12,4,52,8,37,39,6,50,0,1,0,3,38,18,3,5,19,205,70,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0799544805791608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09953498376816343,0.0,0.07505139447690637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09457975280606064,0.0,0.0,0.17890300624829575,0.0,0.0,0.07422470774505356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16495034437164516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10018888722795924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769700319720578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07988805213225507,0.09319794118459493,0.0,0.0,0.1631772767986413,0.4559707856530153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08243871496812058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09424875222848254,0.0,0.2563060732632371,0.07565323130280645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101821793633981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049570087336628016,0.0,0.0,0.09550593673568024,0.09799965037051236,0.0,0.06370903344735755,0.0,0.0,0.07964588465096611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140660140698698,0.08534688356316952,0.06020741043494535,0.0,0.0,0.1965026440054536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06688016871784752,0.20869719734733985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06253146368668677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08630665230818887,0.0,0.18134643534499492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15405603419141994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09258625118159136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06943830235731123,0.0,0.0,0.06384212621642038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10325435006457084,0.0,0.0,0.08500990516369933,0.0,0.1356343165049751,0.0,0.07883643190150064,0.0,0.20629698876111852,0.0,0.059923090479350766,0.057794799631546274,0.0,0.0,0.21037912685910126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08810967390743205,0.0,0.0,0.15580304637565548,0.0,0.0,0.05320071533246632,0.14318886603474906,0.07235084821326758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3255562022925443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06407358711375556,0.09861660827335954,0.0,0.058084115823315886
divorce,Dietcokeisgod,2020/01/12,"I miss her I miss my ex wife. I miss her kisses. I miss her holding me. I miss her presence. I have a partner and he's great and everything, but he isn't her and it hurts. I miss her so much.",-3.6780555555555563,-2.7432318863636365,-0.2742424242424253,105.73641414141416,117.86363636363636,2.8646464646464653,13.979797979797981,5.033348758259628,-1.3371232323232325,143,4,39,1,9,50,25,44,0.297,0.5920000000000001,0.111,-0.5927,0,1,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,1,9,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,5,8,5,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,7,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,8,1,0,0,7,0,1,11,0,0,0,0,25,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4666223538106798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5724184492129178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5558129947665749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3816708172934765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,struggling2nite,2020/01/12,"I (M28) left my husband (M27) a week and a half ago when I caught him cheating. Again. And I’m just starting to realize how unhappy I was. TLDR: just venting 

I spent two years being criticized for every decision I ever made. I didn’t cut the broccoli right. I didn’t fold my clothes the right way. I put the wrong oil in the pancakes. And why did you use that mix??? And those pancakes aren’t going to taste good! 

And why do you always misplace stuff? You know if you would just put it in the same spot every time you wouldn’t have this problem.

And why do you never have sex with me? I mean sure, I’m not going to get off my ass and do anything remotely romantic or initiate play time EVER, but come on! 

And you never want to spend time with me!! I mean, yes, you suggested every vacation, every concert, most of the activities we did together were your idea, but that’s not enough! How dare you get engrossed in a book or play something on your phone instead of hanging on every god damn word that fell out of my mouth. 

How dare you not wipe the sink dry every time you used it. Or not pick up your socks. 

And because of all this, I don’t love you anymore, and I’m going to take all the energy I should’ve spending on fixing our marriage and devote it to all the people I can easily find on Grindr. Therapy? No, too expensive. Why do we need therapy? I’ve already given you my demands, you’re just too stupid and lazy to meet them. 

And I’m going to drag you through this shit hole because I’m too big of a coward to end it. I’ll make you suffer and think it’s your fault because I don’t dare tell you that this never stood a chance. You were just a play thing for a minute. A way for me to live another fantasy: marriage. But now it’s played out, and I’ll just squeeze the life force from your body until you can’t take it anymore. Until you pack up and leave. 

Wait, where are you going?",1.9915345268542204,3.6871087800511546,3.3809335038363173,91.30572250639388,77.56777493606137,6.441432225063938,22.753196930946288,7.285733465282438,0.713554475703325,1467,44,321,18,34,480,193,391,0.135,0.769,0.095,-0.9456,1,0,1,0,0,1,52.0,3,25,1,0,19,17,5,0,18,1,22,8,4,8,9,74,54,29,0,6,17,1,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,18,23,1,1,8,7,4,11,15,9,0,2,12,4,52,8,37,39,6,50,0,1,0,3,38,18,3,5,19,205,70,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0799544805791608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09953498376816343,0.0,0.07505139447690637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09457975280606064,0.0,0.0,0.17890300624829575,0.0,0.0,0.07422470774505356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16495034437164516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10018888722795924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769700319720578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07988805213225507,0.09319794118459493,0.0,0.0,0.1631772767986413,0.4559707856530153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08243871496812058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09424875222848254,0.0,0.2563060732632371,0.07565323130280645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101821793633981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049570087336628016,0.0,0.0,0.09550593673568024,0.09799965037051236,0.0,0.06370903344735755,0.0,0.0,0.07964588465096611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140660140698698,0.08534688356316952,0.06020741043494535,0.0,0.0,0.1965026440054536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06688016871784752,0.20869719734733985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06253146368668677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08630665230818887,0.0,0.18134643534499492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15405603419141994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09258625118159136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06943830235731123,0.0,0.0,0.06384212621642038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10325435006457084,0.0,0.0,0.08500990516369933,0.0,0.1356343165049751,0.0,0.07883643190150064,0.0,0.20629698876111852,0.0,0.059923090479350766,0.057794799631546274,0.0,0.0,0.21037912685910126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08810967390743205,0.0,0.0,0.15580304637565548,0.0,0.0,0.05320071533246632,0.14318886603474906,0.07235084821326758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3255562022925443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06407358711375556,0.09861660827335954,0.0,0.058084115823315886
divorce,deabag,2020/01/12,"Wife said she talked to a lawyer and is going to tell 13 &15 y.o. kids today Is there a ""best practices"" timeline? I'd think the kids should be told after the papers are signed or terms are agreed to. Part of that is deciding what is real.

She threatens divorce all the time, so reconciling is alot harder to do from that context.  I don't really feel that I should try to talk her out of it, based on what I interpret as conviction on her part. The threats have felt manipulative in the past, and it would feel the same again. She is angry and seems to convey disrespect all the time. I will not miss the way she has been acting for five or more years. Long story short, she completed two advanced degrees, started earning more than me, and started the attitude in full effect then.

My position is I'd like her to do what she wants, as she is no fun to live with. But truth be told, my ideal process would be waiting 4.5 years to get the 8th grader through high school is best for me and the children. I'm an active parent.",4.979095022624435,5.4872624901960805,5.280000000000001,85.1573076923077,68.70588235294117,8.237707390648566,27.457013574660635,8.139509932561175,1.5622832579185522,804,24,166,10,13,255,128,204,0.062,0.8109999999999999,0.127,0.9252,1,0,0,0,1,0,27.0,0,0,0,6,3,8,1,0,15,0,25,0,0,2,3,35,41,12,0,6,4,2,3,1,0,5,0,1,0,3,8,7,0,1,9,0,0,3,3,2,0,2,5,4,18,6,25,28,12,25,0,1,0,0,22,8,0,4,14,117,26,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688449826970453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3270742238265136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16338792820524325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575876869320417,0.0,0.14962411105729495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08141630701884105,0.0,0.08856348103582423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646461128201832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07613212890072774,0.0,0.13760338772040762,0.13790729493511486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17303409702022302,0.33750389098526834,0.1487602245904168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17737206210012146,0.0998306055813479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14823286164089625,0.0,0.0,0.15771130833771208,0.0,0.14186450405509274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22059878888034248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25050531368273343,0.13620490440875674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998514895876226,0.0,0.0,0.18173494266738985,0.0,0.14771145619230727,0.2978102055776533,0.0,0.10580037303043273,0.0,0.15222619064042234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09191433670399438,0.12369297633249456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22139857417339825,0.0,0.0,0.20070267647999185
divorce,Yo2018me,2020/01/12,"I feel uncomfortable w/myself Hi!
31 y/o here. I signed the papers literally a month ago after my 5,almost 6 years husband told me he wanted a divorce. So far I haven't done that bad. I live in the states but I came to my hometown in a different country to stay with family for a bit. I'll be going back soon and will have to figure out where will I be living. Although I didn't want the divorce my decision (after 4 days of trying to explain why it was not a good idea to split up) was to go with it. I had a lot of pressure from him and the whole process was done in literally two weeks. He was in a rush.

Anyways. The reason I'm writing is because I love love dancing and I went out last night with family and since I am single I danced with some guys but I really just wanted to dance. The guys, on the other hand wanted to kiss like literally all the time.

I was with my stbx for 8 years. Pretty much my whole maturing life, all my twenties. And went I went to bed last night I did feeling I missed him badly for the first time and idk if it's because I just don't want to deal with the whole people hitting on me and trying to kiss me. On the other hand, this is going to sound weird but I feel uncomfortable with myself after last night. Like dirty!!! And I don't like this feeling AT ALL. I just danced (it sS reggaeton) and I didn't let anything that I didn't want to happen happen, but I still feel like an ew feeling!

Besides that, I started freaking out because I thought... What if I never want to kiss anyone else ever. Not Santi g to reciprocate the kissing thing made me feel I was never going to be able to do it again, or have a connection where I felt comfortable with a guy again.

Someone else with a similar feeling??? I feel like an alien!",1.2664581430745798,3.2861395232876736,3.235399543378996,89.92484969558598,81.16438356164383,5.808980213089802,21.645738203957386,6.937597516519254,0.5448797564687982,1366,42,292,16,36,460,172,365,0.09,0.721,0.188,0.9925,1,1,0,0,2,0,43.0,0,0,0,1,14,19,0,1,24,0,28,9,2,2,6,68,65,18,0,9,12,1,12,5,0,2,1,1,1,3,14,22,0,0,16,4,0,13,10,6,0,2,21,13,43,13,47,37,11,57,0,1,0,6,17,15,0,5,32,203,57,1,0.07992744658478587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07085085885124454,0.0,0.08003579225892446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05588712905778062,0.08189511441476018,0.0657734782794691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06145927279685829,0.133472158653244,0.14616908873504278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08726007064341372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09141570597826976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0515465908145082,0.08240168782651204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08350716999127171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16358705614593874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13353825111130466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07229895136861347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15069696655910889,0.0,0.3637234668989543,0.11420036762086,0.0767428830188045,0.0,0.0,0.06798624523406385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18169843929145266,0.06703935006330015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23742221488256765,0.14135915410096034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09022835839198767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954546102223696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08173122938312871,0.056455119258249885,0.19524256555027453,0.0,0.14115479934613898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06795145685384693,0.14427528223725966,0.07562928252333341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06379732531165591,0.0,0.058755869809690914,0.0,0.12328994835394375,0.0,0.0,0.22501948255830173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05541162765782386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08131494761246029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0512035689414528,0.08217872698659053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06611680976237788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06772226611692131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05657305807702132,0.08519202337422017,0.06383016208910175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05310024397293631,0.0,0.0,0.06345346460589997,0.0932126737261752,0.0,0.0,0.07637410042723751,0.0,0.10853097931136564,0.0,0.07807750140111253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3300029519110863,0.0,0.06411297650105806,0.0,0.0,0.22228063122875405,0.07212208862372416,0.26770841921472033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10294131015265956
divorce,ArtisticPlatform,2020/01/12,"After one year... I am doing marvellously. In January 2019 my then-husband and I filed a joint petition for divorce. In April it was finalized.

It was a year of growth for me. It took some time for me to get into the groove of being single again after 3 years being with my ex (dating and marriage time included). 

I went for therapy, I reconnected with old friends, I made new friends, I moved into my own place, I got promoted at my job, I revelled in my hobbies, and I began dating again. 

Now I'm in a relationship with an awesome man who respects me and loves me, and there is no fear of a dead bedroom anymore. I'm so thankful and happy.

To all those who are newly divorced, hang in there. It's hard to trust me when I say that you'll get better, but try.",3.4924675324675327,4.459797337662341,5.194675324675323,82.75487012987013,72.37662337662337,7.937662337662338,28.285714285714285,8.296473431620573,1.9014493506493508,586,22,120,9,11,200,98,154,0.05,0.7909999999999999,0.158,0.9224,1,0,0,0,2,0,25.0,0,1,0,2,7,9,0,1,6,0,9,1,0,1,1,15,20,9,1,0,1,1,1,0,2,1,0,1,1,1,8,11,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,1,0,1,7,2,21,8,23,10,4,32,0,0,0,1,13,9,0,1,18,86,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18326708029985908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634362460819586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20794586021978653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20243399605018286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855444670758093,0.0,0.19309562209196665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477975204240355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19671781700703897,0.16554010945554304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833806194209548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16678478992451282,0.17485758893962816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964079429201924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17847625621343904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19391136841992104,0.0,0.12522194026169242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930715447332245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19840077654321567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14695647826624386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17013449731302924,0.2113292984715465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155110142866504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20531415226008126,0.12546374059404214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17130690630156833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3570059511676658
divorce,coffeewineandwhine,2020/01/12,"Family accused me of substance abuse But no one ever confronted me. 
No. I have never used drugs in my life.
At the time i was being accused though, i had actually not had a drink in months because I didn’t want anything to look bad on me as a mom, and i wanted custody of my children (4,2). Their dad didn’t know basic self care, let alone to take care of 2 kids for the first time in his life. 

We got married straight out of college and he’d never had to take care of himself. 8 years later i had had enough and filed for divorce. Years of being treated like a mother, caretaker, but never a spouse. I’d make dates and they’d be forgotten, arrange childcare and he’d forget the date night. 
I quit. I was done. 

Well, stress of everything- learning to handle finances for the first time at age 30 (i was in a very controlling marriage- i married “up” socially and his family didn’t trust me knowing finances, etc. found out during the divorce show much much husband made) working full time after being a SAHM for the previous 4, finding a house i could afford, and the stress of worrying something would happen and I’d lose my kids- all combined made my weight plummet to under 100lbs (I’m 5’3 fwiw). 

I recently found texts that my parents and older siblings were having discussions with my (now)Ex saying some sort of substance abuse was involved. 
Not ONCE did anyone ask me my side of the divorce, my reasons, my feelings, or confront me to ask about their concerns. 
Am i wrong for taking this personal?
IMO if i thought someone had a problem, especially family, and it involved kids- I’d speak to them about my concern- not just gossip with everyone. 

This was my final straw to cut everyone off. They had only been following me on social media to gossip, never to keep up with myself or the kids. I refuse to go back to my hometown now, and am about to cut my parents off bc idk how you could do that to someone you love. 

Open to input, but honestly just needed to vent.",4.7485455952035585,5.93985446475196,5.4393501595590426,81.33050962189346,69.62663185378591,7.762846920027077,30.37317474132095,8.045849151850463,2.1734992553911607,1552,62,285,20,27,503,210,383,0.14400000000000002,0.779,0.077,-0.9751,4,1,3,0,5,0,53.0,1,2,5,6,11,21,4,2,17,0,35,6,0,7,6,62,64,20,0,8,11,7,2,1,0,1,3,2,0,7,5,18,2,3,9,2,2,2,12,12,1,3,25,5,49,9,54,28,7,46,0,1,1,1,44,19,0,5,26,201,54,5,0.0,0.20393486568989305,0.08398247965767669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08913256010354417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06017539228612264,0.0,0.07082032883452963,0.0,0.16090960537566826,0.0,0.0,0.06617509098288328,0.07185679101471372,0.05246158583694932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632327635576219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09652399166441393,0.1374243609452554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08806960960846996,0.0,0.0843063718657195,0.09980267463027746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08892333889767345,0.09598003060459856,0.0,0.07784650658980173,0.0,0.1644686900612551,0.07734548638864387,0.0,0.2433900944253441,0.0,0.043514694852755734,0.0,0.0,0.09427489831084501,0.07865759367880346,0.1464057662647376,0.0,0.1887214464391279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04891007574765195,0.0,0.06883031743895861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07610287641064196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09930208024455678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07649438640316786,0.0,0.0,0.09459302682859802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08800253069131538,0.1215739296399611,0.04204473613518393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07226901261768574,0.09627950956642352,0.0,0.0,0.07767281887786892,0.16286475333003322,0.057445946704484975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10079283268481301,0.06869254410018409,0.0,0.12652850753006306,0.06381265329296536,0.2655001655019345,0.0,0.0,0.0807618012903993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09165145576356126,0.0583167151506077,0.0654527682894158,0.0,0.0,0.1911196509713141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07514457132844801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08234812480593003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915357673328642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08848436513673079,0.08497420554982832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06843863834627655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897797060035699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17545536212722287,0.1458372973812144,0.06625345597246886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971636625016584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19412000103366808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08455384928352681,0.0683222986928873,0.20072991052060665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07432850403160203,0.0,0.07100879530352153,0.1015212391813978,0.0,0.0,0.10479831203848106,0.07737858309159505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06265295411329791,0.08739845499758844,0.0,0.06113479792456911,0.0940934742438342,0.0,0.11084007758708267
divorce,Itzyaboy89,2020/01/12,"I need advice please So, awhile back my wife and I got into an argument on my birthday. She decided she was going to go out and not be with me so I got pretty drunk. I emailed a girl that night and j though I destroyed the email. I was drunk, hurt, and confused. She also told me she wanted a divorce. So fast forward to now.. Tuesday she found the email. I didn't lie to her I apologized and I have hated myself everyday since I sent the email. Lately I have been drinking a little more in the past few months due to some stress from a custody battle my wife and I have been fighting for my daughter from a previous marriage, which we are winning. She said she wants a divorce, told me I can't come back home without being invited. Thursday night I found out information from our lawyer about my daughter, I went over to the house to tell her since she wants open communication. After telling her she said she filed for divorce, the while time she is wearing her ring, and she doesn't want me. I have apologized to her multiple times, I owned up to it. I told her to stay, I'll get help and whatever I need to do. I have set up consoling appointments already and AA. I'm showing her I'm going to change for the better. For the past week I have been giving her space. I have been sleeping on my mom's couch to let her try to cool off. Now she has this idea that I have been sleeping with other people for years. Not is not true. I could never do that to her. I am a Chaplin's Assistant in the army. So when a soldier calls me and says they might hurt themselves i have to up and leave. So she thinks I'm going out screwing around, sad part is I can't tell her names or anything due to confidentiality. She has told my sister she is numb from the pain, she told her a few days ago she would stay with me if I show proof of trying to get help but a day later sends me a text about having a civil divorce. We have gotten into arguments before but not like this. So right now I don't know what to do. I don't want to loose her and our 5 girls. She hasn't filed for a divorce, I have checked with the courts. I don't know if she is just hurting bad and needs space or what. Just looking for divorce because things have been kinda hard lately. Thank you Reddit in advance.",2.0965566407270093,3.861932805139187,3.254764715098972,92.01480179662613,77.4796573875803,5.926547239776468,22.73928030500862,6.697824305789354,0.4615472815584689,1768,53,386,16,41,570,218,467,0.109,0.835,0.057,-0.9584,0,0,1,0,8,0,46.0,4,1,1,3,19,20,5,2,25,1,47,9,3,0,3,66,86,29,0,12,13,6,1,1,0,2,2,4,2,2,11,27,3,0,8,5,1,10,14,14,1,0,23,7,86,6,55,57,6,64,0,4,1,1,80,22,1,8,32,271,97,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0812340841436129,0.07369010137774165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09173648545244313,0.0664793667047252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06840925235016583,0.07400369832214859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12784432303104576,0.06941042819899987,0.05067553234036868,0.0,0.07073786443152022,0.0,0.0,0.07352210081868307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08488545318567199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08794096148098178,0.07160949581406068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06637287585129502,0.0,0.0,0.10722448716601136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08143616335309875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822964290875754,0.0,0.0,0.08686442656038862,0.07974627362790841,0.18897973332512952,0.0,0.13297398169458846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0744685276901363,0.08207407903922034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11144113619746532,0.0,0.08338658913070847,0.0,0.0,0.09592134318125578,0.2669785013202441,0.09384412531981587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09137260938173596,0.0,0.1875494689513659,0.08802311151606418,0.0,0.08500648653554632,0.0,0.04061332404976874,0.08331851981564008,0.0,0.0,0.06980861572687468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08818823844946816,0.0,0.09736134298859063,0.06635390799870464,0.0,0.0,0.1849204588890737,0.06411530460155501,0.0,0.0,0.1560245352047882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08845662783066757,0.0,0.0,0.0900221436767907,0.15871478426368352,0.0576321660148653,0.0,0.0,0.09125223737797676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08457352289361407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709929243188495,0.15815213186790858,0.06610864646041377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13753268466065752,0.0,0.1663809112521905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17721193337124794,0.0,0.0,0.0952256150481376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21797895316182608,0.076535321656322,0.0,0.0,0.05522815707518778,0.053266616368525865,0.0816752154078457,0.0,0.09694803264126632,0.0,0.0,0.3971733931223965,0.0,0.11288019648246835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24516237725641696,0.0,0.06668220843887128,0.0,0.0,0.0770627320314531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08013475820121634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05905346511973759,0.0,0.0,0.05353326483334351
divorce,RichWright29,2020/01/12,"“Somebody that I used to know” Ladies and gentlemen my names “Rich” my life changed on the night of my 40th birthday party when whilst getting changed out of my suit upstairs at my house at the after party ....my stbxw uttered these words “14 years Ginge , 14 years” to which he replied “ok stbxw of Rich leave it not now not now “ my heart sank at the connotations of what that might have meant, Ginge is one of if not my best friend , you know the type , the best man at your wedding type, I held this new found knowledge in for a week before confronting her about it, she had made quite a point leading up to the confrontation in the week that she remembers everything that happened at my party then has a blank bit at the after party (convenient I thought )...
Then she admitted it, she slept with Ginge at some point at the beginning of our relationship....my world
Turned upside down with a million negative “boxes” of emotion ....stbxw was very specific “14 years Ginge 14years!!! Did they have sex on my birthday??
I must add that we weren’t married at the time but most definitely a couple .....I’d never have married her if I’d known this .....i moved out of the marital
Home into a caravan so my 15 year old son wouldn’t see potential arguments and have a too much of a detrimental effect on his upbringing.
Stbxw and I ran a business together which I left ...i now have a decent job a nice rented house and I’m rebuilding my life slowly , I’ve decided Ginge should not be a part of this life as the saying goes “with friends like that”....
It’s been over a year since that night , the hardest thing to deal with for me is after being together for nearly 20 years , is looking at stbxw as now “somebody that I used to know”
I’m not sure if any of that made sense but I hope by sharing this it’ll be cathartic for me in some way, the saddest thing is to see that there are groups of people just like me , hurting ,but perhaps in that lies the solution those exact people and groups picking each other up with kind words and support.
If you’re reading this I humbly Thankyou for taking the time to do so and wish everyone well with whatever problems they’re having.
I’ve read this back and cried ....I’m going to post it anyway. Take care 
Rich 41 from UK.",6.5124393939393945,6.024568577272728,6.44409090909091,81.51530303030304,65.5,9.606060606060607,31.96969696969697,8.959647251330699,2.434969696969696,1754,60,353,25,24,555,230,440,0.08,0.775,0.145,0.9856,3,0,0,0,0,0,61.0,2,2,1,5,14,22,2,0,29,1,26,6,2,7,4,68,57,22,0,10,13,1,0,2,2,5,3,1,2,1,31,20,0,1,12,2,4,4,9,4,1,2,13,4,38,18,64,36,9,63,0,1,3,1,25,29,0,9,30,234,69,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06378445532562706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0721232878720934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07981343619947387,0.0,0.1968661037144117,0.0,0.102400873104308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09563121159059552,0.0,0.1984473343912593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10378342313654873,0.10303043532904227,0.0,0.09669949515838894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055078074580457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08962603982140514,0.08429774251248323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028424064629373,0.14493302052316154,0.0,0.049004507154673145,0.0,0.05330639400112387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08294343961958127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11114864003202066,0.0,0.0,0.09408497506902347,0.09316053179689987,0.0,0.21645584202153634,0.10041049327211324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09307799709889372,0.0,0.0,0.09767403738198027,0.1546433862799589,0.0,0.0,0.09931635696844827,0.10190956281511213,0.0,0.19875253803804827,0.09164791654214527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07876496615026185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17750397187482153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995026694627534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996902398904012,0.06895080790276131,0.0,0.07234121095329299,0.0905887029420603,0.0,0.17604227080074303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984230604314857,0.0,0.06355855612877154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10157186223571996,0.0,0.1300525890124355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17733496089178669,0.0,0.08983058254125004,0.0,0.0,0.08975004677577841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09976352733158693,0.18764264422022664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007017369764512,0.10625251513747733,0.0,0.0,0.0745902958607089,0.0,0.0,0.1494864401147861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775889704949483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10643852072224892,0.08840156304061157,0.0,0.14104574705613096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12462770898045025,0.0,0.0,0.07446349893171787,0.10938633333169072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020230480992112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16201915293958286,0.0,0.07739147327279271,0.0,0.07445085101029959,0.150474890121347,0.0,0.08433381413700403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10786070156552163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3624090592778822
divorce,knightfire098,2020/01/12,"Reached The Tipping Point It's coming up on a year since my wife walked out.  I've spent most of the time doing self-reflection, improving and fixing myself.  I've tried to initiate the divorce in the past and was talked out of it only to be expected to agree to a much longer separation.  I'm the source of all her problems, then I'm not.  I have made her life miserable for years, and then I'm supposed to give her a ""path back home"".

I've come to realize something. Yes, I've let the horrible events in my life in the past several years create cracks in my marriage, and I own that.  Too much of my own unresolved hurt, emotional debt, and frustration at the lack of personal growth from her in order to help our marriage. Thing is, I've been her ""therapist"" since we even started dating, and you know what?  She's never given back.  She says she loves me, she says all of these things about me, but the truth is that when I acted like I wasn't ready to get married a little over nine years ago, she was ready to call it quits and walk away after dating for three years.

I ""ruined"" her Christmas in 2018 with grief and depression over having lost my mother to septic shock just barely three months prior.  She ""couldn't even enjoy Christmas"".

I found out that the dog she got in the first few months we started dating was diagnosed with late stage cancer, and died several weeks back.  She loved that dog.  What I also found out is that she got herself another dog. No doubt that if we were to reconcile, it would be another choice of hers that I just had to ""accept"" because fuck me.  I'm so sick of her fucking ultimatums and mandates.  

I've spent years being her genie, granting her wishes and being what she ""needed"" to be happy and the minute I deviate from that, the whole marriage is shit. The entire year after my Mom died (and I'm utterly alone now, by the way, with no family) was filled with misery because she has no empathy and couldn't understand that I needed help rather than damnation. She's never suffered the deep loss of a loved one.

Now she has, and I can't help but feel like it's karma. She's apparently taking the loss of her dog pretty badly as I understand it but haven't heard that she's had any sudden epiphanies about her shit treatment of me not only when I lost my Mom but lost my Dad to cancer years prior.

I don't want that back.  I don't want her, her selfish bullshit, and her complete lack of ability to be ""loving"".  She can't even stay caught up with her best friends and show them she cares. She says she loves people but she has no idea how to act ""loving"" in a relationship, and that's all I have wanted for YEARS!  I've wanted the woman to actually act towards me in a loving way.  She'll say I didn't act that way to her only rarely, and that'd be bullshit too.  Every time she's fallen, I've rushed to pick her up.  When she's been sad or broken, I've comforted her.  

I never should have married her after threatening to dump me but I'm done regretting that.  I just hope it's not too late for me to find a loving woman who wants to have a family.",5.270974017495757,5.292965652173916,5.852938155546853,82.99366235801018,68.00161030595814,8.967941854898376,27.08974191582887,8.685302888712808,1.7361922879401137,2414,64,498,35,37,784,266,621,0.22399999999999998,0.6409999999999999,0.135,-0.997,2,1,1,0,1,0,77.0,4,1,1,8,24,43,6,2,27,1,44,18,2,3,7,90,94,36,3,20,15,5,1,2,1,3,6,5,1,3,29,33,0,0,11,1,3,13,19,24,0,5,25,6,85,19,75,55,13,90,1,13,0,10,84,25,4,6,48,337,114,0,0.0,0.0,0.0598457367819918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0543621686569748,0.0,0.0,0.06351567317855658,0.0,0.049042713708394435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04170406669411629,0.1286121912451806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057618187737062336,0.18862491760799008,0.05120499678735154,0.07476802947379876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06435829135173325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06262112870422895,0.0,0.06252636956532848,0.0,0.0,0.10565455647644817,0.0642995816898532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0528203533043839,0.06224502258536217,0.12729427780031874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06275821691148999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898396508235857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12151656060692916,0.0,0.051670151509480906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562617652075036,0.0,0.03100847920806385,0.04381160472823728,0.0,0.0,0.056051234333567866,0.0521642191738048,0.0,0.13448250224033995,0.047380637831120606,0.11339056907113275,0.03204052185218995,0.05882988753812565,0.0,0.0,0.09809667627970134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06528311150966648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12331741430718272,0.0,0.06151539673987565,0.06091096978853223,0.0,0.0,0.06565119803612837,0.06923006038424391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033703395089494145,0.0,0.13835773966976558,0.0,0.0,0.06271041661747608,0.08663332426527663,0.05992197949074288,0.06146518110009596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200835086437754,0.0,0.4427958872019675,0.05802853880108229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436495173506176,0.09790032230202686,0.0,0.09016394595548548,0.0909455226351423,0.14189614088232902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04155636746044383,0.13992451135049425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11708600896434475,0.042516015996596455,0.053547862061808484,0.0,0.0,0.05797328673949032,0.0,0.0,0.0623910135757513,0.0,0.05868109898295699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06522819355024245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06584162134237037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19507691379840367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06397682797358464,0.13856279121596604,0.12590137202048296,0.10145969213753206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047212072127275184,0.0,0.0,0.08681430753241581,0.06536580103597356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0461098335959845,0.049291851172295856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07120469714620897,0.08148509320526233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715198541306164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04163661173267108,0.0,0.0,0.12768592627350095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808595489974975,0.14603416648067422,0.049192352755649885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06846875475331474,0.07052235327241882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043564527264819686,0.0,0.0,0.3554298183198014
divorce,lesnicole1,2020/01/12,"Good man but not emotional intimacy I am married to a very emotionally stoic man. He was like this from the start but knowing I valued emotional connections he “faked” it for a while...  just enough to keep me hanging on. I don’t blame him... I think I knew deep down. 8 years later and there is no emotional connection. My brother passed two years ago and he didn’t go with me to the funeral, seldom called etc... when asked, told me “I know how you need your down time when stressed”. Before this, I’ve explained to him that I don’t need down time from my husband but from work stress, etc. he still doesn’t seem to grasp it. He’s a good man and great father. Great provider. I’ve tried to explain what I need... someone to be more invested in my day to day, to ask and care, to try and see things from my perspective but to no avail. He’s told me that therapists are “wizards” and doesn’t feel they are legit. So I’ve never even approached it. I’m almost 40, educated and self sufficient. Insight?",2.393405918481296,4.3627828492462335,3.427194304857622,90.18245533221665,77.29145728643215,7.035287548855388,24.120882188721385,7.984000788550335,1.2043934115019548,773,26,166,13,18,248,120,199,0.11199999999999999,0.754,0.134,0.8674,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,2,1,1,8,9,0,2,5,0,11,0,0,1,1,31,32,16,1,3,6,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,9,8,0,1,10,0,1,4,9,3,0,1,5,2,21,6,22,26,4,24,0,0,1,0,25,6,0,2,15,97,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10232270194454078,0.0,0.1155875687181068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21582498552947524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09822336084621083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11786805504882007,0.0,0.11768969551376515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14888701516643588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5193777858727235,0.0,0.1192711789082858,0.2574723698811389,0.07624115029189048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058365430484957674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06560215200228647,0.19363625356991135,0.0,0.2545263818302893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10260046191777088,0.0,0.0,0.12687582322266105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056393802885671834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567720853220284,0.08902757738381895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09198363864646457,0.10508413456542684,0.1204198077785544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09780439310467004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08170272391277536,0.0,0.09218342242297548,0.0,0.26445186107449953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13402439937811494,0.07668729109738548,0.07396358545270203,0.0,0.0,0.13461760077125187,0.0,0.0,0.22059871795502947,0.0,0.15674027425894668,0.0,0.11275940805762258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09524274317290338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08403521271034155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14866768261265886
divorce,teacher-love,2020/01/12,"Now, I am in peace with me.    
I am doing it, this was not easy, but with the help of God, my family, friends, the church I have been overcoming the whole process of divorce, detachment in all areas of my life. I am learning to enjoy my lonely time, although it still costs me Sundays. but I prefer this to be in a relationship that does not add up, although I thought I was in the perfect relationship. It was not like that, total, life gives you surprises and it is best to accept what is coming and if you believe in God, He is by your side and does not forsake and although I cannot see it I know that my healing is working every day. Today I give thanks because all this led me to know myself, to recognize myself as a person who should heal things from childhood to be able to detach and be free, stronger. I no longer consider myself a victim, I consider myself a woman too strong and eager to live, my last crying first of January and I closed this cycle. I put time and work on it and I continue to work, to elaborate my concept of love, my values, develop sincere relationships with respect.",6.2573611111111065,5.884311495370376,6.999444444444446,76.94,65.99074074074075,9.792592592592593,33.27777777777778,9.2995712137729,2.8875166666666674,857,33,164,14,12,285,122,216,0.066,0.6559999999999999,0.278,0.9959,0,2,0,0,1,0,27.0,0,3,0,7,3,16,1,0,8,0,18,5,0,1,4,34,27,16,0,3,7,0,0,1,1,1,4,0,0,2,16,15,0,0,6,0,2,3,6,2,0,1,5,1,32,15,28,18,5,24,1,1,1,1,16,10,0,1,12,131,48,4,0.14819356987929538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903374247154323,0.0,0.0,0.16696340569598672,0.1555200087716226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127655638495572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16278367787845593,0.09557259282399397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593703833204316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248594741595657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397037087922316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12605337483460838,0.0,0.0,0.11449398447869925,0.0,0.0,0.2843215515452453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933102610370642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628866208179851,0.12079753858391805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093470020205531,0.07239989269667231,0.0,0.13085763723547836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13375048267932654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12939690912614346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14897546906734385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4773133024651466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180910885076265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11834757633504342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13643672871082232,0.0,0.0,0.0984532229171556,0.0,0.0,0.11764914110177226,0.17282572467547466,0.0,0.14047017642626347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654528284727499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3236600515470776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,scandlily,2020/01/12,He sat me down today and told me he filed yesterday He’s leaving town and filed so he’d be forced to tell me he couldn’t do this anymore. I’d get the paperwork while I’m home alone. Completely blindsided. What now?,0.968,3.2551542444444483,2.6044444444444466,92.42000000000004,84.33333333333334,7.155555555555559,22.333333333333336,8.238735603445708,1.3178000000000003,171,6,38,4,5,56,35,45,0.122,0.878,0.0,-0.6444,0,1,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,8,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,2,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,4,17,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3632057434884655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.347787054376074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3676884177548945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18321936899524088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3517674345682219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3713266658764861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30651570371589604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3324100636333179,0.33509624757146905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,sunset131,2020/01/12,"Where do we go from here? We have been married 5 years. He (37m) has two kids (11/8) that live with us full time. I (33f) have been the primary mother figure to them since they were 5 and 2. I also have two kids (13/9), but their dad is local and my kids aren’t as attached to him as his kids are to me. 

He got laid off a few years back, and so we decided that he could use the opportunity to go back to school for a year and pursue his dream job. Money was tight while he wasn’t working (he did get unemployment and some VA assistance during that time), so I ran up some credit cards in my name to help us get by. I know, I know, it was a terrible idea, but that’s where we are now. 

He had a job in his field as soon as he graduated, but a lot has changed since he switched fields. I purposely chose a career field that would allow me to have a Mon-Fri job so that I would have weekends and evenings with my family. When I was single, I purposely only dated guys who had similar schedules, because that family time is super important to me. The field my husband works in now has him working rotating 4/3/3/4, which switches every few months from nights to days. When he is on nights, there are 4-5 days that we don’t even see each other, and we don’t sleep in the same bed, since he has to stay up all night to keep his schedule on his off days. 

We have grown apart, and we were fighting all the time. Divorce has been brought up several times, and then a few weeks ago he told me he doesn’t know what he wants anymore, and stopped saying I love you, and quit talking to me unless it was related to kids/house/etc. A week or so later, he said he needs his independence back. I take care of all the bills, and we have a joint account. He wants to do separate accounts now and each of us pay for our own bills. Which really sucks, because I have more debt than he does in his name. The last time we spoke of divorce, he was ok with me taking over the house, which has some equity, so I don’t want to complain about the credit card debt, since the equity in the house will make up for it.

So now we have just been in this stage of limbo for several weeks. Honestly, I think that if he had a good handle on his own finances and he had someone to take care of his kids while he was working overnight, that he would already be gone. But it feels like he’s just stringing me along. I think I have accepted that the marriage is over, and I can be at peace with that, but I really just want him to say it. Is he just waiting around for me to do it so that he can tell his kids that mommy left daddy? One of the times we talked about divorce, he wanted to just live in the camper in our driveway (that’s where he sleeps now) while we are going through with a divorce. I told him I was willing to help out with watching his kids to some extent, because I don’t want him to have to send them to live with their mom (if she would even take them). But that I did not think I could mentally handle living on the same premises if we are divorcing. I can’t wonder every time he leaves if he’s going to meet someone new, I just couldn’t deal with that. So is he just keeping me here until he can figure out his situation? What should I do? How should I handle the financial split? I don’t want to involve lawyers as long as he doesn’t change his mind about letting me keep the house...it ultimately comes out pretty even that way. I have pulled my two kids aside and told them that he and I will likely be getting divorced. What do I tell his kids if they start asking questions? I’m just so lost.",5.4122177419354855,4.507765786290324,5.779591397849464,86.7543870967742,67.88440860215053,9.052903225806453,28.41182795698925,8.07648339933343,1.4968286021505377,2771,73,635,30,40,890,292,744,0.044000000000000004,0.852,0.10400000000000001,0.9927,8,0,0,0,7,0,93.0,19,1,8,8,44,18,2,0,29,1,82,3,2,5,3,124,134,54,0,22,22,4,2,2,0,9,0,4,2,10,34,47,0,6,14,2,11,11,12,5,0,4,30,8,94,13,88,88,21,95,0,1,2,1,127,33,1,13,50,425,128,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05373845138576749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06689876349222039,0.04848002851163903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06012152436237245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05396714172323022,0.05667413131347863,0.0,0.0,0.13984556561267053,0.0,0.11086528231904498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12361796279383094,0.0,0.128261760942314,0.052221171332593366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09680474027264008,0.0,0.0,0.11729006575925965,0.06249944132176776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05305141780496637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06761044308395596,0.16016314153925998,0.0,0.10215464149373027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11429955462391765,0.0,0.030652707455138005,0.043308937979956205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09501872727667306,0.0,0.13781332936604254,0.05084752553069191,0.048485588411912514,0.0,0.0,0.060026099703113636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08126836532933696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399011357300268,0.0,0.06843575829116806,0.0,0.0,0.18047631402319605,0.16165298111206453,0.0,0.0,0.09995011070918998,0.04941567041839015,0.0,0.06419078832287761,0.06586684584916938,0.06199091680914923,0.0,0.059234472453098035,0.0,0.21412416011657176,0.053649267273000435,0.0,0.0,0.06617694373203258,0.051539333748928697,0.05471444077306816,0.0,0.04046618745172043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06109352030488379,0.0,0.061211742915252575,0.0710006866488824,0.048388537843986834,0.0,0.0,0.04495103550522872,0.0,0.058549874688266924,0.0,0.17067116362976098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04107957588361644,0.04610636855649098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06167517839667897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0679114063329963,0.06447980635576435,0.0,0.0,0.07767303163156286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0576661620152568,0.09641936210078017,0.0,0.0613535066217159,0.04830852000339273,0.0,0.0,0.13697300905378956,0.0,0.2005912151132757,0.06814256333610275,0.12133315524988833,0.0,0.10273099760439272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0429091274334328,0.0646158350199065,0.0,0.050683372438546884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18232319367087832,0.09745261505850727,0.10597399251369456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11653392059529608,0.0,0.0,0.2827971215472986,0.0,0.0,0.17378304015585272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17765899022516274,0.0,0.2187652799434964,0.052358631891324336,0.0,0.0,0.2502982726810259,0.048119554155399535,0.14588385208424792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0657428368807622,0.17653647165708988,0.0,0.0,0.17225878131071126,0.0,0.0,0.1171172801766694
divorce,ToDeemon,2020/01/12,Why Divorce Negatively Affects Men More Than Women  [https://medium.com/@michaellaitman/why-divorce-negatively-affects-men-more-than-women-982a57c24fa1](https://medium.com/@michaellaitman/why-divorce-negatively-affects-men-more-than-women-982a57c24fa1),109.19333333333331,138.3610638888889,52.16444444444446,-262.9,-145.44444444444446,12.488888888888884,53.444444444444436,11.20814326018867,9.240911111111112,241,4,4,2,1,49,9,9,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,3,0,34.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,achrysalis,2020/01/12,Fun way to serve divorce papers My ex and I are amicable and excited to be divorced. I am trying to think of a funny way to serve him papers. He has a great sense of humour. Any ideas?,-0.3807692307692321,1.8146432307692355,2.8827692307692345,88.2872307692308,91.05128205128204,5.171282051282052,18.056410256410253,6.742157984588678,0.2363394871794875,142,4,30,2,5,51,29,39,0.0,0.655,0.345,0.9413,0,0,0,0,2,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,5,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,6,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,18,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2699903280409918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43772099959136174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44819242330812603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25439731885478817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695536275316107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6302792611329454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,BlueSparklesXx,2020/01/12,"Anyone else completely done with intimate relationships? My divorce brutalized me and has taken me 2.5 years to even begin to get over. I fell deeply in love with the next serious partner, dated for 1.5 years despite some red flags (post history),  and while I’d have been ready to understand ending it they broke it off in a seemingly intentionally manipulative, cruel way that has really thrown me for a loop.  I’ve had extreme CPTSD from the divorce and childhood trauma and I was in the best  place I’ve been in 7 years this December until I let the boyfriend back in my life and my heart and now I’m back to being a traumatized mess and I’m PISSED. I have decided that I am completely done with relationships, with one exception all the men in my romantic life starting in high school have hurt me terribly, and I’ve literally been grieving and/or heartbroken for 7 years and I am FUCKING DONE. I wasn’t totally jaded by the divorce, but the dissolution of this relationship has done me in. I don’t trust men or myself to choose wisely. 

I like myself and my life and my friends and family and absolutely see no need to compromise or risk this kind of pain ever again. I’m a little sad because at 33 I always imagined having a family, I love kids, but I simply see no upside to ever involving another partner in my life. I’ve sacrificed enough. Anyone else in the same boat, or a few years down the line after that decision? How does it feel? 

As I type this I suddenly realized I could have a baby/adopt on my own if I really want, I am financially stable and have a supportive family, I’ve never thought about that but it’s kind of comforting. Anyone on this sub done that either??

Cannot believe I’m on the heartbreak carousel again but at least I know no matter what it can’t be as bad as the divorce. Fuck all of this.",4.592023270846802,5.959068190476192,5.961078431372548,76.78062217194571,70.17647058823529,9.862055591467355,28.856819650937297,10.125756701596842,2.9867510019392376,1452,54,274,39,26,490,188,357,0.166,0.723,0.111,-0.9602,0,0,0,0,4,0,34.0,0,0,1,1,10,28,5,1,19,0,30,11,2,3,6,53,52,28,1,4,10,0,1,1,3,0,5,0,0,5,17,18,0,0,10,0,0,1,8,17,0,1,13,4,34,11,45,35,11,47,0,5,3,4,17,21,3,6,24,193,51,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07353437561415846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09266800592859284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18537978978498731,0.18109952864614756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13590853879361575,0.07378872717934004,0.05387206400471632,0.0,0.0,0.09956740859542193,0.0927432223461165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18531723811103745,0.0,0.0,0.07055957087972531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07733681768758198,0.4521872118433248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476505314469007,0.0,0.07827326958440897,0.09131412495797164,0.0,0.05837029522485534,0.15987896357474046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24993386181172594,0.0,0.044684627596642164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06827765214052865,0.1634009626179041,0.0461718479439282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047237979668872,0.0,0.09337214575371387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946063596293658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18405616397022748,0.04856812384158775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903685599728954,0.2496851139507878,0.043175147681882416,0.08857411900754256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595222486419072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06552831538859381,0.06815959564030749,0.0,0.09398691533672203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05988461387542831,0.0,0.09403633067193204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923321814253876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846380106368147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11322949197353263,0.0,0.0,0.284642304800086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08943936189492956,0.14084551775766285,0.08045251067893215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06255168104370548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10028594265120933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0701592067683977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200061097127166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052125365710603284,0.07014728994812057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845502885014517
divorce,throwthatshitaway167,2020/01/12,"Unsure about whether to leave my wife. I have been unhappy for about a year. I can’t tell if my wife has let her self go or if I’m just becoming increasingly less attracted to her. I am worried maybe we are just going through something. 

We have been married 5 years this month and been together 8 years. No kids. Sex has been...bland, most of our marriage. I feel lonely 60% of my day. 

The thing is, she is a very good wife. She tries to please me a lot and goes out of her way for me often. But she is a bad friend and worries about everything. She is stubborn and doesn’t like to go out or have a good time and sometimes it’s hard to make other couple friends. 

I told her I’m unhappy and she continues to nag and pitch fits about stupid things. I don’t know what to do anymore. I think I would do well on my own but I still have feelings for her which conflict me wanting to leave. 

Anyone else deal with such conflict in their relationships?",1.0336352479136008,3.2732042731958764,2.1850220913107528,95.85111683848798,83.58762886597938,5.55090819833088,21.6092292587138,6.868970318607317,0.3737847815414832,735,24,166,9,21,233,118,194,0.155,0.767,0.078,-0.8642,0,2,1,0,0,0,22.0,3,0,1,0,10,12,3,0,6,0,22,1,0,1,0,34,34,14,0,4,9,3,3,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,7,12,0,3,4,0,0,4,4,5,1,0,4,3,30,7,24,28,5,18,0,1,0,1,26,5,0,7,9,114,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14225002746858362,0.10029382705561997,0.14696719227288116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11976311739746688,0.0,0.1584138572532679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587092703713177,0.0,0.09250439146931548,0.14787627790683258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11982242144179847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289110804381811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450511617502766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22163668575161544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24455405234359565,0.2406147209393547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12849053457213527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07882870649438957,0.0,0.0,0.3037561505301479,0.0,0.14667308775728766,0.0,0.07007561287662396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219442074906216,0.0,0.0,0.09574468275057116,0.0,0.14410079973323656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11448929331837895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574497190328184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15399664722591458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14963509110522222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11042408537272336,0.14186192936266495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11454822148544964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253694372016224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19058508731507176,0.09190803449907996,0.0,0.0,0.08363871910846911,0.0,0.0,0.13705930057453014,0.0,0.09738366823224537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11834976998133655,0.08460230351734208,0.11385286672248095,0.0,0.0,0.1289662424383907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29133255962098603,0.0,0.10189286047315084,0.0,0.0,0.2771043565323135
divorce,90dayfiancefanatic,2020/01/12,I simply don’t love my wife anymore I’m not sure I ever did.  We were young.  We have two great kids.  But our house has always been missing something.  I think that it is love between me and her.  She says she loves me.  I’m not sure if it is true.  How can you love someone that doesn’t love you at all?  Our kids are young adults now but still living at home.  No one has cheated.  But I’m definitely not in love with her anymore.  I’ve tried to tell her but I’m never straightforward about it.  I don’t have the courage to tell her.  We are not compatible.  What to do?,-0.905338235294117,1.2241270250000014,0.929607843137255,100.97029411764707,95.41666666666666,3.8235294117647056,16.225490196078432,5.5289334501034215,-0.8833480392156865,433,11,105,3,17,140,71,120,0.087,0.684,0.22899999999999998,0.9657,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,5,2,0,0,5,13,1,0,1,0,16,6,0,1,6,22,28,7,0,1,9,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,6,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,9,2,0,2,3,1,20,11,9,25,1,9,0,1,0,6,26,3,0,1,6,71,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11631880167561175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772737728326887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12645058383124355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15412204690991207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14022356858190868,0.0,0.0,0.16130211325663013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12343959663327835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7570107170007546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10781681929516923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947272138590831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11116883922747192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11844597918438345,0.10761932109171624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163870442682212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635061045332492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24437012399510366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0895735766547566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09491012966238263,0.0,0.13655724529002605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ImprovSophisticate,2020/01/12,"""Feels & Affirmations!"" / Melissa Sorrentino, Divorce Diary I am not great at using Reddit, but learning and browsing around. 

This video is meant to give hope. It's been 2 1/2 years since my divorce and I'm actually beginning to be very happy! On the regular. Thank goodness! :)

I'm not promoting any kind of channel per se for any marketing purpose. I began this YouTube channel as a conduit out of my vacuum. I'd been so isolated during the end years of a rocky marriage that I didn't know how or where to begin expressing myself. So I just started talking to a camera about my life experience generally, including divorce.

Recently a friend who just broke up with their spouse told me that they'd been contemplating divorce for a while and watching my personal videos helped make them feel less alone. That's what my only goal is here. At the time of my divorce, I lurked youtube and did the same! So I felt it was my turn to also share my own experience. 

I'm not an expert. But I have been there, divorced after an 18 year relationship, 12+ years married. Feel free to hit me up with anything you also want to share/know. 

Here's a lookback made for those in an earlier phase of a divorce or break up.

[https://youtu.be/8oHYOXYGQCU](https://youtu.be/8oHYOXYGQCU)",4.322621927428795,6.943784206008588,4.847750682793606,79.17020581349982,73.89270386266094,7.669840031213423,29.045844713226685,8.575989854853784,2.466272103004292,1012,43,177,20,22,322,148,233,0.06,0.797,0.14300000000000002,0.9726,1,1,0,0,8,0,48.0,0,1,3,2,14,10,0,0,14,0,13,1,0,4,0,32,36,16,0,2,9,1,4,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,10,8,0,0,7,4,1,0,4,1,0,0,12,5,22,10,29,21,3,24,0,1,1,0,23,10,0,3,13,114,32,4,0.0,0.0,0.14704564335508807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15606296334349376,0.0,0.2410035460136662,0.0,0.16326582430175354,0.0,0.2049402897285453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12399992068036532,0.13414052056918682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13346111326883162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29479532257436997,0.0,0.0,0.2285707564043895,0.0,0.14468006947543055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164179229312794,0.0,0.0,0.14454962252472833,0.0,0.12638641452093144,0.0,0.16612941124117275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16040569718659525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10100016864883916,0.0,0.0,0.14966300394236629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569139801996343,0.16562374132810995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10643241764224444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14258064617108124,0.10058260039159196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11460181292240387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13157127392134474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14878206471866,0.16177799941038207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12464718881581148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10665476264444514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12111392318883672,0.0,0.1387293894991263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08786493014205081,0.0,0.0,0.1439848194552278,0.0,0.0,0.1639006943753039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13014241469767215,0.0,0.12432990823606427,0.08887720385539873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3881416834738727
divorce,2pierad,2020/01/12,"California Community Property Question I’m married (male, 40) but considering divorce. California. 

I recently received a large cash gift from my father because he downsized his house. It’s in my personal account. Never touched or shared. 

Technically it wasn’t an inheritance but my mom died a decade ago and when my dad sold our family house he gave me some cash. 

Is this cash considered community property that I’d have to share with my wife in the event of divorce? Or does it fall under the gift / inheritance exception? Thanks.",4.715531914893614,7.823700553191498,6.0270638297872345,68.59400000000002,75.38297872340425,10.142978723404257,33.86808510638298,10.125756701596842,4.5924246808510665,428,23,68,15,10,143,71,94,0.07200000000000001,0.785,0.14300000000000002,0.805,0,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,0,1,10,7,6,1,0,5,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,1,0,7,2,2,0,0,0,3,1,9,3,8,4,1,10,0,0,0,0,17,3,0,4,5,38,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.228717498266438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15728545304607236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677820760410965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257933983384768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432365234986493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5954365439209448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.302187707437966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19899948290053107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22529147292805396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890393481705765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547617690908907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23754842198573145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Chiswicker,2020/01/13,"Post-divorce question 
I am post divorce August 2009. I am confused as to the interpretation of the following regarding achievement awards at work.

My August 7, 2019 judgment states “During such time that Husband is obligated to pay alimony, Husband shall also pay to wife additional alimony the sum equal to 25% of the gross amount of any cash bonus achievement awards that he receives from his employment.” 
My last achievement award was in January of 2019 for which we were still under going divorce proceedings and I was not ordered to start paying alimony yet till the judgment came on August 7, 2019. 

Am I correct in interpreting this - that I do not owe her 25% of the January 2019 award because as the decree states “during such time husband is obligated to pay alimony he will pay 25% of awards received to her?",8.89,9.037304678082194,8.500102739726028,66.62631849315069,60.43835616438356,11.409589041095893,40.85273972602739,10.9516,4.789071232876712,657,33,103,15,8,210,82,146,0.069,0.8079999999999999,0.12300000000000001,0.91,2,0,0,0,3,0,13.0,1,0,0,10,5,8,0,1,7,0,11,0,0,0,1,11,16,5,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,3,0,8,5,2,2,0,0,4,0,11,6,23,10,2,25,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,2,11,66,16,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335769111052697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19862496061820684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17804974534808848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3340626252329745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16599625026378256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23808483639304265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5594653377058043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3271973430516417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20673629434267785,0.0,0.23325610504611016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3406293279335692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2126383018586016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwaway5356fbts,2020/01/13,"Spiraling Anyone else feel like they’re spiraling? Like you know you should think things through more but you just don’t really care to. 

Has anyone here ever picked up and left everything behind? I don’t even particularly care to stay in touch with my own family or friends. Just want to clean slate it somewhere new.",4.0031073446327685,6.802552389830506,3.8450000000000015,85.01009887005651,75.9491525423729,8.001129943502825,21.69774011299436,8.841846274778883,1.6154045197740112,257,7,48,6,6,78,48,59,0.0,0.6809999999999999,0.319,0.9701,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,3,0,0,5,5,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,13,10,3,0,2,4,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,5,5,8,9,2,6,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,1,4,29,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32697932239580746,0.23957223666991503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4767822160659541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19532335798262224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15443333604059414,0.21150005848390835,0.0,0.0,0.21013884387726106,0.0,0.22042102020331386,0.0,0.11822445103108775,0.16703827630604628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806457472325931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12849921970062644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540418885693589,0.0,0.0,0.2284614825014345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225821056854117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14978858781074167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24921686393686898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553370345377004,0.1498199227484544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13791080014268353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwaway121579,2020/01/13,"I'm afraid this might be the death knell, in pain, could use some advice and kind words 43 yrs old, Married 15 years, 2 kids ages 5 and 9.

For context, until two years ago I was never the type to read my wife's journal or snoop.   When she cheated, I started snooping because I needed proof.   The cheating was short-lived, and after a lot of pain I thought we had reconciled and things gradually got better.  Once we reached a point of trust after about a year I agreed I would not read her journal again, although I still occasionally checked her phone for reassurance.  That's the very simplified version, prefer not to go into specifics.

Recently things had actually really seemed fairly good.  Admittedly, the kids were a big motivator in trying to reconcile, but it felt like we had enough else in our relationship that it was worth it, no prior history of cheating, etc.  Still attracted to each other, regular sex life that I thought was pretty good, things to talk about, parented well, etc. -- I might have left if not for the kids, yet there were enough other reasons to make it seem worth trying to work things out.

I hadn't looked in her journal all year as promised, but I had suddenly felt a weird vibe from her about something, then she left it in a very obvious place, I saw it, and I opened it.  

Well, it's not that she's cheating again (no sign of that), but what I read was pretty gut-wrenching.  I was ""never her type"" (this was shocking to me since it seemed like we fell madly in love when we met), she doesn't even like guys of our ethnicity (there was weird self-hating stuff mixed in there), etc,  I basically don't do it for her.  There were other pages where she framed it differently like she loved me but in a different way etc.  Whatever.  Fuck that.

The thing is, I'm a confident guy and I think there are plenty of women out there whose type I am.  I'm good looking, dress well, in shape, no problem in the endowment dept (slightly above average), good career, interests and personality, etc., not tall, but average height.  And I'm a good dad -- I know from the way my kids respond to me.

 I get interest from women that I've always brushed off because I am a loyal person.   I got a lot stronger and more confident going through the whole ordeal of recovering from her cheating.  

 It hurts a lot right now.  I couldn't sleep the entire night.  I'm in pain.    But at the same time, I have already built myself to the point where she doesn't define me.  I'm strong.  I got through my work day on no sleep, I didn't break down, I got my work done.  I already freed myself from dependence on her when she cheated.  I see a lot of this as her craziness and her issues, not mine.  Especially the self-hatred, just sad.  If I don't do it for her, so be it.  There is someone else out there for me.  

I was able to suck it up for my kids on the cheating.  But I can't suck it up on this kind of complete lack of respect.  Whatever issues I had with my wife, whatever her imperfections, I could not imagine being self-absorbed enough to write the kinds of things about her that she wrote about me, some of which I'm not going to relate because I don't want it to be too specific.

But I have to admit, I am really afraid of divorce.  Having shared custody of my kids who I love and seeing them only half the time.  What it will do to them.  Just trying to manage and juggle everything, being fully in my kids life with my busy career and everything.  The financial loss from having two households.  etc.  Part of me wishes there were some half-measure.  Part of me thinks I could soldier through a few more years until the kids are older, reach some kind of ""arrangement"" with my wife.  But how long?  What ages?  When does it not do damage?

I guess I could just use some encouragement and hear some concrete stories from people of how they managed the beginning, and whether it got better, and how they and their kids dealt with the custody and juggling everything.

I'm talking to a counselor wednesday.  I don't think I will confront her about what I saw yet.  I may want to talk to a lawyer first.  We have discussed before that we would agree to split things equally and be amenable if we couldn't work things out (we had talks about this when we were reconciling). I think she will stick by that because she also cares about our kids.  I hope so. But I don't want to take chances.  

Thanks for listening.",4.5160839160839155,5.594735655011661,4.881405594405597,85.53518531468535,70.07226107226107,7.957762237762238,27.353613053613053,8.238735603445708,1.6275101165501162,3424,112,699,48,60,1083,345,858,0.102,0.718,0.18,0.9973,3,0,1,0,1,0,130.0,13,0,5,10,45,61,12,2,37,0,68,12,2,9,5,135,130,51,1,20,27,5,2,4,0,8,5,2,0,16,54,40,0,0,21,3,3,4,27,25,3,4,36,11,112,36,103,74,32,87,1,4,6,5,88,39,3,23,45,496,166,17,0.05029918402287264,0.0,0.04908474786179853,0.0,0.0,0.049151780486271814,0.04458719175717642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11101280067536964,0.040224239290496594,0.04185295049065079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12264766288078402,0.0,0.04280090089350888,0.0,0.0,0.0889710814967953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05128337037620536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05273773746595887,0.0,0.0,0.1606392222416373,0.0,0.0,0.032438812547080566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10510388333661133,0.0,0.0,0.044017154898635454,0.051473528759086014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08403702800157561,0.0,0.0,0.15591750874514407,0.33658131704596234,0.033222136664204795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356169898689479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965902092546868,0.0,0.0,0.0427844602345054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04650078511889249,0.026279247629689667,0.0,0.08575855627604761,0.2109428456488172,0.20114426190498969,0.0,0.055410221981342815,0.09960820041818158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056690836027122674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04995843906106597,0.0,0.0,0.05384631680895337,0.0,0.0,0.10499855996321064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20951543965137925,0.02764311610166694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093004212285546,0.0,0.07105560239789911,0.09829456241461232,0.0,0.0,0.0445131950372283,0.08447729281201304,0.0,0.0,0.17105027016161592,0.13619093217570324,0.0,0.03357509591483246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10671897106825612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03729620761431352,0.07758766312955015,0.0,0.0,0.047202376845294367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052780532398523934,0.053566989396579084,0.0,0.0382547960174337,0.16056563446948138,0.0,0.05585129135029288,0.10893822935414084,0.0,0.034871120943557266,0.08783861471760321,0.052551941668305666,0.0,0.09509797406935433,0.0,0.0,0.1023447060686643,0.0,0.04812952605670672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15093838708924312,0.0,0.06444589053853811,0.05171593849278228,0.04966437608381222,0.054002499696432026,0.0,0.042955228325460934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08016387481784155,0.13737146408756254,0.15741905634083556,0.0,0.0,0.04160800480114596,0.0,0.10067101898404963,0.0,0.04261833539555833,0.038722769256601015,0.0,0.0,0.03560202133986864,0.0,0.08033798666954173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05758053173184612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03781872657451238,0.16171431527343055,0.0,0.046308730739762057,0.0,0.0,0.2673323427562177,0.12891874451929008,0.0,0.07986386728156855,0.05865971739812002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10244953267913012,0.0,0.09826998806610697,0.0,0.0,0.0868846905737289,0.0,0.08300418915113134,0.08900328583083376,0.07985030208610998,0.0,0.0,0.13567502137716386,0.0,0.0,0.056157242674119166,0.05784157928587792,0.0,0.0,0.14647362011616682,0.0,0.0,0.07146219435151394,0.0,0.0,0.16195512693601527
divorce,adanacs,2020/01/13,"Separation expectations - house maintenance When you're separated is it normal  for your ex/STBX to expect you to come over and help maintain their house/life when they are primary caregiver?

My STBXW (stay-at-home mom) complains that she's overwhelmed because of MY kids and I should help out by coming over and doing chores  (on top of me working full time and having my own place to look after and taking kids every night and cooking dinner and talking kids places, etc, etc). 

My opinion is that she is the main reason for her overwhelm (over scheduling, lack of planning) and that was one of the things that contributed to the separation. I spent years trying to make changes that would reduce our workloads, but they were mostly rejected or ignored. They seem to be working in my life however. 

Thanks for listening :P",8.760405405405404,8.74138328378379,7.730405405405405,72.58993243243245,60.75675675675675,10.643243243243244,36.06756756756757,10.125756701596842,3.635227027027028,658,26,110,12,8,202,103,148,0.078,0.83,0.092,0.2615,1,1,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,2,4,4,2,6,0,2,3,0,11,3,0,2,0,25,20,12,0,6,2,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,1,3,7,11,2,1,2,1,1,2,0,5,0,1,3,2,18,1,21,14,7,19,0,3,1,0,19,10,0,4,7,80,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072224857458352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18607102981251114,0.303031770544345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39233344929265057,0.0,0.0,0.14819708698226253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23579418085192375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029564244711541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242381328158867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14770546966210424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11740966467962627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20600326683639889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16506327343175428,0.17233738536646162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11918936607089756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3675406238713546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18084686972844474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601260010890478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874780897442497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13224933197472669,0.14137579516013413,0.0,0.16193825809720533,0.0,0.0,0.11685521614236265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10256437937489772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11941951765829725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561037899321801,0.0,0.0,0.1249490440379491,0.0,0.0,0.11326905629659607
divorce,JasonBourneFL,2020/01/13,"I miss my friend from this channel Unfortunately I had to change my accounts, and lost a really good contact that is very supportive.  I was tampaman45 , but account was hacked. In any case...I just wish the time prize would hit me up. So sad losing a support person...and you realize how much reddit means to all of us at times....getting us through those difficult times. In any case...miss my friend renee.",2.9036842105263148,5.532547000000001,3.6413157894736834,85.87671052631579,79.0,6.957894736842108,25.28947368421053,8.07648339933343,1.7073473684210527,316,12,60,6,8,100,60,76,0.209,0.5579999999999999,0.233,0.5158,0,1,0,0,1,0,20.0,2,1,0,3,3,11,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,1,1,9,12,4,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,5,0,0,4,0,10,6,9,6,2,6,0,4,0,0,6,4,0,0,2,37,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26429060422621503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20556640973727736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.300264659867739,0.0,0.1015249776736188,0.0,0.0,0.16298767755215735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21739608349413608,0.2121249019261177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21167311050545395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428486814653796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16967406228196455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244873462566254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44102753266477207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22662089048761894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4674897422558718,0.0,0.0,0.16033561099490568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22346016630138035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13804043761603946,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,cutelilspook,2020/01/13,"My (F24) STBX (M27) Is STILL Using Our ""Shared"" Facebook Account Hello all!

I've been separated from my STBX since July 27th of 2019. We used to have a shared facebook, due to trust issues in his last relationship. It is hooked up to one of my emails.

After I left, he continued to use the account, as he wasn't ready to tell his family that we were getting a divorce. But I ended up finding myself in a relationship a few months after, therefore leaving him no choice. It took him until the end of November, but he changed all of the information on that account to where it was solely ""his account"". So he changed the name, friends, likes, about, etc. But he is still using that email.

I have asked him kindly a few times that I would appreciate him to create a new facebook so I wouldn't receive notifications from messanger and notifications in my email regarding that account, but he is adamant to keep that facebook. I understood that he just didn't want to lose all the pictures on there, or that it would just be a hassle, so I suggested that maybe he could change the email on the account. He also didn't want to do that, because he doesn't want to use his email.

So, I am stuck getting notifications from my ex husbands facebook and messanger, even when he changes his password. I can see everything.

I know I have the option to delete the profile, but I am trying to keep the divorce amicable while everything is still processing. I know he would be upset if I deleted it, and he would only give me a hard time, potentially with the divorce.",6.151616161616161,6.5391533367003385,6.538602693602692,77.57234848484848,66.13804713804714,9.15892255892256,33.671717171717184,8.998388855275968,2.8055171717171716,1219,51,231,19,18,395,144,297,0.051,0.862,0.086,0.9361,0,0,0,0,3,0,42.0,3,0,0,1,15,8,0,1,19,0,27,0,0,6,3,42,47,19,0,10,9,2,1,1,1,5,0,0,0,0,15,6,0,2,5,0,6,2,6,2,0,1,9,2,33,6,34,30,6,29,0,1,1,0,48,10,0,3,18,161,48,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08267185878636038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09664507065342784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06301865768629264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4374435623843409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08253942977517678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18312557623539094,0.0,0.11529450734085575,0.06828061485635611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858201063709665,0.0,0.0974561786503881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944862015013814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07987007862722781,0.0,0.10802214223933324,0.09917020872637616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09260695326072547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10790043858083086,0.0,0.1837753653367088,0.0,0.10765294226778152,0.11362839079529355,0.08426738704746606,0.0,0.10946305005451976,0.1123211917550376,0.0,0.0,0.05050558025921336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11565425174961518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10385773605943864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08251584189056592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998437319612016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07005203999908077,0.07862411197920398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219799358676091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08237938933843106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08551587694326479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476749395243639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09035748547482417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12056182935275385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11485746967698507,0.07018730867897949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44642975209135743,0.0,0.0,0.18292619593348486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2937488710389414,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,GoSmudgeYourself,2020/01/13,"Questioning “the work” — why are romantic relationships “always worth saving”? I’m a 37 year old dude who is separated from my wife (as in we officially live in separate places since June).  I’ve been doing work on myself to feel good alone, look to the future, accept my new life, reinvigorate my once-almost-dead social life, and take my dad game to a new level. I’m happy about this work. I’ve gotten to a place I haven’t been since long before  the devastating “I think we should separate” first talk.

However, there is other work — relationship work — that looms over me daily, a giant weight of sadness. All the conversations, all the back and forth in my own head, all the fear of living without her, starting over, the loss, when should we go to counseling or will that be the death of it, etc. All of the anxiety tells me to hold on at all costs, fight for the relationship, exhaust EVERY POSSIBLE trick in the book, and leave no rock unturned in the quest to SALVAGE the relationship.

But what if, what if, relationships really do come and go? What if when a relationship seemingly comes to an irreconcilable ending, it’s healthy and a good thing to say hey, I guess it’s over, time to live a new life? 

I mean I’m just saying — why are relationships holy grails, instead of things that come and go (like all things, good and bad)? Should we really live in fear of loss, or should we understand the fragility of relationships, hope for good things in the future, and know it’s ok to move on without trusting through years of emotional turmoil in a fluctuating decision making process? 

I don’t know — anybody else feel me?",7.806036885245902,7.246059593442628,7.784047131147543,73.20721823770495,62.901639344262286,11.428278688524593,32.83299180327869,10.820120047756994,3.3328401639344265,1276,42,243,29,16,412,166,305,0.134,0.759,0.107,-0.6925,1,1,0,0,1,0,44.0,5,0,0,8,7,21,2,3,24,1,16,6,1,1,6,51,40,17,1,8,9,2,4,1,0,5,4,2,0,0,17,16,1,1,11,3,2,7,5,10,0,1,3,7,20,11,42,31,8,43,0,3,1,0,27,19,0,9,18,149,37,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07088400537653476,0.07331506980776208,0.0,0.0,0.058901327160894024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054152663435867214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054431639900267816,0.05910506377563399,0.0,0.0,0.06023541558611789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18293290764162312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05913433129470449,0.07962702688219035,0.06269720006783375,0.0,0.07894738618247632,0.0,0.0,0.05964198402252256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593124698840751,0.07158512864630254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06021227799071896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12069143801916166,0.23749462665168966,0.0,0.0,0.07798101626574439,0.0,0.0,0.07535519405019843,0.0,0.0,0.07264896023258532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07030850463555162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07780652050395236,0.0,0.0,0.07495432249705787,0.0,0.0,0.14999907656646488,0.0345834649113526,0.0,0.2500285753005641,0.06264519545522007,0.05944413241186582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047251572129417926,0.0,0.0,0.0771089371704303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07523649294675634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20510261538489002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07428014919106085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14791688867127986,0.0,0.0,0.07980288871484464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07929881505595993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09069727315003863,0.0,0.0,0.607998980207842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11258699496741896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06444278084687638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11711321063741037,0.0,0.0,0.07215950101489359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050104145154525416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053223802877920175,0.05689675207395505,0.0618718745999673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881137362691988,0.04535812325703697,0.0,0.0,0.04127708041042495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07369285508392391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08620077280301704,0.0,0.0,0.12775040699871196,0.0,0.0,0.13647430557692902,0.0,0.25767271237036443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117036486279056
divorce,123452020trash,2020/01/13,"Expectations for temporary separation My husband(23) and I(24) just separated yesterday. We have been married a little over three years and have been together for ten. For a while now, I've told him we needed counseling and that things just aren't good. 

For context, it's a lack of sex, lack of communication, opposite in every way from religon, values, all the way  down to movies we like.

He texted a girl he cheated on me with while we were dating, while he was drunk. He even had to unblock her number and everything to do it! He follows a ton of strangers on social media. I'm just tired of feeling unwanted tbh and disrespected. 

I always have to initiate sex and sometimes he rejects me. 

So now I have to move back into my parents house! I'm afraid he isnt going to want me back. That he just will like being alone. Or that he wont tell me to come back even if be misses me. 

I know I chose to leave, but is it wrong for me to want him to ask me to come back and act like be cares??",3.013373115577888,4.571501477386935,4.3812280150753775,85.8039023241206,74.42713567839195,7.588065326633169,25.000314070351767,8.278499904357787,1.4360072864321611,770,25,162,13,16,255,117,199,0.13699999999999998,0.789,0.07400000000000001,-0.787,1,1,0,0,0,0,27.0,4,0,0,0,13,10,1,1,6,0,18,4,0,0,1,32,33,14,0,8,7,1,1,3,0,2,1,0,0,1,7,15,1,0,2,1,0,6,3,5,0,2,6,1,20,5,28,22,4,27,0,2,0,2,22,7,0,2,15,111,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16284518061962816,0.0,0.0,0.13082981828158996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14699091847240606,0.0,0.0,0.4836075450367081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16030874642123932,0.0,0.0,0.270883302839693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20770082165055392,0.0,0.1324749425476559,0.0,0.14131019782714482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950134423013443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893587047201775,0.13187894206025474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814248931540188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08641072645824223,0.0,0.0,0.1664862383308127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304471892903608,0.15758800965432435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16711298666464305,0.0,0.11658571277700182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17458779399037144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16027846671910956,0.0,0.0,0.1555067045768178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374279069900024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10445811290950832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18071532868725265,0.0,0.15024214219913204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854792963650758,0.2496072651792964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17190877038161315,0.0,0.10125240671643383
divorce,alotbetterthanhim,2020/01/13,"Was planning an initial consult with a lawyer, then my husband got a bad diagnosis On Friday I was trying to do an initial consult to see what the future would like if I were to file, but that day we learned my husband has a serious illness. It requires significant medical care including multiple weekly tests and appointments. As it stands he likely won't be able to work and if he does only part-time. To make things worse, he had to go off his antidepressants so not only is he even more difficult to be around, his thoughts have been really dark of late. I want to leave but I don't want to hear he attempted suicide. And I'm not sure how things will play out with regards to spousal support if he can't work. Argh.",4.6426760563380265,5.8006183380281735,5.404338028169018,81.60791549295776,69.8450704225352,8.778591549295774,31.805633802816896,9.120678840339163,2.7024794366197185,572,25,112,11,10,186,99,142,0.159,0.728,0.113,-0.8512,0,0,0,0,0,1,12.0,1,0,0,5,4,10,1,0,6,0,16,2,0,2,1,24,27,12,1,6,7,2,0,2,0,3,2,1,0,0,6,8,0,1,2,1,0,1,5,4,0,0,7,2,9,6,18,15,1,11,0,0,1,0,14,4,0,3,7,70,15,8,0.18683257802319328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16632060524741404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15599739864736886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19048826503324065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12049155655141867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16349844807062186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12340115572431005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10618125964903087,0.0,0.14942708012596248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21057389401030985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21075528586445252,0.19782872363192136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825539206881837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12471219660922606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18821416657426335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2841891891700846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20232147529730096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11968973360323652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488813753890646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20436451620289411,0.21201539547450135,0.17608749371412086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24824652604409986,0.0,0.0,0.14832419754893514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126847056465232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22039739036652126,0.0,0.14986582452282626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27203268393229896,0.0,0.1903983585593202,0.13272050293913806,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,WhosAGreenHorn,2020/01/13,Mediation I have mediation with STBXW at her lawyer's office.  Do I need to have my lawyer present? Any tips?,1.3585714285714303,4.0518315238095255,2.873333333333335,86.93000000000004,90.90476190476193,6.609523809523811,21.285714285714285,7.793537801064563,1.1882571428571431,86,3,18,2,3,28,17,21,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,3,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,10,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6759069304994194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7369869885573646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Cocoloses2,2020/01/13,"Taxes So we will be filing for divorce soon and it should be finalized fairly quickly. For 2019, my accountant said just to file jointly as married as we have in the past. However, we aren’t really speaking and I have always done the taxes and don’t feel like working on this together with him. My accountant did say we could file separately, but we already received the paperwork from their office and it’s all filled out like if we were filing jointly. I guess my question is, does either make a big difference? Do I just suck it up one last time and complete this together? Or ask them to redo it and file separately?",5.559936974789912,6.618928386554625,6.374275210084032,75.85620273109244,67.65546218487395,9.64747899159664,32.52205882352941,9.827888789773867,3.2714277310924373,494,21,88,11,8,163,82,119,0.033,0.9209999999999999,0.047,0.1754,2,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,6,0,2,1,5,3,1,0,4,0,14,0,0,1,1,27,20,12,0,3,6,0,1,2,0,2,0,3,0,0,6,14,0,0,2,0,4,2,2,1,0,1,4,4,15,2,12,11,2,13,0,0,0,0,16,5,1,4,8,68,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592915907231967,0.0,0.1955111130096512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196621416304068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463581092540573,0.0,0.0,0.18760178652448253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24549018613834275,0.0,0.0,0.2056209381862536,0.24045250765465714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11880622093919255,0.1678602538395347,0.0,0.25739452926506856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588423048956643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915292169925924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295857170783022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568420934428754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15921951350170827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22430229739046254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26321647302763235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15052568146781345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2235071337540688,0.1868549467176214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13701096939270668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17105855238247578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,justgetsthrownaway,2020/01/13,"To what extent should I feel obliged to ""set the record straight""? My soon-to-be-ex isn't exceptionally honest.

She exaggerates, misrepresents, mischaracterizes and sometimes completely fabricates things from nowhere. She's a liar. It's one of the main reasons I'm leaving her. I don't want to be the ""my ex is crazy"" guy. I try to be patient and understanding ... but her crazy is driving me crazy.

After more than a year of separation with a child, it's been going fairly smoothly. We rarely chat, there's no reconciliation possible, and we're about to begin divorce proceedings (advice to others ... file earlier. It's probably not getting any better).

For the first 9 months, I had maybe 15% with our child, as my living arrangements were limited ... but the last 6 months have been 50/50. Over that time I've changed custody schedules with her in lieu of finding a babysitter for maybe 2 or three nights (and she's swapped out about the same number of nights if not more)? In a recent text after I said I could watch our child for a few extra nights for her, she says ""You usually change the calendar after we make an agreement.""

Part of me wonders if she is trying to establish a paper trail of me being an unreliable co-parent, but I have my calendar. I can see that I've only asked her to watch our child a handful of nights over the last \~15 mos. She has definitely initiated more changes to the schedule than I have. I mean ... It's on the calendar.

I dismissed it over text ""I don't recall that, but ..."" But there is a part of me that is really itching to outline every time the schedule has been changed and who decided to change it.

I let it go this time, and I know there is nothing more precious that peace of mind, but I wonder if this is something maybe I shouldn't let go of so easy? What if she tries to characterize me as an unreliable coparent through the whole process.

How meticulous should I be with my recordkeeping?

How do you decide how much to fight, what to document and what to refute when you can't afford lawyers and your stbx/ex isn't all that interested in good faith during the divorce process? How do you decide ""this matters"" or ""this hill is worth dying on"" when your stbx/ex remains bent on gaslighting you?",5.333544731130941,6.376412885780888,5.747608713125953,80.2032167832168,68.16083916083916,8.90092436299333,30.877019532191945,9.130062681391069,2.5286166867615143,1764,69,341,32,29,566,211,429,0.06,0.865,0.075,0.8453,3,0,1,0,3,0,77.0,5,7,0,3,12,9,2,0,25,0,36,2,2,6,1,56,53,29,1,9,15,1,3,0,0,3,1,2,0,5,24,15,0,1,11,1,1,4,9,2,0,3,6,8,51,7,55,37,14,42,1,0,3,0,38,12,0,8,25,240,75,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269278318401858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06450574876953317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08867812729551022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08389296466211935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5017285885281747,0.0,0.09945535270920984,0.0,0.0,0.07573528593868688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09844618708065923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07992078654105263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04796235302882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08669722467745485,0.0806849855066783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04955866458303194,0.0,0.16172759530634634,0.0795612255039545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09392295897898917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052130713109327285,0.15464159785763856,0.0,0.10043945564175777,0.0,0.1939946245160966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08376012603895737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06331752492436014,0.0,0.28588864832835864,0.103326658376727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577813729855716,0.0,0.1514272850460846,0.0,0.06973052398622387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35606601749967104,0.0,0.0910174772819779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06427729503789571,0.07214272764713435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054409336564033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10693657729310264,0.0,0.0,0.10227147099260343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060767574436679524,0.09752839523704328,0.09365946052741954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023035973056508,0.07543378493823857,0.0,0.0,0.07558843844686745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730252540086397,0.09381561450925348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06301851794590349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16593495940411765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19320423850328228,0.0,0.0,0.0987490781416481,0.0,0.0,0.1044711566139545,0.0,0.055948887266908116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590401950664463,0.0,0.0,0.20573589828605546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06108454797812736
divorce,nancy_ballosky,2020/01/13,"Divorce Jokes on TV shows arent funny right now Im sure they will be funny again one day but any jokes about a couple hitting a rough patch, or going to counseling, or ""if you think thats bad you should meet my ex-wife!"" followed by laugh tracks or deadpan stares (the office etc.) just really arent hitting me right now. Especially when Im looking for something, anything, to make me think about something else.",4.429916666666667,5.940542825000005,4.507500000000004,86.4941666666667,70.75,6.833333333333335,27.083333333333336,7.1686216300943375,1.2882083333333334,326,11,63,3,6,101,62,80,0.09699999999999999,0.774,0.129,0.3991,3,0,2,0,1,0,13.0,0,2,1,0,7,5,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,1,1,11,13,6,0,2,6,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,3,6,4,7,8,1,10,0,0,2,0,5,3,0,4,5,34,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151127925883749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828810806015252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18555756243427066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458996224028336,0.0,0.1433236689935626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18564944643117887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2478515985734624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12630169405076086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4801054761105658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18662205243932206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483440839993893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505926908189469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14236990750100809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37957622012987896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3421758645075105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20945455752510608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28479938098429713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Helpmestranger,2020/01/13,"Getting divorce after 4 months of marriage Continuing from my post from yesterday:

[https://www.reddit.com/r/BPDlovedones/comments/enei0d/preparations\_for\_divorce/](https://www.reddit.com/r/BPDlovedones/comments/enei0d/preparations_for_divorce/)

I've had enough of it all. Today she wakes up as if nothing is happening, kisses me and goes on to do chores around the house. I get up, make myself some coffee and go out to smoke, listening to the advice from someone from the last post about not having to explain myself about everything. So I go out, smoke, go back in, she doesn't even flinch, I was expecting an outburst on me for not telling her what I was going to do.. In an hour I go to smoke again, still no response, so I deicide to continue my day like that and feel free for the day.

In the next hour, my parents call me and ask if we (my wife and I) want to go for coffee with them and I told them I'll get back to them. Ask her if she's willing to go, she says no, she has chores to finish, so I say I'll go (never done it before since I was afraid of her reactions) and I was right.. The outburst began, ""Why am I going out without her"", ""I have never went anywhere without her when she can't go"", ""Why can't I wait for her"", I just told her I'm going out for coffee with my parents, I'm not doing anything bad and that she's also invited if she feels like it.. Got the answer back ""I don't feel invited at all"", I laughed it off and went out to smoke again.

When I got back in, there was only silence, which was very odd to me, since I'd usually get outbursts of emotional and verbal abuse. Later on she asked if I can wait for an hour for her to finish up and to go together, I agreed.

We went to my parents house and had a coffee and some talking with them and got back home, I go out to smoke again and she told me it's already my 5th cigarette of the day, I choose to ignore it and just go out. Got back in the house and she's gone to our bedroom, presumably trying to sleep and to make me go on a guilt trip about me not being there for her when she's upset about something.

I went on to read [https://sharischreiber.com/breaking-up-with-a-borderline/](https://sharischreiber.com/breaking-up-with-a-borderline/) as a recommendation from some kind stranger on the last post. It was a great read and I have decided to ask her to leave my house and to have a divorce as soon as possible.

Wish me luck, it's all happening and I feel more free and alive than I did in a long time!

If you have any advice for me, I'd really appreciate it all.

Thank you for reading my venting and for being here for me kind strangers, appreciate you all for spending your time on me!

I have still not asked her yet and it's really hard to start a conversation about that, but I know I have to do it, I'm just considering giving my family heads up first then tell her, or just tell her then tell everyone else..",5.7675639488409285,6.596022203237414,5.565347721822544,82.67003996802559,67.07553956834532,8.336051159072742,25.87609912070344,8.344100000000001,1.3636780175859309,2299,58,466,30,36,713,212,556,0.032,0.8959999999999999,0.07200000000000001,0.9508,3,0,7,0,5,0,120.0,3,4,4,1,34,16,0,3,20,0,33,4,3,2,7,85,91,45,0,9,19,4,5,2,0,1,0,3,4,0,16,37,0,3,10,3,3,21,15,5,0,1,24,8,88,13,93,64,10,97,0,0,0,1,63,28,0,11,47,332,104,3,0.0,0.06780012874840223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118356875564854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06314721851514933,0.04576136828599448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03891373479780488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04708981366910288,0.050940775481315884,0.2674798133320266,0.0,0.0,0.26400662819858817,0.04777897752562742,0.0,0.0,0.04869272417099398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058431279927896464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11071268025779732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058559195849870925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04780263661753209,0.06436839222911225,0.0,0.059126857054133036,0.0,0.037795380545518495,0.0,0.0,0.05467921497146331,0.05142851780167906,0.0,0.05394493541618384,0.0,0.1157350668208174,0.040880261869075896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04867402034800584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195870301363484,0.05489370278046018,0.4878189055461622,0.0,0.1830664655940122,0.06308877439099295,0.0,0.0,0.1012045645321154,0.0,0.05126074284792919,0.0,0.05872750685777702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05739953017711327,0.0,0.1690599607199762,0.26411153591766784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191783034881907,0.03144837140027037,0.0932890826403857,0.0,0.06059110102021278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05591272514417031,0.0,0.0,0.050640726776060255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07639385388000304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045675008226693785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08826811120726072,0.0,0.060857516957327336,0.0,0.0,0.05490719882301354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0435208182960709,0.0,0.0,0.19061875807801584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06451055430480007,0.1644120082814939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17171604092253734,0.0,0.0733172878709901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04886829578091773,0.0,0.09101236270797908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09467123629609653,0.0,0.0572645208052928,0.0,0.04848502734103791,0.04405321110506518,0.0,0.0,0.04050287187517996,0.0,0.09139703472798297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04599383648315053,0.20006237822208092,0.0526834296836504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06673461024387686,0.0,0.05424089783102522,0.1640376449143899,0.0,0.03885079310677682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06302326474838912,0.047215128688868416,0.03375172295287041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121858998615023,0.10327006579421867,0.0,0.0658038500822555,0.11032223573496616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Koi112_12,2020/01/13,"WTF!!!!?!! My STBX and I have a 7 yo old together and last week we were talking about custody of A (our son) and our roommate was there and listened to what was going on.  I should preface this by saying the STBX is a control freak and has done what HE WANTS with no one being able to question his choices.  And I do have recordings of his acreaming at me and A.  Well I got two job offers in England (I live in the US).  He went thru the roof y’all.  Like monitoring where I go, who I talk to, my friends, everything.  Well we drew up the Agreement and he has since asked for sex and I declined and now he has decided that since I refuse sex, he can refuse me having shared custody of A.  What does he think?  That me fucking him will magically make things better?  No.  Because this man threw me out a week after I had MAJOR SURGERY and refused to let me talk to A, and then when my grandma died had the balls to ask me when would have sex with him.  (This is a three year time span.)  I’m sorry.  Your wants don’t play when it comes to custody of A.  You ignore us all day except when your family comes around, and A and I are not your fucking throphies.",2.032711864406778,3.6166675254237326,3.112000000000002,93.76816949152544,77.13559322033899,5.7369491525423735,23.664406779661018,6.2581,0.3852481355932209,880,28,198,6,20,282,139,236,0.095,0.82,0.085,0.4781,1,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,6,5,0,2,11,12,2,0,15,0,24,5,0,2,1,38,41,19,1,4,2,1,0,1,1,3,0,2,0,1,11,22,0,5,3,2,0,6,4,4,2,3,9,2,35,8,26,27,2,29,0,0,0,5,38,9,2,1,15,142,46,1,0.13370183937348434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11902298347844838,0.2499863427851678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08150340030646944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11824841176111728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303445917006572,0.0,0.0,0.14995798175552294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08622662551869838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13876140047154814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11700338063653205,0.1368234019662075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201625920845172,0.0,0.12604219500233954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10329770943820143,0.24721039211609866,0.0,0.0,0.15197167295209724,0.0,0.10693357484244567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13267844504592738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089848440361769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13671918933615154,0.0,0.06531996517711534,0.0,0.11806117369803655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08924701599359834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14029758935225384,0.0,0.09059982659027302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14977665920170588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063250690686828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22119908633286287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496682628478015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32239342185823383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08882556110223301,0.08567074002687262,0.0,0.0,0.07796261774038926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306072694307943,0.0,0.3216537009860425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15772161791538125,0.0,0.21449510154956256,0.0,0.2404280210843285,0.12394294460062916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949779505977477,0.0,0.0,0.08609960096952966
divorce,Ririsaurus,2020/01/13,"No matter what side of the divorce you're on, it's hard because you're grieving. Divorce is hard no matter if you're the one wanting the divorce or the one being left. It's hard because you're grieving.  Even if you fell out of love with your spouse, if there was cheating, if the decline was so mundane or sudden and harsh, you're grieving.   You're grieving the loss of what you believed was there, be it a marriage or a person.  

I guess I'm saying this because on here, I see a lot of posts or comments where people tend to bash the one wanting to leave or don't understand why they feel so bad trying to leave a bad marriage.  I'll use my own events as an example.

I loved my husband. I thought he was my forever...but when we got married, he just..changed. He became this completely different person. I crumpled into a serious depression, I felt like so much was wrong with me, and when I finally started to leave him, it was gut-wrenching agony despite I didn't love him anymore.  I still cared, but then I thought about it and I realized the reason it hurt so much is that I was grieving the loss of the person I fell in love with, the person who disappeared when we got married. Sometimes I question if that person ever really existed, but even so, I grieve the loss of that great love and the future I had been so excited for and hopeful for. 

You're grieving, just like me. Grieving always starts with denial, and ends with acceptance. For those struggling to make sense of things, take a look at the stages of grief.  Denial.  Anger. Bargaining.  Depression. Acceptance, and eventually the re-construction of your life and happiness.

It might not feel like it right now, but you will get through this. Things are hurting now, but this pain won't be forever. You will be okay.",3.8301055900621117,5.6411313884058,4.3672412008281585,85.69744565217394,72.79710144927537,7.36335403726708,29.42287784679089,8.07648339933343,2.0313747412008287,1399,59,269,21,28,443,167,345,0.23399999999999999,0.617,0.149,-0.976,1,0,0,0,3,0,51.0,2,6,1,3,21,40,2,1,22,1,22,7,0,3,1,55,50,33,9,8,16,2,6,3,0,4,2,1,0,5,21,17,0,0,11,0,1,3,6,24,0,3,15,9,32,16,31,27,4,30,0,16,2,5,35,10,0,15,18,181,53,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07362504997863334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08775148595281282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14775943036341302,0.16181547901940796,0.0,0.0,0.09969018398341424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09021444516472783,0.0,0.09360341602263696,0.0,0.0927728752972534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15242077542279767,0.0,0.0,0.09244603514076087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07836978742270788,0.0,0.0,0.11688454188411185,0.08003805421213052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08947945535954077,0.06321236367649212,0.08495767801856101,0.09692894071157987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04622878190078825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14153607965085574,0.09755295999520852,0.09747414017118908,0.0,0.0,0.09419193412977866,0.2377905060594729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08788371021888013,0.0,0.0,0.18944603521369907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28107256691616755,0.09613717648694353,0.0,0.06249824942420535,0.12968515932981234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07430354171486027,0.0,0.0,0.07522519046967126,0.3992973840762109,0.0,0.05906317441871016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09386661497525534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13009055882795195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798753706428691,0.0,0.0941522857534842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061343059263023324,0.3863002681305644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08474237676164835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09912135266143356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056684556957069414,0.09097539149775287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556410707560829,0.0,0.07036533411868326,0.0,0.0,0.07050959634569742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08751207520473858,0.0,0.12525762555611122,0.0,0.07066273959644817,0.0,0.0,0.0925017761863726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06652829971446649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11756851587278393,0.0,0.0,0.14049143850457824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06007423511255615,0.0,0.0,0.09211405583105932,0.0,0.07642101226887021,0.0,0.0,0.10437928175890523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0798422595332923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967424091644764,0.0,0.0
divorce,chant12321,2020/01/13,It’s crazy when you make your mind up He tried to get me to not file... give him one more chance but the last 5 months was a last chance. I can’t believe I’m doing this. Can’t believe I literally wrote a letter to make sure I don’t go back,-0.08727272727272606,1.287123909090912,2.001818181818184,100.3027272727273,82.63636363636364,5.127272727272729,16.454545454545453,5.6839178017228535,-0.9492545454545458,185,3,50,1,5,62,42,55,0.035,0.812,0.153,0.7037,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,2,1,7,12,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,2,0,7,1,4,10,1,7,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,5,27,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19794625267134594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5800664356958374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13449551235762536,0.24694840810905466,0.146302272778493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4196763797139532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34367039659233445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25992890964699084,0.0,0.20547658475618416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17443988456549214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24262285664530264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17477672347706658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,stilltrying2run2,2020/01/13,"Need to talk. Just sent the kids back home, out of state. So, I need to vent. Im sorry.

I haven't seen my kids (19, 16) for 7 months, Reasons were part schedule, and part financial. Anyway, they spent 4 days down here. I just got back from the airport. Cried the whole 30-min drive home. I'm so lonely without them. It feels like that I didn't say goodbye. They got in line, I put my arms around them, said bye, kissed their heads, and left. They didn't look back. My daughter was kinda cold. We didn't get any pictures until they were at the airport, and I had to beg for that. 

I miss them so much already. 

Their mom is a piece of work, so its no use talking to her. (She is actually the reason why they came down when they did; her abusive ex-boyfriend got out of jail, and they came down to get away.) I rely on the kids to let me know what is going on in their lives, and they are sick of me asking every day. 

Parents whose kids live out of state, how do you do it? Is it always this hard? Will it feel like I'll never see them again every time? How can I redevelop the bond I had with them while being 1300 miles away?

Fuck. It gets harder every fucking time.",0.8557162534435285,2.7919780909090943,1.9466322314049584,99.06570592286505,82.14049586776859,4.529201101928375,17.108126721763085,5.148860815047168,-0.8756782369146006,886,17,210,3,24,279,146,242,0.102,0.866,0.031,-0.9440000000000001,1,2,0,0,0,0,46.0,1,1,16,1,16,7,2,0,8,0,21,6,2,5,1,28,47,14,0,2,3,3,3,2,0,1,1,2,2,4,11,13,0,0,5,0,1,6,7,4,0,0,18,9,36,3,31,26,5,38,0,2,3,3,36,16,2,1,17,135,47,1,0.0,0.12684268043968608,0.10447024635747766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181378650252323,0.0,0.0890783438647044,0.0,0.0,0.07280107750221605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09530165539513988,0.10008198247659132,0.0,0.2011634108370973,0.2469560824789857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24488482207356815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11759490097053556,0.1380832493172502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705953881320404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108260458847319,0.1529602402907554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19794126235973405,0.16779547172327547,0.0,0.060841828957035674,0.0,0.25686501216759816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09590026072500686,0.0,0.10986932507198273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21476980643094348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11563778094344275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05883463346619474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11631558101177525,0.10947100036671556,0.0,0.10460334012479483,0.0,0.1890630693752244,0.0,0.0898992454492401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12538153320277587,0.08545028718275235,0.0,0.07869774985681419,0.15875986604382245,0.08256742302381759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887191889375967,0.23186028561087715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10761985329446816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22014075941312827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10183382934235866,0.0851344403922024,0.0,0.0,0.08530898207697389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11983931836234915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720935228567666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12484927385378387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246115569837712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09660049469176067,0.11952309490190627,0.0,0.1031972088478652,0.0,0.07793732190237461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Fizzlefazzle86,2020/01/13,"How to move on After a fight late November my husband announced he wanted to divorce. I beg and pleaded to try and work it out but his mind was made up. He moved to the separate bedroom. 

During the last 2 months I’ve Tried to be patient as he hadn’t moved forward with anything about the divorce. We have been getting along great, hanging out most days. This New Years we had sex. I asked him if he was just using me, he said he isn’t sure what he wants, he just wants to focus on himself, he wants to talk to a counselor alone. at first I thought there must be someone else, but I haven’t been able to find evidence. (Doesn’t mean there isn’t though). Finally a week after New Years I told him if he’s not going to work on the marriage I need him to move out or at least leave for a while to give me space. but he says he has no where to go.  To be honest, I’m over it. I don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me, who doesn’t even want to try, and I’m not interested in sitting around endlessly waiting for him to maybe decide I’m worth it. Based on our prenup he technically had 10 days to move out after announcing his intentions. 

I think he is just comfortable, but it’s not fair to me to keep things in limbo, and I’ve tried to be patient. It’s so confusing, we are hanging out daily, texting throughout the day, play fighting. He asks me where I’m going what I’m doing. The other day I went out just to get out of the house while he was there and he texted me multiple times, finally saying “sorry, just want to talk, feeling weird today”. Even last night he went to give me a massage and I said no cause I know where that leads.  I just want to start healing, and I can’t do it like this. I don’t know if I should just stop being friendly and keep our interactions professional? I don’t want to be mean though, it’s just not me, Maybe he’s just scared to move on, or is just trying to be friendly because he doesn’t like conflict, but I’m not interested in a friendship.  

He brings up nothing, no discussions about the relationship, or moving forward with the divorce or anything, and anytime I bring it up he gets hostile, it’s so frustrating. 

This in between thing is just not working for me. I’m feeling so used.",2.7338817204301047,4.011749694623661,3.912016129032257,90.02135752688172,74.63440860215053,6.801075268817204,25.81989247311828,7.2793139503082624,1.0414408602150529,1748,60,385,19,36,570,198,465,0.11,0.7859999999999999,0.105,-0.3297,0,1,0,0,6,0,52.0,5,0,0,5,28,18,4,2,15,0,38,2,0,7,2,93,88,30,0,16,29,1,2,2,2,2,1,4,1,0,20,25,0,5,10,1,1,19,21,7,0,1,15,6,39,11,68,62,2,73,0,0,0,1,59,29,0,9,30,240,59,5,0.06903519521303424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07149964231516713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11362016696096315,0.0614559600509279,0.12907717691570605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042083214240349914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07091816210351146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17808795909280728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057670047197722576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09119419070355314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06981253795047149,0.0,0.0,0.15124936388439145,0.06309691774670087,0.0587213017815611,0.0,0.0,0.10667284114476852,0.0,0.10820412052861468,0.1324496996069808,0.11770287706879605,0.0,0.0,0.07611154643801885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965734643310796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12272330696192378,0.0,0.0,0.07587987572551319,0.11254579620677492,0.07787470716175178,0.07309830383531774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06745421855737091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06532277091176175,0.0,0.0,0.13871026510479756,0.15039913189593002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0697058674431918,0.0,0.05510323418486341,0.5136144102695515,0.0,0.05118872250868259,0.0,0.13334924344455695,0.0,0.06478485413505522,0.0,0.06624113169641739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07411796395821718,0.0,0.0,0.13133655909645736,0.10979911620649792,0.06911627369542504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11698659375265573,0.0,0.0,0.07727924904631346,0.04886346649398538,0.0,0.0,0.05771651438951175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06506485449030845,0.0,0.0,0.11097574981103894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172783230708594,0.04423496557350412,0.13565345757195027,0.05480623369301396,0.040254977495054016,0.0,0.06543729298845452,0.06596608746435095,0.0,0.2343518298021074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11924848665644205,0.0,0.0,0.4071874677687983,0.0,0.05537586946111345,0.0,0.0,0.1279926351930148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15077533296088694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08891280461882146
divorce,n3wadv3ntures2019,2020/01/13,"how did you determine when it was time to pull the trigger on divorce? I wont go into my personal details right now, but have been mentally consumed the past \~6 months in getting a divorce of my wife. Thinking of all the scenarios of things that could happen..

We've gone to various counselors over the past 3-4 months, but nothing seems to change, in fact, everything seems to get worse. There is no sex, there is no rel really between us. As many others have said - we're roommates, I've moved into our spare bedroom \~1 month ago, with no plans to move back into our bed. I look forward to work weeks where I dont have to see her anymore (shes working) and I get some time away from her. Weekends are the worst.

How did you know when it was time to pull the trigger on divorce? Was there an event that said 'pull the trigger' or a series of events or something else?

Thanks",2.9393103448275864,4.830049942528738,3.4466436781609215,91.01272413793106,75.4367816091954,6.249195402298851,26.54252873563218,7.0316486544052195,1.1311866666666663,686,26,141,7,15,214,113,174,0.106,0.873,0.022000000000000002,-0.9422,0,0,1,0,3,0,26.0,3,2,0,3,10,2,0,0,10,0,16,1,0,5,2,22,31,10,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,1,6,5,0,0,4,1,0,8,5,1,0,0,9,4,14,1,25,20,4,36,0,0,2,1,15,12,0,5,18,92,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12614297900838115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14112628834710345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133698305747865,0.10942218462815836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15053765228531854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136173261903631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667779974534493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887585471699155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12789271561352294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22304225393884192,0.0,0.0808740457949817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12583802862459406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07820597971563385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11949863799344893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14427285585680627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434079034776227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3407545708574449,0.3024910304770957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13654351835077713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716885351679122,0.0,0.1242534469628771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09116291357451096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12152594167554225,0.2707253847851297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133970270369171,0.25909452210879125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10955176311806228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13101343725399284,0.0,0.0,0.09453975674284104,0.0911819843479278,0.0,0.0,0.2489339833517657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711729274170075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11414684281975705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071964846790488,0.0,0.14501886321854673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,tkoff,2020/01/13,"Why is this so hard? My wife had emotionally cheated on me three times, all with the same person. The most recent time three years ago. I just found out that the last time she was intimate with him. Then about a week after, met at his apartment and did it again, making a fourth time.

I know what the right thing to do is, but I'm terrified of being alone. I have to let her have the dog, long story there, and I'm losing my best friend. Why is it so hard to let someone so toxic go? Someone just tell me I'll be okay. I'm terrified.",1.4119642857142836,3.0819291249999985,2.790500000000001,95.00450000000002,79.17857142857143,5.908571428571428,18.34285714285714,6.742157984588678,-0.1877171428571427,410,8,96,4,10,133,78,112,0.18,0.723,0.09699999999999999,-0.8655,0,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,2,8,5,1,0,7,1,13,0,0,1,1,14,21,7,0,0,3,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,6,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,5,2,11,3,11,12,4,19,0,1,0,0,9,5,0,1,13,65,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15318708749935886,0.0,0.0,0.17898073651511456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18135514921813695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19438982947506364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18947903796678767,0.1335138404615518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09821283457083946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3096105624482978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09497275513745322,0.14086454732162726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3534232101047731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15293285883936406,0.0,0.19333201597142616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535310821357088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15089245395682738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17063064133272066,0.0,0.0,0.14758019199511987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928454749458683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15104498590139154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11480837143834588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4030714161452956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13861906969585594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3118712427702598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11128502703659958
divorce,missye812,2020/01/13,"Wedding rings I’ve been divorced for 4 years-ish, no regrets on ending the marriage. I’ve been with my bf for 2 years. I’ve definitely moved on. But I can’t bring myself to get rid of my ring. I love it. There were times before the divorce that I thought about leaving and didn’t because I wanted to keep wearing my ring. I picked it out, it’s gorgeous. 

I don’t think my bf is totally okay with me still having it. Of course I don’t wear it, it’s in a box put up and away.

Does anyone else have an attachment to their ring? What things have people done with their rings after divorce? Should I just sell it or keep it? Maybe give it to my (our) daughter when she’s older?

Suggestions?",0.594204545454545,2.804539377622376,2.088631993006995,96.00679414335664,85.2937062937063,4.693881118881119,20.126311188811187,5.985473137389443,-0.1093912587412582,533,16,119,4,16,172,93,143,0.035,0.845,0.12,0.9109999999999999,0,0,0,0,3,0,20.0,1,0,2,0,5,4,0,0,4,1,13,3,2,1,1,18,22,5,0,3,3,1,0,0,2,1,0,5,0,0,12,6,0,2,2,0,1,3,5,1,0,0,6,5,19,3,19,15,1,16,0,1,0,1,15,6,0,1,7,77,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15652976011986516,0.2293734323170901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21032604684361755,0.0,0.0,0.13646441069332518,0.0,0.19049037153699303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959034509928756,0.22908890731142145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18700826796513312,0.0,0.198275596159468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169588382531318,0.21474916459737006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3979582849172533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370379053889807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20204451096848766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22489981963511396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23793025008813826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15519796653292064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22504349286109146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787767618173654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14872419806708373,0.1434419546603904,0.0,0.177721700165829,0.13053593648910258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320398140536957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14416001373018394
divorce,pcoon43456,2020/01/13,"Probably a normal emotional response? So, we are starting the process of getting a divorce. I already feel incredibly hollow. Wisconsin isn’t the worst place to get divorced from a father’s perspective, but it sure isn’t the best. I know for a fact I’m going to miss my kids when they are not with me. And I already miss my wife despite her just being in another bedroom. I can’t sleep. This is the third or fourth night in a row, since we decided, that I haven’t been able to fall asleep. Just a million things running through my head and they will not quit. 

However, I know it’s for the best. I hate myself when I put up with her anger, violence, name calling, and mainly, resentment. I know I’m not perfect, I have no problem admitting it. But, the level of toxicity these past few months has been off the charts. 

I know the hurt is only going to get worse when it actually happens, but this already sucks.",2.5957673348669097,4.810089871508385,4.008090699967138,85.08060795267829,77.65921787709496,7.116792638843247,27.847847518895826,8.124751697461798,1.9794841275057509,713,31,140,13,17,235,110,179,0.22699999999999998,0.6829999999999999,0.091,-0.9823,1,0,0,0,2,0,26.0,2,0,2,4,6,13,4,0,14,0,14,3,3,0,3,29,33,11,0,2,9,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,9,7,0,0,7,0,0,5,8,9,0,2,2,1,22,4,16,29,5,18,0,3,0,0,14,6,1,1,7,99,31,0,0.14532233087894064,0.0,0.14181363193959584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4811004173807649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15238313481401775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.305013641164239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483903478380406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16346806238781733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347933693987385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22777475977869396,0.0,0.16518005918586254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285080572618793,0.0,0.0,0.14347571556786445,0.1491426369752667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15557056083384324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3194614101751379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11599489805166173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13637516312521206,0.1423850294089854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11052418110846292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872660838843778,0.0,0.0,0.15183090548704584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566820516893003,0.1390538444416673,0.0,0.1460890808304541,0.0,0.15456818696903898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12021213382259073,0.0,0.1454272809283304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285989376604636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13696457703425893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09654569930745646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480958703997002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,boardupman,2020/01/13,Is this a sign or is that usual? your girlfriend is being awkward and went to a gathering and took a extra pair of panties? Is she cheating or is that usual? Please let me know what you think....,1.5603846153846168,3.7794147179487183,2.735576923076924,92.81567307692309,81.30769230769229,4.925641025641027,22.57051282051281,5.985473137389443,0.31494358974358994,150,5,31,1,4,48,29,39,0.14,0.804,0.055999999999999994,-0.5329999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,1,3,0,7,0,0,0,0,7,11,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,2,0,4,0,2,7,1,4,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,2,2,25,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17458750357854436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32484724629503003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34871501268436306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035552150427222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3529519120688587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6997548025457585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29449065962656024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,building_upward,2020/01/13,"I’m SO ready to file! Our 6 year marriage has been over for almost 3 years now.  We have a small child.  I finally told him I wanted a divorce early December knowing I have legal benefits at work that start Jan 1.

Last week he asked to stay on my health/work benefits which means not filing for divorce.  We are still under same roof (separate bedrooms) and he’s rarely here.  He’s abandon all responsibility of house, home and more importantly our child!  

It’s infuriating.  I’ve been left to do everything.  I don’t know why I should keep him on my benefits and be miserable with zero help - I hate to sound selfish but what’s in it for me?  Live under same roof rent free?  I’d rather move!

Anyone else in same boat.  I want a divorce.  I want to not live in same house.  I will struggle financially to move but it can’t be worse than  living with him and the constant neglect of our daughter.",1.7219625334522741,4.110710830508474,3.376491228070176,87.44727029438002,81.93785310734464,6.438180196253345,22.87511150758252,7.669130373188453,1.1112440677966098,695,24,143,12,19,230,114,177,0.111,0.76,0.129,-0.6623,1,0,0,0,3,0,21.0,5,0,0,1,5,10,1,2,4,0,13,0,0,0,1,29,25,7,0,5,5,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,2,6,8,0,3,3,0,2,2,4,6,0,1,3,1,20,5,23,18,6,24,0,3,0,0,21,11,0,1,10,86,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14696130958627884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10261965857447976,0.15037538735389075,0.0,0.0,0.13720300057614565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585979791629293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226011245049579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13190055110467702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607709980651641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448974519382115,0.0,0.1560015319462414,0.0,0.0,0.09837172018948616,0.0,0.1472146191867034,0.0,0.0,0.3386881309216511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13044913406185976,0.0,0.0,0.1613135161715587,0.11963091625318915,0.0,0.0,0.15945773988146178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3887815734837789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15986724123696114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3119703372686209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387915790728737,0.15642915460719048,0.11720461492242995,0.0,0.0,0.15342789027825282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14023772990151487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25969273752260297,0.0,0.11772391728925742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13243020772444838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21368950049277546,0.0,0.1495633890275886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18902030358642755
divorce,idontknowthrowaway1,2020/01/13,Looking for advice for how to tell the kids Married 12 years. We have two kids 8 and 3. Any suggestions on how to deliver the awful news about the separation?,2.7286021505376357,5.044987451612903,4.427096774193551,81.727311827957,77.70967741935483,8.004301075268819,26.46236559139785,8.841846274778883,2.2856365591397854,125,5,24,3,3,42,25,31,0.094,0.9059999999999999,0.0,-0.4588,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,2,0,5,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,6,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,1,15,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4737044571636878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3296552294060072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4070785405764644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42370392825948816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4735426762957149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3121712569965965
divorce,heyobird,2020/01/13,"My brother is going through a divorce: help This is probably a played out story but I think I’m needing support more than anything. 

My older brother’s wife asked for a divorce this week. Our parents are divorced, and since he was older it hit him pretty hard and I think has scarred him in ways I cannot comprehend. My brother is someone who is difficult to communicate with and rarely shows any emotion. I am the exact opposite, so opposite that I am in grad school to become a therapist. 

He is terribly upset. He thinks divorce will ruin his kids (they have 3). And for once, I’m not sure how to support him. He is easily able to cut himself off from any emotions, people, or society. I am doing the best I can to support him while also keeping in mind that advice will not help him and pushing isn’t the best approach. But I’m worried sick that he will isolate and fall into a dark place that he may stay in. 

This post is not seeking advice, just wanting to share. Being the person I am, I sometimes cannot handle the pain of close ones (even if I am very passionate about being their for others’ pain). Has anyone experienced something similar? Do I just need to ride this one out? I can’t stand the idea of him struggling, but I also understand that’s life sometimes. Thank you in advance.",3.5827423301336334,5.448662956521745,4.686437041219651,82.92129117259555,73.58498023715416,7.032486354225485,29.438923395445126,7.793537801064563,2.03588364389234,1020,44,188,14,21,334,147,253,0.126,0.695,0.179,0.9528,1,0,1,0,4,0,30.0,1,1,2,3,9,18,1,2,11,0,30,5,0,1,2,35,48,16,0,4,10,5,1,0,0,4,4,0,0,2,12,11,0,1,5,2,0,6,7,8,0,2,1,2,28,10,26,40,3,25,0,1,0,1,34,11,0,3,4,134,40,2,0.11379539751629685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22239909086897447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18200427656127569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15476954504307175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07956838781817525,0.0,0.09364391615966387,0.0,0.1063833354282374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256780761064274,0.0,0.0,0.23884249815048605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560090115281268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516078682955968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06467254682447635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10193832448063336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15254931250228512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12846115257250768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011465778951683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08037705459547806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11490091207011835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16875569072417554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12118838447484707,0.15422141281015642,0.0,0.24217265225882995,0.0,0.12635632216449053,0.0,0.0,0.07889140046101957,0.09936175181813256,0.11889197028879657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10898453486736498,0.11577082945795147,0.12269068523615788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151670175328174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941327287546718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09641847103553566,0.08760525654815766,0.22509311576879545,0.0,0.0,0.1212907527929507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11896365711374955,0.0,0.0,0.38740100569506775,0.10725081544589778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476751313918073,0.0,0.13212522729591794,0.0,0.21874648761503934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184650220247046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389312056907044,0.06711947379219722,0.0903254898086747,0.0912798038550082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556474993784445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Football0331,2020/01/13,"When did you know it was time? Hello, 

My wife and I have been married 3 years. We’ve been fighting a lot for many months now, we’ve tried counseling and we’ve talked about many suggestion for solutions but she’s never into trying any of them. I’m tired of being unhappy 24/7... I’m thinking it’s time to start divorce proceedings. When did you know it was time to?",0.2644471744471737,2.684831243243245,1.8633660933660965,93.68519656019657,94.67567567567568,5.393611793611793,18.889434889434884,6.980632752743323,0.4833135135135138,288,9,60,5,11,93,51,74,0.136,0.845,0.019,-0.8523,0,0,0,0,3,0,11.0,0,2,1,0,4,1,1,0,1,0,8,1,0,0,1,9,14,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,6,0,6,0,8,7,1,12,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,1,11,34,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17035999565101811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27535493279272083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129804011209516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5079693736043469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1999600974640632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19321397855444053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17731706073349282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013558920508746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16052103217250185,0.0,0.0,0.4382350333368889,0.2879321770853282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3401688878797857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613245877522971
divorce,REALKORENS,2020/01/13,"Stupid fucking mistakes man. It just happened to me. I just wanna be completely transparent with you guys. I had a beautiful family, and a wife, and kid. I was completely unfaithful, and i cheated multiple times. Whether it was using google docs to text another woman, or cheating at a convention bathroom, these stupid fucking mistakes led to the worst incident of my life. This is  not who I am or represent. I don't know where to go from here to be completely honest. I remember the first time i met here, i gave her a mix tape on a CD , and all those years of work are gone completely. What do I do?",3.4536206896551715,5.472102637931035,4.802965517241383,81.28858620689657,74.3448275862069,9.467586206896552,30.565517241379307,9.888512548439397,3.3226234482758628,470,22,90,14,10,156,80,116,0.19399999999999998,0.745,0.061,-0.9447,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,0,2,5,10,6,0,7,0,11,3,0,2,1,19,20,7,0,3,6,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,7,5,0,0,2,1,0,3,2,9,0,1,6,0,14,1,12,12,2,10,1,0,0,2,10,3,2,2,4,67,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885152618047601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7539846640567024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16948081458886932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15292098422682293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33240787840843705,0.0,0.0,0.1021732560507876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17801070717641426,0.1589790765776775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988025207795896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269841035034638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036559710820577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20966261277624604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15527240876656093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308821592504598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577258320375675
divorce,ErinTheEggplant,2020/01/13,"pre-divorce social circles? Today I (33F) went to a party with a group that I used to socialize with with my ex-husband (who was not present).  In fact, many of them are his co-workers.  I appreciate that they still include me, and they are only kind, loving, and supportive.  But I left feeling so incredibly sad.
 I believe I made the right choice in ending it, but I miss being part of a married couple like my friends.  I left the group feeling lonely, disappointed, and a little jealous. 
Anyone else get emotional after spending time with their pre-divorce social circle?",5.2285,7.032291314285715,5.936369047619048,75.87883928571429,69.19047619047619,7.5357142857142865,32.17261904761905,8.07648339933343,2.6222619047619045,448,20,73,6,8,146,75,105,0.136,0.662,0.20199999999999999,0.5289,0,2,0,0,2,0,23.0,0,0,4,0,2,10,1,0,6,0,4,1,0,2,1,15,13,6,0,0,3,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,7,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,5,0,0,3,2,16,5,11,9,1,13,0,4,0,1,13,6,0,0,7,50,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11720366348561262,0.17174629637997127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888501178799595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18546812363966625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14002483675199295,0.1885497171627563,0.1484613931043411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16950721743371694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12950264385909285,0.0,0.08757442872071823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17455023060582509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3642388124236252,0.0,0.0,0.0818905688541045,0.16799907772689673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15128341635821965,0.1586059103046561,0.0,0.16994017109014792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12748241328147664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815159120224806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431463957484189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5126018403434913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13386139105461287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19021296585451705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977404549865304,0.0,0.1588839738033459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14476969144608146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15538523652419553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220292127944788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,skyhero54321,2020/01/13,"In a bit of a pickle. So for 2 months my husband was talking to 3 people behind my back. Two of which were minors, and one adult. 

I filed for a divorce due to the abuse he was putting me through. We have a child together. 

He was talking to these girls from November to mid December. 

I was also talking to a guy friend, but only because we played a game together. I never deleted any messages, and he has read everything (he has gone through my whole phone before the split). 

Yes we are separated now. We have been separated over a month. 

Is it wrong for me to look to start dating now or is that a bad move since we have a child. I have been emotionally (out of love) with him for a long time. He knows we are not getting back together and he is moving on (I am not sure if with another woman or what.)

What are some things about dating while separated and the extents of it with children involved? I am not planning on bringing anyone around my child. Just need some pointers, if it’s a good idea or not. Thanks.",2.1256520611874485,4.167298044334977,3.515758361420797,88.88609281825255,78.40886699507391,6.44117189525538,24.969924812030076,7.475848149327749,1.1710059113300495,785,29,164,11,19,257,119,203,0.083,0.855,0.062,-0.6654,0,0,0,0,2,0,27.0,6,0,0,1,9,8,0,0,14,1,21,1,0,0,2,33,30,13,0,3,11,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,9,15,0,0,2,3,0,5,5,2,0,2,8,1,19,6,29,22,5,26,0,0,1,1,32,7,0,7,14,120,28,1,0.0,0.17985824679383902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139445193900332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032292452261535,0.159175597028704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10614213043071534,0.0,0.0,0.135134235546772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334497498569523,0.12674670815524222,0.09253590670470456,0.0,0.12917066918132294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16572634801209565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17075463408377567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13642810445597742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117280348641164,0.0,0.07930926525015075,0.0,0.0,0.1273226869652296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15030592388669975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713637888804447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08342534223738376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13433827490368386,0.12747381731875165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13700547946668504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24233071687613614,0.32267887740872936,0.0,0.1125578199265674,0.11707756329235328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10286364825633472,0.11545078486224865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10523904715438501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15260098625050078,0.0,0.0,0.15184113775218808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12557057705013905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10744486271727073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14306975865682592,0.0,0.0,0.3660334108160633,0.0,0.13975709888620466,0.0,0.0,0.1008492137044843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08851583485537791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14828659974380065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16947934422319674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659695339978934,0.0,0.0
divorce,french_toast74,2020/01/13,"Left my (30F) wife 3 years ago (38M). Still not divorced, I want this done once and for all. We married in late 2010, and I (38M) left my (30F) wife in late 2016 because she cheated on me. Without going into too much details she routinely brought our 2 kids with her to her ""boyfriend"" or what ever you want to call him while I was at work, after work, etc... I gave her a dozens of chances to stop, but she never did, even after I left, while she begged me not to leave. She would tell my children to lie to me about where they were or what they were doing during the day. She made my children tell me they were hanging out with her friend ""Lisa"" ( not the actual name ) and her neighbor's children. Turns out Lisa didn't have children at her neighbor's, and they were in fact the boyfriend's kids.

To this day, she still somewhat thinks that I can't be with any other woman and makes every possible attempt to ensure I don't see anyone else (constant calls, tries to make me feel guilty if I don't call my kids when I don't have them, etc...). She, to this day firmly believes I cheated on her which I never did. I'd literally rush home and stay on the phone with her on my drive home as soon as I left work. I never hung out with friends and was either with her or at work.

I currently work night shifts (except Saturday) and I take my kids every day I don't work ( hence sometimes difficult to call the kids before bedtime). She works 9 to 5 Monday to Friday. I take them Saturday night through Wednesday morning ( I work Wednesday through Saturday). She rarely takes days off when the kids have no school, and expects me to. And will use her vacation days for herself. I use all mine for when the kids don't have school.

I really don't know where to start with this divorce. I want it done. She didn't work at all while we were together, but now she does. I have training in a few months where I will have to be out of state for 4 weeks. I worry that if I file I won't be able to go to training and I will loose my job. She refused to use any babysitter what so ever and thinks that I can't hire who I want while it's my days. We have no family nearby that will help watch the kids. I'm walking on eggshells to keep her somewhat agreeable because I know she will do every attempt to block me from going to training if I file now. I waited to file because before that I worked a job with a crazy schedule and I didn't want to push her into finding ways to keep me from working. She has in the past ""not been home"" when I dropped off my kids to go to work and forced me to bring my kids to work with me at least 30 times ( sometimes when my kids were genuinely sick). I needed the income, and my job had me by the balls ( I had to be there or I lost my job, no one capable of covering me) so I just dealt with it. 

When I left I was giving her over $1000 a month to get on her feet, and paid and still pay 100% of the kids private school and after school care and summer care at the school ( I wanted them in public school, her idea) and her car insurance and internet. When she filed for public assistance the state made me pay her about $400 a month, so I certainly was helping her more than what was demanded of me. I literally had no money for food after rent for the past 3 years. I still help with her car repairs because she's clueless about it and I need her to be able to get around. ( She drove her last car 20,000 mi without and oil change and blew up the engine, kind of clueless)

Every few days she says that she deserves more money because she has the kids more. In my opinion I have them more (4 nights a week for me vs 3 for her) but I really don't know if having more nights constitutes more time. We have for the past few weeks agreed to trade every other Saturday night ( her idea ). She will not file for divorce herself, she has it too easy. 

What can I do? I want to divorce. I don't want this crap from her looming over me. How do I start, I live in MN? I can't really afford a lawyer, if things get ugly. She can't dictate what kind of job I can have, can she? 

tl;dr: left 3 years ago, still married, want a divorce because she cheated, but can't because I have to walk on eggshells around her or she will do everything she can to make me loose my job and keep me from seeing other women. Need advice on next steps. 

Thank for reading.",4.0592035087719305,4.289845002222221,4.609894736842108,90.13468421052634,70.64444444444446,7.5157894736842135,26.23391812865497,7.0608816371341465,0.9460777777777772,3362,94,758,27,57,1071,312,900,0.09699999999999999,0.8390000000000001,0.064,-0.9636,11,0,0,0,5,0,120.0,5,1,8,16,35,14,4,0,27,0,73,4,2,9,10,126,129,56,0,19,25,2,1,0,4,9,1,1,6,19,28,48,1,7,9,2,7,17,31,6,0,2,29,6,161,8,122,86,19,141,0,1,3,0,118,44,1,13,75,516,189,31,0.0864741543219221,0.0,0.0421931502857349,0.0,0.0,0.04225077139456511,0.07665412025447421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058805390264011236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030232369663061507,0.04430149507279178,0.0,0.07698033093187283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18449844647696528,0.0,0.07358313620554041,0.048713379811378806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17659955990548953,0.0,0.08816616353147355,0.0,0.04573909460445807,0.0,0.0,0.04672392015793171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22307470283737185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0378370575930783,0.08849308305643742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03611902990742051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09644154047930843,0.02855768168622828,0.07822082332294454,0.18214551153978287,0.0,0.03885869700944235,0.0,0.04076006834602931,0.0,0.021861965341391176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03951790521942107,0.0,0.052282445327807056,0.0,0.06680971712070255,0.0,0.06776876481615754,0.041476944217953775,0.09829050939763337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08694270426756409,0.0,0.1301109411846961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09761879455920992,0.0,0.0,0.2574367649508093,0.11529330241306755,0.0,0.09004952472489436,0.07128590058123087,0.035243988661998946,0.09754661262417014,0.04578182177235702,0.2818632650721873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038179131273103316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04719837725219879,0.0,0.0,0.08182393567698258,0.08658325423904392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035342674523045,0.0,0.03178422663516636,0.09617923457951162,0.100041298163372,0.0,0.045983122074627916,0.20287533977814584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04604607607087775,0.029298562468619224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12382404758218467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048743308008763184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043248777728090465,0.0,0.08309633633384192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034383859167601415,0.0,0.26254938242565,0.06890870514806988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08552514976278155,0.0,0.06120685150908616,0.046084971377412895,0.1726459283617647,0.03614813253472013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09752670331319384,0.0,0.07558222237999718,0.03980689156529402,0.0,0.0,0.02872479284682575,0.0554091464161731,0.0,0.0,0.050423774791840764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02935513723600805,0.04702952411186968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11202885722960072,0.0,0.0,0.22952113509218636,0.034319579330086426,0.10404652583469827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335799892893976,0.0,0.4092023926156828,0.0439093506346262,0.0,0.030714379082799486,0.0,0.0,0.08352978032520157
divorce,Catcherofsouls,2020/01/13,Highlight of the weekend go Saw a Broadway touring company with the kids (2/3 for the first time) and they loved it. You?,0.8993478260869558,3.339923173913049,1.5307608695652206,94.3291847826087,99.86956521739133,4.039130434782609,27.48913043478261,5.985473137389443,1.1881391304347837,95,5,18,1,4,29,21,23,0.0,0.76,0.24,0.743,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,1,3,2,0,4,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,3,12,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5733304460665677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3830673649130013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.608339316553573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3930329114550736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,dallasgirl1977,2020/01/13,"Finally ready for the plunge After 4 years of complete misery and dealing with STBX spiralling depressive ups and downs, not to mention the dead bedroom and lack of initmacy on any level, I am finally ready to put the bullet in this ""marriage"" and free myself from this farce of a marriage. 
I have already gotten a conaultation and paid my retainer fee. Its just a matter of time before the papers get filed and this charade is over. 
I am struggling with the idea of being alone and although the thought of being in this marriage is far worse than being alone, it does frighten me a bit. All the what ifs keep coming to my mind and the anxiety is setting in.",10.814320000000002,7.6640401920000025,9.736,69.78800000000003,59.08,11.920000000000002,42.6,9.3871,4.13596,524,22,91,6,5,165,82,125,0.212,0.721,0.066,-0.9619,0,2,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,12,0,9,0,0,0,1,22,15,10,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,7,11,0,2,2,0,3,2,1,2,0,0,3,0,7,2,22,9,3,17,0,1,0,0,5,9,0,1,5,71,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4096527714940484,0.21824018127174769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344879590254043,0.0,0.15129078318042302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682846719074972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21590972841128372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17035827424782654,0.20735434678545692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038885129025101,0.17033594260747642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17306674195593275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4332869305054505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10332480095083453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22325423543397568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17578389624056331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19968772474154667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19880989288580075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067484199035888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15700446044560873,0.1153191999520066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015408952101236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12735510155720944
divorce,pdigging,2020/01/13,"Ex Bash What’s the deal with lying and cheating exes finding the need to continually bash your character and lie about you constantly to strangers, friends, family and even online?",8.806451612903226,10.361885935483876,7.96467741935484,65.56701612903228,60.61290322580646,11.361290322580645,38.08064516129032,11.20814326018867,4.82143870967742,148,7,22,4,2,46,26,31,0.18899999999999997,0.728,0.084,-0.5994,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,2,0,0,2,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,4,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,13,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.459217763809249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4381026726446005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2806741103742741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4006031038343487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3883947238148801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3283137287410306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.315093517261956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Long-Eared-LLama,2020/01/13,"1st tax season post divorce: H&R Block or real CPA? Divorce completed! This past year I had my paycheck taxed at married & single rates. For this first post-divorce tax season are the complexities simple enough for a standard H&R Block or would it be worth the extra $ for a CPA? 

-yes property is involved. 
-already splitting the kids for tax purposes. 
-me and the ex can be civil, but $ is always an argument.",2.9115584415584417,5.937862038961043,3.8104025974026,81.45846103896108,84.45454545454545,5.6774025974025975,28.479220779220785,7.1686216300943375,2.113219220779221,335,16,53,5,10,107,56,77,0.10099999999999999,0.856,0.043,-0.6707,0,0,0,0,3,0,21.0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,1,8,0,0,0,0,10,8,4,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,2,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,0,5,4,3,7,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,2,5,34,6,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344138459870215,0.0,0.17675278942123998,0.6904800568149579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22272126804908374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21948954030111487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806867282157378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027816021660093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4068846535018691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24178365575329056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508990649609571,0.0,0.0,0.13679332095550228
divorce,BestThrowaway12345,2020/01/13,"Need some perspective please! Apologies for the length! Using a throwaway because details might get personal and identifiable if you know us. This might seem petty, but I really need objective help to see if I am justified or ""being crazy.""


My STBXH (not officially, but it's happening. Still living together, 3 young kids) and I can't seem to talk about this with getting into a huge fight. So, he has a female friend who he's been friends with for about 20 years. After we decided to separate, he leaned heavily on her (their friendship was still there, but they barely talked anymore with work and life and kids etc). So they have been having long phone conversations and texting back and forth often. When we first decided to separate, there was a lot of anger, so I know he said all kinds of not so nice things about me to her. After a few days, we started being nicer to each other, fighting less. But I noticed that he'd end up getting mean out of nowhere sometimes. He then admitted to me that his friend said things will probably get bad between us. So I made the connection with his ups and downs to her giving him advice. He was approaching me defensively instead of based on how I was behaving and I'm sure she had something to do with it. When I brought this up to him, he says he doesn't listen to anyone's advice. I bring up how she's in a bad divorce already and her kids lives are in turmoil, but ours doesn't have to be like that, I DON'T want to fight him.


So anyway, I ended up reaching out to her ex to ask what her deal is. I had not seen this side of her before, but she's basically getting my stbxh all riled up, she unfriended me on facebook when we had first separated, and from what I hear from my stbxh, she says she has done absolute nothing wrong in their marriage and her ex is evil (clues me in to her mindset). I just wanted to know what I'm dealing with, because she seems irrational and ""off."" So we exchange a couple messages, he confirms what I think about her (I know he's biased), and we wish each other well. I didn't ask about their marriage (though he volunteered some info), just about her. Fast forward a week or so, and in a moment of falsely thinking my stbxh and I were in a good place, I shared with him that I spoke to his friends ex and what he said about her behavior, and basically warned him not to take her advice. Well, he told her. A few days later I get a scathing message from her on FB messenger, telling me not to ask about her divorce (I didn't), accusing me of ""hoeing around and being shady"" and told me that she and stbxh had been friends before I was there and will be after I'm gone and that they (their group of longtime friends) are a ""tribe"" and stick together. Just to note: my stbxh and I have been together for 10 years. Clearly he has talked a lot of shit about me with her.


So I confront him with this vicious, LONG (omg, it was loooooong and SO ANGRY) message and ask that he stand up for me with regards to her calling me a ho (wtf) and the whole bit about her being here after I'm gone. He got absolutely pissed at me, saying I started drama and it's not his job to defend me and he's not getting involved. I reminded him that she wouldn't have known about my convo with her ex if he didn't tell her. He says he simply asked because he thought she knew. She and ex don't talk, so there's no reason she would have known. He was protecting his friend and told her, that's the fact of the matter. He even said he thought I might be giving ex ammo to use against her (I don't know what ammo they think I could possibly have! So strange). But when I say that, he YELLS that he didn't ""tell"" her, he just asked, and that I'm causing drama and to drop it. He got mad at me for telling him to stick up for me, and when I ask him if he yells at her like he does me about causing drama, he yells more and louder, not letting me get a word in, about how he's done and to stop with the drama.


Also, while we were arguing about it, he said, I want to ""ruin"" him. I have never said anything like that. I don't want to and there's not really any way to ruin him? He doesn't have a lot of assets or anything that I'd take and I'm not, nor have I ever, talked about trying to get full custody or anything. So this accusation is ridiculous. Interestingly, though, his friend's ex said that she's talked about ruining him. Exact same term... it seems clear to me this came from her.


What do you guys make of this? I feel like he's gaslighting me by saying he innocently asked her, when it seems obvious that he really just wanted to make sure she knew. He threw me under the bus for her. I told him that his friends aren't privvy to our private conversations, and I should be able to trust that things stay between us. The way he yells at me about how I'M causing drama and am crazy, but not her and acts like it's ok for him to berate me about it but saying anything to her would be getting involved in the drama and he doesn't want to is so frustrating. I honestly think he started the drama in the first place by telling (sorry, asking) her about it!",4.259316942993415,4.81741287741313,4.885355439473088,87.17272087213264,70.32239382239382,7.947399500340677,27.204406086759032,7.928766900206844,1.4162504428798541,3975,124,857,48,68,1276,347,1036,0.098,0.7829999999999999,0.11900000000000001,0.9688,1,0,1,0,6,0,139.0,12,2,8,4,68,47,14,1,28,1,77,4,2,13,11,179,170,89,0,18,33,7,1,5,9,9,1,21,0,5,50,68,0,3,27,7,1,9,29,21,2,3,48,24,157,26,134,101,19,89,0,3,2,1,219,38,2,22,44,588,207,2,0.043639132110421926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12793096451390748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048156867439613366,0.03489819818232024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029676106284690695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04327829286893984,0.03051349583196775,0.0,0.1436451497273818,0.03884807961155586,0.36717027906087263,0.0,0.0,0.03355579891004652,0.07287370500887262,0.07980602967219894,0.0,0.07426737450403029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04764262982845648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04456043303221013,0.0499115415368788,0.0,0.134488228888754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03484229604167384,0.048285869650623515,0.0,0.0562872600717953,0.08998005803596856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038188898588752,0.08931596666402823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730263653837967,0.0,0.04866916778672925,0.02882323518847665,0.039474093381339885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.022065256404238152,0.03117580469919632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11135827044019177,0.0,0.0,0.3034393669526789,0.0,0.2279964538893974,0.0837252639222412,0.0,0.03660243356962253,0.0698044009185805,0.0,0.0,0.04320960172389452,0.038589940404799114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04918447348396137,0.0,0.02925039038019038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043305104991045035,0.0,0.0,0.04544344072242814,0.11991462872994345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04462396922456505,0.03082360957205088,0.10659937825723008,0.0,0.0770683063189308,0.07723851734864164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11130128871044576,0.0,0.04129240195295315,0.058258919094241926,0.0,0.0,0.04753580811820515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13888266880288302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06471572702088535,0.033657188950716316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04187292421385135,0.049683441145935515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03810400691902735,0.09118720987917144,0.04790266247181945,0.0,0.04919656455441409,0.0,0.0,0.04705036529242858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08386903642133192,0.0448682958967033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2905756552839797,0.2429251258050172,0.0,0.0,0.03477473831452547,0.19863713451074444,0.0,0.0,0.044794942000168966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033595535913699466,0.043160217506926016,0.048850435609249086,0.09266400695141086,0.04651350845842496,0.06970053454869589,0.03648426847529833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08225873113231552,0.0,0.06562239278007337,0.21045288821647432,0.19071262468558314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08697570087038248,0.111848775141735,0.08575045146102753,0.06928919271463223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16679624338172033,0.0,0.029628106155111963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15747750835266147,0.07538039759444085,0.0,0.0,0.154436944617917,0.06927742366970198,0.035004679507109566,0.0,0.0784736412326957,0.0,0.0,0.04872153255803355,0.05018284827014405,0.0,0.0,0.03176980791594214,0.0,0.0,0.0619999747667529,0.04771254037701925,0.0,0.056204340627928034
divorce,CoastalRose,2020/01/13,"I Guess I Asked for These Feelings I just need to vent into the void for a moment, as part of processing my feelings, so pardon my noise.

I'm the one who asked for the divorce, and who wanted it. That doesn't change that I keep getting major pangs of isolation and sadness out of nowhere even though we're still living together, still pending submitting the paperwork. I know that I can't take it back, and I don't want to—that way just lies more misery—but I guess I don't know why it has to hurt me so much too, and so suddenly and out of nowhere. I have to be the strong one of the two of us, it isn't fair to my STBX to show my heartbreak, when I feel like his is so much more... legitimate (I know all feelings are equal and valid but y'know... can't tell the heart not to feel that feeling either!) I don't want to upset him even more than he already is, and he's trying so hard to not upset me with his grief, and I definitely don't want to give him false hope or risk running back to him while seeking comfort.

But it still just sucks, even when I'm the one who ended it. I wish it hurt less. I feel like I don't even have anything to be crying about—this is what I wanted, and still want, after all. Right?",4.3822308690012965,4.001260556420238,5.095891050583656,89.04388845654995,69.89494163424125,8.09846952010376,26.471854734111552,7.3011,1.0167361348897537,941,24,219,8,15,305,126,257,0.145,0.74,0.11599999999999999,-0.5768,0,1,0,0,1,0,31.0,1,0,0,1,22,14,1,3,9,0,18,1,1,0,2,46,48,22,1,9,9,0,8,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,13,0,1,10,1,0,1,11,9,0,4,0,8,30,5,27,46,12,19,0,5,0,0,16,4,1,4,15,152,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11443370682131745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08533490561247473,0.0,0.19388791626421156,0.0,0.0,0.1594752590351702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096991034054426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11390776715382467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09184595797515628,0.0,0.0,0.2739671262327024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3670310075351614,0.1481642425907396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05417810739744578,0.09947690552369637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284708451112497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092893352334998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12288304293578853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10299585874754154,0.0,0.0,0.22202245483896416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09217185730456308,0.0,0.0,0.22795960281057104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10132355069913186,0.0,0.09156754207045263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15246043650253185,0.07689101187824131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21080605519217804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11229520671223876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08855782350744988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33125454207901905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07796825308170988,0.0,0.09063692777675073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018831014557954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07040437207998293,0.0,0.10129821908174112,0.0,0.12473634589000387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3669838380776672,0.08231092273075938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09357163078907972,0.0,0.11924798376068182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Maybeenaut,2020/01/13,"I reopened the wound. My wife (25 F) and I (27 F) split up in November last year. To keep it short she cheated and we split up, about two weeks later she decides to tell me shes pregnant and she is keeping the baby. She started to explain how she doesn't want to be with the baby's father and she made a mistake by leaving me (blah blah). I  know that I'm not ready for a kid and I just felt like she was dragging me into parent hood by trying to make it seem like we've always wanted this (we haven't). Unfortunately I, desperate for some attention, decided what could really go wrong if we just hung out and talked. I know, it was stupid and of course I knew what would happen. But about a couple days ""back together"" I called it off. I knew that it was just wrong to do, especially to the baby. What sucks now is that I just feel like deep down, my depression is creeping in on how shitty this whole thing actually played out. I never wanted it to end and I possibly would have considered kids the right way later down the road but it just sucks how it happened. To top it off Ive been just eating everything I can lol. Its starting to get some what out of hand so that's not helping. I know that some of this is for sure my fault but maybe I just don't really know how to deal with all of this. I don't have insurance at the moment, therapy isn't really in my budget. I have a best friend that helps a lot and Ive started drowning myself in work and being social again, but things are just hard. I kind of don't know how or where to start the healing process.",1.9962175824175787,3.6498266953846175,3.5324780219780223,90.4100576923077,77.43076923076923,6.735164835164835,21.453296703296704,7.5804360353943165,0.6483604395604399,1216,32,269,17,28,402,167,325,0.09300000000000001,0.7959999999999999,0.111,0.8743,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,3,0,0,3,20,17,4,0,13,1,28,4,1,7,3,72,57,22,1,8,16,3,4,5,1,2,2,0,0,2,26,19,1,2,14,1,1,1,9,9,0,1,8,4,39,8,42,44,7,40,0,1,0,0,25,22,2,7,19,190,65,1,0.0,0.0,0.11186492361561748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953835420099746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08814542662030236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202998865620062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11705274520624223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09152483769667323,0.12683883913764402,0.0,0.07392857141647217,0.11818122143599738,0.09873292744760452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172978118651176,0.0,0.0,0.1015304969316286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10302442797766978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05796170862901485,0.08189358306766882,0.11006531408406564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08856489562732624,0.0,0.059890824682407084,0.0,0.06514837273020466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20273853525893268,0.0,0.10268833198700338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15367168850808294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037815203097952,0.0,0.11937225754364544,0.3149955134655257,0.09344090386436836,0.0,0.12137941729560832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16801115716179807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09745657378099642,0.0,0.1084681785129644,0.07651817934309632,0.0,0.11516389757326367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08841176116396339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12728598419870102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12923108111736098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22030981933732569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09789565078440292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043572528910454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11685354351476447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32455029892049736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10803990941088648,0.0,0.0,0.0921373762403154,0.10019398262489483,0.0,0.13109241761045629,0.0,0.15231366873172222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07782803991628551,0.0,0.1119794354416788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20283990862167536,0.09099005630727283,0.09195139168441424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12798325214772438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345392937604466,0.0,0.0,0.16286348123951844,0.25066559958503065,0.0,0.07381966371657818
divorce,montauk7,2020/01/14,"Officially moving out - heartbroken and angry My husband (34M) and I (29F) have been married for 3.5 years and living together for almost 8. We live in a large, expensive East Coast city, we have no children and our families live on the other side of the country. I had a bad feeling he might have issues with alcohol since early on in our relationship (a previous DUI, drinking alone a lot, etc) But I was young and fresh out of another relationship and frankly he was fun to hang out with (extroverted, charismatic – the exact opposite of me) and I didn’t want to be alone. We moved into together after a year of dating and then a few years later we got married. In the years we’ve been together I’ve helped him finish his bachelor’s degree, helped him find his career path and get a great job, we’ve traveled the world together, and moved across the country for my job. The drinking problem of course always followed.

He is truly a different person when he drinks, I’ve never seen anything like it. He can be mean and nasty – lots of name calling, breaking things, or doing dumb things like falling asleep on a park bench downtown in the middle of the night. Throughout our relationship he’s had a few bouts of staying sober, going to meetings here and there, but it never sticks. His typical MO is to ghost me after work or lie about where he is, and finally come home in the middle of the night belligerent, puking, etc. (Luckily we live in the city and don’t have a car so no risk of DUI). After these episodes he would apologize, promise to go to meetings, etc… rinse and repeat. A few years of this cycle and I thought recently we were making some progress. For the past 9 months he claimed he was sober but I found out on the days he’s “working from home” he has just been sitting at home drinking. And the days he goes into the office he’ll leave for hours in the middle of the afternoon to go drink (he works a white collar 9-5 job). I also figured out he opened a “secret” credit card to pay for all the drinking that he had maxed out and has been playing in an office poker ring to come up with enough cash to pay the minimum balance without having to pull from our joint checking account.

I am so, so angry at the deception and lying. He was diagnosed with depression and had been going to therapy off and on but hasn’t stayed consistent with it and I know there are deep rooted issues that have contributed to his alcohol abuse that he needs to work through. But in the meantime he’s dragging me down with him. When he doesn’t come home I’m up half the night worrying or being woken up when he does barge in, then I’m falling asleep at my desk the next day. I can't even enjoy the good times anymore because I'm just waiting for the other shoe to drop.

After years of futile efforts to get him to stop drinking (the usual - ultimatums, begging, crying) I’ve been reading some books on codependency and it really struck a nerve. I finally decided I need to get off this carousel. The rental market here is fast-moving and stupid expensive- but somehow today the stars aligned and I managed to secure my own apartment within my budget, in our amazing neighborhood, and in a beautiful building right next to my favorite park. I told him I will be moving out but will not file for divorce yet - this is his time to decide if he wants to be serious about recovery and continue getting the professional help he desperately needs.

Deep down I know this is the right thing to do, but I have such a pit in my stomach. I am so scared of being alone, of being lonely, or panicking and regretting my decision and running back home. Sometimes things ARE good, and it’s nice to just have someone to watch Netflix and eating takeout with. I feel sick to my stomach when I think about coming home to an empty apartment at the end of every day. I’ve never lived on my own. I just keep telling myself that just because I’m sad doesn’t mean this is the wrong decision. I am just so heartbroken and feeling scared for the future.

Any words of encouragement, suggestions, or book recommendations appreciated.",5.506963972736124,6.3962821822784806,6.003607594936709,79.0788583252191,67.68354430379748,8.962999026290166,31.015092502434268,9.110194879830821,2.6216854917234658,3244,125,602,57,52,1049,360,790,0.159,0.763,0.078,-0.9967,7,5,9,0,2,0,84.0,11,0,0,6,29,27,2,3,53,0,57,17,5,2,5,125,97,58,1,9,22,1,3,2,0,5,4,1,6,2,21,59,10,4,17,14,9,20,13,13,0,1,22,7,57,14,113,63,13,132,0,4,3,0,65,56,1,13,53,395,78,18,0.0,0.06459270099721055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11652232980162325,0.05459003061624,0.16938681233562486,0.0,0.04359653047104475,0.04536178840304075,0.0,0.0,0.03707283869337185,0.05716491697326913,0.0,0.0,0.05406535328667477,0.0,0.0,0.04486213095007433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04191953985759704,0.04551869246027094,0.06646505522912169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05566706528349876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18784327956312788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05988341030681856,0.14063357861809775,0.0,0.04695466396941578,0.05533272567152262,0.0,0.05695775399775296,0.0,0.0,0.047707433841774116,0.0,0.0,0.3738353788757134,0.0,0.05578361224422478,0.0,0.0,0.048285111049729004,0.056329736670189264,0.18239969112412166,0.03600739054216025,0.0,0.04593219184649255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05139295673879545,0.0,0.08269498197183084,0.0,0.0,0.1194395141318228,0.04982675632700141,0.0,0.0,0.059774124058512124,0.0,0.0,0.113929714048273,0.0,0.1239310948750858,0.09145108879809484,0.04360153031054837,0.06010422717101279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10962304089492744,0.0,0.3281047477537141,0.0,0.0536874078509422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380135459599434,0.1622965448901321,0.04845644232721099,0.0,0.0,0.05992128003900767,0.0,0.0,0.057724711494483924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05326765603320067,0.0,0.2406937134140668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269533056083386,0.0,0.0,0.03638994093954369,0.0,0.0,0.1187680977833958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05783300015216189,0.0,0.0,0.043514255856062674,0.2317680797863929,0.0,0.12126906166968734,0.1261386037176253,0.0,0.1159570481302354,0.15347908848542016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05204181591478034,0.0,0.047601383029449836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052164575049748634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05453088409754981,0.0,0.03492442964932333,0.0,0.05382810274239037,0.1755897686361704,0.0,0.09311295644684013,0.0,0.0,0.10916031561089523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04509630713093697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046191341103538015,0.0,0.05391784778822405,0.0,0.0,0.11621388463833293,0.0,0.045577926802620086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0476495016154164,0.0,0.062343947221699066,0.0,0.14487238083854564,0.034931735645352194,0.0,0.04327971870805506,0.06357758908753851,0.0,0.05167491802885733,0.05209249965468776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0600418165998936,0.0,0.06431005336068256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05255160512022168,0.0,0.15875357135982932,0.055363777568684505,0.0,0.03872669550160481,0.059604831445179675,0.0,0.2106396068922374
divorce,maddskillz350,2020/01/14,"My (31m) wife (30f) is an amazing person I have been struggling with alcoholism, depression, and anxiety.

My wife on the other hand is constantly improving herself. She is doing everything from going to school, to working, to going to the gym, eating healthy, everything. She looks better than she ever has and nothing can stop her. She is seriously very beautiful and I can't believe she isn't being hit up by dudes on a daily basis. Maybe she's just not telling me about it.

I just don't want to keep her held back from her potential anymore. I told her I wanted to move out and live alone. She was hurt and wants to work on it but I know she will be happier, more fulfilled, and better off.

All I want to do is drink, eat pizza, and play video games in my underwear alone with all the blinds closed. It's a struggle to do even the smallest tasks anymore like doing the dishes, or walking the dog. I had to drag myself out the house to get a haircut even. I have no idea what she sees in me. We have absolutely zero in common.

I was her first real boyfriend, so I don't think she knows any better. I want to leave, but I don't want to hurt her. I also just feel so dead inside, like I'm incapable of feeling love, that includes love towards her.

I know everyone is going to tell me to seek therapy and meds, but I don't want to do that. I just want to be alone. Has anyone ever felt like this?",2.746661545552314,4.295913996466432,4.17760024581349,87.0266523275465,75.113074204947,7.183223229374713,24.671838992164695,7.893859768569023,1.2805201720694424,1083,35,225,16,23,359,154,283,0.152,0.67,0.17800000000000002,0.9461,0,3,2,0,0,0,40.0,1,0,0,6,13,16,0,2,11,0,31,10,1,0,4,47,59,15,1,8,9,2,4,3,0,1,2,0,0,1,8,14,6,3,8,5,0,5,8,6,0,2,7,7,43,10,36,47,3,24,0,3,3,2,28,12,0,1,10,160,51,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10170256052943673,0.0,0.29568705953238217,0.0,0.0761035037087474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06471553783089855,0.0,0.07280104831191228,0.0,0.18875643405155532,0.06654165728222171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0731760950367473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10721849000238827,0.0,0.2524974176054469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10283967537714138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08196556939118711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09322557760358748,0.0,0.19475533008918136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257113146417745,0.17216457975003166,0.0,0.09093434036686657,0.17105652832733728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962366775397087,0.0,0.09137342903063256,0.0,0.0,0.08094739355090087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04971984193425597,0.0,0.16225357447972855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098077592851658,0.2037524360064525,0.10742982512216284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08458712192271463,0.0,0.0,0.15690076624481314,0.0,0.0,0.10076611023495408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13947859662266218,0.0,0.08403253522041408,0.0,0.07991472405971514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17178045368911254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09560614358274992,0.0,0.1057069832493279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011454508479051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09131348921100847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08309450295200127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10831872893878904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09631217146684297,0.07583427122695811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07956229277841183,0.0,0.1989744700820658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16635700060202085,0.0,0.10882959646882256,0.0,0.0,0.060977959587969414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093434036686657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785211818585856,0.4490467779489942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13856266629730887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,SeekersHope,2020/01/14,"Attorney fee structure Hi folks! New here and relieved to find this community. I have a question on fee structure. I’m attorney shopping at the moment and I need an attorney who is motivated to work for me.  I have some questions about how the fee structure relates. 

As some background: There are considerable assets on the line and they’re somewhat complicated (eg not all cash and house IYKWIM). We’ve been married 10.5 years; together for 14; I’ve been a stay at home parent for almost 9 years. As a stay at home parent I have provided round the clock childcare while my spouse travels extensively for work; he currently lives on the other coast in a rented apartment and I take care of the kids and household entirely. I’ve sacrificed my career and while I am currently in school I’ll never be what I could have been with equitable childcare. Now I’m trying to leave this abusive relationship (I don’t say that colloquially; he was arrested years ago, although it’s now sealed; and the abuse has continued.)  My spouse is very successful in his field. 

I don’t want an attorney who will just walk me through the procedural stuff. I need an attorney who is motivated to get me my fair share of the assets — not a penny less than half. 

Would a contingency in addition to hourly billing make any sense? Does anybody even do that? Has anybody been through similar? How did you vet attorneys and find somebody who was motivated to get you yours?",4.677206359506815,6.978452022388063,5.333452303698902,77.57819273199223,71.68656716417911,8.989227774172617,31.42829331602855,9.54385415503706,3.2307434782608686,1154,53,205,29,23,372,156,268,0.05,0.841,0.109,0.9159999999999999,5,0,0,0,1,0,29.0,0,3,0,6,9,4,0,0,18,0,25,0,0,6,2,36,35,16,0,5,3,4,1,0,0,2,0,1,3,1,12,11,0,0,8,2,7,2,5,0,0,1,7,2,21,4,29,24,5,31,0,0,1,0,21,11,0,6,16,134,33,8,0.0,0.3206795379534981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11995877354736913,0.0,0.13550993784606682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920266578055658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13797438168361242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10804719541800084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11842512857596625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08938187429621311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473719313480076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14140501750248888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714870186198331,0.0,0.13326933908759014,0.1561486070707911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14329121963292332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11949577524133555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033148689007374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20068576409775785,0.10437213630895728,0.13069917308441134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3005281179360017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031932928287127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14529001214869058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076170612063134,0.0,0.13695763866244726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884800778900013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15491646130967385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10174868338218697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187780770181607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11165853171567976,0.07981907351404571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970386015996462,0.0,0.0,0.0961320600330427,0.0,0.0,0.2614374796613097
divorce,53throwaway21,2020/01/14,"Just contemplating ATM So, I’ve [27M] been married [26F] for a little over 4 years. We have a kid a little over 1. We’ve been fighting for a while. We’ve had physical altercations when we first were married but have not been that bad in a while. I haven’t been happy in a while. Maybe a couple years. I was gonna talk about divorce but we soon found out that we were expecting so I backed off. She’s threatened to leave before during some arguments but hasn’t done it. I’m having an affair and this isn’t my first one. I know that isn’t good but it is what it is. I don’t feel like I’m in love anymore. Some days I feel like I love her but I don’t feel like I’m in love. 

We’ve been fighting often. We’re not who we once were. When I asked her to marry me, it wasn’t out of love. It was due to finishing university at the same time and I felt like it was the next step naturally. I’m not smiling in my wedding pics. We fight over little things. But they start adding up. I’m currently in school for my masters on top of working 2 night jobs. She’s a stay at home mom. She doesn’t clean or cook much if at all. And I’ve been getting chewed out for not helping more at home. I feel like I’m doing more than enough and I’m not appreciated. 

I’m not against counseling. But she’s weird about it. And my worry is my son. I could lose and give up everything and not care. I just want my little boy in my life. More than just weekends or every other weekend. I’d love full custody but I don’t know how to gain that or if I can. 

Anyone been through something similar? Or can maybe give things to consider/think about? TIA",-0.503213166144203,1.6460144885057488,1.6002925809822381,97.67623824451412,90.89655172413794,4.772831765935215,17.391849529780565,6.351523495107088,-0.3632034482758617,1254,33,300,14,44,416,166,348,0.107,0.691,0.201,0.9925,2,0,1,0,6,0,40.0,6,0,1,7,14,19,3,0,11,0,34,8,0,1,1,57,63,29,0,5,24,2,5,5,0,1,1,0,3,2,17,16,2,0,8,3,1,1,16,6,0,3,18,5,36,13,39,43,10,50,0,1,0,5,34,27,0,9,26,192,53,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09639155818522996,0.06796116976769145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086442641031146,0.0,0.0,0.07473713792003503,0.08115396323288596,0.0,0.0,0.08270598810873178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09909702207117277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07760248807360784,0.10754468130356552,0.0,0.06268288724705577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099464473144047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100428661975311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08189117935603225,0.0,0.08735281203036747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965793293189331,0.27774518756867594,0.09332266998204213,0.0,0.0,0.16534843825823115,0.0,0.1065695608536288,0.0,0.0,0.050780499863196896,0.186477056139302,0.0,0.0815227535853059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10346613736127708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0651479187224669,0.0,0.1949894954985104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964512754720416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10683192100470423,0.0,0.0,0.10291572233409478,0.0,0.0,0.06865187045479541,0.2374234169288489,0.3896606472071505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10873660887297217,0.0,0.0,0.4386124817429198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19529135943530296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11383388712928776,0.0,0.0,0.0714496827857515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10336823744188783,0.09121114594723063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10350975553241044,0.0658620081743704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09836676907507558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07482564214341833,0.0,0.0,0.06879528916711539,0.1035971906412048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07812184998916953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12914439357296514,0.062278783440409276,0.0,0.0,0.05667532444774141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05732826915550094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07075929028755455,0.09870648136837884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12518109220032458
divorce,chasing-gainss,2020/01/14,"My journey and failure Me 39m, wife 41F, two girls 7 and 5. We are getting divorced because she is no longer happy with the relationship.

I was blindsided, looking back, I shouldn’t have been? She acted differently from when we fell in love but I thought. “Hey this is marriage, this Is what a relationship looks like with two kids and the point we are at”.

I don’t know if I could have changed it or not, she believes relationship and love should happen organically and don’t require work. I believe love is a choice and you need to put in the effort to maintain it. Lust is organic but I digress. I also don’t believe in divorce unless there is abuse, adultery etc. She comes from a good family but a family with a lot of divorce that is not close. My family isn’t as successful financially, isn’t as polished as hers,  but divorce is not common and we stick together. 

I could have been better in the marriage, but I think looking back, you can always do better, I could have been a better son, a better grandson, father, coworker, you name it. I don’t beat myself over it much, I’m 39, but i continue to grow as I mature. 

I worked my ass off, became highly successful in my field. I pickup and do nonstop chores around the house, I never have to asked. My wife, she is picky, the way I do things often isn’t right. We went through three housekeepers and none of them could do a good enough job so now we don’t have one despite me wanting one. 

My question is dealing with my failure. I love my kids dearly, I feel like I have failed them in that I didn’t keep the family together. I’m able to provide them whatever they want from toys and vacations but intact family trumps all of that. I don’t know if I will ever get over that failure to them. I still love my wife, and I feel like she is making a mistake, but she needs to burn her own path, I can’t keep her with me when she doesn’t want it. The kids, they don’t have a say yet they are being impacted more than anyone, they just want their mom and dad....",3.051881142506144,4.496625253071255,4.330509060196562,86.66846629299756,74.11056511056509,7.347942260442261,25.249462530712535,7.972316293177498,1.3350148034398035,1566,51,328,23,32,516,189,407,0.07,0.7340000000000001,0.195,0.9953,2,0,0,0,5,0,54.0,6,3,9,12,14,20,0,0,18,0,52,7,1,1,3,72,83,32,0,15,16,8,2,3,0,3,0,1,1,4,13,26,0,3,7,1,0,7,20,2,0,5,7,6,69,18,36,68,8,34,0,1,3,7,61,15,1,6,14,242,82,7,0.08022021428467922,0.09504783622083043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06415207638069283,0.06674964459223308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056091839040734136,0.0,0.0,0.07141299838644198,0.0749950714232527,0.0,0.0,0.12336878617320933,0.0,0.048901498050831035,0.0,0.0,0.27114213241926605,0.0,0.2837930420329296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848623498923692,0.06910261142304172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25619725411228234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08270351846971552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08381304992523174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08288892557104663,0.0894667441833934,0.0,0.07256377651443416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3781223930567793,0.0,0.08112350138015892,0.11461867422746312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382350199300335,0.0,0.0,0.13456981943940252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07093847056061571,0.08539590979486437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08475706078715323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925633567123796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07960618449541794,0.1426068247048459,0.0,0.0,0.08817386366202698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175746338598652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20209432806566974,0.0,0.0,0.06820035748282424,0.3620093769909886,0.0,0.05354761595519608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09395294542550073,0.0,0.0,0.05897108775539583,0.1189645448508906,0.06187077467568582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10871858662952473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07583403196375336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064347232796244,0.08986499925734788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583794656938865,0.0,0.06850762468331194,0.0,0.06379433420281426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06406396675242004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05329474582375225,0.05140187416333871,0.0,0.06368588945714589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15672698580619546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892638432767502,0.06367507215555701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07436494233383323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168025428347748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,kanos34,2020/01/14,"Married 19 years No sex in 6 years We are literally friends at this point. 10 and 13 year old in the house. And friends is questionable as I am very often avoided and ignored. 
I've mentioned it here and there, she just carries on being cold and short fused with me.  
Seriously beginning to think of divorce but really want to see my kids every day. 
Simply tired of it and it's becoming depressing. 
Thoughts?",1.9742307692307683,4.754568730769236,3.185333333333337,86.11800000000002,86.05128205128204,6.70974358974359,27.03076923076923,7.908726449838941,2.102621538461539,323,15,61,7,10,104,65,78,0.179,0.75,0.07,-0.8074,0,1,0,0,1,0,8.0,1,0,0,0,4,6,0,1,1,0,4,2,0,0,0,17,9,8,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,4,8,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,2,5,2,10,7,0,12,0,1,1,1,8,6,0,2,6,36,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587081334232463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151070360039391,0.0,0.2017571638605924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19736375417115493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.361958317682036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702903456636479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458035114862229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22143975154489712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624109861076752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15006504742714974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866650546056117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15009644019867335,0.0,0.1859664740633444,0.0,0.2692332226765061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19327884955159447,0.13816533733716027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4525434332888558
divorce,justneedadvice921,2020/01/14,"I need advice My husband (31M) and I (31F) have only been married 6 months, but I'm feeling like I want out. He's a nice guy and he loves me, but he's not a good communicator at all, and he blames me for any problems we have. Our sex life was basically non-existent, and now he's living abroad anyway. I'm happy since he's left and I've been seeing someone else. I've told my husband I want a divorce and while he wanted to stay married he's agreed to sign the papers if I send them to him. (Does this mean he's secretly hoping to get divorced too?) He doesn't know there's another man in my life, and I don't think it's productive to tell him. I wouldn't have been open to seeing anyone else if I were happily married. I'm worried that I'll regret not giving my marriage a chance. How much should I really try to fix this thing? We had a quick courtship, but it was never really a great relationship, and he's got 9 more months to be out of the country (not military.) What do you all think?",3.315154986522913,3.684587051886794,5.065714285714286,85.715,72.34905660377359,8.132614555256065,25.99191374663073,8.192908349453996,1.3841498652291109,773,23,174,11,14,265,123,212,0.111,0.723,0.166,0.8992,0,0,0,0,2,0,28.0,3,1,1,0,6,9,0,0,8,0,16,4,0,1,3,41,36,15,0,11,8,2,1,1,0,2,2,0,0,2,7,13,0,0,6,0,0,1,7,2,0,0,9,3,22,7,14,24,4,14,0,1,2,2,32,6,0,3,7,95,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14780022557021846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285551788627942,0.15859932358681186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10575785738902514,0.1549739980770816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13236032059499114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527007480095816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07647679088958732,0.10805337826652693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790221369207285,0.14509324940196244,0.0,0.12686173262035488,0.12096883159712185,0.166754196083031,0.0,0.1497617618812678,0.0,0.16100895610024055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15022586138916968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08312331221513419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643340968798911,0.0,0.21366538421472814,0.07389334808157817,0.0,0.13355695122209102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13650946989810706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16475612114460916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24145339171513666,0.0,0.11118651118537497,0.1121503197600107,0.11665370001414825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11503281111248022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14472628941195306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19378987016207733,0.0,0.0,0.16238641932244102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24105411164035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12511596597917182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12815404696580768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16121289482195966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13219959243512153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10048410294266873,0.1938304099228137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445263222028823,0.0,0.1026891524561564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26763436832083826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15360221161013826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,sizko_89,2020/01/14,Costs!!?? I have just received my ex's income and expense report and holy fuck. She's paid less than $3k in attorney fees and yet I'm $15k down the hole? Outside of an exparte my lawyer pressured me into we haven't been to court once since August when I filed. Is this disparity common? I feel like I'm getting ripped off. We have our custody hearing pretty soon and I have no idea how to keep up with these expenses.,0.4975792811839312,2.9086250581395383,2.1404862579281208,93.64140591966176,89.11627906976744,4.52262156448203,20.608879492600426,6.1124844417494595,0.14254883720930245,329,11,69,3,11,107,69,86,0.10800000000000001,0.825,0.067,-0.5337,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,0,0,0,5,3,1,1,2,0,6,1,0,1,0,13,14,6,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,8,0,1,2,0,5,1,2,2,0,0,2,2,11,1,10,12,1,11,0,0,0,1,7,5,1,0,6,42,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17529038578210693,0.2476662284214425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.320497443024594,0.18112450463774574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39073034881377694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3913563097063088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3081425837443897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16936894633368998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3691998551902737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3526952987809229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28677492463894805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,coronadelmar,2020/01/14,"Resolving a Custody Disagreement  I'm looking for some advice on developing a custody agreement. I have three small children under 10 years old. My STBXW asked for a separation 11 months ago and told me she was seeing somebody else 10 months ago. At the beginning of the year, she moved about half hour away from me and the kids, to a place that is about an hour away from the kids’ school (she is a teacher there, which is why the kids go to a school so far away). I retained a lawyer a few months ago, who feels as though this combination – along with me refinancing our home in my name and me having a much more stable, flexible lifestyle – would give me some leverage in a divorce court proceeding in order to gain more custody. 

There are a couple of days that we don’t agree on in terms of custody. In general, she wants a 50-50 split and I don’t think I could ever settle for that, given all of the circumstances of our looming divorce and her moving so far away. It is what it is, I'm just not trying to settle. On top of all of this, I have some financial help from my family to pay for some of the legal costs that will pile up very quickly. I could see her capitulating on a few days here and there, and she has mentioned at 60-40 split in my favor. I don't want to settle for this but there are times I can see the writing on the wall.

I am a very dedicated dad and I think the kids should be with me as much as possible. My STBX has been very neglectful and absent over the past year, really in just ridiculous and narcissistic ways at times. She has just disappeared a lot in the past year, so that I have to lie to the kids. At other times in our 15-year marriage she was a good mom and she would try hard. I thought we were a good partnership as parents. I want to be optimistic that she will resume this commitment, but I don’t know. A divorce proceeding would definitely jeopardize this in a way that could harm the kids.  

On one hand, I want to maximize custody and I think she will do a lot to avoid a divorce court proceeding. I honestly built my life around my kids. It kills me that they’ll be with her so much, and that I’ll be alone part of the week in this house I created for them. Also, I don’t know how she could pay for a lawyer and all the legal fees. I also think she really values social harmony and things being okay in the home she moved out of. On the other hand, I don’t want to put my kids through an acrimonious divorce and I really need to continue to work with her. The kids need to see us getting along. I need to know they’re okay when they’re with her. The kids could have problems and we need to be communicating about this at the very least. 

This is something I need to resolve quickly. She just moved out of the house and the longer I wait, the more time that a pattern of custody will be established on a de facto basis that would potentially influence a judge and a guardian ad litem. Anyone with any personal experience or advice? (Also, thanks so much for reading this far - this sub has been a great help in the past several months).",4.494628629969661,5.179424893376417,5.1862555656251255,84.77010323495807,69.8562197092084,8.753079317546003,27.213877615351272,8.9110942124816,1.8236902242011104,2415,75,513,42,41,781,249,619,0.07,0.7929999999999999,0.13699999999999998,0.992,1,2,1,0,5,0,58.0,7,0,2,5,27,17,2,1,54,2,53,3,2,2,5,93,88,37,1,21,8,3,4,0,0,10,1,0,2,12,30,33,0,4,11,1,4,7,7,6,0,3,8,9,68,11,93,58,21,87,0,1,5,0,59,43,0,7,34,366,98,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12640184784633232,0.17199489131304133,0.0,0.0,0.0669851330739045,0.0,0.15516482183036792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04398209634612666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04522316710501455,0.0,0.0,0.05757561197369385,0.060463602282024034,0.0,0.2430620210664699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581937816781105,0.07156308684019702,0.0,0.0834217154968985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05402874281370131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05850340882387721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06326582389937692,0.060971051974019634,0.0,0.032702276496894736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033790693109600506,0.062043392571561475,0.03675702716050385,0.10849481022328923,0.0,0.07130584016264163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057937253836627976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08670231030457158,0.0,0.12975118834466692,0.0,0.1273862389769524,0.14925551452734914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07155473441306585,0.0,0.10663319581446264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0456827776841029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05431179606747179,0.0,0.0,0.10997094107853032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07574809140952214,0.20649599663200613,0.2749626512130133,0.19017806522549974,0.23978325471985676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06786688864048389,0.0,0.04382632923657167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07181536824747058,0.070038121484312,0.18522251672088585,0.0,0.05647284341850123,0.06757295940318797,0.0,0.0,0.07291280134169502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061886476637759924,0.0,0.06501753708534372,0.0,0.0,0.06469379423719993,0.0,0.12429986619379277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309117206389612,0.2061545239511185,0.0,0.0,0.0730658004883328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06592933472890787,0.0,0.049790969313193004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05954524006062276,0.0,0.0,0.04296805448750855,0.16576782537734192,0.06354412842611369,0.05134575136786775,0.15085306371224866,0.0,0.0,0.061800968565503274,0.0,0.0878219134927178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07779761579085377,0.0,0.0,0.2134588571134243,0.19073876337933254,0.10267406017561463,0.0518794201596864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058360293698773685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047085110804369404,0.0,0.0,0.1837767284891748,0.0,0.0,0.2082470574857136
divorce,duder444,2020/01/14,"Don't know what to do Mid-30’s (m) married for over 10 years, 1 child (4), don't own a house, cars mostly paid off, some CC debt and student loans. 

I have ***not*** started the process yet but I'm considering it… I am the sole earner for our family. My wife has tried many things to create a business for herself and is still searching for the thing that will really take off. I have always been supportive and encouraging hoping that one day something will click for her and will be happy creating the lifestyle she wants. We have been struggling the last 6 months or so as a couple. She is home working on her new business during the day while I’m at work. I’ve also taken on additional work to make money for us so that she can completely focus on her stuff and feel fully invested in it (without feeling like she has to succeed “to make a living”). After some self-help seminars and reflection on her part, she decided to come clean a few months A few months ago she told me about an affair she had in year 1 of our marriage. 

Early on in our relationship, I shared with her that cheating was the #1 thing that I would not be okay with and she knew how strongly I felt about it, which kept her from telling me for 10 years.

We have argued about money (I admittedly have resented her for not working), we have disagreed on parenting things but always found common ground or communicated to each other and figured it out. The affair disclosure came at a time where we were not in a great place. When I heard those words, I just felt myself shut off. As I’ve tried to come to grips with it, I find it almost impossible to see how I can get past it.  

I have a therapist and have talked some about these things but it has really come to a head in the past week in my home. Our interactions feel strained and artificial a lot of the time and neither of us want to keep living that way.  
 

The things I’m struggling with:

* How can I forgive something I’m SO fundamentally against? It seems like she is in a place to move past it but I’m struggling.
* As someone who has divorced parents, I have always hoped that one of my roles as a parent and partner is to NOT be in that category.
* Emotionally it feels so hard to dig into these feelings and I find myself in a cycle of feeling beaten down and frustrated - wondering how that can change.
* Am I resistant to forgiving her because I don’t think it’s wrong and/or I don’t want to or am I resistant to making a decision to move on without her because I’m scared?

No matter what, I know we have the capacity to love our child and provide a great life for them regardless of our situation.  I’ve been reading on here for awhile and appreciate all of the people that support others on this sub. Thanks!",4.045959409594096,5.361461963099637,5.021437269372694,83.19540313653137,71.43542435424355,8.076826568265684,27.203136531365317,8.548686976883017,1.834231586715868,2152,74,433,36,40,704,255,542,0.11199999999999999,0.762,0.126,0.8319,4,0,2,0,1,0,59.0,13,0,1,7,19,29,5,5,30,1,43,3,1,7,1,97,91,38,0,7,15,4,10,2,1,4,1,1,3,3,38,33,0,2,24,1,6,7,13,11,0,2,16,13,60,18,81,68,12,65,1,0,2,1,59,32,0,13,27,311,98,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06330321135503986,0.0,0.07150968605718973,0.0,0.0,0.05710885617711429,0.1782637165289909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08706526044325624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08167731274595469,0.0,0.0,0.07554536046652155,0.1845476243264296,0.07487504840797388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07901699597377347,0.0,0.09211080249044154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08032988067993402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06732170985170123,0.0,0.21665099405719626,0.051017377386382685,0.13713513209301473,0.0,0.1305401613433782,0.0,0.0,0.07830053944860974,0.0,0.0,0.03731028354540675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15746590969782362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07602034112891898,0.06397191562408741,0.0,0.07329021986013799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047866549688889364,0.0,0.14326588720127714,0.14185821094424594,0.0,0.0824008781007927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06347505101483387,0.0,0.0,0.07849330501125705,0.05821103042755028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050441030700592526,0.06977745417866392,0.0,0.12611776683678014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0607126787853523,0.06445291442372436,0.0,0.14300596040253766,0.07240145396036507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.171003244007354,0.15180118454331987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06897100673027749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09678243445715287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23788666395863164,0.0773331923997998,0.2045150300834358,0.04950870086860466,0.0,0.1492225250993089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07143220764336276,0.0,0.0914978420695942,0.0,0.0,0.07667071006851403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0714967532635588,0.0,0.056906821338619136,0.06501160596855776,0.07449921081316607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08027107179128651,0.0,0.0,0.06050790343194859,0.10995425142954936,0.0,0.0,0.05054640565430096,0.0,0.0570304200551252,0.0,0.0,0.22396874994721425,0.08175066485477764,0.0,0.1620769851134828,0.0,0.0,0.05369360004915518,0.05739896972341753,0.062418006783207636,0.0657473874014718,0.0,0.08291586050145093,0.2846612748291836,0.04575849145409274,0.0,0.0,0.0832828519163786,0.0,0.0,0.06823806937255683,0.0,0.096969318838344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17180180914896215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12636350467924354,0.056684221976227286,0.05728310662497906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13767894033129568,0.07744422458822517,0.20795771536024432,0.0,0.0,0.05072966265251171,0.07807877621648575,0.0,0.13796266451985398
divorce,IronValhalla,2020/01/14,"Created a Podcast some of you maybe interested in So you can go back into my post history and read my story. I am currently going through a divorce at the moment after my wife decided to cheat on me and walk out with no cares in the world. I have been in counseling for months now and have learned quite a bit from that. I have created a podcast on my spare time to help ease my mind and keep it from wandering to places I don’t want. It covers things like physical health and nutrition, which many of us struggle with as we are in the position we are in. I have a Master’s degree in Exercise Physiology and nutrition, so I would like to use my knowledge and advice to help others. I would also like to use what I’ve learned in counseling to help others through this podcast. My faith is deeply rooted in me and is truly the only thing that has gotten me through up until this point, so this is a big focus in everything I will be doing. I would love for anyone to give it a listen, as this has turned into a passion of mine. You guys all have helped me on here, so I would like to try and give back and help others. You can find it on the link below, on Spotify, or the podcast app on your iPhones. It is called Primal Armor. Feel free to share this with anyone who you think this may help, thank you so much for your time!


https://anchor.fm/primalarmor",6.1304920049200495,5.690384066420666,6.565225092250923,80.1718720787208,66.26937269372694,9.88349323493235,29.87478474784748,9.3871,2.332019729397293,1066,32,218,18,15,347,143,271,0.026000000000000002,0.774,0.2,0.9926,1,0,0,0,1,0,26.0,3,8,0,2,10,14,1,1,14,0,26,4,0,3,1,40,42,20,0,5,1,1,1,4,0,6,2,1,0,1,21,18,0,1,8,2,1,3,2,2,0,0,2,2,33,13,49,33,4,39,1,0,0,2,27,25,0,3,14,168,54,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11714095503886165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09586439717105504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676394791634258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18435372607485626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13087300279194672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12240629238211236,0.0,0.12222106552494545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10773637330175156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06061265663534082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095640388505112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299910130592164,0.1362560228140125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11869559567579735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12742205503043902,0.0,0.0,0.4821001404425884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10655085582641223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23426046426925784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081923225355018,0.0,0.0,0.12153494576555195,0.12043105604553388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12104008628937785,0.0,0.09568348354599086,0.0,0.08812228842983791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117072252450008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12524438739083424,0.0,0.11332109838682705,0.0,0.11480759610074676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12750235418111827,0.1199079439288924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12531990445437874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11036525822311427,0.0,0.0,0.15927991638057826,0.07681138254807766,0.0,0.0,0.1398007406922872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08138759832359331,0.13039012514209955,0.0,0.0,0.14419547132833258,0.20706789319473887,0.0,0.0,0.07070567807631868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3406244743401377,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,itsmeafae,2020/01/14,"Moving out of state I’m curious to hear from someone who has moved out of the state in which the non custodial parent resides. I’m curious about how the process was approved by the court, how you approached it with your ex, and the impact it has had on your children.",4.123867924528302,5.596538320754718,4.7171226415094365,84.84285377358493,71.45283018867924,7.564150943396226,30.23113207547169,8.07648339933343,2.046815094339624,213,9,42,3,4,68,39,53,0.0,0.866,0.134,0.7506,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,5,0,4,0,0,2,0,6,7,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,11,5,0,9,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,0,30,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4051262222943841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7640768311844303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3991266359907232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30456077964729755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,sweetspicy72,2020/01/14,"I am strong, but mourning my marriage still comes and goes. Could it be because my stbxh decided to tell me our marriage was over through text message My stbxh walked out the door 4 months ago. I was informed by text message that my marriage was over. It’s a long story. See my post under emotional affair and mental illness for back story. I have been pretty strong up to this point, but I still have moments where is just start crying. It’s only for a few minutes, but I guess it still hurts. Remember :

It’s okay if you thought you were over it, but it hits you all over again.

It’s okay to fall apart, even if you thought you had it under control. 

You’re not weak.

Healing is messy. There is no timeline for healing. 

Stay strong all. We will all make it through the storm. Never again let someone steal your light again.",1.401851851851852,3.9932586296296333,1.6998641975308644,97.30238888888893,86.1604938271605,3.9807407407407407,22.29753086419753,5.341637118332708,-0.00555654320987653,646,23,133,3,20,194,99,162,0.141,0.7240000000000001,0.135,-0.4572,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,6,0,4,11,9,0,0,4,2,16,4,0,2,4,26,24,8,1,3,8,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,1,0,12,5,0,1,5,0,0,3,3,4,0,0,8,2,19,5,17,11,4,29,0,2,1,0,16,11,0,3,13,94,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594714232645449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383328002600036,0.0,0.1096660082686228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154968822178525,0.0,0.0,0.20177432113641275,0.14363634708425124,0.0,0.197612852264162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20236446348436726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188229446380694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981812851298686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925877912617201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18396100888845585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15920676514677645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12008534560645785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18129794186517093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14359529909554844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13875077773930386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13682285264384467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700646382598631,0.0,0.17229547346699214,0.18302404005668832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20379281626348072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14335784232861454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15242957304216226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12733488677832555,0.1917505791538422,0.43100762477391696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15724144424881006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28564267182744385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,lookin4answers2020,2020/01/14,She up and left Not sure what I am suppose to do but my wife left today. Not sure where she is at. An argument between her and my daughter is what started it all. I had to leave work to come home and deescalate the situation. My wife states she has had it with us all. 19 year old son lives with us too.  I just want to protect myself and my kids. Not sure what im going to do. Done called my boss and took the rest of the day off.,-0.245000000000001,1.6310915212765984,1.6334468085106373,100.09400000000002,85.91489361702128,4.611063829787233,17.910638297872342,5.6839178017228535,-0.6751285106382978,329,8,83,2,10,108,60,94,0.111,0.84,0.049,-0.6208,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,1,5,20,14,6,0,1,5,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,8,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,4,0,15,3,12,10,3,15,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,0,5,60,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17928076023067688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512415186286272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11323075305034548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796732360375647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09978279253752796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17611511196973725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18965012891916588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18590759380116406,0.38152349092516413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155035124283478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18423545625195464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19735261579181024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242722334726953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4964294616151622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16642369310993033,0.0,0.19506925676841025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42238798706302455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355813799650976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12782001717612534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11306394743465853
divorce,k_is_for_special,2020/01/14,"When do I tell her? Married 30 years. Two grown kids. Roommates the better of last 5 years. No animosity. Just no love. Deadest bedroom for 3 years now. 

I had decided to broach divorce about 2 years ago. We fought and her words of ""youre not going to find someone else to make you happy, you will just be alone and unhappy"" rang in my ears ... so I backed down. 

So in August last year my Dad died. Shook me. Existential crisis and everything. Made the choice to talk divorce again. Took me til September and literally the day I was driving home from work to have the talk, she got some bad test results back. Women's issues. Couple surgeries. Lost an ovary. Bedridden a couple weeks. I took care of her. We have a lot of history, life, together. And again, no angst. So I did the partner duties and took care of her and everything in the house for months. 

She's on the mend. Health all clear. Just getting back to normal physically. New year. New plans. She and the kids and their SOs just booked a cruise for beginning of February. 7 day. They cruise once a year or so. I dont go. Never liked the open water. 

It's a month away. Should I tell her now? Set things in motion? She's not 100% healed yet. Probably mentally and physically. If you were me, would you wait until after the cruise? I would hate to ruin their trip. I've been doing status quo for so long now, what's another 4 weeks?

Part of me welcomes the excuse to hold off. But part of me wants to rip the bandaid off. I would just hate the thought of her on the ship for 7 days crying her eyes out and ruining the kids' vacation. 

Any suggestion would be appreciated. This is hard for me.",0.4041243589743608,2.8603064092307697,1.936778846153846,93.23645032051282,94.13846153846157,5.292948717948718,18.15544871794872,6.9077264865688965,0.27742179487179497,1273,37,269,21,48,410,190,325,0.14400000000000002,0.768,0.08800000000000001,-0.9558,0,1,0,0,2,0,58.0,2,5,3,4,21,15,3,1,21,0,19,8,2,3,3,47,39,22,1,8,10,1,1,1,1,6,4,2,2,5,4,15,1,3,3,4,0,13,7,8,0,1,13,4,39,7,40,18,5,62,0,3,1,1,38,12,0,4,37,169,43,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808045570850189,0.0,0.0,0.09441043221684617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06198940772812218,0.09558532529190396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08564434155511634,0.2102806965633664,0.0761117002533506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08062033680969079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18587983973712704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20172541724745066,0.10013091169960753,0.17636481085236164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09460584438800157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10683450098999944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07614938908229947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638508036006407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08331520386855372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04762540275712309,0.0,0.10361244837420294,0.0,0.07290601786244906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09703757302172457,0.08165813703972599,0.17999594194962634,0.0,0.0968948808714125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09143719815226893,0.0,0.0,0.10518212766501434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951434907427922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14860909677329578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06438638826415118,0.04453436214952977,0.0,0.0,0.08067045417461997,0.0,0.0,0.09950786614821124,0.07749782378623099,0.08227211686999245,0.08625429212914007,0.060847535975359926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09186410701645563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14552017289841698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0703053557239997,0.17607863902165918,0.0,0.0,0.08931381658059448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970784811059961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19742677270475856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828190564791417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07723643449207794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14653595690822413,0.15934924261453756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06056019312833205,0.0,0.0,0.07236791742715208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3038339995652486,0.0,0.0,0.08904645647652609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05376634564950901,0.0,0.1462401657105451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06636286975968374,0.0,0.0,0.2590192714690629,0.0,0.0,0.4109116653808757
divorce,arrowed12,2020/01/14,"Figuring out the basics I (Mid-30's) am just getting started with this process. 

We just bought a home and took on a lot of mortgage debt. I've been the sole earner in our 10 year marriage and we're barely making it. We have 6 very young kids together. It's not likely she can earn very much money.

I fear what every man fears: to be pushed out of my home and denied my kids, reduced to just providing a life that I'm not part of. 

My questions:

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Do I have any chance here? Will I get anything at all in a settlement? 

How can I get any custody if I can't pay for a 2nd house that could accommodate 6 kids?

I'm being threatened with PPO. Is there a correct response?

We share a bank account with some savings in it. We surely won't agree on how money is being spent. What's the default action here? 

Thanks.",1.7262350299401206,3.7572125029940153,3.036313622754492,91.8840512724551,79.65868263473055,5.372604790419163,23.0123502994012,6.322622252153567,0.4566170658682634,636,21,134,5,16,206,109,167,0.11,0.82,0.07,-0.8145,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,5,0,0,1,9,7,0,2,10,0,16,1,0,3,3,30,27,6,0,2,6,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,2,4,8,12,0,0,2,0,8,3,4,2,0,0,4,0,15,5,17,17,5,14,0,0,0,0,13,8,0,4,4,85,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19046277215566165,0.21359778920038847,0.2390794024102689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144655923803221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14034986996495524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14810628704319598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3956135729036296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755209296560805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3526530014319919,0.0,0.0,0.20283207363976866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12416201246076275,0.08587958071909305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494459624470887,0.0,0.0,0.1173377281077555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292220640980708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19035782308591315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19691922154078886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12442139586617056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16567510654427114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16183903898118093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953033959354624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29008176188463336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21359778920038847,0.11319965666385505
divorce,yungcameltoe,2020/01/14,Never Been Married and Never Will Thank you all for saving my future. I’ve learned a lot lurking this sub. Marriage is a bad gamble and I’m a bad gambler. Thank you for your wisdom 🙏🏾🙏🏾,-0.4429268292682949,1.6724081219512217,2.2860487804878065,93.27785365853659,89.73170731707317,3.28,20.39512195121951,3.1291,-0.3946917073170733,147,5,31,0,5,51,30,41,0.295,0.626,0.079,-0.8085,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,3,0,0,0,6,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,3,8,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,4,4,2,4,2,3,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,3,19,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.548139154228037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27906085032457323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5063231815342082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6044049513855556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,kirasdream,2020/01/14,"Potential divorce but don't want alimony nor house I am talking to a lawyer within the next several days but wanted to ask people who have potentially gone through with this type of thing (and I understand it may be different depending on state).

I'm heavily leaning towards divorcing my husband. He cheated on me five years ago and I stupidly stayed, and he has since verbally and emotionally abused me. Despite this he has supported me when I became disabled and unable to work, which comes into play with my request to the lawyers.

The only thing I want out of the divorce are my own items (desk, computer, books, etc), my dog, and my car. I don't want the house, nor any alimony from him (I will be making my own income). Has anyone gone through something similar, or have any advice?

Thank you and have a great day!",6.913672438672434,7.173079616883117,7.0976190476190535,74.65293650793653,64.51948051948052,10.740548340548342,36.59163059163059,10.504223727775694,3.9342245310245305,647,30,116,15,9,209,101,154,0.10400000000000001,0.805,0.091,0.0882,2,0,1,0,3,0,23.0,0,1,0,1,1,6,2,0,7,0,14,0,0,2,0,23,27,13,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,12,0,0,1,2,0,4,4,2,0,1,2,0,18,4,17,21,4,18,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,3,6,81,25,7,0.0,0.1938157721907306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15984866505693993,0.14500396548224925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224802724682022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11437906984036625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15292539268990965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14090984630345135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21099137530252474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17090647864068878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18400569253867705,0.0,0.0,0.1824351484341812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18034773312204436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3774991450850969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10919104472001136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17396938413590912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12441010305049367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11340590466348595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847990495135092,0.0,0.13531522067656454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12593201938441287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17435471378906792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18562885714479152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314795576137618,0.0,0.15060265805222958,0.0,0.0,0.21735081462644595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702927431276809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3859353288931532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190883240138477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053402769288488
divorce,ronicz,2020/01/14,"How will my family treat me after? My wife and I have divorce on the table. We have not brought it up to our families yet. We have 2 kids, 3 and 1. How has some of your family reacted when you tell them the news? My family is in love with my wife and our kids. Has anyone seen family treat them differently after a divorce?",0.86004264392324,2.9599712089552237,3.641364605543711,86.00358208955225,83.17910447761193,8.007675906183369,18.526652452025584,8.841846274778883,1.2729547974413653,249,6,54,7,7,88,46,67,0.0,0.855,0.145,0.879,1,0,0,0,2,0,8.0,4,2,2,0,4,3,0,0,3,0,7,1,0,3,0,12,10,6,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,14,3,8,7,1,8,0,0,1,1,16,3,0,1,4,42,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388030275842674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20740102802201266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9356892883396968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.179163309314046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735067646832385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,KyleIsOK2,2020/01/14,"Got served papers 5 days ago. No idea how to pay for a lawyer. (40M Texas) As I said in the title, I got served papers 5 days ago. I still have no idea how to pay for a lawyer. I need to hire a lawyer within a few days so they have time to respond with a filing for me. I have 20 days total for that - so 15 left to submit it.

I have no job. I've been filling the housewife role in my household for the past several years, and I suspect my wife has been hiding funds. My access to joint funds is limited.

My wife got on my computer (without authorization) and downloaded some unknown number of my online chats. At the very least, the content of them would hurt my reputation quite a lot. She included selected parts of some of them with the divorce papers I was served. I admit I was having some conversations she had good reason to be pissed about. But she's also basically admitted to 1 or 2 felonies in how she obtained the chats. In theory, it should be child's play for a lawyer to get them thrown out and she should be brought up on charges for it.

The divorce lawyer I consulted indicated the amount of data I turn over and the inclusion of the chats was irregular even in a case of adultery (which this is not). The nature of the threats seems to indicate extortion - since they're pressuring me to settle and the wording is more about the information being made public than about its impact on a divorce.

I've confirmed that she has a second phone. I can get the # with little effort but I'm holding off to make sure I'm doing so legally so I can demand she produce it.

She's pushing hard for a settlement before I can get a lawyer. I'm pretty sure she's hoping I'll have no choice but to give to a settlement in without hiring one. And if that happens I'm screwed.

I've tried getting a personal loan from Wells Fargo (my bank) and they've denied me twice on the account of me not currently having an income and some student loan debt. But I have spotless credit otherwise.

Is there any hope for turning this around? With all she's done wrong so far it seems like there should be a way but getting it started quickly enough is hard.",3.772775349650352,5.08673906526807,4.794148455710957,84.56891499125874,72.1002331002331,7.693502331002332,26.926063519813518,8.17850203761792,1.6636811771561777,1685,58,339,25,32,551,214,429,0.11199999999999999,0.802,0.086,-0.6332,4,0,0,0,3,0,41.0,0,0,4,5,20,15,3,1,33,0,35,2,1,7,4,59,63,25,0,8,11,2,2,1,0,4,0,1,0,2,13,14,0,2,9,4,10,3,8,6,1,3,13,3,42,9,61,41,13,37,0,1,0,1,35,20,2,11,14,235,55,20,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978912306524597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08926357437586555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07590636360909846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09936669009812782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09498157000981317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28794621427634604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11422742216682462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153347200913592,0.0,0.07372486638301826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2915878108214227,0.10707739528867932,0.0,0.09362271468029276,0.26782143453104384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09870641451136897,0.0,0.19998165715550376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217304252107115,0.0,0.0,0.11949299203970325,0.25201389469999336,0.0,0.0,0.11076699261170307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12127695205355447,0.0,0.0,0.05453256629338473,0.1118739431361308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09489650259334212,0.0,0.10561884523748524,0.07450813549825287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08276583624800968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07563753342958246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12087507321270707,0.10655523399160008,0.0,0.09746348043144028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11355906840349755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11872307354351815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11476536544865926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10617748999020872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032318177296772,0.0,0.12610038356540645,0.0,0.09233435601791364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790061847248742,0.0,0.08914097537673284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104036525362407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06508732221160292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07578358755303052,0.2428240092665911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09209932546258168,0.0,0.08859985303541602,0.0,0.0,0.1003610225680425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21519804725449795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07929262321768782,0.12204045247135975,0.0,0.071880506748185
divorce,explore_the_space,2020/01/14,"Just spoke to my wife about a amicable divorce and feel awful Married 10 years. No children. 
I feel terrible. I am always guilted into things but feel I have to follow through with this. 
We haven’t slept together regularly for at least 7 years. Haven’t had sex in 2 years.  Seldom say I love you, and arguing is a daily occurrence. I despise coming home from work (she works from home). 
I love her, but can’t imagine myself 10 years from now waking up and wondering where my life went. She thinks everything is fine. We have zero friends besides family. 
I am lost with emotion. I don’t want to hurt anyone but I think I have to be selfish about this. 
Any advice is appreciated.",1.7913835877862567,4.463961282442753,3.4565601145038194,84.86361879770995,85.03053435114505,6.328435114503818,23.454675572519086,7.645422480735847,1.4550187022900758,532,20,100,10,16,176,88,131,0.23199999999999998,0.684,0.085,-0.9694,0,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,2,1,0,3,5,11,2,1,2,1,14,6,2,0,0,21,29,6,0,1,4,1,3,0,1,0,1,2,2,1,3,9,0,0,7,0,0,3,5,7,0,1,5,5,19,4,17,23,1,13,0,2,0,3,15,5,0,1,5,67,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16965929812347308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444656151698011,0.0,0.0,0.11806744479169948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139902890161634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14955811869942234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952989512656563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560383170060356,0.0,0.16367333326230518,0.0,0.2633622231969878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13413825760331838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.348309710978351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858636294750863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12263282745103392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18952656467249732,0.0,0.31339736811317764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380694652571951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11534530689684655,0.22249716585761392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10240547989209084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16094733098510114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882833102158512,0.2527946224598509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4472219381128914
divorce,desperatethrowaway20,2020/01/14,"35/m, 12 years, 2 kids, useless spouse Things are about as bad as they have ever been for my marriage.

I'm not going to spin the whole sob story.  Suffice to say after 12 years I am convinced my wife is absolutely lazy, lacking any sort of pride or ambition or real self-respect.  I've made excuses, I've worked hard to elevate our family,  I've tried to ignore and compensate, I've fought and bitched and, recently, threatened divorce.  To no avail.  She has never finished any sort of education despite something like 7 or 8 years of various college attempts, she's gotten fire from the last 2 menial jobs she had before and at the time of our first child's birth.  She does almost no housework, refuses to clean up after our children, has never lifted a finger to spruce up the outside of our home.  She shows no real interest in anything other than social media and TV.  She is a hoarder and if it were not for me our home would be neck deep in shit she thinks is somehow going to make her wasted life better.  Her wealthy parents enable her.

Why am I with her?  Well, I've always wanted children, and now I've got them.  2 great kids.  Now she uses them as her excuse for never doing -anything- even though one is in elementary school and the other is in all day pre-K.  They eat a lot of fast food, since any meal prep or planning is beyond her.  She doesn't discipline them, doesn't teach them, and is absolutely morally and intellectually incapable of raising them into adults.  I work full time plus, and generally end up doing a lot of the housework and all of the exterior upkeep.  She can't be trusted to do any planning or organizing, spend lots of stupid money on groceries and dollar store trash that inevitably gets thrown away when I find it months later.

We have had it out, often.  First mention of divorce was a couple of years ago.  In November I had gone as far as contacting an attorney and was trying to get her to agree to terms, then became overwhelmed at how upset my kids were becoming and just how financially disastrous this was starting to look on my end.  We agreed to counseling, which is a joke at this point since the counselor's first 'assignment' was for my wife to pick 5 things and make sure they were taken care of all the time, and mine was to be loving and encouraging about it.  Ha.  Nice try.  I can't complete my assignment if she doesn't do hers first.  

If money were not an issue, or if I were sure I could get full custody, I would have already gone through with it.  By I live in a traditional state, and although she is a complete useless sad sack I doubt any judge will find her to be an unfit parent, so at the best we get joint custody.  Which means I pay her to be a shitty mom for my kids, and most likely some spousal support besides, while I sleep in a van by the river or something.  The financial reality of divorcing an unemployed mom of two kids is devastating, and I just don't know how I can be free of her and still be as involved in my kids life.

Yes yes yes.  I've made lots of dumb decisions, at first for dumb love then later for naive hope and lastly for my kids.  

I'm so angry all the time, I loathe her so much a lot of the time, and she 'tries' even less and less.  She knows that no matter what she will land okay, and there's no reason for her to change a thing.  And she truly is a shitty, emotionally delayed person who shouldn't be given sole responsibility for any young lives.  I'll never get my kids away from her, and she'll have lawyers that fight me for every scrap of custody if I decide to leave.  I don't think I can afford to keep up two households at any standard of living. 

​

Am I stuck?  Is there a way forward for me?",5.335972411702286,5.629456024556621,5.975490677580719,81.23356495376686,67.881309686221,8.589225405487342,29.11289980294073,8.378751543991594,1.9363876246778835,2898,94,578,38,45,945,349,733,0.136,0.7559999999999999,0.109,-0.9638,6,0,2,0,3,0,83.0,8,0,8,14,24,39,7,3,32,5,64,11,4,10,11,113,100,59,0,12,17,7,3,2,0,6,2,1,3,13,19,36,3,5,10,3,7,5,20,16,1,8,24,5,81,24,97,61,21,84,1,5,1,2,85,33,5,26,48,397,100,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057880589110279164,0.0,0.0653840882236969,0.0,0.0720552926596705,0.0,0.054331150604754366,0.07074773016639173,0.07934127275085816,0.3108226190619575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074653923007724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12269468757699922,0.0,0.05451907921744766,0.0,0.07211383454615246,0.05556172659759925,0.0,0.06852367941894766,0.05774863147760718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06657319225442468,0.0,0.06907406235406631,0.0,0.13692233991756764,0.0,0.0,0.052133204913418364,0.07224831377093233,0.0,0.04211024525806199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05714059926371939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06681367610971513,0.0,0.07344873533880904,0.11566500055514838,0.0,0.0,0.08625422529854125,0.059063587444392225,0.05501433961653443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0615548586354225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193579485048364,0.2777019212854893,0.07895567063201152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.170571219473194,0.0,0.07421796204819643,0.0,0.05222283761945702,0.0719886039191472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05849201144106665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13099357478262494,0.06485324080584344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0681516178401551,0.06479578468637537,0.0580377087970768,0.0,0.0,0.07176948274840844,0.1064492199287059,0.0,0.0691385878783511,0.0,0.0,0.0922403938057886,0.06380024122038534,0.0,0.1729715717148486,0.0,0.05483183938820135,0.0,0.0,0.2775598219536114,0.1178636147160508,0.12356850707001375,0.08717060906496063,0.0,0.0,0.07112602517317547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529467807313872,0.05211830643368279,0.0,0.047999761942364084,0.0,0.20143989664500184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04424597269235538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14500602161850568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057013579080896076,0.0,0.0,0.061725425457439184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148641322804737,0.0,0.06713472789798236,0.06447150475815369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0519256634320183,0.0,0.06608260967093763,0.0,0.0,0.06811752702295773,0.0,0.06702497124719656,0.10802635172492246,0.0,0.0653427324697012,0.06656061766647302,0.0,0.10053545012476507,0.0,0.0,0.046216545322943725,0.0,0.052145131966271435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07409664674807573,0.1230806167569884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13013843951444706,0.08367753816804432,0.0641525726675549,0.0,0.19037187958239168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773256420912679,0.0,0.12756858140120225,0.0,0.0,0.05639441369686987,0.0,0.0,0.03851302293787889,0.0518285895930406,0.0,0.0,0.058708565213282424,0.0,0.05891910197121895,0.07290017964102356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095071915132157,0.0,0.0,0.09276820865295124,0.0,0.07934127275085816,0.16819284259996614
divorce,Hairy_Slumberjack,2020/01/14,"A Bit of Hope =] After an implossion of my marriage in June--I met someone unique and incredible, who made me feel hopeful again.

It is an amazing feeling. I am so grateful =\]",0.23714285714285666,2.651867000000003,2.9857142857142875,86.12428571428573,93.28571428571428,5.085714285714286,29.857142857142854,6.742157984588678,1.9365428571428571,135,8,26,2,5,47,31,35,0.0,0.599,0.401,0.9468,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,1,0,6,8,2,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,3,3,4,6,1,3,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,2,17,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3915645169278578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3626991833122639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7124618672467313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33937336124635303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3038919888765142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,compost5588229911,2020/01/14,"new here I'm preparing to ask for a divorce next month. I am absolutely terrified. He's not physically abusive, he just yells a lot and throws things (not *at* anyone.) I have been abused in the past so this, understandably, frightens me.

I am in my 30s, he is in his 50s, married for 5.5 years, together for 7. House, pets. No children. I am planning on consulting a lawyer. 

We also own a home together, purchased a couple years ago, so that's an unknown as well. I doubt he will want to give up the house. I'm okay with this.

I am the one who has cheated... I've been so afraid to talk about it because I'm terrified of being judged. I'm terrified of all my thoughts and feelings being invalidated due to my dishonesty. I don't think there's any justification for cheating/dishonesty. I feel cheating is wrong, I feel it's selfish, cruel, all those things. That said, my feelings are valid, my needs are valid, and I don't *have* to spend years paying penance for my digressions. I've made mistakes. He asked me to stay and try to work things out, so I decided to give it another shot. Nothing has changed. He is still controlling, rude, bull-headed, and possessive.

 I am not planning on telling him about the infidelity because I don't think it's necessary or compassionate to do so. He knows I have been unfaithful in the past so he will probably ask/pry/demand to know. I honestly don't think it matters at this point and it's only going to cause harm to the other person and drive my STBX crazy. 

I am sad, afraid, dejected... I feel like a failure. But I can't continue to live ""his"" life, to mold myself to fit his unrealistically high expectations, to continue tolerating sh\*tty behavior and emotional abuse, controlling, manipulation, anger...

He's not a horrible person, just damaged, like everyone else, like myself. I wish I could support him emotionally but I can't be tied to him. I can't be ""owned"" by him. I need to be let go. I need to make my own decisions. Right now he runs the show. 

I don't want anything from him. I just want to be left in peace. 

This post is a mess, I'm sure. I've been thinking about this for years. Unfortunately there has been a few big events in our lives, and I opted to stay to support the family through them. It's gotten to a point where I am going to keep being dishonest, or start drinking again, for the umpteenth time. 

I feel so overwhelmed by the prospect of this, but I have to go. I have no idea what I'm doing. I just need to talk about this with neutral, sane parties. Fortunately I will have a lawyer, and I have my mom. Any words of wisdom or encouragement are completely welcome. 

Thanks for reading.",2.3816765666765685,4.737097276061778,3.8992471042471055,84.84952108702109,79.13513513513513,7.4595188595188615,26.177754677754677,8.44344225975766,1.9360711612711616,2071,84,418,45,52,685,244,518,0.115,0.762,0.124,0.7803,0,0,1,0,3,0,104.0,2,0,1,5,24,30,5,4,22,1,51,2,0,7,3,71,96,25,0,11,14,1,6,3,0,3,1,2,2,3,23,14,1,3,18,3,3,7,14,16,1,1,9,8,58,14,61,75,7,49,0,3,0,0,39,20,0,5,22,265,81,6,0.0,0.2818765720226584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07029565629572138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0634170753637224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10785495909708548,0.08315413654906531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05544918550456444,0.0,0.06525806316921505,0.0,0.2224075212219092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09668245089637684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08146409261985392,0.08389006782462675,0.0,0.0831457133903111,0.0,0.17788589375512598,0.06331548988220714,0.08774517866620926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07768490532760737,0.0,0.0,0.0662459083393815,0.17840616808149906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07577561656380245,0.0,0.0,0.07475803637248964,0.0,0.24058216776641525,0.05665273449949145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521457166431652,0.1802746112749005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08138582537670801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08378598503421422,0.0795454871090104,0.0,0.0,0.18300568585539206,0.0,0.08952130958591648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07048647728891089,0.0,0.0,0.08716364102983627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08616089667077302,0.08109076590596981,0.056012724811764,0.11622756170986798,0.0,0.14004868000486356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06741897463544523,0.0,0.07503663521305172,0.05293411200639394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09287651089163904,0.06329739576072498,0.0,0.0,0.23520309651864724,0.0,0.0765895138603497,0.08433763857784461,0.0,0.0,0.07609156142377943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053736489843350985,0.06031207363651973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15140378035929072,0.0,0.1384853547922111,0.0,0.0,0.14993037767449865,0.0,0.0759485501302165,0.0,0.08550001768149257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07932257794600266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06772272142447344,0.07543352293161695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056129739436606985,0.1690488807432727,0.06332997522212626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799799377488779,0.07474036516568662,0.0,0.0,0.12747846945002225,0.06931267241542625,0.07300981495542318,0.0,0.0,0.1580524171504061,0.20325181734158684,0.0,0.06295622962135364,0.046241119591913966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05384025361730526,0.0,0.0,0.08255526047682085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14032156194154413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0713012287069989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911923719983409,0.0,0.0,0.05773215833008188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08670332356634311,0.0,0.20426927984925894
divorce,brisa409,2020/01/15,"The pain inflicted, on him, is killing me He asked for a divorce on November 2nd. It’s been about 2 1/2 months of absolutely hell. He quickly started to crawl back on the divorce but I filed anyway. I’ve had enough. The pain he inflicts on me has gone on long enough. But now I see him in absolute torment and I can’t handle it. He’s absolutely broken and spiraling down. I don’t know if I can hold out much longer. Texas has a waiting period. I can’t stand to see him in pain. The guilt of it is killing me. It’s easy to say, “well, he asked for this.” And easy to say, “well, he has hurt me for 12 years, so let him suffer now.” But my good God watching him in pain is almost as painful as... well, I’m not ready to talk about “that day.” But it’s almost just as painful as the day he broke my heart into a million pieces. Those around me keep telling me “he’s an adult, you’re not responsible for him, he’s doing this to hisself, you have to get out for your own good, bla bla bla bla.” Bur the PAIN of seeing HIM IN PAIN. The GUILT MY GOD WHEN DOES THIS END. HOW DO I HELP HIM AND SAVE MYSELF",-0.1430769230769222,1.868112470085471,1.6866666666666674,99.0,86.69230769230771,4.9675213675213685,18.401709401709407,6.297961479604792,-0.367977777777778,834,22,206,8,26,273,120,234,0.253,0.612,0.135,-0.9898,0,0,0,0,2,0,34.0,0,2,0,0,15,22,3,2,11,0,16,9,1,1,0,24,28,16,2,1,8,0,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,1,10,8,0,3,1,0,0,1,5,16,3,1,3,6,27,6,35,24,5,29,1,3,4,0,29,14,1,3,13,128,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18149123763095365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08067348297021412,0.16944012305923295,0.0,0.0,0.06968332023074614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11688838579014972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07930460117350267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08026488046112534,0.1872751033163373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047346659665113006,0.0,0.0,0.15202016834669865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10738842480807187,0.060742535893755514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09701355503393744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08054968636106788,0.20052134750206854,0.0,0.049803907196725394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926679274058749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801983042183211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07233423448161037,0.0,0.06661816687805028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7714321765742522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14413373615982966,0.0,0.0,0.21664385631891211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06414326663844283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07283915388408628,0.07920829978530329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444422744791254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058358095970727324
divorce,gotlotsoquestions,2020/01/15,"Husband left me (cis female) randomly and now is following/liking/talking with numerous transwomen on social. Looking for closure... so seeking insight into my situation. My husband left me rather abruptly and without any real explanation last year. We have been no contact since then. I have desperately been looking for answers and the only thing I've noticed that is new in his life is that of his activity on social media. I've noticed on multiple accounts of his, that he is following, liking and commenting on many  accounts of transwomen. I'm of course wondering if this is an identity issue, a sexuality issue, a fetish thing. I am in full acceptance of our split, I guess I am just feeling for him. He must be going through something, the scale of which I will never really know. It also seems that in the last year or so, a hyper-masculinity came out in him which was sort of surprising for me. Wondering if anyone has experienced this but from the other side of things. Has anyone here given up on a marriage/relationship in order to come to terms with their identity?",5.721996615905244,7.644589456852793,6.84265989847716,69.39603722504232,68.13705583756345,9.51729272419628,34.45313028764805,9.888512548439397,3.9078984094754654,861,42,135,21,15,289,122,197,0.018000000000000002,0.946,0.035,0.27399999999999997,0,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,2,0,1,0,7,3,0,0,9,0,17,1,0,0,2,32,31,12,0,4,7,2,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,13,11,0,0,8,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,5,4,18,3,32,23,2,32,0,0,2,0,16,17,0,9,11,108,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10973219386128516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09331210255804892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19189029889315545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15693941914213275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11820008923789695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06938091705191424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07798344719946441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15115973173394695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2864372960251589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07541074308681306,0.2236999479005808,0.0,0.0,0.2981728237233696,0.0,0.09692025597981674,0.06703717813340201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304550399269943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13911625820657686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058300249047516,0.13252480242053485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3124443827752413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10435952964561658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15618271411271445,0.0879045704639194,0.0,0.0,0.1473194489244924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12491698533149885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11350712231118155,0.15423738804953374,0.0,0.2797504145956687,0.0,0.1056361660993564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11028963447620486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27348215570524953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13227206060821378,0.2976114471491571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17672618997143472
divorce,valdemarheralds,2020/01/15,"It’s the small things I miss the most... just not about my spouse... So I am currently going through a divorce... and it’s not my first one.... the thing I have missed the most... even during my marriage is physical contact.... I am not talking about sex... I am talking about the times where you are just there together... cuddling, one lying in the others lap... doing whatever... I haven’t had that for over 4 years... and I miss it horribly.... I wish I had a cuddle buddy.... no commitment just cuddling and whatnot....",1.5763074039362728,4.060256340206188,2.9336269915651343,89.73609184629805,83.5360824742268,6.0014995313964405,24.28209934395501,7.348242739294969,1.2399154639175252,383,15,76,6,11,124,61,97,0.12,0.821,0.057999999999999996,-0.5719,1,0,0,0,1,0,48.0,0,1,0,1,10,3,0,0,8,0,10,4,0,0,1,13,15,4,0,1,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,3,2,0,13,0,7,13,2,9,0,3,0,4,7,4,0,2,4,64,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115678461906048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724633937224985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18204481374500872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4341132327247629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5149209655959834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42561175810044255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867807328816618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36835133373469936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20627509742500724
divorce,kikilovesu,2020/01/15,"It’s almost over. Today was the day. We met outside the courthouse, walked into together, sat together, goofed around. We have to take a coparenting class before the divorce can be final. We go back to court to finalize it next month. 
I feel so strange. One more month and it’s over. A 10 year relationship, marriage for almost six. I’m feeling a lot of emotions. I’m trying to sort them out. 
We were toxic together. We didn’t put the work in. It got to be too much. Im happy we’re doing the right thing for our children. I’m happy we aren’t fighting anymore. 
I just needed to vent & write it out. I finally see a light at the end of the tunnel. I’ll reach it in February. Here’s to new beginnings.",-0.003958333333333286,2.3434542986111144,2.4596666666666667,90.25200000000002,92.81944444444444,5.38,20.39444444444445,6.961326702584282,0.6834927777777775,545,19,113,9,20,186,95,144,0.036000000000000004,0.892,0.07200000000000001,0.5954,2,0,0,0,3,0,25.0,7,0,1,1,6,3,1,0,11,0,9,0,0,0,0,20,22,2,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,11,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,1,0,2,6,4,11,2,20,14,3,26,0,0,1,0,15,10,0,4,13,69,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3055894495365032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653289087976388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15132617955481087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13583556746243486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11733066427421715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12984105083921918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09840656203870138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17164083197541824,0.13514757493198787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15430603802522294,0.0,0.0,0.5014577061657605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08671921098920181,0.0,0.12203847017614446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32486528021650923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648210991658213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297247625661823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24358838681597805,0.0,0.11216965188583976,0.11314198271220442,0.0,0.147370329411234,0.16227894593566505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10339749935033607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15339296869363273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16382228322658368,0.0,0.1303092193945454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12159278810029345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11472709913403947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137261010328937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14463547260389956,0.0,0.0,0.10359715725097868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11108579702227707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09826159464489448
divorce,Moneybags99,2020/01/15,"A study on how relationships go bad https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2020/01/negativity-can-ruin-relationships/604597/

This definitely hit close to home for me, too little too late unfortunately. It may not help folks here with their current failed relationship but hopefully it can help with future ones.",15.71575,21.370451075,10.435,38.06,50.75,10.0,27.5,10.125756701596842,3.435,273,7,31,6,4,75,36,40,0.21899999999999997,0.6679999999999999,0.113,-0.4739,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,1,1,4,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,8,5,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,2,1,5,3,0,7,0,1,0,0,5,3,0,2,3,20,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394723027380868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16299932547761747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3844820756391805,0.0,0.28769133161597754,0.2848645857326358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32353137973968044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2874564862757572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943482010263652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6158478925151054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Jugckie,2020/01/15,"Marriage was a scam My marriage started as a scam. I wasn’t the first option. The original female bailed. 
Three years later and I don’t want to be married. The relationship had no meaning to begin with but of course spending so much time with someone it’s hard to just leave. 
I now live in a state with strict divorce laws and I originally didn’t want to get a lawyer but it looks like I’ll have to. I was 100% dependent on my spouse for the majority of the 3 yrs. I don’t want to be a dick and ask for alimony. But I have only been working a real job for three months now. And am finally on the building blocks to have my own life. Just not quite yet. 
There’s so many complications in the marriage that I feel an attorney will potentially make things harder. But idk. 
I am also kind of rushing the divorce Bc my spouse scares me and gets angry easy and I do not feel safe with him around all the time. 
Any advise. Anything at all. Words of wisdom?",0.8504840878529834,3.2409573608247437,2.5408023307933654,91.86957194083374,86.21649484536083,5.4357687135813535,20.80591662931421,6.895973343053719,0.4572028686687584,744,24,159,10,23,244,116,194,0.14300000000000002,0.769,0.08800000000000001,-0.8708,1,0,0,0,2,0,18.0,0,0,0,3,10,5,0,1,16,0,17,2,1,4,2,37,30,14,0,3,8,2,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,11,0,2,3,0,1,1,7,1,0,3,6,4,16,4,25,21,5,22,0,0,1,1,11,6,1,2,15,107,20,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465113962700629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12458774361111588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15076459924973207,0.16309399002677094,0.17127477780127906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18527097060728207,0.0,0.0,0.2006954429194044,0.0,0.15583665765182908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19143726922200505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16411841013043554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18180570139216992,0.0,0.0,0.1907829715670473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19399085177111608,0.0,0.0,0.12940525046282492,0.08950618979463308,0.0,0.1617760479776831,0.0,0.15384860399245825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222927833851065,0.18574418788598765,0.0,0.1995672551298746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14623490250809687,0.0,0.13467898303612388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13933796331270432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19486429258469348,0.0,0.20853084872091573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19669686169720046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18342320001880805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15523157020857134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12967558737084905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12171527509351238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21366015249507445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3241825304768361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13337762862939054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179799653096084
divorce,BobLI,2020/01/15,"Paying alimony from my spouse’s PayPal account Hello,
For legal and tax purposes, am I allowed to pay alimony to my ex from my new spouse’s PayPal account?  My new wife linked her PayPal account to our joint checking account, and now I can only use the debit associated with the checking account.  There is a $10 fee associated with this action.  Will there be enough of a paper trail in the event we are audited, while claiming the alimony payments as a deduction?  This is in New York.

Thank you,
Bob",4.190342105263157,6.279223442105263,5.80967105263158,74.56082236842106,72.47368421052632,8.118421052631579,30.822368421052627,8.841846274778883,2.8912368421052626,397,18,67,8,8,135,63,95,0.016,0.9359999999999999,0.049,0.4515,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,7,0,7,0,0,2,0,8,9,4,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,1,0,13,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,12,7,1,9,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,0,6,45,12,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30292535465027665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8494428994248228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229707441567111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26991366387869153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532067365386193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,dvetten,2020/01/15,"I miss him. I’ve felt so messy for the last couple of years. My feelings have been all over the place. I’ve been seeing someone since our initial split but a lot of the time it just makes me homesick for my stbxh.

It’s really hard not to act on these feelings and send a text or make a phone call. 

I’ve kind of flip flopped between the two of them since finding out my stbxh had an affair and kept it a secret at the beginning of our relationship. I don’t think either of them can handle much more indecision but it’s so difficult for me to discern what I want. Also, I feel like a shitty person for not knowing what I want.",2.773511450381683,3.978845167938936,4.021290076335877,89.5644541984733,74.41984732824427,6.7667175572519085,23.787022900763358,7.1686216300943375,0.7440986259541984,491,14,108,5,10,161,86,131,0.149,0.804,0.047,-0.9226,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,2,0,4,6,0,1,11,0,6,0,0,2,1,27,20,8,0,2,7,0,5,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,7,3,0,1,9,0,0,2,3,4,0,1,5,6,15,2,17,15,5,11,0,2,1,0,12,5,0,3,5,73,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611344020606449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057475487615907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22294889534076706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3056437365422177,0.14394710645861916,0.1934655059697262,0.0,0.1841615491100896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804987363219541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20982463364244602,0.11073564255539453,0.16424422075951442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984396213568254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17130269888855046,0.0,0.0,0.2689971569278887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14812101962129665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17593648643220391,0.21051798237111616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290819940956167,0.0,0.0,0.21632877717144527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16056435452203946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33335526502563845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707249189024633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291089973293339,0.0,0.0,0.1174925698374318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19683002148507964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376923549373772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297553067493622
divorce,throwitrightaway222,2020/01/15,"Husband confessed to years of abuse ​

Throwaway account for obvious reasons. Last night I was able to record a phone call between me and my husband, where he confessed to raping me. I have other screenshots of him confessing to physical and emotional abuse as well. Here's the thing - he's military, and I'm currently in a relationship with someone else in the military (online romantic thing as he's thousands of miles away). We have one child, who he's never abused. Between us we have 13k in debt (mine - student loans, whatever), 4k in savings, 2 separate cars (paid off), furniture from the home, and his 529 college fund set up by his parents that he's cashing out. I'm looking for what my rights are before we do the mandatory 1 year separation that our state requires. What are my options?

Thank you for your time.",6.50686274509804,7.591019588235293,6.495954248366015,75.74079411764707,65.53594771241829,9.780130718954249,38.175816993464046,9.888512548439397,4.005643660130719,659,35,113,14,10,209,106,153,0.099,0.82,0.081,-0.7781,3,0,0,0,3,0,29.0,5,2,0,1,3,4,1,0,6,0,7,1,0,1,2,18,12,6,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,8,9,0,1,4,0,6,1,1,1,1,2,2,1,18,3,25,10,0,21,3,0,1,1,26,11,0,1,7,74,26,3,0.16128659421438854,0.573294721094974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747539574464627,0.1959808656679453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15153406449443627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372430123574672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646916456151773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347342536223836,0.1814257099090953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16178360450210885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13147010091969838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13544011807334175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243941644612762,0.0,0.0,0.15135654281667313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10929197036953617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17908967589351002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16582948109672505,0.0,0.17316144236336745,0.0,0.13773787020410905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366576078830704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14849102641527948,0.0,0.0,0.21430329300619064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09404751011884273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940079141453479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14501601794001548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959808656679453,0.207726557370718
divorce,UsafAce45,2020/01/15,The Ring... My marriage is coming to a close...do I give her the ring back or keep it?,-2.893859649122806,-1.2855975789473677,-0.07789473684210435,106.90140350877192,103.73684210526315,2.533333333333333,11.596491228070176,3.1291,-2.059224561403509,62,1,17,0,3,21,17,19,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,11,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44075672860566456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.493762513090891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5498673050064737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5094880113799716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,mrmadlad90,2020/01/15,"A happy outcome. Rare on this subreddit. Hello friends,

This January is quite different than the last. Last January is when I started contemplating divorce. I'm happy to tell you that five months of work since I brought up divorce to my wife, has helped to rekindle a marriage I thought was destined to end. No marriage will be perfect, and even if you get a new flame eventually you will begin to see the issues of that person. Building a foundation with somebody over years to only break that up is a devastating consequence. Losing your home and equity, breaking up families, and starting over again.

I'm a 28 year old male I firmly believe that individuals my age would rather run from problems than fix them. I'm happy to say that I looked my problems dead in the eyes. It took five months of being awkward around my, marriage counseling, and difficult conversations.

I'm making this post because I constantly see a lot of negativity on here. while there are millions of reasons people divorce and everyone situations are different. I do believe most marriages can be saved. There are some reasons though they cannot and I understand that. so if this helps one individual who might be where I was last January save their marriage then it was worth my 5 minutes.

But if you are new to this subreddit, and you feel like your marriage is doomed then take a chance. Have a difficult conversation with your spouse rather than a friend or the internet. Face your problems head-on, the worst that could happen is it leads to a divorce but maybe actually speaking to your spouse will help.

I hope you all find what you are seeking in 2020.
Best of luck to you all.",5.176960784313729,7.357364892156867,5.418240522875817,78.01728235294121,70.01307189542484,8.556130718954249,32.50143790849673,9.174902378510234,3.0908090457516337,1331,62,232,28,25,421,172,306,0.083,0.7859999999999999,0.131,0.9536,2,0,0,0,4,0,31.0,0,13,3,6,12,21,0,1,16,0,28,2,2,4,3,42,48,19,1,11,8,3,1,1,2,5,0,2,1,2,17,10,0,0,6,0,1,4,3,9,0,4,6,7,31,12,33,32,7,39,1,2,4,0,43,11,0,10,22,165,48,2,0.0,0.0,0.10194611463985664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09299904829396076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06368298323319918,0.0,0.0,0.23540028507540506,0.10963316855919114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11289325609930692,0.0,0.0834095379913769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21829454171582835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09252801812299603,0.0,0.0,0.06900041052438458,0.0,0.0,0.09982405854170996,0.0,0.0,0.09848353517555604,0.0,0.052822375429491315,0.07463226485875525,0.0,0.0,0.09548224933534184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614240945394937,0.0,0.054580441139243915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09238108465725643,0.33362574819266,0.0,0.0,0.10721474486491732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100689528119188,0.0,0.10479034974545942,0.10376071952305037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10903789565312352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25546713275756805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05103799634770823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08772716732421917,0.11687344741113018,0.0,0.08881532049513717,0.0,0.0,0.06973348598662385,0.0,0.10495257606145232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11082449164661287,0.0,0.0,0.1667714028994058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2017925148478132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10962204026803836,0.0,0.07079050954909832,0.07945294598024913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07242525322410684,0.0912178005988728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10005187497185417,0.0,0.0,0.2998865265491784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11111503099456796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2148218835365033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08307748591235406,0.0,0.0,0.16649562090376285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08641736205585364,0.11742688858840652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14788658013050984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07854725557018195,0.0,0.09131000950753164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263969874949568,0.08293626150828877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11606826587863214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10875531639950987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07605425880011035,0.0,0.0,0.07421137293286498,0.0,0.0,0.13454848323653235
divorce,ThePaintedHarlequin,2020/01/15,"Custody and financial abuse Hey!

I left a financially abusive marriage about 2 months ago. He has lots of money at his disposal and got a good lawyer, while I left with basically no money and can't find anyone to represent me for little to no pay. He has gotten a temporary order to have our two kids monday through Friday, which will make our son get kicked out of the nice private school that I worked so hard to get him into.

I have requested a de novo hearing, but fear it will have the same outcome with me having no attorney.

 I am desperate for any help, I've tried calling every place I can think of for any advice, and have gotten no where. Does anyone know of any resources for women(or men) in this kind of situation? I feel like it must happen fairly often...

Thank you for any help.",5.311935483870967,5.999415838709679,6.061451612903228,79.21217741935486,68.03225806451613,8.780645161290323,28.403225806451612,8.841846274778883,2.149116129032258,625,20,118,10,10,205,108,155,0.14400000000000002,0.7509999999999999,0.105,-0.5564,0,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,2,1,0,1,4,6,0,1,6,0,13,0,0,1,1,18,25,7,0,1,1,1,2,1,0,3,0,1,0,2,5,8,0,0,4,0,3,0,5,1,0,1,3,3,14,5,22,19,2,14,0,0,0,0,17,9,0,2,5,76,19,4,0.0,0.35355089721106736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14579473669784074,0.13225518624191646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4058395199410789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086456757731445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15234802518118865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13056433449907354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257059032018154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16788943431632888,0.07543908372417195,0.1065872110336942,0.0,0.0,0.13636443539719245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155899784336727,0.0,0.0,0.12514035640378204,0.11932741566059947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13193545961012645,0.0,0.1336522655646009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681571945102438,0.0,0.20000879286696727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15536694732064082,0.08199541895895353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3242085225871115,0.0,0.0,0.07289069543508453,0.14953577413515004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268429589609303,0.0,0.0,0.09959094502944713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190885654406005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15588034497816136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15099652549717407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16770500772943225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13736164057984715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09560017066856696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10129577195372354,0.0,0.1457449444725573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10861805343949144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,kevinburner,2020/01/15,"Should I(30M) put in a dating app bio that I'm divorced? I'm wondering when it is appropriate to tell someone on a dating app that I'm divorced. My MO is to do it in conversation before I make any plan to meet. I wouldn't be comfortable asking someone to make a plan if they don't know but am wondering if I should put it in my bio.

I've generally noticed that how big a deal someone makes about it only depends on how I tell them. It's not a big deal if I slip it into the conversation but I see the following positives

1. It's no longer a lingering thought in my head and I bypass the whole conversation altogether
2. Chances are, someone who'll be turned off will swipe left and I'll save some time.

The only negative I see is people who'll swipe left on someone who is divorced but may be open to seeing someone after a conversation. (I'm wondering if this is a really small set of people that it's just not worth it)

thanks",3.9004044409199055,4.523606804123716,5.8011340206185595,80.05096352101508,71.16494845360825,9.26819984139572,29.35606661379857,9.466822959209583,2.475344647105472,736,28,155,16,13,256,97,194,0.081,0.858,0.061,-0.4037,0,0,0,0,3,0,14.0,0,0,2,2,5,3,0,0,12,0,19,1,1,6,0,32,38,12,0,7,10,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,0,5,0,1,3,6,0,0,0,1,3,13,3,17,27,2,24,0,0,3,0,18,15,0,10,5,95,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07809160074760893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10735503492174628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09771595543404914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23677926948982736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178536329722505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06311020199713575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495366888717058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22995935886517235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13074017906915444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746740776358335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15922398028648746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308813799007859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07356611235169648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27452539977875395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.583794912057655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20074135065567106,0.10572445380139747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09116600273780813,0.06696109440908894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12490728498886618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12820895139792565,0.0,0.0,0.373600320937448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,kpurn6001,2020/01/15,"This is a PSA for anyone who needs to go to the Parents Education Program in NJ This is a requirement for anyone who files for divorce action in NJ where Child Custody, parenting time or child support is an listed as an issued.

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PSA:

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NO ONE WANTS TO BE IN THIS CLASS. SHUT THE FUCK UP AND SIT SIT THROUGH IT. DO NOT ASK QUESTIONS DURING THE CLASS. WAIT UNTIL THE END AND WASTE YOUR OWN TIME.

I WILL SAVE YOU SOME TIME, THE ANSWER TO EVERY QUESTION YOU HAVE FOR THEM WILL BE ""ASK YOUR LAWYER"".

IF YOU HAVE SOMETHING YOU ARE SURE EVERYONE IN THE ROOM ABSOLUTELY POSITIVELY NEEDS TO HEAR AS A MATTER OF LIFE AND DEATH, PLEASE REPORT TO THE NEAREST EMERGENCY ROOM IMMEDIATELY FOR REMOVAL OF YOUR HEAD FROM YOUR ASSHOLE.

Thank you.",1.7358662613981792,4.52131488652482,2.59452887537994,88.42000000000002,91.62411347517728,4.955217831813577,22.317122593718338,6.655083550727371,0.8413165146909831,593,22,109,8,21,186,89,141,0.113,0.754,0.134,0.3666,2,0,1,0,1,0,22.0,0,9,1,1,1,5,1,0,12,0,11,3,1,0,1,18,22,8,1,4,3,2,0,0,0,2,1,1,2,2,6,3,0,2,3,0,0,3,2,1,0,1,0,1,11,4,23,18,2,20,0,0,0,1,22,10,1,5,5,74,17,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30555863675794337,0.34267404881222696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971885424991544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26364207488066044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12488895335269395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11880315153455137,0.13473672562747555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13035724268657306,0.0,0.0,0.08013663213315601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14471224545582087,0.0,0.15892336121202155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14717302866897194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995963012489044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20910747097440302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09554892479312198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3131396737622236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547816128093553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3159166917735649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108552864571486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600112845700336,0.13289594372547753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12981885007136634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466641906338197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08316865261011573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34267404881222696,0.0
divorce,stupidgirlhaha,2020/01/15,"I'm trapped, literally. History: I'm Canadian and I converted to Islam at 15 almost 16, and lost support from my parents (one is a homeless criminal anyways).  I was already living on my own since age 14. I looked for marriage at age 20 and married. I'm now 25. 

I want a divorce now. I am being abused mentally, emotionally, not physically but my belongings like my wet laundry hanging to dry gets shoved in a ball on the floor for no reason. 

I am now in USA, I am 100% dependent on my husband, I don't have any money of my own.

Should I go to a women's shelter and seek help? Is it smart to leave with nothing, or stay and somehow get money from my husband before leaving? (That will require a lot of planning & lies to get money and might not happen.)

I am not well connected with the muslim community here to ask for any help. I have been isolated, the imam I knew personally passed away recently. I don't have any friends as you can imagine. And I will not resort to begging.

If you have any ideas please let me know! **It is not urgent,** as I'm not being physically hurt, so I have time to plan.

tldr; I'm dependent on my husband financially in usa, but I'm Canadian and want a divorce due to abuse. What is the best strategy for leaving?",1.5394523076923043,3.794824336000002,4.019200000000001,83.37298461538462,81.64,7.046153846153848,27.615384615384606,8.139509932561175,2.117012307692307,964,45,191,20,26,336,140,250,0.11599999999999999,0.763,0.121,0.5308,1,1,0,0,4,0,43.0,0,2,0,5,8,8,0,0,10,0,25,0,0,3,0,35,44,15,0,4,10,4,1,1,1,4,0,0,0,2,4,10,0,1,5,1,3,3,9,2,1,1,4,2,26,6,31,33,4,23,1,2,1,0,15,11,0,8,9,128,30,1,0.0,0.3082181609027508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13024411876574854,0.0,0.14353305750412845,0.0,0.0,0.14092841271523746,0.0,0.3538022713126322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215958401048776,0.0,0.12220298466220285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11067812237511693,0.0,0.13649813713044812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463087743295136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10049006373793706,0.0,0.20386517977657093,0.0,0.07392053117331486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11501853068305372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17436341637971706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13924027571425446,0.14683072029107302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07148186423323291,0.0,0.0,0.4131690765549512,0.0,0.13300314329630278,0.0,0.06354455969747434,0.0,0.11485225504432947,0.0,0.10922419804935156,0.0,0.1419843742140598,0.11057899680865868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13107775548153824,0.13798138699260792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12480356714624773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881373110615714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14442490531346516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357019065047333,0.0,0.14277539160515876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337313666244872,0.1284262662499618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075934326387996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13863497439183672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14759940409633854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0758435832557852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15343472302887087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169465774921394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,issabirb,2020/01/15,"New here: is it insensitive to throw/be thrown a ‘Divorce Party’? My therapist actually is the one who suggested it... I looked up some ideas online and found some really cute/funny decorations, but they could come off as “insensitive”. I am by no means happy to be getting divorced. Am I relieved that this chapter is closing and I am starting anew? Yes. I personally think that should be something to celebrate. I struggle with multiple mental illnesses and I think having a party to look forward to and to see all the support from my friends and family would be good for me. Has anyone ever done something like this? How did your ex react if they found out? Any suggestions and opinions (not too harsh please) are welcomed!",5.051363636363637,7.302032318181817,5.806666666666665,74.805,70.51515151515152,8.73939393939394,31.696969696969692,9.339509955726095,3.2383696969696967,574,26,95,13,11,187,96,132,0.109,0.6459999999999999,0.245,0.9778,0,0,2,0,2,0,19.0,0,1,2,0,4,8,0,1,4,1,17,1,0,2,2,29,29,10,0,4,3,1,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,1,7,10,0,0,6,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,4,3,13,7,14,19,3,9,0,0,3,0,12,5,0,4,5,73,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.16925868846200226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11794951506557524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12127777147747736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14940873503139265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13848285494268894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17749590958079786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15689221919198287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16350985084427264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3803500996772362,0.1340042758100319,0.0,0.09061859704552376,0.0,0.0,0.14547863012554604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18463694202808728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19579989908835654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08473716094094495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2913026226892376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18893400171858066,0.0,0.0,0.17479319889690578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16751563571230385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11753178474888935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15144672603067014,0.0,0.19039208697725296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11111421963530316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13821434258868806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670550598097287,0.0,0.0,0.12276627060505353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18132386010554166,0.0,0.0,0.19682494487716348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20138466496293486,0.0,0.22227492822149586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123211362158872,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,6789054326785422,2020/01/15,"Looking for some advice Husband is insistent that he rarely watches porn, but there is no intimacy.

I (26F) and my husband (30M) have been married 6 years. He frequents this app so I made an additional account to feel comfortable posting. Our marriage has been rocky. The circumstances surrounding our marriage are unique. I’ve always blamed my problems on the situation we were in. He was in the service and was frequently gone. As an independent woman working on my own personal growth and goals this wasn’t too difficult for me to grapple. I enjoyed my time alone but I also enjoyed getting to FaceTime my husband and send him care packages. 

My husband was in combat. He is no longer the same person. While I have all the empathy in the world, it pains me to say I’m now the scapegoat for everything wrong in the world. He refuses to work on himself. He projects all of his anger and anxiety in to me.  He constantly beats me down. I told him that I really couldn’t take much more of this abuse so he actually manned up and has been making an honest effort to control his anger. He isn’t in counseling so I know he isn’t actually getting better he is just burying his problems. 

That brings me to his porn. He has built so many barriers between himself and the world he can no longer feel. There is no intimacy between us. I do long for him, but I will say I don’t need it constantly to be happy in my marriage. What I need most is an emotional connection. Which there is none. He has done his everything he can possibly do to numb himself. 

All he want to do is jerk off. He requests that I leave him alone for 10 minutes everyday so that he can have his alone time. Or he constantly pesters me for a blow job or a hand job. He doesn’t ever think about my desires or needs. He makes me feel as if my needs don’t matter and his a request from a celestial being. He wants a blow job every single day. I deny him very often but I’m left feeling conflicted. On one hand all I want is intimacy with him. The intimacy I want is filled with love and passion but instead I feel like I’m just playing out some fantasy he saw in a video. Don’t get me wrong I wouldn’t mind pleasing him and any way if it was a balance. At this point, I just feel like he is a manipulative, self centered dick, that can’t consider his wife has sexual desires. 

I brought up this issue to him the other day for the millionth time. Bad timing on my part I did it while he was drunk. He is usually so closed off it’s impossible to get anywhere with him. I was desperate and I knew he would let something slip. At this point I just want the truth even if it’s brutal. I want him to admit to an addiction because I know what it is. Well when I brought up the topic on why he never wants to please me or have sex he said, “ you don’t excite me anymore”. After that comment I held it together and proceeded to drive him home. He went to bed and I cried on the couch all night. He was so out of it that he didn’t notice I was gone nor did he hear my cries.

I’m resentful. I’m young. I would be happy being alone, but he waited for my life to be very complicated before he started acting like a douche bag. Now he is the only provider in the house while I am in PA school. I busted my ass to be where I am today but I would have to sacrifice my position in the program to get a divorce. I contemplate it often, but in the long run I only have a year left. I’m sucking it up for now. Is there any hope? Or should I just let him have his  alone time and be distant? I feel like I’m the only one fighting for this marriage. There is so much more complexity to this story.. his emotional abusive ways, him wanting to meet a porn star at a local meet and greet, and etc. he was mad at me because I was going to divorce him over wanting to meet the porn star. He blames me for everything..",2.415345255931271,4.116406664548921,4.08964706328586,86.66323616984961,76.38246505717916,7.290629444897496,26.48578581046484,8.11326742549577,1.6286584573953613,3003,116,632,51,67,1007,316,787,0.16399999999999998,0.711,0.124,-0.991,3,5,1,0,5,0,76.0,4,1,0,7,32,35,8,0,39,0,80,16,4,6,8,109,140,48,0,27,21,6,9,4,0,6,4,4,3,5,31,24,1,6,13,4,1,13,19,16,1,2,30,16,98,19,84,94,18,95,1,0,3,9,103,46,3,14,37,424,129,10,0.0,0.1462242571220141,0.12043331244674993,0.06726920829479976,0.0,0.06029889114724628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31954669306872585,0.0,0.04934667681338383,0.051344762709699,0.0,0.0,0.08392509081756253,0.0,0.04720531417938585,0.0,0.061196280681347165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051522361562616636,0.07523143617938863,0.0,0.05250769836715484,0.0,0.0,0.05457439695319332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06291390337003999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20004845941853008,0.06920910226818514,0.0,0.0,0.13556341584826204,0.07959119313159611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0631471876888707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13882304517101926,0.0,0.0,0.06881907429721641,0.040756570414643235,0.055817074520974716,0.05199039927924096,0.0,0.1663735073057811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21840467224901192,0.13224943742234174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611955331604693,0.0,0.035069233834968946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13137546279329146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695477257756842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06189666460993861,0.061288491465145076,0.0,0.07120103208105122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06440556857963256,0.18370258050560567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06782457246897332,0.0,0.0,0.06533828842540593,0.13408861564739394,0.12619818226435398,0.04358513559432115,0.12058674295756901,0.0,0.0,0.10921664589203016,0.0518179304319236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055692537911883,0.058388195384053036,0.0823791542767121,0.06256071980010992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06230598841536829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09072277541043128,0.1830183924888513,0.047591867549179205,0.0,0.0,0.057907383112615174,0.0,0.0,0.07025327497989044,0.0,0.0,0.08362786149240911,0.14079175310198278,0.0656600813444793,0.0,0.0,0.06682214121860533,0.0,0.0,0.10775949548482792,0.0,0.13547044412711412,0.11666520174855614,0.06956482276570188,0.059097782990238615,0.0,0.0,0.11808960017114703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039530772843071584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05869702529881829,0.0981429930264488,0.0,0.06245028634632008,0.0,0.0,0.06437335161201646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06936070694296123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04750468905141438,0.0,0.0,0.04367618808832923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046395618927394085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0395390424604228,0.0,0.0,0.179907822215382,0.0,0.058490559954575576,0.05896321833611232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07422533841104914,0.0,0.06796100714966853,0.1018286726721412,0.3275649055414981,0.09795951694791373,0.0,0.0,0.055481566584733716,0.05720255652859917,0.05568053089448228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0898461539739613,0.0,0.0,0.1315036109286672,0.13493277203767418,0.0,0.07947394355393349
divorce,weasel4aride,2020/01/15,"Well here I am. 😬 After trying to keep a marriage afloat for ten years, my wife has said no more. 

We have two wonderful kids. 15 and 10 yr olds. 
So the marriage wasn’t a waste of time. 

I’m sad, bummed out, disappointed in myself, humiliated but I’m not angry, at least not at this moment. It’s been heading this way for sometime and I’m going to have to accept it. She’s “afraid” for my well being or so she says. 

We’ve never had a volatile relationship. No screaming, yelling, etc  so our kids haven’t grown up with that kind of crap. 

We’re going to eventually see a counselor about what and how to do all this with the kid’s best interest in mind. Florida mandates divorce counseling prior to a divorce so we’ll go through that. 

Anyway, I’m lost. Someone I’ve absolutely loved for 26 years doesn’t want to be married to me anymore. I know cooler, calmer heads will prevail but how do I maintain that?",1.3415573770491775,3.6817591530054687,3.0670245901639355,89.37070081967217,83.15300546448087,5.627213114754099,23.35765027322405,6.961326702584282,0.8225302732240438,707,26,147,9,20,234,121,183,0.113,0.715,0.171,0.9382,0,0,0,0,3,0,24.0,3,0,0,2,11,13,1,1,7,0,15,4,3,2,2,22,30,12,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,3,9,7,0,1,3,0,0,4,8,6,2,2,5,5,12,7,25,21,5,19,0,3,1,1,17,6,1,2,8,95,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776353569780713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18797163044526868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997621537384147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053879648500084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3676502406140199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15920690252481745,0.0,0.1865221865263025,0.0984376992218371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19552672937405652,0.0,0.16165956072568174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180856522174378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13814562400241334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18795255042542114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19230400085119806,0.0,0.0,0.17038073109048527,0.14244056507231034,0.0,0.0,0.14273259513785125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151764760006574,0.0,0.17715071773536464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10444422395139996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12160829054384162,0.0,0.17497071408678178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10564750428458974,0.14217427569700314,0.0,0.0,0.32209434221337546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942441150972252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306902016998084
divorce,Noma_joe,2020/01/15,"So Confused I’m staying at my parents.  I’m 35, and my stbx is 33.  I filed for divorce on Monday.  I’ve been the “Nice guy” throughout our relationship.  Together 12 years, married 3.5 years, no children.  We got married when her mother was on her death bed in the hospital, as she wanted to wed before she passed, and we had been engaged prior.  

I’ve got a successful career, and she’s constantly changing menial jobs.  She’s always falling apart emotionally, she has little to no confidence, and is regularly depressed and has isolated herself from her family and friends, and I have enabled/she has depended on me to be the primary support for all purposes.  I’m a classic “let me help you out your life back together” “nice guy”.  I’ve been reading “No more Mr Nice Guy” that someone else had suggested on this sub, and it’s been helpful.  

I just want to go home.  I want to sleep in my own bed.  I want to be with my cats.  And I want to run back into her arms, but I’ve been so unhappy for so long that I’m certain that it would just go back to the way it was.  I talked to her yesterday, and it was so hard.  I was balling, and she was crying too.  I just kept telling her that I’ve got nothing left.  my hope and optimism in regards to our relationship is all used up, empty, kaput.  She wasn’t letting me leave, and held me and we cried.  It’s been a cycle of really great times, to really bad times, where her confidence is 0, and I’m unable to pickup the pieces for her and keep us moving forward.  She’s so satisfied with mediocrity, with how things are, and I am not. 

I keep feeling that I’ve made a mistake.  This divorce is going to cost me so much, in emotions, expenses, and the destruction and division of everything that we’ve built together.  Inside I feel like this is the right thing to do, but I’m also overcome with the overwhelming feeling that I need to go back, try again, and this time, unlike all of the other feeble attempts to right the course of our relationship,  it would be different. 

This is the hardest experience that I’ve ever gone through.",4.352331010452963,5.224748968292686,5.5758362369338,81.16713414634147,70.29268292682927,8.979094076655054,30.7404181184669,9.23628265651192,2.6112125435540063,1607,66,321,32,28,537,200,410,0.13,0.755,0.115,-0.7709,3,0,0,0,2,0,56.0,7,2,0,3,20,17,1,2,15,0,35,3,2,4,5,62,66,32,1,10,6,2,4,1,1,2,1,0,3,5,22,29,0,4,3,2,2,10,5,6,0,0,21,4,49,11,43,38,7,47,0,2,0,0,45,19,0,3,19,217,71,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07307866440623842,0.07603767721319711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2810704386076672,0.07630068756788387,0.0,0.0,0.07775989621810919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096670716497271,0.0,0.0,0.09875216985139662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20075907867116105,0.0,0.0,0.07870773415805721,0.0,0.0,0.09547540927596034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07633846997916698,0.2055863410675197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08266082987679517,0.0,0.0,0.0821288246857212,0.08938975713543887,0.08614742039743695,0.0,0.13861742598102075,0.0652837764661787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0706020011861889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20773944151104493,0.0,0.21926113615480824,0.10074968350391994,0.0,0.2714495430690256,0.0,0.0,0.08186089629983395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12250371501576925,0.0,0.09166423907330633,0.09076358103472493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09068316989272984,0.16245017889679966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09676102143160366,0.09928750603257744,0.1868898820735327,0.06454626132663742,0.044644942119220064,0.09158941262897,0.0,0.08087076099270303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08646846376086285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09712528462578716,0.06717675521792464,0.0677590698530812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08768410794005209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10146960761063807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140736970771214,0.0,0.11708411868312694,0.0,0.0,0.2943322699464401,0.0,0.1560805509642717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09144863571736417,0.0,0.07742821455073114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09740173567791843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10369993724221707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734499047340826,0.07987245544666123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12142113129924867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15985785725902324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062042814227547614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10992206459401052,0.07892526069445792,0.0,0.0,0.2694992443615423,0.07253528633251563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298312114999155,0.0,0.0,0.11769484846937114
divorce,biglenny159,2020/01/15,"No sex life - a good enough reason for a divorce? You can read my short story here :

https://np.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/comments/ep0da4/dead_bedroom_a_reason_for_divorce/?

TL;DR: married a girl after a LTR with no sex, sex in marriage turned out to be really bad. I've cheated on my wife several times and realized that I'd be way happier if I had better sex life. We have no kids.

Should I divorce her or not?",5.681630434782613,9.230674173913048,5.217228260869568,73.01975543478262,75.3768115942029,6.348550724637683,21.668478260869566,7.645422480735847,1.1018826086956528,334,9,54,5,8,102,54,69,0.18899999999999997,0.691,0.12,-0.6482,0,0,0,0,3,0,22.0,1,1,0,1,1,4,1,0,4,0,6,6,0,1,0,10,7,3,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,7,2,7,3,1,7,0,0,0,4,9,4,0,2,2,34,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25012195318244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649384528521069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095278663924167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512585897629284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4231793308357599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2996433004122199,0.0,0.19190723822517008,0.3079998692061753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3384200581173461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746771480209502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32583768980235883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23777855836482495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,MyDivorceAlt,2020/01/15,"Well, I'm on the couch tonight. I cheated, and I'm absolute shit for it. I'm 26, wife is 25. We've been married 4 years. No kids, we live in a small rental in the Bay Area.

I got home late from a night out with friends and she asked where I was, I came up with a whole story. Didn't come clean, I think after some smaller confessions she believes that I was flirting and smoking with this woman to seek validation. Regardless, she says she wants to separate. She said she wants the money (we have about $8,000 to our names) and the stuff. She said I could have $1,000 and we would pay rent together to get through February.

I don't know how I feel, mostly numb. I've been unhappy and reckless like this (never this extreme) for a while; I think part of me wanted to get caught and blow this all up. 

I honestly am willing to take $1,000 and start over. I found a van for under that price and I think I could find my way for a while. That's basically my only option, my job pays below the poverty line anywhere, let alone the Bay. I have no benefits other than from her job. We don't have a car or any high value items. Really just household goods. I think I'd take my personal mementos and be on my way.

I know if we split I would be entitled to more, blah blah blah. I really just see myself striking out and trying to make it. Beats this. Maybe this couch would fit.

I don't know, tell me if you think this is really it. Tell me that I can get past it. Whatever",1.6683120825743778,3.3643601639344283,3.168998178506378,92.46237401335765,78.50819672131148,6.879174256223438,21.460230722525804,7.793537801064563,0.6971505768063144,1130,31,259,18,27,371,168,305,0.113,0.812,0.075,-0.8457,4,1,0,0,0,0,48.0,6,1,0,1,6,10,2,0,13,0,25,2,1,2,2,57,56,17,0,11,5,1,1,4,1,4,1,3,5,3,17,23,0,0,12,0,5,4,7,3,1,0,11,5,45,7,33,36,7,32,1,0,1,0,28,16,1,6,11,164,62,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12073221252264835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07927215427628681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10897797982343707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313353943368105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333259620693528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10041543864804063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861446269708569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05894170862721801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10654361667069194,0.0,0.0,0.1278138861522749,0.0900623255618226,0.0,0.18271032486991576,0.0,0.0,0.0977740722783268,0.09323233286902156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12316347041296816,0.11693003602016575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23135710129006234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921928205298475,0.0,0.13149696125398924,0.0,0.0,0.11920156030088384,0.0,0.05695061392419106,0.0,0.1029341688177959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07781192684282423,0.0,0.11711105582798725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08990660194473447,0.0,0.0,0.10939381686980933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08865736070111141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262348371899433,0.1112800369601092,0.0,0.10178514276949116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2240347547759376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22177108655917324,0.09270179404680624,0.0,0.0,0.09289185023604916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11965827049442128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08250942564636746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334456983847364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752934968805085,0.0,0.2037760676751627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3734693693299387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07914393416409474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20626946780456776,0.1850569803303809,0.0,0.0,0.10481116583730203,0.0,0.0,0.13014715638452976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484256956262861,0.0,0.0,0.07506778548560053
divorce,XcSDeadDeer,2020/01/15,"Went from amicable to contested. Well when we first split in September she said she wanted rules along the lines of: we wouldnt use joint account to date people, would respect each other during the separation, ect. 

She eventually got all the paperwork filed in November. Between September-mid november we would still be intimate, she would ask me to cuddle her to sleep, we would hug goodbye to work, ect.

Then as soon as the papers were picked up, that stopped. Cold turkey. 

Fast forward to December 27th and I caught her in multiple lies- that she had been meeting up with a guy since november. Caught her staying the night with him un another house. 

We talk tonight and they've slept together even though she says she diesnt know what she wants to do here. I still have 2 weeks to respond- but in the papers she filed she put that she wanted the house, half the joint acc, 401ks to remain separate (hers had more).

Now it seems like she was doing all that to manipulate me into giving her what she wants. But after catching her in multiple lies to sleep with somebody else, I can't give her that in good faith. 

Now it's going to be a fight- push to sell the house, split joint/401ks, ect. I was trying to reconcile with her while she was going behind my back to be with another guy. So now it's gone from amicable because I was trying to work things out with us, to me now having to look out for myself and myself only.",5.562673992673993,6.4785415494505525,5.71254578754579,81.11995421245422,67.57142857142857,9.143589743589745,27.98717948717949,9.2995712137729,2.2248959706959703,1125,35,216,21,18,356,155,273,0.038,0.892,0.07,0.8442,0,0,0,0,1,0,35.0,6,0,0,3,15,7,1,0,11,0,21,5,3,3,2,39,41,12,0,9,2,0,0,1,0,5,0,2,0,2,12,19,0,1,3,0,2,10,2,1,1,2,15,4,40,6,45,18,4,41,1,0,1,2,40,12,0,1,21,156,52,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504595682310241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11164826759941836,0.0,0.0,0.09183210970188642,0.0,0.07280168465442363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09976606268987824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07888050893638493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10158467626504447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22913081705900554,0.13574640774570948,0.10016983067314866,0.09551680500907883,0.0,0.0,0.2365033177317965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4134087036919556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06563404060150198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05834607499295728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002887309436559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11207429390222136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09082973228401743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08279575136940906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200572758682244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11360257208882175,0.09497326639246524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108721995719182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987913759947354,0.0,0.2390268059177036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12729345597833006,0.19074935906352686,0.099846448418594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959910226425268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07934209449300368,0.0,0.11733657253497425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16216639645440084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436561617003811,0.10314671630708776,0.0,0.0,0.2817649189477962,0.0,0.09579725928128126,0.0,0.1073793541573199,0.11071016833685976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17388878110550185,0.0,0.0,0.3393504949506653,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Killin_me_throwaway,2020/01/15,"It'll probably be amicable? Going to tell her soon. I'm typing this out partially for advice, partially just for myself.

We've been together for 16 years, married 11 years, one adult child (just turned 18, still in H.S.).

My concerns are mostly centered around finances:

I make about $90k and she makes about $50k. 

Car 1 is paid off, worth about $20k

Car 2 is paid off, worth about $3k 

Our home equity is roughly $100k. 

Mortgage is $140k ($1300/mo)

Car 3 debt is about $23k ($450/mo)

She has student loan debt of about $50k we have been paying on ($300/mo)

We have no real savings to speak of, just an emergency fund of around $5k.

We each have retirement accounts, hers about $80k, mine about $200k



I have a legal benefit through my employer that I will use to obtain an attorney to help me draw up papers.  

I am fine with splitting the profit from the sale of the house 50/50, and I am fine with letting her keep Car 1 and our daughter will keep car 2.  I expect her to keep her student loan debt and I will keep the new car and the payment on same.  She can have basically everything in the house aside from a few things.  

I do not want to pay spousal support.  


My question is: in a dissolution scenario, how does that work?  If I have my lawyer draft papers that state all of the above and she signs them, is that it?

I know the attorney can answer this question, and I'll get there, I just figured I'd ask here.


More of the story:

Our daughter will be moving a few hours away to college this fall. 

Note: I'm probably going to come off as super selfish in this situation, and I recognize that.

We went to counseling for a few months, until our counselor moved locations and we never even discussed talking to someone else.  I think it's because the counselor challenged her on some things and she didn't want to hear that.

There's nothing really terrible going on, I just don't feel like we are happy, and she has some issues that prevent her from enjoying things and/or doing things that I would like to be doing together. I've realized that I am not going to get to do some things that I've wanted to do all my life. 

I keep thinking to myself, ""I'm not going to have to put up with THAT once we split up"" - but never find myself thinking ""I'm going to MISS that once we split up"".

We do have good times still, we watch movies together and still have occasional sex, but I think most of the time we just annoy the shit out of each other.


We've discussed divorce a few times, and I haven't felt like it's a good time to pull the trigger.  I think the time is getting closer.",3.4982959775865514,4.5415224657794715,4.547204322593559,87.11568140884529,72.44106463878326,7.590074044426657,26.00940564338603,7.94452939551167,1.3562060836501897,2011,64,427,27,38,657,236,526,0.054000000000000006,0.866,0.08,0.9132,5,0,0,0,1,0,85.0,15,0,1,4,25,20,2,0,23,0,47,3,1,5,4,89,88,19,0,6,12,2,3,3,0,6,1,2,1,2,26,34,0,6,14,0,16,19,9,5,0,1,7,6,59,15,69,71,15,59,0,1,1,1,44,22,1,8,20,276,85,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08184517983484965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14912080468371816,0.07830034903051734,0.0,0.07869131331605163,0.0,0.0,0.051056746701197565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0721481890830861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07329524836854004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06996720771383143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05531990342728756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07527429535392698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04234943945046115,0.05983514667767133,0.08041868441514145,0.0,0.07655126646506881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13127681603175465,0.0,0.28560204295144875,0.1405007506641549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08915958630107064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943988523655568,0.0,0.056139734504526084,0.0,0.08401387736645219,0.0,0.0824825729622933,0.1932858520024929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741927492320889,0.0,0.3722299324679721,0.0,0.0,0.04602998683167677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08564596069465928,0.059159185069134215,0.12275653177801105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11181526837626156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06685306531305366,0.1780382804510488,0.0,0.0,0.12919524336615604,0.0808918551997998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0803659307701334,0.0,0.0,0.17839434653233022,0.05675508481852652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18060579578772226,0.0,0.0,0.08419769340141603,0.18765128624961405,0.0,0.0,0.09533241524576527,0.05365609799442453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08597410558794613,0.0,0.09414500706748433,0.0,0.0,0.07096600143886231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20066242468189585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09504506772165544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06731972415078742,0.07320624427468089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782180962226968,0.2683366127553445,0.0,0.0,0.2441933472202256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09110223864406182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0723381030610707,0.0,0.0,0.14820398900405424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764244809516964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06097520609053748,0.0,0.0,0.05949770374774345,0.0,0.0,0.10787195383863084
divorce,binkabooo,2020/01/15,"Waiting four years to divorce so I can get social security tl;dr Has anyone here stayed married for several years for financial reasons, despite being absolutely done with the marriage?

I’m done trying. I’m 35, he’s 49, married six years. Our kids are 5 and 2. 

I work part-time as a civil servant, which does not pay into social security and also does not come with a pension. (Only full-time civil servants get a pension in my city.) 

If I wait four years, I can get social security through him, because our marriage will have lasted ten years. Also, the kids will be 10 and 6 by then, which I think is better? But I don’t know if I can hang on that long. 

I’m worried if I find a full-time job now to start saving for retirement, he will take on more childcare duties (picking them up from school, etc.) and this will be seen in family court as a good reason to split custody 50/50. His job is full-time but very flexible regarding working from home. Whatever I’d find would likely not be.

The reason I don’t want 50/50 custody is that he has a drinking problem. When our son was one, child protective services came to our house because he admitted to me he’d been drinking and driving with our son in the car. I told a therapist, and the therapist called CPS. 

Now he takes Antabuse, a pill that makes you violently ill if you drink. I don’t feel secure that he will continue taking it once we are divorced. So I would like primary custody, at least on paper, so that if I see signs he’s drinking again I can protect the kids. 

I also don’t want to start working full-time right now because I like spending time with the kids and I don’t want to give that up until I have to. 

I wonder if anyone has experience/advice regarding staying married for an extended period of time when you’re already divorced in your heart.",3.7551153999204128,5.329064916434543,4.9574323517707946,82.35662604456826,72.53760445682451,7.579824910465579,28.97741742936729,8.192908349453996,2.063311102268205,1431,58,273,22,28,473,185,359,0.040999999999999995,0.861,0.098,0.9008,2,0,4,0,4,0,49.0,6,3,1,4,13,12,1,0,16,0,35,7,1,5,0,49,63,27,0,12,11,2,1,3,0,7,2,0,1,5,10,15,4,9,10,4,2,5,8,2,0,5,7,3,34,10,35,44,3,40,0,0,2,0,39,12,0,7,24,169,44,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08515544582087511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09616482292005056,0.20906544965616228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12186527402482715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593652809955474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07707118679191198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898307509633277,0.09966874526420054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07506625581294109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15251941687877318,0.17835574809656618,0.0,0.34146911949003544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971878394653866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215096854165241,0.0,0.044062282029865125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592948353742845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13658636730576387,0.08359581516709907,0.0,0.07309168411087838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032652562959336,0.0,0.0,0.08741185732277289,0.0,0.0,0.1005516936449542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17295260154618888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047891690844711635,0.07103343839550459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277214762320054,0.0,0.0,0.0771190978395065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05816884419690055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09280479401192444,0.05905057035827192,0.06627642330395457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09436772580577832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08338439031015372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26879354653049736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07441992095105812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819369434963578,0.06944194524905102,0.0,0.0,0.09844714963988767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664949280649345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12336098384747568,0.18576637319292466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19656279935148205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023602271143624,0.0,0.055837922124071696,0.0,0.0,0.10162794383732696,0.0,0.0,0.08326917873471615,0.0,0.05916459548444576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07190236713946724,0.1541981675834569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09450321555846786,0.19032412913516067,0.08849827365466037,0.0,0.12380823154597333,0.0,0.0,0.2805872117097519
divorce,flutterby77,2020/01/15,"How to find a mediator mutually? My husband has pretty much never gone with any recommendation I’ve made in our marriage, so I’m wondering how we mutually find a mediator. He masterful at manipulation and I have a lot to lose so I’m concerned with who he would want to choose. Anyone else have experience with this?",3.5090000000000003,6.131837233333332,6.600000000000005,65.555,76.66666666666666,10.0,30.0,10.125756701596842,3.8409999999999993,254,12,45,9,6,93,43,60,0.09,0.8340000000000001,0.077,-0.1926,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,2,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,4,1,17,10,5,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,4,0,8,7,2,4,0,1,0,0,7,2,0,2,1,29,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813205867578472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18643702496576306,0.2731985297533012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22273889065389865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26081968037350944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4873981605874408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2982957758443444,0.0,0.22668309629615685,0.0,0.2522959878537979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19600701899124326,0.0,0.20564494514942125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712631186053629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15726792202551534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2891537150251601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894094814163476,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,FionnaL3600,2020/01/15,Hoping. Do any of you ever hope your ex will fall back in love w you? Or admit they never fell out of love? I get so lost in my thoughts with this divorce sometimes.,0.03557142857142637,2.1532519142857147,1.6453571428571436,98.85089285714287,87.0,3.5,17.32142857142857,3.1291,-1.0097142857142862,127,3,29,0,4,41,31,35,0.057,0.589,0.355,0.9283,0,0,0,0,1,0,4.0,0,3,1,1,3,5,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,9,10,2,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,2,0,6,4,6,7,0,8,0,1,0,2,9,3,0,3,3,20,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904917740430572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153956318421869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533853331301718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14635157510310848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5564463906507969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3057849824432585,0.0,0.5056399817716841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21604645740980696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2770466691993196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223846537615124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,NeverCheckTheTrash,2020/01/15,"Needing advice? Stories of success? Something... Using a throwaway as I don't want this to come back to me. I'm going to try to be as specific as I can, without giving too many details.

 *Some details may have been changed to protect anonymity but nothing that takes away from truth.*

Married. Going to school full time and still working as full time as possible. Two kids. Been together for just over a decade. 

Husband is almost a decade older than wife. 

Husband is a recovering (?) alcoholic. (Using a lesser known method to help control drinking. Think Chantix, but for alcohol.) And it's working. Yay! Very proud of husband for this. 

Except ...

This time last year, wife was in a very dark and deep place mentally. Already suffers with depression, anxiety, and some other chronic issues. Wife self harmed twice in a week and husband didn't notice until second time. When wife said she wanted to look into treatment options, as the suicidal ideations were getting too hard to control, husband flat out said no. 

Wife was failing school and had to withdraw as she was not getting any support other than ""approval"" to go to school. Still taking care of kids. Still going to work. Taking care of the household. Since husband works graveyards, wife was expected to still run everything. Wife's father was going through a divorce. Found out that step-mother actually resented wife the whole time she was married to father. Devastated the wife as she thought she had found a mother figure. (Birth mother abandoned her at a months old age) Wife was also feeling neglected in marriage. 

Few months go by... Wife is literally being ignored at this point. Like a lesser used appliance. Was not being acknowledged at all, unless wife made first attempt. Randomly one night, wife is playing a game in bedroom. Husband comes to bed. Wife, trying to be respectful, leaves bedroom to play game. Husband shortly comes out and tells wife to pack her shit and get out. 

After lots of talking, (sex being used as a reward, wife feeling like husband only wanted her for sex, may just be spread eagle on the bed all the time, husband feeling neglected because lack of sex, because that's how he shows love) they agree husband gets a girlfriend. Never happens. Well, once, an attempt was made. Nothing came of it. 

Wife still being ignored. 

During the whole relationship, wife has given up her sense of self and identity to make husband happy. Walking on eggshells to avoid being punished by cold shoulder or ignoring. Not expressing feelings out of fear of a fight or punishment. Wife knows she's being used as a scapegoat for husband's drinking problem. 

Divorce is said out. Not for the first time. Husband refuses. House isn't even in wife's name technically. Husband made sure to let wife AND kids know it was HIS house. House never a home. 

Wife moves out. Feels happy and free. Husband is making progress and wants to work on marriage. Again. Gets mad at wife if found out wife is talking to opposite gender. (This was actually through whole relationship) Wife feels isolated with husband. 

Because of scheduling conflicts and kids, one parent can't have kids full time, so have to co-parent. Wife has to stay at husband's place because of school and kids. 

Wife wants divorce, but is scared of husband if she tries to mention it, seriously again. Although husband has made great progress internally and with alcohol... Wife felt something break when she was told no to treatment. Because ""who is going to watch the kids?"" 

Wife fully believes that husband is a manipulative narcissist and refuses divorce because ""that's my property"" mentality. 

Wife knows she's not perfect and has some transgressions against her. But also knows she pushed marriage because she was young and still influenced by a faith that is corrupt. They get married two years after birth of child because wife is possibly leaving country and gets more money for being married. 

Basically, married for all the wrong reasons, has had many issues since beginning of relationship. Has had more downs than ups. Wife is scared that she can't get free of husband because of his violent outbursts. Want safety for children. Wife can't take kids full time because needs another adult around during school and work... 

Is the wife able to get free? Or is she doomed to stay with husband because he will always find a way to manipulate his way back into her life?",4.454747977790493,7.502319896020541,4.338910868119459,80.67144748441778,75.97047496790756,6.372958844363332,31.59350109036918,7.607171026734829,2.528524524800099,3505,173,551,51,83,1074,332,779,0.162,0.726,0.11199999999999999,-0.9939,3,1,8,0,5,0,134.0,0,0,2,20,24,49,7,4,32,1,65,13,2,18,8,135,138,48,1,13,19,62,8,2,1,3,5,3,5,13,19,39,5,13,21,7,4,15,16,25,1,8,36,14,28,27,117,88,18,101,2,7,2,4,131,38,1,14,45,348,47,13,0.046070721338489724,0.0,0.08991675648983223,0.0,0.0,0.04501977568948085,0.0,0.1477067703294235,0.04613317251858811,0.0,0.05084018661808272,0.07368547841899414,0.03833453080216108,0.0,0.0,0.031329670342524374,0.04830916830359954,0.03524397572283505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041012709551389616,0.0,0.0,0.043284959252919086,0.07085108186677014,0.0,0.3089271252646465,0.0,0.0,0.05190592644343677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052692631831026716,0.09394434171442377,0.0,0.048736714416473946,0.1190575411579614,0.0,0.0,0.10334446290813183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039680644780751916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902635352098492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03042927694075125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04140539368177379,0.0,0.0,0.05184236992875543,0.1397684458741844,0.03291293252958245,0.044235117338837344,0.0,0.04210780466188962,0.07837546407056091,0.0,0.15154250398158658,0.0,0.0,0.2166304536041476,0.04419523391749446,0.1832813684579752,0.0,0.0,0.050793132919618914,0.0,0.0,0.04074018672873272,0.09808627909280918,0.04127031710739645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030880233384063118,0.0,0.046212689879517314,0.0,0.0,0.15947828055349786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961717270564087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10127705437673086,0.03755378686813514,0.0,0.09756448362088037,0.0,0.04711043395547495,0.03254111295447189,0.04501565464792765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03868780271666504,0.0,0.0,0.03916767977739817,0.041580624729040026,0.1743729218956752,0.06150512847691202,0.0934169607031666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09285690231978988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07354642046412499,0.04896588575051437,0.0,0.06832171222499944,0.07106516093224635,0.0,0.0,0.0432342510599189,0.0,0.08841219931701308,0.0524518215985556,0.048343472115249066,0.0490638146398043,0.06243742619720076,0.0350388596041344,0.0,0.0,0.051156083944106735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626819629106202,0.0,0.04355172303801051,0.10387563211213087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04408345833411155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04736837460377105,0.0,0.14838813969416598,0.0,0.0,0.13147141824580272,0.0,0.09224965832429524,0.233130147964883,0.0,0.0,0.09612362001404436,0.0,0.047290933399904436,0.07622035354579343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07093498419633477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09821051808460736,0.2207528254373685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05039389156365441,0.05228050861216984,0.04342110963693519,0.0,0.13855779549812186,0.07405980136794074,0.04026784109908151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029520257979509863,0.0,0.036575006593249484,0.2417778729306017,0.0,0.0,0.04402254855631599,0.0,0.09383698688178324,0.0,0.09000880082014028,0.0,0.0,0.19895155586335905,0.0,0.07602634004102612,0.1630422305800305,0.07313758836585793,0.036955153714664346,0.0,0.041423111354507484,0.0,0.0,0.15430894528234118,0.0,0.04441053133277924,0.0,0.2012402030043806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05037110148063944,0.0,0.05933606810811054
divorce,Janet2525,2020/01/15,"Scared of the future I got served with divorce papers In June. After 27 years of marriage. I was taken by surprise. Yes things haven’t been great for years but we co exist and raised our children well.  I thought divorce would come when the youngest was 18. He is only 16.  We are still living together. It’s very amicable. Waiting for his lawyer to draft an offer. 
Anyway I sometimes wake up in the middle of the night and have panic attacks wondering what my life is going to look like. I work two part-time jobs and don’t make a lot of money. I’m just so afraid of what it’s going to become of me. 
Also I’m about to turn 50 this year and that scares me going into the dating world. Is there love after 50?
I need the support and encouragement. I’m so scared.",0.9862652329749082,3.372229264516129,2.537365591397851,92.20827060931902,85.38709677419354,4.476702508960575,18.288530465949822,5.82211442006289,-0.2545125448028669,596,15,122,4,18,194,108,155,0.10400000000000001,0.7490000000000001,0.147,0.74,1,0,0,0,2,0,17.0,3,0,0,1,10,13,1,5,8,1,11,3,1,1,0,19,29,10,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,7,10,0,1,2,0,1,4,2,6,1,1,6,1,13,7,21,22,1,21,0,0,1,1,12,6,0,2,12,77,20,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12493491502990668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17773110697628994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17254077822937722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13457598527677053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663627238307234,0.0,0.1249492431086964,0.17224114931659473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550314885643099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103479618827462,0.07632476722855534,0.0,0.13795156774501244,0.0,0.1311915847954759,0.0,0.0,0.13281886336091006,0.1410012373910014,0.0,0.10428293559380264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158405630888562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146608737527319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11881790120151922,0.0,0.18329907500375928,0.0,0.16917894120478275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4692323428538476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15451279400527454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247633232507684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17728488818491694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10379047595464674,0.0,0.0,0.12402702510697165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699304401434836,0.1526113709741389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289038835990237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14046710446588428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694218421829338,0.11373533475162342,0.0,0.0,0.11097939124067456,0.0,0.0,0.30181577644685426
divorce,PhillyFrank76,2020/01/15,If you think your divorce is/was tough Keep in mind it could always be worse: [Man requests 'trial by combat' with Japanese swords to settle dispute with Iowa ex-wife](https://www.desmoinesregister.com/story/news/crime-and-courts/2020/01/13/iowa-courts-david-ostrom-requests-trial-combat-swords-settle-dispute/4456079002/),17.920434782608694,17.68060713043478,10.823478260869567,58.429130434782635,42.91304347826087,10.93913043478261,40.39130434782609,8.841846274778883,4.006034782608697,272,8,29,2,2,68,39,46,0.28,0.72,0.0,-0.8271,0,0,0,0,1,0,32.0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,4,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,0,11,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3884448308719799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3727304454258137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4149451599485344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4713711361207138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991295674734457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4757456216847567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,so-demanding,2020/01/15,"Constant contact from not-yet-ex Our martial separation agreement is almost finished. I received 6 different contacts from my not yet ex just today. They are trying to stall it as long as possible. Of the 6, only 1 related to our child.    
At what point can the constant contact be considered harassment?",5.077777777777776,7.810076407407408,6.103481481481483,70.53966666666669,71.96296296296295,8.764444444444445,38.57777777777778,9.3871,4.564093333333333,242,15,35,6,5,80,43,54,0.09699999999999999,0.8440000000000001,0.059000000000000004,-0.2732,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,1,0,2,2,1,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,4,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,8,3,0,9,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,1,6,24,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29336328174229154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6331846630370055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30608727353378834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259265824871324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228139596910355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769477080904027,0.3302753167169599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2776976558829715,0.0,0.0,0.19890478598927552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Notatumor1990,2020/01/15,"Eggs. Still living with STBXH. This morning there were over half a dozen eggs in the fridge. Went to make muffins tonight and there are none. No heads up. No fyi we are out of eggs. No replacing them. Just no fucking eggs.

It's such a small stupid thing. But the most annoying thing? Everytime he makes scrambled eggs for breakfast he makes way too much. For him and our two kids he makes like 8 or 9 eggs. Its insane. So not only do I not have eggs I have scrambled eggs in the trash. 

I have a closing date on a house. I just wish it was tomorrow.",-0.3977477477477507,1.8082584594594595,0.4222072072072081,103.0190765765766,99.54054054054056,3.908108108108108,16.977477477477482,5.82211442006289,-0.6315009009009009,423,12,98,4,18,128,77,111,0.099,0.79,0.111,-0.1603,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,1,0,8,4,3,0,7,0,8,11,1,4,0,18,15,5,0,1,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,6,9,0,0,0,0,1,7,3,0,3,3,0,8,1,11,12,3,14,0,0,0,1,8,8,1,2,5,64,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21392928744878165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374872843077225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26700916987387097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11305231537318952,0.0,0.20433398894271687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6178559202146804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17010858019177216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17599318447169895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18479954907580834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30746909676701184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260481029603232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836777398938068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21451384463048004,0.0,0.0,0.2661032025567397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,LEGOANDFORTNITEFAN,2020/01/15,my parents are fighting are getting divorce my dad love another wife and my mom said he cheated her so they are getting a divorce and I just finish testing in classes so I have stress and sad.ness but I don't know what to do can help me?,0.8204761904761888,3.255689040816325,2.5256122448979603,91.50093537414969,87.16326530612245,4.082993197278912,30.615646258503407,5.46131890053228,1.3278136054421767,189,11,37,1,6,62,37,49,0.11599999999999999,0.763,0.12,0.2984,1,0,0,0,4,0,2.0,0,0,1,0,3,4,2,1,1,0,7,1,0,0,0,6,12,6,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,9,1,2,11,0,2,0,0,0,1,13,1,0,0,1,27,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3580047724112489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3567518638031367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288441575973899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18763347660407576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30814155191589904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3998626589609614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3791024112600192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3247650968437097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3910912325726993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,sadfirsttimehomeowne,2020/01/15,"How did you find housing after your divorce and not having a job for X years? Ex-wives of Reddit: what did you do to find housing after you didn't have a job?

My soon-to-be-ex-wife is looking for a job and for an apartment, right now. She has not had a job for the last couple of years. She says that any housing is going to require historical income, so she needs to find a job first.

Note: She's going to have at least $30K on-hand when I buy her out of the house. Would that help with housing in any way, for what you did?",0.8254782608695628,2.2314321130434784,2.644565217391307,96.5851086956522,80.04347826086956,4.947826086956521,19.32608695652174,4.935628992294339,-0.5555043478260866,403,9,98,1,10,134,71,115,0.0,0.968,0.032,0.5007,6,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,0,5,0,2,4,0,0,0,8,0,13,0,0,1,0,13,17,5,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,4,0,1,3,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,5,2,12,0,18,11,1,17,0,0,1,0,13,5,0,0,9,65,16,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15495838539673848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12606607360747266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3124015039898722,0.09691240950123924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12950291263861846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07636772193185037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6573241007176975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5653107827281224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09287161522923602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09567606964866206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0844807980596316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972992216070767,0.0,0.09060508358841933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09043569945900252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08093561780248465,0.0,0.0,0.14673983494399678
divorce,PMB138,2020/01/15,"So many ups and downs, not sure what to do. My husband [27M] and I [26F] have been married for almost 4 years. Through these years, there has been mental and physical abuse, infidelity, lying, manipulation, drug abuse. It’s always been hard, but I’ve always stayed, hoping it would get better. My husband isn’t a bad man, he’s an alcoholic. I was just hoping he would come to his senses. Last week was the last straw, I had finally had enough. He came home drunk with dinner, he unlocked the door and looked at me and went crazy. He threw the drinks at the wall, he threw the food at the floor and went to the bedroom and laid down. He did all of that because I didn’t come open the door for him (FYI-he didn’t knock or anything) He finally went to sleep and I got his phone. He has been seeing a girl that has a son. He’s been telling her he wants to meet her son and that he never had a dad growing up and he wants to be that for him. That he wished she could move to this city if he ends up getting a job he applied for. It broke me. This poor girl has no idea that he is married. Then I see he has been messaging another girl. Sending pictures back and forth. Flirting. Saying he’d come back just for her. I was done. That was it. I woke him up the next morning to ask him about it and he denied it, so I left him alone. Then about an hour later he comes in and asks me “what’s your plan”. I told him I was leaving him. He went back in the room. Another hour goes by, he comes in and apologized, said he has a problem with alcohol, and he does stupid stuff when he’s drunk. I’ve been telling him for years he has a problem with alcohol. He got Med-Boarded from the Army because he couldn’t pass an AlcoholAbuse class, but now you see it? Fast forward to now, I’m planning my way back home, far away from here, have my notice to my job. Now, miraculously, he is a “new man”. He hasn’t drank since that night, he has taken me places he would have never dared to (antique stores, cute quirky little towns, lunch and dinner,  clothes shopping, etc), he sends me flowers to work, he genuinely tells me nice things, and so on. I’ve never experienced the ‘heart telling you one thing and your mind telling you another’ until now. My heart wants so badly to stay here. To give him another chance. To have hope for our future. But my mind is saying, it will only last so long. I’m so conflicted on what to do, but this is the first time in my relationship that I have stood up for myself. That I have stuck to my guns, but everyday that goes by it gets harder and harder.",2.3752797342192693,3.8728969200000014,3.2866755260243643,93.2448438538206,75.99047619047619,6.4837209302325585,22.114064230343303,7.121374137718711,0.42218582502768603,1973,52,450,21,43,628,237,525,0.11800000000000001,0.8270000000000001,0.055,-0.985,3,1,6,1,3,0,81.0,1,5,0,5,22,14,1,0,24,0,49,15,3,1,5,64,89,36,0,15,10,5,1,0,0,4,4,3,6,5,30,29,11,1,1,4,3,18,10,6,0,2,35,9,51,8,54,46,3,84,0,1,4,0,85,27,0,6,38,265,81,4,0.0,0.15600576566764449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110705427715244,0.06592354393474315,0.06818448252009655,0.0,0.0,0.10955882665714284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27613202433282064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054176021286450916,0.0,0.12309237120876355,0.0,0.06185349407465179,0.20249005881336912,0.10993778491723498,0.08026395917093783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058225090351654914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752969032890662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28355211000381336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0525633333420579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0576120415280813,0.06737134835939343,0.0,0.06449255280150243,0.07634688957527712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058309651116660366,0.06802443281841679,0.07342264949458531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14423652026806513,0.0,0.05599862384252556,0.0796070995744203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10318711710842636,0.06315426158242811,0.0,0.0,0.10530741113724068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05897460362029092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560279302367902,0.0,0.0,0.13207434586847516,0.1961649501762876,0.12966705276590065,0.0,0.0,0.07431891383508725,0.0,0.0,0.13066077312095326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16099122930598234,0.0,0.06970902033520583,0.07152916199783138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06598326612287203,0.0,0.05826128578591705,0.055284233077686436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06674564935550473,0.0,0.0,0.07312706849276167,0.0,0.06634549225133332,0.0,0.1329477559979418,0.0,0.0,0.06997144450182807,0.0,0.0,0.1523264172995764,0.06358317933000865,0.07001552729192458,0.061781032901777715,0.0,0.0,0.07495278943186617,0.0,0.0,0.04461102699391613,0.05006995345064867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06878283370989953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259890722283742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07068140279160769,0.0,0.0,0.06262349732106552,0.10470815905208923,0.0,0.0,0.15738424583640812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05445881511479831,0.0,0.06588184697238493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403412132819572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07536452533071282,0.0,0.0,0.062048050731660385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877104095521458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08747477016709644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03838851105379791,0.0,0.0,0.06290749704461207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11649233148371076,0.05225620477298746,0.052808306182330185,0.0,0.0,0.2441162309190445,0.0,0.0,0.07570619853876814,0.0,0.0,0.04792815610376154,0.0,0.0,0.14030039827022767,0.0,0.0,0.12718539651474806
divorce,SouthernGirl360,2020/01/16,"Has anyone been asked to sign affidavit of pro se representation? If so, why?  What is the reason for this?",1.4498333333333342,4.162485650000002,3.5300000000000047,81.62833333333334,92.5,6.666666666666668,16.666666666666668,7.793537801064563,0.8556666666666675,83,2,16,2,3,28,20,20,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,3,4,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,11,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3888032552972659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.519831911366584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5717122548116184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.501748851810772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Winyamo,2020/01/16,"Checking in 1 year later. Hello all. I posted in this sub a few times while going through my divorce in late 2018. I found some great material and words of encouragement. It seems night and day looking back on that period. What hell. Im sure if youre frequenting this sub, youre probably experiencing that right now. Well hang in there. It gets much much much better. I still live alone. I rediscovered hobbies and happiness. Ive been dating an amazing woman since mid 2019. I have a great job, my health, and honestly things couldnt be better. The divorce sucked. I was grieving for months. I was in a horrible dark nightmare I thought there was no escape from. Well there is. Things get better. Take care of yourself, and time will take care of you. Thanks to all who shared kind words with me before, and hopefully these kind words will help you.",2.293125,5.122662062500002,2.796250000000004,89.26375000000002,84.625,5.95,21.125,7.365786028017652,0.8587874999999996,670,21,129,11,20,207,110,160,0.095,0.589,0.316,0.991,1,1,0,0,2,0,25.0,0,4,0,3,8,22,2,0,5,0,11,1,0,0,3,20,25,8,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,11,7,0,0,3,0,1,2,2,3,2,0,6,2,16,19,14,15,7,26,1,1,1,0,12,8,2,4,15,80,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13697911991838185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10169802946110784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11254158574136493,0.0,0.0,0.3509136392369292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269691137514126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852952934962403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14501377281727978,0.0,0.0,0.13819840884628729,0.0,0.07516511500703947,0.0,0.0,0.2916292252414607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14079081134806795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14058378078258854,0.0,0.0,0.08864956756380153,0.0,0.0,0.13136176659188958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14286104235805672,0.0,0.13124538786877482,0.0,0.0,0.27545214380337324,0.0,0.0,0.14919247852874426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11678599737039372,0.0,0.11106318200936988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10556685710437376,0.0,0.2916739447277229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12411491884593864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12666634452369924,0.0,0.1425962006892553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112947377525012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12040246880544747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10940495975787866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10562119285239233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12465134393839372,0.0,0.1988827043619639,0.0,0.0,0.12176514704888156,0.0,0.0,0.17573231605915587,0.0,0.0,0.10499786312522157,0.15424109019457485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23783116293540896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08516964093663476
divorce,ccla1,2020/01/16,"[Custody/Kids] Question about who claims 18 year old kid on taxes Here's my situation.    We've been divorced for 14 years or so.   When we split we decided on 50/50 custody.   I'd keep health insurance on him and she'd get to claim him on taxes.

Fine.   but now 13 years later he's living with me full time and is 18 now.  I asked if I could claim him and she answers that she already did.  (highly suspect she is lying and doesnt want me to claim him) 

What are my legal rights to claiming him now since he's with me full time and no longer a child?

What are the legal ramifications if I claim him and she already did?  How does that all work out?  

Thank you.",0.40763888888889,2.6875535925925935,1.948032407407407,96.12427083333334,87.14814814814815,4.560185185185184,18.06712962962963,5.985473137389443,-0.4032870370370367,505,13,114,4,16,163,83,135,0.08900000000000001,0.85,0.06,-0.7116,0,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,2,1,0,1,8,2,0,0,2,0,10,1,0,1,1,24,15,13,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,5,11,0,1,4,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,22,2,12,10,3,20,0,0,0,0,22,9,0,4,11,71,27,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4593225865907396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19456046142554964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16616377259889314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821238030155585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10873207343201216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212176840965558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21988608775041385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849831534956348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837703306125955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21838283977556824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331376634451101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17773001367421656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17215578988975574,0.2339312179671437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916053451108085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427083449842581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12275226885003054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15151100064533868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4020598383068461
divorce,sweetfreedom101,2020/01/16,"Lies, lies, lies So here we go guys, my story of how I fell for deceit and lies. I want to tell this story for any of you who can relate to me or what I’ve gone/am going through.

Summer/Fall of 2017:

I met a man on tinder and we didn’t necessarily click but he was persuasive and very adamant on us two meeting. At that time I was very hurt by a previous long term relationship, broken and also didn’t really know how to say no especially to someone so demanding. We met up for the first time and he seemed nice although weird but gave me presents, and treated me well which unfortunately I hadn’t had in a while. He told me about his life in South Korea, his father who owns a business, how he joined the special forces and fought in Afghanistan, Iraq and Iran. The stories he told seemed extremely far fetched and unbelievable but I didn’t question...who would lie about things like this anyways. The main story that he has stuck to is that he was discharged from the military for punching his commanding officer. He also broke his leg from an accident involving a helicopter. His dishonourable discharge led to the Korean military charging him and him ending up with many years behind bars. At the time I didn’t know so I just trusted his word (stupid I know but I was extremely naive).I heard sob story after sob story after sob story and I started to feel such a deep compassion for him. “Poor guy” I thought. “I want to help him, I care for him and want to make sure nothing worse will happen.” He begged me and pleaded “please help me so I don’t have to go back there. They will torture me” I felt so bad for him but also very pressured to help him. He would be around me every day checking on me, making sure I was still with him and no one else....I was pretty brainwashed nonetheless. 

He ended up meeting my family in December of 2017. Told my mom and my brothers his story. My brothers didn’t care and didn’t like him but my mom on the other hand felt compassion for him as I did. We stayed at my mom’s house for a month. He asked my mom if he could marry me and my mom didn’t object. All she asked is that he take care of me financially and look after me. He promised he would and I agreed to the marriage. I thought through this marriage I would finally be happy and financially secure and have no worries in my life. I have always been poor, my mom is a single mother who raised three children by herself and I saw this as an opportunity to get out of the hell hole im in and also have a reliable spouse to support me in my dreams and ambitions. 

January of 2018 we got married. Soon after we moved into a condo as he made a full year payment for the condo. We were happy, and enjoying life and enjoying each other. We bought a puppy together. Everything was going well until things went horribly wrong. He stopped receiving money from his dad and refused to get a job. He laid around all day on his phone doing who knows what and I was going through a lot of things as I was trying to find a job and trying to move my life forward as I recently graduated from university. He didn’t do anything and the money had run dry. It was very clear he was so so spoiled and privileged from getting everything he ever wanted or needed from his dad that when it was all taken away from him he became desperate and changed completely. Things became tense between us. He needed to do something to get a job and make some money to support himself but he wasn’t trying and just decided to not do anything. I told him this isn’t what I want and that he isn’t the man I thought he was. I told him I want a divorce. He then ended up physically abusing me and having these episodes where he would scream and yell and punch the walls. One day when I was out getting groceries I came home to our dog (now my dog) limping and very clearly in a lot of pain. He had broken this dogs leg....we had to take it to the vet and the vet slammed us with a bill that he could not afford but we found a way to get it paid nonetheless and the dog is fine now. After all of this trauma I decided to separate and remove myself from the situation. I knew little about his family and frankly was doubting everything he told me about himself. It was very clear the ONLY THING important to him is his permanent residence of which he applied for right after marriage and I agreed to be his sponsor as I loved and cared for him at the time.

2018-2019
We have lived separately and I wanted a divorce but he kept telling me I have to wait so he can get his PR and then we can divorce. I didn’t want to be a bag person and ruin his life so I decided to wait for a while so he can get on his feet and get his PR. During the time apart I received calls from collections telling me I have to pay debts he owed. They threatened to ruin my credit and I had no idea this was happening. I contacted my spouse responsible for these debts and he made arrangements to pay them off. I decided to give him one more chance to get his life together as I know that he was going through a lot of problems mentally. His abusive behaviour and outbreaks of anger were very clearly due to some sort of mental illness and I urged him to speak medical help for this. He eventually did.

2020
I receive another call from debt collectors as he stopped paying and I had to pay them what he owed. As his spouse I am also legally responsible for his debts. I decided enough is enough. All he wants is this PR which still has not been approved so I have now taken the steps and have withdrawn my sponsorship and filed for a divorce. He does not know that I have withdrawn sponsorship because I’m afraid if he finds out he will do something to me. I am now awaiting for my divorce to go through but I can finally say I am almost free of him and I can’t wait to say that I am completely free. I am moving forward from my poor judgement and poor decisions and I couldn’t be happier.

Thankfully there are no assets, no children so I have filed for a simple divorce. 

I am putting my story out there in case my story is relatable to anyone. Know you are not alone and know that you can take control of your life. Never let anyone manipulate you into doing something like this. Get out while you can.",3.4035591491841477,4.985195751602569,4.48293414918415,85.37494463869467,73.4551282051282,7.6706293706293724,26.949009324009324,8.32827295287812,1.7573166666666666,4910,179,995,82,99,1603,441,1248,0.139,0.715,0.146,0.7290000000000001,10,1,3,0,6,0,97.0,15,6,4,4,48,53,5,3,50,0,105,15,3,11,13,193,202,112,0,22,21,15,5,3,0,8,10,7,3,7,47,85,1,9,27,2,24,23,28,22,2,6,71,15,171,33,155,114,19,117,1,7,3,1,187,45,4,14,54,686,218,10,0.0,0.1007966493579825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04259376128817016,0.04405457289876991,0.0,0.17008052486086125,0.03539344391334365,0.0,0.0,0.028926007619980338,0.04460281117507089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05948446231324291,0.0,0.07000717438680601,0.07573229695872684,0.0795310258327563,0.0,0.03996406752742078,0.032707636428275795,0.03551586798754484,0.02592961264608689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08686823083015308,0.04864996832706178,0.17347356129675148,0.0,0.04499755526218347,0.0,0.08919658620173104,0.0,0.047707854708989764,0.06792323164841857,0.0,0.0,0.0822967995594744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037223629036089716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130230815375168,0.08790232685606003,0.0,0.0,0.03847633901114241,0.035838500049676134,0.0,0.11468611575414085,0.0,0.08019850168665403,0.0,0.021507530966590388,0.0,0.0816826559120976,0.09319244000922836,0.07775445226164625,0.0361811861749368,0.0,0.04663863974094059,0.0,0.0,0.2444569314178859,0.0408045044549694,0.16921972694426504,0.0,0.03402000608686099,0.0,0.0,0.08423485592963231,0.07522906809237696,0.09056094192612904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11404420875271915,0.0,0.0426671779492142,0.0,0.0,0.04908095008211679,0.04553577636882609,0.048018081039776936,0.04594628881180808,0.0,0.12663155182200211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18701383159172008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043496045655067324,0.21031154483749856,0.06234297178018635,0.04263234830083571,0.03756015688942338,0.03764311126179265,0.03571961223810245,0.0,0.0,0.10848801707563846,0.03839049229072874,0.08049737536858691,0.08517953407458406,0.04312493057846637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04285064719923815,0.08573277135394176,0.0,0.0,0.2989066076433757,0.03395191036976841,0.13562743260812182,0.0,0.06307996052381062,0.032806463715820515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040814536558846516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08647068958306824,0.03235062191283012,0.0452614109748806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03714088310366275,0.0,0.04669186605494858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04327450719248666,0.0,0.040701304474206335,0.0,0.04276053052047468,0.04765016848281027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027249715796390017,0.0,0.041999268601296665,0.04566785427978328,0.0,0.03632559823617902,0.0,0.10147924547267782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07744653845552486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047812360237314576,0.0,0.0,0.03604070073481951,0.098239107096572,0.0,0.0,0.030107271547696105,0.04533782455127918,0.06793877114911047,0.07112417092739143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09653892772944016,0.08017954446977991,0.0,0.09594556385132903,0.0,0.11153528259994487,0.03916152732176029,0.0,0.0,0.1412954787034452,0.0,0.0,0.10130673969918834,0.12401571414700675,0.0,0.0,0.2438704067554541,0.0,0.08663766225124445,0.0,0.04155159039217148,0.0,0.1534970781842272,0.0,0.0,0.24567716913585005,0.22580005243792256,0.033763177448858706,0.0,0.0,0.07649012719150322,0.039431392207260114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04319747578727992,0.04334792135171351,0.1510821302950775,0.046506549520826515,0.0,0.05478370948274023
divorce,HalalMonster,2020/01/16,"Any book recommendations? Hi everyone, I am seeing someone that is now going through a separation with her babies daddy. Between custody battles, lawyers and all sort of things that comes with this I am noticing her being emotionally drained by the end of each day.

Does anyone have any tips for me on how to be there for her during this time?

Are there any books I can read that may be helpful for us/me?

Any advice will be appreciated.

Thank you,",3.78142857142857,6.300728333333336,4.519285714285715,81.36321428571429,75.19047619047619,6.5809523809523816,27.16666666666667,7.645422480735847,1.6636952380952388,356,14,65,5,8,114,65,84,0.057999999999999996,0.8390000000000001,0.10400000000000001,0.6174,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,0,4,2,1,0,2,0,12,0,0,1,1,9,16,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,8,1,12,10,2,7,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,2,4,47,14,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21209469669489786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5903944946044193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15176350779905234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18696578480908405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13997662018036816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899382896252544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24414737236137435,0.1922382041668403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20739661494959172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12335216074516266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14548126091598593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471081435361284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21710458985476264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17295744474736424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839022478928717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19982666148419148,0.0,0.0,0.1441956211775808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265611829996433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610794384083223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,guacamoleeeeeee,2020/01/16,"Im (19F) a child of a divorced parents and i dont know what to do so my dad had an affair for about 2 months now and my whole family knew about it but we didnt wanna burst at him yet until it was the right moment. My mom eventually told home to move out as he was rarely in the house. He’s been “working” outstation and sleeping over at some old ass lady house. Fyi my dad is 60 and not working. 
Whenever he says hes going to work, my family would probably think hes giving someone transportation to earn some pocket money BUT NO HE HAS BEEN SLEEPING WITH THE OLD LADY. 
So early this week, tht lady (carol) called me using my dad’s phone. i answered unknowingly  thought it was my dad. And it was a day before my bday (14/01) she called me to wish me and shit, im like oh ok thanks. And she wanted to meet me because she bought me a surprise gift. She also said dont tell my mom as its a “secret”
Note that i rly hate this lady, and i told her its okay and ended the call. also she kept saying i love u to me
and she also said that she have one son but now she has four kids(my siblings and i) and a girl(me). 
Basically long story short i told my mom everything and the lady called me again saying “why would you tell your mom” “ i trusted you” 
then the most triggering part
She asked me “ pick now do u want ur mom or ur dad” 
I said my mom
and she said “ ok no more calling ur father, asking him for cash etc” basically cut ties i guess. ((shes a chinese btw)) 
I IMMEDIATELY ENDED THE CALL BROOOO I WAS HELLA PISSED 
then i told my mom everything again. And ya thats about it. ((my dad always listens to that lady)) sigh hell me out guys",0.09088192419824992,2.262524877551023,2.3752412536443157,93.30630211370264,87.39650145772595,5.0626530612244895,17.321355685131195,6.508806274219699,-0.19598303206997114,1255,30,281,14,40,425,177,343,0.1,0.789,0.11199999999999999,-0.3895,1,0,0,0,1,0,38.0,1,4,0,4,14,14,5,0,15,3,22,6,5,3,0,45,49,29,0,6,5,16,0,1,0,2,0,8,1,2,14,19,0,1,6,0,3,3,6,5,1,2,21,8,56,8,25,26,7,30,1,0,0,2,75,8,4,6,20,173,70,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618226715267147,0.05612499974422612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261159782995472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0411177704744592,0.0,0.05739620560890784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4132527576344967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04350059731904905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15810516570353406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11948390664131353,0.0,0.07522618322665907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12124200615848567,0.0,0.127174425231725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06470556546307217,0.038334206570323374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07430536337515976,0.06678752820834086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06659433039934658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06765929185500018,0.0,0.0,0.15565980623697628,0.0,0.0,0.14571825528618093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03706954625534085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0329533654479825,0.0,0.0,0.05969239995725518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06087755617320801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5529881618294588,0.05383909419735304,0.0716902037853688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14155787501906233,0.0,0.045706839969337484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07489683943429779,0.07304333413725989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07272405839934205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05760315940732098,0.25664705461853893,0.16092027213127566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06923793168805976,0.0,0.0,0.13500030101803492,0.0,0.05715138443368228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11791105951186345,0.062100221620102265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04322015782846305,0.0,0.05354890728375558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578109578765607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05825638550043207,0.0,0.0,0.07956921134479625,0.0,0.05410547486514293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06086443129322066,0.07530712157140379,0.07756582474037793,0.0,0.0,0.14731635037400995,0.0,0.0,0.0958311323976192,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Fd2k1,2020/01/16,"Not looking good and psychiatrist not helping... Just need to vent.   35m and 34f married 10.5, together 14.  Two incredible boys, 5 and 7.  We have been neglecting each other for years.   I tell her she’s beautiful and I love her daily, but have realized she really wanted someone to talk to and a friend all these years.  I always wanted to solve her problems, and never just listened.  Worked my a$$ off, got home and just wanted to withdraw.  Didn’t give her the love she needed, I gave her the love I needed.  She comes from a very traumatic background (multiple homes, divorces, abuse, etc).  She’s very closed emotionally, so she never really gave me the acknowledgement I needed (although I just buried it emotionally and just withdrew further).  Always had a hard time telling me a was doing a good job, I was a good dad and husband, etc.  
She mentioned divorce a month ago because we had grown so far apart.  I turned my life upside down.  Revelation after revelation made me  see that I wasn’t really the husband I should be.  Started listening, helping even more than I already was, talking to her about everything.  
Fast forward to know.  She says it’s not working, the marriage is done, we let it die.  Wants to be friends, says we’ll always be friends, but the love has died.  I just don’t understand. 
She started personal counseling, says the disconnect is because of her past trauma, and she has developed self-protection mechanisms to wall off and disconnect from anyone who lets her down.  Her mom, dad, grandma, etc etc etc.  Never been able to love the way I or anyone deserves.  (Except the kids, which she says is a totally different story).  Says she can’t figure herself out while she’s in a relationship. 
I said “fine, while you are at peace with this, I am a train wreck.  I’d like to go be with my family (hour drive north), and would like to bring the kids if that’s ok”.  She says it’s totally fine.  36 hours later, alone in our big house, she’s been crying since we left and wants to work on this and go to counseling.  I come home.  It feels better.  We talk.  Laugh a little.  Then she has one more personal counseling session today and she’s basically back to “I know deep down that we’ll never get it back”.  
Couples counseling tomorrow, but I feel like she has her heels dug in, and that no matter what the couples counselor says, she’s convinced our marriage is dead.  

I feel like I am fighting a losing battle with a psychiatrist.  She says the psychiatrist isn’t taking sides, but I’m guessing my wife has deep feelings that love can’t be restored (based on her past), and the psychiatrist is just smiling and nodding.  Wife even made a comment that the “therapist said I would probably resent her”.  

Am I just putting the blame on a counselor?  I’ve never been abusive emotionally or physically.  Never cheated.  Withdrew from her for sure, didn’t give her the love she needed, didn’t handle my own lack of love and my stress well, just withdrew into a cocoon.  But for the sake of 10 years, 2 kids, isn’t it worth a solid try?   She still says she’ll go to couples counseling, but I have little hope.  Knowing this woman, once she has her mind made up, telling her there IS hope is just going to piss her off and make her feel like no one understands or believes her.",3.707732001664589,5.814709871589089,4.497566434813629,83.36599890018432,73.87961476725522,7.5682658581535005,27.106860472029012,8.401726058763845,1.9669620950002973,2562,97,483,46,54,823,281,623,0.122,0.6859999999999999,0.191,0.9947,2,1,0,0,5,0,103.0,9,1,0,5,20,39,5,1,35,1,53,11,2,4,10,106,112,36,3,18,24,7,6,5,3,6,1,13,3,7,21,34,0,1,13,0,1,11,20,10,1,3,22,21,87,29,49,77,13,70,0,2,2,8,113,30,1,7,35,322,108,5,0.05046124887812127,0.11957665687218785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04473085247292052,0.0,0.0,0.052262635521324576,0.05568524293544961,0.0,0.12596340429888755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07056735699611756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07760317120054094,0.0,0.061521417903447936,0.0,0.0,0.05685254748385023,0.0,0.04462887394280431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08693579552833923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16750323628604435,0.0554293124149129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10474161906347106,0.05272126494829437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05163937737372128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17028633926841205,0.0,0.0,0.28138815663919514,0.06665835794525292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04535131673154458,0.0,0.04757037450614991,0.0,0.12757361811830212,0.10814857884349234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169587071260895,0.0,0.026363919827576854,0.09681405600542664,0.11471316246949223,0.12697350432369306,0.04035847045064655,0.0,0.05558875469075252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04520336739541026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06764622289105926,0.0,0.15185024095050587,0.10023881206011384,0.09938833100084414,0.058225506148389373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050075003213100516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0831965481232484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0548262945537003,0.10320009166418,0.03564227239903884,0.1232640865285776,0.10115085604323044,0.0,0.0,0.042374740067338566,0.05645323000704203,0.0,0.0,0.36434597800957896,0.14324296137129874,0.03368327546416516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05095147648184122,0.05909960480938519,0.04027768742612034,0.0,0.0,0.18708188325482028,0.2335129558327454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05373958317819419,0.06838769637440109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963419437269854,0.0,0.08812163227854368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05440576102247335,0.048284600235842884,0.0,0.05072749261297328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09698030449634737,0.0,0.0,0.054176496699890116,0.0,0.0,0.09600040638562757,0.36115929426697546,0.0,0.0,0.0402110821159464,0.0,0.05264208776933444,0.0,0.0,0.04174206652413963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04275565242149016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0714334633571137,0.0,0.04029841853752013,0.0,0.057803190099124574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04755912988327878,0.0,0.03794057917643925,0.12167652123029665,0.13231606706716287,0.0,0.0,0.058589399247916285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02942436001944653,0.0,0.047831363657497086,0.0,0.0,0.03425987562487403,0.05488734846700982,0.049293307847686915,0.10506387938729478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08327163010790095,0.14881675997096253,0.040053790581653266,0.0,0.0,0.04537072289379647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020917052153748,0.0,0.0,0.07169244679811547,0.0,0.0,0.09748616952143452
divorce,fitnurse6,2020/01/16,"I initiated the divorce, and my parents are comforting my STBX Hi everyone, brand new here. I’m 30F and filed for divorce from my husband (30M) of 7 years in November. I fell out of love with him after emotional turmoil and several years of unhappiness. We tried a trial separation but all that did for me was make me realize I love being alone. Our court date is set for March 10. No kids, just two dogs. 

Anywho, lately, my family has been coddling him and helping him out. My mom goes over to his (formally our) house to let out the dog, she has been helping him look for another place to live once we sell our place, and texts him nearly everyday to see how he’s doing. I explained to her about how he mistreated me and I don’t think it’s fair for her to be giving him so much attention. Her reply was, “He’s going through a lot right now and I don’t want him to feel alone.” **I** am going through a lot and **I** feel alone - her own daughter - but she’s clearly choosing sides. Any ideas on how to diffuse the situation? Am I wrong for being upset about this?",0.9196728971962608,3.300484182242993,2.9670915887850486,89.03631962616824,85.6822429906542,6.4146542056074765,22.578691588785052,7.699297019823105,1.1929609719626164,821,30,172,16,25,276,132,214,0.096,0.779,0.126,0.7757,1,3,0,0,2,0,35.0,5,0,0,0,9,6,0,2,6,0,18,2,0,4,2,34,32,14,0,1,3,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,14,0,0,8,0,1,3,3,3,0,1,5,4,36,3,31,23,5,24,0,0,2,2,36,11,0,2,9,118,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43581159519066864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09538388937381692,0.14707835463424035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15777739236426208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13402764394075628,0.0,0.0,0.13222780539443962,0.0,0.14184273069223466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13455338842536288,0.15942979092203485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18803113679400396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16184507639280088,0.0,0.15834025179048106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15822317079372694,0.0,0.0,0.14342878082130064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12385510979155312,0.0,0.1177858896725658,0.0,0.0,0.2384937724573204,0.2531863033276578,0.0,0.09362687679801926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16427474294139513,0.0,0.0,0.10310970282111803,0.0,0.0,0.13546721965142214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14937589245899074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15574585363891855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29309069916321634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11978413644626475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11177173179580092,0.0,0.0,0.15845766368074166,0.0,0.0,0.15766188474716986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08987509254389513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522960905800512,0.0,0.13701691409827996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08273095926258697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15335595678915434,0.0,0.18065000028484995
divorce,lilac_honey,2020/01/16,"Thoughts on financial abuse? I discovered my spouse had an attorney consultation today, so last night we had a long conversation and I told him I wanted to divorce. We agreed to wait a few weeks and talk about more details, as we have an upcoming vacation with our kids. He seems to want to try and work things out. Now, I absolutely do not. He has lied over and over to my face.

He controls the finances, I am not allowed to have access or knowledge and he keeps the account in his name. He will not add me. I check his phone nightly without him knowing, and I found out today he drained the savings account. I don't know where he put it, but it's a substantial amount.

Am I just screwed? This leaves me with nothing. I don't know how I'll start over without those funds. I feel trapped. I've scheduled a call with my attorney tomorrow, but tonight I'm in a panic and can't sleep.",2.2385728609625666,4.426430551136363,3.2646925133689852,90.09608288770056,78.7159090909091,6.641176470588236,27.966577540106954,7.724431198458867,1.6558413101604277,691,31,145,11,17,221,110,176,0.107,0.8540000000000001,0.039,-0.9389,1,1,0,0,2,0,22.0,4,0,0,2,6,3,1,1,10,0,12,3,2,3,0,42,26,13,0,2,9,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,16,0,3,8,0,5,1,8,2,0,0,5,1,24,1,21,20,3,22,0,0,0,1,25,9,1,2,12,92,29,3,0.0,0.20511109992996535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17676816132313006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941614253447388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08753134873894071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898099343069907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15387116548751215,0.0,0.0,0.2854158318571422,0.14111054584301122,0.0,0.1833021205954032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15319993283250732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.324910443125274,0.0,0.16610699939013035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20311130389765025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17402680554378624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15759595968279133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.173238444618924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12253057264048925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13914201293135886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11500886680892232,0.0,0.0,0.13743272183728675,0.0,0.0,0.3281825689917333,0.16541729541137734,0.0,0.11753265155075833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20421356558435308,0.0,0.1388611468318648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33375032667419674,0.0,0.12602863456983726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,vonNinja,2020/01/16,"Advice for Expat looking to file for divorce in MI while in Japan TL;DR: I'm an American expat that was married in MI and need to file divorce papers. How much of it can be done while I am overseas? 

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Hello everyone! 

Not sure if this is the correct sub for this or not, so please let me know if it's best xposted somewhere else. 

I (m29) have been living in Japan for the last 3 years. I moved here 6 months after getting married to STBX(f27), and 6 months after that she joined me after selling our cars / appliances / etc. in order to start our life in Japan. We have no children, no property.

After she arrived we lived together in a small apartment for about 1 month, and one day I came home to find that she had left. All of her things gone, note on the coffee table, the whole deal. We would later find out that she would be diagnosed bi-polar, but this was the split. We went back and forth on making it work but we agreed to separate finances within a month or so and called it quits shortly after that. We have been separated since the end of 2017, with occasional contact. 

I have asked her to file the paperwork for the divorce about once every 3 months as it would be easier for her to start seeing as I am overseas. Things are amicable and we don't have anything to fight over, so we figured it could be accomplished without a lawyer. This has still not happened and I am no longer willing to let it go on further.

Recently things have been getting worse with regards to her mental health and while I am concerned about her, she is no longer my responsibility and I feel that continuing to be legally bound to her, however tenuous it may be, is a liability. I need to start proceedings ASAP.

Most of these online sites are geared towards folks that can hand in paperwork to the county clerk office personally, but I can't do that when I'm in Japan and I'd like to afford spending thousands on flights if I can. Does anyone have any experience or knowledge in how to get this started? Maybe a resource online that can help? I'm really lost and not sure where to begin besides printing and filling out the forms. 

Please let me know if you have any questions I can answer that might help. I appreciate you taking your time to read this, thank you in advance for any and all consideration.",5.765025624599616,6.348892930493275,6.099721332479183,79.70113228699553,67.00448430493273,8.703267136450991,30.95099295323511,8.634040054169528,2.3205441383728385,1821,67,347,26,28,585,228,446,0.06,0.852,0.08800000000000001,0.9485,2,0,0,0,4,0,51.0,10,4,0,6,13,7,1,0,16,0,49,4,1,3,5,69,77,34,0,10,15,0,2,1,0,6,3,0,1,2,28,26,0,1,10,1,3,8,11,2,0,2,11,4,43,5,64,50,8,66,0,1,2,0,39,27,0,11,31,254,71,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08955864451033127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09930198852615987,0.11136394252969813,0.18697401969647826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06408332813794104,0.0,0.075419572671181,0.0,0.08567973261234202,0.0,0.0,0.07047266181249623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09618029598160947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358419198170644,0.1048223943854818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07317451604409891,0.0,0.0,0.05910622265357579,0.09448641376169226,0.0,0.09302211991494816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08020292833591494,0.09378906355416468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07656123788435254,0.0,0.08117408523914639,0.0,0.10221320646616812,0.0,0.0,0.07721849603551728,0.08757484274883033,0.0,0.08965061079084413,0.0,0.0,0.04634064462450718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16753161698696722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14364894454578445,0.0,0.05208641463416192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810451816928003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09741893025766347,0.0,0.0,0.1228612005139586,0.0,0.091931730031985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10073612730258943,0.07470641949302093,0.0,0.0,0.09957724290752416,0.2811528851085535,0.06473461767471747,0.04477522322435281,0.0,0.1618560387203234,0.0,0.07696233749110419,0.0,0.10004604768796994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0611766257435293,0.0,0.09207404987271617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09236094780378633,0.09722543413335492,0.0,0.0,0.3657680221901323,0.0974087117917042,0.06737278776928629,0.13591360338398076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09760352348165356,0.0621039440034539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08002464195545232,0.0,0.20120684006626174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10266820154251588,0.09748032196381597,0.091674111080363,0.0,0.05871289446477631,0.0,0.09049263645209836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07303263377597259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07581325587606673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594794118530106,0.0,0.07319125693547142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727567791114972,0.0,0.06890887482837305,0.0,0.0,0.08437837069209249,0.0,0.0,0.18266318646665172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05344144937945875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495982807904254,0.0,0.1023231810440022,0.0,0.08834666382126458,0.0,0.06672178883626084,0.0,0.0933984761752174,0.19531511971299767,0.0,0.11136394252969813,0.05901915046165744
divorce,opkl89,2020/01/16,"But...I don't want to be divorced 48yo male was told by wife of 22 years (46yo) that she wants to get divorced. 

3 teenage kids.

We were planning a move to Europe, where she is from. We met in US and kids were all born here but have dual citizenship. 

All except the oldest kid were going to move, because the kids could go to college free there ( at least i thought that was the reason.)
She had already quit her job, was packing for the move and was leaving with two of the kids in a few weeks. I was to stay and finish remodeling work on our house, sell it, and move there in the summer. 

3 days ago i was informed (what felt like out of nowhere) that she didnt love me anymore. Ive heard that a handfuls of times during the last 5ish years. During those times - days later the story changes to i didnt mean that. I was just angry about x, y, or z, but i love you and we will be together forever. 

Not this time. Im like: "" we'll be fine, marriages have ups and downs but we have always weathered....""  Then out of nowhere, she says she's in love with someone else. (I actually dont even believe that - ill explain in another post.)

She was my best friend and life partner; from the day i met her, i have been ga-ga for her. 

I am in absolute and complete shock.",2.866799265605877,3.8760130116279083,3.7468747450020414,92.38492656058754,73.92248062015504,6.51685026519788,25.206854345165237,6.5966054737557815,0.6528418604651165,959,30,219,7,19,307,152,258,0.09699999999999999,0.8170000000000001,0.086,-0.4708,1,0,0,0,2,0,49.0,7,1,0,4,7,10,0,0,12,0,30,6,1,1,2,34,46,13,0,3,7,1,2,2,2,2,2,2,1,7,10,16,0,0,6,0,2,6,5,1,0,1,21,4,31,10,33,19,5,38,0,0,0,3,40,13,0,1,19,140,41,3,0.0,0.0,0.1159774202897431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10535059673772852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13115049788703412,0.0,0.0988901326963475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12462132610017045,0.0,0.0,0.11786417927992845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07244796074703831,0.0,0.0,0.1338997464246764,0.12472247826808833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257242505641259,0.0,0.12460870249228435,0.0,0.0,0.09488957061260317,0.0,0.0,0.22993923532411345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13928766937775314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928132608403424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07849724964822473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11411165160862027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09182081202130847,0.0,0.0620925945433812,0.0,0.1350868522699089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13713335380323016,0.0,0.0,0.1283750348971103,0.0,0.11793719946065168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09687607723193732,0.0,0.12584169585265373,0.0,0.0,0.08394507277947813,0.11612517405053414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32179187361959244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294591038335856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5052617405912875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11382246783391367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264082961443891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12219439633556554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945118167015006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10069858380726728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12667497113354978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09435115494285183,0.207901731040186,0.0,0.0,0.1135632959963102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11609614192070665,0.0,0.1429581748463977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14019794929691926,0.0,0.09533180602933213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08652195102133707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15306700058944706
divorce,flapjackdavis,2020/01/16,"Mediation tomorrow Four months ago, my wife needed “space.”  Then she decided to divorce me.  Tomorrow, we have our first mediation session.  We have two kids and have already agreed on 50/50 custody.  I am nervous about what mediation will be like.  Any advice or words of wisdom from people who have gone through it?",4.476787878787878,7.591181800000001,4.9340909090909095,76.0144696969697,76.45454545454545,8.03030303030303,30.984848484848484,8.841846274778883,3.2202121212121195,249,12,40,6,6,79,48,55,0.035,0.8320000000000001,0.133,0.7096,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,3,0,0,1,1,3,0,1,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,7,9,3,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,1,0,7,2,6,6,0,9,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,1,7,29,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3692140475580201,0.3349261690023748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4169481254046618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25693940537612825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3213845679543374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845901251338179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3015827063450738,0.0,0.0,0.2801583917329508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619418376929807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3690879525462919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,vickie1987,2020/01/16,"How does marrying “ a man who treat you like shit” feel? My husband is a meanie. He is not a bad person , he is just mean. Sometimes he gets moody and he would treat me like I don’t have feelings. Like I work, cook, clean , do laundry, do dish washing, take care of the dogs, all he does was working very hard.  And he call our house embarrassing. I got no appreciation even though he is the one who never helps. I m not sure that should be the reason to file a divorce though. But I do feel like I deserve to be treated with respect no matter what. I know there are worse men out there. But I do feel like this is mentally abusive and I am getting tired of it. Is my self-esteem too low so I am putting up with this? .........",0.2990222575516661,2.4925398243243255,1.837726550079492,97.39312400635932,86.56756756756756,4.563434022257551,20.192368839427658,5.900188976854957,-0.21261971383147893,546,17,127,4,17,176,96,148,0.17,0.62,0.21,0.7136,0,0,0,0,1,0,29.0,1,1,0,2,9,16,1,1,7,0,20,5,1,2,3,25,31,9,0,2,5,1,5,5,0,2,2,0,1,3,7,6,2,0,7,1,0,1,6,5,0,1,2,5,15,11,8,25,1,5,0,1,0,0,18,3,1,0,6,78,22,2,0.0,0.1725757801573129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12161472955607308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487286809818146,0.0,0.14850362273021064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549250143573687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09620287460204996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2945874855529974,0.312165030450209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15219606071148328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11649254471833527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13047707801931352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09762858400196077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16806477805033598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0800474472433282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3557951268161858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15865954524532655,0.0,0.0,0.14678464012140616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11233708870327516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09869869557892558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271791655411521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14642216703658906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14975623019181114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519485425255377,0.0,0.14951139800473298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440552028759077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13727685917800225,0.0,0.10951343217418898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28620798029891104,0.0,0.0,0.1674074658560374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12017953091130988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120752113413351,0.0,0.14843353212866225,0.10346818736365844,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,chinman25,2020/01/16,"Leaving together during divorce I (m) told my wife I wanted a divorce last night. To sum up my 10 yrs with her is impossible. Married for 5. We are financially unable to just split.  I work days her nights. She a has a season type job that pays fantastic. I told her I would stay to make sure she and her two kids are ok before I leave to live somewhere else. After ten years of being a non equal as in her choices were always the right ones because of her children were not mine. Even if her choices are terrible and short sighted. We had split before. I left her. After a two year retry I just can’t do it anymore. I know I will be lonely and missing her kids. I’m terrified but we grew away from each other. I will not stay for the sake of fear. I’m not perfect just frustrated beyond belief. 

There is so much history I just cannot unpack these feelings and work past them anymore. I have work ten years solid and have no savings a 23 year old car she drives a 2013 ,debt in every bill and almost no 401k due to her lifestyle and control of my earnings when she needed it.  I make mid teens an hour and constantly scratch for gas. There is more but I will not drone. 

I only wish to be not scolded like a 8 yr old when I do something she doesn’t like. I don’t say much because my temper is uncontrollable when I do. I am a beta male because of my lack of control in that regard. She sees it as shutting down.  So I capitulate %99 of the time. 

After ten years of handing over my paycheck and seeing to her needs and raising her kids whom I do love. She says they are mine but I get no say even in bedtimes. I’m ready to grow old alone.  I’m sure I sound like an ass. 

If this love was such a nightmare I feel the world doesn’t stand a chance.",1.4377394263490544,3.311348013774108,3.006881380651436,92.52069640252796,79.8815426997245,5.48270944741533,22.246718522119593,6.37848985222837,0.32167613028682585,1351,42,297,11,34,444,193,363,0.152,0.765,0.084,-0.9704,2,3,1,0,2,0,34.0,3,0,2,7,15,17,2,2,17,1,32,4,2,4,3,48,53,22,0,8,14,1,4,3,0,4,0,4,0,5,9,15,0,2,4,0,3,4,13,7,0,6,6,11,57,10,35,40,6,46,1,2,3,3,40,15,1,3,27,199,66,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09761784583561947,0.10096578408492396,0.0,0.0,0.08111591104033382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933592365715524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09159102330649432,0.0,0.0,0.17827913196522824,0.0,0.16590629949014254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10534740826243363,0.2186770017619342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06287021110759776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0814367924788551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287767696485546,0.0,0.08213590598773395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096985140880852,0.0985833971316614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050932254188697804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960037765823894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09673951403393828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05357559073598227,0.0794638559825957,0.0,0.20644655897656872,0.1059184972756814,0.0,0.0,0.14287976511393116,0.0,0.08608165829702727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17596929900768074,0.0,0.13014492223226182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14332641132519258,0.14456882124285494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829674494241696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3068845269336388,0.0,0.0660588326375711,0.0741422670143516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09306113049629618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0832522543504707,0.0,0.2325736220627728,0.0,0.0,0.15536696128090302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750492538621733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078135686410177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18375823534971547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05684469508523578,0.0,0.0,0.1863035262328864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19045872552487406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05749959107712961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11210374286118184,0.0,0.0,0.21291224990970567,0.0,0.0,0.06925104361590154,0.0,0.0,0.3138879700250139
divorce,relevantzero,2020/01/16,"Ex’s parenting rights terminated (CA) I filed an ex-parte request. Today my ex came to court and called me a sociopath in response to my request. The judge looked at the long, almost 8 year, history of our case, our declarations, and at mom’s repeated pattern of substance abuse, domestic violence, general neglect, and lying ..and he elected to terminate her parental rights pending a custody investigation. Our children no longer wish to live with their mother and they’ll be afforded the opportunity to speak for themselves in the investigation. Happy and sad. Thanks to this community for being here and for letting me contribute, good or bad",8.479910714285714,9.70179788392857,8.560714285714287,62.18428571428571,61.23214285714285,11.757142857142858,41.89285714285714,11.491704259439757,5.4727000000000015,521,29,78,15,7,170,82,112,0.18,0.705,0.115,-0.8591,3,0,0,0,2,0,18.0,3,0,2,1,1,7,0,0,7,0,4,0,0,0,0,14,8,8,0,1,1,6,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,9,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,2,11,4,16,3,0,11,0,2,1,0,18,6,0,2,4,48,12,0,0.0,0.2394636272754867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20238086568030705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16875081916522655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20637374140994044,0.231156451263787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16951767849768462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151465527995564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066679980147124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17846409512749126,0.17885824622343405,0.16971889375075716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23670515815356966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4488315885603277,0.2188620771062617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34519637595070785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860728792444553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19157370909273488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324129602742175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13015021701517035
divorce,ElMazapan,2020/01/17,"This might just be a rant [M25] Don't even know where to start I guess I just needed to talk to someone but didn't want to actually talk to any family or friends.
My wife and I have been together for nearly 7 years. Or we had. It would be 7 years this April and we got married last May. Sure we had ups and downs but we were happy. There were times she said she wasn't happy and didnt know why but never indicated it had to do with our relationship. She self diagnosed herself with depression and would have breakdowns maybe every 6 months or so and would always refuse treatment, therapy, medication, etc. We lived far from family at the time so I was her main person to talk to other than a couple friends. Some of those breakdowns caused her to start slamming her head into the wall. Am I such a bad guy for physically stopping her when she refused to? The first time it happened I held her close to stop her and she pushed me away, and started hitting her head against the wall again so i grabbed her again and held her close to me to stop her from hurting herself. Afterwards when she calmed down she said she didnt like me doing that but I plead my case that i couldn't just let her hurt herself. She promised not to do it again and i did the same since she didnt like the feeling of being forcibly held and i can understand that.

Of course she had another breakdown and resorted to hitting her head again and I kept my word but tried to talk to her and even asked if she just wanted alone time, and eventually she stopped. Afterwards... she was upset that I was just going to let her hit herself. I had no idea what to do at this point. So next time it happened of course I tried to hold her again but this never helped.

Over time these breakdowns got less frequent and we talked more about her feelings to prevent her from feeling that way. Everything seemed great and we got engaged and married and I had never been so happy or seen her so happy. But one time after being married she started having her breakdown. I can just see the signs happening. She starts getting restless, walking back and forth... so I'm trying to talk to her and nothing is helping. Now she has a habit of driving very recklessly when she is upset and has told me she contemplated suicide multiple times so I'm never OK with her driving when she's in these holes of depression. She starts getting up to leave and I offer to instead let her have the place to herself to be alone or to drive her where ever... anything. But she's just too far angry and upset at this point to talk. I'm trying to convince her not to drive off upset because I'm worried and she says some mean things and shoves at me a couple times. I ended up pushing her to the bed and trying to calm her down while I held her. This was a huge mistake of mine. I apologized over and over for it because i know she hates when I forcibly hold her. 

She seemed to forgive me and move on and still denies my requests for her to seek therapy, even offering to go together. Life moved on and she seems happy to me and everyone else. She and I were looking to buy a house together. About 6 months later and its Thanksgiving week, something minor happens with her sister and her and now my wife is upset and doesnt want to go celebrate Thanksgiving. I convince her to come and she even thanks me for getting her to come since she had a great time after all. That whole night seemed great and yet the next day it seems like all the feelings of anger towards her sister are now towards me. Before I know it she wants me out and says she can't forgive me for what happened all those times I forcibly held her (about 6 times total) and calls it abuse. I get that it can be considered as abuse but when I see her purposefully hurting herself is it really the same? One of these times she had even grabbed a knife... was I supposed to do leave and do nothing? 

She's already filed for divorce less than a month after forcing me to leave. She's telling all her family and friends that I abused her. All of this right before the holidays and it's like they've all disconnected from me. Friends and family that we've shared for nearly 7 years and its just... gone. I've gone to therapy a few times since and she's finally done the same... but wants nothing to do with me. She wont talk to me at all. I'm trying to move on but this all feels so wrong. I know she has to have some sort of mental thing going on making her feel this way but I just can't understand. Anyone I talk to just doesnt believe it or continue to ask me ""are you sure you didnt hit her? You must have done something else more recently?"" It's to the point where I don't want to talk to any friends and family about it because I feel like they'll just judge me as someone who would beat their wife. I never once tried to hurt her. Im so hurt by her even making these claims and spreading these rumors but I can't stop dreaming about every goddamned fucking night. Honestly I just wish I had never married because it's made it so much harder time move on. I don't get how she can throw away our marriage so easily and so quickly. She refuses to go to any sort of counseling or therapy with me. What the fuck am I supposed to do",3.5886858974358984,4.968202098765435,4.1336883903133925,88.86993429487181,72.64672364672364,7.164335232668568,26.267913105413108,7.645422480735847,1.2643739886039884,4122,138,863,50,80,1302,348,1053,0.14800000000000002,0.7440000000000001,0.10800000000000001,-0.9896,0,2,2,0,4,1,86.0,9,3,2,2,65,52,4,6,27,1,84,8,3,5,19,195,172,94,1,16,35,5,9,5,5,9,3,4,1,3,51,69,0,17,23,2,1,21,25,20,0,3,44,17,167,32,130,105,24,145,0,7,4,2,150,44,2,21,83,624,218,0,0.0,0.13403478983414516,0.03679793863786559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07810901727825502,0.04161213416814905,0.0,0.03137639228187252,0.0,0.0,0.07692897287320201,0.03954052348592438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026366575527182863,0.0,0.0310307831513078,0.0,0.07050448866230595,0.0,0.07085652715738439,0.028995416035214938,0.031484921584256496,0.09194671194954256,0.0,0.06417410675752817,0.04248443050596775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03850447125225295,0.0,0.0,0.03873689272925364,0.0,0.06496485957210478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08344720880555824,0.0,0.024318785072576662,0.0,0.06495634356731568,0.03827321117212725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07717752806164067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06300102444077753,0.0,0.033398431565553485,0.0,0.04205481061103245,0.14943617310577728,0.03410938786685225,0.06354187171532104,0.03603197231966339,0.03388985980940875,0.0,0.17774051993215256,0.0,0.13346542687175209,0.026938873662613477,0.0,0.04130768628497368,0.0,0.03207472811709871,0.0,0.0,0.14566700130067986,0.06972157796288947,0.09850535898129824,0.0,0.107152704556452,0.0,0.09047650680955174,0.12472086369879963,0.041540031011687316,0.03733722394924572,0.16672697613471152,0.20070635442026305,0.0,0.03722921770834366,0.11609902789972155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050550263490352604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04351040681754375,0.2018379993913586,0.04256817028078954,0.04073152036815479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10361769535137044,0.03073736194986937,0.0,0.11978318686091086,0.0,0.11567811777726775,0.026634543425549752,0.09211204686109342,0.0,0.03329718971730012,0.0,0.03166554146251202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03568058018611898,0.05034127190438364,0.0,0.0378831352959218,0.04107547958111171,0.0,0.03798722496028509,0.03800117716715342,0.04000263136649583,0.0,0.0,0.09029540564820868,0.1603121580036012,0.02771999752216401,0.02796028540435324,0.1744981603003365,0.0,0.0802065782251731,0.07077351895970016,0.0,0.10854662064041694,0.0,0.0,0.040158193220843984,0.05110434734532853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03292550227123694,0.03939723048503292,0.0,0.10693982041760487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024156953318541848,0.0,0.03723247532544293,0.04048468733537563,0.0,0.032202749834760985,0.07173860757591237,0.05997443334825745,0.0,0.0,0.06009739226584234,0.17164146115613976,0.03933806343788983,0.0,0.0,0.09357828292166058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06390037472125938,0.05805950520534758,0.0,0.0,0.16014110945466278,0.0,0.03011396036992028,0.15762946756499766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04124684656952237,0.0,0.07107940234426294,0.0,0.0,0.30308566864043496,0.032958785518712126,0.03471680932246241,0.1724912719091349,0.0,0.0501035432246575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3298208876525333,0.0,0.0,0.03603197231966339,0.0,0.17921059982036205,0.0,0.0,0.07851150528979982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031113362012869492,0.13344827439239604,0.059862312518193336,0.03024738729090797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034025947099725916,0.04210005877614476,0.04336277515923628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03829468952518051,0.0,0.10714780281965497,0.04122819313696819,0.0,0.0728488797358266
divorce,randomnessthinking,2020/01/17,"Do I stay out of it or give him the info? Back ground info. So I'm a 29 year old female, was with my ex husband for just under 11 years, married just under 4 years, officially divorced in December of 2018, we have two kids together 10 year old girl and 6 year old son. He cheated on me with now an ex friend he stayed they are now in a relationship.

I will use fake names for privacy. MY ex will be Alex his current S/O will be Mary and her ex will be Dave. 

Alex and Mary are now expecting a baby due date is beginning of April. I had a female friend (Brittany) vist in the month of December and she decided to tell me a little story. 

Brittany used to live across the street from Mary and Dave and their son, who moved to the town I was in and lived across the street from us (myself two kids and Alex). That's how we met them, we were friends for about 2 years before this happened. Anyway Alex decided to step out and be with Mary behind mine and Dave's back. So there was a break up and a divorce. Alex and Mary move in together and moved next door to Brittany. Brittany sees Dave hanging out at the house with Mary while Alex is at work, and just before Alex is to come home from work Dave would leave, and show up just after Alex got home as if he wasn't around. This happened multiple times and over a few months.

 So we are all adults, I know it's jumping to conclusions but from the sounds of it Dave and Mary were still having ""fun"". So my question is what are the chances this baby is Alex's and should I tell him the info I learned or keep my mouth shut? 

Oh and I guess Alex and Mary are engaged now? Haven't heard it from the horses mouth, I guess my kids told some of my family members and they told me.  

We are co-parenting pretty well but only talk if its about the kids and keep our personal life separate.",3.0219452887537983,4.139156574468089,3.7694832826747735,91.955,73.68085106382979,7.179939209726447,23.003039513677805,7.5804360353943165,0.6952571428571432,1416,36,321,17,28,450,184,376,0.015,0.9309999999999999,0.054000000000000006,0.9348,2,0,0,0,2,0,38.0,7,0,4,3,22,8,1,0,20,0,32,3,2,3,1,68,51,35,0,5,10,7,0,0,3,6,1,2,3,7,11,36,0,2,9,1,0,7,2,2,1,2,12,3,36,6,49,29,3,62,0,0,1,0,50,25,0,8,27,201,47,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865381610755781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14949810441767752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16543834551806966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08373843772404319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09164162630326697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22531431048491496,0.0,0.0,0.09325339177438964,0.0,0.0,0.07774830250141186,0.0,0.214177161181497,0.0,0.17192625797925346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19502057992624897,0.0,0.0,0.11216813260697477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728107297778391,0.0,0.0,0.053424475856269416,0.0,0.0,0.10293212873755707,0.0,0.0,0.06866281465515252,0.0,0.09743069132839073,0.17167771412993454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15518535718011334,0.3099588704065123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10338471598345754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.306018930908728,0.0,0.0,0.07393314193317936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08488066131852916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09889826201707827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108898267213291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10436794573373924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07746436724064773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.207227411363114,0.07763261589943198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07813430385492565,0.16993292846607494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05668435939612595,0.0,0.0,0.18577804000734946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18992151917768155,0.0,0.11693254098073486,0.16791772088081305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08740412232838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415411408883214,0.0,0.0,0.0690557146800513,0.0,0.0,0.3756031441739134
divorce,rajface,2020/01/17,"[CA] What Happens If a Mother Doesn't Exercise Child Visitation Rights? Hey everyone, first-time poster.

What are the repercussions to a mother who chooses to ignore court-ordered supervised visitation? 

I am the father of our infant son with custody until our hearing next month (due to DV incident) and I am completely lost as to how my ex-wife is not attending any of the supervised visitations she has been granted. 

She has not seen our child since Dec 12th and he is only 4 months old as of today - 3 mos when it happened. 

It hurts to think about what she will be like as time goes on and I am fearful for our baby. She has been a very vindictive person throughout this process, which only adds to that fear.

I am hoping the court sees this and will take the appropriate matters, but I've already been told to be prepared for a possible 50 / 50 custody at some point, as that is what typically happens.

In our last hearing, her attorney claimed that I was blocking visitation, but the judge ignored it because it clearly was not true (as I would be in contempt of court and lose my position). She has already missed 4 visitations but could claim ignorance on 2 as she dodged service during that time (even though her attorney knew about it and they still showed up to the hearing...)

Any help would be great.",7.905440900562851,7.445743552845531,7.667235772357722,73.79636960600378,62.65853658536585,10.983864915572234,37.62226391494684,10.389873798559362,3.853735209505942,1038,46,189,21,13,331,145,246,0.131,0.7879999999999999,0.081,-0.9186,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,5,0,1,2,7,14,1,2,11,0,27,1,0,1,2,31,42,20,0,5,7,4,0,1,0,4,1,3,0,4,17,8,0,4,3,2,0,6,4,10,0,0,9,5,22,4,30,24,1,26,0,4,2,0,35,8,0,3,13,126,39,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800678213781695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725885190635036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07735518681443038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13304901008395162,0.0,0.0,0.10131686780126617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08381422124715407,0.0,0.0,0.12125544855196148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855886369988942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10793845839237004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13990430625907407,0.0,0.0,0.3366435913788827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42906616646811535,0.0,0.08505633301951605,0.0,0.0,0.1260372777027968,0.0,0.0,0.1358457812628468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034379294441638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061995427061793014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14196519853707726,0.13852298225699924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025758275071326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13495631786722864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331569749623855,0.0,0.0,0.19302165719067435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11080149904863046,0.0,0.0,0.11995860951642025,0.1430572147505516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10836927940493672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10112041871242716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10497044652198226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10134004710971614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09541069403332658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08131042477234164,0.1246755831502091,0.0,0.14798923326321958,0.0,0.12028344590891747,0.12125544855196148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10470325169436337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18028786735557414,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,xjrqh,2020/01/17,"Waiting and Feeling Sad There's no real point to this; I'm just venting.

About a week ago, I retained an attorney.  In a couple days, the paperwork will be ready for the process server.

I've been married to my wife for seven years now.  This was my first relationship **ever.**  I had never dated or had any type of romantic involvement with anyone before.  I had no idea what I was getting into.  I knew something was wrong even before I got married, but she told me that this was true love so I just went along with it, thinking this was The Right Thing To Do.  She is 18 years older than me and this is her second marriage.

I've been miserable ever since.  If we were not married, I would certainly not want to hang out with her.  We bring out the worst in each other.  I know that I am going to be much happier when I am out of this relationship, but waiting for the papers to serve is painful.  I feel so guilty because the marriage has not been 100% bad.  We have had some great times together.  But those good times can't make up for the almost nonstop bad times.

I alternate between feeling sorry for her and then reminding myself of the hell she has put me through.  But I still feel guilty about causing her pain, even though I've been living with constant dread and fear for the last seven years.",2.4176470588235257,4.702595078431377,3.2883921568627485,89.65376470588238,78.6078431372549,5.962352941176473,23.53333333333333,7.087006719466742,0.8800086274509806,1015,34,202,12,25,322,149,255,0.18100000000000002,0.6890000000000001,0.13,-0.9439,0,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,3,0,0,1,15,16,1,3,12,0,28,3,0,2,5,51,47,15,0,3,11,1,4,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,13,17,0,3,8,0,0,5,7,11,0,4,18,4,30,5,32,25,4,35,1,2,0,1,18,9,1,4,21,153,43,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11290766103449315,0.0,0.12754473621795798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08661738010805127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08906151775937192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21270072785430816,0.07764483589049709,0.0,0.2167685121939721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13084620929223567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764396543541446,0.0,0.0,0.1409347805016283,0.0,0.0821444524107696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682561111160316,0.2304306716003437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14332899812629826,0.25761259685654603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10834262359489764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06654665312347109,0.0,0.07238848662755276,0.1068336550275546,0.10187108560631222,0.14042816451234036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14378757110637852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07000036243013216,0.10382524284779668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11247187752111357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11495827239512853,0.0,0.08502185043179687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09363313218528277,0.0,0.09823719799172716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710657405711228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12040778302169572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12804411774943728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14497730887793808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734998859738096,0.0,0.10877505777541567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10536349828879317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09805724768116847,0.0,0.1425826120522103,0.0,0.0,0.10171950519420506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08462034821529718,0.08161488385750161,0.12514241891074016,0.0,0.2228150471250554,0.0,0.0,0.12170947794659515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751273510882674,0.0,0.10217019717280018,0.0,0.0,0.11807519142900033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09048146898961336,0.13926137095313668,0.0,0.24607032451574054
divorce,kittenmittens42069,2020/01/17,"Even though I know it’s for the best, I still miss him. Even though I was miserable, even though he didn’t want to go to counseling until I checked out, and even though I couldn’t rely on him and I was the one who left I still wish I was in his arms and not alone in a new city trying to start over. This is totally selfish of me especially since I was the one who left. I wish I would have given him longer and I wish I would have tried harder myself.",2.439489795918369,3.145285193877552,3.596530612244898,94.2127551020408,74.61224489795919,7.2326530612244895,20.12244897959184,7.447530270364453,0.14671836734693855,351,6,87,4,7,114,58,98,0.086,0.754,0.161,0.7308,0,1,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,10,4,0,1,4,0,11,1,1,0,1,15,20,9,0,7,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,1,0,1,1,3,3,0,2,6,0,19,1,11,11,2,13,0,2,0,0,7,7,0,0,5,68,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14285403776451722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14474918273123527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.364406252698315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07838888280336341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580280321318414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2997230229412029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332137982937685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869300784976836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11409724534797633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09762767003879512,0.0,0.22030239180189426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5420626879628445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18729103565113805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813547760721355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4758385960564115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959632421933601,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,WELLICEMORGAN,2020/01/17,"My fiancee that left me few months ago just came back to me last night crying to take him back. Guess what? I am the most happiest woman on earth right now, My fiancee that left me few months ago just came back to me last night crying to take him back. Guess what?? My highest surprise is that he just proposed to me right now and a car as a sign of apology. He left me because his ex wife took him back even after they have divorced. All thanks to((l o v e s o l u t i o n t e m p l e . c o m))for your powerful love spell that returned my lover to me. I am grateful. to get your lover back that is where you should go. IT WORKS. WhatsApp +1 561 412 4280 or email at(( s a n g o p r i e s t e s s l o v e s o l u t i o n @ g m a i l . c o m)",-4.939974358974356,-4.506496655555552,-0.6133333333333315,107.6803846153846,123.88888888888887,2.5128205128205128,11.837606837606838,4.713530739802397,-1.7870854700854701,542,13,162,3,39,201,90,180,0.042,0.763,0.195,0.9707,1,0,0,0,1,0,23.0,0,3,1,2,13,5,0,0,5,0,6,3,0,0,1,13,17,3,0,1,4,2,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,1,8,3,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,0,25,5,12,13,4,31,0,0,0,3,21,8,0,4,18,75,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138890029497814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5566112871604689,0.0,0.07354406415231772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759714493608998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2650457058424039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07968487593552508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06303202615221938,0.0,0.06856532624956588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658081091395024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19668353298851807,0.0,0.0,0.3932433934035084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10888681086003417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925953548484507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264342947473222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060603190272523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814200312032638,0.0,0.0,0.11107369465810073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13404101941280205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08783098724772644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,lasercloak,2020/01/17,"Divorcing an abuser My soon to be ex is in my rear view window.  I got confirmation today of what I needed to achieve to shut it down.  The chickens came home to roost after years and years of abuse and severe character issues. I have broken free of the chains.  You may find yourself in places you don't want to be, but it will all work out for you, one way or the other.  The could haves, should haves, would haves are no longer options.
#courage #survivor #strength #free
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divorce,ifyouneedmetopretend,2020/01/17,"I’m sitting in my vehicle and crying in the parking lot of a grocery store. On Tuesday, my marriage ended. I lost my husband/best friend, my home, and two of the dogs we shared together.

Today, I had to take my dog (one of our three dogs was mine before we got together) to the vet for surgery. I also found out this morning my school doesn’t want to give me financial aid for my final semester of college, meaning I would have to come up with $4K to graduate. I find this out as I’m moving my whole life into a storage unit.

Now, I’m driving home with my dog and her ear is bleeding everywhere and her cone came off, and I’ve pulled over to fix it, but I can’t stop crying to drive again.

My life is a dumpster fire at the moment. I have never felt so broken and depressed.

If you read this, thank you. I needed to do something while sitting here in the parking lot before getting back on the road.",3.368136569313041,4.121020647058828,4.722673796791443,86.82392019744961,72.475935828877,7.251172357054711,28.28835870012341,7.321109707123232,1.4697333607568908,699,26,148,7,13,233,119,187,0.13699999999999998,0.8170000000000001,0.046,-0.9597,0,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,3,2,0,1,6,5,0,0,9,0,10,4,1,0,1,28,26,12,0,4,2,0,2,0,1,1,3,1,2,0,4,15,0,1,4,1,1,6,3,2,0,3,7,3,27,3,29,18,3,32,0,2,0,0,11,13,0,3,11,101,31,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220599798163014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11736480251164165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25975765813502905,0.0,0.16017816204284793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745706675388841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314791949288906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3353187868120004,0.0,0.0,0.13146195980422382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351868971332974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14655092551203158,0.16720120301639416,0.13950313949007725,0.0,0.0,0.1673534177442135,0.11792332153023102,0.0,0.07974406705623759,0.1464187917535606,0.0,0.0,0.1220739781850317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3062052450484926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21561738761264285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16661616472228674,0.2595250139190635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662612994844862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16222395931012784,0.0,0.11317490222128927,0.1177194244394866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034275836288472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15267358526919247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15447201682457865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11750378670327527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12760742117521426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11476047984464476,0.0,0.0,0.14052329737281924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14467755538025048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14909956000996524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09002647378561071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704084907072832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10842559305074567,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,LauraMart,2020/01/17,"About Therapy Results Hi everyone,
I(42F) read many times here that therapy is part of the healing process. I personally try it in different stages after divorce but to be honnest I was not able to resonate with the basic ways of the therapy followed. 
How long it took for you to actually see any improvements with therapy, if any? 
Personally, this tribe on reddit helped me more than therapy. Thank you and take care of yourself.",4.4857467532467545,7.4699798311688355,5.174139610389614,75.10978084415588,75.36363636363637,9.564285714285717,34.300324675324674,9.827888789773867,4.278325974025973,345,19,57,11,8,111,61,77,0.0,0.8690000000000001,0.131,0.8978,2,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,0,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,0,3,1,0,2,0,8,9,4,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,1,5,2,14,6,2,9,0,0,1,0,7,2,0,1,3,37,9,1,0.13902630526882126,0.0,0.13566961915673229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890853099958914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14174658383909833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14525289876521325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328455925257828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09318640187295016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12303390526021594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14095085250112632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15055194059158702,0.0,0.0,0.24278481453231426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13906392776146792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11078596550282882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104530479524983,0.0,0.0,0.1279967431183413,0.7949434816877176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810673566221807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15446334059483602,0.09438973535117384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11035260998054174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Jammingrasshopper,2020/01/17,"He wrote me.. now what do I do? I received an email from my ex-husband today. It stated how it's been 1 year since the day he knew it was over. He shared some good memories he had of me and that he hopes that this is how things are supposed to be. That he hopes I am happy and that atleast one of us lives without regret. 

So here I am. Feeling sad, guilty, worried, heartbroken.

I left him a year ago after years of emotional abuse and honestly I was fed up of trying to get him to mirror some sort of tender love, kindness, respect or admiration but he was never responsive to it and his interests were on other women. I don't know if he ever cheated, but I felt heart broken in the relationshi and broken as a person from years if trying.

I am currently in a relationship. I don't know how to handle that email. This is the first time he's said anything remotely this ""nice"". Do I reply? Do I just delete it?",2.6224193548387085,4.0996570483870975,4.40836559139785,85.5425483870968,75.29032258064517,7.325591397849463,24.227956989247307,8.021203637495839,1.292366021505376,705,22,147,11,15,239,113,186,0.134,0.7240000000000001,0.142,-0.7471,1,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,1,0,0,1,8,16,1,0,7,0,19,4,1,3,2,29,31,15,0,5,7,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,16,5,1,0,5,0,0,1,4,3,0,2,11,3,19,13,20,19,2,22,0,2,0,1,23,6,0,8,14,104,35,0,0.0,0.192410969423863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14395295725101104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13363686567150773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047310407278982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826719945476624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14689515447526755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08211155647640941,0.0,0.15592422078778026,0.0,0.0,0.13813270879868855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08484444212651204,0.0,0.0,0.13620883148445131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17287200258075533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924383062739976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32258883141378164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16910891860949834,0.1784955792748493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17644213780406084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14339734990871505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14656740844795682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12524867695773084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11004273994821676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417966444073704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17435095649406984,0.0,0.0,0.15447439108025166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13433443776990475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788771335437508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946935594974855,0.0,0.15393103120522048,0.0,0.0,0.22051045927363447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19534063089911416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565425370027267,0.0,0.0,0.16491953345344296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4183070257731553
divorce,VolumeXIII,2020/01/17,It’s done. Got done with mediation and I think I did alright. Got more then what I could have if it went to court. Didn’t lose any property or money. Got to add a few more days a month with my daughter then I already had. All in all. It’s a good fucking day tater.,-1.3200000000000005,0.697670362068969,1.0719827586206918,100.29004310344831,95.3793103448276,4.279310344827587,17.594827586206893,5.985473137389443,-0.5291793103448272,203,6,51,2,8,68,41,58,0.051,0.856,0.09300000000000001,0.29600000000000004,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,3,1,7,1,0,0,2,10,13,5,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,2,0,0,9,0,5,2,5,3,5,7,0,1,0,1,1,1,1,2,5,34,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555708619955624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15749255437681392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18490977729066851,0.0,0.0,0.2987192552330314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.47400422419328103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141058628195212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19425091364702865,0.5556830789362286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590955860973472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18485693429790698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483967365192813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146909024896264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwawaywife123456,2020/01/17,"My STBX just quit his job so he won’t have to pay child support. Now what? I guess like the title says, he doesn’t want to pay child support so he quit his job. I don’t qualify for assistance because I make just enough, but I really counted on that money for help with the groceries and all the school incidentals like snack days and supply requests from the teachers. Will he be in trouble? Can they ask him to keep paying? We’re in our 6 month waiting period.",2.1715053763440864,4.349521204301077,3.2851612903225837,89.91440860215056,78.89247311827957,6.2838709677419375,23.23655913978495,7.3871296695380915,0.9295075268817206,364,12,75,5,9,117,68,93,0.063,0.79,0.147,0.79,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,1,2,5,5,0,0,4,0,7,1,0,1,1,12,15,5,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,2,2,3,1,2,0,0,4,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,10,4,10,12,2,7,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,1,6,43,12,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938840175824318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264245600138847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13375102329096505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21429192075977968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284662510388691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13901083975380935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4116101653473297,0.184340007841344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20264302658753197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13843612275213502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16553873706927866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44117496358412095,0.0,0.0,0.1328609639134702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16492686225248365,0.0,0.20989231031688613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4706931657248862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122325486265923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,UrbanChiTown,2020/01/17,"Custody for my children My soon to be ex wants to move my kids out of state. Some basic facts:

* We have 3 kids, the youngest is on the Autism Spectrum and requires a lot of extra care.
* During the marriage, he was the primary caregiver and I the breadwinner
* He had accused me of alcohol and weed abuse-but he did the same until about 3 months ago.  I also stopped about 6 weeks ago.  All I'm really guilty of is a few extra weeks.
* He will also likely accuse me of not taking on the lion's share of childcare.
* I am willing to take this to court, and have the resources to do so.  
* I am also fully prepared to take full custody of the kids and would allow visitation.

Happy to provide more details, but can anyone tell me how likely it will be that he can take them away?",1.0166523297491068,3.4101637870967743,2.841881720430109,90.02504480286741,85.32258064516128,4.992831541218639,21.514336917562726,6.42735559955562,0.47684229390681,597,20,119,6,18,198,97,155,0.043,0.8959999999999999,0.061,0.3818,0,0,1,0,1,0,21.0,1,0,1,1,8,5,0,0,11,0,18,1,0,2,2,20,25,12,0,2,2,1,0,2,0,4,1,0,0,4,3,7,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,12,5,22,16,9,16,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,2,10,88,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31651439710318674,0.1907956323902809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4283141754240444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12483321477224905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16773600469151506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18202452785593407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900498562786004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744427207403967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15178090108642894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14250195611750127,0.1897504857052296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11437170286857233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14926013549761155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5369331850335886,0.0,0.15604419872607858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10530236840349556,0.0,0.28641403128688697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12682349162077267,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Cockwombles,2020/01/17,"Should I [m] be honest about things like cheating or sexual confusion or does it not matter if they [f] can't prove it? My ex-wife and I are mid divorce and I pay her rent still but no kids or anything. She looks set to get more money off me than she deserves tbh but such is life. 

I did cheat on her with a man technically. 

She might hear rumours since she's friends with my brother's wife that I'm bisexual and I feel a bit like guilty or that legally she will use this to rince me further. 

Are there any pros and cons to just telling her about it?",2.4333237547892708,3.648942198275861,3.372873563218396,93.83726053639849,75.29310344827586,6.534865900383142,24.09578544061303,6.937597516519254,0.553642911877394,429,13,101,4,9,137,84,116,0.139,0.755,0.106,-0.4761,2,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,0,1,0,6,7,2,1,2,0,9,1,0,1,1,22,15,11,0,2,9,2,1,2,1,3,1,1,1,2,7,6,0,0,2,0,3,0,3,3,0,0,1,3,18,4,10,10,2,6,0,0,1,0,18,4,0,7,3,64,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19589591961149375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370551786142912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3144953281074536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25208999240756097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14565568856321026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.222560396514424,0.0,0.15050348780380288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3246732428882783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034707412399836,0.2814706624027205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24190432290129515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30559431508342894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382925847563084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23005124361401355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517838737730708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19137938495486329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487980088388629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Squidlyspooch,2020/01/17,"Does anyone feel “disconnected”/like they are living I️n an alternate reality long afterwards? I️ have been separated and divorced for almost 2 years, I️ have a great new life and partner.  I️ was in therapy throughout and I don’t harbor any feelings towards my ex or miss the relationship.  In fact I️ understand I️ am happier overall and better off.  Sometimes I feel like this is an alternate world or like I️ am disconnected still, it’s hard to explain.  I️ think it could be a result of deceit and emotional abuse.  Anyone else have similar types of feelings ?",5.867648514851488,8.053005009900993,6.7416707920792085,69.21468440594059,68.20792079207921,10.19851485148515,34.40717821782178,10.411451182825502,4.252929702970297,450,22,71,13,8,149,74,101,0.092,0.7509999999999999,0.157,0.7998,0,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,0,0,1,1,1,5,0,0,5,0,12,1,0,1,1,18,20,7,0,1,2,1,5,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,7,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,5,4,4,8,16,0,10,0,1,0,0,6,5,0,3,7,40,7,1,0.0,0.22983022666841105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19423927033037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319105531832002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27126551415706324,0.1987516687044655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715562967309606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548743120454802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16974998977201278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16204232959386522,0.218197257872415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3923210343688176,0.13857672581270916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138595838412159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.173764686961724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13701121537800134,0.18953406919357896,0.0,0.17128464937239732,0.17166294413370534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873435440693448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082579801498401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918475460435625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15490974424475545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22182883360126604,0.0,0.0,0.12429219706478932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20193619595883552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249143939640037
divorce,Spiritual-Pickle,2020/01/17,"Life will be so great without him I have something to do before having the big talk, but it dawned on me that soon I won't have to deal with so many things that drive me crazy. Soon I will be able to:

Change my appearance or get dolled up *just because* without being questioned why.

Turn my ringer on and not be questioned who it is every time my phone makes a noise. I can also turn app notifications on again-yay!

Smile or laugh at something on my phone without being questioned about it.

No more getting bitched at for looking at my phone even though he comes home from work and stares at his phone until bed time, ignoring myself and the kids. Admittedly, I look at my phone too but not half as much as him.

No more doing EVERY single thing there is to do as far as housework and raising kids without any offers for help... while he sits and stares at his phone bitching at me about looking at mine.

Laugh while talking to friends without worrying that he will tell me I never laugh with him (even though I do).

Give presents that don't immediately go into a closet for 2 years.

Not be pestered about why the house isn't spotlessly clean when he gets home from work (I work too and we have 2 small kids).

Not worry about getting bitched at for spending $5 for lunch every now and then.

Sit anywhere I want on the couch without being bitched at for it not being close enough to him. Even when I am sitting in there first and he comes in afterwards, I'm still the one getting bitched at about where I'm sitting.

No more working from home and doing everything for the kids at the same time while he sleeps all day on weekends.

No more dealing with someone who refuses to brush his teeth or go to the dentist.

No more dealing with someone who doesn't properly wash his body and then wonders why I don't want to have sex with him.

No more disrespect for the fact that I do in fact have a job even if I work from home. He guilts me if he wants to go out with colleagues while I'm busy with work.

I do feel guilt about ending this marriage and the pain that that will cause him and my kids, but I just can't live like this anymore. I think in the end, we will all be happier and I can be with someone who doesn't have emotional affairs. I have felt like a single parent for years. Now its time to actually be one... without him complaining in my ear about everything I do. ✌",4.711410951477369,5.322297441176474,4.726958525345623,88.52126728110598,69.33613445378151,7.570506912442397,28.59013282732448,7.359569317364363,1.37272819192193,1866,63,397,17,31,578,201,476,0.138,0.7759999999999999,0.086,-0.9838,2,0,2,0,1,0,44.0,2,0,0,7,30,17,5,2,15,0,44,10,4,2,5,72,73,39,0,5,22,1,2,2,1,6,4,1,8,5,20,28,1,2,8,1,1,7,26,10,0,4,1,9,47,7,77,55,13,70,0,0,5,1,55,31,5,10,30,282,67,7,0.0681145201894637,0.0,0.06646994606725366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054471157186415785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04632020947525878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06755130111038371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041521979291377915,0.0,0.05796043980976784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756598766110966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06997237524269727,0.07205613069738546,0.1173492557428479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04392823054854317,0.2106692382503768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0766196672493715,0.12065849485431775,0.0703805075146788,0.0,0.1799559927272047,0.0,0.17216826304436952,0.0,0.12243387739334788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03444074802012925,0.0,0.06540062116505825,0.0,0.0,0.057938176076839064,0.0,0.0,0.0526251093330068,0.0,0.17793512737924774,0.06534165442806439,0.11613315457021793,0.0,0.0,0.07509649897426397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045655727090533775,0.0,0.2732976698741653,0.0,0.0,0.0785950110681024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06759315104515867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048111299995496334,0.06655462793452127,0.0,0.06014636924315578,0.0,0.17159712563662605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0454669711443845,0.06905743247542961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05007200969639752,0.0,0.05253411709708715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09231232339603733,0.0,0.07247865191233986,0.0,0.0756331138604001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22891155405738414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06816371168133427,0.0,0.17313963574967975,0.10487577083243743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05439634381041837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10949574239224706,0.059535092914597236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09050452115527716,0.04364503419362822,0.133844340499679,0.0,0.15887249793975047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481780767785652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205271263823318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843882798053273,0.0,0.0,0.459619767532252,0.07386729157457378,0.2975290916276981,0.13834720321978433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08772703555949532
divorce,KCtheWekkly,2020/01/17,"It's been 2 years. January of 2018, she told me ""I think I need to work on myself"". As I grow older the ""firsts"" of life get fewer and farther between. I don't know if it's a blessing or a curse, but my first heartbreak was at 32. 

She found a ""friend"" that she was overly comfortable with. The breaking point for me was her lying about something related to him in January of 2018. The next 4 months showed me a new depth of emotion I didn't know I was capable of. She moved out in April. By November she was telling me she wanted to get back together. I was not ready yet, but by January of 2019, I was. It came out over the next few months that she had been sleeping with her ""friend"" from when she left to about when we decided to give it another shot. It was like having a fresh scab ripped off.

The worst part is that she still wants to give it another shot. I want to so badly. I want my family back together. I want to play with my kids in the living room while shes cooking in the kitchen. I want to talk to each other while brushing our teeth. I want to go on road trips and explore new cities together. I miss sharing the extraordinary and the mundane together. I really could have been good. But I know I can't. Trust is like a broken mirror, at some point, now matter how badly you want to, you just can't put it back together.

It's mostly OK now. But every now and then the emotions well up. I don't feel like there's any way to release them satisfactorily. I don't want to talk to friends or family about it. I don't think I need to talk to a therapist about it. Who I really want to talk with about it, is her. But I can't imagine that would go well. Probably just a lot of yelling and telling her she messed up what we had, that we could have been good together. I don't know which is worse, this emotional constipation or the occasional feeling of total emptiness.",2.416275906735752,3.9862154300518178,3.8490900259067367,88.95114799222799,76.04663212435233,7.622927461139897,23.97959844559585,8.376592526197632,1.2962282383419694,1460,46,324,27,32,482,181,386,0.126,0.7140000000000001,0.16,0.5026,1,0,1,0,1,0,49.0,4,2,1,3,22,22,0,0,19,1,34,6,2,1,1,61,64,22,0,16,12,0,2,3,3,1,2,1,2,1,21,16,2,0,12,3,0,8,10,6,2,2,18,4,55,16,56,43,8,56,1,2,0,0,38,22,0,7,27,229,76,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056301796104385876,0.17363048599397224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19098715952447975,0.13825669855136366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09469265974136963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322062826388356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793915398006244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06975632271804194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15609895942640667,0.0,0.08372483607819503,0.05914703845328272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14084665907569174,0.0,0.09077779484046647,0.1918960347461648,0.0,0.08651141585933743,0.15884438116356644,0.0941058667284882,0.13888498255071507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820025555082831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08995438461317834,0.0,0.05847885044885678,0.12134482337911795,0.0,0.07310736838001625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07038729410809581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13216850110159686,0.08799541410603877,0.0,0.12277930374432745,0.0,0.15992318681305662,0.1761017043958439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896563002434333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15653150535405094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892644084745634,0.0,0.0,0.0832294142457524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10607809849369436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285237567525461,0.0,0.0,0.06373777593613962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06611826441920766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.266182171121635,0.14472873505132594,0.0,0.0,0.09612857110086094,0.0,0.10610028944066546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07911186187774684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4883321104330046,0.06571689939156332,0.0,0.0,0.14888095176189692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060273987105971226,0.0,0.08437271612302742,0.05881347613981922,0.0,0.0,0.053315709545215965
divorce,Cheap-Effort,2020/01/17,"I have a sneaking suspicion that my ex looked forward to marriage as the moment he could stop putting in any effort and leave all of the hard parts in life to me. I've been talking to a friend who went through a similar situation with his ex-wife. Same scenario...basically, 'We're married now, time for you to take over everything I don't want to deal with.' Finances, the house, cleaning, etc. Suddenly it's not their problem anymore. How can someone even rationalise behaving like that? How can you completely forego being an equal partner and think that someone is going to put up with it for a lifetime in this day and age?

I just don't get it. I want to know where these people come from and what made them who they are.",4.76063829787234,5.995520985815606,4.972829787234044,84.52350000000003,69.63829787234043,8.193191489361702,31.83049645390071,8.548686976883017,2.3966334751773046,573,25,113,9,10,180,105,141,0.075,0.866,0.059000000000000004,0.3557,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,2,3,1,6,3,0,0,8,0,10,1,0,3,1,22,21,7,0,4,2,1,1,1,2,0,1,0,1,1,11,8,0,1,2,0,1,6,3,1,0,0,3,2,12,2,21,16,5,19,0,0,1,0,15,7,0,0,9,78,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12285804721337405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17917062628089514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15562645944217815,0.18942327857361446,0.0,0.0,0.1442458930105202,0.0,0.0,0.1165136488775075,0.18625715436509435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20148866082415454,0.11932719055716767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16236959266497736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395809354121536,0.0,0.0943897384235878,0.0,0.10267579204887428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16183989528958725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084625628840949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928847792055387,0.0,0.0,0.1912976070924844,0.0,0.0,0.12760867088696326,0.08826354321017756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15171266855924265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17094910700284993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956420350757887,0.0,0.12525000832523964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17287151591856464,0.0,0.3632354209797425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030744542624453,0.0,0.0,0.3061528691172037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510436017408385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135837211140263,0.14521127215190532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157625091150377,0.0,0.0,0.10534691592453926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131211919710357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674777905452244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,SireEddington,2020/01/17,"Living out of a suitcases So myself and my wife have just parted ways having just bought a house (great timing) which I will continue to pay the mortgage on (it’s my kids hoke, it’s important to me they have a awesome place to grow up). Anyway, I have been working away all this week (self imposed to give myself some time away) but now in my mid 30s I’m back on my mum and dads sofa (couch for our American friends) and their house is...tiny. 

So, this is the plan for the short term to be here whilst I get some money saved etc, so, I need to get more organised and and try and be more mobile / portable and wondered if anyone has any ideas around efficiently living out of a suitcase or similar. 

Thanks everyone. Stay strong 💪🏼",1.7282420091324229,3.9941707739726056,2.9964109589041112,90.91594063926942,80.98630136986301,6.359086757990867,20.69223744292237,7.554174236665415,0.7013174429223747,567,16,119,9,15,183,102,146,0.016,0.851,0.133,0.9593,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,2,3,10,5,0,0,7,0,10,0,0,0,1,22,18,13,0,2,5,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,5,10,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,14,5,19,13,8,23,0,0,0,0,10,12,0,5,8,81,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197420632045375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12312090108626444,0.0,0.0,0.15675065858021847,0.0,0.0,0.33087040303988385,0.13539648885940156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19637840993436487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16825426932438234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13604081758879807,0.0,0.18399156230356645,0.16891427312291146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941314564092991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4063508731714545,0.0,0.1987755852921082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31096795239167785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13056286092458333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19068006907861115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839686201425629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18369233473146127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18768039904772704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16211300713719545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20535011504995007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11954838434064935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13976600508376694,0.14124267199289614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909538405951088,0.1281900769249253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ThrowwwAwayyy52,2020/01/17,"Broke single dad, have divorce questions So I married when I was overseas and had a child some years back, but when I brought my family to the states the marriage suffered as my wife couldn't adjust to life here and I went back to school. She ended up leaving my son and I behind and moving in with a guy she met online across the country. She has visited our son 3 times in the 2 years since then, and has made little to any effort to keep up regular communication with him.


I want to divorce her, but have been holding off because I have no money. I have a decent job now, but student loans and debts accumulated when I returned to school. Now I am preparing for grad school so I will be going longer without steady income.


My wife and I are on good terms, no toxicity between us. To be honest life has improved immensely with her leaving as our marriage was stressful. I don't mind single parenting, though my son does go to counseling for abandonment issues (he is 5). 


Is there a way for me to file a divorce without needing a lawyer? Like, I know she has no problem with divorcing, and she wants nothing from me and frankly I want nothing from her child support-wise. I know there won't be any custody disputes, she has little interest in parenting. I just want a clean break but can't afford a divorce attorney.


I am located in Michigan, and am a veteran if there are veteran-specific resources available that I couldn't locate.


I have been searching around but am having trouble finding information on a case like mine. If this is a rehashed topic I apologize.",5.186932447397563,6.416212322259137,5.9162790697674446,78.17503875968995,68.63455149501661,8.524031007751939,33.602436323366554,8.841846274778883,2.9372476190476187,1243,58,224,21,21,406,164,301,0.11900000000000001,0.787,0.095,-0.8521,6,0,0,0,6,0,31.0,3,0,0,1,16,11,0,1,15,0,34,2,0,1,0,45,48,26,0,10,10,8,0,2,0,2,2,0,1,3,2,15,0,3,6,0,3,6,10,6,0,0,9,0,42,5,36,32,4,36,0,3,0,0,37,13,0,4,16,168,44,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16347255138344366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106998449013581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18484406306244147,0.0,0.0732693566171976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518288057971126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10645651338459992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11330853068356872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10985545308933063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13661843137059268,0.10081331332803532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190112976801044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254516678677295,0.11927434032115675,0.1068342557163029,0.0,0.0,0.1321113364309179,0.0,0.0,0.2545369116167409,0.0,0.0,0.1697936397467924,0.11744177064487706,0.2409326181395084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11373079465418652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12136202408012305,0.0,0.0,0.12774756623471428,0.0,0.08912258324297259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306594298273925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669231903719716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11500975479307092,0.0,0.0,0.13464517326538067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3649292795828546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09942600357149978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13768221518012394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363951174241254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180903329107552,0.0,0.07008628867693288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445789969263227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2835749533351964,0.09540467583512018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11142136124360236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317261173160121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548024338693545
divorce,stao916,2020/01/17,"Can you go to jail if you quit your job and move abroad to avoid paying child support? I know they determine child support based on your capability for income. But can they really put you in jail for making a lifestyle change? Like if you decide to move to China to teach English and your income is now only $10000/year, and you spend it all on daily expenses and they have no way to garnish it or seize the car or property you just bought with it. I don’t think you can go to jail for being indigent, regardless of reason",7.640857142857143,5.973690419047622,7.883809523809528,75.94285714285716,63.85714285714285,11.066666666666668,31.47619047619048,9.888512548439397,2.7001047619047616,414,11,83,7,5,136,69,105,0.040999999999999995,0.8809999999999999,0.077,0.594,3,1,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,10,3,1,2,4,0,1,2,0,7,0,0,2,1,19,15,9,0,3,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,5,0,1,4,0,4,6,2,1,0,0,1,0,15,3,15,13,1,11,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,4,2,55,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23837256680577434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561240140450585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22360835583570285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238371918345247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100863822412461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15041160983355806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4789868997949111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17137599449997878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265220267801633,0.0,0.2396695138947237,0.0,0.0,0.14435416904909762,0.23167998037844084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.51141071699252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14438436713669453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788589452273446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14510714384874066
divorce,TRIPLEOHSEVEN,2020/01/17,"I'm angry. A lot. I was in a marriage that lasted 11 years before I was forced to be the bad guy and give up on her/us. We would have had a kid, however I was not sure we could properly raise it and instead of being happy, I insisted she keep her previous word, and abort. I wanted children so bad and I think that she knew it and was careless with her pills because she told me that a baby would make us stronger and that she would be happier with one. I don't think I've ever forgiven her for that, and it happened within 3 years of our marriage.   


I have recently lost my latest GF to her ex which stung my pride a bit, and I've noticed a VERY ANNOYING pattern has emerged; when I'm alone I'm angry when I think about my failed marriage.   


After my divorce, I was a wreck. She had her problems and so did I, we were not a good match beyond our astoundingly compatible sex drives. Sex can indeed keep a unhappy couple together a long time. Because we broke up on friendly terms, she would visit me for a year afterwards however I noticed no change in the factors that lead to us breaking up, even if I asked her specifically to avoid them. I hate social media especially because of how it tore my love from me like a thief in the night as she ran from her miserable family life and obligations and fell deeper and deeper into the madness that is the notification icon. Eventually I broke it off by blocking her everywhere.   


I'm told that she lives with another, has basically rebooted her life, and sadly, is now encouraged to use her phone more, as he uses it the same if not more.   


Why am I angry? Its simple, I failed. She told me that ""I gave up on her"" and she is right, I had to. I never achieved my grand plans for business, and because of this I couldn't continue to watch us suffer together, it created resentment with that, hatred. No marriage can survive those poisons. I get angry when I think about what I had, what I lost, and what I never became. I tear up even writing this because it is something of a confession of my failure. I'm not suicidal, there is too much left to do, I don't see that choice as viable so I'm not afraid of myself. In fact, I feel rage and anger.   


At least 3x a day and especially at night I want to be violent and break things. I've caught myself driving and considering just smashing it into a wall or tree, never anybody else. I'm not looking to fuck up anyone else's day.   


I don't know what to do about my rage. It annoys me that it's here because I've heard tales of my father's adolescent rage and I'm afraid that I might be heading down that road. I've spent so much time working on myself, honing my inner peace and serenity, becoming what I thought would be good enough for my ex wife and our future and I thought that I was succeeding. The realization of my failure in this too is just lemon juice on my cuts that JUST WONT HEAL.  


I can maintain a bullshit life economically, I wont be on the streets, however my depression keeps me from accomplishing anything more than survival. Everyone tells me that I sound like I've got big plans and that I'm heading the right way but I don't see it. I feel like I've failed and am in some sort of prison of my mind until I figure out how to get out.   


I feel lost and afraid.",3.6583862034239663,4.765041267371603,4.993281722054384,83.82769700402824,72.12688821752266,8.235699899295065,27.688947633434037,8.660442795831766,1.9308005035246727,2557,92,530,45,48,853,292,662,0.16399999999999998,0.78,0.055999999999999994,-0.9951,3,2,1,0,1,0,66.0,10,0,1,16,25,47,13,5,25,0,50,12,2,6,6,100,101,44,1,12,13,4,3,3,2,8,6,2,0,3,42,39,0,5,13,0,1,7,18,34,0,1,27,9,99,13,72,57,12,73,1,12,4,4,62,36,1,7,30,362,141,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07652948187467543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0774818549989272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051666771244004574,0.07571074438435338,0.060806545504858436,0.0,0.06907873348276419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233929100464424,0.27026204415725513,0.0816075402132773,0.0628763657648908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08067056198230796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07816758541173212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05899648303538736,0.08175972347760017,0.0,0.09530802390181912,0.0,0.06364278403313088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234540114837348,0.0,0.0,0.0763498439234724,0.0,0.09760949759384753,0.06683924267574294,0.0,0.0706066538444123,0.0,0.0,0.06965848693287738,0.0,0.11208554024973814,0.05278822127137652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057088518197922176,0.06831165495241935,0.07721069190116507,0.07088361953405492,0.0,0.12395364809261228,0.05909791578693234,0.0,0.0,0.07316436701015765,0.0653421566048713,0.07865905293889185,0.0,0.07295272277384571,0.1516683350343076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19703492475550055,0.0,0.0,0.04060892744323871,0.0602315703406688,0.0,0.0,0.08028351179478904,0.0,0.15657560773536866,0.10829920743592976,0.0,0.0652476952275561,0.06539179956721787,0.062050389720669015,0.0,0.2419844479035758,0.06282005241913169,0.06669011388838651,0.0,0.04932326112912405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07838738109316427,0.07460951896147684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10863775383993106,0.0,0.1709694253135423,0.0,0.0,0.13868464679663092,0.0,0.0,0.16825230399282476,0.0,0.0,0.05007090551336674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07070434549874825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07295910625573909,0.0,0.0,0.1262061588108156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11776418273807755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07532324854201063,0.0,0.056885414848283376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08082548998625168,0.0,0.06964202115089721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06458457337851539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04909033984397485,0.1893871849686868,0.0,0.11732345875355535,0.08617364984830699,0.0,0.0,0.21181996153323687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3555303067616681,0.12763735037903487,0.0,0.06096836337709216,0.08716643867069224,0.05865176544875843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06667573585161649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053794013216252816,0.0,0.0,0.2624525989293457,0.0,0.0,0.14275143166819526
divorce,chasethemoments,2020/01/17,"As sad as I am, today felt good. I don’t want to explain the whole situation and get into the details of why we are getting in a divorce, but I know that I didn’t want this. I am the one being left. My STBXH decided he doesn’t want to mend our marriage. We’ve only been married for 1.5 years. He is 26 and I’m 27. It’s just a very sad situation because nothing substantial really happened, it was more of a lack of communication and fights that finally broke us (and his will to keep fighting for us). 

We are still married, but in the process of divorce. He walked out 2 days before Christmas. It has been so difficult, emotionally. I cried myself to sleep every night to the point the skin on my right eyelid peeled off completely and so did underneath my eyes (thank god it healed). I spiraled in a dark place (I’m not out of the woods yet) and I held out hope. I truly believed he was my soulmate. We were together for 4.5 years, and friends for 2 years before we ever dated. 

ANYWAYS. Today we met up at the house so we could talk about our dog and he could pack up some of his stuff. It started off uncomfortable, but then I relaxed. It became comfortable and it was nice to just talk. I know I annoyed him with my questions, but I’m glad he answered them. At one point we did smile and I laughed about something and that was bittersweet. I tried to bargain with him to change his mind again, and I wasn’t surprised when he said no. It just felt nice to be able to spend time with him again one last time even if it was him packing up his stuff. 

I genuinely love him and could never hate him. I hope he finds peace and I hope he finds whatever it is he’s looking for. 

Tonight was hard, but it felt like a step in the right direction for my healing process. I’m no longer angry, and I realized that today.",2.0154331841432267,3.9783876820652218,3.2849808184143217,90.78879156010237,78.42934782608695,6.394629156010232,24.68222506393861,7.39963492309942,1.0299115089514077,1409,51,304,19,34,457,186,368,0.11800000000000001,0.6859999999999999,0.196,0.9885,0,0,1,0,5,0,45.0,11,0,1,0,16,23,4,0,14,0,28,6,3,0,2,67,56,28,0,11,10,0,5,1,1,1,2,1,0,0,18,29,0,2,12,1,2,2,8,8,0,3,19,8,48,15,46,31,4,48,0,3,2,1,45,23,0,6,24,201,66,0,0.09449659663705297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05760424822424781,0.0,0.16081928746984073,0.10646530489854007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09996486944043488,0.0,0.099077883700963,0.0,0.0,0.2263435294699086,0.0,0.10380007418746684,0.06094248732250865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062959523224982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062414110860145026,0.0854775816904708,0.07961745827151079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2721946554504186,0.10351640265873883,0.17273635475214988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07300783615284406,0.0,0.09874114307933024,0.0,0.0,0.07925926189849941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356302832634302,0.0,0.08465038956363677,0.0932958254882614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815693269948633,0.0,0.10903638516323316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839929169473586,0.0,0.0,0.10386571642444947,0.07702733855194191,0.0,0.0,0.1026708287394682,0.0,0.0,0.046166263909397966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07935334159910992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08528686785839612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09541462465179673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07288160085689123,0.0,0.0,0.08867865456886212,0.0,0.09067203306055716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921000184172304,0.0718689199222067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872883091037077,0.0,0.17865965564264974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10585781479559686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0605369395293433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613991544148224,0.0898879029047285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21243626774448307,0.0945648409490196,0.0,0.0,0.07274809677721135,0.0,0.0,0.06688517747101977,0.0,0.0754651041405806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163519900735177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519055698188028,0.0,0.08699977016524316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020345084113138,0.0,0.26871517324469624,0.0,0.0,0.06415698619704588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273355413906239,0.0,0.0,0.07796958870976281,0.16720962305678966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08526848045956636,0.10550207547725278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825581301249265
divorce,rahc1977,2020/01/17,Can my wife take away my IRAand 401k if we get a divorce? I max out my IRA and 401k every year. My wife never saved for those.,-0.6147619047619061,1.1886194285714282,1.114285714285714,103.69738095238097,86.85714285714286,3.733333333333334,12.904761904761903,3.1291,-1.7708952380952379,96,1,25,0,3,31,23,28,0.085,0.915,0.0,-0.3252,0,0,0,0,1,0,3.0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,3,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,3,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,2,15,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5065313313581015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4542411287735962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2816737011108496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4158110715763341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4053594241224455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34718269457917184
divorce,zaneymcfucksmith,2020/01/17,"The 11th hour Well, literally 1 hour left until the appeal time expires, and I'm officially divorced. By the time I'm done work, I'll be divorced from my narcissistic, abusive, horrid ex wife.

We had all division of assets etc. done for years. 

Then there was the long and drawn out custody battle. 

Years and years of hell on the kids. Barbs thrown. Psychiatrists involved. Just a complete dumpster fire of a grown woman throwing a tantrum. 

Anger, hate, spite, vitriol. Lie upon lie. Attacks on our family. Friends. Everyone. 

I remember saying years ago,""I guess if you want to throw shit in a fan, everyone is going to get covered.""

Well, she threw shit in a fan.

Even up to the end, there was such resistance, that her own lawyer had to force her to follow through with the divorce, as he and she had made a promise to do that as holding up their end of the bargain.

There is so much more to this, but I'll leave it at this:

I'm happy it is done. Time to heal. Time to move on.

To those of you still in the midst, hang in there.

Things are far from over, because of the age of the kids, but there is the ability to move on.

Zaneymcfucksmith out!",1.4340242484637074,4.0044483632287005,2.5001694070752367,91.84826440790569,85.54708520179372,5.635542268726126,22.160604550739077,7.093109894594671,0.7535266234844711,887,31,183,13,27,281,135,223,0.124,0.7829999999999999,0.09300000000000001,-0.75,0,0,0,0,3,0,44.0,2,2,1,1,12,14,9,0,18,0,15,3,2,1,1,18,26,12,0,2,4,2,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,3,8,8,0,1,1,0,1,9,0,9,2,0,10,2,11,5,42,15,5,43,1,0,0,0,21,17,3,2,17,119,19,2,0.0,0.14745173122143848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11031654185135467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14157871916534767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07586296367824706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304824231585029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3820636464736313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204497754880824,0.0,0.13879354692448842,0.08219739986468848,0.0,0.0,0.23783273153626466,0.0,0.0,0.11731945446980363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961489993017428,0.0,0.06501947323238104,0.0,0.07072724243366485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13709461913384144,0.0,0.0,0.1324782892398235,0.0,0.12286763630340687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451144203663117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13177353652523832,0.13521421755486346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101334609724898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177566658463546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645392132452238,0.0914843443815171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14097647267523974,0.0,0.0,0.09896685073891737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25549024843508683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993851431252969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08267839489224027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902688828029542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07340325266306204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22378921814511635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09060036417893373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32056433849396226
divorce,kidsplained4u,2020/01/17,"What the heck is FLAIR? 6 month ago, I packed up and ran away from my husband. At that time it felt as tho I was being crushed to death. I couldn't think. Every breath hurt. And had no one to help me through it. Being a non drinker and non partier I felt every bit of the pain I was in. 
So today I'm here and while it still hurts, now it just feels as though a large child is sitting on my chest.",-0.24701149425287386,1.5489601609195418,1.0650574712643677,104.64402298850577,85.32183908045977,3.8666666666666663,16.563218390804597,3.1291,-1.33356091954023,302,6,79,0,9,95,65,87,0.20199999999999999,0.7440000000000001,0.055,-0.9274,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,4,0,8,3,2,0,0,10,14,10,1,1,1,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,6,4,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,3,0,1,6,3,8,0,12,5,1,14,0,2,0,0,3,5,1,0,7,52,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19743965770877286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20926529506923602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431671084700805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3753248731545384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11262066382122192,0.0,0.427717851286174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14929345579751327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4768812719821828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17778361866741602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15092986850437784,0.0,0.23700396653592656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17787512471553293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14271852401444712,0.21883436542925205,0.0,0.12987759564958531,0.0,0.21112515291313136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,schmodependent,2020/01/17,"My last night in bed with my wife Tonight is the last night I’m sharing a bed with my wife. She’s been sleeping in the guest room, but she agreed to sleep in our bed tonight. I honestly need it. We brushed our teeth while standing next to each other, trying to speak with toothbrushes in our mouths and making stupid jokes, just like when we got together. It was more sleep over than romance, but the familiarity was really nice. She’s asleep next to me not, so I’m writing this in the dark on my phone. We’re back to back with our feet intertwined, like tomorrow is any other day. I can’t believe this is happening. She’s the most important person in the world to me, and she wants out. I’m glad I have this one last night. It’s hopefully the closure I need. 

Goodnight, love. I’ll see you in the morning.",2.2654192229038834,4.274390061349696,3.0541349693251547,92.52067075664623,77.83435582822085,6.800654396728017,23.750102249488755,7.793537801064563,1.0114772188139065,632,21,139,10,15,199,94,163,0.025,0.741,0.23399999999999999,0.9899,0,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,6,1,0,0,5,11,1,0,9,0,8,8,7,1,0,21,20,7,0,4,4,2,0,2,1,0,0,1,4,1,8,10,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,4,3,22,10,21,16,3,29,0,0,1,1,21,12,0,2,18,83,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10511448154970826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23771315357738945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741500784339095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09968636221242767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12362560879878325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366877965650498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15352519592327446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3779912262448215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510324605463553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395075582705238,0.0,0.10317822724938837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22922684090203954,0.0,0.0,0.328778842566039,0.43516696814887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10474220782190513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13496659210734466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09902298948216827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12317413052411902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4640518660249787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10494446231987453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117076214952496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,grunpynom,2020/01/17,"Making the right choice I’ve consumed beers and I’m feeling sad. I hate reaching out to real life friends when I feel like this. So you’re fucking stuck with me Reddit.

I hate that I look back and my life is so full of regrets. I made so many choices based on what I thought other people would like me to do or satisfying impulses. It did not ever work out in the end and now I’m here. One thing i will never regret, I made the right choice when I finally said i was done.

There is not a second that goes by where i don’t doubt myself, but not when it comes to ending my marriage.",2.7499186991869915,3.689334073170734,3.9383739837398397,91.16821138211384,74.12195121951221,6.442276422764228,23.422764227642283,6.42735559955562,0.4356764227642276,453,12,102,3,9,148,84,123,0.10400000000000001,0.795,0.10099999999999999,-0.3169,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,12,10,3,1,4,0,9,4,0,3,2,25,24,11,0,3,5,0,2,2,1,2,2,1,0,0,8,7,1,0,3,1,0,1,5,7,0,2,8,4,16,3,10,14,1,19,0,3,1,1,3,8,1,2,12,71,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13616661598539445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525421307139781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18121834867808487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3136876118609889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16018255828858335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17907791755872074,0.1265087992060933,0.0,0.19398679600871813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13681460961804467,0.16371124526784414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3496674498459976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501592418724721,0.17302853247327354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14870590644599788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33512220376066904,0.11820490230758154,0.17953531660264882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365780482618137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11999665794938433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12276770422175033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20156028768721976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024574274152931,0.16844737487560862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11764669838662956,0.0,0.0,0.14058486465489187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12891921441109389,0.0,0.0,0.12579534729302744,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,TrevorTwosmokes,2020/01/17,"My wife hates my mother So my wife thinks she car read emotions really well, I’m skeptical because a lot of times I notice she’s just jumping to conclusions. She thinks my mother hates her. I don’t have a great relationship with my mother, so I told her she needs to not worry so much about what my mom does or says... then my wife tells me she gets an incest vibe from my mom towards me. So I kind of snap, like what are you saying? You think my mom wants to fuck me? Now I’m thinking my wife is jealous of my mother... the worst part is, I got upset with her for saying this. Then she gets super pissed at me! Threatened to leave me! What?!? I mean my mom has been divorced three times, has kids with three different guys, cheated on my dad and generally treated him like shit... now while I don’t hate my mother, I don’t have the closest relationship with her, but I’m Damn sure she don’t wanna fuck Me! This is more of a rant but my wife is way off base I feel, and she’s trying to tell me this is how mothers are with their sons all the time, And she’s legit mad at me for basically telling her to fuck off for calling my mother and I relationship incestual...",1.4178856215046023,3.3578611908713683,2.9894677972217214,92.2925112754826,80.2448132780083,5.851055385170486,20.021829334295507,6.895973343053719,0.17684073606350292,901,23,202,10,23,296,121,241,0.185,0.757,0.057999999999999996,-0.9857,1,0,0,0,1,0,34.0,0,2,1,2,10,23,13,1,7,0,16,6,2,1,2,29,37,15,0,3,5,18,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,2,6,9,0,0,7,1,0,2,5,15,1,2,3,4,52,8,27,34,6,18,0,0,0,4,50,7,6,2,10,136,58,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062256423031723226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042843447064672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10670226679559754,0.0,0.0,0.08937310509327889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148805162526838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051639103310168716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28324771773104257,0.1067155733072318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08168127767250101,0.11259673763466195,0.0,0.10112300743456844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024914598006737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10635083894988252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10813905279387087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09978939207917027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682577171668672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11124758585977136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4784454095378764,0.0,0.0,0.07507600241867039,0.07572679084713227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11627367038648445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105949242194794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10215587053882276,0.0,0.0654259613234256,0.0,0.0,0.3289425060604224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436494104758847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10483316374585357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09625465114217187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677937318725382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617585922795129,0.0,0.0,0.17865538219713775,0.0,0.0,0.09758790342089946,0.0,0.06933836646170158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06023787798586105,0.08106463782707145,0.0,0.0,0.09182554674420072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10371617822533777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,colobots,2020/01/17,"Marital mercy-killing Hello readers,

I wanted to take my time with this process, but recent events have caused some serious escalation. I could really use some advice

My wife (36f) and I (36m) have been married 12.5 years, together for 15. As you can tell from some quick math, we were pretty young.  It sounds horrible but I was just in this huge rush to get married, start a job, and finally be an adult and I just sort of felt she was good enough woman as any to join me on the grown up town express.  I had come off some emotionally taxing relationships in college and my wife was a relief from those. I was never head over heels for her, but I liked her enough and she was easy to get along with and fairly low maintenance.

We have one son together. His birth was the turning point in our marriage. I remembered what love was like. Someone you want to hang out with all the time. Someone who makes you smile just thinking about them.  I didnt have that feeling at all with my wife anymore and I'm not sure i ever did.  But I can tell irrefutably that I love my son.

Her and I are pretty apart in our interests as of late. She is a home body. Very introverted. I'm social and outgoing.  We have no shared hobbies, tastes in music tv or movies, pretty much nothing in common that isnt related to our son.  During some of our fights I bring up the point that if we had met today as the people we are now and had a first date, neither one of us would be interested in a second date. She doesn't believe that.

Presently, our son is halfway through the school year and is stable at his new elementary school. At home me and the misses are mostly civil and somehow have a very good sex life. Other than that it feels like roommates.  It has been wearing on me. My friends took me out to dinner last night as a kind of mental welfare checkup on me. They asked me to write down my goals for 2020 and I simply wrote ""get divorced"".  When I got home she snooped in my Jean's and found the notebook. She came to my room with tears in her eyes and said ""I thought we were doing better""  It was heartbreaking

I'm not happy. I feel like I would be happier with someone new. Happier alone even. I fully believe she would be happier with someone else too. Someone who doesn't mind staying home all the time.  But she is terrified of being alone. In fact I cant even tell if she loves me or if she is so afraid of rejection that she becomes the Meryl Streep of acting in love with me to avoid being left alone.  I feel like an asshole for thinking all of these things and that I dont really have the ""right"" to divorce her. She is a good person, total sweetheart, great co parent.  She isnt abusive or bitchy or unfaithful (that I know of at least) or reckless with money alcohol or drugs.  I just don't love her and I cant even fully explain why.  I wish I did, it would be so much easier. But I dont.

Help? What should I tell her to let her down easy as I can given the circumstances?",2.76462311557789,4.47238161139029,3.7325966499162497,89.56816130653267,75.43216080402009,6.719048576214405,23.832797319933,7.479797944008522,0.9363261239530988,2310,71,487,29,50,742,284,597,0.085,0.691,0.22399999999999998,0.9988,2,4,2,0,3,0,70.0,12,3,2,3,16,32,1,2,22,0,62,17,5,3,9,104,103,42,0,12,21,8,5,5,2,5,4,2,5,3,24,38,3,1,12,1,2,8,15,8,0,4,28,9,89,24,73,61,17,71,0,4,1,6,80,35,0,17,32,343,113,7,0.0,0.07956713839360692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656226307635202,0.0,0.07176777095659502,0.0,0.20865552502197765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045667384107172894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06659925008316152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06278042156486925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07416690375106391,0.0,0.1513203206044392,0.0,0.059392725674769525,0.0,0.07459354536265192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07680689362949271,0.0,0.06898620220632411,0.0,0.05784768244152635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053617428824609466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574092210722995,0.0,0.07787793614883544,0.0,0.05609899381520148,0.07553980895336344,0.0,0.13877716472967866,0.0,0.1330648037113873,0.060745118225231085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13582139516132316,0.1439256317244224,0.06447888127940576,0.07356450654542472,0.0,0.05712161001308259,0.0,0.07363147736345095,0.051883424294012534,0.0,0.10525641270073006,0.0,0.0,0.168978104173681,0.0537096133592907,0.07403810782836423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07148724729629181,0.0,0.0,0.0689199231907707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04501226676984964,0.0,0.2694458813362072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06664051019549433,0.0,0.0,0.06993111032538878,0.036906374156668996,0.05473990600080629,0.07575323634554369,0.0,0.07296359474283927,0.0686700581071906,0.0474332314486469,0.16404155942014886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3030479319056061,0.0,0.044826171102473264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06767597263039697,0.0,0.06780693300235924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987326148015308,0.0,0.05179371447975245,0.1297165295809471,0.0,0.06301997844705624,0.0,0.06443658394467232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09101129675599004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745671597994244,0.0,0.0,0.046556496455469235,0.058636746455220885,0.0,0.0,0.12696547667189928,0.0,0.0,0.20496090244851228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08604182467444745,0.0,0.06630699807016936,0.07209883472839519,0.07607299296301825,0.05734960279926653,0.06387933749387467,0.0,0.0,0.13592794175843892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06845558768506861,0.2844990822051421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0475323228926305,0.07157779516509327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0632923510037103,0.0,0.050491850048828175,0.0,0.2347840812282467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04461448661238709,0.08605982414460915,0.0,0.05331319661379248,0.1174750417205462,0.0,0.06365464349382056,0.0,0.07461115520369849,0.0,0.07304484613917096,0.0,0.0,0.08077863262777517,0.057999953532863226,0.0,0.11081904261863773,0.07921896494265898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06059651927400751,0.0,0.0772243968113464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19081860909555926,0.0,0.0,0.08649063281155868
divorce,carettablue,2020/01/17,"First date- how after so many years? How do you put yourself out there after 14 years? And after being in a dead marriage and being left for another woman? 

I really want to meet a guy, even to just spend some time with, even if not serious. But I’m struggling to get over my insecurities. I know I’m a good person with a lot to offer but I can’t help but be afraid of the rejection that comes along with dating. I’m 38 and I’ve had two kids, I keep wondering if anyone will like my body. 

I went on bumble, found some nice guys, a couple are promising. Do I just do it? Just get the first one over and it’ll be easier? Or is my insecurity a sign that I’m not ready?",0.3522065727699548,2.357183422535215,2.893549295774651,91.17844600938969,84.49295774647888,6.04018779342723,16.50892018779343,7.3011,-0.0059761502347419615,514,10,118,8,15,178,92,142,0.11699999999999999,0.728,0.154,0.6707,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,0,2,9,10,0,4,8,0,13,1,1,2,0,32,26,13,1,3,11,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,5,4,10,0,1,3,0,1,3,3,6,0,4,3,0,10,4,18,17,3,19,0,1,0,0,10,6,0,7,11,80,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19103200670012385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12738475337993788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023613258479887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15693226081678918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015791186644853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406568376376866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3099250660528784,0.0,0.19975137675751808,0.0,0.0,0.1903634523565393,0.0,0.0,0.1528042541912591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3607744251628533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221116644702448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16193028706128396,0.0,0.0,0.10012156910194046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19793950936388865,0.0,0.0,0.08900412843241423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15488323911191662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18470230485858766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234501362627828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15907287552029822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18314159439021468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11670941255608368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19045448246657729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10623084111385714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17796375351862528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10745470469438403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688830318511993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19756684426892648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.234636375628578
divorce,notmyusualMO,2020/01/17,"Roll Call! Who's thriving? I need to believe that life is going to get better. That this hopelessness is going to end and I'll be okay, please inspire me. 

Tell me how you've come back from combined debt, splitting of households, finding yourself homeless when he/she wants the house and the kids, when you're income suddenly goes from middle class to just scraping by. 

How have you persevered? Did you go back to school? Are you dating? Have you sworn off dating? How are your kids? How do you handle seeing them half the time, are they happy? Are you? Have you trusted yourself to love yet? Has a broken heart already been mended by another? 

Have you stopped reading all the books? Has your family finally stopped guilting you breaking your vows? Giving up. Do you get along with your ex? Their new spouse? Are the kids okay with the new family arrangement? Does everyone feel loved, understood, appreciated? 

Help, please. I need to believe that tomorrow, and each subsequent one, is going to get better. Please.",2.574790528233152,5.570256606557383,2.7221857923497272,87.61785063752279,89.49180327868851,5.5526411657559205,23.171220400728608,7.093109894594671,1.2931624772313302,801,30,138,13,27,243,114,183,0.063,0.727,0.21,0.9838,2,0,0,0,0,1,35.0,0,14,3,2,10,11,0,1,7,2,19,5,1,4,1,23,36,9,0,3,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,5,8,0,2,4,2,1,5,0,2,0,2,3,2,21,9,18,32,2,25,0,1,1,2,29,3,0,0,16,87,26,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13821717977838158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13133620162573906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19261999947870187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822291279412501,0.0,0.2215479997172614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12789489248109134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10789232340825078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10960766641224652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11093487782574396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11968234014992142,0.0,0.0,0.2361502853768011,0.0,0.06333047960615347,0.0,0.0,0.13720593801817865,0.1144768025881974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963148468632037,0.12015181292724225,0.2847312674629437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13333161985622335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484225942596703,0.0839528540936814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445224053404629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08846822088212235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22608715922482506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18574350350655186,0.0,0.2419356691616874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487306534127136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4124627241815311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12528452008448768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267603198040271,0.0998085322595379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094302625168235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10947456731992904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07303464695998686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0738760640437052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,pyroh4unter,2020/01/17,"28 married for 6 years....... I feel like I’m the only one in this relationship that wants to stay together no matter what, and takes their vows more seriously. Like my wife is quick to say she wants a divorce but I let her cool down and after a while she will apologize about what she says but I don’t fully accept it. I feel like if you went that far to say” I want a divorce!” You really meant that deep down and I don’t fully believe that she wants to work it out.  We have 4 kids and I’m in the military with not long until my enlistment is up. I can’t help feeling like I’ll just wait til I get out of the military then if she wants a divorce then I’ll just obilge and see if the grass is greener on the other side. I understand that marriage is a partnership and I have my own faults in our relationship but I don’t blame my wife for her shortcomings and I feel that all she does is say all the wrong things I do and how she is a saint. That’s just one wedge driving us apart. Another is religion, everyday I feel as though she is moving further to religion and saying how it’s my fault for the wrong things that happen in my kids and wife’s life but o feel that it’s just how you interpret things and just moved forward trying and try to be better than you were yesterday. I just don’t feel the same way as her when it comes to religion and my kids are starting to notice things I’m our relationship. I’m honest with my kids to an extent but I let them know I love them and something mommy and daddy fight and that’s normal but there is a certain point where you have to stand your ground so you aren’t taken advantage of. I’m just tired of being blamed that this marriage not working is my fault and I’m supposed to just accept religion to fix everything over night. I refuse. At this point I want to make sure my kids don’t make a mistake like me and marry without having any guidance. Sorry for the rant.",2.7900879032258104,4.0879196975000065,4.044758064516127,89.04572580645163,74.525,7.461290322580645,23.403225806451612,8.049812674583475,1.0427943548387093,1509,42,332,23,31,495,183,400,0.113,0.75,0.13699999999999998,0.7759,1,0,1,0,4,0,24.0,4,7,3,4,18,22,1,0,18,1,29,3,0,5,4,78,63,40,0,11,20,3,7,5,0,1,2,5,0,5,26,24,0,2,13,0,0,6,11,8,0,2,4,14,55,14,42,54,6,44,1,0,1,1,51,22,0,3,20,227,81,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061903853047282464,0.09545340320556664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10256018680401673,0.0,0.08050906865215016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07841470456425045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07966139302767078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08181233245733786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32219424737073865,0.1950965953096169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047559672557689364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08049795943595334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061015816910086326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05002797525999778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18616968188235625,0.06429752539063377,0.22236449024889407,0.0,0.0,0.08055911684759831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215856900820788,0.0,0.12152711449763087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935020038634488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.085425945915232,0.08919055011698115,0.0,0.10363881332935974,0.0,0.0,0.1233692283929289,0.06923278771097112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17210646862387113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058316461241431625,0.0,0.0,0.29319802899806485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36195548665753613,0.0,0.0,0.07253951275577608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07007971660080027,0.0,0.10190117794566353,0.06443184756184044,0.09702638765009662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0857951571378774,0.0,0.06844359769267237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419064439120671,0.0,0.08943699175117209,0.0,0.0,0.1046261542198375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12360745118651285,0.0,0.0,0.09476594781769923,0.10949846813679852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3221528401665945,0.0722557638323989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438617387910541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08775014148950619,0.0,0.13254255809047566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19905509568384505,0.0,0.058620649378209475
divorce,mcday1,2020/01/18,"Is it wrong to divorce a depressed person My husband is a very negative person. I can’t take it anymore. He recently has become so depressed that he doesn’t leave bed and then when he does he wants to do only what he wants and I always cave in. Even though it’s never what I want to do. 

He has said he hates me multiple times but then says he’d kill himself without me. There’s a lot to the story but we moved out of state to where my family is, from a state neither of us had family because I thought hopefully we could buy a house and start a family. We had been going through couples counseling back in the other state and now he says he won’t go back to counseling and he won’t do anything for his depression whatsoever. He’s against medication and says he will never talk to a therapist. 

I truly can’t take it anymore. I feel unappreciated and like I’m being manipulated. I voice all of this to him with the skills we learned in couples counseling but he never uses this type of language with me. It’s always an attack on me or the place we now live. I think it’s been over for a while honestly but I thought therapy was helping. 

Then he will come around and be nice and sweet for the rest of the day usually. Then the cycle repeats.",2.052650918635173,4.112735807086615,3.961122047244096,85.51338910761156,78.7244094488189,7.225459317585303,25.150262467191602,8.212053250817874,1.6307538057742788,981,37,202,19,24,332,134,254,0.134,0.772,0.094,-0.8204,0,0,0,0,1,2,16.0,6,0,0,1,11,12,3,0,16,0,24,1,0,2,4,42,42,22,1,5,6,1,1,1,0,4,1,5,1,2,12,19,0,0,5,0,1,4,11,7,0,0,8,7,25,5,29,26,4,35,0,3,0,0,34,9,0,3,20,142,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18071424092506866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21538787652587685,0.0,0.0,0.0893618420518475,0.0966697716102197,0.0,0.12353890914411048,0.0,0.1670008633254415,0.0,0.06619658542259071,0.11993116955140955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09354226562210066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08670175808953907,0.2403096388701861,0.0,0.0700327613374087,0.0,0.2805900105303996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09502946198458544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07172389447814181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30711220256883903,0.0,0.05490730348699497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12343050464839316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10721197258686133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07278682976961509,0.0,0.0,0.10785621189046847,0.0,0.1253004180617048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201407956636474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11498309246163865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05305249398661403,0.0,0.09588859532739093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923209097862448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10939486703692583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154159538340951,0.0,0.0,0.2512581935664012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825889972270671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18963643418815987,0.11345537335351992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10722135380883276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10329571909221977,0.2590697991998711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07686187217875656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16329511744201655,0.08728201772143691,0.0,0.0,0.12418424730457342,0.12608351056732062,0.0,0.06958127438954573,0.1066909438136673,0.17241960224946454,0.06332078251477335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306226280974249,0.09378849472361736,0.11959858388083985,0.08959965104131823,0.1921508645172932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10467867078250166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11872814376692715,0.0,0.0
divorce,RelativeUnknowns,2020/01/18,"He Hasn’t Filed My STBX and I separated in Dec. of 2018. Married 3 years, together 9 years. Our relationship had been in decline for a couple years. I was still willing to work on it. He wasn’t. In many ways, I understand. 

The separation has been hard. I’ve been trying to focus my energy on myself, my needs, my happiness. I’ve been going to therapy. I’ve been healing. 

The part that has me stuck is that he still hasn’t filed, nearly 14 months later. And this week I found out he has been seeing someone new since at least September. It was crushing. So why hasn’t he filed? There are no formalities to sort out. No kids, no house, no more assets or accounts to divide. 

I’ve avoided filing because this was not my choice. This was not the outcome I wanted. And I am still quite heartbroken.",1.0350000000000037,3.5750069426751594,2.8791433121019097,88.40228184713376,87.85350318471339,5.942547770700637,20.58885350318472,7.365786028017652,0.8628066242038215,618,20,124,11,20,205,94,157,0.138,0.813,0.049,-0.9001,0,1,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,0,0,2,5,2,0,1,4,0,22,1,0,0,0,14,29,5,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,7,5,0,1,2,0,1,1,10,1,0,0,14,2,14,1,16,14,3,21,0,0,1,0,8,9,0,2,10,81,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11070706172924262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009467244775335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19912471656407155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10321248754862468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19332598455895816,0.162685846820603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20955221524648496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18412285662663272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449584414713153,0.0,0.0,0.13466065187521367,0.0,0.17539894696790656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19666467339872665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193163353392488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19497992630279426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14471873054018902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15022870710315953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15387657870072186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4350991567482124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20768553308876828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12330047956929605,0.0,0.0,0.18906120465391726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071175977010627,0.1441526420399596,0.14567565499462176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16387372842793824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322133966765275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.350850411279354
divorce,jamjaruk,2020/01/18,"help [https://I](https://I) am a somewhat lost. I was born in UK, met my husband online. Visited for two years to make sure I was doing the right thing in giving up my life and marrying. Was assured he felt the same way as me in having a faithful committed relationship, I believed in him. Such a long story really. Anyway, I transferred all my money over and paid the deposit on our little house. He was so lovely to me, strange sometimes but I loved him regardless. Three years into the marriage I found that he had been writing to many women, all uniquely tailored to each one. Some just sexual, others sexual and love messages. He wrote bad things about me, said I was rubbish in bed, I had no sex drive. Lied about me. I was broken but trapped because all my money was now gone. Prayed a lot too, help me forgive and all that. I stayed for another six and a half years in hope that things would be ok in the end and that I would still be able to protect what I had invested. Around $53,000. I hid everything from my family and then finally broke down to my cousin who flew over and brought me back to the UK.  Just could not take anymore and felt so low and ill. He has everything now, when I said I could not live with the mistrust anymore he carried my cases down the steps and asked what will I do with my keys. I think I was one of those silly women that meet someone online, but really he was so nice and said all the right things, truly lovely things. I did not care that he did not have much, I loved him and wanted to share everything I had. I do not know where to turn now. I went through a lot with the US embassy to be with him. I even had to have aids test. I found out later that he was cheating on me even then. I found a video, he used no protection and then introduced the lady to me as a friend. I had no clue, I was so stupid. The lady told me that he had said that we had an agreement that he could sleep with whoever until we were married. Such a lie, so many lies. I could never have hurt him that way. Why did he do this to me? I am now safe back in the UK with family around me but I do not even own a cup, they feed me and I live from bed to bed out of a suitcase. I am 57 now. I feel used up and spat out. I was a hard working person with some money, confidence and me. I trusted and loved, wanted to share with the man I believed loved me. I was an idiot.",2.022630662020905,3.6392374186991887,3.296864111498259,92.29012195121956,77.2520325203252,6.474332171893147,21.876887340301966,7.2636822038024595,0.5419619047619051,1838,50,410,22,42,597,220,492,0.11699999999999999,0.698,0.185,0.9906,0,1,0,0,0,0,67.0,4,0,1,2,28,30,3,0,28,1,49,13,2,3,9,87,88,34,0,10,12,2,4,0,1,3,2,4,3,4,22,35,1,3,9,1,6,7,10,8,0,6,44,8,70,22,57,34,14,59,2,4,0,8,58,27,0,6,22,305,92,3,0.07375939348237588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773431552662624,0.0,0.0,0.1462989971885017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13132299619767615,0.06895507611979819,0.0,0.0,0.11343284138460245,0.06158601262585985,0.044963041656917536,0.0,0.0,0.16620315642464903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07520261746116731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355634953568192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06532892967751902,0.0,0.0,0.14615215126110512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19887056048643686,0.0,0.13906758351454135,0.0,0.037294965566490514,0.0,0.14164116952119465,0.08079981022927238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24262010352210345,0.0569863244363971,0.0,0.0,0.0707567312570535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06607392873885211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988787333399012,0.0,0.0,0.07325972053134737,0.0,0.08510843695292711,0.07896095625094468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040536233683128566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052098440941016386,0.0,0.07392628955727865,0.13026179155934026,0.06527474215915029,0.0,0.0,0.08051709107242458,0.12541519735568846,0.4659951266378344,0.0,0.049234967900562865,0.1495608959930903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05422164107413355,0.0,0.05688779137598105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09996254786353004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06440385735637713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09450431236404536,0.0,0.0,0.07918998491764259,0.0,0.12598023803893998,0.2806482957315631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07381266163422917,0.0,0.062496094739338176,0.0,0.07294992617687751,0.0,0.0,0.07861769945263042,0.058904346913918125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06951735545057293,0.0,0.05545788442896758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24501231783097505,0.04726204106973274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07048026136177606,0.0,0.0,0.08022903956579971,0.07205220977322731,0.0,0.08872346860471501,0.12740886764103304,0.0,0.0,0.08701040263178822,0.11709354665828628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06837569672190423,0.06655638007808763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053697716925306185,0.0,0.0,0.10479311373899107,0.0,0.0,0.14249589331782705
divorce,Jakersonnn,2020/01/18,"Do I ever stop feeling guilty? My husband and I got married after only dating for 6 months (my religion has a big part in why we got married so fast). Before even getting married I knew it wasn’t going to last... I just felt it was the best step in my life and felt it was right... I ended up just trying to be a good wife, trying to make it work. I was unhappy from the beginning and nothing got better. 

He was a good person. Nice guy. Never cheated or abused me. I just wasn’t in love with him. I never felt connected to him. I ended up divorcing him after 2.5 years of marriage (I know that’s like nothing) it’s been a year since our divorce and some times... like today... the guilt of breaking his heart just gets to me and I feel like the shittiest human. How the hell do I get over this.... I’m just so freakin heart broken over hurting him..

I’m just crying and rambling and I don’t know what to do but thanks for listening ):",0.4489488636363639,2.674682739583332,2.502178030303032,92.6674431818182,86.1875,4.9492424242424224,20.185606060606066,6.351523495107088,0.1870645833333331,714,22,152,7,22,239,110,192,0.12300000000000001,0.7490000000000001,0.128,0.0302,0,0,0,0,2,0,36.0,2,0,0,3,11,14,2,1,9,0,13,4,2,2,3,32,35,12,0,0,8,2,5,3,0,0,1,1,0,3,8,9,0,1,8,0,0,2,5,4,0,0,14,6,25,10,21,20,3,29,1,1,0,1,18,9,1,2,20,101,33,1,0.0,0.14978436404413345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10757219577847213,0.0,0.13266763128694425,0.11180622834561832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388639643663156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22393721085285934,0.0,0.0,0.08349773287045438,0.11435209416659127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12784122760069205,0.09031286723274064,0.3641426003887417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19814417303730067,0.0,0.07184612171567008,0.2120664249255928,0.3033234740810048,0.0,0.0,0.12517344977370504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2996112894113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13533281806694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13895178069331374,0.1030473405692469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08929259679979418,0.1852839839457829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11409695678842766,0.0,0.08438483105805585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009054434886618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19500232737932616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426024849501097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09614639693897173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368981060118408,0.0,0.0,0.11038310481853453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10796006940676893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10457407075511543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10569090121924664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116388481209416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07371520777051452,0.0,0.1198292471825784,0.0,0.0,0.1716587105521066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11407235808639515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09203362902758117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628177749382889
divorce,JustSomeGuy131,2020/01/18,"My (20y.o. M) parents are thinking of divorce . Help. Hi everyone,

I don't want to make my post long, so I'll try to keep it to a minimum.

***Short Background Information:***

My family and I are new immigrants in the United States; we've only been here for a year.  We've applied for Green Cards and are currently waiting for approval. We should have them fairly soon.

We're from a country that is at war right now. Don't want to get into details, but basically speaking my mother and I can't go back to our hometown because of it. 

My (20; Male) mother (50y.o) is thinking of divorcing my father (45 y.o), who's been acting very unstable recently. Throwing things, recently breaking my electronics and his smartphone by throwing it as hard as he could against the floor (his phone in public). He also gets mentally abusive towards my mother.

***My question is:*** 

If my parents divorce, how do I take care of my mother that can't speak proper English, has no degree, no income and no assets? I am currently enrolled in college however I am looking at about $50'000 of potential student debt once I graduate (in 3 years). 

I am worried about taking care of her, and I'll be honest with you, I don't want to live with her forever after I graduate. What do I do? 

TL;DR :

My mother (50y.o) has no income, no assets, no degree, doesn't know English and is an immigrant in the US; she wants to divorce my father. I have huge student debt from college, and have no idea how I can help her without sacrificing my future. Please help.",1.4817308735756924,4.158054037800689,3.4137610779526137,84.22718529571353,87.65979381443299,5.949755832881173,26.214595767769946,7.3759095455046575,1.8375649484536083,1179,54,211,21,38,395,164,291,0.147,0.738,0.114,-0.8128,9,0,0,0,3,0,71.0,3,1,1,1,10,4,1,0,7,0,30,0,0,3,0,32,48,16,1,7,3,9,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,8,12,0,2,6,0,2,4,14,1,0,0,2,5,38,3,37,43,0,33,0,0,2,0,38,13,0,2,13,145,46,6,0.0,0.16174215119091145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10916708101665257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10496784387130212,0.0,0.08321529248517669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2783622983263679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089922102830672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13044125458424272,0.0,0.0,0.12868957716063306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14264179040545824,0.0,0.07758183809888583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12228624005472236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744995360265322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15410329158561412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213364528818806,0.0,0.0,0.0750223832259365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12054092299809885,0.12080714650301015,0.1146341065877576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09112155457822073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375700775240793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13184230929390592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14537880577535525,0.0,0.10382208563226616,0.0,0.0,0.3031566316861385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14984710120718314,0.0,0.0,0.13073894495465074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15292255851972422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26957451841054303,0.0,0.0,0.1165788831164372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052772189470263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09069124747542012,0.1749403254821469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09268139999971904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16420484731830542,0.0,0.0,0.112635132467551,0.3220687852705927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315908690835987,0.0,0.0,0.13863263718296698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17581606290278165
divorce,marksiwelforever,2020/01/18,"I guess I just need advice... How to safely talk to my soon to be maybe Ex. So my wife moved in with a friend and said she needed space. She didn't respond to Texts or messages for over a week. I made the mistake of trying to catch her in the parking lot of her work. She drove away and had a meltdown. 
So she told me to move out, which I'm trying to do. 
So bills are piling up and I literally need her signature or just input on what to do with our things, bills, car insurance etc. 
But she told me to stop texting, email and calling her.

Without getting a Lawyer should I just send everything through email without emotion. 
""Dear *Wife Names * what are you plans in regards to our current phone plan? - Me ""

""Dear Wifes Name , how would you like to divide the pets?- Me ""

With no emotion or personal remarks, does that sound good?",1.4773238482384845,3.861718859756104,2.281626016260166,94.93234417344178,82.96341463414635,4.863956639566396,21.915989159891602,6.139981653823899,0.2073411924119241,639,21,135,5,18,199,104,164,0.067,0.86,0.07400000000000001,0.4891,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,2,2,0,3,9,7,0,0,7,0,9,0,0,3,0,32,20,13,0,6,9,4,0,1,1,2,0,2,1,1,5,8,0,2,0,0,2,6,4,1,0,0,7,2,24,6,28,10,2,19,0,0,0,0,32,9,0,5,5,93,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540774914716589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481401859072579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610030792759497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379818338502597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35472470805765804,0.0,0.0,0.17584851282296027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14170748508137995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12181876543457774,0.0,0.08237830883208855,0.0,0.0,0.13224971376384154,0.0,0.0,0.1736960069464341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07703169372662856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13404904299149614,0.0,0.1491952257358024,0.0,0.0,0.15840501731117645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3351656345942181,0.0,0.3507404647665585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13767510836981686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14998435697276394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318227667448263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12673262181899184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10475179218742683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3013290824250521,0.0,0.21410098598636298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264768047841577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039847781505923,0.0,0.1147887611140306,0.0,0.0,0.11200729181943607,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,w_roseberry,2020/01/18,"Divorce Sucks Going through what is that worst time in my like. Wife left with Kids 18 days ago. Seen them maybe a total of 5hrs with those 18 days. Wife filed on 3rd after I had to call cops on the 1st. She decided not to come home New year's Eve and was drunk New year's day. Have a daughter that's 4 months and 4 year old son. She has had a constant substance abuse problem with alcohol the 3 years we have been married. 

Got the papers... Wants alimony of a grand a month, 1100 in child support. Full custody, full parental rights, pay for her car, wants house I bought before marriage. Wants me to pay legal fees, debts, taxes.....

Just got a 44 page affidavit lining out in detail unsubstantiated verbal, financial, and physical abuse that I have spent all day replying too. Refuses to do meditation

Don't know what to say. Never been a fighter and hate conflict.",3.2587025948103796,5.413146766467066,3.802299401197605,87.63167265469063,75.34730538922156,6.848542914171658,24.90578842315369,7.793537801064563,1.288050219560878,678,23,135,10,15,213,119,167,0.17300000000000001,0.7709999999999999,0.055,-0.9620000000000001,2,0,1,0,4,0,28.0,1,0,1,0,2,7,2,0,10,0,12,2,0,0,3,23,26,4,0,4,2,5,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,2,6,10,2,2,2,1,7,3,3,4,0,0,10,2,10,3,19,16,6,32,0,0,1,0,17,10,1,0,20,70,16,5,0.0,0.33620455828754464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12576632338499005,0.15162447852769825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207277635303316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448733433179303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12221537003757685,0.0,0.15331975979605353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3659983980367697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08063256058213407,0.0,0.2269456612342617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14007519290901208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14231524368280593,0.0,0.0,0.16370821101489622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07797246119344366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15415090725167188,0.0,0.0,0.06931444455476668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14253556242158644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264913983072257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10942509213159976,0.27405339321502864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14887713813006173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15753877498462696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13575812469597445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12116307225799855,0.0,0.11282711319210807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16100152019715538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827302269690115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25105003448273233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3654592283635113
divorce,patriciajlim,2020/01/18,"Divorced couples of reddit, what’s your story? In a new relationship here and very curious to self educate on how couples end up hating each other... share the wisdom.",3.200999999999997,6.321564766666674,5.035,72.3225,84.66666666666666,7.0,27.5,8.07648339933343,2.8369999999999997,133,6,19,3,4,45,29,30,0.09300000000000001,0.6759999999999999,0.231,0.5984,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,1,1,5,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,2,14,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6825782871198786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.273191213185162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3045261311661947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978986422776191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3311550971148108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3217759868111904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544998886514055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,kay1970707,2020/01/18,"Help! Hello everyone,

I was doing so well by not thinking about my ex. We seperate last year September 2018. I filed for divorce in January 2019. After I filed I hardly ever saw her. So it was easy to push her out of my mind.

She cheated on me several times and never knew about so I moved to a different town only an hour away to start over. Better job, half decent apartment, car, back in school.part time and now a girlfriend.

When I would get out son we would have supervised exchanges because she made a lot of false accusations about me so I didn't want to risk it. I never saw her when I dropped my son off.

A few months later we get everything done through mediation. I was not supposed to pick him up and drop him off at her place until March this year (2020) but she asked to move it up and I said sure. I thought ""I'm over you so whatever"".

Nope since we started doing the in person exchanges I haven't stopped thinking about her. Despite all the horrible crap she has done to me a part of me still doesn't want to believe it and I still have these feelings. It's been driving me nuts. I was never able to have proper closure. Never able to sit her down and confront her about all the infedelities I found out about. She left before I could.

Has this ever happened to anyone else? You doing well and then boom you can't stop thinking about them again?",2.5036764705882355,4.566838897058823,3.403200000000002,90.04180000000004,77.30882352941177,6.116705882352942,24.48294117647059,7.087006719466742,0.9413051176470596,1068,37,218,12,25,340,154,272,0.063,0.846,0.092,0.8284,2,0,0,0,1,0,30.0,4,3,1,1,24,8,3,1,9,0,22,1,1,2,9,44,42,17,0,5,3,3,2,0,1,2,0,2,0,1,8,14,0,2,7,0,2,5,11,4,2,1,15,6,47,4,42,24,5,57,0,0,2,0,32,20,1,1,29,166,55,2,0.22143471768053224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07741615160793063,0.11344301810399117,0.0,0.0,0.10350578477082732,0.0,0.10402260322301353,0.08513481477346252,0.0,0.06749227430765499,0.0,0.0942123176542666,0.12474054924712492,0.0,0.09792050654348436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08839880188046867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11567607499948135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22660459667906185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09249014636985912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003003795188779,0.0,0.10579518106005098,0.09950562302912093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05598202331404925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139586925940818,0.0,0.0,0.11569050060714665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979069947727546,0.0,0.09918100641532036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07421151180886981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10903429614409196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10986989468023534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09024942470385232,0.0,0.0,0.12029473433456893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941279391957744,0.0,0.10476344196840208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11179297045752036,0.0,0.08837353952108269,0.2353500612130374,0.0,0.0,0.3415682105851182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08420554051328917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397922205923051,0.0,0.0,0.09667412717170888,0.11567607499948135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10531756227715293,0.0,0.0,0.11205187806403218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12507910104625045,0.0,0.09158654335428516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15673263289251782,0.0,0.17683805157855867,0.18512933917123028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10434980042083028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128296389215011,0.0,0.08789721567017797,0.12912036461034698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13060793366368426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19909640443531426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573008701678246,0.0,0.0,0.14259669816386478
divorce,FreeNow1120,2020/01/18,"Perspective is everything. His is valid. It's just not mine. Opened up my email to find a very long letter from my stbx. So amazing how different our perspectives of the marriage are. 

He believes he's always been a good, supportive, loving husband. I spent 20 years feeling like I wasn't good enough, knowing I was utterly alone, and desperately wondering what was so wrong with me.

He believes that I'm cheating on him because I'm now dating. We've been separated since October.

He believes I've abandoned him financially. I send him over half my income every month and have offered to pay his moving expenses to be back with family.

I know all this. I know perspective is everything. But, also....it's amazing how quickly those old patterns rise up and I start to believe, once again, that I'm a horrible person and that I some how owe him my suffering.

Staying strong. Staying gone. I'm not going back. Ever.",2.7592105263157904,5.5991180643274845,4.098885964912281,80.90411842105267,81.80701754385964,7.396608187134504,28.433040935672523,8.395991825355821,2.6667237426900585,723,34,125,17,20,237,112,171,0.13,0.721,0.15,0.563,3,1,0,0,0,0,29.0,1,0,0,1,12,12,1,0,4,0,11,1,0,3,2,24,27,10,0,0,4,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,7,0,1,6,0,4,5,3,4,0,1,7,1,21,8,12,19,3,24,0,2,0,1,19,5,0,2,13,78,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13622939639578374,0.0,0.10518756948893346,0.10944669720807716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20228281764961448,0.0,0.08018181194650804,0.0,0.0,0.5927744094824599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374248739943053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13590962460244746,0.0,0.0,0.11897989457420967,0.11082293864739676,0.0,0.23642827968641045,0.0,0.1239984042260932,0.0,0.06650746491799599,0.09396780618981808,0.0,0.0,0.12021955272416925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747537161395833,0.2206486996523075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168626863147459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06426079334714806,0.0,0.0,0.1164033149847318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11871443185070568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049890613350254,0.1397996625788812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13802264548093826,0.1400792536752051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148502812283448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088061570216058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09310033352249608,0.28039515837372536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14926305021158245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085291986649204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14264284562321505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14381161257041092,0.0,0.08470348461106138
divorce,ontheedgeindc,2020/01/18,"About to eat MDMA with my estranged wife that moved out three months ago This is going to be weird. I don’t know where to even start. I haven’t had this stuff in like 8 years. I’m well versed with drugs, so that won’t be a surprise, but never been with someone that’s divorcing me. We did blow together on New Years and didn’t get physical, had a great time talking. We enjoy each other a lot still. There’s no animosity, she just wants to work on herself. We have our issues, but nothing serious I feel and nothing that couldn’t be worked on. I’m trying to take a zen approach, that whatever happens, happens, and that will be life, and life is beautiful.",2.853424470266578,4.519971827067671,3.853274094326729,88.97174982911827,75.09022556390977,6.941626794258375,24.87286397812713,7.686295010490155,1.1429157894736846,515,17,109,7,11,166,89,133,0.059000000000000004,0.782,0.159,0.9258,0,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,4,0,0,2,8,7,0,0,4,0,17,4,0,0,1,21,28,7,0,2,3,1,1,1,0,2,3,0,0,0,10,12,1,0,2,0,0,3,7,2,1,1,5,1,11,5,14,16,2,18,1,0,0,0,9,6,0,1,10,74,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611730992248426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21085431274632685,0.18604798974472075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200908717956954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919340199201476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949938226394908,0.0,0.10333290612046668,0.0,0.0,0.20045798739906165,0.0,0.0,0.32156692719969343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18977359479802114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09992391354453746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568507054251581,0.08882842043288651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15457747549640755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451275652751592,0.19324665254048967,0.0,0.0,0.14023134935594966,0.17560358587544686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3489237721299848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15405610734388475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286936425434789,0.0,0.14520226310204953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081412259551494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13670655474214768,0.1461406087402165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106021124902834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234443349109297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10724257238620656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16347866446971054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647353015342703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23417316691113704
divorce,putriidx,2020/01/18,"What ""should"" I do? What are my options? Hey r/divorce,

I'm not looking for legal advice, I'm just looking for guidance on what I CAN do from my position.

I was in a neglecting, abusive and promiscuous marriage. I was medically retired from the Navy due to the toll it took on my me talk health. 

We separated late 2017 and I was medically retired mid 2018.

We saw other people, my gf and I started dating beginning of 2018 and 4 months in my separated wife convinced my gf we were having sex. I lost it and attempted suicide.

She had me in her clutches again. But I broke free. Now it's been 2 happy years with my girlfriend.

My ex still won't sign the uncontested divorce papers, she moved away and acts like she will but she's ""busy."" I've been waiting on her for a year maybe longer. I was the reason for the first year long wait on paperwork because of some work needing done in accordance to my separation agreement.




What can I do?

No kids.

She has a repo'd car loan that my name is on but we split the portion and I paid mine a long time ago and she hasn't touched hers.

She created a bunch of debt, but I paid what was affecting me.

We don't share anything but she still has access to all my benefits from being medically retired.

I have all of my medical notes from my therapist and psychiatrist if that helps.",2.145334893243639,4.391198486692016,3.8789543726235753,85.26902529979526,79.34220532319392,7.0879789412108805,26.465194501316176,8.139509932561175,1.8097523837379348,1034,43,209,20,26,346,147,263,0.083,0.8320000000000001,0.086,0.5822,1,0,0,0,2,1,31.0,5,0,0,4,5,10,0,0,11,0,27,6,0,2,2,36,41,15,1,3,8,2,1,1,3,3,5,0,0,1,11,15,0,3,1,0,5,4,5,3,0,1,15,4,46,8,26,22,5,33,0,3,3,1,29,11,0,3,19,148,57,3,0.0,0.16527034452296335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363059551185469,0.12364760133589042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11478665118018945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310534675679224,0.0,0.0,0.08503052517442415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14274454417350835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11864833092108586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14848745635680316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14826910800180898,0.0,0.0,0.0934957947087652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573484194897653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06814673893972915,0.0,0.0,0.2468847925711341,0.2342693991682904,0.0,0.15226751320885967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401343374294319,0.0,0.0,0.5620775111679202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11133790576898812,0.1482535557592529,0.0,0.10342850555715907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09670334216262017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14341678615446224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09873024893242822,0.0,0.22279042380471825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15257711564585558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11211508505700683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619561953374656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08133651240943347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15497618206113986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015488477328998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694768902972878
divorce,jamesk08,2020/01/18,Lost I’m 49 gay and lost.  I met someone fell madly in love married and bought a house. No relationship is perfect but despite the problems I was happy. My husband make 3 times my income we were comfortable. That never seemed enough. He urged me to go back to school and we agreed since it was full time I could cut back and work part time. First few months were great I did well in classes started making friends(all female).  I was so happy. Then it started he called me lazy for not working full time and told me I’d never be anything because I didn’t have enough drive.    I tried to work more and study and then I didn’t love him because I didn’t pay enough attention to his needs.  I failed and flunked out. I went back to work full time.   Things got a little better but not for long. He complained I wasn’t making enough to pay my share.   We got me a car so I could drive further and get a better job.  I did I financed the car in my name.   I paid on it for 2 yrs.. then he made me sale it because I didn’t make enough to have it. Meanwhile he buys a BMW 550i.     I tried everything to make him happy bent over backwards until I caught him cheating.   Why do I hurt so bad I can see he wasn’t good for me.  Hoping to save the marriage I left to my moms on thanksgiving to give him space like he asked.    While I was home he moved the guy into my house.     Here I am  broke and and alone. I can’t pay my bills I can’t work until my license transfers. I need a divorce so I know it’s over.,0.2971428571428589,2.439563769230769,1.691058608058608,98.81584615384615,85.98717948717949,4.206739926739927,18.85018315018315,5.288315135182226,-0.5631532234432237,1144,31,265,5,35,365,157,312,0.147,0.6559999999999999,0.19699999999999998,0.9731,2,1,0,0,1,0,29.0,3,0,0,12,9,28,3,0,10,0,25,3,0,6,3,40,56,23,0,6,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,8,16,0,0,3,0,9,9,13,12,1,1,25,1,50,16,26,28,11,48,0,6,1,3,32,18,0,2,22,162,58,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08709699486597984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692029692599704,0.0,0.07861741577382424,0.0,0.0,0.19399145114522814,0.0702157612305074,0.15379048241160914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14875027889035064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08587033486870839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13428593149130852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.434462758751641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07557910849943784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07153111196344207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0439361346201656,0.08067152808834868,0.0477930916753567,0.07053484478845175,0.13451680951698292,0.09271496688239647,0.0,0.08326721077625734,0.0,0.2685618782001151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0843540802751108,0.08352524908363425,0.0,0.1940685370911359,0.0900253712532256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345125067383517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04621637907896409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09136939703922738,0.0,0.0,0.04108453928680526,0.08428522118724778,0.0,0.07442137450388055,0.0,0.0,0.18359911936699924,0.0,0.1517979310629704,0.07957266440095745,0.2806701232063529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09849097592034332,0.06712377781895362,0.0893796112736456,0.0,0.12471066307947228,0.12971840214605987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106662370307993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08046749913963218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902864925937725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08510856765641099,0.06701277839650964,0.07655687387718499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06956420236910844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07125336872700765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190456610006798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05586894060463698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24518217537104456,0.0,0.0,0.08035631781045395,0.0,0.11418988658508182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561144935628826,0.07795685075703153,0.07588260211487677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061105849761965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,mrscaro,2020/01/18,I’m done for good My husband has had issues with web cams and cheating on me. I tried looking the other way but I just can’t anymore. He knows where I stand but I can’t believe I’m actually done. Income tax I’m getting a lawyer to settle it for good. I’m in a state of shock and hurt. I have a lot of trauma from my child to teen years. He was the first person I opened up to. I thought I meant something to him but honestly he just did the same thing but worse to me than his ex of 6 years prior to me. Besides my counseling is there any advice? He told me he isn’t going to fight me I can have the furniture in the house and the car (it’s paid off) we don’t really owe any debt. He’s working in Texas while I’m in Louisiana in our house.,-0.7313492822966516,1.2112948060606108,1.8853269537480093,97.01325358851679,88.81818181818181,4.928229665071772,17.775119617224878,6.339386263674448,-0.3346363636363634,573,15,141,6,19,197,98,165,0.152,0.789,0.059000000000000004,-0.9468,3,0,1,0,1,0,13.0,2,0,0,2,4,8,2,0,9,0,14,0,0,0,0,17,28,8,0,0,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,6,0,0,3,0,4,2,4,5,0,1,9,1,21,3,23,19,2,20,0,1,1,0,16,10,0,1,5,86,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.17334529074298194,0.0,0.0,0.17358201987544689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.241594604895286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17616532920304193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001328397925215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3635627846529216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15109550362800087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09280650343160303,0.0,0.1009535719271062,0.2979821675938938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40993188201968395,0.19016101435352725,0.0,0.0,0.1854038850893494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09762307450732176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14916793425229435,0.0,0.0,0.15101818846209958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551032741326766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11379697481636347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13675143476458626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801222553529958,0.0,0.0,0.1410216604632586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16973702737163476,0.0,0.12060191676885405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409977073734172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12931976515751265,0.0,0.1810243582450919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22878111665224254
divorce,whtmustangt99,2020/01/18,"16 year relationship ready to end My wife (35f) and I (33m) have been together since I was 17, she was my first and only real girlfriend, real kiss, and sexual partner. 

We have two kids (7/10) and our relationship has completely fell to shit. 

I haven’t been a great husband in the fact that I haven’t treated her the way I should, I don’t do much for holidays for her and have generally prioritized work over our marriage. At the same time, she has her  (admitted) fair share of contributions to things not working out. 

We sat down a few months back and discussed separating/divorce. We mutually agreed that it’s probably what’s best, but that we would wait until the March timeframe to split due to financial reasons. During this time, I started going to a therapist as I’ve been struggling with depression a bit with all of this going on. During that, I really decided that I didn’t want things to end, and that we really want the same things, we just need to work together to get there. 

Problem is that she’s done, she’s checked out, she considers us separated. She’s more interested in hanging out with her new work friends, partying with them, and refuses to let me be part (I’m actually going to stay in a hotel tonight with my son so she can have game night with her friends). She acts receptive to working on things, but says she’s “97% sure she doesn’t want to be with me”. She told me the other day that she’s not in love with me anymore although she “loves me and I’ll always be special to her”

I fully realize I have a lot of room for improvement and am working that regardless of whether she’s with me or not for my own personal happiness (weight loss, work/life balance and boundaries, focusing on making myself happy, etc. but it’s really killing me that she’s not interested in trying to make things better. 

I feel like a stranger in my home, I am getting so many mixed signals such as the best sex life we’ve had in 10 years, getting along, cuddling and spending time together, yet she doesn’t want to be with me. 

My thoughts and emotions are off the charts, extreme highs to extreme lows, I can’t seem to find a balance and I just don’t know what to do.",5.324921253028727,5.838374740654206,6.00390446521288,80.25144513672555,67.94859813084112,9.705226722049153,32.20699203876774,9.725611199111238,2.8960371062651435,1711,70,344,36,27,559,215,428,0.068,0.7659999999999999,0.166,0.99,0,0,0,0,1,0,54.0,9,0,1,11,8,25,2,1,16,0,36,8,1,3,3,76,61,25,1,9,11,3,2,1,4,2,1,1,2,3,22,34,1,2,9,3,2,6,12,7,0,2,11,3,62,18,58,43,13,47,0,3,0,5,53,20,1,3,20,240,84,6,0.0,0.0,0.0850174384954112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07249157425049499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08640053027312973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06699060030732558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828560352293028,0.07705136298470185,0.09511346700413192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09134461409526358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056185778082237535,0.0,0.07503711007385627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08915493622863699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09799929491926324,0.15432653059243984,0.0,0.09716284136852407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04405094858320941,0.0622391938115297,0.0,0.0,0.0796269312366445,0.07410499951609915,0.0,0.0,0.1346187942293918,0.0,0.1365512353462637,0.0,0.14853845850817796,0.0,0.0,0.09605110821521368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854836523370284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09204802217060144,0.08738937374778752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09638637624553367,0.0,0.047879372419554436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08908703066384809,0.061536073523556965,0.04256287481625997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07406708018564834,0.15726004110932004,0.0,0.1163077646829827,0.08832692615983982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695390772805896,0.0,0.0640438913610359,0.06459904909544753,0.0,0.08414191546443245,0.0,0.08175707006952514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0662593760636973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09434345308232484,0.0,0.0,0.07607061612399531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09393107355507087,0.08336294265705989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19832533213181155,0.1674356528397192,0.08957480300035267,0.0,0.18707050138941653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06928204251685725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0793116022650721,0.0,0.0,0.08942835971116476,0.07206731506613845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06166462682250585,0.09285929571764244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910776886217819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08211042439855097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115408859054778,0.2893962992346283,0.0,0.0,0.06916426915071097,0.15240270552354848,0.0,0.0,0.08324776071568084,0.0,0.059149377507619776,0.0,0.0851044675820498,0.0,0.10479572495280562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20554467415736674,0.06915252132454484,0.0,0.1060897949723738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4439754084681115,0.0,0.0,0.06188819315251488,0.0,0.0,0.11220601627264568
divorce,ibreedwookies,2020/01/18,"I can’t shake the hurt and anger. We are not divorced yet but separated. He took the kids to see his mom and I’m angry she gets time with them my family doesn’t. 
His mom is one of the big reasons we are divorcing. He brought her into our house against my wishes while i was pregnant & on bed rest). He let her manipulate him. He chose her over me and I didn’t ask home to choose.
I0 years ago I moved across the country for him, leaving my family behind. At the time he barely talked to his family. I am close with mine.
It’s unfair this horrible woman gets time with my children and my family, who financially supported us doesn’t.
First he chose his mom, then he left our family business, now he’s let our finances crumble while I support us. I am trying to save money to move out and he takes vacations to see family with the kids.

I’m hurt. I’m devastated. I’m mad. I can’t stop crying this morning.",1.0775133689839578,3.296462887700536,3.2008850267379683,88.76720989304813,83.22459893048128,6.734652406417112,20.579946524064173,7.908726449838941,0.9355392513368987,708,21,152,14,20,240,108,187,0.2,0.738,0.061,-0.9846,0,0,0,0,1,0,24.0,7,0,1,1,2,8,2,1,6,0,13,0,0,2,0,22,28,9,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,4,14,0,1,2,0,2,5,6,5,0,2,4,2,33,3,20,22,1,26,0,2,2,0,39,9,0,0,12,91,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09266157897219136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11326070599292094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09772359193393307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11482382574349745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5912625094780173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08891512303337898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922762719974756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048544223646665,0.0,0.0,0.12061624221069832,0.22380798344634006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11068461498395284,0.11357465243068793,0.2137827229978889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3672809076186556,0.0,0.22220258891357425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0708337934332807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10747661671243597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16659742236299765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08739368546513844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23724403603217814,0.0,0.0,0.07859528221011715,0.08401910506749401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18286087849312024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11613923422466528,0.07097057165886933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514789781633169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020698895018407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06731537552874671
divorce,imstalkingyourdog,2020/01/18,"Question about wording My friend received a letter from her husbands lawyer regarding her and her husbands divorce. She’s trying to figure out what this means:

“Wherefor plaintiff demands judgement dismissing defendants counterclaim for divorce in its entirety with counsel fees and costs of suit assessed against defendant”


She is the defendant and her husband is the plaintiff.
 
Thanks in advanced!",10.067258064516126,13.393615080645164,7.326645161290326,64.61996774193551,59.483870967741936,9.476129032258065,51.10967741935484,9.888512548439397,6.504892903225808,333,24,36,7,5,95,49,62,0.0,0.872,0.128,0.8122,0,0,0,0,2,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,9,4,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,2,10,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,1,0,28,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3705618208890499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5224589087287232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5372966338006454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.441579903585534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32563805312842203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,moonlitshroom,2020/01/18,"I discovered his secret yesterday We have been together for 6 years, married 4 of them. Yesterday, he (40m) asked me to take his cellphone to be repaired. Repairs were simple and I was able to leave with his phone. I saw notifications from the app Kik. He was sexting and getting a young women to send him pictures of herself.

 Because of past indiscretions, I am not able to look the other way. This is it. Just a few nights before, I had woken him up when his blood sugar crashed through the night and help him correct it. He is type 2 diabetic, going through unexplained night time drops, and I am waking him up and saving his life while he sleeps the past couple of weeks. Oddly enough, after all the cheating, I'm worried about how he will get up when his blood sugar gets without me there. He has no idea what's going on. By the time I become aware, he has lost some cognitive function.I'm worried his son might find him unresponsive.....I'm unable to sleep. My stomach is in knots.


He has an 11 year old son that he has full custody of. When I break the news, do I offer to still be a part of his life? Should we arrange visitation with me and him? I'm worried about how he will handle this.


Thanks for reading this.",3.272625000000001,5.08149767916667,4.18416666666667,86.43750000000001,74.29166666666666,6.633333333333333,26.166666666666664,7.365786028017652,1.266941666666666,953,34,190,11,20,307,147,240,0.07,0.904,0.026000000000000002,-0.8012,0,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,2,0,1,1,10,4,1,0,11,0,22,11,6,2,2,25,36,12,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,8,10,2,0,3,1,0,4,3,2,0,0,8,4,31,2,30,22,6,33,0,1,2,0,39,6,0,2,20,125,39,2,0.2641351782899197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12346536803647805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08050717653572312,0.14585827618709815,0.11237979112479543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461302754232061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13646112347863462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12070738387238293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20699959331855,0.0,0.15011410881973372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08852212113856632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14908823282245906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139840507850023,0.0,0.0,0.18656648783141486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11090351280949304,0.0,0.14416737449774591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14010284161474928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3718094577261024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385827186478959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14301632915138102,0.25214691519612786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321033285101962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26432593355677675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10546934728982454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992983910227462,0.0,0.0,0.12159009224448615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15401934657968885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10482910502299468,0.10593665381791308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12730844309283232,0.0,0.0,0.4023631424701209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17009439480671665
divorce,anon22321,2020/01/18,"I, 31M, decided to end my marriage to my wife officially. I’ve decided to pursue divorce after learning that she feels I deserve only one day of the week to hang out with, no more then that. 

I’m at least a two days a week kind-a-guy if anything. 

There’s more to the situation that has lead me to go after divorce. Sadly due to finances and a child, we will have to co-live together for a while. 

Oddly, my depression is gone with my thought of ending the relationship, kinda like a weight lifting. But I’m terrified for my son; scared I’ll loose him.  

I wanted him to be happy but my heart breaks thinking about the life he will have. I will always be in his life, and as long as she’s willing to work with me in a positive manner, id never keep him away from her. 

However she has threatened me about taking him to Germany so she can be with her boyfriend before , so I’m very very scared that’ll happen. 

I’m scared that I won’t get custody or 50/50 for ridiculous reasons. (Although she smokes a great deal of weed everyday, has different thoughts on how to raise my son, and many other concerns that have me very worried if she happens to become a custodial parent)... 

I might be over thinking everything and really needed to vent or talk to someone.",3.9693935369632594,5.081437601593628,5.1742297476759616,82.80250442673751,71.39043824701196,7.96821602478973,29.083886675520137,8.344100000000001,2.0360330234617092,982,38,195,15,18,326,148,251,0.11900000000000001,0.823,0.057,-0.9124,3,0,1,0,2,0,33.0,1,0,0,2,6,9,1,3,12,0,19,4,1,3,1,33,37,18,0,4,6,4,2,1,0,7,2,0,0,1,7,10,1,1,9,0,1,4,3,6,0,2,3,2,31,3,39,23,3,26,0,2,0,0,26,7,0,6,15,131,38,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10407542602554744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029290412793756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11751547444248504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13813950135762246,0.10643268736248908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613307160437562,0.12895055803111985,0.10773002627417992,0.0,0.0,0.13068052917369324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215650520011046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11241259243332608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06324350502838888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06534841297035357,0.0,0.07108505832230637,0.0,0.0,0.13789961262506398,0.0,0.12384749190473578,0.22121320915784795,0.13314850958433244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14821875887824354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11117561843193983,0.0,0.13025012803767627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17669344704180906,0.06110709244728608,0.0,0.0,0.11069063669221336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12681008192548154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13268864260140867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09274420682632713,0.09646833735579044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847565053678186,0.09512792160075306,0.0,0.0,0.13888499790850276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801285624402087,0.12860164618859182,0.0,0.13428762121815385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.375676535876799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14059360183114106,0.0,0.0,0.10597870307335246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09404355090485916,0.10053345140070598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16029064977773794,0.0,0.19859689493656488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12218363046818155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3096088655591503,0.07377460674356992,0.0,0.20066103777518846,0.15231205450938862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910587200925032,0.1270234031702824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Awkward_bi,2020/01/18,"I honestly wish that my parents were getting a divorce- I can’t take the constant fighting and yelling. Title says a lot. I know that this might seem odd, but I wish that my parents would just get divorced. It’s obvious they don’t love each other anymore. They’re constantly fighting and screaming at each other, and I don’t want to come home anymore. I can’t remember the last time they hugged, the last time they kissed or said they loved each other. I can barely remember the last time they were happy or managed to hold a conversation without arguing about something or other. It’s hard to deal with, and it’s a constant war zone. I hate it so much. Any advice on dealing with this? Every once in a while they’ll have good days, but then the screaming starts again, and they try to involve me in their arguments. If I don’t side with my mom, she becomes passive aggressive and is mad at me for the next few days and is extremely rude and mocks me; if I don’t side with my dad, he gets mad at me and brings it up for days after the fact, but eventually lets it go. I’m not sure if this is the right place to post it, but I couldn’t think of a better one.",4.06106012658228,4.778385578059076,4.725271624472576,87.56740110759495,70.85654008438819,7.781540084388187,28.314609704641352,7.865858978985527,1.5604685654008432,910,32,195,11,16,292,130,237,0.185,0.6509999999999999,0.16399999999999998,-0.6866,2,0,1,0,7,0,25.0,0,0,8,1,4,21,10,0,14,0,18,4,0,0,3,46,37,22,1,8,13,4,1,0,0,3,0,5,1,0,17,17,0,1,5,0,0,3,9,12,0,1,3,6,28,9,22,29,6,33,0,0,0,4,27,11,0,9,18,130,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891339254439876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07579381798428754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22106856074115885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12309425891734775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09857366537176243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09600936860093218,0.0,0.3613326211148346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156394594251454,0.2298122292583949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09390638297829773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746932858513595,0.0,0.06334294309943894,0.09348390119458223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11864685301564824,0.0998425731516904,0.11003960323249916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117993316558542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061253234884789926,0.272554245421545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139711850569814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947558004747195,0.20118656008379115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11823707170829426,0.0,0.13053577546119186,0.0,0.0,0.08193289348277567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11853458906492725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11869687091397955,0.0755253863966561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.247517121811895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11644766873682502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10674392040812004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525155620312116,0.095182709520602,0.1060200616616256,0.08863418648006065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10146524394808906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08580417894786739,0.0,0.0,0.07888904302553552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10504584454661976,0.0,0.0838009482502793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07141642525077077,0.0,0.0,0.19497245362177745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07567122396708018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06573956366404249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25633751484995804,0.10743948760461013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07917505681879025,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,HangarLolo,2020/01/18,"A reign of leaves I don’t know really where to start. Or how this is going to end. Over a year ago I found out my soon-to-be ex-husband was cheating on me me because he called me to come find him at his mother’s house as he tried to overdose on pills. When I arrived the police were already there and asked me if I was a woman whose name I didn’t recognize. Turns out it was his mistress. 

We were together for 12 years. We met when I was in flight school and he worked for the same company. We were two peas in a pod and he was my best friend.  We always used to be made fun of because we were told that we talked too much together, but honestly, we just never ran out of things to talk about. He was great and I was his person. He was in the military as well and traveled some but it wasn’t until the last five years of our relationship that he stated to go abroad heavily. 

He has always had problems with alcohol but it didn’t get really bad until the last few years of our marriage. He went to rehab and I stood by his side 100%. When he got out I tried to do everything I could to support him but he relapsed. He eventually went back because the military mandated it and once again I stood by his side, but at that point things were very broken down.  

After I found out he had cheated on my a piece of me died. I kicked him out and filed for divorce after he had no remorse and went back to drinking. It’s been over a year since we’ve been separated and I thought I was doing well, but I just found out that he’s expecting a child with the woman he cheated on me with. I thought I made so much progress but now a piece of me feels like it’s dying all over again. I’m so mad at myself for feeling this way because I’ve moved on, but I can’t help but feel so sad inside. I feel insane because I’m glad we never had children, I don’t want him back, but there’s a big part of me that is grieving all over again. I feel terrible and I don’t know why.",1.8368133728311484,3.177053187050358,3.3985110734941455,92.54171921286505,77.08153477218225,6.632501057977147,22.576456481873326,7.285733465282438,0.5802151784454792,1517,43,353,18,34,502,188,417,0.132,0.769,0.099,-0.9671,0,0,2,0,1,0,33.0,10,0,0,3,23,19,4,0,16,0,34,4,0,4,4,72,69,34,3,5,14,1,5,1,1,0,3,0,0,5,16,30,2,0,13,2,0,9,10,9,2,2,39,5,54,10,58,28,11,65,0,2,0,0,54,28,0,3,27,239,70,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08114639344790303,0.0978304784602629,0.0,0.0,0.10101879089421764,0.0,0.15234043022785013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08557934289672638,0.0,0.0,0.2111702700118333,0.07643368391028912,0.2790155399837444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09606760290628084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09347454072425364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07885526296329565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07308877851163932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19001213169456652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08967623641150665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08107897472602903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08227197979529377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314317397744057,0.06539756971975429,0.0,0.0,0.08366766129534724,0.0,0.0,0.30111298835903755,0.0707250644012602,0.0,0.04782687771158956,0.0,0.10405077145621043,0.0,0.0732144401702682,0.10092529580613656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0613586229024537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10562709113314636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006180962249496,0.14923777410245964,0.0,0.09692968127397206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04472276073656172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17323836620544306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729457939916396,0.13458769607751045,0.0,0.1412055523322005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09748916283104624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09913098439605357,0.0,0.0,0.07993087822856837,0.0,0.0,0.08653670836634668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08759325949766766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11728820281441013,0.0,0.0,0.09828176915473992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09264531558594293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07572442656993747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06479384588558734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10388069200079772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14715586400688624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12163277508475374,0.0,0.0,0.14534812669959618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08747223255980913,0.0,0.12430191660734682,0.09957132779243308,0.08942315944858283,0.0,0.0,0.07906283181380602,0.0,0.07553167541211846,0.053993799306894456,0.07266171937112959,0.0,0.0,0.1646143691620733,0.2545808455957748,0.08260234914064771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06664361187185612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29474999284160386
divorce,Dontwaketheking,2020/01/18,"Maybe relatable? It’s been since September 10th 2019 when my divorce was finalized. I come here very often to read what others post. I hope to bring all of my hatred and anger to peace and move on. I read a post about a ball in a box and it really hit home for me, about no matter how small the ball gets, it still hits that grief button. The past gets further and further behind me yet sometimes I have a dream or a thought and it completely fucks my day up. For me, this has been the hardest thing I’ve ever been through and ever had to overcome. I’ve learned so much about myself since the split but truly there’s a part of me that will always be missing from this divorce. I miss the old me and what I used to have, the life I thought I had. This is more to vent and maybe even relate to anybody out there. I’ve moved on and I never want to love again but damnit even though I’ve moved on, I lost a part of me that I’ll never get back.",3.54907228449942,3.8947552562814094,4.136783919597992,92.66854657904913,71.8140703517588,7.128102048705064,23.8504058755315,6.67199483983844,0.4687175106300736,732,17,171,5,13,232,113,199,0.146,0.8009999999999999,0.053,-0.9544,0,0,0,0,2,0,16.0,0,0,0,1,19,8,2,0,13,0,12,3,0,2,5,28,29,16,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,14,11,0,0,3,5,0,5,3,6,0,0,9,0,20,2,25,16,5,29,0,4,0,2,3,9,1,3,13,120,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10784294018928477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996593518196063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11164447145963696,0.13588988591210716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08358543138094142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17120766183681174,0.23447288920742254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14197751931989486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11981906483395285,0.20314204593397292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13000582624534948,0.1287284383168177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09154486111107002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414807388888571,0.0,0.11697487178933115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604141774617602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4132534019180208,0.09527564571395808,0.0,0.19992095219608366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13600015606747048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2807022877679685,0.12372401174251785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482542849548207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25928302561398464,0.0,0.08302920388307239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144235720809123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12818408265778666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035038699752638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08610475937939027,0.0,0.12733766872536026,0.20578607150898745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11193835057100968,0.0,0.1069388860420381,0.07644523598281344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,dopeheadsadboi,2020/01/18,"Cheater Could've just suffocated me with a pillow or something. Why commit to me for 6 years, marry me and have a kid for this? 

Now they're reproducing with him? After she caught him cheating? Fuck that, im so happy to get the hell away from her now.

On the plus side im still young, semi attractive and fighting my shit out.

If you're considering your partner,  don't cheat on them. You're better than that",1.5634823848238495,3.9692771097560993,2.9291869918699187,90.2896612466125,82.78048780487805,5.595663956639567,20.08672086720868,6.937597516519254,0.3439875338753389,321,9,67,4,9,104,65,82,0.223,0.622,0.155,-0.8234,0,0,1,0,2,0,11.0,0,1,1,1,5,9,6,0,4,0,2,2,1,0,1,10,5,6,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,3,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,6,0,0,1,0,10,3,14,4,0,12,1,0,0,1,9,5,3,2,6,42,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26319069392241684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24775159694054424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236604477101144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2589750192619537,0.1463559947146678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29820284348498416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6051754180048042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875486957266864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21565721715159036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2237116168255642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527731173912332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18039408156481315
divorce,TBS_Taway,2020/01/18,"Imputed income, while starting a small business Question regarding imputed income 

I was previously employed (\~2 years ago) working a job that was paying about $150K/year. Things didn't work and I was going to be terminated but I quit before that could happen. After trying a couple of freelance gigs, I started a small business last year - right now that's likely going to generate about 30-50K this year if things go well (small beginnings and all that !). 

Unfortunately it looks like I""m going to get divorced, so for the purposes of child support what is the judge likely to use as my imputed income? I'm not trying to low ball anything here - just trying to get an idea of what I can expect........",5.141846153846156,6.980462569230774,6.0,75.20000000000002,69.46153846153847,8.276923076923078,29.153846153846153,8.841846274778883,2.568061538461539,554,21,92,10,10,182,90,130,0.024,0.8590000000000001,0.11599999999999999,0.8925,5,0,0,0,1,0,28.0,0,0,0,3,7,6,0,0,7,0,8,0,0,1,1,12,22,7,0,3,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,10,2,0,0,2,1,1,4,2,1,1,0,4,1,6,5,14,16,1,20,0,1,1,0,3,5,0,2,14,57,16,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410461381789325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13093835778889867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13539542509171354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12704064241500154,0.17605808448000165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16626238371780874,0.0,0.3617156318317297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14070515943950934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17962183820713126,0.0,0.0,0.15789741156355658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297002295061075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23320713672785284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13361680165725565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17824558308924976,0.1692387376725679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13588362108329913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252452968421895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805621890943852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21141830798315706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3240865901876824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13742455612629526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430637892365357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316757082951757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40986021881814705
divorce,InfiniteLearner2000,2020/01/18,"I know its the right thing to do and I won't be happy if I stay but still having a hard time Pretty much what the title says. There are many reasons why I know this is not a good marriage and I won't be happy if I stay in it but I am still having a really hard time mustering up the courage to actually do it. I have rough plans that I came up with my therapist on how to do it but every time I think about it I get sick to my stomach then my mind runs wild. I start thinking about how all of my friends SOs are friends with her now and ""what will they think? etc. etc. How will this affect her? I care about her immensely but this is simply not working. I then realize these ""fears"" don't hold a candle to the misery of staying in this marriage. There are so many reasons pointing to, this is not a good relationship for me. From being not supported to being borderline/probably just straight-up emotionally abused and gaslighted. Idk just having a really hard time and thought I'd vent here and maybe get some advice. Hope that's okay.",1.4728044596912542,3.705226915094344,2.8625214408233286,91.70314751286452,81.73584905660377,6.118696397941681,21.42881646655232,7.348242739294969,0.6616716981132078,814,25,175,12,22,264,113,212,0.155,0.726,0.12,-0.6081,0,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,0,0,1,2,15,12,0,1,10,1,23,2,1,6,1,39,36,18,0,3,12,0,4,0,2,4,1,1,0,0,16,9,0,1,9,0,0,2,7,1,0,0,2,5,23,11,21,26,5,22,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,4,10,128,39,1,0.0,0.13366357010326946,0.1100880716908879,0.0,0.0,0.11023841355246616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12902667883158325,0.11501917806365985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268981234398238,0.0,0.0,0.2516300193364633,0.0,0.0,0.0950488313708326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12694467105222446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17431627831113816,0.0,0.11787904891292915,0.0,0.0,0.18924241949740345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24018057915340096,0.3031717205416657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11204760053784177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239968617432088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287469759476474,0.11333464505649132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11390778813753034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08292967452668787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10664364230291956,0.0,0.0,0.11477018656174807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14454029259283102,0.231978697756984,0.0,0.12111768557529524,0.0,0.09634068547537876,0.0,0.08971249426549821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07984879312488677,0.36072719850343227,0.1801833445468582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280175265393044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13098322830772774,0.07494716637208257,0.21685579442465386,0.0,0.08955999093200519,0.2631259385287526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10179512881220076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08212835501148692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,MTBguy1774,2020/01/18,"Coping Advice - Heading for Separation It sure looks like my marriage of 9 years (10 year anniversary would be May), is headed for separation.  It has been a tough few days for me.  I have devoted my entire life to my wife, kids and our household.   I have no regrets about that but it has left me rather shallow in terms of people I can lean on or talk to.  Compounding that issue is that due to some family dysfunction I have no relationships with anyone in my family.  She has stated that she has ""signed off as my wife"" and I am ""free to date anyone outside our marriage"".  It feels like the corpse is still warm so the thought of me dating is frightening as hell.  Last time I dated texting was handing over love notes across the room during History class.  I guess to the point - I thought I should check out tinder and state that I am recently separated, not looking for a relationship, looking for friendship and see if I can connect with some one similar.  Even if I was emotionally prepared to date I don't think I would have the time.  So I did in fact create a quick bio and started on tinder.  Did some swiping right, swiping left.... got scared and froze my profile.  I know that I would be recognized on there by someone in my community, news would travel fast and my STBX would likely not handle it well.  Part of me wants to activate again and see what unfolds, part of me thinks I should remain in the shadows and lay low.  

Any thoughts?  Should I seek out some friends on tinder?  Any better place for me to connect with people?  Let this separation pan itself out?..... I'm in such a whirlwind.",3.723220680958384,5.7554734393442635,4.421721311475412,84.25482660781844,73.62295081967213,7.315258511979824,26.484867591424965,8.139509932561175,1.706450189155107,1249,45,239,20,26,399,171,305,0.10800000000000001,0.775,0.11800000000000001,0.517,0,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,2,0,0,1,11,16,1,1,10,0,34,5,3,0,2,49,52,17,0,13,7,2,4,3,1,9,1,0,1,1,14,15,0,0,7,1,2,1,5,5,1,1,9,9,37,12,42,31,8,44,1,2,5,1,14,23,1,9,21,172,51,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10746314773456726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14956915892766906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15378964692159644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09726110000902996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07092269843723148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237034473465358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726353215505708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20734320826643413,0.0,0.055605034741498624,0.07856385947366655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849639221258129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0879544761927543,0.0,0.12114631071094828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22572554015381024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11478196364010475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06043761263759161,0.08964167600563616,0.0,0.0,0.2389693150020315,0.11245359281476147,0.07767631835826186,0.16117996608306598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2770457867810876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09925382234182242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07451972219803499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381774356738909,0.0,0.1524811668897367,0.0,0.11489710068217815,0.0,0.1039588752998216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10858386270931694,0.23613706545318194,0.0,0.09391529669612607,0.0,0.0,0.1101009335246802,0.0,0.17526653637564882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931787297937945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07783858979359054,0.0,0.08782360318135349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10364709837510556,0.0,0.0,0.0883911487086254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409309484923019,0.0,0.2619159209521462,0.1282508550953264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648642033545608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09887783461690987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3906039757388857,0.0,0.0,0.14163643766399578
divorce,thesingingnerd,2020/01/18,"Today I truly held to a boundary for the first time In my marriage, it was a constant game of overlooking, justifying, and forgiving. I'd see a red flag, and tell myself it was fine and could be worked out later. I'd butt heads with her family and tell myself I don't actually have to deal with them. Totally toxic, destined to end in failure. But I didn't want to be alone so I made allowances which ended the marriage anyway. I had values and boundaries, but I refused to uphold them for fear of being alone.

Today, I had a boundary and I stuck to it. I'm still terrified to be alone. But I found a line to draw for me and my son, and even though I loved my ex partner dearly, I knew I wouldn't cross this line. She was mad, she blamed me, and she walked away spitting my name. But I held to it for me and my son and I'm proud of myself. If I keep this up until the day I die, even if that means being alone with my son, I know I'll be in the right place.",1.9610294117647056,3.1210278970588234,3.727598039215689,91.04669117647059,76.40196078431373,6.472549019607843,21.573529411764707,6.9077264865688965,0.35621176470588223,737,18,169,7,16,248,107,204,0.19,0.716,0.094,-0.9675,0,4,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,2,3,6,7,1,1,9,0,16,4,3,2,1,37,30,20,1,5,6,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,8,15,0,4,5,1,0,2,3,2,0,1,12,2,34,5,26,10,1,21,0,0,2,2,21,8,1,2,11,118,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.13899598838341826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5900787087609691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13382234698770104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15392160622088807,0.0,0.11372273690539553,0.0,0.0,0.09185877504476364,0.14684420416090765,0.0,0.0,0.14782501569713188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523102205042065,0.0,0.0,0.1881539143218874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13427501734203218,0.16027894531985262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12115511634061865,0.0,0.15617259745055131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14617937607941933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266027496119488,0.0,0.0,0.07827853685562344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12855312530020965,0.13477541657619013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551534432101194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14881423236032978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12163868976455768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11350223336506535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11374875443291795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24898889115361636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13994163902627876,0.0,0.0830549789213579,0.0,0.2700234022237164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08401183818009553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036943576519268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Benderineurope,2020/01/18,"When to have the TALK?, male 48, sexless 22-year marriage I’m 48 and have been married for 22 years. We’ve had sex maybe once a year or less. I’ve got a strong libido and would love it every day more than once. I suspect that my wife is a closeted lesbian, though her religious beliefs would never allow her to accept that if it’s the case. I always knew something was off sexually, but she’s a good person. We also have 2 children (all sex was to reproduce, though in recent years she offers what I consider pity sex for Christmas). The most recent sexual encounter was a bit of a shocker to me. I’m never allowed to touch her labia, never allowed to caress her breasts, and this last time, was not allowed to kiss her. It dawned on me. I’m making 100k a year and I’m never going to have a normal sex life. I’ve been rejected so many times, thousands maybe. It’s been incredibly difficult. I’ve felt like half a man, emasculated, like there’s something inherently wrong with me. This is mot what I signed up for. She reluctantly went to counseling with me 4 years ago but refused to continue. I’m scared of hurting her and especially the kids but I don’t want to live like this anymore. I want the opportunity to live a full life and have a woman that loves me. Am I wrong in thinking divorce is the only way? She will never agree to an open marriage (religion), and I would feel weird too. I want to forge a new path. I don’t know what to ask you, but I suppose one question is whether divorce is a reasonable idea in this situation. Is it normal for me to want out? We’ve discussed this before and she thinks sex is simply irrelevant. I disagree completely. Am I bad or selfish? I’m incredibly unhappy and have been for many years. All advice is welcome.",2.66068946991404,4.7530105300859615,4.216446095988541,84.25799292621778,76.93696275071632,6.998603151862465,26.379029369627503,7.972316293177498,1.682020702005731,1381,54,272,23,32,460,179,349,0.166,0.73,0.10400000000000001,-0.9775,4,1,2,0,2,0,46.0,1,1,0,2,7,21,0,1,20,0,31,12,1,6,7,59,54,22,0,10,9,1,3,3,0,4,2,0,1,6,16,14,0,1,12,0,0,2,8,10,0,3,13,4,33,11,33,37,7,33,1,3,0,10,33,9,0,5,24,172,49,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09067058786369396,0.08225026332349414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07420189842070687,0.07720639185954394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09201997978536232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674351612220964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0774734447371605,0.0,0.0,0.07895508172270717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10129960178910956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09728562447448276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059840074441768476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07817722641707693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046916001387246255,0.0,0.08909027270584598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05273310980099497,0.07782550960065722,0.07421040821676078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933062751869463,0.1047454661427471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050993424094220426,0.07563396040281224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13107670112226885,0.13599343202470635,0.0,0.16386561297684218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674881596001655,0.0,0.06193618326864154,0.18814333509384454,0.1864344480557028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35781608302528506,0.08961446574068893,0.0,0.0,0.18182353068159104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19763070109057976,0.06287501493836832,0.07056885445838927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08101821291908308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394291070019784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095400705705318,0.18323235214889366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09289618420336926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10429671182182096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428642550674975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07457884478829828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11890859534049035,0.1823259256996368,0.0,0.1082099368077058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189132022819545,0.07365016851488533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08601467338908328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19774011565128535,0.20289649660153736,0.0,0.4182634482447845
divorce,wrenbird2013,2020/01/18,"Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end. I found out today the magistrate signed our final decree. I am officially divorced. 

Of course, I felt many mixed emotions all day. Relief. Sorrow. Dazed. I cried more than a few tears. But more than anything, I felt the peace of closure. 

The last nine months have been the most difficult of my life. I’ve had moments of unbearable grief and dark, gripping fear. I know there are difficult days ahead. But I feel oddly hopeful. 

Today marks a new start. Change is painful, but change is also hopeful. Anything can happen. New dreams will grow and be reached for and achieved. 

It’s a pretty great feeling. 

Anyway, I truly want to send each one of you my best. I’m still in the trenches with you. I’ve far from reached the end of the hard days. I haven’t cried the last of my tears. But I feel hope, and I wanted to share my thoughts with you, with the chance of maybe spreading that hope around.",1.832345914954608,4.56107185714286,2.019163879598665,94.6801839464883,85.92307692307693,4.703678929765887,21.09985666507405,6.280692351149826,0.2435004300047785,746,24,148,7,23,224,114,182,0.11699999999999999,0.63,0.253,0.987,0,0,0,0,1,0,30.0,1,3,0,3,5,15,0,1,12,0,11,2,0,0,1,33,31,9,1,6,4,0,7,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,11,0,0,8,1,0,3,1,7,0,2,6,7,19,8,22,23,8,27,0,2,0,0,7,4,0,6,20,89,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915554695034417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884266210031052,0.10191798870421236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12014738042806672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422248109774213,0.0986206899244584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515178931382805,0.2215045528717144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287828269226323,0.2028035701198688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646050601712032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12883006586477705,0.1736646888687191,0.0,0.21985156497012665,0.1254152644195489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12552943854027065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12622267594065548,0.0,0.0,0.1012407601507957,0.0,0.10255815230887076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4548469703416493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06291923770014497,0.1866448946042539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08086578084680562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11607217433168338,0.11501790241657454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09138268761182072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3317177050647772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07757957188750028,0.0,0.12182258185008163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164747647262793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08103471529947191,0.0,0.09142972270241194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09089014477710827,0.0,0.0,0.2170411879370143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13505517676777598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,dembgthrowaway,2020/01/18,"Not sure how this will work... Can anyone tell me about their initial divorce process? I’m trying to understand the legal stuff. We’re in Alabama and currently have a one year old and one on the way. We don’t own anything and have been working on paying a lot of debts these last few years which we haven’t projected to be able to pay off until 2025. We’ll have been married for 5 years in May. And there’s infidelity from my husband. I’m still unsure if this is the direction we’re headed but since it’s highly likely. 
I’m mostly wondering how alimony will work (if at all) and child custody/support and whether or not lawyers are necessary and what exactly mediation looks like...",4.426343283582089,5.9055093955223885,5.1345074626865665,82.11758208955227,70.71641791044777,8.64358208955224,29.817910447761196,9.120678840339163,2.521002388059701,545,22,105,11,10,176,98,134,0.034,0.955,0.01,-0.2337,2,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,3,0,1,3,5,3,0,0,5,0,15,1,1,2,3,26,21,15,0,2,7,1,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,1,7,9,0,0,2,0,3,0,4,0,0,2,2,1,6,3,14,14,5,16,0,0,1,0,8,7,0,7,10,71,13,8,0.1898447423247647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13274385794359675,0.0,0.15622604711290955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19483547583469527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20058139346574375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15474880323490853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18549710334308764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594217699326645,0.0,0.0,0.1613992110122843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992101217468102,0.0,0.25728742123961856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15704153265248144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15161025645300802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2173268100051966,0.0,0.2154335638281627,0.17892642292085165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16593267253757965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12889211830234135,0.0,0.0,0.1976350719945136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15068991991200908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20587852481668686,0.4146277003571915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3667613692583288
divorce,Msmckitten,2020/01/18,"I [30F] am strongly considering separation from my husband [33M] but I dont know how to do it I have been married to this man for 5 years and I keep falling for his lies. He is, what I have realized, a pathological liar at minimum and abusive at worst. 

The first lie- I found out 5 months into our marriage that he had a gambling addiction, and he promised to kick it and I believed him. He put us in serious debt. 

The next lie- he had been abusing his prescribed adderall. His moods were all over the place and, I thought he had bipolar disorder. He abused adderall for almost 8 years before it finally came out what was really going on. 

During all this time, he would drink alcohol excessively and doing crazy stuff. 

Dont ask why, I had two kids with him who are obviously everything to me. 

This past week he got blackout drunk, drove home and terrorized me and the kids. It got to the point that I had to call the police on him. He didnt lay a hand on me but was verbally abusing me and making my 2 year old cry. 

I made him stay at his parents for the weekend and then he came home. 

He is currently mad at ME for stating that I feel anxious because I cant trust him at all and dont know if i ever will. 

I feel that he lacks empathy and doesnt care about me as a human. 

Did i mention i gave birth 2 months ago and am exclusively breastfeeding and sleep deprived? 

Taking care of two kids alone is HARD. but i think I need to call my marriage quits for my and my kids sake.",2.3131227712684637,4.042107821192055,3.8658278145695375,88.03478858889456,76.74834437086093,7.295160468670403,26.184921039225674,8.139509932561175,1.5529201222618445,1150,44,248,20,26,382,164,302,0.264,0.721,0.013999999999999999,-0.998,3,1,2,0,1,0,31.0,2,0,0,3,3,12,2,1,11,0,29,8,2,3,5,46,51,22,0,4,4,2,4,0,0,2,4,0,2,6,15,21,3,1,8,3,2,6,6,6,0,3,21,4,41,5,31,28,5,41,0,1,0,0,40,15,0,2,18,157,56,0,0.0,0.4586880495106998,0.0,0.10550774048085547,0.0,0.0,0.08579227756670504,0.10343157848333588,0.09691418023831304,0.10023798530840453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10933722603515328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09047902719775046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058998009978293325,0.0,0.08235519271002151,0.10904128279382867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19765249945172225,0.22138790547932094,0.1973534090163193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063115655779348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11092168687807924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3402868164845277,0.0948104806443774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08754575179703475,0.0,0.0,0.08698230724316429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09787277148290494,0.0,0.0,0.1060210304837643,0.0,0.08232355847774496,0.0,0.10611754870257538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0550040013271328,0.0,0.1548123904486574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08669854536943004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941624523861328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602516489539573,0.0,0.0,0.1063787960595726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09157840149877876,0.06460339470898456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15450251217539954,0.0,0.0,0.07176335781043308,0.0,0.0,0.1029298036247411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10155746319062164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074660524950423,0.0,0.0923903113912838,0.0,0.0,0.10111762119557367,0.0,0.09149120482650944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729363260290744,0.0,0.10294061889893294,0.0,0.0,0.062001659122497325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09685288154767567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10315778572473773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11079336388082593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07276876070531332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062014629524015125,0.0,0.07683488014546265,0.05643493746378395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890858284719688,0.0,0.1164180156224917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07763347353565345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08733159126395483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06875185643805566,0.0,0.0,0.18697520955052135
divorce,wondermomny,2020/01/18,"Grief - my friend shared this with me when my husband dropped the divorce bomb and I thought my world was imploding. So grief is like this:
There’s a box with a ball in it. And a pain button.

In the beginning, the ball is huge. You can’t move the box without the ball hitting the pain button. It rattles around on its own in there and hits the button over and over. You can’t control it - it just keeps hurting. Sometimes it seems unrelenting. 

Over time, the ball gets smaller. It hits the button less and less but when it does, it hurts just as much. It’s better because you can function day to day more easily. But the downside is that the ball randomly hits that button when you least expect it. 

While it may get smaller, the ball of grief usually lasts forever, and sometimes the pain button will be activated when you least expect. Also, it's not unusual for certain pain button triggers to cause the ball of grief to grow larger for a period, after you thought it had permanently shrunk.

For most people, the ball never really goes away. It might hit less and less and you have more time to recover between hits, unlike when the ball was still giant.",4.124318753142283,6.027129126696835,4.362134238310709,85.65631347410763,72.2126696832579,7.2640522875817,25.85243841126195,7.984000788550335,1.5021430869783812,911,30,174,13,18,284,114,221,0.162,0.779,0.06,-0.9779,0,0,0,0,1,0,28.0,0,7,0,2,13,15,0,0,20,0,14,4,0,3,2,32,27,19,4,2,6,1,0,1,1,3,4,0,0,0,19,11,0,2,3,9,0,2,5,10,0,0,5,0,12,5,24,12,11,32,0,6,0,0,11,12,0,5,18,125,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11312064682433327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12592397666446573,0.0,0.0,0.13290061199339248,0.0,0.0,0.0862289952606073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12510449501472354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14531213868287035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15865259669492382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18245214936387927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12378727656080035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10928694587078763,0.0,0.147807667335037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3028586888889093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12573074140614635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11530382247288365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06910723904157688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15006025283019594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503431283143239,0.1039849053558078,0.0,0.10909798163512806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6020677664122942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09806633577671456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09061900176956222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12877433397447438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.279803083010504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11296528134430545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2245972200875948,0.1649658338268605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557915058125769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13635652880232424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,achibeerguy,2020/01/18,"First mid-day into night alone in the ""divorced guy apartment"" I'm sitting here crying my eyes out trying to figure out who might be interested/able to talk to me at 6:30 P on a Friday night about how sad I am.  My divorce in some sense had been approaching for a year and a half, gathered momentum over the summer, even more momentum as I fell into clinical depression when I really understood it was likely, and finally hit (we told kids, I moved out to apartment, papers were filed) last weekend.

This week I still saw my kids every morning and evening and put them to bed every night before going to the apartment all but one night.

Today I saw my kids this morning (thankfully!!!!) before school... but their mother had the day off and made it clear that while I could work at the house during the day (I WFH) I needed to be gone before the kids got home.  I left shortly after for my apartment complex and spent most of the afternoon in the clubhouse happy to have the one lonely salesperson there to make noise.  I walked out about 5:30 P into a snowstorm, took my dog for a walk, luckily ran into some other people with their dog so the dogs could have fun, and then ended up back at the apartment.

I started sobbing when I considered how much I have lost, how lonely it is here, how much I want to be with my kids right now.  I'm a few days into a transition between depression meds (thankfully I can taper up on one while tapering down on the other) and there really wasn't a better time to do it:  90+ days in the med I'm getting off left me depressed in the mornings, still crying many/most days of the week, and disturbed my sleep.  Still, I'm sure that I'm going to experience some additional depression until the new med can kick in... and I have to pray that it is a good fit.

To put things into perspective for those who are familiar with depression, I was in a Partial Hospitalization/Intensive Outpatient (PHP/IOP) program for 5 weeks from part of September into October and I left when it was clear that they had done what they could for me.

Wife just called to let me know that I can video chat with the kids before bed, and now I'm trying to cry it all out and put myself together before that.

Sorry for how this is rambling... and it has the distinction of being my first Reddit post.  Any support greatly appreciated.",7.034089743589739,6.338870756043956,7.364189560439558,76.03185210622712,64.51648351648353,10.484432234432235,32.14514652014652,9.827888789773867,2.8931849816849824,1834,60,350,33,24,600,226,455,0.121,0.789,0.09,-0.9274,0,5,0,0,2,0,62.0,1,0,5,5,24,21,0,1,29,0,33,3,2,7,6,62,62,30,0,5,3,2,0,1,0,1,1,0,3,7,24,32,0,0,4,3,1,13,1,11,0,6,21,3,40,10,69,31,11,96,1,10,3,0,24,42,1,5,40,253,64,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07607033039022236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049947390514446084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05647724051483617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3124956422221952,0.0,0.0,0.0649590888769374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07499896815306947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759275711697257,0.0,0.2420386610804283,0.28420862219830645,0.0,0.31630474228755306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516315353751205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06505342948192944,0.0,0.0,0.0970238730133711,0.0,0.12376679014609107,0.0,0.0,0.0718465711059414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045906741239707,0.0,0.12495024262575193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03837372669135298,0.0,0.08348476958840867,0.06160498367752972,0.058743347911951974,0.08097705522119313,0.0,0.0727254050977172,0.0,0.07818712473504344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736746746103572,0.0,0.0,0.08474952412299712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04036528736021628,0.059870200914724614,0.0,0.0,0.2394055121313136,0.07510590492506067,0.0,0.035883149381748615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08017754051728374,0.0,0.0,0.06949859613784988,0.04902733793703201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447536472425335,0.0,0.0,0.07791708283019871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07806396271419018,0.10798596338321614,0.0544610141729741,0.0,0.07093686539996734,0.0,0.2757051699147088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14931149010953246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0795373957881665,0.0,0.05091983162399934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07034320765807824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215076077456095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09410577596265514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06272448187837892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0743336422872452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07350138448920936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08221940441811565,0.05198711377917666,0.0,0.17596781994098654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08334830693706899,0.06922419214423922,0.0,0.0,0.0590349943026051,0.0,0.1352427285493082,0.0,0.0,0.04879581410226687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04282831827887538,0.0,0.0696204391559253,0.07018303736183874,0.08160380933901007,0.09973320449362752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04332173448839735,0.0,0.1767474863853608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05347126699586969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04729832348993638
divorce,pmd92199,2020/01/18,"I wish it was all a bad dream My wife said “Get your stuff and get out”, almost a month and a half ago. 
We had a beautiful life together these last 7 years. I didn’t understand what was going on that night and I didn’t believe it was true. The next day after listening to why she was so adamant I leave, I turned to family who said it had to be something bigger. 
It was. She had been seeing a man for a month (I think it was longer) and after pressing for more information she finally unveiled the truth that she in fact had been cheating. I couldn’t believe it and wanted to forgive her right away, she is only human. People make mistakes. She didn’t care about the forgiveness she still wanted me out.  She wanted freedom from responsibility, freedom from one man, freedom to be the wild and crazy girl she couldn’t really be in her early 20’s because of our newborns at the time. 
I forced myself to stay in the house for another few days thinking she could change. Maybe if not for me maybe for the kids. She didn’t. I ended up grabbing my clothes and moving into my parents at 27. I was the bread winner in the home and she has a relatively wealthy family to fall back on but I wanted everything to stay the same in our home for the peace of mind of my children. 
I wanted to hear from her every day but got used to the absence of her love and attention. I found that if you were to get a wayward spouse back it was through yourself also becoming independent of the other person. I have started doing that, but still I notice no remorse or regret. I wish the world wasn’t so cruel and selfish. I am moving on the best I can, and I know for my kids sake I have to also. 
For all of you out there who feel this way, know it’s going to be okay and you can do it too. You will find happiness again and you will find love again one day, right now focus on just being the best you can be for you.",2.9783676975945004,4.309508829896913,4.23441237113402,87.7396254295533,74.10309278350515,7.029003436426118,23.758075601374568,7.554174236665415,0.9427626116838492,1478,42,314,18,30,486,190,388,0.076,0.767,0.157,0.9867,1,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,3,8,0,2,15,17,2,0,24,1,41,4,0,3,5,62,73,23,0,14,8,3,3,0,0,2,1,4,2,9,20,18,1,0,13,1,0,5,9,6,0,3,24,8,55,11,52,38,7,54,0,1,1,2,50,21,0,4,25,237,75,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08113660407971761,0.0,0.09165495653839648,0.0,0.0,0.1463944262511464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959781103172223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0859962764861674,0.14076319651722774,0.0764244630756744,0.05579637600106973,0.1010886677586066,0.0,0.20624791977363027,0.19211202693558194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09332183423321286,0.0,0.09682753640813063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07307996120094107,0.0,0.0,0.2361193864625959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08106919349112797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07711871563140607,0.0,0.0822620546382124,0.0,0.172574338687866,0.0,0.04628076404556817,0.0,0.0,0.10026760704419464,0.1673151355310648,0.0,0.0,0.10035888752687054,0.0,0.0,0.14346332386585908,0.0,0.1040382189413237,0.0,0.07320560769995298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974363257116356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10316195607767806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18362587488310828,0.0,0.0,0.10561434845363196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006059578223884,0.07460988515073995,0.0,0.09691798783575788,0.0,0.0,0.06465096872215828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16522038890102214,0.0,0.06109757436656332,0.0,0.18391014675810072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09242009812102024,0.0,0.14611815323296815,0.1945656838804736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09734413121519424,0.08589553211998055,0.0,0.0,0.1042085156193908,0.0,0.0,0.1240473887237642,0.06961336016676363,0.0,0.0,0.10163421231614794,0.0,0.0,0.0634559886440475,0.07992123549815099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058637026678727486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15633374592315907,0.17413365795159186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07293826227062598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07046494462251958,0.0,0.0,0.06478602926199421,0.19511948290638775,0.146193360920047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047809611170334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11729858643578216,0.0,0.0,0.05337239326351319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09955931567030353,0.0,0.0952868759888578,0.0,0.07905329380308836,0.0,0.0,0.26993642791628203,0.07265295358014758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08259238412834884,0.0,0.21051199382201555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058942886936910015
divorce,mermaid2010,2020/01/18,401k downpayment If you're going through a divorce... how should the downpayment be handled for a home in the process? Split in half with the equity? Or solely given to the spouse that took it out of their retirement?,2.9407500000000013,5.9311415750000025,3.1650000000000027,86.62000000000002,83.25,7.2,25.5,8.238735603445708,2.1331,173,7,31,4,5,53,34,40,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,6,0,2,0,0,1,0,6,5,3,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,8,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,2,0,23,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3549547404174385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6264897209535932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6939148087443283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,woodentyoulike,2020/01/19,"A Realization So today I think I finally realized I (37m) can’t continue in my marriage. Everything I do is wrong and I don’t feel like I can be myself except when she is not around. Everything needs to be done on her schedule and at her pace and EXACTLY as she would do it and if it’s not she cops an attitude and when I confront her  on things like this she calls me a child or tells me I’m completely unaware of everything that goes on. We have 2 amazing kids that are 5 and 3 that I’m most sad for. I’m sad that I’m probably going to miss a lot of the small events in their life like seeing them play with their cousins and having fun, I don’t have any nieces or nephews for them to play with on my side. Or I’m going to miss birthday parties or their first time to Disney. I’m scared that if we divorce that they will be bored and hate dads house.
I don’t know that divorce would put me in a pinch financially. I live in NY and my wife makes around 150k and I make 100k and I would expect to get partial custody. Just looking for some advice of anyone that has gone through anything similar. Thanks everyone!",3.104788838612368,4.086570217948721,4.351739567621923,88.37920814479641,73.3162393162393,7.899044746103573,26.585218702865767,8.313332769828598,1.5219716440422326,877,30,195,14,17,289,133,234,0.11,0.7829999999999999,0.106,0.1811,0,0,0,0,2,0,14.0,2,0,6,1,6,17,2,1,6,0,22,1,0,2,1,42,44,21,0,7,10,4,1,3,0,4,1,0,0,2,12,17,0,0,4,2,0,4,6,9,0,1,2,3,34,8,28,35,3,26,0,4,2,0,26,13,0,9,12,129,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466118870359553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10202854231912922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10490754652683516,0.0,0.12346553399981007,0.2671248644711369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15320190539049894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573082222331821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15353729018782755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14336430639927705,0.4045237548286957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07586190469952732,0.107184611032539,0.0,0.1643553603079451,0.0,0.12761919077473924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783867857228502,0.0,0.17053602318804076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14812791615161391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17311956279294258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08245498688193703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10597373939426462,0.2198976996113833,0.0,0.13248313099587958,0.0,0.12599111556413947,0.0,0.0,0.12755388837546186,0.0,0.0,0.20029826471338708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112486124311715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16176246776840494,0.0,0.0,0.15082601979206808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502106160927321,0.0,0.1195579981323411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13113668560058558,0.13813152510096274,0.0,0.0,0.0996761939483018,0.0961359905037338,0.0,0.0,0.08748626983244576,0.0,0.14221507569333847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3197404161747085,0.16403907231998271,0.0,0.0
divorce,IrishPool23,2020/01/19,"We had the talk... I sent her an email after the talk.  

We need to think about the following if you want to be civil?  I’ve told only my mom what is going on and we need to agree to make it public.  

- BOYS are the most important thing in all this.  I’m not going to be nasty and bad talk you.  I do not want to get into a nasty situation.  
- ch 7 bankruptcy (I’ll be fucked but that’s ok)
- 403b retirement she can get half of it.  so how do you handle that  money? Taxes ect...
- house has to be foreclosused. If you want to talk to a lawyer, then do so cause you have to protect you.  I’m not going to fight u.  I just want this over and civil. 
- where do I go.  Basement or spare room until we get finances straight then I’ll leave",-1.2089431643625197,0.8269770580645179,1.2963133640553008,98.91494623655916,94.54838709677419,4.5007680491551465,13.832565284178187,6.1826913282559595,-0.8609692780337941,544,10,133,6,21,184,94,155,0.069,0.8190000000000001,0.111,0.5473,0,0,0,0,1,0,27.0,4,6,0,0,6,4,2,0,7,1,14,1,0,3,1,28,35,13,0,8,8,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,8,8,0,1,1,0,3,6,3,3,0,1,3,0,17,1,19,28,2,17,0,0,0,1,23,7,1,4,4,85,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13875474346039213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17071434015538284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15363226549580922,0.2604691730614003,0.0,0.3777794648026605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191751321967542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17596238164646505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11092754749078644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19462994999266975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464431882403239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263886397447213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867951469267484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5342820891096474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11040370972482116,0.10648249666502456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15879369628434498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3920729912782088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,sailorseifert,2020/01/19,"We are getting a divorce 26M. My wife and I have been together just shy of 3 years. I was engaged before I met my wife, and that previous fiancé has always felt like the love of my life. My wife is without a doubt the best person I know, and has been head over heels in love with me since we met. I was in a low place when we met and still recently broken up from my ex. But I could tell she was a great woman and I wanted to make her happy. We were married 3 months after meeting. Since then, she has been nothing short of a phenomenal and caring partner. But this entire time, I have not been able to love her as much as I loved my ex. My wife has supported me unconditionally and has been a pillar of strength and sacrifice these past 3 years. We had some low lows but no real highs. Last spring I deployed overseas and when I left we were at a low place. I had no hope that we would survive deployment. But while I was gone, we worked on ourselves and worked on communicating and within a few months we were stronger than ever. Our relationship remained high the rest of deployment and stayed so even after I got back last thanksgiving. And though this is without a doubt the best our relationship has ever been, I still knew I didn’t love her as much as my ex. I have been in therapy trying to get help. But yesterday my therapist said it seems like I had already made the decision to leave. There are no real problems in our relationship. We are not bad off. I am not unhappy. I am just not as happy as I could be either. And haven’t been in years. When I finally confessed to my wife my lack of happiness and for how long, she immediately jumped to saying we are done. And I did not fight her on it. Today, she is leaving. And I can’t stop crying. Can’t stop feeling sad. This is my fault for not being able to love her more. I can’t do more to change it. And she deserves so much happiness and love. But my heart is still broken. Even though I know it’s for the best. Anyone have any advice?",2.099926289926291,4.0175706879606885,3.544226044226047,89.24444717444722,77.99262899262901,6.660442260442261,22.056511056511056,7.63319966405982,0.7921606879606881,1558,45,336,23,37,512,184,407,0.13,0.6829999999999999,0.187,0.9828,0,0,0,0,2,0,42.0,14,0,0,7,19,33,1,2,15,0,52,11,3,3,2,75,79,41,0,7,17,8,2,2,1,1,1,2,0,3,10,31,0,2,8,0,0,2,16,11,0,0,30,4,65,22,43,44,13,56,2,5,0,7,56,23,0,5,32,253,75,2,0.1475050591464225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07207011831924183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08138775035686564,0.0,0.061368012796872026,0.0,0.0,0.05015424919178691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05156948350931587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05671114276983745,0.06158028154841307,0.0,0.0,0.06275797053632434,0.0,0.2321961888528137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07519561924831841,0.0,0.0780203970520245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11777078713251644,0.0,0.08101369058418421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0754744440847337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09742570041286708,0.13342677082194726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03729149496777948,0.0,0.0708139943313946,0.08079229115228778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07706530535720363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05898663532149389,0.08131242422376726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3140437566135928,0.0,0.0,0.07569137294741175,0.0,0.0,0.08739710264884014,0.04943476593632255,0.15584719357791174,0.0,0.07325290312079921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08106492291631685,0.1202363104423233,0.0,0.15618655958686906,0.08013233917828312,0.0,0.052093592758983516,0.07206352113061107,0.0,0.0,0.06526866781553423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4659517620157926,0.06978642674373432,0.04923038618789635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177371309303234,0.0,0.16264978593337814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0707675412422185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07040513475030039,0.0,0.06439786405564793,0.15411139195653428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.070571210304878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16789305027578152,0.0,0.0,0.07282172538208218,0.23754784694383824,0.0,0.0,0.07015554478345584,0.05865097172639889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06714153297215965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12201770920114327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07861038343873313,0.17669659616157835,0.12332083428573955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08369349655266288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06446296162131543,0.0,0.08434244516365402,0.08563237131021853,0.0,0.0,0.1449229716872686,0.0,0.04300569309627125,0.0,0.06990877437847345,0.0,0.0,0.050073126337021705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04350115280443107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14218961328684065,0.0,0.10738543983537116,0.0,0.0,0.05239168094536017,0.0,0.0,0.1424826329204473
divorce,poolguy8,2020/01/19,About to tell the wife about the divorce... After all the abuse I am done. I know she will beg and cry to get her way. I feel I am not strong enough to deal with it. Later she will get mad and try and ruin my life. I am so scared.,-1.6080128205128226,0.12094294230769442,0.4976923076923079,106.93064102564104,90.73076923076924,3.466666666666667,10.589743589743591,3.1291,-2.194971794871795,171,1,48,0,6,56,36,52,0.336,0.664,0.0,-0.9672,0,0,0,0,2,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,3,4,1,1,3,0,6,1,0,0,1,8,10,4,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,9,1,7,7,2,3,0,1,0,0,7,0,0,0,2,33,10,0,0.0,0.360635540088796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3343425137043133,0.0,0.3137980751215988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3114821109094348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3145015565766578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539015452500965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3180475759926448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16727697445732093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21498962243706984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3047332652825486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26603785698293897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20665118213762554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.241599335135414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,thefierytrial1863,2020/01/19,"First post ever Recently separated here. Looking for advice on how to deal with the loneliness, as well as people to talk to. New city, new job as well...",2.7305747126436763,5.266107344827585,4.455862068965517,80.33367816091955,79.0,8.004597701149425,23.459770114942533,8.841846274778883,2.0512666666666672,119,4,22,3,3,40,23,29,0.08800000000000001,0.846,0.066,-0.1779,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,2,9,1,0,7,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,5,16,0,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503715157105866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2641476627623985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317622311863261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21793737788937925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542550542586276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21515708724303675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4949104256568924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17762805983405072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24538430509890205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529825978612853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059368848215836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4607382874055383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Grenkorn,2020/01/19,"Simultaneously Opposite Emotions 35m.  Struggling to find out how someone can have so much bitter resentment and contempt for a person, but feel that they dont want to lose their best friend?  Nothing has worked, 7 years, 3 failed (at least 8 sessions each) attempts at marriage counseling.  I am ready to do it and know their is no other way.  How the hell do people deal with this?",5.63774647887324,7.042840380281696,5.570535211267606,80.4163661971831,67.73239436619717,7.933521126760564,31.10140845070423,8.238735603445708,2.2483949295774646,301,12,55,4,5,94,63,71,0.258,0.565,0.17600000000000002,-0.6733,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,3,5,3,9,4,1,2,0,8,0,0,2,0,12,11,6,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,7,0,0,0,2,4,2,8,11,4,5,1,2,0,0,7,3,1,0,1,37,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757653104645145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27090866127770896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3079694047393104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29558560596400163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13286653073355525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401708577600285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20301869467132475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14441382788998236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29397711417040345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931692717977241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521389314512976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18217454355552792,0.2294442953042743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2226477264768484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2747086476820996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15499103109244922,0.20857792840748535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19130274684013654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16921796906845515
divorce,JimpJimp,2020/01/19,"Wife told me today shes leaving out of the blue. Married 3 years. Shes american I'm canadian. We decided to buy a house here in canada and have a family. 1 year maternity leave paid here. Anyway. I became ill with a rare disease that had ruined my back. I was very athletic, adventurous,  traveler... etc. I've been off work 7 months trying to recover as best as possible.  But I'm mostly house bound. We recently also went through a miscarriage. She went home for Christmas and hung out with her friends,  which includes her best friend who also separated from her husband (last week). 

Anyway - she told me she wants to travel and be free. And that my current state of disability isnt congruent with that lifestyle . She also proceeded to tell me she hates it here, everyone here, including all of my friends and family (who have been loving and supportive to her).  

We have a house together,  shes pushing for me to move in with my parents.

Side note- this was never a discussion , or anything until tonight.

I value the institution of marriage, respect it deeply and feel devastated. I've just been laying in our bedroom for hours because everytime I speak to her she blows up. A friend recommended I dont leave , because it's her decision to do this. 

Any advice ? I'm gobsmacked. 

My best buds want me to rebel and fight fire with fire but I don't have a vengeful heart. I'm truly just heartbroken. Even if she somehow changes her mind here, nothing will be the same.",2.968028133947467,5.597452079422382,4.322898045562057,81.08223826714804,78.74729241877256,8.008415286941366,27.963276484501428,8.841846274778883,2.656777517739325,1154,51,210,29,29,380,161,277,0.084,0.7929999999999999,0.124,0.8445,2,0,0,0,1,0,44.0,4,0,0,4,16,16,3,0,11,0,20,3,1,0,2,36,35,18,0,3,6,3,3,0,5,1,1,1,2,0,11,18,0,1,3,2,3,6,4,4,0,0,11,5,37,13,33,21,7,29,0,1,1,1,39,8,0,4,14,144,48,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033615161410042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25376324016454604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07193021682597628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08704331581414952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08133398189821389,0.0,0.12895818077281376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3330111103145229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11189528638622086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12396680501303485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11796641237416106,0.06986299135216363,0.0,0.0,0.10107196878448656,0.0,0.0,0.19942937481129547,0.0,0.053482713070629316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32688414561991697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044303180715731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125343169218903,0.0,0.0,0.10610034407650402,0.0,0.10416647399146492,0.3661483562971534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08622025072491743,0.0,0.3359994400502305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09546552261227556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068019876443518,0.0,0.08442811419529088,0.11242144397318568,0.0,0.0,0.08157973541922535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10149338625983398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11744994983470848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11924473923715855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10443945589425037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12003153174393386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09245148479712698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10026176007247076,0.20214393756897314,0.0,0.07181387205705171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08727495476091535,0.12477695923379728,0.0,0.08484584071493,0.0,0.0,0.19610785065680345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0770050204696911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13623048688208414
divorce,vera_hart,2020/01/19,"The walls of a drywall prison That is what this is. For me, it became a prison. We call it a home and our son calls it home but every moment here is part of a sentence I signed up for. I creep around the second floor, hoping that nothing you hear makes you think to come up and check on me. I live and can finally breath in between the moments you leave the house. I subscribe to divorce subs and hide legal papers underneath my folded shirts. I plan and now it is in that planning I am able to survive another day. 

I know you are a good man. You didn't know what you were walking into with me. But it is impossible for me to not secretly hate you for forcing my hand. You know I will never leave that little boy and he is your golden anchor to keep me firmly here. You know what I am and who I am enough to know that each year a little more of me dies. I try to convince myself that you don't have that power....and while you don't, the years I surrender do. I watch them go by too quickly and I know what I am missing and I feel the restlessness building inside of me that no part of my body can stay still anymore. Fuck, don't you see how much I want to feel still?

But one day. Oh, one day this will be over. The second I can, I will, and these grey walls will no longer stare back at me like, ""why are you still here?"". I will get out. I won't get back the time I gave up, but I will live the last of my best days in freedom.

Thanks for letting me vent.",2.0147204301075234,3.1139659935483905,3.2268548387096807,94.93361559139784,76.16129032258064,6.06989247311828,20.981182795698928,6.21433560688645,-0.0383010752688171,1118,25,266,7,24,362,157,310,0.078,0.787,0.135,0.97,1,0,0,0,1,0,37.0,2,14,1,4,13,10,2,1,15,0,31,5,4,2,1,39,55,16,1,2,5,1,3,1,0,7,0,1,2,2,21,17,0,1,10,0,1,3,9,4,0,4,3,8,54,6,35,43,7,42,0,1,4,1,28,18,1,1,21,198,75,2,0.10947795988134183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147971864947543,0.0,0.0,0.1085727185969224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974585949697515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16836358695516362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11489036464209228,0.0,0.0,0.12160533338878572,0.0,0.0,0.2235784748171223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09430556859672402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824169089512665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11362083801605267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131199978607843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09223990294572264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11071069192129036,0.0,0.0,0.11992775380960714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012106098059574,0.11439543100368192,0.0,0.062218847521142075,0.09182491860184414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10808682009078424,0.0,0.0,0.12338961740204013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21963064009644348,0.10873631637393473,0.0,0.12632286691081046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09730904095094377,0.0,0.0,0.3609973419287368,0.08923914913195359,0.0,0.231842704289655,0.0,0.11194863133738736,0.0,0.05348540125267028,0.21945135338625127,0.19334208860885835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07307738833108625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08047889720829769,0.0,0.08443615176263497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10504705514305343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14837019785493696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371079240043688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08723975986618154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116688938727445,0.2622877205390566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10079259663095408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07014905616569159,0.0,0.0,0.06383747880524236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07432834843740717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06457293721414882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987868305855477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14100043357535244
divorce,minnie12348,2020/01/19,"Blindside husband or heads up on divorce? Husband of 2 years has very significant debt and legal issues he has been hiding from me since before we were married. Beyond the debt and law suits, it is clear that he simply lacks integrity and I don’t want to be married to someone I do not trust. He has absolutely no idea that I’m checked out. Thankfully, no kids or assets together. 

I am a little scared of his reaction. He is aggressive and scary. Do I tell him that I’m filing for divorce while we are in counseling and plan to leave our house immediately? Or do I just leave and tell him over the phone to avoid his in person reaction? How do you pack your bags without your spouse noticing?! What do you pack when you right after the talk? Mine works from home and rarely leaves the house. 

I’d like to tell him ASAP, but like I said, I worry that without my bags already packed and a plan, it may be the wrong decision. I appreciate any help or insight.",2.9394117647058806,5.043154468085112,3.9750688360450575,86.26029411764708,76.12765957446808,6.976720901126408,24.888610763454317,7.928766900206844,1.3938225281602,752,26,150,12,17,243,117,188,0.145,0.74,0.115,-0.6226,2,1,0,0,2,0,20.0,3,5,0,3,4,8,1,2,7,0,18,1,1,1,1,30,23,16,0,2,9,3,0,2,0,1,0,1,1,2,7,11,0,1,3,0,3,0,6,4,0,0,3,1,24,4,20,17,1,13,0,0,0,0,31,9,0,5,6,97,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609044125066226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991554621614438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240731478014536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14964261627235853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09773303642758052,0.0,0.14625882023748749,0.0,0.0,0.3364891797479483,0.0,0.1646011810601874,0.0,0.1521872387881321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4631736318099823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424703162310888,0.14613942768503915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660050857526936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12731523401397565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245205189986639,0.13869822753384115,0.0,0.14598074932447172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12061512775772207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12354391884744112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11719615546441778,0.3823317976956369,0.13424180037396355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12030811050346375,0.08600222275055595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811103156205245,0.0,0.10615105487442728,0.14807662820834278,0.0,0.0,0.15941980213288626,0.0,0.0938965394748636
divorce,solarmal,2020/01/19,"Out of the house 6 days now- SO HAPPY!!! I have moved out, after almost 25 years of marriage.  Found a room in a house with some very responsible adults like me, and I could not be HAPPIER.  I literally do not miss him at all.  I am sad that he is sad about our separation (and there will be a divorce) but he cannot become a different person, and we are simply not compatible.  I am not spending what years I have left suppressing my own happiness so I don't upset someone else's feelings. I am DONE with that.   Our two adult kids will be OK, he will be OK, and I am more than OK.  I literally feel totally free.",1.4125733333333343,3.3729792640000014,3.7653,86.62048333333334,80.36,7.366666666666666,22.416666666666664,8.344100000000001,1.2765866666666663,468,15,103,10,12,162,82,125,0.047,0.7020000000000001,0.251,0.9825,1,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,3,0,0,0,5,11,0,1,5,3,20,0,0,0,2,23,24,7,0,1,5,0,2,1,0,3,0,0,1,4,3,9,0,1,3,0,2,1,6,4,0,1,2,2,16,8,11,14,5,12,0,3,0,0,13,6,0,2,6,74,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982251688513872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186277643044546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15805241959435892,0.0,0.0,0.12766577776682034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068227527288024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025785646097248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16536752887396874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20018584076597634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170494447555311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4214574496766355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4568312035930121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21508067328500796,0.0,0.0,0.09671170717714914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.210396780471635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17284826701975134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16772817832047415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19337505710770525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16333511515724616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549554144573189
divorce,_gneat,2020/01/19,"Need advice My wife just told me she wants a divorce a few days ago.  We have three kids 11, 14, and 16.  We're in Texas.   I have been working two jobs for a while to support my family.  9-10 years would be my guess.  My wife doesn't work.  

There's no infidelity that I'm aware of.  My wife wants to complete the divorce quickly.  She's done.  She wants to understand what my plans are for living arrangements by Friday.  

I'm still in shock.  I need time to get a handle on finances.  We have about 15K in debt, a house, plus two car payments.

I told my wife to get a job a week ago as I can't keep up the pace anymore.  A fee days later she drops the divorce bomb on me.

My primary concern here is that my wife appears to have been planning this for months, but I was just informed less than a week ago.  I am not interested in contesting the divorce.  I don't want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with me.  However, I want to do what's best for my kids and secondarily protect myself.  

How much time can I take to plan?  Do I need to simply hire a lawyer?  My wife wants to keep lawyers out of this and use a mediator, but she wants spousal support, child support, and additional allowances.  She's also come up with three different offers for how to handle the home.  We agree about shared custody a d that's about it.  I'm just so confused right now.  I'm so busy and I just feel like giving up.",1.1982842415316668,3.1138203539518905,2.8178534609720174,93.37078608247423,80.85567010309279,5.806627393225331,22.420348551791854,6.868970318607317,0.4562595974472257,1077,35,246,12,28,354,151,291,0.059000000000000004,0.826,0.11599999999999999,0.9644,5,0,0,0,4,0,36.0,3,0,0,6,17,9,0,1,17,0,22,0,0,4,0,46,54,15,0,12,7,6,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,9,15,0,3,3,0,3,3,6,2,0,4,6,1,35,7,40,44,4,31,0,0,0,0,28,11,0,3,17,155,44,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10264401188499206,0.27933524657892866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840005642715562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10417159655945626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11023314943874044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09048278215856093,0.11013259128538376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13548440474287787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10974459260306084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10749253527419587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09902249832723994,0.0,0.053111452318233776,0.0750406990260897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10975827851379287,0.10076407636449547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11571355965816005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10536382770869657,0.0,0.0,0.12120222186680925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20847226759859705,0.1867290105014772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051317308004404524,0.0,0.09275237054391833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08384203986585126,0.0,0.07721659105412122,0.23365780484989526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08970370804761854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08900017215209688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08388519375028497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35759492790597275,0.0,0.0,0.0789771150014337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12249950398978128,0.0,0.0,0.20074071574185776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052179132312976,0.10935049312610252,0.0,0.09072095785385187,0.0,0.0,0.4956431819012838,0.0,0.1685137333096942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15294095000526833,0.0,0.0,0.07461750371782702,0.0,0.0,0.06764240810645218
divorce,divorce_alt,2020/01/19,"Not sure what I'm doing... I (36M) got together with my wife (30) 10 years ago. We got pregnant just 2 months in, but we mad things work, and just over 2 years ago we got married. We mostly got married so she could be on my insurance. We had talked abiut it many times, and we loved each other, marriage just wasn't super important to us till I finished school and she needed inaurance. Anyway, things have not been going well for a long while, and it's cliche but I was sticking it out because of the kiddo. My wife hasn't worked since our daughter was born 9 years ago, she has almost no work experience or employable skills, no drivers license, and major issues with depression. This all makes me feel guilty about thinking about divorce to begin with, but I have been sitting on this a long time and I know I need to do what is right for me. The issue that I'm having is that I have a job that requires a lot of extra hours, I also know that without the ability to even support herself, my STBE isn't even in a position to get her own place, let alone a place where she can have our daughter with her.  I love my daughter very much and I don't want to keep my wife from her, but I also want to be able to see her... I'm not sure how to even begin to try and figure out how custody will go, or what my STBE is going to do since I haven't even been able to bring this up to her...I'm all over the place in this post even... How do you even broach this subject with someone who depends on you for EVERYTHING?",5.952307692307691,4.6936494871794885,6.273333333333337,84.81750000000002,66.94871794871796,9.082051282051284,30.07692307692308,7.645422480735847,1.6733807692307687,1168,33,258,10,16,377,159,312,0.11900000000000001,0.8340000000000001,0.047,-0.9511,2,1,0,0,1,0,40.0,9,2,0,6,20,9,1,0,10,0,30,2,0,5,4,59,58,22,0,5,13,6,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,19,22,0,2,5,0,0,4,11,2,1,0,11,2,41,7,39,42,9,40,0,1,1,2,32,16,0,6,18,185,60,7,0.1909146730851915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.253851507836705,0.0,0.09558673376371442,0.09886501223169566,0.0,0.15267439509065606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05818990635340127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762149157950945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08221726408913227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3782920230408132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08579089895989278,0.09337559196544892,0.0,0.0,0.048266097527979966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049872518487233945,0.0,0.16275181251702314,0.0,0.3053838089070463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09400624807829476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992653175116796,0.09472667720986584,0.0848468667187372,0.0,0.0,0.10492171147758382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09761159404722536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16895347794599208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08115441394185655,0.17230794626587753,0.0,0.06371851338054875,0.09677875663277967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07619313531218715,0.0,0.07017212582072169,0.14156081102163062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.299197798885793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09142174156281174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08152004383735108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09660792080508153,0.07606713832142392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579265904338659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08088069148177586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10832385428792092,0.17993482000044345,0.0,0.0,0.07672499125329588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12683522559529298,0.061165206858180624,0.0,0.0,0.11132388117110667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06480926552828574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11482342250889538,0.0,0.0,0.0787622997486581,0.11260642061426328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08582760951704828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09201746602406403,0.0,0.2084822336832026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18441418512514984
divorce,need-stronger,2020/01/19,"New here, 16 into divorce announcement. Just trying to keep my head up I am 44f myStBXH is 57m we married almost 24 yrs ago when I was 20 and he was 33. First red flag? Anyways he is an unmedicated 7 months now manic depressant bipolar with past suicidal tendencies. Who has mentally abuse me progressively worsening since we met and terrorized our family for at least the last 10 years. We have 3 girls. 2 at home our 16 struggles with severe anxiety and our 20 has debilitating anxiety and depression and struggles through and plain easy day. He is having an online and voice affair with a woman with my maiden name my exact maiden name down to the middle initial. It has been going on for a year. He cut our relation ship off at about 20 years of marriage because I got fat. (I have been severely depressed) I had lawyer appreciation made when he decide to call a family “meeting” in which he had printed out papers he had written. He had strict rules. We couldn’t talk, leave. All 3 girls included. Two were told how proud he was. The 20 yrs was told she could have been more and she should have been beaten when she has her first “tantrum” which are her anxiety attacks and then they had to listen to a full two page letter of him tearing me down. I have lied to him about my daughters school attendance he is way to mean and it scares us all. He informs me that he has never lied to me. This is beyond the biggest lie ever. He lied about a child he hid from me. He lied about propositioning a girl in front of all the town in a note and having the cops show up to tell him to leave her alone. He lied about all kinds of drugs. And he was at the time lying about my maiden name girl and another woman he had talked to and even sent money to. My oldest confronted him. He said I have a girlfriend and I said I have a lawyer apt and here we are 13 days later. We can’t afford to separate yet. I already started going thru the house and making list. Talked to the lawyer. My STBXH is much calmer and nicer now that his secret it out. I have to find a place to live. He will take some animals. My kids hate him. He thinks I turn them against him. He doesn’t see the monster he is, every single day. It will be late spring before I can move out. I don’t even know if physically I can work. I will have no insurance. No furniture. No money. Nothing but my kids my cat and my small household items. He is throwing us out and he sees me as the bad one. He tell those he talks to that I don’t clean the house, I am fat. I lied about school. Those r my flaws. I kept my vows and my house is just not to his standards as my counselor says accountability no one does anything in this house but me. I feel like I am being ripped into pieces and he is just watching. He isn’t even sorry he won’t tell me why he looked her up. Why my name. I hate my name now. And to top it off there isn’t even a future there. It is over. I know we r going to be free from his terror. But the next 5 months r going to be horrible. I was leaving anyways but didn’t want to do it like this. I wanted to do it on my terms",1.0564448135498026,3.2198456724137934,2.6980260141299794,92.67949398774157,82.87147335423198,5.752528891592196,19.55373602208394,7.014971019744422,0.2419551958077948,2401,64,530,31,67,788,293,638,0.133,0.8240000000000001,0.043,-0.9911,1,1,1,0,2,0,60.0,13,0,2,7,30,21,7,5,26,0,71,5,3,3,7,83,103,35,1,6,9,1,1,2,1,5,4,5,2,9,19,40,2,2,9,1,4,9,15,16,0,6,28,11,83,6,72,64,14,75,0,3,5,0,102,32,0,3,35,346,102,8,0.0,0.08827488353436387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06604317089514271,0.0,0.07460484730301108,0.07716352312433444,0.08221685508340862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07812378659138026,0.17098573219262372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06131032335824159,0.0,0.0,0.08475888917503856,0.0,0.0,0.06220760571291899,0.04541685762381384,0.0,0.06339729193016752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760767645374188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059485264651477486,0.0,0.0,0.14414646603107875,0.0,0.1925101797558072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06519882434220932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08640081674707357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968363705133072,0.0673930009910258,0.06277270996768332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14047120496787052,0.0,0.03767138696137889,0.05322556788554792,0.0,0.0,0.06809517242282724,0.12674587959305988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16936902773049922,0.0,0.059587537766069114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14711426166353303,0.07646244813740112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07473343981564763,0.0,0.0,0.3438697758190248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06622244830896441,0.0,0.07758429854376221,0.08189073896912646,0.060730584566196434,0.08404359199992678,0.2366664703083269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07279763905030709,0.0,0.06578826768677119,0.0,0.06256447273386319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07049734768709585,0.04973190079788309,0.0,0.0,0.08115653810389481,0.0,0.0,0.07508236091726904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189365302418404,0.07918580557194277,0.05476890490602729,0.0,0.057461964899313274,0.07195628605238374,0.07923569351223758,0.0,0.0,0.07148845689196283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10097147872408553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07112235853076387,0.0,0.0,0.07784066965627777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14174045193454354,0.059248454734117814,0.07459135473791624,0.15080375479176578,0.11873985051681148,0.0,0.0,0.16833629573771453,0.0,0.061630357584601975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08340096436470502,0.052734211034562835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557752085696016,0.0,0.08149512335394006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0560176257746753,0.2395335014135571,0.1953589557628042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04773906104158452,0.0,0.0,0.0434437961677781,0.0,0.0,0.14238324978018918,0.0,0.05058322602077967,0.0810387983770814,0.14555887823253516,0.0,0.1792379248831942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878886063418859,0.05913769110445196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13445627904925742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054239692744302695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14393411700603326
divorce,untiltoday341,2020/01/19,"My husband (32M) does not comprehend empathy/being empathetic I'm done hiding this shit, because things aren't getting any better in my (30F) 8 year long relationship. Really don't care if he sees this. I really don't think he and I are meant to be. We have complete opposite personalities and are unable to fulfill each others' needs. From my perspective, I feel any positive change in our relationship would require a complete personality overhaul on his part, and it's unfair to him for me to expect that. I recognize I haven't been the perfect wife, but now that I finally understand my relationship needs and my shortcomings, I truly don't believe he can meet them. I don't expect him to change just for me. That's a completely unhealthy response.

I want and need a lot of emotional support and would have gladly accepted that from him a few years ago. But now, I don't find him attractive anymore. The thought of having sex with him and even affectionate touching repulses me and not just because I find him physically unattractive, but I no longer find his personality attractive. I don't know why I feel that way, because I used to find him so attractive and loved being physical with him. I feel I can't ask for emotional support at this point in the relationship, because it seems so unauthentic from him. We have been going to marriage counseling weekly for 2 months now, and I see no improvements in our relationship. I've benefited more from my solo counseling sessions than anything. I really don't know what I'm asking for here. I'm just feeling so discouraged, because I feel like it's too late to repair anything, and I'm not sure that I even want to.  If anyone can provide words of wisdom, I'd appreciate that.",6.810323076923076,7.489927040000001,7.6305769230769265,69.29817307692308,64.75384615384615,11.3,35.942307692307686,11.10651602901591,4.303323076923077,1388,64,240,39,20,465,161,325,0.13,0.711,0.158,0.8905,0,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,4,0,1,3,13,18,1,0,7,0,25,3,1,1,2,60,57,19,0,11,11,2,6,1,0,2,0,0,0,3,16,16,0,2,17,0,0,1,15,2,0,0,5,8,46,16,30,48,5,20,0,1,2,2,34,7,1,4,12,163,62,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07472043827504696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146439230891996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08359575935435606,0.05893945175596312,0.0,0.13873150456043865,0.0,0.15760468794313787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25692039470021605,0.0,0.0,0.09496906564921648,0.0,0.07455008872784033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08594207797612342,0.0,0.17834110854331844,0.0,0.2651380386469325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07376515488032058,0.08626075060722113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18963599989652116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11134913476955384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21310473937208715,0.06021875851722474,0.0,0.09233858907591692,0.3081681911322497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044039483606025824,0.0,0.047905513207165865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09265018356183476,0.0,0.09508589523077576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04118118059370523,0.0,0.0,0.07459643254318675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07166268299171365,0.07607749924145607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06728167005104614,0.0,0.0,0.18750602151278853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09128083561058596,0.0,0.0,0.2208035378719242,0.0,0.0,0.0796838959967412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620002851589172,0.0,0.0,0.4524943471704554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343408190593442,0.07673695515525455,0.0,0.0,0.0865252980998692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913088309857684,0.07944492072914999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05600035859127807,0.054011391571884136,0.0,0.06691902910277485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08775172705961595,0.0,0.0728018731748894,0.0,0.0,0.09943609757434853,0.06690766263955969,0.06761456079643127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07606109733392154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11975830438305793,0.0,0.0,0.10856353664482292
divorce,PalmsAreSweaty15,2020/01/19,"Can’t help but wonder if it happened We started dating probably 8 months after he was separated! I asked him if the divorce was final because I didn’t want to get myself into a messy situation. He lied about it and admitted to it 2 months later. By then it was too late to leave because I was already invested in him and I liked him! (BIG MISTAKE). Anyway, the truth hurt the relationship more. I was anxious and so was he. He kept saying he wanted to start our relationship in the future on a clean slate and we headed towards a break. I couldn’t simply sit and wait around for him and so, I told him that we were breaking up and that I had to move on. I don’t contact him anymore because I want us to move on. However, I can’t help but occasionally wonder how he’s been. Is he okay? Is the divorce going somewhere? Part of me is still waiting around and I’m not sure if I should just hit him up to see if it’s okay and if there’s any hope. Any thoughts or advice?",0.8065400271370464,3.0175417412935346,3.060744007236547,89.39144165535959,84.32338308457712,5.445590230664859,22.07168701944821,6.782984794422108,0.5937442786069655,754,26,160,9,22,257,114,201,0.087,0.768,0.145,0.8709,1,0,0,0,2,0,20.0,5,0,0,0,11,8,0,0,8,2,18,1,1,1,2,42,39,21,0,12,10,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,7,15,0,3,4,0,1,3,6,2,0,0,13,2,26,6,23,23,2,30,0,1,1,0,30,12,0,9,13,111,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13204908538658391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14912113712218455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18378831306172744,0.0,0.0,0.15266030191666885,0.1340142868183009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24059163789889884,0.12632985223801238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471250005795779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480301184700265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07060071028591312,0.0,0.07679843136431164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11949647268599785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386840593918105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18115179440321247,0.0,0.0,0.13421622004512526,0.0,0.0,0.14466122723762712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15243438823034122,0.14308490692193587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06601849890742667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21572158916851408,0.2872471188260577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14633440953238736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14569477516823814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901616430963197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10746211264978038,0.0,0.0,0.107682430280396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15189363750021773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912937561704954,0.0,0.10791631103247164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127359981834996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10727943652938632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12912408345486895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16254673781238055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391124466720973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2930890223236371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,kwb8166,2020/01/19,"Surprised at how Okay I Feel Meeting with my STBX to go over the filing papers from the paralegal today. I’m sort of surprised at how calm and matter of fact I’m feeling after such a short time (Timeline: He told me he wanted to separate in August, he moved out the end of October, He told me he wanted a permanent separation in early November- I met with the paralegal to begin divorce proceedings two weeks ago).  I was heartbroken and furious at first but now my main stress is money - the financial impact of divorce is no joke. Emotionally, I am feeling pretty fine and accepting of the situation- ready to move on with my life ( but no interest in dating at all- feel completely done with men, and what would my options be like as a fifty three year old single mom of a teenager? No thanks. )  Anybody else experience this?  Am I just in denial?  Or is this a sign that he was right and the marriage was long over and I was in denial DURING the marriage?  ( I was so shocked when he ended it- didn’t see it coming- but my college age daughter said she had been expecting it for years-wow).   What do you guys think?  Anyone else have a similar experience?",3.3843243243243255,5.582795585585586,4.844405405405407,80.10093243243244,75.12612612612612,7.863423423423423,27.766666666666666,8.697196308434329,2.3682623423423435,908,37,165,19,20,303,140,222,0.087,0.7559999999999999,0.157,0.9157,0,0,0,0,3,0,29.0,0,1,0,1,7,13,1,1,14,1,18,1,0,2,2,35,36,15,0,4,5,2,4,1,0,1,1,1,0,2,8,12,0,0,6,1,1,4,4,3,0,3,13,6,16,10,31,21,3,38,0,0,1,0,22,15,0,3,20,113,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295737042975786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022076860038836,0.1497716966405991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12591525132997655,0.15325979794719027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14958591316774794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442178703611869,0.16442515289001786,0.25893210158862145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2859708365346886,0.0,0.0,0.2956382068549265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124334832055554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08307358663609438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14473442930527305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032464397391636,0.07141283215218923,0.0,0.0,0.12935866431116805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17119626151348075,0.0,0.3107179142574781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533841632126194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487106740516943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12483109686275334,0.13904416730028976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11648109918610512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16430477849850486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674408835801845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13457662496325165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09366187139420452,0.0,0.0,0.08523475662828854,0.0,0.13855508285826826,0.2793494748039632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427899568596948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17243345731159276,0.0,0.11725130779610556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10383723300838743,0.0,0.0,0.09413073530788778
divorce,swig_swoo,2020/01/19,"Trying to figure out how to deal with the house So, my soon to be ex wife and I are separated but still live in the same house. She finally has a job so she can somewhat support herself. We screwed up and bought a house when we were on the rocks so now I need to figure out what to do. She wants the house (I don't) but she cannot afford it unless she gets roommates. I don't want the house and would rather walk away. So now the real dilemma, she asked if she could rent the house from me. I would rather cut all ties but I understand where she is coming from. I am in the military so there is no guarantee that I could stay in the area. I thought more about this and if she wants to rent and get a roommate then when it is just her how would she afford the rent? I would still have to float the difference. I don't have time to fix it up to sell, I am going on deployment soon, so I don't really know what to do. I know I want to live completely apart when I get back. Thanks everyone for listening.",1.6239906103286397,3.0926865399061043,2.9301643192488283,95.13120892018782,77.96713615023474,6.7990610328638486,20.284037558685448,7.594959193182576,0.32804037558685506,775,18,187,11,18,251,107,213,0.07200000000000001,0.882,0.046,-0.5269,6,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,0,0,24,4,2,0,14,0,25,1,0,2,1,43,44,23,0,15,9,2,0,0,0,4,0,1,3,0,7,11,0,0,6,1,5,3,6,2,0,0,3,1,32,2,27,34,4,30,0,0,0,1,19,13,1,3,13,144,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09785952760161368,0.0,0.09834815352429732,0.08049069696566423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09017057763345272,0.10975258646522984,0.0,0.0,0.16715326610439762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079181217491088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10936592654528213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10002403695587214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146693137659576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16406934785060148,0.0,0.059490754407730585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7247041323532551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038764742941907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11505626277861886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18486466992495887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07761719496702499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191461498777667,0.06705922090633093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11157251013970128,0.16719150748707692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187870238545108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09637317068999088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08310240845017093,0.06103841400020951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07106929328640267,0.0,0.0,0.10897318688106514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469664998463617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29744016491500763,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,themostepiccheese,2020/01/19,"Relationship changes with ex-spouse after an ugly divorce? Friends or foes? What happened with your relationship with your ex-spouse after an ugly messy terrible divorce? They put you through the wringer, custody battle, unsuccessful mediation, court, the pain and the worst moments of your life. 

You swore you hated them, and they were terrible to you, but did you eventually reconcile as successful co-parents even though they threatened your relationship with your children? Did you become friends? Or did you stay exactly where you left off, resenting their presence, being indifferent, etc.?",9.401503759398494,12.037267315789476,7.713383458646617,63.93368421052632,60.05263157894736,10.902255639097746,41.99248120300752,10.914260884657429,5.490879699248122,485,27,65,13,7,145,63,95,0.276,0.628,0.096,-0.9388,2,0,0,0,2,0,20.0,0,13,5,1,3,11,4,0,5,0,5,2,0,0,1,11,7,7,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,1,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,4,0,18,3,11,2,2,8,0,0,0,0,26,3,0,2,3,50,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233051583155137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138923068859802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254975065766425,0.13354589696201635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31242604692822273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17879770162407035,0.0,0.0,0.1996227219443988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21968217966878495,0.0,0.14281417616688033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21514652407055826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20325878735859307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.651235560166851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21550974994000985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19865259538663887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,coiledpro81,2020/01/19,"She accidentally txted me last night - Sort of I received a txt last night from her that simply said 'Hi'. I responded with 'What's up?'. In a short time I received a reply with, 'This was a mistake, not sure how it happened'.

Well that was awkward. How the fuck do you accidentally txt someone that you rarely speak to. I sent back a funny and harmless reply about txting the wrong person. She replied back later letting me know it was one of my still Step-Kids on the ipad.

And just like that... A kick to the stomach. I was essentially removed completely from their lives four months ago. I have no idea was they were told about me. I've been doing really well lately. Dating an amazing girl, taking care of myself and just being free of the BS that accompanied my marriage for a good portion of it. Am I bummed the marriage had to end? Of course I am. Finding out she had moved on is what did it for me. I was able to completely let go and disconnect from the situation. But damn... Those kids. The txt had to be related to something that could actually cause me pain. The thought that one wanted to reach out to me, brought tears to my eyes.",2.39369751324908,4.694207336322876,3.4438993069710584,88.42551467590704,78.77578475336324,6.207011822258461,23.589278434569913,7.348242739294969,0.9517730941704036,888,30,181,12,22,285,134,223,0.105,0.782,0.113,0.4197,0,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,0,2,2,0,11,15,2,1,17,0,23,4,2,3,1,24,35,7,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,3,15,8,0,0,4,0,1,7,2,6,2,3,17,3,27,10,30,13,1,28,0,0,1,1,21,7,2,1,15,131,42,0,0.14302514534209448,0.0,0.13957191022863152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12678316170230775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21995501670544554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14582366780252065,0.14692622235583788,0.0,0.0,0.2999182874478452,0.0,0.0,0.11419394049366448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266778266608607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13072239172369582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13222444219227852,0.0,0.0,0.08128448611368012,0.11996270613088975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12647666367821794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16145798001069972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07860287944932569,0.23316916553133105,0.1613385936827143,0.0,0.0,0.29250580272472154,0.0,0.0698748615350033,0.0,0.12629382367920292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11416130647257955,0.15201309471186353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26843882022899584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938350800073164,0.0,0.15218883866651667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12488404017568736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916255704743012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13604966564905713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16076625588319368,0.0,0.0,0.12118474151421713,0.1101077444607311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11422006582330865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13479950685185554,0.0,0.107537109598297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11354598933785777,0.08339911242672632,0.0,0.0,0.13666665558232194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08435993637650513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571935645839581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15637554396811654,0.0,0.0
divorce,BabeWithThePower713,2020/01/19,"Getting my own place!! I just signed a lease on a small 2 bedroom apartment and I'm so excited to have my own place! The only downfall is the kiddos need to stay with their dad until we officially move. I keep having periods of doubt about this but I'm so stressed living in the same house as him that I need to do this. He is okay with it and says he doesn't view it as me ""abandoning"" anyone but I still get a nervous feeling occasionally that he might try to use it against me in the pending divorce. 



I'm also worried how the kids will take it as they have never been away from me for longer than 2 weeks when I flew home to see my dying mother. I am not moving far and will still be able to see them daily but I still worry. And feel like a bad mom bc I'm excited about having my own place for the next 6 months (will be living in a friends basement when we move until I get a job and house of our own). 



I just feel like I need space to process what is happening and give him a chance to learn how to become a full time dad while at the same time giving myself a chance to learn how to not be so controlling all the time. 



Any advice or anything is appreciated!! 💜",3.6413815789473714,3.9452200080971664,4.810382085020244,88.07039094129557,71.5910931174089,7.632489878542511,25.1540991902834,7.413659706084162,0.9310082995951422,910,24,207,9,16,301,136,247,0.078,0.787,0.135,0.9291,1,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,3,0,3,1,16,11,0,3,17,1,19,0,0,5,2,40,41,25,1,3,8,4,3,2,1,4,0,1,2,1,9,10,0,3,5,0,0,4,4,5,0,0,2,7,26,6,33,32,8,35,0,1,3,0,21,14,0,3,18,140,35,3,0.10863399323881552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10615588091038078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08687456514470003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07387484062075428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07595941393873336,0.0,0.08939652021944257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10206521266024883,0.0,0.09070484670948196,0.0,0.1199777105928886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12184226075327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11274493388625915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647858332034708,0.15521629295181602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08393035369803725,0.0,0.1702703332936786,0.20842325030278552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960646814518124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10896875269293392,0.0,0.0,0.250698085436931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10780247578938157,0.09655888462114152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10614616356306733,0.0,0.1918516125937855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11524349953878416,0.0,0.12723081992651725,0.08671061697447206,0.3463822280405629,0.0,0.24165218847075454,0.08378523265902553,0.0,0.11553348423526333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0826210470933365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3404982041031906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08639011167272369,0.0,0.0,0.17313445544163522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11578938257984688,0.26026574198630353,0.0,0.12443987221911296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08167924324831931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900360652069559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0737553504865572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09382489071841599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08713963667471936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206461867070728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,salad510,2020/01/19,"My parents are getting a divorce and my dad said he is going to take her into jail They’re getting a divorce and I’m only 14 years old, I’m basically stressed out and I’m sick right now. My father won’t admit that he had done something to my mom and basically because there’s no proof, he’ll send her to jail. What can I do now? I’m sorry for the bad English but I hope you can understand. Please help, thank you",0.2194382022471899,2.346148528089888,2.597853932584272,92.28914044943821,86.19101123595507,4.908314606741573,22.38314606741573,6.2581,0.3686979775280896,325,12,72,3,10,111,62,89,0.09699999999999999,0.737,0.165,0.8462,1,0,1,0,2,0,7.0,0,2,0,0,3,4,0,1,3,0,8,1,0,0,1,11,22,5,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,2,6,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,3,1,10,2,6,17,0,9,0,0,0,0,17,3,0,1,4,38,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19593713691961104,0.1430508206948659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401458082476579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452076364031364,0.0,0.1333666598965421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15729233868862955,0.0,0.0,0.23307727323810706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748391457424775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24624353367939344,0.0,0.0,0.17847482250445626,0.0,0.0,0.2605699245094785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575938888907058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20040432963049248,0.22322204832887985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18065811582953792,0.0,0.262690485941032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688102473658267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17644037389859954,0.0,0.0,0.21604983844167255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442966154539264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511178494869992
divorce,sammobu,2020/01/19,"His ex keeps entering the house unannounced So my SO (we are serious and plan a future together) is seperated from soon his soon be ex wife. Agreement is that he keeps the house and she gets a big payout, but legally he can't change locks until papers are final that the house is in his name.

The agreement for now is that if she has to come and get things, she is to notify him 1st. She has been showing up unannounced and leaving her posessions making it obvious (as though on purpose to make it clear she has been there when we are out). She plays dumb as though she forgot her handbag, hairbrush, wallet, etc but I don't buy it as it has happened a few times. 

He pulls her up in it that she has to respect the boundaries, but again she plays dumb and his sorry. It keeps on happening.

They have been seperated 9 months and her stuff is still there, even though I stay over most nights in a week. He is really annpyed at her and the discomfort I feel, but he wants to keep things less heated with her until the final paperwork goes through. What do I do for now?",5.252808417997095,5.515993613207549,5.29735849056604,86.12891872278665,68.0566037735849,8.598548621190131,28.100145137880983,8.384062270229773,1.7012687953555878,834,25,174,11,13,261,115,212,0.07,0.8390000000000001,0.091,0.5978,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,2,0,1,1,15,9,2,1,11,0,24,0,0,2,2,30,38,23,0,2,5,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,12,0,5,1,3,1,3,2,4,0,0,4,1,28,5,25,33,4,31,0,0,0,0,32,11,2,2,16,133,42,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13843590041571974,0.11272704851514585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459470460575193,0.08643390106880676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06616835954154987,0.0,0.0,0.2867084504801485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367412284613597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23144376884750664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4529956446491932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4652688549982573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385652202899205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747043874998634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10445374766443767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228062364469948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08383430878334933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14649062435246735,0.0,0.13948274585310666,0.10450751048989604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14980704081450755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738793737127348,0.0,0.3857172515362436,0.0,0.07630737693906582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07718649846895342,0.0,0.1049705553758382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,chevy_zr2_4x4,2020/01/19,"Taxes It's that time of the year again!

My ex and I divorced this year. It was official September 3rd, but, wasn't signed by the judge till October sometime? The date escapes at the moment.

Do I have to file single, head of household or can I file married one last time? We were technically married most of the year.

Thanks for the help!",1.535,4.132263030303033,2.6456818181818207,90.78852272727272,85.36363636363637,5.724242424242425,23.40151515151515,7.1686216300943375,1.0163696969696976,264,10,53,4,8,84,50,66,0.0,0.852,0.14800000000000002,0.8777,0,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,6,0,6,1,1,0,0,6,7,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,5,1,8,4,2,11,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,2,10,36,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3321989728879948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21696235422251428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638502730062297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21934048896033234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32013734782152664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29800994739159314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37749208446366705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6253365802128485
divorce,mehstheword,2020/01/19,"If I knew then what I know now... Hi everyone.  I’ve been lurking here for a few weeks and wasn’t quite ready to share my story yet, but, here I am.  I’m still unpacking all this stuff and sorting through a shitload of feelings.  My STBXH and I have technically been married 13 years, together for a few years before that, and we have a child.  A few years ago, we moved to his hometown because of his job.  My family is hundreds of miles away.  We had been having issues for a long time, but I never thought he would blow up our marriage and family.  He was my best friend, I thought, but I don’t know who he is now.  It started with him wanting his own space in the house, then sending me an email to tell me things had to change.  
I knew something was up.  I just felt it and somehow I knew it was his coworker.  Sure enough, after initially lying when I asked, he fessed up and told me he cheated on me with his coworker AND hookups he met online.  I tried going no contact to simply wrap my mind around this and figure out what to do, and he kept acting like nothing happened.  Utterly clueless, or crazy.  So, I had to put boundaries in place.  His family doesn’t speak to me now and of course are on his side.  I let them be.  They don’t know the whole story of what went down.  Two weeks after he told me about the affairs, he told me we wouldn’t be getting a “divorce”, so that insurance and everything would “stay the same”.  Three weeks later, he served me with divorce papers and it’s been even more horrible ever since.  My child is living in two homes and doesn’t want to talk about the divorce at all, I’m worrying about our future, and I can’t fall asleep  (hence my wall of text here).  It’s all so fucked up—in every possible way.  So much has happened and if I wrote it all here it would seem like the script for a telenovela.  Plus, being in the middle of a contentious split, I have to refrain from oversharing.  Financial shit storm on top of it all.  We communicate via email, occasionally text.  It takes everything I have to act like I’m ok, (when he drops off our child), then I look at him and I think, who is this guy?  He’s a stranger.  His doppelgänger.  Sometimes I manage to get a hello out in front of our child.  It’s all I can muster.  I’m learning to compartmentalize our interactions.  I don’t know how long this process will take but as I’ve read through a lot of the posts on this subreddit, it’s good to know I’m not totally alone in this.  Thank you all.",2.82162,4.305004122000003,3.822600000000001,89.92030000000004,74.78,7.16,24.7,7.822599999999999,1.1019800000000006,1911,61,419,27,40,616,242,500,0.08,0.83,0.09,-0.0273,1,1,1,0,3,0,67.0,10,1,2,3,24,13,3,0,21,1,40,3,2,1,11,80,80,36,0,8,9,0,2,3,1,5,0,1,1,5,26,29,0,2,16,1,0,9,11,3,0,3,24,4,61,10,62,47,19,68,0,0,1,1,65,28,2,7,30,282,87,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839709694387555,0.0,0.0,0.09811000523199802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08432831783348625,0.08855822275802565,0.0,0.0890004060013632,0.0,0.0,0.05774552481116664,0.0,0.08060685141269447,0.0,0.09941156230038553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100210037045285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09787971123417302,0.0,0.06256718381621536,0.08568721867683149,0.07981272308461906,0.09051700087860476,0.1702714712882918,0.0,0.2679043820770667,0.0,0.047897501594402266,0.0,0.09095407436265432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07318689061892875,0.08757483600586223,0.09898330944922028,0.0,0.05383630608079827,0.07945364822152085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09379596273652197,0.16753593959703386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09502026183413252,0.0,0.0,0.10930380100183347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09887178943451852,0.09400327362413688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26030112750837675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09686615908399906,0.0,0.13883846522782134,0.0,0.08364687128856235,0.16766322312689044,0.07954795865613813,0.0,0.0,0.08053465828513476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09564863261003742,0.0,0.0,0.10068124787984516,0.06963623911032361,0.0,0.07306034572616124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09089440963441536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098970967084203,0.0,0.0,0.10679198492030946,0.09072357693160013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522815900920742,0.0,0.1007552638621581,0.09475398793470696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08623713491141165,0.0,0.0,0.09723729317109336,0.07836027257765729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07292651422270104,0.09368876341068352,0.0,0.06704921588623837,0.10096782039300188,0.07565018514889356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10844130073619003,0.0,0.0,0.0892803517299446,0.0,0.14244786487993588,0.07613906197315556,0.08279675592798308,0.08721314037613141,0.0,0.0,0.06293330858844731,0.06069810370132615,0.0,0.15040746219864878,0.05523686447611678,0.0,0.0,0.27155100263581433,0.0,0.06431433362047953,0.0,0.185071672815496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11174647396725916,0.0751909574465287,0.2279561127847964,0.0,0.0,0.08781413236370916,0.0,0.1057608232883214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09620124079372194,0.0,0.2018769124527184,0.0,0.0,0.18300586081030806
divorce,jbsaucy16,2020/01/19,"Counseling Don’t know if this is the right place to ask, but I’m having trouble finding a good counselor.  Has anyone had any experience with a counselor via telephone/teleconference?  Do you feel it’s successful? TIA",3.725384615384616,6.9406671794871855,4.3955897435897455,77.44107692307695,82.33333333333333,7.222564102564102,30.87692307692308,8.238735603445708,3.0591600000000003,176,9,28,4,5,56,36,39,0.075,0.61,0.315,0.9247,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,6,10,2,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,2,2,9,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,16,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627272154878986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701407562645829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36117955226394977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3779186334781164,0.0,0.0,0.19534716982404932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3531114802095689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3240470754341734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123245967664964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4036473233691111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3299357243109902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Throwawaydvc,2020/01/19,"I never knew it could be so sad I thought the road to divorce would be filled with anger and not sadness. My wife (31f) and I (33m) married 7 years together 10 may be heading towards separation.  Just kind of blindsided, but after hearing her speak I don't really blame her.  I  get in depressed state of minds now and again and pull my self out.  Some outside stuff made this last one last a long time.  I was so focused on myself and trying to get by I neglected our relationship.  She tried to get through to me but I just wasn't listening.  Recently it  clicked, potentially too late though.  The thing that hurts the most is hearing her talk about her/mine/our? future with no emotion, it hurts so much. I get it though, I was emotionally unavailable and a moody prick to deal with at that.  The thought of a future without her make me extremely sad, she is my rock. In the meantime I have set up some counseling for myself to work on me, so I can be a better person to her regardless of what happens. Thanks for reading I just needed to get this out.",2.380217391304349,4.604279908212561,3.4957753623188417,88.43409782608698,78.42028985507247,6.845314009661835,25.80893719806763,7.908726449838941,1.5153267632850236,819,32,168,14,20,264,125,207,0.165,0.758,0.077,-0.9666,0,0,0,0,1,0,26.0,1,0,0,2,13,13,2,0,9,0,15,2,2,2,1,34,31,14,0,4,7,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,2,11,11,0,1,3,2,0,2,6,10,0,1,7,5,29,3,31,17,4,27,0,7,1,0,19,10,1,4,13,123,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11766961119251887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10622752081597964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371660248309474,0.11459352859408832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993208292131114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3475588695781885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11765337429930403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13654501410972197,0.0,0.2999081733644272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2848599817587677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13854839071218586,0.0,0.21690277328242527,0.15008325962621696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11774276011596148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258926645578322,0.08881017102601298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13433994402338478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09780514586361376,0.09865295948076816,0.1026143551387441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09015635990548317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617185570439682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13308340211238104,0.0,0.08523356977400075,0.0,0.1313682541694565,0.14284311342067166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387974522529664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152307438937648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069384584426705,0.0,0.12249216822576495,0.0,0.0,0.08839077906578664,0.0,0.2614367852411586,0.2112495443070813,0.07758100747767623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806608990157132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12825294347611296,0.0,0.09686009003751896,0.0,0.0,0.09451305393662937,0.0,0.0,0.08567816192223036
divorce,danakarrous,2020/01/19,"Today was the day...divorce papers were served. Scared to be a young mom of two babies. I’m 27 year old female with an 11 month old and one not even here yet...(due in April) and I think that has got to be the most depressing/scariest part of it. Of course I have close friends and family members say, “you are young, gorgeous, and strong! Someone will love you and those babies” but will they? I see a long road of being alone...I see many months of late nights, early mornings, tears, and milestones spent alone...this was honestly a long time coming but also very sudden. There’s a protection order in place due to my soon to be ex husbands domestic violence and I can’t imagine letting anyone else in any time soon. It’s just going to be me and two baby girls...please think positive thoughts for me. Send a lot of healing and strength my way. I know that they say there is a light at the end of this tunnel but it is so hard to see right now 😕",1.9757649796393224,4.006733141361258,2.8195375218150116,93.74744473531125,78.84293193717278,5.710413030831879,21.082315299592786,6.691623216298621,0.2614290866783011,734,20,158,7,18,231,127,191,0.063,0.818,0.11800000000000001,0.8896,0,2,0,0,2,0,33.0,0,2,2,2,10,7,0,1,10,0,17,2,0,0,0,24,30,14,0,0,5,3,1,0,1,2,1,2,0,0,7,12,0,1,5,0,1,3,2,1,0,3,6,7,13,6,19,16,3,35,0,0,3,1,12,8,0,2,22,95,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11177517569113499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09504937694693216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09773144561075878,0.1432123649067409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12040072540584702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09014102033045464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11676110891245872,0.0,0.1237960157043682,0.0,0.0,0.0923177225468058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317640809188021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079870732566141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07943533438089595,0.0,0.11178799455384966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12520776262800207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07681473194806364,0.0,0.15766828026452878,0.0,0.0,0.14292577439251447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473866645396305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11882868598989164,0.12614918798539154,0.0,0.0,0.14170630929142086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16369862947718275,0.22312847104247324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13116603465931714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933332431378255,0.0,0.09471274982039614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15135885650442996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14603141330936095,0.1534270762601524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11936405206463607,0.0,0.22230372938527598,0.13993560180220418,0.0,0.3341392410358163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11842789349226347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17911979906514594,0.0,0.11096291631896522,0.16300370954973625,0.0,0.13248698873725104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730727883236805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11532608184910892,0.0,0.11094406882635367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09000822929983962
divorce,Dailypam,2020/01/19,Looking for a group for older divorced folks Husband left after 35 years.  My soon to be divorced son-in-law told me about this site and his support group here.  Thought I’d see if there was a similar group for we boomers.,4.636287878787879,5.567652477272726,4.343636363636366,90.0437878787879,69.68181818181819,6.775757575757575,32.84848484848485,6.42735559955562,1.6997666666666675,175,8,36,1,3,53,38,44,0.0,0.934,0.066,0.4019,0,0,0,0,2,0,5.0,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,7,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,4,1,6,3,0,6,0,0,2,0,9,2,0,1,4,20,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.452457201726523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3497000202334993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3318443064715308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4725648301452415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3306024030201697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39792092183727296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681701047995214
divorce,whathappensnow9,2020/01/19,"I'm done I'm sitting here watching my beautiful daughters play, and you'd think it would be a happy time but i sit here in pain. I'm sick of it I cant take it anymore. After their mom picks them up I'm calling it quits. Already got the note written. Not a cry for help just wanted to let you all know I tried.",-0.6666304347826113,1.3056576086956542,1.6259239130434793,98.76758152173912,88.85507246376812,4.029710144927536,20.219202898550726,5.148860815047168,-0.3973927536231878,241,8,58,1,8,81,54,69,0.162,0.7020000000000001,0.135,-0.6067,0,0,0,0,0,1,6.0,0,2,2,1,3,3,0,0,3,0,6,2,0,1,1,10,16,2,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,1,8,2,6,9,1,6,0,0,1,0,8,2,0,0,2,33,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818250389724816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532745010822359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607778795346433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805297653035112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613487662742865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20425568621130008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718633748893892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17117999668883033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14035358490692684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26114970791216474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991052485479969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27174893896143115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716346758974785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920186505683992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636411746095755,0.0,0.0,0.14891775580172198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17339047607936126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15063340651020302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18141903983729407,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Wonderful_Orchid,2020/01/19,"Moving in/on Tomorrow I move into my first apartment alone. My stbx has had no contact in a few days. He and I had two dogs which he left me to take care of. It’s been a sad process yet oddly liberating. I wish he were with me so we could do this together. I know that’s not a possibility. 

I’m nervous and anxious. I want freedom but I’m afraid of doing this alone and that I’m going to screw something up. Finances or otherwise. 

It’s difficult after having a partner and other half for 17 years, to be doing this alone. I don’t have many friends. I don’t know if I want to date anyone. It would be nice to have someone to just talk to and enjoy a coffee with. 

I’m scared to even think about dating. I can’t have children. I’m turning 40 this year, but I’m scared that no man will want a woman who can’t have kids. My stepson was a baby when I met my stbx. I raised him. I don’t know if I want to feel that again. Most men my age have young children also. 

I need to focus on myself for now and I know that. But I don’t feel like I’m the only person feeling this way. There has to be someone else who understands how I feel.",-0.3296938775510192,1.6972634693877566,2.126989795918369,95.39783163265308,87.77551020408163,4.642857142857143,18.545918367346946,5.985473137389443,-0.2980408163265307,870,24,203,7,28,297,133,245,0.114,0.758,0.129,0.3832,0,3,1,0,0,0,26.0,1,0,0,1,11,12,1,4,8,0,28,1,0,1,0,38,56,16,0,10,8,0,4,1,2,2,0,0,0,8,17,10,0,0,10,0,1,3,9,7,0,3,6,4,27,5,23,44,2,24,0,1,0,1,19,6,1,4,15,133,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.406273758545414,0.0,0.1045661468551402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14771793890829105,0.0,0.09142817831339144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13331524803383382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043986461888362,0.0,0.0,0.08432730354718701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10923050834871116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08636361762325546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644582198207332,0.0934126671948022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112216472184766,0.0,0.0,0.10102236109930317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07431208932574024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2874420189225073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14206762016023974,0.0,0.0,0.06388115617475737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13256684819366235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779475201974374,0.0,0.09695449289601617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994464205869391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141717736385262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14740861883727274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618206877839374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22157958466334268,0.10066295467966976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09831282297982853,0.10509734390088958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08378366259725209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14222582498214065,0.12773037085130365,0.13612241562974686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30849493807500616,0.10378864288847067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15036383982951584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09288586236752576,0.0,0.0,0.16840615395936476
divorce,swordsandstuff,2020/01/19,"How do you know when it's time to walk away? Relationships take work and effort to maintain. There will always be ups and downs, so you need to stay committed through the downs and work towards a better future. Kids need a stable household. Don't walk away. 

OTOH

People change, people grow apart, people aren't happy together. Even though the love remains, the relationship has soured. It's healthier for the kids to have happy parents than grow up in a joyless household. Walk away.

I'm so conflicted. Thoughts?",3.5617888563049824,6.621549010752691,3.4406060606060613,85.45363636363636,80.39784946236558,5.962463343108505,24.58357771260997,7.348242739294969,1.4176322580645166,410,15,70,6,11,124,64,93,0.096,0.7859999999999999,0.11800000000000001,0.3103,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,2,0,4,7,4,0,0,7,0,7,1,0,1,1,10,14,8,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,1,2,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,1,1,2,4,16,11,0,19,0,0,0,1,8,10,0,0,3,44,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14115371616969508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4781458954853509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15003241871459966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17945617723325916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11204533955849827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3611689646251617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09322947411156222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531063398545795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515711911384994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18836467284979705,0.0,0.0,0.3528201656381805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3642588360076061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180813215976702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275478486992332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16667002139798914,0.13467487384186844,0.09891820054667798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24699926239183126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,midwest_0806,2020/01/19,"Really starting to struggle 34/M STBX is 29/F  10 years together  


I took a job a year and a half ago to make more money and make our money situation less stressful-  we talked at length before I took the job since it required me to work 60+ hours a week and every Saturday, but I would be making no less than triple what I was making now.  First few months at the job- everything was fine.  Getting commission check of $4,00 to $8,00 US on top of my salary.  We were spending money, paying off bills, making Sunday's all about us.  Over time, my wife began to use Friday nights as her nights to go out and party with her sister (who is going through a divorce for sleeping with multiple guys and getting caught).  Long story short, my wife began to act like her sister; not coming home, no calls, no texts, going to after bars and crashing at her sisters.. even though I hated it, I was happy she was staying at her sisters and not driving.. well about 8 months ago, she went the bar, her sister left early and my wife stayed at the bar and ended up going home with a guy (found out because she called her brother in law to come pick her up and he told me where she was).. I talked to her about the incident, and she promised nothing happened.. I didn't fully believe it, but I took her at her word and told her to never do that again.. well 6 days later she goes home with him again... I'm furious the next night when I come home from work, she is already at the bar, i pick her up and we get into a fight (I told her not to become her whore sister).. she flipped, put holes in the wall, throwing things at me.. got ugly... This not coming home or pouring herself into the house at 6 or 7 am became routine on Friday nights/Saturday morning...    


I was getting sick of this, don't really have a whole lot of people to talk to, and I confided in one of her friends.. who really helped me out.. but I let myself think too much of the help and tried to kiss her one night-- bad choice, I know, and I regret it fully.  My wife found out from that girl who texted her instantly, and I got accused of cheating.

So we were fighting, she wants a divorce, three days later was my family Christmas.. she told me she's not going.. when I get home that night, I check her phone when she was sleeping and discover she fucked some guy who lived the next town over.. To make it worse, he was with a group of friends and pointed at me and said ""I know his wife"".  It was new years eve, 3 in the morning and I was drunk, but knew taking on 4 guys in a fight was dumb.  

I called her out on it and she said ""we we aren't together"".. it drove me crazy.. and then when she was drunk said she was going to ""fuck all of my friends"".. 

Now she is dating some 25 year old guy she met at a bar and staying at his placee when we literally just decided to get a divorce... I know its for the better, but this really really sucks.. I'm having a hard time coping since I lost all my friends after I met her (spent all my time with her)

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\* There's her side, my side, and the truth.  What also really bugs me is that she is telling everyone that I cheated on her, and that's why we aren't together.  Guys that were our ""mutual"" friends, are now trying to get in her pants.. which I kind of figured\*

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Anyway, started to get very depressed.. as I write this, she is out with this new guy and is acting like she doesn't care.  Been told that I should go out there and meet people, but I really am not ready..",3.8165729376106574,4.33911243864598,4.622951715031661,88.78652252198185,71.29901269393513,7.500897278156231,24.81712330822555,7.378060373470096,0.9209674459082318,2665,69,585,26,47,861,297,709,0.136,0.799,0.065,-0.9952,5,0,0,0,7,0,139.0,12,0,0,7,25,35,11,2,28,0,41,14,2,9,6,106,108,47,0,4,15,12,1,2,5,2,1,3,6,8,30,56,7,1,9,7,9,22,15,18,2,5,44,4,112,17,88,60,14,126,0,3,0,4,122,48,4,5,55,387,142,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876585662911861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05456288321637712,0.03954049366420357,0.0,0.10714549886362904,0.12016018364649007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04128382583158899,0.030140713799731038,0.054607213257897705,0.04207335627604604,0.05570666024588851,0.0,0.04372936003605829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15146411090732664,0.0,0.05041163778872098,0.0,0.0,0.17036713530133096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06377481263120696,0.0,0.042586200624854464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04379286853583931,0.0,0.0,0.032657415216616706,0.0,0.0416588549837805,0.04724603380805105,0.0444372416835936,0.0,0.0466115734063902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04205719508108925,0.0,0.10842598473237074,0.19100225785901775,0.09142069716199526,0.20666035062043364,0.0,0.19670187243870926,0.0,0.07909005667957243,0.0,0.0,0.3427025893971161,0.04372332594669517,0.05263425006160756,0.04429227432915832,0.048815892255107324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06628278454154295,0.0,0.29757926971659643,0.0,0.04869255849126797,0.05705194634549305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14719716077435402,0.0,0.0,0.051488505812746665,0.08151968636496082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053721247304029364,0.050560024995485835,0.0,0.04831185860734097,0.0,0.04366011766272769,0.04375654424765765,0.0,0.0,0.05397416430406148,0.04203567452662561,0.0,0.0,0.1980262484579711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07893174706285049,0.0,0.03634716213901351,0.0,0.03813440050709862,0.0955069961889782,0.10516889480364756,0.23200007203463385,0.0,0.047443025165071324,0.0,0.05188335052964433,0.0,0.06700931331194837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0685567389739631,0.0,0.051658645464257885,0.0,0.04674073279561427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049705058457045335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22172645897464455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14109821614002035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08180147489369972,0.0555773310489472,0.09895977794782528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06999369156768642,0.158102754493953,0.0,0.0,0.056638142255545074,0.05168979344057377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03717587069101021,0.11922407927284555,0.04321639351503375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03284851681299013,0.03168183470200772,0.04857865676880523,0.0,0.08649389864306252,0.0,0.0,0.2362301690402553,0.16480291306085518,0.06713870656520332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11895052362956475,0.04270389717424041,0.0,0.040796627520163914,0.029163458995223632,0.0,0.039661139553317744,0.0,0.08891251341280823,0.04583525112641165,0.04461568278201946,0.05520266230814127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07199190525828779,0.0,0.050387844550867984,0.03512372754372649,0.0,0.12016018364649007,0.12736172583403976
divorce,TeaWithAView,2020/01/19,"How much visitation time is “reasonable” to offer a noncustodial parent? My ex was given a professional opportunity to move to the east coast with my daughter and I but turned it down, so now we’re facing long distance sharing for at least the next few years. 

I’m sitting here trying to draft my visitation proposal for our next counseling session. We want to agree so we can avoid lawyers if at all possible. 

This issue of how much visit time my STBX should get is turning into a hot button topic, and I’m not sure where to start. 

The ex wants the kitchen sink of visitation - weekends, half the holidays, the ENTIRE summer break from school, and probably a 50/50 schedule if we end up in the same town in the future. This is, in my mind, WAY WAY too much to ask from a person who currently spends 10-15% of the time with our daughter when we live 15 min apart. I’m thinking more like every other weekend if we’re close, and shared holidays with up to 3 or 4 weeks in the summer if we’re long distance is generous.

What do you think is a reasonable offer? What kinds of arrangements for summer do you have?",8.449861111111113,6.6482553750000015,8.621962962962964,71.71933333333334,62.37962962962963,11.788148148148153,35.95185185185185,10.577609850970193,3.57753851851852,875,31,168,17,10,289,130,216,0.025,0.846,0.129,0.9727,2,1,0,0,0,0,22.0,6,2,0,1,9,7,0,1,16,0,11,2,1,4,2,34,24,15,0,7,7,5,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,7,13,1,1,4,4,1,5,1,1,0,1,2,1,14,6,30,21,8,46,0,0,0,0,24,15,0,5,23,107,21,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371844156091934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12997028709843395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12363687338733975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07666689235034717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15316103046546775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15280971780315042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07169096639920201,0.0,0.12957630356486474,0.2597249647462217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481680792565056,0.0,0.0,0.15596403951037047,0.3236178348003056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3121245971879815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16294016487531174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12812987863377487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16543010447565426,0.0,0.0,0.1582132190823026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3017514310222386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14851123001638572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038650868541134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138303056407551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18805331962464253,0.0,0.0,0.2567001709354053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09962851554877887,0.31922737315523103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17310504039216518,0.2329547101364557,0.11770797088062845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09449734982794804
divorce,literallywhattf,2020/01/19,"Help my Dad My dad just got served with divorce papers. The family lives in Texas. 

Over the phone he told me he literally cannot use any money, that he must leave the house, and that he cannot take anything with him. The divorce is peaceful and the complaint is ""they just weren't working out anymore"" 

I'm an 18 yr boy who has moved out already and in College, but my sister is still underage and completely dependant on my father who is the only source of income in the house.

How is this even possible? He still has work but he doesn't have anywhere to stay and can't get a hotel because he can't even spend his money. I live too far away for him to move in with me and I've offered financial assistance but I can tell he doesn't want to take it and probably never will.

What can he do to help get his assets back? My mother has literally never worked and does negligible work for our family - literally staying in her bedroom watching movies all day. He can't get in contact with a lawyer because its the weekend but how is he supposed to live until the divorce gets settled?",4.435555555555553,5.446155518518523,5.3222962962962965,82.55233333333334,70.20370370370371,8.167407407407408,29.21481481481481,8.447377352677275,2.0602725925925927,856,32,169,13,15,280,121,216,0.019,0.932,0.048,0.7939,1,0,0,0,3,0,16.0,1,0,1,4,10,0,0,0,12,0,23,0,0,4,4,29,34,15,0,2,6,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,8,14,0,0,0,2,3,2,10,0,0,0,3,1,16,0,24,29,1,24,0,0,1,0,36,12,0,1,8,108,24,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13722650113990506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08456422623441195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12332464758343925,0.0,0.0,0.10233182903520607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11683362916981847,0.09561969293692277,0.0,0.15160872933323602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13038163430632355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08019732354985551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10882204791024858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16426781585853908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23445766624242104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598770003367054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09945636221288323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667022355174226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869730673566645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13167175037525353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32941762786544176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643348745840156,0.0,0.0,0.19181722248454264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09457597281315902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14018919379196065,0.0,0.0,0.13407344268251345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2650872600671088,0.19861674963996373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869957876502263,0.0,0.1086899028124184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11882451091350148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10740096653287508,0.0,0.0,0.07334655361193274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3621215260862575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,mimi0972,2020/01/20,"It shouldn’t always be hard, should it? I (29f) am just... over it. My husband (29m) and I have been married 5 years, total of 8 years together. 

It’s always been a hard marriage. Maybe not the first six or so months, but everything after that has been SO FUCKING HARD. And miserable and awful. I know marriage takes work, but this? This is not just work... 

There’s been infidelity on his part that’s lead to a dead bedroom during and since two babies. They’re almost 4 and 3 now. 

On top of that there’s a huge lack of respect. I think that’s the best way to put it? I ask to be spoken to in a kind way, but it’s damn near impossible. I’m always being put down and yelled at and insulted. Near daily. We don’t spend any time together if we have a choice. We have nothing in common. It’s a horrible life. 

And I know I’m showing my children, girls, what kind of relationship is acceptable. What a marriage looks like. It breaks my heart. 

But, I can’t leave now. I’m a SAHM, so I have no ability to be on my own. And I don’t want the kids in daycare yet. I’m just not ready. I wish I could see in the future what’s better. Staying so they have their parents together, heading out now so I can find happiness. 

Then, what if he brings someone horrible in? What if he finds an awful woman (hell - or man?) who mistreats my children? 

I just hate that this is where I am. It’s not the life I saw coming... 

And if you read all of this, thank you. It’s pretty incoherent and probably makes no sense. I am just so confused and sad.",-0.2173107255520499,2.0005077066246058,2.055324132492114,94.4422291009464,90.23028391167192,5.1889274447949525,18.966009463722397,6.742157984588678,0.14576977917981093,1161,35,263,16,40,391,161,317,0.209,0.6459999999999999,0.145,-0.9763,2,0,0,0,0,0,61.0,3,2,2,7,18,17,5,2,14,2,27,5,2,2,2,54,47,29,1,10,19,2,3,1,0,2,2,1,1,6,25,17,0,0,6,2,1,5,10,8,0,3,5,7,29,9,25,35,6,39,1,2,3,1,25,17,3,8,14,176,54,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12231104953689367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049044607127876,0.0,0.0,0.08306311168379027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11418953088620418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12818414044693466,0.10802774676890738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10521751138651758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09752322288056536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10977647712533713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22327750296449134,0.10389687880829043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11292152359775537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13002612963780327,0.32825506189232045,0.12059336890557308,0.12535649652711472,0.0,0.0,0.14474297622122667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543914323403019,0.1342559175811275,0.0,0.0,0.12933442182397908,0.0,0.0,0.17254992281124285,0.059674109377150675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025714360451794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08153305317211282,0.0,0.12271154730755918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09749535296997293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11720187773745434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356280952687583,0.13227164665348226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124265860370846,0.1316934812659119,0.0,0.0,0.24557987876812454,0.0,0.0,0.12217852950171901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13113852869832285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973341295075536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010399993031349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10349346476112173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301908245921132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918381961595269,0.0,0.0,0.11245514280333266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07826588849095294,0.0,0.0,0.0712240088578448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11931838084008604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07204456595394099,0.19390678562201702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14046126841862808,0.0,0.0,0.1778467213844574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15731536266601676
divorce,kelbelled,2020/01/20,"As badly as I want it finalized... ...it's really only the power I have left.

My marriage financially ruined me and left me in about $10,000 of debt. My ex-husband (I consider him already my ex after over a year of separation regardless of the paperwork) cannot manage to make his truck payments on time which continues to ruin my credit and will for at least another 2 years. 

Now he wants me to pay for half of the divorce cost. I said no. Honestly, what difference does finalizing it make in my day to day if we are still financially tied? I told him the only way I would pay half is if he trades in the truck and buys something in just his own name. 

Unfortunately I would spend as much on attorney's fees as I would get out of him taking it to court so I have no leverage. Mistakes were made, I am very much paying for them and it's so frustrating that he can't at least take care of this.",4.906353646353646,4.961151593406598,6.358331668331668,78.94575924075927,68.78021978021978,10.134665334665335,29.182817182817182,10.018931242160765,2.590410989010989,698,23,147,16,11,239,113,182,0.151,0.795,0.054000000000000006,-0.9455,2,0,1,0,1,0,22.0,1,0,1,1,6,8,1,0,6,0,12,0,0,3,0,20,23,12,0,9,3,1,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,9,6,0,0,0,0,10,0,4,5,0,2,4,1,25,3,30,15,5,24,0,2,0,0,16,12,0,2,11,102,34,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17561509966812686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16687231048643406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13287536802893826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16225397693138202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20526444748403408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662675730670166,0.0,0.0,0.13926460728138915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.348660485169153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08314415389243075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3458124513757917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15058224652169036,0.212454555855861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23397262481101894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2420664923149183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019492474856335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513787140619623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225138531962584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12708951985965414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23930715723950505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09279589429960754,0.0,0.0,0.152065221759289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313072804394361,0.1877299532652369,0.12631803426335408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3391457644666539,0.0,0.0,0.20496206264935946
divorce,Mymindisgone217,2020/01/20,"A note about Love and infatuation. I know that for many of us, there are/were some major issues that lead to our divorces, but at the same time, I keep seeing people post about feeling a loss of love for there SO. while at the same time still caring about them and not disliking them.  I think that in such cases like this that it's not really a loss of love that they are feeling, but the loss of the infatuation. 

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We have all grown up in a world of media and such, that seems to be hell-bent on describing our infatuation with someone, as being our love for someone.  Most of us never want to admit that our love for someone was ever involved with infatuation, but for the most part, All of our love has been built in our infatuation with someone.  Infatuation isn't a bad thing.  It is what gives us the drive to keep working to get to know this person more and more and build our love.  Without the drive that we get from our infatuation with someone, we wouldn't have the ability to build a loving relationship with each other.  But that infatuation isn't needed once the love has been built up, so at some point it will start to fade away.  

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Our infatuation fading away does not mean that our love has faded away.  Our love is still very much there and we have to work to be okay with not having the infatuation anymore.  If we allow ourselves to believe that our infatuation was actually our love, then we doom ourselves to an endless pursuit of love that we most likely have already found.",7.7100804597701105,6.9789620310344835,7.737586206896554,74.0227011494253,63.17241379310346,10.078160919540233,31.74712643678161,9.21078282632365,2.474636781609195,1199,36,233,17,15,388,130,290,0.049,0.6409999999999999,0.31,0.9985,0,0,0,0,1,0,34.0,23,0,3,6,13,22,0,0,17,1,22,13,0,2,4,57,54,16,0,4,10,0,2,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,20,20,0,2,9,0,0,4,9,5,0,0,5,3,29,17,49,44,15,31,1,4,1,13,45,14,0,7,14,179,49,3,0.0,0.0,0.06391564593271598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.072277593051347,0.0,0.0,0.14193199309937685,0.15917210276691074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06495544677736123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846098260985065,0.0,0.054687278002249255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07379271552668733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06677857961969723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05731688579491079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05924580665602906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06623452511561277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07181410455895446,0.0,0.0,0.06843898196672392,0.06283071216661512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683618748633388,0.0,0.1164335260667271,0.0,0.0,0.07199090137758181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06399707365404618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7684770601319181,0.0,0.0,0.06640370068385656,0.0,0.07134545864809129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04814784774545093,0.048565212298152416,0.0505153415404899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06975219140563083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07092689276453729,0.0,0.04540738857986376,0.0571894737375235,0.0,0.0,0.061915856801884564,0.0,0.06272804253694694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04195906978148672,0.0,0.0,0.07031929062357578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0521926470303762,0.0596260294175336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27747707322993603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04635912965988828,0.0,0.1046120136009503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04351331144166897,0.04196784738502317,0.0,0.0,0.07638368110370568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363545610130564,0.0,0.0,0.054041902992485916,0.038631840859057465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06313679245471196,0.0,0.09536522493899012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15917210276691074,0.0
divorce,live_fast_and_die,2020/01/20,"Anyone know about California family law ""Earning Potential""? Ex (M) states he won't have to pay me child support b/c we work in the same profession, and I have the same ""earning Potential"".  Historically he's made more than me, as I was working part-time to be with our kids, (5&7).  Since our separation we were splitting the the kids in time and financially 50/50, but I have started taking them one more day than him and he's not paying me any more $$. We've been splitting childcare, sports, and other extra curricular activities 50/50, but nothing for food, clothes or other supplies.   

I plan to go through mediation, but was curious if anyone heard of the ""earning potential"" 

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Thanks!",6.208626421697288,7.797871472440946,6.730656167979008,71.94056867891514,66.55905511811025,9.738932633420823,35.370953630796144,9.994966539143718,3.802173053368328,555,27,94,13,9,181,86,127,0.0,0.917,0.083,0.8438,0,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,4,0,1,6,1,2,0,0,5,0,9,1,0,1,0,18,17,10,0,1,6,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,2,7,1,0,1,1,2,1,2,0,0,1,6,1,13,2,13,9,6,8,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,2,4,59,15,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4493891369179281,0.25198763267472163,0.1410245229133234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900078029671192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13374200647438175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19549803739440885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25076296155824435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11785800699967384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11396982572267285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962265948738866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1989853083687889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14052507008738924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.224570756935744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17154567663118064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14678360256335315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23533071698778316,0.0,0.0,0.15592285836728365,0.0,0.0,0.1909263034036384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209240981410528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3019481033942093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25198763267472163,0.0
divorce,Rhinestone-Hipster,2020/01/20,Forgiving Yourself Our marriage falling apart is my fault. Friends and my therapist keep telling me to forgive myself. How?,5.688833333333331,9.454351550000002,4.1200000000000045,77.39833333333334,83.5,6.666666666666668,46.66666666666666,7.793537801064563,5.237166666666667,101,8,13,2,3,29,19,20,0.157,0.547,0.29600000000000004,0.5859,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,3,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,0,9,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4130293364206013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4751755507199314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4672624956397402,0.0,0.0,0.6207098544589812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,clee1981,2020/01/20,"Sharing a bedroom issues My daughter doesn't see my ex-husband very often, but recently my daughter has stopped wanting to go all together.  I asked her why, because I feel she needs to spend time with him.  Here was her response.  Her dad recently met a woman with 3 children, and moved her into the basement he rents.  He and his lady friend have one bedroom, the children all share the other.  My daughter is 11.  Her children(girls) are 19, 8, and 2.  My daughter told me the 19 year old  has been in jail for drug use.    My daughter isn't comfortable around the adult daughter and said the 2 year old cries all night.  I confronted my ex and he told me there isn't anything he can do about it, that his rental only has 2 bedrooms.  What should I do?  I offered for him to come see our daughter at my house and he declined.",2.955217391304348,4.8901473478260895,3.626677018633544,89.54386645962738,75.52173913043478,6.090683229813665,28.89130434782609,6.868970318607317,1.445129192546584,637,28,127,6,14,201,98,161,0.073,0.871,0.055999999999999994,-0.3925,2,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,0,0,5,5,1,0,8,0,15,1,0,1,3,22,28,7,0,3,1,9,1,0,1,1,1,1,4,4,4,11,0,1,1,0,2,3,3,1,0,1,6,4,26,4,12,21,3,16,0,0,2,0,38,4,0,1,9,79,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14135639682865073,0.1529163934326792,0.16058667338420035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10471259972761443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479691702399877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18868704922206844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19920475817841368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08685472906876313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327131341822462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09762383471076938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982055787083005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17928873527888806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18256990898938485,0.0,0.12736917337174952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16119943834878328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3604984641463029,0.0,0.11639935685463047,0.1306428202200233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3392146779765978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16339760152022034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737652732795905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436118029013886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10016353126948482,0.0,0.0,0.3282772305746744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14835866599998518,0.0,0.1417325732940546,0.10131749462638136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550004476924336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22123526182045802
divorce,Redhook420,2020/01/20,"Devastated My wife of 8 years just decided that she wants a divorce. We've had some issues in the last couple years do to her substance abuse problems but she went to rehab and we were planning on fixing our relationship when she got back. Well she got out a couple weeks ago and immediately told me that she is filing for a divorce. This was a complete shock to me and I'm having a difficult time processing everything. I've suggested going to counseling before making a final decision but she has made up her mind. We have two kids together, a house and have built a life together for the last 12 years. I just don't know what to do.",3.3555781818181813,5.444191016000005,4.889818181818182,80.24490909090913,74.84,8.385454545454545,25.763636363636365,9.095868883498916,2.23892,507,18,96,12,11,170,84,125,0.11199999999999999,0.866,0.022000000000000002,-0.8735,0,0,0,0,3,0,8.0,3,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,10,0,11,2,0,2,0,20,21,7,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,7,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,3,1,1,8,0,15,1,12,13,1,17,0,0,0,0,18,4,0,1,11,65,19,0,0.0,0.20532943838346604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15361795616172086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332552353961081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14746357996594264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18169934285691047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3835012209870648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15574879977439127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18983916122767744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984890773883582,0.0,0.2772040058120867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19996228009318984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18087777617073397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09523988459748084,0.2825215128564273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224052915650184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16397847528714546,0.11567756140506776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749812768558533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16582249593401585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186056876516665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10105128334610758,0.0,0.0,0.1655933802574667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692866731881842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10221547431133073,0.0,0.13900896295717907,0.0,0.15581544583225215,0.16064870545131285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3347941138609836
divorce,TA7091,2020/01/20,"I love my wife, but she has lost all love and affection towards me. Since we've had our twins, our marriage has been hell. She is full of resentment towards me because I get anxious and frustrated with the kids. The last year she hasn't shown any affection towards me. No ILYs, no kissing, won't even hold my hand, I don't even think she's touched me that wasn't by accident or handing the kids off to each other. She doesn't even say my name anymore. It breaks my heart and we've talked about it, she says things like she wishes she could stop being this way towards me and that she still loves me, but every day it's just resentment and bitterness from her. Then when the kids are down for the night she goes out on ""girls nights"" more often than not while I'm stuck at home with the kids because she needs space. I consulted with a lawyer, but child support would force me to sell the house and move back in with my parents to afford it. I don't know what to do, I can't keep this up much longer.",4.513444652908071,4.8671386634146385,4.374634146341464,91.78532833020635,69.6829268292683,7.868667917448405,26.50093808630394,7.61054688173877,1.0693227016885554,786,22,178,8,13,240,128,205,0.147,0.6659999999999999,0.187,0.9009,2,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,0,1,9,12,5,0,8,0,17,7,3,2,1,32,30,13,0,4,6,2,3,1,0,2,0,2,1,6,11,12,0,3,2,0,1,1,10,6,0,0,5,6,32,6,25,21,5,27,1,1,0,4,31,13,1,2,12,121,43,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10467553631823008,0.0,0.0,0.1738935268671108,0.15265407373644355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836024624658432,0.0,0.1876647580206197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12289806451469132,0.0,0.0,0.09927008414406407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30500169794883725,0.0,0.12969000986328694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08042042598371166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824040582771768,0.0,0.0,0.15440118089211755,0.0,0.0,0.17761091818648098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368172567152523,0.0,0.0,0.08459417117793286,0.1254709270230328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07520088372255089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16802933982899326,0.0,0.416774975258992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16359988139662254,0.11315394573726167,0.114134808811323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888998427073377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17091755081513285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448176184462355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12732988088517785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12292618117687315,0.12868973891633134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17467436516690074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12372057131556385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10226215941675973,0.09863011013121073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12217996875675502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17700828087961004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10934521780194913,0.0,0.0,0.0991238446547128
divorce,shitsammiches,2020/01/20,"19th Anniversary today Man today is shaping up to be much tougher than I anticipated. 

19 years ago, at 20 years old, we ran off to Vegas and married after dating for 3  whole months. I did kinda freak out, but not because I was unsure of him. I just didn’t know what being married was supposed to look like or if I’d be good at it. My parents weren’t even married, lol. I think a lot of people would assume that meant my family didn’t value marriage, but it actually meant they took it very seriously. 

George W. Bush was inaugurated that day. I had no idea how much that simple fact would affect my everyday life for decades. I wonder what our life would have looked like under different circumstances. I wonder if I knew how this would end, if I  would have made the same choice. I probably would have...I loved him with everything I had and had no way to conceptualize this level of heart break.",4.863152380952382,5.891352834285716,5.740928571428572,79.87748809523809,69.22857142857143,8.576190476190476,26.583333333333336,8.841846274778883,1.8679619047619045,706,21,138,12,12,232,115,175,0.055,0.8009999999999999,0.14400000000000002,0.9522,3,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,1,0,4,6,0,0,2,1,22,4,1,4,1,36,35,10,0,9,8,1,0,2,0,6,2,0,0,1,10,5,0,0,9,0,0,2,6,2,0,0,16,2,20,4,18,10,5,24,0,0,2,1,9,8,0,9,14,92,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.1286654335862008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11687602788509012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08037381982342752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08503158441687636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377539593273878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11677892397100452,0.0,0.0,0.0870849052865707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11849722207173233,0.0,0.1242953377794624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11058853871972446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15624149221902345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14884127450859572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07246066596713173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862574483828547,0.1288293517148217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22143961171909005,0.0,0.0,0.1120931558890088,0.11899871210661415,0.12475854599991498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10524047404667823,0.0,0.1938481139010084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13835316227124586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464025166874179,0.0,0.0,0.09140737380320824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14215533330650554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08448340311162457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499545384698329,0.0,0.14648889570367296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10878908878854752,0.0,0.10465546007107476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472045042996843,0.0,0.0,0.28596885240931674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5619697332752266,0.0,0.0,0.16981264067935306
divorce,EveryExcitement,2020/01/20,"Messenger Kids and iMessenger | and PTSD What is your guy’s opinion on this? Me EX communicates with my kids 8 and 10 when they are with me via Messenger kids. I do the same with iMessenger when they are NO with me so I shouldn’t feel bad or anything, but I don’t like it Hahaha is 100% selfish because I do the same, but after her cheating on me I can be very selfish about what her mom’s rights are, human brain works like that, someone did wrong with you and you don’t want then to have anything good... I remembered that she is an OK mom and I shouldn’t care about her contacting her kids...

I have PTSD from the cheating, I’m know that, the whole cheating and divorce has me with PTSD you might think that is only for army guys but is not, any trauma can give you PTSD.

Anyhow I know I’m wrong, she has all the rights to contact her kids, even if I don’t feel she does, but I know she does.

Just venting, take care of yourself, be patient and kind with you...",3.3282571428571432,4.118729140000003,3.9644285714285736,92.08400000000002,72.6,7.314285714285713,25.285714285714285,7.447530270364453,0.9020714285714284,748,22,172,8,14,237,101,200,0.156,0.7,0.14400000000000002,-0.5720000000000001,0,0,0,0,1,0,27.0,0,6,2,1,7,16,3,0,6,1,25,1,1,0,1,38,38,17,0,4,8,3,2,2,0,3,0,0,0,8,8,14,0,0,7,0,0,0,7,9,0,0,1,2,34,7,17,32,4,8,0,0,0,0,32,4,0,5,6,115,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08307710099502401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201064494392638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10200354609908686,0.0744712881522181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13637771083289515,0.0,0.0,0.2491128530620657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138166614252337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08068952165708157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12354164776136158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11719280386678207,0.0,0.10246708382682562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419271862645011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12721713820003924,0.2014177930125071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11936831912549507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295988697877995,0.0,0.2861587947370943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09291278351346337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5712222841167457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13839031604154792,0.2086582727225156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035108949086307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918536633516797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07827906986413884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10079978277488402,0.07205669954531987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363940283177986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889383369740397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26713878819578457,0.0,0.0
divorce,Malephic,2020/01/20,"Need help for a friend My friend is very naive and got herself in a bad situation. She met a foreign guy living in America and began dating him. He proposed 3 months later and somehow got her to get married at the court house without her family even knowing. He put her name on everything. He’s working for Uber eats using her name and info and wants to go with her to file taxes. They haven’t lived together for close to a year now and he refuses to get divorced. What can I do to help her out here? I’ve never been married and don’t know anything about this stuff, but she is in a downward spiral here.",2.98560975609756,4.596075081300814,4.26878861788618,86.36513414634148,74.60975609756099,6.871219512195122,26.121138211382114,7.554174236665415,1.3658689430894309,477,17,96,6,10,157,84,123,0.033,0.899,0.067,0.4503,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,0,1,1,6,3,0,0,6,0,7,1,0,1,1,23,19,8,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,10,1,1,3,0,1,2,4,1,0,0,5,0,13,2,18,14,0,17,0,0,0,0,25,8,0,1,7,61,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15450983223846598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567710981802824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19212454662714876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12401318783108067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687458717430466,0.0,0.17700267365335368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901246007734083,0.0,0.19619287617172249,0.0,0.10670788632169953,0.0,0.3003363857646649,0.0,0.0,0.1859111379986185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517020822007664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21664892004901776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20637510368476766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33158964581373057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14986761060869289,0.0,0.0,0.13922107560421576,0.14481147823683824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18874986613919184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21104921956641254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21493937518981832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16216367358717373,0.0,0.1549210125165829,0.1107452471112431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809931788577713,0.0,0.1366909415502471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12091077572721386
divorce,dadvocate1,2020/01/20,"Working class men who married women from wealthier families, what worked and what didn't? What were the biggest relationship challenges of marrying someone with family money.",10.788888888888884,13.802295481481485,9.341666666666667,52.13250000000005,57.148148148148145,12.807407407407407,46.83333333333334,12.161744961471696,7.472200000000001,146,9,15,5,2,45,25,27,0.0,0.8420000000000001,0.158,0.5423,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,11,4,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6863841992825779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3908513617281057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3084567291806247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5300626285956126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,StrangerintheAlps31,2020/01/20,"Need advice about soon to be ex hooking up with another man... So long story short, my spouse and I have been married since 2011 (together since 2009). A few years into the marriage, something was off. We never lived together before getting married (huge mistake) and we had done a pretty good job of hiding our not so great sides while dating. The first few years of marriage were pretty good but then we started fighting a lot in late 2014. My wife had a visitor one night and got really drunk in the guest bedroom. I overheard her saying that she didn't love me anymore. I confronted her on this and she denied that she meant it. I took her word for it. We got pregnant in 2015. Right after the baby was born, the marriage fell apart. The day we conceived our baby was the last time we had sex. All of the energy she was spending on hiding her unhappiness was devoted to the baby, meaning she had no patience to ""fake it"" anymore with me and we spent the next few years in a miserable status quo, neither of us wanting to be the one to end it. To be honest, I was genuinely trying to save the marriage desperately but upon reflection, she had given up on us long before and the marriage was unsalvageable. 

In December 2018, after fighting while putting up Christmas decorations, I finally suggested a divorce. We couldn't do it right away for financial reasons (and probably because we were just so used to living together as roommates/friends. Well, this summer, we're finally divorcing and getting new rentals near each other (for our child). So that's the basic background (sorry if it wasn't so short!)

Sometime in the fall, I noticed her talking about a co-worker a lot. My wife was always being hit on but I knew she was faithful so I never really needed to be jealous. I always assumed that most of her male coworkers wanted to fuck her anyway because I'm a man and I know how that goes! She usually tells me when she gets hit on. This was different though. The way her eyes lit up when she spoke about him betrayed her interest. No worries though because my wife also told me about this guy's beautiful girlfriend (some sort of instagram model). Well, in December I noticed her listening to different types of music that she would have never listened to while we were still a couple. She also started following the NBA (she always hated sports and I could never get her to watch with me). During one game she was screaming so loud that I asked what was up. She coyly said that she bet on the game. I said ""money?"" but she said no and got quiet. A few minutes later she mentioned something about having to go to a special gym class with her co-worker (who was now an ex-coworker after moving on). I knew something was going on so I checked her phone one day (I know, I know, not cool and a huge mistake). I was floored to find graphic descriptions of sexual encounters between the two. It was like a dagger to the heart for some reason. This guy is super good looking and is like 1% bodyfat. Even though our marriage was ostensibly over for a long time, I still felt the sting of humiliation and anger. 

She was the one who proposed to me. She was the one who completely changed after getting married (even telling me after a year that she didn't want children despite explicitly having this conversation before getting married). She was the one who gave up on our marriage and stopped trying. And now I'm stuck with this heartbreak and she's moved on already. To make matters worse, she's always talking about this guy. It's like she's flaunting it to hurt me. She was even showing me pictures of the guy with no shirt on (and even his girlfriend for some reason) I obviously can't tell her that I went through her phone and know. Before this week, I was actually really relaxed about the divorce, but these new developments have caused a lot of sadness and resentment to come out. On a positive note, I'm choosing anger and resentment and it's led me to exercise more this week than I have for the past 5 years. I'm doing tons of housework (even doing all of the chores that my wife usually does) and I've been trying to be the best parent as possible.  My anger is a good motivator (though I realize, not healthy, it's better than sadness and despair).  When I have a quiet moment, I'm so sad because I feel like she's the one who gave up and yet she has this guy who she not only has amazing sexual chemistry with but who is her emotional support during the divorce. I suppose she already went through the grieving process  years ago while I was still fighting for us. 

Are there any divorced women out there who can explain why my wife would want to flaunt her new sexual experiences with me? She's won. She gets to get out of our loveless marriage and move on. She has a new sexual partner who is supporting her through this and I have no one.",4.612936848559169,6.177735523605152,5.289481299816064,80.85383261802575,70.37339055793991,7.943740036787248,30.58896382587369,8.461967990115637,2.4021356958920905,3836,161,700,61,70,1239,374,932,0.163,0.74,0.09699999999999999,-0.9971,5,0,3,0,10,0,113.0,19,0,0,6,44,51,12,1,54,1,69,8,3,9,8,121,135,60,1,13,12,8,2,4,4,2,1,11,2,12,46,51,1,1,20,8,5,14,19,24,2,11,58,18,121,27,111,65,18,123,1,8,4,3,145,45,1,11,67,519,167,4,0.0,0.0,0.0481207346642233,0.0,0.0,0.048186450783316084,0.04371150953063721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10883253471470583,0.07886848890079186,0.1641238725435462,0.0,0.0,0.033533388269864496,0.051707218110112634,0.0,0.0,0.09780715734798047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04609942726607519,0.0,0.046329607972391024,0.0,0.0,0.1202388908931652,0.0,0.16784120404042688,0.0,0.05174918762987713,0.04361185492437202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050656308634168014,0.05216483766529922,0.04247733549333825,0.0517019803898385,0.0,0.0,0.039371076183999085,0.054562037196157764,0.0,0.06360344340753615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10303966715813204,0.0,0.0,0.043152668065343146,0.05046260045220668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055468597402465465,0.04367519277053832,0.0,0.0,0.1628483075738658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04823593264711478,0.0,0.0,0.024933284817730397,0.03522801655899623,0.04734659984190333,0.10803628055767046,0.04506965274391018,0.041944183241877805,0.0,0.0,0.03809780318351913,0.045587520357332816,0.20610503383645248,0.0,0.05604951859133836,0.16543998120740894,0.1183163008225715,0.054365903918386936,0.0,0.24412979548146665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048684719128705034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05843415112402249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052788787488627635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04893387581918401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10840084654939433,0.04019530694977132,0.0556253163332588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09636407973831614,0.0,0.08708559722428201,0.13091689826792555,0.04140908907186782,0.0,0.0,0.1257681615458119,0.04450539116110215,0.0,0.032915688726618236,0.0,0.0,0.05371448312853232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15723038648968318,0.0,0.07312743729043186,0.1521277184182085,0.19050071890472228,0.05244314779533933,0.04627533298303594,0.0,0.0,0.1122825283442997,0.0,0.0,0.3007316369939398,0.03750348059181132,0.0,0.0,0.05475438478952383,0.0,0.047073234228787314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055591103661658,0.0,0.10033467949931248,0.05316594274377222,0.0,0.0,0.04957149605319238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09477028202944524,0.15210074794288345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08422319497333547,0.1407190712901393,0.0392143405394303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08158166624716202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11388678883146848,0.04877015594927258,0.0551999850897568,0.06980561160177305,0.0,0.11814025053773415,0.04122647118147385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119158021818258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07926914159353053,0.12930080038524014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19379248447039155,0.0,0.0575076539934747,0.0,0.0,0.04711907904642704,0.05478669044929515,0.10043744733917544,0.0,0.04816999401219145,0.0,0.17794633772709129,0.04258914758259855,0.10861890372760684,0.0,0.1163403755960578,0.0391410302275818,0.07910913230416802,0.0,0.08867359670306761,0.09142417455452924,0.04449579603352972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07179845589472733,0.05007803865931197,0.05025244743330903,0.07005869323388547,0.0,0.0,0.1905292384365452
divorce,banksy64,2020/01/20,"Need Advice Hi all, 

I am turning to this community for some advice as I don’t really have a huge support system in my life. My ‘friends’ aren’t really the type for these kinds of talks and my family is well kind of distant. 
  My wife told me the other week that she didn’t feel anything anymore and hasn’t for years. I wasn’t exactly shocked as I kind of feel the same. We didn’t really discuss further as the kids were around so we didn’t have much time to discuss it. I went out for the day and honestly I felt a giant relief. I was worried about the kids, 2 and 5, but came to the conclusion that if their mother and I were in a happier place apart from each other it would be better for all in the long run. I came home expecting to discuss further after the children went to be but she apologized and said she didn’t mean what she said. Since then nothing has really changed and it’s the same old thing it has been, we barely talk and if we do it’s about the kids or work, mostly hers, when I talk she seems to tune me out completely. 
I think back to times when she is taken the kids overnight to her families when she had days off and I didn’t and I never missed her, I only missed the kids. We have tried counseling in the past but it hasn’t had any lasting impacts. Just looking to vent and see what others think. Am I wrong to just want to end it? It’s the shittiest feeling I have ever had. I have not admitted to her I feel nothing yet because I haven’t gathered that courage yet.",2.7533145766345117,4.0173667363344086,3.9955827974276548,89.49643957663454,74.56270096463022,7.369828510182207,24.855439442658092,7.937092434478242,1.1901863879957129,1169,37,257,17,24,383,154,311,0.049,0.8420000000000001,0.10800000000000001,0.9324,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,5,0,1,3,14,14,0,0,18,0,33,1,0,0,5,55,59,25,0,6,9,2,5,0,1,1,1,2,1,6,19,22,0,0,11,0,0,5,13,4,1,0,22,9,42,10,35,34,8,41,0,2,2,0,39,14,0,6,21,186,61,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21029896212077984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07317447783462101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10671435301780803,0.0,0.0,0.08854900575517557,0.09579046230602943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08274091081931811,0.0,0.06559446055461847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09516708200817496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24614084845532624,0.0,0.0,0.1138308699009814,0.0,0.11282085149272435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13879148514237308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09530529392350813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09733406881160593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028791377343856,0.0,0.21763146420594945,0.0,0.10331681048137714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08313466066014805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10793568570292476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3361593344462127,0.0,0.08771170314736926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07600395799150432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522624230899966,0.09036034313193138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11721241001521958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0791013945137928,0.07978707663013271,0.0829909154261378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20649807190762767,0.0,0.11291240188839086,0.0,0.0,0.0818377668013005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10272028901337857,0.0,0.0,0.11242338203153376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757357670286085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047122801939346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574653607146937,0.09795873122268403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08901122338835056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12210785740159462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594642985891449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07148738263745533,0.13789672470711906,0.0,0.0,0.12548963196326515,0.0,0.0,0.10282032872798222,0.0,0.07305612051428312,0.1170423613973662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06346768604781683,0.0,0.08631351836148403,0.0,0.0967490085440591,0.1995001572954964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783370662867103,0.1092771866769646,0.0,0.07643886525735476,0.11764819126735528,0.0,0.06929351239737065
divorce,MissyTX,2020/01/20,"A little advice from me to you...if you are not sure if you're ready for sex after divorce....don't do it. So I'm sure people have seen some of my posts on here, or you can go back and read my history. I have been separated from my ex husband since August, divorce was finalized in December. 

Like most people, I was curious about dating but wasnt sure if I was ready for it. I was missing intimacy and touch; the whole nine yards. I had been feeling really good with myself and decided to join Bumble. I talked to a few guys and was excited! It felt good to be wanted and paid attention to. 

Well I had my first date on Saturday and the guy was great and we hit it off. We had a few drinks and ended up going back to my place. In the moment everything felt right, and we ended up sleeping together. He spent the night and the next morning felt super awkward and I knew he was just trying to bail. As the day went on I just felt disgusted with myself, and realized that I'm totally missing that emotional connection from a relationship. What's done is done, but I wish I didnt rush into it so fast. It's a hit to my self esteem and I just feel like crap.

I just wanted to share my story...and if there is ANY feeling of doubt, even an iota...dont have sex until your ready. To me it wasnt worth it, even though it satisfied my need for physical intimacy.",2.4285261340448905,4.009507404332133,4.35749803798462,85.27224140637264,76.03971119133574,7.994286611207032,23.234814000941768,8.716276077567194,1.5062868937372462,1049,31,222,22,23,358,150,277,0.086,0.718,0.195,0.9874,0,0,1,0,2,0,39.0,3,3,0,2,15,18,2,2,12,0,26,5,2,0,4,52,50,24,0,7,11,2,8,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,12,19,1,0,11,3,3,4,4,6,1,2,26,9,31,12,33,21,6,34,0,2,1,2,17,12,1,7,19,156,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163752943174854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07768956955882328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756925621248911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07367767463616386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23382174663655955,0.13389265521534227,0.11191524073894613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12850867981336314,0.20237185097045746,0.0,0.0,0.15091364841489807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10267478646860978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17329499926356634,0.08161565484687526,0.4387671096269072,0.1251482860263855,0.0,0.09717555277545066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12985454790005732,0.19164423267323094,0.0,0.12595397876603812,0.0,0.22623826229314514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11162731030269604,0.1145021059347978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08471018616301088,0.0,0.0,0.12149937088794302,0.1072098850170206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584042633711607,0.0,0.11936025260223496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10941379455574196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11427452179317885,0.0,0.07318737928283954,0.0,0.0,0.1226548782079675,0.0,0.09756341518025972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11918099650718,0.0,0.0,0.09450349132075957,0.0,0.1143261112168148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3230197394909608,0.0,0.0,0.09182468291212263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11224376270209588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07756390922555835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13476767736131426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10271872176550936,0.10590496718154632,0.0,0.12754890605822186,0.13137450863472888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,newbeginningsMD,2020/01/20,"Moving on, one step at a time I (33M) moved out yesterday into my own place. stbxw moved out January 3rd. We moved from the west coast to the east coast for work and to complete one of our life goals, owning a house. 2-3 months into our move, she asked for the divorce.

Yesterday i should have been moving boxes into a family home with our two kids, instead i was alone moving my own stuff into my own place.

I do not miss her, enough time has allowed me to see the red flags i chose to ignore. I think i just miss the feeling of having someone love you and its hard going through self-identity issues. i was the provider, the great dad, and a good person. I'm still all of those things, she cant take those away but has tried to take away everything else. i realize when your not thriving, you just have to survive until you can pick yourself up again.",5.352790697674422,5.177964976744189,5.524976744186045,86.0863023255814,67.83720930232559,8.507906976744186,27.08372093023256,7.908726449838941,1.3896190697674418,664,17,141,7,10,210,113,172,0.027999999999999997,0.905,0.067,0.6535,1,1,0,0,1,0,23.0,4,4,0,3,6,6,0,0,11,0,12,2,0,2,1,24,23,6,0,1,5,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,5,11,0,1,3,0,0,9,3,3,0,3,3,4,24,3,26,19,6,33,0,2,2,1,17,15,0,0,9,99,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10807197194514527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09755031347502016,0.0,0.19607479089908075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10940579294397572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716848813529496,0.0,0.0,0.1078182941840115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09378031131795983,0.0,0.09836901885575612,0.0,0.05276095375096918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059302776986263114,0.0875212718746766,0.0,0.11504288196426858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09347437235517086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046684998831245,0.0,0.0,0.12040237167896155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891110675885134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07370333746751939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941771973442466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08328874083961782,0.7763300673952966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14141638917064836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09111173285053087,0.2180407095650516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08315101018097971,0.0,0.108856627221183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08841283304792966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08333160993849204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194522942195742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15691184217702406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06932347770345072,0.06686131291932505,0.0,0.0,0.12169109264411185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07084473028278145,0.0,0.10193180901917924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07596582316660701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,IknowIsuckAtThis,2020/01/20,"Child Support Calculator and Spousal Support Offer I am preparing to file for divorce in Florida in the coming year.  My wife, two kids (10 and 5), and I are stationed overseas.  We are Florida residents but moved here from elsewhere.  We own a home in FL, vote in FL, and have FL driver’s licenses.

I am trying to have a going-in position on asset and income division that is “equitable” (not necessarily equal) as stated in my one phone consultation with a FL attorney thus far and from what I’ve read.

I found a FL child support calculator and based on my expected income when I re-settle in the States (around $110,000 per year gross) I would pay around $2700-2800 in child support each month.  That seems a lot for just the kids, given that a big part of their lodging, food, etc. comes from expenses already borne by the custodial parent.  That will largely be my STBXW because my next job will likely be in a place she doesn’t want to live and I’ll be there on my own, the kids mostly with her but with me for a month in the summer and some winter/spring break time as well.  That part sucks but if I fight for them to live nearer to me she’ll spend every cent fighting me on it.  

We’ve been married 14 years and she’s been home the last 10 with the kids; nearly all the assets are from my income, though I realize they are now marital property as everything has been commingled.  Is there some minimum amount for each of us (STBXW and I) to live on after the child support is subtracted from net income, by my calculations if we evenly split the remainder 50/50, I would get about $2000, which is not enough to live on without dipping significantly into savings.  Also how is the element of time worked into alimony/spousal support, in that she’s an educated and competent adult, at some point I assume she either needs to support herself or get someone else (e.g. a new husband) to support her; I know permanent alimony kicks in at 17 years in FL.  Can I offer that I will pay spousal support of a certain amount, for a certain amount of time, and then it’s either phased out or ends?  Maybe 3 years or until she’s remarried or earning a certain amount?  

Does anyone know of an easy to use and reliable child support calculator to get a decent estimate of my child support obligations in FL?  And how does alimony/spousal support work, in terms of time?  Can I offer that I will pay spousal support of a certain amount, for a certain amount of time, and then it’s either phased out or ends?  Maybe 3 years or until she’s remarried or earning a certain amount on her own?  Any advice on either of these?",8.670632411067196,6.699090885375497,8.637826086956522,72.31804347826089,62.08300395256917,11.88300395256917,38.205533596837945,10.568078804390687,3.869842687747037,2052,82,391,39,23,671,226,506,0.028999999999999998,0.823,0.14800000000000002,0.9958,6,0,0,0,4,0,64.0,4,0,3,5,15,26,3,0,30,0,30,1,0,4,7,81,57,40,0,7,20,3,0,1,0,7,0,0,2,11,14,33,1,0,6,1,6,3,4,4,1,2,5,0,46,22,79,42,28,70,0,0,0,0,40,36,1,16,29,264,60,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0546284441195749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0616911179844823,0.04470616499736031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03801642987730825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039089163634852174,0.0,0.0,0.09953228231849856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03407837382386742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963121670355392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09784340110952383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04670036408387533,0.0,0.09902816202031227,0.057763461326535925,0.0623473978223901,0.036923863557705515,0.0,0.047101274463653316,0.0,0.05024263671580862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06759897035613012,0.06129551649774871,0.0,0.0,0.08762212048720824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11215192914825327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0554757915822276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06144641794502674,0.0455689731009409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02731172175758963,0.0,0.19745594889232496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047527322676397664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11232555195170234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08924359259875164,0.05941678101502574,0.0,0.04145188177058305,0.0,0.053992137355282604,0.05945421424945934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037881790788007325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062074437962379436,0.12107650864082692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05840746317631412,0.0,0.05284706180464302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055918823713188286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050892624677333874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047367019680514384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8247050633593573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05492509687157658,0.0,0.16298947170633402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03795493954758892,0.0,0.05460978726091118,0.0,0.06724526230080947,0.04828284364163754,0.0,0.0,0.03297344794950173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05026413590988585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053889167417602864,0.0,0.08139711209182679,0.0,0.0,0.07942476248412281,0.0,0.0,0.21600088169763504
divorce,pattyrevers,2020/01/20,"I feel like he ruined my life. I never had the desire to marry my husband. I liked his company. He’s friendship. And before convincing me to marry him, I was going to completely break it off. I’ve lost friends. I’m over 200 miles from what I have left. I can’t get a job because someone has to be there for the kids and child care isn’t an option. I just have so much resentment. I feel like I can’t have a life with him. I’m just ready to get out of this.",-0.3053454545454528,1.6416707200000042,2.115454545454547,96.08772727272728,86.8,5.236363636363637,18.090909090909093,6.574015621080383,-0.16049999999999984,352,9,84,4,11,120,67,100,0.105,0.679,0.215,0.885,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,4,9,1,0,5,0,10,2,0,0,1,11,19,3,0,1,2,1,2,3,1,0,2,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,3,2,15,6,12,15,1,8,0,2,0,0,9,5,0,1,4,53,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14504150555016526,0.0,0.20246311943284725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425881447502727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24946780596405396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24061174492954415,0.3399581963079076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838261378109767,0.0,0.24861992810352926,0.0,0.13522258067188814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361113935265921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25851446786501475,0.0,0.3361176660849337,0.3487255521664839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597315413128312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749078390826142,0.0,0.18350829046563344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20159952125046687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Tinktinkswim,2020/01/20,"Scared of the unknown. Venting? I(33F) used to love my spouse (33m)until they lied, and lied and lied. Anyone in their right mind would have divorced him 5 years ago. I've tried to heal but I am disgusted by his actions. Currently I am playing house.. he will be surprised about the divorce.I'm ready for a divorce. I'm scared of the unknown. I don't have a career and that worries me the most. I want to be loved, appreciated, and respected. Please share your words of wisdom. <3",1.1564751552795016,3.79139064130435,1.8511180124223607,93.49543478260873,93.67391304347824,4.367701863354037,22.87577639751553,6.1826913282559595,0.5495037267080738,377,15,74,4,14,116,68,92,0.16399999999999998,0.529,0.307,0.9589,1,0,0,0,3,0,22.0,0,1,2,0,1,10,1,2,6,0,9,3,0,1,0,11,14,5,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,11,7,10,10,1,6,0,0,0,2,12,2,0,1,3,43,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21933899773829704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17301451348305194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28551041295544843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4466451969308005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498420031583136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716127934912605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21131083517969831,0.0,0.0,0.4954575247191717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16799426719505914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21370712303468245,0.0,0.0,0.1459454366466737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512854606527485,0.0,0.17577296828430125,0.0,0.0,0.15934206134436235
divorce,erebus5620,2020/01/20,"I’m sad. Tonight is hard.
I’m sad because I’m lonely.
I’m sad because everything reminds me of her.
I’m sad because I have no one to confide in.
I’m sad because I’m worried about her.
I’m sad because I have thousands of pictures of us but can’t make myself delete them because those memories are still a part of me. 
I’m sad because I’m still not used to sleeping alone.
I’m sad because I’ve lost my best friend.
I’m sad because I know even if we resolved it’s too late. 
I’m sad. 

The best advice I’ve gotten through this though is... that it’s okay to be sad.",0.244493333333331,1.9147762160000041,2.5381,95.41888333333335,82.84,4.806666666666667,26.416666666666664,5.46131890053228,0.5569866666666665,437,20,103,2,12,149,64,125,0.306,0.555,0.139,-0.9542,0,3,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,1,4,6,18,0,0,2,1,7,1,1,2,0,8,25,3,0,1,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,13,0,2,2,1,12,5,10,22,3,5,0,13,0,0,6,1,0,1,4,50,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358235964226598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14395614994503675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7625665769604879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917318317320248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180440744842827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12491909155532807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10738663172054701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12451156873133787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07638761827369009,0.0,0.15679159584725486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15172866984700129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09277975756467252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09418611762941012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505172544352553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13909465454426945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220020143901104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365611690245328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671929983597732,0.12004642589793744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14115543273952375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,bonjarno65,2020/01/20,"I am divorcing my wife because she cheated on me and I cannot forgive/forget is this wrong? Me and my STBXW were together for 6 years total, married for 2, no kids, no house. I am divorcing my STBXW because she fell in love with someone else and had a relationship with them for 3 months last year.

Is it wrong to not be able to forgive or forget an infidelity even if the other person shows remorse and willingness to change? I just cant ever trust my STBXW. I don't want to get over it. I want to hold her accountable, and move on with my life and have a marriage with someone who didn't betray me.   


Being with someone who has \*not\* betrayed me is somehow now the #1 thing I want in a woman. Is it wrong to want that?? 

All the advice about infidelity seems to be about repairing a relationship, not about moving on. Does anyone else feel that way? 

**MY STORY:** 

I am divorcing my STBXW because in January of 2019 she left me for another man that she fell in love with and had a relationship with him for 3 months last year (2019). I got on my knees and literally begged her not to leave me, but I ended up moving out of our common apartment during this time and filed divorce papers. 

After she expressed a ton of remorse, she and I then got back together in April 2019, and we lived together. During the time we tried reconciling, she was telling me how she missed the other guy, and how she was depressed, and how she was worried she wouldn't find another relationship like that again. I finally got fed up and kicked her out in September of 2019. 

I have since then tried to reconcile with her at least 2 more times - each time it has failed. She has been doing everything she can to win me back, but I just cannot forgive or forget.  

After I found out she went on a date with a dude from Hinge, even though she claims it was platonic, there is just no way I can trust her - it is the last straw. I just left her for the final time this weekend, letting her know that there is no way I will ever forgive and forget.",3.9426762738034,5.086893398009952,4.815709384113912,85.22619402985077,71.48756218905474,8.032389775261624,26.299879910790878,8.433251757073789,1.6074891748155768,1574,50,326,25,29,511,178,402,0.136,0.8029999999999999,0.061,-0.9743,0,0,0,0,1,0,51.0,3,0,1,2,22,17,1,0,16,0,37,5,1,3,4,70,54,26,0,6,13,1,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,5,19,30,1,1,10,2,1,6,14,7,0,0,15,1,61,9,53,33,6,60,0,3,0,2,52,21,0,5,31,241,80,2,0.08480715390954502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08287256927929308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17785539069225198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059299133878098785,0.08689495122610856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13042293304648142,0.0,0.1550929616151446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08971472380898783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07304427739315117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07421531189156788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416909897502417,0.0,0.07511396626696798,0.0,0.0,0.11202865064387364,0.15342585202474948,0.0,0.0,0.07621920153704727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04288104518652642,0.0,0.0,0.18580418353394546,0.07751220226218829,0.0,0.0,0.092986666915698,0.0,0.0,0.04430823763154272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20348408478723545,0.0,0.0,0.0839724157321935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097856069185172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04660779389000519,0.20738744848898807,0.0,0.08979853080386482,0.18428644173020806,0.08672106073298118,0.05990180085181741,0.04143249162539458,0.0,0.07488627064121432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15308353499143754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13538452228631045,0.2704097497400201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07405033562939657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3642045804300037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07720524778530398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07015335408692278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155704788938228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0741251905435622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05634210469203699,0.0,0.08332259812668877,0.0,0.24725866722860734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11515698123358598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20008582661376448,0.20194791397593068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07861708132066544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08612578143235783,0.0,0.0,0.2781699286500864,0.0,0.16383907981795678
divorce,the-claw-clonidine,2020/01/20,"The things she does Well it has been awhile since I have posted. 

So ex served papers the monday before christmas. Day of christmas we split the day with our daughter and she just needed to keep saying merry xmas to me. Tried to ignore it and get on with the exchange.  

After getting back from a week of traveling for interviews, she was trying to call me saying how I can change things about the parenting plan if I want. 

Had a performance of my daughters where I saw away from ex. Daughter keeps coming over saying she has a question to ask. She then tells me how I could go sit by her for the performance.

 Like wtf. Screw you, was together 9 years, without any fights or anything. Divorced a week after trying for another kid. Screw you",3.080395136778116,5.573176234042556,3.4853748733535994,88.01250000000002,77.43971631205673,6.014387031408307,22.83738601823709,7.1686216300943375,0.9206449848024304,583,18,108,7,14,181,95,141,0.064,0.855,0.08199999999999999,0.3732,1,0,0,0,2,0,14.0,2,2,0,3,8,6,3,0,10,0,9,2,0,2,0,19,19,8,0,4,4,6,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,4,6,0,3,1,1,1,3,1,4,1,0,5,4,19,2,23,13,0,19,0,0,1,2,27,4,2,3,11,77,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11005803582194906,0.16970533419464398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13318208664811532,0.0,0.15130032123776022,0.0,0.1520557843069066,0.1244464244415113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377155292064601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652586659399633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17120726143779144,0.13941245882236225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292175809415983,0.0,0.0,0.20874926197770144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14162892963656382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16911141676549088,0.0,0.09197847642601856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877050181973722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07906777309854893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12000371164566195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17970626749906254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549997945543208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812999574189632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38610950325898896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338772848420058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14145694639307768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150411223134952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3296400616651662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09545854061813297,0.0,0.2596396059625088,0.0,0.1455152966331415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15600980779106985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10422087174840433
divorce,classicmessaround,2020/01/20,"Scared of what’s next.. I (27M) finally filed for divorce from my cheating SO (28f). She had been cheating me with a coworker for a few months and refused to stop. As soon as I became more stern in telling her how I felt about them together I just got labeled as being controlling. I tried taking her to go to therapy with me but she refused altogether. After a month of trying to make it work and just being told she wouldn’t try anything to fix us I finally gave up and started the process. 

As of right now because of our child we are still cohabitating but she is making it obvious when she’s going to this guys house and everything that’s going on there. On top of that prior to everything going on, she has been battling her alcoholism and drank to the point she was making my life a living hell being berated and made to feel beyond unimportant in her life. 

Now... I just don’t know what to do. Even though the process is starting I am feeling the loneliest I have ever felt in my life. I still feel rejected and like this is my fault for the entire situation. Even though I know there is nothing I could have done to keep her from cheating as I don’t control her but I just feel like I failed as a husband and a father. 

I’ve been trying to focus my attention on my child but even that has only been filling the hole in my soul so much. I don’t know who I am anymore or how to proceed. I am numb and don’t know what I can be doing to keep my mind off of thinking what happened or focus on my loneliness. 

Does anyone have ideas how to heal when you’re cohabitating? I feel like I don’t have the space to heal and am just in a constant cycle of healing and then tailspinning.",5.2706395348837205,5.075409436046511,6.176720930232557,81.41362790697677,68.01162790697674,9.205581395348837,30.86279069767443,8.841846274778883,2.2838051162790696,1322,47,275,20,20,439,165,344,0.152,0.809,0.039,-0.991,0,1,1,0,1,0,26.0,3,0,1,5,27,13,5,1,14,0,36,9,0,9,2,58,66,33,0,2,11,2,7,3,0,1,8,0,0,3,12,14,2,7,14,0,0,5,6,10,0,0,14,7,49,3,51,46,3,43,2,2,0,0,29,17,1,2,24,208,61,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10646759341212204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09880008512030687,0.06965930922104767,0.0,0.08198193643614138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06072977160940514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10765798508601962,0.22347322808070327,0.07954153425434393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08718149864749716,0.10194978272053833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974018313537428,0.09011547192801417,0.0,0.0,0.17907097730516647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518640485129571,0.14234259042067024,0.19130902978374906,0.21826610658365267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264741091727801,0.0,0.07967829014666868,0.0,0.0,0.0986432699936557,0.08809703766106794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11495254208162607,0.0,0.11246319543873487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17710050283665268,0.0,0.0,0.21900264063680253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111018051467103,0.1460135363122624,0.0,0.08796968086803802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426649152100984,0.19949907161168853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100591684501172,0.0,0.1590376061996588,0.0,0.07323498939072923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10595109001526144,0.0,0.0,0.09559176673379756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757684238096353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09417673537509977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507821981641067,0.0,0.0,0.09974084897706707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11198137654234927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14102854136927154,0.0,0.15911946358873874,0.08328999579136827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07490473355896354,0.0,0.08707563216281883,0.0,0.1139285497604972,0.0,0.0,0.0638349376329974,0.19575984498997176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09519485376749033,0.0,0.2705522067557705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198352199095411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07252734611913479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,KRoCaerbannog,2020/01/20,"It's been 3 months. Divorce will be final in 3 weeks. I don't really know what to say here, so I'm going to just start at the beginning this is my (29F) first post here. My STBX (26M) initiated the divorce.   


So, here's what happened. When we met, I had been single for two years and was not at all looking for a relationship. Especially with him. He seemed arrogant, and was not at all what I was physically attracted to. But we had mutual friends, and when I needed help with a project, he was the only one who showed up. We began talking more after that, and he grew on me. He chased me hard, and eventually, I began to have feelings for him. I told him though, I'm hard to love. I have severe abandonment issues, I have mental health issues that could quite frankly qualify me for disability (but I refuse to apply) and my demons can be pretty damn strong sometimes. He knew all of this, and his reply was ""You'll never have to fight them alone again.""  


We began dating, and very quickly moved in together. It just kind of worked out that way. The friend he was renting from needed the bedroom because his wife was expecting, and my roommate had recently moved out. But it was honestly amazing. We meshed SO well in every sense. We got along great, had the same interests, got along with the same people. I couldn't have been happier.   


We waited to get married. I had always said if I was going to get married, I would want to live with the person for at least a year before trading vows. I knew living with someone for an extended period of time will really show you who they are, and I wanted to know for sure that this was what I wanted.   


So, a year and a half later, we traded vows in the courthouse. I didn't want a big wedding. I didn't see the point in spending tons of money on one day, no matter how important it is.  Prior to our marriage, we decided to sell my home and he bought us a house in a more convenient location closer to his work, better schools for my son (previous relationship), and capable of having high speed internet. That last one was his requirement. He hated not having internet where my house was.   


Everything was *amazing.* I can't even explain it. Sure, my depression got bad sometimes. I was hospitalized for it once, and when they asked me how my marriage was, I told them it was great. They asked if I meant ""great"" as in ""eh"" and I said ""No. My marriage is honestly one of the two reasons I'm still here."" Even when things were hard, he was on my side and he gave me hope. He and my son were my reasons for living when my ""bad brain"" tried to tell me I had none.   


Then, a year and a half or so later, I got worse. I've since found out that if you're on the same anti-depressant for half of your life, it kinda stops working. I had no idea. All I knew was that I couldn't work, I couldn't take care of the house as much as I had previously, I could hardly do anything. I know that was my fault. I asked him for help, but he... I don't want to say he refused. He just didn't, or couldn't give it. Work was hard for him, and now I was too. But I tried *so* hard. When money got tight, I forced myself out of bed and picked up two jobs. One became too much, so I quit and took on the part time job full time.   


I tried. I talked to my doctor. We tried different medications. But she didn't tell me about the anti-depressant. We tried different mood stabilizers instead. She left her practice, and I struggled to find a PCP that was comfortable treating my mental illness. But I couldn't find one fast enough.   


He pulled away from me. He never wanted to spend time with me. He never wanted to go out and do things with me. He wanted me to join him on things HE wanted to do, but he never wanted to just spend time with me. I felt extremely isolated and lonely, so my depression got worse. He got into this ""If she's not going to do her part, I'm going to just take care of me."" attitude (he told me, and his mother and grandmother this) and it destroyed me inside. I couldn't reach him, but I never thought it would end in divorce. I found us free counseling. Individual and couples. I wanted to give everything to make this work, and he agreed to go. But we didn't get the chance.   


He went on a week long work trip in another state. The first day he was gone, I barely heard from him. So I sent him a long email explaining my fears and telling him how much I loved him and wanted to try to make this work. Up until the day he left, he kept telling me everything was going to get better. That he wouldn't give up on me.   


The second day he was gone, he sent me a text telling me he didn't want to do this anymore and that my son and I needed to leave. I was blindsided. Destroyed. Detangling myself from the home we picked out together was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. 

​

The love of my life, the person I dedicated my future to, told me he didn't love me anymore and wanted a divorce through text. 

​

My son and I moved in with family, since we had no where else to go. He became cruel, so I severed contact. I have no idea why this happened the way that it did. We had light right around the corner, but instead he swerved the other direction and ejecto-seato'ed me out of his life. 

​

I found out about a month ago that there's someone else he most likely spent that first day gone talking to all day. A reason for him to leave. His own shining light in a moment of weakness. He chose her. 

​

I've since been hospitalized for mental health and moved to a larger city with a better support system. I'm still not on my feet just yet. I'm looking for a place for my son and I to move to while we stay with my best friend. I feel like everywhere I turn, it's another dead end. This is honestly the hardest time of my life, and I don't know where else to turn to for support from people who have been through something similar.   


I'm still struggling with feelings of worthlessness and figuring out what I did so wrong to make him completely change. I just miss my life. My home. My husband. Our friends, who stayed his friends, but not mine. I miss it all. But I know I wouldn't go back if given the chance. Because I couldn't trust him to not do this to me again.   


But it still hurts. It's so raw, and I'm struggling to find hope for the future. Now that I'm moved to a larger place (I just moved here this past week) I'm going to have significantly more resources for mental health care. But making it through this weekend and tomorrow before they open on Tuesday is *hard*. 

​

If you read this massive wall of text, thank you. It also helps just really getting it all out. If anyone has any advice, please. I'm all ears. Because right now my entire life has changed and I couldn't feel more lost.",2.3281231671554248,4.197287765395895,3.5131085043988257,89.95329912023462,77.13782991202345,6.620527859237537,22.63636363636364,7.535850869193821,0.8272193548387099,5248,155,1117,72,121,1700,439,1364,0.10400000000000001,0.795,0.10099999999999999,-0.4024,6,4,1,0,5,0,224.0,20,5,6,20,64,67,6,4,52,0,103,20,3,12,16,230,235,96,1,41,40,8,13,2,5,7,13,6,6,2,62,86,0,8,31,4,12,27,39,24,1,16,94,25,185,43,156,122,29,174,1,9,4,4,165,60,1,14,82,749,247,18,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03121011712505352,0.028311720618286976,0.0,0.0,0.03307884947086265,0.0,0.025541357954941533,0.026575547699784985,0.17302778026607193,0.19404501423972872,0.021719403659933623,0.06698100014396811,0.0,0.0,0.06334919436639484,0.02233227387354726,0.0,0.026282819592222714,0.02843220449482945,0.08957508807871653,0.0,0.030007449556271926,0.02455888028797229,0.05333494226293265,0.058408584883702326,0.0,0.05435494367563418,0.0,0.03351768351476184,0.0847415245221858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03565413954411778,0.0,0.0,0.09769086573308827,0.0,0.06757379582341391,0.0,0.033487107627415795,0.0,0.0,0.051000888385307856,0.035339551757632516,0.0,0.1235868726189658,0.0,0.11003498371443723,0.0,0.0,0.0667382641438553,0.0,0.032690601422629056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08004202881835988,0.0,0.05657639687792693,0.03300120335852088,0.0,0.042190405563190765,0.02889037261271458,0.026909722882317216,0.0,0.08611330242938485,0.0,0.030108953401698123,0.03593990446946777,0.06459664298355965,0.02281700571460794,0.030666149976135506,0.034987272512789915,0.0875741490433626,0.08150109732590842,0.0,0.10505737148295743,0.12337875899095654,0.0,0.08343323358448602,0.09191550196393564,0.1815149291555844,0.0,0.17881001004178831,0.10563755171753042,0.0,0.0,0.05648655418766976,0.0,0.2002755428449709,0.031532842977788036,0.0,0.10184799826403212,0.0,0.0,0.06422348974458282,0.03374497835310813,0.09611132719218636,0.0634446491685569,0.0,0.11055887637707172,0.03419102701334601,0.07210978430068114,0.0,0.0666713865091629,0.06338844097761774,0.0,0.0,0.033259229606407564,0.08776334068665574,0.02603429423389271,0.0,0.06763691987395938,0.06940295783005565,0.0,0.13535544295383525,0.031207260198567708,0.0,0.08460734226402493,0.05652946920652325,0.05364090938286074,0.0,0.03486485177742985,0.0,0.1153036547207373,0.0,0.08527729133063677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03217486892200058,0.12874674530852667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050986313495784634,0.2376204021900172,0.07043583370932666,0.07104639932350879,0.12316542909410945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03401366128681095,0.12985489297252373,0.024290812102576945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06917297530021926,0.030489092470039482,0.04428453082118978,0.05577526238758613,0.0667382641438553,0.0350590893774946,0.030192384484310032,0.0,0.030588435274080075,0.03249312875272476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06794145406092345,0.0319473319387191,0.0,0.06138222579234736,0.09851487463669452,0.03153560215283377,0.06858039826419117,0.0,0.05455093158000636,0.06076201401431605,0.0507978546384706,0.0,0.032323658267649436,0.02545099991811849,0.029075782819372363,0.0,0.07216325488687315,0.0,0.07926004045039142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054123094879205684,0.02458796307984179,0.06317635993688654,0.0,0.02260636837390457,0.06808478552790694,0.10202511277277923,0.02670217402008656,0.0,0.10016775673778948,0.0,0.0,0.07248729129161084,0.06020367257339235,0.0,0.04802783843163415,0.0770133249072931,0.1395791091612467,0.029404853618765967,0.0,0.0,0.08487458283496828,0.0,0.0313795996590092,0.02535575138131223,0.11174223796608174,0.0,0.0,0.12207514369353105,0.03548505851791397,0.13010563941689585,0.06948024414322479,0.09359837447630512,0.0,0.07683662042138137,0.0,0.0,0.026352763212722854,0.2637357268267625,0.050702889212211895,0.0768578691127413,0.0,0.028716716981786038,0.02960748456800778,0.028819698965248955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860139671169381,0.0,0.06509650512617553,0.04537665642340316,0.034919942466440174,0.19404501423972872,0.08226987394017543
divorce,LostInmymindu,2020/01/20,"Day to day before leaving The day to day life before leaving is hell. I don't want to admit the relationship over, a small glimmer of hope as we still interact and get along well. Can it be saved? Am I just hurting myself? Seeing something that isn't there. Why didn't I make more of an effort???",1.7035000000000018,3.877894350000002,3.256666666666668,89.525,80.5,5.333333333333334,21.666666666666664,6.42735559955562,0.3936666666666673,231,7,47,2,6,76,46,60,0.171,0.7090000000000001,0.12,-0.5063,0,0,1,0,0,1,9.0,1,0,0,1,4,5,1,0,4,0,7,1,0,1,0,9,13,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,1,1,5,3,8,11,1,7,1,1,1,0,4,2,1,1,5,32,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3597886100657713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5453677392229026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11045297856912856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20997779223804197,0.0,0.0,0.2263187348562637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4477052452818656,0.0,0.0,0.14932510700962465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14111779004463146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269751792631445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16846636692273367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16275371590184182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16883226728821338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12469507195668515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19008294351633107,0.0,0.1907646063456231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,echobravodude,2020/01/20,Ex has been dating new guy won't introduce him to kids My ex and I are amicable and have been divorced over two years. About a year ago she met someone and they are still together. She will not let the kids or me over to her house (my old house) because when the kids are with me which is 3-4 nights a week her boyfriend is there with her. She has yet to introduce the kids to him which I think it's time to. He has no car or license. I searched his name online and found two separate DUII mugshots of him which she knows I have. I have a buddy who owns a liquor store who knows my ex (but she doesn't know him) and he says they stop in at least once a week and then go across the street to the weed dispensary. She never smoked weed when we were together. She is 52 and white he is 38 and black. She lives in an extremely vanilla neighborhood if you catch my drift. I could care less what she does on her own time but I would like to get some feedback/ideas as to why she hasn't introduced my kids to her new boyfriend. I feel like she is either ashamed of him or feels like getting her kids involved would create a problem for him.,3.5642246835443068,4.158148130801687,3.7792800632911394,94.3496795886076,71.9113924050633,7.612763713080169,24.93908227848101,7.645422480735847,0.8064601265822784,885,24,212,10,16,273,132,237,0.047,0.8909999999999999,0.062,0.5574,0,0,1,0,1,0,18.0,1,1,2,0,6,6,0,1,12,0,25,1,0,0,1,34,37,18,0,5,8,3,2,3,0,4,0,1,0,7,7,11,1,1,7,1,1,4,6,2,0,2,5,5,43,4,23,26,6,31,0,0,2,0,48,8,0,5,22,141,50,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12895680589745026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886815822693493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14832375349826624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615174776508533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12730812317884352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14711533896454887,0.2078579551395518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15950829746548256,0.0,0.0,0.15201171915777673,0.0,0.08267807457624744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14404535092809811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33572243226100995,0.0,0.1642261094396987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23985147866704926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14876034608767447,0.0,0.21321851029173255,0.0,0.1284590783789337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122010247777463,0.2810056721319878,0.0,0.13652054567346006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15265390358622494,0.15492852502902005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13920208259431427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156893494560152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12326240314053565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617832100256174,0.12162549632974545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09321594867454977,0.0,0.0,0.1696579105431351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28422027217145884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.233386152269896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13127059197822172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20668573109924068,0.0,0.0,0.1873651606687977
divorce,IcebergSlim2,2020/01/20,"What do I do with all this shit? I'm a big fan of Ajahn Brahm. This is a story from his book *Who Ordered This Truckload of Dung?"" which I highly recommend.

Unpleasant things happen in life. They happen to everyone. The only difference between a happy person and one who gets depressed is how they respond to disasters.

Imagin you have just had a wonderful afternoon at the beach with a friend. When you return home, you find a huge truckload of dung has been dumped right in front of your door. There are three things to know about this truckload of dung:
1) You did not order it. It's not your fault.
2) You're stuck with it. No one saw who dumped it, so you cannot call anyone to take it away.
3) It is filthy and offensive, and its stench fills your whole house. It is almost impossible to endure.

In this metaphor, the truckload of dung in front of the house stands for the traumatic experiences that are dumped on us in life. As with the truckload of dung, there are three things to know about tragedy in our life:
1) We did not order it. It's not our fault. We say, ""Why me?""
2) We're stuck with it. No one, not even the ones who love us most dearly, can take it away (though they may try).
3) It is so awful, such a destroyer of our happiness, and its pain fills our whole life. It is almost impossible to endure.

There are two ways of responding to being stuck with a truckload of dung. The first way is to carry the dung around with us. We put some in our pockets, some in our backpacks and briefcases, and some up our shirts. We even put some down our pants. We find when we carry dung around, we lose a lot of friends! Even best friends don't seem to be around so often.

""Carrying around the dung"" is a metaphor for sinking into depression, negativity, or anger. It is a natural and understandable response to adversity. But we lose a lot of friends, because it is also natural and understandable that our friends don't like being around us when we're so depressed. Moreover, the pile of dung doesn't get smaller and, what's more, the smell gets worse as it ripens.

Fortunately, there's a second way. When a truckload of dung is dumped in front of our house, we heave a sigh and then get down to work. Out come the wheelbarrow, the fork, and the spade. We fork the dung into the barrow, whell it around the back of the house, and dig it into the garden. This is tiring and difficult work, but we know there's no other useful option.

Sometimes, all we can manage is half a barrow a day. But even so, we doing something about the problem, rather than complaining our way into depression. Day after day we dig in the dung. Day after day, the pile gets a little smaller. Sometimes it takes several years, but the morning does come when we see that the dung in front of our house is all gone. Furthermore, a miracle has happened in another part of our house. The flowers in our garden are bursting out in a richness of color all over the place. Their fragrance wafts down the street so that the neighbors, and even passers-by, smile in delight. Then the fruit tree in the corner is nearly falling over, it's so heavy with fruit. And the fruit is so sweet; you can't buy anything like it. There's so much of it that we are able to share it with our neighbors. Even passers-by get a delicious taste of the miracle fruit.

""Digging in the dung"" is a metaphor for welcoming the tragedies as fertilizer for life. It is work that we have to do alone: no one can help us here. But by digging it into the garden of our heart, day by day, the pile of pain gets less.

It may take us several years, but the morning does come when we see no more pain in our life and, in our heart, a miracle has happened. Flowers of kindness are bursting out all over the place, and the fragrance of love wafts way down our street, to our neighbors, to our relations, and even to passers-by. Then our wisdom tree in the corner is bending down to us, loaded with sweet insights into the nature of life. We share those delicious fruits freely, even with passers-by, without ever planning to.

When we have known tragic pain, learned its lesson, and grown our garden, then we can put our arms around another in deep tragedy and say, softly, ""I know."" They realize we do understand. Compassion begins. We show them the wheelbarrow, the fork, and the spade, and boundless encouragement. Yet if we haven't grown our own garden yet, this can't be done.",4.010397550269047,5.581586438084116,4.218181818181819,87.9207575757576,71.8855140186916,7.4308694420843935,25.93698668932313,8.00094639256281,1.3825520249221182,3445,111,701,48,66,1070,296,856,0.11800000000000001,0.748,0.135,0.9843,2,1,1,0,0,0,144.0,56,9,6,9,52,49,8,0,68,1,59,25,5,2,6,131,98,56,0,3,16,0,1,2,8,2,12,2,10,1,54,76,6,0,17,8,2,16,19,26,1,11,10,19,76,22,126,82,21,119,0,7,4,2,98,64,1,17,32,502,130,6,0.045880331720720535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09188504963623112,0.04751818687858757,0.0,0.036690484700952916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09621905637798392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032080594709975034,0.0,0.03775560374853847,0.2859025569864243,0.0,0.0,0.08621216387956393,0.035279143069370314,0.0,0.02796822437110831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04814857754937119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04684894841546351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11856552976558347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20712312862305765,0.0,0.15806664992779182,0.0,0.0,0.0479351815173267,0.0,0.0,0.08030037494180392,0.04695150866123414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24242821115057556,0.041501386739954176,0.0,0.0438406231175697,0.0,0.04487976816828276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08386758400089464,0.039025786723666564,0.0,0.0,0.1772351523817251,0.0,0.1677940577825269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16228730327404314,0.09768093251601744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10873682798847648,0.030752619236513325,0.048475089467948984,0.04602171356947423,0.0,0.0,0.3176384567667581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04777730523146613,0.10085852175750168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268464459586611,0.04482962514734571,0.045984145579781824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10265671092227847,0.0,0.07801163466553593,0.08281758133139272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033727322873357245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554485008313897,0.034894059720536184,0.1952796310190067,0.0,0.0,0.049683928247853004,0.0,0.0,0.04006093597164122,0.0958703630346534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04390128118258595,0.0,0.13836721683593015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039181552603621835,0.0,0.07297176257198351,0.0,0.0,0.07312136846968348,0.04176773085379413,0.0,0.10366343105439817,0.04709550119323669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03532092086881351,0.09075364245767398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379851983049932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914425611737201,0.0,0.0450771929684402,0.0,0.0,0.052732692043520026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031149733574298524,0.0,0.044818417418203096,0.1432891301342181,0.3863187297464606,0.03962587567188113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820883588312552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04139986314885645,0.10244750377015928,0.0,0.04422700253531909,0.04975526262720215,0.10020428377439418,0.0,0.04675597768981101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05909085876476145
divorce,Good-Perspective,2020/01/20,"Perspective Needed? First time posting so bare with me. Not sure where to turn to, if we are even there yet, or if this is the right forum. 

I (M29) have married roughly two years, engaged for over a year, and dated for over a year.

It seems how time has gone by, especially recently (Past 6months)everything has been getting more difficult with her. We have had our share of issues but we’re able to get through it, or so I thought. Our arguments recently have stemmed from minor issues (like food or why I didn’t answer the phone immediately) to larger issues (like family, current and future?). I tried talking with her recently about our communications And what we could do to get back on track and she immediately started talking about issues she had from the beginning when we first started dating(4 years ago). these are issues I thought had been dealt with.  It feels like she is still resents at me for things my family did before we got married. So now she doesn’t want to further our family. 

I know she has been stressed so I’ve tried to do more things around the house, but it seems like the more I do, the more she nit picks how I do it. This causes extra stress due to me with my job given it’s inconsistencies. Yet it feels like she is having more free time, given her hours, but doesn’t due things around the house to my lessen my stress. 

I know I’m not perfect and need to improve my communication skills. I’ve worked hard to make improvements with that for her but it seems like it’s just never good enough because every argument leads to her bringing up older issues. She says she forgives but doesn’t forget. I just don’t see how she can have forgiven anybody if every argument results in it surfacing again. 

I know I ranted, and I’m not sure if it even made sense. I just don’t know if I can keep doing this. Thanks.",4.124361958266455,5.837454317415732,4.582616372391655,84.8530337078652,71.8370786516854,7.557624398073836,25.35473515248796,8.192908349453996,1.4498735152487958,1451,45,287,22,28,459,170,356,0.106,0.785,0.109,0.4291,2,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,9,0,0,6,25,20,1,3,9,0,34,1,0,9,4,70,67,27,0,9,19,0,4,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,20,19,1,1,13,0,1,3,10,5,0,3,15,6,46,16,37,51,7,48,0,0,1,0,30,12,0,11,38,200,66,3,0.0783210104335331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06942685012996991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13944460860864605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06022402255593076,0.0,0.04774376101094519,0.0,0.06664541126394352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045725223048858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06253295379255427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08092654030362205,0.0,0.10346057745661394,0.0,0.13197765849546586,0.0,0.07038987400975343,0.0,0.22150223473592856,0.0,0.07920291231649843,0.11190509100598778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13323962292891306,0.0947060767027755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12275848611307814,0.0,0.0,0.06569194763647629,0.06264046680416226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07016024153420773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07713041871089704,0.18074386092029412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4904807187316422,0.07772151772511711,0.06961531270637844,0.0,0.0,0.1721727162515807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295821373046625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07410923379501687,0.052279882636996435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11614807366909012,0.060405991583478376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07476626666586192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750098780683834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319976472580372,0.0,0.0,0.0668857149715067,0.0,0.06228401107192196,0.0,0.0,0.06241170506012155,0.21390151910176536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11087202860176623,0.0,0.06254726010359311,0.0,0.2691493584976203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14763325088503892,0.0,0.0,0.12590292287865495,0.0,0.07210746364758702,0.0,0.0,0.15609899752580614,0.0,0.0,0.12435626748492933,0.1370088330740244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10634964991644122,0.08519076890737655,0.07650824670564085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04619576118110652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07067252986237796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05701862839434432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20174465145600434
divorce,Threeleggedwookie,2020/01/20,"Dealing with Intrusive Ex Wife 42M divorced 6months.  She asked for a divorce.  I knew she was not happy.  Blamed me for her unhappiness but never really gave good reasons.  I always did my part with kids, more than my share around the house while working longer hours.  Was very attentive to her.  When she asked for a divorce I was devastated.  I thought for sure somehow things would improve, somehow we could figure things out.  She was dead set against trying.  Was convinced she wanted out.  I begged, pleaded.  Would have done anything to keep us together.

There was no other person in her life.  None of that.  She was just miserable.

I eventually accepted, moved out and focused on the kids, my work and trying to stabilize as best I could.   Things went as good as can be expected.

I recently started casually seeing someone I have been friends with for a while.  I had always been attracted to her.  I never strayed while married or during divorce.  Just a cool friendship that seems to be evolving nicely.

My wife is now really upset about all of this.   She can’t believe I’m doing this.  She can’t believe so soon.  Says this person can’t be around our kids.  Being a real jerk.

Now I do know she has had a hard time trying to do everything alone.  I have weekends with kids and do help a lot during the week.   Honestly though, I have more time on my hands and freedom than I ever did married.  Clearly she is struggling.  

I do know this.  She will not tell me who I can see.  She will not prevent me from dating.  I would never be with someone who would not be good with the kids and would be extremely guarded until such time as I deem appropriate.

What I am asking is has anyone else dealt with this?  I want to coparent effectively, I want to get along with her.  Do I ask for a meeting to discuss this?  Looking for ideas here.",2.3317108753315665,4.9772523390804615,3.318160919540228,87.16600795755969,81.64367816091955,5.983023872679048,25.01503094606543,7.321109707123232,1.3534614500442084,1426,56,268,21,39,455,182,348,0.12300000000000001,0.696,0.18100000000000002,0.9753,1,1,0,0,4,0,45.0,3,0,0,4,17,19,1,3,12,1,51,2,1,2,7,64,72,18,1,11,8,3,2,0,1,7,1,1,0,7,15,20,0,3,11,2,0,2,12,4,0,0,18,7,51,15,45,38,7,32,0,1,3,0,49,8,0,5,21,213,66,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09720324848139847,0.0,0.0,0.1561861798649849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656240951910123,0.09616333625720312,0.07723289910264124,0.16709786964139944,0.350958983702588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21148004668147047,0.09849277623987758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14986772834574846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09675816770327132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09604405097853201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07840201357909551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08489527636889269,0.0,0.0,0.08434889027776313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07251047941125244,0.0,0.04903424070334123,0.0,0.0,0.23615795430549785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09990810444335063,0.08407371938483993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06290758729364827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09242615243240686,0.10829358844308136,0.0,0.10594844429963124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08342072571843,0.0,0.0,0.10315814423759828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0662910437999598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07881275689626357,0.0,0.0,0.07979033720509209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09975072707355273,0.0,0.0,0.21715531223233744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163349109568506,0.0,0.0,0.16389737780182673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106825090765326,0.1202490784187331,0.09649636138704867,0.09266836728322538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07463555362006441,0.0,0.0,0.14957714120740892,0.0854401101426495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15904243116919192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06642953057500547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811537688238013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0884552008043525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08203152798626694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18705499050827415,0.0,0.0922099490064862,0.07450867975687125,0.16417905544828704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19115977428736652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11289342324117498,0.0,0.0,0.0774384306501986,0.166070528438067,0.0,0.07528309547865063,0.0,0.0,0.08700253259740047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13665198575456142,0.0,0.0,0.3333518607913116,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,DoWiSeTemple,2020/01/20,"Moved out, scared, alone My (33M) STBXW (28F) and I spent the weekend moving me into my bachelor pad. So, now I will be living alone for the first time in my life. I broke down when I had to say goodbye to one of our dogs. Then my STBX and I hugged and we cried some more. I know that divorce is for the best because we just want different things out of life but it just hurts. I still love and care for her so deeply. 

I’m also scared of being on my own. I worry about my depression and suicidality getting worse (I’ve been in a good state the last few months). 

I know that things will get better with time but I’m just super down and emotional right now. Anyways, time to unpack and watch the football games i missed.",0.8575000000000017,3.050012385135137,2.0499324324324317,96.84084459459463,83.93243243243244,5.051351351351352,17.35810810810811,6.322622252153567,-0.4290756756756755,555,12,127,5,16,176,96,148,0.185,0.6409999999999999,0.174,0.0387,1,2,0,0,1,0,20.0,3,0,0,4,12,13,0,2,6,0,7,4,0,0,0,22,18,14,1,1,5,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,5,13,0,0,2,2,1,2,0,6,0,2,3,2,21,7,19,11,5,24,0,4,1,2,8,9,0,1,12,86,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3206900447351823,0.0,0.12380810330755886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09437577182449244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16247220803789858,0.13692416616991146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15784752998416868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700605843990194,0.0,0.0,0.1333447369477755,0.0,0.0,0.16175212602764102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741496999180083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13168832937813385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16177229763796844,0.0,0.0,0.12985420774507714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16573614496643818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17016812918903915,0.12619754187445476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21870542532145207,0.0,0.0,0.13670735636011552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397295204564704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12357445480568882,0.3290946097722881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10490885692462927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13221394462455205,0.0,0.12311769104009887,0.31000016483457504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12363805914725992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16934604393298078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20570873988680544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708273100891621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09131581853150164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15722545392168086,0.15777302925397696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,AmicableHaHaHa,2020/01/20,"Stbx being shady with money I'll try to make it quick: decided finally to divorce, said we wanted it to be amicable (kids involved), but stbx is impossible to deal with and has been verbally abusive. Literally cannot have a conversation with him without it turning to a fight. Why I'm writing is because for the last couple months, he has been picking up extra work. We have separate accounts and split the bills. With the extra work, he works almost as many hours as 2 full time jobs some weeks, so I'm guessing he brings upwards of $2000 extra every month. He says it's to pay bills he was behind on, but at this point, it seems like he's squirreling away money, because there's no way those bills were THAT far behind. He won't give me exact figures on how much he's making, where exactly the money is going (he's not giving me any to pay my share of the bills, that'sfor sure), what exactly is owed, etc. When I ask, he BLOWS UP at me, telling me he needs to pay bills and to stop questioning him and just deflects and gaslights his ass off. So I leave the conversation verbally abused and still in the dark. I am consulting with an attorney soon about general divorce stuff, so I I'll mention this, but is there a way to have him be transparent about how much he has made and where the money has gone? With him being gone every single evening/any time I am not at work, I have had double the work taking care of the kids. I am not getting anything for this extra work... if he were helping with my share of the bills that would be one thing, but he's not. 



I was thinking he might be paying off all the stuff in his name so when we are doing the divorce proceedings, he could say, 'I have paid all this money toward our debts, so her half of our debt is what is left and she will be responsible for that.' That way, he'd be able to start fresh financially after the divorce. Can he do that? Wouldn't the remaining debt still be divided equitably? It just feels like something underhanded is going on and I don't like it. Not to mention all of the extra work I'm having to do in his absence, doing his share of parenting duties. Can you all help me make sense of what might be going on? And what recourse I have to find out?",5.896912751677853,5.4982071744966445,6.403781655480987,80.99686711409397,66.74049217002238,9.478621923937359,30.407964205816555,8.954980946260402,2.23867470246085,1745,56,359,26,25,569,207,447,0.09,0.835,0.07400000000000001,-0.7546,7,0,1,0,6,0,53.0,5,1,0,7,21,9,1,0,20,0,56,1,1,7,8,71,86,26,0,6,13,1,1,3,0,6,0,3,0,2,24,21,0,2,7,0,21,6,11,1,0,2,12,4,35,8,57,56,16,50,0,0,0,1,64,23,1,8,21,249,59,14,0.0930423862155118,0.2204800265235936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09316850984999188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265440263718422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07656595613027911,0.0,0.08698207131260187,0.0,0.08741638461753705,0.0,0.0,0.11343555009753893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09486291369669678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07428677446521455,0.10294963065299463,0.0,0.0,0.0959226147107238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10376685527435038,0.0,0.0,0.15678444654356236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04704502608146787,0.06646949930310947,0.0,0.10192338622318436,0.08503905539602942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048610806614731605,0.17850946994402786,0.15863439674672136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10249667810775956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12472870046185948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09162800846081592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923302116431835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07584196296750642,0.0,0.09851845274220863,0.10109082486150146,0.0,0.0,0.13636743045731586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08803895550790035,0.18631954585447086,0.09433037604255844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974065368165716,0.0,0.0,0.1485310900021576,0.0,0.13679371892513806,0.06898975044300706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06304792885551233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10331255906827423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08795512893062102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042287663117812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08850461578300713,0.14798207993301954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08470229398296145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07162857454841583,0.0,0.0,0.06585587984987297,0.0,0.1486075396389153,0.07778760103843663,0.0,0.0,0.21302254404177876,0.0,0.0,0.0876913478967083,0.0,0.06995629516623042,0.0,0.08132314656153421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06181322710749874,0.05961780420000561,0.0,0.0,0.10850752725862924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06316967277769854,0.10120339840869673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05487881003501207,0.2215581462338252,0.07463298999186285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08395628174208727,0.0,0.0,0.08968954008645852,0.0,0.4741517570605493,0.0,0.0,0.06609464165102567,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,divdad1234,2020/01/20,"Give it time, or totally move on? Me(28) and my ex wife(29) have been officially divorced for about 3 months. Two months ago she told me how she regretted getting divorced and ruining our family. She talked about getting back together and fixing things between us. That lasted about a week. She flipped flopped between wanting the divorce and then not wanting to go through with it about 4 times during the waiting period after she filed.

I was blindsided by her decision, we never really argued too much but had the occasional dust up here and there, normal relationship arguments but always resolved them and talked about it. I came home one day was she was just distant. Didn't wanna talk to me and was annoyed that I was asking what was wrong. Then I left for a week to give her space, and when I came back all of our wedding pictures were taken down and she said she wanted a divorce.

I love this woman and want to reconcile and make this work for us and our kids. But it seems like the only time she talks to me is when she needs something or help with the kids. Other than that I don't really here from her. Found out today she's ""friends"" with one of her ex boyfriends from high school. I'm stuck between saying fuck it and moving on with my life without anymore hope for reconciliation, or playing the waiting game and see what happens with us. Don't know if I should cut contact with her and only communicate about the kids, or make an effort to talk to her even if I need to initiate contact. Kind of feels like I'm being put on the back burner, ask a 2nd choice for her. Rant over.",4.579710615471483,6.100963444805199,4.880660643704125,83.92204686617734,70.39610389610391,7.694184076792773,28.00169395821569,8.18289091462,1.8099351778656128,1263,45,243,18,23,398,174,308,0.095,0.8340000000000001,0.07200000000000001,-0.8072,0,0,1,0,4,0,31.0,7,0,1,3,18,15,4,0,13,0,16,3,0,3,3,63,50,29,0,13,12,2,1,2,1,1,1,2,1,4,14,25,0,2,7,2,0,6,6,7,0,3,17,4,40,8,46,31,3,37,0,2,1,2,57,10,1,8,23,175,54,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507756751730887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07986031595259231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095183112208886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17945054645115147,0.0,0.0,0.22140051013005765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21954358842248786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06189704163665735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06339171550680181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09047830580292973,0.0,0.04852871120870273,0.06856578483518656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10523351484048277,0.07415137242824348,0.08872892706734982,0.10028774526528232,0.1841392222831569,0.05454577928640268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487189267856615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06433116939576693,0.10140466956827413,0.09627247125689002,0.09532653447709226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999449800513052,0.052746292911570236,0.07823383309380469,0.0,0.0,0.10427898237441646,0.0,0.06779119263008218,0.09377875058780216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08662273305247056,0.0,0.1281304059314084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532153975161244,0.2040161194154576,0.07055392922289724,0.14233103707122866,0.07402315988371344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940368035477153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13007261283850174,0.14598923425179627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09648310817185374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229702833353053,0.0,0.0,0.10304307432161093,0.0,0.0,0.09129583502691804,0.0763245365056943,0.0,0.09713356018694552,0.07648101622330017,0.08737359729157411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07388756470304945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38571224251794894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06376266519617085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16789438415399513,0.0,0.0909747041704428,0.09170986479238556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09375530522477568,0.0,0.3463445148656655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264382142379513,0.0,0.1539734641313693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251812894650877,0.0,0.06987219206809603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10493547188262918,0.0,0.0
divorce,F_N_GCRC,2020/01/21,"How did you know it was not savable? Married almost 13 years. I had MAJOR medical issues 2 years ago. Lost housing/career/job, and all my “friends”. Now nothing I say is right. It feels like she resents me. I want out. We have 2 kids and live in my parents house. I’m lost, Linley and usually in tears.",-0.2820947176684889,2.003789606557376,1.7549726775956316,94.552276867031,95.55737704918032,4.0225865209471765,21.531876138433514,5.82211442006289,0.2331624772313297,230,9,48,2,9,76,50,61,0.141,0.747,0.11199999999999999,-0.2023,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,1,0,2,2,5,1,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,1,12,11,4,0,1,1,1,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,1,2,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,5,2,9,2,3,6,2,9,0,2,0,0,7,4,0,1,6,26,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19629093774771975,0.0,0.22173761857807056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11196542765408216,0.15819495779506124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710820237809348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555090853594178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311231654774661,0.2197424997515997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12169623086863172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081831523329822,0.0,0.1955333243695616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.483450267265391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22307493344399892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124752044952596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24588008173458376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18910637151340745,0.0,0.17609594727558214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438820656019384,0.0,0.13060954465360014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851969140595601
divorce,kidneybeanz,2020/01/21,"Separation agreement question in Virginia. My husband and I want to avoid lawyers and created our own separation agreement from an internet template, which we plan to have notorized tomorrow.  Will this suffice as a legally binding agreement? Is there anything I'm missing? Is a lawyer really necessary? Do we need to file this with anyone? Thanks for your advice.",5.782224824355974,9.33567036065574,5.798735362997661,69.00967213114757,74.90163934426229,8.731615925058549,41.50117096018735,9.23628265651192,5.281536768149884,296,20,39,8,7,93,50,61,0.062,0.68,0.257,0.9146,0,1,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,1,0,1,1,6,0,1,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,9,10,3,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,4,8,9,1,2,0,1,0,0,6,1,0,1,1,29,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4154813229938592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2972959908245362,0.0,0.3498872052428061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3152658465053297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.47629930577348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723814233947014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3914489469877215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507823899897433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,SAEC8,2020/01/21,"Looking For Advice Hi Everyone,

First let me say I appreciate your time reading this and responding, if you so desire.  As a bit of background, I'm 35M and I've been married to my wife, 32, for nearly 10 years and with her for almost 14. We have three kids 5, 5, and 2. 

Growing up, I had a submissive father and an alcoholic mother, so I think I learned some bad relationship strategies right out of the gate. Anyway, my wife has a bit of an anger problem. She gets angry easily and often. And her anger manifests in problematic ways, like telling me she hopes I die in my sleep, I'm fat, I'm a piece of shit, etc. This has very infrequently exploded into physical violence that has resulted in me getting fat lips, cuts across my body and neck, and ripped shirts.

I have never hit her back, although I have restrained her when I couldn't get away which just pissed her off more. Over the past 5 years, our sex life has nearly come to a halt. We probably average having sex 10 or less times a year over the past 5 years (and at most 5 times in 2019). On top of all of this, it's always been much harder for me to see my friends or family because it feels as though she puts up road blocks so we can't (e.g. not moving plans or scheduling plans over those dates).

So I was obviously very frustrated, and it all came to a head about two years ago. My friends had discussed a trip and I really wanted to go. I almost never hang out with them and until this point, I never did anything for myself. After pleading my case, my wife agrees to let me go. 

However, as we approach the date, she begins picking fight after fight. And not little things, but giant blowouts and saying absolutely nasty stuff. It culminated with her shoving me the night before I left if I recall correctly. 

So, with everything booked and her initial agreement, I go. And I have fun. But I make a giant regrettable mistake: I kissed someone else. It didn't go further, but I totally screwed up. However, in the near term I didn't feel bad. And on my flight home I decided I wanted a divorce. I also told myself that if I ever did anything like that it was because I wasn't in love anymore.

When I arrived home, my wife then proceeded to ask me in front of my children if I fucked a hooker (minus this one infraction, which is a big deal, I've never cheated on anyone -- and she regularly accuses me of fucking everyone, coworkers, male bosses, etc).  At that moment I knew I was making the right decision. However, it was the week before Easter and we were having people stay at our house for the holiday, so it had to wait. 

So, I thought on it and thought on it. Ultimately, I sat her down and told her how unhappy I was. Her reaction was obviously negative. However I had decided I had to do everything I could for my kids. So, I proposed marriage counseling.

Her response: no, you should go, and tell me any tips and tricks you learn and I can use them. I was a bit shocked in the moment. But, I also thought any opportunity to improve myself is a good one. 

Over the past 2 years I've been going to therapy, trying to make things better. One of the key focuses of my therapist has been to get my wife to go to her own therapy because he felt she has a lot of issues with anger. Finally, after a 1-2 years of pushing, she went just this month. However, I still have not told her or my therapist I kissed someone because of the guilt and shame I feel.

I will say, when she's not mad, she does a lot of good things like working with our kids and trying to spend time with me. However, whenever she tries to be intimate with me now, I feel put off. I feel a little angry, defensive and resentful. And I will admit that over the past 3 months, she's done a much better job of channeling her anger in other ways other than name calling.

So, I'm at a bit of a cross roads, as part of me feels it's too little too late. My brain tells me to hang in there it will get better. My heart tells me to go and live life before it's too late. I truly don't know what to do. If I get divorced, I'm afraid of the impact it will have on my kids, the judgment, and whether I should have just held on a little longer to see if my feelings changed. 

I guess I'm just looking for thoughts, advice, or whatever anyone is willing to offer.",4.057356523452899,4.888841759302327,5.3661411115490765,82.55194521087903,70.94186046511628,8.760741032715806,28.297201418998817,9.032323207476416,2.166071147024044,3323,118,682,63,59,1113,364,860,0.126,0.7809999999999999,0.09300000000000001,-0.9841,7,0,1,0,4,0,124.0,8,4,2,9,32,43,18,3,40,0,58,23,12,8,11,138,121,70,1,16,24,7,8,3,2,7,5,3,3,6,35,49,3,6,21,4,1,22,16,26,0,6,36,15,125,17,106,72,21,128,0,0,4,8,81,55,5,20,51,475,160,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10435513545801543,0.04733198258008396,0.05706366365198087,0.10693597188246616,0.0,0.0,0.08540089287361216,0.04442942121892562,0.0,0.0,0.07262168552325814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052954092840895965,0.07467089776759456,0.0,0.08788006747220052,0.0,0.049917683276995486,0.0,0.05016692905456298,0.041057924724852174,0.08916620053351093,0.13019786208058112,0.0,0.1363071825561247,0.0,0.0,0.1416722217830554,0.2331766875149689,0.05931048054644915,0.0,0.0596071547385937,0.054522883214547305,0.061070347954342935,0.0,0.0,0.05648547062727936,0.045995586178736086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042632046161528166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055048524689908895,0.0,0.0,0.055416208442744135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04672685421036275,0.05464224299724761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04460517683099422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11910042927396712,0.0,0.04829938214189256,0.0,0.1020435785706242,0.09597705453169456,0.0,0.050336624789707435,0.0,0.18898895753781994,0.0,0.05126815484083113,0.0584922758820379,0.0,0.04541827477152032,0.0,0.0,0.08250662473040005,0.09872675378141052,0.16738200034667802,0.0,0.2427676249183651,0.08957140113257883,0.0,0.0,0.058821279345483264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054799295888081266,0.0,0.0,0.06327404962177491,0.0,0.0,0.10712029188059907,0.05303388426533876,0.0,0.06161135972985405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055731139540905104,0.052986899393768085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029344828373783983,0.0,0.12046513753326718,0.0,0.05801448162243938,0.10920124859836168,0.07542979053784916,0.07825918721114418,0.2140656970084421,0.04714929792011505,0.0,0.08967772120672497,0.0,0.0,0.090790068723101,0.048191618678386124,0.0,0.10692594390919784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08523972579209478,0.05675107841008836,0.07850382765716102,0.0,0.16472793082269918,0.0,0.0,0.05010815865568466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10854673255259832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05782223740594149,0.20388858920038244,0.037017789728432456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05047610619396633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0575694937745904,0.05109238324113738,0.0,0.1073546630099278,0.0,0.0,0.053410055121372715,0.0,0.034206592163736366,0.0,0.0,0.057326897572577175,0.0,0.09119911071757528,0.0,0.12738698593793935,0.0,0.0,0.08509876888174737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05480982174280491,0.0,0.0,0.0534341671799212,0.0,0.09048384655039717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05691261096462862,0.042641799535959056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06112519352477613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866804508969756,0.0,0.12212505675272975,0.12399282693120095,0.10642100308207124,0.03421374799216416,0.05246091131144042,0.1695605857186967,0.12454162788099715,0.0,0.0,0.15306536785593633,0.0,0.1087563334895575,0.0,0.05215974790048751,0.0,0.0,0.046116659276369605,0.0,0.0881139331755066,0.06298822312706298,0.08476589258945387,0.04283073396861311,0.0,0.0,0.04949826125749049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03887263675147458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406951351431487
divorce,_creed_thoughts_,2020/01/21,"Did not respond in time. I'm in California. My wife filed for divorce back in October, and served me that same month. I honestly didn't know I was supposed to respond within 30 days. She probably told me, but I clearly lost that memory. Since I never replied, what happens now? I'm not opposed to the divorce, nor am I opposed to her child support conditions. I just want it to be done with. Will the divorce go through even if I dont respond, or am I holding things up? I know I can be found in default of judgment, but we dont have lawyers, and like I said, I'm fine with the conditions stated in our paperwork. Thanks!",2.0154533333333298,4.125600192000004,3.5765,87.97408333333334,79.08,6.7266666666666675,30.416666666666664,7.793537801064563,2.109226666666667,484,25,99,8,12,160,83,125,0.024,0.81,0.166,0.9481,0,0,0,0,3,0,19.0,2,0,0,1,4,6,0,0,3,0,13,0,0,0,2,22,27,7,0,2,7,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,5,5,0,3,3,0,0,1,7,1,0,0,8,1,18,5,16,16,1,15,0,1,0,0,14,7,0,2,7,70,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16743065389198866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404259929091947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22282632491691395,0.5103855175861957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438169637333344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23874357187448456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12374816328479585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19254910225647884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393313269434138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063780579561396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.237691819109572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17380010220421124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679365515716412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23476339955088035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071231183775416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18011896639839564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470917736782437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20046817327414426,0.0,0.0,0.1446585383396748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12696748759604504,0.0,0.0,0.20806242887401133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12843025379793604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,jkw118,2020/01/21,"So I have custody - Ex has had mental issues.. - proof of stability. Ok, so to put it simply my ex and I are still working on a divorce. Which she sees as a minor priority compared to everything else in her life. She never physically hurt the kids, but hallucinated with the kids around. And several times was so confused that she was hallucinating things, witches. Men with knives, etc.. And at one point I could tell she almost went to pull a knife on me whom she thought was someone else (only reason she didn't is I yelled and I guess it snapped her out of it). (as far as i know she hasn't had a hallucinations in a while), BP2, anxiety, depression, anorexia of some sort (she was below 90lbs a few weeks ago) can't function enough to work PT, let alone for a day and others I'm sure.  So lots of issues, she's more stable now I guess, she lives with her parents who have always been more ignorant/down played of when she's had episodes.  Now she's demanding that I allow her to see the kids more. (at the moment it's Monday and Thursday nights and every other weekend) with her parents supervising the kids, she doesn't drive them and is not left alone with them much at all.

So the question she keeps stating is that she's so much better that I need to let her be around the kids more. Ie I have them in an after school program a few days a week, and she wants me to take them out and let her be with them instead. I get regularly badgered by her about these things. Yet when I ask about her getting a job, finalizing the divorce, or getting the house xfered to me. I get well I can't handle that now. -- Yes I'm getting aggravated, annoyed and angrier about this.  She doesn't see that the 18K of credit card bills left over after me paying 20K of them off (which is what had been agreed to for her share of the house) is a problem and she sees it as my responsibility to pay as well as to give her half of everything else. But this is really about her and the kids. I need to make sure their safe, what can/is used to determine? 

1. So how is she to prove herself to be a more responsible/stable person?
   1. My thought is she should get a FT job and if she can handle that she can handle being around the kids.",3.027047406936049,4.4169886948775074,4.235414572064908,87.54584855233857,74.07795100222717,7.091339484568883,23.96442888959593,7.6583078777640585,0.9458614190264076,1720,50,373,22,35,564,210,449,0.077,0.825,0.098,0.8119,4,2,0,0,2,0,61.0,0,0,7,3,25,16,1,1,27,2,40,1,0,5,6,60,67,35,0,7,5,4,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,9,25,25,0,2,6,2,4,4,8,6,2,2,14,5,64,10,61,44,14,48,0,2,4,0,64,20,0,10,23,272,89,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07677929554803109,0.0,0.08673277710254372,0.1794147939049468,0.0,0.0,0.07207092280624687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06626051762090407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313181167711013,0.08097367463770935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07660425216588032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06915532148933425,0.0,0.0,0.11171949062607672,0.0,0.07460168748783683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170680711980237,0.0,0.0,0.08949682642982583,0.09659902840168623,0.0,0.0,0.07297718122304854,0.0,0.15568861125245095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09488289930863048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2715177217073893,0.08308935117818646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19083318066125024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19988500544259827,0.0927235403154118,0.0,0.0,0.18080787665295064,0.17190477081092054,0.07698771669671818,0.0,0.0,0.0476015397560178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18821569635366792,0.2657102391441624,0.0611789942565018,0.0,0.0,0.07648295470754098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07363728645343234,0.0,0.0,0.0578164291291904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08728791639129065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12734451964150476,0.12844839221251045,0.06680310963233058,0.0,0.0,0.08128265314648522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05869281336587421,0.06587488859016195,0.0,0.0,0.1923522265621552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756291963470316,0.0,0.0,0.08187951706910032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828792072355571,0.0,0.08707236577035757,0.0970290323495351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055488021127929256,0.08905502162382835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08765937417884766,0.27608492907265336,0.0,0.0,0.09785070906443503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733889182104414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06917114286797085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632679140879805,0.0,0.06512397552930221,0.0,0.07570564727669796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11508680040789708,0.0,0.0,0.13752585054054986,0.05050611623403409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07480786604020488,0.0,0.0,0.05108798676809531,0.0,0.13895524348050273,0.0,0.15575523155520027,0.08029331168987719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261140355075077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,JefeHD503,2020/01/21,"Recently Separated What to do Hi Everyone,

I recently separated from my wife. We have been together for 14 years, 4 married. We have a 2 year old daughter together and Co-parenting has been pretty good. I have my daughter this weekend for the first time but I have nothing for her at my house. Can anyone recommend any good places to get cheap items for a kids bedroom?",4.118047619047618,6.274519757142862,5.48,76.55333333333336,72.85714285714286,9.80952380952381,33.09523809523809,10.125756701596842,3.866952380952382,293,15,53,9,6,98,51,70,0.0,0.8390000000000001,0.161,0.8793,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,0,0,4,10,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,9,2,8,8,1,10,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,8,35,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646751430671347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16932188621389013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313915021267058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059787194960437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12651709864782626,0.0,0.0,0.4062198003241656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27941679967824656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23235628419057364,0.0,0.2541031584406779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530026461135164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24636084442431375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4782018767675516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14120376194345413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3118824870455705
divorce,elsiebey,2020/01/21,"Served So I moved out of our house in October. He has made zero attempt to reconcile or fix anything.  We tried counselling and he would show up drunk. He hasn't seen our son since Christmas. Nothing changed. But, I was finally in a place of peace. Its been so nice not fighting in front of our kids and not worrying if he was going to come home and burn our house down in the middle of the night by leaving food cooking on the stove. No more blaring the tv until 4:00 am and watching him lay around the couch and not go to work anymore. BUT now, I have to fire up these wheels again to get in fight mode. He was served today and it broke me. I can't explain it. I am in tears. I don't want all the drama and heartache again. I know I have done the hard part and moved out but facing this reality of court rooms and lawyers is daunting. I hate this but I hated living with the person he became more. I hate that my son will never live with his parents again. I just hope he his ok and this doesn't ruin who he is to become one day. Just feeling sad today.",1.4199021526418782,3.3779400182648414,2.4862752772341814,95.81164383561644,80.32420091324201,5.084670580560992,20.930854533594264,5.916634753146586,-0.07481317677756083,820,23,184,5,21,260,136,219,0.161,0.755,0.084,-0.9664,1,0,0,0,3,0,21.0,5,0,0,2,9,11,5,0,9,1,18,4,1,1,2,38,32,19,0,4,11,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,4,2,9,17,3,0,4,5,0,6,9,8,0,2,7,5,22,3,28,23,4,33,0,3,2,0,25,16,0,3,11,121,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367450758641567,0.0,0.0,0.11346777792549136,0.12274706883070124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15228337957836952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14586426755260462,0.11877589783900842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08892455245418411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14110444090689264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06971890434997023,0.0,0.0,0.15104650601774194,0.0,0.0,0.16673134130766926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07203933038273763,0.0,0.1567266829901438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12351806330422806,0.4083992904728291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13831010648992256,0.1369511238540925,0.0,0.3182020353239307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07577810452254091,0.0,0.0,0.14600052663477653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435103303685929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13047031810541354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931003103339703,0.0,0.0,0.1063455730654078,0.0,0.0,0.1293959274757518,0.0,0.13230457623679948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09343458570368897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15310520630509386,0.14931624387311415,0.0,0.0,0.12039604548751197,0.14406069539906893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11406006924832512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26139811012283803,0.0,0.0,0.09361500547540706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813282683921899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10038207391431277,0.14002912222941086,0.0,0.0979496959218104,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ccsusie,2020/01/21,"2020 was supposed to be my year. WTF! Neither of us has filed yet but we’re not in a bad place all things considered.  He’s got some significant issues going on with his parents, one has been recently diagnosed with dementia and the other was always sick anyway.  Our finances were always separate and I’m not in a community property state so I think I’m okay for now on that front. 

I really have been doing well with the separation but today, I’m a mess.  About a year ago, I had to undergo a major surgery to remove an ovarian cyst that had grown pretty large over the course of a couple of months, almost 20 lbs.  I honestly thought I was just gaining weight despite my best efforts.  It soon became clear it was more than that and I had to see a surgical oncologist.  Thankfully, it was benign and he was able to remove it all intact.  My husband and I were together then and I had no idea that five months later, he’d be out the door.  

I had a tough summer emotionally, then lost my beloved dog in the fall.  I finally got my head on straight and the holidays came to remind me that my life was not what I had planned.  I got through it, and looked so forward to 2020.

Now, the weird rapid weight gain has returned just to my abdomen and I look pregnant, which I am definitely not.  I see my surgeon again tomorrow for some tests to confirm whether my body has decided to betray me once again and form another crazy cyst from the one ovary I had left.   It’s definitely not as big as the other one was so I’m praying that he either tells me it’s just weird fat and I have to hit the gym harder, or it’s small enough to get rid of it laparoscopically.  Either way, I’m looking at the possibility of another $2K deductible hit and a few weeks out of work again.  Except this time I’ll be home alone and it’s killing me.  My son is away at college and I’m probably not going to tell him anything because he’ll just worry and there’s nothing he can do.

It’s not that I want my husband there, it’s just realizing that you don’t have that person you had that you could depend on and that truly cared about you.  I do have my family, my Mom is going with me tomorrow and my brother will drive me into the city if I need surgery again but it just sucks.  

Sorry for the long rant.",2.934316152005138,4.43981245788337,4.505389060767033,85.04911855700195,74.52915766738661,7.769984239098711,25.904442239215456,8.441846121484758,1.6500024400210145,1780,62,374,32,37,597,236,463,0.114,0.7490000000000001,0.13699999999999998,0.9265,1,1,0,0,0,0,38.0,2,4,0,7,23,15,2,0,23,1,42,12,4,1,3,62,72,30,1,4,22,6,2,0,0,2,7,0,2,1,30,25,3,0,5,2,1,11,10,8,1,4,26,7,49,7,48,37,13,58,1,1,5,0,23,20,1,6,27,261,79,4,0.10409766614848796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09227630014686844,0.0,0.10423877577098976,0.10781378791633082,0.0,0.0,0.1732351946514197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21831095879880905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08566350954422075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978031840321297,0.0,0.08691720307156757,0.06345697108451323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10924407830720692,0.0,0.0,0.1156290399519841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11905999813918307,0.10613450838415006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08311351591538055,0.11518208762404775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10565693990205724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170958632542356,0.0,0.10756071619157456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09813401518975846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11403390501194573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0543867340898594,0.0,0.17748330781153046,0.0,0.24976923936517345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10683423764575957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10441844675183247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11751359427017052,0.0,0.1086509180362849,0.0,0.0,0.11516864424092699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11310241885599255,0.0,0.07352726013440572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09212315877889436,0.2622474656927079,0.0,0.1136348995020867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12191792846455612,0.16617952794011506,0.0,0.0,0.07718710043236547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998845181990557,0.0,0.0,0.11086061706784367,0.21161781795297133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558813912967088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908940668466982,0.10875990506634202,0.0,0.0,0.11735447762066915,0.0,0.10590475025953007,0.11223489060191304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06668763050780399,0.0,0.1027838868856142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16590472470014964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11652881465177822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18197189700828606,0.0958391450270024,0.0,0.0,0.06915786385887324,0.06670158118841801,0.0,0.08264191909975513,0.060700186262439185,0.0,0.09867241568814757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12521667516905913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061399500571907725,0.08262788204114756,0.08350086870989055,0.2535258265886382,0.09359630349461588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07578434075331934,0.10571623299475168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340709680471549
divorce,southerng19,2020/01/21,"S/O emptied bank account after agreeing upon divorce and trying to leave me broke so I can't hire a lawyer Long story short, the divorce hasn't been filed yet but me and my S/O decided to divorce after 6 years and go separate ways. A couple days after we talked I found out today our joint account was emptied and that 30K was put into our mortgage so I have no access to any money other than credit cards. Also around 5K was taken from our safe so I am literally left with nothing but credit cards to use while my s/o more than likely got the retainer covered with the money from the safe.  I am going to sit down with a divorce attorney next week for a consultation to see how to move forward but I am speechless... Any insight or advice would be greatly appreciated.",4.856129032258064,5.430398,6.365967741935487,77.02895161290326,69.0,8.006451612903223,30.338709677419352,7.908726449838941,2.1522129032258057,610,23,112,7,10,209,101,155,0.061,0.804,0.135,0.9379,1,0,0,0,4,0,11.0,4,0,0,0,7,7,0,0,8,0,12,0,0,2,0,24,19,14,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,11,0,3,3,0,7,5,3,1,0,0,7,1,14,6,23,10,1,25,0,1,1,0,10,8,0,1,13,76,16,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20235104229860007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16559759718925424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28163585231556937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18434042369412654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291242645411893,0.0,0.1335460783900597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22704676751183675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353706970096869,0.0,0.16561658864107814,0.22830063523167995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21926225363915727,0.2249873141976148,0.0,0.0,0.10116625969651763,0.0,0.0,0.1832546313218455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22008768073462184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202263384270809,0.0,0.0,0.1986938007766368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20816731117572712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16501176013975086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16643883459787745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962826437808821,0.0,0.0,0.14059015777611972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17884609187551065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16436629248349752,0.16610286830492968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14709995618584773,0.0,0.0,0.13334934530096218
divorce,hittingbombs,2020/01/21,"How can I pursue a romantic interest after my divorce is finalized? I (M) am currently going through divorce proceedings as my wife filed for divorce last fall (after being married less than three years).  We are currently going to court to determine spousal support, and our divorce is set to be finalized by law one year after the filing date. This divorce has been far from amicable, but I am cooperating with providing what I am required to by law in order to satisfy the terms of spousal support and divorce. Although I hate that I am going through divorce, I am at peace and content as I did my best and did not give up. 

As a result, I am focused on moving forward. I have had a wonderful marriage counselor and wonderful confidants who have helped me process what has taken place and assured me that my future is bright, and I could not be more grateful and appreciative. That said, I am concerned that I have not gone through much emotional pains as of yet. Perhaps this will take place when the divorce is finalized, but I do not want to lose anyone who happens to be around at that time.

Herein lies my dilemma: There has been a female who has shown interest in me, if inadvertently. I reciprocate this interest, but I cannot and will not pursue anything more than friendship until at least the divorce is finalized. I had initially planned to wait a year after my divorce is finalized to pursue more than a friendship (in general), but I also do not want to wait too long and not take action. I have been bit by ""waiting too long"" and ""inaction"" in the past. 

She has shown interest despite being aware that I am married and going through a divorce. I see this as a good buffer in order to build on our friendship for the time being. I find this is a weird limbo I find myself in: How do I juggle ""it's not over until it's over"" with moving forward? I am not in constant contact with her as I feel it is inappropriate given my current circumstances. She currently lives a state away, so I am planning to visit her with a few other friends this spring in order for us to spend time among one another.

Ultimately, I do not want my pursuit of this female to be a rebound. She would be a new start, and I am determined to see the rest of my current marriage through, fulfill my legal requirements, and do my internal work, all without bringing her into it. I understand and am willing to disclose what had taken place in this marriage with her, but I do not want to drag her down emotionally and lose her.

How can I pursue a romantic interest after my divorce is finalized? Advice is appreciated, even advice against pursuing this female after my divorce is finalized, as this is currently one of my daunting fears.",8.615672514619881,7.457279635477582,8.859193762183235,68.09491929824564,61.61208576998051,11.716771929824562,41.572631578947366,10.793553405168565,4.631733473684211,2155,108,369,45,25,715,210,513,0.052000000000000005,0.748,0.201,0.9982,6,0,0,0,13,0,56.0,4,0,0,8,12,18,1,1,21,0,64,1,0,5,2,69,95,38,0,7,18,1,1,0,1,4,1,1,0,0,27,24,0,5,6,0,1,13,13,6,0,4,13,5,63,12,81,69,12,85,0,2,3,0,39,28,0,3,43,315,90,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15660331397517704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06407956245635582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402280704272774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05602843595853323,0.0,0.06593978215880744,0.07133227712138203,0.0,0.0,0.07528433849873098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.084091006357828,0.0,0.08748070194707805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08659156385941058,0.0,0.06397691576112301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18026988984606016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05292480402010899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09016800740154672,0.04051590195241642,0.0,0.0,0.6144459439788609,0.1464738918237681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061907882161128976,0.0,0.0,0.07686755417358666,0.18215785174939653,0.0672088546155222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07085828567530833,0.0,0.0,0.07911132934224817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05370914015239228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06531626808217962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07075584994917276,0.14182423890830054,0.0,0.17928891298994915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703300352527562,0.05890443013124987,0.0,0.0,0.07738960695944863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16289354581646956,0.0,0.0852634778085363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07649271070935804,0.0,0.0,0.25115493700331354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762215399602712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277057344959413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05671609930382503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18186009991352745,0.0,0.0,0.1204948804152458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401725336881545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08341767480578831,0.09638596792530024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18904990999843105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07724201504336578,0.17379413136885494,0.0583352578818065,0.0,0.0,0.05692172464897274,0.0,0.0,0.15480238564623905
divorce,Motorcruft,2020/01/21,"She doesn't believe in us anymore Apologies if this is the wrong subreddit, because I am not divorced. I am trying to prevent a divorce, or at least come to terms with it. 39M, married to 40F, together since 2005, married since 2007. 2 kids, home ownership, etc. We've never broken up or been on the brink before. No cheating, abuse, substance abuse, etc.

The advice I want is how I should act and approach the situation in the coming days and weeks.

My situation really started around 2010 or so, when her urge to move back to her hometown kept growing. We were living in the city where we met, and starting our family. She was having trouble making friends, and being happy in general. I do not like her hometown, and did not want to live there. In 2013, when our second child was still an infant, she decided we were moving there. I tried to be mature about it, but you could say that I went ""kicking and screaming."" She found her happiness again, but I resented her for moving us. I resented her because she took away my ability to be in control of my own life. I thought it had a lot to do with her hometown, but it has a lot to do with her dictating this to me instead of working together. She has thrived since moving, and that makes me happy.

I have not thrived. I think I've been depressed for years, and I didn't fully realize it. I tried to do well. My job is a dead end but I am well paid (I make much less than her). I never developed a support network here. I have never had a lot of friends, and being in a new city as an adult with a busy life makes it extra hard to make connections with people. I have no friends here.

Throughout this, I have always loved her, and she has loved me. She is career-driven, and most of our conversations revolve around her job and the logistics of running our household. I like giving her advice. I am a little hurt that she doesn't show a lot of interest in my work and hobbies. I am also bad at sharing things unless I know someone has an active interest in it, which gives me part of the blame. 

So, I guess I've been a ball of misery for a few years without being fully aware of it. There are little things that annoy me, and I snap at her. Sometimes I am antisocial and withdrawn. Life is busy and tough for everyone, so I didn't dwell on it. I have never sought outside help.

Last Wednesday, she initiated ""the talk."" Maybe most of you have had it, but she doesn't believe in our relationship anymore. She says she thinks she's done, and she says a switch has flipped and it might not go back.  I'm devastated.

Since then, we've been talking a lot. About our relationship, about our shortcomings, feelings, old stories. We went on a date. It felt amazing because it was like the old days. Petty annoyances melted away because they don't matter. We've had sex once, and it was great.

She is going to get counseling for herself because she's been in pain for a while because of this. We have a verbal agreement to go to marriage counseling, but nothing is set up yet. I have expressed an interest in getting counseling for myself, but I think I want to start the couples sessions first.

I don't know how to act most of the time. Things feel normal and good, and then she'll drop another bomb on me about how she feels. I'm having trouble sleeping and eating, and having trouble focusing at work. I want to become the best version of myself, and I want her to become the best version of herself, and I want our relationship to work. I always thought that divorce was the final stage of a failed negotiation. ""This isn't working anymore because x, so let's work on x together and go from there."" Instead, she failed to communicate with me until it felt too late. I don't want it to be too late.

I realize this story makes me sound like the good guy, but I am very moody these days. I understand her pain from this and she doesn't always feel loved.",3.4358228540185887,5.1276124041721065,4.450062034739457,85.19189668587292,73.58930899608866,7.138739117634691,27.625205030071076,7.831003766801068,1.6777282836354463,3042,117,599,42,62,989,305,767,0.14400000000000002,0.716,0.14,-0.2107,2,0,0,0,5,0,112.0,15,2,1,12,34,47,5,1,38,0,74,11,1,10,4,117,128,55,1,11,19,0,7,4,3,3,5,5,1,5,33,42,1,3,18,2,1,18,22,20,2,2,31,12,112,27,89,86,22,89,0,4,0,4,87,31,0,14,41,447,145,11,0.0,0.1241868567232081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10242253785872064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04190965851908268,0.13081984102259905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054953046119406254,0.0,0.0,0.15592023971698896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330623559053892,0.0,0.0,0.0984757322731656,0.08059511074514487,0.04375744667370046,0.22362667586221746,0.11575827453004632,0.04459428375516489,0.1180889205871158,0.10999530040121323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09028754830414623,0.0,0.0,0.05877862562946135,0.04184252497789708,0.05798707136060015,0.0,0.1013940534806244,0.0,0.04513785642055779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05363029981713406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05362518794171271,0.0,0.0,0.046416824774488386,0.0,0.11689475724182788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05007689484334964,0.0,0.0,0.0494044192034828,0.0,0.10599370846671494,0.0,0.10063739569854492,0.05740903228841145,0.0,0.044577154222902315,0.0,0.057461295669694025,0.1214679736357274,0.0,0.05476072705041378,0.1005466586575476,0.11913585347257145,0.08791258986244313,0.0,0.057778626167591725,0.057731942795330775,0.051890921231326055,0.0,0.1673638775395707,0.04694615368065224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03512713940070062,0.0,0.052568242580605794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05610250907856802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10401122446643493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05760275777286999,0.04271849535379429,0.11823419188240195,0.0,0.0,0.05358945187362209,0.11104931074733446,0.10241316225593196,0.10505066118629876,0.09255223961983096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227717210603605,0.1418974121464065,0.0,0.20989147280682427,0.0,0.05264962366534105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055595279287670295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22280032320284007,0.038524990768206924,0.0,0.16167726348134126,0.050614765086848965,0.0,0.0,0.05134748735399565,0.05028568941668105,0.0,0.10998413535194584,0.055811477683714736,0.0,0.0,0.11152895251240004,0.0,0.0,0.0567514025427973,0.0,0.03633224137236568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033573105583458863,0.0,0.0,0.16879570836202565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250278516018615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17340561846631275,0.1178147640464116,0.05244459687502921,0.0,0.04440406865572655,0.0,0.05183161514169445,0.0,0.11128130077245534,0.0,0.041852097725395464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059470558111357874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08424511998612218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044501467924572,0.10074038667007454,0.0,0.08321021018226336,0.030558796988386164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05822582681934951,0.10674222821253848,0.0,0.0,0.0545572742939308,0.12607773358414762,0.0,0.0,0.043241056690401306,0.21637601004008544,0.0,0.0420375332000982,0.0,0.09423992292179206,0.0971631633715974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05051823623168672,0.0,0.2289164261176985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05729855346204798,0.0,0.06749645671391682
divorce,coffeecupper5,2020/01/21,"Help me understand divorced man's mindset (44/m) Hi there,

I have been dating a guy for a few months who was married for eight years, with her for 14. He became separated in 2016, and divorced in 2018. She initiated the divorce; he initiated the initial separation. During the separation he moved to my city, a plane ride away from where he lived with his ex/where his family is. 

Reasons he cites for the divorce: sexless marriage, wanted different things. 

As we've spent more time together, more and more information has come out about this divorce that makes me wonder if he's not ""over it"" at all, even though he insists he is. Such as:

* He had (has?) PTSD dreams about being married/his ex-wife and wakes up in a cold sweat
* She was his ""best friend"" and this transition to being single has been really rough
* The worst thing about being not being married has been ""waking up alone"" and ""not having a teammate anymore."" 
* He ""got rid of everything"" that reminded him of his ex (furniture, clothes, etc.) and forced himself to start all over
* He gets ""freaked out"" when women he dates do things that remind him of his ex

He and I were getting along great, but a few weeks ago (right when things were definitely headed in the direction of an exclusive relationship) he started pulling back BIG TIME, in very hurtful ways...for example, he would make up excuses so we wouldn't sleep over together after dates/sex (early morning, need sleep for work, need to let delivery guy in, etc.)...he began texting less...flaking on plans...I felt like he was keeping me an arm's length away, which was weird, because just a week prior he was showering me with attention, praise, compliments, affection, etc.

I finally confronted him about it and he broke down and admitted that everything I was feeling was accurate. He admitted that his ex-wife had contacted him and they had dinner together over Christmas, the first time they'd seen each other since the divorce. She wants to get back together. He insisted he does not, but said that the experience ""really fucked him up.""

He then said he had started developing real feelings for me, but he wasn't prepared to deal with them/deal with a real relationship because his ""life is a trainwreck"" (job issues, health issues) and he doesn't even know if he wants to stay in this city. He said he really likes me but he could sense our relationship was getting more serious and it's just not something he can deal with on top of everything else. He made a point to say that I could never understand what he was dealing with and doesn't expect me to. He asked if we could ""take it slow,"" and I agreed, but we've only exchanged a few texts and haven't seen each other since this marathon discussion, so it feels like this is pretty over. 

This obviously crushed me, and it's hard to not take this an outright rejection or something I've done. 

I want to hear from divorced people about what this guy is thinking, feeling, etc. It's difficult to wrap my head around the idea that two people can be so attracted to each other, have a great time, and then one of them just completely withdraws for reasons that have nothing to do with the other person. 

My second question is, assuming I don't hear from him at all, would it be appropriate to reach out in a month or so as a friend? We are neighbors and I truly feel bad for this guy, I like him, I care about him, and I'd like to make sure he's okay. 

Thanks in advance.",5.673819580469388,6.607685915773356,5.8731400690907805,80.00309234659355,67.33078101071975,9.382228711848713,30.959400263542147,9.530980864609335,2.7361284162541404,2705,103,514,54,43,860,294,653,0.071,0.79,0.14,0.9928,3,1,2,0,7,0,120.0,4,0,3,6,24,28,2,0,28,1,57,12,8,7,6,105,105,41,0,16,19,2,8,5,3,3,2,6,2,7,38,39,1,1,20,2,2,5,13,11,0,5,30,17,49,17,81,61,19,69,1,3,2,1,105,34,1,8,34,331,87,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05657697585741067,0.0,0.0,0.06610340971982773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06329720981244262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05681774587157745,0.059667721647662215,0.0,0.11993130138413945,0.09815490876525317,0.053291175436671695,0.07781420614651187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06698035759035231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06507380019496795,0.0,0.0,0.05497955139273585,0.06691925599700449,0.0,0.0,0.15287711067364193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632029239085828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06668349850827361,0.0,0.0,0.055853652402568614,0.06531509339629614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05331756404694886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28472680603393113,0.08431156795963878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720852751493419,0.062433057703548886,0.06016849179415393,0.0,0.1613590869230858,0.04559656401172423,0.06128197046840352,0.06991712368743107,0.0,0.054289478174421126,0.0,0.0,0.09862201118557087,0.059005146844637875,0.1333836288047062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05104665084821642,0.14073448693420346,0.0,0.2527869788683217,0.0,0.0,0.057174627453211425,0.0,0.13100564444843835,0.06784294764465644,0.1438707366326433,0.0,0.0427805251606755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06832593949181169,0.07205061077827167,0.0,0.13323335150716945,0.06333642421776932,0.05673055682234759,0.0,0.0,0.035076528722082764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.065265345637014,0.045081456613071655,0.15590825709916953,0.0,0.05635860880339825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060392720156288764,0.12781096876400488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10188894792378454,0.06783583146252173,0.0,0.09465079789100488,0.04922574365772814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06124177026693298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04324944454234096,0.048541757967077166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08849638158370644,0.0557294930267318,0.0,0.0,0.06033521703174481,0.0,0.0,0.06493292957218637,0.0,0.0,0.07460796246885168,0.0,0.07149856196939725,0.0,0.0,0.14529355455789053,0.1226637106783478,0.13124537734891287,0.0,0.20557236290216266,0.0,0.05450616690897577,0.1821364575268056,0.050756169754526584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055933325395211,0.0,0.1277421067830489,0.0,0.0,0.09827114447099856,0.0,0.0,0.13552690508905407,0.06802891493251892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06015426924480523,0.0,0.09597685326391146,0.0,0.0,0.058761447801411536,0.0,0.0,0.16960986895512636,0.04089645708098228,0.06270769891591264,0.0,0.14886738923187742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062347711564827386,0.1328880680550281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05266227609985835,0.15058245967750952,0.0,0.10239306572875463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06921544627885723,0.04646533086335323,0.0,0.0,0.09067884038452463,0.0,0.0,0.041101181507660296
divorce,DK9AM,2020/01/21,"The Dangers of Video Gaming in Child Custody My name is David Kellerman. I am a family lawyer in Montreal. In Part 1 of this 2-part episode I discuss the severe impact of video gaming on child custody.

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YR3f01t3O8k&feature=share](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YR3f01t3O8k&feature=share)",16.239230769230765,22.61544869230769,6.006538461538465,63.57596153846157,62.07692307692307,5.676923076923077,27.012820512820515,7.1686216300943375,2.1807743589743604,285,8,26,3,6,63,29,39,0.157,0.843,0.0,-0.7319,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,7,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,0,17,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6375855463583932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773692391386665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6372342230566368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3323906154209396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Spanky3151,2020/01/21,"Need some advice Hello everyone. I don’t know where to go with this at the moment. I just need somebody to give me some sort of advice I can go off of. Me and my wife (M22) (F21) have been married almost 4 years now. I attempted to  get out of the marriage about 6 months ago but she insisted that we go to counseling so we have been going to counseling for months now. She believes it has helped tremendously but for me, nothing has changed. I treat her with so much respect and do almost everything for her and get nothing back. If I decide to criticize her actions, she just gets mad or upset and never wants to take credit like a child. There is a long list of the problems in this marriage but I won’t go into that. I’m so ready to get out but there is only one thing holding me back and it is because of her health. She has an illness that she has had her whole life almost that affects her blood pressure. The last few months her illness has gotten worse. She can’t do anything herself but the thing is that she is a very dramatic person and I feel like she uses this illness to take advantage of me. She is supposed to be getting up and around and exercising but she insists that she can’t. She faints all the time but sometimes I feel like she is faking it. She won’t do the things she needs to do to get better. She thinks the doctors have no clue what they are talking about. She won’t change her diet and won’t exercise like she is supposed to. If I were to divorce her, she would be forced to go live with her father. Sadly, her father has the same mind set that she does and believes that the doctors are the bad guys. My question is, would I be the bad guys sending her back to her father where she will sit and do nothing with her life and get worse?  I feel terrible just thinking about it but I feel like I shouldn’t have to sit here and feel like my wife is some child that I’m raising. I feel like I’m too young to be dealing with this. I’ve tried to make things work but nothing has changed and I want out. I’m honestly ready to go home from work today and tell her that I’m done. Bad thing is that she thinks everything is great and I will kind of be blindsiding her with this. I just don’t know what to do and any advice would be greatly appreciated more than you know.",2.890285158039397,4.278100105932204,3.6851351351351376,91.36316307833259,74.42372881355931,6.543380668804398,24.62116353641777,7.001395882987947,0.7779085432890516,1798,56,392,17,37,572,190,472,0.135,0.7490000000000001,0.11599999999999999,-0.9023,0,0,0,0,1,0,36.0,2,1,1,5,22,26,1,2,16,0,57,13,1,3,2,85,99,32,0,12,16,5,6,7,0,10,11,0,1,5,27,30,1,1,14,2,1,9,11,10,0,1,6,6,69,16,51,77,9,40,0,1,0,0,64,11,0,11,24,279,96,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018276792798881,0.061028168589414525,0.0,0.2068191368048266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04681790436162393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05665471084238136,0.06128788118085592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15881586712326504,0.17245157360869826,0.041968118827428964,0.0,0.0,0.15513260583095578,0.0,0.06088903502534484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21849104789524615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07097760250566604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14093438981034087,0.06024793767254771,0.07045375739538412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06578567362922594,0.12374938773725246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088648128170226,0.245919365027448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517857716712287,0.06604372826676015,0.2738889201807554,0.0,0.0,0.15180677059536285,0.0,0.13633749533083256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07318049053904317,0.0,0.0,0.046146282339822514,0.0,0.06905854008096461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07169291824188323,0.11350852228887645,0.056118994639491465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09725647907985684,0.2354440716625377,0.0,0.06079262151068359,0.06092688649197608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04595549827527235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06951522550337783,0.0,0.16485758907374504,0.0,0.050610016399265184,0.15314617200571626,0.05309857830603082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642398625182107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04665209394684878,0.0523607800513663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0601140100596682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06587669495566645,0.0,0.0,0.07712371026627678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06809083766183209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10352783076340899,0.05533611843944058,0.060174777226014185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22869240358280266,0.13234195569615415,0.0,0.0,0.040144882215010634,0.0,0.0652583253788532,0.0,0.0,0.046742177935306266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05946117410858472,0.0,0.056805479886806,0.08121476622370631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07686453302772082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10024198015243392,0.0,0.14032070120301646,0.1467194951995968,0.0,0.0,0.0443348163499458
divorce,ps58275,2020/01/21,"What happens next I (46m) am in the process of finalizing the documents for the uncontested divorce from my STBXW (46f). She left a year ago and we notorized a separation agreement at that time. It isn’t a legal separation but we have been abiding by the agreed provisions so far. 

I downloaded and filled out all required court documents for an uncontested divorce last April and filled them out to my wishes. Fast forward to last week. I presented them to her and told her she has until Feb 1 to reply with any changes to my entries on the forms. That way her and I can discuss and resolve it amicably. Once that is complete, we will sign and submit to the court. 

She still has no desire to attain a lawyer or fight for anything as I know of right now. 

QUESTION:  what happens if on Feb 1 she doesn’t respond / reply to me? Can I head to the court and file anyway? BTW this is in the US as for legal precedent.",3.776544293695132,5.3716627318435775,4.8880486831604175,82.79046089385476,72.5195530726257,7.795849960095771,29.54549082202713,8.418075326091056,2.1579110933758985,715,30,141,12,14,235,109,179,0.035,0.87,0.095,0.8299,0,0,0,0,3,0,19.0,4,0,2,3,4,3,1,0,13,0,12,1,1,0,1,25,17,15,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,14,0,1,3,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,2,0,23,2,28,14,2,29,0,0,0,0,20,11,0,3,16,102,31,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799602488627821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13805693198555485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670637690447155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21476259385538152,0.0,0.21285701083218533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22239263919426924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3590503906868921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2083516131790744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115715490693149,0.3309680914463406,0.0,0.0,0.2205760245253807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21590839643234236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21620398959274692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274228837853026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17337341229083747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621277715013147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11837948214676547,0.0,0.0,0.19398920976263295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442016421261853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611435893231806,0.16284611638495958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334568424849845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13073478637872604
divorce,lessthan1punchman,2020/01/21,"No direction So following my split, it’s been a bumpy ride.  Financially I am getting crushed. I work a day job and also Uber/instacart on the side as much as I can to keep afloat.  The marital house is still for sale.  Ex makes 3 times as much as I do, so I would be remiss if I didn’t acknowledge that she pays about 2/3 while I pay about 1/3 of the expenses on the house for sale (that neither of us live in any more).

What’s been rough is not so much her perception or inaccurate telling of things (I’m guessing she genuinely feels what she says is true, so what can I say) but rather airing it on social media or Reddit continuously.  My [so-called] friends have pretty much ALL backed off. My best friend of my entire adult life, practically like a blood brother, has pretty much disappeared (I used to check in with him weekly to make sure he was ok from a familial sense as he was my only family).  He is my 100% beneficiary.  He had a conversation with my ex after the split and basically opted to back off communication with me.  I sit in my shoebox apartment, trying to keep myself occupied with low cost or practical things like experimenting with cost effective recipes or searching online for specials.  I’ve become that couponing guy 🤦‍♂️.  

One of the most resounding things my ex told me is to “fuck off and die alone.”  It seems prophetic.  I genuinely find my usefulness in this lifetime has all been used up.  I’m ok with an instant death button right now.  I may search for purpose but I have no value.  I’ve become as useless as a cassette player.  Just call me Soundwave, I guess.  If someone was curious what it would be like to throw someone off a cliff, I won’t stop you.

I used to think it was only the rural and uneducated that join up to be fundies.  I have no intention of doing so as even now with what little will I have left I’m still trying to fight against things like fundamentalism and human trafficking, but I get now why some educated guys can fall into fundamentalism/terrorism.",4.59692546583851,5.855463496163686,5.700061198392402,79.06789961636828,70.04859335038364,8.961673364998171,28.54229082937523,9.330973305703688,2.38276974789916,1581,57,311,33,28,525,218,391,0.10099999999999999,0.741,0.158,0.9782,1,1,0,0,1,0,45.0,1,1,0,3,18,16,2,0,15,2,34,3,1,8,4,53,55,29,2,5,12,4,2,4,2,5,1,2,0,4,19,13,0,3,7,0,9,5,7,4,0,1,10,4,40,12,54,37,12,41,0,2,0,1,29,21,1,12,18,210,59,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09785509966376127,0.0,0.07555740807823885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06425115878508332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453020112036707,0.0,0.0,0.20869640784873075,0.0,0.0,0.09915327507761387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09647692425746568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0609332243549062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09805764166081522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06240462421277905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09242175418466532,0.17813888227823407,0.0,0.04777305618404711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08635504982477096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14599347861945308,0.08734730250117502,0.09872613489621272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081656646737014,0.18710453148864592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21803962430477836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09375903800491928,0.16796030084863714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10265522326286043,0.0,0.06673559576664985,0.18463698742930515,0.09469601944534904,0.0834295432677696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12613524919549512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3472765648231662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06402360671001284,0.14371599237785562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922447971043285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08068731125631458,0.0,0.15027212880337112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08601307696925048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096312738731814,0.16010897985375908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15090726760888207,0.07899137792794958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08904838702118444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08258163664358313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510791909359412,0.060540400268548886,0.0,0.0,0.055093350220933465,0.0,0.0,0.09028182315652143,0.0,0.12829446928187158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11365049373594167,0.326409256568924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07578794871726517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08525552005695221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06878419134223931,0.0,0.0,0.13423493585022112,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,2L82Dparty,2020/01/21,"Divorce lawyer in India Divorce lawyer specifically in Mumbai Thane

I'm in the U.S. and my spouse is in Mumbai. I'm in need of a divorce lawyer for what will be a contested divorce.

I've done my due diligence on Google but I also wanted to cover all grounds and see if anyone here recommends anyone or anywhere I could search.

Any help is greatly appreciated.

Cross-posted in legaladviceindia too
https://www.reddit.com/r/LegalAdviceIndia/comments/erpt4n/divorce_lawyer_in_mumbai_thane/",9.737942857142855,13.659300013333333,7.783238095238103,58.34400000000002,62.2,7.485714285714287,29.380952380952376,8.418075326091056,2.5746952380952384,411,14,53,6,7,122,54,75,0.0,0.856,0.14400000000000002,0.8954,0,0,0,0,5,0,18.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,1,9,11,6,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,1,10,7,1,9,0,0,1,0,6,8,0,2,1,33,5,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687090318254383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22849998577141065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4698954301183046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682785967063647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34385739348862404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3704549081598515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22522205984717414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491489712565053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3218070410372572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677584159405977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19818884654902186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Tahli93,2020/01/21,"Divorce from immigrant husband I'll try to make this as short as possible.

I (26, F) have been married for 4 years to a USA citizen (29, M). I am a UK citizen. 

We have two children together, they are a 1 year old and a 2 year old. 

Around 4 months ago we seperated. We are still married and living together because he feels he has no options financially to live in the UK and although he has been offered a flight back to the USA, he is afraid of flying alone. 

Since being in this country for the last 2 years he hasn't integrated into society in any way, he had a job for 12 weeks but didnt pass the probationary period and he will not be eligible for visa renewal since he hasn't met the $18k+ financial requirements to renew. 

He says he wants the kids to move over to the USA with him. I honestly believe no judge would approve full custody and a 4000 mile relocation for the kids, however he is refusing to leave my apartment until he is granted this full custody. 
From what I understand, he wants me to apply for American passports and citizenship for the children and then pay for their flights for him.

I would like him to be able to see the children but he says he wont house share with other people because he doesnt trust them. He doesnt work and hasn't applied for any jobs either. 

I would like to move on with my life, things are getting very stressful at home, especially in the last month.",5.924500000000003,5.733905735714287,6.743571428571433,77.8839285714286,66.64285714285714,10.428571428571429,34.285714285714285,10.125756701596842,3.282357142857143,1106,47,223,24,16,368,156,280,0.084,0.8690000000000001,0.047,-0.7978,3,1,0,0,1,0,28.0,3,0,3,3,3,7,0,2,18,0,28,1,0,1,0,31,36,15,0,5,4,1,1,2,0,5,1,2,1,7,6,16,0,2,2,0,2,3,10,2,0,1,5,4,18,5,40,23,3,35,0,0,1,0,41,14,0,1,19,131,24,5,0.12547393100768647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11122506917453036,0.0,0.0,0.12995315156628542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706531515393169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11169840061501496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09648170790136894,0.0,0.15297548747072692,0.0,0.0,0.14136615282410805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06344338958728027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06555495020599489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258605833197108,0.0,0.0,0.14478006993041814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490270311599224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2045560011075016,0.0,0.13285877593172718,0.0,0.0,0.0886259481757137,0.12260044951458265,0.0,0.22159155973753566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08375482326867273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20030418927841415,0.2667178629676609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26332756721102485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698782511944836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414530044066008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19956381218428002,0.0,0.0,0.09998647784851496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075866646827689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002036433840226,0.0,0.14372996403714403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335930438718367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08518856282907378,0.0,0.1225697985192552,0.13062278725484575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10352913377443697,0.14801555085157608,0.0995953661031506,0.10064761898352008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913465161609016,0.0,0.0,0.2673992416947258,0.0,0.0,0.3232043909781123
divorce,snafu2922,2020/01/21,"Not gonna be her excuse anymore. My ex-wife left in May, the divorce was finalized in August. We gone no contact since then. Save for 2 messages, one me apologizing how it ended and one letting her know the dog was being put to sleep, neither had a response from her.  I've come to find that she's been talking trash about me publicly. Saying things like she got out of a bad situation, I am still an ass to her months later, I never appreciated anything, I never tried. I've left it alone and will continue to, unless I found out she does it again. 90% of our discussion about the divorce was done over text, I have the logs on my PC. I'm fine with her leaving me because she fell in love with someone else, but making me out to be this terrible guy she escaped from is ridiculous. She was the one that said she wasn't leaving me for the other guy only to stay with him as soon as she moved out, she was the one that denied therapy under the claim of ""I don't really want to change"". I've never wanted to say anything because I still loved her and hoped she would back one day. That ships set sail. I'm not gonna be vilified so she can feel good about being flippant.",5.0983084279736985,4.9275727489539785,5.879572624028692,83.31503138075315,68.37238493723851,8.502211595935448,29.205319784817696,7.957251820313856,1.7357863717872088,913,29,192,10,14,300,144,239,0.098,0.8140000000000001,0.087,-0.1771,0,1,0,0,2,0,27.0,2,0,0,0,10,10,1,0,11,0,23,4,2,2,3,31,40,10,0,4,4,0,1,1,0,5,0,3,0,2,10,12,0,0,4,0,0,5,9,3,0,5,13,4,34,7,34,16,1,35,0,0,0,3,36,12,1,2,17,136,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12081138132355422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11568273684790426,0.0,0.0,0.19198151028868865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08969454194479168,0.09739558888335284,0.14221417277868675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12339733311905834,0.1004812849512276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07522783205074406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10207880239944682,0.11937064499286552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09744381702275297,0.0,0.10331484870948447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05898035899481965,0.0,0.0,0.12778137053215768,0.10661348145822254,0.0,0.0,0.12789769868162695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09783818653499636,0.09329346893076244,0.0,0.0,0.23099825127878185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11585704802691488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06410628294230125,0.0,0.0,0.2470252094360552,0.2534751763592927,0.11927972539367845,0.0,0.0569879586536632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21055741087271784,0.0,0.07786295114541593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09310672923263673,0.12397757599727682,0.0,0.0,0.2698966715866177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3952160076751243,0.08871549677591307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11726271345717185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07472722102199918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11095825523703204,0.18552516442727127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09649181802213846,0.13111640641443234,0.11673150022858853,0.0,0.09883484399332257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12433045765375984,0.18630930339079615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09375664824301322,0.0,0.0,0.1333963065452673,0.0,0.07749525569643048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07919583191562123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376031511373128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08286286600119623,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,3G4K9C3,2020/01/21,"Struggling and its getting worse everyday Im (33m) and stbxw (34f) have one child who almost 3. Currently living in the same house in seperate bedrooms since the day she stated she wanted a divorce. House has been sold just waiting on closing date next month.  

At the start of November 2019 stbxw said she wanted a divorce.  I got the ""I love you but not in love with you line"". I begged her to try marriage counseling. She said no it wouldnt change the way she felt shes been unhappy along time. That was news to me. She said there was no one else.

About week after stbxw said she wanted a divorce I saw messages on her phone. Her and coworker had been involved in emotional affair for atleast couple months. 2 weeks after seeing the first texts I saw texts detailing what sexual things they have now done together and things they want to do together. I google the guys number and easliy found out everything about him. Hes 20 years older than her and also married.

A month later stbxw has now said she doesnt talk to the guy anymore and whatever they had is done. She sorry for what shes done. Thoughout all this I wanted to try and fix what was broken and keep my family together. STBXW has shown no desire to reconcile and try counseling so were getting divorce.
As far as the divorce we agree how were to split, assest, custody, etc. 

 I have no close family so Im only able to talk to my sister or father on the phone. I dont have any real friends. The friends I have id call work friends only. Any friends that me and stbxw had together were more her friends and not mine. She was the only real friend I had.

I have since started going to therapy. Been to 4 sessions. I also started going to a divorce support group. And reading some books related to divorce. However I feel like im struggling really bad and my depressions is just getting worse each day. Ive had thoughts of ending my life over the past 2 months. I cant get the images of the sexual text messages between her and her coworker out of my head. I constantly think about that and its detroying me. Because were still in the same house I constantly thinking about where is she at and whos she with when she gone. All I want is for my family to be together and happy like we once were but I know that is out of the question. I asked her if she thinks there is ever a chance in the future for us to try again she said she doesnt know. I just feel so broken and everything is getting worse and not moving forward at all. I feel like im constantly take 5 steps backwards. I hope when I move into my own place I can maybe start to heal but im terrified of those thoughts of ending my life with creep back into my head when Im all alone in an empty apartment. The only thing that keeping my head above water is my child.",3.0480274265632765,4.863093547576302,4.009652775125101,87.42340540127586,74.9245960502693,7.253890522938232,25.13652163948203,8.058908269544373,1.4506450895756149,2194,74,442,35,47,707,246,557,0.10099999999999999,0.78,0.11900000000000001,0.8981,2,1,0,0,7,0,48.0,3,2,3,2,25,18,0,2,26,0,50,9,3,1,5,84,101,36,0,10,11,2,4,3,6,1,3,6,1,4,17,34,1,3,14,2,1,7,12,4,0,3,36,13,77,14,60,63,11,74,0,1,3,2,78,27,0,6,43,293,94,4,0.05623180160382446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05630802663931751,0.058239187837507374,0.0,0.08993710285317613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764791067224825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055766837255162516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052569143764334116,0.0,0.0,0.04323878445137395,0.046951205535271295,0.03427838433297866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0574189565298282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05948579002603596,0.0,0.0,0.18229980246070016,0.0,0.0,0.0622194189286717,0.0,0.07252972018717495,0.0,0.04843236832410796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17263396891568733,0.06590325268707675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04697445473281218,0.0632532082107239,0.09960937147603346,0.0,0.06271332299372218,0.0,0.05086488388205674,0.0,0.0,0.10107503486803776,0.0,0.15903101414970622,0.0,0.08529746540245575,0.08034402060283484,0.05399134786373065,0.0,0.0,0.047830741718183925,0.0,0.061655268037664177,0.260667302580599,0.0,0.14689397727988124,0.0,0.06391565742765985,0.0,0.044973708615415116,0.0,0.0,0.11135664867808097,0.0,0.0598597984333732,0.0,0.0,0.17313015396203807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05585086693337132,0.0,0.19465184767383376,0.0,0.0,0.3644399709463945,0.0,0.0,0.09996281792138986,0.0,0.0,0.06180705514560935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07943636888944315,0.08241605365685142,0.0,0.049653711030539865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10150279276712988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0564924027788814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1795347502299692,0.1195310120129637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05980315894154775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05988503350060063,0.07620824811443076,0.1710672760869374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05367961739182744,0.0,0.0,0.058750264347114375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06299248704864295,0.0,0.05624701872793818,0.12800820186644624,0.036023532004981984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3209359216694112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04480946552235186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930310547401756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06294689813007691,0.1592046343947258,0.0,0.04490678939839353,0.0,0.0,0.11757137653880502,0.0,0.0,0.06381118208302276,0.0,0.0,0.04227931667202045,0.09039398421273363,0.0,0.0,0.06430596578407682,0.0,0.11207373105683067,0.10809320378129318,0.0,0.08928353864049128,0.03278921571935981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15271080854638913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06763993369028418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19900184101006796,0.04463418673819623,0.09021151879320516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040937421285109014,0.0,0.17191502955452076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0362114366008282
divorce,on_live,2020/01/21,"SC, mental, financial abuse, false report Hello,
Please anyone has experience filing for divorce in SC? 

Not separated yet, in SC we will have to be separated for one year to file. 

I’m going through some rough time. I was going through mental abuse but since I agreed to divorce finally in response to his constant threatening, he makes it now unbearable. 
Yesterday he filed false report and I have all proofs that it is false report. He filed report regarding his text, but think he only said it trying to scare me out of desperate since all his  nasty tricks didn’t work.

Is there any chance to speed up divorce and hearing if I file using of proofs of abuse I can provide?
Also, I don’t have money to hire an attorney but I do have access to some legal advice, but there is no one who can represent me in the court.",5.799999999999998,6.508182917197456,6.316439490445857,77.7402643312102,66.96178343949045,9.33732484076433,29.07579617834395,9.3871,2.4853266242038217,646,21,119,12,10,210,94,157,0.18600000000000005,0.765,0.049,-0.9801,0,0,0,0,6,0,17.0,1,0,0,1,5,2,1,1,2,0,16,0,0,2,4,19,24,8,0,1,6,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,5,4,0,0,1,0,1,2,4,2,0,2,3,3,13,0,21,19,4,16,0,0,0,0,15,6,0,3,8,77,18,7,0.0,0.5864081040618133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16121246059824884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13193110254723914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121892139242815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535492825877584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17828025119620006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16137800698915958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807229453452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18751911918330166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859397376633572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11012263998786656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33251364488700297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22358376861091755,0.12547154415651482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18109390753752708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15692978259107335,0.0,0.16516957470405885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729394039530256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10570984314086332,0.0,0.0,0.09619872653840184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11200775154663528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424861380110174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12010436080873856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10623901824736176
divorce,gracethedisgrace2,2020/01/21,"I'm finally free... My divorce was made official. I'm finally free.

I should be happy, I should be celebrating. But in all honesty, I am fucking scared. I don't know where to go from here. I mean, I wanted this. I've been waiting for years but, this is closing a chapter I've never thought I'd have to end and they don't prepare you for this. So I'm just... I'm lost.

I've been with this man since I was 19. Now, 10 years later, I'm back to being single and I have no single clue on how to be that anymore. You get unsolicited advises on how to move forward with your life. Do this, do that, and you'll be alright but they don't tell you how to overcome this fear, this fear of taking that first step forward.

Am I still pretty? Am I still saleable in the market? I don't want to be alone forever so I worry about these things. It's petty. It's childish. But it's valid, right? I've heard that cliche before: ""You need to learn to be happy alone before you can be happy in a relationship"". Perhaps this is true. But how do I even begin? I never thought I could be this fearful of my own freedom.

I'm sorry if this post is too sappy, or unwarranted. I just needed to get it out. The finality of my divorce is just bittersweet, I guess.


To all of you going through the same thing, All I can say is, I think we need embrace our fear, but not let it control us. I believe we'll figure it out somehow. And we will be genuinely happy again.",-0.005524178663712576,2.1874143455149517,2.3718300110741986,92.94980112587672,88.26910299003323,4.939128829826505,20.653469915097823,6.42735559955562,0.2379611664820964,1102,37,244,12,36,375,148,301,0.155,0.711,0.134,-0.6097,0,2,0,0,2,0,52.0,5,8,2,3,20,15,1,5,5,1,40,2,0,6,6,54,68,18,0,9,12,0,0,0,0,5,1,2,0,1,23,11,0,2,7,0,2,6,8,7,0,1,9,2,38,10,29,42,7,33,0,1,0,1,23,12,1,4,18,176,61,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20449438420045365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09790662839529618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07591184671590971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680119005497757,0.11122694609606193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107261712950573,0.07882223407752044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08743922192656005,0.0,0.0,0.06520557049914746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4443630144501079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3244384642364276,0.0,0.08397368195450439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09126776682014556,0.10315732255887998,0.0,0.1122130432424988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10875444804459994,0.0,0.0,0.4203696196158989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05425554575258401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10095089438077567,0.0697309317932532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10776775051904,0.0,0.0,0.09341403242960264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10753822279897204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049268611138921,0.0,0.21960542630295973,0.15228243412498413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09454928655451376,0.100436721066847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10599149105541653,0.0,0.08430885096865766,0.0,0.07850844398433743,0.09883888485255926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08166463577621698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11051224826789836,0.0,0.0,0.1576805341115997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07422736432540572,0.0,0.0862882005624746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13117426866973947,0.06325767341050821,0.0,0.15674997309771987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11875154085206925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164586951477085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10025793724560733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12714867263192015
divorce,Bostondad77,2020/01/21,Ex wife using son as barging chip Im from the Boston area and got divorced last April. When we went through the divorce I didn't get a lawyer I told her she could have everything as long as I had plenty of time with my son. Sola Court put in the order of the typical every other weekend I only get to see him but we worked out verbally ideal did I can pick him up everyday from daycare bring him home and we can have dinners together every now and then and if I had time off from work I could take them for a night or two and all of a sudden one day that all stopped. She told me that I was not allowed to pick him up from daycare anymore and I can only see him on every other weekend and she stopped letting me FaceTime with them every night before bed. Now she has a b******* restraining order against me trying to take him away from me for good when she knows he is literally the only thing on this planet that I care about. It's been 5 days since I've talked to my son I can't even legally contact him until after the court date on the 31st. It's absolutely killing me I don't know what to do 😭😫😫,0.8156410256410247,2.849694688034192,2.735576923076924,92.81567307692309,82.8888888888889,5.267521367521368,21.28846153846154,6.42735559955562,0.2581487179487181,863,27,190,8,24,288,134,234,0.055999999999999994,0.888,0.055999999999999994,0.2655,1,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,3,0,2,3,6,4,1,0,11,0,19,1,0,4,2,31,34,17,1,4,4,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,10,13,1,3,2,2,0,3,4,1,0,2,10,2,37,3,34,21,2,38,0,0,2,0,30,10,0,2,23,132,47,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12835465873907248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12159889280197035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101310019179739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13195724490272565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066703985602163,0.0,0.0,0.16693662293361353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08548388282265378,0.0,0.43618402183249744,0.0,0.11631869625460825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352382688536908,0.0,0.0,0.10855541100190252,0.1035128636603415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12982366206966356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13980103111481249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431894039421059,0.0,0.14225700902819835,0.1054985145533768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323456624952182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11453690613235692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429128801665215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08770161767533988,0.29530025716397723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13010770646273495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062696734650941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10706156087600067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.216409914488678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19462273746413655,0.10402677977417887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08598410938263258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15093732408468805,0.0,0.0,0.24734195226985206,0.0,0.08787096723386922,0.0,0.12642925754197193,0.0,0.0,0.11178150254389953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11997811861250555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884456425120785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Whiterabbit86sorry,2020/01/21,"I know what I need to do but can't! Hey all. This is my first post and I'm a little out of my comfort zone so please bare with me. 

Basically I'm in a loveless marriage. No affection. No care. We don't communicate with each other. I have been trying to make us work for 4 plus years (we've been together for 9 years) and it still hasn't changed. We have two children (18 & 6) and I don't want them to think this is how a normal relationship is. I have no self esteem. No motivation. No confidence and no one I can completely confide in. 

Now it is complicated. There is alot of information that I haven't shared but I will if asked. 

I know this can't continue but I'm constantly overthinking. Worried about him and what will happen. Worried if the kids will hate me. In an ideal world we could remain friends and co parent living separately but I think I'm being selfish there. I don't know, but I do! I just can't :(",-0.07646963562752873,2.2462714421052645,2.4136842105263163,90.77348178137652,92.47368421052632,5.870445344129554,19.939271255060728,7.321109707123232,0.7088987854251014,714,24,157,14,26,244,109,190,0.172,0.662,0.166,0.6181,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,4,0,1,4,8,7,1,0,6,0,26,0,0,4,1,39,42,16,0,7,8,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,3,9,14,0,0,7,0,0,0,14,2,0,3,2,0,23,5,15,35,3,14,0,0,0,0,17,6,0,3,7,110,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844521543988695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159148990903664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735683774964712,0.0,0.18008859908754846,0.0,0.1784906775364449,0.1839661540720628,0.0,0.1359207134897708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14480384753360415,0.0,0.0,0.13152499481843732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15054037274335866,0.0,0.0,0.16807419053259254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.280674072833896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17062260019628855,0.1503227452316609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11363478803120493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12622887682498152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16679650954976458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535726965916793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18902848915037174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868695465259177,0.0,0.0,0.16304037355499648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827712606309581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17759473812315207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359518094781397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21816250717286576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558002156737388,0.0,0.1662972057034081,0.0,0.20477463433412324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10041043064699566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12393485648026704,0.34576869135765786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2192546114134645
divorce,my_name_is_ross,2020/01/21,"I'm just so fed up My wife sprung this on me and I didn't want it, but I honestly don't know how she is going to manage without so much help from me.

She is terrible with money. We split everything in half and she's already needing to borrow money, complaining it's because I earn more (she's been staying in hotels, spent a fortune on underwear, dresses spas) and has bought loads of stuff for the house she will be moving into already before the money has come through from the equity I'm giving her. She now says she has no money and can't even afford pads (sob story about having to use tissue now). Oh but she spend £40 on underwear that arrived the same day...

She is confused and hurting but I hate how much she lashes out at me. and I just take it. I'm going to miss her so much but also I can't wait until I'm free.

She has no family here and she is so upset my family have distanced themselves from her. She is so hurt by that, but I don't know what she expected. We had an argument on the weekend (I refused to disable the front door camera so she could have her personal trainer over...) anyway I went over to see my mum and when  I got there she was on the phone to her already complaining about me.

I get private healthcare with work (not really needed with the NHS but nice anyway), and she's had a load of stuff done on her back but the policy is for partners living with you, so she will lose that. Well she thinks that she should be entitled to continue that until at least we are divorced, then it should be part of a settlement. I've managed to get work to continue paying it for her for a bit as it will cost her £250 a month but she said she can't afford that (but can pay the £240 to her personal trainer)

Shes annoyed I have friends and places to go out and she doesn't. She is stuck in the house and has nowhere to go. Since I'm buying her out of the house she no longer thinks of it as hers (I've gone out of my way to make sure she doesn't feel kicked out, but I do sympathise with her). Hopefully we will have the remortgage sorted by the end of this month then she can buy the house she wants.

I know this is going to happen, and the above makes it easier, but I'm still going to miss her singing in the house, the smell of her perfume, the hugs etc.

It just hurts.

I suffered from depression for about 6 months and unfortunately she couldn't be with me while I got better (even though I've helped so much with her back). Thankfully I have meds now and an amazing support network.

I've told her I'm going to miss seeing her (we will be doing a hand over of the kids on a sat or sun) but other than that I probably won't see her. She's says we will see each other loads, and maybe if we get back together we can rent her house out. I just don't ever see us getting back together now.

Sorry for the rant. Just needed to unload.",3.0305252940948115,3.916083203672791,4.341622083317159,88.74656520557518,73.39065108514191,7.57543192141942,23.779982140777264,7.900780265707199,1.0039679388127505,2225,59,494,30,43,736,252,599,0.132,0.772,0.096,-0.9604,4,0,0,0,1,0,61.0,9,1,0,5,38,29,2,2,30,0,56,3,1,5,2,90,116,50,0,12,21,2,2,0,2,9,0,3,2,4,24,40,1,2,6,4,15,12,16,17,1,1,17,12,88,13,80,83,11,63,0,10,5,1,79,25,1,5,24,360,112,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315584786554391,0.055935072943627234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.215133864494588,0.0,0.042637885082533286,0.0,0.059518130255778484,0.0,0.0,0.061860758850602125,0.07636193595894601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060251512166272676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05584547260671514,0.0,0.0,0.04510880449277483,0.0,0.06024361401688023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07157812395188308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06195059972608436,0.0,0.07800727808450247,0.09239616064508087,0.0632693493553311,0.0,0.0,0.06286214775400341,0.0,0.1318760347630165,0.0,0.03536634527785356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05403941243866537,0.0,0.14617371604763915,0.06709771547872559,0.2782598941845781,0.0,0.1118829756415638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06185222286135675,0.0,0.0,0.06905630762444541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09376545522481428,0.0,0.0,0.06947126862609669,0.0,0.4842435414457296,0.22463303557112105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11531999680858165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06176280667944493,0.0,0.0,0.07825067807623387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09337779767679227,0.0,0.07026925640146768,0.0,0.07769324052845579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674885397368776,0.07434057428874133,0.2056707923583804,0.1555902209879831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07574372956150732,0.0,0.0,0.12214673063207225,0.07307774472295386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07541265027228765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044808623503811235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06653380944130481,0.11124630529023613,0.0,0.0,0.2786859530765046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05785931131681469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07829781540170176,0.0,0.07455217243290478,0.05585824895346942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16014081555618614,0.0,0.07937287306796782,0.0659224310392517,0.0,0.05259001206469623,0.0,0.0,0.06439605266736183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896359944362084,0.06872070776209119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06683554256539008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08413534581038692,0.060410110801948864,0.0,0.0,0.08251086696285298,0.055519166434708375,0.0,0.0,0.06288904692974373,0.0648398104717226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06742458250563288,0.0,0.10184173485973948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,exhaustedandoverit,2020/01/21,"When does it become final? It’s been a year and half since I have filed, and nothing has changed with the status. We’re fighting about money, but holy shit when will it be final? I’m in so deep money wise and can’t afford to keep fighting. I just want it done with. We have shared custody but the schedule is so shitty my 3 year old can’t handle the bs schedule. Any advice?",1.8341208791208807,3.6310598846153854,2.976227106227107,93.57115384615385,78.35897435897436,4.457142857142856,20.117216117216124,3.1291,-0.4471706959706961,293,7,62,0,7,94,56,78,0.192,0.705,0.10300000000000001,-0.868,1,0,0,0,4,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,6,5,3,0,4,0,10,1,1,0,0,11,13,9,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,3,0,1,2,0,4,2,5,9,0,11,0,0,0,0,4,2,1,0,9,38,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375223951729385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16529398971380746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684485583181839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571328036129064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21270969142495785,0.24874207440513826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5325363397073074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160492414904749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332294755212534,0.0,0.2550580741892305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24950492531516102,0.20106764924814088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433672962922528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31305453661947263
divorce,ac112322,2020/01/21,"Help My husband is abusive; verbal and emotional. I have been threatened with divorce so much over the last 5 years, that I’ve lost count.  

I am trusting God and His plan. Praying for my husband and his walk with God. Praying he gets the help he needs because he’s not okay. I don’t deserve the abuse. 

Anyone else in the same situation?",2.1242857142857154,4.580555151515153,2.9265367965367983,90.87409090909094,80.81818181818181,4.983549783549783,27.61038961038961,6.1826913282559595,1.0696389610389616,264,12,52,2,7,83,49,66,0.191,0.573,0.235,0.1366,0,0,0,0,2,0,9.0,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,4,1,5,0,0,0,0,8,8,4,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,7,2,5,6,2,5,2,1,0,0,10,2,0,0,2,29,8,0,0.0,0.5890524542848102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17381266510647714,0.25469921850722843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15153184223005456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20765639343646386,0.2796186387907075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298726029412364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3332353877368164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20262558531126934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713540430450944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18273463844802365,0.18431865443648768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794139321329454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600771391270385
divorce,Xina62,2020/01/21,"Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt's SAG Awards interaction demonstrates the healing power of forgiveness ""Divorce, though, often comes after an accumulation of untended and unresolved offenses.

Yet,  I do know that every divorce is a tragedy – the “death of a small  civilization” as the late writer Pat Conroy once fittingly wrote. There  is something immensely sad about the fracture of what was intended to be  a lifelong partnership. If all the hurts of the divorced hearts were  known, we’d be frozen in grief for our fellow human beings.""

[https://www.foxnews.com/opinion/jennifer-aniston-brad-pitt-sag-awards-forgiveness-jim-daly](https://www.foxnews.com/opinion/jennifer-aniston-brad-pitt-sag-awards-forgiveness-jim-daly)",19.604835164835166,22.44020332967033,12.9036043956044,34.96639560439564,37.681318681318686,12.554725274725275,43.47472527472527,11.979248473330829,5.841776263736263,617,23,60,12,5,165,76,91,0.19699999999999998,0.753,0.05,-0.9442,1,0,1,0,3,0,44.0,2,0,0,2,5,6,1,0,10,0,9,2,1,1,1,12,12,5,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,3,0,3,2,11,5,1,7,0,3,0,0,10,3,0,3,3,42,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2995639866244207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29300234825401594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4120966407714377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37228370013092493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191119507430565,0.0,0.3922878241891805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3703524808983144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677222263745705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3416719089813564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,brother_meowzone,2020/01/21,"Just shoot me Everyday is a more vivid realization that I'll never see my ex-wife again and I'm not seeing much reason to stick around except for novelties and work. 

She will never cry for me and I'll never forget her.",2.5116666666666667,4.435302777777778,4.268611111111113,84.49625000000003,76.7777777777778,7.166666666666668,17.916666666666668,8.07648339933343,0.6173333333333337,175,3,35,3,4,59,36,45,0.055,0.848,0.09699999999999999,0.2071,0,0,0,1,0,1,3.0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,3,12,5,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,5,4,2,6,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,5,25,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25676594729012936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3168293983876417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21203096848427916,0.0,0.6673704407372715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2965564994307692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4596864871765477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099821897588937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,taebbie,2020/01/21,"Will the love feel the same? Anyone here that’s fallen in love again after divorce, does that butterfly giddy school crush feeling ever come back? Or is the hopes of seeing someone in that light ever again permanently damaged?",6.9026666666666685,9.027464600000004,6.130000000000003,74.8616666666667,65.5,7.333333333333335,28.333333333333336,7.793537801064563,2.060083333333333,184,6,27,2,3,56,32,40,0.163,0.5870000000000001,0.251,0.7677,0,0,0,0,1,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,3,0,2,2,0,0,2,8,9,1,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,3,4,8,1,10,0,1,1,2,3,2,0,2,6,20,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19026547456692372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20923561296452545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23439846831676786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381250890815565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4922777220715034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27517374635225395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702663945270265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4911793736044022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753896094440342,0.21683625254835626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305577208691784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,catppl666,2020/01/21,"2 days away from signing the papers I'm curious for those of you who have filed and done the whole thing. What did you do with yourself the day you signed everything and it was finalized? I'm 2 days out and not sure how I'll feel. I was planning to just go to work but the day I was served papers, going to work wasn't such a great idea. For all intents and purposes, my ex and I are on ""fine"" terms despite everything that has happened. Friends have suggested throwing a party, but TBH this whole thing has been traumatic and sad. I wasn't the one who wanted the divorce so celebrating at this point doesn't feel right. Wondering what others have done and how they dealt with it all.",3.396615792966159,5.0425486350365,3.909608493696087,89.21553417385537,73.5985401459854,7.609555408095554,25.593231585932315,8.296473431620573,1.4616335766423358,541,18,114,9,11,170,86,137,0.10400000000000001,0.787,0.109,0.2119,0,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,0,3,1,3,5,5,0,0,8,0,17,0,0,3,3,27,26,12,0,1,4,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,10,0,0,4,0,0,3,4,1,0,1,9,2,9,4,13,17,5,15,0,1,0,0,10,6,0,1,6,80,22,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572311512373261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4317084934361864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34251499681404224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3008073856777841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692347182543005,0.0,0.0,0.18332411508428967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12929445588504587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19021810716951826,0.0,0.0,0.18450433826765408,0.0,0.0,0.14798735106930455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18891816146870105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11340091998145295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15820016166871567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14291627412900687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15772571290469814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.222360256657344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987075651560226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3736813515474408,0.0,0.0,0.18148430270046648,0.2436660781614584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,obvithwy609,2020/01/21,"What do I tell our daughter? My husband had been acting really strange and come to find out he's balls deep in addiction. We amicably worked out a plan for him to go to inpatient treatment, which would be perfect because it would give us space from each other and him time to heal. He applied for a rehab and was approved but when I came home the night before his check in I find him high and I told him he couldn't stay at our home while high. He took this as some form of abandonment and just packed his things and left...said I was ""kicking him out of my life without helping him."" 

Now he wont answer the phone, I have no idea where he is. He has no job, no money. I have seen a divorce lawyer, but I really wanted to separate while we tried to work this out. I dont even care about me I just don't want him to completely abandon our daughter. She adores him. 

Now he's gone and she keeps asking ""where's daddy, where's daddy?"" She is a toddler, so of course she wouldn't understand why he isn't here with her. I just dont know what to tell her and it's tearing me up inside. This is so fucking unfair. And it doesn't help that I come from a very conservative family where divorce and drug addiction never happen and they have already expressed their opinion that I'm failing as a mother by not keeping the family together at all costs, and that I'll be hurting my daughter irreparably by making her a child of divorce. I just hate everything right now.",3.852956885456884,4.864656695945946,4.697007722007721,86.4925225225225,71.56756756756756,7.8002574002574,26.93307593307593,8.11559375814309,1.5524332689832692,1146,38,239,16,21,371,162,296,0.159,0.816,0.026000000000000002,-0.991,1,0,1,0,3,0,30.0,6,0,2,6,17,9,2,0,10,0,24,7,0,1,3,54,46,21,0,6,8,5,0,0,0,4,6,0,2,1,14,23,0,5,6,1,3,7,14,6,0,0,9,1,43,3,32,30,4,35,0,4,1,1,52,18,1,2,9,164,57,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25127774036633943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12718059164692955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10774264239371452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07025497165369722,0.0,0.09806876081932392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318146241682017,0.11750445617829558,0.0,0.0,0.1985543265638157,0.12083681543455048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701429043120068,0.0,0.13365272828208966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07612114947148002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10357873989292248,0.0,0.21729377679365994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21067174871257066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10654622399378162,0.0,0.11055773732353312,0.06549889658141696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019146741315013,0.0,0.0,0.11378493387449595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15449850259139433,0.24353466214317535,0.231209113555167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12337687884835255,0.1301025575799942,0.0,0.0,0.11436725781633872,0.20487794498337367,0.0,0.0,0.0633380626267685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12521882300542994,0.0,0.08140406779953265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07692987722267608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08888745118839415,0.0,0.0,0.10815376565232084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14766344850397126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984223678625407,0.10962858235729456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12284053842860262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20146613126334212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07656658806744025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06720285876176277,0.0,0.0,0.1101257517651711,0.1280463369521619,0.07824678536057675,0.0,0.0,0.11997870204757065,0.13863085196512645,0.0,0.0,0.09509283453071823,0.13595417803618712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10399466814183728,0.0,0.0,0.1110963201745692,0.0,0.1678058886336593,0.0,0.0,0.16373975078046818,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Asking4AFriend01,2020/01/21,"It can't come fast enough!! The money to retain my lawyer should be in this week, thank goodness...  I've made a few post about the discovery of my wife (30f) infidelity. I have been gathering evidence and playing it cool till the time comes I am able to retain my lawyer which should be this week or next. I have a mountain of evidence from her old cell phone, FB messages, Snaps, texts to me. She has basically been living a separate life for over a year now and I learned recently that she has gotten pregnant from one of her APs, on top of that she has been telling all her friends, coworkers, strangers, and boss that we are already divorced and that our kids and his play well together ""play dates to her friends"" and that she will basically have a brady bunch when the baby is born. Also learned him and her are looking into buying a home together, but also mentions to her friends how he threatens her every time she leaves his house, and how much of a POS he is. ""she is living in a fairy tale where she can have her cake and eat it too."" I have played blind per my lawyers directions and to just gather evidence. She has been with this guy for about 8 months according to her conversations with her friends. She has basically been living with him for the past 4 or 5 months just showing up to take the kids to school and picking them up when she doesn't have an excuse. I am so ready to just get this over with. I have been contemplating not going for full custody because she is still the kids mother however the other day pretty much put a nail in that casket. She spent about 3 hours on our daughters birthday then took of because she had to ""work"". I learned that she left to go on a date with AP or ""baby daddy"" or whatever you would call him. I didn't plan on filing with any fault but have been told that the child is the largest piece of evidence in proving adultery. Im going for 100% physical custody because the guy she is living with has a criminal record that involves 2 pasts arrest involving domestic violence, and threat with the intent to cause bodily damage. I know that men have a tough time as it is with divorce but I am hoping that someone has been in a similar situation that has had a positive outcome. I will not let her drag my kids into the fucked up fairy tale she lives in. I'm removing her from the lease pending my retainer.  The reason she gives me that she is never home anymore is because she is working multiple jobs while babysitting her friends kids ""APs"". She has neglected our kids since i've been home from deployment (10 months) and has been going on dates, partying, sleeping around instead of spending time with the kids in the evenings. She has made decisions to put him and his kids before ours and I have documents to show. Not reacting and showing her all the shit I have on her and just burning everything she owns has been the hardest thing that I have ever done, to include my recent deployment. I am just hoping that my patience, and records help me in getting the outcome that is best for our kids.  Thanks for reading",7.738296918767504,6.74067370084034,7.256932773109245,78.35929271708686,63.25210084033614,10.689635854341738,35.79971988795518,9.80755857964246,3.2293350140056027,2432,95,476,41,30,762,274,595,0.073,0.809,0.11900000000000001,0.9757,2,0,0,0,3,0,58.0,6,1,1,5,24,24,3,0,35,1,67,6,2,10,5,78,91,36,1,5,15,3,0,0,5,5,2,0,3,13,27,34,1,4,7,8,4,10,7,7,1,1,21,3,79,17,72,62,11,69,0,2,2,1,92,26,2,6,32,343,106,12,0.08112485198140786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08952329145872058,0.12975102963986024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05516768123706811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045405426755216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07221831773085982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978118271768531,0.0,0.06903127390849692,0.0,0.08513552714885933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08283754417522335,0.0,0.0,0.08333756985385643,0.0,0.1397637533933551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05231881823645247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08301888952398774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08301097641847997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382365813666659,0.0,0.053582199627018816,0.07338207310261075,0.06835118668051178,0.0,0.07290978600023656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3133842970096972,0.07499861842836236,0.08476877371099678,0.07782235019717551,0.18442049161592647,0.06804367689947242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16065271578530652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05437627824464995,0.0,0.2441245231604253,0.1611505654727199,0.07989163784468388,0.0936071871554223,0.0,0.0,0.08762876123441399,0.0,0.08050389782153458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0445840970508159,0.0,0.0,0.08589950474439298,0.08814238904591297,0.08295565752787237,0.05730088210136858,0.0,0.0,0.35817365287885256,0.0,0.06812444384831606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535245929233368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19425924862597724,0.0,0.11927220110287765,0.0,0.06256848703654794,0.0,0.08627720042360701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08512688548551957,0.0,0.054972299230273296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15488570136918506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769518321785714,0.08253313937583544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16310576615156627,0.0,0.0,0.08114680551848294,0.0,0.0,0.08340985916190513,0.16020200871314802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210268125432754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08327349476346685,0.06710731588010954,0.09118773262515767,0.08118343937930253,0.0,0.06873682382375174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06478641158559567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06099579257761949,0.0,0.07090669635434295,0.14937772847375566,0.0,0.0,0.05389574691231384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18921821431654806,0.0,0.0,0.07751827259739077,0.09013269552175952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13014692576769618,0.0,0.0729409846343412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11811971686957765,0.0,0.0,0.057628767261879675,0.0,0.0,0.0522417448932763
divorce,blueskywarmbreeze,2020/01/21,"Advice please I think I might need to get a divorce. I am unhappy and starting to feel so angry. I don’t feel respected or valued. I need some advice on what to do. Divorce first and change your life or did you start individual therapy, start doing things you like to do, and let divorce happen more organically? 
1. I try really hard to communicate clearly but he does what he wants and disregards whatever I communicated. 
2. He never has ideas or suggestions for anything about ours kids. Doesn’t make an effort to teach the kids anything. For example: He likes sports but doesn’t play with our kids or look into getting them involved in a team. 
3. Has no interest in anything to do with our home. He told me painting or gardening are my interests (they are not but I am trying to make a nice home for my family). All things children and home related apparently are my interests. Please note that I work full time often more hours than him and make more money. 
4. He thinks that physically holding me so that I listen to him is not abusive behavior. He has told me on more than one occasion that if he hit me then I would know it. Denies that he is threatening me. 
5. Will never ever attempt to understand my perspective. Excuses for everything and turns things around on me. Conversations never get anywhere. I have mentioned therapy. It will only happen if I make all the arrangements so that all he will have do is show up. Also he is very charming, good looking and very convinced on his own opinions. I’m can’t imagine how this would work. I would probably believe his reality over mine if I was a therapist. I literally start feeling crazy trying to communicate with him. I think this would be something for him to “win” at. If he made the effort to initiate therapy I would be more inclined believe he wanted to work on things. 
6. I realized I don’t do anything that I like to do because he doesn’t like to do those things.
7. I am a completely different person that I don’t recognize and I liked who I was. Independent, exciting, confident. 
8. He has complete control of our finances. 
9. His family is awful. Selfish, manipulative. 
10. I am scared of what communication would be like if we were divorced.",2.726574534161493,5.4160646119047655,4.5751552795031065,78.52332298136648,80.26190476190476,8.128364389233955,27.701863354037272,8.903607488879933,2.7809658385093172,1747,78,314,47,46,591,209,420,0.076,0.752,0.172,0.9923,3,0,1,0,5,0,53.0,5,3,2,10,9,19,0,1,9,1,51,1,0,9,8,74,85,28,0,15,15,0,4,6,0,10,1,1,4,5,22,15,0,3,11,5,2,0,13,2,0,2,7,7,54,17,41,63,11,25,0,0,2,0,51,13,0,14,18,226,76,6,0.0,0.09054339792809926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493505004771553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06111182758706402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25154357763676705,0.06802864522996117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046583993632526265,0.0,0.0,0.1721949070898866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08084061479912398,0.0,0.160246636167609,0.0,0.08570981874349208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07984104249692307,0.0,0.0,0.0668743232559785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06912488651343095,0.0,0.0,0.06867999866857921,0.0,0.14408107606162188,0.0,0.11591843263615532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06500151658242613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11977649884179048,0.0,0.0,0.06409619195488843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351532117671277,0.0,0.06845594430938892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299618863998743,0.0,0.07525680545524709,0.0,0.0,0.08626715762916236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041997595851946505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07814306914228086,0.05397662950783642,0.2240052437404416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12834454658212452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07230900964059013,0.20403970431342847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08106792664358707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133266632050773,0.17681591904622454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051783137011699065,0.05811969448849332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.066725665578677,0.0,0.1677690770535088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08239204203717168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048955632483725205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765082257106807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05883067623511669,0.0,0.0,0.2163575623305383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26217356146539633,0.08872774050110142,0.25384519892623103,0.14689762118754934,0.0,0.0,0.04456022785229848,0.0,0.0,0.14604225717414898,0.0,0.15564938673536285,0.08312135768737337,0.0,0.07955432847902469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12610649165480747,0.0901471940686462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16690068183664447,0.0,0.0,0.3257129564586774,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,klymax,2020/01/21,"Brother died family with us I’m not happy neither is she Hey all

So I’m in a stick predicament. Marriage for me has always had its ups and downs. I thought it was just par for the course. I acknowledge my wife can be a bit needy sometimes and a bit obtuse in the directions of her thoughts.

Pregnancy doesn’t help the situation one bit. I’m a bit confused here, here’s a bit of context.

I’m 30 soon to be 31. We’re coming up on 4 years of marriage. Around 9 of being together. My wife is pregnant, around 6 months. She had preclampsia for the first baby and now it’s developing for the second. Stress and emotions are high right now which is understandable.

My brother passed away (literally just last week) at 28 and with it came his wife who’s also 6 months pregnant. My wife was cordial she always liked my brother and liked my wife. Never really liked my mom.

Fast forward past the funeral and me grieving as I didn’t do much but kept it in to be a rock for mom and SIL. She was supportive at times but also quite “Why aren’t you comforting me mode”.

Weekend hits and she suddenly feels like her bp was elevated and pulse was high. Sure enough she checked it and it was. She blames the stress on the whole situation on my brother dying which is understandable. She then makes an audacious claim that she wants my family out of the house. Granted it’s been a week now and the funeral just ended with my brother being put into the ground on Friday. 

This shits tough. She keeps hiding in our room and claiming my family is stressing her out and they need to leave. 

My SIL has no where else really to go where she feels comfortable and my mom lives out of state. If I kick them out not a week after my brother died I’d feel like a horrible human being. 

Now the past few days has been hell. Her fighting with me. Me telling my mom and SIL it’s nothing to worry about she’s just sick. Making sure she doesn’t break these relationships after the baby is born as she has even admitted throughout this that she feels selfish but it’s what she feels.

She’s also claiming that I should put her and my son and unborn son ahead of my family. All I have in my immediate family on my side now is my mom. And I realize she’s a talker and can be annoying through these times but I can’t constitute that to kick her out.

Just a shitty situation. But this really heightened my thoughts as it pertains to my wife and her true colors. If this were reversed and it were her family this would be a no brainer and I would no question take in one of hers to help them heal. But I lost my brother and not but a week you want to kick my family out.

I realize I should probably wait for my son to be born before I sever this tie. But this shit sucks. I lost my brother, and now I feel like I lost my wife because she has no sympathy at all for my family. She just sees them as a cancer and wants them out. What should I do here?",2.0274034749034726,4.085500060810812,3.5021138996138994,88.78304054054054,78.79729729729729,6.93127413127413,22.73359073359073,7.957251820313856,1.109485424710424,2284,72,483,40,56,751,241,592,0.168,0.747,0.086,-0.9954,1,0,0,0,2,0,47.0,2,2,5,6,26,29,6,4,28,0,49,5,2,2,7,99,85,45,6,11,19,23,6,6,0,5,3,0,1,1,30,42,0,3,16,2,1,7,14,16,0,4,21,8,89,13,66,49,13,77,1,4,2,0,75,37,4,4,39,342,119,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14061350122041086,0.09753803525271117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10435236916496002,0.0,0.0,0.055066930430323416,0.0,0.0,0.035728699904923146,0.0,0.04987361382241644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31993996521579365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06703532916076642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05048815608090384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03779922328869048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824867827793417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04896193998068176,0.06592944615567281,0.05191191782281932,0.060560793947274726,0.0,0.03871198922818414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4420256081255973,0.0,0.17781278804805814,0.12561505408432733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049854456396731285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03330996177176435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06239246149467901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07857138797318727,0.1238514037561704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06762918368536078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05209611819025688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047775758705914204,0.0,0.06206054856871704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17180613997729874,0.0,0.05175455538810607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919423738786209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07824654774782558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3432222657884702,0.09356542524235274,0.0,0.04308580271486426,0.04345928746277955,0.04520438901431837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056238801110266884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07943261271333728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11190159502112318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06319253277684853,0.0,0.0,0.1178404154041158,0.06565769390304721,0.06233997523001587,0.0,0.0,0.11264305388656752,0.0,0.0,0.06292624124912928,0.0,0.05005344337232552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04670535025794171,0.0,0.0,0.06621370685018056,0.12032662543592315,0.0,0.19764353914360067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057967742492771514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20141598516211395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06651102785580487,0.11048028067270524,0.0,0.044068151021532366,0.0,0.051228566288482734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13959167653068286,0.06835304938381821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12203216198192715,0.07050177362309372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10371079612313376,0.0,0.18805672120484584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052887279039365166,0.06543704866000857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059522279415416775,0.0,0.08327109499067574,0.0,0.0,0.037743539452424237
divorce,Aesirian14,2020/01/21,She has decided I so lost. My wife has decided to go through with divorce and all though I’ll be civil and I want her to be happy and us to split fairly I’m so lost and nervous and confused. I’m going to lose my best friend and our cats that I care so much for. Our house and our things. I’m such an idiot and all she did was love me and I took all of it for granted,-0.8951190476190476,0.8386282976190493,1.6761904761904771,99.66880952380954,87.45238095238096,4.685714285714286,17.666666666666668,5.82211442006289,-0.6147047619047612,283,7,73,2,9,97,51,84,0.16399999999999998,0.621,0.215,0.7314,0,0,0,0,1,0,4.0,4,0,0,4,5,11,1,2,1,0,6,1,0,0,3,17,17,13,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,10,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,5,0,14,5,9,10,5,3,0,3,0,1,11,0,0,1,0,52,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24529719494480595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23831495122569474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18058803785126645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656812660866633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488220832817198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697062108483838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614968552879253,0.5103127332414484,0.0,0.21096075342904155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17182683507833704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15528741031848892,0.0,0.2296497540307609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25969531316396044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811621431132421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378667429363755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Goldlnk,2020/01/21,Rejection How do you fall out of love with someone who doesn’t love you back? You don’t want the divorce but they do. How do I live in the same house while going through this? Ugh!,-0.7867543859649118,1.3448620789473722,0.2326315789473697,104.67508771929823,99.26315789473685,3.5859649122807014,16.859649122807017,5.46131890053228,-0.8673824561403509,141,4,34,1,6,43,29,38,0.16699999999999998,0.688,0.146,-0.4455,0,0,0,0,1,0,4.0,0,3,1,0,3,4,0,0,2,0,5,2,0,2,0,7,9,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,5,2,5,9,1,6,0,1,0,2,8,2,0,0,2,25,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836368425957042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096362732583021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4256243260932823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3257173391564735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6658358235646464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3125407910100022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21756799507282185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ptochoi,2020/01/21,"Dating Yourself - A Question One of the things I've heard the most after divorcing is that you have to learn to enjoy your singleness, and be fully content with yourself before going back into the dating world. In other words, you should date yourself before you date others. 

I have a hard time wrapping my head around this concept. I don't know many people that are completely happy by themselves, i.e., without a romantic relationship. Every person has biological (aka sex) and emotional needs, and some of them (correct me if I'm wrong) are only fulfilled in a relationship. 

The individuals I met who seem single and happy about that are usually actually going on multiple dates, without really making deep emotional connections. So, is being completely happy while single a paradox? What do you think are the necessary steps before going back to dating after a divorce?",9.99789735099338,10.083942456953645,9.979197019867552,57.13515314569537,58.20529801324503,12.053311258278143,38.742549668874176,11.45678717892309,5.022224503311259,705,30,93,17,8,233,102,151,0.033,0.8290000000000001,0.138,0.9551,0,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,0,5,1,0,5,5,0,0,11,0,14,2,1,1,1,22,25,7,0,3,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,9,7,0,0,5,0,0,4,3,1,0,1,2,2,11,4,17,20,5,24,0,0,0,1,15,7,0,5,13,77,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.1318431163492546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202722083907352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077750086789984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3448935403871731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2833103136761672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30395017000853825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11383189786875532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303500742202397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4314657649431911,0.1210276578598872,0.0,0.13865683975811424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07425024536561788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09018372243859056,0.1369753947961198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001787409344496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915507316769862,0.10275353835868127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09366488483825924,0.1179685870321385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15134866427573215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865518049356898,0.0,0.0,0.29010469283345297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12299463486945805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08975784409946486,0.08656991109087975,0.0,0.0,0.07878088696421548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14879921162690024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604730454351715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14771624894861568,0.0,0.0
divorce,hvelezp,2020/01/21,"I broke silence after 6 months of no contact with my ex-husband. I told him the best way I can heal and move on from our divorce is if I didn't speak to him. This happened over the summer.

For the most part he respected my need for silence, except a couple occassions he text me something vague and I would go on to ignore.

A few days ago he text saying we need to talk. I believed myself to be ready, and I figured being in a New Year, perhaps he wanted to get closure or make peace. I broke silence after 6 months of no contact with my ex-husband. I said, ""What is it you need to say?"" His response: ""Nothing, nevermind. I'm sorry"". He had 6 months to reflect and formulate his piece and I got nothing.

Is this payback? I warned him before he left me, to expect silence. That was a condition I clearly spelled out for him. Can you blame me? I think its appropriate considering I didn't want the divorce. Considering the sacrifices I made...I left my job and family to move to another state to be with him. Only to be humiliated by his drunkenness and philandering with coworkers and old classmates.

I know alcohol is at play most the times, if not all, when he reaches out to me. How can I get him to stop? It doesn't matter if the communication lines are open or closed. We've been through this cycle many times before we divorced. This is the main reason I went no contact. He would call giving me high high hope, going as far as saying he was coming home...then the next day when he'd sober up, he said he regretted everything he said.

I think it's worth mentioning I have a child with him. He speaks to our son through my family members and arranges visits through them. 

What can I possibly do to alleviate the situation?Should I be the better person and reach out to him and ask for peace? Then what? What if it opens the door to more unwanted drunken texts and calls? I still love him, and I'm afraid to be vulnerable as I once was.

What if on the other hand, I block and delete his contact information? I might go recover it out of curiosity. A part of me is waiting for him to make amends, and this is why I haven't completely cut off all means of communication.

What's a gal like me to do?",2.334501361186732,4.4195737585421435,3.9876759819990006,85.54383854658595,77.92938496583145,7.10752819601089,25.28590477248736,8.096554002634818,1.5579968998277685,1716,64,351,31,41,573,214,439,0.085,0.807,0.10800000000000001,0.9367,1,0,3,0,3,0,61.0,4,2,1,2,4,13,1,1,20,0,34,4,1,4,3,72,65,29,0,16,9,1,1,1,0,3,2,8,1,2,19,30,1,4,8,1,1,8,8,6,0,0,13,9,62,7,59,42,11,50,1,3,0,1,63,20,0,11,21,235,81,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08516342772955646,0.10267343412430902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10074152048056244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08981582389866065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16350307280420134,0.108242019796363,0.1008232899779257,0.08496926999056018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19620372404188904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08275887815989366,0.10073131579495853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10630358368830772,0.0,0.12391901616191282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08634473459331661,0.0,0.18113923287176387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003889555765968,0.09216252771858988,0.1638024805280715,0.0,0.07683881463202231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495754532393299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20301401415738154,0.09636962935692657,0.09542273793849662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09533819906021022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05279952442766569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20876844127797925,0.0,0.0,0.046936696013479384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08671015264452503,0.09090713988290597,0.1282597150333218,0.09740352598047873,0.0,0.10465228840337776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019188809808955,0.0,0.0,0.23005503355684906,0.2042220123179712,0.0,0.2137120161578842,0.0,0.0927884576686819,0.10217533723122653,0.0,0.0,0.1843703731815808,0.0,0.1008130559316001,0.10231522216088486,0.0,0.07306828323439478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20807663943298185,0.0,0.0,0.08388774019573599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10830852079765448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09877963640953832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741639121291033,0.22920468949839795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07396213197351789,0.0,0.10754650185597392,0.0,0.0,0.0767244813143942,0.08032181081614795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07722030060015413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12312013550490752,0.0,0.0,0.11204254868702143,0.0,0.0,0.09180241831367268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11333336775020185,0.0762587321929638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08906116679580503,0.08669145839300307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13649582277338926,0.0,0.0,0.06186823257836827
divorce,heyabbyyoyo,2020/01/22,"Debating Divorce due to Potentially Being a Better Part Time Parent I'm genuinely conflicted on what would be the healthiest way to handle my situation.

I've been with my wife for almost 15 years and we have two toddlers. We are a same sex couple and she is the biological mother. I was always a fence sitter but I (wrongfully) chose to stay with my wife because I loved her and figured I would adapt to kids (most people in my life were always like 'wait until they are your own, you'll love them to pieces' or something along those lines...boy were they wrong).

The kids were born about 3 years ago and while I care for their well-being and love them (I think...childhood issues have made this unclear) I feel that I'm a terrible parent. Worst of all is that I don't want to be a parent. They had severe colic the first year too which didn't help. I cannot handle their tantrums, I feel utterly trapped and to top it off I know feel that my wife and I are simply best friend roommates (a whole other topic). Being a parent elevates my anxiety (I'm medicated) and usually sends me into a dark place when it happens - the constant up and down plus inability to control the anxiety is hell. I often just want to be alone but am forced to engage.

I've been toying with the idea of divorce. I truly believe I would make a better part-time parent (I have friends who are and they say it's how they stay sane). I'm an extreme introvert (INTJ) that needs time and space to recharge, when I don't get it I'm out of gas and become a lousy parent/spouse. I love my wife but we are no longer a great partnership and there is minimal connection. We go out on date nights occasionally and usually sit mostly in silence or struggling to even make small talk.

I've been in therapy for months and while it's nice to get my thoughts out, it really hasn't helped. I often think my wife would be better off with someone that could be more present and willingly involved that actually likes kids and I could be a much better parent if given the opportunity to recharge (50/50 custody). I would miss my wife dearly but trying to look at the big picture as well.

Everyone keeps telling me it'll get better but how long do you let your mental health deteriorate before deciding it's best for everyone to move on?

TL;DR: Married with kids debating divorce because I feel that I could be a better parent",4.428931855397405,5.753354271948607,5.306379266910192,81.48254156694799,70.5203426124197,8.235017004660538,27.01152538103036,8.671277953709913,1.9205989923164128,1883,62,364,32,34,615,239,467,0.10800000000000001,0.691,0.201,0.9953,8,2,1,0,3,0,52.0,4,4,9,12,12,31,2,1,23,0,48,8,0,6,1,80,81,34,0,12,9,14,4,2,2,8,3,1,0,4,21,32,0,5,10,1,0,3,6,8,1,2,12,6,54,23,48,48,13,49,1,1,1,5,54,20,1,9,24,246,75,1,0.0,0.0,0.06292807239342732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05716207483870767,0.0,0.06457242750557762,0.06678702769518233,0.0,0.0,0.1073133962415224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09866171967488846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07861893301741256,0.07121863254327661,0.054871998069828634,0.07265252939255787,0.13534608929797076,0.3421905317583948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06574677031445893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06968539230399949,0.07232542739770836,0.15445811143169252,0.07135144237865115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04259174411887899,0.0,0.0,0.12323639021869218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13042224421254314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05485092066747793,0.0,0.0,0.0996419249827234,0.0,0.10107227617479224,0.0,0.036648319982475266,0.0,0.0,0.07109495649603849,0.0,0.0,0.05702388564421454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06854455530313425,0.0,0.0,0.08644589230208699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07279573259380384,0.0,0.06730560174388595,0.0,0.05731724408341333,0.0,0.0,0.035439277718679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0659402966514064,0.04554767301894973,0.06300824195860848,0.0,0.0,0.057067208894547534,0.054151171486534436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23280097416848866,0.06101728020930847,0.0860884962593114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06496186826797982,0.06498572790567582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05147132360993528,0.06853736552797242,0.047403905636860484,0.047814821405661394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060514818078026174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5728238214042811,0.1396619740720815,0.0,0.044705789858685584,0.0,0.06737311555576025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04131075172970667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051281072027365565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728497118218908,0.0,0.0,0.07248385847887143,0.0,0.0,0.0546379437989598,0.04964371486462975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13746489159721928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06741373869229042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05183061226693185,0.056362745248636076,0.0,0.07374423437650746,0.0,0.0,0.08263878741744025,0.0,0.05119389872454638,0.07520346143775891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0437810921582466,0.0,0.06299248944434357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14204226690968125,0.0,0.07606986498514856,0.0511852032372613,0.0,0.0,0.11595954533223007,0.0,0.0,0.0719952161588378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22904152182908186,0.1410084813665977,0.0,0.12457870596802754
divorce,PerspectiveShift0603,2020/01/22,"Did anyone else feel normal? The longer I'm actually alone, the more I realize how alone I was in my marriage. Like my day to day has barely changed now that hes gone. Is that weird that it all feels so normal? The only difference is theres no one sitting in the same house as me. It's basically the same....never thought feeling normal would feel so weird.m",2.160357142857144,4.352071305555562,3.4992063492063497,88.29500000000002,79.0,6.336507936507938,24.174603174603178,7.447530270364453,1.0869936507936508,282,10,58,4,7,92,52,72,0.11599999999999999,0.828,0.055999999999999994,-0.504,0,2,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,1,1,13,14,4,0,4,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,6,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,4,4,6,1,4,9,3,7,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,4,36,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.1849919829626813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39267259331483184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13255104147844135,0.1942358265791308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005388493747309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2445126243669477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19805924082835466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15836056137105126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38340709736790624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2187371557929545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926138301999923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5572120657438746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12845684980432265,0.1441757548194654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15049659842486582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13466436740362514,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,one1morethrow,2020/01/22,"I think I need to start the process I posted earlier today in r/relationship_advice and this has been on my mind before then, so I just need help from people who have gone through this.

I just need to know if I can separate without asking for alimony or keeping anything. 

I just need my car and my belongings, I just need time to get out of the house. My husband can keep everything, I really just want to be away from him and back home with my family. I’m so hurt, devastated, and scared. Right now it feels like I’ll die without him, but I think it’s best for me to get away.",3.946779661016951,4.666268550847459,5.0625,85.03832627118646,71.11864406779661,8.950847457627118,26.614406779661017,9.188382445141503,1.862386440677965,451,14,99,9,8,149,76,118,0.083,0.8240000000000001,0.09300000000000001,0.2729,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,9,4,0,1,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,29,24,10,1,7,10,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,6,0,2,4,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,2,1,18,2,19,21,1,15,0,1,0,0,6,6,0,2,7,68,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12197687438091563,0.0,0.13857073981857168,0.0,0.27852528471489624,0.11397618300847626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12612889788024215,0.0,0.1555534122689475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15383456317954008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13321543167642785,0.0,0.13973371517211658,0.0,0.07494721579421079,0.10589225520624586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15488330719493842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09935236100261068,0.0,0.14868216152087205,0.0,0.0,0.17103221020132042,0.1586783561150146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26349909170698915,0.0,0.0,0.08146080327967116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07241544316918783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14966539944712798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5495362788285939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027608288760703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14195895968632255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949569866153132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12658368150625118,0.0,0.0,0.14839948329103173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491470086293228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899537021753273,0.0,0.0,0.08643142259785261,0.0,0.140500347432551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742718116684735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2857679918681678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,TheShmeepKing,2020/01/22,How do you guys feel society views you? I know a number of divorcees irl but I'd rather ask a wider range of people. Also you don't have to but if you could specify your age and gender that would be a big help. Thanks!,-1.0366869300911823,1.0601260000000041,1.0881458966565385,99.22000000000004,97.51063829787232,4.387841945288755,13.097264437689967,6.1826913282559595,-0.8840735562310029,170,3,40,2,7,56,38,47,0.0,0.8109999999999999,0.18899999999999997,0.8335,0,0,0,0,1,0,4.0,0,5,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,1,0,10,10,6,0,4,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,6,1,3,7,0,2,0,0,1,0,8,1,0,1,1,26,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3272617188540404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3825755511623885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3267374903382877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20691938592590106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4052028261540482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27429877562625365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249025425833389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28370910624161594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37676473407973227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29070581531275025,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,SummerMist19,2020/01/22,"Live in separation, f*ck the next year of my life Hello,

26F recently found out my Husband (32M) has been cheating on me. No kids, we own a house together that we bought 5 years ago. 2.5 years married. Due to financial restrictions we are looking at a live in separation. I'm wondering if anyone has been through this before and can offer some advice for what exactly we need to do to ""prepare"" for this time. He works out of town, 2 weeks on, 1 week home, I'm hoping this will make things a little easier for me to not live with him full time. We have a lot of debt, so we need to continue to work together financially to get out of that.",4.742267441860463,4.97212511627907,6.066191860465118,80.29138081395351,69.15503875968993,10.170930232558144,29.30329457364341,10.125756701596842,2.668696899224807,496,17,105,12,8,168,90,129,0.065,0.893,0.042,-0.4576,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,6,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,5,0,9,1,0,1,1,23,20,3,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,7,11,0,1,2,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,4,1,11,1,24,15,4,23,0,0,1,0,12,11,0,5,12,65,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679425218342444,0.15234616836105627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12017059652768305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14624274363450768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18843889449298407,0.0,0.0,0.08979131732713824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17239258881788308,0.17069872464052907,0.0,0.1983068122379356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139191031429213,0.0,0.17225186300614248,0.4552744986050426,0.0,0.14432162428522716,0.0,0.0,0.14611176567344286,0.0,0.0,0.11471987836409095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548684543930531,0.0,0.0,0.1827782364233545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696939659626237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11417813191649152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004293796167956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27571624312037724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863780782231972,0.2502366028365011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33202238664639644
divorce,Fuyuki11,2020/01/22,"I don’t think he’s a bad father but Sorry, bit of a long rant but I need to vent to people who’ll understand. DH (4 yrs old) splits her time with me (42f) & her BD (37m) 50/50, one week ( Monday to Sunday) with me then his turn and so on.
Last wk was my turn, I noticed patches of circular rashes and yup, ringworm. Ex noticed at weekend but did nothing and said nothing. So I took her to doctors and got cream prescribed. Passed the cream to ex with her stuff. Tonight he noticed more patches on back of her leg - it spread, not unexpected. Why he didn’t apply cream there as soon as he saw it, I don’t know. Instead he text me to say “what do you think they are”.
And she also has little red spots on her torso. I asked him to call NHS 111 (for those outside UK it’s non-emergency medical helpline) to get medical advise but he refuses, saying he’ll call dr in morning to get her seen again.
BUT then there was 10 minutes moaning about how difficult it will be for him to get time out during the day to take her cos he’s on call on Thursdays. On and on about it. He’s basically sulking cos he has to disrupt his day. So I asked if he was fishing for me to offer to take her and it’s all “nope”. I did offer anyway. Still “nope I’ll do it. But it’ll be so hard”. (Btw he’s always been very passive-aggressive) 
I told him it’s hard for me too, it’s hard for all working parents right! I was SO tempted to say how most parents would put their child’s welfare ahead of work but I didn’t say it, it’ll just cause more aggro. I think he does care but he just would not stop saying how hard it is and I couldn’t hide my frustration in my voice. I tried to end the call positively, told him to put cream on her legs and call dr first thing, but his response was just “uhh”, no more full sentences.
DH had head lice recently too so it does feel like one thing after another but that’s just kids right? Or she’s been unlucky. 
I just wish she was with me right now so I can take some action instead of just crying my eyes out cos I’m afraid he doesn’t care enough.

He’s always shown slight lack of empathy when it comes to our DH. Like when she couldn’t walk fast enough for him (she was 2 yrs old!) he sulked and got bad tempered and took it out on me. When DH got distracted (as 18 month old would) he got right royally pissed off cos he had to wait for her to finish playing.  I mean if he’s not cut out of fatherhood why insist on 50/50 custody?!

TL:dr DH needs medical attention for something minor, but I’m frustrated by sulky response from ex",0.6922235413839886,2.6970450914179125,2.344309362279514,95.61276662143827,83.16044776119405,5.465345997286296,20.56635006784261,6.6590880762095805,0.14628701492537344,1963,58,454,21,55,642,246,536,0.11,0.8320000000000001,0.057999999999999996,-0.9787,2,0,1,0,0,0,68.0,1,1,2,4,34,15,5,2,5,1,36,12,6,8,2,75,74,44,0,11,23,6,5,2,0,8,6,7,0,2,23,20,0,3,8,2,0,8,13,10,0,3,26,20,56,5,66,36,12,66,0,0,8,0,76,24,1,5,36,262,79,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05486025699784487,0.11416318421602314,0.07432923895361512,0.0,0.0,0.07193421133585116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282654942432883,0.0,0.0,0.05274999420760245,0.11455806870846548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07489460925138626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35024685161550256,0.0,0.1398867413370321,0.07047220376513902,0.0,0.059093754025882364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07535506252088987,0.08848403969485161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07021610983344635,0.12006653066145655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060760192903812335,0.1417665028367315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034686766082757274,0.04900862356782048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05835204158935041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10752369497379614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21946619444175086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458123637355063,0.0,0.07040449706234847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03770135819366517,0.05591903433437215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06703004271395087,0.0687563019375327,0.0,0.060709794954767166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07472668463686258,0.0,0.20732510554609207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05475672567382555,0.0,0.0,0.10173365964684017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13164916833940893,0.23430834470853806,0.21595587309591752,0.0,0.09297173122728744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523467566414604,0.0,0.0,0.047559349549177385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13792606153094342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06773528806644889,0.0,0.0,0.2343397818730309,0.06525533431724033,0.27277165189512753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052812461106934515,0.0,0.07679328995666501,0.0,0.0,0.054784909212960316,0.05735357265370891,0.0,0.0,0.07853182122521728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547384186106278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09115101544572303,0.13187040167044342,0.0,0.0,0.08000368008555786,0.0,0.0,0.13110253902495148,0.15243664282146668,0.046575628619483216,0.14923654633769626,0.0,0.07141614116240406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05660307353288638,0.0,0.0,0.05502764652359905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12380360469660867,0.0,0.07888785371098833,0.0,0.0,0.0998848031027414,0.0,0.0,0.1461967118672237,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,startagainaroo,2020/01/22,"Please give me a reason to keep fighting. So I've been in this boat for a few months.  I was not perfect, but I made it work.  I'm fine with the end of vow.  

I feel I've reached the end of the reason of fighting.  I thought I was a great parent, I did all I could do to provide for my family.  

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All of the hard work to climb up some imaginary ladder to find a ""better"" life.  It can all just disappear.  I'm good with the parting of ways.  But when your partner decides to destroy your relationship with your kids.    

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Those eyes, the eyes I miss so much.  One of the main reasons to continue - it broke me. 

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I understand I have to take it one day at a time.  But there is only so much hurt one can take.",0.997,2.9959166999999987,2.5486666666666657,94.601,82.0,5.6000000000000005,22.666666666666664,6.742157984588678,0.4670666666666663,555,19,126,6,15,181,86,150,0.166,0.7390000000000001,0.094,-0.8851,1,0,0,0,4,0,32.0,0,3,0,5,6,11,3,0,12,0,10,3,2,4,4,24,21,7,0,1,5,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,6,3,0,1,8,0,0,2,1,6,0,3,6,4,16,5,21,14,9,13,0,3,2,0,10,3,0,1,7,87,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3635981215934717,0.4077634387590792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989303538100234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931045247946426,0.0,0.0,0.07213991666663737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19814806231026408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10545087888168687,0.0,0.05655936196572293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10223726323454768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10730551735043896,0.0,0.09382217234026684,0.0,0.12332513990002465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002038531279916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11974756479650625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09942557803892436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07900944629589231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584385994456966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08928492959115056,0.0,0.164458734700798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273960241717953,0.08507394630403156,0.0,0.0,0.1242063807941954,0.12113259041176007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12278778801523894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3450295988293215,0.0,0.1200948962677527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16820836333413833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08880369344602063,0.06522598690453177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11644935041112064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08878860978553632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16286962930139606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4077634387590792,0.0
divorce,manontheverge123,2020/01/22,"Question about spousal support, child custody. I am getting a divorce from my stbx wife of 11 years. We have 2 children together, ages 5 and 8.  

We have been separated since September of 2019. I have been depositing $3000/month into her account for rent ($2300/month) on the house she lives in with the kids and other expenses. 

She recently retained a lawyer (her dad paid for it), and although I don’t want things to get contentious, I don’t think I can continue $3000/month. I think that is what she expects. She also mentioned EOW for my kids but I need custody as 50/50 on paper. Finances have been tough. We sold our house in September, which was nearly in foreclosure. I live with a friend who is nice enough to let me stay there rent free. Otherwise, I would have to pay my own rent and not be able to pay hers. 

Stbxw works as a teacher’s aide. She is going back to school to get her teaching certificate. At this point I think she has been pocketing her salary (which is only $17,000/year) while I continue to pay. 

I have no problem with child support but I feel like I should be done supporting her at some point. Is $3000/month for spousal support and child support an unreasonable amount? I think I might need to get my own attorney.",3.548606557377049,5.341608614754102,3.9179999999999993,88.70200000000001,73.50819672131148,7.50295081967213,27.77377049180328,8.238735603445708,1.759880983606557,978,38,201,16,20,305,140,244,0.068,0.79,0.142,0.9682,4,0,0,0,1,0,42.0,4,0,0,1,4,11,0,0,7,0,28,0,0,0,0,31,48,12,0,7,3,2,1,1,1,3,0,0,3,6,9,12,0,1,6,0,13,1,4,2,0,0,8,1,37,10,30,34,5,20,0,0,0,0,29,11,0,3,8,129,46,10,0.10781108853888986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08621648855347676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08290007230506381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11032817478572653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139767418123513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054512525726021485,0.07702026319385698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08329457956817805,0.0,0.22530737609194934,0.0,0.061271526124161466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24879904236010245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11024414245574153,0.0,0.05267105211167193,0.0,0.1903983327410908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11437052769471442,0.0,0.0,0.34421512917584074,0.0,0.0,0.15988111216448847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08199519098753708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20383265258533856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10316065152617304,0.0,0.0,0.12077309289027345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064504435055209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10911057736067314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891824465284181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11491227566068045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6117137282736549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07162489669090216,0.2763239692590529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06358977330922334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07848775648017914,0.0,0.0,0.07658590404678314,0.0,0.0,0.13885361258732162
divorce,lettersfromscarlette,2020/01/22,"26/F married 5 years. Honestly, I don’t even know where to start. I have known him since I was 8 and have been with him since I was 17. He’s all I know. Yesterday I found some things that disrespected me and our relationship. We’ve had issues in the past with infidelity and so anything that could look like this etc is incredibly upsetting to me. I confronted him about it and broke down and said that I wasn’t sure if I could do this anymore. I feel like a roommate and a maid and that he’s not interested in me anymore. 

Lots of stuff to figure out and to decide if I want to keep going through this every 5 years. We have a house and dogs. No kids. All of our money is intertwined and we have some debt.",2.381530612244898,3.863348326530613,3.877295918367349,89.08288265306123,75.93877551020408,7.621088435374148,23.1343537414966,8.344100000000001,1.0983700680272117,552,16,126,10,12,183,87,147,0.127,0.7909999999999999,0.08199999999999999,-0.7469,1,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,4,0,0,0,4,8,1,1,4,0,15,0,0,0,3,35,25,13,0,5,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,10,15,0,1,7,0,2,1,4,3,0,0,7,3,21,5,15,16,6,11,0,1,1,0,12,5,0,5,7,88,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36519927510979205,0.0,0.0,0.15151679131712714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29401301239199645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053448001026219,0.1216109035195474,0.0,0.15513080139880714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930976606256427,0.13153685742168045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018803674577265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10464082647338194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21245217040612255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19217562486183126,0.0,0.1636561729141462,0.0,0.0,0.20237737019735613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17990550498184932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15461618272167468,0.0,0.0,0.15653401609798825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17576536813419144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19767821819459055,0.0,0.0,0.17514227050699965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3046153899526223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13032256251382396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21077574148295336,0.0,0.0,0.17353289021788532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12232253478751055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10859997873805532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23713717772442666
divorce,mamaof3monkeys,2020/01/22,Have you ever played nice to get what you want? I have decided being a bitch isnt getting me anywhere. So I am now going to play nice so that way I can get the outcome I want and I can show the judge we were talking out things such as Bill's and kids. I have all messages with him thru text i have saved. My outcome goal is still the same and my kids are very against having to see him but for now I got him to agree on helping me with rent and some bills and to do the legal separation part. And I told him I will have the divorce papers drawn up so if he messes this up or takes advantage of my kindness then I will sign them.,5.219506302521012,3.817844375000004,5.782731092436976,88.20764705882355,68.48529411764707,8.653781512605041,28.987394957983195,6.868970318607317,1.226913025210084,489,13,117,3,7,159,89,136,0.018000000000000002,0.795,0.187,0.9538,1,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,1,2,1,2,8,9,1,0,6,0,17,0,0,0,2,22,27,14,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,4,10,0,0,1,3,3,1,1,2,0,0,3,1,24,7,16,21,4,11,0,0,1,0,16,4,1,3,5,89,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24632736520314835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4268249954699533,0.0,0.15476468525800033,0.0,0.21779770838240992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825291216674739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2835774570116604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29489402884105703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21700231546534565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21747363343812015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20474936505423166,0.21887902086799485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809160844229905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2602116707348152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22469100052920826,0.32124061123878944,0.2161534791409144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,unicorns_fly_high,2020/01/22,28F anyone in a broken marriage or just got through a divorce and wants to talk? I’m just feeling lonely and need someone to talk to.,3.81111111111111,5.091405111111111,4.534259259259262,86.5991666666667,71.96296296296295,5.4,32.01851851851852,3.1291,1.3618296296296286,106,5,20,0,2,34,21,27,0.19899999999999998,0.747,0.053,-0.6249,0,2,0,0,1,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,5,3,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,12,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29589916134659705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21397387244208954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3384578385225552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3137845866115627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35856130179401746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.680276398233195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496041022035065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,manchichi70,2020/01/22,How to let go Those of you who have been able to let go of the hurt and pain? I know things take time and filling that time alone with hobbies and self care are beneficial but I find it hard to let go of the hurt my stbxw has caused. When I talk to her we end up arguing and I cant even be in the same room as her. Thank you in advance for the advice.,0.31032549728752196,1.6732315696202562,1.9557323688969284,101.1420253164557,81.40506329113923,5.5269439421338165,17.614828209764926,6.1826913282559595,-0.6989146473779386,270,5,73,2,7,88,56,79,0.182,0.736,0.083,-0.8294,0,1,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,2,0,1,3,6,1,0,4,0,9,1,0,2,0,12,16,8,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,5,6,0,0,2,0,0,5,1,4,0,0,1,1,10,2,13,11,1,13,0,2,0,0,9,4,0,0,4,50,15,0,0.1788405454481571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17476091118924894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18522486959779552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823398551819416,0.18371850407077844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15839964058087674,0.0,0.0,0.11812249358315302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16345701856995618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049176100805246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602060008584868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3829050055407845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828608669398667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5486297236152228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19029894955283005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18656969257610745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13446583319651706,0.14374525607176966,0.0,0.16465234626360645,0.0,0.0,0.11881371170135435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085667204967792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,helpfulmango187,2020/01/22,"8 years wasted Made a new account for this. So, hello Everyone. For the last 6+ months my wife had been very distant. Moving away from hugs and dodging kisses, very little other things. I knew she was dealing with stuff, school, life, etc and brushed it off. 

I texted her last week saying I was worried that I was losing her. She said everything was fine. 3 days ago she told me she didn’t love me anymore. Been together 8 years, married for two. 2 wonderful kids. 

We live together. I have nowhere to go, but she doesn’t want me to move out until we can figure things out. I think that’s best for the kids for now. 

I’m so lost. I’m 29, almost 30. I have no clue how to deal with this. 

Thanks for listening.",0.8633333333333333,3.1244908888888894,2.1783333333333346,95.47500000000002,84.55555555555556,5.266666666666668,19.416666666666664,6.6274283507984215,0.06209166666666688,544,15,120,6,16,174,100,144,0.08900000000000001,0.759,0.152,0.8839,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,0,0,3,4,8,0,0,3,0,12,4,0,2,0,17,26,7,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,2,9,8,0,0,4,0,1,3,3,2,0,1,13,4,20,6,17,13,2,19,0,2,0,3,20,5,0,2,11,72,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13327710577636812,0.0,0.15055482634563336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14910780931068254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14125973064339545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15778411744746973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09696396836656976,0.3100105952889914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16768112854242087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14366684082951092,0.13512580026921636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08544794835758919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451122934706008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061973704058646,0.0,0.15069121864383295,0.13276270343310684,0.0,0.0,0.16820433081665642,0.16412589686324286,0.0,0.13569766382100007,0.1422657685465175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12000874811783,0.3195986759010968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452099500598551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14301824813396222,0.1195651641442634,0.0,0.1521632570517132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17211594441916378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13842301705801496,0.0,0.0,0.19977307113780104,0.09633886141241743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14366684082951092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14687109770734724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481106717288704,0.08868092586410475,0.0,0.12060251758852494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16304926545234344,0.0,0.15268875696896753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936422522524288
divorce,throwRA_pieceos,2020/01/22,"Thinking about making the tough decision. She deserves better. But how?? If you look at my (1) post history, you will see what I am referring to. 

The TL;DR version - I have never truly loved my wife for more than the person she is, I have sought out extramarital sexual partners (most virtual, 1 physical) the whole time, I am no longer attracted to her. 

I still care about her and love her for who she is. She is honestly incredible and does SO much for our family. Our son (6 months!) is the best thing to ever happen in my life. 

I am frightened. 

Our marriage is fine. We don't have big fights, we spend a lot of time together, her family is great etc. I am living a lie though and I feel like an awful person. She deserves better than me and I selfishly believe that I only have one life to live, so I should be happy as well. 

But our son :(

How do I approach telling her? DO I tell her??? Or do I remain quietly unhappy, convincing everyone around us that I'm fine.

She will be totally blindsided and I am awful at confrontation and hurting people. It will tear our family up.",1.5156437598736154,3.990956478672989,3.7771386255924178,83.64131615323856,83.739336492891,7.687282780410744,22.535742496050553,8.59863814320734,1.8844927330173773,831,29,162,22,24,285,127,211,0.129,0.682,0.18899999999999997,0.9470000000000001,0,0,0,0,1,0,40.0,8,2,0,3,11,20,2,0,8,2,25,4,0,3,3,27,35,16,0,2,4,3,1,1,1,4,2,1,0,3,6,10,0,0,4,0,1,1,3,5,1,1,0,4,41,15,19,29,9,15,0,1,2,2,35,7,0,4,7,128,47,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224376728073335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15495783887869705,0.1443372837370549,0.2432817582969777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14022880588416553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12036012891847535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15339084198911615,0.0,0.12441068331091837,0.0,0.13142312359366026,0.0,0.0,0.3889747823640025,0.0,0.0695431710150326,0.0982569283586951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516357504124227,0.0,0.0,0.12162409427136316,0.1464113914664199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723690451677976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19429382668383646,0.06719395103711381,0.0,0.2428965387026679,0.0,0.11549699062731655,0.0,0.0,0.11692959606091187,0.24826620729945045,0.0,0.09180745284572417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10978124419765392,0.0,0.10110600185999892,0.0,0.10607751862042074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09319907466837776,0.10460358446636073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09535129251228387,0.2401851508980366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13172305476549298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10959970413693228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10983774911013787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404279457307881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09137390669703947,0.08812857592728444,0.13513004792060987,0.0,0.1603986255953569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16544086464497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12366286963629995,0.0,0.0,0.15355588028186307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Dudaday87,2020/01/22,"Friends into enemies I cant stand my husband!  And I am VERY sure he doesn't love me. We started off the best of friends,..... isn't that an awful game the world plays on us? 

It's also ironic that you work so hard for everything in your adult life, house, car, etc and now I am at the point where, f\*\*k it! Give it all up, who cares? Split the debt and cause more financial issues BECAUSE I  just don't want to even breathe the same air as his miserable ass.  We work so hard to have it crumble harder.....",1.7838354700854708,3.4055144134615385,2.75897435897436,95.86380341880344,77.94230769230771,6.160683760683763,22.132478632478627,6.937597516519254,0.3433388888888884,385,11,90,4,9,122,82,104,0.191,0.66,0.149,-0.4697,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,3,2,0,3,7,8,0,1,6,1,7,4,2,1,2,12,12,7,0,1,1,1,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,7,6,0,0,0,2,1,1,4,1,0,0,0,2,12,7,11,12,5,14,0,1,0,2,15,10,1,0,2,58,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16383449314131635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12488687193015292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2149984624779764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20887865477045986,0.21045796021091706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.228484244209147,0.13531472608202902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841239775521749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3165641620049762,0.0,0.0,0.19653000573497426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3670466219476299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23639251425688296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138310898548798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14470576459678505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18490320543879427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19366840312253875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14500806538314767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19308758364978024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464334273775999,0.0,0.0,0.16903923477546598,0.12083765476746143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29829565124896673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,silverwitch76,2020/01/22,"Numb last night, heartbroken this morning We talked last night and he said he wants out. He packed some bags and left early This morning. Just now, I go on FB to message a friend and see he has removed me from his friends and apparently blocked me. I don't use FB like at all except for messaging my one friend...but for some reason, him removing me really hurt. It's all crashing in on me now and I'm barely holding on.",2.1129705882352923,4.172992929411766,3.26904411764706,90.54944852941178,78.52941176470588,6.602941176470589,24.742647058823533,7.645422480735847,1.1778529411764698,329,12,70,5,8,106,61,85,0.159,0.773,0.069,-0.8076,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,2,2,18,8,5,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,3,7,0,2,1,0,0,3,1,2,0,1,1,2,10,3,11,7,4,17,0,1,1,0,13,7,0,2,8,40,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5229075146798648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12821699247949633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24151570748645326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3677977258977784,0.0,0.0,0.24512139479512546,0.0,0.0,0.11021961292108788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4234315776613297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15287634937374553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14452887189325372,0.2319603682035572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21460280788350036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17977863750810186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813334206428756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19485100149103016,0.0,0.0,0.13306816398925056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,tuftdtitsnswallows,2020/01/22,"25F, married for 3months and now separated. My husband  and I literally just got married in October. We dated a year before getting engaged and then married a year later. About two weeks ago, he found an old phone from back before I ever met him. He charged it, unlocked it, read all the messages in it, and found that I had had a relationship with a married man. I was 20. I ended it before ever meeting my husband, but never told him about it. It was a confusing time, I was ashamed of it, and hated myself for it, and knew my husband would view me differently. While with my husband, I still had a friendship with the guy, absolutely 0% sexual or romantic, but still spoke with him and we went out on double dates. 

When my husband found the phone, he left. He’s been staying at his parents ever since. Four days later he told me he could never get past this, that our entire foundation was built on lies, he never had a deep connection with me, and I manipulated him into marriage. 10 days later he said he can’t deal with the daily deceit and this dysfunction, and that I have a different view on marriage. 11 days later he moved everything of his out while I wasn’t home. Mind you, everything has seemed great before this, and I felt that he truly loved and cared about me and felt like we had a long future together. 

It’s been 15 days. I can’t process how fast this is moving, or the fact that he walked away so quickly. Even his brother can’t understand his head. I’ve heard mention of an annulment for fraud because I hid this information, and he would not have married “someone with this past” I’m truly devastated and can’t seem to process the feeling that none of this mattered to him. He agreed to continue marriage counseling, but has also stated multiple times that he’s done. I don’t know what to do now. He told me he’d keep me in the loop as to what’s going on, but I feel like he won’t. Do I wait for him to file papers? Do I speak with an attorney? What do I do? I believed this was something we could come back from, as it happened in the past, before ever knowing my husband. I have been 100% faithful to him during our relationship, and have never lied or hidden anything else. I just can’t understand how quickly he’s walking away. 

We don’t have any kids, the house was mine from before dating, we don’t have any shared accounts/bills, and each vehicle is in our own name.",4.4030207134637545,5.423035845991564,5.346839278864596,82.31160529344073,70.28691983122363,8.108323743766782,29.131568853087842,8.391295532112219,2.032507172995781,1877,70,370,28,33,616,215,474,0.083,0.81,0.107,0.9004,3,0,1,0,0,0,61.0,9,1,0,0,23,11,1,2,21,0,45,2,1,3,10,84,79,34,0,4,10,8,4,2,0,3,0,4,1,3,28,36,0,2,15,1,0,7,16,3,0,2,31,10,57,8,46,42,5,72,1,0,2,1,74,17,0,6,48,255,85,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06888820560430027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06214734674502812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10569550082108918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06395147452678276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14602852172523342,0.11951355535745588,0.0,0.04737334357942869,0.0,0.39677007830304817,0.087556345646815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07923395090225438,0.0,0.0,0.06694317932298757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12409559039021192,0.0,0.0,0.20047475521424551,0.08011906284795048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16238784367794382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07952774984452919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06491954118656845,0.0,0.06883097133205852,0.0,0.0,0.05132894203343821,0.2811847369310396,0.0,0.0,0.13968751582902292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07858842073209688,0.05551844065341411,0.14923402735782942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556260675407589,0.0,0.0,0.08120404728333246,0.0,0.04416629398300582,0.0,0.062154474072729275,0.08567925489666514,0.0,0.07694844550484177,0.06872166851359117,0.0,0.0,0.07672585497819921,0.0797563287301948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07795283748127202,0.0,0.0,0.08967078464227651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06907520600382933,0.0,0.0,0.08541846169303435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08443579415401735,0.0,0.0,0.07593364549935662,0.0,0.0,0.06877387902177877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07013934246898837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07846834105942048,0.0,0.0,0.1651940081387987,0.0,0.0,0.23974933963699865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08154709961496358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08629149067647637,0.0,0.22255858968260256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07773439137718048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16687013268267595,0.0,0.0,0.07392320252775304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14149465035856212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06428529531835153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06584627861811257,0.059827542058359426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08283210277480704,0.12412398102278238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09063057155111004,0.0,0.0,0.2227753404142086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07591466154111984,0.1618046990988816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06233697062701137,0.0,0.0,0.07204106425907772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11041068395228557,0.0,0.0,0.10008971315169723
divorce,davetheflashguy,2020/01/22,"Freshly Divorced - Dating advice (how to get started) Hi all,

Hugs to everyone on this sub, it's really helped me get through my divorce.  

I am 38(M), divorced a few weeks ago and have two daughters (8/5).  My ex and I have been separated for about 6 months and the divorce was finalized a few weeks ago.

It's not that I am in a rush to start saying, trust me.  However I am pretty lonely, and would love to get out there once in a while and get out of this rut that I am in.

I am a software developer, so I work a lot!  Plus I am primary caretaker for my daughter's Monday through Friday.  As you can imagine I don't have much of a social life.  My friends are all married with kids so I don't have a ""going our crew"".

I don't want to do dating sites because I am a little insecure and frankly I am old school.  I missed the entire dating site thing as I've been married for the last 11 years.

Any suggestions on how to just meet someone to go out for a drink, dinner, or just to have some fun.  I'm super active, so I'm up for pretty much anything outdoors etc.

Thanks in advance!",2.568413865546219,3.688182017857145,4.298823529411767,87.71088235294118,74.80357142857143,7.056302521008402,26.569327731092443,7.510576382923642,1.3013201680672264,828,30,180,10,17,280,127,224,0.039,0.807,0.154,0.9802,1,2,1,0,4,0,33.0,1,1,0,3,9,10,0,1,13,0,23,5,0,2,2,24,37,16,0,2,4,3,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,7,11,2,0,1,1,0,4,4,3,0,1,3,1,22,7,32,33,9,33,0,2,0,2,18,13,0,3,16,124,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15086824765167425,0.27371506877530866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10499058228727896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12704992164353926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941147899136903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15124354992218506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.172185805521327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14752638493052256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16912684027958935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11928143102969492,0.0,0.3226498816744222,0.0,0.17548693697363912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10348444936425794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12584856167561542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109050314287183,0.0,0.15473946944849318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131256967012803,0.13934311961927232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12323272835706707,0.0,0.2269890189994519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16200646963972706,0.16442044911261955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3141405318026604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989062703091342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12277722770252802,0.0,0.15625105349627744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15738129416404115,0.13081425566577493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21855625652884264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14214168822699044,0.0,0.0,0.10256994175295467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15081672270677335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106329845832936,0.0,0.24768489834712284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11239785301518826,0.0,0.0,0.10967431829013337,0.0,0.0,0.09942218148482136
divorce,Obsidian_angelina,2020/01/22,"Week 1 of learning he wants a divorce. Any advice helps. Hello. 
I’m 28 and found out this week my husband wants a divorce.  We’ve been married nearly 4 years and the entire marriage has been me following him and adjusting my life to help him fulfill his dreams, and now that’s he’s crossed the struggle it feels like he wants the life he dreamt off and I don’t fit in. 

I can’t help but want to try therapy or some alternative... but I wonder if it’s too late. 

The whole situation sucks even more because it felt like we’d gotten better. There was never any cheating or infidelity, no physical abuse. It’s just been 2 people who have had trouble in the past compromising. I thought it was a learning curve and we’ve improved, but guess he doesn’t feel the same.",2.9867722473604843,4.820344117647064,4.03921568627451,87.06570135746607,75.14379084967321,6.7991955756661655,26.80191050779285,7.61054688173877,1.425495123177476,602,23,123,8,13,195,102,153,0.106,0.7120000000000001,0.182,0.8093,0,0,0,0,3,0,16.0,1,0,0,1,5,7,2,1,9,0,12,2,0,0,1,31,27,12,0,5,7,1,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,8,7,0,0,9,1,0,2,5,4,0,0,10,3,11,3,8,16,4,15,0,0,0,0,18,6,1,6,9,70,19,2,0.0,0.19570071953273846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614032666918681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246439952318245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10068675664053772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14608039680985746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090939398539998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16703092066427147,0.11799825177549472,0.1585901380369311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811015626702956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819545649706056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3321320776078178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18632017135541035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333304354454191,0.16138849208318398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12739011852882196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15767448431600115,0.11450882913731605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856592130908951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726726741619887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18888752353496516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13112738686537767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11214032046499547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38968872710301705,0.0,0.26498055307017604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844076110028689,0.0,0.0,0.17912098935055212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063647594710023
divorce,turk183,2020/01/22,"Advice on how to “let go” Been lurking for a few (several) months...

I’m close to leaving. We’ve been together for 25 years, married 16. Two kids (10 and 6), beautiful home etc etc. 

I love her very much. I love my family. I don’t know how to let go. 

We’re incompatible on many levels. We’ve tried lots of things. Counseling for years, new ideas, talking etc etc etc. There are no solutions, and that’s ok. 

Here’s what I’ve come to really understand: If I have the opportunity to talk to 70 year old me, he will say that I was much happier with a different path forward. He will understand why I had to let go. He will understand why 45 year old me did the hardest thing I’ve ever done. 

I love her. I care about her. I won’t destroy her. But I’m resisting the truth and having trouble with “radical acceptance” of the situation. I could use some advice to help me reframe my thinking and help me do what to be done. 

Peace to all of you.",0.9834375000000009,3.105380468749998,3.395666666666667,87.81600000000002,82.85416666666666,7.590000000000002,23.141666666666666,8.548686976883017,1.592567916666666,718,26,159,18,20,248,113,192,0.048,0.737,0.215,0.9873,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,1,0,1,6,10,1,0,6,1,21,3,0,3,3,26,37,8,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,1,1,6,8,0,0,7,0,0,5,3,2,0,1,7,1,21,8,21,21,11,18,0,0,0,3,17,5,0,3,10,99,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18618336330658425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09712883525151207,0.0,0.0,0.08206220896009732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07606120871922266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09953146306499873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19497797660252647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5312272940895778,0.0,0.08617248565045887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08980719597283096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624235814229668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277080043844046,0.0,0.0955583840372517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10754238853557424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052355054864393215,0.0,0.0,0.10087169150450692,0.0,0.292244205118701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08099074509133085,0.2579406641374207,0.0,0.0,0.09658357725701903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603947216228839,0.0,0.14006121118525205,0.0,0.0,0.09200735886705867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19992881116105207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06102908446574114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07575841022523244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10762213297818013,0.0,0.0,0.10708165153840164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15314051095686146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126579429581607,0.061041851410061465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.064678560894031,0.0,0.09305988872242313,0.2975221186638178,0.0,0.0822782193789849,0.0,0.07860345521465828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719233689938975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24538968834395725
divorce,accordingtoame,2020/01/22,"Today marks 2 months since leaving... It feels like yesterday and forever all at once. The attorneys are in NO hurry to get this done, though.",3.0114102564102545,5.8877198846153895,3.674615384615386,84.15371794871797,80.92307692307692,8.082051282051282,24.051282051282055,8.841846274778883,2.2867589743589747,111,4,20,3,3,35,26,26,0.10300000000000001,0.809,0.08800000000000001,-0.1111,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,4,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,3,3,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,12,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3672323197873366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814474074162208,0.2563654295762948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18748644792714547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37997466090837106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753179792031815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2864339064763885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3821678881236021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29684780688657003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3525723158917251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34015171227593294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,rich_and_famous,2020/01/22,"I’m scared I want out. There’s no love, there’s no sex, there’s no any kind of intimacy and I can do better than being lonely and neglected and frustrated all the time. I’m a better person than the one she married, she’s much worse than the one I married.

But there are things that are just wrecking me. We have a 4 year old that I adore, and not seeing her every day is not something I can imagine right now. Finance as well, we live in a very expensive city and bought a house while it was still possible to afford one which is mostly paid off and is really cheap to live in now compared to crazy rents. Between probable spousal support and living expenses, I’d be starting at zero. And it’s scary.

And then there’s that moment of just telling her I’m gonna leave. Where I hurt her the most I ever did. Where I become the bad guy in everyone’s eyes. Cause I didn’t just swallow it all and ignore my happiness. I’m scared of that too.

Still I have to go that way because I see nothing but depression if I stay.",2.5220908837468627,3.9693276824644603,3.90272093671592,89.18871759130195,75.49289099526067,7.0500139392249785,24.26010593810984,7.724431198458867,1.080152272093672,795,25,172,11,17,262,125,211,0.13699999999999998,0.7659999999999999,0.096,-0.5192,2,2,1,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,0,2,17,17,1,2,9,0,15,4,1,1,3,31,29,16,0,2,8,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,10,13,1,2,1,0,7,1,6,9,1,4,5,3,21,8,18,21,5,25,0,4,3,2,11,9,0,3,13,119,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09203146540138696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11299787439861643,0.08249808547590133,0.14946529059942232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393830820352631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390248512291553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0872789539527404,0.0,0.11656260175478915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12241695808826572,0.11402436591633645,0.12931702153413174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07691318410014038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13400150706805425,0.0,0.14406509711064688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561567644830968,0.14487738102226774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409290828939931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14329870535809408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3585060535818925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12214382673936447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09948574240393536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298562061704829,0.0,0.14200981155293493,0.0,0.2751165795552544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11816804943281073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15256826098484405,0.0,0.0,0.1459124732871906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08669814754459368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11557412558200335,0.0,0.0,0.27098501661661845,0.0,0.21568666019278568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10418639060737248,0.0,0.0,0.09578979429771166,0.1442475742377627,0.21615512062934167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15357492648038318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182875014126327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08990960750965442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07891409043164946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11166436490687973,0.07982324336931837,0.10742148512327747,0.0,0.0,0.1216811283923962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13791646522787498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08715037916843138
divorce,Ezaale,2020/01/22,"How do you know when it’s really over? I (27F) have been contemplating if I want to divorce my (27M) husband.
We got married almost 4 years ago. At the time we were living in LA. I pretty much had no friends/family out there. I worked alone so he was all I had. A couple years later we moved to Sacramento, my hometown, and my family and friends are all there. I feel more like myself. I’m more outgoing want to go out and socialize more. 
Since we’ve moved to Sacramento, I’ve noticed we have grown distant. The passion has been dwindling. We say it’s because we barely see each other because work, but I just think I’ve changed. My world used to revolve around him and now I can have a life of my own. I don’t know. I do love him, but it’s so hard.
Whenever we try to do things together he bails. He doesn’t like to spend time with my friends and doesn’t like my family. It’s weird because he’s the one that wanted to move to Sacramento.
I know this post was a lot. I am going to a therapist soon and we’ve been discussing marriage counseling. But neither of us has taken the step to make it happen.",0.755938864628817,2.9479752838427977,2.6679895196506567,92.2493903930131,84.37117903930131,6.109414847161572,21.82375545851529,7.404127859558343,0.7974690305676861,856,29,188,14,25,285,127,229,0.034,0.8320000000000001,0.134,0.9681,0,1,0,0,1,0,31.0,8,1,0,2,10,8,0,0,8,0,22,3,0,3,2,38,40,14,0,4,5,1,2,3,2,0,1,1,0,0,9,18,0,0,5,0,1,7,5,1,0,1,10,4,31,7,20,30,10,24,0,0,1,2,24,7,0,3,12,121,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116126100206962,0.0,0.12608179793343294,0.13040594655840085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11208759068710017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302627485761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13319726876623136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13931825839236128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35609339179312444,0.0,0.06366444501180603,0.08995092862775718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19455723652769366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14311638119013306,0.0,0.10070262412653057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11134278677306994,0.0,0.11279163122993285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075923745555644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08893474703916393,0.18454143829608832,0.0,0.11118182494476207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10704513081612928,0.113639700866451,0.0,0.08404664970061748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4014707796438923,0.09255916004158132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14335064360390445,0.0,0.0,0.08532063289281917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12058804702897555,0.1280968739670183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066188702001625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10012957559332332,0.0,0.0,0.10033486013785077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10415497883115947,0.0,0.0,0.12835052953919193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461925138485427,0.08364975271504503,0.08067876103720611,0.0,0.0,0.14683957216988971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08548538483123076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15145557322398434,0.1087467802254404,0.0,0.0,0.22279692083093616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18332958856636256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16216526505643772
divorce,frank_wait34,2020/01/22,"Process of divorce, expectations and other (VA) I’m 28 years old and have been married since 2012. We’ve tried working things out, and it seems no progress or change has occurred. What initial steps need to happen to initiate a divorce in Va? We also have two kids and basically no assets. Any advice would be great, thank you!",3.651530054644809,6.254240737704923,3.850409836065573,85.5650136612022,76.04918032786884,6.033879781420765,28.19945355191257,7.1686216300943375,1.5958502732240438,259,11,47,3,6,80,52,61,0.065,0.767,0.168,0.7901,0,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,1,1,0,2,1,2,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,11,11,6,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,2,2,5,8,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,2,2,27,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764913762035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.226271666420601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924128571575838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993191555105065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3119487604624864,0.0,0.0,0.2502080501935253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098007369912711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2969040367458765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25758324371903685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340557024534207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26049849193256197,0.0,0.0,0.18797662724806335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19210163566553304,0.0,0.27639694809721393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20598792354398532,0.0,0.0,0.2009965892109515,0.0,0.0,0.1822078284316
divorce,notfeelinggroovy,2020/01/22,"Just left today We were married four years, today he packed some stuff and left.  It’s a confusing tale, how I got here. Shortest version:  he decided he can’t be my husband, he’s known for more than a year but only told me 6 months ago. He’s has a mental condition that was untreated/ realized until the fall out.  His announcement  became a such a hurtful personal attack that  I had to leave afraid of him.  He manipulated me and played my heart so much I considered commitment for my own safety (living with and fighting depression with help for years and he knew). I’m weak and tired- the lies to get me to throw him out, back peddling, and the months he his time being as hurtful as often as possible, have just sucked me dry.   

My friends and therapist are the only things keeping me sane and safe.  

How stupid am I that I still love him? I feel like a fool crying through the day and night.  I’d take him back if he came home.  I’m not strong nor angry, mostly blaming myself. Can someone share: what do I do? 


Btw: I know making armchair diagnoses is not right: his mental illness is being treated by therapy and meds, it’s not my opinion.",3.2416564849624048,5.130216638392857,4.2846804511278185,85.34189849624063,74.58035714285714,7.394360902255639,26.07518796992481,8.20500826718156,1.6901285714285716,893,32,175,15,19,290,145,224,0.239,0.625,0.135,-0.983,0,0,0,0,2,0,30.0,1,0,0,1,11,19,4,2,11,0,16,6,1,4,1,41,30,20,0,1,7,1,1,1,1,0,4,0,1,1,8,16,0,2,6,1,0,3,5,11,0,1,7,1,27,8,18,20,6,23,0,3,0,1,25,5,1,6,16,113,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574667168069487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148547672445042,0.0,0.20080790509788607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14934277266195575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14343027398057315,0.08420993647787238,0.0,0.1124638741062516,0.13253066187272092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06602253646025076,0.09328265508099873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10088175778390324,0.0,0.06821993777887557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10443258669425072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15473175320911278,0.08752152841431557,0.0,0.1309771594044848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795660236618273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116060871675579,0.0,0.0,0.07176048900043115,0.0,0.0,0.13825984763864785,0.2837397797870265,0.0,0.0,0.06379224613294075,0.0,0.11529993059346608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11784884471066892,0.0,0.08715968533444267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.145039154179075,0.0,0.26317735082407256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208447101042446,0.0,0.095987493764255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12253559374215027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198616021343357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11401286891957108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14720345494779813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115101560339056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106355946674632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10427719486315053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14947689322669927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09817599081012997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14932365049390844,0.15160739364006462,0.08674808753136654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07613920929960485,0.1500765111925978,0.2475392638070493,0.12476980618710733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522576484281638
divorce,kahlocat1234,2020/01/22,"How did you handle pets? My STBXW (30F) and I (32F) were together for 4 years, no kids. She saw me through some pretty intense life transitions like donating a kidney and being there for me and my family when my mom passed away. And for that, I feel immensely grateful to her. 

I moved out three weeks ago, and the breakup was all her decision. I felt like I just had to accept it because what’s the point of fighting if the other person isn’t gonna try? She said she “lost” herself in the relationship and isn’t sure we have a shared future anymore. Not sure if she’s been seeing someone else, but my gut says there’s something else influencing this decision for her. 

I took the cats because I have the financial means to take care of them (and I also love them SO MUCH). I know she loves them and wants a relationship with them still. That said, it’s painful for me to see her or interact with her because I still love her so much and I’d be lying if I didn’t have a secret hope that we’d get back together.

My question is this: how do you handle pet separation? Does one party just lose rights to the fur babies and then that’s just how it goes? I want to be compassionate and at the same time, also want to honor what I need during this time to heal. I also feel like if she wanted to walk out on our family and responsibilities, then losing the relationship with the cats is part of this. 

How have you all navigated this?",4.889887727448702,5.248333205574916,5.717531939605112,82.46950735578788,68.86062717770035,9.025861401471161,26.74583817266744,8.998388855275968,1.7839424699961284,1118,31,236,19,18,367,152,287,0.066,0.742,0.192,0.9893,0,0,1,0,2,0,30.0,3,3,4,4,18,19,1,0,14,0,19,8,2,5,4,55,44,30,0,10,10,1,3,3,0,1,3,3,2,2,15,18,0,0,10,0,1,4,5,5,0,2,12,9,45,14,27,27,7,24,0,3,3,3,41,8,0,8,15,168,60,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09377720102777046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538027015478213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491609138032247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993939812881446,0.08134662971682984,0.0,0.1934673515691807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10786081705576274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09257828136115943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176749352405934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19946038702169552,0.0,0.10698205977060317,0.07557700079763083,0.10157580140863298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055271350150266366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10507417933781728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05813988173594231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07472320242219138,0.15505218947784824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367057905834581,0.1154832042183837,0.0,0.28644110385679883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152372438411584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12390095905788245,0.0,0.11243892603909136,0.15553688703402666,0.07844257108787313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07168661445263995,0.0,0.11256891787667953,0.0,0.0,0.1145611758797116,0.0,0.0,0.09237248530064404,0.0,0.0,0.10000654313691064,0.0,0.0,0.10762732184836976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11850995775912315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3407393291966625,0.0,0.0903448035886265,0.20126263888716947,0.0841291260682755,0.0,0.0,0.16860321333755646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08963623965429379,0.0814429609450291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689694109264767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19941323883644216,0.0,0.07954154959807506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12337498492019995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11753752133196775,0.07182503945358988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495927252814503,0.0,0.08485903464419098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06812583568334862
divorce,C0v3r3dInR4IN,2020/01/22,"Told her I didn’t want (anymore) kids. Throwaway. 

My wife and I met years ago in high school, we didn’t date until 7-8 years ago and got married about 3 years ago. 

I have a child from a previous marriage whose now a teen. His mother and I were together like flash in a pan. We met at work, courted, actually planned the kid, got married and divorced about 2 years later. We met young and grew up in our short time together. We learned that we couldn’t make each other happy. Never had any trust issues, cheating, never any financial problems either. We grew into a dead bedroom towards the end and I think it was the final straw. 

Fast forward to a few years later my future wife and I date. She asks me if I want kids and I say no. Reason is my ex used my kid as a weapon ALWAYS. Anytime there was a man argument or something she’d threaten to take our infant child from me. This happened until my son came to live with me and my new wife 8-10 years. 

My current wife and I spent years together. She’d ask me and my mind weaned back and forth but I always said okay to kids. Never firm on yes or no but always felt a gut punch when answering with yes. I know. I know. I should have said something- but I’m here now reddit. 

We had been trying for a year and I enjoyed the trying. The sex was amazing the trying was fun. We’d try and nothing. For almost a year. The pressure felt overwhelming to me at times but I have always been the one to reassure. I’d tell her it was when she’d cry and cry that we’d try again. 

A few months ago she asks for sex during ovulation and I panic. I made up an excuse and she knew. I said it “I don’t think I want anymore kids.” BOOOOOM. 

Arguments. Anger. Name calling. Everything from her. I sat there and took it. We found out she was pregnant- ectopic surgery removal the same day. It was over. She’s been in a depression. She’s been hurt. I hurt her not only with saying no more but saying I didn’t want the one she had (not knowing it would be a medical emergency)  

It was hard for me to speak up. But I did it. I told her my wishes. 

Now- I’m left with ultimatum- kids or divorce. My wife is almost 35 as am I. 

I don’t want a divorce but I won’t give her what she wants, I feel like my only choice is to love her so much I let her go and find some one. Because I can’t be that person. 

TLDR: told my wife I don’t want kids after nearly 10 year relationship and 1 year of trying. She’s threaded to divorce me and Im willing to let her leave (with pain/remorse/suffering) in order to have what she wants.",-0.10721916732128632,2.1355873533834604,1.924009650993156,95.41093536079006,89.93984962406012,4.679878801481316,18.84255414656043,6.250306712680782,-0.09198735271013314,1960,58,437,20,67,650,242,532,0.124,0.789,0.086,-0.9721,1,0,2,0,4,0,71.0,12,0,0,2,13,20,3,3,26,3,46,5,1,4,3,91,93,39,1,14,14,9,4,2,0,4,1,7,1,13,16,38,0,0,14,0,1,7,17,10,0,3,40,11,86,10,47,39,8,70,0,4,0,3,87,20,0,7,46,278,102,3,0.0,0.0,0.06368102565433313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23138414483764524,0.0,0.13069011193722016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21719486643051156,0.0,0.0,0.08875344790933158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294340192375505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830183286393336,0.0,0.0,0.05017829532702558,0.0,0.03977981606600957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06663428203823643,0.07463616283368461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14336261599114014,0.042085106759088685,0.0,0.056205411692075095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057797976084234974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058648421945134574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03299569637088606,0.04661932619895342,0.1253131341496054,0.07148541269993086,0.0596433477718841,0.0,0.0,0.07155049077616997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06260007444146341,0.037086828123404865,0.0,0.1043833244384457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05770619353975745,0.06946686134028403,0.05845709354019605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06894717795565057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13971707430409386,0.0,0.07048832324632921,0.06811093345647116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10758995791884222,0.0,0.0,0.06909731430443236,0.07090148397912098,0.13345858415809786,0.0,0.06376215447240784,0.0,0.05762277103268676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05889662691275167,0.061747370268606085,0.04355928546926835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06573915650654373,0.0,0.0,0.0658905607773927,0.0,0.052087193435296185,0.0,0.04797110758618752,0.0,0.1509897324966599,0.06302522837811048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06261546515525594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326586776927642,0.09926116574731098,0.06943762053231188,0.07656455669259161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05697954375789081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062441750585692665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06709465056577986,0.0,0.07006116397397336,0.0,0.0,0.1862219031236798,0.1556839963064302,0.0,0.06604316042040048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100475433606356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04906483993737863,0.0,0.05703714240104268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362758529566293,0.0,0.0,0.07610329341047446,0.0,0.0,0.1870664258869853,0.07250248077803084,0.26582967634602706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0563607479962279,0.0,0.0,0.3079202549447148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07504186646251157,0.0,0.0,0.04750758008660416,0.0,0.0,0.04635641446734888,0.0,0.0,0.4622542010211232
divorce,lefamonster,2020/01/22,"Not sure if I am doing this right / Dating Okay so started to date again, and mistakenly setup a dating app not expecting much.  To my surprise I met up with a wonderful lady who wasn't wanting anything serious, which was awesome because I have no clue of what I want entering back into the dating world.
Fast forward, cute banter, told her i was making quesadillas, needed to go to the store, she asked if would i make her one...I JUMPED ON THAT OP.
Said ""absolutely""
One hour later she walked in my door. The pursuing afternoon was a combination of conversation, food, then....crazy make out.  
It was a massage, followed by intense touching, then a strange moment where we had to ask ourselves if we were going further.
This is where this starts to hurt, I was no where ready for this, as i had to admit to myself that I was not ready to just perform an act.  I wanted her, but in all honesty, I had to confess to her, and myself, that I had no arousal in someone I didn't love.

We continued to make out, and I focused on her, She was happy, but I still felt pressure to go further, it was intense, thrilling, but full of pressure.  

She said she was fine in being selfish.  I was happy, and relieved, she was praising me, and asked if I still wanted to have sex.   It was sublime, and other worldly,  We actually talked about it and she was strangely cool with my response. She actually said"" I prefer the oral, the rest is for you.""

It was odd, she was so unattached, could care less about me, but I think what is hurt the most looking back.  I mean it was amazing, I will not lie, but in the end, I felt hungover from the emotions the next day. I wasn't ready for this at all.  Not after a relationship that was based on loyalty and connectivity.  It was a polar opposite.

I was happy at first, and tempted to repeat it, but I know better.  There is no love here, and that is the problem.  I mean, look, this is a PSA for all here that you can hook up, but it is probably going to hurt more than it heals. Hard lesson learned.

A strange revelation that occurred that night, was that I am beyond just carnal, not that I need a constant relationship, but I am not cut out for touch and go.  It is hard to hook up, when you know of something more.",4.3044469696969685,5.153390247727273,5.282272727272726,83.31424242424244,70.38636363636363,7.866666666666666,29.43939393939393,8.021203637495839,1.8745166666666664,1719,65,348,22,30,565,205,440,0.11900000000000001,0.7090000000000001,0.172,0.9792,1,0,1,0,0,0,80.0,4,3,0,5,19,26,1,2,21,2,47,6,1,4,4,74,87,28,0,15,21,0,6,0,0,2,1,3,1,0,32,21,1,0,13,0,1,11,14,9,0,2,35,12,57,17,53,48,10,65,2,3,2,4,39,28,0,6,28,273,89,1,0.0,0.0,0.1803550913308817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.076044473365744,0.0,0.2591689364124297,0.0,0.0,0.14211314820300572,0.0,0.05633147618141926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08172797166210133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421681225701467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09986095883280907,0.0,0.07378081496997099,0.0,0.0,0.05959595652876293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394733185521532,0.08184666584985359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774536568960966,0.0,0.0,0.078602779572819,0.11174094773964367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625899239467675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2951122879875628,0.1655600602541891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09100393962427336,0.0,0.2967762230312453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10157079227998768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552000420109521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16680489073133212,0.0,0.24673405707256466,0.0,0.0,0.20132029525393189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06793101556587204,0.13703973685500298,0.0,0.0,0.09827768399948654,0.08671929018497998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12523703193780916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09963219105188023,0.08842263071320712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19842468769053254,0.0,0.07891651139362213,0.26370546014750423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782975782444452,0.07114071977635944,0.0,0.0,0.13081468460212506,0.0,0.14759538914124765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08709409124586501,0.0,0.0,0.07427459998055158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059211753535702114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08830045783947248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21802014466849115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002132761234506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656444779204182,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,LoudestOneHere,2020/01/22,The guilt over my divorce is killing me I'm currently waiting for my soon to be exhusband to file the papers but in the mean time I am consumed by guilt for why things turned out like they did. Neither of us put in enough effort to the marriage to save it however a bad decision of mine is what was the final straw. Between thinking of that and reflection on how else I caused problems in the marriage I have been consumed by guilt and haven't been able to function between that and my depression. How do you get past or deal with the fact that you caused the end of your marriage? (For the record we got married young and I am fully accepting my role in the downfall of my marriage),7.124285714285714,6.195725294117651,6.737142857142861,81.36500000000002,64.44117647058823,9.830252100840337,37.07563025210085,8.841846274778883,3.037427731092437,544,24,109,7,7,170,86,136,0.149,0.7759999999999999,0.07400000000000001,-0.8888,2,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,2,3,1,1,3,10,1,3,11,0,12,0,0,4,1,22,19,8,1,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,1,5,0,0,1,2,7,0,0,5,0,17,3,25,13,2,15,0,1,0,0,14,7,0,1,8,82,23,1,0.21077839385623934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17599115465056675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4330549441422394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21730326881756687,0.1815431217717729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17607830157412865,0.0,0.1866870946148014,0.21779042546974714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.230897427703013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101230112324997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16857873653955607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23319506338476956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10297567641024034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295994627129809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012118270081767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20168645667654486,0.0,0.2118905032085452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400317990406118,0.13505828392455765,0.0,0.0,0.1229065764925157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292663659761324,0.0,0.0,0.25354045534993097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19019471597331844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Berria_Out,2020/01/22,"I shouldn't have looked My wife's Google Photo account is still connected to my phone. I shouldn't have looked but I did. She told a guy she had a crush on him and couldn't wait to see him this week. She even dated the note like she did when we first started dating. I have dated notes from 10 years ago. I still see her every day, despite her having an apartment now. Despite me being the one that initiated the divorce, me being the one trying to reduce contact, me pushing her away, it still hurts so bad. I'm not going to sleep tonight, or get anything done at work tomorrow. I should be ecstatic. That means I'm free to date other people now, right? Why do I feel like crawling in a hole and crying.",2.21832167832168,4.165372650349656,3.223076923076924,91.54692307692312,77.74125874125876,5.51888111888112,21.48951048951049,6.297961479604792,0.2362279720279723,551,15,115,4,13,176,97,143,0.109,0.789,0.102,-0.2586,0,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,1,0,0,2,9,5,0,0,8,0,17,1,1,0,0,13,30,6,0,4,3,1,1,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,1,2,0,2,2,4,2,0,3,5,5,22,4,10,18,0,26,0,1,4,0,16,6,0,1,20,78,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551628029868279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14404338094846406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644562704758251,0.0,0.14615146939024126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922737217480292,0.11288661344228262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791271593281582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11561257040144934,0.0,0.14747913368861704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885057139762332,0.1250489368052845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488893225305189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09145141377851652,0.0,0.09947952500472253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17331757135019812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873844285169452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17103185042103666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2939797961001038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19067037154985791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372238862581057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12135101260384178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14948359309587936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789691618786349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751668682137978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238945357486382,0.0,0.4193626030268489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16725865698774808,0.0,0.1188409797276658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14040689559768207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15794678581973018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274315367551392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11272031479504425
divorce,mrsrn11,2020/01/22,"Wanting to keep the house...what’s the best way to go? Background: husband and I have decided to separate, he is willing to leave the house.  (FYI we live in VA so need to be living separately for a year before divorcing).  We have a 6 month old daughter and for her sake and stability, am wanting to keep the house.

I currently make, on my own, what our combined income was when we purchased the home- 90k.  Live in a townhouse style condo, purchased for 340k, loan amount was 306k, and we currently owe something like 260 something on it.  We don’t have any joint accounts other than the mortgage/deed.  I understand that if I’m to keep the house I will have to re-finance, and split and give his share of the equity.   We agreed this is what we’d do (unless sell, which I really don’t want), and not come after each other for anything else. My big issue is that I have about 10k in credit card debt, that I’m working furiously on to cut down.  Also have student loan of 14k, two cars under my name- one is paid off, the other I’m still making payments.  I’m assuming it’s completely impossible to be able to re-finance with this much debt?  Ive thought about staying with him until my debts are paid off, rationalizing that the baby is still young, but there are some days I really can’t stand him.

Advice?",4.785555046921491,5.532676770428019,5.5953765163653015,81.87268940260931,69.23346303501945,8.537331197070268,28.73632410162509,8.671277953709913,2.0407639734493017,1018,35,203,16,17,333,152,257,0.034,0.925,0.040999999999999995,0.4098,8,0,2,0,0,0,42.0,8,0,0,2,8,6,2,0,13,0,26,0,0,2,0,36,47,14,0,5,4,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,14,17,0,3,4,0,13,3,4,2,0,2,5,0,24,4,35,37,6,29,0,0,0,0,19,11,0,3,13,133,38,3,0.1296766273501709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267184994257021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10370235204105664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08818455339914626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106712815144464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103452587400873,0.0,0.13608761999187566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11170493210887436,0.13596347657557328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836306967611435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10832818240968577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124397637216601,0.07369821572215211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300762304181372,0.0,0.0,0.4488882517344993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13534870790808728,0.0,0.3457876340098472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13730882453697113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06335344990383718,0.0,0.3435205132084438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17312031142350606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10350664676371624,0.0,0.09532724188635304,0.09615357605357286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13607380644733008,0.0,0.08787223874996987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16614833608067398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19966280632192748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382180307309938,0.2071198442239497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10294875709619912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12667522217019964,0.13499794236341914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294599038500788,0.10293127084040207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09440612915210213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08350749639827594
divorce,simply_jeremy,2020/01/22,"If love was a plane nobody get on Heard it on SiriusXM and laughed my ass off....

Just a song and copied a little less than half of it....pretty true if I’d say so myself



They're in love,
Look at em go
Now what in the world could go wrong?

Don't tell them the odds,
Its best they don't know,
If love was a plane nobody's get on

Imagine now the pilots voice on the intercom
Right before we leave the ground
Saying folks thanks for flying with us
But there's a six in ten chance we're going down
But that's the strangest thing about this emotion,
Even knowing our chances are small,
We line up at the gate with our tickets
Thinking, somehow were different

I mean after all
We're in love look at us go!
Now what in the world could go wrong?
To hell with the odds we'd rather not know
If love was a plane, nobody's get on
Ya, if love was a plane nobody's get on

Bras Paisley",1.9640322580645169,3.277742392473119,2.6320215053763465,98.27803225806451,76.68817204301075,5.390107526881722,19.38924731182796,5.2151,-0.5527952688172042,679,13,163,2,15,211,107,186,0.075,0.718,0.207,0.9819,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,7,1,2,1,10,13,1,0,16,0,11,7,1,0,2,28,35,10,0,8,10,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,7,7,0,0,6,2,0,5,3,3,0,3,6,7,13,10,26,26,3,32,1,0,2,7,20,23,2,6,4,97,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09818233831944304,0.0,0.12108722114288788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18424769264485952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12055055871507908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12979021754305553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07620930853243822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411311844092437,0.0,0.3278737678532861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19023425119370224,0.0,0.0,0.12217381715229347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156439647500762,0.0,0.0,0.19378512998630834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6248253611382806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12568578938242853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11738587677673727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09853635488964536,0.0,0.18351420543379005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10084972877371748,0.10622905998982972,0.0,0.0,0.07665526300931469,0.07393269490754112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775828122113005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523061472233612,0.0,0.0
divorce,otisday,2020/01/22,"Wife wants spousal support So pretty much 2 weeks after i sold my business my wife of 32 years let me know she no longer loves me and wants a divorce. In spite of the timing I’m not alleging she went gold digger on me as our life together had unquestionably deteriorated.  Today gives me pause however 

I agreed to go to a mediator figuring we would split our assets and move on.  Well in a surprise move she threw out that she wanted spousal support on top of half my assets.  Thing is i don’t have a job now that the business sold..... until i can get something else started.  As it stands she makes more money than i do currently. Could i really have to pay support ?

By the way this divorce shit sucks.  Im at my wits end",2.5886698717948704,4.598370826388892,4.053611111111113,85.72942307692307,76.8472222222222,6.930769230769231,24.96581196581197,7.882392219407189,1.3763670940170938,565,20,115,9,13,187,99,144,0.087,0.74,0.174,0.8867,4,0,1,0,2,0,13.0,3,0,0,1,3,9,3,0,7,0,10,3,1,1,1,14,29,6,0,5,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,2,0,4,5,3,3,1,1,5,0,22,6,19,21,2,25,0,0,0,1,14,8,2,0,10,73,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12985065620050584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13586050877077074,0.0,0.1440461625796975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08496997187991392,0.15601412214424878,0.09242910626565036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17567349513265235,0.0,0.16138994666692633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893798342680929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16630510455310918,0.1148737707931696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14678425907692072,0.0,0.10855999364782487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34571011411065633,0.11955529294689125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16545806256050635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041880190787688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16694228779378992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12520421669639098,0.0,0.0,0.11511375039135613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5536681402077933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080473362797315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948336612987884,0.0,0.15415877652245974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877786609736054,0.12909193631544466,0.13045582870457165,0.0,0.14622821923562138,0.1507640914235402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11553109758106095,0.0,0.0,0.10473148071418828
divorce,236243035,2020/01/22,"Is sharia law legal in the UK? If a Muslim couple got married under sharia law , is it recognised in the UK ?",1.8395454545454548,3.692517500000005,3.7181818181818183,87.99727272727276,78.54545454545455,4.4,20.090909090909093,3.1291,-0.2348909090909093,83,2,16,0,2,28,16,22,0.0,0.915,0.085,0.2168,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,10,1,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8104475565429822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5858111966269591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,hmmmdying,2020/01/22,"Not legally separated yet and have a kid—how do I do taxes? We split up in July. I have custody of our child (custody and child support documents signed in October.) 
Do I file married but separate? And do I claim my child? STBX keeps asking to file taxes together and I’m not sure how to respond.",1.2251331719128338,3.7099522881355935,3.6971428571428575,83.56813559322033,85.4406779661017,6.761259079903147,27.072639225181604,7.957251820313856,2.153579176755448,231,11,44,5,7,80,39,59,0.075,0.8909999999999999,0.034,-0.314,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,1,12,10,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,7,2,6,10,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,1,29,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.477068333964125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4535844755043513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5790905490319757,0.4809584850400102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,justamediumtowngirl,2020/01/23,"The millionth post like this My husband and I have been together nearly 8 years, married for 4. Long story short, we’ve never seen eye to eye on anything, there are differences in us that he will allow to drive a wedge between us. E.G, I didn’t clean the living room the way he likes it or whatever isn’t clean enough for him, he’s a “perfectionist”. We have 2 kids, ages 1 & 4. Last year (Feb) we almost divorced due to an affair he was having and I decided to stick it out after he begged for a chance and promised to cut all communication off with the other woman. This past year has been a rollercoaster, to say the least, I’ve experienced that heartache, the possibility of having to split/share time with my kids, the emotional despair I fee here and there from the betrayal. I feel so much resentment in the fact that he hasn’t gone to individual counseling like was promised when we decided to work things out, so much resentment that I’ve given most of my 20’s, two kids and so much love to a man who was ready to leave his family for a grocery store clerk. Our fighting has been awful and intense lately, to the point that I’ve asked him to be honest and let me know if he’ll be able to get past these small differences and not make them major issues otherwise it’s better we do split up.  I’m such a pick and choose your battle type of person and he likes to battle literally everything. I’m drained. So drained. 

This ended up not being a short story but kudos to any of you who read it!",5.934336525307798,5.6373354451827264,6.525925346882943,79.81103771741256,66.64119601328903,9.873050615595076,29.333789329685363,9.478462496947786,2.292798944694157,1183,35,244,21,17,388,175,301,0.073,0.81,0.11800000000000001,0.8821,0,0,0,0,3,0,31.0,7,2,1,2,9,16,6,0,19,1,22,3,2,3,3,36,34,18,0,1,5,1,1,4,0,2,0,1,3,6,17,18,0,0,5,1,2,2,6,7,0,1,10,6,22,9,38,18,8,33,0,1,3,1,36,14,0,4,19,151,39,3,0.13506776054004016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13525085168326312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14634586211441922,0.0,0.09185070883809172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111492584054087,0.0,0.1262701232975098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11945645803252967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822341241138682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15193305098398796,0.1196299456031812,0.13956110252611878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139019395391228,0.0,0.12732986391429765,0.0,0.06829431806116207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07056733016593829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14097565029793535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07422970886570743,0.11009825209398946,0.1523623170267115,0.1430172561668613,0.0,0.13811593627294527,0.0,0.2639491410550055,0.0,0.11926730711294115,0.11953071774338275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219039272848372,0.0,0.09015877897882604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978710352779263,0.0,0.10417258359179324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257874921342275,0.0,0.11793595869717352,0.0,0.0,0.12768269146872854,0.1522686057049539,0.12935757841985476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13510431179426424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074113044043892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08973301843123664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.078759097357055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13194157593441114,0.0,0.324939770949901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10721050142992576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09833093832241332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609376282519211
divorce,SeckTor,2020/01/23,"TSP? I moved out of our apartment and back home 5 hours away, since living in that apartment was a living hellscape. 

I had an accident that lead to a seizure. So I'm back at the apartment for the evening so I can get to the 9am appointment. 

STBX is at work right now and I noticed she had a letter from Thrift Savings Plan. When I googled it one of the first things that popped up was divorce. She just recently canceled our credit card... without telling me. Am I overthinking the TSP divorce implications? My heads spinning.",2.5138793879387933,5.136602782178223,2.711701170117013,91.97486048604864,80.5841584158416,5.652925292529253,28.983798379837985,6.980632752743323,1.5315861386138618,415,20,82,5,11,126,71,101,0.037000000000000005,0.935,0.027999999999999997,-0.2168,0,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,2,0,0,4,8,2,0,0,9,0,7,1,1,1,0,7,9,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,3,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,2,4,0,12,2,13,5,0,19,0,0,0,0,8,10,0,0,7,58,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21687910173921807,0.3549990402608648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15246576093378147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19634996242801464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206028837677052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369055130965347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315484834226073,0.0,0.22732809479687136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40766686633050936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453433594654605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628096260045178,0.0,0.0,0.15642122739949688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279238378751993,0.0,0.0,0.19713366539070812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19095087643108385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20176184423593765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533579457596004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2225187757931183,0.0,0.1680521949375314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,0nlyhalfjewish,2020/01/23,"My daughter doesn’t want to stay with her dad She’s a middle schooler and her dad can be quick with his attitude and condescending with his tone of voice. She often asks to stay with me when we actually have 50/59 custody.

She called me today asking if she could stay with when it’s his night. I know what she is experiencing. It’s some of the same behavior that made me leave er father years ago.

I’ve tried talking to him about it and he just gets angry. Sometimes I can get through but it doesn’t seem to last.

Now, out daughter is not respectful with her tone of voice, which is not ok. And she needs to make better decisions. She’s also hitting puberty and has been diagnosed with attention issues. In my mind it’s his job to right this ship and get their relationship back on track. Am I off base?",2.955217391304348,4.8901473478260895,3.8465527950310574,87.96746894409941,75.52173913043478,7.3329192546583855,23.301242236024837,8.192908349453996,1.178855900621118,637,19,134,11,14,204,104,161,0.055999999999999994,0.912,0.032,-0.4218,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,1,1,9,3,0,0,2,1,13,1,0,2,0,33,25,11,0,4,5,5,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,9,15,0,0,4,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,2,3,25,3,22,20,2,19,0,0,0,0,28,6,0,4,10,91,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.1603252290209795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14563488743995578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13138420094569986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3071815626150222,0.0,0.0,0.12633035676680116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14530286533588885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677604344254444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311737414245059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16675285555874636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25750726518500144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17147809560285246,0.1630343946811701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09029055079047292,0.13391985465845072,0.0,0.17396143712768425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15545700117164926,0.10966614226282448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16588801983652476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12182038795869078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15417685141958695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17638805349296952,0.0,0.14030441468943194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495652071175356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16248892450449906,0.0,0.0,0.525340028450567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13205163396775793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15572954408987078,0.0,0.0,0.11154343936002456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09690363983414156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10579861952330316
divorce,lavender203,2020/01/23,"Sick child changes in custody How do other parents manage changes in custody when your child is sick? It is my ex turn to have our son today but he lives an hour away so I am going to take him instead.  School is a 15min drive home I will not have him do a hr drive he's sick! 

We can simply change our dates for next time but I have to use sick leave time to take off. My ex doesn't have sick leave so he misses wages. How can we make this fair?

So far I've taken 20hrs off YTD and still getting paid but meanwhile my sick leave is dwindling. I am caught between being the mom n just doing it n taking care of my son don't get me wrong I want to but I want to make sure my narcissistic ex doesn't take further advantage of me and that what I am doing is fair and/or right. 

He has told me oh well if I don't work that's less money for me and how do I make a living? and on top of that I have to pay you yourr child support so you need me working. So then I feel guilty but I don't know. Thoughts?",-0.14098221343873266,1.712185459090911,1.4958893280632424,101.37448616600794,85.31818181818181,4.1897233201581034,16.83794466403162,4.813696971540001,-1.0400592885375497,771,16,194,2,23,249,118,220,0.159,0.721,0.121,-0.843,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,4,3,0,4,13,7,0,0,5,0,28,6,0,7,1,28,53,20,0,4,8,7,1,0,0,1,6,0,1,3,8,6,0,0,3,0,4,4,6,2,1,0,5,1,31,5,19,46,1,23,0,1,0,0,24,10,0,1,9,117,39,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11902712630364234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12916640352388872,0.0,0.4020558985798037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06405703331082001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13237803516968674,0.0,0.07199945586206173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12707794508896084,0.0,0.12476172039982525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0696241659401992,0.0,0.0,0.4024314790330667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2237348605716636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25369477603410656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14837493087404913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09393721526649804,0.0,0.0,0.13473364981020985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14067153509921093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10819047801744357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12821456711955484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10117284344156097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14376353378176604,0.11940151937768642,0.0,0.3810130934568682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10057576591198172,0.14774506184871164,0.0,0.1200849870178086,0.1210553859275605,0.0,0.0,0.13779967837211587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10941736980592028,0.0,0.0,0.14944720219235752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139073246730687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18446009479037587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385129514147648,0.0,0.0
divorce,GaminWithGod,2020/01/23,"Almost 2 months now My wife wanted seperation and I took it terribly, I couldn't understand throwing away 7 years. It didn't help that leading up to this she was acting very loving, no signs at all. 

She asked me to move out, and that she was over the relationship one week after the seperation. She told a friend my family pushed it over the edge, which my mom really did step over bounds. Yet her mom during our relationship would do curses and hope I would die so I think that is a bit of a cop out. 

When she sends me the divorce papers is it wrong for me to wait it out to sign them. I still love her and she didn't even try to work it out.",2.305834464043418,3.7978909402985086,3.5146404341926747,91.56149932157395,76.16417910447761,7.260786974219811,18.898236092265943,8.00094639256281,0.38180000000000014,502,9,115,8,11,163,86,134,0.10800000000000001,0.79,0.102,0.0404,0,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,1,0,1,2,7,6,0,0,7,0,11,2,0,1,1,22,21,6,1,5,0,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,11,8,0,2,2,0,0,8,4,2,0,1,7,0,21,4,18,11,2,26,0,0,0,2,23,10,0,2,8,81,32,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16938265001124708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15813555208854788,0.0,0.15892514439439792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184671652376902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755544757179454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117241950805321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15946272801211578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13068746179890575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11337992767462225,0.0,0.0,0.1680074478048629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053350125829821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3962207279290668,0.13501659345057507,0.1797832456726937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11462269048267044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10836397007577284,0.0,0.0,0.3632147969231143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13508608711365536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10838663921433844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16163327878032113,0.18793560039908225,0.11484402393745967,0.0,0.0,0.17609460716425507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139569232330776,0.09977103087900224,0.0,0.13568461751119995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12314565641440567,0.0,0.0,0.24032337905628645,0.18494263860432367,0.0,0.10892921415007856
divorce,naiiomyyy,2020/01/23,"My boyfriend wants me to split rent with his mom (who’s getting a divorce) and his 18 year old brother. How can i convince him to live with me alone? My boyfriend’s parents are getting divorced and everything is set to be finalized in 3-4 months from now so April/May. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 3 years and we have been living together for about 2 years in an apartment and now with his parents. 

His mom has no college degree and also no experience in the workforce as she was a stay at home mom and just recently started working again. This information is only important because my boyfriend and I are making the same amount if not more than she is. (about 1k every two weeks) 

She has already made us aware that she wants to move into an upgraded mobile home and wants me, my boyfriend, his 18 year old little brother and herself to all live there with her. oh and our 5 dogs. 

My boyfriend does not want to live in a mobile home he wants us all to split rent at a house or apartment as well as utilities. He’s looking at 1500/1600 in rent and divided by 3 people that’s about 500 each just for rent alone. I’ve explained to him that it makes no sense for us to spend that much and be living with two other people crowded with more dogs than there is people. It’s absolutely ridiculous. 

He is afraid that his mom will crash and fail and i’ve told him she won’t. If she lives in a mobile home she will be fine and that’s the decision she’s making for herself. 

Also they’re putting no responsibility on his little brother who’s 18 and in school (just like us) and works 2 jobs. They’re treating him like a 5 year old
but i feel like it’s time to man-up and for him to pay his half of rent too. Especially since he’d be getting his own room. He smokes weed and blows all his money on that so i know his priorities are fucked up. I also don’t want to marijuana to be in a house/ that i’m paying for. I’m not uptight but i babysit my little brothers (5 and 9 months) and i’m not going to have them being around that. He’s also messy, doesn’t clean and stinks their house up with the smell of it. 

I’ve told all these arguments to my boyfriend and he still is too worried about his mom being alone but i’m not going to pay to be stuck in a home with them when i could have my own home. I’m already 20 and want to start my life. How else can i phrase this? Please help.",3.080452621295993,4.197972144578312,3.8997514381851737,91.07605828720287,73.53815261044176,6.749245631173342,24.90524259198958,7.001395882987947,0.7560842722240313,1880,57,421,17,37,601,208,498,0.095,0.852,0.053,-0.9327,8,3,1,0,2,0,41.0,6,0,3,3,26,13,2,2,15,0,35,2,0,6,4,76,66,43,0,10,14,11,1,3,0,3,1,0,13,0,19,37,0,1,5,0,10,4,12,6,1,3,7,4,60,7,65,46,12,54,0,1,1,1,65,26,1,3,25,268,79,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893311761580066,0.13448680795174964,0.19491912685944765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05424516273369485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03714547462822132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04865172326906879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05332472130620347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05090346147888533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05134045434765313,0.0,0.05476454354975476,0.059606225539921176,0.0,0.0,0.030810620148455363,0.04353205142111431,0.0,0.06675142940145774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05633352297972955,0.09550823258910934,0.0,0.0692616492149272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040843516643884435,0.0,0.3667372739275041,0.0,0.0,0.21093279073099466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06046868959618305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03348834029711702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043040266957711,0.08930944353533593,0.24429193505737504,0.3228408863204457,0.0,0.05117014157635605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057658270009743065,0.1220239679241282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3568322944751067,0.0972756394346062,0.06476437353176935,0.04479431369852365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918234279584196,0.0,0.0,0.04634389344229408,0.0,0.0,0.1353224465644992,0.0,0.0,0.12673418876564546,0.0,0.0,0.06688844718049201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06125661124279382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06016606524466357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06166957976107165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050406148812609096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08626036236362276,0.06494871460497663,0.04866285382733367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035531749943388265,0.0,0.0,0.1164522089132944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11904948737501304,0.0,0.29318971586764925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515877272725848,0.0,0.04887846594453433,0.0,0.054787977701051135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08872296482351075,0.06188255732010575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19620104997384885
divorce,yesssssgirl,2020/01/23,"Riddled with anxiety I'm currently in the process of downsizing the things in our house. I've been separating things for donation and things that I'm taking with me to my new home.

I've mentioned these things to my STBX and while he is heartbroken that our 6 year marriage is coming to an end (he cheated/lied multiple times), but he seems fine that I'm doing it. Meaning he hasn't been begging for me to stay as much.

The kicker is that he's away on deployment and I'm afraid that when he gets back it'll go from amicable divorce to him plotting to make it as hard for me as he can. In the past when I've talked about divorce, he threatens with taking our daughter away from me. There's no reason for that he just gets extremely defensive. 

I'm trying to make things as easy as possible to move forward. Like planning when to put the house on the market, paying off debts, and overall planning the finances. Again, I'm being very transparent with him and I'm voicing all of this. 

I just can't wait for this to be over and I hope he's not scheming to hurt me anymore than he already has.",4.350422322775266,5.178300361990949,5.05283257918552,85.07795173454001,70.26696832579185,8.246274509803923,30.117948717948718,8.447377352677275,2.0882775867269987,864,34,178,13,15,279,118,221,0.054000000000000006,0.863,0.084,0.8226,3,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,3,0,0,2,9,6,1,1,8,0,13,0,0,3,1,24,32,16,0,1,4,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,17,11,0,2,3,0,4,5,4,3,0,0,2,2,14,3,40,27,2,27,0,1,0,0,22,10,0,2,14,111,31,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16100022202890688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116102889075476,0.0,0.1446899503932375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741487989642226,0.1121852678986924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12567676501427166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12922083918462346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15244961580620256,0.0,0.08291624339609786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13069444979438594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14634590913379875,0.1449079697497228,0.0,0.3366895401175817,0.15618503287799312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07127757464323667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947738590160336,0.0,0.0,0.15892386835483896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15506470377256465,0.1072505855545661,0.0,0.0,0.14090757934071316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927455024952978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16447618454942656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14666610295883573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500057205856727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13281853434307378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15550606979451778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21939175800644176,0.1172659391794426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.484635175824461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507332008375898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990540274499912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12037974721257999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09395244957982024
divorce,aimelita,2020/01/23,"How long do you keep trying to fix it? It’s gotten to the point where the good patches are just okay, and the rough patches are long and incredibly lonely. SO does not want counseling but he seems to try harder when he can sense me pulling away. But again, when it’s good it’s just okay. Still limited intimacy or companionship. 

How long did you try to make it work?",1.2719939117199388,3.829215438356165,2.4445662100456644,91.98304414003044,86.39726027397259,5.984170471841705,19.07001522070015,7.3871296695380915,0.4506298325722984,289,8,62,5,9,92,48,73,0.07400000000000001,0.8,0.126,0.6299,0,2,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,0,2,10,5,0,0,3,2,5,0,0,3,0,15,10,10,0,1,6,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,1,3,4,5,8,0,11,0,1,0,0,5,3,0,2,7,37,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20938922627115672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950308706070394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3738575737569128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19809286252828376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5916861642877816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487642761569677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21067968520935454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028881413716839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17798046601443535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4539325996354774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13145169091799402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16224854672005598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,windowsill1,2020/01/23,"May be on the verge of Divorce. Feeling lost, asking for advice. Not sure how I got here.   


Husband(30) and I(27) have been married 2 years, been together for 8 total. No kids. 2 cats.   


I feel like he's losing it. I want to help him, but I don't think I can. I've taken care of him in every aspect of life. I plan for our future, I do the finances, I keep up with what housework needs to be done. He's a helpful guy, not a classic 'won't do shit guy', but there's always been an understanding that he thinks I handle things better. He puts it all on my plate. For example, if he has a crazy idea to do something that he shouldn't, he will run it by me and wait for me to tell him it's something he shouldn't do, and then put all the blame on me. (a specific example is an expensive concert ticket that falls in the middle of the work week, I say 'prob not a good idea' and then he tells me I don't care about his interest, even though I do, I'm more-so trying to be mindful of his needing to be good for work, and saving money) I'm not certain I'm making sense. I'm just confused. He essentially thinks I'm controlling, and I can understand where he's coming from- but I have the thought 'someone has to do it'... SOMEone has to hold all this shit together- and that someone is me.   


He's been telling me that we're living 'my life' and not a life he wants to live, but he refuses to give me concrete answers on what he wants in life. I feel as if he's unhappy with himself, and the one thing that would turn his whole life around and make him face himself would be leaving me.   


Last night we were in a discussion, the types that never end, and feel like you've been having the same conversation over and over. He hit a breaking point and said he's done. He's ""made a decision for himself for once in his life."" He hasn't discussed with anyone, and from my perspective hasn't thought it through. He claims he's doing it for me, because he's 'such a POS' that I'd be better off without him.   


I'm willing to do whatever it takes. I'm madly in love with this man, and I'm scared he doesn't feel the same anymore. I'm a strong person, and I know I can make it through anything, but I don't want this.   


He's being going through his own issues. In the past year I got a great job I love, making great money. I encouraged him, per a promise he made to himself, to get out of his food industry job. He did this, and has had on and off work for the past year. He's been in a job for the past few months but is unhappy with his job. Unfortunately for me, he perceives this to be my fault, because I've motivated him to get a different job. It's almost feels like he's mad at society for having to work a job and pay bills and things that I, don't have the luxury of being upset about.   


He told me, last night, after he claimed he's done and he's leaving me, that he was putting his two weeks in at his job. Part of me thinks, he is throwing the Divorce around, so he can do this dramatic thing (quit his job without having another lined up). What if this is the case? How do I protect myself from getting treated that way?   


I feel lost. I don't think he wants counseling. I am willing to do anything for us to make it work, but maybe I shouldn't? Maybe I am a toxic controlling person. Maybe this is a toxic marriage. I just hate the idea that I failed as a wife, because I swear I've tried my damndest. Where do I go from here? How do I process?",2.4888427846934107,3.4918833084370715,3.961403872752424,90.5083483171969,74.83679114799445,7.0706316274781,25.145458736745052,7.457515093567415,0.9818103273397883,2644,85,605,31,54,878,275,723,0.09300000000000001,0.787,0.11900000000000001,0.9777,9,0,2,0,2,0,99.0,3,0,0,17,18,34,5,3,38,0,75,12,3,13,7,116,140,40,0,15,19,1,7,3,0,10,6,3,0,6,38,31,1,7,24,2,6,9,21,13,0,2,24,10,76,21,85,96,10,60,0,4,0,2,89,30,2,6,22,378,114,18,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05257103589226025,0.0,0.0,0.05387118507712175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04476446103626966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056412165141177736,0.0,0.0,0.053353416737230576,0.03761699344664108,0.0,0.08854276621880329,0.09578371250609004,0.05029410977611536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09838475773845656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951603761342403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970182068894012,0.0,0.0,0.046342436359746136,0.0,0.0,0.120678643676121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056207730102963295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16516289142268184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04764928915528952,0.0,0.0,0.03553324257458573,0.0,0.04532735336521584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19041411285329232,0.11530046057536265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06505306812497239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08432210939425931,0.051608192021407887,0.06114958055033536,0.09024685413312176,0.08605476430366829,0.11862554057200915,0.0,0.10653746878630864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053114642707943985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07211967775193841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182195057621772,0.0,0.0561514049933888,0.4270917654600821,0.04781836432990548,0.0,0.0,0.029566116107646177,0.08770552261086978,0.0,0.11392917649391078,0.0,0.0,0.22799580729630645,0.07884933542981029,0.0,0.09500969635559428,0.0,0.0,0.0601864905705185,0.11745430924373408,0.0,0.09711005803894862,0.10181042658724034,0.17955377760096888,0.0,0.1621427459203877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05432090525990812,0.0,0.042941256933785546,0.0,0.0,0.07978145449623716,0.04149253376812477,0.0,0.0,0.10097204303828004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057293389870066214,0.036455092493945324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058258271712205614,0.15406957636293767,0.0,0.09394912903176088,0.0,0.0,0.05085674372953389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16224632791264107,0.0,0.05722107042562136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051174463825841086,0.04278253472661835,0.053861442272228166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11044627917707577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13674927037733994,0.08283305598685517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050704222272223626,0.0,0.04044959536518858,0.0,0.1410661484183013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14296469066999956,0.17235875990295174,0.052856516153035785,0.08541961637639364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05140654178700429,0.0,0.07305097267194115,0.058517057049496925,0.05255308168539504,0.11201176948168813,0.06471268136911053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15865803461750866,0.042702553757428666,0.08630743634698093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06006383473852093,0.0,0.1037192034359871,0.0,0.19582886581664627,0.0,0.0,0.07643347905255253,0.0,0.0,0.10393294452639626
divorce,bongo1138,2020/01/23,"Feeling like a fucked up I told my wife I wanted to divorce in early January. In early December I’d felt like I’d fallen out of love with her and I guess I sort of convinced myself that it wasn’t salvageable. I was in pain because of the pain I’d caused her and reached out to a female friend for support. This made my wife uncomfortable but I didn’t care. I’d convinced myself this was the right thing. Maybe it actually was. 

She wanted to go to counseling and try to work things out. I refused. After spending some time apart over the holidays I felt like I had clarity and asked her for a divorce after New Years. 

Two weeks later and I’m regretting every action and decision I’ve made. Frankly, I can hardly remember the last six weeks - none of the details at least. None of what I’d told her. None of the emotions. None of the details from my personal therapy sessions. 

I guess I’m reaching out here for advice. She’s filed paperwork today and things are moving fast. Is this normal and if it is what do I need to do to feel like a human again?",2.2878773584905687,4.4003793915094365,3.850603773584904,86.33543396226419,78.19811320754717,6.881509433962264,24.75094339622641,7.908726449838941,1.4654803773584906,829,30,165,14,20,275,115,212,0.078,0.7509999999999999,0.172,0.9543,0,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,0,0,0,1,2,14,1,0,11,0,12,4,0,3,0,34,33,10,0,6,2,2,5,4,1,0,2,0,0,2,12,13,0,1,6,1,1,4,6,4,0,2,12,5,23,10,31,21,6,30,0,1,0,2,18,12,1,5,18,109,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.1260305208313923,0.0,0.0,0.12620263451116198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12073661944093095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07872786102079743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13167572739092265,0.1326713111324647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14527492710158044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10881336677162212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13060294667330916,0.1845277428022355,0.24800604892289854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997799807350113,0.11939591060146355,0.0,0.0,0.07339819383168178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845437509571763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11569188576124982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10527344408196863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523821642292424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116561762138032,0.2444072831729503,0.0,0.0,0.1297472480471547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13726465066176213,0.0,0.09576213947155522,0.0,0.12473263859044373,0.0,0.0,0.12653832476874285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748466875669542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127676808398492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14630032376603525,0.11029230125683392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14655643701887602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14769281678734905,0.0,0.2574020127966071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07530765724133502,0.0,0.12241788563366665,0.2468142730884715,0.0,0.08768350336196408,0.0,0.12615953343528458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15235052241411606,0.0,0.20719062616943826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09402180634234801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08316754139811268
divorce,Forty_neiner65,2020/01/23,Wife’s leaving. Not sure how to take this me 26 wife 27. Married 2 years been together for 7. 2 young kids. Didn’t pay enough attention to her and I realize it’s mostly my fault. But I can’t seem to let go. I know I still love her. And she says she thinks we can be together again in the future she just doesn’t know right now. She says she’s the least bit interested in dating or seeing anyone else. Idk if I should try or just let it go. How would I go about trying to win her back. Just looking to see if anyone else is in this spot right now and if you have any tips. Thanks.,-0.22071428571428686,1.7711918492063532,1.6866666666666674,99.00000000000004,86.85714285714286,5.187301587301588,15.349206349206348,6.5431188927421005,-0.6595650793650796,447,8,111,5,14,147,82,126,0.06,0.8320000000000001,0.109,0.8457,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,1,0,1,11,6,0,0,2,0,12,1,0,2,1,26,25,11,0,5,10,2,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,4,4,0,0,6,0,1,3,4,1,0,0,2,5,18,5,10,18,4,17,0,0,3,1,16,5,0,7,9,69,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110132928089031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22648123779909,0.33187796895376154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12453110771599515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17680966210774604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705802652158549,0.0,0.0,0.16733973055807996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27612319775595484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17800919104472546,0.0,0.0,0.17148380658313814,0.0,0.3312138288297937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13599890927463162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14616802229689105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27661228268312643,0.0,0.2575814953103933,0.0,0.0,0.258109586033141,0.1474350377439417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293350934515726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15263786349834915,0.0,0.1217677648769968,0.0,0.0,0.1491036623182283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10377231594467656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199095833726983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11504606933610903,0.0,0.0,0.10429179194341054
divorce,Tsry99,2020/01/23,The needle is the GOD Does anyone have experience with being married to a heroin addict? Someone that shoots the dope? How has/did the relationship affect you? What pointers do you have to give to someone that is getting away from that?,4.756627906976743,7.427627860465122,5.0676162790697665,77.87723837209303,72.72093023255816,6.16046511627907,27.02906976744186,7.1686216300943375,1.6524000000000003,190,7,30,2,4,60,32,43,0.09,0.848,0.062,-0.3241,0,0,0,1,0,0,5.0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,0,6,1,0,2,0,3,8,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,6,7,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,24,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35368592939893384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22685499118243801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30482071566204744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2839183782915533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3173631755934978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16950576171780096,0.3112310387741382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34832560561465065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5497914937417971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,saschapres,2020/01/23,"my divorce experience? (from a 13 y/o 's perspective) (im on mobile so sorry for the format)
ok so my parents got divorced when I was 4 (my brother was 6) it wasn't difficult at first bc I thought ""oh we just don't live together, that's fine"" and as I got older I realised it got harder. my dad had remarried (TO MY FUCKING BABYSITTER FYI) and they had 2 children (I have another little sister I've never met - I just found out about her like last year - she has a different mum), my half sister and half brother. (my dad has 5 kids). they moved around a lot, they moved to one area we liked - we were with my dad monday afternoon to Wednesday morning, and it used to be every other weekend but after ""the incident"" we were with my mum on weekends. this is a bit off topic but whenever my brother or I wanted to take something back to our mum's we wouldn't be allowed. one time my dad searched my brothers bag and he found a FUCKING T-SHIRT he then proceeded to hit my brother, it was difficult to watch, I was 6 and he was 9.ok whatever. my dad then moved to a different state to open up a new restaurant, he lived there for 2 years. my brother and I flew down to see him for 2 weekends when he lived there. he then moved back to our hometown he stayed for about 4 months and opend another restaurant an fee saw him maybe 2 times then. my stepmum moved to England ( a 25 hour flight from Sydney). my dad moved to London to be with his new family, ice seen him maybe 5 times in the last 4 years. he doesn't even message or contact us (he has our phone numbers) unless its our birthdays or chistmas. i don't was to have a relationship with him but my mum wants me to. idk what to do. if you made it to here, thank you for reading this it means a lot :)",1.193249999999999,3.2409104916666682,2.9288888888888884,91.875,81.58333333333334,5.888888888888888,23.88888888888889,7.054809383877858,0.8507222222222222,1347,50,293,17,36,446,183,360,0.009000000000000001,0.9359999999999999,0.055,0.9209,4,0,1,0,2,0,52.0,10,2,3,1,15,9,2,0,14,1,25,2,0,3,1,43,46,25,0,4,10,19,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,12,20,0,0,4,4,1,7,6,4,0,5,22,4,51,5,44,19,3,52,0,0,4,2,59,12,2,6,33,185,63,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19105968055811606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110132569936461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140105755739676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09946129840978164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19036728924502985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060172925099614985,0.0,0.07675852923593515,0.0,0.0,0.08911658971243461,0.08588416127712434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07749249083946515,0.0,0.19978031374734312,0.0,0.16844721869121745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21859109294798254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897184806442631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09840728680484387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485228327194956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08901702201843421,0.09130952324763493,0.241337868217716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15490567627749216,0.0,0.08620422355959569,0.0,0.0,0.1830511862281052,0.09923829170259094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07271785094580903,0.5809708685695635,0.0,0.0,0.07026454513352913,0.17597642955050682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12346801987087062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115952520173016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09112803663391464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781093860006143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07259760086873318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07013583496083964,0.0,0.10198277826127217,0.0,0.09710408433637864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06849840588317327,0.0,0.0,0.08387575472423754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07232590956856272,0.1593693453722724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10958615220227017,0.07868407187411937,0.0,0.0,0.10747027112374673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760027746761919
divorce,CMB1876,2020/01/23,"How do you deal with their behavior I 31 (f) recently filed for divorce against my husband about 3 weeks ago. We are still living in the same house. The goal is for us to sell it soon. In the meantime, we are doing our own thing. I am out as much as possible. Now I normally will argue back but I am at this point since I filed that I just do not have anything in me anymore to fight and argue. He constantly wants to start with me and he is purposely doing petty things to get a reaction out of me. How do you all handle living under the same roof? Do you just ignore or fight back?",1.625454545454545,3.4252515454545467,3.3280991735537206,90.79396694214876,79.0,6.7140495867768575,21.743801652892564,7.686295010490155,0.8016380165289267,451,13,99,7,11,150,82,121,0.14,0.86,0.0,-0.9469,0,0,0,0,3,0,12.0,4,3,1,1,10,5,4,0,5,0,14,0,0,2,1,21,17,8,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,8,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,18,0,20,16,5,18,0,0,0,0,17,8,0,1,10,81,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18716065439155516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20939166560463293,0.0,0.0,0.17374817237205506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3247034094319112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22816462946717714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21767349142455364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11031062934118982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436243270706565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3728765613356848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15521035625009372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20686992120807665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19959318311706373,0.2380258071932345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20847280937576668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17465512178743678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14944420917828827,0.0,0.16861468019177686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805407463356789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539724157565417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12453436785027948,0.0,0.16936176683647422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwaway689059,2020/01/23,"What is it like coparenting in the same small town? I’m wondering if I will become an outcast post-divorce, especially among other parents we already know.",6.7650000000000015,8.54514835714286,7.57,65.72500000000001,65.42857142857143,9.885714285714286,39.0,10.125756701596842,4.5625857142857145,126,7,19,3,2,42,27,28,0.0,0.9059999999999999,0.094,0.3612,2,0,0,0,1,0,4.0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,5,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,4,1,4,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,2,1,13,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4394994478240697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4398565225903178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21887807872438966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19457398445274754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4422302934324781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3814313522932008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43190544935621905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,goodness___gracious,2020/01/23,"Affirmations for separated father whose wife cheated Hello!! 

Well my best friend in the worlds wife left him after 15 years for a 15 year younger chef at her job. They have two AMAZING boys he now only gets to see every other week. 

He’s struggling, deeply, can’t keep his house clean, misses his boys desperately, and feels like he’s failing at life and relationships. 

What are some affirmations for him, that he’s an amazing father (he absolutely is) and that everything is going to be okay? 

Any words that helped any of you through this difficult time? Anything will help. Just want to send a lot of love his way. He’s a great father, provider, and human. Life isn’t fair, but if anyone deserves something good to come his way it’s him.",3.6356868131868167,6.0211831071428605,3.9499999999999993,85.92423076923076,75.07142857142857,6.593406593406595,24.340659340659343,7.61054688173877,1.1755439560439558,585,19,112,8,13,182,99,140,0.075,0.722,0.204,0.9491,1,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,1,2,3,15,1,1,5,1,8,3,0,0,0,14,17,6,0,2,3,5,1,1,1,1,2,0,1,3,8,5,0,1,1,0,0,3,2,5,1,1,0,2,11,10,14,15,3,16,0,2,1,1,32,5,0,3,7,59,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24258024389937505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12471264238866515,0.0,0.14677412158433414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871765903258192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15364034080370026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502750085192038,0.0,0.16029741756397026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09018358454598932,0.1274195852235462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13779959117035867,0.0,0.09318512823431728,0.0,0.10136543451044737,0.14959892610996306,0.0,0.19664124194965496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23910033090287774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20580214522084528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17699361954764006,0.15853352498108556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937873928464525,0.0,0.25196023548765056,0.08713711606600054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516343008001198,0.1609758094800015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356499288980712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19149063664594435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421288969137154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13730934270308318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18645937706791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10400246926698596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17423066231887302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052006602356926,0.2831458778536957,0.1430686965970778,0.0,0.1603660100088648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.229714480176934
divorce,divorcemediation12,2020/01/23,"Divorce Mediation Services | Uncontested Divorce Process Divorce mediation can help avoid a contested divorce and instead guide you towards an uncontested divorce which will save money on costly litigation.

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divorce,bridgla,2020/01/23,Congratulations To my ex and his new girlfriend on seven months together even though we aren’t legally divorced yet.,11.4135,11.23710935,9.91,59.63500000000002,55.5,12.0,45.0,11.20814326018867,5.3575,97,5,14,2,1,30,20,20,0.0,0.762,0.23800000000000002,0.6486,1,0,0,0,1,0,1.0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,3,11,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3831630262406023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4630453278444247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5602823959610016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5699638203077387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Yasashiiohime,2020/01/23,"Today I found out my Muslim husband visited prostitutes before our marriage After all the fights, narcisissitic abusive personality traits, this is the straw that broke the camel's back. I am done, I don't think I can go back after this. I am so beyond disgusted and it feels worse than your worst nightmare. I married as a virgin who saved myself from many many evils. I knew he was not a virgin, I accepted it but then regretted it soon after. But I never, ever expected this. After a very rough few yrs and a child between us, I think this is a revelation that was meant to come out, to seal the deal for me that this person and me do not match.

Please do not be mad, it is the middle of the night and I am very emotional right now.

I wish I could talk to someone, I feel very beyond upset. 
Gonna serve the papers today.",3.3730581613508406,4.943033829268296,4.727560975609759,83.63770168855537,73.51219512195122,7.485178236397751,22.9812382739212,8.139509932561175,1.2064264540337717,644,17,128,10,13,214,104,164,0.162,0.77,0.068,-0.9095,0,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,2,1,0,0,8,10,4,1,12,0,15,2,0,0,3,28,26,9,0,4,5,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,13,7,0,0,8,0,0,3,5,8,0,0,6,3,21,2,17,17,3,23,0,2,0,2,14,6,0,0,14,98,34,1,0.0,0.18799810691689806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440150052370787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13501655725084855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366802301565572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12668515319620952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16358189229631034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16237458785962916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17848249122451185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14352617753190652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16045672676342165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17397356035787045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09017586687411004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32173312749238786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12237615262999264,0.0,0.0,0.1489011278422729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.277089199182093,0.0,0.17417210755830626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13550338715668106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13444064962994595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12753300544258078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033387695904322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3008013789338395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19086057787114646,0.0,0.0,0.39275831662285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18246276919642185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16169837399975726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Jay9313,2020/01/23,"I can't stop the nightmares. I go to sleep every night, usually drinking myself to sleep. It's the only way to sleep through the night. 

My psychologist has asked me to set a routine, and I've done that. Last night was the first night I didn't drink myself to sleep in a while, and the nightmares immediately came back. 

I was waking up every 2 hours in a state of pure dread because she just left again. It's always a different way, but in the end she leaves and I wake up. Reliving it over and over again. 

I just want everything to end.",2.1686238532110096,4.1410732477064265,3.3839357798165146,90.21553669724771,77.99082568807339,6.5618348623853215,21.90917431192661,7.554174236665415,0.7105075229357802,420,12,91,6,10,136,64,109,0.021,0.948,0.03,-0.0274,1,0,2,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,1,10,0,6,8,6,0,1,11,10,6,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,5,2,1,0,2,0,2,2,1,0,1,5,0,12,0,15,5,0,29,0,0,0,0,3,8,0,0,15,59,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110159158392618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237668605136076,0.0,0.0,0.10179980537559992,0.0,0.08070376857174481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15141899103851167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13831946369878229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13548102442301585,0.0,0.2593837687377898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23451664422365204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22308871740157007,0.0,0.11898367413022022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11261094084079852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07524033768695061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13037756828706906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079155912250347,0.0,0.14018198709870025,0.14384221749415052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4969565152708042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10068862730963568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5299427923623903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11068404122974154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14580897750858582,0.0,0.07808710374746003,0.2101701784959488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Endercom1321,2020/01/23,How have you guys made yourself more desirable? I'm trying to improve myself what things have you guys tried to make yourselves more desirable. I'm not talking about how to just pick up women/men i mean how to have someone actually want to be in a long term relationship?,4.906346153846156,6.686470019230767,5.364615384615386,79.75538461538463,69.96153846153847,8.276923076923078,30.30769230769231,8.841846274778883,2.5164846153846154,219,9,40,4,4,70,37,52,0.0,0.815,0.185,0.8292,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,2,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,6,0,12,10,3,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,8,8,3,4,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,2,26,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.2672397825253326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5423125304105254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423501612914413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591251260880195,0.18279815464897534,0.0,0.0,0.2983048137127047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.294014269266128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320336800907705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2201116453046864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18193491932898556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3718546938460936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16152484417658575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,JesusInaBathtub,2020/01/23,"How to support my dad through a divorce? My mum has been having an affair and is leaving my dad this weekend for her new partner. He's heartbroken and I want to support him as much as possible.

I'm 21 and have moved away but I'm looking at taking next week off from work to be with him as I imagine the first week is going to be incredibly painful. 

What kind of support helped you and/or what kind of support do you wish you had? 

I want to help make his next week as easy on him as I possibly can.",2.6267857142857167,3.7843736190476207,3.9135119047619082,90.38169642857143,74.71428571428571,6.773809523809526,28.36309523809524,7.1686216300943375,1.3235952380952374,390,16,87,4,8,128,70,105,0.059000000000000004,0.731,0.21,0.941,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,0,3,0,2,1,7,0,0,3,0,11,1,0,2,0,11,24,10,0,3,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,2,1,15,6,20,20,1,14,0,0,1,0,17,4,0,0,8,59,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279931536291643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11587769731888838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07742300181103423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826250283631393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28372645776627275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14424855834876724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11439941176229633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909349979068768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14479159148176934,0.10014518192724144,0.0,0.0,0.1315723834516832,0.28976562359715635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449589865797756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3071591141294165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6183715809003129,0.0,0.0,0.10242847349170972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16070470071551962,0.0,0.3278279625367624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15665849189631434,0.0,0.0,0.09917751517719502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Jynku,2020/01/23,"Getting a divorce as a SAHD My wife told me on Dec 1st of 2019 that she wasn't happy in our marriage. She rejected asking for help or counselling saying that she needed time to think. On Jan 13th of 2020 l, I found out that she had been messaging flirtatiously with a man who was supposed to give her a job abroad. She told me that she had fallen in love.

 The next day she denied having said any of that and that I was making it all up. She told her family that I had beat her, was abusive, an alcoholic and that I was a bum who never had a job( I work nights and weekends and have been making about half the amount she does on average). It crushed me. We had a fight one night when I grabbed her phone at 4:30 in the morning (terrible idea) and she called her mother. From 5:30 until noon they talked about me behind my back, they talked about me in front of my child as they had two days before that. They brought up the fact that my mother had cheated on my dad, called me abnormal, told me I was sick. etc etc. Hours and hours. 

Now my wife wants full custody and the house. I live in a Muslim country and the fact that I drank during the marriage as well as the fact that I'm a man means she'll probably get full custody. 

I understand her having an emotional affair. I just can't wrap my head around all these other hateful comments and accusations. I have only one aunt who lives 4 hours away and she's worried she will die soon. I only have one friend who I see about once a month. I'm scared about losing my son and about my future. I'm not really sure how I'm going to be able to afford life. Rent here is really expensive for any good apartments. 

I'm looking for a lawyer but I don't speak the local language super well. The good news is that I haven't drank any alcohol since she left the house. It's been really easy actually. Haven't thought about it at all. I've started smoking again after a 2.5 year break though. 

Anyway, I just felt like ranting. Thanks if you've read it.",2.959301289926291,4.3810507862407855,3.8086417383292392,90.40998963452093,74.3071253071253,6.856541769041767,22.546759828009826,7.413659706084162,0.6744496928746933,1558,40,337,18,32,498,212,407,0.08199999999999999,0.8320000000000001,0.086,0.8736,4,1,2,0,2,0,42.0,2,0,4,4,21,18,3,1,25,0,30,8,1,3,8,42,64,22,1,3,6,7,2,1,1,2,4,3,1,3,24,15,4,0,7,2,2,4,7,7,2,5,27,7,59,11,43,34,8,49,0,2,2,1,64,21,0,2,24,221,83,5,0.08930494679318597,0.1058117586969577,0.08714874567670015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908796575066451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18219127864944226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950033639415352,0.0834880699699635,0.0,0.08390493725127945,0.06866999161857483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07599193210086867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823806711349548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11518860533538006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09268443533857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07815136075413345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10045604502511304,0.0,0.0,0.1991972447419268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08418875589988799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574675380727842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791826465771168,0.06899678036191667,0.0,0.09331629754737968,0.08566944251894874,0.050754059295874066,0.14980950465124454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09506677648008438,0.0,0.08817014609802977,0.0916526398875824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059859223367986575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638421504389965,0.20609183657532307,0.0,0.100814414694023,0.0,0.0,0.17724275942577716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09703008599354428,0.0,0.06307872498107131,0.04362988603604747,0.0,0.15771580832170978,0.0,0.07499366328068673,0.09990939214087244,0.0,0.0,0.08060120117876328,0.0,0.11922349089745675,0.0,0.0,0.09727926770004604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0712823565114303,0.0,0.0,0.06621848646827541,0.06887748044224032,0.0,0.09497682405708537,0.16761328576479687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09510685373657966,0.18154602953175555,0.13584087254248814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09628583717953493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893291139800902,0.0,0.17163310709871055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08494945502735934,0.07101887812804206,0.0894098311139102,0.0,0.07116448024373043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07387397483917978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06321050099025563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08416885547194494,0.0,0.0,0.14355986684220395,0.0,0.0822199965091648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05722300392936878,0.08774165679832421,0.07089815229443175,0.05207443264646475,0.0,0.0,0.34133881496122664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08723795650064603,0.09296959911981273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05267437143000787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16059174452004696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06501506488222229,0.09069350843375737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057509457757118125
divorce,r3dl3opard,2020/01/23,"Resources for teenage son Hi all, as my title suggests, I am seeking resources to assist my teenage son to navigate my recent separation & upcoming divorce. 


His dad & I have split due to infidelity (his dad, not me) & while he’s outwardly taking it all in his stride, I am really concerned about what’s really going on inside. 


I’ve discussed the option of counselling which he has said he doesn’t need so am looking for ways I can help or maybe even things for him to read/watch on his own? 


Has anyone come across any resources that have particularly helped them & their children? I would love to hear about them. 


Thanks so so much!!",5.07572859744991,6.644428303278687,5.2687978142076535,81.43184881602916,69.24590163934425,8.045173041894353,29.12932604735884,8.515128840125781,2.133947905282331,511,19,95,8,9,161,84,122,0.0,0.91,0.09,0.8944,0,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,0,0,3,0,6,2,0,0,1,0,10,1,0,0,2,8,19,6,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,3,17,2,16,17,4,11,0,0,1,1,25,5,0,2,3,60,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7280825036645685,0.0,0.11424117683955695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174647927154519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14471131747007485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11095796317300533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09547444048353834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18934061224670856,0.0,0.22520468069446625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14107202735834165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516204751226492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16877180847240372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12349437490116626,0.12456487289755162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680387203400035,0.0,0.21524156682948264,0.0,0.16587307638329546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598000593575766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12631002373263953,0.0,0.0,0.1546656222610578,0.0,0.0,0.11160725656478347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333452295344113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11933759121611312,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,frekkenstein,2020/01/23,"Things are moving along... I started dating and lo and behold the ex filed a temporary restraining order against me saying I’m drinking and doing drugs around the kids, as well as mentally unstable. Non of which is true, of course. But she was able to convince the judge that my past (a decade or more) drug problem should be taken in to consideration. I hired an attorney and he just filed.. something? Dunno what it is. But it says I deny all the allegations and I “pray” the court rule that she reimburses me for court and attorney fees. 

The ex has really bad anxiety, especially when it comes to money. She’s very well off but doesn’t like to spend. Is it bad that a big part of me hopes she has an absolute meltdown like I have many times due to the fact she’s kept the kids from me for over a month? She has no concrete evidence on anything, only that I posted I started drinking again after 5 years sober. No witnesses saying I did anything. No hospitalizations for being “mentally unstable”, and I’ll pass a drug test at the hearing. 

In the meantime my girlfriend and I have decided to do the JP thing and get hitched. I’m happier than I’ve been in an incredibly long time, and it was all effortless. Until our hearing in May I’ll have supervised visits. That’s a step in the right direction and I’ll take it. 

I guess what gets me is she told me from the start she would always make sure I can see the kids when o want. And for a couple weeks she wouldn’t even let me FaceTime them. 

Oh well. I’m going to win this thing.",3.008259109311741,4.878643105263159,4.34105263157895,84.76467611336035,75.1842105263158,7.8348178137651825,25.179149797570854,8.617729084823388,1.7322235829959514,1200,41,244,24,26,396,172,304,0.083,0.7929999999999999,0.124,0.9159,0,0,6,0,0,0,33.0,1,0,1,1,9,13,0,0,24,0,26,5,0,1,5,39,47,21,0,6,5,2,0,2,1,4,3,5,0,3,18,15,2,2,2,2,4,6,5,3,3,0,7,6,31,10,33,33,4,37,1,0,1,0,25,12,0,5,19,163,49,3,0.11157773567353653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09284161438642644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08535666238856288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18363793884021426,0.09932784060312456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18632549736454068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09611433951484473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234586422803178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186074057449013,0.3881842493841003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07369604209768345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11658952337642575,0.0,0.06341219849319843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12291545522954905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515124346537994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108218675214157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11409579434906887,0.0,0.109022491281929,0.0,0.0,0.09874278492450153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07447900497740244,0.11312231115486113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22488822839083766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08906028410092534,0.1185894750192896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08485989586505628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12082781456347405,0.10651357398434373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068606278403543,0.0,0.0,0.10676482413722292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07147955458367694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09528677661481008,0.0,0.2661932814299509,0.0,0.0,0.08891300931367242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08589799211644587,0.0,0.0,0.2369258867915489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10516069540404603,0.0,0.08389257120596327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223818690339735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13012374991124134,0.0,0.0,0.10661730799488003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920633172964565,0.06581143937970009,0.0,0.08950092929204613,0.0,0.3009653529536131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07926162210085029,0.0,0.0,0.071852403553996
divorce,InsaneGenis,2020/01/23,"Divorce advice: NEVER use a parenting coordinator Don’t do it. If you have a highly litigious spouse and you believe “if only I could get a 3rd parry involved to save money” DONT do it. M

Never do it.  Parenting coordinators require a contract. Your lawyers don’t. Parenting coordination needs to be stopped immediately. You get to split the costs 50/50 between 1 attorney vs paying for your own. You have no prediction they may side with you. Generally parenting coordinators are the worst fucking lawyers in their field. They fucking suck!

You can’t get out of the contract you sign to and have to endure their decisions. If you disagree with their decision you then file to a court that believe your answer has already been met. If you call for their bullshit record your pc meetings every time. 

Issues you believe were solved in the decree will be brought up by your ex to be discussed again. You will say “no. Issue has been settled” and now the Pc thinks you are the asshole because you didn’t discuss another issue you solved during your divorce. 

Don’t do it. I know it’s counter intuitive but you can fire your lawyer. 

Take it from me. I’ve been recording my parenting coordinator for the past year and I’m now going to have to go to court to fire her. The ex loves it!  I get to spend money and time letting the courts listen to this shit. 

Never do a PC. Worst philosophy. If you have an issue with your en it may not be important enough to go to court. Realize that and let it go. Don’t pay a Pc to listen to your ex bitch about the clothes your children wear. The Pc will make you hate your ex even more.",2.9561933409397376,5.4311051607717085,4.030619230370295,84.03360854683126,77.77813504823152,6.713867856031532,26.752515299242816,7.831003766801068,1.7225864744321129,1279,52,243,21,31,414,156,311,0.127,0.828,0.045,-0.9743,5,0,0,0,2,0,30.0,0,29,6,1,5,10,6,0,19,0,38,5,2,2,3,38,62,13,0,7,8,10,2,0,0,5,0,3,0,1,12,10,0,2,6,0,6,5,13,8,0,0,7,5,41,2,32,43,5,23,0,0,0,3,59,6,5,7,12,170,53,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09644737263344363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891663382173954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10349434855308888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060165902066293526,0.0,0.0,0.3335994117854293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007825596960454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788029994733001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11567431558336524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10198229455269488,0.0,0.0651896587027338,0.0,0.08315803686011007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18249099038689556,0.20626429916410688,0.0,0.22437132088490044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09744467938664857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10428075257420644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4120638210278139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05424230603714683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018525196556493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08907956439485648,0.0,0.06588224790363194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07318394568832877,0.2283679100812189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07506492196229411,0.0,0.0,0.5479669561945212,0.0,0.09421921907344896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07848928595277861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10131294983039364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08251665693913765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07420925098477503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06324223694989288,0.0,0.0,0.11510418476191622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08524411572685933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0635588225816449
divorce,agoodvoice,2020/01/23,"It helps to think it probably would have kept getting worse Married 13 years, separated for 5 months, one child. My son likes to see our wedding pictures and his baby pictures. Sometimes I look back on some parts of our marriage fondly. There were times we really felt like a family, and I craved that. It was so nice to feel like there was someone stable who would take care of me, even though he was often mean to me, too. I wanted to believe he loved me and had my best interest in mind. Looking at old pictures reminds me that things were getting progressively worse. He used to smile in pictures sometimes. But not anymore. He used to spend time with my family. He stopped doing that. We used to take trips together that were somewhat enjoyable—though we often argued on trips, he used to at least try to have a good time with me. Toward the end he would mostly take trips with other people. He didn’t treat me like a wife or lover anymore at the end; he seemed exasperated and disgusted by everything about me and my family of origin, and everything my race and culture after moving to my country with me. If we hadn’t called it quits when we did, things almost certainly would have gotten even worse. More hateful, acrimonious, traumatic for all three of us. 

Our marriage was like a dog that we finally put to sleep. At the beginning it was a cute puppy that was worth the trouble it caused. But at the end it had a terminal illness that caused it nothing but pain with each breath. Quitting when we did meant that most of the years we spent together were not terrible. The dog had some injuries and sicknesses over the years but bounced back with effort. Each year it was a little harder to recover. Toward the end there was no bouncing back. We made a smart decision to put the marriage to sleep before it destroyed our lives and hearts. And we can each get new puppies.",5.129356093344857,6.64781597191012,5.162921348314608,82.43449870354367,69.0561797752809,8.285911840968021,28.86084701815039,8.730908602173464,2.196207778738116,1490,54,277,25,26,465,179,356,0.081,0.79,0.129,0.9285,0,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,15,0,0,5,16,24,4,0,18,0,28,9,4,8,2,70,56,20,0,6,8,2,2,5,1,4,3,0,0,1,22,29,0,2,7,0,3,6,5,7,0,2,25,5,33,17,43,27,13,43,0,0,3,2,39,13,0,11,29,193,55,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08179198590049644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16201172865484806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18842354772198328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06950473856773963,0.0920268122055378,0.08571944601734799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08340570187252169,0.0,0.08327949123639344,0.16781831415253826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893814183726397,0.0,0.0,0.10789940750324097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468197044050936,0.0,0.23100547547855035,0.0,0.04130050073935194,0.058353110493732575,0.07842682165912572,0.0894778308928623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12802526569263034,0.0,0.0,0.06851036792909954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064333653062776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09679268974559346,0.05474922871466612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995266957188662,0.08186608380357974,0.07212605155801048,0.0,0.1371833776681049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07372052876270649,0.07728878586971677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889748409157183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08247479075799073,0.0,0.06519720471435073,0.08681425573534267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07888827263923802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07837537465102053,0.0,0.08571074508344931,0.0,0.05534933762822244,0.0,0.08691462261920961,0.0,0.0,0.08845284787498872,0.0,0.056627503023272914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08806621645119374,0.0,0.0,0.16422445934117527,0.0,0.17375615475187886,0.0,0.0,0.052327108543708006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06508939117489569,0.07435955395603756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16348050414274096,0.0,0.06920826893879156,0.0,0.16156971506689674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06828919317925322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18424243289175415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085308031260986,0.05233805508316651,0.16050285204416184,0.0,0.14288700367632282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055456215769591866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09825250204813953,0.2821855417899313,0.0,0.0,0.04817772511170116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497205551790444,0.2320961022870553,0.0,0.0,0.21040022097478786
divorce,Jerry7234R,2020/01/23,"Parents divorced about a year ago. Don't know how to handle this. So, in 2018 ,when I was 18, my parents had a divorce. For a majority of the year, my father was having an affair with another woman and has lied to me about it. I knew that he was having an affair but was too afraid to confront him.  After the divorce, my parents were trying to just have me forgive my father and they kept saying that ""it already happened, just forgive him."" The problem is my father continues to lie to me, like how he only started an affair just because he couldn't live on his own, and my mother keeps venting her frustrations about my father onto me, but also continuing to tell me she feels bad about me not talking to my father. I haven't been trying to talk to my father because all he wants to do is hang out and act like it everything is normal, but I don't feel comfortable hanging out with him. Every time I talk to him, I just feel worse. It resulted in me just blocking his number so I can try to feel better and eventually I will forgive him but my mother makes things worse as well. Which is why I came to Reddit. I honestly can't talk to my parents anymore as they're no help at [all.](https://all.cI) I just want help on this situation and what to do next to help this pass.",4.105450980392156,5.145863094117646,5.3906862745098065,81.64642156862747,71.0,7.549019607843138,27.5,7.793537801064563,1.6458235294117651,999,34,194,12,18,334,129,255,0.12,0.745,0.135,0.3176,4,0,0,0,3,0,34.0,0,0,1,1,18,14,2,1,9,0,24,0,0,4,1,44,38,18,0,5,11,12,4,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,12,11,0,3,9,0,0,5,7,5,1,0,10,5,39,9,36,26,3,23,0,0,0,0,45,8,0,0,12,148,51,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355688627625036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12891751556540865,0.0934236225604899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12249951015160347,0.0,0.0,0.11585741123157785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975426507088618,0.14242890812863296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10332079466471092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13361483574575658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09842874439957464,0.0,0.10499332987427272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23627766399175426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10330653772366352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349127668153044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10383799650314286,0.0,0.0,0.06420307980039491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11414801449011926,0.0,0.10315719343590066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07798051979371143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12424300031102987,0.0,0.1144621179818245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884945215373236,0.0,0.0,0.5188741967193383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117842066288464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09290264846135454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13131438476542912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08268819653805645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3755928618966439,0.10210879182394343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07761226914541379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06812065802076865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23794623941527035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13781092410561713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10503825729296196,0.0,0.10541493851604117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23810602927391375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15046086556253407
divorce,WarWeasle,2020/01/23,"First breakup after my divorce. It took me 5 years but I finally started seeing someone. After several months they broke up. I really want to cry but I can't. The tears start and then just go away. 

Maybe she wasn't right for me and I get that, but the rejection really echoes how I felt after my divorce. I feel really alone and the night is very dark. 

I swear this is what I deserve to trusting someone. And now I have to tell my son that yet another person has left. 

So many people do terrible things and keep their people. I try my hardest and they all leave. 

I'm posting here because I don't want to share with anyone real. There's nothing to do but hurt until I can pick up the pieces and try again. Later. Much later.",0.7884353741496604,3.2156900544217706,2.5256122448979603,91.50093537414969,87.23129251700679,5.443537414965987,19.7312925170068,6.937597516519254,0.4630517006802717,566,17,116,8,18,186,97,147,0.193,0.747,0.06,-0.9709,0,1,0,0,2,0,16.0,0,0,3,1,8,6,0,0,4,0,10,0,0,2,1,22,22,15,0,2,5,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,8,0,1,2,0,0,2,3,4,0,1,3,3,22,2,14,19,3,25,0,3,1,0,10,5,0,0,17,80,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16184582667208966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638599212643832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10926575090574056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14681830104259688,0.0,0.0,0.0952591142725658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716523248429882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07901345762588434,0.0,0.15004114330245175,0.17118322231315775,0.0,0.13292091152296548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164323050776619,0.0,0.08881032512448271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16728740933438585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13889758342869232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16546453981413778,0.16978491185716268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15843054603403614,0.1569915372781414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247310923548936,0.0,0.11487446829194413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14664630386681748,0.0,0.14994271820052496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21667218220072454,0.13644660551031212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14966090637160515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17786643342011133,0.3003265601811829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13345144644579576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12452483043606145,0.0,0.0,0.17653760377612854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648096041095031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22121364171091606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365845346480649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10381707074239392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736187540439716,0.2121905195511342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289369133292814,0.18434104059168532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006310374381732
divorce,Redwood67,2020/01/23,"I feel stuck.... (Long post) We got married in 2000. Me[F52] He[M56]. We own a house and have a lot of debt. We have 3 kids. Oldest is in college(19yo), middle (17yo) is a senior in high school, and youngest is struggling in high school (15 yo). We’re trying online school this semester him. I am the bread winner and only make about 2000 a month and have a 25% garnishment. So bills are stacking higher and higher.  We live in a very rural area. I am contemplating a second job yet again but just don’t have it in me at this time. 

I told him a year ago and mentioned it a few years ago that I wanted out. I’ve been really serious the last year or so.  We yell and argue often. It’s totally chaotic  at times. There is no substance use in our home. I have resorted to a bit of vodka in recent weeks to just chill but not to get drunk. I grew up with family who were substance abuse. So it’s not for me.

I’ve had issue with his work ethic for years and stated such. He won’t work for less than a certain amount and even then he can’t seem to hold down a job. He prefers to be self employed but blames me for his lack of doing anything . 

I am leaving marriage because #1 I don’t love him except for the fact he’s my kids dad. #2 He insists I have sex when I don’t want to. So much so in the past I would cry during the act. He would bug me until I give in. While he didn’t force me, it was clear I didn’t want to. Now he badgers me and I won’t put out anymore. 
#3 He constantly gropes on me, and when I’m bed runs my skin and holds me. I tell him I don’t like it and he says too bad. 
I have tried to sleep on couch and he just comes up and taunts me till I go to bed. He isn’t physically hurting me like hitting . 
#4 He won’t create an income. He’s always blaming me for lack income and lack of his motivation.  Because I am on him about lack of income and unkept house.  I told him that if he wasn’t out working he needs to keep house clean. That went over well.   

I so badly want to leave but worry about the two teens. My Sr graduates in May. She will live with me or roommates in school. My 15 year old may come with or may stay. I try to keep them out of it. I have let him know that if I leave I need to know where he wants to live. It’s totally his choice no matter what. I will love him the same. 

I can’t even pay my current bills let alone save to leave or pay for divorce. I have confidence to file on my own w/o lawyer. Just no funds. I feel like he will fight me - he has experience filing court papers on his own before. He knows his way around the courts. He should of been a lawyer. He’s pretty good at it.

He can have everything. The house and cars. I just want out. I’m miserable, the kids are struggling, and our house is not a home.

I guess I need to know it’s gonna get better. 

Especially lately as it’s all I can do not to physically punch him when he grabs,rubs, touches me.  I feel like he’s antagonizing me and goading me to react.  I just keep reminding myself it’s not worth it to cross the line. 

I feel like I have to have all ducks in a row before I bail.  How do I get out? Should I just go? I’m trying to gather important papers but he’s gone so far to hide some from me. 

Tonight is especially tough. The underhanded remarks and the teasing and attention seeking is over the top. 
Thanks for reading.",-0.3207813547954359,1.7750963873239485,1.7667102615694183,97.45076291079813,88.64788732394365,4.789403085177733,16.621395036887993,6.245658598839433,-0.5257337357478198,2545,58,609,25,84,846,311,710,0.138,0.746,0.115,-0.9448,8,1,1,0,3,0,97.0,7,0,1,6,33,24,3,3,30,0,62,7,2,5,7,119,108,49,0,20,24,1,6,5,0,14,0,2,6,4,21,40,2,5,12,3,7,12,21,11,1,2,14,8,89,13,84,76,19,88,0,2,0,3,70,40,0,14,37,377,110,20,0.0,0.07724904614068823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558830216457222,0.0,0.0,0.06752553296645625,0.0,0.0,0.0542500132564817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06465896155720924,0.0,0.0,0.053652452525271385,0.058040100929621675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10887532243864882,0.07948827094812988,0.0,0.11095750305015643,0.0,0.0,0.05766239051321907,0.0711794011813567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11232472048828636,0.0,0.07045594657663719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07161701329153218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08612541449589603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05859581711639057,0.06377621841333124,0.06146293350688418,0.0,0.13186440323902254,0.13973253268086522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10218989454037378,0.06254392516947728,0.07410712602562439,0.0546850438913004,0.052144848795061566,0.0,0.07182301944767143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13777067127091536,0.13079795088767118,0.0,0.0,0.3761490686120703,0.06979587738625427,0.0,0.0,0.06804984120758809,0.12939803921223764,0.17385310838650192,0.0,0.0,0.14332460649825748,0.053145125107741484,0.07354625751167583,0.2761413492764685,0.0,0.13333887819276732,0.0,0.1592624071755696,0.0,0.17271325849123226,0.05769823614699336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05542906363235557,0.11768759891205167,0.0,0.04352021487407884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05204047371463631,0.0,0.04792807979762072,0.14503061794496253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06841440206094204,0.0,0.0,0.049586066615145134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062238930665241575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062441724169142974,0.06632987156062063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655420634756419,0.0,0.0,0.06521570884496783,0.0,0.041767550137504016,0.0,0.06437522395281459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05184811840322216,0.0,0.2639356914600339,0.0,0.05935387000156898,0.06801580130112014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06524515058559842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06949246275521817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13631834778557433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0569859828129661,0.060025618912676784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603503239706717,0.0,0.0,0.12459909083481555,0.0,0.17706082656242508,0.0,0.06368903617071736,0.0,0.0,0.05631019510157372,0.0,0.05379523198487852,0.2307330489052019,0.051751189532900435,0.052297955315076916,0.0,0.058620890697847386,0.060439259745472526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14239490418008802,0.06621180012445682,0.0,0.0926296699625255,0.0,0.0,0.20992708232593202
divorce,Choice_Memory,2020/01/23,"How to deal with resenting my parent for picking my emotionally abusive father TW: Rape and Pedophilia on the part of my Father

My father cheated on my mom when I was around 11 and I learned about it on my own when he came back to our house after having been kicked out. He was always vain, would lie about his age, and cheating with the mother of one of my peers in middle school who was quite a bit younger than him is symptomatic of this.

I discovered about the affair when I was on the desktop computer and saw pictures coming out of the printer, which were of the mother of one of my schoolmates masturbating. My dad blustered in in, saying ""That's not for you"" and ran out. And somehow he didn't register me as having seen them. I later learned that my dad had left a sex tape on the computer and my mother had accidentally played it for her friends, thinking it was something else. I to this day cannot believe that it was not intentional. This brings up my dad's really uncomfortable concept of sex.

1. I was on a trip with my father and had to watch as my father doggedly pursued the 15 year old daughter of the family we were on the trip on with. I was 9 or 10. I remember distinctly when my dad told the father of this girl that he had a crush on his daughter after showing the father a video in which he followed her with a camera from behind while snorkeling, tracking her posterior with a camera. He would take pictures whose sole purpose were to capture her bust. He made numerous sexually charged comments to me about her, and has even mentioned her to his current girlfriend, the same person that he blew open two families to be with, saying that she got fat and is no longer attractive to him.
2. While hanging out at my house, my friend who was 15 or 16 or so at the time came to me, and in front of my friends told me how you my father had asked her as she looked for the bathroom, “Are you going back to my bedroom?” This in light of the things he had said about her, saying that she seemed “bad”, and voicing his attraction to her, which made this moment even more mortifying for me.
3. I'm not sure of the exact context but I'm pretty certain it was during the Bird and the Bees talk, so I was maybe 8 or 9, my dad told me that he raped somebody, getting girls drunk while not getting drunk himself with the explicit goal of having their way with them. NOT as an example of what not to do, but rather as an example of a fun little misadventure with the boys. Also mind you, I didn't ask him about the bird and bees, he just kind of told me, which is going with the whole theme of him loving to make me squirm.

Other dads might make corny jokes, my dad makes sexual comments about high schoolers within earshot or brings up his porn watching habits at the dinner table.

He didn't get laid a lot as when he was my age so he's tried living vicariously through me as well, asking weird questions, and making sexual comments about my exes, mentioning that they've posting a titilating picture. After this I've decided not to talk to him.

I'm presenting you guys with this and ultimately asking:

I had a crisis at college and dropped out, I've been here for 2 years and have been cycling through various jobs, going into school full time, falling into deep weed-fueled slumps.

I feel like an absolute failure, like my life is about to end, and most of it I chalk up to my father. So I've been having a really hard time talking to my mother's these days because she's only just gotten past these handwavey ""You're your own person"" shit to acknowledge that she can wash her hands of him but I feel like I've been conditioned to become an awful person, and then when my father realized that he couldn't groom me to become a monster, he dipped.

What would you recommend me do? I hate being petulant as I feel like my father, and sometimes my mom even lets it slip and compares me to him, hitting me with the ""If you don't want to be like your dad, you have to communicate"" when I'm being sullen and then I just get more entrenched into my resentment towards her.",7.6848966087675805,6.214006414392062,7.6518858560794065,77.01193134822171,63.64019851116626,10.499917287014062,34.19023986765922,9.265573868473778,2.8426254755996694,3214,109,634,45,39,1037,341,806,0.092,0.8440000000000001,0.064,-0.9664,4,0,1,0,0,0,74.0,2,10,3,2,36,29,8,0,42,1,57,14,3,10,5,108,105,59,0,7,20,28,5,5,4,4,3,5,1,7,39,50,4,0,12,6,0,15,14,11,1,3,44,16,106,18,123,50,12,91,0,0,5,6,126,40,1,12,38,452,145,10,0.0,0.0877590994390134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05923257881675549,0.06163095268869241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06593669751800595,0.27697631812166434,0.0,0.0,0.11390825929262237,0.061844130935588174,0.04515149003696178,0.16360575013205014,0.0,0.08344987221593589,0.0,0.0,0.08086365409493274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694293385866938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0638034824199519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09553615207191084,0.07636140484542041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06187475478007681,0.08331712990290159,0.06560273524124602,0.0,0.0,0.14676470181663231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13965044134319876,0.0,0.11235382688651972,0.15874372361921302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17167549381996927,0.0,0.15479100501854745,0.0,0.1262845620807622,0.0,0.05923937186620847,0.0,0.0,0.07333949238238381,0.0,0.0,0.06635085673071274,0.0731273415569059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07825747141151801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709302841414987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.073501589713862,0.0,0.0,0.07713097880392683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08047567746861678,0.0757400929526954,0.0523167950922564,0.1809307185847012,0.07423612823803452,0.06540387134689626,0.0,0.062198912806983725,0.0,0.0,0.0629704177610698,0.0668497425641446,0.1401708730309486,0.19776528283783354,0.0,0.07441179655543725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07857500821074556,0.07478810343249304,0.17349634053800198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07772246536989236,0.0,0.10038150929309073,0.05633245675218763,0.0,0.0,0.08224434011124726,0.08020900295684959,0.07070679546361237,0.0,0.19402135731542444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07093717986527938,0.07535432584454216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08297370797152434,0.0787810017714822,0.0,0.0,0.09490039732440214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08390520871869507,0.0,0.07045613609341109,0.1767068102195304,0.0,0.1499226187865232,0.0,0.06742921032411807,0.0,0.0,0.07603028439334145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05702157511121796,0.07325567273907133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06980871547731625,0.0,0.055690318625947935,0.17860044268433567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04920784190664823,0.047460124979294166,0.0,0.0,0.1295698711314219,0.0,0.0,0.2831026284174083,0.0,0.05028767169741565,0.0,0.07235419384080838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04368753961885049,0.05879215362780889,0.0,0.0,0.06659650614438115,0.0,0.0,0.08269487158734935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15784848143832067,0.0,0.0,0.0953954132157484
divorce,ShadowySomeone,2020/01/23,"Waiver of Grievances Hey all,

New account for privacy.

I'm M45+ and as part of our separation agreement, my stbxw has asked each of us to sign a waiver of grievances. There are no disputes about kids or finances and we each feel that the split (50/50 on custody and property) is fair. We have been married for 20 years and our communication and cooperation about the kids is superb. The separation has been inching forward by stages for a couple of years now, and though I went through a protracted period of bitterness and self-pity, now I'm really just excited about the prospect of moving on.

What should I consider in terms of a waiver of grievances? Is this a typical request? Am I being naive in assuming it's NBD? Or am I letting the suspicious and worrying part of me get in the way of moving on?",4.560692640692643,6.3294380779220845,5.7357792207792215,76.79747835497837,70.81818181818181,9.28917748917749,31.66450216450217,9.725611199111238,3.2391748917748924,640,29,117,16,12,213,95,154,0.136,0.758,0.106,-0.4495,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,5,0,0,1,8,3,1,0,11,0,14,0,0,0,1,20,20,12,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,12,0,0,2,0,2,4,1,1,0,0,3,2,11,2,27,14,6,20,0,0,0,0,10,8,0,3,8,88,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997456875468457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364136016441009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10803422979582064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11162988927420008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21848448335648252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4541790576756247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063566693365114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4627515464632714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13687773193450406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22289668862923548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20992241849627108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2570097987739216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16959542575171407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19806736968114216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21698474051027866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751834168468528
divorce,cloudstreetmagic,2020/01/23,"Preparation. Hi all
First time poster. Husband unfaithful for half a year last year. Currently going through therapy to see if we can work it out. 
If we can’t, and either amicably or acrimoniously split, what should I do to prepare? Any words of wisdom, regrets or advice much appreciated.
Ty",2.9244230769230763,5.993562211538468,4.645000000000003,73.33750000000002,90.34615384615385,7.984615384615385,27.653846153846153,8.472884824447931,3.1706461538461537,233,11,38,7,8,78,47,52,0.044000000000000004,0.792,0.16399999999999998,0.7783,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,13,6,5,0,4,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,0,1,3,1,6,5,3,8,0,1,1,0,4,1,0,4,6,26,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3424985431911685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23834784351183186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2981298979724929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19919373757598235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2856992754109442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25765331518663664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27929822755188344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4008202743580068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20437578816166355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25516370419040835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4514131084502114
divorce,Roo-90,2020/01/23,"I left a toxic relationship after 7 years of telling myself it will get better. I feel gutless, shameful and like a failure. I left my wife after I couldn't take it any more. The fights. My god the fights.

She doesn't feel it was that bad and wants to work on it. But after living with her family for 5 years to save for a house and after me begging to her we need to move out, she's finally ready, after I've walked out the door. I even asked her to come to marraige counselling 

There's obviously too much to write, but I just needed to vent to someone. I haven't been sleeping because I feel like shit (obviously). She's joined tinder (to see if I was on there) and to my knowledge has been talking to other men, but at the same time wants to work it out with me? I don't get it.

At the end of day your own happiness is your number one priority. Right?",2.4705698234349924,3.7728998932584297,3.9528410914927785,89.36820224719101,75.34831460674158,6.6587479935794525,22.82664526484752,7.1686216300943375,0.6228510433386831,663,18,147,7,14,220,103,178,0.08800000000000001,0.804,0.109,0.3983,0,0,0,0,2,0,22.0,1,2,0,3,5,10,3,1,8,0,11,2,2,0,2,30,24,8,0,6,5,1,3,2,0,1,0,0,1,1,8,11,0,0,4,0,0,3,4,5,0,1,4,4,25,5,31,18,4,24,0,0,1,0,18,10,1,1,13,101,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11092638410068066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15249406754203634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13619739252693125,0.09943571230946303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442653313692002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14051241093170194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10519813770042824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14447484906527705,0.0,0.0,0.10773843532130144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537738964752253,0.0,0.24743331389528034,0.11653211016078888,0.0,0.17868868271684313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17044569105600926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736430059860444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18821720551143664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35445812778837704,0.0,0.0,0.1593832218286045,0.0,0.14403689733940672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17336947983200368,0.11991109373636025,0.241901060873908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11053352692332442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17512855598482335,0.0,0.13930257212025654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12998457217642742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674391139595639,0.0,0.0,0.163236612039296,0.0,0.13821003802152046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226450444222087,0.1311087203143928,0.14257302933057234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09511588963620994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19242340031268648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375048722282451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100863306260401
divorce,look_itsatordis,2020/01/23,"Lost and confused I've been married to my husband for almost 10 years now. We're 28f and 29m in Texas. We've got one 7yo son, 2 dogs, a bearded dragon, and a house together... but I recently realized that I can't do this anymore. He had a few emotional affairs and I don't even know how many physical ones (starting when I was pregnant, AFAIK, though it could've been earlier) and I just can't get over it. He says he hasn't done anything in the past couple years, but I recently found messages between him and an old affair partner. This is the final straw.

My biggest concern now is that my job is seasonal, so until I get a permanent position, there's no way I can afford my own place. My grandparents aren't in great health and the rest of my family lives an hour or more away from me and my job. I've already decided that he can have the house (I hate it and don't want to live with the memories every day in this house) and I won't fight it. 

I know I'll take ""my"" dog (pitsky puppy) and he'll keep our 5yo dog, and the dragon is mine as he hates reptiles. I've never quite enmeshed our belongings, so we shouldn't have much to fight over (mainly whether I'll get the older xbox, who gets the vacuum, etc... just small stuff)

I'm trying to figure out if I should stick it out for a while longer (work overtime and save up as much as possible) and bide my time or if I should just pull the trigger and get it over with. I mean, I've got a grand total of $4.37 in my bank account (no joint accounts) and a $25 gift card until I go back to work in a week or 2.

I don't know... I'm just so lost. Never did I think I'd let myself get this stuck, especially with a child involved. Any advice, support, or whatever is appreciated.",3.7832357859531736,3.926815085164837,5.2025035833731526,85.95119206880078,71.22527472527472,8.528236980410894,27.364548494983268,8.456263369488248,1.6357920688007646,1337,42,300,20,23,451,199,364,0.079,0.8420000000000001,0.079,0.242,4,0,0,0,2,0,57.0,3,0,0,5,15,11,4,1,20,0,28,1,0,2,3,57,56,37,0,6,13,2,0,0,1,5,1,1,1,2,15,22,0,1,9,1,3,2,13,7,0,2,12,1,34,4,32,38,9,42,0,2,0,0,22,16,0,8,23,185,49,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10015253818105044,0.0,0.0,0.10262943898142203,0.0,0.1131008241027061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0696970599503131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10164304385814228,0.0,0.0,0.08434095527961695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09629320599338556,0.07880887424643955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08183033086371792,0.11340379763798883,0.0,0.06609789879487336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10488337356970454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11528802659031268,0.0,0.0,0.11430400849835985,0.06769401388515647,0.0,0.08635267332109188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09661892946676563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122733417547852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11237555188155622,0.0,0.0,0.3212823615620856,0.0,0.058247717558522816,0.0,0.16394204377573066,0.11299614683011235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20237631583605084,0.0,0.108942617270879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009325051829124,0.35478085658064384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20341202917665235,0.09109827261386184,0.0,0.0,0.16897830842091247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10480348831578036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810019924531214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22376099293858195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10390928853259096,0.0,0.1116422092715812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15068463209375327,0.0,0.15809399612962333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10754654732671906,0.0,0.13890044131434404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978387868740166,0.0,0.0,0.10708076680748817,0.0,0.0,0.11554264822360892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10901127100305699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023940240928324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08150456558381391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07254330903759741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11732711095520933,0.0,0.11630501384591538,0.0,0.0,0.07706010687182438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656717791043577,0.10069640368097807,0.0,0.059763039388224415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695843272394656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06045155702210486,0.08135219466445552,0.08221170333950166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149228620876698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13200105366361228
divorce,rGar86,2020/01/23,What do I do with all the photos? I have several really nice family photos printed on canvas and wood that use to hang in the house. I have them leaned against the wall facing the wall right now. I keep seeing them and having no clue what to do. I can't bring myself to throw them away. They are from happy times and remind me of great memories. It makes me a little sad to think about right now. I'm feeling like I'm mostly on the other side of the emotional roller coaster though. Should I just leave them there until I decide? Should I put them up in case any of the kids want them one day? Or should I just get over it and dump them in the trash already?,2.0723284313725507,3.8541658897058815,3.0594117647058816,93.31401960784315,77.60294117647058,6.003921568627452,17.215686274509807,6.816661863887847,-0.22271372549019608,515,8,113,5,12,164,88,136,0.063,0.8029999999999999,0.134,0.8734,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,8,0,7,6,1,0,9,0,11,1,1,2,1,20,22,7,0,4,3,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,6,5,0,1,3,1,0,4,2,2,0,1,0,2,20,4,20,19,2,23,0,1,1,0,9,14,0,2,6,81,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302492625419197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14188841489189105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960325209269956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13456128700945422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23470194238573716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19669562475610874,0.0,0.10549915899834937,0.14905882427136746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10901044474297314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23003616184163014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22211064640907024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407528304642103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854567396355742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22092907105892592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10193531903599018,0.20912102364746235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927476880383918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14138590250382488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097497855630657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13366583565212145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35637006125732457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16626616882935716,0.0,0.0,0.2357138807688893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336937977999439,0.2049964964633172,0.0,0.1216648583736812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18020566825698048,0.0,0.0,0.12306653407945785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,greenacres231,2020/01/23,"We Started Talking Divorce Today It’s a complicated story that is extraordinarily dramatic. But it mainly boils down to him dating a married woman before we got together, crossing relationship boundaries while we were together, and reestablishing contact with the woman after we got married and I gave birth to our son.

I don’t think I can move on. I hate him. Today we started talking divorce. I have a new baby. We just bought a car. I’m a stay at home mom and don’t have a job or anywhere to go. Besides all these obstacles I am starting to believe divorce is the best option. 

I feel so helpless and hopeless. The depression is a lot to handle. I’m in therapy and now on medication but it isn’t helping. I don’t even know where to start.",2.9780654761904763,5.3728787708333385,5.056150793650794,77.13250000000002,77.2638888888889,7.169841269841273,31.119047619047624,8.192908349453996,2.708729761904762,589,30,102,11,14,203,89,144,0.084,0.875,0.040999999999999995,-0.5669,1,0,0,0,3,1,15.0,7,0,0,1,5,5,1,0,10,0,12,2,0,0,1,22,27,10,0,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,5,12,1,0,3,0,1,4,4,4,0,0,5,1,17,1,13,22,4,23,0,3,0,0,22,6,0,3,12,75,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14487167692787098,0.1918153910261676,0.17866867994558913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14663755983788634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124496575818613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08608438681111456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09675797782493573,0.0,0.27233171188706523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16808832947216165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141161414005038,0.0,0.17077635998406254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689485651401277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093565894678812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14474192692189816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715106998723343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19939676070319287,0.0,0.18095063831319366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644301753045378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18278663593516656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4820201842350314,0.18146568436467495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736837723952831,0.0,0.0,0.19469768322070413,0.0,0.0,0.10909042985107943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32275745342401263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Patsx5sb,2020/01/23,"Got the custody I want. Dont Quit Dads. Keep fighting It took me a year to get the custody arraingment that was fair for my 4 year old son. I am so happy. I will never be convinced that the ""Standard"" is Not Fair.",-0.6193333333333335,1.5523522888888903,1.495000000000001,97.7025,92.77777777777777,3.888888888888889,20.833333333333336,5.46131890053228,-0.15033333333333276,163,6,37,1,6,54,37,45,0.14,0.687,0.174,0.3861,0,0,0,0,2,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,1,3,1,0,4,0,6,0,0,0,1,5,11,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,3,0,5,2,2,6,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,23,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3655744239419203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16296822671139718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494753589428855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3320505504252757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27725376280546776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405762153673453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3273133953862921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3317712203162585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34656076559460514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839817723314058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40173965732204375
divorce,FauxPaws87,2020/01/23,"On a More Positive Note... I am newly legally divorced, but have been separated for a few months now.  We did a “hard” separation that involved very little contact and have had totally separate finances. I did my February budget today (thanks Dave Ramsey sub!) and I thought I would share a positive development! 

When my husband left I was primarily worried about my finances (which probably speaks to the health of our marriage.) I make about 30% more than him, so that was promising. But I really, really wanted to keep the house we had bought about 6 months before the separation (all in my name, his credit sucks). I didn’t know if it would be possible, many of my expenses (cell phone, electricity, internet etc.) would stay almost the same, but without his added income. I was worried. 

However, I am doing better than ever financially! And it’s not because of child support or alimony or anything, its because I don’t have a selfish man-child mooching off my income anymore! I had no idea how much of our money was going down the drain for his cigarettes, weed, in-game purchases, energy drinks and snacks.

Honestly, had I realized how easy it would be without him I’d have been the one to leave him years ago! So for all those soon-to-be divorced folks sweating the financial side of the equation, I’d say: at least you’ll be in total control your money, you can scrimp and save how you chose. And you might just be surprised how easy it is when it’s just you, and every financial choice isn’t an argument.",6.236411464467999,7.0417813356890475,6.761454652532393,74.58931193561054,66.03180212014135,10.246486062033766,33.74342363564978,10.25414643259724,3.5559817039654487,1190,51,212,28,18,389,168,283,0.07400000000000001,0.765,0.161,0.9818,3,0,2,0,2,0,50.0,4,6,0,2,15,12,1,0,14,0,34,4,1,6,5,46,44,21,0,6,11,1,1,0,0,6,1,2,0,1,10,9,2,2,4,1,9,1,7,3,0,1,15,3,35,9,24,19,11,20,0,0,0,0,29,9,1,5,9,155,45,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12096016958191552,0.0,0.1366411524324438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13532786291496834,0.0,0.0,0.11229180867632163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16636484062149334,0.0,0.1161141580419069,0.0,0.0,0.12068440152442007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15304720809726838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13367510622351764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15218471038988166,0.0,0.12343242636625472,0.11497021629780373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07755119128339767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12223793385410205,0.0,0.0,0.14504653752997942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15745210986009633,0.0,0.15404241683375114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12128852187154908,0.0,0.0,0.07499274746075553,0.0,0.0,0.14448739107484845,0.14826003798560386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13676493990084498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09108555922752287,0.13834514808269308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14475844215896486,0.0,0.0,0.21783604076762655,0.0,0.1003109925743451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246623855170186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15383383915046348,0.0,0.0,0.14712284062763067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17483464513425978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10851543066404197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454441309738784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548488550975514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12563051635794725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10833096399585726,0.0,0.0,0.12934450249629606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11259063870191198,0.08048538996039191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630777746318249,0.0,0.0,0.2771557474726173,0.0,0.3877382183893043,0.0,0.0,0.0878733055247328
divorce,meauvan,2020/01/23,"How soon is too soon My wife and i were separated but still sleeping together. We have a separation agreement and its registered.  One of the conditions is no dating around the kids. i had a fellow dad from one of my kids schools ask me where i had been and i said that we were going thru a rough patch and i had hoped to work things out. Long story short he was buying her flowers and presents and giving our three children presents. As soon as this happened we stopped sleeping together and things between us got kinda ugly. i was so mad and i felt betrayed. Am i wrong to think this?  She told me i have no say in what she does but i think any man that does this is not a great person, yet she thinks its okay. I have started the process of taking her to supreme court to overturn our separation agreement and i will now be not signing over the house or setting her up. I feel used and i think she was just toying with my emotions to get more out of  me. We had talked about getting back together right up till player 3 entered the picture. i guess my question is how long is it that is a healthy time before one should introduce a new partner? i think 6 months min. I offered to take the kids week on week off to allow her to date. i work a lot and when i am not at work i am with my kids. I have no desire to date or see other people, but i also will never get back together with my wife. any advice would be very helpful",2.362842465753424,4.077936284246577,3.351501369863016,91.83733424657535,76.56849315068494,6.04186301369863,24.693698630136986,6.742157984588678,0.7295740821917813,1113,38,241,10,25,356,158,292,0.10800000000000001,0.7759999999999999,0.11599999999999999,0.4036,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,7,0,0,3,18,8,1,0,13,1,29,2,2,4,1,52,53,24,0,4,9,3,3,0,2,4,0,2,0,8,13,21,0,1,8,1,1,2,7,2,0,4,14,6,46,6,33,33,2,42,0,0,1,0,37,13,0,7,26,179,59,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11317502876428877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09261881042122322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15751905858648532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10310168169639464,0.10827325777356732,0.0,0.0,0.1781122430187114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09855173387082647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027044685865085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13027853275120935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058560553445282215,0.0,0.11120247936695876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815288018238536,0.11110221659824056,0.0658214682310196,0.0,0.09262943234875087,0.12768864773685198,0.12758547919389446,0.0,0.10241658769446416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07762969157364975,0.0,0.0,0.1150324102569244,0.0,0.13363726430959452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049887950706393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09846346894334353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09244402181109368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08932520775003598,0.11185677711878957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354417830036229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08029292279518467,0.10112693425273377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12974154227414236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09890708237249818,0.11016848569155356,0.0921023243334466,0.0,0.11721298383951492,0.0922911514965368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318012767092393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197586637439994,0.0,0.09249160317529004,0.09682819518695283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741599358377124,0.09308931488137832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15388733267511046,0.3710542750150673,0.0,0.0,0.06753382215412848,0.0,0.0,0.11066810357970076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13931358686507433,0.10002869944461652,0.0,0.09556115161850057,0.0,0.0,0.18580281756593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529484589243933,0.0,0.0,0.08227307150705056,0.1266277046398588,0.0,0.0
divorce,sread99,2020/01/24,"Divorce and Bankruptcy Cross posted in the legal advice subreddit. I’m Posting this for a friend living in Alberta. My friend is going through a long, protracted divorce. Her ex-husband has refuses to pay the court ordered amount of interim child support and alimony. He has accumulated arrears in the tens of thousands of dollars. Alberta has an agency called MEP that is responsible for collecting unpaid support, but they are slow to enforce any collection actions since her ex stays in close contact with the MEP agent and often makes promises to pay by a certain date (then doesn't pay, or pays a small amount).

Recently, her ex filed for bankruptcy. She was supposed to go to special chambers to decide the final amount for spousal and child support (current judgement is interim only), but it got delayed due to the bankruptcy. Her lawyer has since withdrawn from the case as he feels he does not have the proper experience with bankruptcy to represent her properly.

Does anyone have any experience with divorce and bankruptcy? How common is this? Did her lawyer do the right thing? Does she need to find a new lawyer that specialises in bankruptcy? In cases like these, how likely is it that she will be awarded sufficient support in light of the bankruptcy of her ex? What happens to the arrears he owes her? I should add that she is struggling financially herself and may need to pursue legal aid. Any advice is welcome.",7.062718489240228,8.890489134387352,6.822101449275363,71.18600241545896,64.7707509881423,9.890996925779538,37.7709705753184,10.125756701596842,4.3412153711023285,1153,60,176,27,18,363,142,253,0.038,0.813,0.149,0.9827,2,0,0,0,3,0,28.0,0,0,1,1,3,14,0,1,17,0,22,0,0,3,1,29,36,13,0,3,4,3,1,2,2,3,0,0,0,2,11,11,0,2,3,0,6,4,2,1,0,2,3,2,16,13,34,29,3,29,0,0,0,0,32,10,0,3,13,116,27,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24114637091411426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.251723920965712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08627565826311802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259927972040428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3239326344872199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24139400010628656,0.0,0.0,0.06238860770012801,0.0,0.0,0.135165365782458,0.11277426559621533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19065830390410812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14024832478909408,0.0,0.09868454063863258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10911147411928104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12056214837169052,0.0,0.10895373797064843,0.10919437032416199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08236235241993446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18298106449191728,0.0,0.11916876080731492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938420250334615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23634291818675895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12183062279575076,0.0,0.0,0.10537255537838776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20413542011109445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13151503788607144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12899177812086007,0.0,0.0,0.5600763099454809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197340926138418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,talbourne,2020/01/24,"Response filed! Waited as long as I could,  but sat down and through hurt feelings prepared my response. Couldn’t focus on anything today and ended up calling a lawyer to walk through it me. I felt so much better afterword. I’m not hopeful that I will get the 50/50 I want but I am hopeful that it’ll be a lot better then the no parenting time and sole custody she asked for. I also found out I can request my child’s counseling records from the last couple months and ask his new counselor to actually be involved since STBXW has been keeping me out.

I feel better now that the response is filed, now I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop when she goes ballistic at everything I opposed.

Not giving up!",3.989901185770752,5.743662166666668,4.523017127799736,84.97962450592888,72.26086956521739,6.757312252964428,30.66139657444005,7.348242739294969,1.9254985507246376,561,25,105,6,11,178,95,138,0.13699999999999998,0.7509999999999999,0.11199999999999999,-0.5707,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,3,5,6,0,0,7,0,11,1,1,0,0,24,28,12,0,5,4,1,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,6,0,4,4,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,4,3,16,5,17,18,2,20,0,1,0,0,11,7,0,3,11,73,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.16422965688886326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13458382298088747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384907703685327,0.0,0.31466240802468154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4465243529942336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17184593312891594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13436823810278856,0.18621296433664944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14905761462933895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512508649814333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701879590700658,0.0,0.16158763786852912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18452454918336575,0.0,0.0,0.08792612796286389,0.1614419466568263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3343057737121447,0.0,0.0,0.18016109931260052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14958651952315932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13718122790447287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14893397779232664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430766602819432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343298387280368,0.0,0.12371469301110807,0.0,0.0,0.16253839390187386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18686942104875764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392136794012248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09813298102921073,0.0,0.15952205245246764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09926355083616034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,z00verIT,2020/01/24,"Getting close to moving out Just a little background first, my STBXW cheated on me and I found out she was pregnant back in November with her affair partner (affair partner is also married and has two kids). She wanted me to claim the child as my own and not tell anyone, but I immediately noped that. I've stuck it out through Christmas for our 2 kids sake (5,3) but I cannot live with this person anymore. Firstly she's threatened me over custody telling me i'm not getting 50/50 custody and that ""she'd throw me down the stairs and make it look like an accident"" if she had to, and said she would tell the kids i'm the shittiest person alive and its my fault (b/c i didnt agree to stay with her after all this) that the family is split up. Well I got all of that on audio and gave it to my lawyer, but i'm still not going to take sole custody away from her. 

​

I've put the security deposit on an apartment and have purchased beds for the kids and the Divorce filing should be submitted sometime next week. My problem is i'm absolutely scared to death about leaving and how she's going to react, i'm absolutely not budging on 50/50 custody so this might be a contentious divorce (already is). I find myself still giving a crap about her feelings, when I really shouldn't with everything she's put me through.. But I think really it boils down to me being afraid of what her reaction is going to be when I tell her i'm leaving and filed. She's been cordial after that blow up, but I also think she may have lawyered up too. I dont really know what i'm asking here, but any advise on how to leave someone who is verbally combative/abusive would be appreciated.",6.0741488857278325,5.906836405405412,6.482500395131974,79.80254623044097,66.32732732732735,9.052568357831515,32.541330804488695,8.532816995589336,2.437532132132132,1325,50,260,17,19,430,174,333,0.134,0.8079999999999999,0.057999999999999996,-0.9804,0,0,0,0,2,0,39.0,1,0,0,2,16,9,2,2,13,0,27,2,1,4,2,52,54,27,1,7,12,0,1,1,2,6,0,2,1,9,16,20,1,1,6,0,2,7,9,6,1,3,9,4,41,3,43,33,3,39,0,0,1,0,40,20,1,3,12,183,57,3,0.0,0.1304045294375864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12145527549539573,0.1760318102020073,0.0,0.11925126858644165,0.13373640969894127,0.07484539290179981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10915114007277943,0.07695735291018352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10289236860022444,0.0,0.10340612418209344,0.08463027222853182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12899091143335326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989159133972668,0.0,0.1037559079657975,0.0,0.055650251728142835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10059394655913988,0.18723600785099653,0.0,0.12067642938063244,0.0,0.0,0.11500487299691507,0.1055807357938289,0.1876509558398289,0.0,0.08802599914735358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060486759387272576,0.0,0.0,0.3496167704622085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053770344884267365,0.11031024055661214,0.0971860595756853,0.0,0.09242369176498656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07346670833114237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11675754465093854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11697764188752055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11705133910600768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19220239620578145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10531370816909942,0.0,0.2212838183229729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115240767448064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10469340879730328,0.0,0.11019046556910468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325450101487544,0.0,0.10885334504612844,0.0,0.0,0.11731059938978412,0.17579003942487695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08275232814681259,0.0,0.384793373874378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14104555093514468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10751380382160176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06491694972600733,0.0,0.08828445908561698,0.0,0.0989582402447108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15636864306936352,0.0,0.13373640969894127,0.0
divorce,bigjohnsty87,2020/01/24,"For those in limbo I feel lost
I have two paths
Or a million
It's not clear, why can't it be clear?
One safe, secure, right and a slow trudge towards death
Losing myself, turning into someone I never thought I'd be
That I never wanted to be
Can I be?
I never wanted to be the other person either
That awful, heartless, brave, stupid woman 
My happiness is not more important than anyone else's
But should theirs be at the cost of mine?
Or mine at the cost of theirs?
Is it here if I let it?
If I dive instead of dip?
Can I go all in?
Could I if I wanted to?
I'm costing everyone 
I wish I knew what my happiness looked like
Then I'd know
But I don't, so I'm frozen",0.08395833333333512,1.9824922569444432,2.576222222222224,93.69100000000002,84.7638888888889,4.951111111111112,17.933333333333334,6.079149491110277,-0.2857133333333333,511,12,116,4,15,176,88,144,0.17,0.69,0.14,-0.5325,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,2,2,3,10,2,0,5,1,16,0,0,0,6,29,30,10,1,9,10,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,9,2,0,2,4,0,3,1,7,4,0,3,3,2,21,6,14,18,3,13,0,2,1,0,4,7,0,5,6,88,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12832261493172972,0.18803963289955675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14652711583472192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533088017305024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753628151080919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09279406779620833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10429959121172323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39072444893073294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10085870732040304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876633359567423,0.0,0.08965941525279639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15411197709423613,0.2053137995870975,0.20033557597492965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4246296643155276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12435902946461685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16024403870839574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15672649876464173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15549731080730753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14569570206923058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19961887143777454,0.1792739995065409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3247374978693129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655997572708697,0.0,0.21104085714101012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,JoedirtKetchup,2020/01/24,"[MA] Court Date, Used a Mediator, What to expect? Hi all! My court date will soon be here. I have all of my paperwork ready, my ducks in a row. My STBX (F) and I (M) have two children and we have laid out a 50/50 plan (2/2/3). We’ve used a mediator, and feel...I can’t say ok about the whole thing but it’s gone as smoothly as it’s going to go, if I can say that. 

Can anyone tell me what to expect, especially here in MA?! I’m terrified that the judge will ignore the parenting plan and give me every other weekend and a dinner or two during the week. We have stayed under the same roof for this process. How long after the court date should I be planning to move out? Will the judge finally order the state mandatory parenting stability class? 

I’m sorry for being all over the place but I am having trouble organizing by thoughts without going off the rails. Thank you all.",1.8103910427807468,3.8918986420454544,3.5328743315508038,88.17335561497326,79.625,6.641176470588236,21.148395721925134,7.724431198458867,0.8086822192513368,675,19,143,11,17,225,108,176,0.08800000000000001,0.866,0.046,-0.8819,2,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,2,1,0,3,5,4,0,0,15,1,16,1,0,3,4,27,27,12,0,4,5,4,1,0,0,4,0,2,0,1,9,9,1,1,1,1,0,5,2,2,0,2,2,3,14,2,20,18,6,25,0,0,0,0,13,8,0,2,9,95,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243081859727069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497876506203602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08989110955159328,0.0,0.0,0.1947497331809695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17054315466791198,0.30311008674788936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15733005539096767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18895242510970528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3948081801115213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857426744286171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28275621180220306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19901059740917526,0.0,0.1894902469233102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553879014538971,0.16367630241502054,0.0,0.0,0.11810939503010508,0.0,0.0,0.1411377755813465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34733122735359234,0.0,0.0,0.3070903620636398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14260470953728047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19848546241477172,0.0,0.1713739569318633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,nylharas,2020/01/24,"Credit card debt. My ex and I are getting a divorce with lawyers and I’ve conceded I would take half the credit card debt even though my name isn’t on that account and never was.  However, they want me to take the debt now and are suggesting I get a credit card myself and pay half the debt now. I’ve never had a credit card and don’t particularly want one. But I just want my damn divorce to be done. What else can I do to get half the debt in my name?",2.6390868924889546,3.4618397422680403,4.1689248895434465,89.85453608247423,74.25773195876289,7.192341678939616,23.135493372606767,7.447530270364453,0.6789245949926364,353,9,82,4,7,118,52,97,0.163,0.6970000000000001,0.14,-0.5106,6,0,0,0,2,0,7.0,0,0,1,0,5,5,1,0,7,0,11,0,0,0,2,17,19,8,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,0,0,0,11,0,4,1,0,4,3,0,12,4,6,14,0,6,0,0,0,0,7,2,1,0,4,56,14,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702505707666321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206090715992377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17442560500582674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4139204272052749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4073571552350363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17895078250887494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3971180017699897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594621019779253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4672924001085257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18759835664388555,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Xiety23,2020/01/24,"I sent this rambly text message to myself in an attempt to express my feelings/concerns about the separation and my codependency. Then I followed it up with reasons this separation will be a good thing. I decided to post it here. When we were “together” I think of all the shit I could be doing and how awesome it would feel to be free and independent, but then when we aren’t “together” I feel lonely and bored AF like idk what to do with myself. So aggravating. 

I’m also aggravated at how he is so all or nothing ALL THE TIME. Either the nicest human in earth or the biggest asshole. Always there for me or totally abandons me. And aggravated that I even care that he’s all or nothing. He doesn’t care about my feelings or our kids feelings more than his own yet I still worry about his safety and well-being and feel like he can’t function without me, even though I know it will be good for him to learn how to and to have a wake up call, my mind just constantly goes to worst-case-scenarios and I worry about shit wayyyy down the road instead of just focusing on now and it’s so mentally exhausting. 


**Why is this a good thing?**

He can learn to be independent and function as an adult which will be a good example for the kids and also make him appreciate me more. 

We will have the opportunity to discover ourselves and our likes independently.

Life won’t be so boring and monotonous and I will have the chance to make memories with friends and meet new friends without feeling guilted or controlled.

The kids won’t have to deal with our arguments effecting their days (like Christmas). 

I will have the freedom to say no to things I don’t want to do and he can take on some do the responsibilities that I usually take on. 

I can find my own independence and figure out what I want to do with the rest of my life and my future. 

I will have time to focus on myself and my kids and my health and what makes me happy and how I want my home to be and my lifestyle to be. 

Learn to not need acceptance, permission, or validation.",3.4941560606060587,5.307048655000003,4.772272727272728,82.4369696969697,73.7,8.048484848484849,27.37121212121212,8.754623652393294,2.0534166666666662,1602,61,321,32,33,530,183,400,0.105,0.7070000000000001,0.188,0.9905,2,2,0,0,0,0,34.0,6,0,1,4,27,24,2,1,19,0,41,7,3,14,5,90,63,48,0,6,14,0,6,4,2,10,4,1,1,6,18,33,0,2,17,0,1,2,10,8,0,0,2,7,48,17,51,41,12,30,0,2,0,0,32,13,2,8,18,248,66,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16833908465260686,0.08757763353490687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074734928889001,0.0,0.21462172509178226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137394204950998,0.11804844497953165,0.08403471423091909,0.0,0.0,0.0678784746177064,0.10850961794380756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13903517319163705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3193097574530047,0.07519165314715143,0.0,0.0,0.09619791369483832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16263401022570853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3531196728826901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120421200604388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118773639712344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10557578074498072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05784344146192182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14868441613920005,0.205682157761946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21076846994947607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606870088639196,0.0,0.10627395536566628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780426126329562,0.0,0.1016525011859411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019831997360462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008017898672048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10821601478840556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837001733349684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160781910280764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.084053939722231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15827197546989422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20977314924752488,0.06744087591753388,0.10340901005893592,0.0,0.12274592766646965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11591959656077155,0.0,0.1862400872224415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946336890049059,0.0,0.0949730580561216,0.0,0.0,0.20291727363118686,0.0,0.0,0.21377590230518026,0.0,0.07476760652651257,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,newlifesomeday,2020/01/24,"My husband was/is sleeping with prostitutes and online dating I am going through a terrible divorce. I have discovered that my husband was/is hiring prostitutes and has multiple online dating sites i.e. Ashley Madison, [secretbenefits.com](https://secretbenefits.com), etc.. I discovered this by the websites he had pulled up in incognito mode and notes about his usernames on these sites. Besides the terabytes of pornography and all the sex toys, sexy men's underwear, expensive dinners for two, condom buying, etc., my attorney says I don't have enough proof. The absolute worst thing about all of this is my son is telling me his dad is sexually abusing him. The proper authorities were called by my son's therapist and he was reported. Twice. The detective said he believes my son but it's just hear say and not enough proof. I really don't know know what to do at this point. I'm financially cut off and have no way to get money. My attorney just isn't getting things done. He's practically retired and doesn't want to put work into anything. Especially when I don't have money. I feel like I'm drowning.",5.677112030741945,8.204836391959804,6.171274017144548,71.66709725096071,69.50251256281408,9.305468519065917,31.806384865503997,9.773937934552695,3.5101632279042274,898,40,147,23,17,290,125,199,0.071,0.9,0.028999999999999998,-0.7125,0,0,0,0,1,0,36.0,0,0,0,1,5,4,1,0,7,0,19,4,1,0,4,22,30,10,1,1,4,6,1,1,0,0,0,4,0,1,9,10,1,0,3,1,4,3,7,3,0,2,5,5,18,1,18,25,7,16,0,0,0,2,21,9,0,0,4,94,27,3,0.0,0.20727890064633314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14396321937961415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971009032974032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17863640807758724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790274732889885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3615258600564945,0.3902154770920777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08845645966938621,0.12497934583281972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828010403210802,0.0,0.09942416366329668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971735254460208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19228824402842284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08546833475074582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653777234918347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17586607915625202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11207299387781544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664108967227896,0.2782434611199733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17506938611587647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15290793168125472,0.0,0.0,0.20312235821441205,0.232448770299352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17089393410305775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10318594017058497,0.13886164566981746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273606198421927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,maybedavies,2020/01/24,"Head under the sand while sweeping under the rug - what do I do? I’ve been married to my husband for 15 years and we have two kids, 12 and 9. Anyone on the outside would probably think we have a perfect marriage. Everyone loves my husband. He’s a great dad, he’s handsome, he does a lot around the house. When I married him I thought he was absolutely perfect. 

A few years ago I found out that just after we were married, he kissed someone else from work. I was beyond floored. We went to marriage counseling but my husband has never been one to talk about his feelings and although I know he felt a lot of shame and guilt, he just didn’t want to talk about it and also didn’t remember a lot about it. He was really sorry but he just wants to pretend that it didn’t happen. It took a couple of years for me to actually get the whole truth out of him – that it was an emotional affair and they would go to happy hours together and have lunch dates and this went on for about 6 months before they kissed and then he ended it. 

The past couple of years have been really difficult. I’ve told him that I need him to make me feel loved but it falls on deaf ears. Whenever I bring up my frustrations, he always tells me that he believes things will get better with us in time. They just will. My close friends say that he truly loves me but he’s just emotionally limited...plus he despises conflict, even though I swear I never raise my voice. He considers a “discussion” as conflict and said he didn’t get married to fight. 

He’s also developed some erectile issues and says he’s no longer that interested in sex. He went so far as to get some pills from the doctor, but that was seven months ago and he still hasn’t even talked about using them. It’s been over a year and a half since we’ve had sex. He just always acts like everything is fine. I sometimes feel like I’m in the twilight zone. How can I feel so sad when he is so fine? Recently I wrote him a letter (just so it was SUPER CLEAR) and also told him that I need him to take me on a date and address the elephant in the room when it comes to us not having sex. He is the one who has to take the pills so I told him I will let him be the one to initiate, but if he needs me to be the one to initiate, then all he needs to do is tell me and I will do it. I told him I need him to talk to me or I can’t continue being married to him. I’m sick of being the one who always brings these issues up. It’s been a month and it’s like the conversation never happened. He stuck the letter in a drawer and that was that. I have told him several times how lonely I feel and how depressed I am. I feel like if I tell him I want to separate he will just act blindsided, like “whaaat?” He has said in the past he doesn’t want to divorce but does nothing to make things better. 

Any advice?",2.4093076090876298,3.7671113220339016,3.7657446808510637,90.42266318067078,75.61016949152544,6.987378290659933,22.892174540209158,7.616502295504843,0.7946563288856834,2200,61,491,29,47,723,240,590,0.085,0.77,0.146,0.9885,0,2,0,0,2,0,50.0,6,0,4,6,33,32,3,2,33,0,52,16,2,6,8,93,105,50,0,13,19,4,8,5,1,7,5,7,4,1,31,29,1,2,12,1,0,11,12,9,0,8,34,15,65,23,61,59,8,65,0,3,0,8,92,23,0,8,36,322,96,2,0.0,0.0,0.06293403066739725,0.0,0.0,0.06301997657581253,0.1143349743313297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15472057732933914,0.16098533563516382,0.0,0.0,0.043856173445465295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04509369095785362,0.0,0.0,0.057410770170565034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05487719356343495,0.0726594084158342,0.0,0.11407431056172587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05555338989025427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14271639641992512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055546107600452164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06600939457063232,0.11287322832265215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0538740558710725,0.1450876606254165,0.057119990798251676,0.0,0.0,0.08519155374082092,0.0,0.0,0.061624029359054214,0.0579604607081011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956518896447304,0.09214493876477607,0.06192158925334696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07071118491742454,0.049825679733328264,0.0,0.1347757947865654,0.0,0.03665178998755708,0.0,0.0,0.07110168804227171,0.0,0.0,0.1140585697737656,0.06865199699653063,0.0,0.0,0.06618649533788028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06351076296106009,0.07441409433159105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346239489986273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035442633246949816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06594654013445242,0.0,0.15753551955835945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16448413331459374,0.17461726250075665,0.0,0.08609664745204404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15442859134348114,0.0,0.0,0.2390967434920442,0.14921858367964771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0618809694700023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21850426152395327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12312814370935338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06953233558142836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08262932638382044,0.0,0.06367720124255444,0.0,0.07305586775174555,0.0,0.1226916478569551,0.10257185503633247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07285660951516433,0.0,0.05334772132348047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05464311713139993,0.0,0.06378336722375988,0.07219252945158038,0.0,0.0,0.05150269215045564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096978593217737,0.2073420791613355,0.16910424567590207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569006967692352,0.04132330598917977,0.06336219846742222,0.05119874596144063,0.07521058199317544,0.0,0.0,0.30812014679527105,0.07165200782906195,0.0,0.0,0.06299845381756973,0.0,0.15514975479643442,0.055699621769372376,0.0,0.0,0.15215413515002688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17935174448097002,0.0,0.07200203294514769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04695030382100537,0.0,0.0,0.09162528334749584,0.0,0.0,0.20765083593850886
divorce,Rickydoowop28,2020/01/24,"Almost one year after my Divorce and I accidentally saw a picture of her on Facebook...now feel like any progress I made is gone. I guess I’ll get straight to the point, I was on social media and was browsing. I recently got out of the military after 8 years so I am back home trying to rebuild my life.  After 10 mins or so I was trying a comment on an old co-worker’s picture and then boom! There she was....it felt like someone had punch me directly in my heart and I couldn’t breathe anymore....that was last night and now my stupid brain can’t get her out of my mind...ever since I got home for some reason i have been having dreams about her and I have no idea why and it only hurts. Then that happens to me with the social media....I am done...
I suffer from PTSD from my time in the Military and we had understood what that meant but it was to much for her to deal with it...and well that’s that...I have never been a outgoing guy, I am relatively shy guy and I keep to my self. I find it hard to talk with women and make new friends. Needless to say I am a completely different person after my diagnosis. It is terrible and I know that the only way to get better is to move forward, however I do miss the support that I once had. And now that I’m alone it feels like I will never be ok again. 
It’s been a rough year and well it’s hard to stay positive. Either that is normal or I’m not normal and there is something seriously wrong with me. 
Thank for the vent.",0.8791055718475107,2.8697977987013026,2.9582153330540457,91.54983452031841,82.37662337662337,5.922245496439046,20.64976958525345,7.1029339738359605,0.4321544616673654,1134,33,253,15,31,383,160,308,0.113,0.767,0.12,0.7452,2,1,1,0,1,0,44.0,1,0,0,2,11,17,1,0,13,1,30,4,3,3,2,46,53,21,0,3,5,0,6,3,1,1,1,2,2,5,15,21,0,1,9,1,0,3,6,7,2,1,20,9,37,10,35,30,3,36,0,3,1,0,19,10,0,5,26,167,52,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10704523928551693,0.11071650295602876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726958905156719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08219975559897039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09454465517332364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11933612291165435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11208296267636013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020954677856504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116880928079432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093961531142506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10810403820330186,0.152739234952795,0.10264108150053758,0.0,0.09770496542382012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08259093017467732,0.0,0.1675530316299157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709959196805756,0.0,0.11776276610714392,0.21169626810283293,0.09453160922667243,0.0,0.19152339754524306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12667740635996666,0.0,0.0,0.2144594952444304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114439014776715,0.12067746119340395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09501792553122436,0.0,0.0,0.058749625963406736,0.08713803716310857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07550686485792729,0.15667830522949747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115167747089383,0.0713568007104295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10793885995691994,0.0,0.0,0.11361813356493418,0.0785840430348926,0.0,0.16489625017206375,0.103245005345164,0.0,0.10031871855711627,0.20947925362204067,0.0,0.0,0.11217391429961708,0.11384536314431724,0.07243843055621388,0.1626050369332367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09334124526380357,0.0,0.0,0.10105536557283086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12496076574924712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099113439896992,0.10555117982715356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08501143348704078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11152035881824056,0.0,0.0,0.08842905807582058,0.0,0.0,0.2179428493587871,0.09057630313686252,0.08229709710459998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11394152878262888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12130922823708555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08592243635179002,0.0,0.09841946182171107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06233444239035841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14515661458928306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08485250655842505,0.0,0.0,0.19223247068504765,0.0,0.09646092100296473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07782471378843586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168787299182069,0.0,0.2065209239512587
divorce,thelma_edith,2020/01/24,"Disabled spouse - safety concerns 

42m has a severe autoimmune disease.  We (i am 42f) have 2 girls 10 and 14 y.o. (almost).  Long story short, he really needs to be in some sort of disability housing for better access to bathroom, ease of mobility issues, ect.  We live in a rural area with limited housing options.  I'm also suspect that he wont be able to work much longer. He sleeps/lays in bed playing video games when he isnt working and I understand he is in chronic pain but i have to think about my kids as well and it is a very toxic household.   Also it's getting to be very unsanitary conditions(I'll spare the details).  He blows me off if I approach the subject and TBH we hardly talk to each other anymore. 

Im hesitant to file for divorce as I've read that the  disabled spouse will get more and really he has nowhere to go. And it's not that I exactly want to be inhumane to him but he wont cooperate.  

I'm wondering if there is any other route I can take other than divorce, like thru CPS, ect.",2.3011154752553047,4.4244916069651765,4.327829274679234,82.8764728986646,78.20398009950249,7.017648599109718,26.99685781618225,8.032893268588372,1.898128358208956,787,33,152,14,19,269,129,201,0.055999999999999994,0.877,0.067,0.4708,0,0,0,0,2,0,26.0,3,0,0,4,6,5,0,0,6,0,17,2,0,0,1,28,28,15,0,4,5,2,1,1,0,3,2,0,1,2,9,11,0,1,4,4,0,2,4,1,1,0,0,1,12,4,25,21,4,11,0,0,0,0,20,7,0,7,3,89,21,3,0.17046956583879422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17070064590978493,0.0,0.0,0.2726489004246519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11592515042087588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16906000277330052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15076647792208536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17812662455781575,0.0,0.09688178273887313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527072473564588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3933979825918856,0.0,0.0,0.18413638383026454,0.17792593735206366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08328281911846537,0.0,0.15052774978288075,0.15086020140293546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12531474537115114,0.1264010230574403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18139163705052225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17051569732430588,0.0,0.2184143379980744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19258208716505668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281718983115425,0.13701697974883567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10923001453011792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17746482997031998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813104896683851,0.10054736664587498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15327261226091324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18486697240734626,0.2482077484267449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,unfuct,2020/01/24,"Help me navigate limbo? I'm sure some of you have been in this situation - divorcing but can't yet afford to live apart, and/or nervous about vacating the family home. For now we're all stuck in the same house, unable to talk because we have small children (who haven't even been told yet, though certainly they can sense that something's wrong). We are basically ignoring each other as best we can but the resentment is palpable. And we still cook for each other even though we can't stomach eating in the same room. It's weird and confusing and there's no end in sight. How do you deal? How do you keep yourself civil and keep from going off the deep end?",4.214765624999998,5.912393445312502,4.705125000000002,84.12737500000003,71.578125,8.557500000000001,25.3,9.120678840339163,1.9179725,523,16,103,11,10,166,89,128,0.14300000000000002,0.769,0.08800000000000001,-0.7839,1,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,5,3,1,1,12,9,1,2,5,0,13,3,1,2,3,25,19,11,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,6,11,2,3,0,1,0,1,4,6,0,0,4,1,10,3,13,15,7,16,0,0,1,0,16,9,0,2,6,72,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11863687997835333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042388154520811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006418573165251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19914205104511584,0.0,0.0,0.3447462673190266,0.0,0.0,0.2570857395879973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18346783943336686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11060547815387536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304478521400554,0.0,0.19521698756035505,0.0,0.0,0.22456219703669109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3459695391952387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17185061287566564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21875796296602626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498258807651396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15542160133098246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834244715455833,0.0,0.0,0.15642598775423913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38242095465183024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18596513936537876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21278343062877514,0.0,0.0
divorce,ca0210,2020/01/24,"Unique custody arrangements Currently STBXH and I are still living in the house. 2 kids 9&13. He works from home during the day and works out of the house in the evenings on a very varied schedule that changes constantly. He has always gotten the kids to/from after school activities. I work in an office and get home in time to fix dinner, follow up if homework isn’t done and I do bedtime... I also handle mornings getting up, dressed, fed, pack lunch check lunch accounts for $ etc.  as he often works late and sleeps in. He also sees them more in the summer since the last 2 years they haven’t gone to camp. 

Currently this is still the case but when I am home he is retreating to his room and watching tv. Doesn’t interact with the kids at all. 

Is it possible to get a 50/50 split that doesn’t rely on overnight counts but rather time spent with the kids while awake?",4.2809321266968325,5.8710916,4.155882352941177,88.55839366515836,71.23529411764707,7.113122171945702,25.429864253393674,7.61054688173877,1.169755656108598,692,21,138,8,13,211,110,170,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,2,4,8,0,0,0,13,0,12,5,1,0,1,15,21,14,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,4,4,9,4,0,0,1,3,2,4,0,0,0,5,2,8,0,23,16,3,31,0,0,2,0,13,13,0,2,16,81,12,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320371063107138,0.12071623595266613,0.1571915851738717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15347292881761596,0.0,0.0,0.1567774118506338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09356308942501976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14846481717904692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16179994165865605,0.0958224268872927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273912701733754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4365741689361206,0.0,0.0,0.3348002847872122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825765704257353,0.16365392084312988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12810623268490087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16355326455532654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14682633834569986,0.11560811261743947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12000974044152027,0.0,0.1451824344377889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317184150954645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691919017257811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11970426415774416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4224730605488416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09342525718142272
divorce,Lifeis_fallingapart,2020/01/24,"Very Depressed and Feeling Lost I mid (30s M) and stbxw mid (30s F) with one toddler child. Married 13 years. Few months ago wife said she wanted a divorce,she fell out of love with me, shes been unhappy for along time.I sae texts on her phone she had been involved in an emotional affair with a married coworker. A few weeks later saw more texts they are now involved sexually. I wanted to try to fix our marriage and stbxw is showing no signs of wanting to reconciling so were divorcing.

Ive gone into very bad depression due to this. She was my first real relationship since we met so young. Im feeling completely hopeless right now. All I want to do is sleep because  when I sleep I dont think about my life imploading. Before I go to sleep I pray that i wont wake up. I've also struggled with PTSD  for some years due to my last job and current careers which has made the entire situation worse. Many times the past few months I though about just eating my gun. The only thing keeping me alive is my child. Started therapy immediatly when this whole thing started but I feel like it isnt helping at all

We agree on things when it comes to the divorce.",2.821245581201911,4.9540035720524,3.812202121023084,87.15356622998547,76.59825327510917,6.632647119983367,26.188604699521733,7.62386473244151,1.4159181118735713,914,35,183,13,21,294,149,229,0.098,0.8240000000000001,0.078,-0.5419,2,0,0,1,2,1,21.0,3,0,1,2,12,8,0,1,8,0,16,7,4,1,2,32,36,12,0,4,2,1,3,1,0,1,1,1,0,2,9,14,1,1,5,1,0,4,4,6,0,2,11,5,27,2,26,24,8,36,1,4,1,1,24,10,0,1,23,110,36,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10621544460739668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09582203524954562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10004680891609456,0.07304270312585807,0.0,0.10196014906611507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10321650118260517,0.12563164468938315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064059418212739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404311146724417,0.0,0.0,0.12260836357983228,0.0,0.13478422040588978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18175761676099775,0.08560124053432504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10192098418856006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06809790603361443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08031451719743843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12942889580428427,0.0,0.11890537371752938,0.1065037716207584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09767135577434964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08463419765974063,0.05853923648194966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13080044772406912,0.0,0.10814451297522268,0.11337897661085546,0.0,0.12148124017739725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19128240313832767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08119484846035617,0.09113043471061387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143841646377908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400661273386718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363842734794563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12864455663422947,0.0,0.1023277873082627,0.11397866665869112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09911843637178826,0.1346855459133821,0.3597271980719485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16962200921422824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12526452631491586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13702750754996718,0.0,0.23881429726300046,0.07677744004330475,0.1177250289489979,0.0,0.13973896355521725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08135163361559153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977322748420202,0.2826977345878602,0.0,0.0961144072856054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13377757744962696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12210939645078275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15432356366052138
divorce,GeminiJeanna,2020/01/24,"Advice on how to deal with Ex on visitation I am looking for advice on what to say/how to deal with my exhusband who is a narcissist. 

Specifically, it has been 77 days since he has seen his children and we live only 8.5 miles apart.  He will claim he was busy with work or building his new house but those are excuses.

I find it hard to take him seriously as I simply cannot believe he misses them or cares.  He has never really parented and he is not co-parenting now.

We are getting divorced (Have been separated for a little over a year) because of his narcissistic ways and because he could not handle it when I was diagnosed with Stage 3 breast cancer.

Any ideas on simply how to deal with him?",6.000869565217393,5.960787746376816,6.956340579710144,75.91320652173916,66.46376811594203,10.378260869565215,31.018115942028984,10.125756701596842,2.918402898550725,551,19,108,12,8,185,91,138,0.071,0.8859999999999999,0.044000000000000004,-0.5791,2,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,2,0,1,1,4,3,0,0,3,0,16,3,1,2,1,21,22,10,0,1,5,3,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,6,10,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,5,3,13,1,19,15,0,17,0,1,2,1,26,8,0,2,6,70,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3354746596160335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11672992960398848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092761571939646,0.0,0.0,0.19339415555701564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750116786280576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13705095692705713,0.0,0.0,0.11070198769930267,0.5309001325615222,0.0,0.17422418676529414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15688773677549106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896816103741952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153767376356393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19806452114826134,0.0,0.19377534892233375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17204140583064165,0.1515727482070038,0.0,0.14414529225095662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13238937949592272,0.1657835418262916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305498452514227,0.0,0.0,0.19060034824260966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10996531040267568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13650535918996853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14199313951470535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12906169724858646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13625016554617525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12496543198705605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11053890732830364
divorce,ILoveTheHobby,2020/01/24,"Will I ever get a good night’s sleep again? Married 23 years, separated 9 months (only out of the marital home for 4 months), 4 kids, 3 are minors .... stbxw has made this contentious by hiring an attorney and suing me instead of working out a separation and property settlement agreement. 

I hardly sleep. Anxiety is high, stress is overwhelming,  miss my family, I miss her, the loss is unbearable. When will my mind stop racing? When will I be able to see the possibility of life after divorce? Final decree scheduled for a few months from now. 

When does the pain end?",4.501143162393163,6.797736144230767,5.595512820512823,75.52726495726499,72.17307692307692,8.852991452991454,27.901709401709404,9.444778638647367,2.834204273504274,445,17,76,11,9,147,79,104,0.191,0.753,0.055999999999999994,-0.8929,0,0,0,0,1,0,21.0,0,0,0,2,7,8,0,2,8,0,9,4,2,1,1,8,14,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,1,1,1,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,1,2,8,2,11,9,1,19,0,4,1,0,3,3,0,0,16,47,9,2,0.1839576797896931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14072712152480366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609826052528885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16293190276153716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664002531457026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734189286914833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20151664642925798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09611029511687916,0.0,0.0,0.15429497399459244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16478994812088624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19436138867527875,0.18452455182146965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12993474951037548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17406520452762533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857448161478716,0.0,0.4404997948484854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17263182084764125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13990810493058947,0.19574394127702102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.207384643813586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146590453711294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3681810636520196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15379685738381735,0.21072290067097146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13392338181228866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11846271449511715
divorce,randomcorpse69,2020/01/24,"How do you deal with the loneliness of being alone. Throughout my life I have always had a group of friends. When I got married most of them didn't like my wife and stopped talking to me.  She is leaving menow, I feel so alone. I go to work, come home and don't really talk to anyone all day. I have a therapy appointment today, hopefullyit will help.  I just wish I could connect with someone again.",2.8143761301989163,4.79922830379747,3.7481374321880665,88.2913924050633,76.08860759493672,7.0459312839059685,26.475587703435806,7.957251820313856,1.5576676311030742,312,12,64,5,7,100,61,79,0.136,0.757,0.107,-0.0798,0,2,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,1,1,5,2,0,0,3,0,10,1,0,1,1,13,15,5,0,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,5,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,3,1,13,2,8,9,2,7,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,1,6,43,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4423300185552416,0.0,0.0,0.17768396868694114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14931346275462348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839474400093857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17049583243273175,0.0,0.0,0.13771686070602268,0.2201523240437253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10797320170813632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16498194352818665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12136078380260118,0.0,0.17078896620140455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14313263542930815,0.0,0.21419993853240468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261100408678121,0.0,0.0,0.15083096034436505,0.10432578674516636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13680041027226494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180933360327978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17853059158200155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3432737835017515,0.0,0.0,0.2442037749379856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2024127539981261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455626483234671,0.0,0.0,0.15546104769840333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Anakin719,2020/01/24,"I'm about to be divorced Reposted from relationship advice..

So going to try and summarize some stuff and what not.. I'm an emotional wreck still but I'm processing.. 

Started off almost 9 years ago dating as a long distance relationship great chemistry everything. Got diagnosed with brain cancer 2 months after we got married. Had to deal with chemo and radiation and some strokes. Went through all that also a hysterectomy and endometriosis stage IV. 

Thought our relationship was okay we talked cuddled quite often. No sex ever.

My problems with the relationship was a lack of sex and that she was so quiet and would not communicate very well.

My problems were anger and addiction to sex stuff whether it be online chats or porn. She also knew about the chats and porn so it was not like it was a secret to her.

So most recent events.. her dad was diagnosed with bone cancer recently I had been okay with her going to visit but had several concerns with how close she got to the dad. She would allow him to give her massages with oil and in the nude and I stated as much to her about how that made me feel. 

Last night he brought her home. Everything seemed fine. They visited cooked dinner everything was good. Cuddled intamitly last night. I texted her on my last break to see how things were going and if dad started making it home yet no response and no response when I called. 

Came home from work to find an empty house of her stuff. All of her belongings are gone and everything. Called her dad to see where shes at and he says you will get papers in the mail. Ask to talk to her he let's me. She says I'm done with this I say okay and hang up.

Discussed all this with my parents we are pretty much at the conclusion that her mom and dad are putting an end to this for whatever their endgame is and that my wife really didnt want it to be over. She is super close to her parents and we all feel as though she loved them more than she ever loved me.

Also just out of the blue at 8 she messaged me saying she was okay. Like if you wanted to leave me so bad why are you texting me to say your okay..

My questions are as follows

 1. Should I reach out to her to figure out the reason as to why she left? Parents are advising me to say nothing to her.

 2. I still love her deeply.. if by some miracle she decides to buck mom and dad and say she wants me back how do I proceed.

 3. What should my next steps be? Parents are advising to wait on a lawyer till we get the actual papers.

Just some small tidbits; no kids. No real assets other than my xbox that she could come after. Minimum wage job. We survived because of her ssi..

Tldr: world is completely upside down and looking for advice and opinions.",2.411161157611005,4.748890334586466,3.318701943538091,89.1474499929068,78.92481203007519,6.4962973471414385,23.00766066108668,7.6368930633389525,1.0550387572705353,2126,69,428,33,53,676,257,532,0.1,0.7879999999999999,0.11199999999999999,0.8633,6,0,0,0,1,0,52.0,7,4,3,5,28,19,1,0,17,5,39,22,3,8,6,103,78,50,0,14,12,13,3,2,0,5,7,8,3,1,21,45,2,1,12,4,2,14,9,4,1,0,26,16,71,15,73,41,13,65,0,0,4,11,97,20,0,14,30,296,92,8,0.0,0.0,0.06413206440113403,0.07164318760198346,0.0,0.12843929281051766,0.05825574700491444,0.0,0.06580788067739694,0.0,0.0,0.15766589115999774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061438202448754024,0.0,0.0,0.05053369719451052,0.054872449203673984,0.040061567784076664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733639103381953,0.13421247610539155,0.075164794415928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0566109232216834,0.0689049067759242,0.0,0.0,0.05247111065516268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06775319250367708,0.0,0.13340638821563286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06725314492041012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392479947942847,0.05820734648040553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11889282608397275,0.0,0.0,0.2362552634517325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06645879531225614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06006578853124098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06867071645741374,0.06304345704775155,0.112048517994409,0.05512180769553096,0.1576839729693178,0.07245520409546162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977639309423694,0.0,0.0,0.0758306664838797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06521576400133823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16070876921851904,0.0,0.0695867154365741,0.07140366364962207,0.06720192102880261,0.0,0.06421376783684495,0.0,0.0,0.05815906600692811,0.05518723655571574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17794133643579935,0.06218471335813761,0.04386780634071672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15393811812329086,0.052456115609680685,0.0,0.09662175285337192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06989268462497977,0.12334527541028692,0.0,0.06305895677059646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918917806279417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06685964140216134,0.0,0.1257680236376251,0.0,0.06606554117527846,0.07362009146267984,0.06990002854794089,0.0,0.07480237700492551,0.04210114325169642,0.06756986726961405,0.12977876445110784,0.2822295673682533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36583556783366394,0.0,0.0,0.10473874281553423,0.05982792323830444,0.0,0.07424353285376549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09303220347826158,0.0,0.10496623002841908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22569689344287824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056445569497617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04366064757635995,0.0,0.06456838294985076,0.05217338280157871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04461874827962978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05422488895320581,0.11628794498215075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059089089704498436,0.060921981878123324,0.11860198214819212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04784406586342122,0.0,0.0,0.09336949358080536,0.0,0.0,0.04232074965526283
divorce,Magic8Ball15,2020/01/24,"I don't know where to begin Hello. I'll try to keep this brief. I've been considering divorce for a while now. I feel like tonight is the last straw and I just live in fear. My husband has turned controlling. I wasn't home today when he was home.  I was gone about 2 and a half hours. His go to argument is I'm out with some other man. I offered him my phone, I showed him a receipt of where I was and at what time. We have a security camera and I always tell him to look at it if he suspects suspicious behavior. 

This is my biggest button and he knows it. I've never cheated. I had an ex act very similar. Always accuse me of cheating, then low and behold, he's the one cheating. Anytime I do something my husband doesn't agree with, it's back to this cheating business. 

I usually get VERY defensive. Tonight he brought up a situation where I threw my phone in last March. Because I threw it, that meant I was cheating. (I threw it because I was hormonal pregnant and we were arguing about....him thinking I was cheating. So I got pissed and threw it. Stupid, I know) 

Anyway. I was going to wait out the year. This past New Year's Eve I was certain that we were going to make it. I gave myself the timeline of ""this time next year"" before I made any rash decisions, as we have a young baby. Obviously, a lot of adjustments. 

But.... I can't do this. I gave him my debit card, my car keys, that way he knows I wont leave anywhere tomorrow. I tell him ""you can look at my phone at any time"" and I mean it. Nothing, absolutely nothing to hide. I have ONE male on my Facebook friends list. 

I'm a stay at home mom and most my ""outings"" consist of Walmart, the dollar store, an occasional Starbucks. My days, and my life is very empty. 

The thing is, I believe this marriage will not get any better. I'm scared to make any moves on the divorce process because I don't know how to start. Currently, I'm trying to get a job. That's why I was gone today for two hours. At the library printing resumes. We have a computer at home, no printer. My husband knows this and STILL didn't believe me. 

I'm scared. I feel as if my life will always be lived this way.  Our relationship is very parental. There's also a significant age difference. 

I believe a seperation is going to get ugly. Real ugly. I actually think he WANTS to discover I'm cheating so he can bail. You're never ""the bad guy"" if the other person cheated. If he thinks I'm cheating, that green lights him to treat me badly, not be accountable for anything he's done. 

How do I leave this relationship?? I want nothing from him. The home we had was his prior to meeting. I don't want a dime from our bank account. I will not fight child support or alimony. I just won't.",1.1126648517846365,3.386946090744108,3.0252568058076257,89.72952465214762,83.55535390199637,5.778596491228073,24.428342407743497,7.100725674708028,1.0508344585601943,2100,84,439,29,60,702,249,551,0.149,0.789,0.063,-0.9941,4,0,1,0,3,0,92.0,8,1,0,2,17,27,14,3,26,0,47,4,2,6,4,69,99,28,0,7,11,6,2,1,1,5,2,0,5,5,27,22,0,5,16,1,7,15,15,20,0,4,30,6,77,7,44,62,3,73,0,1,3,0,57,19,1,8,37,270,104,2,0.0,0.0,0.07062104105492628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05787291935033386,0.18064871861165627,0.0,0.0,0.19685175683550488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05955296117158083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05564677104278022,0.12084904873040375,0.1323451685029788,0.0,0.061580110133167686,0.2446029442423521,0.0,0.06400389808232528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08116722447233482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04667157951204142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07560949157817512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07405791709417058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08143447957972809,0.07318319402368705,0.05169994226098441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055911584507169584,0.0,0.15123784121081452,0.0,0.1645143359164319,0.0,0.05787955646813271,0.0,0.0,0.07165601452151349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3629566275123607,0.0,0.1425364354050902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07181439097546738,0.06432428793087815,0.0,0.0,0.2386304164297749,0.11797967932628535,0.0,0.15325520341855314,0.0,0.0,0.10223176918934436,0.03535550568224921,0.0,0.1278051048011376,0.0,0.12154232472953776,0.0,0.0,0.061524957740187784,0.0,0.06847665416764917,0.09661283108555388,0.0,0.0,0.07883031596947987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08475690172629764,0.0,0.07691607132801632,0.0,0.0,0.1116298194839496,0.069893774402231,0.07696452931043388,0.0,0.0,0.20831806444539008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09807729306461488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0803564551360244,0.0,0.06908375007688608,0.0,0.06318922563935131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08237099159055776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15539298516386962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14490662613168578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813450237829071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055712668324800825,0.0,0.0,0.051222669366872836,0.07713500019835487,0.05779343382626821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08212271192166448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12650620286878586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04807829614978467,0.1391120920353966,0.0,0.0,0.12659564807096935,0.0,0.13719341109060998,0.0,0.0,0.09826667778433276,0.07871595106329107,0.07069333310240793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07970348035013962,0.2388457720625287,0.12805413038648825,0.11488520788063827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06530115261918035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398084761556526
divorce,bluegrowlithe,2020/01/24,"Father passes away before divorce. So I had a weird child hood to say the least. But recentishly my father who wasnt really close to me passed away due to alcoholism. Its the strangest feeling to say the least, because my mother had told him she was planing on leaving him in the coming months but it never happend. I dont really understand how to process most of my thoughts on how strange all of this is. I was always treated as just some person who lives in his house not really as his son. The hardest part about this is I dont know how I could really tell anyone about his passing. Its not like I have nice stories to tell. Im kinda just at an emotional and mental loss of things and kinda just wanted to post something semi anonymously and didnt know where to go.",3.2946153846153834,5.204648104575167,4.270588235294117,85.40687782805429,74.49019607843138,7.060633484162897,24.841126194067375,7.882392219407189,1.4045147310206132,612,20,118,9,13,198,96,153,0.08199999999999999,0.897,0.021,-0.8463,0,0,2,0,1,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,10,5,0,0,7,0,12,1,0,3,2,28,21,11,0,2,7,4,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,2,8,5,1,0,5,0,0,5,7,2,0,0,8,3,16,3,22,12,6,18,0,1,0,0,20,9,0,4,4,87,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16340400143149536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272253610061683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10691149765743713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873098719016781,0.0,0.0,0.09320664973223458,0.0,0.13010695790210286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13171013476509866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220785082165698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3583962026768921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719923426048109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07731102399289816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689680698477245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764265045247225,0.0,0.0,0.16515864337158034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16806009536439326,0.0,0.0,0.16189942057862808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07469940017093847,0.0,0.13501383282748675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540876159476013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220436209660385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179261955914796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16557620662908035,0.0,0.0,0.13350671024047828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464362941573594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39180758312181896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.243185031131854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177101790931112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26728333508028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10158021542406574,0.0,0.0,0.12138581900595033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14610286118783372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15917468321243786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901846029795237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,TroppyPop,2020/01/24,"Obsessed with the Past  My divorce has been final for about a month. We have been separated since October 2018. He slept with a classmate the weekend he moved out, and started dating his current partner the week he asked to finalize the divorce. He seems moved on, and for the most part, I am feeling good, too.

I live in my favorite-ever apartment. I have a podcast that has me receiving fan letters almost every day. My salary is good, and I'm about to get a better one. I finish grad school this year. I am in therapy. I have had a partner of my own for 3-4 months, and while I admittedly starting dating this person mostly to spitefully ""catch up"" to my ex, what we have has blossomed into a healthy, supportive, happy thing. Most importantly, I have come to terms with the fact that my marriage was never going to work out. So...?

I still have invasive, unproductive, distracting thoughts about my former marriage every day. They are very blameful, focus on what I feel are contradictions, and often carry a tone of disbelief.

""I can't believe he calls himself the victim when he used to yell, punch furniture, and made me feel bad at cooking, cleaning, sex, driving, living in the city, my job...""

""I can't believe he took his ring off and pulled all of his money out of the bank while swearing he was doing his best.""

""I can't believe he felt starved for attention when every car ride and dog walk saw him talking at me non-stop about himself for literal hours.""

""Why does he get to fail upward into better jobs and more women every time he abandons his current situation?""

...and so on. This is my dilemma. I feel like I can't have peaceful downtime sitting on the train, in my car, in bed, without my mind drifting here. To this day, I feel like my marriage would have been salvageable had he been even a fraction of the partner he wanted me to be. It's great that it ended, but I can't stop thinking about it. I am writing this at a time when I am thinking clearly, but inevitably, at some point each day, I dip down into that same place.

Given that I'm in therapy and leading a busy, relatively successful life, is the passage of time the only answer? I'm a fixer, and want to be fixed sooner.",4.0230867638650665,5.651565158018869,4.977984562607208,82.25746712407094,71.94811320754717,7.214865637507148,29.82961692395655,7.793537801064563,2.02722893081761,1713,72,318,22,33,559,220,424,0.055999999999999994,0.853,0.09,0.9342,5,0,0,0,2,0,79.0,2,0,1,7,15,18,2,2,24,0,37,4,1,3,4,62,67,21,0,3,3,1,6,2,3,1,1,2,2,5,16,25,1,2,13,2,2,15,7,7,0,1,15,9,47,11,54,49,12,76,0,2,1,1,42,26,0,7,36,217,63,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09307863001944312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689815955053821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07761156179344515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31417734307986894,0.09754804842404413,0.1644180916018422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09491502597270107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08007045848264199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23978702126996146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813434712090917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08232843865649778,0.0,0.0,0.06139433417431139,0.0,0.3132663926068508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23499820829711285,0.13281075211298546,0.08924909985302491,0.2036501210950174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09712782336272807,0.0,0.05282712061875528,0.1559285086127215,0.0,0.10248060058407396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09894980101341226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09153961475475324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18448228104087264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656551901322154,0.09082391769976883,0.0,0.16415774709024614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08795402416773533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09385565652156896,0.0,0.1483878017900556,0.1975878663670944,0.0,0.0,0.07169079710505005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0629871064041164,0.07069466224293068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10065863801788663,0.08873380128918207,0.0,0.08116264946907502,0.09711571236082336,0.0,0.08787027845810724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09407302209731262,0.0,0.08462058152622541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07689137447442537,0.10448264849813464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13158469712611295,0.0,0.07423208883785498,0.15542511839706802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10548154078022194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07471180144897363,0.0,0.0,0.2125988621693102,0.0,0.06175359577512004,0.1191205815921807,0.0,0.07379400376768085,0.1626042747752202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10327378994168857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08028122606368243,0.0,0.07669565293346985,0.10965173669473767,0.0,0.07456099141096234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387528896471398,0.0,0.0,0.08960301642435482,0.0,0.06767062028570713,0.0,0.0,0.06603088003026628,0.0,0.0,0.059858444896868826
divorce,magilla311,2020/01/24,"Re-entering the dating scene Those if you that were married for a decade or more, what is your experience jumping back into the dating scene? Any advice?",6.2603571428571465,7.915164321428572,6.305714285714287,74.78928571428574,66.5,8.457142857142857,28.285714285714285,8.841846274778883,2.3650857142857142,123,4,20,2,2,39,25,28,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,2,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,1,1,5,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,3,16,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5674552248660178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3948972392003579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4465239550505223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5680379351858741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,frustratedaf83-,2020/01/24,"Starting the process all over I guess I am beyond stupid but agreed with my ex to file for divorce back where we are from.. (she’s currently living) even though we lived in another state when the separation started (I stayed for work).. she never responded to the paperwork then the day after shows up to argue about how I no longer live in the county so they dismiss the case... I know I’m an idiot and should have done this where I live but we had an agreement and I was trying to make sure she didn’t have to travel to me for court.. I am SO over her petty antics and just desperately want to be done with this.. I’ve done everything she’s wanted, paid what she’s wanted and taken the kids anytime she’s needed yet she continues to do this type of shit to fuck with me.. I do meet with a new attorney this week to get everything filed and start over..maybe one day I’ll be divorced",4.229666666666667,4.896802855555556,4.944444444444446,86.33000000000004,70.44444444444444,8.222222222222221,25.0,8.344100000000001,1.316333333333334,694,18,148,10,12,224,113,180,0.153,0.787,0.06,-0.963,1,0,0,0,2,0,20.0,3,0,1,1,13,7,5,0,10,0,16,2,1,2,3,27,31,13,0,5,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,12,0,0,1,2,1,1,3,5,0,1,8,0,24,2,27,20,1,26,0,0,0,1,19,8,2,1,15,105,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14999014058351876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10998909837265226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844982145041461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43913941685577546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09447671501018227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25711064948234474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13223837671346494,0.07473261018961698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157574926733195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786111630425165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5052285327999557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09548045630680052,0.0,0.1437031249928313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606250926463193,0.11032143434793723,0.1381491339803508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09692775369404803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14682872833579652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.303733807784007,0.15246184038727162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13481371274717271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14053628802773785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09711491868293222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531064800377356,0.0,0.11473823490633445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10413498237708872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,undertherainbow12,2020/01/24,Divorcees 30-35 yrs old - how do you cope? Divorcees 30-35 yrs old: How do you cope with your divorce in a time when many friends are in new and happy marriages and starting families?,0.8791666666666664,3.4459263611111126,1.6402222222222242,96.12700000000002,90.94444444444444,3.991111111111112,26.644444444444442,5.6839178017228535,0.7541177777777777,143,7,29,1,5,44,25,36,0.0,0.812,0.188,0.7998,0,0,0,0,3,0,6.0,0,3,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,0,5,4,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,3,4,0,8,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,6,15,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30075672346592064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464847635475684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3396174690907301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3234502527528695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3081248834000022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6695447232249151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22581380331923764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18603120537523407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Mangrove43,2020/01/24,Sock day help So when is sock day?  I signed my separation agreement today.  We will see a judge in 2-4 weeks and it will be official 30-60 days after.  Which one of those counts and which one do I celebrate?,0.28604651162790873,2.5005892325581414,2.3081860465116293,93.83158139534883,86.90697674418604,6.2306976744186064,17.902325581395353,7.554174236665415,0.3057106976744186,159,4,37,3,5,53,36,43,0.0,0.778,0.222,0.8738,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,4,6,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,4,1,3,3,0,8,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,7,23,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6753910557861902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339836997553456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4730968125507128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27817481486904105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33089088953121004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800141917206889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Florida2000,2020/01/24,"Step Parent Rant I (48m) love my kids all my kids, I dont consider them step, I don't treat them any differently from my kids.  We have 5 total she (41f) has 3 (16m 15f 8f) I have 2 (17f 16m)

I have full custody of mine and she has majority because frankly he's an awful human being, actually he has 48% time and she has 52% but he always finds reasons to NOT show up. This is his weekend coming up. I for once made plans, life long family friend and kids coming into town to spend time with me. Everyone has had a sniffle or a cough, the youngest had a fever 5 days ago but is back to full steam.

Point being is he just called and said he didn't want them this weekend cause they might be sick. I'm sorry buddy but I've spent all week caring for your kids, I've missed work to care for kids, I even took on a 2nd job because he's to lazy to work, is currently in contempt for NOT paying child support (the courts are dealing with it). They're my kids, I always be there for these kids even if he doesnt want to be.

I'm so over his shit, no where does it say you dont take your kids because they have the sniffles. He had some excuse 2 weeks ago and only took 2 out of 3 of them because he didnt wanna have to drive his oldest to work over the weekend (16m). Now itll be 2 months total before he sees his oldest. He doesnt participate, he's not a father, he's just a man that fucks with my family. I just pulled all 3 of his kids in my room hugged them and told them I didn't care if they had Ebola they were always welcome in this home, it's their home it's what their mother and I have built for them. It ain't much BUT it's always open for them. 

Tl;DR: my Significant Other's ex husband always has lame excuses why he doesnt take his children during his time, he constantly plays games and the only one it effects is them. I once again canceled my plans for this weekend to be availible to hang out with my step kids because Daddy wont take care of kids with the sniffles)",2.009723351158648,3.1246341035294134,3.5927272727272737,92.24303030303032,76.2,6.280926916221034,21.114081996434933,6.574015621080383,0.14600392156862751,1534,35,357,12,33,510,194,425,0.071,0.866,0.063,0.2472,4,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,1,3,15,6,11,16,3,0,13,1,43,8,1,4,5,48,67,16,0,5,13,5,0,0,1,3,4,2,3,16,16,20,0,0,3,7,3,10,15,5,0,1,14,3,52,11,42,43,10,49,0,2,1,3,76,18,2,5,21,205,68,5,0.0,0.0,0.08806838107172987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15999763534062603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3754650633191437,0.0,0.0,0.061371282823999875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06939463033114003,0.0,0.27506969024660105,0.0,0.07679383544387157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09215261975896302,0.0,0.3680526926735509,0.09270887328737908,0.0,0.1554801769026321,0.0,0.09752530867611038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05820206539420994,0.09304104010933094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09428925738672583,0.0,0.0,0.07897605142479279,0.0,0.2115384100578748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192150278533822,0.0,0.0,0.08623519649409903,0.0,0.0,0.17015431212404625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824844296396879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06972486750615743,0.08343220740413505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18105087156337651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08955655504911986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06374436196431763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07986605196173081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08145174374148566,0.08539421089903222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09573816125209,0.0,0.0,0.07203456215225762,0.0,0.06634217555266159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19222093381536148,0.06115393012530301,0.13727433063200822,0.0,0.0,0.1002089859732973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08531290252391761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09278929152265608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08584588245181661,0.0717683034185005,0.0,0.0,0.07191544199760137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926375929579164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10102450338632987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10241160679769576,0.0,0.0,0.20356429453336555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578718411650916,0.0,0.0,0.08623519649409903,0.20053622064646867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10646043336116608,0.0,0.1447819377370642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08143418317518555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971034051605962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,witchythings11,2020/01/24,"Divorce - How do you know? Mainly, I (25f) am seeking advice about my marriage with my husband (29). We have been together a little over five years, married three. I feel like a failure. This is not something I particularly want to be posting about, but here I am. I feel like I constantly put more effort in than my husband. He isn't inherently bad by any means, and he's a pretty good guy. But I plan everything, I take care of making decisions even little ones, I clean the house, I pay the bills and keep track of money, I am sending all the things for our new house in on top of working ten hours a day, and taking care of our various pets. He does, on occassion, do some things, but it usually is because I have to ask him, and not just one time. I feel like all I do is nag about it, and I don't want to be that person.   


Overall, I just feel unhappy. I find I always settle due to my past relationships being very abusive, so when I met my husband and he treated me well, I thought, this is it, I'm happy. But right before we were going to get married, I found out at the earlier stages of our relationship he cheated on me twice. Here is where I was stupid... Everything was basically paid for, mostly from my mom. I felt so guilty calling things off as she wouldn't get any money back at that point. And I thought, okay, maybe we can work through this. Granted, as far as I know and honestly believe, he hasn't cheated since. BUT it is something I desperately cling to and have for the past few years. I'm paranoid and I hate it. Yes, I am aware this was a poor decision on my part.   


Next topic, I have discussed being unhappy on multiple occassions with him. Have you ever heard that saying, that someone hears you but doesn't listen? That's where I am at. I'm tired of constantly having the same conversations with no change. Now I'm not asking him to change who he is. I enjoy who he is as a person a lot, but our love languages are different and I make an effort to speak his but he doesn't do the same for me. I feel frustrated I do most everything around the house on top of taking care of just about everything else as well. I've had these conversations. I've said I need more effort from him. I get it for like two days and everything switches back. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm scared and I'm hurting, and I'm feeling so, so guilty. But my whole life I put everyone else first rather than myself and I just feel like I deserve more. Maybe that's mean of me. Maybe it's selfish. But after 25 years, I think I at least deserve some more.   


Things get a little tricky now... And I wish I had come to this realization a lot sooner than I have. Our new build house is less than a month away from being completed, therefore, if we break contract we will lose money. But I also am considering divorce. I don't know... Do I try again? Do I have a conversation? What do people do in this situation? I don't want to hurt him, but obviously, that is unavoidable but I feel so guilt stricken it is killing me. We have six animals... Three dogs, a cat, and two birds. It kills me to think I might not see them again, but also kills me to think about taking them away from him. I'm also quite concerned about his wellbeing if we were to get divorced... I make the majority of the money and pay our rent, bills, etc. Most of them anyway. He really just pays for his car and insurance and groceries which is not nearly as much as I pay for. I think I know what the answer is here... That I can't keep doing this. But has anyone felt this way? How do you handle it? What do I do about the guilt? How do I make sure he is okay if we get divorced, financially, emotionally, etc? I care about him. It isn't like some hate filled relationship, it isn't about cheating, it's just that I am not happy and even after those conversations, nothing is addressed further despite my lack of trying.   


I guess I don't know what I'm seeking... Advice? Words of wisdom? Maybe just knowing I'm not the only one who has all these worries and guilt eating away at me... I also just feel like a failure. I am trying so, so hard to make it work but I can't keep doing that. It's not fair to me, and it's not fair to stay with him when I am unhappy. I don't know who to talk to because I feel like everyone is going to judge me.",2.0805925324675343,3.826791471590912,3.6975974025974065,88.90818181818184,77.4659090909091,6.753246753246755,23.133116883116887,7.6395533132390465,0.9302207792207788,3325,103,721,48,77,1106,321,880,0.14400000000000002,0.747,0.11,-0.9890000000000001,5,1,2,0,4,0,139.0,14,4,3,12,52,45,11,4,27,3,84,4,0,9,6,146,166,65,3,11,37,4,13,8,0,3,2,6,4,3,51,38,1,3,33,0,13,8,25,20,2,12,17,20,122,25,94,141,29,75,0,3,1,1,81,33,0,13,37,512,173,7,0.0,0.058004886830913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09567852628191588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566004689169204,0.04073533637925792,0.0,0.0,0.06658355447940137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048551224061714505,0.034231192471717936,0.0,0.0,0.04358124344922145,0.09153455362571752,0.0,0.1379873971404443,0.0752883260153146,0.040876237780537616,0.05968627952161463,0.0,0.04165797332787408,0.055156678052551464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04998957733812423,0.0,0.19965572973436624,0.0,0.10357797078674433,0.04217128253189676,0.05132946304554365,0.10580814681645938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06314517496892834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05114862861866264,0.0,0.0,0.042841749272953936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050094237666041035,0.0817929575770769,0.055068941249251886,0.0,0.0,0.10919782244028946,0.06466998844233772,0.0442835293479408,0.0,0.09355916382378952,0.21999260252424585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24753638294041844,0.2098451734922155,0.09401092679980846,0.0,0.044744921907260204,0.04164197168959166,0.0,0.05367775689672245,0.0,0.0,0.1534650216206412,0.0,0.05564567684954787,0.04106199287537416,0.0,0.0,0.053930583263503945,0.048474163739944176,0.0,0.1042292024821159,0.043854984387957166,0.09666788283764398,0.0,0.0,0.055177000620351885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04821182530783867,0.22595472950342976,0.1048168792060088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305430989891528,0.16248777182733287,0.0,0.21523961771322644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034579089781923505,0.1913395360313072,0.1472004012599772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05476927192065695,0.0,0.08324132720765827,0.044184725879093036,0.0,0.16339264138164733,0.0,0.19673163766146246,0.10665493104780042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05193460835556626,0.0,0.057336707320463615,0.039076233808078564,0.0,0.0359883129122504,0.036300273816515766,0.0,0.09456407218292227,0.05206529027429509,0.0,0.0,0.046974628407418687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995216129782922,0.037233264695117715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05301460667979628,0.09346813482044672,0.033939945091204585,0.08549302918103455,0.0,0.0,0.04627926964870069,0.0,0.04688634131950144,0.04980587962698844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09842865807417864,0.0,0.05207076099677162,0.0,0.0,0.031362484586775,0.0,0.0,0.15768135565111455,0.0,0.041808179699931856,0.04656839264265425,0.0389317977454043,0.04901352363102267,0.0,0.03901161528503176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040496931560967814,0.05502862570033719,0.0,0.0,0.04148028294086245,0.0753774829593622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05218061114148476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046140476223631766,0.0,0.14723535907386753,0.03934900020654511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13009683641852451,0.1254761817749981,0.0,0.07773123424093678,0.02854665312853397,0.05626775149315701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09971378664245874,0.0,0.09564584988465133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05391814745677941,0.04039384949352838,0.08662659967038988,0.03885901564084058,0.0,0.0,0.08803469559127594,0.0,0.0,0.05465765599901656,0.056297015175646635,0.0,0.0,0.10692171249884534,0.04971722195890318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09457822920595838
divorce,CeCeAway,2020/01/24,"So my ex husband is newly transgender and thinks I’m transphobic because I left him when he was abusive. Some background.  Said ex, we can call him Jerry.  Been together since we were 18, fresh out of high school basically.  He was my first love, first kiss, all that stuff.  We got married and have three kids together.  

I left late 2018 during a fight we had because he had quit his job (without telling me) because I had to pick up another job to be able to live and take care of three children.  He had threatened to kill me that night, reaching for a pair of scissors that were within his reach, so I packed up what I could fit in my little car, my kids and my dogs and I had left.  

During that time, he became increasingly verbally abusive and mentally unstable.  He claims I abandoned him in his time of need because he is “the way he is because of his upbringing.”  He had told me to go kill myself so he can see what happens, and had threatened to kill himself before the divorce was finalized so I would have to “deal with everything.”  I can’t tell you how many derogatory words I’ve been called since this, but it still goes on to this day.

After the custody case, I got full custody.  He gets visitation but supervised.  He has hit my children before, he doesn’t care for him, never watched them or ever really changed them when they were in diapers.  Video games and weed were his top priorities.  He was homeless for a time because he burned his bridges with his family because of the way he treats people.  He blames that on me too; saying I “abandoned” him when he needed me the most, but I left because crying in bed every night while your husband quits his job (because it was “hard” and “stressful”) stayed up until 7-8 AM playing video games and ignoring our kids was the final straw.

Fast forward to now, he decides to tell me he was going to transition to a female.  Ok.  I had figured as much because he had photos of himself dressed in women’s clothing (my clothing) and I had asked him about it and he said no.  This was a few years before I left him, he had been out on dating sites, sex websites and was trying to find someone else to sleep with because I wasn’t “enough.”  Even as far as trying to find someone while I was in the hospital with our second kid.

Now, he is threatening me with court because he claims I am transphobic because I do not like him.  This started because the court order for the divorce states I get the tax exemptions for the kids, and he wanted to claim one and I said no.  But says since he pays child support, he should get it (I get barely $50 a week for three children).  Also wants me to feed them on top of him and the people he lives with while they are in his care.  Divorce was finalized November 2019.

Back to the transphobic part, I never left him because of him wanting to transition, I left him because he is an abusive person.  Claims I’m a bully because of it, even though he is the only one who brings up his sexuality and uses it against anyone who doesn’t like him because of the way he treats others. I honestly can’t tell you how many names I’ve been called by him, how many threats I have received and the anxiety and stress I feel on a daily basis because of this person.  And I share children with him.  And I can’t even get a PPO because he hasn’t threatened me enough I guess.  Or killed me.  Whatever one they prefer?

Sorry that was long, I needed to get that off my chest.  There is so much more to the story, but that’s a short version of it.",4.865324675324676,5.491901246753248,5.366072150072153,84.01958441558445,69.0,8.122481962481963,30.118614718614715,8.094773233980128,1.9724341125541125,2736,102,548,34,45,878,288,693,0.12,0.823,0.057,-0.9936,3,0,0,0,4,2,74.0,6,3,6,6,24,25,6,2,28,1,59,6,2,5,4,76,97,48,4,10,9,4,2,2,0,2,0,5,1,13,26,34,1,3,7,5,2,8,13,11,0,9,38,9,92,14,76,54,13,83,0,2,2,3,120,37,0,5,36,360,118,7,0.047547816892582966,0.16900916382346454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038023971990445514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0498580317824002,0.036373949778728064,0.0,0.0,0.033246539113102644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04445079031109021,0.0,0.0,0.036561336238815516,0.0,0.5796941570967569,0.0,0.12137907034019065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14565491163586167,0.0,0.14543450465360447,0.0,0.05029928565682356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03796306278765402,0.0,0.052229044183025736,0.03066440836296736,0.04901971139861948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0397200998111498,0.0,0.0,0.09825921036532974,0.0,0.09421465387022963,0.04300972254323147,0.040061086452528163,0.0,0.04273291192212165,0.0,0.04482385011899104,0.0,0.024041604872935808,0.0,0.0,0.15625892786068815,0.08691568647697723,0.0808882975180351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14905063117562292,0.0,0.054045040159850365,0.0,0.07605666548946924,0.0,0.0523792808954557,0.0,0.04204637744903439,0.0,0.04259350459272945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05023687910331042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415516145521517,0.0,0.21041845838593445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05363600849196104,0.0,0.3616258952377819,0.0,0.0,0.046458923201430836,0.04765540378606066,0.08397118686507689,0.04207832170739632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042913761136269934,0.0,0.0,0.14461807021235773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04791701606183889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06990623267595811,0.10576831124895016,0.07334361523498471,0.0,0.0,0.08924081035247683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09665889382076208,0.03616225733349717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05148965219373625,0.0,0.06592733880968765,0.08303383941162022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011459120834598,0.0,0.0,0.03046034903282365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13568658661606586,0.07562386484522178,0.0,0.048120929152086975,0.03788945402678311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11799613643738074,0.0,0.047582155357298414,0.0,0.08057422190917539,0.0,0.0,0.05322588821414197,0.0336545895238407,0.050679646369149935,0.03797174799043572,0.0,0.10893172720629923,0.0,0.054430874626483085,0.0,0.05395669914258059,0.0,0.0,0.035750040904398726,0.0,0.16623555087592382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030466721168068412,0.04671548868351039,0.0,0.08317654319843924,0.0,0.0,0.04543397665779141,0.0,0.06456369309878346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04106604747593731,0.0,0.0,0.08413480297410635,0.11322373164188836,0.0381399906711276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04583439873664735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03377660490697862,0.0,0.0,0.03061923516241127
divorce,amerritt88,2020/01/25,Divorce and Taxes I am still in the process of finalizing my divorce but I just found out that my stbx filed a joint tax return and used my PIN to sign it. Is this legal?,1.9708333333333317,3.4563721944444485,3.5122222222222237,91.255,77.05555555555556,5.911111111111111,23.11111111111111,6.42735559955562,0.3850111111111114,133,4,30,1,3,44,31,36,0.0,0.943,0.057,0.2353,0,0,0,0,2,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,8,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,4,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,21,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5629987482108486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5635112846021875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41043504288700733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4438811971793245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,18weepingwillow83,2020/01/25,"WTF Just Happened?!?!? So today I was unable to get my wife to vacate the house. I tried nicely then well then i ended up calling the cops bc she refused to leave and been verbally aggressive and got in my face. When on the phone with the dispatcher I was told to say separated until they got to the house. She would not stop following me...but I was was able to get inside the home...and lock all the doors the I called the cops back...the dispatcher said stay inside until they got there which I did. So they got to the house with the lights on...my current spouse ran up to them and I stayed in the home waiting for them to get to the door bc I was terrified.  I came out and tried to speak to them and by that point I was the bad guy bc I can't lock her out of the home even though she was acting the way she was....I mean wtf I just followed the dispatchers instructions. The cops then proceeded to tell me that she was demanding $300 she had paid in rent days before and if she got it she would leave, so the $300 was returned and she still wouldn't leave...still she is the victim at this point. Another cop arrived. At this point I am crying and overwhelmed. I told them I suspected her of stealing my medication and other things. They screamed at me that we are married so my property is hers. And as I get that with most things but my medication wtf!!!! We also have a cat together and she insisted on taking her and in front of the cops too. But then when I asked her to go get her all of a sudden she cant take her and the cops says I have to keep her (which I would love), however she said that means she has to have continued contact to see her. Apparently,  I have to do that. I have to keep in contact with this fucking awful person. I will not keep in any contact with her unless it is in a courtroom!!! I have let her make me miserable for almost four years and I cant anymore. Today I chose myself and tried to make my life livable again and wtf happened.?!?!?! I feel so lost and trapped!",1.9775862998921239,3.691883905339804,3.251003236245957,92.13830636461708,77.66504854368931,6.713700107874867,21.881337648327946,7.594959193182576,0.6633897518878098,1547,43,348,22,36,502,177,412,0.125,0.86,0.015,-0.9915,5,1,0,0,0,0,62.0,2,0,8,1,17,12,3,2,25,1,34,6,1,2,2,55,72,37,0,5,8,2,1,0,0,5,3,6,5,2,16,27,0,6,4,0,2,7,6,9,1,1,25,9,72,3,52,41,3,50,0,3,1,2,56,19,1,3,21,246,88,1,0.08557915769468075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569516454750581,0.0,0.0,0.06843762148953812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058196761866745036,0.08973720862709084,0.0,0.0,0.08487152862746909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08000496010741928,0.0,0.0,0.06580508978106034,0.07145502203125345,0.0,0.0,0.07282155999537443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747717766594191,0.09787975785497036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940046862399448,0.0551914769259959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07579773247773491,0.0,0.0,0.056524226541077874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04327139349640938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07911655228455712,0.2235578887299748,0.0,0.048636607490350064,0.0,0.3422273510663639,0.0,0.0,0.08473682085374007,0.15135473303979533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575286185973294,0.0,0.0,0.29624057370601903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282000624514257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18123194268755347,0.0,0.08751048690813917,0.060447089956123086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934197599611558,0.0,0.07723853105284392,0.0,0.11424950458849928,0.0,0.0,0.18644158223854432,0.0,0.1724239959867412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07472441955700296,0.0,0.0,0.24269989694937624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16281075279512452,0.13611196218937247,0.0,0.0,0.06819550871176247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18243199086655396,0.06834362588207668,0.07154800781377038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286897522576299,0.0,0.07479995587921506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11370997940652185,0.0,0.08408108792590732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16223806997259424,0.1635491051830016,0.0,0.17430789153372234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0679287519961326,0.0,0.0,0.07694594041118451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18237893472094327,0.0,0.0,0.055110171732474685
divorce,beautifulPgreenboat,2020/01/25,"My best friend is starting to side with my STBX husband, leaving me with little emotional support. I (44f) separated from STBX husband (47m, I'll call him X) 10 months ago after a 23 year marriage. I was the one to end the relationship after many years of trying to make it work. Some of our problems related to him having Aspergers (I am not trying to criticise people on the spectrum here, just saying it put a strain on our relationship), but also he was controlling and mildly abusive towards me, including regular sexual assaults over a period of many years.
I have known my best friend, S (44f) for even longer than X, over 30 years, and she knows all the details of everything that happened. She has chosen to stay friends with X and sees him regularly. I'm ok with this as he has few friends of his own, but I asked her to stop telling me stuff about what is going on with him as she was getting caught up in the drama and it wasn't helpful (a ""flying monkeys"" situation).
I'm now in the process of trying to finalise the property settlement, which X has left up to me. I will be speaking to him tomorrow for the first time in 6 months as we have been non-contact. I feel anxious about this as my most recent dealings with him felt like dealing with a crazy person as we have completely lost the ability to communicate. S has told me that she doesn't understand why I'm in such a rush to finalise the settlement and divorce, that I have no reason to feel anxious about talking to X as he's perfectly reasonable and generally a great guy, and that I haven't made any progress in emotionally dealing with my trauma from the relationship. I was hurt by these statements and feel she has no empathy for my situation, how hard it is and that I just want to get it over with. It doesn't help that I have recently lost the emotional support of my parents too. I have other friends  (none of whom have been divorced) and will try to turn to them, but just wanted to reach out to Reddit for a bit of support?",9.088670857656039,6.588357633587787,9.06913935039665,71.21638976201169,61.722646310432566,12.504056279000151,40.42044604101183,10.966923227221727,4.255588654393056,1582,68,307,32,17,521,200,393,0.127,0.7290000000000001,0.14400000000000002,0.8139,1,0,0,0,2,0,43.0,4,0,1,9,13,21,1,1,20,1,30,0,0,6,2,52,58,21,0,3,7,3,5,1,5,2,0,2,0,2,20,22,0,2,10,1,0,4,8,7,0,2,13,8,43,14,71,42,9,42,0,3,1,0,50,18,0,2,20,220,63,1,0.0,0.09627134386681778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07202575138857263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0649778769362718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05525472610477766,0.0,0.0,0.1835851916578644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07596044893152687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17053971198032852,0.0,0.08870707082757405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08296824720483105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08519207013990943,0.0,0.09113198335642103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513043699520465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27419556880660506,0.07196591035443291,0.0,0.0,0.05366674288447562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07302482477900725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12325165107763845,0.0,0.07801548072635157,0.0,0.0,0.06911363498574158,0.0,0.0,0.3138787621397112,0.0,0.08490252388008339,0.0,0.04617786865355671,0.0,0.0,0.08958155693287677,0.0,0.08045309871335787,0.07185162928759511,0.0,0.07278659631893115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089241488361308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869828593106622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044654442889950616,0.0,0.0,0.08603503900755442,0.08828146218478816,0.0,0.0,0.03969603958172528,0.08143670428058063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17739417396614146,0.0,0.0,0.07688341382224541,0.0542369101059157,0.1647552789659626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12971050363131922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05505903581964754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09022167727976414,0.0,0.0,0.056330497363455335,0.07094685689583058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07774800658200756,0.0,0.08168155913682981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16708293040717553,0.160454779218316,0.2617054672570164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0646155297057447,0.0,0.0,0.06474800374756945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18266322155781653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05751118733651376,0.08660472992605463,0.0,0.06793102310648348,0.0,0.0,0.09301507674952976,0.0,0.2766143230108901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06530796518476996,0.07101857461105927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04737919181870088,0.0,0.0,0.07764058275493241,0.0,0.22066141358289068,0.08837977137717375,0.0,0.08458708518074211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958500754047588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07331806147535093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05915304447141612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092966925986435
divorce,LillBird,2020/01/25,Question: letter to the Ex Just wondering if anyone has written an email or letter to their ex and actually given it to them?,4.195,6.232968500000003,6.298333333333333,71.28,72.33333333333334,8.133333333333335,28.66666666666667,8.841846274778883,2.725566666666667,100,4,16,2,2,35,20,24,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,4,3,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,4,0,13,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.4959164648307485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3553356358847357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5692848942196687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5511063009923439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,bluepisces1980,2020/01/25,"Divorcing a spouse from a culture/family where divorce is taboo/big no no...? 
Hey all. I’m currently in the midst of a very tumultuous divorce right now and am wondering if anyone has any experience with going through a divorce with a spouse who comes from a culture where divorce is very much taboo or a family where divorce is heavily heavily frowned upon. Like the sort where even in cases of infidelity or spousal abuse, divorce is NOT done. Doesn’t matter!

My stbxh is from such a background and while there was much infidelity, lieing and domestic violence of all sorts, I honestly think a portion of the reason why this whole process has been soooo difficult and why he incessantly guilt trips me for leaving and seeking divorce... because of the kids!!! Is because he’s from a family background where divorce is a huge no no! 

I remember he told me a story of a relative where her husband sent her to the ICU with a brain bleed, they had 2 small kids at the time, she eventually recovered, moved back in with her parents but eventually she was reconciled with the husband because her parents were so adamant that divorce would destroy their children and that if they went to therapy everything would be “ok”... didn’t matter that she almost died. The shame of a divorced daughter with kids would have been worse than a dead daughter with kids.

Frankly this bullshit is why in between his stalling, playing games with my lawyer, ranting and raving, sending me crazy messages and just overall being absolutely goofy he then turns around and guilt trips me for leaving... but the kids! And ofcourse therapy will fix all AND /OR I should move back in and resign to living out my life as a roommate to someone I absolutely can not trust anymore or even enjoy being around... for the sake of the kids!
I love my kids but I’m almost 40... I’d rather not sacrifice another 16yrs to a man I will never trust or want to be around again! Yea life is hard but I think our kids will be happier and it’s soo refreshing not being treated like shit...

Anyway... any stories? Experiences?",6.205162259615384,7.476187460937503,6.149166666666666,77.28173076923079,66.31770833333334,9.345192307692308,35.34214743589744,9.565088089820216,3.4560820512820527,1651,79,290,33,26,520,199,384,0.17300000000000001,0.773,0.054000000000000006,-0.9926,3,0,0,0,12,0,52.0,1,0,3,0,21,17,2,3,29,2,36,6,2,1,4,65,49,28,2,8,17,8,1,2,0,7,3,0,0,10,7,26,0,1,6,2,0,9,11,7,0,0,11,1,27,10,44,25,7,38,1,1,0,1,54,20,1,12,11,202,34,1,0.0,0.12033732820545147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20340435775540056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13813468978622548,0.10649923705693533,0.0,0.0,0.10072469586437068,0.07101626204945505,0.0,0.0,0.2712418220126073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561936673396892,0.0,0.1857383351792104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11337957484088115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874888262721537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10540791923530443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10393574909840116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13416479282019586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09127962645596602,0.1986991454348908,0.2872379234981399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05772144765818118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09098184546282108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21508428802123292,0.0,0.0,0.14347602429647238,0.0992385719723841,0.0,0.08968331697213983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09166592937729266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2158939868918539,0.14932319185817114,0.0,0.07833280603227276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255507226549361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10442522471563323,0.0,0.0,0.11505278317885648,0.08673553069569886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10425450289577633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08605527387477513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322957214241569,0.0,0.0,0.1301568651641413,0.0,0.0,0.0592230785090474,0.0,0.0,0.09704923514901848,0.0,0.0,0.11047301437539672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676027034809689,0.05990537536515742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09415131189114592,0.2749385000593452,0.11339314061705913,0.0,0.0,0.11014237114420357,0.0,0.0,0.10350290554201123,0.21644552689120955,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwaway202039,2020/01/25,Can I use a marker to redact what stores my back account was used at? Not the amounts or balance just the names of payees.,0.8230666666666657,3.22735024,1.3480000000000023,100.24066666666668,86.6,3.333333333333334,20.333333333333336,3.1291,-0.6720666666666664,96,3,21,0,3,29,24,25,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,2,0,6,4,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,3,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,15,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4066788236584632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.913571198313393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,fzq779,2020/01/25,"Bird Nesting - Need help for Texas Decree language and rules \[**Background**\]

STBXW and I are amicable and have been working out details of our divorce since October 2018. We decided in Feb 2019 that I could take a consulting role that would have me out of the house in Austin and in New York 1/2 the week as a 'trial run' for bird nesting with 6 yo and 2yo boys. This has worked out for the most part for the past year and we are itching to pull the trigger and bring the decree before the judge to finalize things. As part of the decree:

* I will be refinancing the family home, removing her name from the mortgage, and giving her 1/2 of the equity. When she buys a new house, she will be living there while I am home. We have been cohabitating when I am home thus far.
* We will retain joint ownership of the rental home until we agree to re-develop the property for \*hopefully\* larger profits.
* Child possession order is 50/50 and we are splitting all childcare costs, so no child support.

\[**The Ask from You**\]

As we prep the agreements, I would like to hear your experiences in nesting and joint ownership of real estate. 

* Is there anything you wish you would have included (or excluded) from your agreements? 
* Were there any 'gotchas' from the judge or in the process when presenting your decree?
* Did you have an end date for the nesting agreement that was before kids' 18th birthday? Was it a good idea? Work well or not?

Thanks folks!",4.555021983390326,6.843548449438206,4.3171665852467065,84.78700537371762,71.99625468164794,7.639732942517504,27.3390327308256,8.456263369488248,1.9714795310210065,1144,42,211,20,23,348,155,267,0.019,0.865,0.11599999999999999,0.9751,2,0,0,0,1,0,54.0,8,7,0,3,8,10,0,0,23,0,28,1,1,2,1,41,38,22,0,7,4,0,0,1,0,6,1,1,4,4,6,21,0,1,2,0,3,4,2,0,1,0,6,1,26,10,33,23,4,28,0,0,0,0,31,9,0,5,15,144,32,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08439347172571318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10212519767382262,0.0,0.11601841961933088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21120296275465897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990851797619034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099173491367084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139536229555414,0.11699212130232088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13594744311580148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11904974368545565,0.0,0.10409069211831842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13987173494031194,0.0,0.08318281279340681,0.0,0.4979368495202558,0.12326107773464445,0.0,0.2863936031161896,0.0,0.1400958133522117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060629865175885,0.0,0.10958415278406322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09201990359098393,0.0,0.2397165610768547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26878028635526313,0.11846919941266908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14125500450830386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10265828177514877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408292387736485,0.0,0.0,0.09330910019883172,0.0,0.0,0.11425625313331668,0.0,0.0,0.08244771379160976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09954696892883476,0.0,0.11158241177350416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427109320196417,0.0,0.0,0.2710427399434703,0.0,0.0,0.2644750494190764,0.0,0.0,0.07991748287564865
divorce,Next_stop_please_,2020/01/25,"Ex-husband taking his girlfriend to ""our"" vacation spot Hey everyone. It's been awhile since I've posted but I'm back.

And just like the title says- my ex-husband is taking his new girlfriend to the place we vacationed annually for over a decade. It's the one place we always got along and had the best experiences together. 

I know logically I have zero business in caring about it. It just hurts a little. He gets to show her all the places we ventured. (It's a very small vacation destination so not a lot of options to tread a new path.)

We've been separated for a year and it's been very amicable. Maybe it stings more because we get along better than we ever have.

​

Anyways, I just need to vent it and maybe get a bit of validation that it's ok to feel emotional about it ;) From what I've learned this past year, it's to feel the emotions (the good, bad and ugly) and work through them. This is a perfect example. Deep breath!

​

Thanks for listening.

x",1.923526891956211,4.526132968586392,3.364495478343649,86.40410637791531,83.18848167539268,6.614088529271776,24.38862446454069,7.84624498591911,1.531102617801047,771,30,152,15,22,252,114,191,0.044000000000000004,0.772,0.184,0.9824,0,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,6,0,1,4,9,10,0,0,15,1,8,1,1,0,3,29,22,8,0,1,5,0,2,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,15,13,0,0,5,1,0,0,1,2,0,2,5,4,14,8,21,17,5,17,0,1,0,0,16,8,0,2,9,94,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10036823209881064,0.26139054751338386,0.2931409767632023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09275185688271073,0.1007154005722712,0.07353083205654183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12658669075901352,0.10668148903560963,0.13168938087902118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12298347333667785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713699096666878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10911066280065866,0.0,0.1152607134774791,0.0,0.11799271387880955,0.0,0.0,0.12198150963847075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18906205616743835,0.0,0.0,0.10117308454224043,0.09647345636353027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12912971629931758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06629140025495334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058930441813682004,0.1208962156848042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10254959934055524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24236459576701905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08944063389449802,0.0,0.23299743143638504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08173745645348715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11514856980877128,0.0,0.0,0.3780769635191598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11552375912663332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959244739200034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09978082391067547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18138738999345008,0.0,0.0,0.11105371020683548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990536777987809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08781518463947041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931409767632023,0.15535487538483034
divorce,shjo3024,2020/01/25,"What you wish you knew Hi Everyone, I’ve been reading all your stories, I’m single 36M. I felt I was being pressured to move too fast by my ex in the relationship and that caused it to unravel. I wanted to know what are some things you wish you knew before getting married or even before dating someone. What are the red flags.",2.0528571428571425,4.532277538461539,3.2806593406593407,88.08076923076923,81.30769230769229,5.560439560439562,23.131868131868128,6.868970318607317,0.8511098901098908,260,9,50,3,7,84,49,65,0.03,0.8859999999999999,0.084,0.5423,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,5,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,0,5,0,0,1,1,12,14,2,0,3,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,5,2,9,0,5,8,3,4,0,0,1,0,8,1,0,2,2,34,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4142567387953581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500544170208303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607734148466765,0.0,0.0,0.23259361290225306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23371672237088426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12717437242917826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13377460389104445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587117885985515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434810276158776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.261336781983881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062448717817561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16171421362171165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14357256568846347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5598308330321821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,_moonbythesea,2020/01/25,"Seriously considering Divorce at this point I am a 24F married to a 37M for about 1.5 years, however we’ve been together for a total of 5 years. I never thought I’d find myself here, and yet here I am. Our relationship started off great, I instantly fell for him, around the time when I met him I was going through a very hard time with some mental health issues due to some residual trauma from my abusive family. 

Just to fast forward things, I found out in November of 2019 that my husband has a full-blown porn addiction. This did not come as a huge surprise to me because because on 3 separate occasions I had caught him using a lot of porn when he had agreed that he wouldn’t watch it. During that time he was labeling it as a “habit” and not an addiction, back then I was naive about addiction. I have no issue with porn, but it becomes an issue when you’re watching too frequently and/or it’s affecting our relationship. 

While all of this is happening our sex life is starting to suffer. We used to have sex often, like 4-5x a week. Then it went down to 1x a week and then the ED issues started happening, he blamed it on anxiety but it didn’t make sense. At this point I’m under the impression that he isn’t watching, I’m checking his devices to see if there’s anything he’s hiding and I can’t find anything. I began to express my concerns about our sex life and how we’re barely doing that anymore, he would always make excuses and act like he was trying to get better but it wouldn’t get better. 

We got married and shortly after that our sex life took a turn for the worst. We were now only having sex 1x a month, and even during that 1x he would have ED issues and he usually had to cut it short because he couldn’t finish. He blamed it on stress and anxiety, and even him being too concerned about how I feel during the sex. I didn’t buy it, I had a feeling he was watching again but I couldn’t find any proof. On top of that, he also became extremely impatient with me and would handle a lot of his stress by drinking and playing video games. Fast forward to November, I check his phone one day and I find a fake Instagram account where he’s following all of these “porn” accounts. I also found some stuff in his history. I confronted him about it, I told him he has an addiction. 

I was on the verge of leaving him then, honestly. It felt like a slap in the face because I had been complaining for almost 2 years about our sex life and he would make up a bunch of excuses, when in reality he’s an addict. He agreed to go to SAA 2x a week and to get a therapist. We also put blockers and accountability software on all of his devices. Well since then he’s only gone to SAA once, even though he knows that we had an agreement about that. Every time I ask him about going to SAA he makes up excuses about how he was gonna go but he mixed up the times or how he just happened to have to stay late at work that day. He also hasn’t gotten a therapist and once again, it’s just a bunch of excuses. I don’t even bring it up anymore because I don’t feel like I should have to be his babysitter, I wanted to support him and help him but I cannot do that when he’s not even helping himself. 

Since November he hasn’t had any relapses as far as I know, my accountability software alerted me that he happened to go under the “adult movies” category on Amazon Prime Videos, he claims it was an accident because he was looking for Adult Anime and some inappropriate stuff popped up and he kinda fell down the rabbit hole, he didn’t watch but he was looking at the covers of the movies. 

At this point, I find myself being consistently irritated with him. I’m always on edge, I’m always wondering if he’s lying to me, I have no trust for him, I’m constantly having to check his devices, even when we’re watching a rated R movie and a sex scene comes on, I’m wondering if he’s being triggered, I find myself being angry with him for lying to me for so long, and I’m just not in love with him anymore. I don’t want to have to live my life like this, I should be able to trust my partner and not have to babysit him or worry that he’s hiding things from me. I want children eventually, how am I supposed to procreate with someone who’s like this? I feel stagnant, I feel like this relationship isn’t going anywhere. 

What makes things harder for me is that he’s now upped his affection, before he had stopped being super affectionate to me, now he is, and he’s more patient with me. But I just don’t feel it anymore, it’s hard to move on when I cannot trust him at all. And also, I feel like him acting very attentive and affectionate to me is all temporary, because he’s done this before. It hurts because I don’t want to hurt him, despite his addiction he’s a good person and he has a lot of great qualities, but the addiction is not something that I’m sure I can live with. Even for my own mental health, I’m in a constant state of being worried and stressed and I feel like it’s put me in a bad place. 

I hate to feel like I’m giving up but I have given so much of myself during this relationship and I’ve tried so hard and given him many chances. I feel like maybe leaving him would be the best option, I feel like I may be happier that way. I’m also afraid because it would be a huge change for me and to be honest, I’m afraid of how others would view me and our marriage if we separate. I just don’t know if I can do this much longer. Does anyone have any tips/advice on what my next steps should be? Has anyone been in this particular position?",4.869663574709571,4.935058549604918,5.93193495438409,81.93475423394541,68.8595258999122,9.026076777239124,29.32550800982301,8.841846274778883,2.1043267829649706,4364,146,911,69,69,1456,382,1139,0.11,0.7609999999999999,0.129,0.9758,1,0,2,0,1,0,97.0,13,0,0,6,61,51,3,5,48,0,98,29,1,16,9,166,182,84,0,23,29,1,15,12,1,14,14,0,0,5,60,53,1,2,27,5,8,24,29,17,1,1,42,25,120,34,130,111,21,130,0,3,10,13,115,53,0,21,66,595,180,1,0.04037809872831848,0.04784144431749175,0.0,0.3081266135156225,0.0,0.039457010758759715,0.0,0.0,0.04043283327213396,0.0,0.0,0.19374210578898615,0.1007934382920279,0.0,0.0,0.08237547527778237,0.0,0.06177827001489464,0.0,0.1601768960788106,0.056466610936796474,0.0,0.0664554696328519,0.035945068522257866,0.0377480716683117,0.0,0.0,0.031048265530786705,0.033714025843835316,0.2215270278793824,0.04459443769932525,0.06871757606060568,0.0,0.04237432348464451,0.07142229406761856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04271467450973405,0.06956431346648989,0.0,0.08726876028588154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052081066566003135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03533514630035712,0.04132081397551498,0.0,0.0395551646510189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18668547376594946,0.0,0.03402028967172652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038064877922298436,0.0,0.22458017937472524,0.20192285259605436,0.03876930691063669,0.0,0.22142910436048294,0.0,0.0,0.08854500225638955,0.0,0.0,0.06328767012293998,0.0387343515924255,0.13768682412572247,0.03386723348739504,0.0322940541625533,0.08903399279036375,0.0,0.0,0.14282487741893266,0.0,0.10851253618114674,0.039865012990614665,0.0,0.08584006156636441,0.0,0.0,0.0541291768875999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08645117961673299,0.0,0.0,0.21072122256485745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06657224124772583,0.0,0.04554825411172904,0.08550915283217184,0.0,0.0,0.14260122627028338,0.2367203935453072,0.0,0.07130920187633384,0.035733346749895284,0.06781486689552313,0.0,0.0,0.10298404681302466,0.036442810568534885,0.0,0.13476347221113852,0.04093705451731875,0.040565227357938084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08138325297593903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032229413175411475,0.04291552881552183,0.05936509705779895,0.0,0.031142078970107036,0.0,0.04294256607710939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860027146941511,0.027361244691717232,0.0614187271793999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035256598353695844,0.0421865191308623,0.0,0.11451106395948728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08118228345532542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17340386781041778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0321761169164043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06680236104764832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034212232020621264,0.031085033096479957,0.0,0.0,0.0857394783145123,0.0430376807674006,0.0,0.033757898548450994,0.1387589270098012,0.0,0.09244652533688458,0.0,0.04582058793477749,0.03805588019627011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09376416953053072,0.08047624384056626,0.0,0.03967127698976797,0.03205570011288953,0.11772397040275487,0.0,0.0,0.0385830037003148,0.044861553390089966,0.05482815709703374,0.043919776553478285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06974742596957678,0.04447077117442279,0.066632320374906,0.09526419516170673,0.03205025532474698,0.09716662569146256,0.0,0.036304759971471805,0.037430902052011834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08757665131297497,0.029395736775050706,0.08201183851632407,0.0,0.2007840998264412,0.0,0.0,0.07800651519920583
divorce,rocknroller420,2020/01/25,Regrets???? Hey I just wanted to ask everyone. 34 m here with three young kids. My wife and I are on the verge of a divorce. We cant agree on anything and are always in a power struggle.  When we are getting along it is great but any other time its non stop arguing. When I think about getting out of this house and away from her I feel better but when I think about leaving her I also get sad. Did any of you have regrets about getting a divorce?,1.3436111111111124,3.3542294239130435,2.7618840579710167,93.46814009661837,80.84782608695653,4.958454106280193,23.265700483091784,5.82211442006289,0.31632946859903344,345,12,74,2,9,112,65,92,0.188,0.747,0.065,-0.8993,1,0,0,0,2,0,11.0,2,1,0,2,9,7,1,1,4,0,7,0,0,0,0,18,16,9,0,3,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,8,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,5,0,1,1,1,12,2,15,15,0,12,0,3,0,0,12,6,0,0,6,54,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18006485092215402,0.1873558188714297,0.0,0.0,0.3062406618350835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18529210545643,0.0,0.21049944316047794,0.0,0.21155049549191168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19914067747066502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151553823924954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385049406364757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4705589356320698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24824587159585365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598108739046989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384178616388303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882485258891282,0.0,0.23539197636523296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2885540525115875,0.0,0.0,0.13129587351728592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328085061594303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Kiryi81888,2020/01/25,"Co-parenting Nightmares and Parental Alienation Accusations Lately, it seems like everyone around me is pointing the finger at me as the negative one in this situation, but I just want to see what unbiased people on the internet might think:

My ex and I split up when our kids were 1 and 3. He had issues in the past with drugs but when I met him he had just come out of a rehab program and was doing everything right to get his life back on track. I was young and dumb and fell into that savior role wanting to help him be the best him. Obviously, that didn't work out. After 4 years together he fell off the rails and I left. Shortly after that, he got locked up on a series of charges that amounted to a 4-year prison sentence. He got out about 2 years ago, for the first year he visited the kids when he felt like it about every other weekend and wasn't paying any child support. His excuse was I'm making so much money he shouldn't have to pay a dime. So I finally filed. And in response to that, he gets a lawyer and files for custody to avoid child support. He gets 50/50 and now he has every other weekend and Wed nights and pays me a measly $400 a month due to the offset of our incomes. 

He's irresponsible, reckless (they come home EVERY weekend with scratches bruises), teaches them that I am too strict and mean, dismisses any negative reports from school or bad grades. They stay up as late as they want. They're now only 7 and 9. He puts them on an air mattress in front of the TV in his living room and they play M rated video games and watch inappropriate videos on Youtube. They have zero rules there. I am a product of strict discipline and I turned out pretty well - not perfect. But even after having gotten pregnant young, I worked hard, finished school, and make close to 6 figures now. I apply the same type of discipline to the kids hoping to raise them as hardworking adults who can persevere in any negative situation also. At my house, they have rules and responsibilities, limited screen time, a bedtime even on the weekends (10 PM). They're expected to make good grades and study. If they get a bad behavior note from the teacher it's instant grounding. He's had me depicted as some monster mom and was starting to create a rift in my relationship with the boys. They started acting out and talking back to me saying things like they want to go live with their dad. Their grades have fallen and I've been getting more and more negative reports from school especially for the 2nd child who naturally has been the more rebellious one anyway.

So I did exactly what I know I shouldn't have done, but I didn't see a way around this. I sat the boys down and had a long talk with them about their father. I didn't tell them to hate him or try to make them feel guilty for loving him. I encouraged them to still love him but pointed out he's not looking out for their best interest and that they can't trust everything he says. Yes, I already KNOW parents are not supposed to speak badly about the other parent, but I didn't know what to do. I couldn't bear to watch my boys slip away from me down the wrong path under his negative influence. So lately their attitudes have changed towards him now that I've pointed out some things and they're realizing it to be true. Like his false promises and blatant lies. And now when they coming asking me for stuff I start directing them towards their dad and he never comes through for them. He noticed this and has increasingly become more hostile towards me even in front of the boys which has driven them even further away. So now when it's his weekend they don't want to go or he has to bring them back early because they say they want to come home. And now he and his family are accusing me of parental alienation and telling everyone I'm this horrible person keeping the kids from him. I've got several text messages calling me a sociopath and telling me I'm going to hell. Subtle social media posts from people in his circle that I know are directed at me.

And now I'm questioning myself like am I really in the wrong here? Am I the crazy one?",5.442931199235545,6.172580111801242,5.662903726708077,82.0353111562351,67.75776397515529,8.676779741997134,29.76648351648352,8.730908602173464,2.176477783086479,3270,115,638,50,52,1038,363,805,0.142,0.748,0.11,-0.9881,6,1,1,0,0,0,69.0,2,0,31,9,40,31,4,1,39,1,49,6,1,5,6,117,108,63,0,12,15,9,5,5,0,3,3,4,4,13,30,59,0,5,12,10,5,19,19,10,1,5,26,15,91,21,107,76,12,123,1,0,6,2,118,53,2,10,53,421,121,18,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05349168322178769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0665915628823445,0.04825740714245171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12310881518019175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074386468162688,0.05641388244197725,0.0,0.11339112924991784,0.13920339166502127,0.15115519865322222,0.03678539549228034,0.06664566571880548,0.0,0.0,0.12665548188135925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06161839496827425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06383639004167531,0.2599068527618205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0617532880223487,0.0,0.0,0.06998036370597861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15942766883106527,0.0,0.15252831766189906,0.11532334971352368,0.10846733894746864,0.0,0.05688734426345341,0.0,0.03051194954074605,0.0,0.057940101990683085,0.06610435738899137,0.0,0.0513289288579377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576373319461211,0.0,0.10288536561932816,0.050614032562536736,0.14478882453461844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05405674329004126,0.059577617001515475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04044758959411274,0.0,0.12106073753000772,0.05993562032485265,0.0,0.06962935330158132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06298389163959787,0.0,0.05363688900913848,0.0,0.0,0.1326548501037157,0.0,0.20421338675056988,0.0,0.06556438382806162,0.0,0.042623045148273496,0.1474061660953451,0.0,0.10657044860545173,0.053402908644450034,0.050674110752972984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10892638168822907,0.0,0.161121463275676,0.0,0.0,0.06573275887257203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06401588852273334,0.0,0.07067464991663874,0.04816633660198025,0.0,0.04436008858946073,0.0,0.04654133322241216,0.0,0.0,0.056629145950137974,0.0,0.0,0.06870251682025498,0.0,0.0,0.12267281267247945,0.04589464708661113,0.0,0.0,0.2680213278026669,0.0,0.05760557255123917,0.08367043904715908,0.052690415878887814,0.0,0.0,0.17113493259416554,0.0,0.05779326915490906,0.061391964605741436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06066280465214605,0.067599555644673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03865817767137835,0.0,0.0,0.06478731880397663,0.0,0.051533800980755634,0.0,0.14396490336827314,0.0,0.18321530986417026,0.09617337241017973,0.054935289344257066,0.0,0.06817201297487413,0.0,0.0,0.13565930233935988,0.0,0.06151353208374985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12813626329770308,0.0643191176683509,0.048191128037477805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06907991828496936,0.0,0.13695625481948914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09700511048267972,0.1582310363745986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08018029634795476,0.03866626474668312,0.0,0.0,0.03518731385942002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04096989690176485,0.0656373955506122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21355619781077148,0.04789858809247352,0.0,0.0,0.0542568764601059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08786290612641445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13195429029003253,0.0,0.15543930002833373
divorce,Smashy_ashy,2020/01/25,"I’m stuck I’m finally done. After a separation at the end of 2018, reconciliation in 2019, and some back and forth bull shit up until a couple of months ago I am ready to finalize this divorce.

But I can’t kick him out of the house. We have a 4 year old, I leave for work at 6:20 Am. Baby sitter can’t take him until 9, even if I get him in AM pre school class that doesn’t start until 7. 

I could attempt to change my work schedule but my commute is 1 hour and I work at least 30 minutes of over time a day. Baby sitter needs me to pick up my son by 6 and if I go into work later I might not be able to make it before 6.

My husband just barely paid me his half of rent from last month yesterday, he hasn’t pitched in for groceries and household needs in over a month. He’s hardly ‘working’ at all, he only does Uber maybe 20 hours a week. Dude will literally drop our son off at the baby sitter and go home to hang out and play video games rather than work!

We have a court hearing next month to finalize the divorce but I can’t kick him out of the house! I feel so trapped and Idk what to do.",3.2630379746835416,3.290609059071734,4.712084388185655,89.42078481012659,72.33333333333334,7.501434599156117,24.238818565400845,7.0316486544052195,0.6457051476793256,845,20,202,7,15,284,142,237,0.073,0.905,0.022000000000000002,-0.8841,1,1,0,0,2,0,19.0,3,0,0,7,5,2,1,0,12,0,17,1,1,2,1,31,31,17,0,6,8,3,2,0,0,2,0,1,2,0,4,14,0,0,1,3,2,3,6,1,0,1,3,3,24,1,40,24,3,49,0,0,0,0,18,18,1,4,27,120,28,8,0.1134986523773234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10060970721568002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08727345782445523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09657899360235382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12006652483096535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09061943845389404,0.12558410007663834,0.0,0.07319724127413361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09932343554931697,0.11614852727243127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10052611782149516,0.0,0.0,0.0749647894639378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05738832889490573,0.0,0.0,0.3729966777271751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05929836138302835,0.0,0.12900779944700666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10167249912279856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12792123006004116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11384840244891915,0.0,0.223546620058349,0.2619244124453305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251655015085744,0.0,0.12017868495590575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07576123179334285,0.0,0.11402465156876487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12040413412903192,0.0,0.0,0.3623741659490948,0.0,0.0,0.16831562520316598,0.0,0.0,0.12070710441742112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11909774314163912,0.0,0.0,0.08632083957810803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11486669560970945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650473564586175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08033493032702732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08533686150617759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06618197693320177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09104177280391457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4957702241587029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07308941093150674
divorce,John885362,2020/01/25,"My home is inherited and my new wife is demanding concerning things with the deed.My home is inherited and my new wife is demanding concerning things with the deed. My brother and I inherited a home from my parents. I've been living in the home for the past 2 years, it was empty for 5 years. My brother wants nothing to do with it other than his share of the money eventually, he's not in a rush. I got married a little over a year ago, the marriage has been rocky, and she's making demands about the house that are concerning.

She wants to be on deed, demanding 50% ownership. I was thinking of doing a loan, or probably a mortgage, with my brother as the lender to pay him part (a little less than half). She's refusing to sign that or any other type of loan on the house. She doesn't work or have any money (another issue for another day). Since she throws around divorce sometimes when she gets upset I'm wondering how this all will effect me.",4.038197097020628,5.440623411764707,5.268483575248284,81.08070855614973,71.56684491978609,8.765317035905273,28.33040488922842,9.23628265651192,2.4029132161955693,746,28,146,16,14,248,105,187,0.08,0.9079999999999999,0.012,-0.8402,2,0,0,0,1,0,23.0,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,1,16,0,16,0,0,3,1,23,24,10,0,2,4,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,9,9,0,1,3,0,8,2,2,1,0,1,5,0,19,1,25,17,3,19,0,0,0,0,19,8,0,4,9,99,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11771010837066373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806031779577278,0.2784832787813437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11821103766266765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08563840847226993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0693771678475893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10620410002907472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5327958170620996,0.0,0.0,0.3064431040214501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13859800746527035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26618044522719725,0.1172557891144142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08863819457869879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564983514381655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12741535413805152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14744731162456187,0.14379836762112544,0.1267628494628979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14316981841159265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10984506000967628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13133246606410115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764392294999886,0.0850863150959327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566456794370978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14400482809370527,0.09667252532529354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25653675136095017
divorce,lashesinbarking,2020/01/25,"Islamic divorced 1 year from a Narc! Hi so I’m not sure which group this belongs too but I married my ex husband after 18 months of dating in a islamically ceremony only. We didn’t have a chance to have the civil ceremony as we separated after 2 months together. We then divorced Islamically after 6 months of separation as he didn’t want to attempt a reconciliation at all. Divorce was his idea but we separated as he was absent from our marriage and quite abusive. My ex kept all of my belongings which I decided not to go to court about due to the legal costs and mental issues. 

My ex is a covert narcissist and despite our divorce we would contact each other on and off over the last year and have even seen each other a few times. Each time things go back to square one where he wants things his way or the highway. But he feels sad that he is divorced and misses having someone to date but when I needed him as my husband he was no where to be found. 

My question is I know it gets easier but why don’t they realise what they’ve done? I’ve suffered a lot as a emotional punch bag and even now I’m still picking up the pieces.",3.8473297213622284,5.177276214912278,5.4256759545923625,80.05100619195045,71.93859649122807,7.996284829721363,28.32404540763674,8.4952907291091,2.0217014447884414,899,34,178,15,17,305,135,228,0.095,0.855,0.05,-0.9252,0,0,0,0,5,0,11.0,7,0,1,2,11,4,0,0,13,0,16,0,0,1,3,39,30,21,0,4,8,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,10,15,0,1,6,0,1,2,6,3,0,1,9,3,21,1,28,19,8,30,3,3,2,0,32,8,0,3,19,124,31,2,0.0,0.2025424256191634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13144651257056994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17493656411412073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922906421560054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22581573794044035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08643516463689876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18743288156652047,0.0,0.0,0.08931195118482277,0.0,0.1943044970880112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929766251025439,0.0,0.17842265490349002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09394715825422667,0.13934337169098365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14533172328691013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722728243020245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4093411234102333,0.0,0.0,0.1267538980098237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158370727907492,0.1300117310297113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914980461581362,0.1818215466373637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14484153976030173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13651727105784314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16111407993605803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271371452753572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19935935345643166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20165613139374655,0.1356885551386736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15425169543136427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12143475535182399,0.0,0.0,0.2201665526329528
divorce,vanmarie,2020/01/25,"We had the talk last night Things have not been going well, and there’s been an underlying air of negativity and resentment for years. Last night we decided to separate. We have a child, and I have to move across country with him to move back in with my parents.

Ironically, it was the most intimate and mutually supportive conversation we’ve ever had. We will make good coparents, and honestly probably really good friends eventually. We slept in the same bed still last night. His feet touched mine while he slept and I cried and cried. This is so hard. I can’t believe it’s come to this. And yet I’m pretty sure it’s the right thing, and better for our 2yo now rather than 10 years from now. I just imagined that we would be together forever no matter what. Tough days ahead.",3.867816210635002,6.04478746979866,4.639731543624162,82.21227671657202,73.63087248322148,9.14837377387713,26.226639132679402,9.661875296680813,2.4647249354672183,619,22,123,17,13,199,103,149,0.115,0.7390000000000001,0.146,0.7268,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,7,0,0,2,11,10,1,0,6,0,13,3,3,1,2,30,20,11,0,2,3,1,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,9,18,0,0,2,0,0,4,4,2,1,0,7,2,15,8,16,10,2,27,0,0,0,0,15,6,0,1,17,85,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11384622527253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668088514433932,0.0,0.13094384566893644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12753747055502962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32526598541094826,0.0954841234340054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339254815409989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11438799998393047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08414385864771923,0.2483653516258531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13262944459514414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3620571570945745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09882879029519087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31472102403769003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4168226784380386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643991002907384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15062657631030993,0.15962983031922173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09484871491619966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12643934846910193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182380246573541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16801263732332788,0.13954139581397745,0.0,0.0,0.1190021183590117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19672417398593875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13312047586294212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10517501182297348,0.0,0.0,0.19068692244741534
divorce,OtherwiseUpstairs49,2020/01/25,"Divorce and text messages I suspect my husband had an affair last spring / summer for several months.  He denies it and says they were just good friends and talked / texted ALL the time.  We are considering divorce (for many reasons, not just this).  My question is this- if I file for divorce, is there any way for me to get the text message content from about 6-12 months ago with this other woman?  (they have been deleted from his phone). We have AT&T and I've been reading online that the company doesn't even keep the text content, only time and date of text messages.  Anyone have experience with text messages / phone records being used in divorce situations to prove an affair?  Maybe can a lawyer subpoena this information?  And if I can't get the content of the messages, can excessive volume of communication via phone calls and texting count as evidence of infidelity?  Thank you for sharing any experiences.",6.571114519427402,8.498357190184054,6.14062883435583,75.23073875255626,66.05521472392638,8.378118609406954,35.055725971370144,8.841846274778883,3.2183419222903886,734,35,119,12,12,227,106,163,0.03,0.8959999999999999,0.07400000000000001,0.8053,0,0,0,0,4,0,25.0,2,1,2,0,5,4,0,0,9,0,15,0,0,2,2,24,20,10,0,2,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,7,11,0,1,5,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,1,12,4,18,15,1,11,0,0,0,0,30,1,0,3,9,76,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636790600037906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20006572408884327,0.0,0.2511335586297491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12910997691212012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885459637815519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12195807554171173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3612417964450384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14265836801900372,0.0,0.19294162202723306,0.0,0.0,0.15487374436299134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641233748084331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15051253385543953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18720380330589334,0.18550344994072787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2947680919349774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404329092280743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20684770151497645,0.0,0.18469768516933785,0.0,0.0,0.1898486059811116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14683927567552305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085993621854979,0.0,0.0,0.20755177020333795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484128404927602,0.0,0.16999880949517104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153391372145998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594763419871494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14656476301144913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,GebaHexed,2020/01/25,"Will daughter's benefits move with us? My (40F) partner (45M and note, not married) of nearly 20 years became disabled about 6 years ago. We have an 8yo daughter. His disability is a neuro condition that would make working outside of the home difficult, but I keep telling him that with the internet there are MILLIONS of things he can do from home for work. He had a great job until this. He has been so depressed and basically just sits around all day playing video games and smoking pot. He can't drive but I've offered so many times to take him to a therapist to work on this and he just never gets it together.  I think he hates himself and is ashamed of his condition even though there may be nothing that  will ever make it better. He talks about what he wants to happen in the future but never acts on it and frankly I think he has given up.  I love him but I think that I may leave this year if my current push for therapy falls on deaf ears

That said, he gets SSI disability benefits for himself and our daughter since he doesn't work. Two separate deposits 1 for him and 1 for her. If I move and daughter is with me most of the time, would that mean that I would get her benefits to help me provide her care? It's not a lot but with no idea of when or if he will work again, it is a concern. Again, we have been together for a long time but are not married, so just wondering how this might work",5.199067937033965,5.243604598591553,5.5506462303231165,85.02219138359571,68.1549295774648,8.935874067937034,31.14250207125104,8.671277953709913,2.1749840927920463,1102,41,235,16,17,352,154,284,0.066,0.82,0.114,0.9485,2,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,4,0,0,7,19,12,1,1,11,0,27,3,1,3,4,55,46,26,0,7,16,4,0,0,1,9,1,3,2,1,18,16,0,1,6,3,1,6,8,4,0,2,5,3,27,8,32,31,3,32,0,1,0,1,39,7,0,10,18,160,45,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09861028467191553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09902993240454236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983854704479686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11341974124035165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07174258825510503,0.0,0.0958135078952221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347500985726982,0.10062574105006378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1743597648293492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12264589622741386,0.0,0.0,0.09837189451819907,0.0,0.0,0.10982951776325604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745638963655511,0.0,0.22317177309469508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12557990475731876,0.0,0.0,0.11039159883617852,0.09887796710709523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11779036698311116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09844663144929026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945748945442957,0.10040122930907297,0.0,0.1485112488841869,0.11278303000537705,0.0,0.12117633385771935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801133579175073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364675930482473,0.0,0.0,0.17159505334852548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10674074229514148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10581765022293377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09202143118625644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364095711055315,0.08941297958101511,0.097231361344761,0.0,0.12721616500623625,0.129161798159138,0.07390496402186435,0.2138402352040987,0.1092957682433102,0.0,0.19460021600726995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086683318236212,0.0,0.13381173675623073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06561405496831392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206383826250016,0.4859177537545787,0.0,0.0,0.2370716920229112,0.0,0.0,0.21491070249338404
divorce,SupremeCheezit,2020/01/25,"Sinking Ship This will likely be long winded, and for that I apologize. 30M here... Not legally married, but been with 38F for 10 years. She is on social security and I have been the only one working for the entirety of our relationship. 10yr ago I ""fell"" for her, and we just about immediately moved in together. She had a son, 9 then. After 3 years, we took in two of her sisters kids (at the time) 14 and 16 yrs girls. SS12 at the time... and I was 23. I was in college at the time, but after a semester of trying to work, drive the girls to weekly visitation 2 hrs away AND go to school, I dropped out. Wife was 31 at this point, without a license or willingness to get one. Flashforward to NOW, SS19 has held a job for a total of 6 days, AND now we have her sisters son 16.
Throughout the years I have tried and encouraged her to get a job, stating that it will likely help her make friends and be all around happier... shes ""looking"".  In the past 6 months I have set a deadline for SS19 to get and keep a job, the deadline is Jan 31st. I have spent hours upon hours many days and arguements; walking SS19 through job applications, taking him to temp agencies... he had an interview at dominoes that I watched him talk (from the parking lot thru the window)
A week ago, GF38 says she ""wont"" kick him out. I cannot afford to continue supporting so many people. I make 16.50/hr... I barely make enough to keep the lights on and cant keep food in the house between paychecks.
This evening I suggested Job corps, she seemed interested... I plan to bring it up to SS19 tomorrow and I hope he is receptive.
I solely own the house, I know I should dissolve this relationship... it's not healthy for me, its holding me back from LIVING... I love her, but I have felt used for mny years...
Any advice is appreciated.
If nothing works to get SS19 supporting himself, and if she doesnt get a job, how can I ""leave"" her? When I own the house, and she likely wont get out willingly... or because I'm not sure she would even know what to do, how to move out... where to go etc. What should I do??",3.0834855769230782,4.410854608173082,4.2583653846153835,87.68663461538462,73.83173076923076,7.603846153846155,26.461538461538463,8.17850203761792,1.4876625000000008,1591,56,346,25,32,521,216,416,0.022000000000000002,0.884,0.094,0.986,7,0,0,0,0,0,92.0,4,0,0,4,14,13,0,0,26,0,35,2,0,6,3,59,65,27,0,6,12,5,1,3,1,8,0,1,1,3,13,24,1,6,4,0,1,10,9,0,0,3,11,5,49,12,58,44,7,62,0,0,2,1,47,22,0,7,30,228,62,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07907961821806657,0.1434714293842535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055032223764802164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07204099451277705,0.0,0.0,0.07603232134950877,0.06222683719046505,0.0,0.049331531126626575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10438071159546457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08361783942917941,0.09025350247743597,0.1069012702206191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777013243049984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097855629129691,0.0,0.06252296406405725,0.0,0.25368190316454425,0.0,0.09198383486347396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05424276396532765,0.0,0.0,0.08037744001609624,0.1593909474611385,0.2801320385785723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4818373822690224,0.2157913343825547,0.0,0.0,0.08894925254185114,0.0,0.0,0.08568858905026452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11860856908577047,0.0,0.07145884028434159,0.07161666239524157,0.0679571726352382,0.0,0.0,0.06880010208508996,0.07303856757352717,0.0,0.16205551906638427,0.1640918346295681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06459408962545493,0.1720223386970321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07765035321402804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10967464298910376,0.06154761097441035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07725269926688609,0.056103663056981966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07650090605381604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17376774621655305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06435533283985087,0.0,0.08190108819441304,0.0,0.07367168138249798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08249351901993471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18366695959627996,0.07627147670342474,0.0,0.06084602489305944,0.0650449799869953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415652091561149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08991138574708492,0.10988642189198357,0.0,0.07905261072619943,0.0,0.0,0.06989378707740161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298273659603532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07800944826738128,0.0,0.1767445325969387,0.0,0.0,0.057487266894852264,0.0,0.0,0.2084538867947739
divorce,abdmamajama,2020/01/25,"Moving day You are moving out soon.  You will have new carpet untracked by my feet, walls that do not echo my voice, a new bed without my imprint, towels I’ve never touched to my body, new forks that have never touched my lips.  You’ll have no daily reminders of me. A fresh start.
I will be left with your empty closet, your bathroom sink, your tire tracks in the garage, the table we shared meals on, the wall you damaged and never repaired.  The floors we danced on, the shower you sang in, the silence.  
How do I move on when you are everywhere?  I want to start over but I’d lose the memories of little feet in the hallway, splashing in the tub, height marks on the door frame.  The kids need consistency and normalcy right now so changing it all out is not an option.  
The closer we get to your move out date, the more afraid I am that I will never really be free of you.",4.804780564263325,5.206087074712645,4.9561024033437855,87.70368338557995,69.05747126436782,7.476698014629049,25.58829676071056,6.980632752743323,0.9243977011494252,677,17,142,5,11,212,107,174,0.07200000000000001,0.902,0.026000000000000002,-0.8343,2,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,3,11,0,1,5,5,0,1,16,0,15,6,4,1,5,22,20,6,0,2,4,0,2,0,0,4,1,2,5,1,4,9,1,0,0,2,1,5,8,3,0,0,0,4,25,3,21,14,2,39,0,2,0,0,16,20,0,1,14,97,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15907757331178052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15150056974710205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09236066232915033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07482298290257026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15560155420104854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14353724373691892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16021893145014945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.608851842246213,0.0,0.10619076862397396,0.4418193757749729,0.4149485852396797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917460391913605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12230328508114599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20273407150365896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16460249886827474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08447085228408283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380524083382468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,maximillianx,2020/01/25,"""He does not, however, need to escalate the division of the personal property into a domestic violence situation"" - WTF I am in the midst of my divorce - we've moved past mediation, and now I'm still trying to get the remainder of my possessions from the marital home (which I still own), where she is living with the kids.  I have my own home which is close by - easy enough to get over to the old home and pick up my things.

I had scheduled a truck via a friend tomorrow morning to pick up some of my larger belongings, but she said she wasn't going to be there, to which I responded ""I don't need you here.  I own this house as well and can come and get my items if I need to"" - her: ""be polite, and let me know"" - ""I will - I have told you that I will call you, but if you aren't there, I will come and get my things.""  But she doesn't want me over there if she's not there; she didn't like this one bit - we went back and forth on this point, in a very contentious way, and today, lo' and behold, OC is sending my attorney a statement saying the above among other things.  She did this last time we had an argument - and for the record, I never name call, I never disparage her as a person, I just state my case - obviously with assertion, but I'm not being abusive in any shape, way or form.

We have clearly stated and indexed which items would go with whom, and we've moved all my things to the garage and my office downstairs.  I would only be picking those things up, nothing more, and I've never given any indication that I would do anything different.  Yet, now, OC is stating that he recommends that she get a third-party to video record me while I pick up my things, and I am risking escalation to domestic violence?!? - holy shit this woman is crazy.  I've NEVER ever raised a hand to her - she accused me of mental abuse, to which I have absolutely no clue to what she is referring to - whatever, she perceives it, but amazingly, I've never disparaged her as a person EVER (only exception was when I found out she was cheating on me) over the years.

She has a history of being overly sensitive and cannot handle confrontation - she shuts down emotionally so there is no indication of what the hell is going on with her (which is why we are divorcing - you can't work something out with someone who won't talk to you), so I'm not surprised she flipped out and contacted her attorney, but this...this is just beyond sleazy. 

I do have an attorney, and she is going to call me tomorrow morning - - - this is just a rant.  I feel like I'm being set up here for something bad.  I'm beyond livid.   

I get cheated on, get booted from the house, and I'm the asshole.",7.4169318181818165,5.627250071969699,7.88846666666667,76.12320000000003,64.37878787878788,11.629818181818182,33.99878787878788,10.53366545652748,3.239938242424243,2050,68,424,42,25,682,230,528,0.154,0.799,0.047,-0.9964,2,0,2,0,4,0,88.0,4,6,0,1,25,13,5,1,27,0,50,2,2,4,10,82,80,36,0,10,18,0,2,2,1,7,0,2,3,5,29,35,0,0,6,1,0,10,19,7,1,1,12,4,74,6,62,54,11,69,1,0,0,0,55,29,2,5,26,317,103,1,0.0,0.19436104598451906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11155309492894984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06749563466100808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06306846971969904,0.06848343962894476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08954481354348633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512553787429458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14130627661254105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569365015723883,0.0,0.0,0.07177642829276401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09226168351698648,0.0,0.08474879026752036,0.0,0.0,0.14838393028921362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041471876712535695,0.05859524608337771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08993091398455791,0.0633686017785272,0.0,0.2999651786210921,0.0,0.18645587549411008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468188393633384,0.0,0.0,0.18928059328628305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045076155994838184,0.06685740873813936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387120984235154,0.0,0.08014185181854805,0.0,0.07242533781498989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08265706857141729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17434898106773758,0.0,0.1824508133875641,0.31629516672793445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07870059240538209,0.0,0.08606640087667279,0.0,0.05557900909542755,0.12476011362037236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07829756009558501,0.0,0.2148506205750665,0.0,0.0,0.07753559870344713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07801999105892916,0.065225753770645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08419255493534053,0.0,0.09219413944712784,0.0,0.0,0.06949544788891134,0.1262863116548149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13100287269021452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06592472855677826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3269434514969033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04782663724172784,0.0,0.07774555765741029,0.07837381441341608,0.0,0.055686330726468065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06767525348156805,0.04837763805171378,0.13020763143455444,0.0,0.0,0.07374600853858694,0.0760335455875146,0.07401047157719244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059711681248255336,0.0,0.0,0.1747943868814434,0.0,0.0,0.05281831859391147
divorce,pavym,2020/01/25,"Finally I feel some sense of relief. Everything will be okay It’s hard. My stbx finally left and I feel so much better the only thing that sucks is that he hasn’t even cared to see the kids. I don’t think he will help pay for rent or anything. He said just to contact him for the kids. But I was always the one that would fine someone to take care of them and my mom would watch them until I got off work. I’ve never been the one to leave my kids for outings. One thing I wanted to do was be okay civil because of the kids. Years of verbal and emotional abuse and lonelyness I made the error of having an emotional affair just messaging and yes that wasn’t right but I refuse to take all the blame for everything. For years, it was by I caused all the fights. Or I had to do something for him to treat me like shit. Call me a bad mother, a bitch a cunt and multiple names. I HAD to cause it. He wants me to tell him things that didn’t happen and I feel like he wants me to make up things to make him feel better for leaving. The only thing is he gets all his advise from Reddit and I told him that’s ridiculous because people don’t know the other side of the story. I read this and it made me realize it’s okay to let go.

You think you make a good partner because you don’t cheat but don’t realize how inconsiderate, unappreciative, manipulative, lack of empathy, have poor communication skills, and harboring personal trauma from your past.

I know for a fact my x was all that to people at his work and he still is but with me. He treated me like shit and it was honestly all about him and his work life. He told me it was always what I like, what I want and what I don’t like but he would always do what he wanted even if I didn’t approve. 

Just like someone else reposted;

I declare right now:

I choose myself. I choose happiness. I choose self- worth. I choose loving functional relationships with a man who respects, values, and honors me as I do for him. I choose great sex. I choose to be heard. I choose self respect. 

What do I change? My marital status. The way I let others tear me. My self- love status. Stop looking for others to fill the void in my heart. My mind-body-heart-connection. My outlook on life. My self-care status

Just let god guide me the right way and take my time. Everything will be okay. My kids and I will be okay.",1.424834183673468,3.595759770833337,2.8574914965986413,92.02339285714285,81.5,6.085034013605442,19.170918367346946,7.290443533043144,0.30194005102040844,1830,45,400,26,49,595,206,480,0.125,0.682,0.193,0.9853,1,2,1,0,2,0,55.0,0,4,2,8,11,38,8,0,22,6,43,8,3,9,7,77,79,29,0,10,12,2,5,6,1,7,2,2,1,11,29,19,0,2,17,1,4,2,10,10,0,3,19,10,71,28,46,45,8,25,0,0,3,3,58,10,5,4,17,258,100,6,0.0,0.08473351325876012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17851848458494315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05885070463052036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059711990233545974,0.13078453644656113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12649831098717362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730247526648453,0.0,0.14582850124291905,0.1469310923412759,0.07565332716326176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05974155828916184,0.16088937047981894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09446989077138138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19281905840612348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14464041588116192,0.051090289576869855,0.0,0.15668224889288546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03736360605315524,0.0,0.04064359017601785,0.05998334119466577,0.057197032940774974,0.0788454771402496,0.0,0.0,0.06324042792345827,0.07612898665084207,0.06406334197206462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16949110359961456,0.04793495883039515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07860548480371489,0.0,0.0,0.1514479974134286,0.07770119483203533,0.21938662354506566,0.10102623839448506,0.2096315327770796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0600545406311233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12909005639557702,0.13533833647317325,0.14321033934868965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07220970582313799,0.08375743692276214,0.0,0.0,0.052571711728354384,0.0,0.055156732806959416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14538112861785896,0.1087806734941965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06826910518907432,0.0991589138263614,0.06244408977781238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07153429597085882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07678028507420206,0.0,0.1832201117427665,0.06802708756122544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056988150509384536,0.0,0.2984227295626417,0.0,0.14681812260818536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211887582779848,0.055055697034350634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057111925868705726,0.05978969458489415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16131101100082296,0.0,0.06250721234087357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375567520225925,0.09164777567003356,0.0,0.0,0.04170093837801884,0.0,0.0,0.1366711855063333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21090683138270885,0.11353046603207055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15619119075398166,0.0,0.0,0.15240649095452316,0.0,0.0,0.09210655717996266
divorce,Nluvwbooty,2020/01/25,"In need of a strangers thoughts.. So I’m 24. My wife and I have been married for almost 2 years now. I love her very much. And our life WAS perfect. As a child my parents were divorced and my mother hates my father with all of her. He left because he didn’t want my little brother. I’ve hated him for 18 years because of this reason. How can you not want your own child? How can you leave your family for something else? Now he did cheat on my mom and that’s a completely different story but anyways back to the point I’m getting at. My wife and I have a 6 month old. Everyone loves her. Except me. I just don’t feel anything. When my wife first told me she was pregnant I was pissed. I hated the idea. She was anti-abortion so that was always out of the question. I felt trapped honestly. As she grew more and more pregnant the easier it became to accept. Now that my daughter is 6 months old I don’t know what to do. I just want my old life back. I’m still a kid. I didn’t want her in the first place and I don’t want her now. It kills me. I’m literally the exact thing I hated for 18 years of my life. I’m my father. I’ve never cheated on my wife and I don’t plan to. Like I said, it’s not about her and I. It’s about our daughter. I feel like I’m in a lose lose situation. Without a doubt in my mind if I leave everyone is going to hate me. My mother will be extremely disappointed. My wife’s parents will be fucking PISSED. I just don’t know what to do. I’m not happy. I don’t think I ever will be in this situation. I can’t stay and fake being happy forever, I’ve been trying and I’ve already been called out on it. You can tell I’m depressed. You can tell I want nothing to do with her. It just sucks. My wife chose my daughter over our marriage and I got no say in it. She essentially trapped me and I can’t forgive her. Like I said I don’t know what to do. For me it just feels like either way I’m fucked. Be happy, maybe, for a bit and then slowly lose it because I won’t be with my wife who I want to be with and no one will ever let me live down that I’m a deadbeat dad?
Be miserable for the next 18 years and leave my wife and child out of nowhere when she turns 18? My wife knows how I feel and doesn’t want me to go and I don’t want to leave her either, I just can’t do this parenting thing. I’m not ready. Like I said, lose, lose. Someone please help. Take out a huge life insurance policy, car crash? I just don’t know what to do here. Accept the fact that my life is over forever and just deal with it like normal? I just feel as if I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place. Either way, I’m fucked.",-0.5095621132793937,1.4887230279232142,1.7788061240679056,97.77269276534984,88.3542757417103,4.7990798032682855,17.756861811835638,6.194236138160024,-0.4067856893542756,2017,52,491,19,66,679,208,573,0.212,0.669,0.11900000000000001,-0.9971,4,2,1,0,1,0,67.0,3,6,0,9,29,40,14,2,20,0,54,12,2,4,7,94,112,35,1,13,21,22,7,6,0,5,5,4,0,4,25,30,0,0,19,1,0,4,24,24,0,3,20,11,88,16,55,78,9,55,0,8,0,5,70,23,6,5,31,312,113,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060345687612091435,0.0,0.06650281895438882,0.0,0.050144472930215636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04959213448619221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09267858722675333,0.0,0.11020911917524508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06579267619443488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06153627858344829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0631856540043295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062129534448799074,0.05190529208067797,0.0,0.0,0.06296305004841364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0503428363634974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090244704483611,0.0,0.1151696628709928,0.0,0.0,0.056811532761779776,0.0,0.1523564373942384,0.08610522261514783,0.05786288752064745,0.0,0.0,0.10252104967090857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16713928169644468,0.031485450988402136,0.0,0.06849883625574989,0.0,0.04819862340847895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924564353811396,0.05398470401773097,0.2974911014016892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0403936866997887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06803071695298397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06667318353143283,0.0,0.16559758282471473,0.0,0.0,0.25524348442537353,0.0654770087807876,0.06162401967048076,0.21283121555417808,0.1766516685109675,0.0604003566467523,0.05321421320309186,0.0,0.0,0.33709998705588595,0.0,0.0,0.10878121983062122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06054328475028481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060849457366263876,0.07058046462094933,0.09620429448088272,0.0,0.0443009716632993,0.04468498997540009,0.046479309438261784,0.0,0.06409144420598425,0.0,0.059045921540576515,0.05782493019456578,0.0,0.1897107812285326,0.0,0.04083644383096726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007481098273796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12592610009682728,0.06615177147457292,0.056968955958126725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06750946840484406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061961425596298365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719745836292344,0.04792434902202272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13547851458138835,0.0,0.0,0.051061488868050287,0.04639416891777713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0642334021377721,0.04812690563737862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0453110255964985,0.0,0.10534677877613602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08007344325524182,0.03861473575315196,0.0,0.047842881852469814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05758483143549641,0.0,0.040915297949260535,0.06554992320351873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049724108661265885,0.3199073999364596,0.0956695110974534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05809234232514723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15523215225395928
divorce,continualchanges,2020/01/25,"“What you don’t change, you choose.” I read this, this week. 
It hit me so hard. 
I spent so much time in my life not taking steps I should have taken for my own happiness, sanity, and health. 

I declare right now:

I choose myself.
I choose happiness.
I choose self-worth.
I choose loving, functional relationships with the man who respects, values, and honors me as I do him.
I choose great sex. 
I choose to be heard.
I choose self-respect. 


What do i change?
My marital status.
The way i let others treat me.
My self-love status.
Stop looking for others to fill the void in my heart.
My mind-body-heart connection.
My outlook on life.
My self-care habits.",0.5762656641604025,3.070364095238098,1.6058395989974947,95.36109022556394,94.55555555555556,4.874853801169591,15.36173767752715,6.5966054737557815,-0.25794603174603203,500,11,104,7,19,156,76,126,0.032,0.758,0.209,0.9724,0,0,0,0,1,0,33.0,0,2,0,1,3,7,0,0,3,0,7,6,1,0,0,14,14,5,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,8,3,0,1,8,1,1,2,2,0,0,0,3,3,29,7,9,7,2,11,0,0,1,2,8,4,0,0,4,64,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3083886029784613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16070044410591025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3103275522668618,0.1305719475513722,0.0,0.0,0.15493561036034362,0.0,0.3454515922582275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14904903918109766,0.20590859444562326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12240133105962706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13155370570924138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14717561761842202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10715005766439448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457990178799018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15649123269372614,0.0,0.12447787915521208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6082360956064684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12186152993478876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10959305909580784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08499357934077194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11569716471150104,0.11691953759471505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,B817,2020/01/25,"Sock Day Today, my mom (without knowing what sock day is and not knowing that today was the day) gave me a pair of Harry Potter socks that read ""Free Doby"". 
I didn't like the term when I first heard it. Doby's freedom was an event to be celebrated. I didnt like the idea of celebrating the end of a life I loved with the man I loved.
Instead of looking at it as a celebration of my freedom from my marriage or my XH, I am choosing to look at it as my release from the hurt and sadness that the end has caused. 
Tomorrow, I can really begin to move on because like it or not that is the only choice.",6.34,4.349731571428574,7.4904761904761905,78.76285714285716,66.6190476190476,9.987301587301587,33.698412698412696,8.344100000000001,2.4298507936507936,462,16,101,5,6,159,75,126,0.09,0.7190000000000001,0.191,0.9536,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,2,8,0,0,12,0,10,3,0,1,0,13,19,7,0,0,5,1,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,9,3,0,0,4,1,1,1,5,2,0,1,6,3,13,7,17,12,1,17,0,2,2,2,7,3,0,2,16,70,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11056098860967586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863161418176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3509044135328013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3212785783075362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15427255960861547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19415949328523024,0.20474376472023606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19935155209100608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12810643860379056,0.2658235079312966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3046089192076588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3273855910466643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21241742979400927,0.0,0.19276677000429585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13793945901309534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814182937124276,0.0,0.11618976183341655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3438336132513241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.174833448797656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,marcus_aurelius_53,2020/01/25,"How to Start? What do I do now?! She just told me we’re getting a divorce.  

Getting destroyed emotionally is a given.

How do I get through this? What’s first? What’s important?",-0.6282857142857168,1.1291610285714313,1.5314285714285705,92.98857142857143,110.14285714285714,4.285714285714287,25.0,6.1826913282559595,1.0447142857142864,136,7,28,2,7,45,26,35,0.138,0.8059999999999999,0.055999999999999994,-0.565,0,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,4,1,1,0,2,0,4,0,0,2,0,3,10,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,4,0,2,8,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,21,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4646950603283747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3513926018461477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6475014396728392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924025882535044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3947459338339721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Flora48,2020/01/25,"Would you attempt reconcile if Abuse was involved and the reason you left?
Physically it was basically one off situation. But besides that he would call me names and emotionally/verbally abuse. We’ve been trying therapy together, but we’ve been apart for half a year now and it’s like... I won’t know if these issues are even fixed unless we lived together again. And that’s a big ass leap of faith. I’m just wondering if we should even be doing this or if it’s stupid to even be trying.",2.988645833333333,5.2510347395833366,4.42625,82.32708333333336,76.60416666666666,8.433333333333334,24.20833333333333,9.150863307647796,2.057633333333334,389,13,77,10,9,129,68,96,0.14800000000000002,0.8140000000000001,0.038,-0.8968,0,0,0,0,2,0,11.0,2,2,0,1,6,3,1,0,3,0,12,1,1,1,0,23,15,12,0,7,9,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,4,0,6,2,5,5,0,7,1,0,0,1,8,4,1,6,4,52,13,0,0.0,0.4866033805485996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096814480117488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4068877216476559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214328101327626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11285291133374202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231092670645569,0.0,0.0,0.10032178984423804,0.0,0.18132447291395767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13914791195109413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111301128209375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308177530867717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348312967755624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2788332059501781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22268921430972916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29174412368002617,0.0,0.0,0.13223623207264187
divorce,modaddy1989,2020/01/25,"Any parents out there can help! Hey there, 

My daughter (6 years old) is just such a peach. She helps out around the house, is very bubbly, loves animals, loves spending time and playing with her 10 month old sister.

She was sent to the principal's office today for saying she didn't want to play with another little girl because she was ""brown"". Her school is awesomely diverse, which I thought would foster 'colour blindness' (if I may).

I got a call from her mom (we are divorced 5.5 years, high conflict in the past, but is coming around) stating that she went to the school and my daughter had said that the mom told her to say ""I'm not playing with you because you're Brown"". 

I was heartbroken to hear this news, for the little girl who was the victim. Also for my daughter who I truly think is not predjudise or racist. 

Let me make this clear, I love all people, regardless of our differences. 

I spoke with my daughter on the phone tonight and asked ""how come you said that to the other little girl?"" 

She was sobbing, saying she already has talked about it with mom and that she didn't want to talk about it anymore. 

I want to bring good moral values to the table, and I really want to get this right the first time. 

I pick her up in a few days for her visit with me and I don't know what I'm going to do or say to her regarding this.

I need your advice fellow Redditors!!!",5.150257352941175,5.545138511029414,5.139705882352942,86.71117647058823,68.30147058823529,8.017647058823531,27.02941176470589,7.724431198458867,1.3563764705882355,1073,30,221,11,17,334,153,272,0.07,0.795,0.135,0.9702,1,0,0,0,1,0,41.0,2,3,0,1,10,9,1,0,14,0,21,4,0,3,2,44,49,12,0,8,7,9,0,0,1,2,1,8,0,3,15,19,0,1,3,3,1,7,5,2,0,1,16,12,38,7,34,30,2,33,1,1,4,3,58,13,1,4,12,143,53,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09853437607809387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112734568616951,0.0806373702538006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06857096626215106,0.1057338399568934,0.0,0.0,0.10000079969151847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17952829329011954,0.09426671251730633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12293563752761524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029633712983034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17372010937751498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06502995666522338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10535066548454244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0857698348531336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05268190172106636,0.0,0.057306610614567675,0.08457525435909362,0.08064661809772089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11364789031067225,0.0,0.13517457530804822,0.10653726080134317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11634955699418564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0554160433454252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311018092557052,0.0,0.0,0.303188191963997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27302141238149064,0.0,0.0673078593491479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3542886937167631,0.08048519280942333,0.0,0.0,0.07476755696331001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116178407986966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11196485848348922,0.0,0.09625800799417857,0.06990599549647751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06459720840413494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0861121729562477,0.19183353641896211,0.32075079326693323,0.0,0.2040999389526576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16209401776212526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06461072178009597,0.0,0.08005138629689085,0.11759489885326595,0.0,0.09557938333407724,0.09635175406655183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08319908158931455,0.2378993707919602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09347465783166096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07162998638029612,0.0,0.0,0.1298683158771504
divorce,bamiboy2005,2020/01/25,Is it my fault I’m a fourteen year old male and have a little brother that is eleven. Two months ago me and my dad started arguing. My dad is traditional African man and what he says goes . So when he is wrong and I try to correct him he gets mad at me telling me how I am wrong and then he ends up hitting me. After that my mom hops in to it and try’s to defend me and it’s leads to a bigger argument and after the bigger argument he blames the whole thing on me it’s taking a tole on me thinking that my parents are going to divorce because of me. What should I do.,1.520887096774196,2.724530604838709,3.5201935483870948,91.91029032258066,77.62903225806451,6.250322580645161,24.49677419354839,6.742157984588678,0.6752154838709674,441,15,103,4,10,150,73,124,0.17800000000000002,0.8220000000000001,0.0,-0.9674,1,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,3,5,2,0,6,0,9,0,0,2,1,13,16,12,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,10,8,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,5,0,2,0,1,17,0,13,14,1,20,0,0,0,0,17,8,0,0,10,70,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19606600600672866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348315315419287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19590310881603096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11555935506491595,0.0,0.12570379479918406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22168417604564933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590476780778341,0.176546720400816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23209508772486695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455983252994972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17589415717535298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15655496241812225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16630261695123946,0.0,0.1933243042639114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14694462315009196,0.14172558497828422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003384290126297,0.0,0.21606433721349294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469437039100583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4836593113989225,0.0,0.14243505203732146
divorce,mrjman1985,2020/01/25,"Anyone here ask for and get a divorce only to regret it later? If so, why?",-0.9450000000000004,1.0802645000000022,3.017500000000002,87.67750000000002,91.5,3.2,14.25,3.1291,-0.9749,56,1,11,0,2,21,16,16,0.184,0.816,0.0,-0.4871,0,0,0,0,1,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,8,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40179251733022064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5371986201526762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002188594025708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4370296817043075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5185114360281324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Dadonapalehorse2,2020/01/26,"Just Started Moving Out. I'm moving into a sad little 2 Br around the corner from the house we bought six years ago.  I'm furnishing it with the overflow funiture that has cluttered that house for years.  
We tried to get along.  We convinced ourselves that we could do this better than everyone else.  We couldn't and we won't.  Another cliché.  This has been a torturous few months.  We were standing in a burning house, hoping and praying that someone or something would stop the fire from raging more intensely every day.  The fire never lessened and the heat grew greater.   I am broken.  I know this.  I need time but i don't have any.  I will smile through the pain for my kids.  I will continue on, knowing that i am safe now Knowing that i'm safe is not what i want.  I want to forget. I want to forget all the awful words you said, and things you did.  I want to be able to remember you as the good person i once fell in love with.  You are not this person anymore and you must feel the same way about me.  I know feelings pass but why must it take so long?",1.6920422231796657,3.992738706161141,2.5788905644118927,93.65567750969412,81.3696682464455,5.352951314088756,21.439250323136577,6.574015621080383,0.3333867298578204,821,25,172,8,22,258,129,211,0.14300000000000002,0.7240000000000001,0.133,0.6001,0,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,7,5,0,1,5,11,2,0,13,1,21,2,0,0,4,51,42,10,0,11,6,0,4,0,0,6,1,1,0,3,14,18,0,3,7,0,1,5,6,4,0,1,5,5,27,7,22,28,5,28,1,1,0,1,17,9,0,2,12,117,41,0,0.1302112270501849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11542439628411807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08854809952736062,0.13653782488815286,0.0,0.0,0.1291345484333336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11591559845792387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11516124882276058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10396306941559584,0.0,0.0,0.08397546934132281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10877477186071226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970857475395347,0.12442240752599774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316774176123743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680299918635167,0.0,0.0,0.10921499941987158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12932912885217362,0.0,0.4507388205657588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862427402760247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305058572210274,0.0,0.11523283843105725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11752071619851595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10393335914388878,0.2767878549297597,0.0,0.09654997495724504,0.1004269255686241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386707071737196,0.0,0.0,0.13855392615551082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273908419581223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14750393708615148,0.0,0.12386069499568805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11032755012821867,0.10024296412821278,0.0,0.0,0.09216417669962848,0.0,0.0,0.10886241628674412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09790263775458864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865065533783278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07592721362391262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.088404875877651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072078214830472,0.1033556111987054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11749537935201465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09249831975383598,0.0,0.0,0.16770352215509055
divorce,Widowedonce,2020/01/26,"Can he take it all My first husband died and left me reasonably well off. I own my property outright. I remarried 2 years ago and it's not a healthy marriage and I'm staring down the barrel of divorce. If we divorce, is my now husband entitled to half my property? I heard the law was changed to protect people in my situation. We are in Australia.",2.2703105590062123,4.631776652173915,4.158633540372673,82.8039130434783,79.57971014492753,7.421118012422363,34.494824016563136,8.418075326091056,3.186882401656314,275,17,52,6,7,93,52,69,0.084,0.818,0.098,-0.015,0,0,0,0,2,0,7.0,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,1,1,10,7,4,1,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,5,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,2,2,11,1,7,5,2,9,0,0,1,0,9,5,0,1,4,38,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879685037038071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3436584645492391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3371530571151285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763254762175626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3529609907571349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252167971304097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33400985436602737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3651558892453775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442540486280539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2920878646700557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091989817385974
divorce,Bna1dkr,2020/01/26,"Wife never loved me after 18 years? Never mentioned anything. My wife was the sweetest person I ever met. Never drank alcohol, never cussed just a sweet innocent girl. She came from a childhood of abandonment and extreme sexual abuse. About 2 years ago she switched jobs and began hanging out with some single and recently divorced women she works with. At the same time her dad made contact for the first time ever. In the last year this guy who left her as a baby is her best friend. They talk hours a day with one another. Now she curses like a sailor, She has also developed a drinking problem. She now drinks about 10-12 oz of vodka and rum per night and all she wants to do is go out with her friends. When she’s not with her Friends she is on Snapchat with them. When I say she’s On Snapchat it’s constant txting from time she gets home til she falls asleep with the phone in her hand. Me and my small child have basically been alone even though she lives with us. It’s wearing me out cause I do everything. We really never fuss and get along but she does get very angry if I say anything about her drinking. 

Well the other day she surprised me and said she didn’t love me, didn’t think she has ever loved me and was moving out and already signed a year lease for a house. Nothing would change her mind. 

Honestly I’m worried about the child but I have about had it with her. Suggested counseling and arranged it and she agreed. She canceled the day before and said she just wanted a divorce. Don’t guess there’s much I can do.  Besides appearance this is someone I don’t even know. Nothing resembles the person she was just a year ago. We were always so happy as a family. 

Anyone seen this?  What happened? I assume she met someone while out. Who knows.",2.235988249118684,4.749987976811597,2.8221386603995318,91.43689776733255,80.82608695652173,5.584802193497846,22.07794751273013,6.885778809224403,0.6290415197806505,1392,44,275,16,37,432,190,345,0.07200000000000001,0.8240000000000001,0.10400000000000001,0.9225,1,1,5,0,3,0,33.0,3,0,2,3,22,15,0,0,20,0,23,11,3,2,9,64,48,25,0,5,7,3,1,1,3,1,1,4,1,7,11,31,5,1,4,5,0,6,10,2,1,2,17,7,52,13,36,30,6,54,0,1,1,3,67,12,0,5,37,190,63,2,0.0,0.10296785352265096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15407153823669925,0.0928746901886771,0.0,0.09000705555465464,0.09590149261455433,0.06949765367192473,0.0723116685275554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911271506945076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06076578379694506,0.0,0.14303031943441186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07394949512062557,0.0,0.09120111643646674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09939582008904924,0.0,0.08927506137930306,0.09193364479127834,0.0,0.0,0.09391310248272104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16813901764388042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07605088475822523,0.0,0.0,0.2554005501686738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11479946364955868,0.2358308176683505,0.0,0.0,0.07810433675636833,0.0,0.08192601268995943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392108968038068,0.0,0.0,0.20142705672780647,0.0,0.13621234977277105,0.0,0.04938994122784352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09573531992321964,0.08604931177880562,0.07684953531015318,0.09251166445032706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08717249546056746,0.0,0.08558361954619867,0.10027635067231958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08623950076650894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955210958930598,0.07083892592758598,0.0,0.0,0.09442220604694243,0.0,0.0,0.042457244543454106,0.0,0.07673843838087169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23530464228915346,0.08223132424246694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08774896881006992,0.0,0.0,0.09236593811002726,0.0638849506469695,0.0,0.33513129374863,0.0,0.0,0.08155416973319839,0.0,0.1667747985177791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05888887084840959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15176365625161464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08315605695178792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055673373321994235,0.0,0.08580790264243654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16533253297750275,0.13822020407721447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14726813312758996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06985070243031669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05568501988139372,0.08538342218580212,0.0,0.1520244806167418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10453564851145997,0.0,0.0,0.07170547526435321,0.10251728217345478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07813775817697761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06326765342527843,0.08825593683408779,0.0,0.06173460233529721,0.0,0.0,0.27981887341374845
divorce,peaceETH,2020/01/26,"Alcohol addiction and sexless marriage My husband and I together for 8 years and married for 4.  We came from two different cultures I am African and he is  American.   I love  him with all my heart and care about him so much but here is the problem. He is an  alcoholic and I am miserable being married to this diseases. Just to give you few information about him. His job requires a lot of traveling to overseas and  he is not home most of the time. When he is home all he wants to do is drinking beer and keep up with his friends.(Drinking was a big issues at the beginning and gets worse every day since we moved together)   I have done everything i can to help him but it wasn't effective and he doesn't want to do anything. I was missing intimacy and touch because of his drinking. He always tired and come up with excuses all the time. one night he said he lost his feelings and he don't want to do sex at all. I am sad and not happy with my marriage.  I am 35 and want to create a family, I want to live with someone who respect me and want to spend quality time with me not with beer. Now I am dealing addiction and a sexless marriage. Please give me some advice i am lost.

Thank you",2.60779836620841,4.503833661087867,4.104638374178126,85.90509065550907,76.40585774058576,7.732297270372584,28.535764096433553,8.563005593585519,2.177895238095238,931,41,191,19,21,309,124,239,0.16399999999999998,0.755,0.081,-0.9609,2,0,7,0,0,0,18.0,2,2,0,4,7,11,0,1,9,0,24,12,1,1,4,53,45,21,0,7,6,1,2,0,0,0,5,1,2,0,3,28,6,2,3,5,1,4,6,6,0,2,8,3,30,5,29,36,9,18,0,5,0,2,36,5,0,3,9,133,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460270549965699,0.0,0.1102670819574858,0.0,0.24118577965868865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389289006944858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09285866536280954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06878692776219357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12906023327932867,0.11504908974576318,0.0,0.0,0.09720267332495196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07277321729436632,0.11633428785233067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11789500200470986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11547569097531292,0.0,0.3316241523527553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09507354960022807,0.0,0.10141436443578078,0.0,0.1063766091968319,0.0,0.057055884294718175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05895485216396991,0.21649505826610727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12012152004301042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337173256458147,0.07563505533463581,0.0,0.22637778106972045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11777686080075025,0.11197744610233083,0.10029841354933028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09964081739105074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24635892604782145,0.0959335245445939,0.10184355840564137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11993230207129707,0.08295124106979082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10589379071714272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07646409479234569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12386571528242506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10797375683576943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10733778973613832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09334337902117017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09560995421653548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10388898545098876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19739577494292548,0.12969432131882855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11022942323598096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3993398617954517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11499478898353516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07266601160166103
divorce,GrumblyData3684,2020/01/26,"Family Time and Days Off I feel like I'm taking crazy pills - my wife asked for a divorce over a year ago, but hasn't done anything to pursue it. I started to do research and schedule meetings - but stopped when she wouldn't do anything on her end. I'm not doing it all myself.

 We live in separate rooms on separate floors - I work from home and take care of shuttling the kinds to and fro afternoons and weekends.

Her job is full time - but not a consistent schedule, so she works most weekends and some lights. I have a standard Mon-Fri workweek.

So my days off (Sat and Sun) are usually spent taking of the kids by myself (which has been the norm and I am totally fine with) however whenever she has a day off - she gets mad and snappy when I don't want to do things as a family.

I understood the first few months - as the idea was still new. But its 12 months later and she still does it. What sucks is, it makes it look to the kids as if I am the one causing a problem.",3.5537012987012986,4.468417631313129,4.407532467532469,88.6527272727273,72.18181818181819,7.879365079365081,26.76911976911977,8.192908349453996,1.4938271284271285,753,25,164,11,14,243,120,198,0.085,0.87,0.045,-0.7778,2,0,0,0,1,0,24.0,1,0,0,3,6,7,2,0,14,0,18,1,0,2,2,33,35,22,0,4,7,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,2,2,9,12,0,1,3,2,1,0,5,3,0,2,6,3,20,4,21,28,6,35,0,0,1,0,14,10,1,3,26,113,29,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13328469393433456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474662428547724,0.0,0.14056590860584212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15330161095901476,0.15446070530728356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909084670869628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13158068017550226,0.15387005227281908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331739572357752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834912574148797,0.0,0.07602632055933806,0.10741691273984776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12789578044201275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07855667376907667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15082291654807864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16973766200524013,0.0,0.0,0.14920868054234854,0.0,0.0,0.15657636278448162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07345809497372235,0.0,0.1327702623034757,0.0,0.12626417669641712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10036618603826064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400311616785396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14521821761663412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10188754155372258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.143873809873667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10642528337668372,0.0,0.2401547068240077,0.12570734006712994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3391550710743423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099892222628251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17535175846603046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16559983279312274,0.0,0.08868597492988499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189271274692362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09682663865588148
divorce,Gothblessyou,2020/01/26,"I’m stuck. I’m stuck in a loveless marriage. I’m stuck living with my partner for another 13 months. I’m Stuck with a part time job due to being unable to afford child care. I’m Stuck in a place I hate that’s 2,000 miles from my family. 

I just want to start over. I just want to be able to be happy again. I’m too afraid to even bring up the subject of divorce because what’s the point right now? I’m going to be stuck living with them until March 2021. 

I just want to be near my family. In an apartment just my son and I. 

I’m desperately trying to save up money to move back home. But things always seem to come up that sucks all my money away. I’m scared I’ll never be able to be independent again. 

I just want to be free. I dread coming home to my partner. I can’t even find a private place to cry. I’m stuck having to keep a straight face when all I want to do is breakdown. 

I keep thinking about the future I’ll have after these next thirteen months. But I just wish time would move faster.",1.0432710280373811,2.8103103831775726,2.6437476635514017,95.16608878504671,80.6822429906542,5.214579439252336,18.17663551401869,5.985473137389443,-0.414604859813084,778,16,180,5,20,255,112,214,0.147,0.74,0.113,-0.8074,2,0,0,0,1,0,21.0,0,0,1,0,15,9,2,3,9,0,14,1,1,1,3,31,49,5,0,7,8,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,3,5,6,0,2,3,0,3,6,2,5,0,0,7,0,18,5,35,33,3,40,0,0,0,0,7,16,1,1,18,102,23,1,0.2496286164193355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10385550309620536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13087868491784824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11726715119876302,0.09597449868577797,0.0,0.07608564380008871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12725650565733926,0.0,0.0,0.2150329494169819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371026567399233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16487734684141878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23532764318222216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11407801650178945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07093484770241561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13286715200182175,0.0,0.1232282889710047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250397855741885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12385894173439504,0.22188138401560084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22042664170653486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19925118002999426,0.2653157136794433,0.0,0.0,0.09626448904932433,0.0,0.13274143276843586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351617327255269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608087734155564,0.0,0.1179898648078456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10659073723726256,0.0,0.0,0.12496089654999284,0.0,0.0,0.11362625849650325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0883442097665216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08292108031020469,0.07997596891987871,0.0,0.0,0.14556045369427087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08474072224799671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.368093564046396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14353029466717762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08866450345469874,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,gemlist,2020/01/26,"So, this is the end of us This is from the heart, my heart at least.  As hard as this unknown journey ahead of me scares me, it also brings me comfort to know that I matter too.

The straw that broke our marriage comes where I was called names by my husband in front of my 2 teenagers.  I don't even know how to express this deep sorrow, shameful feeling.  But wasn't I the victim in this case.  Victims feel ashamed too, you know.  Maybe I added some gasoline to the fire, maybe I caused his rage, maybe its my fault (again).

18 years has gone by, but for some reason it feels like yesterday.
Coming from divorced parents, I was a bit scared of our big day.
Here I am today, typing away the end of us.  Did I ever see this day coming? maybe, but I choose to ignore it.  There was always the kids and how research has shown this and that.  But what about me? my values? respect?

Of course my act of wanting to put an end to this reunion of contract by 2 individuals makes me extremely selfish, guilty and hurt.  

They say you should only look back to see how far you have come, but what if one's on the wrong path? what if I do need to turn around and head back and take another route, since this one has come to an end.  There is a cliff in front of me.  I either jump, or turn around.  

As I am headed back, the happy times, the sad times, the difficult times are playing.  This feeling is giving me the uncertainty.  I stop to make sure that I did actually hit the end of the road.  Was there maybe another way around the cliff? did I look deeper or did I just make the assumption that it was the end of the ""us"" journey?
I know my mind is playing tricks on me, even when it hurt this bad.  This marriage seems like a comfort zone, my known place, the place I know and choose to be as an adult and we have come to a dead end.  
It's hard to accept and see the truth of the matter.  
I can sit down and type all the things that happened, good or bad, happy or sad, it doesn't matter at this point does it?  The end of us has come.

This will never be the same, until we all, including the children find our place.  
I am sorry to my kids for wanting this.  I know you might think of me as the biggest selfish person, but with time, age and experience you will understand that marrying daddy was as selfish as wanting to divorce him.  
So this is the end of a marriage, the end of us.",2.7802147583267893,4.020110524896263,3.542822698216892,92.86484972524393,74.45643153526972,6.2896489850846695,22.98553325109341,6.5153245180268975,0.34865833800605595,1811,48,408,13,37,574,212,482,0.177,0.7190000000000001,0.10400000000000001,-0.9922,1,0,0,0,2,0,68.0,10,5,1,1,26,36,4,4,36,0,37,4,4,8,6,85,77,37,1,7,14,2,7,2,0,4,0,1,0,5,36,23,0,2,19,2,0,16,4,23,0,2,12,13,58,13,61,58,8,70,0,6,5,0,35,22,0,10,32,282,94,3,0.0,0.0,0.055330811579740624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04534279795808074,0.047178763639055175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189093376286412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514244903719926,0.0,0.0,0.053271314895146187,0.13079590548067654,0.09468390503748347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06190148062136161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05789682038448889,0.0,0.0,0.058246298356001584,0.0,0.3418929125030813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07313334194836281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0496183643609617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5021918054156771,0.0,0.0,0.07489934711365365,0.05128820208475033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0554632700288938,0.0,0.0,0.11467646069331805,0.04050633807141324,0.0,0.0,0.051822576719546105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05439160076660391,0.0,0.04755708995206133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05013943304028905,0.1207159519295112,0.10158374162278502,0.0,0.11638067556860933,0.0,0.0,0.13437903756981484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139658608445185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18696431561242013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055401302331113636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522707918371287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135426412538107,0.0,0.28481277738633304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06014951219457185,0.05725062003628846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042042172488218926,0.04373036998805343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0768424840776354,0.04312274184277491,0.0,0.0,0.06295840180108893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04950806566277277,0.17771762365687316,0.0,0.05359962426273022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056998944986687373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058296822802681975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04508994517126879,0.11353275323302432,0.0,0.13554716422919552,0.05161735520004987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046902648463086026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06347076775776242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047403559504166914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05343887679436474,0.0,0.04263118230069687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037668818040641684,0.036330933094418205,0.0,0.0,0.13224840350875078,0.0,0.05374476689696799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12334616968377933,0.0,0.059026476303234814,0.34101430332078164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10032900753915,0.04500565055107968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0619923145338192,0.0,0.03651280286943818
divorce,GirlStartingOver,2020/01/26,Wedding rings. What had everyone done with their rings since divorce? My divorce is pending and my rings are packed away in a family member’s basement with all my other junk. I know someday I will have to face them again and I’m just wondering what you do with them? I have my rings and his as he never worse his. I feel like they are bad luck.,1.8044285714285733,4.00389115714286,2.6385714285714315,93.95642857142859,80.28571428571428,5.7142857142857135,21.42857142857143,6.868970318607317,0.3991428571428571,271,8,58,3,7,85,50,70,0.049,0.8320000000000001,0.11900000000000001,0.6012,0,0,0,0,2,0,6.0,0,1,4,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,9,1,1,0,2,13,13,4,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,4,0,0,3,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,5,15,2,7,10,1,4,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,2,3,42,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092622730043688,0.0,0.274839843417212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33685108077885834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31453219928937165,0.0,0.0,0.31030839023256995,0.0,0.16643620944929546,0.23515624136002064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809010137720216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16081387065483868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.253873095650952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722894995584292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35696646323629416,0.0,0.0,0.33544825431113284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Indigo1979,2020/01/26,"Creative ways you were able to afford to leave I’m so done and ready to go start my new chapter. I had all this resolve, rallied friends around me, lots of encouragement and support and excitement/hope for a great future.
I had my heart set on a peaceful safe home for myself and my children, worked up the nerve to confront the abuse I’ve been dealing with and inside I’m so ready. 
Last night I took a closer look at things, started looking at real estate, geography and I realized that there is no way out. I can’t afford to live where he can. So either I’m an hour and a half away or I stay in this awful marriage for the sake of the kids. He makes twice what I do and even though I could live a good life and afford a home on my own, he’ll demand 50-50 custody which tethers me to his geographic area. Which, again I cannot afford. He refuses to budge because ‘the commute is too bad’ but I have a job too which will bear no consideration. 
No, I can’t rent because we have large dogs (my children’s beloved pets) and I’m not rehoming them. God I feel so trapped. I love love love my job and I’m performing really well. In fact if I stick around long enough (year, two years) my income will surely increase and there is a directorship role which I have been asked to take on when the chain of command rearranges but I can’t count on that.  My job is my lifeline of sanity and I don’t want to lose that. I don’t have time for a pt job since I work commission sales and so my work weeks in the busy season are more like 60+ hours and on weekends plus I will need to see my kids. Child support will be a joke. ($800/mo and he makes 120K/year). How have some of you mitigated this situation? My alternative is to stick around for another year or two and be miserable and his verbal punching bag. I’m not sure if I want to cry or puke today.",2.032455890497665,3.695503561357704,3.478400189888444,90.79584065195031,77.35509138381202,6.626758446079595,23.094311258802122,7.463857097105799,0.7662905134899907,1436,44,322,19,33,472,206,383,0.10400000000000001,0.727,0.16899999999999998,0.9775,10,1,0,0,1,0,41.0,1,2,1,6,19,20,1,1,18,1,32,5,1,3,4,56,59,34,0,6,10,0,1,1,1,5,1,0,4,5,12,25,0,2,5,2,2,3,11,4,1,4,7,4,42,16,40,44,8,45,0,2,3,3,26,19,0,7,20,201,54,7,0.09446866526456467,0.11192992070804836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990586324045576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522914218167123,0.08831544968994727,0.0,0.08875642073435745,0.0,0.07887738953712725,0.11517444303765713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07542554222850076,0.0,0.10376939288634464,0.0,0.0973930457825944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09667424338567487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09761138428429876,0.0,0.06239566245204356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04776619562355938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07298625644374636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05368871950109743,0.07923583438845122,0.0,0.10415203695786797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11194582318739836,0.0,0.0,0.18951954752902805,0.0,0.1860652120441944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3749822940836033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07700457075541332,0.0,0.10002867631671848,0.0,0.0,0.06672601204670367,0.0461526180516683,0.0,0.16683512434958034,0.08360179600360927,0.15865977256183136,0.10568627228231386,0.0,0.080313880976494,0.2557849761126356,0.0,0.1261171352506094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07004731828556353,0.0,0.09123842558402984,0.0,0.08865244286790491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10752602289393544,0.06051904597690363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07527929531653503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07814545611909855,0.10618673783928606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337308150036211,0.100691027716155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214403843675792,0.1780711980422428,0.0,0.07102867950850042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06276078353165968,0.0,0.09281498397882308,0.0,0.05508543841264961,0.0,0.0895452487397095,0.0,0.10495816306191133,0.0,0.0,0.18456431825908648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11144013274351873,0.14996965866517614,0.07577706501318704,0.0,0.0849386753034511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20632294028692846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433388926141029
divorce,formula187,2020/01/26,"Some days are just grim Wife and I decided to split finally after years of fighting,The first week was terrible crying,no sleep just in a 3rd person view..2nd and 3rd week so much better still thought about her but knew it was the right choice and now closing in on a month I’m back to where I started and my mind is racing and I can’t stop thinking about her ..we also have a son so it’s so much more difficult ..how do people get thru these days ..sometimes I just want to get up get in my truck and drive until I can’t anymore",3.022232142857145,3.8727667589285737,3.9878571428571448,91.40714285714287,73.375,7.028571428571429,23.82142857142857,7.1686216300943375,0.6862464285714287,415,11,94,4,8,134,78,112,0.107,0.86,0.033,-0.8292,0,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,1,0,0,2,14,4,0,0,4,0,8,1,1,1,0,21,17,13,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,8,0,1,4,0,0,1,2,3,0,1,4,0,10,1,14,13,4,24,0,1,0,0,6,8,0,1,15,63,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666568528442839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20667611686796805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16024620560087025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843122542271594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688006288973812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282912575311517,0.0,0.17726434655058093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3266401141946084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21042389504618905,0.0,0.16634234092662115,0.0,0.3063949430349588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444778415729712,0.18196623907932974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17797187199063572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085498134016016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20611224625983898,0.0,0.14750610418130025,0.0,0.1664279580963402,0.1742311545900815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13353386299649214,0.0,0.1654457736415712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12291931242622205,0.0,0.33433071191813696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13420232294376644
divorce,yllwflwrgrl,2020/01/26,"I 22F contemplating leaving husband 23M of 2 years Throw away account because husband is on Reddit
I’m 22 years old and have been married for 2 years.  Over the course of our marriage my husband has become increasingly violent and has expressed violent thoughts in regards to others in my life.  He has also exhibited extreme controlling behavior. A couple weeks ago I saw a counselor who I openly disclosed the details of our troubles to. After describing my husbands actions and his behaviors she has confirmed that I am experiencing abuse. I have mixed emotions about this. I have not been back to counseling since. After this session husband has said he will seek help, I am unsure of whether I want to stick around to see if he will actually change. Before my counseling session my husband was really pushing me to get pregnant. I now wonder if this was a tactic to trap me. I have felt an array of emotions since my counseling sessions such as anger, sadness and confusion as to why my husband would treat me the way he did. I have expressed that I am contemplating separating from him and those conversations have led to more manipulation and tactics to convince me to stay. I have no idea what to do next. Sometimes I am completely fine and other times I can hardly stand to look at him. I have been open with him about these feelings but he has not received them well. A portion of me wants to give him the opportunity to be better and the rest of me is fed up knowing that I could be much happier and that I have so much more of my life ahead of me than these past two years. I’m sorry if this post is all over the place",5.708298882253867,6.836215205787783,6.273174092788246,76.46442658092178,67.36012861736334,8.882008880722708,34.42367171949165,9.107695989026183,3.1157504516919308,1303,61,234,23,21,424,174,311,0.083,0.852,0.065,-0.1333,0,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,2,0,1,4,10,12,3,1,11,0,36,3,0,3,1,35,52,18,0,7,7,7,3,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,15,13,1,1,6,0,1,6,3,6,1,1,11,8,42,6,44,35,8,37,0,1,3,0,30,12,0,5,15,178,57,3,0.0,0.1549603219790906,0.12762851554912882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11593412097165184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10458971826021142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11642749233916902,0.0,0.0,0.1228779887245886,0.10056655463020632,0.0,0.07972608514317676,0.14444313968667902,0.11128946736335056,0.0,0.0,0.11566981142704474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383545126968581,0.0,0.1371268966309279,0.0,0.14668790230081707,0.10442217983574023,0.1447124999498252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2942338597058988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06612945856407415,0.0,0.12557531168811126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683304185277394,0.12546209003600264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11715879251615235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08766326768168728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14764175885083872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07187670359724448,0.0,0.0,0.13848375654273432,0.0,0.0,0.18475639481792974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098275120976781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922858869675277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390926624571882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13723817057964374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248502760533142,0.0,0.0,0.13664379662771484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252570765023786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08378502183441679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12440767514968415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10421970967920567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21637547788502398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12935094716109816,0.1464045011884986,0.0,0.1394007426843372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038296749110137,0.0762625151414921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12775916395884165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542822396557504,0.1038120390278226,0.10490884223622612,0.0,0.11759254710660925,0.0,0.11801424969013145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14183211103795382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09290680079122313,0.0,0.0,0.3368882324849653
divorce,bowlingforsoup1985,2020/01/26,Getting divorced Hi. I’m new to reddit. I’m getting a divorce. It’s been very tough for me and my mental health. Could you share anything that’s helped you get through it?,0.3717142857142832,2.819862742857147,1.3000000000000007,98.21000000000002,93.0,2.8000000000000003,24.142857142857146,3.1291,-0.09717142857142892,136,6,28,0,5,42,29,35,0.055999999999999994,0.875,0.069,0.1045,0,0,0,0,2,0,5.0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,7,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,1,3,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,1,14,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2913152149918874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826434719572402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5548576010389322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37628980922528105,0.0,0.0,0.2372814892357621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35675287479579904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34189937017433986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29209046061467203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,bribrihatty,2020/01/26,"It's getting ugly Husband decided to divorce after 8 years. He originally said you can take whatever you want, you can have custody, etc.  Now I am looking at moving out and everything is a fight. From electronics to furniture, I definitely cant have whatever I like. 

Hes announced it on FB without warning me. I got upset that he didnt give me a heads up so hes deleted my family and friends. 

Im still hurting from the rejection and heartbreak but this extra sauce is not it.",2.7324349881796657,5.010878531914893,5.053546099290781,77.4338888888889,77.51063829787235,8.433096926713949,32.78486997635934,9.150863307647796,3.461843026004728,378,21,68,10,9,132,71,94,0.152,0.775,0.073,-0.7341,0,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,0,3,0,0,3,7,1,1,3,0,11,1,1,1,0,10,18,5,0,1,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,5,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,5,0,0,3,2,12,2,10,15,2,10,0,3,1,0,13,4,0,0,6,49,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917851375922241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23513498845421985,0.0,0.24664023597106075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20213366984473072,0.0,0.13669018743073064,0.2509780705574111,0.0,0.0,0.20924835632924624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26850650645229523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28007891400798285,0.0,0.28260387105024104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12781855809958054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21970219906655564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27806988309511005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24886878787561226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20893700250498531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19671220792566874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543153745444732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25220071212064044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684802926491783
divorce,bulkathos1,2020/01/26,"My children telling me about my ex's new boyfriend Recently she introduced my kids to him after a waiting period of about 5 months. I do not like the guy do to a small altercation with him. My issue now is my children are telling me about him. It's nothing bad, I just do not want to hear about it. Any advice on this? I don't know if I should somewhat suck it up for the kids sake. My kids are 6 boy, 4 girl.",0.9831818181818156,2.623453681818184,2.779545454545456,94.7268181818182,80.36363636363637,6.218181818181819,23.5,7.1686216300943375,0.6409045454545459,316,11,76,4,8,105,58,88,0.07400000000000001,0.8909999999999999,0.035,-0.2707,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,6,3,1,0,4,0,8,0,0,0,0,10,13,1,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,8,4,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,16,1,13,12,1,9,0,0,0,0,16,3,1,2,7,51,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724467302614823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18959815135163613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327919912956115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760625173969401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3142354714025731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2910018117464817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15322489890760302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136210895451814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22254088865406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26927329744331097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675225970170137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2752880310875088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4873787785085343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644474453569488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,donttextspeaktome,2020/01/26,"Ex husband got engaged recently We’ve been divorced over a year. He (47) started seeing her (40s and an ex-friend) a little after our separation. I (47) figured the engagement was coming but it hit me like a ton of bricks anyway. I want him to be happy and I’m glad he’s found his happiness. It stings a little though that I was so easily replaced after 19 years together, particularly after all that I had had to go through. She treats me like I’m a stray dog that wandered in and she isn’t a dog person. Perhaps it hurts more because I feel like I’m still stuck there. I don’t have anyone special. I DID... for a very short time (best friend turned relationship) but it fell apart in a very bad way recently. I also lost a bff recently so I have few people to talk to now. A little part of me also feels “why do the bad guys get to win?” I realize this isn’t healing. But maybe I am the shitty person. Maybe I deserve this pain.

Is what I’m feeling regarding his engagement normal? His mother made me give back the engagement ring and I keep wondering if she’s wearing it. I don’t know what to think. My thoughts are going insane. I need help.",1.241201716738196,3.5093472489270425,3.339220600858372,87.72198111587984,82.94849785407726,6.30310729613734,22.195536480686695,7.554174236665415,1.0306859742489274,891,30,183,15,25,302,141,233,0.125,0.632,0.243,0.9841,0,0,0,0,2,0,32.0,1,0,0,3,10,20,0,0,15,0,17,3,1,1,1,25,45,13,0,4,4,3,3,3,1,0,2,1,0,3,12,5,0,1,10,0,0,4,4,5,0,0,12,5,29,15,16,31,6,26,0,2,1,0,23,8,0,2,16,113,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18560990676288155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0811446924393126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892351042668307,0.19379340906796474,0.07074285826632783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12178706635445526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09996659490169324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17603474092673438,0.0829059737302877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12724257496479024,0.1793195177267457,0.0,0.06063121128430862,0.11132550704421232,0.13190750913116905,0.0,0.09281559665665176,0.0,0.0,0.11490751048712282,0.0,0.24707426086876466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07778570977907234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12423367127287975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10315036133882334,0.0,0.0,0.06377791466995032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17008815660857826,0.34893704906870865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266820248775855,0.0,0.0,0.10980909152475757,0.0,0.0,0.23317516975651675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08604942865305262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11370412784375004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12348512973305845,0.0,0.0,0.1256705841427353,0.0,0.08045429349586246,0.2026603532533048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3437554212441365,0.1245940148330589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09247663593607257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08214061941283707,0.0,0.09267749047757794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09327640344964902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07436000211651785,0.11401830273159765,0.09213054877682483,0.06766954993462364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12622881739527034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915064160443924,0.06844915684357081,0.09211490003673244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10471686053871793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12585101740231064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14946448480116584
divorce,cheeese_danish,2020/01/26,"I think it’s happening I can’t believe I’m writing this, but I think my husband truly doesn’t love me anymore. 

We have been having some issues lately, where he came to me to tell me that he doesn’t know if he wants to be married anymore. He feels like he wants to explore other parts of himself that he can’t do with me around. I understand what he’s saying, but it’s killing me inside. Yesterday we went to a couples counselor, who told us not to rush into anything. I made it clear that I’m here no matter what. I love him and I’m willing to work through whatever he needs. He again said that he doesn’t know if he wants to be with me. 

Today, I randomly started crying while we were sitting on the couch watching a movie. I told him that I feel like he doesn’t want me there. That I’m a burden and an obligation to him right now. I also told him that all I want is to be held and feel wanted. He said he couldn’t do that right now. 

I have to live with him. We have a joint bank account. We have no kids (but we do have a cat). I never saw this coming. I don’t know how to stand the pain of living with someone who doesn’t want me. I still love him so much. 

I don’t really know what to do right now and I don’t have anybody to talk to about this. I don’t know if I’m overreacting or if I really should be preparing for the end. I also don’t know how to deal with this pain.",1.7940762675140824,2.7620322990033235,3.5484645384948728,92.93114112379028,76.50830564784053,6.563686263180702,22.38928210313448,6.895973343053719,0.3922421204680053,1066,28,255,10,23,358,132,301,0.095,0.784,0.121,0.7227,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,7,0,0,1,15,9,1,0,9,0,33,5,0,3,3,62,74,18,1,14,9,1,3,2,0,2,2,3,1,1,21,19,0,1,13,0,2,5,17,4,0,0,12,8,43,5,29,55,4,26,0,0,2,3,45,7,0,7,14,169,64,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15814810290984954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19612416316287454,0.0,0.0,0.08136955883404133,0.08802388679440258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11140354888015093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130920222030606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08517609654455056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10940849499884817,0.10861469517723912,0.0,0.10194061741929514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875780552810016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14998962506540778,0.1412793389534837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08743898230131164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032047054173317,0.0,0.0,0.10939572547586696,0.0,0.3260501464122061,0.0,0.11154059592711207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09661524273932903,0.0,0.17462515364172498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26772833914350896,0.09356235240762127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07268794855292404,0.07331803638769015,0.07626211178619999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21042992096115068,0.0,0.0,0.10707706727710477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12668972128223185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533281420440461,0.18811445464838,0.07863309731942185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08378043949206072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06998755270415326,0.0,0.07896544724953053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07947574840744308,0.08642520635997446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12671622406580996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09372638333815934,0.2834513402973362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10293724327995682,0.11894009096034265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4082526166069925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09166246220391684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07198559113951544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,nothir,2020/01/26,"So, Divorce... We have been married for 6yrs now, we have been together for 10 yrs and have a 17 month baby boy. I’m 35, he is 37. And I think I have been fighting this last couple of years for a relationship that is just in my mind. I suddenly realize it’s not worth it.
We have always had couple issues, I know we are not the perfect couple, and that was ok. But sex... from doing it everyday, to a couple of days a week (ok, that’s not bad), to a couple of days a month. I did asked him what was wrong and if he was in a good mood he said he didn’t know, but if he was in a bad mood he would blame ir on me always (my weight, my clothes, my hair, my bare face). Now, let me tell you I know I am an attractive woman, and I do take care of myself, but hey, I don’t wear makeup 24/7, or go to the salon to do my hair every single day, sometimes I like wearing comfortable clothes and sometimes I struggle with my weight., but he has always criticized me about everything he can. Then I got pregnant, and well, sex stopped at all ‘cause he didn’t want to have sex with me being pregnant.
After a very lonely pregnancy, and a very hard child birth experience, still no sex. The. Just a couple of times when he was drunk, in the middle of the night he would wake me up ‘cause he was horny and guess what? Just took care of himself and left me there... 
Then I found out he was cheating on me, saw text of him talking and looking for other women, telling them how he wanted to have sex with them. So I talked to him, and left with my baby. He talked to me he was so sorry, and promised everything was going to change and he would fight for this relationship. 
We came back...for what? I don’t know, I’m an idiot. Still no sex at all, but he promised we would have better communication.
Then the other day I just asked him in a good way “hey, did you had a smoke?” (Not demanding, in fact I was laughing) and he suddenly turned to me “stop asking me what I’m doing! Whatever I do is not your concern! Stop checking on me, I feel like you’re just watching every single thing I do!” Whoa! Paranoid! So I told him I will not be interested in his life anymore.
So now we are not talking because he feels I invaded his privacy with that question and I just can’t live like that. 
I don’t know what I’m doing here anymore.",2.1688528733106267,3.4441673340292316,3.737326118009008,90.71915476321286,76.07724425887265,6.71225140094495,23.04367651906384,7.273561745256523,0.6705331941544879,1759,50,399,20,38,585,203,479,0.129,0.769,0.102,-0.8871,0,2,1,0,4,1,80.0,7,3,2,2,22,29,4,1,21,2,54,16,6,3,4,80,86,34,0,8,21,0,7,3,0,5,1,1,0,4,18,30,3,3,11,1,2,4,15,9,1,0,26,11,65,18,45,52,4,50,0,1,3,6,63,17,0,5,31,264,83,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18281661011583128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14526241815048804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20539951660789865,0.0,0.0,0.05631456521871207,0.12229930881552215,0.04464446294234957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06477198272722684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08376336884661349,0.14933956176855948,0.1504686995573669,0.0774748051896581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4862106420779892,0.0,0.1889266643177252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12341029611320616,0.0,0.1316409958161727,0.0716396264655231,0.0,0.0,0.07406143565081645,0.05232037215639301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08030035203438482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08324430264117741,0.12285507717731325,0.058574145390196536,0.0,0.08067857287351546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06560577208155352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07644017356994517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20124510217720465,0.0596977526404458,0.0,0.0,0.1591439572677232,0.07488957220035639,0.05172930545252725,0.1073393780055756,0.0,0.0646694208373281,0.0,0.06150045226841131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07394827301352143,0.0,0.11691380237828952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06872775931846092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08204195758969718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572577929241136,0.0,0.0,0.06966495135173807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14486610139506373,0.08198258218956941,0.0,0.0,0.1169739784513504,0.18368768885672826,0.0,0.07656298663291751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05506494612045968,0.2354598069264393,0.12802435215062075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04865526414911153,0.0469271731485022,0.0,0.0,0.04270495691605024,0.0,0.0,0.06998088431254579,0.08136876025148264,0.0,0.07966058904835206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12085603132020377,0.08639390380957805,0.05813194917352619,0.05874612946476568,0.1783653423197709,0.06584866298363344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20810123650582865,0.08007292492170794,0.0,0.04716208686240714
divorce,smitty240b,2020/01/26,"Surprise divorce Well my holiday didnt go as planned, instead of gifts this year it was divorce papers on the 28th. I am an army  combat veteran and have been in bad situations but this was heart stopping and I felt like being stabbed in the back. Our relationship (10 yrs together 7 married) had seemed pretty good we have a 4 year old boy  a dog a nice little house in a nice little neighborhood. I started an apprenticeship  3 yrs ago and have 1 more year to go till I become a journeyman and I think I was devoting to much of myself to my job (it is competitive) and I started forgetting the small things like saying I love you when getting home from work and hugging and our sex life was hurting but I had asked for 1 more year to get out of my apprenticeship and devote more time to my family and to her but it was not to be I guess. About a week after getting served I went out to my car( after having a bad conversation with my wife) and was going to shoot myself, luckily I looked up and saw my son waving at me from the window and smiling so I stopped what I was doing and went back inside and hugged him the next day I had more dark thoughts and some family came over and I went to the V.A. mental health clinic where luckly I got the help and medication I need to function and help keep the bad thoughts away. I moved in with my parents so they could keep an eye on me gave all my guns to my uncle for a while and I am doing okay still very sad and lost luckly my thoughts dont go to suicide but every time I tellmy wife my emotions my willingness to become a better father and husband to change what I was is met with a black face and no answer I'm trying to pull myself together but it is hard, for other veterans maybe going thru this here is a number to call 1-800-273-8255 it's the veterans crisis line for vets and their families I hope it helps",4.0286931131695525,4.796661547120422,5.1834554973822025,84.06838099073703,70.96335078534031,8.180587998389045,26.21063229963753,8.384062270229773,1.5704543697140552,1469,44,306,22,26,487,206,382,0.11,0.6920000000000001,0.19899999999999998,0.99,4,0,0,2,2,1,19.0,3,1,2,4,11,24,0,0,23,1,29,11,3,0,1,56,63,34,1,3,6,6,2,2,0,0,4,1,2,1,13,30,0,4,7,1,0,12,4,6,1,0,26,7,49,17,47,34,7,51,0,3,4,4,29,16,0,6,25,209,62,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210944122681273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08659500104979212,0.0,0.08702738166029332,0.1424509633158143,0.232022403342296,0.0,0.20460146485467734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08192224604357665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09458389931684336,0.10594215312181056,0.0,0.0,0.0979885096254344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07395619828001199,0.0,0.0,0.059737621216599826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10855973346657412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10419442355700956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07804337783724333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619652870699131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889377397109422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451834654996563,0.0,0.2632141226637909,0.0776922632012608,0.07408335129489338,0.0,0.10204056783660136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08297680534155771,0.0,0.0,0.09845960194694638,0.0,0.10976503783274112,0.18626048651940608,0.0,0.09291378504468163,0.09200084944142428,0.0,0.10688067655063972,0.09916056183541716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09191934215310704,0.16466466263268012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06542614121898603,0.09050706354699778,0.1856758771666923,0.0,0.0,0.07778448289504357,0.0,0.10111478339650364,0.0,0.08360070011440658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09305762520829754,0.0,0.0,0.09331331515842213,0.0933475879087486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09844927432285734,0.06809249340220712,0.06868274601747226,0.0,0.0,0.09851129846321953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09719786898664574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285281812641522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09423632994858726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09944818007542433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07366177979998105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08432536873046034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10411814361982068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13112564230023166,0.0,0.07397311800491982,0.15488289234630642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10132037802858336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06153815821455839,0.059352504940151214,0.0,0.22060968379937715,0.10802466870560756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06288856770081673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07642808755259971,0.0,0.0,0.07430087314738572,0.0,0.08328400866318109,0.25760221854269894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06743454021339625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385984755255349
divorce,canthelpanymore,2020/01/26,"I feel guilty for leaving my spouse due to drugs and mental illness My spouse and I have been married for more that ten years, and we have young children. My spouse had battled mental illness for a while, but in the past half decade, has stopped treating it and now refuses to even recognize it, says the medical professionals were wrong, denies the diagnosis, refuses treatment, etc. At the same time, they've gotten involved in serious drug use and other sketchy behaviors that some might call self-medication. Our home life, stability, finances, etc have suffered tremendously.  I've cajoled and argued and begged and even dragged them to a doctor myself once, as their behavior became more erratic and disturbing.   
Finally, I'd had enough. We separated, and I'm in the incredibly painstaking process now of trying to figure out our tangled finances, custody, and etc., and also feeling crushed beneath the weight of guilt that I've abandoned them in their hour of need. We're not particularly religious, but I do believe that marriage is supposed to be in sickness and in health. Mental illness is illness. If I would not leave them when they had cancer, how can I justify walking out now? Intellectually I know I had no other choice, for myself and for the kids, since they won't even try treatment, but I can't help feeling like I've broken something deeply sacred. I'm also so concerned about my spouse--not just for the sake of the children, who adore them and will want them to be a huge part of their lives--but also because I love them with all my heart and it kills me to see this person suffering so much, and losing all resemblance to the person I married and promised to spend my life with.   
Yes, I am going to therapy. I start next week. The kids start next month. I'm also seeing a lawyer. On paper, I'm doing all the ""right"" things. But I feel so so wrong. My spouse is currently crashing with mutual friends and I called the friends today and begged them to take care of my spouse. But I know the friends will not be able to convince my spouse to do anything that I could not convince them of. 

I'm simultaneously furious with them, guilty over my decision, and so scared that this might drive them deeper into mental illness. It's such a terrible cocktail. I don't know what to do.",7.577150349650347,7.59843354778555,7.16959498834499,75.49746940559443,63.17249417249418,9.9472027972028,35.82371794871795,9.516144504307137,3.294655710955712,1828,77,328,30,24,574,217,429,0.214,0.6829999999999999,0.10300000000000001,-0.9955,1,0,3,0,0,1,59.0,4,0,15,1,20,26,4,3,19,1,31,17,1,2,3,67,55,40,1,5,11,6,5,1,3,6,14,1,1,6,17,30,2,4,9,1,3,3,8,15,0,2,7,8,49,11,46,38,13,39,0,4,2,1,45,15,0,4,22,229,66,6,0.08736860871759937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794745793042212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07189692068667068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05325909294814083,0.0,0.0,0.09843450342880576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784262357934559,0.0,0.08907811940012708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06975672481260836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08942547314740207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20263969682987756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902751279065341,0.2923172807064903,0.17311842619500326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17670477480233718,0.06241615152492646,0.0,0.09570804030627438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20250231110403827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049653593744589726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09286874552647682,0.0,0.10353222199380507,0.05856133677217574,0.0,0.08763783814468205,0.0,0.08604048052081521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666042080971393,0.0,0.14404650739404454,0.0,0.0,0.1850214832014341,0.0,0.0,0.1234220642679288,0.042683889060529986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977431251303887,0.0,0.0,0.07885358046586048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09704682844230417,0.08801468163916541,0.3521880330850499,0.1853685742052477,0.0,0.0,0.0697367899332399,0.0,0.06422598016839735,0.06478271632047862,0.0,0.0,0.18583501309284495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930447168813183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09461168923239384,0.08340322298508822,0.0,0.15257379833574386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07461231447086215,0.0,0.06947902437141606,0.08747121890333956,0.0,0.13924293899204734,0.0,0.09114451327800234,0.0,0.0,0.07227221597348897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06726062343483412,0.0,0.0,0.12367990186815607,0.0,0.0,0.07304406899524306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06569032059812219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09991361831832588,0.0,0.058043821449484716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05094533834297189,0.0,0.08281522532100782,0.0,0.0,0.11863510058630483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07545842623246084,0.0,0.0,0.05153226906423727,0.0,0.07008182792002039,0.10639142817780847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062064152905137775,0.191047716557448,0.0,0.05626251952177791
divorce,sonotdoingthis,2020/01/26,Today.... She left Today she left. It has been the plan for a while and I know it was coming but it still hurts a little. The house I'm in is far too big for the two of us that are left but I'm stuck here for a few more months. Almost 24 years of marriage is over and in a few weeks it will be official and I'm not doing very well right now.,-1.4570512820512818,0.30939970512820736,0.951538461538462,103.67679487179493,90.41025641025641,3.97948717948718,11.230769230769232,5.033348758259628,-1.7799076923076922,259,2,70,1,9,87,52,78,0.121,0.879,0.0,-0.848,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,7,0,9,0,0,0,0,9,15,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,1,1,3,0,4,1,8,10,3,19,0,1,0,0,4,10,0,1,8,49,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937915845658708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667083091255816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233067660792264,0.2071770604443617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063586123408406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6308102759137242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19396714638764867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544731977315005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16527291860574633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15455270579849986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3668861927380796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890499523827532,0.0,0.2327918542366001,0.0,0.0,0.15968189592161472,0.0,0.0,0.15523748758779946,0.0,0.17400603402690498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12462648927890264
divorce,TehReclaimer2552,2020/01/27,"And here we are again Well after 6 or so months, it turns out that we weren't meant to be together. I'm much more ok this time around.

It wasn't infidelity or anything like that. It was a difference in parenting styles. Could you believe that? Well, it wasn't just that... It was a myriad of things. But that was the catalyst. 

Anyways... This time I'm initiating it. Because i need to stand behind my convictions",0.6105555555555569,3.1175270000000026,2.3387962962962945,90.31708333333334,93.8148148148148,6.650617283950617,20.330246913580247,7.793537801064563,1.221254320987654,321,11,67,8,12,105,56,81,0.0,0.8809999999999999,0.11900000000000001,0.8016,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,1,0,0,8,4,0,0,3,1,9,0,0,0,0,12,14,5,0,2,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,7,0,5,4,8,5,2,9,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,2,6,52,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21794326342072906,0.2357664637960789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16144586462237334,0.0,0.0,0.2983874233496925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114556243299606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27670461746901903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12938893611148675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21139519514017102,0.0,0.1946901144111257,0.19637776518517872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940768641009909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759499537294662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30886422362728433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880731859591705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4762514152470832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Probably-A-Witch,2020/01/27,"Ex-husband refuses to move belongings 1+ months after move Ex-husband (that feels so good to say) moved out on 20 Dec. We are officially divorced as of 7 January 2020. The house was refinanced under my name and all belongings split. However, he's refusing to move an entire room worth of his property. I ask, politely, once a week. It's now a little over a month later and I told him this week that he has 2 more weeks to move his belongings because my home is not his storage unit. He has space because he just bought his own house. What legal recourse do I have? Can I have it thrown into storage and charge him for it? Can I charge him for use of my property to store his things? I don't want to break or damage anything because I don't need even MORE legal fees. 

Has anyone dealt with this and what did you do? What are my options here? Thank you!",2.5682751937984527,4.420425168604655,3.837813953488372,87.9707519379845,76.38372093023256,7.377364341085273,24.83875968992249,8.238735603445708,1.4839708527131783,667,23,139,12,15,218,108,172,0.043,0.8809999999999999,0.075,0.6453,1,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,1,2,0,0,5,3,0,0,5,0,16,0,0,1,1,20,24,7,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,11,8,0,2,1,0,4,5,3,1,0,0,4,2,22,2,19,20,4,22,0,1,0,0,22,8,0,2,8,88,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09318125773465552,0.0,0.10966488232608032,0.0,0.12458381109673004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24370941502788726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08801958718968696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06738226112494505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11177548501648224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13367461520824805,0.0,0.0,0.3075374295479049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13356549526948916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127400391779276,0.7081924849101006,0.0,0.09881353602069147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14192176563891354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10597684795191524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12269154763257573,0.0,0.0,0.08853465194642007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273394224420641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11509727195907847,0.0,0.0,0.07860253497578802,0.0,0.32068892542169064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,angrystatistic18,2020/01/27,"Feels like I’m starting over My wife (27f) told me (31m) She thought she wanted to get a divorce. We’ve been married for 4 years and together for 7. At the time it was jarring, but it seemed like she wasn’t for sure about it and we could potentially work through the problems. As time went by I learned there wasn’t a chance of it working she didn’t want to be with me she just didn’t want to be the bad guy. I still was certain we could work it out (to some extent I still do). Even though after everything that has happened I know it can’t. I found out a couple of weeks ago her and my best friend now former. Had been intimately texting and had even kissed on two occasions. While we were “trying” to work through our problems. I’m not really mad at her about that as much as I’m crushed by the fact that our marriage will end. We spent years building this life together and now it’s over. I know I should look at it as a fresh start to get away from something bad but it’s so hard to do that. I just feel kind of lost. I just need to put this out into the world.",1.175598909167192,2.9351589911894287,2.2970799244808084,97.84659324522762,80.23348017621146,5.557289700020979,21.382211034193414,6.42735559955562,0.019268680511852487,829,24,200,7,21,263,126,227,0.106,0.745,0.14800000000000002,0.8035,0,0,1,0,1,0,21.0,6,0,0,6,14,14,1,0,9,0,21,2,0,0,3,41,45,14,0,9,6,1,3,2,1,2,1,0,0,1,15,14,0,0,8,0,1,2,6,6,0,1,17,4,26,8,38,22,4,30,0,1,1,1,19,12,0,2,18,134,41,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11599954547875503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12294733182892024,0.0,0.21852536424930888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13732955709875827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089622157364445,0.1447941648117445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115903169771076,0.0,0.0,0.17286366783844678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176085819269152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13233355412362974,0.09348645134521046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434812988528888,0.10110215594201333,0.0,0.13673795816382658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295720308804386,0.11571911682397805,0.0,0.1172249081358589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13627061277317254,0.1438345308165191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924303287226964,0.12786322835966615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098894904935562,0.0,0.14284921124694014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09619719933731374,0.0970310746391718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504308043032236,0.0,0.13155050174695693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08383230380550695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11913008174104613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10074246563692714,0.0,0.0,0.18524684470109035,0.0,0.2090100221852428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12333405568707273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12856934224616567,0.1038882685782344,0.1526111039500248,0.0,0.0,0.12504239298649972,0.0,0.0888453892768968,0.0,0.12783126163172576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315539574395982,0.0,0.10496804490440133,0.0,0.0,0.12130858448920227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3810707220727454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16853917344554964
divorce,Thealmightyfug,2020/01/27,Has anyone made an arrangement where whoever is looking after the kids stays in the family home when doing 50 50 care My wife and I just separated and working out best way to take care of the kids. We are thinking about having whoever is looking after the kids stay in the family home to create least confusion forvthe kids.,8.966502732240436,7.99852586885246,8.976065573770494,66.92453551912571,60.80327868852459,12.723497267759562,36.72677595628414,11.855464076750405,4.512766120218578,262,10,44,7,3,86,43,61,0.0,0.79,0.21,0.9272,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,1,0,0,2,4,4,0,1,6,0,6,0,0,1,0,8,13,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,3,3,9,12,2,10,0,0,2,0,6,4,0,1,3,31,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435559478153026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21545781019793184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4186498548429681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3870917370780924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4118808127641088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34481359272835155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19426715092134275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4376614747608672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15436587215913236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13155291199567032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16296373040756573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14946648238531454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Vamplips,2020/01/27,"Sock day Been waiting over a year for this moment. Over the weekend I was notified that it was over. I'm paid in full for legal fees. That's it. It was was so anticlimactic, but I'm free. 


No more yelling matches, no more fear of cheating, no more fear of divorce used as a weapon, no more crying in the bathroom while he sleeps, no more. 


I can move on, be myself, and most importantly do what I want to do without hesitation or judgement. 


I hope it turns out well for you all, too.",2.5257142857142867,4.043343765306126,3.877295918367349,89.08288265306123,75.63265306122447,6.53265306122449,25.51530612244898,7.1686216300943375,0.9473836734693872,371,13,82,4,8,122,67,98,0.293,0.5579999999999999,0.149,-0.9701,0,0,0,0,2,0,16.0,0,1,0,0,3,7,2,2,4,0,9,1,1,1,1,11,17,6,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,8,2,0,1,0,1,3,1,6,4,1,0,6,1,6,4,15,10,8,14,0,0,0,0,3,8,0,3,5,62,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2911468557377259,0.17093642469599502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.596513721278548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632561516885708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28170801956854874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652431255099194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883001471555583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22891957506051905,0.0,0.0,0.15633436482955407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23831331722459825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555003884436584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17068461010679006
divorce,w0ndrlnd,2020/01/27,"Displaced emotions and learning to live again I’m sure, like most of you, I really can’t believe I’m here writing this. 
I’m 25. I have a good job I just started, but was really a stay at home mom largely until it was obvious the divorce was coming. We have an almost 19 month old daughter.
We split for a lot of reasons, one large one being his emotional abuse (identified by a psychologist, not my call). One large thing is that we did not communicate emotions in the same way. I’m very sensitive, he was not. He was left brain, I was right.
The incident that ended it, really, was that I have ptsd. He did some stuff over the course of our sexual relationship that really warped my mindset about how I feel about myself in a bedroom. He did several things that sent my brain straight back to a serious PTSD related abuse incident. It was like I was there all over again. I was really shaken for weeks. This was only back in October. I’m still honestly wrapping my head around that incident alone.
Meanwhile, I had a friend who is a big lesbian. I tried coming out at 12, was shoved back in by my parents. I’ve always liked girls, it was just never an option. I realized recently I think I’m more than likely gay—I’m having a hard time accepting the label because it’s been so far removed from me. Anyways, the friend was also married to a woman who sounded like my stbx in a wig. Of course, there was commiserating and getting close. I’d always thought she was attractive. But honestly, it wasn’t until the ring came off that anything actually transpired between us. 
When my marriage had taken the final turn, and we’d gotten together (she cheated, my ex clearly thinks I did, but nothing happened while we were trying to work things out, ever).  I realize emotions were at play by then, but I was so entrenched trying to hang on to my family that my sexuality was not on my mind. When we did get together, my body did things that I’ve never experienced—it was great. Fantastic! And still I have an overwhelming sense of guilt and heartache. My ex has told me he never loved me, and I’d believe him. When I was 7 months pregnant, he told me he wished I’d aborted our baby. I figured it was his bipolar disorder. Maybe it wasn’t. 
He’s since shacked up with some girl he barely knows yet claims is a good friend (they texted about 2-3 times a year to see if he was single our whole relationship [a little over 4 years]. Yes, I’m sure, I own the phone bills and confirmed it myself). 
I’m trying to get my head together and move forward. I have a lady I never thought I’d meet, who is the other half of my own brain. Our connection has always been palpable. But The guilt I have—over my family, and the fact I am still hashing out the flashbacks in my brain, and the fact he never loved me....
I guess it’s an ok divorce. Trying to just use divorce horse. We had a house together, but I got booted into a city with ridiculous rental prices. So I’m back to square one, it feels. He’s got that little girlfriend who came into the house before we’d even gotten any of my things out, stained some stuff, like the mattress I conceived my kid on. And he “never loved me”....
Well, that just gets me. Cause gay or not, I only realized with help in therapy that sex isn’t just an exchange or show of emotion. Now that I’ve engaged like this, I don’t know there is going back to men, and that’s a whole other  terrifying thing. Adjusting to the label and still having fairly homophobic parents, it’s a hell of an adjustment. I never liked the look of men, always loved women. Did the diddles to show affection. And I did love my ex, for who he was on the inside. I still do—but between the PTSD jitters I get looking at him, and the fact I feel....so dejected. 

Is my whole life a lie? Am I just a conduit for making people find their real happiness? Was every memory or word said fake? Was I really being placated this whole time? Is this relationship gonna fail too, is my girlfriend really telling me the truth about how she feels? Am I a pussy for walking from this?

Is there any end to the hurt? When will I feel like his love for me doesn’t actually matter and forget about it? When will I stop looking at my kid and feeling this way?",2.732425675675671,4.671112698809524,4.205122265122267,85.13194980694982,76.17857142857143,7.302445302445303,25.04182754182754,8.186683628785799,1.5731721364221365,3297,115,658,58,74,1094,347,840,0.10400000000000001,0.7609999999999999,0.135,0.9763,4,1,0,0,5,0,121.0,13,1,2,2,47,43,3,3,52,2,73,18,7,7,17,120,130,42,0,2,21,7,6,9,5,3,2,3,3,8,49,38,0,1,21,3,3,11,18,10,1,5,55,14,96,33,76,68,15,96,1,3,5,9,86,37,1,12,56,446,145,4,0.0,0.11362797600937245,0.09358634337946886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0480159104159532,0.04966268208644718,0.0,0.038346325838500527,0.1595959953625576,0.0,0.0,0.06521652695451934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039459513696017384,0.04268647656827787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18435645187947275,0.0,0.02923043000385755,0.0,0.040802693122194714,0.10804851165008897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05326265185629995,0.0,0.21411629794501064,0.04896324089945338,0.10968613478988266,0.0,0.049258793815737764,0.0,0.08261092714114357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0549558977564228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696916017340087,0.0849405483168358,0.0,0.0,0.03167112417904136,0.04337434382922109,0.04040071023981903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09040770187979524,0.0,0.14547252681067582,0.034256140074259714,0.0,0.05252787867985253,0.04382626353397007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11114026361863914,0.0,0.12526185829408654,0.0,0.027251607491784645,0.08043789749889592,0.07670144712345857,0.052866048157241836,0.052823333998567805,0.0,0.042402831834464604,0.05104463591851245,0.04295459732946578,0.0,0.09842293611401147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03214048457637443,0.0,0.04809867295471749,0.0,0.0,0.11065782551245704,0.05133244148254376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0475838797688518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05270513282156513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05209880460941056,0.0,0.03386914619469912,0.2108375351833357,0.09611881904419543,0.04234153251247605,0.0,0.12080006433667514,0.0,0.0,0.04076614940441234,0.25966541337140936,0.0,0.03200760513358558,0.0,0.04817313468269668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048416750382217225,0.05615952689346451,0.07654791863699753,0.05096422932299245,0.0,0.0,0.2588788880441956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046010191910957496,0.0,0.05031641440541822,0.0,0.12997111185793792,0.07293765644022822,0.0,0.0,0.10648762310467633,0.0,0.0,0.03324312378907635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16815614520850256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05457863399029814,0.2150300680377177,0.04930152225294198,0.04734573932205206,0.15444399839343806,0.0,0.04094981560594672,0.04561229657614406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03821066747889975,0.0,0.0,0.054170880231593735,0.0,0.03966548871370687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033939901285601114,0.051109290569110635,0.19146829550902156,0.04008910831510746,0.0,0.0,0.10978464083795136,0.0,0.0,0.0903863314255401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041911209338102336,0.0,0.05483604517128589,0.0,0.1911387257407051,0.06145001460841884,0.0,0.07613533360779637,0.08388168464906594,0.0,0.0,0.09163829983339328,0.0,0.16277760339747,0.05215682122216992,0.0,0.0,0.05767904134551757,0.04141419096898441,0.0,0.03956452302507319,0.0,0.07612240171860983,0.03846332808471264,0.0,0.043113627252638745,0.0,0.0,0.21414191679018674,0.05514118067693991,0.0,0.0,0.0349088339692125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06175762851700641
divorce,CassieAnAngel,2020/01/27,"How did you cope ?? I'm about to sit my husband down this Friday and tell him I want a divorce. I love him dearly but I'm not in love with him anymore. I know it's going to be a lot of crying and hearts breaking. I'm afraid to do it but I need this. I'm worried about how to cope after.


Any advice of any sort will be great!!! Thank you!!",-1.8267105263157888,0.03458027631579341,0.8818947368421064,102.27626315789476,94.92105263157896,3.04,14.178947368421055,3.1291,-1.5477010526315795,255,5,65,0,10,87,48,76,0.08,0.6679999999999999,0.252,0.9426,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,0,2,0,0,4,6,0,1,2,0,5,3,1,2,0,13,16,6,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,10,5,12,12,1,6,0,0,0,2,10,2,0,2,1,41,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461401502264613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34258232727962235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498032954441049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27668501781087296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14315265704285438,0.0,0.0,0.27770527897651953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2984862031175485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384299954686729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21414452730565986,0.4546740209417531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867703276309276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22015952557798027,0.23190284926230464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14856892892665294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25580252868338194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,poppinfresh_original,2020/01/27,"It's now officially over and done Left court after our final hearing for our (me M43, her F42) uncontested divorce a little while ago.  I'm still a little numb and not even sure how I feel about the whole thing yet. I wouldn't consider it a happy ending just yet, but I'm sure I'll get there at some point.

​

I'm now sitting here in the house that we built together after getting married 15 years ago and that is now just mine. It still contains many objects and memories (including many of our children- 10 & 7) that she just up and walked away from to start playing house with the new guy. I just keep reminding myself that it was her choice and while I want to understand it, I don't need to.  It's not worth wasting the mental energy and I just need to continue focusing on my boys and myself. I have no doubt everything else will sort itself out over time.",6.914252873563223,5.985469965517242,7.005172413793105,79.27373563218393,64.86206896551724,10.491954022988507,31.97701149425287,9.725611199111238,2.7008666666666667,690,22,140,12,9,222,115,174,0.091,0.8540000000000001,0.054000000000000006,-0.6529,0,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,4,0,0,0,17,6,0,1,7,0,7,1,0,1,2,33,20,12,0,4,8,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,3,12,11,0,2,2,1,1,1,5,2,0,0,2,2,19,4,19,16,2,34,0,0,0,0,12,12,0,3,20,96,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450869242867973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29957095899139485,0.16797953170844915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298831960196648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414698745152738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154837067967764,0.0,0.12244164956442033,0.0,0.0,0.09130773852734364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12424326964056318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06989946302427731,0.0,0.0,0.15143768767986873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14445179703642366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368816161779561,0.0,0.14716150406670106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15580912465627925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3190261179482287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12287611235803945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502006686586524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771102139358953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2803119981625593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13931572830309166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050098346972636,0.0,0.1335152794198798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13068366189945285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09784861486793367,0.0,0.2208009663791237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605834724903929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09184204457937144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806101996450808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14391511467537818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08153889310669878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15434259639386114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16797953170844915,0.08902351184034173
divorce,NotSoPerfectHusband,2020/01/27,"Its probably the answer but not sure if ill ever do it First time posting. Not sure where to start or how to begin but Im a 30 yr old guy and been married for almost 4 years. We just had a kid together, we bought a condo and my wife is a stay at home mom (i have no objection to that) and from the day of our wedding to now, its always been on the rocks. I seem to always think or know divorce is the answer but idk...i guess i dont have the courage. 

Either way, not sure what im doing here but wanted to just write the random things thats been pushing me on edge.

Today i woke up at 230am to clean my condo which incudes washing dishes, picking up my kids toys and moving all loose clothing to the hamper. Then at 330 i prepare my sons milk to feed him (wife and i sleep with our kid in a large king size bed). My wife still asleep. For some reason i feel like im doing this sincerely but to mitigate the risk of my wife being pissed off that i do nothing at home to help which she has told me before. At 4 i play some video games to give myself enjoyment. At 500 i check on my kid and get ready for work (shower, breakfast, prep lunch etc). 

I kiss my wife and tell her i love her and kiss my son and leave at 6. 

Its  now 843 and i guess my wife just woke up and she texts me that next time i should change my sons diaper before i leave because now hes cranky. I  cant help but feel that all my effort did not bear any fruits. I feel like im the reason why hes cranky and its probably going to ruin my wifes day.",2.4151908801696718,2.990778695121953,3.8583244962884433,92.80046129374338,74.54878048780488,6.801908801696713,20.66330858960764,6.7026698264267655,0.08926495227995712,1164,21,279,9,23,386,175,328,0.09300000000000001,0.767,0.14,0.9673,1,0,0,0,1,0,30.0,4,0,0,4,12,15,1,1,14,0,20,14,3,4,6,59,39,23,0,3,17,11,3,2,0,1,2,0,7,5,15,15,6,0,10,5,2,3,7,3,0,1,9,4,45,12,35,28,6,39,0,1,0,3,37,16,1,10,19,172,60,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10425279851290102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17325849915021654,0.0,0.0,0.07079950567845243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06346550764608933,0.0,0.17718272580909272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11013634204745468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342868282936915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220181017484489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11611203262402672,0.0,0.09417496593701337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15792596553284485,0.1487547955689685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08855733323793279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054394050476011264,0.09987340053352327,0.05916906126286325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293814841133442,0.103086921621949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395677155184999,0.0,0.20886498732803585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4498338766098454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05721705102582754,0.0,0.0,0.22047845178747666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017274060665526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09396484688258824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219343294979774,0.0,0.1106542286702102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11072394206787532,0.0,0.0,0.09989795518360656,0.0,0.10924768410007793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09971020064778448,0.0,0.2244999780455044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2140882728782987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09477935412301712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10418685811049128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07369077582042304,0.11096918762303608,0.08314371407473542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943720503307278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09099818840684704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0691671673341765,0.06671055423180959,0.0,0.0,0.12141670393398457,0.0,0.0986856896143686,0.09948316220430772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06140776035185652,0.08263899757330885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939445885572564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07579453565673641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06704450198531392
divorce,find_your_chill,2020/01/27,"Planning a divorce, what advice do you have? I’ve reached my wits end and am finally going through with ending my marriage. We’ve been together almost 13 years and have a 10 yr old daughter. Does anyone have advice on where to start this process or things I should do during said process. Thank you in advance",4.267966101694917,6.407105288135598,4.0120000000000005,87.31562711864406,72.38983050847456,6.07593220338983,30.444067796610174,6.742157984588678,1.67796,248,11,45,2,5,75,48,59,0.0,0.93,0.07,0.4404,0,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,0,2,0,2,1,1,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,0,0,6,12,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,5,1,5,9,0,11,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,2,6,27,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5054860799371939,0.0,0.0,0.2589936997057958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18084926646048044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22634031625684414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.458162027399715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2833308692710357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14699283187771198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714024207788327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460288129496469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830689145630943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23812381298219065,0.0,0.0,0.17183098028616892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16655767386388445
divorce,Overseas_Hawk,2020/01/27,"How long til it gets better? My wife of 10 years told me that she didn't love me anymore on Thanksgiving 2018. She told me that she'd never love me again and wanted a divorce. We have two young children. I stayed in the house we built for 8 months while looking for a place to rent nearby. 

Fast forward to now and I've been living in my own for 8 months. I've gone on some dates and that has been a distraction. But, I very much still long for the life that we had. I moved to Ireland from the USA 17 years ago to be with that woman. Now I feel utterly alone. The only family I have here are my children. My oldest is 9 and she isn't taking it very well. I suspect she blames me as I was the one that left the house. It's taking all my strength to not tell her the truth about her mom being the sole decision maker about the divorce. There was no infidelity or abuse and I feel as if I'm suffering horrendous repercussions for something I didn't choose. 

There have been no decisions about the house as of yet. Although, she intends to keep it. Meanwhile I'm paying more for a small apartment than I did for the mortgage. 

I wonder has anybody on here been in a similar situation where they felt very alone after a separation? Her family have disowned me and I feel so sad about that. They had become my family. Now I feel.like I'm just going through the motions in life. I feel overwhelmingly sad.",2.5207773851590107,4.419246349823325,3.62692014134276,89.22152508833923,76.66784452296821,6.78948409893993,23.33413427561837,7.699297019823105,1.0007782049469969,1099,34,231,16,25,355,150,283,0.155,0.807,0.038,-0.9857,2,2,1,0,3,0,26.0,3,0,2,2,19,11,0,2,18,0,23,4,0,3,3,34,44,17,0,2,5,2,5,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,11,10,0,1,10,0,2,5,7,5,1,2,15,6,40,6,35,26,5,39,0,4,1,2,26,13,0,4,22,163,51,1,0.0,0.1333954281834972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09980026829176067,0.0,0.0,0.23320928434441476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11165458078428214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12434185874544812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09957274111302516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31840681829129386,0.0,0.2846331024624422,0.0,0.10809975262036443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05882128612700795,0.0,0.0639849441612049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3897257137152043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10007118099561108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12232449424510455,0.0,0.15904496119788994,0.0,0.0,0.09941507466403043,0.19926928035443425,0.09454347935967013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032256504522963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13185879744823414,0.1797293719690218,0.11966058767115174,0.08276330965915896,0.0,0.08683289181599503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07629086043187451,0.0856263593988731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176279032398517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12655083888093738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08667383184514453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12000118173466255,0.08991093975266651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16930059552277535,0.0,0.0984047047512877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21516057354176416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10997969133643716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786845286782269,0.06640585524455986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10122790125972256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220941912125743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450027640894336
divorce,wot-in-ternation,2020/01/27,"I don't miss my marriage, but I really miss my best friend. My wife and I split about a month ago after two years of marriage (8 together). We have no contact now.

Upon that time I've reflected and realized that our marriage was never going to work over the long run as our mindsets are incompatible. I realize we are better off separate finding our own partners and happiness in the future. 

However, how do I get over losing my best friend? All the inside jokes, hugs, journeys, memes, chats- losing these has been my biggest struggle. Sometimes living alone gets too quiet, and sleeping alone gets too lonely. 

How did you all cope with losing your marriage partner as a best friend?",5.867857142857144,7.425176738095237,6.165238095238099,75.79642857142858,67.33333333333333,8.457142857142857,31.46031746031746,8.841846274778883,2.802784126984127,543,22,89,9,9,174,88,126,0.138,0.547,0.315,0.9891,1,4,0,0,0,0,19.0,5,2,0,8,6,17,0,1,5,0,9,2,1,2,3,17,15,9,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,2,3,7,0,0,4,2,0,3,3,7,0,1,3,1,17,10,12,12,6,18,0,6,0,1,19,6,0,0,9,65,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13116696188054414,0.0,0.0,0.3065057222127551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4658578800468805,0.1308679241195159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13524239924238665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34296503265822675,0.0,0.23192551063981864,0.0,0.0840950718407477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15751739877899595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306607039440683,0.1309492777304057,0.0,0.4966235780672886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181086788913026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11412400793862736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947937214084086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14807740955597454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463466545767031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15469094357101426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.086282815901321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14454572345424668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077243205342163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09528818086084492
divorce,SadieSadieSnakeyLady,2020/01/27,"I think it's time After 8 years of promises, accusations, blame, gaslighting and being taken advantage of. I'm done. So far I'm organised to spend a few months getting together my escape fund. Thankfully we're not legally married (common law) and our finances have never been joint (she's a bad impulse spender) and my only asset is in my name only.


How does someone get more prepared? If I could walk tomorrow I would. My head keeps making lists of what I HAVE to take (pets, my car, my game consoles, my nail polish collection, important papers) and reminding myself most things are replaceable. 


I'm sadly having to do this without her finding out until I'm all set, until I have a place to go. Opening a secret savings account and putting my name on the public housing list tomorrow.

I have no idea how to make sure I get the things I need out. Some stuff I'm going to start moving over to my parents house under the guise of my mother needing to borrow it (mainly hobby stuff). 

I've never ended a relationship with someone I've lived with. So I have no actual idea.",5.247288488210816,6.307216266990293,6.244687933425799,76.4990291262136,68.36893203883497,8.409986130374481,30.73370319001387,8.634040054169528,2.566490707350901,845,33,146,13,14,281,136,206,0.083,0.828,0.08900000000000001,0.0508,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,1,0,0,1,4,7,0,0,8,0,14,1,1,4,4,37,34,12,0,5,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,8,10,0,1,5,1,6,6,6,2,0,0,3,0,23,5,24,28,6,29,0,1,0,0,11,9,0,3,13,98,31,3,0.0,0.0,0.13439443658643374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149900905843142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10995787239059024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12051932607244605,0.1409349380009117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12197866400332365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12587319437097774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21585837757900886,0.0,0.15653841373340854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413400136021022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31781979243115005,0.0,0.3109372683998757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12241148397359793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12160890575982845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838577682629272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10992644894105748,0.14637411055057828,0.0,0.20423463611340487,0.2124356490882429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20948388171280588,0.0,0.0,0.15292128737793093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14388764126731493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138446208880692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478592808787653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333786939219641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09747862233664777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31531192305345096,0.0,0.0,0.12979906734677552,0.0,0.10354797919525764,0.0,0.0,0.1267936792570731,0.0,0.0,0.1829895290855469,0.08824514125998376,0.0,0.0,0.08030539030409622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327567534678133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09783203301912648,0.0,0.0,0.08868688945141748
divorce,commitballad,2020/01/27,"Walk away wife syndrome - did things ever get better for those of you who stayed? The past few months of growing and self-investment have suddenly become clear to me after reading this subreddit. 

I was engaging in a routine to focus on my own happiness but had no idea the new life I was building was really to prepare myself to be alone. 

I love my husband as a person, friend, family, but he just isn’t a good husband. For the past few years I would tell myself “maybe things will get better”, but they never have and now I’m worried they never will. 

Today, I told my husband that I can’t invest in our marriage anymore unless he starts to invest in himself and make more of an effort. This is 3rd time in the past 4 months that I’ve talked about wanting to end things, and he still hasn’t been to therapy like he said he would. He mentioned that he feels like I’m distant and that nothing he does will fix things because I’m not open to change. I told him that I’ve been waiting for 2 years for him to start trying to fix things, so he can’t say that I’m not willing to work on us. He was very upset and said he will do whatever he needs to in order to make us work, but I asked him why does he feel desperate to change now instead of the 1st time I brought my unhappiness up 2 years ago?? His answer was that he never understood what I meant until this moment that I want to leave. 


Also, the claims that say men who were left by women with walk away wife syndrome will be better husbands to their next wives makes me so angry. Why wasn’t I worth fighting for until the very end?  Why didn’t he listen to me any other time I begged him to meet me half way? 



Honestly, I’m just tired... I have nothing to lose so I’m willing to wait things out and try therapy, but I also just want to be happy and feel loved. :( 
Any success stories from those who staid??",4.803237986270023,4.844660500000003,5.417162471395884,85.65122425629292,69.0,8.082379862700227,27.31121281464531,7.586124646067393,1.3665137299771168,1450,41,306,14,23,469,186,380,0.081,0.76,0.159,0.9849,0,1,0,0,2,0,36.0,3,1,3,8,14,17,1,1,11,0,33,4,0,3,5,45,66,22,0,6,11,7,3,2,1,9,2,5,0,3,25,11,0,2,7,1,3,4,12,3,0,1,19,8,38,14,50,35,4,51,0,1,0,2,58,13,0,0,33,194,63,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07134750452167611,0.0,0.0,0.08336100069699741,0.0,0.12873199596374085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10946881482252943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07982218729195642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07524515009045105,0.0,0.15124171870481104,0.0,0.0,0.04906456505276155,0.08889235951890608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135545340227436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702906639995501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14087068659829813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14257645398848492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728057477823218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07587665610061997,0.0,0.12209102387734387,0.05750044090724004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06218461027974554,0.0,0.08410301995679062,0.0,0.0,0.06750927807119332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17136134222369398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908608351787492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08522487049802532,0.08745013972056496,0.0,0.0568508546241708,0.0786444655959293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004516704949964,0.0,0.0,0.1452866135808058,0.0,0.1611785277246345,0.0,0.08086072973003443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12848905517718387,0.0,0.0,0.05968062209200047,0.18623126713528265,0.07773553835924392,0.08559959984535351,0.0,0.0,0.1544602699178423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305038989537291,0.0,0.07027876968426992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08050949783959697,0.0,0.05156249233684607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15312450020548654,0.1280141257528776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08396624225811082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139392403253676,0.08578919679244147,0.06427759454311133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0646929778793132,0.07034981205332427,0.0,0.18408943728762525,0.0,0.3208347753341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14079910465416298,0.0925087901486254,0.07629294426921959,0.1538189251032786,0.0,0.10929175260129652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19363362604686926,0.0,0.0,0.13282159129982027,0.14242122205952493,0.0638874031377965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21788293582993729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11719203275302086,0.08173918329628199,0.0,0.11435232930548707,0.0,0.0,0.15549435202340803
divorce,JohnL8t,2020/01/27,"18 months later, loneliness and a new relationship? So it's been 18 months since I separated from my ex wife and began down the longer trip of divorce. 
     It's been up and down but I don't hate her. I'm praying for my ability to forgive but not forget. She had cheated for a while without me knowing and I feel like I missed an opportunity to save it. I have 2 young boys and the hardest part was I felt like I let them down. I did love her, but Its been sometime and I want to move on. I've dated but with no real connection until now. (Or at least I think it is)
    I'm a person who can't handle being alone very well. I have my kids 1 week on and 1 week off. So that's a help, but an adult connection is what I miss the most. But how much is my previous 12 yr marriage coming into play now? Do I need to spend 1,2 or even 3 years alone to really be ready? Or is it normal to struggle with loneliness. Yikes I thought the breakup was hard, picking yourself up after is daunting as well.",0.4698086124401897,2.4941550956937806,2.7379665071770347,92.35326555023924,84.16746411483254,5.713875598086124,20.983253588516746,6.980632752743323,0.42186889952153095,761,24,173,10,22,259,130,209,0.095,0.6559999999999999,0.25,0.9892,0,2,0,0,1,0,22.0,0,0,1,1,8,14,2,1,10,0,20,1,0,2,0,37,35,22,0,3,11,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,9,11,0,0,6,1,1,3,5,5,2,0,10,3,23,9,26,22,4,28,1,2,0,1,17,10,0,4,17,119,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34556289727344025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14370584778147302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11018701539483636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08435225023167492,0.11918054478874444,0.16017914473279393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14944334942025744,0.16470616047681907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118199672608421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09168321984351606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17059091221972308,0.0,0.16300553711340945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15056699986879588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663178812856662,0.1773096619258848,0.12263632279545147,0.12369938285743134,0.0,0.16112161341591566,0.0,0.0,0.16345408287746252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806563267778046,0.0,0.0,0.14566604926675195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898845380328445,0.10687302271793553,0.0,0.0,0.1791087167437257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380002108808384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16499520334141535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744027819658677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10689537995862378,0.0,0.13244122830797458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764894113035722,0.09839831119391007,0.0,0.2676355471215961,0.0,0.2999932609248817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16081433381364454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10743048976858174
divorce,kyskydog,2020/01/27,3rd divorce My parents got divorced when I was a young child. My dad got another divorce when I was a teenager and now my mom told me she is most likely going to divorce my step dad who has been in my life since I was young. I don’t know how to handle this pain. Broken family is all I know,1.7661904761904772,2.943798000000001,3.7462222222222223,90.64600000000004,76.93650793650794,6.309841269841268,23.711111111111112,6.742157984588678,0.6399739682539685,226,7,51,2,5,77,43,63,0.11599999999999999,0.884,0.0,-0.7891,1,0,0,0,4,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,8,2,0,1,1,6,14,4,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,7,0,12,1,3,7,2,8,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,1,6,34,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30082899313752715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704541919884499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16304609743042606,0.0,0.45890399766385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3153342871131194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20263876587871027,0.14015987584445433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3360018925958339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052709982362565,0.0,0.3185571966184685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373182257006369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741355196661019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,drippinHOTea,2020/01/27,I’m not responsible for your sobriety Left husband in October due to drug use and inconsistent work/not paying for basically anything.  Trying work things out walk in his bathroom and there is a crack pipe in plain sight.  I confront him. He said it’s because he’s lonely and depressed because we are separated . I am furious because I am not going to be manipulated into feeling guilty or responsible for his drug use.,5.661731601731602,7.7039487012987005,7.19162337662338,66.35981601731604,68.48051948051949,9.808658008658007,36.20995670995672,10.125756701596842,4.271122943722943,338,18,54,9,6,116,55,77,0.25,0.731,0.018000000000000002,-0.9518,0,2,2,0,0,0,6.0,1,1,0,1,1,4,2,0,1,0,5,2,0,3,0,13,11,4,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,6,0,0,1,0,1,2,2,4,0,0,1,3,8,0,10,9,0,9,0,2,1,0,9,6,0,1,1,33,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18972578922881306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4216296058310912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19857529035981647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5347374552755164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165747174554881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13102880027775185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504969244817574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21930906278049345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531694226843492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15653061267441173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3982481957275811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3356912164143019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ejmcdonald2092,2020/01/27,"Been advised to write a letter. The wife decided she wanted a split a month ago, I have managed to pick up the pieces of my life but the path here broke me a lot! My journey didn’t kill me but killed the love I had for her. I have closure, purpose and drive. I am preparing for the pending talks regarding our daughter to get real nasty real quick.

The lies have already started, when I went to pick up my paperwork and some clothes she was trying to provoke me into an emotional response but I felt nothing towards her so my only words during the timeframe were ‘I am just here for my things’ and ‘neither of us are emotionally ready to have a rational conversation, so I will not be engaging into a conversation with you. I am just here for my things I need’ I went into two rooms. The kitchen to grab some of my bags and then the hallway to pick my things she was throwing on the floor and at me up and into the bags!

After I left she called the family member I’m staying with to say I just ransacked the house, I also had a call from the child welfare officer the next day (unrelated to the incident I was released from hospital Friday after an attempt on my life) who had spoken to the wife before and it seems the police were called about my visit.

I have been advised to write a letter, keep a copy and send it recorded explaining that I need to organise a visit to get the rest of my things but also I want to strive for an amicable relationship between us for the benefit of our daughter. The person who advised this said I should have proof that I have strived for a reasonable outcome regarding our daughter.

I have thought about this all day and would not even know where to start so thought I would ask you guys if it’s a good idea?",7.480147482624176,6.099630922190201,7.673181895236483,76.40524326156977,63.98559077809799,10.700728937107984,36.261908798101366,9.627879704456738,3.2571842346160373,1378,55,272,22,17,450,171,347,0.091,0.851,0.057999999999999996,-0.9386,0,0,0,0,0,1,20.0,5,2,0,1,17,7,2,0,36,0,28,4,0,5,2,56,49,21,2,8,10,5,2,0,0,4,2,2,2,3,13,15,1,1,9,0,0,8,4,3,0,1,17,4,49,4,48,27,7,36,0,1,0,1,45,15,0,5,12,214,62,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09671571639202356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12040097304709925,0.1745037516823832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10199920298280876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09284100722655278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3342276884935986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407284410950818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454586992142241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07206335768018225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285524632432186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10475868647882396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140065637948478,0.0,0.0,0.09151277589225487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10803190425660893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258934544750467,0.0,0.1231671776778194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09697825592905157,0.24141882403024284,0.0,0.05996169912742461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185437804497763,0.0,0.15412931872915053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09275785694143417,0.09847225217505498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08708721561677152,0.0,0.0,0.1618011494318163,0.0,0.0,0.11603526538757525,0.0,0.0,0.10468996609875053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08297988405294286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09526698379617712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483725933253347,0.0,0.11217894294520624,0.0,0.11713880689199987,0.0,0.0,0.10378460910321603,0.08676531830715031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099325830561429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15445130600023946,0.11629227514126303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769511622134198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2899402050843908,0.0,0.0,0.17323564982607767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07407568225012585,0.0,0.10658052145792976,0.0,0.2624817081726883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12870686567348336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20228435559731187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15501127227956135,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Girl_on_a_Buffalo,2020/01/27,"I learned my husband wanted a divorce the same day I learned I was pregnant with our third child. I’m in shock. Our kids are toddlers. He said we just weren’t compatible, weren’t interested in doing the same stuff, but yes there’s someone he may be interested in and would like to explore a relationship with.  Of course. We’ve been together for 2/3 of our entire lives.  I don’t know what to do next.",2.2333749999999988,4.539377587499999,3.5025000000000013,87.76250000000002,79.375,6.5,26.25,7.645422480735847,1.416250000000001,317,13,66,5,8,103,58,80,0.023,0.818,0.158,0.8859999999999999,2,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,4,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,4,1,11,0,0,0,0,15,15,2,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,2,2,4,0,0,4,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,5,1,9,3,10,7,2,6,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,1,3,43,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308312071033875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19670553133182228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17486346379767706,0.0,0.3160532268637928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3806559664493005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3842761560225357,0.0,0.0,0.34046744796757106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3032676300902119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4097370588404336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111126999966605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542587611749897,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,politebunny35,2020/01/27,"Married three months, and he gave up. My husband and I were great. Literally just got back from our honeymoon before Christmas. 20 days ago he found an old phone of mine and went through it. Charged it, unlocked it, and went through it. He found a relationship I never told him about. I never told anyone. It was with a married man, and looking back, it was an abusive relationship where he used his potion and role as influence. I cut off the sexual portion before ever meeting my husband. We met, fell in love, and this guy still interjected himself into our relationship. Not in a sexual way, but as a friend. He also involved us with his family. Looking back, it’s because he thought I would come back should the relationship crumble. It was messed up. Wasn’t until I actually told someone about the relationship that I realized how messed up it was. Guy is also my boss. Absolutely nothing happened since meeting my husband. But anyways, Husband went through an old phone and found texts between this guy and I. He lost it. In 5 days, told me he can never get past it. 11 days he moved everything out. Tomorrow, 20 days in, and he’s meeting with an attorney for divorce. 

I really can’t process how quickly he walked away, and just gave up. I offered to quit my career, move away, cut the guy off. I was committed to making life sacrifices for our marriage. I expected some anger over keeping this secret from him, but he’s gotten angrier and now vindictive. Is only concerned about his image and is “so embarrassed this happened” to him. He also went behind my back, printed all the messages and showed this guys wife. He refuses to talk to me without someone else present, and doesn’t want to continue counseling. He’s making me out to be crazy, but I have done nothing but respect his need for space/ distance, and have never done anything to show I’m crazy. I’m emotionally unstable right now, but I keep it to myself or my close friends. 20 days and he walked away from our marriage. 

I’m devastated. I’m not sure if I should be reaching out to an attorney or not.",3.6594699546485288,6.006375349489797,4.640850340136055,81.18430839002271,74.84183673469387,7.620861678004537,30.531746031746028,8.515128840125781,2.6037089569161003,1635,77,296,32,36,531,189,392,0.126,0.825,0.048,-0.9862,1,0,0,0,1,0,57.0,6,0,0,2,23,13,3,1,14,0,22,2,0,7,8,73,58,35,0,7,15,5,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,6,18,27,0,3,6,2,0,10,11,7,0,1,27,2,41,6,50,26,3,61,1,1,2,1,71,22,0,4,28,201,59,2,0.0,0.08289104285067199,0.06827077161583335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06201523116745256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16784072285065424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04891758948300513,0.0,0.05757103761794481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19718889000789436,0.26897422781303,0.0,0.04264690635329933,0.0,0.11906144605570328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06026426010637954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22559174278800306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14318653672488593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058442520292888586,0.07869547236837576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328273580568203,0.0,0.0,0.0628754480491453,0.0,0.06595196846532543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23012226159622046,0.10810169206085557,0.0,0.03655116082523022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055953323851291134,0.07713103791950268,0.0,0.3463565057398595,0.12373061895568853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243671490842106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049414747092017375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11749739410969645,0.0,0.07636949628556712,0.0,0.0631415421405012,0.0,0.09339755443524192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05584132558469357,0.14871260635022454,0.0,0.05187438019122801,0.2158295544122061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13425682382811222,0.0,0.14682229532021834,0.0,0.0,0.053207657284292935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06678464170750703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07441096633172345,0.0,0.0,0.044818104056716206,0.0,0.0,0.3755537599825955,0.0,0.0597453732668734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05787155311803713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11855359431118155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0558700673724025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06593637882532996,0.0,0.0,0.056231118453170734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05554034685976901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26739873418588345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08415314706235054,0.060422892298158073,0.0,0.0,0.04126416225479988,0.055530913110983314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594141167931435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06743884811505259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04969750647874408,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Dianageorgiadis,2020/01/27,"Would like to divorce... Hi Everyone,

I’m 35F, husband will be 42 at the end of the year. This will be our 8th year married. We have a 4 year old son with moderate autism, he is not the problem. 

My husband has never really handled stress well. I found him exciting and loving at first but at some point he became argumentative and would have periodic outbursts. Something like a messy drawer or closet would set him off. Complaining about me as a housekeeper, I always worked full time and never claimed to be type A neat and tidy. I’m not an argumentative person so I didn’t know how to deal with this. If it was really bad he would threaten to leave me. I eventually figured the point was to get me to beg him to stay, I believe he needs this dynamic to feel like I care or something. He even did this to me while pregnant, it ended up being so normal that I knew what was coming and that these episodes would take up a couple of hours of my night when they happened. 

Typically he was not violent, just exhausting with the arguing. A handful of times he did grab my hair, once he bruised my wrist squeezing me so hard. 

He’s curbed this behavior for the most part. I’m able to go through the motions well enough. 

Mostly I’m dealing with him bossing me around/nit picking and over anxiousness towards our son because of his disability. 

Last week he had a mild version of the “I want a divorce” episode and I calmly said at one point “maybe that would be for the best if I can make you happy”..... his entire attitude changed. Now he’s worried I’ll leave or make him leave. He’s worried I don’t love him. He promised to be better. Claims he is nothing without me and so on. 

I don’t want him out in the cold. We don’t have money so that’s not an issue. I want him to be with our son as much as possible. I don’t hate him really or want any bad to come to him. Still, I don’t or am not able to really love him like I want to love my “husband”. After the things he’s done I just can’t. 

I really feel terrible about it. I married forever but I just don’t think it’s fair. I still want to have a partner I can feel passionate about, someone who doesn’t belittle me or tell me stuff like “your lucky I haven’t cheated”🙄. 

I’m not that emotional about it cause I’ve thought about it for a long time. 

Anyway has anyone successfully had a low drama divorce. I want to make sure he’s OK, I just don’t love him like a wife should love a husband.",1.7432602879347667,3.698906654690617,3.3820045016350297,89.8011606574086,79.25948103792416,6.659039368072365,24.23242875950227,7.69321558396912,1.1372608909839892,1898,68,412,30,47,629,232,501,0.109,0.665,0.225,0.9965,0,0,2,0,3,0,53.0,5,2,1,5,23,39,3,1,26,1,47,11,3,7,3,81,86,29,0,19,21,8,8,6,1,9,1,1,1,2,21,18,0,2,9,1,1,4,20,11,2,2,14,10,61,28,55,56,9,47,0,1,0,7,65,17,0,12,30,265,82,4,0.14277255119594312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059399099932818826,0.0,0.0,0.048545115346317634,0.0,0.0,0.08064617213020855,0.0,0.04991494371168295,0.0,0.0,0.06354892005150957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119209116635165,0.04351641102106852,0.0,0.0,0.0804278870095218,0.07491549205685949,0.06313535962225225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07278306561800099,0.07333336929374029,0.07551721410030117,0.12298591090966245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898755616049337,0.0,0.0,0.14719223116133195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07305294472223077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08029995171770399,0.12645410322128525,0.07376110544701653,0.0,0.04714996177246047,0.0,0.0,0.068212645525495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10828513757976443,0.050998369550843185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060721129555938815,0.0,0.07827136656962731,0.0,0.0,0.037296382640070284,0.0,0.04057046551969396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06312664775449066,0.07599201779644166,0.06394808124228216,0.07047916800671132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07030110179382497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745087249876208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03923203015625425,0.05818934241163028,0.0,0.2267632754812733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092543703826507,0.0,0.0,0.06317460750911723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3865734050007025,0.0,0.1429526798554818,0.0,0.07171710880575029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05247712637465296,0.05293201882368222,0.11011499313090294,0.0,0.0,0.06699118380976579,0.0699433933445674,0.06849705673475337,0.0,0.07490788777597973,0.07602405371584048,0.04837318783651908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730437993082973,0.0,0.0,0.0623317423551392,0.0,0.0,0.20244931357047405,0.08047729975170782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06830702482015329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286593804905847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06790469538629487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060485359656941025,0.10991328514639033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07608827154123718,0.11401834381190303,0.0,0.08177273750842763,0.0,0.08172020654287665,0.0,0.0,0.06728071992921841,0.0,0.053673595118060254,0.0,0.062394751350090136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047425869492158934,0.04574144295170682,0.0,0.05667272890042675,0.12487773412319575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2947383243161574,0.0,0.0572617643309275,0.0,0.12836966981925155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06881382225125927,0.0,0.051970058841762264,0.14499245608403752,0.0,0.3042645720749586,0.0,0.0,0.1379112629823362
divorce,Maddy02,2020/01/27,"Scared and unsure Ugh, I don’t know where to start. 

My partner and I have not had a easy or very joyful relationship. I’ve posted here and there on reddit before and deleted most of it. It’s just- sad? It hurts to read and reread it. It hurts enough to live it. 

I guess without writing a book, my main concern is for stay at home parents. 

How did you do it, specifically if no family were there to help? I have family but they do not live close to us. 
I don’t know how quickly things go through with government assistance. 
I haven’t worked in 4 years and before that, I did commission based work. My skills aren’t likely what they use to be. I could definitely work my way up again but it would be challenging at best- nights/weekends/etc.  
For the record, I do plan on working a full time job and picking up any extra work or hours that become available and fit into my schedule. 

I worry what the steps or amount of time I’d have is. We own our house. I’m not on the mortgage but I am on the deed. We’d obviously go to court and figure out custody. I know it will likely get nasty, as I’ve read many people say this and experience it. 
I truly want 50/50. They need their dad and to be honest, I deserve him to step up and be their parent just as much as I have been. I think that he’d be fine with that and our kids are still young (almost 4 and 2.5yrs old) so they don’t have any deep roots into the school system. 

I guess I’m looking for success stories or any sort of guidance or wise words.  Books or blogs to read. 
I’m not angry. I’m more so in the stage of reflecting and coming to terms with my life. Maybe occasionally angry but more so at myself. 

Of course their is immense guilt since kids are involved. I see it all the time, specifically on reddit, where the kids of parents like myself and my partner, wished that they had parted ways. My friend told me that kids are statistically less affected the younger they are? 

My partner and I didn’t have a solid, built of love relationship prior to having our first. I also believe he wasn’t being truthful of who he was. I know for a fact that I wouldn’t have stayed with him if I knew what I know now. You’ve probably heard other people say similar words. 
We fight about finances the most. He’s controlling in many aspects of our relationship. I feel like he plays mind games and I’ve since been able to realize it’s not me, it’s him. He blames everyone else for his hard comings. It’s like a adult child that never grew up and lacks so much mental & emotional awareness. I am not generally mean to him or hard to get along with. I like being happy, figuring out ways to do things better, communicating, etc. despite liking those things, I can’t tell you the last time I felt that way. He’s such a dark cloud. I was so scared of him turning me into him. Being happy annoyed him and he isn’t much of a talker and doesn’t communicate. I feel like he looks down on me, because I’m a woman. He denies it but his words and actions say different.  

I’m now rambling. My mind feels foggy. It’s like I relived this a hundred times over in my head. I’m so sick of my own story. I don’t have the energy to fight or fix it.
I just want to be happy and my kids to grow up knowing what love is so they can feel loved and they can show love to others.",2.1753000997008947,3.90632343529412,3.5855034895314084,89.8843419740778,77.14705882352942,6.4336989032901295,21.525423728813557,7.270048000033692,0.5334332003988029,2576,68,561,31,59,846,298,680,0.085,0.741,0.174,0.9973,7,0,0,0,2,0,80.0,8,2,11,13,25,37,3,3,22,0,60,7,1,7,5,116,105,52,0,10,25,4,7,9,4,3,2,4,1,11,39,40,0,1,18,9,1,9,21,10,0,1,15,14,84,27,74,75,21,70,0,3,3,4,77,31,0,16,30,368,123,16,0.0637279256692903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06381431207800371,0.0,0.0,0.05096319913346607,0.0,0.06904918083742992,0.0,0.13001152433641572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03884795198677854,0.0703824870528951,0.108455541922106,0.07179954917309797,0.06687852628935173,0.05636217145953936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10979193021583594,0.0,0.0,0.07147628753361787,0.050881563058420995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06658211852684834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05323650450787789,0.07168533883365738,0.0,0.06584798276471117,0.1421469656752489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06089476397726391,0.0,0.06233813973475751,0.12015403336173205,0.0,0.12889101611324644,0.09105448566316524,0.06118880251580997,0.0,0.0,0.054206941018872405,0.0,0.0,0.04923603728813901,0.0,0.06659042177814205,0.0,0.07243609753696208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404069897491836,0.0,0.0,0.20351868567276651,0.11417540791882112,0.0,0.06540323724369254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04271548524910556,0.0,0.06392430550375199,0.0,0.06275916977119048,0.07353346994727636,0.1364441249625687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06324013284652484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101392079116257,0.05194676507340616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045012918558885874,0.2802082091413653,0.0,0.11254585183141104,0.0,0.10703081454798076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300677640834857,0.0,0.0,0.12922022827041696,0.06402326695019687,0.06941839353544685,0.0,0.0,0.06422276010656128,0.0,0.1286940762729795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14054207398810692,0.047253449390164654,0.04915090497815516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06687173779895053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21228695929262906,0.06901113325882037,0.0,0.08836183912984813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06103373676545184,0.0,0.06870948245445879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912355140531065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052598279752499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15203701303158645,0.1276055420429593,0.06449606304889577,0.05078290587607366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10543279731969964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04510695379455699,0.1358509789862891,0.050893203760212745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055701015956985726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12701400628401666,0.040834281548024674,0.0,0.0,0.1858013297208291,0.0,0.0,0.06089476397726391,0.0,0.0,0.0693176831936599,0.0,0.0,0.07665684796762733,0.05504046646327345,0.0,0.05258221280545646,0.07517676338673453,0.2023370444220328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07328396945064937,0.06143144620886505,0.0,0.2319734444158743,0.06471880194429093,0.0,0.045270489951951765,0.0,0.0,0.041038694728906686
divorce,Skywalkers721,2020/01/27,Friends after divorce Show of hands how many of you became friends with your ex after the divorce.. mine is no kids so there really is no reason to be but we did make super good friends,1.907702702702704,4.3610602432432435,2.6877702702702737,92.26787162162165,81.70270270270271,4.781081081081081,22.763513513513516,5.985473137389443,0.3843027027027031,147,5,29,1,4,46,30,37,0.063,0.5920000000000001,0.345,0.9455,0,0,0,0,2,0,2.0,1,2,0,1,3,5,0,0,1,0,4,1,1,3,0,6,5,3,0,0,1,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,4,5,6,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,2,21,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.771884278462358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793260806228265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2222971800626748,0.3376356971945025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21334473279964603,0.3424057914950443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,take_off_hoser_eh,2020/01/28,"Disabled brother found out his wife hates him My brother found out on his birthday that his wife has hated him for the last four years.  This came as a shock to him b/c he loves her and thought everything was great.  He is physically disabled from an accident and has been that way since they met. They have a child and she has two from her previous marriage. They are common-law for 8 years b/c her ex wont sign anything. She has gone totally cold towards him and wont talk to him much, makes meals for everyone but him and when she does talk to him says nasty things like she can't stand the way he walks, talks, eats and wishes he would just get out of the house. He is the nicest guy and always positive but I can see this is taking a toll on him.  They have a house together and he thinks she wants him to leave with their kid.
He hasn't talked to a lawyer yet but I was wondering if anyone had some advice or similar experience?",3.012216404886562,4.4406702565445055,3.5854240837696345,92.03632111692845,74.18324607329843,7.3969982547993025,23.204537521815013,8.021203637495839,0.9016573123909244,733,20,165,11,15,230,116,191,0.07400000000000001,0.8290000000000001,0.09699999999999999,0.7684,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,5,0,3,6,2,0,10,0,20,3,0,1,1,31,37,15,0,4,6,5,0,1,0,3,0,1,0,3,5,13,2,0,5,0,0,3,4,3,0,2,10,3,28,3,19,24,3,17,0,0,1,1,48,6,0,4,6,103,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13582675659863774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11565706192100657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09719028978848214,0.0,0.11438310613108987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158976120352523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12163765636631126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14222915195017405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13281807596850326,0.12492199801873145,0.13596623483289194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3048071873218228,0.0,0.0,0.07262046127484913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15324524381331692,0.0,0.13762938656115908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744625257794341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32076892526692496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11330152116877705,0.0,0.14717829183388706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06790716161232513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254506782362812,0.0,0.09278191624967876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10217916199764374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11053639770185092,0.0,0.0,0.11076301819755832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11498017538263285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10450882793028103,0.4468837287653196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234376835197784,0.0890639909662801,0.0,0.11034849556781866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13578036866573112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08198433180801477,0.22065950487403024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15984027502600984,0.0,0.15073686871946315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09873984199716496,0.0,0.0,0.17901967650904255
divorce,just_play_one_on_tv,2020/01/28,"No, I don't know how I do it... ...but maybe it will help someone. 

After my ex told me ""he didn't love me any more"", I found out allllll the sordid details. 

He had a one-night stand 5 years ago that bore a child. 

He met back up with her at the new job he started right before he initiated divorce. 

He's wanted more children (I can't have anymore and that was never a secret).

He knocked her up again. 

They are engaged after only 12 weeks since him telling me and the finalization of our divorce. 

But I'm not mad. I'm not angry. I'm not emotional. 

Why?

Well, what can I do about it? Cry? Scream? Beg? None of these will help me mentally. Of course, I did cry for about 4 days. It was very hard to take in. but afterwards? What was the point? All I was doing was making myself miserable.

Also, he's still around. Very infrequently, but he isn't fully moved into his new girls place yet, and he still has stuff at my house.

The thing is, we made better friends than a couple. He isn't allowed to talk to me about their sex life, but otherwise? Everything between he and I is fine.

There's twinges of jealousy, but that soon passes. It is possible to be friends with your ex. It takes strength and forgiveness, but it is possible. 

Be good to yourself out there. And if you can't do it, there's nothing wrong with that. It doesn't make me stronger or you weaker. It just is.",0.1708064516129042,2.50995395698925,1.8970161290322598,95.26552419354843,90.0752688172043,4.963799283154122,19.577956989247312,6.56203326957186,0.11391827956989208,1050,33,234,13,36,342,162,279,0.099,0.769,0.132,0.927,2,0,0,0,2,0,56.0,2,3,2,2,17,15,1,1,9,0,31,3,0,5,2,39,46,17,0,2,13,2,1,0,2,2,1,1,0,3,19,14,0,0,4,0,0,2,13,5,1,0,12,2,28,10,29,30,4,33,0,1,0,2,41,12,0,2,18,153,47,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11006926359108554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09929874976941017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08443989677343282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12314333111378944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11053767636417088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09547910931887033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10565957300114777,0.0,0.0,0.10981832489684117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373918063845679,0.2727899542072525,0.08007941447112422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13967460135963808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11159604075395503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13602222812470038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13614605849229258,0.19186695613469631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10414795265340424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11123198164090878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16645714370958833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432755744561602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12321962187785128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06824061603259944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08770498344627088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206832441927587,0.11749271029647144,0.1657689545675798,0.0,0.1247455119067085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12513421240729247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13197311982504534,0.0,0.0,0.09576760284581352,0.23984842972213755,0.0,0.1165251870403842,0.0,0.11914451863394905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08414084421013504,0.0944369237111328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297312813781568,0.0,0.11738083923095728,0.2799661648823042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10604055027550444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027147543379285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10520888639980286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08788820548678601,0.0,0.19832473593010355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14214500790773266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867208595095788,0.09980318838659656,0.10853010288717478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08249306847330352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11864981071164506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20490660242960249,0.0732387167891849,0.0,0.09960172995108407,0.0,0.11164379352123098,0.0,0.11204416307968132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13576046485290255,0.0,0.07996144567135155
divorce,joegusano,2020/01/28,"Need some advice... I have been married for almost 5 years. My wife and I are in our mid 50s. 

When my wife gets upset she goes into a rage. She yells  f***k you, f***ker, a**hole. She name calls and mocks me. She will counter everything I say and turns it around and says it back at me. Afterwards she stops speaking for a week. Then she becomes all nice for a couple of months and then another blowup. Last month she escalated into smashing things on the floor (inside the house).

I do not think the marriage can be fixed. As soon as I bring up her behavior she starts blaming me for lack of intimacy and that I am silent. When I tell her that her behavior and words have caused me to back away she gets upset and cannot continue the conversation and walks away.

Any advise is welcome. I already talked to an attorney and I am seeing a counselor.",2.3200320855614973,4.741484496969701,3.1419607843137283,89.82352941176474,79.78787878787878,6.306595365418893,23.03921568627451,7.510576382923642,0.9942477718360072,662,22,134,10,17,209,107,165,0.114,0.851,0.035,-0.9022,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,1,1,0,0,6,6,2,2,9,0,12,0,0,1,1,24,20,16,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,5,13,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,1,5,29,2,19,17,3,29,0,0,1,0,27,11,0,2,16,95,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17320694974324027,0.0,0.0,0.17749057989621153,0.0,0.19560012269347568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205362877398308,0.18586240287408665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15779035353482382,0.0,0.0,0.3330649985317603,0.2725890919758461,0.0,0.0,0.19575903954407625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18099238243235466,0.0,0.0,0.18208489235348074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19612409465516856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15930114783343494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18521194058299215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2045230575669164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14448265845663186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28295900985800343,0.0,0.0,0.13142885759082806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819131187549144,0.0,0.0,0.14124554695099376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12545868043772526,0.0,0.0,0.14818919438849934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14246708359909188,0.15492458197980472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11775722872707438,0.1135748404330491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927974366011445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14217950565456045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11414338709337865
divorce,seltzyoself,2020/01/28,"Question on Filing Hello! I am planning to attend the divorce workshop on the 13th in San Diego, and I have filled out the paper work and printed all copies they have asked for.

The only thing I am missing is the have copies of my last 2 years of tax returns. I have used Turbo Tax CD-rom the last 2 years, and my computer was stepped on by my ex months ago and no longer turns on. Do I need to request copies from the IRS (takes up to 60 days), or can I use transcripts from their online service? I want to have all the right paperwork to be able to file ASAP, but I am having a hard time getting through on the phone with the courthouse to have this answered. 

Any help would be appreciated!",6.7371428571428575,5.399257285714288,6.538571428571429,83.80642857142857,65.42857142857143,8.857142857142858,32.85714285714286,6.868970318607317,1.8651428571428577,540,18,115,3,7,170,92,140,0.035,0.894,0.071,0.7866,0,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,11,0,17,0,0,2,2,17,26,6,0,3,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,0,2,0,2,3,1,1,0,0,1,1,13,0,23,22,2,21,0,1,0,0,10,9,0,2,9,75,15,7,0.2234670255884828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980900349554118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15196524041099665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20891150309418693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14411774453880002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11675229760863523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20018256153020966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14978523676922678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3643109032024151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783692478249431,0.0,0.0,0.16569796793346026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16995674276987646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503342114904579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908396188494806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680193924280629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14846156215021075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13030541969486026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24306795366848866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38600752176929704,0.0,0.0,0.13180664152307572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16268665610784494,0.0,0.0,0.1587445633958702,0.0,0.0,0.28781087564950564
divorce,lilthrowawayatl2020,2020/01/28,"39yo married to 38yo wife 11 1/2 years together 15, friends since HS 99’ 3 kids 8/10/12 Last spring my wife was coming home from work “upset” and “cold”.  I would ask what’s wrong and she’d say nothing was.  I suspect something bc she’d act shady on her phone all the time so I began snooping and came across texts between her and her Bf and her sister regarding a man that had talked to her.  She caught me snooping and we had a drag out trap her in the room until she comes clean argument, she slapped kicked and scratched me and I bear hugged her to keep her from hurting me.  Eventually we settled and she told me that she had a coworker that was just a friend and he wanted to break off the friendship bc he didn’t want people to think anything of them and didn’t wife his wife hurt, so she was upset about that.  We begin couples counseling for my anger and trust issues.  Fast forward to 11/1/2019, wife asked if I would move out so we can separate and try to get help for ourselves and see if we can get back together.  11/3/2019 I had a Fb message from a woman claiming her husband was in a relationship with my wife, another teacher at the school she teaches at.  So now for 3 months I’ve been going to counseling and therapy and couples counseling bc I love my wife and I love our family and our life.  She has told me many times if I want to go then go, I don’t have to wait on her.  She hasn’t once asked me to stay.  Nor has she showed me any effort other than saying things that allude to a future together like couples game night with her coworkers.  We go on dates every couple weeks, she won’t hold my hand anymore.  I don’t want a divorce. Nor do I want to be hurt again.  I’m scared and I’m an emotional wreck.  Not to mention I’m a fathers father and went from sports activities homework dinner nightly to every other weekend dad.  I don’t know what to expect by putting this here but I really don’t have anyone I talk to who’s opinion I trust.  She was “my guy”.",1.872577497129736,3.9852290323383097,3.0185572139303503,91.78015499425949,79.57213930348259,6.013624186758517,23.49177190968236,7.116496586553881,0.7967794871794873,1549,53,329,19,39,497,214,402,0.06,0.851,0.09,0.8245,1,0,1,0,1,0,33.0,8,0,1,2,10,16,1,3,15,0,31,6,1,0,1,55,64,32,0,11,6,12,2,1,3,3,1,2,4,4,12,33,1,3,3,4,0,13,11,8,0,0,19,6,64,8,43,39,1,47,0,3,1,3,75,13,0,4,22,201,76,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06400826876826915,0.09869833276066313,0.0,0.0,0.09334676777377772,0.06581443075905229,0.0,0.07745690474689873,0.0,0.26398267661743857,0.0,0.0,0.07237636146613623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10765399391291693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16216081029073534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41659035624914825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10587802408045396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586088459609454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08873273004370671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14544157637913316,0.0,0.09835291839680063,0.0,0.21397376378757332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09319860813208207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06309004392526675,0.0,0.09441511008489203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3022884717462023,0.0,0.0,0.09824210861516572,0.0,0.08366267848242179,0.0,0.0,0.05172867162127047,0.07672448694294846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06648331378007769,0.04598475007847741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16990308382507438,0.0,0.0,0.09542803774872616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07512972521804923,0.10004004323470793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17665998598663432,0.0,0.09031553403541456,0.0,0.0,0.10024011743265886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0652544654416188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09462168323352532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0602989239119708,0.0,0.0,0.10105508956553699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14970405189111122,0.09423560572528378,0.095259586237448,0.07500548673835472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07786122263708667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0724620700421018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10032479066493734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15130831633582456,0.0,0.0,0.10764020966527056,0.0,0.0625325077377375,0.060311538110772875,0.0,0.0,0.10977015932371303,0.0,0.0,0.17988105773536905,0.0,0.06390473749076553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775869966458932,0.0,0.07550144592904587,0.0,0.0,0.08725487400362701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06852416500641012,0.0,0.0,0.13372748467825446,0.10291097756462203,0.0,0.06061345289613796
divorce,jahbug,2020/01/28,"Equitable Distribution after Divorce and Suing for Back Pay on Child Support (44F) This is my first time in the sub and I’m looking for advice on how to handle a new situation in my divorce about equitable distribution related to retirement funds and possibly getting sued for back pay child support, if that’s even a thing.

Here’s the fun back story, divorced my now ex-husband of 12 years marriage with three kids. Our divorced was handled by ourselves with a separation agreement in place. It was finalized in June of 2018 after a year and half separation. He filed. We split cost. Done and done. 

He has constantly sent me harassing texts, emails, phone calls during the separation and divorce and after the last nasty bout of messages I blocked him on my phone, which was a bout 3 weeks ago. He can communicate through email (which is exactly what is stated in the agreement). 

We split custody 50/50 but his schedule really only allows him two evenings a week and every other weekend with our kids. I am extremely flexible and since he works two jobs I let him do the scheduling. Quite a few times I end up with one of his weekdays and weekends during the school year. Great for me, more time with my babies!

In summer, since he is a teacher, he watches the kids during the day while I work my 9-5 job. I still have my set evenings and overnights. So the summer is really when he makes up his 50% for the school year when it’s more like 70/30. I also do every single morning getting ready for school, breakfasts, pack all three lunches, and get them to early care so I can be to work by 7:30. He never does any of the school routine, nor pays for the food for 10 months of lunch and breakfasts.

We also split the kids activities and school expenses 50/50. I have not asked him for child support so he doesn’t stress about money (I was the higher income earner in the marriage) and I pay all the kids health and dental insurance on my employer benefits plan.

With that, he demanded that now I pay 100% of the kids stuff and put our son in a $2000 a year higher level soccer league. Yet he sent me messages about how he can afford to take the kids on a week long Beach vacation and I’m so bad at money and how I can’t handle things. WTF?

In the end of all this I decided since I have more time and expenses with the kids and he clearly has money, I applied for child support through our county. The worksheet I can calculate without knowing his exact monthly gross (I guessed what it could be) is he would owe me a few hundred a month. I did this to stop him from continuously harassing me and to help me cover money costs. 

He got the letter today from the county and called me from our sons phone going off on a huge tirade about how I am starting a war and how he is now going to sue me for equitable distribution of my retirement fund. Can this happen after a divorce is finalized?  

He also wants to sue me for back pay on watching our kids during the summer days. Umm, is this a thing? If we didn’t have child support in place prior to the agreement is there any reason I would actually have to pay him back child support?

He’s a narcissist and loves to attack and threaten me which at this point I just ignore for the most part as I’ve learned what his behavior is about and it’s not me but should I be worried now about getting a lawyer after we managed to spit relatively amicably?

TLDR: Can my ex sue me for equitable distribution 1.5 years after divorce is final. Is there such as a thing as being sued for back child support I would owe as he provided day child care (um he’s their father) during summer.",4.987765794436587,5.97597735785007,5.609537659123057,81.07923812470534,68.91513437057992,8.437635549269212,29.297766383781237,8.660442795831766,2.174279608675153,2860,103,548,45,48,926,294,707,0.08900000000000001,0.813,0.099,0.9127,7,0,0,0,7,0,70.0,11,0,2,6,40,25,4,1,47,0,50,8,1,8,7,76,82,51,1,8,8,4,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,17,25,39,5,3,4,4,19,5,8,8,2,7,11,3,70,17,90,61,11,101,0,0,3,1,89,27,0,4,68,370,95,21,0.0,0.0,0.05963740140196951,0.0,0.0,0.059718845266038975,0.05417292271106483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14661595765412092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08311777243520949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05713233738951683,0.06952477735578827,0.0,0.2819524129207337,0.05102674160931615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12480626322248788,0.0,0.12461740469698593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06604136364935599,0.0,0.048793699647282265,0.0,0.0,0.1182383470922817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05348033451559437,0.12507948517223794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10825582862522287,0.0,0.0,0.1210935363416374,0.0,0.10298055406341794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20083867405240846,0.0,0.05198262474436817,0.07389799427574661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12771592869102155,0.0,0.06946376986850084,0.0,0.04887759073635471,0.0673772180991302,0.06732277935658715,0.0,0.054041959785490416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0649601839537592,0.0,0.0,0.04096270696597293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12129030093767412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033586066604599896,0.049815192385687115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06249210869480897,0.0,0.02985668934704592,0.0,0.0,0.054083017551474315,0.0513194672504643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055156802898930865,0.0,0.04079335352440215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14633926656572724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047134057028527104,0.05902324600797975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041411701155494564,0.046479135067896096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06617934485784545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12770000361618625,0.0,0.057771469745106725,0.0688956431480597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061435371443286285,0.0,0.06500112072564074,0.0,0.0,0.07830101223246579,0.06283426761114085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30924772547049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15165973496579113,0.06869349081983807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04325604449156546,0.0,0.0488048626869526,0.05109314368103835,0.07000465174654459,0.0,0.06995968062216558,0.0,0.4854515797773389,0.0,0.0,0.04594931573420299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624028535052281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14254175747006048,0.0,0.0579279093362033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11939689983874426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0360459879046507,0.0,0.14706331202252426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05891068110018391,0.0,0.13347281678407955,0.06206314416826951,0.0,0.1302386104214971,0.0,0.0,0.2361283291025832
divorce,Nonbinary-Chupacabra,2020/01/28,"Trying to work through anger and anxiety My (33M) husband told me (27F) a couple of months ago that he is considering divorce.  We have an intake appointment for a marriage therapist coming up to see if we can work things out but honestly I think our physical relationship needs are very incompatible.  I have so much anxiety about all of this. I'm angry because I recently totally cut contact with my abusive family. My husband waited until after I had done this to say anything even though he said hes been thinking about it for about half a year. He also told me about 2 weeks after I cut contact, leaving me with little time to process that experience. Now I have nobody to help me through this divorce if it happens. Even though my family is abusive I would at least still have a place to go, and they would help me financially if I needed it, and things like that. I made that decision thinking I would always have my husband. I have so much anxiety about how I'm going to be alone. I really only have one friend, and he is a mutual friend of ours, and it is awkward to talk to him about this stuff. I don't know what the heck I'm gana do.  I don't have health insurance myself so I can't see an individual therapist. Any advice for me?",4.215555555555554,5.544840653061224,5.7085374149659875,78.37808956916103,71.04081632653063,9.036281179138324,29.121315192743765,9.444778638647367,2.6407777777777777,980,38,188,22,18,332,134,245,0.134,0.7759999999999999,0.09,-0.8583,0,1,0,0,2,0,23.0,4,0,1,2,17,8,3,1,8,0,26,1,0,2,2,30,46,17,0,8,4,3,0,1,2,3,1,2,0,0,16,11,0,1,5,0,0,3,3,4,0,2,7,4,34,4,31,35,5,19,0,0,2,0,29,5,1,3,12,141,50,2,0.0,0.26384490981788394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10880243681859272,0.09869825805056268,0.0,0.0,0.11531707539463786,0.0,0.08904042154083462,0.0926457384936967,0.0,0.0,0.0757166028880575,0.0,0.25552973441729704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09162525108890887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06787325128161772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959115588740618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231981710257874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11394186141852355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14708111851188685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089141642289354,0.2099272801211313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720456168246041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12655682471135835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09845965522139023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11835169080826805,0.0,0.0,0.1492608343891848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061190833035248436,0.0,0.0,0.1178954515246483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05439623860479543,0.11159426592455292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105354805343136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08887238600403932,0.0,0.16369884838341026,0.16511785462839335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0754484447656165,0.08468085968640543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163290374528179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0713287480551764,0.0,0.10993711901246477,0.11953999434279268,0.0,0.0,0.10591205352215947,0.08854389023400337,0.0,0.0,0.17745084386999696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08891812903082046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12746033009902788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949274775058101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25855405503389595,0.14794179399271026,0.2140310088951412,0.21878654896500827,0.0,0.06492460835460533,0.0,0.0,0.2127847366867782,0.0,0.07559413376373833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918690834436494,0.0,0.0,0.08931210152832096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621170854912463,0.0,0.0,0.2372831912371995,0.0,0.0,0.07170081039414057
divorce,rollredroll,2020/01/28,Can I file my taxes single and claim one of my kids even though we are still technically married The house is only in her name and we don’t have any joint bills any more. I really just want to take my W2 to like HR Block and be done. I don’t want to wait on her to get all of her stuff together and I definitely don’t want to have any reason to have to talk to her,3.082682926829268,2.75945556097561,4.764536585365856,90.11339024390249,72.65853658536584,8.511219512195122,21.278048780487804,8.238735603445708,0.532567804878048,284,4,73,4,5,97,52,82,0.035,0.835,0.13,0.7028,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,2,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,11,0,0,1,1,15,17,5,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,6,0,2,1,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,13,1,12,15,3,3,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,0,2,50,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4912043263072423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463956963266717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15902914943230215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12579463026450174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27782120662643955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11763015736024675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631548919189967,0.18311969918880944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15424617718512834,0.24755607364235965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922826610506127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756289602240233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810323032665624,0.19352525598293252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23655951995172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4260447479769692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ShellyTurtlesCats,2020/01/28,"Can I remove her from insurance? My ex and I are still married, with children.  We don't live together anymore, and she has our kids most of the time.  We haven't filed for divorce yet, but plan to divorce her soon!

I want to remove her from our insurance family plan. I'll keep the kids on, but I don't want to pay for her anymore. Can I get in trouble if I remove her before filing for divorce?

Thanks",1.4625602409638567,3.449982409638558,3.2417921686747,90.2995557228916,80.32530120481928,6.077710843373494,23.62801204819277,7.1686216300943375,0.9109048192771088,312,11,66,4,8,104,50,83,0.044000000000000004,0.846,0.11,0.51,0,0,0,0,3,0,11.0,4,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,0,0,12,12,5,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,1,0,0,1,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,17,1,12,12,1,9,0,0,0,0,17,2,0,2,4,47,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6090256072595664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2612784022804656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2894610391311712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604218530563535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27292168107631065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711322983469547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24521190396988365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826919743915088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17904432990952338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3622141253124669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Bucha11,2020/01/28,"Standing at the fork in the road So my husband spent the morning packing up his things. I did tell him to leave this time. Usually there is some breaking point between us arguing and actually following through with threats like this. Currently he is out of the house and I have no idea where he's gone. I broke down and told him he didn't have to go. He went.

This is hard. We've been together more than 7 years and it's never gone this far. I feel relieved, scared, happy, sad. At least I'm actually feeling. I don't know exactly what comes next. The house is so quiet right now. It hasn't been this quiet in a long long time.",0.903932291666667,3.2866775703125017,2.3036250000000003,93.74554166666668,85.796875,5.913333333333334,22.59583333333333,7.3011,0.825992083333333,491,18,108,8,15,158,88,128,0.147,0.774,0.078,-0.7964,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,0,5,8,2,1,6,0,12,0,0,0,2,14,24,6,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,9,7,0,0,4,0,1,6,5,5,0,0,9,5,10,3,14,15,3,30,0,2,0,0,12,12,0,1,11,65,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.35059062476871783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15473740886370835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816550799313441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020892338720508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912220325266926,0.16091534908425412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4145433487517916,0.0,0.2027831172945944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872127052505664,0.0,0.0,0.19020477719161108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877593181932359,0.0,0.0,0.3179380467124567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13854358265994104,0.0,0.1910410977585912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698106825214148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534050900914057,0.0,0.0,0.17984337185401378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15700663725132086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193397862250336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20949019672329816,0.0,0.0,0.1716464583997233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21607566244352264,0.0,0.19783971288715124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16652103661598402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11567737761811965
divorce,MrKatUK,2020/01/28,"Would you guys mind helping me with a theory please? How many of you that got divorced were from parents that were either single / divorced / who’s partner had passed away and remained single?

Alternatively, how many of you have kids that got married and then got divorced (your kids)?",8.286733333333338,9.118482739999996,6.722000000000001,76.55433333333336,61.6,8.266666666666667,34.66666666666667,7.793537801064563,2.6004666666666663,227,9,37,2,3,67,35,50,0.0,0.9009999999999999,0.099,0.6174,1,0,0,0,3,0,8.0,0,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,2,0,8,8,5,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,0,5,0,5,1,3,3,0,0,0,0,14,1,0,0,1,28,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23384088532473235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5971815809273641,0.0,0.0,0.24644079675162325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16682610399076891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.504671950077001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513085269441201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763635259383897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732071075663517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17680472129473246,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,coombob,2020/01/28,"My ex cut me off from her kids that I worked so hard to build a relationship up with and I wanted to know how you all dealt with step children She has 2 kids, one is grown with a 4-year-old and the other is 14.  The 14-year old I helped raise since she was 3 (and was quite a tumultuous relationship in the first few years).   My ex has 8 of 9 traits of Borderline Personality Disorder and at first, encouraged me to maintain the relationship with her daughter, but then as soon as she figured out she wasn't getting half the equity in the house, she reneged the offer and had her daughter block me.   

The oldest child (24) has blocked me on social media and now I can't see my step-grandson because of my ex most likely smearing me to her. 

If you helped raise stepchildren, how did you handle the divorce with this issue?   Did you have to step away from them or did you maintain a relationship?    

My ex leaving me was the best gift ever, but losing the kids has been heart-wrenching.",6.9867875647668365,6.094183663212438,6.916274611398965,79.85171761658033,64.69948186528498,9.792538860103628,32.77150259067358,8.841846274778883,2.4417527461139894,769,26,157,10,10,245,111,193,0.078,0.863,0.059000000000000004,-0.1762,0,1,0,0,1,0,22.0,0,5,1,6,6,5,1,0,15,0,17,0,0,2,2,26,21,16,0,2,4,6,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,3,12,0,2,2,0,0,3,2,2,0,4,9,2,30,3,25,12,4,20,0,1,1,0,37,8,0,3,10,115,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13399893975979704,0.0,0.0,0.08694161575454906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14967396831776966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16345823669219536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290106075862781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24262998671828415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07451459558458791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12776213334586406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16900886148332894,0.19119429032247456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16456771495780806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14886128672465224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07838183368257436,0.0,0.0,0.15101709218460668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06967836056133854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15955857971538567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29931755138772925,0.0,0.09664499003994384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12453284326523024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516970443094494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6124946166099935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136520115932926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11797916342689432,0.0,0.0,0.14538611855492592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08412270070587732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10383119334851007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755334769825057
divorce,custardhole,2020/01/28,"as of 10:15am today, i’m divorced!! first time poster, long time lurker... VERY LONG TIME lurker (my husband and i were separated for 8 years). 

we managed to cobble together a joint agreement with mediators, filed it, and stood before the judge this morning. it took us about 5 minutes in front of the judge. just a bunch of yes or no questions and poof!! 

we have kids together so divorce doesn’t mean “it’s over” as much as for some, but being legally disentangled is an incredible feeling. 

I’m looking forward to a bright future surrounded by people who love and support me",4.454911734164071,6.603747242990657,5.14760124610592,79.3322637590862,71.89719626168224,7.372377985462098,31.515057113187954,8.167268648758528,2.5099250259605403,453,21,79,7,9,146,83,107,0.013999999999999999,0.7929999999999999,0.193,0.9641,0,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,3,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,6,1,5,1,0,0,0,14,14,10,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,7,0,0,3,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,3,3,6,4,15,10,3,15,0,0,2,1,10,4,0,3,10,50,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960360499529648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11648683518363692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959607486910198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40775734826682375,0.19346082030832415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20792656093512304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509508951150364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16935549533966934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15971618971795545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580778486917876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26143201143573885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4030085483023785,0.0,0.2183728993957304,0.0,0.25596018443930435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.277118262674148,0.0,0.0,0.19008727656482907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14835689292223506
divorce,Wednesday_Ludgate,2020/01/28,"Packing up I started packing this weekend to move out next weekend. I had been fine before with my choice to move out because I couldn’t keep being treated like crap. But the realization that I’m actually leaving finally got me. I’ve been so depressed, how could someone who loved you have pushed you this far. He is hurt that he’s hurt me and acknowledges that he’s not the person he used to be and needs to fix himself. I’m just so heart broken, I know I deserve someone who treats me well and loves me without question. It just sucks that he became a different person. I’m just going through the motions and trying to keep myself busy but all I want to do is lay in bed. This shit sucks.",4.088920863309351,5.251610014388493,4.772007194244607,85.60707553956837,71.15827338129499,6.99884892086331,29.727338129496413,7.1686216300943375,1.6336843165467627,548,22,109,5,10,176,87,139,0.146,0.777,0.077,-0.8992,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,0,0,8,14,4,0,4,0,11,5,3,2,1,26,27,9,0,4,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,10,7,0,2,3,2,0,5,3,7,1,0,4,0,15,7,13,19,1,15,0,3,0,2,15,5,4,1,6,68,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.1563163137909567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09764657756101604,0.0,0.1363046434188248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12789375602865186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13796610027135287,0.0,0.0,0.16735801164296582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17547355885462385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09103616348639887,0.0,0.12811364397640673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18981861284844365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3429602115302466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2847575007783491,0.0,0.0,0.08803284521037545,0.0,0.0,0.16961154997020786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07825772939492656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2891443257744121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3405001274882539,0.0,0.1187742821673747,0.0,0.0,0.17035732318227895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27973268804027024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794425522686855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644264022277677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27144648303776503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133789411534593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10875430757090973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383474006385121,0.0,0.0,0.09448057466874016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14402450278377507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15441149842238458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ALightintheCrack,2020/01/28,"Here I am. This happened Friday. She told me when I got back from work. She started by saying she had taken the kids out of the house for the weekend. I am trying to find a way to believe she did not do that just to hurt me as much as possible, but that's the first place my brain goes.

She also used a really shitty, inexperienced attorney to draft a really one-sided separation agreement. It was also an archaic form.

She started telling me her expectation of primary custody and I said no fucking way, I would bankrupt myself fighting for my children. (Spoke with a lawyer yesterday, fortunate to live in an jurisdiction where, absent a really compelling reason, custody disputes end 50-50).

Pulling the kids away like that was a real punch in the nads. I have never fallen to the floor in sobs and agony before. Had not even considered that was something that would happen to anyone in real life.

I had a vague expectation of divorce, although recently it had seemed we were getting closer and friendlier. Three days prior she was blowing me kisses with emoji. (n.b., in martial arts and many other settings, the best way to deliver a devastating blow is lull the enemy)

I would never have expected her to conclude that anything other than a 50-50 split would be the way to proceed. She's a smart, modern woman with strong feminist professions. I guess, though, if you have an attorney that you can't detect is shitty giving you advice, it's natural to go for what you want.

The waves of grief, pain, anger, fear shook me to my core repeatedly over the next few days. Eating was hard, I wouldn't do it until I got so hungry I couldn't move forward, and even then it was a struggle.

I'm a husky fellow, every previous emotional challenge the struggle has always been to avoid eating too much cake. 

I've also never had trouble sleeping behind any event. Now, I'm lucky to get 2-3 hours, maybe 4 with a big dose of melatonin.

I cannot let go the desire to reconcile, even though all signs point to her having firmly decided. And even if that weren't true, or she changes her mind, I am not sure it's a good idea anyway.

Oh yeah, there's another big feeling that comes through: shame. I haven't told anyone in my family yet. My family is plenty dysfunctional, and I can't endure what I will see there, even if it's me just filtering based on old experiences.

I am in recovery from substance abuse and have been for years, and so have tools and people who can provide some spiritual and social support, and also a methodology for processing overwhelming circumstances.

I don't want to divorce. As awful as parts of our marriage were for me, I simply do not want another partner than the mother of our children, ever really, but surely not until they are adults.

I do not want to let go of the dreams we were working on.

I do not want to live a life where I only see my children a week at a time.

I do not want to wake up on Saturday, where mom makes us all pancakes before we get started on chores.

I do not want to never hold my wife while she's scared of something ever again. 

I do not want to never again wake up next to my wife because my children have bounded in to our bed too early in the morning.

One thing I have learned: god, whatever he/she/it/they may be, is absolutely worthless at easing my pain. Fuck you god.

That said, I've always said one way god enters the world is through places where there is suffering. Time to put my money where my mouth is I suppose.

Thanks for being here /r/divorce. I've been lurking since saturday night.",5.013227001821941,6.04166513788099,5.86627613253868,79.11460303245534,68.88388969521046,8.650477102183244,29.17336256677887,8.902300299844763,2.338635277769199,2796,100,520,48,47,919,332,689,0.155,0.713,0.132,-0.9819,0,1,3,0,6,0,94.0,7,5,1,7,36,34,4,8,39,2,67,15,5,5,12,92,110,36,1,21,18,4,2,1,2,7,5,5,2,9,24,21,2,3,9,3,1,11,24,20,0,4,28,9,75,14,79,69,9,94,0,6,2,3,56,34,3,9,46,370,99,6,0.0,0.07457952437843661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061509119086257474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013483540328155,0.10475055391166127,0.0,0.0,0.04280475401128643,0.13200662778239733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802520590685413,0.0,0.051798366335604584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05913889335423085,0.048400814588594375,0.0,0.03837068376339056,0.0,0.107123106589933,0.07091745265265426,0.06605688721206425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07026742983212762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06658745684546494,0.05422153831324057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08118862691179414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288168850367499,0.0,0.07080464544936395,0.055750581119131344,0.0,0.0,0.20787287257571851,0.11387470046085355,0.05303387176390801,0.0,0.0,0.06157228177625701,0.11867787569826058,0.0708306173637091,0.03182687996594162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057530583654467414,0.05354097925995705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11638326429624635,0.0986584833322548,0.06038257331236205,0.10731927101038033,0.052795274087908364,0.10068572276837016,0.0,0.0693410067494565,0.0,0.11132409963026556,0.0,0.05638635046063978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06198813922965266,0.07263007126687142,0.0673839173309972,0.07105723589666488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287310408812031,0.08891982073485309,0.03075174431768866,0.0,0.11116316481687946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042016271893441474,0.06381634373524761,0.0632367062871479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0635564997682861,0.07372041555483014,0.0,0.06690056651029036,0.092543625436317,0.0,0.24273529686238204,0.0,0.13388542922603444,0.059069612327523585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06605018212196055,0.0,0.1279594697414402,0.04787250391700502,0.13395582193273448,0.0,0.0,0.06816329394477783,0.0,0.04363813293371182,0.0,0.13152824196033722,0.0,0.0595033644155321,0.07096102243839288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06327710392555957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14329036588262256,0.16129669837136462,0.06471793672456226,0.06215058727602145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17962530904412632,0.050056385206191815,0.06301891927086442,0.0,0.10031802050311564,0.05730275797418584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05206874902466798,0.0,0.06299045155601522,0.06416449395657776,0.0,0.096916262320108,0.0,0.0,0.13365837098721722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316075479221686,0.0,0.0,0.07142923261759918,0.118649822777315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05501669867468102,0.05795129302795091,0.0,0.0,0.04181785670712648,0.0,0.12368627292050073,0.0,0.07340746372382026,0.0,0.0,0.12029327735027714,0.0,0.04273551872416968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757150768891292,0.054364264390836976,0.0,0.0,0.29701270380990624,0.2498140297003061,0.05049067694971565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09164940978320113,0.0,0.0,0.17885726942324054,0.0,0.0,0.04053451203917074
divorce,Anon_Divorcer,2020/01/28,"Random thoughts/rant. Long one I think I want to be happy, but I don't know what will make me happy. There are things that make me happy but I want to be happy with my life in general, with myself. Will getting a divorce make me happy? I believe so. I think that by staying married I am not being true to myself. I know that I don't want to be with her. I know that I don't see myself with her in my future.

I know that I want to be happy. I want to live a life that I can look at and say, ""This is me, I am doing what I love when I can, I don't let others decide how I live, I am responsible for my life and I live it according to my values and beliefs."" 

I am tired of living for other people. I have always lived my life according to what others want, in a broad sense. Yes, I do things that I like but the general direction I take and how I live has been ultimately based on what others want from me. I never wanted to be married, I never even wanted to do the job I am doing, not that I mind it and I may even stay here for a little while. I am doing this because of the money. 

There is nothing wrong with that either, but I don't want to do this so that I can provide for a family that I don't want. I don't want to live my life unhappily for other people. I believe that I can work this same job and use the money and benefits for myself, to improve and make myself happier. Right now I am doing things that I don't want to do for people that I don't want to be with. for reasons not true to myself. I am making sacrifices for my family, and there would be nothing wrong with that if I wanted this family, if I cared enough about them that making them happy made me happy, but it doesn't.

I am torn. I do want to make them happy, I do want them to live a long and great life, I want my wife to be with me and happy until she grows old and passes. I want her to be able to live the life she wants. Unfortunately it is not the life I want. I feel like I am being selfish, caring only for myself, I feel like I have been a liar, that I am turning on my vows to my wife. I also think that I have changed. What I wanted, or thought I wanted then isn't what I want now. Should I be doomed to live eternally with that choice? I am human, I make mistakes. I feel terrible for the way that my actions are effecting her. Should I suffer to make them happy?

I wish I could just stop caring. I am not responsible for how she feels, what she does, or what she thinks. She doesn't understand why I want to leave. I can't make her understand. I have been trying to ease the pain but I am merely prolonging it. I am acting as is nothing is changed, while my words offer an entirely different perspective. I cannot continue this cycle, she is confused. She feels hurt and betrayed, useless and abandoned. How do I want her to feel? I want her to feel free, like she can live her own life. She doesn't want to, she wants to live our life, together. I want her to face the truth and stop holding on. To realize that I am done. What she says and does may hurt me but I have made my decision and am sticking with it. I must endure the consequences of my actions, and unfortunately so must she. She will never move on, never face the truth if I am giving her false hope. 

But what do I do? What do I say? Do I stop interacting with her as husband and wife? Do I tell her that I am not willing to try to work on the marriage that I swore would be forever? Do I hurt her more? If I don't then I will just hurt her longer. What is best for her? I can't say, I know what she thinks is best for her and I cannot provide it, I will not provide it. So what else? It is better for her to know the future, to know that we are done as I have told her many times. Once she comes to this realization she will be one step further to moving on. She cannot move on when I still hold her by a string, fragile as it is, nor can I.",0.9629301397205589,2.5471595125748507,3.1239760479041934,92.49490618762476,80.22155688622755,6.082075848303393,19.27704590818363,6.975493947582593,0.10106818363273452,2983,68,697,34,75,1017,235,835,0.10400000000000001,0.68,0.21600000000000005,0.9982,3,0,0,0,1,0,100.0,2,0,5,6,23,46,1,1,22,1,117,15,2,19,10,165,196,55,0,44,24,4,8,4,0,15,12,4,0,1,63,33,0,6,28,0,3,10,31,16,0,2,9,14,172,31,87,156,7,53,3,8,2,1,61,15,0,11,29,542,235,4,0.03374936163882539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026989352309260143,0.02808217248849433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.020573297604778527,0.0,0.0,0.07604794680192188,0.0708357457396011,0.029848567756758437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10322917040348037,0.0,0.07140469921644403,0.029072086679141025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02694611905805144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035260899727112764,0.0,0.0,0.05906858760614149,0.06907462896920606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02819326102574112,0.0,0.0,0.03487211234594273,0.0,0.04458227012926773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544768361045283,0.0,0.11945283909611393,0.04822110139643634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.017632648502753766,0.03237546295911541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03720879035251808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3951950533449519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03352073119151253,0.0,0.0,0.14451755862105078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0669820676292066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12983436574248813,0.0,0.0,0.03573570095239026,0.0,0.034511008864907954,0.2383817221270231,0.06595293340250465,0.03382572663753352,0.3576156557286152,0.059734246039770574,0.0283409637826839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030460116542092342,0.0638689240161647,0.22527960962003996,0.034216555529999235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03407723439368407,0.0,0.0,0.10761069100814456,0.0,0.0,0.10411835311204316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09715026815330956,0.0,0.03541427778624611,0.035941968685340595,0.04573888177362488,0.02566791033080724,0.03591170029063021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07019267375829606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03469996471295597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028821770436177795,0.0,0.10735538790152836,0.0,0.0,0.026893871681562414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07194465802307037,0.026952283800593637,0.08464793257930821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025375319792517385,0.0,0.02949842963566258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06726472870810853,0.10812614099331996,0.0,0.02679322330095005,0.019679524176775955,0.03878992647217107,0.0,0.032248961343016885,0.0,0.04582720237296278,0.0367096140898824,0.0,0.07026855140236392,0.0,0.02914861244783622,0.0,0.0,0.5971874373116325,0.02678867236542171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03045354950164022,0.0,0.038810100302863686,0.0,0.0,0.049139874452044055,0.0,0.0,0.0479491563834623,0.07379925777701321,0.0,0.0
divorce,OldPeopleSmellFunny,2020/01/28,"Can my STBX wife force a visitation/custody arrangement that conflicts with my work schedule? For context - she works from home, for herself, with all the freedoms she wants. I work an hour away and don’t get home til around after 7pm every night.

She just sent me an email demanding I pick the kids up from school on weekends that I have the kids at 3pm every Friday, and if not, then I am in violation of our visitation arrangement. Note, we do not have lawyers yet, we have just agreed when we get the kids. She is doing this to mess with my work schedule (she HATES me) and I cannnot get out of work at 2pm to do this.  

Further context - we don’t have lawyers yet. I’ve been out of the house for a few weeks. She cannot let go of all her negative emotions towards me and this is just one of the many things she is doing to make this really hard. 

I am wondering if there are legal grounds where my employment schedule has to be considered for a visitation schedule. 

Any thoughts?",4.073571428571427,5.1852335000000025,4.620000000000001,86.875,71.14285714285714,8.048979591836735,29.306122448979593,8.418075326091056,1.916259183673469,770,30,163,12,14,245,108,196,0.10099999999999999,0.8690000000000001,0.03,-0.9298,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,5,0,0,5,9,3,2,0,11,0,22,0,0,2,2,29,32,9,0,3,7,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,7,14,0,1,2,1,0,4,6,3,0,1,3,1,27,0,30,27,3,31,0,0,0,0,22,13,0,3,14,119,34,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10902146261900963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427166495011659,0.0,0.0,0.15062365851811402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18033571703448445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701489776825135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512779807079273,0.0,0.09111218417213306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14361307618649408,0.1582804351261146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3216232400240272,0.0,0.1578805382707172,0.18498498081660295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639356034803493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10701324003434708,0.16253687922560442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15044720337807554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10863535191664618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10270355698941044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622499658237373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106507886965102,0.0,0.0,0.12727426335807054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09455947164549984,0.0,0.1285971050839473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738575938752248,0.583565595313257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,victoriaz93,2020/01/28,A question please! So I know someone who has been cheated on by their spouse their entire marriage with the same person. The spouse is very manipulative and does nothing around the house. But this man is struggling to divorce his wife because of the sake of the kids. They apparently fight all the time. Is it ever worth staying together for the children’s sake?,4.122467532467532,7.075037393939392,3.820476190476192,84.46500000000003,76.57575757575758,5.58961038961039,29.12554112554113,6.868970318607317,1.6584268398268402,292,13,50,3,7,88,54,66,0.126,0.815,0.059000000000000004,-0.6996,1,0,0,0,2,0,6.0,0,0,3,0,3,3,2,1,8,0,5,0,0,1,2,10,6,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,5,0,8,5,2,5,0,0,0,0,16,2,0,1,2,35,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25186851924548176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17247207344940446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2475947700720749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559272310994361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3264643148769479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15549144398426512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714798652514044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24704438149782304,0.0,0.31057320684403483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.316947401822603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397264652251514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30156673424986546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29578084680087235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16497930494515742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23344765438861284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,itsriss92,2020/01/28,"Ex husband cane forward about relationship with woman he may or may not have cheated on me with. I though I was on the way to healing from him. I re-instated my Facebook last night and what is one of the first things I see? My ex husband became FBO with the woman he swears up and down he never did anything with her while we were still married. I really don’t know if I can believe him now. It felt like someone twisted the knife that I didn’t realize was still in my back. I don’t want to be angry anymore, I just want to move on.",3.0642857142857127,3.925265428571429,4.409285714285716,88.3857142857143,73.28571428571428,7.028571428571429,27.392857142857146,7.1686216300943375,1.2370499999999995,416,15,91,4,8,138,77,112,0.031,0.883,0.085,0.4023,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,1,7,2,1,0,4,0,13,1,0,0,1,19,18,6,0,3,4,4,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,2,4,7,0,0,3,0,0,2,5,1,0,2,6,2,17,1,16,9,0,18,0,0,1,0,14,7,0,4,11,69,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316297394970482,0.0,0.0,0.1922007917001682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17959398222307488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631432516015517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242551748729971,0.0,0.0,0.19866685631536185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283590103644606,0.1903833774588617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11410610067750747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482383665376169,0.0,0.0,0.18013663183217704,0.0,0.0,0.2191811645412492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15826696946703664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14962514900923693,0.0,0.0,0.25075709238956245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861178674783729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978954664385557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3730442120074069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15516754166027089,0.0,0.22947248397506675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755206431000525,0.18538984019349092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,evergreen424,2020/01/28,"Happened less than 6hrs ago. I knew it was coming, things had been boiling over for a while, I’m not stupid and could tell how unhappy she was, all the while knowing I was just as miserable. Our son(2) is behind developmentally, and he requires/will require more work than your typical kid. I am so afraid of what his life will now entail, what his day to day will look like, I’m his dad and I will not be favored in the custody battles to come, just because I am dad and not mom. But I am the more involved parent, I am the one who bathes him, brushes his teeth, combs his hair, makes his meals, cuts his nails, does his laundry, changes his diapers, etc, because she is too wrapped up in her phone to care. I’m a younger guy, 27, and a generous partner, she hasn’t worked in about 5 months because I can afford to support us without her working, and since that happened everything has gone down hill. I just don’t know how it went so wrong, I’ve pushed for her to pursue a career in something she will enjoy doing, whereas she’s happy to just work dead end jobs that will not support them without me, I’ve offered to pay for classes, licenses, school, whatever just so she can provide in case something happens to me, but there’s just no drive to do so and she resented me for it. I feel like I was as supportive and nurturing as I could be, I am not a very emotive man, not historically the most affectionate, but I loved her and told myself to show it, even when it meant breaking my norm and pushing myself to show emotions. I’m so scared for my sons sake, I know I will move on from her and she will undoubtably move on from me much sooner than I her, but what the fuck am I supposed to do about him. I know they say kids are tough and adapt as they need, but I can’t tell myself he won’t be adapting to lackluster care and parenting and it’s crippling me. I’m so torn, so disheveled, and as a pretty structured and consistent guy, it’s effecting me badly. I don’t even know what to do with myself and it just happened. I guess this is just as much rant as it is cry for help but in my current state I can’t think or type any other way. 

TL;DR, wife just left me, son is developmentally behind, and I’m losing my shit because he is more hands on than normal kids, and now won’t see me daily, and I don’t know what the hell I’m going to do.",6.063049792531121,4.951905080912866,6.471108713692948,83.00770871369298,66.65560165975104,9.28876348547718,32.35053941908714,8.109356740369918,2.106499817427386,1827,63,398,19,25,594,228,482,0.125,0.779,0.096,-0.9420000000000001,5,0,2,0,0,0,60.0,2,1,3,7,29,27,7,3,13,0,47,9,4,4,2,70,86,46,1,4,24,8,3,2,1,9,1,1,1,7,20,23,2,1,11,3,1,10,17,14,0,1,11,7,71,13,54,61,9,38,1,2,2,2,59,13,3,3,14,276,91,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07826119621476445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06003826240076063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07371604922603005,0.21527601160147988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800291856649915,0.0,0.09339605609305078,0.15210305585051992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409801469456356,0.0,0.09697924486413766,0.1138757644817326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07726064505471651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19862223161291226,0.07819617459646523,0.0,0.09846346546863877,0.1166256072062477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07934676182337481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04464061562621949,0.06307232913675093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816200107005955,0.0,0.0,0.050175599279468235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972582054147323,0.17483623907020768,0.3122879997566623,0.09398327045425624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05917698892581851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761133390623146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2911217210092899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09592420351016534,0.0,0.0623597968639192,0.08626524493703097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07413893685498771,0.09877069329749533,0.0,0.0,0.07968256387559909,0.0,0.058932331590435184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10340079637432284,0.07046992901914498,0.18767045201779625,0.12980236882095614,0.06546377349949578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08650262282545561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05982563073074487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19606477550852824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08981973081869371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0702094535819662,0.08839079907803915,0.0893512689027293,0.07035339622443412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09062544985628422,0.07303200985568319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13593546143359142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30056149906968044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543336513782156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05865403299264078,0.05657081531133515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08436211721598867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061985230136985,0.0,0.0,0.07284611205367696,0.0,0.07007819861590013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818430356262348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702112473169268,0.0,0.2570962707547772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09652809541392383,0.0,0.0
divorce,Punkingirl1971,2020/01/28,"Alone for the first time... I am in process of separating from my husband after 25 years.
 I have never lived alone, although I’m excited at the opportunity to live my life how I want, I am 48 years old and stillI have this deep fear of living alone for the very first time. 
I am looking for any advice from someone who’s done this and how they’ve overcome being alone, starting life over and the pros and cons. I appreciate anything you can share!",4.796856060606056,5.768101943181819,5.282272727272732,83.31424242424245,69.3409090909091,7.684848484848485,28.303030303030305,7.793537801064563,1.58715303030303,353,12,71,4,6,113,59,88,0.057,0.757,0.18600000000000005,0.8277,0,4,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,3,2,4,0,1,4,0,8,2,0,2,1,8,12,7,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,1,9,3,12,10,0,14,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,0,10,46,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523411488529149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6458508195829413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10601558759606283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282902885538672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15953718113757598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17542793301943888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652125217314091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202299081465674,0.0,0.0,0.4129808186957016,0.0,0.13091456414850114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202376965903596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16358811141959342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13209137313289349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103449921598754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18181007181037614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12863169360080212,0.09195233404915748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007856468755453
divorce,Je-jamais-reddit,2020/01/28,"Separated but living together, how do you do it?! I’ve told my husband of 13 years that I want a divorce. He’s lied and cheated for the entirety of our marriage and has never truly repent. Our current financial situation will not allow us to have two separate households. We don’t have a spare room. So we’re just here... together... everyday (with the kids of course). All of those little habits like saying I love you, kissing before we leave or when we return, they’re all very difficult to break. I know if I could stay away from him, my attraction to him would fade. I also have “other specified personality disorder with codependent features.” Joys of being married to a narcissistic control freak. So my question is, how do live together while waiting to separate? How do you keep yourself from falling back into the same routine? We can’t really talk, because then we’ll talk about us, which leads to arguing, which hasn’t ever been good for the kids. How do you function like this?",4.720833333333331,6.776556228260869,5.739652173913047,75.76042028985508,70.95652173913044,9.037101449275363,31.28840579710145,9.558583805096642,3.259791014492753,782,35,134,19,15,258,125,184,0.153,0.706,0.142,0.4801,1,0,0,0,1,0,31.0,9,4,0,2,13,11,2,0,7,0,19,2,0,7,4,33,25,15,0,4,5,1,0,2,0,3,0,1,1,3,7,9,0,3,2,0,0,2,5,4,0,1,2,1,23,7,20,18,3,19,0,0,0,2,29,4,0,3,13,100,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13657126215759788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604517374236803,0.13131789171205033,0.0,0.10410480356968267,0.0,0.14531966693748755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915422691036561,0.13635249367374938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19572660888577195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544786561028705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432406488302723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15179550796339927,0.0,0.0,0.09385523064113273,0.0,0.0,0.1808294518234846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16686720108295494,0.17116461808165814,0.30160055288060633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15413399009926496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13171467339550982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14911693408944418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19131066467025945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10940488579728072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13580967650805548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919618483564084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18202683486287816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745300910023929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16318588543439316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668254830809334,0.0,0.410850286401553,0.0,0.0,0.14090989757283298,0.10072940509250128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12131593103171065,0.0,0.0,0.10997555945711217
divorce,wet_firewood,2020/01/28,"I'm asking advice. My wife of 10yrs is divorcing me. We have 3 small kids. I'm terrified for them. Friday morning my marriage came to an end. We have been on/off counseling multiple times over years. We fought endlessly in front of our kids (between the ages 4 and 7). So much fighting. Many times one of them would yell at us to stop fighting. We met at our counselor's today - I was hoping my wife would change her mind, but didn't. She want a divorce. I want to keep trying, not quit. 

I have a first mtg with an attorney Friday. I'm so afraid missing out on my kids. They are my life. I'm really raw right now, been crying most of the night.

Please help me with advice. How will I stay active with them? How can I be there for them when I'm not physically there? How do I do all the little things that dads do? Thank you and God bless.",0.06222280609564024,2.358639554913296,1.7323095112979523,96.6487848134525,89.86705202312137,4.995165528113505,16.534156594850238,6.574015621080383,-0.30048901734104083,645,15,146,8,22,209,113,173,0.10800000000000001,0.769,0.122,0.7599,0,0,0,0,5,0,28.0,7,1,5,2,9,8,3,1,7,0,17,1,0,3,1,27,32,9,0,5,3,3,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,3,2,11,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,5,0,2,7,1,28,3,19,21,3,23,1,1,0,0,30,9,0,2,11,92,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3450388895079618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650473829496788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20192245400811096,0.0,0.0,0.18676305649003955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19392831929516527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15636802220978646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15017057878131634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11833556777442368,0.0,0.0,0.17535076211527967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15692286680722234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12470019347283876,0.0,0.17694622802549262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17899069846854448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17826189373895626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12978217793531088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16567716904360766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11963264959053985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19379531991984436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18777920447084054,0.0,0.0,0.11310037136385885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15076996329886347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18817534949331333,0.0,0.14760099160190535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625405312980828,0.0,0.0,0.11728981860068376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20589166404207107,0.0,0.16734567974180126,0.0,0.0,0.11986365714696665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21236400745878925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20826369938051956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508274973653836,0.0,0.0,0.11369032127682804
divorce,chroma_sparkles,2020/01/28,"Back on dating apps and it makes me hate my ex. I shouldn't be back out on the market. I should be cuddled up in bed watching Netflix with my best friend, trying to keep the dogs off the bed, doing the deed trying to make a baby, and blissfully in love.

But no, I'm on these worthless apps getting ignored and rejected over and over. When I got married, I constantly celebrated in my mind the fact that I truly never thought I'd have to date again.

I can't find anyone interesting. No one attractive. Everyone I talk to makes me roll my eyes and sigh out of boredom.

I would never get back with my ex, but damn does being on these stupid fucking apps make me miss the good times with him.",3.783956834532376,4.8709002374100745,4.6871151079136695,86.21570863309357,71.80575539568345,7.5743884892086335,26.130215827338127,7.908726449838941,1.3749792805755394,539,17,112,7,10,175,87,139,0.16399999999999998,0.713,0.12300000000000001,-0.6345,0,1,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,1,5,15,4,0,7,0,9,4,1,4,3,27,23,8,0,3,2,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,4,10,0,2,2,1,0,0,6,8,1,1,2,2,17,6,21,15,1,24,0,3,2,3,6,13,2,0,11,76,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235841350404254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4077177266143275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18548285540403914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909984338895896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15467064233567648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688873144840258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615416254028797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13655266184353432,0.1633978006987301,0.1846838179497335,0.0,0.0,0.1482452262430503,0.14135903268906982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17449898504923245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15709897717216376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15951916177847275,0.0,0.4719143400874437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17846195232697631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726331068240766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11976691013527095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14206084579873082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14031569828056242,0.10306136539367457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399963538906837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12555449720136572,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,anoonchoo,2020/01/28,"Advice on asking for a trial separation? I realized I’ve never really been romantically in love with my husband nor had an emotional connection with him. Our relationship has been coexisting best friends and I’ve become so lonely and unfulfilled in this marriage. 

We get along but I have 0 desire to be intimate. He also wants kids and I do not. 

He was my first boy I talked to, first bf, first everything. I truly do not know what it is like being a young confident alone female in the works.. and i’m terrified I won’t be able to handle being alone without my partner. 

I also struggle with depression- which for two years have been trying to get it in check.. but i think part of it stems from feeling stuck in a marriage that’s too good to leave but not good enough to feel while.

I decided I have to make a change.. And i think what would be best would be to ask for a trial separation. I don’t want to date or see other people.. though honestly I wouldn’t mind if that’s what he wanted to do (i don’t think he’d want to though).. I just want to see if I can actually be on my own without falling apart or feeling like i made a huge mistake.. 

I have a friend who lives in my dream city who has offered me a place to stay should i need one. It however is across the country .. but if i would temporarily move there it’s 100% doable. 

(Also, I understand sometimes when you ask for such a thing.. there is a chance you cannot come back to it)

Anyways.. I guess I’m asking for advice on the best way to do this. Is there a better way to work this? Is it okay if I am unsure of which way I’m leaning towards? Is asking for 6 months separation too much? Any general advice for anyone who has gone through something similar would be appreciated too..",1.5019193770041213,3.762437254237291,3.4746846846846857,87.1917155290884,81.82485875706216,6.651885784089174,21.996946098641015,7.824948511530503,1.0799232859978622,1364,44,284,25,37,460,179,354,0.084,0.701,0.215,0.9943,1,4,1,0,0,0,44.0,2,2,0,9,17,17,0,1,15,1,43,1,0,2,1,57,76,24,0,18,16,1,3,2,4,7,0,0,0,3,22,11,0,0,10,1,1,4,12,4,0,5,8,5,35,13,44,52,7,33,0,2,2,1,30,14,0,7,13,208,57,2,0.08475803100167252,0.0,0.0827116117646713,0.0,0.0,0.2484737008267418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17556751686604166,0.0,0.2033429003094131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05763836755786535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05926478599874985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3961865874670616,0.0,0.0,0.06517369403926293,0.0,0.0,0.09360858614104854,0.0,0.0,0.2668449731438829,0.07496159063264894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08966275828592386,0.07301153871897965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730019679045811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09534137675779457,0.0,0.08757770327457047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07617505303491487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12856862150498358,0.060551154283050225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21628541361408732,0.0,0.0,0.13096768900101138,0.0,0.0885651458793052,0.0,0.0,0.1421820301733187,0.0,0.0,0.09337052685325037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0465807972245135,0.0,0.0,0.08974651673721583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.082816985307804,0.0,0.07484289421358953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764974321534775,0.08020009829723647,0.056576643850513385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08558144951305993,0.0,0.06765305170675129,0.09008437336966828,0.0623069051702693,0.06284700602262899,0.06537061867535802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05743423536181672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09178468796498633,0.0,0.05876054666519224,0.0,0.08855410256943476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05429816501309368,0.0,0.0,0.09099840548818096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13508235409813252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06525087316782598,0.08382785991789506,0.0,0.0,0.09034078363291316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08860749694446568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06812529474199247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05630946961479951,0.16292857165973926,0.16654867023822936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05754513938685993,0.0,0.0827962804650424,0.08823609942524928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24996241344823636,0.20183093954257256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16340743457644533,0.0,0.1234097120649896,0.0,0.0,0.2408386935875086,0.0,0.0,0.054581393063873516
divorce,hellflowerxxx,2020/01/28,"Why can't I sign the papers when I'm the one that left? This is scattered and rambly but here it goes.   


I can't wrap my head around why I can't pull the trigger on signing the documents.   
I'm the one who wanted out. I left. Nothing traumatic or bad happened. I just woke up and had enough. It was death by a thousand cuts. I couldn't cook something the right way. Or tie the kids shoes the right way. Or drive right. I never opened envelopes the right way. I would clean the whole house and he would come home and ask why the laundry wasn't done, type thing. He's a good man. And the best father. But just too critical. And I snapped.   


We got together when I was young. 19. He was 30. (I'm 30 now) We had a very Teacher-Student/Parent-Child type relationship. He was a nurturing guide and I was a wild child who settled down for this guy. When I had my son 5 years ago, everything changed. I changed. It's like I was turning into an adult (finally) and wanted to make my own way. He couldn't adapt to the fact that I didn't want/need his input like I once did. And he couldn't break out of that.   


I have PTSD from my son's birth. My anxiety can be debilitating at times. And the worst part is my sensory issues. I just CANNOT handle sensory overload anymore. I tap out, so easily. He comes from a very traditional family with no concept or empathy for mental health issues. There was always such a big disconnect there. But he stuck by my side. Through me going off the deep end, postpartum. Losing myself. He was nothing but supportive throughout my seasons. Every wild thing I would throw at him, he would love me through it. He wouldn't understand and didn't know what to do, but he made sure he was ""there.""   


I left a year and a half ago. But we had a trip planned 4 months ago that we booked before I left. We decided to take it together anyway. In the back of my head, I thought this might be a chance to rekindle the spark. Doing what we loved, like before I got pregnant. Backpacking. Traveling to other countries. Adventure. We hooked up on the first night, and I just couldn't get into it mentally after that. I quickly felt validated in my decision to move out because of how the trip went. No way could I imagine living with him again.   


But here we are. I've moved on. But I can't seem to let go.   


In the past 12 months, I started a career. Moved out on my own for the first time. Turned my home into a sanctuary. And I actually met someone really incredible. But still, I can't bring myself to turn in the documents. I can't let go. I want to love him so bad. I do love him. I just can't live with him. We have a fantastic co-parent relationship. And I'm really happy. And I think he's getting there, too. Why does it still hurt so much? I don't even want it. Or do I? Is it normal to second guess yourself so much? 

I've been such a roller coaster of emotions about it and I just wonder if I'm doing the right thing.   


Thanks for listening.",0.3690645217695376,2.733127893687712,2.219808532960311,93.25592892114008,89.0,5.6268928134289204,19.715072565133763,7.1151156699456966,0.4632870431893683,2280,71,498,37,76,751,272,602,0.065,0.778,0.157,0.9964,2,0,1,0,0,0,95.0,9,0,0,5,34,21,1,0,39,0,55,9,3,4,3,98,102,40,1,16,21,3,1,3,0,6,1,1,3,5,26,41,1,0,10,4,0,16,20,6,0,7,28,2,70,15,53,59,9,88,0,2,0,4,48,36,0,10,33,326,96,5,0.0,0.0,0.061616214060873885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16791125989392522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052538119657290314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048302461905195854,0.0,0.06261860698813597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056208608708447516,0.059028030189697066,0.0,0.0,0.048551300082105016,0.1054396925391418,0.03848998405475044,0.0,0.10745616861995466,0.0,0.06626226812055472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13358897475127285,0.10878024264409182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05041271033968362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05525485118557128,0.06461485705128323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07102478786026885,0.05592391815456205,0.06524122063149684,0.0,0.04170383619010901,0.0,0.05319876213678725,0.0,0.05674678891824625,0.0,0.05952343163136362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06062497281618218,0.06916754945276453,0.0,0.10741489261432816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06597681837416046,0.0,0.10765294294541848,0.052959422624326194,0.10099876999307217,0.0,0.0695565984850484,0.06251921896864583,0.055835111593275234,0.06721444817352336,0.0,0.0,0.1296011465158083,0.06711561043631233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12667053853380966,0.0,0.0,0.0728558892042597,0.06759342417794653,0.0,0.0,0.13180497055811166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03470047689407628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744102168080501,0.1291312852651419,0.0,0.09254206850279564,0.0,0.11150878800235403,0.0,0.0,0.07063829140675341,0.0,0.0,0.227947784071069,0.05974525606447404,0.042146906872730684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12726194746610586,0.06698230358860131,0.0,0.0,0.10079660707603484,0.20132571163808566,0.09283135764213674,0.0,0.04869799956326153,0.0,0.0,0.05925326873575034,0.06186447897240752,0.12117040719380802,0.0,0.0,0.06724278373700178,0.0855715434622416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0701102740326837,0.06837522399214956,0.06027494170688656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07380809823791401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08089909716856619,0.0,0.0,0.13557896194093688,0.0,0.2696090597212996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05748092096351904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053498909356618635,0.048608794859502216,0.0,0.0,0.044691311729940036,0.0,0.1008484875543728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07165131696499938,0.059509361560492025,0.0,0.0474739476850484,0.0,0.0,0.05813147241139763,0.0,0.0,0.1258436243502774,0.04045801040439851,0.0,0.05012666211513917,0.0736356986925856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20603684758549806,0.0,0.06573169442703239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10419537859469766,0.18621010092294868,0.25059073951118177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05853206054518885,0.2278986397312272,0.07049433554022504,0.0,0.0,0.06847339465494431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794133638750779,0.0,0.0,0.08132108000344425
divorce,EMILYCL46,2020/01/28,"Best place to sell your wedding rings I have a beautiful engagement ring and band and have zero clue where to sell them for a reasonable price. I have paperwork, receipts and the business it was purchased is well respected. Any suggestions or experience selling your set? 

BTW- I have no kids to pass these along to, And I do not want to reuse the diamonds, thanks in advance",3.9768322981366495,6.762157449275364,4.3296480331262925,81.57782608695653,75.95652173913044,8.580538302277432,30.146997929606627,9.23628265651192,3.1364476190476203,300,14,53,8,7,94,52,69,0.044000000000000004,0.7090000000000001,0.247,0.95,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,2,1,2,2,5,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,1,0,9,9,5,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,5,0,0,1,1,5,2,2,0,1,1,1,2,7,5,8,8,1,6,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,1,0,39,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632458043533901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40624455878512855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3786645950071477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4044440699379655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39801012066690256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3563958045977675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283255386101452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3480553784358379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,WhatToDo7860,2020/01/28,"Short Term Marriage Has anyone in a short term marrriage  without children successfully won alimony or a financial settlement in US courts (eg. wedding event costs, spousal maintenance) where the husband was at fault? And the wife was unemployed?

Please explain and if is worth pressing legal charges for the financial losses incurred.

Thank you!",8.305090909090909,11.76394932727273,6.292727272727273,69.53909090909093,64.81818181818181,9.49090909090909,43.72727272727273,9.888512548439397,5.5312909090909095,283,18,36,7,5,82,46,55,0.209,0.667,0.124,-0.7634,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,1,0,3,1,5,0,0,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,7,4,0,1,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,2,0,0,3,1,2,3,5,4,2,9,0,1,0,0,8,6,0,2,3,21,2,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3153103637899499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4950008354884237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4151684304170058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5424298231930955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43469369520180395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Queenstreet2400,2020/01/28,"Struggling to find my new path or future in life after divorce. Lost all friends and no support system My spouse and I were together for 11 years and we have one child together, a 9 year old. 

Our marriage was one that never should have taken place. And I always knew that. But I was fresh out of my previous marriage and this new person (my now 2nd ex) was someone I had known as a friend for a long time before, so at the time it seemed rushed but ok.

My ex was a master manipulator. He cheated on his previous spouse and and me, gave me STDs, locked our kids (he has  a child from a previous marriage as well) in closets, abused our pets, lied constantly, lost job after job - so I had to work 2 jobs often to support us and pay all of his bills, and so many other things. But his favorite thing to do was to spark up relationships with women, particularly ones that he knows through mutual friends or work, and fed them incredible stories about how terrible I had been to him. His goal was always to get women who would feel sorry for him and he could get on his side and then he'd ultimately try and create physical relationships with them. I would catch him doing it most of the time and I'd see the stories he'd tell these women. The stories were so far from the truth that it was hard to wrap your mind around. He did this over and over again. He is a great liar and manipulator. Several months ago he lost yet another job and I had had enough. I finally told him it was over and he needed to leave. A couple of weeks before he finally moved out, we had a final talk. He told me he hated me, never wanted to marry me, used to talk shit about me behind my back to all his friends, etc. I asked what in the world I ever did to deserve any of that and he said I did absolutely nothing. He said he had control issues and when he didn't get reactions out of me like he wanted or I didn't behave the way he wanted, those were all his ways of lashing out. He cleaned out our bank account and took everything and left. This man treated me like utter dirt.

Fast forward to today. As bad as the relationship was and no matter how long ago it should have ended, I am still struggling. I am glad he's gone, from my house, but he's still finding ways to control me and win. All of our mutual friends he has won over with his false sob stories and I've lost pretty much everyone. He's even reached out to spouses of co-workers that I had spoken to, previously, on social media and fed them stories and created so much drama for me at work as well. Our child, who was previously very very close to me, wants to spend a good amount of time at his dad's house now because he's the ""fun"" one - he literally has ZERO rules so what kind of kid wouldn't want to spend that much time over there? I also have zero family anywhere closer than 3,000 miles away. He's very extroverted and has a family with a lot of money. So he's had no trouble with being ""held back"" by our divorce. His life has uneventfully moved on and he has a large support system and family who live near and have enough money to travel and have spent time with him.

So here I am. I've lost all our long-term mutual friends, have zero family or support system, my child wants to spend all of his time at his dads, and I've never felt more alone in my entire life. I was once a wife and full-time mother and I spent my days working my ass off, cooking, cleaning, helping my child with his homework, and planning the next family vacation. I now come home to a quiet empty house. I have a couple friends left but I've lost all the ones we did things with as a group or that had kids so that our kids could play together. I'm not sure how to move forward. I've lost everything that was my future and that consumed all of my time and thought processes. I have been seeing a therapist but at the end of the day, there's only so many things that need cleaned, so many dance classes or other social gatherings to go to, and other things to keep me preoccupied. Life has suddenly come to a halt and I literally have no idea what to do with myself each day and now have zero plans for the future. 

I'm just hoping there are some others out there who might have similar stories and might be willing to share. I just really need some help with continuing to move forward and finding some new meaning in life.",4.828549389107471,5.162011440774492,5.6344514392213725,83.09933505901844,68.9886104783599,8.663358873472768,27.35315800372748,8.575989854853784,1.7289719362186786,3407,100,710,50,55,1116,344,878,0.102,0.777,0.121,0.9679,5,1,0,0,3,0,88.0,13,1,3,19,41,46,4,2,33,1,74,10,2,8,15,148,130,78,0,17,15,9,3,2,7,8,5,3,7,14,38,68,3,5,12,5,11,16,11,17,2,9,57,8,89,29,109,59,23,117,0,8,2,1,122,43,3,16,60,474,127,12,0.0,0.054227654700144935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08114122892521966,0.0,0.0,0.04740189643868683,0.0,0.036600692710005385,0.07616536729768779,0.0,0.0,0.031123843164650437,0.04799179056969244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040743267512209635,0.04278694812056735,0.0,0.04300058916826729,0.0703856100609542,0.038214409662854325,0.027899778217561483,0.0,0.07789047842527258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07885024425849592,0.0,0.04945900219365093,0.10266551867039413,0.0730841268119336,0.10128295266620248,0.0,0.08854981703982194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08107381449417739,0.09458125956470004,0.05104347351423452,0.030229365095877533,0.04139982111134947,0.0,0.04373333271608845,0.08226674363521562,0.0,0.21573021943851212,0.0,0.023141701041406167,0.0,0.04394450498111913,0.15040998355619026,0.12549350446169982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24752197098645665,0.0,0.07173575068988218,0.0,0.02601103729888645,0.038388068533544865,0.0,0.05045943623242361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04099918265857182,0.04518647356725922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06135471776278779,0.0,0.045909085422915226,0.04545800016602457,0.0,0.1584305528225756,0.0,0.051666557064625016,0.0,0.04776995284426052,0.1816709083112188,0.04068074537757698,0.0,0.0476603806556856,0.025152923108806992,0.0,0.0,0.04846175611581164,0.0994542395586243,0.0,0.16163663468610745,0.044719914378239765,0.0,0.04041402628472627,0.1215098509134304,0.0,0.0,0.3497286283586567,0.03891035906816908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13920485607044214,0.0,0.049854823351241896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09710533586945992,0.04621268306694865,0.0,0.03653162051852003,0.19457677426610356,0.10093434773186498,0.10180928650620108,0.10589742403020426,0.13260920243642801,0.04867483995077125,0.0,0.0,0.043915677938838,0.0,0.04802586901488694,0.048741479090383164,0.15506807439403886,0.034808664089486706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03996289553337953,0.04781787057363236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0465625603291398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02932018451596871,0.0,0.0,0.14741327108912491,0.0,0.0,0.08707179184843439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07294241980467632,0.04166551340582934,0.0,0.05170486866296858,0.04698024518472987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330952567171028,0.03877911988240658,0.0,0.0,0.05123358441439045,0.0,0.0,0.07310084702402596,0.0,0.0,0.09569340545056644,0.0,0.0,0.2077481611295144,0.043135845082312836,0.0,0.0,0.07357324917180169,0.04000329263745119,0.0,0.0,0.053140233129295805,0.1520312922825408,0.0,0.0,0.036334719022218416,0.21350174211514264,0.0,0.043382759480025214,0.0874666654321769,0.05084998710334631,0.031073501368103426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05505332836804413,0.039528899949193966,0.0,0.1132903023531442,0.16197108869351629,0.10898564227709226,0.036712368683292265,0.0,0.08230194618036707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16659842592910418,0.0,0.0,0.06502461853791726,0.0,0.0,0.05894624672437732
divorce,muscleg33k,2020/01/29,"Needs a clarification on Texas Child support law. Here's a quick introduction about my situation. I'm in the midst of the divorce and I have one daughter. She will be the primary caretaker, however, we plan to agree to have 50/50 custody in some aspects. Anyway, I was told by my ex-wife today that I have to pay 20% of the child support, on top of that, I have to pay some portions for my child's insurance. According to my knowledge, in Texas, child support is based on the paying parent's income and the maximum child support for one child is 20%. This is the part where I am very confused because I thought 20% includes everything including health insurance.",6.1645,7.0009842800000035,6.646150000000002,75.24282500000002,66.2,10.090000000000002,36.425,10.125756701596842,3.80766,525,26,95,12,8,171,74,125,0.044000000000000004,0.8340000000000001,0.122,0.866,3,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,1,0,0,2,5,5,0,1,9,0,11,1,0,0,0,11,19,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,6,3,3,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,12,4,18,14,4,10,0,0,0,0,12,8,0,3,2,64,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10760801645860064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586493095762591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876378463079245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13089106888911575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392358501415456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960101493233769,0.1911593992411552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19842152359024676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8012740233181224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401411513766236,0.0,0.0,0.16732508264913695,0.16867722567558194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456516323672591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,_catan,2020/01/29,"Some days are rough! I’m doing as well as can be expected, but today is a hard day for some reason.  I have been trying to do the no contact rule, but she struggles with it, and yesterday I had to tell her I was done and wouldn’t take her back.  Then today she is texting me again like we are friends.  It’s hard to not text her back or give just one word answers. Then I really start to miss her.  It’s so horrible.  I’m not going to be a second choice for when things fail with this guy. 

She had been back and forth on what she wants since she left, but I can’t do it anymore. I need to be done and let her go for good.  On the weekends I don’t have the kids she blows up my phone trying to frustrate me in case I’m on a date, but she has been in a relationship for the last month and I never text. She left me and now I just want her to let me go so I can move on.",0.6319329896907213,1.7323162525773201,2.581018041237112,98.15389819587631,79.77319587628867,5.880927835051548,18.31056701030928,6.322622252153567,-0.4627515463917526,659,12,173,5,16,221,103,194,0.134,0.795,0.071,-0.927,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,1,11,8,1,1,8,0,28,0,0,1,1,29,41,18,0,5,9,0,3,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,7,9,0,0,2,1,0,4,7,4,1,2,8,3,30,4,23,27,2,32,0,2,0,0,23,9,0,3,20,128,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14173325370610684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3296783845863302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843366728058469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29250327875765386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11041575587446588,0.0,0.0,0.13709706744946815,0.2436656228648284,0.11987030124072715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415082952143855,0.0,0.0,0.2560474941119823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164947799768441,0.0,0.0,0.3105550789861233,0.2922804913138301,0.0,0.06982103831682561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11407337028536225,0.15189600204387385,0.0,0.10596964377041276,0.11022483985291047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09684288634730356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09155499311698044,0.14694039769420095,0.0,0.15343719969390393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182207449178534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115595553057287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14940576299230646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10745427589838033,0.0,0.12491398818052055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09494635963776292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27093337311203464,0.0,0.0,0.19405977491906634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16858991118567962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12849772674441587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,tossersaladbait,2020/01/29,"ex's boyfriend at the house Divorce was final last Dec. We have been separated since last Jan. Married for 12 years, Two kids 4 and 7. I have had somewhat severe emotional and mental health issues the past 5 years. Wife had emotional affair with a guy during last 1-2 years of marriage and now she is dating him. 

She asked me if I wanted to meet him and if I was ok with her introducing him to the kids. I said wait until you are sure you are going to marry him. She didn't respond to that. We are not on speaking terms, we mostly text and email.
So I asked if I could come to the house this weekend to work on it. We still share ownership and are getting it ready to sell. She replies sure, and that her boyfriend will be there as well. 
I can't tell if the hurt/panic/anger I'm feeling is because this is yet further proof we will never reconcile, or if I'm angry and scared for my girls who won't know how to deal with conflicting emotions when they meet the boyfriend, or what. I really can't stand this person that I used to be married to. I am no saint and am at fault at least 50% for the divorce, but her personality since the seperation has change so much that I don't know her at all anymore. I'm writing this rant because I don't have anyone else to talk to about this. Like I said I'm really angry, sad, scared and frustrated about this whole thing. My emotions had settled down after the hurt of christmas and now this situation seems to blow everything back up again.
Side question, does my emotional state mean I'm not yet ready to start dating?",4.070140966628308,5.007476756329119,4.649792865362488,87.30907364787113,70.99367088607596,7.644188722669736,26.38895281933257,7.84624498591911,1.3142898734177213,1229,38,260,15,22,392,173,316,0.115,0.816,0.069,-0.9675,0,0,0,0,2,0,32.0,5,2,1,1,15,12,1,2,10,1,30,1,0,2,5,51,51,25,0,7,10,2,1,1,0,3,1,3,0,6,16,20,0,2,7,1,1,2,10,6,1,1,9,4,37,6,35,36,7,38,1,2,0,0,48,10,0,11,25,171,53,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09526907920807093,0.06716976245190995,0.0984283049416294,0.0,0.0,0.17961262168301242,0.0,0.0,0.07386682450558575,0.0,0.11711871330271392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10162233902229176,0.08275011255597446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07669880767796085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09903714666074234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08406572818245096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08024864361985924,0.5402919727740347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08633558918486277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048572541123275914,0.0,0.0,0.10523275851045476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050189161320494516,0.0,0.05459504366591955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951178684808356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10211090144446232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216885303976857,0.2056757117951729,0.0,0.0,0.1002652309280634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055878640802705,0.23491347578784674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04693172460140036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10464120390670772,0.0,0.0,0.09680931225138001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07061765176185655,0.0,0.07409001574477653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11270970119053825,0.0,0.0,0.09170338453589692,0.0,0.167757710051405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10761299247959404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12308134701038305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827565822697368,0.0,0.1923524424074288,0.0,0.0,0.08745251093279513,0.0,0.1085242979723939,0.0,0.15892927336544796,0.10797928583412897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06799416853713998,0.0,0.07671635485800593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18107723415828786,0.0,0.0,0.07721212162788392,0.08396364524899985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06382025403582678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938399826645105,0.0,0.0,0.08296793372728732,0.0,0.0,0.056660681888156365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863725328189749,0.0,0.0,0.10725135481813676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06993529887915917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18558503897096906
divorce,gatitagirl08,2020/01/29,"Doesn’t want to give away address Hi, I want to serve my ex, but he doesn’t give me his address. He says it can be emailed, is this true? I’m in California. 
He wants to divorce, but has me doing all the paperwork and is not being cooperative",0.9399999999999976,2.857935941176476,3.427215686274512,88.6584705882353,81.74509803921569,6.432941176470589,23.925490196078428,7.554174236665415,0.991812549019608,187,7,43,3,5,65,38,51,0.0,0.868,0.132,0.6883,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,9,0,0,0,2,9,15,3,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,5,1,5,13,1,2,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,0,0,27,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3255847943275202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6648635643252306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27558171886168953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6131930354828672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,pinkivy111,2020/01/29,"Question about California summary dissolution My soon to be ex-husband and I plan on filing for a summary dissolution (cheaper and easier form of divorce), as we have only been married for 4 1/2 years. One of the requirements is that the couple has to have been married for less than 5 years. 

The problem is that it's probably going to take us a couple months to file, and there is a ""cool down"" period, where the divorce won't be final until 6 months after filing. So, technically we will have been married 5 years, plus a few months by the time the divorce would be final (or rejected, due to us having been legally married longer than 5 years). 

Does anyone know if this makes us ineligible for the summary dissolution? I am unsure if the court will look at the date that we file for divorce or the date that the divorce would be final as the determining factor for how long we have been married. I have searched all over the internet and couldn't find the information online, nor can either of us afford lawyers. We should be able to settle this amicably, so lawyers are most likely uneeded, we just need the answer to this question because we also can't afford to file for the dissolution only to have it denied based on a technicality. 

Thanks for your help!",9.277047364400305,7.660499256302526,9.457425515660812,65.79425897631782,60.638655462184865,12.183957219251337,38.022918258212364,11.022393298168332,4.170877310924371,1005,39,175,21,11,335,126,238,0.047,0.9009999999999999,0.053,0.126,2,1,0,0,5,0,26.0,11,1,0,2,9,5,0,0,21,1,32,0,0,2,1,35,39,17,0,8,6,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,9,12,0,1,6,0,0,1,4,2,0,1,5,2,16,3,34,22,6,26,0,1,1,0,21,6,0,7,20,136,25,4,0.11723647979166482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09375397053302084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197447255426063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0714662699313346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259439870031987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10259443350838156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3852804994137263,0.10715201861167167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06662819318134013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07858114116542042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06443010329467838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05727582218287596,0.0,0.0,0.1037505953987524,0.09844911626306438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07825626061712128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2807311190053421,0.0,0.0,0.08692936426747795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0794424728107768,0.1783272515193375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12640075393430916,0.11217947802818554,0.0,0.0,0.2626633763910088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08814724254340105,0.0,0.0,0.10793559937435544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06836153415731605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5640842009693832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16656286313013655,0.0,0.0,0.301985796947428
divorce,stRf1sh,2020/01/29,Women more likely to file I read a statistic that women (esp college educated) are more likely to be the one to file for divorce. The articles cited possible reasons but I’m curious what you guys think of this.,3.3520000000000003,5.9358422,5.420000000000004,74.01500000000001,77.0,8.0,30.0,8.841846274778883,3.1187500000000004,168,8,27,4,4,58,32,40,0.0,0.924,0.076,0.4497,0,0,0,0,1,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,5,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,19,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39980763469057984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3945349513086721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736131141179067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4552035039593028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4038912410344505,0.0,0.0,0.4151551169039833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25872718359104285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Lilzillaz,2020/01/29,"I want out I don't know where else I can share what I'm going through, hopefully this is a good start. I am a 35yr old wife and mother to 2 children aged 8 and 5. I've been with my husband since 2004. I would say that as of 6 months into our relationship, I was unhappy. My husband started out with being very social, very happy and adventurous which was very appealing to me. I don't know if it was me or, as I am realizing now, he was acting out of character to make me happy and just couldn't keep it up. I grew up in a Catholic family, and the guilt of having slept with this man kind of propelled me into staying with him. A year later I was pregnant and so we did what we thought was right and got married. There have been pockets of time since I got pregnant to now where I have felt like I could do this for the rest of my life. He is not a bad guy; he is handsome, has always worked full time, honest but we are not a match and he is not a very good dad. 

I've always had one foot out the door in this marriage, and the topic of divorce has come up before but the guilt of breaking up my family has kept me going through the motions.

After doing some work on myself, I can say now that I am ready to pull the plug on my marriage. He doesn't know that I've made this huge decision because I don't know how to start this conversation.  We recently made a plan to pay down our debts, he thinks it's because we are going to buy a house soon but it's more than I know we can't afford the payments on single incomes. I'm afraid that if I tell him he will stop making these payments out of spite? I don't think so, but we've never gone through this kind of thing so it's impossible to predict. 

Should I tell him my thoughts and let things unfold? Am I wise to keep my intention to myself until the debts are paid down? How do I even start this conversation? I am hoping we can end our relationship amicably, like I said he is not a bad guy he is just not the guy for me anymore. Any suggestions or advice I would certainly appreciate.",3.390258017844225,3.950460375291378,4.78490475042199,87.10531468531471,72.28671328671328,7.782043244112209,25.748814403986817,7.873277556716777,1.2078940760389036,1587,47,356,20,29,531,196,429,0.036000000000000004,0.8340000000000001,0.13,0.9886,4,0,0,0,1,0,35.0,10,0,0,3,15,22,1,3,20,0,50,3,2,7,2,78,86,26,0,10,15,5,1,2,0,4,1,3,1,5,23,29,0,4,12,0,5,9,13,6,0,1,22,4,53,16,53,56,5,55,0,0,0,0,47,23,0,7,23,244,76,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08917630870266077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518680135753735,0.0,0.0,0.062058602274874336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09050346223064357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15239331710357096,0.11126011854007473,0.0,0.07765387770434043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07861072814543038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07286212590191234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07623438945020289,0.0,0.08082754404693078,0.0,0.0,0.060275080284356734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17205993252159296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08762203762441867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15559215582237815,0.15308584255620708,0.1459747957526636,0.0,0.0,0.2710794464187076,0.0,0.19429177888861573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812796663696448,0.0,0.10529953529830112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16222869292053493,0.0,0.1900624284561117,0.2507651839463124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09331753739749013,0.06445825839674682,0.0891681456394714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17270114382185855,0.1218309118571525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728413035698105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0703838327961619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957599705259135,0.0,0.06183881536377976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901063133290172,0.1959539831925077,0.0,0.07793387469685811,0.08680730189869093,0.14514412581415054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15097920132049414,0.0,0.0,0.09302608793336146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583716654032165,0.09726893731067132,0.0,0.0762958147163097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15952711330280694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12125558468066315,0.11694894513559548,0.0,0.1448973935924593,0.10642660378430516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3011897889405137,0.05382636135306364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328738922074633,0.0,0.0,0.12965419850538407,0.0,0.0,0.05876719114848158
divorce,ThrowRA_myNextSteps,2020/01/29,"Wife’s birthday coming up, when to serve divorce papers? I’ve been struggling with the upcoming divorce process. The marriage is over, we are living as roommates for a while now. 

By the time I mustered up the courage to proceed, thanksgiving came around, then Christmas, then New Years, then lunar new year (wife is Asian) and now her birthday in a couple of days. 

The question is: just when is an appropriate time to give her the papers after her birthday. I don’t want to come across heartless but I also don’t want to wait, next thing you know, Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. I feels like I lost out on two months.

Thanks!!",4.910734618916436,6.489769421487607,4.378953168044081,87.61368227731865,69.6611570247934,6.369513314967861,29.14692378328742,6.42735559955562,1.3219193755739211,504,19,95,3,9,151,82,121,0.057999999999999996,0.8390000000000001,0.10300000000000001,0.6634,0,0,0,0,2,0,20.0,1,1,0,1,8,6,1,1,10,0,9,0,0,0,0,17,20,10,0,2,2,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,9,0,1,3,0,0,3,2,3,0,1,3,1,10,3,20,17,0,34,0,1,0,0,12,11,0,1,21,63,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450359081895697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3229030036706672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074309314802957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31245629359015153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20067468586527898,0.0,0.2339282343852105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09170257115582774,0.12956574790670095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739798947202597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09967234979984343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08860479017976004,0.0,0.16014683252702713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979791149066901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14476219894307826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3503229890947603,0.19288158489722254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20316804251821627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15488299248322826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895999630012683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669746634968548,0.0,0.0,0.12048950397818295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21150842221122854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771652766881952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21394516706051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23358362356074805
divorce,pariah1981,2020/01/29,"Advice on boundaries for living in the same house with the ex while getting divorced. My stbxw and I are still living in the same house. Neither of us can exactly afford to leave just right now as it is only my income. I am having trouble keeping the boundaries that we should have.  I find that I am going back into some of the habits that I have had that made me want this in the first place. 

She is sick, as in she does have an autoimmune disease that slightly hinders her from doing certain things, but I have been starting to have to do everything like before I asked for the divorce. Is there any advice on how to keep the boundaries, and still be friendly since we have to live in the same house for the next month or two before the lease is up?",7.958024928092043,6.210207295302018,7.204046021093003,81.32530201342284,63.29530201342281,9.319654841802492,33.36625119846596,6.868970318607317,2.050749952061361,593,18,118,3,7,183,93,149,0.034,0.898,0.068,0.7311,2,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,3,0,0,1,7,4,0,0,12,0,21,1,0,2,2,22,29,8,0,2,3,1,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,8,6,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,3,0,16,3,23,24,5,21,0,0,0,0,11,11,0,2,10,99,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28069406105035066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09766877183560337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13426840160523046,0.0,0.0,0.1104374555093652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444257068524325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12568572127139116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12907936483389926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13126909798467035,0.12216590909076827,0.0,0.0,0.110963008468571,0.0,0.07503724855486818,0.0,0.08162443351590004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4971660290651781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553179835385838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15207634146555832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07016709168610594,0.0,0.3804660264427861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13589984299818794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11463875108009185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15274501327284215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10923199467601546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15005578411424836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12265351695027922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11880668130728395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10165731386150004,0.0,0.2293955123475229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09541694140574608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14029909881570454,0.0,0.17276115095182346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08471274590503586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,obake84,2020/01/29,"First time post - Looking for advice and not sure where to go. Hey all. It's been a rough time but Ill try to hit all these basics for first timers. 

1. Im 35, married 1 year (before she asked for divorce) but together 10. One child, 5. I bought my house before we were officially married so it's mine I believe. I pay all bills and currently am paying off our before/after marriage credit card debt. Shes using a car of mine before the relationship because she doesn't have one of her own (our joint one got repo'ed and I am paying the loan off on it still). 
2. No mediator or anything for divorce process. I downloaded a packet and am using a website to fill out the paperwork and then I will submit it myself. So far, all joint custody discussions have been just between us.
3. Loss of trust, emotional abuse, irreconcilable differences, digital cheating on my behalf.
4. Stable as best I can be. STBX is still living in my house after 2 years and doesn't have a job and cannot support herself or our child yet wants to take him back to her home state. SO not good I suppose.
5. I'm not sure how to get past our differences. Advice on what to do when I can't afford a lawyer for myself let alone pay STBX lawyers fees for taking her to court. Not sure if that's even how it works. Does anyone have experience where the STBX wanted to leave the state but also wanted custody? I'm told that if we want to co parent 50/50 and one parent wants to leave the state, the courts would side and say the parent leaving the state would get the reduced time ie. I get school years and STBX would get summers / breaks?

Vent/Rant: 
We were fine on co parenting until now where STBX cannot support herself here in my state and wants to move to be closer to family. STBX thinks it would be better for our son if she took him with her to be around family. She claims that she feels he will have a better upbringing being close to her side of the family and is concerned that we will be loners out here and that I don't have experience raising a child (she watched her nephews a lot when she was in her teens). STBX main reason is because I don't have any family locally and nobody to support our kid if something drastic happened to me. 

I find that to be a weak excuse because I have the means to be able to fly my mother out in an instant, I have a couple friends locally I trust with him if I am in the ER or something and am working on getting him into Soccer, Scouts and other things that I can start to rebuild my social and support circles. Her reasoning is because its not fair that she should be forced to stay here in this city because I don't want to move and I dont think its fair to ask me to move and find a job in that state because she doesn't want to live in the city. STBX states all these things like kidnapping rates, shootings ect ect to paint this city as some sort of bad place or not as good as small town midwest cities are. I find that to be a weak excuse as well. I understand she wants to raise him somewhere else and I should respect that but its difficult to just let him go. STBX has had anxiety for a while and started having more issues and couldn't maintain a job and had to move out and back in with me 3 times since asking for the divorce, not to mention she wasn't ready to move out when she asked me initially and had to live there for 6 months. 

Now, STBX doesn't have a job and wants to take him with her to her home state and I don't want that. I don't want it because I can provide for him, have been providing for him 100%. I pay all child care costs, housing costs, food, etc etc. You name it I pay it. He's lived in this house since he was 6 months old. Been going to this daycare/school for 3 years and would be moving into Kindergarten in the same city as his friends. Not that he would go to the same schools but same districts. He's started soccer and I want to get him into boy scouts and some form of martial arts. STBX cannot do those things for him right now. If they go back to her home state, STBX will be living in her parents house unless she goes first for 4 months and gets a job and a place. History with me shows that she will have a difficult time doing that. My concern is STBX can't even provide for him now yet feels like it will be better for him in the long run just because he's around family. My fear is that she's going to go live in her parents house and rely on others to care and raise him. She said she would have her friend's grandmother watch him during the day while shes at work until he starts school in August. I can't see how that is better than being in his current pre-k class then into his elementary school in the fall. I fear he will be raised in an environment where he learns that other people take care of him instead of his primary parent. And that I will become a summer time Dad or vacation Dad and that will erode the bond my son and I have. That I won't be a parent to him, that I will be his vacation buddy and that breaks my heart. My friends are saying I should file the paperwork and have a judge decide or force us into mediation but I don't know how that will resolve the issue at all. Its not fair for me to demand where my ex lives because I don't want to move and vice versa so how do we deal with this?

I also don't want to bash her but because I provide and do most of the child raising he tends to want me more than her. I get him up for school, take him, pick him up, cook dinner most nights, bath time, take him to appointments etc. He doesn't like going to the park or playing with her and he gets bored easily with her. She tends to let him have his electronic devices more and is on her device often as well. I've tried to maintain this sort of situation for STBX to get herself a good job and so that our son has his Mom in his life but I am starting to falter having her in my house not paying for anything and not generally contributing around the house either. Again, not trying to bash her just to provide details on the distribution of labor in our current situation when it comes to raising our son. And how I dont think taking him from everything and moving him across state lines is a good idea just so he can be closer to family. Family who doesn't call him often, does not come down to visit often who often times just buy stuff and send it to him. Maybe that's me being jaded in all of this but I don't see how that is good. It seems to me that STBX cant support herself here so her thought is to move back to parents house where they will continue to enable her and my son will be the one to suffer by it.",3.825675257772623,4.560934773294207,4.566305351099333,88.42821282906935,71.40645634629493,7.417758107905552,24.633903707034612,7.4417220225841065,0.9230256770722396,5188,136,1125,53,93,1668,435,1363,0.098,0.8240000000000001,0.078,-0.9841,20,1,2,1,4,0,106.0,16,1,2,14,62,48,1,2,54,0,134,8,1,12,11,204,220,105,0,33,43,20,3,3,4,24,4,3,4,7,66,78,3,0,19,7,16,26,41,11,3,8,18,11,171,37,173,153,27,169,0,2,5,0,170,70,0,25,62,779,237,27,0.030698632653234532,0.036372859816523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05999669707223632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031794525205551406,0.0,0.04909937088336232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02087612290516875,0.0,0.02348436995387181,0.0,0.0,0.021465197729903344,0.0,0.050524717961183234,0.08198487464836292,0.11479631007992523,0.0,0.0,0.09442141438732347,0.025632075982708263,0.1871360153100505,0.033904227896422036,0.07836682598030861,0.0345868465289611,0.03221632101444424,0.1086017835354588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031346736251846384,0.0,0.09389790583976476,0.0,0.0,0.05288830757611953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03396745313347905,0.0,0.019798078426821544,0.03164894229304845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06414707450347178,0.0,0.0,0.05372916061856068,0.0,0.07195713767620998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025644768419273233,0.03453182981189608,0.0,0.0,0.10271127067625298,0.040552314683522835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027589951569466784,0.06005830668125795,0.20257957129990506,0.0690889929255936,0.031044302120360776,0.021931109301347583,0.0,0.0,0.08417398227730122,0.07833672375731257,0.037120908459102035,0.0,0.09487074974655264,0.0,0.16038768521977978,0.0,0.13957392309680236,0.12874278291386007,0.024552500906254743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02714669947146404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03637802750223628,0.0,0.0,0.09237969469411764,0.0,0.0,0.31879890364063895,0.0,0.034655019615092604,0.03315979117730514,0.06408279346964114,0.1827819361896551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.016871165667615956,0.0,0.0,0.09751625834142323,0.0,0.09417429535178633,0.021683352109404842,0.044993403799619185,0.0,0.18975218540479985,0.02716732386847996,0.02577911978051617,0.0,0.0,0.026098879688287637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03084090267684925,0.033439810571918235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03595386753856727,0.07351006710531736,0.2936500940230583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028808587162652718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03221305090372106,0.0,0.1040109398634468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3067847876085976,0.0,0.02930531849020133,0.02128256656342555,0.0,0.06414707450347178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02940080419594938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06312661443514704,0.0,0.032958842827019226,0.0,0.026216464551383184,0.02920142956936794,0.04882556967748946,0.0,0.1864119310011072,0.048925671318519534,0.02794688220749549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05078845232334446,0.06901309864904617,0.0,0.03129339002000302,0.0,0.04726661443190816,0.0,0.0,0.10864325098477264,0.032720657825302916,0.04903193538382698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03514258980444005,0.0,0.17418222269817388,0.08679929391683745,0.0,0.16157085884281874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0611844223670943,0.059011332743204414,0.0,0.0243712852561254,0.14320495657572244,0.0,0.0,0.0293338590611663,0.034107310426926385,0.0625270693811256,0.0,0.0,0.031958359237445645,0.07385335051779496,0.053027524221863576,0.0,0.0,0.28970958260838003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055203515025655535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06704691057151507,0.0,0.0,0.15265199495040652,0.0,0.0,0.07907565173790279
divorce,lemmete11u,2020/01/29,"Family home loan and divorce My grandparents loaned my wife and I money to build our home. The plan was to only hold it for a few years to purchase a new vehicle and then get a conventional mortgage to pay it back. We've been making monthly payments. Unfortunately I'm finding it difficult to live with a cheating lying spouse and want to file divorce. Since the house was purchased with cash, how is the family loan dealt with? I don't want to split assets and owe my wife what should go to my family. Would a judge make us pay them back? The house is in our name. Anybody have experience with this situation? Thanks",3.0016106442577017,5.525576941176472,4.0438865546218485,83.73260854341737,77.90756302521008,7.328011204481792,24.202380952380953,8.344100000000001,1.6789490196078427,492,17,94,10,12,159,78,119,0.125,0.815,0.059000000000000004,-0.8418,3,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,3,0,1,1,3,3,1,0,9,0,9,0,0,3,0,19,18,7,0,4,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,5,9,0,1,1,0,10,1,1,2,0,0,3,0,10,1,14,13,1,8,1,0,0,0,10,1,0,0,6,57,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662400693007698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16934641189882166,0.48961168503482394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15823025613590158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09044903363285588,0.0,0.0983891503823467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3473107095028909,0.0,0.0,0.39951879677596297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15286978616013416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311203899305017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13818422785704762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16720218434809508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316669860703985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14320820286358107,0.19459623948875865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15938736158654132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20824429804973973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042235330069033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12298081192163295,0.0,0.0,0.11148481059784493
divorce,maintenanceguynyc,2020/01/29,"What should I do? Ok, first post. 

My wife and I are splitting up after 10yrs of marriage, I just signed a lease for an apartment last night because the environment at home is way too toxic. I have nothing, no furniture, no cookware, the new place doesnt even have blinds, you get the idea. At first it was agreed that with the tax return I'd keep the money to start my new life. Last year she wanted to break up but I convinced her to stay together, we were going to use that years return for a new apartment but we ended up hating every location we found. So with that return we ended up buying new furniture for the whole apartment, kids got new beds, we got a new bed, armoir, dressers, shelves, kitchen table. We have 3 kids together. I make more money but I pay most of the bills. Now she wants for us this year to split the money so she can pay her credit card debt which she just keeps accruing from all her online shopping. I've supported her for 6 years while she was a stay at home mother while going to college to get her masters. In 2019 she found a job and has been working for a full time since then. My father and others keep telling me that was her plan, that she used me. I'm so conflicted, part of me wants to be selfish and keep the money and the other part doesnt want to fight and give her what she wants. Utilities are not included in my new apartment, I have car/renters insurance I have to pay for, child support which I can only afford to give $900 a month, plus rent $1200 and my Bill's which are nearly $5000 some of which she accrued but I have to pay. What should I do? Legally obligated?",4.175277161862525,4.873621317073173,4.686740576496675,88.01568736141908,70.58536585365853,7.5490022172949,25.88470066518847,7.520522993642371,1.1264585365853654,1264,36,269,13,22,402,171,328,0.065,0.86,0.075,0.3047,6,0,0,0,1,0,39.0,7,1,0,5,8,8,2,0,18,1,25,3,0,3,1,45,52,18,0,7,7,3,0,0,0,2,2,0,7,3,16,16,1,5,3,1,16,2,5,3,0,2,9,1,44,5,38,40,8,52,0,0,1,0,35,16,0,2,29,176,60,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0526487607705758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529917489227647,0.0,0.0,0.05704484812633594,0.0,0.07276825308751451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14692811970003608,0.0,0.189394775764721,0.0,0.0,0.09024679568699877,0.16570294533387758,0.09816915887034536,0.0,0.13815178701876815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08526991929316168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17326707307698805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974982733383354,0.0,0.0,0.08570631024434137,0.3070692268090662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14080190420776192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06100384343552408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0576509050771682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06893762861635841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5838991603477345,0.0,0.08104994707468931,0.0,0.08287184234404353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06568629377982545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187054939044742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023554268990053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08271608776164564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07144399948479473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061131284867405426,0.1841122974907889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19601738677890498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07548890774976866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05036152105344483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10388933891412293,0.1491873935857428,0.0,0.0,0.2547086286814692,0.0685544160115991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09642610925114012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06287649029392553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22247107614365325
divorce,MiserableTroll,2020/01/29,"Is this a betrayal by your partner? So. After being with my partner of 13 years she drunkenly told me that when we first met, within a few weeks she took the condom we had just used and impregnated herself with my sperm. Some weeks later she found herself pregnant..At the time I had my own house and business.. I guess I looked like a good catch.. So early on into a relationship this was not good and she terminated the pregnancy.. Move along 10 years we decided to try for kids and had the most horrendous time but finally had the most beautiful baby. When they were 2 she drops this bomb and I can't stop thinking about how she tried to trap me.. What do I do? I ready to divorce her...",2.432975113122172,4.630998926470593,3.6738235294117683,87.35624434389143,78.11764705882352,7.12579185520362,23.696832579185518,8.139509932561175,1.3687280542986429,538,18,110,10,13,175,92,136,0.091,0.7879999999999999,0.121,0.5204,0,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,3,1,1,1,7,3,0,0,9,0,11,1,0,2,0,25,19,11,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,3,5,12,0,1,3,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,10,1,25,3,14,8,5,21,0,0,1,1,21,3,0,4,15,83,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276752527124671,0.0,0.17678602910278626,0.0,0.2278825211172251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3486475963047984,0.0,0.0,0.22895586533274306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23981597031277144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10153865022738308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17453071820624058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22089781811156525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231391358130804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17376102169076174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13317354476112486,0.0,0.0,0.2423828289585794,0.0,0.0,0.19859714114736474,0.2309145322096591,0.2822153334257036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17950441997122674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33342857781189456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26768040196767323
divorce,gonzoparenting,2020/01/29,"Ex wife decided to go take the kids on the same vacation I planned, only a few days earlier. Am I a jerk for being upset about it? My new partner has an ex wife that is total garbage, so I might be projecting my frustration with her on this, which is why I need your help.

This year we decided to split spring break in half with his ex taking the first half and we are taking the second. I planned a trip to a fun city and must have mentioned it to his kids because it got back to her. When my partner texted to say we were buying tickets to said destination, she replied, ""I heard you were going so we decided to go too. I'll bring the kids there and then I'll give you the kids when you get there.""

At first it seemed like a good idea, and maybe it is. 

But the more I started thinking about it, the more it pissed me off.

Why? 

This is a woman who cheated on my partner with his (former) best friend, just had a baby with the former BF, moved in across the street from my partner with the BF, is trying to join a private club I have been a member of for over a decade, and is now seemingly trying to one up us on this vacation.

Am I reading too much into this? 

If my ex husband had found out I was taking the kids somewhere he wanted to go he would have called up and said, ""Hey, I heard you were going to X. Sounds fun. What if I took the kids first and then we did the switcharoo?"" as opposed to just assuming I would be ok with it. 

Am I being the asshole by projecting my feelings of her being a sociopath into this situation?",3.0086545055547944,3.9581757823343904,4.190895624742833,89.56426416129473,73.51104100946372,7.153422027156769,25.13907557262378,7.423996415210882,0.9932692086133592,1181,36,262,13,23,387,159,317,0.05,0.865,0.086,0.8905,0,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,6,5,0,6,14,12,4,1,27,1,31,1,1,0,2,45,57,17,0,7,5,7,1,1,7,4,0,6,0,11,18,21,0,1,10,3,1,9,0,5,0,7,15,7,40,7,43,33,7,42,0,0,0,0,52,16,1,6,17,197,58,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981807106710773,0.0,0.0778346611073898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13399592933148635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13037910361310107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08234527823925611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06456060130516016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3258224952482554,0.0,0.13999833967028358,0.09864793587825113,0.0,0.06670934562861675,0.1224856236480193,0.3628273059059921,0.10709484073944983,0.10212013888459576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08558354168923446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14413910133448332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06237969623340627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128275212236478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13545198908357636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13570732683135064,0.09386204540818513,0.09467567867388252,0.0,0.12331749558333654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08652162698152407,0.0971090362037641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277180277361587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24291244746419435,0.10153902398013004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324764799575946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14352157537445648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09037502062865306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3840083305038047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08181441500277667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418610385588231,0.17337739601700214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535874989021719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0753110215867796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304289521799102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18140535412393846,0.0,0.0,0.08222397148763975
divorce,jojojojo44,2020/01/29,"I’m just too exhausted to say everything that I’m hurting to say I’m so tired of defending myself. I’m so tired of the lies and manipulation. I finally told someone(my brother) about the ongoing emotional abuse in my 22year marriage. It’s such a relief to be told I’m not really the crazy one. I have sooo many examples of the abuse I’ve lived with, it’s physically painful to hold this emotional pain in, but I’m so mentally tired that I just can’t express myself. I’m not asking for advice or help, I just know that some of you must surely feel like this too??",2.668521739130433,4.532243373913044,4.594130434782612,82.60771739130438,76.13043478260869,8.773913043478261,26.28260869565217,9.3871,2.368234782608695,448,17,92,12,10,153,70,115,0.214,0.65,0.136,-0.8268,0,0,0,0,2,0,12.0,0,1,0,0,11,7,0,0,5,0,4,6,0,1,2,16,16,6,0,1,7,1,1,1,0,1,6,2,0,0,7,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,2,3,8,3,13,12,1,3,0,1,0,0,10,2,0,2,2,54,15,0,0.0,0.35484526484294426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463284985679656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13999080378469195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3368845990368731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13458061479158284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07571527000716907,0.10697743217871844,0.0,0.16403767519587678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10037051756288816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.160304481630525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08229560831528063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0731575519402735,0.0,0.13222705222705375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15181732240028672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15090713902981445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10147068360470883,0.0,0.3186772073644316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593009966356797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381655208129381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14113232867156064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.516327492515651,0.0,0.2861743904639772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Mrsbreezyb,2020/01/29,"First breakdown tonight. I had my first breakdown since moving out. Feelings of inadequacy.
Fear of being alone forever.
Fear of financial stress
Feeling like a failure.
All the typical stuff, and I have been so happy until now. What do you do when you hit a rough patch?",2.7363265306122457,5.771787938775513,3.515510204081636,82.32591836734697,87.9795918367347,6.06530612244898,27.40816326530612,7.447530270364453,2.119481632653061,215,10,36,4,7,68,40,49,0.278,0.581,0.141,-0.8156,0,1,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,0,2,3,5,0,3,3,0,6,0,0,0,1,5,9,4,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,2,2,3,5,2,5,5,1,8,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,7,28,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559567476293173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5561899041389746,0.24991719649149124,0.17655289306524635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4204248562339925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.263079206452898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207374039699169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626647984947973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20443216229472302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2830916656381455,0.0,0.282909807001777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,iceskates0,2020/01/29,"How did this happen? I feel completely lied to.  I don’t know how I allowed this to happen to me.  I actually regret marrying my husband.  It’s the first regret I have ever had in my whole life.  The hard part will ensue.  We work together.  Trauma has labeled our two years of marriage and his way of dealing with his ptsd is to take everything out of me, and make me into a bad person.  This has made it easier for him to now file for divorce. I’ve probably cried 360 days out of the last year and maybe half of that the year before.  I guess it was dumb hope that our vows would mean anything.",1.4785261707988973,3.5694790495867785,3.2631611570247934,89.62686294765842,80.81818181818181,6.347382920110194,20.82713498622589,7.492282038375204,0.7024209366391188,459,13,97,7,12,153,85,121,0.172,0.784,0.044000000000000004,-0.9371,1,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,3,0,0,2,4,6,1,0,5,0,10,1,0,5,1,22,20,5,0,4,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,8,8,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,5,0,3,4,2,17,1,17,14,2,13,0,2,0,0,11,4,1,2,8,69,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.1693620933835927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14281882595537262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14490899291953485,0.0,0.0,0.14768029764435134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18196637462001725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19063914649398786,0.11192693126019483,0.17892488917979366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15698806908761376,0.0,0.0,0.15597769370406428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08775330096528415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476235707679442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19118751951282664,0.0,0.3069436033314599,0.0,0.15546884858338386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17237667891014724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09537985249115767,0.14146835821836726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12258518269894478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642194638382266,0.11584756522945258,0.0,0.17435669863988154,0.18904942684571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18794032134856328,0.0,0.0,0.15153924912046027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18711882565026566,0.0,0.2028734516840857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304897953188026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16953546285412988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137757805710773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19376504091898086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12634820391760573,0.0,0.0,0.12328663546601425,0.0,0.0,0.3352861390994705
divorce,gck728,2020/01/29,"Not sure if I’m venting or asking for your thoughts I’ve been married for a few years and have been mostly unhappy. Since we married, my husband talks to me like I’m a fucking idiot most of the time and it’s really ground my gears. Not saying I’m a brainiac, but I’m not stupid. 
Aside from that- before getting married, I found some shady shit on his computer. Like for-hire sites and some weird ass porn. 
Side note- he was previously engaged before meeting me and they did not get married because he hired a sex worker (not sure why I stayed around after knowing this?!). 
So when I saw this shit, I confronted him. He apologized for the porn and said he only looked at these for-hire girls to jerk it to. Okay whatever. We agreed no more porn. 
Fast forward years later. Things have been particularly not swell between us, so I look at our desktop browsing history. 
Again with the weird ass porn, like a lot of it. 
Plus, three different sexting profiles (100% did not look like a pop up ad). 
Also- we went on a date the other night and saw a movie. Afterward, I fell asleep and he stayed up til 3AM looking for porn one of the actresses had been in. 
I confronted him about the porn and that fucker lied to me. 
I feel so betrayed because we have already talked about this, and now he’s lying to me. With his track record- I really just want to get out of dodge. Not sure if I’m over rotating, looking for an excuse to get out of the marriage, or what",2.432604166666668,4.556885663194446,3.360972222222223,89.96458333333338,77.78472222222223,6.3500000000000005,24.555555555555557,7.3871296695380915,1.072147222222222,1133,40,233,15,27,361,162,288,0.201,0.7070000000000001,0.092,-0.9904,1,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,6,1,1,1,11,20,9,0,16,1,11,14,5,0,3,46,36,21,0,3,14,1,1,4,0,0,0,2,0,1,12,19,0,0,4,1,0,3,9,11,0,2,14,10,27,9,37,22,7,32,0,0,7,11,29,15,6,9,18,143,39,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13207681823168838,0.09571309811045206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10654619003072803,0.11189054250307062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14591932622451845,0.0,0.20368846738657986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12504671903097153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060516994029825084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13122986023574734,0.0,0.11064806412259832,0.2501246264456876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06577646538967774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338907400627089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5025317791983636,0.0,0.0,0.10175301993632777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11231749327594097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110254052223556,0.09102683130857933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15334822864848766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11384908780106028,0.09517935681786556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457125526146076,0.09900575165515026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551393613666835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33840878956741977,0.0,0.0,0.19239864316448765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07951426553257439,0.0,0.0,0.09501756029985227,0.06979004930223925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439678932075809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0705940860464522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11095040758054757,0.1079982779083557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15414811792430716
divorce,MaskaPhobia,2020/01/29,"Considering separating but very scared and insecure... is separation even possible? I won’t bore you with how miserable I am in this marriage. It’s not hopeless if he decides to actually face the fact of how bad it is. He’s very emotionally and physiologically abusive but he doesn’t realize that and I suspect he has mental issues. 

In the mean time, I’ve been planning on how to separate for sometime for my own well being. I feel like if I stay any longer I will lose touch with reality and go insane. 

So here are things that are stopping me:

1. We have.. one too many pets. No kids. (Because he’s.. inadequate). I know I can take on one dog and one cat. And can leave him one dog and one cat I know he will keep. This leaves one cat that I think he will.. turn back to the shelter we got it from. Which is heartbreaking but I can’t stop a cat from separating for my well being. But still... I’m a huge pet person and this will gnaw at me! 
2. He will turn everyone against me and everyone I know will think I’m crazy because he’s a normal person when he’s in public but he’s not in public much because he doesn’t like people and doesn’t have friends and at home he’s just.. yah. 
3. Final is financial. I work from home and earn about $2000 which isn’t much but I never had to pay the bills alone. I don’t need a car only strong internet for downloading video material (I’m an editor). But my work online is unstable... any minute my client can just stop the services and I’d have to scramble for money which scares me. What if I won’t be able to pay the rent? Getting a real life job will make me work for a week just to pay for the car that’s how much it is. He also ruined my credit score (I never had credit cards or credit but let him use money for some home improvement cards and now it’s toast). So now what? Only place I can rent a small house (if they let me with my credit...) is about 3-4 hours away from my family, church, friends... anyone I have left. 

I’m so scared. I’m sitting in the bathroom right now crying, with my chest burning and my hands shaking after another day filled with fights and I just can’t take it anymore. Death is better to me than life with this person. 

But I don’t know how to pull this off. I’m scared to become another woman who lives her life in misery, unfulfilled and completely wasted only because she can’t afford to go.",1.7415869763205831,3.62874187909836,3.5585956284153006,88.86436429872498,78.97950819672131,6.714826958105648,21.295264116575595,7.715138304826218,0.7565312750455373,1839,51,401,29,45,617,224,488,0.183,0.725,0.092,-0.9949,6,1,0,0,1,2,71.0,2,1,1,8,26,26,1,7,16,1,46,6,3,7,3,74,72,41,1,6,20,0,3,2,2,9,3,0,7,5,22,25,0,4,11,1,12,7,16,14,2,6,4,3,45,12,47,54,5,43,1,5,0,0,34,17,0,6,19,247,67,13,0.07730930269828498,0.09159888198673836,0.07544272743254055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08006912232963051,0.0,0.061824221436736736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10514595376756902,0.1621310892028591,0.0,0.0,0.07667005464737116,0.054056461977461716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07263463475166311,0.059446081756516535,0.06455003854133694,0.18850813346347853,0.08538205094681826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06837379576278764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08105733300811607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08492063884887839,0.04985810460135477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08696255998790396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05106206531081848,0.0,0.0,0.14774470349118907,0.0,0.0,0.07288033023220024,0.0,0.0390899063288916,0.05522978129478387,0.0,0.08468856225710916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11945795098135585,0.0,0.04039091983605578,0.0,0.08787331663403034,0.0,0.061831311707023835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23264260206489046,0.0,0.07613409038468165,0.08920455556815142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08069082642959627,0.07671755390694784,0.06871606038612743,0.0,0.0,0.1699486838001834,0.0,0.0,0.16371877795078096,0.08399678358565342,0.15810799974901235,0.16381754041050267,0.07553884050933296,0.0,0.06826553065466963,0.0,0.0,0.08648933476560451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051604559867679006,0.07837949876119356,0.0,0.08421249463713003,0.0,0.0,0.07790959377781957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17049369841684858,0.05732386836816075,0.11925140041650305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757467023251458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3143207057330259,0.17639162517794013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0535965363419828,0.20251050347198224,0.08077176687339886,0.0,0.0,0.08715462285613597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08799491163095861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06602172209348195,0.0,0.0,0.30960039487152924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07646087716235522,0.0,0.0,0.0824014303463389,0.06173930899934781,0.19390211621156808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162539487353566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0513608655107209,0.09907335911247114,0.0,0.0,0.04507967610831353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16818064282123227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06677041560313189,0.0,0.12757654242248745,0.0,0.0,0.062012859399311775,0.0,0.1390206951995323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688462793411082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,trickyplatypus,2020/01/29,"Finalising my separation 50/50 and she still thinks it's not enougj I need to vent. I'm finalising my separation agreement with my ex today, I've graciously offered her a 50 50 split of the house. I paid for her university, I supported her financially for 6 fucking years while paying a mortgage. I paid for  every single thing she wanted. At first I was angry and didn't think she deserved a cent, but mellowed and offered her a 50 50 split, feeling sympathy for her having to rebuild her life without a full time job and the insane rental rates in my part of the world. Her lawyers just responded back saying she's grudgingly accepting but that she was hoping for more and to top it off shes demanding the car with no adjustment to her share. Im trying not to lose it but I thought I was being generous giving her half after everything she knew I did for her. I was feeling sympathy for her before, but now I just want to rid her from my life forever and forget that I made the biggest mistake in my life marrying her.",6.073033333333335,6.354952770000002,7.017,74.43933333333334,66.3,10.466666666666667,33.66666666666667,10.317481424215053,3.469616666666667,814,34,152,19,12,273,112,200,0.077,0.733,0.19,0.9682,4,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,3,5,8,1,0,10,0,9,4,0,1,0,32,26,11,0,5,9,1,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,6,8,0,0,8,0,4,1,5,3,0,2,11,3,37,5,24,14,4,18,0,1,0,1,27,8,1,1,9,110,43,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14306044484286692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583142702449166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15675457842546567,0.0,0.16720913450968086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881442551985928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15825345865268034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17199960066797595,0.0,0.1784754631146056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18478895671392945,0.0,0.21467593867431034,0.0,0.0,0.20096519449548647,0.0,0.18462524467361494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3942364157856676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081416022743106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17604436740891635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13795321519174888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20147328586475774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14795388870399734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14857922925710226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21112656635878996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12360290283846892,0.2384257869973661,0.0,0.14770238013303014,0.10848685610335848,0.0,0.17635300352866956,0.0,0.0,0.1263152773612841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21947342153328547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17934490767896885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11980966380633633
divorce,um_and_so,2020/01/29,Ex spouse Social Security benefits Been stay at home dad on ssdi for 12 years. I think I’ll be able to get child in care ex spouse benefits for 5 years. How important is this when i’m asking for alimony for an eternity in my agreement?  Basically have you ever heard of this?,2.738727272727271,4.815034509090912,5.005454545454548,78.76818181818184,76.63636363636364,9.49090909090909,25.54545454545455,9.888512548439397,2.7569272727272724,218,8,43,7,5,76,44,55,0.0,0.736,0.264,0.9344,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,3,5,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,1,1,3,10,2,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,5,10,7,0,10,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,0,5,23,5,0,0.3287021841842758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30729217067906633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3351337836280703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2973299441498686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717333245539421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3297150914747513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33507048233373404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35035279312318685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21061908721280465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4233468593804799
divorce,mayankbhat,2020/01/30,"How much does divorce hurt kids? Married for 16 yrs and father of twin

Wife has attacked me atleast twice with kitchen knife, emergency care.. stitches and lifelong scars

I keep forgiving her for the sake of my present 7 yr old kids

 

She screams.. yell and controls me for having any good relationship with the kids

SHe is in a reputed job and so am I but her inability to control her anger is certainly a mental issue

Unfortunately her parents do not want any anger management lest she may have problems in divorce(yes they have divorce in their mind already)

Finally I gave up my forgiving nature when she attacked my vulnerable old parents and stabbed them with a pencil that caused a deep wound on my mom back

I called the cops and they booked her. My evidence from a CCTV camera that I had just put up gave them sufficient feed to prosecute

But when they told me that they are going to press charges that will get her in jail, I panicked

Withdrew prosecution support and helped her get out with a peace bond

Unfortunately, once she got out.. I realised that she did not change

Still uses fowl words in front of kids.. still screams and yell.. no knife attack is a relief

I dont know what to do next

Divorce is fine for me and maybe her.. but my kids who have a bright future owing to our family income will suffer

I dont know any of my friends or thier kids having taken divorce so absolutely have no idea how it will come to my kids..",5.026739130434784,6.4693541376811625,5.140550724637682,82.78669565217392,69.21739130434783,8.128695652173914,30.10434782608696,8.548686976883017,2.2024686956521737,1146,45,220,18,20,359,157,276,0.22,0.6779999999999999,0.10099999999999999,-0.99,4,0,0,0,5,0,21.0,1,0,7,2,10,20,5,0,11,0,23,3,0,6,1,41,40,19,0,2,7,5,1,0,1,4,1,4,1,7,8,16,2,3,5,1,1,4,6,10,0,1,7,6,43,10,29,29,1,26,0,2,1,0,48,11,0,2,11,143,51,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13025291273518466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408005018432891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4028404705110902,0.0,0.0907604829709992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12052541005630465,0.0,0.12034302937571192,0.12125292800189286,0.1248638022825573,0.10167541696498478,0.0,0.0,0.2647692348172788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10329191950807397,0.0,0.27666878794733657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11127148796876428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12929994013831153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09119239658386136,0.0,0.12333527403802268,0.0,0.06708116348722896,0.09900090764038523,0.09440218005023863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0791153733252798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263573130622552,0.13324546504812906,0.0,0.1231963177670059,0.11713004523102938,0.10491360648552073,0.0,0.0,0.12973625986963733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11858052499532208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11895001571864094,0.0,0.1191801969439409,0.13823941967612774,0.0,0.0,0.08676821053407091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12552997633017018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477126255277635,0.12570183533631393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26212448777580033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11294212774222745,0.0,0.11865627804213122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12672381631034416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18852342618737206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13394302773054678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127860764666583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019430547691274,0.0,0.0,0.06961922199926629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,lovenallely,2020/01/30,"So what do I ask my possible attorney? Hey guys, 
I got married last October to someone I thought would be my husband forever but he lied about who he was and had an affair the whole time we were married. I ended finding out the beginning of December and walked away but shortly after I found out I was pregnant. What do I do now, he hasn’t been involved since I left and hasn’t asked about baby and honestly I don’t want him involved in my babies life but what’s the process and how do I even get started? Also if y’all have any suggestions on what to ask my attorney it would be greatly appreciated.",4.610327868852458,5.248299991803278,5.929631147540983,79.71198770491806,69.57377049180327,9.378688524590164,34.10245901639344,9.516144504307137,3.159718032786885,477,23,95,10,8,161,80,122,0.028999999999999998,0.88,0.091,0.8074,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,1,0,0,7,2,0,0,4,0,17,1,0,1,0,19,27,12,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,6,8,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,8,0,17,2,11,15,1,15,0,0,0,0,17,7,0,1,7,70,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15588250568007422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325565802084691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5466893812324569,0.0,0.1831396918735524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17264686010900404,0.0,0.0,0.12874699431508307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17815912280730947,0.0,0.0,0.21372664596007213,0.0,0.0,0.10184095560686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15590038296300018,0.2149069531944648,0.0,0.19300770059730654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15889096523179727,0.0,0.0,0.2117880143108148,0.0,0.13768222270655225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21975013476422756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16124506414925707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16516043625821947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13796985080698293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547497226143081,0.11366310329036312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11497259242843412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176282722690022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769401264859299,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,dr3ev3ryday,2020/01/30,"Ready to breath, but need help! Hello,

I'm a FL resident who is doing his divorce pro se. My wife lives in Omaha, NE. 

Anyway,  I have successfully e-filed as of the 14th of this month. My divorce seems simple- No kids, no assets, married since 2011, separated in 1/2018.I did my homework, but not much so I'm asking the following questions: 

1. What happens if I serve my wife, and she doesn't respond to the service? I know where she is, and I sent certified documents on 1/14 (same day as accepted e-file) that have NOT been returned as undeliverable, etc.... 

2. How long does this process take? I've read months, and as fast as 21 days. 

Thanks!",1.7235657142857157,4.216669408000001,3.1849428571428566,88.13090000000004,82.92,6.451428571428572,24.92857142857143,7.7094869923839395,1.4440971428571427,496,20,101,9,14,162,93,125,0.043,0.8109999999999999,0.146,0.9259,0,0,0,0,2,0,35.0,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,4,0,8,1,1,1,0,15,19,13,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,3,0,0,4,1,0,2,5,0,0,0,3,0,11,3,12,16,3,13,0,0,0,0,15,4,0,3,7,57,16,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304027589569868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3178870044453928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21567499572661405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.274863191721176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21793991289255785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16519402374457207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13544557708981173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21762484976312552,0.21810549026942594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39343708894211626,0.0,0.1811732565844989,0.18274373789854687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27608672636240417,0.0,0.2465223393426222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2243639629312058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20387065630082965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185303973215152,0.0,0.0,0.22690324550514554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ordinaryowl94,2020/01/30,"How do you move on without closure? My husband (26M)  left me (25F) without warning, without trying 5 days before Christmas. We've had one conversation and that was him telling me he doesn't love me anymore, I make him miserable, he doesn't want to work on our marriage he just wants a divorce. I had no idea he felt this way. We said I love you everyday and were making plans for the future. He didn't act distant. I knew he was a little off but he told me it was because he hated his job.

He refuses to talk to me about our relationship. 

He called me yesterday to talk about his meeting with his lawyer. I asked when he was going to tell me what happened with us and he says ""whenever I'm ready to talk about it."" He should have been ready the minute he asked for a divorce. I feel like he's  stringing me along.

I just want this to be over. How can I move on when I most likely won't get answers.",1.114575551782682,3.210474639784948,2.628970005659312,93.65029711375212,82.17204301075269,5.421165817770232,23.230333899264288,6.5966054737557815,0.5258860215053764,697,25,154,7,19,227,110,186,0.09,0.848,0.062,-0.4667,1,0,0,0,2,0,23.0,4,2,0,2,9,6,1,1,5,0,17,2,0,4,0,28,36,8,0,4,6,1,2,2,0,2,0,2,0,0,6,7,0,1,5,0,0,4,8,2,0,1,13,4,29,4,23,20,1,18,0,1,0,2,47,7,0,1,8,93,35,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13555309902815774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555608566398509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08332086692944672,0.0,0.11630741537325225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13956892453786698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881494166329699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06911117995118496,0.09764657202330597,0.13123739634272474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07141137933913003,0.0,0.07768026543355147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12086858483590135,0.0,0.0,0.1349464544753516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15429880095514775,0.0,0.0,0.1356370779931758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485067980686931,0.0,0.0,0.13355310590462602,0.13699256784693326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467240172979976,0.0,0.1824743192429128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29054541921021776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09262013691175884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14674670467834475,0.0,0.0,0.1300171120597887,0.1086960408746621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3295825609799333,0.23893444575747666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13060674415414444,0.0,0.0927989840038957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16441317243481168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24185804313948475,0.1084928361147808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3952734514752031,0.0,0.0995070653913422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Legitimate_Parsley,2020/01/30,"Can I afford this? I’ve been a stay at home mom for 8 years and we are just not compatible. Mainly sexless marriage, but he’s also totally checked out emotionally and bad roommate. We have 2 kids and I’m not really financially independent. We have a house that neither of us could afford to buy the other out of, plus his retirement accounts. 

What does this even look like for me? We sell and split the house, I get half of his retirement? Or just half of what we have saved over the 8 years? Do I get child support if we do 50/50 custody? Is there any way I get to keep the house and the kids so they stay in their school and he just has to move out or am I kidding myself? 😭 I feel so dumb.",1.3099404761904765,3.2904315416666705,3.007539682539683,91.82000000000002,80.80555555555556,6.336507936507938,21.3968253968254,7.447530270364453,0.5904658730158729,538,16,122,8,14,178,91,144,0.07200000000000001,0.8390000000000001,0.08900000000000001,-0.3552,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,7,0,2,0,8,5,1,0,7,0,12,0,0,1,1,31,20,14,0,2,9,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,6,16,0,1,1,0,4,1,3,2,0,2,1,2,19,3,16,18,3,12,0,0,1,0,19,6,1,3,3,85,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13357528611361724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135873653707392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13946459278305814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13336131677364746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14617067129674122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878883156408739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11032294180079856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08445630694078653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618016959104356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16754653441037273,0.0,0.0,0.5781968825040571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14846555627182434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08160331015288266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402646607680465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19562564884034375,0.0,0.17752839064815387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070048609914409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690451192515675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35606739167581797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895457299286772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20091871338430006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13258208403124322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21512603146388415
divorce,RomanOfTheWay,2020/01/30,"Long Time Coming I Guess I've been married for almost 10 years. 3 kids. STBX cheated on me on in me the first year, but we glued it back together and plugged on. Had issues revolving around trust ever since. She blamed the affair on post partum depression/psychosis. 

I made several work & commute sacrifices to accommodate her chronic illness, and during that time she got madder and madder at me for not doing as much around the house. My defense was that I was gone vast majority of everyday and couldnt realistically do what she was asking but the fights continued. 

Most recently she had another affair. I've only confirmed sexting as the extent of it so far, but I'm not convinced it wasnt more. 

Then I made the mistake of having what she terms an emotional affair with a former coworker, which she equates to being just as bad as what she had done. Maybe it is, maybe it isnt. I disagree with her characterization of this but I cant control her perception. 

That said. We were plugging through, life is getting really nice financially and things were tracking upwards. 

I get seriously injured, home from work, and fighting begins anew because as soon as I was mobile again I wasnt cleaning enough. 

She spends a weekend with one of her girlfriends, comes home and tells me she is irrevocably done. 

So, heres where I'm at. 

1) I'm torn on the whole thing. Part of me is done fighting her. I love her, its complicated, weve been through and a lot together and I've always wanted us to be the couple that makes it. But then sometimes I wonder if I want to save it because of reason 2. 

2) Finances. She cant support herself by herself. Due to chronic illness + her employers shitty health care plan, she is royally fucked if she leaves my health insurance. Shes talked about some sort of separate and partition thing where we separate but stay married or whatever so she can pay me to stay on the plan. 

I struggle with this. I don't want the mother of my children to struggle financially or health wise because that would only negatively affect my kids and realistically push her into another relationship too fast, in my opinion. 

On the other hand, if you dont want to be married to me you shouldn't get to benefit from what comes with being married to me. Maybe this is petty. I'm not like, a nice guy, I think, but it makes me feel used. 

And like what, if i ever move on, I have to explain I'm still married, and then have to go through this all again if I want to remarry at some point? 

3) This is gonna wreck my kids. 

We are still living together because while we are comfortable we arent two housing payments at the same time comfortable and I havent wanted to deal with all that in the event that she comes down from this and suddenly I've got double the bills.  

I dont know if I'm looking for advice, or just needed to vent, or whatever. 

I'm meeting with an attorney today, which pissed her off, but again - I dont want this (I think) but fuck me if I'm not going to take steps to protect myself.",4.114376532729672,5.657767096774198,5.181220147142049,81.22855536691192,71.58064516129029,8.087847575929072,29.048141860026412,8.648137234880735,2.226008911526128,2376,94,457,42,45,782,268,589,0.14800000000000002,0.757,0.096,-0.9875,2,0,0,0,5,0,70.0,8,2,0,6,22,29,10,2,20,0,49,14,2,8,4,103,100,48,0,19,26,1,2,2,1,3,9,1,3,5,34,35,0,3,8,1,4,10,18,15,0,3,23,4,75,14,71,69,16,70,1,0,1,3,58,25,3,20,34,325,109,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07192106716553831,0.0,0.0,0.0736997674567268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0612410951044749,0.07974556811919574,0.0,0.0,0.15435203241522605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13103920635372768,0.06880606375442361,0.0,0.0,0.056593856140443474,0.06145292485434576,0.17946350493262145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07504010411855595,0.0,0.0,0.2535995284456388,0.0,0.0,0.08254865716422165,0.0,0.0814369989505878,0.0,0.0,0.07587836715864532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22595505691783505,0.2587759518971308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08279009253659715,0.0,0.07604847344153305,0.0,0.0,0.13315082547053472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037214370904743325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06260412151349445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13608402612069054,0.1153588851799141,0.0,0.08365715103880328,0.0,0.1177292853061298,0.0,0.0810786965874127,0.07287557034190592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347000715977135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476535998601855,0.0,0.0,0.16984903414068142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07681927703013783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04044863462002253,0.0,0.0,0.07793177189361196,0.0,0.0,0.05198585587326211,0.07191448362082267,0.0,0.0649901474927386,0.06513368301926258,0.0618054624897321,0.0,0.0,0.06257208715161935,0.06642687259370518,0.13928419717160345,0.09825714163312978,0.0,0.22182327439094407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07822515114631459,0.0541044677571625,0.0545734666437587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04987326407560783,0.1119522314981964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07970162660193254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06957578863556074,0.0,0.07048845408112392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04715004396696981,0.07567305698940238,0.0726711197991303,0.07901885484817454,0.0,0.0,0.07001045323743736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08314704941360848,0.0,0.06088267969790165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07279228091469794,0.0,0.0,0.15689561219150566,0.11755410847869566,0.0,0.0,0.1538853983639129,0.0,0.0,0.08352040661595153,0.0,0.0,0.055338039582112884,0.059156891242515136,0.06432964313891414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14668970677670112,0.0943198149867472,0.0,0.0,0.12875025380047095,0.0,0.06976419318840305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07189650448200087,0.0,0.08853173661535346,0.06356676812710257,0.0,0.0,0.3038783040617494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08217177042701086,0.0,0.0,0.07981605930214909,0.10716335162361712,0.0,0.0,0.05228332757129213,0.0,0.0,0.09479197251397023
divorce,MD_mcCheese,2020/01/30,"Blindsided and how to cope? I'm just wondering how often people are completely blindsided by a divorce and how you've coped with the loss.

​

My (43M) wife (35F) returned from a work trip back in October 2019 and told me flat out that she wasn't happy and wanted a divorce.  We've been together almost 6 years.  I got the usual ""I love you, but I'm not IN love with you"" line.  She was completely emotionally detached.  I knew she had been withdrawn a bit but I also knew that her job had been stressing her out.  There was never any indication that our marriage was in trouble.  She said no to therapy but stated we should wait until Spring to do anything.  Great, there's a chance!

​

I was wrong....oh so wrong.  By mid-January, I discovered the affairs.  I found that emotional affairs had started months before and immediately went physical.  She was keeping me in the house to care for our 2-year old son while she tested the waters.  Ouch, right?  Anyway, I lost count at how many men she has been seeing.  It's not really important anyway.  She's obviously going through something whether it's MC or something deeper.  She's withdrawn or checked out completely and she's even neglecting our son.  In a few moments of weakness, I told her I'd forgive it all if she got professional help.  No dice.

​

I guess my problem is that there was no build-up.  It feels like she died in a way and I don't know what to do with that.  We're still in the same house while I look for a place to go, but the woman I married is not here.  I know what I have to do...seeing a therapist, leaning on friends, etc.  I don't have any local support as we relocated a few years ago.  I'm absolutely devastated for myself and my son.

​

I don't really have a question I guess.  This is my 2nd marriage and I've had many relationships over the years, but this is the only time where the 'end' completely took me by surprise.  Has anyone else been through this that is doing ok now?",2.9872535991140663,5.103521457364341,4.211691399040237,84.56083720930236,76.02842377260981,7.316913990402362,26.819416758951643,8.238735603445708,1.8494390402362493,1552,61,304,28,35,508,198,387,0.134,0.755,0.11199999999999999,-0.8311,1,0,2,0,2,0,72.0,5,2,0,3,19,19,0,1,21,1,34,4,0,4,3,57,66,28,1,4,13,4,1,1,1,1,1,1,0,2,16,17,1,3,9,0,1,5,11,8,0,0,27,4,48,11,35,38,6,44,0,3,2,2,44,17,0,9,21,205,64,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06668054327391222,0.0,0.07532484709025257,0.0,0.0,0.06015570891473459,0.0,0.3260158305509269,0.3656161246728785,0.10230827402940088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05259758580225875,0.07707472865107673,0.061902019760947835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05784175048489337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0640091293422329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0821239009796503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07669473817113041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31547902854420873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07806947192398772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06283906276030624,0.1692312276173362,0.06662514319005912,0.0,0.08389339401436711,0.049684001933868835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03803494766256391,0.053739239569610936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08247800383760492,0.05811700948097194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08550179094803735,0.0,0.12032521566551485,0.0829334893208047,0.16573296316870312,0.0,0.0,0.08007615313406811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05042030995871027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17359420479292412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07464710002372182,0.06686155086619383,0.0,0.0,0.08268105376456256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036750098875776835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06316827273729057,0.0,0.08211465806079685,0.0,0.13578316983815228,0.0,0.0,0.15252838459715606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060042184105845935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058016521392592425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07893375733970595,0.0,0.0,0.057210388919921314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05215007264305778,0.0,0.07859189786218275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07197813583898953,0.0,0.0,0.08426683970239837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09637940456721276,0.0,0.0,0.08076122034144011,0.0,0.06423992739429851,0.07155418350438658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059942895180600995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158204941527816,0.0,0.0,0.05324314071001705,0.0,0.060073088094801816,0.0,0.08616755339300149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08536203131110498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602391752607352,0.08733955996721307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04386306549314405,0.0,0.0,0.1437573683965321,0.0835753860382731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08284737347376632,0.0,0.04436840281161439,0.05970841977091813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973236217559795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08157600315104069,0.05476315158977594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644888183342688,0.3656161246728785,0.1937642704012772
divorce,-Cohagen,2020/01/30,"Does it make me a bad person if I hate my wife more than I love my kids? Well we've ended up in a place where everyone else is happy but I'm miserable, alone and dying before my time, but I can't take it for much longer. 

Can't give my kids the life I wanted to. Can't be the person I wanted to be. Can't take my kids with me if or when I leave, so I'm fucked either way. 
Can't stand the wife and I'm pretty sure she can't stand me either.",0.41788834951456266,1.1391139320388357,2.9496966019417483,96.84648665048545,79.58252427184465,5.926699029126214,14.816747572815533,5.985473137389443,-0.952008737864078,337,2,90,2,8,118,60,103,0.179,0.691,0.13,-0.7452,0,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,4,8,2,1,5,0,9,3,0,1,1,14,21,9,1,4,7,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,4,1,0,0,0,15,4,7,19,4,10,0,1,0,2,10,4,1,3,3,53,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20497216680557853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16524424000467866,0.0,0.0,0.1684044451365159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20539642136306127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17318991872708395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16532606529403096,0.0,0.17528703149630168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18910880453993664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18296201138016407,0.0,0.18985061352839705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106758875770548,0.0,0.19539238075346307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20955514240047124,0.0,0.0,0.13978770359800824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17861896896935406,0.0,0.1321045884527204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14548455873468025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3456098555000641,0.2067708948350604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20134276473567295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865251877622211,0.0,0.2976031593538843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11540127607212818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334615806796632,0.15708951839882773,0.0,0.0,0.17794233467775242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Lemon-law,2020/01/30,"From panic to a little clarity I was having some anxiety or a mini panic today. I am getting close to meeting my last 2 attorney's tomorrow before making a decision on one and pulling the trigger to get things started. While I know I am getting closer, the feelings were hitting harder today while at work.

I started googling how to handle anxiety during divorce and came across this:

***6. Develop a strong support team.***

*“Vulnerability to depression and anxiety is lessened by strong social  support. Many people go into marriage thinking they’ll have a life  partner. One of worst side effects of divorce is it destroys the whole  dynamic of the family. The family is the nucleus you were hoping would  be there for you through the years. Divorce destroys it forever. So,  whether you’re the one leaving or the one being left, divorce is very  painful.*

While reading that I had a realization. My STBXW has rarely been there for me. She didn't care when I would tell her something good or bad happened at work. One of our last date nights I was telling her that I just had my yearly review and it was the best reviews I have ever gotten with the company. She had a fakeness about her response when I told her. I realized whenever I might be having an internal issue or something going on in my life, she wasn't the one I would share with because she didn't care. Or if it was a problem with our relationship, instead of being listen to and trying to find a solution, I was just blamed for the scenario. She isnt/wasnt my support person. While that makes me a bit sad, it offers clarity as to another good reason why I am looking to get out of this.

Hopefully I gain more clarity as time goes on. I am more or less posting this as I wasn't having a good morning and felt better to get some of this out. Thanks for reading..",3.5106896551724134,5.825840629310343,4.89320402298851,79.35032327586207,75.17816091954023,7.45344827586207,30.415229885057467,8.376592526197632,2.6392195402298846,1441,68,249,27,32,479,183,348,0.11800000000000001,0.73,0.152,0.8931,0,0,2,0,4,0,41.0,2,2,1,9,11,28,2,2,25,0,38,3,0,6,1,47,68,25,0,7,10,0,2,0,1,5,3,1,0,2,13,14,0,0,9,3,0,4,4,11,0,6,19,4,40,17,41,39,9,39,0,2,1,0,31,15,0,12,19,198,53,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251599315433864,0.2024852547376105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736676840100734,0.05378369216783373,0.0,0.07507653791658539,0.0,0.09259108618670706,0.07803154412675911,0.09632341869222401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091068293966307,0.1799110682328365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07599166762351925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07980834890847452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663492465510254,0.0,0.0446113268480244,0.0,0.08471385363503166,0.0,0.08063987654188907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304805377810341,0.0,0.1002853579795678,0.22200736272802574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07802077677708798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17526297653189668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09208834631633142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048488452598298336,0.14383712288224215,0.0,0.09342196746226533,0.09586126748921807,0.0,0.12463776500603352,0.0,0.0884288218532277,0.0,0.0,0.07409029418179189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778733198978986,0.08945054531470084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09359722237809268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08279711316815162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3587182742413933,0.0,0.09388207329515044,0.207035876751558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06116700768113634,0.07703832104836142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08449917028220329,0.0,0.0,0.084423414284993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17650612183091366,0.0,0.0,0.09071429657065944,0.0,0.0947251256728674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899385429862474,0.0,0.13584627396332638,0.0,0.0,0.12489814229284575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003643001969331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15423239282656154,0.08122957944046362,0.0,0.0,0.05861554998924867,0.0565336991103436,0.0,0.0,0.05144714720343704,0.0,0.1672619017305423,0.08430676709806251,0.0,0.059901824993966075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07279831760486873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07961311615079493,0.09850473403361942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12846379474337974,0.0,0.0,0.18802644448475264,0.0,0.0,0.1136334046654721
divorce,pizzabitch3,2020/01/30,Fog I was driving in the fog this morning. Couldn’t see a thing 5 feet ahead of me but had to have faith that I was going to be alright and heading in the right direction. That’s how all this feels. Just have to have some faith and I’ll make it through the fog.,1.1268421052631579,2.6474978245614054,2.105122807017544,100.27452631578949,79.52631578947368,5.261754385964913,21.92631578947368,5.6839178017228535,-0.1899726315789474,204,6,51,1,5,64,41,57,0.0,0.826,0.174,0.872,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,4,1,8,2,2,2,1,10,12,4,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,2,3,3,8,7,2,6,2,0,1,0,0,3,0,1,1,36,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.256590127556108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884047013850116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5208066626520064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3387375883563553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43337331000252616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4043848109619303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3371379537701151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,attackonsasuke,2020/01/30,"Beginning the steps of divorce Hello everyone, the fact I’m here means it’s not a good day I suppose, so I hope someone can give some advice. 

I am a 36 year old male and my wife (34) of 10 years has told me she wants to divorce. She says I’m not emotionally available and she doesn’t want to live like this. That’s all there is to it apparently. I don’t expect infidelity and there is no abuse. 

We moved to Ohio from Virginia less then a year ago. I did not want to move, but she did for her career. She moved first leaving me and our daughter (under age of 8) and preparing to sell our home. Our child finished the school year in Virginia, and we moved three weeks later. The house sold shortly after and we have been in Ohio since. We were all separated for roughly six weeks. She came home twice in the weekend to visit and called every day. 

My wife has since left several jobs but found another where she works remotely from the home, and I found a good job as well. She makes significantly more than me. After taxes there’s a difference of about 450 each pay or 900 a month.

She is asking me to leave our apartment where she is the only one on the lease, but I am refusing. I don’t believe she can evicted me though she has said it two or three times. 

My stbx works 1130-9, so she wants me to come “home” after work to watch our child while she works and I prepare dinner, so we can eat as a family during her lunch break and I handle homework, bath time, stories/bedtime, then I would go elsewhere. I have no one here though. No friends couch to crash on and no family to call. She had a few friends but no family I can reach out to either. 

My STBX isn’t a bad mother, but I guess we’ve just grown apart. She is saying she wants 50/50 custody, but I don’t think I can afford to live alone in the surrounding area. I would lose one pay check to rent alone. Can I request spousal support? Am I crazy for even thinking about it? I don’t like the idea of our child being unsupervised while she’s working in another room for several hours.. this whole thing is a mess and confusing so any help or advice is greatly appreciated:",2.1013194444444423,4.094337233796296,3.235425925925928,91.10216666666668,78.2824074074074,6.3570370370370375,22.142592592592592,7.365786028017652,0.6623109259259268,1663,49,360,22,40,535,218,432,0.121,0.7929999999999999,0.085,-0.9208,6,2,0,0,3,0,49.0,11,0,0,7,18,14,0,1,20,0,35,3,0,1,3,59,60,34,0,9,14,4,1,2,2,2,0,3,9,4,8,22,3,1,6,2,7,10,14,4,1,9,11,5,61,10,43,46,9,56,0,1,1,0,56,18,0,7,29,235,69,13,0.0,0.08965324146333015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14788219559178073,0.06707439432600634,0.0,0.0,0.15673676801021602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05145628078397727,0.1586872827893369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07073860399354412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06317893915617448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08525100635357492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15452931270460427,0.08654310208504996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06518058015821401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09759814953585104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07905610376302466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07742642095806213,0.0,0.08511539900665661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049977462296864346,0.0,0.06375286716577211,0.07230323825863623,0.0,0.0,0.2139968644545466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06436246921365395,0.0,0.16593032632923235,0.116920559419019,0.0,0.0,0.07258685906712016,0.043003405191752116,0.12693209015139514,0.0,0.08342333898937533,0.08335593546929168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050718119351812765,0.0,0.30360142576996,0.07515458833431365,0.0745169355870204,0.08730977263607215,0.0,0.0854190420313599,0.0,0.0,0.15017601166554484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16024124763692812,0.08221261829416157,0.0,0.0,0.07393432934065397,0.0,0.1336310219221135,0.0,0.0,0.08465222550277593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050508433793937865,0.0,0.0,0.08242374745387271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06039682544826835,0.3216889725896303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0793999824459754,0.0,0.1538221292487346,0.0575483041611674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07197682088961561,0.12034716571535893,0.0,0.07657923126378234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17096476330032045,0.0,0.12518535530783848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06411256060726395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08586622525119728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050269915718675985,0.09696895414487224,0.14868525086822842,0.0,0.08824428856702594,0.0,0.0,0.07230323825863623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07391584522585562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22315233197609693,0.0,0.12139130384501777,0.0,0.0680338869033804,0.0,0.0,0.08447971022482792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2754330606739807,0.0,0.0,0.1075035949660063,0.0,0.0,0.19490874610601625
divorce,Racetimingco,2020/01/30,"Right of first refusal - do you have one? In my parenting plan I submitted I had a first right of refusal that was quickly rejected by opposition counsel...but strangely supported being removed by my lawyer.  It almost seemed like a collusion between my lawyer with hers.  I was told hardly anyone gets these.

My whore of a wife pawns my kids off to anyone that takes them, usually her parents while she goes whoring around doing what whores do. I simply want to spend as much time with my kids as I can.

Do you have a first right of refusal clause in your parenting plan? Also - please share your state if you can.

Thanks!!!",4.910134099616863,6.740932810344829,4.7970114942528745,83.62691570881229,70.0344827586207,7.914176245210728,28.406130268199234,8.515128840125781,2.0900222222222227,490,18,90,8,9,151,76,116,0.121,0.773,0.106,-0.7017,3,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,5,1,5,3,8,0,0,4,0,12,3,0,0,0,10,19,5,0,2,1,4,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,3,0,3,1,0,1,1,0,4,0,4,4,1,20,4,17,14,1,16,0,1,0,3,20,7,0,3,8,67,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16154183260457836,0.0,0.0,0.1290100655374754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256017962012684,0.0,0.0,0.14361180684769298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4116641693813056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08428468800857598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14451385616314738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788143428114663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11859107803452933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093167421657912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5373908034966568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770843753199786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4133072683928329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14686253775926994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18306759994245955,0.0,0.0,0.12129493260732516,0.0,0.0,0.14852468295417826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09406882665061612,0.0,0.0,0.15415118409309356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776746592182597,0.0,0.0951525741743432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,illdrawyourface,2020/01/30,"Found out I was cheated on three weeks ago (or more) multiple times. He started flirting with coworkers years ago. Almost 12 years married with two children. I cannot believe this is my life right now. The man I thought he was, all a lie. I was completely blindsided. He cheated on me with a girl he used to know before me in HS, which hurts so much worse for some reason. She's married and everything too. 

Lying to my face for three years. He was letting me live my life thinking everything was okay when he knew it wasn't.  I don't know how I'm going to trust anyone again.",1.4235117056856197,3.8626595652173954,2.533043478260872,92.65789297658866,83.78260869565217,5.625418060200667,23.628762541806026,7.010146845296331,0.8865117056856189,450,17,93,6,13,143,79,115,0.139,0.802,0.059000000000000004,-0.888,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,6,6,2,0,3,1,10,3,1,3,1,18,20,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,3,5,0,0,7,0,0,1,3,3,0,3,9,0,12,3,12,10,4,17,0,1,0,0,10,5,0,3,11,55,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32378059301132456,0.0,0.18287736168543672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276990009819111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15540450661471336,0.2057612421948512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914838683247569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3282717724656229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002441468062984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10379272279983327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955089757931712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20073712138728814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18675134180641745,0.25799365439364913,0.0,0.0,0.16126545739778494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13425391504300546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18777384909686695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15596484945607786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292663108791681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11702180016756945,0.0,0.14498765951346335,0.10649290377198437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784027753112458,0.0,0.0,0.1577335078130343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14649460774228187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861153664668467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3528228061063793
divorce,realshish,2020/01/30,"When they say ""we don't need to get lawyers involved in this"" and we have kids. I need a lawyer, right??",0.7690909090909095,2.356187727272733,1.0363636363636388,107.22454545454548,80.81818181818181,4.4,20.090909090909093,3.1291,-0.9780727272727272,78,2,21,0,2,23,20,22,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,5,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,2,5,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,12,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668284510137635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7573800777440697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.436149360078184,0.0,0.4061425011856961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Kraede77,2020/01/30,"How do I get a divorce in Georgia, USA? My husband is a child; I still love him but can't take the tantrums anymore. We live together in a trailer on 2 acres of land, no children only pets. My name and my mother's name is on the property, his name is on nothing. He has no job and no income, living only on what I make. I earn $14/hr and work about 28hrs per week. I cannot afford to pay him alimony. What are my risks and how can I keep from getting screwed over? I'm 38F, he's 38M",-0.8811111111111103,0.9467682962962982,1.905185185185185,97.43333333333337,88.25925925925927,4.711111111111111,21.037037037037038,5.985473137389443,-0.026774074074074058,368,13,91,3,12,128,76,108,0.15,0.785,0.064,-0.875,3,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,1,0,0,2,4,4,2,1,5,0,9,2,0,3,0,13,16,7,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,5,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,3,0,0,0,0,14,1,11,16,0,10,0,0,0,2,15,8,1,0,2,52,16,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.266577802184237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28087426538607896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26674295464541065,0.23892217681002065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4747114166165904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24260288679827066,0.0,0.17942637729269484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579212664824561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4088696860846117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21466437420863302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20210447411082494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156154947568628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956899177075765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,_Fuckit_,2020/01/30,"Is Marriage worth it nowadays??? I think it is a relic of the past.   Most people nowadays are too selfish and to make it work, yet peer pressure still makes people (mostly women) chase the Disney dream of happily ever after. As a young man, I get it, maybe I'm just cynical but I really don't see any benefit for a young successful person to get married and risk losing half of everything they've worked for.",5.608101265822788,6.218129810126584,6.554278481012663,76.21318987341773,67.35443037974684,9.357974683544304,29.7240506329114,9.3871,2.6829625316455696,321,11,57,6,5,107,60,79,0.17800000000000002,0.7,0.122,-0.5873,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,4,5,7,1,2,5,0,4,0,0,2,1,10,11,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,5,0,1,0,1,3,2,9,11,2,7,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,2,7,36,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17538921584229805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23329645128715745,0.0,0.0,0.23179495507270026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26949707538360673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28853790487827913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3443169409670913,0.0,0.25910758242479776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462064844776627,0.357607844869176,0.2251990820448485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652252308110806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20552272004943412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059691049258585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16525979500847174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37552646862651584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,RedPill_Dragon,2020/01/30,"What is your income when filing divorce I am reading a lot about women being financially independent and filling for divorce. Problem is, no one writes how much that is. So... just for better education, i would like people to write how much they are earning while filling for divorce. Also, are you college educated and... metropolitan area vs country. Thanks.",5.736284153005464,8.85679773770492,6.55860655737705,66.14862021857925,71.62295081967213,7.3453551912568305,34.756830601092894,8.344100000000001,3.5096207650273232,286,15,39,5,6,94,49,61,0.07400000000000001,0.8009999999999999,0.125,0.5267,1,0,0,0,3,0,14.0,0,2,1,2,7,4,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,3,0,12,9,8,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,5,3,5,7,3,5,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,1,3,35,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703023719594477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2989378393299157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16513210591444896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873596528145699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4969449407286694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290408471555217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343300176755671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3234250114827034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33809633834057284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3111894713779319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24010896140433624,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,faithfullyfloating,2020/01/30,"The things we dread ... Sometimes we worry about them so much and then when they happen it's not as bad as we thought. 

I asked my husband last week if he was seeing anyone or talking to anyone and he told me no. We talked about going to therapy together and seeing what a professional thinks of our situation. 

This evening I was at dinner with a friend and in walks my husband and some female. He looked at me and turned towards her and said something and then they left. So I processed a few things very quickly.
- The old me would have flipped the table trying to get to him/her.
- I was shocked I was able to sit still and not react. No anger, no tears, really no nothing. 
- I am pissed that he lied bc he accuses me of this shit all the time. Now I know why
- I wasn't hurt or sad or anything just disappointed that we can't be honest and protect each other from situations like this. 

It's like I'm waiting for the bomb to drop and have a meltdown but at this point I'm tired, ready for bed and I feel ok. It's crazy how these things all shake out. Hoping its not worse in the morning. 

Sending love and light to all those in the same boat 💓",1.1439743589743578,3.3765700982906,2.3817675213675216,94.65767692307695,83.05982905982907,5.111521367521369,20.47111111111111,6.360717304075467,0.05366721367521343,889,26,196,8,25,284,143,234,0.121,0.7120000000000001,0.16699999999999998,0.9277,0,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,6,0,3,0,11,17,3,2,11,1,11,5,2,2,3,44,30,26,0,3,9,2,1,2,1,1,1,1,1,0,17,21,1,2,4,0,0,4,9,10,0,0,8,6,25,7,25,20,8,26,0,3,3,1,25,10,2,6,12,133,42,1,0.14420531933077435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20166342443351667,0.0,0.11866869071971622,0.0,0.13481250728707936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12040541818098413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09524625338521886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07291454233867925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11141267199819513,0.0,0.0753413274952659,0.0,0.08195520618856714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12752028763882314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14322842006327652,0.0,0.0,0.1543747768689489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07925147220928795,0.1175465820821636,0.0,0.0,0.15667950139195613,0.0,0.0,0.14090286986596304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12109614920011515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13015093084758875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10600750218482137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383688931368476,0.0,0.15131922469192255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13632063804598613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09238162015153162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13717228136941576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298259383619889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148024688006918,0.0,0.32418564178764325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11101630005530122,0.14262274813860334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11516255429516127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318135465553298,0.0,0.0,0.1649113502729379,0.0,0.2874108194061917,0.09240094587157184,0.0,0.11448291565815585,0.08408728137023339,0.16574280111128556,0.0,0.13779436240375076,0.0,0.09790594593982847,0.1568539778320153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189844908506658,0.0,0.0,0.11567280883637501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301228709934324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14644750167317894,0.14695754020315244,0.1024393213998443,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,LisatheeLisa,2020/01/30,"Having trouble coping... nearly a year later I was madly in love with my ex husband, I still do love him really. In April it will have been a year since he told me our marriage was over and left. It was a messy divorce, one that I fought so hard not to have. We have a daughter who we share 50/50 custody with, one week with him and the next with me and so on. But this is the first time in my whole life that I have ever lived alone. And for financial reasons, still in the home we shared as a family. And I'm not doing so well, specifically on the weeks when my daughter isn't here. The last 3 nights in a row I've had dreams about my husband leaving again or about him coming back. It's like I can't even escape it when I sleep. I'm afraid that I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life. But the depression also takes over when I have the opportunity to go out and do something. I just feel stuck and really lonely and sad.",3.385044904334244,3.7663936192893424,4.51593908629442,89.67618117922692,72.1979695431472,7.482858258492776,22.768059351815698,7.321109707123232,0.5618195236235843,721,15,167,7,13,237,114,197,0.141,0.745,0.114,-0.4019,0,4,1,0,1,0,21.0,4,0,0,2,18,14,2,1,14,0,19,5,1,1,1,26,32,19,0,0,6,5,2,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,9,17,0,0,2,1,0,3,4,7,1,3,8,2,22,7,24,22,2,34,0,3,0,2,22,12,0,1,20,122,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3198173225503469,0.0,0.12347117336479085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11872171287958888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13299928850848547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329818541203355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10197771960311357,0.13966086735602676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455516896107018,0.0,0.07806772958858572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13132995427912786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17549467280169284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13830932736602028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15487271484679296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258541093411609,0.0,0.16348406130854104,0.16775272194574448,0.0,0.21811024290230493,0.07543054368947533,0.0,0.13633532253903388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786985243058258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642028922699108,0.14489106462909518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20924671834548825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978212606052229,0.15874576424553558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12771874036109132,0.0,0.15450843890447988,0.0,0.0,0.11886230393364268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24660318392141264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11608728039812713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09003009459154769,0.0,0.0,0.14753288819946606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476958168110163,0.0,0.13882138714710535,0.0,0.0,0.1723786644125047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19885312844146594
divorce,a7xmouse,2020/01/30,"Divorce case number issue in California I’m having a lot of problems trying to file for divorce with all the back and forth with the court house. I initially filed and they sent papers back with cover sheet saying I needed to include a check. So I did that and sent it back. A few weeks later they sent papers back with no cover sheet. The first two papers are date stamped on the top right but that’s it. No other information, and no case number. I tried filling out the next forms fl-115 but it’s asking for a case number. From what I read they are supposed to stamp the case number on the paperwork. But the stamps on mine just say the date. So I have no idea what I am supposed to do now.",1.5720238095238095,3.918550250000002,2.7157142857142884,92.21595238095242,82.21428571428572,4.876190476190477,17.904761904761905,6.079149491110277,-0.2658952380952382,545,12,112,4,15,174,78,140,0.08800000000000001,0.861,0.051,-0.7876,0,0,0,0,2,0,12.0,0,0,3,2,8,1,0,0,13,0,7,0,0,0,1,19,13,9,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,8,9,0,0,2,1,1,4,4,1,0,2,4,2,11,0,17,9,4,22,0,0,0,0,12,7,0,1,11,81,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18414739072739952,0.0,0.0,0.6058542152133776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16754897746566547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272856108017416,0.0,0.22236364333602834,0.0,0.2055933539978978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16746324310111918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14605633482050254,0.0,0.0,0.20948782665571086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884808837720174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19703082442009012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16821772539111646,0.0,0.3132888592195551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26746961160101784,0.0,0.19241841460419346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15800348464677835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,HarryHHHHHHH,2020/01/30,"What to send in a divorce text??? So i have literally seperated from my wife

I have given her notice and we are seperated

She is in the other side of the world and her and her family had asked me to think about it and get back to them

I asked for some time and have made up my mind

Its unchanged

I just dont know what to write in a text to say that we are done

The last two conversations with her resulted in her crying and begging and also another of her flipping out and screaming 

I dont know what to write in a text... but i will be sending a whatsapp to her confirming it and may call her brother or sister to say that i hope she is alright and to provide and take care of her.",2.441736677115987,3.5276142896551765,4.1178056426332335,89.01821316614422,75.06896551724137,7.479623824451412,24.905956112852664,8.00094639256281,1.1884482758620685,532,17,121,8,11,179,82,145,0.027999999999999997,0.893,0.079,0.8484,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,2,0,1,0,5,4,0,0,7,1,14,0,0,2,0,29,25,15,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,9,15,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,4,3,24,3,23,18,1,14,0,0,0,0,28,9,0,4,3,96,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519779335517298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992774622059381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3553305403190517,0.0,0.0,0.14613192779705847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19405593649922026,0.0,0.19376228843152016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208754156675499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1944807576577255,0.4454597642119045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17915635211988018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992900256288507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18875634358521373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20888617093397494,0.15491103668508086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17982400946351662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918900314822713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163660908122061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3022608660994191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14288926318390852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217723736589974,0.0,0.0,0.11081605009993307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856451480484382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,PM_ME_UR_CABINPICS,2020/01/30,"Do you ever miss your ex, even though you know the divorce is for the best? There are so many reasons why my ex and I need to not be together. Good, solid reasons. Overall, I am happier now that I don't have to share my life with him. 

And yet, somehow, especially on evenings when I'm alone and don't have the kids (we have split custody 50/50), I find myself wishing I could go home to him and them. I start to only think of the good moments and feel sad that I've lost them. 

Does anyone have a reasonable strategy for navigating this? One of things that makes it hard for me is that I could actually go back to him still. He wants me back. It's insane that he does, but his religion tells him divorce is never the answer, and we did love each other. It's just one of these cases where love is NOT always enough.",3.9855797495917247,4.5022244550898245,4.8865977136635825,87.06856831790968,70.91616766467065,7.988894937397933,25.96026129559064,8.00094639256281,1.2665736526946108,632,18,139,8,11,206,106,167,0.07400000000000001,0.802,0.125,0.9295,0,1,0,0,2,0,22.0,2,3,2,2,15,9,0,0,6,0,17,3,0,4,2,31,32,10,0,5,4,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,12,10,0,0,8,0,0,2,5,3,0,2,2,2,24,6,13,27,3,14,0,3,0,2,23,2,0,1,10,102,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.13951484965155514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14807035672907135,0.0,0.0,0.1189597247523311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09996562189807102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21986509345252525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15003470296433716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282945101631779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25022219794478223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14772279060337526,0.0,0.18885627832336255,0.129321540719502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07228824553360971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13066894905678428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16250250986143855,0.2398273245988929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280700574861486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14340722980290924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07857074457595542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10098158916243374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15606501201130216,0.0,0.2580660083371999,0.0,0.09543136437785417,0.14494576690921113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060079765008592,0.11026471182873536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937558352545238,0.10873259713689837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4409806527105518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10119254699052728,0.0,0.1141733697305282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12495917370788052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09498070488118708,0.0916072713132654,0.14046403033508428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08432544787058811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12900518533353858,0.0,0.1644046183225536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,seriouslyblonde,2020/01/30,If I just shit up I’ve been in an abusive relationship for 5 years. I told him I was ready for a divorce because of tumultuous relationship was too heavy on me. He said that if I just shut up we wouldn’t fight. If I didn’t drag things out- we would be fine. I told him I wouldn’t shut up. He didn’t like that. Stay during rough integrity and self worth.,-0.10304093567251373,2.0485822631578934,1.6770175438596482,98.07967836257308,88.21052631578951,5.4830409356725145,17.654970760233926,6.937597516519254,-0.17585204678362532,276,7,68,4,9,90,49,76,0.161,0.6920000000000001,0.14800000000000002,-0.4588,0,0,0,0,2,0,8.0,2,0,0,0,3,4,2,0,2,0,9,1,1,0,0,12,12,4,0,6,5,0,1,1,0,3,0,1,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,8,2,12,2,9,0,0,10,0,0,0,0,14,8,1,3,2,42,15,0,0.0,0.297883539473089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532591577474065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12282779380359167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5398473921365825,0.0,0.0,0.23915153335966016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622788065858633,0.0,0.2580720445743981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679730275830921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16702776362434102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4804721876488546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17859672919720107,0.0,0.0,0.16190186271198412
divorce,SpiritualisticBoogie,2020/01/30,"Today I got a divorce. Today was D-day. I’m still sad, but a weight was lifted. I finally made a post to my friends and family who didn’t know. They all are giving me plenty of support. It’s liberating but also I’m still nervous. My now ex husband cheated not 10 months into our marriage, we were together 8 years prior. I have never been afraid of him except for the night I caught him in his lie and made him confess to cheating with his employee. Its been 4ish months since I kicked him out and filed for divorce. It’s been no contact for maybe 3ish months. I feel like I should be doing a happy dance but don’t know how to get there emotionally. This is just me rambling but thanks for making me not feel soooo dang alone through this. The posts on this sub have helped a ton.",2.407250673854449,4.262886207547171,3.4594115004492387,90.48863207547173,76.86163522012578,6.052291105121295,22.67789757412399,6.868970318607317,0.5693859838274933,613,18,129,6,14,197,109,159,0.114,0.75,0.136,0.6808,1,1,0,0,2,0,16.0,2,0,1,0,7,10,2,2,7,0,15,1,0,4,2,27,30,9,0,1,8,2,3,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,7,7,1,0,5,1,0,2,6,5,0,0,11,3,21,5,16,17,2,21,1,1,0,0,20,4,1,0,14,86,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653132761447348,0.0,0.12764426901957346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10293864069204003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17954568846589447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15047106558250167,0.0,0.16141254684462816,0.11402917655335873,0.0,0.17485071987018816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12331835708755548,0.0,0.08339238760616184,0.1531175056086349,0.0,0.0,0.1276589078188485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16991341664986925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069867469693053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17544074968021187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779799555524244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3020636444214659,0.10654442820807783,0.0,0.16035498652078234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3822101429172313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231051316295269,0.0,0.0,0.14978811270714418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3057346025141227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320353958678832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.254937912159862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18112951015465575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14695229018035716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3025932140549901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194368391050294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10278699687729848
divorce,simplydadding,2020/01/30,"The good old emotional affair? My wife and I have been in turmoil for a while, with constant fighting and screaming matches.   At some point my wife told me it was simply over, although I did not really interpret it as that, and I made clear that we could still potentially work on things.  However, I have since found out that my wife after saying it was over was having an emotional affair with someone online after stumbling upon some messages that she left on the computer. 

I don't really know how I feel, but I do feel hurt.   Since then she's suggested marriage counselling etc, but I don't feel that I can trust her since this was the second time I discovered an emotional affair.  I currently rented another apartment, and have since been staying there, hoping that I can get some clarity, but who knows.

She sheds tears and tells me that she loves me, but I almost feel like she's trying to manipulate my emotions.  After all, 6 years is a long time.",8.378166666666665,7.447872038888893,8.074444444444449,72.79500000000004,61.944444444444436,11.333333333333336,35.0,10.504223727775694,3.5745000000000005,757,27,135,15,9,242,108,180,0.066,0.7829999999999999,0.15,0.9391,3,0,0,0,2,0,20.0,1,0,0,1,3,9,1,1,7,0,18,1,0,3,2,33,30,14,0,2,5,3,4,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,13,9,0,0,8,0,1,0,3,4,0,1,10,6,27,5,16,19,5,25,0,1,0,1,22,11,0,5,14,103,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12714971144158405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13314707128174738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13721766186321194,0.0,0.10138127090780008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5713307783464145,0.0,0.0,0.1416135744424533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25681473281697903,0.0907128134781226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13922437008951338,0.0,0.0,0.06634054836722612,0.0,0.0,0.10650277551078373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12611739459151725,0.0,0.0,0.13593213302749094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13956712205806318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379615197369473,0.0,0.0,0.062034835091080966,0.0,0.0,0.11237116868638017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11460222974537453,0.12014926294808573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13324161755971745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200348624373406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16269018727578144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10097767363835597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4201486882532636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10758769735269967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13534121276782798,0.10140446495041527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11098400774541986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08435826657146275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14808330413772014,0.0,0.0,0.1213325258219204,0.0,0.0862094465015677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09244119558488688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08176940286281588
divorce,BeatsByJay82,2020/01/30,"How do I not let her get to me? Does anyone have any tips on how to not let me ex's snarky comments get to me?  I know I should just try to ignore them, and I remind myself she is probably doing them because things in her life aren't going the way she wanted, and I like to think that she is jealous of how I am doing given that she left me.  I just don't know how to actually do it, as I find myself lingering on them all day.

To complicate things, we own a business together still, and while she only works in there once a week, she still feels it necessary to point out everything she thinks is going ""wrong"" or every mistake I make (I am human after all).  I don't do the same to her - I do keep a record of anything she does wrong, but that is mainly in case I need it for legal purposes later.",6.2167011834319545,4.126121579881659,7.311471893491124,80.2688646449704,66.92899408284022,10.343491124260355,29.40902366863905,8.841846274778883,1.9966857988165685,613,14,137,8,8,210,95,169,0.051,0.927,0.023,-0.5204,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,3,1,9,6,1,0,5,0,19,1,0,5,2,31,33,11,0,4,6,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,8,5,0,2,6,0,0,2,5,5,0,0,1,1,34,1,20,29,5,18,0,0,0,0,18,8,0,1,8,108,42,2,0.0,0.0,0.1590606718806286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11084293092898748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11397065634077334,0.0,0.13413189433252998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993609039071242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10511899405648373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852779544539405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13733123622842586,0.0,0.1464903761124794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08241572085240492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14897547381384474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703174597642802,0.0,0.18526886897993208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448784144738231,0.0,0.0,0.1791567772696004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770957292721498,0.33334909176325456,0.1151289591026791,0.07963165657844197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10880115610874236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208595358060123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17358551678888426,0.0,0.12396587172703147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15408399053558716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757373538247067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2603377768828182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21657471977828155,0.2088826266254964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11066364611997524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09613931727289188,0.12937870981275554,0.13074563204403652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11866309517399942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35642127486143643,0.0,0.0
divorce,mrg2uson,2020/01/30,"From reuniting to divorce in an hour Well, I guess my saga with my wife is over.

Pissed her off this weekend,  I was supposed to go to her across the country and start life over.

Instead I get a text to stop contact, cancel flights, and find somewhere else to live after selling the house.

I told her my safe word for suicide,  multiple times, and she ignored each one.

I stuck my head in a noose again, and lost consciousness but woke up somehow still alive.

She gambled the life of her babies' father.

Fuck me I guess.",3.153955555555555,5.290938840000003,3.139333333333333,92.34522222222223,75.6,5.6444444444444475,27.11111111111111,6.42735559955562,0.9897777777777784,404,16,81,3,9,122,74,100,0.17,0.765,0.065,-0.8442,0,0,0,0,1,1,14.0,0,0,0,1,5,6,2,0,6,0,2,5,2,0,0,16,12,5,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,0,3,2,1,2,1,0,4,1,1,5,0,17,2,17,7,1,16,0,1,0,1,11,7,2,3,8,55,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835455582568964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008175743709991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031250453995369,0.11479318799023153,0.0,0.12487036933844207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4840866160337528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254932738855041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21637722006500054,0.25352419203335025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3103855650192182,0.0,0.0,0.19401434593472824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23984731937096224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14888608631547046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15551699143329076,0.0,0.17546646952126468,0.1836934486622628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24033499604617226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12811888798385218,0.0,0.0,0.2099492360073132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975521833044118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwaway4help9876,2020/01/30,"Still in denial? It’s pretty fresh. He cheated, and while he was with her they were attacked. She’ll never walk again. He claimed he wanted to work it out with me, but couldn’t stop being there for her through her rehabilitation because “she doesn’t have anybody.” Eventually I made the decision that I can’t be in the marriage if she is still in his life in any way. Now he moved back to (city we used to live in) and is living with her and taking care of her full time, but maintains they are just friends.

I’ve started the divorce proceedings but the thoughts that keep nagging me are:
- why didn’t he fight for our marriage? Is it me?
- he doesn’t reach out except when he’s drunk. How can he just blow up my life and walk away without looking back?
- what do I do now? I don’t know many people in this city at all. I’ve slept next to this man for 12 years. I feel so lonely sometimes.

Someone please tell me it gets better, and any ideas on how to make it go faster are appreciated!",1.5679850746268684,3.6922314079602,2.5364651741293542,94.77753358208956,80.69154228855722,5.015024875621892,21.492786069651746,5.985473137389443,-0.011107661691542424,767,23,171,5,20,242,124,201,0.098,0.7829999999999999,0.11900000000000001,0.6694,0,2,0,0,2,0,26.0,2,0,2,2,14,8,4,0,4,0,21,4,1,5,2,35,36,14,0,3,8,0,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,10,11,1,2,5,1,0,4,8,5,0,0,6,2,23,3,27,26,2,35,0,1,1,0,29,13,0,1,17,111,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21969953483937785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18377009870884767,0.1517680414354706,0.24842185632365416,0.0,0.09847062048368516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428651373260958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16469634016094345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08167726792755774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12480202672127926,0.0,0.08439569932792876,0.0,0.09180442089082293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18235406363219564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14358028970091702,0.0,0.0,0.08877575750561392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22819478472294316,0.0,0.0,0.2852778408106489,0.0,0.13564924507475792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15284891849414295,0.10782628710166127,0.16377177439317778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716868100553292,0.0,0.0,0.12458623590198015,0.0,0.17179497465967447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119884663309538,0.0,0.0,0.17731761305989915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16433980840870516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13686861475580378,0.0,0.15976286812818388,0.0,0.11433575004907927,0.0,0.2580051249227435,0.1350510194309604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12145469010085914,0.0,0.1411892602400961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12824124619621885,0.09419272465395677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13951491924708392,0.0,0.0,0.09527789958099156,0.12821946391056555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14576078045264906,0.0,0.0,0.15571458252048512,0.0,0.11759986222770767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040236493077248
divorce,jetgirl87,2020/01/30,"Request for default denied At the final steps for divorce waiting for the judge to sign off everything.

Can a divorce case be rejected because the lawyer wrote the wrong date on the form, ie he accidentally wrote down his birthday by mistake? 

How can a judge pass on an entire case because of this error? 

Divorce case dragging on for almost 5 years because of lawyers stupid errors and this is uncontested, no kids and married for less than 5 years. 

Welcome to the California state of excruciating divorce.",9.026666666666667,9.341446111111113,8.343333333333334,67.305,60.111111111111114,9.866666666666667,42.444444444444436,9.3871,4.306044444444444,410,22,63,6,5,129,61,90,0.278,0.6970000000000001,0.025,-0.978,0,1,0,0,4,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,9,0,4,0,0,1,0,9,7,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,2,0,1,1,18,4,2,13,0,1,0,0,11,6,0,1,4,40,3,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3299751906353385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6026325417546083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2961589660448675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3609823625315548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3602876825106471,0.0,0.4244110976247343
divorce,lemonsage12,2020/01/31,"When did you know it was time? I’ve been struggling in my marriage for the past 3-4 years. Constant conflict. I had begged him to go to marriage counseling for years. As I was finally getting strong enough to get the courage to leave and told him I was out the door, he finally agreed to counseling. He acts like there are no issues and that our marriage is fine during our sessions. 

My question, is when did you know it was time? I  have kids and don’t want them to grow up thinking I didn’t try. I don’t want to feel like I didn’t give it my all. I am and have been severely depressed for quite some time. Thoughts?",2.218475304223336,3.952173181102364,2.849735146743022,95.19510379384396,77.03149606299212,6.192984967788117,25.71868289191124,6.980632752743323,0.8489433070866137,482,18,109,5,11,150,74,127,0.11199999999999999,0.748,0.14,0.4098,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,2,1,2,3,7,0,1,3,0,19,0,0,0,1,16,31,7,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,5,0,1,6,0,0,3,5,2,0,0,13,1,18,5,14,18,3,17,0,1,0,0,16,3,0,2,13,69,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19915250714663896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587290954011029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19042129982370568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09318278933305388,0.13165713501591844,0.0,0.4037623620443804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925683086771508,0.1767881933250961,0.10473651027725256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19235135067954226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025624245136343,0.0,0.0,0.1951369781663689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800700109747211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17592608837674492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20644748196878404,0.19601557939633707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081957534363629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19266039312987376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11808587967723032,0.0,0.14630603264924702,0.32238373200438364,0.0,0.0,0.176097423522329,0.0,0.12512111908470155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21739856559908008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373540164858214
divorce,AshleyKay1997,2020/01/31,"Officially divorced Well, I just got an email from my lawyer. Divorce is officially processed. I hope 2020 brings you guys all the peace and happiness that you are looking for. Thabk you all for the support.",3.4013513513513525,6.580786972972972,3.2419459459459468,84.99967567567569,84.67567567567569,6.203243243243244,29.021621621621623,7.554174236665415,2.1725502702702704,166,8,29,3,5,50,30,37,0.0,0.67,0.33,0.93,0,0,0,0,2,0,5.0,0,3,0,0,2,4,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,5,7,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,6,4,3,6,2,1,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,1,0,20,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3127165688271126,0.0,0.0,0.38714918296464224,0.0,0.4162243086697745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3883489267646715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3283395820216621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4436995419800742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3515538777889056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ChiaEFX,2020/01/31,"I’m having too many feelings after my ex lost our dog My ex-husband and I have been separated for over 2 years after his behavior became so irrational that I was granted a protection order. Shortly after that he emptied our joint accounts, took out a credit card in my name and disappeared from the state. (My credit has been frozen ever since and though charges were filed, it’s never been resolved) As I couldn’t find him to serve divorce papers, i was waiting to file until my protection order was almost expired and renew it at the same time. I had no intention of asking him for anything other than the Christmas stocking that my grandmother made me when I was born. 

Recently he resurfaced in a city near mine and filed divorce papers. He contacted me to tell me about the filing and gave me a sob story about him being homeless and kicked out of his union and in tremendous medical debt because of a motorcycle accident and bar fight. He also told me that he lost our dog. He had stolen her from me in the middle of the night 2 years ago and I haven’t seen her since. I haven’t contacted the police about the violation of my protective order yet because I’ve been trying to get as much information about her disappearance as I can but he’s very withholding. I’m searching every day for her but nothing so far.",6.599855643044619,6.874131452755908,7.04155905511811,74.73821784776905,65.18110236220473,9.765459317585305,33.0750656167979,9.558583805096642,3.089836010498688,1055,41,187,19,15,345,143,254,0.094,0.885,0.021,-0.8887,1,0,0,0,3,0,16.0,3,0,0,3,12,8,2,0,13,0,19,2,0,2,2,28,32,21,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,7,12,1,5,4,1,4,3,5,5,0,0,18,2,35,3,35,12,2,35,0,3,1,0,31,12,1,1,16,133,42,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614538952145124,0.0,0.18238438638991727,0.0,0.0,0.1456552848374001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14988363503572233,0.0,0.1702739662662352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22205864656044155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11746361310177353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16475378714738342,0.15345869073343832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920941874929743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16647036603413448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951593210047196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3976491716230603,0.0,0.0,0.1723428968067695,0.0,0.1846588271096372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834843591992067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13389201205603646,0.0,0.14047566060090622,0.0,0.0,0.17092369590263473,0.0,0.17476583379692087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17983879800726302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3013320275398553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591961941733688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17894915902591174,0.0,0.10620583504885822,0.0,0.0,0.17404017689286275,0.20236145294297456,0.1236593997968018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502825041163906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23458114371665334
divorce,_1fern_,2020/01/31,"Telling my husband it’s over tomorrow I’m (F37) telling myself husband (M46) of 15 years it’s over tomorrow.

We have 2 young kids, house, cars, pets together.

He has been sexually and emotionally abusive for most of our relationship, with the exception of the past 2 years. Two years ago, after 6 months of intensive / weekly therapy I told him I couldn’t have sex with him anymore. He had raped me and generally did not respect my boundaries. He has since taken accountability for everything. He’s been in individual therapy and we’ve done couples.

I have been trying to figure out what I want now... it’s been confusing since he’s done a 180. But, still, I have no romantic feelings for him. I mostly feel repulsed. So it’s clear I don’t love him anymore. And I don’t want an intimate relationship with him... but I am tied to him via kids.

I think we are great coparents. He’s a good dad. We communicate better now than ever. 

I got a babysitter for tomorrow to tell him where I stand. Now I need to plan what to say. And how to move forward. 

Any recommendations? Success stories?

Thanks!",1.5477887901572132,4.26115252631579,3.5813585099111407,82.68075956937801,88.33014354066984,7.196240601503757,25.6461038961039,8.192908349453996,2.2021194805194804,854,38,164,22,28,288,123,209,0.06,0.787,0.153,0.9693,1,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,4,0,0,3,8,9,1,1,6,0,19,3,0,1,2,31,31,9,0,4,4,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,6,12,0,0,4,0,1,3,5,2,0,1,11,3,28,7,24,19,2,26,0,0,0,3,30,6,0,3,18,103,34,1,0.0,0.16019134657932718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11984773079811666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091941471096957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681665764883714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11957449890672905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495975869032546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27671559364153675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15208318359676842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222972508887168,0.0,0.0,0.1215101456488608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13672360615474538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11340037523237405,0.10813277267454297,0.1490598308630896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15600406432407618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12202438662527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791633007080907,0.14369750847193466,0.0,0.1002499972255256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12906487019612542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2903110418476473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075174428625321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22367970540113125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10797187510339464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3545154967867195,0.12447512562636745,0.3092287736023228,0.0,0.0,0.08663148753639678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12919056700737655,0.0,0.0917927587799173,0.0,0.13207195397527266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15949037410404954,0.0,0.1084502696643008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611954737150937
divorce,WarringCoast,2020/01/31,"Dating false starts Looking for some tips from people that have successfully dated after divorce. I’m an early 30s man. I’ve got a good career, beautiful child and I feel like I’m a fairly attractive man. I’m not going to get into my divorce details but my wife cheated and left me a little over a year ago and the divorce is about to be finalized. I feel like I’ve done the work on me. I’ve lost 20 pounds and gotten in shape. Taken several trips. Picked up new hobbies and for the most part moved on. I’m a very social man.  Ive been told I never meet a stranger. Some days are hard but I’m working through it. My divorce kind of messed me up. My ex did everything she could to tear me down toward the end and it made me feel like a complete POS. She tried to make me feel like no woman would ever want to be with me and honestly I believed her for a long time. 

I’ve tried the online dating thing. I’ve matched with some cute women and went out on several dates. Rarely does it go too far and I honestly feel like I’m awful at the texting and messaging games.  I’ve hung out with old friends and thought about trying to hookup and then just couldn’t make the move. It’s like I’m in my own head. I feel like Ricky Bobby trying time get his “balls back” in Talladega Nights. I’ve got buddies that get almost furious with me about how I’m selling myself short with women. I’m attracting women, but it’s like I have a mental block. I’m just looking for some perspective on people that have been there and how they got their groove back so to speak. Thanks",1.6673993187737963,3.7014691180124255,2.9727689841715086,92.24986074934885,79.8695652173913,5.893969144460027,20.94610298537367,6.968188349444268,0.4016915247445407,1224,34,263,14,31,396,171,322,0.081,0.748,0.171,0.982,0,0,0,0,4,0,25.0,0,0,2,4,13,22,2,0,17,1,15,1,1,6,2,53,53,20,0,4,6,2,7,8,1,1,0,1,0,8,9,21,0,1,7,2,1,6,4,4,0,0,14,10,28,18,39,34,7,50,0,1,2,0,27,21,0,6,31,144,37,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08282861618525847,0.0,0.09356631698729352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14369865376520144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10527449342810516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979697003308974,0.0,0.0,0.07460396113200746,0.0,0.0,0.060260847298938186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0817696716250207,0.09562120845166217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08275979982509102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08452151731965016,0.0,0.0,0.0839775367421684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834753821930639,0.4005198485064297,0.0,0.1023585745777348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07219124553860319,0.0,0.14645508921561007,0.0,0.10620781832108916,0.07837274926138366,0.22419668353991745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08370357731371905,0.0,0.09589604320200536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09730302162939328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152245837920358,0.0,0.0,0.3651991642657085,0.0936510816229929,0.0,0.08269115415470651,0.15693155336632555,0.0,0.10200042113877687,0.0,0.0,0.08841486068141889,0.1247433903466366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09416519483253516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19862313114712465,0.0,0.0,0.07206642218092017,0.09024460089919614,0.0,0.08768678628704044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09804919950777784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10118604055864858,0.0,0.12955858302597628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111204268469307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952499609713015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06613706862363078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602668015872222,0.0,0.0,0.06207715472598916,0.0,0.0,0.07418064862843443,0.1089708283124288,0.0,0.0,0.0892855944634879,0.0,0.2537575683723255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07709750103134813,0.05511312935978928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08661949616408941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13605036316191216,0.0,0.0,0.0663768498802708,0.0,0.0,0.06017207417445807
divorce,bonehead2355,2020/01/31,Kid who thinks parents are gonna get a divorce My mom is staying in a hotel with my sister but not with my dad. Should i stay home with my dad?,0.2411458333333308,1.821121656250004,2.213750000000001,98.18958333333336,82.4375,4.266666666666667,20.041666666666664,3.1291,-0.6346583333333338,111,3,27,0,3,37,25,32,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,6,1,0,1,2,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,4,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,0,17,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.175735538293858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3373990414174043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3939437280972101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.373490782086242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.71703540186134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21552752654408225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,LouiC03,2020/01/31,"Rights? Expectation? I’m about to go through my first divorce. I must admit, I’m not overly familiar with the process and I don’t know a lot about the options available to me. We’ve been married for 8 years, have a 7yo and have been separated for less than a week with no contact on her behalf. Were Canadian (MB) if that’s relevant. I have spoken with a lawyer (1 hour consultation) but didn’t really get the information I need. 

I was hopeful that we would be communicative and civil, but her initial approach is the compete opposite of civil and it looks very much like she’s intending on dragging me through hell here. 

My questions:
1) rights to our son. She has taken our son and cut off contact. I’m fairly sure she’s going to paint a picture of me that’s not good, and I’m very worried about access to our child. Do I have options here to compel access to him?

2) legal separation vs. Divorce proceedings. The way I’m understanding it, we need to be separated for a period of 1 year before the courts will grant a divorce. Am I right to assume that?

3) options. We don’t have money. Frankly, we’re very poor. Even covering the initial retainer would be very challenging for me to provide, let alone the long term costs of a messy separation. Can anyone provide advice on this subject? 

4) time frames. I would like to pursue action and begin this process as quickly as possible. How do I force her to contact me to start making preparations? She won’t communicate and our finances are about to be completely devastated if we can’t communicate to make a plan to deal with them. Income tax returns are also a major concern here. How do I ensure that credit ratings and future accounts aren’t affected by this? I’m the only source of income, and I am going to obviously remain so for now, but she has been in charge of bill payments for a long time now and I truthfully don’t even know what we’re all required to pay. 

I guess I’m open to any advice or links to info or anything that could help get my head wrapped around what’s happening right now. 

Thanks for any and all help!",3.5831617647058813,5.469164325980394,4.910098039215686,81.23294117647059,73.63235294117645,7.741176470588236,28.176470588235286,8.4952907291091,2.1516941176470588,1647,66,312,30,34,547,208,408,0.08800000000000001,0.8009999999999999,0.111,0.8607,3,1,0,0,3,0,48.0,8,0,1,5,18,11,2,0,20,0,39,1,1,7,6,69,67,25,0,11,10,2,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,1,13,22,0,2,9,0,9,5,10,2,0,1,7,1,39,9,54,48,7,38,1,0,1,0,34,12,1,12,22,206,52,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2207382160095636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11697755235249853,0.0,0.09032253494668356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15361372716018326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07897417165292606,0.0,0.09294458404693504,0.10054550696270392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961083648788071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11842128575452016,0.0,0.0,0.09017785059863358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164419276605478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491989731955023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096071447785443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801880181067773,0.0,0.1925687180876159,0.09473338904072014,0.0,0.0,0.12442228366754385,0.0,0.09987739832851064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159147440116342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15141007530052542,0.0,0.0,0.11218043989314147,0.11122863951373914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12414386768616595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11549450199945925,0.0,0.11035900498509073,0.0,0.0,0.19990655809809146,0.09484583632656772,0.0,0.0,0.09602228828204576,0.0,0.0,0.15078409573911766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830279927811303,0.16749542440289172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08590019876346677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12732916461784524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265248920040932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0723558270213516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3858196132485586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07994345880402005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644986710420533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10398511008179416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13171894529540693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11758032606649893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3727677095982012,0.0,0.08965093968078952,0.0905981269164812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147017131913545,0.0,0.2406998862079024,0.0,0.0,0.14546649354215513
divorce,Sheabuttabeauty,2020/01/31,"Why does this hurt so bad? I can't stop crying. My chest physically hurts, my eyes hurt. Its only been a week but I feel physically ill. When my wife isn't around all I do is cry but when she is I just feel an intense rage inside. I'm so angry, embarrassed, ashamed, sad. I feel so many emotions it hurts. It's like as soon as I wake up in the morning the wind is just knocked out of me. Meanwhile she's cool,  calm & collected. But I have to pretend this is amicable. 

I'm not suicidal or anything. I'm just really in pain.",-0.3230115830115814,1.8680057657657687,2.172413127413126,93.60912162162165,90.44144144144144,5.693951093951094,20.54118404118404,7.1686216300943375,0.5375940797940797,404,14,94,7,14,138,74,111,0.354,0.516,0.13,-0.9887,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,0,10,13,1,2,4,1,9,5,3,0,1,15,15,11,1,0,8,1,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,3,1,0,0,3,10,0,0,1,5,13,3,9,14,1,10,0,5,1,0,3,5,0,1,6,55,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767551287254977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13424500832029956,0.14522344208846916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362096966561528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3583890798158107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427592652733429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835032818579872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474556671240125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6985513391789108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07969881028765566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16539181062590205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12407041266539785,0.17358559450891042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10450752671719353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13638694893135922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784416214670458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13085589038264833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14720265129100574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,max_machina,2020/01/31,"Well, it’s final. I’ve been lurking in this sub for about 8 months now. My divorce is now final. I just wanted to thank you all even tho I never had an interaction with any of you. I came here to unsub but I’ve decided to just say thanks and keep on lurking.",-1.1085714285714268,0.971909571428572,1.6792857142857152,95.4907142857143,96.14285714285714,4.228571428571429,15.928571428571427,5.985473137389443,-0.5415642857142853,200,5,46,2,8,69,44,56,0.055,0.813,0.132,0.631,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,2,0,0,9,3,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,11,8,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,3,1,6,3,9,5,1,9,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,6,33,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18041096249652985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3034289324202589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17522607422724826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5812394859445327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23580803918780285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21175742290045046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046132937816976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109747116351836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4884994106184727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15647896187510274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23853373838166855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,EmpRay,2020/01/31,"My wife does not want to go to marriage counseling with me. Me and my wife are currently on the verge of divorce. We have a child together and I want to exhaust all our options before we resort to divorce. I want to go to marriage counseling but she is adamant on not going. She won’t tell me why either. I figured someone might be able to help me understand her feelings so I can try something else.

Thanks in advance.",1.964364123159304,4.439499144578313,3.360883534136548,87.3925167336011,81.65060240963855,6.098527443105756,29.7041499330656,7.3871296695380915,2.007076037483267,331,17,63,5,9,108,58,83,0.059000000000000004,0.852,0.08900000000000001,0.7556,1,0,1,0,2,0,7.0,3,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,7,1,0,0,1,18,16,4,0,3,4,2,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,3,0,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,1,16,1,12,13,2,9,0,0,0,0,15,4,0,2,1,45,16,0,0.2474071909908972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105252971326044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165077000837728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20667696147554496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12509650951932472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.421821624423242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16583182500143664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624599322071484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096273100599064,0.1904661428465294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162447898394062,0.2277793012600051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679732424482786,0.0,0.0,0.257559611104742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43778151403715176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22324650814240615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,WontonsNotNow,2020/01/31,Had a dream about my STBXW last night... Had a dream about my wife last night. We were out walking and enjoying each other's company again.  Eventually we got caught in a rainstorm and took shelter under a bridge. While waiting for it to pass she pulled me close and we just held each other. It was the best hug of my life and for a moment I was home again. I woke up and immediately tried to fall back asleep just to get back into her arms. I really miss my best friend. Separated for over a year but no one has filed yet. My only hope is that a little rain must fall before she appreciates the clear skies I remember so well.,2.6139393939393933,4.482266714285714,3.767748917748918,88.45149350649349,76.30158730158729,7.121500721500722,20.184704184704184,8.00094639256281,0.650120634920635,490,11,106,8,11,159,87,126,0.031,0.748,0.221,0.9739,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,0,0,2,11,8,0,0,9,0,8,4,2,0,2,22,17,8,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,5,13,0,2,1,2,0,7,1,1,1,1,10,0,16,7,15,6,4,28,0,1,0,1,8,9,0,1,12,75,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31178045944806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725120314296489,0.0,0.42551446333589865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15663208466051745,0.0,0.10592034976834082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16214520959725706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20335912033157272,0.2013609907633013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3305111683623597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14319729326045602,0.0,0.20319311622733746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3805049776008107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13737806758634474,0.1541886370409364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12987683976275946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22965854001154465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225245363765116,0.13764334108658385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18228256153042202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13055429846064698
divorce,throweeawaee,2020/01/31,"I got married at 18, know I made a mistake, and want to reclaim my life. My husband (26M) and I (20F) have been married for just shy of two years. He is from the UK and was visiting his mother who married a guy from the US many years ago. Long story short, my now-husband and I met, said “I love you” after a week, and brought up marriage after two weeks. We knew each other for two months before he had to go back to the UK. The day before his flight, his mom and stepdad sat us down and told us that it was probably going to be a long time before he can come back on a visa and suggested eloping to avoid being apart for so long. Emotions were high and what they were telling me resulted in a lot of pressure. My husband got down on one knee right on the spot, I said yes, and we got married the next day instead of going to the airport to see him off.

His family in the US was having many issues. His step-grandfather was very ill. Almost immediately after getting married, his mom and step-father asked him to go stay and take care of his step-grandfather. I needed to stay where I was due to being a full-time student and working. So for the first few months of marriage, we weren’t living together and hardly saw each other. When we did see each other, we were with his family. During this time, my friends had stopped talking to me because I had gotten married, so I felt incredibly alone. After half a year of this going on, his step-grandfather was doing better and my husband’s work visa had finally come in. So he got a job and we moved into a new apartment together. Things were better than they were and I felt pretty hopeful.

Flash forward to now and we are just two months shy of our second wedding anniversary. Overall, we get along with each other and have a good life together. I love him with the entirety of my heart and I think this is why I’ve held off on this for so long. He treats me so well and most of the problems that we have had have been caused by outside people, not us. However, I’ve been trying to suppress feelings of wanting out for the past few years. I struggle a lot with mental illness, which has resulted in a lack of sex over the past year. I have absolutely no desire to have sex, which has nothing to do with him and everything to do with me. I constantly feel guilty about this and occasionally just give in to make him happy, even though I’ve had to hold back tears during it sometimes. We’ve discussed this on multiple occasions and he always says he will stop making me feel guilty, but after a few days he will start in again.

I also just feel that we want different things. He doesn’t like to go out, preferring to stay home. While I like to stay home as well, I enjoy going out. However, due to being married in college and surrounded by people that are not tied down, I struggle to find friends to go out and do things with. More importantly, I feel like it’s wrong to go out without my husband. We have other differences as well. I’m not overly affectionate, while he is. I’m very financially responsible, while he is not in the slightest. The list goes on and on. We are very different people and I realized this after about a year of marriage.

There are two reasons that I haven’t asked for a divorce yet. One, I don’t want to hurt him. Two, I’m stubborn and don’t want to admit to everyone who said this was a bad idea that I really did make a mistake. However, I’ve reached my breaking point. I want to be free. I want to explore the person that I’m growing into. I thought I knew who I was when I got married, but I was naive. How could I have possibly known at 18? At almost 21, I can admit that I did not know who I was, but I’m starting to figure it out now. I just started a new job and am branching out by talking to new people within my major. I’m having the deep, intellectual conversations that I’ve always wanted to be able to have with husband, but haven’t. I have never felt more alive than I have the few couple of weeks, but as time goes on, I dread coming home more and more. I don’t feel like a wife and for the past couple years, I’ve hardly felt like myself.

I know what I need to do, but don’t know how to begin. The last thing I want to do is hurt him, but I know that this is something that has to happen. I want to experience the world while I’m still young and I can’t picture myself doing so with my husband. I want to ask for a divorce, but do not know how to bring it up. We have no shared assets or kids, so there isn’t really anything to divide between us. However, we are currently renting an apartment together and I cannot afford 1/2 the rent on our current place and rent for a new one since I go to school full-time and cannot work as often as I’d like. My biggest worry is making sure that I have somewhere to stay because my closest family lives 3 hours away.

How do I bring all of this up to my husband to avoid as little conflict as possible? I do not want to get a lawyer and that would be an absolute last resort.",4.055311047345768,4.6428671863414674,5.196969153515067,84.65048959827834,70.79512195121951,7.980631276901004,27.46377331420373,8.027739517013583,1.583401434720229,3906,127,819,50,68,1295,359,1025,0.08,0.8140000000000001,0.106,0.9690000000000001,15,3,1,0,2,0,115.0,22,1,2,6,40,39,1,6,47,1,93,10,2,13,3,181,190,73,0,23,22,11,12,6,2,3,4,4,6,3,45,77,0,9,30,0,6,21,23,14,3,12,51,19,115,26,147,128,18,154,0,2,3,4,100,58,0,8,77,574,160,9,0.041601118033071406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036876881068488375,0.0,0.08331502088214295,0.043086212041507484,0.0,0.033268399060977234,0.06923092559919503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03423417549623931,0.0,0.1166742888683558,0.0,0.03908561981713489,0.09596607565099607,0.03473519587775351,0.05071931085068575,0.0,0.1061984621370582,0.0,0.0,0.0735856164425073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0424151124038929,0.042735807775330856,0.0,0.10750703871227847,0.0,0.044956029525810716,0.0,0.033215107635624234,0.0920616916753649,0.0,0.08048783867011364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13039294199381785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04679565842979853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02747714611135517,0.0,0.0,0.0397516510573471,0.037388402432548665,0.040693876065033184,0.11765349503066636,0.0,0.12620865150755006,0.059439694070245276,0.15977438895295246,0.045571991358645016,0.038022668214428464,0.035385889746989536,0.0,0.0,0.06428184119263164,0.0,0.06520460144835936,0.039907583152271074,0.23642874076335765,0.0348930440544639,0.16636107212751974,0.0,0.0,0.041191647371200714,0.036787731286842894,0.04428516371585104,0.07453286093060198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04929752517076343,0.0,0.04395386526181316,0.12518794000501404,0.04131929693297469,0.040968721355495175,0.0,0.08906971453838282,0.046962598553847004,0.0,0.04342075891674263,0.08256538098001126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13717731904649688,0.06782092724842546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05876819991596303,0.12194522950391955,0.04169524927498497,0.07346909878203224,0.14726272139371416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07073556576331654,0.07509326648187217,0.039363983755845225,0.1110762773002033,0.0843540082637357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041924142289950034,0.0,0.0,0.09744545329511647,0.09961684654854144,0.04421540478462617,0.0,0.061693403791339765,0.032085346854681035,0.16071447611726006,0.044243260982565626,0.0,0.0,0.0399173947410899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08456998267381859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11913892328157125,0.11536390869949426,0.0363244916365524,0.043464313997939284,0.0,0.039326503210928544,0.09379801979888687,0.0,0.042323292911535235,0.04485304141880478,0.039806651603937725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0533014829389872,0.0427728779944217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035527127495595834,0.11871656942886995,0.03308287880651218,0.0,0.04210255242716124,0.06630140991489841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03441287473104855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03202657310859587,0.04114456947254134,0.0,0.08833645639076211,0.2217062830918538,0.03322270659956572,0.06956079490080752,0.0,0.0869810422785539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0392085614171608,0.0,0.031278863437850475,0.06687480570527844,0.03636121080440564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11055173718128007,0.02665631665606923,0.04087288724707954,0.03302664082828133,0.07277383941723937,0.0,0.0,0.0397516510573471,0.0,0.028244428375348487,0.0,0.24382948463662715,0.0,0.30024613669933586,0.0,0.0,0.10297583759645226,0.2944490071644901,0.0,0.10010972263611922,0.0,0.11221320361547547,0.0,0.03753853838486443,0.0,0.0,0.040101993244521884,0.0,0.09085832818500136,0.04224795472890844,0.0,0.02955224065630712,0.045484291916246186,0.0,0.1875282924694655
divorce,deg95,2020/01/31,"Feeling desperate Hi everyone. I’ll keep it short basically I want to ask my wife for a divorce. We have 3 kids, the oldest she had before we met and the other 2 are my biological children. I want this to be an amicable process even though we have issues and arguments. I still lover her as a person and hope that eventually we can have a best friend type of relationship, but our marriage is just not working. In addition to that I also realized that I am gay. I don’t know what to say to her or how to even start the conversation. The last thing I want to do is hurt her anymore that I already have during arguments and our issues. 

I appreciate any advise. Thanks.",2.802954545454547,4.895214295454551,4.969696969696969,79.02454545454547,76.5,8.33939393939394,26.90909090909091,9.075114841892004,2.3816999999999995,525,21,103,13,12,182,89,132,0.086,0.755,0.159,0.7003,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,6,0,0,2,7,6,0,0,8,0,13,2,0,1,0,22,24,10,0,4,4,1,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,9,9,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,2,21,5,11,21,1,6,0,1,0,2,25,2,0,2,4,77,30,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109660601084409,0.15288235649130846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13000536694150894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895939545118547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787225588207381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16267560814000426,0.0,0.20062607669124624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25253820236197305,0.0,0.0,0.1826756399347135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666368383952427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14770111635243968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898796353890949,0.0,0.0,0.2046564943758993,0.0,0.0,0.39907348301704615,0.0,0.16992487728098948,0.0,0.0,0.10506462781967753,0.1558329145649653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16692639370972573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052501067922563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520298125012145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13531445253655588,0.0,0.15267238031657046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17600799931818706,0.0,0.0,0.12700799085269715,0.0,0.1878281941816264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3382794134406951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13917747483954873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ThrowAway77723794,2020/01/31,"53/M considering whether divorce is my only option left I am a 53 year old male.  I have been married to my wife for over 25 years.  I care for her deeply & would NEVER want to hurt her, but I think I might have to consider divorce.  Our marriage has had it's normal ups & downs & most of it has been where we enjoy each other's company.  We don't have any children.

The problem is that it has gotten to where I have NO physical/sexual attraction to her & have to put up fronts to pretend that I do.  This has been growing more & more every year.  This is due to the fact that I loved what she did when we met & respected her for it.  Since our marriage, she stopped working & just watches TV & plays internet games all day.  She doesn't take care of our house & has problems hoarding.  She buys things on the internet & it just piles up in our house.  I see in her family that her mother & sibling does the EXACT same thing.

My other problem is that she pretty much expects me to do almost everything to support our lives.  I have the only job in our household to bring in the money.  I do most of the housework in the house, go to the grocery stores, maintain the house, etc.  She will get angry when I am doing something & criticize me for how I do something.  I have gotten tired of this & lash back that if she wants it done differently that she should do it herself.  I just feel like it is getting to the point that my presence annoys her.

Through the years I have tried everything that I can think of to get her active & participating in life again, but largely to no avail.  I have suggested therapy, college/online courses, investigating new hobbies, etc.  NOTHING.  Her life is mostly TV & internet.  I don't believe in ULTIMATUMS!!!  My thoughts are if that it takes an ultimatum to get someone to change, that it will probably cause us much damage as good if not more.

I hate to just leave when we have so many common interests & can have good conversations.  It is just getting to the point that I don't talk to her about things that occur to me because I don't know how she will react.

I don't know what I'm looking for in responses, but I am just TIRED of where this is going.  I wonder if I should try something different to salvage our marriage or just give up.  I would appreciate any suggestions.

Also, if divorce is where I need to go, what should I do to get ready?",4.4002915951972525,5.375839698113212,5.186895368782164,83.6202401372213,70.25786163522014,8.129826567562416,29.129597865446925,8.391295532112219,1.9759719077568136,1884,70,380,28,33,612,214,477,0.094,0.7759999999999999,0.131,0.9687,3,0,3,0,3,0,80.0,12,0,0,1,21,19,2,0,15,0,59,5,0,4,4,59,93,18,0,18,18,2,1,1,0,9,4,0,0,2,36,5,0,1,7,5,3,7,10,7,0,0,10,4,69,12,53,74,13,45,0,2,3,1,50,22,0,13,17,279,105,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04744038339064472,0.0,0.0,0.03788670013006016,0.0,0.8213128384701021,0.0,0.06443483035783013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03642934469819116,0.0,0.028880069003037738,0.0,0.0,0.05337671173017794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09660631049204936,0.048668369374558436,0.050117698196157925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03055370555725684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09899601286977773,0.0,0.0,0.041459199170412,0.048482263011802085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10567388928689958,0.0,0.0,0.03991646032383811,0.0,0.08515728025912248,0.0,0.044662029746910664,0.0,0.023954811314693483,0.03384554004138105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14851253753726684,0.04544753214707657,0.08077489500180904,0.0794737549163942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046774152269245056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186629232689439,0.05071716194098467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04701353113776754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05207339996367465,0.0,0.0,0.05016451563590076,0.0514743393065717,0.0,0.06692636947508453,0.023145599993346217,0.0,0.04183401956431353,0.0,0.039784044608696834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042758836452736385,0.0,0.0,0.0480319929131404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050258621746102745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06965386139253797,0.035128824280980415,0.03653941725973037,0.0457561930772052,0.0,0.0,0.04641858045507812,0.04545870577532051,0.0,0.049713313140523366,0.0,0.0,0.07206341304714514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08957157400843871,0.0,0.0,0.048198589421661664,0.051079516241245536,0.13599776800824506,0.0,0.047626128816242695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03775266779507253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03919005129038101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04014166884581282,0.10941745372250966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03960859331380912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05376190790737203,0.0,0.0,0.0712419565069467,0.03807916493619059,0.0,0.0,0.05417877082859997,0.0,0.09442385192102508,0.060713464081596065,0.0,0.03761138115094923,0.0,0.10890385923147884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06433060913093168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05698769035788325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05588737637373645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051377427428758886,0.03449041063417118,0.0,0.0,0.06730933327237727,0.0,0.0,0.1220347817531072
divorce,VioLlyyn,2020/01/31,"I Hate My Husband But I Can't Afford To Leave It's been over a year since our marriage died. It didn't go with loud fights or disagreements, but rather it died a slow, silent death. While I used to work I would come home, do all of the chores, house work, paperwork and financial work, my husband would come home and kick up his feet to play video games.

I tried to change it. I talked with him about it, initiated dates, tried to become even more loving to become the change I wanted to see in our marriage. But nothing happened. After our baby was born and I quite work once again it was all on me. He would become so irate with our newborn I'd be terrified to leave him alone with her, so I took up 100% of all the domestic and financial work. All he did was come home and play games. Do a chore if I asked, many times needing at least 3 personal invitations to do so. I had to force him to hold our baby girl once and awhile.

I stopped having sex with him.

His only concern about the state of our marriage has always been how much sex he's getting and why I'm not horny for a 27 year old man child. Having just turned 21 myself, I couldn't mentally deal with the stress of carrying the relationship, family, and the dramatic life chances I'd experienced the past 3 years. I'd graduated high school, joined the military, trained for 8 months, got married, had a kid, worked my ass off, only to be left with someone who became deliberately mean and aloof with me, abandoning me emotionally and spiritually in my postpartum period.

All my mother goes on about is how it's not that bad and I can't divorce and stay with them for awhile because I need to spread my wings already, and that men need sex to feel loved so I should stop holding out.

I've already threatened to divorce him twice, and each time the change, the frantic bonding he tried, lasted for only a month at a time before he went hack to playing at least 48 hours of video games a week.

I went from being completely apathetic towards him, to overjoyed about the prospect of divorce and freedom, all the way back to hating the way his atoms vibrate through the universe. If I had the college education to financially support myself I'd be getting a divorce right now. But I'm going to have to wait at least 2 years before I'll have that.

I really hope he just decides to leave me instead. I'm so tired of his rude comments, that anything positive our child does clearly came from his geans and everything negative is clearly because I'm stupid and a poor mother.

I wish he'd stop pretending like he loves me.",6.2365292353823065,6.150709171936761,6.3496101949025485,80.61630434782609,65.97628458498023,9.508954613602286,32.07278179092272,9.130062681391069,2.5261857162327925,2035,74,408,32,29,649,252,506,0.165,0.7070000000000001,0.127,-0.9712,1,1,0,0,5,0,51.0,7,0,1,7,19,18,5,2,26,0,32,10,2,3,8,76,68,32,3,14,12,4,1,1,0,4,2,1,5,8,12,32,0,7,3,9,1,9,7,9,0,1,15,4,54,9,64,43,12,56,0,1,1,7,60,17,1,4,27,243,66,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556600241374667,0.16102942992047592,0.0,0.0607097264189165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06004101232406545,0.0,0.06820905634308873,0.0,0.0,0.05610281000717747,0.06091971819225282,0.08895317978926219,0.241740389311734,0.12416954853916574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834484000668657,0.0,0.0,0.2315504483973648,0.18854934703938667,0.0764986357228556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752199957145909,0.0,0.0,0.15144482018593367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0638490094559084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.082071750342138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04819031404694562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06557299828869463,0.0,0.0687815108996526,0.0,0.03689147414207438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762386362438082,0.0,0.082931285665083,0.0,0.0583538936578181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06451952166367729,0.0,0.0,0.1440685469227528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07708772089939013,0.21955868776483625,0.0724671291308587,0.07185227826143215,0.08418765518159811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0594732758964734,0.0,0.2317667512116489,0.07927277040767003,0.0,0.051534791831120495,0.03564525274025332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19755152590666475,0.0,0.0,0.07397140396011058,0.0,0.0794763497821191,0.0,0.0,0.07352792662359517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164741806417498,0.0,0.05363502122185945,0.16229985228166002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07000842739319497,0.0,0.07656071183977647,0.15540301141147814,0.0,0.16647128863342486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.069649908386728,0.0,0.06370707687279448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07760342580964788,0.0,0.0,0.046740938662043305,0.0,0.0,0.07833323443326566,0.0,0.06230863366450981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07384082813478281,0.05814078639400312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060354420864039235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061819954195868214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07776714048161043,0.0,0.18299698254906,0.08357703278799368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08279572772826818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05864360650311538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12763313051894642,0.08385839182848973,0.0,0.0,0.08106279572929476,0.1486079960380619,0.07936104762741786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06301522034750667,0.0,0.0,0.043034521818492114,0.11582672039330805,0.05852523103425596,0.0,0.0,0.1352718904145548,0.06583631161324854,0.0,0.08390200482683137,0.0,0.0,0.3187005922137028,0.0,0.0,0.15548904739744634,0.0,0.0,0.18793898796927555
divorce,d_o_m_94,2020/01/31,"Proof of cheating I now am very certain my stbx is leaving me for someone else but I do not have any solid proof whatsoever except some pins he saved about love the other day and him being distant,asking for divorce very randomly,I know he's immature but i'm just looking for solid proof for my lawyer as I don't know what I could possibly do in my situation.We do not live together so I don't have access to his phone,internet accounts,nothing like that.No phone bills either or bank statements.I know hacking is illegal but it seems to me it is the only possible way for me to obtain proof.I need advice as I am very lost.",3.368437499999999,4.855857718750002,5.073875000000001,81.48362500000003,73.375,7.932500000000001,28.425,8.548686976883017,2.1742224999999995,500,20,97,9,10,170,84,128,0.10800000000000001,0.7809999999999999,0.11199999999999999,0.3664,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,0,0,2,4,6,1,0,2,0,14,1,0,0,4,22,23,8,0,2,9,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,4,0,2,0,4,2,0,0,1,1,14,4,14,20,2,4,0,1,1,1,7,1,0,3,3,60,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18789206133980216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13075579012999858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1797541897110661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15351852110135644,0.0,0.0,0.12400355178565205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16062378884216486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3170132606477004,0.0,0.0,0.20359488314114216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09393743099364284,0.0,0.1697852000872356,0.0,0.1614652869725486,0.0,0.2098944019504934,0.0,0.17353860992162964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425718714455898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844961477800135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14623625855948053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4335296287378789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17504287943267086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629167205973151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.475949031097689,0.0,0.15262150942584418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Vduborangeslice,2020/01/31,"Never married him but looking for advice... Long time lurker. And looong post. Sorry :/
I’ve (29F) made up my mind, put a deposit down on a place and I’m out next weekend. He (36M) has no idea. I feel terrible, I don’t want to hurt him but he’s an alcoholic. He drinks 8-9 beers a night and more on the weekend plus a few shots of hard liquor. We’ve been together almost 8 years. No cheating of any kind from me and I’m not aware of anything from him. He’s always suspicious and jealous and going through my phone. I deleted social media and gradually lost myself to this shit show of a relationship.
We have a 6 yo daughter together. I have helped raise his 12 yo son since he was almost 5. My stepsons mom passed away when he was quite young. My STBX is so mean to him on a daily basis. Yesterday he told him he would throw him through the window and he was the reason we were struggling...??? I didn’t hear the first part but my son later told me. 
They fight and it has become physical between them a couple times. Last year I found out he hit him and I lost it. I was in school and packed mine and my daughters things. I said I was going to get his son from his sleepover with his cousin and dad wouldn’t let me. 
Because we never married I have no legal rights and I have no interest in involving CPS. I know it’s bad. I know I want out. I’m done but I still feel bad about how it will all go down. I’m afraid he will hurt his son and keep him away from me just to hurt me. My son knows what is going on and I’ve told him I have no rights. I want my kids to stay together. They are brother and sister! 
My STBX has never physically hurt me but makes snide comments daily. I have anxiety and depression I take medication for and he has said multiple time “did you take your meds” any time I’m upset or “off”. I manage my anxiety and depression quite well. I’ve had a few very low lows but I tend to isolate myself when that happens. I’ve been through some tough shit and I’ve come out of it stronger and better for it. I know I need some more counseling and will address my traumas. But damn that pisses me off when he says that! He’s also said I suck at cooking and won’t cooperate when I’m planning meals for the week trying to accommodate him. He has said “don’t ruin it” as I am beginning to cook. He only buys junk food, beer and stuff to grill. He’s a great cook. I quit cooking when he has said things in the past. But then we don’t have food and I’m the reason why. The past 9+ months I’ve been cooking whatever the hell I want and that means I buy all the groceries because he doesn’t want me to ruin it and let it go to waste. 
He hates pretty much everything and everyone. He’s miserable and nothing makes him happy. The past year his drinking and behavior have gotten much worse. He threw 3 full cans of beer inside the house because he was stressed out from cleaning. I clean and I try to cook. I like my food, my kids mostly like my food... kids can be picky sometimes. 
He’s put our kids lives at risk so he could continue drinking. While I was in school I had tests and had been studying on campus, I came home to our 3 yo D alone in the living room (brother was at a cousins house). I asked her where her dad was and she said “sleeping”, nope he was straight up passed the hell out drunk. He’s done other more serious things. I warned him I wouldn’t give him another chance and he needed to get his shit together or I’m out. I’ve been fair with warnings and boundaries. He needs to get better.
We get one shot at raising our awesome kiddos and he’s blowing it. But I won’t. I have so much anxiety and stress from this. But I’m also looking forward to being a fun mom again and not walking on eggshells every day! I’m ready to be happy and live again. I’m not letting him drag us under with him.
I’m not sure what to do about custody of our daughter or where to start? Mostly worried about my son being stuck with his dad. 
Also, I have to break my daughters heart and give our cat away (to family)... we can’t have pets at the new place.",0.7587196641742082,2.880891801652897,2.388007477371115,94.70397369801915,83.75796930342385,5.370111504656959,20.27297651843107,6.640361216903883,0.15455902925357545,3144,92,707,34,90,1027,348,847,0.22699999999999998,0.6970000000000001,0.076,-0.9993,0,1,7,0,1,0,97.0,12,2,3,9,22,49,12,7,28,0,68,27,6,6,6,121,141,70,0,12,18,20,3,2,0,8,2,8,7,4,23,61,20,1,12,17,3,15,23,37,1,2,40,13,111,12,85,84,16,102,2,13,2,0,118,45,8,9,43,421,134,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051717031116299265,0.0,0.056560000727263735,0.1059921193341217,0.05481363240392036,0.0,0.12697067417102656,0.04403727233113094,0.0,0.0,0.07198070230928844,0.05549576207558856,0.12146087544006873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043552204345427656,0.0,0.04947709315807623,0.0,0.14917241702788075,0.0,0.08837918991287293,0.09678651924906098,0.05845075127993218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09361451700627037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060531320697842735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04558961379672873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04225576150537033,0.05855975133199424,0.0,0.03413180684963656,0.0,0.09116727524346442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10831990467742646,0.0,0.15553704969499732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044591020599491035,0.050571453958571315,0.04756496452120837,0.0,0.04989233695329032,0.0,0.05352025085012397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045017397932512165,0.2559851820553719,0.058028783083496176,0.0,0.0,0.1106030873292323,0.10153965685960717,0.15039054806488678,0.0,0.0,0.058349247535501136,0.0,0.0,0.046800799703362726,0.11267784146490314,0.04740979361479738,0.052251807160266985,0.0,0.0,0.05964955291177301,0.06271557175947777,0.03547405482020942,0.0,0.053087406231242466,0.0,0.0,0.1221351146460182,0.22662630849635584,0.059745113155539924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047041565645548684,0.0,0.05511253307915204,0.11634328453112115,0.04314038295948275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16235610294346325,0.0,0.05171229701820627,0.0,0.14019942748063158,0.046836356080106036,0.08888619573404566,0.0,0.1155462901349435,0.0,0.0,0.05007826943496843,0.07065478658072638,0.0,0.0,0.11530019539501205,0.05878698646656341,0.053315682556865786,0.0,0.0,0.05343847424558383,0.12396864340746128,0.04224368577345351,0.0,0.11671639004275222,0.1177281337904824,0.1224554903794162,0.051114636205391945,0.05628561270396178,0.04966588733755425,0.0,0.05078231058586538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03586288763114344,0.04025132876994919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05731187905630625,0.15156675039021214,0.0,0.0,0.11058929607812693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05068686709921446,0.053843058135197665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064071149540692,0.0,0.16887458062123673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10883002706226927,0.0,0.056820911257494826,0.0,0.09039415695372732,0.30205887631336525,0.0420875419732108,0.0,0.1071244708068543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16297815593513654,0.043779542830376376,0.0,0.05296253940141404,0.053949677378087056,0.0,0.0,0.052343503864131696,0.05924444112606519,0.03746010474536921,0.05641028128130241,0.042265428793266,0.0,0.12124925512317683,0.0553279883710067,0.06058568218298164,0.0,0.0,0.049880543467974665,0.0,0.07958500138480841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10548169582008847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12344238194175752,0.0,0.0,0.1517143618757139,0.0,0.07186427588174876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06366143826506132,0.0,0.0,0.04366810510873779,0.15608067016181065,0.0,0.04245269562761248,0.0,0.04758531791964369,0.0,0.04775596522679189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053747214029790887,0.05393440158656535,0.03759591709956997,0.0,0.0,0.10224457697763546
divorce,Yeslikethegarden,2020/01/31,"Question : Custody Curious about this. If your ex spouse did not seek joint custody, or something close, do you see it as a parenting failure ? A lot of people settle for every other weekend or that kind of thing. How does it affect your perception of your ex ?
* obviously if you live in different states that affects visitation, but I mean couples that are within a feasible distance of one another.",5.51582159624413,7.951154971830987,6.309507042253525,70.9030399061033,69.70422535211267,9.240375586854462,35.77699530516432,9.725611199111238,4.178603755868545,317,17,48,8,6,104,56,71,0.036000000000000004,0.94,0.024,-0.2168,2,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,3,1,15,5,7,0,2,6,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,6,1,9,4,1,6,0,0,1,0,11,3,0,6,1,38,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826670946450958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2982734924805254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28164272236384913,0.0,0.0,0.2359020607575321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271239058389681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2807151216843692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23803478172428025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291783244349847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2936401810279516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826672501311236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993249962621247,0.0,0.0,0.186885529299971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3019795015053529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21481196719081794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075277488267142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17908997840886604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,padfoot8769,2020/01/31,"I need a right turn, not another left! So it’s been a good year and a half (September 2018) since we officially decided to divorce. He still hasn’t filed papers, even though he has them filled out. As of next weekend his newest girlfriend (4th I think since our split) and her two kids will be living with him in his new apartment. I’ve not met her yet but my kids like her and her boys and that’s the important thing for me there.
He always pays his child support (obviously not court set or ordered) but only wants our girls every other weekend, which is Friday night from about 8pm to whatever time I get off work on Sunday.
I think I’m a little jealous honestly, how easy it was for him to move on, that he has the ability to work 40 hours a week without worrying about the girls. Childcare is expensive for me, I can only work during school hours and every other weekend because my oldest can’t ride the bus home (they don’t come to where we live) and I have no one else to pick her up but myself, my youngest is having behavioral issues and has already lost one in home daycare for being disruptive. I’m in a constant battle with my health (mental and physical) and stress is surely making it worse. 
I just want things to go right.  I know I’m whining, I know it will get better, I just can’t find up some days.",3.5551132075471727,4.8865185773584905,4.4944811320754745,86.43908018867926,72.66037735849056,7.413207547169813,24.948113207547173,7.908726449838941,1.2762490566037736,1033,31,211,14,20,335,165,265,0.09300000000000001,0.787,0.12,0.765,0,0,0,0,1,0,30.0,4,0,2,5,12,11,2,1,10,0,20,1,0,3,2,40,39,17,0,3,10,0,0,1,1,2,1,0,2,6,11,15,0,0,6,3,2,5,9,5,0,4,4,0,33,6,28,31,1,40,0,2,0,0,29,15,0,2,19,134,44,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13228306334158904,0.0,0.0997441099964162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256975081285715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07307359358043955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060181090613771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10326015242366544,0.0,0.12954034964041386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773083008227079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10013868158032853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07917512182302751,0.0,0.2019966918061781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10956193833645028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12525760480300455,0.0,0.06812670528642685,0.10054395760725496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12741961215026526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404851983900109,0.0,0.2361019220198061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12511648272892092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13175835781060596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13024258875262454,0.0,0.0,0.05856399328240191,0.12014444394660673,0.21170047364895547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13085576447874472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08001629564485216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12080399688092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12740624685292667,0.0,0.08888446312912307,0.0,0.11577428905589256,0.12748651420880286,0.11249288312901742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16245837306963012,0.18233794927818672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20474212540752834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12131808390767725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983207090044458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09573089692980434,0.0,0.1373143521362043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13603069328259212,0.11297907774441195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15927686273535405,0.15361981990737306,0.11777481598458428,0.0,0.06989903024667013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303876253593776,0.11709870372462562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14140864507567186,0.0,0.09615505498353852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11555349262306093,0.0,0.2618073643285403,0.12173705918653364,0.1221610376771286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719441428244342
divorce,chibiperson,2020/01/31,"Seperated for two weeks, son born today and no one told me I just need to rant about my current situation-

Heres some context, im 26 and work for usps, shes 22 and stays home with my soon to be 1 year old son. We've been married for two years and its been up and down. I love her and wanted to fight for her and my family but she seems to loath motherhood and our marriage. I think she blames me for the radical shift in her life and doesnt trust me to support her and the kids. 

Well she got pregnant again 3 months after the birth of my son and starting two weeks ago shes 38 weeks pregnant. We get in what I had believed to be a small fight and she goes to her parents house about 40 minutes away for the night. She doesnt let me know about this and begins to ignore my calls. I send her some heartfelt messages apologizing yadda yadda and she doesnt respond. I give her some space hearing nothing from her but her parents updating me about how she/my son are doing and after a couple of days I have a day off. 

I go over and play with my boy for a few hours and my wife is fairly cordial with me but says I cant stay the night. Okay well, I ask what the game plan is for his birthday Saturday Feb 1st and if shes coming home before the babys due Jan 28th or staying through at her parents. This is something we talked about because with me working 50 hours a week and her recovering from labor with a newborn and 1 year old she could use the help from her family. They let me know she will stay through the birth. I go back home and the ignoring continues. I send her messages pleading to meet so we can talk about the marriage and im ignored. 

Stuff starts to seem weird and this is about 8-10 days from the initial fight. I am off again and want to see my son so I ask for permission from her parents. They say yes and then 15 minutes later say my wife will be out with a family friend do I still want to come. Well yes, fine if she wants to avoid me. I see my boy again and have lots of fun. She gets home as Im getting ready to leave and theres an aura of awkwardness. We don't say much and I leave.

 I message her parents that night(we were fairly close) and ask them for help and guidance. They say they cant do much but support me as a father. Ok well that sucks but I began to expect that at this point. Her mom recommended we try counseling and to let my wife get through the pregnancy and we will go from there. Im thinking ive been ignored for 10 days but yeah ill do whatever I can for my kids. Its sunday and the due date is the following Wednesday the 28th. Her next appointment was Friday the 31st where they would schedule induction if necessary.

I stopped trying to talk to her early this week and I began to feel very anxious. Her mom told me that id know if she went into labor but it was ultimately her daughters decision if I could be at the hospital. Yesterday she deleted my entire family on facebook before finally deleting and blocking me on social media. I messaged her mom how everything was over there and she says fine. 

Today I get a timeline post from a mutual facebook friend congratulating me on the birth of my second son. Im just destroyed. Reading this post back makes me think it was obvious but loving her l, I just didnt think she could be so heartless. I was prepared to fight for my kids, to try and ultimately work the marriage out but I dont know anymore. This is too big for me to forgive. I dont know what to do now. Should I contact them and let them know of his birth and wish to see him or should I wait on their terms. Is there anything I shouldnt do? Thank you",2.402525001063875,4.061312148793565,3.501285586620707,91.0506955615133,76.30563002680965,6.5595642367760325,24.307757776926678,7.325859861289817,0.8903562960125964,2837,93,619,34,63,915,306,746,0.094,0.7909999999999999,0.115,0.9588,6,1,1,0,4,0,53.0,7,1,9,4,34,34,7,2,31,5,61,4,0,4,1,122,117,63,0,19,19,19,1,0,2,7,2,7,4,6,19,57,0,8,15,3,0,9,11,14,4,5,17,11,122,20,90,81,8,100,0,0,3,2,127,25,1,13,60,415,141,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045884276941686716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05847681984584305,0.051334428195489085,0.0,0.0,0.04259607493438541,0.0,0.14517267261478412,0.0,0.048632513167155715,0.07960423739016351,0.0,0.03155390095277052,0.0,0.0880920422459822,0.058318540545781325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05285523522794917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08917751166452834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12398428120076815,0.05727415163862951,0.0,0.13352995781171978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12133038054263083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04652074041826276,0.0,0.1951880742162322,0.0,0.02617264326780656,0.0,0.0,0.05670321924461861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07998306033870721,0.0,0.13521868372274956,0.0496552458986808,0.08825335687700157,0.0,0.04139914919398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05834002810696357,0.0,0.0693905403898012,0.0,0.20768777772650845,0.0,0.10195114674319126,0.05972690215997905,0.0,0.0,0.2795615704143524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17068368893664654,0.0,0.0,0.1096178930564484,0.0,0.21172239403187568,0.03656133981749167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0440065726150082,0.0934352400711675,0.0,0.034551828419467766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18187062067683984,0.0413162831079426,0.0,0.0761026936302323,0.03838119091172336,0.0,0.0,0.05504993863111912,0.1457266209949239,0.0,0.049667454025983236,0.0,0.10863193981324223,0.0,0.035075566710322144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873803012560437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04893223375173969,0.0,0.09914821174253806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051776444320990704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24698140339477806,0.0,0.0,0.1237438809633662,0.0942451565673256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05818314757872345,0.0,0.05276528558821788,0.0,0.03984925263280207,0.0,0.0,0.07327543819036081,0.22068748111762396,0.04133754878932778,0.04327571482502487,0.0,0.0,0.05925560593325242,0.0,0.11747879944211713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12481405760848968,0.0,0.047655897183505484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326691173714831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981294750815569,0.09892245293831052,0.0,0.10542989017107092,0.0,0.15169313775258425,0.0,0.0,0.044706125763527976,0.0,0.04270943125407372,0.12212330506700643,0.0,0.2076035221751392,0.0,0.1861625879420724,0.047984297379216764,0.0,0.0,0.059524247616930974,0.0,0.0,0.11305101115131135,0.0,0.0,0.036770549873863086,0.0,0.0,0.09999993635296056
divorce,flashforwardcaruso,2020/01/31,"Came home after a long day at work and... ...I have no internet. Just wanted to watch some netflix before bed. 

And I guess I’ll need to buy a new router and a modem.",-0.5027142857142834,1.4812689428571453,1.9825000000000017,96.43375000000002,88.14285714285714,4.642857142857143,14.464285714285715,5.985473137389443,-0.8274285714285718,123,2,29,1,4,42,28,35,0.071,0.929,0.0,-0.29600000000000004,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,9,5,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,4,4,1,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,4,16,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30445626641802603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.409220918040174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23074747374338986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.394150332204623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3588964665542964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31663635307796195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652996522212817,0.0,0.3455595898472685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110361194687036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604782293032505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,miles507,2020/01/31,"Bank accounts during divorce When our accounts are split up by the courts, do they use the figures from the day it was filed? Or the most current balances at the time or the order?",6.563714285714287,6.5318855142857135,5.732142857142858,85.13535714285717,65.28571428571429,7.0,34.64285714285714,3.1291,1.7518571428571423,143,6,27,0,2,43,28,35,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3.0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,6,0,3,0,0,1,0,5,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,4,3,1,7,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,3,4,20,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5262440240502294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4758085039092177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7047506614108948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Foxycleopatra94,2020/01/31,"I need distance Last night he told me he wants a divorce. 
I mean I’m shocked because the last few months he’s been all about how much he loves me and how we are so great together so I’m really hurting right now. 
Something has just suddenly changed and now he says this isn’t what he wants in his life, we have two kids. I think when he went out with his friends last week something happened, he says he didn’t but he came back from that night and then just didn’t act the same, didn’t want sex, yelling at me all week. 
Now he says we are still family and he wants us to be friends and be close, I want that as well but I need space atm to move on. 
He still wants to come to my doctors appointments and last night he wanted to hold hands in bed, I can’t deal right now I need to get away but I have no where to go. 
What the hell happened to my marriage? 
I don’t understand how someone can just wake up one day and not want to be together anymore. 

Has this happened to anyone on here, and how did you tell your kids, pick yourself up and move on? How do you tell your friends and family that your marriage is over, everyone always said how perfect we are together, how to I deal with this shit?",2.3151593625497995,3.6509716215139454,2.9379661354581685,96.35173007968129,75.81274900398407,6.613625498007969,24.10378486055777,7.1686216300943375,0.6006109960159365,931,29,222,10,20,290,124,251,0.07200000000000001,0.82,0.10800000000000001,0.762,0,0,2,0,2,0,20.0,5,5,0,1,24,11,2,0,4,0,21,7,3,8,3,54,48,25,0,11,7,0,1,0,3,0,2,5,1,2,8,20,0,1,3,0,1,7,8,4,1,2,9,6,27,7,27,36,5,44,1,1,0,2,44,16,2,0,21,133,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07729702325851746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09212800062794536,0.06495513516860202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08727897360695623,0.07143139107676412,0.0,0.056628619602437015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062484267569478,0.0,0.0,0.09827178966232547,0.0800217918016102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05991031978714356,0.19154366528143832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09508312705518866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08876623473541878,0.0,0.0,0.17514841068728068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21531396254327767,0.0,0.048534394622960234,0.0,0.052795012389606835,0.0,0.0,0.10241831305887324,0.0,0.0,0.2464432271817192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994472302184985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3028909837944861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06561528502542825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838423856906344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10119112076407494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07414880597515612,0.1974677728163584,0.06828934550371081,0.206643913532123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615301796954358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06294882295383306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05951164065465377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15866557764857134,0.08836549416697351,0.22162419731641614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953565441506158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07871059085895635,0.1430319612248275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14837394141484034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16239062719038266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0595240901581864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08876623473541878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907460222530418,0.09670814917037203,0.1117426083351322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4383403622634912,0.0,0.1490313467482672,0.0,0.08352477869975705,0.08611564469461568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,skullprism,2020/01/31,"Terrified of Divorce I can't handle the idea of divorce. I'm only 19, and I'm paralyzed by the idea of even being dumped in a dating scenario. My parents got divorced, and now I'm terrified. I'm already convinced I'll never find anyone like me because I'm such a fucking boomer. I want a wife and a lot of kids NO ONE IN GEN Z WANTS THAT! ABSOLUTELY NO ONE! fml",-0.2080519480519456,2.043415272727273,2.8909220779220814,88.05066883116888,91.07792207792208,5.157922077922079,24.58311688311689,6.742157984588678,1.1442581818181816,284,13,58,4,10,101,51,77,0.245,0.7,0.054000000000000006,-0.9431,1,0,0,0,3,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,3,4,2,0,6,0,2,1,0,0,1,10,11,3,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,2,0,2,1,0,4,2,7,9,1,5,0,0,0,1,6,2,1,1,4,32,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713595443136516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719407587040872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14989989311137197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624162945440337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22475044733676333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22733291626412125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19667070795360614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5551880248671603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12013554969817525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20905752797605714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18965518195296832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3332598215712176,0.18701994638363686,0.0,0.0,0.2730456465910435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900793534744298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,biddywig,2020/02/01,"Separated for months, when to divorce for a clean break? Wife moved out in April, a week after telling me she wanted to separate. She'd already got a rental organised. We hadn't been getting on for quite a while, I just thought she needed time apart, she said there wasn't anyone else. It was quite amicable at the time, I helped her sort through things to take with her and set up in her rental.

A few weeks later I found out she was seeing someone, she said it had started after she'd moved out!

I later found out she'd be seeing him since the November before. I obviously started feeling betrayed and annoyed, keeping communication to a minimum, even though we have a mid-teen daughter.

Daughter stays with me mostly, but is at an age she decides where to sleep and what to do, I'm sure she finds it difficult, but doesn't really show it. We don't really talk about the situation in detail, I don't want to make her feel awkward, I also don't ask her about what her mum is doing etc.

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Anyway, we've been married for 9 years before we separated, and were together for a lot longer.

She earns more money than me, and we are self-sufficient, I'm in the house I had before meeting my wife all those years ago. We haven't talked about divorce, apart from she mentioned in a text if I wanted one not long after she admitted to seeing the first guy, I didn't see the need at the time, so I said ""no it isn't needed is it?"", that was the last time it was mentioned.

Since then she's seen a few more guys, and is now living with some other guy most of the time, although still has the rental which is due to end in April. I expect she'll just end up moving in permanent with this guy?!

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I'm getting to a point where I would like to get a divorce for the clean break. I'm not looking for another relationship myself, but we obviously aren't ever getting back together, and I'd like to move on. I suspect if she does move in permanently with this guy, she'd be more inclined to want a divorce before I mention it, and I'm fine getting to the year milestone of being separated physically.

I'm not sure what will happen with the house I live in, we've already separated all other assets (in my eyes), but the house is the biggy. She did pay some large expenses for building work, but before then I paid all the bills for about 17 years, which amounts to much more than what she contributed. But I'm sure if it went to court it wouldn't make a difference. I certainly don't want to have to sell the house. I guess I'll have to wait and see what she want to do.

The only reason I can see her not wanting a divorce is future inheritance, I have a largish family, and as awful as it sounds, may benefit from inheritance in the future. If I don't divorce she could request part of this in a future settlement.",6.728983762087211,5.634961684303353,7.2274122726996275,78.06936507936508,65.31393298059965,10.219278720428148,32.602870522410754,9.314750747691287,2.6345597397068667,2213,74,453,34,29,730,238,567,0.054000000000000006,0.884,0.062,0.7918,4,0,0,0,6,0,75.0,7,0,0,5,19,11,1,1,37,1,52,2,2,3,10,89,104,30,0,18,16,5,2,2,0,5,0,4,2,5,26,27,0,2,10,1,8,6,18,3,0,2,23,15,64,8,75,68,18,78,0,0,9,0,67,28,0,12,42,312,90,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05441333500447184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13547784632480914,0.04908887331890659,0.0,0.13301937666927402,0.14917689402393836,0.0,0.06436662131750077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04292121683724308,0.0628953038556091,0.0,0.0,0.057385883175347416,0.0,0.0,0.047200613430078836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26116690321014074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049010239657474836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0641333597035236,0.0,0.0,0.053717673193842234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05127857101130305,0.0,0.10873625372935243,0.0,0.06845954050515163,0.04054364450039094,0.055525467511298617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05786750265621124,0.0,0.062075329546702925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056103990450632406,0.05221331678398295,0.0,0.13460907883969014,0.0,0.0,0.16035339394408302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04909450304414748,0.0,0.06762154898122003,0.3038997391933033,0.05428179088268882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04114449406242282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2833162165890096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05456104266061245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05003626564606537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059978378801165536,0.0,0.10840663767303856,0.05432303085762856,0.051547216284495836,0.0,0.0,0.05218659936915273,0.0,0.0,0.08194877810518322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04899623364991047,0.3262081232460925,0.04512440468994662,0.1365466825338245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04159548082900005,0.04668540334544215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0664730400708268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05802785191612216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305791742703219,0.0,0.0,0.07864850180815841,0.0631131178120339,0.0,0.06590359229313635,0.0,0.0,0.17517111739785032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2934912653487097,0.0,0.06403704375769934,0.0,0.0,0.10155518725836893,0.068998343481346,0.061428469313039476,0.0,0.05201058128623239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689601823558785,0.06542732413876462,0.04902145223724445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17356147203499114,0.0,0.04615323274335277,0.0986764905481591,0.05365244259658988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04078089399290065,0.0,0.0603096043357039,0.0487321492325789,0.17896792376130136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25344168674798123,0.0,0.09847730641657912,0.0,0.0,0.056903711298921925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044688383853059774,0.0,0.0,0.0436055307382948,0.0,0.14917689402393836,0.1581174903439441
divorce,Tjroor1,2020/02/01,I have two sons and I've told them to come here and men's divorce sub if they are thinking about getting married. They will make their own choices but they need read this stuff. One of them get's it and the other doesn't. Hopefully they choose wisely since this stuff oftentimes ruins men.,1.8945864661654144,4.6008507894736885,1.8699248120300784,96.15947368421057,84.96491228070175,4.660651629072682,20.423558897243108,6.1826913282559595,0.06192431077694272,233,7,47,2,7,69,46,57,0.113,0.8240000000000001,0.062,-0.4655,0,0,0,0,1,0,4.0,0,0,7,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,1,0,11,12,5,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,4,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,1,0,2,1,0,8,2,3,10,1,1,0,1,0,0,12,0,0,2,0,31,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346244208185905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28460632964641563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705269225434445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18181047171706405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20196043867801214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18456636366467724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27244577773278456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253089909047832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6236017113661643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17452502454259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2602631851168522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660679351631618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,tony5001,2020/02/01,"Getting full custody of kids - mother emotionally abusive I've seen 3 lawyers last week, and each one told me completely different things about this issue. We have 2 kids 10 and 16 , my wife is very abusive towards them but only emotionally abusive, she calls them all kinds of names, yells and belittles them, accuses my 16 y/o daughter of smoking and having sex (not happening) and has called her by endearing names like ""whore"" and ""hooker"" on multiple occasions.

Ideally, I would love to have 100% custody of the kids or at least 80/20 split I'd like my kids to live with me in a stable and peaceful environment.

The question is, what are my chances of proving that she is doing all these things and how do courts look upon behavior like this ? She is not physically abusive towards them although she did attack my 16 y/o with a hair brush on few occasions.

Lawyers told me things from ""this is irrelevant, won't fly"" to ""100% custody you got nothing to worry about"" , I'd love to hear some experiences of people trying to get full custody, how hard was it, how much did it cost, how long did it take ?",9.758103632478637,7.427779158653845,9.19448717948718,70.30606837606838,60.29807692307693,12.513675213675215,41.38034188034188,10.980518767755715,4.409081623931623,867,38,161,17,9,278,128,208,0.105,0.7390000000000001,0.155,0.9212,1,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,1,1,4,1,6,9,1,0,4,0,18,5,1,4,3,29,30,15,0,2,4,3,2,3,0,2,0,2,0,4,12,12,0,0,2,0,1,0,3,2,0,1,8,7,20,7,25,20,9,12,0,0,2,4,28,9,0,3,6,106,32,2,0.0,0.5790914064430657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13900653950400793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495353084009552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281118392389051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276604994108441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748902065124319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11952335292054615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276764195592314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09772494074715887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10805048363337702,0.0,0.10945648710078293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13771480576150685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12753257231603918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12724004485408386,0.0,0.09959956394861093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790847187876755,0.0,0.10789428129733684,0.10813257376277044,0.10260718297837726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220558960206341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08982227135715022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11724272349194198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08279778075578648,0.092929513342623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08470980468748861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13687857314561802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187020247619464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435289208746235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335118242808176,0.0,0.08295766113188295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10081793273317158,0.0,0.0,0.09801187849733453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240878896658738,0.0,0.08679888059598698,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Weird-Jelly,2020/02/01,"I need helping leaving my long distance marriage  

My husband (27M) and I (26F)have been together for 3.5 years and just married in August. I have been living in a different city since August 2018 so our entire engagement and marriage has been spent apart.

I moved to another city to complete an internship to get my doctorate degree in August 2018. The plan had always been that I would move back after the internship (10 months), so we got engaged in July 2018 and planned the wedding for August 2019. In April 2019, short version, there were literally no jobs in my home city. I have a very niche career. The internship offered me a full time job. After discussion with my now husband, we agreed I should take the job.

We got married as planned in August and it has been shit ever since. He’s been “looking” for a job here but there has been no progress. I really think he’s afraid to leave what he has. He has a good job he really loves and I’m asking him to give that up. I have seen him three times since we got married and the distance has exacerbated everything. We did not have many problems when we lived together but now I can barely talk to him. We have the same conversation over and over about “when we’re together...” but it hurts me more and more everyday that we are still in this situation and there is no end in sight.

I finally admitted to myself that I don’t think my marriage is going work out, which brings me here. I’m afraid to continue our relationship, him eventually move here, and still not feel 100% sure. If I end things later then I’m a horrible person for making him leave his career for me. Im also afraid to blindside him over FaceTime (the next time I’ll see him is his sisters wedding in March). I think I know deep down we are holding each other back and love isn’t enough.

How do you end a long distance marriage, especially when the partner is not expecting it?

TLDR; haven't lived with my husband in 1.5 years, how do I end a long distance marriage?",4.551954595791802,5.866593098191217,5.167799003322261,82.62950581395351,70.21447028423772,8.319269102990033,29.06690660760428,8.738905477910976,2.186149575489111,1567,59,305,27,28,504,185,387,0.061,0.8590000000000001,0.08,0.8593,6,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,11,1,0,5,23,12,1,3,18,0,35,4,1,3,2,51,61,26,0,6,8,4,1,0,1,2,1,0,1,2,12,25,0,1,6,0,1,5,9,6,0,1,15,5,49,6,37,44,7,64,0,1,4,2,50,21,1,1,38,203,61,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06930156836322095,0.07210764356992093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908700384823518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08101493143107917,0.0,0.0,0.13327160789207673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086083373569813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09054072972876652,0.0,0.08869966715637465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30701836941459903,0.08954242584336103,0.0,0.0,0.07838847629758099,0.0,0.0,0.07788396797879386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043817645460131366,0.0,0.0,0.09493124297326742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045276010392401055,0.0831316859272037,0.049250589158229184,0.07268587446931625,0.20792854850440853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05808603406953576,0.0,0.08692654117607385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927707837678107,0.0,0.09360712749836254,0.0,0.4299808944769189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047625793155639175,0.0,0.0,0.27527968372660616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22956577031983336,0.2300727832284965,0.0727721516455716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15642715873320315,0.0,0.05784588710402772,0.08785912811262979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06917078364725543,0.2763159921016574,0.0,0.06425691889424717,0.0,0.0,0.09216335808570862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07566773008210508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08292143491440299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11103258551716948,0.0,0.0,0.09303986826125754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06905639918791298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08895472823934862,0.2150568940553041,0.09740890540830216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13841277233695684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08167555025700415,0.0,0.06515715676275685,0.06965362100633249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05757271906816747,0.16658371937281755,0.0,0.0,0.1515955486221023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07150316066076479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06308914585419666,0.0,0.0,0.061560420216663886,0.0,0.0,0.11161174952319973
divorce,NarrowReindeer4,2020/02/01,"Is it better to get a mediator or lawyer? Husband cheated on me and we are looking at separating. We have 3 young kids. We are able to agree on most of the issues re. custody, visitation schedule, dividing up possessions,  the house, finances,etc. 
 
Is it better for us to get a mediator or each get our separate lawyer? I'd like to keep our separation/divorce costs down so for that reason mediation is appealing. At the same time, U also don't want to agree to things that I might regret down the road and it would be nice to have my own lawyer look over things to make sure it covers all my bases.

What would you recommend? I live in Alberta,  Canada by the way, not sure if thay makes a difference with pricing/rules wise",3.919303675048358,5.535475695035462,5.226112185686656,80.4245454545455,72.19148936170214,8.815215989684074,27.711798839458407,9.339509955726095,2.3864978723404247,567,21,112,13,11,189,98,141,0.049,0.772,0.179,0.9553,0,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,6,1,0,2,2,9,1,0,8,0,12,0,0,3,3,25,21,7,0,5,4,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,9,7,0,1,1,0,1,1,2,2,0,0,0,2,12,7,22,17,5,15,0,1,2,0,10,10,0,5,4,76,21,3,0.18054810158375806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14438425160629886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3193602475299719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18863433845046887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20135885900115802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829867936882867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20832826837551954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884453101840139,0.0,0.16047944837181166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08820668259695022,0.0,0.1594272814930183,0.0,0.30322986625803977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410345195722874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915330040004616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18563351867195912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3403288980873536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398962722468091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10527904996286117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21717713590384946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10649194815411166,0.1433106792148056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.256512382374002,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,losttttsoullll,2020/02/01,Who files for divorce first? Is it true that the judge would typically lean with the individual that didn’t file? Does it matter who files?,3.1925641025641016,6.113868000000004,3.674615384615386,84.15371794871797,80.53846153846153,6.5435897435897425,20.2051282051282,7.793537801064563,0.7921435897435893,112,3,22,2,3,35,21,26,0.0,0.838,0.162,0.5329999999999999,0,0,0,0,1,0,3.0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,14,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6197306131864782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6023751384441363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5030687424834893,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,LeafInsanity,2020/02/01,"Pushing Through New here, so sorry if the post is a little sappy. I'm currently in the process of divorce. My wife has decided to end our marriage. I'm still very much in love with her and have told her this. She has said she is unhappy for about 6-8 months, but she refuses to tell me why she is unhappy. During that time I tried everything I could think of or find on the internet to try and fix our marriage, but she refused to put in any effort. There is lots of circumstantial evidence that she is cheating on me with the guy she is moving in with, though she vehemently denies any cheating. I know she has been out to dinner with him alone at least once, and once again in which she met his parents. She bought a privacy screen for her phone and has become much more guarded over it. She bought lingerie that she swears was just to make herself feel better, but since we're not having sex who's seeing it? There's also a lot of time that she can't really account for other than saying that she was at school studying or at work, but then she has let it slip that she'd gone to dinner with this guy.  I'm in a lot of emotional turmoil and pain over the whole situation. I know from experience (child of divorced parents) and research that men often get the raw end of the deal when kids are involved. I don't want to come off as being vindictive or malicious, but I feel like I have to protect myself and the best interest of my kids in this situation. Some things I need to know, if anyone has any insight, are whether or not we can make it out of this civilly and if this is going to stop hurting quite so much. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks for your time. Posting on a throwaway because I know that she surfs Reddit from time to time and I don't want her to feel called out.",5.536595238095238,5.437356072222222,6.009603174603175,82.51,67.44444444444444,9.07936507936508,30.198412698412696,8.704169506293173,2.107257936507936,1406,47,292,20,21,455,189,360,0.113,0.7979999999999999,0.08900000000000001,-0.7437,3,1,0,0,2,0,31.0,3,1,0,5,14,11,2,1,13,0,30,5,0,2,0,61,58,29,0,7,16,3,3,1,0,0,1,2,0,6,21,19,2,5,11,0,3,6,5,5,0,0,9,7,44,6,56,45,11,43,0,1,2,2,55,20,0,12,16,211,65,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09535259105122997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10106190865616473,0.0,0.07803349952876673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26542693278132795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06822916329907132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059482954261071426,0.1077677984047308,0.0,0.0,0.10240262657015443,0.08630026283299208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09963856907037104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08405524653508094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07790850053474999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10059915958505412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10976269051411183,0.17285119479165678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769727326686473,0.09545050703895162,0.0,0.0,0.14801588032368934,0.06971010734118982,0.0,0.0,0.08918499074015565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050980744289979014,0.0,0.05545611616936776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19323613317480134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10445981357141568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145063897133992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09978063805084632,0.0,0.047671931310290606,0.09779930223536816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488732803557097,0.0880684153734959,0.0,0.13026882682986507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07788623606398949,0.10371051405573732,0.21519429805812834,0.07235322906364877,0.0,0.0942419334138664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20783585795856094,0.0,0.0,0.10383041488345096,0.0,0.2166987763666065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869064795815868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09809335433757024,0.0,0.10378675700798176,0.0,0.0,0.06251129241564186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09281950866351077,0.07759834800065021,0.0,0.09875466201313077,0.07775743927244483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071795216796662,0.2193646681829049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10923115354492917,0.0,0.0,0.07792632446874992,0.08158000398762441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852879190540655,0.08983718230844873,0.0,0.0,0.06482682646847479,0.06252436942960411,0.09587039105453816,0.0,0.2844940706576181,0.0,0.0,0.0932404483415523,0.0,0.1324988067071299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08051249034485483,0.11510866723554496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08804942828769427,0.10894292215447933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07103831774024431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwmea2019,2020/02/01,"Oh a long vent/rant/advice in California.. Good morning all of you loved people.  

Please forgive sloppiness.
A little about my (30f) situation, married 10 years, divorced 3 years, two minor children.   I’m not perfect but I’ve been pretty amicable with the ex, although his main goal is to make me sound like a monster.  

 “I only wanted money”  X (35m) was unemployed most of our marriage, I only requested court ordered child support, no alimony, no closing costs.   He did the ditch your wife and kids move so, I did get the house (I did make all the payments for it) we each had our own vehicle.  “I drug his name through the mud” with the exception of a few close friends, I didn’t tell anyone about the details of our divorce.  “She took my kids from me, won’t let me see them”.  He is an alcoholic, in the beginning I did not allow him overnights until he had a home (I guess I’m the worst for that).  Once he got a place he only requested 48 hours a month, which I agreed to, to this day it’s my fault he only has two days.  

“She cheated on me for years”.  For years I was told “go fuck who you want!” every time I left the home, being told nobody would ever love me like him, taking pictures to prove my location..   His email was leaked, (Ashley Madison fiasco). I found another online dating account, spied, made a fake male account, and messaged his now girlfriend, telling her our situation, and just asking if they have been seeing each other, I was very clear I had no malice in mind, I just wanted to know, she wouldn’t respond. After the leak, I did mess up, drink too much and make out with a stranger, not my best moment, but I am not a saint.  

Sooo.   Divorced!   So happy, I’m seeing a great guy, kids are happy and well adjusted.  The older child does not like going to his fathers, the youngest is disappointed at his flaking on visitation, and asked if she has to go anymore.  In 2019, he had taken around 70% of his visitation, zero doctor or school appointments, extra days offered, doesn’t call on birthdays or holidays...  

I have primary custody, joint legal.  Has anyone ever modified to full legal/physical and kept the visitation schedule?  I believe that the X only takes visitation because he believes it is linked to how much child support he has to pay.  He is flaking again this month, and I am considering requesting we either switch to one day a month, or offering him to sign off his parental rights really hates that he pays child support, (especially now that his wages are garnished).  I have the money for a retainer with my lawyer, Has anyone modified visitation, terminated parental rights?  I’ve got a to do list, I feel like it’s going through a divorce all over again.  Should I just keep it the same, and continue keeping track?  I’m tired of the kids being upset, canceling plans I have because he flaked, finding last minute sitters, having to look at their perfect faces and telling them “I’m sorry baby, dad can’t this weekend”.    

TLDR:  Ex flakes on visitation/constantly complains.  Has anyone modified or terminated parental rights in California?",4.130589976891972,6.143829804159446,5.02914753032929,80.41652314413636,72.44887348353552,7.789269208549973,29.005235413056035,8.536127082880203,2.3202039572501434,2395,98,434,43,48,779,302,577,0.122,0.758,0.11900000000000001,-0.461,6,0,3,0,4,0,102.0,6,3,4,5,18,29,3,1,34,0,46,9,1,6,9,78,92,23,0,8,18,8,1,4,2,4,4,1,2,11,15,22,2,4,8,3,8,11,13,10,1,4,25,6,65,19,53,60,17,67,1,1,4,3,95,25,1,8,34,276,80,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07040109064776666,0.0,0.07699370308561472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07554498183904981,0.0,0.0,0.07144882470613133,0.20150086986764626,0.0,0.0,0.06413491490390856,0.13470383915026915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08783536574650071,0.0,0.0,0.1623390510830348,0.0756062999049657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07356553037314101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18585107274156876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07374063944915656,0.06304666242845745,0.0,0.0,0.07057622152903432,0.0835487937390494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13033682206355945,0.06070063218133617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0364278841056993,0.051468633750664565,0.0,0.0,0.06584740433686348,0.0,0.0,0.07899311947845501,0.05566143286760506,0.06660401629320065,0.0376402986062656,0.0,0.1637782893310219,0.0604275419978653,0.11524120001802522,0.07942935965790872,0.07936518315162415,0.07133542139800941,0.0,0.15338550492441666,0.0,0.07112906779446257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445330954878662,0.0,0.07094935960427662,0.08312972624176597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807299474626613,0.0,0.0,0.03959379504072581,0.058725915733254926,0.0,0.0,0.0782766034782783,0.07367042328755907,0.0,0.14078929247876304,0.07220755583098203,0.0,0.06375715076512635,0.06049926869482936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13004602026144266,0.06817028568492924,0.1442708695975585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07274444778126506,0.0,0.1725157933802224,0.07657194440832409,0.10592205285981328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07672508378999245,0.04881924481189102,0.2739655954973374,0.0,0.0,0.2399908072248781,0.0,0.0,0.049946612762528236,0.0,0.07527121037130832,0.07908327031915674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07329519763044487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04615357711148307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18457693047239207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07291292072535975,0.17223051215723587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16196216295123672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064796412448913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452658705789627,0.0,0.0,0.10833705600955733,0.0,0.18891031027962404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042009750624098535,0.08280460051702279,0.0,0.13768329068698876,0.08004413477050294,0.0,0.0,0.14075409414170142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05944429059091045,0.1274812088541879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06477669363560623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051178374136766264,0.0,0.0,0.18557728667391846
divorce,autocircuscop,2020/02/01,"Anyone in a marriage with ‘nothing wrong’? There’s nothing that wrong in my marriage, but it’s just not working. I.e there’s not any cheating or abuse or addiction or anything.

We’ve been together since I (F35) and he M(36) were 21 and 22. We’ve been married for the past 5 years. No kids. I feel really done with it after years of squabbling over maintenance on our house, schedules and emptying the cat’s litter box. Our personalities don’t seem to mesh anymore and we can’t get on the same page about anything. Now I feel like he’s lazy around the house and I do all the cleaning, and don’t get enough affection in return. He feels nagged and doesn’t mind a messy house as much. 

We’ve been in counseling but aren’t getting anywhere in my opinion. We aren’t intimate anymore and the real problem is I don’t want to be intimate with him. I feel very checked out and my worries are all around telling people and dealing with life going forward. I’m having trouble seeing any way forward as a couple. Neither of us deserves a sexless marriage with a mismatched partner, but I don’t see any way to fix things and I’m not even sure if I feel willing. 

Since he wants to work through it, the decision calls on me. So I’m going to have to decide whether to keep trying and continue counseling or pull the plug. 

Has anyone been in a similar situation? What did you do?

TL; DR-  No ‘drastic’ problems in my marriage, but no progress in counseling and I feel checked out- what to do? Can anyone relate?",2.709789346246975,4.95017919322034,3.678928571428572,87.4517584745763,77.40677966101694,6.383777239709443,28.840799031476998,7.447530270364453,1.7607409200968531,1182,54,230,16,28,379,158,295,0.145,0.794,0.061,-0.9782,2,0,0,0,1,0,35.0,5,1,0,3,9,9,2,0,14,0,26,3,0,1,3,60,46,26,0,5,14,0,6,1,1,1,3,0,1,3,7,24,0,1,9,0,2,5,15,7,0,0,7,8,21,2,37,37,7,31,0,0,2,0,21,18,0,7,11,146,28,2,0.0,0.12343267667469912,0.0,0.1135682765778942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125317400204331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20663112607183587,0.2185288831715724,0.0,0.1714575430043612,0.18547918376016004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10637633609506746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11526983803960092,0.0,0.0,0.1074018837358359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066092118274604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10764266033530127,0.0,0.06880790748914525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3160500432638625,0.07442404961187613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632845043711135,0.0,0.11841234789298047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3606187158577327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09259727935574537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0735832762022195,0.050895606336767714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051890442028976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07658206117554775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19992122860368947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994487076434642,0.07222319528028215,0.09096331365669827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993665855919776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11857620137694855,0.06673843586660612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16603111769089132,0.09483880269476834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17235253554596686,0.11709928137128728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09818556322556207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09105526531333992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06921055114226572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07072932563151542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12531207034296962,0.0,0.0,0.08595691219457671,0.12289255443497522,0.16538166266835053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15168415271454444,0.10579677193589578,0.0,0.0,0.2278023298124821,0.0,0.1341731087827713
divorce,SDlongwinter,2020/02/01,"Signed papers one year ago today Wow, I can't believe it's been a year since my XH and I signed our divorce papers. I was crushed, he was the one who wanted the divorce. One year later, I'm so happy to not be married anymore and didn't realize how bad our marriage was until I got out of it. We are amicable, share custody of our dogs and help each other out if needed. There is life and happiness after divorce.",2.539428571428573,4.106030270588239,4.4163025210084035,85.02764705882355,75.70588235294117,6.26890756302521,26.26050420168067,6.868970318607317,1.207168067226891,323,12,64,3,7,110,61,85,0.031,0.753,0.217,0.9523,0,0,0,0,3,0,9.0,4,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,3,0,9,1,0,1,0,16,13,8,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,8,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,3,6,0,9,4,7,6,1,10,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,1,8,45,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19722168210986324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22064774588753008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18576771030888448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506671441994929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17794352196789318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4736840116348179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14912863414608624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571494511760516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16497160983074688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4522897207048476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840439007867432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21089206837385907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312288503572832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4298238301428304
divorce,nightsky67,2020/02/01,"POST DIVORCE GOALS from chumplady  The proper mindset is: “I’m fine by myself. Really FINE. However, I’m open to being persuaded that a relationship with you could be a good thing. Demonstrate your worthiness.”",3.5500000000000007,6.7072873333333325,4.450000000000003,73.84500000000001,92.33333333333334,7.955555555555558,28.222222222222207,8.344100000000001,3.517922222222221,168,8,24,5,6,54,32,36,0.0,0.794,0.20600000000000002,0.7598,1,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,2,0,1,0,3,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,4,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,16,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3867146297578252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40625039547284586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4638740930361805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3102874671733107,0.0,0.0,0.5200113990763536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3217810896636257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Stabfacenotback,2020/02/01,"Some advice after divorce about mail and other belongings. TL;DR:  forward your ex's mail promptly.  Return any little simple thing that you find of theirs promptly.  It will help erase bitterness spewing from your ex.

My first ex threw away all my sketches.  He also never forwarded the credit card bill we were ordered to share during discovery, that he was ordered to pay, that we were ordered to split before final.  He took himself off that card and I didn't figure out that he never paid the bill until I got collections calls.   
 He did this as a vindictive attempt to hurt me and it worked.  He succeeded in me never being cooperative during the rest of the process.  He truly turned the split into a contentious, acrimonious divorce.

The second ex was not the father of my children.  He shares the same first name but different last name of my youngest.  My youngest lived with us half the time.  When I moved there, my son never received mail at the physical address, and I kept my P.O. box.  When I moved out of there, I changed my address to only my P.O. Box.  Everything seemed fine.  (He also held my tools hostage, but I already complained about that here in a previous post).

Anyway, my son is a senior in HS.  He is the ""3 sport valedictorian"" type and he is actively pursuing scholarships for college.  Fortunately for him, his teachers have also nominated him for various scholarships.  They do this as a kind surprise and he doesn't find out anything about it until he's been chosen as a recipient.

The latest one of these, the teacher must have looked up his mailing info on his personal school record that apparently had not been updated, even though I sent in the change of address.  I'm thinking he had the address separate from the official records. This teacher submitted a nomination and my son won the $1000 scholarship.  The association sent a congratulatory letter and an acceptance form.  The letter was sent to the old address 1/6/2020.  The local post office added my ex's last name to the letter and erroneously forwarded it to my ex husband 1/11/2020.

I work at the same place as my ex.  He opens.  I close.  I never see him.  It is common for me to find something my sons accidentally boxed up while we moved, that was his.  I always bring the items into the office where we work, I put a note on it, I text him to expect it in the office for him to bring back to his house.

In this case, I think there was an attempt on his part to do the same.  When I got to work, I saw a letter addressed to my son to the old address, with my ex's last name scribbled and a forwarding sticker to ex's new P.O. Box.  The letter is unopened, but I know it's for my son.

When I opened it up, there was the congrat letter and instructions to have the acceptance form returned by January 24th.  It was already the 31st.

So basically, my ex held on to that letter for nearly three weeks!  The association gifting the scholarship was nice and honored the scholarship anyway, but did express confusion as to why we would be late on accepting free money, as if we were blase' or unappreciative or something.  We got it ironed out, so no big deal.

But the point is, it did not help me try to even be reasonably nice or understanding towards my ex.  He clearly doesn't even respect my son - who has been nothing but respectful to him - to do a simple mundane task of bringing in his mail in a timely fashion.  He's just spiteful for zero reason.

I don't live that way.  That poison will eat you from the inside out.  Folks, don't take that low road.",4.947008928571432,6.4099226592261935,5.6850595238095245,78.7301785714286,69.4315476190476,8.461904761904764,30.232142857142854,8.89984518584905,2.5135642857142853,2785,111,511,50,49,907,298,672,0.055999999999999994,0.851,0.09300000000000001,0.9813,2,0,2,0,2,0,91.0,8,4,2,11,26,24,3,1,52,0,44,2,0,2,8,82,71,41,0,4,14,20,0,0,0,4,1,0,7,2,32,31,1,3,15,1,12,17,14,7,0,7,34,4,74,18,86,30,11,96,0,2,3,0,98,44,0,7,37,361,106,17,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08390012893830884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894944231586424,0.20598351653979127,0.0714413172396678,0.0,0.0,0.0583868609089202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0706543952979803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066707589700196,0.06602004133740763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07305943076963706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08767133331218364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18165424242782813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08851655070114298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08970406846524724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878548857841578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701265867985033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07716426426917898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09405401021921954,0.2354198917921619,0.1460627344408628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20600713962428813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11509855493008747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09906941335875083,0.091913515205945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940862481180542,0.04718569667754501,0.20995890220047256,0.09685235448406396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08605297430476258,0.15162961199700284,0.0,0.07209968478422428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737626342065431,0.0,0.0,0.33109761620992945,0.08292286845745776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08238373924361947,0.0,0.1801885274494004,0.0,0.05818007784682605,0.0652994110613721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09297660632737688,0.0,0.0,0.07496850599977457,0.08970406846524724,0.0,0.08116422444166854,0.0,0.16445780406612506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631170885006799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17655408877495155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689358920209338,0.06841826854359706,0.07816253677463324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13219644543231213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06455505791434066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05704070586235265,0.1100295775730276,0.08435573781650361,0.0,0.10012979803573198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09539217597637616,0.0582924220744438,0.09338961175512958,0.0,0.08938193572390067,0.10327744581520433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06815064047027461,0.0688706710353473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07747412319727033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500246276376428,0.0,0.0,0.060991557792917726,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,kittenpops,2020/02/01,"I think my marriage is falling apart I feel sick to my stomach and I’m so anxious I could throw up. Things have been getting worse and worse between my husband and I. I don’t know how to communicate with him. I seem to always make him miserable and he makes me miserable. I don’t care about assets or money or who gets what other than we have an 18 month old. I can’t bear the thought of not seeing her everyday. I don’t know what the fuck to do. How to move forward, how to cope. Please, someone who’s been through this give me something to help. Anything.",0.9320334448160528,3.249109895652176,2.2252173913043483,94.86484949832777,84.82608695652173,4.929765886287626,23.628762541806026,6.297961479604792,0.4931204013377926,438,17,95,4,13,140,77,115,0.193,0.726,0.081,-0.9289,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,5,4,1,2,3,0,11,3,1,5,0,21,26,10,0,1,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,7,6,0,0,6,0,1,4,5,3,0,0,3,2,18,1,14,22,0,9,0,2,1,1,11,3,1,3,4,64,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17212785486061344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336980295525133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17023187658083153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109121681839473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16516448904305445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10459691850534257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19124291831318488,0.2161563506907256,0.1984433003377857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13865692937330115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22737466393465855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761673511094723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651172888028787,0.21986425030434373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21706951872338034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22707512620571466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648442421376259,0.1883216926186675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752756391931388,0.15925441643332044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13743159727702178,0.1325504336330233,0.0,0.1642273244167089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4216252441104789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,bjb1519,2020/02/01,Bad dreams Me and my husband are officially separating this weekend. It’s been a very long road to this point. We’ve been married ten years have two kids together. The divorce is my idea I haven’t been happy in a long time. Last night I had a terrible dream of him having sex with a younger woman and them being together and her trying to be friends with me. I HATED her I wanted to murder her and I woke up feeling SO upset and torn. I wanted to go to my husband and grab him and be like no mine! I’m so confused now wondering if the dream was a sign I shouldn’t move forward with the divorce or just me being scared of the future. Thoughts?,1.6046327356853638,3.6771656691729326,3.305263157894739,89.58761133603242,80.2781954887218,5.8968189705031815,23.764603817235397,7.010146845296331,0.8576898785425096,506,18,106,6,13,168,85,133,0.21,0.6729999999999999,0.11800000000000001,-0.9491,0,0,0,0,2,0,9.0,0,0,1,0,4,10,2,3,9,0,15,1,0,0,0,22,24,11,1,4,3,2,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,3,10,0,0,4,4,0,3,3,7,0,2,7,2,20,3,12,12,0,16,0,0,0,1,13,5,0,4,11,75,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19032594497008165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11525668348089226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17611102888928926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12954734345601387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426534648613371,0.0,0.2250501409659055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573240404190747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858069566201992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11136322709301133,0.0,0.0,0.4034512531146435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422712319655675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21391250473366888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21548327846864604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282143785216313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18096419110323608,0.13291753418188249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15476082356342413,0.0,0.2226707709684359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880798721524104,0.2688976992832415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24719843598128324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14679017953222415
divorce,LeoraWrite,2020/02/01,"Is this denial? Lately I've had the pleasure (sarcasm) of my brain thinking of all of the sly comments/actions my husband (M49) would make toward/about me (F41). And now I'm questioning if I've been abused and have just put up with it because I felt I didn't deserve better. 

The most recent episode is probably the hardest to digest. It sounded like he was admitting to purposely putting all the financial strain on me by purposely applying for jobs he knew he wouldn't get. This was him getting back at me for moving us up north (he agreed to it, btw), always talking about work, zoning out while on my laptop and not hearing him when he would come in and just start talking to me (even after I asked him to get my attention first. Hello hyperfocus!) He only apologized for that and some other things he said/did prior to my ADHD diagnosis. Now suddenly he feels bad after reading on how ADHD affects women/girls. Of course he didn't elaborate on what ""some other things"" were and I was too dumbfounded at what I was hearing to ask what he meant. And now that he's working, we're splitting the bills. But he did this for SIX YEARS! Was he sitting back and laughing the whole time while I busted my ass to keep our heads above water, feeling like a failure in life with equally eroding self-esteem?

I know I need to ask him these questions. But from previous experience I know he will deny saying/doing it. He often does this. I can ask about something and he will lie to me (ex: did you give cat his meds? Yes I give it with his treats. Cat gets sick. Are you still giving cat his meds? Yeah but not every day. Then later its when he thinks about it to him finally admitting to not giving the cat his meds). His other thing is to tell me I'm projecting, especially when cat gets sick. Yet I'm usually right about whats going on with him. How is that projecting?",3.484262295081969,5.2612827814207686,4.449967213114757,84.8880655737705,73.64480874316939,7.284371584699452,26.1344262295082,8.021203637495839,1.5978727868852458,1462,51,284,22,30,474,197,366,0.068,0.875,0.057,-0.7001,1,0,1,0,1,0,52.0,2,2,0,4,21,8,0,1,9,2,24,8,3,4,2,53,59,21,0,5,9,2,3,2,0,5,4,3,0,0,25,15,2,1,14,1,1,5,6,2,0,2,15,6,38,6,45,39,7,47,0,0,0,1,53,14,1,7,29,186,63,7,0.0,0.10922924170386868,0.0,0.0,0.2215872391159126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07670887999883239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3447381911591208,0.0,0.0,0.14177575733884115,0.0769742120089035,0.05619773960835168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0815339412621407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10291374396673238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07941291612319458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059454469752006474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08067547480944495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06089016102338043,0.0,0.07767345857553883,0.0,0.0,0.09017882192799352,0.0,0.0,0.09322735679674037,0.06586005199466477,0.08851618206027068,0.10098886837586277,0.0,0.07841616869225553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408255128077256,0.3537454951613799,0.05239330182724678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09461281504402604,0.0,0.20780807502732487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09148365194942884,0.08194208276407383,0.0,0.0,0.10132965303415044,0.0,0.10399354217950006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06511602663237273,0.0900780674290162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06153707141998254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072045781887862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09798263277193928,0.0,0.06835719538905627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07011411436182126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993956542397509,0.0,0.0,0.18535141210967995,0.2065462216686971,0.0,0.0922142444496034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09102580870806354,0.0,0.0,0.07872915568225672,0.08769313231405672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961735422139954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07097182457400737,0.0,0.0,0.0652520587117486,0.0,0.07362249144368324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14819652926469273,0.08057750873808428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18373941705323396,0.11814235779075395,0.0,0.0,0.05375632028216228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11089237298140922,0.0,0.1015334859276492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10292605751454953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342298119578868,0.0,0.0,0.13097726269473053,0.0,0.0,0.05936688454069984
divorce,luvbeee,2020/02/01,"Wait, so it was all a lie? Divorce will be final in May, but I’m sitting here just thinking of the good times, the amazing restaurants, vacations, tours, laughs. But then I think of the 4 year affair behind my back that I had no idea about until after we had our baby and I think HOLY SHIT, none of it was real, because he had a 4 year relationship behind my back so how the hell could anything have been real?? I’m having a hard time wrapping my head around this, how did he lie straight to my face for years and say “going out with the guys for a few hours” when really he was going to cheat, then the next day we were at Disneyland together lol. Everything was a lie?",3.344191176470588,4.462209742647062,4.37723529411765,87.90305882352942,72.8970588235294,7.2047058823529415,23.894117647058824,7.554174236665415,0.9428905882352954,519,14,110,6,10,169,92,136,0.142,0.733,0.125,-0.5797,0,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,3,0,0,0,11,6,3,0,11,1,16,3,3,2,1,22,24,12,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,4,7,0,1,4,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,10,2,10,3,17,10,3,24,1,0,0,0,11,5,2,1,16,77,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14392186236206247,0.1556916603866092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.268963516351025,0.0,0.1066130200237031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13963765974152162,0.0,0.0,0.11279137948152135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15718236034122635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915865001219178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987912031958688,0.14669177250527318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731713563271242,0.0,0.0,0.1566695852435998,0.0,0.17949045664620686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17223416631497332,0.0,0.0,0.19743266917510674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18600046372611215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3981325623814709,0.11204079812118503,0.0,0.0,0.1877694020818646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390817643805876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17952493319267185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3361927092950539,0.0,0.0,0.2039627817981152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33787566338390024
divorce,multicoloredflamingo,2020/02/01,"I’m not divorcing, my parents are I(17 f) don’t even know what to say, my heart just aches and damn now that my dad left it has become clearer the distance between us. We used to hang out when I was little and he would even play with me and my toys, watch kids’ tv series. He never opened up tho, just said silly things and snarky comments. He rarely ever apologized, praised me or said “I love you”, but i thought it was fine, he was my dad and I thought he had my back even tho we didn’t have many conversations. But a couple months ago he told my mom he wanted a divorce... he didn’t tell me anything, he didn’t even mentioned it to me, and a few days after that he left... merry Christmas indeed. I’m trying to be strong, my mom is devastated but she’s trying to be strong too. I’m trying to be mature and “get over it” but I just can’t, I can’t imagine myself having a friendship with my dad any time soon or keeping in touch, it just feels awkward bc we were never close so why be close now? And I keep hanging on to the fact that he didn’t even think to talk to me about it, he always avoided conflict but damn I think this is something worth of a little conversation. My friends told me that maybe I should reach out to him and ask him about it but honestly I’m scared that I might just feel angrier or cry in the middle of the conversation, and what would he even say? He told my mom he wants to be happy and that she doesn’t make him happy, but that he loves her. Someone shouldn’t seek happiness in someone else, instead he should seek happiness within himself, ofc with the help of his loved ones... but he didn’t want help, he didn’t want us to make changes as a family, he just.. decided to leave... 
Maybe this is childish of me and I wouldn’t get in the way of their relationship but if my dad does start dating someone else I hope that it goes wrong and that he doesn’t feel happy bc he should realize that his partner should not be responsible for his happiness, if he does realize that I hope he comes back to my mom and I as a friend and a father, and finds happiness 
I do not wish for them to get back together, I hope that my mom finds a nice date that has her back, listens to her, supports her, loves her and is also her friend 
I hope my parents and I can be happy again but I don’t have hopes for it at all",4.201666666666668,4.258932746913583,4.9559835390946505,88.3845925925926,70.2962962962963,8.043786008230454,26.488065843621396,7.675431598112923,1.1591132510288067,1809,50,411,19,30,586,204,486,0.084,0.672,0.244,0.9985,2,1,1,0,1,0,51.0,5,1,2,3,30,35,2,3,15,0,45,5,1,3,5,99,89,40,0,20,24,12,4,0,4,9,0,5,0,2,27,30,0,4,14,3,1,3,19,6,0,1,18,10,65,29,44,55,2,43,1,0,1,4,91,19,2,11,20,265,92,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05226824966753992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04715368918887227,0.049062979285220985,0.0,0.0,0.04009771177221299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04852255343060555,0.0,0.055123613889037186,0.0,0.0,0.1813594735203528,0.0,0.0,0.06512138121746533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0623763578113337,0.05079248007258863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06524282078475271,0.06476945955717389,0.03802706307145787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10320002454634757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09851412900875099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336719849651845,0.053336539628547314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05558624694155038,0.0,0.08944228899060971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10778451201265032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366668991734507,0.0,0.09241916043945378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5021483220056635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987291980663479,0.07904498733343919,0.0,0.0,0.2928240222063424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10482026876947788,0.0,0.0,0.032405209591567674,0.0,0.0,0.06243462667599265,0.12812965967119602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11819533734470244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21287014992054434,0.0,0.07871818909095595,0.05978049439970432,0.11847502833248692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06255175089784372,0.0,0.3452910830729135,0.047064701565749927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09095372881212208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03995570160941008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309456427060922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0633055374327326,0.0,0.0,0.1121770083006348,0.09378147604013874,0.059033500354965324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498806522959451,0.04539356015837885,0.0,0.0,0.04173519943116464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06691193181149108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04739323038979281,0.05153735319993614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03917322745814485,0.07556382068260098,0.0,0.09362205579624616,0.034382528183094035,0.0,0.0,0.1690286023622915,0.0,0.12009856511166538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14185346464604087,0.050926179920982334,0.0,0.0,0.13911456875695485,0.046803076858877565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05320606405977305,0.0,0.06780597719057893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837730224522158,0.06446815069350102,0.0,0.0
divorce,alphabetsoup_girl,2020/02/01,"One last Hoo-rah ends with pregnancy during divorce. Buckle in....cause you'll need to understand part of our situation in order to answer the question....(when) do I tell him I'm pregnant? 

So. Divorce was thrown around in our relationship for 2.5 years. This past year, I finally followed through with his idle threats and filed for divorce. We have a 2 year old daughter. Custody will be 50/50 because....California. Trying to resolve things via mediation while consulting lawyers. There isn't a whole lot of money involved, but we have a house. 30k in equity...he wants the house...can't afford it but his parents will help him. I make significantly more than he does because I have been finacially supporting him through masters programs for the past 4 years. Moved 4 times because of it. 3 different states. I eventually want to move back to my home state, but California is VERY much against that without mutual consent for the stability of the child. He is unwilling to relocate at this time. So because I have been the breadwinner, I will owe him 1300 a month in spousal support and child support. Lovely. I can't afford the mortgage with those payments. He wants me to calculate cost to sell the house and deduct that from my half of the equity...but he has no intention to sell. So until we come to an agreement, I still live in the house with him per advice from my lawyer. Once I leave, he wants to get a roommate to live in the house...with our 2 year old daughter that he will have half the time. We can't have a conversation about these things without it turning into an argument. He's been verbally abusive to me (since before the divorce). Likes to punch walls and break doors. He is controlling, and I dont want to be controlled anymore. 

Well this month, we decided to just have one last Hoo-rah. We weren't exactly careful, but I wasn't concerned because I wasn't ovulating for 6 more days. A week later, I knew I was pregnant. I could just feel it. 3 pregnancy tests later ...it's confirmed. 

We can't even have a conversation without it turning into a fight, how do I tell him I'm pregnant? I'm pro choice, but I personally won't get an abortion. The way he treats me stresses me out, so it makes me not want to involve him at all with the pregnancy. There is a chance I could miscarry, then the risk goes down at 12 weeks. We are definitely still getting divorced. I want to try to move back to my home state where I have the support of family and friends. Right now, we've been here less than a year and I don't have many friends. But if I move, I pretty much give up my parental rights with my 2 year old because he is against moving. Gahhhh. I don't know what to do. Babies are beautiful, and my body is creating and caring for one. Having him involved is only going to stress me out. Am I wrong for waiting to tell him? History tells me he won't treat me any different in knowing. He wasn't a nice person to me last pregnancy either.....",2.8574678724416955,5.176218287958116,3.876930350626687,85.82284911946695,77.28970331588133,7.169017927970808,27.521148659368553,8.180337850089996,1.9406721815008727,2321,98,455,43,55,748,264,573,0.07400000000000001,0.8,0.127,0.9857,9,0,0,0,6,0,101.0,11,1,0,4,20,22,2,3,32,0,53,2,1,6,2,71,89,24,0,11,14,4,1,1,2,7,0,0,3,4,18,29,0,3,8,0,5,8,18,6,1,5,11,1,65,16,73,67,10,70,0,0,0,1,65,21,0,2,36,293,83,5,0.0,0.07388906290134728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06093966416451169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04240846516488528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06184658991044811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055515619708481165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09590543419038268,0.0,0.19007722895726936,0.0,0.05306567738919397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692703957514493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12716493022355904,0.06406320419533529,0.0,0.053719552228643865,0.0,0.0,0.13988912131241255,0.09958235651084812,0.0,0.0,0.04021848899383748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13031054601792175,0.0,0.0,0.05457362094439962,0.0,0.0730880868149817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05523443906930039,0.0,0.0,0.041189674740462576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05878957458866856,0.0,0.03153222490162503,0.0,0.0,0.06831479127164641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963618317459964,0.0,0.09774509748410534,0.05982354801544339,0.03544190103249245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04180009835513796,0.0,0.1251088330968531,0.0,0.0,0.21587297381258905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06854531799378827,0.15250065941918034,0.0,0.06603261317036797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030467042920332962,0.0,0.11013400991656236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0530181506945066,0.05628436099317021,0.0,0.08325456571863664,0.06322552839651881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09955389814687526,0.3314059863087474,0.0916868512902427,0.04624081455728695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19631605734131236,0.06641375575485467,0.1267748136951382,0.0474292975538379,0.0,0.0,0.13849178623312602,0.06753223429385312,0.11906363877843106,0.0,0.10890461400603252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06344482290506273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06985998678947823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06695371282559877,0.0,0.10651403315876347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05158669358570677,0.07009777637528253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09960513899719846,0.0,0.14287148213878995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28307174688299563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180294038009896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08286140922415917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10909177987636744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08467974172398636,0.1356644298126497,0.0,0.06492129647850181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05145538331546634,0.2574800753968453,0.04950024744191563,0.10004646278349866,0.0,0.05607114775524477,0.0,0.0,0.06962521957717555,0.0,0.18034493664210646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0681833252346465,0.0,0.2811146885541915
divorce,treasure_horses_,2020/02/01,"My ex friends parents are divorcing Around 2 years ago, my best friend of about 4 ended are relationship, although she (ab 2 months ago) apologized for everything she did to me and talked ab how blinded she was. Basically, we are on speaking terms now, and a few hours ago she posted on her story that she is moving (I now live 3 hours away from her). I slid up and asked her why; surprisingly she’s was very open, she seems to have never lost trust. But that’s when she told me that her parents were divorcing, and my heart dropped. When my parents divorced, I didn’t care, I never saw love between them. But my friends parents showed what a happy, in love couple was like. They taught me what two happy married people are. My friend said they aren’t happy anymore, which is understandable. But my heart hurts, and I feel terrible. I never felt that when my parents divorced and now I can’t imagine what that friend is going through.",5.368277467411545,6.359213458100559,5.257667597765362,83.93592411545626,68.05027932960894,7.977839851024211,30.00046554934823,8.07648339933343,1.9359940409683425,735,27,143,9,12,228,101,179,0.077,0.708,0.214,0.9791,7,0,0,0,2,0,26.0,1,0,3,2,9,18,0,0,2,0,16,5,2,1,3,21,30,14,0,0,3,6,2,1,5,0,1,2,0,0,9,9,0,0,5,1,0,3,6,3,0,1,12,6,34,15,14,18,3,30,0,2,2,2,40,7,0,1,19,98,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25825981022404226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963120017529864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08645295513339359,0.09078943177676513,0.0,0.09124275575000608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019162193210855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09901523269386243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10745591968053166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08601508021979049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08728071569535208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04910427081587281,0.0,0.09324564644584253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3751541079904199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0551927024483192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101422258502609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23016352660032935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912774597674792,0.0,0.1039636347890998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04744549206997917,0.0,0.08575433966129985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10601251362674688,0.0,0.17530018979184336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07751628041838635,0.10321789440787292,0.0,0.0,0.22470326528626253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5391736706006207,0.0,0.0,0.06732732519710079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09300934167210524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10426518448899384,0.0,0.0,0.0923786207353284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08840986452558129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07805737239608547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927975609713861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09486726071053367,0.10110015813802063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08013006012547462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08763119799780841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625388872139107
divorce,aLj1220,2020/02/01,"Last name change to stepdads So my parents got divorced when I was around three or four.  My dad is a narcissist/abusive and that’s the main cause of the divorce.  My mom met my step dad when I was 5 or 6 and he definitely changed my life.  I was wondering, would it be too weird to change my last name to his? My mom took his name and I really don’t have any relationship with my dads family and have had really great meaningful relationships with his and my moms family.  He said no because I still live with my dad but I don’t think he would care later on.  I really want to feel more apart of the family I really do consider my family.  Plus I’ll be moving out East for college and permanently; this would mean that I spend lots of time with his friends as well as family who love having me around and want to “adopt” me.  Personally I think it could be weird to someone on the outside but if it’s understandable I would really like to.  
What are your thoughts?",3.8287260677466857,4.946956747422681,5.142120765832106,82.87721649484537,71.73195876288659,9.666568483063331,25.19734904270987,9.957137785484203,2.1769658321060383,755,22,162,20,14,252,108,194,0.025,0.8079999999999999,0.16699999999999998,0.982,1,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,0,1,0,0,8,8,0,0,5,0,20,2,0,1,0,40,35,18,0,8,5,8,1,1,1,4,1,1,0,1,8,15,0,0,8,0,1,3,3,2,1,2,9,2,29,6,23,18,3,17,0,0,0,1,29,7,0,5,8,109,37,1,0.0,0.11906952802916755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06833969376991801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17892278985216567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061260503388036375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246082186613516,0.10323551535305336,0.3189295101569918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023666645772813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4736862686061128,0.0,0.050813029551598186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764178740053175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08037461749200793,0.11079552103138432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16383283107742627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07098222451522082,0.049096527666238544,0.0,0.08873846862987912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08543681476381365,0.09070019344849302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10946795171641506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35309376773522416,0.0,0.1068097302262682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11158722938949334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08774790531049301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32189669195071885,0.0,0.0,0.21578692902326976,0.0,0.0,0.0955932652571391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08514864836616874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08025502303034218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12878561237782438,0.0,0.07978139325720092,0.058599140529922114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116530670220654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10461829974833688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11854849825087416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903566080975291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089819787735624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855535863536349,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,crunchymomdotcom,2020/02/01,"leaving an abusive husband ? for women who are thinking about divorcing/or already have divorced an abusive man, where do i start?? First off, i have hardly any income of my own. i work part time and don’t get paid much. secondly, i have two children and one with highly special needs(seizures,autism,etc) i have no money to pay babysitters...third, we have been married less than two years😖 

He’s been emotionally abusive for years and i wish i never married him. i can’t take it anymore!! i live in constant anxiety and fear. i walk on egg shells daily. i have no where to stay if i leave, and i don’t have the financial stability to be on my own again with two kids. we have a one year old daughter together and i don’t want her growing up watching her mom get treated like this. i just want to feel good about myself again and not be shamed and called names. advice !?",2.3843240454076384,4.708404315789473,3.307210182318542,89.26739938080497,78.94152046783627,5.894874441004473,25.84829721362229,7.048011613610866,1.1784142414860679,682,27,135,8,17,217,111,171,0.152,0.743,0.105,-0.8756,1,0,0,0,1,1,28.0,2,0,0,2,7,6,0,2,4,0,18,1,0,0,1,22,28,9,0,4,3,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,12,1,0,2,0,3,2,8,2,0,7,3,3,23,4,17,23,5,21,0,0,1,0,17,8,0,1,11,95,26,2,0.0,0.4746440114957655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304868204778255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14735689378041425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09080696220726936,0.0,0.10215231556884394,0.0,0.13242877172779055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363520375441881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14430164421690414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502065579380319,0.0,0.0,0.1489244996453158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15026165533781533,0.06751825475928487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11358303049509792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13953087492752742,0.0,0.0,0.11200107487030596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11961926457830095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141084857668011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827841557243522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0652374379567201,0.0,0.1179120116390018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15639213783185255,0.0,0.0,0.0981620580660682,0.0,0.10298881718951476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14012033313287284,0.0,0.18097072005614795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14460313579969128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945152855351939,0.14232832178831512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10040013477450074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08556250102177748,0.0,0.0,0.07786411741021601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3913267687644081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575223476511136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15355626383744764,0.0,0.0,0.09721355352617256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17198164025708698
divorce,CrayK84,2020/02/01,"Civil communicator app 0/5 stars Civil communicator app is literally the worst app to use to communicate with an ex/ co parent.

After my divorce, a lot of things had changed, figuring new ways of life were difficult especially with our child. A lot of emotions were involved, and questions and information had to be sent to my ex. 

For some reason, I can only think of sexism or discrimination, the actual civil communicator agent who reviewed our messages sent my ex a message and extra 10 credits to “deal” with me.

yes, I sent more emails to him, that’s because I’m an attentive mother trying to cause the least amount of damage to our child.

My lawyer and judge warned us to use my family wizard over Civil Communicator but because we already signed up for a year, we are stuck.

Save yourself the time, money and headache, and use another service.

My lawyer is even looking into the things they said to my ex about me. private communication stuff. I found out because my ex printed it and used it to attempt to show me in poor light.",7.535553977272728,7.76907618229167,8.056856060606062,68.38738636363638,63.21875,10.315151515151516,35.16287878787878,10.018931242160765,3.5342333333333333,825,34,142,16,11,274,120,192,0.07400000000000001,0.885,0.04,-0.6908,1,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,6,0,1,1,2,5,0,0,11,1,9,1,0,6,0,33,22,9,0,0,2,7,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,7,14,0,0,7,1,3,3,0,3,0,0,10,3,22,2,29,11,8,13,0,1,1,0,30,5,0,5,4,95,29,6,0.0,0.0,0.14984084198371134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16944419854210294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16100862034459004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28080457587051066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15773624385609727,0.16243357987473514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583013973842379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17272099847262545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10141710301290263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14475152765133886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683576178632036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10845559725536806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289417714754942,0.0,0.0,0.2610822874625101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148297757288857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11678028501453445,0.0,0.0,0.17049704615715666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17200906589700746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15787306862723655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146059450064582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17577589235788918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20402113218984974,0.09838745265964573,0.0,0.0,0.0895351593758681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10424911271624024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846995150773611,0.5304651957352333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218793720905345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09887997245905454
divorce,quantumpencil,2020/02/01,"I'm 30, and my wife told me she wants a divorce last Friday I am beyond devastated. We've been together our entire adult life, since we were in college. Our love story was so beautiful. We've had such a close, warm friendship and supportive relationship for so long. We found each other in a time of great need, when we were a little aimless near the end/after college. We got married with $400 between us and scrambled to make it work and support each other, we have been living comfortably in Santa Monica for a few years now.

My whole life is wound up in her, her sister is married to my best friend. She's still living with me at the moment and we still have some positive, even tender interactions as recently as last night, which give me brief moments of hope that allowed me to semi function for short periods of time. As far as divorces go it's amicable I guess, she told me she did love me when she handed me the papers but that our conflict style has made her feel guarded and she just can't see a future anymore. It's been a few days, and we went to therapy this morning.

I have been trying my best all week to address things that I've learned are making her unhappy. Doing all the chores, working on not being defensive when she's critical of something (which seems to be huge complaint), learning and making new dishes, etc -- But it seems like her she's extremely skeptical of the possibility of reconciliation, like I'm unable to reach her, and like she feels that even though she fears to lose my companionship she has no choice but to do this and find out for herself if there might be an ""easier match"" because our conflict style has left her always feeling guarded around me. At this point it's starting to set in that there may likely be nothing I can do to win her heart back at this point.

I feel like half a person. I've lost an entire future. All of a sudden nothing that I used to enjoy can hold my interest. I can barely eat, I can't sleep. I struggle to focus on work. I just go out and try to exercise to get my mind off it but I've broken down crying in public twice. No matter what i try my mind ends up wandering to something we've shared, somewhere we've been, ""the good times"" and I find myself unable to regulate these feelings. I keep replaying things in my mind, wondering if she was actually happy or if I was just oblivious, thinking how did something that was so great and loving end up like this? Everything in my life, everything from the last 10 years, feels tainted and bittersweet. I am terrified that I will never be able to heal from this, and i hate myself for letting this happen.

I don't know what to do.",5.6294109195402315,5.9836689597701165,6.256549329501919,79.26057112068969,67.25670498084291,9.13036398467433,30.10560344827586,9.017664075816787,2.370955747126437,2095,72,404,34,32,685,259,522,0.096,0.732,0.17300000000000001,0.9911,1,0,3,0,2,0,57.0,12,0,0,8,22,33,3,2,18,0,44,15,3,7,4,87,86,35,0,6,12,2,8,6,1,3,7,0,2,2,30,30,2,7,16,1,0,4,7,7,0,2,21,9,71,26,63,56,12,67,0,2,1,3,51,31,0,12,37,287,101,8,0.07621402256931889,0.0,0.0743738920227277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06341617215572623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07558383106998695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06784663839780451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0586038789449492,0.0,0.046459360765274516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15996382930993974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08371752505760181,0.04915173952843597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07798597194000623,0.0,0.0,0.2025090074281141,0.0,0.08499878143181265,0.1006772862309386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13699249835351893,0.0,0.0,0.08576196415002063,0.23121659871720426,0.05444731295180318,0.0,0.0,0.13931647178984366,0.0,0.0,0.08356474193813404,0.05888276477999856,0.0,0.03981868117469123,0.07311143514547518,0.08662837075796652,0.06392470618133557,0.060955316132145713,0.16805245788361914,0.08395833830498486,0.0,0.06739580845737389,0.08113124421903105,0.0,0.07524556864937419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903139837008544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07569772106833021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06774252508242032,0.0,0.0,0.04188523363521605,0.18637380163224956,0.0,0.0,0.08280675852078538,0.07793400173513924,0.1614966541713916,0.2234059302503396,0.0763864727565945,0.13459675646866076,0.06744701165842214,0.0,0.08526399646309822,0.08319660868247157,0.0,0.20635839288875274,0.07211555093306213,0.15262035562981366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08085103394393048,0.2308633098582009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05651173203077652,0.05878095265091472,0.0736079779170829,0.0,0.07152169730182642,0.0,0.14625882031763401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06654714479563824,0.0,0.0,0.14409377175427873,0.08591985907959017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07525215275901077,0.0818253379377277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060732708524981215,0.13876476749720895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06304502704331864,0.0,0.07626906342494284,0.0,0.0,0.17601983416234576,0.0,0.0,0.05394467744598529,0.0,0.12172923374704896,0.0,0.0,0.0796754442278526,0.0,0.0,0.1729735392692682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08715737692594487,0.0,0.10126642012257273,0.04883486827506736,0.07487989021462747,0.0,0.1333230283713118,0.0,0.0,0.14565152929033734,0.0,0.1552329555142049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09167608516579948,0.06582444523655996,0.0,0.0,0.044953005148619794,0.0,0.06113429174613413,0.0,0.0,0.0706511624773769,0.0,0.08509023443898807,0.0,0.0,0.08265085640388699,0.16645414840527611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09815866351951558
divorce,mmiller0805,2020/02/02,"Father-Child Parenting Dynamic Project. Participants needed Calling all fathers: 

We are looking for fathers to participate in our survey! We are undergraduate researchers from Saint Martin’s University in Lacey, WA conducting research for a senior thesis project.  

We are investigating the relationship between fathers’ parenting and their children’s outcomes. We want to fill the gap in research when it comes to dads and parenting and we think this research will be of great benefit to fathers everywhere, especially single dads.  

Below is a link to our survey - we hope you will take the time to help us in our research. The online questionnaire should take less than 40 minutes to complete. We ask that you be a father with a child between the ages of 4 and 18 years old. 

For completing our survey, we offer you to join a raffle with the chance to win a $5 gift card of your choosing. Additionally, each new participant that you refer grants you an additional entry into the raffle, with no limit on referrals.  

More details are included in the link. 

[https://forms.gle/akTMom38qsgGBH2j7](https://forms.gle/akTMom38qsgGBH2j7) 

Feel free to contact us if you have any questions or concerns. Thank you for your time and please share this post! 

Marissa Miller and Konner Baker   
Email: [Marissa.miller@stmartin.edu](mailto:Marissa.miller@stmartin.edu) and [Konner.baker@stmartin.edu](mailto:Konner.baker@stmartin.edu)    
Faculty Advisor: Dr. Emily Coyle   
Email: [ECoyle@stmartin.edu ](mailto:ECoyle@stmartin.edu)  
Saint Martin’s University",10.008002392344494,14.121873460526311,7.963221690590112,56.42906698564593,62.20175438596491,9.23317384370016,34.047846889952154,9.688023934748609,4.196484210526316,1271,54,153,29,22,377,140,228,0.009000000000000001,0.825,0.166,0.9873,3,0,0,0,1,0,71.0,14,9,1,2,1,8,0,0,15,0,11,1,0,0,1,38,22,10,0,5,2,10,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,5,23,0,1,7,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,24,9,32,17,5,19,2,0,1,0,46,8,0,4,8,103,29,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650236085377723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14641222051086925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599196091653465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13490842250748647,0.3284119652938218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07918835029606325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.172666629171536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049745408477654,0.0,0.0,0.1555522662082978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13151566168819154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11612671901718645,0.0,0.15125802487074996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643392303797832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5217013443661775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17191428671564962,0.0,0.0,0.14999217393441275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17544265026723352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681439886147171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355073030439015,0.0,0.0,0.14418841235201213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035142832521204,0.0,0.0,0.1826448573635877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3767728434459087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09237453552173804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008537796313293
divorce,PeaceNLove7,2020/02/02,"Divorce Lies This sub has been pretty negative lately but I'm gonna give it a shot. 

Has anyone ever dealt with an ex lying about responsibilities during the marriage?

For example: I've done my own and our 5 year old son's laundry for at least four years. Of course nowadays since I initiated divorce, she cant wait to do his laundry. Now that's fine. Whatever. Let her try to catch up. Lol.

But what aggravates me is that I folded and out away his laundry tonight and she acts like I'm the one ""trying to prove something."" Shes projecting all the way.

I said, ""I did his laundry every Thursday or Friday since he was an infant"" and she says ""no you didn't. Not all the time."" 

I mean I dont have a video or a photograph of myself doing his laundry since 2015 but she sure as shit doesn't, because she never did it. Maybe a handful of times at the very most.

It hurt when she watched me do everything without any gratitude and now it hurts when she makes believe it never happened. 

Any experience with this? 

I feel like my historical involvement in my son's life is an important peice of my argument for shared equal parenting (wife doesn't want equality, surprise surprise) and when she gaslights me about it I feel shitty.",1.9721944444444404,4.537027275,3.3641666666666663,86.7752777777778,82.5,6.388888888888888,24.722222222222207,7.662118739084242,1.4739305555555555,966,38,188,17,27,315,150,240,0.174,0.74,0.087,-0.9772,1,0,1,0,2,0,30.0,1,1,0,0,8,10,1,0,12,1,20,3,2,1,7,30,32,15,0,1,7,5,3,2,0,1,1,2,0,1,11,9,0,1,4,1,0,2,11,3,0,2,7,6,32,7,22,23,7,26,0,2,1,0,31,6,1,3,19,127,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948992017691864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10019939819237464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13463601619125662,0.0,0.0,0.08735496569903016,0.0,0.0,0.16145116626370484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466466864037567,0.1679477166138025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12962396779382027,0.1207372815504287,0.0,0.12878970779598695,0.14017588520816804,0.0,0.0,0.1449145928634507,0.10237427026469388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13746738663941052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267206099928249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3068133903170982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16164978117128448,0.0,0.0,0.14653499179114285,0.1012177413641512,0.14001927026487096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09565453700761424,0.0,0.14396512563333402,0.15609681015448548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22104514646765966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15037030429943846,0.0,0.09710447311856717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15911881321028518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14578864493807214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363120762280002,0.11395871493111864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470964276003052,0.3556202292163192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11032011864652724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13505950614303708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16711994279771705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19458395869619136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11823834104724587,0.08452264857163291,0.1137456717225747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13813706005000204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845623044219528
divorce,desicat674,2020/02/02,"I feel numb My husband and I have been together 10 years, married 5. Everything was great and we almost never fought. About 6 months ago, we think it is but bipolar hit him hard and he just shut down. 180 personality change. Got argumentative, irrational, making questionable decisions. The works. More importantly he started pushing people away. If you tried talking to him about it he would ignore you for days. He cut all contact with his family and I guess I was next on the list. He went from loving me last month to cold as can be “I want to divorce.”  

And because he’s in England and I am not, he won’t talk to me, answer the phone or even look at my texts. It’s all “I’ve decided and there is no conversation to be had.”  I’m so lost. I’m sick and depend on him on top of loosing him. I don’t even have money for a lawyer or anything. I might not even have a place to live next month. 

I’m so emotionally messed up right now that I tried to kill myself on Friday, but a friend took me to a hospital. I just don’t know what to do.",0.9348009797917952,3.1434826760563404,2.9240865482751595,90.5929638701776,83.74178403755869,6.145662380077567,20.528475199020207,7.423996415210882,0.5984878138395588,802,24,177,13,23,269,136,213,0.174,0.737,0.08900000000000001,-0.966,0,0,0,0,1,1,25.0,2,2,0,3,12,10,3,0,7,0,19,4,0,2,3,38,37,16,1,3,9,1,2,0,1,3,3,0,0,1,5,11,0,1,7,0,1,3,7,7,0,0,9,4,25,3,26,22,3,28,0,1,1,1,28,13,0,8,12,111,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272569247029826,0.0,0.14375420360706895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11813731983739582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13487897115813288,0.0,0.0,0.08751260050878074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15186702290076512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09258406647899232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614852289207296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2844592882395497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12902211291370172,0.0,0.13533521567214954,0.0,0.07258804792417523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11091379188531696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11481772761595993,0.1582749672944296,0.15814708593573545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286012048270584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588274287654089,0.0,0.07889660249211458,0.11702023574214815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12676575812278032,0.0,0.12055390872155415,0.0,0.1567122633498738,0.0,0.1295681451562673,0.0,0.09582714865736207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15229405049295344,0.0,0.0,0.34376371246886345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11072201472711464,0.0,0.30535452936034063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099526151734116,0.1253507065438046,0.1499892283035009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16081960866629352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12259911515357512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016122247302653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23077553924253436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09198719586019788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159499999338731,0.19493509162909486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08467517237518071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13308118871030514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10451309956685152,0.0,0.0,0.10198062187036937,0.0,0.0,0.09244767648072956
divorce,dishykiwiburger,2020/02/02,"Today my husband is moving out He decided that after 10 years together that he has always been miserable and never felt like we ever truly connected. Incredible what having a girlfriend can do to a marriage. 

A year ago he told me he didn’t love me anymore and never felt like we truly were connected. This past November I found out that the real reason was he had a girlfriend. He said he never wanted to cheat on her and had a real connection with her and really trusts her. I am the only person he could ever want to cheat on. She’s been with her husband for the last 10 years and had 8 separate affairs, but sure, he can trust her. 

I asked him to work it out but he’s is determined to leave. His move in date was this past Friday, but the gave him the keys three weeks ago, yet he’s still here. He keeps crying and trying to hold me. I of course love him and want him to stay but I’ve lost my desire to keep fighting for it. 

They started their affair when I was 6 months pregnant and our first child was a little over a year old. It continued until I caught him. She pretended to be my friend, invited herself to family events, and tried to become my confidant. I didn’t really like her that much but my husband encouraged me to befriend her, so I did. 

I’m honestly not sure why I’m posting. I guess I want someone to talk to. I feel alone. I feel heartbroken. The life that I knew it is coming to an end. The best way I can describe it is it feels like someone I love has died. It’s not only the death of my marriage but the death of my family as I know it and the lives we had always planned to build together. 

I know I can build a new life again, I’m not foolish enough to think things will never get better. But I don’t WANT a new life. I loved my old life. I loved our marriage, the friendship we had, the partnership we created, the way we were so in sync with each other and the way we raised our kids. But it’s gone. It’s over now. 

I never thought our marriage would end like this.",1.715179049318209,3.586827871670703,3.420112781954888,89.89992067031989,79.0,6.67182362686377,21.522174079265962,7.669130373188453,0.8039433414043579,1553,44,334,24,38,517,187,413,0.09,0.708,0.20199999999999999,0.9947,0,1,0,0,2,0,40.0,11,0,2,6,10,24,3,1,24,0,34,9,0,1,9,73,71,24,3,8,11,3,5,5,3,2,4,1,0,3,21,26,0,3,13,1,0,5,11,5,0,2,27,6,63,19,37,40,4,57,0,2,0,5,68,10,0,1,42,222,84,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13856566449864569,0.0,0.0,0.08094867881007811,0.0,0.0,0.1300683372828144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07751227248939704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07306768675711728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631996976045302,0.0,0.0,0.08202256852023303,0.06912487949402152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06732666386916836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06240323649357059,0.0,0.08585348906691607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0811162276360607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13845054022017586,0.08075866766067759,0.0,0.0,0.14139775298957044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14736183617078566,0.0,0.11855792270733465,0.055836478491382895,0.15008891569499566,0.0,0.0,0.06648161645721859,0.0,0.08569680784792626,0.06038509617659034,0.0,0.04083461266369523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08610044640932607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13894180776431722,0.0,0.0,0.08590778204424998,0.06370964394764635,0.0,0.0827586114717028,0.0,0.0,0.2208227604070116,0.19092158001002807,0.07833539272877821,0.06901542509751515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08531928206203568,0.0,0.3527056813084837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06238540307327967,0.16614032335542808,0.0574555218904924,0.0,0.3014034320941728,0.1509720150707739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640284856741763,0.0,0.0,0.11888618729980155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14922234558018524,0.0,0.0682450247330624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0748542788492516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779230652538251,0.1001407275806085,0.08035999913887905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07434667219352452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13244695911940216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05532101877283903,0.08330660714796415,0.0624175131278404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14732700297280182,0.0,0.0,0.06282087599517791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051925062804096686,0.05008083823133847,0.0,0.06204915247617624,0.0,0.0,0.0740851596008575,0.07468383692006983,0.0,0.10612904000601246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304996673872413,0.1861158395426176,0.06269406846928514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07052592796481681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05690034991846095,0.0,0.0,0.05552158622579716,0.0,0.0,0.2013261557719832
divorce,charliemurphyy,2020/02/02,"Can I please have some advice on how to ask an abusive spouse for a divorce? Hi /divorce,

Hoping to get some advice on a situation. It's going to get just a little dark, so please bare with me (TL;DR below)

I’m finally at a point where I’ve realized that my (36M)marriage is at an impasse and there is no way to reconcile conflicts in a peaceful manner with my wife (34F).

For a quick backstory for those who don’t mind a TL;DR, my wife and I were friends for well over a decade before we dated. We got married in 2017 and things have gone downhill ever since then. My wife has severe anger issues stemming from childhood trauma, suffers from depression and shows signs of a personality disorder. We’ve sought out counseling on ways to manage this dynamic in our marriage, but things have only gotten worse and I don’t believe things will ever get better.

Throughout our marriage, my wife has shown an unwillingness to calmly approach conflicts between us no matter how trivial. And in many cases, these conflicts are of her own doing. For example: she goes from extremely affectionate to ice cold whenever she feels like it. In fact, she is more cold and distant than affectionate on most days. After discussing my feelings with her on SEVERAL occasions, she always pivots and rips into me about my word choice instead of addressing the issue itself. The issue is never addressed. She just chooses to lash out in anger: yelling at me, giving me the silent treatment for DAYS while leaving her rings at home out of **spite**. 

**Please keep that word in mind since it’ll be addressed later.**

In another instance, after I told her how her silent treatment affected me while on a group vacation with her friends, I mentioned how it blindsides me how she can be affectionate and loving on one day, and the next day it’s completely the opposite. She won’t say or return my good mornings or g’nites, and if I try to talk to her she will respond with “Why are you making me talk, I don’t feel like talking!!” She has said this to me at least 20x since we’ve been married.

So after we got back from the trip, I asked to talk to her so I can express my feelings on how I felt and ask her what happened? I mentioned that it can feel like she is emotionally high maintenance since she would get like this for with no apparent triggers or reason at all - and OFTEN. Instead of listening and trying to understand, she quickly pivoted and equated me calling her emotionally high maintenance with me calling her mentally unstable and screamed “don’t you EVER FUCKING say that to someone with a mental illness! Do you want me to kill myself?!!?” It quickly became my own fault, forgetting how she treated me. This is a recurring theme whenever I try to calmly bring up any issues in our marriage.dynamic. It feels like I’m in a war zone. 

Anyway, In our most recent “argument” she woke me up screaming at me and threatened me with physical violence because I left the night before for a late night snack without telling her (I thought she was sleeping, and the restaurant was literally 1 minute away from our home and I was back in less than 15 minutes). Keep in mind that the day before, she said something unforgivable to me and never apologized for it! But I sensed that she expected an apology from me for leaving, and when she realized that she wasn’t getting it, she called me **spiteful** and said “don’t you understand, I will get my brothers to FUCK YOU UP!!” before storming off to work - without her ring.
That was 4 days ago and she is currently giving me the silent treatment, and hasn’t worn her ring since then.

*sigh*

Besides anger, she has constantly chosen to give me the silent treatment or say “why are you making me talk” whenever I try to say ANYTHING to her, and frankly I’m just over it.

I loved the hell out of my wife. She was someone who I believed to be my best friend and the love of my life. But someone who goes from loving you, telling you that you’re a great husband to treating you like trash the next day - that just isn’t love, or friendship for that matter. Our counselor has already told me that this will likely not get better as she ages, and frankly I do not want to have children with someone who can treat their loved ones so horribly. Our counselor has she has been there for us since day 1 and has recently began to explain how this is emotional and psychological abuse and how my wife’s threats of suicide could be a form of manipulation. 

The crazy thing is (no pun intended), is that I know that I’m a great husband and friend to her. I am constantly there for her, showing kind gestures of love, writing her sweet notes and following through it with every action. Our friends see this, our parents see this consistently. I just didn’t realize how bad things were until I started talking to my own therapist and a trusted confidant. I feel like the veil has been lifted now I’m just aching for a better life where my love can be appreciated and respected. Thankfully, we have no children or serious financial ties.

So, my question is - how can I ask an emotionally abusive and mentally ill spouse for a divorce without putting myself in harms way? 

I’d appreciate any feedback or support whatsoever. Thanks for reading if you made it this far!!!

TL;DR: My wife is cruel and emotionally abusive to me. Does not wish to talk when she’s upset, and often meets me with the silent treatment and other forms of abuse. She has also threatened me with physical violence over an entirely insignificant issue.",5.792348006960683,7.047352421814676,6.001090325738215,78.02689406710535,67.25289575289574,8.88681276850291,33.41394311816848,9.155102493887473,3.0195332970797764,4383,195,780,79,71,1396,405,1036,0.157,0.677,0.166,0.877,3,0,1,0,6,2,128.0,15,10,1,5,46,69,12,1,43,0,73,16,1,19,7,157,147,75,3,9,24,13,8,8,5,7,4,14,5,3,50,60,1,5,20,3,0,8,23,22,2,2,27,27,144,46,134,107,14,111,2,2,2,10,151,51,3,17,57,568,194,4,0.0,0.24384824773090594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08044508748834114,0.036487188320342805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04542274142617365,0.03291683858512252,0.034249667362568736,0.0,0.0,0.0559824662181546,0.0431614241869724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03387240927460982,0.0,0.15392179333804956,0.0,0.03867258644342782,0.0633013091705352,0.034368135173410405,0.025091669805941585,0.0,0.14010162736301324,0.09274983559905474,0.0431964572889587,0.10921201171350862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260914881973057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04315705211911056,0.08896192237064293,0.0,0.03286411031157078,0.0,0.0,0.2123661106516087,0.0,0.035452341688668516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04717464779721914,0.0,0.0360207081185756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.231505749975358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11169880634002656,0.03468034103943325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14568744659027286,0.14702892763739253,0.03952149727404429,0.0450904139031646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15900637318120026,0.0761062913725101,0.15053630282040698,0.11845759128997367,0.02339303037193584,0.03452431530531901,0.06584122726233327,0.09076140338212337,0.0,0.0,0.03639898062008815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08697877438367052,0.08257668598953022,0.04088265940000792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21480957197342704,0.0,0.07317246915111586,0.045539103803782885,0.042863370630136566,0.022621285243879085,0.0,0.04643196755782841,0.0871681755454683,0.04472209277698204,0.0,0.05814717284791227,0.1608754473356306,0.04125463890328876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2971989036301729,0.0389480087990889,0.05495124493104628,0.04173130286396047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12444333934271293,0.0,0.12468415074704325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0634925763291106,0.0,0.08755144950457272,0.07725456326120109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05578419856670079,0.03130517737125133,0.0,0.0,0.04570497726187188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035940636208417115,0.0,0.13554890715085496,0.03891092432607763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04137867877901205,0.04611030292226885,0.0,0.04117264127096617,0.0,0.0,0.04232087988913767,0.08128403568680558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11746204396872514,0.13093311518948025,0.0,0.0,0.0656007764044972,0.0,0.0,0.09300156307580693,0.0,0.2042953207388921,0.04626725327879037,0.04119122872860246,0.0,0.13950402958284389,0.031688135504146765,0.0,0.0,0.029134323244378136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04502400282575579,0.04670958511931974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315883951229713,0.07195393470028162,0.07579196234558945,0.0,0.0477916767901673,0.1367293659604412,0.0,0.0,0.03267763510834296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07866315893039988,0.0,0.11178383282662123,0.0,0.0,0.0857011512398685,0.09902443857130966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048556241127494335,0.09801625404620444,0.0,0.0,0.03700913394079017,0.0,0.07428370727856189,0.0,0.04733369635934026,0.11903465833917636,0.0,0.02996606396656914,0.0,0.041947087454669865,0.0292399503122884,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Ok_Soup,2020/02/02,"I need some guidance Hello All,

I'm 21, married for 7 months and expecting in May. She has threatened divorce before but I fought against it. She finally left the house last night, said ""I'm leaving you"", and is now accusing me of cheating (not guilty).

I've pulled money from our joint account and left her enough to get by until she gets paid on Friday. I paid all of the bills, and took her off the credit card. She has been diagnosed with BPD in the past and I was afraid when she had threatened divorce before, it was an episode. Now she's packing her bags and she called her dad.

I'm seeing a lawyer on Tuesday.",2.656274944567624,4.642350089430893,3.1611529933481144,92.3147228381375,76.5609756097561,5.773540280857352,25.00295639320029,6.574015621080383,0.7579333333333338,483,17,100,4,11,150,84,123,0.127,0.846,0.027000000000000003,-0.91,0,0,0,0,2,0,18.0,1,1,0,0,3,4,2,1,6,0,8,1,0,0,2,15,20,9,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,7,0,0,0,0,6,2,1,3,0,0,9,2,18,1,14,10,4,19,0,0,1,0,20,7,0,2,10,63,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35101323173067145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25976917941969485,0.0,0.2106079784078732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093430547151769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21311509604356788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259407289140713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21551797848598356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23798895352993205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16812420613292528,0.0,0.21839277371847965,0.4481902633359892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16462964970572844,0.0,0.0,0.15293442535906646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19355502449655887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968923920574548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19619439800091545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16435740942622906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291553302465941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,rene6789,2020/02/02,"Opinions An ex broke my car window, but I don’t have any proof and he claims he didn’t do it... Is there anything I can do?",1.2139285714285712,1.6153239642857145,2.934285714285714,98.96071428571429,77.21428571428571,5.6000000000000005,21.142857142857142,3.1291,-0.5274142857142858,93,2,25,0,2,31,23,28,0.076,0.924,0.0,-0.2263,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,0,1,4,7,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,6,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,15,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6370123439829909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7708536006358766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,1DrafterChick,2020/02/02,"Survivor: 1 yr As of yesterday the divorce has been final for a yr.  I didn't feel overly emotional about it. I felt more lack of emotion but I also didn't want to be around anyone. So maybe I'm just hiding from myself. 

This yr I have focused on healing, on finding out who I am without the wife title and having some damn fun. I feel like I've been pretty successful. I have my moments. I think I always will but I just keep moving forward. I'm following the flow of life and I'm happy.",-0.2400840336134457,2.04352403921569,2.4063305322128885,90.78705882352942,92.92156862745098,4.4829131652661065,20.03081232492997,6.1826913282559595,0.2865047619047618,380,13,77,4,14,131,72,102,0.09699999999999999,0.654,0.249,0.9670000000000001,0,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,6,5,1,0,4,0,11,2,0,0,0,18,21,7,0,2,5,1,3,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,5,0,0,4,3,1,0,0,5,3,12,4,14,14,3,12,0,0,0,0,3,6,1,1,5,55,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18023272810706475,0.1875304935360725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575878092372463,0.0,0.0,0.20063200207448764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5070342679796631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279132772036609,0.16100832204901025,0.21639585023199498,0.2468878743694769,0.2059891493316396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23991644011923716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20032412443454226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15918940038836152,0.11010709869571916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264200101438191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23953851864302045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292879356755053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14441153791029532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13293232553912634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172539661960804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Natgeochan64,2020/02/02,"Im the reason we're getting divorced So I cheated on my wife, she now wants a divorce and we're seperated living in the same house. I dont really know why I'm posting this. I guess because the only sounding board I have is my wife and she doesnt talk to me anymore now. I guess I'm feeling sorry for myself? I don't know. I'm fuckin sad and it hurts and nobody knows so im like alone you know? I dont really deserve to be upset or lonely you know, just I needed a minute to vent or something.",0.2039949958298557,2.0355483486238555,2.8892243536280238,91.99745621351126,83.86238532110092,5.064553794829023,20.91826522101752,6.1124844417494595,0.1622587155963302,386,12,86,3,11,135,68,109,0.184,0.774,0.042,-0.9265,0,3,1,0,2,0,9.0,0,2,0,0,5,7,2,1,5,0,7,1,0,1,0,19,21,8,0,2,3,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,4,0,0,7,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,0,2,16,1,6,20,1,5,0,3,0,1,9,2,1,4,3,48,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16931699558042929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621292069424401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996564901420784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3831969901464641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08266089729172726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08541206642950959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3601854685822459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18863510553677568,0.17500977398891596,0.0,0.35317503123056065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4492243655649332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07986855077551155,0.0,0.1443567035063527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212190777761679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243346546571954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15656959183769936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094602083496377,0.1680856787170552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12585564802634475,0.0,0.18300357659912253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313998219562043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09642531969141176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14751615973302185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,WatchingMonsters,2020/02/02,"A consistent Saturday visitation schedule? Has anyone ever done a consistent, same, weekend day visitation schedule? How did it work out?

My husband has asked for a divorce but he is pretty sure that it does not need to cause any sacrifice on his part. He has already refused to try the nesting approach with me and has told me he will be getting a 1 BR apartment since he won’t be seeing it he kids very often. I said “No, you will be having 50% custody and I will be enforcing the visitation schedule.”  He says his work schedule does not allow for parenting and it is unrealistic to expect him to modify it or talk to his boss about it.

I am wondering about doing a Friday night to Saturday night or Sunday morning schedule? It would  suck to always miss the weekend but God help me if he just abandons his kids because he is lazy.",4.123158653846153,6.0128658062500016,5.582500000000002,76.96019230769235,72.1875,8.173076923076923,31.68269230769231,8.841846274778883,2.8972211538461536,659,31,116,13,13,222,98,160,0.121,0.802,0.078,-0.7547,1,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,0,1,0,2,6,4,1,0,8,0,21,0,0,4,2,27,30,9,0,4,8,2,0,0,0,5,0,2,0,2,8,5,0,2,1,2,0,4,4,3,0,0,4,3,13,1,14,17,2,21,1,2,1,0,29,3,1,5,14,81,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20495963908180195,0.0,0.15454372063194952,0.0,0.0,0.12630398023896536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12986797990310456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17363414348661368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11322036992734535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19079770147947356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11978163367545767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3250702667276727,0.190068096877944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680050294522589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09703718988719333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12449209788911815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13771776237054564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34859338970487697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062331631625684,0.20112941962367006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889559932742116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17667345608344764,0.14770136714837484,0.0,0.0,0.14800418285194164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536392487186183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750500057478587,0.0,0.0,0.14928417034413627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17747467630959488,0.0,0.12609968768927504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15324817090636694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20141819393809496,0.2704298975557267,0.0,0.0,0.13193852846854245,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Grenndel,2020/02/02,"Pretty sure I'm telling her Tuesday I have been thinking a lot and figured I would type this out and maybe find myself clear-headed. My wife(28f) and I(26m) have been together ten years, married for three. Everything is great when it's great but terrible when it's not. The dynamic feels like it has changed in the passed couple years though.

The good is we share all the same hobbies, shows, interests. Basically everything that can make a relationship amazing. We went to a concert for a band from highschool and had an absolute blast the other day.

However three years ago she hit a major depression. One that had her laying on the couch the moment when she gets home until bed time. She overworked herself so much at her retail job that she was always injured. I feel like I lost her during that time. She went from wanting to go on dates to asking me to bring something home. I went from a world we could take on together to one where I will help her get through it.

A year ago I accepted a new job, it required relocation and it took me moving there first to get everything sorted. In that time I started going to the gym and really working on improving myself. Things she said she'd do when she came down. Which she did, for three months and then had excuses of why she couldn't everytime. She's mich happier now but still avoids getting off the couch and her phone.

There's a ton of small things too. Like if I clean, I have to cheer her up afterwards because she was too stressed and anxious to do so.

I think I'm done, there was so long of taking care of her that now when she says she's tired or hurt I can't help but think ""As always."" I don't know, I'm kinda done and sorting through feelings where I love her but I avoid coming home because ether goods are good but the bads are bad.

Has anyone gone through anything similar?",4.217792101493759,5.641755381215472,4.437783916513201,87.12592899529369,71.15469613259668,7.7939021894823,27.495805197462648,8.285830014693849,1.7051715571925516,1456,51,295,22,27,454,199,362,0.10400000000000001,0.716,0.18,0.9851,3,2,1,0,0,0,38.0,3,0,0,4,19,26,0,3,20,0,30,3,0,1,2,49,65,29,0,5,8,0,3,3,0,2,2,3,7,0,17,16,0,3,10,4,1,12,4,9,0,7,19,6,47,17,35,40,6,56,0,3,0,1,39,15,0,6,32,198,64,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15912616276084454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14936799446950902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013984808385666,0.0,0.0627593266960695,0.0,0.07386135736209096,0.0,0.08390953601341182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498846505621738,0.10942857801009416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10265669848079864,0.09151199727773024,0.0,0.0949497116188981,0.07731665497187197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07166268500214527,0.0993130608467514,0.0,0.05788505130853475,0.0,0.07730651981559893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837026462621972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2420001165418612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13614965419878136,0.1282430910508719,0.0,0.0,0.08203515475798814,0.07634621866284058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875747572678864,0.0,0.10202055378322086,0.2258486637110092,0.0,0.19791212356768875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09211532246628992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203228116481306,0.0,0.2700970898262205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09608541640475053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17813751965405794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049327428109472576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13155041773944054,0.0,0.0,0.0794310388179936,0.0,0.0,0.09797903407863777,0.07630715250653465,0.08100809367693958,0.0,0.059912678582125324,0.0,0.09017174269965517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07164220544286871,0.09539618718334653,0.06598082404422144,0.0,0.0,0.08668668940969664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12164167573935858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09131389370901477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0574998495249054,0.0,0.0,0.09636411509145787,0.0,0.0,0.08537829846231185,0.07137739696295506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06909838274670846,0.0,0.0,0.06352960142899297,0.0,0.07167908001628326,0.0,0.10281494010624644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08459375826955541,0.0,0.13497034917735382,0.0,0.07845050585890569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11925950090200772,0.1725356345188396,0.08818459587871852,0.0,0.15701194732727275,0.10316106286188832,0.0,0.0,0.0997219715719511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0529402831815398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24961351546741825,0.08099062875925317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06534327515430435,0.0,0.0,0.06375992926150054,0.0,0.0,0.2311991123291648
divorce,konichihuahua103,2020/02/02,"Saw my STBXH out last night on a date.... And I always said if I saw him out with another woman I would probably end up in jail...good news is I just burst into tears while sitting at a crowded bar. I guess that's progress? Seriously though it felt like someone throat punched me and all the progress I have made in the 7 months we've been separated is out the window. All I can think about now is him with her....and I wonder when/if it will ever get better. Ugh. I knew it was bound to happen but man, I wasn't expecting it to hurt so much. Anyone else relate? Or have you suffered a recent setback that you're trying to move past?",1.609936386768446,3.4373622519083966,3.079713740458016,92.4263390585242,79.15267175572521,5.893384223918575,20.84033078880407,6.816661863887847,0.2550758269720097,489,13,109,5,12,160,96,131,0.115,0.8240000000000001,0.061,-0.8243,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,0,3,6,6,0,0,6,0,11,2,1,1,3,25,22,8,0,3,4,0,1,1,0,2,0,1,1,2,6,8,1,1,4,1,0,1,1,4,0,0,9,4,15,2,15,11,3,21,0,2,2,0,7,9,0,4,11,67,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16766661329259136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21129343364728792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14089556195790404,0.2064636055136217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17821300219776753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16832987532559207,0.0,0.17847182236805406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822709728301885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19347445130031776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10527698521354384,0.0,0.0,0.1690111311800568,0.0,0.0,0.22197823934725394,0.0,0.17818841109512973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157130972081381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16425181497557415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09844417294317633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19066698256375444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608377483821663,0.21416576801294449,0.14812786834340566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189096887369483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923573856149549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172542829804594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19895987359654568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19167546839871472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707328127687737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291149669860831,0.1979756451584249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13680728977961004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21852137566648625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431419286443356,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Linda2020203,2020/02/02,"Husband says he’ll hurt himself if I pursue divorce I still love my husband, but he struggles with cheating.  This has caused a lot of arguments and he often ended these by suggesting divorce... so I finally agreed.  Now he’s acting depressed and saying he wishes he was dead.  He threatened to hurt himself, so I responded by backing off with the divorce.  I don’t want him to hurt himself, but now I feel manipulated.  
Also, my husband only seems to be depressed when he’s not getting his way.",4.9138248847926285,6.566411903225808,5.959170506912442,76.00161290322583,69.75268817204301,7.464823348694317,35.86635944700461,7.957251820313856,3.0650811059907834,389,21,64,5,7,129,62,93,0.3720000000000001,0.541,0.087,-0.9911,0,0,0,0,3,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,9,8,1,1,2,0,4,1,0,2,0,16,11,9,1,3,4,3,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,7,0,0,1,3,13,1,9,8,1,10,0,5,0,1,24,1,0,4,7,46,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15225934630429858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14640251568490836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955887971564719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3279750184097585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16863404874718282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626977010658576,0.0,0.0,0.20856914699545548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09947387784187824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6114674989139506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16186758767451995,0.17183952322784984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448044844938777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30282055302458644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17332906469473291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15205022580250346,0.0,0.0,0.1990428907313064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11230029752018283,0.15112721846680546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21894562101406256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Pbonnibel86,2020/02/02,"Still Struggling Last night was rough. I caught myself looking at old pictures of my ex bf on Instagram, because we’re still friends, and it all came rushing back. Not just him, but my ex husband and the life I had. I became hysterical and inconsolable. It hurt to be that sad again. I’ve dealt with so much change over the last 2 years, and since my divorce it hasn’t been easy. Now that I’m in a healthy and committed relationship, I feel guilty for not being over it. I wish I was and I want the pain to go away and to stop hurting. I’m sick of crying over my past.",1.7217715617715612,3.6805114957264977,2.7786946386946423,94.08524475524479,79.34188034188034,5.9639471639471635,23.45687645687645,6.980632752743323,0.5982717948717955,443,15,100,5,11,141,82,117,0.251,0.626,0.12300000000000001,-0.9628,0,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,1,4,0,7,3,0,0,2,19,16,9,0,2,4,3,2,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,6,9,0,1,1,0,0,4,3,5,0,0,6,3,13,1,14,8,2,23,0,3,1,0,8,7,0,0,12,63,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17777296478922872,0.14549403648948414,0.0,0.1153432170728954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21641063188749995,0.0,0.0,0.20016352944396554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20784290843583825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956723822619784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14618641772075364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10753478748329866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4051154184198705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3084696460773941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336475816843357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588922690197173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13909420461772115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17756470432267554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19854846843949964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20133724411378884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180626359196828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031452340357783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565199374215087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30221340115160594,0.15819153950311451,0.0,0.1978077594606412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11160343460454412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175869862891744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12184773797382105
divorce,lekongster,2020/02/02,"What should I do? I (M 24) have been married for almost 4 years, he (M 24) is from Florida, I'm from overseas. We met when I came here on vacations one summer and we kept in touch, he went to my country to visit me and we decided to officially date long distance. When it was time to see each other again we decided we would travel, live together for a while and decide if staying together or breaking up. He didnt want to leave his mom's house at the time even though I told him I was gonna take care of everything but I ended up coming here and yes...getting married after 3 months. At first his family was ok with it but I wasn't comfortable living in an apartment where I dont pay anything and also sharing the room with his little brother, so I would always tell my husband I dont wanna live there for a long time but he would always tell me it doesn't matter, well until it got to the point where everyone barely spoke to me and always ignored me, went out to lunches when my husband was at work and left me in the house, would make faces between them when I would speak (not knowing I would notice), his mom even slapped me while drunk in NYE, the straw that made us move. The main  problem now is, during all this happening my husband copes with all of this with drinking, all. The. Time. He would get out of work and go out drinking without telling me, he has had come the next day saying his friends all passed out and couldnt drive him home, I've found him all kinds of texts on his phone, he has told me not to act surprise if I find him cheating one day, he has called me every name of the book, has threatened to leave me with nothing or ruining my legal status, takes all the money I save ""for bills"", used to laugh at my face if I would cry out of frustration saying ""it's not that big of a deal"", all this while still lying about his drinking and whereabouts. He has told me to my face the things he does just to spite me, but yet still wouldn't let me go with my papers...

You see, I've tried to leave him numerous times but the legal process says I might lose my documentation and get deported. I had a Visa before I got married and if I get divorced I might lose it, but I cant stand living like this anymore, being lied to my face and not being able to do anything about it. What should I do, Reddit?",5.9602941176470585,4.954088659663871,6.238541176470591,84.24763529411764,66.81512605042018,9.044571428571428,30.174453781512604,7.839951260653429,1.757626655462185,1806,53,391,17,25,581,227,476,0.121,0.813,0.066,-0.9851,0,0,3,0,2,0,54.0,6,1,1,5,23,19,3,0,17,1,41,9,4,3,7,90,73,36,0,19,18,6,1,1,1,14,0,5,2,0,17,33,5,2,6,6,4,13,13,8,1,3,22,8,65,11,59,33,9,71,0,3,2,0,56,25,0,9,31,264,82,7,0.07055992242365244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07065556994761092,0.0,0.0,0.056426744469597036,0.1761345236820382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06997648302751687,0.0,0.0,0.11612960811928487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060041296998677336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07204956986681713,0.08070175387484407,0.07194054348323059,0.0,0.0,0.12156225073093176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775067615436763,0.0910106253730312,0.07274418174298909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06174746360786456,0.0,0.16539140715527895,0.2073655845964783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06249514797281259,0.0,0.0,0.0932083265886902,0.0,0.05944977786642738,0.06742302965484577,0.06341470854431648,0.0,0.06651761518873846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06449049079444348,0.0600182339680057,0.0,0.07736531296644783,0.0545144210330585,0.0,0.14745858885183216,0.0,0.08020165993482407,0.0,0.11286643146755634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06239590637151352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07077735529534347,0.0,0.0,0.16283335384073486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347730115083116,0.038777888062650964,0.0,0.0,0.2241383093943988,0.07666356216884503,0.07215230125919023,0.0,0.034472013976847245,0.07071957902523182,0.2492228168711609,0.12488662190732545,0.0,0.15787700932580634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06676550466481034,0.04709929612456504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14970585439883066,0.0,0.16527785670507927,0.05632025689763275,0.07499403090689667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750412779824215,0.0,0.0,0.06770414857712584,0.08033293934734527,0.0,0.0,0.09562645907882443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06670193367280923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06751631643376378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16833624713760506,0.0,0.0,0.11245424549539733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07520748900720141,0.11269849038699267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10610456074378743,0.0,0.18501744675823412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046876877161750784,0.0,0.06932476552894462,0.0,0.20572029096548453,0.0,0.0,0.20226908896453727,0.0,0.04790555565070855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487489886155179,0.0609411180894862,0.0,0.0,0.041618070390022285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06344184416488625,0.13081950999267747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06801724727969745,0.0,0.10273692777807827,0.0,0.0,0.4009899554135011,0.0,0.0,0.04543827664290361
divorce,pinkstarburstsos,2020/02/02,"Exhausted and numb I don’t want to hate him 
Or regret anything. 
But as time goes I’m just numb to it numb to his actions.",-0.3577777777777769,1.6000850740740766,1.905185185185185,97.43333333333337,87.14814814814815,5.0814814814814815,20.11111111111111,6.42735559955562,0.0020222222222221475,95,3,23,1,3,32,22,27,0.47,0.493,0.038,-0.9313,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,1,6,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,6,4,4,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,6,0,0,0,0,3,0,4,4,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,13,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5379739608357963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6454348770933842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38120221551532335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3855939675102581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,mollitried,2020/02/02,"When to divorce an alcoholic/father of your kids F32 married 10 years. 2 daughters 1 and 6. We’ve been on a long road, with many ups and downs. Varying degrees of awareness. Together since we were 18. As life progressed I became more aware of his unhealthy relationship with alcohol. After having kids I realized how much it could impact our family. We began discussing it more and more. This led to moments of clarity for him, and then times where he insisted he was fine. Many agreements to limit drinking or quit drinking that lead to many many many, so many, lies. There would be months where I thought he had quit drinking all together and I later found out he was drinking beer in his truck on his 45 min drive home from work, down a busy interstate. Over the years things have only gotten more serious and recently he lived away from home for several months. It was my way or protecting the kids and making him take ownership of his problems instead of trying to fix them. He was caught drinking and driving with the kids in the car (open container and all) and I only later discovered it wasn’t the first time. He broke down and confessed and said he needed help. I didn’t leave him alone with the kids for a long time after that, and even once I did I made him breathalyzer before and after taking them anywhere (he had it as part of his program). 

He is now home again, and in an outpatient program through an online company that utilizes medication, a breathalyzer, and reduction of alcohol instead of abstinence. He was motivated and compliant at first, and now, over the course of a month frequently “forgets” to use his breathalyzer or take the meds. He had made promises to stop lying. The lying has all but destroyed our marriage. He hasn’t stopped. Maybe he is lying less but how would I know? I don’t want to be his parole officer, but have to be able to maintain some type of boundary, especially with kids involved. 

Today, we went to the zoo. We took our one year old and six year old girls, and we went as a family to the zoo. He was stressed out this morning, and snapping at everyone. After a long nap and a shower he seemed better. We went to the zoo as a family. It was a special event, an evening light display. It was only after we came home that I discovered he drank four beers during his “shower”, hid it from me, and then drove us to the zoo. He lied about it at first, treating me as if I was crazy, then broke down. He is trying he says. It’s hard he says. Is it hard? I don’t know, I’m not an alcoholic. I just know I can’t trust you. I can’t put my kids at risk. Do I make you use the breathalyzer before we go anywhere now? Is that where we are? 

What I am asking is, when do you walk away? He is an amazing dad. The girls are obsessed with him. He cares for them well and loves them so much. He works hard. He hurts. He had a very rough childhood and deals with mental illness. Some days I can see how he might get better. I can support him through this right? For better or worse. I do love him, but I’m not stupid. I would be okay if it ended, if I had to be. But would the kids? I never wanted them to grow up like that. How do I share my kids with him? There’s no trust. Miss their birthdays because it’s his day? Make them pack their bags and send them off? I always told myself, when I was young, I’d never stay married for the kids, it doesn’t help them. But now I get it.",2.3306209355989083,4.377060778267257,3.4060373400461508,89.8959324522761,77.78120411160059,6.49708411999161,23.43801132787917,7.507097639713082,0.9614125865324104,2654,86,554,37,63,853,296,681,0.09699999999999999,0.794,0.109,0.9561,2,1,11,0,1,0,92.0,13,4,10,14,26,30,2,3,34,1,57,16,0,14,5,107,100,56,0,12,16,2,4,1,0,5,6,3,6,12,26,47,11,5,9,8,0,17,13,11,1,6,36,9,78,19,79,53,13,99,1,4,1,2,103,28,0,11,53,365,104,7,0.06160372238753035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19750693303190198,0.0,0.06380287768288445,0.0,0.0,0.05125923199773319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0575911645410976,0.0,0.11575745010723998,0.0,0.0,0.037553057382359714,0.0,0.10484046084647937,0.0,0.0,0.16345045883511414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07045824699243414,0.06280910064696164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04918555958592986,0.0,0.0,0.0794586091823189,0.0635107327711711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30174097578862136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05456261308181707,0.0,0.0,0.08137735527684141,0.0,0.0,0.0588649967108105,0.0,0.0,0.17422352062822047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15720028437767145,0.0,0.06754530190373115,0.0,0.0,0.0643708046952174,0.0,0.03501081509117302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16555450516499814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08258335313125065,0.0,0.2471742256607908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06594805893434308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10156738424299223,0.0,0.0,0.06522944713307688,0.0,0.0,0.04351253096082453,0.030096467034336032,0.0,0.05439721550070329,0.16355206727062116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11119952924929964,0.11658186327754848,0.12336288916326148,0.3747390324863552,0.06188921924134234,0.0,0.0684278480074469,0.06205926926513833,0.06208206281649116,0.06535181429764543,0.0,0.0,0.14751451042779776,0.0,0.09057164833995984,0.045678379572421705,0.09502517690856684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12928548756839353,0.06560595381471912,0.04174427660665711,0.14055722053729236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06671082810677302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058946442560430176,0.0,0.06192875606176336,0.0,0.13104628342242533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06082624392924173,0.06613934329469259,0.0,0.05260924232193039,0.058599247101021025,0.09797950526985973,0.0,0.0,0.04909019088203699,0.0560817151876035,0.0,0.06959467149547613,0.0,0.050959235754266974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06566137142902845,0.0,0.10300694069612984,0.07056685585766441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0699071741282308,0.0,0.0,0.13895499767273092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040926775822231316,0.0,0.0,0.04890647437313373,0.10776487778454394,0.0,0.05839312568918655,0.0588649967108105,0.06844400226745306,0.08364976745318456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07410169296592177,0.1064116737042206,0.0,0.05082952263344016,0.07267094312315195,0.04889816741397132,0.0,0.0,0.055389144736028316,0.17132180350357504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08969648718982927,0.0,0.06277945606613511,0.17504606754783622,0.0,0.0,0.1586831098407743
divorce,throwaway7292937292,2020/02/02,My husband asked me for divorce tonight My husband asked for a divorce. We’ve only been married since Oct 2019. I moved countries for him and haven’t worked in months because of that. I have $0 and we have no joint accounts. He is british I am from America. How do I go about things now? I can’t afford a lawyer let alone going home to nothing. I got rid of EVERYTHING including my car. I guess maybe I’m just looking for support and some advice on how to proceed.,1.0340765550239226,3.4262000631578964,2.310813397129188,93.87751196172249,85.21052631578948,4.7177033492822975,26.5311004784689,6.1124844417494595,0.8850000000000002,366,17,76,3,11,117,70,95,0.049,0.919,0.032,-0.128,1,1,0,0,2,0,10.0,1,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,2,0,9,0,0,2,0,9,18,5,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,2,1,13,1,12,15,1,10,0,0,1,0,9,2,0,2,4,47,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2194765443474484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23261788937749486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4199414079385924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13691409016649775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018560195701894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25529073946704234,0.0,0.17963315705544147,0.0,0.2474222484246894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22529213716466026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22966874198958426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18860745347146315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22564091272961606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792735966070376,0.2387142812429856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21550978083604516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17081843936391902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18579146107429687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548734459733681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492142761665313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16351149268202025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,RohitS0509,2020/02/02,"My rights in Divorce. Pls Help!!! My wife and I are separating after being married for 6 years. We married in VA and currently live in VA. We have no kids and she is considerably older to me. She left her job and took early retirement and since then has been relaxing. We own a home for which I am the sole mortgage bearer. Based on our conversation and keeping time as a critical factor in separating early I decided to agree to her spousal support demand of 4K for 3 years as well as a bigger share split for the proceeds of the marital home. She has the contract now but if she does sign, what are my right to not stay under the same roof and move out. I also want to sell the house as I have no interest in paying for this mortgage... even after agreeing to her demands, I found out that she is screwing me up by making false allegations against me with my employer and now my case is under observations with my employer. I hope I prevail thru this... I need advice on how to handle this and my rights on moving out of the house without her filing for desertion.",4.842714285714287,5.662116795238094,6.049523809523812,78.40714285714287,69.14285714285714,9.047619047619053,30.23809523809524,9.23628265651192,2.5766666666666667,837,32,161,16,14,281,123,210,0.045,0.8370000000000001,0.11800000000000001,0.9257,6,0,0,0,1,0,21.0,4,0,0,0,6,7,1,0,10,0,12,1,0,2,0,32,20,18,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,6,17,0,1,3,1,2,3,4,1,1,0,3,0,32,6,42,16,2,36,0,0,0,1,19,19,1,2,13,125,38,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15642674620992295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12801462752176662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400856744169184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573026427749503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17551768785528604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10729716788883747,0.0,0.3211433464849629,0.15899395689708473,0.0,0.3694179300255945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15885309769454267,0.14228502471470245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739256348702582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14135214768981233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10685356574438287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3402759816517478,0.0,0.11869609494016806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.410118201203285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13241849517837878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706222604653662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816550555206884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09334299424559386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17785297699412192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09441837960408947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14392969373658915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15430985178061868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061704645323421
divorce,RepresentativeFilm5,2020/02/02,"How do you know it’s bad? People who divorced when there wasn’t abuse, cheating , etc.  What are some signs that showed you things were bad.  

Examples:  

i knew it was bad when i couldn’t stand her snoring noises anymore.  

 i knew it was bad because every time i got home, i spent 5 mins enjoying my alone time before going into the house.",1.9101948051948057,4.3132891969696985,2.5689610389610387,93.4377272727273,81.27272727272727,4.983549783549783,20.034632034632033,6.1826913282559595,0.03751774891774984,261,7,53,2,7,81,50,66,0.312,0.643,0.045,-0.9657,1,1,0,0,2,0,9.0,0,2,0,0,4,6,1,0,1,0,7,0,0,1,0,8,13,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,7,1,0,0,3,1,1,1,2,5,0,0,8,0,9,1,1,4,2,8,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,5,31,16,0,0.0,0.2441627407430637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134294211115442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20436898649410234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6882492005788912,0.12562015365391102,0.0,0.1753528969237553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298258049180977,0.0,0.0,0.1736253427467004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11711600274037293,0.0,0.16481535803364214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20670796448507392,0.0,0.0,0.23778050890883284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11325230047113655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14286503201522002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369057069042513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403255810918957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,pandaoindrome,2020/02/02,"Having the talk I’m thinking about moving out. I can’t tell which is the nail in the coffin: the fact that he’s said to my face he never wanted to be married, he couldn’t verbally admit that he still loves me, or that he feels unfulfilled in his life. 

Ever since we have been coexisting in the same house with no resolution and no way to way move forward. I can’t remember the last time he hugged me. When I left for that trip I couldn’t bring myself to say I love you, it stuck in my throat and he didn’t say it either. Everything just hangs in the air unsaid.

I can’t believe we are are here. He’s acting like nothing is wrong and I’m floating in my own unhappiness. I keep fantasizing packing up my things and walking out but I can’t even bring myself to confront him for a simple conversation.

Does anyone know how to start that talk? The one where you know the outcome will mean it’s over... our problems were so big but I was the only one that couldn’t see them.",3.1492537313432827,4.311221437810946,4.312616915422886,88.01011940298508,73.42786069651741,7.151044776119402,23.35024875621891,7.554174236665415,0.8218481592039799,763,20,166,9,15,250,121,201,0.075,0.863,0.061,-0.3966,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,2,1,0,10,7,1,0,11,0,19,6,2,1,3,32,37,10,1,5,5,0,1,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,11,9,0,1,7,0,0,9,11,3,0,2,6,5,25,4,20,26,3,32,0,0,1,3,26,15,0,1,9,110,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100859836096807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17738140910733174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13777714907738253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039878948649454,0.14241384929853032,0.0,0.0,0.14149727360940928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07960659336566478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18166507542204272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13994025544148753,0.0,0.0,0.17305024538152633,0.1283349337622412,0.0,0.0,0.1710594478960078,0.0,0.11120480579563824,0.07691742350500005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2841922035256493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714987434475217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3346684437693187,0.0,0.0,0.12142773714228808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15106830348380232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133713700681843,0.1197405135783143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15064919352032488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17834927434585998,0.0,0.1497618674378342,0.2504058397636587,0.0,0.0,0.12545960951852408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13023632021427284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11143712066113788,0.0,0.12573210139814553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530892486654673,0.1376098431389884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045964014653726,0.10088144680980876,0.0,0.0,0.09180475938766837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09286242306005878,0.2499377117791195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1721363545771756,0.0,0.0
divorce,IntelligentPattern8,2020/02/02,"Feeling Like an 👽 Two years after my divorce, still adrift in a windless ocean. Heard an old song by the Atlanta Rhythm Section band called “Alien”........made me feel good and comfortable that a song could so well describe my emotions.  Me and my ex closed the book because we had become strangers to each other, shared nothing but an oversized house and an adult offspring. There weren’t any hidden lovers or skeletons, just a contemptuous relationship without the broken China dishes.....

The questions that come to mind are:

Is the effort to “act” as all is well or better honestly worthy? 
Where do I go from here? Why?
Why would I want or care to risk to trust anyone again? 
What benefit would I have from getting tangled in another potential emotional rollercoaster? 
What is Love? A temporary infatuation? A flush of lust? A commerce gimmick? 


Wish list:
A good trading tip....
A good friend who isn’t honestly expecting anything from me....not sex or money......a massage after a strenuous workout would be ok...lol.....but no sex dammit!
A well behaved travel companion of any sex
Befriending someone who speaks more than one language fluently, specially Italian 
Befriending people who don’t watch TV or aren’t fanatics of Sports or Politicians and their franchises.
Interactions with people who aren’t under the influence of “smartphones” 
A female or male friend who does believe that a guy could be a good friend without wanting to take him or her to bed.
Sex is ok, I am just not ready to move forward to that intensity of a relationship 



Divorce is like getting some contagious disease....or like becoming an Alien from Pluto.  People are amused by your condition, but wary of you. Married women you know don’t wanna be seen engaging in conversation with you, their husbands act strangely toward you...same guys you once befriended. Funny shit.  I had read about this happening to everyone who gets divorced, so had expected it and made an effort to meet people outside my old circle of friends.

Divorce is a piece of cake to those who had a multitude of sexual partners throughout their lives....those are the ones who will tell you to get over it.....move on.....dump him/her.....fuck those arses.....take your time to get your footing and grow new roots",5.492700135685208,7.776297587064679,5.451953867028493,77.67194708276797,69.39800995024876,8.554319312528268,32.331071913161466,9.178173031916092,3.1646358208955228,1778,81,294,37,33,555,235,402,0.05,0.6920000000000001,0.257,0.9984,3,0,0,0,4,0,97.0,1,8,3,3,13,30,1,1,29,1,31,10,2,3,1,48,51,19,0,11,15,2,2,3,7,4,0,4,1,6,19,12,1,0,4,10,2,8,10,2,3,3,8,8,25,28,45,34,6,27,0,0,2,7,53,10,1,10,14,188,44,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257625013381379,0.09696051342071413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06465561087403797,0.0,0.07609309136407127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05636749094348604,0.2042467619855126,0.0,0.1041795057597473,0.0,0.08178022332765562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09441992600175343,0.0,0.09427704849270642,0.0,0.0,0.0796527914034598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14765597145826753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08091916378442762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20802757833216667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08835691153454757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09350896008537056,0.06605898938673832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2857614616983529,0.08548495821243512,0.24155295224956844,0.0,0.052551561447638194,0.3102302948115173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831152490994096,0.08176893870845955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10669538519577228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050817865091323265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355252369240458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345576758317652,0.08749523448334226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09336608248056867,0.0,0.0,0.0982785998846547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893059430923269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08872531384268684,0.0,0.1940587280400464,0.09847515129958694,0.12531710052846112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564220203215151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10358505840679157,0.0,0.09249278752309388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985515478120805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09491683139280778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783476367346896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07384487612152937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695242510982081,0.0,0.08082090179597975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05391869704684004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032756975918917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10907976643928476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24941887547154445,0.0,0.16687554991981446,0.0,0.10633336567441366,0.17827125038673616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19705934046991366,0.0,0.0,0.059546208619991714
divorce,burnerspurner,2020/02/02,"But nothing has changed! Divorce taken off table last night for our child I'm posting from a burner account because I know my story is going to make some people furious.  Others might understand.  I don't know if I'm furious or understanding, myself.  I know we did the right thing.

I've been married for 27 years to an alcoholic.  The first half, he was actively drinking.  He quit when our child was born, but became a ""dry drunk"".  Our child was born with some physical issues that require additional assistance (not terrible, just life changing).   My SI is full of anger and resentment, I walked on eggshells and he became more and more controlling.  He takes massive amounts of meds to control anger and depression, I go to therapy and take meds.   I tried for many years to get us to go to marriage counseling and wanted to hold it all together for the child.  

Throughout all of this, my family and friends were puzzled why I stayed, but knew that I kept the family together because we all needed to be together.  

Last year, I began an affair with a lovely man.  He is also married and in unhappy trapped marriage like I am.  Believe me, it wasn't planned, but I began to feel like I was a person again.  Not beat down and worthy of being in the room.  

So, I finally got enough nerve to tell my husband I wanted a divorce.  The reasons in paragraph 2, over more than half my life, were reason enough.  The affair, to a man I was not leaving him for, was not the reason or even a reason.  But, it had been another thing in my decision making process of drawing out the life I want for the next 40 years.  I can't live like I do.  Locked in a house, dead marriage and fear of being startled and having a finger pointed in my face.  

My husband said it was all sudden and that I must be having an affair.  I denied it, and said again it's the anger and belittling, and he was skeptical.  There is a post here that could be from his point of view.( except the man writing it seems much nicer, so I know it's not him).  Finally, after seeing attorney, he found a sublet.  

We told our child.  It was heart wrenching to see.  We became worried about mental state and how much this could be a set back to their physical health.  Two households, shuttling back and forth, and the emotions, could be steps back.  After putting our child to bed, we talked and I said I would withdraw the papers and he would not move to the apartment.  


He's still angry, resentful, won't go to counseling.  I'm still fearful, jumpy, and am going to continue my affair.  None of the conversations have included working on our marriage.  I asked him if he would consider trying to have a marriage again and do full on marriage counseling and try to be new people.  He said no.  Nothing wrong here, walk away, look away.  


I'm so sad.  I was so close to a getaway.",3.871412051908006,5.559676292817682,4.720519080046255,83.71049209816267,72.44383057090239,7.703096492355133,28.2816822990278,8.356213837460157,2.038338164375347,2189,85,417,36,43,708,254,543,0.153,0.79,0.057,-0.9959,0,1,2,0,2,0,80.0,12,0,1,8,21,20,8,3,33,0,49,11,3,9,5,93,92,39,1,13,17,2,2,3,1,6,5,4,2,10,18,33,3,5,15,2,1,10,12,15,0,4,29,10,53,5,59,46,17,67,0,2,4,1,64,23,0,9,32,291,71,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0766282497872257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057340525759811474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07518640494661069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0670322313386278,0.0,0.13473386476185836,0.16540456974945034,0.0,0.08741845211797226,0.0,0.0,0.08078425155612623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517036403051177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16084107655030427,0.17174602223911256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061757325406198924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07024122903079145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08065574940119714,0.0,0.1481758608623968,0.0,0.04735887655779443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13518961843585245,0.16137066961531474,0.03625497788264159,0.05122433608457047,0.0,0.1570933389152109,0.0,0.060990176258619785,0.0,0.07861817588038779,0.0553972339341948,0.0,0.037461637615473775,0.0,0.2037511374570916,0.0,0.05734710182040058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07621648750165078,0.0,0.08496790022170914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08273514809534993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07483886256782532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15762344684376245,0.11689434224997562,0.0,0.07592267711820555,0.0,0.0,0.15193695411804606,0.10509077339188057,0.0,0.06331469006879087,0.0,0.06021210680484902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06471437614415969,0.0,0.09572405525379044,0.07269515997635755,0.0,0.0,0.15929080004508012,0.0,0.07225933404636356,0.07606510424481379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07620849300221408,0.10541929013976707,0.05316655308275985,0.0,0.06925079668610945,0.0762565052023981,0.06728801223249974,0.0,0.13760111493316893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09941907884433043,0.06260792545442692,0.0,0.0,0.13556422515411046,0.0,0.13734249869407386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07208089532350434,0.0,0.07626451779917406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29488876912472234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06123360987703265,0.27282228579642426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11427534268086835,0.06527533409469112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07642540786792565,0.11452354290276442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10782283039278936,0.05763181618985405,0.06267121363328723,0.0,0.08199814693989099,0.0,0.09527201357084017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06851488607164416,0.0,0.14604403144191275,0.0,0.0700429999611238,0.14928982495105822,0.08624937288654748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268761148479082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06470042406602547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05220033079275802,0.07281744853403126,0.0,0.1528063625941744,0.07839551303655935,0.0,0.18469643760700635
divorce,nana2388,2020/02/02,"Lost weight, look great and now I’m getting divorced Obviously there is more ....I wasn’t family oriented enough for his criticizing family....we have two kids and he just done.... add in 2 years of marriage counseling... and he’s also blaming me for the divorce saying it’s my fault...wtf saying I should I have changed because “changed for me “ never asked him to. I accepted who he was... idkkk 




I find myself in two sides
Side one: I want to be with him still
Side two: it’s a blessing in disguise ... though idk how because I’m still going to have see him all the time!??",0.2415283613445353,2.6501882053571464,2.150840336134454,91.37651260504202,95.51785714285714,5.135294117647058,20.873949579831933,6.794906146795322,0.6903029411764711,437,16,89,7,17,144,76,112,0.10800000000000001,0.7959999999999999,0.096,0.2387,0,0,0,0,2,0,31.0,0,0,0,1,8,4,0,0,3,0,9,1,0,1,3,14,18,6,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,3,5,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,4,4,5,14,3,11,12,3,13,1,1,2,0,15,6,0,0,6,59,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13728444051803054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604882803925823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209296882631296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.363208204108122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17567801708183994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17738100485842634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16183520193513698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15690327398240558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08969049189524618,0.0,0.09756401965296918,0.0,0.0,0.1892667859297053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14415956752369294,0.0,0.1873980889525292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13240249053458508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11632803785472852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730377557004347,0.0,0.0,0.13679876733834126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.274191774582019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16866490773382695,0.0,0.10010216011529786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5030899490953114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10125541642780206,0.0,0.0,0.20904781722427035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11054985442914506
divorce,shnullzie,2020/02/02,"Not so conventional divorce Going through a divorce (which my husband wanted more) and up until recently, we have been sleeping together and he seems to want to be around me a lot, like all his free time he’s pretty much at my place. We decided a few days ago to stop having sex in order to “move on” I told him we should also stop spending so much time together but he doesn’t think that’s a problem and still continues to ask to hang out with me and everything. He has been kind of bickering at me ever since we stopped sleeping together and I’m wondering why he wants to even be around me if he’s so agitated with me? I’m just hoping in posting this I can get some insight as to what to do and also what the heck he’s thinking? I hope this made sense.",4.334423076923077,4.7289302628205165,5.622205128205128,82.53946153846154,70.08974358974359,9.060512820512821,30.343589743589746,9.120678840339163,2.389794358974359,595,23,125,11,10,200,100,156,0.09,0.816,0.094,-0.2638,0,0,0,0,2,0,9.0,4,0,0,0,11,6,0,0,5,0,11,3,2,1,2,40,27,15,0,8,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,15,0,3,6,0,2,3,2,1,0,0,4,0,16,6,24,20,7,27,1,0,0,1,18,10,1,7,13,87,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12921997602876406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331510477358845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595397738485509,0.13627913906946576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09401225810685084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09628244197913413,0.13186105171106058,0.0,0.0,0.1310123938387006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07616096943840132,0.0,0.08284680083766173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2895732179350077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15180133028365494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07121787949859892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12393195746870553,0.0,0.13793501212534848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549348367005403,0.2143215258490568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15230294564470911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396113265656118,0.14830470302870227,0.0,0.1394861608955761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439343729469305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13270729849283802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12058587166220006,0.0,0.2917588246139399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11641541328924865,0.3656211150122861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18681236045505967,0.0,0.0,0.17000414193654886,0.0,0.0,0.1392934339320672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25794408681705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13153848399592585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15808583215044028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ThatsAFuckingTuba,2020/02/03,"Telling everyone the news 
I just start telling my family and friends that my wife and I are breaking up. Every time I tell someone it’s like telling them that someone died. It’s the only equivalent I can think of.",4.74642857142857,6.025212214285716,4.760476190476194,85.86785714285716,69.71428571428571,8.457142857142857,35.42857142857143,8.841846274778883,2.9800857142857136,171,9,34,3,3,53,30,42,0.085,0.782,0.133,0.25,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,4,2,1,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,2,2,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,3,20,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246156357297608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18234792843965605,0.20680396509319127,0.0,0.0,0.20402682347552345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672099056080596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573463120323537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16460144485294734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.366753469559188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15318717552584052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7566621631984422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13867680543135386,0.0,0.0,0.12619952585808952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,DazedandConfused109,2020/02/03,"Stuck at a crossroads Hi all, I'm really hoping you can provide some insight.

I'm 30 and have been with my husband for 10 years, we've been married for five of those. I'm not even sure how we got to where we are now, I wouldn't have believed I'd be in this position if you'd have told me a year ago. I'm unhappy with our relationship after he broke my trust over a period of 6 months while I was in a very vulnerable position (he didn't cheat but repeatedly let me down badly). I spoke to him directly about it multiple times and there was no change, but once I said I had reached the point where I wanted a divorce he changed his behaviour. 

Has anyone had success with a turnabout at this stage? Is it possible to regain your trust and respect for someone after they have treated you poorly? How do I work out if I actually want to fix this? I currently feel very betrayed and resent how difficult it has been for me to get him to understand the impact of his behaviour despite regularly spelling it out to him, but don't want to make a horrible mistake.  I'd really like some advice from people who have been in similar positions if possible.

Also, for info, couple's counselling is not possible due to his anxiety about communication (it has to be written), but I am seeing a counsellor on my own.",6.550888030888031,5.983074803088805,7.753185328185327,72.42661196911199,65.44787644787644,11.569884169884169,35.488416988416986,11.062562989136584,3.938933590733592,1030,44,198,27,14,354,151,259,0.125,0.7709999999999999,0.10400000000000001,-0.6679999999999999,1,0,0,0,1,0,23.0,3,4,1,2,11,14,2,0,10,0,29,0,0,4,2,38,48,16,0,9,9,1,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,10,11,0,0,4,0,1,0,6,6,0,1,15,4,30,8,36,28,4,27,0,1,1,0,25,13,0,6,14,143,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.1418931022648151,0.0,0.0,0.14208687869137934,0.12889166666425533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162793402798116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112334840953564,0.0,0.0,0.10166969499214684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12140607228355665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16382025367699707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3076358121761129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16088650303601967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960378170510775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07352051370633587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759674671623204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11629267569968801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444187494380383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14868520360251036,0.0,0.07103693613768514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970581438374274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160598999287441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15485026684597825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10080466429336178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13745355887120167,0.4917627013750971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862987533821836,0.0,0.0,0.1561092303775503,0.0,0.0,0.1383122799524132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158679771514573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12320014028929288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370413300186622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08478610609380867,0.0,0.0,0.13893953091970096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15137044983257128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23994667208621545,0.2572887279335069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058556744386188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18727051794863675
divorce,DrownTheSailorSiren,2020/02/03,"Taxes after divorce? I’m so lost on what to do. I of course forgot my username/password for the tax prep I always use & put the info into the website to find my login credentials. It shows my ex husband last logged in a few days ago. This is my first year filing as single in YEARS. That login has all of my past years tax documents, etc in it because it saves all of the information. 

Do I have to start from scratch?? I have all of the hard copies from past years because I organize everything but what a pain!! 

Also don’t know how/if I’m able to retrieve MY information from previous years since we filed together. 

What do I do?!?! HELP!!

*Cross posting in a tax forum*",1.9743076923076928,4.0854743851851865,3.6688888888888895,87.25461538461538,79.22222222222223,6.5242165242165235,23.71794871794872,7.61054688173877,1.1697521367521369,522,18,106,8,13,174,85,135,0.07400000000000001,0.89,0.035,-0.6278,0,0,0,0,1,0,24.0,1,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,8,0,9,1,0,1,3,14,16,4,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,2,0,1,5,1,4,2,1,2,0,1,2,2,13,1,20,14,6,22,0,1,0,0,7,6,0,0,13,68,21,4,0.1761777017693705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15617090266429615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408892444537151,0.1465939611735473,0.1908884662608466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21479258355260109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11362004282362285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19648470794509887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15833715834652162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16102322768902594,0.14985666312460588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578206159580959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180881998294402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09682265744750396,0.1436083410666585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923187730886685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874654961341623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3363631025226865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16872953828019652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17710725088596116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457360154737592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124699484094015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15216096842904847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5672633186331418
divorce,Baltic8z,2020/02/03,Whats with mid 30s w/kids and all the divorces New to reddit. I posted a little of my story on another person post replying to them. Been lurking since Nov last year. STBXW and I mid 30s with one toddler child. Currently going through the divorce process. Lack of communication about problems we were having was our biggest downfall. Something I've noticed a lot on here is the amount of people in mid 30s with kid/s that are getting divorce. Is it that we all got married to young? Didn't experience enough relationships with other people before getting married to know what we wanted? Or did we just grow apart from being the young 20 years olds in love to now? I'm sure I am leaving a bunch of things out that I can't think of but it just seems like a very common age range with kids for alot of people to be seperating.,3.8733618233618223,5.634675111111116,4.566296296296296,84.5198717948718,72.58024691358024,6.7130104463437785,27.276353276353284,7.321109707123232,1.4430136752136749,656,24,125,7,13,210,110,162,0.031,0.917,0.052000000000000005,0.6474,1,0,1,0,3,0,13.0,5,0,1,0,5,4,0,0,9,0,13,1,0,0,3,27,23,4,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,9,12,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,6,1,11,3,26,15,8,26,0,0,0,1,14,11,0,4,12,83,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856015281387242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15061525785533494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18288988700058573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17314145176861032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849519788304355,0.0,0.1005940435611802,0.0,0.14156428598695975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09727540712137103,0.14427986394463546,0.0,0.18741905406340514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864740026190629,0.17740202431903945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15048036378203689,0.1597507835815427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17094917224587172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20151740516771202,0.18573332175237373,0.0,0.1199408116738972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3681317049157006,0.1545509011394857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33903705934752154,0.0,0.0,0.16936655131446834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900333929149676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611355372868719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464174875094984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136264418615079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668218391061345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11759194577901093,0.11341542784619113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14604479217827207,0.10440008321893472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22796635299946075
divorce,IN8765353,2020/02/03,"So now what? The empty barrel of the rest of your life. I'm in my early 40s, F, and my husband is late 40s, M.  

We're finally separating. I'll be moving out within a month.

After three years of crying, drinking, apologizing, feeling like shit, thinking about killing myself, I finally have gotten here. 

We don't have any kids, and I never wanted to have any, so that's not an issue. I don't have to run out and find another husband to have a family with.  In a way people with kids are really lucky... You have family to focus on and something to live for.

So what do you do with yourself after this?

After all this time I feel curiously calm. I have no interest in ever being in another relationship. I don't want to date. I don't even really want to talk to anyone. The sounds like I'm in a bad place but I'm really not. I'm feeling better than I have in years. I used to be in lots of physical pain all the time, I could hardly get through the day without having a drink, or crying,  and these issues are resolving.  

So I'm going to move out, tend my house, go to work, take care of my dog, do my chores. And I guess wait to die? Again I swear to God I'm really not that depressed anymore. But I've never been much of a go-getter. I don't have a lot of ambition and plans. I just planned on being married for the rest of my life I guess and then having someone to hang out with in retirement.  Someone to cook dinner for and take day trips with and someone to just shoot the shit with you know somebody to hang out with. That seems like plenty. And now I'm not going to have that.

I guess for those of us that don't have kids, what is there? Trust me I'm not having some delayed regret about not having any kids. But I just don't have anything to really focus on or think about.

I'm a super late bloomer. I didn't have a boyfriend, my now-husband in, until I was 22 years old. Those years 18 19 20 21 and 22... What long and lonely years those were. Everyone else was going to college and getting engaged and dating and going out and traveling and all this other shit. I was at home, working and going to community college and really not going anywhere. My life didn't start in a way until I met my husband. And now I'm going back to that point in my life. I had a few friends here and there but most of my old friends have gone away. It was just me.  And now I'm going back to that long empty space.

I don't know what the point of this is I just don't know what the point is in general. I honestly don't know what to do or where to put my thoughts. I feel like I'm just going to be going through the motions. What is even the point.",1.3110476392723172,3.0844403249097496,3.3219218517732014,90.59379025978625,79.8664259927798,6.2223543569052175,20.61003751681178,7.208032530483347,0.4574603666737453,2036,54,450,26,51,689,212,554,0.099,0.795,0.106,0.7562,0,2,3,1,0,1,72.0,2,4,0,7,28,25,4,0,23,0,54,12,3,1,6,95,107,37,2,5,21,3,5,4,2,0,5,1,2,4,25,37,4,2,14,4,0,21,23,9,0,1,13,6,47,16,84,88,11,93,0,3,0,0,19,31,3,12,43,311,72,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319615218028224,0.1356531215016504,0.0,0.0,0.06414890746588907,0.04522838797069308,0.0,0.053229221897051926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06077252044404077,0.09947563531413782,0.05400823657101405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057207527993187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06594940281775531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05164471785994455,0.0,0.1421041429673135,0.08343134625916403,0.0,0.05571202648200108,0.0,0.06713152915648868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12673091608656226,0.0,0.0,0.05403498025409011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08544602498866723,0.058510162849717474,0.0,0.06180810328375365,0.0,0.0,0.12195618176226647,0.0,0.13082420746798398,0.0924201801064416,0.0,0.14171579161217554,0.05911978349606015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999490228461766,0.0,0.06758918826762897,0.0,0.4411352476585561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21376935775837805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05794394250173986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06488308384598243,0.0,0.0,0.0746363727924291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13502607717668474,0.0,0.0,0.07156299517145473,0.0,0.14219400835423054,0.0,0.14593219420650938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18275220644123535,0.12640486855528546,0.0,0.057116943886596876,0.11448618172636932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10998363686143688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05162995897865644,0.1374971973726886,0.04755000516417232,0.0,0.09977620448661352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357494472984519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06882807967206397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04484357375388805,0.0,0.06758076047876779,0.0,0.2445882379821995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06502504314583442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486284324078097,0.0,0.0,0.06944614949289976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05888566445819352,0.0,0.0,0.19919084595208286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16441901621161614,0.04979671751659027,0.0,0.0,0.045783497247652016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09726827291656696,0.05199035496852465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08289348136337378,0.0,0.051351679065731834,0.07543523960077439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07780659726933384,0.05586599920509025,0.0,0.0,0.11445647012476623,0.10268591355765667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06235283502479042,0.0,0.09418109325062968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082710989225408
divorce,the_Expletus,2020/02/03,"Not even a year, wtf Divorced Feb 5th 2019. Last week I got served custody papers, child support modifications... 

She wants all banking 401k etc which we already settled on. She wants full custody bc she doesnt want our kids being around my current gf. 

Anyone had a similar experience and what was the outcome ? 

TL:DR - served for custody 40/60 joint legal. She wants full over b.s. and lists my gf as a problem.",2.8097222222222205,5.684805907894738,3.229649122807018,86.9480994152047,82.02631578947368,4.956725146198831,26.86549707602339,6.42735559955562,1.1944111111111109,323,14,58,3,9,100,62,76,0.051,0.853,0.095,0.5187,1,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,0,1,11,10,3,0,5,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,9,1,5,6,4,9,0,0,0,0,11,5,0,0,4,32,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28241752364714634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17894739398254847,0.0,0.0,0.2278258330673281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854219257830923,0.169034805173661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250341916316095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20468509576353344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20861149803685392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448838598891723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2904185204546585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6038003408107308,0.0,0.20528608749014726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16480609664098586
divorce,myCFthrowawayacc,2020/02/03,"I’m so much more checked out than I thought I talked to him the other day, it wasn’t as clear-cut as I had wanted it to be, but he definitely realizes that divorce could be the outcome of this 5 month stalemate. 

We have our first counseling appointment in a few weeks. I am looking forward to it but not in the “let’s work this out and make it better” kind of way... more of a “let’s learn how to talk to each other so I can tell you I want to leave” kind of way. 

I use to wonder if I would feel differently when I finally knew I wanted out... similar to the feeling I had when I picked out The Dress for our ceremony only a year and a half ago. I now no longer have to wonder, I do feel different. 

Before I knew, I focused on my anger and resentment, living everyday agonizing over if this is what I really want. Now that I know, I start to get emotional... in the “goodbye” sort of way. Thinking about all our inside jokes makes me cry. Knowing I’ll miss our pets makes me cry. Thinking about sifting through all the shit we’ve collected over the past 6.5 years of living together makes me cry. Losing my best friend makes me cry. 

The sadness is such a conflicting and confusing feeling because I am the one that WANTS out but we still have 7 wonderful years behind us and I do not regret any of them. 

We started dating before we actually knew what we needed in a life partner, beyond the easy-to-identify fundamentals like religion, politics, hobbies, etc. I realize now that there’s so much more to it than that and me, the insecure 21 year old at the time, did not know any better before entering into this serious relationship too soon. 

Once you’re in and it seems perfect on the surface, it’s so hard to justify getting out. Especially when you remain insecure. Now, 7 years later (1.5 of them being married), I became more secure and figured out my self worth. 

If this happens to you, you better hope that your wants and needs exist within the person you’re with. You’ll want to force it to work with them because you love them and it’s not very fashionable to throw in the towel. We live in a world where you must “try at all costs,” and you are are a failure if you don’t. 

This pattern is what put me where I am right now: typing a reddit post on my burner account with tears in my eyes in the cubicle of my 9-5 job because I am married to someone that I settled for. Not settle in the way of “settling for someone less” but more in the way of “settling for someone that doesn’t fit.” I care for him so much and his tears hurt me but I have been feeling the way he does now for 5 months. I can’t let his sadness invalidate my own.",5.029860981308413,5.0257019738317785,6.104891939252338,81.07145005841123,68.51401869158879,9.304322429906543,30.737441588785053,9.103633062298675,2.400711448598132,2056,75,426,35,32,688,248,535,0.133,0.722,0.145,0.795,4,0,0,0,1,0,59.0,11,10,4,9,25,27,3,3,29,0,34,4,2,8,5,95,78,32,0,18,14,0,6,1,2,3,1,0,1,3,28,30,0,2,22,1,4,4,10,13,0,3,9,8,72,14,73,59,17,76,0,6,2,1,41,35,1,11,33,304,100,5,0.0,0.0,0.06755245414064401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06136273196140644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09414913089282502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265945785064243,0.0,0.1767130944378696,0.0,0.07264611915374382,0.18366850695386894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07057828911070904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05526958050299185,0.0,0.3041564247031024,0.04464363152345049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446482984712612,0.0,0.0,0.0605782237297764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07786747040380775,0.0,0.0,0.07720284804953469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17500819459408531,0.0,0.0,0.07583130160857426,0.0,0.05888173849973063,0.0,0.0,0.05348214486690645,0.0,0.07233316855792002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06121438768724264,0.0,0.062010937951982086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06875486399793354,0.0,0.0,0.07410552168100981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06869395127204984,0.0,0.0,0.1441718939726063,0.11413078893794268,0.0,0.0,0.0732980210012403,0.0,0.21235811122810647,0.0488948250883817,0.033819257554725826,0.0,0.18337768076027536,0.0,0.058130567000942185,0.07744373804131907,0.0,0.0,0.06247719234546524,0.0,0.2310371577582897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11050757143743578,0.0,0.15266239882262309,0.10265715784379853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07263874522507162,0.07372109977733078,0.04690784604005591,0.05264782781208102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06608196069076525,0.0,0.060443561910467236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06629727596385747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06958905006714414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04434654607389524,0.0,0.0,0.07432046701135278,0.0,0.059116756588556085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06301875791190134,0.07221553230254353,0.0,0.07105724749149601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17595933193738625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09799393981393807,0.0,0.05528222509694922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11127895468824546,0.0605046622093412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08871164624833057,0.0,0.05495597377033117,0.0403649610322603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0469984238791997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08326772164974182,0.05978714703833469,0.0,0.057116893998319165,0.2858099818819231,0.3296798356778318,0.055527165881536375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22521081128317255,0.10079151810630202,0.0,0.0,0.04917460939508583,0.0,0.0,0.2228893243170156
divorce,Checker555,2020/02/03,"Am I moving on too quickly? I (49m) really have appreciated this community as I moved through my divorce so I'm looking for some advice. The divorce started in September of 2018. I was moved out and sharing custody of our two boys  (5 and 8) by February of 2019 and we were finalized by April of 2019. I met Mary (32F fake name) in June of 2019 and we completely hit it off from the get go. We connected instantly on every level and she has been my greatest treasure during this difficult time. We fell in love quickly. By August I was sure that she was sent to me by a higher power as a reward for going through a horrible marriage and the anguish of divorce. By September she was spending time around me when I had the kids. The boys adore her. To them she's just another fun adult to play games with and buy them a Slurpee when they've done something extra good. I've been open and honest with my ex about everything. Especially when I made the decision to let Mary meet the boys and start hanging out with us. Of course she thought it was too soon. But it went off without a hitch and now when I have the boys it doesn't mean I have to go the whole weekend without seeing Mary. And now we want to move in together. It's a big step but we are madly in love and we don't want to be apart from each other. We want to begin our lives together. And we are hopeful that the relationship between Mary and the boys will deepen. Our plan is to marry eventually. And neither of us see the need to wait around too long to do it. We know we're moving quickly but we just enjoy each other so much and I love the way she interacts with my boys. She's a teacher so she's good with kids. I feel like she enriches their lives. I feel like this is all ""right"". Am I crazy? I'm really nervous about telling my ex that we're moving in together. She will be very difficult about it. She has a temper. She's going to go nuclear and threaten all kinds of things. I talked to my lawyer and he said that as long as she is of ""good moral character"" and has a clean record and there's nothing evident about her that would endanger the children then my ex would have no legal footing to block me from moving in with Mary. But I still feel the desire to be sensitive to my ex. She has the right to meet Mary. She has the right to come over and see the house that the boys would be living in and what their rooms are like. I believe in all that stuff. But she's still gonna go apeshit on me for this. In fact out of this whole scenario the thing I'm most nervous about is telling my ex. Man can she yell. But being with Mary is what I want. I think we can create a beautiful life together for us and the boys. I never thought I would find love again. And I never thought I would find it this soon. But I really am deeply and madly in love with this woman.",2.0463009631877576,3.869336397941684,3.3756389365351644,90.82990252671856,77.8164665523156,6.748766328011613,23.38992611162423,7.680030821947732,0.959672146721203,2212,71,484,33,52,721,239,583,0.071,0.7709999999999999,0.158,0.9946,1,0,1,0,3,0,53.0,18,0,4,3,30,31,3,3,31,0,48,7,1,1,7,102,94,44,0,12,11,5,3,3,0,8,1,2,2,14,29,54,0,2,12,3,2,19,8,9,0,1,18,9,78,22,85,61,13,79,1,0,4,5,83,30,0,3,32,344,107,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06591573770130194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07073190431759872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200975777336332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07599810039453582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058106062162987186,0.07072473947789525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06902935329457666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056833309148387336,0.0,0.06062373762525555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10232103643415104,0.09637898876104428,0.0,0.073893086289822,0.12330434635725218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035242182004576544,0.0,0.2300156147024275,0.16973285377896571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06699751936830563,0.0,0.07783341393883805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07024346131413556,0.03707121842133541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06897677653976343,0.04764509447603918,0.09886455581291932,0.0,0.17869062643801856,0.11939018523002808,0.056644774814088285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.304401511460227,0.06382706047428488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347770427381715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5018540635549821,0.04958680461374628,0.050016642612672566,0.1040501076686901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06472439334184811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296392025264955,0.0,0.0,0.07242086797239948,0.0,0.1728172734652883,0.06416465792041819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16125746290377102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05192975465251056,0.0,0.0,0.09548925703435636,0.0,0.1077384705980134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07721924188276236,0.0,0.0,0.0635750496241688,0.0,0.0,0.054217356333034164,0.11791637834859105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08962751913491256,0.0432221074417036,0.0,0.16065396844618238,0.07866650012255255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0658932259746396,0.0,0.2434183039392353,0.0,0.0,0.05565701085562266,0.1591456012468108,0.05354222691025226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06253097926420548,0.0,0.150621037183769,0.0,0.1300474242563106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23958863808349226,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Phillyjustice,2020/02/03,Wife has filed paperwork and we are in the process. My boss just got a subpoena to release all my info. We separated early in 2019 and I withdrew my 401k to furnish a house I rented. We ended up patching things up 5 months later and I moved everything I bought in our house. She filed for divorce in January and I basically have nothing. I’m wondering what she could possibly be after? Can anyone help with questions?,2.560944444444445,5.27200865,4.396666666666672,79.37277777777781,81.25,7.555555555555558,28.88888888888889,8.515128840125781,2.7694722222222223,332,16,58,8,9,112,59,80,0.0,0.958,0.042,0.4696,1,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,1,1,15,10,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,8,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,14,0,11,6,1,12,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,2,5,42,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750037637071455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998306905596625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216765396727986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22493831298037126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001742597987719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16775948697014606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.577586190186054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19977358351054106,0.26601132738797456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401533857412328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28215659083755656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28037435328435045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16627697120429885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27142134685210223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,not_your_cousin_,2020/02/03,"Dad’s getting remarried So I (17F) was about 10 whenever my parents got divorced, and it worked like a domino effect. My dad has a lot more money than my mom, but I decided to stay with my mom anyway. This led to being near homeless a lot of times and her having to work 20 hour shifts here and there. 

My dad’s getting married in April, and I feel guilty going because it feels like I’m gonna replace my mom or something (or at least that’s what she things. She says stuff like “go have fun with your new mom!” whenever I hang out with her). 

Advice on anything?",2.81593236714976,4.175974400000001,3.861159420289855,90.13859903381643,74.56521739130434,6.502415458937199,24.951690821256037,6.937597516519254,0.869009661835749,436,14,93,4,9,141,81,115,0.032,0.8540000000000001,0.113,0.8516,2,0,1,0,1,0,14.0,0,1,0,3,5,4,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,2,0,18,14,8,0,0,3,8,2,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,7,8,0,0,4,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,2,3,15,4,14,10,4,14,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,4,7,59,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14858011352636175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251230267146471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09268740366210923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15376066211899378,0.10862353658668876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588782159090745,0.0,0.17282542499026265,0.0,0.12160714006023378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14973722434739725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228497690943197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585325323710919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7123098412114609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468494669227499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.168831955370125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12091513432708145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11705442601022024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16206355654836485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17405924784383933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10101432095395056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886607502740544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213863555925072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,DivorcedBitch,2020/02/03,"Who's supposed to pay? So my ex has been out of town on medical leave for 3 months and did not see or talk to the kids for all of that time.  He recently showed up unexpectedly and it was hard to convince them to spend time with him at first, but we are getting back into the swing of things now.  I am the primary caregiver and have full custody except we do have listed out his minimum parenting rights.  I was grateful to have all of that time with them but I also had to have some me time, of course, so I hired a babysitter. I thought that since it was during his parenting time (the 2nd half of winter break) that I could charge him for it since it was as if he offered me the first right of refusal and I refused.  (Not that there was any asking on his part).  He argued with me and would not pay since they were not work related childcare expenses.  I asked my lawyer for clarification but figured while I waited I could see if any of you had a similar situation and knew the answer.",5.8874143444495175,5.373994452261312,6.348871630881683,81.76619460941072,66.7889447236181,9.849428962996805,30.653723161260853,9.339509955726095,2.3319608040201008,772,25,165,13,11,251,115,199,0.057999999999999996,0.914,0.027999999999999997,-0.3919,3,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,1,3,3,6,2,1,0,8,0,21,1,0,0,2,39,29,17,0,5,11,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,11,14,0,3,5,1,4,0,4,1,0,3,12,3,26,1,30,14,5,25,0,0,2,0,26,11,0,4,13,127,37,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11654874316068682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19821727593580327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724956637648786,0.0,0.0,0.11206556190342112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327240960277951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24793384064409624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07614347310161343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13055499379020544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15431830242692535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14681836967456552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11632879439718236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3236554836384881,0.1578229189330557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14390130713536056,0.0,0.0,0.2489234333237281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23227285392361535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3616745089926236,0.1638185940972288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11714081191252222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09682361029074933,0.0,0.0,0.11570179473621313,0.4249127178973904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10610092715145776,0.0,0.0,0.10352997448905712,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Ri_v,2020/02/03,"146 days 146 days since I was driving in my car, on the way home from my son's allergy appointment and a flip switched in my head.. it was like something I had never experienced before in my life, I felt it, I felt myself change, I felt this strange new energy and a sort of zest for life.. 

146 days since I told my husband for the last time that I needed him to get help for his anger, or I was going to file for a divorce. 

146 days since I applied for my food card. 

146 days since I climbed my first rock wall. 

& Today I finally had enough, I went down the courthouse for the paperwork.. I took myself out to my first all alone brunch not giving a fuck what anyone thought about it, I had eggs and a mimosa and a fruity drink with oranges & cherries.. and I filled out what I could.. 

Today I start a new chapter in my life & I started writing my book. 

Later I'll clean up my kids mess, and fold 5 loads of laundry.. I'll make dinner that everyone will complain about and I'll probably cry at some point. But today, the grass is greener on the other side & I just climbed the fence.",3.8043005952380966,4.398592852678573,4.457214285714287,89.70445238095239,71.36607142857143,7.401904761904763,26.540476190476195,7.3011,1.088505119047619,845,26,187,8,15,270,127,224,0.084,0.855,0.061,-0.6106,0,1,2,0,1,0,35.0,0,0,0,4,3,5,2,0,14,0,9,10,1,1,2,27,24,9,0,2,4,2,3,1,0,1,3,0,2,1,9,10,5,1,4,3,0,8,2,4,0,2,13,4,34,1,26,9,3,42,0,0,0,1,11,14,1,3,20,109,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10619738095976644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4443950715692072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07169623593879754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08725141219999988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084705219913656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08186742978941673,0.0,0.11263205056818433,0.33063932601160495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10044719774635473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059481034333619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09797847225581012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953547233666889,0.11232424244551628,0.0,0.17443579446905874,0.12398811530343493,0.0,0.0,0.09479377969465656,0.05357133656949874,0.09836280820236636,0.05827412497644498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052325166760458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06872837191610713,0.0,0.1028529447229612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08358131878833006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21727469017639184,0.05009438588450735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06844422598973518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07602986657102731,0.0790828351276338,0.19806169581038904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09693058278790237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105521999048849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3392785760988442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07893797166417997,0.0,0.0,0.14515239512396205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140290342728526,0.059790133798504765,0.0,0.2915791844876104,0.09797847225581012,0.11392235032617774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08138907682041695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09505280166103464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,itsover2020,2020/02/03,"About to split, need advice on how to tell the kids (3, 5 and 7) [XPost r/separation]  Hi,

We've been married for 15 years, and after a rough two last years, we decided to finally split, each on our side for 3 months, take time together. We are cordial, want what is best for each other, despite having been hurt quite a lot in the last years. It would be simpler if we didn't have 3 kids, age 3, 5 and 7. We don't have much family where we live, most family is 2hrs away.

The plan is to take time each on our side according to our respective schedule. It will probably look like 2-3-1-1 type of schedule for this winter / spring, where one of us rent a room, while the other stays with the kids in our actual home for now. We hadn't told anything to the kids yet.

Those of you to whom this happened, what did you tell them ? How ? Their wellbeing is the top priority for us and we want to be honest with them too.

I look forward to hear from your experiences.",3.130739666424944,3.9743678934010203,4.393288614938363,88.62762690355332,73.11167512690355,8.26816533720087,23.716098622189993,8.634040054169528,1.2169306744017394,733,19,168,13,14,242,115,197,0.0,0.895,0.105,0.9541,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,13,3,3,4,8,5,0,0,10,0,18,0,0,2,0,26,28,8,0,5,1,0,1,1,0,2,0,1,3,4,10,16,0,0,1,0,1,1,3,1,0,2,6,4,20,4,29,18,7,32,0,1,2,0,29,13,0,3,20,109,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.14191945826926372,0.0,0.0,0.14211327068892612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11967713675061555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366370008926218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15262062654598058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14225920443980225,0.2741983843117957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593123059857409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12860395450283402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16391105360169428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14587892555061668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556866530686464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23709098487723146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07105013092851695,0.0,0.12841803920248693,0.0,0.2442504475257901,0.0,0.0,0.12364004469625005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11608145753224987,0.0,0.10690835348920064,0.10783507730393828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09854765727271177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15679897335774876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15468353119714054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15500985652754626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.218691688220543,0.0,0.2542258158567216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16960370946202638,0.0,0.0,0.13896533831157948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14206473576818632,0.0,0.3498706330711124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715576787703402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10330985031903232,0.0,0.0,0.2809579539054021
divorce,divthrownow,2020/02/03,"Taxes - such good news! I thought I was going to owe around $2K in taxes this year.

I don't know what happened but I was told that I would not be able to deduct alimony paid in 2019 on my taxes.  That was not true.

Since my child, a college student, lived with me for over half of the year I was able to file as head of household.

I am getting my largest tax refund ever.  I am sure it will all be spent on paying for divorce proceedings but at least I won't have to burden my credit cards.",2.0436428571428564,3.0563920666666675,3.4639880952380966,93.60455357142858,75.95238095238095,6.011904761904763,22.648809523809533,5.985473137389443,0.1827380952380948,377,10,88,2,8,124,74,105,0.03,0.8540000000000001,0.11599999999999999,0.8273,1,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,2,0,13,1,1,0,4,14,22,3,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,2,0,10,1,4,1,0,1,8,0,14,4,17,9,2,12,0,0,0,0,3,7,0,0,4,60,19,8,0.5145751754408311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290405012074203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23273135308549944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344221454303456,0.0,0.1462224652962979,0.21580062165296549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275185641158564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640512924720007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14139852955942794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271896536842475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128309512988979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24249050655296225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042576053475775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458493158842019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18276972037506287,0.0,0.0,0.33136954197406315
divorce,Vettes001,2020/02/03,Co-parenting apps Best co-parenting apps to use?,3.4800000000000004,6.391074777777781,4.964444444444447,75.50000000000003,79.0,12.488888888888884,31.222222222222207,11.20814326018867,5.268688888888889,39,2,7,2,1,13,6,9,0.0,0.588,0.41200000000000003,0.6369,2,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7721339681021552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6354597826006143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,vojih,2020/02/03,"You can make it through We're having a hard time too, and we're all going to be ok. Just take a breath, and keep moving.",1.3688888888888897,2.0425934814814823,2.7861111111111114,99.13250000000002,77.14814814814815,5.4,17.203703703703702,3.1291,-1.0440962962962963,92,1,24,0,2,30,23,27,0.057,0.8540000000000001,0.08900000000000001,0.2023,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,1,3,1,1,1,1,6,7,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,6,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,14,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710595926650047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4272502331733753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4239318157383464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3183653812828291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5069184724218831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35860428622652746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27811124267176457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Thats_Somewhat_Raven,2020/02/03,"About to have a high stakes hearing, could use some moral support Hi r/divorce

I'm going through a pretty nasty divorce. No kids thank god but lots of abuse, and financial abuse/coercive control was his weapon of choice. As such I'm pro se, while he has a great attorney.

I filed for an emergency hearing because I'm on the verge of losing my new job due to lack of reliable transportation. For context, I already lost a job in July because he disabled the car after I served him with a protective order (everything was in his name even though I paid and was the only one working for most of the marriage) I've been separated from my daughter from a previous relationship for going on 7 months now because I've had no vehicle- it's getting ridiculous. She got sick on a visit last weekend and we had to wait over an hour to get an uber to the hospital. Meanwhile he has a car he doesn't even use and lives on a bus line. He also pocketed the insurance settlement for the car I had in my name in the marriage by forging my signature so I would be totally reliant on him. I don't have proof of that but I do have proof of his prior history of using his control of the cars to control me so I'm hoping against everything I'll get a break today. So far he has kept all the property and offered me a $500 settlement which doesn't even cover a fraction of the medical bills I incurred from his abuse. 

I have been up since 3am rattled with anxiety over seeing him in court. I hate this and can't wait for it to be over with. Anyone have a similar maintenance request? I know its a bit unusual, I'm just trying to brace myself for what to expect. It's not my car so I almost feel like I'm stupid for even asking but I was left homeless because of his financial abuse, it's going to be months before I'm in a position where I can afford one on my own again and I can't risk losing another job or make my child stay with my friend that much longer.

Any moral support is appreciated. TIA.",4.0374021164021165,4.9181158222222265,5.46391093474427,81.6515277777778,71.02469135802468,8.847442680776012,30.513668430335088,9.140100540675403,2.55473721340388,1568,65,316,31,28,529,211,405,0.147,0.754,0.1,-0.9716,4,0,0,0,6,0,29.0,1,0,0,7,16,15,4,1,29,0,30,2,0,7,4,45,64,19,0,5,6,1,1,1,1,1,2,2,0,2,10,12,0,7,2,1,2,10,8,8,0,2,13,4,38,7,58,46,9,47,2,3,1,0,34,21,0,6,14,205,48,4,0.0,0.3324631047196324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09365955587974104,0.0,0.10321573478551027,0.07479812038429097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06360548928121562,0.09807726200515963,0.0715523111337527,0.0,0.0,0.06540028578728589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08744051162517294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280668277342968,0.0,0.07958949613610604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10211355734515952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31471485604115,0.07467830402517799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471100432439655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16812244081840372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04729297759763944,0.06681982779698319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0722631841592004,0.0,0.14660103180212464,0.0,0.15947048171609088,0.0,0.07480669855766972,0.10312020637807537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234424376622513,0.0,0.0,0.21083645347369706,0.0,0.0,0.09882250417827687,0.0,0.09289914253229237,0.09211093525486844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784505182289491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051403162929619925,0.07624168917181666,0.0,0.0,0.10162362557144344,0.0,0.0,0.045695385682199975,0.0,0.08259114730996603,0.0,0.0,0.20927848417386855,0.10210206462120072,0.0795182141725227,0.0,0.0,0.06243384860593471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942244231188565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14931392534166565,0.0,0.06875734613709547,0.0,0.0,0.09033452969951808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12676044782195925,0.07113588443833005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09515645019329737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10041918864331843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07453350597624339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07737127182418993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09969348523361768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122797523109803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08611240579843107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09189546918554976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08865812709885151,0.0,0.0,0.06350260948633525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423468408495568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06809296871625617,0.0,0.0,0.06644299445201697,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,SeparateStrawberry1,2020/02/03,"Wife ask to seperate and it hurts so much Last Thursday night the love of my life of 17 years said she is done. I am 44m (w40) with 3 teenagers. I have never felt this much pain I'm my life. She told me I need to see a counsellor, which I did on Friday, I was told a lot of things that I just did not know about, and looking at the last few year's the alarm bells where going off all over the place, but I just did not see them. It makes me so sad and it hurts like hell, I would never wish this pain on anyone.
On Sunday afternoon we went to see a band with some friends (booked before xmas)and she still into introduced me as her husband and smiled at me. I was confused so much by this, we did have a great night and on the way home I told here that I would love to snuggle in bed, (been no sex for years) and she responded with that's not going to happen. Over the years the thing I miss the most is the physical contact, and I am more than guilty of not showing any as each time I did I was told no, and after being told no for so long, i stopped asking. 

I am not the best with using my words which has not help, but now I completely regret my current position, I thought we had planned so much and now I ask myself why.

I was asked what do I want, and to be honest, I have no idea what I want for me. What I do know is I want my wife to happy,I want my kids to enjoy there childhood, which has gone south very quickly for my eldest son (19) he overheard our conversation on Thursday and told his mother that she is making the  biggest mistake and he did not want to be here with her, and he left and has not been home.

My family, wife and my kids are like parts of my body and it feels that they are all being ripped off.

I was able to book in a counsellor session for this Friday which I thought (when I booked it) was to try and work things out but I was told yesterday that it was to start the divorce process, and she wants the house, now without my family I have no reason for the house, I am not sure if I should agree or we sell it, she said she did not want to sell it, just that I need to leave.

So today I sent flowers to her work with a note that basically said no matter what the future holds I would always love her, I got a text back saying ""Thank you for the flowers, they are lovely! 😊"". And when I got home from work, I walked into the kitchen and from behind i kissed on the neck and told her that I was going to fight for this relationship, and she responded with let's talk about it on Friday with the counsellor, i am so confused.

I talked to my mother and she said that she thought that there was problems a year ago,and I asked why she did not tell me, why did I not see them, she had no reply. can only guess that I was caught up with life stuff, but now it all for nothing.

While at work today I just sat there trying to deal with the pain did not say much and lots of people asking what was wrong, and I could not say anything yet as I do not know which adds to the pain.

I am going to fight to keep my family together but I also want my wife to be happy and if she is not then I will have to love and let her go.

Doing things and just hanging out with my family that put smiles on there face's is what I live for, and I feel I am about to lose it all.

As I try and write this the tears roll down my face the pain is just painful. I am not sure how much I can take as it just hurts so much.",4.591744897959185,3.6044713428571455,5.174345238095238,90.69294642857143,69.58503401360544,8.384013605442178,25.313775510204078,7.066338657993696,0.7278714285714285,2627,51,645,19,40,847,271,735,0.156,0.738,0.106,-0.9906,3,0,0,0,3,0,69.0,5,1,4,7,37,39,3,3,31,0,72,21,4,5,8,139,143,57,0,21,33,8,3,2,1,5,9,7,5,2,47,51,1,3,11,5,2,12,27,22,0,0,50,15,112,17,89,80,20,79,1,7,5,7,87,28,1,10,40,471,159,8,0.04922898599859648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04363852578070941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039368402317134836,0.04096246000267678,0.0,0.0,0.03347739861290689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034422051641156,0.0,0.04051126089539457,0.0,0.2761347389043923,0.0,0.0,0.03785405150896407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04189024119865888,0.0,0.051662783618450836,0.0,0.0,0.05468230556396639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0516156551988748,0.0,0.0,0.039305339520830616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050752922927031686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05037834461543378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18563482692768693,0.0,0.049783308972831855,0.0,0.04726754669457674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03803419246473588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13988983612714956,0.0,0.07874583451306842,0.05427513085704031,0.05423127820241051,0.0,0.043533029737335915,0.05240517100478096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032997151612370865,0.0,0.14814206052829412,0.0,0.0,0.11360728046439793,0.1581019430688112,0.05557353301964496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04375698469082714,0.0,0.0,0.08116488976686304,0.08025638818818225,0.0,0.05212638806807605,0.053487437329544085,0.10067994709882297,0.10431566605466296,0.04810159181356399,0.0,0.04347009655359421,0.04356610346291174,0.04133994960187443,0.05507464304549112,0.0,0.08370544690161581,0.22215540945835652,0.0,0.06572146084680856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25332278348086884,0.07300533867948536,0.07593685774567573,0.0,0.0,0.09239613699342716,0.0,0.04723653977874789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03744086219500175,0.31429867202455763,0.0,0.0,0.053310194506815484,0.0,0.03412918038402216,0.0,0.05143381251297539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04710549108087465,0.0,0.04948872806575976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05061559668259714,0.0,0.05285350752878941,0.0,0.0,0.18731215603610268,0.1174465967186996,0.0,0.0,0.15691651257031192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034844529670006966,0.0,0.03931433181015278,0.041157636622900534,0.0,0.0,0.056355411036683935,0.0,0.0,0.09279547340511764,0.0,0.03701407084804415,0.07913678836965024,0.043028303618164634,0.04532343618464773,0.0,0.0,0.13082220332374914,0.0,0.0,0.11724694785536505,0.02870581762480005,0.0,0.09332664506484838,0.3763232462680529,0.0,0.10026975005260948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04251803780555852,0.0,0.0406190691253338,0.23229225136814785,0.03907567766500228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04563576322480463,0.1332645083543562,0.0,0.056610904373843376,0.04745498576218493,0.0,0.14335715248548686,0.0,0.0,0.10491257761437764,0.05382416809377377,0.0,0.15850926473694854
divorce,FM6748,2020/02/03,Almost got divorced. My significant other filed for divorce but after careful consideration decided against it. Should I be worried about the change of heart?,7.417066666666668,11.459141640000002,7.0120000000000005,59.63266666666666,72.6,8.133333333333335,40.333333333333336,8.841846274778883,5.028733333333334,131,8,15,3,3,41,25,25,0.10300000000000001,0.775,0.122,-0.128,0,0,0,0,2,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,5,4,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,5,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,13,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40097377221388586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4082660590945164,0.0,0.4236028687819043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.320261225091118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4745126249561248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4066570852796304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,myotherdogs,2020/02/03,"Remember that your ex doesn't get to unilaterally decide that you're going to stay friends and offer them emotional support and a listening ear. Something I've learned from reaching the other side of all this. It's somewhat common to have a spouse who is insistent that you remain friends and stay close during *and after* your divorce. This often translates to the expectation that you'll be there whenever he or she needs someone to talk to, receiving unnecessary phone calls or text messages and listening to their complaints and problems in person if/when you have to meet. You do not have to do this if you don't want to! I know it can be very difficult because old habits die hard and you're used to being a part of each other's support system (some people will experience the realisation that this has been something of a one-way arrangement during their marriage) but it's okay to establish new boundaries and place a hard limit what you offer them in terms of energy and time. 

It's not a punishment, and if it feels that way to your ex then that's for them to deal with and not an indication that you're doing something malicious. There is *nothing* wrong with acknowledging to yourself 'I don't think we can stay friends.' You may negotiate the house or custody or your savings & investments, but there is nothing that says you have to meet them half-way when it comes to being buddies and a part of their emotional support system. This is not some test of maturity, this is about taking care of your sanity and what you need to do to heal and move on from your marriage.

I want to stress that this is not applicable to everyone and some people will have a very different dynamic that works well for them. I know there's a lot of nuance to these things. I'm just trying to reach out to those people who don't want friendship or closeness (or any non-essential contact at all) but may be questioning themselves on this topic because of the reactions of their ex or other people.  

As a side note, Godspeed to anyone currently stuck making nice until everything is settled (divorce, finances, custody). I know a lot of this advice can't be put into action when you're playing the long game and trying to avoid setting off a shitfest.",9.745394736842108,7.862717655660379,9.143346573982123,69.25617179741808,59.9433962264151,12.133862959285006,39.53277060575968,10.771109862388434,4.188393396226415,1802,73,318,34,19,576,204,424,0.076,0.825,0.099,0.9005,2,1,3,0,2,0,38.0,1,15,9,2,10,19,1,2,19,1,36,2,1,2,2,76,60,33,1,9,18,4,3,0,3,5,1,4,0,1,36,25,0,2,10,2,2,6,10,6,1,0,2,7,31,13,55,47,12,38,0,0,0,0,57,13,0,19,12,230,67,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09191369250003532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019132489994598,0.0,0.06396357249427842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06576847326189827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146753938549688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09604509639132122,0.0,0.09589975965246042,0.0,0.0,0.08102378758527122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09697104313499802,0.0,0.0,0.09761873855021704,0.09827198443257892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211608181228558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08987772438010032,0.08453446434204896,0.09200807714010716,0.0,0.0,0.047559225394250136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21801002417567125,0.0,0.04914211981480937,0.0,0.053456087062164384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685173761038758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085318426901414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15507765016697833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08323955064025869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15993176420205046,0.0,0.0,0.06278533577104155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09997018636670464,0.0,0.13948760855314066,0.0,0.0908430908160328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805049353716467,0.0,0.09869944846089647,0.0,0.06373703893558136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037141852297996,0.0,0.2608355958484853,0.082128982337047,0.09827198443257892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900020795662559,0.0,0.09455560994704756,0.10536798047475887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10655088955450967,0.0,0.0,0.07479975759453153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07969616839220715,0.21723441171343488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007642048827538,0.0,0.0,0.10774464920645543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3202122524200324,0.0,0.0,0.07072091327563435,0.07560132969673063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06248884197153324,0.060269423223367286,0.0,0.0,0.054846754011033935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12772022702306698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08123706459204375,0.0,0.1552176023406255,0.1664358964093451,0.22397976348061904,0.0,0.0,0.0845706372615831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06847631533146888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10283911595457698,0.0,0.0
divorce,death_metal_david,2020/02/03,"Could this be considered a threat? If a couple going thru a rough divorce were arguing over text, and HE sent HER this message:

“i would gladly give you what you deserve if it wasn’t for our son”.  

Could this be considered a threat? 

HE left HER ( for another woman) after 30 years with their teen who ( has anxiety and depression). He ( the dad) also has no interest in continue a relationship with him.",4.3508,6.213995746666669,5.490333333333336,77.96350000000002,71.53333333333333,9.8,28.5,10.125756701596842,3.127,311,12,57,9,6,103,56,75,0.175,0.758,0.067,-0.8253,0,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,1,2,1,0,1,6,3,0,6,0,9,0,0,0,0,9,12,5,0,5,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,3,1,8,2,8,4,0,8,0,1,0,0,20,3,0,2,3,43,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375181163963218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3114399989343379,0.22721119296818285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4742752897158986,0.32863498419195203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25581355262765737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2849182481815096,0.16879714910579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3227013192722373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31887668318490464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21098678427872275,0.0,0.0,0.19126415996465024
divorce,Rkemsnduejehe,2020/02/03,My mom had a hidden affair for 2 and a half years (I’m on mobile sorry for any typos) So I’m 13 and have 2 sisters 16 and 18 dad 44 mom 41  we live in Kentucky. My mom had a affair and used/ lied to all 4 of us. Around October 2 or 3 I heard a fight happen with screaming from my dad  it was hard to hear and it was awhile ago so I’m paraphrasing here. D for dad m for mom : d your a f**king cheating lying little ineligible m: ... I heard a slam and then it went silent and my mom coming to my door waking me up and leaving. I later learned my dad had thrown her phone into the wall My mom spent our Christmas money on a new iPhone x for her self. She had new clothing like 15 outfits a month used my sister for taking me to golf to have sex with this guy. My childhood dog  had a bad spine problem (I don’t exactly remember what) and had to be put down and my shit mom left our fucking dog and went to see the guy that fucked our family up she lied and put my dad through hell and recently left for a break sorry this story is all over the place. My mom was caught talking to this guy and she started to cuss my dad out hit him a lot and less than 1 hour later fucking hugged him and left there is so much more but i just don’t feel like talking about it as it gets to personal from there ask questions in the comments and I will respond to most with I am willing to add on sorry this is a mess but I just wanted to rant. Let me know if you want to know more I don’t want this to be to long,1.6293597560975606,2.5414728262195148,3.4493609756097565,93.70051707317074,76.83536585365854,6.223609756097561,21.961463414634146,6.360717304075467,0.15585912195121931,1149,29,279,8,25,387,172,328,0.11599999999999999,0.853,0.031,-0.9628,0,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,5,2,0,0,10,14,7,0,16,0,23,8,3,2,3,49,52,26,0,5,6,16,2,2,0,2,0,4,1,5,12,26,0,0,6,1,2,6,3,11,0,1,15,7,39,3,45,31,8,38,1,0,1,5,48,18,5,5,15,174,51,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06662767550266334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051113579378524336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0669112174582303,0.07026748135041842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06275816425923346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06474647423201554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07085721154218334,0.0,0.03800479159583501,0.05369663233089986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084616074315989,0.03926968966919254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22327026865732136,0.06646660323867287,0.0,0.06733149779053213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08471443205843701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07402064906637336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08261549996397209,0.0,0.0,0.07958701645372614,0.2449952344245281,0.07685950344238048,0.0,0.0734419230067677,0.07533331068690166,0.06637051631388165,0.06651710048659559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06390109718637256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7042422084773227,0.0599945795678692,0.0,0.05525362841085806,0.0,0.0,0.14518624749520162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06562964034470686,0.07852958615513612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07192106786333093,0.0,0.15111962907154766,0.0842000286089891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07421462988240067,0.0,0.08514529659180586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0598953693640013,0.0,0.07841164985177254,0.0,0.07715398380491732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524172741095374,0.05320092680404951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056513400885468336,0.12082672733520287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09041212085235087,0.12983380970083136,0.0,0.0,0.13299967576570065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13935414953008202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04840266102539945
divorce,ThrowRway2220,2020/02/03,"Did anyone's stbx tell them they never loved them Stbxh has just started saying he never loved me, our entire relationship was a facade, and it feels like he is rewriting history. We have had an unhappy marriage for a long time, years of resentment - I felt like he was not ambitious and he felt like I was never happy. But beneath it all, we did love each other. The romantic love has not been there for a long time, but the caring deeply was, or so I thought. I was just shocked to hear this. I'm like, why did we continue to have kids, why did we buy a house, why did we talk about the future when the kids are out of the house? He says it was forced and that he didn't mean any of it, he stuck around only for the kids. I told him he has written meaningful cards, he says I should burn them. 



It's just so strange. Is this some kind of psychological thing? I mean, maybe he has duped me all this time, but acting like he never loved me and we had NO happy times in all these years? I'm hurt, but mostly confused. Has anyone's stbx/ex seemed to recreate history like this???",2.248363374188898,3.997175739726032,3.23768324921894,92.37962509012257,76.99086757990868,6.437010334054314,20.658735880797888,7.273561745256523,0.3579077625570779,833,20,185,10,19,266,111,219,0.193,0.691,0.11599999999999999,-0.9652,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,7,0,4,1,9,19,1,1,11,0,26,5,0,0,7,42,46,12,0,1,10,0,3,6,0,1,0,4,0,3,13,13,0,0,8,0,1,1,8,4,0,0,21,7,22,15,15,24,6,21,0,1,0,5,40,4,0,5,22,116,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06940580721133621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427285499479426,0.0,0.0,0.09085701130007223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10405923200502178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051605723384651116,0.07291326799590754,0.19599146702944867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217294255010163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11503153586493095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355321898481149,0.1092597138669844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10628209292496496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991746622764893,0.0,0.0,0.1806437001189337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4605756766858687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10253521475881916,0.22235134907770834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3148666937877937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07762291489191837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10957662500609504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434919135665127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929136088852546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07224016228410868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08203374372688949,0.08920687596083977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06780560168248649,0.0,0.0,0.08102599959115575,0.23805319725679255,0.0,0.0,0.09752482182693678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2762858273996821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13144944261352248
divorce,duersondw23,2020/02/03,"Couldn't be any more clear I am in the midst of a divorce. It becomes final in just a few weeks. Tonight, I got home, and laid down next to you my (our) dog. In that moment, I realized the dog, which we have had for just over a year, showed more affection to me than I had seen in as long as I can remember in my marriage. I thought to myself, how has this animal learned to love me so unconditionally in just over a year? Then, I realized, it hadn't taken that long. I realized it was almost immediate. I don't know how to reconcile the fact that it took me over a year, and my wife starting the ball rolling, to make me realize my affections in our marriage hadn't been reciprocated for years. By the time we got a dog together, we were no longer really together.  I don't know in the end where it all goes from here. All I know, is I can't figure out how it took so long for me to see how far gone things were.  As I send this, I hope I wake tomorrow with just a slightly better idea as to where the next steps take me",4.7253100775193815,4.016106116279071,5.996569767441863,83.98167635658916,69.23255813953489,10.14341085271318,29.079457364341092,9.725611199111238,2.1795503875969,785,24,186,16,12,266,113,215,0.011000000000000001,0.893,0.096,0.9522,1,0,0,0,1,0,26.0,5,1,0,1,13,3,0,0,14,0,18,2,1,7,4,38,35,13,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,13,7,0,0,13,2,0,5,7,0,0,0,16,2,32,3,33,17,5,39,0,0,2,1,12,16,0,2,18,132,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15121593884728007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10269281855072387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667800452835816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13355716602112178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337511321629087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16542542714322592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24155496037132776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15147658193187874,0.1499882305033061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17047330375332034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489754772733289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40092057417095545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13629353593067506,0.0,0.1008011723322456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32120432432504314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09674166433893018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17106629196513773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12033640322028152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688652975287537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11354165553223025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10032515476838852,0.0,0.0,0.11988605288559387,0.08805586583293351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3355580781772804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12113210427825885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3889851383127333
divorce,fedupinCanada,2020/02/03,"I can't spend another decade like this I love my husband, however I haven't been happy pretty much ever since we moved in together. About 11 years ago I got a job offer to work in Canada. My permit was about to end when I met my now husband and we moved in together almost right away. I've never been happy here, a subject my husband has been well aware of. However, he truly does not care and has told me so.

On top of that, we have been married 6 years and I can literally count on one hand how many times I've seen him with his wedding band on. Our sex life is okay at best, but I have a much higher sex drive and he is only interested in anal sex, so that is the only way he will usually have sex with me if I ask for it. This in turn leaves me feeling inadequate as a woman, but once again he doesn't care.

I'm just done. I'm still young (mid 30s) and we don't have kids (thank goodness) so I think I could find someone else to be happy with. However, whenever I mention divorce he does better just long enough for me to hope he has made a permanent change. Then it's back to the same ol thing.

I just want a partner who makes me feel valued, loved, and like the best thing to ever happen to them and not just like a means to an end.",3.4618720644151217,3.704570517110266,4.8458107805860005,87.87531872064415,71.96577946768059,8.013330351151867,24.596063520465226,7.928766900206844,1.042785014538134,958,24,220,12,17,321,152,263,0.067,0.748,0.18600000000000005,0.9852,4,0,0,0,1,0,27.0,5,0,1,5,19,19,0,0,11,1,24,9,2,4,3,41,46,17,0,4,9,3,3,3,1,1,1,0,0,3,9,14,0,1,5,1,1,3,7,0,1,1,11,4,29,19,28,32,6,35,0,0,1,6,31,13,0,3,21,139,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09802406428212096,0.0,0.11073166610063588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11595462445246375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10337902466011767,0.0,0.10389521018184147,0.08503055298200977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320974841293552,0.09780058653826262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22549096259473944,0.0,0.11698084681760368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829054279197639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19354169891650325,0.11316354076271555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09237687674710952,0.0,0.19588524622662976,0.1142605256323954,0.0,0.0,0.20005507826987806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11182692796388566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10106973163773778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09275073960407064,0.0884423408692519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09778709131495153,0.3531490415443186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10983264585548043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10973534065463997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170901244569221,0.0,0.0,0.07810717229052029,0.1620739968978102,0.0,0.0,0.09786138394844207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996087241516602,0.104635141646525,0.0738141881228524,0.1121125551960614,0.0,0.12045596236802845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350618357782857,0.16258064482378265,0.0,0.08528747582411322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11776597280686155,0.07493306716621105,0.16820483354656626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11250141185438987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09443622476964927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09147438034425816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09369557228817403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08831074193323493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10180883388169974,0.0,0.0,0.14693122463138594,0.07085633116765667,0.0,0.0,0.06448111758551017,0.0,0.0,0.1056656172014376,0.0,0.0,0.1202812080914956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179019342475254,0.0,0.06522399122387286,0.08777465944999559,0.0,0.0,0.09942628882738627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08050484336452493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14242206470462285
divorce,Exxecutes,2020/02/03,"She won’t accept child support? This is odd as hell.
Separated for about 2 years now. We have lawyers, she’s made this as hard as possible lol.
I can’t help but laugh at this point.
So we have nothing on paper, no judgment yet as far as child support goes.
When we separated I was working a well paid job that was 24 on and 4 off with no real guarantee for steady work, but it was a boom for a bit so I was busy .  At the time I could only see the kids Monday’s and Wednesday’s so if my 4 days off didn’t land on those days I would only see the kids once a month.
So that had to change, I signed a contract for constant work 2 weeks on 2 weeks off.  Contract and stubs given to my lawyer and they decided a number amount for me to pay, no problems. Unfortunately not only was this less hours at work but I had to sacrifice my OT pay for it.
WORTH IT! Developed great routine with the kids and we finally had started a stable 2nd home for them.
Fast forward 8 months.
My STBX has been adding up the difference in support for quite some time. Her math is crazy bad haha and has been saying that there’s been month where I didn’t pay her. Well of course I have all the bank statements to prove it.
So now, she’s not accepting ( a very generous) amount for support bc she wants an astronomical instead and won’t take the money, nor let me have the kids over until I pay her that amount. Of course she says I can visit them but to be clear, this is a high conflict divorce so that’s not the best idea for the kids.
Does anyone have any experience in this?
A mother refusing to accept money, but also saying I owe her a ton?
She’s got a month so I’m not going to talk to my lawyer just yet about it. So don’t need the old “talk to your lawyer” advice.
More curious as to what you guys think about this. I’m pretty used to this pettiness by now lol, it’s been 2 years of shit like this so this is just the latest joke I’m plowing through.",2.1229929840274693,3.517906,3.5076892073443813,91.82722719808928,76.4384236453202,6.5960889685027615,21.908941633079568,7.229369725052465,0.4675346469622333,1500,39,344,17,33,492,198,406,0.10300000000000001,0.716,0.182,0.9881,2,0,0,0,1,0,37.0,4,2,3,6,26,19,2,0,25,3,34,1,1,2,3,47,55,32,0,6,12,1,1,1,0,3,0,4,1,8,23,13,0,2,8,1,10,3,14,4,2,0,18,7,38,15,53,31,10,50,2,0,2,0,37,20,2,2,30,223,61,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09524464208134006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07794515755716258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06628161052782265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06815192084751984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08138174339282052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10228669623275724,0.0,0.10640985729452113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031082640845356,0.0,0.0,0.10532832668356357,0.0,0.07782030007490225,0.0,0.0,0.12571764684916392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10183335833124543,0.0,0.0,0.0852949399245137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09534244721806236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10677147524089173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05539333412486766,0.0,0.07795409664643548,0.10745885982389312,0.0,0.09650868496865413,0.0,0.0,0.08731222049149016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06533077366577293,0.1029803371902226,0.09776839266258344,0.0,0.09598638741577488,0.0,0.0,0.11002955497990996,0.0,0.0,0.09672199160317953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996676760749441,0.0,0.04761796176608763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922266175268374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.311192243239278,0.0,0.0,0.07227131774420249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09352321452748352,0.0,0.10227631364369504,0.1038002831632336,0.0,0.22238651287064573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09213880365357273,0.10988057192613422,0.0,0.09916003857838336,0.0,0.09326375234964082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10366925969213846,0.0,0.11093996967389376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23253149599640166,0.0,0.0,0.15533881965905974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10004954392562254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898838142465878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4424223136909151,0.0,0.0,0.07328383714538174,0.1566822394353426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06245358539323415,0.0,0.0,0.11366879760819583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08418109348403055,0.0,0.08042134189990771,0.057489176174663266,0.0,0.15636596738692898,0.0,0.17527094946310048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2838315801442631,0.0,0.0,0.06923850017252321,0.0,0.0,0.12553244619545048
divorce,newfakestarrysky,2020/02/03,"Contemplating divorce over a lack of intimacy. My wife (of six years) and I have had our differences in the past, but we typically get along well. However, she has always had hormonal issues, and her libido is non-existant. It feels more like we're brother and sister than a couple.

I don't necessarily need sex to survive, but receiving no affection whatsoever has led me to depression. Originally, my wife would appease me with sex, but it was obvious that she wasn't into it. And ever since we had our child four years ago, there has been nothing.

I asked her if she still loves me, and she says she doesn't know. Moreover, she has refused any sort of intimacy with me and says it's impossible and can never happen again. When I brought up the issue, she quickly shut it down and seemed almost repulsed by the idea. She blames herself and her ""broken body"" for this, and it brings her to tears. At the same time, she also refuses to work through it and discuss it.

We're thinking divorce is the only recourse, but a part of me feels like there wouldn't be a problem if I simply ignored my urges. In addition, putting the stress of a divorce on a four-year-old just for my selfish desires feels wrong. Then again, she says she needs time to think about how she feels about me, but who knows how long that'll take. It could be years.

Any advice?",5.3831357466063405,6.191113684615388,5.8054751131221725,80.68070135746608,67.92307692307692,8.886877828054299,30.67873303167421,9.007467420416297,2.413753393665158,1058,40,207,18,17,340,152,260,0.14400000000000002,0.767,0.08800000000000001,-0.9427,1,0,0,0,3,0,40.0,4,0,0,2,15,10,0,1,12,0,22,4,1,5,3,58,40,23,0,10,8,4,4,2,0,3,0,3,0,1,13,18,0,3,10,0,0,5,6,6,1,2,7,7,36,4,28,27,4,31,0,1,0,3,39,9,0,5,19,150,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12519207550548914,0.11356583671676368,0.0,0.12828823619848292,0.0,0.0,0.10245317570567378,0.10660158566212062,0.0,0.0,0.1742446022892934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197698291788803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14230640641207815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10228905973017134,0.14175633542945526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11034489180405052,0.0,0.0,0.1338524583282621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11588696367336936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591143049350238,0.1830501494619096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06693457532840437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11329129154774888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14462575588363688,0.0,0.2674366526875525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14081683487227775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12518061561397728,0.0,0.0,0.11337736332151215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562840176166625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899906613158664,0.09880985474699193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12292938561984085,0.0,0.13443469050122142,0.0,0.0,0.09743690389403653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13873559512810602,0.12229985396430895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12258834167396135,0.0,0.1287905287882304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3056455457024515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11663069329470925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10597769657912397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231246145703084,0.0,0.14675480760129211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632621292651214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16418128741480334,0.0,0.0,0.1494092726038117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11519038477967118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09326893312779966,0.0,0.0,0.0910089150640377,0.14007317102942204,0.0,0.3300063318851725
divorce,erniecakes11,2020/02/03,"He cheated. We tried to reconcile. I can’t do it. And now I feel bad that he is hurting? My (33F) husband (39M) had an affair with a colleague. The first time they kissed was when my daughter was 3 months old (he started having feelings for her when I was pregnant, ouch). They stopped talking but then about 5 months later, they were intimate on a work trip after an intense emotional affair. 

When he came home from the trip, he told me he was confused but had feelings for her. I was completely blindsided and fell to the floor screaming in agony. He told me he didn’t love me. Moved out on our anniversary. Got an apartment. And continued his relationship with her. About 2 weeks later (ha!) it ended. He went on Tinder. Made out with a girl at a bar. Took that girl on a date, she slept over. About 2 weeks later, he came back begging to work on the marriage. Said he made a mistake etc. (duh). 

We completed about 4 sessions of marriage counseling but I felt like I was lying to myself. He hurt me to the core. My soul was broken. I could never be vulnerable with him again. How could I trust him when I thought we had a good marriage? And to step out multiple times? No.

Today, I told him I’m done... and he is an emotional mess. He’s crying—telling me he wants his family, he ruined his life, lost the best thing that ever happened to him.

Why the hell do I feel bad? Why the hell am I questioning my decision when I know it won’t work? Will I regret this? What a total mindfuck. Thanks for letting me vent.",0.8360061057735457,3.280715445182725,2.3621046960581857,92.61704049564516,87.23920265780731,5.380299901230135,21.75639759360689,6.885778809224403,0.6405434318038972,1163,41,243,16,37,377,167,301,0.20800000000000002,0.687,0.105,-0.9894,0,0,0,0,0,0,56.0,4,0,3,6,14,22,3,1,20,2,26,5,1,3,3,43,52,15,0,5,3,2,5,1,0,2,1,2,1,2,9,17,1,1,10,1,0,9,5,14,0,1,28,7,43,8,32,18,3,51,3,5,0,2,51,13,2,2,30,155,52,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08386819182377114,0.18213799310745027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11446236463317985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494943274071056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287158969128443,0.0,0.0,0.17416723564455716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11161660381242704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453784150963735,0.09660375494357584,0.0,0.1216420181436548,0.0,0.09866017032258698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10282160464552258,0.0,0.2205965248167324,0.0,0.10472442222680088,0.0,0.0,0.0927749906106908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914828440849566,0.08723334083144349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09645034925300487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10940622605582488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23352364428531544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05994208698031115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11153159014024776,0.07703945321700606,0.05328615258387075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906292316628493,0.0,0.09844004407681303,0.20640957452022926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17411746262494018,0.11592427922744465,0.0,0.0,0.08412160255026611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11445074615552005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221834992422904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11710049337609067,0.0,0.0,0.10375066345038322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07720039419508899,0.0,0.0,0.0911875063752444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876664330861825,0.0,0.10041711490634866,0.0,0.0,0.07246134301216338,0.0,0.0,0.08658949413606683,0.1271993312760622,0.0,0.10338572304095632,0.3126635288789302,0.12118091947846993,0.07405145373093844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06433238425055389,0.0,0.1749789467687465,0.0,0.0,0.10110909642672636,0.19683764184514474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23821304493223025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ThrowRAdespondent,2020/02/03,"First night alone in a parking lot My genuinely lovely wife(18F) left this morning back to her moms house. We have been together for 1 year and a few months. I(26M) am devastated. We were living in a RV and going to University together. 

She left because she feels that she is too young (which is true, it was a bad decision so young obviously and that's infinitely clear now.)

 I was a steamroller and emotionally unavailable/abuse asshole. Never physical abuse. 
The age gap was too much, and my behavior was fairly bad but not all the time, to be fair there were good times. 

See my other post on this account for the whole story 

I'm alone, in the dark, in an RV in a parking lot. I absolutely hate myself. I can't stop crying and I feel like I need someone right now but have no one. 

How did you people cope with the first night?",2.7855419222903883,4.9236987607361975,4.0676319018404925,85.25441308793458,76.73006134969323,7.536850715746423,24.36359918200409,8.447377352677275,1.5876121881390601,650,22,132,13,15,213,110,163,0.111,0.75,0.138,0.573,0,2,0,0,2,0,24.0,2,1,0,2,8,7,1,0,12,0,15,1,0,1,5,25,23,10,0,1,3,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,9,0,1,3,0,1,1,4,3,0,4,8,3,16,4,12,14,6,28,0,0,1,1,9,9,0,2,18,91,23,0,0.0,0.34128294804239434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983248869760188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107433496533857,0.2405032351031,0.08779393662209138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582004351329566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16200437275141805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14564280896525172,0.10288871529430606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450085783625358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08185052018284057,0.12079808052944105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14219103698977353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16618103323312378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3129587316616064,0.0,0.0,0.07036144334289425,0.0,0.12717328555864438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448832081269663,0.12998468172534658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16867579245877612,0.1149562821430042,0.0,0.10587209282528362,0.10678983392347777,0.1110779646257595,0.0,0.0,0.2703081254925161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975924366803078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998461090949858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13793241968634934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229932476368073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11476618436634753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12202862569973705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12040810327416394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679597438893299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16079443467244345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927448779104034
divorce,cassidee9,2020/02/03,Name on mortgage not on deed. I live in Colorado . Years ago after my SO grandmother passed we moved in to take over mortgage as his mother was still living there. Refinanced the home and I signed on the mortgage along with his mother. However my name is not on the deed. Now separating. Do I have any rights to this property?,1.9687096774193549,4.75441320967742,2.848629032258067,88.44294354838709,86.25806451612901,6.325806451612903,22.266129032258068,7.645422480735847,1.2796709677419351,257,9,49,5,8,81,45,62,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,4,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,9,5,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,8,0,13,4,0,15,0,0,0,0,7,8,0,0,5,36,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29797353800739784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22859110681464576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3371822880020022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5936469317358818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3572704690951334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2870672239184714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26844698197954503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527402896713736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21646728699299334
divorce,lightworker1110,2020/02/03,young how to not get screwed? im 28 and my husband is 60 years old. yes we have quite the difference in age but we met at a time where i needed him and he needed me. relationship has been very hot and cold...i moved to be with him with zero money and he hasnt wanted me to work or do anything for 2 years. we are discussing divorce and i have no idea where to start. he has been married 5 times and says he has been screwed 5 times. im in texas and he keeps trying to tell me to settle it with him for a few thousand but i need more to survive off of until i can work.  he tells me no one will help me i have no money and its pointless to go to a lawyer...i have bad credit nothing to my name and feel like he is trying to screw me. i dont have ill intentions because he was abused as a child and very fragile mentally. i thought i could fix him but want whats fair at this point and know we cant work things out. looking for advice is all peace and love,0.3274285714285732,1.988837600000004,2.159285714285716,98.28321428571432,82.52380952380952,4.961904761904762,19.547619047619047,5.6839178017228535,-0.4113523809523811,736,19,182,4,20,243,120,210,0.086,0.757,0.157,0.9437,0,0,0,0,2,0,16.0,4,0,0,5,3,7,3,0,5,1,24,5,0,2,1,40,39,19,0,6,5,1,3,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,5,20,0,1,4,0,3,2,7,4,0,3,6,5,24,3,26,30,3,21,0,0,1,4,28,9,3,1,11,113,29,4,0.0,0.1654714453652757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13647181211161874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11492632349892985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11660828106357995,0.08513399025936842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115052473106257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14591249062606948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16367769314390987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07061509004412743,0.09977143322971002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0729653434620826,0.0,0.07937064512740828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09360956032789587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15765645631929098,0.3017083947645401,0.0,0.0,0.12413411152273987,0.0,0.0,0.07675217681809153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06822965984511709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11727722900657947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12604645666484696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14074203538973068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14843395058462244,0.0,0.31066307187619385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13400525512153585,0.0,0.1465471815950674,0.0,0.09463561919421576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320215943450243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14854307204360775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14994002087447528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110613466479068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09885038383188237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24413383498480695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09278231859315676,0.0,0.0,0.1108725521469323,0.2443064478665065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18963671626116635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304643289468287,0.1647473679970389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30501723690434657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17986985972887362
divorce,notnotjosh,2020/02/04,"When is it time to leave this sub I wanted to say thank you to this sub for being here. I lurked under a different handle for a long time, eventually used my regular name offering a bit of advice from time to time, and realized that it's time to go. This place was my map; it showed me how to get from point A to B and let me know every crossroad, but it was on me to start driving - I reached my destination, pedal to the floor. My last bit of advice is to not linger around any longer than you have to! Enjoy your freedom and stop thinking about your problems from your marriage; they are in your marriage and you are no longer married!!!",7.502790697674418,5.522003116279072,7.4306589147286815,80.08226744186048,64.34883720930233,10.460465116279073,33.127906976744185,8.841846274778883,2.4409627906976743,498,15,106,6,6,160,80,129,0.075,0.818,0.107,0.7482,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,7,1,0,5,3,0,0,5,0,9,0,0,2,0,16,17,7,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,8,5,0,1,3,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,2,1,18,2,24,13,2,20,0,0,0,0,13,8,0,0,10,74,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34689188898129464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207026063528222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15800807612472126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38755688085427975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18544437388229496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14954709341857655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09273375004000507,0.0,0.1008744318401506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09754654528247214,0.14468201879704387,0.0,0.18794145185312253,0.0,0.18150054254225986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15707738517600284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18544437388229496,0.0,0.16779003495319114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16983863091438356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411510543290381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256317910761014,0.0,0.0,0.1483936690884686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16341344020211993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137315534883932,0.0,0.0,0.5174934654967934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15329858928047455,0.0,0.0,0.1046910801668834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,GlitterDay_Dream,2020/02/04,"How do I start the conversation? I want to separate from my spouse. We have a small child together. How do I even begin to start this conversation? Besides saying Fuck you, I’m leaving.",1.7174285714285702,4.499820171428574,3.66,81.29000000000003,90.14285714285714,7.371428571428572,24.142857142857146,8.238735603445708,2.2076857142857147,146,6,27,4,5,49,27,35,0.11599999999999999,0.8440000000000001,0.039,-0.5514,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,1,0,0,3,1,1,0,2,0,3,1,0,2,0,4,9,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,0,3,9,0,4,0,0,0,1,7,1,1,0,3,18,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2843260613539809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3979691377577136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4558130876716625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34233266406875684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6093878070588883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539065439371077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,crazymojo83,2020/02/04,"Last birthday gift from ex So I was reading a post from someone who got a mouse pad for their birthday and I thought this would make a good post to see what everyone's last birthday gift from their ex was.  I got a box of cereal. That was the first and last gift from my ex. At the time it hurt but 2 years later I laugh about it and when I read others' posts about getting crackers etc it made me feel good that I wasn't the only one.  LOL

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divorce,paradisepickles,2020/02/04,"Is it legal to include the name of the AP in divorce paperwork? Is it legal to include the name of the affair partner in divorce papers? (FL)

This is in Florida, USA. My soon-to-be-ex (STBX) and I agreed to include a brief statement acknowledging their extramarital affair and desire to continue their relationship alongside the irreconcilable differences statement in our paperwork when we file for divorce. The lawyer who is preparing and filing our paperwork says that it is “improper” to include the affair partner’s (AP) name in this statement.

Since myself, my STBX, and the AP all agree to include this, is there any legal reason why it should be omitted? The lawyer says that it can create some liability issues, but is there some addendum or other paperwork that can be filed with the AP’s signature to allow this?

I get the impression that my STBX and the AP don’t love the idea and are asking the lawyer to convince me to exclude it. I’d rather not if at all possible. Thank you.",6.5020491803278695,7.60987949180328,7.1225273224043715,71.15952868852459,65.55737704918033,10.034426229508195,34.37568306010929,10.125756701596842,3.6999912568305997,789,35,132,18,12,260,94,183,0.02,0.835,0.145,0.9634,0,0,0,0,3,0,24.0,3,1,2,0,4,4,0,0,15,0,14,1,0,2,2,29,18,10,0,4,5,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,2,16,8,0,0,6,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,13,4,19,15,4,9,0,0,0,1,23,6,0,4,2,95,29,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18023549572345549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24777553222485665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769091709428507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13847185171709867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991965830056412,0.0,0.27663168349820616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392078955378389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29879146257573863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725040635597417,0.0,0.28455251975588264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4215390374341779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21924286236259535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440121493036483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391563235773609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,alanha1984,2020/02/04,"I miss my wife so much My wife left the day before New Year’s Eve for what I thought was a day trip and never came home.  It’s absolutely wrecked me.  I can get out of this pit I’m in.  I don’t know how to stop loving this woman, and I really can’t accept that this is who she is.  There were no fights, no signs, no nothing.  I want my best friend back so badly.",0.2883068783068765,1.5321369135802492,2.471005291005291,97.95666666666668,81.09876543209877,5.616225749559083,16.509700176366838,6.1826913282559595,-0.7286522045855386,274,4,72,2,7,93,62,81,0.239,0.647,0.113,-0.7967,0,1,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,5,7,1,0,2,0,7,1,0,1,1,12,15,5,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,7,4,0,1,3,0,0,2,6,3,0,0,4,0,11,4,5,11,2,13,0,1,0,1,8,3,0,0,8,45,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937561509443802,0.210391780947107,0.0,0.0,0.2144154079481244,0.0,0.2644362149349585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881966303889972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32501097315406563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946782033225655,0.0,0.13164852803236762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527552912368752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13848096400221288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737757140314842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274207136741009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18523341819131928,0.0,0.1943415920503105,0.2433627045986193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24178046382416846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16142407778730267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21066556778294251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000430286046782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14862363051362734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16226609200435044
divorce,canadiandancingbear,2020/02/04,Book recommendation please What is the best book on the effects of divorce on kids?,3.671999999999997,6.909549866666668,3.855,80.7825,83.66666666666666,5.666666666666668,27.5,7.1686216300943375,1.6469999999999998,68,3,12,1,2,21,12,15,0.0,0.667,0.33299999999999996,0.7579,0,0,0,0,1,0,1.0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,8,1,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6910385419374278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7228179117571687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Achilles0086,2020/02/04,"Thank You A little over a year ago, I posted in this sub. I can't find the post because I did it under a different handle. Honestly, I don't even remember what it said. What I do know is that I was in a rough spot. I was right in the middle of divorce, I was lonely and struggling. I received some great support and kind words here. I just wanted to drop in and say thanks.   


I don't want to make it sound neat and clean, because parts of me are still healing, but I feel more like myself now than I have in years. I think I just wanted to post this in the event that someone might need to hear this. Do the damn work. Do the counseling. Look hard at yourself. Own your shit. Release the shit that isn't yours. There is life after all of it. You'll be alright.",0.8383726415094337,2.818293509433964,2.237826257861638,96.71824882075474,82.45911949685535,4.981289308176102,19.371462264150946,5.985473137389443,-0.25892169811320764,584,15,134,4,16,188,99,159,0.132,0.7290000000000001,0.139,-0.2315,1,2,0,0,1,0,21.0,0,4,0,1,7,14,3,1,10,1,18,4,2,1,1,21,32,5,0,4,3,0,3,1,0,2,2,4,1,0,12,4,0,0,5,0,0,1,4,5,0,0,5,8,21,9,18,24,5,24,0,1,1,0,9,12,3,2,8,95,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13259474150142025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18236666758468156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15628055605868402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09879699639092164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756327679068386,0.10686086569428443,0.0,0.0,0.13671454084533485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16491384200532047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13399540772035762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16858892548005933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15576584029122933,0.0822059360400138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10565365142850357,0.07307783682217993,0.14991969600645333,0.0,0.0,0.12561056619298955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099846637302428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15868205446932446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11091259199582236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16198190322795822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4297724312961565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16944638255016065,0.12774155921206345,0.142286010270424,0.11895300351798732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3070859807501116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126739696811817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11945576919494935,0.0,0.0,0.15637478661806092,0.0,0.0,0.16974301527864608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2754286125548298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09584561692804744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26468066752862857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088969221354606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926508249980044
divorce,PretendCamera,2020/02/04,"W wants to sell home before Divorce? a few months back my W had an affair. I was very hurt called her some names ( you can guess which). 

She then gave me an ultimatum: Sell house, get separate apartments for one year and try to work it out, or she is filing for D.

We have two small kids. 

I will mostly likely not be agreeing to sell my home. I will be meeting an attorney next week. 

Any advice here?",1.4839814814814822,3.5623567037037063,2.635293209876544,94.20256944444448,80.72839506172839,5.531481481481482,18.766975308641968,6.6274283507984215,-0.08975432098765435,307,7,68,3,8,98,66,81,0.077,0.9229999999999999,0.0,-0.726,0,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,1,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,0,0,10,13,3,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,2,3,0,11,1,6,6,3,9,0,1,0,0,12,3,0,4,7,43,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286672555454657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15913161770912926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799356193448002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19912126163823746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389455586325692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12225810283636017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25778320264873394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4694527595610415,0.0,0.0,0.2700106799347366,0.25050749665872346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11432316184695325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18678078538998455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488672745882659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15856803674804246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15887422753142752,0.0,0.2285891604663088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19307886656585274,0.1380223795497417,0.0,0.18770492408667447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17035863396203849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15069173092649107
divorce,laughingllamahehe,2020/02/04,"I need help. My husband of 3 years, together for 10 had an affair right under my nose for 2 months. The affair was with our friend, his best friend’s girl. I know it’s over, I have to move on. But this has left me so insecure. I have small breast and have always been self conscious about them, and of course she has huge boobs. I have a strong personality, and she’s a ditzy push over. I’ve gained 30lbs in the past year and of course she’s thin. She plays video games, I don’t. I read the messages...he thinks she’s kind hearted and I’m not. I’m just so destroyed by the comparison. How do ever get over this feeling of being inadequate?",0.29136278195488785,2.567689353383461,1.758641917293236,97.25946663533837,87.796992481203,4.828759398496241,16.58317669172932,6.322622252153567,-0.5370296992481203,496,11,116,5,16,159,90,133,0.077,0.737,0.187,0.9168,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,1,3,7,8,1,1,7,0,12,4,4,1,1,16,19,9,0,1,3,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,3,6,0,0,4,4,0,2,2,2,0,0,3,3,18,6,16,15,1,18,0,0,0,2,18,11,1,0,5,69,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917707356728728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.241865601352344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20847465017055947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11653330617016194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3561233904999555,0.0,0.12041183696238912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731098157947838,0.1544801762247719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400005825500023,0.1266610991330584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504079394956519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839601380710857,0.2449547115030977,0.0,0.17089168357683185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22001110791876635,0.0,0.2012388083445114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305338508121582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968213863156432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24043201964263744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14767681960684015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2968321561506256
divorce,rererenaw37,2020/02/04,Advice on something STBXW said So my STBXW is making a big deal out of 50/50 custody and has threatened to throw me down the stairs and make it look like an accident over it in the heat of an argument. She’s always been aggressive in nature from the beginning of the relationship if she didn’t get her way. However I’ve been told from her friend that she told her “I’ve never wanted someone dead this much in my life.” This has me shook and I’m trying to get a feeling if this was just normal venting or I should be worried. Either way it’s not ok but I need opinions if this should be taken as an actual threat on my life or just normal venting between friends (as they are close),4.623948840927259,5.168360539568347,5.289448441247,84.64809752198244,69.50359712230215,8.19216626698641,27.67466027178257,8.167268648758528,1.6567355715427654,541,17,111,7,9,175,90,139,0.111,0.809,0.08,-0.3555,1,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,0,3,7,2,1,9,1,12,2,0,2,1,26,26,12,1,9,10,0,1,1,2,2,2,1,0,0,8,5,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,8,3,14,4,18,14,2,17,0,0,1,0,14,11,0,6,3,77,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.1811339018880672,0.0,0.0,0.18138126754346032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15444692207128094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19136137653082266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09385274762398324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28681206935624953,0.0,0.19395282115946536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622113604327064,0.09068233208953527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15587022786654298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477995057219337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364487114598971,0.1376315027598578,0.1431580763193656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3637274582782288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19928152649912548,0.0,0.0,0.17656279654848056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572713667371163,0.1428958402130912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3547270298596284,0.0,0.1260207050672755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10948080035499054,0.2946658058531994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188501497422204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,gravybeanfly,2020/02/04,"Potential loneliness Hi all, I’ve been with my partner for 12 years, married for 2. No children. It is quite possible we are about to separate. This could be a great thing for me but I’m not sure. If I stop fighting and I move out I’ve realised I have no friends or contact with anyone except my partner outside of work. Having moved to a new part of the country years ago I’ve lost contact and neglected friendships which are now over.

I don’t want to be lonely but this could be good for me. 

Anyone else had this issue?",0.6180727762803215,3.0897322358490587,2.1685175202156337,93.00094339622645,89.84905660377359,4.9153638814016185,23.609164420485172,6.5431188927421005,0.7924522911051213,411,17,84,5,14,133,74,106,0.188,0.667,0.146,-0.6201,0,2,0,0,2,0,10.0,1,0,0,3,2,8,1,0,3,0,13,0,0,0,2,19,16,6,0,4,6,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,6,6,0,2,0,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,3,0,9,4,15,8,2,10,0,3,0,0,9,2,0,2,6,58,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17579145584932415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773284597984447,0.20319388675504788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3166716901363878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16566407207367626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15321521398380802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16633453902885198,0.0,0.2186394727841465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20698600865622485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164807690270337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42154814359820897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19153078374662466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147523670038009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22356677108357675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21092902269908667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16579755461068946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18690653584503014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317495559729945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11696944477377125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14437336098655215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25541260998355514
divorce,grumary,2020/02/04,"Potential loneliness Hi all, been with my partner 12 years married for 2. It appears it could all end. We have no children and I’ve realised I don’t really have any friends or contact with  people other than my partner outside of work.

I could stop fighting and let us separate which could be good for me but I worry about how alone I will be when if I move out.

Anyone had this issue? I’m not close to family etc and have neglected any friendships I had over a decade ago.",1.8625263157894736,4.232790463157897,3.2686842105263167,88.54828947368422,81.21052631578947,6.326315789473685,25.28947368421053,7.554174236665415,1.4362421052631578,374,15,74,6,10,122,73,95,0.177,0.748,0.075,-0.8507,0,1,0,0,2,0,7.0,2,0,0,1,3,4,1,0,1,0,14,0,0,1,2,21,16,8,0,4,4,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,3,5,8,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,3,0,11,2,10,6,3,10,0,1,0,0,9,3,0,3,5,54,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871717006032229,0.0,0.0,0.2186876803757468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2871784286040056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476409623987621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5057581879280434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870161930533556,0.0,0.2354880217838401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19905339161686086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631339362944715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17710256956838935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203857010801812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21591514124268926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22441899278380587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463847968827451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13526807199116606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17653082228829933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539874051947403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15371968658600682,0.2144330351292886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359736522322951
divorce,18truck,2020/02/04,"Today ... is my sock day 19 years of marriage over in 5 minutes of paperwork.   This the day after my first son’s 16th birthday.  

I’m happy sad.

Now at a shit hole diner having an omelette by myself, and I have a headache.

Next stop ... work ... I work at Walmart so there’s more fun in my future as the regional managers are touring. 

It’s raining ... worms surface in the rain. 

Still I am happy sad.",0.34645569620252914,2.708090291139244,2.278341772151901,92.79877848101269,89.12658227848101,4.1726582278481015,23.08987341772152,5.6839178017228535,0.3809432911392405,299,12,61,2,10,99,61,79,0.134,0.7390000000000001,0.126,0.0661,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,3,4,6,1,0,6,0,5,2,1,0,0,2,6,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,7,3,11,6,1,18,0,2,0,0,2,7,1,0,11,38,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3462766295792157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283569823474296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5715739477639656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855165615285396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755764185044693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2143972379594128,0.22444953803356416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544743101134776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3908927879409799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17288325649122635
divorce,-JustARedHerring,2020/02/04,"Just found out my wife is pregnant and it's not mine. She lied about it and kept lying about it or getting defensive if I asked about it or about our relationship before I found out she was pregnant. We have two kids, I just started college after getting out of the Army after 11 years.  I'm just in distraught. I don't know what to do, I'm stressed and wanted to work things out until I found out about this. She never really cared to work things out, kept saying get a counselor but could never talk about simple emotions and feelings about each other and never did the leg work to find a counselor. I'm stressing because we currently live together, we have one car, I provide all the income and like I said earlier, I just started college, I don't need this additional stress along with college, I just don't know what to do.",5.704478527607362,6.083792975460124,5.897061349693253,81.81565337423316,67.09815950920246,8.237791411042949,31.0239263803681,7.908726449838941,2.063304785276074,657,24,126,7,10,209,89,163,0.096,0.866,0.038,-0.8415,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,4,0,0,3,12,7,1,4,5,0,11,1,1,0,4,46,32,11,0,4,10,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,11,19,0,3,7,0,0,1,7,5,0,2,8,3,19,2,25,23,2,18,0,0,0,0,14,7,0,3,11,94,30,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12759688581407894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08320118568477876,0.0,0.11614035258635436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13915755493390514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089737337349536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15352946248505694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06901190935617263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247466113115228,0.0,0.0,0.4489527296224882,0.0,0.0,0.2139264142834304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500193306033904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06668063579174463,0.0,0.12052048869221912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10120335348168268,0.3158014795519355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924870982903976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08743704330558312,0.0,0.0,0.14653591920630096,0.0,0.0,0.12983035680419802,0.10853991098857516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932123495010984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4690360641711051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970305064866916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813517466763881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13332793030514686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08050354690318201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29809240336816045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08789312912976191
divorce,Jellyfish1990,2020/02/04,"Had the talk, don’t know what to do now. 35M After years of sexual frustration and lack of affection, I told my SO 30F things need to change quickly or I’m not interested in staying together. She cried and said she didn’t realize things were so bad. I reminded her that I’ve tried to discuss it for years only for her to shut down and stonewall. I feel bad cause she seemed genuinely hurt(which surprised me cause I doubted for years she really cared about me). Do I keep the pedal to the medal or soften up?",2.845784313725492,4.819729656862744,3.869215686274512,87.50813725490197,75.9607843137255,8.062745098039215,25.058823529411764,8.841846274778883,1.814541176470588,403,14,84,9,9,130,70,102,0.187,0.7120000000000001,0.10099999999999999,-0.8704,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,5,7,1,1,3,0,6,0,0,3,0,17,15,7,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,3,0,1,4,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,5,2,14,3,15,10,1,11,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,4,6,54,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3353623140370228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20475529051241256,0.4126068394206292,0.21244707103915894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22059771455925994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10154356014483668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21498817570610013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17850320110840776,0.0,0.0,0.1103686092888182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14890978828145182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527370727505274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12865415185028545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19103132731384886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182824268575602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21405358529113908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614161733176107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26683947984925444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19189766098198807,0.0,0.1363475376955672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38797569842809737
divorce,PurpleFlower99,2020/02/04,"Select your lawyer carefully This is an emotional time and you are hurting. It will be tempting to hire an attorney who says they’ll put the screws to your spouse and take them for everything. Making you all sorts of promises. This type of lawyer will also drag out the proceedings running your bill up and up. Find yourself an attorney with a reputation in the community of being fair and honest. Someone trained in mediation is a big plus. 

I’m (hopefully) about to settle our divorce. In our final asset sheet his column is twice mine. He got his money but it cost him so much more in the damage to our family and his relationship with our adult children.",5.545284552845527,7.179001739837402,6.048943089430896,76.03650406504067,68.1869918699187,9.369105691056909,29.92682926829269,9.725611199111238,2.960960975609756,526,20,92,12,9,170,88,123,0.07400000000000001,0.8490000000000001,0.077,-0.3809,0,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,4,5,2,0,3,7,1,0,9,0,9,1,0,1,1,15,15,9,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,2,5,9,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,3,0,1,1,2,16,4,19,9,3,13,0,2,1,1,23,8,1,2,3,69,21,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074993833442731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26454863824839786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918706803286495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331963865998389,0.0,0.2446067775650544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842385077609928,0.2371523857561316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20752318027496025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257713892937754,0.0,0.0,0.27776976594950675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17319934002328152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907415166388648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608406730203553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2785754456444465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063422691011497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21984948552717765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950903878232202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513000046980996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,NonFoodDude,2020/02/04,"Clarity is a blessing and a curse I am in my 3rd month of divorce proceedings, but that isnt really what I am writing about. During this time, I feel like I've had a sense of clarity and a need to cleanse myself of friendships also. Some are hard to part with, and others not even a glance back. 

My mind likes to play games with me. Whether I am doing this due to depression or am I doing it for the right reasons. My best friend of 20+ years is one I am parting with. He is 39, loves all things material. He likes his women with fake breasts and good jobs, loves boats, ATVs, and big trucks. This is the opposite of me. I like things simple. Less is more type. I mean, I like the idea of it all but not really satisfying when it comes to life. 

Right now, I dont have anyone. No friends. No companion. Is this a new beginning for me or living suicide? Sounds harsh but reality is I am pretty happy. I like the thought of a new beginning. But at 39, living in a small town I worry I wont find ""my people"" anymore. Or maybe I never really did. Cheers to a new start to everyone going through a moment of clarity.

Mike",1.008475254730712,3.154205995633192,3.0744814410480363,90.01483715429407,82.93013100436681,6.6114264919941785,21.332059679767106,7.793537801064563,0.931283697234353,859,27,187,16,24,290,130,229,0.121,0.595,0.284,0.9932,1,0,0,0,1,1,34.0,0,0,0,1,6,18,0,0,14,0,22,4,1,1,3,33,33,15,1,1,10,0,2,6,3,1,1,1,0,1,12,10,0,0,6,2,0,2,8,2,0,1,3,4,24,16,26,29,8,26,1,1,1,3,12,8,0,4,22,130,36,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09821689186402223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12180168696851446,0.08587666059045845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09443886632028384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12888910225953645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10579616586971548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10578229743898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14394087506289652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08111961995539549,0.0,0.0,0.1173571233818523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06210008009252744,0.08774065133443118,0.0,0.0,0.1122527202331935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18977656946055324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06979986028945853,0.1030132627789627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13074122165866844,0.11002011141142826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386456996431492,0.0,0.0,0.12187714654621795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674943939457229,0.36001375953099496,0.0,0.21689972268265995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22169468450369115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12338641203353455,0.13378396504092105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12401038776766247,0.0,0.09803153865183907,0.0,0.0,0.09106741742804328,0.0947242167159842,0.3558529287701823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08322413138458452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26599817625044786,0.0,0.0851460009014958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12494927320074925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23603958112389944,0.12627656428525869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097704811751629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08693066523459718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13434211202838173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16318861626331954,0.0,0.0,0.09750315922680064,0.07161571259131859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247268554606372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07909026730982449
divorce,rockyroad2a,2020/02/04,Injustice How do you deal with the feelings of injustice and unfairness in divorce?,5.283571428571432,8.951707357142855,5.682857142857145,66.7871428571429,82.57142857142857,11.371428571428574,42.714285714285715,10.125756701596842,6.971828571428572,69,5,9,3,2,22,13,14,0.381,0.619,0.0,-0.8126,0,0,0,0,1,0,1.0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,8,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8978314160213392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4403393559575583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,MrKenn10,2020/02/04,"It’s Over It is the final straw for me now. My wife of soon to be 5 years is talking to another man through Snapchat. We have a son just a little more than a year old who means the world to me. And I used to think that we were becoming a really good couple despite  some problems with our marriage in the early years. I used to be happy to be married to her and proud of her in everything she does. Everything seemed great until back in November when I caught her. Sending passionate messages and photos to another man. To keep this part short: I caught her 4 times. Today marks the 5th time. It’s been excuses, apologizing, me making threats to leave, more apologizing and begging, then sleeping in separate rooms, followed by a day or two thinking about my Boy, and her, then makeup sex, promises to be better, then back to being a wonderful married couple, and I wanted so much for us to be. There was a time I thought we were. This is the cycle that I have been living since early November. Each time my trust in her and self esteem has eroded more and more. And every time I’d forgive her I felt more and more like a fool. But I wanted so much to keep our family together. But I can’t stay with her if she keeps doing this to me over and over. It hurts that I mean so little to her. I can’t continue in this marriage. But it’s painful and scary that I will most likely lose my son.

I just need guidance here. I know it may seem like rambling but I just don’t know what to do next.",2.9218653421633576,4.393807715231787,4.126109271523177,87.89271799116999,74.49668874172184,7.284988962472408,24.83498896247241,7.937092434478242,1.2652247240618104,1158,37,244,17,24,379,157,302,0.054000000000000006,0.8540000000000001,0.092,0.8821,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,6,0,0,3,14,18,1,0,13,0,24,4,1,3,0,52,47,26,0,5,9,3,1,3,0,2,1,0,1,4,16,18,0,3,12,0,0,4,3,6,0,1,9,1,41,12,37,30,12,44,0,2,0,2,34,14,0,8,28,178,57,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227703313609809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16335945679661318,0.0,0.0,0.11731610436480948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09394652940020852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23506975525223736,0.0,0.06850571681028578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929573714791168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949833341456638,0.0,0.19093463196577806,0.0,0.10013856932282084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10199173462721793,0.11636324143172765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08909568330345209,0.0,0.1171123768914352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11307746367185255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11371502964966185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2832504170045783,0.0,0.0,0.11675590656508646,0.0,0.0,0.1124759186946459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15568709814038215,0.21292878425075695,0.09379777166269583,0.0,0.0,0.1188375274579032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07090537020371601,0.0,0.0,0.23141823603708275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561737804391054,0.07876377821215072,0.0,0.0,0.11297046949133567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11146425906748568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11302986577643287,0.0,0.0,0.11503028168983298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10164205848992328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06804983876046812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934047493865257,0.11081483822890686,0.0,0.0,0.08786962191699724,0.0,0.10630075172318357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11322069094290026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08537885804398791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13612814881491248,0.0,0.0843300208265141,0.30970045392495904,0.0,0.1006879675669172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037654501630757,0.0,0.1277744386851357,0.18348692631564453,0.0,0.0,0.12530737955677226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11519543798966835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20521439332743507
divorce,TAQNov2019,2020/02/04,"Feel incredibly guilty, would love some advice... My wife (33F) and I (35M) have been together for 17 years and married for 9.  We have 3 beautiful kids together, ages 1, 4, and 6.  Over the past 3-ish years my wife’s self confidence has gone down dramatically, largely due to a few bad career moves... I’ve asked her to quit her job, to pay for someone to rewrite her resume to help her find a new one, etc. but she doesn’t want it.  Largely, this stress has snowballed into the following impacts on our relationship:

 - She’s depressed, which brings me down. 
 - She has mood swings and I feel like I’m often in the line of fire for no reason.
 - She has stopped taking care of herself.  She’s always been a little overweight but had gained more.
 - In am attempt to help her by doing more, I’m getting miserable from being overworked, tired, and under appreciated. 

Several months back SHE and the male from another couple initiated a foursome with some really good friends of ours (no intercourse with them but everything else), and we’ve done it probably every week on average.  It was exciting, brought some “distraction” to the issues, and things were okay for a little bit.  The other female (her absolute #1 BF) and I have clicked quite a bit, slightly more talking but pretty innocent.  I’ve always found her attractive, funny, a great mom, etc. but have never even considered anything there.  

When my wife gets angry or is having a bad day with self-confidence she somehow brings her friend into it and has been telling me things like “just go fuck her” or “I’m losing my best friend” or “go be with her instead”... I know it sounds stupid but it’s unintentionally driving a wedge between my wife and I.  

Over the past several months (past few weeks in particular) I’ve already been thinking about how to proceed, with divorce being an option.  In a recent discussion with the other female, she shared with me that she’s basically in love with me and considers her marriage done...  Which, for some reason, has made me feel slightly more certain of wanting to end mine.  Not necessarily because I’d like to try a relationship with her but more because the fact that I’d want to try out a relationship with her is signaling an issue to me.  If that makes sense?

Problem is, I love my wife (as a person, as a friend, as the mother of my children) and wouldn’t want to hurt her - especially while she’s been in a multi-year depression.  I feel like that’s 75% of the reason I haven’t talked to her about ending it.  

Any advice is appreciated!!  :-(",5.145523492415837,6.509504828092247,5.812707485509929,78.37627913429526,68.85324947589098,8.798347515106672,29.75268220495745,9.168548406835145,2.535623307436183,1981,75,367,38,34,644,240,477,0.132,0.659,0.21,0.9932,1,0,0,0,1,0,87.0,3,0,1,6,11,33,2,3,28,1,34,6,0,6,3,72,66,30,0,8,13,7,5,4,5,2,2,1,0,5,18,27,1,1,11,0,1,9,7,12,0,1,14,7,52,20,61,47,16,49,0,5,1,4,63,18,1,11,26,246,70,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14980024861764035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08458363550815645,0.0,0.1275555499079507,0.0,0.0,0.05212367603505694,0.08037273966340028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06307526648349289,0.0,0.0716560937081913,0.0,0.0,0.05893804176011736,0.12799675789395334,0.09344854962601763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08043797630557753,0.0,0.1673608376256352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781483555255111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08481021743875053,0.0,0.04943200568055643,0.0,0.13203465282599802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15687625817526535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06403006952738823,0.0,0.13577581724934348,0.0,0.17096689911236745,0.05062567706267631,0.0,0.06457975088416161,0.0,0.0688868188773567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15502333970791846,0.109515549559237,0.0,0.0,0.07005543131313231,0.0,0.0,0.08404123308373004,0.2368740712753673,0.07086039511499627,0.08009145934218109,0.0,0.08712233089792769,0.06428920867094752,0.0,0.08450535151384164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10275188108909823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08205391102137538,0.0,0.0,0.16000244783987286,0.07606190790541191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04212406573707517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497865361315211,0.1536440659658501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08575017685940546,0.0,0.0,0.2075350607602781,0.07252675810827032,0.05116353533528445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08976991332636923,0.122360361660328,0.08146533103366747,0.0,0.0,0.0591161251509219,0.07402769500002061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05193907468519253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2195092835043458,0.0,0.06692660058673362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779791813343735,0.0826401541464622,0.07334235807752255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16305044080722705,0.0,0.0,0.0491030555228545,0.23642257819766524,0.07568124502501995,0.2468757326937221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15992241138038285,0.17318220049924296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06494410960054388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06408166125768111,0.08780071172932839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057630207768839974,0.1232144817203388,0.06699425436439359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018438472935958,0.04911332760839053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08809628963133047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10407873539380193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808373194669202,0.0,0.12296576625221455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054448965910852735,0.0,0.0,0.14807755511538007
divorce,willnofree,2020/02/04,"A small piece of advice: don't talk about dating with your ex After you get divorced, you might still be in a comfortable, amicable situation with your ex, one where you can commiserate about how bad online dating sucks. I highly recommend not talking at all about this, there is only pain in it for you. Avoid finding out anything about your ex's dating life as if it were flesh-eating bacteria. Find someone else to talk to about how bad online dating sucks. Do not become a source of comfort for them to talk about their dating problems. You will have other things to talk about, like the paperwork you have to do, but DO NOT talk about dating. I highly recommend having a strict policy of not communicating at all about this. I have a few small pieces of information about my ex wife, and it has been a nightmare to deal with emotionally. In this area, ignorance is bliss.",6.787499999999998,7.384460310975612,6.779170731707321,75.66948780487809,64.79268292682927,9.730731707317073,28.59512195121951,9.642632912329526,2.470311707317073,697,20,126,13,10,222,94,164,0.098,0.8059999999999999,0.095,0.3476,0,1,0,0,1,0,19.0,0,9,2,0,15,11,2,1,7,0,17,2,0,2,2,22,20,6,0,2,6,5,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,8,5,0,2,3,0,0,0,5,8,0,1,2,0,15,3,33,15,5,20,0,0,0,0,25,12,2,2,9,98,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13951393540465076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11748817154864045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23841524400138894,0.0,0.15767908873353156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14719038567678602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14609013139045865,0.11926665097600354,0.16059788984652812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609797783156508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07459183004195252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30169029557455035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008432108156065,0.06975058225597154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15145721567732368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967451626746362,0.10858359733245047,0.15191815592410174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13661233678416346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16048031736489274,0.0,0.0,0.12096920259257656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11401691425893135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.68852237839175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948505497407208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,bhuytt66,2020/02/04,I want to divorce my wife because she farts too much My wife has no shame and she walks around the house farting all day long. I can't take it anymore. It smells so bad on top of that. Is this a legit thing to bring to a lawyer?,0.14920000000000044,1.9375435200000024,1.2899999999999991,103.625,83.8,4.0,18.0,3.1291,-1.1084,176,4,45,0,5,55,42,50,0.184,0.753,0.063,-0.8140000000000001,0,0,0,0,1,1,4.0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,1,3,0,3,0,0,0,1,4,6,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,1,6,0,6,6,2,7,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,2,29,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3678069050991084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3301560894335745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30966392301549456,0.22608107387591714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391827582734179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4279382824906881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3282114212138468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27263473265200444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2788507539649185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463919071610772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21875082890821484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,flounderingknitter,2020/02/04,"Tax deduction question Spouse and I officially divorced a day after the new year, so we have to file married but separate on our taxes.

I bought them out of the house with deed transfer before the end of the year. We had roll over energy credits from 2018 and deductions for interest for 2019. 

Any recommendations on how this works? Do we split the deductions or do I get them because I own the place?

I live in CA.

Thank you.",3.0519512195121936,5.4773855975609775,4.236768292682928,82.94344512195124,77.17073170731706,8.002439024390245,26.103658536585364,8.841846274778883,2.190751219512196,337,13,65,8,8,110,63,82,0.0,0.8420000000000001,0.158,0.9261,0,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,4,1,2,1,2,3,0,0,7,0,4,0,0,1,0,11,7,6,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,12,3,13,5,1,12,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,2,6,44,13,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20089592509824844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18008546455531935,0.0,0.2513809049353312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19052164517287976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616546883026051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543449065852004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34087534653890506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26086152518068056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2853187534186522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3086513222129609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33093833079921164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27198330868623033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150694868874835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3804819573250277
divorce,anxiousthot,2020/02/04,"People who got married young (18-21) but got a divorce: what do you wish you had considered? Been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years and we are considering getting married within the next year. What is something you wish you had looked into before tying the knot? (Opportunities, finances, etc)",6.602222222222222,8.575761259259263,6.5009259259259276,72.4991666666667,66.03703703703704,8.362962962962964,33.87037037037037,8.841846274778883,3.0959037037037027,244,11,39,4,4,77,44,54,0.0,0.865,0.135,0.8156,0,0,1,0,1,0,11.0,1,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,0,0,7,12,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,6,1,5,7,1,7,0,0,1,0,8,3,0,0,4,27,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21400576470215948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2804860825947598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13139701191761746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4022908928158292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111944757095624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674703392768015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17435663146705482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27001408853792996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19361498644064645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5784191990469151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3239121613221337
divorce,lettemknowbro,2020/02/04,"Getting started and I am Terrified Me (30M) and my wife (31F) have been married for 7 years and together for 9. I have been miserable for a few years now and I’m finally doing something about it. She is manipulative, and we are basically roommates now. We have a 4 year old daughter together. 

Tomorrow, I am going to speak with an attorney. My wife and I have talked about divorce before but she was just threatening me. This is real. And I haven’t told her I’m going to speak to an attorney yet, because I know she would do anything in her power to not let me see my daughter. Which she has verbally told me before. This is what scares me the most because I love my daughter more than anything in this world. I’m just tired of the negativity, manipulation, accusing me of cheating when I’m not or never have, and she tells me constantly that she doesn’t trust me. So, basically this relationship is worthless in my opinion. My stomach is in knots. I feel like I’m going to throw up. 

I’m not knowing what to expect for my first visit with the attorney. He told me it will only be about 45 minutes with him. Any ideas on what could possibly be discussed first? Any advice is appreciated. Thanks for listening.",3.188708635996768,5.2851505423728815,4.992857142857146,79.28257062146895,75.35593220338983,8.224051654560128,29.03470540758677,8.976282227363876,2.6081196933010493,952,42,181,22,21,324,127,236,0.133,0.78,0.087,-0.8745,1,0,1,0,1,0,30.0,2,0,0,3,10,8,1,2,7,0,28,3,1,2,1,33,49,12,0,3,7,5,1,1,0,2,1,3,0,0,11,13,0,0,4,0,0,5,7,4,0,2,6,5,35,4,26,37,3,27,0,2,1,1,30,7,0,3,16,134,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394839982408052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19413635967816475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349259214296337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17402611079653846,0.0,0.2429226663153134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15425136588040636,0.0,0.1139663750269182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0721736961141355,0.1019735738960755,0.0,0.1563648299706979,0.0,0.24282935499153915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07457582398613433,0.0,0.243367507634504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611362268561785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15689247956224947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14596144885956033,0.0,0.06973561504424991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12882853585412612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11008998413081936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14978174982451972,0.0,0.0,0.10856029725898578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609180439583624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624695121602021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15324947536254654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14290776644659528,0.0,0.11374539908265355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10988832195764324,0.0,0.0,0.1010321952289467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11472910565982597,0.12476116086774927,0.13141592945637026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640587758879185,0.0,0.4091829195954674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013984894605668,0.0,0.0,0.2757598819470071
divorce,Porn_Steal,2020/02/05,"Do you think I owe my ex for half the mortgage on the house she's living in since we divorced? I'm having a hard time thinking it through.

The wording on the divorce decree is:

""The parties agree to sell the marital residence ... 

The parties shall continue to pay expenses including, but not limited to, mortgage, taxes, insurance, repair fees, utilities, maintenance, etc. in a timely manner from their joint account. 

Once the house is sold, the proceeds shall be divided as follows: 

payment of the mortgage and costs of sale, including realtor fees and closing costs; 

reimbursement for any realtor-recommended repairs, maintenance, cleaning and improvements paid solely by one party; 

and then the remaining proceeds shall be divided equally between the parties and deposited into their separate accounts. 

\[My ex\] shall have exclusive possession of the martial residence pending the closing on the sale.""

My ex and I are not friendly with each other but we manage to remain formal. All along though the decree says we're selling we've mutually understood, explicitly, that she might refinance to ""buy me out"" and today she said she'd like to do that. No problem here.\*

In laying out her math about how much I would receive from the re-fi, she subtracted half of the mortgage paid since our separation. That's the bit I'm not sure about.

By the wording above, technically, ""we"" were paying the mortgage ""out of our joint account"" but the actual way this has happened has been, she transferred the entire amount of each monthyl installment, each month, from her personal account to the joint account, from which the mortgage company debited that amount each month. Meanwhile, I'm over here paying rent in the house I have been living in since the separation.

Do you think I owe half of the mortgage she has paid since our separation? 

I'm not even sure I will fight it. I'm just trying to get a bearing on the question of whether there's something to fight in the first place. I'll probably get about fifty thousand out of the refi, and the half-mortgage-since-separation amount is around 5000, so while $5000 is significant money for me it pales beside $50,000 so I'm just not sure whether it's worth bickering over.

\*It's a lovely home I worked hard to get for her at her urging, despite my own extreme misgivings about the idea of buying a house at t hat time, so I have some weird attachment, despite my great dislike of her as a person, to the idea of seeing her able to remain. DON""T TELL HER I SAID THAT",7.408811603243919,8.182114818777293,7.175311915159078,72.75302401746727,63.47598253275109,10.385651902682472,37.099500935745475,10.290406445055957,4.024477604491579,2009,95,334,44,28,636,223,458,0.075,0.8440000000000001,0.08199999999999999,0.5232,11,0,1,0,4,0,78.0,6,2,2,3,16,11,2,0,40,0,28,1,0,1,5,57,53,22,0,2,12,3,2,1,1,7,0,3,3,2,13,25,0,1,7,0,32,2,6,4,0,6,10,6,40,7,64,33,14,38,0,0,1,1,41,23,0,3,13,232,53,8,0.10213940859974473,0.0,0.09967332900652807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06945830035738923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092572846590813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115097803160241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11391243992203695,0.06746211608042661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08687972877700179,0.0,0.0,0.0789126537164049,0.0,0.16009087603422226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11260905856500683,0.0,0.0,0.09032154170417724,0.0,0.18299369576189864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10245415476388196,0.0,0.0,0.4714206560984115,0.0,0.2306059197151349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04990015578102521,0.0,0.1803819381485736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921848040500269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10835377156743012,0.0,0.0,0.1630534029550349,0.0,0.07508421763179116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10877513668904468,0.06921230665585831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17836838377730074,0.10671394272177838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101235577556986,0.09773361980151808,0.0,0.0,0.11441951333349913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19431593453515456,0.0812253572941945,0.0,0.0,0.08139188462018597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3379630970929357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786319068201004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2887955515050303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08927434509284607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19634042646647265,0.1003514503591463,0.0,0.17867493161363085,0.0,0.0968162165049841,0.0,0.0,0.06934595383236034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08107350834834125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07435870593509943,0.0,0.0,0.07255690534646163,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Life2311,2020/02/05,"Why is the wait soo excruciating... Been seperated for a year. She finally handed in the last documents to get the divorce process started as the 'plaintif' 

That was 3 weeks ago. Why do things take soo long even for an amicable divorce? I just want things to be finalised so that I can move on with my life. Being in hiatus for an entire 12 months is s form of torture. Can't buy anything in my name until things are finalised. Its just soo frustrating

Thanks for reading my ramblings.....",3.2890458937198086,5.7828635326086975,4.044492753623191,84.27248792270532,76.71739130434783,6.697584541062803,28.700483091787444,7.793537801064563,1.9691555555555555,383,17,71,6,9,122,69,92,0.073,0.882,0.045,-0.5574,0,0,0,0,2,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,2,0,7,0,10,2,1,0,0,6,16,3,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,1,2,0,0,2,1,6,1,14,12,1,14,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,9,48,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053443555687814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19062877613342552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530030929304065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537620028154574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210279220709724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18882622657323336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16362172979418144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20500356692134425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849013669776252,0.2462080181035237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317133733249997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639635473970988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17417248610696046,0.0,0.0,0.21327282782805268,0.0,0.0,0.4616952661954701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13663357608742716,0.0,0.1858162068415765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4180574251557724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14917544640556338
divorce,PsychologicalInside1,2020/02/05,"Can you legally live together while getting a divorce? We are in indiana I'm 22 hes 28 weve been together 8 years married 4. We have one son who isnt in school yet. The only thing either of us own are two cars in his name. I want to get a divorce due to sexual abuse, infidelity, and differences we cant get past. We sleep in seperate rooms and basically function as room mates. We live in the country and I do not work or know how to drive I just stay home with baby. I do have the opportunity to work if I go stay at my sister in laws on weekends and get a part time in the city but my husband would struggle putting the baby to sleep on his own and me being gone all weekend I worry would be bad for baby. 

So I have two questions is it possible to divorce in indiana while living in the same house? And is it unethical to take half of someones 401k in divorce? My siblings told me about it and said its really messed up and wrong for a stay st home mom to do since they dont work(a stay st home mom in our family did this recently) but is it really bad? If I could do that I could get my son and I an apartment in the city and be able to work and everything.  Thanks in advance.",1.5382904744657715,3.1575336892430284,3.7153223469757366,88.74640619340819,78.64143426294821,7.113437160449113,24.15809489315465,8.00094639256281,1.2228390438247003,920,32,207,16,22,316,141,251,0.124,0.845,0.031,-0.9816,0,0,0,0,5,0,17.0,8,1,1,5,5,7,0,1,12,0,27,2,2,1,1,37,41,21,0,7,8,6,0,0,1,2,0,1,5,0,9,17,0,0,2,2,0,6,4,5,0,4,6,1,29,2,33,28,6,40,0,0,0,0,29,20,0,4,10,141,38,5,0.10000752447915888,0.11849256315638118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16700421124601894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159695741220556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044865775641713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11720807387239687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08988031447946386,0.0,0.09427819363720166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26124901941003426,0.0,0.05683658083581203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30094710350318393,0.0,0.0,0.11539525598168793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05496152003103216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649254290136455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342552079501071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06776768680215467,0.07606022887804766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10829840334881302,0.09546849820262472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11274345744357925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005351843651626,0.11203131521384156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12813476204073734,0.0,0.09874536542551936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09513005727234884,0.0,0.0,0.10121295391982356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827272576984027,0.0,0.2001594974346112,0.0,0.08473605095450785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4263788586809751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045495785471442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751932123183409,0.0,0.0,0.09207349210574804,0.0,0.0,0.06644055547726671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0583151917630054,0.0,0.0,0.09556147536814442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19538563950896026,0.0,0.12029673834671713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0589870290434209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2912266756187824,0.10156249558934673,0.0,0.1420849520678821,0.10934252857375344,0.0,0.06440156688909172
divorce,DareBear09,2020/02/05,Just got served. My wife told me she wouldn't file until my other court case was over but before my case has even really got started she has left me. I dont know what to do anymore. I have a therapist im going too soon but Im lost right now. any help or advice would be much appreciated.,0.09131336405530276,2.196865596774199,2.5191244239631345,92.77725806451612,86.58064516129032,5.478341013824887,15.308755760368664,6.868970318607317,-0.3636018433179724,225,4,52,3,7,77,48,62,0.047,0.826,0.127,0.7227,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,1,0,9,0,0,0,0,7,16,4,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,5,0,9,0,3,8,1,8,0,1,0,0,5,3,0,1,4,33,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21554213321953908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14999772600534034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21874990787059628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18769203050297745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585108132940801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456868934526956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12535715545258816,0.0,0.3528259840595626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14784594716391275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4765150400773148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12122157436499853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23965404427187414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407823237695518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16214709898902113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14130520386529175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18836879263790215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156123248244611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561031453159729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21076768776096289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15668927618376646,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Forward-Comment,2020/02/05,"It has been nearly a year since we divorced. My ex and I divorced nearly a year ago. I have, for the most part, have grown used to and accustomed to life of single hood. Don't get me wrong, I have had ample opportunity to get into another relationship, but chose to be single, to work on myself and rediscover myself in the process. Turns out, I am loving being single.  

An unfortunate byproduct of being single is vacation time. I just can't bare to bring myself to leave the city and go on trips like the ones my ex-wife and I used to take. Places that her and I used to go to. One location in general, San Diego, where we have gone to dozens of times, and even long long before we were a couple. I have fond memories of us on the beach, of all the hotels we stayed at, of all the locations we frequented. It was the place my daughter first visited. Her very first vacation destination. Her first experience of the ocean. So. Many. Awesome. Memories. 

And I have been craving to go back. But, I know that if I do go, it will feel like an empty experience. like, if I go, there will be less joy. Less fun and a lot of loneliness. I have zero interest in going anywhere else. 

So I came here, to ask all those that are divorced. How did you all handle the need and want to go on vacations? Do you just go on stay-cations? Do you find new locations to go to? Do you continue to go to the same places you once used to goto as a couple? I love San Diego. It is my home away from home. I know no one there, but, I love the location, the beaches, the zoo, the everything about San Diego. Most of all, I love San Diego because of all the wonderful memories my daughter gave me. 

I have thought about bringing my daughter to San Diego, but at 5 years old, I know she is not yet ready for a solo, 8+hour road trip, one way. It was hard enough with my ex entertaining her the entire trip when we were together, but I  don't think I would be able to handle her by myself on such a long trip.",2.0235555555555536,3.8797746000000046,3.6998333333333338,88.32672222222223,78.0,7.344444444444445,22.36111111111111,8.256446698504663,1.1388527777777775,1520,45,331,29,36,507,186,400,0.043,0.795,0.163,0.9957,0,0,0,0,3,0,63.0,7,5,0,5,16,14,0,0,26,0,37,5,0,5,6,57,74,22,0,5,10,5,2,3,0,3,1,0,2,0,9,20,0,0,8,4,0,20,5,1,0,9,12,2,53,13,55,54,18,62,0,0,0,4,34,21,0,6,22,240,62,1,0.08171444526510065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07243492536001303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568472067419179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07639197568359125,0.0,0.07677341120161235,0.06283336447717472,0.0,0.0498123673875454,0.0,0.06953297436732224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934595564066695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18083095890449008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06826193365039301,0.0,0.0,0.08443286560694051,0.0,0.053971620430311215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07343967442642525,0.15986481448395046,0.0,0.0,0.041317278770398015,0.058376816024706076,0.0,0.0,0.07468552259030732,0.20851879619595268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08538485002332498,0.0,0.464402023542868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07320009260476333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639325023790339,0.0,0.08047226846459844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13472436630101106,0.0,0.0,0.086523798901274,0.0,0.0,0.057717329273985686,0.1197646512014004,0.0,0.0,0.2169441379679428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.069470699228173,0.2950019087868021,0.0,0.0,0.0828456219094789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06059022576409578,0.0,0.0789203204319722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574556445648954,0.08702321733633964,0.22148729159239056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08848878120754383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561226098067589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877307334372676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0675950335370691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17419345239939116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06143909335116698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05235931704119017,0.0,0.06487214194838033,0.09529670032848372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08888185155477993,0.0,0.0,0.09829241641964123,0.2823001776344404,0.0,0.0674229751727175,0.04819729696562986,0.06486112315708835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08861583018513902,0.059489089367339286,0.0,0.0,0.058047597414357326,0.08934191814886552,0.0,0.15786427091219798
divorce,Elite_Lightning,2020/02/05,Military overseas divorce Not sure if this is where to post this but how do I legally get a divorce case opened when it involves military spouse that are active duty and stationed over seas and we got married here back in states in Texas and I’m still currently here in Texas. Also that we have a child who is 2yrs old involved.,4.39875,6.1420751250000025,4.336375,86.77112500000004,71.1875,6.995000000000001,29.9875,7.554174236665415,1.8467225000000005,264,11,50,3,5,81,50,64,0.023,0.8959999999999999,0.081,0.5674,1,0,0,0,2,0,2.0,2,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,1,1,12,8,8,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,6,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,5,7,0,13,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,1,5,35,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3353165206017484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32241818553913243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190685525605746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3353549761569911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4399880467984956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4015764433845193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3348559803409996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39518818949192097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Guess55k,2020/02/05,"I'm just broken. My wife left me in December. I thought we were doing just fine, but had a small blip on the radar that could be fixed over time.

Apparently she had been building resentments against me even though every time we'd discuss paying off things like her student loans, taking lavish vacations, or all the other wasteful spending that could have accomplished what she's now so angry about.

I think what really happened was she hit her early 30s and simply wanted to be free. She's using this anger over these things and a bunch of other fixable behaviors (that I was already improving upon, I just wasn't getting credit) to sooth her guilt for leaving a man who loves her more than life itself.

I supported her for years (decade+) through all her struggles, I was patient, understanding, compassionate, and caring. Yet when I hit a major life stumbling block the last couple of years, she was ready to leave in an instant. It doesn't help that we don't share any friends, and her family hates me (long story there). 

The thing is my friends say stuff like ""I always heard all the things you did for her, but I never heard what she would do for you."" She's been very unkind to me the past couple of years but I kept suppressing my needs in hopes we would improve.

She did try to get us into counseling to her credit, I would suggest we talk it out together first. But again, she made me into this monster in her head that couldn't be reasoned with.

She told me this weekend she's going to start dating. It was like being stabbed in the soul. She's got easily as many issues as I do, but I chose to look at her with a loving eye and focus on the positive. For all my negativity I never put it on our relationship or her as it was my own issue to deal with. She's not even started counseling while I've been in 6 sessions already and have grown tremendously. I've also admitted to all her issues which were valid and have committed myself to fixing them, which most of them were already well under way (again no credit for the hard work I was putting in because she'd already built up her anger wall). I've also started a workout routine in spite of my crazy job schedule (working out of state) and have focused on eating better plus including intermittent fasting to an amazing result so far (lost 9% of my weight in 45 days, lol, still a long way to go for my goal though).

I guess I just need to vent. I miss her terribly because I really like her as a person (before she became so cold). We'd go through spurts of nice talks on the phone only for her to reharden herself the next time we'd talk or see each other.

I feel in her heart she doesn't want this but I hurt her badly by misunderstanding her needs (unintentionally) and by being argumentative all the time (just a stupid family trait I have). I respect the hell out of her and still think she's amazing.

She keeps telling me to get over her and to start dating. I want to say to her, this is like losing your mother. 4 years later is it still painful? This is the same level for me. No she's not my mother but I care about her more than the rest of my family so this is the equivalent to a death, just a death where I get to watch her go have a great life and date others :'-(

I will give her the divorce she wants and hope she'll maybe realize down the road that our issues can be fixed. Sadly, she appears to be beyond any hope.

I will move on, but I'll always regret how our lives together ended. We were just hitting our stride financially too.

I'm so sorry for failing you my love. I hope you find the happiness you need in your life, and I will miss you forever. :'-(

tl;dr; I fucked up unintentionally, wife fell out of love, I still love her with all my being and want to work it out, but I know it won't.",5.322177965611068,5.593155366178434,5.829637295200603,82.34551308400395,67.9081225033289,8.660927459040119,27.77748509234065,8.456263369488248,1.7493688762809003,2964,86,602,40,46,958,333,751,0.179,0.649,0.171,-0.4970000000000001,2,0,0,0,1,0,91.0,13,8,2,10,35,56,8,2,33,1,60,16,3,5,10,106,125,44,2,20,21,4,3,5,2,8,5,4,0,2,38,33,2,4,10,2,7,10,13,22,1,1,27,12,127,35,97,72,16,95,2,8,4,6,107,42,2,10,45,433,165,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639888222544477,0.09565337953621462,0.09952646037829388,0.0,0.0,0.08134001196212576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04993535860366581,0.07291414116025972,0.0,0.050890344850175635,0.0,0.0,0.05289338453798376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219520313377411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09550015590420358,0.13234799664434138,0.0,0.038569803966474366,0.06165717064416708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061196280715982314,0.0,0.0,0.052970202023937776,0.0,0.0,0.07900235538067626,0.0,0.05038897972099896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16913880336266313,0.0,0.03023961773573372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05466143271619538,0.0508707968783156,0.0,0.0,0.0924116507923248,0.05528951356402981,0.12498428270054385,0.05737118865624637,0.13595609474357706,0.0,0.047832174740655486,0.0659361237144564,0.06588284933233665,0.0,0.052886085931080816,0.06366440364280143,0.0535742644352042,0.05904586205892522,0.0613780216052003,0.0,0.0,0.07087018038818449,0.04008657808064478,0.0,0.0,0.23760268021645406,0.0,0.0,0.06402336338988206,0.0,0.0,0.24968693713220455,0.05934804458848213,0.05315815752790033,0.0,0.0,0.032867712636409065,0.04874972254226261,0.0,0.12665144857955118,0.06497919450842889,0.0,0.16897046716670666,0.14609050492367578,0.0,0.0528096315748515,0.10585253107002833,0.05022182329653487,0.0669074108166057,0.0652851133722737,0.0,0.2698854213813809,0.05658970952214867,0.0,0.060633710935886875,0.060082981022222426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06356411812091227,0.0,0.1773810202564229,0.09225186503915116,0.0,0.0636041642239582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045485018325760886,0.06363760527354068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057091418923307324,0.0,0.052220132062903324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12024272791934698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07662627480302095,0.06149033990420759,0.0,0.06420906511198507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09511997126251097,0.0,0.0,0.0476574925859209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06694771508587738,0.1693234586680396,0.0,0.19104400892654286,0.0,0.0,0.06252202453653065,0.06846335136217972,0.0,0.06786693172011958,0.0,0.0,0.04496653100737233,0.14420894945560034,0.052272919581961313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15892930789375667,0.07664230459262779,0.11751782192524185,0.04747913784735392,0.13949300995469974,0.0,0.0,0.0571470204924838,0.0,0.040604223578940064,0.0,0.0,0.0622599640381531,0.07193903343365986,0.051653023338212506,0.0,0.049346061902062734,0.17637510014097255,0.09494214665395323,0.0,0.07282737259487218,0.053772611333717316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306180398698541,0.0,0.0,0.12745300817431018,0.0,0.0,0.15405193980443066
divorce,Bmicah258,2020/02/05,"Contemplating divorce, advice welcome Been married 28 years. Kids grown and gone with families of their own. Mostly cordial marriage but it feels like I’m always compromising and meeting her on her terms with zero from reciprocation from her side. 

If you are familiar with enneagrams, she is a 1w2 I am a 7w8. For many years it has been all about her opinions and her views on everything from religion to politics to sex and culture. I have folded every time to prevent the tirades and brow beating so I have found that it’s just easier to capitulate and smile while dying slowly inside. Every step is a mistake and a lecture on how I did something wrong or should have considered x y and z. I am one to appreciate feedback and input, but to feel stress over every detail of the minutia of life is overwhelming.  She is right about everything. Nothing she says or thinks is wrong or inerrant. She’s is always right. In fact, the words “I’m sorry” have never crossed her lips in the 30 years I have known her.  I feel like I’m apologizing daily, sometimes many times a day for stuff that does not have any bearing on anything except her opinion. 

Then there is sex, or more accurately, the lack thereof. Clinically speaking we have a dead bedroom. Years ago, being young and dumb, I was obsessed with sex, and was blind to the fact that she was just there. Not really participating. Just there. After many rejections and lonely nights I just stopped trying. And sex died instantly. She says she wants it, but doesn’t want to do anything to garner a sexual relationship. It is all me or it doesn’t happen.  The other day she out of the blue and for the first time ever set up a romantic evening with a hotel room. Nothing super fancy just an evening away. She was open and we talked about sexual things and indicated she was open and willing to try new and exploratory things, including sex toys and the like. We had a great time and I was thrilled that maybe, just maybe, things were finally changing. We selected a few toys, discussed them and the next day I ordered them off amazon. Oops. BIG mistake. When they arrived she was livid. I ordered the EXACT toys we had discussed and talked about. But in her view I did it alone. WTF!  So that led to an argument and 2 hr lecture about how perverse it was and how it clearly meant I had been browsing porn to get these items. I just sat there, shocked and stunned. Words have no ability to express my disappointment and confusion.   This is just the latest example of a long line of situations like this. 

Now I’m resentful. Hurt. Angry. Confused. I have no one to talk to or garner advice from. I want out of this nightmare but because im a 7 I avoid pain at all costs. 

I’m not saying I’m perfect. Far from it. I have my issues. I get grumpy. I can be short and inpatient. But to hear her talk you would think I was worse than hitler. I’m well educated and employed and in leadership in a fortune 100 medical device company. But because of the brow beating sessions I find myself questioning and second guessing every decision and every action. Almost as if I’m filtering through her view points and opinions. I know this is not good. 

My adult children can’t stand her. They love her and include her and myself in their lives, but dread the “lectures” that are sure to come when she visits or converses with them. They all moved far away, all for good reasons but also to escape her controlling and verbacious lectures about how they do things wrong. I asked my oldest son what he would think if I were to leave her.  Would he think “what took him so long?” And “it’s about time” or “what in the world happened?”  He said it was the former. 

I know leaving and filing would be devastating to everyone including myself. Is the pain of staying less or greater than the pain of leaving?  What else can I do to rectify and ameliorate this situation?  Talking and communication do not work because I’m always wrong and she is always, and I mean ALWAYS right. Should I query my other adult children on their opinions?  Should I just pack up and leave?  That seems cowardly. I am a warrior and driver by nature but this situation has me crippled and cowering. 

We are a great team and get along really well, as long as I kowtow and agree with everything she says and does.",3.4761739973612684,5.880068509179933,4.2187985820788745,83.71416935573606,75.65850673194615,7.230691951866982,26.767060357023638,8.213790121960594,1.9137695051582448,3400,132,631,61,77,1085,359,817,0.192,0.723,0.085,-0.9987,2,4,1,0,1,0,89.0,6,2,10,8,36,39,2,7,37,0,70,15,1,7,13,167,109,84,3,16,37,1,3,4,0,8,7,7,2,5,37,66,0,4,18,5,1,10,11,23,2,5,26,15,92,16,85,72,14,84,0,5,5,7,86,34,1,23,39,447,129,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123919668489196,0.05097721922055951,0.0,0.057585782213883274,0.05956076579644079,0.0,0.0459889888436818,0.23925559651844736,0.0,0.0,0.039107294701018785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09464808403214746,0.0,0.0537620556901114,0.0,0.10806099388335308,0.0,0.0,0.10516871355589508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060835656188103576,0.04953790126674655,0.0,0.0,0.06449991848751085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11126337362574568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11936809117928895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10065097469933873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04804041060055213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07596675533771291,0.05201912232387343,0.2422641246414277,0.05495119358294025,0.1550529815879025,0.0,0.05421326166480252,0.0,0.08723305644371977,0.08216720685771624,0.0,0.06299701402329896,0.05256111245736033,0.04891612866057324,0.0,0.06305436452778096,0.0,0.0,0.09013639890122302,0.0,0.0,0.09646967446805063,0.0,0.12680516559278318,0.06335135543826084,0.0,0.10170796380276953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06481550109031663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06156331870234706,0.0,0.062118322050788516,0.060023230866812174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06320959602607153,0.0,0.0,0.2435699432263517,0.0,0.0,0.040619479244323686,0.11238167865981742,0.0,0.050780465240442316,0.15267785291199115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051903059539183616,0.0,0.0,0.17491173250553899,0.1155486845242094,0.06264288310251638,0.0,0.05793308603681861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06112171955229991,0.0,0.0,0.04435358178315189,0.05554141811594082,0.0611602269170191,0.05396720038522592,0.0,0.1103606228873282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07793758440390591,0.0,0.18357714906594336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05436348512332903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06442192804109223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07368197368739791,0.05912762454520831,0.0,0.061741884989653516,0.0,0.14733411130319274,0.05470311307553998,0.1829301303691738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052352966277688734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939236226495751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044272335157846655,0.05687671183042532,0.06437530460758553,0.0,0.0612956924136759,0.0,0.04807911878758296,0.06587502205808865,0.0,0.06583270381584996,0.0,0.0,0.05420044680495828,0.0,0.0,0.2311130667774533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528225809291524,0.14739477509124327,0.0,0.0,0.16766638329149394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06389331229673365,0.07808807986637853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10175881983906884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10341288660002644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04186638330664202,0.0,0.05860538921406803,0.16340764259292082,0.25150312639511396,0.0,0.1481326216671982
divorce,NiceNiceBabyBaby,2020/02/05,"How do you know if you need a divorce or if your issues can be resolved? Married 10 yrs, now in our late 30s, kids.  Been struggling for years, I feel like I keep trying and trying to be romantic, try new things, etc. - just trying to keep some spark alive, but my spouse isn't even close to meeting me in the middle.  Spouse is manipulative and gaslights.  Tried marriage counseling several years ago but didn't amount to anything. I'm really not happy but don't want to fall into the 'grass is greener on the other side' trap.

When did you know that divorce was the only option left? Or what are successful things to try that may work?",3.751463414634145,5.55214841463415,4.172853658536585,87.05293902439026,72.98373983739837,6.871219512195122,24.49512195121952,7.554174236665415,1.1018039024390245,497,15,98,6,10,156,88,123,0.081,0.812,0.107,0.3275,0,0,0,0,2,0,16.0,1,4,0,3,5,5,0,1,5,0,14,0,0,2,0,26,22,11,0,4,9,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,4,0,2,4,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,4,1,9,4,11,15,3,16,0,0,0,0,12,8,0,7,8,62,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14207406785752022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13189262300859575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17874892987949054,0.10586008924956224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08103982765962983,0.11450045237126165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706156587147927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16728540131431432,0.0,0.284919469711013,0.0,0.0,0.17616583588444626,0.0,0.18079711847490235,0.0,0.17413919615134554,0.0,0.0,0.07830224207981863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11884184050616467,0.0,0.15479454012910493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12189631755360975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10267623351763218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18106506682951085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16755417140687787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129591027626425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6528969995282662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09453431484343176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11668206845731365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20642361886787608
divorce,polydivorce,2020/02/05,"Really basic question - what is standard for splitting assets? Married eight years (or seven depending on the definition of separation, if it matters), divorcing in Illinois, no kids, no property, no debt. The only asset I can think of is his 401K. He makes three times the salary I just started earning, before that it was six times. We haven't filed yet, but we're civil, planning on filing together, no lawyers if we can get away with it for the sake of reducing costs. I'm not interested in profiting off of him leaving me but I'm wondering what a judge would grant, if I'm being dumb by not asking for at least the standard (half?) of his retirement and alimony. Feeling resentful that I chose someone who didn't take for better or for worse seriously and is making me have to learn about this but I bet a lot of us feel that way.",6.8582013888888875,6.75254780625,7.494583333333335,72.99430555555556,64.6875,10.861111111111114,35.27777777777778,10.504223727775694,3.7287569444444446,659,28,120,15,9,219,110,160,0.192,0.7609999999999999,0.047,-0.9755,2,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,3,0,0,3,3,6,2,0,7,0,11,0,0,3,0,31,24,10,0,4,11,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,10,5,0,0,6,0,4,0,8,3,0,5,2,2,12,3,22,20,2,13,0,0,0,0,12,7,1,10,5,87,22,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21338471910747925,0.0,0.214450178013892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19422555931179566,0.0,0.0,0.20187026097050167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23082204238895065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192521994307774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24168581005329506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940516069698668,0.0,0.0,0.3047198375207337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17359585891266952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556943711127319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462240148441904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19339709810630135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16155787291886572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17161702599835993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14625460409310595,0.0,0.0,0.26619104231167284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745589373807188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811757376611976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2475294540208313,0.0,0.0,0.23260819094625074,0.16214360419778026,0.0,0.0,0.1469867430633031
divorce,TJteej27,2020/02/05,"Underestimated how hard it would be I was the one who suggested separation, with the intention of divorce. I wasn't getting what I wanted out of the marriage. We didn't see eye to eye about the future, we grew apart, we didn't enjoy the same things anymore, we changed as people and the love wasn't the same. It wasn't one major issue that drove me to this point, but a long laundry list of smaller to medium sized things.

It's only been 5 days since the split. And I still think I made the right choice. But I guess I need a place to write out my emotions, where people going through similar things can comment. A place to talk to people.

I underestimated how hard I would take it. I feel alone, because I took the one person who was there for me unconditionally, who would be there for me at the drop of the hat, and threw her out of my life. I never realized how alone I would feel without her. That's been the hardest part so far, is being alone. Those long days or nights where friends and family aren't available to be by my side. Despite the fact that they know what I'm going through. They have their own lives as well, and I cannot expect them to be there for me all the time. I need to find my independence again. This will take time. This is just the hardest part. It's been the longest week of my life.",3.8079699248120313,4.85366295488722,4.420375939849624,88.30620300751879,71.70676691729324,7.1037593984962415,24.52631578947368,7.273561745256523,0.7925293233082709,1030,28,225,10,19,328,136,266,0.075,0.888,0.037000000000000005,-0.6771,0,3,0,0,1,0,30.0,4,0,4,0,14,4,0,0,20,0,26,5,2,6,3,45,46,14,0,8,5,0,4,0,1,5,2,0,0,1,20,13,0,0,6,0,0,6,9,0,1,3,14,7,34,4,30,22,7,32,0,0,3,1,22,13,0,2,12,161,54,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3469568086038696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11074263795234206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06807053963647319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118127791217934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14403062713995726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12560918784318986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10526873969077592,0.0,0.11292334051622682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10206067473567527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08627285239916359,0.0,0.058340861142450816,0.0,0.1269246896253204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12301265668023507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20006155364107006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11655026226950063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06136869748926834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15774595571775815,0.0,0.0,0.09860309844156083,0.1976417412909347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10078289879637456,0.10566104198024692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16559780555577322,0.08612368102757953,0.0,0.0,0.1047909495709362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270032561996527,0.08492700300766699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418467302189444,0.0,0.23224537325238195,0.09750241895044393,0.2333343461608837,0.0,0.10556043647612803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09536212932697194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898332165538737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09237124535390473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08917658889626186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16791782677790432,0.08975287787020576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22255772845080604,0.07155104551168437,0.0,0.0,0.13022665167600692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12406500279825596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06586348301707261,0.0,0.08957170656044322,0.0,0.10040111871038417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076420114890382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3172972085309081,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Zencali27,2020/02/05,"Win lottery before marriage, but take annuity. If I were to win the lottery and opt for the annuity, would my future wife/ex-wife be privileged to my payouts each year? I am not currently married, but I’m curious if there’s a difference between taking the lump sum vs annuity prior to marriage as far as a potential future divorce goes. I live in California if that makes a difference. Thanks in advance.",4.920833333333332,6.852724855263162,6.584210526315792,70.41780701754391,70.1842105263158,10.329824561403509,37.66666666666666,10.504223727775694,4.794050877192984,323,19,52,10,6,111,53,76,0.0,0.77,0.23,0.9598,1,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,0,0,0,3,1,4,0,0,6,0,4,1,0,1,0,11,9,8,0,4,7,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,5,4,9,6,1,9,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,3,5,34,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645756374380206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6497042433799006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745538859663501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075459211901002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4675562187553536,0.0,0.0,0.286259440774443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2208733371093475,0.0,0.0,0.2002265375304297
divorce,Throwmeaway100816,2020/02/05,"Everything You read is true Everything you read about cheating and the people that do it is true. Go to websites like chumplady.com or read some of the other stories in this subreddit about people giving the cheater a second chance only to be duped again. Hope really is a drug. 

The specifics between my STBXW and I don’t matter. All that matters is that she got more chances she deserved. And even when I tried to protect myself, her manipulative ways started to suck me back in. But I trusted my gut and never had to try hard to find evidence nothing had changed. Her every move read exactly like the cheaters playbook. Feeding on hope and fond memories to keep you around just enough to question yourself. But if you are looking it’s not hard to find that next piece of evidence. Find as many as you need to move on, but by all means, move on. 

Trust your instincts. You know your partner better than anybody.  Find what you need and don’t be afraid to make the hard decision.",5.010061776061778,6.719098751351353,4.7441119691119695,84.58574324324327,69.5945945945946,7.664092664092664,31.05212355212356,8.192908349453996,2.235563706563707,779,33,145,11,14,238,114,185,0.07200000000000001,0.767,0.161,0.93,0,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,0,9,0,1,8,13,2,1,8,0,12,3,1,2,6,38,26,14,0,5,7,0,3,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,9,7,1,2,8,4,0,4,4,3,0,1,3,4,20,10,26,21,6,17,0,0,1,0,16,6,1,6,8,100,29,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09948790576790123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08593465090965015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09884046343556993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11822466021728588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12960326728407026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154754148788196,0.0,0.07381480204504691,0.0,0.0941605486427608,0.0,0.2008809439782839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4085774725072584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10720801711149228,0.06351438619746172,0.0,0.08938271505583953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003384168690904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220009102391905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933523769244854,0.0,0.0,0.061419022008638614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10919817921519567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938481878701504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07459902665643743,0.11330460587973355,0.0,0.12173672536591112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3563417399636741,0.0,0.16573360165890585,0.08619430551581914,0.0,0.11885541307748135,0.0,0.0,0.10723437503394442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08499664617727581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549572151577434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251940232164362,0.0,0.4471511380741723,0.0,0.07159474269823904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07910256297384483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517520692252875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08870793443087062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Elementix,2020/02/05,"Just found out my wife is cheating with a co-worker... Caught it before it got past kissing and feeling in the car. I'm in SC. We have a 2 year old daughter (in March). I'm still kind of shocked right now and I'm not really sure what to do next. Laying in bed....mind racing. We're still being civil, but I told her we're done.

What do I do next? I took off work until next week to try to make something of all this...I feel so betrayed and lost right now. I've built a life with this woman and now I'm watching it crumble before my eyes.

Not thinking of any kind of violence....to her, him, or myself...

Should I ask at /r/legaladvice?

Please help...someone...anyone..",-0.5247881694644292,1.645196093525179,1.5137529976019195,97.96385091926462,91.66187050359713,3.9521982414068746,17.074740207833734,5.46131890053228,-0.6585926458832931,503,13,115,3,18,166,92,139,0.125,0.825,0.05,-0.9004,0,0,1,0,0,0,43.0,1,0,0,2,7,7,1,0,4,0,8,3,1,1,2,21,23,8,0,1,5,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,6,8,0,0,4,0,0,3,2,3,0,0,7,4,11,4,17,14,1,26,0,1,2,1,9,9,0,1,14,62,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10307161625281852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059800535404821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14169586557746378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25794685635469483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551069562989368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15327493565360004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16618677700310122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12122298584618398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159301168386216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3156700436651397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10705714647531447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16545466346038848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10117299241651996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15304073824981804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4835837012189497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15904539536212353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14468905722148231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663764375426426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09709851032549056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588769366822182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11668465371722217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24208522104281785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428512940238341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09711882279266523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14482997049314206,0.16839791697478013,0.10290490129066808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12157891802237505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22068700108592254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09760499193138797
divorce,cswtg,2020/02/05,"The strength I keep writing this in my head, but can’t really convey it in a way that it doesn’t sound ridiculous. I’m in a terrible marriage. Have been for a while, but something in me keeps fighting for it. I couldn’t tell you why. Control? I’m not sure. He’s vindictive and erratic and painfully immature. We’re going to separate. Logically it’s the right first move, but he’s trying hard to throw everything he can at me to hurt me, to get me to beg for him to come back and give him everything he’s demanding. Seems like it should be easy to say no.  But it’s not. Part of me wants to do anything and everything I can to make the asshole stay. I’d say it was for my kids, but it’s just a separation, I’m not losing them yet. So what is it that makes me want so badly to fix this when he’s treating me like garbage? 

Any tips of the trade to stay strong? Anyone know how to handle these waters with a person that will use everything they can to do as much damage as possible?",2.119842946887496,3.592896266990291,3.799960022844093,89.40160765276987,76.62135922330097,7.56550542547116,24.253569388920607,8.313332769828598,1.309856996002284,765,25,172,14,17,256,121,206,0.17600000000000002,0.73,0.094,-0.9668,0,0,1,0,2,0,22.0,0,1,2,5,7,14,2,0,9,0,15,3,1,5,1,31,31,16,0,4,9,0,1,2,0,2,1,3,0,2,16,6,1,3,3,0,1,4,7,8,0,1,2,4,17,6,27,25,2,18,0,3,0,0,19,6,0,1,7,108,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09442086356536744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09708519706774814,0.0,0.11425942266584367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10676493338841103,0.11593162007401325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196045763988954,0.0,0.0,0.15572895159449446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4991476750255626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11810336526002715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07254193612719351,0.1331948950097702,0.0789100687533755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12437982711895175,0.0,0.14249729411388046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14863880921106298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468275584550093,0.0,0.0,0.07630679503693988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13566746599463902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15533451141286544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853631806845556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14757260983787804,0.10206867476522552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14774322010076724,0.0,0.0,0.15035799705866548,0.0,0.0,0.12123602753274065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565293662556223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08894907763312444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11857475805335295,0.0,0.22083374743296516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12640128456697244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10689136514345388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2959853017082077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13086185153123367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12135858082514114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942681409122473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11991940870692355,0.0,0.0,0.1637913628485143,0.11021045189900096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252880100484789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,MediocreRelation,2020/02/05,"Soon to be Divorced... Looking for Input??? First took 2 of us to get to this point.. 
communication could been better
More emotional support 
More Date nights
These are my faults.... that I only recognize now...

Things either lied to me or hidden...
Credit cards ran up, credit cards to pay credit cards.. Refinance house to pay credit cards. (I signed paper to save marriage/family)

Behavior???
No contact with the In-laws All family is cut out of our lives.
Mom, Dad, 2 Brothers,  2 sister’s, Cousin’s..10 plus years
(My side complete contact with all family)
Tore up Birthday, Christmas cards addressed to our children 
( I tried saving them, when I caught spouse doing this)
Says I’m going to kill spouse and be next on news 
( never hit or shout or anything)
Would buy puppies.. lots of $$$$
( then weeks later drive them in country let go )
Spouse would come home and tell me they where HIT on, then went to showing me pictures on phone, too texting them too me..
( never knew how to respond ) was just lost???
Screaming everything is my fault.. credit cards, wearing boots in the house, everything!!!!!
Spouse says they make more $$$ than me, it’s their house, their Cadillac...slammed the door on me next.
Hated our vacation.. ( just lost again, looking back at all the pictures)
Wakes up 3-4 times a night checking doors to make sure there locked.
Went into depression for weeks fetal position, constantly crying, not eating, staying in bed, etc
Credit Card activity still going strong. 
( I moved out )
Bezare or weird behavior 
Spouse only has 2 friends and they nothing about my spouse. 
( I was worried and contacted them )
Drained my bank accounts of all $$
Has family member with Bipolar 
Spouse has spent years researching their personality 
( recently discovered this )
Will never For Give Me... Screaming many times
Spouse is Highly Educated 
Married 30 years, 5 adult children 
Spouse says their Dating and it’s wonderful 
Finally spouse started taking medication... things finally calmed down
Seen a psychiatrist during our marriage 
( that’s all my fault too)

I’ve been to (5) different consular’s, psychologists .. been told Bipolar..spouse personality... child hood...doesn’t love themselves....
Psycho problems...has issues...mid life crisis... all of the above and more...

Never wanted a broken marriage/family.. But unable to reconcile and have a lot of reasons just to move on. I just struggle with it..

Going to be heartbroken for awhile.... but everyone has said it will get better... 

I will always care, cherish and love my spouse... just may never speak, or see them again. If I do I’ll be polite, courtesy but it’s going to be brief.

Thank you for Input",3.4120521452885946,6.479659761194032,3.771612613623613,82.67711218344368,81.45202558635395,6.2763026970411095,25.072419855609173,7.605630317579735,1.7449550817341866,2064,79,342,35,57,642,255,469,0.073,0.812,0.115,0.9746,1,0,0,0,1,0,159.0,5,1,12,6,19,33,3,1,9,0,29,8,2,4,12,63,68,22,1,5,16,15,0,0,1,6,3,8,5,6,13,17,1,0,4,1,13,15,7,13,0,1,17,12,41,20,51,36,14,70,0,3,4,2,57,20,0,10,34,202,54,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0638930921307312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0631893134482741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059044608171131226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358240563784239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07828965628010498,0.0,0.0,0.06614536369591803,0.08050990621154723,0.08297967162692088,0.0,0.061308321791952725,0.0,0.08434712092567008,0.0,0.0,0.06613669294317995,0.0,0.0,0.08022626866920453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.078572463784658,0.0,0.0863752517966656,0.0,0.0,0.08563801296121447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07337344926052206,0.13802274752608318,0.0,0.3619406371952507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16823322336124585,0.0,0.06531514331677774,0.0,0.0,0.05932559136117632,0.0,0.08023627344051333,0.07366126813975515,0.21819964394816094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07581145134931659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08112988056619101,0.07702381091656546,0.0,0.0,0.2658063176732767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495364711383895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07852010273896975,0.054237062109010935,0.0,0.0,0.06780449425764659,0.0,0.12896379799551805,0.0,0.1676445740200219,0.13056344346456433,0.13860687119802412,0.0,0.10251208918060538,0.07785015691966991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07735501399823327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899322271256494,0.0,0.16322525848387856,0.0,0.0,0.29611506778069696,0.0,0.16332809221640215,0.14411914941287532,0.0,0.07367937833380282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11680023404468058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13409522236768726,0.0,0.0,0.07258871295127016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07895001867275013,0.07581808497460978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730422003588074,0.18319276293704867,0.0,0.0,0.061189447568778935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05435036724630963,0.08184492608727736,0.06132234793125416,0.0,0.0,0.08027464171294121,0.0,0.0,0.08713719154769317,0.07237101642821936,0.0,0.05773440947328249,0.0,0.06711538728691621,0.0706953264925441,0.0,0.0,0.1020279920830358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08955045424857119,0.0,0.0,0.07337344926052206,0.08531339179767154,0.052133460552402686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09236553321602968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045291073268518806,0.0,0.12318810177602453,0.0,0.0,0.14236498608668216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08327243041301333,0.0,0.07798111726706408,0.0,0.10909483116573704,0.0,0.0,0.14834529549373504
divorce,archypsych,2020/02/05,"Do I confront my wife’s ex-husband when he is verbally abusive to her in front of their kids? When he dropped off the children tonight and my wife went out to the car to grab bags, there were many of them, her ex yelled at her to get away from the car. She paused aghast, and then he immediately yelled again to get back further. This is all happening in front of an 8yo and a 14yo (it was actually her birthday). 

We are actively fighting in court, he is a deadbeat and pays for nothing.

I’m irate. I’m out of town, and I do Not have a relationship with this guy. What I want to do is contact him directly and yell and threaten. I do not want to do anything that may complicate our already complicated court situation.

Anyone have any experience with this?! Any advice?! Thank you",3.1495704295704283,4.991887363636367,4.201428571428572,86.03972527472527,74.71428571428572,7.595604395604397,28.72927072927073,8.384062270229773,1.9596379620379625,610,26,128,11,13,198,97,154,0.095,0.8390000000000001,0.067,-0.7564,0,0,0,0,2,0,21.0,2,1,2,0,5,3,2,0,7,0,15,0,0,0,1,18,24,10,0,2,2,3,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,3,6,12,0,0,0,0,1,5,2,2,0,0,3,4,17,1,23,20,1,22,0,0,0,0,24,10,0,1,6,84,23,1,0.0,0.26301762973227805,0.2166267417185065,0.0,0.0,0.2169225781984935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24496755455545066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3019167803804593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15521807900541232,0.0,0.18267592413788653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085635660009265,0.17069386854234614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217145332381356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319575035757295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21980147443955936,0.19630187414615835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22505940614818648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2130019744248388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383303584818305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24952205736248295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20437528744202293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618667053977741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20578365216414884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,killthecook0609,2020/02/05,"Hey Elon musk where is my husband? My husband got a job at spaceX and left us (myself and child) home with the Intent of us coming at a later date after he had settled. Two days after he told me not to come, blocked my number and got an apartment. The last thing he said to me in person was that we would be together soon and I love you then hugged us goodbye. Then texted me saying he didn’t want to go there with out me. This was in November, before he left he became obsessed with Elon and spent an entire years salary on a Tesla. We lived together at his parents house and were saving money to get our own place, and I’m still here trying to scrimp and save the checks from my shit job to get the hell out of here. I can’t afford health insurance and he claimed he would sign me up for it as soon as he went down there. I spent Christmas, thanksgiving and New Years with his family and it has been so awkward. I am losing my fucking mind. I don’t know what to do or what step to take next. The child isn’t his, but his step child who calls him dad and has been a part of his life since he was 2. 

I feel completely fucked over, blindsided, and worst of all I’m still in love with him. I go to work take my break cry in the bathroom, pull my shit together finish my day. Take care of my son and reassure him that dad doesn’t hate him when he asks about him hang out with his fucking family and then cry myself to sleep. I feel pathetic.",4.000986186396227,4.190541345514951,4.583769889840884,90.41572827417384,70.76079734219269,7.931526490645218,23.8155271900682,7.669130373188453,0.7873880398671096,1119,24,257,12,19,357,163,301,0.138,0.7909999999999999,0.071,-0.9798,5,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,6,1,0,2,12,18,7,2,12,0,20,11,3,1,1,44,50,24,0,3,3,6,2,0,0,2,2,2,1,4,9,28,0,1,3,0,4,9,6,11,0,1,15,4,42,7,42,32,4,49,1,1,0,6,49,19,6,1,20,162,51,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09594857830078178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08733364958647491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10480039909436772,0.0,0.10464181371304196,0.0,0.0,0.17681954819384174,0.10760939577638813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22547642011754046,0.13238038587256604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935076817660764,0.0,0.10378928210200193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846493780474529,0.10724365870698696,0.0,0.1166581005929277,0.0,0.16417096013233348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10132944946172263,0.0,0.1090947365591962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10294988707784124,0.0,0.0,0.11842541530732165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036960584563654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056404752346401035,0.0836600969884987,0.0,0.0,0.2230234524964488,0.0,0.07249315962313227,0.0,0.0,0.09062736502036113,0.0,0.0,0.11482076586823516,0.0,0.0,0.18526169464020284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036306966143941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09912418780545264,0.10915201708554738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11396248690826835,0.11114220671028502,0.0,0.0,0.08961571646581802,0.10723028634765773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09762807357067584,0.08161837243756688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107038679643604,0.0848995893880061,0.0,0.10270773876163587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16392667980838505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23150312345173624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06818521531676368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09807082025667302,0.0,0.06968148956769732,0.0,0.10025813152841878,0.0,0.3703668164942648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060535967035947325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09514239211909868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747184962573287,0.0,0.0,0.14581595503570802,0.0,0.0,0.13218537002063993
divorce,Lilyal5403,2020/02/05,"Stalker? So I found out my stbx emailed and texted people to find out where I was the other day. Every time I think, ok he had a rough childhood. I can move on without wishing him ill.     he does something that scares me.  We have a kid. I can't just make a clean break. But I was shaking when I got the email he sent a friend asking my whereabouts.  How many people haven't forwarded me the email?  I like to think I'm strong. But I was shaking. I hate to call it stalking.  But I don't know what to call it, he is trying to see me and asking others where I'm at. It's scary. I joke at work that i must be amazing since he wont let go. But it's terrifying, esp when our marriage counselor said he sees you as property and getting a new woman won't stop him. What do I do?",0.16434089298370225,2.0320181626506084,2.079681077250175,97.54430545712265,84.24096385542168,4.628773919206237,20.005669737774628,5.5289334501034215,-0.3419194897236002,589,17,141,3,17,195,101,166,0.124,0.743,0.134,0.3891,0,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,2,1,0,2,7,10,1,3,8,1,17,1,0,2,1,22,35,12,0,2,6,0,1,1,1,3,1,1,1,2,10,6,0,1,5,1,0,6,6,4,0,0,8,4,24,6,12,22,0,21,0,0,2,0,24,8,0,0,9,85,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3250071496246574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3549909711263481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11210320319645736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521160508748573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464556583547931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15887355051426935,0.0,0.0,0.19059091978078466,0.1342973129380804,0.0,0.09081675947926317,0.0,0.09878915723867754,0.0,0.13902430017381046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17161690212517672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09553006469736894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17774856630197028,0.0,0.08492246200041502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11603001170953002,0.1762319876841809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847492213314353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678819546263506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410177222825413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16534805661780802,0.0,0.17402986060887776,0.0,0.2770331723664971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14379042420410126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338195244971429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14532607759353028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227609933579214,0.0,0.0,0.10135916981215197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180162473851532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19989098881094336,0.1675617821854695,0.0,0.12654718768582926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ELS1002,2020/02/05,"My hearing is tomorrow I’m 28f, spouse is 27m, we were married 7 years and have a son who is 3. 

Uncontested dissolution with children, in Minnesota a hearing is mandatory. We signed a joint petition, agreed on everything, signed it. Now we have to go in front of a judge to have it finalized.

Not really sure what to expect. I was hoping we could just sign and be done. I’m pretty nervous and my spouse has been no help, I’ve had to do it all myself. Neither of us have an attorney, I feel it’s largely unnecessary as we don’t have anything to fight over. He has a lot of debt which he agreed he’s responsible for and we don’t own anything of value. It would have been nice to have someone taking care of everything though...

Any advice for court to help things go smoothly?",2.4681593406593407,4.4225782884615406,4.18648351648352,84.89423076923079,77.01282051282051,7.790476190476189,25.88644688644689,8.634040054169528,1.8926369963369964,607,23,125,13,14,204,97,156,0.071,0.76,0.16899999999999998,0.9328,1,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,7,0,0,0,3,6,1,1,6,0,25,0,0,0,2,24,35,6,0,4,2,3,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,9,11,0,0,1,0,1,3,5,2,0,0,6,4,12,4,20,26,4,11,0,0,0,0,20,4,0,2,4,85,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18206857718076666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12670317467038564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066489977132094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899644363857349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14876040269349305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19066882320280545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33490265110367945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09420838466855393,0.0,0.0,0.20410314066799526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117785380683235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4199896627357871,0.0,0.24977113142569796,0.0,0.0,0.18505661093113016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15840158284504782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18955320470140372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11936059568357114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15786731651459185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17560326612320415,0.0,0.1400885516269971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12378193322421965,0.0,0.1830572772132164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22411857827136486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13235553136706374,0.0,0.0,0.1199831999437193
divorce,justasampleofone,2020/02/05,"Kinda makes you think Watching the Aaron Hernandez documentary really struck me. It is certain point somebody says about Hernandez, “When you are responsible for something bad and you can go about your life pretending it didn’t happen, not very many people can do that.”
Makes me wonder my ex might be a sociopath.",9.48830303030303,9.739565345454542,8.294545454545457,68.24848484848488,59.18181818181819,11.696969696969695,36.51515151515152,11.20814326018867,4.281242424242423,254,10,40,6,3,78,47,55,0.09699999999999999,0.805,0.09699999999999999,-0.2484,0,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,0,4,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,8,1,0,2,1,9,14,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,2,7,1,3,11,0,3,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,3,1,26,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460690395306911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16748946331507722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26060949061940464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20816111933214074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39344002789129295,0.29878786155507736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3126388310262128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20431356073316348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27859450993945817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887976212732151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343637917424984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268807728053996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18883711668330855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24316513181045235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3195984747374577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ImStillStandingBeech,2020/02/05,Should you be friends with your ex-spouse after a divorce? Spouse and I are getting divorced here soon due to incompatibility. We have a 3 year old together. Everything has been very amicable between the two of us. She expressed interest in remaining friends after the divorce. Would that be a good idea?,4.439444444444444,7.588822203703708,5.1829629629629625,73.93333333333334,76.96296296296295,8.044444444444443,34.925925925925924,8.841846274778883,3.7201703703703695,245,14,40,6,6,79,46,54,0.0,0.779,0.221,0.9092,0,0,0,0,3,0,7.0,2,2,0,0,2,4,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,6,9,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,6,4,7,4,0,7,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,0,6,31,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27671663486254505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4757586208633577,0.0,0.16086269820251214,0.0,0.0,0.2582481492297236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34757655825668593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3230845484556185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007691783151197,0.0,0.37036039329668136,0.0,0.0,0.2540460445655527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2187201392681691,0.0,0.0,0.19827461633432936
divorce,jnb150,2020/02/06,"Ex trying to control our social media posts of their daughter So my wife and I just received an email from her ex, stating that he doesn't consent to me/my business posting photos of their daughter online, or in any form of advertising. Stating that he's paying for ""social media scans"" and he'll provide a cease and desist order if we don't comply.

Him being a child and trying to exhibit some form of control over us aside, is this even a thing to worry about?

The daughter is a minor, custody is 50/50, my wife consents to using the photos, and yes the pictures would be tasteful and appropriate. He's not going around to her school and dance studio and making them remove their social media posts containing her image. By the way, I'm sure the images provided by the taste studio have her in dance clothes that are a lot more risky that what I would be posting.

I'm not going to go out of my way to make the whole thing contentious, but I also don't like having our rights infringed upon, or being controlled by a clown like him. 

Anyone have experience with this?",7.319670619235836,6.7712407826087,7.368414580588496,75.75193675889331,63.879227053140106,8.6866930171278,31.861660079051386,7.348242739294969,2.1702405797101445,850,27,149,6,11,274,120,207,0.061,0.9129999999999999,0.025,-0.7286,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,4,0,4,3,6,3,0,0,14,1,16,2,0,6,1,31,25,14,0,3,7,7,0,2,0,3,0,0,2,1,9,12,2,4,0,2,1,7,5,0,0,0,0,3,20,3,26,18,6,23,0,0,1,0,31,7,0,5,2,109,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10259890417181984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08724622311412666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08970810522811751,0.0,0.0,0.11421135201600402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4316873096612655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08473882604410515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254988880926815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2187420831935689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12535867138412785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10907335095968987,0.0,0.0,0.17127821975439664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4914914774676771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095647657327816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12984321048770206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3923472907423705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12091821515609855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17046938550155152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17421021041371906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15432525297611666,0.11080724209343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20367205536586103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14323879484867824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13029162752141565,0.0,0.18227673063567898,0.0,0.0,0.0
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divorce,Joebob68,2020/02/06,"Those who were together a long time before divorce, how do you deal with finally ending it? I say to myself all the time im ready to leave and am determined to make it happen but the feelings of being together for 30 years start to creep in. I mean ive been with this person longer than I was alive before I met her. She is so far out of line to what I want to be and my future yet Im struggling to think about life on my own. Those who have lived this scenario and got divorced, how did you do it without second guessing yourself?",4.192895752895752,4.422501468468472,5.0519433719433735,87.08594594594597,70.35135135135134,7.784298584298584,26.66795366795367,7.447530270364453,1.2244223938223944,417,12,90,4,7,136,80,111,0.044000000000000004,0.877,0.079,0.4329,0,0,0,0,2,0,7.0,0,2,0,0,5,1,0,1,3,0,12,1,0,3,1,17,22,7,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,10,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,6,2,13,0,18,14,2,13,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,1,9,66,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3419620186894614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20715531209538665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17796889830303278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159884704803146,0.0,0.0,0.22011463038780069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607061917223888,0.0,0.221352716522432,0.0,0.1776862856679414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4340888758144242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21276130646056315,0.0,0.0,0.14192643570538935,0.0,0.0,0.1774294148796735,0.17782128080809656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341257699843142,0.0,0.0,0.21887727973006754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754488187202671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597916927384485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14222293027310012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100610418931978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12875112790386758,0.0,0.0,0.23433379857030795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118516754933239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936943099844928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12939564585788188
divorce,DeadpointMane,2020/02/06,"Is a divorce registry such a thing? First post. I’m 39(m) with a small child. I’m going to be moving out of our house that we own. This was not the original plan. However, it’s just not going to be affordable for me to stay. We are splitting because of irreconcilable differences. We are splitting custody 50/50. I won’t have much with regard to household stuff but I’m not worried about it,  that stuff will come in time. My soon to be ex brought up a registry and I thought it was a ridiculous concept. Are divorce registries really a thing?",1.6646589259796798,4.3118524905660385,2.840943396226418,89.2173367198839,85.41509433962264,5.525689404934689,27.021770682148038,7.010146845296331,1.4703042089985487,428,20,83,6,13,137,71,106,0.052000000000000005,0.924,0.024,-0.4135,2,0,0,0,2,0,16.0,4,0,0,2,4,1,1,0,7,0,12,0,0,1,0,15,20,2,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,10,8,0,0,1,0,0,5,4,1,0,1,4,0,8,0,14,11,2,15,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,4,62,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14098651889395844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19922777459474936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416390216627148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19672717667953168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26288421169474346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668667824133528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458146965136627,0.17001786672018127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22150290148061996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14816428704200188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465143673742667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5295219515321401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3073051333199993,0.0,0.0,0.18361097747752655,0.1348615890594367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23487669559050475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,jimsmythee,2020/02/06,"She tried (and failed) to change my daughters' last name to her new hubby's last name So I got divorced in 2017.  In spring 2018 she remarried, but didn't fix her own laundry list of personal problems.  We do just about 40(me)/60(her) custody.   In summer 2018 she made the suggestion that it would be great if everyone in her home had the same last name, and her exact words were, ""I'm thinking about getting the girls last name changed to <her new last name>.""  I replied, ""no.  I'm not some deadbeat dad.  It's not going to happen.""  Blah blah blah more fighting and then the topic was never brought up again.  

Fast forward to early winter 2018.  Her new hubby kicks her to the curb after 6 months of wedded bliss.  And once her divorce was final, she's thinking about going back to my last name, so it'll be the same as the kids.",3.7193263258480656,5.475648223602487,3.5319254658385084,91.7987768752986,72.9751552795031,5.9476349737219305,25.42809364548495,6.297961479604792,0.7075089345437169,648,21,131,4,13,195,99,161,0.07200000000000001,0.8640000000000001,0.064,0.39399999999999996,0,0,0,0,4,0,32.0,1,0,0,1,8,4,1,0,7,0,10,0,0,1,2,27,21,10,0,3,5,2,0,3,0,2,0,0,1,3,4,5,0,1,2,0,0,4,5,3,0,0,8,0,16,1,19,9,5,30,0,1,0,0,27,6,0,2,22,76,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10637589900645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29269344512886364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13219101404941438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15154610160115625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07227760488666501,0.0,0.15724506610730016,0.0,0.11064415307509616,0.15252174096194596,0.0,0.0,0.1223347301064197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13876757565068432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.676599605923833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13090185668522333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11042268359838553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10669731757125492,0.4008325881806559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14732893989704526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120794262792711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13237391407579566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17728700246964024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09392464284809364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09827367054902596,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,thatpaperclip,2020/02/06,"It's been almost 3 years I was just working away when a really sad memory popped into my head.

It's been almost 3 years since my divorce. My oldest daughter has always been very special to me. She is just a nice, good, sweet, honest kid (no, my other kids are not like that). She was 4 when we got divorced. I feel like I failed her. When I think about it I still cry. She didn't deserve it.

The memory... I was at Target with my kids. We were just walking down an aisle. My oldest saw an employee and without hesitating she said ""my parents still love each other but they live in separate houses""

So devastating",1.1880444964871195,3.6004058606557368,3.090538641686184,88.4260655737705,84.65573770491805,5.7807962529273995,19.370023419203747,7.1686216300943375,0.5280121779859481,473,13,95,7,14,158,84,122,0.127,0.76,0.113,-0.5833,2,0,0,0,2,0,21.0,2,0,1,2,10,10,0,0,5,0,11,2,1,0,0,16,17,6,0,0,6,2,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,3,7,6,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,11,4,22,8,9,6,1,15,0,2,1,1,17,5,0,2,11,68,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41027173923624605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17045841166322426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19247099804711906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22502708480499836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10358244810362856,0.14635072048032513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718253169704258,0.163843795945307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21024358816914768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363788280791027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001667121182923,0.0,0.18089352086980265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18489250028533488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274707589620849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13123739199551948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19486703557990426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16946079852753684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3272000048591658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13126484612646408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16902944808223566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19747596941185566,0.0,0.14913919056400587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638438951098165
divorce,DismalSeason,2020/02/06,"When your spouse is gay but you're not First, thank you to all who give insight to the legal game freely. Yall are legends. Im 38 yrs old. Been married for 5 years and we were together for 8 years before marriage. After about 3 years in, my wife decided she wanted to quit her job and start her own business. Her family's well off and able to help her accomplish this. I was building my career as a site supervisor which required that I work out of town. I was only to work out of town for 1 year, 2019, and then be promoted to the more localized position of project management. Me working out of town put a huge strain on our marriage and no matter how much I communicated that 2019 was the ""work"" year, she would not hear it and i stopped hearing her. I would come home every 3 weeks for 1 week and it felt like I was living with a stranger. By the time october rolls around she has completely distanced herself from me. December hits and that's when everything came crashing down. I Caught my wife having an affair with another woman. She had been communicating with her since May and she stayed at the house for a week in October and december. My wife claimes nothing physical happened and that she was just an old girlfriend from college. She did admit that there was a strong emotional connection and was unwilling to stop communicating with her as we went to couples therapy. Just got served with the petition monday, 2-3-20. It should be a pretty clean break. We dont have any kids and our only real asset is the house. That's where it gets tricky. We own the house outright and it was paid for by my wifes trust. I did make 1200/mo payments for 18 months before the loan was forgiven and payments were no longer required. In the petition all I'm being allotted is my truck, dog and a few furniture items. Sounds like a typical country song, right? So my question is this. Am I entitled to anything from the house? The payments I made or the divided property equity? Maybe even part of the business. I'm trying to get a lawyer now, I wasnt expecting to get served while we were attempting a reconciliation. I reside in louisiana and the only proof I have of the affair is circumstantial. It just seems crazy that I can invest 13 years into someone, have them cheat on me, divorce me, then walk away clean and with everything we built together. As far as my emotional state goes. It's a emotional rollercoaster built around a train wreck. I'm not moving out of the house and I'm contesting the divorce. Shes not leaving me that easy. I posted this in r/legal and no help. Hoping for better help here. Thanks",3.7312110488096337,5.750418096837947,4.623808254435153,82.87128366577812,73.56521739130434,8.264288997150473,27.182461623310967,8.973190933345348,2.2341763581211507,2071,78,399,45,43,670,264,506,0.057,0.775,0.168,0.9959,1,0,0,0,2,0,55.0,8,3,1,13,16,11,1,1,32,0,40,1,0,3,3,76,68,33,0,6,9,5,1,2,1,4,0,4,3,2,20,41,0,4,6,2,3,7,9,2,1,1,25,5,57,9,61,35,10,63,0,0,0,1,52,27,0,6,27,265,77,15,0.07946603932159689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05403963174528677,0.08332707100030247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0653937794163113,0.1414832455498427,0.0,0.0,0.07466095980469288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352394930246465,0.0,0.0,0.07028125404076438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088797898947903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06845295647156127,0.08331863032402721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08792766104112268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09313360625273284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681657952009497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052486569509848466,0.0,0.06695356547061769,0.0,0.1428379042849125,0.0,0.0749135095760147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07629985968782174,0.0,0.0,0.06759377245170532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12455317711714455,0.07623106594123749,0.0,0.0,0.06355625100632646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07027155613146308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17912800346252006,0.0,0.15979323325514655,0.0,0.0797109167043676,0.07892770747666575,0.0,0.458465700312257,0.0,0.0,0.08583695890813657,0.0,0.07885778221566457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08414306165129314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764618565568376,0.0,0.07016996860630069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07519268781454312,0.053044198311074056,0.0,0.07983431746018886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06342903443626054,0.08445982371056042,0.05841668238104687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07624980794000456,0.0,0.16677248128274438,0.0,0.0,0.1813125113428494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08605397667628896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07610649922792949,0.08084553054689171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07988531818554216,0.08902015069764704,0.08452191448664391,0.0,0.09044975007802424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06786356338558162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07234289766267092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06573512890621687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06733131724014446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05624647164128602,0.08470022462385059,0.0,0.13287433425310272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14632330481646674,0.090876341498245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0463372865773832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053952224411545714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046871128885962066,0.0,0.1912285902785548,0.0,0.0714495128377794,0.07366581458730029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23140889224833205,0.0,0.0,0.11290078868402055,0.0,0.0,0.30704114356000456
divorce,0wl1sh,2020/02/06,"How to deal with belongings? I'm in Canada and my wife of 5 years (together 12) moved out a month ago. She is staying with family so she doesn't currently have a need or space for many belongings. I have packed up all her personal stuff that she left and put them in the basement. What is a reasonable time to give her to get the stuff out?
The stuff isnt in my way but I'm getting tired of the drop bys to get one little thing here and there. I really just want the door to be closed and I feel like as long as her stuff is here its holding it open a crack.",1.0590454545454513,2.752489783333335,2.627878787878789,95.65227272727276,80.33333333333334,7.03030303030303,19.24242424242424,8.00094639256281,0.4313333333333338,434,10,106,8,11,142,80,120,0.059000000000000004,0.897,0.044000000000000004,-0.4103,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,0,9,0,8,1,0,2,1,20,17,10,0,2,3,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,9,10,0,1,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,12,1,18,16,1,22,0,0,0,0,11,11,0,1,7,70,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13560718164854113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577152462286619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14421554833210218,0.0,0.0773510802916325,0.10928865399364253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397765748276404,0.14675196819474726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16621277873389545,0.0,0.0,0.07473810333814525,0.1533257444362786,0.0,0.1353821285279488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550972993100775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12210685406641092,0.16259310046196254,0.0,0.1134324320827377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10366293343484748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13357588258346684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15378674729051858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09800264650391352,0.15728850346774167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16305589481942756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7005001497743595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163284604832057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08920363269322322,0.17582754146587093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902313293221798,0.12142808274014208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09851384423101674
divorce,hhcwthrowaway,2020/02/06,"I'm divorcing my wife, well I'm strongly considering it. My wife and I have been married almost 10 years. We have 2 children, ages 9 and 8. We live in GA. I know some of these questions may be better for a lawyer, but I just want to see if anyone here can help me before I do that. 

My wife has never worked, she has always been a stay at home mom. My salary is $65k/year plus bonuses. (The bonuses are not promised, just depends how well the company does. The bonuses are also not a set amount)

I did speak with a lawyer on the phone, but basically he told me I was fucked. 

My wife has been cheating on me for the past year. She told me about 1 time around May/June 2019. I forgave her and we/I was going to try to move past it. However, it did not stop. I thought it did, but it didn't. She came clean to me a few weeks ago. Since then she has told me the only reason she didn't leave me then was because someone told her I would get full custody of the children. She had already had plans to move in with this guy, who lives with his mom. Every night when I get off work, she basically is asking for my permission to go fuck this guy. She tells me that she craves it and doesn't think she can control herself. I've asked her to stop talking/block this guy, but she will not do it. I don't know what to do. I'm so depressed, I'm trying to stay strong, but it's so hard knowing you're not good enough.

Now for my questions...

House, we have a mortgage. It is in my name, which the lawyer says doesn't matter. I'll have to be the one to move out. 

Child support. I used the child support worksheet online to get an idea of how much it will be. HOLY FUCK! I can't survive after paying that much a month. It is 60% of my gross pay. We barely get by now as is. The lawyer is telling me that because she has never worked, there is nothing I can do about it. Even if we do 50/50 time.

Her car. It is also in my name. Everything is in my name. What do I do about it? If something does happen, do I have to continue paying for the house (if she stays and I leave) the car and child support?? 

TL;DR I'm pretty sure I'm fucked, but how fucked am I?",0.09023227712137682,2.076432760964913,1.7801772287862545,98.8748120300752,85.42543859649123,4.5119226638023635,18.516648764769066,5.5774198320480926,-0.5607268528464018,1633,42,393,9,49,531,204,456,0.11699999999999999,0.7609999999999999,0.122,-0.7905,3,0,1,0,0,0,73.0,5,0,0,12,21,22,6,0,21,0,57,5,0,7,3,64,93,28,0,6,17,6,1,0,0,4,0,2,2,8,26,18,0,3,9,0,6,8,13,8,2,1,19,4,62,14,43,67,7,46,0,1,1,5,58,12,5,10,22,258,88,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06625378376920295,0.0,0.07484276351897018,0.0,0.0824790461307283,0.11954141748809728,0.06219087192151826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05226095807603178,0.0,0.0,0.06653573458426447,0.13974632854213945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09112338561884964,0.0,0.06359946704804985,0.0,0.0,0.0661027367153264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08548430485097683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382888902027984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06437469940766527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130813489159488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0772278951504866,0.0,0.049366021320391015,0.0,0.06297289328231905,0.0,0.06717279386077864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34548632028046505,0.15619728639174174,0.0,0.08495457432133934,0.06268958026955196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22201735225060812,0.06609361538768388,0.0,0.06695365644704447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05009761692939768,0.0,0.07497176611547009,0.0,0.0,0.17248319139650484,0.0,0.08437399692365045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12322783503933292,0.0,0.0,0.1582808026598614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13199613533972068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17507256049979325,0.0596579105007942,0.23831499164160344,0.10988712788128246,0.0,0.11529042430252635,0.0,0.0,0.07013978556739253,0.0,0.07171643488217852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0506467393037775,0.0568442389751106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14269833805328447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603892237398582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16745505367653632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0768466564340355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05943739913466745,0.0,0.0,0.059559257030668264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061826897916695676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0633281861140362,0.057539617997104615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389933158332062,0.0,0.12497439400074765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.254447127463576,0.0704429299541239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13065463935235386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047891301776162035,0.0,0.059336360794618986,0.08716467844898676,0.0,0.0,0.2856746251106144,0.0,0.10148907369848703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06455261337690578,0.0,0.0,0.044084442353601226,0.0,0.05995308103207949,0.0,0.13440307518743574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16323799233510156,0.0,0.0,0.05309418002845971,0.0,0.0,0.14439312552496236
divorce,Johnfire18,2020/02/06,"My brother in law (25M) expect my sister (24F) to have a full-time job, do all the housework and take care of all three children. The ages of the children are 5,2 and a newborn. I advised my sister to seek legal counsel and file for divorce.  They have been married for about six years now. My brother in law has never taken any responsibility when it comes to caring for his kids. When they had their firstborn, my sister would buy the diapers formula and any other necessities the child might need. He would never go to any doctor appointments. My sister thought it was normal since they were new parents and had no experience. This same trend continued with the second child. He would come home late because, after work, he would go to the gym. In the meanwhile, my sister is caring for the two kids by herself, cooking and cleaning. When he would come home, all he would do is play videogames late into the night. It escalated when the third child was born two weeks ago. He took a week off from work to supposedly help her, but instead, he would go out with his brother or head over to his mom's house and come back late in the evening. This made my sister break down, trying to care for the other two, and trying to care for the needs of a newborn. He was not worried if she ate or if she needed any help. She told me that he asked him to buy diapers, but he requested he sends her money to buy them. So instead, she had to go at night with all three of the kids to buy diapers. He finds taking care of his children burdensome. That is a woman's obligation. When she leaves any kid with him, he is continually texting her to hurry up. My sister is not going out for leisure time but for things the girls need and food. So now she took the three girls and moved into my parent's house. They bought a home last year and when my sister tried talking to him. He asked her if she was taking all her things and if someone was going to help her to take them wtf! Then later that night, he texted her that they needed some time apart. Thank goodness she has four months of paid maternity leave, and our mother can help her from time to time. I wish the best for them, but I believe my sister is in a toxic relationship. When I see her, she seems depressed, and I worry about her.",4.520159130184332,5.526894551339289,4.8488076036866365,86.03893433179725,70.00446428571429,7.2985023041474655,25.612327188940093,7.359569317364363,1.0808409274193544,1781,50,362,17,31,562,198,448,0.042,0.847,0.11199999999999999,0.9858,3,0,0,0,1,0,54.0,1,0,9,3,17,11,0,0,25,0,32,5,1,1,7,69,72,34,0,19,12,16,0,0,0,8,1,0,4,15,13,26,3,0,3,3,7,14,5,1,0,10,19,1,55,10,57,45,8,67,0,1,1,0,96,15,0,9,37,245,68,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05721542851830185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21946475883956104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206821047270444,0.0,0.0,0.049631277397474916,0.0,0.03934615700125823,0.0,0.0,0.07272034148275675,0.06773620901017333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3948488204303797,0.0,0.0,0.22239991056484493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05559268924439199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06606475085476103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04263149820890263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06313759433199759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058993146715889414,0.0,0.07804831634580182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22009515975651106,0.05413745441693808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06624200014087442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.173053157558292,0.0,0.19423230558483745,0.0,0.0,0.14895299779908744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06405115504175468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052612955632290126,0.2184294030094848,0.13668810194979888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06107423224310329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06847226097974381,0.0,0.07559456230972407,0.05151936568181461,0.06860133662508405,0.0,0.2392972529400263,0.09956248013705322,0.06233815980170384,0.0,0.18171390337794946,0.06324059524126939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14333962027977235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06929739325180792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05143417053903249,0.0587595291697296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053392459373850565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054688941516508716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19411984129984536,0.05187898969003734,0.0,0.059424551513444175,0.0,0.0,0.08576193041545775,0.0,0.0,0.05124168185483746,0.1505473090108093,0.0,0.0,0.06167570802237999,0.14342419215510818,0.13146586906973667,0.0,0.1891538552700761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10354853797308396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07422379868730299,0.0,0.0,0.0939793538379166,0.1310975746211825,0.0,0.3209574250003492,0.0,0.0,0.08312998978581013
divorce,youcanrisetomeetit,2020/02/06,Thought we could work it out My wife told me we had grown apart while I was deployed. I told her I understood and I did. Being alone and a mom the way she was while I was gone is hard and I couldn’t blame her. She told me she wanted a divorce. I told her we could work at it people change and that it could be a whole new move we discover. Well in that time apart she had an emotional affair with someone she met while I was gone. Says she loves him and not me anymore. The typical father of my children will always love you spill but it’s not the same. Felt like it could have been worked at but not now. 8 years.,0.3627699018538735,2.4021513893129764,1.5707360959651029,100.46727099236642,84.72519083969465,4.96423118865867,16.9907306434024,6.1826913282559595,-0.6251422028353328,476,10,116,4,14,150,78,131,0.035,0.8759999999999999,0.08900000000000001,0.7684,0,1,0,0,1,0,10.0,4,1,0,3,2,4,0,0,7,0,18,2,0,0,0,26,31,10,0,6,5,3,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,7,11,0,0,3,0,0,4,4,0,1,0,18,3,28,4,6,5,2,18,0,0,0,2,29,6,0,0,8,83,35,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14703596461115348,0.0,0.0,0.11812869412370472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14079404287030972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501832501774991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4533993739029492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15969481768810298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13631148044079167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12717538375852766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06935836160519272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562632069472164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166271128782632,0.0,0.15088944664982573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13711351557264176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984226901903216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128985995042514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028897000052542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11270668183534635,0.08278264414659829,0.0,0.0,0.5426257803746827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08373636589264144,0.11268753815722725,0.0,0.0,0.12764622256894614,0.0,0.0,0.15850212864117075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3100630409275361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09142269506597377
divorce,dylanhello89,2020/02/06,"What would everyone else do? My son who is 4 has been asking his mom why his dad cant come sleep there and why he always go to daddy house. Crying too. 

We split 2 years ago because we just fought almost every day. I mean yelling and absolute just couldnt compromise on anything even something as little as a rug. 

I met current girlfriend 7 months after we split and have been together for a year and a half almost.  She and I CAN compromise. We can work through our problems. 

But I cant help but feeling like the biggest piece of crap for putting him through all of this. I see him on weekends and I now go over every Wednesday to play with him and she will step out for the gym. And since ive added wednesdays I noticed hes now trying to emulate me. And it melts my heart. 

I feel like I'm picking my girlfriend over fixing things with ex and givint my son a second chance at a family. I'm lost. I battle with this practically every single day.",3.2212499999999977,4.672112375000001,4.090541666666667,88.53362500000004,73.6875,6.786666666666667,25.82083333333333,7.3011,1.1373995833333344,744,25,154,8,15,239,124,192,0.099,0.836,0.065,-0.5242,1,0,1,0,1,0,15.0,5,0,0,2,7,8,3,0,7,0,15,3,3,1,1,33,28,14,0,3,4,5,2,2,2,2,0,1,1,0,6,19,0,0,3,3,0,5,3,5,0,2,5,4,28,3,22,20,3,26,0,1,1,0,26,8,1,2,15,100,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12899289699078595,0.0,0.2914304462591575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210826050853952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11974888725403535,0.0,0.13603965492198775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08870640155081774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12535084284597486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15984465288103913,0.1876940996049832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215615883083092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09611324426705642,0.0,0.3678154880032896,0.13904865274616976,0.0,0.0,0.13718138777256045,0.0,0.1471565120797849,0.2079161282681998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16540242731649846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17243949059690986,0.0975376253614291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16790819538667254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421854557846391,0.1458472310807532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15885004993374166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15851172525295015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17042888328560932,0.11615105230399812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656731690131832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13924104102943116,0.0,0.1462857483699301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11595897879233168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203739653875486,0.0,0.14562305754182045,0.0,0.0,0.1120268397506949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09667567072641434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09879714700433864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626146612600157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10593881250926268,0.0,0.0,0.10337178807899113,0.0,0.0,0.18741759848667397
divorce,darkhairblueyesfit,2020/02/06,"What’s truly good advice/am I wrong for thinking this way? I feel like I see so frequently commons advice in here; get an attorney, you need an attorney. Talk to a therapist. But rarely do I see anyone say, you got this, you can do this on your own!

Random thought I occasionally have, and I don’t plan to get a divorce.. (fingers crossed) But if I ever were. I feel like step 1 would be: move all of my assets into bitcoin or a stable coin cryptocurrency; not your keys not your coins, so put that on a hardware wallet, brainwallet, somewhere safe/untouchable. Step 2; somehow hide that money ever existed in the first place, or excuse for it to have disappeared; gambling addiction, poker sports.. margin trading bitcoin. Maybe you sent all your bitcoin to the wrong address, got hacked, poof gone. A judge can rule you owe X amount  of alimony, child support, wage garnishment, etc.. but if you weren’t working, the money wasn’t in a bank account, no home equity.. what can really be done? I suppose they could throw you in jail for contempt of court?? But that seems so harsh.. it’s easier than ever before now to just be your own bank.

Having watched divorce Inc on Netflix, and a Marriage Story recently, I feel like we are super harsh in the US.. vrs I think Scandinavian countries don’t make a big deal out of divorce. Curious what ya’ll think. 🤔",3.3505000000000003,5.717894956862747,4.333357843137257,82.91886029411766,75.90196078431373,7.230392156862746,27.095588235294123,8.212053250817874,2.0173823529411763,1054,42,192,19,24,341,157,255,0.081,0.8009999999999999,0.11800000000000001,0.8247,3,0,0,0,3,0,53.0,2,12,1,4,10,9,1,0,14,0,20,2,1,1,5,35,40,13,0,5,11,0,4,3,0,1,1,1,2,1,11,5,0,0,8,3,11,9,7,3,0,1,9,8,27,6,23,26,6,30,0,0,3,0,25,12,0,7,11,124,38,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14572753176258524,0.0,0.1306275010165133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09346998335280504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11374917998211855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067301121091749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13781499460142393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367978609071755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14908505822707288,0.0,0.3627551760905176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20277314275660094,0.2864963715358336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11370548670835633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13968130604828355,0.0,0.0,0.1121218255445018,0.2138272267373794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13408881101162307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19592331536166926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892303561001067,0.0,0.13429639438050311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14207736917143995,0.0,0.09911971346412496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13966388899408594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343821872292884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08563683297479191,0.0,0.1319897931100311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10630522118574287,0.0,0.0,0.2130463339406389,0.12169441192979727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516949404409349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10744441337514146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15520916201112306,0.0,0.2569642431688419,0.0,0.10612451167887574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16079682866909825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10610648600853356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09731836146790747,0.0,0.0,0.09496022090086767,0.2923093688981904,0.0,0.0
divorce,lightcoffeeman,2020/02/06,"When does the pain go away? Wife and I are separating and the pain is too much. 

I’m leaving her for reasons; she blames me and I blame her. It’s been an ongoing problem for a while and it’s finally come to an end tonight. 

We have a son together; and I’m heartbroken he has to go through it. 

When does the pain go away? I feel so alone and I don’t know if I can handle it.",-0.06960843373494185,1.5372597951807272,2.388780120481929,96.415218373494,83.57831325301207,6.559638554216868,22.423192771084338,7.645422480735847,0.6725915662650608,285,10,74,5,8,98,53,83,0.284,0.716,0.0,-0.9749,0,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,7,0,7,3,0,1,0,13,15,11,0,2,1,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,8,0,0,3,0,0,4,1,4,0,0,1,1,10,0,7,14,1,12,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,1,6,48,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19684807847968006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3571411267148893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637225536958742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33265104472272744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16833951589721424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09610162725544767,0.0,0.0,0.20820486430322066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3240517635094178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10445372346062536,0.0,0.0,0.2012494074680671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13971826654177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6067216994810398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818647429808048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19541654848043855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,SmolderingCupcake,2020/02/06,This is so hard Just begged my husband to spend the evening with our daughter since she hasn’t seen him much in the past two weeks. His reply “I’m gonna spend the day with her tomorrow while you work”.. but like why can’t he see she’s hurting and confused to why he’s never home. It’s like he’s looking forward to his every other weekends and it breaks my heart. I want him to love her like I do. She deserves it and so much more.,1.449919354838709,2.960610483870969,2.5200940860215084,97.70014112903229,78.56989247311827,5.0801075268817195,22.377688172043012,5.148860815047168,-0.14151505376344087,337,10,80,1,8,107,63,93,0.079,0.7509999999999999,0.17,0.8769,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,1,0,1,4,6,0,1,3,0,4,2,1,0,1,10,11,7,0,1,2,2,1,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,5,0,0,0,1,2,1,3,2,0,1,1,4,15,4,7,9,3,10,0,1,3,1,17,2,0,1,11,48,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14310919721673968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14656496136961855,0.0,0.1869630046009772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987816682050985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629563435368867,0.0,0.0,0.22258698818790926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375519498570877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32523206338494354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18634278828524295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20027628881890547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3262487480692708,0.0,0.17114541674849387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21183169966798074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17682810914108185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18356060833731533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21676716868455206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13088424826912026,0.0,0.17799735061546867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4004662206149507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16154816208077288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ImErasingYou,2020/02/06,"Still thinking about blowing the whistle - what would you do? TL;DR - I never did an affair ""big reveal"" and hoped my ex would get more normal in time. She hasn't, not even a little bit. Is there any benefit to a really late reveal of my ex's infidelity?

Divorce was finalized in December after two years of slow movement. I have a pretty decent relationship with my (ex) mother-in-law, who cares for the kids every morning so my ex can work. My mother-in-law fell and broke a wrist and ankle and has been hospitalized for about a month, and my family has done all we can to help, and it's been good. For me, this meant taking the kids all school nights instead of our usual 50/50 schedule.

My ex is just SO STRANGE. She stopped talking to me when I called her on cheating, but has denied it in spite of all the very obvious proof and two marriages ending. In fact, my ex doesn't talk to ANYONE from our ten years in this state- church, family, etc. It's so odd, no friends, nothing.

When I attempted to tell her parents about the affair early on, they said it was a horrible accusation and they didn't believe it, so I just let it go. Since then *way* more proof has shown up. The affair partner's wife gave me a drive with the pictures that were on her husband's phone, and there is zero way to call it anything other than an affair, and specifically an affair that ended two marriages. The photos go back to before I told the parents she was cheating. Since then she's tried to introduce her parents to the guy, and I'm pretty sure the affair ended at that point.

I haven't used any of that in court or otherwise, and she doesn't know I have it. It just felt like advertising her sin, and I couldn't see any benefit.  I thought the divorce being finalized would allow her to chill out, relax a bit, communicate a little better. At no point have we yelled or screamed at one another, I've never called her a slut or any such thing, and she has no reason to avoid me other than her own guilt, avoidance, and dismissing the situation emotionally.

Her inability to communicate just makes everything difficult! The divorce went poorly and took forever because of it, and now we can't co-parent well because she won't talk unless she wants something, and even then she has to want it pretty badly. We use OurFamilyWizard to communicate and she just BARELY sticks to the court rules on it. There isn't a legal issue, but good luck agreeing on girl scouts or sports for the kids or anything. It just won't happen. She can't do it.

So I'm contemplating - could I email some of the proof to my ex and her mom, say ""yes, this happened, you wrecked two homes. It's OK, I forgive you. You won't be able to communicate and act normally till you own your part of this giant mess."" I'd have to copy her mom for a few reasons I don't care to go into here, but she needs to know.

Again, I'm expecting normal mature adult behavior which would say ""yeah, you caught me, oops. I'm not sorry, you're an asshole, glad we divorced."" Or maybe ""you're right, I'm sorry I hurt you."" And after either of those...you'd be able to communicate more openly, right? Or maybe not...

Is there any benefit? It's way too late to save the relationship (and I don't want to!), and I doubt she'll be able to own ANY of it. But at this point....ugh, I feel like it just needs to be known, and I'm grasping at straws to improve the situation.

What would you do? At this point, what could I possibly stand to lose?",3.799271099744246,5.063030311594204,4.855456095481674,84.3487340153453,71.97101449275362,7.788576300085253,25.268542199488486,8.251243910053105,1.4339872122762145,2705,81,554,41,51,887,298,690,0.11900000000000001,0.752,0.129,0.6624,4,2,1,0,4,1,119.0,7,9,2,4,32,36,3,4,35,3,55,2,1,6,11,112,93,48,0,18,23,14,2,2,2,9,0,5,1,7,36,35,0,3,14,2,1,10,22,16,1,7,18,8,74,20,74,57,16,76,2,3,1,1,95,30,0,11,33,370,110,3,0.1852219186357424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519145124050671,0.06474044382872275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043170490711409264,0.0,0.1016145714046332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04747474078805548,0.05155085511204496,0.0752730416217699,0.0,0.05253673684003178,0.06956055823959914,0.0,0.05460457837791735,0.13480957539592767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18913228797908085,0.0,0.1258973936286089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09858975359063288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06318211014698599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06944990942550883,0.1640516431331669,0.0,0.06885713349395405,0.08155822025959276,0.0,0.05201915166881962,0.0,0.05548850576384886,0.0,0.1164071603741084,0.0,0.031217922452728607,0.044107525227487884,0.05928069618864822,0.1352677055263989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04770066495837988,0.0,0.0322569359114686,0.0,0.10526588480148236,0.10357023837150184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06113293999931661,0.10919408729653796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04138344925035328,0.0,0.061930895487930626,0.061322386003516076,0.0,0.0,0.06609463158346725,0.0,0.0,0.06444118696349782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06786208167370476,0.0,0.1392922612800154,0.0,0.0,0.0631339869913249,0.0,0.06032671568328767,0.1237606813446512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06907198300716128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04121235632037582,0.0,0.12405354185837195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14461978167111406,0.049280789444956494,0.0,0.0,0.09155980381999586,0.09523637481397976,0.0,0.0,0.0579394077875901,0.18147815392603706,0.05924180879792167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041837055216170115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056670211087508,0.06685909604610102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334594428342765,0.06960329438570978,0.0,0.18843727973428945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039552634652114914,0.12695932068301988,0.0,0.1325726821645298,0.0,0.1054523376530363,0.05872948667172361,0.09819726930839763,0.0,0.06248482339522182,0.049199296130013365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10214499008398684,0.13879813136049945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047530960696667256,0.0,0.13822718238058967,0.0,0.0,0.049306154494470004,0.051617939222660905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05818982210093974,0.0,0.04642127722062971,0.1488743621178305,0.05396404029139069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04101773749796992,0.03956090884283473,0.0,0.04901517130256618,0.03600146342390477,0.0,0.0,0.058995826922465085,0.06859612226751233,0.04191784148920392,0.0,0.24124653427961404,0.0,0.0,0.10664817863195614,0.06799859180723636,0.050942493627681516,0.10924868654579628,0.14702053764239414,0.0,0.0,0.055512249703905586,0.05723419141144308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04494792091640817,0.0,0.0,0.2192938945372806,0.0,0.0,0.07951789524151608
divorce,Derrekg123,2020/02/06,"Taxes Divorce was finalized in July. She packed her shit and left, took the kids with her since my work schedule was insane. She moved back to Arizona while I’m stuck in Missouri cause military. Just did my taxes and I’m pissed. The first time in my life I’ve ever owed anything. According to the custody agreement she had the kids 300 days out of the year cause military and she moved to Arizona. She claims the kids on her taxes and I pay her child support that’s equal to the amount of my mortgage on a 5 bed 3 bath house... like what the fuck? I supported her for 7 years while she went to school, changed her degree program at least 10 times, and her stupid business adventures that only cost us money in the end. Oh and I’ve been paying to go visit my kids. Screw this!",3.5644623655913965,5.048626645161292,3.9120161290322595,90.02135752688173,72.87096774193549,6.715053763440863,25.174731182795696,7.1686216300943375,0.9653763440860216,610,19,126,6,12,190,98,155,0.135,0.7859999999999999,0.079,-0.8553,2,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,1,0,0,2,3,10,5,0,10,0,5,5,2,2,1,12,15,8,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,5,4,8,0,0,0,1,8,6,0,5,0,1,8,0,21,5,18,7,3,28,0,0,0,2,21,9,4,0,14,72,25,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13894396878579626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298303739510451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34689795536180784,0.17861423399954507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10889021065168228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495453920808712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15272878225359252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18496000715827748,0.0,0.14361835473453852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15609326881851346,0.0,0.0,0.09595775887839847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19482294653138027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834491610107665,0.0,0.11925929011519493,0.08248849731866452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35890823910284136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284132330901362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17087882636123264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17331561935353282,0.13966924347237689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3832036324431791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969082245220564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18759154990106716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20309816745448409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15651979032190735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12292021576171505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21745959859150008
divorce,margietyrell,2020/02/06,"Last Names If you changed your name when you got married, are you changing it back in the divorce? Why or why not? Kids?

If the person you married changed their name, do you have an opinion about them changing their name back or keeping it? Why or why not? Do you share kids?",1.092698412698411,3.665439592592598,0.96671957671958,101.87166666666668,88.25925925925927,3.085714285714286,24.38095238095239,3.1291,-0.2090603174603176,214,9,46,0,7,62,31,54,0.051,0.9490000000000001,0.0,-0.4306,0,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,0,7,3,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,13,6,6,0,2,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,10,1,2,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,19,1,0,6,4,31,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557642536706202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7037357262957407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13301330234846692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14782397241779985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13556484979150224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14521548000735215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.600275640454896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Cronus125,2020/02/06,"Divorce and Taxes Ex and I have 50/50 custody or our two girls. We split daycare costs, who gets to claim that on our taxes?",1.0114666666666672,3.4625442799999995,1.8200000000000005,96.85666666666668,86.2,3.333333333333334,20.333333333333336,3.1291,-0.5412666666666666,97,3,20,0,3,30,22,25,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4.0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,0,13,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4716207022842141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8818015157488359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,startingoverforever,2020/02/06,"Did anyone feel an immediate sense of relief? Is this normal? So me and my STBX just began separation for a divorce, but this time and space (and my STBX insane lashing out the past few days) has given me the clarity I need to see that I’ve been low-key mentally abused, manipulated and gaslit on and off through our entire relationship.  

These past few days separated, while there have been times of sadness and memories, have for the most part felt largely relieving and like a stone has been lifted off my chest... is this normal? Is it normal to feel more hopeful heading for divorce then you felt in the marriage?? I feel like according to this sub it’s such an uncommon response, and it’s making me feel kind of guilty.

Thx",3.5709531772575254,5.996582862318842,4.454347826086959,82.03429765886291,75.44927536231884,7.4345596432552945,25.83277591973244,8.384062270229773,1.880544481605352,577,21,107,11,13,186,89,138,0.12,0.7290000000000001,0.151,0.6199,0,0,0,0,3,0,18.0,1,1,0,0,4,7,0,0,8,0,11,2,2,2,0,25,23,12,0,5,2,0,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,9,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,8,7,10,6,15,15,5,15,0,1,1,0,6,6,0,2,11,73,19,0,0.0,0.2016024022402105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118974297009877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21946804242069395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34413603521450425,0.12155668653075825,0.3267453781078544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17462513241002214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16899941709044528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17718721720494016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662554321495591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357784080136565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17147328572679954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12616561816110358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5001387621543597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18425813141610806,0.3248588445253473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18267966617148404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355891854363872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19843410309227166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,TuesdayShuffle,2020/02/06,"Started divorce pro de, now realize I needed an attorney Live in TX, married 10 years, 2 kids.  Started process about 2 months ago, but just got serious about it 1 month ago.  We have agreed on most everything, and don't have a house together.  We started to go over the visitation plan, and I wanted to include a stipulation that we not introduce people we may date to the children until we had been separated for a year. My STBXW became irate and stated I couldn't control her, we weren't married.  I started I cared about the kids meeting this person.  Well now after a real deterioration of our communication, we  have not completed a visitation plan and she has been seeing the neighbor who happens to be the landlord's son.  He hasn't seen his children in over a year because he accused his ex wife physically.  I feel like I'm going to lose my mind. My kids cry everyday and want to come to my house. Is it too late to get an attorney?  We are awaiting our trial date at this point.",4.527344801795066,5.919313570680629,5.978881824981303,76.49640052356024,70.36125654450262,8.807928197456992,31.967464472700076,9.23628265651192,2.9212689603590136,776,35,145,16,14,263,121,191,0.106,0.831,0.063,-0.8802,0,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,10,0,0,4,8,5,0,0,13,0,15,0,0,1,0,29,33,7,0,4,4,3,1,1,1,1,0,0,2,6,6,14,0,1,2,0,0,5,6,2,1,0,6,3,24,3,21,24,1,32,0,1,2,0,31,7,0,2,20,93,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26600036352901674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914621487319334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15297437027830102,0.0,0.0,0.12924498380744054,0.1573126360372878,0.0,0.16828106777497862,0.0,0.0,0.1648103762549152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348450350282672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07586403325696489,0.10718761845242797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07838898512420216,0.0,0.17054080814199055,0.0,0.11999958885029202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13267865410762508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34624884047333576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16925009596949164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07330128985698055,0.0,0.13248684824968374,0.0,0.0,0.1678548347960864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514962326585972,0.0,0.2395187863665724,0.0,0.0,0.11125173388010358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10401788587815232,0.13100793370221067,0.0,0.0,0.14183499047823406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17077679455785028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11956135272865866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4247924233644351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17699332815287122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13490273621132454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2898598517371365
divorce,Turquesazul,2020/02/06,"Anyone just feels a void like we won't be happy again? In April it will be one year since I move out of our house and I still feel a void, I try and try to move on and be happy but I just can't. I miss my old life so much. Everyone I met just doesn't seem right, like something is missing and I will never be happy with someone again. I'm in my bed right know thinking about how many nights I sleep next to him.. And now I'm just alone. God I wish I could go back in time. Sorry just needed it to get out of my chest. Everyone thinks I've already move on, cause I don't talk about him anymore but God knows how I feel inside",0.6602997601918474,1.9917209712230208,2.2555575539568373,99.52252098321344,80.29496402877697,5.2088729016786575,17.338729016786573,5.46131890053228,-0.80697170263789,481,8,123,2,12,157,82,139,0.10800000000000001,0.778,0.114,0.1952,0,2,1,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,0,15,7,0,0,2,0,12,3,2,3,1,31,29,10,0,3,7,0,3,2,0,3,1,0,1,0,2,9,0,0,8,0,0,4,5,2,0,1,1,3,19,5,15,20,1,25,0,2,0,0,6,9,0,1,14,73,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13589782916950927,0.14479758925698658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13012873984044662,0.09174767527834678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10089524186471803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13479262226342842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476346862343013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250760641450359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19903677939666792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06855374661510895,0.0,0.07457177389385752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4190382951930934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15140300156951375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14422324440862175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09268012218253577,0.12820877942109332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13303010477858945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4183782171632927,0.0964571727852219,0.09729330163956217,0.10120010042891063,0.0,0.13954726670143253,0.12313517599443576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376867136854818,0.0,0.08891380415930734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22411157883309415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11945203142682854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10854133491536644,0.0,0.13130846864733586,0.0,0.1111769487100547,0.10101472269142377,0.0,0.14688300311980826,0.0,0.0,0.1047874364464216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10546460794377692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681528914041011,0.0,0.0,0.07651176813908096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17817098883725654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15088928823449105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.084497325733526
divorce,angry_at_the_world80,2020/02/07,"Got papers this morning, No real notification prior to yesterday. Christian counseling is bullshit. My stbxw and I have been fighting for years. We homeschool (she doesn’t work), and I have no real input on it or parenting. We fought over just about everything. She uses church and the Christian faith like a weapon. In the past three years she’s disappeared multiple times to her parents with the kids without telling me. One time she left with the kids for 32 days over an argument. I feel like on pins and needles because I have no clue what will set her off or if I will see my kids today. She goes off to church this morning, leaves me with the kids. A guy comes knocking at the door with divorce papers. I’m shocked but i knew she wasn’t happy. 14 years down the crapper. 2 years of Christian counseling, she never admitted anything! Never trust pastors. My wife never owned up to her own shit. Evangelicals just blame the husband for everything. Men need to be this or that. Seek out a real counselor. Walk away if she’s not honest about her short comings and faults. Had the audacity to tell me I’m not welcome to attend church anymore with her and the kids.",3.3065281777046494,5.864091995475112,3.705102838338132,86.39089983545868,77.00904977375565,6.371122994652406,26.787535993418345,7.520522993642371,1.5841022624434395,925,37,171,13,22,288,131,221,0.175,0.7809999999999999,0.044000000000000004,-0.9772,2,0,0,0,3,0,27.0,2,0,0,1,4,13,4,0,14,0,11,1,1,1,3,38,23,12,0,3,11,4,1,2,0,2,0,0,1,7,6,16,0,0,3,0,0,5,11,6,0,2,6,2,27,7,31,14,2,34,9,0,1,0,33,14,1,5,16,115,33,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13250849914189042,0.0,0.0,0.10995236836760744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12553410168975646,0.0,0.0,0.08144943275497317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23019206881734502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08616953047928247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401660526272371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06755890344752885,0.09545337434499396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068627686774846,0.0,0.0,0.13229818214621186,0.0,0.14223385151016574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14147720154485535,0.14517125071675874,0.0,0.0,0.1305534270041576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09907257530215824,0.3091524617225749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905398358317442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2967235342126899,0.0,0.12754902169825846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4562435905114384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10647250796291956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13715214118000454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335678418834667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15582198944265332,0.0,0.12664979353740274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11539899898786148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12879846146671028,0.0,0.0972720799712719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3441703601581434
divorce,perfectstew,2020/02/07,Has anyone separated first? How did that work out? My spouse has been indecisive if he wants to stay married. He has suggested a trial separation during which time we figure out if we want to be together or not. There are no other parties involved at least not to my knowledge. Has anyone separated first? Do you have any advice?,3.156978922716629,6.058376360655737,4.831522248243561,75.94409836065577,80.47540983606558,7.420140515222482,25.107728337236534,8.418075326091056,2.2528482435597184,262,10,44,6,7,88,47,61,0.031,0.8640000000000001,0.106,0.5924,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,1,0,3,2,1,0,1,1,0,10,0,0,1,0,15,12,4,0,4,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,2,0,5,0,6,9,1,7,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,4,3,36,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3143280893728926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2187437691243153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4498324020956227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5472175171403499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3428529355497165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875659102324358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3794536366921539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341765277836929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Jlaz1213,2020/02/07,Husband ended things The second week in January my husband asked for a break. His break turned to broken up broken up turned to he wants a divorce. A week later I was told to leave and I’ve been out of the house ever since. Thing have only gotten nasty we have two kids together. He has done nothing but put me down since. “Our” friends chose him. This last week has been the worst I have been nothing but calm cool and collected while he yells at me over the phone or in messages. It finally has reached a point that if I ignore him. He just freaks out more. He’s basically a narcissist and I’m not sure what the best course of action is.,1.8603756708407888,4.098812759689924,2.732713178294574,93.14447227191415,80.31782945736434,5.829695885509841,20.775790101371502,7.010146845296331,0.3794097793679194,502,14,107,6,13,158,88,129,0.179,0.74,0.081,-0.8683,0,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,2,0,0,1,2,8,0,0,10,1,12,0,0,0,2,16,19,8,0,2,6,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,6,6,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,2,7,2,11,5,15,12,3,23,0,0,0,0,19,10,0,2,9,70,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607209016639016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18041820884766024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17593265526212618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15226905796270782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15551042712817084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18832867839576253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13282406403289715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983712511971599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14013679472279802,0.0,0.1820372211918831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3299215141787011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13075201957414095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16251886640972749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728259116216983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2844260706929969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16203146567331678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284304672343069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164275812499897,0.0,0.0,0.3739966454751528,0.16793971920951553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10140218205853713,0.0,0.4137087539197509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwra1368,2020/02/07,"Anxiety about breaking the news to the kids I know we are not unique and tons of people go through this. But my parents and most people in my family have stayed together and I don’t have much direct experience. My husband wants a divorce and is moving out. He has signed a lease for an apartment this week and is moving out in two weeks. I have been somewhat unhappy but wanted to work on our issues and do not really want to divorce, but I have no choice. 

We have two boys, 7 and 9. We agreed to tell them tonight. I have SO MUCH anxiety about it. I’ve read internet articles about the best way to have the conversation, but at the end of the day I don’t think this is on their radars at all as a possibility and we are going to blindside them with it. We are turning their universes upside down and taking away their innocence in a few hours. My heart breaks for them, and to know that I am the one doing this to them is just unthinkable to me. 

Am I overthinking it? How can I get through this?",3.513778877887788,4.735604074257432,4.616455445544556,85.95049174917494,72.61386138613861,8.356963696369638,25.842904290429047,8.841846274778883,1.7152900330033,781,25,167,15,15,256,113,202,0.055,0.884,0.061,0.6293,1,0,0,0,2,0,17.0,6,0,7,2,6,1,0,0,12,0,23,1,1,1,1,37,34,17,0,3,7,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,9,18,0,0,3,1,0,4,5,0,0,3,1,0,27,1,31,33,8,26,0,0,0,0,22,12,0,2,6,133,36,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380040729034906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14615258900802114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16324933627056706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10032254027895264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13777890161821613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15216633052007508,0.1466469679046845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08127303904863134,0.0,0.17681527242058698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18433789636966574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15319405762189967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623629447880211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17098206813336822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3306687172184884,0.2287071956637935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054106512656903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17272960956844727,0.0,0.0,0.2156897346568932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17536914473367368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15560087057670394,0.0,0.09965493403899783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16580495550445104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11696083864240192,0.0,0.13596522514913698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099675781295765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16920327646304822,0.3039166375669776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27525778617092284,0.12347531426580005,0.24955973094618736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11324864028685472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,wweffttwqqqqa,2020/02/07,"Keeping my daughter with me in New York until they decide on custody? Trying to get split custody agreement

Well my husband wants a divorce. He found text messages on our daughter’s (16F) phone from the wife of a Brazilian businessman who shared articles about BDSM with her. 

My daughter explained she was just curious. She said the wife was just telling her how the morals police say stuff like drugs and exploration is bad but it’s normal. 

Soon to be ex is also mad because he found out my daughter has to repeat a grade, but with her modeling schedule she should homeschool. 

My daughter is in NYC right now and I’m going there too. My husband said he will give me half of everything but he wants full custody not just of our younger daughter (14F) but of our oldest daughter (the model) too!

This is ridiculous because my older daughter barely knows her father except when he tries to punish her. She and I have always been together! We’d travel to beauty pageants together all the time.

My husband is calling me a bad mother for asking for one daughter and not the other. But the fact is is that shouldn’t I ask for the daughter that has the most relationship with me? 

My 14 year old is so much like her father. She’s always taking culinary classes all day long. I get in screaming matches with my younger kid for telling her not to go to a birthday party if she’d be tempted to eat cake. 

My beautiful daughter is so upset over the divorce and an employee of the Brazilian businessman and his wife emailed me to say that her dad’s obviously emotionally abusive : gaslighting behavior is leaving her in tears and she often needs to be comforted by the husband and the wife who “ felt an obligation to step up and be proper adults and a source of stability and comfort in this trying situation.” 

My daughter doesn’t need school- she has a job. My daughter said the wife and husband promised to hire her as a part time assistant and that she could petition to get emancipated if her dad tries to win. 

Until then, my daughter got us put up in a five star hotel while she goes to castings and does promotions for the Brazilian couple’s company, so obviously her standard of living is higher than the one her father can provide.

So the question is- how much consideration would a judge put in the fact that the standard of living she has under what I encourage her to do is better than the one her father wants to subject her to? 

Been doing consultations but no lawyers appeal to me yet. We live in RI.",6.58131833030853,7.137703429473689,6.572667876588023,77.11315789473684,65.23157894736842,8.909618874773141,35.32667876588022,8.74248658614541,3.0315996370235934,1999,90,353,28,29,635,229,475,0.07400000000000001,0.825,0.102,0.9067,2,0,1,0,2,0,35.0,6,0,1,3,20,18,3,1,32,0,37,2,0,2,6,68,62,35,0,12,15,32,1,2,0,4,1,6,0,2,13,21,1,1,9,2,0,7,6,7,1,5,11,7,59,11,61,40,7,43,1,0,0,0,98,17,0,5,21,259,72,8,0.0,0.11988106035873733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08091314065124093,0.16837875517111572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891781873500123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16896116849227888,0.12335606306373907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08948496923774071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10331549401430168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08078352886597921,0.11195309689334307,0.0,0.06525235152927526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08854278684201759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117335997656321,0.10353179977358597,0.0,0.11381322213484635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093353302649557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09714810428750288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218760096271125,0.0,0.0,0.1585862030339681,0.09706051327364204,0.11500518507258403,0.0,0.08092242012170837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10040495594504127,0.08993291188812366,0.0,0.0,0.05560555974768184,0.0,0.0,0.10713439004756543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09886230161454866,0.0,0.2680298282030949,0.0895405972720114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14875702197365048,0.15004650656838198,0.0,0.0977197083253965,0.0,0.0,0.09913434308871584,0.0,0.0,0.1061707745612514,0.0,0.20568536797991288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10956744527063396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20342651359732686,0.11334409943934105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10862882506987133,0.0,0.08640666654012638,0.2887343770953553,0.16092386177723386,0.0,0.10239896846467232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11372990034909874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11582622182473068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07607432723525259,0.0,0.17687053462799673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11799705968628482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27477672148391524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12170637689446752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17903471916134633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09097244415462212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07187495257587724,0.0,0.0,0.0651562251821598
divorce,Immediate_Departure,2020/02/07,"Black Box I still look at dates and contextualize things based on them. Two years ago, around this time was the beginning of the end. It started with a visit from my parents that turned into one of our biggest fights followed by her 34th birthday. After these two events she just pulled away and there was no coming back from it. Things spiraled so quickly that I didn’t recognize the relationship I thought I had worked so hard on.

I started therapy for myself immediately in February to try to work on myself and save the marriage. Eventually it led to Discernment Therapy in August of 2018. In 7 months’, time she was asking for a divorce. There was a weak attempt at trying therapy but she was just done.  


She moved out in November 2018. Sold the house in March 2019 and divorce was final in June 2019. Since then we maybe talked once a month… not about much, but I guess we talk. She’s watched the dogs a few times for me when I’ve traveled. I’ve been good about giving her financial docs and keeping her up to date about that stuff.

I started dating again in September, and it’s been good and bad. I’m thankful I never stopped therapy and did a lot of learning to be a better partner. I don’t know what I want yet, but I can see there are people out there that will treat me better and understand me.

But I still find myself thinking about the black box. I don’t know if she married me just because we were together at the right time and it hit checkboxes. I learned in discernment she never quite felt a ‘spark’, but thought that was okay. I carry strange guilt for not being the partner she needed, but I can look at her and say the same thing.

Life after divorce does get better, it’s just fucking strange at times.",4.396339285714284,5.8496570505952405,4.647433333333336,85.68090000000002,70.75595238095238,7.637904761904763,28.320952380952377,8.109356740369918,1.7687453809523808,1363,50,270,19,25,427,182,336,0.055,0.831,0.114,0.9726,2,0,0,0,4,0,30.0,4,0,1,7,22,14,2,1,18,1,22,3,0,1,2,56,51,22,0,3,13,1,2,0,2,1,2,1,0,2,18,20,0,2,12,1,1,7,8,5,0,3,18,9,41,9,45,29,4,65,0,0,6,1,32,24,1,3,34,192,59,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08504192462233474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08540383059354982,0.0896876831935211,0.0,0.09013550598633284,0.07376925176739932,0.08010297573951072,0.058482003972219164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545441316675968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264080563610395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08395468342939302,0.09817635469431008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497126938283328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09211409118819998,0.10509375363968224,0.08768422899502043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08869175445039662,0.05012286506463001,0.09203103895885163,0.0,0.16093398011683638,0.0,0.0,0.10568487799606152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08594026606229785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11069784793317447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08527277508130071,0.0,0.0,0.10544839014069714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0677627917903591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16112500663291518,0.0,0.0,0.08156178718842977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09638111562149172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15315120855913547,0.1019653238530872,0.07052437094610714,0.07113570403601159,0.14798429637417804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10216924849894976,0.0650090597277098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065261372579534,0.0,0.0,0.06651029414295888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020402838259299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10299990485187836,0.0,0.08192925244728086,0.0,0.07629256065685412,0.0,0.0,0.07644897481792963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07935966963910163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20371305945953985,0.0,0.15323003619221334,0.08020721526906842,0.0,0.0,0.10982434744761572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15422025998780306,0.0,0.08832544580009302,0.4388470249811189,0.0,0.19120785627405476,0.0614722396822115,0.0,0.15232574005547556,0.2797067424937938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302691810859143,0.10435137031821716,0.1874320536549717,0.09987328675206253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05658583722119874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13968583880453364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06177996484775908
divorce,dinisha08,2020/02/07,Mother Married A Narcissistic Man So my mother is going through a divorce,3.9207692307692312,7.2373768461538495,6.0065384615384625,63.57596153846157,88.23076923076924,5.676923076923077,37.269230769230774,7.1686216300943375,3.930261538461538,61,4,7,1,2,21,11,13,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,cvrtsniper,2020/02/07,"I feel mentally exhausted I'm 29 my wife is 31, last week I broke down and wrote a letter remind her how I feel and Todd her I want to work on everything and of you feel like it's a waste of time then we can end it. It's been 3 and a half years since we got married

We have never consummated the marriage. 

She knows I'm unhappy, she's unhappy with because she feels at fault for my unhappiness. Which I've tried to tell her that it's not.

I still love her and want nothing more than her, but she wants to separate and see how things go. She already moved out and into her mom's place

We've been to consoling and she feels that every 5 steps we take forward it's 3 steps back type of thing.


She worked 2 jobs for over 6 months which killed me but I never said anything about it killing me not seeing her. 

Now I feel like a failure of a husband. I feel like half of my heart is ripped out of me, my house feels empty and pointless to go home too. 

On top of that I almost jumped off a bridge because I only now realize that I'm battling depression on top of everything else.",2.2766228070175423,3.5517558728070178,3.6342105263157904,91.56780701754387,75.7982456140351,7.171929824561403,23.63157894736842,7.793537801064563,0.9010684210526314,841,25,194,12,18,276,125,228,0.182,0.754,0.064,-0.9823,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,4,1,0,4,8,11,3,0,7,0,6,3,1,2,2,40,30,14,2,3,4,3,8,3,0,0,1,1,1,0,14,17,0,0,10,0,0,7,4,7,0,2,5,11,36,4,28,25,1,33,0,2,2,1,28,14,0,1,17,117,50,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11827794453307428,0.0,0.13034596245124588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09720090969448668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908253201941575,0.0,0.1440070655215771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10173471379024157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09867229031037324,0.0,0.10461733803853544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09951936604860187,0.0,0.21231337841722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4777913906215707,0.25315020378793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342581694870662,0.0,0.0944696188188986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13997019711520275,0.0,0.0,0.11848181410223542,0.0,0.0,0.13629211687054069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11721372026924633,0.0,0.26135975628502695,0.0,0.06491447025032569,0.09628179632359958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731192159423561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10660595308875344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11903499090234836,0.0,0.0,0.13833817477095994,0.09428052489514943,0.12554056013552134,0.0,0.0,0.18219950426326065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11333724341905307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08983393221201387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12340799211917955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11235710492051497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18824923528428866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09770828946728344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943290515159495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08880990811952436,0.0,0.10324018956348108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569444753168755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06887545647762829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08019425302608008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090068691604016,0.0,0.09474699836680724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719823738488558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760640097933222
divorce,Rob1768,2020/02/07,"Today I am exhausted 52M - married 30 years, separated October 2019, living in the same house, amicably, not very social.  STBXW is having a difficult time with her Father in & out of the ICU for the last few weeks and I am struggling to file the paperwork because of this - I don't want to pile on.  I have left the entire situation in her hands, ""If you need help, let me know.""  This last week she has left dessert on the counter for me and invited me to see Chinese Lanterns at the local zoo this evening.  My only reply was ""Not interested.  If you need any help with your Dad, let me know.""  I have kept this comment consistent the last few weeks.  I am just wiped out, have nothing left to give.  I am happy with the lack of being yelled at on a daily basis, no micromanaging, spending time with friends, visiting my kids and making summer concert plans.  I met with my therapist of many years, filled her in on my visit being the result of guilt with divorce and she was extremely prepared.  My sessions the last 8-9 years revolved around the lack of intimacy, no emotional connection, the lack of effort on her part, depression with everything and figuring out a direction to go.  My story is no different than many others here.  Things improve for a week, begin to slide back into the same poor routine, arguments, resentment and anger.  I don't know the actual reason for this post other than coming to terms with I am unable to change anyone and the realization that this will not improve and moving on is the best decision for me.",7.219603448275862,7.018864365517246,7.551163793103447,73.2070905172414,63.96551724137932,10.974137931034484,33.98706896551724,10.550175099000144,3.544948275862069,1206,46,219,27,16,395,162,290,0.136,0.7809999999999999,0.083,-0.9184,1,0,0,0,1,0,41.0,0,3,0,3,5,11,2,2,21,0,22,3,1,3,0,45,36,10,0,8,6,2,1,0,1,1,1,2,0,1,10,22,1,1,6,1,2,7,8,7,0,0,4,4,30,4,47,27,10,47,0,1,1,0,22,21,0,2,18,159,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.1072159306023543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11904261077495762,0.0,0.07471443349090491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07682269813437959,0.0,0.0,0.09780637097543747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08448219189699471,0.0,0.06697489487463194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11530034502524306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11622643864504414,0.09464209318925168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09462968690492872,0.0,0.0,0.1147893302170378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12358741675933342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07256719152515981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09874283701615094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08488422819660768,0.0,0.0,0.10539599775685242,0.06244087229254376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11695719577526108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14728524865616593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12677364359289453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811427712290921,0.3582303778642089,0.0,0.0,0.3581177520839183,0.2246962285917492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09701600997589324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733381612493459,0.22277908516342335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11677296231439617,0.0,0.16293238863387807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10542191018029322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356004122829584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11897701574491652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052237735740434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11296324650764135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08755107048206598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12349693936077495,0.0,0.11199722850719457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11485854332370725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275659433453049,0.07299183340366762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12813055915899546,0.0,0.1041426112024515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09065312313296564,0.06480336243407651,0.0,0.3525199396193818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122553796037495
divorce,mstrd_yell_o,2020/02/07,"I love my husband, but I want a divorce. New to posting here, so I'll do the best I can to fit almost 8 years into this post. I started dating my husband at the end of 2012. While dating I discovered he had a bit of a temper and would break things or get into a bad mood for days if something small went wrong. (Flat tire, missing an exit, getting the wrong order etc) He had previously struggled with depression, cutting, and an eating disorder before we met. He also picked at his face. When that would happen, he would be in a mood for days. He was addicted to dipping tobacco as well and when he tried to quit he was awful. Throughout our time dating, he talked to multiple other girls for most of our relationship. Then in 2014 I really thought he had changed some of his ways. We got engaged that December. I'll also mention his parents have always coddled and spoiled him due to a health issue he had when younger. So he never had a job, but played music with a band. 

​

When we got married in 2016 his parents turned a building on the land into our home. He was still dipping tobacco, trying to quit and having severe mood swings and for lack of better words, tantrums. He also leaned to alcohol at that point. He would also pick his skin too. And would go into a small rage when it happened. He finally quit tobacco. But still struggled with depression so I recommended he see a doctor. She prescribed him many different medications and they didn't agree with him and made it worse. This was in 2017. He also got a part time job and started smoking weed.... a lot. All day, every day. Months of him punching holes in the wall, breaking my things, yelling, cursing, hitting himself, etc. Very scary, on top of the fact I have severe anxiety. The breaking point was night he nearly tore our house down and was threatening suicide. He was absolutely miserable. I remember just staying up all night watching him to make sure he would be okay. I can't count the times I've tried to prevent the rage attacks and bad moods. I was always scared to go out in public with him because I never knew what would upset him. Well the next morning we went to the ER and they committed him. He stayed for a few days then came home. He was better but not himself. He took a huge dose of shrooms and just lost it. He called up exes from his past, friends, old friends you name it. It was a very public breakdown. I think something happened with his meds and the shroom combination because it lasted for days. Things were getting so bad and so scary, we had to have him committed again. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do in my life, but I was genuinely scared for his safety and others. 

Side note: He NEVER lets me in his phone. Ever. Well when he left he accidentally left it. Being his wife, I went through it. I was heartbroken. I found texts, pictures, etc. so graphic and detailed to other women I thought I would puke. His parent's response to this was ""Well you said for better or worse"" I couldn't believe it. I'll also mention he used to put me down a lot. Especially about my weight. And even one time told me because I wasn't where he wanted me to be is the main reason he was so depressed and hated life. 

​

I called him that day and let him know I found everything. I felt it was the best time to do it while he was already there. I told him I would be staying at my parents for a while. When he got released and went home I went over and had dinner about a week later. He had a tantrum and pretty much manipulated me into coming back sooner than I wanted. (I know it was my choice, but I was always too scared to do what I wanted bc I didn't want to upset me) When I moved back, we moved in with his parents because he couldn't stand to see that house. He said he was traumatized by his experience in the psych ward and has PTSD.

I once thought about leaving and he totally flipped out and cried and begged me. Told me how he literally couldn't live life without me etc. And that scared me. (I also forgot to mention I moved over an hour away from my family and missed so much of my nieces and nephews life because I can rarely bring him around without something offending him and him getting pissed. And he knows how much my family means to me)

So that day he promised me I could have the life I wanted and move closer to them and he would get a job etc. Obviously that fizzled off. That was over a year ago. He's had a few scary outbursts since then and holds a LOT of hate in hearts to different groups of people that he feels got him to where he is now. 

He still doesn't have a job, his parents do everything for him, they pretty much manipulated me out of anything thats in my name and wants us to stay living with them etc. Says they'll build us a house one day etc. They're in their mid 60s. I'm so exhausted of having to basically baby sit someone. He'll tell me things like I need to be preventative so he doesn't have bad days etc and that I need to control when I have anxiety because it gives him anxiety??? He gets pissed when I don't agree with him on things, even little things then tells me ""But if you really don't agree thats fine."" (example: Over the weekend we went to get snacks and we had lunchables and different stuff and a man made a joke like ""I sure hope y'all have kids at home, haha"" and even mentioned he loved lunchables too. totally joking) WELL it pissed him off and said it wasn't a joke etc. and THEN was mad at me when I very calmly and nicely said It was just a joke and not anything to be so upset about. He said I should've agreed with him.

I finally have had enough the last couple of weeks and started working a little later and spending a couple of nights (not overnight) spending time with my sister and best friend. I think he picked up on that I was a little distant again, because the next few days he kept asking if I was okay and called me at work multiple times. He even called crying saying my tone was giving him flashbacks to when he was in the psych ward etc. And that he new he'd been acting out of line lately, and that he needed to get a job, let go of hate etc. And that he hoped his issues weren't pushing me away. I just faked it, and said I was fine. But I didn't overdo it. I just couldn't bare to deal with the drama. I was exhausted from crying so much from wanting out. We want totally different things out of life now but he would never choose to see that. He even once told me recently that if he'd had to live a conventional lifestyle with a 9-5, a house, etc he would've killed himself and thats what i want and he knows that. I have to pretend to want I life I don't to keep him from flipping out. But if I tried to talk to him again it would be the same thing from a year ago. He'll change for a few weeks, pretend he's okay with the life I want. But deep down I know its a lie. 

​

I love him so much. We laugh, have fun. There's this sweet lovable side of him thats making me feel sick when I think about leaving. But if I don't, I live the rest of my life in a life I don't want. Not getting to spend time with my family, feeling nervous at every holiday, scared of going in public some days. Missing out on so much more than I've already missed. He's so spoiled and self centered but doesn't see it....UNLESS he thinks I'm about to leave. I know he doesn't talk to other women etc anymore, doesn't put me down or anything like that (well, physically) 

I just have no future. What happens when his parents pass away? We have nothing. Nothing. I'm just exhausted of this marriage. Don't get me wrong I love the sweet parts but sometimes its just not enough. And I truly feel theres a better match for him out there. Someone that doesn't mind him smoking weed everyday, that sees things the way he does, that believes the way he does about things etc. But I''m scared if I leave he's either gonna go into a rage and come after me, or kill himself. And the thought of that terrifies me. 

I mean I feel SO guilty. How do I leave someone that has been through everything he's been through? But at times its like he doesn't even realize or acknowledge that I went through it too. And there is NO talking to him about this. He would majorly flip out just like before and I would retract everything and stay. 

I just need some opinions. I couldn't think of anywhere else to turn. I know there's so much I've left out. It would take me days to post everything.",2.5900633727175046,4.380836408771933,3.472465688029597,90.88575187969928,76.14035087719299,6.313879937940087,23.79639575128297,7.09932795315332,0.7623714047022321,6609,208,1406,71,147,2105,520,1710,0.17300000000000001,0.7090000000000001,0.11699999999999999,-0.9991,16,0,7,0,2,1,207.0,17,4,7,15,99,102,18,13,75,5,129,35,6,15,17,280,263,142,3,48,46,12,8,5,3,19,21,9,4,6,80,110,5,7,32,11,3,26,38,50,7,2,90,25,201,48,190,134,53,231,1,9,6,4,219,89,3,23,104,924,281,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025778635819135018,0.0,0.0,0.041923139845602815,0.025271368543846373,0.023678976980146847,0.0,0.052189933745002866,0.13237304702879646,0.059028401225388966,0.07686429158159377,0.08620079695608078,0.0,0.0,0.05426949270572773,0.0,0.02345139289073466,0.0,0.0,0.05837820682946032,0.02105077436349103,0.022106680332365226,0.026901787996254662,0.06665118597621866,0.03636604735704603,0.07897676984357606,0.10090461083204216,0.0,0.040243578547140814,0.053283967708577185,0.07444795843929021,0.08365512481965921,0.025816314747868125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09658460656793737,0.027045779599213664,0.0,0.0,0.05003061683176852,0.04073945959033201,0.0,0.0,0.026522034196123232,0.018880143358773808,0.05232973970007297,0.07792510160597035,0.19825401282454275,0.02437893864856016,0.061101178806349625,0.0,0.0,0.09882400361595944,0.027101421729270908,0.024203627069428583,0.0413871622700715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02419670506298419,0.01975396934788925,0.0,0.020944154456843885,0.04886718409402552,0.3692159694106454,0.09371141530475613,0.04277999022256847,0.0398471039896148,0.0,0.10626164539731132,0.02313122758355804,0.06687664171400526,0.0,0.05978297234801073,0.0,0.022704753824558364,0.05180809524598421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05185525970996198,0.05480866073339796,0.0,0.123545409567018,0.045368565369871265,0.0671954546815767,0.0,0.09456302010348287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364358148816686,0.0,0.0,0.07003932066036482,0.0,0.02513557271789297,0.0,0.028021716884593848,0.0,0.0,0.094879164827162,0.04697345907388288,0.023287455241837268,0.10914149415407104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04936248661832463,0.11732960844769907,0.021018471128398712,0.05232363207731748,0.0,0.09097011086578742,0.038550795716883315,0.0266747584404586,0.12519338231117189,0.0770773510917034,0.07254174080746008,0.16702520604817062,0.05776345913155191,0.07110128550484203,0.08352266279919968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02581340916131581,0.06031130337553201,0.08536908276857404,0.04475057944329517,0.031569008629939034,0.023974267769621648,0.0,0.05151686162550392,0.0262663999553754,0.023821786522923532,0.0,0.0,0.023876650631477536,0.0,0.01887474784484554,0.10053174479008628,0.13906567043617066,0.0701355732848477,0.0729518573268324,0.045676689990155325,0.050297540455029384,0.06657310432244082,0.0,0.045379719583520606,0.0,0.024813467205103187,0.050366401181102805,0.03204753319376489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18379976220651748,0.05121462513963916,0.022573663123840182,0.01639379855824159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044707970033808685,0.0,0.06794164510219472,0.04811484258013562,0.0,0.0,0.02764198683984152,0.0475433766463072,0.0,0.07545423814872063,0.0,0.0,0.030297647990879424,0.02431297460363765,0.02334848307161164,0.025387945030438636,0.02678735337293073,0.0,0.13496182968709894,0.037609963600899285,0.14204816729267405,0.0,0.09421767782708733,0.0,0.024668897252230402,0.05342858293787643,0.0,0.019560978559433492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06010788180511131,0.05461366841382895,0.02338741089140564,0.0,0.0502122401275884,0.12602236470929387,0.05665338829372363,0.0,0.0,0.04944179515327949,0.027070068656990742,0.025865895041035626,0.0,0.04457388900063825,0.0,0.017779542739543703,0.07602600194205708,0.041336904893812566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728096094392882,0.0757599652249326,0.0,0.0750920599550199,0.12409839546859333,0.02717865868153869,0.0,0.09038259083113287,0.026272600855544854,0.0642188323052443,0.05144212234564078,0.0,0.0,0.056888672126632026,0.02042334855490253,0.0,0.05853356242704494,0.18131837743159104,0.05630947895250912,0.056904404336472425,0.028795580949905013,0.1275685386450584,0.1534465377306612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045589578678173835,0.0,0.03443048226306724,0.0,0.04819646825177276,0.2687695232108862,0.07756259242375678,0.08620079695608078,0.04568352816809622
divorce,hrhdamselofdeth,2020/02/07,"Divorce in CO or FL? Need advice! Background: my husband is abusive verbally, emotionally, mentally and once or twice psychically. Been together 10 yrs, 1kid and I realized I was being abused about 10 months ago. 

Hes cheated and I have proof as well as other proof of other things hes done to others that are awful and what hes admitted to me. 

 I have been documenting for months now (years worth of abuse and current) trying to build the best case I can for our eventual divorce. We want to move to fl (as some of his family has little time left) and i prefer the warm weather and cheap living. we currently live in Colorado and I was wondering if anyone has experience and could tell me if I wait and divorce in fl or should I divorce and then to go FL or will I not be able to? Either way I want to move to Fl, but I fear if I do it in CO he will stay to spite me and I dont want that, but I am not sure which state is better to divorce in or will be more open to full custody and abuse cases. I know this is really specific, but any help is appreciated! 

on top of all this, what should I expect?",2.5743661282427794,3.9478385682819415,4.5591703377386175,84.83736539402841,75.21145374449341,7.863827704356339,24.505384238864412,8.515128840125781,1.5039742535487028,853,27,183,16,18,293,128,227,0.124,0.768,0.10800000000000001,-0.8663,2,0,0,0,8,0,23.0,3,0,0,3,3,8,2,1,2,1,30,0,0,0,4,49,39,28,0,12,14,1,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,12,16,0,1,5,0,2,3,3,3,1,1,5,1,28,5,28,25,6,26,0,0,0,0,17,11,0,10,9,133,40,0,0.12677705668581174,0.6008403257398581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12388507253086008,0.11238021146208417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08621274591686721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08864546574811004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13304469946892467,0.11212400421036704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10122116382062968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12973694504352162,0.14858176624952135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426071250462123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12401228804862525,0.1195141261742786,0.14265943489132493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07205032289296462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497598875083735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06967335484806059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137743643033796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12706391632699962,0.22389292743384326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12776145485733778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20238447424588504,0.26948789570080744,0.0,0.09400358114627702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350134278148582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0812166288249983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351274742029399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11948587558153988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11080873546836607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08422504318396168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392472126758014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08607329962510478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22432917814070533,0.10062972661093887,0.0,0.0,0.11398779927297835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13748431002859354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164026795658713
divorce,Smiff89,2020/02/07,"Offering to pay the mortgage of my ex wife (and mother of my child) for a month while she is looking for a new job. How horrible of an idea is this? I have received a fairly nice bonus at work this year and have some extra cash that I planned on putting aside for some “fun money”.  

My ex wife currently resides in the home we owned together with a requirement to sell or refinance by the end of 2020.  I know she is struggling, but she would be borrowing money from her mother to pay the bill.  

I am not loaded with cash, but I do have enough to be able to afford to pay at least a month of the mortgage to allow her a bit more time to find a job without the burden of making that payment.  

My concern is if there are any ramifications of me doing so as it relates to our divorce agreement? While her and I get along fairly well, she is someone who will take advantage of a situation if it presents itself, so I am worried about paying one month leading to legal demands to pay more while she is out of work...which I couldn’t afford.

I am just trying to do the right thing because we have a child together and I don’t want her to be struggling to pay bills and stay on her feet.  

What’s the best approach?  I’d like to offer because I think it’s the right thing to do given the situation, but I want to be careful to not open up more issues because of it.",4.14709677419355,4.5452591397849496,5.2578673835125445,84.97346774193552,70.50537634408602,7.920430107526883,28.761648745519715,7.793537801064563,1.6435175627240135,1056,37,224,12,18,350,145,279,0.065,0.8029999999999999,0.131,0.9622,7,0,0,0,1,0,21.0,3,0,0,7,7,12,0,2,20,0,26,1,1,4,0,37,36,18,0,6,10,6,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,13,12,0,1,4,0,15,4,5,3,1,1,1,1,30,9,46,28,11,27,0,0,1,0,26,10,0,5,13,168,43,12,0.13713328839058947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325533860643333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507855393332153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14391292571436726,0.0,0.1497140337122221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13981652696877964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12145939019762103,0.14169534494613442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253373412100087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07164648321633217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13755586942065598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15480679067174352,0.0,0.1431315247329258,0.2721672574282696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07536486895414936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06699639783768803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151574243468656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915375348581543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32837544739644714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13244418445923892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092925065250862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378568313009489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342221580040111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082871236211456,0.0,0.0,0.11619259023900537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14616583925975885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867229757098512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10310716642140998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182210526708792,0.08786947400119505,0.0,0.0,0.07996352325724526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09310450115174586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617695329875152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232992953090018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13219159639572012,0.0,0.1996693343958624,0.13926551096887016,0.0,0.09741555352641716,0.0,0.0,0.08830934163207008
divorce,iamhere11051234,2020/02/07,"How much did it cost? Hi All,

I am not looking to get divorced but my uncle told me his divorce cost 100k (converted to $) just for the attorneys and actual divorce.

Excluding child support/alimony which was A LOT.

So I am curious to know how much did the attorney and child support/alimony cost respectively?",3.2990229885057474,5.975744534482763,5.269655172413792,74.49919540229888,77.79310344827587,10.073563218390808,33.804597701149426,10.125756701596842,4.5066114942528746,245,14,42,9,6,84,43,58,0.0,0.882,0.11800000000000001,0.78,0,0,0,0,3,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,2,1,10,9,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,4,1,5,1,4,5,4,0,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,1,0,31,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.2918421461258577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15624796624025022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16435709013788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511374256477338,0.0,0.0,0.2542524924439157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43969112765176577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6787458280104827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28576731524024324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,reddits_sweetheart,2020/02/07,"Our divorce is finalized on his birthday Next week. It's been a long 3 months. He started dating someone new the second I moved out of our apartment, after 6 years together. I tried so hard to fix this. I just feel sad. Can someone just tell me that it's gonna be okay? I think that's what I need right now.",0.5311648351648373,2.6326333692307697,2.191428571428574,95.89,84.53846153846155,4.945054945054945,21.59340659340659,6.1826913282559595,0.15264835164835144,239,8,54,2,7,78,54,65,0.087,0.879,0.033,-0.4707,0,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,2,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,6,9,1,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,2,9,1,5,6,0,16,0,1,0,0,6,4,0,0,11,31,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13409894129494945,0.0,0.0,0.2905263175336899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375774787962025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347038986062951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21168934930743186,0.281877933076148,0.0,0.19665102275826726,0.0,0.2561429922671476,0.2820555193164364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264892363955773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4494258145739716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877181181836814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318066066706171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16993686881384545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18006125082742128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127367285598728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707875593264852
divorce,theworkredditor1,2020/02/07,"""So who is gonna be your next ex wife?"" I got divorced back in 2014.

I was at at a bar with a group of friends when I was going through the initial difficulty of being newly divorced wife, of course seeking some support and just to vent about it all and a friend (now frenemy) said to our group these exact words:

""Hey theworkredditor1, so who is gonna be your next ex wife?""

.. Of course, then everyone started to laugh. Initially I looked at in shock and kind of chuckled it off...

But those words have stuck with me over these past few years, and the funny thing is, he's now married and it looks like he isn't with the right person.

One day, maybe I'll be saying those same words to him.",5.318147482014388,5.042809978417266,5.278336330935254,88.16628147482015,67.92086330935251,8.388848920863309,28.16636690647482,7.645422480735847,1.3262870503597115,533,15,119,5,8,166,89,139,0.048,0.812,0.14,0.9227,0,0,0,0,2,0,24.0,1,2,0,0,8,8,0,0,6,0,11,1,0,0,2,17,21,10,0,0,2,5,0,1,2,2,0,2,0,1,10,8,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,5,4,9,7,21,10,4,20,0,0,2,0,23,8,0,1,12,76,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639677973763673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375216557809296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037592124633105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32949618415110765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211887625802906,0.0,0.1705468836620324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22205583304497534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10417791155194407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35813447753481353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142274573553008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4535646583137377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14449641385371842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20356096359837428,0.0,0.18619226150673435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821051283918504,0.20283932909919244,0.16957638619611934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15093181714653606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419813393667936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416666622979497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13731906607941427
divorce,lkaypeace,2020/02/07,"Will I ever heal? So it’s coming up almost a year now of being divorced and honestly my heart still hurts. We was married three years and come to find out he had been messing around with my 19 year old cousin and knocked her up. The baby is due next month and they are engaged. I just don’t quite understand how you can go being with somebody who is a nurse and has a good head on her shoulders and all to someone who is jobless, carless, And someone who isn’t trying to better themselves by going to school or anything. Basically they are living off his job and her food stamps.. anyways I am rambling..
I guess I just don’t see how he could truly be happy. Anyways who really cares right?

I just want to know once I heal and get my shit together will I have those butterfly feelings and care for someone even remotely close to how I felt for him? I just want to be truly happy again and I just don’t feel like that will ever happen at this point. Any stories you would like to share of finding love again I would love to hear!!",4.3403983516483535,5.105241144230772,4.840824175824178,86.81846153846153,70.25,7.28901098901099,27.357142857142854,7.1686216300943375,1.2718546703296705,810,26,166,7,14,258,131,208,0.03,0.747,0.223,0.9911,2,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,1,2,2,2,19,16,1,0,4,0,26,9,4,3,3,45,46,16,0,5,6,1,3,2,0,5,2,1,0,0,8,19,1,0,7,0,0,4,4,3,0,1,4,5,25,13,23,32,1,27,0,1,1,2,22,10,1,3,15,118,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12137379008125047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08242660592952235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09974507804932484,0.107902139133136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10719993908093192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24716229533040365,0.0,0.0,0.20882247659965752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967759104902646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08005772137701685,0.21928183625945533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12257431462996687,0.08659207996576256,0.11638011333255352,0.0,0.22156654592767228,0.0,0.14656698981910612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06332695292901275,0.0,0.13777228666211225,0.101664764877231,0.0,0.0,0.1335259124859535,0.0,0.1071851468678375,0.2580595003229993,0.0,0.0,0.1243959000630896,0.0,0.1366118983003157,0.14363382276685815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12975726010164948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028171046397992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06661356279484053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11843366322587465,0.0,0.10703019549912014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21879258424190476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967482541444918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12890766188738614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271889643824262,0.12908414517292435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11458214124689522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12892120676612528,0.0,0.0,0.07764989953501393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351223750973054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12267046940810113,0.09658826612412937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12441979404112452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3081012087033564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09679805091691283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08229328359513667,0.0,0.0,0.12618334807594148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14298498880840388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722074802776888,0.0,0.0,0.23416480208137005
divorce,ftsthrowaway2019,2020/02/07,"Has this happened to anyone else on sock day? They tell you they don’t want to divorce, after months of NC and no effort in trying to reconcile. Recently got divorced from an abusive man. It was heartbreaking coming to the realization that he would never change or be self aware, accountable for his horrible behavior and treatment towards me. It broke my heart to leave but I knew I had to. 

During our separation I tried to convince him to go to marriage counseling with me, to maybe reconcile. He refused. Then he agreed and then refused again. 

Long story short, months and months of trying I came to terms with my decision based on the lack of trust, respect and integrity in our marriage, due to his actions and inactions before and during our separation.

The day of our court date he sat next to me while we waited to be called in. He cried and kept telling me he didn’t want this. He asked if I truly wanted this. I told him I never wanted to divorce, that I had begged him before and during our separation to get help and go to counseling with me, in order to save our marriage. I told him now that it was too late. That there was no trust with him and NOW I did want the divorce. There was no other option in my mind. 

I also told him that I thought it unfair and cruel of him to ask me and tell me these things now, ON OUR COURT DATE! He had months and months and months that he could have gone to counseling with me, at least put in some kind of effort, but he didn’t. So I filed. We went no contact because he wanted it. And then on our damn court date he pulls this stunt. I had no remorse for him, only shock and anger at his cruelty of trying to get me to change my mind minutes before our divorce in front of the judge. 

My questions is, has any one else gone through this same thing? What was your response? How did you feel after they told you this?",3.7625482625482647,5.1617328108108165,4.329517374517376,87.5581756756757,72.24324324324324,7.231660231660233,25.10617760617761,7.7094869923839395,1.1756447876447875,1460,44,299,18,28,463,166,370,0.154,0.757,0.08800000000000001,-0.9795,0,0,0,0,5,0,38.0,11,4,3,2,10,12,3,0,6,0,22,1,1,2,2,60,51,28,0,10,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,22,26,0,4,7,0,1,11,10,6,0,1,26,1,57,6,55,21,5,56,0,2,0,0,66,15,1,5,29,209,79,0,0.0,0.10792819944468653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07284561511026562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06194515272943488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06369309846404322,0.0933337187664538,0.0,0.0,0.1703159871442386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05552836176629722,0.0,0.2325357551458629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09301431944574197,0.1041840878248396,0.0,0.0,0.192724863367718,0.07846701960144377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07272892639756784,0.0,0.10005942701330016,0.11749260123345465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15219005019840653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04605845742909325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09518280479561557,0.0,0.10353847817615072,0.0,0.07285396936185763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08055166433435576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10794353337820574,0.06105652413137564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09485748733667372,0.0,0.0,0.10275486294903917,0.0964524486339826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08061286254768815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09151337321155804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18395232847532272,0.0,0.43624885278506004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14051032773602967,0.0,0.09687654506162872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06172576761155255,0.06927897695422879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09157183489272222,0.10204301274580777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08994158966600067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09502800791673392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388532218529147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12103391692696334,0.0,0.0,0.07231625308306303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481662544222265,0.0,0.2473798338981045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3223677671743401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08444247283284909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06470858860835296,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Jacjack420,2020/02/07,"My husband raped me. I was drunk. He asked me if I wanted to have sex. I said no because I was too drunk and passing out. I woke up in pain because he was sodomizing me. He shoved a dildo up my ass and tried to double penetrate me. After I woke up in pain, I was too drunk to stay awake. He decided to jerk off on me. I could never get over it. 

Recently he wanted to get back with me and I told him that I could never forgive him. 

Do you want to know what’s the fuck he said? 

He said, “I didn’t shove it in. I slowly did it. I spent time trying to be ever so gentle to try and wake you up in the mood.” 

Imagine being described to you in detail how you were raped. 

I want to kill myself.",-1.078072111846943,0.8428501589403972,1.7478918322295804,97.4725956585725,90.45695364238415,4.415158204562178,15.67365710080942,5.82211442006289,-0.7435698307579099,518,11,126,4,18,180,82,151,0.248,0.713,0.038,-0.988,0,0,0,0,0,1,18.0,0,4,0,0,6,9,5,0,3,0,13,11,2,1,3,21,29,7,1,7,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,5,6,3,0,4,3,1,1,4,7,0,0,14,3,29,1,25,11,1,22,0,0,0,5,20,13,2,1,7,90,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15180868781659845,0.0,0.0,0.12486456237092496,0.0,0.19797760334050027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593034997559999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468871418696673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15012294201216805,0.1696796283309406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17965569248827587,0.0,0.08924292148951596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25048369018020783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3455796193688442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603362659756791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4633978951631597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17308152589562342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946883943022968,0.0,0.0,0.15516647354160645,0.0,0.33074764682444285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3831171189479163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,agarthrowway,2020/02/07,"Divorce in cases of extreme fuckery? I don't want to put the full story out there for my own safety. 

My STBX has made a lot of questionable, illegal decisions lately, and is currently in hiding with plans to leave the country. She's armed and in a state of full-blown addiction, and there is zero reasoning with her or getting her to talk. As far as I'm concerned, I'm honestly terrified to be around her and I don't want to see her ever again. 

Is there a way to get divorced in this situation? If I explain this to a judge, could I just be granted a divorce?",3.832631578947368,4.765479763157893,5.493815789473686,81.0554605263158,71.54385964912281,8.857894736842105,30.91666666666667,9.188382445141503,2.672687719298245,439,19,88,9,8,150,72,114,0.14300000000000002,0.7879999999999999,0.069,-0.7494,1,0,0,0,3,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,7,1,0,0,7,0,9,2,1,2,1,21,18,8,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,8,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,1,11,1,21,14,3,15,0,0,1,0,11,8,0,4,4,66,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26895529018288816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21962826765660887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969815032641988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22316744697156146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257796352871368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27830477327223885,0.2612350995197721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097478989253292,0.0,0.23344728488483096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480162789042993,0.2763767739179662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536636610877871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965995645241433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773175058249723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19829982041362415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2910372829044827,0.19583053654682608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,CharlotteSS8,2020/02/07,"Anyone divorcing after a short time? What's your story? We were engaged after 8 months, married in 16, and divorcing after 8 months of marriage. Is anyone else in a similar situation? Why are you divorcing?",3.146756756756755,6.262957189189191,5.474378378378379,68.99427027027028,85.21621621621622,8.365405405405406,29.021621621621623,8.841846274778883,3.748766486486488,164,8,23,5,5,57,28,37,0.0,0.894,0.106,0.5661,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,6,2,0,9,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,6,16,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4749514764333881,0.34798893913263595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837155468304412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5421755305760098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38175601162695577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980397712091238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3064613718114093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,mrs_redo,2020/02/07,"Making it real If you read my past post (it's very long and a little old) we we're going to make a pseudo relationship work while I finished school. I thought I had accepted it and I was really sad but the STBXH threw me a rope of hope only to yank it away again. He crawled into bed with me one night 2 weeks ago held my hand and told me how important I am to him and how seeing me sad hurts him more than he could imagine. He asked me to think about what I would need from him to try and make it work and I did. When I tried to talk to him about it again he wasn't ready so I gave him more time. When we finally had the talk he said he didn't want to try. Not that he thinks it wouldn't work, just he didn't want to try and make it work. So 11 years of marriage just broke down to he doesn't want to try.

I'm making it as real as possible this time. The only person I had told up to this point was my mom. We seperated for a week once before a few years ago and our son had a hard time so I told the STBXH once the kid knew this time I was done. I would not drag our son through this again for no reason and I would not consider reconciliation after that point. We are telling the kid on Saturday and the STBXH is moving into the guest bedroom (I offered but he chose to leave the master). I'm telling the rest of my family and I told friends instead of keeping it all in. I've asked for as much space as 2 people who live under the same roof and share a child can really give each other. He broke me and I need to rebuild. I need to convince my silly little heart that it shouldn't crave someone who doesn't want it and I think the only way I can do that is let the outside world in. I have enough self worth to know that I deserve someone who wants me...",1.9741126557140305,2.9481112984293176,3.3550947824517077,94.46971204188485,76.06806282722512,6.5255100198591816,20.50225672504062,6.8039241337230125,0.035411879400613966,1364,28,333,12,29,447,179,382,0.085,0.843,0.071,-0.4912,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,6,1,0,5,15,11,0,0,20,0,29,2,2,8,1,67,65,29,0,16,8,3,2,0,2,5,0,1,2,5,26,22,0,2,9,1,1,3,11,5,0,1,22,4,46,6,43,36,9,44,0,5,1,0,53,15,0,2,24,209,72,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14347207577250606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15130981731829138,0.0,0.0760326639013293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06886208633151536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0646128455202023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08281541993742204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836182161563741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07628985362848391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08865050416232936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06252324575156576,0.0,0.0,0.07763161672060191,0.045992124641181166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07249382242438729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09589772862787713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08037780214417442,0.0,0.0,0.08663298293552085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07193076886563743,0.0,0.0,0.044474826644449975,0.0,0.0,0.08568897510690017,0.0,0.08275234291553217,0.0,0.0,0.16221827307532066,0.0714591622310532,0.0716169850529962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700937486372798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09477958177155728,0.0,0.08601155685848715,0.0594899394452958,0.18001686517989735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07594359187580424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08491824944744827,0.17236714981885,0.05483756855559091,0.1846436648028508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0772530473169299,0.05610391582332633,0.07066148309557724,0.0,0.0,0.1530025014335445,0.09123193321924114,0.07750476141267368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08094792419081591,0.1842230655922905,0.1036865669958186,0.08320543135449303,0.0,0.08688426455007893,0.0,0.0,0.07697918113391844,0.0,0.0,0.08190145718705155,0.06448756396634854,0.0,0.08442349282117027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13713671581896542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13009054607411005,0.1414658246726719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15556238647159454,0.0,0.06424622389602691,0.1887544626082508,0.0,0.0,0.3093131375177714,0.0,0.2747172924204965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06677244543781896,0.2386613297354262,0.06423531141940526,0.1298279508773961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23566043852265656,0.0,0.0,0.17246257768442672,0.0,0.0,0.1042274129757002
divorce,Asskmeaboutmyass,2020/02/08,"The littlest of things still bring me to tears Just when I think I’m over the pain something silly will come up and everything still feels so painfully fresh. I received a tax document addressed to my ex and I in the mail and I forwarded it to him certified mail, return receipt. When I got the receipt in the mail today and saw his signature I broke down. I couldn’t bare to look at it and I threw it away. Deep down I was hoping he’d reach out to me and thank me for sending the document but he didn’t and that hurts too. Some days I feel like I’ll never get over him.",2.193249999999999,3.7340318250000015,3.3483333333333327,92.43,76.58333333333334,6.8000000000000025,23.666666666666664,7.554174236665415,0.8598166666666662,449,14,101,6,10,145,78,120,0.106,0.8009999999999999,0.09300000000000001,-0.5489999999999999,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,7,8,0,0,7,0,5,2,0,0,1,18,18,11,0,2,2,1,2,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,5,9,0,0,3,0,1,6,3,4,0,0,5,4,18,4,17,10,1,25,0,2,2,0,11,12,0,2,10,68,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21421728370891227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964052757363636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14704373161775264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049153128129507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305713681314889,0.16288611857492674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11912269075719666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823556446222019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264594394346401,0.0,0.0,0.2440830207939533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139124801656376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914659538479606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17585075744545006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4852247088822503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17552863508181174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3641686123190057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20991546976552866,0.0,0.0,0.1514757406884801,0.14609577063031376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21612115264844264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,shewasright-kinda,2020/02/08,"We're getting a divorce, two years from now... This has been a long time coming, however, I still feel like this is some sort of crappy surprise. My wife (37f) and I (37m) have been married for 7.5 years but have been together for many years prior to that. It has been a rough go for the last 5 years at least and there has been very little happiness between us. We have 2 children together, a 3 year old girl, and a 6 year old boy.  Our communication over the years has been non-existent and we have tried a little counseling together as well as individual.

I could get into my whole story, and I think I will in another post when I feel up to it, but I really wanted to see if anyone had any experience with staying together with their significant other for a period of time for the sake of the kids' age. To be more specific, my wife told me she no longer loves me and there is no fixing this relationship anymore, but said her plan is to keep up the family dynamic in the same home until our little one is old enough for kindergarten and she, my wife, can go back to work full-time. This would be over two years from now.

For me, this is sounds okay but I am not delusional enough to think it will really work out like this. I'd like to not be getting a divorce at all to be honest.  One further piece of information about my thoughts on this, I'd live in fire if it meant I could be closer to my children on a daily basis.

Thanks",5.741637931034482,5.173807672413794,6.615301724137932,79.9167456896552,67.10344827586206,10.284482758620687,29.15948275862069,9.827888789773867,2.37094827586207,1115,32,238,22,16,372,154,290,0.038,0.8320000000000001,0.13,0.9805,1,0,0,0,2,0,34.0,5,0,1,3,9,11,0,0,15,1,32,1,0,0,1,38,51,17,0,6,8,3,4,3,0,3,0,2,1,5,13,14,0,1,7,0,0,3,4,0,1,4,11,7,27,11,43,30,9,47,0,0,1,1,24,18,0,4,27,168,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06846991464937427,0.10557802218684946,0.0,0.0,0.09985343058417406,0.07040197373692096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07742129864751555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08673205082515982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16077911389556834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20807105136619333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09849020220688426,0.0949177749939456,0.0,0.10181970695354596,0.07193007958664484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15781279648085486,0.0,0.11444431809881528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10718209103917137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10099624085331503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949431948812825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08207250678063865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475702424218821,0.3027413898049649,0.0889075592533386,0.08910391814498159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09087302212691058,0.0,0.0,0.1020797738409014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31695897595443395,0.0,0.13645484283459838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09642933043957122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12900402567202246,0.0,0.0,0.10809905486566238,0.0,0.0,0.09577541765474556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0802336850228295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107317851056298,0.08040794849873803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269811681194212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12903101259518,0.0,0.07993341622688492,0.11742160168638607,0.0,0.0,0.09620976248216792,0.0,0.06835916680584365,0.0,0.19671113173133253,0.0,0.1211128289839618,0.0,0.0,0.08307647282594953,0.0593871958541159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09052878207610676,0.0,0.0,0.11241229370971154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466011757447947,0.0,0.0,0.07152442675292796,0.0,0.0,0.5187077265192104
divorce,flamingos_usa,2020/02/08,Was asked for divorce over a phone call I was asked for divorce by my wife over the phone and there was no face to face interaction whatsoever after that. Is it me or I feel like there should have been some courtesy of talking it face to face. I want to clear that it wasn't a chaotic/abusive marriage like to wanting to not see each other.,5.625434782608696,5.492103971014494,5.673731884057973,85.1088586956522,67.26086956521739,8.059420289855073,31.74275362318841,7.1686216300943375,1.7484753623188407,270,10,57,2,4,85,46,69,0.032,0.805,0.16399999999999998,0.802,0,0,0,0,2,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,8,4,4,0,1,10,14,2,0,3,2,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,2,5,2,12,8,2,3,0,0,1,0,11,2,0,2,3,42,11,0,0.0,0.3685421236836244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5815775295276713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3176157389625426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15727568700160982,0.222213420595119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039255949208934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24786572875118296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500093508193688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3669294405381297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Baginaman,2020/02/08,"Does this seem fair to you? So I plan on filing for divorce soon once I get all my ducks in a row(Colorado). Married a little over 2 years and together for over 8. We have a 6 year old and she has twins in high school.

A year ago I took a job paying far less so I could be home more. Sadly, the more time I spent with her the more I realized how miserable I would be spending my life with this women and how she treats the kids. She has anger issues and makes everything about her. I am usually pretty easy going and she flips out over everything. I pretty much have to scream at her to get her to stop yelling at me and the kids over every little thing.

So I looked up the divorce laws in my state and because we have not been married very long doesn't seem like I would owe her much but I do not want to screw her over. 

The house is in my name. All the upgrades were done on my dime before we got married. Looking at around 100-150k equity. I purchased all the furniture before we got married. 

My divorce plan is to offer her 40% of the equity. Her kids keep all their furniture, we split our child's. She can pick what furniture items she wants with a few things that I want. If we cannot agree on a certain item we will sell it and split the profit. 50/50 custody. I'll  pay for our daughters insurance and child care. 

This offer is contingent on a swift agreeable divorce. If she wants to lawyer up and get nasty that offer is off the table. I saw how nasty my sister's ex got in their divorce and now she is deeply in debt from lawyer fees.

There are other points we have but that is the jist of it. Essentially I want her to have enough money to live off of while her kids finish off high school so she doesn't have to move to a lower cola area and they can finish school at their current one.

Does this seem fair enough and is there anything I seem to be missing or overlooked? I do plan to consult a lawyer before filing.",2.3414839572192534,4.064669835858588,3.1659893048128365,93.10868983957222,76.65151515151516,6.1739750445632815,20.99049316696376,6.923569853693429,0.2839286393345217,1509,37,331,15,34,477,187,396,0.107,0.828,0.066,-0.9091,6,0,0,0,6,0,34.0,10,1,4,3,13,11,2,1,22,0,34,2,0,5,5,60,60,26,0,10,7,3,0,1,0,3,1,2,1,7,13,26,0,2,5,0,12,3,5,6,0,1,9,5,60,5,50,44,15,52,0,3,3,1,54,33,1,7,16,227,73,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08658618458896174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08038116437404541,0.0869546623411603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05954396744380669,0.0,0.2493518806155401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09958984180750766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07798841327006731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709584007842672,0.0999591202525578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201856208189133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08229843265764415,0.0,0.17557445319188678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15309910961753562,0.0,0.055512998921605966,0.0,0.23436749663669096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064056059344886,0.09797959920972912,0.0,0.0,0.1127079888808791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10195107985340246,0.09693093763699703,0.08682122701704932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06899328330443814,0.04772082962565692,0.1957992349462329,0.08625199263613413,0.08644248651335072,0.1640508446648119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06520122344340888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10381689257415924,0.14361001889076008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10249725853673447,0.1040245202484776,0.06618954675045058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09233784874419793,0.0,0.0,0.19874850292490326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2965678715632814,0.0,0.3556917125892527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08166368267764028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12978664199435613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05695717669584398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10852451775741326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10757917707483172,0.08059507405891048,0.2880668428257135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13877614865162546,0.0,0.0,0.1887054460713395
divorce,aaantoqj,2020/02/08,"US Citizen Filing vs Mexican citizen without papers I see there is a website called mydivorcepapers.com for as little as 140$... Can the whole process actually be ended so simply? Anyone have experience in easiest/fastest/cheapest to do this? We have no assets. I'm 300,000 in debt (med student). And she doesnt even have papers to live here.",3.813732718894009,6.843844612903229,5.7546082949308754,69.58048387096775,78.6774193548387,8.058986175115209,31.43778801843318,8.841846274778883,3.4513981566820284,274,14,43,7,7,94,54,62,0.086,0.885,0.028999999999999998,-0.5204,1,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,0,0,4,10,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,8,9,1,4,0,0,1,0,6,3,0,0,1,30,5,3,0.0,0.0,0.282445781421519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20237894577392074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2955444210636853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563525689474068,0.0,0.0,0.1911683926142103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28312193868559665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29008885243193744,0.2555754783276334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3214958674715204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306413830264754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481534017932965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32314266611347897,0.0,0.279003996925759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,authorTinaSwithin,2020/02/08,100 best divorce books of all time [Bookauthority: 100 top divorce books of all time](https://bookauthority.org/books/best-divorce-books),12.07578947368421,16.982783157894737,6.746578947368422,63.61355263157896,59.526315789473685,8.010526315789475,35.8157894736842,8.841846274778883,3.7539263157894736,116,5,14,2,2,30,10,19,0.0,0.684,0.316,0.7184,0,0,0,0,3,0,13.0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,5,0,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8741265947521605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4856981535346748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,eatthatcookie24,2020/02/08,"NEED HELP WITH DIVORCE PAPERS Can anybody please help me with the steps of getting divorced in Texas? 
I really don’t want to use a lawyer or mediator if possible. 
Only things we have is some credit card debts. 

Thank you all soooo much

P.S. This is definitely so mentally and emotionally draining I don’t wish this on anybody. Hang in there to those going thru this. Find some support, stay positive and keep in mind how strong you are.",2.7162195121951243,5.616210621951224,3.4372682926829263,85.02419512195122,83.02439024390246,6.694634146341463,24.05365853658537,7.908726449838941,1.6518936585365849,349,13,64,7,10,110,67,82,0.0,0.687,0.313,0.9801,1,0,0,0,2,0,9.0,1,2,0,1,3,4,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,2,1,18,16,6,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,1,1,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,6,4,10,16,4,8,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,4,0,41,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651125671717523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154107350828083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231350646721376,0.0,0.13394454212240545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3159477833718631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094866017908092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23751384982938756,0.0,0.23797346497654945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1732547204995818,0.17475656081666138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17924815991704088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587100518807397,0.0,0.265698086733992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15098508547769451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512075856642313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26745119773112425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21698598966292196,0.0,0.0,0.1565778526943584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035551425134372,0.0,0.0,0.13901241911800102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710247533136573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,8adAsh,2020/02/08,"I’m going through a difficult time too. My ex is steadily dating and  I’m. begging borrowing and stealing dates on bumble
Any advice?",1.8538,4.630993480000004,3.839500000000001,78.66725000000002,94.2,5.7,30.25,7.1686216300943375,2.738,107,6,16,2,4,36,22,25,0.237,0.763,0.0,-0.7351,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,8,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6775012773195811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4714792854914472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3940279873437701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4042786758816601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,fairyqueenthrowaway,2020/02/08,"I shouldn’t have been kind. Once upon a time, I was getting divorced. I decided I didn’t want to force my STBXH to move out of our home in order to buy me out, since I was entitled to half—he had nowhere to go but his parents’. Never mind that I was living in a friend’s basement...

We put it in the decree (signed and sealed by exh and the judge) that if he ever sold the house, he’d pay me only what I contributed. Not half. A pittance. 

Now the house is pending, and I haven’t heard a word. Considering he likely failed to fulfill another decree regarding our pets (I have no proof unfortunately), I doubt I will hear from him on this. 

I hope he enjoys hearing from my lawyer on Monday. I shouldn’t have been kind—he continues to show his true colors. 

His poor new wife... she’s going to think I’m a monster. In reality, I’m going to force him to keep his word for once in his life. Perhaps it will help her make a better fiscal decision when she decides to leave him too. 

Frustrated and can’t sleep tonight. But clearly, I made the right call in leaving him. He is not a good person.",1.886704035874441,3.6939459551569516,3.52172869955157,89.67290695067267,78.23766816143498,6.433094170403589,22.809192825112106,7.365786028017652,0.7871723766816143,840,26,182,11,20,279,133,223,0.11,0.75,0.141,0.7994,1,0,0,0,1,0,33.0,3,0,0,2,4,11,1,1,12,0,19,2,1,2,5,33,35,8,0,5,5,2,0,1,1,4,1,3,2,1,6,7,0,1,4,1,4,5,9,3,0,1,10,4,34,8,27,20,0,27,0,1,1,0,30,12,0,3,10,113,40,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15002259401894028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12653482134349026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14609165861567394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294160622330899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11053642932101132,0.0,0.0747487801187152,0.0,0.2439319251718032,0.1200013075656361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.322503208360503,0.0,0.09589758795003388,0.0,0.1435120465901591,0.1421019516643579,0.0,0.3301698370235776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12716822764313093,0.0,0.29797320971022473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029834176597133,0.0,0.0,0.10105539691788608,0.06989734577193782,0.0,0.1263344623322548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13537739826656298,0.09550111545686676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444610944492881,0.0,0.0,0.15206200927660926,0.0,0.0,0.1103453046472202,0.13817902537174978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3047322486890941,0.0,0.1088120701280222,0.0,0.0,0.15886360048499773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12492422519054056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438260401374237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12218199555384318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11834994844165687,0.0,0.14317449206316174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09167422735084438,0.0,0.0,0.08342594847853005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438708160091919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,DARMICJOH,2020/02/08,"Military wasn't kidding about divorce rates... I'm US Navy, I just got back from a 10 month deployment to a 3 month pregnant wife. She slept with the brother of the pastor who did our ceremony. After 5 years together it torn me apart and now even after resolving myself to get a divorce I'm still contemplating if it's the right decision. The baby daddy doesn't want anything to do with the kid, unless I decide I want to raise the child in which case he claims he will fight for custody and attempt to get a restraining order on me. Why is letting go so hard?",6.575119047619048,5.923572464285718,7.282857142857143,76.09547619047622,65.42857142857143,10.323809523809524,33.84523809523809,9.725611199111238,3.0859773809523814,444,17,86,8,6,148,84,112,0.098,0.877,0.025,-0.5583,0,0,0,0,3,0,10.0,2,0,0,2,7,2,1,0,10,0,7,1,1,0,0,13,16,5,0,3,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,4,4,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,1,9,1,16,10,0,14,1,0,0,0,14,4,0,1,8,55,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232242618294347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20858256491104465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17916498846483284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834448094671056,0.0,0.15416358176337824,0.0,0.2169517856616607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24299610874369104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773822188624623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4330350536998133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23165496744607664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21662896941912974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3262929575506174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31999291798300394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447703909807253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17468285524558544
divorce,snus79,2020/02/08,"M(40) F(38) no sex no love need help I'm really typing my story as kind of a therapy. I don't know where to go or what to do. I will add more in the comments below if wanted.

So here it is. I met my beautiful wife over 20 years ago (40m now). We will call her Becky (38f). Becky and I have two awesome kids (teen and preteen).....From the outside it looks like we have a great marriage...However we have decided that it has come to and end. I still love her and want to be with her but she absolutely doesn't feel the same. The back story is I used to be very fit and good looking....Now not so much.....I feel that I am still handsome for some one in my 40's but I am about 40 lbs overweight from being skinny, however I am definitely one of those weird people that are still pretty athletic while being fat....I feel this may be part of why she literally doesn't love me...We have also been together so long our interests don't align and I feel she doesn't try and hasn't for a very long time. To be honest we haven't had sex but maybe 2 times in 10 years.....None for the last 8 for sure...I haven't cheated even though I have had opportunities and I am pretty sure she hasn't either....She literally has never really had much of a sex drive. I have had vaginal intercourse with one other person before her (does not include women I have done other things with, same for her) and she with two not including me....This is the problem with getting together so young......We are going to be separated soon and while I know it's going to be hard on the kids we have (she) has decided that I pretty much get everything and all she is doing is moving out (no lawyers no court etc.)...We will have no debt and will split custody 50-50..There are so many little back stories in my little life and I would love to express them here. Like I said this is therapy for me. I have many twists I can put in the comments if questions are asked but I really want to interact with people....I will be totally honest......But it will be hard....I need your input.....",0.8515730943640669,2.95037567695962,2.884583783200174,91.42353298423667,83.20427553444179,6.202569639386742,19.30689915784928,7.435244526350478,0.4339686460807601,1564,41,348,25,44,526,192,421,0.052000000000000005,0.764,0.184,0.9958,3,0,1,0,0,0,102.0,6,1,1,1,19,17,1,0,12,0,63,10,1,1,4,62,90,30,0,9,10,1,5,2,0,8,2,1,0,4,16,27,2,0,9,0,1,7,18,3,0,5,8,7,46,14,38,64,9,38,0,0,1,7,39,13,0,6,20,238,62,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08136949066105409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07340731125479025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08581462769611574,0.0,0.0,0.1411672294440025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07810959534087554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09373153193051777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790720611309271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08032920068069127,0.09393672605496216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08130188658369694,0.0,0.10237413202730893,0.06062880913784342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08249817160287591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18565441531628926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095916737982916,0.0,0.1565052601207204,0.07699211918308341,0.0,0.10120277150498266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644580765973889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06152731724844598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09558891207425953,0.10089472733455973,0.07482403807572054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06483653654640445,0.08969143562557813,0.18400261075171687,0.0,0.16246890037843456,0.07708350781513235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3313892427267148,0.0,0.0,0.186128611985674,0.0922190122377035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975620731052471,0.20243658061222394,0.13612758720904033,0.0707968856259803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18660516334346453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09940352696283916,0.0,0.06363812651422653,0.08015063360425198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2801612843218188,0.0,0.08783408119354864,0.0,0.09227792470373458,0.10282984345275197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764159980138758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08731673709529349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21991947009029808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17302876922491367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20994797013010133,0.0,0.06098359111111381,0.0,0.0901867490085404,0.0,0.10705117633335036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06232183103138275,0.0,0.1793380242414568,0.0,0.0,0.07928020065414539,0.0,0.1514786719635527,0.1624267362397748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08282944923850777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06520754197272395,0.0,0.0,0.05911207084087713
divorce,G0ldenGayT1me,2020/02/08,"One sided divorce My mother has been working for a whole year now at the mines, my dad is not so happy about it. He believes family is everything, which it is, and the mother is everything and has to control everything. Ever since my mum left to work my dad just snapped, he began drinking more and arguing with my little brother and me, some days I didn’t even want to come home I was that angry and scared. My older sister who had moved out with her boyfriend would come home and say how negative the house feels and how dad has changed so much. Recently the only thing he ever spoke to us about how mum has abandoned us for her studies and to work and how much her belief has brainwashed her and me and my sister (it’s spirituality). I tell mum about my concerns about him and she says it’s fine but ends up calling him and they end up in a fight. My dad came home after work and told me he’s thinking of a divorce because he can’t handle her beliefs, how she doesn’t love him and how stubborn she is and he told me not to tell her anything. I don’t know who to talk to because if I tell my sisters they will tell my mum because we are concerned and mum needs to know but if I do that, my head will be on the platter, my brother and father will shake their heads and say I’m selfish and that I’m a dibber dobber. I don’t know what to do, it’s like I’m stuck and need to pick who I side with.",3.0803061224489774,3.945264921768711,4.158435374149661,90.1841836734694,73.25170068027211,6.68843537414966,25.564625850340143,6.655083550727371,0.7895074829931974,1093,34,243,8,21,356,141,294,0.09699999999999999,0.8640000000000001,0.039,-0.9328,0,0,1,0,3,0,20.0,3,0,3,5,17,11,3,2,9,0,26,4,2,8,2,60,46,33,0,6,7,17,1,1,0,4,0,4,3,0,14,29,1,3,7,1,0,5,8,7,0,1,10,5,44,4,28,31,5,26,2,1,0,1,61,10,0,3,12,168,58,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08214814287236186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18255867712985652,0.0,0.0,0.11246951293615932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019333218317926,0.11417414240391215,0.0,0.0,0.10560247948763106,0.17198220682313878,0.0,0.0,0.1119631437519236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06437939451554231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977912979937887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17683209054582033,0.0,0.0,0.06593401160569279,0.18059633584574172,0.0,0.0,0.2691510264474545,0.0,0.09410689736316873,0.0,0.05047493323793388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10626643999226157,0.0,0.0,0.20490017895550489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004003056115159,0.0,0.0,0.11518559161893185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16458497744625247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10846104383098573,0.0,0.0,0.048769852497208964,0.1000516952691462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09009669861017726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060990468371522,0.14676692533145266,0.1480391589828129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06764455809337064,0.07592203325394566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09856595264168408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23815649263627856,0.09994305902204444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08257694859236242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023621153432102,0.34900866130110364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06631983806469377,0.06396435367208549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907756949385241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24015633673005302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058879854118853575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11145196131254632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2906975390018415,0.0,0.0,0.07091339728334982,0.0,0.0,0.06428455416298418
divorce,shamed001,2020/02/08,"When you call a lawyer and they say... After you give them your full name, they pause, and then they say ""sorry we don't have any lawyers available for consultation"" is that code for ""your SO has already consulted with out firm, it's conflict of interest"" ? Yes/No ? Could they be that busy ?",1.681116883116882,4.380571709090912,1.8488311688311685,95.8018181818182,86.45454545454545,5.324675324675325,20.584415584415584,6.868970318607317,0.35053246753246725,224,7,47,3,7,67,46,55,0.075,0.871,0.054000000000000006,0.2359,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,4,5,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,8,7,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,10,1,6,5,1,5,0,0,0,0,17,2,0,0,3,32,13,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3886200425045956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23948255563319065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3595972557956673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811730764184794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3378263304290945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5601074615112819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3942170529808617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Mortimer_Slapdash,2020/02/08,"Does this seem fair? honestly dont know We are thinking about splitting the credit card debt down the middle as we separate, but as I'm keeping the house, I would basically be buying out her half of the equity.  we have about 20k in debt and about 15k in equity.  thats 10k in debt each, and 7500 in equity.  I was considering just taking on 17500 of the credit card debt and calling it square.  Are either of us the short end of the stick, or does this seem reasonable?",4.906774193548387,5.493622204301079,5.807688172043015,81.03153225806457,68.89247311827957,9.640860215053763,25.177419354838708,9.725611199111238,1.9991806451612903,367,9,75,8,6,121,61,93,0.11800000000000001,0.794,0.08800000000000001,-0.6136,4,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,4,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,7,0,7,0,0,1,0,19,14,7,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,8,0,1,5,0,7,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,7,3,16,11,2,10,0,0,1,0,6,9,0,3,1,50,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553814552235173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4377307773436193,0.0,0.2931169354574685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215155741138776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2885833943189496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223015834130174,0.0,0.0,0.13744916870760426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25714585608305823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4553657765050442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880450999130828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16025485513132773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3008411462175117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17766483292823362,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,OceanLovingMom,2020/02/08,"What the actual F@&$ I am so absolutely frustrated, sometimes I can’t believe I never noticed how much he never loved me, just didn’t want anyone else to have me.",3.626458333333332,6.0472645625000006,5.532500000000002,74.39583333333336,75.25,8.016666666666666,29.416666666666664,8.841846274778883,2.906279166666668,134,6,22,3,3,46,27,32,0.22,0.74,0.04,-0.7794,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,1,0,4,1,0,1,2,5,6,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,5,1,1,5,1,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,18,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.2818364095219795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31292497124676216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019423166906596,0.29591946141060305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3253894048854939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412632769913376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606618485095967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21230821243790265,0.0,0.4454953799742724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3288115285585499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2856399791167205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17034732516671922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,wobblyweeble,2020/02/08,"I confirmed divorce. I screwed up so much. I was too afraid most of the time to tell him how the sexual neglect made me feel. I would be angry at him all the time and do and say passive aggressive shit. He would yell at me and berate me. Neither of us knew how to communicate. He ran up massive debt and relapsed on drinking and lied to me about it. I started looking outside the marriage for validation instead of manning up and addressing our failing relationship. Everybody fucked up everywhere. The only truly awesome thing we've done right is our wonderful kids.

I don't feel great right now. I know I did the right thing for myself, because after all the wreckage, I can't trust him anymore, with my body, our finances, or his sobriety. And I've been a shit wife as well, in less explosive, but no less hurtful ways. I don't love him anymore, and if he does love me, he doesn't speak the same language I do, and I can't understand him.

I know the next 6 months are going to be a fucking nauseating roller coaster. I hope I don't regret this.",3.7649818840579705,5.289635096618358,4.846929347826087,83.35561141304348,72.42995169082127,7.687077294685991,31.29498792270532,8.278499904357787,2.3410002415458937,823,38,161,13,16,270,126,207,0.187,0.735,0.077,-0.9664,1,0,1,0,1,0,26.0,4,0,0,1,8,17,6,1,11,0,18,9,3,3,2,32,35,16,0,5,3,1,2,0,0,2,0,3,1,2,4,10,1,1,7,2,2,2,8,11,1,0,7,6,32,6,21,24,8,21,0,4,1,5,25,11,5,5,7,114,36,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28192785134460485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08664675744782899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15788464541274047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243870010879152,0.14545778554973685,0.0,0.1392423358504455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14373973451894684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628108619238313,0.0,0.0,0.08078100199321346,0.0,0.0,0.156709006720095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141176330640852,0.0,0.0,0.1521629892463391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15623201092981154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11936115745224757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565724154247649,0.13449557951266553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11345418008562932,0.0,0.10448869136616534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511666873527927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10810329210955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526043426468362,0.0,0.36415838629881947,0.0,0.1130348235236334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918077611669713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10060688105199417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12423595511200115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18886198168548265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16576506020480994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479719548740877,0.1709759967482111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128235075089238,0.0,0.0,0.12780024114467364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15414393546791244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20194326659722686,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,spaceghostcat,2020/02/08,"Life during Where to begin. Together for 9 years, married 4 years, separated 2 months. Me 30F, him 34M, we have a 6 year old together. He will never feel the same. I just want good enough. Still in the same house, trying to remain amicable. So, the initial shock has worn off finally. He's going to start looking for a new place and I will be looking once summer starts. I'm better than this and I don't deserve it. But damn it hurts. The storms always runs out of rain. If anyone needs to talk. DM.",-0.1560066006600671,2.160122574257425,1.990455445544555,92.78482508250828,95.53465346534657,4.6735313531353135,16.634323432343233,6.42735559955562,-0.12958270627062696,384,10,81,5,15,128,82,101,0.11,0.818,0.07200000000000001,-0.5809,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,0,1,4,5,1,0,6,0,6,1,0,0,1,13,17,5,0,3,3,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,1,3,6,2,11,13,3,20,0,1,2,0,5,5,1,1,13,44,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16581842399030688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393424699902412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17624856003649397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20591137358715011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10076286720033467,0.0,0.0,0.21830347405548087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11325644093323704,0.16714812125530287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299444442448064,0.21333529144947466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407586307198756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33469304775023684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15906483366691113,0.0,0.0,0.14776493162177987,0.15369841158637987,0.19246760686456674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20911272914074744,0.2122286160358132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20820706886640056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821053713173709,0.0,0.159146705070094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16017516436088486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13529926284162944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11754157045411034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3849928417115413
divorce,Cael450,2020/02/08,"Got served today and the situation is weird I was expecting this. Two months ago she said she didn't know what she wanted. A couple weeks later she said she wanted to separate then shortly after she said she wanted to divorce. We fought a lot about that but then I finally told her if that is what she wanted then I wouldn't fight it. We fought then, but ever since, all the tension has left.

She is still going to counseling with me. In fact, we are going on an international trip with the whole family (3 kids) next Friday. We have been nice to each other at home. She tells me about her day and we sit and watch TV after the kids go to sleep.

But she is still moving forward with the divorce. She is moving like 5 houses down the street. We are splitting custody 50/50, even though I am going to end up watching the kids 60-80% of the time depending on the time of year. I am happy to do that but I can't win a custody battle so I'm settling for 50/50 on paper. She wants to do holidays together and get dinner together with the kids once a week.

I don't fully understand why she wants to get divorced. Yes, I didn't fully support her job but we could have worked on that. I never asked her to quit or anything like that. She says she supported me through school and bad jobs and now that I have a good job that I didn't support her in what she wanted to do. But that isn't true. I wanted to spend more time with her and yes, we fought over it sometimes, but it wasn't that bad. The best answers I have ever gotten from her is ""I am just disengaged"" and ""I'm done."" Two days ago she said ""maybe you'll find someone way cooler than me or maybe we will get back together like your aunt and uncle. I don't know what is going to happen."" My aunt and uncle got divorced and then remarried two years later and remained happily married for like 30 years until he died. Then she made some joke about how no one she dates is going to stay with her because I'm such a big part of her life.  


I am over the intense emotions that I had early on. But this whole thing is confusing. I just don't understand why we are doing this. We haven't told the kids yet, but today my oldest came in from school and hugged me and started crying. She wouldn't tell me why and I'm sure she has picked up on the divorce by now. It just kills me that my wife can be so casual about divorcing and seemingly wants to live as closely to how we live now as she can while it hurts our children.",2.9029386230567336,4.173939507874017,3.984488188976382,89.6958641227539,74.1968503937008,6.942539874823339,22.474459923278822,7.419758726546812,0.6821588330304871,1922,48,417,22,39,624,225,508,0.10400000000000001,0.7709999999999999,0.124,0.9026,3,0,0,0,6,0,51.0,13,2,0,4,23,29,6,2,21,2,48,4,1,5,7,87,95,43,2,14,15,3,0,4,0,4,1,5,1,6,25,37,1,0,7,4,1,11,14,12,0,4,22,7,75,17,56,67,9,78,0,1,2,1,77,21,0,8,49,293,100,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12459002941438665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0578307710477502,0.0,0.06569813146170426,0.0,0.0,0.05403754259086786,0.11735425965353168,0.042839309125874685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07374983017296655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08037648153766515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056109290121889296,0.07775853421869983,0.07719436677820964,0.09064380262876827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07293490219043162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07191626349875017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07905050930698433,0.06224325824467874,0.0,0.0,0.046416322951488,0.12713647545976978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06624951271119425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07698340504042113,0.06423055874019026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11014818738760353,0.0,0.2396352097516521,0.05894377804116919,0.1124115178356986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062144416641472036,0.07480960550502674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07049208372848308,0.0,0.0,0.08108852305114299,0.07523140537331663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20921285125370512,0.0,0.07774945869499668,0.0,0.0772431838041843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07635456595939716,0.0,0.04963768317717794,0.13733229140339054,0.0,0.12410915610381755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059745740174767865,0.0,0.06649640305669742,0.0,0.0,0.1412024255518711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05609325536777728,0.14938352764851648,0.0,0.0,0.05420081894902196,0.0,0.07473882046815124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07484114295542893,0.04762051599635246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07610154769053748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07474667359530851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26739247732019544,0.05588591990684992,0.0,0.14224517077728546,0.0,0.06397620062646525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05813264233236159,0.07899263703629235,0.07032627937584933,0.0,0.059544226169729327,0.0,0.06950429337158053,0.0,0.04974137987992845,0.07490436157132599,0.11224425364981393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392435064956178,0.06623385273807933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12284781663747442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046687937632410456,0.0,0.06904534869566302,0.0,0.1229346752068391,0.0,0.13322596542566406,0.13430255572067348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20594693601224184,0.1463186044931414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37305294063028255,0.055781442459060325,0.1127415779797621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19023819799960595,0.1569202329382682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051161420801321474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13576540638840187
divorce,AwFS81,2020/02/09,"What am I entitled to if the house was purchased before our marriage in California? Hello all,

I understand this question is not about divorce directly but in the event of divorce am I entitled to any of the house if it was purchased before our marriage and I’m not on the title in California? Even though I’ve been paying half of the mortgage? 

What options do I have? Would it be fair to ask for the money I’ve paid into it during the 4 years we’ve lived in it? Worth fighting for any of that?",4.176057142857143,5.177102320000003,5.557428571428571,80.66300000000003,70.8,8.114285714285714,30.285714285714285,8.418075326091056,2.264571428571428,392,16,76,6,7,132,60,100,0.033,0.863,0.105,0.7359,1,0,0,0,4,0,7.0,2,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,7,0,10,0,0,0,1,12,14,5,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,2,0,6,0,2,1,0,1,4,0,6,0,16,8,1,8,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,4,2,57,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3359993064789685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23095452606557465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4204356543270832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16317145755075754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5701154962542778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.218146016413448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767478971548638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427212986161469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571834480177552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17549428758860874,0.0,0.0,0.15908943116497834
divorce,elguapojunior,2020/02/09,"Grief Stricken My soon to be ex wife packed her things and left yesterday. She took a job about a couple hours away. We were supposed to live together for a few months but opportunity called. I wasn't ready to let go but she has been over us, and the marriage for months. The most hurtful is that she says the marriage was perfect other than intimacy. I am completely devastated, and staring at this empty apartment my heart is overcome with such sadness. I love her still, and i miss her much. I cry daily...even sob sometimes. I feel so alone, lonely, and like i lost everything.",3.1379090909090905,5.668576245454545,3.757272727272728,85.9359090909091,77.45454545454545,6.545454545454546,26.363636363636363,7.686295010490155,1.564454545454545,457,18,87,7,11,144,83,110,0.302,0.5720000000000001,0.126,-0.9721,1,3,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,0,3,5,11,0,0,6,0,10,2,1,0,1,12,16,8,1,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,7,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,7,0,0,6,3,17,4,11,8,3,13,0,7,1,1,15,5,1,1,7,62,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20094054561771427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18228304136589035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19811053145340896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20342054773516796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146733917792136,0.2131158555010632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281447699861477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17436775313024588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980995779313804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11026293080238954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299081570659612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19106523484827734,0.0,0.20769657147064569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19252948817216847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107973589912604,0.1983930060160969,0.0,0.09478570131433653,0.0,0.1713183881316988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117897826285791,0.0,0.17510569186898373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3097211002427168,0.0,0.1426230061705306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15428814469884622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19188533517529302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549402575604185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288946355204781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155572861186396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333755961568958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,JhonC18,2020/02/09,"Worst feeling ever My wife left a few weeks ago over a number of issues. Throughout this time she kept telling me she loves me and sending me stuff saying

 “Just cause I’m not there doesn’t mean I don’t love you.” 

Last night she got drunk and sent me a long text over how I need to get over the fact that we are never getting back together no matter what I do.

She proceeds to follow that text an hour later with one asking if I wanted to hook up for the night.

I told her to please not send me mixed emotions and I’ll talk when she’s sober. She blew up on me, and now I hate my life all over again.",2.0344186046511616,3.1460003875969043,2.8875116279069784,97.33684883720932,76.13178294573643,5.470077519379847,19.10155038759689,4.935628992294339,-0.602848682170543,466,8,112,1,10,147,92,129,0.094,0.7979999999999999,0.107,-0.0772,0,0,0,0,0,1,7.0,1,1,0,0,8,4,1,0,6,0,4,4,0,2,4,22,20,7,0,3,4,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,6,1,1,2,1,0,4,6,2,0,1,4,2,23,2,14,16,3,28,0,0,0,2,20,8,0,1,16,73,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16208015479600374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17093443780649184,0.0,0.0,0.14059573320739835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18783113264632212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205674865724038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653928465993152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09245140939363213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19105686435419264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14623703274894567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18052057449651399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18006448774126746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19084160923249374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14904224636592756,0.0,0.0,0.1986605176714364,0.0,0.1291481093774104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16181116723812156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33004765866492275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991706951725796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13557649327531096,0.1410205482191378,0.0,0.0,0.3431733753267041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12389981189398658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20070778141406628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14540487055015267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20931261038281715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14696306393880873,0.15981369641328422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10661779427549237,0.0,0.0,0.1747152570957826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10784611586347667,0.0,0.1466664106011964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,venemous_snake,2020/02/09,"Trying to help my mother sell the house and leave. Where would she start? TL;DR parents divorced 13 years ago, still live in the same house due to my mother raising my brother, she's sick of it now and wants to live in peace.

She hasn't been at this house until the last three years due to being a live-in hospice care worker and hoping my father (our abuser) would sell. Father kept refusing to sell until a few weeks ago where he angrily said to my mother he is okay with it, but will not allow a realtor or any of us) onto the property to inspect it. His room and the garage are totally sealed off from the rest of the house of his own decision. My mother and I can't do anything around the house because he will get mad and angry at us--he doesn't like us fixing or moving anything. We do not have anywhere else to go and can't afford it We are living in a prison and we don't know what the first step is.

We have all the divorce documentation but I have almost zero income due to paying for school and bills, my mother works a minimum wage, full time job, and we don't know who to contact or get help from. We live in Los Angeles County, California.

Who do we reach out to for help?",5.88736128625473,5.009634274590169,6.528360655737708,81.68750945775537,66.90983606557378,9.14703656998739,27.78562421185372,8.139509932561175,1.6123547288776798,929,22,195,10,13,306,132,244,0.099,0.831,0.07,-0.8564,5,0,0,0,3,0,25.0,10,0,0,3,5,5,1,0,15,1,22,1,0,1,2,41,33,17,0,4,7,9,0,1,0,4,1,1,1,0,8,20,0,2,3,0,6,3,8,1,0,3,3,1,24,4,32,25,7,33,1,0,0,0,37,14,0,5,17,132,32,6,0.0,0.11834279084709827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770771673027586,0.0,0.10001651077934287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06792258456241647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643872975743515,0.08891537006876885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0608866018001048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018354554085033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08343785670616087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495882701206826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043675222798528,0.0,0.056764740496327674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20084462176634385,0.0,0.0,0.09920448589787204,0.0,0.5762469930440033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09911659661550634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10978409946431757,0.08141644122975948,0.0,0.1057596811038419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0487968685279508,0.0,0.4409842806542866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061578203409514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11090616018577924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09500981471888922,0.0,0.0,0.10108502270258836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07069636862812298,0.0,0.07976518897918435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0582414824878917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06781272200736825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3604340567846089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05891247057897185,0.0,0.08011860724223435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07271464268260552,0.0,0.0,0.14190535943507296,0.0,0.0,0.12864032910694534
divorce,beautiful_my_agent,2020/02/09,"Just told my spouse it was over I have no idea what to do. I love my family and I don’t want to move out and not see my kids everyday. But our relationship is over and it’s not healthy for any of us to be together. 

I’m sure she’ll say “leave”. I know I don’t have to. Honestly, I have no where to go anyway. 

Don’t know what I’m asking, I’m just lost right now.",-2.5664285714285744,-0.8480443095238073,0.7661904761904772,102.03714285714287,99.23809523809523,5.180952380952381,12.952380952380953,6.816661863887847,-0.7782904761904761,274,5,77,5,12,97,52,84,0.124,0.7440000000000001,0.132,0.3903,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,0,1,14,23,4,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,4,4,0,0,3,0,0,2,7,1,0,0,3,2,12,3,10,18,0,9,0,1,1,1,10,5,0,0,2,49,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16983266040469394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334744199638813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23543388843793794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419337464523953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819275496864802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745025944209339,0.0,0.0,0.2644399962270591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27262215043681043,0.0,0.2254012902726597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2654354978895093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681287127212185,0.0,0.2132777212220943,0.0,0.19860432015491053,0.0,0.0,0.1990114965277514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23537823688349785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386385320169172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004080560172413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14730390007827018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Bigjeff6381,2020/02/09,"Finally It's just about over I finally signed the final divorce decree and after almost a year of hell, depression,  sleepless nights, and weight loss I never thought this day would come. I dreaded the thought of not being married to this woman anymore but I'm actually happy now to see what life will have in store for me and my kids. I'm now a 38 year old man living in his moms house but on the bright side I get to save money and buy another home just for me and my kids. This woman decided she would rather be with someone else and decided to try and destroy me after I tried to give her the world but it's cool I will let karma catch up to her, I've been dating a really cool woman for a few months and I'm excited to see where this goes.

For all the men and women on here that's going through every emotion in the world I would say don't run from the anger and sadness it will get better. I would say work on yourself enjoy life and get out and do things that you always wanted to do but couldn't, be selfish because the person that chose to walk out your life made a selfish decision. The sun will shine again and remember what or who is for you will be yours if they're not yours anymore they weren't meant to be.",6.270608721986675,5.069988429133865,6.617401574803151,82.41920956995763,66.28346456692913,9.547668079951547,30.16838279830406,8.384062270229773,1.9564764385221087,967,27,206,11,13,314,143,254,0.083,0.7809999999999999,0.136,0.9464,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,0,5,1,3,9,17,3,1,14,2,23,4,0,1,2,47,39,19,0,8,11,1,1,0,0,9,3,2,1,9,14,17,1,0,7,0,3,5,6,9,0,0,6,9,23,8,33,17,2,35,2,3,4,0,25,14,1,3,16,139,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.11806410995467265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12114920878865056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006693843588302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12686353870115236,0.0,0.0,0.2399696318034657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0737514593983998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10700158405824282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10421804328759723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07802544982284043,0.0,0.1042043817271537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10106761617862754,0.13609207399788673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101935255161327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3976001425120971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896293319309759,0.11606003509029107,0.06875868138806862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287910028334668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12135802740734955,0.0,0.0,0.13960068538711462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12371557141655776,0.2563662895250433,0.0,0.0,0.10683215455769182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144791284043733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416964125047113,0.09656923816453424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09331125033630418,0.0,0.0,0.11353642124587515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12695362311141267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10563961635785857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775062217706782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370526551629944,0.0,0.0,0.19242458559924827,0.0,0.0,0.19281909234889294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10251037349511093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08037719578003204,0.0,0.0,0.19209748076295807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642820280967884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07136020985748276,0.0,0.0,0.14732738883168153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08807867180832056,0.0,0.0,0.34377767999438913,0.0,0.0,0.15582101363244974
divorce,arithmousike,2020/02/09,"Lurker. Trying to divorce. I've been married to my wife for \~5.5 years. Before marriage, we were on and off for 9 years. I married her and was fully invested/committed to being with her. I fell in to the trap of ""promises"" prior to the marriage that just never happened. She insisted that I go to school during our marriage and she supported me during that time. I've been working two years now and have more than replenished our/her account. But in that two years+, I've missed out on life.  


I'm hassled for pursuing the things I want to pursue (e.g. I'll be given a book from my wife, but scolded for reading it instead of spending time with her). There's no intimacy that is sexual in nature. The intimacy that is here is so one-sided. I've lost all interest physically. We've moved so that she is a 5 min walk from her work and an hour drive from mine. I've suggested counseling and changing things, but it just turns in to a fight. If either of us shares our feelings, it turns in to a fight. I've for the past year just kept my mouth shut. The few times I talk, I get talked over (I don't fight it anymore).  


I don't know how to sit her down and tell her I want a divorce. I don't know if I'm typing this because I want feedback or just to vent. Maybe it depends on what is said.  


I think I definitely want out. I care about her deeply... as a friend and as family. But I think this will destroy that.",1.7188068691528893,3.652278117647061,3.324236831987701,90.29392413174422,79.24221453287197,6.357606048955531,23.160451108548003,7.3871296695380915,0.8643132384980143,1092,36,236,15,27,361,152,289,0.086,0.821,0.092,-0.0633,0,0,0,0,5,0,48.0,4,0,0,3,12,12,4,0,13,0,16,2,1,2,2,39,39,20,0,6,12,2,1,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,18,13,0,1,5,2,2,5,5,6,0,2,8,2,34,6,41,28,4,34,0,2,0,0,31,14,0,4,14,156,52,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303622891952585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08013021486436027,0.0,0.11185359115464724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13402122439816147,0.0,0.13905582859039842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12391861111972992,0.0,0.06646466729285495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10155732915626976,0.0,0.0686767838727626,0.0,0.07470561204292007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11624009723102198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294509877943086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14448208996204684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09284646040087366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14349233437355832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132058393677576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397097013457885,0.0,0.0,0.1013817299305184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08907338275524808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12548313927694416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13148477630590044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250382948393508,0.0,0.0,0.13303361247388906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491669992783791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113077823928617,0.11489239840276448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17465802088760998,0.16845468483839804,0.0,0.0,0.2299472643141797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892453811567161,0.2859579753443895,0.2568135445388581,0.0,0.15811720784048322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101285856735195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19139317254300545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4232448891384757
divorce,slohrd,2020/02/09,"Paralegal typed wrong address of STBX on the last 2 important forms (Request to Enter Default Judgement and Notice of Default Judgement).  (CA, Los Angeles County)   
(flair doesn't fit but...)  In early January, the court mailed my final packet, approving my petition for divorce, along with all the stamped/signed documents (listing the effective termination date – early May). I assumed my STBXH received the same.

The courts online “case information” page lists all the dates and documents received, processed, etc. I thought all was done until yesterday. There is a new entry added by the courts “1/29/20 – Returned Mail (Judgement)”. Since I received my packet, I could only assume X didn’t receive his. I rummaged through all my docs and discovered the paralegal typed his address wrong (transposed 2 numbers) on the Default Judgment and Notice of Default Judgement forms (the 2 forms that are signed/stamped by the courts and note the effective termination date).

I text the paralegal, who apologized and said it should be fine to give him copies of my packet. Although our divorce has been very amicable and we still talk, I’m concerned that this might not be enough for the legal process. At the very least, I’m thinking I should send him the copies via certified mail. 

But do I need to notify the court of the mistake? Should I resubmit the forms to the court (probably costing more money…?). Will this extend the effective termination date?",8.256037449392712,9.70604568421053,7.151272773279352,71.28739498987856,61.79352226720648,10.223582995951418,39.7289979757085,10.270032843473604,4.511696558704454,1152,60,174,25,16,350,144,247,0.044000000000000004,0.878,0.078,0.7509999999999999,1,0,0,0,2,0,48.0,2,0,0,4,2,4,0,0,23,0,18,0,0,3,4,34,25,11,0,6,3,0,0,0,0,6,0,1,2,0,6,10,0,0,8,0,1,6,3,3,0,0,6,1,21,1,21,10,14,24,1,0,0,0,23,5,0,4,13,115,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15161144924657555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19432305968865787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19620678880204195,0.21177717602035187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20801485067374031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182159473454626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15478542448485286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20144293081080306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408007834923792,0.0,0.18339662561343387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4323812935107796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14441965004314966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20473318007039085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806285595312299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570786964760373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15164613496695853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15262612306253742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12167363249691099,0.0,0.15075118631714018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31335772758685737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4152290873795198,0.0,0.0
divorce,impalalala222,2020/02/09,"People who had to continue to live together after the decision to divorce, how did you do it? Just asking for people's individual experiences. If you made the decision to divorce but had to continue living together for financial reasons, children, etc. then how did you handle it?  
I am unsure what path to take moving forward because we have to live together for the foreseeable future. I am hoping someone can provide insight to something I haven't thought of yet, or maybe a workaround that would make the situation better.",6.737050691244239,8.842483258064519,7.735514592933949,63.26612903225811,65.88172043010752,10.475576036866359,39.09216589861751,10.608840637214634,5.115726267281107,425,24,59,12,7,143,64,93,0.026000000000000002,0.89,0.084,0.7514,0,0,1,0,2,0,10.0,1,3,0,1,4,2,0,0,5,0,11,0,0,5,0,16,17,6,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,6,0,7,2,13,10,1,8,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,3,7,50,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19507640249254546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272020698855492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18454987988395505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23271996768318146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041173344163544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072543971097329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5527729742945054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19744669746895616,0.13928750362324835,0.0,0.2096350427860855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217810500615594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893282209583645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21454544727036395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345515635466991,0.0,0.0,0.176803710729035,0.16064281325696214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15689235938852314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656590755774109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14823175308137376,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Jealous-Play,2020/02/09,"My spice is on disability and works full-time but won't help pay for divorce. Ok so he lives in TX and Im in NY. We have been separated for yrs. I'm trying to get this divorce started but he isn't willing to help pay some of the fees. It will be a simple divorce no kids or property. 

He's commiting disability fraud but I'm afraid to turn him in till after the divorce is over. I want it to go smoothly.",-0.1703409090909105,1.8841990113636369,2.7260909090909102,91.1916363636364,87.29545454545455,5.792727272727273,22.43636363636364,7.1686216300943375,0.7518145454545455,315,12,73,5,10,111,62,88,0.145,0.735,0.121,-0.647,0,0,0,0,4,0,8.0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,3,1,9,0,0,0,1,10,16,8,0,1,4,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,0,3,1,3,1,0,0,1,2,4,1,14,11,1,9,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,2,3,42,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925481852984859,0.0,0.20945113063429108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4940523846664844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3980890183256686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32542967823825525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608561971996847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25021608786797905,0.4008682856072748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21737584745980365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26830324582432474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,dadass84,2020/02/09,"Moving to a Shared Custody Agreement Long time lurker, first time poster, so let me give some background into my situation.

I live in Toronto, Ontario. My ex-wife and I split over 2 years ago and our divorce was finalized this past July. We have 2 kids toget. We have a legally binding Separation Agreement in place, here are the custody details:

* Joint Custody - Ex-Wife is the primary caregiver.

* I get 2 Overnight visits per week plus other dates and times as agreed upon.

* Shared Holidays and Shared School Holidays (50/50)


The reason we don’t have a Shared arrangement is because I have a pretty sporadic work schedule due to shift work. She’s been a stay at home mom since my son was born over 5 years ago and still doesn’t work, so my access days are my days off from work which can be any 2 days of the week depending on where I land in my work rotation.

For the past 6 months I’ve been able to take my kids additional days, however my ex has denied every single time I’ve asked. She claims my “extra access” comes in the form of school holidays and right of first refusal situations, and whenever I ask why I can’t take them 2-3 extra days in a month, the answer ranges from “I just simply want to have them” to no explanation at all.

At this point we’ve reached an impasse, our agreement says extra access time as agreed upon but she refuses to agree on anything that isn’t the bar minimum. So I’m at the point where I’m getting a lawyer ready and requesting mediation about the access issue. A lawyer I spoke with suggested I request graduated access, going from to 2 overnights a week to 3, and then eventually going to week on week off.

I know there are a lot of other factors that go into a decision like this, and I’d be happy to fill in those blanks, but I wanted to keep this post short.

My question is, how likely is it an arbitrator or judge would side with my request for shared access based on my current situation. What reasons would this be denied?

Any replies are appreciated, thanks!",5.266116274471028,6.209618254498714,5.867107969151673,79.64646776745107,68.25449871465295,8.760964999011271,29.61449475973897,8.950670267944501,2.3314535495352984,1587,57,302,27,26,515,205,389,0.019,0.8390000000000001,0.141,0.9894,2,0,0,0,1,0,43.0,5,0,2,7,11,12,0,0,23,0,29,1,0,4,1,42,48,21,0,4,4,3,0,2,0,2,0,3,1,2,13,20,1,3,6,4,0,7,5,0,0,2,5,3,35,12,48,37,8,74,0,0,0,0,34,31,0,5,36,183,48,11,0.08876352001313162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573670096146199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207244748794568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07304481382874864,0.0,0.16596381803571109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054109417926798735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07646191283211617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28622563592837463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07478709395028983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09723609744780452,0.0,0.1510044095566091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927505512553554,0.08515005661617786,0.1513390619387524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09449041760492648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903704790821602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09264605340721163,0.0,0.07889709502505826,0.0,0.0,0.04878210923262412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09076671312590304,0.0,0.08673074451967189,0.0,0.07837981439466846,0.07855292198654222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0754635705016505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10395876183992976,0.14170038964220746,0.09434157429059653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16946964730835368,0.0,0.0,0.09273898606153114,0.0,0.16782043463518034,0.0,0.08501091566937745,0.09030441091482676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994354569005818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18252736423376265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580356109558087,0.0,0.07058831382126313,0.0,0.1796668422229101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07342610101176886,0.29932174662137895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09461010197185732,0.07088666174300004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13347824058701954,0.0,0.0,0.08172152347307278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587936116848812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10471004777449533,0.0,0.3560037081077204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0800952705295026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3231044986899045,0.0,0.0,0.1261101157350473,0.0,0.0,0.1143215933242748
divorce,workphonewahoo,2020/02/09,"Divorcing your first Hey peeps 
My husband and I (32f) are divorcing. Obviously. I’m in no rush but this is one of the things I think about. How was dating and sex after divorce? I married my high school sweet heart. He was pretty much my first everything. I have no doubt I’m no where close to dating again. But those that are similar to me how did it go? How did you handle the change of really dating for the first time as an experienced adult ? 😅",0.34820512820513017,2.7915650000000016,2.1877777777777787,91.70807692307692,93.44444444444444,5.88034188034188,16.923076923076927,7.321109707123232,0.3958717948717947,350,9,74,7,13,115,64,90,0.114,0.8,0.086,-0.1754,0,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,2,0,3,6,2,0,1,4,0,8,2,1,3,1,11,12,8,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,4,4,2,10,1,9,8,1,15,0,0,0,1,9,4,0,1,9,53,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26493735945354424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250836110009828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6390845816777622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14233353460725606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29677825894982723,0.0,0.26460865046126997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841057229010657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16970785808829988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547923681726369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16044133302109506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534634784077789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16638437716137733,0.16047489645373195,0.0,0.0,0.1460363597329318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,teabit,2020/02/09,"Married abroad, live in US with green card. How will the divorce order by foreign court gets executed in US? I’m in the process of initiating a divorce. My wife and I are not US citizens, but we have one kid who is a US citizen. I have got a lawyer from the home country where we get marriage licenses and planning to go to court in home country. However, considering a lot of common assets and our kid is in US, I wonder how it works for our cases.

I have tried to get an US lawyers as well, but due to I already have a lawyer in home country working on the case, they are unable to work on it or answer my question about US execution. Any experience or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.",5.830217391304347,5.747749666666671,7.127355072463767,74.68711956521742,66.82608695652173,10.088405797101453,36.09057971014492,9.827888789773867,3.459779710144928,546,26,107,11,8,187,86,138,0.0,0.9279999999999999,0.07200000000000001,0.8621,1,0,0,0,2,0,14.0,11,0,1,4,5,2,0,0,10,0,11,0,0,2,0,18,18,10,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,4,3,6,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,1,1,19,2,21,14,1,13,0,0,1,0,23,9,0,5,2,78,22,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11138034835366574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0686368368938035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09873031066460396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15819752700554054,0.0,0.0573616604825338,0.0,0.08072408884028591,0.11127726341879723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3037273762864093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08912430626424532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08580829670400521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06839375248946299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130663064562633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06852581905901173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8498566227081884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907494814528618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10945583582257153,0.2204378603265993,0.0,0.0,0.07169879556741021,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwrabademployee,2020/02/09,"Those who tried to reconcile but failed... what happened? Just want to know what everyone's been through, maybe feel less anxious about my decision being the right one. Kinda hoping to get insight on whether attempting reconciliation is worth it, especially with a critical and unsupportive spouse when infidelity is involved.",9.344615384615382,12.227098846153845,8.314615384615388,58.60538461538464,60.53846153846153,12.123076923076924,41.846153846153854,11.698219412168324,6.125138461538461,268,15,36,9,4,83,48,52,0.094,0.7829999999999999,0.12300000000000001,0.1612,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,13,10,4,0,2,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,1,1,7,8,1,3,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,2,1,26,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4046307951400542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3422473289001761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18110180212069765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18712933999066328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167290523620245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3557441925353723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19684117841890048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3598304791746781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427056479028857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30587570995032604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24317430624026198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21125828219054124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,MsUneek,2020/02/09,"My divorce just became final!! But now that it's too late, there's one thing I realize that I miss... .... There's no one to scratch the itch on that one spot of my back that I can't reach! 

All else is good.   😁
Welcome to my life, part 2. 🙂",-2.0035309973045803,-0.1830150188679216,0.4987061994609192,104.97264150943396,95.41509433962266,3.7832884097035038,15.118598382749324,5.288315135182226,-1.2266043126684631,176,4,48,1,7,59,40,53,0.064,0.8029999999999999,0.133,0.6707,0,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,1,0,2,2,1,0,1,4,3,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,3,0,1,6,2,4,3,2,5,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,32,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349543638090037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552535476438913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3347226037288329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562865964319864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34468144627340064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2158238460276997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6211597069591936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3308883021918267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029983999648284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,plastic_fangz,2020/02/09,"Is this even real life? I've lost nearly everything in 6 months. What next?! Greetings, folks... fast facts about me/my situation:  


* female, 38 (wife is 50)
* together 14 yrs, married 6
* no kids  

* trial separation (unwanted by me) began July 2019 (with no ground rules or agreements—yikes)
* wife ""said"" relationship over on January 9th this year (didn't actually make any verbal statements,  just cried after I asked her ""so, is it over?"" Very confusing)  


**HOLD on to YOUR BUTTS... this gets crazy...**  


The precipitating event for wife's decision to leave home was a **bad** fight we had while I was drunk. I am the first to admit that in the past 3 years, my alcohol consumption has become an increasing problem. I said some very nasty things that I still don't recall, and she hasn't shared with me. She stated the day she moved out that she needed space and time to figure out what she wanted/needed. She was completely unwilling to engage in a conversation about timeframe, boundaries, contact, nothing.   


Until recently, we owned and operated a small business together. The pressures of work have definitely put a strain on our marriage for the past 4 years as we worked to grow the business. This is where the majority of my drinking issues stemmed from. I suffered extreme burnout in January of 2019.  


Mid 2019, I signed over my ownership percentage to my wife, in order to obtain an SBA loan. For those that don't know, these are government-funded loans for small businesses, and they are **notoriously** difficult to get: the hoops to jump through alone are **INSANITY**. Wife spent the better part of 6 months working to obtain the loan (I believe the stress changed her for the worse). Meanwhile, I no longer owned any part of the company on paper. But I trusted her implicitly, and we had talked—at length—about how she would never ostracize me from/steal my company out from under me. It was my brainchild, and without me, wouldn't exist.   


Back to July 2019... wife moves out. She insists, on behalf of the company, that I take a leave of absence to address my burnout issues. No timeframe for this was agreed upon until ***November***. I have spent 6 months doing absolutely nothing. While we have tried a few times to negotiate my return to work, the terms she insists on are a slap in the face, and she refuses to discuss how we should work on our personal issues to make sure they don't bleed over into work/business. Any requests to engage in discussion about the personal makes her ***furious***. So much so that she insists I have expressed my intention to back out of our verbal agreements to start work together again. I have never said anything even remotely resembling ""I quit.""  


The last attempt to get things off the ground was January 15th. Another disagreement derailed that discussion. She then stopped all communication for 2 weeks: blocked my phone number, blocked me from all chat clients (Skype, WhatsApp). No responses to my emails.   


On January 29th, she suspended/taken away access from my work email address, and removed me from all company productivity software; no advanced notice. Would not respond to emailed questions about what was happening.  


On February 3rd, she sent me an email saying that I no longer have a place (job) in the company, effective immediately.   


I have no idea what happens next, and she still flat-out ***refuses*** to communicate. I have no assurance I will be able to pay my living expenses for March and beyond. No conversation has **ever** been broached about dissolution of marriage: she doesn't want to do it. The days just go by and... nothing...  


The kicker in all this? I don't want to lose my wife. My marriage. I still love her, even though I am grappling with serious grief over the feeling that I just don't know who she is anymore. She's behaved so oddly the past 6 months; almost like she's sustained a traumatic brain injury. It's ***bizarre***.   


I am hesitant to employ an attorney, because my financial future is a **complete unknown**. Additionally, the painfully drawn-out time involved in a back-and-forth is not something I think I can live with/stomach . I simply need concise answers to basic questions about my life and wellbeing from here forward.   


I don't know where to start. I have lost my marriage, my best friend, the business I built from ground-up... my very identity... all in 6 short months. To say that I am devastatingly lost is an understatement.  


**\*\*\*Before the question is asked: no... I have no reason to believe infidelity is an issue.** This woman spends every waking hour at the office, and I have mutual friends/employees who can vouch for this.**\*\*\***",2.6765792119018883,5.698333255729799,3.5160714716525945,82.15862670888623,88.57780458383594,6.671656614394856,26.57057700040209,7.822599999999999,2.2871541535987125,3635,163,617,81,120,1153,388,829,0.11900000000000001,0.8170000000000001,0.064,-0.9878,3,1,3,0,1,0,228.0,9,1,2,22,30,29,2,4,46,0,60,12,4,8,12,92,95,28,1,10,8,7,1,1,1,5,5,5,3,4,32,29,3,6,16,3,8,11,27,17,0,1,21,6,97,12,112,68,16,109,0,6,0,2,88,49,1,7,50,418,129,13,0.06115202851329439,0.0,0.0596755585428112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06535292096128799,0.061234923163847085,0.06333505905292097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12475642914435227,0.06412323383977865,0.0,0.0,0.06064638024494678,0.0,0.0,0.05032290897592947,0.0,0.1143377834857559,0.0,0.057454343789922216,0.1410664057118228,0.05105938948666338,0.037277708989096436,0.06753761102205896,0.052035872205090726,0.1377947903423064,0.06417528114435946,0.054083999753123016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06826588801091378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0646907376974489,0.0,0.12823347686031772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06717263184381289,0.07887599881995827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05990570712262694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12117101428354272,0.055315510809978916,0.05152322148781352,0.0,0.054959500122187886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030920303029190493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05201588421387997,0.0,0.0,0.04724590553520575,0.0,0.09584823282389268,0.0,0.03475410705315531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10815307371326137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061340470630471676,0.0,0.060222429947503174,0.0,0.0,0.06903319674101606,0.0,0.25530731988834376,0.060683952386650475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10082266682159798,0.04984706509085589,0.0,0.12950233707941555,0.0,0.0,0.08638697243855363,0.02987579222332322,0.0,0.10799672306867507,0.0,0.0,0.06841347782327678,0.20026398875873028,0.0,0.0551920932678456,0.0,0.12245836165772273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24405482867464184,0.1299898570979193,0.0449537771998532,0.13603036286420414,0.09432842858485717,0.0,0.13007175215705266,0.0,0.0,0.17603106191350618,0.06962198977530162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06507006987673304,0.0,0.0,0.1324433753164444,0.1751295921365877,0.0,0.10679118510822272,0.06389085425059497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05851423252537655,0.0,0.06147467895947103,0.2055128017022284,0.06504270967586474,0.0,0.06960439633095508,0.0,0.06287447016763326,0.06038025072118874,0.06565439311547666,0.0,0.0,0.1745087483692986,0.09726109507294567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.068737442218499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04707781916733661,0.0,0.0,0.08656744105894637,0.0,0.14650826689203725,0.05112583404369084,0.07004944205084143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05763506316924941,0.0,0.04597871497814777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08125338096598196,0.03918375066063099,0.060081557528504234,0.0,0.10697471879306523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04151821323595068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15137048364595845,0.07213810162313374,0.0,0.04905246863986727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058948373271589374,0.0,0.3561552405985823,0.0,0.06231914141900141,0.0868812930368644,0.0,0.0,0.118139704243653
divorce,stunna351,2020/02/09,"Last name change.. new bf..HELP! Okay I need some serious advice. A little back story.. my (soon to be) ex husband and I have been together since high school. We’ve been married for 7 years and we have a 4 year old son together. As we’ve been separated and have moved on, I have a new boyfriend who is amazing in every way, shape and form. Seriously. I couldn’t ask for anyone better suited for me or my son. We’ve been together close to a year now and I really plan to marry him one day (we’ve known each other since we were 15). 

Tonight, while having casual conversation, he was asking how the divorce was going then said something as to “you’re almost free! Now you won’t be a Turner anymore!” (He said this very jokingly btw). So I responded “no I’m keeping my last name how it is” and he didn’t like that at all. His points were that marriage is a very serious commitment to him, so by me keeping my ex’s last name, I’m still showing that I’m his. Because when you marry you take the last name for a reason. You made a commitment to be with that person for the rest of your life. So when divorce happens, you break ties with that. He expressed that it just makes him feel bad that I plan on keeping a last name from a man I’m no longer with. And how he doesn’t want anyone thinking I’m still with my ex, because I’m with him now. 
For me personally I don’t feel like it’s a big deal and didn’t even think of how he would feel about it. I just knew that my son and I would have the same last name, I’ve established my business with this last name and sitting in the social security office to change a last name is pure hell. Mostly because it takes so damn long. I do see his views and I do understand and think he has every right to feel this way, but for me it’s what I’ve gotten used to. I don’t want my son to ask questions or be confused as to why we have different last names. 

My question to y’all is what do I do?! Am I being too headstrong? Should I take my bfs concerns and just make him happy?? He really doesn’t ask for much, ever. Tell me your views and stories. I just need some outside perspective and insight. Thanks!!!",1.0243672147483809,3.0590289753363216,2.7475306427503727,93.01692625809669,82.11659192825113,5.847852516193324,20.673442949676136,7.0316486544052195,0.3689987643248629,1657,48,371,21,45,547,199,446,0.042,0.8809999999999999,0.077,0.9265,1,0,1,0,2,0,57.0,3,8,0,3,25,18,2,1,17,1,42,1,0,9,5,86,82,33,0,8,7,8,4,2,0,4,1,2,0,3,21,26,0,4,14,3,1,2,10,7,0,1,15,9,51,12,39,57,9,48,1,0,3,0,65,12,2,9,32,226,72,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07497684923565426,0.0,0.0,0.07683112293908667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07609268135999024,0.10729876626846667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869179822785585,0.0,0.0,0.0589984157178847,0.0640639365276552,0.14031641231419298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06785889847450684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623342290396579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04948264200531692,0.07910228697812438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801635051370306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05067753614040688,0.06940406865716503,0.12929180800165124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15518213990359803,0.054813866625958316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04360578790136591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06784953481912427,0.08167744115777785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05142856816453889,0.08106641011002186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20459575689586615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5628855576924082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05419463075019087,0.07496998596931194,0.0769007266421713,0.0,0.06790108273362952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07260105184624101,0.10243189075041248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0815487811163042,0.056403258208991676,0.11378436783754242,0.0,0.14820705248484978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08051220080068068,0.0,0.051992279159041206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339903154594756,0.0,0.0,0.0725319245190477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17190385831400085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09830670976639436,0.07888825359107182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06552453738559326,0.14597011429825815,0.0,0.0,0.07765193712563502,0.06114157714024108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12693892559368095,0.0,0.0,0.07821363175300672,0.0,0.05906828204016135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12254874706116912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17306772608900392,0.0,0.06706288080943418,0.07064001931607355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14749091247323715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07987563313626682,0.0,0.06626759276657751,0.0,0.12661581156048474,0.09051128127603436,0.12180482582119027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06923428757657077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090094828495376,0.0,0.0,0.14822924030531587
divorce,sgarrettUA,2020/02/09,"Custody question My husband has been diagnosed bipolar in the last month. He has changed so much and not for the better. He also isn’t compliant with meds or trying to get better. He abuses alcohol and adderal and I’ve caught him doing cocaine before. I’ve reached the last straw tonight when he’s been gone for two nights and I find out he’s at a strip club and using money from my account to party with.  It’s time to kick him out which will more than likely lead to a divorce.  I’m heartbroken and distraught. We’ve been together for 7 1/2 years and married for 5 1/2. Our kids are 3 and 1. 

HOWEVER, with all that being said, I don’t think he would get hammered drunk or ever touch drugs around our kids. I think he would take care of them and I don’t want to take their daddy away as long as he’s doing what he should be doing for them. Currently, that is. 

So, what if he gets certain time allotted to him (which I’m fine with) but then his decision making and behavior takes a turn for the worst. I still have to let him have the kids? Since he’s diagnosed bipolar does that change things at all?",2.6402526315789494,4.357740431111111,3.555532163742693,90.66326315789476,75.8,6.692397660818712,23.842105263157894,7.475848149327749,0.9332666666666668,867,27,184,11,19,277,133,225,0.085,0.872,0.043,-0.9025,2,0,3,0,2,0,23.0,2,0,3,3,7,8,0,1,8,0,22,7,0,3,4,39,40,21,0,5,5,1,1,1,0,4,6,1,0,3,9,17,2,0,5,2,2,3,4,2,0,1,6,2,17,6,29,27,6,24,0,0,0,0,28,7,0,5,15,114,26,1,0.0,0.1656303144853817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14939482195090187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117913779871584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12444425724336705,0.0,0.0,0.1313389108634597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11895244694180232,0.0,0.0,0.24726881047280405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14252696243124,0.0,0.2957621816447239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837712810524343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12233266527815315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16211399977708002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12644960266542798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277670881201287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191061924457221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22789779873602345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14294649210279106,0.0,0.06829516713551875,0.0,0.0,0.12371126215427453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09331205026062274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552770732545073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11158040724056842,0.0,0.10276298965689294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13118504774436598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565987052418675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13297392581707335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11563714501657105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163783819056476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3153179002554689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09287139888905767,0.17914576325612272,0.0,0.0,0.16302733764370886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09490939322786446,0.1520532355671508,0.13655618570376804,0.0,0.0,0.12073515194505888,0.0,0.0,0.08245277096526375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986080363844028,0.0,0.0,0.09002127638267032
divorce,digitaldougie,2020/02/09,"Out the other side. I joined this sub to help me understand if what I was going through was normal. To reassure myself that things would get better by hearing others stories about getting through a Divorce. 

This post is for anyone wondering if the pain ever goes away.  I believe it does.  
I was with my ex for 15years and married for the final 5 years.  We had one child and she had 2 kids from a previous marriage that I brought up as my own from the ages of 5 and 2. 
My parents also treated her kids as their own grandkids. 

Things started to go wrong 6 months after we married. I caught her texting another guy that worked in a bar where she went regularly with her friends.  
When I say caught I mean I opened the family laptop as she was in the same room on her phone and her FB profile was open.  75 messages. Late 2000’s FB didn’t have any privacy. 
Her chat was open and I could read the conversation as it was happening. While she was in the same room. That was the first time I took off my wedding ring. 
I held on for 5 years through multiple other  txt episodes. 
Here is a list of things that she claimed caused them. 
Unhappiness 
Boredom
My working hours 
Other guy with money 
Other woman called Zoe
An Irish guy 
Me
But never the guy from the bar. 

She smashed her phone up once when I confronted her and accused me of being a controlling stalker. 

I will be as honest as I can be here.  
I  did look at her phone bills. Account was in my name so I received the bills. 
She went missing on numerous occasions and I did use her find my phone to locate her. 
She was texting me claiming to be suicidal. 
Every time I scratched the surface there was something. Every time. 

She went to the bar almost every month with her friends but I was told two things.  
It was her ‘escape’ and never to call or text her when she was out as it was like I was checking up on her and it was controlling. 
I was told he didn’t work there anymore only to see him in a Social Media post her best friend commented on. 

Things finally came to a head when her family had a feud and started bringing up her ‘affair’. 

I couldn’t let it go. All these years of being told I was making her unhappy and controlling her. 
One night while I worked late she would work for a few hours at a local youth group for extra cash. 
My parents took all 3 kids on these nights but she
Didn’t return. Wouldn’t answer her calls and was now 1.5 hours late. Kids were meant to be in bed. 
I was stranded 30 miles away at work with a VERY irate mother on the phone.  
I checked her location. She wasn’t at the youth group. 
She eventually picked up and lied about where she was.  
This was when I told her I had checked her location. She told me I was making her unhappy by spying on her and that I was controlling.  

Eventually after her family had accused her of the affair I pressed the point on that night. I had had enough. 
I told her that I had tried to hold us together for 5 years but she had never been honest with me. 
I wouldn’t back down this time. 
She admitted it. ‘Ok I was with him’

That was the second and last time I took off my wedding ring. 

What happened during the next 7 months was unbelievable. 

I left her that night and went live with my folks as I wanted the least upheaval for the kids. 

This is how hard she tried to make things work. 
Within 24 hours she was single on Facebook. No normal person would do this after 15years. 
5 days she was out with bar guy. 
4 weeks later she brought another guy back to the house while her 2 kids were in and slept with him on the marital bed. 
When I reminded her that it was our bed that we conceived our son in she told me not to be ‘soppy’. 
(Shrug shoulders emoji). 
Over the next few weeks she accused me of sexual abuse. 
Text me to tell me she was killing herself. 
Tell me I was a terrible Dad. 

She left the house after 4 weeks and took everything and I mean everything with her. 
She did leave my TV that she had smashed up. 
Text me every-night for 3 weeks to tell me how much her and bar guy number 1 were in love.  

I am now happily divorced.  I have amazing sane people in my life and have my son 50% of the time. 

I have a partner that shows me love. 
I dont have any trust issues. Funny that? 
Things are good. 

I am proud of myself. 

Despite what was thrown at me I never once verbally abused my ex. 
Didn’t call her one name.  Didn’t take the bait. 

This has truly helped my mental state. 
I see my past with her for what it was and don’t allow myself to dwell.  
Happiness is achievable no matter what you are going through. 
Stay strong and stay calm.",1.9218796268877687,3.991412561346365,2.9566339699930917,92.50591334764587,79.19543973941367,6.053898924094365,21.866560556707135,7.1224541523841385,0.5515123778501625,3543,105,762,43,88,1129,345,921,0.07400000000000001,0.8240000000000001,0.102,0.9824,2,0,1,0,4,0,83.0,6,1,2,17,23,28,3,1,42,1,93,12,3,13,7,99,145,51,2,12,8,9,3,1,4,6,2,4,5,17,50,45,5,6,8,9,8,19,18,8,0,6,82,10,161,20,112,47,14,145,0,1,3,2,152,56,0,5,66,539,211,10,0.0,0.1084492200431482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0458275172818557,0.0,0.0,0.036598637718960915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062244191356160335,0.09597819202281208,0.0,0.0,0.045387058481656826,0.032000287626854286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0859963496942819,0.07038165817404644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051562023837811916,0.04802804761984962,0.04047584785443879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869266873465212,0.05234351691052398,0.0,0.047013754510089815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20531950877639105,0.036540011706736916,0.0,0.0,0.02951494843370172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040049679844042514,0.0,0.05363680156638002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04728797459160102,0.0,0.0,0.04139749666732047,0.1156781719231594,0.0,0.08226212466740622,0.0,0.12943086419952424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10026769240140727,0.0418288194913591,0.0389280937997478,0.0,0.0,0.1060748886685891,0.0,0.047821148665108816,0.0,0.10403830750843564,0.038385913188079775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.317205142181866,0.08094052541583874,0.0487182043292977,0.040996880708882986,0.0,0.04696858568985128,0.0,0.051581021949416335,0.0,0.06135127292646904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18027911567978905,0.1056144383624935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04776727074132689,0.0,0.0,0.05063272275831774,0.0,0.0,0.037304974332843896,0.1548763640985467,0.048459035170729886,0.09944865557765302,0.04679830387516397,0.03232551187957015,0.02235870176173924,0.0,0.040411757189363934,0.0,0.03843147676177317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08261026477607426,0.0,0.09164643956784302,0.0,0.0,0.09970404838136332,0.0,0.0,0.046120839555150464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10958870821685687,0.0,0.03364289354946478,0.0,0.14118863771825627,0.0,0.09734421408366943,0.21473901310583,0.08968090668608704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09747748487981983,0.09303562074342178,0.03480670971409985,0.04869769728996908,0.0,0.10163429883674344,0.0,0.04368832900973407,0.031728021331875064,0.039960651767309764,0.0,0.0,0.043263171189339714,0.0,0.08766135794039491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045777864660729854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036394546486008865,0.0,0.0,0.07293832436253131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04665214334664028,0.0,0.0352325023044522,0.0,0.0,0.06478608441395245,0.0975598245052168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050060006941920455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03440994527943825,0.0,0.12000313980970853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128318588173161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601173160973346,0.0,0.0,0.3061161407792017,0.20338852827235812,0.06214351341607085,0.0,0.044706223850550036,0.04764347855300197,0.05505023733100661,0.03952668055034167,0.0,0.0377613138431195,0.02699366577115445,0.0,0.14684122968824995,0.0,0.0,0.16970023338396506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0496307106964284,0.2332247008769397,0.0,0.0,0.09753145147573818,0.050037367854552185,0.0,0.11788587422927245
divorce,skylar2020,2020/02/09,"I told Him I don’t feel the same and want to Leave So we finally sat down and talked after a year of no talking. I told him I’m unhappy and he knows from previous talks. We have our issues. Anyway, I told him I’m unhappy and don’t feel the same for him now (been feeling this way for years) and I want to seperate and I don’t want counseling ...in so many words.

He kicked, screamed, swore, yelled, blamed,  pushed for who I am seeing. 

Anyway, everything calmed down and we discussed who will live in the house, coparenting etc. then he walked out. 

The next day I felt better like a load was lifted and I finally smiled. He seemed relieved to talk it out too...but since then it seems like nothing. Like he’s nicer like super nice  and acting like we didn’t talk about seperating. Like poof ...we never talked. Now what do I do...",1.0407102092580836,3.411163578313257,2.105320228281549,95.52975586556757,84.90361445783131,5.6634115409004435,18.375396322130626,7.0608816371341465,0.10748674698795167,638,16,141,9,19,201,96,166,0.11800000000000001,0.6920000000000001,0.19,0.8927,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,6,0,0,2,8,12,0,0,6,0,11,0,0,0,1,30,28,13,0,3,0,0,4,6,0,1,0,2,0,0,6,16,0,0,7,0,0,3,6,1,0,0,8,7,20,11,16,19,3,22,0,0,1,0,27,6,0,2,18,81,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059414179783458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07725237776041323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335936028987606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10765637528480762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18170294886761373,0.0,0.11501381751367433,0.2624404941095453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13821752912190235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12502597631779458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06583152340923548,0.0,0.0,0.12683659940397407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3511297765490284,0.0,0.10577366717639536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214447018270132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09238672736451824,0.0,0.12739429337093736,0.0,0.0,0.11493836989668994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09545432545008058,0.21809824721113813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908862416249256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.577679069847485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3433833798173941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21195952992861336,0.09508094188229532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15427714720615107
divorce,MissBoomey,2020/02/09,"My life is broken I’m about to go through with divorce. I’m a student with part time job and 10k in debt so far. I wasted 12 years with wrong person . It hurts so much to lose someone who was my best friend for almost half of my life . I can’t stop crying , I feel like I’m chocking . I have nobody to talk to . I feel so alone in this . So ruined . So done . I don’t know what to do . And it’s also my bday in couple days ....... fml.",-2.0100485829959496,-0.16756212631578649,0.6747368421052649,103.24085020242916,96.57894736842104,2.923076923076924,12.570850202429149,3.1291,-1.7930485829959513,318,5,82,0,13,108,64,95,0.27,0.64,0.09,-0.9562,2,1,0,0,1,0,19.0,0,0,0,2,7,7,0,0,1,0,7,2,0,0,0,10,14,8,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,2,0,0,1,5,5,0,1,3,0,1,1,2,4,0,1,2,2,10,3,15,12,3,9,0,3,0,0,5,4,0,1,5,50,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107749288097434,0.2180037448127604,0.0,0.16832845672837218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22089584857246394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23290273834809236,0.2312129412975533,0.1357483783525796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21540394078819788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21285973209487324,0.15037381199065522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16262374248579406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196260901703857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253334697891866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20887844849524811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156795791451092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29735005818665705,0.10283458610957164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23548402076450314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547340749277238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279397242726277,0.0,0.0,0.18379139938223168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783471546511359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17597873034092146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16918356693008532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273817822181722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301373339189348,0.0,0.1355484009505081
divorce,israel7678,2020/02/09,"Help, I am 16 years old and then my parents are going to divorce and well, normally (teenagers decide who they go with, if their mother or father) but if in any case, I do not want to go with any, can you?",6.297906976744184,4.017855186046514,6.7903488372093035,84.6729651162791,66.90697674418605,9.530232558139538,30.80232558139535,7.1686216300943375,1.638637209302325,155,4,36,1,2,51,36,43,0.031,0.889,0.08,0.2656,1,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,12,8,7,0,4,5,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,6,1,5,8,0,7,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,3,3,25,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4285724103127752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5372543273791652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21121218173919984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3087417596733506,0.0,0.0,0.33065586296959626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3498933432492983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18586056225752792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28332252592775503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029210764871946
divorce,carolworrall,2020/02/09,"Just had my divorce petition Hi everyone I really need some advice urgently. My husband told me we would wait 2 years before petitioning for divorce. Got home from work today to find the petition letter today only 5 months after splitting up. He is citing unreasonable behaviour as the grounds for divorce. I want to go ahead with it but don't agree with the reasons as most of them are lies. He's doing a DIY divorce online so no solicitors are involved. The truth is he started an affair with another married woman only 1 week after asking for a divorce, his thinking being he wouldn't be committing adultery because he had already asked to divorce me. I knew he would never admit to adultery so that's why we initially agreed to 2 year separation with consent. I just need it to be over,  can I state on the D10 form I won't defend against the petition but disagree with the reasons but do agree the marriage has incotreivably broken down and get the petition to get to the next stage.",5.272368220015282,6.9813330320855655,6.278109243697482,73.84220588235296,68.94652406417111,8.765317035905273,33.67799847211612,9.23628265651192,3.3762822001527883,795,38,130,16,14,264,118,187,0.124,0.8290000000000001,0.048,-0.9382,0,0,0,0,6,0,11.0,2,0,1,2,4,1,0,0,13,0,18,0,0,2,3,31,33,8,0,6,5,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,3,8,0,1,6,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,5,0,14,1,28,21,3,20,0,0,0,0,27,5,0,2,12,89,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637332234525331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849015795485633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756964739943711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3132834107052966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10214023273276522,0.0,0.14257732681573848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16010639034359864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15314262419596456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17508158938487312,0.0,0.09522561013250623,0.0,0.1340093809618272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16807175430137902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13374114277073373,0.0,0.0,0.2484804511589181,0.1292290742946602,0.0,0.1781970968382992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548669042092169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10734029664592848,0.3445497692870435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11859659320033546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10736275163771808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3176459049477451,0.16010639034359864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09882853169493212,0.0,0.13440285626077986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511927107355818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219823459858193,0.0,0.0,0.23805313501171785,0.0,0.0,0.21580040214660648
divorce,liliagrace37,2020/02/09,Anyone who divorced under a year of marriage? Has anyone had a short lived marriage? How did you deal with the fallout? I just feel like I’ve made a terrible decision in who I married (6 months). We are so vastly incompatible and I just feel like he has such low self esteem and it’s bringing me down. I am very ambitious and driven and used to be bubbly and extroverted and now it feels like the energy and zest for life is being squeezed out of me. Everything I’m working towards it feels like I’m doing on my own and he’s just flailing through life. I’m from a conservative family but often wonder if I’d be better off with someone else. Then I hear all the horror stories from friends who are enduring dating and wonder if that’s worth it either.  Like how long do you put up with someone who doesn’t have their shit together and constantly lives in self doubt.,4.08015205724508,5.550722453488376,5.2118604651162785,81.26158318425762,71.55813953488372,8.083005366726299,27.76565295169946,8.617729084823388,2.062824150268336,690,25,132,12,13,228,112,172,0.09300000000000001,0.769,0.138,0.6232,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,1,2,1,4,9,11,1,1,7,0,15,3,1,4,1,37,29,17,0,2,7,0,5,5,1,0,2,1,0,2,9,15,0,1,7,0,1,3,1,4,0,0,4,6,12,7,19,22,3,22,0,1,0,0,18,12,1,6,12,88,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19534667670318845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12354298900852967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15095347515132204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14401254942797687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669168736677793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255428768305486,0.0,0.13168573919827725,0.0,0.2825224964657025,0.39917352472969053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079228684061391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15743891642893978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19733201751300053,0.3412233458245669,0.0,0.24669473470774725,0.12361978909780738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321764890365475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11149790383130392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14042536834665725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29145081630371433,0.0,0.14338807819714805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367149618845509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120645879447316,0.0,0.11525751351386575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30297210168912897,0.1016947784359739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08995471396018427
divorce,kenzfrenz,2020/02/09,"he put my stuff in trash bags I moved out last week and he was staying somewhere else. since, he has moved back into the house I moved out of. I got most of the big stuff out of there so he could go ahead and start getting furniture moved in. I had until the 19th to fully be out, but somehow that date got pushed forward to the 12th. he was civil until last week and now he is being hateful and unfair. I have no idea what changed but it’s making me crazy. he hasn’t helped me one bit. I’ve moved everything entirely on my own with the exception of the furniture which a friend helped me with. I installed my new washer and dryer by myself, moved all the smaller things by myself, all while caring for our 3yo son part time. 
today, I showed up to get a load of things and pick up our son. I was crying because I was so overwhelmed and stressed. I was trying to carry boxes and bags out to my car and trying to keep the dogs inside. HE DIDNT LIFT A FINGER. he just sat there watching me. and then, I walk into the living room to see my son after I had composed myself. I see TRASH BAGS filled with my stuff and our sons stuff. I mean, there was food, stray diapers, toys, shoes, clothes, etc. all smashed into eight giant trash bags. he said it’s all for me to “go through”. 
I was genuinely trying to do him a favor by leaving food, sheets, dishes, toys, and clothes for our son because I owned all the furniture and took it. 
just last week he was saying “anything I can do to help,” “I want to be friends”. now, he takes four hours to respond to my texts, won’t answer my calls (even when he has our son), and says things like “your drama is really annoying,” “I don’t have time for this”. 
I’m honestly just so hurt by the situation. I left him because he had been lying to me for six months about using drugs (another story). but the point is, I’m not the bad guy. I left him because he wasn’t a good partner, and he admitted to that and apologized for it. 
I don’t know how to handle this and I hate the thought of dealing with him in this way for the next 15 years.",2.4789026082130943,3.889939917452837,3.5504162042175373,91.81933407325195,75.53301886792453,6.403329633740289,22.376248612652613,6.923569853693429,0.4723936736958931,1591,42,351,15,34,513,204,424,0.091,0.813,0.096,-0.2559,1,0,1,0,0,0,54.0,5,1,0,1,18,14,3,2,20,0,32,6,2,4,5,57,58,29,0,2,8,6,1,1,3,1,1,3,1,2,18,29,3,1,6,4,0,15,8,7,0,4,20,7,50,7,58,33,11,63,0,2,3,0,47,21,0,2,28,232,68,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819243804537586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06429296985839822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06007587369270837,0.06523390352541977,0.19050525251411907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08529591620320162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0797777741400744,0.0,0.07965705333325829,0.0,0.08264942813399448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06237912504407271,0.0,0.0858203168761425,0.0,0.08054689170003616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906040745275872,0.0,0.06526620591024962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08713375546571732,0.051603034135471584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07021671752876238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18894620652892924,0.0,0.1207235289979223,0.0,0.08163766985827285,0.0,0.08880427633040222,0.06553034788023003,0.12497274715531442,0.0,0.0,0.07735934353509698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15427112878866586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15710334562321646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07694068073978637,0.09014961886094347,0.08363800776714272,0.0881973901672095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06944406161748377,0.0,0.0,0.04293729443784007,0.19105508317984626,0.0,0.08272663508404829,0.1697733479543354,0.0,0.0,0.0381695622927651,0.0,0.06898875882136801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05215127606351694,0.0,0.0,0.08510467034462732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06236129851428358,0.4982283894771401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07545684114657837,0.0830903798194823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052941787635286376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08460538262243222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0738565380625037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07854056456248368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05005101753335178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0743179460226934,0.12426158942661167,0.0,0.0,0.12451634915805512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06462857322406337,0.08781953171290653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05529964376049572,0.08327441902497641,0.0,0.0,0.08949575368400445,0.0,0.3577530457513915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058742791233152035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15571499977786224,0.0,0.0,0.06202517783815454,0.0911145309486902,0.0,0.07405653447362644,0.0,0.08680346451074203,0.15913205057940855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06747780401428517,0.0,0.0,0.0460821213208943,0.062014642615038425,0.18800953394316933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05031209177282379
divorce,Eiichirooda123,2020/02/09,Has anyone been in limbo for years? I have a friend who kicked out her husband and they could not meet on the terms of their divorce so the have not lived together for 5 years yet they are not divorced or even legally separated.,3.244333333333333,5.34994626666667,3.4819444444444483,90.13625000000003,75.22222222222223,6.277777777777778,24.583333333333336,7.1686216300943375,0.9066666666666668,182,6,37,2,4,56,38,45,0.0,0.897,0.10300000000000001,0.5574,0,0,0,0,2,0,2.0,0,0,3,0,3,1,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,7,6,3,0,1,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,5,1,6,4,1,7,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,1,4,29,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3260841190066553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37234407592902813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3080210574728476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3603023512742734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.411797306145026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6006307175989668
divorce,fcma321,2020/02/09,Any ideas on finding housing? Any ideas on finding low-cost housing? No kids luckily. Tried to live with friends but I feel like I'm just in the way.,-0.06099999999999639,2.199401566666669,0.91,99.225,100.0,3.733333333333334,26.0,5.6839178017228535,0.6422000000000008,117,6,25,1,5,36,24,30,0.049,0.71,0.24100000000000002,0.7359,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,2,1,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,5,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,10,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113119682268563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157358437582038,0.1635221452042329,0.0,0.0,0.4184105164110906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17684318087294582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5282266178327948,0.0,0.5167876436789728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11182620098020496,0.0,0.20211787471284395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15540421565918844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18168565401912792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ThelmaHorse,2020/02/10,"Divorce settlement help required - England. Can anyone advise on the following 2 settlement options. 

Marriage less than 5 years.
No children.
1 mortgage.

Wife paid £200 or less per month towards household costs, foods, bills etc - this can be proven over years of bank statements.
Deposit paid for by husband.
Wife studies at university at the start of the marriage and then work at a college, husband support her through studies and through work where she built a pension worth £18.
She no longer works in this industry by choice.

After separation in Jan 2018 husband works 25 hours a week and lives in marital home with new partner.
All mortgages payments made by the husband.

House valued at £135,000.
Mortgage remaining is £90,000.

Home improvement loan 1 - £3000 left to pay
Home improvement loan 2 - £3500 left to pay
Home improvements on credit card £1000 roughly left to pay.
Solar panel installation £10,000 left to pay.

Wife wants to sell. Husband does not.

Offer 1.

Well the house wait for the sale at 135,000 as wife refuses to let it go for any less.
Deduct mortgage remaining.
Deduct cost to sell the house estimated at £3,500.
Deduct total debts on the home improvements, solar etc

£135,000
-   90,000
-     3,500
-     3,000
-     3,500
-     1,000
-   10,000

= £24,000

Given the circumstances and investment into the marriage, home and the support the husband gave while the wife accumulated her pension (which he is asking to he either off set or taken into account that she is leaving better off than him) the husband if he has to sell the house will be asking for a 60/40 split.

The wife is paying solicitors who she told incorrect and false information to regarding the assets of the husband - he has none. The husband is self representing.

This would see the settlement as 
Wife - £9,600 
Husband - £14,400


However the husband doesn't want to sell, so he would prefer to buy the wife out.
The above calculations being the same except no cost of sale would be deducted.

£135,000
-   90,000
-     3,500
-     3,000
-     1,000
-   10,000

= £27,500.

The husband still thinks the spilt should be 60/40 when buying the wife out also. 
To buy the Wife out - 11,000
(Plus the £3000 home improvement debt as this is in the wife's name) 


Can anyone tell me if this sounds right ?
I am repeating this information to get some experienced views on the situation and the offers. The husband and wife involved don't use reddit etc.",4.669078341013826,7.281281149769589,4.492652073732722,82.17754953917051,72.7557603686636,7.38147465437788,29.513594470046076,8.317959484511023,2.3371614746543776,1905,81,331,33,40,583,215,434,0.040999999999999995,0.8809999999999999,0.078,0.9597,7,0,0,0,1,0,87.0,0,0,0,6,6,5,0,0,37,0,25,1,0,2,2,44,46,21,0,9,7,25,1,0,1,5,0,1,7,3,10,15,1,3,5,0,30,2,7,0,1,0,7,5,9,5,59,28,12,45,0,0,2,0,59,29,0,6,13,176,19,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0657258398593498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055890765452319545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11493574138832575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15366966535439122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07268874635937626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07192341048486715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27498456321383485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09938224628630704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042939920102883236,0.0,0.04670942393434098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055088989520548345,0.0,0.5770899622999797,0.0,0.0809387795943585,0.37933639584908013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08702539175986629,0.3571906944141872,0.08404295946225028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07257364882974864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07776842185344196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06560180319610216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07937783466076445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07018823743692472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0654933205912391,0.0,0.08574017284409066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09238293257932062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05817320089894661,0.0,0.06563556874663383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18653229431556909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07183607224507735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05266285271394303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07853430658779653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709841796837566,0.0,0.0,0.09695340943100443,0.0,0.0659263824336269,0.0,0.07389702399382313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23933583006624876,0.0,0.0,0.17515232698465344,0.0,0.0,0.10585295757140263
divorce,Euterpe86,2020/02/10,"Just need to vent... So my husband (39M) and I (33F) have been together for 3 years, married 2.  I recently decided that I wanted a divorce because I finally came to grips that he has a major drinking problem that probably stems from major mental health issues and I am not willing to spend the rest of my life in that type of environment.  Things have been rocky from the start but I've known my SBXH for quite some time (15 years actually - we started off friends) and thought he was just going through a rough patch and that things would be okay.  For the past two years, it's been the same cycle week after week of the same thing: the week would start out okay (he's usually found a new lease on life and is ready to change), Wednesday would roll around and things would start to look less optimistic (he's starting to get more and more agitated and starts to drink again), by the time the weekend gets there, he's pitching a fit because he wants to get wasted and I don't.  When he drinks, he gets nasty.  He puts be down, tells me that I'm not likable and doesn't have any friends, that I'm boring, etc.  He tells me that I'm so terrible that my family doesn't even want to talk to me and that his friends and family hate me.  There have been times when he starts to get paranoid about things, like the house getting broken into or the house being infested with bugs.   I mean, it's just crazy stuff that goes on when he drinks.   

We have had many arguments about this and he always said he would change and get better but never does.  I've tried so many times to make the marriage work but I came to the realization that in order for things to work, he would have to be someone different.  I asked for a divorce.  Since then, it's been constant back-and-forth of ""I'm sorry, I'll change, I want to make this work"" to ""We said vows, you promised to stay with me forever, you're just giving up, you're closed minded"" to ""we were so happy together, things were getting better, we're made for each other, I will win you back.""  The whole thing has been a complete mind-fuck.  I really feel like the marriage and relationship in general is extremely unhealthy and toxic.  We don't own property together and we don't have kids.  I just want this to end quickly and amicably so I can move on with my life.

Has anyone else been through a similar situation of wanting to leave and the other person is like trying to convince you that you don't?  Is this a normal response?",4.774405737704917,5.453130866803281,5.059139344262295,85.95297131147542,69.22540983606558,8.395081967213113,27.54508196721311,8.472884824447931,1.6792877049180324,1925,60,403,28,32,608,226,488,0.11900000000000001,0.7809999999999999,0.1,-0.8253,1,0,4,0,2,0,64.0,6,4,0,7,22,18,1,0,24,2,45,8,0,3,1,76,87,32,0,15,11,1,3,3,3,8,4,2,0,2,31,35,4,0,6,5,1,5,9,4,0,1,18,6,35,14,56,57,13,56,0,0,1,0,44,14,0,2,38,249,66,4,0.0,0.0,0.06190692426085796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05278599868564588,0.0,0.0,0.043140424648916806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04435774542272508,0.0650003444052228,0.0,0.05647380539616216,0.05930652913226695,0.0,0.0,0.09756073795704527,0.0,0.07734316572339146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122125760763134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14511372052160335,0.0,0.0,0.20132888724327336,0.0,0.06651416705218663,0.06855459160548605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06627983669755817,0.0,0.0,0.05551554796941422,0.0,0.0,0.24858271387426226,0.0,0.0,0.052994811568036,0.0,0.05618777164959412,0.0,0.07075081028106532,0.041900598207115634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196085358346966,0.0,0.03207646320356836,0.045320549825259626,0.0,0.0694938874538945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06955715250805122,0.14703751923018946,0.05864796515876874,0.2651524090088573,0.06085608746642492,0.03605361936495218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0675315712874336,0.0,0.06263248557596668,0.0,0.06743226722591511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14639925817154614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0662134184476532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0671723195303486,0.0,0.0,0.13442568173136782,0.09297868934442684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05327244811973236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06002713893578196,0.08469151866493524,0.1286335703531396,0.0,0.06910323505973961,0.0,0.0,0.06393118972946,0.0,0.12810980707795655,0.0,0.0,0.06742519412086888,0.0,0.04703891943170186,0.04892776059950232,0.0612693969614397,0.0,0.0,0.062156360505995614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06055932367719598,0.0,0.055392140179795726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683975424245311,0.060702174384040075,0.0,0.06377331670175017,0.0,0.0674747618614421,0.0,0.0,0.04064039277257719,0.0,0.06263796602032036,0.06810931713486296,0.0,0.0,0.12068927527400812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052477066992833804,0.07130764643372299,0.0,0.0,0.05375132146721388,0.0,0.0,0.07101432095742131,0.3143151822595421,0.06761710877961799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726220215464852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050989545141986316,0.11089626834353147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33716630555144683,0.0,0.0,0.050363163694960834,0.14796623555460953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08614129285108386,0.0,0.06197029600164875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06986865738109481,0.0,0.2245063859922628,0.0,0.15265985949932198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0708269334236717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13855217305398065,0.0,0.0,0.27038977559933525,0.0,0.0,0.12255713899292907
divorce,throwELMoaway,2020/02/10,"Tell me you left with your kids, and they are ok Tell me you left the family home, with your kids, and they are ok. Tell me your success with your momma's boy or your daddy's girl being ok when with the other parent. Its toxic, I gotta get out, but my heart breaks for my toddler. I am afraid on opposite nights, he is going to think I abandoned him, or on my nights he is going to hate not being in the family home. I have done 95% of his care....we have never spent a night apart",2.7093758668515946,3.1389470388349534,4.125270457697642,91.69417475728157,73.75728155339806,7.050762829403608,18.59778085991678,6.868970318607317,-0.10952871012482697,367,4,87,3,7,122,65,103,0.087,0.845,0.069,-0.7096,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,7,2,1,1,7,1,1,4,3,10,1,1,0,1,14,17,6,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,4,2,7,0,1,1,0,1,2,2,3,0,0,2,0,21,4,12,12,0,15,0,1,0,0,22,7,0,2,5,57,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17142968246650206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17206534254415362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31701438710683305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08784608038762097,0.0,0.1911153909911476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16600319441484954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992464149554563,0.0,0.0,0.3373157598379229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36536866370545423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12967974175687247,0.0,0.0,0.4733632997339516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18669929591771225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4408846613164718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10773716350347494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,BigJoeEff,2020/02/10,"First time sucks, 2nd time....not so bad! Hey all! I’ve been reading a lot of the posts here and I feel for all of you! Going through a divorce is soul shattering especially when there’s kids involved. Hold strong and keep moving forward, sometimes moving forward is not going backwards. Each day that passes you’re a day closer to getting life back on track, don’t lose sight of that!! So as I hunker down and enter the storm of my second separation/divorce I too will draw strength from our collective support!! Hell, second one has to be easier right?? 😳
Hold strong everyone!!! ❤️",1.9683397683397672,4.728473819819822,2.91655727155727,88.27398648648649,85.57657657657657,5.333590733590733,23.24388674388675,6.868970318607317,0.9789454311454318,458,17,85,6,14,145,84,111,0.12,0.7390000000000001,0.141,0.3688,0,0,0,0,2,0,23.0,1,1,0,5,7,8,2,0,5,0,7,1,0,0,2,12,14,7,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,4,0,3,1,1,0,8,2,4,0,4,1,2,6,4,12,11,4,20,2,1,1,0,6,7,2,1,8,51,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16810316885270524,0.1825362699733106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28198007770490663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088981485760384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105394490246914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859557190014048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11421848869916912,0.0,0.2484904395260389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943170543904787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544158271549598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24457677977181014,0.0,0.1858605659563461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4647110724897238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14814070473183638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20937489166951265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21867640838324764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18669793481906571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162180477578804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480842616761453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549549501243749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Outat60,2020/02/10,"new to this Ok  - 60 years old and husband is 70 and wants to separate after 37 years.  I know we were drifting apart, but we always came back.  We have been arguing a lot lately and not getting along.  

Went to marriage therapy once - he kept lying.  He use to make fun of me in front of people for 35 years.  He knows he has done this and he knows this is verbal abuse.  But now he is saying he only did it 4-5 times during the 37 years.  I can count on one hand right now five.  He humiliated me and I want to know why.

But now he doesn't know if he loves me.  So what is the use?  I can't make him love me and no therapy is going to do that either.  However, a big however, if I answer his questions with a yes or no and stop being condescending and critical and negative and talking like this or talking like that and don't act like this in front of people and....etc. he ""might"" stay with me.  You see where am going?  I can't play by rules.  Who has rules in a marriage?  

But there have been - I have a list of TV shows I can't watch in front of him.  I can't talk about certain subjects.  If I do, I get no response. 

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I was sick last Xmas for two days in bed.  Not one word from him.  nothing. no water, juice nothing.  

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But when my sister in law got sick a few weeks ago he called her to see how she was.  Then she was sick two weeks later and he texts her to see how she is.  WTF!!!!

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When he had it before me, I gave him gatorade, juice, tea, water.  

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 First ten years he went out drinking all the time.  Oh, but that was ok, it was the past he says.

I don't know what to do.  I am crying and hurt and have a lot of anxiety.  Part of me says I'll be happier without him and part of me can't see a life without him.   UGH

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Thanks

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divorce,throwawayakhdka,2020/02/10,"Dear Future Ex-Wife I want to apologize for all the kindness that enabled you to become the selfish monster that you are. Turns out the kindness really was just a weakness that you found out that you could exploit.

Patience when you got cold feet and felt the need to text me on my bachelor party that you went home from work having panic attacks after your coworker kept repeating “only one man for the rest of your life.” I told you it was a big decision and you are justified in being scared. Take your time.

Patience when you didn’t really want to speak about what was causing you to freak out, while you watched the stream of you male friend online.
Patience when you told me sex wasn’t something you really enjoyed, possibly as a result of your sexual assaults, and you wanted to go to therapy. Happily, I decided that we will get you healthy. I love you.
Patience when you had a meltdown and flew to New York because you like to travel alone and needed a mental break. I wasn’t happy about it but you were “sorry not sorry”.

Patience when you shut me out on day 3 of the honeymoon, crying about having gotten married too soon, but still being lovey dovey. Thinking it was a result of the hormones from dropping out of birth control and hitting your period. Little did I know it was because you were simultaneously missing your ex fiancé and messaging another guy obsessively on discord. I figured you missed your ex. Here is was I wrote on the last day before your sudden change of attitude.

“Did you see the sunrise this morning
The one I invited you to
On our romantic honeymoon getaway
Maybe you’ll see through my lens
From your bed
Where you spent the entire 9 days
Thinking about your ex
And wishing you never married me”

Patience when you, on the last day of said honeymoon decided it was a fantastic trip after ignoring me the whole time trying to get your space, saying you wished we took more photos. 

Patience when we moved out with another couple, away from family and friends to make a life in the big city, but you started complaining that you might hate them.

Patience when you started texting me less. Not wanting to touch me anymore. Made me feel worthless. Gave me ugly glances at most of the jokes I would make.

Patience when I realized you’d only be fun and friendly when the roommates were there, and distant when they weren’t. You didn’t want to go out and do anything with me anymore.

Patience when you still wouldn’t explain what was wrong because you didn’t want to hurt me. But the conversation needed to be had.

Patience when you said all those hurtful things - that you didn’t find me sexually attractive. That you weren’t happy being married, and didn’t want to have kids with me. That you didn’t want to share anything - finances or otherwise. That you wanted to be alone...but you spent hours texting. Messaging on discord. Presenting yourself to be happily married on social media but miserable to me.

Patience when you quit that job we were expecting to pay the bills because it was unsafe and you didn’t like it. Your salary was the sole deciding factor on moving out here. 

Patience when you picked up a side job from our roommates company but complained about it every second.

Patience when you decided to rack up more debt on your other credit cards because you needed to buy something ice for yourself and keep the cards open.

Patience when, on your birthday you told me you just wanted to be alone, hated being married, but also wanted to go out. Our roommates left because there was no longer any plan and you then got sad that we weren’t invited.

Patience when you decided you needed to fly out of country to see a friend. Two days notice. To see a friend in a bad mental place. I told you I wasn’t happy with it since I was not invited...but I relented. The next job paid so handsomely that money wasn’t an issue.

Patience when you posted all kinds of depressing shit, and I would reach out and you’d only update me every so often.

Patience when you called me complaining about some guy out there who wouldn’t hang out with you, and crying that people weren’t making time for you. Hating everything about the trip but posting only things that made it seem like it was the most amazing experience.

Patience when you came back and snubbed my romantic gestures. No hug, no kiss. Not even an acknowledgment of the flowers.

Patience when you picked up a bunch more work from our roommates company and ruined the plans I tried to make to spark some life in our relationship. And yet STILL complained about it all. And dropped all of that work. Getting our roommate tons of flack for her vouching first you. 

Patience when I encouraged you to seek therapy but you didn’t put in the effort until your other job started.

Patience when you made Christmas a living hell. Everything sucked, you didn’t have money to buy presents, you felt anxiety over having to share finances, you just wanted Christmas to be over. You didn’t want to spend time with my family, acted coldly toward my parents.

Patience when you treated me like shit. I couldn’t touch you. You wanted divorce. You didn’t see us working out. You didn’t feel safe around me but you continued to text your discord friend. Snubbed me when hanging with our friends at the bar for New Year’s Eve. New Years was all about putting his stream on the bar’s tv. It was for “charity.” I got black out drunk for the first time in my life and you act like I was disgusting for it. You complain about people judging you for your impulsive decisions, your indifference, your facade, your selfishness. Looks like you’re quick to use that gavel the second you have a chance to.. but still, I’ve never once raised my voice at you. Our arguments were discussions, but I let you bowl me over. Weakness.

Patience when you kept going back to our hometown to stay with your mom. And cry about how miserable your life is.

Patience when you’d already decided that we weren’t working out so you removed me from your instagram. Cut everyone off from social media and drive down to see your dad in Mexico. I was supposed to go with you.

Patience when you finally sought therapy, but refused to let me in on what was going on. But all the therapists advice was to “do what makes you happy.” The self love bullshit you began posting reached its peak.

Patience when you spent every dime of your weekly paychecks on clothes, food, and a brand new phone, leaving the account empty and overdrawn after we paid the bills.

Patience when you invited me to that concert - bringing me hope that this newfound happiness and kindness that came along with the therapy might help you interact with others like a normal human again. But then you uninvited me. You wanted to go alone. But you left your location sharing indefinitely. I saw you went to an apartment an hour before the the concert. A “coworkers”. No name.

Patience when you texted me you wished I went with you. That you felt like an awful human. And when you came back you held me like you used to when we were newly engaged. And here my patience began to falter. Mental health issues be damned. Sexual assaults be damned. You are manipulative.

Still patient, when I confronted you on your “cheating” with the discord friend, I gave you the benefit of the doubt. You said you felt nothing for him.  I asked who the coworker was. I remember his name. You said you didn’t go with him to the concert.

Still patient when you started losing yourself to getting high every night.

Still patient when I saw that you went to a different “friend’s” apartment and crashed there. Too hungover from smoking to come back home. I know that’s one of your ex’s. You should never have mentioned that he was the one that recommended the gummies.

Still patient when last night I saw that you went to the same apartment after hanging with your old work friends. Making no mention that you went somewhere else. With your hair tied up and no longer nicely done like it was when you left.

Fuck you. Fuck you for lying. Fuck you for manipulating me. Fuck you for making all of these decisions under the pretense that you’re mentally unhealthy. You are, but this selfishness goes beyond that.

Fuck me for not seeing the red flags. Fuck me for not addressing shit like I should have before we got married. Fuck me for still allowing you to stay here in the same bed with me after we’ve already had the talk about divorce.

I know everything. I’ve read your journal. And I think you really do need help. You don’t listen to a single person who tells you anything that’s not “be selfish.” Self care doesn’t have to be at the cost of everyone else. It doesn’t have to be at the cost of me.

Fuck me for still hoping that you can get the help you need, that meds would benefit you enough to return you back to what I saw when I met you. It hurts.

Fuck me for still loving you. Wanting the best for you. For still desiring intimacy with you even after all the shit I’ve gone through in just a few months. Still wanting to sacrifice my sanity to be the friend to keep you grounded.

Fuck all of this for making me see that I’ll need therapy too. I can’t even see life clearly anymore.",4.361397626821695,6.463744780600461,4.533840726288126,83.83224711316399,72.03695150115473,7.3183467388707495,28.284319503066012,8.104835398774808,1.9725215927371185,7288,283,1323,110,145,2270,553,1732,0.163,0.705,0.132,-0.9972,16,4,2,0,2,0,175.0,19,164,2,16,101,117,28,6,82,1,114,35,6,23,14,243,271,102,0,42,29,7,9,11,11,11,9,11,5,10,72,84,4,9,29,10,21,36,45,59,0,9,107,40,274,58,218,129,28,244,2,12,18,16,274,78,18,13,133,951,346,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02802811947382325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08911898100007823,0.063303506193881,0.022937313224951874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.01950502262588897,0.06015201631538546,0.02194196543993349,0.0,0.08533573173519711,0.0,0.0,0.07080953954976522,0.025533426269828127,0.026814181872381142,0.032630382544036836,0.026948068727136242,0.1102750156458168,0.02394861460925033,0.104907186913644,0.03167746881147528,0.07321985604360316,0.0,0.030100420138552426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029287947892309808,0.0984151092091256,0.02924362897344225,0.0294647364024767,0.030342187039055137,0.02470735683544414,0.0,0.0,0.03216976216547443,0.022900570786180317,0.03173654154662472,0.0945188429683468,0.09248890931961988,0.0,0.02470411803880049,0.0,0.0,0.02996701411604111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029352064147541726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047920946866025715,0.0,0.0,0.02963659722283,0.0,0.05683338465389401,0.0,0.0966646712578486,0.05481454456766255,0.0773337030138471,0.02805690108292274,0.05407844769010139,0.0,0.02900537700478129,0.0,0.1101584479019265,0.031420178595372904,0.026215203469341482,0.04879448724795177,0.034682884493320895,0.03144878253988197,0.24375955027929805,0.2651642622189289,0.07492687802559365,0.0,0.1304069984811775,0.0,0.09175977510270114,0.0,0.0,0.056800191453351086,0.0,0.15266479602864771,0.0,0.08495382636240935,0.0,0.030488060992915823,0.0,0.0,0.057675645252290686,0.030304541348973618,0.0575415924807683,0.056976210622537486,0.05649279320200413,0.0,0.09211534063358344,0.0,0.0,0.05987396904269264,0.11385146616792882,0.050988488460761636,0.0,0.11947326660525785,0.047289307918928006,0.07013997797064928,0.0,0.03037053118821792,0.093490568431863,0.05865941582984096,0.1215554081819504,0.1541405460240017,0.028747310348774112,0.025327093859095103,0.0,0.024086000876627104,0.03208828054820552,0.0,0.0,0.07766098563485639,0.0814199706635854,0.15316585325470933,0.0,0.028815336413153845,0.0,0.03185969195496955,0.0,0.11562049398643807,0.06085500955677482,0.0,0.03359249239016207,0.022894026325881785,0.060969726078740585,0.0,0.17014115095610213,0.06636492931819113,0.11080660273820092,0.03050406884293849,0.05383299829953683,0.028102672328303012,0.027521546336577184,0.032655114332954864,0.030097364801891763,0.03054583097106077,0.07774377434324105,0.087257062317231,0.0,0.033652628620259875,0.03184842240192176,0.0,0.0,0.039769543822126455,0.02504437441902781,0.02996701411604111,0.0,0.0,0.03233510810159357,0.08240946180471173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057667489150543275,0.0,0.030507274035767824,0.028690172256018814,0.0,0.0734987461996655,0.0,0.0,0.030794174664729567,0.032491579668337184,0.0,0.10913416194111464,0.022809403968529943,0.028716096485759006,0.0,0.20570550799842946,0.026111389181622896,0.05984401887278906,0.0,0.1177683283456115,0.02372638626915358,0.0,0.0,0.0584762106597679,0.0,0.0441622416255882,0.0,0.06421522033262704,0.08120623080192561,0.06114326631584325,0.2977755298280619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.021565603042077875,0.02305383499981848,0.025069690907893585,0.0,0.1640041798800636,0.03330248915754586,0.038110637945664536,0.05513559129579,0.0,0.0,0.08362472077661677,0.0,0.0,0.1096290891353251,0.031867213304281904,0.03894694778174617,0.031198226141123032,0.02801854723225458,0.0,0.034501408125228096,0.049544786857249216,0.0,0.0,0.2875996893062385,0.0,0.023007299517268195,0.0,0.0,0.15953329072104416,0.0,0.0320228868907468,0.09895006927970852,0.0,0.0,0.12528681821178275,0.0,0.0,0.061125484204134925,0.03135971311952393,0.0,0.036941063800760426
divorce,laho1116,2020/02/10,"Material change in circumstances? Disclaimer:(34F) not divorced yet, still going through 1 year separation period (we have a 15 month old) before can file but have every intention of doing it as does he (41M). I was completely blindsided by his moving out and taking our son that I basically went with the first lawyer I could find since he sent me a separation/custody agreement almost immediately. It was signed 10/30/19. At the time I had been sober since 8/15/19 and was in a treatment program. I didn't feel like I could ask for more than his proposed 50/50 because of the circumstances. I am now almost 6 months sober and will have passed the 1 year mark by the time I can file. My ideal arrangement would be, for him, Wednesday nights (which is when I have my continuing care group) and every other weekend. Currently he has 2 days (M-TH, somewhere in there but flexible) and I have the other two and we switch weekends. Particularly since telling me he had every intention of filing for divorce (mid-January) his true narcissism has shown. We have FaceTime daily in our agreement (at least 5 minutes) and he always chooses the most inappropriate places as if he is flaunting his social life (which is something he said I didn't allow him to have which is not at all true). This past weekend he called for his FaceTime AT A WEDDING RECEPTION! He couldn't even go to the hall or find a bathroom but right smack in the middle so we could hear the DJ and everything. Yesterday it was in his car outside a grocery store that I know is nowhere near where he lives. He will also do FaceTime from bars and restaurants. The majority of the time our son ignores him. When he does interact with him it's because ex ""stole"" one of the games I play with our son. For example, we do a clap-clap-stretch game, we do a ""pat your tummy like a drum"", we do ""fist bump"". It's so damn annoying that he has no idea how to interact with a child so he copies me. Our son always reaches for me if he is being held by his father and we are together. My ex makes about $151,000/year and I make $65,000 yet, since he pays daycare, I would owe him money! I'm pretty sure this is why he wants 50/50-to get out of paying child support. He doesn't seem to use our son as anything but an object to make himself look good. This past Friday he missed FaceTime and said he was at a wedding rehearsal dinner. He also has ZERO communication with me so I would have been happy to answer the phone if he called earlier but I'm not answering long after our son has been asleep to get reamed out by him. Also, I signed our son up for ""water babies"" and ex knows exactly where and when it is and he has not shown up for any of them. In addition, he told me I cannot have negative feelings towards him and he was indicated he will suppress our son from having any negative feelings. He buys every new toy for him, but I see our son has more fun doing simple things like walking the halls of our building or ""water play"". He interacts with me when his father has him and I FaceTime them. This is a longwinded way to get to my question: what constitutes a material change in circumstances? I REALLY would like to pursue my ideal custody arrangement when I file for divorce so I am just keeping notes right now (like missing the swim classes, etc.) in hopes my lawyer will find something to use. Does anyone have any experience with material changes in circumstances and how you can present them effectively, particularly when a child is to young to say what he wants?",5.11504255319149,6.261581923529412,5.635494367959954,80.42812891113896,68.73529411764707,8.669586983729664,30.350438047559447,8.962127807601751,2.4400491239048816,2788,108,532,49,47,898,301,680,0.047,0.851,0.10300000000000001,0.9928,2,0,2,0,3,0,94.0,19,2,3,4,27,25,2,0,31,0,70,6,1,11,5,105,108,48,0,16,16,14,3,5,0,8,1,4,0,3,21,37,4,4,15,12,6,9,12,5,0,4,19,9,78,20,73,75,7,77,0,2,2,0,112,30,1,11,42,345,99,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15564377130257495,0.0,0.0,0.1864496596252797,0.12933276901255866,0.0,0.0,0.15854973047254128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054341209653339606,0.0,0.0639540880534175,0.0,0.07265447111153969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09475055920390828,0.0,0.06613104887343778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587145469651535,0.0,0.0792371889830428,0.0,0.24664137382770004,0.0,0.08148431040069022,0.0,0.0,0.18615099277029212,0.0,0.0,0.05012073702104276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20403079569146207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08667448216737683,0.05133103971074948,0.0,0.2619181371572526,0.0,0.06984661224309308,0.07602168579710307,0.0,0.0,0.11788744864767685,0.05552070954438871,0.0,0.0,0.2130945205277601,0.06610564665055524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12181104881507845,0.0,0.0883361978838919,0.06518494397962353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08273069874443657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08759218543818707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719005689642078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877325105568838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06907802892373892,0.0,0.0,0.08542195251832625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054893488417432704,0.18984187176360745,0.0,0.06862512598306147,0.06877668962725621,0.06526231765011982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15562917573150076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12406519671098945,0.08260037958922405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07505911569413441,0.0,0.07293170528968934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155043222798626,0.0,0.05266273677494712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14837845670672895,0.0,0.0,0.08119724001855845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07906565770430914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870603076785274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04978720363270011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13273899588368476,0.14785244714476706,0.06180330951696625,0.0,0.0,0.061930017976173236,0.07075021643425305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571516899494158,0.0,0.0,0.07922222237308814,0.0,0.11965997410169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06206452681984077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819180517810936,0.07324691636275535,0.0,0.05843316386383715,0.0,0.06792767881234027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05163141386979316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13595141307219924,0.0,0.0,0.07426148154990844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07591776397138232,0.0,0.0,0.13424427053487986,0.0,0.0,0.09167845414936214,0.061687769644775826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07204400838572418,0.07012708658708425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22083039228642948,0.0,0.0,0.1501407053280098
divorce,-MotherOfPitties-,2020/02/10,"Is there help for me? This may be kinda long, but at this point I dont know where else to turn. So, my husband and I split up almost 4 years ago. I left him after he came home from one of his many month long business trips and confessed to me that he had, over the past 7 months, cheated on me with ""more women than he could count"" and his his drug addiction. I had known before that he was abusing pain killers and had given him an ultimatum after it started getting very out of hand. He had me convinced that he had quit, but only seeing him a couple days a month it was easy to hide it from me. So, after that night I left him. He insisted that he wanted to take care if the divorce since it was his fault, and since I couldn't afford it I agreed, but it never happened. Several times in the last 4 years he was contacted me insisting that we need to ""get this divorce going"" but nothing ever comes of it. I've spoken with lawyers, tried to get help from legal aid, and attempted to file myself but to no avail. The lawyers want almost $3,000 for a simple uncontested divorce with no children or property involved. Legal aid wasn't taking new clients (and now I live in a state with no legal aid available), and when I tried to fill out the paperwork to do it myself he told me something different every time I had to ask him for information. So with him being dishonest I knew I couldn't properly turn in the paperwork. 
Last week I found out that he's in jail in another state and possibly looking at prison for drug trafficking. To say I'm humiliated to be in any way associated with this person is an understatement. I just want a divorce...more than anything. I've tried to save up the money but life happens and I can't seem to get ahead. What can I do?? I feel I'm at the end of my rope. I can't borrow money because he's destroyed my credit, and the only family member I could possibly ask is someone I'm not at all close to. No lawyers in my area accept payment plans, and the only pro bono work available is for victims of abuse. I feel like I MUST be missing something! It cannot be this impossible to divorce a terrible person! Please, any advice will be so greatly appreciated.",5.106734693877549,5.320482077097509,6.111972789115647,80.33421768707484,68.36507936507937,8.891609977324261,30.165532879818592,8.735056554316923,2.225207709750567,1720,61,346,26,27,573,215,441,0.14800000000000002,0.743,0.109,-0.9751,2,0,4,0,6,0,50.0,1,0,0,5,10,14,3,0,18,0,35,6,1,0,4,62,70,25,0,10,10,1,3,1,0,3,5,1,1,4,22,25,0,0,10,0,4,5,13,7,0,1,16,6,45,7,60,41,2,59,1,1,2,0,42,24,0,7,28,219,67,8,0.0,0.20985589928698364,0.0,0.09654239644554387,0.0,0.08653884298522609,0.07850222206506133,0.0,0.17735811926443126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12044633190760687,0.0928618471892762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728765223400771,0.0,0.16558144594741578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05398475261496154,0.0,0.07535719775368271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10128791897932556,0.09029181634588344,0.0,0.0,0.07628574852334871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414143322307583,0.09798886394652666,0.0,0.05711323736121929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09252532021444207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10379050419276227,0.0,0.2054006799173928,0.0,0.07397969208058104,0.0,0.07843700019565944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08010669775120545,0.07461478833795956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08348555631620608,0.0,0.08955619618677399,0.06326657689292722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09710038723208447,0.0,0.0,0.1850737175253109,0.0,0.050330128178404335,0.0,0.0,0.09763662495292423,0.0,0.0,0.15662488621996276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11871847992325665,0.0,0.08883191113595287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04866971776561945,0.14437483152727226,0.0,0.0,0.19243925443471574,0.0,0.0625518501903496,0.04326546067581147,0.0,0.07819923133948807,0.1567438802007732,0.07436726712796926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08978493973635336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120608788647563,0.0,0.0,0.06566538633490478,0.06830217065111291,0.08553084702171307,0.0,0.08310663495669919,0.0,0.08497476184073073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06000987942887179,0.2020593610180114,0.09423303416959368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08453959898499616,0.0,0.1546526293021986,0.0,0.09721120297906638,0.0837168924989352,0.19967396282347985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09419341173260852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07042568198207952,0.0,0.0,0.07057006793361341,0.0806207997873345,0.0,0.10004647786061867,0.0,0.14651386211413395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07503576469865687,0.13635411028848013,0.0,0.0,0.06268252552006896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13317071359589994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10327894581339687,0.0,0.0,0.08462193245033585,0.0,0.1803772708682503,0.1926535525129144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07307046073409296,0.15670320182673694,0.07029402278196985,0.07103669878025354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06447201651347581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140582022617286
divorce,playdatethrowaway1,2020/02/10,"More hidden debt. STBXH has lied/mislead me about finances pretty much our entire marriage.

A few years ago when we bought our current house is when I found out the depths of it, I had to borrow nearly 50k to pay his debts to have the he mortgage approval go through at the last minute. It was a nightmare, a complete mistake on my end, and the beginning of the end of our marriage.

I asked for a divorce last November, but we are still living together. I came across a debt statement that has accrued nearly 30k. He also has multiple high limit credit cards, so I have no idea what the actual number is.

So many times he has tried to convice me to reconcile, it helps to know that I'm correct in standing firm in my decision 

/endrant",6.610996503496505,6.392310265734268,6.646984265734265,79.24432255244757,65.22377622377623,9.108041958041957,34.658216783216794,8.472884824447931,2.7680356643356645,580,24,108,7,8,185,99,143,0.08,0.8340000000000001,0.085,0.1842,5,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,5,0,0,2,7,2,0,0,11,0,11,0,0,0,1,15,19,7,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,1,6,0,8,2,1,1,0,0,5,0,15,1,20,14,3,25,0,0,0,0,14,10,0,0,12,75,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.2048667962313488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860951828450696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678853695549009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19626138374654728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401103218050604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22011341171723972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37188113939328893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301834755875544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11931120113024825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407153622358416,0.22180841642907312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.242237418110708,0.0,0.23699166283956025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11537507841630812,0.3422509575464825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18537692146351045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21284167934918416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543267719367028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21357990981801972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676547875014668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12241509730298555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14253244609008914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135191599973341
divorce,wembembily,2020/02/10,"F#$k you This is the letter I will never write. That you will never read. 

F you for teaching me to not trust.
F you for replacing me so easily. For putting your head on her shoulder and smiling that sunshine smile. 
F you for tearing me in half and never even glancing down to see if I was OK, bleeding at your feet.
F you for taking the last 12 years of my life and leaving me with nothing.
F you for teaching me that love isn't safe.
F you for gaslighting me while planning your exit.
F you for making me feel so worthless.
F you for all your lies, your smooth manipulation. That made me feel like there was something so wrong with me, that I couldn't be loved. 
F you for violating my home, the one place I felt safe.
F you for your pathetic excuse, for turning it back around on me. 
F you for making me so scared. 
F your beautiful smile and your velvet words that begged me to never be apart. 
F your promises.
F your poetry.
F your reassurances. 
F you for saying you tried when all you did was drink.
F you for saying I never loved you. 
I sewed my side to yours. I gave you everything I had.
F you.",0.7504601648351645,3.0768927410714326,2.3092857142857137,93.85109890109892,85.875,5.053296703296704,19.32967032967033,6.490185161304077,0.03192087912087915,850,24,185,9,26,276,108,224,0.154,0.705,0.141,-0.6208,0,0,2,0,0,0,31.0,0,32,0,1,9,15,1,1,3,1,12,9,3,4,7,28,25,11,0,2,2,0,4,1,0,2,2,2,1,0,8,7,1,2,3,2,0,1,8,4,0,2,8,9,56,11,28,12,2,21,0,1,3,3,43,10,0,1,11,131,64,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277394036270668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11033744225864063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405687442148797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09477592999174857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289624692859264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14510898464681213,0.1025115974763559,0.13777601065728534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14726545938171748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14393541684475492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169661402756799,0.0,0.15193861962835994,0.0,0.0,0.10135351718122253,0.070103547674692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3885247473351932,0.13577677075780975,0.1915657004276291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5533541538368743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13768563132803247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09723473130256988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14991989211374848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14425033669424436,0.0,0.0,0.1435320687170093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282231635690684,0.1436617632441561,0.0,0.11434553208296637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104681046028108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788905657789843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09742248905728734,0.15607943718069012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15688732916104856,0.0,0.0924049402808628
divorce,baddduck,2020/02/10,"When a new flame uses old terms of endearment. I'm not the divorcee, but I'm dating one. I have a weird question about pet names.   


How would you feel being called by the same term of endearment by a new partner that your ex used? It seems my beau's ex and I have the same taste in simple, classic pet names (I learned this accidentally, he doesn't know I know) and I've hesitated to use the phrases I want to with him in fear of dredging up old hurts (I'm the first relationship since the D, and we're trying to take our time and be gentle).

Would this make you feel awkward, or uncomfortable?",2.1314876033057857,4.056971074380169,3.4256198347107443,90.09479338842978,77.92561983471073,6.383471074380165,22.570247933884296,7.348242739294969,0.6678363636363649,464,14,102,6,11,151,82,121,0.185,0.804,0.012,-0.9694,0,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,1,3,0,1,3,4,0,2,9,0,7,1,0,5,0,27,21,8,0,3,3,2,2,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,4,5,1,0,7,0,0,0,2,4,0,2,0,3,11,0,13,17,4,13,0,1,0,0,14,3,0,3,10,57,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870021784487291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060787458080877,0.18519797653849907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557752602744079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19605071490344825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012933472541505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12224460180645537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3537474898333054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3843405351726734,0.0,0.12409759140917677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051540643703654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19661936599344787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667199995452112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15149186741802198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376953675026172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10678798675068754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12433722065293255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4745117227306472,0.0,0.0,0.1080182690910286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601889065298873,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Pandalishus,2020/02/10,"When is a lawyer “representing?” In the interests of amity (and our children), my stbxw and I are trying to do as much as we can without having to resort to lawyers doing their dirty work. We agree on pretty much everything (and are working to resolve those places where we’re not on the same page). Of course, we intend to engage lawyers at some point if for no other reason than to be sure we don’t screw up the paperwork, etc. To this end, my wife has been talking to a lawyer and has now requested a paperwork “dump” that includes some assets we agreed to leave out of the settlement (e.g. individual retirement accounts that are effectively equal). To hear her explain it, it’s a _pro forma_ action on the part of the attorney she’s considering and says she’s only requesting “limited scope” work (i.e. unbundled services). My understanding of how lawyers operate, however, is that “advice” constitutes an attorney-client relationship; that there’s a difference between “here’s the QDRO you requested for the joint fund you’re splitting” and “let me see the paperwork for all your retirement accounts, including the ones you’ve agreed not to include in the settlement.” The latter sounds more like “advice” and attorney-client where the lawyer is representing one party rather than simply providing a service. 

I’m not looking for paranoid answers or “my ex screwed me” stories, but I am certainly interested to know if someone has a good sense of where “limited scope” ends and “attorney-client” begins. (Feel free to flesh out the scenario if blind spots are apparent in my account).",12.487169932540958,9.33188658303887,11.24716993254096,60.24902666238361,55.96113074204946,15.237905557340188,46.928686154834566,13.319297830178854,6.177695406360424,1265,60,207,35,11,403,169,283,0.059000000000000004,0.813,0.128,0.9506,2,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,6,2,1,7,9,12,3,0,22,0,19,4,1,4,3,43,28,17,0,4,10,2,1,1,0,0,1,3,0,1,9,15,0,2,8,0,5,1,6,3,0,2,1,7,21,10,39,25,11,21,0,0,3,2,23,15,2,6,6,148,30,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3192089764258184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17064541043243053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893243505767996,0.0,0.18215646960524595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467907506562198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08258471205309015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13699371452620135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840851293881007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08976206669153833,0.0,0.0,0.17294321481599256,0.0,0.1670163075181316,0.0,0.07979493913083079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13715632426214175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24013314114314105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22135368959343724,0.12422006038534167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768708088585357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17064541043243053,0.0,0.15439993557978102,0.0,0.0,0.1661656431545964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16793076087846284,0.0,0.17535562783273198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298868177809338,0.0,0.0,0.13015311029311394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13838924128484084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539368838494445,0.0,0.0,0.13127871600259633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11089055892540356,0.0,0.0,0.1700326124311659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15744458998465827,0.0,0.3567192318983598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,runofthemillwhiteboy,2020/02/10,"Horrible Timing Today was the day I was going to have the talk. I’m miserable, I’ve been to counseling, I don’t see anyway I can get back to where we used to be. However, she gets a text from her mom that her grandmother isn’t doing very well and may not have much time left (as in days at most). 

She has cancer but the prognosis was much longer than what the timeline is now. My dad died from cancer in a similar manner so I know how she feels but she hasn’t talked about it other than saying she’s not okay. I couldn’t bring myself to throw more shit on her plate so we just went to dinner like normal. 

I have no idea what to do now. Every day I stay in this marriage I’m more unhappy because I’m just not in love with her anymore. I had planned to apply for an apartment I looked at after we had the talk and move out this week, but I guess that’s off the table for now.",1.5062234042553193,2.9799515904255363,3.1776063829787238,93.20875,78.30851063829788,6.402127659574468,19.196808510638302,7.1686216300943375,0.13066382978723426,681,14,158,8,16,226,115,188,0.188,0.7859999999999999,0.025,-0.9872,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,1,13,6,1,1,9,1,20,5,1,2,0,25,35,9,1,2,8,2,1,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,8,7,1,0,3,0,0,5,8,2,1,0,7,4,24,4,27,25,5,30,0,1,2,1,20,12,1,3,13,114,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16582642508898374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285734211168792,0.0,0.10192907131805956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3235079700587675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17353657186908275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14088081751761153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08454590848274023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17471963136779914,0.0,0.0950287437849975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841995953424954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18875863953943103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09189370873928546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816730978612851,0.0,0.0,0.08168988488818751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14041347061235146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509126757906907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19583319236689267,0.0,0.17771673439794375,0.24583574937828065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16382934532431592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13297133011932907,0.0,0.0,0.13324394646446994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716376640929727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782225756770189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4031888481400299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19500185744206244,0.0,0.15849460703706647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444149136465068,0.0,0.13796495941234824,0.0,0.0,0.1341249961413227,0.0,0.15034099691432873,0.15500444388901208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,mmoore212,2020/02/10,"25 and looking to move on I’m 25 just turned it yesterday and I feel that I need to figure me out, I also have a three year old daughter and a puppy. And I’m okay with splitting custody and moving out, but I don’t know where to start, I new to this page so all advice will be amazing.",2.8926190476190494,2.853451555555558,4.6001190476190486,90.13446428571429,73.12698412698413,6.934920634920636,25.273809523809533,5.985473137389443,0.6017333333333332,220,6,52,1,4,75,46,63,0.0,0.885,0.115,0.7684,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,1,15,12,8,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,8,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,2,6,2,8,10,2,11,0,0,1,0,1,4,0,0,5,35,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2814072370854359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23029464915851036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14560953707864896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582643161578796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418276747199998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6121467470444548,0.0,0.21353087588434685,0.0,0.2781294331617817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021828232308976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20383120124625792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.313235664224264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854473809574992
divorce,throwawaycdbg,2020/02/10,"Please tell me I’m doing the right thing I am 33(f), hubby same age.  Been together for 10 years, married for 5 and we have a 7 month old son, who is an angel baby and has been sleeping through the night since 3 months (so no excuse of sleep deprivation here!).  Ever since he was born, things have REALLY escalated between us, to depths I never thought possible, and he has resorted to verbal abuse (calling me names, f*ck you, etc), emotional abuse (gaslighting, blocking me on his phone), and lying, especially about alcohol- it’s where most of our fights stem from.  It’s daily (the fighting, not the drinking.  He’s not an alcoholic but has a terrible relationship with alcohol).  And then a few hours later it’s like nothing’s happened.  The worst is, he’ll yell at me in front of the baby after I tell him it is absolute unacceptable.

I’m certain I’m done and so is he (tbh, I don’t think he expected fatherhood to be what he thought it was, and he’s just too immature- I caught him putting a cigarette in the baby’s hand and taking pics and thinking it was so funny- I was mortified, and he was pissed I was).  We are about to start calling realtors so we can sell the house and start our separation (we live in VA so we need to separate a year before divorcing).    The asshole doesn’t even want physical custody of him at all...and in some ways, thank god for that.  I don’t know what he’d call me to his son behind closed doors.  

At the same time, I look at the future and wonder if I should stay for a little longer.  I do still feel guilty on occasion for “breaking up a family,” I wonder how my heart will break when my son asks why other homes have daddies and ours dont.  I wonder if my son will ask why I couldn’t stay with him for just a little longer in the future, that I was too hasty.  Sometimes I rationalize and say, I’ll wait til he’s a year old, but then he’ll go off on a rampage and I wish I could just take my son and run away in that moment and be gone forever. 

No physical abuse, and he’s never been violent or shown any signs of violence like throwing things.  

Please tell me I’m doing the right thing.",4.078955894145949,4.793341888372094,5.285781876503608,83.57569767441862,70.81395348837209,8.907778668805133,27.38572574178027,9.130062681391069,2.018939855653568,1652,54,349,32,29,550,224,430,0.12300000000000001,0.785,0.092,-0.9481,0,0,5,0,6,0,63.0,9,1,0,0,19,11,4,0,25,0,39,9,5,1,4,66,70,33,0,9,10,5,2,2,0,5,3,2,2,0,17,26,4,2,10,1,1,7,11,7,0,0,15,5,45,4,43,45,7,62,1,1,1,0,51,23,1,8,29,223,62,0,0.0,0.299301344288876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269963087244205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057261116123167075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15743739562795409,0.0,0.0791117509718504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716507872502105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579428823186588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06722946536518122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08616918759049295,0.09868561406457367,0.08248715538387465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09471735368615088,0.0,0.0,0.09390891249407222,0.055615470619343035,0.07616668518712319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07937935608527348,0.0,0.042575707106910485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04785466304325839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07446068016831574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09978128920775672,0.0,0.0,0.08446275280347341,0.0,0.08292326683508758,0.09715927683522356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04627591918360273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08227493618586472,0.16878761001025538,0.07435303666877441,0.0,0.07070954592529677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13442050543772832,0.0,0.0,0.06243566329740824,0.12988551708217672,0.0,0.0,0.07901907180555101,0.0,0.0807953156935159,0.0,0.17671435034737873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18485982575300108,0.0,0.09492654355616896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464755094407993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053942775686147366,0.0,0.0,0.09040280779032443,0.0,0.14381827773623285,0.0,0.06696182590471078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13930764248772054,0.0,0.16852817611093746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08327919447573168,0.0,0.11919902634980516,0.17949898033002987,0.06724484614578022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12662077083873832,0.0,0.22079212771741785,0.07752306481392747,0.0,0.0,0.22376366403576176,0.10790812042833407,0.0,0.1336959934046284,0.04909960822912951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10128617510288207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04966527467495352,0.06683664230423474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519607218432149,0.0,0.09682961351538176,0.0,0.2739445875875033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16267244990536842
divorce,notailcat65,2020/02/10,"I get sad when I go out in my backyard I was out with my daughter and dog earlier, playing. Everything reminds me of something good, mostly, and that nothing will ever be the same. I’ll never be comfortable again. My vegetable garden I used to love so much, a pool for my daughter, a deck to sit on and feel the sun warm my skin, her trampoline, a big yard for my dog to run and play, and all the adventures we’ve had back there. It was usually just me and my girl, he chose not to be there usually. (Me 38/f, & 9yo, Stbex addict/alcoholic)",4.1504633204633175,4.369529837837838,5.477168597168597,84.0372972972973,70.44144144144144,9.225740025740027,30.27155727155727,9.23628265651192,2.38910707850708,416,16,90,8,7,140,78,111,0.051,0.8109999999999999,0.138,0.8315,0,0,2,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,0,0,8,8,0,0,6,0,7,3,1,1,3,18,12,8,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,2,9,1,0,1,5,0,2,2,1,0,0,3,3,15,7,12,5,4,15,0,1,0,1,6,5,0,1,7,62,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697037001742024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26439652014797765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680589719884336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19023616303282506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22378844515656104,0.0,0.0,0.22234814247991105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12509342203207036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12925685569066742,0.0,0.14060373783671584,0.207508292042605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22328913819085405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18186826364179146,0.0,0.19081096837000294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373880132838211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904614419816477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21367510344034515,0.5449546846308868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,loonsrva83,2020/02/10,"Tomorrow is the day. Tomorrow is the day we finalize our divorce in court. I’ve been so strong and optimistic for the past couple of weeks, and tonight I fell apart. Maybe it’s the finality of it all? Twelve years of marriage (and 14 years of being together) is a lot to say goodbye to. I also had to leave our home in a state I truly loved. Maybe it’s the fact that I now live states away in the town I grew up in, that I swore I’d never return to. Maybe I’m overwhelmed at the thought that I will never see her again or talk to her? Maybe I still don’t know who I am without her? Maybe it’s the way that these new routines are so less appealing than the ones that we had together? Maybe it’s a combination of these questions and more. I’m so overwhelmed, and I hope to find closure after tomorrow’s court date. Peace to you all.",2.8300663129973493,3.9198204770114975,4.074827586206897,89.68754641909815,74.11494252873564,7.652696728558798,25.453580901856764,8.139509932561175,1.2777352785145897,649,21,147,10,13,213,97,174,0.006999999999999999,0.851,0.142,0.9699,0,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,4,1,0,1,7,5,0,2,12,0,11,1,0,0,5,20,18,10,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,13,7,0,0,4,0,0,2,4,2,0,1,4,2,18,3,23,12,5,35,0,2,1,1,15,9,0,4,21,98,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09911926007068628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11645098126235966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13714346072067626,0.0,0.15986933023232947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2715527161458738,0.11328404268626226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12432755340713375,0.12310595803335073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06811726616524598,0.0,0.0,0.131240505363774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094462450084799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053741258527418,0.111865752787375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7471201520288009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19118899190298985,0.11970744313690207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08398875352608594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11832011012054915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13884745023345565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09856652441553808,0.0,0.0,0.0987686044098894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989831247863398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996227868784528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09839897001113476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983822565547676,0.0994216925936872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11947914567428272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15963381910712302
divorce,Spuddy11,2020/02/10,"Cohabitation? Suggestions on how to move forward honourably. My partner of seven years told me he was leaving me 3 weeks ago. He had told me 1 week before that he was thinking about it, out of the blue. We have an intense connection, were very communicative and have been through a lot together. He has PTSD, but has done a lot of work around it. It lingers, however. He says he needs to leave, he’s not sure why, but needs to find himself before it’s too late. He’s 46(m) and I’m 38(f). My floor is gone. I was blindsided. We were life partners, talked and operated that way. The last 2 weeks have been horrendous; fighting (well, me crying and him getting angry), and also loving. He wanted to keep sleeping in the same bed, which I did for 2 weeks until it was just too painful. 
Last week, I stayed at a friend’s because his PTSD acted up and he became violent. I know it’s his injury. He left for Ireland on February 5 for the rest of the month. His entire family is there. It was actually a traumatic and ongoing event with his dad that triggered this, apparently. 
We just bought a house (a big fixer upper) last year. He does the work. It’s still very much unfinished. His latest idea is to cohabitate until August; I’ll be done my degree and it will give him time to fix up the house for sale. Why would he want to leave just to cohabitate for 6 months?
He still loves me, he says this and I know it. We are best friends. There is a darkness in him that has arisen again. And he thinks this is the only way to try and deal with it. He’s been in therapy for the entirety of our relationship, he’s done so much work. The push/pull is so very confusing. But I know it is him, there’s nothing and no one else. 
I am in an unbelievable amount of pain. I’m trying to take it day by day, but the reality of what is happening feels surreal. I don’t know how I am going to survive this. It’s too painful. Such a shock. My therapist and parents want me to come up with a plan while he’s away. Everyone’s aware long term cohabitation is not viable. Too much pain. We are too, too close. 
He has 2 kids, 12 & 15. They don’t know yet. In fact, only 2 of his friends know at this point. My side knows. I suppose his family knows something at this point. The kids will be devastated. And completely stunned. He wants to tell them after he returns home. The youngest one doesn’t remember a time when I was not around. 
I make more money than he does. I could keep the house and find a roommate I suppose. It’s a good investment, but it also feels like my only safe place, as painful as it is to look around at everything we’ve done together. I think he wants to cohabitate because he doesn’t make enough money to get a place for him, suitable for the kids. Maybe he feels that he has to finish what he started with the house. And I know leaving me is painful for him on some level. 
Any suggestions on what to do before he gets back February 28 would be greatly appreciated. Or the sharing of similar situations. I love him too much to live with him knowing he’s left me. He waivers as well, but seems resolute that this is the direction he must pursue, although it scares him and he has no idea what that direction looks like. 
Sorry for the long post. I’m so very lost.",1.5873403873744607,3.844938978658541,3.1202187948350084,89.87463773314207,81.46951219512195,6.663701578192253,22.75681492109039,7.827709963407826,1.0784912840746053,2534,86,545,46,68,831,283,656,0.11599999999999999,0.7859999999999999,0.099,-0.9202,5,0,1,0,2,0,98.0,6,0,2,8,33,29,2,2,34,0,56,11,1,5,3,94,106,39,0,11,13,2,3,2,5,5,7,2,2,5,37,33,0,3,22,0,5,6,9,12,2,3,22,8,56,17,74,75,14,80,0,1,3,3,84,34,0,6,40,332,93,3,0.0,0.0,0.05208579033459832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047313253559162265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08536710018160618,0.0,0.05783122368917334,0.0,0.036296474748782434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425438021213999,0.0,0.0,0.050147078259970765,0.04104167831620297,0.0,0.06507317172967282,0.0,0.13625324650834664,0.0,0.056013220822240216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04597738596296466,0.05596212379672545,0.0,0.0,0.042615176881160635,0.0,0.05862935687363543,0.0688442443990041,0.05502674227314912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09341672927121998,0.21848248537621676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044587526793016835,0.0,0.0,0.055150102789960666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05100160022694401,0.047969538453586084,0.0,0.10063341369477942,0.0,0.08096321810739067,0.038130737138554686,0.0,0.0,0.0975666103043836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12371096592801355,0.0,0.08365788407703878,0.05120166201447554,0.03033394537795905,0.044767979096002816,0.0,0.05884554948304475,0.0,0.0,0.047198873869190576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05353895246731988,0.0,0.0,0.2463479217327281,0.0,0.12050657587059276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09488337539471436,0.0,0.0,0.2933321677683416,0.1305219680141642,0.0602087350504209,0.22606345853034265,0.11598305118369563,0.0,0.03769997167975618,0.05215214697010966,0.0,0.04713064118656929,0.09446946535653256,0.08964223619584784,0.0,0.05826454685282058,0.09075414356205963,0.14451764851170734,0.0,0.07125575591048433,0.0,0.053621836311509616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08520599687307012,0.05672862230161936,0.15694552819644206,0.07915299699793972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051214250340173184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07233585411429075,0.12178108504908615,0.34076524118923,0.0,0.05926604042825225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11152993688052387,0.0,0.1009122661191554,0.0,0.05111799503862651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247838150528816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05730421361544109,0.0604628778750829,0.0,0.0,0.08489105304391234,0.05343716287698734,0.0,0.0,0.04859011938947759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05999514861617662,0.05341302355608603,0.0,0.0,0.04109028014879668,0.0,0.05974835733328121,0.03777872964158579,0.0568900909385625,0.08524985279246336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05030481305007385,0.0,0.040130964278918414,0.0429003829415128,0.04665164560180398,0.0,0.061038366249423374,0.06197188180515498,0.0,0.10260062936664358,0.0,0.0,0.0622461737012031,0.0,0.0,0.10200320045388804,0.0,0.07247553278025844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17615813389494528,0.15740824753164884,0.08473235116377902,0.2140689303425352,0.0,0.09598012994437012,0.0,0.09632432751267048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165717651499523,0.0,0.0,0.07583139435335964,0.0,0.0,0.06874282666341444
divorce,bigtone86,2020/02/10,"My wife doesn't understand the magnitude of divorce. My wife and I have been seperated for a little over 3 months now ( not legally). We've been married 6 years, together 8+. I'm 33 and she's 30. We have had brief separations over the years but have always come back to each other. Somewhere we had a breakdown in our marriage and I can see a little more clearly why now.

I struggle every day still thinking about her and missing her. Though I've gotten better at dealing with it, it's still hard. We didn't talk for a while after we seperated. She would only talk to me when she wanted and it killed me. Finally I started to pull away and she contacted me more.

Well we finally met up last week so that we can get out taxes done. We had dinner and it was nice. Afterwards, I told her we need to talk about things and what's going on. That unfortunately got us nowhere. I am still a little indecisive on what is going to happen between us whether it be divorce or reconciliation. But I am prepared to go either direction. As I tried to talk to her about the options,  she was all over the board. She got defensive and said she felt like I was attacking her. She cried and said that she misses me a lot and always thinks about me coming back home. And she then said it's just a piece if paper and we need to live our lives and she needs to find herself. 


With all that confusion aside, I tried to help her understand what divorce entails here in NY. I in no way was trying to attack her and even spoke calmly and rationally.  I was trying to explain that we have a house to figure out,  bills, and debt. And that if we do decide to get a divorce, that I can't simply just let the house go.

I accept my part of the fault in our marriage breaking down. But I'm not sure she accepts hers completely. And she has this misconception that divorce is a couple hour process where we go in and sign some papers and that's it. She doesn't realize the cost and length if process this can be.

Idk what to do!",2.5827756114852853,4.419475062034742,3.8921347040056737,87.6661141439206,76.29528535980148,6.789337114498405,24.169372562920948,7.6583078777640585,1.1107841049273317,1562,51,325,22,35,512,198,403,0.124,0.802,0.07400000000000001,-0.9637,1,0,0,0,5,0,41.0,17,0,0,1,20,18,4,3,17,0,33,1,0,0,4,82,68,36,1,8,13,2,2,1,0,1,0,4,1,0,24,41,1,1,12,0,4,9,7,10,1,0,22,7,62,8,45,42,10,53,0,2,1,0,63,20,0,9,23,242,86,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474609652692755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016129630675584,0.08325185856607484,0.13627098993810305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07836819988055284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15265905676829758,0.09290572805118147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09804509907440542,0.09733374496834883,0.05714601425113538,0.0913528509343454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09067862776276887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0585259615317416,0.0,0.07465760924632442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507933924180043,0.1941354900812423,0.08098778556671808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09258996502265716,0.0,0.2517950614455557,0.0,0.14173876236281818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07835738607671679,0.0,0.07937700906049297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059393305816824365,0.0,0.08888289115226546,0.0,0.08726284019232501,0.20448770945156472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980336558208826,0.0,0.0,0.07222884361975374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09060956166622963,0.0,0.04329029042294647,0.2664310054510018,0.1564882186695507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07533291456129437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07072752637635309,0.0,0.0,0.1971092137310075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06739177382691489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09595581832919864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25286473884211186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07061056760505388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06271849858574619,0.0,0.2122917904807062,0.0,0.0,0.09263424072053976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08351372256478151,0.0,0.0,0.2848849214753319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05886843825881321,0.11355521107385393,0.08705871479590169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08467049638914513,0.0,0.2406410508402176,0.0,0.0,0.1844919302826676,0.2131734469475768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052264377568330016,0.07033436403301664,0.07107746624789325,0.0,0.07967088493030428,0.0,0.07995659536717534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06294588574877648,0.0,0.0,0.11412365947116528
divorce,CrumpleBeast,2020/02/10,"Dating After Divorce How long did you wait after divorce to start dating? It’s been 18 months since separating and 12 since divorce was final. If I’m honest, I’ve had a few girlfriends since separating, but felt like something was missing.",6.670151515151512,8.106679045454545,6.757272727272728,72.73924242424245,65.36363636363636,7.684848484848485,32.84848484848485,7.793537801064563,2.5854484848484853,194,8,30,2,3,62,35,44,0.062,0.8190000000000001,0.11900000000000001,0.3818,0,0,1,0,3,0,5.0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,1,0,6,10,4,0,1,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,1,1,2,3,4,1,8,0,1,0,0,5,0,0,1,9,16,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890646393879804,0.32979631678411003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14708262078229498,0.0,0.0,0.26642846662678465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403030757993899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7471193817449782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23177055765039076,0.0,0.0,0.2130916899239029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Here-Is-Your-Answer,2020/02/10,"Thirty days after divorce. It gets better...

I LOVED my wife. And I pleaded with her with minutes to spare before our hearing. Sadly, it was over long before we got there. That was a hard lesson to learn.


It gets better. You’ll soon rationalize your behaviors and understand that maybe it wasn’t your fault.
Be proud of the person you are and who you’ve become. Pain is relative and will last longer in some than others, but do your best to appreciate who and what you are. 
Godspeed, friends, it’s not the end of your world. Every day is a new and better day.",1.9948776758409783,4.515228357798168,3.000206422018348,89.73101299694191,81.93577981651377,5.468195718654433,19.175076452599388,6.816661863887847,0.26024709480122343,437,11,86,5,12,139,76,109,0.059000000000000004,0.742,0.19899999999999998,0.9641,0,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,2,7,0,6,2,10,0,0,4,0,11,2,0,0,0,15,17,7,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,2,1,1,0,1,11,9,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,4,2,13,7,11,10,2,12,0,1,0,1,18,3,0,1,9,61,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20480852532665347,0.3155986742536669,0.0,0.1946122241325164,0.492030917243415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3587884607742384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16424849922829685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562447183622032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14327371214281467,0.0,0.1937738584743596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483166500370896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16612155881085044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090090666199662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15116175622180994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16411226221028805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16737061114267948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863036024971659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17910314298096808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19732568050124236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16192270357887756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930539296537532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,-katalyzer-,2020/02/10,"[TX] I just filed my original answer. He’s in Texas and I’m, well, not. Haven’t lawyered up yet but in the process of making that happen. My response to the petition he had me served with has a deadline of tomorrow morning. So I’m glad I got something on the books but I know there’s more to come. 

So, lovely internet people, what am I to expect over the next few months?  And I mean in terms of unexpected emotions (which are the worst) and also curveballs I need to be on the lookout for. 

We disagree on some significant financial divisions (ie I disagree that that he singlehandedly spent 70% of the money we got from selling our first house on things that only benefited him and I haven’t seen a penny of that money) but other than that we have a good understanding as to who gets what. 

No kids. We have property.",2.0575301424917782,4.4849148260869605,3.714709535988309,85.298129338692,80.8633540372671,6.769601753744976,24.377420533430772,7.928766900206844,1.5046935330654008,641,24,127,12,17,213,104,161,0.059000000000000004,0.8240000000000001,0.11800000000000001,0.866,0,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,5,0,0,1,7,6,0,0,10,0,9,1,0,2,0,24,24,11,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,12,10,0,0,4,1,4,1,4,1,1,1,5,1,17,5,24,18,5,17,0,0,1,1,12,9,0,1,7,93,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18812099565402549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20263805626575498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646128489670943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20009465436271898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229029638928164,0.0,0.0,0.19730778679473693,0.37628514037405997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080215710064392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714348748819643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292815132306063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123128923575545,0.0,0.15702423673105864,0.0,0.0,0.25624484982567985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877659769789096,0.0,0.0,0.17442715721367438,0.0,0.0,0.2501799467947304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17891028997138886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16308549539242134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18109891039639694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15628271465442178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448926840019664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21150862064807616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ihopeyouseethislater,2020/02/10,"I need help helping a friend through divorce My best friend's parents are divorcing.

She doesn't know it yet.

All she knows is that her dad is going back to England (we live in the US, but he was born there. he moved here to start their family) for rehab for his alcohol addiction and that they have to move because they can't pay for their house with only one income.

She's absolutely devasted about all of this, as she has been putting off accepting her dad's problem for a long long time and she's never moved before, she loves her home.

(more backstory is that we are best best best friends and she's over at my house 2-5 times a week)

How do I help her? What do I need to know to be there for her the best I can?",3.685400000000001,4.2173534066666685,4.341333333333335,90.654,71.6,8.133333333333333,25.666666666666664,8.238735603445708,1.214466666666666,561,16,130,8,10,179,94,150,0.02,0.696,0.284,0.9935,2,0,1,0,1,0,15.0,3,0,4,5,7,11,0,0,5,0,15,4,0,1,3,18,23,6,0,3,1,3,0,0,3,0,3,0,1,0,6,6,1,0,4,0,1,5,3,1,0,1,2,0,26,10,19,20,8,19,0,0,0,1,34,4,0,0,10,91,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12418246520489284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217388253938073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08759240485494753,0.0,0.06944057647236541,0.0,0.096931948372169,0.0,0.5977256433923971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073874543625638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26402772637797195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06473963379185395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290613354086893,0.0,0.11426446949602086,0.0,0.0,0.2628816337545963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18781154463169414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005876556041672,0.2016196216974149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10281132819500163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3632158811749999,0.0,0.16893074657204754,0.08785706842366231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719069588591776,0.08663630519777464,0.0,0.0,0.12648739574793869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10899977891851312,0.0,0.1145144715478056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08062852001753952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13284768730704274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370238440172643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913744914082922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,hharr2000,2020/02/10,"Guilt amidst peace I have posted on this before , dont mean to sound repetitive so if anyone has read my post before forgive me .

I have been separated 5mos from my previously abusive husband, abusive (verbally, emotionally), for the entire marriage. It took me a year or so to work up the courage to file,  during the time he got some medication,  seemed to help tremendously!  But it was to late for me . Since I have filed  he has done a complete 360 as a dad/person. Been much better to divorce than to marry ! Couldn't ask for better , like a different person.  I'm not sure if he is hoping for reconciliation or just trying to be a better person or if it's fake!  No matter which, I'm tremendously soft hearted, so this plays on my guilt.   I do not wish to reconcile , I feel so at peace with him not around, but at the same time feel guilty.   I did not walk away after 2 or 3 years, it was 15!!  In that time frame you can imagine how abuse can take its tole in ways you cant even imagine !  Not sure what I'm looking for,  encouragement , advice , greatly appreciated!",4.184823717948717,5.387022322115384,5.362230769230768,81.31610256410258,70.97115384615384,8.046666666666667,26.36666666666667,8.447377352677275,1.6801412820512818,825,26,165,13,15,274,130,208,0.129,0.727,0.145,0.3825,1,0,0,0,2,0,32.0,0,2,0,4,8,15,0,2,9,0,19,2,1,1,2,34,33,15,0,6,15,1,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,2,10,2,0,0,8,2,0,2,9,3,0,0,8,5,15,12,28,23,3,22,0,0,1,0,15,9,0,10,9,106,25,2,0.0,0.4260268850464295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171212368035462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380563027768168,0.0,0.0,0.10669665038881394,0.11204854994647696,0.0,0.11260802358634416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039761082654524,0.0,0.0,0.3180068860648154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256660283132365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12522330511178253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226536107393072,0.14046954870421885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13482110896169322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0791633120280327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12120490751888915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958592526951437,0.1321409193529743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14202913765087768,0.08033649815737975,0.0,0.0,0.11904338182094727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352020275540914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058555257852145326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10064828698038444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305575861265784,0.0,0.12074163089608167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881074548814925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3139591412474648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22957654127543325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11988775992873807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10911178677066086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09914556370138396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259244514738217,0.0,0.0901162885031024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096658122323728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331636765415429,0.08137389841978962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09513557847689837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13782770914116788,0.0,0.0,0.0872561043434109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543657998612631
divorce,OhYeahItsZ,2020/02/11,"Do not date for a long while. From my own experience, it fucking killed me when my parents got divorced. It wasn’t any better when my dad and brother moved away to Nevada, from Wisconsin. My mother then had this guy, (a Gary) over. His name was Cort, and he is a real dumb piece of shit. It pissed me off I had to live with him, every weekend I had to because he would visit from Michigan. Finally, I was able to move out to my dads and brother for the second semester of my sixth grade. It got worse. My dad started going out with a woman, and beforehand he hand not promised to go out with a woman for a year and a half or two. It was 6 months. I hate him and hate my mom now. Especially don’t hide dating from your kids though. My mom said that Gary, (Cort) was just her friend and was visiting. He gave me a knife and some MRE’s ( he was in the military.) I found my mom and him in bed together one night when I walked in to ask my mom if she could help me with the dog who had taken a shit on our floor.",1.8393537696768871,3.06596435211268,3.367832090582713,93.23314001657002,76.84037558685446,6.701905550952778,21.449599558133112,7.285733465282438,0.3850350179508424,769,19,183,9,17,254,123,213,0.15,0.797,0.053,-0.9722,1,0,0,0,1,0,29.0,1,1,0,1,6,11,8,0,12,0,16,5,4,0,0,27,29,17,1,3,5,11,1,0,1,1,0,1,1,4,8,16,0,0,1,1,0,7,4,8,0,4,17,2,29,3,30,10,3,33,0,0,0,1,38,11,5,3,15,123,37,1,0.12602224900925327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569945081334931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11781379107052425,0.0,0.1184020513429532,0.0,0.0,0.07682199329981489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11145643815924626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10061851131015737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10617918008532712,0.0,0.0,0.12327394130471347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380512138707703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13817689136330846,0.09736447697284406,0.11650553851358818,0.0,0.0,0.14324269659165342,0.0,0.20158300976847834,0.0,0.0,0.12478183970892555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488417608596785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08447005707590317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13942494677916487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112799547098028,0.11152572468428422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5903829397187994,0.10058975683679884,0.2678834134882359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11826334371391199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539593741010926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13993279379709878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14344090915400154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987601761244293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587200552392366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891991964817054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12381621980168447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231054255330642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284274381223658,0.08952258994120964,0.0,0.0,0.08115419656022524
divorce,taylorhalpert,2020/02/11,"I don’t think I can do this I’ve been married two years. He cheated while I was pregnant and we’ve been trying to reconcile but now I’m at the point where it seems like he’s never going to change. He hasn’t cheated again, but he won’t take marriage counseling seriously. 

Now I’m living at my parents’ house with my daughter and feel like I’m starting over and I’m scared. My husband had a plan for our finances and I was able to be a stay at home mom. Now I’m getting a job and working - which I love but I did enjoy staying at home.

It feels like my whole life is going in a totally different direction (which of course it will ) but I’m scared of failing. 

My job barely pays $35k and I have no idea how I’m going to afford daycare and a place - I don’t want to live with my parents forever. 

I’m also working on my masters  which gives me hope that I will be able to get that great paying job eventually, but right now I really can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. 

We haven’t started the divorce process just separated for a month now, and now it’s all really setting in and I’m scared.",2.3343735224586304,3.4506888510638305,4.214007092198583,88.10361111111109,75.38297872340425,7.094562647754137,26.247044917257682,7.594959193182576,1.266825059101655,860,31,191,11,18,293,124,235,0.114,0.759,0.128,0.6542,7,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,2,0,0,5,11,14,2,3,11,0,20,2,0,1,3,30,46,17,0,2,6,5,2,3,0,3,1,0,2,0,10,12,0,0,6,0,3,3,8,7,0,1,6,4,20,7,22,35,3,33,0,1,1,1,15,13,0,2,17,115,30,9,0.2304209000913473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09213375527713608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12187737978780913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12037039900341714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10204226246718716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650773045957727,0.16461273706553134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12038541002579617,0.11052036177376844,0.1964302613604586,0.0,0.0,0.12701992790397346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311309501634503,0.11442997256550835,0.0,0.13293739090158707,0.0,0.13005857463738826,0.0,0.0,0.3429857832187678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813765480450519,0.16885801916310025,0.0,0.2034658762872451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10398192928250792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13493308665538975,0.09195988205464847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888574015741765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558551410763738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12037039900341714,0.0,0.10891111460158028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14761352886287155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09838909483980107,0.0,0.0,0.34603727736369605,0.0,0.09180781233915043,0.10488326671969013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16309309905451974,0.2455980210210728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08662392031692863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07382220439518761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07822033296845142,0.0,0.1125438689614807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06795410843677052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286283530736266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16774915956617595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07419175250643317
divorce,plantsanddogz,2020/02/11,"How do you get through it? Heartbroken I don’t know how I’m ever going to get past this. 

Two weeks ago my (26M) STBXH told me (26F) he didn’t feel connected to our marriage. Then a few days later his mind was made up to divorce and he wants out. He’s staying with his parents. We have been married almost 4 years. 

We have been to two marriage counseling sessions and he has made it very clear he doesn’t want to work on anything or try. Apparently he’s already looking into how to split our assets (just joint accounts, no kids, renters). 

I’m so blindsided. I didn’t know anything was seriously wrong. I was planning a future. 

I don’t know how I can trust anyone again? 

In my mind there’s nothing we can’t work through- I love him and married him. Fuck. How do you get through this? I can’t even think about the anxiety of trying to find a roommate and bills and a new place to live. This feels like a bad nightmare and I just want to wake up. I just want to grab him by the shoulders and shake him until he wakes up. I guess I’m just venting. I don’t know what to do.",0.730952380952381,2.8685768571428567,2.2205357142857167,95.76613095238098,84.0,4.983333333333333,22.72619047619048,6.21433560688645,0.2828101190476193,832,30,188,7,24,269,126,224,0.10300000000000001,0.812,0.085,-0.6953,3,0,0,0,1,0,29.0,5,2,0,3,15,8,1,1,7,0,20,5,3,7,2,43,45,16,0,4,5,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,13,0,0,8,0,2,2,9,5,0,2,10,4,27,3,26,35,1,23,0,0,1,2,27,8,1,3,13,113,33,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192745981900552,0.0,0.1347370676557192,0.0,0.14848442649874027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10293395581044862,0.0,0.0,0.09408375523517667,0.0,0.22145406055887765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11234753079246076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08677663202892365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08887209186033439,0.12171240425128928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360697701875794,0.09612588458336943,0.0,0.0,0.12298053257180296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243936261064322,0.21089778778882376,0.0,0.07647052092815765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14822714106866094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29579091535556856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06573661613473991,0.0,0.11881424055816407,0.0,0.1129920360449112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214408448720144,0.2546377681408813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717237230495765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12995374070959342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12910883677214635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494070398172067,0.0,0.12844765963091898,0.0,0.0,0.14058099376903474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14341737731495985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08621720075715343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12857275533824614,0.0,0.18270757981515906,0.0,0.2628807260291266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11102169612979776,0.3174553270180237,0.0,0.10793164168958873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19591480755217835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14711441111827794,0.0,0.08664879723896698
divorce,lilyfreelily28,2020/02/11,"My ex finally got his act in gear and took half my 401k. Just had to share cause I'm livid. The law is he gets half my 401(k).  Despite the most drawn-out marital argument you've ever seen - for three YEARS we fought over him not signing up for a 401(k).  I actually signed the enrollment paperwork, dated it - and it was still in his car door that day next year.  But you can bet when we got divorced and he learned he was entitled to half mine, he took it.  

Our divorce was finalized 10/2019 and I just got the email that the money transfer will happen soon, as the last bit of paperwork has been submitted.  I will be getting half of his $4500 and he will be getting half of my $48,000.  We are 40 years old - I don't have enough as it is.

Insult to injury - he's life insurance 'uninsurable' due to his alcoholism (except high risk that wouldn't cover anything), so I'm the only one covering that for our two little kids. And he's given me full custody and moved across the country and is rehabbing with an uncle. And I'm glad he's rehabbing, but I'm angry as can be that he thinks it's morally okay to take this money. His alcoholism has affected us enough - is stealing my future retirement really necessary? 

Rant over. Thanks for listening.",3.3493902439024414,5.050209914634152,4.460658536585368,84.9895243902439,73.83739837398375,8.497235772357724,26.527642276422768,9.120678840339163,2.138714471544716,973,35,197,22,20,318,147,246,0.105,0.8490000000000001,0.045,-0.9319,0,0,2,0,2,0,36.0,6,1,0,0,7,8,2,1,10,1,23,5,0,2,1,30,43,16,0,1,6,1,0,0,0,4,5,1,1,1,11,13,2,0,2,0,3,5,3,4,0,8,13,2,24,4,23,23,5,30,1,0,1,0,31,9,0,2,16,122,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.13888206897148173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3041898257197552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11711578217113405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15537465393405825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14620003203736914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917834887163162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2941055643105734,0.0,0.0,0.12873499260158472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3118053428013871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230662134865947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3414746837501588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12585154634243767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15036703045900346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11600835754235513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10052357914540194,0.0,0.14264026110974104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15126176226834046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15135705886487602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14933904848736726,0.0,0.0964385201383682,0.10823943180765724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117270643726452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11365552734511335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10700560197076632,0.0,0.0,0.1310275109223257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09119177925929367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31624159418144826,0.0,0.0,0.13902423721163307,0.0,0.17119131508058244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749448342618654
divorce,Beautifulsoul85,2020/02/11,I want to see my kids everyday so I stay with a selfish Jerk Anyone else in the same boat?,0.054999999999999716,1.8199465000000004,2.4700000000000024,95.165,84.0,6.0,20.0,7.1686216300943375,0.28200000000000003,70,2,17,1,2,24,19,20,0.27399999999999997,0.665,0.062,-0.6666,0,1,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,3,2,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,10,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3350374177596677,0.4909525345681338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4002738338752153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3818257531790469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.510717154490266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826189620947527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Sethakam,2020/02/11,"First time poster looking for separation advice Hey world,
I'm 34 been married for 8 years with two kids 7 and 5. Recently I discovered that my ""open"" relationship was really just a masking for a side relationship which eventually turned into hidden meth use and resulted in her immediate dismissal from the house.
I'm in a better place than I was and I'm looking out for the kids right now. I am wondering what might be my best course of action as I don't want to suffer at my job by taking more time off to spend with the family IF THAT ALSO MEANS (because I am so excited to be able to be the dad they need) that I'm going to be supporting her and her user boyfriend. I've sought out some legal advice, but don't have the thousands for a retainer, because I'm the one who ISNT going to be homeless with the kids. Any advice would be helpful...",6.577385620915033,5.806341000000002,7.602549019607843,74.1992483660131,65.47058823529412,10.849673202614381,32.41830065359477,10.25414643259724,3.1116928104575168,670,23,131,14,9,228,107,170,0.006999999999999999,0.9179999999999999,0.075,0.8235,1,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,1,3,4,5,0,0,11,0,17,0,0,2,0,24,34,9,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,6,11,0,1,2,0,1,3,3,1,0,4,3,2,12,4,26,23,3,21,0,1,2,0,13,12,0,4,6,89,18,2,0.15387566052385887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4510965437218346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123054310127185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10464072577746024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18760234886619914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16148301234595738,0.13609051716043702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14506027815880887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13088655823417675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17490216788339466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103139611689427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17755185250288227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526978496660044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584336005292826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16761570450612498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16323775904681811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11409685252702652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10427012990436182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16076731448257015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09857668834305977,0.0,0.15193365106930606,0.3304097460884969,0.0,0.13140897332505044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17461627605339866,0.0,0.0,0.11569534665170808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17945227017348964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16737253214171335,0.15031416132384748,0.0,0.0,0.13289916537576554,0.0,0.0,0.09075985135786432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668715899419082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093088543277682,0.0,0.0,0.0990908803656632
divorce,pushwateruphill,2020/02/11,"So after 20+ years my marriage has finally failed. We're separated but remain living together. There are kids and money is tight. So, what should I do now..? Call me a nerd, but I've diagrammed the arguments for and against my moving out and finding my own place. I think I've identified all the pros and cons and the various things that either support or refute them. 

[Argument Diagram — Stay or go..?](https://imgur.com/gallery/63WOAYM)

What do you guys think? And, what would you guys do?",3.6064044943820233,6.574355988764047,3.923696629213485,82.78352247191012,79.0,8.054382022471911,25.753932584269663,8.841846274778883,2.474765393258428,389,15,68,10,10,121,66,89,0.106,0.8540000000000001,0.04,-0.7105,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,2,1,1,4,3,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,0,1,19,11,12,0,2,5,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,5,7,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,9,1,4,9,4,8,0,1,0,0,8,2,0,2,4,48,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25729261389114977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760241144055343,0.23029876484061385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14320206741819635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4989857869962868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224967828143436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2678074313828172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632581641014769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685697009242616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2859359839654362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16739967050873408,0.322908259171748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17899439573884207,0.0,0.0,0.16226235617745416
divorce,ShieldH2007,2020/02/11,"Avoiding being taken advantage of or scared of being sucked back in Went through the whole divorce process and everything has been finalized, with therapy, exercise, improving my eating habits and having a change of setting I believe I am in a much better place and I like it here. However I do have to deal with ex due to us having children together, I know that she is not in the best place and may be struggling however I have set boundaries and told myself that I will only co-parent due to so many issues between us. My family and friends have told me that I should try to help however I am scared of getting sucked back in by her, she is the type of person that you offer your hand and will take your whole arm, basically a manipulator. I wanted to know if any of you out there have had this type of experience and were afraid to be sucked in back in by your ex. What are your strategies and/or experiences that have helped you sort of mediate or try to help your ex who may not be in the best mental state or state of mind.",7.67600985221675,6.405922438423648,7.730940886699507,75.79207635467979,63.5320197044335,11.272709359605914,34.09310344827586,10.355215969177356,3.2236920197044343,817,28,162,16,10,265,113,203,0.121,0.78,0.099,-0.7037,4,1,0,0,1,0,13.0,2,8,0,4,6,14,3,5,7,0,27,4,2,1,0,27,39,13,0,3,6,3,1,1,1,5,1,0,0,2,9,11,1,1,2,1,0,1,2,8,0,0,7,1,27,6,30,22,5,21,0,0,0,0,28,10,3,7,7,125,36,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854015545791352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.289699467096988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414903751516004,0.2635857155997865,0.11106900915134198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13285141946089365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12947178385994607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12850397686293769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128669708211065,0.2456908679484722,0.11838959611949215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13757133988849285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09702603243485504,0.0,0.06561255514416822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25252930285569736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131077264895916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13803557127169436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06135409095116469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12732265582251878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12655932419354649,0.0,0.1268042302588379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09231882837788027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09551243432049564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10965526930525266,0.2624174952976411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514633618597496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13128786096910747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09442368053372296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436164642089997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24000214762182664,0.0,0.17052684072556576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021246317502692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0740728080940206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11641780082342035,0.0,0.28042052296331993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,dannyymoskk,2020/02/11,"Yesterday would’ve been our 2 year wedding anniversary And it has me in a weird place.

We were together for 6 years prior to getting married and right after she got pregnant with our first child she began to have an emotional affair with a coworker. 

It was a messy scene when I found out - I moved out and we tried to work on our marriage after it happened but it just wasn’t happening. She had feelings for her coworker that were stronger than the feelings she had for me so we legally separated. 

We were together for our first anniversary while we were trying to work it out but not this year and it feels strange. 

I don’t miss her I feel, she’s happily in a relationship with her AP and I’m more or less in a good place now being alone. Except for the fact I miss my son everyday when I’m not with him and that it angers me that another man is around him more than me. 

But for some reason yesterday and today I feel strange - seeing all those Facebook memories of our wedding, talking about it with people who know of my situation, it almost doesn’t seem like all the stuff in the past really happened. I’m like in a feelings limbo - I miss her? I don’t miss her? I miss being married? I don’t miss it?

I’ll probably feel this way again when D-Day comes around in a few months but right now I’m just looking forward to this week going by so I can return to normal.

Anyway thank you all for listening!",2.6422183098591567,4.5550859964788755,3.922794366197184,87.1715014084507,76.35915492957747,7.360901408450704,25.09239436619719,8.238735603445708,1.542948338028169,1109,39,228,20,25,363,144,284,0.096,0.8190000000000001,0.085,0.6609,0,2,0,0,0,0,21.0,10,1,0,4,14,12,1,0,12,0,19,0,0,1,4,51,51,18,0,1,10,1,7,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,19,23,0,0,11,0,0,4,7,8,0,2,12,10,40,4,39,37,8,45,0,6,2,0,34,17,0,4,27,165,59,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12195383328915076,0.12613640769061404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277061154912095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168356031162283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491021777112756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07854366359590377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13699594302152698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4310603329324912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20718688434812926,0.0,0.13353507001456405,0.0,0.0,0.06362959132317432,0.0,0.06921534899836597,0.10215061900035216,0.09740558300882513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3230921483981739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06693190783974125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11899965561924827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10227187044053132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972106123492999,0.12944215933269598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11932710947386582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11626113542145025,0.08443297943251417,0.0,0.254486629047612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13130886310256418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07802098703907286,0.12521911119983675,0.0,0.13075553130492698,0.0,0.2080138413441328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09704985974900228,0.11087189712745653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13689564934388024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13941897248721602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09788917796423297,0.0,0.11212671128137533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11544148752770672,0.0,0.0,0.16537312349988875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09667023501523267,0.09769158306806702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17732731010700634,0.0,0.0,0.08651522839845066,0.0,0.0,0.23528387155168726
divorce,gts_1,2020/02/11,"One year since I left...and boy did I not expect to be here. We (me: 29F, him: 31M) decided we were going to get divorced in October 2018 but weren't ready for the next step of actually finalizing anything. We stayed living with each other for 4 more months... and he wanted me to stay longer. But I had to leave. I couldn't live with someone who didn't love me anymore. I couldn't pretend to be together when I knew there was going to be an ending anyways. It was so painful to know every day this was going to end. 

So last February, almost to the day, I moved out. My dad flew in and we packed up my car and I drove from TX to MA so I could settle in my ""new"" life... It was a painful goodbye but as I drove away, the only thing I felt was relief. I had not realized how much pain we had caused each other by trying to stay ""together."" 

Now, a year later after a very difficult post-divorce life (lost my job, had to leave my apartment, move in with my grandparents) I'm selling all my things from that new apartment I was so excited and proud to build. But I'm moving onto bigger and better things. I met a wonderful man. I fell in love again. I've traveled across the world a few times and now I'm moving to a new country with my new love. 

I've grown up... A LOT. I know what is important to me now, what I need from my friends and my partner. I've learned to communicate better and express myself better. I still have plenty to learn, but I'm really impressed with myself. I'm proud of all the progress I've made and it's only been a year. 

This year I turn 30. At first, I was devastated and embarrassed that I would be ""a 30-year old divorcé,"" but now I look back and realize that I'm just a 30 year old, with some interesting life lessons. 

This is not where I thought I would be in the year 2020 but I don't think I would change it for anything. Life after divorce has been anything but easy but I'm living a happier, healthier life and that's all I can ask for.",1.5490283454185878,3.2989141902439023,3.3521094264996703,90.76623928806856,79.04878048780488,6.578773895847068,22.78839815425181,7.534196372845213,0.8307567567567564,1518,48,339,22,37,508,195,410,0.106,0.741,0.153,0.9699,2,0,0,0,3,0,63.0,5,0,0,9,18,19,0,1,18,0,34,11,0,3,3,70,66,28,0,9,13,2,1,0,2,3,8,0,0,3,19,26,0,0,13,2,1,15,8,6,0,2,26,2,49,13,49,29,10,69,0,1,1,3,22,18,0,4,33,223,68,3,0.0,0.0,0.07417033402242239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07610845739536086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07537696152088066,0.0,0.0,0.18763797401478755,0.0,0.07105481540183692,0.0,0.07140960175312795,0.05844348276177616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20166187422007695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07807851143495845,0.08040366509070072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06068414981121496,0.0,0.0,0.09803442685218486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13463649958332574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06403785135786945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07297713032861948,0.08326023149289227,0.0,0.06465017841177596,0.0,0.0,0.058721605298827376,0.0,0.03970969923365957,0.0,0.12958690920006882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07542365967282341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08354119126593039,0.06195456830410497,0.0,0.1609575483231347,0.08258012014382499,0.0,0.2684244084769098,0.0,0.0,0.20134255679192856,0.0,0.06382541724385059,0.0,0.08296890330313747,0.06461709708804736,0.2057935992406024,0.07191817391083549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0606668076666502,0.3231269670836144,0.055872735034238334,0.05635706195969216,0.0,0.2936260647570665,0.08083263516879569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595098228436276,0.0,0.051503245194018984,0.1156111061856324,0.2426254032037569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07279219038849777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04869102354436233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06287247563737351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06439915267912236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430350208976073,0.060698033152232364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15148388772200302,0.04870120943510496,0.0,0.060339820113515234,0.0443193764112782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05160269663023677,0.08267208038913053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06271243820925435,0.04482997079359408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08242464472401474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16197622650371832,0.0,0.0,0.34261502683956324
divorce,SF-owlie,2020/02/11,"She no longer loves me I was not always the perfect husband. I made positive changes, but was slow at it. I did a lot, but should've done even more. What I can say is I never stopped loving her 100%.

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None of that matters now. She told me she no longer loves me, and that her decision is set on divorce. She told me she no longer sees a future with me, but I can't see a future without her. I love her, and I am heartbroken.",0.3037362637362655,2.3996106373626382,1.963395604395608,97.1941043956044,85.48351648351648,4.958681318681318,21.18791208791209,6.2581,0.08531120879120824,332,11,77,3,10,108,58,91,0.244,0.642,0.114,-0.9236,0,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,4,0,9,4,0,1,2,15,18,5,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,7,3,22,5,5,11,3,9,0,0,2,4,18,2,0,1,6,59,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491553405130362,0.1942237862816244,0.2178156439200526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896290650273452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834411103509671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11839688835861185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523970293116003,0.6471421050866345,0.16961634848114726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382532674283491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14255155512738685,0.0,0.0,0.2856876254870136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14986603111237412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3425735535439926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17279637404436746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178156439200526,0.0
divorce,Agy91,2020/02/11,"Do I have to pay child support and alimony if we have been married for less than a year and never lived together? Hello everyone, I am considering divorcing my wife we have been married last May and since then we had a rocky relationship. We never lived together although we planned to. I never have been allowed to be with the kids more maybe a handful of times when everything was fine - at the beginning of the relationship mostly before we married. We took a break of about 4 months before speaking again last December but things are not working for me. Now, I am barely able to speak to her and when confronting her siblings they avoid me completely which makes this thing all the more difficult. My question is there a possibility that I will have to pay alimony or child support still in case I divorce from her? By the way, I want to specify that I am not the biological father and not connected to anyway to the children at this point...",9.723177966101698,7.942638175141244,9.372083333333332,67.27643008474577,59.9039548022599,12.917796610169491,41.3340395480226,11.698219412168324,4.80791581920904,755,34,134,18,8,245,107,177,0.066,0.8859999999999999,0.047,-0.5105,1,1,0,0,1,0,14.0,7,0,1,2,8,6,1,1,12,0,19,1,1,2,4,30,25,12,0,2,6,2,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,4,7,13,0,1,1,0,2,1,6,3,0,0,6,3,23,3,22,16,5,22,0,0,0,0,25,4,0,5,15,111,30,4,0.15870152769342893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700866222945528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16639553236364132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15164611071562892,0.1426306999572749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587258533617676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802727130001396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059345020729226,0.0,0.15943701550318504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12667404530400314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36720120538804857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15002424053731886,0.17891212713163246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17778203156749384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34077209670799097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13127954368434047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12673924501909292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3601852258566269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21086848634553715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09254013704191688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763232366538942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936062728483837,0.12596988573497456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11553660228688865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021985806005961
divorce,xtina40,2020/02/11,"Worried About Daughter We’ve been married for 1.5 years but together, on and off, for 14 years. He cheated a lot with the same woman (think he may be again now but don’t care enough to confront him) and would blame me for the cheating saying I was withdrawn so it pushed him to do it multiple times. He didn’t get that I was withdrawn because I didn’t trust him. I should have left many times but we have a daughter (10) and I wanted her to have her parents together. It’s gotten to a point now that I can’t take it and just want out. I haven’t brought it up to him because I need to pay off some debt before I leave so I can manage on my own. Thing I’m worried about most is my daughter. She wanted to see us get married and when she did, she was so happy. It kills me to soon tell her it’s over between me and her dad. I feel like I’m ruining her. She already has a hard time being an only child and feels lonely. I’m 40 and not going to give her another sibling, especially with my husband. Everyone says kids are resilient but she’s so sensitive. She’s the reason I put up with shit for so long. I’d do anything for her even if it sucks for me. I’m just getting older and want to live the life I want. She’s going to be ok, right? I know you don’t know us but I need some reassurance.",0.322491937484493,2.284446830935252,2.3680451500868287,95.15895683453242,84.28776978417267,5.129446787397669,21.0969982634582,6.311591054244273,0.11828141900272815,1001,32,232,9,29,335,142,278,0.156,0.745,0.099,-0.9401,2,2,0,0,0,0,28.0,3,1,0,0,16,14,6,0,9,1,26,2,1,1,0,44,54,21,1,10,9,6,3,1,0,3,1,2,0,3,11,14,0,0,6,0,2,5,7,8,0,0,9,6,44,6,31,39,7,28,0,2,1,0,39,11,2,6,13,157,55,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384623572549634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13156917323281472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10325342519649952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529741111923252,0.0,0.10676811312384404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12792788411911868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12964694561849086,0.0,0.08287360246002598,0.0,0.0,0.11989463947621658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12688563760909452,0.08963779492891667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19666308127839466,0.12036494503098988,0.1426181699710784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13356813104938567,0.11239898535929993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13881706524029613,0.0,0.1379131413323095,0.0,0.0,0.1328575806378483,0.13632656666794538,0.0,0.08862515083242478,0.06129967325602305,0.0,0.11079478306959853,0.1110394815067852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066724894408075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12720972764834554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860729858730292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09542772005853674,0.0,0.0,0.13932269808613312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186123544285614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12613482198449014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12900693807920616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10715308746711236,0.0,0.19956201676352986,0.0,0.0,0.09998557829766404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287960283176708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09433993193633072,0.0,0.10966875951954144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833585544264409,0.08039790525009137,0.0,0.0,0.21949259988327852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30185666386336085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3700355479909011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548474423627142,0.0,0.089132278659089,0.0,0.0,0.1616007415985342
divorce,ThinPaleontologist1,2020/02/11,"The ring We had an agreement. The rings would stay on until......at least the first of the year. That was October. Her ring was off before Thanksgiving. Your worth is your word. 
Mine stays on until the court says we are officially divorced. Simply separated on January 17. Married 18 years. I thinks she left the marriage a few years ago due to the significance of the ring coming off so quickly.
What do you think? Your experience?",2.312554660529345,5.236279012658232,3.193187571921752,84.9606444188723,87.98734177215191,6.417031070195629,22.37169159953969,7.686295010490155,1.444154430379747,338,12,62,7,11,107,60,79,0.0,0.9059999999999999,0.094,0.7622,0,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,2,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,10,0,7,0,0,0,0,7,10,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,5,10,1,9,6,2,17,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,0,8,43,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204514065903576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116194905634498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142270641821147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24326954878556875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21153820339868895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702057547375723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19777071584250705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5301474586936659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3187049626260228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176664425835802,0.0,0.0,0.4804505616591286
divorce,pearlgaga,2020/02/11,"In a Dilemma My wife and i have irreconcilable differences and the marriage isnt working out, we've been married for 2 years and we have a son (6 months old), the custody in my country goes solely for the mother, which is not okay because I cannot stand the idea of her and her family (very abusive) to raise my son and I know for a fact that she's irresponsible and she suffers from severe depression. 
The dilemma im in, I know for a fact that if we did not divorce and kept on living together, the child will be miserable as it is a broken home (but ill have a say in things regarding raising him) and ill be suffering for the rest of my life, on the other hand if divorce happened, I will be simply throwing him to the wolves. 
Help please.",9.3448,5.8295266800000025,9.421333333333333,72.04400000000003,62.2,12.4,40.333333333333336,10.125756701596842,3.8605333333333327,582,23,119,9,6,194,90,150,0.204,0.7440000000000001,0.052000000000000005,-0.9689,0,0,0,0,2,0,16.0,2,0,0,1,0,5,0,1,15,1,14,4,1,0,2,22,18,12,0,2,5,4,1,0,0,2,3,1,1,1,6,11,0,1,3,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,3,2,17,1,18,10,1,12,0,4,0,0,18,7,0,2,3,84,23,1,0.0,0.2748637754238441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14141563777321867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998079661190963,0.0,0.0,0.2423744952879586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186944020196592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20514318490935649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15549436406198813,0.0,0.2326994338105593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26188233690837376,0.25058313922074343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549853002812553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16385755903439214,0.0,0.0,0.20484662126958336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18516786672031285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434287772251296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25464938898648465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18448343746507215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620765269507325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15412023702818706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19141156171994528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16888752642448618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14939045410795213
divorce,HaitchW,2020/02/11,"My stbxw’s birthday I had a bit of a rocky breakup with my stbxw in October, I left our jointly owned home and moved back in with my parents. Since then we have had limited contact and she has been actively trying to disrupt my life.

It’s her birthday tomorrow and I’m so torn on whether or not I should wish her a happy birthday, I still care about her as a person but I don’t know if contacting her is the correct thing to do.",1.8836666666666664,3.651322644444445,3.3508333333333336,91.07625000000004,78.1111111111111,6.722222222222222,27.91666666666667,7.645422480735847,1.5539999999999998,338,15,74,5,8,111,65,90,0.06,0.866,0.07400000000000001,0.2989,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,2,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,5,0,9,1,0,0,1,16,13,10,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,2,6,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,16,2,10,9,2,9,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,2,4,55,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20839114352001656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2958744071886897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763143240905945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28849682072901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718466686856682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14894085325043152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2944548280761809,0.0,0.1914234634482528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880423744046166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3009262399454829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366368208319831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2241835440815961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21643016364319692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800480230100888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18399904405636644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31164989288858225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,wrongaccountnumber,2020/02/11,"Heart ache and moving on Hi there. I am posting this because I don't really know anyone who's divorced or is in a similar situation.

Background: together for just over 14 years, one kid. The kid's first year was very traumatic for me, I didn't feel I had enough support and felt I couldn't depend on my husband. I also have medical issues leading to dead bedroom. STBX said that was a deal breaker so we agreed to split July 2019. He moved out end of August 2019.

He must have joined tinder the minute he moved out cos by mid October 2019 he had a girlfriend. I found out about her in December 2019. I also found out they'd gone on holiday together November 2019, and they were planning another trip for June 2020. She's got a key to his place and comes and goes when he's not there (apparently with permission). She has some of her stuff at his place and in his car. 

Seeing her stuff around gives me major anxiety - I'm working on that with a therapist. But I still cannot understand how he has moved on so quickly. We are still going through the divorce process - will this affect it? He was really nasty and mean during our interactions last year, leading me to wonder who this person even was. I didn't recognize him. Now I think this might be why. These last few weeks have been slightly better, he's suddenly being nice. Which is now making me suspicious. 

He doesn't want to tell me anything about his personal life. He says the relationship is not serious (although all of the above-mentioned things makes me think otherwise, and makes me wonder if she thinks it's serious). We agreed not to introduce our son to partners until it was serious as we didn't think it was healthy to have people go in and out of his life. But I honestly didn't think I would be dealing with this so soon and am horribly unprepared. 

How did you deal with this?",4.091276216857935,5.716919883656516,4.866469133359715,83.13600761772855,71.77008310249306,8.702849228333994,27.85130589631975,9.23628265651192,2.3453948555599515,1462,54,286,32,28,472,201,361,0.066,0.866,0.068,-0.504,1,0,0,0,2,0,39.0,6,1,2,6,21,7,0,0,10,0,39,4,1,10,2,64,67,25,1,5,8,2,2,0,2,4,3,2,1,5,19,25,0,0,14,1,0,12,11,3,0,2,21,5,42,4,42,37,5,52,0,0,1,0,53,20,0,7,19,193,61,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15058157865940885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872326247940777,0.07202360107375452,0.0,0.0,0.06583105449728849,0.0,0.07747646919947011,0.08381242385685753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057392255954479963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0832669936283148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0811008848398006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2911899444521809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08338792294999364,0.09728091411883652,0.0,0.06218441757475963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04760447982896269,0.0,0.09039764610321496,0.0,0.0,0.0800829509499841,0.0,0.20645867610249785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09031614146109268,0.10701390517574473,0.0,0.07529942400449807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11156682277691554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982669230985329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05174173750798287,0.1534877327955323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13300021293626846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18853523530863986,0.0,0.0,0.10255568198527218,0.0,0.0948450462967072,0.0,0.099877035711664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4002612473975905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06379768718296913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06527094774101322,0.16441426245389887,0.19673098802145025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09016855878254083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12062830903177935,0.0,0.0,0.10108061456570792,0.0,0.0,0.08955710194561757,0.07487093244480536,0.0,0.0,0.07502443199949939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10582723521486433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503747624865125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21555578231352876,0.0,0.1068389822370759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08229023156268044,0.0,0.0,0.10931405394891502,0.06254830251143524,0.30163385950424604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09801225756580444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07768264893373965,0.05553142219169313,0.0,0.07552051646204454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495467966761938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20420079086126108,0.06854147318288119,0.0,0.0,0.06688063111773275,0.0,0.0,0.1818862888360844
divorce,nobody_etc,2020/02/11,"How to find a paralegal in Texas We are planning to file for a divorce in Texas after~13 years of marriage with two kids. While kids and small assets are involved, we still think we could use a paralegal to go over the paperwork. Please suggest a good paralegal or a way to find one so I could move forward.",5.224,6.1381047333333365,5.206666666666667,84.45000000000002,68.33333333333334,8.666666666666668,33.33333333333333,8.841846274778883,2.684833333333333,244,11,48,4,4,76,43,60,0.0,0.8809999999999999,0.11900000000000001,0.7096,0,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,3,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,6,0,4,0,0,2,0,13,7,5,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,1,10,5,0,11,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,1,4,32,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4345259531715934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4974193168135813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15465014454321935,0.2282385081083205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892168997263952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18439326231794265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2987023307121941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21731268208556526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17436134078035204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26581839501410565,0.0,0.0,0.23502138805663894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21599350482919127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17523417984940354
divorce,life_is_a_trajedy,2020/02/11,"WTF is happening??? My wife filed for divorce 4 months ago and left with our son. I've been trying to reconcile until I gave up and started asking for more custody for our son (She's not allowing overnights even). Then, she stopped playing nice and informed she has moved on and has a bf (I thought this was a mind game). Today she informed me that she's 8 weeks pregnant (so at least since Dec) and the father is someone else (We anyway haven't slept together for 06 months, so that part was obvious). I now suspect infidelity and feel devastated. Feel so naive, and wondering whether my son is mine (he is 2). :(((",4.944661016949151,5.911999694915255,5.262500000000003,83.60442796610172,69.0,8.611864406779661,32.54661016949153,8.841846274778883,2.5786576271186434,476,21,95,8,8,151,85,118,0.127,0.835,0.038,-0.8993,0,0,0,0,1,0,26.0,3,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,3,0,10,1,1,1,1,23,19,13,0,0,2,5,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,9,0,1,8,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,6,2,15,2,10,13,3,15,0,0,0,0,21,4,0,1,10,60,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20858535084110666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21998016799508588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965687036853048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15541797450562705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.237956456648214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20808109619854634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556616127923029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23759286958081424,0.0,0.37563941210071067,0.25009397357803304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548144197283416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19464828210107224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19937475517990413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665514202435461,0.0,0.0,0.1967270873887649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18680737808265685,0.0,0.0,0.22304340780778747,0.0,0.0,0.15975792505437247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18874898503373494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25518027301574386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,monilee70,2020/02/11,"I am tired (long) I've been married 26 years, 4 children. 23,21,17 and 10.  
2 years ago my husband had an affair while visiting his home state. Long story short. He would tell me it was over, everything would be great and months later she would re-appear. Last year I filed for a separation. He didn't want a divorce wanted me to be able to have insurance. During the 90 day wait, he asked me and the judge to dismiss the case.  He wanted his family.  We worked hard, had ups and downs. He was apologetic, told me how he knew she was using him and had done this all before with other men, he told me so much, we were best friends.

Had a great summer, all of us together, normal. (I later found out he learned she was dating someone else)

Then Boom he moved out in September. He filed for a separation.  She flew out for a week in October, the kids and I didn't even know until Halloween we went to his trailer. 

November he told us he wasn't right in the head, he again said he wanted us.  We would have date nights, (I didn't want him moving back in yet) Thanksgiving, Christmas all good.   Dec 27th he flew to go visit his parents, and ""ghosted"" us all. 
Finally came home Jan 2, saying he needed time with his parents, told us he was nervous they were aging and health etc..hugging, wanting to love on me, so sorry. The next 5 nights he was home, dinner playing games, movies,with me and the kids, telling me he loved me.  The 5th night I got an anonymous text saying, she is there you know.  My 17 year old was in the room with me, I literally had a panic attack.  She got in her car and drove to his place, sure enough she was there.  She left her kids and moved 1500 miles to move in with my husband in the town we live in. 

He told me and the kids he was sending her back, giving his notice at his rental. He couldn't stand her living with him.  Well he hasn't done any of that. I know, I know I'm stupid. I kept believing in the man he used to be. Not who he is now.
The kids won't talk to him, they won't answer texts, nothing.  I have tried to ""save"" him.  Suggested actually doing something with them. He's just angry, blames me. 
I'm not even sure I talk with him, I know she hugely influences what he says.  
A week from today was our final hearing. Friday he called the court and postponed until April. Valentine's day would be our anniversary.
I feel ill, my kids are broken.  I want to shake sense into him. 
I don't want him.  I just don't want him to ruin it more with the kids.  I actually feel sorry for him when he says he misses them, and is so upset.  But really?  If that was the case why wouldn't he take them somewhere, do something with them.  He took her for a getaway trip this past weekend. 
He of course blames me.  I poisoned them into not talking to him.
I am struggling, this house, the animals, the kids, I barely have enough money to buy groceries. 
What is wrong with me that I actually want to help him. He has been so cruel to me. Why do I lose sleep over his non relationship with our kids.  He certainly isn't. 
Uggggh please help me handle this.",1.199246898263027,3.3933193887096778,2.537419354838711,93.85959057071965,82.53225806451613,5.428287841191069,19.054590570719604,6.67199483983844,0.01810496277915563,2351,59,515,25,65,757,284,620,0.114,0.816,0.071,-0.9559,5,0,2,0,1,0,107.0,13,1,7,3,18,26,4,5,28,0,58,9,2,4,7,87,106,26,1,20,7,4,3,0,1,8,4,7,4,12,13,36,1,2,11,3,2,17,15,13,1,0,43,10,99,13,60,50,9,89,0,3,0,2,140,29,0,1,41,306,112,2,0.0578755907788527,0.0,0.16943468383746407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05130321921212752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039357386368193095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054105864747757804,0.06584183970250945,0.0,0.08900551372384051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04924786501412272,0.06520597183113379,0.06073686188220737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0590974490641796,0.06619425761769984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07464993624839031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11845364668538932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04834762966212832,0.0,0.0,0.11960191279032448,0.06454658243992349,0.07645256374347144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0520148491523964,0.0,0.05455995619062851,0.0,0.05852727532943591,0.0,0.0,0.12679976152341035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06345759802342234,0.0447145378691313,0.0,0.0,0.05551954035604927,0.032892031983134874,0.04854329965649568,0.09257679396336817,0.12761608630493834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051845161413299916,0.0,0.0593970532474468,0.06151904661328414,0.06522999707758298,0.0,0.07758557706794048,0.0,0.17416180931526834,0.0,0.0,0.06678066123323458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15903455557299714,0.0471763310369668,0.0,0.0,0.0628819987229166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10221041397540713,0.10243615320130796,0.0,0.06474798207875143,0.0,0.0,0.10446996058368432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04619574439433634,0.24605037503098276,0.042545218473281056,0.04291401722357131,0.0,0.0,0.061551347377571876,0.16293696403773766,0.056705790811834085,0.055533190265624234,0.06589174369855667,0.06073069680012853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06790453578633139,0.12852798889103806,0.0,0.055248800158014005,0.0,0.0,0.060467674172327325,0.06353001896145459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037076585442132486,0.0,0.0,0.062136725161278675,0.0,0.0494254382982847,0.055052940207620533,0.1840999709738538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0579173878383546,0.0,0.04903780025353102,0.08911091465419707,0.0,0.12957397106503818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06050413362003584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10909411875917197,0.0,0.04351524155955475,0.13955462273888167,0.1011716346212827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033747722406321165,0.06651947775695151,0.054859292843147216,0.2765130359657441,0.06430191087446042,0.03929372708528616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3480860483671014,0.09997185628907526,0.0,0.0,0.3413652294621861,0.0,0.09284861584195137,0.0,0.05203710668922016,0.053651252482728534,0.10444743741125204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04213411938196415,0.0,0.0,0.2055657957873793,0.06327787305422546,0.0,0.1490799317432052
divorce,TooBrokenToBreak,2020/02/11,"Is it worth staying with an abusive SO for the sake of a kid? M36 here. Married an emotionally abusive female(F33) and have a kid (F2.5) together. SO moved out of the home sometime back with kid and started legal abuse of me and my parents to force me to stay with SO or pay her a tonne of money, using kid as leverage. Lost my father to a heart attack recently due to this abuse. Many other things in terms of abuse that I cannot forgive. 
But I still come back to the question, will it be worth staying with SO for the well-being of the kid.
SO’s stance right now is either stay with her and kid or no contact with kid. Unfortunately in a country that this is legally possible to a large extent...
Will it be worth it for the sake of the kid? Please guide...",3.6565062388591802,4.707510764705884,4.488140225787284,87.65844919786095,72.07189542483661,6.870825906120023,26.98098633392751,6.980632752743323,1.1281816993464049,589,20,124,5,11,190,85,153,0.207,0.7290000000000001,0.064,-0.9811,1,0,0,0,3,0,23.0,0,0,0,1,10,3,1,0,15,0,9,1,1,1,0,19,13,13,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,8,10,12,0,0,2,0,5,2,2,2,0,0,1,0,8,1,26,8,3,18,0,1,0,0,15,4,0,3,8,87,18,3,0.0,0.6818875892654241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13094559243656956,0.0,0.1770132757126668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09915052249211864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12947470340322909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13639689373263286,0.0,0.0,0.1154570882975266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125647862361664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669576374489035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12233563139049172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12780758956661073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263478664630494,0.0,0.12976065729997008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12894102620192546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11364973022362147,0.0,0.0,0.098296817474244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11383921303516915,0.0,0.08147006848255776,0.4907353580933247,0.09192092231556602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07646891753714125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09941151407603832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10349087745561893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ThrowRA_8726,2020/02/11,"He's gone. I don't know what to do with myself. I made a post here a couple of weeks ago. Update: it's officially done. He opened up in couples therapy today that he does not want to be with me, or be married to me any longer. He feels like that chapter of his life is over and he needs to start new and that there was nothing I could have done. 

We came home from therapy and he packed a bag and left. I'm sitting here in our apartment. I opened up the fridge and literally collapsed crying because he had just went grocery shopping for us. I am in a very bad place right now.

It sounds dramatic but I feel like I am dying? I have a support network but talking to them doesn't make the pain lessen. I feel like I can't be alone with myself at all. I need to keep busy but don't know how.",0.9498214285714291,2.76581791071429,2.5526190476190465,95.4632142857143,81.20238095238095,5.390476190476191,21.214285714285715,6.322622252153567,0.06274285714285721,611,18,143,5,16,200,105,168,0.045,0.846,0.109,0.9073,0,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,1,0,6,6,0,0,7,0,18,2,0,3,1,32,35,10,1,4,6,0,3,3,0,0,2,1,1,0,6,12,0,1,5,1,1,3,5,2,0,0,8,4,20,4,20,23,1,25,0,0,0,0,13,13,0,1,10,88,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12175746882648457,0.0,0.0,0.1422589971682275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093406531157491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11468620465523473,0.08373071055458825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15709823637098716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10966728517528132,0.3039627601222229,0.15087869793042616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14255344703833495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020082795500432,0.2811249745175905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2083533843741233,0.29438064533057584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377788853157399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220879854238682,0.0,0.0,0.15097411226729165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492372821205474,0.0,0.09701833590491593,0.2013150522719981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12996920797442688,0.09168594237690393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036949023691305,0.0,0.13265891290717968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13179642109093254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146156063083415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14350738737476312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13154871456060913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11730094826907407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09722101421090723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15586952889139932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11040124374693253,0.0,0.0,0.3141562423535561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13019706639799944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16522189770490234,0.0,0.0,0.11333277085576772,0.08101590294525353,0.0,0.11017839253142088,0.0,0.0,0.12733003507357832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwaway0099887765,2020/02/12,"How do I bring it up? So me (f22) and my husband (m22) have been married for 2 years, together for 6. To keep it short, I'm honestly just really not feeling it. I don't know if I've fallen out of love with him or if I was never really in love in the first place, just liked the idea of being married and having a wedding. I am young and stupid, I guess.

We've had our fair share of problems and have either moved on from them or have bought them up to each other and are working on improving. I just can't shake the feeling that maybe we got married before we were ready.

We almost broke up while we were dating, then again while we were engaged. But we pushed through and changed the problems we were having. We fought the night before our wedding. We dont often argue now, barely at all, but I can't forget those fights. He doesn't treat me like he loves me, though he says he does.

I've been thinking through things for about a year now and I think I want a divorce... But I'm still not sure. What if I regret this decision? What will my friends and family think?

I've not been single since I was 14. I feel like I haven't had a chance to learn independence, to rely on myself to be happy. Now I feel stuck in this marriage that I thought was what I wanted.

I know theres no way to sugarcoat initiating a separation. I just don't want him to feel like these feelings are out of the blue.

Thanks, hopefully this made sense ♥",2.422240112994352,3.8963486745762737,3.563749999999999,91.4050600282486,75.81355932203391,6.543785310734464,22.461158192090398,7.1686216300943375,0.5594209039548028,1109,30,246,12,24,359,158,295,0.124,0.7120000000000001,0.16399999999999998,0.9255,0,1,0,0,2,0,37.0,11,0,2,2,16,25,4,1,11,0,31,3,0,3,3,70,61,22,0,10,16,1,6,4,1,1,0,1,0,0,15,21,0,1,15,0,1,5,12,9,0,1,18,8,39,16,31,40,4,35,0,2,1,3,33,14,0,9,19,170,54,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12393142140050922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106275070824141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13092553497357345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10830640724394333,0.0,0.1450500802086952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11667335787716195,0.0,0.37547173147800544,0.17683355764040334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10527330047890693,0.0,0.0,0.095619491718235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09898509976318144,0.0,0.13633961761519156,0.0,0.0,0.1317487105722132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12292523355223199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397141002862594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11000682186531957,0.0,0.0,0.1360345345760436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418586783098113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3351045881343695,0.1171081614622522,0.0,0.0,0.12433722494952823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131541177202827,0.0,0.0,0.09545415939951456,0.0,0.0,0.11614380487020112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12930667620146233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368502035881131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15857233121811515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984218248066382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10237857314900113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09883781359139608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11664577878151565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139449440110512,0.0,0.0,0.08222307203494975,0.2379082554989878,0.12159716122351708,0.09825451637881698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21899702839590396,0.09823782745847373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901014137972375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15939947026172172
divorce,Thrownaway1440,2020/02/12,"7 Month Vent Fucking hell this shit is painful. I'm 7 months into separation and it sucks. Got my divorce papers the week of Christmas yay. 

Anyway, wherever i see her it messes me up. I still love her a lot. It takes everything not to try and hold her when i see her. But she can't stand me anymore. 12 years together and in a week, she went from saying she loves me and laying in my arms to don't fucking come near me. 

But every couple of weeks she randomly shows signs of concern or care for me. Like a really fucked up sprinkle of hope when i just started feeling ok. 

She calls me and says she misses me, then acts like it never happened. Or she asks me to meet her somewhere and says it to me. She also sneaks in the occasional I still love you. The worst one was her coming and laying next to me when i was sleeping on the couch. We share kids so she has access to where i live. I actually got to hold her that time.

But in between these nice little moments is complete disregard filled with anger and hate.

I'm so tired and hurt. I miss her. I miss the friendship i had with her.

It hurts to admit that it's gone.",1.5589610389610369,3.526253186147186,3.012359307359308,92.1671103896104,79.9090909090909,5.758441558441558,21.322510822510818,6.782984794422108,0.3485653679653677,870,25,190,9,22,284,135,231,0.179,0.672,0.149,-0.8813,0,0,0,0,1,0,24.0,1,1,0,0,11,27,8,0,8,2,8,11,3,0,1,32,37,21,0,1,7,0,1,2,0,0,2,3,1,1,11,15,0,3,2,1,0,6,4,16,0,1,7,6,43,11,26,30,2,35,1,5,2,6,33,11,6,5,19,127,54,1,0.0,0.0,0.11635929724226073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09535475722774177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825226873287513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11147163478240303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12175554885530028,0.0,0.12157130671203938,0.0,0.0,0.2054263278072234,0.1250189995263626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319348166346928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10046333859914144,0.0,0.10716361886107732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06029042406722085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3307014243741567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19073138585106908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10544195948193197,0.0,0.0,0.11772305106689712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184304516921062,0.0,0.0,0.25529394999094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165075375094403,0.11950801614706795,0.1052895281384165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137206615150364,0.3228514324521289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19034961077265114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09196386199072266,0.0,0.1268111940771051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08079890019991262,0.0,0.12687786737563025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07638705361520405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2844690426378253,0.0,0.0,0.19003483860778303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12239631390542174,0.0,0.0,0.11932432712731762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08439742209076702,0.0,0.19044758459483427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896522980865166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06952876188844664,0.137046787164535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0809549207892838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869371105176141,0.0,0.0,0.11053501963705424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0767855008978154
divorce,PsychologicalGrass1,2020/02/12,"Has anyone questioned their sexuality after divorce? This is a throwaway, mostly because this is the first time I'm sharing these thoughts with anyone and this is all very new to me.

I got divorced early last year, almost a year ago. My ex was the one to initially bring it up, but ultimately it was a civil divorce with no real headaches. I was with him for all of my 20s (so far), and I went a little wild after things ended. I have had my fun, slept around a bit, dated, etc.

I always considered myself straight. I certainly can appreciate a woman's beauty and have found myself noticing attractive features on women. I had a few experiences when I was younger with other women - kissing, some light touching, but nothing I would consider full on sex. I've never considered myself bisexual, because while I'm open to sexually being with a woman, until now I have never been able to picture myself in a romantic relationship with one.

But lately I feel.. different? It's hard to explain. I still find myself attracted to men, and when I think about being in a relationship again, or even just dating, it's usually with a man. But I have moments where my mind wanders and I think about what it would be like to date a woman. I'm starting to wonder if my sexuality is more fluid than I thought it was.

I know that was a bit of a ramble, and I apologize if this is in any way insensitive or if this isn't the right platform for this. I am just curious if there are others on this sub who have gotten divorced and questioned their sexuality, and what ultimately came of those thoughts.",6.417359735973598,6.6983468580858085,7.487211221122116,71.36500825082508,65.56765676567656,9.901650165016502,33.665016501650165,9.725611199111238,3.2702264026402643,1250,51,221,24,18,424,166,303,0.032,0.818,0.15,0.9901,1,0,0,0,4,0,38.0,0,0,2,1,14,7,0,0,17,0,29,3,1,0,5,55,49,23,0,6,12,1,3,1,0,2,0,0,0,7,22,18,0,0,13,0,0,3,4,0,0,3,18,4,33,7,34,26,10,47,0,0,0,2,23,16,0,12,28,179,55,0,0.12478639220113227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11061560750623783,0.0,0.12495554643242646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10383227474079902,0.0,0.0,0.08485902580449131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17450709371033493,0.0,0.0,0.11108634531048996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152137252920785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724688417828231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14272238920390035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303752204204782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11052370492670824,0.0,0.13916981309733908,0.08242023516035385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12206503620404233,0.0,0.0,0.06309574930845678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11405250177572918,0.10614324145912513,0.0,0.13682183816231536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09980307729711684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11178409686687786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06857933770765456,0.10171756466182699,0.1407644857155401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0609643280253355,0.12506874754702627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259986835214159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924859170051489,0.1205194751810812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11973590882459514,0.14207013459962778,0.0,0.0,0.16911697770540174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795786359454678,0.0,0.0,0.1420342335428718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26794777044081497,0.0,0.10656689711850373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08832445067199728,0.0,0.09965457400497832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08290253415456826,0.15991616293761635,0.0,0.297199369897288,0.0727639487980638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13743458132084832,0.10296184225414097,0.0,0.0990496298008051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11567823575181573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13532551931102035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17728934544636912,0.0,0.0,0.1607166905899048
divorce,cortskayak,2020/02/12,just bought a house. possible divorce. married three years. in florida. i dont want to lose my house. i just bought it last year. we have been married for three yrs.  if we divorce is she entitled to half the full value of the house. the mortgage is in my name only. Or can I buy her out with only half what we have put into it so far?,-0.7048571428571435,1.4758968000000008,1.4685714285714295,97.00142857142859,95.28571428571428,4.514285714285714,18.42857142857143,6.2581,-0.1024571428571428,256,8,58,3,10,85,49,70,0.018000000000000002,0.884,0.098,0.6742,1,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,3,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,0,0,12,10,3,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,1,0,4,3,0,10,0,9,7,1,10,0,1,0,0,8,6,0,2,3,43,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505874995261373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7401352406433427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17428631023766314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392023000473983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3252291747185572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410422776802539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21494134006410254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12611257590120314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27537740497079205
divorce,donovanon,2020/02/12,How much does a womans sexual market value drop after a divorce? For men it's not much. But what about for you women with or without kids?,1.5720238095238095,3.9185502499999987,3.6428571428571423,85.56880952380955,82.21428571428572,5.161904761904762,16.476190476190478,6.42735559955562,-0.032680952380952366,109,2,20,1,3,37,25,28,0.075,0.826,0.099,0.168,0,0,0,0,1,0,3.0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,3,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,1,1,17,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4456129980925865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7486557054870838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.49086015378371606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,NaMasTaYiNbEd1029,2020/02/12,"Ways to save money when using a lawyer I separated from my jobless wife in NC (requires 1 yr separation before you can file for divorce). No kids and she decided that she was going to stay in California instead. After 5 months of attempting to amicably navigate the separation/divorce, I got served papers from my STBX wife out of the blue. She wants separation support, permanent alimony, equitable distribution, and for me to pay her attorney fees.

So far I have only had one consultation with a highly recommended lawyer, but I can't really afford a lawyer for the entire court case. I hear things like ""dont use your lawyer as a therapist to hear your marital problems"", ""don't try to communicate too much via email"", etc.

What are some other ways to save money when using a divorce lawyer?",8.19408620689655,8.235385262068965,9.056681034482759,62.41329741379313,61.896551724137936,12.767241379310345,36.745689655172406,12.161744961471696,4.894189655172412,633,27,104,20,8,216,102,145,0.02,0.885,0.095,0.8819,2,0,0,0,3,0,21.0,0,3,0,2,5,5,0,0,8,0,8,0,0,3,0,15,17,7,0,2,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,4,4,0,1,1,0,4,1,4,1,0,1,3,3,15,4,20,14,3,13,0,0,1,0,16,5,0,1,5,68,19,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15928931178256542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193913584269741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20877211005641774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10638733549609117,0.0,0.1497170871593362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4219651487059306,0.0,0.0,0.19778198686253892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914541100311663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494174078357906,0.0,0.1376099972720523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268482995562633,0.14237037078169498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17912050732456794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11992202660219164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19952515624563988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124268734731298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21734803365604025,0.12436416058393328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12709324034640446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4850296002074113,0.0,0.0,0.11041256804114427,0.2971736435308397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Dogo58,2020/02/12,"Splitting investment accounts For anyone who has had experience with this, when it comes time to actually split up assets, is there a way to split investment accounts without triggering a sale/taxable event? Say for example a jointly owned vanguard account/mutual fund?",13.33409090909091,12.520840590909096,11.762727272727272,49.9140909090909,52.18181818181819,15.163636363636366,53.81818181818181,13.816669648895859,8.002036363636364,222,14,27,7,2,70,37,44,0.0,0.9490000000000001,0.051,0.264,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,1,0,4,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,5,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,7,3,1,6,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,19,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.4097562091870718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2935998166523855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36170170903600585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4107371395304047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3339167541254167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448437088921604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33329250439841296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40476306480118784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Deeznutz288,2020/02/12,"Leaving the Marital Home Hi,

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My wife and I just agreed to separate.  We own a house together with our son.  I bought the house with my money but her names on it.  She wants me to be the one to leave and find another place to live.  She also wants to start separating some finances. I'm certainly the breadwinner in the marriage so ill have to help her with some bills after we separate, but of course Id like to keep that as low as possible.

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When searching for a place to live, what things should I consider?  Proximity? 

Im wondering what could bite me in my ass down the road when making decisions now",4.404701561065199,5.858049892561986,5.159118457300277,82.02029384756659,70.73553719008265,9.675298438934805,29.14692378328742,9.994966539143718,2.8400185491276404,491,19,98,13,9,159,82,121,0.107,0.805,0.08800000000000001,-0.5476,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,3,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,8,0,4,2,1,1,1,23,12,10,0,4,3,2,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,5,7,0,1,3,0,4,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,15,2,20,8,3,13,0,1,0,1,13,8,1,3,6,66,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11746094484295375,0.0,0.3182917147942744,0.3569537806857793,0.0,0.15401787910643078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172727884738265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13424687270736746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09845145795587254,0.0,0.14733394784021026,0.0,0.0,0.33896266342966497,0.0,0.0,0.15865703907832135,0.0,0.0,0.1305548730136346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3110522364816297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07175879754221272,0.0,0.2593978070264352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980444269155085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995305890935886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30691945108577184,0.0,0.0,0.16558662786540024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10396335987112078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097581427645061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17326882550123088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592865345534311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3569537806857793,0.0
divorce,D_throws,2020/02/12,"When did you stop referring to your ex as ""wife"" or ""husband""? Follow-up question: When does it become weird to still refer to them as ""wife"" or ""husband""? 

I know it's all personal and such but as we're divorcees, what do we think? God knows the married and never-married crowds have an opinion.",3.027368421052632,5.020069280701755,3.7612631578947346,88.4008421052632,75.49122807017544,5.963508771929827,27.18947368421053,6.742157984588678,1.2337115789473685,227,9,44,2,5,72,45,57,0.063,0.889,0.048,0.3049,0,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,1,2,1,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,15,6,10,0,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,1,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,6,5,1,4,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,4,4,29,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4018560236490005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31841732108065257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3999371152308213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2806321296720764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31770949815161553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.407607731707936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29057996314434303,0.30420419176251096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23314751578926995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Magicalmbeth,2020/02/12,"I still like him, but we're not compatible. My husband [33 M] and I [29 F] have been together for six years thks Friday and married for two. For six years, we've always had a little problem lurking. He will sit there and listen to people disrespect me. When I want to stand up for myself, he tells me not to.

Of course he can't physically stop me, but I respect his wishes.

This has happened for 6 yrs. When he just nods along when people to speak to me like that, I feel like he's complicit. And I've had enough. I've told him for years that it's a problem and he doesn't do anything to change it.

I was also the one who asked him out, asked him move in with me, asked him to get married. I've been the driving force this whole time. Even now as I'm asking for a separation.

We're likely getting a divorce now after a series of events snowballed into our marriage - ranging from family emergency to friends being cruel. 

I don't really know how to explain it though. 

It's what I want.... I think.

I still enjoy spending time with him.
We still have things in common.
If love was still in the picture, I would say I still love him.

But everything and everyday is a fight because nothing gets resolved. He refuses to do it. It's like talking to a brick wall.

He asks me what he can do to ""fix it"" and I tell him. He refuses to do it.

He doesn't support me the way a partner/companion/friend should. He never will. He just keeps quiet as our ""friends"" lay into me. 

He will never even pretend to take my side on things.

He will never love me the way I need to be loved. He's more like a roommate at this point.

I feel sick because I will miss him but there is someone out there who wouldn't break my heart every day. I feel guilty because I know if I could just suck it up and ignore how hurt I feel constantly, we wouldn't have any problems.",1.6238872180451125,3.477073163157897,3.1769172932330854,91.62342105263157,79.21052631578948,5.9218045112781965,22.69924812030075,6.868970318607317,0.5724195488721806,1422,45,310,15,35,468,183,380,0.121,0.725,0.154,0.9387,0,0,0,0,2,0,56.0,4,0,0,1,22,25,3,0,14,0,33,6,1,2,3,59,66,23,0,14,11,1,4,6,2,9,1,5,0,0,20,17,0,5,9,1,1,2,11,9,0,4,7,9,47,16,42,47,3,47,0,2,0,4,57,15,1,2,31,204,67,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06829076236802076,0.07105590924208836,0.0,0.0,0.058071878430750526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07027323254701047,0.0,0.3991663941589464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15616893970876644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033713166353212,0.0,0.0,0.09228221423368617,0.0,0.06818136990647297,0.0,0.0,0.05507304247955863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08823639449363949,0.0,0.1128058643400692,0.0,0.07194940433423884,0.0,0.07674798240700521,0.0,0.08050329138852101,0.0,0.1727141526125738,0.06100657286722678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979290888067116,0.0,0.13384689580793468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07551497175333555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10119409625325196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09141766483231356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07590345728004827,0.0,0.0,0.09386228334498553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25031961035161704,0.08558874008017107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30829114484003994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09076191780729644,0.0,0.06331969221402291,0.19758685654206967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08193929962237798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05786621091143995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11840499538921585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0807263637970753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24513592436791445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05470655348605412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06790994092876527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07235534260821445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3409848423206291,0.07139447416743443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09690581826208601,0.0,0.0,0.06420679955957202,0.06863768010681934,0.14927888786628218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11346597110640942,0.05471799779213257,0.08390065975730256,0.0,0.09958962287589383,0.0,0.0,0.08159907397762321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08341900954875581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007369743527176,0.13556596969791665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09534104267343127,0.0982006276731792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06066252362800501,0.0,0.0,0.16497573527238502
divorce,elloboguerrero,2020/02/12,First time poster need advice So my wife of two years (26f) wants to get seperated and file for divorce because she feels there is no hope left in our marriage I in the other hand am doing what I need to do to fix myself up for her and have hope. Should I hold onto this hope?,5.696149425287353,4.464818844827587,5.78448275862069,88.02545977011495,67.44827586206897,8.422988505747126,26.229885057471265,6.42735559955562,0.8230505747126435,215,4,49,1,3,68,48,58,0.034,0.78,0.18600000000000005,0.8658,0,0,0,0,1,0,4.0,1,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,0,6,1,1,0,0,11,14,3,0,7,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,8,3,10,13,0,8,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,3,3,35,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23774770844619536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14831202709092156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12301863351812058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20694890962702892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12711301283162801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7249485748111247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643436760805711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3608043414221049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14186885247625627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23766651218542695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435032942253406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15667574976619492
divorce,jonathan_kynde,2020/02/12,"When did you stop wearing your wedding ring? I initially thought I would keep on wearing mine until the divorce was officially completed. I do my utmost to keep my commitments, and it felt like keeping the ring on was continuing to honor my side of the commitment.

Now I’m not so sure. The ring symbolizes something that doesn’t exist anymore and to be honest, hadn’t existed for some time. Do I really need a judge’s legal approval to stop wearing it? I don’t think it was the priest officiating at our wedding or the legal papers we signed that made us a couple. It was our words and actions, which stopped some time ago.

I don’t feel comfortable wearing the ring anymore. I am conflicted. My ring was my grandfather’s wedding ring. I feel like I’d be letting him down. But I think it would be better to be honest that it didn’t work than to try and keep up a hollowed out shell of a commitment that doesn’t mean anything anymore.

Thanks for letting me ramble. What was your journey like? When did you stop wearing your wedding ring?",4.206772388059702,6.0069594129353225,4.984001865671644,81.70495802238808,71.7860696517413,7.811069651741294,30.970460199004968,8.472884824447931,2.471619154228856,826,37,153,14,16,267,104,201,0.052000000000000005,0.754,0.19399999999999998,0.9812,1,0,1,0,1,0,19.0,4,5,0,4,4,10,0,0,11,0,25,5,5,1,4,37,40,10,0,3,3,0,3,3,0,2,0,7,0,0,12,6,0,9,7,0,0,2,7,0,0,0,13,10,26,10,18,19,2,21,1,0,0,0,15,7,0,3,15,105,38,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11492823426899293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3857383563359092,0.0,0.0,0.10669213955839804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11466621797036106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13593713367984928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14345692153867176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13111139054208135,0.09262305931316714,0.1244857744996574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4609608503021584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651548909903445,0.0,0.19002352555770333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226793865362556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412284948957661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09613494631791687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08305807243730327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998120608470594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43357784610091377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12219500677220275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193656843010856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16615089544625425,0.0,0.10292881079560866,0.15120166751024347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802485966986097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559547939753672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943878379839252,0.0,0.0,0.18420141502823373,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,displayedoffense,2020/02/12,"Finally, Officially, Done I didn’t know where to post this because I’m not one to post my life on social media but I feel I need to get this out. Also, apologies, I’m on mobile.

A year ago I filed for divorce in June after an entire year of trying my best to save my marriage. I (23f) married my ex (33m) when I was 19. 
It’s been a very long two years of mental abuse and feeling like crap. I finally filed for divorce last year after an entire year of being in denial of being manipulated and cheated on and dragged through a marriage that I was sure would last because it had to. 

Yesterday was my final day, I finally got to transfer my last accounts to my own name and I never have to see or hear from my ex again. The relief I now feel is honestly the biggest weight off my chest I didn’t know was still there. I am elated to be free and to know I no longer have any obligations to this person. 

If anyone ever feels like this is it in life, that you’re trapped and hopeless; that there’s no light at the end of the tunnel, I can attest that there is. Time helps and heals, and hopefully one day everyone can be this free and happy.",4.641113801452789,4.4685450000000015,5.784285714285716,83.61652542372885,69.33898305084746,8.437772397094433,28.297820823244553,7.957251820313856,1.628514285714286,884,27,189,10,14,296,131,236,0.11800000000000001,0.6779999999999999,0.204,0.9790000000000001,0,1,0,0,3,1,24.0,0,0,0,1,10,14,2,0,9,0,22,6,2,1,3,30,37,14,0,4,4,2,5,2,0,1,3,1,0,1,12,10,1,0,7,0,3,0,6,3,0,3,10,8,24,13,31,22,2,41,0,1,1,0,12,11,1,3,30,129,36,1,0.0,0.1320320064632431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987802194390444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08911436283143717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07577947976173689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07791779749256762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13585922969795264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11694393913092176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437324440253362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11403648145896304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986981500351184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007991490462926,0.0,0.1064807191046438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253791161255005,0.15921807521476414,0.0,0.48828547059831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058220079472395124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08912458285369146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862440811145007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255951093183781,0.0,0.07469239207375494,0.0,0.0,0.11067989211251318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837249420891469,0.27250268523455473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15741937809097956,0.10888282107851603,0.0,0.0,0.09861628419337894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11230006050413363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08262748621734127,0.08594538125924983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15102219790878527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09730056205692723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134474544594779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887991016424123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11359373703964068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08899196876680472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10502597260010506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06497852329852102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07565690893613472,0.0,0.10885559958908976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09194537372258954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135697555840619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0791600789536382,0.0,0.0,0.3588017622895697
divorce,micahwimb,2020/02/12,"Valentine’s Day Is Upon Us. This year will be my First Valentine’s Day In 8 years by myself. It’s one of my favorite holidays because I am a hopeless romantic. My Ex Husband was amazing at understanding how much I loved the holiday and spoiled me rotten. It sucks knowing he is going to be doing all the same things for his new girlfriend. I really shouldn’t give a fuck, I don’t want to be with him anymore, feelings just suck.",3.3337873754152834,5.036851581395349,4.706079734219268,83.20453488372095,73.88372093023256,7.239867109634551,30.890365448504987,7.957251820313856,2.2456830564784065,340,16,65,5,7,113,69,86,0.159,0.636,0.205,0.5478,0,0,0,0,0,1,8.0,1,0,0,1,2,7,3,0,4,0,11,2,0,1,1,11,21,2,0,2,1,2,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,3,2,0,1,2,5,0,2,1,2,12,2,9,15,3,10,0,1,0,2,9,3,3,0,6,48,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601369959308639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15989925849558875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33833124584183205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13262975812898273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22311728755178006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424976028186045,0.0,0.2516277468037765,0.14907450318637572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14415647761540967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367413402719896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19282503769035028,0.0,0.0,0.25333669887895804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777452847014981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680398935969394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742644024948033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730697207769797,0.315521733367163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15471483188776966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3378328339683043
divorce,CMV88,2020/02/12,"Anyone experience a similar situation? A friend of mine is in the beginning stages of his divorce. His wife finally went to the mediator for the first time since they've been separated (about 3-4 weeks). She refuses to go to the mediator with him. 

So she has no job and hasn't had a job their entire marriage (5 years). They have one child that is almost 2 years old. He has provided literally everything for her and their child. She told the mediator ""all"" she wants is the house, the car, child support, and full legal/physical custody of the child. He has his child's best interest at heart and is asking her how she plans to pay for the house and insurance and take care of their child when she hasn't even started looking for a job. 

He has a very stable job with set Mon-fri hours. He has already looked into a daycare. He can easily support his child and himself. 

What are his chances of getting full or at least joint legal and physical custody? Especially if he finds himself an aggressive lawyer?",4.929486607142857,6.388048213541674,5.799196428571433,77.91187500000002,69.46875,9.652380952380954,30.901785714285715,9.957137785484203,3.091153571428572,795,33,151,20,14,261,113,192,0.027999999999999997,0.833,0.14,0.9693,4,0,0,0,1,0,26.0,0,0,4,3,5,7,1,0,16,0,16,1,1,1,1,19,30,13,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,2,11,0,1,1,0,1,3,3,1,0,2,4,2,21,6,20,26,5,22,0,0,2,0,40,6,0,3,11,97,23,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13713106875606246,0.0,0.15112268994477376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09575543042802682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280254929580606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437157823730648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396249951994191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09045116649365724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12307772428959605,0.1339589105911346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15001702728235086,0.1251656441778384,0.11648571478492935,0.0,0.0,0.1058037013136295,0.0,0.07154833618038163,0.0,0.07782924510429612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16228099668266685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13486366529261729,0.316033284536106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5435888422596382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299993451446396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14370119453354036,0.0,0.09279776912535163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11328267678196385,0.1539324037324172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09693068186047313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31080810747228405,0.0,0.0,0.10296592204603756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07985398288011099,0.0,0.0,0.13085722926297508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11299432376168185,0.08077396412456185,0.0,0.10984936539741767,0.0,0.0,0.1269497877714511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176376736981815
divorce,charmbat21242,2020/02/12,"Military Divorce So about a month in to my marriage with a guy in the navy, I have realized that he is refusing to give me housing allowance which is supposed to cover for my rent, as he is in school right now and living on base so he isn't using it. He has completely screwed over my life and I don't know if there's anything I can do?? Help please",2.1763963963964,3.5715675405405456,3.7308108108108087,90.28153153153154,76.29729729729729,7.095495495495496,27.1981981981982,7.793537801064563,1.4655117117117111,274,11,61,4,6,91,55,74,0.08900000000000001,0.843,0.068,-0.3722,1,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,5,1,1,0,3,0,9,2,0,2,0,9,12,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,3,3,0,1,2,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,7,0,12,12,0,8,0,0,0,1,10,6,1,1,2,41,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439399887842303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3108054914117869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28436657946209803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29351634301338714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19869351425564644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34204512658655195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16291241712212995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093801562410091,0.0,0.0,0.26175672223864754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366108533117834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3253956007087632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531530833498121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3000071133010758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560238668501805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,smallfry1972,2020/02/12,"A dear friend's ex-H left for someone who is very attractive Looking to see how best to help a dear friend.  Her marriage was in trouble for many years.  She has body image issues (was bulimic many years ago) and has added a lot of extra weight over the years.  She told me she suffers from depression and bi-polar disorder.  She is seeing a therapist and is on meds.  Her husband left her for a fitness instructor.  She has added some more weight since the divorce.  Her ex H doesn't have the new girl around much or bring her to kid events but I am sure there will be interaction at some point between my friend, ex H and new girl.

There will be kid graduations this year and next, weddings down the road, etc.  What advice can I give her?  I believe she is worried people at these events will judge her compared to the new girl.",4.130925925925927,5.49065425308642,4.242901234567904,88.68805555555558,71.28395061728395,7.375308641975309,26.462962962962962,7.793537801064563,1.3142370370370364,647,21,134,8,12,200,101,162,0.066,0.807,0.127,0.846,0,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,0,0,0,1,4,11,0,0,10,0,18,3,1,1,1,13,24,8,0,0,2,3,2,0,3,3,0,0,0,5,4,6,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,3,5,18,8,17,16,8,24,0,2,3,0,32,12,0,4,11,85,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12453138811260785,0.11296650551885976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11344724784773033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14357950416848553,0.13373880135367186,0.0,0.0,0.14155540002239195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097625587882472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14605551581412596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14212756964185788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953759140190033,0.0,0.0,0.12225058306971895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08541931339425157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133012642600969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.276924519157273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10701621013315572,0.0,0.0,0.10834362137813128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25840519219522623,0.0,0.0,0.14155540002239195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09368193129539266,0.0,0.0,0.3692425761185445,0.13553224787847346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08834978210721588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12047053637112055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031039060800532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10541841095522396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10797819353339423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12010924029860767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14796587428091726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12177290970496013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10515007586590776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31037142411339763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12941994205475268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32826475980748965
divorce,Tara_Sg,2020/02/12,"Feeling lonely So its been 6 months since he moved out, but he also took away the kid, and i find myself in midst of a custody battle. 
Last yr it was 7 yrs plus of DB n no physical contact and he went on to tell me he is asextual as we had sex only around 7 times in the whole marriage of 12 yrs.
I always wished for him to dissapear, and have life of my own...but here i m feeling lonely now. I have no motivation to exercise or meet anyone these days. I first time realise, that living alone is hard. Its not the running of house etc but the lack of any human contact or the emptiness that comes with it. I m a people's person. Am not sure when this start to feel normal again.
I moved here 12 yrs ago, to Singapore to marry him, leaving my friends, family, job etc behind, and this man instead of 'adulting' has run to his parents place and living there. 
After being married 12 yrs, in sexless loveless marriage and 7 yrs mom, being by myself, i m finding it very hard..its too peaceful and quite for me. Anybody in similar sitiuation? Did u eventually start feeling better, trusting the opposite sex again? I feel emotionally numb at the moment, and it feels days are just passing by on the calender.",3.356519239274661,4.961306151260509,4.813750552852722,82.86112560813802,73.62184873949579,7.195400265369308,27.65236620964175,7.85451343220497,1.7650722689075629,936,36,180,13,19,313,150,238,0.12300000000000001,0.7809999999999999,0.096,-0.6915,2,5,0,0,0,0,32.0,1,0,0,4,13,8,1,0,10,0,13,5,0,1,1,34,25,17,0,3,7,2,7,0,1,0,3,0,0,5,11,14,0,0,9,1,0,8,4,4,0,1,6,7,19,4,33,17,4,35,0,2,0,2,22,11,0,2,16,119,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11017179931325698,0.0,0.0,0.12872253207611029,0.0,0.09939125215096653,0.1034156824057327,0.0,0.0,0.08451855729602806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869034711304667,0.0,0.0,0.11064064843923864,0.0,0.0,0.11677053312969235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10992062685547686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10706115006286604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16030802591742527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139804716122399,0.0,0.0,0.2772228813761004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11716552365105955,0.0,0.3770555920839039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22718980838399205,0.10571737714168286,0.0,0.0,0.09602284550865857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22267120100094112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14340904372829938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12333440789987718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101309456894897,0.0,0.1316006410028563,0.0,0.0,0.08778668558111125,0.0,0.0,0.21949315051094428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455619430569566,0.09920368270644986,0.264192120447454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217736255377929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945248970277196,0.0,0.0,0.1380045932370328,0.0,0.0,0.08616407508561144,0.1085215041723803,0.1298521333779826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13219317085617366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10281043892025506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17594015660656584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11713782821791167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086312047944086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14494401549561306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13808601739060758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10254874223880896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152141154533006,0.0,0.13876057733290914,0.14292245404802634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,2DD4eva,2020/02/12,"Went to a place we went to, by myself It was also one of the places where we had a fight on the way out.

I'm happy to report I didn't have a fight with anyone while I was there.

No one was pressuring me to leave.

No one was commenting on how I was eating.

And, as I was sitting at the bar, as a single person, I talked to the guy next to me, had a lovely conversation with a stranger.

I'm really glad I went back there and could re-claim the place.",1.02840909090909,2.120517232323234,3.300896464646467,93.43801136363639,78.69696969696969,6.566161616161617,17.425505050505052,7.1686216300943375,-0.17660707070707105,342,5,85,4,8,118,57,99,0.135,0.755,0.11,0.1513,0,0,0,0,2,0,12.0,2,0,0,0,6,6,2,1,11,0,11,3,0,1,0,9,17,7,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,7,2,0,0,1,0,3,3,3,0,3,12,0,11,3,16,4,1,16,0,0,0,1,10,8,0,0,3,65,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13979467914725496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12223050419984255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13441731626523418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13957074719023868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17887322892668267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17308837486436962,0.0,0.1860874110982604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18509747071728055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15777193057459182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859113347218682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3553652693568508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152636459728995,0.5479145376271961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11198710962723618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405048374805956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387552326263187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4861490308593216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,frogsonlogs69,2020/02/12,"Part of the club now Completely blind sided, pretty much way out of left field. One day we're happy-3 days later I'm facing the rest of my life alone. I know I'm young (F29) but this sucks. He was my and the kids everything. And he's already over me.",-0.4039083557951493,1.8139155094339607,1.3892722371967672,98.58773584905664,92.01886792452831,4.538005390835579,15.118598382749324,6.1826913282559595,-0.6764156334231801,194,4,45,2,7,63,43,53,0.13699999999999998,0.8220000000000001,0.042,-0.6221,0,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,3,0,1,3,1,0,0,5,5,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,4,0,5,4,3,10,0,0,1,0,3,4,1,0,5,22,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3030498226315231,0.32289613461792704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3067900543478735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3774111496809313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629738886014044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16080767774023394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3179154413914527,0.0,0.2066750790687908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21509783697603144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19827625462922155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3168619560678978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2976837786915835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.232255683442092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ciobrelis,2020/02/12,"Just need some support My STBEH said he wanted a divorce in August. We tried to make everything work, but the divorce will be finalised in March (on my birthday). We are living appart since December, and I hate this living alone. I miss the feeling of someone being with me so much. Someone to hold at night, or to be held.
There are days when I feel that everything will be alright. That I will surely find someone who will want to be with me. That I won't be alove forever.
But then there are also days, when I feel such a bad person, because he is leaving me, that means that I've done something wrong. And also who would want to be with me, the way I am. And I know it's just selfpity talking, but the pain of failure never goes away.",3.532610565110564,4.764699668918919,4.327542997542999,88.000257985258,72.58108108108108,6.733169533169535,26.96805896805897,6.980632752743323,1.1959513513513516,573,20,117,5,11,184,91,148,0.168,0.753,0.079,-0.9607,0,1,1,0,2,0,21.0,2,0,0,1,10,8,1,0,6,1,19,1,0,1,2,31,34,13,0,5,6,0,3,0,0,6,1,1,0,1,9,8,0,2,6,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,3,4,16,3,15,18,2,15,0,1,0,0,11,5,0,2,9,86,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15580701715201506,0.0,0.2406082956710253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14134020023340182,0.0,0.12560833276989072,0.09170479558563084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194038409133792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539489403075333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704055512460749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22819589607025406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13749638777583195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14852506315310768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08267605764057008,0.0,0.0,0.15929070846605586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656766652646934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10041764303753613,0.0,0.0,0.16386963182042713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11058825933000163,0.1115468820213692,0.11602603131831808,0.0,0.0,0.1411746206354116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16007521971197067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313554945605873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430997194757123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12444276508469394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3823934979778766,0.11581349552947785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17071374637022085,0.1417847778157959,0.0,0.0,0.12091529407971875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10213662162009852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2661943307146337,0.11940962360408534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095196848919732,0.0,0.0,0.10686589163099287,0.16447887885606485,0.0,0.0
divorce,suddensadpost,2020/02/12,"How long should you wait? I know, the answer is different for everyone. We've been separated for 3 months now and she is the one who initiated the divorce and file papers immediately after deciding we needed to end things. At first I was devastated, 6 years of our relationship down the drain. But luckily for me she completely changed into a different person these past 3 months. A person different from the one I love. (Loved?) Less each day.

But man I am so lonely. I dont want to seem like I am looking for a rebound but i am a very physical person and sometimes I just feel so sad and alone. Not that I miss her. Not anymore. I just miss having someone to hold. Someone to be close with. Someone to talk to.

Also why doesnt anyone mention that the ex wife can not just take your possessions but also your friends! Well I guess they were shitty friends anyways all things considered. But what a low blow.

Anyways I tried making a dating app just to not be so lonely. But I felt so guilty. I deactivated it immediately without even uploading a photo. I know it's probably too soon but it doesnt feel that way. But I know if I met a girl who mentioned that she was still technically married awaiting a divorce... I would think twice about it.

How long did all of you wait? And how would you go about mentioning your divorce or ongoing divorce?",2.0875256410256418,4.734364496153846,3.7200000000000015,83.82833333333336,82.88461538461539,6.851282051282053,25.205128205128197,8.021203637495839,1.81587435897436,1059,43,202,22,30,351,149,260,0.124,0.797,0.08,-0.9388,3,5,0,0,4,0,32.0,2,6,1,1,23,12,0,0,15,0,20,2,0,4,2,54,42,24,0,6,19,2,3,1,2,3,0,0,0,5,14,10,0,3,10,0,0,1,8,6,1,4,7,4,32,6,22,30,4,21,0,6,1,2,36,5,0,4,15,151,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12156862470326615,0.0,0.18773493088815665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11640783398416182,0.08207370766311667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12417078519414278,0.0,0.12306902098094727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07569935863347507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3679063412195608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13756661262161338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10396242416433067,0.0,0.0,0.07752732731088502,0.0,0.0,0.11216009297986886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187000934672236,0.0,0.11270167303813634,0.0,0.0,0.09984200853625136,0.0,0.0,0.18137252399105488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06670885068113502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12930554284742554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935242996169909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0573451580660117,0.0,0.0,0.20775238367029725,0.0985682949349696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118771806136633,0.0,0.07835099460319075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873806407877605,0.0,0.0,0.08703459757556857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15907728555840292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11205096608025246,0.0,0.3074708786453673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12655376977186586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12602047580167186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068568884971492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983630165981933,0.0,0.11609024065439374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09373854323370268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825395016757473,0.09434431308392636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559619888926181,0.07521134028703359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07969222984404382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09684947427580516,0.0692328225012081,0.09316951176672718,0.0,0.0,0.10553727972140424,0.0,0.10591575050557796,0.0,0.0,0.11314859059551775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667644976553621,0.0,0.0,0.07558784230258615
divorce,gcowen29,2020/02/12,"Can I really get divorced without a lawyer Me ex kicked me and the kids out. I went back home to my parents and and now wondering can I file everything without a lawyer? Will it all workout? I don’t trust him, and am scared he will fuck me over. I was a SAHM so I don’t have money to really file...
Tell me it works out? Something anything?",-0.10499217527386406,2.1461740563380296,1.9458215962441336,95.16298904538341,90.12676056338027,5.40907668231612,20.56494522691706,6.937597516519254,0.4609236306729265,262,9,59,4,9,87,47,71,0.109,0.8420000000000001,0.049,-0.6199,1,0,1,0,1,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,3,3,1,1,4,0,9,1,0,0,1,10,13,5,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,6,0,0,1,1,1,1,4,2,0,0,2,0,12,1,7,9,1,6,0,0,0,1,7,3,1,1,2,42,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20751442631176192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19390316689332104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22663413881125655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23312710449446106,0.13174841871032034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25294707383995585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28000494618488336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3230931223935902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524661645610958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941327883328765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22040769759172849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.233764119298773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4861657686488912,0.2734676115588427,0.183582765619963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,moaugusta,2020/02/12,"34 years together and now it's close to over. We haven't talked about divorce yet, but my wife of 34 years left me a month ago. I guess we have grown apart a bit. Very Stressful year. We opened a restaurant that is not doing well. No cheating no hitting no police ever in 34 years. I didn't know where else to post. I'm so sad. Im a 53 years old. We have been through everything together. Since we were 19. I'm so lost. We are very nice to each other and supportive. We know we need time apart but Its dangerous with her living 8 hours away now. I don't know what to do with myself. I'm so empty. I've already climbed out of the suicide hole. I'm past that. Its not an option anymore. I just don't know what to do. We want to reconcile someday but that's not gonna happen. I want my old girlfriend back and she wants a different me.  I feel like I have a wet  blanket on me or I'm in a dream state. I have been staying very busy working around the house and anything I can to not think about it.  This is brutal.",-0.7369617034800555,1.4071799216589902,1.1946353090735755,99.8252534562212,93.10138248847929,4.283426028921023,18.08183696170348,5.935793293072707,-0.4278458922612423,781,23,186,7,29,255,125,217,0.19899999999999998,0.7240000000000001,0.077,-0.9875,1,0,0,0,1,1,26.0,9,0,0,3,14,10,3,1,10,0,18,0,0,0,1,43,39,11,1,4,9,1,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,11,20,0,0,7,1,0,2,11,6,1,0,5,2,26,4,21,32,2,35,0,2,0,0,15,13,0,3,18,113,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11407085720419438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14200631206650946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12762023548477314,0.0,0.0,0.10589620465142337,0.11455629923231353,0.0,0.0,0.12090312487700265,0.09895027448860493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404899138751642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13444769220935726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10749921045980317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164023060736297,0.0,0.0,0.11565314070502103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06506664269009907,0.09193208126733103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14176025154733224,0.0,0.11379509114922405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12672810249060154,0.14848439120438733,0.0,0.0,0.1390011136888742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2828860778391309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13981585575317146,0.0,0.0,0.06286864316444266,0.0,0.11363058416628705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14047410195125185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10271457119404567,0.0,0.0,0.0954177692149806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700650270679731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12284371410435972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12324397655985525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644897306094707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13716032932868755,0.0,0.0,0.14740741745836075,0.0,0.0,0.14075972508505366,0.14602940537466508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10343155645399273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08245569589296352,0.0,0.0,0.07503684335403736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31853404424662,0.2277039819866887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11570262953522956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09368369449822676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4143423128959871
divorce,Texanakin_Shywalker,2020/02/12,"Divorce hearing date set I called the court and set the date for the hearing of the final divorce decree. The docket was wide open and I had my choice of dates.


My ex works out of town so I chose a date far enough in advance he could make arrangements to be there but soon enough that it would be finalized within this month.


As I'm obligated to by court and because I'm trying to keep this divorce as drama free as possible, I call the ex to give him the court date.


His response floored me. He asked, *do I have to be there?*",1.9377777777777752,3.890175740740745,2.9349629629629668,93.25633333333336,78.62962962962962,5.801481481481483,22.837037037037035,6.742157984588678,0.4836303703703706,412,13,90,4,10,131,68,108,0.0,0.9570000000000001,0.043,0.6652,0,0,0,0,3,0,10.0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,8,0,9,0,0,1,0,10,17,8,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,4,5,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,10,2,16,10,2,20,0,0,0,0,15,8,0,0,9,57,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18417643887005536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12009460882546065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4023355976542688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15729532959700818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4071250775209492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4316265646215695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889885926072964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44408600159195183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751102881446232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13150476463912708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15725037818294504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22209758585861836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13375590166128434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14342460099055196,0.0,0.0,0.13994925096609795,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,theflickiestbean,2020/02/12,"Falling apart on my tenth anniversary I (33F) am going to be getting a divorce. My husband (34M) of ten years told me today, ten minutes after midnight on our tenth anniversary, that he was done with our marriage. 

We live in Toronto area, but we've moved a lot in the past five years. No kids, one beloved pet. We've had some difficult times before, and I've asked him to go to counselling before, and he refused. But we got through those times. 

This time, we didn't make it. We've been struggling a few months but I never knew divorce was on the table. He brought it up one day after a day we had spent buying tickets for our anniversary trip. Literally one day I was paying for theatre tickets and the next... He wants a divorce.

I gave him space, time, support, conversation, and undying love. I also begged, cried, and pleaded the last few weeks. I just cried tonight. He just told me he loved me and he was sorry, but it's over. He only came back to try because everyone said he should. But he doesn't want to.

So it's over and I literally do not know what to do next. I don't know anyone who has been divorced in Ontario. I don't know how to face the rest of my ten year anniversary day.",1.940516304347824,4.025674062500002,3.082065217391307,91.55119565217394,79.20833333333334,5.6739130434782625,25.018115942028984,6.7026698264267655,0.8299039855072468,925,35,195,9,23,297,133,240,0.096,0.826,0.078,0.182,0,0,0,0,4,0,40.0,7,0,0,0,6,5,0,1,10,0,19,3,1,2,1,34,41,15,0,3,8,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,9,13,0,1,4,2,3,7,7,2,0,9,19,1,24,3,24,20,5,42,0,0,0,2,36,12,0,2,23,121,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09944278700944008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08694853101238435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162506240646754,0.0,0.0,0.09561760600104144,0.0,0.0758027102077537,0.0,0.21162567379470312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14222346862822094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731856481329378,0.32078229285202337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12725339862980128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11882191752371128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06496783210577654,0.0,0.14134213592633318,0.0,0.09945419154024716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20501880621703253,0.10136198635206876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10980347940046828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10571806877903768,0.22446176898722664,0.0,0.08300470489367424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09925512030923372,0.13216455268781432,0.0,0.0,0.095906518000639,0.0,0.2644956356588267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527886827078822,0.09457390865686327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11870630895812133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11828548874632605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13919983599812166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12999779829067706,0.0,0.0,0.14111110070027205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29003833937679324,0.0,0.11786942244605618,0.23764383504742256,0.0,0.08442560370834573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14668990559144435,0.0,0.0997462066773034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.240232299882773
divorce,Lilblue06,2020/02/12,"My (36f) husband (35m) is completely lazy and won't do anything unless it benefits him in some way. My husband works full time but I have a permanent disability, I work part time and study at uni part time and look after our disabled 1yr old son, take him to appointments and play sessions, etc.  
When we visit my 'in-laws' house , he'll help with the dishes and to tidy up after dinner but not at our house or my parents house. 

The problem is that he causes more mess at home than I can clean and is mentally absent when he's here, his favourite response is ""I don't know"" when I ask him why he didn't clean up the mess he's left and won't go and clean it. 
I have tried everything to help out marriage, we've had counseling and seen a psychologist and he says he's trying but there's been no change after years and I can't help but feel used and manipulated. 

I'm miserable in this marriage and hate and resent him and myself for who I've become with him but I'm so afraid because during some of our arguments he says he'll take our son from me if we separate. 

Can you please give me some advice or tell me your experiences of divorce with a young child (In Australia). We own a house together that's mortgaged to the hilt but if we can find separate places to live, we can rent it out and sell it in a few years, I just don't want to live with him for that long as he's a terrible role model for my son.",4.391156462585037,4.427171380952384,5.349387755102043,85.80156462585032,69.8843537414966,8.846258503401359,27.217687074829932,8.680891452615391,1.639266666666666,1102,32,247,17,18,363,153,294,0.128,0.778,0.094,-0.8836,3,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,9,2,0,2,7,10,2,2,10,0,19,2,0,3,0,52,35,32,0,4,13,6,1,0,0,4,0,2,5,1,9,27,2,1,3,1,2,2,8,8,0,0,4,5,35,2,33,27,10,31,0,1,2,0,49,14,0,7,14,151,44,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113474368825157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09555960178626943,0.0,0.1085596329919014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07078770085025074,0.12824908865961904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11929064199235027,0.12284308000924835,0.0,0.12175309649032892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295082027286143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10436415646322836,0.11359089376466952,0.0,0.0,0.05871544202648413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061346149207352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139607421543964,0.06599556142562124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11464774194310705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335050500872794,0.0,0.11648116267749928,0.0,0.0,0.535962902227665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06381834230548984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261683319355862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20507804617576755,0.10276548807120783,0.0975143462460993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11702499868584886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12185189510787015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12894120968445008,0.2515004887837984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12132415860322728,0.12746853921616433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11111433883181793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18469185712043812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746205767261105,0.0,0.10149690403139107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20313733321643013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15768022971814255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10029326838095563,0.0,0.0,0.06849254549276355,0.09217328996098313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10478323861167016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16907832664230882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495592275620246
divorce,hatercode,2020/02/12,"Feeling lonely. I’m a year post-separation and just ... feeling lonely. I’m okay most of the time. I enjoy being by myself and having time to relax when the kids are with their dad. I've even picked back up with old hobbies that I had to give up during my marriage. But I’m also longing for human connection beyond what I’m able to get from my friends. I miss having A Person to talk to. I’ve tried dating, but every date makes me never want to date again. 😂 Is there a way to feel fulfilled by myself?",1.005061188811187,3.1757504326923107,3.0741958041958064,89.86171328671331,83.13461538461539,4.551048951048951,18.10839160839161,5.565023196281405,-0.2836230769230772,391,9,79,2,11,132,72,104,0.07200000000000001,0.7909999999999999,0.138,0.7627,0,4,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,1,0,8,7,0,0,5,1,6,0,0,2,1,15,18,6,0,1,3,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,3,9,4,17,16,1,16,0,3,0,0,9,3,0,1,12,52,11,0,0.2505331165162353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20035124276291147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926445021146129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654747606248775,0.0,0.21108495606964106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38003121416546587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19356126434617726,0.0,0.13089321300667958,0.24033419418730734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22171392429946069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672328006961195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19322658433404008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628923615773824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21875585382918875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23994147187264736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013690290299651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921757499491405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700955406888427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477709232104994,0.19886152653389969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16133511298557685
divorce,PascalsRiskAversion,2020/02/12,"Keep ex wife on mortgage and home title? Hi, I (M39) and my ex (F34) are divorcing and we own a home together.  I would rather avoid selling the house and I have a low interest rate of 3.5%, so I don't want to refinance. I'm a freelancer and so getting a loan assumption is tricky. We're splitting the equity in the home as part of the divorce. We're about 4 years into a 30 year mortgage. I have heard that there might be a simple way to draw up a contract that would make me the solely liable person while leaving her on the title and mortgage. Basically absolving her of all claims and liabilities unless I die in which case she can just have the house. I trust her to not bump me off :)

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Any ideas on plusses and minuses of this plan?",3.1262000000000008,4.685234486666669,4.389000000000003,85.85950000000003,74.13333333333333,7.666666666666668,26.5,8.344100000000001,1.6829999999999998,583,21,121,10,12,192,98,150,0.08800000000000001,0.815,0.09699999999999999,0.5039,3,1,0,0,1,0,23.0,1,0,0,1,6,4,0,1,14,0,11,0,0,1,1,23,17,13,1,4,4,3,0,0,0,3,0,1,3,1,4,10,0,2,1,0,2,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,15,2,18,12,3,13,0,1,0,0,13,9,0,1,3,80,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19254036333882424,0.2159277399753518,0.12084365486731632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18442692754536852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09284211520362366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5347496751707673,0.0,0.0,0.4100891813487901,0.0,0.2006042620466396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579499655022214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881610731471173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11861766237842634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18851405386388184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924342694718037,0.0,0.0,0.15516279046217754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10481341821561747,0.14105181110564236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524692249252704,0.0,0.2159277399753518,0.22886890469152424
divorce,memyselfnI7,2020/02/12,"what are your zodiac signs and what was your divorced spouse?  Hello Divorced birds, I don't believe in horoscopes, but I just wanted to maybe test out some common myths of which two don't work. Please provide me your zodiac sign and your divorced spouse! I want to see if there are any common ones!",2.9863157894736863,5.635702280701758,2.8132456140350897,91.81355263157896,78.82456140350877,5.203508771929825,20.026315789473685,6.42735559955562,0.17603157894736832,238,6,45,2,6,71,41,57,0.055999999999999994,0.9179999999999999,0.027000000000000003,-0.3771,0,0,0,0,3,0,6.0,0,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,11,8,4,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,1,8,0,5,7,1,4,0,0,1,0,10,2,0,2,2,30,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417000479053797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4004403739583339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.357070500509173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408440423720091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39014807748572095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2832263719467081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3471969419449177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4192757696985725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587524125154265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,solag411,2020/02/12,"How long did it take you from when you decided you should get a divorce to actually pulling the trigger? Hi all! In serious paralysis. I've known for seven months unequivocally that I need to divorce my husband.  For the sake of this post, the reasons are not super relevant (but if you must know, ten years of very risky serial infidelity and sickening verbal abuse). But, we have two kids, and I am so overwhelmed and somewhat frightened of his reaction that I just can't seem to make any moves. I am in therapy and trying to be patient with myself and recognize the progress I have made, but I cannot help but be frustrated with myself. How long did it take you to gather the strength you needed to do this thing? Were you paralyzed in divorce limbo? What changed things for you?",5.701081081081077,6.831863702702704,6.048216216216217,78.06029729729731,67.37837837837836,9.703783783783782,33.04324324324324,9.888512548439397,3.2552356756756766,620,27,115,14,10,199,98,148,0.114,0.836,0.049,-0.8403,0,0,0,0,4,0,17.0,1,8,0,3,5,6,1,2,6,0,15,0,0,6,2,31,24,14,0,5,7,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,9,8,0,0,5,0,0,2,3,4,0,3,4,0,19,2,18,16,2,11,0,1,0,0,18,3,0,3,5,88,28,0,0.0,0.2416031486509793,0.19898933365975288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13866759586559632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21571254802983197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10653594451855006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13667835238356782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206506079724493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3609125606375325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19294708178362852,0.13611327865971434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16276113343647092,0.21672687845799368,0.0,0.3023972954736948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952919540130712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20965616792495909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856344200144995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066338742173529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23319188879782934,0.0,0.27094101053823383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13844330557272344,0.0,0.1991930313983076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16824929341244976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13131306238963136
divorce,lickmytaco,2020/02/12,"Dating a divorced man I’ve been involved with a wonderful guy for close to a year now, but he finds it impossible to tell me how he feels about me. He has issues around the word love. He said it once to me, drunkenly, and said that he probably won’t be able to say it again. He has limits, and I understand them. I’ve tried to ask that he says other love-adjacent things to make me feel secure. But that dropped off. His actions do show that he cares about me deeply, but I still wonder. 

This man is my complete match - physical, intellectual, everything. I’m head over heels. But I find myself feeling insecure, and at times irrationally jealous of his ex-wife, as she was the one he declared his love to; she got everything I won’t ever have from him. 

I’m hoping someone will reassure me and explain how hard it is to love post-divorce, or give me some advice on what to do here...",4.9818181818181815,5.334863090909092,5.8022727272727295,81.96090909090908,68.6590909090909,9.354545454545457,29.63636363636364,9.339509955726095,2.341222727272727,688,24,143,13,11,226,114,176,0.064,0.735,0.201,0.9836,0,0,0,0,2,0,28.0,0,0,1,1,10,9,1,1,5,0,13,5,2,3,1,29,33,12,0,1,5,0,4,0,0,3,0,4,0,3,12,7,0,2,9,1,0,1,2,2,0,1,5,8,20,7,21,24,1,15,0,0,0,3,33,6,0,5,7,89,32,0,0.13509932289140986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320174947486811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12026704009311333,0.12629962983543624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377427635856715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14164906967946225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12220507213748395,0.0,0.0,0.2428371203203425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20493083080307145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469566671843009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12959958090112908,0.0,0.0,0.10805127007427964,0.0,0.0,0.1337695699477834,0.0,0.0,0.1210224570993402,0.0,0.13865088144218432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341841109548145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141008593192609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4877296541568994,0.0,0.090179847093451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14387636971443382,0.09154679758917704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12938780642782716,0.0,0.14565992001666178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257020787006755,0.2148728081060368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11446921787201805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10789049377598968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11808276295079027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08975398705502863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07877750161795638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172357209080477,0.0,0.0,0.14064315966347854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2930189054489128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08699953453677679
divorce,whatamidoing____,2020/02/12,"Feeling so guilty... Cross posted from r/separation 

Apologies for the long post, I'm just getting everything off my chest. 

My partner (30F) and I (29F) have been together for 4 years and married for 2. About 6 months into the relationship, she decided she wanted to go to grad school across the country. We were in love and I wanted to marry her, so I said let's do it. We'll figure it out. We got engaged and then moved. I left the life I had worked very hard to build for myself and all my family and friends. Which I was happy to do, because it was temporary, and she wanted to follow her dreams. I had an amazing job, they let me stay on and work remotely. But where we lived was too expensive for just one income. So, I found a different job that paid better, but it was still tight. I found a 2nd job to work every night so we had enough money for groceries, gas, utilities and such since my first job was basically just paying rent. All while she was in school. During all of this, I was told that I wasn't vulnerable enough and that I needed to express my emotions more. She felt shut out because of how much I worked and how easy it was to turn my emotions off when I was overwhelmed. We worked on this together, I tried to find ways to open-up more. I knew that I could shut people out easily and I didn't want the one person who I chose to spend my life with to feel shut out of my emotions. I wanted her to know what was going on. I started meditating, taking time to myself, working out, I even stopped drinking (I needed to). I finally got to a good spot where I was coming to her with my feelings, she didn't have to pry them out of me. While she's finishing up her last semester, we decided to move back to the east coast. I had a great job lined up at a startup and was super excited to follow my dreams of running my own company. But, they told me I could work remotely if I wanted to and she took that as a sign we should move back to our old city, where we moved from the first time. In total, we've moved 5 times together and twice across the country. Drove across the country 6 times in the course of 1.5 years, we have dogs that can't fly so we always drove. She's had health issues. Her family had health issues. It's been a rough 4 years. 

Anyway, we moved back to our old city. I can work remotely and travel if I need to be in the office. I'm glad to be back around family and friends but do kind of wish my dreams were as important as hers. I chose this too, so any resentment I feel seems a bit unfair. Cut to, we've been back 8 months. I've told her for the last 6 months I need her to find a job and I cannot and will not be the main source of income anymore. I need her to be financially independent. We are still living paycheck to paycheck and I can barely afford all of our living costs on my own. I took a pay cut for this job and she was meant to get a job right when we got back. Still nothing. She's had a few research jobs here and there to help with some monthly expenses, but nothing that is a steady income. I've only seen an actual urgency or her trying to get a job over the last month and I think that's only because I have been so standoffish and just shut down. The only thing I want to talk about is money and when she can help me pay the bills. 

The last two months has also been the calmest in our entire relationship, and I think everything just hit me at once in the absence of the chaos. My feelings for her have changed. I'm still going through whether it's because of built up resentment or if just genuine incompatibility. My gut tells me we just aren't right for each other. I told her two weeks ago that my feelings have changed, hardest thing I've ever done. She responded better than I thought. Offered to give me the space I needed to sort things out. She came home last weekend after staying with a friend for a week. We are supposed to go stay with my parents at the beach next week, it's my first week off in 8 months and I probably won't get another one this year. I told her I wanted to go by myself so I could have alone time with my family, and she could be alone and think about what she wants too. Her reaction was horrible. ""I deserve a vacation too!"" ""We had plans to spend quality time together and work things out!"" ""Why do you need this much space from me?!"" ""I'm your family too! How is that supposed to make me feel?!"" Whether intentional or not, I know this is manipulation. She's trying to get what she wants out of making me feel bad. Her feelings are valid and understandable. But I need to prioritize myself, for the first time in 4 years. I've been feeling incredibly guilty for the last two months. Heartbroken. The guilt I feel for not being able to love her completely and because if we do separate, she doesn't have a job or a place to go. We have to live in this house together because she can't afford to do anything else. Is it my fault? Have I enabled her to do this? 

I'm told I need to think about what I want. Truth is, I'd ask for a separation and us to live separately if she had a job. But would I even feel this way if she was financially independent? Have I truly outgrown our relationship? 

Again, sorry for the long post. Writing this all out really helps. Would appreciate any thoughts and advice anyone has to share. If not, thanks for listening.",2.7954545454545467,4.341128848066301,4.010984011384565,88.28632533902565,74.97605893186005,7.367302862882974,23.57479491043027,8.07648339933343,1.1084460405156542,4163,122,901,66,88,1361,378,1086,0.067,0.8320000000000001,0.10099999999999999,0.9905,23,2,1,0,1,1,132.0,25,2,3,18,53,27,4,2,49,0,91,9,2,9,8,187,187,75,0,35,31,1,16,0,4,6,4,2,2,2,41,73,1,2,32,7,13,23,13,8,0,11,60,19,161,19,140,108,19,151,0,1,1,2,103,54,0,14,66,619,202,28,0.0344865912731987,0.0,0.03365393833204342,0.0,0.0,0.03369989785936157,0.030570282361842175,0.0,0.0,0.07143541589457307,0.0,0.027578914581514742,0.028695606602527592,0.0,0.0,0.046904129322760536,0.036162197891234885,0.0,0.0,0.034201431719501886,0.0241138264714071,0.0,0.028379526169830537,0.030700377815086145,0.03224030749282111,0.0,0.0,0.1591083597531104,0.028794863207241086,0.12613623568304655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061001174916061725,0.03765042572150268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0394434730837954,0.0,0.0,0.07296448161645587,0.029707144730380605,0.036158534815092416,0.0,0.0,0.1101389477287088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0360311477837038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03529175636122888,0.0,0.033783730265314886,0.0,0.0,0.028809121786019538,0.11637832024219245,0.0,0.07126773526430759,0.0,0.04555613657031832,0.031195096201219675,0.02905644054215512,0.0,0.06198864905621754,0.0,0.16255444512173775,0.0,0.209249481046272,0.0,0.03311253584197684,0.03777837504852512,0.06304023929284898,0.11733710767799795,0.0,0.07562553459108172,0.07993276460995452,0.0,0.09008910279341392,0.03308268080149846,0.1175971473861995,0.028925716554718508,0.08274623235373643,0.03802158862706389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036711617685878994,0.03089321192392553,0.0,0.0,0.07331526771539752,0.0,0.0,0.06934690555284112,0.0,0.034592862911797514,0.0,0.0,0.039792896070894514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07199008278303454,0.4106714456438408,0.0,0.0,0.035912477871390465,0.03790585732294432,0.16866704851007422,0.0,0.0,0.037469782324734593,0.07052975222978114,0.04871779861186136,0.0,0.0,0.15226145958937964,0.06103909609408401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06225099014096181,0.0,0.04604013493526021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202149450639569,0.2199227325920776,0.050703225327700836,0.2301423340595895,0.0,0.0,0.036676881060894666,0.032363329724134894,0.0,0.06618162887028847,0.0,0.07237575254429593,0.03672709418537577,0.07010702030015008,0.07868582006576336,0.0,0.0,0.038293278395968015,0.0,0.0,0.023908660122038645,0.030112361289921313,0.0360311477837038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990858643962,0.0,0.03718237826061547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02209299344924976,0.0,0.0,0.11107707834276273,0.0,0.058902721031556624,0.032804645650749635,0.0,0.0,0.06980454303942803,0.0,0.03139529746933458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028527664675790893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03860491547153265,0.02440978680468119,0.11027435313075908,0.11016414535569001,0.02883233451172997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02592962472820607,0.027719015736537414,0.030142800830816337,0.031750619824698664,0.0,0.0,0.09164543538666546,0.08839046072136991,0.0,0.054757002562586365,0.14076586093655893,0.0,0.0,0.19772049511165496,0.07663174366155913,0.07024239514559011,0.037511508231261814,0.10106516572863866,0.03590175775036406,0.041483123079671023,0.0,0.0,0.02845504952840443,0.22375193554672548,0.054747701867944726,0.1106522532809675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031118784577927876,0.0,0.0396578779990011,0.0,0.0,0.2259598426218753,0.0,0.0,0.048996569943676786,0.0,0.0,0.11104117046315436
divorce,IncitingDramah,2020/02/13,"Divorce Advice for the unaware needed I’m in Texas

Anyways I’m getting a divorce. Currently it looks like she will be filing first, simply because her family is going to bankroll the whole thing. Regardless of what she’s saying around town and to her family the reason she’s pushing for Divorce is because I caught her in another affair.

Strap your crazy hats on, this one is fucking insane. So in the past she cheated, had her affairs, and everything. I didn’t find this out until after our son was born (I did a paternity test, yes he is mine). I was leaving and basically gone, but let her claw her way back into my life because I was an emotional bitch thinking of my son. My son has a lot of special needs, he’s on a ventilator, oxygen, doesn’t travel, the whole nine yards. Rare Genetic disorder.

Well I have kept evidence from this first known affair just in case something like this were to happen again. Low and behold, it has… except this one is fucking crazy. She met some dude on a phone game, and it evolved into what I assume is an emotional affair, endless messages, video chatting, ect. Well this guy lives over seas in the UK…? Makes no sense, but she’s become indoctrinated with British culture because of this dude. She's even buying and shipping this dude stuff like clothes, food, cat toys, a record player (Found this after the initial confrontation). Well she ends up hitting me with this crazy bullshit...

She wanted to talk about taking a vacation, but we have to take separate vacations because one of us has to stay home for our special needs son. I entertained this to see what she would say. Turns out she wants to visit Scotland but would have to fly to London (30 minutes from where this dude lives) and take a train to Scotland. Right…

Anyways I didn’t say anything and let her have her fantasy. I went through the messages and discovered just how serious this was. I ended up taking pictures of the messages and storing them somewhere safe. In one of the pictures she jokes about poisoning me to be with him. So after I did this I simply confronted her on the basis of her calling this dude and talking so much was inappropriate. She gave me the “We’re just friends” spill. I let her win her little argument and have been making plans for divorce, but she’s escalated her side of the ordeal quickly.

Here ‘s what I’m working with and the preparations I’ve made so far:

· Pictures of intimately and emotionally charged messages

· Pictures of her joking about poisoning me

· Pictures of them making travel plans and costs to fly

· Pictures of the last affair guy admitting what really happened

· Voice recorded phone calls between us admitting to the previous affair and “Drinking a lot”

· Email receipts of her buy and shipping stuff to this UK guy

· Pictures of her talking about being hungover and/or drunk

· Detailed notes dating back to the day this second affair happened outlining everything I can think to write down

· Proof I’m taking care of my son and continuing the routine and taking him to doctor appointments

· Found a lawyer I like, had a consolation. Cant afford to put him on retainer just yet though.

I also will not be moving out of the martial home during this to ensure I keep my son's routine and see him.

Obviously the most difficult thing will be the custody of our son. But so far, the game plan is to frame the situation as the affairs and drinking/alcoholism go hand in hand. I’m attempting to build more proof of her drinking in the detailed notes I take and will see if I can’t find evidence of her bragging about it in texts/ect. Best case scenario I get the house, kid, and she kicks rocks. Worst case, I get divorce raped?

I’m not worried about the material things, mostly that my son is taken care of and I have possession/constant access to him.

So all this laid out, I’d love any and all advice that will make this more favorable for me. I’ll be deleting this post, as well as purging my Reddit account later tonight to ensure safety. So let me have it guys!",5.849740896358548,7.005933511904763,5.986943666355432,78.54149859943979,67.05555555555556,8.627824463118582,32.4161220043573,8.841846274778883,2.7424359165888577,3189,133,566,51,51,1012,338,756,0.08199999999999999,0.7909999999999999,0.126,0.99,2,0,5,0,5,0,80.0,6,1,2,9,36,34,9,0,40,1,51,14,2,7,5,91,107,46,0,9,14,8,2,4,1,7,4,4,3,5,38,37,4,4,11,16,5,11,8,13,4,8,23,10,84,21,97,66,14,68,0,1,4,4,102,32,3,7,26,395,122,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12169219006329846,0.0,0.06654394316452983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04979449090616244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04234334955642384,0.06529184564967898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05124001720981472,0.05543037886464548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957581772529344,0.0,0.1897853769798377,0.06876844803895114,0.0,0.0,0.06534484148868583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271620996479495,0.0,0.12696967623890604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04015673596004928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07136279398963129,0.0637323926992358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12199491350540828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21012426692305405,0.11029925992233007,0.0,0.0,0.041126430510268784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11192221552417547,0.0,0.11739861357409635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11382089069937801,0.1059276920409274,0.07529288890834218,0.13654398846404714,0.04810693701898637,0.11512873643227176,0.09759501585601407,0.0,0.07077496431564466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466144651776765,0.16518615888280475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249167361237765,0.0,0.0,0.07184717134807535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05534531878425118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050755501323183086,0.0,0.06593122412532311,0.0,0.25468682573705803,0.04398066451775029,0.1216810505459581,0.06240738266509264,0.10996490586999688,0.0,0.052288170800769335,0.0,0.0,0.105873489123653,0.05619793979403738,0.058918059975416937,0.16625346683432748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06617942653101283,0.045773035864608624,0.138509443831102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16877354494745467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05944041191603128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059634086988481175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06259502226625703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039889508999601496,0.06402032392420942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053175243682722466,0.0,0.14855044015143146,0.0,0.0,0.1488549966150451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06999014552038782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04793578736651955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06636779531844479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14256047170894862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3277165681190353,0.15014234221667944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241012708857114,0.07979570732511443,0.06117651193863974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06772806268271246,0.0,0.0,0.14979784565810444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734527801328175,0.04942424283484865,0.0,0.0,0.22394021572807304,0.057721661615520135,0.0,0.1390366286087725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04533074753877538,0.06323464479600356,0.0,0.08846465836363472,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,freckledfarkle,2020/02/13,"What I am NOT getting this Valentine's day This Valentine's day I am NOT getting ignored. 
I am not getting belittled
I am not getting unappreciated 
I am not getting disappointed
I am not getting the feeling that I am unworthy
I am not getting sad that he doesn't love me

This Valentine's day I AM getting my self worth, 
I am getting my independence 
I am getting to rediscover myself
I am getting peace of mind
I am getting a future with unlimited possibilities 
I am getting happy that I love who I am 

Hope all of you can see what you are  and are not getting in a positive way this Valentine's day",3.41,5.252993333333336,5.8066666666666675,74.80500000000002,74.0,7.800000000000002,36.16666666666667,8.548686976883017,3.319066666666667,480,29,88,9,10,170,50,120,0.11599999999999999,0.687,0.19699999999999998,0.8307,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,2,0,0,0,7,0,0,3,0,19,2,0,1,1,16,38,1,0,1,8,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,10,2,0,1,1,0,1,0,9,3,0,0,0,2,22,4,5,38,1,7,0,2,1,2,7,1,0,1,5,69,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30738038065872525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06024833065436125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8715497199043009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268426762237692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11834776622463185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150840165808403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12031254767577552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13432931999664688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09495108028701624,0.0,0.12430461552488335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09457966523635757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Miss_Kit_Kat,2020/02/13,"Found my new condo! What's the best part of living alone? I wanted to post a small success story on here...I am currently in the process of selling the condo that I own with my soon-to-be ex-husband.  (And of course, I am doing all of the legwork...ugh.)

This week I found my ""bachelorette pad-"" a smaller unit in my current high-rise condo building (which I LOVE).  The seller accepted my contingency offer, and I will move in once my current place sells.  It feels like a huge step forward, as I was nervous about not knowing where I would be living.

I've never lived alone as an adult (dorm > sorority house > living with now-ex for 8 years), but I'm an only child and very independent, so I am getting excited (and feeling proud of myself).

Those that live alone and love it- tell me what I can look forward to!",4.192154882154881,4.983679629629631,5.158574635241301,84.30904040404045,70.60493827160494,7.619304152637486,28.30751964085297,7.686295010490155,1.6213506172839502,628,22,127,7,11,206,107,162,0.045,0.792,0.163,0.9619,4,3,0,0,0,0,41.0,0,0,0,3,3,9,0,1,10,0,9,2,0,1,2,20,20,9,0,2,2,0,2,1,0,2,0,0,4,2,9,7,0,0,6,0,3,4,2,1,0,0,3,3,18,8,17,14,4,20,0,0,1,2,6,10,0,0,10,77,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4200242252050064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14186546463126135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13670444686976027,0.09657424910559192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964407889704901,0.0,0.0,0.07062716278073775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14282750270993955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15598220323943046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07429264673747887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06604323455092949,0.0,0.5968421572757636,0.0,0.11351907015727125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440145743281412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14367737192350755,0.0,0.0,0.1042609094226282,0.13055989010542807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14396471821027246,0.0,0.10281221683130484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146389237737304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412367123653109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294672580994286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11815527266528948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11153953989224856,0.07973401223878007,0.0,0.10843507236456854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09602961439868082,0.0,0.0,0.08705295733323908
divorce,throw222112489387625,2020/02/13,"I’m lost... I will admit that our marriage was rocky from the start. His parents disliked me, he kept this from me and it blew up weeks before the wedding. He broke my trust literally days before the wedding when I asked him to not tell his family that my grandfather had died. He did because he thought it would make a difference. It didn’t, they used it to harm us more. He yells, screams and and is cruel when he doesn’t get his way. I am not perfect. But I’m also not a doormat. He will not help maintain our home and blames me and his depression. I’ve tried to be supportive and take on most things. But I’ve gotten to the point where i do most of the home duties. He was upset when he had to take over taking care of himself when I was pregnant. He couldn’t help or take care of me. When I miscarried almost half way through the pregnancy he didn’t know how to help and or didnt really try. I stayed with my family because I couldn’t trust him to not make this about himself. Our physical relationship is broken down. I don’t sleep in the same bed because I can’t seem to forgive him for the cruel things he says about me on a weekly basis. He wants a physical relationship but doesn’t want be kind. I asked him to seek help for his anger. He did, but only because he thought it would get me back to bed. Two sessions in he comes home and asks for a divorce because the therapist confirmed the stat that if you aren’t physical for more than a year and have a miscarriage you’ll likely divorce. I’m not what he needs and he doesn’t see having children with me now. Then the next day he is crying and asking for me to work on the marriage and he just wants the physical relationship and he will not divorce me if I provide that...how do I respond to that... I’m lost",3.0245694716242646,4.3212481917808265,4.106531311154601,88.83881849315071,73.93150684931506,7.296477495107632,25.63845401174169,7.83500028581142,1.2497769080234835,1390,46,301,19,28,452,161,365,0.124,0.823,0.053,-0.9709,2,0,0,0,3,0,35.0,4,2,1,4,13,19,3,1,20,0,34,1,1,4,1,57,70,29,1,10,16,1,0,1,0,6,0,3,5,1,14,16,0,2,6,0,0,1,18,10,0,2,16,4,43,9,36,44,5,29,0,4,1,0,64,10,0,8,16,193,57,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09104578818300273,0.0,0.0,0.072710720876565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34000119796685474,0.0,0.0,0.06991381949268076,0.0,0.2771276765945781,0.0,0.15473676633923109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18540317454380054,0.0,0.0,0.07832171574940153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09987413871954284,0.11727503049313087,0.0,0.07831144884340331,0.0,0.09436323973991928,0.09499470044840527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17142735406147958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950065469454355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437738429191512,0.0,0.2736081572826174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09468183190366407,0.04996864911505379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04442015944538661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19850538177834454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12138300042601713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06741790993271732,0.0,0.0,0.09669715077290082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06915068735857285,0.0,0.0,0.1009587186133886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08595118727474974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058247306117438516,0.0,0.0,0.2928503373580328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07230525166794355,0.0,0.0,0.07245349109238575,0.08277246388295441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09098820127889908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06435544044946788,0.09691132799582906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10317781876556148,0.0,0.0,0.2734497328347166,0.0,0.07947030588058049,0.0,0.0,0.10556807459886053,0.12080978844028735,0.0,0.0,0.14436467822537838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12346087012807228,0.0,0.08881810817123678,0.0,0.10936861834859367,0.07852788015615357,0.0,0.0,0.16088540609571814,0.14434015731067565,0.14586515141658454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06619269062574197,0.0,0.0,0.1291775247555122,0.0,0.0,0.05855113352985366
divorce,whatupliz,2020/02/13,"We filed! Happy Valentine’s Day!! We met at the courthouse and started the process, Uncontested filing pro se. We agree on parenting/maintenance and once we take  the mandatory parenting classes, we file for an appearance and get it stamped! Has anyone finalized a divorce while their house was still on the market? 

Exciting for me, sad for our kids.",5.273005464480871,8.278451737704923,5.204508196721314,75.85681693989073,72.60655737704919,9.31256830601093,34.756830601092894,9.725611199111238,4.193227322404372,280,15,44,8,6,87,48,61,0.046,0.78,0.175,0.8302,2,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,6,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,6,0,2,0,0,0,0,9,7,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,8,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,8,2,6,5,0,9,0,1,0,0,11,3,0,1,5,28,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342014834543917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21601195551292385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3669161130172417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749950514267058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35655541157013376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3864818095875645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3567057244682183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3719170251681916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23707594840829016,0.0,0.2674876828070073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518371185909584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,burgundysox430,2020/02/13,"The limbo stage... how long and how did you cope? I’ve made the decision, but logistically cannot make any changes to our situation for a few months. We will likely need to live together for a while once decision has been made. Already do not share a bed, sex has stopped. I would like to think we can do this slowly and amicably, but I’ve moved out once before with my partner NOT being kind or mature in that process. So waiting to tell them I’m sure until I am ready to make the changes. 

How long did this stage last for you? How did you cope? Any tips for me?",2.2589565217391296,4.020951982608697,3.362826086956524,91.43554347826091,77.0,6.686956521739131,22.80434782608696,7.554174236665415,0.7084956521739132,438,13,99,6,10,141,74,115,0.069,0.815,0.11599999999999999,0.7759,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,3,1,0,5,5,0,0,6,0,14,1,0,8,1,27,22,12,0,2,5,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,1,1,3,6,0,2,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,6,0,11,5,13,13,1,12,0,0,0,1,10,2,0,1,9,61,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19621328514481587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418282838570211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512997657996452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37619023370853605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18515753342163235,0.0,0.14493557913896826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17373400982507015,0.0,0.15700590972145875,0.3147053376695614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3364885745057589,0.2373737020748172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14192301139956054,0.18897958371610085,0.0,0.131840857539435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3787150635197792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19986133543290746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14865373422846548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675800018300085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554102357470493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139308720480171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12630824402287935,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,moissaniteee,2020/02/13,"Crush rejected me  I told my crush that I want to be more than friends. He rejected me, said that we couldn't be a couple because he han't feelings for me. We aren't comunicate anymore. Do you think he will try to contact me? I want to talk with somebody who has a similar situation.",2.614210526315788,4.504292877192988,4.382315789473683,83.94821052631579,76.36842105263158,8.068771929824562,30.69824561403509,8.841846274778883,2.59248350877193,222,11,46,5,5,75,40,57,0.16699999999999998,0.732,0.102,-0.5888,0,2,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,0,0,8,13,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,2,11,1,6,7,1,0,0,2,0,0,12,0,0,0,0,30,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32308053903630163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19858897209680013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3604630349399961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16472126002390766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25169239393878445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3098859336258633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36618393042146496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618450192133261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087429989023216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31129127703920706,0.0,0.22117934587221685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3843002115431203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,bandaid_heart,2020/02/13,"Taking ex-spouse out for Valentine's day, and having plans to do so indefinitely, irrespective of current relationships. Thoughts? How common or uncommon is this?",6.996794871794869,10.862978423076928,7.3053846153846145,58.12294871794876,72.46153846153845,9.620512820512822,35.5897435897436,9.725611199111238,4.904835897435898,133,7,17,4,3,43,26,26,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,6,5,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,3,12,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3879019343937301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6457595839533298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4522347164610124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4775043562664664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,jfergu5,2020/02/13,"I’m boring in bed and a shitty wife I’ve been wanting to divorce my husband for about a year and a half. I’ve been honest with him about it and every time he says no, let’s just try harder and so I reluctantly say ok, even though deep down I don’t want to anymore. Today he said I was boring in bed, and that I’m a shitty wife. He’s not wrong, I have been boring in bed and I told him it’s because I don’t want to sleep with him. I don’t I don’t not even a little bit and that I do, because I feel bad for him. I’m not emotionally there anymore. I have to leave on a trip in the morning and he wants me to think about our marriage on my way out. He asked me to truly think about if I want to end it, or if I want to try harder! I don’t know if I can I don’t want too! But I always say yes because I feel bad for him! How do I make this cycle stop? And why the fuck does he want to stay with me if I’m a shitty wife like he says and boring in bed(I will give him the bed part because I am) I just want to get it over with in bed because I don’t actually want to be doing it!",0.8774999999999977,1.1953346071428577,3.44936507936508,95.26785714285714,77.92857142857143,6.076190476190478,19.952380952380953,5.46131890053228,-0.3865809523809527,819,15,220,3,18,290,105,252,0.16,0.731,0.109,-0.9539,0,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,1,0,0,0,13,11,1,0,10,2,21,2,1,2,0,44,47,19,0,14,11,4,2,1,0,1,0,5,5,0,8,15,0,1,5,0,0,1,11,8,0,1,6,7,34,3,33,38,2,21,0,0,0,1,28,13,1,5,6,137,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.10190561379646376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689156601051146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20712689597907527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976250770898461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17438423879948578,0.31828841725331875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11400715437796825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091384704677489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11746623371753576,0.09249125887243813,0.0,0.0,0.13794599650090747,0.0,0.08798418713953184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10560278063260436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09654100827614144,0.05455875758703888,0.10017582072702652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05739030628248727,0.0,0.0,0.11057303417350388,0.0,0.1067836046553418,0.0,0.051017720127231686,0.1046632115155257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06970578247869556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11308418207108314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933391799295413,0.3321779245623408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045023396062845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11130520625276716,0.0,0.08730558416710589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338251123047164,0.1025989223611102,0.0,0.06089217900653481,0.0,0.09898451337714978,0.09978440074233112,0.0,0.14179805289989025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6159370522475563,0.08288923138434892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09422905609814616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11417444788656217,0.0,0.0672475151114858
divorce,TAKE_MY_UPDOOT,2020/02/13,"Want to leave but can't bring myself to leave my cats that have been a huge help with my depression and anxiety. I've been depressed for a while and when I got my cats they help me relax and feel much better and I've bonded with them so much and love them to pieces. 

My wife is a huge source of my depression and anxiety, always running me down, blaming me for her problems that I have no control over and it sounds like if I left her I wouldn't need the cats but I've grown so close to them that I just cannot leave them behind so I stay with my wife because I can't bring them with me anywhere I could go and she said she'd put them outside if I leave without them.

What have some of you done in this situation? I know it might sound dumb to people that don't have pets but they're important to me and I just can't leave them behind.",1.84,3.2930430000000013,2.8566666666666687,95.955,77.33333333333334,6.133333333333334,20.333333333333336,6.742157984588678,0.005066666666666553,660,15,157,6,15,210,92,180,0.196,0.64,0.16399999999999998,-0.5506,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,9,2,6,9,1,0,4,0,17,1,0,1,0,32,27,19,0,7,8,2,1,1,0,2,0,3,1,0,8,14,0,1,2,1,0,6,8,5,0,0,5,4,37,4,20,18,4,16,0,3,0,1,20,7,1,4,3,111,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10905847269223977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20053221382942216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07989739454592885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159183539997351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14700309420932456,0.104646554345408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33866415667632016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13412732829433338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06627155256041907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07448855304196911,0.0,0.10482647334058927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17570326380809564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07203114684054332,0.0,0.0,0.6939066000059416,0.14240497819224682,0.0,0.0,0.06403285028426063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11829333323371835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13904166678274205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926990563887392,0.097184723942899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086554583577693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12541368151137422,0.0,0.13175881277590873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12467499298536358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14732510902469276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13970027649349848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730687485198819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263441763145494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Imnotmeareyou,2020/02/13,"Rant/ Vent. I can't stop loving my STBX. 3 years since separation and I'm losing hope of healing. (36M) married 17 years this Sunday.  Been separated for 3 years and I'm not healing.  I can't bring myself to sign a lease or stop living out of a suitcase.

I acknowledge my STBX (37F) isn't perfect and shifts between periods of drawing me back and then pushing me away.  I always end up just short of getting a real chance to convince her to honor our lives together and really just try.

I defined my life as a family man, but I no longer have a family and I'm stuck in a waiting room that I can't leave.  I hate my STBX's decisions but I know the girl inside the woman and my love for her crushes me like bricks.

I try to remind myself of the infidelities, the lies and the truth that I don't think she ever really cared about my feelings or needs, or wants.

Intellectually I understand and accept I suppose  but emotionally it's debilitating.  I really meant all of the forevers and here I still am.....Waiting..",2.352720166753521,4.469907247524755,4.562256383533093,81.28949192287652,78.00990099009903,7.420948410630538,24.492965085982284,8.371475516178862,1.7239366336633668,792,28,155,16,19,274,121,202,0.092,0.721,0.187,0.9522,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,0,0,3,8,12,1,0,12,0,7,5,0,0,4,40,26,18,0,3,9,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,1,3,4,11,0,3,8,0,0,2,7,2,0,0,3,1,30,10,19,23,1,20,0,1,0,2,9,6,0,4,13,98,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133268009871299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15047791785341486,0.12315505733385215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16329631792760488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18016122753178496,0.14185641445258146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14487612846330553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3019738554012531,0.0,0.08098295990015902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08367828292789344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15812728590605782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15907747654331034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802110786271429,0.0,0.0,0.16958893580018308,0.0,0.0,0.11312749293373738,0.07824729535550769,0.0,0.2828528001605444,0.0,0.0,0.1791808419847136,0.0,0.0,0.28910577439659674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11875844608892384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18229996101988666,0.3078125487845745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13248805471439426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279059597352451,0.2678060020507371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026256471513884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174796148950466,0.0,0.0,0.16673478531208555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944679776505538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3094181490507493
divorce,no1import10,2020/02/13,"I want a divorce but afraid of husband Needless to say I’m afraid of my husband. He’s been emotionally and verbally abusive for quite some time. He’s addicted to video games to the point that he will spend 10+ hours a day on them and not acknowledge me or the kids. There is a lot of damage of the property that we’re currently renting due to his rage issues. We have one child together which is part of the reason I haven’t left. His daughter from a previous relationship lives with us the majority of the time. The thought of our son growing up witnessing this toxicity is the main reason for me wanting to leave. However, I’m afraid of what my husband might do if I leave. He’s told me in the past that if I leave him he’ll kill himself, he’s told me that he would make me the victim with my own episode of The First 48, and he’s even told me he’d start killing members of my family if I tried to leave with our son. I don’t know what to do, I just want to be happy and want to protect my son. I’m constantly sick to my stomach.",6.0443661384487095,4.634328032110094,6.916155129274397,80.77550875729776,66.8440366972477,10.679566305254378,34.03836530442035,9.800150414767053,2.8693798165137614,813,31,183,15,11,273,118,218,0.17300000000000001,0.764,0.063,-0.9825,3,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,4,0,1,2,3,9,4,3,15,0,14,3,1,3,0,29,29,9,2,8,7,7,0,0,0,4,2,1,1,2,8,8,0,1,5,2,2,1,3,8,0,2,5,1,29,1,29,18,6,16,0,1,0,0,34,5,0,7,10,114,37,0,0.0,0.14438241163759044,0.0,0.13284376633146702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316857616910567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07858865988195207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13707442559233454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08048639866411801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11487736107294982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10365278903851413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12972065320374448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12000608892984195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12718862789855953,0.0,0.0,0.2696367799312836,0.0,0.06697025195476,0.0,0.0,0.5161222818050386,0.13239963109651545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10760329966765374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10359975018303387,0.0,0.0,0.08134150377807703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12927262531670364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08257448223719244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319608947218563,0.11632773938498113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11519568308414845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12961152860161754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505816940608695,0.0,0.13083043885341192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969067807037372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08625208281370159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967420477173634,0.1421133579622097,0.0,0.0,0.3493230943554585,0.0,0.08273393142961698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14658078728293475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875012332169996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08656479145403434,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,hazelnutchai86646,2020/02/13,"I want to send this to my ex husband I’d love feedback on how it comes across.

I am horribly embarrassed, ashamed, and disgusted in the way I treated you. I could blame it on my mental illness, but at the end of the day I’m the one who chose not to take my treatment as seriously as I should have. I should have stayed on disability a little while longer and found the right medication and stayed on it. If I took care of myself properly I would have avoided causing you so much harm. 

You didn’t deserve any of that. You were a great husband to me. The way I treated you was evil. I can’t explain why I did what I did. All I can say is that I was selfish and inconsiderate. My judgment was impaired by mania and I made horrible decisions.

I’ll always remember our time together and the memories we made. Thank you for being there for me all of those years. Thank you for driving me around in the car when I was depressed. Thank you for being there for my family. Thank you for being there for my grandma when she needed care. My mom and aunt still talk about you when memories come up. Aunt mazz didn’t talk to me for 6 months after I left because she was so upset with me. Anyone I might date in the future will compared to you and won’t measure up to you in their eyes.

I hope that you have a happy life. I hope you get married again and become a father. You are going to be an amazing father one day. I hope whoever you marry treats you with dignity and respect and love. I hope they are your best friend and they are loyal. 

Unfortunately my mental illness has gotten much worse. I’m on disability again because I was hospitalized and now I’m in an outpatient program three days a week for therapy and medication management.

I’m focusing on getting better. Medication isn’t an easy thing to figure out. It’s been two months of trial and error with the doctors so far.

I’m so sorry about the way that I left. However, I do truly believe you are much better off without me. I truly believe that you have a shot at a happy life. You have a shot to have a big family and a great career. I want that for you. If I have kids, they might have mental illness when they grow up. I would go through periods of not being able to be a good mom because I’m too sick.

I feel so guilty when I think about your parents and grandma. I hope everyone is doing well. I’m so sorry I put them through a ridiculous situation. I hope your aunts and uncles and cousins are doing well too.

I’m not asking for forgiveness. I just want you to know that I accept responsibility for how I acted, how I treated you, and all of the pain and stress I caused. I am horrified every time I think about it.

I wish you the absolute best",2.499501216545013,4.354478262773726,4.193886861313867,85.32883515815087,76.5912408759124,7.121411192214112,24.920316301703163,8.007285818006526,1.4314031630170314,2120,74,434,35,48,712,239,548,0.151,0.625,0.22399999999999998,0.9951,2,1,0,0,0,0,50.0,2,27,6,4,31,48,3,5,28,0,52,14,1,7,3,77,97,41,0,18,8,12,1,0,1,8,11,1,0,1,17,29,0,1,11,0,0,11,9,13,2,4,17,3,94,35,65,65,8,66,0,1,1,2,61,26,0,10,24,322,111,5,0.06907245820488245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05747381850572194,0.0,0.0,0.04697164017483777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04829706879150098,0.0,0.0,0.06148913201388585,0.06457342432509695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12631778824295398,0.07628510333986079,0.0,0.1556420143070206,0.14497456690800287,0.12217795233688188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14084794915580218,0.14191288292140616,0.0,0.11899961330015707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055148737399520864,0.0,0.0,0.13363806396076053,0.0,0.05949200703900076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07069858782335761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06117769617775316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05819652510830795,0.06600169384993235,0.0,0.0,0.13023073260841495,0.0,0.034925110263541816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07573438522646836,0.05336520986745133,0.0,0.07217501710294462,0.0,0.07851093954651735,0.05793470082167256,0.0,0.15230525803616282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470578323124774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41162721754581305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03796041662856495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15009485588577973,0.0,0.09757583989075876,0.0,0.06922874910715289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12468118059745012,0.13071606011125994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087497045507833,0.20882637556491085,0.1465499254506434,0.0,0.16179365647413646,0.11026595429889394,0.0,0.15232861307847306,0.051216352544980366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936105705777942,0.0,0.07349796550039729,0.0,0.07669679066220159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06943689843687699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07824563027512259,0.058987501901469876,0.0,0.054929191129993636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764033704483922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546419238298429,0.0,0.1472441001268089,0.05516135434695076,0.0,0.07912226750221697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05193389239658477,0.11103565097374003,0.0,0.2543705573505,0.07899037568170593,0.0,0.045888672029563635,0.08851768438813358,0.0,0.0,0.08055341169052349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07674204257096122,0.0,0.0,0.06747375504544831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222221763647682,0.1644795067942459,0.05540575958550505,0.0,0.12420887038988153,0.0,0.062327149996297626,0.0,0.07942991810585688,0.0665833848530876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07039073593596869,0.09813418504621356,0.0,0.0,0.044480398454445805
divorce,ShoeChefs,2020/02/13,Meeting mom for first time Sup boys so I haven’t met my biological mother ever in my life. She left me when I was less than 6 months. Now she wants to meet me. I’m 18 currently. She met my dad on social media so she now ants to see me. Seems like an uncomfortable situation and decision for me. If you were me would you go and see her,-0.8870833333333294,1.2409822361111154,2.1318888888888883,92.60200000000002,94.69444444444444,5.6577777777777785,15.533333333333335,7.1686216300943375,-0.06240999999999985,259,6,62,5,10,91,53,72,0.037000000000000005,0.927,0.036000000000000004,-0.0258,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,0,1,6,1,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,1,8,12,6,0,3,1,3,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,4,2,17,1,7,7,1,12,0,0,2,0,16,3,0,2,9,40,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25427079877105885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23910328647747345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15975545433065955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054156787987549,0.0,0.19854905218919056,0.13733112903247685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32922060603452397,0.224371122393541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.448000180922144,0.2559026365455025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31596787379253904,0.0,0.2865457746988925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16391151292845646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1657999036161212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19968518282905076,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,2Twohearted2,2020/02/13,One day at a time? Ok hi new to this and need to vent! Sorry in advance 😕. Married 7 years together 17 I’m 34 F and he is 34 M ... 2 children 14 and 9. We have it all the “American Dream” or so they say but why do I feel so helpless and hopeless with or without him? Not looking for sympathy at all just venting and kinda mad at myself.. he left and now I am just ANGRY that I am sad and feel like crap for my kids. When he is here I am just as angry so what to do what to do? No one can answer this for me but it sure feels good to get off my chest! F love ..anyone find a cure yet?,-2.184175143741708,-0.4399639774436075,1.1243343653250797,100.93622291021671,94.78947368421049,4.031667403803627,16.094206103494027,5.5289334501034215,-0.8851765590446701,433,11,115,3,17,154,91,133,0.239,0.645,0.115,-0.973,0,0,0,0,0,1,16.0,1,0,1,1,10,10,2,0,3,1,10,3,2,0,3,28,18,16,0,1,9,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,7,9,0,0,5,1,0,1,3,5,0,2,0,5,11,5,16,18,2,14,0,3,1,1,11,6,1,3,8,74,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16929724121997106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15614857600161527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3672722774820702,0.17297191241054138,0.0,0.0,0.22129500290592788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264986839396243,0.0,0.0,0.20308033728414465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630661203526626,0.0,0.0,0.11828851570527775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033213909714227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185244408757139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17953029879818405,0.0,0.23384281094387904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3281360907483641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19254502920038227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27103561081897765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281969972179732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14118320957463598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184773281589577,0.0,0.0,0.2333968426816615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15591854609669176
divorce,ok-nowUknow,2020/02/13,"Has anyone gotten a dna test on their children after divorce? Just out of curiosity, has anyone gotten a DNA test post divorce, how did it turn out?   If you weren’t the father did you continue contact with the kid(s)?",5.0474796747967465,6.557554073170736,5.857073170731707,77.41211382113823,69.2439024390244,7.417886178861789,28.300813008130078,7.793537801064563,1.9390910569105688,171,6,29,2,3,56,30,41,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,2,0,7.0,0,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,1,0,6,8,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,0,3,0,6,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,1,2,22,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.694378950281886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.475544176483077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5400885201691091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,confusedvaglady,2020/02/13,"So.. I think I wanna leave my husband. I don’t know yet. It’s just a thought. I’m clearly not happy. I’ve been trying for like a year, year and a half to fix this with my husband. I’ve tried to spice things up. We’ve had the conversation, “let’s fix this, let’s work on this, this needs to change” but what has changed? Fucking nothing. Not a damn thing. I’ve almost left him once but it’s easier said than done. He’s my best friend, he’s knows everything about me. I’m comfortable with him, so I’m scared to step out of this comfortable zone but I’m not particularly happy anymore with my marriage. I always hope for the best and keep giving chances, but nothing is changing. 🙁 I don’t wanna be stuck in a marriage I’m not happy with. I’ve slept with someone else a few times because we don’t have sex anymore. When we do, he can’t keep it up, or makes it seem like it’s a chore to “make love to me”. We’ve tried sex enhancers, didn’t work. I’ve done lingerie. Nothing. Offered to let him sleep with someone else. Nope. Asked if he’s gay maybe? Naaaa.  I just don’t know what to do anymore.",-0.5331076195773079,1.661559857758622,1.3157786429365963,98.95869855394884,92.66379310344827,4.0280311457174625,19.12180200222469,5.642373280135919,-0.40460194660734095,845,27,198,6,31,275,115,232,0.085,0.7070000000000001,0.20800000000000002,0.9872,0,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,2,0,0,4,7,15,2,1,9,0,19,7,2,2,1,39,43,11,0,5,12,2,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,14,11,0,2,6,0,0,1,11,3,0,1,9,2,17,12,26,30,3,12,0,0,0,5,20,6,2,5,7,108,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10145320156709617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0843029141098994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3014343345957485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947166550995524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061761209594579876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212649494672926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3215362465753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073626075600096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16927280563530658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09105616461710726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07827638428904134,0.09366488259403777,0.0,0.09719140761736964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32355785979469553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10062951232483586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18010838811233154,0.0,0.0,0.16704164569970098,0.0,0.0,0.10727886986951317,0.11007998139898148,0.3108070022762298,0.0,0.09899562582284696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09144152182946788,0.0,0.1352582503244083,0.0,0.1017854019791468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07512442851160048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2916459086360833,0.0,0.0,0.107898087310104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09637458663993656,0.0,0.10143485337692212,0.0,0.0,0.09223415635266358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10138903192337903,0.0,0.17168920356815556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13461951466964053,0.06491911393913284,0.0,0.08043347798653358,0.05907809437030433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20636046091845653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14751830959656725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13048818776869414
divorce,AtomsFromTheStars,2020/02/13,"Not sure how to handle this going forward... [Rant] [Advice] Another Eye-Rolling Situation

{Backstory} See my post history also, if you’re interested. My ExH and I divorced in April ‘19 about 9 months after discovering his infidelity. He drug the divorce process out for whatever reason and I declined to have him sent to jail for contempt of court when the judge asked me if that’s what I wanted. I just wanted the paperwork processed and child support. I never fought for full custody, never threatened his rights as a parent. His own choices have led to him being required to pay far more than the small, reasonable sum of child support I requested from him. His wages are being garnished heavily now because the judge didn’t trust he’d pay on his own free will. He left the divorce with 50/50 custody and only financially responsible for child support. 

He only “parents” when he takes the kids to school most mornings, 5 minutes away. He has taken them to 2 movies, 1 bouncy house, and one basketball game since he was asked to leave. 70% of the funds for these events have come from me because I don’t want to deny my kids time with their dad, even if it comes on my own dime. No Christmas or birthday presents for them from him during this time. 

I’ve been very calculated and giving because I don’t want to take him down at the knees, I never have. I want my kids to have a positive relationship with their dad. My kids have never experienced or heard any animosity about or towards their father and I plan to keep it that way. My kids are the best and they will get whatever I can give them within my power to have a happy, healthy life. I keep my mouth shut and just try to be a good mom and co-parent. I have a very opinionated personality, so this is often very challenging. But I’ve been very successful thus far. 

2 weeks ago...

Me: Hey. You’re rushing out of here more quickly than normal. Everything ok?

Him: Yea. Just stressed with work (librarian and coach). 

Me: (Knowing him) Ok... are you seeing someone or something? 

Him: No. Why?

Me: Because I know you. You know we’re in a space now where honesty is possible? Where omission is no longer necessary...

Him: Ok. Yea. But it’s new.

Me: Ok. Anything else you wanna tell me?
 
Him: No.

Me: Do you have any questions for me? I’m not the only one who can ask questions, you know?

Him: No. 

Me: Ok. Just remember, I’d like to meet her first if you plan on introducing her to the kids. I’d do the same for you. I also need to have a conversation with them so I can prepare them for that situation. I don’t want things to be confusing. 

Him: Ok.

My kids have been through enough turmoil with all of this. I want to brace them for changes and new people. I don’t ask for much at all, I don’t think. 

Today...

Him: Can I take the kids to a game tonight?

Me: Sure. They need to get homework done first though. 

Him: Ok.

He arrives at the house.

Him: Can I have some cash for them to spend at the game?

Me: Sure. (Hands him $20)

We go outside, kids are in the truck. 

Me: Hey. We’re not introducing them to any female friends tonight, are we?

Him: I don’t know. That’s not the plan... There’s a small chance. 

Me: I don’t understand what that means. It was vague. Please be clear. 

Him: I trust your judgement. You need to trust mine.

Me: Yea. I make good decisions. You, however, have not. If you’re taking the kids somewhere, I have a right to know who they’ll be exposed to. We’ve agreed to certain terms here. 

Him: I make good decisions! You need to calm down. 

Me: I just gave you money, asked you a question, and you now think you’re untouchable. I certainly find it hypocritical. We have terms. Please respect them.

Him: Whatever. (Off they go)

My daughter didn’t even want to go with him. She was crying because she wanted to stay home. I still see the value in having their father in their lives, so I required her to go. I fight so many battles, deal with so much stress, and I’m going to do it again tomorrow. Because my babies deserve the world.

Kids came home and explained that “K” was there at the game. “K” is the woman he had an affair with in the first place. Definitely not a “new” relationship at all. So, I gave him cash to take our kids on an outing with his girlfriend?!? I asked him why he’s not able to be truthful when it comes to situations involving the kids. I made it clear that he’s welcome to live his life how he sees fit, but lying about situations involving the kids is a no-go for me. He said “I was truthful”. If he could just be honest, this would not even be an issue. 

This in not an uncommon dialogue. 

I know I go above and beyond for him. But it’s really not for him. It’s for my kids. I lost a parent as a young child and I’d never want my babies to experience that loss if I can avoid it. I’ll never, ever be the reason why my kids don’t see their dad. I refuse to be “that ex”. Money has, until this point, seemed like an easy way of ensuring he has access to them. Though, as stated above, he hardly sees them anyways. 

What do you guys think?",0.4957439575350016,2.9472563856143843,2.164716850313866,92.84780350246773,90.53846153846158,5.1858618992947365,19.757861541443628,6.7890392887061575,0.3391238403387655,3866,123,824,55,134,1259,375,1001,0.053,0.8290000000000001,0.11699999999999999,0.992,7,1,2,0,4,0,195.0,4,16,21,15,43,47,4,5,47,10,76,6,3,10,19,147,154,51,0,25,31,11,2,2,2,4,3,2,3,23,34,36,0,6,24,5,11,15,31,11,0,5,22,11,155,37,112,115,18,101,0,2,6,0,172,43,0,20,42,535,189,10,0.04840959235447365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04730529337722445,0.04291218275457796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07742626703193717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09876054851009412,0.050761678493779314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03983696974314467,0.0,0.2715386042209311,0.0,0.04548240556336178,0.0,0.0,0.17706022906617455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05080288054151445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05536767719096422,0.0,0.0,0.05121092982815549,0.12510173200539296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03865112037066618,0.0,0.053175664062054456,0.0,0.04990816405939524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049539820430099295,0.0,0.0,0.056139758102800426,0.0,0.04044000262894746,0.0,0.0,0.05002004960189966,0.0,0.09592223756517218,0.0437892477860879,0.0,0.0,0.043507420139666436,0.04735387039515788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04424549039827785,0.12353152357999073,0.0,0.0,0.037401130967880405,0.0,0.05058402794594241,0.0928777842325249,0.22009829547632775,0.12181100786813955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047933107376196896,0.0,0.0515329112340493,0.04336548613663222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09711753641687088,0.0,0.0,0.11171633996155553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05052703721112465,0.0,0.08605733994213399,0.0,0.0,0.1862325215646432,0.0,0.0,0.05125876851005226,0.0525971637376912,0.0,0.06838625344338951,0.047300963122870486,0.0,0.08549311390769257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0528447886073717,0.0,0.0,0.04580632678077812,0.06462755760651273,0.04907972846146918,0.0,0.05273223783231976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05669672948529182,0.0386400747628898,0.0,0.07117324091924844,0.14358039734049907,0.2240187718828469,0.14026285786564252,0.0,0.0,0.04743112217771064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06560718525897749,0.11045302921606384,0.0,0.0,0.16125937026189985,0.0,0.0,0.03356111600246885,0.042269388798903934,0.050577720553914136,0.10627839055492627,0.04576271213803708,0.05457454170475957,0.04636300782828663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626894674780543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03101242446073268,0.14931937063986048,0.0,0.10394757080902482,0.05483863125157749,0.08268305473040335,0.0460486080142084,0.0,0.0,0.04899309192751648,0.2314570649727889,0.04407027474237694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0400449150465448,0.2176576403553526,0.0,0.0,0.041017290506880605,0.03726806927317113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05159818434865166,0.03865996298750237,0.0,0.11090604896622012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16480389517269867,0.13687640367029558,0.0,0.18198994401230506,0.0,0.04231211745696446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03216118210314813,0.0930567362612398,0.09512435739868996,0.0,0.056456045203045785,0.0,0.045886633166979766,0.0,0.0,0.03286693551958851,0.0,0.0,0.05039609289697676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15977193422035196,0.28553231819957553,0.07685056225986463,0.03883125496516178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13104638240847896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035242759789519094,0.0,0.0,0.03438878546955985,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Angelita_Torres,2020/02/13,"When you see yourself in tv So anyone who's seen a single episode of this is us knows it is written to get people to cry, like a lot, over so many things. This last episode where Kate gets in a toxic relationship... I got very clear flashbacks to my marriage. 

I wish I could have seen what I had for what it was. Clearly aspects of my relationship were stereotypically and obviously toxic, but I had no idea.

That makes it so hard to trust my own feelings and judgment sometimes. I have been wrong, so wrong, so mistaken about feelings down to my soul. I dont regret anything, I just want to do better going forward.

I'm with a really great guy. I am totally falling for him, but it's been hard to share my feelings bc I don't trust myself completely yet. But now I have to be brave and bold to move forward. 

So thanks tv for helping me reflect, and to anyone reading this.",2.8581034482758625,4.728673201149427,4.056988505747128,86.63686206896553,75.60919540229884,6.479080459770112,27.11724137931035,7.3011,1.3733131034482755,683,27,138,8,15,223,107,174,0.121,0.638,0.24,0.9762,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,1,0,1,12,12,0,0,4,0,17,0,0,1,4,25,34,14,0,4,4,0,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,12,5,0,0,6,3,0,5,3,3,0,0,10,8,21,9,21,22,4,14,1,1,3,0,10,7,0,1,7,98,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21647700415056773,0.0,0.12738573058370073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13690643012580367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16230296963708013,0.0,0.0,0.12359376825199275,0.0,0.1700385561324959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814223398661656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348118662889815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16175134296877758,0.0,0.08797538552208796,0.0,0.12380626322360135,0.1706655641897344,0.0,0.15327455731781814,0.0,0.0,0.27733756705141266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037579717939821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17474832795514594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507304349601863,0.12618119527011465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07562658233758397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13160389570359785,0.0,0.0,0.10332900186217778,0.15694108028861267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16452599076505853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10731758235488084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548400925910538,0.0,0.09916769203516268,0.0,0.0,0.33239067467442696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12335412520255595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530993799569459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14251738660648408,0.0,0.0,0.10284104702391364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18620317720509091,0.0,0.0,0.12772472842850258,0.09130399022222274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780102927748139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33849506651444383,0.0,0.0
divorce,feelmyjoy,2020/02/14,"Ending a decade long Valentine’s Day tradition In 2010 I started a Valentine’s Day tradition. Knowing my ex would not spend time with me, I decided to do something on V-Day. I headed to the store and grabbed a copy of Blue Valentine. I knew nothing about the film, but Ryan Gosling so yes. I bought myself chocolate and wine. Headed home to enjoy a solo movie night. 

I was shocked and moved by the film. For such a sad film, I found it strangely uplifting. 

I got up on Feb. 15 with my spirits lifted. I felt relieved that my life was not as bad as the characters in Blue Valentine. I told myself I could handle what my life was - it could be worse. 

For the next decade, that was how I spend V-Day. I watched the film alone. I reminded myself that it could be worse. 

This year I will not watch Blue Valentine. In all likelihood I never will again. I am spending tonight with friends that love me and want to spend time with me. I can think of no better way to spend the holiday. I am happy. There is no “it could be worse”. Instead, it’s going to keep getting better.",1.2946830985915485,3.694698615023477,2.2750058685446,94.5592693661972,83.97652582159623,5.052347417840377,22.959507042253517,6.42735559955562,0.4911535211267615,827,30,174,8,24,260,115,213,0.128,0.688,0.184,0.9474,0,1,2,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,0,2,7,10,0,0,12,1,19,6,2,1,2,28,33,9,0,6,4,1,2,0,1,3,2,0,1,0,11,8,1,1,6,6,7,2,6,3,0,0,10,7,29,7,24,13,1,22,1,1,5,1,4,6,0,0,13,113,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13692942943124625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11038961949454668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23385756130318955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4222349119632036,0.0,0.0,0.3410574072477613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11709859725614337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12694209400432796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14496116768288445,0.10214492549051976,0.0,0.06907413802521004,0.0,0.07513784814196889,0.0,0.10574021528764996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14073973813337454,0.0,0.0,0.27137069362424604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13261715975438462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175141011624838,0.0,0.0,0.07265902144383411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18676731376250927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11700146904018925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11932446189033248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14051804190625786,0.0,0.0,0.10196831027249877,0.0,0.1406065698391914,0.12406989497089894,0.0,0.12685882158806816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10178152533282417,0.0,0.0,0.093578742080433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847146699027033,0.0,0.0,0.1541851377624621,0.0,0.0,0.12633208259265888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07798073644531799,0.10494194631012373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4041990931129696,0.09391801366954032,0.0,0.0,0.08513874483400373
divorce,Kgoins913,2020/02/14,Happy Valentines Day Go easy on yourself,4.947142857142854,8.531718000000001,3.9971428571428578,78.87285714285716,83.28571428571428,2.8000000000000003,35.57142857142857,3.1291,2.132542857142857,34,2,4,0,1,10,7,7,0.0,0.431,0.569,0.765,0,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4713444724094245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.415364787720068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7780144480993552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,peglegpetey8,2020/02/14,"AITA My stbxw and I have been together for a very long time; more than half of our lives. She said the dreaded “ILYBNILWY” phrase early in 2019. I think her mind was made up at the time, but for whatever reason she “tried” to make it work. Meaning she did nothing except pass time.  No therapy or counseling. I work a lot and make 80% of the money.  She is horrifyingly underemployed in a job that she typically likes, but does very little to help us financially. She only works part time. She is smart and hardworking and could do so much more. A few months ago we decided to officially call it quits. We will stay together in the same house until we finalize to save money at the split.  We’ll then sell our place and split down the middle. I don’t have a private checking account but she does of which gets “fun money” deposited every month.  Knowing that we are done in a few months, she has done nothing to get more work, even part time.  I’m saving every penny while she’s been on 4(!) week or more long vacations in the last 8 months.  AITA if I stop the direct deposit and insist we split what we have now, spending only personal money on personal things?  I don’t want to be controlling, but Jesus Christ, I could never be so selfish to 1) not work more knowing things are changing in a huge way and 2) continuing to let the money deposit.  She’s in a mindset of her happiness before anyone else’s right now and I can’t believe I married a person who could do this. She was always so kind and thoughtful. Total opposite now - it’s all about her.  I feel she’s just giving it a final go before real life starts. I don’t know to be mad at her or feel sorry because she’s on another planet right now and possibly terrified and running away from the truth OR maybe having the time of her life with a new taste of (still funded by me) freedom. What are your thoughts?",3.555077095598545,5.122424967479674,4.817942248388004,83.18341463414637,73.0379403794038,7.799682272684794,25.461265302308195,8.433251757073789,1.6721235585459304,1459,47,287,25,29,483,201,369,0.078,0.7929999999999999,0.13,0.9703,2,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,10,1,0,7,11,11,1,1,22,0,32,3,0,5,4,60,52,26,0,5,12,0,2,1,0,2,2,1,0,3,13,18,1,2,11,0,13,3,7,3,0,1,11,4,43,8,40,32,14,58,2,0,0,0,38,22,0,6,32,199,56,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07420327932269567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06965287683176087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08777654191363506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05853151698167725,0.08577011131003145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07864768062692444,0.0,0.0,0.05102843680188618,0.0,0.14246096599043484,0.09431176085241996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08547659557261232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08855338243096468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938871429434424,0.2005052898895273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465092153693713,0.17132743649954174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06992841235898695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05528922969664217,0.0,0.14105745888458385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08465191514219507,0.0,0.0,0.18339898093858106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08746935052003099,0.08030162676290184,0.047573947097624684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08911014917328808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0561086061946772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965893395179504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08306860354955309,0.0,0.0,0.0871703962403418,0.1380133924970651,0.0682342847703501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08559847179886489,0.11825276507406593,0.04089615528196879,0.08389875007691254,0.07391688099089731,0.14816026373140906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07116668753298447,0.0,0.07920780167021785,0.11175326914611604,0.0,0.08409728349464339,0.09118401167241967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08452257071502609,0.0,0.26726398674042506,0.0,0.06153599674056533,0.0,0.06456180365150023,0.08084700235617426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606427390812318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273294505639052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18129811596363046,0.0,0.0,0.21927530103395276,0.08745844384639129,0.0,0.0,0.0943697034752761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903518725061928,0.0,0.09527955541330248,0.0,0.08606714345936843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14297463823975073,0.0796267517418489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09370575292882477,0.05924990181759188,0.08922301873256458,0.06685038718662421,0.06998475663312037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09572892581871216,0.0,0.11122553204047346,0.05363756514199182,0.0,0.13291173133215092,0.2928695365333817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05683314714586207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006920293579225,0.0,0.0,0.13813794477298355,0.04937393766286477,0.06644457787301193,0.06714658340989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.304706983063611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,GriffBallChamp,2020/02/14,"How did you cope with your spouse leaving you, knowing that its your fault? I can't type out the details right now cause I don't need the emotional breakdown while I'm at work, but I need advice on how to swallow the lump in my throat.",8.698775510204081,5.31098632653061,7.6915306122449,83.55525510204082,63.28571428571429,10.616326530612248,36.74489795918368,7.1686216300943375,2.4016040816326534,186,6,42,1,2,57,39,49,0.07,0.93,0.0,-0.2668,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,4,0,1,3,1,0,0,3,0,3,3,1,3,0,9,7,4,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,8,0,6,6,0,7,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,2,27,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3421421827226615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3596791156647691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3938482017109884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19242184081046426,0.0,0.0,0.3707362472494173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5192327014075447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2990084068821952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25489821325919426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,cubsfan46530,2020/02/14,"First Valentine’s Day without a significant other This my first Valentine’s Day post separation (divorce is almost finalized). I didn’t want to do nothing so I bought all of the women in my office chocolate. It was a fun little surprise and they had no clue who did it because they figured none of the guys would do it so they thought another woman bought the chocolate. Around noon a couple of people popped their head into my office and asked if I was the chocolate fairy! 

This may be a fun little tradition to continue for future years.",5.896302521008401,7.186885941176474,6.173249299719888,76.75676470588238,67.03921568627452,8.181512605042016,32.21848739495798,8.418075326091056,2.648107563025211,434,18,73,6,7,139,69,102,0.038,0.8640000000000001,0.098,0.7134,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,0,0,4,2,3,3,0,0,8,0,11,1,1,0,1,13,16,5,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,7,4,0,0,2,0,2,0,4,0,0,2,8,0,10,3,10,5,2,15,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,3,9,56,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211956548343094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219540518881691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18843083794438406,0.19788252095945225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12903183541727847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342084079861135,0.0,0.27301878720838724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23187372186256025,0.0,0.36009214047637506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20958620198190173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21723409632140986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4242971327406764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031027086973604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14674506248940702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20272098461976956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680420341784967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248482257677595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20404195977603667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15036402461390574,0.0,0.0,0.13630829511430656
divorce,gir0007,2020/02/14,"I have no idea what to do I am 26 m and my wife is 23 f. We have one two year old daughter together. My wife came to be back in October and told me that she felt for the last year that she has been pretending to be happy. She has no sexual attraction to me any more and any time we have sex she does not want to be doing it. 

She wants to split up but I can not bear the idea of not being able to be around my daughter every day. I do not want to miss any moment of her life. 

I feel completely lost. After a few months of talking and searching for a therapist it seemed like things had been getting better so I had stopped looking for a therapist. Last night she told me that she still feels all the same things and that she feels like she has just been trying to feel like things were okay because she wants them to be okay. We had just started talking about having another baby together and looking for a house. 

I feel like my world is completely torn apart. I love her and my daughter so much. I’m sorry if this post does not make any sense I just needed to type some things out.

Thank you!!",2.1911842105263157,3.7314529429824614,3.2189473684210514,93.35763157894738,76.58771929824562,6.729824561403509,21.649122807017545,7.475848149327749,0.5340754385964912,853,22,194,11,19,273,121,228,0.067,0.7759999999999999,0.157,0.9756,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,1,1,2,9,13,0,0,7,2,27,3,0,1,1,42,52,11,0,6,10,5,6,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,12,13,0,1,9,1,0,1,7,2,0,2,12,8,34,11,24,34,6,23,0,2,2,2,27,6,0,3,19,135,46,1,0.1045736099121701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.284454562888633,0.10965454793392647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09309268371461417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08041065107874576,0.0,0.06374710198530355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09248685988304432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11960435101197008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2192868807934453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0674413272344508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18302614148652294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08810777657381573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643777962850169,0.2241222234481487,0.10040706484762607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054635395062528895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11132055228988001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12066390551701756,0.0,0.2361017536945873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17048289866441574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07386343329002372,0.20435753434407464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17563098957912476,0.0,0.11415444834266802,0.0,0.09438176577205523,0.0,0.06980369664376247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08346965774146023,0.0,0.07687363567921654,0.07754000670247425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981352488919592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10973241242820216,0.0,0.07086178446278288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10015261148015196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09519988695392508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11706159472913055,0.07401773933325036,0.0,0.08351261995909784,0.0874282203828605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16810461293892387,0.0,0.0962773300995396,0.0,0.24283604223661864,0.2778962389885174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0609777128984806,0.0,0.0,0.1998491313493581,0.0,0.07099861673832651,0.0,0.1021532217443692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24672089814002066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13468395240591902
divorce,TommibHelpBuss,2020/02/14,"Lonely together My common law wife and I have been together for 15 years, we are in our early 40s and we have 3 kids under 10 whom I love very much.  For the last 2 years she was doing a part time school program and working full time.  I had to pick up the slack looking after the kids, housework, managing finances etc. so voluntarily I supported her through that but I made significant personal sacrifices and it was very difficult.  We hardly spent any time together because she was so busy working and studying and I was busy with the kids.  This was her third time in school, and I helped support her through school the last time.

Towards the end I was getting really burnt out and depressed and sought counseling for depression.  This was a little over a year ago.    After she finished her program last spring, I asked her to start helping me out with the house work and kids again but she didn't seem willing or able.  We fought about it a lot.  She was depressed too, in bed 12 hours a day and missing a lot of work.   

She told me that her depression was all my fault because I wasn't supportive.  She told me that I hadn't been supportive for the last 3 years since her grandmother died.  I recall being supportive while she was grieving.  I don't even know what I failed to do, but she's very angry with me about it.  I kept the kids going and the household running for 2 years solo but she doesn't express any thanks for it.  All she does is criticize me for not doing a good enough job, that I didn't manage our finances well enough, that I'm not supportive enough and that I caused her to become depressed.  She makes me feel inadequate in every way.  I told her I couldn't take responsibility for making her depressed.  She got medication for depression and seemed to improve.

We have no physical or emotional connection anymore.  I tried to be affectionate with her but she just cringes so I stopped, and she won't talk to me about anything other than the kids because ""she doesn't want to fight"".   Last fall we went away for a weekend together without kids but it was filled with awkward silences.  We have no common interests.

We've been to 3 couples counseling sessions and we have another one booked in a couple of weeks.  During the sessions, I learned some strategies to avoid fights.  One thing that helps, is that I realized we interact in a pattern where that she is aggressive and I'm too passive.  When I let her make all of the decisions, she feels overwhelmed and I feel powerless and frustrated leading to passive-aggressive behavior towards her.  By taking more decisions myself and being assertive, that helps even if it creates some friction sometimes.

However, I feel like I can't talk about this with her, I can't tell my friends or my family because it's too heavy for them.  They are close to her too, and I don't want them to get involved in our fights.  I only have one close friend who lives another city, so I'm quite lonely.  So I'm typing this rant to reddit.  

I think about whether we should separate but I think it would be devastating for the kids, and very costly in terms of money and effort.  I'd be even more alone at least until I build up some new friendships.  I'll keep going to counseling sessions till the money runs out, but I don't know how far it can take us and I don't know what else to do.  Does anybody have any advice?",4.393497688751928,6.05521921109399,4.7994727272727316,83.77154807395995,71.06471494607086,8.088764252696455,29.158736517719568,8.66781300935515,2.215225183359013,2664,105,512,47,50,843,282,649,0.204,0.7240000000000001,0.073,-0.9984,3,6,0,0,3,0,60.0,14,0,3,8,23,38,6,3,25,0,55,2,0,8,3,103,104,47,2,6,17,1,5,1,2,4,1,0,1,9,29,45,0,4,15,2,6,8,19,23,1,4,28,6,97,15,71,65,19,71,1,13,1,1,83,25,0,11,38,359,126,22,0.059616096153001084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05825615918994453,0.05284607221022509,0.0,0.0,0.061744296340620765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162296912125932,0.1250253496792032,0.0,0.0,0.0591231480608727,0.0,0.0,0.04905896751332663,0.0,0.05573300232163167,0.0,0.056011284777625125,0.0,0.0,0.1453656755130816,0.06584129440219197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06124215275860932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13192815295404908,0.0,0.03844745010210383,0.0,0.3594307938218089,0.0,0.061872095639078285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10434089497854752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04980159856545774,0.06706008406495455,0.05280216619674636,0.18479809113921367,0.06648770601391643,0.11812760776879082,0.0,0.050229132230046915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05620074975636415,0.0,0.1205747579128898,0.042589751003563235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921184960073762,0.0,0.06229389935262936,0.0,0.06776240259445099,0.0500031529866132,0.0476804381275824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053404312358440884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598376503919329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05870984596262754,0.06878897075027711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059159776517310476,0.052989525454944765,0.0,0.0,0.09829034205025053,0.2429753760952776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06096149743053428,0.0,0.029125413255024157,0.05975099005571926,0.052642105120613264,0.0,0.050062506071033616,0.0,0.0,0.101366946115017,0.053805854345877854,0.05641019163687086,0.11938262132610468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060056944942735474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043824690188395216,0.0,0.0,0.05757759715597718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12119222888990648,0.04534072752853622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06455842258754042,0.0,0.0,0.052054475660776166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06340905654904158,0.0,0.0,0.038191597752999185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18100401617493028,0.0,0.10854450982741744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0493150507935016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058961843474949566,0.0,0.04219657969945712,0.0,0.0,0.049841725815987184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4059098365903413,0.0,0.0,0.1344716549770438,0.09583431974039183,0.052107095723526786,0.05488649166256242,0.0,0.0,0.03960628527123451,0.0763991744447711,0.0,0.0,0.17381312543380267,0.0,0.0,0.1708972039976004,0.0,0.040475415984559567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07171082333574645,0.0,0.0,0.1967580913155787,0.07032623622166125,0.04732048222538787,0.04782043634645177,0.0,0.05360203004687192,0.05526471840194126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05746778928614073,0.0,0.17360491209465256,0.0,0.0,0.0423495642377321,0.0,0.0,0.1919540566602132
divorce,NationalSpell,2020/02/14,"Should I divorce? We've been married for 10 years now. And I always loved my wife. I always trusted her and loved her. And I always thought she loved me too but I realized that she didn't love me today. She cheated on me with a man. I'm so depressed now and I'm so day. I've been crying for hours. I always said to me that if my wife would cheat on me, I would divorce. But I realized that it is not so easy if you love her so much. I still love her also I don't want to be alone at the of 35. I'm not young now. I believe it will be so hard to be alone as a woman. What should I do? Should I forgive her? She says it won't happen again but I can't trust her.",-2.0277814569536443,-0.2110043245033104,0.7955596026490072,102.80618708609272,95.55629139072849,3.549801324503312,14.834768211920528,4.935628992294339,-1.2700572185430463,501,11,132,2,20,172,75,151,0.289,0.639,0.071,-0.9911,0,2,0,0,2,0,17.0,0,1,0,0,12,12,2,0,3,0,17,6,0,0,0,22,30,16,0,8,7,2,1,0,0,7,0,2,0,2,7,5,0,0,4,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,5,3,32,9,11,15,1,13,0,1,0,6,26,3,0,2,10,94,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27071669532284465,0.0,0.10451500173411717,0.4349875866158893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14724605468119878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435599270042556,0.0842860575964163,0.0,0.11256553521954554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11557122998889748,0.0,0.11707509692805998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12870610261906495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7077322412348312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607426114227678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12431880112400295,0.10393217688337547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10437145567183423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10375550134267547,0.0,0.0,0.12388151279568922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07708601195887586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18568086055357413,0.0,0.0,0.08416189179028638
divorce,AliceInProzacland,2020/02/14,"Should I keep funding him? I told my STBXH I was moving out in April, so he'd need to start looking for a job. He hasn't earned an income in 5 years (long story, but yes he is capable of working) and doesn't budget (he sent $300 to Nigeria for ""charity"" instead of paying the electric bill), so finances were obviously a big part of our breakup. Well the job he found is a contract job working on seized houses and he needs $500 for supplies to work on the house that needs to be completed by Monday. Just last week I opened myself a new account for my check to be direct deposited so he has no money. I could cover it if I rearranged the bills and worked overtime this weekend. I'm torn between continuing to support him (especially if it means he can start earning money again) and wanting him to take care of himself for once.",7.4445180722891555,5.867657518072293,7.785632530120484,76.2014608433735,64.18072289156626,10.227710843373494,37.01506024096385,8.841846274778883,3.1150626506024106,652,27,128,8,8,215,111,166,0.034,0.86,0.106,0.9145,4,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,6,7,3,0,0,9,1,13,0,0,0,1,21,29,10,0,8,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,1,3,1,11,2,3,0,1,0,5,1,15,3,23,19,1,21,0,0,1,0,15,7,0,2,12,79,19,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14859538797938246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15280946830173664,0.0,0.0,0.11636446365846567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15980041489505042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3363372615552765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4338843206483258,0.12954367312261275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188005456832916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12897856436182792,0.12238797887856187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15875758617143498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549024594364614,0.0,0.3242012605618409,0.0,0.14076014761636935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552122552375254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15782619529406305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20631624384432595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16538819303455848,0.0,0.0,0.10958110410842442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13926432530555735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08596339445225581,0.0,0.11690678339651715,0.0,0.13104106518192035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4244125191117554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09385414704909274
divorce,Thin_Plantain,2020/02/14,"Happy Valentines Day? Hi,

This is not about the holiday. Well sort of.  I'm in the middle of a Divorce with a serial cheater.  One that favored Prostitutes and massages, hundreds of them. It's  been one big nightmare, especially the Divorce  part.  I will spare you the story of the Judge referring to hundreds of thousands of dollars spent on prostitutes as ""entertainment.""  Took about 18 months to realize that I married the Talented Mr. Ripley.  The state says he should parent, so he does.  Only in a way that allows him to pay the least amount of child support.   He is not a good human, state disagrees.  It's fine. Being a single mother doesn't leave much time for debates these days.  There's the kids, and then the debt.  

Don't speak Ripley much, other than through an app. Just try to keep it civil. On 3 holidays,  I make sure kids are aware, give them $10 dollars, let them choose gift, card, whatever they want.  I used to this for his family (see post about the mother) don't do that anymore.  Ripley has done zero except called me materialistic when I tried to explain it once . No matter,  Like I said, app.  The kids doing this is about what I want to impart- acknowledgement, gratitude and respect. Nothing else.   Recently, I noticed a text to my sitter from him  that said ""can you make sure the boys get her a valentines day card?"" 

This motherfucker.

 Never accepted responsibility,  bankrupted us, put my life in danger.  Zero contrition.   The kids, the house, the schools, all just transactions ""he can't commit to now."" A valentines day card? Really? Next to an insulting birthday card a few years back there has been nothing....not a one. I'm not worried about the kids, I'm raising good humans. Imppression management?  How about no card?  Next to no financial support or responsibility?  Now it's "" make sure you buy her a card  from the boys will ya? and some chocolate from CVS""  Right. with my money.  You know, I've had to accept a boatload of  things I don't like in this process.   I'll never understand why, have accepted that too.  I just wish little things like this didn't sting so much.   If feels manipulative and cruel. I don't even like chocolate.  

Sorry for the rant.  Have had many good days, today is just a bad one.  Hope someone is having a better one! Happy Valentines Day to everyone on this thread.  Thankful for your stories and advice.",2.4478752436647184,5.300369272311212,3.4164543605390314,84.98211691668789,83.96567505720823,6.074565641156031,23.65323332485804,7.457515093567415,1.3771661496737018,1840,68,333,31,54,587,234,437,0.127,0.73,0.142,0.7944,2,0,0,0,2,0,89.0,1,6,4,1,22,30,3,0,35,0,31,1,0,7,7,52,57,14,0,6,10,3,1,4,0,3,1,4,0,11,23,8,0,1,11,3,7,3,15,4,1,8,10,6,31,26,47,42,10,38,0,0,1,0,46,11,0,5,24,217,54,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742621890225953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08872732697168187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06879468075841035,0.07470129507581155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07912638331669515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09135591654739623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3461932852010353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07829326591124393,0.09155591004929113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747382855033411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05909217862853981,0.0,0.0,0.08548965222008223,0.0,0.0,0.08434162359812929,0.0,0.04523725613719649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0467428693961886,0.08582499880847344,0.0,0.22512228713313745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19047879239610988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08886102163863319,0.0,0.10323302631857872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07952247309758262,0.0,0.0,0.04916878077529476,0.0,0.0,0.0947327454601025,0.0,0.09148617576373554,0.0631932616480262,0.17483643207923869,0.08966954239475015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17915996060006514,0.09070560137783083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0714117891137849,0.0,0.19730584770832332,0.0,0.1380050926694992,0.0,0.19029856088368927,0.0,0.0,0.08584609955004109,0.10185889126873314,0.0,0.09527954622576397,0.3031261266193736,0.0680437643884653,0.0,0.0,0.09934263164542688,0.0968841554885256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568475496051943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899391508361398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0573149179727777,0.0,0.08833797213836905,0.0,0.0,0.07640441826165753,0.17020740796558764,0.07114783231337321,0.0,0.0905454860071918,0.07129369880950105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0758051871708425,0.0,0.0,0.1001510985226879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030524195311348,0.25296506110655936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08236928938659739,0.0,0.0,0.11887593738332007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05216898801280551,0.0,0.0848043537951193,0.0,0.09940124483724816,0.12148458213623227,0.0,0.0,0.09313841083904947,0.10761791072032052,0.07727085267516898,0.0,0.0,0.10554003229839128,0.07101482306975243,0.0,0.0,0.08044167136394732,0.0,0.08073014594394147,0.0,0.10288275464836842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908581872882137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05761388189714092
divorce,ravencuddles,2020/02/14,"Suddenly everything will be ok I was really struggling leading up to the holidays. But then I threw my first party at my apartment, went ice skating and had a few dates and boom. The aching void held less sway. I feel confident at work with a new manager, too. Before I was so scared. And now... I feel like it'll be ok. 

Oh stuff still sucks from time to time. But I don't lie awake at night with a pit in my stomach anymore. 

It all seemed to clear up so suddenly. What happened?

One thing that is different—after 1.5 years of not wanting to know what my ex has been up to now I find myself curious, sometimes looking over at their social media for... Reasons? I stop myself from seriously looking. Mostly I'm just unfollowing and unfriending any remaining mutuals (no thank you). I really don't want contact with him. I'm still cross with him. I still am deeply disappointed in him and do not want to interact with him. So why this morbid curiosity?",2.21478260869565,4.758237000000001,3.7740869565217374,84.3904782608696,81.17391304347827,7.593043478260872,24.96086956521739,8.548686976883017,2.0412291304347825,744,29,144,18,20,246,121,184,0.121,0.762,0.11699999999999999,-0.2099,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,1,1,3,10,9,1,2,5,2,14,1,1,2,2,30,31,11,0,3,5,1,2,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,8,10,0,2,6,1,0,4,5,5,0,2,7,5,22,4,25,20,4,31,0,1,2,0,10,11,1,2,17,100,30,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11291107913631945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646644173643014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14128553994627666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14922364747411912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16790692741974594,0.11861710285575232,0.0,0.0,0.15175511304317835,0.14123126942075295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14682626396846174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09124977518438032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08111745333985286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27885908191140635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603598894829467,0.0,0.1558147880094378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251119295773923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21273553247653465,0.17071403034157398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16623233435710744,0.0,0.0,0.1511541507433185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692541499704161,0.0,0.0,0.16421516649505005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3977928824340842,0.13881464385947054,0.0,0.1735782695358882,0.1900730205742324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15286486709877375,0.0,0.0,0.1103078253112877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19363540656094688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29379936013237584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539182698304296,0.149822866295035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12087715488447205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10692259778902424
divorce,caseyoverkill,2020/02/14,"Contemplating Divorce I (37 M) have been with my wife (31 F) for 10 years, married going on 3.  No kids.  1 dog and 1 cat. This past week I confirmed a suspicion she is drinking alone.  Hard liquor in the early morning before work and school.  Since Monday, roughly a liter of vodka, some flavored liqueur and a little tequila as well.

This feels like the catalyst for me to finally go through with it.  I know she needs my love and support because clearly she is struggling and using it as a coping mechanism, but I've had my doubts about our relationship for years and I'm tired and broken and feel like giving up.  It's like I'm stuck in the movie Groundhog Day.  We have the same conversation every 6-12 months about having clear life goals and me being unhappy and things need to change.  Making sacrifices for our future, etc. We set budgets and they last less than a month.  She agrees and we have a great talk but then she inevitably changes her mind and returns to her old ways.

She moved across the country to be with me 9 years ago and doesn't really have any friends because they've all started families and moved away.  Her family is her main form of support.

Our philosophies in life are very different.  I'm ""measure twice, cut once.""  She is ""just start cutting.""

Since we've been together, I've given her and her family everything I possibly could and been supportive with her choices the entire time. 

I bought her mother and sister a house after theirs was in foreclosure.  

Cosigned on debt consolidation loans because she maxed out her credit cards.  

Supported her while she went to school the first time. 

Funded and helped start a coffee business that failed after a year.  

Supported and funded several other small businesses that generated no profits.   


Supporting her now while she's attending school again (she graduated the first time, but this is a different career path).  

Put 20k+ debt on my credit cards to help support all this.  

I let her pick out the house we've lived in for about 3 years (Literally only saw it once before we bought it).  

My parents have given us tens of thousands of dollars (no strings attached) and it is gone within months.  Not to pay off debt or invest, but just day to day ""stuff"" and I honestly can't tell you where it went.

Several years ago I voluntarily committed myself for suicidal thoughts because I was supporting myself, her and her family.  I was working long hours at a job I hated to support them and couldn't stop obsessing about ending it because I was so unhappy.  Now I feel conflicted because she was supportive of me in my time of need and now she has substance abuse issues.

I haven't been on a real vacation other than our honeymoon (which wasn't great because we were not getting along) in a decade.  Every out of state trip is for a funeral, wedding, or holiday to see her family because that's all we can afford.  She has gone on several trips to see friends in other states and I've made the sacrifice not to do the same because it doesn't make sense financially.

I haven't bought a new pair of non-work shoes in years because that is an expenditure we can't afford.   
 Meanwhile, she has dozens of pairs of shoes that sit in her closet unworn and is constantly on Amazon and Mercari shopping.

We rarely have sex but it is on my end, not hers, which makes things worse.

She rarely leaves the house other than for work or school.

She always tries to get out of my family functions so I have to lie to them and say she's working or sick.

We've been to counseling and gave up after a few sessions (it was mutual). 

We divide the chores, but they aren't equal.  I have more responsibilities.  I do most of the grocery shopping, cooking and cleaning. I do all vehicle and house maintenance.  She does laundry and shares taking care of the pets.

She'll leave dirty dishes in the sink and on the stove top for a week.  Trash and recycling will pile up in the pantry because she refuses to put it in the bin outside so I will.  Food will mold in the fridge because she refuses to throw it away.

She'll start projects, stop and then give up and ignore it if it doesn't go smoothly.  While doing gardening work she was digging in the flower bed in front of our house and broke the shovel.  She literally left everything where it was 2 weeks ago and hasn't touched it since.  Holes dug up in the yard, tools left out, broken shovel still sitting there.

It feels like everything out of her mouth is a complaint, criticism or asking to buy something we can't afford.  She won't take ""no"" for an answer so if she doesn't get what she wants initially she'll ask again and again until I finally agree.  I feel like a pushover.

I just went on a 1 night weekend trip with my boys and she made me feel guilty for not inviting her.

I can come up with a dozen reasons to leave, but can't come up with any to stay other than I made a commitment and she's struggling.

Tonight I'm gonna sit her down and ask about the alcohol as lovingly as possible. I know giving her an ultimatum may push her away but I don't know what else to do.

Sorry about the novel...

TLDR; 37M debating leaving 31F of 10 years - no kids - tens of thousands in debt - stuck in a feedback loop of her mistakes and promises to change - unequal life responsibilities - feel taken advantage of, defeated, and harbor resentment - debating leaving after discovering her alcohol abuse - will confront her tonight as caring as possible",4.799132572629683,6.333819781310215,5.218847684107804,81.65631897004731,69.8766859344894,8.513595075444787,29.08745589670445,8.988350727773057,2.3613995045417018,4295,162,810,81,77,1368,434,1038,0.127,0.741,0.132,0.6734,12,1,6,0,3,0,120.0,16,1,5,12,25,45,5,4,51,0,74,18,3,9,8,144,153,76,2,9,23,4,11,5,2,10,7,1,8,3,39,71,7,6,13,12,20,21,26,14,1,9,35,16,121,31,132,103,15,153,2,3,3,3,108,56,0,11,73,531,160,21,0.0,0.09392672332479553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10540742267440296,0.08471979390450235,0.0,0.041051976491390176,0.0,0.0,0.032981157956487414,0.0,0.0,0.053909036300672536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11116572882199996,0.0,0.1117207944159969,0.0,0.0,0.28994815622631565,0.0,0.06745633254047938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.080825123155726,0.0,0.12579206601579138,0.06828752891410311,0.0,0.04283351401283347,0.0,0.031646917963061065,0.0,0.0,0.07668775472174706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08282445413112145,0.0,0.0,0.03468660444456269,0.0,0.0,0.0388291685090766,0.0,0.0,0.03311162608873724,0.0,0.07021323146822392,0.0,0.04420573082884238,0.0,0.0,0.0667917614321972,0.0,0.10686953517053166,0.0,0.22419740716477332,0.0,0.1402916015915064,0.1132667184238162,0.0,0.08684078870143704,0.0,0.0674304212503483,0.04792921584927549,0.0,0.06124689334307195,0.0,0.062126087185613285,0.11407026200054265,0.0675798589466819,0.0,0.0,0.08739986142375704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035506965103030134,0.03913332988715625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05313568908559937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039034459198870414,0.2286788721770144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04137072835670131,0.0393336048633008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0653503732380055,0.03230944400896136,0.0,0.2098492910901876,0.08613142956444206,0.04053151639452428,0.08399035261212846,0.0968231764802435,0.03972668545079762,0.03500019580670111,0.03507749631650713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715478772491242,0.1125164589216382,0.07937401273671252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04002206918709087,0.0,0.09491362198926936,0.08425571298897909,0.0,0.08817099631580809,0.0,0.038281660087895096,0.0,0.03719663795277844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04159236220280516,0.08442421945552972,0.0,0.03014572342578393,0.0,0.0,0.044012196045994136,0.0,0.037838000031602696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13405428052064605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07969226249086676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04511558186893315,0.025392476164527784,0.04075343592991019,0.0,0.04255530259284938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03152093207274973,0.0,0.16045903416176693,0.06317111187565896,0.0,0.0,0.13433557804516005,0.0,0.0983644041230086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030514497888263808,0.0,0.044370374625616486,0.11222108602763743,0.042247766467436436,0.03165415815602079,0.06627661104762214,0.0,0.08287439377070101,0.04537488014592357,0.04335644294906273,0.4497959611093688,0.0,0.0,0.05960417988432271,0.03185871792389902,0.03464448370868475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052666121025865285,0.0,0.0,0.031467349266305004,0.09245061017251244,0.045556898869678585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0269109201003921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047678428749386575,0.034233640283649794,0.0,0.03270467483594911,0.02337892863960173,0.031462004411893486,0.09538322784696043,0.0,0.03563842181042585,0.11023168398214747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17313724163565106,0.0,0.04039348769468744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20419941956667084
divorce,socratic_static,2020/02/14,"Happy Valentine's Day You've been through Hell.  You've felt things you know people should never have to feel - and you'd never wish these things on your worst enemy.  But you're here.  You're alive - you're taking each step carefully, and although you may not feel like it, your small steps are in a trajectory of healing.  

On this day, remember that there is one person you absolutely deserve to love and adore, more than any other.  That is you.  

No mistake is worth dwelling on.  Wounds will heal.  You will thrive again.

You are loved - you are the only you in the amazing universe, and it has been billions of years since you showed up.  Once you're gone, the universe will never have another you.  You are unique in infinite ways.

This Valentine's Day is yours.  Celebrate you.",3.147694063926941,5.766180664383565,2.9964109589041112,90.91594063926942,77.97260273972603,6.085114155251143,22.74703196347032,7.3011,0.8352900456621004,611,19,119,8,15,183,90,146,0.124,0.698,0.17800000000000002,0.8440000000000001,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,16,0,0,3,11,1,1,4,0,19,5,0,0,3,19,29,6,0,3,2,0,3,1,0,5,3,0,0,1,10,5,0,0,5,1,1,3,5,4,0,3,4,3,16,7,13,19,3,21,1,0,0,2,19,8,1,1,10,81,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12591988810096913,0.19416371128500035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887900649299698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3582521282487288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18725196565118174,0.1322833191632567,0.1777893276418954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19711368093846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101762923252053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09046322757448773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3342408366131079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4284365434410506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19719677806073752,0.12547392988991396,0.1408278233476832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12837146113488593,0.16168065451085462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097580789591252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15317202965387616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392225158603015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460334118866941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14697692063652792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21293287529517665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11924145665815428
divorce,biamchee,2020/02/14,"Can’t Pull the Trigger Hi all. I (24M) am really unhappy in my marriage. I have expressed my feelings to my wife (22), but she thinks we can get through it. We went to one therapy session so far and that only reassured me that this is what I really want.

I feel like I know deep down that I really do not want to be in this marriage and would be happier single, but the pain and guilt of pulling the trigger feels too severe. I do not want to lead her on any longer when in my head it is over. I see no future for us and the thought of accidentally getting her pregnant freaks the living shit out of me.

Any advice?",3.1964236111111117,3.984536281250002,4.798854166666668,85.98850694444445,72.90625,8.188888888888886,27.503472222222207,8.515128840125781,1.752486805555555,476,17,105,8,9,161,85,128,0.17,0.71,0.11900000000000001,-0.8168,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,0,0,1,3,6,1,1,5,0,11,3,2,3,1,25,24,8,0,4,4,1,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,8,7,0,0,6,0,0,4,4,4,0,1,2,4,20,2,16,19,2,15,0,0,1,0,12,9,1,0,3,75,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19090767057823424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657087599160487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2963460836213715,0.13956824939466134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20413950013199916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20050006895022351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073670750130175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544509759072536,0.0,0.17251019982528276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323838625321399,0.14858330509865375,0.2078813215460657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3754659969384575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15568000237828325,0.0,0.0,0.22070597871511047,0.20053858102530853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22341603028514406,0.0,0.0,0.1251815141107769,0.0,0.15509738116559094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23499912161455475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3456926647147395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18110460425097466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13878114814037104,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,TableChairTvLampSofa,2020/02/14,"Today's going to be tough... Holidays are the worst. I'm a good year past my divorce and nothing is really any better. Have lost two family members in the last 4 months including a sibling. Lower lows and lower highs. Seems the issue is the 'bads' keep coming and one never quite gets up on their feet. At this point, I'm just tired. I could go on, but not really necessary. Another holiday alone in a life I didn't want.",1.572023809523813,3.9185502499999987,3.783333333333335,84.5616666666667,82.21428571428572,7.542857142857144,20.047619047619047,8.515128840125781,1.4266047619047622,327,9,64,8,9,112,68,84,0.16899999999999998,0.718,0.113,-0.2019,2,1,0,0,1,0,13.0,0,0,1,3,1,7,0,0,7,0,7,3,1,0,1,12,17,4,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,0,1,1,2,0,3,3,5,0,2,2,0,4,2,7,13,1,18,0,2,0,0,2,9,0,1,6,36,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032888765530806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334784383392772,0.20581871025567305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16388720688737185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735954100891045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16907949655536705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567151437989223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18503712822937685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10254920345715758,0.0,0.22310308016095864,0.1646319643628838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20738262812779976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20486733182214395,0.0,0.17446439164826485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599959645308175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13863972686266549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142649052914159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15667035818871428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15138471930696595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18833779873767006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13300571074656767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18737330513314485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18554986102767806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087699857819098,0.0,0.0,0.2514864517410195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17868769073900395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255971960911948,0.1860523122292014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19173891775612176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577216359256305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263991229667281
divorce,Sonos,2020/02/14,"Divorce completed today Today of all days. Decree absolute arrived in my inbox at 00:03 this morning! 


Not to worry - I'm now a free man. 

I do think that the universe has a way of playing hijinks now and then. 


I got off very lightly, my pension was left alone, all my assets. All that was required was 50% of a house that was hers by right. 

So today, I officially join the club. Divorced at 28.",1.1998717948717932,3.6262387307692334,3.220769230769232,87.40756410256414,84.76923076923076,5.005128205128205,25.333333333333336,6.42735559955562,1.048425641025641,303,13,58,3,9,102,57,78,0.025,0.823,0.151,0.8386,0,1,0,0,2,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,5,0,6,0,0,0,3,7,9,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,1,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,5,1,7,3,9,4,3,14,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,7,40,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489496782846613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520222076608876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15501804864666288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922449592242612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773534261908522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611615019895927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20527371846674136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154018678861571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6835248055711953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19832950748477532,0.0,0.19079363640808328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441062752932297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ChanceTheTank,2020/02/14,"Told my stbx I hated her Little background as this is my first post. I'm pretty sure my wife is a walk-away, but I have done some intense soul searching trying to find out where I went wrong, and I can't. She just never talked to me, and when I tried to talk to her it was like talking to a brick wall.

We were married when I was 19, she was 22, for 5 years. The marriage for me was awesome, I loved this woman from every fibre of my being. But apparently she fell out of love with me after we had a child together, and proceeded to emotionally cheat with two men online. Cue now, she filed for divorce, has custody, and I barely get visitation besides the normal weekends even though she lives right down the street.

I tried to fight to fix the marriage, because in my eyes it couldnt just end as abruptly as it did.

She made me miss my daughters 1st birthday, because she isn't comfortable around me. She lies to her attorneys saying I'm forcing my way into the house, trying to force myself onto her, and being a monster. 

After all this was said and done, after my visitation yesterday, I told her that all the love I had for her, had turned to hatred, and that I don't think I will ever hate anyone as much as I hate her.

Is what I said wrong? I don't love her anymore, and the way she is treating me has made me truly hate her.",5.57622549019608,4.9628593676470585,6.232000000000002,82.67966666666669,67.45588235294117,8.576862745098039,29.162745098039217,7.554174236665415,1.6188786274509799,1036,30,217,9,15,340,146,272,0.156,0.713,0.131,-0.8273,1,0,0,0,2,0,33.0,2,0,0,1,10,17,6,0,11,0,27,5,1,2,5,32,48,18,0,2,4,2,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,3,9,16,0,0,2,1,0,4,6,9,0,2,19,4,52,8,35,25,4,34,1,1,1,4,43,12,0,1,16,160,61,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10507519020215107,0.07408359169771235,0.0,0.0,0.09431909355884288,0.0,0.0,0.09954470616849184,0.0,0.0,0.12917382196627036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21684987006608894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191809184592552,0.09384137750067602,0.0,0.0,0.06997981479634797,0.09583898982943792,0.0892685148856952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09683754160367784,0.09012209640923972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05535516576495512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4184197771283135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12225354065980505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051762438873129625,0.10619100725839913,0.09355691281010624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.382500632311486,0.2005073075432752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07788637459485102,0.0,0.08171615135966627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10380974932920976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014720293306569,0.1077905320850204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09048180594565466,0.20156784134280606,0.08425670273132913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09985781839512968,0.0,0.0,0.2554788531620722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06788929589647726,0.10409658514574063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.202481958466028,0.0,0.2877358308938468,0.11524455743535154,0.1034989957812531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16819837350916414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09821788906729917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316821631724367,0.0,0.06822914433744266
divorce,Empty-fold,2020/02/14,"Why am I upset on valentine's Day...let me think We speak on the phone today because of the kids  and I get a bit upset and a lump in my throat. He says if I said anything wrong or did anything wrong just then on the phone he's sorry. But he can't work it out. Well for any other person on this situation.....it's valentine's Day fucktard. It's the first one in 21 years we've been apart, and you've been fucking your girlfriend all day, and I've been looking after the sick kids.  I'm glad your gone, cause you don't get me and don't love me, but I miss you sometimes.",2.171792114695343,2.9157195483871017,3.4865591397849482,94.605394265233,75.29032258064517,5.833691756272402,22.648745519713263,5.033348758259628,-0.06006523297490984,440,11,106,1,9,144,75,124,0.154,0.8140000000000001,0.031,-0.8774,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,4,0,2,2,9,1,2,7,0,8,5,1,1,1,15,18,10,0,1,5,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,3,4,7,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,6,1,2,6,4,13,3,10,12,2,16,0,1,1,2,18,8,1,2,7,57,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756845826553767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3087431705536399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11435386286765215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20480101993930624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927078511088426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3629424418991861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15956499075824448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17342505449591,0.1960173334982603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19182472596154795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15752937366683367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16930839464345693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12711666147399708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16379741229419045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17844220242598918,0.14918006269621467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855325072954127,0.20999300570259366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020087530048285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17781453636346303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16866703014374676,0.0,0.16927189264665826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13656863795907698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4102030877931263,0.0,0.12080259136682475
divorce,friendorfoe212,2020/02/14,"Help for men?    This is a complicated situation. My wife is divorcing me, she has money and is lawyered-up. I have no money or representation, so I don't know what my options are. I live in a small town, and there don't appear to be any free legal services, especially for men. Does anyone know about any sort of help out there for guys like me? She has built this divorce on false claims, but I'm about to be forced yet again into another corner and sign her attorneys paperwork by deadline without council. And I almost did it, because I just want this to be done, but I'm sure I'm making a mistake if I don't get some help. Look at my other posts for more details. Just need some representation- even though I'm broke. (Btw, she's doing fine. In the last 5 months since she left, she bought a new house, two cars and made renovations to new property.)",4.1331568627451,5.180450452941177,5.205588235294119,82.97348039215687,70.94117647058823,8.254901960784315,26.51960784313725,8.59863814320734,1.6741960784313732,667,21,139,11,12,220,114,170,0.07400000000000001,0.815,0.11199999999999999,0.3343,0,0,0,0,1,0,26.0,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,0,5,0,16,0,0,2,1,29,30,11,0,4,7,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,6,7,0,0,2,0,4,2,5,2,0,1,4,1,17,5,19,23,3,19,0,1,1,0,15,10,0,8,7,86,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17792045056446326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416564376157773,0.18631254955439536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242377054324202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108311833128367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15548861263832375,0.18182791670156886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11735569803849655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09283025594291816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759307357107636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35728466549842464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050183991421177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19529611950369585,0.1448325860808351,0.0,0.0,0.19304940195191025,0.0,0.0,0.08680527611868089,0.0,0.15689433933354394,0.0,0.14920611167429795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16812473073155773,0.11860251065790235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14182215911021698,0.0,0.0,0.13174716975631404,0.0,0.3432081238203622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17016793868542066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14697839867381926,0.19971931143672167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674609173583214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17456930185873706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17356714834898707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048000297910935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17127679093284956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,WCAttorney,2020/02/14,"Splitting Household items - from an estate attorney  [https://www.fairsplit.com/](https://www.fairsplit.com/) 

This is a useful website which allows individuals a free account to jointly divide items. Parties use a shared spreadsheet for splitting up the property between heirs during the settlement of an estate, it would be useful during a divorce as well.  I have no affiliation with the site.",12.88078947368421,16.060983000000004,10.048201754385968,48.40282894736845,52.33333333333334,9.910526315789477,42.32017543859649,10.125756701596842,5.291985964912282,329,16,33,6,4,97,46,57,0.035,0.7090000000000001,0.257,0.9201,0,0,0,0,1,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,9,0,4,0,0,4,0,6,7,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,8,5,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,29,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9145554491888498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3173614471725978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507389921960593,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,redflag2020,2020/02/14,"I asked for a Divorce now what? It’s been a week since we had a along talk of me not happy. I told him I want to leave in so many words. He understood and we started talking about who will stay in the house etc. 

A week goes by and he seems happy and being nice etc. like we never had the discussion. I looked on his computer and he is looking at rentals but not lately. Just right after we had the discussion. 

So eventhough he knows I want out he’s going to act like we never talked? Damn! Now what?",0.25985714285714323,2.433244819047623,1.9825000000000017,96.43375000000003,86.5238095238095,5.0238095238095255,18.27380952380953,6.42735559955562,-0.18019047619047648,386,10,88,4,12,126,69,105,0.049,0.823,0.128,0.7976,1,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,5,0,0,0,6,6,1,0,7,0,7,0,0,0,2,23,18,7,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,11,0,0,3,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,6,2,13,5,13,10,2,18,0,0,2,0,21,6,1,1,11,60,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15476781635795664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3692662029954811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09408643571890818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3524641882200896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19102360090153586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09098248778108983,0.0,0.18674871367554846,0.17529458165095615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617596907480295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2780422522837447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678427070776889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25536623970630906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413796303528712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507113923872883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13694547946378266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171778340626862,0.17645531491011204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3991908146122039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581910536702061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952925117848145,0.0,0.2655900167700969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Suchadamnthing,2020/02/14,"Is possible to get divorce without husband's signature? Texas Guys, do you know how complicated can be to fill for divorce when we don't have any kids, no common property, nothing to fight about but my current husband won't agree with it? 

I want to file for divorce soon, but I am afraid my husband won't sign the divorce papers. Do I have any chance they will grant the divorce even if he won't sign it?  We really don't have anything what we wpuld argue about. It's only about the paperwork. We live in Texas.

Thank you!",3.051912393162393,4.988551221153847,4.0070512820512825,86.9157264957265,75.25,6.92991452991453,27.901709401709404,7.793537801064563,1.7152619658119668,413,17,82,6,9,133,65,104,0.069,0.809,0.121,0.6714,1,0,0,0,6,0,12.0,4,2,1,0,7,4,2,1,3,0,15,0,0,1,0,14,19,5,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,4,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,7,3,0,0,0,0,12,1,12,14,0,6,0,0,0,0,20,1,0,1,4,54,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4176720707556084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527141135239918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028342298608336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604451576419348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040736486015088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16877211186348692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711716859099973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946672113452809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335605974747493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3462049703283415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967337728335247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827330412361115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811333721954928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2960299036396461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,PorcaMissouri,2020/02/14,"Dad's with experience negotiating maintenance and child support. (bonus points of you are in Missouri) Hey everyone. I (34m) and stbxw (29f) are divorcing. We are remaining very amicable and going through mediation to iron out all the terms. The one point where we are really not making headway is the maintenance and child support. She has not budged from her initial number while I have come up on mine. I feel that she is asking high but she isn't backing down even though it has been pointed out that her child support number does not take into consideration the maintenance which according to MO form 14 must be decided first to correctly calculate child support. I feel I am being generous and my numbers sit at right around a 60% 40% split with her getting the 60%. I have no idea what a judge would do but u feel that with her asking as high as she has she runs a higher risk of it coming down if taken to a judge. 

I would love to hear your insights. We're in St. Charles County. 

I would love to run some numbers by anyone who",4.611373534338359,6.197530773869348,5.356864321608043,80.2859162479062,70.4070351758794,8.723752093802345,28.84455611390285,9.21078282632365,2.4532369179229483,820,31,156,17,15,266,127,199,0.032,0.825,0.14300000000000002,0.9747,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,2,0,2,5,8,0,1,9,0,21,2,0,1,3,37,40,12,0,5,6,1,3,0,0,4,0,1,0,4,8,16,0,0,7,0,1,5,5,1,0,2,2,4,23,7,27,32,4,28,0,0,0,2,26,18,0,2,4,110,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08827519977780772,0.0,0.0,0.1123870567823144,0.23604877377726802,0.0,0.0,0.0970765483181701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21750211556113705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110480053507495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08338529477307131,0.0,0.0,0.12063491338219183,0.0,0.12349429731129626,0.0,0.0,0.19150361478988856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10738607406322803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06595911732484168,0.0,0.07174937368488707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14229012783957326,0.0,0.0,0.266774867842444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14251808058419968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278866275153669,0.0,0.08427119839371898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855485853059007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35803413309531074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808773925919571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10781469031226976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5730567479470642,0.0,0.0,0.09492242161400977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12403754514795726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10416742381329497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690478430704872,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Kurt751990,2020/02/14,Child support So I saw a very interesting post from another subreddit. It was a man took a DNA test with his kids and 2 of them werent his. So it got me thinking in the event this man divorces his wife the court will make him pay for 2 children that arent his. Now I understand that this is for a few reasons but in this situation why isnt the child's real father responsible? Why is this man responsible?,1.818928571428572,3.8507904166666687,3.8169047619047625,86.39892857142858,79.35714285714286,7.533333333333335,24.785714285714285,8.472884824447931,1.6209571428571437,321,12,70,7,8,109,57,84,0.015,0.8540000000000001,0.131,0.8417,2,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,7,0,6,0,0,2,0,8,13,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,7,8,2,0,0,3,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,4,1,9,2,7,8,1,6,0,0,1,0,16,2,0,0,2,43,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737506886855309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20879850058799232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17426372539094392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500292681236197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2971505067687236,0.0,0.2684195490223405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2934493633432906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2962548464396755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16728068885970096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900541701809778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717791362887662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21540696802805984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4711433046678419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,cyclingcarnivore,2020/02/14,How to draw out the divot process? Wife took my child and moved in with her parents in Virginia. She served me papers. I want to try and save the marriage. Any advice on how I can draw out the process?,0.5909756097561001,2.963107121951221,1.1348292682926842,101.53151219512196,87.53658536585365,3.28,20.39512195121951,3.1291,-0.7137160975609751,156,5,35,0,5,47,31,41,0.0,0.884,0.11599999999999999,0.594,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,2,0,9,3,4,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,1,8,2,0,7,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,0,0,22,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4049472605541612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818064724883682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4404420277889545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4601425870428101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4604140759823798,0.2813506597524991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444240840714585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,mmcutie2007,2020/02/14,How do you know it’s time? How do you know it’s best to separate? Or when it’s time? What are some red flags you’ve felt when you’ve decided to make such a difficult change?,-1.1053846153846187,0.9100507692307716,1.0673846153846152,101.30261538461541,92.58974358974359,6.196923076923077,15.492307692307696,7.554174236665415,-0.10314769230769236,136,3,36,3,5,45,25,39,0.065,0.802,0.133,0.5661,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,2,0,1,5,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,3,0,9,7,5,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,1,2,6,2,4,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,4,20,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4229661152747566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42636338369283694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3869820633674323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4430010117784064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269032648239156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4700322869250534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ta_husband1984,2020/02/14,"I married someone that I'm not attracted to We've been married 3 years, together 9.

I don't want to kiss her or even cuddle with her. She's initiated sex 99% of the time. I do it out of duty at this point and feel nothing when it happens.

She's an incredible woman but I've always felt this way and pushed it away. ""I'm better than that"". I guess I've hit a breaking point. There's no love on my part and I feel devastatingly guilty.

I don't know what to do. Is this enough of a reason for a divorce? Is there anyone out there that has felt this way and if so, what the hell did you do? Give me some success or failure stories.

I start individual counselling tmrw.",0.08100420168067403,2.3199046214285697,2.5403361344537814,91.51760504201685,88.5,5.008403361344539,20.378151260504197,6.522977012572876,0.2200840336134453,517,17,115,6,17,177,90,140,0.18100000000000002,0.721,0.098,-0.8872,0,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,0,1,0,2,7,6,1,0,6,0,10,4,0,1,0,22,24,10,0,2,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,12,7,0,1,6,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,4,4,14,5,14,19,3,15,1,0,0,4,9,7,1,5,4,75,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675612607376792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408070308715026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18919971606876487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17810102286728907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20807560781368326,0.0,0.13300718440620202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20364387330829287,0.0,0.386705765015228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931785510048434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218387603287965,0.0,0.17807644721635893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11067117922183388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18175002422269096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932260454497925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180709703750501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3807314954347048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070484339214893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17062553358134755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14253522178444122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11742417304534615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187769926912874,0.3196863573769295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12967977136231582
divorce,Joesfolly,2020/02/15,"When is it advisable to move out? Hi all. I filed last week following the majority of our 7yr marriage being a confusing cyclone of on/off verbal and emotional bullying. Since the start of the year my wife has been demanding that I leave the apartment. My lawyers have advised against this, given what will be a battle in court with regards to our 2yr old son.

Today she became aware of the filing, and although I have locked myself in the spare room, she is demanding that I leave immediately. We are expats, so have no family and little “those kinds of friends” out here.

I understand the awakwardness and stress now that the cat is out of the bag, but am I harming my case if I give in and rack up a hefty hotel bill for the foreseeable?

So far I have been respectfully replying to her barrage of texts asking for the consideration of a few days to sort myself out with somewhere. She gave me 2hrs to be out.",6.6982857142857135,6.699881257142856,7.080714285714286,75.46678571428573,65.0,10.657142857142855,32.92857142857143,10.355215969177356,3.261285714285714,720,27,137,16,10,235,114,175,0.11199999999999999,0.8490000000000001,0.039,-0.8316,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,0,0,5,7,1,2,15,0,16,0,0,0,1,20,23,11,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,7,13,0,0,2,1,1,2,1,4,0,0,4,0,21,3,27,15,3,24,0,0,0,0,17,13,0,3,9,102,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092114129699171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14432463757348207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25173118900262803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109672505824093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17289792320130132,0.0,0.0,0.21467767938799556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330405887225937,0.0,0.1824169509348687,0.0,0.4739180015093834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242941979649396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23785104841219246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23482768360576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18511960647035255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583981787034417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25634820445923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21212469708694406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329710245080575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1795090994585819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14411202607545082
divorce,olihie,2020/02/15,"Going through divorce wife hacked into phone. 37m Im going through a divorce going on almost a year now. Recently me and the STBex had an argument over child care cost. We could not come to an agreement and ended the argument stating we would find our own individual arrangements. Prior to this about a month ago she gained access to an old cell phone of mine that had messages to my cousin from about a year ago discussing the STBex driving with an open container. I said in the text that i didnt want to help her any longer and wanted her gone. Well fast forward to Friday i recieve a letter from her attorney to mine saying that i need to pay the STBex $500 month for her college classes until the divorce is over. The letter cites the text messages that are from a year ago as evidence im trying to impede her progress in school but they are excerpts and dont show the entire conversation. She then goes on to say in the letter that we normally would have filed taxes by now and that im purposely stalling. I have evidence that we usually file this same time every year. Just curious. If her lawyer took these excerpts and crafted them like this and the fact the messages came from a cellphone she broke into, is this even valid? Also seeing the attorney says she saw the messages is she in trouble for encouraging the STBex to violate digital privacy?",6.922068965517241,7.03194902298851,6.8389118773946365,77.02227586206898,64.51724137931035,9.871877394636016,33.87509578544061,9.558583805096642,3.0865022222222214,1089,43,199,19,15,346,146,261,0.087,0.8370000000000001,0.076,-0.2846,0,0,0,0,3,0,15.0,5,0,2,2,8,8,1,0,26,0,14,0,0,0,1,33,28,13,0,8,4,2,0,1,0,2,0,4,0,1,12,17,0,1,1,1,3,9,3,3,1,0,8,6,27,5,36,17,2,41,0,1,2,0,43,12,0,2,22,134,39,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3443769338879631,0.0,0.1296737079658714,0.0,0.0,0.1035596371134048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08806319402869163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481114039849878,0.13203201153805078,0.0,0.0,0.11155120404976572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10339374873805204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15177088690545176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11469693859265855,0.0,0.0,0.0855323177706393,0.0,0.10910779064415002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183589782950601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22079037724438094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679989142627266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4196407260576503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06326626303833638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20672840233039352,0.0,0.0,0.09602124973329307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12688070828932446,0.0,0.0,0.1358865420019224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12786381682843648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12318241130136873,0.3089464194765958,0.0,0.1310590582646703,0.1031932726655872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.075511422392013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14387722804503944,0.08792075469773818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14262393524283534,0.0,0.15276274778790638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164344039564563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18398356426143428,0.0,0.0,0.33357029432970225
divorce,throwaway_21345a,2020/02/15,"Dating Hi,

I (late 30's M) left my marriage about 5 months ago. It was a hard decision! I felt that I honestly and truly did not love my wife. I did not cheat on her while we were living together. I simply did not see a future with her that I wanted to share. We started dating in our early 20's. At the time, I was very focused on my career, she pursued me and later proposed to me. I had some issues, was surprised someone would be interested in me, and sort of just went with it.

Now in our mid-30's, I  decided to be more assertive about this part of my life. Maybe it was partially a mid-life crisis? After some thought I realized I did not enjoy my marriage, that it brought me no joy. We do not have kids and do not own a house. I did not want to hurt her but wanted to do what was right for myself. I walked out of my marriage. It really blindsided her and I feel terrible about the trauma this caused her. Long story short, I moved out late August.

I have a reasonably high income career, so divorce is not super straightforward and is still ongoing. One point I see on this forum where my experience differs from others' is dating. Since leaving my marriage five months ago, I have gone on 58 first dates with a series of short term flings. 3-5 dates/week has been pretty normal... up to 5 dates on a single weekend has been fairly routine while between short-term things. It has all been pretty positive and I have enjoyed meeting different types of people and exploring this side of life. I guess I just wanted to share all of this. It seems quite different from the experiences shared on this forum. 

Sidenote that is obviously related - how do you all find good therapists? I have no idea how to even get started. Thank you for the support :)",3.23149959903769,5.087582767441867,4.4036487570168426,84.61825581395351,74.52325581395348,7.302967121090617,24.943464314354447,8.104835398774808,1.5139483961507618,1368,45,266,22,29,448,183,344,0.07,0.774,0.156,0.9844,3,0,0,0,1,0,48.0,5,2,0,3,12,18,1,0,11,0,34,3,0,4,4,55,54,14,0,6,11,1,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,20,16,0,0,11,1,0,6,10,4,0,3,20,5,48,14,40,31,10,54,0,1,2,1,26,21,0,5,27,195,68,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001990445279001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11600313849562695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3539418416631064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07458464813809021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2209209366493308,0.0,0.0,0.05709731659979641,0.0,0.10842389283479516,0.0,0.1032096753626291,0.09605233837373592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0589976634436634,0.0,0.0,0.09471454578004992,0.0,0.0,0.12439753503827945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115692482591652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11930946400239804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302981058221251,0.12088652314331955,0.12747644440925202,0.0,0.1178623868930749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25476436986636986,0.11956926705498927,0.1226912877560387,0.0,0.1595218620841284,0.0,0.0,0.0997131736220587,0.0999333975087458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10191751420238833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11344644035071685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18026829565531485,0.12001939338167775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11064067044982402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765196207690636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12228472219126678,0.0,0.07828666506445067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10674883747393364,0.0,0.0,0.22976679579890305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201076258329516,0.0,0.0,0.07234143484428099,0.11610376281942272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09643571762793228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17997019448531412,0.10280095685140456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09341116223765074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09567938335325964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159855114767492,0.0,0.09018054028906594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12814380528697553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10396442657669704,0.0,0.13111243247596752,0.07502109557979976,0.0,0.0,0.08964833448778274,0.06584637264966403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931733907484484,0.2664199004386141,0.0,0.09058010619391436,0.0,0.0,0.1046808528754892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08021733633144487,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,thiischriis,2020/02/15,"Obvious? If she is insulting you deeply and doubling down on her faults and sneering about it, and you’re 3 months in to the marriage after a turbulent pre-marriage 
... then she wants out 
... right?",3.0874999999999986,5.901087194444448,3.3255555555555567,87.25000000000004,79.83333333333334,6.933333333333335,28.44444444444445,8.07648339933343,2.2209111111111115,153,7,28,3,4,47,31,36,0.172,0.828,0.0,-0.7691,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,7,2,5,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,0,7,2,1,8,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,1,3,21,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6096238430492643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6522446176554892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4504838828696216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,bigotidiot,2020/02/15,"How many of you have gotten in physical fights with your ex's? Just curious how common this is. My parents did a few times during the year they actually split, and I think I normalized it. Curious how common it actually is.",3.3326744186046504,5.649998488372098,5.616453488372091,73.9423546511628,75.74418604651162,9.881395348837213,27.02906976744186,10.125756701596842,3.3003069767441864,177,7,32,6,4,62,35,43,0.062,0.831,0.106,0.2263,1,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,0,2,1,0,4,1,1,0,2,0,4,0,0,3,0,8,6,4,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,6,0,3,4,1,5,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,4,24,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.681763941955152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3541515389384749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3422554573830301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3878740159924105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22382755154118014,0.0,0.0,0.20368893551168868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249480145454271
divorce,throwaway1234562020,2020/02/15,"Giving everything up for 30lb First time poster, long time reader.  I’ll start this off with: I know I am an asshole.

Wife and I have been married for 12 years.  We have a 6 year old child.  Our marriage has been anything but perfect, but we do love each other.  We have had multiple issues but have either worked them out or continued to live with them until now.  Below is a snap shot of some of the issues.

Background:

She has been diagnosed with multiple different conditions to include Bi Polar Disorder, anxiety and depression. She also self harmed as a teen.

She was hospitalized about 9 years ago and did 2 months of inpatient treatment.  She continues to use NA and OA as support groups as well as seeing a psychiatrist (on meds that are always changing because she is never happy with them), goes to a therapist, and we go to marital counseling.

Wife quit drinking after hospitalization but I continue to drink socially (1-3 drinks/week).  She hates me drinking but has tolerated it.  I continue because I genuinely enjoy drinking with food and do not want to give it up.

Current Problem:

Issue:  Wife has substituted other negative behaviors for eating.  She has gained 30 pounds from her “healthy” weight and it has affected me.  -30 pounds wasn’t her all time lightest weight, that used to be her normal.  She has fluctuated within 10 pounds for 5-6 years and I have completely lost all sexual interest.  

I think this has effected me because she looks like a completely different person.  It is also a constant reminder that she is not in a “healthy” mental state.

We have talked about this in the past but we haven’t discussed it in years.  A couple days ago she tried to initiate sex and I made a couple excuses.  When she pushed the issue, I caved in and told her how I feel.

Not only do I know the financial consequences of divorce (did research and the math in our situation), I know that I will likely only see my son for a couple weeks a year because she will move home and I will not be able to because of my job.

Talking to others that have gone through divorce, it seems like they always had a smoking gun: infidelity, abuse, etc.  We have not experienced any of those which makes this decision even more difficult.  I know I am potentially throwing away everything I have because I refuse to have sex with someone I am no longer attracted to and will potentially never have sex with anyone I am attracted to which causes me to be depressed.  I feel like I have given her ample opportunity to lead a healthier lifestyle but she has not thus far.  I also understand this is completely shallow and I should love her unconditionally.

Thoughts?  Please keep them constructive as I already feel terrible for my thoughts.  Thanks in advance.",4.584169960474309,6.9236926541502015,5.4289920948616635,76.62218379446644,72.06324110671936,8.947826086956523,30.47233201581028,9.516144504307137,3.188353359683795,2177,96,375,55,44,709,257,506,0.11699999999999999,0.755,0.128,0.8096,4,0,5,1,3,0,58.0,9,0,5,10,11,24,1,0,20,0,52,15,0,10,5,80,86,33,0,4,15,4,5,4,0,5,1,0,1,3,22,30,8,2,14,4,0,7,12,8,1,1,16,9,67,16,60,62,7,54,0,3,3,6,56,15,0,3,35,269,89,5,0.07040322694401806,0.08341631150779646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12481642559646705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769171161986506,0.16890430545343782,0.11716224940468754,0.0,0.0,0.04787660855145452,0.0,0.053858275910067616,0.0,0.0,0.04922757323581897,0.0,0.057935857031223476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06614614924641715,0.0,0.0,0.2575029221156772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07232350753291558,0.07447727897201822,0.0,0.22144933192007066,0.07608087712189676,0.0,0.0,0.23369949456833414,0.0,0.04540425706524501,0.0,0.12127639240804748,0.07145779337189358,0.0,0.14711277518697294,0.08068819752738103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2758734384668395,0.0,0.07204007734860529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07851820829514804,0.04650066740787685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265477615020079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067939607695264,0.050296079396036406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05988494887307661,0.08513186147849225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13507438099250418,0.040011776315287066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07494554422459272,0.0,0.06950861098212369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07062017695310173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2939307103878075,0.06986433934580823,0.06257762294072146,0.0,0.0,0.1547670892999389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13758184192196915,0.0,0.062167339238478815,0.06230464038510548,0.05912097912717544,0.0,0.0768534388368927,0.0,0.12708332208495085,0.06661723561324208,0.046994700675148736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07820211386340205,0.0,0.07094989374387113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05619518406075067,0.07482748841026357,0.0,0.0,0.1085986176809907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898021438468521,0.0,0.0,0.07387634358023842,0.0,0.0,0.10708965316366928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06720784640924349,0.0,0.06147338218846121,0.0,0.07728160149227117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06736638002194045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07488249795946292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11220451347572437,0.06409245364955161,0.07344592007587576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07913617686465213,0.0,0.07176722378199504,0.059652425722559674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04983176639439641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07989274762008629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11317489398152662,0.0,0.0648178323982023,0.0,0.08174357281024762,0.0,0.045111545068018316,0.0,0.11178459615357578,0.12315806339643133,0.0,0.0,0.06727330040901787,0.0,0.04779916970579822,0.0,0.0,0.07329224215187563,0.0,0.12161156701153332,0.0,0.0,0.04152564733629405,0.0,0.11294644399461345,0.17146432735609346,0.06330095611032435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05125438771363115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27202421934889304
divorce,I_DOWNVOTED_YOUR_CAT,2020/02/15,"How do you deal with a freeloading ex? So, long story short, our divorce was finalized in December and we separated in August. And she had her name removed from the lease. She went to stay at someone's house with our daughter for a while, and then came back asking to stay here. Frankly, I suspect it's because after a few weeks she was overstaying her welcome. Well, like an idiot, I allowed her to come back in October, since the alternative would involve her staying at her pothead mother's unsanitary home with our daughter. Anyway, the stipulation was that she would chip in $500/month to help with rent and bills, haven't seen a penny of that. She's made a few token gestures over the months, bought some groceries, done dishes here and there, and vacuumed occasionally, but nothing close to actually helping keep up the house, or even remotely close to covering $500 a month. Her cats keep the back of my home smelling horrible, and she has a storage unit that she's paying for, but is currently empty, preferring instead to use my home for storage. There difficult part of it is that we're have a 4yo daughter, and if it wasn't for her I'd have kicked my ex out the first time she missed s payment. I'm at my wits end here. She's taken over my living room and I find myself exiled to my bedroom most days even though I'm the one paying rent and utilities. And to top it off, she ""doesn't have enough time"" to do anything during the week, yet when it comes to the weekends she can go off and have her ""girls time"" with her friends. I'd also like to point out that I work full time and take a full time course load of online classes and manage to keep the house decently clean while nailing down a 3.9 GPA. Anyone else in this situation?",6.561491228070175,6.263980236842109,6.5767836257309975,79.97026315789475,65.34502923976608,9.539181286549706,32.619883040935676,8.99025400887824,2.552114619883041,1379,50,273,20,19,439,187,342,0.055,0.875,0.07,0.6199,4,0,0,0,1,0,43.0,4,1,0,3,19,8,1,0,22,0,20,1,0,4,0,46,38,26,0,4,4,6,0,2,1,2,0,0,9,1,11,27,1,3,3,1,6,6,3,3,1,2,12,2,36,5,44,24,8,59,0,1,1,0,41,24,0,4,28,183,47,6,0.0,0.0,0.0985025655973579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08072142451402177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07057937024688367,0.10342462923286537,0.08306475487607312,0.0,0.0943649736431241,0.0,0.0,0.232849146644246,0.0,0.061531891190987974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11544810168992392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17390119062102913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06509774217065971,0.1040643763980543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10329633672347803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08432214918001713,0.0,0.08940259476245553,0.10429767087858907,0.0,0.13333941147111822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11057448402214937,0.09225703757091236,0.08585923905859294,0.0,0.0,0.07798574530055745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05736634550852353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13531547770717742,0.0,0.30375218328536513,0.0,0.0,0.34941251007761026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26915947273362983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09862805661516308,0.0,0.08913158551117878,0.0893284391813092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09551156451786601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417072653317143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09685434398220932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06839933856394641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10930783543219257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954206228716602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08349834522609052,0.1134604279617244,0.0,0.0,0.08552586212260853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3227648008324279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07589407621493995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09917272173325732,0.0,0.29429369165751457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08717947331359975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619354431829756,0.0,0.09075689343632924,0.0935720933406407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07348528821212602,0.0,0.0,0.1434093031639995,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,sabucoush,2020/02/15,"Anyone with experience having a strong instinct and gut feeling about the person their SO was cheating with? How did you get that feeling? And how did you deal with it? 
I was able to feel that person my ex was talking in April. Today she had made it official. I was able to sense even through distance. He was always the first to like her instagram posts. I always wondered why and how? This person in particular. I was in denial. She sent mix signals. I thought perhaps she went back to her ex? I was confused but something didnt seem right. He is someone new. I dont even know him. But appearantly  he was always there.",1.4347500000000009,4.116620641666672,2.576666666666668,89.94749999999998,88.41666666666666,4.666666666666667,23.333333333333336,6.322622252153567,0.7045833333333338,487,19,93,5,16,155,75,120,0.038,0.898,0.064,-0.2494,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,0,2,1,2,9,4,1,1,3,0,15,1,1,4,0,21,27,9,0,0,2,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,6,0,0,7,0,0,3,2,2,0,1,16,3,17,2,12,11,0,13,0,0,0,0,20,4,0,4,6,66,22,0,0.3253519819345263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.406078368560078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11374683528949805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12508779566416656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16771180360845533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19065504986607093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21489191560013335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15912833424129771,0.0,0.0,0.24676160669902145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13837211481368555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849914910764733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940247029090785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07947527210490793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15392795599413356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15711348577444462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.426127201821404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15579863154936313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389244074395291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480941124936615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13783483924301818,0.12523592547644047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13075279948246818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12914656574348507,0.0,0.0,0.15419781823260678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508022734076654,0.14678977921617206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17641517291081674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Re_Invent_Now,2020/02/15,"What to do? I'm a few months removed from a divorce with my wife of 20 years. We have two children. A girl of 16 and a boy 13. I don't think our story is that unique. We're just another statistic.

Several years ago my wife got a great job opportunity which required travel. It was decided I would quit my job to be the house husband. I changed jobs to one which allowed me the flexibility to manage the household. I took the lead of the household, all of the cooking , most of the dishes, splitting laundry and cleaning and shuttling the kids to soccer, karate, piano, violin... I was also doing all of the traditionally male tasks, fixing cars, laying floors, dealing with snow in the winter(we can get a lot of snow), as well as yard work in the summer. I took my responsibilities very seriously. I've been a great father. She acknowledges that. I often felt unappreciated and even disrespected for not being the primary provider. I really got an insight into the feelings of housewives who devote their lives to their children and who often feel taken for granted by their spouses and their children too.

Starting a few months before I changed my job, My niece of 25 died of a rare form of cancer. She was really more of a daughter to us. She lived with us for a couple of years while in college. After that I lost four friends two of which were suicides. All were sudden. That was followed by the deaths of my mother, father and uncle. My father died ten days after my mother's memorial service. My uncle died on the day of my father's funeral. This all happened in the span about twenty months. I didn't allow myself to grieve. I didn't deal with it well. I didn't deal with it at all. I tried to suck it up and be a man about it. While my job had flexibility it came with a lot of responsibilities and hours as well. The stress had me down to four to five hours of sleep a night, but even two hours was not uncommon. I started to drink pretty heavily. I was maintaining. I didn't lose my job and for the most part no one knew about it. I was lying to my wife about the amount I was drinking. It was the difference between what I thought was ""acceptable"" and what I actually was drinking. She didn't always call me on it, but she knew some of it at least. She lost her respect for me in the process.

Our conversations tended more towards the transactional. We did things socially, but we didn't make enough time to work on the relationship. She was unhappy with our lack of intimacy, emotional as well as physical. I certainly never had any male role models that really discussed feelings. I don't think most men roll out of bed in the morning ready to talk about their feelings, while most women develop those skills early. The first time I made myself open up to her and revealed my feelings and insecurities, her response was ""I find that very unattractive."" Ouch! I always felt under attack so I withdrew. She carries a lot of baggage from her broken home. I always tried to avoid going for her soft spots, while it seemed like she went directly for mine.

My wife let my daughter hear some conversations related to our issues, as well as telling her the costs of my lawyering up was coming out of her college fund. I don't believe they were accidents. It was designed to set the narrative and rally my daughter to her side. I hurt so bad for my daughter and the loss of her stable world. I hurt because I hurt the woman I still love. I'm afraid because I'm 55 with no career and facing so many financial uncertainties. I'm lonely because our friends are avoiding me.

Sorry for the War and Peace of a post. I just needed to get it off my chest.",3.863133242160792,5.745978987252129,4.851575656930745,81.95960339943345,72.86685552407931,7.361883364266875,27.186578099052447,8.104835398774808,1.789221920484517,2879,106,545,44,58,939,318,706,0.138,0.774,0.08800000000000001,-0.9904,8,5,3,0,1,1,85.0,10,0,6,12,22,35,3,5,47,0,43,10,3,5,7,89,84,35,8,3,7,16,8,1,2,1,1,1,4,12,30,34,5,3,19,7,2,12,14,19,5,10,44,9,97,16,104,35,24,69,0,9,0,1,82,26,1,12,30,400,127,16,0.0,0.0,0.06171781930286959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05606271528255091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0505768581946484,0.15787426531842952,0.0,0.0,0.043008645073558505,0.06631770620797743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07195011092108171,0.0,0.0,0.05280678138591712,0.1156603623121596,0.0,0.05381668201257047,0.07125525239216839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0645800304871894,0.0723352233086318,0.0,0.0,0.13380926319830647,0.054479810724800216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06997918830554635,0.0,0.08157535113829226,0.1956078912092781,0.0,0.0,0.19691440839441895,0.06607737395395047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18586753258886612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07114190785649427,0.0,0.06534880351550541,0.0,0.08354521177412037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15989240165858798,0.0,0.12144988699935212,0.0,0.05780461797811634,0.0537960099776554,0.0,0.0,0.09772557917595022,0.0,0.06608561426010033,0.0,0.035943487610600934,0.0,0.10116531713691768,0.13945527048516984,0.0,0.0,0.055927183787449423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.071281506505886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06343970923386498,0.0,0.18685021842635768,0.07297602868972203,0.2031146575488358,0.0,0.0,0.06601115858959516,0.3765643388453288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06467211148730792,0.0,0.03089822351049046,0.0,0.11169266618380856,0.0,0.0,0.07075477406966832,0.13807837996987515,0.16130544810882755,0.05708091758887044,0.05984377609354509,0.04221640719399261,0.06412031889910602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514442312793285,0.0,0.0,0.04689523125805802,0.04877830264753482,0.0,0.0,0.05935097747687786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08571265108324598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06848797485304096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06057105326907707,0.06434271694270123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06726864902092497,0.0,0.0,0.12154874987650395,0.0,0.0,0.06790126594011882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057575707100149635,0.0,0.0714486425450907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06329049276352612,0.06447012745769559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0707973959471488,0.0895300155582956,0.0,0.0505073934411104,0.0,0.07244672546565499,0.0,0.0,0.06917956596545445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0508337891275009,0.055278758658311014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042017046900433265,0.0810494514650117,0.0,0.050209321066395314,0.07375712408522317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14053464000273386,0.08587815999865804,0.0,0.1853429923925327,0.0,0.15215145811996147,0.0,0.0,0.10436719695157508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2843234344011543,0.058628580012781026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09208596165574262,0.0,0.0,0.044927304204468194,0.0,0.0,0.12218276790444185
divorce,timeforanewstart12,2020/02/15,"Filing this week Posting from a burner account. I'll try to make this shorter but we've been together 2 years and moved to a new house about a year ago. We weren't married yet, just engaged, and had a wedding date set for this June. She immediately hated the house and refused to sell her old house. Never unpacked or got rid of anything. Everything of hers has just sat in boxes for almost a year. Her old house is a 1940s unrenovated bungalow and also her grandmas old house. It's gross and not a nice house at all. My mom stayed in it once and couldn't believe I lived there. Our new house is a beautifully renovated and updated 1960s ranch.

I lost my job last summer and she wanted to get married for me to have health insurance. Because of all the house drama I refused and said we should stick to our original wedding date and figure things out. While I was gone on a job interview last October she got angry and kicked a hole in the wall and threw a ton of shit down the stairs. Damaged the walls and the bannister. Cost $350 to get that fixed (she refused to pay for it).

Finally said she didn't want to be part of the house we live in so we refinanced it and took her off the loan and the title. In December she convinced me that if we got married we could finally sell the house she hated and her old house and find a new option. We got married. She backed out and said she was going to still keep her old house or we had to move back to it. I refused and tried to talk her out of it. Said having a child was her priority this year and we had to live in her old house for at least 3 years before she'd hear anything of moving again. Refused to take any financial responsibility and pay any bills for the house we live in. I got pissed and said we were cancelling our wedding if she wanted to move back there or keep paying for it. So we cancelled all the plans.

Should mention even her father thought I should break with her over this.

This morning she got mad that a friend of hers got engaged and raged at me that we weren't having a wedding and she wasn't getting anything she wanted. So she asked for a divorce and started packing. I had the divorce papers already filled out a week ago so I'm fine with this.

I'm glad the stress is over and so is my family. It's a relief. A solid year of stress and I can finally breathe easy again. Sigh. I'm actually feel relaxed again.",2.601129111438389,4.428998309278349,3.6818188512518435,89.23334192439863,76.21649484536083,6.515954835542464,24.331124202258223,7.35660576581511,0.9547309769268536,1880,62,397,23,42,607,210,485,0.151,0.762,0.087,-0.9882,2,0,0,0,2,0,38.0,16,0,0,2,20,21,6,2,33,0,29,4,3,2,4,83,68,40,0,11,9,2,1,0,1,3,1,6,0,1,20,46,0,7,4,2,9,9,7,11,1,0,31,7,59,9,56,30,6,76,0,2,0,0,69,22,2,7,41,257,79,7,0.0,0.0,0.04386616276247772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07969355435007995,0.0,0.045012416671828856,0.0,0.04960507892243076,0.03594768445550128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061137099343451164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11097372038348836,0.0,0.042023568297973685,0.0,0.0,0.1036947464653094,0.0,0.02740200661473274,0.0,0.038250400924164873,0.05064492774408442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035890101181377934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029690030359990686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04039949414088445,0.0,0.0423762572874569,0.0,0.022728820281934268,0.0,0.0,0.14772645618144278,0.041084840801123394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03472940400853014,0.0,0.07045588318260038,0.0,0.02554696351211509,0.0,0.25166264964481355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08876056561676178,0.0,0.0477813240585293,0.050663587950140455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7261516598917245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08921482085680224,0.07990988639665636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07328291595087931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15877193100911238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0490698533920508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030005463740236393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052646633224755456,0.0,0.19110524872047324,0.0,0.0,0.0346693546107627,0.1302432662367964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2830141164912621,0.04787186199228766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04867807524813648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043051094666147816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21379576905432204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046142050996785734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031816890802108706,0.047912299547568864,0.03589831213127835,0.0,0.10298354306038164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033797920691334166,0.03613029904309574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029863767692248463,0.0,0.0,0.03568645611543168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04994275123262097,0.06103821208841841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10605419654032694,0.0,0.07211473594215605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17368368630668987
divorce,YearOfChange2020,2020/02/15,"Child support My husband has drawn up divorce papers. He hasn’t yet filed, but it is likely only a matter of time. He wants to agree to joint custody, 50/50 and he doesn’t want to pay child support. He makes significantly more than I do. I will have to either find a second job or a completely different job altogether. He told me if I try to fight him on any of this, he will basically make it hell for me going to court. I know he absolutely will. If I agree to no custody, would a judge, in reviewing everything before signing off on the divorce, make him pay child support anyway after seeing our financial situations? If it’s in the best interest of the children (we have 2), and I know I will struggle, even after getting a second job or a new job in place of the one I have, would the judge see fit to enforce child support payments? Husband says he will always help if the kids need something and I can’t afford it. He followed that up with “it depends on your attitude”. So at the end of the day, as long as I am obedient, he will do what’s best for our children. It’s all about control for him. He wants to come out ahead. It’s not what is best for them.",4.026610169491526,4.765927042372886,5.362500000000002,82.88747881355934,70.9491525423729,8.103389830508474,29.15677966101695,8.278499904357787,1.9345898305084748,906,34,187,13,16,304,128,236,0.07200000000000001,0.737,0.192,0.9866,7,0,1,0,3,0,29.0,3,1,1,5,5,12,2,1,14,0,20,0,0,5,1,33,40,13,0,10,9,2,0,1,0,8,0,1,0,7,11,7,0,1,3,0,2,3,5,3,0,3,1,3,21,9,37,31,6,25,1,0,2,0,34,13,1,7,10,128,32,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933194823349121,0.0,0.0,0.07626723366398952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09543312641106028,0.0,0.3530899430556193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09660905260818713,0.11758928109350733,0.0,0.1257880503421045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07232878826856012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11717501238714995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933341974106133,0.0,0.0,0.07407536527815026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007950227484862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10250493356985646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058594812461344174,0.0,0.06373858938378316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07517314894642159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4451743809664759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12327165729009612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0547918221614828,0.0,0.0,0.09925102697060847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22458707451106166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08315931724815001,0.0,0.10831713995720206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07599712542612604,0.08529668086296631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11717501238714995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891878043707175,0.0,0.0,0.17874131243465766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12606359294904282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08634012033171874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11724566395917335,0.0,0.0,0.5090752277702134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06539675694701158,0.0,0.0,0.10716608124253724,0.0,0.0761438739124317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19845053843205104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15933918410100753,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,progodyssey,2020/02/15,"Goodbye r/divorce, and thanks  

Dear r/divorce,

It’s been two years since we met and I can’t believe how much the world has changed. If you had told me how much pain -- wait, you did. This place was all about the pain, about sharing it, about getting out, about finding out I wasn’t alone in it. I used you and tried to give back, from my ego-bound, beaten-up place, writing as advice the things I wanted to believe and the things I aspired to achieve. And now, two years. Two years since the day I asked my wife if she was having an affair and the reply was heartbreakingly affirmative.

You told me about the pain and I lived it with you and told you mine. You told me how it would all pass and I believed you in that way people do when they want to believe it but can’t. I tried to live like I believed it. I fought for my financial rights as a stay at home dad and won my stake. I opened up my heart and my mind and my soul and found a great woman to love and to care for who loves and cares for me. It just happens to be the ex-wife of the man who had a long-term affair with mine, but that’s another story. See Shania Twain’s bio for that because my situation was identical in many ways to hers, excepting the celebrity charming country singer aspect.

I gobbled up the companionship you offered, r/divorce, and I can’t tell you how valuable it was to me. I know the extent of the blame in my marriage but I needed the unconditional support you offered. I needed the bond with others that you represented.

I unsubscribed a few months ago and started checking in less frequently. I was getting too far past reading others at the beginning of their journeys, or forced marches, depending on their situations. Mine was a forced march. I was glad to have the affair partner’s ex-wife as a companion early on, lucky to find in her a lover, and gifted a miracle to find in her a partner.

I am writing now because at the outset I determined that by the two-year mark I would be done. My divorce was official last month, and I've decided that for me 2020 is hindsight-free as regards my divorce, my ex-wife, and all she represented.

So, Sayōnara, r/divorce. Thank you. It bloody well does get better, and sometimes it can get a whole hell of a lot better.",4.027005846325167,5.112303122494431,4.7307398385300665,86.13671109409802,71.2271714922049,7.483324053452117,28.50786469933185,7.756953410329674,1.6099782293986644,1758,65,363,21,32,565,215,449,0.071,0.747,0.182,0.9957,0,1,0,0,6,0,63.0,1,13,3,4,17,26,2,0,31,0,29,7,1,6,3,63,61,37,0,8,8,2,0,1,4,2,3,0,1,4,24,28,0,1,6,1,1,2,4,6,1,3,23,1,66,20,53,34,10,46,2,1,1,3,55,22,1,6,20,254,90,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07523326781805298,0.06824656412313364,0.0,0.0,0.07973792380794223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08073022447113865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0719748082996042,0.0,0.0,0.059200188535446036,0.0,0.09386419349900732,0.0,0.0,0.4337041228723487,0.0,0.1361819477562924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15699189327243473,0.0,0.0814447036243958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04965187116132569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06737404770113439,0.07878700906377488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21110107925960206,0.0,0.0,0.08441503475052471,0.0,0.0,0.16089538612206142,0.07385536286386372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08488121750354544,0.0,0.0,0.0680815781993422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912329517897651,0.0,0.0,0.07722676581684326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042311426695582285,0.06275673438534342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037613190539772495,0.0,0.1359663131972764,0.06813330240617367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0654537366607371,0.13897209519028134,0.0,0.0,0.07805528921118116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07773746786943984,0.0,0.12290460054712132,0.0,0.11319231133094802,0.1141735069731219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457668320640393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07349520830495535,0.05337483922469707,0.0,0.16087532385503714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07701035437282966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0657486293441115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06135067950578123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273730529234337,0.17307889223855472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07614460381319936,0.0,0.054493578458962896,0.08206058444817411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736679483284103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06729223385646181,0.14176321213965778,0.0,0.0,0.10229683207825738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29426714237000706,0.0,0.10454166059540293,0.0,0.30083029577002696,0.0,0.0,0.06649422595227959,0.0,0.0,0.09082082715149446,0.12222139468324295,0.0,0.0,0.06922282447353148,0.0,0.0,0.08595604953121529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093822920212386,0.0,0.0,0.198314906499668
divorce,otherelbow,2020/02/15,"I don’t know how I’m going to continue Me (44m) and my soon to be ex wife (34f) have been married for nearly 10 years and have two kids, 7 and 4. We had problems the last few years, primarily related to me not being able to get over my brother’s suicide a few years ago. I pulled away emotionally and said some hurtful things. In October last year, we agreed to move to Wisconsin (where her family lives) to “get a fresh start.” She ended up getting a job right away and moved up there with the kids. I had a job lined up but it fell through. I was left behind to sell our house and commuted 8 hours every other weekend to see them. It killed me. Every time I walked by my kids’ room in the old house, I broke down. I became angry with my wife for leaving with out me. I felt like she was leaving me even though she wasn’t at that point. On one visit, I refused to tell her I love her when I left. Apparently, that was it for her. On the next visit for Thanksgiving, I found out she had started a relationship with her coworker and that she wanted a divorce.
Fast forward to now. I finally got a job in Wisconsin, moved up and found a place close to my kids. I’m happy to be around my kids, but I spend most days breaking down in tears. I’ve lost 30 pounds since I found out. The day before last, it got so bad I had a complete breakdown. I’m on several medications for depression and anxiety, and they don’t do a damn thing. Counselling has had minimal help. I’m lucky if I get 5 hours of sleep. I’m worried I’m going to lose my new job because I can’t focus on anything. I’m worried I’m going to lose my kids too because she thinks I’m going to break down in front of them. What makes things worse is that I just moved up here and have no friends. I call my family, but I honestly think they’re starting to get fatigued from it.
Does anyone know how to get through this? I hear the cliche “time heals all” constantly, but I just want to get through the day and not feel hopeless.",2.1770031410622512,3.664253682038837,3.6281153626499134,90.63364648772136,76.5,6.9829811536265005,24.01085094231868,7.724431198458867,0.9886434037692752,1535,49,345,22,34,506,208,412,0.159,0.755,0.086,-0.9856,5,0,0,0,1,2,47.0,3,0,3,3,15,18,2,0,17,0,22,5,1,3,1,52,64,22,2,4,9,4,2,1,1,0,3,2,1,6,15,23,0,1,9,1,2,15,7,12,0,2,18,5,54,6,62,43,5,81,0,8,1,1,39,35,1,4,32,211,69,4,0.07480371967907237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06630898409732074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057224640807705875,0.0,0.0,0.05230450007272131,0.0,0.06155708760589256,0.06659116982390911,0.0,0.0,0.140561114052727,0.0,0.06245798137856705,0.0911993064266768,0.0,0.06365245589260247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07638296134957888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07843027688318348,0.08083624646480601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14472663250702222,0.0,0.06442833414862084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06546123918452758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08414411633354432,0.06625389271535471,0.0,0.0,0.0494071513573448,0.0,0.1260507201751869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14103657910572953,0.0,0.03782300827003153,0.0,0.07182330168164315,0.08194381853149217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460552528365279,0.05779316826540167,0.0,0.27357299285849834,0.0,0.17005071098405322,0.0,0.11965473615438943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07962995056788795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08430922864706446,0.0,0.05013935650614481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14733319164404324,0.17262689833999142,0.0800789290437764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29692459751272643,0.0,0.08275923273177294,0.0,0.08222033609868691,0.1829250463737388,0.0,0.15841267667134445,0.16254892060808393,0.0,0.0,0.03654531895336608,0.0,0.06605305494429599,0.0,0.0,0.16737245654084146,0.08165709648080448,0.0,0.06751327754256903,0.0,0.04993206374618359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07535687782621966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31801806310845443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07224589859752925,0.07955460450839076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07849392046312358,0.0,0.05068893639002097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781539659044829,0.0,0.07071369379567724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07157705726986231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08031120042472584,0.0,0.0638819678853474,0.07115546729424185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059608879713985465,0.0,0.0,0.08450691120506862,0.0,0.06187840991883878,0.0,0.07485774203081537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15883937340443896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08182312819391054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06538174810691746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14908880246143005,0.09586240625706442,0.07349427478545914,0.0,0.08723730100089153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07307236472086841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08824234392852894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15193361678611988,0.07623138101353416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19268457174814227
divorce,Mamae123,2020/02/15,"Divorce with a baby So I’ve been married and mostly happy but have had a few things happen.
When I was pregnant I found out my husband was flirting with another woman (possibly cheated but I don’t know). He’s not always honest. He’s gotten better NS has been working on it.

Then we had a baby and I entertained the idea of only having one and now he says absolutely no more kids and I’ve always wanted two. 

And our second life isn’t great. He never wants to is always tired. 

When I write this out it sounds pretty bad but he’s also super loving and a good dad to our baby. I get to stay home with her and we live a good life. We get along really well (besides above) and enjoy each others company. 

I really don’t want to get divorced especially with a baby and I just couldn’t imagine being away from her half of the time. It would kill me. I run the risk of staying and something happening again or taking an even bigger risk and starting over...

Any others who’ve been divorced with a baby?",0.9887788778877856,3.417358925742576,3.231113861386138,86.88812293729376,85.98019801980196,5.148844884488449,18.81270627062705,6.6274283507984215,0.3307320132013203,781,21,149,9,24,266,124,202,0.134,0.6559999999999999,0.21,0.9575,0,0,1,0,3,1,20.0,5,0,0,3,9,17,2,2,11,0,17,4,0,0,1,41,31,20,1,5,6,2,0,0,0,1,3,2,1,2,7,23,0,0,4,1,0,1,7,5,1,4,9,2,18,12,19,19,4,17,0,0,0,1,22,6,0,2,8,108,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119546089625825,0.3494632183548713,0.0,0.0,0.09520196020657973,0.14679782673007447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13153068395828502,0.0,0.11689066445923448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238149286803928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246592066742364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15349819384127822,0.0,0.0,0.21942611799059267,0.0,0.0,0.2348437083174101,0.0,0.1543458889325628,0.0,0.0,0.24759568762477616,0.14902815664693467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14042722489094422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580382436595746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15488463588855278,0.0,0.0769380430371635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19776637970968386,0.0,0.0,0.12361887642834707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12635169593360726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079734090588706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09486479269076498,0.10647313173892653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15782425551649745,0.0,0.14242608125611989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17936981784493444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113302973596946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777562401522693,0.0,0.0,0.0990897639753302,0.29843384026507475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10525943609610247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930070040609646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08163269012664337,0.16090460416085048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13675557674620764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24771949046977085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12587305757417655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10191862638477302,0.0,0.0,0.09944901588383827,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Scubadrew,2020/02/15,"Books? I'll (42M) likely be asking for separation in the next month or so from my wife (39F). We are Canadian, with 2 kids (7 & 5). I just can't support her emotional baggage anymore. She blames me for everything. She hasn't come home from work with a smile on her face in years. I cannot handle this too much longer.
Wondering about books to read to begin a separation process, with enough information to limit the (eventual) need for lawyers.",2.4068475452196374,4.895738186046515,3.641317829457368,85.97564599483206,79.93023255813954,7.543152454780363,24.671834625323,8.515128840125781,1.8216423772609809,348,13,70,8,9,113,69,86,0.079,0.89,0.031,-0.4408,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,4,0,5,1,1,0,0,11,11,2,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,5,0,1,2,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,9,2,15,10,2,8,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,2,5,40,10,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2758645734188152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524998941418232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380214458798604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21931979225886536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28639652459150283,0.0,0.2630751799741795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288226915916594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25538972446907504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12438721558193533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203223401483331,0.0,0.18716408033575627,0.1887864924752168,0.0,0.0,0.2707754652284777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546740495541152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2889229067681489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761084242129577,0.1853555813759609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639573689036136
divorce,seek-info,2020/02/15,"Need advice on how to turn down counseling. Finally told husband I think we should split up. Now he wants to put in the work, and it feels cruel to say “no,” but I honestly feel it would just delay the inevitable. My heart just isn’t in it. 

Anyone have a good way to explain that to someone without seeming callous?",1.6866359447004626,4.1884280322580665,2.899769585253459,90.04822580645161,83.19354838709677,5.478341013824887,24.98617511520737,6.868970318607317,1.1025271889400918,246,10,48,3,7,79,52,62,0.10300000000000001,0.782,0.11599999999999999,0.4404,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,1,4,3,1,0,3,0,4,1,1,1,0,17,13,3,0,4,4,1,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,1,5,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,3,4,2,11,10,0,10,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,1,3,33,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526272733238313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18076643010309126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614356382807341,0.0,0.0,0.2832010921499799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.216838191399046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3063529275861433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19169273506897955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598886549834257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2055891597041733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23535111079469695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21904707740114415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16565214213011212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24703135980188,0.0,0.0,0.2812005568169889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524845230688719,0.20520481547695293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492085148279416,0.0,0.1882090073733595,0.0,0.0,0.18364847749312954,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,-RAdAbsurdum-,2020/02/15,"Nearly One Year Later My ex divorced me in March of last year. Despite 2 years of separation and a shitload of problems between us (many of which I contributed significantly to), it still hurt like hell. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

Fast forward to now. I essentially went no contact once the dust settled, including disconnecting on social media. I've actually been doing really well lately, and I have been considering dating in the fall (counselor, friends, and family have all been encouraging me to go for it sooner, but I haven't been ready and I have wanted to work on myself for a while). I mention the social media aspect, because last night I was on Facebook. I'm still connected to my ex's family, and her sister posted something about staying in and cooking with her partner for Valentine's day (which showed up on my main page - I didn't seek this out). A reply in the thread heavily implied that my ex is partnered.

Welcome back, pain! It's not terribly severe, but I haven't felt this in a while. I took some time to process it, and here's what I've come up with so far:

(1) It feels like an affirmation of the initial rejection I experienced. I fucked up a lot in our marriage, and she had every right to leave and gave me plenty of chances. That said, I finally owned up to my shit, and when I did it was too little too late. She couldn't trust me anymore, I wasn't the person she wanted, and my very being violated the boundaries she put in place (or so it felt). I was willing to keep trying if she was - and the divorce answered that question.

(2) That said - I had boundaries of my own. So when I say I was willing to try, I finally owned my own needs and expressed them (thank you, counseling!). And she was unwilling to meet them - they violated her expressed boundaries. It hurt, but I understood where she was coming from. In a way, I also rejected her. I needed a partner, I needed to be heard in the relationship, and I needed to be accepted. Instead, it was sort-of ""Christianity or the highway"" (as the bare minimum), and getting out of religion is what helped me take ownership of myself.

(3) I'm happy for her, whether or not she has a partner. She seems happy (an assumption based on a comment thread), and I do want that for her. I bear no ill-will. I'm not jealous, I'm not vindictive. I don't want to be with her, and I haven't wanted that for a long time. But it does fucking hurt to be here. And that's okay, right? Pain and joy for someone you once cared about can coexist. 

I've never been more whole and happy since getting out of that relationship, healing the wounds from it, and dealing with a lot of my personal issues. I just needed a place to talk about this. I'm tired of people saying ""You'll find someone,"" ""She wasn't your soulmate,"" or giving my ex shit (talking negative about her to me) like it's supposed to make me feel better. Thank you for listening.",4.393908450704224,5.490062827464794,5.570535211267606,80.4163661971831,70.3732394366197,8.426478873239438,29.86901408450705,8.769984970463412,2.3385357746478865,2258,89,438,39,40,752,260,568,0.13699999999999998,0.7440000000000001,0.11900000000000001,-0.9492,1,1,1,0,2,0,104.0,2,5,3,2,22,35,8,0,26,1,42,10,2,1,2,77,85,41,0,15,15,5,4,3,5,4,5,6,0,6,28,31,1,1,10,2,0,8,17,17,1,1,28,11,78,18,73,47,12,68,2,5,0,2,68,31,5,10,31,318,106,1,0.0,0.0,0.07399291510945823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06063612125591945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07519665629842429,0.05301763786035602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05830368321364013,0.0,0.04622137478154492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06705982985717476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730723363309193,0.0,0.0,0.13063066892747674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04889996195571398,0.07817082247598305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06635376053972597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06388466981802307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429595209914026,0.0,0.07667740070019756,0.05416840904264838,0.14560513122955607,0.1661221382388541,0.0693014147178489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05858114046855601,0.14019542915909347,0.07922942354634764,0.07273692511071843,0.04309231041456128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421469592201389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050822973971611576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435122592349744,0.0,0.0,0.07914015934081779,0.0,0.06739551704773128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12361274014979964,0.171064691264726,0.08028626516431628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11113077171564067,0.0759951864891304,0.0,0.06710151737794233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289250599305675,0.0,0.0,0.05061285490989762,0.07687324935786168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811112661391913,0.058479849867519425,0.0,0.0,0.07115533062759727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614993606669856,0.051380047019211145,0.0,0.1613633545834864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052566550795229885,0.13241252008529464,0.15843908864107434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07261806805965533,0.0,0.0,0.07255296382084479,0.0,0.07622368039280454,0.08493980708115638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04857455233545903,0.0,0.0,0.1628123826565064,0.0,0.12950591381021986,0.14425125148105614,0.12059597139794773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06902697561173106,0.0,0.08565910789202358,0.15566371195348264,0.06272208173083432,0.0,0.0,0.15458526312031975,0.12849021377918593,0.0583727268289941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08081788991479026,0.12110568122792788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05700992562607352,0.12188830668644153,0.0,0.139616403535435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08842672477415199,0.08714809670581686,0.0,0.0,0.08424283136634636,0.1029585211258708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09120647854717016,0.0,0.0,0.06256242711973903,0.22361367701857104,0.06018525999519761,0.0,0.0,0.06817454013413615,0.07028925507859096,0.0,0.08465436354418489,0.08719342061096498,0.0,0.0,0.055200498174838984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14648377527771228
divorce,existential_dredd,2020/02/15,"I’m broken I’ve have a 6 month open relationship with my husband of 3 years. Around 1.5 years in we were a full dead bedroom.  
Our open marriage started when I had the very serious “you have done nothing to fix our intimacy problems despite my asking”.  In the past few weeks I accepted a job offer in a city about 4 hours away which is not that bad! When I asked him if he’d come visit he said “probably not” made no sense to me.  
Today when I got home there were condoms on his night stand and musty sheets on our bed. My only picture frame which I own had a picture of our first date in it, it had been visibly moved and broken.  
This isn’t an open marriage anymore.  
This is disrespect.  
I’m okay if he wants to hook up with girls, I’m mad about how he did it.  
He could barely say he loved me the other day and instead told me I was his best friend...  
Our marriage is over.",1.7517857142857132,3.4375630109890096,3.1748214285714305,92.56080357142858,78.23076923076924,6.088461538461537,22.913461538461537,6.9077264865688965,0.5366802197802198,676,21,152,7,16,221,118,182,0.113,0.7979999999999999,0.08900000000000001,-0.6716,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,6,1,0,2,9,9,1,0,9,1,17,2,0,2,0,21,30,9,1,5,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,1,9,11,0,0,1,0,0,3,4,4,0,1,13,2,23,5,19,15,4,33,0,0,0,2,31,14,0,2,15,95,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17291172049926112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552114891423383,0.32599378199890805,0.0,0.16381075663125438,0.0,0.14557780444804844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18297313428066614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501900139321267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13920700090816684,0.0,0.0,0.11244351770848747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17842406019456847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483049111321324,0.0,0.0,0.1347050026669759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13944633973668602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17489067393816987,0.0,0.17170297605250154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730188441831247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15736074875951148,0.16497740072267048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13916721872547685,0.18531006918691686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636188528474428,0.0,0.16729678756225785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132603615720453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16644004673411336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879824520220693,0.16683265478980874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18719029933988235,0.0,0.0,0.16585000786985574,0.138652819993379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234082323814208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16526663454227766,0.16660214338448132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14385981298094488,0.10283815138534938,0.0,0.13985577891043588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2245557436133599
divorce,Mautarius,2020/02/15,"Am I gonna make it? My (33F) husband (33M) and I have two kids (3yrs and 2 months).
2 weeks ago he told me our marriage is over. He told me I ruined 5 years of his life and called me a great deal of names I didn't ever think he would call me. 
I didn't see this coming at all, seeing as we went on a date the day before and we agreed on counseling and spending more time together. The next day he left for work. At some point I called his work and they told me he wasn't there. Turns out he spent all day with his new gf (22F). A
We own a house together and I left with the baby that night of the fight.
A couple of days later I drive past the house and I see her car, another couple of days later I go into the house when he's working and I see her toothbrush, her handbag, her clothes, her jacket and her car is parked behind the house. I'm convinced she was sleeping in my bed, but I didn't go into the bedroom.
The cosleeper is on my side of the bed and I asked him if he didn't find that odd: to be doing the deed with the cosleeper next to them, but they didn't.
He claims he didn't start anything with her before he ended the marriage.

I'm completely heartbroken. My entire body hurts, I've lost 15 pounds in 2 weeks, I can't sleep,..

My 2 monther is with me 24/7, my husband rarely asks about him. My 3 year old misses his home and asks all the time when we're going home.

How do I get over this? I don't know how to move on.

Tl:dr: my SO left me for a young coworker, but claims he didn't. How do I get over this acute heartbreaking fase?",0.2099775200071932,1.9424704599406544,1.9784839492851385,99.06672961064652,83.27299703264093,5.034403380990919,17.33378293318946,5.941861826196648,-0.6372662710187931,1183,24,294,8,33,388,165,337,0.078,0.895,0.027000000000000003,-0.9574,0,0,0,0,1,0,46.0,4,0,3,4,9,8,1,0,20,0,22,4,3,4,4,42,50,23,0,2,4,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,5,1,6,24,0,0,3,0,2,9,10,6,0,1,15,4,53,2,33,32,6,56,0,5,4,0,51,19,0,2,28,165,59,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07559607430773467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08942410693363524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07017863766383375,0.0,0.23917744547629854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14513495723187853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09472748129725328,0.0,0.0,0.26124297185217626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07346165448938141,0.08941504865366967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18872264364931884,0.0,0.27499454295291914,0.08792051666013559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07553326694819637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07714115239602343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07794489036038478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08911114955992404,0.0,0.14540072916174818,0.0,0.0,0.09402212269839287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17108671776363252,0.0,0.0,0.3936092827261711,0.09129460740330864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046867967606024574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779727464131203,0.0,0.06023618428478252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09309380949430314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0569254385763928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06807013243156962,0.0906397430801536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08236449997170989,0.18139369425754034,0.08003003209827042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08948760601318675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140994788044625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08061769794130218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718302722687219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17068430488288558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060362022021292275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05464434182924018,0.0,0.0,0.09945556516429994,0.0,0.0,0.2444677000968671,0.0,0.0,0.09276076452552552,0.08330671911928535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13681384853329542,0.0,0.0,0.07905593706736883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18625579848234855,0.0,0.0,0.06058086573170776,0.0,0.0,0.1098357741572997
divorce,NOVAish,2020/02/15,"No support when family member dies I'm an only child, only granddaughter, only niece. My aunt just died on valentine's day, which happens to be mine and my STBX husband's anniversary.

I'm struggling with this fact... When I married him, I knew that I would be there in the future to help him through family deaths as we get older. And that's how I presumed he viewed us as well.

How do I come to terms with the fact that someone promised I would never go through something terrible alone... And yet here we are 2 months into our separation, 8 years into our marriage, and I'm going through a family members death alone.

It's just exasperated the fact that he bailed. He left. He lied and promised things he knew he would not and could not keep true.

I just need help.",4.3537818181818215,5.7056621599999975,4.674848484848488,85.83409090909093,70.73333333333333,7.587878787878788,27.63636363636364,8.00094639256281,1.614999999999999,604,21,121,8,11,190,92,150,0.16,0.7440000000000001,0.096,-0.8788,0,2,1,0,0,0,21.0,5,0,0,0,11,7,0,1,5,0,8,0,0,2,5,34,21,12,4,5,5,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,8,13,0,1,3,0,0,3,4,2,1,0,2,1,17,5,14,13,1,18,0,0,1,0,19,5,0,0,10,73,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3164769080352711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316101431354778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12198582872003735,0.0,0.0,0.0985332318229789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31713195682879514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4320943123403159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07982348907104861,0.0,0.17366167342670438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13510664896784813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048161870069868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13580170289514232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16600058537333334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12195096795519025,0.0,0.0,0.1132876200583933,0.11783666844542355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34859802702603554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12945363876514482,0.11762081594234478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15972331990732372,0.0,0.0,0.17337780928587093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10150309781048496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837806970603532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13737143136318694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3256007422773344,0.0,0.0,0.0983880778258793
divorce,annony876,2020/02/15,My marriage is falling apart. My marriage is falling apart. I am 7 months pregnant with my 3rd child and although I should be happy I go to sleep alone crying every night. My husband sleeps in the living room. We live far away from my family so I literally have no one to talk to. I feel so isolated and depressed. Sometimes I just wish I could go back in time and never get married. There is no love between us anymore. All we do is fight. He is a master manipulator and loves to twist everything around and is always screaming saying I have mental issues. I have never been so hurt in my life like I am now. I’m so depressed I don’t know what to do. I don’t even care about getting divorced. I’m just scared he will try to take my children away because he always tells me he is going to take them away from me like he took them away from his ex-wife. Yes he’s divorced and has full custody of his 2 kids from his previous marriage. I feel like I’m in a losing battle. Everyday I feel like a piece of my soul is being chipped away and I am losing myself. I feel hopeless and lost. I don’t think there’s any fixing that we can do and I’m ok with that. I’m just terrified of losing my kids. I would rather die than lose them. I don’t know what to do. I’m stuck in a living hell hole where I keep dying over and over again.,1.1586021505376358,3.085037118279576,2.90451612903226,92.64344086021508,81.04301075268816,5.280286738351255,21.086021505376344,6.238725200709706,0.14165806451612895,1032,30,227,8,27,342,143,279,0.22399999999999998,0.67,0.106,-0.9865,0,1,0,0,3,1,24.0,4,0,3,6,17,23,3,1,5,2,31,5,2,1,3,36,59,15,2,5,4,1,4,4,0,3,1,2,1,4,4,16,0,1,7,0,0,6,8,14,0,1,4,6,42,9,33,49,3,34,2,9,0,2,32,19,1,0,13,149,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666202997823367,0.0,0.0,0.15531654997295785,0.0,0.0,0.06346779532145291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255856571334548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830837422458515,0.0,0.0,0.438434382540066,0.07176522946237529,0.0,0.05689327645235261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09515644732856864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07451663949738656,0.0,0.10251893737997612,0.0,0.0,0.16077047818468168,0.0,0.1937242050824414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06164377408191379,0.0,0.07863479176468083,0.0,0.08387924362651485,0.0,0.0879834880258393,0.0,0.18876238866983974,0.13335035079389318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09752244536834236,0.0,0.15912525802013475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09935182555776163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09991200211064837,0.0,0.0,0.0974125712430808,0.0,0.0829562469997492,0.0,0.0,0.10258376943751926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06592194153168003,0.1823858549560262,0.0,0.2472370588798043,0.0,0.0,0.4176508709808375,0.10188103279302807,0.0,0.16846845503247113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09405497737742413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07449534434307255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14396414131469296,0.0,0.0,0.08758415160924242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06324301760851153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07421998990954852,0.09343989848902733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18679537723818912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09230603989891054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14034552085487978,0.07501534908249513,0.08157478418929863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0598022791429428,0.0,0.0,0.05442164066007659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10369338248173733,0.06336513824204093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11226484332745497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073252236025352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06629915782552487,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,WeepingWillow0125,2020/02/15,"Anyone From Virginia? So I have been legally separated from my current spouse for almost 30 days. I have had no direct contact with her. I refuse to bc I have left and gone back several times prior. She does have some contact with somebody that is my friend, but no matter how many times my current spouse asks about me no info is provided...only about info on our kitty is given. 

So my current spouse has been like all her bridges and ended up in a homeless shelter. Which actually is quite nice and has tons of resources, which is great for her. However as of yesterday she told my friend and posted on FB (as I am told) that she has had a minor stroke. She has had two prior strokes in the last several years. Apparently, she asked or whatever to have my friend have me call her at the hospital but ""just as a friend."" My friend told her that she wouldn't do that....so now my current spouse calls me ""heartless"" and other stuff. My friend explained that I am protecting myself. I do care and I'm still weak and talking to her would definitely not help me or her probably. She has been continuing to post about being in there and I care but I can't be there for her right now.

Well then I got a six pack of beer on the way home...got to beer number two (I never drink anymore) and said fuck it and called the hospital. I had no intention to talk to her, but we had some proof she was using opiates when she left. So I thought possibly she was just in withdrawal or something and wanted to talk to her or a nurse if she had not took away my consent or whatnot. I kind of explained that situation with the separation to the nurse and I didn't want to speak to her just know if she was there. The nurse had the best response, ""I don't and wouldn't get in the middle of this so I can't confirm nor deny if she is here."" 

I feel so weak for calling....but I'm not heartless. And well the nurse answered my question she is there.  OK I had to tell that whole long ass story bc none of my other friends are dealing with BS or divorce or separation so I had to get it out.

However I live on Virginia and I have been researching if I am required to visit or actually contact her bc of the stroke....... all I have found is stuff on health insurance and she has Medicaid so it hopefully will be all covered....if anyone knows if in Virginia I have to see her or point me in the right direction that would be awesome.",2.6390514905149054,4.351464707818932,3.9164659239184982,88.09612917795845,75.79012345679013,7.045990163605341,25.63966676703804,7.8500785054351265,1.3453473451771556,1872,67,396,28,41,613,204,486,0.071,0.775,0.154,0.9936,7,0,4,0,1,0,63.0,2,0,0,3,26,23,3,0,17,1,58,11,1,3,5,78,87,48,0,12,24,4,4,1,7,5,6,2,0,0,17,22,3,3,11,3,0,3,16,5,2,3,27,7,73,18,55,51,9,50,0,0,1,2,66,22,2,19,23,299,90,3,0.0,0.0,0.16456602271433926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08443312473617748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836216185707963,0.1179153677548878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15765344081970714,0.0,0.0792203129392309,0.06483597275409328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08848740617086356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25829684726611996,0.0,0.17193732598892988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054378667457755686,0.08692900751478043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07378797313235308,0.0,0.0,0.08260034928695588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07468145297117902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0426341320876417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924512409254208,0.4560116124025764,0.07795139624284374,0.08810621324814917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13487493616842078,0.09296180369592924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08962696945837205,0.0,0.0,0.05651713192168448,0.0,0.08457865774176736,0.08374761993730112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08780508228786255,0.09267884364182516,0.06873109733945779,0.0,0.0,0.18322530303332893,0.0,0.0,0.04119391943441272,0.0,0.07445506843829433,0.07461950793971048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08548605553137502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0650318769533056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07970854513121041,0.09505680754601233,0.161508255487681,0.0,0.09090995599144283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09445638275496457,0.08968345080709733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440156339441858,0.08020651265288811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06719118778650979,0.0,0.0,0.19051254669714826,0.0,0.0,0.09477789361066456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06491275195082997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06733712362294518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193049766081441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20331683598119174,0.0736983707115614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06693972959848067,0.09833397140936262,0.0,0.0,0.24171075587499705,0.09368131854006577,0.0,0.0,0.16473448263152846,0.0,0.0,0.07282439344876722,0.0,0.0,0.09946685678497123,0.06692835961920399,0.0,0.0,0.15162550230190586,0.0,0.0,0.09413895839400092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11979534999323573,0.0,0.0,0.054298559652577585
divorce,4EverLonely84,2020/02/15,"Best Valentines Day EVER While the title is a bit sarcastic did anyone else have a better Valentines Day alone this year? I mean it might be the alcohol talking but I got myself flowers, made myself some grilled cheese, had some wine, and put on a funny ass movie. All in all I feel like my day was a 10/10 🤷🏻‍♀️",0.4580384615384645,2.810659169230771,2.101826923076924,94.46504807692308,88.07692307692307,4.480769230769232,18.89423076923077,5.985473137389443,-0.14034615384615412,246,7,52,2,8,80,53,65,0.115,0.7120000000000001,0.17300000000000001,0.5994,1,1,2,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,6,0,7,3,1,1,3,11,11,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,6,3,2,4,6,9,0,0,0,1,1,2,1,3,7,32,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451030531103387,0.0,0.2375351570282526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16036531699881554,0.2349939280330394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24068637042274366,0.20283949468397253,0.2503884011576705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4437310798858797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19159066078337414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074582189205422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11596514071713315,0.16384611683994554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834303899963645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120477521175255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21701443732613485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24982699391934085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433017762682615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23055788907843314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18434107713082476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476924661654843
divorce,hellfyre99,2020/02/15,"Help! Ok, I won’t bore you with the details of my situation...maybe I will but I’ll sum it up. Wife and I have 2 kids one is an adult and the other is in elementary school. Been together for 20 years and married for 16. We split a year ago and reconciled and she basically told me she doesn’t think we can work it out last week and this week told me she has a new apartment she’s moving to in 2 weeks.  Custody, assets, etc are already taken care of. She is moving about 10 miles away. I can afford the house I’m in but, It’s way more than what I should pay for a home. I mean it’s a lot $4k a month. So I’m torn on what to do the market is doing well and I can’t find homes my child’s school district. I’m thinking about moving closer to work which is about 15 miles away. It will be further from my wife but she seems to be ok with it.  If I’m going to move and can’t stay in the same school district, should I just bite the bullet and move ? A plus will be I will be closer to my mother and sister. I would essentially move in their neighborhood. What am I not considering or thinking about? My child will continue her programs and activities outside of school in our old town as well. Thoughts?",0.5852253605769242,2.531665917968752,2.492968750000003,94.72631009615385,83.1796875,5.500961538461539,18.830528846153847,6.67199483983844,-0.10497307692307743,929,23,219,10,26,309,140,256,0.025,0.895,0.079,0.9138,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,3,1,1,2,8,6,0,0,13,2,30,0,0,0,0,37,45,19,0,4,7,4,0,0,0,9,0,0,2,4,12,17,0,0,8,0,1,7,5,1,2,1,5,0,30,5,33,27,4,38,0,0,0,0,23,18,0,4,11,144,42,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08758618395967484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10903565798429847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18566430719146587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10074002274699233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11019559650196492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09030754001895104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05615412849962737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06622805284004285,0.0,0.1982223663374713,0.0,0.0,0.11400967365299672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08054065363152756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840019287955943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992646175465979,0.10762946992935614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07886657073012691,0.6300953548851467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09542813317133733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10368101775332454,0.0,0.06695398169365137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39999064944874496,0.0,0.0899499149883596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10531480284265177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189934044312728,0.0,0.07844148841610618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888280853114092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0784281648173544,0.2377703408993472,0.0,0.17767819131840626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14386491872600662,0.0,0.0,0.07018944963747709,0.0,0.0,0.1272565594019247
divorce,ThisDesigner8,2020/02/15,"How do I know when to try again? I was hurtful, abusive and deluded during my marriage.

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It was one of the darker times in my life but I still love my STBX. 

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I know it's not guaranteed, I know it is slim to zero chance and I've accepted that.

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I wouldn't be standing here before you if it wasn't for the help of 12 months of intense therapy, medication (that I've always needed), and thorough introspection and healing.

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I know that I cannot undo what I did and I do not want to minimize it.

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But I want to take responsibility for it and at least try again.

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Throughout this entire process, I have been respectful of her wishes and been as courteous to her as possible.

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How do I know when I should try to apologize for everything for my side in it.

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and How do I know when I should try to ask the questions that should probably be asked?",3.9220338983050813,5.975251824858764,4.745333333333335,82.05799999999998,73.12429378531074,7.8838418079096035,29.87909604519774,8.648137234880735,2.442310282485876,731,32,137,14,15,236,89,177,0.057999999999999996,0.802,0.14,0.9465,0,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,0,1,0,0,10,4,0,0,3,0,19,4,0,3,0,33,33,19,0,10,5,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,13,8,0,0,8,0,0,0,5,1,0,2,6,0,23,3,20,21,1,13,0,1,0,1,10,4,0,2,8,104,36,0,0.0,0.06791928494295266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0476979625329664,0.4968821819832652,0.5572371669459378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10717995964639716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0487782998154893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051518901501323024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03842290968849593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06136627338293445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890218444321555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040489468737567716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05173693374933076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057747659979820676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045755280348101536,0.0,0.0,0.04250484356668354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03884406503862892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06462392919510189,0.0,0.0,0.061804711422451815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06421573318909914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04577883080183017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04310033538970081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06555471826455812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03342594691472156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15567628769973746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06762208069127372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06591949789159324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5572371669459378,0.0
divorce,tuckaroo76,2020/02/15,"Sad and alone The last 4 months have included my mom dying, my dad being diagnosed with dementia and nearly dying, and finally discovering my house was in foreclosure as my recovering opiate addict husband stopped paying the bills to fund his online gaming addiction.  
I kicked him out on Tuesday after discovering the gambling (? Is that what it is? $7500 in fantasy football? Tens of thousands in games on his iPad?). I am overwhelmed with grief and stress which I have to stuff inside so I don’t scare the shit out of our three children. 
Please tell me things will get better.",6.838857142857144,8.154053647619051,6.780000000000001,73.17000000000003,64.9047619047619,9.80952380952381,32.14285714285714,9.957137785484203,3.3324285714285704,463,18,76,10,7,147,81,105,0.161,0.75,0.08900000000000001,-0.8195,0,1,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,1,1,7,1,3,4,0,9,4,1,0,0,9,10,6,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,6,8,0,1,0,3,4,0,1,6,0,3,1,0,13,1,16,7,0,14,0,3,0,0,11,8,1,0,6,56,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43421566288004654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20626402877212066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17613599557660858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20213765338478645,0.4133819144909196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21816405043327897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10405002089193094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22979758589790866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16233752082736688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332473757824571,0.15896324391727135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186118663665635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19938842495594927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20442926069505699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16650210265652488,0.22813083853877594,0.0,0.2279842868445862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740698352485447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13230941882753672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,222throway,2020/02/15,"Declaration - Default FL170; Filed by Petitioner? Hi All

What does Declaration - Default FL170; Filed by Petitioner mean? Thank you",7.765614035087722,12.021433631578946,7.374736842105262,53.46982456140354,81.10526315789474,10.954385964912284,37.91228070175438,9.725611199111238,6.1160385964912285,105,6,13,4,3,33,13,19,0.0,0.863,0.13699999999999998,0.4329,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5229766205234078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6509775668374551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5502032913935558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwaway_chuck1t,2020/02/15,"What hurts the most What hurts the most is the pain I feel for our children. I miss them every day. It hurts that they are going to hear the worst spin on me. I won't trash her knowing how it could affect them. It hurts that she spends so much time and effort trying to put me down and out of their lives, not my ego, but because I know I'm not a slack Dad. I am done letting her tear my self-image apart, but I worry about the impressions made on them. I only want to be with my kids, for them to have everyone who loves them be there for them. They are being treated like pawns, they are hoarded at every opportunity, and the fact of the matter is I still want them to have time with their Mom. I want them to have time with Dad, too. I want them to have time with their grandparents, friends, peers, anyone who loves them. I want everything for them and this conflict just sucks so much they could have away from them, because she refuses to acknowledge any fault of her own and attacks anything that doesn't succumb to her selfish demands. Whether its me, family, lawyers, court officials, you name it - she will run the smear campaign thinking it makes her look golden. The kids will suffer, but she knows best. That's what hurts the most, knowing that it hurts the kids to begin with even if its better long-term, but the interim hurt steeps the brew.",5.630266853932586,5.791426078651687,5.104641853932584,88.18707514044945,67.23970037453184,8.173127340823969,27.174391385767787,7.645422480735847,1.2444009363295885,1061,28,225,10,16,321,143,267,0.18100000000000002,0.687,0.132,-0.9495,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,1,1,19,4,9,24,2,0,14,0,22,3,0,4,1,46,44,14,0,8,9,3,1,1,1,3,1,1,0,4,19,11,0,2,7,0,1,3,4,15,0,0,2,3,47,9,30,33,8,17,0,9,1,2,45,7,1,4,8,161,66,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06406317385704761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0658708851396076,0.0,0.07752334582261394,0.0,0.0,0.10717269649131364,0.08850944933982177,0.0,0.0,0.1148539615155708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09886317414196667,0.08331737376980762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15043133000557912,0.0,0.0,0.060754946981985115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09640524005603296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06222204184362719,0.0,0.15874489764514366,0.09001767816131938,0.08466609782531298,0.0,0.08880884331023238,0.0,0.047633282603327054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07278316671359827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05353932661417935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10617678227874047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7059447945909136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20709217401051647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09633181223978923,0.0,0.04602419493199555,0.0,0.0831854465544371,0.08336916773881596,0.07910914492517993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17004882349403688,0.08913980492959074,0.06288310243354743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11033269335592068,0.0,0.0,0.13850420362479016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07164775530770807,0.10024161226785397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09470284793330984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09827719400497734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07523287286893471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060363272213538974,0.0,0.0,0.21972863620260674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06395955377236186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778251055494439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09567056186608304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,admthrowaway,2020/02/15,"Mediation success So my spouse and I are in the process - it's hard to say beginning or end of process, because the whole legal part seems quick. Now full disclosure we have our house mostly paid off, no kids, no infidelity, no abuse. So we're lucky, but I have to say:

Mediation turned out to be a great solution. We talked ahead of time, and wrote our own draft separation agreement. We gave it to a mediator, he asked some clarifying questions, asked some 'what if' scenarios, and we were done in less than an hour. We got the typed up agreement later, and it's all in there. And it was <$1,000, and we get what looks like a strong, legally enforceable contract, so that seems better than a DYI divorce.

I don't know, maybe I'm being naive, but I just wanted to throw out a more-positive-than-usual post, and serve as a data point for those considering mediation vs other options.",4.925453648915191,6.209192349112428,5.472914201183431,80.9084640039448,69.29585798816568,8.946942800788955,29.46794871794872,9.2995712137729,2.4272481262327417,693,26,137,14,12,223,116,169,0.062,0.738,0.2,0.982,0,0,0,0,2,0,33.0,8,0,0,4,7,8,0,0,10,0,9,0,0,0,1,33,24,15,0,2,6,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,9,15,0,0,4,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,7,4,13,8,19,15,9,19,0,0,1,0,20,9,0,10,9,90,22,4,0.0,0.2191927576662494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3458969119180748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11277325858180093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16361598002390634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18931751107262731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16385360082199152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966539865063339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14796005616254354,0.2039613005435699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16572215705597548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18218607980658474,0.21346322255555655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10167023836957123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903808343673282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15535199550993287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858556775781515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003351522538124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748832088346132,0.0,0.17717725199017986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072404568908706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2942361781894549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3368310443630307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14869464174328573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10787400791980373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20122504820203788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10911680208573728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065440172467118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,girafephant,2020/02/15,"Couples counseling reaffirming want for divorce Has anyone experienced this? My wife and I are starting couples counseling next Thursday. I'm the one that wants a divorce. I would love for this marriage to work out, but there are some significant things that have happened that, at this time, I don't see how they can be fixed, resolved, or even forgiven. I'm going into it with an open mind with the intent on fixing things, but I've also heard that sometimes it has reaffirmed someone's decision to go through with it. I would like to hear from those people.",6.378379120879124,7.6494074423076945,5.975439560439563,78.68384615384616,65.92307692307692,8.635164835164835,34.087912087912095,8.841846274778883,2.9532489010989016,450,20,78,7,7,139,76,104,0.0,0.857,0.14300000000000002,0.9127,0,0,0,0,2,0,12.0,0,0,1,2,4,3,0,0,4,0,10,1,0,2,0,20,22,6,0,4,3,1,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,13,7,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,4,6,3,14,18,1,11,0,0,1,1,8,5,0,2,5,57,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16737806337946146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463482387431519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4631755088610217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13824144332534752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23790134706321586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850843260485681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23589762076182325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10225397538827076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18890247008183486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113345082455287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2225941599197709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418278839130346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451030720370284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16678592754859095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17734019508605708,0.0,0.2070042007213252,0.0,0.1481444395063886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781007832496272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220451905327085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24690249593347796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15237373847002256,0.0,0.0,0.2973630802318008,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Jgalag,2020/02/15,"You wanted this and now you’re mad at me Married 15yrs, wife told me she didn’t love me months ago. Tried therapy and failed. Separate bedrooms for 5 months, new therapy to figure out real separation. During mediation she finally realizes that after all the help I gave her building her consulting business, she’s going to owe me child support and I technically own half the business. Now she’s pissed at me because I didn’t “ask for enough raises”! I’m already at the top of my pay band and already make in the 92nd percentile of US salaries. We have plenty of money, she just has way more than me and is mad at me for not keeping it even???

It’s like she expected the process to be painless, that 50/50 kids meant 50/50 money. But sorry, when you earn more than twice your spouse you’re going to owe them. It’d be the reverse if I hadn’t helped her start the damn business. Now she’s talks about trashing it and getting a regular job just so she doesn’t have to pay me. Of course that makes no sense. She’s really worried about having enough money and that’d be worse. She just wants to have plenty to support the carefree travel lifestyle she’s dreamed of leaving me for. 

She’s not really a terrible person. I let her know she was being pretty ungrateful for all the time I spent watching kids and working while she went to school to learn the business. She apologized, but she’s still not happy about it. Sorry, but it’s not for me, the money is for the kids. She wants to leave, I’ll be kind, but I’m not giving away everything.",3.432786885245904,5.1970221147540965,4.217836065573774,86.55232786885244,73.75409836065575,7.109508196721313,25.97049180327869,7.839951260653429,1.4455613114754098,1215,42,241,17,25,389,158,305,0.105,0.813,0.08199999999999999,-0.5986,4,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,2,3,1,4,13,12,4,0,14,0,20,2,1,2,2,38,45,16,0,5,13,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,5,11,10,0,1,5,3,9,4,10,6,0,2,9,1,44,6,35,28,7,27,0,1,1,1,45,8,2,1,15,161,55,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073051401474644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26716740088740315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11316711677588975,0.0,0.11373217557197528,0.0,0.0,0.0737920697375118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501577914790344,0.0,0.079953589590601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10879357599313612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13260635872259496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0632445830011239,0.11612394212915934,0.13759308503006526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12886192002401878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622769749842372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12012525897912207,0.1075964251926049,0.0,0.12605684911312182,0.06652691794442461,0.0,0.0,0.2563528110520459,0.0,0.12378369388287427,0.0,0.05913980775620396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925399939602982,0.0,0.16160606804871405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19324482566890908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11691260814235002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10569778552059717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12315322624329075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13778347992344642,0.15509779924753692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12251091084335282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710152177216723,0.08568110569091265,0.0,0.09667214483577316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2747363558657145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729687260172501,0.0,0.0,0.2768666262436004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0705862933765369,0.0,0.0,0.11567020757204675,0.0,0.0821862439931671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14561044229590736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21419851045284255,0.0960853052018947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11221625572738482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08812717125171936,0.12293400558224275,0.1233621527255846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,rwaustin,2020/02/15,"Pissed Valentine's day and full on fight.  God I'm ready to be done.  She isn't because she would lose all my support.  
What to do.?",-1.1085714285714268,0.971909571428572,0.20428571428571551,106.06571428571432,96.14285714285714,2.8000000000000003,17.714285714285715,3.1291,-1.2346,100,3,25,0,4,31,26,28,0.265,0.531,0.204,-0.4939,0,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,0,5,1,1,0,1,3,7,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,3,1,3,4,2,3,0,1,0,0,3,2,1,0,1,15,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759849846412286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29197866383439713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4633083325139145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5064982033051629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5137619070971936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3216122043793321,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,nadia1878,2020/02/15,"When is it enough? 39 weeks pregnant Sitting in my car, 39 weeks pregnant, after yet another fight with my husband. Left him to put my 2 year old to bed alone. Drove myself to McDonald’s to get an ice cream. Don’t want to go home. 

Valentine’s Day - I wake up to him swearing at me after 3 hours of sleep bc he lets the dog wake me up (we’ve been sleeping in different rooms because I can’t sleep at all this pregnant). 

Then he comes home for dinner after work (I’m on maternity leave / unpaid leave already  for the next 6 months actually). Dinner is ready on the stove, he serves himself and not me. I ask him to serve our 2 year old, my back is killing me. After asking 4X he does it. 

Then he lies on the floor with his eyes shut “napping”. Apparently since we’ve been sleeping alone he’s exhausted bc he’s been staying up late watching tv shows without me telling him to turn the tv off of go to bed. Grow the fuck up.

What do I do at this stage?? I find him so infuriating. He talks about how tired he was in the hospital last time we were there when we had our 2 year old. I want to punch him in the face - after 14 hours of unmedicated labour I had a c section with general anesthetic and HE is complaining about being tired??! 

I should mention he did send me flowers today and I was honestly annoyed by that. It’s just like another thing for me to do as sad as that is. 

Any comments appreciated.",1.7073235256162107,3.6649159512195126,3.3980642663569505,89.63268550780747,79.38327526132404,6.481817008646277,24.218479803845657,7.526774132740827,1.0317862691960262,1086,39,238,16,27,361,161,287,0.13699999999999998,0.816,0.047,-0.9759,3,2,0,0,1,0,34.0,4,0,0,1,10,9,4,0,10,0,22,14,8,1,1,19,34,11,1,3,3,1,0,1,0,1,3,0,6,0,9,9,2,0,1,4,0,8,4,7,0,0,10,3,33,2,46,21,3,59,0,1,3,1,33,20,1,0,29,137,42,2,0.0,0.0,0.1026486865444935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21788687974612825,0.1160779944417424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715317063487662,0.22059837867848886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19667387425962132,0.0,0.0,0.08088337233008107,0.0,0.06412186091854465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09061047647601084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06783780392223142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10989947025505116,0.0,0.0,0.0920510613295201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10868771651186517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09614027486197936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09724496353085972,0.054956587740049516,0.0,0.1195619623224411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21102504596490296,0.0,0.20717873399355569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11637535895557972,0.0,0.0,0.08574257006750073,0.11865707579223922,0.22275861559146867,0.1142874840618556,0.10756224661234183,0.0,0.05138972983386935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08396036239969554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11186903685102373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3311325347589785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057433764345433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701291599989318,0.0,0.42105738837260975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11211681870863688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08454643642561603,0.09193928162367597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06988248654157038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06133619103984905,0.2417971409417039,0.09970628611986099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144147532526896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12408566525800704,0.0,0.16875154923049795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10139784591914984,0.0,0.07657839437555335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20321360646613956
divorce,deadlift215,2020/02/15,"Five years out I got separated five years ago. Divorce was final two and a half years ago. The marriage had become terrible. There isn’t a single day I am not thankful to be out of the marriage. I’m in a nice relationship now and my kids are doing okay. Lately I notice I’m feeling really sad, anxious, and/or exhausted. I feel deeply sad and angry that I was betrayed. I feel overwhelmed by the financial burdens of my situation. I have triggers. I would like to know how others are feeling five years out. I feel more tired and sad now than in the past year or two. Is it that I’m finally catching my breath and now it’s time to grieve? I feel like I “should” be over it. I’d love to hear people’s thoughts.",1.2231250000000031,3.5736461736111136,2.9977777777777814,89.60000000000002,83.79166666666667,5.822222222222222,22.88888888888889,7.1686216300943375,0.8947305555555554,555,20,115,8,16,184,85,144,0.23399999999999999,0.652,0.115,-0.9675,0,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,0,0,0,0,5,14,0,1,7,1,14,4,1,2,0,22,29,7,1,2,2,0,6,2,0,2,2,1,0,1,6,8,0,0,8,0,0,1,2,8,0,6,5,7,14,6,14,20,2,23,0,5,0,1,7,6,0,1,18,75,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528416955155208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16111595587491784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15750862661431356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09197578992619433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4326668702896964,0.10188519605096794,0.0,0.31245862527632656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140633760929559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607390658213298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07837825246476655,0.0,0.1608775291257177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13935035399973705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12871688351173835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16236973481460326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13614350640834905,0.09887226573847537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913637279597732,0.0,0.0,0.15311665802684932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16030682692167345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13130203468722154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132215038562516,0.08316077903142878,0.1639165904125057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786310308153164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10131061002618688,0.0,0.0,0.4592014800454735
divorce,mroo585,2020/02/16,"oh NOW you want to try? Yesterday I (34F) told my husband (41M) of 13 years that i want to separate...after years of me expressing discontent and trying to work on things. 

today he was a dream husband. kind and patient and nurturing and complimentary. all the things he generally isn’t, but especially hasn’t been the past 4 years. it’s almost frustrating. anyone experience this? i don’t want to be unkind, but i also just want to scream “too little, too late!”",2.7805934343434338,5.293976579545458,4.8506060606060615,77.70146464646466,78.6590909090909,8.456565656565656,24.550505050505052,9.150863307647796,2.3850717171717166,361,13,67,10,9,124,64,88,0.11699999999999999,0.731,0.152,-0.6325,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,0,1,5,5,1,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,1,14,11,7,0,4,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,3,1,7,2,8,7,1,10,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,1,8,41,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105897188279314,0.0,0.0,0.16818054487478906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470498943310703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20571829251958546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21899992033270668,0.0,0.0,0.2372327944948376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21078049860182066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200759575641788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794341164707673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993442087375588,0.20095509622339905,0.0,0.2855660920224352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4961725026403075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15310428286172614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4062878797531398
divorce,N0way76,2020/02/16,Did I waste 20 years I married my STBXW and adopted her children. We have been through a child with brain cancer and another with 10 surgeries to correct a Pilonidal cyst. I’m not claiming to be the best husband but I have always provided for the family. She has not had the best work history bouncing from job to job. I maintained the household while she went to college. And the daughters are now out of the house and in college. This last Christmas it comes to light that she has been sexting my mentor from when I started working over 25 years ago. He lives 300 miles away. And she has been having intimate relationship with one of her coworkers. All this when she finally gets a decent paying job. Of course I filed for divorce and she doesn’t have a lawyer at the moment. I just don’t know if I married her to give her children a father and it was just fraternal instinct and not love to her.,3.6470476190476178,5.686534657142857,4.064,86.70533333333336,73.85714285714286,6.723809523809526,29.380952380952376,7.554174236665415,1.8270952380952377,715,31,136,9,15,224,108,175,0.053,0.898,0.049,0.0639,3,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,1,0,0,4,5,3,0,0,12,0,17,4,1,0,2,24,25,13,0,1,7,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,5,14,0,0,1,0,1,2,5,0,0,1,7,1,22,3,23,17,3,19,0,0,0,1,23,6,0,1,11,102,27,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15515391195729686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456393358645281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18353466289216505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644468469185728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3673672672301576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19539184150355385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15077321378468275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650031083662226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917372763126612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914461734940868,0.167905133607596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20196161162109008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5210720706356003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09619214471324157,0.14267315822644452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15455507290379195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157971793149694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186051465111212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879171742639654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12388743643130905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16225495849851498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548484695261447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254277115500905
divorce,thebigbeat77,2020/02/16,"How in the fuck can you be happy and be good to yourself, while stuck in a terrible marriage? My marriage, it seems, is dead.  I believe she is sticking around for the moment because she doesn’t want to be the one to file, nor does she want her life to change.  She has never worked, even after my kids became old enough to where it would make sense.. to bring in more money.  Because yes, more money is a good thing.  With that said, I am too chicken shit to start any type of divorce proceedings myself.  I don’t necessarily want a divorce.  She refuses to talk and resolve our issues.  I text her.  It gets ignored, etc.  So needless to say, I am fucking in a depression.. I do smile from time to time during the day, and I think I play it off well.  I go to work, and try to put on a happy face, but deep down, I haven’t been happy for 1 second of any day the past 4 years or so.  I eat like shit.  Some people become depressed and they lose their appetite, I eat.  I stopped working out because I just don’t have the willpower or drive to get down in my basement and to my weights/treadmill.  I gained around 12 pounds the past year or so, which puts me up at 203ish.  I need to stop. I need to do whatever the fuck it takes to be happy, even in this environment.  I need to work out.. I need to be good to myself.  How in the hell do I do that?  I let this depression/situation over power me every day.  

I need to say fuck it and power through this, and treat myself right.. I just don’t have the mindset to do it.. yet.  Would love to hear from others who have been in a similar situation and broke through and had actual happy moments during this mess... Thanks!",2.504687328277832,3.9174001721068272,3.738905374216952,90.48736454555448,75.46884272997033,6.416924936806242,23.75744587317288,6.937597516519254,0.6659096384218048,1266,38,278,12,27,413,171,337,0.134,0.7040000000000001,0.163,0.7718,5,0,0,0,2,0,55.0,1,1,2,9,15,29,7,0,16,1,31,11,3,3,1,43,57,21,1,10,6,0,0,1,0,2,1,4,0,1,17,15,2,4,3,1,2,5,7,14,1,2,5,4,43,15,52,44,5,47,1,4,0,5,24,22,7,5,21,196,60,5,0.0,0.0,0.08120134159355744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11317184306062213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14814978511091342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15217285210379455,0.09189934299618996,0.0,0.09374961972388733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802556386533511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16099146149887245,0.0,0.14333798136318698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728179767972768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17029001373414426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0859785808528413,0.09280158531936958,0.10991936131905786,0.0,0.07010834603300851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3077066747853472,0.0869479932792274,0.0,0.047290384665235614,0.20937879254640274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4428950601191258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09378416192385973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08685003291052745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08508826584890943,0.058773962318122736,0.040652395535834634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930911468276551,0.0,0.0,0.07510062960685428,0.0,0.055543584334852264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30849726509353426,0.06417698584259994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08731531132337629,0.0,0.056385516679916564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15886747362430342,0.05768761024219909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16729885827415095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07106122207871524,0.07915213996829085,0.132344490736788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07575161780728187,0.0,0.0,0.17082854796783295,0.0,0.09353196957256026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05889674536740845,0.0,0.0,0.1391352310999819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06256386085259613,0.06688136298498715,0.0,0.07660895140280566,0.0,0.0,0.05528128855900731,0.053317860779268235,0.0,0.0,0.09704130015371656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05649439565627185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723893939614807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07481613764272484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24231263232696626,0.0,0.0,0.11822055337639155,0.0,0.0,0.10716953153909883
divorce,desertblack,2020/02/16,"When to start dating again I’ve been divorced for 3 months. When is the appropriate time to start dating again. I don’t know if I’m fully ready for commitment but maybe just to start practicing dating again. I feel like it might help me move on quicker too. I’m nervous because it’s been 12 years since I’ve had to date, I don’t even know where to start",1.8046332046332048,3.807399000000004,2.724749034749036,94.35635135135138,79.27027027027026,5.850193050193052,20.03088803088803,6.868970318607317,0.11997528957528968,282,7,63,3,7,89,48,74,0.037000000000000005,0.8140000000000001,0.149,0.7893,0,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,1,1,0,7,0,0,0,1,8,16,4,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,1,4,1,8,12,0,19,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,2,17,33,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14860920281824672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16101783367483474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232651283749934,0.17416020453322434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16340408917887345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679559545312522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11910114076941435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24491501293367265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586175854235845,0.0,0.0,0.1945870307850236,0.2591051000938648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016616470015056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6902097127024867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14215311788781032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569896840492348
divorce,spirit_mtn,2020/02/16,"Mediation thoughts I (m57) will be going to a mediation settlement conference soon for my divorce, with my own attorney. We are married for 17 yrs, but have been separated for awhile. No kids. Own a home together that I currently live in alone. She makes a fair amount less than me in income. Filed for irreconcilable differences. Never had a joint checking or savings account. After I retire will get maybe ~$10k/annually from a pension, but we were only married for 3 years of that time I was in the union, so hoping that will stay out of the deal. Have had a 401(k) with current employer the whole time married. 

Will be discussing concerns with my lawyer this week, but just thought I would ask here what specifics may or may not happen, and what I should be prepared and ready for in the mediation. Is it basically all about finances? I can't buy her out of our home. House goes on market, split positive sale income, she gets some (?) of my 401(k), likely pay her some amount in alimony... Are their other issues/concerns other than financial? Thanks",4.881094559585492,7.063235901554407,5.19416774611399,79.30762467616582,70.81347150259067,8.348316062176165,29.679080310880828,9.017664075816787,2.6235598445595847,831,34,148,17,16,263,128,193,0.035,0.85,0.115,0.9575,5,1,0,0,1,0,38.0,3,0,1,0,5,4,0,0,10,0,22,0,0,1,2,29,32,8,0,3,7,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,2,1,9,9,0,0,2,0,6,1,4,0,0,0,7,0,20,4,27,14,9,19,0,0,0,0,13,8,0,7,10,109,29,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20730111650109206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18711871852090892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063519121927959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091202821693122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20914636091675792,0.0,0.1137531929842782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17699717399055606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4015453127713718,0.198799940430923,0.0,0.2309529994612948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09778604736240344,0.0,0.17674129941119146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336055968376527,0.0,0.20108347325457385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15437254544197498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15222755779392955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21333952483904856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842766324472892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31780280482246515,0.23342499372702005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16055296494920251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2234668798345272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421849866323754,0.0,0.0,0.12889381731085425
divorce,Wild_Rose11,2020/02/16,"Anyone initiate separation even though they wanted to work things out? Background: My husband and I have been together since I was 20 years old.  He is 10 years older than me.  We've been together 16 years.

For months he's barely spoken to me. He won't even acknowledge my presence in a room.   We've attended counselling, but it hasn't changed his behaviour.  

He's told me that he is not attracted to me now that I'm ""fat"" (I am BPSD and take medication that, combined with depression, made me gain about 30 lbs in the last 3 years) and doesn't love me anymore because of my political views (I'm a crazy left-wing feminist because I believe in things like the gender pay gap and social privilege)

I want to try to work through it together, but he's told me he's just staying for the kids.  I don't think that's healthy for anyone.

Has anyone else initiated separation despite being the partner who wanted to work it out?  Did you regret it later?",4.7036008316008315,5.861974686486487,5.7145945945945975,79.43833679833683,69.70270270270271,9.151767151767153,30.987525987525988,9.466822959209583,2.8059521829521827,747,31,144,16,13,247,112,185,0.131,0.8190000000000001,0.05,-0.9444,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,1,1,4,6,6,0,0,6,0,14,3,1,1,0,18,25,7,0,4,4,1,0,1,1,1,2,0,1,2,11,7,1,0,2,0,1,1,5,2,0,0,7,1,19,4,19,16,0,18,0,2,1,1,18,6,0,0,11,81,30,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474211708873883,0.311819273720326,0.1523098164018639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812317069864964,0.0,0.0,0.16747800324107226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15725232500947914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12803230017367145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12417826542362714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19636426478814986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12116984841162275,0.0,0.0,0.16150900431627865,0.0,0.0,0.07262303624654695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13416271474750868,0.14065652411687074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14974955552538946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11865126478652288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15598350196918845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12296507829494835,0.0,0.0,0.15153027815952289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15844145931972894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11176653858975903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975133307574803,0.09524912086786927,0.14604818166914568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840834962392701,0.0,0.10092380754919174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630334250104373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3246576034793355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38290372170706777
divorce,Rene845,2020/02/16,Sleeping around Did anyone ever just start sleeping with a bunch of people trying to move on? I just want to know I’m not alone haha.,3.81111111111111,5.091405111111111,4.534259259259262,86.5991666666667,71.96296296296295,5.4,20.907407407407405,3.1291,-0.07928148148148217,106,2,20,0,2,34,23,27,0.094,0.792,0.115,-0.1129,0,1,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,1,1,2,2,0,1,8,5,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,6,4,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,14,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3211534694041663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21681791685322127,0.0,0.0,0.27604046883088523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2804886973207787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17041403675690944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.329570179759888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21497317684353454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6206158041809489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21947902511854625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21052665654019934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18289555547064146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,zippadee_day,2020/02/16,"Anxious about the future I’m about 30 days into a 90 day waiting period for my divorce to be finalized. Stbxh initiated the divorce after starting an emotional affair while I was pregnant, but has since asked to reconcile. I refuse, because we’ve been through this cycle of him wanting to be with me, cheating, and then not wanting to be with me plenty of times and I don’t want to put my boys through it anymore. 

I’ve felt really good and strong for months while all of this unfolded, but all of the sudden the weight of everything is hitting me. Myself and my two young sons are living with my dad, I’m single, my family won’t be growing anymore and every milestone with my three month old has so much more weight knowing I won’t go through it again. I’m feeling old and unwanted and old anxieties I’ve always had about getting older are getting out of control to the point where I’m having trouble focusing. I’ve been in therapy for years and I’m still having a hard time coping with these waves of anxiety. 

I think it’s mostly because i now have no idea what the future is going to hold. Will I meet someone else? I also feel so bad about needing to live with my dad. I’m 32 and living with a parent, it feels pathetic. And even though financially I could handle a place of my own, I’m overwhelmed trying to parent a three month old and a three week old and I like having someone around in case things get too crazy with the kids. 

I don’t really have a point to all this, I just needed to vent, so thanks for reading.",4.449439775910363,5.3806572026143815,5.363445378151262,82.56264705882354,70.1111111111111,8.05079365079365,28.623716153127926,8.269060116576782,1.9476500466853408,1208,43,235,17,21,396,165,306,0.121,0.7979999999999999,0.081,-0.9259,2,0,0,0,2,0,24.0,0,0,0,2,17,8,1,1,15,0,25,2,0,1,3,50,53,22,0,7,4,5,7,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,10,23,2,4,8,1,0,4,6,4,0,4,5,7,25,4,44,39,8,42,0,1,0,0,14,9,0,1,30,162,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761022210794964,0.0791836600828207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14559964268282266,0.10750767415939927,0.18875325279823807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08471569585533084,0.08896503164537728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07945755222796587,0.11602157952608155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10673396349353337,0.07598031572942464,0.0,0.0,0.1227451769161246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07949689784873966,0.10704613518846366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628545979674969,0.0,0.08017935787090281,0.0,0.08552682269188275,0.0,0.08971168378324118,0.0,0.14435258338653814,0.0,0.0913718890459127,0.10424696887433056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14915701190575215,0.0,0.10816722659927996,0.07981863352974393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08524780903691337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10742801452699416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05229937395962802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04649208196186146,0.0,0.25209335687179923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278758068695801,0.0,0.06995612629944695,0.14112506724083002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4992904547277519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21133562234548248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09942560887517088,0.0,0.1799205447882286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09566560750585276,0.0,0.0,0.09518925823715164,0.0,0.1219283570289317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07872023525878505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16126345902477676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0673572190965897,0.0,0.07599769853263046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761377037404587,0.10882776228226076,0.0,0.0632224046028759,0.06097693188082293,0.09349766112079354,0.0,0.11098121084783846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.064609773633683,0.0,0.09296091721308494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.168389703685459,0.0,0.07633442405105441,0.23176702534615534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0612821775747266
divorce,turktink,2020/02/16,"When did you know it was over? Did you have peace of mind? Were you anxious? Were you still able to “enjoy” moments with your spouse even though you knew, deep down, that you and your spouse would end up getting a divorce? I feel like timing is a factor for a lot of people. Was it a factor for you?",1.3351366120218555,3.36251073770492,1.9159836065573792,99.4338661202186,80.96721311475409,4.066666666666666,16.724043715846992,3.1291,-1.112182513661203,229,4,52,0,6,70,43,61,0.031,0.81,0.158,0.8466,0,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,0,9,0,0,4,2,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,0,0,8,13,3,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,10,2,9,5,1,9,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,1,6,41,13,0,0.32030042394674685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.361848309168858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836911054142055,0.0,0.0,0.21155540919158305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16195351829839172,0.2288226868666068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16734375159969891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17602873642138653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564826081410367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723079663879714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3234121207991404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22205598438019733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25579233231279674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3146935402736004,0.0,0.18676975299112575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.227532231303655,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,mnmnm_popcorn,2020/02/16,"What should I do..? Missing my ex so much Hi everyone. Been on this thread for a while, read so many inspirational stories and relate a lot. I apologize for the wall of text in advance lol. 

I’ve been struggling lately, really wanting to get back w my ex. Some background, my STBX (40M) and I (25F) got married 6 months ago (no kids) after knowing each other for a year. It was a whirlwind and we fell in love w each other hard and fast. There were some red flags while we were dating, but bc we were long distance, it was easy to ignore/rationalize. I moved to be with him, got a job, and started our life together. He was Prince Charming and not perfect, but such a great guy before we married.

He changed very quickly. There was no infidelity or abuse, but he was veryyyyy immature. He comes from a broken dysfunctional family and has never had a model for a healthy relationship in his life. My parents are still happily married. He was a bachelor before we married. He thought a happy marriage was one with NO fighting. Like 0%, none. I tried to teach him some fighting was okay, bc it helps us get to the conclusion and compromise. But he quickly resented the fighting and saying our relationship was too stressful for him. 

Which brings me to my next point. He did. NOT. understand. compromise. This is why our fights were so stressful, unless I apologized there was no resolution. Like he didn’t think he had to, and it was on me to change myself for him. And I did, but damn there are some basic things I am allowed to expect. If I asked him to get me flowers or a trinket or a dessert, he would say I had to “earn” gifts. And that he didn’t think it was fair I needed him to “prove his love”. (He never got me a single gift the entire time we were married, and only one gift during our dating). Our financial discussions consisted of me making compromise after compromise, and feeling like I could never say what I wanted. 

We were attracted to each other, and our sex life was good, but our communication and dynamic was seriously fucked up. And I never saw him. My main love language is quality time. He worked two full time  jobs (not out of necessity, but he had financial anxiety so he always felt like he needed more). We had a once a week date night, but otherwise, we would maybe spend 30min-1hour a day. When he did have extra free time, he’s spend it with his family (and often not invite me). I was in a new city and I left all my loved ones for him. The loneliness was crushing. When I asked to spend more time together, he would be sarcastic and say I don’t want to stare into your eyes for 5 hours every night. 

Toward the end, I felt like I was drowning and suffocating at once. He kept saying, he can’t change, he won’t change, and he doesn’t owe me change. I still love him with all my heart, but I told him I wanted a separation, packed as much as I could, and I moved back to my home town. My friends and family supported me, saying they were tired of hearing me depressed on the phone bc of him. (I tried to get him to go to counseling w me since the first month. He finally said he would a week before I left, but it felt too little too late)

I’ve been gone for almost two months. He never once said come back. Never once said I’m sorry. Let’s work on this. I want to make u happy. I want to be with you. NOTHING. He would only say, I’m sorry you’re in pain. And he told me if he did reconcile, he’d want a post-nup. And that I should expect the life I left, bc he won’t change. And he never said he wanted a divorce. Only that he didn’t think we we’re good together. I have been pursuing divorce, bc it seems like the best option. 

And yet I’m sitting here, cycling thru grief, and feeling so much pain that I’m not with him anymore. I miss him so much, my heart feels perpetually broken. Sometimes the anger resurfaces and I hate him again. And sometimes, my rational side is louder and I know I did the right thing. But it hurts so much and it feels so wrong. He was my first love, and I feel I’ll never get over it properly. I’ve been going to therapy, spending time w family and friends, and trying to get a job. But I’m so scared I’m making the wrong decision. What if I could learn to handle him? What if I never love like I loved him again? Will I still be waking up from dreams of him in 10 years?",2.2034504207298444,4.137181741676237,3.680022671452861,88.31594558851313,77.73708381171069,6.890034733828424,22.85080440058713,7.852212281139753,1.0513146565129563,3351,103,706,54,79,1105,341,871,0.139,0.688,0.17300000000000001,0.9892,7,0,0,0,10,0,133.0,18,2,1,9,32,54,9,4,36,2,75,22,4,4,13,153,151,71,2,26,25,3,9,7,2,10,7,12,1,2,28,59,1,1,22,2,6,10,27,23,0,7,59,25,109,32,70,73,23,96,0,5,4,10,124,27,2,16,65,454,137,9,0.0,0.0513253550003228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03839924852713784,0.0,0.04337723392273079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03604447340476034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03313854425859132,0.0,0.042960325358995084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08099392510377712,0.0,0.0,0.09992778896492947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11058259328458696,0.0,0.045460107377082636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749514607108685,0.07463012739178357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037589245077865,0.0,0.0,0.02793685755551307,0.0,0.03731017220127095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0383673453439325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036497715934900615,0.04139269602221008,0.0,0.0,0.16334735711075593,0.0,0.10951571000343636,0.03094675469898612,0.12477769862671367,0.04745331414571605,0.0,0.07369341090560122,0.0,0.0,0.06693555214589764,0.040047267704407266,0.13579281238445348,0.0,0.04923781899379898,0.07266702777967067,0.10393731739950954,0.04775881406020627,0.0,0.04289213889079576,0.0,0.09222672624790157,0.03880487947174032,0.04276806382050823,0.0,0.0,0.048823113006804864,0.10266529413316104,0.02903548648316592,0.0,0.0434520010149908,0.0,0.04266000994625884,0.0,0.04637336463526445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12896082147380064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04761344428387721,0.0,0.09773034009655383,0.0,0.14119707499409606,0.04429611497159913,0.12238858865935474,0.14814266315013092,0.04341653070761553,0.0,0.03833552129230871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03682785109197189,0.3127731976027655,0.0,0.08674633240264336,0.04391817357823262,0.043519269213487165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037292725760334,0.092081448748315,0.15922045856829053,0.0642402577449273,0.3006891730072601,0.04183729027187762,0.046069730543787504,0.08130298088407162,0.0,0.0415652820088618,0.0,0.0,0.18453121245149773,0.08806123751616983,0.09883704456843037,0.092187905090013,0.0,0.048100082839962525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04094999703730722,0.0,0.041487161588723634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04333023610375216,0.0,0.027750948981259183,0.0,0.0,0.09301574399317128,0.0,0.036993773839632815,0.1648233047085167,0.2411403442844255,0.0433693889880718,0.0,0.0,0.039435547759714994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03583352200736866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568623500365706,0.09698305864592616,0.030661066813611193,0.0,0.10378266251082388,0.0,0.09924242170977604,0.04528591576658228,0.0,0.0,0.04915733577082068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049538495431755945,0.0,0.05755779106219312,0.08327026297534254,0.0,0.03439006099312935,0.15155624147642388,0.049788258856099055,0.0,0.08278539204442015,0.0,0.08823128149132338,0.0,0.08463178652425353,0.04509610026167425,0.05210683807115955,0.0,0.0,0.03574231031824118,0.2044030528445793,0.0,0.06949499719255504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039088220668901566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06307278749625438,0.0,0.0,0.15386114560336378,0.0947239885135122,0.0,0.05579140487993841
divorce,finding-my-way1990,2020/02/16,"Abuse? My ex husband got drunk on night and told my 24 year old son that he doesn’t think he is his biological father, this is far from the truth .. my son was devastated, why would a parent do that to his child?",3.3517424242424236,3.964056750000001,4.611818181818184,88.12106060606064,72.4090909090909,7.684848484848485,21.484848484848484,7.793537801064563,0.4427212121212128,163,3,39,2,3,54,37,44,0.21,0.746,0.044000000000000004,-0.8645,1,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,6,1,0,0,1,4,9,1,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,5,1,3,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,0,3,20,8,1,0.0,0.4108821100473888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773546933122825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32543311525638513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3638912747897894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3850623835064307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22220506385388225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3313667929242549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31291845105280275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.246345269933042,0.0,0.0,0.2233174048132069
divorce,randomwordname1,2020/02/16,Where to live for Divorced Men in GTA I am recently separated and looking to buy a house somewhere in the GTA - anywhere from Burlington to the Danforth. I don't want to end up in a family only area where divorced people are shunned. Looking for somewhere that I can build a new life and be part of the community - single or as a couple down the road. Where do other divorced folks live??,7.1618,6.610999813333336,7.455833333333333,75.00375000000003,64.2,9.633333333333333,37.41666666666667,8.841846274778883,3.271466666666666,306,14,56,4,4,100,51,75,0.023,0.977,0.0,-0.1486,0,0,0,0,3,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,8,0,6,1,0,0,0,4,9,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,14,8,2,13,0,0,2,0,4,10,0,1,3,41,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842301917748443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22751731890699226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24216135106060616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964022751861825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18144025412088272,0.0,0.0,0.4536552752034628,0.0,0.4314249955808988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24809399836406704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19536699926566028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27817342124283684,0.0,0.17808659224500886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536356518924793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15151307102016304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,zoe-c,2020/02/16,"I’ve posted in the past and really glazed over my marital issues... I was mostly curious about custody. Many of you said I was cruel to want full custody. Since my husband is so involved. My husband is mean and a narcissist (textbook). I’m having a hard time leaving. I’ve been with him since I was 18 and he controls everything. He recently thought I was talking to another man on the phone, I was using talk to text. Now my life is spiralling into a nightmare. 

He says that he’s recording me in the house now. I’m always looking around for him. He’s just so cruel, yelling constantly. He’s put me in such a bad financial spot. It’s making it very hard to leave. I’m worried about him getting shared custody. He’s completely unreasonable. He only cares about how he appears and not what is actually best for the kids. He has anger issues. Now he’s become more physical. Ugh... I’m not even sure what advice that I’m looking for. I think this is more of a vent tbh. No one close to me knows about what is going on. I feel so alone.",1.1319391025641041,3.5414331875000014,3.0505769230769246,88.62775641025644,84.91346153846153,5.966666666666668,24.051282051282055,7.333567415737692,1.2319993589743592,805,32,162,13,24,269,118,208,0.135,0.802,0.063,-0.9159999999999999,0,1,0,0,1,0,32.0,0,1,0,2,15,9,3,0,9,0,14,1,0,4,1,24,34,8,0,1,3,2,3,0,0,0,1,3,0,2,8,8,0,1,5,0,0,3,3,5,0,1,8,8,18,4,23,26,5,21,0,0,2,0,26,10,0,2,7,95,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.13519247786430233,0.0,0.0,0.1353771035778907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14348292296089069,0.0,0.0,0.1152741804581356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14526849992116353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123327620893627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156729078285616,0.0,0.15300362838761367,0.0,0.0,0.1453864109092507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412480702541786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14525378484278495,0.1497096684866462,0.15538142788419762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09150261886291297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12450844508429113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07004865115476866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07238005201677658,0.0,0.07873397355982177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482045238197779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15985351159031028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28919401875256673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761365092919928,0.0,0.0,0.2933821193550165,0.0,0.0,0.0978530335060446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326729796123229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924747627111779,0.14045513745195384,0.0,0.15090779727321016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938764996491348,0.10536390404513747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13224958473478798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13268049439842156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392683097969018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08875057945298492,0.0,0.13678892847243712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317807528862839,0.11017046814294963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291990694907728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305698210788688,0.0,0.0,0.22270216248741465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08876914557954886,0.0,0.1099831880569165,0.08078224796223893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11965179733842896,0.0,0.1143078297565438,0.0817129235569856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406914125517328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,fireinthedust,2020/02/16,"Feeling the loss of my in-laws pretty hard. Ex was friends sister, and her whole family was there for me when my own family situation was estranged. Her mother especially was kind and welcoming. The marriage was ten years, with three beautiful girls, and we moved out of the city. My ex grew cold, decided I was useless, that my depression and adhd (which are medicated) are a defect, and that I’m not earning enough money from my part time overnight weekend job while I’m staying home with our two year old and the other two girls during the week. Yes I’m aware that it’s toxic, but it’s very fresh.

The friend finally got married this weekend. My ex told them not to invite me, so I don’t get to go. The mother in law and the many siblings are politely ghosting me when we swap the girls. I get the family loyalty but these were people who took me in during a very rough few years. A lot of people in my life went to the wedding. 

I have been reconnecting with my family over the last year, but I have not had a life of my own for so long that the people at the wedding were “the village”, people from high school and university and so on, and we’re in our thirties now (I am 38, she is 33).

I’m aware that everyone was her social life, her family and friends. I don’t think I was ever one of them, fine. But I don’t have people of my own, I never have.

The kids are seeing this and think it’s ridiculous. They don’t understand not only the divorce but also the exile. I’m trying to be amicable, work as a team, but the Ex just... hates me as a concept? And everyone else is just going along with it.

I know it’s the way it is.

I just am feeling it, the morbid twilight zone where people who were family are going along with this so casually.",3.647605633802818,4.558396295774648,5.1384225352112685,83.51439436619721,71.95774647887325,8.271549295774648,25.46760563380281,8.608573733854374,1.6075216901408456,1355,40,283,23,25,457,169,355,0.049,0.845,0.106,0.9649,2,0,0,0,1,0,47.0,4,0,3,4,14,13,2,0,27,1,32,4,0,0,2,47,54,29,1,0,13,7,4,0,3,0,4,0,1,4,20,23,0,0,7,4,1,7,9,6,0,5,17,6,39,7,31,36,8,37,0,3,1,0,36,10,0,1,18,201,59,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099419063131582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315700442450034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07879210851521594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07642030449517577,0.0,0.0,0.09452391624487036,0.0,0.0,0.08274944193579632,0.0,0.1748272711862866,0.0,0.0,0.5174386204001219,0.0,0.0925106821824611,0.0,0.0,0.10021252803139102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21203305869595288,0.0,0.09558967771812957,0.0,0.15597160298337415,0.0,0.07316539438757161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08194865083343374,0.09031815525676873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09665427872073573,0.09176250274877593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907803818661993,0.0,0.0,0.09526296964177998,0.05027534647334926,0.07456890044051663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193846363934971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095745410545349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777735365027883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09274697205091746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09215708233825984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09722940251892463,0.0,0.0,0.07055547991675976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09599350317902876,0.0,0.06198962349935139,0.06957512014818774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09906457732242327,0.0,0.3805267859607959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09306866017548776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925832532112868,0.07289819581646492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10282802961386964,0.0,0.0932529533866892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09750614992541116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11723415196352738,0.0,0.0,0.0533430747346425,0.0,0.0,0.0874136355931433,0.10163831490785856,0.0621093238612293,0.0,0.17872651114240695,0.09523453299177906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15096215466319662,0.0,0.07261304385178738,0.0733802209558537,0.0,0.0,0.08480343462400018,0.0,0.10213482525072648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06659896783581104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356420336953959
divorce,yeaImready,2020/02/16,"My kid doesn’t want to go to her dad’s. I could use some ideas/advice on this.
I told my husband I wanted a divorce back in September. He moved out (right next door) in November. 
Since then, we’ve had a hard time finding a mediator, so not much has been done on making this official. 
So my daughter (6), refuses to go to his place about half the time. When I say refuse, I mean it’s a knock-down, drag-out fight. We would have to literally remove her from the car while she’s holding onto the headrest and kicking and screaming the whole time. 
Now, he is not physically abusive to her. He is an alcoholic and I’ve insisted he not drink an ounce while she’s with him. He does get emotionally manipulative and angry when he’s drunk. He’s perfectly fine and capable when he’s sober. I can tell if he’s been drinking when I meet him for dropoffs/pickups, but obviously I can’t be there during their time together. 
I believe she’s just having a hard time adjusting/ missing her main caregiver(me)/and probably some power dynamic there. 
She’s seeing a counselor, who says she seems well adjusted considering everything and we just need to continue to be patient and understanding and try different tactics. 
So I suggest we meet at a 3rd location for the transition. He shoots it down.
I suggest I stay for a little bit before leaving. He shoots it down. 
I’ve talked to her over and over explaining that she’ll never feel comfortable in a new place if she never goes. I’ve tried to help her make it feel more like her room with her stuff in it. 
Etc. He says I’m interfering. 

So my STBE has lawyers calling me insisting that she has to go over there. 
We don’t have any written agreements. I’m not preventing anything. I literally showed up yesterday. She refused. He said he didn’t want her there if she was going to act that way. I was late for work, so I took her with me and left. 
And there are other times when she’s perfectly happy to see him, and pretty much runs to him when I drop her off.

I’m really struggling with wanting to protect and support my daughter while also knowing that she needs a relationship with her dad and once paperwork is signed he will have more legal backing to come after and blame me if he doesn’t take steps to repair his relationship with her.

Anyone else have kids who refused seeing the other parent for whatever reason? I really don’t think he’s abusing her. She says she trusts that I wouldn’t leave her with him if I thought he was drunk. She even called me after an hour one time crying saying he was being weird. I dropped everything and picked her up. Sure enough, he’d been drinking. This happened one time.",3.6626871891383246,5.539146019267825,4.600446296545236,83.57724963032665,73.39306358381505,7.987829905453242,27.291347403324817,8.70740988407696,2.056379181789667,2100,79,411,41,43,681,255,519,0.092,0.7929999999999999,0.115,0.9359999999999999,4,0,4,2,2,0,62.0,4,0,1,4,25,17,1,1,19,0,37,6,0,6,6,83,75,38,0,14,12,6,4,1,0,4,1,7,2,2,18,29,6,7,13,6,0,12,13,5,1,3,15,14,73,12,50,51,11,70,0,1,3,0,98,23,0,8,32,264,91,3,0.0,0.1834211757307959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756378847612288,0.0,0.08272088951671287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06189961677812349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05263709022719195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0541223844478178,0.07930911717027271,0.06369655299758185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190371538590166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0658647474706273,0.08720733105897807,0.0,0.0,0.08450466448945419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580754234789354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06667633234613732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0618004620577276,0.0,0.08502420053405617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808702689620028,0.0,0.0,0.06773639646014543,0.07921073861446311,0.0,0.2274781283263571,0.0,0.0,0.06466076077787951,0.08706861181914075,0.0,0.0799785917692034,0.0863254549466954,0.05112433608037377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13913069746933834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07827515382873376,0.05529713464139572,0.0,0.0,0.07074547191288033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04044017702230407,0.0,0.17596095828671662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06844773217425959,0.08239755264277261,0.13867681220624134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05188198959972541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07622693677404697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042538984538375686,0.0,0.08731461226604137,0.16391843486304233,0.08409921861882744,0.0,0.0,0.037815480492351713,0.07757872408766545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10333498443103616,0.0,0.0,0.08431519273238536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08226775826638089,0.1138010782811289,0.114787550955564,0.11939682885597723,0.07475686209096964,0.08231958787123164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08243228894050056,0.10490134113651464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08594751801715855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617405379240056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07874727026120225,0.08345415329630118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991734336714452,0.07958377412448782,0.0,0.1662049597571696,0.0,0.06610223633467256,0.0736285319830745,0.3077721768767395,0.0,0.0,0.18504190078665614,0.07046531422558486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06402904312230838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08250191982808801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08091903031065316,0.08860858305713037,0.0,0.08783666788881178,0.0729519602580023,0.0,0.05819786087420253,0.06221406743499917,0.0676541426071002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04959709010050956,0.0,0.06144979826027405,0.3610772102894206,0.0,0.0,0.07396243991895878,0.08599822795182269,0.10510390291680437,0.0,0.0,0.08057985892954972,0.0,0.06685184288457506,0.0,0.0,0.18261855312779104,0.061439360767667386,0.0,0.0,0.06959511625945011,0.0,0.0,0.08641833536589287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0563507297665494,0.0,0.0,0.054985284029070366,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,VileVyx,2020/02/16,"Filed and Forgot to attach my paystub? I left my paystub in the back of my folder and didn’t attach it to my papers! It’s supposed to be attached to the financial declaration. Went on Wednesday to file Pro Se, so initial paper has already been filed and I already served him! And I didn’t notice until last night! Has anyone forgotten for piece or paperwork before? Am I going to have to re-file? And re-serve?

I plan on calling the clerk of courts on Tuesday, since they are closed tomorrow. Just looking to see if anyone has done this before?? And what happened?

I feel so dumb.",2.285058997050143,4.784724283185842,3.4329424778761077,87.22221607669618,80.50442477876106,5.5365781710914455,24.46091445427729,6.816661863887847,1.0471657817109143,456,17,85,5,12,147,74,113,0.07400000000000001,0.9259999999999999,0.0,-0.8392,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,1,1,4,1,1,0,3,0,11,0,0,0,0,12,18,11,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,7,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,6,3,12,0,16,11,1,15,0,0,2,0,3,6,1,2,7,59,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4854421372151727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3075892892981665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691285127638519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3743236938096564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22459425826975404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22508593296269586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112136834949427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12500305247041305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945016790035443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792891782118925,0.0,0.0,0.2389770808272219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847031933224353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20640883355805295,0.0,0.0,0.2504153315654373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17527223204114967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18194549324985046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038965039508849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,PetRock0299,2020/02/16,"My husband left me and my two kids a year ago tomorrow and is choosing today to introduce them to his girlfriend that he got 6 months ago. Well,  my kids will meet the girlfriend today. My husband is very excited. I say husband because he keeps stalling the divorce.  The girlfriend  is married too so I guess she doesn't mind that her boyfriend is married.  
I told my children they have to be respectful as they would be with any other adult. 
Between Valentine's Day in the year anniversary of the day he left, I wish he would have picked a different time to have the kids meet her.",4.95669642857143,6.287705562500001,4.7253571428571455,86.11964285714286,69.26785714285714,7.742857142857144,33.64285714285714,8.07648339933343,2.4516035714285715,461,22,89,6,8,141,69,112,0.016,0.889,0.095,0.8268,1,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,0,3,0,3,3,0,0,8,0,13,0,0,1,0,11,18,4,0,3,0,3,0,0,3,3,0,1,0,5,3,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,1,17,3,9,11,0,14,0,0,0,0,27,3,0,1,11,56,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3310654465208495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12698882148119986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11383426965275853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408622193340274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951023528091448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14935211718500746,0.0,0.2057138962908565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16598206992453496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4057846136174768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188553005138558,0.0,0.14905316839901833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485022285904786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10888892509175416,0.0,0.354013189812488,0.17843697359871488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182416722137854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15407910804338446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16790065249596778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147404615437365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653078423416941,0.0,0.0,0.24050739372605964
divorce,Bi_andBye,2020/02/16,"He cheated, he filed for divorce Feb 13. I know he's trying to rush me cause he knows I can't pay for a lawyer. He's been trying to rush me since I found out about the cheating. With our two kids, his anger issues and daily marijuana use, his continuing adultery, I feel like we shouldn't use a mediator. We haven't agreed on anything yet. He's been completely controlling about it and knows how to intimidate me. He wants 50/50 and knows that if I get a lawyer, he will never get that. Not even close. But now he's threatening me with ""I can pay for a lawyer, can you?"" Cause he wants his way.  

But I haven't done a single thing wrong here, and yet he claims every time I bring up using lawyers he says I'm doing this to ""punish him"" or get back at him. I'm tired of him taking advantage of me.",1.9766437177280602,3.5230893493975937,3.393321858864032,91.85301204819281,77.19277108433734,6.670567986230638,20.290877796901885,7.447530270364453,0.3366709122203102,616,14,142,8,14,202,97,166,0.16399999999999998,0.7929999999999999,0.043,-0.9679,0,0,0,0,1,0,24.0,3,1,0,2,9,7,4,0,6,0,11,1,0,7,1,32,29,9,0,4,5,0,1,1,0,2,1,1,0,1,5,10,0,1,6,0,2,3,6,5,0,1,4,2,23,2,17,23,1,16,0,0,0,0,25,5,0,2,8,81,28,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13361132306780352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248475064414608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3335840712658924,0.0,0.0,0.1702350366220573,0.0,0.182104466984344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661542279667497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10723955792271997,0.0,0.13679824818940922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820958621323669,0.1159925140937507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17802319309273912,0.0,0.0,0.2544846763019355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694653066235352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35692292525462005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07932260292357797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12522473762554184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12911796893474076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13430876183616788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12207714272094684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10786709229975128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09467546029969727,0.1866129541931769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204683121367232,0.0,0.1586055434031568,0.0,0.0,0.420689790435038,0.0,0.0,0.19153239344881373,0.12887658584789954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775189947951119,0.0,0.0
divorce,iamjoshua_j,2020/02/16,"Buy a home for her and my kids? We've been married for 18 years and been having issues for around 5. Finally moving towards divorce and she has 'no place to go.' She has been in a low paying job for 2 years and I make a decent amount. No family or friends will take her in. We have 3 kids.
She wants me to buy her a small place, which might be reasonable for the kids. I can live with family.

Need to know pros and cons and if this has been done successfully? Thanks for the help.",0.4953545454545463,2.6412453900000017,1.997454545454545,96.9337272727273,85.1,5.636363636363638,16.090909090909093,6.980632752743323,-0.3245,369,7,87,5,11,119,65,100,0.063,0.8170000000000001,0.11900000000000001,0.7757,1,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,1,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,6,0,14,0,0,2,0,17,21,8,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,2,9,0,0,2,0,3,2,2,1,0,0,5,0,11,3,14,13,1,13,0,1,0,0,13,8,0,3,3,57,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808894530307094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20794227820671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38311430358140175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22259366448443607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15699040314331228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11548220349158188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361994510336995,0.0,0.20382433364733515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120860983648788,0.2016428310895817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11167240089205184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17942770808016562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356363572471544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21556114867966936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.215967498550084,0.0,0.1506688693539749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42459768110476254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089215627729617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527797365435645,0.0,0.0,0.1870775756594585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11985154615536014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617059204932575
divorce,Alcibiadestiny,2020/02/16,"Goodbye, my lover 




                    R.S.V.P. 

 Walk with Me
 Warm fingers now entwined
 Sly smiles at our first Hello
 Two, yet one of mind

Play with Me 
Silly and carefree 
Springtime's laughter 
Breathless Jubilee

Sit with Me 
In morning's drowsy chill
Warm blankets and hot coffee Birdsong's happy trill

Lay with Me 
Summer's lightning storms
With our bodies shall we worship
At the altars of our forms

Stay with Me 
Autumn's passion to persever
Our Oaken fidelity
Shade and Shield forever

Age with Me 
As Winter's gales let fly
Worn fingers yet embracing 
Brave smiles at our last Goodbye.



You'll never know how I grieved.
You stood and watched me weep,
14 Feb 17.

The pain has faded- I've built anew.

But I wanted to die holding your hand.

Goodbye.",5.046377005347594,7.141347514705888,4.415641711229945,85.42561497326204,70.17647058823529,6.12192513368984,30.74598930481284,6.574015621080383,1.71705294117647,586,25,101,4,11,175,98,136,0.081,0.6629999999999999,0.255,0.9752,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,6,3,0,1,4,12,0,0,2,0,4,7,4,1,1,19,8,7,2,1,1,0,6,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,12,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,3,0,3,2,7,19,9,16,3,1,18,2,2,1,2,11,4,0,0,11,54,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3230336685538141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.301823572253525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473699721137687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095815815787347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598261803871527,0.23705580108523674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2973815050930129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2936436686933749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242970690705405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19706606602484525,0.0,0.3094512688597777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3099737067967607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840873073341729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17153221997996032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,cereal-breakfastsoup,2020/02/16,"25m divorcing my wife 25f We’ve been together for nearly 7 years almost made it to 2 years married. I initiated our separation (3 weeks ago) and now filing this week. Forgive me, I worked a straight 12 today and went out for drinks. I moved out and into my dad’s house and this is the first night I’ve gone out. So I went to the bars I always went to and she showed up while I was out smoking. As soon as she saw me she stopped in her tracks, walked up and asked me why I was there, I said I just wanted to have a beer after a long day (12 hours tending bar with no break) she said that’s not ok. The place where I’d spent hours and money for years and though we had agreed to be cordial and amicable to one another days prior this happens. 
I feel alienated in the places I had felt so safe and at home for years and now I don’t know how to feel because I had steeled my emotions so hard for years.
I’m not pandering for help or advice. I just needed a place to let this out because all of the friends I’ve cultivated were centered in one place and I feel more alone now than ever as contradictory as it sounds. 
Thank you everyone",3.020499630814669,3.842729573221757,4.210932808269753,89.91257445237507,73.35146443514645,7.464533595865125,24.519074575436875,7.724431198458867,0.9181039133645084,884,25,205,11,17,290,142,239,0.065,0.866,0.068,0.3891,1,1,2,0,0,0,17.0,2,1,0,2,14,5,0,0,9,1,12,4,0,2,2,40,33,23,0,2,5,2,5,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,7,20,4,2,6,5,2,6,4,0,0,3,17,9,29,5,35,14,2,52,0,0,1,0,17,20,0,2,25,128,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088000648912166,0.09869610639746472,0.0,0.11149083012496804,0.11531456144608974,0.0,0.0,0.09264371878743054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11674959650010963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10408777979002952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13574354324674348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14361005339784713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10907071767615302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12524240525518315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007133168517189,0.0,0.10639004895626447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16889040147315665,0.0,0.1069037675827563,0.0,0.0,0.09470566485684076,0.0,0.0,0.08602093308799671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09845750876990908,0.0,0.09973868395828073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0746287902280022,0.0,0.1116830010964262,0.0,0.2192947540417242,0.12847129961018766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06118949905582401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138525946189172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09853231074545693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10535250857521143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11833669682980368,0.0,0.08255712750358979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10448495686177793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15089359993153545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4653060057727136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118194892120983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09308514461773247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10250682395774496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10939088967468093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10553720968170804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06567115967535737,0.0,0.17862030899278036,0.0,0.0,0.30963961743793844,0.10046694490125332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08105677564387223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3584962364695046
divorce,The_Prime_Object,2020/02/16,"Advice for getting my ducks in a row? First time here. Devastating reading through this sub tonight, I see so much of my own story in a lot of these posts but can't imagine what some of you are going through emotionally or mentally in others. God have mercy on you. Anyway, am preparing myself to end a marriage of 20 years after enabling my STBX's addiction for too long and leaving unknown traumatic imprints upon our children. 

Long story short: STBX addicted to prescription drugs for many years (also medicated for severe depression), almost killed herself and my kids several times through negligence, has been through rehab, relapsed, and her actions indicate that she no sincere intention of ever making a real effort to get better. CPS has been involved 3 times over her incidents. Meetings, therapists, and psychiatrists for years for all involved but STBX continues to see everything as punishment for her rather than opportunities to heal. Everything is everyone else's fault. Manipulation and gas-lighting. Life is miserable for all. One by one, I first gave up on having a wife, then on a friend, then on having a mother for our children, and finally on having at least a contributing roommate.

I am no doubt many years late in making this decision but at least I recognize that there is still opportunity to salvage some semblance of a healthy life for one of my children (the other is already 18+ with emotional issues of her own now and isn't going to react well to this) as well as myself. So many years of tears and sadness, so many years isolating myself and making excuses and covering for her and hiding my shame, so many years playing magician and trying to get my children to look the other way, so many years thinking I was protecting her, saving her dignity, so many years wasted. I don't hate her, I just can't live like this anymore, with no hope. 

Money IS an issue. I would have left her a few years ago with the kids if not for the hardship that I envisioned them enduring (or at least that is what I tell myself). Removing her from the home we rent is likely what will happen. I asked her to leave last year and she slept on a friend's couch but I relented and allowed her back after a week. She manages to maintain a full-time job, though barely. I have always worked at least 2 jobs over the years but try to limit it to what is only necessary to pay the bills so I can be there to maintain our home and take care of the kids. Currently I pay essentially every bill except that we recently switched over to my wife's insurance so those deductions come from her paycheck, the remainder she spends on cigarettes and junk food. Last year I opened a separate bank account under just my name so as to make sure the rent gets paid on time. The other bills still come from out of our joint accounts, often overdrawn by her.

Anyway, I was hoping for any advice from those of you who have already been through it on preparing for this as I move forward. I am sure there are a million things that haven't even crossed my mind. With the wisdom of hindsight, do you now have a checklist of things to take care of? In order? How do you approach a landlord about this? Should I be informing the CPS officer that interviewed us after the last incident (we are NOT under review at this time) of what I am planning? The police officer who has responded to our home before? How should I organize things? What is something you wish you would have considered before going through your own divorce? Etc...

I have never had much luck on Reddit getting replies to my posts but thanks in advance to anyone kind of enough to just have read this far.",6.55777321337634,7.3376968350365,6.626002376506537,75.9309234425395,65.32116788321169,9.81734849770837,33.30249533186216,9.820803871038708,3.2689874384654556,2912,119,511,59,43,929,321,685,0.09699999999999999,0.7909999999999999,0.11199999999999999,0.9232,8,0,3,0,1,0,73.0,9,8,1,11,35,31,3,3,33,0,51,10,1,10,6,82,83,45,1,9,16,3,0,2,2,5,8,0,7,7,35,27,1,2,4,3,13,12,11,9,2,6,9,3,75,22,110,67,17,95,0,3,3,0,64,34,0,12,49,394,110,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245754522070702,0.0,0.11166716277280464,0.05064847244873965,0.0,0.057214417508334565,0.0,0.1261041244105469,0.04569241064948477,0.04754253242430335,0.0,0.0,0.0388550958348558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05666451659324012,0.03995149476261343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053415349798249113,0.0,0.0,0.04393479959793844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09723869857029993,0.0,0.0,0.050533002778760064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650988856725593,0.0,0.0,0.09843687301269234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049211984642311336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06626074016813457,0.0,0.04773060300132823,0.1285427914741726,0.050606392263382365,0.05903775901206361,0.06372281998233688,0.03773842682645321,0.05168365642757011,0.048140357712060815,0.05459681906478776,0.10270204071707599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06259075284799152,0.0,0.09720134729376692,0.06909024545444732,0.0,0.08828775558737129,0.0,0.14925853110402668,0.0,0.09741676260855747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05052602987418742,0.0,0.0,0.05641092430671084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17193910511256622,0.11349979779604208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11927229461806288,0.11339924371638868,0.0,0.0632135867553338,0.059499357071868535,0.0,0.13972275850051946,0.06445298576986518,0.1209995930286599,0.062079480172005534,0.0,0.08071505691540545,0.05582847046558068,0.0,0.050452987314526486,0.10112883290460026,0.0479806606887806,0.0,0.0,0.048575804811903614,0.0,0.0,0.15255747252864196,0.4054954049511749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057559481605126014,0.057580622443800814,0.0,0.0576920472145129,0.0,0.0,0.060727551955515935,0.08400448777920752,0.0,0.04406755015857911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161524595718981,0.043455236936048865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944283762312994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11430485510398893,0.0650343755872635,0.0,0.0,0.056415860354334685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106152787570808,0.0,0.0,0.12909701519830544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04398682748428962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09125930887460706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10770182754900684,0.0,0.08591977451225373,0.0,0.049940226241189656,0.052604041218438764,0.0,0.06634042075081757,0.11387778302862635,0.036611060388549936,0.05613677848160297,0.0,0.16658512026670427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07758449798085798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06872873438064585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04535266368935357,0.045831827257567424,0.0,0.10274598767626912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0657046905041032,0.0,0.0,0.04159639136572657,0.0,0.0,0.08117692187143792,0.0,0.0,0.4783263219621736
divorce,dontseeme678,2020/02/16,"I don’t want this divorce I’m sorry that I’m a drunk. 
I’m sorry that when I’m drunk alcohol makes me act insane. 
I’m sorry when you’ve refused to buy me liquor I would walk down the street to go get it. 
I’m sorry that when I’m drunk I’ve shouted and cursed at you 
I’m sorry that I’ve broken things out of anger 
I’m sorry that I crashed my car 6 months ago because I couldn’t take the pain anymore 
I’m sorry I messed up my legs and got a brain injury so I quit my job because I couldn’t do it anymore 
I’m sorry that the night before rehab I tried to hang myself in are tree
I’m sorry I came to rehab Christmas Day 
I’m sad you told me you wanted a divorce 4 days later while I was in detox 
I’m sorry I left treatment 
I’m sorry I went back to treatment after having a bad week bender and are friends had to take care of me while your were out of town for the week 
I’m sorry I’m in sober living 
I’m sorry you still don’t want me back 

I’m sorry I’m just an empty shell.",-2.410491642084562,-0.6888377079646002,0.7990412979351049,100.51526794493613,103.07079646017701,2.688102261553589,12.4724680432645,4.0812243791298135,-1.627523697148476,762,14,186,1,36,267,104,226,0.254,0.705,0.042,-0.985,1,0,1,0,2,1,4.0,0,5,0,1,8,7,1,0,9,0,12,11,2,1,0,15,45,9,0,6,1,0,0,0,1,1,5,1,0,0,10,6,5,1,0,4,1,7,4,5,0,0,7,1,26,2,19,35,0,35,0,1,0,0,10,11,0,0,17,89,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05271323472905592,0.06355132687495864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11794906418988275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914517375158386,0.04965182739459943,0.07250013723239591,0.0,0.050601391262804864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06638399171110898,0.0,0.06801353780724494,0.0606297959974777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07670161195343192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04594347034541641,0.0,0.03106865658530414,0.0,0.033796035205384184,0.0,0.04756058533555815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05901106847959998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06461024492844565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05250978034499233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03969417768330897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04746538628840046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05580503889920081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06327627319002638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06324966723204976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9319462364145096,0.0,0.0,0.04748981694154021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08942242525311718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039506728218953145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056822541720970864,0.0,0.0403736742262076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10522418911711036,0.0,0.09540046329076657,0.0,0.0,0.05512580124721246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04224311149287013,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,insertxthanks,2020/02/16,"Another relapse for him, the end of the cycle for me. Hi. Joined this sub a while ago. Was hoping I wouldn't need to participate, but here I am.

My husband Jesse(34M) relapsed again with his friend (Jay) and Jay's G/F (Courtney). I (34F) was almost out the door a few months ago. I thought this scared him enough for him to stop using. He agreed to cut all contact with Jay and Courtney because his previous relapses included them. 

The past few months were amazing. He  became the man I married again. The man before all the relapses and lies and crazy behavior. He cut all negative influences out of his life. We were so close again. I am in recovery too. I had a bad weekend last weekend. I was struggling and feeling insecure over something that happened at work. I did take it out on him and caused a big fight. I am not proud of that behavior. I also told him I didn't have much of a sex drive this week due to exhaustion from my job. He got super upset about that, feeling like I don't want him. We have sex like 5-7 days a week so... jesus... didn't think he would take it personally, but I guess after how I treated him the weekebd before?

Anyways, came home from work early Friday evening and found him at Jay and Courtney's apartment (they live right down the street). He didn't answer my calls at first then he loed and said he was at the store when he did answer. I saw him coming out of their apartment. He has been high since and lying about it.  

He swore to cut ties with them if I staid. He swore not to use again if I staid. I gave him the ultimatum, ""them or me"". I feel like he chose them. I can't go through him using again. I can't deal with the lies and fights. I feel like the fights I caused last weekend plus denying him sex for a few days pushed him into using. But even if it is my fault.... I can't do this again. 

I printed out some divorce documents tonight. I feel that since we don't have kids or own a house, and I am really good with paperwork..  I can do this divorce per se/DIY.",1.6095322076297691,3.5848189951219567,2.785121951219512,93.81912132582865,79.78048780487805,5.961225766103816,22.464040025015635,7.010146845296331,0.5307435897435897,1548,49,345,18,39,496,199,410,0.166,0.742,0.092,-0.9865,1,0,1,0,5,0,69.0,3,0,6,5,19,24,6,4,21,0,32,5,0,8,3,70,59,28,0,8,10,1,5,4,1,2,2,1,2,4,13,30,0,1,10,3,1,5,12,13,0,1,21,7,60,11,41,36,10,56,1,0,1,3,56,21,0,9,34,219,73,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18790953308184907,0.0,0.10613483447523653,0.0,0.0,0.0847610908623015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11114097083769774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0884981897841772,0.0646112262211455,0.0,0.18038133790041297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10822882297172937,0.12122564853299965,0.0,0.2177642320136499,0.0,0.0913019976297063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13671105712708273,0.1092722299749806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09387670625993096,0.10951719956987233,0.0,0.14001232063571967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26796157114024144,0.2271603136364208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09015602495901588,0.0,0.11621383412386517,0.08188850584811756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060237217731972915,0.08890035472226378,0.08477081163241518,0.0,0.11676121022804585,0.0,0.09372763109240004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11198547788179823,0.10631777359429943,0.10527313548460863,0.0,0.12229956583570364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10517986973914976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727938806533142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07486468951753221,0.2071277041667645,0.0,0.09359213447604227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692022624080515,0.0,0.07791569672385837,0.07859110074364968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10118055358376676,0.0,0.0925473910087902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06790064995622602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09051586991641407,0.1008218631117742,0.0,0.10611563959427696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17535396257361865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08159717178726474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08861335416583276,0.0,0.11080497162422866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593843203014222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0679148543937478,0.0,0.0841451402272653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10127909374366292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3661693189063101,0.0,0.0,0.06251633120076636,0.0,0.1700394275261458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15432565093319106,0.0,0.0,0.07529307770003253,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,castlesfromashes,2020/02/16,"It’s been a year and 3 days. A year ago I was getting dressed for court
(2/13/19). We took separate vehicles. Arrived and met outside the courthouse. Greeted one another and headed in to end our marriage. For me, I was so excited. I had recently moved out and was just beginning to see the other side of what life was about to be. We left that courthouse and high fived. Strange, I know. We even went out and celebrated the start of something over and new. 

We seemed like we could be better as friends than a married couple. It worked for awhile. Then the reality of it set in. I was no princess. I had anger issues, which I spent our entire relationship working on. You drank. I went to therapy. You said you went to see your therapist. We went to marriage counseling. I thought if we had removed the woes of married life, we could stay the way we were.  I was wrong. We talked about reconciliation. I realized it wouldn’t work. There were so many lies. You had betrayed my trust, I just hadn’t learned how bad yet. 

Eventually, we cut ties. With no kids and all assets handled, we didn’t need to be in contact. I’d spent many weekends completely in bed. Figuring out the pain and anger I had towards you, but also I felt towards myself. I was angry I let it get so bad. I was angry I didn’t see your ways sooner and that they wouldn’t change. I went to therapy religiously starting from the time we separated. 

Eventually, I kept pulling myself out of bed. Making plans. Following through. The gym was my life saver. I started lifting every day. I actually made friends. On my own. For the first time in years. These people would become my best supporters. My greatest cheerleaders. The ones I could go to on bad days. 

From there, things only got better. I took an international trip. Solo. It was exhausting but amazing. After that a girls weekend across the country. After that another solo trip. I rang in the new year with friends. I spent weekends getting out and doing whatever I felt. And finally, I found what I was waiting for. I found happiness. I was waiting because I didn’t want to force myself into making myself happy. I didn’t want to say this is what happiness is. I wanted to genuinely BE happy. Not a false feeling. And one day it did. It happened and I had no idea what that feeling was. 

It’s been one year. It’s been the hardest year and the best year. I didn’t want the divorce, at first. I didn’t want to leave, at first. But when I realized I was getting a second chance at life... I took it and ran. I’ve done the work on me. I’ve taken long hard looks at my part of the failure in the marriage. I’ve also learned to love me. Not the person I used to be, but the person I am now. The one who has gone through tremendous pain and still got up every day. 

I know some are pondering it. Some are just starting. Others are just on the other side.  I’m here to say that it can be some of the worst times in your life but it can also be something amazing. It all takes time. Every month that passed I got more excited to say # months divorced. I got excited for the future again. 

Many of us know the best and worst case scenarios of how divorce can go. I got lucky. No one cheated, we didn’t have kids and we split our assists amicably. I am not blind to that. Just keep getting back up. There’s a light, somewhere along the way. You’ll see it. 

Chin up. Even if it’s not your best face. You got up.",0.6571277414390124,3.1574490073746335,2.2690861869950005,91.92037803001156,90.63716814159292,5.248711042708735,22.266320379633193,6.848589402195344,0.7593446966782098,2649,101,548,39,92,861,277,678,0.11,0.726,0.16399999999999998,0.9938,0,0,2,0,3,0,110.0,19,11,1,14,27,37,4,0,35,0,63,13,2,6,2,105,134,37,0,14,16,0,5,1,3,4,9,5,2,5,37,43,1,4,18,4,3,19,18,14,0,11,65,17,91,23,77,54,15,105,0,1,6,1,55,35,0,7,47,388,128,6,0.0,0.0,0.052625811292281915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04780379326939823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293782683108012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11309612464145323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04146719487814588,0.1350825293355196,0.03287392236574407,0.05955908347684116,0.0,0.0,0.2263758441546445,0.09538961794208599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05704852434656539,0.0,0.056542334243616585,0.0,0.0,0.1291710220193476,0.059670150367472787,0.0,0.17389503888813682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05518692320984148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04776407652406906,0.0,0.0,0.07123768465672546,0.0,0.13630964153823175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05453509182145301,0.0,0.10355840350308193,0.059075333668742076,0.0,0.13761302819865726,0.0,0.11825822799701295,0.12499359049542902,0.0,0.14087540294156473,0.0,0.061296890186591825,0.0,0.2587862119452954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0476882277007191,0.2296288351764101,0.04830876924062704,0.0,0.055345541622097316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056977743981775124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0608779887998773,0.0,0.05628667400047639,0.0,0.04793355900160106,0.0,0.0,0.08891202307443168,0.0,0.0,0.05710181621644656,0.058592776700575624,0.05514488965176774,0.19045420858530604,0.02634642795381813,0.0,0.0,0.04772445829081788,0.04528581956379785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04867199831998152,0.05102784419944738,0.07199452940897702,0.1640231544390486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08608940526019823,0.05731677973854399,0.0,0.03998682420361757,0.0,0.1041677247248836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21925747793190645,0.041014566926298096,0.11476608855372215,0.0,0.0,0.058398616171441785,0.0,0.03738678734772955,0.09417545293945948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0532472549537072,0.057898338733196275,0.0,0.0,0.05129774335750688,0.1286567941810941,0.0,0.0,0.17189408655005614,0.049093897533921634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08303260122065104,0.0,0.0,0.15268166493843896,0.057479922468313564,0.04306685793698043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06119669543017125,0.0,0.0,0.04054703863669333,0.04334517039183741,0.0,0.0,0.12334241347577762,0.06261440090195447,0.035827273325879636,0.0,0.0,0.04281269632335923,0.1257830732651924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1797475071628651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06486857453252835,0.046576355482106216,0.0,0.0,0.15904024259274466,0.1284162732498965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499583283189341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15704049480368135,0.0,0.0,0.03830880383723079,0.05896164818632591,0.0,0.2430944121528184
divorce,Daemo87,2020/02/16,"It sucks but know this -- you are not alone and I will listen, I will care. I've often said this before, as a member of this sub, that you are not alone in your strife.  It's all falling apart around your ears, everything you thought life was going to be is now NOT and exploding in your face.  There is pain, heartache, ginger-bitter rage and perhaps venom eating at your heart.  Maybe it's new, maybe it happened a year or five or a decade ago, but the rage...the anger...the ""I should be over this but I'm not""...it's still there.    


OK.  I don't have the solution.  I'm not selling snake oil or quick-fast lotions to heal the burns but I'm here to talk.  I'm like you, honestly.  The shit still stings and I want relief.  But the best relief, I've found, is helping others and being listened to.  Being heard.  

In this sub, I feel, we are a group.  A sub-society.  A band of folks bound together by the horrible.  So let's draw together, be pals, talk, grow, and expand beyond this horrible day, month, or year.  Share with me and I'll share with you.  Let's heal and heal together.  Let's talk.  I'm here and i will respond.  If you feel nobody will listen, nobody will care, then you are wrong.  Because I am here.  And, however much time it takes out of my day, I will listen.  I will respond.  I will care.  

​

My name is Josh.  What's yours?",0.04894957983193393,2.354982088235296,1.5401218487394992,97.86244117647058,90.25,4.726218487394958,16.59495798319328,6.3317336037704965,-0.4137421428571431,1016,24,230,11,35,325,139,272,0.114,0.7020000000000001,0.184,0.9646,1,2,0,0,0,0,70.0,1,12,0,1,12,16,3,0,12,1,29,10,4,0,1,40,53,23,0,3,14,0,2,1,1,9,5,7,0,0,14,15,1,1,5,1,1,3,5,5,0,1,5,10,27,11,19,31,3,24,0,0,0,0,31,9,2,6,13,140,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11164374993272128,0.0,0.0,0.2608846596205618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364627073845998,0.15303847715619628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121188631187049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07677566395674075,0.0,0.10717098090128062,0.0,0.13217281729705696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38523178197693975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16244982172656258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12887445449918802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11319236688729313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12736441477688906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13809356047940516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07157815532628634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11137385140442384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14924691061169373,0.08441911538478501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06921676427219609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38636571593727215,0.08895955982867093,0.06153097511572341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25305986943424624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005290937746462,0.0,0.0925849840421156,0.0,0.0,0.12163967140333852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340156880338044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11980372350879147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12928201395657418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011616731253094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09469590449771358,0.3036924708095497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999872527967449,0.0734402702012034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07428636038651007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13770245111383658,0.15303847715619628,0.16221050915642285
divorce,BrownAndyeh,2020/02/16,"Father of seven year old needs your advice. My wife has changed, changed for the worse.  She is 100% entrenched in a holistic/ metaphysical belief and until recently it was no big deal, I could support her interest in stones, mediums, psychics etc but I have hit a wall, she has cancer and is refusing to get medical treatment.  

She believes a “Dr Morse Nd” that grape juice can heal her cancer which is diagnosed via biopsy and blood test.   

My question, what is the first steps I need to go through to have an amicable separation?  If possible I would like to find her a place to live, set her up and then leave her.  I assume this will take two years and i am prepared to spend $1500 a month to get this done. 

What do you think? Any input would be helpful.",3.218946259220232,5.32575387671233,3.9036986301369865,87.0782349841939,75.30136986301369,6.9580611169652276,26.299262381454163,7.882392219407189,1.5294969441517383,590,22,117,9,13,187,107,146,0.134,0.782,0.084,-0.8723,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,2,0,1,0,3,0,0,8,0,18,7,1,0,0,18,27,9,0,6,2,2,0,1,0,3,6,0,0,0,7,5,0,1,5,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,2,0,18,3,14,19,1,17,1,0,0,0,16,6,0,3,9,78,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164645492916986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11457829226094675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18982939638655968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35647802528388217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13452474999945707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17370475237549535,0.0,0.17101278016565824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17242273689522647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18790976407985452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15399588620848864,0.14331665048155898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760570883362512,0.0,0.09575617695655073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11293461970976933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784055145870529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823152107599309,0.0,0.14877886675486846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16973493345046575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13448630589717853,0.0,0.0,0.2498649052319882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17680085415426766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17603513553572134,0.0,0.0,0.18994602248941708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18874623150329167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663625528889577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911993113820131,0.0,0.0,0.12668275323398373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10796094275539997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16458926272883992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17170467721616886,0.23937949139443104,0.0,0.0,0.21700277337673174
divorce,emilioooooooo,2020/02/16,"Just found out the human garbage I married changed the locks on our house He lied to get me to move out, saying he liked our house and would stay in it for at least a year to provide stability for our daughter. Less than 2 months later, he told me he instead wanted to sell immediately so he'd have money to buy a house with his new girlfriend/future ex-wife, who he'd also known for less than 2 months at the time. Now he's changed the locks on ""his"" house because he's pissed I won't sell and want to keep it instead. My attorney says I can call a locksmith but I'm too tired. 

If someone told me I was a shitty partner and left me, I'd be doing everything in my power to prove them wrong. You went the other way I guess. Seriously, fuck you dude.",3.969999999999999,4.223654821656051,4.963573248407645,87.43962738853506,70.8471337579618,7.553885350318471,27.16496815286624,7.1686216300943375,1.124817070063694,585,18,131,5,10,192,99,157,0.163,0.825,0.012,-0.9729,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,2,1,1,7,5,2,0,9,0,9,3,1,0,1,17,20,7,0,4,3,1,0,1,1,2,1,2,0,2,4,6,0,1,3,0,4,2,1,4,0,0,5,2,21,1,21,10,3,20,0,0,0,1,25,9,2,2,8,77,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091325823568158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08318899503321656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13934802886776795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2887279075322076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12264770842087022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14962898299796226,0.0,0.12616150985465854,0.07129835658321179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503337470254415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6298582193780576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12129810849294223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14827175643043256,0.0,0.0,0.06667086573389998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21785325848630605,0.1450427865571125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13180064487512633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21704801540553567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562801632808074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14545562684995958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07957498454781642,0.15684870080734012,0.0,0.2608000658453028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16098350302020534,0.10832112455496276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12650624346976538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09694221628583954,0.14920520294328166,0.0,0.08788025101386591
divorce,ktbug3445,2020/02/16,"Still letting him control my feelings My STBXH and I were together for 10 years, married for 5. We've only been separated since around Thanksgiving. Over the course of our marriage, he became increasingly financially/emotionally abusive. I was finally able to gather the courage to leave. We are on speaking terms because we do have some things left to be figured out. But he's still using his manipulative tactics and I'm letting myself fall for them and be hurt! Logically, I know that he can't control me or my feelings anymore, but I don't know why I can't help but feel this way. I guess it will just take time.",3.774848484848484,6.243523470085473,4.79578865578866,79.62370629370633,74.98290598290599,7.331468531468532,31.14918414918415,8.296473431620573,2.5649384615384627,494,24,89,9,11,161,86,117,0.08199999999999999,0.899,0.019,-0.7166,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,0,1,2,4,2,0,0,2,0,14,0,0,4,0,25,23,7,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,7,0,2,7,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,3,4,17,1,11,15,3,14,0,1,0,0,13,5,0,3,6,59,21,0,0.17509906302774494,0.20746375727720384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736512200017361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15587528925182625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10673876361096847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3927769763223036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19696287821664504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656060422150105,0.0,0.0,0.19181246477231031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19289135876797825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11736521101765747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18744716845616105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924597316078933,0.0,0.0,0.18540462543756156,0.1902456443125888,0.3581013105406932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13317072769856833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14484375436034136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796686758372753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13165270404959953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11632803703222068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10210167176084266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15122937087803898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389854860409099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579996694655064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11275805574158185
divorce,green_not_purple,2020/02/16,"Need creative solutions Us: In our 50s, two kids (only one still a minor), homeowners, in California. Living separately since 2018. STBX has made most of the money, bigger retirement. He's been in the house, I moved out. 

Tried working with a mediator but realized that without a plan it was an expensive waste of time. I'm willing to be creative and somewhat generous. I have no intention of wringing him dry. 

However, he will not propose a sensible plan. He keeps reiterating that he wants the house and he wants me to simply walk away from it! 

He will agree to my share of  his retirement savings. 

But he keeps bringing up college expenses and how he feels it's OUR duty to put ALL that he can towards that  end. He even said ""Why should I give you spousal support if you're just going to turn around put that money towards college?"" 

The mediator explained more than once that college expenses are not part of settlements. Apples and oranges.

But he will not come up with any solution regarding the house! I don't want it but I do want my share of the value. 

I just don't know how to articulate this all without a mediator. 

Help!!",3.3195838896306182,5.8317850794392525,4.705781041388518,79.47484423676012,76.71028037383178,8.188340008900758,29.81664441477525,8.976282227363876,2.8881934134401432,893,42,162,22,21,296,129,214,0.052000000000000005,0.8109999999999999,0.13699999999999998,0.9644,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,3,1,0,3,7,4,0,0,12,0,15,0,0,4,2,43,34,11,0,7,12,0,1,0,0,5,0,1,0,1,11,9,0,3,4,0,5,7,8,0,0,2,4,2,15,4,28,24,6,21,0,0,0,0,24,11,0,3,3,108,26,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954468100021077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12494648853390075,0.0,0.0,0.13186896755037658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12090416087991768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124313648016334,0.0,0.0,0.09270373364647994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07096814910484338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13464214747884615,0.07976747993140827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09407758640309806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4858555157789782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24950950653855866,0.0,0.0,0.07713591988828186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12393681165311768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328081253627057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14917608588656736,0.0,0.10407210504393656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494744292775952,0.09510877532560502,0.10674696984560972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519917382202356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821928477511649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335105810862662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161038326232296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11208838542182184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15927418698518173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08184264113440137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09529242791424122,0.1526668909854107,0.13710729823314932,0.0,0.1688308395891305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3311421331995225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12664934887362664,0.0,0.0,0.2705961154311264,0.0,0.10218075076516027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,whatadayholytoledo,2020/02/17,"What are your experiences with divorce support groups? I’ve been considering going to one here in my city. I’m torn, though. Sometimes I wonder if I’m going for the right reasons. Am I hoping to magically hit it off with someone who knows my pain? Or am I going with a true open mind? I am not sure.

Would love to hear some feedback from those of you who’ve gone, and whether or not you found it valuable.",1.9606097560975613,4.114981097560978,3.229451219512196,90.16539634146343,79.48780487804878,5.5634146341463415,23.664634146341466,6.6274283507984215,0.6147756097560979,318,11,67,3,8,103,60,82,0.121,0.742,0.136,0.3204,0,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,0,3,0,0,2,7,0,0,2,0,6,2,0,1,2,21,20,6,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,5,5,0,0,4,0,0,4,2,1,0,1,3,1,9,6,11,15,1,8,0,0,0,1,8,4,0,6,0,44,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223459737788016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24922603381326125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3875446406996012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561870282467378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257631909463628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249197976579044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051498539173292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295112577166344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15402641190217492,0.0,0.2418664438911444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23370536622741375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941155407744384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925931148481777,0.0,0.22480850313845124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25794077829282125,0.21423041036524715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223324067276845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24650043373627745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614695468077609,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ThrowRA-5069,2020/02/17,"Need to know where to start. Or to start. *I'm going to be somewhat vague, I'm going to slightly change things that doesn't matter. My SO is on Reddit. There's one detail though that's a dead giveaway, but it's an important detail. Plus I'm using an already used throwaway so, eh. I guess I'm identifiable anyway.*

I'm an older guy. My wife is somewhat younger, less than 20, more than 10. Been married 10 years together 11. We have a house and a couple kids. 

Months ago my wife didn't come home and I traced her phone the next morning to a hotel where she was passed out drunk with a guy from a Facebook group. She swore nothing happened, gave some if the craziest excuses why nothing did, also said she was not sorry and wouldn't stop talking to the guy. Later she said she did break contact with him. Since then we had 2 huge arguments between trying make up. I possibly blamed myself too much at the time. I still question that. We tried counseling together, and oddly enough the counselor in my last solo session said we need to separate. Those 2 arguments was pretty much she can fuck or talk to whoever she wants.  Second argument she said she was cheating but not with the guy from Facebook. She quickly took that back saying she never cheated and only said that to make me angry, which has always been how she argues. Guess I should mention how she disappeared the day before, and the night after a counseling session. The counselor blamed a lot of this behavior on her being bipolar. Obviously I love my wife very much. I was willing to look past these things if she wanted to work on our marriage. 

After that second blowout things changed. I really started working on myself, for myself and not for her. I realized I can't change her, or make her want to be me. She stayed at home much more. We started talking, spending more time together, taking trips with the kids and alone. It felt like we... It felt good. I thought we were mending. 

Last week I presumptuously went into her car to borrow her charger, and found her spare phone. Powered on and fully charged. This was a gut punch to say the least. I asked about it and she said it was from when we first had problems and I ""was going through all her stuff"". Since then she doesn't want to talk about it. There's no reason to really, there's only one reason for a secret phone IMO. But I did want to hear something, something to change my mind again. Yeah, Reddit loves calling me a cuck.

This morning I decided to throw everything away and just move out the house without the kids. This is probably the wrong thing to do as I know they'll be serious problems with her and the kids alone, and she never wanted the house in the first place. But the idea of just getting out even if it caused everyone hardship, and if I give up possession of the house and kids, just feels right at this point.

So Reddit, sorry for the long post, but where do I really start? Should I? Am I overreacting since things have felt good for months? *I have no doubt she hasn't cheated on months because we have spent almost every moment not working together.* Should I stay in the house and try to get her to move?",3.062578746374939,5.324098163666125,3.5964182961495403,88.37029689608639,76.36497545008183,6.317179200045941,24.139920176874266,7.342069886334093,1.0654172394980903,2482,82,481,31,57,777,279,611,0.125,0.7979999999999999,0.078,-0.9838,1,2,2,0,0,0,80.0,10,0,1,6,26,15,5,1,35,1,43,6,1,10,4,110,101,42,1,18,20,3,4,1,0,6,1,9,2,9,27,38,1,1,15,2,3,13,15,10,0,6,32,14,77,5,69,59,15,80,0,0,1,3,84,26,1,16,38,335,104,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05002192973409025,0.0,0.056506651316589364,0.11688924924239785,0.0622720819154766,0.04512717648499585,0.046954411482322767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05275457965754223,0.0,0.053017990444337484,0.04339130781473551,0.0,0.03439930018515637,0.0,0.048017907669779716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05762149997506519,0.0,0.0,0.0579693160518907,0.2387824966287119,0.0486095839323481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062438895844172775,0.0,0.036392783172450406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058307437325942235,0.0,0.03727158675710315,0.0,0.047544841422095016,0.05392143365681332,0.050715786833419985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028532783117874338,0.0,0.16254540160273787,0.0,0.0,0.09599892611388527,0.0,0.06187275492980007,0.0,0.05216877121270783,0.05896485634511915,0.054132948949581434,0.09621167665144602,0.09466187743260007,0.0,0.0,0.1243283607362402,0.22349891105018949,0.04990100182521971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06360088860853487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132080978116734,0.0,0.0,0.3255641259072577,0.0,0.06370277900205072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06202507746168263,0.0919962198272927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02756892450821093,0.0,0.0,0.049938913545361514,0.047387119917555065,0.0,0.0,0.047974901859816906,0.10186084046758836,0.0,0.11300270475523533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05697837254422456,0.0,0.1351260397843361,0.11995265365274504,0.16593063450403533,0.08368449337610301,0.08704483239122032,0.0,0.060014112580905235,0.05295588003604936,0.0,0.108292515909811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07647707015616456,0.08583535508571376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05386897044354818,0.0,0.0,0.05895750393606905,0.0,0.05334473858163459,0.06361652368136475,0.05404449205278928,0.0574097570834213,0.0608412539565039,0.10799207914484324,0.0,0.0,0.06321469093603423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10845181142129544,0.11603920047295264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04819104609031967,0.32206801237958393,0.08975105221004588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14003882800290646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08688538418889424,0.0,0.12633788240817095,0.19970777926015634,0.12029407903374655,0.0450651965933163,0.0471781383614486,0.0,0.0,0.06459902942594202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04242845554493898,0.18142569192647287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18744844564651397,0.0,0.055442343133782115,0.044799241665722696,0.06580975715830034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06269598120598341,0.11493711810502152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974750755893416,0.0,0.04656078969903669,0.19970381333632825,0.0,0.0452648684515272,0.0,0.0,0.052311321259204235,0.050919439903845135,0.0,0.0,0.05439665801858072,0.0,0.12324548000103824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061697518562205775,0.0,0.03633917123011048
divorce,FunFeeling8,2020/02/17,"When will I stop missing him? I left my stbx years ago. He was financially abusive and controlling and began using our child against me. When I told him I was leaving, he threatened to have me committed.  I'm also 99% sure that be was having an affair with our babysitter/ his student though he denies it. I left and moved into an alcoholic hoarder's house, and didn't want my little one being in that environment, so I left her with him, but visited frequently. He then moved her across the country. 

He's got physical custody of our kid, because I moved into active duty military, and you can't do so as a single parent.  I've made multiple attempts to get back with him; a part of me does love him and does want to honor the commitment I made. However, he has every excuse on why he couldn't do the one thing I asked him to do - attend marriage counseling with me. It never was a priority even when we were together. 

I think often about the good times we had together, and how badly I want *that* man back. But when I remember the things he did, everything from asking me why I was putting on makeup to setting impossible standards for me to meet and guilting me when I failed, to transferring all the money out of our bank account as soon as I moved out....

My lawyer says it's highly unlikely I'll get custody. I was an idiot and trusted him when he said we were just going to have a mediator, but then turned it into his own personal lawyer. He's had my daughter and stalled on putting in the paperwork for over a year, and is now stabilized according to the court's eyes.  I'm so saddened by this, and I wish I could see her every day. The most I can do is send child support, call her every day, and see her as often as my finances permit. I miss her so much. She's such a sweet 5 yrs old girl.  It breaks my heart that I can't always be there for her. 

My STBX has a girlfriend now,  dating 6 months and I have an amazing boyfriend for over a year that is certainly an upgrade. But I can't stop wanting to be with my husband. I don't understand it. He was neglectful and deceitful, a terrible lay and an absolutely horrid kisser, but I miss him nonetheless. 

Turns out his current girlfriend was married (not separated) when they started dating, and he introduced her to my daughter after only a couple of months of dating. He was friends with the husband, too, before the affair. They were planning on getting married and having a child only months later, so she filed for divorce from her husband, and left. He's speeding through our divorce to marry her ASAP, which raises so many red flags. He insisted on me meeting her even though they had been together for four months, saying ""she's going to be an important figure in our daughter's life."" I declined.  I've also never asked him to meet my boyfriend.  They are already sharing bills together, and I find it so odd.

Thing is, I've always wanted him back, but refuse to go into an abusive relationship again. I don't know how to reconcile these feelings. I'm so sad; I miss our whole family while simultaneously realizing that we were never whole to begin with. I'm in therapy, and I've learned a lot, but I feel stuck.  

What's wrong with me? Why can't I let him go?",4.7449479128457215,5.665520670347007,5.8315259335338565,79.51444611547211,69.42586750788644,8.736791137847552,30.517056708972195,8.973190933345348,2.5182089795319498,2531,100,483,45,43,842,280,634,0.129,0.7759999999999999,0.095,-0.9618,3,0,1,0,3,0,83.0,11,1,4,5,37,23,1,1,31,0,51,5,2,7,8,93,96,57,0,8,9,7,2,0,3,1,2,3,0,7,20,40,1,6,11,0,5,13,12,12,0,3,26,10,94,11,67,61,9,85,0,7,4,1,99,25,0,4,45,346,114,8,0.0,0.16874446602211748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06312338890127213,0.07610185833100984,0.0,0.0,0.07858203122786811,0.11389325947325102,0.11850488745175645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19971527682448015,0.0,0.0,0.16426833666860968,0.059457394834480676,0.04340896912738265,0.0,0.060594484782525326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07271339533152525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07986809600523385,0.056855409024076285,0.07879253611145043,0.0,0.09184914766807482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12463274216173942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09406709730483433,0.0,0.17999254714623011,0.0,0.06399897710340123,0.0,0.0671304722383442,0.0,0.07201185459095885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06508467102480447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055016687194292466,0.0,0.11161289393571693,0.0,0.1618811886279214,0.05972758883020774,0.056953160623507526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438422022309895,0.0,0.07523729909486289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08216680580373979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03913516638660449,0.0,0.0,0.07540113253537832,0.3094795937747047,0.0728170732349519,0.0502977452381808,0.0,0.07137115067926343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060540215135557934,0.06426982606254862,0.13476129126586306,0.0,0.07219578655694561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22735664418486526,0.3027399401227652,0.05234756050052433,0.0,0.16476467929422373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07472294041644764,0.0,0.09650750914968163,0.10831686281110717,0.0,0.0,0.079070303502022,0.07711351563905808,0.0,0.0,0.06217784546249028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14317148308915534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07645291519015772,0.08066707459520897,0.0,0.06773703888863625,0.11325813704248412,0.0,0.0,0.11349033761797865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05040282085821665,0.0,0.0,0.119069535751964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808082903241965,0.06711460402516918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08143486741707086,0.0,0.1419263254702471,0.04562850746058196,0.13992697226338432,0.0,0.041523137118904485,0.0,0.0,0.06804422869982815,0.0,0.0,0.15491211329541166,0.0,0.0741321453917682,0.0,0.0615025963343996,0.0,0.0,0.21000758302921302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19276790948120112,0.15900689544418276,0.08188801223029651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07785698151087933,0.0,0.1375707604705767
divorce,lostkj,2020/02/17,"Stressed with life and wife. So background married 19 years and together for 23.  Have 2 kids 13 and 7.  
Think im ready to start seeking out for a divorce.  My wife worked when we first got married full time.  She lost her job and got another job part time.  That lasted a couple years then kids came and she lost that job as well.   Being as daycare is expensive we decided she would be a stay at home mom and when kids get into school she will find something.   Meanwhile I work to support the family money wise and still find time to be the best dad I can be.  My wife is the one that does the finances and pays the bills seeing as I helped pay for her college for accounting.  So money has always been a sore subject.  I ask questions she gets mad at me on money. So I usually leave it be to avoid a fight.  

Well w years ago I come home to a note saying she messed up and the house was behind 5 months and was gonna be in foreclosure if I didn't come up with all the money to get current.  So I went into survival mode and ended up pulling money out of my 401k to get current.  The worst part was the house was almost paid for so I was not gonna loose it.
On top of it she opened credit cards to try and help things and I paid all those off. All the while kids are full time in school and she never once talked about getting a job to help.  It all fell on me.  

Another time after my debt was cleaned up I actually asked her if she would get a job and her response was ""why would I do that I take care of the kids. "".  Yes but kids are in school all day.  She eventually took a job doing the grocery shopping and delivery service but that lasted only a couple months and then no more.  Didn't tell me she was done or quit.  Just stopped doing it. 

My job turned and got slow and again no offer from her to help.  So I picked up a second job which with 2 jobs it adds alot of stress to me.  Now our last argument she says that I never said anything to her which is ridiculous.  

I'm now to the point I don't think she will change.  I told her I wanna quit my part time job and I said she should get a job doing something she wants to do.  Like a career.  Kids are old enough to stay at home alone for a bit if needed.  My bills now are very minimal.  So I figure now may be the time. 
I'm more then willing to be decent about things.  I want her to have the house and her vehicle that would be paid for.  I also plan on paying child support.  Not an issue.  So really she needs a job to live and pay taxes and insurance and just basic bills.  

Looking for some advice or suggestions on am I crazy and am I over reacting?   I have good days and bad days with my own depression but never bad enough to where I would have issues.  Just want a clean break and be able to get along but I have a feeling it could go either way.  

Oh and I suggested counciling 2 times so far and nothing.  After I say that she changes and acts all nice but usually short lived.",1.6721373583075732,3.3618632553191503,2.9402900527368634,94.13507834757836,78.47626841243863,6.03165424016488,20.316451476025946,6.857409640812818,0.1511741892465297,2263,55,516,23,54,731,272,611,0.1,0.8190000000000001,0.081,-0.9195,15,2,2,0,2,0,46.0,3,0,0,11,26,24,3,3,34,1,55,2,0,2,9,100,102,59,0,16,16,5,1,1,0,12,2,5,5,8,20,46,0,2,8,1,22,9,10,13,2,3,26,8,70,11,69,53,22,90,0,3,2,0,62,30,0,10,48,346,90,27,0.049745342741345185,0.0,0.048544278663593066,0.0,0.0,0.04861057319588128,0.044096244877973055,0.0,0.049812775055585935,0.05152117266961877,0.0,0.039781332617756425,0.041392110177119926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10432465848127168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04093617849823094,0.0,0.09301036067099766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08307056664933757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05220466816328617,0.0,0.05430903034273677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056895419785581915,0.050718692278101635,0.0,0.10524795324656976,0.08570241603599703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039717608363584886,0.11008455114351544,0.0,0.09624489221592422,0.0,0.04284559081055584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04353248466090024,0.050906756838497616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044059608468851263,0.10280047364024696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046895481914411945,0.0,0.02515273997033384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093268410543963,0.042313363123368086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079191073523798,0.0,0.028271424661779808,0.04172403333963983,0.11935768474138947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13337301861080925,0.0,0.14969590427069115,0.0,0.0,0.17219833975784282,0.0,0.0,0.05373350650432555,0.10384242715234596,0.5923749220617519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12164728126994315,0.0,0.052673135302619,0.0,0.0,0.035136606722774126,0.02430306172910248,0.0,0.08785209803507077,0.0,0.04177355921801456,0.0,0.1086058358896594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0582611441944632,0.07941251595577722,0.0,0.0,0.07377108264351663,0.11510002507568735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04773199799963362,0.0,0.052199369139692385,0.05297716650717638,0.03370873166112462,0.037833574765788094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616080756218452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04702542800631115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0557261686268179,0.10582059056138393,0.0,0.0,0.03186814036240603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09463842503176796,0.11867847953932717,0.0,0.15103482789402042,0.03964059761361584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07659279035968862,0.0,0.0,0.03521000963019807,0.10604383306762498,0.03972669497191709,0.04158933398076287,0.11396624407648386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11290085086779293,0.0,0.0,0.03740230685720166,0.03998342217540074,0.043479622170671695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06609719061350751,0.06374961399950102,0.0,0.0,0.232055275151422,0.0,0.0,0.04753380677918507,0.05526890615416842,0.03377382235131608,0.054108648167819705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10957493412101137,0.041045117515354265,0.08802327601870066,0.039485537612968184,0.0,0.0,0.0894540745999282,0.04611443109848951,0.044887434430962464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07243040395974379,0.0,0.0,0.17668832109921262,0.0,0.0,0.09610310928089716
divorce,frog_goblin,2020/02/17,"Meeting an attorney but not immediately filing Hello,

Currently going through a divorce. She wanted it. Everything is going amicably so far and we meet with an attorney on Wednesday. However she said once we give all the paperwork to the attorney we don’t necessarily need to file right away. Is this true? Once the paperwork is submitted can you just not file until you know it’s for sure over? I’m very confused in everything that’s going on right now so any insight from a likely clearer mind is greatly appreciated.",6.22845112781955,8.07610453684211,7.713383458646617,63.93368421052632,66.78947368421052,11.323308270676687,36.72932330827068,11.20814326018867,4.9775112781954896,421,22,66,14,7,145,69,95,0.034,0.8420000000000001,0.125,0.8803,2,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,3,2,0,0,4,5,0,1,7,0,6,0,0,0,3,18,15,5,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,5,0,0,2,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,1,1,7,4,12,14,1,15,0,0,0,0,13,8,0,1,5,45,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449691522793798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20028885656118825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3831834013071895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2045008940650037,0.36346392126242905,0.0,0.0,0.2350307979773561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11715770193102774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10414857900297933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21525020073292864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580696604089428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.454057737484125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.364107708987998,0.2027822172367626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20091885379823335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758951490097833,0.12573860334583256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,bohemianwannabe,2020/02/17,"Dating Sucks I'm just so lonely today. In a fit of sentimentality I even reached out to my soon-to-be-ex to apologize about how our marriage went and to tell her I wish I had listened more and she bit my head off about how she KNEW I shared blame. It's what I get for reaching out.

I'm just having a hard time. So many women seem interested and then unmatch, or ghost me. I'm not bitter at them at all (if they're not feeling it, they're not feeling it.) but it's still frustrating. 

Meanwhile I miss being in a relationship. I miss having jokes with someone, and someone to talk to about my day, and someone to text in the afternoons. I miss parenting together. I just miss her, or at least the person I fell in love with and married. The person I divorced was someone else completely. 

I have friends, roommates, my son, my family. I ask women out, and go to events, and try to stay positive. It's just, tiring, yaknow? So yeah, just a little bit of a vent into the ether about how lonely I am.",1.8397498697238104,3.8295274356435662,3.6860187597707146,87.57167014069832,79.0990099009901,6.430849400729548,23.50286607608129,7.475848149327749,1.0194316831683166,770,26,161,11,19,259,113,202,0.129,0.701,0.17,0.8915,1,4,0,0,1,0,34.0,1,0,1,0,17,14,3,0,9,1,7,3,1,3,1,35,26,19,1,2,12,2,3,0,1,0,1,1,0,4,6,14,0,0,4,1,0,3,3,9,0,0,4,5,26,5,29,21,5,26,0,6,0,1,23,14,1,4,8,109,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14385186120217466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33598214386127545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16133445788793666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09923630569456562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285423778740888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163263852678764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14505915914515116,0.0,0.15560711443171932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11888303652953293,0.0,0.08039306147283047,0.0,0.08745040933277919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378413042356823,0.0,0.15791960260507584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154222646728862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13887772000080265,0.0,0.0,0.15600456458269135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708593930135314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.268714510102736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16520359863259285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14008154155990393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5215093682444649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16400971510851514,0.12288435331061595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236784731436308,0.13449307213725853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972544292778932,0.17685607144705473,0.14585500881489752,0.0,0.0,0.10447066692567664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426431785435631,0.0,0.0,0.1769480505964582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,SLaCross,2020/02/17,"How do you maintain your composure when they turn on the charm to try and get you to change your mind? Also, where to start? TL;DR - I've had enough and truly want a divorce.

I love him. Loving someone isn't a reason to stay together once you've realized that they're narcissistic, controlling, and probably do not even know HOW to truly love another person.

I know that he is going to try and act like there's no reason for it to come to this. He'll try and turn it into ""not that big a deal"" and play it off like I'm the one who is over-reacting. But I've finally come to the realization that things truly are awful between us... and they are truly never going to change. The longer I stay, the longer I let him think that this is acceptable behavior - and it's 100% not. 

I am making an appointment with an attorney for sometime this week. 

Should I make an appointment with a counselor/therapist as well?

Should I tell him that I'm meeting with an attorney? Should I keep that to myself until I've figured out my plan of action? 

I just truly don't know where to start.",3.6906104651162783,4.969793023255819,4.963183139534883,83.41268168604654,72.25581395348838,8.537790697674419,25.065406976744185,9.017664075816787,1.8243081395348841,840,25,170,17,16,279,114,215,0.024,0.778,0.198,0.9885,0,0,0,0,1,0,29.0,1,4,2,2,10,9,0,0,13,1,15,3,0,7,1,41,38,15,0,4,5,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,1,16,15,0,2,9,1,0,6,7,0,1,1,1,0,21,9,25,32,1,22,0,0,0,3,21,7,0,0,9,116,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10067888289305177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13201279825157766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663622775400727,0.2168962912994132,0.0,0.0,0.14120292494553588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12979311536924426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13008408926900833,0.0,0.08315303572347912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13791277340369304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06577539665870387,0.0,0.14309905000380005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119020350877541,0.0,0.0,0.2075672354198846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128737058237556,0.0,0.12301272706358675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3408778177901473,0.0,0.16807294354630747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12711894125979653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970986572766718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13407499427007685,0.08531030068783732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10992741889752576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13573704271504547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588838475038226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066711633102272,0.0,0.12451423598768573,0.0,0.17821949155316458,0.26837649591910195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11003854070995353,0.0,0.0,0.1461748101470032,0.08363962285123099,0.08066899095617816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25642509802508384,0.2738771124000869,0.0,0.0,0.15143723217358265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07425664681557984,0.0,0.10098607413463837,0.0,0.1131955078967439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,frontbuttwedgies,2020/02/17,"I am the ass and I now see it. Hello, this is my first post on here and I'm really just confused or sad or something... I need to rant and talk but I have no one.
 I am a 32 female we have two boys,3 and 7 yr olds. I have been married for about 4? Years. I have been with my husband for 8 years in total. We own a house in Alaska and he is military.
 I'm not really sure what to say except he wants a divorce or separate because I don't make enough money, I don't have a GED, and I have no ambition. First let me go into some small back ground about us. I have anxiety and depression and I never knew what it was until three years ago when I got help. I also grew up in a house hold of separation and divorce when I was young and was in the middle of a bad battle between the parents. 
My husband, was a homeschool child with parents that stayed together but his childhood was not a very loving one. He at a young age went to teach himself math and reading and soon joined the military to make a better person or situation for himself. 
We met and soon got pregnant at an early time in our getting to know one another/ puppy dog stage of our relationship. I didn't have a job at the time and was in a bad situation that I created for myself when I met him. We had problems but soon got through the first years of being mom and dad. 
Skipping to the later years.
Because of anxiety and depression which I didn't know at the time I even had, I fought with him to get a job and made excuses of why I couldn't. He just wanted me to be a better person and to help provide for our family. At the time it was just his income and it was not enough for a young family with a child to do.
I finally did get a job at Walmart and things were looking up with the help of doctors and medicine.
The now.
I have a job not a very good paying job working on base but a job. I was full time and dropped my hrs to part time because of the babysitter payment and me not making enough. 
His complaint over the years has been the same . We need more money, you need a GED/College... He said he is fed up of me not applying myself ever and is done he still cares for me but he is not happy. Being military he works 12 or more hrs, he works the late shift so I hardly ever see him anymore. If he is home he is sleeping or on his phone. I get that he has a lot of stress when it comes to money so I have In the last month or so got a new job full time making more money. As well as taking on the boys full time minus the sitter. And trying to keep the house from being a disaster. I'm my words I am still trying, I feel like I have tried to keep going doing the best I can. Yes I could have been or done better but I still love him. I still want us to be in this together. I finally feel like a person and not caught up in my anxiety and depression even though it still haunts me. I'm not here to make him look bad, he is not, he is a great dad and does whatever he can to make it for him and the boys. I know I deserve this separation, I'm not or have not been that good to him. I guess I am writing this to just get it off my chest for the lack of selfishly being me and not doing what I can to help. I have finally seen my bad ways and I'm doing what I can to fix it. But I feel like it's to little to late to help us. I guess I finally see how he can't go on like this and can't see me as a wife but maybe a child? Idk again I'm just writing to let it go. To finally tell him I will let him go, for him to be happy I will gladly take me out of the picture. I won't be selfish anymore and keep a locked bird in a cage. 

I'm setting him free.....",1.7165589353612167,2.636749328263626,3.806180608365022,91.19573479087454,76.62991128010141,6.983700887198987,22.402217997465144,7.42949916751922,0.6097383016476545,2776,73,663,34,60,954,273,789,0.13699999999999998,0.772,0.091,-0.9891,13,0,1,0,2,0,70.0,11,1,0,10,36,35,2,2,54,1,79,7,3,8,5,126,146,65,0,11,37,8,4,4,0,3,1,2,1,8,26,46,1,4,7,1,6,9,24,15,1,8,36,13,97,21,93,94,17,107,0,4,7,3,84,36,1,15,60,475,123,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04317166526097816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038947225101865775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05106862553583443,0.11177141700757004,0.0,0.09659922300773673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037449075358985576,0.16265760072538066,0.08906544073968745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05111007672518692,0.12921972421604566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04965525775639265,0.0,0.0,0.0419527334742661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038884836973858215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12584170213365226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04984888487795449,0.042619725578896935,0.09967875821786533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509675364290595,0.0,0.0643348417694717,0.08810806750441227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918244196558584,0.0,0.07387606405493041,0.10437883443219152,0.0,0.2667550371949417,0.0,0.12427849722011745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272247519150735,0.0,0.13839324474531348,0.08169838523264397,0.15580676695532975,0.05369447614089036,0.10730218527521426,0.0,0.0,0.10368904357272456,0.0436277096897512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16322068155253136,0.0,0.048852394635095976,0.0,0.0,0.16858780386162206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3383067413206542,0.12986657056622214,0.0,0.0,0.0802965588151965,0.03969888835528622,0.1098766692141946,0.0,0.0,0.1494042556507983,0.0,0.09517396764183872,0.04881251593185452,0.0,0.0,0.08179536014054674,0.0,0.0,0.04140496808160498,0.08791148464773638,0.046083309672793664,0.1950550476245792,0.0,0.04892802320230978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05703956474854741,0.03887372457521252,0.0,0.0,0.10833645227521636,0.03756222907300896,0.04703700099150106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051104888807861217,0.0,0.09900585074806267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10815631841985747,0.05273986302404508,0.0,0.0,0.12757495332612104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04664335687378589,0.0,0.0,0.04660153972929313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04871549627926457,0.0,0.06239990239635574,0.0,0.0,0.05228806184626321,0.0,0.0,0.046327055938708166,0.038730037040054864,0.0,0.0,0.15523776372849435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10948688912722808,0.048737488971386564,0.0,0.0,0.0374934228068985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05191018959613721,0.19446866530230314,0.0,0.055788339278506086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0459013571598547,0.0,0.07323616222178965,0.039145077385195175,0.042567971472865375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03235565517828033,0.0,0.04784977892255767,0.0,0.22718970036121294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09919702848868404,0.0,0.04757508673225031,0.0,0.1757486714428497,0.0,0.0,0.08036902366058507,0.08617766474152226,0.0386576321225106,0.0,0.0,0.04378923166298628,0.04514753554624993,0.04394626569768571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063675998870412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881761712769592
divorce,laffysaffie,2020/02/17,"Best book for amicable DIY divorce? STBX and I are amicable and now that we have custody sorted out, we believe we will agree on how everything else is split. We want to save costs and do as much as we can by ourselves. There are so many books available - can anyone recommend a good one?",2.244880952380953,4.758528964285716,3.4321428571428565,87.07952380952383,80.78571428571429,6.590476190476192,25.404761904761905,7.793537801064563,1.524461904761905,226,9,45,4,6,73,46,56,0.0,0.7390000000000001,0.261,0.9429,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,5,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,1,0,13,9,7,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,9,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,3,7,8,2,3,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,1,1,33,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25627859696012323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4129413860170937,0.3846390633195384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30617958206379936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3294036312822047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3074187360309432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3715927243135421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26943362688090866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483627504588371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21618239408687506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,TempToss5548,2020/02/17,"Gray area alimony question So, question for you guys. I'm divorced. My girlfriend is too. Her divorce decree has a marriage clause which ends alimony requirement for her ex. She has a job which provides health insurance. Her employers are restructuring and moving in such a way that she'll keep her job, but needs to find health insurance elsewhere. So we've talked about getting married in secret. I apologize if this question offends anyone who is paying alimony. If my ex got married, I'd keep paying because I know she'd use it for our kids. Anyway, if we get married in secret, what triggers the end of alimony? Would her SSN be flagged by some agency? I know the IRS doesn't care how you file as long as your taxes get done correctly and kids aren't claimed by more than one person. Besides it being an admittedly dishonest thing to do to her ex husband, is there any way that information comes out if we don't go public that we're legally married?",4.915169692186269,6.729495690607735,5.424518547750591,79.19868784530388,69.99447513812154,8.265351223362273,32.81807419100237,8.841846274778883,2.9421267561168123,764,36,134,14,14,245,117,181,0.07400000000000001,0.9079999999999999,0.018000000000000002,-0.9158,3,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,3,3,0,1,8,2,1,0,6,0,16,2,0,3,1,32,31,12,0,6,5,4,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,4,11,6,0,3,11,0,3,3,3,1,0,1,2,1,20,1,17,24,2,13,0,0,1,0,38,5,0,8,3,85,31,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011623465848168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040169087971056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09068311450978156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516714020973521,0.0,0.0,0.1281441320690612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15223379860796551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635155715643844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13596454359591634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331639070220645,0.0,0.08454410839754989,0.0,0.11897748530631645,0.0,0.0,0.14729643651530933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3162512396956337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952439917804155,0.26445061051388624,0.0,0.0,0.16350993106432196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13164849840411114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15810903373606808,0.0,0.1103041407044791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10080406974873088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12989206593458855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4999379370508072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11956817949369207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09882996903860483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12848144284824922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361585673182808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10567530112331117,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,davgerar97,2020/02/17,"I'm finally over it After about a year and two months feeling like complete shit, I'm finally over my wife.

I'm not going to gloss over my mistakes that led to the downfall of my marriage, but I wasn't the only one that did things for it to end. She made mistakes too. And for the longest time I had let her get into my head and walk all over and treat me like complete garbage because I hurt her emotionally in the past, well not anymore.

I am not a bad person, making mistakes is human and I'm a human who made some mistakes. Not a monster, not someone who deserves to die, none of what she's told me I deserve.

I'm over her, over my marriage that looking back on it wasn't made to last. Over everything that has to do with her, I don't love her anymore, she has become a mean, bitter person and I don't need her forgiveness as I have finally forgiven myself and expressed my true and sincere apologies to her, and if she doesn't want to take them, that's her issue now.

I have a good life, a good job, live in a nice new country and I'm off for University soon and I'm in my early twenties still. 

Life is great and good without her, and I'll live happy.",5.438129154795824,4.490350995884776,6.316460905349796,83.06971509971511,67.8477366255144,8.793795504906617,32.6840772396328,7.61054688173877,2.0780493194048755,904,34,195,8,13,301,124,243,0.13,0.677,0.193,0.9599,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,1,0,7,22,2,0,12,0,16,5,2,5,2,40,37,16,1,7,8,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,4,12,15,0,0,3,0,0,3,12,8,1,2,8,3,33,14,31,28,3,32,0,1,1,1,28,13,1,2,18,135,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298091712962608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08909120286992807,0.09674044796598412,0.07062877764515246,0.12796116072897698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429595050082425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12024710702599972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303298526167596,0.10261989131421263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10412985183059732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05858362186389189,0.08277227875083559,0.0,0.3807655100825996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060533436803386624,0.0,0.06584739689960835,0.29154020532421165,0.0,0.1277389473840445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12333791325651372,0.0,0.0,0.11890847430335733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240333308464815,0.0,0.0,0.12093047303985292,0.11497577227719118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09444349913229036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184773787000156,0.1636743896891612,0.1132092471954788,0.0,0.20461763200774005,0.0,0.09729541990349526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10457053796748544,0.32889603694779657,0.07733919841875457,0.0,0.0,0.12620835927637636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924804377475498,0.0,0.0,0.0859106645076237,0.0,0.11190084020916516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07851150973913218,0.08811874334376121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11060398074820196,0.0,0.2023335411968889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11893131425605455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09817002178623753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09252803785519656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08711427082472517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0769739763090294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06756042536035019,0.0,0.0,0.11071169842281477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11318094406836507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06833877506761475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10417440976067574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11168743094057428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07461172845975811
divorce,netphreak,2020/02/17,"To you.  You wanted to know if I'd take you back.  


If you crawled into bed with me, late at night, naked, and tried something, you thought I would take you back. I told you no.  


You looked at me with that half smirk, so sure of yourself, so sure that you could win me over in that situation. I think differently.  


I would have to undo close to two years of hurt. Two years of not feeling wanted by you. Two years of you telling everyone how bad our marriage was. I would have to forget about the boyfriends you've had since then. How you've used me. How you've called me so many names.  


I told myself months ago, that there was only one way I would take you back. And I know deep in my heart that you would never agree to it. So I closed that door. I know I could never take you back.  


I have never let someone hurt me so many times. I have never given someone so many chances to hurt me. I did it because I loved you. I loved you with all my heart. But that love is long gone now.  


Now, I'm ready to heal. I need my space to do so. And I don't need someone to replace you. I like to feel wanted, but I know it's not something I need.  


I want me. I'm ready to love myself. And I'm working towards that fact.  


But if you climbed into my bed, naked, and wanted my love,  


No. I wouldn't take you back.",-0.1755343108504377,1.8603160072727287,1.2144046920821123,102.1560586510264,87.1090909090909,3.9847507331378296,16.50733137829912,4.906252579359067,-1.0916287390029331,982,21,244,3,31,311,114,275,0.069,0.807,0.124,0.9584,1,0,2,0,0,0,42.0,1,19,0,3,19,13,0,0,1,0,20,8,2,4,8,59,55,22,0,20,8,0,2,1,0,6,1,0,3,0,11,12,0,0,8,0,0,2,10,4,0,5,9,3,58,9,29,37,1,36,0,3,1,5,31,12,0,3,22,163,69,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06901668844113255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993411478148112,0.06500843136338738,0.04746169922057104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950203305690459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12432704007527548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08134535596793342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07439694563513156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07873499536195193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845249292807905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500467729260773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17115554995443108,0.0,0.08782755773101758,0.0,0.0,0.07961539049356277,0.0,0.03803763436466516,0.0,0.0,0.06890214862902377,0.06538136591007239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35135079395549584,0.0,0.0,0.2368082985225848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06214575512283708,0.0,0.0,0.1731928367436532,0.24019649419727515,0.0,0.0,0.07306474366348198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05275880150882629,0.05921474831815012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0644051933043224,0.08751599538265663,0.0,0.0,0.19790726394434915,0.1198782518493352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14676105945768486,0.0,0.2926987736128722,0.0,0.06805158909098802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04988845716706146,0.0,0.061810796202351276,0.04539980294968135,0.0,0.0,0.14879389127026313,0.0,0.052860677391858825,0.0,0.2281687480927983,0.0,0.0,0.0672445761137906,0.0,0.0,0.2296142235150238,0.06180029739280855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05668177230950636,0.0,0.0,0.2765415250717303,0.0,0.0,0.15041458450302125
divorce,peachesforshe,2020/02/17,"What to expect? First time posting and this is all so very new to me, please forgive. 

  
I (36F) had my first consultation with a lawyer 3 weeks ago. Later this week I am putting the retaining fee down. I honestly think everything will be uncontested - he (36M) and I are very amicable. We do have a child (7) together. The lawyer and I have already talked about maintenance and child support - the lawyer said if everything goes smoothly this will be done in a matter of weeks. I don't know how true this is but hopefully it'll be quick - I just really want to move on and be.   


I want him to have the house - he bought it the summer we started dating. It no longer feels like 'home' to me and maybe I just need a new space to make mine again. I don't know. Anyways, if he does end up keeping the house, how do I go about getting part of the equity that we have in it? What should I expect once the retainer fee is down? 

  
Thanks for letting me ramble!",2.204972136222913,4.081026357894739,3.425665634674925,90.4087770897833,77.52631578947368,7.2074303405572735,22.75541795665634,8.124751697461798,1.065758513931888,728,22,160,13,17,236,113,190,0.024,0.8490000000000001,0.126,0.9422,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,3,0,0,2,10,7,0,0,12,0,24,0,0,3,2,36,41,12,0,9,5,0,2,1,0,4,0,1,1,2,11,10,0,3,5,0,3,3,3,0,0,2,4,3,21,7,18,28,2,27,0,0,0,0,13,7,0,3,17,107,32,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12505216362291055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15567689247954794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234534008460671,0.14436603623043345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12494826674369255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25357353892867895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07133044010978587,0.10078214498079767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399922090137976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07370450223400764,0.0,0.08017469134710108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415071114433218,0.14011671624966354,0.0,0.3255571990854917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253916238302758,0.0,0.0,0.1550593944834564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14425607869312532,0.0,0.0689208448541507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941669170568645,0.0,0.14172617910968616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14993762687010626,0.0,0.10460339109265608,0.0,0.2724971904031169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502374932982756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15276765305354228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548551230924788,0.0,0.0,0.13510835545587951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14181671834351567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09037458663397788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13419214997600495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09985176510209408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600872785761575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11338864490431315,0.0,0.12988050481349175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09039349249379257,0.0,0.0,0.08226044620720845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327989952729783,0.16641630363728374,0.0,0.33947929034686497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Noobdaddy0125,2020/02/17,"Recently separated/divorced So the short version: Boy meets girl, they fall in love. Girl gets pregnant, boy marries girl. They have son,buy house, do all the typical suburban things, etc. After a couple of years of either one not being happy - Boy and girl separate/divorce.

Now the not so short version:
So now I live on my own/alone for first time ever (had roommates in past, then married, etc.) and have the “free time” for hobbies and other stuff. The problem I’m running into is being indecisive about it and that cause feelings of loneliness.

During the week isn’t too bad since my work schedule dictates when I go to bed so after unwinding/dinner/cleaning up I only have an hour or two before bed. On the weekends I don’t have my son - i run into indecisiveness about what to do though

I do have hobbies and things to do but I just sit there and can’t decide on what. When married, family-life would dictate what I spent “free time” on (shopping/errands on weekends, around the house projects, cleaning house, etc.).

I’m just wondering if anyone else felt so indecisive about what to do that you end feeling more lonely and what gets you through that.",6.658835568101622,7.033092660550463,6.593119266055048,77.66101976005649,65.05504587155963,8.909527170077629,33.74170783345095,8.617729084823388,2.735283274523642,912,37,164,12,13,289,126,218,0.08199999999999999,0.867,0.052000000000000005,-0.5249,0,3,0,0,2,0,38.0,0,2,2,2,19,10,0,3,10,0,18,1,0,1,2,31,29,19,0,3,8,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,3,7,13,10,0,0,5,2,3,4,5,6,0,3,3,3,15,6,26,23,8,39,0,1,0,1,14,13,0,6,21,119,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381415160453131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09326243865731712,0.13666363281148386,0.0,0.11873653093302936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113667781716626,0.0,0.0,0.11349660650264892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13701806206166395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14758249861324008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11142192453469388,0.0,0.1181351431823896,0.0,0.44626207041710175,0.0,0.1206498997297292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13488193114223893,0.0,0.12806577365116031,0.0,0.0,0.1134530102472756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13937115178175585,0.0,0.07580296140740024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14198555324680415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13135249097864504,0.4617080412197524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11777703593965914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12038071096395198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09038178004007874,0.10144154538317776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12732635880721746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12762670331655265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13169671740341482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103333633099339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15268825692343654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17722356935152286,0.0,0.13104523098993606,0.0,0.23332495546024984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13029293699108144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10698943815643178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14464498462696215,0.09710227167125048,0.0,0.0,0.09474936721903976,0.0,0.0,0.08589238510973105
divorce,T2MO,2020/02/17,"Valentine’s Day will be my divorce anniversary. Just got the confirmation today that my divorce was final on Valentine’s Day. Idk why I’m posting this, just thought it was kind of tragically comical (if that’s a thing?)",5.736747967479673,7.418020073170737,6.432682926829269,73.28528455284554,67.78048780487805,9.369105691056909,38.05691056910569,9.725611199111238,4.0686032520325215,177,10,30,4,3,58,32,41,0.13699999999999998,0.863,0.0,-0.659,0,0,0,0,2,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,7,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,2,1,2,1,0,6,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,4,18,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4479963337888169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3804814253207686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777903530386868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36168921373024104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3326447195093463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23074964073542245,0.0,0.0,0.2757400543901796,0.0,0.0,0.32922683264189634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3134099731725277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,mr_yesnomaybe,2020/02/17,"Temp hearing Male, going through a divorce currently (about 9 months so far)
I got a notification for a temporary hearing (in Georgia)
Not really sure what to expect...im already still paying for everything (around $2300/month) to keep the lights on, water flowing, etc.....i dont want to lose the house and go deeper into debt during all this.
But this is almost all the money have each month.
Not sure what else she can ask for...",3.777195767195767,5.887582098765434,4.656190476190479,82.29,73.69135802469134,7.097707231040566,25.151675485008816,7.957251820313856,1.552952733686067,334,11,61,5,7,108,65,81,0.106,0.865,0.03,-0.5888,2,0,0,0,1,0,24.0,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,6,0,4,1,0,0,4,14,12,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,4,4,1,1,0,0,3,3,3,1,0,0,1,3,2,2,12,11,3,12,0,1,0,0,6,5,0,1,4,37,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820776936427542,0.0,0.20065526427990435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618683293924421,0.16998763808037334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21310482659393765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518966457955073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027898666119627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16341816906066894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20667773649099294,0.0,0.14542703106448804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4098739826782825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209808805855072,0.0,0.0,0.196408911664286,0.0,0.0,0.16161993612157824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20342261592803412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4354078166332222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11648573064631487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452106410145629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3427475313958437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072487600920313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Runferit,2020/02/17,"Hearing rumors about all the horrible things I’ve said. Has anyone heard about all the awful things you’ve done/said second hand?   It blows my mind saying “I cheated”, Or “ran off drinking every night,” I get the making me sound bad during the divorce, truth or not.  What is the most illogical thing is hearing I smeared his name, “she said I was neglectful” won’t let me see the kids” “she told everyone I’m an alcoholic” “she told everyone I had a bad temper and I was a bad father,” “She’s made my kids hate me by constantly taking bad about me!”    “I’ll never know why she chose this!   Why she broke our family” when he was talking to other women, and he’s the one that ran off.  

I never said anything bad, I didn’t bring anything bad up in court, I didn’t have to, I agreed to almost everything.  I didn’t even ask for alimony or back child support, and didn’t tell his family or friends that he cut off support, that he met his girl on pof, or that he was on other dating sites.  All the things he tells people I have said about him are true, but how does outing your own bad behavior make you look good and me look bad? It’s such a weird reaction, rather than moving on to continue to be a victim, it must be exhausting.  I’m not angry anymore, I really only feel pity and concern at this point.   It’s not an ex-wife’s place to suggest seeing a professional, but asking one of his friends or family members to suggest it, would again turn around to “she’s been saying awful things about me!”   
Is this just someone with narcissistic tendencies trying to be a victim, or is this what he really thinks happens?",4.568651535380507,5.17851288785047,5.553360035603029,82.47327102803743,69.65420560747664,8.731108144192259,26.50066755674232,8.841846274778883,1.823948998664887,1251,36,253,21,21,413,171,321,0.174,0.753,0.073,-0.9846,0,0,2,0,1,0,34.0,1,2,0,0,14,26,6,0,16,2,25,4,1,4,8,42,59,16,0,3,14,1,2,0,2,3,2,10,0,5,22,7,2,1,3,1,0,4,10,19,0,3,21,16,36,7,29,31,5,26,0,3,4,0,52,13,0,9,9,163,58,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08424251617972256,0.07893425312160353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07817559787500344,0.055117949941885916,0.0,0.12973646506562794,0.07017309714886417,0.14738595358205964,0.0,0.0,0.06061340381216695,0.5265406817858899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08518441395945679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898238773891581,0.08066779707426251,0.0,0.07722084074138008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05206475334816497,0.0,0.0664154831333344,0.1506459149065552,0.07084498305768808,0.0,0.22293436787417084,0.0,0.03985750123948503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12180370526461536,0.0,0.041184062296912204,0.0,0.0,0.06611668202002792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06970680826625274,0.0,0.0,0.07782573644835039,0.0,0.0,0.17768841448621228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043321476765781824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08060635580637178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323903233026281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745883905389392,0.10523580136434764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07959320143861445,0.0,0.0,0.08378104971205458,0.0,0.0,0.121593098738077,0.0,0.0,0.0739741736883921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10683097074508584,0.059951788747471965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05464899290648307,0.0,0.08235785399906273,0.0,0.07451737096075836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10099770009094744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3749145368909623,0.12537342256199402,0.0,0.0,0.1256304617613912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06679019904429813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1789047956091221,0.0,0.0,0.05926839356979718,0.06335847708021039,0.1377972417004148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618471049189425,0.05050941412344431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506459149065552,0.0,0.053518629295155135,0.08574157383884844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14225893287009905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055996722309541114,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,like2paint,2020/02/17,"A long and rambling Valentine’s Day letter to my friends; especially those in second marriages... I wrote this on Valentine's Day for my Facebook friends & thought I'd share here, too...for anyone needing a reminder that you are loved and are not alone.

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Relationships are complicated. I don’t mean difficult, although they can be, but complicated, as in consisting of many interconnecting intricate parts and pieces. The good, the bad, and the parts that we don’t even understand about ourselves–all intertwined with those of another person. It’s a miracle any relationship works at all.

I think about the engines my husband Jason works on and how many parts need to be working in order for them to run. I mean–give me a pile of engine parts and ask me to build an engine with another person and their pile of parts and then expect it to run?

All winter long Jason will bring home snow blowers from Craigslist. Some are free, the rest are cheap because they don’t run well…or at all.

“Anything’s fixable,” he’ll say, “it just depends on how much work you want to put into it.”

Some owners neglected to drain last year’s gas rendering the machine unusable. Some owners just used the machine until it stopped working and would rather buy a new one than pay to have it fixed. Some owners tried their best to replace parts or fix problems the wrong way causing more problems. Some owners know it’s a simple fix like a new spark plug but they want an excuse to buy a new snow blower. Some just didn’t choose the right engine for the job.

Whatever the reason these poor engines make their way to our garage where Jason carefully diagnoses their problems, fixes, shines up and re-sells to new, happy owners. Engines that are unable to be fixed are recycled. Not every engine is fixable.

There are few words that can describe the pain of failed marriage. Talk about complicated. It’s not something we usually talk about on Facebook, especially when it's fresh. My first marriage ended 7 years ago, signing papers 6 years ago, 3 days before Valentine's Day. It's not something we share on a day when everyone else is posting pictures of roses. And only those who’s engines have failed beyond repair can understand how that brokenness feels.

Time heals and I’m grateful for a second chance with a man I love and where romance is alive and well.

On this day that celebrates romance, I wanted to give a special shout-out and extra hugs to those second marriages–to those past relationships that couldn’t be repaired, that were stripped of parts and rebuilt into something new and beautiful.

And for my friends who’s marriages are beyond repair, my heart breaks with you. God’s heart breaks with you. Someday, somehow, all can be restored. But unlike engines, it’s not only how much work you want to put into it, or even knowing which pieces will make it run, it’s finding a like-minded partner and always fueling that relationship with kindness, patience, and love. Or it’s deciding life is full enough, thank you very much, to have a need for anything or anyone else.

To my wonderful single friends, to my parents who’ve been married a gazillion years, to the newly engaged, first and encore marriages, to our friends who’ve lost the loves of their lives, and everyone in-between: I'm wishing you ALL a very happy Valentine’s Day. You are loved.

Go hug someone you care about. And buy yourself some chocolate…tomorrow…when it’s on sale. And take care of your snow blower...those engines are more fragile than you think.

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divorce,HotStay1,2020/02/17,"6 months in and STBX wants to introduce boyfriend In mid August of 2019 I told my cheating STBX that I wanted a divorce. Initially we wanted dissolution. After 5 months of unsuccessful haggling over alimony, I filed for divorce last week. My adult son just told me that she wanted to introduce a guy she’s dating over a month ago. Although he’s an adult, he was angry. He told me he’s come to the realization that she truly never really cared about her kids’ feelings. She’s even taken one kid (another adult child) on dates with different men months ago. 

I’ve a mix of emotions. I’m angry she would put my kids in such an awkward position. Quite frankly I’m also jealous. Jealous that she would move on so quickly. Also jealous of some asshole spending time with my kids just so he can bang their mom.",3.4926820276497668,5.729021922580646,4.486566820276501,82.61556451612904,74.93548387096773,7.267281105990782,27.845622119815665,8.192908349453996,2.056658986175115,638,26,117,11,14,207,95,155,0.16399999999999998,0.818,0.018000000000000002,-0.968,1,0,0,0,2,0,16.0,1,0,1,1,10,6,4,1,7,0,4,0,0,0,1,16,17,6,0,6,2,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,10,4,5,0,0,1,0,1,3,1,5,0,1,5,1,18,1,19,10,1,26,0,0,0,0,31,8,0,1,15,66,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2603712261545584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.234893342515012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539991632059172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14973710498421094,0.0,0.0,0.12650988315133802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534410774679172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16520164681833793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970019429104442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07425858783832602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454179342532635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11971333715706425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17200473184347484,0.4689001117587811,0.15609263616020266,0.0,0.0,0.1132701690068667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09951849436397446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476383605631269,0.0,0.15620738791428304,0.0,0.0,0.09408450543109644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08563727576748603,0.0,0.0,0.4210030442208657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3464955405394557,0.0,0.11780502434732057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086552038120257,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,sstidman,2020/02/17,"E.T. The Extra Terrestrial - A Movie About Divorce? I just rewatched the movie ""E.T. The Extra Terrestrial"" Saturday night.  I have not seen it again since it first came out in the theaters.  While watching it, I realized that the movie had a subplot about divorce, something that my childhood brain never processed.  Re-watching the movie as an adult, it's hard to miss that story line.  Reading interviews of Steven Spielberg confirms that a child coping with the pending divorce of his parents is what that movie is really about.  Watching the mom is especially sad as she admirably struggles to put on a brave face for the kids.  I suspect a lot of people on this subreddit could relate to what that family is going through.

[Here is one example of an interview with Steven Spielberg](https://people.com/tv/steven-spielberg-james-cameron-et-amc-visionaries/) which confirms that the movie is less about a space alien and more about a child coping with his parents divorce.

Am I the only one who missed that important story line when they first saw it?",7.943623188405797,9.368034521739132,6.615000000000002,74.94666666666667,62.47826086956522,9.1768115942029,35.98550724637681,9.2995712137729,3.4404181159420286,848,38,135,14,12,253,108,184,0.078,0.873,0.05,-0.4503,2,0,1,0,4,0,38.0,0,0,1,2,9,6,0,1,20,0,10,2,2,0,1,13,16,5,0,1,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,18,6,0,0,2,1,0,3,2,4,0,4,4,5,10,2,23,11,5,17,0,3,4,0,18,5,0,1,9,98,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22651077861227265,0.0,0.232071000971703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620043434757295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912822063699036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3451843600601266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11531644981056932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18176438467234693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17250386507222615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376416608212132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564940149948117,0.0,0.0,0.19041402129831306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27498941487961875,0.15431954978666315,0.0,0.0,0.4506073503700334,0.0,0.0,0.14066983083934478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039770931247992,0.0,0.0,0.2029614267670036,0.0,0.12998711075306038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16784636795626828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562073501959921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21212194769554849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,GrumpyTitan-77,2020/02/17,"Love is over. Question about rights. Hi, 

We've been together for 7 years, and we have two kids ( 9 and 6 ).

She has a better job than me, and owns the house we live in the UK.

If she decides to kick me out, do I have any rights on the house?

I'm not thinking about this, but I am nonetheless, after all this time. Plus, with my low wages, I would not be able to live close enough to my kids, and the idea of living away from them destroys me.

We are looking for counselling. 

Any help would be appreciated.",1.070192307692306,2.9514102500000017,2.1948461538461568,97.85015384615384,81.11538461538461,5.313846153846153,19.053846153846152,6.2581,-0.3482353846153852,382,9,92,3,10,121,74,104,0.069,0.8170000000000001,0.114,0.6124,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,1,1,2,4,1,0,5,0,12,1,0,0,1,22,16,7,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,11,0,0,4,0,1,0,2,2,0,1,1,1,14,2,18,11,3,12,0,1,1,1,12,9,0,2,3,63,16,2,0.18117909507593274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464159950950719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17022372387494264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16023818623167224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18720643743838414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12144052833798265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4181127002933625,0.0,0.20452914514548,0.0,0.0,0.17979229546987294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4799533809208358,0.0,0.15214480874267478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16352120701017842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20296205126885572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3094519144981794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160922484334388,0.0,0.0,0.10564698734246347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769856495370155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574088617195084,0.0,0.0,0.11667339703893374
divorce,divorce-halp,2020/02/17,"It's been 2 years. I moved to the other side of the world, but I still feel angry. Hello friends

I (m30) divorced my wife (f27) 2 years ago after finding out she cheated with a mutual friend of ours. The entire relationship lasted about 8 years. 

I am having problems moving on, I think. Not because I still love her. But because I actually, truly hate her. I know I'm preaching to the choir here, but I truly couldn't fathom what was happening when it happened. I was in denial for almost a year. I allowed myself to be lied to continuously for months trying to fix things. 

For context, I am an extremely level headed person. I don't get angry at ... anything, really. But this - anytime I think about anything to do with her, it is just pain and anger. Anger that honestly, I enjoy. I don't want to feel anything else towards her. She doesn't deserve anything else.

In the end, I ended up changing my career, moved to another country, and am now in another relationship. (For the record, I did not move because of the new relationship - I moved because I hated my job, and had other opportunities elsewhere). I haven't spoken a word to my ex in over a year and a half.

The problem: I am having commitment issues. I want to be able to invest emotionally in this new relationship, but I feel like I can't because all of the pent up hatred I have inside me. I want to truly love this person. She is gorgeous, smart, funny, interesting, fun, and all the things I want. But I feel like I am stuck. I can't move forward. Investing emotionally feels like scrapping the sides of an empty peanut butter jar. I'm giving as much as I can, but there just isn't much left to give.  

A solution: Some have recommended therapy. Is it really worth $100 an hour? Like... I need convincing that there isn't a better way. I'm not rich by any means, and would rather not do this. I will if I have to, but I'd rather do something cheaper if possible. 

Thanks for any advice on how to move forwards, how to stop hating my ex, or how to replenish my jar of emotional commitment. It is greatly appreciated.",3.0823891625615762,5.008666105911335,4.890157635467983,80.66346305418722,75.13300492610838,7.497142857142857,25.885714285714286,8.329178653251315,1.8268845320197045,1613,58,307,29,35,549,199,406,0.184,0.619,0.19699999999999998,0.7139,2,0,1,0,1,0,75.0,1,0,0,2,16,29,6,0,21,0,36,4,1,4,4,59,65,23,0,13,19,3,5,4,2,2,1,1,0,2,16,9,0,1,10,1,4,9,13,9,0,1,6,7,51,20,49,54,5,48,1,0,0,2,25,20,0,5,26,214,67,2,0.06825671809501548,0.0,0.06660871071077773,0.0,0.0,0.06669967494888067,0.06050546221652561,0.0,0.06834924350965697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09283381785441587,0.14314624067101905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246778525716054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20804330907384525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0603675203316805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07220655722668984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11403945891523976,0.23033886226140726,0.1209103851298066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17256323776872615,0.14628783913624865,0.0,0.0,0.06238540376413384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10546994216419787,0.0,0.035661318012498236,0.1309561272325664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07525327266713752,0.0,0.0,0.12071838078029795,0.0,0.0,0.2021681336604997,0.07005108482913304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06721911805476583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07124228003910013,0.06773426052492204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037512107197628944,0.055638335350245316,0.0,0.0,0.07416112392669605,0.0,0.0,0.13338713872487834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12320870600189973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07435157614805522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05448186117636576,0.5078226244326939,0.10035308303695756,0.05061149158971942,0.0,0.13184552734139598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07262996050954475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191982669124362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07694919389178033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13062492189159428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08745400284964698,0.0,0.0,0.2931286834815741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05254735631107358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10901980648295308,0.0570656726609502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06284161544259967,0.07805750577361753,0.0,0.09069346109518203,0.08747229773961204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04634183109786685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16103832321210293,0.05417900573511294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048487614153784435,0.0,0.0,0.2197754428439077
divorce,wwoovvyy,2020/02/17,After 11 years and 2 kids he threw us like rubbish and he is now living a new life How is this possible I still cant understand how a man does what he did to his wife and kids,1.3684166666666684,2.1186396750000043,3.4750000000000014,93.89666666666668,77.25,7.333333333333335,20.833333333333336,7.793537801064563,0.4333333333333336,137,3,35,2,3,47,32,40,0.0,0.932,0.068,0.3612,0,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,4,1,0,2,0,6,6,5,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,1,2,4,0,6,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,6,20,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3080533193332893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486407200363808,0.17197821107454853,0.0,0.3108383385523191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3399811728044013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3968473973021428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28112202525467045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3664631470211324,0.4234343047420027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22668804719693655
divorce,Xrae300,2020/02/17,"I have him the best years of my life My divorce was final in August.  Friday would have been our 25th wedding anniversary.  He took me for granted and was a control freak.  I know this is vague, but suffice it to say I gave up the very best parts of myself to have the white picket fence.  I left him and haven’t looked back.  But I’m grieving for all those years I burried who I was.  I gave him my 20s. And my 30s.  Now in my 40s, I’m finally who I was meant to be but I’m so sad for all that time lost.  I should have never married him.",-0.03045977011494116,1.8192981379310358,1.8110344827586216,99.29574712643681,84.86206896551724,4.55632183908046,18.287356321839077,5.46131890053228,-0.6259747126436781,408,10,100,2,12,134,72,116,0.134,0.784,0.083,-0.73,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,1,0,0,4,3,6,0,0,4,0,14,1,0,1,3,15,24,7,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,6,3,0,2,2,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,10,3,21,2,11,11,5,14,0,3,2,0,13,4,0,0,9,71,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16487262898340066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4500326182394237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404857179539065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.469764381152787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11783739761508058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329635549848215,0.0,0.15144832517697598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18005539436877174,0.0,0.23406033598676146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653707974997508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321915771122605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17051216795626914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12502766362533388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23822400772658914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176915612638356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523149376371811,0.0,0.0,0.27615368134867035
divorce,Patriarchal_Grip,2020/02/17,"Fresh. Divorced. Ex fiancé from years ago is back in the picture, sorta. Kinda fucked up story. 

In 2001 met this sweet beauty in college.  We fell in love. Boy it was amazing. Met her dad and mom. Dad says I cannot be with her unless I was Mormon and went on a Mormon mission.  My dumbass  goes on a mission. A year in. All is good. Girl of my dreams writes me once a week. Get an invitation to her wedding. Wtf. Like I’m gonna fly the fuck home from a Mormon mission and attend.  I say fuck it and go home early to see what happened to my love I went on this mission for.  She sees me at her front door a few days before her reception. She tells me she couldn’t help falling in love with this asshole. So I let it go. My heart breaks. Fucked up. I moved on. 

Meet my wife. Or ex. Have years of awesomeness. Then it just fell apart because I was working my ass of trying to better my life in my career. Finally make great money. The marriage suffers and we no longer cuddle, hold hands or have sex. It’s not fun.  We call it quits and get divorced. Hurts like a bitch and I still think about the good times. 

Anyway. Ex Mormon fiancé finds out I’m single again. I have two awesome kids. She has 6 kids and she is divorced from the guy she left me for. We text every now and then and I can tell she wants to hang but she has 6 god damn kids and I have 2.  That’s 10 People. Am I wrong to be scared to hang out with her for this reason? I am also scared because she broke my heart so viciously way back when. Someone talk some sense into me.",-0.7148882568061765,1.4637760436137093,1.137129215765949,99.33898110524176,95.41744548286604,3.5389678992279565,15.389475822836244,5.192301501255418,-0.9857114181227143,1174,27,268,6,46,381,176,321,0.14800000000000002,0.7440000000000001,0.10800000000000001,-0.9485,0,0,0,0,3,0,43.0,4,0,0,3,12,25,7,2,13,0,20,14,4,2,1,39,44,21,0,2,6,7,1,2,0,1,1,2,3,6,12,21,0,1,3,1,1,12,4,13,0,1,7,6,46,12,38,32,4,50,4,3,2,10,51,19,7,5,19,163,58,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09414556731245943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08493322136858744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16333233493244506,0.0,0.12948487386627358,0.0,0.09037382569524988,0.0,0.0,0.09393093186420157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108448611106867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.068494343102375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894834743933028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163439221459626,0.09707072740594763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3927444293271311,0.11097692315387997,0.0,0.1207190916541854,0.17816178226489046,0.0,0.1170929332299494,0.0,0.1051610358016493,0.09391797060347508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25171019564708635,0.07118791257644058,0.0,0.213067361645204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11369615003504685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153935666109408,0.10860324182625272,0.07501672268249616,0.10377416672316186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28756627334419577,0.0,0.07089359809172954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12438765449619092,0.0,0.11288059745800234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11310635200858413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07363014656611973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11296358181190007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091978699850635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16891918748681214,0.21266227266875568,0.0,0.16926550373013688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08998833982590336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08481656989002287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08536468296140556,0.18565815330157587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06805277402352372,0.0,0.0,0.06192980713957711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07210717543804225,0.0,0.10374822243411616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06264328765721651,0.08430169846655702,0.08519236947367599,0.0,0.0,0.1969087975210908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07731952562322278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11612002810941735,0.0,0.20518032246915527
divorce,jamesphea,2020/02/17,"Miss my wife So, I made the poor decision to sext someone recently that had lead to my wife asking for a divorce. She claims to me and friend that my emotional unavailability was the key to her decision. I am holding on hope that things could work, but I lose hope each day. 

Currently she is still living in the house. She works part time and we accumulated quite a bit of debt that she will be paying her part with very little funds. I have been trying to do my part and become a better person. I realize the error of my ways and really want to commit to my wife. But I fear it is too late. 

I am spending the week in a hotel, because the child I have from a previous relationship is spending the week with her mom. Even during this ""separation"", she has been texting nonstop, not with I miss yous, but with more hurtful things, such as we need to file soon, you going to keep your promises if I choose to move out soon, and others. I can't hold my tongue, because I just want to talk to her, but the poking hurts. 

I miss her so much. I was a fool to hurt her and very impatient to let her heal. I just want to hug her and tell her everything will be alright. 

Just feeling lonely I guess. Thanks all.",3.8075230918813823,4.741169227272729,4.8336655323286335,85.7622095284395,71.60330578512395,8.008167233835684,24.979095770539626,8.313332769828598,1.3290667963052991,931,26,199,14,17,305,138,242,0.157,0.695,0.149,-0.8464,2,2,0,0,1,0,29.0,2,2,0,6,11,18,0,1,14,1,21,2,0,2,2,44,37,15,0,8,9,4,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,9,15,0,3,5,1,6,3,2,10,0,0,6,1,42,8,28,25,8,19,0,8,0,1,30,5,0,4,10,145,51,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11068477120773247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14434684895288685,0.1307596630964025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10471210751464753,0.1292583440088523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09452999349592912,0.0,0.0,0.07635596577972915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13318015812365258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07819979003793112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10640716500287148,0.0,0.0,0.1332290100547273,0.05986484191179142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09147286374180698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06728747524105645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13042712359812875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351889334924959,0.0,0.13661369694692801,0.3802377954798709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10523627396815192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335564404340306,0.0,0.0,0.12106847136352,0.0,0.0,0.11866442481577698,0.10454630323956134,0.0,0.0,0.13245543003442994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11202965738466968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13866458250334834,0.0,0.1258367720063549,0.08703507086804775,0.08778952522318799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38463570609727854,0.0,0.0,0.10337928137446173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12592928111293902,0.0,0.0,0.07584784747380728,0.0,0.116902287814122,0.12711356227531506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10031699385818424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945516201009019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09516264432606117,0.10348378390193867,0.10900361579314934,0.0,0.0,0.15731478445521627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06903796752422335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0803834706756852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19537906997056045,0.2095000190687996,0.09397765292331532,0.1899411061875121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723881647793182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,hawthornestreet,2020/02/17,"I just had a baby 5 weeks ago and I want a divorce. 29F here married for 4 years. 

What do I do? My maternity leave is up in 3 weeks. My husband wants me to quit and be a stay at home mom. If I quit, then I will be stuck.

I make a decent income of 75K and have benefits and can afford an apartment in my city. But what will happen with my baby? I don't have any day care planned out. 

I also am not 100% sure I want this.... I feel miserable about 70% of the time. He doesn't get along with my family and my cat hates him. I know that sounds dumb but it makes me so sad. He loves his daughter though and I would feel terrible if he couldn't see her that often anymore. 

I just feel stuck because I have no one here in this city. No friends or family. My family all lives in other states far away.",-0.2347334617854813,1.5812726589595414,2.0727842003853603,97.32018464996791,85.41618497109826,5.462941554271034,17.125561978163134,6.691623216298621,-0.3457100834938984,602,13,150,7,18,204,112,173,0.162,0.748,0.09,-0.8906,2,0,0,0,1,0,23.0,0,0,0,3,9,10,2,1,6,0,17,1,0,2,2,32,34,15,0,7,8,3,3,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,8,10,0,0,4,0,0,0,6,5,0,1,3,5,26,5,16,25,1,19,0,2,1,1,12,10,1,4,7,98,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13800566717904675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12450151627145553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10587137508287298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15439803097206467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14627150896932886,0.0,0.0,0.09490434291081534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15873158781791313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10040416970946243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4402988703816468,0.0,0.23615756878570002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028211340339227,0.0,0.08133916847353323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13767203877180695,0.0,0.0,0.1537070491713923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15616509750445864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08556059554713663,0.0,0.0,0.16484830397613376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13747301426640504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14051210461966435,0.0,0.20784235695136186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18233679755320528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105496420738917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.331181061836842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12406106543044595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659398660046826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14673159770362626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15296006361251582,0.0,0.09078137820553496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27548175514405737,0.0,0.2497627901855037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11059440414266547,0.0,0.0,0.1002562595446464
divorce,surlygurly52,2020/02/17,"is this cool? My husband (46M) and I (53F) separated in late September 2019 after 20 years together, 17 married. A couple weeks later he announced his new relationship with a woman he moved next door to.  He threw our 12 year old daughter into the mix immediately. I was in deep shock. Our separation was mutual but I was not expecting him to move on immediately. Our marriage had been broken for some time and I thought we would take time to find friendship again for the sake of our daughter.  I wanted us to do it right.  Our daughter was devastated that her dad had a gf so quickly. She asked her dad to step back and take some time to be with just her before he had a gf.  He refused to give up his gf and told our kid that he deserves to be happy and his gf makes him happy.  He told me “I want my cake and eat it too”.  He actually said that.  Our daughter is refusing to spend time with gf (gf has two kids, ages 6 and 20 and they are already spending time with my ex) and our daughter will no longer spend more that two days at a time with her dad.  We were supposed to be 50/50 custody.  I am truly heartbroken that he moved on so fast.  I am not so emotional about the relationship between ex and gf, I am sick thinking about my daughter and gf.  I am not ready to share her yet.  I don’t know this person at all.  It feels so surreal and weird. Tbh, I feel that my ex has been incredibly selfish and disrespectful through this.  Am I off base thinking it was way too early to introduce our 12 year old to new gf and expect her to do family type things with them?  Our daughter feels angry/sad/confused/betrayed. I have great anxiety about it all.  I feel jealous when I think of my daughter with the gf and it feels so horrible.  I want to be cool and accepting but I just can’t.  My daughter and I have a close relationship so I don’t know why I am experiencing these destructive and insecure feelings.  I do not express negative feelings to my kid.  I actually, at first, tried to help her come to terms with the gf.  But, my kid was mad at me for not supporting her decision to not accept gf.  So confusing and so hard to navigate.  My ex has decided that his plan of action is to ride it out and that eventually our kid will just accept it.  I hate him for that.  I feel sick every time she goes to her dads place.  Our daughter loves her dad but she is so deeply hurt by him. My ex and I have no relationship now and barely speak.  I feel very lost and lonely when I think of my daughter with my ex and his new family. Any advice on how to navigate this?",2.3436320653341944,4.131106114119923,4.091440361057384,86.19195959595959,76.83365570599614,7.535594240275094,25.02854072641307,8.378751543991594,1.5424992821835375,1979,70,424,38,45,666,222,517,0.187,0.7340000000000001,0.08,-0.9965,0,2,0,0,0,0,55.0,15,0,2,3,25,23,4,2,11,2,42,4,0,2,2,89,75,40,0,6,13,23,10,0,12,3,2,2,1,7,23,39,1,2,22,0,3,8,12,12,0,3,18,15,82,11,60,50,6,59,0,3,0,1,107,17,0,3,33,285,105,1,0.0,0.0,0.1599918520601698,0.0,0.0,0.08010517252930427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09046162176714534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05574591631429522,0.0,0.06271076904889991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0766357039089015,0.0,0.0,0.0630338340196529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06975481898243317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07061433728705173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09070394959783656,0.0,0.05286719321297873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08388104848393023,0.0,0.09221101559987596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06906760348148136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545577606938042,0.0,0.3730419121186444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07492380638535799,0.06972802479892773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07863803814466935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09037789756870457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17452815322051585,0.07343363714270014,0.08093349399985117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0549462183027612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08775609866774853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09010280248912217,0.0,0.0924715452048942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08948556507010702,0.0,0.07398577773398976,0.0,0.0547190523789222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26137984914560464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375163459865601,0.08718150712149958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17203827052219114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07157754324539628,0.08564658924747053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35204255165524395,0.0,0.07000633429765106,0.07797714433980107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302443422160762,0.0,0.0,0.12327022895685485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05446065032458766,0.21010547674592173,0.0,0.06507911620042273,0.3346026039490413,0.0,0.0,0.15666154676587335,0.0,0.05565574912117016,0.0,0.1601556295745343,0.0,0.09860601789415524,0.0,0.0,0.06763808784570355,0.14505321061859067,0.06506806225373095,0.06575552451834714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07396982679057858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05823279799039587,0.0,0.0,0.1583679360975139
divorce,BatFace,2020/02/17,"Weird living situation in Louisiana. Questions about process and child support/custody. We've lived in Louisiana since feb of 2018. We live in a RV(we used to travel for his work), in my parents backyard. His family is in Alabama and other than my parents my family is in Texas. We've been married 10 years and have 3 children,  8 boy, almost 4 girl and 3 month boy. Also a dog, 10 year, 50lbs, who legally doesnt count but he is family and I feel bad leaving him out.

I read today that with minor children we have to live separately for a year. Any chance him in the rv and us in the house would count? It's very wet and I dont know how soon we'd be able to move the rv. We would be at the same mailing address but separate buildings. How do people manage to get divorced while still living in the same house until its finalized? 

Also, how does custody and child support work while separated but not divorced? 

I've been a SAHM for many years, I have started looking for work but so far haven't had luck. Previously we made just barely too much for childcare assistance but he lost his job last tuesday so I suspect I could get it now.

Also, if I live at the house and he in the trailer, do I have to count his income when filing for assistance? 

And lastly, I think, how in the world do I pay for any of this?",2.8212499999999987,4.518011958333336,4.242272727272732,86.0209090909091,75.25,6.921212121212123,25.63636363636364,7.686295010490155,1.3374227272727266,1023,36,209,14,22,339,143,264,0.073,0.898,0.028999999999999998,-0.9077,4,0,0,0,2,0,32.0,6,0,0,4,16,5,0,0,12,0,22,0,0,6,0,42,33,29,0,4,8,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,7,7,16,0,0,5,2,1,2,4,3,0,0,5,3,25,2,32,22,3,36,0,1,1,0,29,16,0,4,18,134,32,8,0.09605388660231423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09618409247704487,0.0,0.0,0.2304427752376719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13063987343539055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08020098313940863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07669121247605955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08405740346140436,0.0,0.11257443972589336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716531671350181,0.0,0.04856773116249738,0.0,0.0,0.1052223376959504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10036838254348228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33249986609217475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09531866109495216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052788704050481326,0.15659347544470545,0.0,0.10170719682550336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5089040499517457,0.0,0.08066107295642938,0.0,0.10485416392783704,0.0,0.0,0.0908885099889259,0.0,0.09738356476109994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07666929587843488,0.10209008022047968,0.07061065875454438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133129477215507,0.0,0.0,0.06659167065781639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10760233595924083,0.0,0.09607988014817873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07945676759091029,0.10796859304108697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06798743532375914,0.0,0.07670875791847169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180016244525028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06154745204881254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09104785321283022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11554099877946515,0.08295971771680331,0.0,0.07925451602370218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097851203282585,0.0,0.0,0.13646785024328584,0.0,0.0,0.2474222148860533
divorce,t-as-in-tango,2020/02/17,"I’m torn. I keep thinking it’s time to end it, but I just can’t pull the trigger. I’m 33 f and my husband is 35. He’s honestly a good guy, almost perfect on paper. He’s got a good job, he is good looking, generous and loyal. He still thinks I’m the love of his life... I don’t know why I just don’t feel that way for him. Is this stupid? Leaving someone who loves you tremendously because you don’t think you’re “in love” with them?

I’m torn.

Is there anyone who got a divorce simple because they fell out of love?",-0.9301264222503178,1.0869767522123936,1.5507774968394443,98.3203761061947,91.21238938053101,4.290518331226297,19.575853350189632,5.773587663045528,-0.26873147914032897,395,13,95,3,14,134,73,113,0.068,0.563,0.369,0.9937,1,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,0,2,2,1,4,11,1,0,5,0,8,5,0,1,1,16,25,3,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,6,4,0,1,5,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,2,2,11,10,8,23,0,9,0,0,1,4,19,3,0,1,3,45,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621020784916195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11319210475092716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197364307696426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14337996833860073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08185272602059393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4073384299426291,0.2589446684300854,0.0,0.0,0.16028926320047618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606435397435143,0.14388872709687464,0.0,0.0,0.08896646448584243,0.0,0.0,0.17141034009241274,0.0,0.0,0.11434249496335955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13594064509910406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5844216060225728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13716263421496172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12927968416463842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31118357451956674,0.0,0.0,0.09439506829576813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12849490337124667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14607390195177133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,OnePlinko,2020/02/17,"why does my friend have to keep paying $4000/month in alimony to his ex-wife after they split all assets 50/50 during the divorce? I have a family friend who is a cardiology doctor. He is my sister-in-law's oldest brother.

He was married to his wife for about 30 years. They got married back when he was still in med school. 

When they got divorced 5 years ago, their arrangement was 50/50 split of assets.(including selling the house and splitting the money) 

On top of that, he is still paying her about $4000 per month in alimony. 

I don't have the heart to ask him if he simply got a bad divorce attorney or not.... Apparently he will have to continue paying for another 8 or 9 years, or until she re-marries. 

The ex-wife is currently living with a much younger man who is about 30 years younger than her. :(

He's a nice guy and his ex-wife has always been a b*tch.(okay, so I'm biased)",4.465677966101693,5.314048745762714,5.362500000000002,82.88747881355934,70.01694915254237,8.385875706214689,27.17937853107345,8.59863814320734,1.782442937853108,696,22,142,11,12,228,104,177,0.039,0.885,0.076,0.6486,2,0,0,0,3,0,36.0,0,0,4,1,9,4,0,0,11,0,16,2,1,0,1,10,22,10,0,1,5,2,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,2,3,3,0,1,0,0,5,0,2,1,0,0,7,0,15,3,20,14,2,21,0,0,0,0,30,5,0,4,16,80,18,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472906914063695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13825831527441526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17423310217187585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553370402524937,0.0,0.0,0.12776667679622522,0.13873654356690712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.170071658693855,0.1454076142330218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566407292530922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567493931103557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39867965988651394,0.0,0.0,0.16452438616496626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19690023550362815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19172617072911666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476905191838284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14672220159441976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18456614768987828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652544318413952,0.0,0.12214661655156478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16816265034595285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653909595202963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14993343018414504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42800601128906185
divorce,gingermom4585,2020/02/17,"Addictions/bad habits on future relationships Those who have left someone with an addiction or brutal habits, how have you fared in future relationships with those same items? Example, alcoholic who drank and how you navigate alcohol consumption in a future relationship. Next person doesn't deserve that (so long as there's no actual issue!), I am in early days yet, but cannot for the life of me see how I am not going to be sensitive about so many things STBXH was addicted to or lying about.",10.700999999999999,8.951545211111117,10.229444444444443,61.7975,58.0,14.777777777777779,38.05555555555557,13.427899808715575,5.301555555555557,399,14,66,13,4,130,70,90,0.102,0.898,0.0,-0.8419,0,0,2,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,0,0,9,1,1,0,3,0,8,6,0,3,0,11,11,10,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,6,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,2,1,5,0,13,8,2,14,0,0,1,0,8,5,0,2,8,50,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.17712958394142286,0.3957498680473551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.387962374610204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15155498560750788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11706026047431453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10315748478775903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894514289153218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972133807363796,0.0,0.12820733361902886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16063245835645928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840247360823704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930401315438216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584893266919381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.584628059817561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446416087701616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15379457664009802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12058854509097915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,g0hl,2020/02/17,"Wife decided officially she would like to end our marriage What the title said. I'm at a loss for words. I don't know what to say, I don't know what to do, I don't have anyone to fall on and talk to. She's been absent in my life since she left the house in December, my heart is heavy and hurts, but I still think I'm in shock.",3.8594594594594622,2.6231599459459503,5.179054054054056,90.88182432432434,71.16216216216216,9.021621621621623,23.90540540540541,8.07648339933343,0.7430648648648641,252,4,67,3,4,85,49,74,0.105,0.87,0.026000000000000002,-0.6542,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,3,0,8,2,1,0,0,9,14,3,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,4,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,2,2,10,1,11,11,0,9,0,2,0,0,9,6,0,0,3,39,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19619322042779005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485171363769895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3324973968691501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32376016471522634,0.30037459407246697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3084069726587369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3048590099018407,0.0,0.19818716480246493,0.13708082109671152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669028527199777,0.2231343469271468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23210478066034326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22407744451752695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255255079855657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17978906380312984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19932122466261748,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwaway376895,2020/02/17,"I miss companionship so I use chat apps I'm (39F) am going through a divorce. I rely on chat apps to appease my lonliness. They only make me feel more lonely. For the most part, I'm quite happy. I have a full life between a fulfilling career and being a single mom. But times like this, I want to download a chat app again and get some attention. Since it only exasperates my lonliness, I'm really trying not to do that again. What do you all do when you want attention from a man (or woman) when you're feeling lonely? Again, I'm pretty happy in my life and I'm not looking for a relationship. 

Thanks,",1.5188874761602025,3.8594879834710767,3.838347107438018,84.12157660521298,82.38842975206613,6.698283534647173,21.704386522568345,7.882392219407189,1.2420726001271452,470,15,92,9,13,162,77,121,0.059000000000000004,0.7509999999999999,0.18899999999999997,0.9294,0,4,0,0,2,0,18.0,0,2,1,1,6,7,0,0,8,0,6,2,0,2,1,18,22,8,0,2,4,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,4,3,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,3,12,4,10,21,7,10,0,3,1,0,12,3,0,3,7,60,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127470773396453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10991392603862032,0.0,0.11956277876914324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4479030100163016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29719268742567584,0.10278016151261699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766647022191046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14042908157512035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463924042560517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3200042009827028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278190885206612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21403026090759406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22376311080664024,0.0,0.0,0.1347736614449937,0.0,0.0,0.22586745409059256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17402702036115034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19368798061486572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12267321976636572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14283298766467384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18169921734783745,0.0,0.0,0.24817302519097956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,riyo-elephant,2020/02/17,"My husband called me garbage today and said he wish he never married me. We got into an argument about my car and I got frustrated and said I didn’t want to do this anymore because we’re always fighting about everything. 

He said “you’re fucking garbage and I wish I never married you.” After he calmed down I said I’m leaving to get coffee but I went to my cousin’s house and I don’t think I’m going back. The sad thing is I’ve been called worse by him: bitch, whore etc. 

I kept going back thinking he would change but I don’t think he ever will. Name-calling isn’t the only issue, there is no transparency in our finances and he make big purchases without consulting me, for example, he bought a commercial building in Detroit for $7,000 when he knows we are in debt. He helps out his family, giving his brother $3,500 for school, he gave his older brother money $7,000 cause he lost his job. I just don’t know what to do anymore. 

I know the right answer is to leave, but what makes it so hard and he always comes back and says he loves and cares but I know deep down he doesn’t. I’m tired of our families trying to keep us together, sometimes I wish someone would come and pull me out if this situation.",2.9175910931174087,4.4896915587044575,3.9884433198380576,88.46412246963565,74.70850202429149,6.88331983805668,25.30546558704453,7.554174236665415,1.1890293117408899,953,32,198,12,20,309,139,247,0.159,0.742,0.099,-0.9505,2,0,0,0,2,0,27.0,5,1,0,1,10,10,4,0,5,0,16,4,0,3,3,46,53,17,0,7,7,4,1,0,0,3,1,5,0,0,6,17,0,2,8,0,5,7,10,7,0,0,13,6,31,3,23,37,1,28,0,2,0,3,43,11,2,1,10,108,37,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16496662404551446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19661876490153826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286723655074943,0.0,0.060428149793868575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20244369002269025,0.0,0.10106867474645743,0.10183284238274506,0.1048653925862426,0.17078180099425794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11055509615399076,0.0,0.089667902448819,0.0,0.0,0.08909079973104342,0.0,0.18690009524289256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09164321089194384,0.05179083807836198,0.09509361906497976,0.11267464894768565,0.0,0.15856511640681206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08880015933456037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06644411375995375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143816162651056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034649753703782,0.09837028788376156,0.08811045579764137,0.0,0.0,0.21791493731888087,0.0,0.0,0.2099267051518625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10821106982522112,0.0,0.08946783935681392,0.0,0.1323388234316125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15290887146560522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07539211069426922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08465566846402471,0.3771777137157197,0.07883140060864173,0.0,0.10032389250171786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11142520738175662,0.0,0.0,0.08399172376407757,0.0,0.0980411667899208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06585693715387361,0.1905536808953665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11393426238140178,0.09396275009384164,0.0,0.0,0.06730211905805793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11924004367823875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058468882999262076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09189362399675824,0.0,0.0,0.3419805516357947,0.09555686834731156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010209724474802,0.14083686825958794,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,c968,2020/02/18,"A song that will break your heart and torture you at the same time... In the middle of a divorce and I’m falling apart. This song sums it up pretty good.


https://open.spotify.com/track/6668ZaUUXqZ25Tb0DMr2HO?si=rPgF7xu8Q4-BxX-Gxw6aIg",9.987272727272726,14.817203484848484,4.505212121212125,74.51781818181819,74.75757575757575,3.852121212121212,18.72121212121212,5.6839178017228535,-0.2884496969696966,197,4,27,1,5,49,29,33,0.146,0.691,0.162,0.1531,0,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,1,4,1,1,8,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,1,17,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4494392365467508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6349759006926677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5451444254795945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3124540503183338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,turkeypieohmy,2020/02/18,"So emotionally drained I don’t know what to do with myself. My (28f) husband (32m) of 2yrs (5yrs together total) was diagnosed with bipolar disorder last year. A lot of our past relationship makes sense now. He would have highs which I attributed to his success at work and lows that I attributed to his lack of success at work. Turns out he’s just better at his job when manic. He would be on a high for a while and on top of the world, spending a lot of money, talking about all these big plans and how much he could afford, he would get risky and hyper sexual. He even attempted to initiate sex in a vary public place. I knew something was wrong and told him he needed to see a doctor. He finally did (after leaving 2 appointments before even seeing the doctor because he was depressive and panicked about how much the visits may cost) and was prescribed a medicine that took away the highs but left the lows. He lasted maybe 6 weeks on this medication before stopping it. Then he had a very bad episode. He spent weeks sobbing, he couldn’t function, he was forced to quilt a job. We ended up in the ER. I had to hide the gun. I was terrified he would hurt himself. All of this while I had started a new job and was already under a good amount of stress from that. He went a couple months not working while getting better which I supported him through. I went to every doctors appointment and he ended up on a medication that has helped him tremendously. He’s been working a new job for about a month now and acts like he now works too much to contribute anything to the relationship or the household as far as labor goes. The thing is, he never did before. I have always worked multiple jobs to try to get us to a good place financially and I have saved aggressively, paid off debt aggressively, and worked so hard to get to a place where I feel comfortable to start a family. I want children so badly. I’m now realizing after this episode though how much I carry us. I love him but even for the last month of his unemployment where he was feeling much better he did nothing around the house. I feel like he takes for granted everything I do. I feel like his mother and caretaker rather than his wife. The thought of having kids (which I desperately want) is somewhat terrifying now with these realizations. He does not believe in saving money like I do, he does not contribute around the house, he doesn’t show appreciation for how much I put in, and I am now scared at how unreliable he can be. What if I end up parenting him and the kids while carrying every other load and doing every bit of emotional labor? I am so unfulfilled and unhappy. And I feel so guilty because I know some of these feelings come from his illness. I’ve tried to talk to him. I had us do the love language test and he completely shot down my results and acted like I want him to buy me stuff and run my errands for me because I got my top result as acts of service and my gifts was my third result. Our languages were almost exact opposite. He then did one load of laundry (his own clothes) and one load of dishes and he said there I did it, I showed you I love you in your language. When I explained that these are shared responsibilities and not at all what I was trying to get across with the love language test, he got upset and just shut down. I feel like we are doomed and heading for divorce. I never wanted to feel like this but I can’t help it. Is there any hope for us? I’m sorry for the wall of text. I am just so frustrated and so exhausted and I really needed to vent. I have no one to talk to about this and when I try to talk to him he shuts down.",4.23817080977275,5.4542225020804445,5.070759361997227,83.40352088445536,70.85852981969487,8.20912194601515,27.18022511469113,8.617729084823388,1.8415308652512528,2868,96,577,48,52,932,315,721,0.151,0.7170000000000001,0.132,-0.941,11,0,1,1,1,0,67.0,8,3,0,16,40,40,3,3,36,0,53,16,1,11,7,108,102,60,0,16,13,4,9,7,0,5,9,1,0,3,26,40,1,1,14,2,8,10,11,16,1,4,32,12,78,24,94,61,18,94,1,6,2,5,86,46,1,9,45,389,104,23,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05247376494076365,0.0,0.057827716077122636,0.0,0.04360326959123745,0.0,0.0,0.0356356536408338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043122982120395455,0.09329908016693646,0.0,0.0,0.049234090206847145,0.0,0.08750818204745983,0.0958326542089424,0.0,0.13377259179070727,0.059039932320458316,0.0,0.13903786973854998,0.05721020941285618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04514031218808938,0.054943265824802114,0.0,0.0,0.04183931617851814,0.05798262447603316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0451343949103902,0.05318766829113058,0.0,0.0,0.0600580690024999,0.16090924518655747,0.09171596502441068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11789203697936368,0.13923979555023722,0.0,0.0,0.10383452762952848,0.0,0.13245468142950018,0.0,0.04709619513944655,0.0,0.049400630501205856,0.0,0.21197116014462092,0.14974608428437464,0.0,0.0574046297322261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13689131896545878,0.0,0.0,0.08790584806414345,0.08382250116901957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04694255349665633,0.0,0.053780319582470086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07024889117514531,0.1660990853437369,0.0,0.052047735254021635,0.0,0.12093143032163495,0.056098206716404565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600081202595188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0575983403603581,0.1281456581352647,0.0,0.055486925140757086,0.056935719912137216,0.0,0.0,0.17920928977827538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08910185490001478,0.1891820405147828,0.0,0.03497922945846132,0.0,0.05264558609638918,0.0,0.0,0.1055804756701266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254820783715042,0.0,0.2311322182937505,0.07771192120378456,0.0808324324266603,0.10122176713230108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05028183313197895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10652833894497774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058187030668472736,0.0,0.050024335663044685,0.0,0.0,0.16424909975830612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05267921778715806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03357053094532692,0.0,0.0,0.11252184255875768,0.0,0.0,0.049846996718607726,0.0,0.05246427486451755,0.0,0.0835163830550338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040342182030679616,0.0,0.05866056641241735,0.07418184459048123,0.0,0.0,0.04381102905658614,0.060027150627301726,0.0,0.0599885890690391,0.0,0.0594659974618743,0.0,0.0,0.03940033166345396,0.1684773188739678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034814045589988706,0.0,0.05148541655861907,0.04160191449889454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0500730545705851,0.058221361625219036,0.1423120565546836,0.056999122856582526,0.0,0.0,0.25213612999141904,0.0,0.0,0.043237740641096784,0.12363395240055118,0.0,0.0840686188920455,0.0,0.0,0.09715571216977707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26704868293272915,0.0,0.0,0.14890158468452658,0.057294159378209586,0.0,0.033745640289095664
divorce,arabstar,2020/02/18,Need advice I found out my wife was cheating and she got me arrested on September 27/2019 She put charges on me and got me arrested now she Has a full restraining order on me I cannot go nowhere near her or the kids. I filed my taxes and I found out that someone else has claimed my children as dependents. This has got to be some kind of tax fraud or something. she is a housewife who has never worked a day in her life. What am I supposed to do so I can get my tax returns,1.6467555555555575,3.4093865200000018,3.0213333333333345,93.19122222222224,78.8,6.4444444444444455,27.11111111111111,7.3871296695380915,1.2786777777777778,372,16,84,5,9,121,67,100,0.156,0.8440000000000001,0.0,-0.9403,0,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,2,2,1,0,4,0,11,1,0,1,1,14,19,7,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,4,5,0,1,2,0,3,2,2,1,0,0,6,0,20,1,11,12,2,15,0,0,0,0,10,8,0,4,4,60,24,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22531466744408196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487014343939743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19261535217887515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.505625929425096,0.0,0.0,0.12046562467900795,0.0,0.13104076391304625,0.0,0.5532343125441763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401077903100383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16286154098520542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709680205357275,0.17783321725934942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23179099033784506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19536496891201285,0.17750746343770468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16786093341533492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,redladybug1,2020/02/18,"My ex was mugged and beaten... My exh who lives in a big city in India was mugged and beaten on his way back from work last week. 10-15 men jumped him and stole his watch and cash. He was able to fend a few of them off but he has some injuries, including some to his eye. He even had to go see an eye specialist. :/ 

We have a son, age 12, who lives with me in the US. I don’t quite know how to handle or manage this information in terms of telling our son. 

Also, even though we are divorced and I am seriously dating someone else, I cried at the thought of this happening to my ex. I’m really upset.",1.831496062992123,2.981394866141734,3.485834645669293,92.6909566929134,76.71653543307087,6.969763779527558,20.574015748031496,7.554174236665415,0.3515896062992123,456,10,110,6,10,152,89,127,0.111,0.889,0.0,-0.9229999999999999,0,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,4,0,1,4,6,4,2,1,6,0,9,2,2,1,0,16,15,10,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,8,0,0,3,0,1,2,1,4,0,0,5,4,16,0,17,10,4,17,0,0,4,0,22,8,0,3,6,68,20,4,0.2260208377465754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807487822868568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17379607279341486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482732771437048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18881140757682371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2985692633566482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12845285074362864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19986948037401706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12421514146995866,0.1842371493628212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3991610812478648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24040098239832305,0.0,0.0,0.14479473625477507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18010934466750989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191506722357332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975521744621926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22206432551553676,0.17943529839821176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718752385973894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17940482059920465,0.1813002826735362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16454586177469238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ftwin,2020/02/18,"My marriage is over...wtf happened? Right after Christmas I made [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/ehbx91/my_wife_wants_a_divorce_i_am_gutted_and_have_no/) (read this for important backstory). My wife and I had a really shitty few months and she wanted out, and ended up cheating on me w/ a coworker. Ever since then I have been trying to fix things, and do whatever I can to save out marriage.

She ditched me on NYE, and hasn't spent a single minute of time w/ me over the last 2 months. She spends 4 nights a week a lone at a bar in our neighborhood, coming home stumbling (she definitely has a drinking problem). I enrolled us in marriage counseling and she came to one session, and refuses to go to more. I've continued to go myself as it has really been helping.

I've done every single chore around the house since christmas while she does nothing but drink. I have made every single possible effort to try to make things better for her and she just does not care. She actually has the balls to say that she has been ""giving me a chance over the last month"" which is just complete bullshit.

She's starting to look at apartments and moving out of the home we own. We finally had a good conversation on saturday about how she just needed some time away from the house and me and maybe after a few months she would come home after she figured things out. The the next night she went to a bar crawl w/ some of her single friends and went home with another guy, not coming home till 6 am. Again, she insists nothing happened, but I don't care, nor do I believe her.

At this point I'm just done and need her gone. I cannot live with this toxic, awful, cheater in my life. The woman I married is gone and I despise this new version of her. I tried to kick her out of the house last night she refused. I am done fighting for someone who is so incredibly disrespectful to her husband. Hopefully she moves out soon.

No I have not been a perfect husband. I don't do enough chores, I play video games, and sometimes I say stupid shit. But NOTHING I have EVER done is worthy of being treated like this. She is irrational, childish, cruel, and an alcoholic. This is not how adults act and I'm fucking done. She needs therapy as she is mentally unstable.",4.918283064287735,6.714968932242992,4.907434154630419,82.97916879071086,69.95794392523365,7.804701217785331,28.6239025771736,8.391295532112219,2.0455894080996893,1805,67,333,28,33,560,214,428,0.14800000000000002,0.768,0.084,-0.9857,0,0,3,0,3,0,70.0,4,0,0,3,13,20,7,0,23,1,39,8,1,5,3,64,68,29,0,7,11,3,0,1,1,1,2,2,7,3,14,32,5,2,1,9,2,13,10,9,0,1,19,3,58,11,52,47,12,66,0,1,1,1,51,23,2,3,31,237,72,2,0.0,0.0,0.06985286173678744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07649846375093511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07505906097740801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06372238593967071,0.0,0.0,0.06725283233094691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806474264578983,0.0,0.06330769663793041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818697486325893,0.1459634748607334,0.0,0.0,0.1849824278785987,0.07505145781522278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12528226665595735,0.3662617660415176,0.0,0.14024452151140987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06339963891274879,0.07396244695931514,0.0,0.0,0.12949846881574595,0.1206203864598992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07841363417465125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05530340708269101,0.0661756055609703,0.0,0.06866714692078144,0.08136241684367163,0.06003885961870931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07087657729496691,0.1265979219797535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047979325704894826,0.0,0.35900857222357546,0.07109621803791198,0.0,0.24778505623217825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750445356926946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0505598723242858,0.034970926697831216,0.0,0.0632074533423119,0.0,0.0601101249548054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135463600771627,0.04778096322999495,0.0,0.07191287093617288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07213694768654308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285415150844369,0.1521588358244123,0.0,0.15922951307345484,0.0,0.06913350591623266,0.0761273487936445,0.20152213755109646,0.0,0.20605208781418746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04850522938788528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06766730933220486,0.08069697407924832,0.06855494016230906,0.0,0.0,0.06849347863744032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160050554335458,0.0,0.09171341562082724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06112989789697607,0.0,0.11384838269465085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734770060919779,0.11842530859896895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06065046311778871,0.0,0.07079557251520788,0.0,0.05066549554672351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08185926585485967,0.0,0.14266597560686725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08347907053463598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14579667519904707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08610329145743255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04222040783263109,0.0,0.057418068526172476,0.0,0.0,0.132712857962775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05084918430770592,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,PlatinumLipBalm,2020/02/18,"How bad are your taxes after your divorce? I just did my taxes this year and I got fucked.

Every year I was married we got about $1,500 - $2,000 refund. Now that I'm divorced I owe $1,200.

Did anyone else get screwed over?",0.6068085106382988,2.6944688297872372,2.1355744680851068,96.49400000000004,84.1063829787234,3.76,17.910638297872342,3.1291,-0.8433200000000003,173,4,38,0,5,56,36,47,0.24100000000000002,0.759,0.0,-0.9092,1,0,0,0,2,0,12.0,1,2,0,0,4,3,2,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,0,4,10,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,3,0,0,5,0,8,0,3,5,0,5,0,0,0,2,5,1,2,0,4,21,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332207562619691,0.3417538320536041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784941569358837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786320610768907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2810240442576648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3083547790178324,0.1742622533122695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5335290083540449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4295810253480675
divorce,embersAblaze,2020/02/18,"Exhausband would like to meet my boyfriend Divorce finalized a few weeks ago, we separated 2 years ago. Our relationship has been civil for the past 6 months, he was very angry and impulsive besides that. I don't see him in person often and it's for the better because of our past, he had explosive anger issues. We have 2 children and shared custody but Im the primary household.

I have a bf and we have been dating for over a year. He comes over 1 to 2 times a week and my boys love him, so do I. 

Received a text today from the ex, he says he stated, ""Hey. It was brought to my attention you have a new friend. I would like to meet him for the sake of the boys, please let me know when you can make it possible. Thanks"" 

It sounds totally civil but I'm mulling over his intentions. If I decide his intentions are pure, how would this meet go? 

My bf says it's up to me.

Any insight, advice or past experiences anyone would like to share?",1.944093567251464,3.987197000000002,3.4319298245614043,89.2579532163743,79.0,6.959064327485383,23.18713450292397,7.984000788550335,1.1673099415204682,730,24,156,13,18,240,116,190,0.024,0.812,0.16399999999999998,0.9805,0,0,0,0,1,0,24.0,5,2,0,1,4,10,1,0,12,0,19,1,0,4,2,28,28,12,0,5,4,1,0,3,3,4,0,3,0,4,7,9,0,0,4,0,0,4,1,1,0,0,6,4,23,9,18,17,2,26,0,0,1,1,37,5,0,3,19,94,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13898342537033248,0.2521528447901103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09671982663709194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09944903144123204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08670078750045547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12578899017484554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12251671354705812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13912614513517627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558036760550761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10988489709151927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08083137435471285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15363050258709898,0.1484489409973168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07816471602269877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14543763005342136,0.0,0.20845605455955546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12836620274922067,0.0,0.0949382055179914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11352492636051917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13736456005002276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4073177768869041,0.0,0.1241878873202482,0.0,0.1561234875385134,0.0,0.16034054970675635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15269950166844418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262106166032778,0.0,0.0,0.11333719554934525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13094431084876304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08293421290733792,0.0,0.13481538747478206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11735288543141695,0.0,0.0,0.2281732314162245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40413838348044695,0.0,0.0,0.18318016621303254
divorce,ThrowAway_48812,2020/02/18,"Just a brain dump. This is an absolute wall of text.  I don't blame anyone for not reading.  It's mostly just venting, anyway.  It's all over the place, and doesn't flow.  I know.

My wife (35) and I (43) have been together for 12 years, married for 6.  We have a house, and no kids.  I helped her get her Master's degree, and then she promptly quit her job.  Not due to laziness, but the job really was horrible.  And we agreed that I was making enough money that she could be a stay-at-home spouse, managing everything in the home.  (Laundry, dishes, bills, dogs, cleaning, basic maintenance, etc.)  

For a few years, things were fine, but we were getting into worse and worse arguments, and horrible things were being said.  She has a tendency to find out what your soft spot is, and aim right for it.  She says it's a ""defense mechanism"" from her abusive childhood.

For me, I've always had a problem with ""being good enough.""  My parents actively did not support my decision to join the military.  They never supported my career in computers.  They always told me that if I didn't go to college, I wouldn't be successful.  So I've always got a need to be ""better"".  This drive has turned into a computer programming career for the past 20 years where I now make $175K/yr.  I've still never been to college.  But I also have a tendency to take insults very personally.  This was made all the worse when we tried to have children and it turned out that it was because of me that we were unable to.  She swears she doesn't resent me for it, but it's getting hard to believe that.

But when we get into a fight, it's always about how I'm not doing enough.  We're not having sex enough.  The sex isn't good enough when we have it.  I need to clean more around the house.  I need to be more intimate.  I need to talk to her like the guys in her books.  I need to work more around the house (fixing toilets, replacing lightbulbs, etc.).  She's even (not even kidding) told me she'd like me to learn a Scottish accent to talk to her in bed with. 

When we would argue, I would get loud.  I come from a loud household.  In our household, arguments were loud.  That's how we would argue.  She'd say horrible things, and I'd yell.  Then she'd say she says horrible things because I yell.

We went to marriage counseling, and the counselor turned the entire conversation about how everything was from each person's own ""perspective"" and that ""no 'perspective' was wrong"".  I listened.  I learned.  But there was very little progress towards getting to the root problems.

I significantly toned down my voice, and for a few years, we were good again.  More like roommates at that point, but the arguments were few and far between.  She still argued the exact same, except that now she wielded ""perspective"" like a shield.  She would say how she didn't HAVE to see things from my perspective, because mine was stupid, but she was sorry if I was offended - from my perspective.

I've tried desperately to change to each of her demands.  I make sure not to leave clothes around.  I clean my own bathroom.  I empty the dishwasher when it finishes a cycle.  I wake up to take the dogs out one of the days on the weekend.  I even set up a ""scrum board"" at home for tracking my ""to-do"" list.  For instance, this last weekend I assembled and hung two corner shelves, hung 6 decorative items, and installed a vent hood over our stove.  Last weekend it was replacing toilet innards and such.  (These are what she refers to as ""blue jobs"").  

A year ago her stepfather committed suicide, and she's been going to a counselor since.  However, to hear her tell it, the counseling is more about me than her step father.  She even told me that the counselor asked her, ""Do you want to be with him for the next 50 years?"" to which she answered, ""No.""  During another argument, she even flat-out said she was going to move in with her dad, and we'd decide what to do with the dogs.  I begged her not to go.  This is when I took on the chore of emptying the dishwasher.

She also likes to have expectations of me that I simply have no idea about.  And then I get in trouble when I don't meet them.  As an example, ANY time I get up to go to the kitchen, to grab a drink or snack, I'll either ask if she wants something, or get it for her by default.  However, she NEVER does the same.  I get that this is just her.  We think about those things differently.  But half the time, if she's getting up anyway, and I ask if she'd mind getting water, that at the very least gets a snarky response.  But on the other hand, on the weekend I'm ""just supposed to know"" when she wants me to do something.  The other day, she wanted to go to Home Depot by 10 AM.  *No discussion was had about it.*  So I woke up late, got in the shower, and was ready to go at 1:30 PM.  This started a fight.

Another time (same weekend) she wanted to sleep in, and I was supposed to watch the dogs.  I literally told her that all she had to do was ask - I've literally never said no - but she yelled that she ""shouldn't have to ask"".  

Now, for further back story, she's been married before, and was incredibly insulting to that husband, too.  She's told me how awful he was (alcoholic, idiot, etc), but now I'm beginning to wonder.  One of her favorite stories was how they were at a party and he tried to join a conversation, and she said, ""Was I talking to you?""  When he answered ""No"" then she yelled, ""then why in the FUCK are you talking?""  Not in a playful manner, either.

So now I'm realizing how she's doing the same thing to me.  And she's done it for years.  I keep telling her she HAS to stop talking to me like that.  It hurts, and it infuriates me.  (Her ex's name is Jon.  This comes up later.)  We had drinks last night to celebrate a work achievement, and I went to bed after her.  She claims I'm ""always groping her"" when I drink, but what she's referring to as groping is: when I fall asleep, I like to reach out and touch her.  Maybe a hand, maybe a wrist.  This is unacceptable if I've had a drink.

So this morning, at some point around 2AM she absolutely loses her shit out of nowhere.  Screaming at me ""not to fucking touch her"" and swatting at me.  Turns out one of the dogs (who sleeps between us) had touched her, and she thought it was me.  I wasn't even facing her, and had my back to her, on the edge of the bed.

I was livid.  I feel like it's the last straw.  It's not that she *mistakenly* blamed me for touching her, it's that she thought *even speaking to me like that was okay*.  I got up and went to the guest bedroom for the evening.  At 5 AM I got up for work, and she got up, acting like nothing had happened.  I made it clear I still wasn't okay.  She apologized for ""the mistake"".  I told her that wasn't what she had to apologize for.  I'm not Jon, and I'm sick of being treated and talked to like I am.  Then I left.

We usually E-Mail throughout the day, upwards of 50 messages back and forth.  This is the ""apology"" she sent this morning:

> 1. I dont think you're jon or anything like jon and you know this.

> 2. I'm sorry you're upset by the forceful tone I used to tell you to stop touching me while I was sleeping. I apologize for directing it at you when it was the dog and not you. However, it's ok for me to use that tone even if it were you touching me and I wanted it to stop. I'm allowed to use a forceful tone when an action that is directly affecting me needs to stop.

> 3. You need to recognize that your standard MO after having drinks is that you come into the bed and attempt to cuddle with me after I've already been attempting to sleep or have been asleep for at least an hour.

> Again, I apologize for forcefully telling you to stop when it wasnt actually you. I am very sorry that you got blamed, were likely woken up (not sure if you were asleep or not), startled, probably jerked out of peaceful thoughts by me - seemingly out of nowhere from your perspective - forcefully telling you to stop doing what you werent even doing.

> I understand how that can be upsetting.

> From my perspective you were, again for the millionth time, attempting to drunkenly cuddle me in the middle of the night when we had to be up at 5. The final straw was the hanging on to my wrist after the strokes on my hip and shoulder.

> I'm sorry the real perpetrator was the dog and the blame was misplaced on you. I'm sorry I woke you up. Im sorry my tone ruined any peaceful, pleasant, happy thoughts or dreams you may have been having at the time. Im not sorry I used a forceful tone and I will likely use the same tone if you attempt to drunkenly cuddle me in the middle of the night in the future.

> But I am truly sorry that in this instance, all that forcefulness was directed at you and you had not done anything wrong. I'm sorry I was wrong in blaming you. It was a bit shocking to have felt all that and then be told it wasnt you. My brain instantly went to ghosts until i reached over and felt sandy laying sideways and penny was half on my hip.

So this just feels like a giant non-apology.  Again, she's sorry for ""the mistake"" but has no problem with the way she talks to me, downplaying it to ""a forceful tone"".  In our last argument, she said she was ""tired of being [my] mom.""  She literally doesn't have a job.  Her JOB is to maintain the house.  I don't even understand the argument.  But then she went on to say I ""act like a child"" as another condescending dig.  This was immediately after I'd told her she HAS to work on her condescending attitude and tone.  Even this ""apology"" has a lot of ""I'm sorrys"" in it without her actually taking any real blame, or addressing the actual problem - that she thinks it's okay to talk to her spouse like that on the regular.

I'm so incredibly depressed.  I'm alone.  My family lives states away, and my only friend and I aren't even that close.  I haven't been happy for a long time, but I've tried to put on a ""face"" to keep from bringing her down.  (She complains that I'm depressing if I don't.)  I'm an introvert, and don't make friends well - if at all.

But the kicker is that the good times with her ARE good.  She's capable of incredible sweetness.  She has a great sense of humor.  She's funny, and I love to make her laugh.  She's smart, and we can have intelligent conversations.  I do still love her, very much.  But I'm just SO depressed any more, and she doesn't seem to have any interest in solving the problem if it requires any change on her part.  She's fine if I'm the one who continues to change.  Counseling didn't seem to help, and I don't know what my other options are at this point.  

I feel like if we got divorced, I can at least be miserable alone.  Then she'd have a chance to find a guy that can give her a kid.  But I'd also miss her.  I'd miss her SO much.  And I don't know if I can handle that.  So I'm stuck between depression and crippling loneliness.  I don't even know that I'm looking for a ""solution"" here.  I just need someone to talk to.",2.761093375897847,4.324647184713378,3.9730968732367167,88.44827753518946,75.10555050045495,7.277518922738293,25.154670828228806,7.997543076469808,1.3101330279939614,8424,283,1803,130,179,2752,628,2198,0.14,0.752,0.10800000000000001,-0.9975,14,2,8,0,3,1,388.0,22,28,4,16,90,95,17,4,122,5,182,42,20,23,15,305,338,151,2,44,70,9,17,18,3,8,4,23,16,9,114,106,10,10,37,14,2,28,56,44,1,7,115,45,294,51,271,195,45,235,0,10,4,9,261,101,3,31,121,1248,408,24,0.0,0.031563824722985294,0.07798985010481095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.023614588734891497,0.028469860660658486,0.0,0.05518162859895221,0.02939769840781012,0.06391155154099082,0.11083230118651932,0.0,0.0,0.10869592673187296,0.08380250671323658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.018627178127003204,0.0,0.043844595941851416,0.0948603336440179,0.12452315505592418,0.0,0.02502898321893793,0.06145312031109499,0.0,0.04871815207602477,0.0,0.02266852053808442,0.03001394905618612,0.0,0.0235607515975389,0.029083778441531174,0.0,0.0,0.05947768794291788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08454417619860641,0.06884352558399758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02126972465875549,0.0,0.0,0.05154143065475198,0.0,0.0917793348521726,0.0,0.0,0.027832936787666268,0.0,0.0,0.023312681719722558,0.05452355999450376,0.03122166489845076,0.1304843845900681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13763025136745352,0.0891313072728923,0.24633485281804016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04788429613987661,0.0,0.025113646796862676,0.0,0.04040967285981767,0.0570944676987354,0.05115680036070935,0.029182615302139062,0.04869661676752887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041163710132274135,0.04925615959006735,0.18093665035966164,0.025555338093645245,0.10598014586716456,0.11172106495724203,0.14914405612251114,0.02937049019854836,0.0,0.052755210516693095,0.023557500516789388,0.056717157086301775,0.023864041739894017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030025007744566005,0.0,0.035712213041507214,0.0,0.08016571988005865,0.0,0.02623485169495768,0.12295507959813655,0.0285184730461848,0.030073108642546226,0.057551143454262835,0.0,0.13217952949718648,0.047357383379325886,0.0,0.0,0.08784327413757631,0.10857502439103464,0.03005087178555283,0.028207717709087105,0.0289442370571285,0.0,0.0,0.2342676245506349,0.02670009326436546,0.023523444800532943,0.02357539806060947,0.022370735278159897,0.029803138900149205,0.0,0.0226482181522932,0.04808694643767804,0.05041447434965185,0.08891141721609895,0.0,0.0535265498122041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026898619097022076,0.03120022947948807,0.0,0.028313907507430663,0.03916665863514247,0.15802468277969287,0.08218507080167183,0.0,0.02833174558481135,0.07499898553253807,0.0,0.025561621071708444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07220731263218291,0.02026077982234577,0.0,0.0,0.029580362063001825,0.028848323726188306,0.02543071787431416,0.0,0.046521718005820084,0.027832936787666268,0.0,0.07554970806636617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02872222639021425,0.1274535263427351,0.0,0.02678037214544053,0.0,0.0283347225223556,0.026647024215922143,0.06064388357133608,0.017066147706829557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02275025654101341,0.12670282309908273,0.12711030128569395,0.0,0.0,0.021228483569095426,0.0727556614465539,0.0,0.0,0.02734538737943472,0.0220367303419666,0.0,0.1066362162379582,0.0,0.022571828887828403,0.04101726234075079,0.0,0.3280320117218615,0.018855798244717024,0.02839449836027125,0.08509836301520704,0.1336324696714956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02913963390640417,0.060461092966989136,0.05021542093179738,0.0,0.06008947677607523,0.19270866853824656,0.11642186298971753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238881659914961,0.05120915354943133,0.0,0.08459614998420031,0.1087372329304666,0.030618548586495837,0.0,0.20364387964562655,0.02959781478603749,0.07234674308786868,0.11590587606903152,0.026023228439704373,0.05546597405281288,0.03204441749573311,0.11504123462354401,0.029339992691906663,0.10990318703810407,0.0942771189715418,0.02114544524792637,0.0,0.0,0.02395239309133105,0.12347687746970536,0.024038289572840182,0.0,0.0,0.02567983111586936,0.028889743101443918,0.07757641069640338,0.0,0.0814447424809889,0.07569664126390163,0.08737936748271201,0.0,0.12008617254258493
divorce,indugopal,2020/02/18,"Divorce Support Group in India Last year I started a support group for women with stories similar to mine, for women dealing with depression and/or going through divorce. 

Project Kintsugi, that’s the name of my support group, is a safe, close- knitted space for women to come and share their stories/talk about their experiences without fear of judgement. Through my support group, I do not directly offer solutions to their problems - we come together as people with similar stories, and we LISTEN. I have been doing this for a few months now, and I have been talking about it on my Instagram page as well. 

A lot of women write to me about their issues and/or text me when they are low. While I have been able to offer a lending ear or a shoulder, I only make them feel better temporarily. But some of the issues they deal with can be very serious and critical in nature, the kind that would need professional support and advice. Most of them do not know where to start, and to help them get assistance when they need it the most, I am working on putting together a repository of useful professional contacts from where they can seek help.

 If you know any lawyers, therapists, psychiatrists, support forums, or any other useful contacts, please help us by sharing the details in the Google form- 
https://forms.gle/ySMB6om13p9WGbNN8

The expectation is not for you to personally vouch for any of them, but through personal experience or through word of mouth, if you know someone who can help these women, then please be kind enough to share details here. It could be of great help to someone in dire need.

To read about Project Kintsugi and my story: 
https://www.instagram.com/indugopal/

I have been on Twitter for few weeks now and I know what #shareforkarma means but I wish you good karma even without all that, but  share no? Please? <3",7.842711640211643,9.194523632716047,6.706772486772491,74.45833333333336,62.67283950617285,9.257848324514992,35.49029982363316,9.362217197678863,3.3573114638447983,1483,65,242,25,21,447,166,324,0.047,0.7509999999999999,0.201,0.9935,0,0,0,0,2,0,54.0,3,4,12,2,13,22,0,1,14,0,23,3,3,3,1,57,49,23,0,10,14,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,7,11,17,0,1,6,1,0,4,6,5,1,0,4,3,36,17,52,40,10,28,1,2,0,0,52,12,0,9,12,177,47,7,0.0832383201050105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08133952304250207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16981473610508396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07361752984254746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14340488469180868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06645902544009936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17163010609179047,0.07169304313614029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600743567398911,0.0,0.054978125390065774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16284609848812634,0.0,0.0936662517486334,0.04208779567677224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043488586719900836,0.0,0.04730625554351705,0.06981635368873439,0.0,0.09177054177285827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789644568895239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17375836039027104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733598026631319,0.182982415438326,0.06785034055617514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07076624312278441,0.0,0.0,0.05556222502624299,0.0,0.0,0.09067093274406694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06644003296792332,0.0,0.0,0.1851604789468229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0633064933022182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057706970478893775,0.1453609809280356,0.0,0.27411203843070864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07964783075981595,0.0,0.0836775022838165,0.0,0.0,0.08326084557657515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14105511701283396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11783302279121766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5667471554186708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338076173777624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966461052348788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001254502222926,0.14378236599051294,0.0,0.06868033150872696,0.0,0.0,0.06676875953017015,0.0,0.0748412462947779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09571996018440147,0.16047754042970058,0.0,0.060598488400055425,0.0,0.0,0.05913011437852419,0.0,0.0,0.053602749072102114
divorce,DepressedAlbert,2020/02/18,"How hard is starting over at 30? I've been giving it consideration, but I find the idea of being single, a father, at 30 to be daunting. Almost humiliating, though I can't even express why. Dating, going back to a smaller place to live, seeing my children less, I don't know how it'll work out positively for me in any more way.

The only thing that would frighten me more is doing it a year later, two years later, three years later... So I also want to rip the bandaid off because I don't see things becoming better.

Anyone here experience similar fears? What is life like after divorce?",3.949912280701753,5.640650307017548,5.600877192982459,77.46780701754389,72.24561403508774,7.171929824561403,25.824561403508767,7.793537801064563,1.5870771929824563,461,15,83,6,9,157,87,114,0.08800000000000001,0.779,0.134,0.7541,0,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,0,0,0,2,8,3,0,1,6,0,12,2,0,2,0,11,19,6,0,2,1,1,1,1,0,2,2,0,0,1,7,1,0,0,4,0,0,1,3,1,0,2,1,3,8,2,13,14,4,19,0,0,2,0,5,7,0,1,11,60,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18547572208480886,0.0,0.0,0.14812407830201624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12595910734553076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12951337551210318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424263155155244,0.0,0.11291122181895873,0.20456606336684344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16381614263815306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12233912833179655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18118524049267729,0.0,0.2084292163789384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16929196603427266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17768435327640875,0.10526743185173873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659248963005778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090960738058386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10179461852302664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308296415175463,0.09049140342104844,0.0,0.16355675127050498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14087168584572266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935203265469386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29520011515336225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131102954081289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24611004191469554,0.0,0.181982269117282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809375598369772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925029212968364,0.14702269834394407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16713642844284102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348457444936246,0.0,0.0,0.13157827044672585,0.0,0.0,0.3578357874777919
divorce,oursistheendgame,2020/02/18,"Hello, unhappy to be here, yet here I am In 2018, my STBX (51M) announced he wasn’t sure he wanted to be married any longer, and that while he had love for me (38F), he wasn’t in love with me. We’ve been married for 11 years and together for 13 years. At my suggestion, we then tried counseling for a year, more quality time without the kids (10yo son and 8yo daughter). I tried to do as much as I could to address his needs (which I got a better understanding of in counseling) and made sure he was happy, comfortable, and had a happy home (I planned trips for us, helped him navigate his career, gave him all of the physical attention while still working full time) but come January of this year, he said there is nothing else to do, and he doesn’t see the point. He doesn’t think he can be happy with me. 

I’m so angry he just wants to give everything up because of unhappiness (he won’t give me any other reason than this). I’ve tried to be a good wife, but I’m come to realize that I can’t save this marriage alone. So we’re started the process of separation and he will move out at the end of the school year, at which point we’ll tell the kids. It’s raw and painful staying in the house together while we take care of the kids. He jokes and is polite and acts like everything is normal, when I feel the complete opposite.

He doesn’t want to announce our pending status change to our friends and family circle because he is “still processing everything”(btw he is the nice, golden boy in our families’ eyes and fears the stigma of being the man who leaves the family after it happened to his mother during his childhood), but I refuse to live a lie when I need emotional support as my marriage falls apart around me. Obviously, he can no longer be my emotional support. 

I feel like I chose poorly. I was in this for better or worse and even if there were going to be bad spots, I would do anything to keep my family together and me and my husband would grow together as our lives changed. Now I feel like I’ve failed and at 38, I have to start all over again, if I ever do. I don’t know, I can’t see past this week. I keep asking if he’s sure he wants to do this, if he truly understands the ramifications, but he just repeats that “he doesn’t see any other way.”",8.207745098039219,5.5839251285403035,8.271175381263618,76.63878921568626,63.50980392156863,11.968671023965145,35.58616557734205,10.355215969177356,3.2714774727668843,1770,58,376,32,20,580,221,459,0.083,0.7609999999999999,0.156,0.9842,0,1,0,0,0,0,56.0,8,0,0,5,18,26,0,1,20,0,42,4,1,2,7,68,81,37,0,14,12,5,3,3,1,5,1,1,2,5,16,24,0,3,10,1,1,8,12,4,0,0,12,8,45,22,53,56,5,55,0,1,4,2,62,18,0,5,30,227,61,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08153748171993361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16061128248577314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0647856547712415,0.07008376625361849,0.0735991650617841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0657337989283485,0.0959825588137436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13925535736933306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08026747510200355,0.0,0.16656556167563855,0.13563276646864725,0.08254381484546408,0.0,0.0,0.06285714392939201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06576634885031482,0.17711467139957274,0.0697287995200241,0.0,0.0,0.051998474514590456,0.07121312459389638,0.0,0.0,0.14150959369297095,0.0,0.2968674276001983,0.08858981949407463,0.11942028699669238,0.1124852415436774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060824324103016414,0.0,0.0,0.15104432149339556,0.04474239719538993,0.06603251497260527,0.06296521432164222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06961807096035995,0.2514192282765688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05276908260923563,0.0,0.07896965089343419,0.0,0.0,0.09084044644612396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399524399564022,0.0,0.0,0.04326632819089931,0.0,0.0,0.08336057943419994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11538618098906178,0.0,0.13903485628184173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14210847398599796,0.0744934389410691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08367439578797989,0.057873440737021824,0.11675022113874485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07713579437970504,0.0755407284556249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08377113264638583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07515387807314744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14884501954272086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0809445201221056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0748874535573356,0.0,0.0,0.0796759783752876,0.1882057998183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114468234250385,0.083912561110647,0.1257430488175275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17867704842102794,0.2225979408496261,0.0,0.05919294444652232,0.0,0.0688109123731441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05044511524872869,0.0,0.0,0.09181275277353483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16035149899877646,0.0,0.0,0.16391527253675206,0.0946989486219648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18574101707214585,0.062489868426804325,0.06315009135301873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0758900675222528,0.0,0.057314230566005424,0.0,0.08022959053386146,0.11185087609815393,0.0,0.0,0.2534881975114898
divorce,smgwww,2020/02/18,Well I’ve failed again I can’t believe that I am here again. After my first marriage ending because I got married too soon and after 5 years I realized I wasn’t happy it’s time for round two. The second marriage didn’t even make it two years. I know that she loves me dearly but I got married for the wrong reasons. We got married after having a scare with immigration. That’s a story for another time and place. Long story short she was going to be deported and was scammed in the past. I panicked and said well let’s get married. And then... I cheated. I hate myself for it. I’m in therapy now. But I just feel like an absolute failure of a person. I hate that I am going to put all of us through this pain. I hate that I am going to be judged as the family member who has failed twice. I know that it’s what I should do based on therapy. But I’m having a hard time bringing myself to do it. I wish I could just go back in time and realized that I was still recovering from the first divorce. I shouldn’t have married again.,0.8956785859406722,3.0824339112149524,2.871405932547749,91.04809630231615,83.7196261682243,5.5908980089394555,21.45388053636733,6.895973343053719,0.5477430312880944,803,26,171,10,23,269,112,214,0.222,0.7,0.078,-0.9902,0,0,0,0,1,0,21.0,2,0,0,4,14,15,4,1,10,0,21,2,0,2,1,25,42,11,0,4,5,0,3,1,0,2,1,1,0,1,15,8,0,0,6,0,0,6,4,9,2,6,9,4,29,6,21,27,1,34,0,2,1,1,11,6,0,0,23,127,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12712581724346536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09322248758550564,0.0,0.07390393366691313,0.0,0.0,0.13659070422061964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09679654830757088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10737852039142473,0.0,0.0,0.08007479397927257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11428988218477605,0.0,0.061300227025714964,0.0866105460439162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062454244542133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06334045763362871,0.0,0.27560333421353245,0.0,0.2908889123228899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12905726622822966,0.10860304522741747,0.3590843754149734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13325553676209193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12397134182990713,0.0,0.05922945981913132,0.0,0.0,0.10728945455834217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10941962128085732,0.0,0.08092552611497958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12900294192644915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11573284331181785,0.0,0.1058580164188415,0.12666511924966972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12187499498277635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12465011393189974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153225641947127,0.0,0.12137771790238695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09681869345574616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772863378581664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827731902384095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23685860811046186,0.0,0.14583117815946325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180102481009372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13941464968274633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13255180467892036,0.0,0.15614315905528495
divorce,throwaway_a_marriage,2020/02/18,"31F worried about online safety and privacy Hey everybody... 

My husband and I are going through a very rough divorce at the moment... we're fighting over custody, over property, over every little thing just like we have for so long. I'm exhausted, and I'm also really scared:

He was always the one to manage accounts and all that in our marriage. He'd always been into technology, he studied software engineering, and he has a fairly large network of people like him.

He knows my password to... everything. I don't know why I was this stupid and overly trusting. Email, iCloud, banking, you name it. He set up our security cameras, wifi, my mobile plan, all of it. I feel like I live in his house, like he's watching me.

I tried setting up a brand new email and I got an sms that he tried to log in... I can't escape him I feel stuck

We live in Australia if that's relevant. 

I don't know what to do, people. Should I post on r/legaladvice? Go to the police? ughhh please help",1.9877225130890042,4.374179015706808,3.703086387434556,85.52290183246075,80.8324607329843,6.12366492146597,24.20968586387435,7.365786028017652,1.2721788481675396,756,28,144,11,20,252,124,191,0.095,0.789,0.11599999999999999,0.4643,0,0,0,0,4,0,39.0,4,1,0,1,4,10,2,1,7,0,12,1,0,0,2,21,23,10,0,2,2,1,3,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,8,10,0,1,5,0,2,2,3,4,0,1,5,4,24,6,23,16,2,22,0,0,1,0,25,14,0,1,7,87,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386301090964362,0.2884867032847761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460571448672233,0.0,0.15579824862222955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17530468974813976,0.12384321918397186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970406935751992,0.0,0.13864600779957525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11619467539081815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000257663247117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.285810367221408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33876553420224875,0.17374496876750156,0.3061472588657471,0.1534117038156104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167425139068729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11746829078315946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403619004853372,0.0,0.0,0.19028923183324573,0.0,0.0,0.1660239884901885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105419261819713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17355631627831647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11516784560440473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353902380372627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430341505575866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15642386825035426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760481038608124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,MrsDrink,2020/02/18,"One year on... ‪This time last year was the start of the rest of my life (separation day 1). I’m not fully there yet - but I’m a damn sight happier than I was. Wherever you are and whatever you’re doing Ex, I hope you’re doing better too. Better apart than we were together.

(Disclaimer - we just fell out of love, no infidelity, no violence- we were just housemates).",2.160357142857144,4.352071305555562,3.990873015873017,84.77000000000002,79.0,8.003174603174603,22.785714285714285,8.841846274778883,1.7131047619047617,282,9,58,7,7,95,52,72,0.16,0.604,0.237,0.8462,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,1,0,2,5,5,1,0,3,0,7,2,0,0,0,10,12,2,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,4,1,7,4,7,8,1,11,0,0,1,1,6,3,1,1,7,36,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5748533062547782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20959123267867574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32278773491829554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649096803618061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22954957543046456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933155594905041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22022118134974225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23002912106124984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18950389229277173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4185649477012779
divorce,culinary_alchemist,2020/02/18,"Moved into my new place! I brought it up in August... after many years together I looked down the tunnel of life and realized that my nightmare would be to continue down this path of our relationship evermore. I have one life to live, and this is far from the life I would pick. We don’t enjoy each other’s company, don’t enjoy the same things, and a zillion other issues that led me to the realization that the best path forward for either of us would likely be to end it. 

After couples therapy we (I) came to a conclusion that it’s time for Divorce. Since that December decision we lived together in our house, prepped it for sale and now, after less than a week on the market our house is in Escrow. 

I’ve been watching for apartments, and once we listed and had a lot of interest I started really looking. Today I moved out of the home filled with undiscovered dreams and an alternative reality of the family we never had. 

I moved into a small apartment in the heart of the exciting urban neighborhoods. It definitely doesn’t fit all the stuff from my past life, but I’m so excited to embark on an new journey, explore my options and embrace a bigger future.  The size of the apartment may be small, but the possibilities for my future are enormous.

While I mourn a past and alternative reality that can never exist, I am so excited for a future where there are more possibilities, more freedom, more adventures and more ways for me to embrace my own desires, interests and opportunities to explore the world and all it has to offer.

Here’s to a future that’s bigger than my past. I wish the same to each of you.",8.381462365591396,7.0835823935483875,8.951935483870972,67.69123655913981,62.161290322580655,12.137634408602151,36.79569892473119,11.20814326018867,4.1188537634408595,1282,50,230,30,15,433,157,310,0.012,0.8290000000000001,0.16,0.9924,0,0,0,0,1,0,32.0,9,1,0,3,6,12,0,0,27,0,21,5,1,2,4,48,28,17,1,5,3,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,1,0,19,24,0,0,5,1,1,11,5,1,0,2,5,3,30,11,47,16,15,61,0,1,3,0,13,26,0,3,26,184,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185698932399864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292237665168219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12501481127733702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10007042006295644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10651139983569474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13388675992170407,0.0,0.0,0.11333231306902974,0.0,0.0,0.2607370755597079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11792609678815814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3192161815800702,0.05519834788742175,0.0,0.19953414611019066,0.0,0.18975645784173684,0.0,0.0,0.09605508266869056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11454819297438296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3602528077059168,0.0,0.0,0.17428068108721073,0.2182415892615164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203244307054222,0.07656098304874855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32356846238176035,0.0,0.0,0.11804438768976724,0.0,0.0,0.25474530241515425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0723805386274776,0.0,0.0,0.1213026923080707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934616551514856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07997076180569444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12933981876518044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292072204293548,0.0,0.07506164783955295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06588196556105591,0.0,0.10709576184966893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13590601922522633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08968155806774494,0.09062906879525283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299261947904108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24078209217565105,0.0,0.0,0.07275808727695614
divorce,ThrewItAway040610,2020/02/18,"[NH] I don't know where to go from here. I'm gutted and guilty, and suffer this alone. Long story short, tonight my marriage of 17 years has likely come to an end.  On the one hand, I've felt this was coming for a while now; my wife and I have grown up and apart from one another over the years.  We've always had separate finances and while I've covered rent, utilities, groceries, etc. - she's always covered her own credit card, car payment, and spent the rest on herself and the kids (now 5 and 1).  Over the years I got so tired, so angry because I felt constantly forced to sacrifice so she could spend money on stuff that made her feel like herself but was ultimately, in my opinion, a waste.  I hid the finances from her for years, lied to her about my income and mismanaged our budget in a terrible way.  Tonight she finally demanded to see my account and what I'd been hiding, and our conversation spiraled to where I'm fairly confident we're done.

She's currently a SAHM s she'd left her job mid last year for two reasons: one, it was kind of dead end for the career path she wanted to take, and two (and this is the reason she voices most) was that I forced her to be a stay at home mom because we couldn't afford daycare and I travel for work.  

We discussed separating, but the challenge is we have no savings and are budgeted so tightly I can't afford another apartment.  We don't have any local family or friends who could take one of us in to separate us from one another.  I'm sure we can be civil in staying out of each other's way as much as you can in a large apartment.

I don't know where to go from here.  I don't know how to handle this.  I'd told myself a hundred times I knew this was coming at some point, that I'd eventually initiate it because of how I feel at home and how sad I was every day in our marriage, but the straw that broke the camels back was placed there by me.  I don't remember anything about when my parents got divorced years ago, and certainly can't fathom how to do this when we're strapped like we are.  I'm terrified of being ruined even more financially by huge alimony or child support payments, because my wife is a SAHM (despite technically still being employed part time).  I'm worried family courts will take my children from me, that I'll be relegated to weekends like I was with my dad years ago.  

In short, I'm drowning.",6.495786163522013,5.600874327044027,6.990822641509434,78.92540377358493,65.68763102725367,10.063865828092244,33.54540880503144,9.281916038205594,2.77643386163522,1862,69,378,29,25,612,234,477,0.131,0.7979999999999999,0.071,-0.9841,8,2,0,0,1,0,53.0,11,1,0,2,23,17,0,0,20,0,40,3,2,7,2,61,70,36,2,4,5,5,6,4,1,1,1,1,3,3,17,29,0,1,11,2,10,8,9,5,0,7,19,8,54,12,54,41,9,73,1,4,1,0,43,31,0,5,34,246,71,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14565324748082384,0.0,0.0,0.0850891740795229,0.0,0.0,0.13672128509049367,0.0,0.0,0.05586911723007164,0.2584442055470023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06760765405559953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06317314155264486,0.0,0.20032692899574936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123111941924848,0.0,0.0887817991184923,0.0,0.13119027836352998,0.0,0.0,0.0529840320246622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08407444299126272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455322346376806,0.0,0.0916260177289341,0.05426347682700085,0.0,0.06922024590916033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15489934011193546,0.0,0.08308141135051329,0.058692493913184235,0.15776590875487315,0.0899982366082834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06347377172682073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933826638593123,0.0,0.13141583402762574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16481898214494048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08152747413003386,0.0,0.0,0.08555316835379137,0.13545290044138728,0.0669683688985766,0.0,0.0,0.08926308585244434,0.0,0.0,0.16054971911401514,0.0,0.0,0.07270576097535968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07773829973815999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09622049312084392,0.0,0.0,0.0603943507890988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2783562550784795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912248746845384,0.08896729225881082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08583587195956957,0.0,0.07766428096370986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16894076731755348,0.0,0.0,0.09306709909021747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06546795300236394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17513541917635425,0.06561014606064812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09404933466196752,0.0,0.09323002229412347,0.07743136260431714,0.0,0.18531399233997956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958120258153328,0.09442660816241816,0.0,0.07850388782166694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605095805279833,0.0,0.1976478830219315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04845792818830609,0.13042373104036956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05981078197405874,0.08343373446170597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37034185106358575
divorce,vickseddit,2020/02/18,"Need Advice! I am Indian male filed divorce 2 years back on grounds of incompatibility. I have kid(boy) who is 6years old now. Since its been more than 8years for marriage out of which we stayed together only 3years(I work in abroad in she is currently in India). So current status is I can't imagine to even stay with her. However, i have made a blunder by making her co-owner for a flat which I purchased even though it was out of budget(there is a story behind this but will be too long). Last year case went to Supreme court(since wife wanted it to transfer to her home town). Learnt that court is very biased as Mediator had provided option of being slave to wife forever even after Divorce. So I gave up and now case transferred to her home town.  So currently I have burden of Loan(property prices have fallen flat so difficult to find buyers) and Wife is happy with the way the things are going with divorce.. She has asked to either stay together or pay her 70lakhs for out of court settlement. Since I get this sick feeling of even imagining to stay with her and at other end I don't have finances of that unreasonable alimony. I am feeling gutted for being in such a situation where I can't move on in life.. when it comes to being in relationship. If any1 has gone through such situation would appreciate if you can share how you dealt with it or Any 1 who can share their views.",6.0217025527192005,6.841201456603772,6.207902330743622,78.31935627081023,66.50943396226414,9.25416204217536,30.68257491675916,9.325443323948027,2.5951642619311883,1106,40,207,20,17,353,160,265,0.077,0.84,0.083,0.1791,4,0,0,0,3,0,29.0,1,2,1,1,18,6,0,0,6,0,30,3,1,3,0,31,43,16,0,5,6,3,2,0,0,2,2,0,2,1,15,13,0,0,5,0,4,6,3,2,0,0,7,3,23,4,46,30,2,42,0,0,1,0,27,17,0,5,14,148,38,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12330255606649207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0858073674244549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179621475063376,0.0,0.0,0.09702535564043574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10869370862723864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11175886204029632,0.0,0.0,0.3333652883505125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12760175108080246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153270949409169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06592433421918585,0.0,0.07171153712571468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343219589832452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531395457922728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285430879877233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08912533088147626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116661629034886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11939545815830938,0.08422675853284217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341103721782641,0.0,0.09356156958985146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13240567261049654,0.0,0.0,0.09596629224996804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354711097069984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31313453718575435,0.2836653309514988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5379683806499292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382901101184875,0.0,0.12397213476629727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10411249180911808,0.07442478877120605,0.10015655844500733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11697099729895097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09186122851480466,0.0,0.0,0.08963532082142134,0.0,0.0,0.16251277916462362
divorce,acbm89,2020/02/18,"What would you do in the case of an important decision in life? I’ll be talking to my husband to finally decide if we are divorcing or we are going to keep trying. I’m usually very stubborn when making decisions. But when is about relationships/family I’m a complete disaster. I never know what to do. 

We have been on therapy for years (2 or 3 years) But he thinks he haven’t put all his effort to really make things work. 

I don’t know what to do. I haven’t decide if I want to divorce or want to try things. I’m lost in my mind I feel I’m in a dark jungle. 

Our relationship is very bad and sometimes good. It’s been abusive for the last 2-3 years. But somehow we learned to feel safe and happy in an unhappy marriage (weird)

The first time he cheated I didn’t even noticed and we weren’t married . The second time I discovered him after a couple years married and he told me he needs to tell me that she was not the only one. There was another one too before.

We have been separated since I discovered all the true. We haven’t start the process of divorce because I was told by my therapist to not make any decision while strong emotions were still there. We have been separated for couple of months and now deadline is coming soon. I have to make a decision. Should I start the divorcing papers or not.
What would you do when you have a dilemma ? When you can’t make a decision. What do you do? What do you recommend me ? I’m going to therapy to see if my therapist would help me figure it out this dilemma. 

I don’t know if I should divorce or not. I’m like 70% convinced that divorce is the correct decision. But I’m like  30% convinced that it is an incorrect decision and that I’m making a mistake in my life. Which will bring serious consequences. I love him. He loves me. (Our love is not healthy) I don’t know how to love , he doesn’t know how to love. But we try to love. 

What would you do in an important decision where you are lost? I don’t want you to decide for me. Just help me out to fix my mind.",1.3601656314699824,3.495573560386472,3.360565907522432,88.52565217391306,81.51207729468601,7.131262939958592,24.108350586611447,8.192908349453996,1.5178727398205665,1570,59,335,33,42,530,165,414,0.086,0.77,0.14400000000000002,0.9775,1,0,0,0,4,0,46.0,11,9,0,6,17,23,2,0,20,0,49,8,0,8,5,89,93,27,0,15,20,1,2,2,0,7,2,0,0,0,18,18,0,3,21,0,0,5,17,8,0,4,14,3,53,15,39,71,2,39,0,2,1,6,52,11,0,10,25,228,71,3,0.0,0.09778769686598987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056125033574083605,0.08654268185182296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0689113170888057,0.050311138662612255,0.0,0.07022920809607798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07109457181944519,0.08653391544790721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826416194427183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09283812498954734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0545120383094699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07780443915539763,0.0,0.08346197743249772,0.0,0.0,0.09041048618053757,0.0,0.07020223169048162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09381041627627926,0.06922447282270341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08785754281890218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11063979394022767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733588133077491,0.0,0.0,0.22678893581682,0.06727512692488284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11659050587767038,0.08064256983403421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18018827838937806,0.0,0.4469336447082522,0.0,0.3305471168069946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666689023563012,0.0,0.0658767754763118,0.0,0.0,0.061196915743831674,0.0636542692544113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09396397140652378,0.0,0.0,0.11185252201140468,0.06276980096437207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08296811100366082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052872530286558285,0.0,0.0,0.08860918134235547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06576783816277047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06827186266271912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08162690325349807,0.0,0.11683407185935354,0.0,0.06591068255634372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06633661945404817,0.07213717568468077,0.0,0.18876656087219687,0.1916535405180162,0.10966205347494083,0.05288359092520545,0.0,0.0,0.096250906266192,0.0,0.0,0.15772697182749096,0.0,0.16810275951363782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908980561318733,0.1361961629556514,0.14603968961775507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06008475366744105,0.0,0.0,0.2345153122174573,0.0,0.0,0.21259328797990049
divorce,knotyouraveragenuts,2020/02/18,"I've been in the process of getting divorced for over a year. A year and 4 months. I dont receive child support and my in laws havent contacted me except a handful of times. I have 3 children 14-17 I am still married. It will be 17 years May 3rd. I have 3 beautiful, smart, independent children ages 14, 16, and 17. I am a veteran that lives off of my disability and social security. I received these benefits 5 years into my marriage. Being extremely codependent, I relied on my husband to manage the finances and take care of us. 5 years ago, I found out he was cheating, not just cheating but spending my disability on craigslist whores and pain medication. We were deeply involved in several churches that ministered to addicts and broken families. This whole time I was undef the impression that we barely made enough to live on. Once a year I could buy the kids clothes, I'm thrifty, I never buy new but frequented Plato's closet, goodwill and the like. I would buy 3 growing kids 3 outfits a piece to last for the year. I was never allowed to take them to the doctor, because according to my husband I should be able to treat everyone naturally. Which also costs and extreme amount of money and guessing, based upon symptoms they were showing. 3 years ago, my son, now 16, got very sick, he was lethargic had frequent spells that left him immobilized. All of which my husband blamed on ""inactivity"" and ""video games"". He called him a wuss and a baby to his face for not being able to make it through a disc golf course, and blamed me for his inactivity. We fought every day because I wanted to take him to a doctor to have him checked out. Every time it was hell no. I was fortunate enough to be able to take them on a trip to California to see my family. A family friend listened to his symptoms and told me he needed a blood sugar test immediately. His bs was 536. We were admitted to an amazing hospital in California where we learned that he suffered from type 1 diabetes. After going through everything, I realized that he almost died 3 times in the last year. That was it. I was done. This man almost killed my son, HIS son. The one he ridiculed for losing strength and stamina mid-game. I had a lot of thinking to do. How long have I been a puppet. How long have I just done what I've been told. I was made to believe that because of my major depressive disorder that my feelings were unreliable and therefore, invalid. Fast forward 1 year. Asshole dad moved out, has a girlfriend half my age with 4 kids his younger childrens ages. He refuses to pay a dime for child support. We have been working with a mediator for a year and 2 months. He blames everything on me and to top it off wants a 50% say in how they are treated as far as healthcare. 16 years. 16 years I did whatever this man told me because I didnt trust or believe in myself. I am now suffering the consequences. My kids are suffering worse than I am. I am scared to death he is going to get the right to refuse health care for the kids. Ultimately 2 of them are on antidepressants, to which he responded with absolute rage and indignation because I didnt ask him first.  I want to move on with my life, but because he has not wanted to pay child support, he has done his best to delay any agreements. I cant afford a lawyer and with my va disability I make too much to get one pro bono. What should I do? I need this nightmare to end. Back child support would be nice since he earned 103k last year and only gave me $2200 for the whole year.",4.007682293812309,5.5815281324599715,4.975326686990197,82.47917524923791,71.89665211062591,8.037889648732525,29.99283183653291,8.622042349995798,2.3062206970421024,2765,117,541,49,53,903,316,687,0.18100000000000002,0.7340000000000001,0.085,-0.9976,2,0,0,0,1,0,82.0,7,0,5,7,12,35,7,1,35,0,62,16,3,12,3,87,102,31,3,11,10,7,2,1,2,6,11,2,1,14,24,36,1,4,6,4,11,9,11,15,0,4,35,6,80,20,86,54,11,83,2,5,1,1,82,29,1,6,48,343,104,12,0.1734470156882551,0.0,0.0,0.06302761628042504,0.0,0.0,0.10250020947570496,0.0,0.11578808789485355,0.0,0.0,0.04623517192707227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03931663947320504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05404984868082465,0.0,0.0,0.04445668293964383,0.0,0.2114633817731289,0.0,0.0,0.13027692753787656,0.06067398071144401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0590362651855411,0.0,0.11789386142120413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046161109504984615,0.0,0.0,0.037286325401775504,0.0,0.049796553485964117,0.0,0.06000353951073108,0.0,0.06626176890782325,0.11835358009085213,0.0,0.17749651656669474,0.06775953687355574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051207524699350186,0.11947808834387252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09742439428386733,0.055245352132897,0.10392199584831337,0.0,0.16351041000179747,0.0,0.029233340877229636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04917798097966025,0.0,0.0633919000611983,0.04466824468894021,0.0,0.09061890693554056,0.0,0.06571595740245363,0.0,0.046240474377440666,0.0,0.06369048079002207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061455355642835385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0639644748485756,0.0,0.0,0.1413824674507332,0.0,0.0,0.06281689668146925,0.0,0.04083691887275459,0.028245816906036943,0.0,0.10210459503290978,0.10233010054988376,0.0,0.06468094817559103,0.0,0.04915281673805917,0.0,0.10941317334507908,0.07718481987337322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05824320691813103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09229583542754134,0.1228978189359398,0.042501171200091815,0.08573917626245699,0.08918202077875094,0.055838736189493976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06157180366992381,0.07835479111627297,0.043971423750927344,0.06151995120539056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04937426789979233,0.0,0.045977342842918746,0.05788357359349131,0.0,0.04607160508090551,0.0,0.0,0.06531525266584746,0.0,0.04782572124310972,0.0,0.0,0.05893579659881324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04617167025976148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26243415728387165,0.0,0.12018524065084972,0.17388076006684175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03704594805649895,0.0,0.0,0.13485113289569775,0.0,0.0,0.16573605639869102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06954513463506823,0.0,0.0,0.04770398426125717,0.1364047249468701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290982659106076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04209049772167884,0.0,0.058919108993145085,0.08214118900462887,0.0,0.0,0.5584709570972499
divorce,wholeinthewall123,2020/02/18,"Family Day punch to the gut I'm the one who asked for the divorce but the firsts are hitting me hard. My province has Family Day and today was about dividing up time with the new version of our family.

I feel down. I've been crying on and off all day.

This hell is why I waited so long to pull the plug. It's no less hard than I thought it would be, when I laid in bed knowing I could keep going much longer.

I'm just sad today. I had to let it out somewhere. Here seemed like the best place. 

I've posted a few times before but created an anon because I'm fairly confident s.o. is in here already, or will be soon.

This crap is hard.",0.5218730158730196,2.5161213407407423,2.4181216931216944,94.90083333333335,83.74074074074073,5.634920634920635,18.53174603174603,6.868970318607317,0.013063492063492,491,12,113,6,14,163,97,135,0.17,0.726,0.105,-0.8338,0,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,1,0,0,2,7,5,2,0,9,0,14,2,2,0,1,17,26,7,0,2,4,0,4,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,6,4,0,2,4,0,0,2,1,3,0,2,4,4,9,2,15,15,6,23,1,1,0,0,4,8,2,2,13,72,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718574241402759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14559118456733255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949345989439262,0.0,0.13251899841625495,0.0,0.16343425448531426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12434171006582967,0.0,0.17106756388826436,0.3013085373539677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4404392401138672,0.0,0.07874428571132036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324680952899431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08850777862208822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41852386055208746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384244067119255,0.0,0.0,0.08558787274154585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592495694506135,0.0,0.07608424524379565,0.0,0.0,0.13782055749988936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144831301390048,0.0,0.0,0.15040981510565024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10553005358543438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16270990865450433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14915106268277226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14177527771476708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12363617915583705,0.18162063962906805,0.0,0.2952371047684247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405265973348729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11062966225468636,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Living-Wolverine,2020/02/19,"You F***ing Ruin Everything!!!   

All I wanted to get you was a nice little outfit that you have been waiting a long time for. Last year they discontinued it and you became so disappointed. So after months of waiting and months of searching they finally brought it back. Unfortunately, the price was increased, and you became discouraged again. You wanted it, but you couldn’t see yourself paying so much for it. You became disappointed, and I just didn’t like seeing you like this. So I purchased it for you. 

You always buy clothes size medium. So that is the size I go for. When you finally got the packaging, you look so happy. You held me. You finally kissed me… you no longer kiss me… you open it. You see that it is the correct outfit, but the size is wrong. You smile fades. Your tone changes. You look at me and tell me, “You never listen to me.” 

My heart drops. It drops, because I felt like I did something right. I did something good. I got you something that you have been waiting for a long time. My only response is, “I am so sorry.” I look at you trying to reassure you that I didn’t mean to get you the wrong size. 

This anger leads you down a different path. You tell me things that you are mad about. That I never listen. That I always do thing so incorrectly that it drives you to a rage. That I always ruin everything. 

“You Fucking Ruin Everything!” You yell at me. “ This is more of the reasons why I should leave you! This makes everything so much easier. Now I don’t want these. I hate them. You never listen to me…” 

I feel my heart breaking. I just wanted to surprise you and make you happy. I just wanted to get you something you have been looking for. My insecurities begin to build. I feel like crap. I want to cry.    

I know you want divorce. I know you want our marriage to end. I feel like I continue to hold on to you, but you continue to push me. I feel the ledge coming, even though I swore it wasn’t. I feel myself giving into those words. 

“I want a divorce.” I said in my heart. 

Those are not the words I tell you. I apologize. I continue to apologize. This shows you I am weak. This shows you that you have a control over me. So, you use it to your advantage. You make me feel small. I want to change that, but I do not know how I could change it. So I am here typing these words. 

I am sorry for always ruining everything…",0.8037102241662133,3.2816936043010783,2.3796427920539465,92.0392946965555,88.22580645161291,5.3891015126663016,19.06415163112813,6.921425479487867,0.3239455075633315,1806,52,377,26,59,587,174,465,0.152,0.7040000000000001,0.14400000000000002,-0.9106,1,0,4,0,2,0,74.0,1,50,3,3,24,31,6,1,16,0,31,8,4,8,5,64,83,24,0,13,9,0,7,5,0,1,1,5,0,0,36,9,0,7,12,2,4,7,11,17,0,0,16,19,109,14,37,64,5,47,0,7,7,3,68,12,2,0,30,271,145,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309294816251041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05335138863610623,0.0,0.04229534728070849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22019463837429945,0.05976747266726596,0.0,0.0,0.07781914487021158,0.055396829682903534,0.0,0.07621417379550469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07249066377390442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061452910354042926,0.0,0.0,0.045826941161871984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494285413003242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21049334684599996,0.099134726430381,0.0666187410079602,0.228017672376707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06414363907907142,0.10874955579256496,0.06655867598548948,0.039432064552949696,0.05819532604886162,0.11098414708888826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14771938713908025,0.0,0.06850153348942375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24665823476764176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11439355643432778,0.056556558493401465,0.0,0.07346677772015645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16948560435156365,0.06954018177545307,0.0,0.12280387565173607,0.2330576125395045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13894144984218146,0.0,0.0,0.07557863187356373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11076199706743822,0.0,0.10200925270399627,0.0,0.16053777526699667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05276904083472836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07133747279395379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05925286326290517,0.06599930017122868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658682527729962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2136582708431256,0.0,0.15533759647438047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18193189292893472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09219021390754237,0.0,0.06816862971856004,0.0,0.08091578952151149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04710663007221478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059924797177175075,0.0,0.0,0.4092400181049104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06260753510914789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15171924776960918,0.0,0.04468049811472252
divorce,JDNM,2020/02/19,"Selling the matrimonial home - no intention of renting (UK) My cheating wife and I will be divorcing over the next few months.

I am living in the co-owned matrimonial home, she is presumably living with family as a stop-gap.

She wants to get the house on the market as soon as possible so she can be relieved of mortgage repayments and release equity so she can rent somewhere.

I am insistent on getting a financial settlement in place first. I don't trust her, and having clarity on my finances will obviously inform my next move in the property market.

I intend to sell, but have no intention of renting a property to facilitate this (I see this as a waste of money, equivalent rent to mortgage repayments would result in a drastic drop in quality of home, and I simply don't want to rent), therefore I need to complete the purchase of another property in order to sell the matrimonial home.

Obviously, house buying chains can take a long time, and the longer it goes on, the more irate she will get. Legally, as long as I have shown intent to sell the house and even specify a 'for sale' date in the content order (which I already have), is there any way she can legally force a sale? Or is she stuck until I complete on another property? This is happening in the UK.

Thanks",8.371625000000002,7.43970557916667,9.025000000000002,65.98000000000003,61.95833333333334,12.833333333333336,39.58333333333333,12.00992498983062,4.949083333333334,1009,47,176,29,12,342,122,240,0.10400000000000001,0.851,0.045,-0.9347,7,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,0,1,5,4,1,0,21,0,22,0,0,6,2,23,33,17,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,9,0,5,7,0,0,2,0,15,1,4,1,0,1,1,1,22,3,37,26,2,30,0,0,1,0,11,15,0,1,10,125,27,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13696800323591946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08440492992464542,0.2602984277079167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2602720605893217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197918968702407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11700800545748095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10557524992065136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19454059635373908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10975770151300564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4980044549802617,0.0,0.0,0.4296487306586941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191980623015976,0.2196821773636385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09907031254422703,0.13191846930673284,0.0,0.09203239723936113,0.0,0.0,0.2640031588261168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129677559212779,0.0,0.0,0.13992511497004487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989064846455141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10376873887926913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09332176888291836,0.0,0.0,0.11427176583650195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07237457584642702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14641677677434214,0.09851959745166604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08817031916712766,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,yerawizardkylieee,2020/02/19,"My husband was served earlier today. He is happy for the divorce (I am as well) but he is mad I want sole custody of our child and that I’m asking for child support. He wants to settle that without the courts involved. (Lol) We were together 5 years (married for 3 coming this July) and out of those 5 years he only had a job a total of 11 months.

The only money I have received from him in the last year of being separated for our son has been $40. He moved back to his hometown in March 2019 and has only seen him 10 or so times since then, last time being January 13th. He has an older son he doesn’t see or take care of with another girl and now his new gf is 6 months pregnant.

I don’t want to speak too ill of him but he is a 2 time felon, previous alcoholic, and as far as I know he is still going to the methadone clinic. These reasons as well as a few others I will not dive into at the moment are why I’m going for sole custody. My child is and will always be more safe with myself and my family. As well as taken care of and loved.

The divorce papers state supervised visits, drug and alcohol assessment classes, and parenting classes for him. He text me this morning and said, “I got your divorce papers” and is now telling me he is going to file taxes and claim our child (even though we have a written agreement that I would claim our child and so I did, I filed unmarried this year as I meet the requirements to do so).

I’m just hoping he doesn’t respond within the allotted time frame so it can just be granted. Just wanted to come on here and vent a little bit. First time posting but have been lurking. I’m so happy to start getting this over with.",3.5396817298347902,4.379813720116619,4.8111552478134145,86.02400206511177,72.14868804664724,7.465937803692906,25.953474246841594,7.645422480735847,1.2897270165208936,1298,40,271,15,24,431,186,343,0.027000000000000003,0.8370000000000001,0.135,0.99,2,0,4,0,3,0,33.0,6,1,0,2,19,13,1,0,16,1,34,6,0,1,1,46,63,35,0,6,10,4,0,0,1,3,5,2,0,6,11,24,2,2,2,0,2,8,5,1,3,1,11,4,30,12,42,45,5,45,0,0,2,1,49,10,0,4,25,179,41,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308397779160183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08986522307491203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11324813674051032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10096606302760387,0.0,0.0,0.08304586157471916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11790877792526673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22022779588361435,0.0,0.0,0.18606605708618829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252465086036159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07133343497541204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10181343558980063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09186532892041624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056425901227930224,0.0,0.18413783735631634,0.0,0.0863780151909159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22993747847740614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10726905076142657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071740167535776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059354352939033725,0.17606994861261827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10824506085483147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09747483635977447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17241023544749573,0.11478763803684185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10430773619335464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24641816675934525,0.0,0.0,0.11992198154195008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10343480369512584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11104269339913014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10273338494396524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08606256439033956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08933928407251106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07644344191073839,0.0,0.08624948789524893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12255789938187125,0.0,0.0,0.08120307553434836,0.0,0.094397360483934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10611012631664822,0.0,0.3148803446169767,0.0,0.1023720227866891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548064128278431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2913167630672984,0.0,0.09745382129922622,0.0,0.0,0.10410880794895733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07672058912854987,0.0,0.0,0.2781956051290929
divorce,Huskerfanadam,2020/02/19,"It's not the end of the world! I'm not legally divorced. Yet. But I have been living 1400 miles away from my ex spouse for almost 6 months now, and all my fears of ""is it worth it"" ""will I be okay"" etc. It will be! I havent seen my daughter since october, and as much as that makes me miserable, I'm still all around happier because I surrounded myself in a good situation. 
Always make a better life for YOU. Because at the end of the day, if you're unhappy, your children will see. And it's better to be happy and separated than unhappy and forcing a relationship.",2.299913043478264,4.072081121739132,4.286304347826088,84.81467391304348,76.91304347826087,7.730434782608696,25.41304347826087,8.548686976883017,1.750669565217391,439,16,92,9,10,150,77,115,0.106,0.7290000000000001,0.165,0.8068,0,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,0,2,0,2,4,7,0,2,7,1,10,1,0,2,2,15,16,9,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,6,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,2,2,11,5,14,8,4,14,0,1,2,0,8,7,0,2,7,64,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023142548325299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16811378039238392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17985877230119254,0.0,0.0,0.18982358677331987,0.0,0.0,0.2463238794572575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3573765930640022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13029933003045527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3578956139521111,0.0,0.2253284294762927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273515968723477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.169461884110997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150757403033744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14270709468663811,0.0,0.0,0.1784053561521723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697270436185969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16126670288938064,0.0,0.14852292558220126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21691575547663586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16100002375626565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16712988928385444,0.22710185108454745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16134970760480302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Hns0128,2020/02/19,"Just an idea that *might* help - victims of parental alienation Hi reddit, I am new here. I've had an idea that sometimes helps me deal with this sh**show that is now my life. No idea if anyone will read this, but I hope it helps someone. 
I originally wanted to post this in r/parentalalienation because that's where it fits, but for some reason it keeps saying I am not allowed to post there. 
I suppose it also works in r/divorce. It was a nasty divorce.

 32F, finally divorced in June 2019 from (physically, sexually, verbally and emotionally) abusive, narcissistic husband of 10 years, a 42M who stole my 2 kids from me when I finally left him. They are now 7F and 10M. When I left him and took them with me, they were 4 and 7. How quickly they grow and how many precious memories lost.

I miss my babies every day and at the moment, again, for the second time in the past not even 2 years, I am completely cut out of my kids lives for another new girlfriend. 

I just wanted to share with everyone an idea that sometimes helps me when I'm in the depths of despair... I may not be able to see or even talk to my kids right now, but I made them a joint gmail account that I sometimes send them emails. I plan on telling them some of what actually happened (my side of it, anyway) eventually. I don't want to traumatize them even more, and it's a hard subject to even think about much less tell my children about. I feel that they deserve to know their mother was abused, and did not just leave their dad (taking my kids with me) for fun. I do not badmouth their father, (I'm a child of divorces, and I have seen it and hate it) but this one thing needs to be said.

But for now I try to email and tell them how much I miss them, send happy stories, and a ton of pictures of them and the three of us together. I got the idea from some post on the internet about making your child an email to send milestone pictures, like their birthdays and graduation. I haven't been emailing them specifically on holidays but whenever the mood strikes and I miss them too badly.

When my son is 18 I will give him the email and password, hoping he is old enough then to understand and process what happened, and it isn't dumping any negativity into his already broken and abusive childhood. He is too young to cope with any of it now, and would not believe me anyway. Not with that mental parasite in his ear. And not after 3 years of my barely being in his life.

It might not be the best idea and it won't affect any of the horrible things happening right now. It won't change that they think I don't love them or care to be in their lives. But for now, it makes me feel better to know that one day, the kids will know and be able to make up their minds about it all.
Knowing they were loved and seeing the pictures of how happy we all were, how I WAS there for them, could one day make a difference in their sanity.

Would anyone else try this?",5.847166355334164,5.533235888698634,5.9405853051058575,83.99175383976755,66.82534246575342,9.065089248650892,30.196969696969692,8.484438967287268,1.9559881278538809,2285,73,484,29,33,724,264,584,0.11199999999999999,0.775,0.113,0.2869,3,1,0,0,5,0,74.0,2,1,25,5,38,24,4,0,24,0,40,5,1,14,2,103,82,45,0,10,22,6,3,1,1,10,2,3,0,8,36,33,0,1,16,2,1,5,17,10,0,5,15,9,77,13,67,50,12,65,0,5,3,2,79,24,0,11,34,341,113,3,0.13033704050419154,0.23164212019032396,0.06359507509398253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07191508261610091,0.052115242100863116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13295048548561847,0.06833487563227797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09113468920766783,0.0667728502576972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05441299231959052,0.03972612507334127,0.0,0.0,0.07342260594923411,0.06839034142638327,0.05763626029935377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06644364965120958,0.0,0.06893965338930176,0.0,0.06832795360133892,0.0,0.0,0.0520317606105431,0.0,0.0,0.1260849129163046,0.06718588283978909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06808723325095291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0544399364287525,0.07330581384058367,0.0,0.06733650206395493,0.0,0.17217277203022716,0.0,0.05490728900762192,0.062271313836459126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06590232386880422,0.0,0.0,0.14277785704813312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625155828457181,0.0,0.0,0.05212121890322287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728849217097552,0.13874620322413206,0.058378193743991134,0.06434042186852422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17472434172611814,0.0,0.0,0.12945409000009592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4414039621504085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05792477511269704,0.0,0.0,0.1432596577060443,0.0,0.0,0.06900405335547366,0.1416115758688377,0.0,0.09206090623232928,0.031838047206067366,0.0,0.115089994650478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07113913811461729,0.0,0.11763426775284212,0.06166402957143249,0.17400197324050795,0.06607065093191263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06567454061456722,0.1382670029832281,0.06580162799777052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09581272154266963,0.048321632019607236,0.0,0.1258803259004547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06838339947951233,0.0,0.13247962769214153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07236192956554036,0.0,0.06221072655239515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18724028447596847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0651861557791943,0.0,0.0,0.06700409262087552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11130712044108927,0.06199018620071973,0.05182462297734177,0.0,0.0,0.10386174648832047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055217075729759216,0.0,0.19335999865221234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04899861690716205,0.052379988038961454,0.17088047735740272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08659013824670894,0.08351471277605331,0.0,0.0,0.03800028823035445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07240462386090915,0.08849029495430949,0.0,0.0,0.06784272787373771,0.07838970587500972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11531424510847367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04744345889685592,0.0,0.0,0.09258769402179796,0.0,0.0,0.12589917122545416
divorce,-Falcoon-,2020/02/19,"Is there like a dating site for miserably married people who are trapped waiting for a divorce? I don't wanna cheat, but this marriage is now a puppet show. 

Only thing keeping us together is our two kids, but goddamn, it is miserable dragging myself through this thing and lonely. The loneliest I've ever been and I've been ""alone"" most of my life.

Would be great to make a connection or a friend or something. I have no one. Everything I enjoy I have to do it alone.",2.67258852258852,5.050840483516488,3.784102564102565,85.94145299145298,78.23076923076924,6.242246642246642,27.69352869352869,7.3871296695380915,1.7156876678876678,368,16,68,5,9,119,66,91,0.23600000000000002,0.602,0.162,-0.797,0,5,1,0,1,0,12.0,2,0,0,0,3,8,1,2,6,0,13,1,0,1,1,13,16,6,0,2,4,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,7,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,4,0,2,2,0,8,4,7,12,1,4,0,3,0,0,7,1,0,3,4,54,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5101837083394536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22279186958794386,0.0,0.0,0.2213579808727384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19029027248293945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2715459109434024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21892218554579285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17396852000285154,0.12032942491881275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16440673354786425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16689881878827353,0.18732175990561134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17075296237501086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18961327835233374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3272606975996118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405986833919796,0.0,0.2962678007995801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17496399675666668,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,UmbridgesBritches,2020/02/19,Affirmations I'm having a hard day dealing with my emotions regarding my STBX and was wondering if anyone has some awesome affirmations that make them feel strong?,15.44714285714286,11.701783714285718,13.451428571428574,48.49357142857147,51.14285714285714,16.914285714285715,53.0,14.554592549557764,7.594457142857141,136,7,19,4,1,43,26,28,0.044000000000000004,0.723,0.233,0.7906,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,7,7,2,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,1,1,6,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,12,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875547730287573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26522150040571,0.4239795287326601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4625996279547043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20793978612226616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3683982114347251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745118151866168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4459818585377607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ayatoadally,2020/02/19,"how important is great sex Me (M31) and my wife (F32) got married at 22. We grew up super religious and never had sex except with each other. We left religion 3+ years ago. 

This past year we met a couple (M40, F41) we came to really care for — in November, my wife had sex with the husband, then I had sex with the wife. This polyamory experience was a first for all of us. (The couple also grew up religious, also left 3+ years ago, and also never had sex except with each other.) We were open and straightforward with each other about what was going on throughout.

Sadly, the experience ended in a separation between me and my wife. One of the core reasons why was that my experience with this women was the best sex I ever had ... by a long shot. And my wife could tell, even though I never said as much. She was wounded and jealous, understandably. 

Throughout our separation, I continued to sleep with this woman. The sex got better and better. But recently, I felt a strong impulse to end things with this woman and reconcile with my wife — for reasons I can get into in another post. 

My wife invited me over this week, and had me stay the night. She had had a hard day, and I was grateful to be there for her. We had sex — 

And it was fine. But not great. 

Now I’m wondering — how important is great sex? Now that I’ve experienced it, I can’t un-experience it. 

For example — my wife can’t orgasm except with a vibrator and only about once a week. The other woman I was with would orgasm dozens of times in a single sex session.

tl;dr - I learned that the sexual connection between me and another woman is exponentially stronger than between me and my wife. But how important is sexual connection in a longterm, committed, permanent, monogamous relationship?",3.8537467921300252,5.836776928143713,5.384298545765611,77.70594311377249,73.1317365269461,8.963045337895636,26.89863130881095,9.516144504307137,2.6215828913601373,1370,50,252,35,28,462,155,334,0.021,0.8390000000000001,0.14,0.9906,0,0,0,0,0,0,56.0,8,0,0,6,14,12,1,0,20,0,28,14,3,5,6,63,40,27,0,2,7,10,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,5,18,38,0,0,7,0,0,4,6,2,0,3,24,4,36,10,45,13,7,44,0,1,0,12,30,14,0,1,24,192,54,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755407349870088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375455456289397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20765064324353533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10390959416720963,0.17514053277444572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132461940261991,0.10095186727028099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07905501005089596,0.219115290564124,0.0,0.06385615209443875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17539489077278328,0.0,0.0,0.06539813406094043,0.08956427111690181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38742066611648973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09506943393888262,0.0,0.0,0.08422167106295395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051730982172462636,0.0,0.05627221408525971,0.0,0.1583818589226948,0.32749146052864386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08869753087404128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21515905712722969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08762470415281834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07278703983567146,0.0,0.2290982265578579,0.0,0.0,0.09291838752351002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10544719592261978,0.06709477811147424,0.07530497823511803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09452053044456464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482850729048076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06343121503164896,0.20360676453916327,0.09776485955768244,0.10630450264140738,0.0,0.0,0.09418545011067342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908599290460393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055362675951412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08654302485300408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06578082472203503,0.0,0.09728122960111804,0.0,0.05773614293918197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103077571679398,0.1191022351179092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15884689613755987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893451727408689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10737698620430018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07033704986718609,0.0,0.0,0.19128624766564212
divorce,dolcefarniente35,2020/02/19,"How to make extra money to recover from financial hit of divorce? I’ve been divorced for about 2 years now and just barely paid off my 401K loan that I had to take out in order to pay for legal fees for my divorce. All of my savings have been depleted. My question is how did you make extra money to recover from the financial hit of divorce? Some things I’ve done is: got a higher paying job, deferred my student loans, started a side hustle reselling/flipping clothing for profit on Poshmark/Mercari, and applying for top class action settlements. I don’t want to pick up extra shifts at my full-time job since it’s so stressful. Looking for alternative side hustles that actually make money.",7.873344155844157,7.441363022727277,8.123376623376625,70.40863636363639,62.71212121212121,10.270129870129873,38.55411255411255,9.606745405546679,3.872838528138528,557,26,92,9,7,183,91,132,0.045,0.893,0.062,-0.1284,2,0,0,0,4,0,14.0,0,1,0,1,6,3,0,1,3,0,9,0,0,6,1,15,20,5,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,10,1,1,1,0,0,7,1,9,2,24,11,5,14,0,0,1,0,6,9,0,2,3,61,13,8,0.0,0.0,0.2379775680226923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495590937152786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950415326758693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4839977960698825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20478561643167725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4883463817174241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27318519195503904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20172807693201025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726092691564554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27934712749519675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18335652046655634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620134144369485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14383820114336615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15704139846274082
divorce,Dzgr736,2020/02/19,"Sorry, not sorry (I don't belong here) I'm married over 20 years and still going strong. Sex is really a big struggle with my marriage, and always has been.
I'm a child of divorce and most of my extended family seems to be divorced. 
Maybe that's why I lurk here so much.


Am I still accepted here, even if I don't ever want to be here for my own marriage?",2.09,3.3916672666666687,4.2316666666666665,86.98750000000004,76.33333333333334,7.133333333333333,23.166666666666664,7.793537801064563,1.058066666666667,275,8,59,4,6,95,53,75,0.096,0.8109999999999999,0.09300000000000001,0.1832,0,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,9,3,0,1,2,0,8,1,0,0,1,11,13,5,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,7,2,7,10,3,7,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,3,4,42,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068563449337909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16419893175233652,0.22487426975925634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23435934870713865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412859490995325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497535991884596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827506909493032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15926047275667085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22631744895901965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5565780031439236,0.0,0.0,0.39706692328688464,0.0,0.0,0.2598922422103569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14663159290029346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22432416661319787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16009120125834805
divorce,theweirdouwrlookin4,2020/02/19,I'm finalizing my divorce today! I've been separated from my ex since October 2018. I live in Virginia so there is a year waiting period where you have to live separately before you can file for divorce. I was the one who left him so I have been the one handling all the legal stuff. Neither of us can afford lawyers so I've had to figure out the process on my own. Wish I had thought of turning to Reddit sooner. It's been a journey with a lot of legal issues and frustration getting him to sign documents and participate in general. But today I'm going to court and hopefully getting the divorce finalized! I'm nervous but I'm so ready for this to be over.,2.802954545454547,4.895214295454551,4.880303030303033,79.66545454545457,76.5,7.733333333333332,29.93939393939393,8.59863814320734,2.605412121212121,525,25,98,11,12,181,82,132,0.028999999999999998,0.883,0.08900000000000001,0.7612,1,0,0,0,3,0,9.0,1,2,0,0,6,3,1,1,8,0,12,0,0,0,1,16,24,9,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,2,0,2,7,0,12,1,18,16,4,15,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,2,6,71,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16542413664612818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4259218358182618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031369321719356,0.0,0.1104847081550962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930877966897749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029080669845789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112213462723388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3433259387645816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652759794412622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634674003459537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16081363074395913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22254694528661687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15433566839101354,0.0,0.0,0.3685459726220542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114565598659148,0.0,0.0,0.2338449961766973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22355588587776806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251902950148769
divorce,mascunning,2020/02/19,"First painful post I just don't know where to start. Myself (42yo male) has been divorced since last month 1/21 from my wife (36yo female). We have 3 boys and share 50/50 custody. Things are amicable between us, but for some reason it doesn't feel amicable to me.
This is ridiculously hard. I know it will get better. I know what I should be doing. I know how much my boys mean to me. This is so overly complicated that it is hust too much.
Lost my job (laid off) in 07/19. Never been unemployed and actually helped my wife get her degeee.I moved out 09/19 for ""a break"" and to help my mom who is an invalid. She literally needs me to clean her every evening. My wife decided she didn't want me to come home.
I'm forced to live with my mom. While I appreciate that it could be worse, she needs my help. As in, she would be in a nursing home without me. I didn't want the divorce. I felt lucky to be married to her. But I didn't want her to be unhappy. So, I let her decide what she wanted. 
Now, after 60 days of separation and almost a month after final divorce decree, I'm still ultra sad and it just keeps piling higher up. Still unemployed, still heartbroken. I don't feel like I need her back because I'm really quite bitter about the rejection. And on top of that, she started a relationship with someone I would consider a friend...brother-in-law's friend who help me a few years ago...started it pretty quickly I might add...
Now he's taking my kids to school and I'm still fighting to find some place where I haven't been supplanted. It hasn't been 3 months since she told me she wanted the divorce and now I have some guy taking my kids to school?! This is messed up.
Now I'm at (no doubt about it) my lowest point in life. Divorced, unwanted, unemployed, living with my mom, cleaning her bowel movements daily and meanwhile, she's living her best life with someone more attractive and having more freedom than I've had in my entire adult life...oh, and having an ex-husband that is doing his best to keep things amicable for his kids.",2.700859332238643,4.660625591133005,3.7763136288998354,88.07524767378216,76.33990147783251,6.678598795840178,22.85413245758073,7.594959193182576,0.9188464148877946,1594,47,328,22,36,515,204,406,0.141,0.725,0.134,0.5023,9,0,0,0,7,0,73.0,2,0,0,7,21,17,3,1,11,0,39,4,1,2,1,60,71,18,0,13,5,6,4,1,1,5,3,0,4,8,21,19,0,2,12,0,0,3,11,9,0,1,11,5,58,8,44,48,10,46,0,3,0,0,52,17,0,7,25,219,79,6,0.0,0.0,0.08274189213394098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516038630400852,0.0,0.08490399639273352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06519755385144736,0.0,0.051686624331525835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17796177596905266,0.07498903375214536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07303826793276462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06769716550557169,0.0,0.0,0.05468192963485918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056002374832774725,0.0,0.07143844044089594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574379328698367,0.060573321803090975,0.08141079483435737,0.09288227138291172,0.07749566526513013,0.07212153159469484,0.0,0.0,0.13101563571490965,0.0,0.08859756920251739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839545004678686,0.0,0.0,0.07595434398970739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273292800568492,0.0,0.17010068203083695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08414005943547738,0.1507288256889273,0.0,0.0,0.18639140102502103,0.06911440099856396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08670255905344726,0.17966706294405346,0.04142365212693982,0.0,0.2246108816364953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255727560164724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09236014371068517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08994779414612304,0.0,0.2979117688787663,0.20303345760369704,0.09011735287560298,0.12465943092648422,0.18861004213268,0.06539455058081416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09022153850518476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08858652184973817,0.0,0.08015306847207787,0.0,0.0812044821518207,0.08626095680328336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901836027934078,0.0,0.0,0.05431804334035853,0.08717727584999202,0.0,0.09103171961738656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17162211190979793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14027677415632836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14368299171693846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18004240040599068,0.0,0.2708506131470894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12750164281914078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11266016854424872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08101958091692887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10199080004758324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500539236246344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0817336286716114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864072964389873,0.12046343180443578,0.0,0.0,0.05460137507972311
divorce,fotolabman1,2020/02/19,"Struggling Six months ago my wife(38F) left me(38M).  We were together for 13 years married for 8.  She said she was unhappy and has been unhappy for a long time.  She had mentioned two years ago that she was unhappy, I made changes, I changed my diet, exercised more, joined her running group, swam together spent more time together, I was teaching her how to drive since she never got her license.  But she said we felt like roommates.  She moved in with mutual friends at first but now has her own apartment.  A lot of her stuff is still in the house reminding me of her six months later.  

It hurts so much to not mean anything to her, I've seen that she's dating and that kills me.
The bed is so empty.  I'm lonely.  I'm afraid I'll never be able to get over her, that I'll just have to be alone


I'm stressed because I have to sell the townhouse we bought together six years ago, the condo and rental market is fucked in my city.  I love that townhouse, it has an awesome view, last summer I renovated the deck and got a BBQ, I thought she liked having BBQ dinners with me in the summer.

I no longer have the drive to do any of my hobbies, I don't play video games, I cant find anything I want to photograph, I have troubles focusing on work

My friends think I should try dating, but I still love my wife, it wouldn't be fair to the other person since I'm broken

I don't know how to make things better

Counselling hasn't helped me at all

I don't understand how I was so terrible to live with, I always supported her, I don't know what to fix if I don't know what's wrong with me",3.825379020979021,4.503614840000001,4.476594405594408,89.27945104895106,71.36923076923077,7.8783216783216785,27.08041958041958,8.00094639256281,1.3971230769230771,1233,40,273,16,22,394,167,325,0.163,0.726,0.111,-0.9396,1,3,0,0,0,0,35.0,3,0,0,3,10,19,2,3,12,0,31,6,0,5,3,38,58,14,1,4,6,1,1,2,2,2,1,2,2,1,13,11,2,0,9,4,3,5,12,10,0,5,17,5,52,9,30,36,6,38,0,2,2,3,33,10,1,2,25,171,65,3,0.11370177444032617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.302369288006544,0.0,0.0,0.11776074765916232,0.0,0.0,0.09460898479359342,0.0,0.0,0.07732110561940378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18713374469068625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0693115463571075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055997961577623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405628020811958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10917153428200968,0.0,0.10392136195713488,0.09671467125436306,0.0,0.0,0.17569141776629915,0.10511545830409738,0.059404484277393324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18187539174939385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07621190267680918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13119658181168026,0.12172010117440275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12579416709881985,0.0,0.18746256502234085,0.09268212174254532,0.0,0.0,0.1235373106163164,0.0,0.0,0.11109788738615133,0.0,0.10040074994388233,0.10062249239350836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666518261523367,0.20524058129210712,0.10758736816932928,0.07589681734766587,0.0,0.0,0.12385456518288515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18151134316013,0.12084699208354698,0.08358388690748321,0.0,0.1753876358808633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928000375940536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163128498742116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881105655575094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816047678852282,0.0,0.13024499846319804,0.1188657819469959,0.1301613288229741,0.0,0.12902742620789473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07553840665399594,0.07285550598493191,0.0,0.0902665082941682,0.13260083808320605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719604126448812,0.0,0.1110701121141956,0.11836755710082406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06706425247629948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08277624597415527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12431504114691587,0.0,0.2196606446413863
divorce,ark-6,2020/02/19,"Only still married for the kids (4 and 6) I'm the primary parent (that's what she says about me, she didn't like kids, she says I'm the better parent to her friends and mine) and frankly I've been done for years, I'm still here because I don't want to hurt the kids.
Any former kids here who can say what this is doing to the kids? Am I helping or hurting them with this method?
Thank you for any responses.",1.9460098522167504,3.2428949310344852,2.955993431855504,96.00620689655176,76.70114942528734,5.8909688013136305,21.623973727422005,6.1826913282559595,0.021562889983579137,317,8,75,2,7,101,56,87,0.067,0.779,0.154,0.8318,2,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,1,1,5,6,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,6,13,4,0,1,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,5,6,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,3,10,4,8,10,0,4,0,2,0,0,19,0,0,1,5,45,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27048764075014897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212341475247464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17589137805427651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20352118361241192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15365260465096514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13330369235535666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42580590040439625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09716171674821666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15125563667412598,0.0,0.0,0.4416608379462154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4744671655629696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3176483627642713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18310008889921325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173033629412713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807087417840174
divorce,InkBlot83,2020/02/19,"Still too scared to pull the trigger vent I (42F) have been married to my husband/eventual X (47M) for 13 years. He was my first real boyfriend and even though we broke up twice before getting married (once initiated by me, the other initiated by him for variations of us being too young/not ready) I dated one other guy before he asked me to get back together for good.

He is the quintessential ""good on paper"" guy. College graduate, good salary, and attractive enough. I initially loved the way he treated me, kind, caring, and sweet.  One of the things we would argue about would be him not taking  holidays ""serious"" enough because of ""how he was raised"" (basically not exchanging gifts because his mom didn't think she couldn't afford it). I grew up in a working class family that eventually turned middle class and my mom always found a way to make birthdays and holidays special, even if it was just a duncan hines cake  and a couple cheap gifts. IMO, despite how he was raised, knowing that birthdays and holidays were important to me he should make the effort.  I now feel that this was a signal that he would never make the effort to step out of his comfort zone to do things to make me happy. Another thing we would argue about over and over again is what felt like his inability to put my needs above those of his friends and sometimes complete strangers. For example, when we were still dating his female friend who lived 30 minutes away asked to spend the night at his apartment. Despite my saying I was uncomfortable with this, because he lived in a studio at the time and we live in NYC so she could have taken a cab or the subway home, he still let her spend the night.

Fast forward over a decade and a couple kids later and I'm not sure why we're still together.  We can't have a conversation about anything other than the kids without it getting heated and even our talks about the kids are tense at times. We've been to counseling and he basically blew up the situation after about 8 sessions by getting into a fight (I believe on purpose) with the much smaller older female therapist.  He didn't physically threaten her but he became so enraged she didn't feel comfortable seeing us anymore. That was a couple years ago and since then I've just been going through the motions. Our sex life is basically nonexistent, he blames me for that because I had the gall to tell him I didn't like something he did so if I don't initiate it doesn't happen and the last few times I tried he claimed he was ""too tired"".  I don't suspect he's having an affair, I think he's trying to punish me because he knows sex is pretty important to me so he's not giving me what he knows I want.

Right now I'm only still here because 1) I still feel like I would be admitting I am a failure by this not working out. I know a marriage takes two people to work and two to make it fail but for some reason I feel like I would  shoulder the blame. Part of it is that my mom and I have a complicated, somewhat contentious relationship and she never liked my husband over something seemingly silly (she feels he tried too hard to engage her in conversations whenever he would come over) 2) he makes way more money than I do, like 5 times more. As I mentioned, we're in NYC which isn't exactly the cheapest place to live.  I know I would  be entitled to ss and cs but even with that I feel like my standard of living would fall so much I would be just making ends meet. 3) I have a chronic health condition which is getting worse as the years go by and I feel like this will limit my prospects in the already limited dating pool for a woman my age. 4) I grew up without my father in my life consistently until I was about 14 and one thing I can say is that he is a terrific, very involved father and I don't want to take that away from my kids. I know he would still be involved if we divorce but it's just not the same as him being in the house.

Despite these feelings I know staying with him is like condemning my soul and possibly mental health to a slow death. I want to wake up next to someone who adores me, not someone who acts hypersensitive to everything I say, yet thinks it's ok to treat me as if I'm their child/employee. We barely talk, don't often interact with the kids together (we take turns for the most part) and barely do anything together, not even just watch a TV show. It's like we're just co-parenting roommates at this point yet I'm too scared to call it quits. I've been thinking about it for about 2 years, since before we went to therapy, but too scared to pull the trigger.  He knows I'm deeply unhappy and says he wants to fix it but doesn't make any actual effort to fix things.",6.669698275862068,6.099113573275865,6.881589655172416,78.78237586206897,65.20689655172414,9.924,32.46086206896552,9.281916038205594,2.6541479482758628,3708,129,734,58,50,1198,386,928,0.08800000000000001,0.812,0.1,0.4904,5,0,2,0,2,0,87.0,14,0,1,11,49,42,5,3,48,1,73,11,2,13,4,142,138,52,1,23,27,6,10,10,2,13,6,4,2,8,44,45,0,2,26,6,5,14,25,11,0,7,25,17,96,31,105,90,13,94,1,2,2,3,109,35,0,10,53,475,140,10,0.0,0.0,0.04431470442956621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0402542196942084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05011230233552938,0.0,0.03778569130517887,0.0,0.0,0.030881120167222886,0.04761752087563933,0.0,0.0,0.04503563068202991,0.0,0.0,0.07473896823954976,0.0,0.08490653802038667,0.0,0.08533048790548096,0.034918349749370234,0.0,0.1660931908474473,0.0,0.1159245603800584,0.0511627838520579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0463698328200509,0.0,0.0462996653618797,0.0,0.0,0.039117660619223824,0.047612697424221716,0.0,0.0,0.036257085772736806,0.1507396282472211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04022077534842167,0.0938436563483951,0.0,0.14996808896095914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04081258831895522,0.0,0.042809564326224035,0.0,0.18368982183929788,0.12976685849415676,0.043601798525715794,0.0,0.0,0.03862667716678304,0.0,0.04979095135413583,0.07016904040530557,0.0,0.11862718482531134,0.043562486119498166,0.05161637425376423,0.11426608382846552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08992830059392246,0.040156905203609726,0.048340983775202115,0.04067944565005641,0.0,0.0,0.09653979831207136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04555105795297657,0.0,0.0,0.05239833776301643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04728869550131416,0.19965412034004773,0.03701612536391967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046435948932867635,0.0641504368565437,0.22185580400155114,0.0,0.20049426343939003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04098531056494425,0.0,0.24249821241406194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04576373015647984,0.0,0.0,0.15955487170369315,0.0,0.0,0.06676479946727024,0.0336717715536714,0.07004771357178942,0.0,0.04829524341477612,0.08523052350851275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04836136286112177,0.09231525452938304,0.034537204577255114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09835163966822008,0.0,0.03148235419467375,0.0,0.04744495721538048,0.0,0.04292818845274979,0.05119421689775884,0.0,0.04619943665732327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04565072023644436,0.0,0.04830031800232315,0.0,0.0516877985849406,0.0,0.04669019661785625,0.0,0.048754550379744736,0.0,0.03878085005767784,0.0,0.14445098750308188,0.13639336544012975,0.0,0.03618678482859409,0.04134057993762877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07512909875215132,0.05104400376867717,0.0,0.0,0.07695339259567241,0.06991940058985531,0.044912760807924536,0.0,0.0,0.048402213899765,0.2538576647705028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04279944505743285,0.0,0.13657404901178513,0.07299947942636917,0.039691322195865054,0.0,0.05193157561458872,0.05272581269281865,0.15084565814441764,0.11639045340292735,0.044616196790744266,0.0,0.10591836167677213,0.05219340448209845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09249351290151422,0.09878852118730164,0.08872013538111233,0.0,0.10924797686103788,0.0,0.0,0.03746893147953733,0.107138625246241,0.1081357047668009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042096565039697775,0.04097647434818024,0.0,0.0,0.0875494021982275,0.0,0.09917951295867154,0.0,0.04627781288894308,0.3548463396859213,0.0,0.0,0.1169730947988929
divorce,nachothrowaway88,2020/02/19,"Human contact How do you get past the yearning for human contact? We've been sleeping in separate rooms for less than a week. We used to cuddle every night. I tried to go into his room tonight, asked if I could lay with him for a few minutes. His response-- ""Are you sure that's a good idea?"" -- was enough to send me fleeing back to my bed... our marital bed... in tears.

He wants to be done, I clearly do not. We had our first counseling session yesterday and it went well, but I'm terrified that he has already mentally checked out.",1.8238701298701296,4.1709915428571485,3.079393939393942,89.98636363636366,81.19047619047619,6.4848484848484835,26.688311688311693,7.686295010490155,1.618428571428571,412,18,84,7,11,133,82,105,0.066,0.853,0.08199999999999999,-0.4696,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,4,2,0,1,3,4,0,0,4,0,10,2,1,2,2,17,17,4,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,3,6,0,0,1,0,1,4,1,1,1,1,5,0,14,3,14,10,3,17,0,1,0,1,17,6,0,1,7,56,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600612367142611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22031415693959186,0.0,0.0,0.18121117563189687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18815863822380827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24116623426662184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435040518029508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985572005830187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004557956027903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231247855548196,0.0,0.13393336064728095,0.19766389815126328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660361269420035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23749402255489385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2211548294171344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22496808590867715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358343320680269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22211066132614316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16000048046857948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20353815005725784,0.0,0.0,0.1390008145846491,0.0,0.18903555665908892,0.0,0.2118903624081941,0.21846301717181885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Calcreamer,2020/02/19,"My ex-husband brought me flowers My ex-husband brought me flowers the next day after valentines and put them on my windshield. We’ve been divorced since 2015, should I email him telling him thank you or just let the bitch go and keep the flowers? I’m torn. I miss him but the relationship was toxic!",2.811781609195404,5.367484086206896,2.624827586206898,93.46126436781613,78.82758620689657,4.55632183908046,30.356321839080447,5.46131890053228,1.1085080459770111,239,12,47,1,6,71,42,58,0.099,0.8690000000000001,0.032,-0.4102,3,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,0,1,1,0,1,3,1,0,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,11,4,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,4,0,12,1,2,5,0,8,0,1,0,0,9,1,1,1,3,27,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257003085459585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988947918882424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3110675015670421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3578658335716874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3721947745089201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3518143469875287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37573449478299936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28949701867078764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3058873228524005,0.3222033729245326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,FedoraStickMan,2020/02/19,"How does divorce affect children? Personally, I’m a child born from a divorce so I don’t have the same feelings my older sister has. I want to hear other kids or even adults on how you think divorce affects kids?",2.772142857142857,5.040760261904765,3.957380952380952,85.39178571428572,77.33333333333333,5.152380952380953,27.16666666666667,5.985473137389443,1.089409523809524,169,7,31,1,4,55,35,42,0.0,0.955,0.045,0.168,0,0,0,0,3,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,4,0,9,8,4,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,3,8,1,3,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,1,2,20,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4245444371949839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3204267369165403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24529856078277726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5467817974758294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4236006999446928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3108545745509021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28614487524671106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,5throwaway25,2020/02/19,"My crush made me realize a lot of things about my marriage My husband and I have been married for 2 years and it has been....rocky. We’ve been together a total of 5 years. We weren’t ready to get married but it solved a lot of practical problems in our life so we did it. Soon after we got married I was determined to make it work but I couldn’t help but just feel sad all the time. 
The fear of ending my marriage and being alone was so over powering that I just accepted my depressed state of mind. 

Soon after I met my crush. He took me by surprise and before I knew it I was in deep. I couldn’t believe someone like him liked me. I laughed more, felt the sunshine, looked in the mirror more, worked out more. I never escalated things beyond keeping it casual because I didn’t want to cheat on my husband and I knew I would if I even got his number. Yet he made me realize all the things wrong with my marriage, My repressed feelings of not being heard or validated started to emerge. The dead bedroom started to become a real issue. I started to vocalize these concerns in an attempt to salvage my marriage. My husband would yell at me, invalidate and depress me even more. He used/uses drugs, can’t hold a job and is overall pretty immature. 

I started to make positive life changes and moving towards separation and divorce because I wanted to take a chance on my crush. The hope of moving on to something better kept me going. Then my crush got busy with work(highly successful guy) and pretty much dropped off the map (we took a class together). I’ve been in a haze these past few months and he was a distraction from the crippling reality that is my life. He made me feel beautiful and desirable. Intelligent and interesting. Like I had a chance with someone like him. Now that he’s gone, I’m recalibrating and mourning my divorce and my actual relationship. The world seems grey and I’m terrified of being alone but I’m trying not to let anything change. I have now seen the light and I can’t go back...",3.5802706453851485,5.503478061068705,4.697802452000925,82.5930742539903,73.73282442748092,7.511727966689799,29.21188989127921,8.296473431620573,2.1769379134860043,1590,68,302,27,33,521,196,393,0.13699999999999998,0.6559999999999999,0.207,0.9833,3,2,2,0,2,0,43.0,5,0,0,6,14,23,1,3,22,0,26,4,0,5,4,71,64,26,2,10,10,3,4,4,0,2,4,2,1,1,14,25,0,4,10,1,0,7,9,10,0,0,27,11,52,13,42,29,11,46,0,4,4,0,28,17,0,6,24,206,66,5,0.0,0.0,0.09095866895513673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930731043100612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07670317513856685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07167207039281473,0.0,0.113638845589108,0.10294216515073217,0.07931410763921239,0.1050147750983906,0.0,0.0824359042368214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972058088225359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16056178062636975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10809300320180333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825556265607213,0.0,0.0,0.12312750752351485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10488618914390288,0.14138801592650296,0.0,0.08949538553851014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048697925316212864,0.0,0.1059457974243007,0.0,0.2236435772149148,0.0,0.0,0.09229169672587488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06247611758451228,0.09848056733728493,0.0,0.09257770118052244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09728611913572337,0.0924956828358258,0.08284856077283083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09531265436545047,0.19750910305526134,0.1821490982888212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07827219702491607,0.0,0.0,0.15848614463828112,0.0,0.2645902081539523,0.1244356411100574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09411465414441496,0.0,0.07439864128760146,0.19813311627092448,0.06851943808236033,0.0,0.07188863010434167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08897866499214607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896543966125878,0.0,0.08918855282471047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10609240027720113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10007172709672853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08485409467046626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15795159309275245,0.07175694494253558,0.0,0.0,0.2638956184356505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07008166855580664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857720202686066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05435099545423201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071175543971892,0.06328288340407233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121191113563166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10995432409540594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20357207844357508,0.0,0.0,0.13242618862234948,0.10190955553431637,0.0,0.12004725229952835
divorce,youkidsgetoffmylawn7,2020/02/20,"Is this what the end looks like? I really don’t know where to start with this. My wife (33) and I (32) have been married for 6 years. For the first couple of years, it was going well. I had a great job, and was able to pay for her to go through nursing school. Then, right as she finished, I got laid off. I decided to go back to school to start a career (I have the GI Bill, so the financial end of it wasn’t an issue). 

Things really started going downhill about two and half years ago. My wife took a position that required her to work nights. I’ve worked nights most of my adult life, and I can honestly tell you that the people who are successful with it are the ones who habitually wake up to an alarm. However, my wife consistently will sleep until 6 or 7 in the evening, and then when she wakes up, is groggy until late at night. With me no longer working nights, this has caused a huge problem between us. Even when the roles were reversed, I made a consistent effort on work days and off days to wake up early enough in order to be not only awake but present and engaging with her. However, she has no issue waking up to go grab drinks with friends. 

This has progressed to the point where I go weeks without really having any real conversation with her. Because of this, our marriage has significantly deteriorated. Over time, I’ve consistently brought this issue up to her, with no real change. 

Finally, last year, we went to marriage counseling. We were there for about 3 months or so. It started getting better for a while, but after 2 or 3 months, it regressed back to where it was. Truthfully, it probably hurt more than it helped, because in that time, she started sleeping in a different room on work nights. Within a couple of months, this progressed to full time. 

I don’t really know what to do. I’ve never witnessed somebody living life so passively at this point. She has admitted to depression, but refuses to get help. I’ve certainly had my share of mental issues as well, but I’ve fought hard to get on top of them. Unfortunately, hers are having a significant effect on mine now too. 

I’m really tired of taking a backseat to reality TV binges, and friends, and sleeping 18 hours a day. As time has really gone on, I’ve realized how much I’ve grown as a person, and how at odds that is with someone who quite literally fears change. 

I’m sick of the fighting that all of this is causing. I’m sick of being lonely. I really don’t want to go back to marriage counseling. It was my suggestion last time, and I feel like going back now is just giving a false hope that I want to continue in this marriage. I told her in front of the counselor last time, “I will absolutely die on the hill of you with your oversleeping and not being present in our relationship” (by that meaning that the issue is a complete make-or-break issue with me). 

I feel a lot of guilt for some reason with all of this, but I really feel like I’ve put up with more than I really should have. I don’t even know how to tell her I want a divorce (or even if I’m out of my mind with this and blowing something way out of proportion). 

I don’t know y’all. I appreciate anybody who read this far, cause I really don’t have anyone I can talk to about it.",5.600592720118049,5.646775350467291,6.327919331037876,79.78590752582393,67.30218068535825,9.748548942449585,29.82308575176259,9.549672527348893,2.4451115264797507,2533,83,516,48,38,834,280,642,0.09699999999999999,0.795,0.10800000000000001,0.3279,4,2,2,0,3,0,84.0,5,4,1,15,29,25,2,3,31,0,46,13,7,9,5,83,90,40,1,7,14,3,5,3,2,3,5,0,1,2,38,30,1,2,13,3,2,15,14,9,2,4,18,6,57,16,106,66,10,113,0,3,1,0,55,39,0,9,60,350,95,13,0.05537119915894165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04908322714742002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03765431418740562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03871682989643871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17030813717231086,0.0,0.0675075381408024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048971325963312586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17064442270505384,0.11715077350232375,0.0,0.05805564883700104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12253435738465795,0.0,0.1071295281375059,0.0,0.04769113269938352,0.0,0.05746656274204943,0.05785111796210509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0542426951400816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09808489482437867,0.057213250385715626,0.0,0.14628861930505746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062307993163511134,0.08399202603942693,0.07911439148567329,0.0,0.0606564421557879,0.0,0.04709871371820557,0.0,0.0,0.08555930223200009,0.0,0.08678749859574295,0.053117099711593535,0.2517498280944952,0.0,0.044285406222712806,0.06104694255023816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04960171843450537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07422829524290707,0.0,0.0,0.054996094522372925,0.05452947749286311,0.0,0.059276013914027426,0.0,0.0,0.3467588761965551,0.05494737124905781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12172225190318152,0.13540475283012735,0.062461124450959526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07822063097372575,0.08115471300526797,0.0,0.04889378330474065,0.0,0.04649786170065051,0.0,0.0,0.047074613432112174,0.0,0.05239356746377635,0.03696070540300152,0.0,0.0,0.06031546850735305,0.0,0.0,0.05580114530718162,0.0,0.05590912659598051,0.0,0.1325902886898393,0.0,0.04070420247365342,0.0,0.04270568231752638,0.0,0.0,0.2598105973138352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037520957567996456,0.042112292082169565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03838741761264417,0.04834799533887327,0.0,0.0,0.10468736151687094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05969951786657635,0.05298275955131844,0.0,0.05566334878256507,0.0,0.05889408608116028,0.055386183391811575,0.12604909388218732,0.3547220804180502,0.05693081479558925,0.0,0.05944794580389401,0.0,0.047286701538644005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11207721935217467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16623356273030018,0.0,0.04691583736103837,0.042627454304586636,0.0,0.0,0.19596009879348456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041632250736764326,0.044505272460211236,0.09679373729862033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03678616432835622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937243490778027,0.06364104800075385,0.0,0.052909553676978735,0.06151943963622113,0.0,0.0,0.054089615828368943,0.0,0.06660473491227435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09797810364673684,0.04395108057519477,0.04441543602605683,0.0,0.09957071571515536,0.051329656360645015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053375860063369904,0.0,0.20155446227754334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14262894736913267
divorce,ayaknamedmax,2020/02/20,"When did you know you needed a divorce? It's something that has been going through my mind. I want to love my wife, but most days I can't wait for her to be at school or work. Sometimes I'm anxious just being around her. She can sometimes blow up at things that in my mind aren't that serious, like this morning she raised her voice and kinda got upset because the remote to our TV was on the floor.",4.688554216867472,4.661085325301208,4.816530120481929,90.096843373494,69.24096385542168,7.121927710843375,27.443373493975905,5.6839178017228535,0.821604337349398,314,9,69,1,5,98,66,83,0.098,0.841,0.061,-0.6205,0,0,1,0,1,0,7.0,1,2,0,1,3,4,0,1,3,0,9,1,0,0,0,13,17,4,0,2,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,2,0,1,1,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,4,1,13,2,11,11,1,10,0,0,0,1,11,7,0,3,3,48,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27685302215774993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181592765830901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14938898631406725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15804626716289974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927574852950453,0.0,0.1960003912546504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13468098766803654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11972608930654485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22118019292029348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4948903768617928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817121506596352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24801826061260254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18866255126736664,0.4847499244559285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628099009605068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14454533511237552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784098051030555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,malkomalka,2020/02/20,"Ex Husband back to using drugs, what do I tell young kids? Hello, my ex has life long drug and alcohol issues. He decided he didn't have a problem with alcohol (he was using heroin before) and that's when I finally left him. We have two young kids ages 6 and 8 and we had been sharing joint custody. Well last week I asked for a drug test and he admitted to using cocaine. I immediately told him that joint custody was over for the time being however the kids have all these questions. I'm not sure what is appropriate to share with them at this point. They miss him, especially the 8 YO. She knows something is wrong and is afraid/worried about him.",2.7433333333333323,4.944792500000002,3.9653125,85.63177083333336,77.125,7.079166666666668,24.729166666666664,8.07648339933343,1.4871385416666665,512,18,102,9,12,167,87,128,0.078,0.8370000000000001,0.085,-0.0268,1,0,7,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,2,0,4,7,0,0,5,0,14,6,0,3,2,21,23,7,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,3,6,10,2,0,4,0,0,0,2,3,1,1,6,0,14,4,10,16,1,14,0,1,0,0,27,4,0,1,10,61,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.327905720712261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14342133735976292,0.0,0.0,0.11796586072672413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13054397513776486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5337344417993379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16805748747727164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16012430947939754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08431229683891157,0.12505284816336038,0.0,0.0,0.1666847095918441,0.0,0.10836081249678804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13576652138001344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14502577403042885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14679643469588746,0.0,0.0,0.1718587385907437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11810555669555466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14459083579450271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13409055753848728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08945691013211644,0.0,0.0,0.1465936071828838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498631408578117,0.0,0.0,0.39750119679710094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12305941988116345,0.0,0.13793756866273732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557993168856112,0.0,0.0,0.16773407505873775,0.0,0.0
divorce,alyssabowen23,2020/02/20,"Is there hope? Super young and divorced... So I’m going through a separation and soon divorce. I’m 22. I was only married two horrible years of abuse and violence. I have a 1 year old son who I took and nothing else. 
My now, ex husband is a total narcissistic POS. Anyway. I’m really struggling with my self esteem. It’s so hard to feel so discarded, so young, and so much baggage. 

Believe me I NEVER wanted to be divorced, I wanted to be with my husband forever up until he assaulted me and left me with no choice but to leave. I value marriage HIGHLY but I also value myself and that’s not my idea of a good marriage. 

Any young people going through divorce ? Just seeking solidarity I guess... not to mention how on earth do you gain your confidence back!?",2.311509009009012,4.6801604662162175,4.5228648648648635,80.20952252252255,79.47297297297297,6.649369369369371,27.43423423423424,7.793537801064563,2.018625585585586,591,26,106,10,15,204,96,148,0.114,0.7140000000000001,0.172,0.9336,0,0,0,0,5,0,24.0,0,2,0,2,13,5,1,1,4,0,7,0,0,1,2,24,18,17,0,3,5,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,10,0,0,2,0,0,3,4,2,0,1,2,2,18,3,15,14,2,18,0,0,0,0,16,4,0,2,11,76,21,0,0.0,0.2277818133225275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15374023089225278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13073487084793806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478264363464499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165970632833191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16059809105592465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09720609633086767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185173330877766,0.16124805523807642,0.0,0.0,0.21178226043457526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17221597028952926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20312000531111904,0.0,0.19094511398452851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21702399119762544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035623105202106,0.2088774367483012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14132400943160153,0.0,0.14827309918506734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844666307165576,0.0,0.20173137840998856,0.0,0.0,0.14621286259715072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13328018826202595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12315865093056652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20055603698637264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009787952020687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135940109133357,0.0,0.0,0.18779784181812545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267850754529893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24760213292794084
divorce,divorce20,2020/02/20,"After 20 years, my wife wants out. I am being told I am abusive. I have no doubt this is true, I have always had a temper.

That said, I have never hurt or been physical with her.

It seems to have started around 7 years ago when I took a new job that had a huge pay increase, but also can with near 100% travel. I left within two years, as we have 4 kids at home.

Over the past few years I have not been paying attention to her wanting me to get help with things. I honestly didn't think much of it at the time, maybe she was too subtle for me then.

I talked to her last night and got her to think over the weekend about giving me a second chance.

There is so much running around in my head, I am not even sure what to write down.

My next steps are;

* Talk to someone from our church
* Get into some type of anger management
* If I can, marriage counseling with her

I am going to do everything I can to fix this.

Right now, I feel I only have one foot in the bucket of sanity.",1.747647058823528,3.177751803921569,3.0880392156862766,94.29617647058822,77.52941176470588,6.172549019607843,18.862745098039216,6.794906146795322,-0.08761960784313727,744,14,173,7,17,242,134,204,0.08199999999999999,0.8190000000000001,0.1,0.5712,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,0,0,0,10,7,2,1,8,0,25,2,2,0,3,28,40,9,0,3,5,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,8,10,0,0,5,2,2,6,5,4,0,3,10,2,30,3,34,29,5,40,1,1,0,0,18,16,0,5,18,128,38,5,0.0,0.17279753420069513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12927909530498835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166288581960264,0.12135125272618083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596585155791478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632649204366632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13107233316184697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07374150512826726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15239162750433713,0.13990381225983875,0.0828847039781323,0.0,0.11664223370013575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496747655514951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977540334319583,0.0,0.14629024254053946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15612562371001654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14472451909346204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887974068547333,0.0,0.0,0.15845648734546486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465167149892974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214419579833254,0.0,0.1124814380645762,0.1408539813621107,0.15510337608394256,0.13686173841218896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09882552006612318,0.11091852223267017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13922157343735922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12454727103644055,0.13872802551615268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13276801324977958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12357046107205327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10322688934779813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13745325530124605,0.0,0.0,0.2344426678660452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09689016636634297,0.18689782875399674,0.0,0.0,0.08504096016379706,0.0,0.0,0.13935716190393302,0.16203452710950275,0.0,0.0,0.14246529835301333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17204139900452484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3756668489788469
divorce,BillyBlitz8,2020/02/20,"Letting my STBX have full custody and move out of state for a better job. Am I a bad person for not fighting it? STBX got offered a job out of state. Better pay. Will make it easier to take care of our son. I work midnights and generally don't like kids or kid stuff, so her having full custody makes sense to me. Co-workers tell me I shouldn't let her go, but it seems like it'll be in his best interest to have her be able to provide more for him. I'll still be able to visit (only seeing him twice a month as is) and even have a friend I could stay with out that way. So am I a bad person for not trying to keep him geographically closer when I feel like his life will improve if I let them go?",2.994600000000002,3.354975260000004,4.498666666666669,89.52600000000002,73.06666666666666,7.066666666666667,23.0,6.742157984588678,0.41800000000000015,539,12,127,4,10,181,92,150,0.094,0.732,0.174,0.9284,2,0,0,0,2,0,14.0,1,0,1,4,5,12,1,0,6,0,19,1,0,2,0,20,30,10,0,3,5,1,1,3,1,4,1,0,0,4,6,7,0,1,2,0,1,4,4,3,0,1,1,2,20,9,19,18,4,18,0,0,1,0,20,7,0,3,6,87,26,4,0.2843284141842526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374023494380563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14919256450861185,0.25146537664247554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14494588387815158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11350655135624788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389811800177983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07188249466225807,0.10156213795236677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10983571374581348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16159039013178692,0.0,0.11370170335904675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821520784838393,0.12636207931422966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4361176010142517,0.10041478376425762,0.20836275178121885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897914243143082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11347411377528495,0.15109805360199122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10812228565808246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.248264604207503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11328646699048435,0.12942095482246285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515281292105642,0.11353251942476478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627440046319347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688979117940813,0.0,0.12425778313959265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09652016471191263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11284333039057387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20699447186120512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,sierrasecho,2020/02/20,"Friends becoming freinds with the ""other woman"" Hey gang.

I found out this weekend that my ex has moved the (much younger) other woman into our home. It was a short affair, as he kicked me out of our home a few days after they ""connected"" and I caught them making out in front our our friends. She lived across the country and had been just visiting. He visited her for a weekend and then decided to move her in to our old home. This all took place over four short months.

So that stings, but the real kicker is that mutual friends, who I thought were close friends, seem to be totally ok with this. They spent the weekend at his (their?) place with her.

I am HURT by this. I obviously respect their decision to remain friends (despite their full agreement that is a giant steaming piece or turd for his behaviour and a bit fucked to move in with someone he barely knew so quickly) but this, this... Choosing to engage with this new person, and just... Having it be the new normal is messing with my head.

Just how out of line am I with this? I mentioned I was hurt, and their reaction was... That they are trying to stay neutral. How is befriending the (fully intentional, and known for this behaviour) homewrecker staying neutral?

I'm hurt. I'm hurt. I'm hurt. It was one thing to lose an ass of an ex. It's another to lose some of my closest friends too.

Edit: obviously I can't control their behaviour. It's more so do I want to be friends with these people anymore...",2.8338149456877346,5.124330745583045,3.5917707106399703,87.98004187933519,77.2332155477032,6.736762203900013,26.73589844261221,7.793537801064563,1.616620311477555,1143,46,225,18,27,362,151,283,0.131,0.74,0.129,-0.6895,0,0,0,0,0,0,53.0,5,0,9,3,10,20,1,0,14,1,21,3,2,5,4,48,34,17,0,2,6,2,0,0,7,0,0,0,3,3,24,21,0,1,8,3,1,8,1,9,0,2,13,0,34,11,39,18,9,40,0,7,0,2,41,19,2,3,11,163,58,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09728717956965108,0.0,0.0,0.09201212933024844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246744117156924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10129095966618412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10405986765584027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059834969335035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10172770728624238,0.5017673679798211,0.08577296248454666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09521832270095357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2791955906040845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4966107668694962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08192581659534359,0.0,0.0,0.2075925964248108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061930899337610375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07405554748357424,0.29582912025266817,0.06820345657712545,0.0,0.0,0.17921364101201473,0.0,0.0,0.09090400943023352,0.0,0.0,0.09735626213101703,0.0,0.06286965091325432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06432148061239151,0.08101130105227533,0.1938692307960336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10560314879949237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08446278491502011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07861159491588632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19778076592996824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06163844047876892,0.0,0.0,0.07365639606619982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10308120967592807,0.06299105058533867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05472363156199622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,PeterPenishood,2020/02/20,"My kid already has anxiety issues... how are they gonna handle the news that their mom and I are divorcing?!? Their mom and I haven't told the kids yet.

She's shooting for the money grab of 100% custody/ 100% of the parenting time and I just want 50/50 custody and split parenting time.  She filed her petition and I filed my response.  Mediation or ERC is scheduled for middle of next month.

Thing is we still live together and haven't told the kids.  They know dad sleeps on the sofa and no longer ask why.

I fear the uncertainty of divorce is gonna be like gasoline to the fire of my child's anxiety.  They are already missing weeks of school.  Their mom was trying to be soft and patient... I was trying to just get them out the door and if it gets bad consider coming home.  The therapist said to get out the door and off to school and tackle each day at a time. So now since a therapist said what I was saying... mom is now making a concerted effort to help get our child off to school.",2.7976709465512077,4.657984634517772,3.784234099731261,88.57141833383102,75.751269035533,7.2748880262765,23.77097641086891,8.124751697461798,1.247121469095252,771,24,161,13,17,248,112,197,0.102,0.865,0.033,-0.9091,2,0,0,1,1,0,27.0,2,0,7,1,8,4,0,1,14,0,15,1,1,2,0,25,31,15,0,2,4,7,3,1,0,2,0,4,4,5,4,16,0,0,1,1,1,1,3,3,0,0,7,7,22,1,21,20,1,20,0,1,0,0,33,7,0,2,13,99,26,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459554631904697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705038661384534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10418213648855508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09304844159734046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09599641094226287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07187011873249867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12540192077288234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23289294509228375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07469644203376725,0.0,0.11178424294524016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11631527757597394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06124496799873917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05444436245349688,0.0,0.0984042982122272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0743876221224753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5220726321376039,0.08895101058116989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11851859134753785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474837162971417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21201150587078527,0.08862222419396734,0.0,0.3383522209926612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09218500957581637,0.0,0.1115213153503122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08899679407638332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587827954127298,0.07403633836411633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949461396636631,0.0,0.0,0.21297298537339585,0.0,0.15132202238807993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0657306912921121,0.0,0.08939111511770502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055801927377768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,imamess44,2020/02/20,"Legal advice ? I need all sorts of advice.. 
my boyfriend and I have a daughter together and he also has a 5 year old with his ex wife. Because of his job in the military he is away a lot and so he opted in the separation for 40/60 agreement. I am still on mat leave but only get 300$ every 2 weeks because he makes more money but his ex never gives him receipts and is always asking for more money. He wants to support his child so he gives it to her but she is now making up to 5000$ a month off of us and her work (she also has 2 side businesses that she doesn’t need to claim for taxes). Anytime we ask for his daughter we have to drive 5 hours with a newborn to see her and we only get to see her for a few hours 1 day. They still have the divorce to go through but I’m just wondering if there is anything that I can do so that my money is protected considering I’m only getting 1000$ a month to pay for our child and will be making less when I return to work because I can’t afford the full time daycare at 60$ a day. 
Clearly this can’t be legal and can someone explain to me how I can help our family and also still help him support his other daughter. We want what’s best for her and its not fair that we don’t ever get to see her.",3.858833333333333,3.482675948148149,5.50087962962963,85.68020833333338,71.0,7.9351851851851825,27.24537037037037,7.1686216300943375,1.2246481481481482,966,28,218,8,16,332,139,270,0.019,0.852,0.129,0.9831,4,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,8,0,1,3,15,4,0,0,12,0,22,0,0,4,4,40,47,23,0,5,7,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,9,17,0,1,2,0,5,2,6,0,0,0,0,3,36,4,32,44,8,29,0,0,3,0,49,9,0,4,18,151,45,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21682916163288912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2661690379186297,0.0923154774554431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09129862785672503,0.0,0.2074379831543914,0.0,0.10423687459994584,0.0,0.0,0.20289389561967086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11643037395954432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14310123579174205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003564845299494,0.09347630175444607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10458946849791316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23185761229871185,0.2128579134777616,0.06305283917224509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14872875337890365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21851778175362252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11009621062395453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11747518098809732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09432182900928003,0.0,0.0,0.22217078893989303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17711115222262538,0.0,0.0,0.16452924693860208,0.0855679478087989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164185557195219,0.0,0.0,0.2531369749020814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652274078075043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940036947042966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26580346822374457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517990966971108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0646931668559242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334536804357161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308769669402732,0.0,0.08899372414951298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12031557584853594,0.1615391748626141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07144521327257405
divorce,Mowgli2k,2020/02/20,"s**ting myself I'm 48, 3 kids and a vasectomy. She finally confirmed 2 days ago that she definitely wants a divorce. I feel sick as a dog and absolutely terrified by the pain to come. Just thinking about it makes me quiver with fear. I love her and always tried to be a good husband and father. I can't stop thinking about her, imagining her preparing for her life without me.",3.011409001956949,5.3647389863013695,4.641526418786693,80.35958904109589,76.94520547945207,8.007045009784736,29.606653620352247,8.841846274778883,2.7030407045009786,298,14,56,7,7,100,56,73,0.177,0.677,0.147,-0.5275,0,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,5,0,2,4,0,1,0,15,10,5,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,6,0,1,4,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,12,2,9,9,0,5,0,0,0,1,11,0,0,0,4,35,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24555078699634014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23049276094953994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386177753158169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17864717727777374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3117108969121024,0.14006351588261767,0.0,0.0,0.30344861113180893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323410814585679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956588697526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500104421589232,0.0,0.18490492225354746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29475593292403274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315910054901568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3549909506264954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880701787916381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16338643468168826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26702572766460664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,fjakq,2020/02/20,"So sick of being his fucking servant I am always going above and beyond for my husband. I’m not currently working so I have time to do nice things for him. I cook very healthy food that’s fucking restaurant worthy because of all the effort that goes into it. I make pretty much everything from scratch which is not something a lot of people do. I keep the house clean. I make sure he doesn’t have to lift a fucking finger. Ever. He asks me for water? I go get it. I spoil the fuck out of him. This includes weekends and any day he has off. He sits on his computer playing around while I work sometimes over 12 hours a day doing all the chores and errands making sure everything is perfect. I make sure that he never has to ask for something to get done because I take care of it. I do everything for him except his job. It’s all fine though because this is basically my job at the moment. He goes to work which obviously I appreciate but at what point does that justify not having to ever do anything else???

I am not a lazy person and I can handle all this but what really pisses me off is his disrespect and the way he treats me and the way he nags and is super condescending towards me after everything I do and constantly going above and beyond with everything. I try to talk to him about these things but he literally laughs in my face. I do something to show I’m being fucking serious and his first reaction is to tell me to leave. So okay I’m fucking done with this bullshit.",3.6379245005875447,5.161351679054056,4.896698002350178,82.87779670975324,72.75,7.580258519388955,27.39659224441833,8.18289091462,1.829899412455933,1171,43,227,18,23,388,149,296,0.078,0.792,0.13,0.88,3,0,3,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,0,7,10,21,8,0,11,1,26,13,3,4,12,41,49,18,0,0,8,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,19,15,3,1,0,4,0,3,6,9,0,1,2,2,35,12,40,45,6,34,0,0,0,6,24,14,7,1,14,163,54,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07357136537566873,0.0,0.0,0.060127685813208716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07276098107802484,0.07871130743776739,0.1653189267077088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16169748928972752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09014866420197468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955491045499247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11404537564381315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07737572017935312,0.18096586965144326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07386240181048087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15995938697785966,0.0,0.0,0.3973247204728348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07520882325886938,0.10691613241926,0.0,0.0,0.490449473042774,0.09239014724151703,0.0,0.15075099852958632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08707451884347314,0.10202320295016587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17548365152963746,0.07859052186357987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09362253980888144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07517033910475572,0.0,0.0,0.23608043113950145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06499785085533899,0.0,0.0681938817434574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06129833022335372,0.07720371851591401,0.0,0.0,0.08358416449403283,0.0,0.0,0.08995351195282053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056643224721161275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20420689379866994,0.08744826470799405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250000476484442,0.0,0.06647978979349367,0.07106752831031199,0.07728176107539272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174827893558226,0.0,0.08687083396869574,0.0,0.05155760168562794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060030431251487715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07295461199459685,0.0,0.1403651518295472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19310940024175785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwaway220844,2020/02/20,"SAHM for 8 years advice needed I’ve been a stay at home mom for 8 years, we have 2 kids one has a significant chronic medical condition. I never graduated from college and my husband brings in around 150k a year. How do I even start, I have 0 money and limited potential to bring in anything significant enough to support myself and the kids, we have no family or friends local and child care is a huge road block for me. Is there anyone out there that was in a similar situation any tips on what to do to set myself up for not being homeless and starving once all this officially starts? Just feeling lost and anxious 😓",7.882589531680438,6.737400247933887,8.46342975206612,70.30302341597798,63.04958677685951,11.703030303030305,36.69559228650138,10.864195022040775,3.9134782369146,494,20,92,11,6,166,90,121,0.113,0.755,0.132,0.3182,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,2,6,4,0,0,6,0,11,2,0,1,2,20,20,8,0,1,3,2,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,3,3,10,0,2,1,0,1,2,3,1,0,1,3,1,9,3,17,16,2,21,0,1,0,0,8,11,0,1,6,64,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928228075129262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13418714112588406,0.0,0.0,0.22292004465737672,0.0,0.13797358494974152,0.0,0.16238090497455754,0.17566026658944342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20118505081269755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20388852298753088,0.0,0.13033069402153796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860195815007326,0.0,0.09977298391810167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15245209494583808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19793214134949136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21540254323010755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19878325134256966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311035779648792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14631330524812886,0.15218849536066714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21014370554385967,0.133711903589498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22180053379694492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793339992965649,0.2103212147811501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22392102791302365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3812107145413017
divorce,mike02828,2020/02/20,"Child Support, Fair? I live in Ohio, I make about 23k more than STBXW, and we'll be sharing three 3 kids 50/50. If she takes me for all the support she can get, it would be close to $1,500/month, which would put her annual income about 12k more than mine. How is that fair? Why does she need more income than I do?  Anyone else in a similar situation?",2.2325000000000017,3.783030583333337,3.0205555555555565,94.78000000000002,76.5,6.466666666666668,18.944444444444443,7.1686216300943375,-0.02290555555555596,270,5,63,3,6,85,57,72,0.0,0.8109999999999999,0.18899999999999997,0.9146,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,2,1,9,14,3,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,10,3,9,9,4,5,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,1,1,39,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17208131399585905,0.2521621549706564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21536686210572625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20558792433392212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12857893958705313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2173139303970361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16427602076345055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964374938226071,0.0,0.0,0.1824826529755426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.247402027116757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766306848855472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5585507505456568,0.0,0.0,0.18503923049873602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22207016155123835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34964978068476266,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,debronit,2020/02/20,"Pause, Pray, Proceed I read earlier someone said they wanted to say they wanted to say I want a divorce but doesn't want to say it.. my response to that would be Pause.. something isn't worked out in you, figure out why your hesitant, Pray about those answers, Proceed once YOU know What you want and why and how to get there. That way you Proceed with a firm understanding is had.. a decision like that is too life altering to proceed wishy washy",3.990996677740864,5.8572959069767485,4.157242524916942,87.13941860465117,72.48837209302326,7.239867109634551,28.564784053156142,7.957251820313856,1.7919621262458485,352,14,69,5,7,109,56,86,0.028999999999999998,0.833,0.138,0.7506,0,0,1,0,1,0,12.0,0,5,2,1,4,1,0,0,3,0,7,1,0,1,0,18,16,4,0,6,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,4,0,0,6,5,0,0,5,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,4,10,1,11,12,0,8,2,0,0,0,12,3,0,0,5,43,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10235036581834046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10766225446150186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13837091155248962,0.09570750048531806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20862853601382872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19595435597835067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18634703747658568,0.4673658308864624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659865716009326,0.1508144241707541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20394020615886493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5777384365657178,0.15549736705523146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3535409818295909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14261851036299386,0.0,0.0,0.13916269288081531,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,hateradeizbad,2020/02/20,"Found out my STBX has been unfaithful for some time now, simply looking for advice. I recently turned 30, and we just had celebrated out 1st anniversary together. I found out recently that they had been unfaithful to me for the past several months, and really I am just looking for advice, as I know this is the route I need to take.

I have poured my heart and soul into this individual, we have been together for 7 years, and I thought we were perfect. Turns out I was wrong.

I live in North Carolina, and am coming to you for maybe just a little advice as where to start, who to speak with about this and maybe what to share and not to share with those around me for those who have been through this kind of divorse in the past? 


We have no kids, no joint bank accounts or anything like that, I am only looking to get out this relationship and as far as I can see, you guys seem to be the best place to start.


Thank you in advance for any help you can offer. I appreaicte it more than words can say.",7.028643216080401,5.818144150753768,6.817231155778892,81.63046984924625,64.77889447236181,10.573065326633166,31.457788944723617,9.642632912329526,2.4547925628140703,782,23,168,13,10,247,111,199,0.037000000000000005,0.848,0.115,0.9451,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,4,4,1,3,7,8,0,0,5,0,21,1,1,0,1,36,39,13,0,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,13,22,0,0,5,0,2,2,3,1,0,0,11,6,25,7,38,27,3,27,1,0,4,0,20,15,0,3,11,122,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3780059824411801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08768593087527214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10610942814338452,0.11478695994606493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353181388306882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110733181466739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28275955632508515,0.0,0.0,0.0673676024198174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12767423440129874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527985449898871,0.08642804026737337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13427470449440376,0.07086391823021694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06299523005841594,0.12923515734592575,0.1138593809397812,0.0,0.324839932017266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590819447210319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10292138842245704,0.0,0.0,0.09560989423035894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09806726300041037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461821232881707,0.0,0.0,0.13471840452160078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08260444120337583,0.0,0.254632095225023,0.13843695148697469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10254096383543773,0.0,0.0,0.1027511921813748,0.11738522485988467,0.0,0.14566933509822574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18253359858418808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09694938651961776,0.0,0.0,0.11871375486100655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10236665323430548,0.07518793108960216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28050677544055835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14097936155260496,0.0,0.0830353193898145
divorce,kanos35,2020/02/20,"Quickest and cheapest way Hi all, tried talking to my wife yesterday about our lack of sex life. Instantly offended and says I need help. Been 7 years, dead bedroom. Discussion turned into her crying and upset and focus became me. Basically, my questions were thrown in the trash and I was verbally beat down. I’m a great father and was told I do nothing for them, when I’m out 6 days a week for their events, don’t miss any games or competitions, talk with them all the time. Unfukin real. 
I’m done and we have kids. I basically want enough cash to pay off my credit card and that’s it. Could give a F otherwise. Cheapest way to be done with this?  Obviously I will always be in her life because of our kids....",2.27542857142857,4.591876257142856,3.649999999999999,86.70500000000001,79.28571428571428,6.857142857142858,23.57142857142857,7.957251820313856,1.3233571428571431,556,19,112,10,14,182,100,140,0.12300000000000001,0.8009999999999999,0.076,-0.6808,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,0,3,1,2,5,1,1,5,0,13,3,0,0,3,23,22,10,1,4,1,2,0,0,0,1,2,1,1,2,3,13,0,0,1,1,3,0,1,3,0,0,7,1,17,2,16,11,4,15,0,1,0,1,22,6,0,2,7,68,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581419541933875,0.0,0.0,0.12924470936584706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11585647402297028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517443825798683,0.0,0.20876777268001007,0.12257050334012265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3889868853575689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963788234510064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18231919137908034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095375926463717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12739064105170486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684845796499397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14092423800437606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18236401596624632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21290640096978045,0.0,0.0,0.2163255241291932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15114029054280542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30551989212921343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11082327808457344,0.0,0.0,0.1816068101419578,0.0,0.12903566028314692,0.20672653129801974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11210005018296004,0.30171547445981284,0.15245159138936387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12238993889341605
divorce,Useitorloseit111,2020/02/20,"Going through a divorce Wife filed for divorce. I was ok at first but it's been 2 years that we've been separated and I want to get back together.

Nothing is really working in terms of getting her back. I have a couple mental illnesses from losing quite a bit of my family in an accident & I've been out of work for several years (waiting on a disability hearing). She's really against me going on disability but I can't work & I really have no choice but to end my life if I don't get approved for disability & I feel bad because we have 2 kids (married for over 10 years). 

I'd really like to get my family back and she was once a very jealous person. I was seeing a therapist in a very upscale area, and the therapist was extremely gorgeous & about my age - my wife met her once. I don't see her anymore because I moved but I was thinking about using the therapist as leverage to make my [ex]wife jealous. If this doesn't work then I know for sure that she's 100% done and her mind is made up.

I'm not sure how I'd bring up the conversation - perhaps I'd say I've been talking to the therapist in DMs and things may be evolving romantically, or even that something may have happened between us at one of my visits. 

What do you guys think?",4.732279411764708,5.055104843137258,6.220134803921571,78.8537316176471,69.19607843137257,9.669117647058824,32.40808823529412,9.673873057562805,2.9419852941176465,985,42,201,21,16,337,137,255,0.122,0.792,0.086,-0.9084,0,0,1,0,2,1,30.0,2,1,0,8,7,9,2,0,12,1,24,2,0,4,2,30,46,15,0,3,8,2,1,1,0,2,2,2,0,3,7,7,0,1,4,0,0,5,6,4,0,2,12,5,30,5,33,31,2,29,0,1,2,0,23,13,0,5,12,128,37,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4011488266287298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09179326200132737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21351555503875005,0.07728256654143242,0.11284572943099876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10105002097747692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10241433268230024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09471958556360913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197944857309121,0.0,0.0,0.0611340837170717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17451202502767482,0.0,0.04680041027436938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07873029962531414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19343219743552406,0.0,0.10520637312457838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09164756807820032,0.08184926611871017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10432027147149348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05086778707345642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06537687791526789,0.045219457649019884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10354940012726158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08758118723883021,0.061783585601754384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09327730085698573,0.0,0.09345780258516304,0.0,0.0,0.09837514590245174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08881247499210651,0.0,0.0,0.19714378080747336,0.0627201041886459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08081860116365419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09844746655016398,0.0,0.0,0.2371816423023273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07360631538525178,0.0,0.0,0.14751444447217302,0.0,0.0,0.10456487456473852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0712561338669263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17447077410358008,0.0,0.0,0.0743950982751418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4298706837629361,0.06149182240868789,0.11861562968997415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11133660183337524,0.07994091411027779,0.0,0.1527410804344898,0.05459346160336124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695350586578124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17881411521342291
divorce,lushoxd,2020/02/20,"My life is just empty after divorce I got married when I was just 21, my marriage lasted only a little over 2 years, and during that time my ex-wife and I had a daughter.

When my daughter was born, I was overwhelmed by it, I couldn’t take time off from work, and I was going through a hard time at work and financially. I had an argument with my wife, things escalated and I started to yell at her because of my frustration (I wish I didn’t do that). Neighbors called the cops, and I was arrested for disorderly conduct and sentenced to complete an anger management program.

My ex-wife and I were hit with a no-contact order, so I couldn’t talk to her, not even apologize or say something to her. We had no family in town, so she left to live with her parents without saying a word, Obviously taking our child.

I did not know what to do, I couldn’t talk to her, and I desperately wanted to see and/or know about our child. After looking for some advice, I was suggested that filing a divorce was the only way to get parenting time in my situation (I do not think this was true, but I believed it at that time). I did not want to file for divorce, but I did it only to get to see my child and find out my ex-wife whereabouts. Comes out that she wanted the divorce, so it went through anyways and became final about a year ago. I did not want it, but I had to accept it.

I’ve tried to move on, but I can’t. I feel guilty of all what happened, I didn’t want my marriage to end, and I just can’t forgive myself. Everything I did was for my ex-wife and my newborn child at that time. Now that they’re gone, I feel like my life has no direction. I’ve attended counseling, but hasn’t worked much. Friends have tried to help me dating and going out to meet new people, but I don’t want to, I’m still in love with my ex. I miss my family and I wish I could have them back.",3.872093023255815,4.211968591731267,5.174331782945738,85.53675348837211,71.09302325581395,8.155824289405682,27.8831007751938,8.109356740369918,1.6018606511627915,1443,48,316,19,25,483,173,387,0.083,0.8320000000000001,0.086,0.9015,2,1,1,0,4,0,53.0,3,0,1,3,15,10,2,1,12,0,36,3,0,0,3,65,68,27,0,12,16,6,3,1,2,0,2,3,1,5,17,24,0,0,8,0,0,7,17,4,0,0,24,9,62,6,50,39,3,48,0,2,3,1,41,16,0,2,24,222,79,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977513678184247,0.08867347099793695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07691942105244896,0.0,0.06097936172260441,0.0,0.0,0.11270325606962155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10214516781055756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08616981699746983,0.10488299552823556,0.0,0.0,0.07986843784730115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11464681045188575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08859979856685535,0.0,0.0,0.066071040939884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08990346587620728,0.0,0.1886049556817968,0.0,0.10115966855908706,0.07146379839546707,0.0,0.10958157352174057,0.09142860972744696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07728546741930938,0.0,0.10452652480244293,0.0,0.11370244163665508,0.0,0.08000575578551776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08845910307016858,0.0,0.08961017432369743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06705020195268681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10995135406971393,0.0815404780877116,0.0,0.0,0.10868645624348576,0.0,0.14131293427908978,0.04887120990370596,0.10025963070115697,0.08833122286011359,0.0,0.08400276490775613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09028394477225232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10631955035866343,0.07353597404467692,0.0,0.0,0.09661276946432293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22823946147973675,0.0,0.0,0.22215024847131806,0.0,0.0,0.06935048406937154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591009656662253,0.0,0.0,0.15942715270014746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124416029470718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0770105095502534,0.0,0.0,0.07080407359902081,0.0,0.07988671017644491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15042516121433788,0.16080592968766366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06645766925427801,0.06409728950568946,0.0,0.0,0.3499812756392425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13583206756250954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35401333763395204,0.0794017650267191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09273185687157844,0.0,0.0,0.2300666806384208,0.09642851650939087,0.0,0.21847626740099502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12883631092569525
divorce,slapjacksandsyrup,2020/02/20,"Young and divorced, anyone else? 21F here, got married at 19 to my abuser and divorced him after he cheated on me with another man 3 months later. Divorce was final a few months after I turned 20, about a year ago now. Anyone else struggle with the idea of being so young and having this history? Potential partners are scared off if not by my divorced status, then by my obviously poor decision making.",6.166,7.3140749333333375,6.779999999999998,73.17000000000002,66.33333333333334,8.666666666666668,32.33333333333333,8.841846274778883,2.947533333333334,320,13,51,5,5,105,61,75,0.191,0.809,0.0,-0.9388,0,0,0,0,5,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,1,2,3,0,4,0,0,1,1,11,7,6,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,5,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,6,0,12,4,1,15,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,1,12,36,7,0,0.0,0.25239779226043063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18883231402195325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233735176893599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29790170719543463,0.4365351165184963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3559072871753818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23335662706559104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17037420358120506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24047739126682266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14219471568505754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3400663524010254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.213273498687039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2226982192311248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317081935299425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13718002942907756
divorce,C_Fl0r3s,2020/02/20,"I was finally able.. Im separated from my wife for about 6 months.  2 months ago started my divorce process after 10 years of marriage. Its been so hard since then, but finally i was able to go by myself to the movies. It has been hard but im getting there.",0.6713836477987414,2.9268690000000035,2.5493396226415115,92.51822327044027,85.41509433962264,5.79748427672956,23.927672955974842,7.1686216300943375,0.9402352201257859,199,8,44,3,6,66,40,53,0.077,0.9229999999999999,0.0,-0.4083,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,2,8,4,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,5,0,8,4,0,10,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,9,26,7,0,0.4244083841107193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881062125887873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4649186398753678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11086793194388957,0.0,0.12060053259258585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3801865498609814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4584338836839413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3387587231050078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17553750052580766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150199219345766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13665254229592394
divorce,cursedandcoping,2020/02/20,"Hopeless 2x (almost) divorced before 30 Hi there. I’m currently I guess separated? My husband of four months- had a manic episode (no known history of bipolar, misdiagnosed depression) and left me. He has cut off all contact. His family blames me for him going crazy. It was heartbreaking and I’m just now starting the process of even accepting what has happened. This will be my second divorce. 

I’m only 27. I got married when I was 21 due to cultural pressures. He was extremely abusive (had borderline) and I got divorced 2 years later. 


I guess one of the issues I’m having is that I need to cope with the sudden change in my life. To cope, to have even an ounce of hope I try to look forward. All I see is me alone when I do. 

I wanted to be a wife and have a family so bad. I take marriage so so seriously. I feel like anyone who hears that I’ve been through two divorces will automatically assume that I take marriage as a joke or that  I’m the common denominator. All they will see is a red flag.

Any advice is helpful.",2.0113136288998352,4.368199064039408,4.107093596059116,82.834170771757,80.52709359605912,6.822331691297207,26.41543513957307,7.957251820313856,1.846586863711002,802,34,155,15,21,274,129,203,0.142,0.794,0.065,-0.9414,1,1,0,0,4,1,27.0,0,0,1,0,10,11,1,1,10,0,21,2,0,0,3,20,43,11,0,3,2,2,1,1,0,3,2,1,0,0,8,5,0,0,4,1,0,2,1,7,0,4,8,6,22,4,17,30,3,16,0,3,4,0,19,4,0,6,13,101,30,0,0.0,0.1888210741395145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15572931085359007,0.0,0.0,0.15958069656682358,0.16505373598203854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083734402713045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11143148249608452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13306284256708434,0.0,0.0,0.13560759618709214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16858668958493064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13726055652863828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21051772271994967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30046965507895484,0.0,0.08057956539363588,0.11385015190558108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09057061437410067,0.0,0.2549169692631333,0.0,0.3511163013030244,0.0,0.14092565114211664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17961556506958046,0.0,0.10681877886436952,0.0,0.0,0.15828507552180834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16633531096861395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731501799683939,0.0,0.11256397921131392,0.07785752781508162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13382618556479467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12720335895967938,0.0,0.0,0.11816688331059913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10798962460661353,0.12120401258512953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25398601754055883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11279913348817705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396447969348378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10819814978251824,0.0,0.1556761257448208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09399741120949548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10262562233730547
divorce,wander_all_over,2020/02/20,"Father divorcing younger mail order wife after 4 year marriage... My dad was introduced to a woman about 6 years ago while visiting family in South Korea.  After about 1.5 years of flying back and forth to SK, they ended up getting married.

Despite his promises to me and my sister, he failed to get a pre-nup.  Last fall, his wife finally got citizenship. 6 months after, she asked for a divorce and my dad agreed.

I will obviously be consulting a couple of immigration and divorce lawyers but wanted to see what suggestions or advice Reddit had to offer.

Monetary details
Dad has been giving wife $2k a month allowance.
Dad purchased a home solely in his name about 6 months before marriage.
Dad refinanced the home about 2 years into the marriage and added wife’s name. He claims it was an accident, which is plausible because he speaks limited English.
About a year ago, he pulled out a 2nd mortgage and removed wife’s name off the deed. 
Dad added wife onto his LLC small business with a 30% stake.
Wife is not on the commercial real estate that he owned before marriage.
Dad bought an additional small business 2 years into the marriage.
Dad maxed out credit cards($100k+) and equity in home to float marriage spending.
They are obviously struggling financially.

Other details
Dad got addicted to gambling with wife shortly after marriage.
Wife barely works and usually plays golf everyday or goes to HH with friends.
Divorcing because financial hardship and differences in personality... I’m told.
Dad initially agreed to settle the divorce for $100k, $50k up front and then $2500 a month for 20 months.  There is nothing on paper.
House is up for sale and dads looking at refinancing his CRE for additional cash out.
This is in USA, Oregon.

I just found this out 30 mins ago and he seemed to be taking it well as possible. How fucked is he in this situation?",5.174538869618445,7.598091624260359,5.643091205876356,75.3635798816568,70.62721893491123,8.44905121403795,31.181799632728016,9.130062681391069,3.1067329932666805,1491,66,241,32,29,478,193,338,0.067,0.8740000000000001,0.059000000000000004,-0.6114,1,0,0,0,3,0,50.0,0,0,2,3,10,8,1,1,18,0,15,2,0,2,2,40,31,19,0,1,5,22,0,0,1,1,1,1,3,2,9,23,0,1,2,2,7,5,1,3,1,0,9,3,14,5,51,19,1,57,0,1,2,1,64,24,1,3,27,131,23,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199940533378144,0.0,0.10756048040323188,0.2927149159879813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10290188346408986,0.0,0.0,0.08463809832418986,0.0,0.1341969854324537,0.0,0.1873252775891913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217918904006456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11500116651001754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09749057338187243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10376550268456003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057781854505037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12068758880686532,0.08504087655582032,0.10175921883262197,0.11501550795192013,0.1055904992616308,0.0,0.0,0.1760682785185935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3312317119337321,0.0,0.0,0.12700759616196586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972286722079346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09243223854894192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4392896341611354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10561645950477498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09611008496038743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12408894448113385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12528533021157526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08771264032642574,0.10020485202348836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12372484498387655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507050734500385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827599805815614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10517792234132192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12122807631495973,0.0,0.06492295285284369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09896739130418293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801332769140262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4252941663882057
divorce,mommy-in-need,2020/02/20,"A DATE? I suffer from crippling anxiety and I'm recently divorced. I have a DATE on Friday night, my first in 23 years. He seems like a nice guy, rather introverted. WHAT do I talk about? How do I not act weird?",-0.613920265780731,1.5346588372093066,1.6243189368770778,94.35813953488376,100.16279069767441,5.247840531561463,17.770764119601328,6.868970318607317,0.2725508305647839,162,5,36,3,7,54,35,43,0.122,0.705,0.17300000000000001,0.2865,0,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,1,0,5,5,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,5,2,4,5,0,9,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,1,7,21,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054400354372067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3396183891309578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3953395273054506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950628847752772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3746873303878345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3942304124050932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3634799106207037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3209176588389256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571164344251784
divorce,bbee33,2020/02/20,"Just wanna get it off my chest As the titles suggests, I just wanna get shit off my chest. 
Sorry for formatting. On mobile. 

Ex and I split in 2019 after I had an emotional affair(it was all online, never met the guy - but justifying just giving info). Officially divorced July 2020. 
Did everything on his terms. Didn’t fight for alimony at his request after agreeing to him sending me a monthly financial assistance to help me out (I was still building my career and couldn’t afford my own place or really anything - job didn’t pay well). Didn’t sign a contract but we had an agreement written up.

Fast forward to a few months after divorce finalization, he wants to visit the dogs. 
I planned poorly, didn’t inform him of my plans, ended up staying out the night before and didn’t get home till later in the afternoon which pissed him off. I wasn’t being considerate. I understand. I didn’t know how to handle the situation. Anyways. He see the dogs, goes home and that’s that. Over the next few weeks we exchange words via text and everything seems fine. 
Until I notice I haven’t receive the monthly financial assistance.
I asked him about it and in him pompous nature, he told me he decided to stop sending it because “I decided I stopped caring about him.”

Anyways. There’s obviously more to out dynamic and why we got divorced. But I get that I cheated emotionally and that he was being nice by sending me financial assistance when he could have just written me off. However. I was being nice when he was emotionally, mentally, financially and sexually abusive to me for about 10 years. 

I digress. Thanks for listening.",3.961017298659641,6.567490089700995,5.236668576010999,76.00498338870435,75.01328903654485,8.138435101386184,30.31286516210334,8.939507131559953,3.0495236796883947,1291,60,214,30,29,428,162,301,0.09300000000000001,0.78,0.127,0.9021,3,0,0,0,4,0,40.0,3,0,0,2,15,12,4,0,14,0,22,4,4,1,3,44,41,19,0,5,8,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,8,15,0,2,8,0,3,6,10,4,1,0,20,2,39,8,41,16,6,48,0,0,1,0,38,18,2,2,25,155,47,3,0.0,0.14971500737510435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10398286745035372,0.0,0.1181288087941562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0770274046462649,0.0,0.10752238517756628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288316411029191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008875512425808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4264113282026292,0.11191675909682268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22712702952353955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384203436538206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26406989823381644,0.12121527301402148,0.0,0.0,0.10106100737746652,0.0,0.0,0.12511548902738426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08469591828326542,0.0,0.2534971907113541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12539202335069513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06944371999053844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12734036872553076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3025761596512557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09745601641422397,0.0,0.134384458677175,0.11857956347891015,0.0,0.0,0.14386080379212335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13201848549747475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08094894874802586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10069193458025287,0.1150326836248844,0.0,0.0,0.12970591837705353,0.0,0.14203305191481164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414487960223918,0.0,0.13468211057212884,0.10091063233183832,0.21128392347893654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11633458828526765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12074164494725187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315443991224716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745299388672703,0.0,0.10135774041066836,0.0,0.11361210942565585,0.0,0.11401953762789364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08137119161684199
divorce,Purrp303,2020/02/21,How to handle child separation Does anyone have good ways to cope? Going through a divorce and my s/o moved home 900 miles away.,0.9117999999999996,3.4550232800000025,1.9515,92.20325,96.2,4.1000000000000005,18.25,5.985473137389443,-0.11560000000000015,102,3,20,1,4,32,24,25,0.0,0.884,0.11599999999999999,0.4404,0,0,0,0,1,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,9,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2871415696164071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3858266388170732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35936951777278203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23338636254269896,0.3444403841775055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4119233820396284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4364643849017301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3259611465209203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwital1989,2020/02/21,"Estranged spouse won’t share any information with me in order to file my taxes,I’ve been filing single since 2017. I live in the state of California,we have been estranged since 2017 and since getting a hold of him or getting even to comply I filed single since I had no ssn. also I had dumb good faith that he could at least finalize the divorce during 2017 but he never did and I just barely filed and awaiting final judgment. Now I’m trying to do the right thing and file married filing separate but I need to know whether he itemized or not. Spouse is arguing that we are separated and he doesn’t need to tell me anything at all. I really also want to amend my past taxes but I believe I need his income info to do so.",3.289252873563221,5.067244034482762,4.584568965517242,83.71524425287359,74.17241379310343,6.764367816091952,24.49712643678161,7.492282038375204,1.208850574712644,575,18,110,7,12,190,91,145,0.027000000000000003,0.8959999999999999,0.077,0.6992,1,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,1,0,0,0,6,5,2,0,4,0,13,0,0,0,2,26,21,14,0,5,8,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,7,0,1,3,0,1,0,5,2,0,0,5,0,16,3,14,14,5,12,1,0,0,0,14,5,1,2,5,75,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27319361915482754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615675451183068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14056219365195394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924445386651848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13637800017009274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11281848844677493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37422832485991736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.178482499489233,0.0,0.0,0.14326744384506934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09387278747513446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15082848558115544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3799606699328468,0.13173931232762473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16305760898325256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10942535139526392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14587092875895827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5651836612916178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14929559366983558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11347866908567755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11596887476728045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10074824782968517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,-RaRa-,2020/02/21,"Hurting 31f Tried making it work with husband after his second affair while I was last pregnant. We are divorced and we’re apart for 2 years on and off before decided to try things fully again. Its been about 9 months and Today he came and told me he is no longer in love with me and can’t stop thinking about a girl he dated before we tried our relationship. I’m crushed and terrified and can’t even imagine her replacing me in his family and with our kids. 

I am not sure why I’m even posting but I’m feeling so low and don’t know what to do. I should have trusted my gut 9 months ago. Really mad at myself.",4.383248031496063,4.651085307086613,5.374478346456693,84.80533956692916,69.94488188976378,8.239763779527559,26.898622047244096,8.07648339933343,1.496937795275591,482,14,102,6,8,159,90,127,0.149,0.7859999999999999,0.065,-0.8309,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,4,0,0,1,6,6,1,0,1,0,11,2,1,1,1,26,21,12,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,15,0,1,5,0,0,1,5,3,0,1,4,1,15,3,14,16,0,20,0,2,0,1,18,7,0,0,11,63,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723952697337829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3309772409336704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224339344017872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25690513287087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833389504322437,0.0,0.09833520753816907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081954468225989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688142196939604,0.15852760195300922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17552628578173646,0.0,0.12981727461325376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3104650327101469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18625860366830854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12458921771897548,0.0,0.0,0.20879932407868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16259444470845308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18329561301107355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12920423310413034,0.12461528108891548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843448175833634,0.18583449597234286,0.0,0.3961185740628289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754884432404071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14158415373146907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12523909532117844
divorce,atanas39,2020/02/21,"A message I know I shouldn't send Hi everyone. I am crushed just over 1 month into a separation, and no where near signing the papers for a legal separation. I found out my stbx has been sleeping with a guy in our house that I am still paying for, while randomly switch days with our son for her convenience
I want to find her, or text her, or call her and rage. But I know better.
So instead I'm going to write the message to you...


I know about Xxxx and I now you've already slept with him. Or at least someone. Maybe you have multiple guys who knows. You promised me you had no interest in other men, could see a world where you dated again, and if you were it would be with a girl. And I believed your manipulative lies and tried to still be your husband even in separation. 
Fuck you.

I am so mad at you. You have lied, made false promises, and have manipulated me for years. The past few months have been hell, especially this last month, and you have been so heartless towards me. You led me a long playing with my emotions for your benefit. 

I am paying far more than you while forced to stay in my parents house all so you can invite other men into my house, in my bedroom, and in my bed. 

I will remain civil but I will no longer be concerned with your needs or wants. 
Civility means equity and compromise. Up until this point you haven't needed to compromise at all. This ends today...

I hate you and the only thing I hate more than you right now is that I still cannot get you out of my mind. 

I don't care if you villainize me, you are doing it now anyway. I don't care what your friends think of me. They are either just as fake as you, already seethrough your bs, or just want to get into your pants, Which doesn't seem that hard to get into.

So you better grow up. You're on your own, and I have no reason to give you more than what you deserve.",3.537777777777777,4.516361560846562,4.354656084656089,88.77738095238097,72.28042328042328,7.2931216931216944,24.317460317460323,7.526774132740827,0.8807206349206345,1442,39,317,16,27,464,189,378,0.134,0.8,0.066,-0.9821,1,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,2,31,1,2,21,19,8,0,11,0,34,3,2,5,2,65,61,31,0,10,13,3,1,0,1,4,0,0,2,5,15,24,0,0,10,1,2,4,10,9,0,0,8,2,72,10,50,45,9,53,1,0,1,1,56,27,2,9,21,238,87,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.236941074046845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12095398127954635,0.0,0.1898961514411848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10962296162519193,0.0,0.2189141573540396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.085715407638635,0.0,0.0,0.06923604340174846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207615818088293,0.09508596957134023,0.0,0.0,0.0709079376023187,0.0,0.0,0.10258371016190283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981218709649096,0.0,0.0,0.1177108308921058,0.0829433443665682,0.09924932893379818,0.16826797776402308,0.10298611087747417,0.061013157369042774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125995727283164,0.0,0.0,0.0961703124256664,0.21198458108622265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3716248660272411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360012387502552,0.08750985378855211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09500709987688497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10158329007773716,0.0,0.0,0.10785400634592013,0.11694267121232307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083994333640106,0.0,0.2570727363961801,0.0,0.0,0.1592069281424809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164943502614258,0.0,0.0,0.11920665796136215,0.0,0.1024839006668882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014865672183295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11038033395493926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09168184095386336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08554920911616289,0.09773330056316737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10743400408941904,0.0,0.09096279078879872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11442771548259476,0.25720505291871765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07132287001449733,0.06878969273213882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10176138309453067,0.0,0.0,0.07288799778317277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18996488702347453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07626295787684267,0.0,0.0,0.06913404848838582
divorce,saguarooo,2020/02/21,"Decision Day Approaching My wife (30y/o) has recently accepted a position in another state.  We have had a very rocky last two years since my daughter was born (2 y/o).  2 months ago, during the holidays, I was sure we would get divorced because of compounding issues largely centered around her ability to control her anger.  After one final letter, which was a summary I had made about why I am ready to move forward with her threats of divorce, she conceded and promised to work on her anger problems.  She began to read an anger management book and we reached a familiar calm in the storm.  She just landed her dream job, which before she did was a big source of her frustration and resentment about life.  Her anger has once again bubbled up as we began to discuss the finer details of selling our home.  I was worried about moving out of state to begin with because of the fragile state of our relationship, but now I am leaning against the move altogether.  She will move there without me easily.  The only thing that matters to me is that I get to see my daughter every week.  

At this point we have not listed our house, moved, or removed my daughter from her childcare situation (3 days in daycare, 2 at my parents house).  I don't know if I've waited too long to have control of the custody situation.  Other minor details is that she doesn't drive (though owns a license and can learn).   I'm the attachment figure for our child, she doesn't do much parenting beyond nearly all of the chores (very little cerebral parenting, playing, teaching, discipline, putting to sleep).  She has never driven our child anywhere to perform a simple errand together.  Her parents are in China and could probably help her transition into a single mom life.  I'm very scared, and anxious and not sure what I should do.  A week ago I thought I was moving across the country, now I think I need to get into a custody battle.",7.016662642521798,7.409344104225358,7.057505030181089,74.5730046948357,64.29577464788733,9.804158283031523,36.623071763916826,9.606745405546679,3.604124077800133,1507,70,258,27,21,483,207,355,0.09,0.835,0.075,-0.8456,5,0,0,0,3,0,46.0,10,0,0,5,12,16,8,1,21,0,30,3,1,3,4,47,46,12,0,6,7,9,1,0,0,3,2,0,2,2,9,18,0,4,7,5,1,12,7,10,0,2,14,2,47,6,47,28,4,56,0,0,1,0,45,21,0,2,22,180,56,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15182876907184975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08980064246334908,0.0,0.0967484307066024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762374471804579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10441027428987756,0.0,0.07287303642286183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19210430421524144,0.06837629377522278,0.0,0.0,0.1104609818442536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07215510064492184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09381405302804352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13422955099346154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057402453709814866,0.0,0.08590355385668999,0.0,0.0,0.19763332103825174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08938554708912116,0.08498414046229752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047065313216892606,0.06980774677172287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12097963812663078,0.0,0.08583342991788973,0.0,0.07578839733576362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08103430965751215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100300125693713,0.06835675339152883,0.5461283835253491,0.06295499824272441,0.0635007170216989,0.06605057934729043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09120343469106687,0.05803164474939632,0.06513281462144133,0.0,0.0,0.3803707963026564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095715257651777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923340297556375,0.08194558133418603,0.0,0.08609150436146627,0.0,0.0,0.08566282757559572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08455882497144443,0.09194493679221838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574023187984482,0.0,0.06824371505558967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07084200533303177,0.1925251146232538,0.08570150020211215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16142871752059382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05689517961068592,0.05487443119666106,0.08414052353846432,0.06798831785995177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08365749633907442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21198504609669985,0.0,0.0,0.1373899266927106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07727646577736969,0.0,0.0,0.08255356872962591,0.0,0.06234668681549092,0.08697122392726714,0.0,0.06083595185055199,0.0,0.0,0.055149128255229565
divorce,Introverted_Greens,2020/02/21,"Am I toxic?? Am I asking too much?? I need advice.. I’ve been with my husband for 5 years now and things have been rocky since I got pregnant with my daughter. He got distant. Stopped talking to me. Quit sleeping with me. I accused him of cheating. I was working full time pregnant while he played video games and slept all day because he worked night shift. We took his brother in. I was a jerk the majority of my pregnancy. I provoked him sometimes and he bruised me up a few times. He let his car get repossessed. Was giving his Mother money behind my back. I wanted him to get off night shift and on to days and play with my son occasionally and hounded him about it constantly. I can’t even come close to being able to fit it all here.. Anyway, I was going to leave him in summer 2018 and asked unless he gave me his word he’d put more effort in to parenting and our marriage I would leave. Agreements were made and I continued trying while he failed to keep his word to me so I moved out the beginning of June 2019. I dated someone during our separation. Bad decision on my part I know.. and not that it excuses it but after feeling neglected for so long in the marriage I think I longed for someone to care or even just acknowledge me... it was weak and I feel guilty which makes me feel like I’m toxic because I hurt him in that way. Especially since he decided he wanted to work things out..  he also talked to women but didn’t date. Anyway we agreed to try to make things work. The kids and I moved back in the house in October. WELLLLL things are starting to go to shit again. He’s back to sleeping constantly and back to old ways.. throws in my face I was “fucking around on him” and it makes me feel awful. Is it too much to expect things out of someone who works nights??? He has a great job and is always home with us but is there just too much damage done? Maybe I’m asking too much. I have no clue. I don’t wanna put my kids through this again but I feel like I’m always running in circles like a circus animal with him. I feel like I’m constantly trying to encourage him to do things with us or even get me some freaking flowers. Idk. I could be asking too much. I’m open to thoughts. Suggestions. Criticism. Anything! I feel like maybe it’s just time to walk again but for good.",1.4488961038961072,3.791077257575761,2.750829437229438,91.79795844155844,82.70129870129871,5.6873419913419925,21.57766233766234,7.003673034542,0.5792137142857139,1791,57,375,23,50,577,225,462,0.12,0.7829999999999999,0.09699999999999999,-0.8765,3,0,0,0,0,0,54.0,6,0,0,8,28,23,4,0,9,1,29,7,5,5,2,76,72,28,0,7,12,6,7,5,0,1,1,0,1,3,19,31,0,3,13,4,1,12,5,11,0,0,18,7,66,12,62,48,13,70,0,4,0,1,57,22,2,3,39,248,85,7,0.06815171387635374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06659706604167759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05450090096438405,0.11341537093019152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05608305361788201,0.0606694743523617,0.2548506106770826,0.0,0.0,0.2096178448666992,0.056903834387764994,0.08308930443537355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06948521437057335,0.0,0.0,0.058706666939325615,0.0,0.22094337408126824,0.0,0.054413597974838586,0.0,0.0,0.0879044347992606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06974286506517267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350406927836301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24121687986036275,0.19475039204249373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06300516129660222,0.10681937292641032,0.06537733400165477,0.07746437910558887,0.05716242416332148,0.10901430272893177,0.07513750514536549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683617257690799,0.0,0.0,0.07863792758905352,0.07295781925190972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.067630060040317,0.0605763746754049,0.0,0.0,0.03745439962515002,0.0,0.0,0.14432564932881534,0.0,0.06968974485845633,0.0,0.16647742461974707,0.0,0.0,0.1206242443424138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0644867995093096,0.13647539465759193,0.0,0.1369351136034811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14486897267585427,0.2504967566791108,0.05053363229208537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191867300247743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715137593609891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07567441304811541,0.07380166479205638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13702259215083132,0.0,0.07248773666778034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06995675492763279,0.11275160395779735,0.0,0.13640186445812036,0.0,0.1732341780202913,0.0,0.06740378765852538,0.0,0.04823813385662944,0.0,0.0,0.056977884432371326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10955553214554783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716618224631474,0.0436688664063721,0.0,0.05410484819751259,0.11921943726860075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07571906174338837,0.1388116203781604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16395624098809827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08039529318858707,0.10819131654776663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480762969249016,0.0,0.0,0.04841302216956535,0.0,0.0,0.043887469294661925
divorce,i_surfer,2020/02/21,"Should I respond back w/facts, or bite my lip, in asking for a favor from the XW? The XW and I practice a non-contact policy, usually emailing each other for updates re: the children, vacation schedules, and other business-like conversations.  We try not to use the children as communication vehicles, but in some recent instances, she's done so (against court order), and I've just decided it's not worth the hassle to remind her about this part of the court agreement (communication has to be done in email), which her and her lawyer pushed hard to have in the agreement.

Recently, I lost my job, and like most instances like these, will lose my health benefits at the end of the month.  When I found out last week that my benefits would run out at the end of the month, I reached out to her to ask if she could add the children into her own health benefits, if she had not done so previously.  She responds today that she can add them in, but that she needs proof of when my last day of benefits will be, as well as the monthly cost it will take her to add the children to her coverage.

When I read that last part, I had to pause, calm myself, and not fume.  This is the person who walked away w/more of the financial breakup than I did through the court proceedings.  This is the person who I have not asked for to help recoup me for covering our children in my health benefits.  This is the person who I have not asked to help recoup me for providing a car to our eldest child to get to/from school or work, nor have I asked her to help recoup me for helping to insure and maintain said car.

I know it doesn't matter that she cheated in this marriage; that I forgave her after she said she wanted to save the marriage; and that I've done my best to provide a stable environment for our children to not create so much change for them these past few years.  So, am I asking much in wondering why she's not willing to cover them on her cost, and not expect me to reimburse her?  If the tables were turned, I wouldn't even send such a response to her.  So, am I right to push back, or should I just bite my lip and agree to her request for reimbursement?",9.721600000000002,6.299914760000004,9.097411764705884,74.36635294117649,61.4,12.258823529411767,38.17647058823529,9.916854025145753,3.4599176470588238,1683,56,344,24,17,538,191,425,0.039,0.792,0.168,0.9959,1,0,0,0,0,0,51.0,4,0,3,4,18,18,2,0,26,0,31,5,2,1,1,56,49,30,0,11,19,0,1,2,0,8,3,2,0,10,23,19,0,0,4,1,5,7,12,4,1,0,12,3,60,14,63,26,10,50,0,2,0,0,64,17,0,9,27,256,83,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4917648741160026,0.0,0.08237005382911036,0.1348276058922936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200559981482884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09274458978884699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06999838346395235,0.0,0.0,0.0565407229467341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3588726343708481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15530146430981545,0.0,0.0,0.057906053808322665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09612703369950727,0.0,0.0,0.045804625472106716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07853624677841059,0.0,0.0,0.2795714138805248,0.0,0.0,0.23505684468715135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08700021782388435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048181842865558835,0.21439138438879002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08566351824051639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09808173724069937,0.09570355895343348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099351385721756,0.0,0.12889695725402195,0.0650071434835724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898789061800781,0.08369215728408898,0.0,0.2296535410273469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876950054203701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17312962516132258,0.0,0.0,0.0748707943713609,0.16679092822396405,0.0,0.0,0.08872801623700663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06591789198030422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08310212261607987,0.0,0.0,0.05952304444792216,0.09536117755367453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07571983732314581,0.09655752917479513,0.0,0.05171079262130238,0.0,0.07032461282806142,0.0,0.07882700991129872,0.0,0.07910969409961544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09507576370799464,0.06382573623782897,0.0,0.0,0.062279162132250335,0.0,0.0,0.0564574301146329
divorce,tootsy584,2020/02/21,"I hoped I wouldn't have a need to post here. Married for 12, together for 15, 3 yo and 5 yo. In December husband said he wasn't happy, in January said he thought we were headed for divorce. We tried virtual therapy - He works offshore for 4 weeks at a time (and told me before he left).  He said his unhappiness stemmed from me essentially quitting when he gets home (being a single parent for weeks at a time is exhausting) and not having as much drive about myself either. I asked him to give us a year to try and reconnect. Finally got him to say one way or another today. 

I have a meeting with an attorney on Monday. He said he spoke with one last Monday. I started the process to refinance the house in my name this morning. When I started throwing out what needs to be done he seemed kind of shell shocked. He's seemed that way the whole time honestly. 

I told him today that I'm worried for his mental health and hopes he sees someone. I've been living as a single mom essentially for 6 months of the year since my oldest was born (4 weeks gone 2 or 4 weeks home) so that won't be a change. Living in oneish salary will be. 

I started working out again and planning food at the beginning of January before any of this blew up. I know I should be focusing on myself and the kids. I've compiled all the documents suggested online (except his bank account information, don't have access to that). What else should I do? I have a therapist I'm seeing in a few weeks as well. I don't want to start moving finances around until the refinance on the house has been completed. He's been very amicable - wants to help any way he can. Anything else I can do for my meeting on Monday?",3.8079640718562864,5.151896347305391,5.023992814371258,82.83867185628745,72.05389221556888,8.338011976047904,28.03065868263473,8.841846274778883,2.144839904191617,1316,49,262,25,25,436,180,334,0.039,0.917,0.044000000000000004,0.3485,2,0,0,0,3,0,37.0,3,0,0,4,8,8,0,0,20,0,30,4,1,0,1,35,61,16,0,9,5,3,0,0,0,5,2,6,2,1,8,14,1,0,5,0,3,4,6,2,1,2,17,8,30,6,46,34,7,54,0,0,2,0,43,17,0,6,29,159,38,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11832283762297115,0.09122467319946627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07159169385072144,0.07744639697246404,0.08133110503208067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480572688651218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09203203039053934,0.0,0.09121543252983096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08902885135387854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14535082895114987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953017271841186,0.0,0.0,0.10519796333772356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04545270719374223,0.08345612049787651,0.0,0.0,0.06958000753217805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09261066863498918,0.0,0.0,0.08928473833262925,0.09247448617454776,0.0,0.0,0.058312724017120114,0.0,0.17453157154076412,0.17281669053063842,0.0,0.20076732894642735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09059471626846922,0.04781166035637095,0.07091473636884732,0.0,0.0,0.09452325485607607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15364112473132174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876732188308697,0.0,0.0,0.10189065397843614,0.06944073358566218,0.09246478634119323,0.06395331907908627,0.1290153833944013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11790378514612172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09660064960418463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833197475571666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925327619785092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3310189372797258,0.06918406232615479,0.0,0.0,0.13865180544570208,0.15839887610007633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07196539588164158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07371286831022142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463096773955124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09948945108979536,0.10101103425019653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06906645551769727,0.15218717426020364,0.0,0.16492729315065896,0.16626005979731728,0.0,0.1181314543099603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10464752053009133,0.0,0.0,0.07178221306986711,0.10262699417567273,0.20716417291669711,0.3489215338452749,0.0,0.07822137968660672,0.0,0.0,0.09712982441669724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12667072247582042,0.08835038662179583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11204733205270972
divorce,ZmaGiant,2020/02/21,"Dealing with False Accusations My ex seems to have learned there’s no consequence to making new accusations.  Even when they’re easily disproven they sound bad enough she only comes away from each one better off than she was before, and I’m a damn mess from worrying about the police.  It’s all part of her custody strategy.  I’ve asked for a custody investigator, but months have drug by and the court seems to be in no hurry to take any action, which just leaves my toddler son alone with a woman who’s actively working on her own narrative.

I can’t afford a lawyer.  I can’t even find one locally in this town if I could.  And, I was rejected by the free legal aid office.

What the hell do I do?",4.310000000000001,5.5745942028985525,5.268811594202898,81.86713043478262,70.73913043478261,8.708405797101449,26.118840579710145,9.120678840339163,1.9659831884057968,552,17,110,11,10,181,100,138,0.195,0.7170000000000001,0.087,-0.93,1,2,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,1,2,6,7,2,0,8,0,10,1,0,1,1,17,17,6,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,5,7,0,0,4,0,1,2,4,5,0,2,2,1,12,3,19,13,5,12,1,1,0,0,11,7,2,3,3,73,17,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067405916441409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357448168433984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186612765177762,0.0,0.1875445480792771,0.0,0.16666990683060834,0.0,0.0,0.16985737705573695,0.0,0.0,0.17654294911289808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719503582559415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15937606669849466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057939539047957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314896371961251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20625530864726566,0.0,0.2636872063982593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18244418690060324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21136310747516832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332443384936586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593305206572722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19278908671671893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705281252770854,0.1518159472271528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21616322919498332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36344338686195693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15008538524732296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14532185305335324,0.20271838118410326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,TheLongestGoodbye,2020/02/21,Tomorrow Tomorrow is my anniversary and I’m preparing for it to be a difficult day.  I’m just going to try to stay busy and then go out for some fun and not think about the end to this chapter of my life.,3.030606060606061,3.5631578181818213,5.148181818181818,84.2756060606061,73.0909090909091,10.412121212121212,28.303030303030305,10.504223727775694,2.79499393939394,160,6,37,5,3,56,34,44,0.055999999999999994,0.871,0.07400000000000001,0.2023,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,8,7,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,9,6,1,9,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,24,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884489074739617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39614401244457614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5083819848721408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3159164789375559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4767249526980084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2865893361196009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3036635586832188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,UsedAgain33,2020/02/21,"Its Over Its a rollercoaster these feelings Im going through. My husband (35M) is divorcing me (34F) after almost 4 years of marriage. I suffer from a mental health disorder. He claims he does nothing wrong. We share a child. I left my life to follow him through his career. Anything he asked of me I did. He didn't want me to work, I didn't. He wanted me to not drink because I used it to numb a lot back in the day, I stopped. He quit smoking and made comments about my smoking. I quit. He was tired of me ordering out, I started making almost all meals at home. He complained they weren't healthy, I made them healthier. He wanted me to take interests in his interests, I did. When our son was born he experienced the male version of postpartum he refused help, so I lifted the extra weight. He started with making nearly nothing at his job to now will be in the top 1% and believes I deserve nothing because he never ""forced"" me not to work. He for years said I was mental, I took responsibility and got a therapist and have been putting in the work. My therapist claimed he has narcissistic tendencies and so he refused to come back to see her together as he does not believe he has issues. While maintaining our home and our child, and meals, and I mean I even bring him his plate and take his plate and clean up when he's finished, paying all the bills, scheduling appointments and taking our child there and/or myself or our dog, he considers me a waste. After all that in his eyes I have done nothing and I deserve nothing. I stopped getting my hair done, I don't buy clothes or makeup (I rarely wear it now), I don't spend money outside of what is necessary for the house and he still makes comments that I spend all the money when it literally is groceries and toilet paper and the occasional skin product I need.  Im not sure he's even cleaned the toilet more than three times during our entire relationship/marriage. He says Im manipulative and toxic and a terrible person, everyone else in my life does not believe that and thinks he is a huge part of the issue. I guess Im so lost right now. Im so beyond hurt right now. I asked him several times to come back to therapy, he has declined. I didn't realize it would hurt this bad having someone truly break the trust and decidedly try and hurt you and even more so tell you you are not worth anything and that you don't deserve anything because you don't work a ""real"" job. While it's been toxic I committed to changing the patterns of our marriage but it didn't mean enough to him to do the same. I guess I just needed to vent because, Im just so hurt. I don't have family or friends around because they are in another state and he will not let me leave with our child and I will not leave our child behind. As he is notorious to play video games rather than actually care or interact with our child.  I don't like this at all. I'm sure most will comment on the negativity of it all but I loved him. I wanted our family to stay together in a healthy fixed way. It is clear he did not and I don't know how to accept that yet.",4.447045769764216,5.308212456310682,5.366370781322239,82.79611650485437,70.06796116504854,8.409986130374481,29.60101710587148,8.634040054169528,2.1285619047619044,2430,92,493,39,42,797,265,618,0.098,0.83,0.07200000000000001,-0.8811,2,0,1,0,0,0,65.0,12,5,3,8,29,23,0,0,25,0,45,14,4,8,11,97,85,45,0,8,18,2,4,1,1,5,5,2,4,8,19,33,4,4,8,4,8,7,23,11,0,1,21,9,84,12,60,57,15,64,0,6,2,1,90,23,0,10,30,318,103,9,0.0,0.0,0.058989196278405036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12106125153445657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06338571635265297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14923235043129807,0.05381214510133523,0.11302272013491747,0.0,0.0,0.13944392139797188,0.050472126643331616,0.18424478514009435,0.0,0.0,0.20431490208372344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06163146257688192,0.0,0.06394669302830228,0.10414237846884436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03898440073005623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06927942950532624,0.0,0.1586971535787425,0.12371998322823186,0.0,0.0592166977895674,0.0,0.0,0.050497119323056484,0.0,0.0,0.06245965007638954,0.0,0.11977735809037315,0.0,0.0,0.0577613085444823,0.0,0.0,0.11397127996854188,0.0,0.030564671180549906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0467025037221536,0.0,0.03158194274199483,0.0,0.03435438046161776,0.0,0.04834633511491602,0.0,0.13318208212010804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06425412495258473,0.0,0.0,0.04051747904010397,0.0,0.12126991854579053,0.0,0.0,0.0697496659574357,0.25884626809580563,0.0,0.3917697140636846,0.12618544318611408,0.11997198403153407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033221016150661774,0.0,0.0,0.12801285764270529,0.06567767261754158,0.06181287546052885,0.08539338713385003,0.02953217388271536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06598687988209953,0.051391309926085336,0.05455729786688663,0.11439601378977822,0.12104989895615348,0.0,0.0,0.13169267719504846,0.0,0.0,0.12183611265751496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08964386728013117,0.04662175205644525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900107156059675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06546003466990058,0.0,0.0,0.05278145972134607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06076762399618998,0.0,0.12858923355686305,0.0,0.06880383690185371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06489926490172694,0.0,0.10324569261346407,0.057500541602082934,0.048071220174626714,0.0,0.0,0.04816977525667866,0.0,0.0,0.06828980749036273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051217974242953976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08557178008282934,0.06443025476071153,0.04827439755425321,0.10107561396804884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11394433958653542,0.0,0.1363496635157107,0.0,0.05283481466705154,0.0,0.06912833892065731,0.14037116365375,0.0,0.03873307623900722,0.0,0.0,0.07049622813539058,0.06947687051204889,0.0,0.0,0.06716071271373332,0.041040688843275226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052208254998810405,0.0,0.0,0.14261680124018505,0.04798135212907342,0.0,0.07361021279297764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17602944912681698,0.0,0.0,0.04294101113604582,0.06609114714534656,0.0,0.07785394190489829
divorce,bloggypoo,2020/02/21,"STBXH reporting me for extra visitation My mom lived with us in the home my STBX got in the divorce. She’s still there until an apartment opens up. The kids wanted to visit her, so I let them. STBX calls me angrily because I didn’t clear this with him first. Because he has use of the house. It’s not his visitation time and they can’t be there. He then tells me he’s reporting this infraction and I’ll have to deal with the outcome. Anyone else have an ex that will only follow the temporary orders?",1.6744734473447345,4.088708544554457,3.1790279027902777,88.62436543654367,82.36633663366338,6.445004500450046,21.063006300630068,7.686295010490155,0.9198039603960401,397,12,81,7,11,130,73,101,0.028999999999999998,0.9440000000000001,0.027000000000000003,-0.0516,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,1,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,8,0,8,0,0,1,1,10,12,5,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,4,6,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,2,0,14,0,11,7,1,15,0,0,0,0,20,5,0,0,5,55,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16673113174174214,0.24432217830290304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29071616311102305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434860781365735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24583346649529414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991959876448605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028270874144853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19071178913423587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391867251060291,0.0,0.0,0.2751415087542768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24383325111590806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21055742030895885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2792720151301863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813534356474984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19042801703719173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084174945169816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390432362965983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28682830854144153,0.2059459045806277,0.0,0.0,0.1406451247052537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,InterestingChange5,2020/02/21,Workshop for divorce for men and women The Second Saturday workshop for divorce is happening on Saturday March 14th at Symphony Towers. If you or someone you know is struggling with the decision to divorce or legally separate then this Workshop is for you. You will get three hours of valuable information from all of the professionals you need to help you successfully navigate through a divorce. For more information and how to register please go to www.secondsaturdaysandiego.org,10.644615384615383,12.606422948717954,9.25297435897436,56.50869230769232,56.69230769230769,12.906666666666665,47.651282051282045,12.340626583579946,6.9772943589743575,402,25,51,13,5,124,52,78,0.032,0.821,0.147,0.836,1,0,0,0,4,0,5.0,0,6,0,1,1,3,0,1,4,0,4,0,0,1,1,13,9,7,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,6,2,16,8,2,8,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,3,5,42,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20237838368585245,0.0,0.2201442782399232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34253908920202697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596376665662878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3814692564067407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128816332768725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2872207880894301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4252023766123402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32820687845683594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4049503184584096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,knurse9,2020/02/21,"29(F) on the verge of divorce and feel like I'll never have a family. So the quick and dirty is I just turned 29 in January and my husband and I just seperated. We were trying for a baby for a year and it didn't work out. I am absolutely terrified of ending up alone and never having the family or life I had wanted for so long. 

Anyone out there have some success stories? I'm hurting and really could use some positivity and some advice.

Thanks!",1.9913333333333327,4.2372185777777815,4.436666666666671,81.06500000000003,79.8888888888889,7.555555555555558,21.11111111111111,8.515128840125781,1.4874444444444452,352,10,68,8,9,123,63,90,0.12300000000000001,0.745,0.131,0.20199999999999999,0,1,0,0,1,0,9.0,1,0,0,2,6,4,0,0,6,0,9,1,0,1,2,23,15,11,0,2,3,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,11,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,1,6,3,10,11,3,12,0,1,0,0,3,6,0,4,7,52,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22876731700716535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24246495496354745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16369353425525995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869159342488173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073499190636843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4413917743404454,0.0,0.1183718779699496,0.1672465745179118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506171150919469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16535717890662574,0.11437318799806635,0.0,0.0,0.20717793128425055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3611165526742299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14997537550808165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21553489986596755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15894374858023394,0.25464193187677914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20219387125865387,0.0,0.0,0.13808277613346806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17043318041988945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507576714339179
divorce,Zoahisback,2020/02/21,The end of a horrible chapter I finally sold the prison of a home that I have been living in since my divorce. No more memories of my xw no more unnecessary reminiscing and falling back into a depression slump. I can finally move on completely with my life. To really but a cherry on top of it all my xw is moving half way around the world. It’s all finally coming together for me and I am starting to feel like a person again.,2.456395348837209,4.556072720930231,5.0676162790697665,77.87723837209303,77.6046511627907,9.41627906976744,27.02906976744186,9.827888789773867,3.037283720930233,338,14,65,11,8,120,61,86,0.133,0.8029999999999999,0.064,-0.4215,0,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,8,0,5,1,0,0,2,10,9,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,3,6,0,0,1,0,1,4,2,1,0,1,2,1,9,1,13,7,4,19,0,1,0,0,2,7,0,0,8,50,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734292599450014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14980296143394306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16781839483217126,0.2042628912076616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677963961352833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17255085940799844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09850579814878174,0.13917796687080491,0.0,0.6402405533300146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954182665212615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13760566417610753,0.09517819911102818,0.0,0.1720277998777961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4141212527117932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17010750047321224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12480535343738727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611554034442651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13789313234024253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546374034195348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,chapter2at43,2020/02/21,"2 months later and STBX is still here 4 years dating, 15 years of marriage, one child, and now my STBXW told me that she couldn't stay in our marriage any longer. There has been no physical abuse, no infidelity, never called her any names, just tough communication between us, a mental breakdown in May on my part, and years of what she would call ""little jabs."" Some anger issues on my part at times, and we've had our differences over the years on parenting and other things, but we've also had some incredible times of fun, adventure, and the like. If she had said to me we need to get help or she might leave, I would have gotten help(we're in counseling now.) So after 2 months, she's still living at home(she left our bed, then came back, and now is in the guest room again,) she also called me a ""phenomenal human being"" at a co-parenting appointment recently, we went to a wedding as a family recently and she held my hand, and still gives hugs and touches me on the shoulder and such. It's an emotional roller coaster. How do you call someone you want to divorce a ""phenomenal human being?"" And she's not looking for trial separation, she just signed a three year lease on another place, and is getting papers together. Only one session of couples therapy before she told me she couldn't stay. She says the damage has been done, but you wouldn't think so by how she relates to me. 

Has anyone else experience divorce this way? I know we're living this facade for our kid's sake, but damn it's been hard!",7.514639175257733,6.698624312714777,7.466034364261173,76.08832989690724,63.60481099656358,10.64659793814433,32.458419243986256,9.888512548439397,2.885449759450172,1189,38,229,21,15,382,169,291,0.067,0.8420000000000001,0.09,0.8953,2,0,0,0,3,0,46.0,7,3,0,0,19,8,2,0,13,0,24,3,2,2,1,43,39,26,0,8,8,1,3,1,1,5,0,2,2,4,8,16,0,1,2,1,0,2,7,4,0,3,14,6,36,4,28,16,4,46,0,1,1,1,46,17,1,6,25,158,44,2,0.0,0.11626568556071787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15694592190853393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13346086910200353,0.1028958095777056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06861340962334445,0.1005437768270601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07545440838809067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834997375678725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4007988152481019,0.11223234018354004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10857681373520928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10252291999421806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004190578551082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197338884962252,0.11038084129206444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09598805586274356,0.09250638626315394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025357053123622,0.09413336087340236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08790345268638748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13154631824886592,0.0,0.09843042852720922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024201829740254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05392860645130668,0.0,0.0,0.1039034295220238,0.10661640640870658,0.0,0.0,0.047940405427387534,0.09835007877407048,0.17329772044336678,0.0,0.08240284238172642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09888998791106067,0.10409834713390573,0.0,0.0,0.15664973629104292,0.0,0.0,0.07276070089787214,0.07568239656848512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13298820373255152,0.07463079891976401,0.0,0.0,0.10895957966350923,0.21252621725910914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10252291999421806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19377920945114346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09334224048814796,0.0780353587823627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08314357284120596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091828760920442,0.2350955469487091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11221796971464436,0.0,0.06519191184517238,0.06287648805409188,0.0,0.0,0.11443850260851453,0.0,0.0,0.18753110154614167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180359541732654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057878462480993036,0.07788947346569412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09096567945048616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13941469337811702,0.0,0.0,0.31595621387912576
divorce,MostLong,2020/02/21,"I need out Hi, Been married 18 years and together 25 total and it’s just over. There is no easy way to say it we are done. No love, passion, romance her weight gain and the criticism I get for getting in shape is ridiculous. Our lives are so estranged from one another it’s like having a roommate that won’t leave. We have 1 kid together and she is the only reason I have stayed this long. Getting married was a mistake that I should have seen conning. I can’t and won’t stay longer than 8 months more for a few reasons. My life has been so bad for so long and I just want to leave. 

Where do I start??",1.3142857142857167,3.2208063809523857,2.5526190476190465,95.4632142857143,80.42857142857143,5.469841269841268,23.198412698412696,6.42735559955562,0.3909174603174601,468,16,106,4,12,150,86,126,0.142,0.7,0.158,0.6332,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,0,0,1,7,7,1,0,5,0,19,4,0,2,1,18,27,9,0,4,2,0,1,1,0,3,1,1,0,1,6,9,1,0,2,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,5,3,13,4,10,19,3,13,0,0,1,2,9,5,0,0,6,72,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19063310982587467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15179537307762847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18604447900521165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2849489272513617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3849998162733473,0.0,0.0,0.12841068843745365,0.08881827754155963,0.0,0.16053269569207035,0.3217744879438323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16408156213297814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451109938544816,0.0,0.0,0.1348023669982088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12319235813265952,0.1382670620431828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3738412758988041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14457462536241988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286789476336244,0.3875491368930069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10723032687117852,0.14430434641025847,0.0,0.2213833744750664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11707321390012625
divorce,Chipmunkbrit23,2020/02/21,"A long journey ahead I desperately want a divorce from my partner. I know divorce would be easier without kids, so much is intertwined when it comes to them. I love my kids but I hate my partner being around them. They are so toxic to my kids and I know that it would be hard to get custody taken away from them. They constantly yell and call our toddler names. Just now, our toddler woke up from sleeping upset and saying they didnt like my partner, so in retaliation to our toddler saying that my partner said okay fuck you too. How would that be an appropriate response to a child's words? I pull so much weight around our home and I know my spouse works but we agreed to me being a homemaker not a freaking slave. They expect that they can come home from work and not have to deal with the kids. It was easy when we had the toddler but now we have a baby and they actually have to do a little extra as a parent and they don't like it. I desperately want out and my kids deserve so much better than being yelled at all day long, being called names, and being cussed at. I'm at the point where I don't want anything from my spouse, just a chance to get away with my kids.",3.0992503317116338,4.640137819327734,3.9708934099955786,88.90398275099516,74.16806722689077,6.523131357806282,23.45068553737284,7.0608816371341465,0.6888117647058829,923,26,195,9,19,296,117,238,0.102,0.789,0.109,-0.2879,1,0,1,0,2,0,18.0,7,1,10,4,16,9,2,1,13,1,23,4,1,1,1,42,40,21,0,7,8,3,2,2,4,3,0,5,2,11,8,19,1,0,3,0,0,4,6,4,0,0,6,7,38,5,30,23,5,26,0,0,0,2,43,13,1,0,11,145,46,2,0.0,0.0,0.1271513403466809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107223551528941,0.2319843906423828,0.0,0.0,0.2448371494130793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11523734721285772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26609616246418016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244791223584191,0.0,0.14080506039723034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08403096021251301,0.1343307644944126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12045772694376693,0.1361498919715524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11672076132620306,0.12864157903679954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613975720919417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21482391680500398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273133295397403,0.13059209530661858,0.0,0.23061796825493225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175983737213128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28735045791855274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14467969918634752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231730363698485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12394254196749355,0.2072352384140488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13039136957501166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305581179822445,0.0,0.0,0.15866697311246314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12560191903963294,0.0,0.18971592943330606,0.0,0.0,0.27767832753751864,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,NewPrinciple5,2020/02/21,"I’m divorcing Hey I’m 30 years old with two kids. Me and my wife have agreed that we will have to be divorcing soon. So randomly I have met this person, who just fits every checkbox for me. I feel soooo much guilt and I truly don’t know why, can someone please help me!?",0.6726315789473674,2.747354421052634,2.1921929824561417,96.26618421052632,83.73684210526315,5.905263157894738,18.271929824561404,7.1686216300943375,0.05848771929824581,210,5,49,3,6,68,46,57,0.036000000000000004,0.7879999999999999,0.17600000000000002,0.8016,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,8,12,3,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,1,8,0,3,9,1,4,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,1,3,28,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2937497401650081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17628616220739082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336904212090339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916070160622793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562953167634497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3658458866165883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30442470377044883,0.0,0.3827091954866692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2954070751159609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3405770013874651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3145992665810254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2245169357468081
divorce,Grassh0pperLiesHeavy,2020/02/21,"Confused about Family Management Conferences I live in California and I believed I would have an easy no-contest divorce. I am in communication with my ex and we have been separated for two years. I received my summons for divorce earlier this week, I knew it was coming, and noticed I was required to attend two Family Management Conferences at 90 and 180 days from the filing of the petition. My limited research into what this is seems to indicate this is for resolution of things like child visitation or property division but we have no property or children and I don't see any sort of indication of any dispute in the paperwork. Under the requests section of the paperwork, however, I see she asks for visitation of our dog. Could this be the matter that makes the conferences necessary. She has said to me through text that she isn't sure why we need to attend these conferences and she had the papers prepared by free legal aid.  

I am wondering about a couple things:  

1. In California are Family Management Conferences required for a normal easy divorce?  
2. If not, would dog visitation be something the conferences' purpose to help resolve?  

I am just hoping someone might have some experience or knowledge here. I realize I will need to get some legal help before I return my response. Thanks so much.",5.919146696528558,8.228831472340428,7.009003359462486,66.84105263157895,68.31914893617022,10.904815229563267,36.19820828667413,10.882677951670544,4.911425531914893,1056,56,162,35,19,354,136,235,0.048,0.8009999999999999,0.151,0.9764,1,0,1,0,3,0,21.0,4,0,0,4,5,7,0,1,12,0,24,0,0,1,1,43,38,12,0,8,7,1,0,1,0,4,0,1,0,2,11,12,0,3,6,0,1,7,4,1,0,2,6,3,27,7,30,25,4,19,0,0,2,0,23,8,0,12,5,126,38,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20206731823824708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13889422036642554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264233341013371,0.16738911138271298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12798112138221832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862218808058675,0.1643914483844617,0.0,0.09581627374371854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14533135563700944,0.42017973173440815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07762243395965257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19916857976061447,0.0,0.0,0.1475649414088921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07258449030901057,0.0,0.13119128424088344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09917257533635336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15761079618255436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10921708723656444,0.2203276481337933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14556844515450992,0.0,0.16914954436569893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413254412375652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367843694264563,0.13525383919325867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12588408052346955,0.11437753628682835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14002680339976792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13678460069539528,0.0,0.0,0.19740849712749908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29026537465476576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11917503000452473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340625961357366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16111936542481925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21108174555938589,0.0,0.0,0.0956751222269787
divorce,Royal_P1122,2020/02/21,"Acronyms I am new-ish to the group and I was wondering if someone will help me with all of the acronyms in this group. 

TIA!",0.2941025641025625,2.495498153846153,0.951538461538462,103.67679487179493,86.69230769230771,5.005128205128205,24.051282051282055,6.42735559955562,0.2952205128205132,96,4,24,1,3,29,22,26,0.0,0.7490000000000001,0.251,0.792,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,5,4,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,4,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,0,16,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3703246483948393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5336015230434868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4681258250110814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5991554734412465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,meowkales,2020/02/21,"When did your temp orders start?? We had temp hearing today. Got our temp orders. 
Do they start THIS weekend or when my lawyer gets the orders drafted?! 
Im just a little overwhelmed by everything and I don’t want to look like an idiot to my lawyer at 9pm. I’m not an idiot, my STBXH just blew me out of the water with some of the things he said, and my head is still spinning. 

If This is inappropriate here, please let me know, I just need a better idea. 

TIA!",1.4483040935672518,3.3682653157894777,2.8108771929824563,93.71058479532171,80.05263157894737,5.064327485380117,17.923976608187132,5.82211442006289,-0.4663216374269013,355,7,79,2,9,115,68,95,0.076,0.7829999999999999,0.14,0.7553,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,1,1,1,7,5,2,1,7,0,7,2,1,0,0,16,18,6,0,3,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,5,1,0,2,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,4,3,12,2,8,13,1,13,0,1,1,0,7,3,0,3,8,50,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111009445472477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21451820206711866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247051042493696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19090132642675245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449636839933077,0.0,0.269019749589754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694507267152144,0.2578249826342149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311771829929102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440755827224219,0.0,0.11661134506008257,0.23922899421408614,0.0,0.0,0.20043856953736947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17698480276864853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620087468671111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22704781315900915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33789047884770274,0.0,0.19061727230521888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15857430615221546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262491780550191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14078490366838606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,coolcatdy,2020/02/21,"Looking to Fix Everything when it comes to a big legal battle Anybody have stories that can help me learn what to do/not to do to achieve peace especially if the other person is determined to legally fight? Not reconciliation, just two parents that get along divorced/separated. That’s all I want. With the least amount of money spent as possible.

I feel like it’s impossible if the parents are in litigation. Everything they/you do or say has a motive behind it. Of course you won’t trust that they’re just trying to be nice. Vice versa. The longer court stuff lasts, the harder it is to heal.

Sometimes being “nice” just ends up backfiring because they take more and more. They don’t see it as you being nice, they see it as being given what they deserve.

Is it even possible to do with certain people?",3.7362464985994417,6.087318352941183,4.7139729225023315,80.73073529411766,74.62091503267973,7.247245564892625,25.96125116713352,8.192908349453996,1.813956489262372,640,23,116,11,14,208,97,153,0.043,0.7759999999999999,0.18100000000000002,0.961,2,0,0,0,2,0,18.0,0,2,4,2,5,8,2,0,7,0,16,1,0,1,2,18,26,8,0,3,7,2,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,15,5,0,0,3,0,2,1,3,2,0,1,2,5,9,6,20,19,5,7,0,0,3,0,12,3,0,3,4,82,24,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11580350935943395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636417129874317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16825639548761398,0.0,0.0,0.12547291725805584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3414642776813986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09605417549358324,0.1357140910066698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09925110768076292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12733240345645713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15485031739685676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09280939409034143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15952634952896969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4218768063705819,0.0,0.0,0.13170077882320186,0.16587384712674194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4283236377424047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15107119561563034,0.0,0.0,0.3027618402082369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18788447461481636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174693749137799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14283325597783042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12897667065491322,0.0,0.18557238214684094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11204880279699896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,zjoshuascott,2020/02/21,"Navy divorce. Active duty Navy, 10y married, 12yr active, wife went and made false accusations and the military doesn't take it lightly, so I've been forced to stay away from wife and she won't let me see my 3 kids for over a month.  Found out she hired a lawyer and took out a personal loan to be ""paid by husband"" on her divorce docs.     I am getting her served tomorrow, I figure it's the only way I will get to see the kids.  It's all been through military so far, what should I expect in the future? Besides getting screwed over by the courts?",3.6427272727272735,4.764999954545459,4.361590909090912,88.28238636363638,72.18181818181819,7.3181818181818175,27.38636363636364,7.645422480735847,1.3967272727272726,425,15,90,5,8,136,76,110,0.086,0.8640000000000001,0.051,-0.5752,0,0,0,0,2,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,8,0,9,1,0,1,1,13,20,6,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,4,6,0,1,2,0,2,2,2,1,0,0,7,3,10,0,15,8,1,15,0,0,2,1,12,8,1,0,3,53,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23921550595796764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27916792491568776,0.0,0.0,0.3990713668923032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2603570960690775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409191752550285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032281476796886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19364321170818571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22231658820194725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4057841577726744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27138155123039776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19143585743510053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28288229599095216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20209843681791606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360270368128756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,kakalina19,2020/02/21,I'm the one initiating the divorce & am struggling My STBX has a history of substance abuse & is unable/unwilling to keep a full time job. I had a breakdown this week over more issues arising & the weight of the stress over the past decade+ has crushed me. I know the divorce has to happen to protect my health & future. But I have no idea where he is now & if he's ok. He doesn't take care of himself - I've always had to do it. The guilt I feel for telling him that I can't do it anymore is eating me up.,5.035212121212119,4.180433490909092,5.720000000000002,86.70666666666668,68.63636363636364,8.424242424242424,31.96969696969697,7.1686216300943375,1.7517878787878782,404,15,92,3,6,132,73,110,0.175,0.7809999999999999,0.043,-0.9291,1,0,0,0,3,0,19.0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,3,10,1,14,3,0,0,0,6,21,2,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,2,2,11,2,11,19,2,10,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,1,5,58,15,1,0.0,0.16979201490988038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11924055402483555,0.7763500723930838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14211923529495174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14610815782953135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14663594764844146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07245889703306545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12672340928548634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523256375436424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16177297129974438,0.0,0.1495723278173652,0.14220728216643455,0.12737533577449986,0.0,0.0,0.07875622722636788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09710661818272848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368000508930758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16415444906842774,0.1498126390942404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10774690568747301,0.0,0.1252541659325028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356181726130146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11494996575675112,0.17450587960987327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Hotmessmamajama,2020/02/22,"The Journey Our D-day was Dec 1, 2019, divorce final a month ago and he's getting married next week. 21 years together and a 5 year old. I'm reading the book Crazy Time about divorce. So great. It's such a confusing emotional time. He tells me I'm the only one he'll love deeply and wants to continue an intimate relationship...I still love him but don't want to be with him. We had an outwardly perfect relationship but the inside scoop was erosion of trust and selfish, dumb actions. I kept connecting with him this past year in what may have been hopes of reconciliation but I feel so much happier and freer. The insecurity about finances (sold house but it all went to pay off debt so living in rental duplex...had been a grudging stay at home mom so had to get fulltime job...I'm much happier) and future love (date but can't imagine finding someone I connect with in the same way and who likes to do ""all the things""...) alternate with optimism and determination. It's almost harder a year later after divorce final than it was a couple months after...I guess this is kind of normal? Or at least per the book. Lord people. I wish you all the best. This is hard.",2.4900248994445486,4.902086859030842,3.9058264700249015,84.63853667879721,79.08810572687223,6.767209346868416,24.84753878567325,7.893859768569023,1.5175701589733777,915,34,178,16,23,301,144,227,0.08900000000000001,0.684,0.22699999999999998,0.9911,3,0,0,0,3,0,39.0,2,1,0,2,8,15,1,2,17,0,15,3,0,0,4,37,32,18,0,5,6,1,2,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,10,13,0,1,3,3,4,3,2,4,0,1,10,2,11,11,22,19,8,33,1,0,0,3,19,7,1,6,22,104,21,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11114741879388804,0.0,0.12555630044486105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13158522072338955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13873759253815088,0.0,0.0808638118090602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410427480451171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06339909738420722,0.0,0.0,0.2747091978523656,0.11460083676386056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13101836768696182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13823887474510524,0.1381271819396733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123215259497515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12577271533927106,0.12453692035259215,0.0,0.1446789935487809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12442658803789128,0.0,0.0,0.13057057081291346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061257428777741124,0.0,0.11071842919104542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33949818272702736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14685095774283896,0.20016434943244105,0.0,0.1843467637293762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333497875838143,0.0,0.12285198426518315,0.0,0.0,0.1315718641939117,0.0,0.0849650242399967,0.0953619563434404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11969544257314367,0.08692709566536122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254202642861137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692359941556565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10623943302610182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13364514775683375,0.10013368747292932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10959318163659937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08330110813912753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14622755816261013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14791221565969978,0.09952583485317686,0.100577353116456,0.0,0.0,0.11623438684925293,0.0,0.0,0.1441880949040169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32297874990482744
divorce,kfay1899,2020/02/22,My husband won't stop cheating and I can't do it anymore I've only been married for a little over a month and my husband has cheated twice already. One I found out through going into his phone. The other one he confessed to. I'm becoming emotionally detached and distancing myself. This isn't healthy for me. He wants to stay together and work through it. He reminds me of the promises I made when we said our vows. But how much of myself am I required to sacrifice before I put my foot down? I feel horrible because I never wanted to be one to get divorced but I don't think I can keep my sanity if I stay in this situation. Advice? Encouragement?,2.3350268336314883,4.6913558837209335,4.287751937984496,81.99563506261185,79.31007751937985,6.759928443649375,29.302921884317232,7.882392219407189,2.239564818127609,515,25,95,9,13,175,88,129,0.061,0.86,0.079,0.4883,0,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,2,0,0,2,2,4,2,0,4,0,10,1,1,2,1,22,21,9,0,3,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,5,7,0,3,4,0,0,2,5,2,0,4,4,2,21,2,16,15,1,14,2,0,0,0,13,6,0,1,4,71,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18234700927593167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20592186075693286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18506076229170815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137519043040572,0.20608916358440896,0.15878603369061553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20990408466797292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943524547674779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20460136281609667,0.0,0.0,0.09749274927352686,0.0,0.10605120236438932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16586197277708364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870259641115677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17656896507933634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489453202419768,0.0,0.1371752154521971,0.0,0.14392030348049625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3793425586727159,0.1419205484567984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875882930511037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17750288293853655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20975041549982013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3977895042323003,0.0,0.15600907725590332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11956813807216135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2201274341969683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13584974085253052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Throwaway-050619,2020/02/22,"creating a business mid-divorce? Throwaway account for obvious reasons.

Does anyone have any advice as to legal constructs (trusts, foreign ownership, etc.) to keep my idea as my own property?

Some background, I'm mid-divorce and a settlement agreement looks like it's a bit of a ways off.  I currently do have a regular 9-5 W2 job, but i have started and sold 3 companies previously.  That said part of what is getting me through this awful process is thinking about the next thing I want to start; I'd like to get going ASAP as a distraction and to rebuild my self confidence after 10 years of emotional abuse.  I have not spent any marital assets on this new idea so far... i'm in the deck building / business plan phase and have not written a single line of code yet.

I'm not asking how to avoid paying my soon-to-be-ex what she's entitled to as far as current assets and spousal support from my income - yes, she's entitled to 50%.  In my mind, she may own 50% of everything in the past including my income, but she does not own 50% of my brain.  

Is there anything I can do to make sure she cannot claim 50% ownership of this new idea?  I would love to start working on it now, but worst case, I guess i can wait until the divorce is settled.  Anyone gone through anything like this before and can lend some advice?",5.936976744186048,5.9072488217054255,6.531178294573648,78.87234883720933,66.59689922480621,9.670697674418603,35.029457364341084,9.3871,3.1537857364341093,1028,46,198,18,15,337,146,258,0.081,0.747,0.171,0.9572,5,1,0,0,4,0,40.0,0,0,0,2,6,11,0,2,11,2,17,2,1,3,2,32,41,17,0,2,7,0,0,3,0,2,0,1,0,1,10,6,0,3,5,0,4,2,5,3,0,0,5,2,22,8,35,34,10,25,0,0,1,1,10,8,0,4,17,122,32,4,0.0,0.14913355895447658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24599443115087866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17118975641308246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17602032654401542,0.0,0.2071580580336867,0.0,0.11767003174495955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071048003132314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374157734335181,0.0,0.0,0.14051084365025854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22029669877766112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415850912750871,0.0,0.0,0.14037661980163066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11312246795252286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13152216476764556,0.0,0.07153395414074959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386583141179534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4262705575178501,0.0,0.0,0.12490503814316738,0.11187768257037882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844789348970832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10569781697054452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11360121158387218,0.0,0.08401818345840227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12709127718538246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431291121207976,0.133862549533765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363032910274767,0.12015570028818084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294137541418163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11972974190662995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13130826877399934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672710601938986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14283405214005004,0.11862954669911395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362142090014807,0.080651435484534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07424048682098823,0.09990853558389763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09163374780784922,0.0,0.0,0.0894133522447073,0.0,0.0,0.08105517018599323
divorce,Lovemyself12,2020/02/22,"My husband isn't being financially supportive So last June my husband of 10 years decided to finally be honest with me, that he lied to be about his porn use over coming to me, his tobacco addiction and video game habits. Yes they seem minimal but when you say in the beginning of the relationship that those things are your boundaries and he didn't respect my boundaries for 10 years they aren't that little. Instead of being honest he lied and portrayed himself as someone who he wasn't. Having a secret life, at work versus home. So June of late year I was told all of this, and he's so sorry, yada yada... Well in October of last year I couldn't stand him living in the house anymore and I needed space to figure me out. So we've been seperated and since then he's hacked into my camera in my house. He's been very controlling of my phone records, calling the numbers of my coworkers, accusing me of cheating. Everything but we are living seperatly and I'm focusing on myself. 
Well I had a little bit too much to drink and invited a guy friend over the house and forgot that he could access the camera, and he saw everything. Now he's threatening to take everything from me, that I'm a cheater, that what he did isn't as bad as me. I'm a bad person. He called me a whore infront of our kids, he questions the kids, and I haven't let the kids go back to his house because he interrogates them. They are 8, and 10, he says that I'm going to be in trouble with the judge, but we haven't started the divorce process yet, I start it on Tuesday. He's withhold money from me, I can't really work because I just had surgery for my cancer and I'm on Chemotherapy pills. I have no money and I have 3 kids and he's only willing to pay the amount of the bills, nothing extra for groceries, or daycare, or anything else. What am I supposed to do. Will I be in trouble for having sex with another person, while seperated? We are seperated because of him lying for 10 years? Why is it he's praised for coming clean after 10 years of betrayal, and I got caught by him snooping on my camera that I'm the villain.",4.302252384446073,5.18974478486998,5.441410287763919,82.03,70.41843971631207,8.482236895736529,29.71623053721365,8.74248658614541,2.2791565827015576,1656,64,327,28,29,550,201,423,0.155,0.7709999999999999,0.07400000000000001,-0.9906,0,0,2,0,1,0,44.0,4,2,4,4,14,15,2,0,19,1,36,8,0,2,1,46,59,31,0,3,7,2,0,0,1,2,4,2,2,7,16,26,1,3,5,3,4,5,10,7,2,0,13,3,48,8,55,35,5,47,1,0,1,3,58,18,0,4,23,214,64,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10316540447447116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992323619284924,0.0,0.0,0.09385184111513464,0.0,0.0,0.07787600246848765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07276796978416121,0.15803145019318418,0.1730646548260768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10331619452985608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932644937555749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16303821723522835,0.0,0.0,0.10614046470596432,0.07555782392092679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09270563031222354,0.0,0.0,0.07905485193435192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25515374136437025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10366729912714262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07311426010458806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10756575809066164,0.0,0.07568773061344017,0.0,0.0,0.09370287982291517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09492596392870938,0.0,0.0,0.4367813125702736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15427924351190225,0.10675166300794044,0.0,0.0,0.09677002931407744,0.06684303645967557,0.0,0.1896969498108481,0.16712772062337594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06956713225497617,0.07017016762199453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09080420621592594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07197368366906919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16526211946687386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10601212435423037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06062518458180195,0.0,0.0,0.10160187048752546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15051405878804586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08615155336243596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782825080100816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08018337331780091,0.0,0.0,0.10593540126659506,0.13396535277445476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10738993310348396,0.0,0.0,0.07115324996114239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06287085370707055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904271719997606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08173368944626813,0.0,0.07808324543736361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701752823522923,0.0,0.08539277682455812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377898603262716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3656484923677922
divorce,idontknowwhatsp,2020/02/22,"I [33f] am unsure of what to do about marriage [33m] We have been married for about 10 years. We have no children and the only assets we own are our vehicles. 

There have been a lot of problems in our marriage. Intimacy, dead bedroom, infidelity, separation, trust, etc. We are better now than we probably ever have been. 

I’ve just been having this nagging feeling that I don’t want to be married anymore. He’s a truly nice guy. He’s supportive, attractive, has a good job. I don’t want to hurt him and I don’t want him to be alone. I don’t want to throw away what might be perfectly fine and regret it later. 

Today we were out to breakfast (typical Saturday) and a man about our age walked into the restaurant with a book. The waitress told him to sit at the empty booth and he said “oh, it’s just one.” She said it was fine and he sat down. After the exchange I just thought, damn, I would love to *be* him. Alone. Free. 

I just honestly don’t know what to do.",0.6588227424749178,2.9925418923076985,2.6631884057971043,91.06956521739134,86.48717948717949,5.647714604236343,21.81159420289855,7.079830092131019,0.7306677814938687,739,26,157,11,23,247,113,195,0.133,0.652,0.214,0.927,1,2,0,0,0,0,35.0,9,0,0,2,10,17,2,0,10,0,28,2,0,0,2,33,41,6,1,7,4,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,1,3,8,15,1,0,3,1,2,2,6,5,0,1,11,3,22,13,24,24,3,17,0,2,0,1,27,6,1,2,8,110,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3606578880897395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17267367984257884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16358524490788745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15398912878654486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941824351080579,0.0,0.15749551358799968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08803695264801613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460380360842797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17239961282187874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18639196633961735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727806560535471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09568815605763603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480249629304501,0.15714411650426252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847067732945246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11798372728280232,0.13242106562105316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18772366409147168,0.16660298293999115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3312433775815795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19758179175492613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13822656909768996,0.0,0.0,0.16503911856996228,0.16637278887050494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4107863128455159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12368514425398715,0.0,0.0,0.11212330334678272
divorce,Blue_Titan,2020/02/22,"Am I wrong? Because I don’t know.. I’ve been married for 3 years now and my wife and I have not seen eye to eye for a while. 

I’m currently working and have my own business that I want to make my full time job.  Since we’ve been married, she’s been extremely negative.  She was before we got married as well, but it wasn’t too bad.  She just had some bad days, we all do.  

But now she’s gotten to the point where she thinks she’s always right and no one can change her mind, she doesn’t want to seek help and often plays around the idea of wanting to die..which I don’t like..

I’ve gotten people she can go to for therapy but she refuses because she thinks they are all the same. It’s been hard for me to be positive and to be confident in my work when she’s always so negative and says I do nothing when I’m at home.

I work 10 hours at my job, work 5 hours on my business and even clean the kitchen when I have the chance because she said she’s tired of doing them. 

I’ve been wanting to divorce her for about a year now, but I’ve been hesitant because I feel as though, maybe I’m in the wrong.  Also because I’m Christian, we have reasons why we shouldn’t divorce. But I’m tired of the negativity and her always verbally attacking me.  It’s starting to affect me a lot and i don’t want it to slow down my goals that I have. 

What should I do?",2.3982791461412134,3.1835817310344825,3.8743349753694614,91.8817816091954,74.79310344827587,7.178981937602629,24.844006568144497,7.447530270364453,0.8694006568144501,1042,32,248,12,21,346,134,290,0.157,0.753,0.09,-0.9756,3,0,0,0,2,0,28.0,4,0,2,5,17,8,1,0,10,0,30,5,2,3,2,45,52,24,0,7,7,1,2,1,0,2,2,2,3,0,7,15,1,1,6,1,0,1,11,5,1,1,14,7,44,3,29,34,7,28,1,0,3,0,29,11,0,3,17,164,51,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769488879907086,0.27373717220734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097620456041732,0.0,0.12475383409586137,0.0,0.0,0.1831226765273785,0.3342379292781742,0.0,0.09331239845828727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11600550998344455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07072148806956384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380954164600247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07242925240660299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05544728116286948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06232218175616042,0.0,0.08770494602987673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09823362613881303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07350264097645354,0.0,0.10999770340218247,0.0,0.21598559383186228,0.0,0.0,0.12379254710593353,0.0,0.0,0.21764082757405528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06026614885339102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0535742308154682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09322882598564083,0.0,0.0,0.07319875663540537,0.0,0.11016799124103367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107251202804399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10522151927276024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07430830693843052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760242860370686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10366394005366901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11274852067458802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936488554608907,0.10431156541467512,0.0872058608162254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907117056418708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07761775878157033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12540551873808375,0.0,0.0,0.14053112208148108,0.1077401799665774,0.0,0.06394350129361452,0.2520755777702786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3234009058285631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09859731447461643,0.0,0.09895089761628104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31933451209155284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397915159301039,0.0,0.1412346097538137
divorce,Cherrypop91,2020/02/22,"Not sure what to do My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years, married 6 years. He is 29 and I’m 28. We have two kids: 4 year old and an almost 2 year old. We bicker like any couple but it just got worse when the kids came along because I felt like I was pulling all the weight of caring for them which I still am 95% of the time. We got into it last weekend were I said I was done but after thinking about it for awhile I ultimately decided to stay. I’ve been going about my week normally as if nothing happened. He has barely spoken to me and when he has it has been short and with an attitude. 

He just told me last night he “still doesn’t know yet” if he wants to be with me. I’m not sure what to do or how to move forward. Do I continue on as normal while waiting for him to dump me? I’ve been a stay home mom since my daughter was born almost 5 years ago. I have none of my own money except some that I was gifted when my grandparents passed that I left for our kids in our joint bank account. He has threatened to keep it if we decide to split. 

The cost of living where I’m from might be too expensive for me to stay here as a single working mom with joint custody of two young children. You have two have first months rent and a deposit for an apartment here which would take me months to save on top of bills and having to pay for childcare for my son. I would likely be homeless in the meantime. 

I’m just curious of how this works? Has anyone been through something similar?",2.1284615384615364,3.620841503184714,3.287515923566879,93.00303772660463,76.64331210191081,6.104654581087702,22.586477217050465,6.67199483983844,0.3951214110730033,1168,33,262,10,26,377,170,314,0.055,0.884,0.062,0.4966,2,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,6,1,1,4,17,8,1,0,11,0,34,1,0,2,3,52,53,22,0,8,12,5,2,3,0,3,0,1,2,4,12,17,1,2,5,1,9,6,4,1,0,4,17,3,33,7,46,30,5,47,0,0,0,0,27,11,0,9,32,176,45,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972356600473973,0.0,0.30406533410818803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06883164658692334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07077391289439686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061701495665736274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11576631902842617,0.10319840038264756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11199568713799027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10358105933795173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09718506227833504,0.0,0.0,0.08609589863236781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057524468210587126,0.0,0.16190641077189818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08950665947452313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152981192721117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08996712500795187,0.0,0.0,0.055626713735013295,0.16501220456185908,0.0,0.0,0.10997355038476536,0.0,0.0,0.14834986760455118,0.0,0.08937726487275056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10737620230432468,0.0,0.2370903749790616,0.16158233284212803,0.10757861496615743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09498614753591668,0.19834411340619532,0.09712131010043257,0.0,0.2124223300814656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09628140670957694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837284973099988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779224886420828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32365445908041696,0.1616655000137421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19079335596358896,0.0,0.07610326814263463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06485634678518946,0.0,0.0,0.05902097461590505,0.0,0.0,0.09671804621484127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966255581385161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05970094307480287,0.0,0.08119089834790287,0.1232561405237694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14737568127208647,0.0,0.10314969289774807,0.14380459183571695,0.0,0.0,0.3259050626149994
divorce,uncertainAF,2020/02/22,"When do you know When do you know it’s time to get divorced? I’ve been married 18 yrs. wife and I fight every time we talk about money. She’s totally unrealistic and pushy with this. I get triggered, feel gas lighted, and get angry. She feels like I hate her. We’ve done counseling before and are doing it now. No sex in a year. And very little affection otherwise. I would want to but she doesn’t or can’t. I drank pretty regularly and she hated it and saw it as me choosing drinking over her. Note, I am not a raging alcoholic. I don’t black out. No accidents. No trouble at work. Hasn’t impacted family or friend relationships. I did consistently drink a 12 pack and 4 drinks weekly. I’ve been totally sober for over a year now. A big part of this is for the relationship. When I think about divorce, which I have many times over the years, I feel relief. I’d say at least half our marriage has not been great. But we certainly do have good times, sometimes. But I don’t know when it’s enough. Help",0.4342220650636506,2.889688539603963,2.353274398868461,91.04022277227726,91.82178217821784,5.856011315417256,19.0954738330976,7.310402129719878,0.6218721357850061,783,24,166,15,28,259,123,202,0.149,0.703,0.149,0.2695,0,0,4,0,3,0,29.0,3,2,0,1,8,11,4,0,7,0,21,6,0,2,3,34,36,18,0,2,7,1,3,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,8,12,5,0,8,3,1,0,10,5,0,1,7,7,24,6,16,28,5,23,0,0,2,1,22,9,0,2,15,106,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14720986051561846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11721271790831644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14096320591932618,0.0,0.4048194323939334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423296752170597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11605795329376598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12985579683968687,0.0,0.20894736282976745,0.09840662407079867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10642314163572847,0.0,0.2159016732095532,0.0,0.0,0.11553581231072703,0.0,0.15186676945624505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719936755603369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09232904163470414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22710676892945406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06729632189805539,0.13805887749330256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396540360767074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491667894852058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14013841895154155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2957778752840129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10954209872092648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136235498650255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11071597806458702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08826284096233572,0.0,0.0,0.3212859899876621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136558624360125,0.0812468648807104,0.0,0.11049249153988072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002815989691582,0.0,0.0,0.09785165560502984,0.0,0.0,0.26611403327123484
divorce,Jewelsofeast,2020/02/22,"Scared to death about another failed relationship Hello, got married in a whirlwind 6 month relationship. And found out that my husband was a fraud and a conman, and a cheater to the boot. He was also physical, broke my things and emotionally abusive, telling me I was stupid, fat and useless. I am in the process of a divorce and turning 35 in a few months.

The thing is while I want kids and a husband/family, I am terrified of dating. I am terrified of going through a divorce again. I am terrified of being mistreated.

I feel like I messed up on what have should been the most important decision of my life and I don’t trust myself to not make a similar or even worse mistake.

How do you get through this?",4.015447909754478,5.815083802919707,5.029316522893165,81.18779694757802,72.28467153284672,8.777438619774388,32.16257465162575,9.339509955726095,3.045721167883212,559,27,107,13,11,183,89,137,0.322,0.619,0.059000000000000004,-0.9919,0,0,0,0,2,0,16.0,0,1,0,1,5,9,1,1,13,0,14,2,1,2,0,20,22,12,1,3,2,1,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,1,5,9,1,0,3,0,0,1,2,7,0,0,6,1,15,2,17,14,2,12,0,3,0,0,10,6,0,2,6,81,20,1,0.0,0.2450363388548341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16538608927128404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21685858850639092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326337052887281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365962254860368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19496230638726733,0.0,0.10456948081961052,0.14774529023385224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22675677423963114,0.0,0.0,0.10804982446225844,0.0,0.1175350360398056,0.0,0.16540505646646111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14607620192061968,0.10103704607675243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13804745367985935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3301479510331233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4440736428184836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20705314743446854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807612817523045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27479109290841913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249501745508952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12198204892950056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21075732204683614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,aronbuchanan,2020/02/22,"When do you know... Whey do you know it’s time to divorce?! I’ve been married 18 yrs., been to couples counseling several times and am in it now. The biggest trigger is when we talk about money. My wife is just unrealistic about money, which has gotten us into financial trouble. We’re good financially now, but she still brings up things which just aren’t realistic, and it totally triggers me. It makes me feel crazy when she says we can do this or that when we can’t. You would think it’s pretty basic. You just look at what you have available and decide what to do. But she insists we have or will have what we don’t or won’t. And I feel crazy. And I get triggered, anxious, angry. Things come out angrily. So she thinks I “hate” her and that I “dehumanize” her.  Besides the money thing, we haven’t had sex for over a year. And really aren’t affectionate at all. I want to after I get over things when we fight. But she just doesn’t and won’t. OMG I’m so anxious I don’t know what to do. When I think about divorce, I feel relief. But I don’t know when it’s time. Help please",0.9529729729729725,3.1691985540540566,2.6346171171171164,92.64895270270272,83.72972972972974,5.681981981981982,20.06081081081081,6.996647511020387,0.29281621621621623,837,24,186,11,24,275,112,222,0.145,0.759,0.096,-0.9085,2,0,0,0,3,0,33.0,8,5,0,0,19,6,2,0,3,0,28,1,0,4,2,48,48,24,0,2,11,1,3,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,19,18,0,0,11,0,3,2,10,3,0,0,4,5,33,3,18,40,2,26,0,0,1,1,27,9,0,3,15,134,52,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3530831263986086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13461348747232868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17291070697505506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370456892698884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16329012323924114,0.0,0.0,0.13107256245615104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542850970384803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047450468745934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3435294570502245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312281438625224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10431199604642327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715384499424208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15898361991112922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10011109865652576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242728405073361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1765415631993043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12479809095867267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12560457800509242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4152775966955388,0.3003961240211652,0.0,0.0,0.2733683423349739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879745737828376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921725875160064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11101031778990006,0.0,0.0,0.10063329441262688
divorce,ugghhhhthrowawayme,2020/02/22,"Separated for 2 years. With baby fever. Would you approach your ex- re: sperm donation to give your existing child a sibling? 

Is this the craziest desperate thing you have ever heard?",2.8732291666666683,5.662146531250002,3.821250000000002,77.16541666666669,99.3125,8.383333333333333,27.20833333333333,8.344100000000001,3.5270458333333337,147,7,23,5,6,47,30,32,0.121,0.879,0.0,-0.4329,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,3,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,2,15,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5138242151212637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5449152131889442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3773801786285142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4035189366391424,0.0,0.0,0.36579879024156337
divorce,Paperwork_snob,2020/02/22,"After divorce, ex husband starts getting invited alot more 25, married for 5 years, 2 boys. 

His friends/family start inviting him out more. Hes out every weekend(I stay with the kids) has tons of fun. Half his friends are not single so they do alot of couple stuff but never invited us. But as soon as we split, they ask him to join them all the time. Its.. upsetting. The thing is I always got along with his friends no problem and liked them. Deep down I think he bad mouthed me too much to the point no one wanted to hang out with me. My thoughts suck.",2.5246363636363647,4.54776855454546,2.860000000000003,94.15000000000002,77.0909090909091,5.854545454545455,24.63636363636364,6.742157984588678,0.7015636363636366,431,15,92,4,10,132,84,110,0.168,0.706,0.127,-0.8126,0,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,2,0,4,0,3,8,1,1,6,0,5,1,1,0,2,20,14,6,0,2,3,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,3,9,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,4,0,2,2,0,17,4,17,12,8,15,0,0,0,0,21,6,1,2,8,65,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837257232540343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064209303569583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18436122093635612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2443142387690826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18603598898393986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20815334843291908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3411835870458027,0.0,0.11536041595000883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17659627129584712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107873156849465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623155571108152,0.0,0.1702968292193791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14962177762658846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20873013564227028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21127858086415244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31257089611563105,0.23534654120809925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527665245523961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466916532953068,0.14148159986414582,0.0,0.17529285995557334,0.1287519622691155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26559873419707936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13023528703516588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14218984555301614
divorce,rooted23,2020/02/22,"Not living together for a year , but still married Hello Reddit,

I have some story to tell.

I got separated, in 2018, i have one little girl with my ex. We are sharing her, 50/50.

She moved away, she lives alone, but we never got divorced. After year, still married, i decided to start a business. I had some money, i took money from friends, as a loan too , and i started, i have business with inventory around $250.000, Now im not sure what should i do, she is not asking for divorce, just because of the child support. She want our own freedom , where we can take care of our kid, without state to interfere between us. She is not aware of the company i started, she doesnt know, anything about this. I am asking for advice, what should i do to be prepared on this  subject, What should i do in case something happens? Can you guys give me advice?",4.08518181818182,5.317349593939396,4.862196969696972,84.69329545454545,71.24242424242424,6.954545454545455,30.113636363636363,7.1686216300943375,1.733090909090909,653,27,127,6,12,211,107,165,0.028999999999999998,0.8170000000000001,0.153,0.971,0,1,1,0,2,0,35.0,6,1,0,0,8,5,0,0,5,0,18,0,0,0,2,26,33,4,0,4,8,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,4,5,7,0,1,2,0,3,2,7,0,0,1,4,0,29,5,23,25,3,20,0,0,0,0,28,7,0,2,10,98,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2996437261746225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15879257474913638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12616873505205534,0.1364866985928515,0.2866657314654406,0.0,0.1440485462135689,0.0,0.0,0.09346203318736228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15631926288622838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184541247529443,0.0,0.0,0.1470778604222518,0.0,0.0,0.2452469291633871,0.0,0.0,0.1518102296375044,0.13557976655245466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16561117315469787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08426028751994721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15366623505458374,0.27076753344802423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16295417110611302,0.0,0.0,0.11824930986891298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038931378041811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11803270149174755,0.0,0.0,0.3255606072074918,0.0,0.2448820107925918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739849451372917,0.1445016427446143,0.0,0.11527704630284145,0.0,0.1340078417444857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17034340363460004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844242618305163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904317061162033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14779435132834454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19746522802666647
divorce,MsDivorcee,2020/02/22,"I called him F44 one child. Second filing. Got back after the first 
Filing. Now I’m in limbo. He has anger issues and I have emotional issues. Not a good combination. Marriage was ridden with dysfunction with me not working since 2017 and contributing my time to my son. Finances got mismanaged. He makes good money. One fight and he threatened divorce last year. Than played dirty. During the first separation he joined Bumble seeking 20+ somethings .. chatted with his first love which made me insecure. Now we’re living separate since January. I initiated reconciliation the first time and he was reluctant. His family never accepted me. I feel bad for my son 11 year old. I budged and called him to have the closure talk. He said he’ll call me back. Am I dumb calling him? Yes. Am I ready to start over? Yes. Am I drained emotionally? Yes. Especially that he’s threatening custody and now I only have visitation. I can’t bare the thought of being away from my son. I’m a mother so I feel the need to open the channel of communication even if that sets me up for rejection. 13 years married and dated for 2.  Advice and thoughts please.",1.9222169811320773,4.750293367924527,3.357900943396228,82.78798349056605,91.73584905660377,6.423584905660378,23.134433962264147,7.645422480735847,1.7160962264150943,902,35,161,20,32,294,133,212,0.185,0.725,0.09,-0.9695,0,0,1,0,2,0,32.0,0,0,0,5,7,11,3,1,9,3,11,1,0,2,1,24,26,10,0,2,3,4,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,12,0,0,5,3,2,2,4,6,0,7,8,3,25,5,19,16,0,28,0,1,0,1,30,5,1,1,20,93,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141459553598798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10974739325039257,0.17964026484150594,0.0975319623805487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4771066850660968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627923800177112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07715229216755043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11011862714747957,0.0,0.11812588682149727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3974361082922256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19595035951660805,0.18684819726288973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438398125121791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09521622028974673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031458898887519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10542611688902548,0.11052900338709502,0.07797197500441644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08661357141732208,0.09009152714759347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225730631816137,0.0,0.15830775596593494,0.08883971639088238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12822294882799715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11111361920662156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932538521151552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08992649802807111,0.0,0.0,0.08267913590062456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09388792648828956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854691191122861,0.13622638727032715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08503949977890285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256665680060813
divorce,Sybilinmoonlight,2020/02/22,"Did your ex ask for a divorce but also want spousal acts and deeds when it was convenient? I figure this might be good for a (very grim) laugh. Share your ridiculous ones if you've got them. These are the ones that stand out after my ex-husband asked me for a divorce but when we were still living together:

-Said that I should agree to babysit his sister's kids to 'give her a break' and accused me of trying to punish her when I said he should do it instead. Same angry reaction when I wouldn't bake a birthday cake for his mother a few weeks later.

-I get home earlier thanks to a shorter commute so I usually did cooked dinner. He asked me why I'd stopped cooking for two and was eating before him.

-Called me passive-aggressive when I put a lock on the spare bedroom after moving into it and asked why he shouldn't be allowed in during the evenings. 

-Would ask for long hugs and declare that I was cold for not wanting to cuddle with someone who, as stated above, asked me for a flipping divorce!

It was just utterly weird to be told that it was over but treated like a criminal every time I took a step towards asserting my independence and moving towards separation. And to be clear, not once did he change his mind about the actual divorce. I was just expected to keep acting like a loving partner until some unknown point in the future.",5.975019083969464,6.383028973282447,6.064188931297712,80.75101622137406,66.51908396946564,8.534732824427483,32.02385496183206,8.278499904357787,2.3564877862595424,1069,41,200,13,16,339,163,262,0.087,0.77,0.142,0.9469,1,0,0,0,4,0,24.0,1,2,1,0,13,13,2,0,17,0,22,8,0,2,1,37,40,20,0,9,8,3,0,2,1,6,0,2,3,2,12,11,5,2,1,2,0,7,4,4,0,3,15,3,27,9,31,15,3,35,0,1,0,3,37,9,0,3,18,140,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.11234428361532138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09206451176617132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6457516287839603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979619282655807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175543358934196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12178578233084765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11780045270411856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603822585009473,0.0,0.09699681995350563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060147466932489624,0.11043729973142258,0.0,0.096560434393664,0.09207507012432127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11547862136327093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10232737918773678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11248740880612207,0.0,0.10165648032643453,0.1018809961490807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10390378122657824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12212822592655505,0.11624228365493175,0.0,0.0,0.2447168946470291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12260315701594578,0.15602181819586022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10882926199570944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11573127988787985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219018313905858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975440756540551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919380658213714,0.09624870449689607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10599058580766137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06712965040305219,0.0,0.0,0.11000578476247144,0.12790684791345294,0.07816154614849301,0.0,0.11245928614380424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12679267068040007,0.09498924384321772,0.13580607448200407,0.0,0.09234541885277016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077627602388576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08178068931518323,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,vkreardon,2020/02/22,"Mental Health Month, Depression Prevention/Mitigation, Resilience Building Happy New Moon. I recently moved, separating from my partner of 10 years (and husband of 3 years). I took the last month to adjust and do my best to support my mental health (which as someone with bipolar disorder, who has struggled with depression for much of my life, was critically important). I made a video with researched and implemented tools I used to do so. I hope these might help a few others who are in a time where they need extra resilience <3

[https://youtu.be/RKqyzFGkOWg](https://youtu.be/RKqyzFGkOWg)",8.60286842105263,11.787715431578945,6.306513157894738,70.99871710526318,63.105263157894754,9.381578947368425,33.98026315789474,9.827888789773867,3.8774473684210533,486,21,68,11,8,139,70,95,0.11800000000000001,0.72,0.161,0.6748,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,1,1,2,7,0,1,4,0,6,4,0,2,0,12,12,5,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,1,5,6,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,3,0,0,3,0,10,4,13,8,4,12,0,2,0,0,6,2,0,2,8,47,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18139465725704787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2977496662079068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19810025185990884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18400127455606646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3674614074345543,0.0,0.0,0.11585723005926442,0.0,0.0,0.17167833787880135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14089523452318034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12208855946977624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635541697249572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34838284286435084,0.18336577280506386,0.0,0.0,0.2759332952498034,0.18371143183719554,0.12706411038907894,0.12816555226198093,0.0,0.1669389134187717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17066781304825354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14645463552068444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806995989013412,0.0,0.0,0.1961473165880117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10078980621311844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19204191198858955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14928628220928913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22261854073814716
divorce,Irasesined,2020/02/22,"Am I Normal I have recently gotten a divorce, my husband was sleeping with a girl the same age as our kids, and fell in love with her.  I honestly had no clue, my stupidity I guess.  He cleaned out our bank account, and did some things way out of character for him.  I personally believe it is/was a midlife crisis.  This hit me hard as we were together for nearly 20 years.  I raised his two kids, and love those guys as my own.  I have a great relationship with them, and am still their mother. The problem I am having is that it is still hurts alot.  I tried dating, but when a guy I went out with kissed me goodnight, I got in my car and cried, is this normal?  I literally have no desire to do anything.  I was having panic attacks, but they stopped thankfully.  I have thought of ending my life because I just don't see the point anymore, is that normal?  My ex and I don't fight we are very civil to each other, and talk a few times a month.  I am not bitter, because well if you fall out of love with someone, you certainly can't be mad about that it happens.  Our son's don't like who he is dating because of her age, they call it sick and disgusting, and I can understand, however, I don't tell them that I agree.  I just listen.  I don't speak ill of him on social media, or to our sons, because that is just wrong.  I guess I just want to know is this normal to still hurt, it has been about 2 years since our divorce.  I was just thinking that I wouldn't still be hurting.  In all honesty, I thought we would be one of those couples that grows old together.  The way I feel now, I don't see myself dating another man, because I am so scared to fall in love again, because what happens if they fall out of love with me?  This is so frustrating, please I know this is reddit, but please be easy with your answers ok.  This is very painful, and I honestly need to know if this is normal.",3.4385906685906704,4.269137272727279,4.4682539682539675,88.42470899470902,72.37662337662337,7.46993746993747,26.72679172679173,7.662118739084242,1.2796676286676292,1450,48,318,17,27,473,186,385,0.149,0.6629999999999999,0.18899999999999997,0.9622,1,0,0,0,4,0,52.0,8,3,6,0,17,29,7,2,12,1,46,11,1,0,2,67,73,23,0,14,13,5,2,1,0,2,4,2,1,7,25,26,0,1,9,0,2,7,11,15,1,2,12,7,64,14,39,54,7,41,0,3,2,6,52,12,0,8,21,229,89,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08629212291001882,0.0,0.0,0.0816132403930355,0.0,0.0,0.06772070568666105,0.0,0.0,0.09362096746109433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3009928651379565,0.0,0.0,0.09271682253494112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08403107174510444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09105641711231502,0.0903957685250104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07288779478811239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04161016888319717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0658177919576463,0.09072909807387626,0.18131158344540135,0.16296740832448228,0.14554409955805325,0.0,0.07371899375261139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26429133328381244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13567940099876974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058126476139040976,0.04020454646767845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3713663995666781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06568604860259329,0.0,0.0,0.06101973803079633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4031517816358952,0.0,0.0,0.08635339800199597,0.0,0.05576434292693696,0.0,0.08756630212375988,0.0965539292953649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07185568723881704,0.0,0.18066754710580654,0.07779414900543997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07874395975851245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08125510372089738,0.08835263945763222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08239035295018926,0.0,0.13115485337015753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06807420151682286,0.0,0.08235313452275111,0.08388806671263964,0.06972718749419289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26287943005849623,0.06880122057160776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06614456123702032,0.07192832365909599,0.07576498520976974,0.0,0.0,0.05467227958816325,0.052730482004872826,0.0,0.13066401576382625,0.047986120004599724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05587202243281923,0.0,0.08038899008302965,0.08567064706072662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13580184692871822,0.048538958182558586,0.1306418219611271,0.0,0.0,0.07399192206859456,0.07628708714135528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05845908548570127,0.08997524554270787,0.0,0.10598889324701563
divorce,Monte813,2020/02/22,"How to decide? [Summary]
My wife (30) and I (31) have been married for eight months now and together just over three years. Living together with her daughter (5) just over a year (nine months is in a house we built and purchased together)

I feel like I’m married to someone who emotionally abuses and gaslights me all the time (backstory below). 

At what point did you know it was the right decision and that grass could be greener? Overcome the fear of not getting what you want from it (ex: buyout of the house)? Or the sense of abandoning the people you love and care most about? 


[Backstory]
First off, sorry for the long write up. The couch I was told to sleep on isn’t the comfiest. Haha.

During our time dating, I knew she was very driven, motivated, mildly OCD, and somewhat high strung, but I loved that about her. 

However, after getting engaged and resigning from my job to move in with her and her daughter (also I made the sacrifice to quit an awesome job/benefits/pay since she has shared custody), things began to change. 

She no longer wanted to spend time around my family. But spend way more with hers. It was frowned upon if I went to play slowpitch league softball a few hours one night a week. I couldn’t do or fold laundry right. Called selfish for spending an hour at the gym while also being told I’ve lost muscle. I was worthless at helping make decisions. Amount of sex slowed down. You get the picture. 

After moving into a new home and getting married, it kept getting worse. Any small human error or decision made without proper research became a zero to 100 argument for her. She calls me harsh things now on a regular basis for irrelevant things. 

Obviously this takes a toll on you. My closets friends and family have noticed how my personality has changed and that I’m no longer the same person since being with her. 

Deep down, I love her like no other and feel terrible even considering walking out of my step-daughter. But, I need to weigh out my options and that’s why I’m reaching out to you.",4.8443198479500404,6.5468374015748045,5.174213050954838,81.36614173228347,69.99737532808399,7.9848312064440226,29.1484297221468,8.53829466247534,2.2297198117476698,1594,61,290,26,29,505,223,381,0.114,0.763,0.12300000000000001,0.6858,4,0,0,0,1,0,59.0,2,6,0,5,12,18,0,1,23,1,19,6,1,6,2,63,49,26,0,6,11,4,2,2,1,0,0,0,3,3,16,24,1,2,9,2,4,5,7,7,0,6,17,2,40,11,53,27,7,55,1,4,0,4,39,27,0,7,24,198,56,3,0.0,0.1139636680677244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15383845080951605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06540919667319957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08562517114986994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19643157360912847,0.0,0.09806716534761174,0.0,0.2035022586334592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07679601132549456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10819534153501904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0635293808801846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813495881849541,0.1082350287635202,0.09726819832384437,0.0687146865378011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08181503488063101,0.0,0.0,0.07431240413862661,0.0,0.2512638408519419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0644708749453678,0.10162488622572326,0.09648154251479976,0.0,0.18944598486462247,0.22196948566183428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908978288552685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052860840026286667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398240632754401,0.0,0.08493324489617883,0.08512082622190092,0.0,0.0,0.10499744756338444,0.0,0.2604325450247117,0.1820254190047071,0.06420433092614206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535481295575027,0.20445917344911,0.0,0.07132006598085791,0.0,0.09289621204504693,0.0,0.09026324246885976,0.0,0.0,0.10950742466481574,0.0,0.0,0.06517754328806037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0666826684428504,0.16797031650269909,0.0,0.0,0.09092605145555498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10230474097067534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16428317592370734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15913069116500314,0.0,0.09625460838472938,0.0,0.08149736090698502,0.0,0.0,0.10767139461234576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07231925836800372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917034084405833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16825899399139496,0.0,0.0,0.18381805522333736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07936281763771573,0.11346498074033125,0.07634729075225337,0.07715392121856704,0.0,0.0,0.08916459270380632,0.08679213238058746,0.0,0.0,0.09271904704226107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09802087969824516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12388015916751735
divorce,NegativeNitrogen,2020/02/22,"Compensation for time? No kids, 3 years marriage.

12 years dating before marriage.

I had gender issues but i shoved it deep down.
They resurfaced and I decided to explore it now.
My wife wiill not accept being with a trans person in any way.

She wants a percentage of my earnings for 12  years to make up for her lost time. Is this fair?",1.2384957264957281,3.8932774307692313,2.6574358974359,88.87367521367523,90.07692307692308,4.735042735042735,19.52991452991453,6.42735559955562,0.35686324786324786,263,8,49,3,9,85,52,65,0.11599999999999999,0.8320000000000001,0.052000000000000005,-0.5021,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,2,1,2,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,0,9,6,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,8,1,10,3,0,13,0,1,0,0,8,4,0,0,7,31,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20744936611467368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25958122025951524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3184004746600515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3330059846096153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20362805889499985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26636419232192915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35576262892614985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17993064834902506,0.24214021692177595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5893405316201371
divorce,krahe7,2020/02/22,"My weeks of hell Well. This is my 15 years of marriage down the drain. My wife and I have been trying to save our marriage for years now. Looking back we probably should have pulled the plug awhile ago but we kept trying. We had a fight at the beginning of the month and it got bad. No contact but screaming and throwing of things was certainly had. Well this caused a complaint to be called to the buildings concierge desk and they came up to check on us. 

This is where things went to hell. She left with the concierge and I tidied up the apartment. Next thing I know there are 4 cops at the door and I am being arrested. I am still trying to figure out what evidence they used to justify it but I don’t know. After this I spent 2.5 weeks in prison. It took 2 bond hearings for me to get granted bond to be released. During this time the prison system did not have the correct medications so I was off my anti-depressants. 

Now my wife has an order of protection against me where I can not talk to her at all. She has possession of the car, apartment, and our cats by court order. I am now crashing on my parents couch. Oh and did I mention that I spent my 41st birthday and V-Day in jail? I also have an ankle GPS monitor on to ensure that I don’t go back to the apartment. Let me tell you these things are uncomfortable and not small. I am struggling to hold on to my job due to the weeks of unexpected absence. 

I know that I have made mistakes in my marriage. I am not very romantic, I am not a social person, and generally I would rather stay home and chill then go out and do things. These are all things that I tried to work in for my wife. But I made sure she was taken care of. 

She found out she had cancer before we got married so I insisted we move up the wedding so I could be there and take care of her (she tried to break up with me so that I would not have to deal with her dying). It took me getting a hardship discharge from the military but I made sure I took care of her for a solid year as she went through all of those chemo rounds. Thankfully she is fully cured. Since then I have put her through culinary school, college to get a bachelors degree, took out large loans to get other health work done (in my name), always rushes to her side to take care of her when she had a migraine or anything else, and most recently took over cleaning the entire apartment all the time because she said she didn’t want to do any cleaning anymore. I have most recently been helping her set up her own business. Drafting contracts, assisting with web design, giving business advice, keeping the books, etc.

During this time I have been told that I am not a man because I defer to what she wants because I want her to be happy. I get told that I would be nothing without her, that I can’t take care of myself.  I am told how she doesn’t need me. All the things I do are just money and don’t count. I need to more. Always more. Or what I do is not good enough. There is something to improve on or do better more efficient cleaner I missed a spot I forgot something. 

And now? I’m numb. I should be angry or sad or grieving. But I’m just drained. It feels like there is just an empty hole inside me. I have so much to do but I can barely work up the energy to do it. 

Really the only thing keeping me going right now is that I can’t let her be right. I have to be able to take care of myself and what is happening. I have to man up and do it. It’s the only revenge I have is to live well and prove her wrong.",2.5044473918963317,4.0222203227146816,3.548470350720692,91.41775365040615,75.68975069252078,6.335358467533688,23.87163716606413,6.921425479487867,0.6820579557725721,2731,84,595,26,59,879,299,722,0.121,0.758,0.121,-0.8071,2,0,2,0,1,0,69.0,8,1,2,4,29,30,3,1,34,0,83,5,0,6,10,104,145,43,2,13,25,4,2,1,0,5,5,3,5,3,39,34,0,7,7,1,5,17,17,12,3,0,37,6,107,18,90,91,14,89,2,3,2,0,64,38,2,7,29,439,146,8,0.0604916424816669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05911173292912435,0.05362219120314478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04837514463756055,0.10066778485838196,0.0,0.0,0.041136391234342116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0599914547525925,0.0,0.0,0.0497794675404366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302867828429948,0.0505079947345974,0.1106254313810936,0.0,0.05147393233190525,0.0,0.0,0.05349994197385013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06176873034486785,0.06918632384159366,0.3700515664001601,0.0621415800184852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048297654271863416,0.0,0.0,0.03901210505195271,0.06236422721949069,0.05210136303018767,0.0,0.06278077449729512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06190395250842486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05053300517540698,0.0,0.0,0.06250403711886943,0.06746417161059852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030586392009219542,0.04321524147570452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06632596368728233,0.0,0.0,0.1580219324810025,0.0580290955266027,0.10313638335833802,0.050737519707083865,0.09676138501859144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05349255966982085,0.06439447825925572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06429978724128295,0.06817847747550107,0.0,0.0405462728463634,0.0,0.060678049596163484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06002862114949651,0.1075355025215734,0.0,0.0,0.0997338741444108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06572434655248821,0.12371360574334744,0.0,0.02955316096565695,0.0,0.05341522856957751,0.0,0.05079774447513527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717159642286371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0609389657567208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04828385190493355,0.06429304270831204,0.04446831748161632,0.08970757282667456,0.0,0.0,0.06433354804197429,0.0,0.0,0.05804336242977905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09201323993023032,0.0,0.0,0.06716881027264784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052818968943570924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06522022181146217,0.0,0.0,0.06081080859783955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03875249515078757,0.0,0.11945639836904215,0.0,0.0,0.10331906431724876,0.057541404446808886,0.0,0.0,0.06122077168610751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05003931176422007,0.0,0.0,0.06166361161789183,0.0,0.09313884347329476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06447604221631778,0.048308703826099295,0.0,0.0,0.06323899886553806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11402531429957632,0.0,0.18192874747367832,0.04862089084407202,0.052872361806047284,0.05569257708863882,0.0,0.0,0.32150367478013003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10581948957588792,0.0,0.0,0.1734070701108618,0.3360422028665621,0.2053492723467661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07276399776595534,0.052245356872253484,0.0,0.04991194024467331,0.10703861406030264,0.0,0.1455682403975012,0.0,0.16316775403568834,0.11215271724067556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05831178470303097,0.0,0.1321159085359149,0.0,0.0,0.12891458168689476,0.06613811491657642,0.0,0.11686390338536833
divorce,baller_unicorn,2020/02/22,"Divorcing at 31 before having kids? Hello everyone. I am a 31 year old female and I have been married for almost three years. I have been miserable for the last 1 year. We just fight all the time. I feel like anything I can give to him is not enough. It's not even like we have anything that huge to fight about but we can't stop arguing about past arguments that we can't agree on and his mom gets involved and hates me and sides with him. 

I love him and he has a lot of good qualities and he is actively working on himself which is really great.

Another factor that has kept me around even when he is really mean to me is that I feel I am running out of time to have kids. I know that fertility rapidly declines after 35 and I worry I will never get to have kids if we leave each other.

Has anyone else divorced at my and went on to have kids after that?",3.1712662057044088,4.20338353370787,4.533146067415731,86.94966724286951,73.21348314606742,7.948833189282628,24.36646499567848,8.384062270229773,1.3308145203111503,671,19,145,11,13,223,104,178,0.107,0.74,0.153,0.8965,0,0,0,0,3,0,11.0,5,0,0,1,7,10,4,1,4,0,23,1,0,0,2,32,34,11,0,1,5,1,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,4,9,17,0,2,4,0,0,2,5,5,0,1,4,2,25,5,22,29,4,24,0,1,0,1,27,9,0,3,15,105,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16174584105228212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16937502086277714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11294335244666992,0.16550338024062267,0.26584572384389626,0.14379317176917836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13744748061790002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13493498426786907,0.0,0.0,0.16690044924178654,0.0,0.21337396596392827,0.0,0.0,0.1543458590158147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16334569100922966,0.11539483765937315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16878225943055136,0.15495130489036354,0.0,0.13548108606843648,0.0,0.17808395900918966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594743561829747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08877095073432087,0.13166596854437546,0.0,0.1710336467076106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15782775222350928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13732437987240373,0.1457843185522965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759501290739355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891783334272399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12457949016914645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16949529221121554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15419568719787544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20695651506817708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13504370708149094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883752491609905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149737039029635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11759349477269852,0.1640383906290458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3120540508139183
divorce,n69088,2020/02/22,"Being Alone I don’t mind being alone, but I’d like to date now that the divorce is final. Problem is I have a medical condition. It really doesn’t mattered what it is because I’m sure someone here has a reason why they may not be a super catch on match.com. I was married for 14 years, and If I’m being honest, it would’ve ended 10 years ago had I been in a position to gain interest of another mate. In retrospect I’m glad it didn’t end that way because cheating is a shitty thing to do when you have kids and a family.

My question is what do you do to cope with the fact you may be alone for a long time? Compounding this is I don’t want to end up right back where I was, before the divorce, settling for someone sketchy because I’m not super good looking. Maybe I will meet someone, but I don’t see it happening anytime soon.

The one positive aspect of marriage is it takes you out of the dating scene which is nice. You may not like the person you’re with, but you aren’t alone.

I’m a dude and I think it’s easier for women. Any woman can sign on to a dating app and get interest. Sure, she may not want to be used sexually by some dirt bag, but at least she can actively participate. I, on the other hand, get nothing.",3.247682663207957,4.0219445097276285,5.038255512321658,84.37107111975791,72.77431906614784,8.201383484651966,27.118244703847818,8.515128840125781,1.786680242109814,957,33,204,16,18,328,141,257,0.125,0.682,0.193,0.9679,1,4,0,0,2,0,26.0,0,6,1,3,6,14,1,0,16,0,37,2,1,2,3,34,52,10,0,4,9,0,1,2,1,5,1,0,0,4,15,7,0,0,3,0,0,1,10,2,0,1,5,3,20,12,25,36,2,28,0,0,2,0,19,10,0,7,18,135,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090762591990918,0.0,0.0,0.5097700994634734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08367811109757856,0.12902848667556416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09461773192972456,0.0,0.2250301219810622,0.0,0.10470635121494497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3269569066611979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11600043846631156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13479508563705372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285769259308325,0.0,0.0,0.10320836814972124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088125675741888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023187315976107,0.0,0.0,0.10889523668821244,0.1033308751242179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12362010380308874,0.0,0.0,0.12395976880211547,0.0,0.0,0.12424526133666335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11806964063053998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833817564764592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10744237446939392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11774207911279405,0.0,0.0,0.13784398263688366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07882887869436701,0.12651572995410906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10508389145252732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09805479156048294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3127791916268109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23194603686894985,0.0,0.09251816631302293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08174884636596434,0.07884536925643153,0.0,0.0,0.07175135153508495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10627555421145787,0.0,0.0,0.14515596807450618,0.09767123588881838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11103334187124003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741107621749929,0.0,0.0,0.15848012586665153
divorce,rebecaj4,2020/02/22,"Is this abuse? Would you consider these things abusive:

Calling your spouse stupid, a whore, a cu**, dumb, crazy, a bitch. Saying you hate your spouse. Not just once, but usually when angry and repeatedly over years and years.

Excessive, irresponsible spending of over 25% of the family income on random, valueless things: liquor, cigars/tobacco, etc. 

Guess I am just looking for opinions. Thank you.",5.031818181818182,8.497606954545457,4.4335606060606105,77.97034090909092,77.93939393939394,8.148484848484847,26.431818181818183,8.841846274778883,2.780309090909091,313,12,49,8,8,94,54,66,0.336,0.623,0.040999999999999995,-0.9670000000000001,1,0,1,0,1,0,23.0,0,5,0,0,3,6,4,0,4,0,3,2,0,0,0,10,7,4,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,5,0,0,0,2,6,1,6,6,1,8,0,0,1,1,9,3,2,3,5,31,10,0,0.0,0.5374518122876782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315924605989532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25294665145835743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138108277844016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498504117178492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2239222057813596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19045841755513632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24153908568941285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18036381412896504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20881084803010524,0.0,0.0,0.3013572835244556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24979279892669906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611152062068857,0.0,0.0,0.2921089553361095
divorce,markdraws,2020/02/22,"My Own Sob Story My wife of 27 years broke the news to me a few weeks ago she wants a divorce. She says she’s been unhappy for years but stayed because of our two kids (15 and 9). I really don’t think I’m a bad guy. I like to think I’m a good dad and a generally nice person. But my wife has met someone else, a guy ten years younger than us. She claims their relationship remains platonic, and I actually tend to believe her. I convinced her to go to marriage counseling, but I could tell from the beginning she wasn’t into it. And it turns out I was right.

I’ve tried doubling up on showing her affection. I’ve tried appealing to her every way I can think of. I’ve even pointed out that she doesn’t have a job and won’t be able to support herself after the divorce. Her boyfriend can’t do it either. He literally lives in his parents’ basement because he’s so poor. But even after everything, she still told me yesterday she has made up her mind and wants out as soon as possible. She even said she wants me to have the kids full time so she can have her “freedom”. I’m dreading having to break the news to my kids. We’re going to have to sell the house and I’m going to have to uproot them from the only home they’ve ever known. I’m not even sure what I’m really asking here. I just felt the need to let it out.",2.288073904512757,3.5793644064748196,3.939620667102684,89.32419882276,75.79856115107914,7.2128188358404195,24.50686723348594,7.84624498591911,1.104310791366907,1027,33,231,15,22,344,151,278,0.08,0.8190000000000001,0.1,0.828,2,0,0,0,2,0,25.0,2,0,2,0,11,10,0,1,15,0,21,0,0,2,2,37,47,15,0,5,7,4,1,1,0,1,0,2,1,6,6,12,0,0,5,1,2,3,6,4,0,2,8,3,39,6,35,35,5,31,0,2,0,0,46,12,1,0,14,146,45,1,0.1214778405415862,0.0,0.11854484897942068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10768277608663422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135653826033056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10142892271943524,0.14810352815519895,0.0,0.0,0.13686392729412855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09699017093060773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10147914807645812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3209398719716701,0.10988366150748656,0.10235031995258756,0.0,0.10917645014240196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11663777718922498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20711596871315185,0.10188984916917536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405643217101073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12185217876091126,0.0,0.0,0.1401691180579146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12054801239923092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242193223292761,0.0,0.05934793680588085,0.0,0.1072671587754301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149452699317541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226579895073324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09007427952145773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09238937173301914,0.0,0.0,0.1348867659882382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606976474217393,0.0,0.0,0.11483582441985267,0.13694801282969846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556436305376459,0.0,0.0,0.13042173892894834,0.0,0.10374141207887053,0.11555324450062368,0.09660405456217012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10292778008039342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12947921487633907,0.09701236037583442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13785161386905226,0.11449142707925435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10617698698590664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335142854764954,0.0,0.0,0.07083470571871485,0.0,0.0,0.11607728245597505,0.0,0.1649509594257181,0.1321330072692037,0.11866619878853008,0.0,0.14612288499952605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21495233320124468,0.09642345549386087,0.0974421962520756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346832395039956
divorce,aorren,2020/02/22,"Tomorrow Tomorrow is the day I tell my husband I'm moving out. Most people in my life will think I'm crazy. Maybe I am. He is supportive, kind, and we never fight. But we also have no passion. No dates, no intimacy (lucky it happens 4 times a year) and I was up front when we started dating I wanted kids. 6 years later I'm 31 and he refuses to be intimate without a condom. My entire life has been about everyone else. I want my shot at happiness too. For a year now I've felt I've just had a really cool roommate. Someone to play video games with, go out to eat, then go to bed separately. (We work opposite shifts) I know without a doubt I will get comments telling me to reconsider and talk it out. I've thought in this for months. I am sure in my decision. I am just sick to my stomach to think I am going to completely unend his life. We do not have children. I'm not sure why I'm posting. To vent I'm sure and ask for positive vibes.",0.4049377018920168,2.5639252690355328,3.056587448084908,89.09740539916938,85.6497461928934,6.627503461006,23.167743424088602,7.84624498591911,1.2997634517766494,726,28,159,15,22,253,120,197,0.062,0.77,0.168,0.9583,0,0,0,0,1,0,27.0,5,0,0,1,7,12,1,1,6,1,16,8,1,0,4,37,37,9,0,2,7,1,1,0,0,2,4,0,1,2,3,14,1,1,6,3,0,5,8,2,0,0,5,2,23,10,24,29,1,30,0,0,0,2,19,8,0,3,16,92,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11336714104320428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13252847482492114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14863491832436904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914248597901464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14505807156811806,0.11842408674907115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13545981049038594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361138963609411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07406487294958464,0.0,0.24170009219553434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12535980206955324,0.15090844593676714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14762346545667654,0.07790877086174619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003923992487649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424191349405199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11315319654394775,0.15067073174496914,0.0,0.0,0.10933571031259323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982800260756426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13576895410671205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09081646404265854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201146106187854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10033998021719276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608700091473796,0.4008274492679936,0.0,0.0,0.113943047225256,0.2478127370186506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816709246815286,0.0,0.11254331301306199,0.08266265034623453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672299793369722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12791829170476646,0.0,0.0,0.27330730979465384,0.0,0.10320453440334787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738705324234157
divorce,HB12420,2020/02/22,"Marriage in Critical Condition: Husband is Leaving Me for His Twin Flame My husband, 30, and I, 30, have been together for a over 10 years. We've never broken up, he's always been consistent and stable in our relationship.

He tells me that he found his Twin Flame and wants to divorce asap. 

He started saying how they are the same person and how he needed to be with her. He said God showed him two paths and he wouldn't be happy with me. 

We don't have kids, but we were planning to start next year. He has been hurtful throughout this process and I don't know how to process this pain. 

Although I understand he doesn't love me, I am still trying to fight for our marriage and our future.

He already had a conversation with her and she agreed that they will be together once everything is finalized. He wants to hurry and get the process started.

It's so hard to just accept, is the any way to work it out? Do people have to end up with their Twin Flame? Is there hope for our marriage?

TL;DR: My husband is convinced that he found his other half and wants to leave our marriage.",3.6304805302402654,5.301964028169022,4.143418945042807,87.67257663628831,73.03755868544602,6.889698978182823,26.613918806959404,7.510576382923642,1.3452697597348808,850,30,170,10,17,268,117,213,0.11199999999999999,0.809,0.08,-0.851,1,0,0,0,2,0,25.0,7,0,3,2,7,8,1,0,5,0,25,2,0,3,1,35,40,16,0,6,2,3,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,2,8,17,0,0,5,1,0,0,5,3,0,2,8,3,27,5,24,27,1,18,0,1,0,1,46,6,0,1,11,112,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16877628632821678,0.0,0.12726073953123854,0.0,0.0,0.1040064123292934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13546200793363306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13745521101376185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16754146422331842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3353879774285237,0.0,0.0,0.07990634945619701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16281055427075508,0.13700679168035926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519068028945242,0.0,0.0,0.163728530911375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840534145575198,0.0,0.0,0.3238888823670354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380369328242888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11340521772218658,0.11795898822680145,0.0,0.1626565025148345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16287919023996789,0.0,0.0,0.16274202213814656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10603134516290956,0.1335438354681682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16420343051892114,0.0,0.0,0.14548371544816555,0.12162632772276648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3247613019921288,0.0,0.12214039244736755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13367883029643404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038381853651178,0.0,0.14940298364164742,0.15921894612885668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706290438967326,0.1213989500876542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113442481311145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969804181844426
divorce,pinotmeow,2020/02/22,"Told our son today He’s 5... and devastated as you can imagine. My heart is literally smashed into a thousand pieces watching that little boy hurt. 

I’ve been solid that this is the only path forward and that we will all be better off some day but today I questioned that. Watching his whole world come crashing down made me feel like I could give up 13 more years just so he wouldn’t have to hurt.",3.933713080168777,5.397036316455697,4.332341772151898,87.45311181434599,71.91139240506328,6.279324894514768,25.824894514767927,6.42735559955562,0.8503907172995775,315,10,63,2,6,99,68,79,0.125,0.797,0.078,-0.5918,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,1,0,1,2,4,0,0,2,0,9,1,1,1,1,15,14,5,0,2,2,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,5,5,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,2,0,1,3,3,8,2,6,7,5,12,0,2,2,0,11,7,0,2,6,41,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19585080158156726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19075593596846405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17680644043085733,0.0,0.0,0.14281421182744122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119696427974012,0.1582009133336005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21243097571009556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624143219137115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4741245866333946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818722508562867,0.22194685286163848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20953735647643892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16841949852264304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480699598919175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4198094231580163,0.2116009377961776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472363111093123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14260382540952055
divorce,sadfrustratedgirl,2020/02/22,"21F and feeling so alone So, I got married at 19. We’ve been together since we were 12, he’s the only person I’ve ever been with. Between 12-16, he cheated with other girls but I never took it too seriously so obviously was hurt, but moved past it. We were basically babies at that point anyway.

We were also long distance the entire time that we dated. We’d see each other every couple months and I was incredibly dependant on him for my happiness. I talked about him non stop and we texted non stop. I thought I had perfection. He proposed when I was 18, he was 19, and we got married a year and a half later. 

We had a few people say we were really young, but nobody important. Nobody seriously sat us down and said that, because we were always head over heels for each other. I knew there were values we didn’t agree on and immaturities we had to work through, but I was willing to do it because I figured, that’s what we would do in a normal relationship anyways. I was so sure I wanted to marry him that NOTHING would change my mind. Now, I feel like I had brain fog. I was totally blind.

He was always a gamer, and he was always an introvert. He’s always been very stubborn as well. These things seemed fine to me, I thought gamer life was cute, and I’m an introvert too. But I never got to experience life with him on a regular basis. Anyway, it seemed like we had common struggles and similar personalities. 

In the months after we got married, everything that was good about our relationship fell apart. The day after our wedding, time we should have spent solely together, he went to see his family for lunch. We had a nice hotel booked, and he didn’t want to just be with me because that’s boring. 

Now that we’ve been married for almost 2 years, he games 12+ hours every day. He calls it his hobby and that I don’t understand what a hobby is. He hasn’t worked since November because he’s been trying to get back into the army, but he also refuses to work any other jobs in the meantime, so I’m the sole earner. My savings are completely gone now. But the money part isn’t the biggest issue, we’re young, it’s normal to struggle through that. Just mentioning it to give the whole picture.

He doesn’t sleep in our bed, because he games from 5pm-7am, and sleeps from 7am-5pm. We don’t hang out unless I beg to watch a movie together. He refuses to hang out with my friends or do anything outside the house unless it involves our dog (maybe once a week), or go to the movies (maybe once every 3 months). He also stopped being intimate with me, we haven’t had sex regularly since about 6 months after we got married. We’ve literally had sex 3 times since January 2019. I try to talk to him about it but he gets angry, like throw things across the room angry. 

He doesn’t do house work. He takes our dog, Duma, out to pee in the morning before he goes to sleep and says that’s a huge thing, that I owe him for that. He drives me to photoshoots (I’m a photographer), which I’m thankful for since I can’t drive, but literally, those are the only things that he does. The situation the same when he was working, but it’s much worse now. He tells me he feels useless, but refuses to do things that are useful, and refuses to go to therapy and deal with it.

Our values have also shifted so much while being married, which was to be expected at this age, but he doesn’t bend ever. He used to want kids, we would talk about it, talk about names and sports we’d put them in, but now he has decided he never wants them. You could say maybe he will change his mind, but he truly hates children. He has a brand new niece, 7 months old, and refuses to let her come over so we can babysit, he doesn’t hold her, interact with her, nothing. He hates children. I want them badly once I’m the right age, between 27-35 ish. This has been a huge point of tension for us. I have been told he’ll change his mind, but I truly don’t think he will.

Another point is that he will not socialize with anyone I know. He calls them boring, says everything we do is boring. He’s called a couple of my friends stupid and annoying, even though he hasn’t met them. 

I genuinely feel like my mental health gets worse the more time I spend with him. I got married believing marriage should be forever. Things should be worked through. But after a year of at LEAST weekly screaming arguments and not sleeping properly from him gaming all night, having no sex life at 20-21 years old, I want out.

He’s also got a temper. And I get angry too so I’m not saying that I have so much of the high ground on this topic, but he has gotten so angry he’s left me on the side of the road in the middle of nowhere before. He’s thrown things across the room, he’s pushed me onto the bed and not in a fun way. Our dog shakes with anxiety when we argue, because he knows how bad it gets. 

I don’t have any money to leave right now, because I’ve spent all our savings to make up for him not having a job. I’m also scared to lose his family, who I love with my whole heart. I want to take steps to make sure my dog’s vet bills are under my name and make sure my lease is under my name (I’ve paid every cent for the apartment, he has never contributed). 

I shouldn’t be stuck with someone who is so determined to live a lonely, sad, mediocre life. The fog is totally lifted, and I honestly feel like this whole thing was a mistake. I loved and love him. I have so much love for him. I have been trying, I’ve cried in front of him begging him to try harder. He just won’t. He is determined to be the exact person that he is and never bend for anyone. Would you leave him? Or would you stay hoping he grows up?",3.4104684380279515,4.583098489991297,4.542282701069986,86.57307387498079,72.80330722367276,7.565457431014181,24.30964009624737,8.008105612284727,1.1822611191317258,4411,124,930,62,85,1447,418,1149,0.121,0.7609999999999999,0.11800000000000001,-0.1142,3,3,0,1,0,0,150.0,35,3,5,9,51,54,8,5,51,0,110,23,9,7,17,182,185,73,0,22,30,0,5,5,2,15,6,7,4,7,55,70,1,10,16,6,9,19,28,27,1,1,60,16,123,27,119,98,18,131,0,5,4,7,171,54,0,8,61,577,178,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0414404430747544,0.04286170005139086,0.0,0.1985702721373447,0.13774035946600394,0.0,0.0,0.05628554679854639,0.04339509359057008,0.031658910279402375,0.0,0.0,0.05787379183648088,0.0,0.034055789360478345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0318220064282554,0.06910839808820148,0.1765925861016466,0.0,0.07043005816110448,0.04662598457010391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04619861510227298,0.12677412838818947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13133744738318262,0.035648948378658826,0.04339069785299602,0.0,0.0,0.03304203161979746,0.09158198012421656,0.04545875918969764,0.05337895714046851,0.04266544201363221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036215718768520144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02733396924655576,0.07486901782299482,0.13947238058130085,0.0,0.07438716074278152,0.04048182996796347,0.07802695379122171,0.0,0.1046258402339133,0.08869495196970273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06394688382667395,0.0,0.10810805966410204,0.03969963424031684,0.04703935337998457,0.03471122471155328,0.2316918858785643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044054404274085586,0.0,0.08171694476085481,0.0424722768552124,0.043989622999360406,0.0,0.049040647507132905,0.0,0.04372483213739413,0.0,0.041103991916703934,0.04075524310507032,0.09550395440177864,0.04430279673378317,0.0,0.0,0.04319450368253034,0.08213515244238301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04548750690174915,0.0,0.0,0.08764009082574664,0.04496421140359566,0.04231829614085655,0.11692394564328708,0.10109150162817274,0.0,0.03654313440234482,0.03662384260565923,0.0,0.046298495805989666,0.0,0.0,0.1494039467068712,0.0,0.08287311395371602,0.0,0.12472840949533448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041705685568565916,0.0,0.12535917182644354,0.0,0.16516294480763805,0.04398500884003849,0.12168901984647625,0.0,0.15959078876617575,0.03996925781395176,0.0,0.038836403874160486,0.0810957417911133,0.07941878940656588,0.0,0.08685181594310472,0.13221892880606978,0.0,0.06294931770601248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04481521223390583,0.039506039574957186,0.028690693711193788,0.10840564008355734,0.0,0.0,0.11736474650449945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04160269666938718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026511870802477543,0.0,0.0,0.0888625966992567,0.0,0.07068400818975648,0.039365988552504866,0.1645524590181204,0.04143294841594928,0.0,0.06595592905728226,0.07534950591682846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17116778718065795,0.04651773716998276,0.16565692717135233,0.04218612757879351,0.035064820809576125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04411020488984861,0.0,0.10379749524636153,0.0,0.08652780478147333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170127648229959,0.0,0.06223175345885695,0.13305267403750165,0.03617174119419988,0.03810114426660359,0.04732660463333261,0.0,0.21995135681268094,0.02651741693808364,0.04065990836537108,0.06570909373620981,0.09652617636116416,0.0,0.0,0.03954451467040483,0.045979529482747035,0.11238901354158808,0.0,0.0,0.04308256213654113,0.09956054186118993,0.07148557253084989,0.0,0.03414641834335835,0.17086691038092888,0.03284896639266415,0.06639204980816334,0.0,0.037209495778206585,0.038363701976634634,0.0,0.1386124281897524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807697741488489,0.0,0.08434836524679161,0.1469912548400526,0.0,0.0,0.10660064411235334
divorce,sandywatersaltybeach,2020/02/23,"20F married to a narc 21M Im trying to get a divorce but when i left him, i moved out of state. Ive tried to get him to agree on a divorce for almost 3 months now and he wont so im trying to figure out another way... He recently got a dui and is being kicked out of the military, i mention this in hopes maybe it can be help in getting a divorce and someone can let me know if it is. Im in NC he is in MS. No kids or property involved!",-1.895588235294117,-0.20096751960783976,1.9544117647058847,96.1898529411765,91.84313725490196,4.968627450980391,20.264705882352946,6.42735559955562,0.10590588235294174,331,12,85,4,12,123,66,102,0.028999999999999998,0.8590000000000001,0.11199999999999999,0.8398,0,0,0,0,3,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,6,0,10,0,0,0,0,13,16,8,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,6,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,7,1,16,11,0,16,0,0,0,0,12,9,0,4,4,51,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18623328585402896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19501748219092546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29150246982973577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14874613855925967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12465926397618055,0.0,0.0,0.18472127488010906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6026747635878128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10221039215651256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20206909516921104,0.19017835614930367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18684309188619572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14844840272276144,0.19766856039213396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18363397733690606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15758124944441834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37880703727008136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476232031877393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,TDAGARlM,2020/02/23,"My daughter told me who her new boyfriend is. The guy that was telling her how strong she was the night I found out she was filing for divorce. I had a feeling, just from that text message I read when her former coworker/friend was so obviously trying to “slide into the DMs” for lack of a better term. She doesn’t know I know, but I wonder just how long that went on before we even separated. I doubt she ever physically cheated, and she probably wouldn’t even tell me if she did at this point. I’d still like to know. 

But god fucking damnit it hurts man. I don’t know why I do it but I don’t even have an active Facebook anymore but I log on to see if our old friends are friends with him now like a fuckin idiot. What the actual fuck am I even doing? I even tell myself daily don’t go looking for answers to questions you don’t want answered or looking for things you don’t want to find. Daily. Yet I still do it. 

I want her back, I’m still gonna try. I’m in the process of making an 11 track album for her along with a note so I can at least say I gave it 100% in trying to win her back. And in ten years our daughter is gonna be like “he wrote you a record and you didn’t take him back”? Lol. Dreams and hopes are all I have left at this point is what it feels like.",1.45845604569978,2.853012770072993,2.8371088543319587,95.94034116153604,78.23357664233576,5.641129800063473,20.67216756585211,6.0469075449839425,-0.15178876547127906,985,24,237,6,23,320,149,274,0.095,0.722,0.182,0.9665,0,0,0,0,1,0,23.0,3,4,0,3,21,17,5,1,12,1,27,3,0,3,3,45,55,16,0,8,9,2,2,4,2,3,0,1,0,2,14,10,0,0,12,2,0,3,8,7,0,1,12,6,42,10,27,39,4,33,0,1,3,3,39,13,3,7,21,158,56,1,0.0,0.0,0.10497315668790684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10668089468220124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24814490675547896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09153445564247524,0.0,0.0,0.09513724410841262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3552460498908673,0.09730355149272446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10878161491835013,0.07684828853623189,0.0,0.0,0.09831736261652513,0.0,0.0,0.11794535031695826,0.24932578591876364,0.19889413371909004,0.0,0.0,0.061134716026527175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10651157116400306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068416418518884,0.0,0.0,0.11515629798828148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364714323115163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168755137133842,0.0,0.0,0.2102137823131982,0.0,0.0,0.0951963858606059,0.18066402459463915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07180405233419218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038921265140824,0.0,0.10094749828549196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11287700026780545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033775249450584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11597904473082853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12050342474790615,0.0,0.10759947266952978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08554426989908459,0.0,0.0,0.08571965181176233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257717491584068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08087952537967727,0.0,0.2820637148086371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07146496907477799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10278809129254364,0.0,0.21909964530752096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19034336074343103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997188038331256,0.09706552074845072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11665546959709468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06927178668262282
divorce,tittyonfire,2020/02/23,"I wish her well I (30m) have seperated from my wife (30f) for 3 months now. We've been trying therapy, but it's not working. She does not want a divorce, but behaves very arrogantly during sessions, demanding me to decide if I want her back or not. The therapist in the last session finally told us that we need to reflect on our behaviours, and there is no point coming back to her if we are not in the mind frame to reconcile

I loved this woman, with all my heart, but something was always off from the start. Minor issues were made into major ones, and I, rather than noticing the red flags, apologized and tried to make amends. It's not a good precedent to set with anyone to apologize even if you dont feel like you have done anything wrong. I did it because I desperately wanted this relationship to work. 

Now, I just don't care since I've realized, from a rational lens, rather than of love, that she is a personality type. Someone who cannot accept responsibility for her actions. Or someone who only knows how to escalate issues rather than de escalate. Someone who has major major communication issues, deep insecurities that manifest into arrogance, blame shift and sheer stupidity. 

I used to give her the benefit of the doubt. She had a troubled family life, does not have anyone to fall back on, does not have many friends etc. But I've had a troubled father's alcohol abuse childhood, and yet I choose to see the goodness in everyone. I choose to be humble, and to understanding that we are all flawed and can and should be forgiven wherever necessary. And if it takes an apology to end an argument, then so be it i will apologize.  

In hindsight, though, resentment started building up. I started getting annoyed as to why i always have to be the one to try to resolve conflicts. Why do I have to listen to her shout and yell and say things that cause irreparable emotional damage, and then respond with equally damaging stuff to say, and then feel bad again for saying it because that will be another shit storm cycle of silent treatmets, communication blocking from her side before  yelling and unleashing it. 

I would like to believe that I'm a highly introspective person, even more than I should be. Analyzing everything i say or do, or should have said or should not have said, or could have done differently. I'm very articulate as well, and can express my feelings well. i know because my soon to be ex wife hates how i am good at expressing myself to the therapist, which she thinks makes her look bad in the sessions. 

My wife discusses an issue but has no capacity to introspect. The therapist at one point had to even ask her to please look at her when she's communicating, because she just wasn't listening. 

My greatest concern, still, is her well-being after we are through. I'm at a point where i just feel sad as to how she will ruin her life because of her absolute immaturity and sheer arrogance to not understand things she might be doing wrong. 

My family and friends, however, believe that she is super clever, and I'm just plain stupid not to understand that and still give her the benefit of doubt. I have no idea whose right here. But i do realize now that my well being is just as equally important as hers, and there is nothing wrong in thinking about my own sanity. 

I've realized that love isn't about letting boundaries be crossed. It's about respecting them. I've realized love isn't about apologizing and always making up, its about taking a stand on things that you do not like, and see if your partner realizes and respects by atleast trying to discuss the matter with you. It's about setting the right precedents, its about being fearless of the consequences of taking a stand on something you are not okay with. People make mistakes, thats okay, they might cross boundaries, but they have to genuinely repent their behaviour, apologize and try not doing it again because they love you. 

But you can't expect anyone to understand all of this. You have to express it, communicate it without the fear of being abandoned by your SO just because you took a stand. If SO respects it, stay. 

My soon to be ex also did not appreciate the things i did for her, and always called out all the things that i could not do. That is again a personality type. Find people who see the glass half full, not half empty. 

Also remember to not blame yourself too much. People change, or they put on a good show initially but then show their true colors, or life gets in the way and people are not able to cope with it healthily. 

It's okay to be blindsided, to make mistakes in judging people, or just not be of much help. You can and should be there for the other person, but you are not responsible for their healing. That they need to do. So stick around, help them grow but don't put yourself down if they can't get better. Be sad for them, but not for yourself that you were useless and could not change them. You cannot change someone by loving them more.  

Lastly, life is not easy, but it does not require much to be happy. Try staying happy, and be positive, talk positive and advice positively. 

However, there will be times when you will be sad, you will suffer, and life will not make sense. Accept this reality. Everyone has his or her own life battles. During these times, faith and God help me because for me there is no other way to make sense of this insanity.

 For you, it might be different, but try to find meaning, in every situation. Phrase it that way. I lost my father, its good, atleast he did not have to mourn and suffer my death had i died before him.  

If you're suffering, there must be a reason. Believe that, wholeheartedly because there always is one. 

Respect yourself and others will follow. Find what makes you NOT respect yourself and address it because that is not normal. You seek validation in that case from people, and usually end up in bad relationships and marriages. Don't expect love to heal you. Value yourself and love will automatically follow.",6.6779016397662625,7.289326638543518,6.829054753262807,75.16729155404538,65.03019538188278,9.9733621643885,32.926300615234126,9.902492734105616,3.1827108554071097,4769,187,858,97,69,1532,419,1126,0.192,0.6779999999999999,0.13,-0.998,4,0,3,0,3,1,141.0,6,21,14,7,61,78,7,4,39,3,116,19,2,15,6,207,186,91,3,32,71,7,4,3,3,19,9,11,1,6,65,53,1,4,32,2,0,11,44,34,4,6,21,22,112,44,129,119,19,96,1,13,7,8,131,39,1,23,39,642,177,8,0.040699523035207234,0.048222279561463306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03977110287142628,0.0,0.04349541260930983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06509478773384512,0.16932631768052558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042676998559200485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853741584517867,0.0,0.03349223963386954,0.0362312043012992,0.03804856000616067,0.0,0.0,0.09388626294733723,0.10194720514255544,0.24810051482947096,0.0,0.06926459288289266,0.13756327582287078,0.0,0.035995420712983145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041558763498418055,0.0,0.04149587621541364,0.041809621356752084,0.1291640964212406,0.03505903531277644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09748577217984714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04223967928454247,0.08504467823976926,0.0,0.0,0.14246570750942258,0.08329948527519587,0.04769953788303199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04578148540857044,0.07209539430149813,0.0,0.04539072661729893,0.08064495335523247,0.0,0.034291103513196974,0.07778027679976614,0.036578106983649404,0.0,0.07673577630560482,0.045798278555546586,0.08231560692175846,0.029075747388501275,0.0,0.04458433810810016,0.11159588016045356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628887010749381,0.0,0.063791462925091,0.07808538215218677,0.0,0.17068414473070187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08665079815106752,0.0,0.04018235294898752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04822913075728373,0.08184009714412163,0.043001280645569365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04594480754377867,0.0,0.1699189119228269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044734786951339034,0.0663510867333441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04161801978054977,0.1724836604859496,0.05965119342805774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06835469782553569,0.0,0.044428337166479454,0.0,0.29386326843795824,0.0385108727692111,0.2173379813038128,0.041262928314964115,0.0,0.04433371205936608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12952728674418507,0.041094916135728486,0.0,0.03248597099060332,0.0,0.0897564971340524,0.060356361257644674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039876891247547716,0.039052290024487665,0.046336676730205834,0.0,0.0,0.11031620048236596,0.030953821259022837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692955483485101,0.14214901464223054,0.0,0.04467585445527146,0.11542261355006915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08182852386815036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04184588817618248,0.0,0.08739211273702822,0.04610462570103748,0.06951434058730241,0.07742913300695488,0.12946357710734854,0.0,0.0,0.09729675142214804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041777475527778614,0.033667066031989684,0.04574796913474155,0.0,0.0,0.1379382951711472,0.06266496246258751,0.0,0.0,0.08642199565084538,0.08676055262335831,0.06500538333926731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046591216599738236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918029286130156,0.03271273494516753,0.0,0.0,0.04654345158936326,0.14176584947801846,0.13519477320341547,0.05215722197249658,0.039987074739325834,0.0,0.047464438357447215,0.0,0.0,0.03889013839988307,0.045218667621777404,0.1934261318783409,0.0,0.0,0.1694785553016872,0.04895651501125617,0.035151320385280266,0.04482477463797672,0.06716273780582563,0.07201689952333891,0.09691616093545588,0.0,0.0,0.18296879512436112,0.0,0.07344997826684628,0.0,0.04680244290777877,0.03923288784007335,0.0,0.05925947499722147,0.0,0.0,0.028911773437848624,0.1334956179625069,0.0,0.0
divorce,phatkittenteddy,2020/02/23,"Move out day Today is the day my XH was, by agreement, to move out from my house. He purposely made it very difficult. I'm going to have to order a skip and spend a lot of time clearing out. I even had to start to vacuum clean space so that I can just work through everything methodically. He knew he was to move out 28 days after I transferred money as part of the financial agreement, he's had an extra week, he's had the keys to his new home for 3 weeks.

Today when I went to the house to prep for a tenant, he wasn't there and I had a little hope that it was all sorted and that this chapter would be closed. I expected to have to do a bit of work to shine it up a bit, but my heart sank once I opened the doors. Not only was it clear he hadn't finished moving out (1.5hrs after the agreed time) but he'd left our beloved cats there, I'd already gone through the heartbreak Friday saying good bye to them. 

I had to ring him and find out what was happening, he then proceeded to drag his feet. He's always made me this weak version if myself. I had my new tenant and friend with me, they don't get cowed by his nonchalance attitude to how he treats me. The guy has played the victim every step through the process and I'm fairly certain he's a narcissist. 

Today has been a total emotional breakdown, I've been so lucky to be surrounded by friends that are truly amazing. The whole divorce process has been exhausting, I want it over but then he calls saying he's left stuff... my friends think I should use it to ensure he pays the last of the bills he owes. I'm so tired, I thought I'd made it easy for him to get himself together and move on, seems like I've continued to be an enabler of his ways. It makes me sad, angry and empty, all at the same time. 

Thanks for reading if you've lasted this far!",3.5036984615384625,4.271730616000003,4.383800000000001,89.32197692307696,72.17333333333333,7.582564102564103,25.356410256410257,7.748469712250963,1.102431794871794,1411,41,313,17,26,456,195,375,0.086,0.738,0.17600000000000002,0.9881,2,0,1,0,1,0,38.0,1,0,2,3,9,20,1,0,24,0,32,5,2,6,6,50,55,21,0,7,7,0,0,1,3,2,3,3,6,1,17,17,0,0,5,2,5,9,4,6,0,0,23,4,33,14,50,26,11,53,0,2,1,0,35,18,0,7,26,188,50,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10226797483491293,0.0,0.07711212511539456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20235183588198846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09463043354481687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17930103438829836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10424568605617053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06121024991113028,0.0,0.07808177431235519,0.0,0.08328934334735913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08470228364551102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21479892134007966,0.0,0.09683659610147384,0.0,0.05266872421775395,0.07773048693187137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09176175064266874,0.08195124110071204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10981904101225604,0.0,0.0,0.09295949759498227,0.09204611283754756,0.0,0.21386652131287767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510832271028734,0.0,0.0,0.20138096975563005,0.0,0.0,0.04527579600852583,0.09288361381803018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0787880524496773,0.0,0.263070910650057,0.06186056100212771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4924885513620162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790100982031843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986946998952138,0.0,0.07048269195308471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035682399120907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926989985452484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14739604115504507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08436685587532111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06559507732995215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10608946597705024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08532169409507558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05938170571338675,0.0,0.07357274043787276,0.1621167234642619,0.10651503777225704,0.2635321193003422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08004051150026277,0.0,0.07646568932283165,0.05466147891772968,0.07356024381532701,0.14867485670351216,0.0,0.0,0.0859096519910595,0.0,0.1034671217311092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13493543451644718,0.0,0.0,0.06583289358638594,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Browncoat8806,2020/02/23,"Looking to file but unsure what to do Pasted this in /r/Divorce_Men as well since I am male lol.   


 

Alright guys this one could be a bit of a long on so strap yourselves in. Also I am completely ready to be called an absolute dumbass for all the decisions I have made that I am about to share with you. I deserve it.

I (31M) have been married to my wife (20f) for around a year and it is finally time to break it off it seems. Yeah I know the age difference is disgusting to some and meaningless to others but believe me when I say I know that I was asking for all the trouble that I have gotten from this marriage. We are in Ohio and things have been nothing but rocky with her constant cheating and running away when things get rough. She has cheated on me that I know of at least 10 times in the span of our marriage and I am finally done with it.

On to the particulars. due to financial issues and her coming from another state to live with me we had to stay t my fathers house until we could get on our feet. This worked until November 23rd of 2019 when she informed me that we should do a ""trial separation"". She moved out and got an apartment with who she told me was a female friend. It turned out to be her new boyfriend. After she did a voluntary stint in the psych ward for a suicide attempt her latest boy toy found out about me and decided that he was going to up and leave. I stupidly forgave all of this and ended up moving into the apartment about two weeks ago. All of my stuff is here but my name is not on the lease. Only hers is. She quit her job after leaving the hospital and she has already blown through her last check so I am stuck with all the bills that will be hitting in about 8 days.

The newest development is that 4 days ago she had a mental breakdown and packed a bag to run off to her family and friends in her home state. She has not seen her family and has not told any of us where she is staying. Two days ago my grandmother passed and my lovely wife informed me that she will most likely not be coming back to support me at the funeral so i am finished.

Here is where I need your advice. I have emailed a lawyer to try and get a consultation ASAP after the funeral, but in all of your experiences should I stay at the apartment? Should I continue paying the bills or should I let it drop and move back to my father's? Everything is a bit of a blur so any advice would help immensely.",4.408231707317075,4.933758065040653,5.2042174796747975,85.13547256097561,69.97560975609754,8.507723577235772,27.97662601626017,8.567472430010655,1.80549674796748,1896,62,401,29,32,617,237,492,0.10099999999999999,0.818,0.081,-0.9142,1,0,0,0,1,1,34.0,7,3,0,3,20,13,4,0,30,3,51,2,1,1,6,72,76,34,3,8,10,4,1,1,2,7,0,1,1,3,27,34,0,0,9,1,4,9,4,5,1,3,17,4,67,8,77,43,11,82,0,0,2,1,57,32,0,5,35,306,94,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729734114443359,0.2353647799325093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09766819562198767,0.07077794358613107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12037376631885588,0.0928059004908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07878880086620625,0.08274084384944931,0.0,0.08315398012918028,0.13611077740088226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09971556980900137,0.0,0.0,0.1932505138905269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903741734415714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15247957693311265,0.0927964996495959,0.09564317524874638,0.0,0.14132913400086095,0.0,0.0,0.17123648463881286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246957626417476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09057201774230764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07838974406914304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07954317949884429,0.08657551747990015,0.1668705171480941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19390724678863366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09704188693028323,0.1367585053072606,0.0,0.13872166179109724,0.0,0.05029980566608423,0.0,0.07078606070817045,0.0,0.0,0.08763451732423126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05932347765880507,0.0,0.08877839236265887,0.0,0.0,0.10212364757539552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09237691358226524,0.0878282099847909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14592118681415842,0.07214392483915266,0.0,0.18742942750436564,0.0,0.09050303284613666,0.0,0.043239394430565146,0.0,0.07815211846214136,0.07832472317078093,0.07432246290323717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07987981280690057,0.08374619459415474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08919288759450915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822025267655572,0.0,0.06562582475304099,0.0,0.08547931704838632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08492356689336876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05997372513373748,0.06731254194434381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08448866621123742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09413666280326724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07038325245354775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08057222798187151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07321279577915478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28300576956416545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10131780484755866,0.09681082597839306,0.10043517307889413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11759845436541408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10321672310067632,0.0,0.0,0.16914190014587588,0.0,0.06008953284793904,0.09626874203390487,0.17291433708221726,0.0,0.10646141045294996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07099390113097459,0.0,0.07957721661085414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06443317390397356,0.0,0.0,0.06287188085552663,0.0,0.0,0.05699474267233792
divorce,Mkeluvntwar,2020/02/23,"I'm losing my mind!! I'm 35 and shes 40. We've been through so much together but I feel the stress of it all has caused her to lose her mind. Here's some back story. 

We met a little over a year ago. 

I fell deeply in love with her and after 3 months asked for her hand in marriage.  

2 months later we were married.  

He lost her mom. 

I lost my job

She lost her job

We sold her house and she moved in with me. 

We bought my house together.  

We lost a baby. 

My dog got hit by a car. (He's okay)

She got drunk and started screaming at her 2 boys all kinds of hateful things. I asked her sister in law to come pick her up. She left for 4 days. 

I said come back and get counseling with me. Something is off. Low and behold shes pregnant again. 

Now she wont reason with me at all. Wants an apartment and is moving out with the boys and my unborn baby. 

How do I let go and make the divorce a peaceful one?",-1.295922291993719,0.7038350357142882,0.8357142857142891,102.49774725274729,94.05102040816324,3.6276295133437992,14.681318681318679,5.069623422648166,-1.2448753532182102,681,14,171,3,26,224,116,196,0.16699999999999998,0.762,0.071,-0.9522,2,0,1,0,1,0,24.0,5,0,0,6,7,13,1,1,9,1,10,3,1,5,3,37,35,12,0,1,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,2,22,1,0,2,1,2,7,1,10,0,1,12,4,36,3,24,20,5,33,0,7,0,1,35,14,0,1,12,102,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034165380105624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181321680865649,0.0,0.0,0.17941646225185234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11984715521362704,0.0,0.2009932408101939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752393133225915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05898936057730341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06095267955392954,0.0,0.06630344309903277,0.0,0.18661541476027851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11518259516474498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26923163485088825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23154414400224946,0.0,0.0,0.1214887088342984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12675693087055626,0.11929792986555805,0.0,0.0,0.11692904081280832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26103672450135623,0.5094147851606424,0.0,0.10529477307255036,0.0,0.07787483458914378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23559690964836985,0.1366367102187254,0.18624187836360112,0.2479929949102461,0.08576224398740402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07905526510856907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199511139436115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11097518968612312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08981446421897538,0.0,0.0,0.08257613112749529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336394339820992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07750708302247834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06881207606522931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07512847470636277
divorce,jonaryasansa,2020/02/23,"My husband keeps calling me To give a little pretext.. I am getting divorced after 5 years of marriage after he threw me out of the house I decided not to go back. But my husband wanted me to come back. My lawyers told him that we will get cease and desist order against him as he kept drunk dialling me, my relatives and friends and to top it off he showed up in my office drunk. Now we are getting mutual divorce and divorce date was few months back but he didn't show up, due to which I had to call him to ask if he is gonna show up on next date. Now our date is next month and he kinda keeps blackmailing me that if i don't talk to him regularly then he won't show up. And so again the harassment has started. Whatever little peace I gather, he takes it all by his negativity and I am still really scared of him.",3.3573921568627436,4.212004405882354,4.71970588235294,86.45700980392158,72.58823529411767,7.784313725490197,27.10784313725491,8.07648339933343,1.5228431372549018,639,22,139,9,12,213,103,170,0.099,0.857,0.044000000000000004,-0.8891,1,0,0,0,3,0,12.0,3,0,0,1,8,3,1,1,3,0,12,2,0,0,1,23,28,14,0,3,5,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,5,11,2,3,1,6,0,3,5,2,0,0,6,0,25,1,24,19,2,35,0,0,0,0,31,11,0,3,20,93,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548975693735383,0.0,0.0,0.38221561934939785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33837556275624475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14272706650792627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12801150603320682,0.0,0.2596982002020277,0.15894472612129326,0.09416531515939612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19118374975449196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2945453628304688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3321293575351176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645039888168681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3524259022529457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10614511000666774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16588436554618924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11727607268675384,0.0,0.13232006511964248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12457808741623964,0.13317516168146207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15832367663236174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09772811978672616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10669878014634468
divorce,FloraAnn,2020/02/23,"Am I being unreasonable? I am due to go to court in just a few weeks to finalise my divorce with my husband. Our son moved out of the house this weekend so now it's just me and my soon to be ex-husband. My stbx comes and goes as he pleases. He stays here probably 3/4 nights a week but does not disclose when he's coming or going. I have no desire to track his movements but I feel particularly insecure and vulnerable at night. Sometimes I've been woken up, once in bed, by the sound of him entering the house late at night. Sometimes he's had a drink and is clumsily noisy.

There are frequent burglaries in the area and  I have simply asked that he let me know if he is returning any night after 10pm, after which time I'd like to chain the front door and go to bed without fear of being woken up by someone entering the house. In years gone by I did actually meet a burglar in our front garden who was leaving the house after having broken in!

I think that is a reasonable request. I am in my 60's and believe that my fears are justified. My peace of mind should count for something and I feel that after a marriage of some 35+ years I deserve a little respect.

He refuses to do this. He thinks I am trying to ""monitor"" him. I don't actually care what he's doing but I'd like to think that when I go to bed at night I can get a night's sleep without being disturbed.

Am I being unreasonable?",2.7550362318840564,4.212422583333336,4.535144927536233,84.8504347826087,74.90277777777777,7.369806763285023,26.410628019323678,8.04050195162591,1.573461171497584,1096,40,228,17,23,372,156,288,0.079,0.8140000000000001,0.106,0.8296,0,0,2,0,1,0,25.0,2,0,0,0,9,8,0,4,15,0,28,2,1,1,0,34,46,17,0,3,10,2,2,2,0,1,0,1,5,0,11,12,1,1,7,3,0,13,5,4,0,0,7,3,29,4,41,32,2,53,0,0,0,0,23,15,0,3,26,150,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.1870281638507588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06516617087799982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08958603080675565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079650834245371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09770279990584273,0.0,0.0,0.16509428041833796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08385952884799612,0.0,0.0,0.09387473432099057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21566576989558872,0.09690680141870572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05006605560446871,0.0,0.2178445241953203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44228953015922295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052664437252124816,0.0,0.10809790052064384,0.1014677738666212,0.0,0.09799038916513032,0.0,0.09363321767832923,0.09604460217260198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09675873206082736,0.0,0.0,0.10184975593820847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5395672335298517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020534494550438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10519011686381924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10331854573861153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098526909472541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09589697744085443,0.0,0.08119456004795512,0.07377290042998434,0.1895522331808696,0.0,0.0,0.10213965441620952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18420770038339068,0.0,0.0,0.05587794434568786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06506076673177233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537345165438166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184749104728784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12341988636610113
divorce,TheLoonsNest,2020/02/23,"Promises to myself Hi All,

I’ve been lurking on this sub for a while. I’m in the middle of a divorce I don’t want (but she does).  40 something man, 2 young kids, and so worried about what comes next. This sub has been really helpful. I’ve taken a number of suggestions I’ve found here, added some of my own, and compiled a list of promises to myself.  I’ve found this list helpful for me in visualizing my future, at least through the rough transition period. If it’s helpful to you, please use it:

1) I will NOT accept blame or feel guilt for her actions. I can be sad, but no guilt. It’s not my fault. It’s not the kids’ fault.

2) I will always make myself emotionally available to my kids.

3) I will take care of myself physically, emotionally, and mentally.
a. I will get therapy for myself as well as the family.
b. I will stay close with friends.
c. I will limit (extremely limit) alcohol and other substances apart from prescribed medication.
d. I will find hobbies/passions to engage my mind.

4) I will be the absolute best Dad I can be.

5) I will NOT talk bad about her with the kids or in front of the kids. I will remain friendly and open to her for the sake of the kids.

6) I will always act in the best interest of my children and myself.

7) I will seek companionship, but I will not emotionally attach myself to someone for a period of at least 2 years.

8) I will remain loose and flexible while settling into new routines.

9) I will NOT follow her on social media or dwell on how she spends her time.

10) I will stay healthy through exercise and nutrition.

11) I will ask for help when I need it. 

12) I will take a little time each day to focus on myself.

13) I will be present in my interactions with my kids.

14) I will be thankful for all the good things in my life.

15) I will not only survive, I will thrive.

16) I will read this list every day",0.7234426713947997,3.098553938829788,2.8580283687943293,89.45411111111113,86.73936170212767,5.789030732860521,20.855555555555554,7.213258583274324,0.7178999527186756,1435,47,300,23,45,484,186,376,0.042,0.748,0.209,0.9966,0,0,2,0,1,0,67.0,0,1,0,5,7,20,0,3,18,0,34,4,0,3,2,46,51,22,0,3,14,1,2,0,2,23,4,0,0,9,12,16,1,2,5,2,1,5,9,7,1,0,5,2,53,13,48,18,9,40,0,1,0,0,32,18,0,5,15,204,65,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126429864595314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19687504619454774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11059727913917826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09877801334912242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483032735523399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12061773176640073,0.0,0.0,0.10190750751696316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15259121863175146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10352769998804773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39922465294229664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09967532927988433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11152548310183584,0.0,0.05981752104917065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10812674388456543,0.0,0.0,0.2594261348494221,0.18280111589923748,0.0,0.06180840335508524,0.0,0.0,0.09922689319310278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3171838677437582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356086512701606,0.0,0.11857062513694452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07896813106038478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11917776590872732,0.11922153833079298,0.0,0.11945224498189624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08772013096889844,0.0,0.1142577166052147,0.12581651876457536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08997471677388247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12986110236947013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11833495441523413,0.0,0.07578789265799603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12059494904823352,0.10023769712017752,0.09107538293957444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521903865797092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17789817573409314,0.09508742190376827,0.0,0.10891745261350347,0.1352897220471987,0.0,0.07859521657437253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13796679131491288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10217575624759667,0.0,0.0,0.0697781391116267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10636855063556454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12014237809028692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07618321461970616
divorce,criscokkat,2020/02/23,"Mid divorce, I just want some light flirting from a distance as I’m lonely. I miss being able to talk with my best friend / stbxw about whatever. I have been married for 22 years and like many on here communications broke down, love was lost on one of the sides (hers) and everything else fell apart. 

We haven’t been intimate in over a year, and it’s been so long since we even cuddled, and now those opportunities are off the table. I’m not looking to date or hook up, not even close to that. But these days the only apps I see out there are focused on hookups or finding partners.

I met my wife on the internet 23 years ago. I’d love a chat room like experience where I could just let go, talk about life in a relaxed manner, and maybe even flirt a little. I miss my outlet for bad risqué jokes and puns. I have kids, so I can still pump out the dad jokes, but I miss adult convos.

I’m still in the terrified for the future stage so I can’t do more, but I do miss just talking about nothing consequential.",4.563506787330318,4.968452107843142,4.932941176470589,87.64554298642538,69.58823529411765,8.041628959276018,26.47662141779789,7.882392219407189,1.2120381598793362,786,22,174,9,13,249,131,204,0.096,0.782,0.122,0.29600000000000004,0,3,0,0,1,0,24.0,2,0,0,3,18,20,0,0,12,0,16,4,0,0,0,26,31,15,0,2,10,2,0,2,2,0,1,0,1,3,4,12,0,0,1,4,0,2,4,8,0,1,6,3,18,12,26,22,3,34,0,7,2,3,17,20,0,3,13,108,22,0,0.15814573691418696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14018665380667786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13204508457150216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16596419407482876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262665024902461,0.0,0.0,0.10199091723926236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13211047037407114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3133613031715602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14213119104248853,0.15469687648979105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14454233848797532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12218300404243873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0898778667582698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617147306962473,0.11170301090756599,0.15452403761309194,0.15850357476381474,0.0,0.139954000612938,0.13280258898629707,0.0,0.1726347533603001,0.0,0.28546540397371883,0.0,0.0,0.16033495527606842,0.15887864896207834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15174509978327336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10716364417689372,0.12027695924307452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12602167712302542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13081978780836806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25259077956969217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38133465863273736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09327845304674423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30552200868324225
divorce,potatoewedges,2020/02/23,"My husband is starting to establish a separation My husband has been saying for a while now “I’m so mean to him”. I honestly do not think I am mean. The backstory is he has been struggling with prescription painkillers for years. He has always lied on and off about it and 3 times I have caught him with irrefutable proof and he has admitted he has “slipped up”. Although I know he was using them for longer than he admits to, he never fully has admitted the extent of his problem. This has been a major issue in our marriage, for me at least. He refuses to get professional help and says it’s not that bad. He has always been able to hold down a steady job during this, but we have lived paycheck to paycheck due to his habit. We have a one year old daughter. I could tell he was using again and we ended up getting into a huge blowout about it where he admitted it. This was right before Christmas. I was less than thrilled. Since then, we have gotten into some arguments about it. He accuses me of constantly being mean to him. I honestly do not think I am being mean- at least not intentionally. Tonight was the final straw. We got into a blow out about something unrelated and he said well if you can’t change and you want to leave me then do it etc etc. it’s all my fault apparently because according to him he has fixed his problem. (Not true). He told me I have until Monday to come up with half our house bills. He knows this is impossible as I only work 2 days a week and stay home with my daughter the rest of the time. We have separate bank accounts. I told him if we end up getting divorced I will have to move back to where I am from which is about 3 hours away as I have no family here and I could live with my dad who could help me financially until I get on my feet. I told him this and said we could work days out where I could drive my daughter here and she would stay for a set time then I could come back and get her etc. he freaked out and said I will not be moving (it happens to be the next state over). He also said if I think I am going to try to tell any court about his drug problem he will tell them I sold my prescription (to his friend one time which he facilitated). I am at a loss of what to do. I cannot at this time afford to live on my own. I know my dad would help me if I could live with him but I am not leaving my daughter. I am scared.",2.275462719189313,3.8468667067209807,3.5721374993790675,90.78199642342658,76.43380855397149,6.745437385127416,22.973573096219763,7.499876790926021,0.7490531121156425,1847,54,413,24,41,603,211,491,0.075,0.8490000000000001,0.076,-0.3166,3,0,2,0,1,0,41.0,10,2,2,3,18,15,0,2,16,0,59,2,1,3,4,85,98,30,0,17,13,8,0,0,1,5,1,6,1,0,19,35,0,2,14,0,4,7,11,9,1,3,20,6,74,6,69,62,12,70,0,1,0,0,80,27,0,5,32,295,93,4,0.06974580773849197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055775697250005724,0.11606819851718307,0.0,0.0,0.04742954094783161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06552848226190848,0.10726044199823452,0.0582348361773053,0.04251639704020193,0.0,0.05934854536398562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07378181662324741,0.12015967530168155,0.0,0.07537044051317457,0.0,0.3898044654781048,0.0,0.0,0.08996055212922915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808829941481943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235481680076021,0.0,0.2333550363002032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06575014031792066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764031232293688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053885438046802285,0.0,0.18219652945653084,0.0,0.03963814983055505,0.0,0.05578209384926349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061675987444081135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140247434245745,0.0,0.06996073188727342,0.0,0.06868557139932363,0.08047729787882217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07279650274925445,0.0692119522257711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11499141576787535,0.0,0.0,0.14770147979085751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24634730414208425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30389452524555505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14825751167247914,0.0,0.0,0.05379226662058517,0.0,0.07417545777882358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07318649271385252,0.0,0.0945231287185876,0.05304482965158805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20021195588596505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05956253872405305,0.2653769391542796,0.1109293314107825,0.06982772080076559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057694452894570834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053693730268959516,0.0,0.0,0.04936644169700695,0.14867950214845188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0729134616866662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18288273040307151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13407089215962373,0.0,0.0,0.20334670686621475,0.0,0.0,0.19993532455516969,0.0,0.04735282521937601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12047596878347085,0.0,0.0,0.04113788445573047,0.0,0.05594587996554885,0.0,0.06270985729168377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015515574043664,0.0,0.0,0.09909084142488213,0.0,0.0,0.08982802695491736
divorce,Trez1593,2020/02/23,"Just Starting Hello,

I'm 32 years old, one kid, don't own a house.  I guess we can count 3x cats and a dog.  We've been married for 9 years now, but been together 15.

Right now we aren't doing anything, but everything is starting to point towards a divorce

We've grown to far apart.  She doesn't think I do enough and ever since she had our son he's all she is concerned about.  She says that I make her skin crawl etc.  I just can't take the emotional abuse. I work full time (gave up full time work when we had our son) and I spend most of my time playing with my son or cleaning when I'm home. She's more of a way ahead planner and I'm not.  Anyways we've been like this for over 3 years now.  We not even remotely intimate, and I'm tried of trying and being alome


I'm not really sure where to start.  A last summer she told me she consulted with a lawyer.  That hasn't come up in a while.  Reacent arguments and just me coming to the realization that there most likely is no way to turn this around made me think about this more seriously.  I have no idea financially how to do this, and how to even handle the split.  I'm trying to look at how to budget anything.  We don't share any bank accounts or anything.  I pay for the insurance and daycare (only a few days a week).  So I'm assuming some chunk of cash would be allocated for child care.  Does that also factor into how much support I'd have to pay?  Not trying to dodge anything I'm just looking at renting and not finding anything cheap.  Then trying to take account for all of that.",2.392953942609118,3.8693910407523537,3.6583228840125375,90.68705992283579,75.89655172413794,6.663178201109236,23.55449722691102,7.321109707123232,0.7728730648661681,1198,36,265,14,26,391,171,319,0.092,0.865,0.043,-0.9169,1,0,0,0,2,0,33.0,7,0,0,4,24,8,0,0,13,0,23,1,1,6,4,54,50,24,0,1,13,3,1,2,0,1,0,1,3,2,9,21,0,0,5,1,10,3,13,1,0,1,8,4,28,7,36,39,14,44,0,0,2,0,28,16,0,7,25,168,37,6,0.0,0.12730251628504766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08592221635849268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07306499927444937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.442082624482634,0.09564714728415608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10954541149266894,0.0,0.0,0.18510545143989668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06929191749168401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09402418972729687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12085903745694587,0.0,0.11101745412533362,0.1198274691063464,0.14193032185086607,0.09718844435312704,0.0,0.0,0.09656293941946828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982010561692276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836069905933246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777419984321557,0.0,0.0,0.1239749235100833,0.0,0.12129019332444392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08758047500259891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10498255290370484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804503045527679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016652686774214,0.07171911032592118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898304851344948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11274347021234665,0.0,0.07280623207842822,0.08171532683121534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10156846776182392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06883080759188231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917558289978824,0.0,0.08544307363167221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888780509918533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281463590850248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12192516812509327,0.10126385976721478,0.0,0.1615676947260828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13769041322639433,0.0,0.0,0.18795282466659727,0.0,0.0,0.1026664961093067,0.0,0.3647340951604776,0.11686725076338488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17056667952337648,0.08618438208346478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15643972764211322,0.0,0.0,0.07632450274795029,0.0,0.0,0.20756952080261434
divorce,hypernovapulsar,2020/02/23,"Wife said she filed papers... 6 weeks ago.  Yes, it's been six weeks.  I've been told that isn't normal.  One person told me it took 2 weeks for them, another 4 weeks, a third took less than a week.  So six weeks seems highly unusual, but is it still possible?",1.1992452830188682,3.0413572264150983,2.5704150943396264,95.51373584905664,80.50943396226415,6.504150943396226,16.260377358490565,7.554174236665415,-0.111359245283019,195,3,46,3,5,63,41,53,0.0,0.96,0.04,0.2144,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,3,10,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,7,1,3,0,2,3,1,11,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,8,23,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391553510031917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16460964544059345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658604353523036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15380933878061614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063752797807806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13707090288653173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769739738059342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14932613071848336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14291080427336958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253662800157228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30000665975889057,0.3488262575069088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7555304672533889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,mrylndgrrl,2020/02/23,"Regret - so much regret I’ve been divorced less 10 months. He cheated on me multiple times. I miss him. He’s a wonderful dad. I am sorry we didn’t try harder. 
I am having a SUPER rough week accepting the reality of my choices to move on. I regret not trying to make it work with him, for my kids, and my own sake. I’ve spent the last 4 days absolutely sick about my decision. I thought him cheating was reason enough to move on. I was wrong. It was reason enough to try therapy, but I refused it because he cheated on me repeatedly. I’m so mad at myself for not trying therapy before leaving him.
I don’t know why I’m posting this. Maybe he’ll see it and know I’m sorry for giving up too soon. Or maybe someone will see it and give words of encouragement to help me move on. I don’t know.",1.2246136363636353,3.17466377575758,3.736117424242426,86.64417613636368,80.93939393939394,6.5492424242424265,23.03977272727273,7.645422480735847,1.0963409090909089,613,21,130,10,16,214,96,165,0.183,0.7170000000000001,0.1,-0.8829,0,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,1,0,0,2,5,12,4,0,4,0,11,1,0,3,0,24,27,7,0,3,4,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,6,5,0,1,9,0,1,3,5,9,0,0,7,3,22,3,19,18,5,18,0,4,2,0,17,7,0,2,7,78,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07767217830366509,0.0,0.10842242331154864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08217337935138988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633115001778211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444598605368969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08540488280373906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21007503858964996,0.103861804618514,0.0,0.1349161320417496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08505179064013338,0.0,0.2560148657427957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017029784434008,0.4062720979364937,0.09366610483255626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220301983023082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26201165200561605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030695940587588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10795995188483437,0.0,0.0,0.2852656442455566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2914247294651401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011548103536856,0.07429783694155066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3460309282692873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10220617612378276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11497396150636947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13817822608423908,0.09276104306614318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13931041145788206,0.0,0.0
divorce,Cclearly3,2020/02/23,"Too much introspection is a bad thing If there’s a new phase in the pending divorce phase that I haven’t hit yet, I must have run into it like a brick wall. 

I’ve never felt more alone than I do now. Even with my STBX in the same space. This is new. I know I have a lot to be thankful for; our beautiful son, new job, my health, life, etc. but this really blows. 

Anywho.",-0.28781997187060426,1.7428999367088631,1.5751054852320685,99.40403656821381,87.60759493670885,5.030098452883263,15.106891701828413,6.42735559955562,-0.7491277074542895,281,5,70,3,9,92,61,79,0.031,0.858,0.111,0.5829,1,1,0,0,1,0,13.0,1,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,6,0,8,2,0,0,2,10,12,2,0,2,2,1,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,1,8,2,7,8,5,12,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,2,7,47,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23466908711790715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18918527114060305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25269717527876023,0.1496542974895379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21755283316789664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24084449892429824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22484620559653587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12452272899936673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16004052308608555,0.11069579775892212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19263065674530586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16656275395869888,0.0,0.1747528663925216,0.6564986386028314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14515328397020533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20860490210307012,0.0,0.0,0.15053003045752375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,MaterialSuccotash,2020/02/23,"I think I need to leave my husband. No idea where to start. Almost ten years together, six years married. You can click through my posts for recent events if you're interested but we've been in a bad place for a long time. I(33/f) carried him(40/m) through his depression four years ago, was his emotional punching bag but I stuck it out because I knew he was suffering. Then two years ago when I got slammed by my own depression he offered no support and was quite cruel. I've never been closer to suicide and he was nothing but angry with me for it. I clawed my way out but it shattered me. We've been in counseling, but with these latest developments, I think I'm out.


We have a fairly new, fairly large mortgage together, on his family home, that I pretty much single handedly cleaned out, fixed up, modernized etc etc. I invested a lot of time and energy into it as I believed it was my forever home. It's been a huge labor of love. Ironically. I have no savings, am already racking up a bit of CC debt because work is slow (freelance) and we have two dogs together, who I absolutely will not abandon. Rental prices, especially dog-friendly, are out of control in my area. I have no leg to stand on, and on top of this I'll almost certainly need to get a lawyer to help separate our assets amicably. I suspect he will fight me for the house and it does pain me to think he could lose his family home over this, but I can't walk away with nothing (To be clear, I wouldn't try to take the house, but we may need to sell it). I'm too old to start from scratch and I invested everything into our future together. I can't afford any of this. I have no idea where to even start. I know I'll look back on this decision with pride and relief, but right now I'm incredibly overwhelmed. Not sure if I'm just venting or if I'm hoping someone can suggest a starting point.

If it weren't for my dogs I'd already be up and out and I'd sort myself out as I go along, but they are my babies and I can't stand the thought of them losing either one of us to this mess, so I need to make sure we ""share custody"" and keep them comfortable and happy.",4.130413793103447,4.7728979494252926,5.288045977011496,83.86655172413795,70.65517241379311,8.666666666666668,29.02298850574713,8.841846274778883,2.095712643678161,1668,61,352,29,29,554,224,435,0.17300000000000001,0.693,0.134,-0.9684,4,0,0,0,1,1,56.0,7,1,3,7,9,25,2,1,11,0,31,4,2,2,5,81,61,32,1,11,18,1,2,0,0,4,1,0,4,0,17,31,0,3,10,0,5,2,13,12,0,6,14,4,51,13,59,40,8,62,0,7,2,1,28,30,0,11,26,227,68,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156457444943415,0.0,0.17674020843056185,0.0,0.194773190070727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06001335009170983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08291422747033991,0.06785916886389215,0.07368546144872122,0.10759334242843543,0.0,0.0,0.09942806615671257,0.0,0.0,0.0963466633983548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09898041321116736,0.07046082428363164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15202001176882896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07722858648089871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992699075983865,0.0,0.0,0.19684521797011686,0.058288607256879135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0793138376351375,0.0,0.1663893898453941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0681820990404448,0.0,0.046107231439562135,0.0,0.05015477938918368,0.0,0.07058196769617928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09394427298521672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059152433994048924,0.0,0.2655672695656865,0.0876526354409573,0.0,0.20365840172684094,0.0,0.1992480916157752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07844107816058819,0.0,0.0,0.04850015380083753,0.0,0.0,0.0934445119920308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07809889440583237,0.07410817360445758,0.1974594186652673,0.0,0.07502739904576929,0.07964950034947674,0.0,0.05890787817691257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648742542779402,0.2617464397037489,0.0680642077577469,0.08523285989135823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16935742419185676,0.0,0.092604029502453,0.0,0.05980080665119416,0.0,0.09390472885736288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09220296453089707,0.0,0.08342522513649636,0.0,0.08451956156822879,0.08978246097104092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09386524446386388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871366986857997,0.0,0.0,0.07536542453002681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07477434214790325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498565652662009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965316973919226,0.10014559463960176,0.16635005893917373,0.0,0.06635337523706543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16964202535996128,0.0,0.07006102047323412,0.10291912479255284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05991628046427215,0.0,0.172415784012326,0.0,0.1061544569411597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700491203302897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06424739777230791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22732165321281536
divorce,mylife-isa-shitshow,2020/02/23,Fml how do people do it I don’t have anyone I can turn to for advice. I also can’t post to much info on here because Stbxw is on here. What we are trying is clearly not working and I just don’t know what to do next. So frustrating and I feel like I’m going insane.,-1.587500000000002,0.34371624999999995,1.6916666666666664,96.2925,94.83333333333334,3.6666666666666665,14.166666666666668,5.148860815047168,-1.0498333333333334,205,4,48,1,8,73,42,60,0.10099999999999999,0.809,0.09,-0.1761,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,0,1,6,2,1,0,0,0,11,0,0,1,1,10,16,5,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,6,1,6,16,1,5,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,36,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3199505723892111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618372774615872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289393461730502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19959190467101184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16555315071551485,0.2339085755220213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860800625893734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17994120928783086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599606423010766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24069102573066906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3482143814754747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22699147407001335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31357739976489984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22229636646190973,0.3561384245098181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23836531521567536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,idontevencarethrowaw,2020/02/23,"Has the divorce been filed? I work with domestic abuse survivors in Arkansas. I know how to get information here, but the guy I am working with right now's needs to be ex wife is in Louisiana. He can't file because she said she would fight him if he did anything but no fault. Then she turned around and claimed to have filed a month ago in Louisiana. He hasn't gotten papers of any kind. The free look up just has completed cases and we can't find a paper with Webster parish filings. How can he look this up to see if he's a free man? 

Before anyone says to just file it as abuse: The guy picked driving until his car broke down and being homeless there over her the last time she beat him up. She was a cop so there's no documentation to help with an abuse filing so he couldn't get a protective order",3.5713636363636354,4.675911303030304,4.433106060606062,87.7696590909091,72.33333333333333,7.4393939393939394,24.65909090909091,7.793537801064563,1.0421818181818177,635,18,138,8,12,205,107,165,0.166,0.742,0.092,-0.9295,0,0,0,0,5,0,11.0,1,0,0,3,11,6,1,0,11,0,16,0,0,3,0,24,26,14,0,5,6,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,3,2,9,0,1,3,0,2,2,6,3,0,0,5,5,13,5,22,17,0,20,0,1,3,0,27,10,0,2,7,84,15,4,0.0,0.5808962162390083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14486652958494162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11113470195932726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114270660459668,0.0,0.1344849687296325,0.14548302624019524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09962245088233952,0.0,0.13906276065376294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17134815411705195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493676208558412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707657851586359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3236331723103142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10954042912204487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17018213886431513,0.08981418516714648,0.1332133043662922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744719224537737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13044439071804992,0.0,0.0,0.12117767347156265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13956417997634352,0.1554547358587588,0.12996223385805689,0.0,0.0,0.1302286809874413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952945156557356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17775962788432698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23795090233011715,0.0,0.0,0.11609253335137645,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,nottanaut,2020/02/24,"Would you really rather know? I read so many posts from folks who say their spouses want a divorce and won’t communicate with them, and they feel cut off. Well, my wife and I are in couples counseling and I just admitted to be being attracted to other people and let me tell you, I don’t think y’all really want to know. I feel like I just destroyed her entire world. And mine, too. I’ve never felt so awful. I though I’d feel at least a little relief with being honest, but I just feel worse, and now so does she. So think about it—do you REALLY want to know...? 

God this sucks. Does it get better?",1.4245121951219524,3.4457297642276465,3.085548780487805,91.19710365853659,80.62601626016259,6.376422764227643,16.754065040650403,7.492282038375204,0.09847479674796757,463,8,101,7,12,153,81,123,0.111,0.721,0.168,0.2955,0,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,0,4,3,1,13,9,3,0,2,1,8,0,0,0,1,30,24,13,0,5,5,2,5,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,4,9,0,0,11,1,0,0,3,3,1,0,1,6,20,6,11,17,1,8,0,0,0,0,16,5,1,0,3,67,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15378516820604238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19239796340756726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.304331944994145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35168138629031664,0.12422187640230235,0.16695471525569666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09084656382884664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28668424759479616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17780690003286315,0.0,0.08495033195260734,0.17427620323480567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17628982370254193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13410910179305172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205484098792564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16653161565033558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17392981222484127,0.0,0.3341812401262401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13827854757388885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15198119388181766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228340993193945,0.17083892598140366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3076816658203317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15634148109572038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17720138468538232,0.12352132169053502,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwawayimscared06,2020/02/24,"Informal custody arrangement I (32f) just recently left my husband (34m) of ten years due to various reasons, not the least of which was his narcissism, emotional and mental abuse, and spousal rape. We have two small but school aged children and I’ve been a stay at home mom since they’ve been born (nearly 7 years). 

I work part time at night in a field where my shifts are 10-12 hours long. I do this so that even when the kids don’t have school I can still care for them during the day with the help of lots of coffee. I’ve been in this field nearly 14 years and I adore my job. It’s also worth noting that I recently had pretty major surgery so I’m off work for another few weeks. 

Here’s the issue: he’s not asking for a huge amount of custody. Only six days a month so that he can have a social life in addition to work and the kids. He wants the kids one night one week and two nights the next week so he has every other weekend off. The problem is that they’re not the same days every week so I can’t set a work schedule for myself. He says that every other weekend is standard for divorced couples and that I’m the one who wants to get divorced so I should be the one to figure it out. Where we live the cost of living and child care is so high that that’s not an option. 

I was hoping to figure this out between the two of us before mediation and lawyers but he’s really digging his heels in on this. I know I can’t control him. I’m just scared that I won’t be able to work because the schedule will be considered “consistent” even if it is HIGHLY inconvenient for everyone involved other than him. I don’t mind that I’ll have majority custody, or that I’ll only work and take care of kids, and have no social life, I’d just like him to pick the same day or two to see his kids so I can schedule around that. His schedule isn’t changing at all. I’m doing all the compromising and being told if I want to be a single mom then every other weekend and one day the week in between is the best he’ll offer. 

Is there a chance a judge would actually approve this? Should I just give up my career and apply for assistance and child support? Is there an in between that I’m not seeing?

I’m sorry for the rambling. Ask any clarification questions if they’re necessary.",3.4032208704377283,4.445350298507464,4.558575818387058,86.94868274175344,72.66737739872069,7.308691834942932,25.09475730590744,7.618777277803332,1.1209926752790662,1786,53,379,21,34,587,216,469,0.049,0.841,0.11,0.9829,1,0,0,0,4,0,37.0,3,0,1,9,23,11,1,1,31,0,40,4,1,3,2,63,64,33,0,11,16,3,0,1,0,6,2,1,1,8,27,22,0,1,7,3,2,0,12,3,0,11,7,3,32,8,48,46,14,63,0,0,2,1,44,25,0,9,37,251,59,11,0.07265977426613174,0.0860899510911524,0.07090545838529863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05810599522937216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04941113811079667,0.07619010864046474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06468260386356875,0.13585416118058571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04429272398899168,0.0,0.061828116255231075,0.0,0.0762519503404695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22224444715328207,0.0,0.0768644068313173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08149411522547738,0.0,0.08039665821448083,0.0,0.2342977170425305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08173246631114957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09598219126425656,0.0,0.2448759744383341,0.06942952807750853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03796173313246482,0.06970187630644348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048702315088280435,0.15353808162119362,0.07288367790480428,0.07216755053550551,0.07155524145519111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07583792673183877,0.07210361437204223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03993191171940768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07894505733978235,0.0,0.102643494737959,0.035497895519469094,0.0,0.12831982373153722,0.064301613755773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06177274174294875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0732239626989673,0.0,0.07336565903547923,0.17019649890311622,0.057996338604544576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.077274494239198,0.20455882812200527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24618071746234504,0.1105220650084376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07868345488690795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392111208902723,0.0,0.06952559105583067,0.0,0.0,0.08139557614859222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04654771195473744,0.0747063494138987,0.14348552269464734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0577819688462228,0.07274510964050386,0.14707114135507549,0.11580086559484025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0601049161183337,0.0,0.0,0.1481349792063697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08133666854759833,0.0,0.07744565167710643,0.058026189587389525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824534507799253,0.0,0.0,0.05463110762765196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04236849868900778,0.0,0.0,0.06942952807750853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2839121663195126,0.0,0.08740076208011636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12856985223600548,0.0,0.2914164407313505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31738308623687284,0.0,0.0,0.051615418927892315,0.0,0.0,0.14037153714933984
divorce,bklabunde,2020/02/24,"Sleeping with ex Divorced a couple months, I know she banged it out with someone in the meantime, but now we are in a way dating and in bed together.  Not sure about either of our mental states, or how I should feel about her action while divorced.  We are adults and should be able to do as we please right, or is it a flaw.",7.482272727272727,5.2155711666666695,6.935454545454547,84.52318181818183,64.60606060606061,9.406060606060604,31.09090909090909,6.42735559955562,1.550672727272728,251,6,55,1,3,78,51,66,0.038,0.9159999999999999,0.046,0.1298,0,0,0,0,2,0,7.0,4,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,4,0,7,1,1,1,1,19,9,8,0,2,5,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,8,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,8,1,11,6,1,12,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,2,4,42,10,0,0.3226372593592386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35699199082224803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16313509249699545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17731300005056633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32514247234084703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25752598228154183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35415882462583304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755304566327546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32287026412939285,0.0,0.2733695028576028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040817986909566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25609443895108425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,mbonness,2020/02/24,"Anyone else handling their own case? I was initially considering mediation but my wife talked me out of it so we're going it pro se.  She is trusting me with the paperwork (I also did the forms to get her naturalized years ago), and I have to say the amount of paperwork is not trivial.

Thankfully my state and county have resources available online to make things easier.  I have also found the courthouse clerks to be quite helpful with navigating the e-filing system.  It was very satisfying getting the petition to be accepted successfully on the 2nd attempt.  Tomorrow I plan to file her signed entry of appearance and stipulation and hopefully pick our hearing date.

I am so looking forward to this all being over.  It's been a long road but I feel like the end is near.",4.916375291375289,7.168289769230771,6.0561013986014025,72.86825466200469,70.88811188811191,9.521911421911422,31.497086247086248,9.928628108626363,3.5792149184149182,619,28,104,17,12,206,102,143,0.019,0.785,0.196,0.9812,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,1,4,4,6,0,0,9,0,14,0,0,2,1,19,25,10,0,1,3,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,6,7,0,0,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,5,4,16,6,16,17,4,16,0,0,1,0,10,6,0,2,8,75,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011475731110327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3629297022151465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15866512503000074,0.23250252405218386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895594179382257,0.0,0.20098045401046655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11473567910660795,0.16210902145556874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24880196669704344,0.0,0.0,0.2371087604119019,0.0,0.128961739822636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557511167465676,0.0,0.15209718586183868,0.0,0.0,0.2253790467064216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11085982263352508,0.0,0.0,0.2008137494264912,0.19055250804612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15146836555705928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24135337414219574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18045291767211602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823866943208384,0.0,0.2089140050103326,0.0,0.0,0.1507530802016843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872296790603761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14612663167253806
divorce,Riot4000,2020/02/24,"Yesterday So. Yesterday was the day.

Separated in September 2018, divorce finalised yesterday.

For those who don't know, in Australia, you have to be separated for 12months and 1 day before you can apply, and even for us, lodging by consent and as joint applicants, it still took 4 months to get a court date (even though we didn't have to go it's done in chambers), and THEN another month after the court date to get the certificate.

So that's it then.

The last text between us was me ""mail redirection finishes at the end of the week I'll forward anything else on,  and that's it. Done"".

And yep. That's it.

16 years to end on a text.",2.066972307692307,4.453367648000004,3.5472,86.75698461538461,80.52,7.366153846153848,26.415384615384607,8.384062270229773,1.9722923076923082,496,21,101,11,13,163,78,125,0.0,0.965,0.035,0.4767,0,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,3,2,0,0,6,0,0,0,8,1,10,0,0,0,0,8,15,12,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,6,0,6,0,19,8,0,28,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,0,20,67,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19625615871020294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540187576224899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592614686218604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414086067698071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38306435678623135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15635021949008926,0.0,0.3315407742810709,0.0,0.0,0.24723807982741955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19556932141195432,0.0,0.10636873939792206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028595935069149,0.1525623854553652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2987825804920586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14946818263181805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838861670534709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079443800887978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4502667902767116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15013043625602454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12052648812624114
divorce,bearxfoo,2020/02/24,"my husband left me for another women Friday my entire world came collapsing in on itself when my husband told me he didn't love me anymore and had feelings for somebody else. We were together for 13 years, married for 6. He's 32, I'm 31. 

He proceeded to tell me he hasn't loved me for *years*, that we had all these problems that I was completely unaware of. He never told me things were not working on his end, he never mentioned anything, never tried to fix a thing he's claiming. No suggestions of counseling, nothing. I am 100% blindsided by this. 

He left me Friday, and fucked the other girl on Saturday. She is 7 years younger than him. She was 11 when we started dating. 11. How disgusting is that?

I loved my husband with every fiber of my being, I supported him through everything, I gave my life to him. I am devastated, lost, empty. I haven't eaten since Friday, I can barely get out of bed, I can't function as an adult. My husband was my entire world, I never loved another human as much as I love him. 

He makes more money than I do. He owns the home we shared. I packed all my things Friday night because I could not stay there. I'm now living with my mother, at 31 years old, because I will never be able to afford an apartment. Or my bills. Or anything. 

We had an entire life together. Finances. Bank accounts. Cars. We had plans. But he hasn't loved me for years apparently. 

My entire life feels like a lie, I'm drowning in my sadness and I want to die. 

I have an appointment with an attorney on Thursday. At this point I don't even know if I'll survive to Thursday. 

I don't know what purpose of this post is. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to survive this. I want to die. I want to die and it kills me that he doesn't care. That he never cared. It kills me that another women has seen him in ways that only I was supposed to. It kills me. 

I don't know what to do. I am a shell of a human.",0.6943072497123133,2.9193461493670942,2.7582249712312996,91.2769922324511,84.9746835443038,5.514959723820484,22.14182968929804,6.883109765328512,0.664759493670886,1479,52,314,19,44,497,178,395,0.185,0.787,0.027999999999999997,-0.9964,3,0,0,0,0,3,61.0,6,0,0,5,7,19,5,0,11,0,37,11,0,3,8,44,70,15,7,6,6,5,2,1,0,1,3,0,2,6,23,15,1,0,7,0,5,2,20,8,0,0,18,3,64,11,44,48,5,44,0,2,1,7,51,16,1,3,24,208,87,2,0.0802926747807466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25258161106468313,0.0,0.0,0.07962875809718056,0.0,0.0,0.1321480599305714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978913385933594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09183342973654726,0.16372746633045945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08418534187554792,0.0,0.0,0.06410716733801616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499933595317284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06707422684831903,0.0,0.07111547772724906,0.0,0.0,0.05303255443443216,0.0,0.06765004149744633,0.0,0.0721618787913779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08119677778817086,0.05736110290660039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07422928401587581,0.0419496086150002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08054009946963034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664958448862566,0.0,0.22063377112323215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17447645216495378,0.0,0.17013927220241373,0.03922694515821256,0.0,0.07089990286139355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764893937630706,0.0,0.4348036429496712,0.0,0.05359598389898602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059024354557416885,0.0,0.3715599640638053,0.0,0.0,0.07534923610677323,0.0,0.07704298695754032,0.0,0.08425365550069834,0.0,0.0,0.061066197297253565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07590253055383919,0.0,0.0768981874946487,0.0,0.0,0.07682924600258594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06641893030024065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05683156847394155,0.08558130803595655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09111517582994684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07017933680127014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16002865607277542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15344618323997694,0.0,0.05451345562653173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14207609969146442,0.06373258792457683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0584540235215248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585292503002586
divorce,throwaway14150,2020/02/24,"When you marry a man, you marry is family. When you divorce him, do you have to divorce them, too? We have been together for just shy of 20 years. When we met, his youngest sibling was 19. 

His extended family is my family. His siblings, my siblings. His brother's kids, my niece and nephew. 

I find the whole process of separating ourselves from each other so insanely confusing. It's still so fresh and there are family events this time of year and it's so insanely awkward to decide how these people who are (were?) my family fit into this mess I created the day I said I was done. 

You don't just stop loving family. You don't stop caring or wanting to be together. Someone you called a sister and feels like a sister doesn't just stop being a sister because I don't love her brother anymore. 

It's very hard to know what the boundaries are with them. And I realize that's for us to decide but I guess what I'm looking for is other people's stories of marital demise when the in law family is so close :( .",3.080402941176473,4.939087905000001,4.692235294117649,82.37582352941179,74.95,8.105882352941178,25.764705882352942,8.841846274778883,2.0674088235294117,791,28,152,17,17,266,111,200,0.095,0.846,0.059000000000000004,-0.7903,0,0,0,0,2,0,25.0,3,7,2,0,15,7,0,2,8,0,21,2,0,1,0,30,32,16,0,1,5,6,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,12,11,0,3,6,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,7,4,29,4,16,23,2,17,0,0,1,2,34,4,0,3,14,110,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11626206538731924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07146318415831435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197063847820156,0.0,0.11952524346154515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756045661361644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11996844223813355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7736074312863694,0.0,0.059275727224874286,0.0837501482652415,0.0,0.0,0.10714739199818796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12914362343960115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050163237077506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06442732132949915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05727334912548854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984448654237926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116118630807796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16254700851290166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151392400571812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09932979983007152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09362116164992453,0.29403214354565305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06835858244068206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14101496123066876,0.0,0.0,0.09672819711182967,0.06914612755082508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13088469134367814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15098637889723676
divorce,IFeltaThi,2020/02/24,"First Collaborative Divorce Meeting Today Hello All, me (35/M) and my wife (32/F) are having our first Collaborative Divorce meeting with our coach and lawyers today. We live in NC and own our house and have two very young kids. This has been a emotionally tumultuous time for me as I never wanted to proceed with divorce. Nothing untoward happened between us. I think have two kids so close together really zapped us and we forgot to more work appreciating each other. 

​

I'd appreciate and words of encouragement or advice you have on the collaborative process for those of you have been through it. I've made a ton of notes for myself, but I'm trying to enter this negotiation with an open mind.  Thanks!",4.783128205128207,7.429866107692307,5.7903846153846175,72.84378205128206,72.53846153846155,8.025641025641027,29.294871794871803,8.841846274778883,2.7021794871794875,574,24,96,12,12,189,92,130,0.0,0.9209999999999999,0.079,0.8394,0,0,0,0,3,0,20.0,7,2,0,3,1,2,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,1,2,24,16,10,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,14,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,4,4,0,15,2,17,12,5,13,0,0,0,0,19,4,0,1,8,69,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17064640375193568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892115196702242,0.2121945503333069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964352326021904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29708035815814376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15442472217970182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20149956055390028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542014792886411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652391175738734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17632650705514538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13468541279264912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16756218384238694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11187244234279607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607758312084803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11189584543420523,0.0,0.0,0.1018281506800132,0.0,0.3310576204564626,0.0,0.0,0.1185622992344628,0.0,0.34117624823195425,0.0,0.4201167492843488,0.0,0.0,0.1440880293130188,0.10300129177334318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12713271152167244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121945503333069,0.0
divorce,throwaway24983785789,2020/02/24,"I (23m) have decided to divorce my wife (24f). My wife has been emotionally and mentally manipulating me for the entirety of our relationship. Most of what she does falls under gaslighting and playing the victim. I didn’t realize it until about a year or more into our relationship. That’s also when she quit taking her birth control without telling me because she thought I was going to leave her. She even admitted this to my mother a while later.

I’ve tried for years to make this work but I can’t. I can’t make her see how she’s treating me. She’s also extremely irrational. She believes every conspiracy there is, including the anti-vaccine stuff. We have a 4yo who is unvaccinated. I haven’t done it myself because I’m afraid she’ll file suit and get full custody, preventing me from taking care of my kid properly.

I’m afraid that her friends (also my friends) and family will disown me for leaving her. Some of them are the type to go online and blast people, even going as far as lying, to make sure she gets what she wants. I’m afraid to lose my job, my home and any chance at seeing my kid.

I intend to hire an attorney to file. I also intend to keep my house, so long as I can afford it. I don’t know what to do. I’ve seen first hand (my parents) how difficult it is so work with someone so separated from reality, so manipulative that they’ll do anything to get their way. Please help me.",3.609584695879661,5.229106773381297,5.213001962066709,80.1947024198823,72.9928057553957,8.220013080444735,27.02485284499673,8.841846274778883,2.094562589928057,1105,40,216,22,22,374,159,278,0.08900000000000001,0.8140000000000001,0.09699999999999999,0.4957,3,0,0,0,1,0,36.0,3,0,3,6,15,12,1,3,8,0,21,1,1,10,1,33,44,24,0,1,3,4,1,0,2,3,0,0,1,2,14,9,0,3,5,1,0,4,6,6,0,1,6,4,48,6,31,35,4,19,0,1,3,0,36,5,0,3,9,148,62,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3779009835253329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08033817171303392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972178475322436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440321596109156,0.0,0.0,0.13310153557143792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12044998516752975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13250227525432348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033837209950124,0.12089661287997205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13288981318971335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560586146769243,0.0,0.09953670789119473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113703813584702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004884734143376,0.0,0.0,0.1825468890537078,0.0,0.1851673338154053,0.0,0.20142234715976212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07918568772107709,0.0,0.11850246026440325,0.0,0.0,0.13631586658410155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11723414545850687,0.105006849259218,0.0,0.0,0.06492578198360713,0.0,0.0,0.25018304222591503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10454877756008812,0.0,0.1321666650740555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23657492332931945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11905573345887008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13117872646395934,0.0,0.0,0.08190230028983128,0.0,0.0,0.12968050074540458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256547437545151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536728861511331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18828203883535766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10009829363012404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352402180699366,0.0,0.0,0.11134405577347344,0.0,0.17765076755050585,0.0,0.10325817978174463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09378870342295044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08020822735256594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06968109661762432,0.0937727730386973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138812139761702,0.0,0.17201234280238165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15215452880062336
divorce,sikozu76,2020/02/24,"I don't matter anymore We've been married 25 years, have a 12 year old son. Years have gone by with good and bad, with joy and sorrow, with depression and happiness. Now she's ""had enough"" ... and wants to divorce, wants to find something else, to ""live her life"", find that better man, be free. It's true, I was sometimes caught into my own web, depressed. We get into routines, we tend to forget what is important in life. I haven't always been perfect. Nobody is perfect! 

Over the last months I have started a journey to improve myself (physically and mentally), to do what I was supposed to do during these past years. I still love her, now more than I ever did in the last 10 years. But everything seems futile ... she doesn't care anymore, I don't matter anymore. 

I'm sorry, I am new to this group ... I guess there's nothing special about our situation, but it still hurts like hell. I am depressed, but I can't be! I need to be a good father to my son. I had so many plans for our family, now everything seems ruined. I would give anything to get my family back together. 

I won't give her the satisfaction and play it ""nice"". She can fucking sue me to get the divorce, she betrayed me! She was the one that had an online affair for years, building up that ideal mate. And I hate all her divorced friends, advising her how to get rid of me. 

Am I am bad person for wanting to put things back together? For wanting to provide a happy and supportive family for my son?",3.0722866205305657,4.8139237301038085,4.29517733564014,85.71582252018455,74.67474048442907,7.031199538638984,26.22851787773933,7.793537801064563,1.5038337946943483,1134,41,225,16,24,372,156,289,0.17800000000000002,0.6729999999999999,0.149,-0.8574,0,0,1,0,3,0,58.0,4,0,0,5,12,30,3,0,10,0,31,4,0,1,5,39,55,13,0,7,3,4,0,1,2,2,2,0,0,2,11,15,0,0,4,1,1,4,6,11,0,1,11,0,40,20,33,39,4,31,1,6,0,2,31,6,2,3,22,152,51,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07926118361333817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834070731008393,0.0,0.0,0.07838812629973611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14649300491057898,0.15907068781665404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08424678719329537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09712052765807376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461333011817265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07957472804981873,0.0,0.0,0.09842560794643562,0.0,0.0,0.08616511517211944,0.0,0.0,0.17122111279413987,0.0,0.2693985438347237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17412574861474298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07359507003083987,0.0880632601588326,0.19907072234369744,0.18275776314817885,0.0,0.15979355744227222,0.0,0.0,0.10493596573317117,0.0,0.0,0.20280500150757044,0.0,0.09404624451571476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10197423965246633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15529380608271992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13456521182835873,0.0465375993114134,0.0,0.08411338831698137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08597286734548887,0.0,0.0,0.09657531630041853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959963227738236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760329683777186,0.0,0.0,0.07063161677119123,0.0,0.0919994893221514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914013477808078,0.0,0.099955855455965,0.0,0.06454838755821675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909332738414794,0.0,0.08317445350750657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957592674305796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17343619682137068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10707249266376484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07333324145808999,0.09421128628367686,0.10663204775385468,0.0674231641340475,0.0,0.15214420579411458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10809614480202004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328430151453031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22473941734021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676676081555192,0.0,0.0,0.3680530496237632
divorce,charlie_on_the_mta,2020/02/24,"Order of proceedings (South Carolina) Let me know if this should go to /r/legaladvice instead of here. My wife is divorcing me and has filed a complaint for separate maintenance and child support/child visitation. A temporary order has been signed by the judge. I did not have an attorney during those proceedings because I cannot afford one.

Since then - I have been getting subpoenas duces tecum and a lot of demands for production of documents.   It's all quite overwhelming and I still cannot afford an attorney.

I know that we have to be separated for 1 year to file for a no-fault divorce. Do I have to participate in any mediation or additional proceedings prior to that? I realize that if I want any changes to the temporary order we would have to go back to the judge, but I'm trying to figure out how long I have before I absolutely have to retain counsel. 

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Thanks,

Chuck",6.4514545454545456,7.67042953939394,7.209090909090912,70.09363636363639,65.72727272727272,11.575757575757574,35.0,11.389717465364855,4.506454545454545,714,33,122,23,11,237,103,165,0.011000000000000001,0.955,0.034,0.5267,2,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,2,0,0,1,5,2,0,1,9,0,20,0,0,1,1,25,28,10,0,5,5,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,8,0,1,4,0,0,3,3,1,0,1,3,0,15,1,21,21,2,18,0,1,0,0,7,3,0,4,9,89,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23709779120210436,0.2658974425914308,0.2976182567954334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16826362396029948,0.0,0.1333942488105182,0.0,0.18620473929952333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314888064251352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11432751067667588,0.0,0.2487276245861565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405220039617427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2237643275115151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19365405176676934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18603797056633398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14828210559226668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327483000725819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18101506101582293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747546611328374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24832105903797586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20146550550754772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14856843450826013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290691962782554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15544765403540353,0.0,0.2658974425914308,0.1409167169839431
divorce,brownlaila,2020/02/24,"Man this hurts I mean I have been told many times that separation and divorce is tough and there are times you will slide back in to it. So I did, truth me told I missed him dislike all of his short comings I did. Also part of me started to build excuses how our child needs him and how all the road trips are better and truth be told being lonely sucks. This is just me getting it off my chest. Being married for nine years and slowly figuring out it was never love for him and I was more a of a necessity always stink a bit but boy does it hurt. We said we would try again but last two nights those fights reignite and every fight he is super nasty and mean and makes me feel more miserable. There is part of me always feel lost where I want him not sure why and my heart aches and then there is part of me the reality part that knows this relationship, us will never work out. I keep telling my self someday a man who truly appreciates me or truly loves me for who I am and who I don’t need to worry about will walk in but also there is this part which is pretty much 98 percent that says future is dark and lonely. Not sure how I am going to get through this but I know a healthy marriage should never look like this or a healthy marriage should never get to this stage.",4.788530534351146,4.90184513358779,4.983272900763357,88.50063454198475,69.0381679389313,7.771374045801528,25.153625954198475,7.1686216300943375,0.8215641221374046,1003,23,222,8,16,315,146,262,0.18100000000000002,0.6859999999999999,0.133,-0.8623,0,4,0,0,3,0,11.0,4,1,0,4,15,21,3,1,8,0,28,4,2,4,10,55,55,26,0,6,9,0,2,1,0,6,0,2,0,5,19,18,0,1,7,0,0,5,7,12,0,2,10,6,33,9,20,36,12,28,0,7,1,2,34,8,1,2,15,160,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15809633856837094,0.16449778411144453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.076007490668995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742242532871664,0.10791567656726574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08514821707925048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865019593461302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0832831337137415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09996035408067644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549309410395882,0.0,0.05617721216236882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11713455486232928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116362094857396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08786004332465752,0.0,0.0,0.10864780837077127,0.08057376203041257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048291809531504026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08300685681893563,0.0,0.10790353082370474,0.0,0.17842713832070753,0.0,0.06598135632699183,0.10021567182733394,0.0,0.21534742782749647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726641566532993,0.14658807650097316,0.3049486000287424,0.0,0.0,0.09276151746552226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5352100964119461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10056326475473418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061250333895384,0.0,0.0,0.09402644092622403,0.07860735947985076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311931672442304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06996464468622088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18632486610565915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08639691804154341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527733905820807,0.0,0.0,0.2833585622513037,0.0,0.0671108444820974,0.0,0.09655947246266257,0.0,0.11890116001289094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05830271273658547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08919433518543628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07196202913243015,0.10038425567759374,0.0,0.07021830289594143,0.0,0.0,0.06365443581430041
divorce,EquivalentRope6,2020/02/24,"Really confused :( Hi guys, I'm using a throwaway account and I'm posting here instead of r/relationships because I know my husband frequents that sub... let me tell you a story and please give me advice because lord knows I need it.

I've been head over heals infatuated with my husband since the day I met him. I knew from the moment I met him, we had a connection. We dated for 5 years and lived together for those 3 of the 5. We ended up getting married in 2018. 

Cut to now, I just got a new job six months ago (September 2019) and we also bought a house in December 2019. My husband didn't handle this well at all - he basically procrastinated and just didn't do anything until I either nagged him into it or asked him to do it a few times. He didn't have any credit so I had to do all the loan and bank stuff on my own. This is normally not how he is, and since there was a lot of stress surrounding buying the house (closing also wasn't easy, and I mostly packed our apartment myself,) I could understand the differences in behavior. 

At my new job, I met someone I instantly connected with. I have had attractions to other people in the past, but it was nothing like this. I wanted to keep things platonic, since I was married. About two weeks ago this person from work confessed that he had strong feelings for me and I told him that I felt the same but we couldn't act on anything because I love my husband and he said he respected that. But my husband is still dragging his feet with everything about the house (there's still unpacking to do and it's FEBRUARY,) and leaving me to do almost everything. I realized last night how mad I really was at him for how he acted. And how I kept trying to explain things and he just ignored my issues. So of course, I'm like, ""is this guy from work going to really be something?"" ""Is being married what I want?"" I got so upset, I had to be honest with my husband. I told him that I was considering really leaving him. It seriously broke his heart, I think. He started ugly crying, which I've only seen him do once, when his grandma died. It pained me to say that to him and for him to be so upset. 

I also thought last night how if this guy from work weren't in the equation, what would happen? Honestly I would probably just stick it out with my husband and see if things got better. And maybe I would end up leaving him if it got worse but I don't know. Maybe it will get better, and things will feel like they used to. This guy from work is very forward too - when I told him I was having doubts and I've been talking with my husband about it, he was immediately like ""well we should be in a relationship. I think we'd be great together"" :D I was like ""whoa, pump the breaks"" Also, if let's say I did leave my husband, I wouldn't want to be in a committed relationship so soon. I would at least not feel bad about being attracted to him and wanting to talk to him all the time, but I know I wouldn't be ready for a relationship with him. 

Last night, I did decide that I want to try working on my issues with my husband. But I feel like I change my mind about it every day, maybe even every hour. Because I really do care for this guy from work and I've gotten really close to him on a personal level. I am planning in about 30 min. to meet up with him and tell him we have to stop whatever we are doing but I still don't know if I want to do that. And I hate that. I feel like such an asshole. I don't want to keep juggling this anymore though, and I'm afraid I will end up cheating so I think if I want to work things out with my husband (which again, not even sure,) I do have to distance myself from the guy from work. 

My husband also said if I decided I wanted to work on things with him, I would have to gain his trust back. I feel like I've been pretty honest with him about my feelings but I guess I can understand. I haven't crossed the line with guy from work except for telling each other how we really feel about each other. I am worried my husband will never trust me again now and that could also be a strain on our relationship. 

What do you think, r/divorce? Am I just having a mental breakdown?",3.260462729261313,4.414978327444054,4.5651253575635184,86.33546525323912,73.14605418138987,7.557731785293622,25.37253912165573,8.010603183788097,1.327394548207976,3236,101,686,46,63,1072,307,849,0.12300000000000001,0.7759999999999999,0.1,-0.7389,2,0,1,0,1,0,100.0,12,2,1,15,53,43,5,7,28,0,84,6,3,8,6,156,153,63,1,29,26,13,9,8,0,12,2,4,0,9,47,54,0,5,27,0,6,5,16,17,2,2,42,15,131,26,98,83,12,79,2,1,2,1,98,32,0,14,50,491,178,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04351811727872785,0.07895342226961137,0.0,0.04459437616817795,0.0,0.0,0.21368298103223632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030284652630742138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044165769370610286,0.0,0.0,0.07329538821319198,0.0,0.041633285905793474,0.0,0.0,0.034243903293406285,0.03718403656020406,0.10859007190387704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0787734222583088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0454053892738123,0.0,0.04711107555010648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0711135633736373,0.0,0.048918516720178835,0.057441502010321076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046219269374127084,0.046528559863359235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11833173829545125,0.0,0.0,0.058828584653473286,0.0,0.07504364508716907,0.0,0.08004858978612593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801418606605656,0.1272604170832325,0.0427596316220564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04653436229700701,0.04272107853331051,0.02530970307859476,0.0,0.14247165808317913,0.049098901127276516,0.0490592307088024,0.30866968738319805,0.039381276269497716,0.0,0.0,0.0439681130750238,0.04570474035192406,0.0,0.0,0.05277301399792197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04385702726620322,0.15415879822250206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09296386827437034,0.08838626261883842,0.07916774519149745,0.0,0.0,0.1223736308797426,0.10890348138071992,0.0,0.18862033741514425,0.0,0.09107808106672344,0.0,0.17405653478677438,0.0,0.039324345035664364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037861221118583636,0.040193681016139265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342211906822487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04487980563435134,0.0,0.044966652942354836,0.0,0.03554662037039272,0.0,0.0,0.033021402703098474,0.03434737246596028,0.08602244502564665,0.0,0.1253764493004659,0.04363387245337468,0.042731581841788664,0.0,0.0,0.04742726517261752,0.0,0.033870119924251096,0.047387324478359874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04251274984059776,0.030874273848254113,0.07777075619771899,0.0,0.04888496756042198,0.0,0.0,0.04265126940397247,0.045307096482466516,0.0480151929421349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19970738154236706,0.0,0.0,0.23906429145432265,0.0,0.0,0.08472407973900473,0.07083046137914621,0.0,0.0,0.03548783860245363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11051697505704036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03773352052803212,0.03428445515491639,0.0,0.0,0.03152140013444491,0.0,0.1066947491393056,0.03723242485592352,0.05101355579115829,0.0,0.05098078458374186,0.0,0.0,0.04197277557724845,0.0,0.0,0.07158949755323625,0.11677405793386444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17751849672635206,0.11414237669343,0.04375443682728407,0.03535502791870152,0.05193627648913778,0.0,0.0,0.12766245955085134,0.0,0.06047133639477534,0.0,0.0435032548498876,0.0927229459752682,0.0,0.07692616862922334,0.0,0.036745220644789606,0.2364058062185663,0.0,0.035722495031976546,0.0,0.08008284316691794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3242128827985958,0.045226446937635015,0.04538395888047084,0.15817840798529306,0.0,0.0,0.02867844109883785
divorce,briannakaye,2020/02/24,"Divorce is equivalent to death... ...only you keep living it over and over instead of burying it and being done. 

My husband (33m) and I (33f) are getting a divorce, I guess. I don't want it. He does. He wants to be Polyamorous or whatever. He decided this over Christmas, our 1 year anniversary, losing my job and my birthday. We are living together, sleeping together, and have mixed finances. He loves me but is not in love with me. I have staked everything on this relationship. 10 years, 2 kids. I have zero will to live. I have been through too many effed up situations to want to continue living. I will not ever date, love, marry, open up to anyone else ever again. He was my person. My everything. I could never go through this kind of pain again. So eliminate the cause. Don't get involved in any way with anyone.  The only reason I am here is for my kids. And barely that. I'm on meds and I'm therapy for anxiety and depression. Losing the love of my life has absolutely destroyed everything I ever wanted or wished for. I have no hope whatsoever. I wish the people that love me would just let me go. 

Tl;Dr
I want to die but no one will let me.",1.3673333333333346,3.906799688888889,3.3408888888888915,85.95266666666667,85.44444444444444,6.533333333333335,23.0,7.793537801064563,1.454333333333334,890,33,173,18,27,299,129,225,0.22,0.741,0.039,-0.9928,1,0,0,0,2,1,45.0,2,1,0,2,10,12,1,0,5,0,26,8,1,2,4,38,47,13,2,10,7,1,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,3,8,12,0,1,2,0,1,2,7,5,0,2,3,0,28,7,26,35,0,23,0,3,0,5,21,10,0,4,10,122,36,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06628639081569407,0.0,0.074568162483718,0.0,0.0,0.13631367204762307,0.09987472926990523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10013374862039992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07782591254318172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08395513578658739,0.0,0.10116373432790306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08530109147037339,0.09975084021429577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08142791405951312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645153467104828,0.0,0.0,0.2628129256510953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10185340288325828,0.0,0.11079465828139468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10737978009957072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968147393869196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09672896727802628,0.08664032177859404,0.0,0.1015052865372259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19934972839027587,0.06884952529966415,0.0,0.0,0.3442890939365376,0.0,0.0,0.21809934249435864,0.0,0.0,0.4398752861131732,0.0,0.0,0.09882442263651182,0.0,0.0,0.10827282965525327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07517878387218803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06605163075744365,0.14826836772063826,0.1037203480053816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06757694094792674,0.08511147217388003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10022060739745314,0.0,0.10465174718452697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10956606380488604,0.09754546629092016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11147123867990713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2874666117222967,0.07737117423729001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22418304212608173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06924349371386862,0.0,0.0,0.12554149970554535
divorce,ehp2019,2020/02/24,"A week by myself = peace I’ve been in limbo for years about my marriage. We recently started therapy but I’m not sure my heart is in fixing things. I don’t know what’s holding me back either way but I’m sure hurting my spouse even more than I have as well as concern for the kids has something to do with it. I’ve thought about what my life would be like if we were to divorce but it was always just a thought. Until recently when my spouse took the kids away. I was unable to go. In the past I would have figured out a way, since I would have felt guilt. But this time I didn’t. And I had a great week. I met up with friends, did what I wanted. And my spouse had to manage the kids.  When they got home I loved seeing the kids, but my spouse...I felt indifference. 
I feel like this is a strong message. But I’m second guessing every thought I have these days. 
Just a rambling vent.",0.1179178885630492,2.3223031182795744,1.5373802541544492,99.09879765395893,87.70967741935482,4.242033235581624,18.66959921798632,5.565023196281405,-0.5157010752688174,684,19,159,4,22,218,104,186,0.066,0.77,0.165,0.9706,0,0,1,0,1,0,22.0,2,0,1,1,9,11,0,1,11,0,21,3,1,0,2,34,40,14,0,5,11,3,3,2,1,3,1,0,1,4,9,7,0,1,8,0,0,2,3,2,1,1,16,4,24,9,21,20,2,23,0,1,1,1,16,6,0,2,15,106,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185342771279514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338415065528428,0.1095393839062908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187192661641014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09409042631336584,0.0,0.12002479066855774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07202971381292121,0.10177014258213277,0.2735589844304865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11006066309636277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08096066789834246,0.0,0.11393457046078162,0.15705754492635046,0.15693064720789449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16881029568038525,0.0,0.0,0.1428943481081546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15250141660568745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07828974412227095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10062043855196716,0.13919299314425948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12857153046223085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13598976687327638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813149777538592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11351848366617608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11784055159843232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10966910118437126,0.0,0.0,0.1008306419103694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685249948392474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16291012716623587,0.0,0.0946410158365315,0.0,0.0,0.3392809467152638,0.08306687003905842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15827315424615004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402386629290719,0.2261488789981464,0.2285382051147016,0.0,0.1280844830509933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3035886162192825,0.0,0.0,0.09173658570529934
divorce,mestonlab,2020/02/24,"[Academic] Women (18+, cis and trans inclusive) Needed for Treatment Study for Sexual Distress The Sexual Psychophysiology Lab at the University of Texas at Austin is recruiting women from across the U.S. and Canada who have had unwanted, nonconsensual, or abusive sexual experiences in their childhood or adolescence to participate in a study assessing a novel treatment aimed at reducing sexual distress. Study participation is done entirely online (aside from a phone screen for eligibility) and involves completing questionnaires three times and engaging in expressive writing sessions five times over the course of three weeks. Participants will be compensated $40.00 as a thank you for your time. All data collected is completely confidential. The research study is IRB approved and is being conducted by a student in the Clinical Psychology PhD program at the University of Texas at Austin, and is also overseen by a trained Clinical Psychology Professor. Women (cis- and trans- inclusive) who are over the age of 18 and able to read and write in English may be eligible to participate. If you are interested in the study, please email the Sexual Psychophysiology Lab for more information about the SEADS Study at [mestonlab@utexas.edu](mailto:mestonlab@utexas.edu), or call us at (512) 232-4805. If you are outside of the U.S., you can use our toll free number: 1-877-232-4805. This study has been reviewed and approved The University of Texas at Austin's Institutional Review Board, the study reference number is IRB : 2017-12-0053",14.92939759036144,12.858870152610445,13.645497991967876,41.58077710843378,50.28514056224901,17.349558232931724,48.996385542168674,15.381575749822971,7.742617349397591,1264,60,171,46,10,412,144,249,0.05,0.857,0.092,0.7783,0,0,0,0,0,0,52.0,2,5,1,2,2,6,0,2,20,0,21,2,0,1,1,24,24,17,0,4,5,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,3,10,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,2,0,3,3,1,8,5,37,16,2,23,0,0,1,0,21,17,0,6,6,110,11,11,0.22368114925588034,0.2650255852560149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17887773424615416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284034624420052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4690508585656722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22890347612502698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2188030850196588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658567379196844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24553473169449586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22374168055157148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20593554972463968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3912908307817701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690608814213289,0.193188694983956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794235256941348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,DragoTulip20,2020/02/24,"Being Married to Someone with Mental Health Issues TL;DR - me 34(F) married to 37(M) with mental health issues for 12 yrs. 2 schoolage kids. Feeling like reached limit with spouse.

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I will try and keep this as short as possible. Essentially, husband has several issues which greatly affect our marriage. PTSD, severe anxiety, anger and some depression. His PTSD affects our marriage because it came from finding his ex in the act cheating. His mother also cheated so he's got severe trauma around that.

Marriage been going downhill for several yrs. There's a lot of factors, of course, but a lot centers around his paranoia re: me cheating (I have NEVER cheated, I assure you Redditors) - I am accused of such extremely often - but at the same time being almost obsessive about safety (being robbed, being carjacked, etc). He did not grow up in America, so the gun culture is a big adaptation. He also gets severe anxiety in random situations and has anger/temper issues. It's a struggle.

I'm not perfect, as no one is, but I feel like I have tried my hardest to be supportive of mental illness. However, I feel like I'm at breaking point in my life where I'm thinking I either have to be utterly miserable for the rest of my life or separate. We argue nearly daily, usually because I haven't ""done something"" he needs to feel supported. My struggle is most of his things he ""needs"" come at personal sacrifice or are just plain annoying. My capacity and compassion almost zero after many years of stuff. As such, I'm a shittier wife these days because everything he 'needs' just pisses me off. I admit that. I struggle with guilt because if it was someone with cancer, you wouldn't think about not being supportive, right?! Mental illness IS an illness, but God it's hard.

Been at ""breaking point"" for about a month. He knows it, as we've actually talked honestly (before I would just try and put on a happy face to save his feelings). He knows I'm feeling quite hopeless re: our relationship. He is ""trying"" in a way, as started meds again a few months ago and JUST started therapy. I know therapy will take time to help, IF it can help, I'm just struggling to see the light. I came across ""Walkaway Wife Syndrome"" and I'm hard trying not to be that, to give us one last chance.

But here's I guess the main reason I'm posting - he contends that if we have thoughts it 'might not work,' it won't. He thinks we have to not have any thoughts of separating. I physically cannot do that, as I have serious doubts in my head about whether he can change his behaviors enough that I will be happy. Quite frankly, I don't like him very much right now and he's not a very nice person to be around most of the time (there are pockets of good & happy, of course). I am VERBALLY saying ""one last chance"" but my heart and body feel like they've already given up. That's really hard, as I feel like I owe to him, myself, the kids to try and make this work. Is it wrong, though, to still have contingency going off in my brain while we ""try"", though? Does that set us up to fail?

(I've tried to keep this short so not gone into the detail of his behaviors that make me unhappy, never mind trying to shield the kids from the stuff he pulls or taking his anxieties out on them. NO ONE is a perfect parent, but it's really hard to see how it affects them.)",4.238829953198128,5.933557109204369,5.075634633385338,81.50663135725429,71.51170046801872,7.936112324492979,28.73263650546022,8.548686976883017,2.2217177285491427,2621,102,484,45,50,851,289,641,0.191,0.6940000000000001,0.115,-0.9945,3,0,1,1,0,1,115.0,9,2,2,8,30,42,8,8,23,0,49,14,6,7,5,108,102,41,0,8,28,7,12,6,0,7,8,1,0,5,28,27,0,3,19,0,1,10,17,22,0,5,12,16,59,20,80,73,13,69,1,4,2,0,62,34,1,18,26,317,87,3,0.0,0.0,0.050174860537883635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04557741917084037,0.0,0.10297193037882914,0.0,0.056739130121330236,0.08223514165034054,0.0,0.11141900947260733,0.06247639323131271,0.034964825278407066,0.0,0.1179999125231194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373141378106359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253715186164801,0.0,0.0437514569551035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057111882615855786,0.0,0.05739755930369925,0.0,0.11761302594560467,0.0,0.0,0.05439159383374252,0.0442905620471275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03315923920291846,0.0,0.044284756160052695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044994722485522234,0.05261669335964784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0531267491260112,0.057342729931734435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04620962620541351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20798087929626935,0.18365896013512384,0.0,0.0,0.046993537332625374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026862877824547,0.049323169224863725,0.05844209981745736,0.04312552604606943,0.04112228636681276,0.05668661682235509,0.05664081576042509,0.0,0.0,0.16420071963065586,0.1842355072451492,0.0,0.0527679244099299,0.10930617678749144,0.0,0.060928524964463326,0.06892648106575652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146609010874796,0.0,0.09140228260357387,0.0,0.0,0.08477110847989858,0.08382224147469812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07263366108730918,0.1507163480192957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742454452950231,0.0,0.0,0.06864151609033277,0.0521280254997228,0.0,0.0,0.057111882615855786,0.0,0.20726201903878455,0.054544534945686785,0.05191577340029333,0.0,0.0820799489195389,0.0,0.03779687290292555,0.11437353335759196,0.07931079095987909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13936397504032325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05709168074473575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08978940374117153,0.0,0.0,0.09720998465347508,0.05796411656708324,0.04924257183317813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020573130296698,0.051687550459872486,0.0,0.10937505962851876,0.0,0.0,0.06587715554972766,0.05286448671931796,0.0,0.05520182967211229,0.0,0.0878184236240255,0.0,0.04088827989390278,0.0,0.0,0.08194421718303156,0.0,0.0,0.290428738070655,0.0,0.0,0.05779403932297996,0.0,0.0,0.0871296737980447,0.03958275496414893,0.0,0.0,0.0727853980476457,0.0,0.04106109792381963,0.0,0.0,0.21500578731067524,0.11771865091278487,0.0,0.17503971434480334,0.0,0.0,0.07731726918264682,0.041326448485939186,0.0,0.0,0.11759796652219505,0.0,0.03415868370360477,0.09883640502524653,0.10103244422015333,0.08163754684349564,0.08994371778976766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3141744373722665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236948790160795,0.0,0.05662775500352441,0.08484761145038767,0.0,0.040811840190754976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0748633107223048,0.0,0.0,0.03652464147736753,0.0562156174353656,0.06247639323131271,0.033110390748219115
divorce,lg0592,2020/02/24,"Am I wrong? My wife says she’s not in love with me anymore. We have a 2 year old to make things worst. She says she hasn’t been happy for months but I think she’s just giving up on us. We had a separation 4 months ago after I was caught cheating. Drugs and alcohol had a role to play so I have been sober since but the fighting didn’t stop. Our last blow up last week was when I discovered she amounted $10,000+ credit card debt and didn’t tell me. I felt such as much betrayal as she did when I cheated but at least I was willing to ask for forgiveness and change. She on the other hand is non apologetic and says I can’t compare lying about finances to cheating. Am I wrong to think they are the same? Am I wrong to feel like she’s giving up on us?",0.6989814814814821,2.582381537037037,2.2710956790123475,96.81368055555558,82.39506172839506,5.531481481481482,19.384259259259263,6.6274283507984215,-0.09043333333333292,587,15,140,6,16,191,98,162,0.257,0.61,0.133,-0.9793,1,0,2,0,2,0,14.0,5,0,1,0,6,14,4,0,6,0,20,4,1,1,0,20,30,12,0,0,5,1,3,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,7,1,1,5,1,3,1,5,8,0,0,12,6,28,6,21,17,5,21,0,0,0,1,26,8,0,0,13,94,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12712183064843285,0.15325868454110672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14222140834418065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13406637402445085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15170580313277252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16630682393863627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07251098953439551,0.10245013277233356,0.13769340184106454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27513850846818416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15265963169903465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337920176080507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07006151444221083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12943059754453215,0.0,0.09572541998461376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289325186902472,0.0,0.10542079309484187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15048173335606768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34212948561404416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186279182765336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198948410621823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12534421426435166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952733718569384,0.18377908724821204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3450024101500813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150326061430841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.470379784293776,0.0,0.09234953540527424
divorce,Blackm0b,2020/02/24,"It is not getting better.... When I was searching for a spouse I wanted an equal. Someone independent and capable. I believed I found that someone for a long time. We had are ups and downs as we all have are faults and for the most part life has been good. 

We finally had a baby and everything changed. This paranoia revolving around the child getting sick is consuming the marriage and family. I will spare you the nitty gritty, but my partner believes that getting sick is someone's fault. With enough care you will never get sick. This was a new belief since the baby. The fighting has been intense at times since one of the strategies is to not take the child anywhere and avoid places with lots of children. I consider that abuse and I do not comply but that leads to conflict. Things worsen inevitably when the child picks up something. There is a scramble to identify the root cause and add that to the banned list. If I refuse to participate or disagree with the WebMD diagnosis I am accused of not caring. 


This has been a tremendous strain. Having a child fudementally changes a person and their life. I never would of anticipated such an poor temperament. I was hoping as the child aged (now 3) that thing would get better. They haven't with big fights on the horizon. I worry what a divorce would do to the child but I can only argue with someone who puts potato peels in socks as a fever reducer for so long.  I would like another shot at a family and happiness but I know the child would want mom and dad together. Therapy has been tried and divorce and separation have been flumg about before ( I was ready to leave 1 year ago). I keep hoping the person I knew would return or acknowledge they need help with their fears but I am losing hope...

I would appreciate any opinions on this matter to provide some perspective.",3.93657616618076,6.415376603498544,4.3121783892128285,83.23768449344027,74.51020408163265,7.0863338192419825,26.46219023323615,8.07648339933343,1.815250801749272,1457,54,262,24,32,457,190,343,0.191,0.693,0.11599999999999999,-0.9841,0,1,1,0,6,0,35.0,3,2,4,4,8,19,3,3,30,0,40,6,0,5,3,72,58,27,0,14,12,3,0,1,1,9,6,0,0,11,15,24,0,5,5,0,1,2,7,9,0,1,13,0,30,10,35,36,7,28,1,1,0,0,32,11,0,10,16,191,45,1,0.0,0.10805144303806118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08083907485702327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06201588811883078,0.09562615705417596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.081183095103839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07760042951620752,0.20549160535859406,0.0,0.16130955177440906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859592431539604,0.09368262889177524,0.19294493657209175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09422905745079134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08196039837034963,0.0,0.17194150583234813,0.10261999498133507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09989992412815872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09999086988384716,0.0,0.0,0.2382287359441973,0.0,0.0,0.07649023774731722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09707902514945416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061126244792626676,0.0,0.0,0.27173234078018776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08105851647497822,0.0,0.0,0.05011851708432315,0.0,0.0,0.09656258802684377,0.0,0.0,0.12882778517510302,0.044553386162710366,0.0,0.0,0.16140982932214398,0.0,0.10202414293854076,0.0,0.07753092900094646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068067589388924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676201124223371,0.14067077697715052,0.08807692780011331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061796252484304974,0.06935808686349339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987555543474381,0.0,0.0,0.15925632610290288,0.0952796123501614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09167640109545848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508752842336095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3090777121901826,0.07020654854545258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06856746855025317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042897008174998,0.0,0.12117212598556935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10635335169040376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061915579451747325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10757862668998083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09261318950871776,0.0,0.453477357024796,0.0,0.0,0.0587267424293525
divorce,poppyevil,2020/02/24,"I'm sorry i hurt you, but it's time for us to let go.  Hey You,

The past few day I have been pondering around our relationship. There are a lot more questions than answers, and I think some questions we just have to leave it be and wait for time to tell.

 Someday I wonder, which one is sadder, the fact that you're gone, or that I live so well without you?

I'm sure it's not the first time I tell you, but I'm just sad. I'm sad that I'm living without you, and I'm sad that I'm actually able to survive it. I guess I just want to hang on to being miserable and sad, and acting that miserable act of mine. I wanted to be selfish, and I have been selfish, to wallow in that sadness of mine, while ignoring you, knowing that some part of you are suffering too, just like I do.

I guess I've always been selfish. I think I am a selfish person. I'm sure I've hurt you a lot with my selfishness. Sometime when I'm sad or angry, I'd do selfish thing, knowing that you'd be hurt by it. I like to act like a self-righteous victim, when sometime I know full well I was in the wrong.

 I'm sorry I hurt you. I don't know if you will be able to forgive me, but i hope somehow you will. I don't know what make of us. I think sometime I'm losing sight of where we are, and it's hard to remember how we started.

 I'm sorry I hurt you. I know you have told me plenty of time before, that just because I'm hurt and angry and sad doesn't give me the right to hurt people, or justify it. Or I just can't hurt someone and then say sorry. I know. But I can't help it. Someday I tried my best, someday I failed spectacularly. I don't know how else to go about it, I'm only human, and i’m bounded to make mistake. Believe me I did try, just sometime I don't think it's good enough.

 And I keep floundering, until one day I reached the point that finally I hurt you too much that you start hating me.

I think I am in a very selfish period right now. I know you're hurt, and you're suffering too, but somehow I just want to be selfish and focus on myself. I feel like I need to do this, otherwise I'll just start to resent you and resent everything. Actually, I think I have been resenting you for awhile. I don't think it's your fault, or anyone fault, I think it's just my ugliness. The last few months of us had been very stressful for you and for me as well, and as much as I tried to suppress it, the feelings just keep oozing out. It's the unfortunate event of life, one thing after another, that I became so high strung and easily pissed. I tried to be supportive of you and try to be on my best behavior in my own way, but I think all the stress just slowly gnawing at me and turned me into a resentful person. I realized that we started to irritate each other a lot, and we didn't make each other feel good. I was avoiding facing that realization. I lied to myself it was the communication, but you were right, deep down inside I was lying to myself, instead of facing the real problem -  that we are getting on each other's nerves.

I didn't want you to feel hurt, but by avoiding it I think I hurt you more. Sometime the truth hurts, and there are nothing we can do about it. It just hurts.

You were right, I think I was resenting you, and honestly i don’t think it’s your fault. Life events got to us, and sometime we just get too tired and became resentful. You had so many obligations and you were stressed out, and being your wife and seeing you struggle, i was also affected by it. I resented the fact that I worked in the environment where I already have to be careful about my words, when I go home I have to be even more careful with you. I think I resented the fact that I need to pick my word very carefully otherwise I'd offend you. I resented the fact that you're so easily offended. I resented the fact that everything I do seems to never meet your expectation, and then I just feel like a loser. I feel good when I'm with people, but when I come home I don't feel good about myself. Somehow I feel like we lost that romantic feeling we used to have. We lost than spontaneous feeling when we first meet, and we get used to each other, and we seemed to expect more from each other, yet do less because we are too comfortable. We lost that expressive state where we would go out of the way to express our love. I feel like we are not romantic anymore, and I feel like we lost that spark. We just huddle together and to things together because it's easy and comfortable.

 I think I have a lot of resentment, that I pretend it did not exist and I didn't want to deal with it, because I was afraid of the conversation and I was afraid I'd hurt you. But I think by doing so, I actually hurt you more.

Being apart from you helped me put things on perspective. I felt like at that phrase of our life, we all decided what we decided because it's the necessary things to do. You decide to go to Oregon because it's the best thing for you, and when you're doing well for yourselves. And I decided to stay here, because I wanted to focus on my future. Should we fought harder to stay together? Or us together had become too hard and too tiresome to maintain? 

Being away from you make me I realize that I'm a strong person, and that I can actually survive without you. But that doesn't mean I wasn’t hurt and I wasn’t suffering. A part of me still feel so much guilt and shame from hurting that you, that even in my happy moment, I still felt the guilt overwhelm me. 

I’ve been neglecting you, and I have been hurting you. I never hope for you to forgive me. Because I don’t think I can forgive myself. I think it’s the lesson I had to learn, and I had to learn it the hard way. 

 Maybe one day it will be all over, maybe one day you will forgive me, and maybe one day I will even find way to forgive myself. But for now, I carry with me the burden of breaking up with you, and I carry with me the burden of letting go of our 5-year marriage. And I hope one day, maybe we will find true happiness again, it just, the happiness won’t come from us being together. 

Goodbye, my husband of 5 year. We had a good run, but it's time for us to end it.",3.0528547090091323,3.972536042319749,4.559882785879791,87.0736922447867,73.37304075235109,7.773531416110128,25.625051110808233,8.147672430395959,1.3724709281722776,4754,150,1043,71,92,1594,353,1276,0.263,0.623,0.114,-0.9997,0,2,0,0,0,0,151.0,36,47,0,17,68,130,17,14,40,0,102,8,3,10,14,264,218,90,0,18,43,2,18,9,0,9,4,1,2,4,75,91,0,9,66,1,0,15,26,85,4,9,41,21,222,45,129,150,33,106,0,40,2,1,114,35,1,26,57,747,297,4,0.056896659291274035,0.0,0.11104586405301872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03139343917649052,0.02275011893951752,0.023671289213342595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0298305540890064,0.0,0.0,0.028213098714261267,0.01989173354484013,0.0,0.0,0.025325044780749803,0.0,0.0,0.026728142163822598,0.0,0.0,0.1387347016330479,0.031418945021858866,0.02420743320995213,0.032051525635467364,0.08956430052190029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870149041665268,0.0,0.0,0.04901143400492013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11008091489906488,0.029328978702688906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02376492900900061,0.0,0.025196776154440204,0.029394729241806025,0.0,0.056369560285069134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051135048653227405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869962931914875,0.10161746191544063,0.05462971550729062,0.03116375458342792,0.05200251582233186,0.04839626932748583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04458923423501935,0.027290230035980072,0.09700704797777683,0.11930554592451136,0.022752728021987075,0.0,0.06267808479542555,0.0,0.0,0.0908513277069626,0.07645234662325401,0.0280868358491885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038136631392836406,0.03005722219229636,0.057071988339186676,0.08476683094964682,0.0,0.0,0.5786359800920583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05057236502166559,0.0,0.0,0.14071012186633342,0.02318918560917252,0.0,0.030122673480199355,0.0,0.05818068899193395,0.06028168963731745,0.1250857519580071,0.0,0.05024079254931535,0.0,0.0,0.03182640407256389,0.12421884946672852,0.0967430101713012,0.02567572820213269,0.0,0.0759579237734509,0.02884214111877765,0.11432068337774297,0.030988570897712425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02270718531025111,0.0,0.06273838678891523,0.04218815192952758,0.04388221121321527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027296939550682145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13494127091509195,0.021636236626337284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061613537473477614,0.02715714964235675,0.03944497959506019,0.0745199524300285,0.0,0.0,0.026892866827889408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027221209440034817,0.0,0.028598428775237425,0.06373727981841631,0.0,0.0,0.03238042726870621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03054285954925065,0.03222641181807512,0.12147359039170827,0.0,0.02262325356655402,0.0,0.0,0.022669635509917102,0.05179658172969805,0.0296778121705564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024104177390429183,0.0,0.168816752648643,0.12738230375695225,0.08054349658372399,0.06064426846309274,0.04543774560642245,0.0,0.0977623964766134,0.02974037094020262,0.0,0.0,0.03228282735391025,0.053624428037721376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0497301880423457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11339883677155176,0.30988519604322834,0.0,0.0,0.08294224895888888,0.03269717000930957,0.0,0.027183598102790068,0.0,0.09657274215992688,0.030943613510950024,0.0,0.0,0.2395388646928134,0.04914044564771945,0.0,0.07041855392325311,0.10067737137481336,0.09032383964783132,0.0,0.0,0.10231385943388306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08226952379214984,0.030850999976197675,0.020710722799994568,0.0,0.0,0.020208877157808242,0.031103782573898824,0.0,0.0366395831533302
divorce,MamaBearEA88,2020/02/24,"Leaving the Country Has anyone successfully moved from Canada abroad after a divorce with children involved. Most of my family is over seas but I'm wondering how it would work with trying to move to another country? Is this even a possibility? 

My child is 18 months and one on the way. I'm still married. My husband works 12-18 hour days answer only sees our daughter on the weekends. 

If this marriage doesn't work I would like to leave and move back home. 

I'm just wondering if many have been successful at this?",3.815668934240364,6.201370408163271,4.550544217687077,81.83175736961455,74.51020408163265,7.212698412698412,28.23582766439909,8.167268648758528,2.1084793650793654,412,17,74,7,9,132,72,98,0.040999999999999995,0.879,0.08,0.7073,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,1,0,0,5,5,3,0,0,5,0,9,0,0,1,0,15,15,6,0,4,4,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,4,4,0,0,3,1,0,3,1,0,0,1,1,1,5,3,12,12,1,15,0,0,1,0,8,4,0,5,8,47,9,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16873970406228211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251970786821858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12373831931402254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10378073516810188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10628680571652496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517020013349296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16141688809845942,0.0,0.15847477425490178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34078421697750605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07861787431036388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631486408996576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128445610427037,0.5131006821788114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10904423724203527,0.12238767521569917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181414253622924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12823320598503254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12851172197486266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925479884769994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12773160302745604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3490239296579197,0.3514572232644149,0.0,0.0,0.2286273289369636,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Sean26607,2020/02/24,"Married at 19, divorcing at 34 Together 15 years. Two wonderful children. 
Divorce can bring out emotions you never knew was possible. 
She was “the one” when I was 19 (she’s 7yo than I) 
Beautiful house. 3 vehicles. 2 wonderful children (13/6)
Now? It’ll all be gone. We simply aren’t happy with one another. I’m lost to what to do next.",0.2920839160839179,2.621062600000002,2.8714685314685333,85.00034965034966,99.92307692307692,7.286713286713287,25.90909090909091,8.00094639256281,2.623461538461539,259,13,49,8,11,89,54,65,0.033,0.754,0.213,0.9287,1,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,1,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,0,2,8,15,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,1,0,3,6,0,6,1,7,7,1,10,0,1,0,0,8,3,0,2,5,30,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548619166458227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27340153975297776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587340867591358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2804501483018094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26532070075004643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18745720282444425,0.0,0.25848927191552634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3293975588866639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27400536608825715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23742714165401801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5271605053606205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565179506840458
divorce,mellie_everafter,2020/02/24,"He doesn’t know I found the text messages this morning. I walked into the room to tell him I was leaving for work. He kissed me goodbye, and I acted like nothing is happening. Why? I don’t even know myself. I’m in a state of shock? I want to enjoy the kids a little longer before I inflict trauma on them?

Back story: Together 15 years, married 10. 3 kids. 

There have been countless lies throughout the years. At first it was his age, the fact he was technically still married. Red flags I ignored because I was “in love.” 

Throughout the years, there’s been countless times I’ve caught him talking to women, on dating profiles, even taking a week off work without telling me so he can take some “me time” and each time I forgave him, amid promises to never do it again. 

Maybe it worth mentioning, maybe not, I don’t know. But for 5 years of our marriage I struggled with extreme postpartum depression. During this time, I didn’t care about my own life, let alone his or what he was up to. At times, I figured he was probably cheating to cope, but I didn’t care. Lots of therapy, and healing later, and I was almost coming back to myself. Towards the end of last year, I started to notices things. I started to dig deeper. I found his tinder profile. I started tracking his location and noticed inconsistencies. I saw the order form from 1800flowers and waited 2 weeks for Valentine’s Day flowers that were never mine. I was finally able to get access to his coveted work phone. Which he protects at all times. I found messages declaring love to multiple women. Most of them in relationships themselves. 

This is it. I can’t forgive him again. I haven’t been perfect, but I have also never betrayed him or our vows. 

Please. Someone tell me what to do, as I head off to join him and our children for dinner.",2.7748513625103217,5.252474511560696,3.612249380677128,86.77209826589598,78.4508670520231,5.572782824112305,27.22675474814203,6.742157984588678,1.3527469199009086,1415,60,260,14,35,450,192,346,0.044000000000000004,0.815,0.141,0.9869,2,1,0,0,0,0,51.0,3,0,2,5,12,16,1,1,11,0,27,7,1,0,6,39,50,15,0,1,7,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,5,12,11,1,3,8,0,1,4,12,6,0,1,19,2,51,10,41,30,7,53,0,1,2,3,41,15,0,6,33,177,63,3,0.09472993480772617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09485834599920544,0.098111643407256,0.0,0.07575549464075583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14568294507446114,0.0,0.057746489007323584,0.0,0.08060819733199491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931669639113545,0.0,0.0,0.08160145087518887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061092971139007635,0.0,0.0815907540407613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08390260490534829,0.0,0.0,0.12513645704241996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10377201321923164,0.0,0.08057723415464224,0.0,0.3115994520099233,0.0,0.0,0.04949248110316404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837693685000582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09722024269958073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15618328430551914,0.07721754030427135,0.0,0.10030532303858256,0.0,0.09686777649034586,0.06691055445169697,0.04628026115322263,0.09494428112415816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08053600299900263,0.17099492933511826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19033790416600396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21918469691686893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09089592732848337,0.21570131728875327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10398502155335584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10213489181117373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10170449829506197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08026436635232871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011510062876217,0.0,0.0756514483050954,0.0,0.0,0.09903229593499396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14245024337912407,0.0761403332922957,0.2483944152385339,0.0,0.10833193624831602,0.0,0.06293435940674855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33142672070604656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05587416991757646,0.0,0.15197327936235058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08547903186516817,0.0,0.0,0.0913162767090412,0.0,0.2068935623043089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30501486086631635
divorce,Vivid-Fruit,2020/02/24,"Extremely complex scenario Hello,
Quite a difficult scenario here. Me and my wife are getting a divorce and not exactly sure how assets might be split 
We live in an apartment which we bought together, except I saved up 90 percent of money before marriage, and more thank half of that before even knowing her. When we moved in together we saved up remaining 10 percent and bought a house. We're equal earners. During divorce would she get half of property despite the fact that I spent good decade or so saving up money before I even knew her?",6.248457142857141,7.764236760000002,6.1474285714285735,76.43300000000002,66.4,8.514285714285714,34.285714285714285,8.841846274778883,3.1730714285714288,436,20,70,7,7,137,71,100,0.046,0.8290000000000001,0.125,0.8041,0,0,0,0,2,0,8.0,4,0,0,1,6,7,0,0,5,0,4,0,0,1,3,23,12,8,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,8,0,0,3,0,5,1,1,1,0,2,4,0,12,6,9,5,4,8,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,2,1,49,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6000804448577255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3105223508913512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456282037518531,0.0,0.0,0.1971651281693685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712386204575609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291880393578178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075706587140573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493715720016152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498416572029078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500253287015233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215502042494366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164203958561028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16698661508574816,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,hnitty,2020/02/24,"I have no idea what my life will look like in even 3 months, and that is terrifying. A few months into the separation, we got an offer on the house tonight. Before spring, we could be moved out, financially unknotted, and just waiting another 2 months till we can file. 

It's so weird to think that for the past 10 years, I just knew without a doubt what the next 50 years would look like. I thought we'd grow old and die in this house, fill it with all the things and people we love. Tonight, someone else made an offer to take a shot at filling this house with happiness, because we couldn't. 

And now, as we talk about closing by next month, I feel the panic in full force. I don't know where I'll be in three months, who I'll be living with, if I'll be happy, sappy, still crying, or healing. I have no image of my future for the first time in my life. It is terrifying. 

It is also exciting. With all the uncertainty hanging over my head like a flippin dust cloud Pig Pen style, the only thing I'm sure of now is that my days of begging for affection are over.",5.518348694316436,4.9173052857142885,5.9270161290322605,84.77719086021506,67.57142857142857,9.076651305683564,28.68241167434716,8.344100000000001,1.6572890937019964,825,23,183,10,12,266,133,217,0.122,0.7509999999999999,0.127,0.3113,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,7,0,0,1,10,11,0,2,15,0,18,5,1,2,3,39,31,11,1,4,5,0,1,3,0,2,3,0,0,0,14,18,0,1,6,0,0,5,5,3,0,2,4,3,18,8,28,18,4,41,0,0,2,1,12,14,0,3,25,116,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09343928655703143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225200491956992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07122639433093851,0.0,0.09942476760356166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09328960959916324,0.0,0.1283465237993517,0.07535405403857093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212645630824712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09760731438736868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07717368438927581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05907931995052081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09938657661536876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934500025803266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24876304357694004,0.0,0.0,0.1199146036842461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4044633237373328,0.0,0.13190149894777775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06421384449557997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16505930033855007,0.1712507299042991,0.0,0.10317448942461237,0.0,0.19623734618366945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10545534866950504,0.1105596500585174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.46631474779295506,0.12418559337145525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24852766335946685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12260704934160292,0.0,0.0,0.08886434921587902,0.0,0.1370900583781175,0.0,0.0,0.11153984268172673,0.08100420840475071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09900067531047364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09331095242867432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11012312311849,0.0,0.08785137747658459,0.09391395904395766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15525056422050476,0.07486826180052014,0.0,0.0927602723146872,0.06813207956194205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11263246035419384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08300189852916602,0.0,0.0,0.15048609278465638
divorce,hillo93,2020/02/24,"Idk what to do I’ve been in a relationship with him for 7 years I need advice

My husband of 5 years has decided to leave me and move back to Australia. (He’s Australian) He’s unhappy. Three weeks ago he told me he wanted a divorce. Now he isn’t sure. But he isn’t talking to me or seeing me anymore. Yet, he says he is unsure what to do. Now he misses me, but isn’t living with me or making attempts to be with me. I’m heartbroken. I’m tired of being pushed around. I want have a final answer. But, I do love him. It’s complicated. He’s moving because he is unhappy. But, he never asked me to go with him. 

What would you do? Should I cut it off and just file for divorce? Or should I wait around?",-1.0909714285714287,0.9892463600000028,1.7490476190476194,95.24500000000002,95.4,4.457142857142856,17.142857142857142,6.1826913282559595,-0.29111428571428544,534,15,123,6,21,185,82,150,0.158,0.7829999999999999,0.059000000000000004,-0.9176,0,0,0,0,2,0,23.0,0,1,0,1,8,4,1,0,3,0,17,2,0,1,2,28,30,9,0,6,8,1,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,5,8,0,1,2,0,0,4,4,2,0,1,2,2,18,2,19,23,0,18,0,1,1,1,25,4,0,3,10,78,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831564771535629,0.16614724609408024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858822769580573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33370861071215724,0.17522371039152468,0.0,0.0,0.14412371406226726,0.0,0.11425686741213965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053227020256912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10652198081060033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19846352898957545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16550597667110364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16916478650947078,0.0,0.12511238101682326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39842131585136187,0.0,0.138978525909829,0.1445591889937218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012319290172488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14905352750298426,0.0,0.0,0.14935911539070226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766525344340599,0.0,0.0,0.1506508207726819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21542562456434197,0.0,0.17909940210520586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22110461549363652,0.0,0.15034672348729286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13314638490809355,0.0,0.0,0.2414002521421875
divorce,ShadowsCheckmate,2020/02/24,"Father most likely scammed into marriage. Could use some advice from you all. Hello r/Divorce community.  I am in a bit of a bind because of my parental .

Long story short my friend, my father remarried to another woman. Me and my sisters of course had a feeling she only married for benefits (health insurance, pension and life insurance policy) but didnt jump in to much for us not really knowing how much my father cared for this woman. My father has always (irritatingly) kepp his deep feelings to himself so its hard to tell with things emotionaly similar to this.

The minute they got married is when my sisters and I began seeing my father's money just get spent friviously on household things and her seamstress business. Somehow, she convinced my father to put her on his life insurance policy and his pension policy but NOT on her things. Of course this mad us furious then and especially now. They have no assets together but she is on all of his papers. It seems that it could be a smooth divorce because of this but my father wont get off his ass and file.

Is it any way me and my sisters can step in legally? Has anyone dealt with a similar situation and could just give advice? Thank you all",6.110412979351032,7.211796707964603,6.837327433628321,72.87773156342186,66.43362831858407,9.566489675516225,32.76578171091445,9.725611199111238,3.3225979941002945,960,40,161,20,15,317,130,226,0.083,0.8370000000000001,0.08,-0.7006,1,0,0,0,2,0,22.0,2,2,2,0,7,8,2,0,6,0,15,4,1,2,3,35,29,17,0,3,8,11,4,1,1,1,3,0,0,2,12,12,0,0,4,0,2,3,5,2,0,0,5,5,33,6,27,19,8,20,0,0,1,1,37,11,1,4,6,124,45,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2868822937833968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12214074769594953,0.0,0.0,0.09982199548632063,0.15392174662637262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263873616000208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17896321611502689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16025627938076362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14966183097455105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3515987729157639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484425149349626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11340931929749624,0.0,0.15338306698804,0.14081400769292454,0.0,0.0,0.1174010924238824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131494693783031,0.0,0.0,0.15603053352945326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08067175264161505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.207363741459618,0.07171400825402265,0.0,0.0,0.1299042208600609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21581456485314704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116401432575018,0.0,0.0,0.1629925347039259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14756414160864414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403720841696347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11697234595972948,0.13363178413184376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16499771660513707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12830062392902,0.13514418771188974,0.0,0.0,0.292561562369852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3531397499203117,0.1267791272251766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651479150464618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,jollyrancher03,2020/02/25,"Questions to ask divorce attorney I’m going to a consultation with an attorney this week and am interested in getting anyone’s advise or opinions of questions to ask my potential attorney. She was upfront with her fees during our phone call, $350 consult fee, $225 an hr and $3000 retainer, all seems reasonable and within what I’ve researched. I’m looking for someone who’s going to fight for my SO to have stipulations with his visitation due to the fact he has left the kids home alone overnight multiple times.

I just want to come prepared and I’ll be the first of my friends to get a divorce so I have no one who’s been there. I’ve included below  what I’m seeking in the divorce.

Me having custody with him having visitation with stipulations 
Child support
Spousal Support
Concrete pickup and drop off times 
Partial coverage of kids medical benefits
Partial covers of kids medical bills, sports fees(kids play select sports that cost $1600 a season), school fees and activities
Division of assets: 
House he can keep
Camper
Cars 
25 week vacation package 

The house and cars are our only debts as we are a cash only family.


Any advice will be greatly appreciated!",8.263472222222221,8.388692476851851,8.365185185185188,67.14833333333333,61.73148148148147,11.45925925925926,40.22222222222222,11.038039088145766,4.745850000000001,949,48,154,23,12,310,138,216,0.042,0.843,0.115,0.9301,1,1,0,0,4,0,19.0,3,0,0,1,4,8,1,0,11,0,14,2,0,1,2,26,30,11,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,4,6,14,0,2,4,3,7,7,1,1,0,2,2,1,13,7,26,25,1,21,0,0,1,0,31,6,0,5,7,86,19,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14106248419379847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14950872058364956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981666625345246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009366936265042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2699057359217432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14740306392964675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12434944614551975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13608547979172553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12278868000022468,0.0,0.0,0.11152866982380756,0.0,0.15083953894298466,0.0,0.1640810684711852,0.0,0.0,0.15915240358030913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14480029577769524,0.0,0.0,0.3331336371671937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12830976502507296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15684262898914544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12122222902340027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29084587671116996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781899522104943,0.21957766352140295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3234223035974195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14842145460515135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460954316575069,0.0,0.13141578860297207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12231191227713654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3276257292179767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683496584746534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08514459006027096,0.0,0.2315864842468453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Natec91,2020/02/25,"My parents are getting divorced. Would appreciate advice so I can help my Mom move forward! Hello Everyone,

So my Mom has finally decided after some time that she would like to divorce my Dad.  Let me paint the picture before asking for advice.  She is a 61 year old woman without a job, so obviously there are some concerns with proceeding with the divorce.  She is worried about not finding work after years of short lived temp jobs and failed attempts at full time positions etc.. being a 61 year old woman with no work experience over the last 30 years does not help. However, my parents relationship has gotten to the point where my Mom cannot take anymore and it is too emotionally draining for her to continue.

Has anyone here been in a similar situation?  I am hoping the good people of reddit will be able to offer some advice from experiences in similar situations.  How would you advise my Mom proceed here?   Is there anything you advise she shouldn't do? I'm hoping I can help her take the best steps to move forward, but want to proceed cautiously as this is uncharted territory for me.  It is a tough toss up between staying with the steady income and verbally abusive relationship, or leave the relationship and risk a lonely and unstable living/income situation..

Thank you for any help you can give..",6.770632845188285,8.099642744769879,7.367842573221762,68.84414879707114,65.06694560669456,10.159100418410043,34.6027719665272,10.270032843473604,3.898616945606696,1052,47,168,25,16,347,142,239,0.091,0.802,0.107,0.2656,7,2,0,0,3,0,24.0,0,4,0,5,11,10,0,1,14,0,26,0,0,1,1,28,37,12,0,7,5,7,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,2,4,9,0,0,2,0,0,5,6,4,0,0,2,0,22,6,28,27,6,31,0,2,0,0,35,11,0,6,19,120,26,7,0.08862709000879512,0.1050086092514162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25981609987560383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06026946035839537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08789425847922627,0.0619701220166327,0.0,0.07293254355976943,0.0,0.08285436538049773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07541512590386333,0.0,0.09300866310729797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07755816371411675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09969354737970218,0.0,0.0,0.0988426328730189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846869825339069,0.0,0.17338860046767718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09708664504669977,0.08100355465292551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04630399658135265,0.0850191805243816,0.0,0.07433619821557254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376194810160686,0.0,0.0,0.17605339575093693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17589742289879673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07224290725729775,0.0,0.0938432915777398,0.0,0.09062720420305337,0.0,0.043298719451062825,0.0,0.07825934420132577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4151959066709973,0.0,0.1883931415740876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18599844456597825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968197902915862,0.0,0.0,0.06144286502076994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08378124686541769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854569807207545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.298861687498177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09446468573982428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13327308381834452,0.0,0.0,0.08159591705502887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10335833780861316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052274553935910455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08543335210339621,0.0,0.12904315413990086,0.09000511196525714,0.0,0.18887442572043311,0.0,0.0,0.22829176084951236
divorce,pulledthebandaid,2020/02/25,"STBXH threatened suicide and blames me STBXH has been a mess since I initiated the divorce almost two months ago. I have tried to handle things as civilly and kindly as possible. Especially given that we have two very young children involved. Since I have left, he has threatened suicide multiple times (he used to act suicidal anytime we had a very big argument as well). I've begged him to get help. He seems to think i am the only one that can help him. 

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Things seemed to be getting a little better for him. Until he came to my house to help me bring in a new tv two days ago. He begged for a reconciliation and this then escalated into a fight where I had to threaten to call the cops to get him to leave the home. When he left I sent him a text that basically said that he couldn't emotionally handle being just friends with me, so going forward we would only be talking about the kids and divorce proceedings. Since then he sent numerous suicide texts, saying over and over again that i treated him terribly, and he wants me to carry around the guilt of him killing himself forever, and i better tell the kids that when he is dead it was because of me. I started sending texts to his mom, who he is now living with, so that they can get him help. I haven't gotten much of an update from them.

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I did, however receive a text from his aunt yesterday saying that if he killed himself, she would never forgive me. Called me heartless and uncaring because I am not being there for him.  And that she hoped he would find a woman that knew what love was. Among many other cruel things. I am at a loss. I don't know what I am supposed to do or how to help him without risking my own mental health.",5.5830262970860005,6.10960010149254,5.883368869936034,81.29467661691545,67.38805970149254,8.41080312722104,30.57924662402275,8.269060116576782,2.1138500355366032,1354,49,262,17,21,433,179,335,0.182,0.728,0.09,-0.9888,1,0,0,0,3,3,38.0,3,0,2,3,13,19,5,2,18,0,30,2,0,2,1,39,52,22,7,7,5,2,0,0,1,3,1,3,1,4,19,17,0,0,7,1,0,9,6,10,1,4,13,3,45,9,38,31,2,40,0,1,0,1,64,13,0,6,20,182,64,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15105473763468175,0.0,0.08531855362853775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18463495245655112,0.2070620794157429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07584878447069714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387798495395173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15071035921890266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740036941221495,0.09744959839674684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05494892283377778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09584197065672773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07787405014857562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06582767017358064,0.0,0.17806032178739706,0.0,0.04842286057079926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09056686489089456,0.0,0.0,0.28554906417701786,0.0,0.0854656128020664,0.08462586011366073,0.0,0.09831288773465734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18852911648891704,0.08872587204895062,0.0468253716547451,0.0,0.0,0.09021773458886574,0.1851467405926292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539584635897304,0.07523585996986344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07689908513062473,0.0,0.0,0.08638252624352626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08586464107967821,0.0,0.0,0.09978879012198028,0.0680082668932767,0.0,0.06263405019009506,0.0,0.0657138498514874,0.08228964299780726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057735796224369175,0.12960152788163973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09605364432162328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08104761812991777,0.1355137808166736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15513132545064734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21144254665000567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06030716199896824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3727932596174248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06848298946038849,0.07447122694484415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698153745428153,0.05459467832042701,0.0,0.0,0.049682587488095314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057847282555649075,0.0,0.24969301742859645,0.0,0.0,0.07358808450283669,0.0,0.14060288976133592,0.05025497031755866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07660778035883928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08213270608391153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815774204398476,0.0,0.2070620794157429,0.0
divorce,tastybasalganglia,2020/02/25,"Congratulations! You're divorced! This is what my attorney said to me today while shaking my hand. I had never thought of divorce as belonging to the category of things that one would be congratulated about. But now I see that, yes, you congratulate someone for accomplishing a significant task, and damn, this divorce was extremely difficult. 

As a kid and young adult I had never anticipated myself becoming really excited about getting divorced. I wasn't at first. But as it dragged on, and as it became more and more toxic, as the lawyers became more involved, as the manipulation and threats became more frequent, the final judgement on the divorce became my central anticipation.  I can't believe it's over. And I can't believe I'm so happy to be divorced.",6.741777777777778,8.749979066666667,7.768333333333337,63.41250000000005,65.74074074074073,10.14074074074074,38.68518518518519,10.355215969177356,4.689385185185186,614,34,93,16,10,207,83,135,0.09300000000000001,0.74,0.16699999999999998,0.9157,0,0,0,0,6,0,18.0,0,1,0,2,4,6,2,1,7,1,10,1,1,1,2,13,15,16,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,9,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,5,4,0,2,6,3,12,2,18,6,4,14,0,0,1,0,11,4,1,0,9,75,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26319396410092555,0.0,0.5369860815894449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610562544151114,0.0,0.20270581910269736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12450680426915155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536847440972526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3675977380744308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16148458921497796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15266707769380086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22668677278998026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899017051790617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019187466149881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583221490174907,0.0,0.0,0.18919101170479696,0.0,0.0,0.2258894076366171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16928813126894465,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,AbusedStocks,2020/02/25,"Divorce agreement - Sharing stocks with an abusive ex Hi all,

The long story short is that I was physically abused by my former spouse and decided to get out. In the divorce agreement, he became eligible to half of my shares from my previous job, payable at the time that I sell. They have no way of knowing when I will sell and the chance of them finding out is zero. I supported this individual entirely for an entire decade. I'd like to sell my shares now but I really don't feel that I should have to give them a dime, despite the agreement - I've paid enough. My question is this: What is there to stop me from selling and just not telling them? 

Thank you!",4.006046511627903,5.607333364341084,4.6254961240310095,84.87638372093025,71.94573643410854,7.640620155038763,29.17906976744186,8.238735603445708,1.9569962790697681,520,21,104,8,10,166,88,129,0.087,0.774,0.139,0.6094,1,0,0,0,3,0,14.0,0,1,4,0,4,9,0,0,8,0,10,0,0,0,1,17,17,5,0,1,3,2,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,1,5,0,6,0,3,0,0,2,2,1,17,9,17,13,2,12,0,0,0,0,17,5,0,1,7,72,23,2,0.0,0.5663062254206218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469310004083129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12083584878451485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184240778359448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12485757935853027,0.2292521134902453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23715152103514076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13133757141820065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11675392404812347,0.0,0.0,0.21149044524331767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677131355658494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530971891896149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19979860953023024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711925253311203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088797107599324,0.2200213683743476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13935159832943855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18969179730730415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Beautiful_Carpenter,2020/02/25,"House value and agent commissions Hi all. I am going through a semi amicable divorce but it is going down hill. Part of the issue of calculating the house value. I am staying in the house and my stbx has moved out and bought another house. I’d naively thought there was a typical process or usual and customary method but that may not be the case. I am in the state of Georgia. 
Question is this, we have two appraisals to average for the house value but my lawyer says she usually subtracts 6% for sales commissions. My stbx absolutely refuses to accept or meet half way on that point. Is subtracting sales commissions from house value typical or not?  TIA!",3.883169398907104,6.5434137377049195,4.817622950819676,78.63058743169401,75.55737704918033,8.656830601092896,29.83879781420765,9.2995712137729,3.1577355191256835,524,24,91,14,12,170,79,122,0.034,0.85,0.11699999999999999,0.8664,0,0,1,0,1,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,8,0,11,0,0,0,1,20,15,10,0,0,8,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,6,0,1,3,0,3,3,2,0,0,2,3,1,8,1,14,10,2,14,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,5,2,62,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303650730624267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14131295113794998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8607226506392917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12976247226465196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321372629169567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13463131275400345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11752683300535666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927188740001273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988678284457523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13251336977213746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09869976185105286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12144696656167325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738517336255767,0.0,0.0,0.09868299730399553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,dashak156,2020/02/25,"Looking for a divorce attorney in Philadelphia My husband and I separated last year. We were married for 13;years, together for 15. We have 3 kids together, ranging in age from 6 to 11. We are currently splitting custody 50/50, but I was bullied into this through physical intimidation.

My ex has a history of substance abuse, serial infidelity and emotional/physical/sexual abuse toward me. He doesn't abuse the children. When he left, he stuck me with about $100k in credit card debt, because the cards were in my name. I've since declared bankruptcy. I need a recommendation for a good divorce attorney, in Philadelphia, who will fight for me. My ex is extremely manipulative and is wanting assets I don't believe he is entitled to, especially given the debt he left me with. Any recommendations?",5.923936170212767,8.49491821985816,7.403847517730497,62.90875,68.9290780141844,11.224822695035462,38.70035460992908,11.038039088145766,5.4686780141843965,643,38,98,23,12,220,94,141,0.24,0.687,0.073,-0.9851,3,0,0,0,6,0,25.0,3,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,7,0,12,0,0,1,0,14,17,5,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,9,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,5,2,15,2,20,11,0,14,0,0,1,0,18,9,0,0,5,61,17,1,0.0,0.7141404020959233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366264377790158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12247354198916507,0.0,0.0,0.2263580099009421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16851469881816786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637693620395838,0.0,0.0,0.4365809967950443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16871472354756273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14897303518056393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16619573837462615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185025724185964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587603230034817
divorce,himiko7,2020/02/25,"Still very new I appreciate any advice, and I'm curious of the following as we are currently fighting about many things. We are trying to keep costs as low as possible and trying to argue between us without multiple lawyers:

1. How soon does a in-process- former spouse legally have to come off of your health insurance? Is it when you sign and notarize the documents? Or is it when the judge actually signs off a few months later?(NY State.)

2. Regarding wills and beneficiaries. What do people generally do regarding their will and leaving their ex as a beneficiary if there is a child involved?

Thank you all. This board has been a wealth of advice and I am so glad I can come knowing so many of us are in the same boat.",4.565520902455209,6.501781729927013,5.632236230922363,76.86516921035171,71.11678832116789,9.361380225613805,30.7027206370272,9.800150414767053,3.1627284671532845,575,25,106,15,11,190,95,137,0.048,0.794,0.158,0.9442,1,0,0,0,2,0,17.0,4,3,2,0,9,6,2,0,9,0,15,1,0,1,1,21,22,17,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,5,10,0,1,1,0,2,3,1,3,0,0,1,0,12,3,17,19,3,16,0,1,0,0,15,4,0,2,8,77,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.1755165422446243,0.0,0.0,0.35151247309681594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12231035955585527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3098653876163101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15739591550937304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911818188436696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598670372360335,0.0,0.0,0.0988458608097962,0.0,0.0,0.1904448234068096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.364697806497854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14356182227049305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17370904512670984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12469165756825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027641174296309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14363571420224075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16559009976103314,0.0,0.0,0.11949039792064345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442250531135381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4326967175499628,0.0,0.0,0.14840259863047725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17337775967613758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,samichyy,2020/02/25,"What can I do to get the divorce from my wife My English is very bad please don’t take it differently; 
I got married to a American citizen, our marriage is arranged by our family, I get my usa visa and greencard for 10 years, I came to usa in 2016. And started living with my wife family, after I came we had two kids together, last fours years of my life went throw a lot abuse, beaten, take my kids and don’t let me see for months, she always called cops and I have never been arrested or any report made in police station, last December she get and order of protection and kick me out of the house, at the court they order my for drug test and mental health assessment, which I pass and the result are negative, now the order of protection is gone, and I filed now and the court put her father in order of protection for 6 month, in family court petitions I have explain every thing they did to me, they took my passport and greencard for 7 month her father and brother and every body assault me, and I have the police report, my wife confess she had been force married to me by her parents at the same time she had her boyfriend, I am really hurt out of no where my life take turn, after all this about and stuff I wanted to be with her for my two beautiful kids, I am paying child support, and I am very good father, my kids always wanted to come to me, I love them and spend more time then my wife before the separation,
I have no money or no asset, coz when I see my wife and her dad planed to put me in order of protection Get rid of me,  so and they won’t go to job and make me work for them last 4 years, I have no money to pay her as alimony, it’s really hard for me to live my life but I won’t eat cut down all expense and paying the child support and I will do that for ever, this are my kids and I love them more then anything in the world, now my question is can I able to file a divorce in family court with out money, I have all the evidence that she and her whole family did towards me, I want to establish I don’t need no more marriage or girlfriend for next 6 7 years I want to save some money and start my own business, I am a cellphone and computer technician experience more  then 13 years, currently get a job which help me pay my child support and my bills,  she won’t divorce me and she will keep me hold like this I know, she and her whole family is sick In the head, she never treat me fairly, I always be her family and her for their mistake for a solution, 
What is my best option to get divorce from my wife who is separated twice, now I don’t want to go back to her life, I want to make my kids good and strong and kids person and well educated, because of money problem  in can’t study in my country I know the importance of study, I live in New York State, my English very bad please help me guide me to the straight path, I have no intention of getting married in 6 to 7 years since today, I don’t need no relation ship 
I want to successful in life and live a health life with my two beautiful kids, once I stand on my own foot I will think about marriage, but I don’t want to be with  my wife no more she seriously hurt me and my feeling, she disrespect my marriage, which I respect a lot, I have never been betray in my life, I tried my best every thing in my power, what I got from them accused of drugged addict mental patient, when I am kind and loving towards every single person in my community, I have or had no intention of harming my self or any one including the animals, I am the most peace full person in the word, I help any people with my hand or my ability, now I need some help so I can get this out of my head and start make my life and my kids life better, please need your help, I have a public lawyer now, what I need to do to get the divorce done,",9.825501507801237,5.148103841571611,9.811817665311832,73.17513307984791,62.548795944233206,13.214824526900045,38.106769809011844,10.324001499409627,3.555083090774005,2957,86,642,46,29,989,276,789,0.092,0.738,0.17,0.9973,6,0,2,0,6,0,64.0,3,1,9,8,16,30,3,0,28,0,58,24,5,8,7,108,115,54,0,15,8,13,3,1,1,6,15,0,0,17,19,52,1,6,7,0,13,12,23,11,1,6,18,5,145,19,94,87,22,89,1,2,2,3,91,31,0,13,40,448,164,14,0.05071003880989981,0.060083103822820776,0.0,0.055281427385647175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12658444375904448,0.0,0.0,0.10345369593617433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041730041165219285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03899288970092217,0.0846815284930604,0.030912368984951512,0.0,0.04315050805638407,0.0,0.10643411434043308,0.04484890841976307,0.0,0.05632742135786816,0.0,0.0,0.05178061934714013,0.11599755018008673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04368220826103076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05298119747476522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05189397585195008,0.0,0.0,0.11761509129536442,0.05188902947759493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04587013330806596,0.17090157921352225,0.0,0.0,0.04960414844963077,0.3346343805846567,0.0,0.025640519288468697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384451206865485,0.0,0.05763936733793805,0.08506634926449698,0.08111490097296528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045426234306961084,0.0,0.10408625933101613,0.10780479989320696,0.0,0.0,0.16994935046267048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058512576326486175,0.10857229071193356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10064377766294896,0.04507341247977965,0.0,0.052806701949495584,0.055737822295672285,0.12400634942636653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05185445039336714,0.3223620007690177,0.024774363499517657,0.0,0.17911157328048166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08622372317605652,0.1373033696341049,0.047983064839370655,0.10154803402653842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022075839839234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12142880752821472,0.0,0.0,0.18800425616486036,0.1173321243147739,0.04897607147685396,0.05393070156717578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05400453633591335,0.034362434683707734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0563074969699006,0.0,0.0,0.0351559559214398,0.13283414973427748,0.0,0.16699318402324728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04852265860074073,0.0,0.10195519042130192,0.05680684900466607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06497229873275348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08081867096126569,0.0,0.05290162992724744,0.0,0.0,0.04194786812663106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10767847941835336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058050862166845636,0.0,0.1726354533009799,0.0,0.0,0.11438291472854305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06737899301778284,0.03249294528776034,0.0,0.0,0.05913886285876446,0.0,0.04806718742257998,0.0,0.05634071898210431,0.034428787657551634,0.05515796047095753,0.1486090183813307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12552327840917168,0.2392807579350429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045594414920935036,0.04700871401891599,0.0,0.1132318947427294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03691751220725439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959336143978714
divorce,FeArThEbEaRd65,2020/02/25,"I’m pretty new to reddit but someone told me to try this out so here goes.... Idk where to start I guess this is just a good way to vent out some of this stuff to strangers on the internet

So me and my soon to be ex wife separated about 8 months ago. Idk what happened but i think it was just a matter of we became 2 completely different people. after our first year of marriage things started going downhill fast. Idk why but we just drifted further and further apart. The thing that hurts the most out of all this is she has a child from a previous relationship who I helped raise and i k ow I don’t have any rights to him or even the ability to see him without her permission but when you have a child you didn’t create call you dad and completely accept you it’s hard to let go...I wasn’t always the best husband father or just person in general. I guess what I’m asking you guys is there anyone else in a similar situation with a step child they took in as their own and now can no longer see? And if so how are you coping cause this shit is ripping me apart inside",2.2973755334281627,3.994493626126129,3.6371123755334303,89.79714793741111,76.70270270270271,6.835846372688477,22.4950213371266,7.669130373188453,0.8311675675675678,843,24,183,12,19,276,143,222,0.09,0.812,0.098,0.4456,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,6,2,2,16,5,1,0,12,0,15,1,1,2,1,35,29,19,0,1,12,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,14,12,0,0,2,0,0,4,5,2,0,1,5,3,25,3,26,22,5,30,0,1,2,0,32,13,1,7,12,127,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264452596344456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186911976892144,0.0,0.0,0.09700278100059197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09973997010779652,0.14615558897752284,0.0,0.0,0.1333528425865174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14969603054191452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14565542680189505,0.0,0.0,0.1465346350686098,0.0,0.0,0.2991189462091699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14903257295798694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11916072089083868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421498709750617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12133287541709585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16213569393434193,0.11964298191890695,0.0,0.0,0.3142767969326288,0.1412399420913257,0.12613957848788712,0.0,0.127780965724365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09561123636004668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527033042660925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14586310860804208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138570441319897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13776642079572335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09889135798157926,0.12455119964030599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14512018385841033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15314622486681675,0.0,0.12181715834111913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273375282266729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14642197015644967,0.0,0.16033778218387915,0.0,0.0,0.12086176033752792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20192825133940856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16329320142820736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18953261102754854,0.09140048677692672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13630241205889967,0.15848268277071648,0.09684588218061678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11322413210226458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12871398271335294,0.0,0.0,0.13750368254421924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09185803037823297
divorce,MrAvocadoKiwi,2020/02/25,"Legal question to those who want/got out. Why is recommended to surprise your spouse with divorce papers? I read countless posts and advice to lawyer up and serve the papers to your spouse first, even for a no fault divorce. Is there a legal benefit for this?

I am terrified of being divorce raped by the family courts. I watched it happen to my father. My spouse and I have discussed divorce once but the next day things go back to their uncomfortable norm. Assuming therapy was attempted and happiness has left the relationship is there any reason why we should not mutually agree to disagree and end marriage? I don’t want to blindsight a life changing situation onto someone by serving them papers seemingly out of nowhere but I also need to protect myself.

Context:

Daughter is almost 3 and after birth spouse was diagnosed with PPD which eventually spiraled into anxiety, depression, and many other complications she has been on medication for a little over 6 months now.  

I cannnot cope knowing the personality I feel in love with is gone without any glimpse of return. 

Many fights and failed attempts to help and understand I’ve reached my limit of verbal abuse which killed my attraction to my partner. There is only so many times your partner can attempt to manipulate you with shouting and gaslighting before you want them removed from your life. I’ve almost completely withdrawn and do not enjoy life as a result.",7.213571428571432,9.10513416666667,6.961269841269843,70.08928571428572,64.47619047619048,9.40952380952381,36.22222222222222,9.725611199111238,3.933022222222221,1158,56,174,24,18,365,162,252,0.171,0.713,0.11599999999999999,-0.9672,0,0,0,0,6,0,19.0,1,6,3,6,8,12,3,0,10,0,18,7,0,3,0,40,29,16,1,4,5,6,1,0,2,1,5,1,0,3,8,19,0,2,7,1,0,3,5,6,0,1,4,3,25,6,37,23,0,25,0,2,1,2,32,10,0,5,11,123,33,8,0.0,0.14771420774942196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12182661220910615,0.0,0.0,0.2496790813513996,0.0,0.0,0.09969898858126423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16956048940731022,0.0,0.09537262452634154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958639524851681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10608545008476856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13188490428105445,0.0,0.13071469288575407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08040218680991319,0.0,0.10737855642051736,0.12653797734109362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11042109734831483,0.0,0.0,0.082343718174735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11752829300170195,0.0,0.0630371727157905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10604470059880768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07085314289528748,0.0,0.09971042249438056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102457498713745,0.1327141117771706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356403735449912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379294848863888,0.0,0.06851567028196817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354549102755512,0.0,0.2641754754244677,0.0,0.12495263669707778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11252003295655563,0.0,0.0,0.3791890898291552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12559245655290582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09951083838190206,0.0,0.0,0.09244162829805,0.0,0.0,0.13258853735083018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13277006000319833,0.0,0.09481756618879812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10885750980247158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11939991853562472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13965954089539145,0.0,0.12470428110279795,0.0,0.0,0.1281820825503947,0.0,0.13384950705248833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11349538048892514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14013491436609093,0.0,0.0,0.10563294692208466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14257163161860578,0.0,0.08282556941403664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07269639647898925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12978643250884125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22060174994632556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22499154846196634,0.0,0.0,0.12017795503905684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Offandonfitness,2020/02/25,"Question about walking. My son was put in bed at 8pm and my wife went into the garage to smoke. I went on a walk for an hour. I'm on a diet and hitting the gym so walking helps. She's trying to log every time I go on walks even though she's home. Should I log every time she goes into the garage and vapes for an hour?

Surely she can't control me like this and have any legal avenues, right?",0.5395348837209291,2.1631101046511683,2.323430232558138,97.5516569767442,81.67441860465118,4.3,17.726744186046513,3.1291,-0.9103906976744192,303,6,72,0,8,100,59,86,0.026000000000000002,0.8809999999999999,0.09300000000000001,0.6735,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,7,0,4,1,0,1,1,10,9,6,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,6,1,1,1,1,0,8,1,0,0,0,3,0,10,2,12,4,0,20,0,0,0,0,8,8,0,1,5,41,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14839785317554305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447535557424988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14413299987910744,0.0,0.3677214317491869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12402009846932342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14626902516541013,0.0,0.2188935884933076,0.0,0.42980771629252296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10661182253132294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21937251117581089,0.24445761057663626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18635965475728947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056708347765486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144011546456612,0.0,0.2544929944184276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14815782451028292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4045863520576792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,BlueTigerLilly,2020/02/25,"Nuclear “Regret” Bomb 30F Divorced now for 3 years after 2 years of marriage.  I left my husband.  We had little to our names and had a quick simple divorce.  This was extremely painful for him, unexpected.  He was devastated.  He came from a good family where no one had ever been divorced.  He felt a failure.  Even though we talked about life goals, were aligned to have a family, had good careers, etc., I had a change of heart after being married.  I constantly battled this feeling of being unfulfilled.  He never once held me back, was the textbook perfect guy.  I nor he ever cheated.  I truly loved him.  Just needed space.  Felt chained in a way. I packed up and left town.  Being single was so liberating.  After the first month, we have been no contact.  I felt for him, worried for him, but never felt heartbreak like I would have thought. I was content. 

I did miss him.  I am a big time FB stalker. From time to time I would check on him via facebook.  He had all his settings private.  Of course we were not friends. So nothing.  Every now and the I’d check.  Well. Two days ago, I looked him up again on facebook.  Again just out of curiosity.  My heart sank.  It was his only public post- a series of pictures of him, his wife (who I believe was his college GF) with their families at their daughters christening.  He was beaming. 

I felt every emotion I should have felt through the divorce hit me all at once. I have not slept, can’t eat. I feel jealous, sad, hurt.  I have not done a thing at work.  I feel like that should be me in that picture.  Sick right? I feel left behind.  I want to call him, talk to him.  My head is spinning at 1000mph. 

I know I made the choice.  Why now? Why am I feeling this way.  NOW! I know I can never and will never reach out to him.  What can I do?",0.44489211157242536,2.90745126361032,1.8954914917256287,94.15872288170284,92.2378223495702,4.224337758025847,21.44909654406175,5.956176228190532,0.2252430968949181,1357,50,279,12,49,435,187,349,0.139,0.792,0.068,-0.9747,0,0,0,0,5,0,66.0,5,0,2,4,19,17,3,0,14,0,42,9,4,1,9,51,66,9,0,7,6,3,11,2,2,5,3,0,0,1,9,12,1,1,14,0,2,1,11,9,1,3,31,12,56,8,38,25,4,53,0,5,1,1,48,21,0,0,29,199,65,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07563346275365428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06560792198309688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09612951229072338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08712405929441189,0.09758648667510156,0.0,0.0,0.09026014770419932,0.0,0.0,0.09220357270393108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05502611005227754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08731478854738314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08730646596997786,0.0,0.09597660068674499,0.0,0.0,0.09515741144157297,0.056354866430548836,0.15435861001902978,0.14377618024503122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413040630446113,0.0,0.21570871022725974,0.06095458397364381,0.4915392766033216,0.0,0.0,0.07257548080634242,0.0,0.0,0.06592013886084479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14312933585427492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08448292905859557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08756574896192154,0.0,0.0,0.2022157203005079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09133976005869332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09378229530384616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781102266869515,0.0,0.0602659760079528,0.08336876390152725,0.08551580262948669,0.0,0.0,0.07164961424598533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07700710592849122,0.08073444155170828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06810379868326939,0.0,0.0,0.06326573211455322,0.2632246346175144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08186947217054585,0.0,0.0,0.18173187131479146,0.05781689818758524,0.06489179012417894,0.09078941324900222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08171560150605499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07286515552093621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13715837619440455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05668463854713721,0.0,0.08382916086354966,0.06773672655030005,0.14925713112184874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08334792111014339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0503255639011005,0.13545044239584325,0.0,0.0,0.07671539195841925,0.0,0.15398100720531707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06211597240627925,0.08664938622310528,0.0,0.12122165585612812,0.0,0.0,0.10989009693714936
divorce,needhelpplz812,2020/02/25,So confused and not sure what to do.. So after many months of being unhappy and depressed I'm having thoughts of ending my marriage after 9 years of being together. We have had a lot of ups and downs and I love her with every inch of my soul but I'm having a hard time being constantly degraded and made to feel worthless. I'm confused and scared and torn about the important decision I have to make for my self and my children. I don't know where to start and what will remain the rest of my life. I don't know how to approach this and handle telling my kids. I'm a bit lost and would like any advice I can't get.,4.340639534883722,4.4707424728682215,5.3344089147286775,85.53789244186048,70.00775193798451,8.31046511627907,27.752906976744185,8.07648339933343,1.5929604651162792,485,15,104,6,8,160,78,129,0.214,0.727,0.059000000000000004,-0.9591,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,1,5,10,0,3,5,0,14,2,0,3,1,28,28,15,0,1,2,0,2,1,0,2,1,0,0,3,3,13,0,0,5,0,0,1,4,7,0,0,4,2,13,3,18,19,3,13,1,3,0,1,8,4,0,3,9,72,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212440454103318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14783923936849544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373441477727613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349318246320827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872460283782592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19255159146179796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18316860926884826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10992381183633408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135823615078216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19474741428646905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23895436052857014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15355582535011714,0.10621050381419797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.237317435053662,0.1848254361699989,0.1962117017255796,0.20570883652522934,0.14511597651486188,0.2204091562962802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735263528281303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21765500832857654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267952824408425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15387661455214546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20489662837426809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19001690518968853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17259106449340395,0.12676750341841125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15443449727620145,0.0,0.0,0.13999826810040872
divorce,shatteredandlost,2020/02/25,"What the fuck am I going to do? My wife of 18 years who is also my best friend of over 21 years wants to separate. 6 days ago she told me. She also told me 3 years ago that she was struggling and was close to leaving. I had 3 years to change my ways, grow as a person, stop being an brat towards her when she did not want to have sex. She has been growing and changing herself for the better while I was content with what was going on. She has been taking courses,  exercising and losing weight, and just maintained.  I knew what she was telling was serious, but I was positive our love was strong and could carry us through the rough times. Now I am lost. I have been injured since the beginning of January,  an arm injury that needs 6 to 8 weeks to heel. Instead of doing something with my off time, I gained weight and sat in front of the computer. I wasn't a slob or useless, I just didn't try to take advantage of the off time. I am high maintenance when it comes to affection,  I need a kiss hello and good night,  and I like sex. 7 days ago I threw a fit because I hadn't had any affection from my wife in a week. Not just sex, but just attention. No touching, no worrying about my injury,  I was frustrated.  And now she wants to separate. 22 years. I have no one. My best friend just wants to be alone, and the person I need to talk to to understand and share my emotions with just wants to be alone. What the fuck am I going to do?",3.2842502017756274,4.177304569491529,4.28857142857143,89.335988700565,72.79661016949153,7.788539144471347,25.573042776432608,8.11559375814309,1.2801686844229212,1108,34,247,16,21,360,147,295,0.14400000000000002,0.6559999999999999,0.2,0.9776,0,2,1,0,0,0,35.0,2,0,0,8,14,20,3,1,15,0,35,13,2,2,0,42,60,20,0,9,11,2,4,1,2,0,2,0,0,2,8,16,2,1,3,1,0,8,8,8,0,1,24,4,41,12,37,32,2,42,0,3,0,7,26,10,2,1,24,172,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26741908096570377,0.0,0.0,0.2082980789514958,0.0,0.16083436639817575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06838372752839092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06129997576582021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21106142440591472,0.08893647072449627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21275667205227397,0.08662287607598887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08028836586983504,0.0,0.0,0.1297047739061043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11311560348827042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553836296747453,0.18593078311817246,0.0,0.0,0.17145039042589352,0.08434431458389638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10624635193862632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10647770933169773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049128162350590414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11250006093048788,0.10977228295930044,0.0,0.0907586348928636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22369019376782145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09436802915741503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06814153953685306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756088889757693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08318363761904156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07741541130946389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840720224733306,0.0,0.1051263452584756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15121605862250867,0.08082570327396467,0.08789320295332086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17591069428350287,0.0,0.0,0.19217731515638464,0.0,0.06827311908970457,0.0,0.0,0.1046857091364807,0.12096037712101253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2965622084355966,0.07981923940172965,0.16132510395191016,0.24490811269884105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10212278351579934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3237842490640245
divorce,PsyDMommy,2020/02/25,"Is this justice? How is it possible that r/divorcedbirds has more engagement than r/divorced?

This subject is one of the most detrimental topics to families everywhere. It’s tragic and should be studied more throughly by all...not birds. 

Also, 👋🏻 hi. My name is confidential but I’m getting divorced and have 3 children. 

I have declining emotional strength to hide my real feelings about it and just cried over a plate of left overs.",4.255348101265824,7.104131544303801,4.84099683544304,77.94352056962029,75.32911392405063,8.506962025316456,33.925632911392405,9.188382445141503,3.740530379746836,348,19,57,9,8,111,63,79,0.092,0.774,0.134,0.5356,0,0,0,0,3,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,2,0,9,0,0,1,0,11,12,6,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,2,10,10,3,3,0,1,0,0,4,3,0,1,0,41,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705814737842133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37166584682249854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3806025712697938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3189699232086241,0.0,0.1710818869814888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176775936077471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3676224781738127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292773442233185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3814431585467176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3851207879581692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,iimplodedit,2020/02/25,"I'm not sure what to do but something has to change I've been reading ""Getting Started"" posts all day and don't see anything resembling my situation too obviously, so here's my shot at getting everything pertinent out:

My wife (43) and I (45) have been together 12 years, married 10. We have two kids. Except to make the kids - they're in single digits - we no longer have anything resembling intimacy. I've seen a therapist off and on for years and started taking anti-depression meds about three years ago. I feel roughly a million times better about myself, and part of the reason I got on the meds was because I thought I was driving my wife crazy. While we certainly like being around each other more than we used to - we can joke again - the intimacy and/or spark has not returned. Since taking the meds, I've dropped 50 lbs. and have gotten in decent shape and see women giving me a second look. Though I don't have interest in dating or having an affair or any of that BS, I've definitely noticed that I'm getting noticed, and it feels good! And it makes me wish my wife would...I don't know, pounce on me? 

For a good four years I've tried to get her to open up to me, but nothing seems to work, whether it's talking about our love life or attempting to be romantic or taking a short weekend trip without the kids or giving her more space to spend time with friends so she can be child-free for a night or two. My wife doesn't really talk about problems we have - she says it's because she doesn't think hurting feelings would help - but we're FINALLY seeing a therapist together (it took about 10 mentions over two years for her to agree). It was good to hear her tell the therapist openly about some of her fears, feelings, and hang-ups, but I've been struggling so long to get her to talk to me and work things out that I'm kind of like, ""Eff it. Too little, too late."" We have individual appointments set up with the therapist and then we're going back in together. But what to do? About two months ago I hit what I think is my limit with our personality differences (I admittedly take some work to love, which is why I go to therapy; she's super even-keeled but is kind of emotionally unavailable).

I contemplate separating but all I can think of is how we'll have to sort out co-parenting, how our older one will be devastated (the younger one is really young), how I won't be able to hug them each night before we put them to bed if they're being shuttled back and forth, how to deal with the in-laws, how to deal with my wack-job family, what to do about the g.d. house, whether I'll have to go back to work full time (I'm mostly a stay-at-home dad), where I could even live (assuming I move out; maybe she would?). And all that makes me want to stay miserable and where I am because at least then life is predictable and I can see the kids daily.

Ugh. Perspective, anyone? I'm lost.",5.3263406783857405,5.516262322357021,5.85017380539738,82.48258925476604,67.89081455805893,9.3672493191384,29.31067095815796,9.23628265651192,2.2056228670462983,2268,74,473,40,35,734,268,577,0.064,0.8009999999999999,0.135,0.9928,2,0,1,0,0,0,88.0,12,0,2,9,29,24,0,3,21,0,49,5,0,10,6,97,101,44,0,7,20,5,5,2,1,5,2,2,1,6,18,38,0,1,13,3,1,8,10,7,0,10,12,13,57,17,71,76,14,70,0,3,6,3,53,27,0,13,33,297,75,5,0.06546098653437153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11605442974560908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04451571559624983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04577184382858091,0.0,0.10773762856051686,0.058274156550673535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15100637393813168,0.0,0.11971322941332806,0.0,0.05570247811127298,0.0,0.0,0.05789492295900636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692490439363044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05226527113874231,0.0,0.0,0.04221692086237088,0.13497480546932808,0.056381451781131,0.0,0.0,0.06839279826765601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07363479904325852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08647272845736946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058832113748314915,0.0,0.06171079222599748,0.0736618090887356,0.1323961666973971,0.0,0.0,0.07170931104066072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050574995813457424,0.0,0.1710033183081331,0.12559228630698685,0.11160896158953006,0.16471670918868256,0.052355130906462134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0737792893838241,0.0,0.04387711941561435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0755331895003743,0.0700773399813712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06495992833943959,0.0,0.0,0.1363350881350797,0.03597564624659578,0.0,0.07384284409064833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09247406140118307,0.06396186291708954,0.0656091057256507,0.05780325041071919,0.057930913145804175,0.05497074191812629,0.0,0.07145839961032413,0.0,0.11816219222964194,0.0,0.13108715047375188,0.0,0.06576435952838358,0.0,0.21813719674989326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05225033491749468,0.06957466900089725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228614028273327,0.0,0.0628115820722994,0.14905553408375885,0.0,0.0,0.08871611723867487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07088786929015495,0.0,0.0,0.05715800849385711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0626935300119288,0.0,0.0,0.06263732341405541,0.0,0.06580637191284489,0.0,0.0,0.06547870120699964,0.0,0.08387196839655392,0.06730479666924555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05205720390374448,0.0,0.0,0.20865572402158725,0.059593223598177876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05415000451640186,0.0735808915724536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0503950655686038,0.0,0.0,0.09266724638975364,0.13954540356847134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06843403622969457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06169620510969109,0.0,0.196874060614222,0.15784518407468653,0.057215787540816465,0.0,0.07486034308359968,0.3040210030860068,0.04348937072569863,0.12583427091731422,0.0643150869064377,0.0519687112451394,0.11451248301450295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07272956466174764,0.04444371288482902,0.0,0.2557834879628687,0.0,0.0,0.05653727461168745,0.0,0.0,0.038610585893650885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05906835854214604,0.0,0.07527690391633107,0.06310205503838218,0.0,0.1906255113344372,0.0,0.0,0.13950481999968029,0.0,0.0,0.21077364552693295
divorce,1nc0gk3t0,2020/02/25,"Don't know where to go. Throw away 'cause I think she knows my main. 

My(M44) marriage had a rocky start. She(F45) cared more about the ring than my discomfort with the price of it. Maybe I should have taken that as a sign. Then weeks after we get married I get laid off from my relatively well paying job at peak 2008 unemployment, but what I did usually requires relocation and she was in grad school so I couldn't really move. I could feel her contempt growing while I was unemployed. I finally got a job well below what I was before due to the recession and not being able to chase my industry. She keeps having this fantasy that 100k a year jobs grow on trees and seems to love making sure I know that my job 'isn't enough' even after I switched industries just to be able to stay in the area. Extra fun- she recently revealed to me that she thinks since she makes more money, she shouldn't have to do anything around the house. After all 'she pays for everything'. 

I wish that were the end of it, but we never shared a ton of interests. Over the years I kept suggesting classes or whatever so we could have a regularly scheduled activity together. Those always got shot down. I invited her to all my stuff but I don't think she has ever taken me up on it. I used to go to all her stuff, but a few years back I just got tired of the one sided exchange. I guess I gave up and hated having to do things I dread with no reciprocation. Of course she loves mocking me for not liking to go to her stuff. It can't just be a ""please, I don't want to go alone""

I just don't know how to talk with her anymore. She's so hostile. I can't have a discussion without it devolving into mocking and name calling from her. For my part I just shut down when she gets going as fighting back just feeds it. If I ever do fight back, she just dredges up every disagreement from years and years ago when she can't win on the subject at hand. Mocking my man-hood seems to be her go-to trump card. Extra fun is that any time I've ever cried from stress or whatever she relentless mocks me about it. 

I think I know I should leave.  I think I'd probably be happier. I'm so lonely when I'm home. I think I've almost forgotten what it feels like to have someone just be nice to you. It's just so hard to move on.

No kids involved at least.",2.6774852279503416,4.2845788583509545,3.833868921775899,89.17730308451246,75.42706131078224,7.388279937117146,23.3332791239768,8.139509932561175,1.1095589418333605,1812,53,394,30,39,589,234,473,0.17600000000000002,0.7190000000000001,0.105,-0.988,9,3,0,0,3,0,46.0,3,1,0,2,31,27,9,3,18,0,38,5,1,5,8,77,82,26,0,9,19,0,4,2,0,3,1,1,1,1,24,14,1,3,16,1,5,10,16,13,2,1,13,5,68,14,64,57,13,65,0,1,0,2,40,24,0,7,32,274,92,12,0.1562739608506144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06926371863141298,0.0,0.07824289903250747,0.0809263468402834,0.0,0.0,0.06501622713685055,0.0,0.0,0.053135826120438254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0774908885489375,0.0,0.0,0.06430007718782194,0.0695584785803745,0.0,0.0,0.07341226522168517,0.18024754451729855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06648881528139386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07978659325237786,0.0,0.07966585910036172,0.08026820271864174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12477204161128792,0.0,0.08582980396726038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06920617237231314,0.08073638811080264,0.0,0.051608738643502114,0.21203811666372865,0.06583377602865345,0.0,0.07022447970468343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07901681011321429,0.055821074428346384,0.0,0.08559524275049434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224700418618595,0.0,0.26644227985873564,0.0,0.18747984358536848,0.0,0.08607669317954161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06999538679401475,0.07714409142096806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07837776226655035,0.0,0.0,0.09015958453899628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101555853529961,0.06945173837939915,0.0,0.0,0.21471020491587364,0.0,0.0,0.08273578018107759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07634756356894537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14104335101046855,0.0,0.10431408235497844,0.0,0.07849909916120862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660944888744038,0.0,0.0,0.06026405629604443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052947640137135835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846147354074512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08577094041214345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08424488054793491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05005655047218451,0.0,0.07715084165443492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07907879572470435,0.0,0.14226594471890006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06463571765309035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06620520995027733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05530575691386358,0.08328362467731883,0.0,0.0,0.08950564707988982,0.0,0.26834444543458946,0.0,0.0,0.07364317933767224,0.0,0.0,0.06280354508964832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05191073781508914,0.3004021321412974,0.0,0.0,0.04556230164694816,0.08980696458472702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06748526341432494,0.08605684482903078,0.0,0.04608721551420178,0.0,0.06267677254717814,0.0,0.14050905855291632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985367131153278,0.0753212608053473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515882678618222
divorce,BonusCheckz,2020/02/25,"First try again at dating. Stood up. That's all, just venting. I fucking hate having to go through this again. Everything seems so impersonal since I got to check out last.  

And then work myself up FINALLY.",1.8161403508771947,4.594253421052635,2.406315789473684,89.09087719298245,93.73684210526315,5.691228070175438,22.12280701754386,7.1686216300943375,1.1778807017543858,162,6,30,3,6,50,34,38,0.175,0.825,0.0,-0.7896,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,2,4,2,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,5,7,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,2,0,1,2,0,3,0,7,5,1,12,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,1,7,21,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3048441727470021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3715685908544091,0.0,0.2885168016017399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3135778205670225,0.0,0.0,0.19277080378507125,0.0,0.2712830723458171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3348821782723115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764870002038695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3087879355623865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805833800510314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302893101230625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469360380107251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,jussapeachiibbyy,2020/02/25,"Day 164 After Separation Got called from my lawyer an hour or so ago.

My ex signed the paperwork. Tomorrow I’ll get another call telling me what the next step for me is.

I know I’m the one that left, I had my reasons. But I’m not too sure how I feel now.

It’s like every time I get some sort of news everything comes flooding back in. The flashbacks, the pain, the abuse, the name calling he would do.. it all hurts again.

I left for my sanity. Because I had to find myself. I care deeply about him, but I did what was best for myself.

It’s strange to be in this boat, I definitely never thought I’d be in it. But I guess everything happens for a reason right?

Any words of advice at all? This is all still so new to me.",-0.07205409356724958,2.0872654934210537,1.9099122807017568,96.40994152046784,88.14473684210527,5.4830409356725145,18.970760233918128,6.937597516519254,0.1023716374269008,553,16,131,8,18,183,101,152,0.07,0.84,0.09,0.7252,0,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,0,0,0,1,9,6,0,0,9,0,10,1,0,3,5,26,22,7,0,1,5,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,9,1,0,0,6,0,0,2,2,2,0,1,6,1,20,4,16,13,5,22,0,1,0,0,8,7,0,4,14,84,29,1,0.0,0.17106503309545945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14108509781815484,0.12798291838593798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09818239956087543,0.15139355163912066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110182321280534,0.0,0.08801185503105258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15151643418608354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4422800820232021,0.0,0.1472036059404285,0.0,0.0,0.12436938051488898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09311225343277066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12164519825090706,0.0,0.25951635379459304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07300215870340403,0.1031441013266412,0.0,0.0,0.1319594255779145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15086371991988465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115472756370859,0.0,0.15904930627176128,0.0,0.1276735199526142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14218383902582848,0.0,0.15456027836591546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07934670322454705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31373554463409875,0.0,0.0,0.07053609155181896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11135367766760758,0.139441752423107,0.1535482799899259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09783467651310586,0.0,0.1536290107990969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29689049588141586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232985362919152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11530093717512087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13607512269172015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12619326092549316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11462048186335083,0.08418832324304702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025624156504293,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,JustGiveMeSomeWine,2020/02/26,"I will miss and love my husband forever. He is a wonderful person and this is a huge loss. How do people move on when there is still love and no ill will towards the other? Besides the regret I will hold onto forever knowing the ways I could’ve prevented this. I just know it could be years before I feel any better. So many divorce stories involve infidelity or abuse, or other horrible things. Things that can be a relief to get away from. But what happens to the people who still deeply care for their former spouse...the whole “love but not in love” ordeal - how does this process work? We have no kids to tie us together going forward. Our families love one another but I would imagine that will only be from afar going forward. I’m worried that the rest of my life will be spent in despair...someone I love and who loves me is out there in the world and out of sight but always in my heart and mind...",3.2904119850187254,5.159224146067422,4.086314606741578,86.90156928838955,74.3932584269663,6.769138576779027,25.3498127340824,7.554174236665415,1.2827021722846448,710,24,139,9,15,227,113,178,0.09300000000000001,0.701,0.207,0.9801,0,0,0,0,2,0,21.0,3,0,1,3,9,13,0,0,9,0,18,10,1,2,0,30,37,16,0,3,8,1,1,0,0,6,2,0,0,2,14,9,0,2,5,0,1,5,3,3,0,1,1,2,15,10,18,25,2,23,0,3,1,7,19,14,0,3,7,101,29,1,0.0,0.13605931837044252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09555095103467656,0.0,0.0,0.0780909465745266,0.12041329001587693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10789016939997302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09771513686781222,0.0,0.0,0.10156119642630143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170807494875324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18337094850801447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10049186408840663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10825512101164683,0.0,0.05806343805641049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05999593992909848,0.0,0.13052543114999174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10154718228718397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13607864904169711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12621934664636286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08111053469190592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7254941453662582,0.0,0.0,0.11642348622998372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11594943932069993,0.0,0.0,0.12205019479338992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07781437947016212,0.08733630719583015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15922264646772888,0.1002684766001191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729833693493316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18341290017774606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525809966395964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13813096607624836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09114975426210853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12820787739196193,0.0,0.0,0.1245323970962632,0.08360040056625198,0.11661933503498037,0.0,0.081574662637433,0.0,0.0,0.07394922566873681
divorce,sadmemeing,2020/02/26,"How soon did you move out? Some backstory: we’re renting an apartment, no kids, I was just told by my husband that he wants a divorce on Sunday night because he no longer loves me and wants to work on his long term commitment issues alone 

Personally, I feel like I want to be out of this apartment as soon as possible, as being here makes me extremely stressed because it reminds me of the life we were building here together — the downside is that our lease is until the end of June, and to get an early termination we’d have to pay whatever rent we owe on top of a hefty fine (I have the money for this, he does not). At the same time, I’m afraid that I’m moving too fast while the feelings are still raw. He no longer loves me but I still love him, and although he spends most of his time at friends’ places, I still feel this weird happiness when he comes in and awkwardness/tension when he’s here. I also have a cat I would be moving with me and I don’t want to cause her any stress with a move before I have to. Everyone is telling me to take things one day at a time but for some reason my brain won’t slow down. 

Sorry for the rambling. How long was it before you moved out of your shared place after you found out about a divorce? Just looking to see what other folks did.",5.940196292257363,5.105260053435117,5.985670665212653,85.48045801526719,66.78625954198473,9.165103598691386,30.164667393675032,8.192908349453996,1.80574612868048,1002,30,220,11,14,317,152,262,0.069,0.825,0.105,0.91,3,1,0,0,2,0,22.0,4,4,0,2,17,12,0,3,15,0,20,5,1,5,1,38,41,18,0,5,5,1,3,1,1,2,1,0,2,2,11,14,0,0,5,0,6,6,6,4,0,1,7,5,30,8,38,28,5,47,0,0,2,3,31,17,0,3,25,147,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10671229956112464,0.0,0.08239636761509635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07006675101228604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256173155305024,0.0,0.17534893519351494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11502017997867245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584444779955153,0.0,0.08875479166391731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06644849898399292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09016587362176637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09125766930080846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09845353988404372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562914768871389,0.07360761295672831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11297162059872312,0.07960392395461027,0.0,0.053831087586425484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10968176204505356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10754087707295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07277606288595068,0.05033727823159189,0.0,0.0,0.1823639500313178,0.08652273102541039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27897701265025865,0.0,0.06877609109600395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5475449450102472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09669056428296648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06981860242029529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08996544020140615,0.21529750125625585,0.0,0.0,0.11615551603116644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10593626019467707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210487277632607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153382885153204,0.0,0.0,0.24684960113009066,0.0,0.23605052733820045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07746885342104043,0.0,0.09005638314240581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06845130690374056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802401135802868,0.0,0.0,0.09845353988404372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.243088830271602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07501008385668252,0.0,0.0,0.07319249960011003,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ronaldluang90,2020/02/26,"In The Middle of Separation But Can' Take it Anymore Me (30) Wife (24) decides she wants to separate after some fights we had. We used to shout and yell it got pretty bad. We only been married for a year before she thought she wanted a separation. 

In May of 2019 I said some derogatory things, and I saw how bad it hurt her so since that day I never raised my voiced like that or said anything derogatory again.

A month ago she separates from me and is hell bent on divorce. Then a week ago she says she wants to try marriage counseling so said if I could ask if my counselor offers it. She asked on Wednesday I text her on Sunday and no response.

I’m pretty tired of this back and forth. From going to divorce to marriage counseling. Even during the talks about divorce she never filed the paper work and said she would get to it. It’s been a month now and she still hasn’t done it. Saying she has no money. We are doing an uncontested divorce.

There has been no reliability and follow up of anything on each end. I feel like I’m in limbo and I have high levels of anxiety due to all of this.

I’m an emotionally wreck. When we first separated it was crazy heated arguments now it’s more calm. She talks about missing me/us and wants to do marriage counseling but won’t respond back to me about the counseling. I said, “Yes my counseling center does marriage counseling.” She doesn’t respond. 

I just want to call it quits. I’m wrecked emotionally, and I can’t improve my life because of my situation. Should I file it and make it a reality in her eyes and if we work it out in this time frame then we do. Otherwise, if it doesn’t we can have a clean exit and not wait another 3 months for our divorce to finalize. I’m just so fed up and hurt at this point.",2.1235942173479567,4.2623231440678,3.737254901960785,86.81282153539385,78.85875706214689,6.8765702891326015,23.97108673978066,7.928766900206844,1.3037284147557329,1379,48,285,24,34,458,179,354,0.08900000000000001,0.8490000000000001,0.062,-0.6432,0,0,0,0,6,1,34.0,9,0,0,4,18,10,2,0,13,1,26,4,1,3,3,56,56,29,0,12,10,1,1,2,0,4,2,10,1,0,21,25,1,1,3,0,1,2,11,7,0,1,15,13,44,3,39,36,5,49,1,3,2,0,51,20,1,8,29,194,65,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742728426996315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10307541406026377,0.07519871524036208,0.0,0.09748651745517876,0.0,0.0,0.16178393910611294,0.0,0.18379320052657785,0.0,0.0,0.1511722278913841,0.1641516622867901,0.059922356674492964,0.0,0.0836454862355896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003746022459802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07848401302545065,0.0,0.0,0.06339493309163509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602240250419611,0.10059433917121882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2211470217726918,0.08706402594311355,0.0,0.0,0.06492577766006931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049703092728700105,0.07022505804910449,0.0,0.10768210666737467,0.0,0.08361335637645882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05135734061673045,0.0,0.05586577220589977,0.0,0.07861895071976521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10385863479867703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104629228570082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06943172092478522,0.09604817066749732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06561556333101948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353847522590787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516290001582325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07476106686826356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09292463610569708,0.0,0.0,0.2000115073290484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045534329755261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4675258461503573,0.15634313877007613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813142181643289,0.11049256086831974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07850196862539949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07390885955897376,0.15801854925853873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06530570423032378,0.0,0.0,0.07803868460668914,0.057319127422294,0.112980614682933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0667387897346369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11824198575569385,0.08489905630199578,0.0,0.0,0.28989744625579084,0.0,0.0788497898962152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14312615995849182,0.0,0.0,0.06982902075901311,0.0,0.0,0.06330154299609203
divorce,tootymoodyvoodoo-y,2020/02/26,"How do you deal with the loneliness? My (30f) husband (31m) told me the other week ""he doesn't know if he wants to be married anymore."" We spent a week talking it out and trying to find solutions, but i could feel that he had already made his decision. I'm trying to cope as well as i can, but we've been together 10 years! We have 1 kid and I'm pregnant. He says I've done nothing wrong, and I can't help feeling like that is the truth. The last 10 years have been spent loving him, taking care of him, giving him a beautiful child, and just enjoying our time together. Never even thought about being unfaithful in all that time despite constantly traveling for work. 

Sorry, i digress into a rant. Can't help the bitterness. Anyway, how do you guys deal with this crippling loneliness? I just want to talk to someone, get a little of attention, because although we are still together to make sure insurance takes care of me and baby, he has cut me off completely physically. It makes everything hurt that much more. I just feel so alone.",4.367761194029851,5.832376920398012,5.193213930348257,81.69668656716419,70.84079601990051,8.942089552238807,29.817910447761196,9.3871,2.6898083582089547,815,33,156,18,15,265,132,201,0.132,0.675,0.193,0.9545,0,1,0,0,0,0,31.0,4,2,0,1,11,12,2,0,9,0,18,1,0,5,4,38,40,14,0,4,6,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,8,12,0,0,8,1,2,1,4,4,1,0,9,5,20,8,19,28,3,16,0,1,0,1,29,5,0,1,11,97,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13883300326208786,0.14792498382430394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13293931090117464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08171424122873229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27334115299152484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14054647597613865,0.14485795566792253,0.0,0.1070261907053893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763946107202908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371773500487319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08853724973631193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12047344036374638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20333565305731105,0.09576371244705904,0.0,0.0,0.12251718055793935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700343970584864,0.12859078019260115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13272831012267833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17969871189275086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14350084845179503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736691170264239,0.10926677662969883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06548894121551782,0.13435102331648424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12098329391772908,0.12683918651097156,0.178955777708002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09854049226377973,0.0,0.10338585950071144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12862239523318952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10660012109765098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357819162570612,0.0,0.0,0.15005543926563988,0.0,0.0,0.10705067619473006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263383824478808,0.0,0.2015743944033917,0.21548494701015208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10641891028692442,0.15632859804392554,0.0,0.0,0.12808833358572866,0.0,0.18201919504982172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581296275353115,0.0,0.2150499783382796,0.0,0.1205249918356602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09758833105081048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14656013023142125,0.0,0.17264466358131275
divorce,donpiano9,2020/02/26,"Scared Me (M36)  and my Wife (F38) have been together for 13 years.  We have a house, no kids, a cat and a dog.

I was diagnosed with Clinical Depression (major depressive disorder) approximately 4 years ago.  Nine months ago, I attempted suicide.  I took 50 sleeping pills and drank 12 beers.  My wife came home early (she NEVER comes home early!) and found me unconscious and barely breathing in a pool of vomit in the bathtub.

After a brief stay at the psych ward at the hospital , I was released.  I went back to work after 3 months.  After 3 months back at work, I quit.  The stress and type of work I do is extremely emotionally draining and was most certainly NOT helping my current mental state.  I have been unemployed for 3 months now.  I have an interview for a low stress, part time job early next week.

I love my wife but I don't love our marriage.  Does that make sense? We have been in couples counseling for 4 months.  We go once a week.  

My wife is asexual.  We have sex maybe 4 times a year.  When we do have sex, it is terrible.  I am craving not only sex, but affection and attention.  She is well aware of how I feel.  We have spent countless hours talking (and arguing) about the state of our marriage.  She keeps promising to try harder, but she has yet to follow through.  I know sex isn't everything, but, to me, it's a huge deal.

She is an amazing person.  She works very hard to support our little family.  She literally has been paying ALL the bills for the past 3 months.  We have a substantial bills (mortgage, new cars, cell phones etc.)

I am going to bring up divorce tonight, or at least separating for awhile.  She is going to be VERY upset and will most likely kick me out of the house, take away my truck keys, cancel my credit card and cancel my cell phone.  I have NO ONE.  Due to my depression, I have completely isolated myself from friends and family.  I reached out to my parents this morning asking for their help, they have refused.  They won't even let me stay at their empty rental property for the time being.  

So after tonight I will be homeless, without a vehicle and without a cell phone.  I'm scared.  Terrified.  But I can't keep living like this.  I have a roommate, a 'mother' if you will, not a wife.  We've been trying, and it's just not working.  

Has anyone been in my position before?  Any advice?  Even some kind words would be helpful at this point.  Thank you for reading.  

TLDR:  Bringing up divorce tonight, wife will more than likely kick me out of the house, take away my truck and cell phone.  I will be homeless with no job.  I'm so scared.",2.4174798387096783,4.7952839818548405,3.4570258064516146,87.94603870967742,79.14112903225806,6.709935483870968,24.03290322580645,7.839951260653429,1.3495312580645162,1989,70,393,34,50,638,247,496,0.132,0.7559999999999999,0.11199999999999999,-0.6954,8,0,1,0,2,1,86.0,10,2,4,7,13,26,1,6,27,0,51,14,2,3,3,61,78,26,1,2,14,8,2,3,1,7,4,0,2,2,7,29,2,3,4,3,5,12,14,12,1,2,15,2,65,14,53,50,9,75,0,4,0,6,58,21,0,5,41,255,72,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07332734805654884,0.13303528362541125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051029166772148166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0524690891949661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07015143662577975,0.0,0.14100342456810375,0.1154008846259447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06385275418107712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08582474912668399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06463954729185513,0.07867707726195912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08302934594930324,0.0,0.0,0.07736202559116942,0.1938932217931733,0.07616311525544098,0.0,0.0,0.08600131907304176,0.0,0.06566722925963503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08440889672968895,0.0,0.0,0.08368844132802826,0.09912524650205837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06744031189456302,0.0,0.14148038579018585,0.0,0.037942027775488364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08227650896844409,0.05797502884763309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12793936338963854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06722030175830711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15089139739648266,0.0,0.1505406876656872,0.0,0.07389840609318855,0.2597551677348469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148929472315135,0.13339641440202502,0.0,0.07814168385430369,0.04123953142085393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07673257218283586,0.0,0.10998095367454024,0.07520889989080118,0.0662609073149286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13545144973378784,0.0,0.050089187407291694,0.0,0.07538687012188816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07562177167230026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3593730014705258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05787478625300072,0.07247323829142598,0.07980494286375908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0799142012143689,0.05084844173920424,0.0570706231727682,0.0,0.0,0.08332204936898477,0.08126004166569653,0.07163331962263675,0.0,0.06552125488111016,0.0,0.0,0.07093621202596978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07981332831003937,0.0750594148417358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253817139394539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07509330053987194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15996341012615636,0.0,0.0,0.17191408980962178,0.0,0.0,0.0820806050234383,0.0851534907241601,0.0,0.0,0.11284014125833215,0.0603135927349229,0.0,0.06908592900230665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13126772230821182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08337121024968339,0.10189325753372676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238302459813554,0.0,0.0,0.12038369260696355,0.0,0.06746917010043807,0.06956200507989868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14467004504315528,0.0,0.27314682238115284,0.0,0.0,0.05330562948336919,0.0,0.0,0.14496817626816175
divorce,OttawaGuy14,2020/02/26,"Dating after the separation/before divorce is finalized Hey everyone,

About 8 months ago, I discovered my stbxw had been having an affair for a very long time. I was happy, thought she was, we tried counselling and everything, and there were lies upon lies. I served her the day after she told me how long it had actually been going on. Fast forward to now, I was a regular at therapy, and my counsellor (who I think is great) told me to take a break for a bit and come back if I feel I need it, because I was doing pretty well given the circumstances. I have no feelings left for my stbxw, the proceeding are moving forward, slowly but surely as she's lying about some financials to get more from me, but that's besides the point. 

I'm dealing with that with a level head, work's going well, active in hockey, skiing, and other things, family and friends have been amazing, I'm 29, no kids and lots of life left to live. I obviously have my absolute shit days here and there, but all the positives left in my life make up for it right now. 

I started dating again about a month and a half ago. Have had good dates and bad dates, I'm upfront about being separated, and just have a good evening out. The problem I have is I just find myself unable to feel any connection whatsoever. The woman can be everything I am attracted to, but I just can't seem to feel anything for them romantically. I should clarify, getting turned on isn't the problem, but feeling that good feeling about really wanting to see them again and go for another date. 

Anyone else experience something similar? Do I just need more time to myself? Any thoughts/opinions?

Thanks everyone.",6.402235588972433,6.811281514285718,6.908805346700086,75.05879699248122,65.60317460317461,10.187134502923977,32.45196324143693,10.064110947511567,3.2050634920634917,1307,50,238,28,19,428,179,315,0.087,0.745,0.16699999999999998,0.9804,0,0,1,0,1,0,44.0,1,0,2,1,21,16,1,0,18,0,31,4,2,2,3,50,61,20,0,7,10,0,6,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,9,17,0,0,10,2,0,7,4,4,2,1,15,7,34,12,35,43,6,48,0,0,1,0,17,16,1,4,28,169,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.09653129627528227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17537257926691174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345374903679107,0.1037258642409899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06916691010947146,0.10135485777546832,0.08140243266101269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07606309482347552,0.082593764926996,0.060300492509151565,0.0,0.08417332521770664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10799462352233426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852105082373264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12758996475308945,0.10198180208671152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08263466353086657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06533548723240326,0.0,0.0,0.18904390431224136,0.17780518252310298,0.09676238606837056,0.09325263003747716,0.0,0.30010044368409405,0.0,0.0,0.1083616270591318,0.09041075603696216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07642506608029644,0.0,0.10336285503495024,0.0,0.1686549277452128,0.2489072946383593,0.0,0.10905924888800833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10530179287237383,0.0,0.0,0.10152008576487606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3224294247471812,0.0,0.13973972987296365,0.0,0.0,0.08734785166545993,0.1750815316560807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08409793788402384,0.0,0.0,0.06602962574751536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15791342083411888,0.10513591924991253,0.0,0.14669531469524874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09351103051313084,0.0,0.0,0.10063683296833092,0.0,0.1893054662295514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06337045237367635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08447682941618218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07882614343261456,0.09005272226274208,0.0,0.0,0.10153958575400866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07615316925397732,0.0,0.0,0.07001582812718263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09323058710282722,0.0,0.07437525624042961,0.0,0.0,0.0910719113757804,0.11312322571533305,0.0,0.06571781130266817,0.06338370911911323,0.0,0.07853114225984366,0.11536167152218865,0.0,0.0,0.18904390431224136,0.0,0.06715994019267878,0.1075961594473142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08161906013653343,0.05834536475702589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17788126666949491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07201467378296911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,lonelysole851,2020/02/26,Does it get easier after papers are done? 30m one kid with my soon to be ex wife shared custody she’s the one who wants a divorce and it’s killing me daily. I have moved into my own apartment last week and have been so lonely just hoping things get better.,0.13325396825396751,2.4676921666666694,1.840793650793653,95.605,90.29629629629628,3.8264550264550254,15.121693121693122,5.288315135182226,-0.8699862433862435,203,4,43,1,7,66,47,54,0.124,0.696,0.18100000000000002,0.3658,0,2,0,0,1,0,3.0,0,0,0,1,3,5,1,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,7,10,3,1,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,2,0,5,3,4,7,1,7,0,1,0,0,7,2,0,1,4,29,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26713522323400063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643225709332555,0.30909802071351633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31561323359800203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29999992236760165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3341692494158629,0.0,0.0,0.2462078788807893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3210271952196303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4093484984821186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20066600253258385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781546110562958,0.0,0.2422831562033854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,nenarox2,2020/02/26,"Why am I so mad AFTER the fact??? I am so furious lately!

I am done. It is over. Legally over. Trying to be friendly and understanding so that we can be good co-parents. However, the day it is legal, I get an email from his coworkers wife stating that he is doing meth. Holy Cow?!!! I cannot even process this [information.](https://information.So) So I leave the information to just sit there... what do I even say? I don't even know where you get meth?!

Then I call him the day before his weekend with our children and he is sad. I try to be amicable and ask how he is doing. He goes off on this rant about how I was this horrible cold blooded ""insert name here"". How he did everything for me. (Except, he cheated, lost his job for drinking, got addicted to porn, lied for years about everything and never paid a bill, bought groceries, or did an adult thing in his life. I even mowed the lawn!!!) I just hung up... 

Then his weekend comes and I have this terrible gut feeling to go home. (Right now we are leaving the children in the home and we are switching out, until we sell the house and he moves back from another state.) I get home and my oldest son, who is 16 and autistic is calling all of his grandma's because his baby brother (5) has a temperature or 103.8 and he has no clue what to do. Ex husband is passed out, blacked out drunk and possibly on drugs IN MY BED! I get the boys situated. Thank GOD I came home. My baby ran fevers all night and all weekend. 

I will be calling child welfare checks on him from now on... But Jesus. I am so mad at this guy! Takes zero responsibility during or after the marriage. He did not even respond to the damn summons and blamed me for not telling him to read that papers! Now he is possibly on drugs. I am so mad... I thought, maybe if I leave, he will see what I have done for him... I basically became his mother... I have NEVER been so angry. IDK what I am angry at? The fact that he takes no blame? That he left my sons to fend for themselves on the 1 weekend out of the month that he gets them? That he might be doing drugs while holding a very well paying job? That I degraded myself to save our marriage for years??? Please give me advice...Yes, I am still in therapy...",1.1649002625881053,3.4903246230248364,2.7991237849541624,91.0969461464044,83.8081264108352,5.512489058828948,21.681899847975306,6.868970318607317,0.5139608329110419,1700,56,363,21,49,558,224,443,0.147,0.802,0.051,-0.9931,5,0,6,0,0,0,101.0,6,1,1,1,28,15,6,0,19,0,46,11,2,3,7,53,69,32,0,1,10,7,1,0,1,3,6,1,6,6,21,24,2,1,5,7,6,6,8,10,1,1,14,5,56,5,49,47,3,57,1,2,2,1,63,23,1,5,25,248,77,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09636555269941896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269174537355944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08263906917046591,0.0,0.0,0.06797167774203369,0.0,0.0538858648077644,0.0,0.07521916048053759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707890283491982,0.10110238251359673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07614601035606153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11401723776085193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809212207875021,0.0,0.08659520455421764,0.3075366487754554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29192624186447425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15889067615999494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044696074786500783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682951433290915,0.0,0.2309183806298337,0.08479825906462687,0.050237934813233034,0.07414303637466664,0.07069899090962957,0.0,0.0,0.08752672322335447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3546767649916521,0.0,0.0,0.10199803124173196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17544035526777255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04858056589525575,0.0,0.09971543328643584,0.2807983222705044,0.09604337471116016,0.0,0.062437269405927635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09649554221329268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888064603406602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09377502860364344,0.0,0.0,0.07055747716411699,0.09395180197377354,0.0,0.0,0.13635411317093596,0.0,0.0,0.08295440247444598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09703313413125376,0.0,0.1993082054682724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08842071486133238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.075490378600442,0.0,0.07029667812591216,0.0,0.0,0.07044079959517198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993616994998526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07059379342288583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13292677509081313,0.0,0.0772626937073745,0.08138389090993269,0.10108943714828744,0.0,0.05872690168791416,0.0,0.0,0.0701771799686548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12003124044703264,0.0,0.0,0.0920241794447611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07293661224386433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.079479333324944,0.0,0.0797643568321682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11384927353707636
divorce,DonnaFinNoble,2020/02/26,Name of the app for managing custody? I’ve seen it mentioned but didn’t save it. Thanks in advance!,0.5078333333333305,2.9865154500000024,1.7600000000000016,94.31833333333331,94.5,4.666666666666667,26.66666666666667,6.42735559955562,1.185166666666667,79,4,16,1,3,25,19,20,0.0,0.655,0.345,0.857,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,3,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,8,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,singstunewouthewords,2020/02/26,"First time doing taxes myself Hi! I (33f) was married for 10 years, divorce finalized last year. I have primary physical custody of our two kids. I rent an apartment for the 3 of us and have been here for almost 3 years now.

I've never done taxes myself. XH was abusive and the financials were one of the things he controlled.

I know I need to file my return but I don't know if I'm entitled to one as my only income last year was unemployment benefits and child support. Will I even get a return? Can I claim the child tax credit? I'm supposed to claim the kids but will I even get money for them?

I don't miss my X but do not want to ask for his help with this. I don't ask for his help with things any more.",0.5902999999999992,2.6810711466666675,2.6982500000000016,92.415375,84.2,5.616666666666667,19.375,6.9077264865688965,0.2329000000000004,552,15,122,7,16,186,88,150,0.052000000000000005,0.797,0.151,0.9415,4,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,2,0,1,2,4,4,0,0,7,0,16,0,0,1,1,17,28,8,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,3,5,0,1,2,0,6,0,5,1,0,4,6,0,21,3,16,20,1,14,0,1,0,0,16,1,0,2,13,81,24,5,0.0,0.19905315269114235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16822826003417662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11424611925493748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3141156284381413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18842687625912266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719228675247842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22192552709346347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840363653848776,0.0,0.1429011623322574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17554668264676246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252144237232797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18465739194848632,0.2738857042608625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12457026194693567,0.12957236322587112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22768300978943526,0.12777197107808466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19064500699541934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232241700577724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09796245824217063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641121033203808,0.0,0.20208394846496275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099091063491309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4327473247618016
divorce,jayaychgee,2020/02/26,"Fight or Flight- TH done.. now what? How did you decide when to give up fighting your STBX throughout the divorce process? 

My initial retainer was a discounted amount for a non-contested temporary hearing to fight for the marital home, spousal support and reimbursement alimony. Due to the complexity of the spousal support and reimbursement alimony— evidence and contracts up for interpretation... the only matter the judge would rule on in the TH was the possession of the marital home. 

I’m now placed with the decision to fight my STBX with the evidence I have for the spousal support, possibility of a civil suit regarding the contract pertaining to the spousal support I’m requesting (cohabitation agreement). As of right now, I’m out ~$5.5k because of him— not counting current legal fees of $1500.

His affidavit was full of lies pertaining to the debt— again which I have a multitude of evidence to prove he lied, and that he had pre marriage and post separation date agreed to pay the spousal support I am seeking.

My question is— is it worth the gamble in court of attorney fees and possibly losing to continue to fight him over this? Or do I just suck it up and let him walk without paying me a penny while I’m in thousands of debt because of him? 

Also, to some people that may seem like a minuscule amount to just “chalk it up,” but for me— it is not.

Will add that his lawyer is non-negotiable. The only offer on the table is $1000 for me to walk away and not hold him liable to the other debts. 

How did you decide when to fight and when to walk?",6.682480974124808,7.344552849315073,7.022283105022832,73.6098554033486,65.02739726027397,10.735464231354642,36.77016742770167,10.62613485830676,4.070608980213089,1240,60,222,31,18,403,149,292,0.085,0.8590000000000001,0.055,-0.8292,4,0,0,0,8,0,34.0,0,3,0,1,12,15,7,0,26,0,19,0,0,2,1,38,32,20,0,1,9,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,2,0,11,13,0,2,8,0,11,3,4,8,0,1,7,1,18,7,49,21,4,31,0,1,0,0,24,15,1,6,13,154,29,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10399374484766027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12217780504032415,0.0,0.0,0.15854357950281384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13307709755609426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12474718161872853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465656639129535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26088346215124864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329757383285262,0.0,0.06353146649856392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14548262157837047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978040885996916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09015405929163138,0.0,0.1358651725800092,0.0,0.0,0.2932033886061814,0.12454333629377055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14567568706655928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105430787864196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11838444710332224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7378449580261426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12535488845464465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09237739901026606,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,flunkertonian,2020/02/26,"Regrets as I’m preparing sign the separation agreement I initatied the divorce. About 5 months ago. 18 years together, 9 married. No kids. No house. Easy enough asset split. I was bored of a dead bedroom marriage. She’d gone from athletic and energetic to overweight and unmotivated. I was still attracted to her but she had self image issues and wouldn’t even like to be seen naked. Changed under a towel in front of me. Never initiated, always shut me down. We had no shared hobbies anymore. It felt like a chore to get her to go walk the dogs with me or to ride bikes. But we had so much fun together doing the things we loved together. We’d go to garage sales, garden, go to dog parks. Laugh, watch movies, cook dinners. 

I’d travel a lot. Would be gone for weeks. We’d talk constantly, anticipate my return, make plans. Build up amazing images of each other. But I’d get home and reality would hit. She’d be depressed while I was gone and hadn’t taken care of things. Didn’t get the dog to the vet or on walks. Didnt go to the gym, and she’d feel guilty about it and that’d make her more sad. I felt guilty because I had to be gone and that caused her issues. I wanted her to be more independent. 

I realize now a lot of the resentment I felt was because I didn’t manage my expectations. I should have just accepted her speed at life and been there to help her as needed. I should have held her hand to get her therapy. Do excercise programs with her. Follow the diets she was working with (which I did at the end). And I should have sought couples therapy harder. I talked about it a lot but never booked it.

I decided one day that I wasn’t going to come home and be sad and resentful and guilty and sexless anymore and asked for a divorce. She immediately moved out. I went on some dates and found it to be exciting and fun and found out what great sex is like. I’ve now been dating someone for a month and a half and it’s been great. But my ex’s bday was yesterday and I thought more about her that day than I have since we split. We haven’t talked since she left, I only communicate with her lawyer. But I miss her badly now and realize that it’s not fair to the girl I’m seeing to feel like this all of a sudden. Until yesterday I was confident in my decision. But as I look around my life, I miss the comfort that I once had. I miss our other dog that she took. I miss my in-laws. I miss my old life. I feel extremely lonely and isolated.

I know she still loves and misses me. I’d probably have a shot at getting her back. But I’ve since been with a couple women and that’d kill her to know and I couldn’t hide it from her. I’ve caused her too much pain and hardship. She quit her job and moved out of state after I asked for the divorce. She was devastated. But I can’t stop thinking that it’s still worth fighting for. My confusion and bad communication and resentment caused a lot of this. She was content, but I wasn’t. I’ve seen therapists and they think it was justified to leave her, but they also helped me understand how I was a part of the problem. I think I could fix my own ways if she’d be willing to work on some of her problems. All these things are running through my head as I consider signing this divorce agreement. Part of me wants to rip it up, tell this new woman I’m sorry, and ask my ex if she could ever forgive me.

But I don’t think I can do that. And it hurts. I just needed to vent.",1.7910776326565812,3.761531051209104,3.318287210655633,90.24362677270572,79.17069701280228,6.650364239837924,22.315811026337343,7.686295010490155,0.8583657657657655,2671,82,584,42,66,879,297,703,0.163,0.6990000000000001,0.138,-0.895,2,4,0,0,6,0,80.0,8,0,2,4,21,45,5,1,28,0,67,13,2,7,5,130,129,58,2,19,19,2,7,4,0,7,5,0,5,5,34,49,4,2,22,6,2,21,17,24,0,2,43,12,104,21,74,59,18,73,0,12,5,3,70,18,0,11,36,391,138,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06151737832918348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055497770748004334,0.057744919293140885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764887020569525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061779172810548975,0.19463404066826892,0.0,0.0,0.05336298525920287,0.11588931190691107,0.08460908145681728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07075616052721888,0.2138734170795796,0.07341416685432578,0.05978046391026225,0.0,0.07499487473956823,0.0,0.11081774181880423,0.1535757296258301,0.0,0.08951228482278345,0.0,0.05977262750885525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061466267948995665,0.07170696333493576,0.0,0.0458369022477577,0.06277470755131301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10526955016595012,0.04957813733080015,0.19989966439159707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521832401716154,0.0,0.0,0.181288656554796,0.0,0.19720317814323374,0.0,0.0,0.15302367341998738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0712226455254895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09303239388627417,0.0,0.13922424464687794,0.0,0.0,0.08007628498265469,0.07429228242965767,0.0,0.0,0.14486752546456694,0.06886707378001049,0.0,0.07677890258009744,0.0,0.07627894758140194,0.0,0.0,0.07348274668653437,0.07540142246314363,0.0,0.1470541495052572,0.13561795541402294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058277067666022885,0.0,0.0,0.2359997068249434,0.1252692947529926,0.0,0.09264776705740528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11078607263822014,0.14751875458568078,0.10203142575115064,0.10291587443087684,0.10704844683674322,0.0670252807708995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07282180940343977,0.07390689170583002,0.04702606320181627,0.052780510876903004,0.07384465129297023,0.0,0.0,0.1503031253052936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0748230717519369,0.13280954222725508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0738136016184232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0553014354700723,0.0,0.07239752989963061,0.0,0.0,0.17222089609148358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0588009282254609,0.0,0.0,0.07768568056776404,0.0,0.0,0.16626464211080216,0.0580200604390094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16733909989384932,0.06065714606957962,0.0,0.1587259377318344,0.08057673932764015,0.1383153789870123,0.17787043470931407,0.0,0.05509447382499917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07710403049363691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07224604562267939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08186579435658373,0.05508511580952155,0.0556671054546625,0.0,0.0,0.06433289075228943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10104553290778896,0.0,0.0,0.0985970785084967,0.0,0.0,0.04469021000619625
divorce,Derronious,2020/02/26,"What does medication change? At the line and she keeps asking for me to stay. I don't really want to stay. Don't know if it's just some final straws hitting the table, me turning 30, or what. 

I know that a bigger goal in my life will never happen. I think I'll be okay with that. 

Everything she's torn into me for, hated, and just generally not liked... Is suddenly okay? Liked? Wanted?

She's experiencing a large amount of character growth. And per her words last year, regression, at least religiously. 

All of this growth is driven from anti depression meds (and some desperation) (a lot of desperation?) But where does that end? What's real? She's asking for more time and that's what I've given for years...

I know I have my problems too. Honestly, I'm not sure how much of it I think is actually me problems and more just how much I'm done/don't work with her. Ugh. I don't know anymore. I'm rambling.

Tl-Dr: I want out, she's doing a 540 in response. How much of this is medication vs desperation?",0.7616038461538466,3.254869245000002,2.9860000000000007,87.35530769230773,89.05,6.276923076923077,18.69230769230769,7.61054688173877,0.7371538461538467,779,22,162,16,26,264,112,200,0.147,0.779,0.07400000000000001,-0.9246,0,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,0,0,0,3,8,11,1,0,6,2,11,3,0,3,3,43,32,12,0,6,9,0,0,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,12,10,0,1,6,0,0,3,6,5,0,0,2,1,21,6,20,27,11,21,0,1,0,0,9,8,0,5,10,100,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.13224340435425225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13439478374719574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25337706263156945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14335724025375154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11671914685605485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23718074014247226,0.13867922264557034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12002635076347574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179243186390938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484504095210706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11983575025072825,0.0,0.0,0.13379332303497066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12045224329143593,0.0,0.0,0.2979027041586873,0.11046307308466546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09571847843649127,0.1324118807721993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152102792988546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505269711810897,0.2730348566617594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988580591780969,0.0,0.10451776931840036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593397196871073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15424610265230548,0.08681458429259513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888826012395582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12772158568412906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17366549083952382,0.0,0.0,0.07902007308896779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14740175435103114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397913410928289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09865676720389513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745348465388568
divorce,BoBaLee13,2020/02/26,Time to Move On I’m heading to the lawyer today to put down my retainer never in 1 million years did I think that I would be getting a divorce at all let alone at my age with two fairly young children. Worst of all I just feel so alone and the days when he has the kids are absolutely killer on me. I don’t know I guess today is just a really depressive kind a day for me.,1.2768253968253944,2.7661797160493857,3.3450793650793638,91.69,79.0,6.603880070546737,21.447971781305114,7.447530270364453,0.5511008818342149,291,8,68,4,7,99,62,81,0.187,0.769,0.044000000000000004,-0.8981,0,2,0,0,1,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,6,0,8,1,1,0,3,13,14,3,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,1,3,0,0,2,2,2,0,2,1,1,9,1,12,10,3,18,0,1,0,0,4,6,0,1,10,47,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4489556689722057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27955943631848645,0.0,0.18667830998541612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10959052962826056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11323798680311348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387641409639163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22243832425501112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22570192005313866,0.11911493283319922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22163188733650854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303608938148857,0.0,0.0,0.16716366650509332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21788410739492334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388495402370858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13887858678701567,0.0,0.0,0.1263831521778069,0.0,0.4108893792763745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117240144881452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539662614190646,0.0,0.0,0.13957380199848315
divorce,radwoods,2020/02/26,"Dating apps are giving me anxiety I’m not even on them but everyone says try one. A part of me even wants to but I guess I am a little intimidated. A friend offered to help get me going but I think I’d hate it if my friends could see my matches & convos.

Sooooooooo....yeah",-0.8295019157088142,1.3026890000000009,1.775057471264372,93.81457854406132,98.65517241379312,4.6467432950191565,18.513409961685824,6.42735559955562,0.06251111111111117,214,7,48,3,9,73,45,58,0.151,0.645,0.204,0.5379999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,0,2,3,1,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,9,12,4,0,3,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,2,9,2,4,11,1,4,0,0,1,0,7,2,0,2,1,29,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649838316604299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18708997147480516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19526359873604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3230630164777645,0.0,0.0,0.23369035940837546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3778974249413409,0.0,0.12777403656823014,0.2346070465480748,0.13899074864526134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26941363883260666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24145526061052336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16392537630811185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451163040910259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16572217019525967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26483781988964444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19448625737341926,0.0,0.0,0.19488499093965253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15670605004239058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16604217542555072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14424955207613366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,JennySaisQuois,2020/02/26,"I'm so done, commiseration or perspective welcome [Vent/Rant/FML] So bringing up divorce with my husband went suspiciously well - turns out it's because he's been carrying on an emotional affair for months. Like, sending each other love letters, sexting, talking about moving in together level emotional affair. He seems to think that now it's out in the open and we're agreed on divorcing, it's cool for him to be on the phone or video chat with her all the time.  He's also giving me a hard time for having had a consultation with an attorney (""I'm just worried you're going to make me look like the bad guy"" etc).  I'm so frustrated because I just want him to GO already, but he still wants to carry on as usual while we're still living together and it's making me feel like I'm some kind of consolation prize of emotional/financial/sexual support since I'm physically available unlike his internet girlfriend.  Whereas I feel like he removed himself from our marriage emotionally if not physically, so he doesn't get those things from me now.  Thanks for listening to my rant ugh.",6.420420262664165,7.247761263414635,7.137560975609754,71.97654784240152,65.63414634146339,10.405253283302066,34.793621013133205,10.389873798559362,3.802639774859286,869,39,151,21,13,288,132,205,0.077,0.75,0.17300000000000001,0.9457,0,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,1,0,0,1,13,15,1,0,8,1,6,1,0,2,1,26,31,13,0,3,7,1,3,4,1,0,0,1,0,1,8,9,0,0,4,2,0,7,2,3,1,0,4,6,14,12,28,26,4,27,0,0,1,1,30,11,0,5,13,88,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15399983960376004,0.11160021837543127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165206488645746,0.17014002256054586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428108312647501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4709339054953193,0.0,0.0,0.1556381141735029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14112404430497966,0.19939290815436508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07291050933331883,0.13387163555619286,0.15862199471070004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381790820004287,0.0,0.0,0.12501177980874711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14532262903255608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27271353850512475,0.0,0.1232275627825189,0.0,0.11718909408702352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12595173158980405,0.0,0.1863049793936871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11138960838193987,0.14832240110135986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270435079373209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154394092686036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228938822537682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583627141489194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11216714857309974,0.0,0.12848134742643855,0.0,0.0,0.0927125918247577,0.08941971492073919,0.0,0.0,0.16274856621136766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151793229491582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15369754821788098,0.0,0.16462355883008914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12547460835271448,0.12936672158018953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14172250864911382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,tempsorryduders,2020/02/26,"how am i going to deal with this pain (im sorry for so much backstory. ive literally been crying for 3 days now and dont know what to do/how to act)

my wife of 7 years wants a divorce. we have  been together almost 11. me 37, her 29 started dating when she hit college. i had ended a year and change, with post studies then work, before we met.  


this woman is my entire life.

i grew up in a mentally/ verbally abusive household. my father regulated every activity i did, controlled it 200%. i was never in trouble outside the home. typical band kid even, full ride to college. studied engineering. he would yell, scream, belittle consistently.  my life was planned, my time was planned. i had no say. we grew up poor as well. car didnt work, hungry some nights, old clothes. nothing was good enough. it's still the same, he's still the same.  he worked until could no longer and thankfully for them theyre okay now. busting ass and now retired but not eating dog food. my mom was quiet and scared. i never saw it. in 5th grade i came down with type1 juv diabetes. my father who had been controlling tripled up on it. even worse. but instead he now disappears from my life, minus at home. the yelling and crazy are worse. refuses to go to my track meets, or state math competitions, or my band functions not once. not even graduation. just drops me like i dont exist, cept when i get home.. to get bullied. i was taught to not have emotions.  
my wifes parents and raising were polar opposite. i love her parents like theyre my own. they treat me like so. her father is amazing. i get sick thinking ill be missing them. it's so fucking difficult fathoming this all going away.  


so we got married, younger for her than myself. she was happy, i was. i think it was too young at this point. so.. i worked 55-65 hours a week, because i was afraid of being poor. i supported us while she transitioned jobs. i saved. always saved. i never denied her things financially. we took trips, movies, ate out. shows. and she was an angel about dealing with my job and it's shit hours.  


we go to buy our first home together and a year later i find out she's about to cheat on me. we fight. she doesn't go. i take a week off of work not eating. im frantic. in the meantime i never thought, why.. she would do this. i was turning into my father. controlling. even when i couldnt see it. she cried sometimes never told me why. i didnt know. she brought it up eventually and with my shit upbringing i just thought it would go away.  shes in a phase, etc. ive never had any emotional support in my life. i.didnt.know.better. i was too fucking stupid to realize/loving to look for signs of what i was doing.  


another year goes by. i get canned from my long term career. 25% layoff of the company. being 1/4 in my position, i was drawn the shit card. 2 weeks later, i break my neck. literally. fell from the roof, c4-6 incomplete. i look/function 90% normal thank god but this wonderful woman spent 2 months living in the hospital with me. and 6 more helping with rehab. had to relearn how to walk.eat. etc. meanwhile me being me with my shit upbringing dont see if/why/when im hurting her. if im being controlling/when. she doesnt speak up. she looks after me and i make sure shes 'happy' and taken care of.  


i take jabs like shes a guy friend sometimes, i treat her like a guy just as much my wife. im an idiot.  i tell her i love her every day. have. will. always. i compliment her, rarely doubt her. we never have a fight just things.. fester. it took me a long time to get over said above incident, but i did. id do anything for her. but still im getting better, but just controlling. i.wish.i.knew.i.was.  all i hated about my father i tried to get away from etc.. i still brought some with me. i hate myself for it. i thought i was better, stronger. she asked me to stop the dumb comments but im like 'theyre jokes.'

i didnt fucking know i made her feel stunted. did this to her. im so angry. if i limited her growth and put her down i was too blind/much of an asshole to see.   


so post accident we move 1k miles away. it's difficult but we couldnt be near the same area. i get a new job. she stays with hers. the area we move to is now expensive. outside DC. i have the stress of making more, which im not happy with my work but i do for her. she loves the area, new house, etc.  im still the same way. she doesnt bring it up, rarely if so. she hides it. i dont know. im so stupid.   


few years go by. i look at her and say. im unhappy, i dont know what to do. i set off a spark in her. of recognizing my controlling behavior. she feels.. resentful. 

dont get me wrong, shes had behaviors that  upset me. but again. i was taught to repress this. typical male bullshit. and thats not the point atm.

and now.. she wants a divorce. shes being amazing about it. wait till i find a new job, i need to move. i cant see her like this. she's my world.  but wont budge. says that she needs this for herself. we've been to 3 therapy sessions and shes just so angry at me she swears up and down she cant get over that ive changed/limited her. not the million amazing things we have overcome/done.. but the controlling belittling horrible stuff i got from my dad. [i.wish.i.was.able.to.see.it](https://i.wish.i.was.able.to.see.it)  


i feel so fucking horrible. i cant deal with the fact that i have hurt her and never recognized it. shes apologized for not letting the issues be known and made more clear. but im still mortified.

i just want a change to make it right, prove to her, change myself 100% in those respects, relearn behavior. redate this woman.  ive said to her our whole marriage.. 'i dont care if we're in a cardboard box, as long as it's us.'

i cant lose my best friend (and our 10 year dog)

my whole life is this woman. i dont know how to act. literally anything i would do for 1 chance to prove to her how ive always told her, but never acted, on how i view her. on the top pedestal, shining and amazing. i just wish i knew those stupid pot shots and behaviors my old man fucked me with were being passed on. im so angry. ive been so cold about it. the 'deal with it, other shits worse mentality.'

im so fucking scared. ive always been resentful at my father and this is 1000% fold now. what do i do??? anything? 

\-not looking for sympathy, sorry if it's that way. just trying to give a full perspective of why things happened.",-0.005899758454109616,2.3474108966049414,1.7976972624798715,94.71920289855072,93.58333333333334,5.008749329039184,19.0805152979066,6.677766597408838,0.21912789855072434,4926,156,1072,71,184,1608,472,1296,0.16699999999999998,0.6990000000000001,0.134,-0.9951,6,0,0,0,5,0,273.0,17,0,3,21,59,80,23,8,43,1,109,30,7,16,16,178,207,77,0,19,40,13,3,7,2,6,10,10,4,9,55,56,4,11,21,4,6,29,42,41,1,2,62,25,208,39,130,125,27,157,1,4,11,10,138,54,13,13,72,683,263,20,0.0,0.035661756235171725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03013926240351807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10017732749652558,0.0,0.0,0.020467986568419912,0.031560862184608005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07430541005868423,0.0,0.028137999372459192,0.0,0.1131139849117181,0.0,0.0,0.018347743329703174,0.0,0.02561157466612279,0.0,0.031586479386183634,0.053239288176442384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034424622690914966,0.061374776796803775,0.0,0.09552054699196644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20254790959480387,0.024031173111203976,0.0,0.06612349531519847,0.03882203655932459,0.12412077255943445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822013903920734,0.0,0.0,0.09239472344670004,0.0,0.06771343816890964,0.02665830401051033,0.031099757509915157,0.13427096708692512,0.07951900226216582,0.0,0.05071850545613498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04565606087719891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05501889875141035,0.02560173676185355,0.03639518023532655,0.0,0.046507994812283605,0.16695326106368932,0.15725204348196364,0.028873187758494814,0.1197395487033774,0.025245162269182258,0.0481449798943189,0.0,0.0,0.05960441974611056,0.02661597091964268,0.09612111878621868,0.0,0.05943200067910449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.020174364914295757,0.0,0.12076484755866106,0.0,0.059281845227720925,0.034729584540112816,0.06444205307170825,0.0,0.4876725650963524,0.03141497494438227,0.11947231874661178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157892946371746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030777717061525905,0.10629717063596447,0.10293211885735422,0.0,0.02657749374958454,0.07990857630498321,0.12637563972251098,0.033672480563678754,0.0,0.0,0.08149511237965283,0.05695978579149709,0.060272872158775914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06066434177849697,0.0,0.0,0.035250955419501774,0.024024305550573204,0.09596970675672528,0.06637749916483493,0.04463525702198829,0.20892410759307653,0.08720784769280822,0.0,0.028245368058948186,0.029490102666630283,0.028880286455629494,0.0,0.06316654641479846,0.03205388017376894,0.0,0.0,0.0320268861182793,0.0,0.06684156121743423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05690555134655258,0.0,0.05765201403699737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03025726798699433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025703922454696347,0.0572610604870983,0.07180651614962025,0.06026762321083722,0.0,0.14390746614407668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15447819575737234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059536297905603164,0.06738552897199893,0.02130384661948152,0.03208095621588554,0.1442200258283579,0.025163662306205932,0.034477687014341035,0.0,0.03445553848117447,0.0,0.06831075695115871,0.028367444633733342,0.0,0.04526059588562081,0.0,0.026307382801808887,0.0554212406877008,0.03442021488859332,0.0,0.0799843240940844,0.03857175879701349,0.0,0.07168445140079129,0.03510131096944878,0.0,0.0,0.057520741374368835,0.06688099843773311,0.040869760541556936,0.03273848412600495,0.0,0.0,0.07240948873972994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05325855888543635,0.04778151700776519,0.07242951313525024,0.0,0.027062132398993726,0.0,0.0814775424633031,0.06720771683616161,0.13844698553168944,0.0,0.03264049858413312,0.13147223469277888,0.0,0.09201871378021832,0.08552433655509117,0.03290794372460583,0.0,0.11629453790433328
divorce,hungryandawk0,2020/02/26,"21(F) wants to leave 24(M), 3 years into marriage. How did your SO tell you or how did you tell them? The past year has been rough to say the least. We have continuously agrued and our beliefs/views had significantly changed since becoming married. We were ""crazy in love"" but, little did we know that your views and priorities change A LOT in your early adult life. I have completely emotionally detached myself from our marriage... when I would cry out for affection and change while he say in silence and watched. We haven't been itimate for about 4 months, it feels like we just are roommates and share the bills. Our days consist of working and coming home to eat/hang out in separate rooms until the weekend comes and we argue some more. We have no children, and currently rent. We have car loans but, that is our only debt. I am looking for guidance on how to approach the conversation that I want to split up. I literally don't want anything from him, I could walk away with our split 50/50 finances and be just fine. It is SO hard for me to gauge him, I have no idea if he'll even try to mend the marriage or if he's just as ready as me. I am not scared of him but, the unknown. Did they/you talk to them in public? Or at home? How were the divorce orders served?",3.9626315789473683,5.46093606425703,4.164426125554852,88.54761572606219,71.89156626506025,7.0091735362502625,26.358275206087505,7.475848149327749,1.1583686746987951,996,33,208,11,19,309,151,249,0.098,0.8079999999999999,0.094,-0.3068,3,0,0,0,1,0,38.0,13,5,2,1,12,6,1,1,9,0,25,2,0,5,0,50,35,28,0,7,12,0,3,1,0,2,1,2,4,2,5,23,0,0,3,1,5,5,5,2,0,0,9,8,34,4,33,22,4,32,0,0,3,1,42,14,0,7,13,142,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157621517687922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13216720974470442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553626238295744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4464411426781328,0.2423552089147745,0.1474932939314427,0.0,0.0,0.1123161950126209,0.0,0.15452303057305616,0.09072265030106436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14394391996256042,0.0,0.15823854480929395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09291339756861954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07112865461959482,0.1004970440547953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12601565882254767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28221360868030576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588030493634791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07731037477661781,0.0,0.0,0.14895272853335378,0.0,0.0,0.09936172230287496,0.0687258758277172,0.14099161743032654,0.0,0.0,0.1181301547805057,0.0,0.0,0.11959542154365532,0.12696315867522182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11228409760832453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10698839473211642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13428859629861975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22373813195931816,0.14083852856812154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11636641951121895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11306788166131472,0.2459093547673755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09550794657137422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489182970047745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10241184843652583,0.0,0.0,0.0999302865739852,0.0,0.0,0.1811780048872713
divorce,throw_away_huh,2020/02/26,"Looking for Separation Resources I (33F) have decided to leave my wife (35F). I have been supporting us our entire marriage (less than 3 years) and we're in the process of selling our house because I've taken a job out of state. I'm interviewing divorce counsel so I will have an attorney. But my big concern right now is emotional. I still love my wife, but I can't be married to her anymore. I just can't keep doing it. So any resources for separation that anyone might have - books, articles, podcasts, etc. - would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.",4.092513484358143,6.332108262135923,5.255857605177997,77.76451995685007,73.1747572815534,8.072923408845739,33.774541531823076,8.841846274778883,3.1809382955771297,433,23,77,9,9,143,79,103,0.011000000000000001,0.8440000000000001,0.145,0.9233,1,0,0,0,1,0,21.0,3,1,0,0,5,4,0,0,3,0,14,1,0,0,0,9,21,5,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,14,4,9,14,2,8,0,0,1,1,11,4,0,1,3,52,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15695374219522165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22889424766297914,0.16138260566738474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406951761868701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25962195846642033,0.0,0.0,0.257406006717094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544607779907823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663153134400764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22903605410012545,0.20514803356783284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2443867209936263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938161285230356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20830843678491634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.244845178200004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19710423420860304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18431932453464686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619121548627315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124921055121699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2776272153138493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16395560728718772,0.0,0.0,0.14862936371337676
divorce,restless_journey,2020/02/26,"Force husband to choose a different attorney? After calling and speaking with 5 different attorneys in my area I finally found someone who is affordable and has room to take my case. Unfortunately I was informed that this potential attorney’s SIL owns the law firm that my husband is using and if I choose him to represent me then my husband will have to find a different attorney. This is his law firm’s rule, to avoid any conflicts of interest. 

I’m really conflicted about how to proceed in this case. My husband served me with divorce papers on Friday so the clock is ticking and I’ve struggled to find an affordable attorney that is available to take my case. I know my husband will be really angry, and probably become even more vindictive, if I cause him to have to find a different attorney. 

Any advice?",7.438933333333337,8.06010956,8.059333333333335,66.96633333333335,63.4,12.533333333333335,40.0,12.06081838636515,5.4651999999999985,654,35,106,22,9,218,84,150,0.092,0.888,0.02,-0.8609,6,1,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,2,6,0,12,0,0,3,0,25,18,10,0,2,2,5,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,7,7,0,3,8,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,17,1,18,13,2,10,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,2,5,73,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15102004022649426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101924322344572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17068332460372332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578081994754946,0.0,0.0,0.15876076455721266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6458684724102355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10207582239751443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692970033122805,0.4237552668686738,0.0,0.0,0.16945112599091508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08493414611552849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666261507399492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19801156510048726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309458713834607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615644759392821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323979132431569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13347766180287055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,LFAB,2020/02/26,I’m so tired of being alone I just ache all the time.,-3.325384615384614,-1.808547769230767,-0.34730769230769104,109.12980769230772,103.6153846153846,2.6,6.5,3.1291,-2.8066615384615385,41,0,12,0,2,14,12,13,0.493,0.507,0.0,-0.7778,0,1,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6264090489769807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35267424217473997,0.6951493237184564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,borborygmi_bubble,2020/02/26,"I will never make it on my own I am 39f and my husband is 51, married for 5 years.   Husband had a vasectomy when he was younger,  and then had a reversal when he was married to his second wife.  Because of the vasectomy reversal,  he has low sperm and motility. All my tests are normal.  We had been trying naturally for over 2 years, and were not successful.  I wanted to pursue iui because there is a good chance that it might work.  He is against iui, ivf, and adoption. He said that if it happens naturally or if it didn't he's ok with that.  I wanted to move forward medically,  but he didn't. I told him that it is a deal breaker for me. He says that my depression is hindering me looking past having a baby,  and that I need to  overcome it.   He said that once I do that, I will see that we can have a good life even if we don't conceive.  I can't do that.  My dream is to try everything possible to conceive, and having a baby is something I have always dreamed of. We went to marriage counseling and basically since we were at a road block,  and not on the same page to try medical interventions, the therapist said it wouldn't be beneficial to continue therapy.  This happened months ago, so finally I told my husband last night I want a divorce.  I have an apartment and will move in march.  
My husband says that I will never make it on my own. He also said that if I decided to have a child as a single mother, I will NOT make it. He keeps on saying that my depression is making me want a divorce and that he never wanted a wife with a mental illness,  but he has embraced what life gave him. 
I have had many months to think this through,  I continue to go to individual counseling,  I weighed the pros and cons of divorcing him.  I feel like the weight has lifted off my shoulders after I told him,  and I am so excited to move forward towards my dream.
Tonight my husband brought out a spreadsheet of all the expenses I may have to pay, (including child care, expenses, etc) all while he reiterated that I will never make it by myself.
How do I tell him that I need to experience this next part of my life alone? To take the risk of going into the unknown?  I'm not having second thoughts,  but he keeps on saying I won't make it, and that pisses me off. Any advice is greatly appreciated.",5.357645676310881,5.327245273522976,6.632555312424022,77.65737336899262,67.8183807439825,9.833827700786124,33.11848610098063,9.633347757342033,2.9683627360401985,1778,74,359,35,27,605,203,457,0.08,0.85,0.071,-0.6168,0,1,1,0,2,0,52.0,5,0,0,2,8,13,1,1,24,1,52,10,2,7,7,68,89,31,0,13,12,8,2,1,0,10,6,8,0,2,32,23,2,3,4,3,3,9,14,5,0,2,22,12,56,8,46,56,10,48,0,3,2,0,54,18,1,7,26,261,88,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071471940825728,0.0732189685964239,0.0,0.0,0.08554758198088884,0.0,0.06605433527784077,0.06872892745368779,0.0,0.0,0.05617010551744965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10070308336303256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0842151150838019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08515587095322462,0.14228467647232085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09211964210538397,0.05455581491586087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07423459317221086,0.08079760400937201,0.0,0.0,0.04176450133335127,0.05900869280983272,0.0,0.09048309150570763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938857519598467,0.13856012888468244,0.0,0.0910656130263947,0.0,0.0,0.14608392379076232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14683545012733426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06732915309676386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17502620311586622,0.040353665453018515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06936229896692409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3308125669988216,0.08374235161826986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16641946626672782,0.0832402949712278,0.08762441278925866,0.0,0.0,0.13185935736749144,0.2633687752815496,0.0,0.12249212145721647,0.25482155059644884,0.0,0.08784490018202745,0.07751350133765503,0.08092941496555425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08796516577660042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08944659306500335,0.07885002590253581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09311788398409372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3142819933802287,0.26274394083540714,0.0,0.0,0.06582065388666784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683266892762902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06358869250179452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06210411654755714,0.0,0.07219510638850395,0.0,0.0944590761657331,0.09590372520205262,0.0,0.05292605978559424,0.0,0.0655743248231927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367804548073083,0.0,0.16823775663656113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435949478390085,0.0,0.0,0.10058324567538417,0.0,0.07657003655948175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0601330055158945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10638200690223414
divorce,LuigiSquibigi,2020/02/26,"On the fence I 38m and she is 37f. We have 2 kids ages 5 and 1. We have been married about 7 and together about 11... 

I'm not pinning all of this on her but please hear me out and why I'm so torn. She makes a boatload of money $350k to my measly $125k... She came from a weird home where her dad had multiple affairs. She is a bit of a feminist. ( Women should never ever need men nonsense )

In 11 years I have never received a BJ. Just wanted to throw that out there. She is a bit of a germ a phobe. Hates traveling abd staying in hotels. She is also a little bit boring. She loves going to sleep at like 9pm. We went out to eat a few weeks ago with her sister and husband and her brother and after dinner on purpose I walked behind to see if she would come by me and she didn't. God forbid she comes and holds my hand. She's not affectionate one bit. 

Sex is down to like 1x per month maybe 2...23 days and counting since last time. I started tracking on my Google calendar for laughs. Thing that has me torn is the kids. I can't only see them half the week. So do I stay miserable in my relationship for my kids ? I won't get full custody so I would only see them every few days. Ugh. 

I really want to pull the trigger but I'm getting cold feet. H.E.LP!!!!",-0.5103019037963321,1.5971009144981458,1.8017303142953691,96.66381435169541,90.04089219330855,4.5988960234313385,17.073448237017008,6.1124844417494595,-0.4426242874845099,962,24,225,9,33,324,164,269,0.121,0.78,0.099,-0.7424,0,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,3,0,2,0,10,11,1,1,14,0,19,7,3,2,4,41,40,17,0,7,6,4,1,2,0,4,0,1,1,5,4,20,2,3,0,2,1,10,7,6,0,2,5,6,37,5,32,31,8,42,0,1,3,2,34,15,0,1,17,137,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10673290313606984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09628885934991988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5258098952440005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13771270877293987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20743869902324646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15530418046027372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232056848418724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089143744815748,0.10144748475518926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12581462438916713,0.0,0.0684296642105173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887627461890335,0.0,0.0,0.13570662945848824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12077731709056196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09814718936182197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11764885380242175,0.12067872534654345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086713695051283,0.0,0.08037212748401637,0.0,0.12096429288799655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09610714468720516,0.0,0.0,0.08927973163953673,0.1857294933141292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08159041209025424,0.18314880470854886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321699391223138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07713534673621192,0.0,0.0,0.1292712849150724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2878446505178558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09960131982097883,0.0,0.12049323689582442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852241853627143,0.2566741497899773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07999258284736423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07020987068595841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14203748821125425,0.0,0.1931653115178109,0.0,0.0,0.11161782871150208,0.10864794053109464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17106633468082208,0.0,0.0,0.07753769723732105
divorce,no1_importante,2020/02/26,"Just Another Marriage Gone Wrong It started with a surprise single male work friend. I (33M) and my wife (32F) have been together for 15 years (married for 7) with 2 small children (under 5). The revelation that the person she was always referring to as a coworker or friend (not by name) was discovered the day she asked me to watch the kids so that she could check out a new gym with him. I found out the name at that point, and put it all together. It was traumatizing. One important thing to note is that I accused her of having an emotional affair, and she refused to break off the relationship with him. I did not feel that she respected my opinion in the matter, but to be fair, I was not more open to her wanting to be friends with the guy.

I find out a bit later that their relationship was purely platonic (read over their message history - I obtained her phone without permission - not one of my proudest moments, but after she first hid them lied to me about not talking to him, I was struggling to trust her). It was especially disturbing to me as she picked up new taste in music, began going to concerts, and being more socially active. I had been trying for literal years to get her to go out with me, to spend time with her, but without much success. I kept trying to be okay with it, but I felt that I was being rushed. I've since become okay with it, but it really doesn't matter anymore as we will be divorced soon. She also began staying out late at work happy hours (she had never done that before). Every time she would say that she was only making an appearance, and would come home late at night (between 8PM and 11PM). One time, she stated out past 11PM walking around downtown alone with a single male coworker who was telling her about a time that he dated a married woman (unsolicited). She didn't understand why I was upset when she told me about it.

My efforts to connect with my wife include adopting the fitness classes that she enjoyed and even becoming a trainer to be closer to her. I made a deal where I would play get favorite games (Bioware) if she would watch the Star Wars movies. I beat a good deal of the games, but she didn't follow through on her promise. Though I am not as large of a fan, I watched Star Trek with her. In addition, I cut out various friends that she didn't approve of. I also stopped going out, have given up on career opportunities, and turned down work to have a better work/life balance for her in the kids. During the events described, I've also been making her breakfast in bed and getting up with the kids every day for months.

She was my first serious relationship, and I was hers (including first and only intimate partner). We've almost been together longer than we've been apart. I've, however, been emotionally distant towards the back half of our relationship. Throughout our relationship, she's been a bit emotionally abusive. It's been mild though. She's minimized my opinion quite a bit, had a tenancy to take her frustrations out on me, hold mistakes over my head for an insane amount of time (she still chastised me for beating her in StarCraft when we were in our early 20s), and was overly critical (I'm not doing the laundry right, or I don't listen to her well enough, or am not doing something correctly with regard to the kids). I've always just channeled it into my work, and went along with it, but through recent events, she has acknowledged her behavior.

My efforts to be okay with the new guy caused me to yo-yo back and forth emotionally and caused her pain as she was trying to remain open to me. The experience was like a light switched on, and I was connected to my emotions again. They were raw and unfiltered though. After a time, we were reconnecting again. We started dating again. I hadn't felt as close to her as I did in that month or 2 than I had in over a decade. It felt wonderful. Then she lashed out at her dad.

Her dad lives with us and takes care of the kids during the day. He does a wonderful job. He raised her when her mom left the picture. Her mom was a terrible drunk who beat her children. She abandoned the family for personal reasons. He had to work a lot of hours to pay for everything, and it took a toll.

She told her father that working all the time was akin to abandoning your children. This struck home for me. I spoke with her father, and he suggested that she might be following in the footsteps of her mother. I agreed at the time (in retrospect, it was completely false, and an inappropriate emotional response), and told him that I would bring it to her attention. When I did, it shattered her perception of me. She told me that she still loved me, but wasn't in love with me. I really can't blame her. It wasn't a fair comparison. I've apologized, and regret saying it.

The day she was going to call the attorney, she got cold feet, and told me that she still loved me. We went out and bought her a new car (she wanted to replace one that she felt would give out soon; although I wanted to get a used car to avoid depreciation, I was just happy that she decided to stay). Fast forward to last Saturday, she told me that she wasn't in love with me, and that she was just faking it. She was upset that I was just going to let her fade into nothing. She's been apartment shopping and has an appointment with an attorney on Thursday. I'm going to stay in the family home with the kids and her dad. She'll see the kids on the weekend. We've also decided on how to split the assets.

I've tried to lay out the fact pattern as objectively and without personal bias as I can. I've tried taking to therapists about the situation, and have been told to hold out hope for her. She refuses to go to marriage counseling, but is seeing a therapist on her own. I'm looking for third party objective feedback on the situation. I feel that my personal bias prevents me from obtaining a clear picture, and she has told me that I don't see her and might not be capable of doing so. I remain emotionally destroyed, but have reached a place where I can internalize it. My focus has shifted from trying to fix everything to trying to preserve what is left.",5.636800557880057,6.186402649372388,6.166426778242678,79.23136959553696,67.27615062761507,9.452831241283123,31.16345885634589,9.456251270516614,2.698308563458856,4846,182,934,92,75,1574,452,1195,0.099,0.785,0.11599999999999999,0.9452,2,2,1,0,1,0,154.0,9,1,4,21,38,45,4,5,70,3,100,10,2,9,7,181,174,72,1,14,32,10,6,1,5,10,1,5,4,20,50,82,3,10,18,10,5,22,24,18,1,9,79,21,171,27,179,73,15,164,0,3,7,4,183,72,0,15,68,681,221,13,0.0,0.049562681825925665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041887524078255946,0.04332411431265226,0.0,0.13380836751471206,0.06961318696897237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04386326237811219,0.0,0.0,0.041484933458185096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0372382987134943,0.03910617023229662,0.0,0.0,0.06433063749233879,0.0,0.0,0.09239770907541864,0.03559494708749219,0.0,0.0,0.0369959612073922,0.13700526503148625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042713944489613916,0.0,0.04264930917110992,0.08594355055015361,0.0,0.036033547732149215,0.04385881921704021,0.0,0.0,0.03339850620255375,0.0,0.0,0.10790967405730703,0.0862514778826864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036606432735075765,0.04280745251472132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3293782979196985,0.0,0.043222419450199716,0.0,0.027628862290493203,0.0,0.07048854049789308,0.0,0.07518968803266887,0.04091856895584079,0.07886874905721875,0.0,0.042301839235648925,0.0,0.16065658973602573,0.0,0.038232611922510366,0.10674382312675312,0.0,0.045865335345914464,0.12927355198337806,0.0,0.08741950840756918,0.04012793449479983,0.16641393416604536,0.03508570741553438,0.03345592830989505,0.0,0.0,0.08283817745301722,0.0,0.08905937209480083,0.0,0.0,0.04293048981696018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258791703043599,0.041547443110526584,0.08238986363149182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041510634543594715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034097701627497895,0.0943739746352371,0.0,0.09089861729665236,0.04277484787875666,0.0,0.02043642584090412,0.0,0.036937380698655424,0.0,0.03512735368841525,0.0,0.0,0.03556306753246017,0.15101579401024842,0.039581333592210534,0.0558447947401586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08875177973140014,0.0,0.09798350232642396,0.0667779233439733,0.0,0.03075046603437437,0.0,0.032262507401536335,0.16160186762982345,0.0,0.039255391151519714,0.0,0.040137800258705135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11338258569430887,0.06362844761007681,0.044510942088429886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039932251229733234,0.0,0.14610023517453002,0.043704303974405515,0.0,0.03954364609694159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042051528148861664,0.0,0.044492226443607584,0.04184214031133343,0.0,0.05359578924362021,0.04300905017888918,0.04130288853580442,0.22455323125900975,0.0,0.03572329197416058,0.0,0.06653109453317392,0.0,0.0,0.10000124376712008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03460288681768199,0.09403918931362354,0.0,0.04264125341366329,0.0,0.032203409133823135,0.0,0.0,0.05921613981693464,0.1337582660074843,0.10021844137345057,0.0349724388286711,0.0,0.04373065581953933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09435471286121404,0.033622028831645286,0.0365619807078636,0.0,0.0,0.09713761295067637,0.02779053827295149,0.0,0.12329570566621567,0.0,0.1951351016791321,0.0,0.0,0.3197691313158036,0.046475580505768034,0.1988026679428682,0.045499920461011686,0.0,0.04354735917258335,0.05031732632457523,0.036128397990730615,0.0,0.0,0.07401870483155966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037610931126817564,0.07755517900127289,0.037745808950413615,0.0,0.0,0.120970254090832,0.0907274804581523,0.2131733476536102,0.0,0.0,0.17829248732593814,0.04573543528289591,0.0,0.05387535358826828
divorce,babymirage,2020/02/26,"Quiet enjoyment of sock day I am happy to report that the long nightmare is mostly over. In the eyes of the law I am now officially a single man.  

I wanted to thank everybody here in the community for your support as I’ve gone through a very difficult (and expensive!) two-year process.

She is still messing around but now there is very clear and objective recourse.

So as I sip a strong drink, I toast the beginning of a new chapter.",3.7464285714285697,5.672982690476192,4.963809523809527,80.84785714285717,73.28571428571428,8.609523809523811,29.857142857142854,9.23628265651192,2.7599714285714287,342,15,65,8,7,113,61,84,0.022000000000000002,0.775,0.20199999999999999,0.9364,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,1,7,7,0,0,9,0,5,2,1,0,1,8,10,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,3,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,7,5,13,9,2,12,0,0,1,0,3,4,0,1,7,46,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545504414095137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844099765068639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28011588337098525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3043922958565579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25305110164396216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27616612572895743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283549407493997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3244854263448879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26325846346526544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27932536316332457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4718668585391544,0.1686569529970345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18413831338671874
divorce,man7177,2020/02/26,"DIY divorce papers in wife's Internet browsing history Long story short, in Texas, married for 8 years w/ three kids (ages 7, 5 and 1 yr). Wife and I share a mutual login on a laptop. Today I opened the browser, it defaults to the last page opened, and it's a PDF file from some LegalZoom-style website for ""Texas divorce with minor children"", do-it-yourself style. Wife is away at her job 12+ hours a day (I'm a stay-at-home dad and work odd giglabor jobs). She probably knew I'd see this page when I got on the laptop. Question, what should I be doing? I called an attorney yesterday, and just to \*meet\* it's $100 right off the bat (my money is super tight so I declined to pay the fee and the attorney hung up). Wife has not retained an attorney. (My post on r/marriageadvice has my full story.) Someone on one of these subs asked where I am emotionally... I don't know. I love my wife but she has major league problems (explained on the marriageadvice sub) and she refuses to do anything to get help.",2.735943810359964,4.484868482587063,4.0500321919812725,87.08486391571556,75.61691542288555,7.1174714661984195,26.748902546093067,7.928766900206844,1.6062224758560142,779,30,159,12,17,256,134,201,0.054000000000000006,0.903,0.042,-0.0394,2,0,0,0,2,0,47.0,0,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,14,0,11,1,0,0,0,23,20,10,0,2,3,6,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,10,0,3,4,0,3,0,2,1,0,2,2,2,17,3,21,16,5,27,0,0,1,1,23,17,0,2,9,86,23,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688103027703517,0.0,0.1917754382755739,0.0,0.19273299910559286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20946785063112985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13229641840140788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307515561091879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10717563519459106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16406682823795155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374990319019363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020186598884218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40713371242477403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11273795082347905,0.16721406455707366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815398225962072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851441851171804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13900616536457835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964645764800944,0.0,0.2211724217780948,0.1962884401954653,0.0,0.0,0.22980042943020035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17518590888076851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16346765943092012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17381194588671056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186487872560944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19444592517890769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14934220621926908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13210152624596305
divorce,Lkmifan1,2020/02/26,Who's got a great Karma story? I would love to know how Karma has worked in Other's lives.  Spill it!,-1.0642424242424229,1.0113113636363664,1.215454545454545,99.4098484848485,94.45454545454544,2.9333333333333336,7.333333333333332,3.1291,-2.324321212121212,78,0,18,0,3,26,20,22,0.0,0.6509999999999999,0.349,0.8622,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,1,0,3,5,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,2,3,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,10,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3655813852301657,0.5039498951267674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512079783140711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4036240954818926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.412546938277388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33277129331583105,0.0,0.0,0.3247078459408654,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,wjw2020,2020/02/27,"If you know that you are done do you still agree to do couples counselling? I know that I don’t want to be married to this man anymore.  There are just too many things that I know I will never get past.  I have been seeing an individual therapist.  

My question is, when you know it’s over should you say yes to counselling or just rip the band aid off and say this is it, we’re done?  I don’t want to give false hope.",2.090032467532467,3.360571704545457,2.990129870129873,96.01590909090912,76.27272727272727,5.9376623376623385,21.662337662337666,6.1826913282559595,-0.05260259740259743,322,8,78,2,7,102,57,88,0.0,0.868,0.132,0.8426,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,5,0,0,6,1,0,0,2,1,15,0,0,0,1,15,25,4,0,5,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,8,1,0,0,5,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,3,12,1,7,19,0,6,0,0,1,0,11,2,0,4,4,54,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20167576544913285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22501094836749969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4162101771977396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062457789106378,0.1950788209239535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20197965124412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4470393434583241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20617235087265015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15684166113154005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19412752200701852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278066798902712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32343572226458794,0.0,0.0,0.16204941329625533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16240137636540647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361134611132422,0.13510153232112984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23989077013553586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,caffeinepleasee,2020/02/27,"I feel like I’m drowning I’m from England and I met my ex when he was stationed abroad in the US army. I was 18, he was 20. We were like a pair of puppies and so in love so quickly. After a year we got married, I was 19, and soon after I found out I was pregnant. This is when the ugliness begins. The stress of having a baby on the way and being in the army was apparently too much for him. The name calling and the hitting got worse. Around the time our daughter was born he strangled me a couple times. I had no one and I cried myself to sleep a lot of times. I felt desperate but felt I couldn’t expose the abuse because it would ruin his Army career. Fast forward to When our daughter was 10 months old. He got a bit physical with me and called me a piece of ****. Definitely not the worst argument we’ve had but I mentally snapped and got my daughter and walked out. I filed a police report and we were staying in shelters for 9 months. I couldn’t work because of my immigration status at the time. Long story short I made the mistake of going back to him. It took me 3 months to see him flip out and realise it was a horrible horrible decision. But I got my green card, got a job and learned to drive. Fast forward two years I filed for divorce. I thought that was the hard part but I suppose not. Now I’m 27, I’ve got PTSD and anxiety now (I’m in therapy). My daughter is starting to pick up his narcissistic tendencies. He files motion after motion and gets away with everything. The final hearing was supposed to be next week but because he filed for bankruptcy it’s put a stay on the case and will likely be continued to next year. I can’t cope anymore on my own. No one cares. Everyone that was willing to testify, school teachers, principals and our daughters therapist are all backing out. The guardian ad Litem is even changing her tune and considering just giving us 50/50 time. I’m so beyond stuck and I can’t get away from him. He still manipulates me and I’ve asked my lawyer if we could just communicate through an app but apparently he has to agree which he won’t. I told my lawyer I get scared when he gets angry so I just appease him most of the time and she said “I don’t care if he gets angry you are making yourself look worse”. So now I’m making myself look worse and I can’t do anything right. My parents don’t care before anyone asks. 

Sorry if this didn’t quite make sense I’ve been so devastated recently.",1.3367878787878773,3.6712811333333377,2.9793434343434377,90.02901515151518,83.12121212121212,5.929292929292929,23.510101010101014,7.242747475848597,0.9833434343434346,1911,71,398,28,54,629,243,495,0.151,0.772,0.077,-0.9899,4,1,0,0,2,0,48.0,9,1,0,2,25,12,0,2,29,0,41,2,1,6,1,68,88,40,1,8,14,7,4,3,0,4,0,2,0,0,9,32,0,0,7,0,0,9,13,5,0,3,35,10,60,7,47,42,9,72,0,1,4,1,49,22,0,5,45,254,69,8,0.0,0.08931983565221918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057669924093317074,0.0,0.07476244831832475,0.052711498165079744,0.0,0.06203608304972447,0.06710933707622135,0.14095107728045958,0.0,0.14165486516782602,0.11593404062353466,0.0,0.137863436224873,0.0,0.06414775606918766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08230175947756388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15395464334517264,0.0,0.23058251564495966,0.0,0.07974817151898872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060189420248063986,0.08341294434122483,0.08280775202650882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04979160424998971,0.0,0.0,0.07203435428518355,0.0677518884208823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03811732122956192,0.053855624450441626,0.1447643636604183,0.0825814496679434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08265662922800254,0.0,0.0,0.19692982290552324,0.07231692035404898,0.04284348252800376,0.0,0.42205032812981946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06753086183034135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08496526579835847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07480876576202025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104890694074682,0.0,0.0,0.06671405315072106,0.12661015678555948,0.0,0.0,0.06409030404053982,0.06803862001081723,0.07133185859007693,0.15096180345149388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07597114682003983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18051665845774034,0.0,0.05541723069115153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16034728880831867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07910470683610886,0.0,0.10216672652630596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08370700006062423,0.08163546581187099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08812195600313122,0.07578354206846516,0.0,0.08018206859148559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07443437441373918,0.0,0.0,0.06437905396836685,0.07170915080922363,0.0,0.07547432836513987,0.0762944455683962,0.0600727155272995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07544023413307124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438822156465528,0.05335845117284116,0.1607024465016585,0.0602031904046789,0.0,0.08635416936511857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862102224211566,0.08752871419343583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05984789770975355,0.2637483672671545,0.0,0.0,0.07203435428518355,0.08375638806625757,0.0,0.0,0.0736409642295945,0.0,0.181359650131733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0598377323063258,0.060469934673139714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05488175399134943,0.0,0.23047368552397696,0.05355190329796329,0.0,0.0,0.1456379341550928
divorce,lovesanimals--,2020/02/27,Finding a balance during divorce and co-parenting Happy to get any advice on how those of you currently going through the divorce process have found a balance with STBXH. Too much contact feels like it inhibits my ability to move on from the marriage but seems to be what works best for the kids (preteen/teenager)...,13.891052631578953,9.465642403508776,11.465350877192984,63.62328947368422,54.78947368421053,13.505263157894738,54.81578947368421,10.125756701596842,6.027042105263157,255,15,40,3,2,77,49,57,0.024,0.787,0.18899999999999997,0.8779,2,0,0,0,2,0,8.0,0,1,0,2,2,3,0,0,5,0,2,0,0,1,0,8,7,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,3,10,5,2,5,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,1,2,28,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3042020011064312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116969324311315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3266936281202792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15740431205064612,0.22239515378392574,0.0,0.0,0.2845255944564491,0.0,0.0,0.3413280220218822,0.0,0.0,0.16264313596444047,0.0,0.17692085056449847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3313881724658204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15208707745977582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33086616277245884,0.2288437589871242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2833988505057204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22663252433493325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwawaydivorce101,2020/02/27,"Long time Lurker with Throw Away account-Divorce from Bed and Board I am using a throwaway account for obvious reasons and reside in the great old backwards state of NC.  I served my husband with a special divorce called a Divorce from bed and Board. After I served him, he didn't flip out or do anything. I am asking the courts to remove him from the home , and I want to keep the family home with my two under aged children.  Anyone out there have experience with this type of divorce and have any tricks or tips I need to look out for? He currently works a different schedule than I, and we come and go and just walk past each other. It seems civil right now, but it may get worse.

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The reason I am asking for the divorce is because he is selfish, he only invests in himself.. and not the family.  He has gotten angry before.. punched walls, and has not been nice to our children.  There are some other reasons as well. 

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Thanks for all the suggestions , tips and tricks in advance",6.740468899521531,6.872156568421056,6.424258373205742,79.76844497607657,64.89473684210526,8.382775119617225,33.0622009569378,7.686295010490155,2.329894736842105,788,30,142,7,11,246,115,190,0.095,0.8440000000000001,0.061,-0.8270000000000001,2,0,0,0,5,0,30.0,2,0,0,2,5,8,2,0,12,0,14,0,0,4,2,39,27,15,0,2,6,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,2,5,21,0,1,4,0,2,6,3,3,1,1,3,1,15,5,28,23,3,27,0,0,1,0,21,11,0,5,9,99,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822660485785625,0.3165521705912973,0.08857898770857599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09107847728796904,0.0,0.1071901231754782,0.0,0.2435447660887725,0.0,0.12238040910460468,0.0,0.0,0.07940324396095934,0.0,0.1108388140652812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13300660174159049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11220456901871766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13609047402612534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12741599657855707,0.2455887514266363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680537227253644,0.0,0.07402785513976075,0.0,0.0,0.1436084148788547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613160779583338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577809416765107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527303503397045,0.1093827788114276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09658365442793654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366824411323026,0.0,0.0,0.09906605081587533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243447098932696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40177658678785017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112384661562002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11858076074738234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11992282145729535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759536992689588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12724181860747374,0.0,0.0,0.11249992246169672,0.0,0.0,0.07682874615145445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11711637024605374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482839149763446,0.0,0.13274265301491198,0.0,0.0,0.3165521705912973,0.0
divorce,anonyburn123,2020/02/27,"Support buyout: what was your discount rate for present money? Hi all, I’m trying to put together a spousal support buyout.  Much disagreement.  Can you share what your discount rate was for determining the present money and over how many years it was used?

Example: buyout for 40 years of spousal support, 4.59% discount rate.",4.021964285714287,7.376747267857143,3.365000000000002,83.40500000000002,85.25,5.6571428571428575,32.0,7.1686216300943375,2.584328571428571,261,14,40,4,8,77,38,56,0.04,0.7879999999999999,0.171,0.7998,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,3,0,0,1,4,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,2,1,4,9,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,3,4,6,6,2,6,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,4,22,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.245645962120822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781124283989415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24357028567006497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8248499464038154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645002988150326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20926241225414946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31205608551530106
divorce,Lakewizardeternal,2020/02/27,"Not sure where to go from here... First time posting... 

I asked my husband for a divorce because we are not compatible and we want different things out of life. He is understandably upset and says I didn't give him a chance to fix things. He says I blindsided him. Which I guess to him I did but to me it was years in the making. I'm not good at expressing myself and my communication skills, or lack of, was absolutely my fault on my side of things. He was unemployed for so long, with me supporting us and taking care of everything, even working multiple jobs despite his finishing school and getting his degree. He used his depression and anxiety as reasons for why he didn't want a basic level job to help us financially. I felt taken advantage of but didn't know how to properly say what all I was feeling because I kept telling myself everything was fine. He has episodes where he gets upset and yells and rages... It was after one of those that I made the decision to leave. 

I care about him but I'm not in love anymore. I moved to an apartment but I go see him every few days because we are splitting custody of the dog. He texts everyday multiple times a day and gets upset when I don't answer. He gives me anxiety whenever I see these messages and calls and I ignore them because I just don't know how to deal since everytime we talk or see each other it devolves into arguments and him throwing harsh pleas at me as he cries. I feel bad but I can't stop feeling as if I've done the right thing. I just don't know where to go from here....",3.6036165048543687,5.116100530744337,4.782706310679612,83.70473907766991,72.8187702265372,8.386245954692559,28.085355987055017,8.959647251330699,2.2021336569579284,1220,47,247,25,24,402,168,309,0.16699999999999998,0.745,0.08800000000000001,-0.9804,5,0,0,0,1,0,31.0,6,0,1,4,13,16,1,3,9,0,19,2,0,6,2,59,54,27,0,4,14,1,4,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,13,20,0,3,11,0,0,5,11,8,0,2,15,11,45,8,35,39,4,32,0,1,3,1,42,14,0,4,12,163,58,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15676488310238046,0.0,0.1016138538010326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09578727343767388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08555071741318147,0.2498372800458181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10462421290871546,0.0,0.2089317882694175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11254867914687328,0.1321578333303657,0.1056328687682282,0.08824957333702976,0.0,0.0,0.10705001513398628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10485325294808452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06767457337987162,0.0,0.08632787438384895,0.0,0.18417081408116392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15542219364791762,0.0,0.09837869957091636,0.0,0.0,0.08715333763520113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16059504751837006,0.19657999804685666,0.17469296957978034,0.08593948806550375,0.0,0.0,0.11287242513548658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06867749845671314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033536128943069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16892978088488167,0.0,0.0,0.10849148369391952,0.0,0.0,0.0723712870597618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09067482667859736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09247512009192198,0.09695114610567672,0.06839356285812644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088999069805628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06943027580083642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981293865227605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10534704946324662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08750119779299655,0.0,0.2444434768081839,0.0,0.10369607753893803,0.24494463211121925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08475685963748057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856620461928447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162716131342932,0.0965683501478453,0.0,0.07703797659280984,0.08235433053391647,0.08955549527564699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722823403794111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11949175303281552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10666559204787328,0.2464961138702484,0.08849347089337785,0.0,0.0,0.12086839284077334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09245518294382804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07459288254815383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06598157266559503
divorce,Gameboy4194,2020/02/27,"First Time on The Chopping Block Hello, I am a 25yo Male, she is 26. Married coming up on 3 years together for 7. So to start she moved out this morning with the exception on divorce, I asked her to leave after years and years of her not having any job at all and having so many problems doing anything around the home. After trying to work it out after trying to help her find work and so on I was just done with carrying the marriage and being the sole provider and caretaker. Nothing would motivate her to do anything of good value. I have already sent an email to a Domestic Litigation Firm requesting an appointment to start the proceedings. I've already opened a new bank account but even though out join is all my income I did leave a few hundred in there for her. Emotionally I'm in a rough spot but this is no surprise for me or her. Ummm this is in Utah. So what else should I be doing or not doing? Thank you so much for you advice in these difficult times for me.",4.192901325478644,5.401584402061857,5.0812960235640645,83.31329896907219,70.95876288659794,8.017083946980852,27.77466863033873,8.418075326091056,1.8987184094256264,770,27,151,12,14,251,119,194,0.09300000000000001,0.851,0.055999999999999994,-0.6244,2,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,0,2,0,4,10,5,0,0,13,0,19,0,0,1,2,29,26,15,0,3,8,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,6,13,0,1,2,0,2,3,3,2,0,1,4,1,19,3,34,18,4,31,0,0,0,0,19,15,0,2,13,117,25,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14922094526740928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33702614411268195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10384420961298033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513253742771741,0.13593926654472488,0.14275797451576747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13154129535830916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15626959067790616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756490845088844,0.1717718653792009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10085979770804678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13956902979973618,0.1298902610604704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12808118246664668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023545218757007,0.0,0.1531749361599436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15153552682624352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3233837629678852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15481826560268774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16230058114783066,0.11225528402312644,0.0,0.0,0.14748283431847015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14652396367156825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14611746110520066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161698813433416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14058966952481547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15003127045208733,0.0,0.17808629499619788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073524900127676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22234120345425248,0.0,0.0,0.10847680477205304,0.0,0.0,0.2950098274349843
divorce,oopsie2019,2020/02/27,"Advice on rebuilding credit *Located in Canada*
The divorce proceedings have been fairly lengthy and with everything in limbo, my ex had refused to pay his part of current debts until the matter was settled. I tried to keep up the best I could but my credit score is dropping rapidly.
I just managed to refinance the marital home into my name (with a co-borrower) and have gotten a personal line of credit to cover my 50% of the joint debts from our relationship as well as the equalization payment I owe him. That should all be settled up in the next 2 weeks, with me being removed from his car loan, and with a line of credit, and 2 credit card accounts being paid off and closed. 
How long did it take to see an improvement in your credit score and did anything help that? I know I will be paying more than minimum payments on my new line of credit which has a low interest rate and the mortgage, new line of credit and car loan are my only debts. I pay all of my other bills in full and on time. Really hoping this is just a bump in the road and I can get things back on track.",4.465774647887322,5.579778863849771,5.404338028169018,81.60791549295776,70.2206572769953,8.309107981220656,27.345539906103287,8.648137234880735,1.9890052582159632,850,28,162,14,15,279,127,213,0.03,0.765,0.205,0.9915,7,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,1,1,0,1,5,13,0,0,15,0,19,0,0,1,2,30,28,15,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,7,16,0,2,1,0,20,3,0,1,1,0,7,1,21,12,36,14,7,32,0,1,1,0,12,18,0,1,10,121,28,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20742800142712015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17468030376303714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632226958652676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227644989628298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16948049740383495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907747857064564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11090242837403222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14228025342995912,0.0,0.2129243372600668,0.21083222349900094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886755240051583,0.0,0.0,0.11665816109729993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18785246419072746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4100238007829969,0.22575178621582034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16144106692360255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22986796175420354,0.0,0.0,0.18534616771500467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13598573787508664,0.0,0.0,0.2278987754518516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691518819421305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596007874437194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410229014751562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12377647181641935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14411754501758633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17027036585737454,0.0,0.1908564196415173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,3042kbl,2020/02/27,"Fathers that are not breadwinners, consider yourself a woman when searching for information I was a stay at home dad for more than five years and was married more than 10. Subscribe to women’s rights websites, read the laws and ask questions as if you were the mom.  There is just so much more information when you do it this way.",6.3754838709677415,7.32712412903226,5.8711290322580645,80.57669354838713,65.7741935483871,8.780645161290323,33.24193548387097,8.841846274778883,2.68176129032258,264,11,49,4,4,81,51,62,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,2,0,0,5,0,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,0,0,9,7,7,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,3,0,7,4,4,7,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,2,3,37,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3123549724458082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3351473227742047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3913146440512047,0.0,0.0,0.24561497364245174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37428832100782905,0.0,0.33420814430011353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2853347135242393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3561250415214693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26520710002907044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21516086189991795
divorce,ginandmoonbeams,2020/02/27,"After 18 months, he finally filed. My STBXH left me in August of 2018 for his AP, just two months after we had gotten married. I'd spent this time trying to heal and move on with my life, but in the back of my mind, I knew a day would come when things would need to take that step forward. I was of the mindset that if this was what he wanted, then he should have to do the legwork (and paperwork) to make it happen, but I was getting to the point where I knew I was going to have to take the initiative into my own hands. Still, it's a painful process and I didn't know how it was going to actually feel.

BUT it looks like my procrastination paid off and I received the papers in the mail yesterday. I was ELATED. I legit did the Snoopy dance. I'm one big step closer to Sock Day and him out of my life for good. It's not all bad, folks.",3.8322342064714894,3.853453158192091,4.81878787878788,89.17391371340527,71.09039548022601,7.792295839753468,24.000513610683107,7.348242739294969,0.7075468926553667,647,14,151,6,11,212,109,177,0.011000000000000001,0.888,0.10099999999999999,0.9573,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,10,0,15,5,1,2,1,29,34,12,0,6,6,0,2,1,0,3,4,0,0,0,11,10,0,0,4,1,2,9,2,2,0,2,14,3,19,2,25,17,2,35,0,0,1,0,8,13,0,1,16,101,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.18054531087489295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14226303417544875,0.15447753775674364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15937170941580975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23863524825328275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09354777498640754,0.0,0.0,0.2026719250563898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666128766148188,0.0,0.21029350090086807,0.1551795345948622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636057608210543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016779184478701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20101639907601912,0.0,0.2613593098298422,0.09038766165420968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15536373065985026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12349714307721947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868096761482661,0.0,0.2953500963512305,0.19663878925816897,0.0,0.13718427192780644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12536911876126805,0.0,0.19686612545264576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748964193548062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14775105720369844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782124404718385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12291394738781655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788215662527076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12561120329149908,0.0,0.18073012817567732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10912504467075708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628548511917191,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,mangomelon1,2020/02/27,"Lonely & Bored Miss my wife who left me 2 months ago. Miss my companion. I get to see my kid twice a week but on the other days alone its terrible. So many thoughts and no one in the house to chat with anymore, except the dog who doesn't say much. Can only go to the freezer for ice-cream so many times then thats a chore.",1.2920476190476191,2.7466091571428564,2.4457142857142853,98.30761904761906,78.85714285714286,5.80952380952381,18.80952380952381,6.42735559955562,-0.3413333333333335,251,5,62,2,6,80,58,70,0.215,0.785,0.0,-0.9072,0,3,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,6,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,8,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,5,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,5,0,2,1,2,5,0,8,7,1,10,0,3,1,0,7,3,0,0,6,35,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166081975892806,0.0,0.0,0.25308069611221745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647612705820467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423369987900801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15759038506004874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12766671859645126,0.0,0.13887400970798378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28195576974888675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26549516021331104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4954803432401028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19504384097571228,0.0,0.17963089316939196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16558297942018654,0.1858449049585681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943229075158052,0.0,0.0,0.19472130618397349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939925756995644,0.14248683485048427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960088629431504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,gatorrrrr,2020/02/27,"Where can I get advice on how to get a divorce? I don’t even know where to start. We don’t have kids, we don’t have a house together, we’ve been living apart for almost a year now. It’s time to get this over with, legally.

We don’t really talk. It didn’t end bad but it didn’t end well either. We just realized we weren’t right for each other and it was a difficult realization. I don’t want to involve too much communication, and I prefer not to involve attorneys. There won’t be much fighting, if any. We live in the state of California and married here. He is military so he’s actually currently in a different state.

Given all of that, can anyone advise me on how to begin this process? Thank you and much appreciation.",1.3030405405405396,3.6062145067567606,3.7242567567567586,84.83679054054058,82.98648648648648,7.213513513513512,22.08783783783784,8.278499904357787,1.4070729729729736,569,19,119,13,16,197,93,148,0.062,0.843,0.095,0.5588,3,0,0,0,3,0,19.0,6,1,0,0,12,5,1,0,6,0,17,0,0,2,1,25,26,9,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,8,12,0,0,3,0,0,0,10,3,1,0,6,0,12,2,16,18,6,19,0,0,0,0,16,9,0,2,8,84,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.19013449194445886,0.0,0.0,0.19039414926273246,0.0,0.0,0.1951028409170809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13249701581566392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362357682997348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16268219881136706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20356500063789906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3451385622413019,0.0,0.0,0.12868914176238586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053855799048972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22481773166602173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10707826900833854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34409233149611745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42968664881854535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12481867778921266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16639120846694075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13790785395721647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15660398858129698,0.0,0.17938132261753004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136120286947361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11492092941293937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751834149631195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12546975229242338
divorce,benditbackagain,2020/02/27,"Married to a Narcissist I have tried for a couple of years to make myself believe my spouse is not a narcissist, but they are. Everything is about them, how their day was, what happened at work,  how they feel... literally everything. When it comes to feelings, it's If they are depressed, or how they feel in general.. never a single thought into how anyone else could feel. Since I no longer listen to their ""saga* they turn to family (mom, dad, sister) who will listen to lies and dole out pity and attention. I can no longer do this, I have tried, I am numb.. funny how the spouse wanted me broken but never realized by breaking me I would become immune to them as well. Divorce is the only option anymore. I would like to be sad and angry.",3.5588497652582163,5.5081182887323985,4.564436619718311,83.41430751173712,73.85915492957747,7.268544600938967,23.805164319248824,8.07648339933343,1.4186741784037555,575,17,107,9,12,187,95,142,0.183,0.738,0.079,-0.9568,0,0,0,0,1,0,28.0,0,0,9,1,8,6,0,0,6,0,16,2,0,6,2,32,28,14,0,5,5,5,4,1,0,3,2,2,0,0,5,6,0,0,7,0,0,1,5,4,1,0,2,6,20,2,17,21,1,11,0,3,0,0,18,4,0,3,6,84,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.175485942005551,0.12372691261577674,0.18130524569222625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19542635921783705,0.0,0.19936102112781806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15242596625957872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14127944373927875,0.19579079394044696,0.0,0.1141175194516447,0.0,0.1524059852996074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14781825265196558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3180608508584469,0.0,0.1668118467281126,0.0,0.35788309094518145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15647548909523645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08644838356875938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11811488646789438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072406265769608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729480816704848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13457775072075132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14637410942054435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14047780594250198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402736232787849,0.19246978933511816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10436915333362036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15909847571885746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12882103936834624,0.0,0.0,0.2513991022985225,0.0,0.0,0.11394940749813386
divorce,navninder,2020/02/27,"My Absence # My absence to you is a gift for what you did and I found out that I was gaslit,

Your lies altered my perception and it was my fault that I believed you until the last bid.

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You are no fool I knew it before but you could be so clever that I didn't have a clue, 

This makes me lose my cool.

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The innocence is a mask that you wear, What's behind is deep and dark which makes me swear.

​

Your heart is also black,

I thought it to be opposite to the color of  your skin, 

Writing this I felt bad.

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You have no shame, 

Until now you played only games,

Your veil dropped and I experienced the pain.

​

For you what matters is what I did, 

You never realized what you fibbed,

I accepted you regardless of faith, caste, and religion,

You accepted me only for your selfish endeavor.

​

Gone are the days when you tricked me and burned the bridges of trust,

Now I only regret the lust.

​

Your actions never matched your words, it is funny that people believe what they heard.

​

Your smile and your words like your eyes are fake, 

Yet you rant that you never get enough from your mate?

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You burdened me with little goodness of washing my clothes, 

But that too came with a price that I could never afford.

​

You cooked and fed me which I appreciate,

I realize now that it was only to captivate.

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You found my weakness and exploited it like a devil,

You dragged my family into our matters,

You expected me to treat you and your family right, 

Did you think about how you treated mine?

# 

You used your father (R.I.P.) as an excuse to cover up your faults,

Did you ever step into my shoes and see that I'm also shunned and shouldn't have continued the brawls?

How hard it is for you to admit your mistakes than spitting out lies and belittle me without a break?

​

Repeatedly trying to contact me and complaining ""What is my mistake?"" 

I will never speak to you again, 

Now I am healing you better not make me get late.

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I gave you chances to protect your fate, But you strangled me for your own sake.

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I never lie or lied, I don't want to hear your lies again,

You are dead for me and I have no time die,

Now keep this in your narcissistic brain.

​

\- Navi Benipal",3.3689016897081423,5.844322034562211,3.4754838709677434,88.5498924731183,76.35023041474653,6.160983102918588,26.00153609831029,7.2636822038024595,1.296489093701997,1809,68,341,22,42,553,206,434,0.204,0.659,0.13699999999999998,-0.9898,1,0,0,0,0,0,115.0,1,51,1,2,17,30,1,1,15,1,32,14,7,6,7,68,55,28,2,9,6,1,3,2,1,2,4,3,0,0,29,22,2,2,12,3,1,4,14,17,0,0,18,12,96,13,37,31,2,39,3,2,4,1,65,9,0,1,26,256,125,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050353777124907434,0.0,0.5116761391057675,0.5738281075225522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026286932359032282,0.0,0.0,0.0267896554708268,0.0709409644253846,0.0,0.027844094054191727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03514536304906043,0.0,0.03600808593868585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05027311726057265,0.0,0.0,0.02030388599018525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03267431188527487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03253028366189919,0.0,0.0,0.02847811353966613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05935861091363815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03022855096235324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06903881772605558,0.0,0.0,0.032897064096082965,0.0,0.0,0.02640638884227152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028202522316315887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035483551369594656,0.037307424843442696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027983475644132384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025662790752362268,0.03551411749083561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030761939664481514,0.03155416774507062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03522134678982728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06304530277502204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456894635838693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577675086453433,0.03350005831726529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.021826300298765658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026886251071512404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025087819914348584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.020172990972761883,0.0,0.024993930552587224,0.01835795025695391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.021374843568906805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02719114408305121,0.0,0.0,0.018569448410381214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030348422032543138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5738281075225522,0.0
divorce,GoodAsDad,2020/02/27,"I'm somewhat stressed over the guilt I'm feeling So my ex is getting remarried next month. Honestly, I really don't care. My life is so much better without her. I'm making twice the amount I have ever made from a job, I have zero debt and I'm looking into building a house this year.  She got knocked up by a married guy she was having an affair with a year after leaving me. I can safely say I dodged a bullet.

Alright, yeah, I'm over here laughing at this and you are wondering where the hell is this guilt I'm feeling at? Well, we have three boys together. Shared custody and these three mean the world to me (like every dating profile you see). At first I was hoping everything would be fine. Yeah, they would prefer if their mother and I were together, but they understand that will never happen.

However, now they have started to tell me how they REALLY feel. They don't like the way this guy yells at their mom. He isn't violent with her, from what I've heard or seen, but they will call each other names. Hell, the place they were going to get married at I guess they forget the papers when they were going to reserve the place and started to yell at each other in front of my kids on who forgot the paper. He treats my sons like second class citizens. He makes them feel like shit every week they are there with them. My sons asked my parents what would happen if I were to pass away and wanted to live with them because they are afraid they would have to stay with their mother all the time.

I feel bad because I am so happy to be away from her. However, now my sons are starting to figure out how she really is. She loves them, but she couldn't care less about their feelings and what she dragged them into.

I'm just complaining. Thanks for reading.",2.839847004608295,4.829219154285717,3.5126543778801853,89.98789400921659,76.02857142857142,6.2304147465437785,22.14746543778801,7.1029339738359605,0.6435419354838712,1384,38,279,15,31,436,183,350,0.11900000000000001,0.768,0.11199999999999999,-0.6952,5,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,1,2,21,2,15,29,4,4,16,3,34,3,1,5,3,58,76,19,0,10,8,8,6,4,0,6,1,4,0,5,12,18,0,2,11,1,1,4,6,10,1,6,11,13,54,19,40,56,7,43,2,0,3,1,60,20,3,7,21,196,66,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09468686833164476,0.0,0.19031930547071166,0.0,0.08456790995988057,0.12348357350116634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08957746787369973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103422288958203,0.0,0.20653157790354826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09161717726344852,0.17067227788779155,0.0,0.09102752901084392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072734040254597,0.14471462069384045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08615211926558487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10583342005922752,0.0,0.11512406339190452,0.0,0.08100606783979468,0.0,0.11157574564465846,0.20057416910770254,0.17913021467004425,0.10781870212740756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10059786606446984,0.0,0.11686813817264605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005087423300348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072451324999361,0.0,0.0,0.07153988502740019,0.19792898678367665,0.0,0.08943562823855747,0.0,0.08505305157156925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09141276503495276,0.09583737041939544,0.13521571391826334,0.0,0.0,0.11032796919879632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118622597512672,0.08084392306344405,0.0,0.07445539441059516,0.0,0.07811646531050714,0.0,0.10771668380028986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11246389663849844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116404470889905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013114096020944,0.0,0.19465537314556985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08054510260915528,0.0,0.0,0.08071023528454176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10396657124177053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21506801103181325,0.10795526849502993,0.0,0.0,0.11602048061390845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08852668089626695,0.09324869992194627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059059515320151176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10544021671444267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05973992779854277,0.08039452538386166,0.08124391601528412,0.0,0.09106648036054407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09763416235940917,0.10983817828712024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877969925064877,0.0,0.0,0.1304471514656314
divorce,rvalentines,2020/02/27,"Social skills during divorce Hi all,

I am recently going through divorce and a high conflict custody battle.  My socialization skills has gone to zero.  I don't talk to co-workers, I am always alone in the office cafeteria, I keep to myself.  My excuse is that my mind is constantly pre-occupied with the divorce/legal custody battle.  It's only been 6 months...not sure if anyone else has noticed something similar?  
I don't enjoy going out as I feel that I'm wasting my time and need to focus on researching my case....would love to hear everyone's feedback",5.896857142857144,6.978083447619048,7.0047619047619065,71.55857142857144,66.9047619047619,9.047619047619053,34.04761904761905,9.23628265651192,3.397761904761905,442,20,70,8,7,149,76,105,0.147,0.775,0.078,-0.7208,0,1,1,0,3,0,18.0,0,0,0,2,0,5,2,0,3,0,9,2,0,0,2,12,18,4,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,4,1,2,1,0,0,3,2,2,0,1,2,2,12,3,11,16,1,10,0,0,0,1,9,4,0,1,3,43,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21275238480506603,0.0,0.0,0.1709252661768164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14363391111598847,0.21047629003311152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22198522543056573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17160141891414038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962868899740373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10386614154506253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23348897965504775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315224165590607,0.0,0.0,0.21703670879312045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18258606184505927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853988871362114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074148772391687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15231576601239566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23387116995016385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15623059103754952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20282672074761826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4187980988769875,0.0,0.1581417693303719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19360520572662074,0.0,0.0,0.16510820658203804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11978161267710648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14954765561767452,0.0,0.0,0.14592393663907224,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,wasitmethewholetime,2020/02/27,"5 years I’m not divorced yet (he left in 2015, never filed, now I can’t find him). 

But I hate myself for still being so sad and still feeling so worthless and discarded. I just saw something on Twitter saying it’s been 5 years since that silly dress debate. For those of you who remember, it was that viral tweet with a picture of the dress and some people thought it was gold and other people thought it was blue. It was a huge viral moment.

And I realized that when that dress debate was taking hold of everyone’s social media feeds, I still *thought* I was a happily married woman. It would be a few months before he left me, a full year before I found out there had been another woman all along. In fact, they must have been in the full blown throes of brand new affair madness when that dress debate was going viral. 

So it’s been five years and I still somehow cannot believe he not only cheated, but completely abandoned me. And five years ago I was just cluelessly, obliviously posting on Facebook about whether some stupid dress was blue or gold...",3.8486764705882335,5.8006265147058835,4.244901960784315,86.00205882352941,73.06862745098039,6.564705882352942,25.235294117647058,7.285733465282438,1.2011058823529417,835,27,156,9,17,262,118,204,0.10099999999999999,0.858,0.040999999999999995,-0.9317,0,0,1,0,1,0,24.0,0,1,1,0,16,8,4,0,7,0,21,1,0,0,4,36,31,16,0,2,8,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,15,10,1,2,8,0,0,1,5,7,0,2,19,5,15,1,15,8,6,31,0,3,3,0,13,11,0,4,18,110,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12118617079669228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14335354309651502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23266220999882656,0.1540266314793775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14333902199508106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13063334628379533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06912525659463316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249514989031194,0.0,0.0,0.1498967010357983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769608743804107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13497394052211842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970740922032188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10912152212329418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10544005380447093,0.1320364642285999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10397497714610328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18955657227988013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13093147504196173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15486706353573965,0.0,0.0,0.10871818020744016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11308886201674033,0.0,0.0,0.13935978373499364,0.0,0.10524690934580018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4367107498951405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10278975816490167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3256001066487025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09711566650522567,0.0,0.0,0.4401874372612613
divorce,vito3232,2020/02/27,"When does it get easier? I have been separated from my wife for about 6 months. She has moved on and is seeing someone else. I’m still madly in love with her and would do anything to get her back. I hurt all the time. I’ve never hurt this badly in my life. I have said everything imaginable to try and get her back but the answer is always no. I finally started accepting that it’s over and today out of no where she asks how I am doing. That she has been thinking about us. Thinking about me moving back in. And all I asked was if we live together to not see other people as it would be too painful to be home knowing she was out with another man. I didn’t expect us to reconcile today, but I thought if I moved back in, that in time would get see where things go. Well after I said that she receded on her idea. I know there is no answer out there for me, but maybe someone’s comment can give me hope to move on, help me not be so devastated. I don’t even know what I am looking or asking for. I just want the pain to stop. Thanks for reading.",1.7222464114832547,3.3191998227272737,3.4076076555023924,91.25509569377992,78.04545454545455,6.631578947368423,21.578947368421048,7.475848149327749,0.605454545454545,811,22,183,11,19,270,123,220,0.14800000000000002,0.755,0.09699999999999999,-0.9183,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,0,0,0,19,11,1,0,3,0,24,4,0,1,3,43,51,15,0,8,9,1,0,0,0,3,3,2,1,1,11,11,0,1,12,1,0,5,8,6,1,0,8,6,32,5,32,37,2,35,0,2,4,1,23,14,0,4,16,137,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08133491808071633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10249824803644918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08043901870293256,0.0,0.2741460884741917,0.0,0.0,0.3006514919566466,0.08161625131493452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08554072403154599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08165666587570533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0645622287645662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08785041143680906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10707914568091816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042790702329223,0.09376965506083264,0.05555295439279295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655190294507161,0.0,0.09805012000898664,0.09708671672693528,0.0,0.0,0.2092844454339172,0.11034661383406742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16116072276388635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06904294120793311,0.0,0.0,0.0863140724926279,0.0,0.08208446011566875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08822220163682877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982019117511686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780222420674874,0.4155664590571469,0.0,0.0,0.07538998028497239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20802344992890912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06776678184159438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09777535558201096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859631827009804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23367966110770694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16564465718652516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06918717689528188,0.0,0.07806240047516484,0.08172246009885034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08999405721663209,0.0,0.0,0.0649400279535252,0.12526710066578886,0.0,0.0776017105939354,0.11399634322745868,0.0,0.1853090617751351,0.0,0.0,0.06636508896169778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351597904272999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057654835777010326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08788800327451313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20831404914022714,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,invisibleme34,2020/02/27,"I was such a terrible wife! My husband has been a serial philanderer for most of last year. He has an active tinder profile where he asks girls to come f*** him in his office at 3 am. He drinks all the time. He has multiple women on speed dial and has had love affairs with hookers. He is also on the brink of losing his job. He has totally checked out of our marriage. I’m scared we’re done. 

This was not him. He was so kind, considerate, sweet and loving for 5 years. But I was a spoiled, ungrateful brat who made him feel bad about himself and poked at his insecurities even though he told me to stop. 

I don’t even know what was wrong with me. I am so devastated when I think back to our interactions now and can’t even get angry at him for his cheating and drinking because I feel like it’s all my fault. :(",1.0280388219544854,3.2706131024096408,2.9343775100401612,90.45034805890228,83.63855421686749,6.098527443105756,21.27041499330656,7.3871296695380915,0.6768350736278448,629,20,138,10,18,210,112,166,0.21,0.6679999999999999,0.12300000000000001,-0.9432,1,0,2,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,0,1,13,13,1,2,6,0,18,4,0,1,3,22,30,11,0,0,2,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,9,2,1,5,2,1,1,3,8,0,0,10,3,21,5,19,20,4,19,0,1,0,2,31,9,0,1,10,91,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14504652171805665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16956230989919754,0.0,0.0,0.13946714068001798,0.1514415927868677,0.1105652786198838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15623957935620608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18561087639570892,0.0,0.3553593489810087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3593919078780423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18341856364797746,0.12957522935011384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09476160467637557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17998794146250455,0.0,0.0,0.18887545360517116,0.0996796436854554,0.14784585184046609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08861127415656543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20291362967338789,0.0,0.0,0.3273982943296683,0.1716225933891908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18158926774599127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15163866661891742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11621857744616006,0.17820124487796915,0.0,0.10576195005348032,0.0,0.0,0.17331277972979614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983064566217344,0.0,0.2336007168893843
divorce,altthrowfaraway,2020/02/28,"Custody with strange work schedule I am thinking about divorcing my wife. Nothing has been said or done yet, just thinking on the idea right now. We aren’t happy but don’t hate each other. We have two two kids, ages 3 and 7. I hope to get a 50/50 custody split for the kids. For the sake of this question assume the whole process doesn’t get too hostile. If that happens, the skill of the respective attorneys determines custody.

The problem with a 50/50 custody arrangement is that she works an odd schedule. She has to report to work at 5am, Monday through Friday. We live in a rural area with extremely limited child care options. I have a regular 8-5 job, so I always take the kids to daycare and school. The daycares don’t even open until 7am or later. 

Does anyone have an idea of what a custody schedule would look like if we got close to 50/50 joint custody? A one week on, one week off schedule probably would not work easily for her.",4.211809006211176,5.754995320652177,4.606366459627328,85.44608695652173,71.33695652173913,7.431055900621117,30.534161490683232,7.957251820313856,2.088409627329193,745,32,143,10,14,235,115,184,0.11199999999999999,0.7959999999999999,0.092,-0.4306,2,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,4,0,0,6,7,8,2,0,17,0,15,0,0,0,0,31,27,9,0,6,7,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,4,5,12,0,1,6,0,0,0,5,3,0,4,4,2,12,5,22,21,2,21,0,0,1,0,15,9,0,8,13,91,17,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214024949642524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10201835902315426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14875723314268904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276801841513185,0.1493088239349615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09636716723182476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15245597696823848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669148749005705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12902102127460632,0.15531583085080725,0.0,0.14404842579596006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14491401622659322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.329412128183819,0.0,0.0,0.14478563101522285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0712805487943976,0.0,0.12883450304494468,0.0,0.1225212798019466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13999729953336312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977345010065762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15730747748492227,0.1396089039418242,0.0,0.0,0.16344409302026724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12459986283726865,0.13878660533589904,0.0,0.0,0.1476610305230426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970045620899033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869767489366971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850509125753917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23406822876751066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16289483276630615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4248747751373229,0.0,0.0,0.20728977499046555,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,iwillhideforlove,2020/02/28,"How Much Did You Get for Selling Your Wedding Ring How much did you get for your wedding ring?  
Did you sell online ?  At  a Pawn Shop?  
Did you feel ripped off?   
Just glad to be done with it?  
Should one wait for gold prices to go up>?",-0.535178571428574,1.688831791666665,0.11345238095238308,106.46250000000002,95.66666666666666,2.742857142857144,13.107142857142858,3.1291,-1.847235714285714,178,3,43,0,7,53,33,48,0.0,0.9209999999999999,0.079,0.6072,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,6,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,2,0,7,12,2,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,5,3,6,1,8,5,2,3,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,0,29,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4429079244619466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2188382946911058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4522436018934426,0.0,0.2459720240724871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6363202801119081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932786392902343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,morrisonhotel61,2020/02/28,Well today it's official I posted on here a good long while ago about how badly i felt about a marriage ending. As the months passed I began to feel better. Well as of 12 pm I am officially divorced. I do feel a bit sad. I feel relief. But I do not feel happiness. Only thing close is being glad it's over. All the terms were agreeable and no one is gaining anything substantial from it. Life will get better. It will take time for me to date. I'm not one to celebrate this.,0.0738226059654643,2.413791704081632,2.2806122448979598,92.13856357927787,91.14285714285714,5.056200941915228,17.742543171114598,6.67199483983844,0.09349199372056516,369,10,78,5,13,124,70,98,0.129,0.632,0.23800000000000002,0.8773,0,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,0,0,3,6,10,0,0,5,0,9,1,0,1,1,12,18,6,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,5,0,0,1,3,2,2,2,3,5,8,8,12,12,3,15,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,10,53,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17687160259995735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16419646424171525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16659949495488968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3529367324834217,0.21783544741624505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17672465266322668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4035541294406424,0.0,0.1915804116951587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10424636448731324,0.0,0.0,0.16735657796118827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21240375137140444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14093417610001174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17657806721617175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159263209400957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27041383714254674,0.15175181060038231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910949052124038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15002197971902947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13255908823435522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11634774265185885,0.0,0.18913142667612806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35880346676614144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,brandonlachlan,2020/02/28,"When will I get peace? As of this week, I had made my decision to leave my wife. We have been arguing almost non stop for over a year and my 2 year old has been a witness and he is starting to pick up on this. Am I a terrible person for falling out of love ? Am I wrong to NOT want to do counseling because I know deep down we will fall back to the cycle of screaming matches. The hardest part of this is not being sure when I will see my child. I'm staying with family 4 hours away in another state and I'm absolutely terrified of what's going to happen.",2.368945386064027,3.468773220338985,4.4233333333333364,86.70179849340867,75.27118644067797,7.956308851224105,25.822975517890768,8.515128840125781,1.6174320150659132,432,15,96,8,9,149,81,118,0.196,0.742,0.062,-0.9128,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,0,0,3,6,1,0,5,0,14,1,0,2,1,17,25,6,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,2,4,7,0,1,2,0,0,3,2,4,0,0,4,2,12,2,22,17,1,23,0,0,1,1,8,8,0,1,10,66,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21821034291691835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285028235877805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20473826719631336,0.16756314411233267,0.0,0.1328389298358806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20543081927033596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138515663494806,0.0,0.12384608693879615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19270146905665544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21460232839637589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197603565864528,0.0,0.0,0.2307404657553771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19667674875747315,0.2061963929911232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286650809417568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359806532911453,0.0,0.0,0.19027492743493285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17365000020669774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15424132196890994,0.2322683403212247,0.0,0.18218665431712036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20538225980212108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285318824557056,0.0,0.1747982270539744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382557870427077,0.0,0.2806601640933209
divorce,ihatechurchdrama,2020/02/28,"Evidently I don’t deserve alimony...rant also I don’t know where to begin.

I guess starting off with that...my soon to be ex wife thinks she doesn’t owe me anything even though I relied on her financially. She made more money than me and we had agreed that I wasn’t able to work full time currently with my autism. However, now when talking to her she said we didn’t. I don’t even have a degree...

I do have a hard time working full time and she knows that. It’s also very hard to get disability if you still work.

She...believes that I am able to fully take care of myself and that she’s done enough for me. I explained to her that the problems I have are actual problems and not just me over relying on her.

I am in the process of talking to lawyers now.

The biggest thing that’s getting me as someone with autism is that she doesn’t believe that my issues explain the problems we/I had. She just is blaming me for it.

Also, I don’t understand why she thinks she doesn’t owe me alimony.

Lastly, she had left me a little less than a year ago without saying anything. She cut me off from any of her money, didn’t help me fix my car when it broke down, I subsequently lost my job and my car. She then kicked me out of our apartment and I had to live with my parents. I have no health insurance and though I’m working I’m still having to rely on my parents.

Ok vent over. I’m open to thoughts.",1.7850610079575624,3.565571537931035,3.2862068965517253,91.36832891246685,78.44827586206897,6.116710875331565,23.912466843501328,7.010146845296331,0.7504748010610083,1086,37,239,12,26,357,139,290,0.087,0.875,0.039,-0.8756,8,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,3,1,0,5,17,8,1,0,8,1,27,1,0,1,0,33,50,17,0,4,5,4,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,12,15,0,0,8,0,4,2,13,6,0,0,12,4,55,2,36,37,5,37,0,2,0,0,32,18,0,2,17,171,67,6,0.2176984913698699,0.0,0.1062211620960379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09648828871202486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611401073442796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07402121966543639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17914730928380365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24527165087930114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11097906039773346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139056998659308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11247036802999756,0.0,0.14378780038642813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11373847656687973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11990971589442315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950150879259245,0.0,0.0,0.11570165814288515,0.0,0.0,0.07295935493898661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11361033257321583,0.1080160806281578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964139754948187,0.08872666314851599,0.0,0.0,0.11826502392527632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10909553989918017,0.09611587815042384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11882180986307532,0.0,0.0,0.10299578813174133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417284117867371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3124620831262593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10354055887282493,0.08656128905747844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09222761263969212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07704405633978988,0.0,0.17385429642058348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08184108629930367,0.17497780109081154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07231460216871652,0.1394924029900013,0.21388766245528407,0.08641414249510941,0.1904126115039956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11331590353284378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0898120273052723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09821951381352807,0.0,0.0,0.10492678854588686,0.0,0.31697418898756763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07009534545839481
divorce,BonusDad75,2020/02/28,"It’s coming up on a year and I finally asked someone out. This is more of a personal triumph. Having poor social skills and self esteem for a lot of my life my marriage was a godsend. We met each other where we were and we helped each other through a lot. It wasn’t meant to be however. 

But the good news is is that I’ve learned to care for myself. To advocate for myself. To believe myself worthy. Do instead of asking many randos I asked a woman I’m genuinely attracted to and have known and she said yes! I’m genuinely thrilled !",0.9969017094017084,3.4494083055555578,3.0555555555555562,87.95269230769233,86.31481481481481,5.915669515669517,23.122507122507123,7.321109707123232,1.2069165242165243,419,16,82,7,13,141,72,108,0.027000000000000003,0.753,0.22,0.9684,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,3,0,0,2,2,5,0,0,7,1,10,1,0,0,0,19,20,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,6,12,0,0,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,6,1,11,5,15,13,5,7,0,0,0,0,15,4,0,2,2,62,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5897601941394665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23691754911390756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21439809205943766,0.0,0.0,0.18114065700127768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303553484806024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17637586339948844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14094862977525716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14852948892095422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3575511057471118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21319451257249386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836114832785649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20002780879153048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21937160191621535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21435759576394736,0.1781725679986988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13541571062746122
divorce,queencandy9109,2020/02/28,"Scared about asking for divorce My husband knows that I am and have been unhappy for a long tine, he has in the past told me that he would rather stay in a miserable marriage then be alone, the last time I told him I wanted a divorce he blew up and said I’m the worst mother ever for trying to break up our family and kids. I had to change the narrative from I want a divorce to maybe we should talk I don’t know how else to tell him again. I feel Like I’m slipping into a depression. What’s the best way to let him know I’m serious",2.877326086956522,3.5129305913043503,4.278858695652176,89.98872282608698,73.52173913043478,7.836956521739133,23.94021739130435,8.07648339933343,1.0205000000000006,418,11,97,6,8,139,77,115,0.172,0.759,0.069,-0.9001,0,1,0,0,3,0,5.0,2,0,0,1,5,7,0,2,10,0,10,0,0,1,1,16,23,5,0,5,1,2,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,3,5,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,5,2,14,2,15,14,2,15,0,2,0,0,21,5,0,0,8,62,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997527998084236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803052899665351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2024027809994964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20402848232825305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661166910686686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16111623806522662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744599013935366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818185286821499,0.0,0.09751971804186436,0.13778474305016014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.317985177292374,0.15721293961076652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972203185389936,0.0,0.09422542952264464,0.0,0.0,0.1706818696284089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19376155544049747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18411406932012275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18346137510087007,0.0,0.1930942412568932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20557133562845128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15501977365061415,0.1685748948087432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11246272289611696,0.0,0.0,0.3685867575484711,0.0,0.13094452679036087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275167653991629,0.15308942482169582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13700769995800113,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,gahonky,2020/02/28,"She's shacking up and I'm shelling out - advice needed My ex went on a trip, then files for divorce two weeks later. She swears nothing happened with a guy on the trip. I agreed to pay the mortgage until she could refinance (real estate section of the agreement, not alimony, never mind the flair). Now she's moving said guy in to the house I'm still paying for.  I'm going to tell her she can waive the remaining months or I can take her to court to get it waived or reduced. I'm in a pretty conservative locale and think things will go my way.

Has anybody out there had this happen? AITA?",1.967429378531076,4.261260855932207,3.245000000000001,89.31179378531073,80.27118644067797,5.289265536723164,21.69774011299436,6.42735559955562,0.4420994350282488,463,14,91,4,12,150,83,118,0.012,0.899,0.08900000000000001,0.8253,1,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,9,0,6,0,0,0,1,15,20,6,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,3,5,0,1,1,0,2,6,2,0,0,1,3,1,11,1,17,15,1,24,0,0,0,0,13,9,0,2,8,58,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19339343099447892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15801345360353633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10339877442443192,0.0,0.22495138217817925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3919201185283244,0.3500188248457358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22835928857924445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19983068746199675,0.0,0.15796829696602727,0.2103449095857732,0.0,0.1467462924487357,0.15263886910117574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18989808707198888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20134361008823096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252626594085458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18825585173677947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15804960397671514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14880220443143075,0.0,0.17298033652156708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13148129749810636,0.12681147089396771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933273827303062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15709017795084287,0.1587498795885208,0.0,0.0,0.18346272142396824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,waitingwaitingwaiti,2020/02/28,"Dying from waiting My wife says she filed for divorce three weeks ago. We have lived apart for nearly four years. In that time she forced me to go back to her house with various lies or promises of getting help. She would only let me come late a night and I would have flat tires or worse car problems which kept me broke. She'd have witnesses that I stayed there which meant I couldn't file. I have refused for just long enough now that I could file if I could afford it. 

Then she just said that out of nowhere. I have been waiting to be served papers ever since. I called the parish clerk to see if it was filed and she hung up on me. How can I find out if this hell is almost over? I am so happy I could cry and terrified of what she is going to pull.",2.78166666666667,3.9965519171974577,2.9660031847133794,97.10063959660296,74.4140127388535,5.997664543524418,20.089702760084926,5.985473137389443,-0.2832628450106158,589,11,138,3,12,179,106,157,0.16,0.77,0.07,-0.9463,1,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,1,0,0,0,8,5,1,0,2,0,20,1,0,1,1,31,30,11,1,10,7,1,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,10,8,0,4,2,0,0,5,1,3,0,2,5,3,25,2,20,16,2,25,1,1,1,0,16,8,1,6,11,97,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14896581255401833,0.0,0.16827737899814982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12921975343143285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17159740957608707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14475983247523716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4025217443541868,0.0,0.1845945719053032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744089317486094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17364013794297994,0.0,0.0,0.15201046553354208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15359427104246584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08779896921485078,0.0,0.19101289728665566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788919020772788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11264009069889006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19390665179061156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895672452206299,0.0,0.0,0.17184208058308895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14839085736875054,0.14871858950455075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15770314622042805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278092776925791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608007518375081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15985363291934224,0.13363977050785367,0.0,0.0,0.13391375728205995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13901234860696496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17911849186904685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09799106113241124,0.19314827036021207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13479923595264975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17125687822526786,0.23875519917113966,0.0,0.0,0.10821841937344973
divorce,strippedbareme,2020/02/28,"3 months in and finally feeling better There’s a strange sensation after finally accepting what has happened and what will happen in the future.
It’s been three months since we’ve separated. Three months for me to get my thoughts in order and try moving on with my life. This, by far has been the hardest time I’ve ever had. I’ve had to look at myself in the mirror and realize that I need to change the way I am in order to grow as a person. I still love her and miss her every day. I see her face whenever I look at my son, hear her voice whenever a song she liked comes on the radio. It’s a different feeling now though from what I felt originally. I look back with nostalgia, instead of sadness.
I’m happy for the time I shared with her, and hope that I’m the future we can once again be friends. Obviously not as close as we were but to give her a hug or look her in the eye without feeling something much deeper than anyone I’ve ever met.
At first, I thought dark thoughts. Depression, anger, sadness; but after the dark cloud was removed I’m able to wake up and go about my day without too much of those thoughts. I have to be focused on what I need to do for myself and my son. I’ll be moving into my own place in April and can not wait. There is light at the end of the tunnel, and I see mine. Hopefully the rest of you going through the same situation and emotions will see yours soon too. Good luck to you all. If anyone needs to talk I will do what I can to help you through whatever you’re going through. Sometimes all someone needs is an ear to listen. It’s helped me and it’s time to pay it forward",3.669642020307212,4.431244128742517,4.699825566258788,87.23196172871651,71.78443113772454,7.724863316844572,27.096589429835984,7.893859768569023,1.4283641239260607,1265,42,274,16,23,414,170,334,0.06,0.8140000000000001,0.127,0.9575,1,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,2,4,0,2,14,17,1,0,19,0,23,7,4,1,5,53,61,20,0,7,8,2,4,1,1,3,1,5,0,1,14,20,0,1,10,2,1,9,4,5,0,3,12,18,39,12,53,43,7,56,0,4,8,2,27,20,0,5,27,189,53,1,0.09607916375502712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13436157049868616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07387894631477238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497421255089638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163901561034022,0.08276369214439308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12392622438218175,0.0,0.0827528429560271,0.0,0.0,0.10038227671641284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10807612732250847,0.08509762128028851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17381820850471166,0.08095083932396414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14574153615120747,0.0,0.09225106442972657,0.21050005516241987,0.0,0.08172488760796252,0.0,0.0,0.07423052358246343,0.0,0.05019739754075762,0.0921678887020847,0.16381200872153862,0.0805866441126678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16992497440451887,0.10227805640201686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10828820037284252,0.0,0.12879967640628728,0.0,0.0,0.19085657712900486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06786355475861608,0.046939426264687306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3227291975939786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08671519646991338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23006841558171676,0.2042338916670344,0.14125848074042968,0.28496593003875675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023211737144159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838926198447836,0.10038227671641284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22968796230447344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0794776771128413,0.10799700561980748,0.0,0.0,0.08140756366096341,0.07396643426186182,0.0950247496915777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07672894428528006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07722479241225205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094397290568755,0.30510449549902463,0.16807359910117226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06523144538771641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07626316807178289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18523377053378415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Posaquatl,2020/02/28,"Statue of Limitations on Medical Reimbursement Per the divorce decree I am required to pay 75% of medical charges for the children not covered by insurance.  However, I am not getting any requests from my Ex.  We have discussed this and she is ""working on"" getting the information together.  Unfortunately, she is quite unorganized and does not have receipts for medications, or confirmations of bills she has paid. I have been patient but I would like to get this paid and off my plate. I plan to purchase a house soon and I don't need any unknown payment continuing to build up. 

I intend to submit a request for her 25% which I am sure will tick her off.  But the books need to be cleared.  Is there any legal statue of limitations as to how long she can wait before submitting?  Is this a case where she can just ball up 6 months worth of reimbursement and then request it all at once?  I have not gone back to the lawyer on this yet but seems a bit asinine if she can just sit on things then snap her fingers. Thanks.",4.624265975820381,6.393968041450782,5.385512953367876,79.368079447323,70.65803108808291,8.46272884283247,31.519516407599312,9.029198982220553,2.7243895682210706,804,36,152,16,15,261,118,193,0.023,0.892,0.085,0.9129,1,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,1,0,0,6,8,3,0,0,9,0,20,4,1,2,3,31,31,14,0,4,11,1,1,1,0,2,3,0,0,1,7,6,0,4,2,2,8,1,5,0,0,0,4,1,21,3,28,24,2,20,0,0,0,0,18,10,0,3,9,110,28,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3692771734402325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13918482044282746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15402540724501776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976150499612294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15840227816460667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28370934259022684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088601920020462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08843190032115404,0.0,0.0,0.16018735237476714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5470428579604321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14447973209161358,0.0,0.0,0.2684318996360465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19276877786348015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19252545256970688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16478388116623385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17059892916270733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666488546336524,0.0,0.0,0.1202543991575064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13177677641165106,0.0,0.0,0.12858366714056535,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ZeeBee94,2020/02/28,What if I regret it? My husband (of two years) and I just aren’t getting along anymore. He’s become very closed off and lives in his own world. I still care about him as a person even if it’s not romantic anymore. I’m afraid of regretting a divorce once the paperwork is completed. What if six months down the road I feel like we could have worked things out? What if I feel like I still love him? How did you deal with those feelings? Would a trial separation help? (It would take an act of Congress to get him to move out which is an issue.),1.564373464373464,3.674122963963967,2.5904995904995936,94.46299754299757,80.62162162162163,5.838165438165437,20.9017199017199,6.980632752743323,0.31679459459459514,423,12,94,5,11,134,80,111,0.068,0.7909999999999999,0.141,0.852,1,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,1,1,0,1,6,7,0,1,7,0,8,1,0,1,0,23,17,8,0,9,6,1,3,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,9,8,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,3,0,2,1,3,13,4,14,13,1,14,0,2,0,1,13,8,0,4,6,66,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35756612529969306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990981307344196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18380104481056572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890135374504572,0.0,0.0,0.1439338750016566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18585426187901605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906907414481188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734553876732295,0.2575751248587698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883711283302728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12083365653332315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18815889910579373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761452410252051,0.0,0.15918497384659538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16270404645137235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14389274198626772,0.1916024062072388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919855997416262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574080354057535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879336084878374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13554338193469612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197658313742757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176101203446379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487446766633577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13124139568559212,0.0,0.0,0.2561225186626641,0.0,0.0,0.11609034790380722
divorce,MrAnonymous1978,2020/02/28,"Divorce advice in Connecticut Looking for recommendations on lawyers or resources to understand my divorce rights in the state of Connecticut. Thanks for any recommendations. 
We get along, but there are kids and wnat to make sure the finances are equitable. Thank you for any thoughts/experiences.
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divorce,MoxieMav3n,2020/02/28,"I would like to be a witness for a wife going through a divorce and give her evidence of things that her STBH has done. I don’t know if this is the right place to post this, 
but I know a man who is going through a divorce and I sympathize with the awful horrific things he has done to his soon to be ex-wife. I can only imagine she knows 1/100 of the horrific things he has done to her. I considered calling her or writing her a letter and providing her with all of the information I have. I want to make sure that she gets the pay out and custody she deserves. She married a man who had absolutely no respect for her, chronically cheated on her, manipulated her, and fucked everything with a skirt. I have boxes and boxes of evidence that I would love to drop off on her doorstep. He’s hurt dozens of women but she’s the biggest victim of them all. I don’t know if this is the right sub to post this but I am determined to help her get everything she deserves to make up for the years she spent being married to a narcissistic pathological liar. I’ve got all the evidence, I just wanna know the best way to turn it over to her.",4.989459627329191,5.1251334739130465,6.003229813664597,81.28347826086956,68.6086956521739,9.527950310559003,31.211180124223603,9.424239791934726,2.546509316770185,889,34,188,17,14,296,111,230,0.19,0.6990000000000001,0.111,-0.9731,0,0,0,0,2,0,17.0,0,0,1,1,2,10,4,0,19,1,21,4,0,3,4,36,39,12,0,6,7,1,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,3,13,10,0,0,7,0,2,2,3,5,0,1,6,0,34,5,34,28,4,18,0,1,0,2,39,10,1,3,3,141,47,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14947645194299844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14544177508096495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4372805149345827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25602228560076945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13167860420593622,0.1488325256707885,0.13663636297217852,0.16189786846642867,0.0,0.11391805787348452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09547099094909912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15247931450845348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3913919877764892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06958640992133909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285528965338973,0.0,0.1901525642993646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10832802351356197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14881396753842768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2728261798428785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24327694660561494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13424303869695153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2838818984177192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15492807505758108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08401168867709148,0.11305805157093385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20236307799193592,0.0,0.0,0.09172329028167443
divorce,kspott29,2020/02/28,Wedding rings I've been thinking about getting my wedding rings turned into earrings or a necklace. Has anyone ever done this? Did you regret it? (Was going to see if son wanted them but he doesn't lol) Was it expensive?,1.6950000000000005,4.471820880952382,2.873333333333335,86.93000000000004,90.1904761904762,3.752380952380953,23.66666666666667,5.46131890053228,0.6599238095238098,175,7,29,1,6,56,38,42,0.06,0.94,0.0,-0.3485,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,7,0,0,0,1,8,13,3,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,5,3,3,0,3,8,0,3,0,1,1,0,6,1,0,2,1,21,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29742280924816233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4352927285391507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3847640339427239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2222339458835801,0.0,0.24174287157512744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3389582241684724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27255461892020433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4626714126232338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508893669701038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,a_band_of_frogs,2020/02/28,"Worthless feeling after realizing Ex-wife moved on really fast. So I have been divorced since October 2019 and for awhile felt happy about my situation. Today just being on social media I got a friend recommendation for my ex wife and because I'm an idiot and lack self control I went looking at her profile and discovered she was in a new relationship 2 weeks after we separated to begin the divorce process. My wife is the one who asked for a divorce and she is the one said that I was a burden on her and that my mental health issues (panic attacks) were too much, (fyi I'm in therapy getting help etc). I have moved on an am in a better place and a new relationship but idk why finding this out made me feel like shit. I don't want to feel anything towards her or let her new life have an affect on me but now I just feel like a total piece of shit, who was left after 9 years because I started developing anxiety.",3.8170257611241207,5.2944405737704905,5.499113973458236,78.91831967213116,72.22404371584699,7.851522248243562,28.371975019516,8.418075326091056,2.0979745511319288,727,28,138,12,14,248,115,183,0.122,0.7909999999999999,0.087,-0.7567,0,0,0,0,3,0,13.0,1,0,0,2,6,12,4,1,13,0,14,4,2,3,1,27,31,11,0,2,5,3,5,2,1,0,2,1,0,1,5,9,0,1,7,0,0,3,1,7,0,2,10,7,21,5,21,19,5,29,0,1,1,0,23,13,2,1,15,96,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09455302422869376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017115828722512,0.0,0.11554853621442675,0.14061189548966915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15068980964298934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10931341877680037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13862697531769694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378457428477947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499818097155653,0.1765985387903133,0.11867458298095067,0.0,0.11296739918683853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09549240960050984,0.0,0.06457546323941173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09885354461814667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13157361128182574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313801344569888,0.0,0.0,0.08284591608827056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12900541797542214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13429085627859913,0.12638852206251555,0.08730174671012783,0.12076861924059995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10379217079228817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11695252004548565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12455888921118405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627327074651273,0.0908596090355314,0.0,0.0,0.3581185362161013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16750798827091884,0.0,0.0,0.14501699120807246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12913482247214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07918079113309197,0.0,0.0,0.2653984987030978,0.0,0.0,0.11757111146725605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289408868569976,0.0,0.2537455369237223,0.10224250794250753,0.13893064198608976,0.0,0.1259937852525392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08748412635999762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413464189090775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171575579715123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0729019908705777,0.0,0.09914379614936028,0.0,0.0,0.11457766582885667,0.11152902333677486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07959381100450795
divorce,Idontknow01258,2020/02/28,"Partner now acting nice after the divorce was filed. I got the divorce papers a while back, but what happened from the time of everything becoming real has changed my partner. When the separation first started they wanted nothing to do with me, they were cold and distant, a few months went by in our in-home separation and I caught my partner cheating on me, which lead up to the divorce papers. But the moment the divorce papers came things started to change. My partner who wanted nothing to do with me was now asking me to go out with our 2 kids together and get ice cream, or to eat, and wants me to stay in the house and live there while we are divorced, and it could be for many years to come staying and living together, they even complimented me on a shirt I wore. The confusing part is they went from I hate you, to care for me. So my main question is what is this? Do they possibly still have feelings? or can't let go?",5.7862437562437545,6.059585296703298,5.969320679320678,81.73477022977025,66.91208791208791,8.596203796203799,32.47952047952048,8.296473431620573,2.345630769230769,732,29,143,9,11,233,109,182,0.068,0.88,0.052000000000000005,-0.6046,0,0,0,0,5,0,19.0,3,1,5,2,8,6,2,1,12,0,16,2,1,1,0,27,36,15,0,4,4,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,7,14,1,0,2,0,0,9,1,3,0,1,9,3,24,3,25,24,3,32,0,0,1,0,22,6,0,4,15,109,31,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13367736147788106,0.0,0.0,0.10995131754251647,0.0,0.0,0.1579224184116361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16354370722238462,0.14578894033811265,0.0,0.3025312145754508,0.12317415786071738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11416674555292634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463155770404241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09444426262376944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12851116648404542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07230058864231256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162814329030056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07470693982689053,0.0,0.1625302569194685,0.0,0.11436303262870715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12644654364418975,0.0,0.0,0.14117409224748262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16499251297479656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462180716772817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525274943759323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14497051617990891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141341193035346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27440760382507084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15484540995787835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16120096278511742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16018273950478998,0.0,0.0,0.16275515870817853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20241965093006334,0.30481894066885845,0.11419286466090245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09499692269303696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08337925118093471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530195389402081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26510833549414725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09208157016638448
divorce,throwawayobvs6666666,2020/02/28,"Where to file? Anyone have interstate insights on NY and VA? I’m currently residing in Virginia, STBX is in New York, where we lived together previously. I, and child, have been in VA for less than a year. 

One child is involved.

Assuming we can be mediate this and avoid litigation and come to our own arrangement out of court, does anyone have insight on where is the best place to file? 

Would it be best if I claimed residency in NY and filed there, with the agreement I would live in VA?

TIA",3.0844093567251463,5.410739873684214,4.052982456140352,84.80532163742694,76.57894736842105,8.432748538011698,27.39766081871345,9.150863307647796,2.4263099415204685,388,16,78,10,9,125,64,95,0.038,0.805,0.157,0.9392,1,1,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,0,0,2,4,4,0,1,3,0,12,0,0,0,0,17,14,6,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,10,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,6,3,15,9,4,16,0,0,0,0,6,12,0,2,3,53,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3506607431103131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5262937341344621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159990961864341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21943319165132488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4428340448578936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24217610773125836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16991482642299693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619805917557849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3562514984230865,0.0,0.0,0.16147490899720546
divorce,000000empty,2020/02/28,"The 3 shells When she left, My life was over. Or so I thought. You see I didnt realize at the time, that I had 3 different lives. There was my marriage, or my immediate life. Then there was my potential, or the life I lead outside my marriage. For the majority of the last decade, thats all I knew that existed.   

  So it only made sense that when she left, I felt that my life was worthless and basically over. And how could I not? The heart of my potential surroundings, had been cut out. All I was left with was an empty shell. My life, the beating heart that made everything all worth it, was gone.  

But one day, I realized something. And that was that there was a 3rd life, my universal life. And when I looked closer at this 3rd shell, I realized that this shell enveloped the previous two, and that it always had. 

And it was then that I realized that the 2nd shell, the life of mine that was always full of potential, the one that I could do anything I wanted to as long as it fit snugly within my own marriage... I realized that it was simply an illusion. 

And the 1st shell, my marriage life, was simply a spot on a canvas that was as real as any other dot on canvas, and could just as easily be erased. It was no more permanent then I thought it was, and thus I realized the first 2 shells, were simply constructs and illusions. 

I hadnt been living my life, my true life. I had been living a life centered around someone other then me, and my potential was limited because of them. There was always an excuse, a but, an if, something that got in the way why I could or couldnt do something, and because simply I had to make sure everything I did, didnt obstruct my marriage. 

But now? Only in the last month have I realized that this 3rd shell, this universal enveloping life, is the real me. The me I left behind long ago, and was too blind to see that it existed because I forgot there was a reality outside of the one that existed within my marriage. 

So what am I left with? An open and empty blank canvas, a grand opportunity, just begging me to live for myself for once. And thats what Im doing. And I hope others who feel lost and empty and see no reason to ever be happy again, I hope you guys understand all this, and start living for yourselves again, truly.",4.280797849462363,5.19691074,5.358845878136201,82.49712903225809,70.48888888888891,8.73978494623656,27.40501792114696,9.023248300946321,2.0558523297491043,1763,58,356,33,31,583,171,450,0.054000000000000006,0.865,0.081,0.9441,1,0,3,0,0,0,65.0,0,2,1,6,20,10,1,0,30,0,46,16,2,7,7,74,67,43,0,9,11,0,2,0,0,0,14,0,0,1,41,24,0,2,14,0,1,2,7,3,0,5,43,7,55,7,35,17,8,47,0,2,5,0,14,23,0,7,21,272,96,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0593907821666442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16724620015263747,0.0,0.0,0.045561779481652034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0551346643382268,0.059643526666450564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12252634123724986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21397375971848814,0.0,0.0,0.043208965933993385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0699999438640175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060604646735834176,0.0,0.0,0.12042919032693288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033876827938665234,0.0,0.06432977556107658,0.0,0.0,0.056989517791193475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05358541128998962,0.0,0.0,0.06633977942887034,0.0,0.07132193491574194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587888397250231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13309072200914202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07237067438915784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922664281369958,0.0,0.0,0.3639743417381026,0.0,0.6152060635182639,0.0,0.0,0.2958077740929055,0.11858443493794907,0.056262485903460786,0.0,0.07313758302094182,0.0,0.0,0.1267925983280861,0.044722511759917066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053478152725773734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07135200207048509,0.1362012532862915,0.10191187951347623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15251960215605687,0.0,0.06888637558282741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16016915528799594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05676823711094552,0.1547378605721135,0.0,0.0,0.047422405645182464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06314598910545935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10637982249559357,0.039067794591346065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06544852035689724,0.06974856982717816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03951788658412817,0.05318087672984692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060456391415779825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,akla-ta-aka,2020/02/28,"How to break it to the kids? This is literally minutes after the bazillionth time my wife has threatened divorce to get things her way, I finally told her that I'm fine with that. TBH I have wanted this for a long time now but always had concern about how the kids would handle it. We have three kids, oldest in high school, youngest in elementary. All three are great kids and I love them beyond anything else. But the fighting and some immature behavior by her against the kids is surely taking a toll (example: refusing to hug our daughter, the youngest, because our daughter wanted her hair down and she wanted her hair to be up in a ponytail). The few times it boiled over and she told the kids she wanted to leave me, they begged her not to and she changed her mind. 

This was inevitable; I had hoped to hold it off until they were older but there is just no way. There has been five months of pretty much non-stop arguing almost every weekend. I honestly couldn't keep my sanity for much longer like this. But how to get the kids to understand? I grew up in the only family among my cousins that didn't end in a divorce and I saw how much their lives were screwed up. Though I honestly don't know if that was the divorce or the toxic situation that lead up to that. I'd like some advice.

A bit of background: I have been the primary caretaker for the kids, taking them to extracurricular activities, Drs visits, parent-teacher meetings, attending their performances etc... I support the family entirely with my own paycheck; her paycheck goes to her personal bank account. My primary goal in all of this is for my kids to have a happy, safe and stable childhood.",5.4020217952394605,6.648290671924293,5.5891669056495585,80.65519859478063,68.14826498422713,8.792027530828793,30.18196157155148,9.095868883498916,2.5073230283911667,1321,50,246,24,22,418,171,317,0.06,0.775,0.165,0.991,1,0,0,0,5,0,38.0,3,0,6,3,11,16,3,0,21,0,24,7,2,5,3,43,42,19,0,8,8,4,2,2,0,1,1,0,0,10,16,10,1,4,2,1,2,4,5,3,0,3,12,3,39,13,43,27,11,37,0,0,1,3,47,16,1,6,16,180,55,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12549083315081036,0.0,0.0,0.12859438250378472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068559790699408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10567896669419548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07828382434288463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14020170957169725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13585165193493998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072786840588734,0.0,0.11374227069437473,0.0,0.14322258346569286,0.0,0.0,0.10819964343064356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24212646383470085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406781640617417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13418861522411374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14158383667629354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367057997902863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13568310016972865,0.0,0.12755033650181186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114145865262516,0.0,0.0,0.07057643967651696,0.0,0.0,0.13597855773383632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12547934591147966,0.0,0.11339747972157015,0.11364792640597175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11590433671124745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296678968347227,0.0,0.10250386011429376,0.0,0.28321109531370203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09766942675826122,0.0,0.0,0.14259554821324288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121316545878108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306496153961162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299682019851584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14434980041252224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10736512302380023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457298372284485,0.12103461514902344,0.0,0.19311217048846446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08531674256949279,0.0,0.12617229500836732,0.0,0.22464873304245356,0.0,0.0,0.24542220440449294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13369006370505068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30298248626525603,0.203868117024338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09122609821287507,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,UnitedParents4C,2020/02/28,"Parental Rights, do you have them? Yes you do, 14th Amendment says you do. You may be best suited pro se. You know your story. Read laws in your state and educate yourself.",0.8527272727272717,3.4138560909090927,0.9294545454545472,100.15418181818184,94.15151515151516,3.852121212121212,18.72121212121212,5.6839178017228535,-0.3875406060606057,133,4,28,1,5,39,26,33,0.0,0.818,0.182,0.7845,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,7,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,0,0,4,7,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,8,1,1,5,1,3,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,1,0,17,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4693909357158124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458124326420813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4966495724477764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4473992967245061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38197318748521497,0.0,0.3556936223024803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,lyssssa6,2020/02/28,"Divorcing with young kids How do you know you’re not going to fuck up your kid from getting a divorce? 
Or can you prevent yourself from fucking up your kid while going through a divorce?? 

My daughter is almost 2 and her dad and I are separating. I’m scared I’m going to mess her up because I wanted to be happy. 

Am I just stupid selfish? 

I’m almost 23 and hate my life. I needed to leave for my sanity.",0.8991666666666696,3.078571535714285,3.2214285714285715,88.59023809523813,83.64285714285714,5.161904761904762,23.619047619047624,6.42735559955562,0.7380333333333335,315,12,64,3,9,108,56,84,0.196,0.718,0.086,-0.8704,0,0,0,0,2,0,8.0,0,4,0,0,2,8,4,1,2,0,6,3,0,1,0,14,19,6,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,4,0,1,1,0,0,3,1,7,0,0,0,0,13,1,12,18,0,8,0,0,0,2,14,3,2,3,2,41,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4870035275092994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14823547444143256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4496174346639338,0.1270474022529874,0.0,0.4146009790451198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25886125596073384,0.0,0.2400821359705908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13364104408098634,0.0,0.0,0.2574841761849753,0.0,0.0,0.17175966807313106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18030905443172987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434577255518125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14342922364860572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,luckyinsomniac,2020/02/28,"Counseling for kids? What are your thoughts about children’s counseling with the divorce process? My son is almost 5 and my daughter is 2.5. I’ve heard yes we should do it and I’ve heard they’re so young they’ll bounce back. I’m personally seeking counseling but I don’t know about my kids. 

Also how did you start the conversation with kids so young? I already care for them 90% of the time so they won’t be too torn up but I don’t know how to broach the subject. Did you talk to them with your spouse? Alone? 

Thanks!",0.3212578616352175,2.7551366603773566,1.1924150943396263,99.10006918238994,92.7735849056604,4.713459119496855,19.33081761006289,6.42735559955562,-0.0590193710691822,410,13,93,5,15,126,67,106,0.048,0.841,0.111,0.8247,0,1,0,0,1,0,12.0,1,4,4,0,10,2,0,0,4,1,12,0,0,2,0,15,21,10,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,5,2,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,2,15,2,11,12,0,6,0,0,0,0,22,1,0,1,5,55,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30904107199158376,0.31964006049281496,0.3405728441150205,0.24680547638083386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23731182028558465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3146614300075641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33922194967324043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26947745355040803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21844474853705587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480592506076865,0.0,0.28413833430826424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450119648962524,0.17996038896164498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwaway19661999,2020/02/28,"I’m finally ready for separation, but I don’t know how to have the conversation Hi everyone, I’ve been lurking around in this sub for a bit. I have been struggling with my marriage for a bit now and I have finally hit the point where I am ready for separation. I’m not too entirely sure how I should execute the conversation though. Does anyone have any tips? I know this won’t be easy, but I just need some advice because I don’t have anyone else around me that would help.",3.0665625,4.8242541979166695,4.4545833333333364,84.49875,74.72916666666666,8.55,25.541666666666664,9.188382445141503,1.9768166666666664,377,13,80,9,8,125,60,96,0.08800000000000001,0.78,0.132,0.6348,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,1,5,0,14,0,0,2,1,17,20,6,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,10,1,9,13,3,8,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,1,3,53,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899669220999001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321997045570466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718601352408421,0.19918733754727866,0.0,0.3461171487922401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185053663860466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4244722354894563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17012208617801314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16239753060767848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857589897808126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42591474074218105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13030324562607118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2136759902136424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14414626889190446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18377227898119655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032306849398147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18322113839003906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909985130803584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13809726700799396,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,RuthASAP,2020/02/29,"New Process Server Commercial-FUNNY-MUST WATCH!!!! YouTube at 

ASAP Process Service-WORLD

(A girl bowling and serving papers)!!!!!!!!",6.5261403508771965,10.474104421052632,4.269473684210528,75.73298245614036,83.73684210526315,4.63859649122807,43.17543859649122,6.42735559955562,4.0876175438596505,100,7,11,1,3,28,18,19,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,0,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,abloodyminge,2020/02/29,"What were the questions you wished you had been asked by your ex? Reflection time. 

Were there any questions that your ex-husband or ex-wife could have asked when it first got bad that would have saved your marriage? Like before it was officially over and you were still working on things?",5.812358490566036,7.704409433962264,3.8265566037735854,91.22775943396229,67.86792452830188,6.809433962264151,26.45754716981132,7.1686216300943375,1.0071924528301892,232,7,45,2,4,64,40,53,0.061,0.8370000000000001,0.102,0.327,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,6,0,2,3,3,0,0,1,0,10,0,0,0,0,9,14,3,0,3,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,7,0,6,2,3,5,0,6,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,3,5,32,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678471902387352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4614898605506723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20608577336063413,0.0,0.0,0.21002705033679064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970670085879197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20994637485931214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197405826224012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12058459388186332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5529934859532804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971120936470664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639773411207201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14392369274387545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28383272385925284,0.0,0.0,0.17968910550324224,0.0,0.0,0.17533502305928306,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,stevemonke99,2020/02/29,"How far does one go in the pursuit of happiness? Let me start with the basics. I (M39) have been married almost 17 years and have two children, a boy who is 11 and a girl who is 15.  I have read many posts over the last year and emphatically agree that divorce is the appropriate  and obvious course of action in many to most of the strands on this sub. I write this to get some feedback on when it is no so obvious, or needed. 

As I mentioned. I was fairly young when I got married. My wife on the other hand is four years older than I and had had much more life experiences. Looking back, we were very involved with church during this time in our lives and married because we were ""role mates"" not ""soul mates"".  Now that I am older, I know what I need and want in a relationship, and my wife is incapable of providing the emotional love and connection needed.  Even at her best, it is not a good connection. It is not that she has done anything, but the connection I always hoped would develop has not come to fruition.  Now, I face the dilemma of risking financial security as we make a good combined income that would effect our and our children's futures and emotional stress on our kids, for a relationship that is fulfilling and a good model for our children, as the current cold one is one I would cringe to see my children emulate.  

To add complexity to an already tough situation, I have made a connection with a coworker that is platonically strong to say the least and progressing into something more at the most.  My 10+year career is in a field dominated by women, so that it is simple exposure to a woman is not the case. In the many years, I have not had a connection with any other woman like I have with this one.  She is a very intriguing person and someone I can see a future with.  However, I am not that kind of guy to pursue anything in my current situation and am settling for being comfortably comfortable.  

This brings me back to my original question of how far does one go in the pursuit of happiness? Should I move on from a a stable, but disappointing, situation and endure the hardships that come with it in order find the love and happiness I have always yearned for and in the process tell a person who ""loves me"" that although she did nothing wrong, her good enough is not good enough? Or do I forfeit finding this happiness and love I know is out there for financial security, a nuclear household that the kids can visit when they're older, and overall stability knowing that I am better than some in that although not fulfilling, it is not a ""bad"" relationship?

Any insight is helpful. Thank you in advance!",7.7685076001842495,7.086822049900202,8.035179640718564,71.77493436204514,63.03193612774452,11.38034699831107,37.43290342392139,10.727762888450028,3.98599702134193,2081,91,382,46,26,684,227,501,0.059000000000000004,0.768,0.172,0.9965,4,0,1,0,1,0,54.0,8,1,0,6,13,31,0,2,39,0,50,7,2,6,2,81,76,36,0,10,14,2,1,1,2,4,1,1,0,14,31,35,0,2,9,1,0,9,11,7,0,7,11,6,46,24,59,59,11,58,2,2,3,4,52,24,0,9,24,293,77,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07400733850692777,0.0,0.08155838186250491,0.0,0.1229933448187062,0.0,0.0,0.10051879772263353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216385803006517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11366007826978262,0.061709386187774926,0.04505311487918393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07756099803897401,0.06536487139582307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273289373531165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12935329640847246,0.07563267819213926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16627120043420388,0.0,0.15273169268077372,0.0,0.04881497794602898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0722953779334494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13509959897687213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038613437373030586,0.0,0.08400627721232796,0.3099490698716647,0.05911030231503246,0.0,0.0,0.07317970177240486,0.0,0.3147021574023188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049538407190757694,0.0,0.0,0.07340647971060718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07696292737963974,0.1218523164089232,0.0602441944751853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07557507196250812,0.05220280831203234,0.03610730207528872,0.0,0.06526137070831786,0.0,0.0620633950675694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668163667618301,0.06993273577692735,0.04933359895494804,0.2247907608216841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07855160796864212,0.05433026179346534,0.1644036538557305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709159072071162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504070002022796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12906575165797424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07078262336546398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827929265265171,0.0,0.07392715396808801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23804587209636635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058773934992602965,0.0,0.0,0.11778886532356722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24922421184819435,0.0,0.0,0.06262129144367129,0.056897337650976536,0.0,0.0,0.05231186374632714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08466039479149311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06459810987337034,0.06804377733493945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043095855634637296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07219654997946179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219622838770078,0.043592354086780284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575045643438067,0.08080587036892954,0.0,0.2379689190233828
divorce,throwawayRA017,2020/02/29,"I'm looking for advice/input on an amends letter to my ex husband We split a year ago after spending a year trying to mend. The goal is to make sure it's truly the apology he deserves and that it does not make his life harder, cause any undue pain or cause issues in his current relationship.

.

Dear _____

I'm sorry for the things I did to hurt you. I told myself plenty of ""reasons"" for why I acted that way, but you know as well as I do, those reasons were nothing more than pathetic excuses. My behavior was not justifiable. You've had a lot of hurt in your life, much inflicted by me, but you have never deserved any of it. I acted selfishly and thought more about myself than the effect it had on you. This letter is not to ask for forgiveness or another shot. This letter is the apology you always deserved, but I never gave. 

I lied to you. I cut you down. Over and over, I acted in a way that led you to believe you were less of a man or not good enough. I asked for space instead of drawing closer to you in a dark time. I confided my pain in another man and looked for his affirmation. I had an affair. I pushed you away again when you tried to help me through my depression. I wasn't there for you through your own pain. I'm sorry for all those things, and for every other wrong I inflicted on you through my decisions. I'm sorry for not appreciating how good of a person you are.

You deserve better than what you have been given in life. You deserve honesty, love, and respect. You deserve to always know that you are a good man and you are enough. You deserve to be held close by a loved one when you're in pain. You are a strong and resilient man, and you've endured more than most could ever shoulder.

No matter what your future holds, I hope joy is always a part of it. I have no doubt you will do great things with your life. Everyone whose life you touch is better for having known you.

Wishing you all the best,
_______

.

I posted this in another sub first and made a few edits based on their suggestions. I was asked a couple things I'd like to knock out of the way on this one: I'm in a 12 step program, and step 9 is to make amends where possible, except where it would do more harm than good. This isn't some ""I just thought on a whim that I'd apologize."" It's something I've been working toward for 8 months. I'm not bringing up the program in the letter. That would be making excuses for my actions. It's not ""sorry that I caused you pain because of my pain"" it's ""I caused you pain, and I'm sorry"". Writing this isn't to ease my conscience. I see the effect I've had,  acknowledge the damage I inflicted, and have the ability to outwardly acknowledge it to those affected by my choices. It's not for me to decide if he wants this. He can choose if he wants my apology or not, instead of me continuing to make decisions about him, for him. The only context I have for if he would want this letter is based on when we were married and he received an ""apology"" from an abusive stepparent, which was more like a verbal abuse about how wrong of a life he chose by not living as the abuser told him to live. That hurt him, and he wished for a true apology. I didn't give him the marriage he deserved, but I can give him this.",2.93155426765016,4.383437106544903,4.244653729071537,87.13415305584827,74.4337899543379,7.2456269757639635,24.963382507903056,7.882392219407189,1.2788318932209344,2517,81,526,36,52,830,255,657,0.162,0.708,0.13,-0.9809,2,0,1,0,2,0,78.0,2,33,1,9,18,39,1,1,37,0,46,16,1,18,7,98,85,34,0,13,23,2,1,2,0,4,13,0,0,5,40,20,0,2,16,0,1,10,18,18,1,3,23,4,88,21,93,55,18,61,0,5,3,2,93,30,0,12,19,379,128,5,0.0,0.20774827805650686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05180920658107852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458962589395714,0.0,0.0,0.07949111155812323,0.18385843730164972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639184811604475,0.0,0.05491231613906237,0.0,0.0,0.03562838257162875,0.0,0.0,0.06584907763683982,0.06133589027485167,0.10338218128006517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401622077885923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04666469406430618,0.06466982922653185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05033979812873541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05114683794562337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12078150849803355,0.0,0.0,0.05286811434306345,0.049243612235599386,0.0558480392564681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04971447744054562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11213422392461203,0.0,0.19608826725914827,0.0,0.06443736163127914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03917538949558663,0.0,0.0,0.058050462201768835,0.0,0.0,0.18770423800482455,0.0,0.0,0.061002856083374815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06424122516868262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476945220114617,0.057107916973888624,0.0,0.10321848284985667,0.0,0.09816051072567047,0.0,0.0,0.04968903867513752,0.10550031464921747,0.055303396251791585,0.1950671270916164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04665135836012228,0.0,0.042964828460477576,0.0,0.09015493258946954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05608089649660703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07920958562572386,0.04445112041094721,0.4353376278961443,0.0,0.0,0.06329175494975166,0.0,0.0,0.05103314154078337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06588953354855699,0.05597549451244376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12018526555782275,0.0,0.06274955996116888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04657421321122784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04499489366211937,0.0,0.3271297950466793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05508503971460882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15531676279468007,0.0,0.0,0.09279982513562657,0.03408056548187667,0.0,0.0,0.1116960785129362,0.0,0.07936253728970191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034196019143157,0.1391760940744246,0.0,0.0,0.05255033215744335,0.0,0.052738784668941836,0.0,0.13442094969865648,0.0,0.0,0.04254967482929381,0.0,0.0,0.12455593559440273,0.12780392526723378,0.0,0.07527512989819363
divorce,belleeyes,2020/02/29,"What does this mean?! He left me, but tried to keep me on a string, under the guise of 'finding himself'. I eventually cut that string even though it hurt like hell.

It now looks like he was having an affair all through the time we were working on our marriage, having counselling etc.

He introduced her (the 'alleged' affair partner) to our son against our MOA. He moved in with her and tried to keep it a secret, but the truth will out.


We separated July 2018. He moved in with her October 2019 (to a new place together).

He lives with her, our son is not high on his list of priorities at all, but he still hasn't signed the damn papers to consent to the divorce.

Why on Earth hasn't he signed them so we can just be fucking divorced ?!

He has gotten literally everything he wanted, so why is he dragging his heels on the final bit?

I wanted none of this. None of it at all. 

But now it is here, I know we can't go back he has done too much, said too many horrible things.

Even though there is still this tiny part of me (which I hate) that misses him and wishes we could go back to before, it wouldn't be logical and will never happen anyway.

Why can't this just be over? Is there any meaning behind why he hasn't just fucking signed it like it says he would in the MOA?

Has anyone been through this who can offer advise?",3.3517293233082697,4.609804360902256,4.058654135338347,89.65279323308273,73.06015037593986,6.823759398496243,23.450375939849625,7.1686216300943375,0.6881960902255635,1024,27,220,10,20,326,140,266,0.078,0.852,0.07,-0.7548,0,0,0,0,2,0,36.0,9,0,1,1,21,12,6,0,12,0,29,3,1,0,5,42,47,11,0,6,8,2,0,3,1,4,0,2,0,1,19,12,0,2,6,0,0,4,10,8,0,0,6,3,25,4,32,33,9,30,1,2,1,2,46,16,4,0,13,155,44,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07986814712300035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08212183737870915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180619348001189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09993894644437984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282219618693304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09377206024481466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027788666643662,0.12018929804203507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13098471261203715,0.1551455818704679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10555400162551473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286577049828886,0.10734464490031982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171561521651712,0.0,0.0,0.13349594025514333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038582018864216,0.0,0.0,0.11595482922039585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12408945190057485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12572969398906342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20878499738617526,0.0,0.0,0.06454592875308479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276067642908575,0.0,0.0,0.17213635934969607,0.0,0.10370806008967927,0.0,0.09862609741686952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907306204714573,0.0,0.2558689391373498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496556474660305,0.08633723125350427,0.0,0.09058254789474143,0.11343127126071635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12718391017349107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12270736302967593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11171921547131546,0.09339875512517996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18758702689910636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07802672411042665,0.0,0.2307826238203685,0.0,0.06848442711613878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594779260238128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385468441135938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4239114467480953,0.0,0.13505852385893094,0.0,0.0,0.08550298574745703,0.0,0.0,0.08343114589881145,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,anotha_throwaway282,2020/02/29,"How common is Divorce when the kids are over the age of 18 ?. Sorry in advance if this gets asked a lot I just don’t know where else to ask this question. 


Anyways, To start off my parents have been arguing more frequently lately and its starting to worry me a little bit. Even my brother’s notice and its hard to ignore. Now to clarify its nothing physical its just my mom is always making the smallest issues and making it a bigger deal than it has to be. I feel like my dad is drinking a little more nothing overboard just a little more than usual.


Should I be worried ? 

Thanks",3.1513157894736814,5.174802201754384,4.382315789473683,83.94821052631579,75.22807017543859,5.963508771929827,26.31228070175439,6.742157984588678,1.2920449122807025,457,17,82,4,10,150,79,114,0.11800000000000001,0.836,0.047,-0.7399,1,0,1,0,1,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,9,4,1,0,8,0,11,1,0,3,0,16,21,6,0,2,4,4,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,8,3,1,1,3,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,2,8,2,12,17,5,18,0,0,0,0,11,8,0,3,10,64,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12673174443864044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28477323838440793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16627995346588018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570219771342415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14920301666634658,0.0,0.0,0.12723307474412834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005974318196299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07701106805649025,0.108808253727997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07957419621800703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13643728437811914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15896908714542532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08370402287567964,0.0,0.17180909186735593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07440957696888853,0.4579553108402391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12948608682394258,0.0,0.0,0.20333240190231688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17838028564286254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2922856238133529,0.1734026923265374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16911905848918574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17061885781465286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17049537754614494,0.2156075601384966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14022395459790393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16774480074201314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3093505947187007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,shine889,2020/02/29,"Beyond livid at his idea of what's a reasonable budget My ex never financially supported my children and I.  So I left the house and filed for child support and help with the insurance for the kids (special needs) so I pay a lot of out of pocket medical expenses.  I work PT and stay home to look after my children.  I did what i had to do.  In return he filed for divorce.  He now wants to drop the divorce case and work things out.  So here's my question.  Last year he made 110k I made 30k.  I'm so angry bc he hid his finances from me.  He has about $8000 in his bank account probably more after transferring money around.  I had $32.  His car payment is $1200!! He gets extra income from his vacation rental.  

1. He says he can give $600 for the kids $150 for my expenses.  I think that's ridiculous if I'm not working as much.  Is this fair or am I being greedy for wanting more? I think the illinois child support calculator says 1400 a month not including the other shared expenses.  

2. How do I hold him financially responsible if we dont go through with the divorce? I have a feeling he will go back on his word.  

Thanks!",0.7868979459809147,3.1517427860262046,2.8155943716642438,89.98262817402558,86.20524017467251,6.012679928837134,22.89196183082646,7.3871296695380915,1.0521866731360174,874,33,184,15,27,293,138,229,0.09300000000000001,0.82,0.087,-0.3139,2,0,0,0,3,0,30.0,1,0,0,3,11,7,1,0,12,0,14,1,0,4,1,32,33,14,0,5,5,1,1,0,0,1,1,2,1,6,6,11,0,1,6,0,9,3,4,1,0,0,5,4,27,6,29,26,5,23,0,0,1,0,33,9,0,5,9,112,33,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12850702788679175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11100049293078099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16918360742157468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07299049395546373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07541980697892467,0.1384789793120682,0.16408115007126986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09675846965595032,0.0,0.1448003677891497,0.0,0.0,0.16656690141988398,0.0,0.16295982366972905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11766902477562742,0.0,0.0,0.1568427069894408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12122228930911295,0.0,0.0,0.12272591039390357,0.0,0.2731853879182392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14542301067668936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11522320774386376,0.0,0.10611792516662964,0.10703779723661153,0.11133588487071927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556396780786896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617112322201977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484215284174648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295946247784714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15386378910738513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.491438838227073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13290317831953447,0.0,0.0,0.09590340053685056,0.18499439109941102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702892648080177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3152776378627652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09296022918830996
divorce,Isanyonehome445,2020/02/29,"Alimony question Me (34 male).  If I divorce wife (30 f).  I make approx 170k annually, she makes 60k.  No kids.

Married 8 years.  What would I be looking at from a financial position ya think?  We live in NY.",-0.5571071428571415,1.5118520750000002,2.568571428571431,86.825,103.25,6.285714285714287,25.714285714285715,7.447530270364453,2.0751785714285718,153,8,31,4,7,54,38,40,0.061,0.9390000000000001,0.0,-0.29600000000000004,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,7,6,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,7,0,3,4,0,4,0,0,1,0,8,2,0,2,2,16,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.365021640167976,0.0,0.3471346374750573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5518680043178772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4630796060059487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26487686899502155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2936529107838221,0.0,0.0,0.2662028216328722
divorce,GlisteningOcean,2020/02/29,"Is there a chatroom for this sub? I don't tend to do well writing posts, but in chat I can interact much better. 

Is there are Reddit chat for divorce?  If not, can we have one?  I would be willing to help mod it.",-0.1833333333333336,1.8178573333333359,2.0800000000000023,96.18000000000002,86.77777777777777,5.377777777777778,20.11111111111111,6.742157984588678,0.1695777777777776,160,5,38,2,5,54,36,45,0.0,0.7959999999999999,0.204,0.8587,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,1,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,0,11,0,0,0,0,6,12,2,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,4,2,5,9,1,2,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,0,31,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41872244522363694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31733930700770513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3480355668420065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3208176783241232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.45342815647036894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42568271061469576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3363207938636836,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,KizzyRock77,2020/02/29,"My husband wants to divorce due to a mental illness My husband has a mental illness and as a result he is not able to see positive aspects of our relationship and only the negative. He gets fed up so easily, and is fault finding. He doesn’t accept love easily. He didn’t start off this way. When we first got married, he was healthy and happy. And at some point his personality abruptly changed. He has severe depression and anxiety. 

Can he divorce me for a perceived problem as opposed to true unreconcilable differences? Is there a way I can prove to the judge that he is not mentally sound in case he tries to go uncontested? I don’t want my life torn up and rearranged due to something that’s not even real.",3.7715450121654506,5.942467218978107,5.313594890510952,77.3010979318735,73.8905109489051,8.36228710462287,31.12469586374696,9.075114841892004,2.9915309002433093,567,27,102,13,12,191,90,137,0.153,0.675,0.172,0.6114,0,0,1,0,2,0,12.0,2,0,0,1,4,7,0,0,7,0,12,5,0,1,2,24,21,11,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,3,8,1,1,5,0,0,1,7,3,0,1,4,2,9,4,16,17,1,15,0,1,1,1,19,6,0,1,6,64,12,0,0.17586847775153908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13453890410673544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18604553013316769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15147526218479573,0.0,0.0,0.18374512755296105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161594708997748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16074060253879344,0.14959363733300565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09188402092144543,0.0,0.09995010879685988,0.0,0.14065808754909948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18721526482756887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12422110688470213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15872816753456967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.53170218259839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13375590226716907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15356157120922773,0.0,0.0,0.1662525571908623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16828238165149922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20017683019098292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888169281646937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401444069994037,0.0,0.0,0.1986813208872797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13539214632956556,0.0,0.0,0.12448061374262664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11940315208322247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074635695459924,0.2791924232707004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,gremlinvovk,2020/02/29,[GA] Any lesbians who have no bio or legal right to child getting pursued for child support? Do you exist? Can we speak? Esp in GA.,-0.7146153846153815,1.1241459999999996,0.9610769230769236,97.43392307692308,108.23076923076924,2.08,20.584615384615386,3.1291,-0.5255599999999996,100,4,20,0,5,32,24,26,0.073,0.768,0.158,0.3695,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,3,5,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,2,0,1,0,11,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4098927717939357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3149136128149145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5147478471178818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6839970657703498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,wondering-what,2020/02/29,"2 years later 2 years since we separated. Here’s what I learned:


1. You probably won’t be able to recreate a perfect life after divorce with kids. Lower your expectations. If you think divorce will set you free to be a Hallmark card, it won’t. Your children’s other parent will always be in your life in one way or another. You are sadly very trapped. 

2. The fog will lift and you will realize you were fighting for something that way wrong for you all along. You will realize you were right with your red flags. Time has a way of validating your experience. 

3. You will feel slightly envious over friends and peers who are still married, having more children, buying bigger houses. You will have to mourn your spot on the typical “ life stages” conveyor belt. You are not typical anymore and you can never undo what happened. 

4. You will find it harder to make friends because you are different in a very fundamental way than others your age. Your married friends may slowly stop calling you. 

5. You make feel stigma in small things.... Strangers and acquaintances might treat you differently or with less respect without the ring on.  Remember in our society, marriage is a social institution and it is often an elite social institution. It’s being member of a “married people” club. 

6. You may find love but it won’t be simple, in fact, it will be custody scheduled, Kids, jobs, houses, finances, exes child support demands, etc. It will
never be simple (until your kids are 18). You will likely become a step-parent, which is as you can see at r/stepparents, is awful.

7.  Your feelings will change. For example, I’m not crying on the bathroom floor anymore like I was at 1 month out. I am not on cloud-9 like I was 1 year out. I am more realistic and balanced now on the realities of the grave mistake of marrying the wrong person.",3.5158789028807997,6.130742841642232,4.446983784716231,81.04341685354494,76.59530791788856,6.944316025530447,28.21122994652407,8.027739517013583,2.171771019492841,1443,62,251,25,34,466,191,341,0.083,0.8270000000000001,0.09,0.3588,7,1,1,0,4,0,56.0,2,31,0,2,4,20,2,0,15,1,45,4,0,2,5,46,56,12,2,4,8,1,3,3,3,18,3,1,0,7,15,13,0,1,10,1,3,0,9,8,0,1,4,6,38,13,36,27,5,41,0,3,2,1,53,20,0,7,18,174,53,3,0.10661332065876687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08871082340314303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117933624973894,0.0,0.0,0.21146353247929875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06499049072451828,0.11774603648440672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10886412047644628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11278275683513785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11710972656779188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22277645719962935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11890203449308985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042882850965818,0.0,0.0,0.16172069489079996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19488528723791507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471075612255602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09427780736264907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460349157235665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10579727004857736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259124239352746,0.15625764968110922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09622268435648328,0.0,0.1423304388114587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11309988525559253,0.0,0.0,0.08509773539941817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644535307895577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0722439452528059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118381475755696,0.0,0.0,0.07391225267581966,0.0930906393317559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11494719164765045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207721092816022,0.09104719331729963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495701329187973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819164056058862,0.0,0.0,0.21735770855910827,0.0,0.08207614289870283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08514153559613183,0.08913350989921677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120983532858559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07082915293359336,0.0683135110209277,0.0,0.0,0.06216708463774051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17593430998734338,0.0,0.3384987659893117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10277143660983147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331298594017953,0.0,0.20596644914767245
divorce,ObiYoung,2020/02/29,"I had a small moment of clarity about letting go of this anger I've been holding a lot of hurt and anger lately. Much of it has to do with self-blame. I ask a bunch of the Why questions. Then I get mad. Mad about how things happened. Mad at myself for thinking about things that can't be changed and a marriage that was never right. Mad at myself for allowing it to affect my mood. Just, mad. And the more mad I get, the more the anger feeds into itself, and then I'm mad about the loop I'm in.

I reached the point last night that I was crying out begging God for some glimmer of the future, some sort of peace. I ended up picking up a book my Counselor recommended to help me face some things I dealt with when I was younger, but I'd set the book aside previously because ""I don't need it"". While reading, I came across this (it uses ""faith"" as a general term, not a religious one):

""We need enough faith to get on with our lives, and we need to do at least a little something each day to begin moving forward. As we learn how to care for and meet our own needs, we forgive ourselves when we make mistakes and we congratulate ourselves when we do well. We also get comfortable doing some things poorly and some things with mediocrity, for that is part of life, too.""

The words struck me, and I thought about it all night. Then, this morning, I went to a friend's Instagram looking for an account she follows and saw my ex-husband's page. I clicked on it, and the first picture was of him and his girlfriend hiking at the Grand Canyon. They looked so happy. He looked happier and healthier than he had at any point in our relationship. And I caught myself feeling happy for him. 

I'm not counting on that feeling to stay, but I'm going to remember that moment. I'm going to do what I can to hold that feeling and try to cut myself slack in the times when I don't. The anger is natural but holding it isn't helping me heal.",4.8499570446735385,5.085283445876293,5.252113402061855,86.20212199312715,68.92268041237114,7.909965635738832,29.310996563573884,7.492282038375204,1.5678862542955332,1499,51,316,14,24,478,193,388,0.10800000000000001,0.742,0.149,0.9685,0,0,1,0,0,1,50.0,11,0,1,2,16,25,12,0,23,0,22,4,1,7,2,72,57,32,0,5,6,0,3,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,24,31,1,3,9,3,2,9,7,14,1,2,12,8,43,10,57,43,18,54,2,1,5,0,28,22,0,8,23,223,67,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08655875064704449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07360628393052893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10118892564849692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06598153660576968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12379666869130773,0.11035695259954252,0.0,0.11450259131232968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11889554339846405,0.06980525016945077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958676950243602,0.1118399005096734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16418678841922102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09206810347018557,0.0,0.0,0.08362524227161401,0.0,0.22620180099293166,0.0,0.18454428522412694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09571545818877088,0.23044501999738204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14510074325443434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158721704161385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08822929410561428,0.12209839324321525,0.0,0.0,0.1106817894955775,0.07645246098523986,0.0,0.10848399042420803,0.09557708788572836,0.0,0.2726806915244758,0.0,0.0,0.09202099246738868,0.0,0.0,0.07225042428407616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11504100905173442,0.07956817562869285,0.32103161595207497,0.08348064879009807,0.0,0.0,0.20315008260528974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07334559971932825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11721237240182505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20464182715950427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12125253774256099,0.0,0.10826836787614637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11620826118755045,0.1226137741180922,0.09243558021714757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11291696321458855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08332772943793285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11536845424907033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3595461655192933,0.06935522993974748,0.0,0.08592973659252268,0.06311507614377168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07348722817797904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09348380975092606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09731992907398472,0.10033870863599001,0.09766893134095232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,maggiemae85,2020/02/29,"Leaving on Leap Year I just woke up after a night of restless sleep because I’m going to our house today to pack as much as I can and say goodbye to my dog and drive away. 

And then I realized it’s February 29. I don’t really know what I believe as far as a higher power goes, but I have been getting beaten over the head with signs that I’m doing the right thing. So while this will be one of the most painful days in my life, I won’t have to suffer through a one year reminder. 

Getting away from the toxicity of our relationship has let me start to see how incredibly fucked up it really was. I’m ready to drive away.",6.960407124681938,4.657851770992366,7.7875954198473325,78.11691475826973,65.6412213740458,10.870737913486003,33.283715012722645,9.2995712137729,2.5987394402035613,486,15,108,7,6,165,90,131,0.156,0.8170000000000001,0.027000000000000003,-0.9595,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,0,2,3,5,2,1,7,0,12,5,2,1,0,11,23,12,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,6,4,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,5,0,2,3,2,12,0,25,16,2,22,0,1,1,1,4,10,1,1,9,75,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5037601716651617,0.0,0.0,0.10895042243336353,0.0,0.0,0.2013643142783026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11526423731943287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16523038639915796,0.1867551366726772,0.0,0.10157476806965623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18342563666251835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062271549468921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09822377714864694,0.0,0.0,0.18924626423578064,0.0,0.18276063792320527,0.12624028400823514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13138503273717486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16772333940525114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422203084112605,0.0,0.19017830744137654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22899440016539024,0.0,0.0,0.19188609113906485,0.0,0.15263202451169727,0.0,0.14213101719352486,0.0,0.0,0.14242241262744038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17885624214088172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265040090729046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11873838844243485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16941245678786865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301888721624219
divorce,kaiju21,2020/02/29,"Nearly 7 years later And I still think about my ex almost every morning. She was my high-school sweetheart, married too young and divorced just after few years.

I've been with my current gf for about 6 years. 

My ex married that guy, and even has a baby. Finding that out recently has, for whatever reason, seriously fucked with me. 

I've moved on, become successful, but I can't really explain why I'm still...hurting? Never had closure, thought I didn't need it. 

Ugh, early morning venting on the toilet. Hope I can get back to bed. 

How y'all doing this morning?",2.7115909090909125,5.195068324074075,3.9724242424242417,84.06954545454545,78.72222222222223,5.779124579124581,26.484848484848484,6.980632752743323,1.4624333333333337,441,18,78,5,11,144,82,108,0.039,0.8420000000000001,0.11900000000000001,0.8484,1,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,0,1,0,1,8,6,1,0,2,0,9,1,0,2,1,18,17,5,0,2,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,4,6,0,0,5,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,5,0,11,3,12,12,1,17,0,0,0,1,9,4,1,2,12,50,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20426719874904734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568562406523553,0.0,0.0,0.2252916783575507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13473391967876888,0.0,0.17187094520690158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186443785115594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18858609578712104,0.10657671043693047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20198284370056824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155273523588105,0.0,0.20260877208968786,0.0,0.0,0.21837624103665454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21680980887437085,0.0,0.15125650381312966,0.15733018736605706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130681652526005,0.20973639273798533,0.20141618601497896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20644945781498136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32581443970612023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13070899039935002,0.0,0.1619458132436208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18406985918798027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3940899277740817
divorce,drakky1206,2020/02/29,Growing up in Divorced Family Is their any impact of children growing up in a divorced family to their faithfulness in their later relationship? All my previous relationships could not last for more than 2 years and all because of me.,10.876585365853655,10.290826048780488,10.536707317073173,56.03237804878053,56.80487804878049,14.053658536585367,44.89024390243903,13.023866798666859,6.394307317073171,192,10,27,6,2,63,31,41,0.0,0.851,0.149,0.6486,0,0,0,0,2,0,2.0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,5,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,10,1,3,10,1,0,0,0,8,5,0,0,3,23,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077357253635591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862167417708312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24389957267685455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5759555255541005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490055934170411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6559387634299838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19671801544507905
divorce,stupidshitido,2020/02/29,"Is it wrong to get divorced when the spouse hasn't done anything wrong? Really unsure of where my life is right now. We have been married 19 years. My spouse loves me, but I'm pretty sure I don't love her anymore. Don't get me wrong, I care about her, and want only the best for her, I just don't feel like we are ever on the same page anymore. Although I love my kids to death, I'm pretty sure taking care of them is what drove us apart. We had twins, and every moment was spent on them. We lost touch of each other and I don't know how to get it back. We have discussed this issue for several years, so it's not like we haven't talked about date nights and alone time for just us. 

Ultimately though, I've thought about it a lot, and I really feel like it is my issue much more than something she has done or said. Of course there are things I'm unhappy about, but unlike a lot of marriages on here, there isn't abuse/infidelity or things like that. Anyone ever been in my situation? What did you do?",3.6348120300751887,4.1893477272727315,4.290516062884485,90.8911124401914,71.72727272727272,7.311141490088858,22.105604921394395,7.1686216300943375,0.3993825017088168,781,15,179,7,14,249,115,209,0.184,0.6809999999999999,0.135,-0.875,0,1,1,0,2,0,25.0,8,1,2,2,18,16,0,0,5,0,24,4,0,1,4,32,45,14,1,1,7,2,3,4,0,0,1,1,0,1,12,12,0,0,4,0,1,1,8,4,0,0,12,4,28,12,20,33,8,19,0,1,0,3,26,7,0,4,15,121,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11189481133805948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142893802364449,0.0755426990902921,0.0,0.08890608913996545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08307457243690475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11337924182268287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22030393369201512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2211208191553886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19545315781514302,0.09102669570562373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925454324044984,0.15436477329626416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693362268748251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22552725788304376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05937487310241135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763104521225855,0.21112768721731487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179362666588894,0.1837001307599813,0.2925256069500742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07942037939062678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10138636776743662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08216778639354584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21982702359536424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13842385057547285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09226388304159204,0.10276890223526737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122052216450568,0.0,0.0,0.12143926671755413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08317294990654098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20364911997292526,0.0,0.08123114930306488,0.08683687208860176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14355132638577234,0.0,0.10614681102501786,0.08577012388673877,0.06299784119719158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25991288341142965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06372362631462677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35436786073771953,0.0,0.13914589187043147
divorce,joseph00011,2020/02/29,I can help!? I’m not married and never was lol? I went thru some of the posts and it sounds terrible. I’m so sorry. But I might be able to help some ppl? I’m 21 yo male (straight) and was thinking about offering some ladies some fun to take ur mind off things? I bet I’m gonna get a lot of hate for this but worth a try 🤷‍♂️,-2.8212987012987014,-1.1662180649350624,0.16597402597402855,106.34038961038964,99.77922077922076,3.8389610389610387,13.493506493506494,5.565023196281405,-1.3749896103896102,247,5,71,2,11,85,56,77,0.121,0.789,0.08900000000000001,-0.3104,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,3,1,5,0,0,0,1,16,15,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,3,3,0,0,1,0,2,1,2,2,0,0,3,1,4,1,8,9,5,5,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,7,1,36,7,0,0.2838066991850852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14827728663467396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802003587628568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38045929615059615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.241282306623554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30107405823459943,0.2865638619813769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21888922253956267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718083664016295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31769836414101155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21338731760767515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885485601231552,0.18185187322555416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19268611918566256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.263091653482222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,imhereandiwanthelp,2020/02/29,"Questions! I see posts about the emotional toll of it all. I see anger and other stuff. 

When I first left my marriage, he was so angry. Mean. He made me tell the kids alone. “Tell them whatever the fuck you want.”

We got into a fight the first time he came to get the kids. I don’t know if he actually wanted to get them...

It was a rough start. In our state we have to be living separate for 2 years before we can file. 

It’s been two months. Things are better. We’ve been cordial. He’s even bought a few things to improve our living situation. He’s invited me a few time when he’s taking the kids somewhere fun. He’s taken us to lunch a few times when there were errands we had to do together. 

He’s gotten more comfortable coming to my place. Which I want. His attitude has shifted a lot. I’m not sure why. I know quite a few people in my life say that not only do I look different, I hold myself different. I’m confident, I’m healthier and it shows. I don’t know if he’s enjoyed his freedom from the marriage like I have. But I hope he has. I think he wanted family life and 24/7 of it wasn’t for him.

I’m also leaning to he sees that I’m actually better and doing more than I could give in our marriage. A part of me feels like that might play into it, because I’ll never doubt that he loves us. I just don’t know that we were a right fit in his life? 

I have no ill will towards him and I want more than anything for him to be happy. I know they say being friends is for the birds. Or at least here, but since he’s had more time to process and see the changes.. it feels like that might be there? Anyone have a situation like this?",0.532758565481906,2.530924337175797,2.5195989433237287,94.16622518411785,83.72622478386168,5.699935959013769,19.148975344220304,6.937597516519254,0.11059916746717936,1263,33,292,16,36,422,169,347,0.047,0.813,0.14,0.9717,2,1,0,0,1,0,43.0,10,1,3,5,11,19,3,1,19,0,32,7,0,1,3,49,71,16,0,9,8,0,3,4,1,3,4,2,0,3,19,15,1,1,10,2,1,2,8,4,0,3,15,10,44,15,29,48,12,29,0,0,5,2,50,12,1,9,17,183,63,0,0.0,0.0,0.1778235001417973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09436410950722944,0.0,0.07286189022826957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06370732873297527,0.0,0.07497705953600026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055540767875284634,0.0,0.07752923604227566,0.0,0.0,0.16116156048826785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10420736456319807,0.0,0.0,0.09638396091309856,0.07848455064983287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07274517544505861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903843986938077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10248825383578357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060178333200890624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08589188020123166,0.0,0.09213749555693147,0.13018024872823325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549989111077512,0.0,0.0,0.07039257356604227,0.08423117902596555,0.09520407047341446,0.08740252086031408,0.0,0.0,0.07287024634636281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09698996129904257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09049434786211333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503626826129721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09899298823209954,0.0,0.193064390775532,0.17805004502301075,0.0,0.16090637246519446,0.0,0.07651077241259982,0.0,0.0,0.07745979928933078,0.08223174985450662,0.08621197124961782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09924721084240437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19330995669286047,0.0,0.0,0.0727243865347273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07027086022915625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692944552163509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986649523877854,0.0,0.0631652911563319,0.0,0.09519219934690384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0872596992347212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020658111266218,0.0969083706604228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778087836137013,0.0,0.14491115605635824,0.0,0.0,0.2904165026002264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07536843286318326,0.2048264459446857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0644892387407532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10430095028105056,0.0,0.0,0.08587157719099511,0.0,0.068504562245285,0.0,0.15927105751867526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12106095824273078,0.05838061562639734,0.0,0.0,0.21251155846683364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08900276561473355,0.0,0.21919200273260184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686998253021717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08221402112300301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058672864366662476
divorce,catchnrelease14,2020/02/29,"Is this self reflection bullshit? What type of man are I. Do I love.  Am I loved?  My heart is with my wife, what do my actions show. I love her completely but then why do I do just stupid things   I blame it on lack of intimacy but is that true? I look at porn but for a release. Not right but not because I don’t love her. It’s a way to release. Is it worse than jerking off thinking about situations?  The real question is when I join groups. Happens seldom but when we’re in heinous fights. Does this mean I want out? Or replacement for the attention I’m not getting? Only happens when drunk and lonely. Not an excuse just When it happens. Btw  I suck at it cause I get caught every time. Subconsciously do I want to get caught to prove a point? Is it my way out of this relationship? Or am I just pathetically bad at it?  Haven’t cheated for 15 years why start now. Am I still the lil boy she claims? I feel like I’ve grown but yet I’m an idiot. Choice comes down to who I want to be? A good father I know. A good husband yes, but that is difficult. Why do I feel like the slights I feel get determined as inconsequential. They may not be life altering but they’re important to me. My major complaint in our marriage lately is begging for sex. First that seems insignificant . But is important to me. Should I be shamed for this? Or accept my feelings?  Do I love her - yes. Do I want to be with her - whenever we’re not fighting she is the love of my life. When we are fighting her hatred makes me feel like less than nothing and backs me into a corner of hate. I do my best to be the bigger man but hate feeling punished and shunned when I fuck up. Why can’t there be a middle ground? Am I that terrible of a person?  Being shunned is the fucking worst   Just yell at me and make me feel horrible about my actions. Shunning makes me feel less than. I know I deserve it most of the times but not all of the times. No matter what it cuts deep all of the times. Things have gotten worse lately due to financial reasons. I have expressed this triple multiple times, but with no acknowledgement. How is it she gets a full time job and creates more expenses for me. She’s never offered a dime to assist with these. Does this make me the asshole for feeling hurt about struggling. Why doesn’t she accept the responsibility of partnership. Offer anything? But nope. This pettiness causes stress that I only feel, and then complaints when I can’t give more.",1.0046311475409837,3.514137250000001,2.4250819672131136,91.92483606557377,87.36065573770495,5.331147540983607,21.524590163934427,6.858738096098447,0.5740549180327874,1910,66,399,26,61,616,221,488,0.222,0.618,0.16,-0.9938,1,2,0,0,5,0,58.0,2,0,1,2,20,38,14,3,24,2,43,14,1,8,5,86,94,33,0,6,27,3,10,3,0,2,2,1,0,5,29,15,1,0,23,2,2,6,16,23,0,1,3,12,62,15,52,82,13,55,0,2,1,10,40,21,3,7,29,275,91,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06025485143202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056302623008013065,0.06113668685568512,0.04463499552338023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07684118644276111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15043679078018388,0.0,0.0630736250311852,0.07677108949053063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281528218772345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06169206270512353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3702286499669705,0.15692783089346435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06228195943345905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13538373496006492,0.19127541002540802,0.07024049678413402,0.0,0.12282902421550135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19424793362877646,0.0,0.0,0.14458165435325362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08676753600964984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07838486452218267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07266079425405203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08048097025049787,0.0,0.1651935227997183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034366712074779,0.1073166153426044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06148741032524401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39651023135410507,0.0,0.1955030167757605,0.0,0.0,0.07975940882931107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0564727433872626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07025776595501433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11137612304252084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06393397285541617,0.0,0.0,0.06921775021500556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08202455956238594,0.0,0.0,0.08334181479737622,0.0,0.0752836419021371,0.0,0.07861222221721563,0.0,0.06253054902077948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06665787770233672,0.076385734659537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08230375494933752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05182637893957937,0.0,0.058474586325186276,0.0,0.0838746966255121,0.07654675049019732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09728989237876498,0.04691722165216956,0.0,0.0,0.2561754047621294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17275116579484662,0.11623924312747715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33035395486648383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14923742223920666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04715208554967163
divorce,pinky1315,2020/02/29,"Midsummer We met with the mediator, signed and notarized the documents. The documents get filed on Monday and the divorce should be finalized Mid-July. It’s hard to believe this is my new reality. I thought I married the guy for life. Never did I think he’d cheat and lie.  I feel used and so lonely.",2.6493678160919534,5.164730603448277,4.659310344827587,78.87505747126437,79.17241379310346,8.694252873563219,28.63218390804597,9.2995712137729,3.0557494252873565,237,11,44,7,6,81,47,58,0.13699999999999998,0.863,0.0,-0.7678,0,2,0,0,1,0,8.0,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,5,0,5,1,0,1,1,13,11,5,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,2,7,0,4,5,0,5,0,1,0,0,5,1,0,0,4,28,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3843173012339622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17247687498191808,0.0,0.0,0.3736723859586691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17821735289805707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3377552899461965,0.0,0.0,0.3055700568039847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409380501750681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630872111588284,0.3294488564050962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21857130111681305,0.0,0.2708054511241533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946119268635925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,alone-and-afraid-,2020/02/29,"Put the house on the market today It’s a bittersweet feeling. I’m glad we’re moving forward with the process but I don’t want to sell my home. 
I cry every time someone new comes to the house to checks it out. 

I love my home and what we built. I hate this. I never wanted this. 

I just want to go back home and be a family again. 


Additional information: neither of us want to keep the house. Selling was the best option",0.1735109717868326,2.490820666666668,2.278453500522467,92.81416927899687,89.45977011494253,5.0027168234064785,18.25391849529781,6.574015621080383,0.01015862068965534,326,9,71,4,11,109,60,87,0.109,0.687,0.203,0.7814,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,0,1,3,4,1,0,8,0,3,1,0,0,1,18,14,3,0,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,5,7,0,1,2,0,3,5,3,1,0,0,1,1,10,3,9,12,2,13,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,1,7,44,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11854606127838276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16179033071782034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13280251289415884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16934685952913953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12989361161362872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14533634242004675,0.0,0.07795222652371107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761751212720227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15220947747187047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4639307309320466,0.0,0.0,0.5336692544685885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13703204760757734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391430916013738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16385671862134926,0.0,0.0,0.11890425242163286,0.14889689928090338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549819254745693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13062647089143378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0898968929228034,0.0,0.14613371282256918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854457248475999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36373030583874144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Active_Sugar,2020/03/01,"We are talking divorce. I'm scared I'm a 41(f), he's 42.  We have been dating since senior year of college.  We got married at 23 and 24.  We have two boys, 15 and almost 12.  I've been unhappy for many years, I don't even remember when it started.  But me and a guy from my past, also married unhappily, started an affair.  We never really did much more than kiss, but it was an affair nonetheless. It made me dislike my husband even more.  But also made feel desired and like I could find someone else.  I ended it a month ago.  Part of me wishes I didn't.  My husband behaved in such a way a month ago that was really a breaking point for me.  I looked at him and didn't even recognize him.  I went to a divorce lawyer just see what the process would be like, and the cost.   If we get divorced, we have to sell our house.  It's the only home my kids have ever known.  I don't want to displace them.   I don't want them to have to change schools.   We cannot afford our current home and a different residence for my stbx.  I'm a teacher and don't make good money on my own.   I also don't want divorce to mess my kids up.",0.5741025641025637,2.548163867521371,2.735576923076924,92.81567307692309,83.40170940170941,5.438461538461539,22.143162393162388,6.6274283507984215,0.4516957264957266,851,29,190,9,24,288,129,234,0.08900000000000001,0.852,0.059000000000000004,-0.5375,3,0,0,0,4,0,32.0,10,0,2,0,10,6,0,1,14,0,22,1,0,3,2,38,40,16,0,8,5,2,1,2,0,1,0,0,2,4,7,16,0,0,4,0,3,1,9,2,0,1,11,3,34,4,18,26,5,25,0,0,2,1,28,6,0,2,18,124,41,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22760373125512576,0.0,0.12855486332450675,0.0,0.0,0.30799832604200195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358099024768105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10250165161566063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341306498237011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072457155460544,0.0,0.11370731581454607,0.0,0.0,0.2543829954425316,0.11612781668517667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06491320841922305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11733775887672065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0670736884223269,0.0,0.0,0.10767975478858748,0.1026778828760062,0.0,0.0,0.1271172122829283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575528933730041,0.0,0.0,0.14813424874491812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12544078403443484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10780756924016913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429541035007001,0.08569520535271913,0.13015801818688727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20494471796759176,0.0,0.09437468662097342,0.0,0.0990152156465935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09763941132904194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390239354631386,0.12255403517017716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12136138698118655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16448810266537814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14543046156806638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12853161369764782,0.12992826060844595,0.10230290528149756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10619795472202803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10877666627603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817372338968733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10318765351396128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12540942293502186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271670310544253,0.10190273249112172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190103217606006,0.0,0.0,0.14763162635193408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09119806292501947,0.0,0.0,0.16534609933401614
divorce,eastcoasttowestcoast,2020/03/01,"I’m ready but don’t know where to start I (30F) am ready to start the divorce talk with my partner (32M). He is in the military and we have 4 kids(ages 10,8,6,3) and have been married 12 years. There is no big huge drama leading me to this, just a serious of seemingly small things that have brought me to my breaking point and to the realization I don’t want to live like this. Generally he is disinterested in our kids, when they are just acting like kids he is SO hard on them and most of the time they are counting down till he leaves and don’t really miss him when he’s gone. If he doesn’t get sex when he wants it then we all pay cause he’s just grouchy and mean to everyone. He hates holidays so they are always miserable for us all. He does help with dishes and cooking and picking up but really once he gets home from work he’s on his phone and then switches to video games after I put the kids to bed. We have had talks about this before and sometimes he will change for a little bit but mostly he doesn’t see much wrong with how he acts. I genuinely don’t think he realizes how unhappy I am and will somewhat he taken by surprise by this but I’ve tried SO many times over the years to convey things to him and he just doesn’t listen and/or understand. Honestly if he suggests therapy I’m not really interested. I’m completely mentally and emotionally checked out at this point and I don’t want to continue trying to walk on eggshells and shield my kids when he is home anymore. I’m just looking for any advice on where to start or what to expect. We are currently in SoCal so I’m nervous to try and find a place on my own with the cost of living. He deploys later this year so I’m hoping to use that time to prepare and it will be half of the one year mandatory separation here. I just don’t know what to expect with the military aspect and uprooting my kids. Any advice or tips would be helpful! Thanks!",4.371726844583989,5.0361966122449005,5.220612244897961,84.4870251177394,70.12244897959185,8.887912087912088,27.83202511773941,9.057496981413335,1.9879278649921512,1520,50,323,28,26,496,199,392,0.09,0.8029999999999999,0.107,0.7346,1,0,0,0,1,0,29.0,6,0,4,2,22,13,1,2,12,0,32,3,0,6,2,70,63,40,0,9,15,0,1,2,1,4,0,1,3,6,14,28,2,0,8,5,3,7,11,6,0,2,5,4,27,7,50,52,8,51,0,2,2,1,49,22,0,9,23,195,41,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117498414863672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09015294608307578,0.0,0.0,0.14735863578280248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10745058895185232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921948695450163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11828628845840468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11130167452884354,0.11461620359279168,0.0,0.11359921693869728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09481472980485617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12187520056478085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10352969929172592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09902671465972444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11321312198490935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09705715956760334,0.10696971234371287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452447157719899,0.0,0.21736069553391585,0.10761249589973353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11908877755409272,0.0,0.0,0.1147232723010204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105865229114535,0.10859163090120036,0.19134384363469306,0.0,0.09098375066564147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098463193012736,0.0,0.11802107338363015,0.0,0.0,0.10918776274425572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07964712512478522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11538545909639633,0.07341837502293022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131990052849924,0.0,0.20484487780137212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891813218104793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20822857744382245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08633811236172816,0.09863456100508912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10715743350721617,0.0,0.2300645765238461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741695839217333,0.0,0.09975087673902548,0.12390363586518555,0.0,0.143961166418526,0.06942404590054901,0.0,0.0,0.18953310141261728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22068043202643775,0.0,0.0,0.11279250080293216,0.13032746824838906,0.09357656668061956,0.0,0.0,0.1917166731295596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07887752369976571,0.0,0.0,0.07696622673937248,0.11845986114621303,0.0,0.2790863087141601
divorce,hj_118,2020/03/01,"I am devastated My (30f) husband (32m), told me he wants a divorce two days ago. We’ve been married for 2.5 years and have struggled with communication issues and issues around physical intimacy. We’ve been in counseling for 7 months but it’s been very inconsistent. We own a home together but do not have children. 

I would say our biggest challenge (in his opinion) is that I am not meeting his needs physically. I’ve fallen into a place of discomfort and self doubt where I can’t move past being intimate with my husband on a regular basis. He says sex is the only way he knows how to feel loved and nothing else I do matters. It crushes me to hear that and I’ve tried to get in better place with us physically. I feel that all the blame is placed on me when I don’t feel that my emotional needs are being met either. Often times over the last 14 months he’s gotten so drunk and said some of the meanest things to me. Things like, “I can find someone better”, “you’re a bitch all the time”, and “fuck me or divorce me”. Many times he’s told friends we’ve been out with about our issues which is so embarrassing. I have felt very attacked and looking back, very unhappy but I looked past all of that because I wanted this to work and I wanted us to be better. 

I’ve been traveling a lot for work and have had a bad gut feeling the last week. I checked our phone records and found out he’s been calling an ex girlfriend. He admitted they’ve been talking for 8 months but they have never met up. 

I am totally lost and feel absolutely gutted. I want to fix this but I know he’s totally out. Says he’s been lighting himself on fire to keep me warm and can see his life without me.",2.9495006321112527,4.633059212389384,4.203762115465659,86.48784292035403,74.87020648967551,7.202739148756847,26.56142014327856,7.957251820313856,1.5226181205225453,1319,49,274,20,28,433,179,339,0.16699999999999998,0.736,0.09699999999999999,-0.983,0,0,0,0,2,0,31.0,6,0,1,7,9,17,3,4,14,0,32,7,2,1,6,65,63,23,0,7,10,3,8,1,2,1,1,5,1,2,12,23,1,1,11,2,1,3,6,9,0,1,18,17,38,8,34,41,9,39,0,1,3,3,44,18,2,6,18,169,50,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155477511345523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08190184110738395,0.0,0.10466626680465667,0.0,0.07074433892336973,0.07681834814258941,0.05608394569289778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24410653341620794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939449656809981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05933408133511525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07685638688792876,0.10349056885912837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23259645548554075,0.0,0.08833694704107124,0.0,0.0840887316278764,0.0,0.0,0.10087612854549433,0.0710809991306948,0.08505494343810051,0.04806757380599528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10369364386896164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09228613337322883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880805094769629,0.0,0.08177615953472057,0.0,0.0,0.10112447221992732,0.14998883608022198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0649841742183622,0.044947834886399515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15451806552423974,0.0,0.10043173229943674,0.07821734093558977,0.08303596024145661,0.0,0.0,0.0932762204196558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22030685031875166,0.09778422928618873,0.0,0.13643755996723025,0.07095809546124346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08827899911542199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06997214139889754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17565382996901446,0.0,0.0,0.2883694811645721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08751556387529075,0.21949253811567468,0.0,0.0,0.07331417976037903,0.0,0.09597880192714632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07795352481097087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961811185846605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07394822422645787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12224491067284665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16094240987444072,0.0,0.0,0.17582489996100842,0.0,0.062463742529678665,0.0,0.0898731952079416,0.0,0.22133565753316026,0.0,0.0,0.22773540044509524,0.2170621255187087,0.07302740061360798,0.07379895551267808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08868724647792847,0.0,0.1339580121314209,0.0,0.0,0.06535602445195154,0.0,0.0,0.05924667347371983
divorce,droppdeggz,2020/03/01,"Feeling scared despite my chances. As the title suggests, I'm getting divorced and am terrified of the process. I (27M) didn't want this, but my wife (27F) has cheated multiple times and told me to my face she wants nothing to do with me. After years of lying to me and denying things I have concrete proof of, I finally filed, which got a ""meh"" when she was served. She's the wife and thinks she will get our child and have a new family with one of the other men that has agreed to pay for her attorney. I have a great chance at custody according to my lawyer, but I'm still scared. I'll try to remain brief.

She's military and has been enlisted for five years. During this time I've obviously been the primary caregiver of our 5 yr old son, and 2 of them I was the sole custodian (deployments/rotations). I've worked a majority of the time to not feel like a burden and finished school, but my jobs are all transitory due to my inability to commit long term to any career. So I guess that's in my favor, but she's the mom; he prefers me and cries when he's with her alone without me but I'm still scared of losing him. But there's more.

She's left us before and taken our only mode of transportation to go out for days and not come back. Our family knows about this, as one such occasion my stepfather drove 300 miles to bring us food and supplies while she was gone(never found out where she went). She left her first two kids with their dad when they were less than a year old and he's going to give statements about that, trying to establish a pattern of abandonment. They stay with us for this year but were with him the last 7, and he's stated they're only with us because he knew I would take care of them. I have, as she's gone out and not come back, left them alone at the house without feeding them while I was at work, and also done her military duties while I worked full time and did everything for them. Her father, aunt, sister, and cousin have all agrees to sign statements stating that I'm more fit to raise our son than her, along with all of our mutual friends and family besides her mother. Im still scared of my chances! But there's more.

Obviously, she cheated. She carried out at least two affairs(I got text confirmation from one and picture proof of the other) and has zero regrets. She's refused to touch me for years and claimed it was chronic pain, but I know the truth now. The one I caught her red handed with she left the kids at home alone in an unlocked house to run off while I was at work. She changed contact names in her phone to pretend she'd deleted him and gets money from him(another military person). I have pictures of this and she says it won't matter, because she's the mom and she makes more than me. I'm shook and still scared of losing my son. There's a little more.

She's awful at her job. She's been in 5 years and hasn't advanced past private yet due to constant disciplinary actions and an inability to be on time. She's getting removed from the service soon, but she just says that will free up her time to be with our son while I ""wallow"" and struggle to survive without her. I have a home lined up with a friend of 16 years and no obligation to pay anything until I'm on my feet, but she says that doesn't matter, because she's the mom. 

All in all, all she has on me are a lot of angry texts over the years.. She knows how to push my buttons and I'm forced to live here in a military town in her house until custody is decided. If I win, I'm going home to where my family lives. If she wins, Im stuck here with a low paying job and child support. I don't care about the money, though. I filed first and served her gladly, skipping meals at work to save for my attorney. I've been all my son knows for 5 years and I'm so scared of him going with someone that wants him just to keep him from me. I taught him to walk, write, use the bathroom; I cared for him after his surgery alone at 19 months and during other medical emergencies when she was far away for months at a time. I need him and I hear about men not winning custody often.

 I'm scared of the future and somehow relieved to be counting down escaping her at the same time. My life is better when she's not around, but it'll be really empty without my son. If anyone read this on a Sunday, just a word of encouragement would go a long way. My family is across the country and I'll be living in a house with someone that hates me and has moved on until a judge frees me, and I don't even know if I'll leave with what I need to be happy.  My attorney says I've got a terrific chance of full custody, but I feel a lot of fear. I'm alone here besides my son and she has other men paying her way to try to fight me for something she clearly doesn't value like I do. It's unfair and I hate it but thats life for now.",5.045586206896552,4.817944131658294,5.568858949922024,85.69184673366836,68.48743718592965,8.751516201698147,28.41145382082828,8.271665926689208,1.6527116617570607,3781,112,826,47,58,1220,373,995,0.153,0.748,0.099,-0.9932,3,5,1,0,2,0,103.0,11,0,8,15,41,44,5,10,46,1,56,11,3,3,14,152,119,81,0,13,30,18,5,2,2,6,5,5,3,8,27,65,3,4,15,2,8,22,17,22,0,10,29,11,138,24,144,77,21,139,0,5,1,0,127,50,0,9,64,544,165,19,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24139242711555825,0.0,0.03727753828924098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031699407015906636,0.048879288288494284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0325938893255247,0.0,0.0383596994109211,0.041496720478735434,0.0,0.0,0.04379578610384637,0.07168722993435442,0.0,0.0852471612223478,0.0,0.03966544178372424,0.0,0.0,0.04122667023209007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14257953685542932,0.0,0.0493118800809358,0.08030839806096264,0.0,0.05037363261481302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051203756273343226,0.030062447372796005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04770274026418977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030788387633793882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04189403886548014,0.0,0.2197196533678477,0.05245418694400484,0.070708960632324,0.033301354049876115,0.0,0.05106382335005415,0.0,0.07930041103117122,0.05636634692134064,0.05111031025225593,0.07202837719870869,0.0,0.09741645107602064,0.044716803362348345,0.1324602578610557,0.0,0.11184544031781192,0.05139256737874479,0.05135104374771505,0.0,0.0,0.049621921482820235,0.0,0.09204418680845416,0.0,0.0,0.052537844044435074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14027420490942713,0.0,0.0,0.21514714838223836,0.0,0.0,0.10070315468698557,0.0,0.13877287024873736,0.041433042141110495,0.0,0.0,0.1280903426752041,0.0379969773670369,0.0,0.04935794476581536,0.20258683367271255,0.0,0.06585029290233389,0.04554690627674096,0.04671989921964232,0.1234841720773858,0.08250459730975036,0.0,0.10429923461745357,0.0,0.07925983322251577,0.0,0.0,0.03111549020209337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046959128418586564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637827511475591,0.0744143775330722,0.049543755977321,0.0,0.06912800997156604,0.0,0.04502050148337138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044727797335253436,0.0,0.09782799387220978,0.0,0.12634856124638197,0.07090474044708195,0.049601034040242666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0444987425477201,0.0,0.04070191731609645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04662703884756776,0.0,0.02986239385143794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14827864474844996,0.32668419489108064,0.0471762860395416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0789925009175743,0.035886061218053364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049684774081095284,0.14890535791248274,0.0,0.0,0.0487315173783063,0.0,0.0,0.052897496315061805,0.0,0.0,0.035048245853708374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03096855223002892,0.029868640897791492,0.045798435222331416,0.0,0.21744996548497603,0.0,0.0,0.04454208005725645,0.0,0.09494440279106567,0.0,0.09107103844430048,0.0,0.22428565190832087,0.04025989598237408,0.0,0.0,0.08248318561020088,0.07400072060842387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043212038356734594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17973856642846658,0.0,0.16967928040885827,0.0,0.0,0.06622709921082648,0.0,0.0,0.2701634485468224
divorce,chestvrg,2020/03/01,"After divorce can ex husband become first time owner Good to all

I’m planning my divorce, I have a son in his pre teen age and I have a home on the deed with wife. When I leave the house and file for divorce I want nothing to do with the house, nor I care because I’m the future I want to buy myself a little place so I’m not left sleeping under the freeway. My question is, does anyone know if the same judge that approves the divorce can also absolve me from the deed of the house so that my name doesn’t have to be on that mortgage?

I only plan to leave and take essential things like personal care, computer, computer equipment, my clothe and the rest I have to make sure my son is left with everything he needs. This pretty much will leave me from being a homeowner to be homeless and living in a temporary room in order to save money. 

In the future I would want to get myself a place that I can call home for my son, my family and me, but I wouldn’t want to be attached to the mortgage deed of the future ex wife, please advice thank you.",11.890863787375414,5.661367441860462,11.097408637873757,70.2051162790698,60.62790697674418,13.774086378737545,42.342192691029894,9.23628265651192,3.902986710963456,820,25,170,8,7,268,111,215,0.034,0.8440000000000001,0.122,0.9227,2,0,0,0,4,0,15.0,0,1,0,4,4,7,0,0,19,0,18,1,1,1,2,27,33,13,0,8,3,8,0,1,0,3,0,0,3,1,6,9,0,0,2,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,25,7,28,26,4,22,0,0,0,0,20,13,0,2,9,115,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11850501311477232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09698069851169294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08479578585570166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739259226949213,0.13393473866317165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12383166313831552,0.0,0.24728855878168465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061254234725977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10899091890472047,0.0,0.1143238874575094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10315339487273767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06335930365477874,0.0,0.0,0.10171670056616733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432902135281277,0.0,0.0,0.41979275638482266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06664759249313798,0.0,0.0,0.38522672205572267,0.2635234720491499,0.0,0.0,0.059247082673372635,0.12154580663456856,0.10708487213115632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08094960431450192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08914843610944811,0.08992120994884308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116363183502229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09223236796101626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588951291398634,0.2534056131841943,0.13311958522375614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12337661642066107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358517275109318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12135898544218934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11429686372660618,0.0,0.0911810039098854,0.0,0.0,0.1116504161060192,0.0,0.0,0.0805673326350221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07071433131007951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861160660656481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08614772644097676,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Ldmartin52,2020/03/01,"I’m not sure if I’m emotionally drained or selfish.  Hello! I am (26)M. I am coming up on being married for a year and also being a father to the best gift I could have ever received from this world. I know what most people are saying one year in and your ready to throw in the towel? How pathetic. But me and my daughter I’ve got married 13 days after our daughter was born. We planned on getting married anyways but due to her religious family we had to push the envelope and get married ASAP. I also moved in with my wife and her sister because they stay at their grandparents old house. Why this house you ask? Because I made stupid decisions with my money when I was younger and we tried looking for a house while she was pregnant but she felt it was too stressful so we decided to wait.

Before the birth of our daughter my wife was already very co-dependent in her family. They’re uncomfortably close for my taste but I also come from a fairly broken family. She has never had to pay rent didn’t have her own phone plan till now and her parents have always done for her. 

After our daughter was born these things have continued. Her family sees my daughter more than I do. They’re are always around( I can’t really complain about this considering we stay at this house for free. They’re we’re willing to let us stay here till we were stable enough to get our own place and I am appreciative of that. 

As a married couple for almost a year we don’t have any privacy. If I am home and leave the room for any amount of time her sister comes in and acts if I’m not even there. And my wife puts her family first I always feel like I’m looking in from the outside. We’re not having sex because she says she feels insecure about her weight which I understand but she seems to not really want to do anything about it. She was prescribed Zoloft to help with anxiety after birth and refuses to take it. Now giving these circumstances I know there have been times where I have not been the most helpful I know at times I have made things worse. I am the kind of person that when there is a problem I want to talk about it and correct it as soon as possible. Oh yeah! She doesn’t know how to communicate, can’t handle conflict of any sort and I’m starting to wonder if she knows how to think for herself at all. 

I am emotionally,mentally and sexually frustrated. She has finally agreed to counseling but part of me just wants a divorce. But I am terrified to lose my daughter due to the court system seems like it still favors the woman in most cases still to this day. Does anyone have any advice or am I just fucked?",3.503897267160226,5.198016560460655,4.467818755141213,85.12478087012157,73.41458733205374,7.572269445206107,25.072708161959604,8.269060116576782,1.5252758065990313,2072,66,411,34,42,672,244,521,0.127,0.7909999999999999,0.08199999999999999,-0.9795,4,0,0,0,1,0,37.0,12,2,2,5,31,16,3,2,18,1,48,5,0,5,5,88,87,43,0,9,20,13,4,2,0,1,1,2,3,2,19,30,2,3,15,0,4,9,11,9,0,2,18,10,70,8,68,64,11,67,0,1,3,2,65,20,1,14,36,295,89,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07323266122851256,0.0,0.0,0.0750437989241178,0.0,0.08270059338092946,0.1797937771526899,0.18707376911106605,0.0,0.0,0.2038530933979002,0.0,0.057330586279650625,0.0,0.0,0.052401336415716634,0.0,0.0616710541525742,0.0667144564503478,0.07006085081854231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370522286887335,0.0,0.06377030179577985,0.0,0.07864722686447928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19366823678683728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05983525737037789,0.08292213103412856,0.0,0.09666305254512922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06558243386188341,0.07669190122020271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08429990041520047,0.0,0.07743533726593364,0.0,0.049498623560474735,0.06778952036082103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3532442341655982,0.0,0.07578606727362745,0.0535387305036925,0.07195627505615262,0.08209552899056605,0.0,0.06374580638179354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06928286645532282,0.11746263634596747,0.07189139758754898,0.0,0.0,0.059938132228034034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10046436862193864,0.0,0.07517314803493699,0.0,0.0,0.34589299818328095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07804078032543378,0.2059313962532069,0.0,0.0,0.07935298063482071,0.0,0.07663348822494534,0.0,0.07322595762247827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258651651028575,0.08384116461994154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14182426412661586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965171012078892,0.0,0.0,0.05780005315438452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786392437946619,0.0,0.05078278168485235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08321445648898389,0.08115511143440697,0.0,0.05195549299442518,0.06543664797852773,0.07829865984550613,0.0,0.0,0.08448608261438678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07170957474844912,0.0,0.07533762122009019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09601979872726568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11919410827484885,0.0,0.0,0.05971923935633985,0.13644914850099274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053044482662455726,0.2396352766029195,0.11969789300297155,0.0,0.0858460494829782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07063214695116231,0.0,0.05634721598943004,0.060235710431322635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09957654991744763,0.048019942766993146,0.0,0.0,0.1310982176884712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050880841924642435,0.0,0.0,0.07801748461709865,0.0901462524270034,0.0,0.0,0.061835172648017786,0.13260857317863384,0.0,0.0,0.0912594234336904,0.0,0.0,0.06762368890104482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08127163099534639,0.0,0.0,0.07637251548855199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14478098039730533
divorce,ImpressiveCounter1,2020/03/01,"Where to start. Alberta, Canada TL;DR.  Married 20 yrs.  3 kids.  I cheated on her.  She’s angry.  Told the kids.  Kicked me out of our house.  How do I protect myself without turning this into a battle?

I never expected to be in this situation but, here I am.  

I’ve been married almost 20 years.  I have 3 kids (10+).  For years my wife and I have struggled back and forth with intimacy issues for most of our marriage.  I want sex, hugging, kissing, touching, and she doesn’t.  We would still occasionally have sex but it always felt disconnected.  I started disconnecting too.  I asked for little things to help counter this, but she always forgot or didn’t want to.  I wasn’t angry.  I was just sad and resigned. 

So then I met another woman who was in the same point in her relationship.  We talked and hit it off almost immediately.  We hung out a few times including meeting up in another city and staying together.  It felt good bing wanted by someone in the way I wanted for so long. 

My wife found out and went full on crazy (despite numerous arguments where I flirted with the idea of divorce - I.e. Not to be a dick but it shouldn’t have been a total surprise).

She sees this entirely in black and white. She sees this as entirely my fault.  

She immediately told the kids when they got home from school that “Dad isn’t coming home.  He is cheating on me and we’re getting a divorce”.  

I endured an almost uninterrupted stream of text message based profanity for a couple days.  

She kicked me out of the house and won’t allow me to come in unsupervised.  She’s changed the door locks so that I can’t get in.  

I get she’s mad and she’s trying to protect herself but this is brutal. 

I apparently am meeting with a family member today so I can, at least go get some stuff.   I’m bringing a family member from my side just so I have some witnesses on my side should anything happen. 

I think I’m within my rights to go into my own house.  

I’ve been trying to be agreeable because I don’t want things to escalate and I don’t want to make things suck more for the kids. I’ve refrained from firing back barbs in messages.  

I’m leaving tomorrow for two weeks on a work trip.  I think that this might be good.  That maybe during that time she can cool off a bit and then, hopefully, we can be more civil.  I’m worried, however about what kind of damage can be done while I’m out of the country.  

So far, despite her anger, I think her actions are largely her trying to protect herself.  I really don’t want to escalate this if we can avoid that. 

What should I be thinking about that I’m not. 
- our accounts are joint.  It scares me that she could do something stupid with those.  I’d like to think she won’t. 
- does playing along like I am set some sort of precedent that is going to cause me problems?

I’m planning to try and find a lawyer / somebody to give me some help on this but without turning this isn’t a nasty legal battle.",1.8217533609393608,4.189156885813151,3.3759980713596924,87.735106075217,81.3529411764706,5.935492654149412,23.662261047138237,7.201597864021418,1.012990946735493,2272,82,455,31,61,748,268,578,0.138,0.7490000000000001,0.113,-0.9702,2,1,1,0,2,0,74.0,8,0,1,2,19,29,9,3,22,1,50,5,1,4,2,92,101,34,0,16,14,3,4,2,0,7,0,0,3,6,32,33,0,6,10,1,1,9,17,17,0,1,17,9,72,12,73,68,14,68,0,3,4,5,56,36,2,13,22,308,104,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376460178694016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316485599504326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16590348979081368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06509922937131285,0.0,0.07395539868836896,0.0,0.0,0.12165849827180708,0.0,0.04822356611139088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08636556104933431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08126581442103707,0.08368588496304982,0.13628925424595156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06316138417885593,0.08753161272051115,0.0,0.051018182807436016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06922803515148762,0.08095505642086791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491521605396794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151912371823475,0.0,0.07230337414354597,0.0,0.0,0.08673795314994825,0.0,0.0,0.16532287766915182,0.0758877020295063,0.13487687612002153,0.1327042492151972,0.06326997765187377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06995503535218738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10604898953702606,0.0,0.15870375733753375,0.07857219721259501,0.0,0.2738403932291704,0.0,0.08930342065535107,0.0,0.08256830793275625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08237891711973587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837640601190845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07729644768851048,0.07928710292860673,0.0,0.07000818289684131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052805273888309516,0.0,0.0794747235965185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08392119728611598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06101304687710276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07478272853923833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07569577200868614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050678677277585085,0.0,0.0,0.08493249861018823,0.0,0.0675578888118317,0.0,0.0,0.07920101290002136,0.08006162490680055,0.12607783389337204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08892082370515986,0.0,0.0,0.06702804003702348,0.06090128354347641,0.0,0.0,0.11198624674657667,0.08431871348935098,0.06317583426241835,0.0,0.0,0.08270096679952854,0.0905598529471782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06358409765481489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15766772804894555,0.25344639487205184,0.0,0.0,0.09225714354698722,0.0,0.07498523298521109,0.15118236747690358,0.0,0.21483684004253725,0.17209380197522756,0.07727712301991171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3266200666534605,0.06279233099463108,0.0634557495224146,0.0,0.0,0.07333400521345447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15251477908435382,0.0,0.05759164208544739,0.08033811989040539,0.0,0.05619612755483217,0.0,0.0,0.10188605098452354
divorce,throwawayacct1023957,2020/03/01,"I said the D word 27(f) married to 32(M), married for three years, together for seven. 

I am feeling so many confusing emotions. I told my husband that I wanted a divorce. 

Things have been difficult for a while, between family drama, my health issues, changing jobs, moving, me still looking for a job. Handling those issues are easier than trying to figure out my husband. I personally feel he checked out months ago but just didn't want to be the one to end it. 

I realized I was done when my husband decided to lie to me about where he was. He said he lied to me because I am a witch, and never let him do what he wants. AKA going out with friends every weekend drinking, but yet I'm a witch for being upset because I want to spend time with my husband.This isn't the first time he has lied about where he is, or how late he is staying out. And I just cant do it anymore. I shouldn't have to play ""where's waldo"" with my husband. 

Anyway, when he got home yesterday I was already gone to a friends house so that I could be alone and process my thoughts. Dont get me wrong I have my share of faults within the relationship, I've been in therapy, I read self help books, I always ask him if he is happy and what I can do to make him feel better. My husband hates to communicate and never ever tells me when he is upset. It's been 7 years, I'm always the one trying to communicate, begging for him to please talk to me. 

There is so much more to this situation, I just dont have the energy to write it out. At one moment I dont want the divorce at all, another moment I cant think of any other way to be happy. I go from sad to mad in seconds. I dont want to loose my husband, but I feel I already did months ago.",3.8525574010747436,4.188451578651687,5.295959941377628,84.6616438690767,71.13483146067415,7.9890571568148525,28.11871030776746,7.893859768569023,1.6042573522227648,1326,45,285,16,23,448,173,356,0.142,0.7490000000000001,0.109,-0.7919,2,1,1,0,2,0,45.0,0,0,0,2,20,18,2,3,13,0,40,2,0,2,4,47,66,18,0,9,8,6,4,0,2,1,1,2,1,2,12,13,1,0,9,6,2,4,11,11,0,7,15,7,44,7,46,44,3,43,0,1,1,0,37,13,0,3,24,196,56,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15775503076679095,0.0,0.0,0.09215891514264536,0.19638854899660546,0.0,0.14808094504563413,0.0,0.0,0.060511073113586236,0.09330578915501338,0.0,0.0,0.08824661560720352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08318651820516433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10848567194254237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07869768842653416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09413156465193767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07104519383361943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09105987384547427,0.4171467699005996,0.08716886131994098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10009320638633544,0.07881198170967578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08048966154036957,0.07497149711352702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08388467331746642,0.0,0.17996866984341278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07568837119629315,0.0,0.0,0.13749513979037348,0.0,0.046489623532777816,0.0,0.101141479953272,0.0,0.07116734195370766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894468068362818,0.0,0.08785168307489331,0.0,0.09458411421605437,0.0,0.0,0.05964301697523348,0.0,0.08925658730214528,0.0,0.0,0.10267372524827068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18574898311238688,0.1766025737450931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10037600604270186,0.0,0.0,0.09099051736983027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07472279258599727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059396432925043374,0.0902141720190034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14204978147844236,0.09457419309960556,0.06541229139521247,0.0,0.1372574017532239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18089030080767216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769598634263321,0.0,0.09767593778510833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08900646486413467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955337807266486,0.0,0.0,0.1692852497295622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928280338576929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10001992891873657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948433828918166,0.07106144757791191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07152067044367194,0.07777452651857243,0.0,0.10175911210155776,0.0,0.0591159426822356,0.057016319335651135,0.0,0.07064207423497873,0.10377268850333292,0.0,0.0,0.08502648209234233,0.0,0.1208263968709371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31490469664595505,0.07063007539774215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09728826927264927,0.0,0.11460347703337205
divorce,cmearls,2020/03/01,"Child Meeting a significant other I am divorced and am in my first relationship since. My ex and I co parent and have joint custody. However, I told her I would let her know before I introduce my son to my new significant other. I brought it up and my ex said “no I’m not ready” and I said it isn’t up to her and it’s my decision at the end of the day. She then threatened me with “I will take that child until you take me to court and have him ripped away from me. Don’t fuck with me”. She can’t legally do anything about it right? Not to mention she had her boyfriend introduced to my son before we were even divorced.",1.069461538461539,3.0863759461538463,2.9238461538461564,91.91115384615387,81.84615384615384,6.153846153846152,23.07692307692308,7.321109707123232,0.7932307692307696,483,17,109,7,13,161,77,130,0.087,0.873,0.04,-0.7789,2,0,0,0,2,0,9.0,1,1,0,1,2,1,1,0,3,0,13,1,0,0,0,15,22,9,0,1,2,5,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,2,7,10,0,0,2,0,0,1,6,1,0,1,6,2,29,0,16,13,0,13,0,0,0,1,25,6,1,0,6,81,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17936557473145964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20478409544304224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3709421539674216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14056857153892746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930511661170354,0.0,0.0,0.14396298531521262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18539983393349366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015039524062235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197871635299966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.222882677262784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.210510724725972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24202292338292425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340114710068816,0.0,0.18613983101492845,0.41466683311039376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803018464684306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3277631919654789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20827368076116665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15483517721941986,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,aj_plusfive,2020/03/01,"Seriously just. Lost. I (F27) and husband (M30) have been together 13 years and married 1.5 years. The past year has been... rocky. To say the least. We are at the point now where two days ago he said he ""couldn't live like this anymore"" and ""will find somewhere else to live."" We have 5 kids and rent our home. We are also not citizens of the country we live in and as a result I wouldn't be entitled to any sort of financial government assistance (australia). 
After saying that we basically argued all day over text. He is severely manic depressive and will not get help for it. At all. I have tried everything I can think of and he will not go or do anything. As a result he is miserable to live with and the general stress of life and his moods means that when we do argue, my fuse is a hell of a lot shorter than it used to be. I'm not at all claiming to be perfect, I've said my fair share of nasty stuff but he as we were arguing over text he is utterly oblivious to ever treating me less. He said ""I don't think we should be together anymore"" and I took that to mean he was serious. I said okay. You need to think about what you want to do going forward and he lost it at me again for ""giving up"" on our relationship. Then he told me a bunch of things I need to do better and said if I was willing we could work it out. We haven't spoken since, he works long hours and we've just. Kept to ourselves. This morning he was frustrated about a shirt and I got a bit snippy cause I am just dead tired and frustrated etc. He has spent the whole day telling me all I do is pick fights and I'm not trying. But if I even hint at ending things than he says that I'm abandoning him. I just don't even know what to do anymore. I don't want my marriage to be over but I don't know how to salvage anything when he is so certain he is always right and won't get help for anything.",2.1051785714285707,3.5183570688775565,3.5762755102040806,91.24104591836736,76.52551020408163,7.144897959183672,23.72959183673469,7.865858978985527,0.9869244897959182,1449,45,331,22,32,478,192,392,0.15,0.797,0.053,-0.9889,1,0,0,0,1,0,46.0,12,2,0,6,17,23,7,2,13,1,47,3,1,6,7,78,79,32,1,10,15,1,0,1,0,7,2,8,2,2,15,29,0,2,8,0,2,4,13,15,0,1,18,8,39,7,46,47,11,37,1,5,0,0,56,16,1,5,20,215,54,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07888366424312032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07116472829028872,0.07404624431313388,0.0,0.0,0.06051579022591625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26476048449222905,0.0,0.0,0.2196918877550912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0787038232679329,0.09715329109726237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914165464657046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07105073212839055,0.0,0.0,0.1721722514850397,0.0,0.07664637225121845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07433915929229848,0.0,0.07881812546075383,0.0,0.09924661678985236,0.11755321520720725,0.08049593607419213,0.0,0.0,0.07997786414198851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813346277165919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09298649521916123,0.08536666602285406,0.10114936438991498,0.0,0.07117288977047821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11929533283730852,0.0,0.08926354525755466,0.0,0.08763655619017098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781240770098584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06285578953563911,0.04347568748367468,0.0,0.31431680514428256,0.07875274923857667,0.0,0.0,0.1942847132872944,0.07565553889112217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19387091855677333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13196890869520542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495037676836062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08412367275273057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09554122801772792,0.0,0.07599639437186241,0.4232461157045611,0.21230364079234126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10053260354494208,0.0,0.07361288637406635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10193696716871203,0.0,0.10187148266282574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07778058939531754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11824110207565408,0.1710622920482674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022801342603988,0.0,0.08503311029188364,0.098870410580647,0.12083581583604786,0.0,0.08692963649739767,0.0,0.0,0.07685820175008329,0.0,0.0,0.1049764149646395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099353399515493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295705718880395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17191861634052732
divorce,rachboogie,2020/03/01,"Home Buyout Question Would love to understand how home buyouts have been calculated for others.  

My STBX is dead set on staying the house which is fine because I want out.  Our home is worth about 350k and the remaining mortgage balance is currently at 200k.  My ex is adamant that you have to take 7% off the full value of the home before you calculate the equity, which obviously lowers the buy out price significantly.  He says it has something to do with realtor fees which makes no sense because a refi doesn’t involve realtors.  It’s my understanding that you simply subtract the remaining mortgage from the value and divide by 2 to get the buyout price (in this case 75k).  

My lawyer is telling me my STBX is incorrect but apparently his lawyer is saying the opposite....what have your experiences been?  I live in PA if it matters.",6.753137254901965,7.89846277777778,6.958699346405227,72.42314705882353,65.01307189542484,10.303006535947716,34.254248366013066,10.355215969177356,3.728584836601308,667,29,114,16,10,215,105,153,0.036000000000000004,0.8909999999999999,0.073,0.3919,5,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,1,4,0,0,2,2,0,0,11,0,17,1,0,2,1,16,24,5,1,3,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,0,10,5,0,0,3,0,5,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,14,2,17,21,1,11,0,0,0,1,15,8,0,2,1,76,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20625489459074475,0.0,0.14395537745811718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654855118791262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838690151078195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6787848635083875,0.0,0.0,0.19520511786604575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14938453392609724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15268695002865804,0.0,0.11292555775023908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18951460270148776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690693373608131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13023910123823992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18031793130563745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12719846884916666,0.0,0.14786631710618234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35223406915507266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09978373771982522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12017699332372801,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,MeanDrawer,2020/03/01,"Am I Crazy? Hey there ~ I'm older, 57, second marriage. Married 5 years, together for 8. I thought this was it. He cheated the entire time we were together,  lied the entire time we were together.  Stayed gone for days and weeks at a time.  Gone now for almost 2 months.  Only worked 3 months last year. Disrespectful. I filed for divorce on Valentine's Day.  He's been served and now I wait. My spirit was dark and is lightening up day by day. However, today, I found myself in tears. Is this the ""1st wave"" people talk about? I'm confused.",0.5960000000000001,3.0998556476190484,2.1990476190476187,91.76428571428572,92.5238095238095,5.085714285714286,19.38095238095238,6.742157984588678,0.4220666666666668,413,13,83,6,15,134,74,105,0.129,0.8540000000000001,0.017,-0.8796,1,0,0,0,1,0,24.0,2,0,0,1,4,2,1,1,4,0,8,0,0,0,0,10,15,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,9,0,9,0,10,6,0,24,1,0,0,0,8,4,0,2,17,41,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118839312168722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5458504998499671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23200529927519045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17247987856232844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.337789574055176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16092913001568854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14669478706829586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255343554600306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700737343899043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16798446233322034,0.3701519131173851,0.0,0.20056931006751755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16973043084413744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540452094215904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.272523190739437
divorce,MamaNem,2020/03/02,"What are my rights(?) in regards to last year's tax return? STBXH hinted he's not filing taxes jointly for last year (we are still married).  Has blocked me, my attorney can't reach his.  I understand I have to file my taxes according to how he files his, but how am I supposed to do that, without paying for a hearing?  He has a hobby that is a marital asset that he doesn't want to share in the proceeds; he will have to at settlement time, but he's really got me over a barrel with this no-contact BS.  Any advice?",3.9231428571428566,4.514145885714285,5.431428571428572,82.83857142857143,71.09523809523809,8.285714285714286,28.333333333333336,8.418075326091056,1.945476190476192,398,14,81,6,7,135,71,105,0.07400000000000001,0.893,0.033,-0.2411,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,5,0,12,0,0,2,0,11,16,4,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,5,2,0,1,1,0,4,0,4,0,0,0,1,1,11,1,14,14,0,13,0,0,0,0,11,5,0,0,8,53,16,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28066443857300377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19531692912047224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297131081772832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32371363780464885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4682392280376523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18399811265624424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452811459212134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293713035582719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16747813087862365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29900229148590096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16940761183507566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768662582687118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3699157534137505
divorce,Danaaerys,2020/03/02,"Pro's and Con's of going back to maiden name. I've been divorced from my x husband of 20 years now for almost two years.

I'm stuck in the middle in debate of changing my married last name back to my maiden name. I have the divorce decree to do so and everything.

I've had this conversation with different people and half of them think I should keep my married last name (a pro for our kids' sake), but others say I should bday fuck it, drop it, and change back to maiden.

Has anyone been in this predicament? If so, can you share and maybe give insight as to what I should do?
Thanks!",4.055903361344537,4.74132890756303,4.589401260504204,88.65284138655458,70.84873949579833,6.958403361344536,24.118697478991603,6.6274283507984215,0.6333605042016806,456,11,97,3,8,145,75,119,0.079,0.862,0.057999999999999996,-0.3625,1,0,0,0,2,0,14.0,1,1,1,0,6,3,1,0,3,0,11,1,0,0,0,19,19,10,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,6,6,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,4,1,11,2,17,12,0,14,0,0,0,1,15,4,1,2,8,63,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20136986959563646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406118884165216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4638941678183737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42546849872988063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101038480014292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18073326136188206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18591118764426626,0.0,0.19291082760737216,0.1142882140389216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.178744495329082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3278422337597404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20202923916328888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13941552798577744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15992062224984596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18514334990507256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12885501202780442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19644281429277666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590001000350388
divorce,FeralMonkees,2020/03/02,"I miss the financial security that I had in my marriage I feel like I'll never get that back.  Not that ex and I made a lot of money, but we were in a good spot and had the same financial goals.  Now, splitting everything and lawyer bills have taken so much of it, and I'm not sure I'll ever get back there.  I think I miss that more than I miss my ex",1.4410822510822534,2.4349913116883144,3.5137012987012994,92.7286471861472,77.44155844155844,7.2112554112554115,20.62554112554113,7.793537801064563,0.4412528138528136,269,6,67,4,6,92,48,77,0.10400000000000001,0.7959999999999999,0.1,0.1918,0,1,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,1,6,7,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,1,3,16,14,6,0,0,3,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,1,2,0,2,0,3,3,0,0,5,1,10,4,5,9,4,7,0,3,0,0,4,2,0,1,6,46,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4670257206342277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746979286236505,0.0,0.0,0.2729299724559849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15355084080687806,0.216950618505985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3173228223985583,0.0,0.0,0.2547142143842897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14836377933722242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581797396969505,0.0,0.2873514326166493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232413530994828,0.0,0.23421842773536966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28621687184763245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19458728636090186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,totalthrowaway5217,2020/03/02,"Even if you're not ready to date watch this Wow, Reddit. I was watching this video from one of my favorites on YouTube called charisma on command. In this video I've linked they talk about how movies have influenced our expectations in relationships. I recognize some of my own mistakes in this video. Even if you're not ready to date now, watch it anyway. It could in some small way help you examine where you've been so you choose something better next time. And of course, there's plenty in there for if you're making the move to dip your toe in the dating pool. Cheers! 

https://youtu.be/uNMjPMSBz8w",3.6747023809523824,6.543483732142858,2.8000000000000007,91.61166666666668,77.75,5.8761904761904775,20.94047619047619,7.1686216300943375,0.4831226190476192,486,13,94,6,12,140,75,112,0.055999999999999994,0.807,0.13699999999999998,0.8903,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,1,3,1,1,10,4,0,0,2,0,4,1,1,3,0,17,5,6,0,6,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,3,4,0,1,2,1,0,1,2,3,9,3,17,2,3,18,0,0,3,0,9,10,0,5,6,57,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644658996153869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053409449815917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387494661688523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3950102488238593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20043211504053035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19960346207793148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3178193611345442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31801959087519405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026290610363476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3210440836152132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302063060212413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403473193197869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1743655879178782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23735444843979026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Foxtrott11,2020/03/02,"Considering filing for Divorse I am considering divorcing my wife of 7 years. She is 35 years old and has a history of abuse in her childhood. Because of this she suffers from PTSD, anxiety, and depression.  This has lead to her developing a drinking problem now which is effecting our family. Often when she drinks she becomes argumentative and violent towards me. She is also this way towards her mother. To make matters worse we have two children that often witness her behavior. She has been to several therapists and on multiple meds and it doesn’t improve. 

I am on the verge of leaving her because of these issues. My hold ups are I feel like I may push her over the edge by leaving. I am scared that the courts will give her custody of the kids when she is not capable of watching them. We also bought a house from my brother last year in which he gave me a lot of equity. What is the best way to approach that? Do I have any hope of keeping it? I also wonder what’s the easiest way to leave? I am the only one who is employed, so do I get an apartment or offer to get her one. What is the best way of going about this?",3.534234234234237,5.266659720720725,5.0596396396396415,80.75450450450452,73.41441441441441,8.176576576576577,29.90090090090089,8.841846274778883,2.545241441441442,886,39,169,18,18,298,129,222,0.134,0.7809999999999999,0.086,-0.8896,1,0,2,0,1,0,20.0,3,0,1,4,11,9,1,1,13,0,23,2,0,3,0,23,34,12,0,2,2,3,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,16,7,2,2,3,2,1,4,2,5,0,3,3,2,33,4,29,29,3,27,0,2,1,0,30,10,0,7,10,136,49,2,0.0,0.14380010880131808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2911715594011288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08253375621977488,0.0,0.0928454614658341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479684550402384,0.13404037199503965,0.0,0.0,0.2547344635766464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10453326278804953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377870092183197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11441405385694227,0.0,0.061366827424179336,0.0867046451550879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12681854933231715,0.1164263339621374,0.06897569172588644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12054486600814025,0.0,0.14004128126946544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266756686126818,0.0,0.1078766109978688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09893034483344364,0.0,0.3855305475052028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059293810406660624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10318192624115297,0.0,0.0,0.08101344866513484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13481143290541234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12735430340490336,0.0,0.16448290889787695,0.09230511094338996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161318763872766,0.14187158729641478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12150959024233125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13711022135118947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14091650003996428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11855797305406887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3853420621854899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13161738913739754,0.0,0.0,0.1236833931760794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344692041154827
divorce,Aware-Panda,2020/03/02,"Milestone: I created my own Netflix account. We'd always used his parents'. I'm finally moved into a new place (he's getting the house and moving in now) and I went to watch Netflix, remembered it's a shared account, then made my own new account for total separation. I'm free and independent. It feels good.

He had said feel free to keep using it and I really thought I would, but in the end I just didn't want any lingering dependence. It feels great.",1.1712546816479408,3.7953695617977568,3.212612359550562,85.23966760299626,89.3370786516854,6.562172284644196,25.39419475655431,7.793537801064563,1.9376509363295893,357,16,68,8,12,120,62,89,0.016,0.8079999999999999,0.177,0.9147,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,5,1,21,18,6,0,2,2,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,5,0,1,5,2,5,3,1,0,0,0,6,5,9,7,6,10,3,13,0,0,1,0,7,4,0,1,6,37,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15412172818047626,0.0,0.0,0.1259590983761894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16405404245198574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809654112424181,0.0,0.0,0.2029045258034732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09677222304494876,0.0,0.0,0.155357629689527,0.0,0.2042108058051669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2137243514905218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646361595489193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17526402115847495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3937289318971705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35778219904516195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056700290685904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19352031276667364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11865963937414692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098233956627032,0.0,0.17619103683963724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14704766450529094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.319949215208622,0.0,0.0,0.10925028435014958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17170508545097868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315782610772531,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,LifeisWeird11,2020/03/02,"Dating after Divorce 27F, married for 4 years (21-25). Divorced and a half ago. 

I've been dating pretty happily post divorce, but now I'm seeing someone that I actually like and it made me realize that I have no clue what I'm doing. 

I've been seeing him (29) for 4 months and I feel like I don't know normal relationships work because I was married so young and for so much of my would-have-been dating life. 

My ex-husband (38M) and I moved lightning fast. We met, said I love you, got married and moved in together in 2 months. We're divorced so obviously I've learned a thing or two about not moving so fast. 

However, I also don't want to move too slow. I guess on one hand, I can move as slow as I feel comfortable... but when does this just turn into fear of commitment?

Maybe I am scared... I certainly avoid emotional conversations because of it. I think the guy im seeing may be in a similar place (minus the divorce).

Help me find the line!",2.159113075281926,3.954775658031089,4.1226211520877785,85.72627247790308,77.39378238341969,7.235476988722953,25.342578482170072,8.124751697461798,1.548755806156659,734,27,153,13,17,250,122,193,0.059000000000000004,0.765,0.175,0.972,1,1,0,0,5,0,36.0,1,1,0,1,10,8,0,3,6,0,11,3,1,1,3,29,28,17,0,2,5,0,3,2,0,1,1,1,0,1,7,8,0,1,7,0,0,5,4,3,0,3,7,7,21,5,16,19,1,27,0,0,3,1,15,6,0,3,17,85,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.1178846239066946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10708304637011584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09660474031656424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14727867862787591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10571401457084373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358851810773168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359350252402431,0.12216151411677903,0.0863004588773169,0.0,0.0,0.11041018181443704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09661581936784773,0.0,0.13307622965179305,0.11961225997718453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097055189135699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130486112469541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06638922449859963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08532551688687683,0.11803480742067635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10902787198607578,0.11430509239680794,0.0,0.0,0.1213611229888502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19284485905755294,0.6419632170128708,0.0888028406904358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11835960628221767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08185807398192045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12621162680874715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11569423409497427,0.12289833104282367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12969536656599254,0.0,0.0,0.11490968090498062,0.0,0.1209431556654331,0.0,0.2887889409275964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023545328944199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08025500297119577,0.07740458275842359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313971041482763,0.11800529786875345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07125172505159959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08794477089025073,0.0,0.0,0.08581376366029743,0.0,0.0,0.07779206397216516
divorce,couponheart,2020/03/02,"Another Person with my Child... Hello Good Morning!

I do hope I can find some answers in here while waiting for my lawyer to give me a response.

A very short background:

STBXH has our child majority of the time since he has more money to support our daughter. Also, I have around $50,000 debt under our marriage. He does not want to pay anything because that what we agreed, I can leave as long I am not going to ask him to pay the debt. Everything is under my name. Present time, we signed all the separation papers including child custody papers for our 5 year old daughter. **However, the judge or the court has not signed our divorce papers officially. Only between our lawyers.**

Are we still technically married? Yes or No?

Present:

When I picked up my daughter, I have found that another woman has been sleeping with them. The three of them in the same bed where he and my daughter sleeps. I am mad on this because I was not aware or been informed. Clearly, he is taking advantage of our daughter being young and does not know what is going around. 

Me being mad, I asked him to give me an explanation. He ignored me. Then when he picked up our daughter over the weekend, there were cops outside my house. As if I was doing a bad thing. Can anyone call 911 anytime just to pick up a child? I don't have any mental history or whatsoever. It was very shameful on what he did. I don't know why he did that. Did he wants to show who has the authority and that is why he did that. 

Anyway, on the present time. I took out all my 401k and paid all my debts. I have a nice job that earns a decent money. 

Now I don't have any debts. Can I have my daughter back? My STXHB made a 'reckless' move in my opinion. and he does not have the best interest for our child. Can I change the child custody? Since the judge or the court has not signed it officially?

​

We are in the state of Virginia.

Thank you!",1.4710962566844934,4.001920628342249,2.5854278074866315,91.6657887700535,84.69518716577541,5.111229946524063,22.938502673796787,6.574015621080383,0.6149433155080217,1481,54,301,16,44,471,181,374,0.075,0.841,0.084,-0.4159,7,0,0,0,1,0,59.0,13,1,2,3,13,13,2,1,23,1,43,2,2,4,4,54,62,18,0,4,14,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,8,14,14,0,2,6,2,9,4,11,5,0,1,14,0,51,8,36,46,8,41,0,0,0,0,55,18,0,9,18,207,65,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246506658434292,0.0,0.12527936260450898,0.140496720602633,0.15725758271199808,0.2424852527075463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08084750992254187,0.0,0.09514931304382596,0.20586107335341772,0.2161870562535866,0.0,0.0,0.08890829160572969,0.09654183219847214,0.14096754239134962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12134103611142474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11806579198801842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12231564862744325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30355197987676474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10391606503430796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10567892196187434,0.0,0.0,0.1267765645883666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218355819666276,0.13142441400361185,0.09698055009839243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11484146066430867,0.0,0.13341543133990186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11473971795104056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127088671707621,0.0,0.0,0.12242990977101785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10232426058512403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10940692915032943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11652254745491282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228908051743215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12132871941569867,0.0,0.0,0.087937828615647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10095906724155916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19129196734311316,0.0,0.23141649507025094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09233807049778417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13120959010131067,0.0,0.0,0.08693541835789369,0.0,0.0,0.1064517302705128,0.0,0.0,0.07681594266638549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022651554401445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12846334577811336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908050472057541,0.13639694034798402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20866669567558346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140496720602633,0.07445854469820842
divorce,Cluster_Fcuk83,2020/03/02,"Epic Miscommunication Told my husband over the weekend that I want a seperation, after months of not feeling like I was being listened to (amongst other things, but this was the key issue).

Talking things over last night he says that if he knew the stakes were so high then he would have acted differently. I have (treated) depression and he thought that my unhappiness was just down to that.

For my part, I should have been more explicit about how serious it was (this has hit him like a bombshell), but I also feel a bit p\*ssed off that I wasn’t taken seriously.

its also affirming that I was indeed not being listened to, after months of questioning myself. Just sharing as for now nobody knows we are seperating.",10.016513994910936,8.473022267175573,9.228816793893133,67.78409033078883,59.1526717557252,12.092111959287536,39.39058524173028,10.864195022040775,4.231258524173029,571,23,98,11,6,181,88,131,0.149,0.815,0.036000000000000004,-0.9232,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,0,0,8,7,0,0,6,0,17,0,0,1,1,20,28,10,0,4,7,1,2,2,0,2,0,3,0,0,13,2,0,0,6,1,0,1,3,3,0,0,12,5,13,4,15,11,3,15,0,1,0,0,14,5,0,2,11,80,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3368856052913169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22995623016951136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18141753737826688,0.0,0.0,0.22006622114472016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21300432821244453,0.15047596127546478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22254489127172256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21984569535588444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11575816055579713,0.1716936700622906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205808883772448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3362498406291093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19766441299081086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280945642644182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359567014609265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16750348628263326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16929849372574649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.279869861095956,0.0,0.0,0.16721874511877474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20126846205069876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12423655631908387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14962734550236342,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,verydonewiththisshit,2020/03/02,"Ready to start, overwhelmed with where to start & the repercussions I just can't continue to live with someone I simultaneously love and hate anymore. I'm tired of her complaining about anything when she is essentially a 46 year old retired child. We have no kids, but 2 asshole cats that somehow probably cost MORE than a kid. She worked a total of maybe 3 years in the 20 years I have known her. Any conversation about her working again ends in her crying and me giving up. She has no perspective on what it is like dealing with work all day. When I get home, I just want to relax, but she insists on fighting, and being right about everything. I just don't care anymore.  

Several years ago she had an affair with someone I thought was a friend. It shattered me mentally. I admitted there were a lot of problems in our relationship, and chose to forgive her if she wanted to work it out. At that point in my life I was also to co-dependent to do anything else. We stayed together, but things have honestly never been the same even after all this time.  

I want a divorce, but I also don't want to give up all the progress I've made since then. She honestly thinks doing laundry and dishes is equivalent to working 40+ hours a week at a demanding office job. I have pushed myself to be a breadwinner, but everything feels like a hollow victory when you come home to a parasite wife and parasite cats. I have lost the ability to shed tears over how miserable this existence is.  

I've worked full time over the last 9 years, and mostly full time for at least 3 years before that. I have pushed myself to gain additional industry certifications that will allow me to earn more money. In my mind all of this work has been done with negative levels of support. Hell she was CHEATING on my when I was studying for my first exams. We fight all the time, and yet I still somehow managed to earn  more certs during that. This past fall I got a $12000 a year promotion, and it barely felt like it even registered to her. If it did, I deferentially didn't feel like it did. There's a real feeling like nothing will ever be enough.  

So long sad story short. I want to start the process of getting a divorce. I am terrified that I have supported a full grown child for too long as will be expected to pay alimony so she can continue her comforted way of life, even though she's the one with a degree, and family support. I don't want to give up the house we bought. I'm the one paying the mortgage on it, but her family did help with the down payment. I expect the length of our marriage to mean that best case scenario is I'll have to sell/split the house with her, and pay some form of alimony and that alimony might take a ding since there was cheating... but maybe not since I chose to stay?  

Fuck man, what do I do",5.816299407114624,6.003054737318841,6.260810276679845,79.96877470355733,66.84420289855072,9.879314888010539,31.22002635046113,9.725611199111238,2.7255318840579714,2213,80,442,44,33,717,268,552,0.131,0.7190000000000001,0.15,0.6642,4,0,0,0,5,0,58.0,6,1,0,15,32,30,7,2,34,0,47,6,0,3,8,79,84,33,0,11,13,1,4,5,1,4,3,0,2,5,23,27,1,0,10,1,6,5,10,13,0,3,20,4,60,17,68,56,20,73,1,4,0,2,50,27,2,8,43,309,83,17,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06217187634887846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121764494618094,0.0,0.07599299176945627,0.0,0.04769530248347282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13911334927502095,0.0,0.0,0.11543291429148192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05968109255374977,0.0,0.07360404911719211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07150895214812443,0.0,0.0,0.06041648248433652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07704177691783473,0.04523231365556756,0.07230776915838051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07177410684841468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05859014111154759,0.0,0.06212022219319945,0.07246987077305707,0.0,0.13897371585866053,0.06344258259565272,0.0,0.0,0.12606853213000346,0.0,0.13223711501839355,0.0,0.10638953794808732,0.15031683277744462,0.06734214815545242,0.0,0.0,0.05965816788461554,0.0,0.0,0.05418737385469403,0.06484016930876188,0.07328697187625208,0.20184429267629114,0.0,0.0,0.05609465717217164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06924538571765045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04701109382609776,0.0,0.14070548449957962,0.0,0.06907043666613183,0.16185647124878838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06959976695770112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05717070127113424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09907912905203817,0.17132603387229434,0.0,0.061931914963969076,0.12413739231749832,0.0,0.0,0.07656239911565987,0.05962764095934898,0.06330103228732341,0.06636495982733577,0.0,0.0,0.1409233111643995,0.07639933370112434,0.0,0.0,0.07068121042131298,0.07440386366413455,0.07081798625544944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05409368036183205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06729797255367892,0.0,0.07359657795404535,0.0,0.09505276934634517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06695333401292615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06630177021540191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561913220866003,0.06711126726760214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07983082138419914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07530047534596145,0.0,0.05989628498095662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07923441002136343,0.0,0.17405319516701978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11885305057281223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14892916875547688,0.14951259671398445,0.0560111903945226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23877059461389125,0.0,0.0,0.05273400498214122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04659564973392959,0.04494071014248112,0.06890886697352805,0.0556806370360132,0.16358889416483965,0.08061172007154556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482103520425393,0.05567117945838315,0.056259361029782566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3574220312797811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3161597584588202
divorce,sans-delilah,2020/03/02,"Still in love with my husband. He wants the divorce, and is very final in his decision. I’m not shocked, really. We’ve been together 8 years, and he’s been rather cold for the last year. 

But I’m still head over heels for him. We have a one bedroom apartment that neither of us can really afford to leave for about four more months. 

I’ll miss him terribly, but at this point, being around him is agony. How have those in the situation dealt with it?",2.5639999999999996,4.500634455555557,3.3508333333333336,91.07625000000004,76.66666666666667,7.166666666666668,22.36111111111111,8.07648339933343,0.9757777777777776,351,10,76,6,8,111,69,90,0.09699999999999999,0.858,0.045,-0.5548,1,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,2,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,4,0,8,3,2,1,0,13,13,5,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,2,2,1,7,1,14,10,2,15,0,1,0,1,11,8,0,0,7,50,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21448472703038915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.263934356402377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24727054424575154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19639555185391214,0.0,0.25511715595216466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174547607879036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19231335956411585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632649300774243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277630405229905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3087004139029169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27082292353466864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38482468827370975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2898171606780374,0.0,0.0,0.1987979941972223,0.1421106965088693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3103106454178045
divorce,GavIzz,2020/03/02,"I am the monster. I am (28F), and there is days I want out, and somedays i want to stay, and for some reason I can't trust my husband (32M), we been together for almost 4 years, married for 2. I know everything is so young and new still but I am so scared he is going to leave me for someone else, I didn't grow up with neither of my parents, in the past I had always leave my boyfriends when i was sick of them. I don't have a good relationship with either of my parents, and I been going to therapy for almost a year, I have major depression and anxiety but I am not taking anything for it. I am scared that I am going to push him away, he is a good dude he adores me, he tries every day to show me love. What is wrong with me, why I can't just be happy with him. 

I keep punishing him for stupid staffs, and making big deal out small things, I don't know how to stop my mouth when I feel trigged by something he saids or does, I know isn't about him and i am lashing out but I don't why, I want to be okay. We had a very bad fight last night and we slept in different bedrooms, he lock the door of his bedroom and I am scared this may be the beginning of the end. Thank you.",4.253052455357143,3.229524628906251,5.4156473214285725,88.80390625000004,70.2890625,8.720535714285715,27.660714285714285,7.7094869923839395,1.2556526785714284,899,24,221,9,14,301,134,256,0.24100000000000002,0.693,0.067,-0.9947,3,0,1,0,1,0,30.0,3,1,1,0,10,17,3,3,9,1,31,4,2,3,0,43,49,19,0,3,7,3,1,0,0,1,1,1,3,0,5,20,0,2,5,1,0,5,9,9,0,0,8,2,44,8,32,37,4,30,0,1,0,1,24,9,0,5,15,147,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393351026324767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09943819558698597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09142142287529154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09834288966357048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11227940329776624,0.0,0.0997821471127199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541423937309618,0.12320498027461264,0.10292995986020216,0.0,0.0,0.12485787006237895,0.0,0.0,0.1045801169733759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09983155702291986,0.0,0.1058464510667405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10068858476189001,0.0,0.10740388754287994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0604255996134548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037532836338527,0.20047118014284887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272158860527987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10622202869893277,0.0,0.0,0.19703138392826194,0.09741297794663736,0.0,0.2530782561212271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10785842966942633,0.0,0.07977088628857168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11541921021198875,0.0,0.11214786833156468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26539355376232177,0.0,0.11408157508377585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12287161470153872,0.0,0.12830424292785525,0.0,0.0,0.11367714980082284,0.0,0.3589377269787831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10125666938587677,0.09200121515609176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273770214691902,0.09543729101362984,0.09991199552318483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985330510467028,0.0,0.0,0.11002465944937796,0.13666501775491013,0.0,0.07939418091819515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08113642765056937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09860459894211193,0.21146241879190505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21567035192186604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13066056466984005,0.0,0.15391531922869894
divorce,The0pusX,2020/03/02,"Am I just over reacting, or is this a normal ""process"" that couples go through? I (M 45) have been married for 18 years to my wife (F 43). 2 kids ages 15 and 11

The last couple of few have seemed like we are nothing more than room mates, co-existing and co-parenting. I don't really remember the last time I was truly happy and recall us being partners, rather than room mates.

We don't fight much (never physical, rarely verbal) but the love just seems gone.

As far as I know she has never been unfaithful, and I know I have not been.

When I say ""Love you"" it doesn't feel like it has any meaning behind it and I'm just saying the  words.

There is bare minimum physical ""activity"" anymore. Last year we went almost 6 months with none. I am currently keeping track to see how long we go this time, as the last time we were intimate was December.

I have straight up asked her if she is happy, and asked her if there is someone else and she always says ""no"" but damn....actions seem louder than words at this point.

I guess I haven't really been seriously considering a split beciuase I don't want to disappoint my kids, my family and even her family.

Are these feelings normal??

​

Thanks in advance for any input and listening.",2.8090984534138066,4.920095585062242,4.1055092417955485,85.1393728781592,76.55186721991701,7.8672953602414175,24.232553753300643,8.710501217029153,1.7732804979253114,960,32,191,21,22,315,147,241,0.005,0.833,0.162,0.9898,2,0,0,0,1,0,47.0,6,1,0,1,9,10,1,0,7,0,27,2,0,2,2,46,50,19,0,6,10,1,2,2,3,0,0,4,2,3,8,15,0,1,9,0,0,5,10,3,0,0,9,7,29,7,19,40,4,30,0,1,1,2,28,9,0,8,18,121,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10926934734190022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09079776942984688,0.11823302138517447,0.13259447866124538,0.14841262561707286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082191345334533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204027609287248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414815685826575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911569507359002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07207367388536112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20573994106345428,0.0,0.11035014521282734,0.07795636979369694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12403244419814602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020955513381218,0.0,0.0,0.23232357790586106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09699213881791853,0.0,0.0,0.11994056584767268,0.3557941114623812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10662243533252612,0.0,0.0,0.09656902971461724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969726978728812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11886522487102162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870996825571651,0.0,0.08021680507441585,0.0,0.1683223444189725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21383166105964052,0.10470495295483398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10315502039364736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13981196167105267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12361330569859942,0.0,0.0,0.2603332174993357,0.0,0.0,0.08695564992412448,0.2980201485496046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09245823162680487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10046434975323998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19088874617062848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13125964182566394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0643626453302818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115665677232573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13259447866124538,0.14054124357901862
divorce,littleblue86,2020/03/02,"How likely is the judge to use the state’s child support calculator? State of Colorado My husband makes 85k a year. I make about 20k. According to the state calculator, if I waived maintenance/alimony, he’d be ordered to pay about 1k a month in child support for 50/50 custody and parenting time. 

I’d waive the maintenance/alimony in exchange of keeping the house. I’d also waive his 401k and retirement, while keeping all of the equity in the house if/when I sell. Which wouldn’t be for many years, if at all. 

I used the state calculator, and this was what it put out. 

My husband says no judge would ever order him to pay that much. He says he would be broke and not able to live or pay his own expenses. That no judge would do that to anyone. 

I told him, it’s just the state calculator, that’s the amount and that’s what you have to pay. 

If I didn’t waive the maintenance/alimony, he’d be paying about $1500 a month for that, and $12 a month for child support for 5ish years, with the child support being recalculated once the 5 years are up. 

Am I correct? Wouldn’t the judge just use the same calculator to get the amounts? 

The state of Colorado even has a program that you have to download onto your computer in order to use the calculator. It’s directly from the county courthouse’s website. 

I’m so scared to initiate the divorce, due to the financial questions. If he pays what the state calculator says, I’d be fine. I’d of course get more hours at my job too. 

I was a stay at home mom for 9 years, and now that our youngest is in school full time, I work 5/6 hours a day. I’d move to full time. 

Anyone have any insight into any of this? We want to do this without lawyers, and can figure mostly everything out, except the child support. 

I told my husband we can do everything that we can agree on, and the judge will help us solve what we can’t, like the child support. But it’s a big unknown if the judge will use the state calculator as is.",3.2627574914033097,4.763880654822337,4.25154576715245,87.2184337645325,73.67005076142131,7.723464876371378,26.415261175700017,8.360895534625662,1.5906418208613062,1534,54,327,26,31,497,172,394,0.044000000000000004,0.877,0.079,0.9219,2,0,0,0,1,0,52.0,6,3,0,1,12,11,0,1,35,0,34,0,0,8,4,54,55,21,0,11,12,5,0,2,0,7,0,3,1,6,21,17,0,2,3,0,9,2,8,2,0,0,5,3,29,9,48,35,11,49,0,1,0,0,37,17,0,8,20,203,50,12,0.08364369357907908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06688983153555539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11376115979648672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169712307264738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05394326268838414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05524587074651978,0.07566050953410733,0.0,0.0,0.15034711682475935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08740075525785705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056064604672666836,0.0,0.0839014445497299,0.0,0.1647443788727768,0.19302718434597685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08300345944358879,0.14869271609731494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08172816735316042,0.0,0.07385891385383153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11166562993592072,0.08480157689235658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09796248299879427,0.20029079462230906,0.08890000904158801,0.06148773894735594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08907780382687311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09287642315579987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08408501459016024,0.09370007956711897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995504670383553,0.0837419290329809,0.08465188342570576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08915304820774045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5695072335055508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14631993111217995,0.0,0.0,0.1598502673731018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10061306459927767,0.36120647761191227,0.0,0.0,0.04933521760631458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08062953577806624,0.0,0.06089360511715211,0.0,0.0,0.17825424019130798,0.0,0.0,0.2693189814935543
divorce,Ihaveanelephant,2020/03/02,"Mental health history and divorce 22F looking to divorce my 23M husband.  We rent a house and have our two cars (which presumably will be ours when we go our separate ways), a small amount of debt, and our daughter - the light of my life.  I have a mental health history (Never violent or anything), but no criminal history.  I am currently medicated and stable, and its been over a year since my last hospitalization.  Would this affect my chances of getting custody?\*\*\*  Our state (NC) requires a 1 year separation before divorce, but I plan to move out of state when the ink hits the paper on our separation agreement (to GA).  Now, would the divorce go by NC laws or GA laws?  Sorry if this is a jumbled up mess, just super overwhelmed right now.",6.2029710144927535,7.195046108695652,6.636376811594204,74.79340579710147,66.17391304347827,9.611594202898553,34.89855072463768,9.725611199111238,3.468298550724638,585,27,103,12,9,190,90,138,0.11199999999999999,0.7809999999999999,0.107,0.2523,3,0,0,0,4,0,30.0,8,0,0,3,5,5,1,1,10,0,9,4,0,1,1,22,14,12,0,3,6,2,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,0,4,8,0,1,1,0,2,4,2,3,0,1,1,2,15,2,12,8,1,22,0,1,1,0,14,6,0,3,9,68,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16323198363084668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16878830760878755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10363402732301512,0.0,0.2254631915781677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42169120470845306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22887885164810776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16168849294559393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401063368351108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16657101821978404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19982512373804576,0.39979703374262177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21082348633832884,0.0,0.0,0.1529861530665071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16939690849131595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640840395120941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220458823945568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937672412046061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15744758953437085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28181609711003996,0.0,0.0,0.25547248972268377
divorce,birdmanunited,2020/03/02,"Divorce and filing taxes Does filing jointly make a difference other than potentially being jointly liable for unpaid taxes? I have a prenup already and am not divorcing per se but am wondering if I file taxes jointly with my wife, that exposes me to some hidden alimony payment that's not covered under my prenup? 

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Has anyone had experience with this before?",8.868906249999998,10.187410578125,9.271875000000003,57.08562500000002,60.40625,10.775,39.4375,10.686352973137794,5.117075,303,15,36,7,4,101,50,64,0.038,0.9620000000000001,0.0,-0.316,0,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,1,0,11,8,4,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,1,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,6,6,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,3,0,30,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3328224800871486,0.0,0.0,0.3267828655658748,0.3664763294340392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21088533990835331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566389082822668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3151072210237689,0.0,0.0,0.26393170104020985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29502212321000226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20131996713092065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32707172564055864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3664763294340392,0.0
divorce,queer_fellow_30,2020/03/02,"One Week, One More Week I don’t usually post on most of the sub Reddit‘s that I’m a part of largely because I don’t really think that my stories are conflicts or ideas are terribly interesting but I did want to post here is some kind of personal record so here we go.

I was married to an extraordinarily emotionally abusive woman for five years and dated her three years before that. I had a lot of depression and self-esteem issues and I had a lot of bullshit ideas about what marriage was and what it was supposed to be and how it was supposed to be a part of my development.  My parents had a great marriage and I watched a lot of movies growing up with great marriages and so I made the assumption that getting married was just the next step or just something you’re supposed to do. I’m not blaming anybody for the choices I made. I was young and in love and I asked her to marry me and she said yes.

Like I said there was a lot of emotional abuse which is it’s own story and I don’t wanna get into it here. The long short story is that far too often I defer to her and let her make me feel like my emotions weren’t valid and my ideas weren’t worth her time and then ultimately what she wanted was the most important thing.  Just carried on for several years until friend made me an offer and I asked if she would consider opening the marriage which I acknowledge was a mistake but she said yes and so we tried it and I didn’t like it and she did.

It didn’t take long for us to split apart but that probably just shows that we were almost certainly not meant for each other. By the time we got to this point I didn’t feel like I could really be honest with her and I couldn’t be my real self and her apathy to my pain has just been building for sometime.

It’s been an amicable divorce for the most part. Neither of us are claiming any of the others money or property or goods. I’ve had to handle all of the court paperwork as well as cleaning up the house but she more or less trashed and then abandoned along with the pets that she had adopted and then abandoned and had to find myself again.

I spent my 31st birthday cleaning out my garage of all of her abandoned crafting supplies instead of celebrating with my friends. I had to clean litter boxes which hadn’t been changed in six months.  I had to dig my marriage photos out of a bucket which have been left in the garage.  I had to gather her things and continually text her and remind her to come over to the house to pick them up. And with each one of these experience I began to realize more and more and more that for sometime she and I weren’t really living in the same house or even in the same space.

She was occupying time and space and just waiting until she could find a reason to leave. I was occupying time and space and waiting for her to remember me or notice me or validate me.

This Friday is my court date and since there isn’t any contest it will be as simple as standing before the judge submitting my paperwork and being done. I’m not happy or excited or sad instead I’m just tired and ready for it to be done.

I’ve read a lot of stories here a lot of them heartbreaking so I know my sub par story isn’t necessarily as relevant but I did at least want to post something here so they can know to myself that even though it will still take years to completely get over all of this crap it didn’t break me. She left so many messages and just didn’t care and in fact one of the last real thing she ever said to me was that she didn’t want to even try marriage counseling because she was checked out.  It’s taken a while to realize that we weren’t meant for each other at all and that she was looking for something that I could never give her and that she was willing to hurt me simply because I was there and I didn’t deserve that.

I’ve got one week left and then it’s done.  I survived it.  I made it.  Thanks for listening.


Also please forgive any grammar and spelling errors I typically to talk to text.",4.398995489954898,5.080790328413286,5.20220787207872,84.58091738417386,70.07011070110701,8.137843378433784,28.216687166871672,8.226894021818545,1.7261511275112746,3159,107,658,43,54,1028,301,813,0.095,0.7809999999999999,0.124,0.9685,5,0,3,0,2,0,33.0,7,0,3,1,37,31,1,0,35,2,80,4,1,8,8,156,126,80,0,12,27,1,2,4,2,4,2,5,4,3,49,63,0,6,18,2,4,4,23,11,1,8,63,9,99,20,99,47,31,72,0,7,2,1,66,30,1,23,37,505,148,1,0.0,0.13689334548564405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057847185563145526,0.0,0.0,0.046197750021367515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11785445190481668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080122034362939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10564611358250244,0.0,0.09831411880223216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0588992201389594,0.0,0.061111811927780285,0.049762772281929685,0.06056956837765463,0.0,0.0,0.13837124263216438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04975624906291767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17735285412035715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949466332536197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114467395172188,0.052255256527115435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0565090466303217,0.0,0.0,0.05841935988757109,0.08254019446414235,0.0,0.0,0.105599413912042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892641820511819,0.0,0.09054556164343784,0.05541717072247362,0.03283138405197265,0.04845379315542382,0.0924060963600584,0.12738078154719695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06149604371555008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1999725833889369,0.06184277757364834,0.1956420912561396,0.0,0.060295698704860276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060157395623626674,0.06349652796432946,0.04708934501923815,0.0,0.061168899517104636,0.18829816148965373,0.05907259063713045,0.0,0.11289182102600565,0.0,0.05101097671707113,0.10224727643105974,0.04851130717011832,0.0,0.0,0.2946782000628415,0.05213866689014585,0.2186492326323912,0.03856117394327778,0.058568574038169535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0461105664300363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04455491923806098,0.0,0.06143785600432345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06577024929109537,0.0,0.0,0.19572843044012356,0.0,0.061470158077842535,0.0,0.06414550136143897,0.18767419258549015,0.0,0.0,0.05044155509866633,0.0,0.0634128792171334,0.054610261263940016,0.0,0.1659798459615574,0.0,0.06228462004937605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05778451002324452,0.13150725835954566,0.1110246654822583,0.05939602689203467,0.0,0.0,0.06544087620882795,0.0,0.21980572365653048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12053107515450555,0.0652623876904517,0.0,0.04778701197577003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13341991141203732,0.1142697928893618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04613429975114917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08687001207396614,0.04643243504199484,0.0,0.053185820397299376,0.0,0.0,0.11513722472866135,0.03701596374115779,0.05675762828957285,0.0,0.13474198684586014,0.0663968259028484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07844255079357222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13897769214055886,0.0,0.06362425642914253,0.0,0.1362943214479343,0.0,0.1390161255603269,0.0,0.051941158136513316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041037352711473296,0.0,0.0,0.14880505090146615
divorce,DyingMom,2020/03/02,"Husband and I separated today. I'm already having doubts and fears. I (F 31) have been with my husband (35) for 11 years. We are eachothers best friends. I love him but I dont know if I'm in love with him anymore. We have 3 kids (7,5, & 9 months). I've been struggling with my own anxieties about being with him for the rest of my life for a couple of years now and I've been honest with him about it. We've had our ups and downs, no cheating, but he is an alcoholic. He goes months at a time where he is good and then suddenly he binges. The last straw was today when I came home from work early because I was sick and he was already drunk while watching our kids. He's been bingeing for 2 weeks now. I made him leave but I feel terribly conflicted. I'm scared to let him back in because I'm over his drinking... BUT at the same time I'm questioning if i still love him because I already feel lonely. I don't know what to do...  I feel like this might be a chance to see how my life could be without him, and or a wake up call for him... Sorry I'm ranting. My mind is going a million miles a minute.",1.1698901098901118,2.801850128205128,2.7240903540903574,95.37884615384615,79.76923076923076,5.653724053724054,22.253968253968253,6.42735559955562,0.2271455433455433,846,26,199,7,21,277,129,234,0.114,0.775,0.111,0.7506,0,2,2,0,0,0,37.0,4,0,0,2,9,15,1,4,10,0,24,10,1,2,0,37,42,18,0,3,8,2,3,1,1,1,4,0,1,2,3,15,3,1,6,2,0,2,4,7,0,1,10,5,31,8,27,26,4,31,0,1,2,3,30,10,0,6,20,124,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306403275107366,0.0,0.0,0.4046937560216368,0.0,0.0,0.13244997276499967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09351537213107226,0.0,0.12123196424890699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09399713214487344,0.0,0.22355414446143412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12828622842671306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248235192787318,0.13981314460648114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09760089199603192,0.13525928208256452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432675971400324,0.11975136050763613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13755708363239938,0.18542882804844052,0.08733024780273542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094444448417489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06947337411983258,0.10253142219295147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12261944921443345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13436284122512407,0.09964415994161673,0.0,0.12943742590696306,0.0,0.1250014980502931,0.17268734443742298,0.059721634829598615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33098657417862865,0.11566904943481755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296802440127945,0.12343033393477243,0.0,0.19514599977875907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13693986092287969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12238632206257224,0.0,0.0974116480259153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13684075481577776,0.0,0.0,0.09762322116223758,0.0,0.0,0.12779466811099915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14256146568438002,0.0,0.2317436744312795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09805576359958464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178376525050398,0.0,0.08899418073452509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15744065123530998
divorce,ConfusedHeartbreak,2020/03/02,"Scared about the logistics of a divorce I (27F) am considering divorcing my husband (27M) and I'm concerned about the financial logistics of that. He's asked me if I'd be happier without him but we haven't actually talked about divorce yet.

We've been married 6 years and have a wonderful 2 year old together. I'm the breadwinner, and I make just enough to cover our current expenses. He's been unemployed since I was halfway through my pregnancy and has been a stay at home dad since our son was born. His unemployment ran out shortly after our son was born and he was supposed to get a job when our son was 1 year old. He's now 2 and my husband still is not working. 

My husband used to be in the military and ever since he lost his first job when returning to the civilian life he has just gone downhill. He doesn't help me with the house work unless I ask/tell him to, he rarely helps me with our son when I'm home, he doesn't even sleep in our bed anymore, and he's started not taking care of himself as well (showering and brushing his teeth less frequently to the point that he smells). I've tried gently approaching all of this with him and he generally agrees with my viewpoint and things get better for a week or so, then he just slips back into his old ways. I've tried to get him to go to therapy (I go myself and know it can help if you put effort into it) but he refused.

I've tried to help him look for jobs but most of the ones I find he turns down for various reasons. I had to write his resume because he wouldn't write his own. I've offered to take time off work to take him to the VA and when I have taken time off to do that he makes excuses about why he can't go that day and we get nothing done. I don't know what else I can do. It feels like I'm the only one fighting for us.

I love who he used to be and want that guy to come back. I've told him this a few weeks ago and I haven't noticed any change in him. It doesn't seem like he's trying at all. I already feel like a single mom, so I feel like making the jump to divorced mom wouldn't be that hard after the dust settles. I love his family and still love a lot of things about him, but honestly it feels like I'm living with an inconsiderate roommate at this point. My emotional and physical needs are not being met anymore and I'm nearing the end of my rope.

I'm just really scared about the financial stress this would cause. I can't afford daycare on top of our current expenses, but I don't want to have my husband watch our son anymore either. My husband refuses to get on/stay on a schedule. He frequently is still asleep when I leave for work or is asleep when I get home. Our son is getting behind in social skills, and it breaks my heart. I want the best for him and do all I can on the evenings and weekends but I want him to have an enriching daycare experience. He's such a happy kid but he's stopped saying words he used to say and I can tell his language skills are lagging now.

I want to sell our house and buy/rent something smaller for our son and I, but I can't afford to do that until the house is sold. I might be able to get my mom to watch our son for a bit, but she lives 40 minutes away and I'm not sure how that would work. If I wait until summer my grandparents will be around again and could help too, so that's kind of what I'm waiting for at this point.

I wish my husband would make some progress so I don't have to go through all of this stress. I wish we hadn't bought our house 2 years ago. I wish we would have rented instead because I feel like that would have been a much easier situation to leave.",4.230843225083986,4.3105845210526335,5.093751399776039,87.34381298992164,70.23684210526315,8.468085106382981,28.143896976483763,8.265842613841098,1.5954622060470325,2836,91,640,38,47,926,299,760,0.075,0.794,0.132,0.9933,15,0,1,0,6,0,58.0,18,1,0,14,38,23,1,4,31,0,65,9,5,10,6,122,133,57,0,20,25,18,6,6,0,9,1,2,6,2,27,41,0,5,11,1,6,10,19,6,1,3,20,13,90,17,88,96,17,87,0,1,3,3,112,25,0,11,55,397,117,10,0.0542761173289077,0.0,0.052965661088962473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09622500635710328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05989504513360585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036909620991026494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16148197188745814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048317251627834144,0.10148168593051653,0.0,0.05099419889103565,0.08346996792229784,0.0,0.06617243470198914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056959436566354466,0.04800281507552855,0.059255462732024984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05533811893041888,0.055756523541399934,0.05741693537765481,0.046754069142984564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04333506319926997,0.0,0.0,0.035003605525989516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05554331229291185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04534073146904426,0.06105332662934958,0.04807252994828678,0.05608173812146548,0.0,0.0716977272109793,0.04909585549035677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05309245751803899,0.051166692966953774,0.0,0.1372181786817486,0.19387434532326348,0.0,0.0,0.049607387943849536,0.046167237673001495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22685624912179184,0.0,0.12338547308653172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05374188943462919,0.0,0.05777793615692298,0.04862074021078713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06431746036407164,0.1819006867705803,0.0,0.16333011325500538,0.0,0.0,0.2505094085862172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16158201451994242,0.0,0.0,0.056520223964094875,0.05965746928174542,0.0,0.0,0.11494114279728332,0.0,0.0,0.038336826804892685,0.15909941600592736,0.0,0.095853611971983,0.0,0.0455782687668285,0.0,0.05924879362075381,0.04614361402071413,0.14695894491132186,0.0,0.14491891911201635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057578383302272225,0.0,0.1907025978968811,0.0,0.0,0.03989919132684818,0.04024505326919957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05207939841206622,0.061793719318644885,0.17086096473305526,0.0,0.07355780355804986,0.041279433004151565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15392542340197538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054562489079749935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03477067058031242,0.055804888288693115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08632509396756323,0.10867972398292017,0.0,0.0,0.0494109387478327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13469329538517896,0.06100862995786301,0.05431531489173167,0.055327666464193286,0.0,0.041784406810968885,0.0,0.0,0.03841691520304364,0.1157022388108261,0.1300349322305539,0.04537726441062154,0.12434621804081072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05115459825103134,0.0,0.12242665645558225,0.04362508716619242,0.047439718862175004,0.0,0.0620694703761349,0.0,0.07211728123984174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06329768098291902,0.0,0.0,0.051863156059680435,0.0,0.14739968355366465,0.05903682987441315,0.0,0.0,0.06528748630461292,0.1406314163323547,0.0,0.0,0.16006730123149854,0.04308185559037734,0.08707405487264264,0.0,0.04880074777833638,0.0,0.04897575377933135,0.0,0.1872445689605244,0.05232024025730341,0.05886013397904503,0.19756829920441155,0.0,0.0,0.19278098246286715,0.0,0.0,0.13980816018963768
divorce,Throw_sharks,2020/03/02,"Separated This Week 33(m) This past Thursday we decided to separate. Not married but have been together for 8 years and have lived together for 6. Neither of us were happy but it got especially bad over the past 6 months or so. We work together and plan on being professional, which I don’t think will be a problem. It still doesn’t make my emotions any easier to deal with. I’m very emotional and she is very guarded. Right now is my last night in the house and it’s especially hard because she doesn’t want to hang out and watch tv for fear of giving me false hope. I wanted to try and fix us and she doesn’t think we can be fixed and wants to focus on herself and her career. I didn’t have trust issues since very early on in our relationship and they have all resurfaced and I’m doubting so many things. She says she is upset but is not showing any emotion towards me other than being passive, or angry if I push her. I don’t know what stage I’m in right now but I feel like my emotions are riding a roller coaster as I’ll be accepting and then depressed in the same day. I was unhappy as well and had thought of leaving a few times but more in the way of fantasizing being alone instead of dealing with problems. We never communicated to each other how we felt, never had hard conversations for fear of upsetting the other. Then in the past two weeks it has all blown up. Sorry I’m on mobile so just typing without formatting, thanks for reading.",3.6168995502248897,5.250370531034483,4.830149925037481,82.89027736131936,73.0,7.664167916041977,27.091454272863565,8.321376580360154,1.819725637181408,1154,42,227,19,23,381,169,290,0.168,0.725,0.107,-0.9676,0,1,0,0,0,0,21.0,8,0,1,2,11,16,0,5,9,0,29,0,0,2,4,57,47,29,0,7,12,0,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,12,22,0,1,8,4,0,3,12,9,1,1,9,6,29,7,37,31,7,41,0,1,1,0,23,16,0,5,21,161,41,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032727964268876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13561678163332005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08325635145822388,0.06078423718646815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06430676067022077,0.20559984798801914,0.08588282735609169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4486556861417392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22441012896452103,0.05041798662448703,0.07123512528183422,0.09574030277175948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09565398106482938,0.0,0.0,0.07974974972797821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10614654852351836,0.17864687122145714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09903769996189063,0.0,0.11505563742306098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10407466759876337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05479976336214582,0.08127956115592126,0.0,0.10558187435203674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04871482958266786,0.0,0.08804857659422884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06655933087381627,0.10109352749344147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0795901196449672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15380992373232635,0.0,0.0,0.09357407724004678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855625776228207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908241190276456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09974017719678266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10705465308053216,0.0,0.1703090446637639,0.0,0.07929593357868066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08248378398035705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11162075636131834,0.0,0.0,0.07963108504646174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180251158396932,0.0,0.0,0.06624501498044469,0.12778437616474092,0.0,0.07916113748029771,0.058143564938279185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06769871296625403,0.0,0.0974053010488716,0.0,0.2398853885742603,0.0,0.0,0.24682148207277346,0.17644027482447974,0.0791476916462905,0.15996781826155634,0.0,0.08965413593120336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09611996015486887,0.0,0.07259239236670892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06421202731803985
divorce,singleforeigngirl,2020/03/02,"What should i do about my home- divorced Hi all, i got separated from the father of three of my kids. We were never married but lived together. we raised my first child and had two together.  The question is, i decided to stay and buy him out.  I thought i could afford it but now i feel tight on money. I kept the house because i did not want to remove the kids from the home they were born/raised in, school, friends. I thought just losing their dad from the house was bad enough so i just worked hard to keep paying the bills. Just wanted to keep it all together. Now, I feel that expenses are high and wondered if trying to keep the kids in the same school, friends, neighbors is worth the financial burden i am going through. How do i handle this situation and how do i break the news to the kids if the feedback is to sell and move away to a cheaper place.",2.705193798449613,4.5913510697674464,3.2889767441860487,91.90563565891472,76.09302325581395,6.447131782945736,23.675968992248073,7.3011,0.7880987596899223,672,21,144,8,15,210,103,172,0.08800000000000001,0.851,0.061,-0.5688,1,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,2,0,2,3,9,5,0,0,14,0,15,0,0,2,3,39,28,12,0,6,8,2,4,0,3,1,0,0,3,5,5,8,0,5,7,0,7,3,2,3,0,3,9,4,22,2,20,17,4,16,0,1,0,0,18,7,0,4,4,102,27,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373885049215716,0.0,0.122096480806232,0.0891408441394771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11675327141331235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15109534655844392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478772160529857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12438371222981505,0.0,0.0,0.2259548677078889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08310624563698839,0.0,0.11695400550731296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13099393560459394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545007054281728,0.29336252040126154,0.0,0.0,0.3374610628553057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3899295494289373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129124338910619,0.0,0.0,0.16359468779232256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15542003392252174,0.0,0.0,0.11278208852459255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15277990078081727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16381178924348594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2959864399445404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16436937219338624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15586241133295306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321815965671397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928100935864838,0.0,0.14284609235976858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725012466615478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15858089709662967,0.10645765141086837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Thisseasonishell,2020/03/02,"He walked out this morning. Been married almost 14 years, 2 kids 5 & 9. We got in an argument last night . He got physical with me (not the first time), broke a door down etc. and then left in the morning. I’m numb. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to implode my children’s lives but I don’t deserve to be abused. I don’t know what the right thing to do is. I don’t know how to shield my kids from this mess.",-1.2495014662756567,0.6152496021505414,0.9029716520039096,103.64718475073313,90.61290322580645,4.242033235581624,17.056695992179858,5.565023196281405,-0.8831204301075268,315,8,84,2,11,104,62,93,0.157,0.83,0.013000000000000001,-0.9093,0,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,1,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,5,0,10,1,0,1,0,12,17,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,5,4,0,0,3,0,0,1,6,3,0,1,3,0,9,0,11,13,1,13,0,1,0,0,6,6,0,1,6,47,14,0,0.0,0.29077699283496344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457479668181759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659073685620428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737029254610295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20875012374241986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3925620595197368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40462148232468603,0.200046219787916,0.0,0.0,0.2666444350530573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167062008564878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303056285712995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20958332018624165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16304301645046967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14310363153392358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14475229891751135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15803940310714232
divorce,robomotor,2020/03/02,"I'm having trouble with the judgement from my social circle. So my ex and I have two young kids and we're still pretty close to each other. I moved a block away and it's been working out pretty good as much as a split like this can. 

BUT over the last year I've had a bunch of our mutual freinds do the slow fade on me. All of my social circle were/are mutual freinds but it looks like she got most of them in the split. We have a bunch of freinds that are couples/married where I was close to the guys and she's BFFs with women. But all but one of those friendships have given me the slow fade pretty much. 

It really hurts and it's left me feeling pretty isolated. I kind of alternate between understanding that between my shitty and antisocial mental health episodes and drama they're just done with it. But not having guys I can be with has contributed to my mental healt being really shitty. I deal with multiple issues chronic pain, depression and some stuff I'm working on getting diagnosed. I don't expect people to understand it's just really hard when they don't. I don't blame them for being fatigued but it's hard not feel some resentment for being ditched too. 

There's a lot more to this story, but I don't think the circumstances are important. I just wanted to see how you guys out there have adapted, or overcome losing a big part of your social life because of divorce. I want to see if this is a normal adjustment I need to make and how maybe some of you have done it. Or maybe you're in the same spot I am. I just don't want to feel so alone in this so I'm asking for your help. 
 
I'm used to sharing my whole self, warts and all, with people I'm close to. But as I'm getting older I'm finding it harder and harder to foster those kinds of relationships. I'm just feeling kind lonely today after trying to make plans with a bunch of my old freinds for the next few weeks and getting faded or ghosted in response.

What did you do to find close freinds again? How did you manage the social isolation post divorce? What kind of self-care did you do to get through the low spots?

Im open to any and all advice. Or I'll listen if you want to vent your own stuff.",3.340230006609385,4.691636229213486,4.28429940515532,87.65785690680771,73.2247191011236,7.033046926635822,23.87475214805023,7.510576382923642,0.9660270984798413,1722,48,356,20,34,557,204,445,0.12300000000000001,0.7829999999999999,0.094,-0.9597,0,4,0,0,2,0,34.0,2,9,3,4,18,17,1,0,19,0,34,7,0,6,4,84,68,37,1,9,21,1,6,2,0,0,7,1,0,6,22,29,0,1,10,1,0,1,7,9,0,2,10,10,40,8,58,54,21,38,0,6,3,0,35,19,0,11,19,243,62,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07817542375308721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285624383554244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054402986633352884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07478953528878357,0.0,0.07516296960410475,0.0,0.0,0.0487674755785756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08247685608816614,0.06890419094770886,0.08119867917298235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16373628312130714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618023385824767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14623775540154854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16718754023058013,0.0,0.0,0.06710050453160775,0.06398359430465157,0.0,0.0,0.23763879558184126,0.0,0.0,0.1433292138347483,0.0,0.0,0.08503663935631313,0.0,0.0,0.05362255349836023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08564203763195563,0.0,0.08641411455462601,0.0834995887980144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.333232247449014,0.0,0.06521096911274818,0.0,0.0,0.08692062282789237,0.0,0.05650661860599445,0.07816826769411554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0671801519472654,0.08949993707950082,0.0,0.0680134433619306,0.0,0.0,0.1068017200892925,0.0,0.16074222437862234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161243088755432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08502771969355091,0.11761893588470268,0.05931925162805494,0.0,0.0,0.08508128810486958,0.0,0.0783833649600027,0.0,0.0,0.08394691800270787,0.0,0.05421031287100316,0.0,0.08512602114410954,0.0,0.0,0.08663259151974753,0.0,0.11092435022853912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07661822863123875,0.3255564981226933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15375083319929087,0.0,0.0,0.08589044497937685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12749985497116514,0.0,0.1669156412308483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3262011603790682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06388838907997893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831625395268194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05126099900555167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07583098499835544,0.0,0.0,0.0543149915849857,0.0,0.07814872506423667,0.1665663876684856,0.0,0.0690946231861754,0.0,0.0,0.18874513507361604,0.0,0.06417146148019101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931754250653011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11648242655653387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051517607508620125
divorce,Sparrow728,2020/03/03,"Frozen embryos My ex wife and I have been divorced now officially since the Fall. When we were together, we tried IVF several times ending in loss of the pregnancies. Naturally it tools its toll on the marriage. We have one embryro left that remains frozen but now requires a decision to be made whether to dispose of it or donate it to someone who lcan't use their own. My ex is for donating it and has been honest and thoughtful over her decision and what I end up deciding.  On the one hand I know I could really help someone who otherwise couldn't have children but the other is the prideful one that would be upset knowing the possibilities. 

Naturally I'm torn. Has anyone else experienced this? I'm not necessarily looking for a yes or no answer. What I'm curious of is how common 'free embryos' are? Is this something very difficult to come by or are there thousands for people to use? I would love any and all education!",4.790400000000002,6.762781840000002,5.9398571428571465,74.74064285714289,70.6,9.342857142857145,32.5,9.784248007369934,3.4620285714285712,742,35,131,19,14,247,112,175,0.071,0.76,0.17,0.9741,0,0,1,0,1,0,13.0,3,0,1,3,5,7,0,1,9,1,20,2,1,4,1,33,32,13,0,4,7,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,14,9,0,1,7,0,3,2,3,3,0,4,5,3,12,5,17,21,2,15,0,1,1,1,15,6,0,3,7,96,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12154501566739667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12497472860436674,0.18313375316571792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15396321918017514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14270428127082235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14930903566081147,0.0,0.3166099379430888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11980140261432427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19645468698499696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19419464108904466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15009125649661456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16131410349669495,0.16912210767034735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3633436545486109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239114129642101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014953428251167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11450135728777708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20191815767979845,0.0,0.14785032789386693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3028808948008269,0.1375979011468805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14189455876200738,0.10422103262248653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12134842058697355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30873698586790177,0.0,0.14747398536905235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539345233539192,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,chibinuts,2020/03/03,"Feeling Suicidal Hello,

As of today I am 2 weeks divorced. I've been struggling with huge waves of depression, shame, and suicidal thoughts. The worst I've felt in my life. I was only married for 3 months and dated for about 3-4 beforehand. The whole relationship was a mistake; I mean I even called off the wedding and later the honeymoon at some point (I swear it was temporary insanity on my part; I've always been the goody two shoes, super cautious girl).

I felt a lot of pressure to marry due to my own desperation to get married and have kids before my ovaries decayed, the encouragement of my family and my relationship coach (who I guess had low standards for men), and the pressure/guilt I felt from my ex (he was very emotional, needy, and manipulated me). So I went against my intuition and married him.

He was my first boyfriend, first husband, and first sexual partner. I regret that terribly. I feel so ashamed of having had sex with him. He was not right in so many ways. He was immature, didn't value me enough, didn't take care of his physical appearance, had questionable judgment, was not ambitious or growth minded. He had positives of course, but they weren't enough. When I tried to get him to make a plan for how to save the marriage, he checked out (literally started napping), and so I said it was over. He then proceeded to hire an escort and I witnessed the whole thing on the Ring app (I'd moved out by then). At the courthouse he was holding my hand, offering to give me a baby, and asking if we could keep dating after the divorce was finalized.

Now that it's over I feel like I've been in hiding. My mother, who was the only person to know the full extent of how shitty the relationship was, laughed when I told her I was divorced and said, ""Okay well if you tell people about the escort you'll seem less crazy."" She hasn't had any tolerance for my sadness or grief. My brother, who came to visit me shortly after the marriage and before consummation, taunted my decision, encouraged me to have sex with my husband and get pregnant (despite knowing I regretted the marriage), and basically gaslighted me by giving me bad advice, but pretending to be concerned with the rest of the family.  

In my culture divorce is a very negative thing and I feel like my family is ashamed of me and is avoiding me like I'm a pariah. Nobody has reached out to me to ask what happened or how I am. I feel all alone and like I need to get away from my family and discover a sense of self not so heavily tied to their validation, but I also feel weak and fragile. Each day is a struggle and I think about dying all the time. I feel like I ruined everything and like I'm a fuck-up.",5.1421469701124245,6.092113305182345,6.0016089936934485,78.547113243762,68.53934740882917,9.255629284343296,31.96824787496573,9.461161749540981,2.9159643652316976,2116,89,400,43,35,697,262,521,0.175,0.7240000000000001,0.102,-0.9876,0,3,0,0,4,0,72.0,1,2,2,6,17,34,0,7,31,1,39,6,2,5,2,84,79,45,4,7,11,5,12,6,1,1,2,3,0,6,11,33,0,3,18,3,1,6,8,20,1,4,34,15,65,14,62,42,16,51,0,7,0,2,60,21,0,11,29,277,76,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0791508450516476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08389006931516074,0.0,0.06477451070753637,0.06739728177629338,0.0,0.0,0.05508179116449394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15144541941529202,0.0,0.07610080348968051,0.0,0.06763040545437739,0.0,0.0,0.13784759946343125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08270857513897728,0.09264076227717882,0.0825834194044508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06467075080024957,0.0,0.0,0.052237363533362564,0.0,0.06976393192746674,0.0,0.0840637062766525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911124659912674,0.0,0.16738630765671753,0.0,0.05349877797667118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07279627340245279,0.0,0.3054328948290994,0.0,0.2866871022474329,0.1735961396706608,0.2333139291370916,0.08872995171224801,0.0,0.2066919742766318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07488185374593727,0.16927359592130334,0.15540237854371514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08922903404379452,0.0,0.07162674975065603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07199523238340462,0.0,0.0,0.08902936893278368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05721167086732919,0.2374307991122971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06886207018169936,0.0,0.0,0.05406716070217141,0.0821198158872641,0.0,0.08823116585726712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08178544482371929,0.0,0.06465226937613835,0.08608863941455001,0.0,0.06005939806634504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12320609353730246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08771353577129057,0.0,0.0561541954996251,0.07072480909421207,0.0,0.0,0.07656981024717299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907369127397364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26088638764984945,0.0,0.06917231863647977,0.15409633795999164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07373803729958135,0.08449915217272833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05733119017701601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16935454104954353,0.0,0.17719853293877386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0609008287703009,0.0,0.0707963023490249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10762367420596924,0.05190059989052318,0.0,0.06430380061404216,0.04723090554012408,0.0,0.07677715393876093,0.07739758508778523,0.0,0.05499269817203865,0.0,0.07912381323419349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13366457225234835,0.0,0.06429287835778598,0.06497215058787306,0.0,0.07282742346368128,0.07508646680246679,0.0,0.18086397560586626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,DadBod54,2020/03/03,"Infertility, Alcohol and Possible Divorce For the last year, my wife and I have been trying to conceive to have our second child.  It hasn't worked out and we recently went to the fertility clinic in December to see what could be done.  I got back results saying I had low sperm count and probably couldn't conceive naturally.  My wife then completely shut down and started telling me she doesn't like me, my family and doesn't want to be with me anymore.  Secondly, i generally have always drank beer which has never been a problem before.  Sometimes I drink too much, but that usually just involves me falling asleep in front of the TV.  Once every other week I will go to the bar.  

After our fertility results and divorce threat, she has started claiming that I drink way too much.  She says that I go missing which isn't true.  She says I drink liquor when I haven't had liquor in 4 years.  She has also come up with all kinds of other stories unrelated to those subjects that seems to be building a case against me.  I am curious if anyone has gone through a divorce where their spouse claimed they drank too much and what advice I can get.  I am currently not drinking at all, but I know this narrative could be very damaging especially if we are talking about custody.",6.962678571428577,7.217644291666666,7.025714285714287,75.22500000000002,64.41666666666666,10.19047619047619,35.89285714285714,9.957137785484203,3.5286607142857163,1010,45,184,20,14,324,145,240,0.092,0.888,0.02,-0.9415,1,0,6,0,3,0,20.0,4,0,2,1,9,8,1,0,7,0,29,13,1,2,4,34,45,15,0,7,6,3,0,1,0,1,2,3,0,1,13,14,11,0,2,9,0,7,8,5,0,2,10,4,33,3,24,27,5,32,0,3,1,0,24,10,0,3,15,136,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12351622531705313,0.0,0.1350827308329315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010817137092258,0.10517459208686344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12535443769181304,0.08838153860668896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09719348950307788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10755674903805493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108882062413275,0.1325275747717081,0.0,0.0,0.20183958925654816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12935067485188725,0.0,0.4952939450339609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10649711378633776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11915829272679865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06603857356292461,0.0,0.14367161006257614,0.0,0.10109330619926654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316257315368725,0.06946591401368653,0.10303254357166833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06175245941515482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27875474712178794,0.0,0.09748716309076308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346114477727217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14249655606248565,0.0,0.0,0.13628014631463586,0.12094734567110045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248043551202047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3015541034662564,0.0,0.0,0.10072411544739544,0.11506944775623427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12501243550944133,0.0,0.17893257359358358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159520980061387,0.11047882087488024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08581703068082187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13921130077456928,0.1042929068695074,0.07455375843207286,0.10033011832457847,0.10139013406753494,0.0,0.0,0.11717369468112662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09202041353479556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16279439525465805
divorce,trouble20,2020/03/03,"Anyone else the “bad guy”? And by that I mean the initiator of the divorce. 

I (30F) am in the midst of a separation and eventual divorce with my husband (31M) we’ve got 3 kids under age 10 and just bought our dream house 8 months ago. Married for 10 years. 

I have a decent post history you can navigate if you wish. Long story short is we had a dead bedroom for a long time. I thought I was LL but it was just that I wasn’t intimately attracted to him. Things took a turn when I found someone I was attracted to in that way and even considered cheating (I never did). 

So instead of cheating I felt the better thing to do would be just to end it. It’s been so many years of loss of attraction I don’t see how it could get better unless I continue to fake it. We’ve gotten marriage counseling and I’m getting individual counseling as well. 

Anyone have a similar story?",2.116334745762714,4.014239203389835,4.257708333333333,84.24046080508475,77.87005649717514,7.814830508474578,26.31673728813559,8.660442795831766,2.0065144067796608,677,27,140,15,16,233,113,177,0.11800000000000001,0.7440000000000001,0.138,0.3939,0,0,0,0,2,0,18.0,2,2,0,3,10,11,2,0,11,0,17,0,0,1,1,22,31,13,1,4,6,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,10,7,0,0,4,1,1,1,3,5,1,0,14,2,18,6,19,14,0,19,0,1,1,0,11,4,0,1,12,93,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14926649668491612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23548270548836564,0.17253420808867026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14059760072190772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978523902922701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13444474180379126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14066722154113254,0.0,0.14914248185200102,0.0,0.0,0.11121920347125697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616796391666616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18462960980734736,0.0,0.0,0.1759523789056667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13467589287230042,0.0,0.0,0.16673136983467782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942980479913191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2980375492426047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707197969301369,0.0,0.18342475023008364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344063205660284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12987181077011153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16126990775283734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13418405917907414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14267526992241786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22374005112897255,0.0,0.0,0.1336818849878577,0.09818885387792234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18708613443320785,0.0,0.18315864252653352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13365917858806947,0.0,0.0,0.15140173915797825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19363879092780445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11961856057631415,0.0,0.0,0.21687371162153488
divorce,Gettingstronger1970,2020/03/03,Walked out but hindsight Just wondering how many of you may have left but now have had time and you’re not certain if it’s regret or if it’s a fantasy things could’ve been different. Seemed like we struggled for years. He would say every so often he wasn’t happy. I’m not sure but was I responsible for his happiness? Seemed we just didn’t like or enjoy similar things. Not sure we did the right thing. I’ve sort of let him know my feelings but he said we were divorced and it was too late. He seemed sad though.,0.4403369272237185,2.8678510660377365,1.7232345013477115,96.1933962264151,90.2264150943396,5.292722371967655,17.94878706199461,6.868970318607317,0.055754177897574315,407,11,90,6,14,129,72,106,0.14400000000000002,0.6679999999999999,0.188,0.8245,1,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,4,1,0,0,8,11,0,1,2,0,13,0,0,1,3,35,21,13,0,4,13,0,1,2,0,2,0,2,0,0,6,7,0,0,6,1,0,1,5,3,0,0,9,3,9,8,5,9,0,8,0,2,0,0,14,3,0,11,6,56,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13543211710810812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17722248947581554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429167552224286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08576772282127859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.361138885612656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09322170973867208,0.0,0.19134489290092505,0.0,0.18429854479156346,0.17345351232368364,0.0,0.1657408508614594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719735797793971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448592051629459,0.16135264420378165,0.13489296394726866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4632619095636234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17732934713449444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31973995326115545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3380748298490015,0.0,0.1666561407212174,0.0,0.09890996240308672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839515618424955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12049705095880416,0.0,0.0,0.10923322666223276
divorce,thailok,2020/03/03,"Is this bad enough to call it quits? **This will probably become a quite lengthy post and I appreciate everyone who takes the time fighting her way through it**

I seem to have a lot of brain-fog around my current situation and my marriage. When talking with my wife and my kids I express my feelings differently compared to when talking to friends – I have difficulties finding my authentic standpoint on my issues and welcome any input a disinterested, neutral third-party can give.

# The pre-marriage backstory
Let's start at the very beginning, though. As a teen, I was bullied and had self-esteem issues ever since. One side-effect of this is that my relationships were always with rather vulnerable women who had quite a range of mental health issues themselves or were at least on an equal bad footing self-esteem-wise.

When I got together with my now-wife (NW), I thought I finally found someone who didn't have more than her fair share of issues. I just left a relationship with a chronically-depressed woman behind me and my NW's energy was a breath of fresh air for my love life. I also found her massively attractive. I was deeply in love with her, more than with anyone else in my life before.

I was so excited about the state of things that I wanted to commit as solidly as I could, and when we made a trip to Paris on Valentine's day I decided to propose to her – we knew each other for about a year at that time. Naive as I was, I thought that there was no harm in staying engaged for a couple of years – just wanted to show her how much in love I was and how much she meant to me. I also thought that, as long as we didn't earn any money – I was still going to university and she was doing her final exams at school – getting a divorce should be relatively painless, should it come to that.

Things took a rather unexpected turn when she got pregnant. She didn't like conventional birth control methods and she convinced me to use NFP instead (Natural Family Planning), which is (on paper) just as safe as the pill if you do it right. Well, we didn't, obviously.

As someone who deeply believes in duty and taking responsibility, I realized that this child should not grow up without a proper father. To make things easier around custody etc we decided it would be easiest to marry before the child's birth – and so we did.

# The road to now
(I initially had a very detailed account over the recent years here, but decided to cut it down to the essential bits)

I the recent years, we moved several times. There wasn't much stability. I also began suffering from depression, which made me irritable, moody, emotionally distant at times. It also forced me to think very carefully how to spend my limited energy – arguing with my wife was usually one of the things I avoided spending my energy on, especially since my wife is very tenacious in standing her ground on issues. She doesn't back off, never.

This got me into a very difficult situation. I am now in a foreign country, without a support network to speak of and very little social life. I'm working remotely and am still the sole breadwinner for our family of now 5. I always went along with my wife's fears, which was sometimes taxing but most of the time manageable. I was too occupied with my own issues (and blaming me for any issues within the relationship and the family) to get a clear idea of how much of the mess I'm in she might be responsible for.

However, recently she developed a severe contamination OCD. I started to go along with that, too, but it made my depression unbearable. I still think my wife is a loving and caring person, but the additional stress that the condition puts on me and our family life is just too much. I read up on the topic and realized how much I have been enabling her in the past: She didn't pursue any type of further education or job seeking in the last five years, she didn't ever consider hiring a baby sitter so that we can spend a night out, for a long time she didn't allow me to leave her alone at home in the evenings because she was too frightened of burglars.

A bits of this stuff have improved, but in the process it robbed me of my social life and left me deeply unhappy with my current situation. The things we used to have in common – mostly around politics and culture – usually require too much mental energy and time to be pursuable with 3 kids under 7.

She also seems to have high-functional Asperger's (her own self-diagnosis, aided by lots of reading and some assessments she did online). Again, I didn't realize that, but now that I do, it squashed all hopes of her becoming more versed in the arts between the sheets (happens rarely and is a rather dull experience), being more aware of my emotional state, or being just more flexible about stuff.

I feel like I need to be able to take better care of myself, but instead I constantly take care of her and my family's needs. To some extent that's just life as an adult, but I don't feel that my marriage makes me better at doing it, but is a constant drag to be my true best self. Even if I think the added challenges from OCD away, I still feel this to be true.

But then, again, is this enough to end a marriage? Divorce is shown to have long-lasting effects on the children of the splitting couple – Can I inflict this kind of damage on my children, just because I'm unhappy and made some bad decisions in the past? Should I rather just settle with an okay marriage, that takes the odd spell of anti-depressants to make it work?",6.871920393276246,6.907848151284491,7.240548525214084,74.350540516968,64.63273073263561,10.431975895972087,33.59659054868379,10.125756701596842,3.3103994164287984,4361,169,799,90,60,1425,436,1051,0.111,0.789,0.10099999999999999,-0.9578,5,2,1,0,4,0,119.0,11,1,0,16,63,47,3,3,62,1,77,14,2,17,9,163,141,71,0,17,30,6,4,2,1,7,8,2,1,11,51,58,0,6,26,4,6,9,16,18,1,3,47,6,121,29,150,76,32,126,1,5,0,4,87,53,0,16,60,595,172,16,0.04194933568114578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04344686050796456,0.0,0.1677343429416737,0.06981041555585915,0.0,0.0,0.1141079470687772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02933195087889391,0.04298205174847347,0.0,0.11203140759555837,0.0,0.0,0.0394127817601248,0.0322564497608419,0.1050778292065042,0.05114385134313931,0.09265949093581016,0.07139158990017806,0.04726253613913938,0.04402323972902024,0.07420155686673684,0.09159561956225012,0.0,0.0,0.046829332098423535,0.04283496194735223,0.0,0.17108057401437765,0.0,0.0,0.03613563824127783,0.0,0.0906646581935866,0.047049746990819055,0.033493131092883724,0.09283228408414246,0.0,0.027053851132385245,0.0,0.14452360541282858,0.0,0.0,0.043828127325828616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035043287140412445,0.09437471283013624,0.03715466019100376,0.08668975504577829,0.04678459809057308,0.055414281167578884,0.0758911515367766,0.0,0.04008438794262164,0.0,0.04103449974257788,0.19773050142458126,0.047204665250826124,0.08484337822757755,0.029968613792484142,0.0,0.09190689354273264,0.038340932836273836,0.0,0.0,0.09199056269422766,0.032409952687426864,0.0,0.04383359299683715,0.040241625250239915,0.047681548380830566,0.0,0.1006521476668697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03709565900302862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04459018218968528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04432177632547927,0.04207860402795487,0.04166515562808594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047355693893325175,0.0,0.30648945370082953,0.041628242774854905,0.0,0.0,0.04368377777421745,0.0,0.06838861496676744,0.0,0.044418289480423916,0.09115615191932908,0.042896037888419385,0.17778033828501444,0.04098865294203252,0.042044254838414015,0.0,0.11137152602761204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07132765014734034,0.15144365305459154,0.15877390285601478,0.08400452192728446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08455012755508821,0.04450161595914779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044585505036511694,0.2158631193464791,0.062209801738934464,0.03235391377181306,0.0,0.0,0.03936660981082275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05685191102976993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08009077514785116,0.0,0.036628541855470126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04017586771512346,0.0,0.04522847893900369,0.0,0.0,0.042170668843812535,0.0,0.13385484642807816,0.08392137553428469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12425972453869975,0.13511366226277935,0.0,0.03582450346442244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042454967277465484,0.0,0.07637819939450269,0.17504922370239734,0.09478161783203358,0.0,0.06940184793583512,0.1414584327416208,0.0,0.08552412984503457,0.07108707198379037,0.0,0.04148896563038911,0.0,0.05938391141432161,0.0447124102993857,0.13400317465251596,0.0,0.04805282229074189,0.0,0.09604390612856424,0.0,0.04760360900884562,0.0,0.0,0.157703398864907,0.06743457401582266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139346373139077,0.08063832139362874,0.04121500931831505,0.09990926023369094,0.17122696488308206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04660725545798622,0.0,0.04562883116610533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0724615144606014,0.09240253339055478,0.20767557136068635,0.049485610109099874,0.03329743008284113,0.0,0.0,0.037717490690035715,0.03888745444883217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08087532526217966,0.0,0.06107923198010155,0.0,0.0,0.029799604482646742,0.0,0.0,0.13506998407831175
divorce,motabeel10,2020/03/03,"Going through divorce with uncooperative defendant I don’t know where to begin... and don’t know what I am looking for. Long story short, I filed for divorce in last month of 2019 on basis of irreconcilable differences. 

Legally married in 2017 but had actual wedding in end of 2018. Did not live together till the actual wedding, did not have any joint accounts. 

Tried to serve her via regular post, then a process server to no avail. Field a motion to have her served via regular and certified mail. She didn’t respond to anything but on day of motion showed up in court without an attorney and judge granted her another month to respond to divorce complaint (5 days before motion date an attorney reached out to my attorney and advised he is representing her and demanded half a million dollars for settling the matter). 

All I know is she is after money. It seems like her family is running the show instead of her... 

Can anyone provide me with timeline of how long can it take? Any advise is welcome.",6.7661231884058,7.898071771739127,7.1921739130434785,70.8086231884058,64.97826086956522,9.828985507246381,37.61594202898551,9.928628108626363,4.074005072463768,802,41,129,17,12,262,117,184,0.043,0.89,0.067,0.5574,1,0,0,0,3,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,8,0,16,0,0,1,1,20,24,10,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,8,0,0,4,2,3,5,7,0,0,2,4,1,14,2,31,20,1,29,0,0,1,0,20,10,0,1,14,89,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.3695720812933169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25753979406562644,0.1985583174091618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13240347903797162,0.0,0.1558254556899224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16112966566498185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442404206997806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978387513881493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16771493625070574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785098196068192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10761648479511902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3121985259012651,0.1543519997284572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251072785803306,0.0,0.1672065360256116,0.3351516479465731,0.1590129841069161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30228741275463666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18135256944942293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17238436277630567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423736099384466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12856161594350454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18253430324583889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ny321,2020/03/03,"Any tips for preparing to start the process? Husband and I have been together for almost 11 years and have one child together. Unfortunately, I am not financially independent. In a little over a year, I will be. In order to protect myself and my child, I plan to not drop this bomb until I am financially independent. Any tips for how or where to stash some cash between now and then? I don't have the ability to do odd jobs on the side because he works 6 days a week, 13 hour shifts and he takes our only car. 

I hope this kind of post is allowed here, if not can someone point me in the direction of where it is allowed? I just want to be able to take care of myself and my child. I'm taking the steps now but I'd feel much better if I could save in the mean time.",2.9201687763713053,4.131751924050634,4.481708860759493,86.38222573839663,74.0632911392405,7.79831223628692,24.55907172995781,8.344100000000001,1.2968464135021105,596,18,132,10,12,200,100,158,0.046,0.8440000000000001,0.11,0.8717,3,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,3,7,5,0,0,9,0,15,0,0,5,0,27,25,13,0,5,8,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,6,0,1,2,0,1,2,4,0,0,1,1,1,15,5,21,20,2,27,0,0,0,0,7,11,0,6,11,87,18,2,0.19321311242713526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934750225195105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26278308402078443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177809199963088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708812966447638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19699364509838607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15426494837901966,0.0,0.0,0.12460647339351998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09769435504762178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919042165495283,0.190275995923056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917342008116024,0.0,0.0,0.20120172415806264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19365029755788804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104657217979833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14203386901959225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13092620537527902,0.14694727851713202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18264884324067396,0.0,0.1850447526678888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637088431592631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13675723543835838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4358166446300355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11266411963495368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11396209968865165,0.0,0.15498390435376622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14066144700401725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24884581932470215
divorce,SecretRedditMwahaha,2020/03/03,"Questions aimed at people who divorced in their 20’s/early 30’s - Why did you divorce?
- What was the process like?
- Do you regret divorcing at all?
- Do you still keep in touch with your ex?
- Why did you marry your ex in the first place?
- Were the worries you had about divorcing valid?",0.008888888888890278,1.5791934074074092,0.5872222222222234,98.86750000000002,114.92592592592592,3.2814814814814817,17.462962962962962,5.46131890053228,-0.38908148148148136,220,7,44,2,12,66,39,54,0.113,0.8440000000000001,0.043,-0.6199,0,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,0,7,1,1,2,2,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,0,1,5,8,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,1,8,1,7,3,1,8,0,1,0,0,16,6,0,1,3,30,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2758928921426114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28829817343782416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15846157084733248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22486422305297132,0.0,0.33887787984492423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3633474792739628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25902721887442154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5853528621638103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3293943009659745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Massiveloadzz,2020/03/03,"what do you think about this My wife is a stay at home mom, we have two children together a  3 and 5 year old....  I pay all the bills and I am a very active dad,  (I change diapers feed them, I wake up in the middle of the night if they cry, need milk etc..).  My wife will stay at home and let dishes pile up and have a mess and the front door of boots jackets etc.... she drives my daughter to school at 9 am and picks up my son at 1pm.  I drive my son to school and pick up my daughter at 3.   Anyway she says that she has no time to clean the kitchen etc and a fight always starts out when i mention it.... She says by the time she gets home 930 she has no time to clean...   And whenever a big fight breaks out I do say you things like your stupid and lazy not going to lie..but im not barging in the door yelling,  She is the one who initiates  the yelling when i upset her and somehow turns it into your such an asshole im sick of your yelling etc.... 

She thinks i was talkin to an old ex for some reason and i found in her email she contacted an ex, i contacted him and he told me they spoke on the phone once and she never even mentioned meeting etc just wanted to see what he was doing in life and told him about me the kids etc and vented... She also was talkin on the phone she claims talk to text, which i dont see the difference to someone i heard her but still has not shown me who or what it was about...she says it was in a reddit chat....also she claims it was woman i do not believe her.

Like its so hard for me to make a decision because 1. i am obsessed with my kids i couldnt spend a day without them,  I actually dont go and see my friends on weekends and when i do its when the kids are sleeping, thats how much i love them...  SO i mentally couldnt be apart from them if we did get a divorce...

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any thoughts or similar scenarios or advice would be greatly appreciated",1.5259645964596444,2.798514326732679,2.941476147614761,95.7787413741374,77.76237623762377,6.184098409840987,21.895889588958894,6.714681859716394,0.18943333333333312,1444,39,353,13,33,471,199,404,0.068,0.879,0.053,0.4555,0,0,0,0,6,0,59.0,2,5,6,0,16,11,3,2,27,0,32,9,2,5,2,55,53,32,0,7,12,10,1,2,1,2,2,9,8,5,17,24,4,0,6,1,3,5,12,6,0,2,13,13,64,5,41,33,9,47,0,0,3,1,73,23,0,7,18,237,81,3,0.0,0.0,0.08131011912649165,0.0,0.0,0.08142116035454541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13326492774054738,0.0693304649291781,0.09027920392856094,0.10124518377875784,0.05666172418113038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050792234420255065,0.0,0.0,0.09387520696354316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08814348314455517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915251541942769,0.05373570869613933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08705361285361618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953052061627569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5575554154177104,0.05503330479375715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09135812227882133,0.06437426479302429,0.0,0.08706446904202744,0.0,0.09470746998034822,0.0,0.0,0.09186264829223363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07464002331467448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25073586721407626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18000382064498646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08520225031590288,0.05885269607419458,0.0814137071857992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07520123460980276,0.0,0.05561799066799526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08396884055968913,0.0,0.0,0.09758555910833423,0.0,0.0,0.061251156563261876,0.06178210576989365,0.06426295750333991,0.0,0.0,0.07819192420323062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17486455829280828,0.08873506494006403,0.05646105086786585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08566875257108357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2650435595363829,0.0,0.16865234773138002,0.19919021167528808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833820372188263,0.0,0.0705983442706565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058975643603979326,0.17762003961601722,0.0665409475553898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06697095743653204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055355343520032116,0.10677857105444577,0.0,0.06614825221115762,0.14575694540583228,0.0,0.0,0.1592352218697116,0.0,0.0,0.09063026064899413,0.08139335317267428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06874926328315706,0.04914539369018238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08031930274414212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05918946097189129,0.0,0.10124518377875784,0.053656548064138165
divorce,nadiapeters,2020/03/03,"Some insight please? I'm officially divorced this week but I dont feel sad. I'm my normal happy self, ex is getting married very soon and I'm so okay with all of this it's scary.
He pops around every morning, tucks the kids in at bedtime and  goes to his fiancé s house",0.15932330827067887,2.4345898947368454,2.076942355889724,94.67526315789476,88.64912280701756,3.95889724310777,20.423558897243108,5.288315135182226,-0.2201809523809524,212,7,46,1,7,70,50,57,0.069,0.7190000000000001,0.212,0.8388,0,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,10,7,4,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,2,6,7,2,5,0,1,0,0,6,3,0,1,2,22,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2754264945851178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3626077787312865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606780154905475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564390385395871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616457356463886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3293559522515699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3569994460723099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031406927555592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3396219977366058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3227656986930661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552826741110369,0.0,0.0,0.2481774200197735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,goldsilver1234,2020/03/03,"It feels real. I just paid the retainer to my attorney.  We've been separated since September and I just couldn't make myself pull the trigger.  Today I finally did it and I'm really proud of myself. Years of mental abuse, being lied to, and anxiety held me back until this moment.  I know I'm in for a tough journey, but in the end it will be worth it. Just needed to tell someone.",1.0149206349206352,3.4203677792207827,3.6843290043290047,83.88617604617605,85.49350649350649,7.058585858585857,20.243867243867246,8.167268648758528,1.3674369408369411,297,9,58,7,9,104,57,77,0.095,0.843,0.062,-0.1163,0,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,2,0,16,14,5,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,2,2,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,4,1,8,1,9,6,0,11,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,7,40,13,0,0.0,0.3375791281254001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179601266876748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190829845798937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25235120126513305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440622004417181,0.0,0.0,0.3121117898915807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15658250204306912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901837877229576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.287128534428272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112617652615081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3242970318366041,0.18252462475295134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23568563952131985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24140858666598744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490293324571884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700672599971708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834767028512745
divorce,Glacial_Ivy,2020/03/03,"Told my husband I want a divorce and he lost his shit... I'm a 32F, married to a 49M for 9 years.  We have 2 kids (under 6), a house (mortgage), and 2 cars (paid for).

Just before the new year, I came home with the kids and husband started yelling at me.  My eldest begged him to stop.  When he finally did, I told him I wanted a divorce and his behavior is why.  He completely lost his shit and said I can't make that decision and it's my fault.  Needless to say, I haven't mentioned it again.

Emotionally, I am scared, done and feel hopeless right now.

History.
He has been verbally abusive for a while.  He yells, puts me down, shames me, gaslights, and so on.  Physically he has grabbed me, thrown stuff at me, forced doors open when I have tried to distance myself, and more.  I refuse to have sex with him, and he has pinned me down on the bed before.

I have never filed police reports because there aren't any bruises.  It's his word against mine.

I feel that any further action on my part could result in serious injury to myself, or my kids.  However, I have to do something 

I'm not sure what to do next.  I can't imagine where I could get money for an attorney.

Ideas?",1.3487429378531068,3.488907546610172,2.7950000000000017,92.53806497175144,81.58474576271186,5.797740112994353,23.816384180790962,6.996647511020387,0.7965909604519781,895,33,194,11,24,291,139,236,0.165,0.8290000000000001,0.006,-0.9866,2,0,1,0,3,1,46.0,1,0,0,2,8,10,2,2,10,0,21,3,2,2,2,34,37,15,0,4,3,2,3,0,0,0,0,4,3,3,7,15,0,2,5,0,2,4,6,9,0,0,10,7,36,1,24,25,2,30,0,3,0,1,28,13,2,1,13,122,43,1,0.0,0.1685658418011972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19349598842686866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08672603724640494,0.0,0.242121370298151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16271816408356238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14916664129864868,0.0,0.0,0.2271808992382277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14559087609206478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16003379966657727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14387125308393048,0.0,0.0,0.15584905053611373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07432983084089555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427076954264093,0.0,0.0,0.1641596564903941,0.0,0.16060470866251256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31060746702152664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09496585423537147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10972684524735678,0.13740456453376182,0.15130500140951827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15406377446764813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430199291139189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214971942939624,0.13533067187977368,0.11313824779829733,0.14243637600035922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2920747585851049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10952584826981114,0.0,0.0,0.1006989340439363,0.0,0.0,0.1189434948597178,0.0,0.0,0.16286429671302893,0.0,0.0,0.13408711990796573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718888023029173,0.0,0.0965915075027393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16782822383432325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12837590351830805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832335135100204
divorce,pinkwetfeline,2020/03/03,"That's what you chose My STBX husband and I have been going through a divorce for almost two years.  I don't want the divorce, he moved out after I caught him cheating.  Our daughter does not want to spend any time with him and has not spent one single night with him since he moved out.  They do, however, see each other every day.  He normally takes her to gymnastics.  I try to occasionally take her to gymnastics because I want her to know that I care about her activities.  The last time husband got upset that I was going to take her and he couldn't.  Whenever he gets upset about these things I remind him this is his choice.  He chose to leave the home. Before he left I strongly encouraged him to stay for a year to mend an already shitty vacation with his kid but he left anyway.

I am just shaking my head at the dumb decision he made.  And when the divorce is final his exposure to his kid will be even less.",3.287200736648252,5.07170328176796,4.175668508287295,86.61716758747698,74.19337016574586,7.257605893186003,24.77384898710865,8.021203637495839,1.3470218047882143,718,23,145,11,15,231,110,181,0.10800000000000001,0.862,0.03,-0.8668,1,0,0,0,3,0,15.0,1,1,1,1,6,8,2,3,8,0,12,1,1,1,0,23,28,6,0,5,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,8,10,0,0,2,0,2,6,4,5,0,2,6,1,29,3,22,19,3,22,0,0,1,0,35,5,1,1,10,95,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15327135609582607,0.0,0.1689097870730372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10408868060177487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933063146599598,0.0,0.13024607995608842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560588169640592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09871353369873537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13394722439678067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109724276701733,0.0,0.12896291233570406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16767398823334803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07996955476424329,0.0,0.17397944972295026,0.0,0.12241915974604575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15708768987659652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15353554199671698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08411990016217581,0.12476748347392555,0.0,0.16207253799135646,0.3326086859243533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14483273502691066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3253653413231298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14364007346494928,0.1499700943773579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10372003985334087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12197208739942585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12661601524759605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16314571996578256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3452549443421937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10168883412088227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785055473819663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10392032057136404,0.0,0.1495211602529977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27084310938967743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19713622818070906
divorce,midlifemessdude,2020/03/03,"40 and I want kids. Do I leave my wife to go for it? First time post.  Here we go.  Last Christmas I (40) told my wife (40) I was really unhappy and I thought I maybe still wanted kids.   It was a really tough day.  She cried her eyes out and we started to work on things.  3 months later we had another blowout and I decided to go start seeing a therapist.  She did not start seeing anyone.  
The problem is, I am really having doubts about not having any kids.  We got married at 30 and I loved her so much I didn't really think about what I wanted.  She didn't want kids and I just thought it would be too much work.  To make the problem even worse, she has now decided that she would actually try but has ruled out adoption or fostering any kids.   I know I'm kind of a bad dude for asking my 40 year old wife to have kids but I don't know what else to do.  My biggest mistake was not bringing up these feelings right away, probably around 37.   And honestly, for whatever reason, I don't really want to have kids with her for some reason.  I just know deep down she does not want to be a mom.  
She has come so far on the last year though. Exercises more, eats better, our sex life is light years better.  She is even going to quit smoking in a few weeks.  But still I have this gut instinct that I need to leave her and try and find someone who WANTS me to have children before it is too late.  Now I'm under a month away from my 41st bday and the stress is consuming me.  Any advice would be amazing.  And no I have never cheated and don't want to.  Am I a complete moron for thinking I could meet someone else and still have a child at this stage of my life?   I see so many women in the early to mid thirties who are waiting to have children now.",1.2183571428571405,3.17610110555556,2.810873015873017,93.23000000000003,81.0,6.003174603174603,20.563492063492067,7.110495986334442,0.3665492063492071,1338,37,300,17,35,439,176,360,0.096,0.821,0.084,-0.2945,0,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,5,0,0,6,20,15,2,2,13,0,39,8,2,3,1,66,76,21,0,16,10,4,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,11,14,22,1,1,13,1,0,6,11,9,0,1,11,6,47,6,39,58,5,52,0,0,4,2,38,19,0,3,25,198,61,2,0.0,0.0,0.08023911265433707,0.0,0.0,0.08034869126156087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16774614962816126,0.08621940890824244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057493183106123766,0.0,0.0,0.07319711142662676,0.07686867549952707,0.0,0.1545049824890473,0.0,0.06865390463237811,0.0,0.0,0.06996687276811321,0.0,0.0,0.1454415259766597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07082900399773127,0.0862106752504947,0.0,0.0,0.06564945941274483,0.0,0.09031959658890032,0.053027908825500264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07195509001246812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08413604583231855,0.13737580105208327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10861682630712144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041575106101195115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07515157382871662,0.0699399971306218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18691999063827466,0.0,0.06576233063765632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08562401610141422,0.13556507083892966,0.13404765263969462,0.09275265755690702,0.17412744627200352,0.0,0.0,0.11615499180274085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07421069358186724,0.0,0.054885397620369925,0.08336259365110411,0.08260541957589601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09630017462585354,0.1312613965921132,0.0,0.12088872835230507,0.060968319787856676,0.06341649406010229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862806323668028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07874820630001347,0.0,0.0886517651685655,0.15735521242310554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874557262045728,0.0,0.0,0.2633751468781284,0.16908066947519926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07021915268677394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19656650372619264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393368638491454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17459647194613254,0.0,0.19699343615708825,0.0,0.09418772457837378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954688173803524,0.05462621002699093,0.10537209739636612,0.08078501451342399,0.1305539118151232,0.04794568453149293,0.0,0.0,0.07856889796376712,0.0,0.1116498838182236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3879844548857385,0.0,0.0659554204983941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11972062419960695,0.0,0.08379364568918969,0.1752294749249371,0.0,0.0,0.15884937266160662
divorce,Pleasant-Mine,2020/03/03,"Separated from my ex-fiancee. Her (33F) me (40M). I am worried about chances of her going after child support. Hello everyone. I know this is a subreddit for those that are going through a divorce. Technically my ex and I were not married, but we were together for nearly 8 years and have a 5 year old together. At one point we were going to get married but things fell through due to infidelity on her part. 

We wanted to keep things amicable between us during our separation. No courts, no child support, no fighting. As of now, all has been going well. However, I am worried that she might go after me for child support once she moves out. She didn't outright say this, but she inferred at the possibility due to her new boyfriend and the fact his ex is getting child support even though they are 50/50 with custody. 

As of right now, my ex makes around $10K per year more than I do. I also pay 100% of our daughters health insurance and have never asked my ex to help out with the premiums. We agreed on 50/50 custody, one week on one week off and we alternate years for claiming her on taxes too. 

We live in Arizona and currently still reside in the same house until she decides to move, which is soon I believe. We also split costs down the middle. The only thing that is not split down the middle is the cost for health insurance. What are the chances of me being taken to court and ordered to pay child support?

Anyway's, thanks for reading.",3.7997422360248407,5.666206707142859,4.582111801242238,83.89419254658384,73.0,7.15527950310559,28.60248447204969,7.893859768569023,1.8627282608695648,1138,46,217,16,23,366,158,280,0.065,0.825,0.11,0.9337,2,0,0,0,3,0,39.0,10,0,1,0,13,8,1,0,12,0,21,2,0,2,3,35,40,16,0,1,5,5,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,5,11,19,0,1,3,1,5,8,7,1,1,3,6,1,36,7,47,32,4,47,0,0,0,0,38,19,0,1,19,161,47,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16074677373213608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08947028483565674,0.09395811061173318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11323411874882044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06638225333102503,0.0,0.0,0.09603632633903036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10501887287595107,0.0,0.28559502687221383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21366309967936914,0.0,0.0,0.06736602645581778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115968662253697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08933298919061694,0.0,0.0,0.05523462727479917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887472867012103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06708751291825499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10661935811479928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2136406881305557,0.0,0.0,0.07751524173906274,0.09706784161956726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10546253264920924,0.10703397846579048,0.20431328607790936,0.07643817693074784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10883654491451683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095009208314119,0.11330368676216054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10053166608365788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08583026665064207,0.0,0.07992518702464252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08026299808928443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5702563971081682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09253101106881176,0.0,0.0,0.20031210830661544,0.0,0.09874512966558738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12089450039233525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059280139294210124,0.0,0.16123724402327222,0.0,0.09036558696574433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20413433201296602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25888632927354105
divorce,dhamernick,2020/03/03,First post just trying it. This is my first post.,-1.032,0.625173800000006,-0.6600000000000001,108.70000000000003,111.0,2.0,5.0,3.1291,-2.9819999999999998,38,0,9,0,2,11,8,10,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,7,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6418948084653888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7227347279631019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561748774983271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,sweetjane_20,2020/03/03,"Married for 3 months. Can I get my marriage annulled? Hi All, I was married very recently three months ago. My partner and I had been long distance ever since we started dating and even now. Long story short, he isn’t a US citizen so we thought getting married would be the best option to reunite. However, the distance has been taking its toll on me and my love for him has diminished greatly. I’ve also realized that with our time apart we are heading towards different directions in life. I want to annul the marriage but I’m not sure if just being long distance is a good reason for the court? If not, I understand divorce is the best option. 

Don’t get me wrong. I wanted to try to work this out, but it turns out we would have to wait an additional year apart to be together. At this point I’m ready to move on with my life and spare him the time and trouble of following me to the US. I suppose this was a rather brash mistake to marry, but I suppose love blinds you.",3.2297164948453627,4.9753268556701045,4.344935567010307,85.507506443299,74.25773195876289,7.1180412371134025,29.135309278350515,7.865858978985527,1.9273515463917528,766,33,150,11,16,250,118,194,0.065,0.8109999999999999,0.124,0.9212,2,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,7,1,0,3,7,10,0,0,11,0,19,6,1,1,3,38,35,12,0,8,9,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,6,14,0,1,4,0,0,2,4,3,0,1,6,1,25,7,22,24,3,27,0,0,1,2,19,11,0,4,14,106,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12306036287037884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11101864208518457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2913774370348159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14504302146824005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09169288381047977,0.12557554466981827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21759166400626545,0.0,0.0,0.11644017982485133,0.0,0.15305552097860295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14247493701787334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1961130062346085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3685683971957884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505907320420806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216182592647309,0.14754945645081424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13123489881294245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14273565807336694,0.1370733590016061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11483782600677833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09826135022953178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308413199766063,0.0,0.10437944243945484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11021188036943083,0.16190044325284644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09425335072349396,0.15100219749740346,0.0,0.1445221631959438,0.3339797859082175,0.0,0.0,0.11454551446442834,0.16376566482212646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010665626835106,0.0,0.0,0.19723519741508275,0.15178380887798154,0.0,0.08939902202410617
divorce,dclifeisstressful,2020/03/03,"Separated wife wants to file ""Married Filing Separately"" last minute, screwing me over. Any advantages to her? My wife and I, who are separated for the past 1 month is now telling me that she wishes to file separately. If we had filed jointly, I would have had to pay $2000 in taxes. Now, I will have to pay $6000 in taxes, if I file separately. The only amount she will get back is around $450 or so, as a tax refund. Clearly, she's doing this out of spite. Unless..... there's some other reason in doing this? I explained to her that filing jointly does not negate the fact that we are separated in the state of Virginia. Does she gain some type of advantage in receiving aid, maybe by showing less income? Will her  tax return not show my name, or something? It's still going to say that she's ""Married."" I don't get it.",3.2457951864086847,4.817787699386503,4.647239263803684,84.07655969797077,73.84662576687117,7.2239735724398315,24.808400188768285,7.882392219407189,1.2933326097215665,637,20,129,9,13,212,97,163,0.051,0.867,0.08199999999999999,0.7236,1,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,2,0,0,3,7,4,2,0,5,0,15,1,0,1,2,22,21,8,0,5,7,2,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,10,5,0,0,2,2,7,2,4,2,0,0,2,1,20,2,22,15,4,19,0,0,0,1,18,8,1,6,8,89,30,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17009543402093802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22266671034994975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192332785331348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4377769251747416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26136283114445,0.0,0.14215335346869878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038874845036292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.251286924791832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19964956816911975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19023341027225546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387752213548449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571729657224862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1989116107271976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925605471144538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.199752328722248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21862266132872912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14753181606579685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28763454595525945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17768356326918908,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,HondaCrv2010,2020/03/03,How do you know when it is over? I guess if I have to ask it is the beginning of the end,-1.7999999999999972,-0.8510037272727242,1.5727272727272743,103.37909090909092,86.27272727272728,6.218181818181819,15.545454545454547,7.1686216300943375,-0.6880727272727265,66,1,21,1,2,24,18,22,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,4,8,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,3,8,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,3,17,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5247394913850366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4971449712005697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6183349502638184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30847566042266483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,avocado_sandwhich,2020/03/03,Divorcing my abusive husband but why do i feel so sad ? After 5 years of physical/emotional/verbal and sexual abuse i finally left my husband found out he wasn’t exactly faithful & was abusing drugs .. left him a fee months ago and since then found out he was a serial cheater / liar ... when i left i didn’t cry  (all i felt was anger and resentment )i haven’t till today .. recently met up with him to sign the divorce papers (which i had to pay for myself because he refused to cooperate) i got home and just felt so empty and sad so so sad and i honestly have no idea why because i havent loved him for a while.. am i crazy?:( maybe im sad cause i feel like i loved this person with my whole heart and found out everything was a lie ?,1.1555,3.38665326666667,3.091583333333337,89.59537500000002,83.0,6.95,22.708333333333336,8.07648339933343,1.310233333333334,570,20,122,12,16,191,92,150,0.38799999999999996,0.5529999999999999,0.059000000000000004,-0.9969,0,0,1,0,2,0,23.0,0,0,0,0,6,12,3,0,5,0,12,4,1,1,2,27,23,16,0,0,2,2,4,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,12,0,1,8,0,2,0,5,7,0,0,14,4,20,5,14,9,2,18,1,4,0,2,15,7,0,0,12,72,22,2,0.0,0.4335000801284206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10810821352838636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321412037618435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14868866152956625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12528423495747995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13396489472027698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414323058586908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10960778885167513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233310360581353,0.08712666245653625,0.2341971888188384,0.13359878682701526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4011612329091205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975407777841686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14452055659707005,0.0,0.0,0.12233359724850908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13767548895683476,0.13173533054512518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3975224546974511,0.0,0.0,0.05958241102102967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22014331614132435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12252298232883364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09734553651372252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10648882943384623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12041859473149442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008847359580214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11560171536567584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200958544036003,0.1361615060944477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07853681182779397
divorce,tayburch96,2020/03/03,"Blindsided I’m 23 and about to be divorced. What a freakin sentence I thought I’d never say. My wife and I were married only 7 months. One day she told me she was not attracted to me anymore, not in love with me, and wanted to explore with other people. 

I was completely blindsided. This was supposed to be the honeymoon phase. Wtf happened!? How can you go from one end to the other that quickly?

The main reason I’m posting this is just for anyone’s opinions. My wife is in military, and was in a new base after we were married. She started acting a lot different once she got settled there. (PS- I’m also a woman, gay pride!) She mentioned another girl one time and I really never got it off my mind.

I’ve asked her countless times if she cheated with this girl or anything and she strongly denied it. But, tonight I found a playlist titled that girls name on her spotify. And I know, that sounds super “high school” but it’s just confusing. Did she fall out of love with me for her? Why can’t she own up to it if she did? I’m so hurt. So emotionally exhausted. I just needed to vent.",1.0621700776287923,3.515546995412848,2.835963302752294,89.6640649258998,85.92660550458716,5.7391672547635855,23.980945659844746,7.1686216300943375,1.1536508115737476,847,34,170,13,26,280,132,218,0.131,0.845,0.024,-0.976,1,0,0,0,1,0,31.0,1,1,0,3,10,10,1,1,8,0,14,4,0,2,2,38,32,16,0,4,10,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,4,13,13,0,0,5,0,0,4,5,4,0,3,13,2,29,6,24,17,3,25,0,1,0,3,29,8,0,6,12,119,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12446351650981705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631998351843685,0.0,0.0,0.15435090633816387,0.10882558957380103,0.0,0.1280766729792556,0.0,0.14550036159160268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16318330373833986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10037352482552266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16260840664304216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17507161059627804,0.1378489217234327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706488474250871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08845256552760322,0.0,0.2489555810531533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13763001916582718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16443991262269236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666135161125944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08553448114842241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323177174993762,0.2809384363645434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15714984105461371,0.0,0.12422863112353699,0.0,0.0,0.1154034789479388,0.2400749786998313,0.1503159861624524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16574920959953365,0.316392664866891,0.11836958310906967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10789967476898146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14905801897695736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09970557930387368,0.16002161079868674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12376944934980152,0.0,0.15751379318008854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016125721647907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12355905219425505,0.18150734068865415,0.0,0.0,0.14871861638427974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09179922463693146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14043893375979402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Hopefully_employed,2020/03/03,"Does it make sense to pack up and move after it's all said and done? Background: My spouse and I are separating. There was infidelity on her side but there were more issues that predated the infidelity and intimately that did us in before the affair. I'm hurt by it but I have come to accept that this is where we are.


My concern is this: I moved to a new city with a high COL a few years ago at my partners request. I was excited at the prospect of living in a big city as I am from a smaller town. I had no problem with packing up and moving.


Now that we are separating and divorce is around the corner, does it make sense to just pick up and leave this new town and go back? Nothing is really holding me to this city anymore. I have friends all over the country so it's not like they couldn't come visit me somewhere else. 


I'm not sure if I would want to go back to my old city. I have a couple of friends there and my family is still a few hours away.. Much closer than they are now but still far. I can definitely afford my own place there as well and I can't afford much in this city on my own. I'll be in a tiny studio or a basement here.

I think it makes the most sense to move but... Thats a really final step. We have a dog that we got together and honestly he really loves her. I hate to take with me and move but in the end, he's only a dog right?

I have about a month before I need to really decide on what I'm going to do. Not a lot of time and I'm kinda freaking out. This was never the plan and I didn't plan a backup in case my marriage failed. My friends all say I should move back and I shouldn't stay.",1.2920476190476191,2.74660915714286,3.254857142857144,92.5064761904762,78.85714285714286,6.3809523809523805,20.238095238095237,7.1686216300943375,0.24183809523809474,1255,30,297,15,30,424,170,350,0.087,0.8009999999999999,0.111,0.8598,2,0,0,0,1,0,30.0,5,0,2,3,18,15,1,0,23,0,31,1,0,4,5,60,51,25,0,8,11,1,0,1,4,3,0,2,1,1,19,26,0,1,3,0,0,13,9,5,1,0,10,2,39,10,42,36,12,62,0,2,0,1,24,29,0,5,20,209,58,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08207997502105542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09182946457586733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08242927606532534,0.0,0.0,0.08699615057777461,0.2135997639733516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15758323131675744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15952497059432338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10245472412751153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16206120332736207,0.09475694225822916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773513299153097,0.0,0.08201178065316991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729042563118633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10143341313031128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21461624871146956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15787179859442052,0.0,0.07405676537201007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09141849761995524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09783181381495136,0.0,0.0,0.09118752801405136,0.0,0.09912497657902768,0.0,0.0,0.0966452341959839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09804484807909954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045237291864195416,0.0,0.08176317543841365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07872104829269985,0.08357069874800804,0.0,0.18542385775453746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07390853057949745,0.5904836659360253,0.13613611477724807,0.06865809818287627,0.07141505442076344,0.17885786166036308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884750196659112,0.0,0.0971629880720525,0.0,0.0,0.07042275096953476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967421784025729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08860101165429161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372751849643675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07907571499858107,0.08807915032374751,0.0736353451643581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09869406333140496,0.14789314328181533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08726979203461131,0.0,0.06961999646601376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05933120540264801,0.0,0.0,0.05399295121569199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11138051215466703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0546149928554379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08325412094626454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06577690695644657,0.0,0.0,0.05962821272008191
divorce,acvfdbbc,2020/03/03,"OK to use a non-local attorney? I live in California, two hours outside of LA in a small town. My wife just filed for divorce using a local attorney. 

Is it okay to get an attorney from LA to represent me? Will this result in substantial extra fees if my attorney has to drive two hours to represent me in the local court?

As a male, does anyone have an opinion on hiring a male vs female attorney to represent me?",4.013577235772356,5.266855073170731,6.2887804878048765,74.3169918699187,71.4390243902439,10.34471544715447,29.52032520325203,10.504223727775694,3.4333593495934966,324,13,60,10,6,115,54,82,0.0,0.905,0.095,0.7645,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,8,2,4,0,0,3,0,7,7,2,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,6,2,15,6,1,12,0,0,0,0,4,9,0,2,2,40,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19402318035024516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428280128591489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14497387430074146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5465314528230829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450233493164713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5421228605241996,0.0,0.0,0.4793139585801504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,hiilyr,2020/03/03,Marriage Counseling Anybody else live in a tiny town? Like there may be one marriage counselor here. MAYBE. The nearest “big town” is over two hours away. How do I make counseling work under these circumstances? I don’t want to settle and we do need this.,2.729645390070921,5.692945404255319,2.528829787234045,90.88416666666667,84.31914893617022,5.686524822695036,24.854609929078013,7.1686216300943375,1.3032439716312054,202,8,37,3,6,60,41,47,0.0,0.9079999999999999,0.092,0.4871,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,2,0,7,9,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,5,7,0,9,0,0,0,0,3,8,0,1,2,24,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3350185170029721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978767182723498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35115933522970283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17420690838526806,0.0,0.31486654982903584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380198258939419,0.0,0.35823239764694026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643994484894835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416277419581729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34832671080712296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103200404964949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25959438542291485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,jjtjc,2020/03/03,"6 month old, miserable I want out I live in Indiana. We have been married for 2 years. We bought a car, that he put in his name, while together but thats it on shared property.

I am not working at the moment, and though I have expressed that I want to find employment, he has refused to cooperate with me on childcare. I want to find evening/weekend work so he can care for the baby but he has told me he refuses, has told me he's ""busy"" and, since he is required to clock in for ONE HOUR each non-working day (weekends, holidays) to perform a building check, he has told me he can't watch her on weekends at all. I cannot afford childcare on just over minimum wage. His mother and stepfather live 15 minutes away,  but aren't 100% safe/reliable childcare. He also won't cooperate on allowing me use of our vehicle and has told me he will just leave when I need to go to work. This limits me to places within walking/biking distance.

I don't have access to a phone unless I walk to the gas station to use theirs or wait until he is home to use his. I have no idea why he won't pay $20 a month so that I can have a cheap phone. The house does not have a landline available. I don't have access to money to pay for services like skype so I can make calls. I'm not sure how to find a job without a phone. I'm not sure what my options are here.

If I want to go anywhere without him, I have to explain why and he checks the milage on the car before and after. I have never cheated. He did cheat while I was pregnant, and probably before based on some old texts I found. I don't have money to pay for an uber to be able to go to appointments. I also don't know how I'd pay for a lawyer.

I don't actually know how much money he makes. He won't tell me and won't let me see his returns/stubs. His entire paycheck is deposited into an account I am not on and he does not give me cash to spend. What little I might have every now and then is from birthdays and Christmas. When I have it, it's spent fast because he tells me to use it for his cigarettes or to treat him with eating out. If I refuse, he will get angry and tell me he spends his money keeping a roof over my head and maybe he should just stop paying the bills. I haven't had underwear that fits me in over a year, but he needs his cigarettes.

How am I supposed to escape this?",4.352738336713993,4.034123665314404,5.496795131845846,85.93212981744425,69.95334685598377,8.503853955375254,28.764705882352942,7.990435384864732,1.6245805273833662,1809,58,406,21,29,604,229,493,0.06,0.872,0.068,-0.1183,4,0,2,0,0,0,54.0,3,0,1,6,17,9,2,1,20,0,51,2,1,11,4,83,84,38,0,9,20,1,0,1,0,8,0,0,1,0,13,21,1,8,8,3,21,7,23,3,0,1,11,2,58,6,63,63,4,55,0,1,2,0,58,25,0,7,24,259,71,14,0.08961855352431719,0.0,0.08745478060796938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14333584975020974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08419958109847954,0.0,0.0,0.054630638419083326,0.0,0.15251757666166832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915105631032969,0.0,0.09137208808153673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057796553065232084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15685160023580969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091702153551791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0755074965607566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457292030327099,0.0,0.0,0.09826211825149364,0.0,0.0,0.0468219953470654,0.08597028267160478,0.15279686768473766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09197449086926716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08989471623510635,0.0,0.08825622293856437,0.10340777834974124,0.0,0.10116843852112764,0.0,0.0,0.08893258600322386,0.07965708809621673,0.0,0.0,0.09850402657862717,0.0,0.0,0.0948931082846473,0.0,0.09164104282138302,0.0,0.043783098443990316,0.08982133427013836,0.1582696492999708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964216075390928,0.0,0.09003388256747827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09507112298672196,0.0,0.0,0.14306534882447303,0.0,0.0658799484833024,0.1329020437714255,0.06911935328653042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880791929208291,0.0,0.060727851214472335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936323140961139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09662395827737323,0.0,0.0,0.0900913991025148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07141438420564164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07413339356789404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07492512359951856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689288522093058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349916976336865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08804977381939229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.342537473644895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30960662459592586,0.0,0.0,0.21143737922119715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16173361056278482,0.0,0.0,0.17277817510380286,0.0,0.26097349727009583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11542282041993213
divorce,2ScoopsPlzz,2020/03/03,"Husband left... why am I not sad? It’s been over a month now. I cried for a minute or two, 2-3days after he left when I talked to him on the phone, but I feel happy and relieved that he’s gone. I’m still waiting to see if it’s going to hit me, but I just feel free and like I can be myself again. Seeing his face when he was here just made me angry. I also had trouble sleeping next to him due to resentment towards him. However, since he has left I’ve been having the best sleep in months, hanging out with friends I haven’t seen in a while (female and male), made new friendships, socializing more at work, and working at my grad school applications. If anything I’m excited to be able to work on myself again.



I wasn’t expecting this reaction. Has this happened to anyone else? 

Oh and he has submitted the divorce paperwork...just waiting to be served. He just randomly left when I was out of the house.",3.6677926421404687,4.6056115652173935,4.68,86.71884615384614,71.93478260869566,7.835451505016723,27.19732441471572,8.139509932561175,1.56913177257525,704,24,150,10,13,230,114,184,0.07,0.754,0.177,0.9722,1,0,0,0,2,0,29.0,0,0,0,4,12,10,1,0,7,0,16,3,3,2,0,25,31,15,0,3,9,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,5,8,0,2,2,0,1,3,3,3,0,1,10,5,19,8,23,17,2,31,0,1,3,0,17,14,0,4,15,97,24,5,0.13305425554282446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064034400864182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09303462914107644,0.13632980842809114,0.10949231535444452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13963223239696584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14615385196727726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11114975735686446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13455245887102776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10279738777703472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561779966150936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11765943875809272,0.1416387291591651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15352674669011346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5782553518351049,0.0,0.0,0.06500358842817767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517983074238609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21240527472527934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12850462911680496,0.14150471023741235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346580100370222,0.21205403015018776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11006385512976292,0.0,0.2663006914698511,0.13563205760840452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625730034968817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10694397059969968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299746741258504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12006077036182768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2905952481111345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,HelenAustin,2020/03/03,"No where else to get this out Still together, brought up separation last summer and I couldn't follow through when I saw the hurt in his eyes.

The good:
He takes care of us, financially, and domestically. He is involved with the kids, takes them to his workplace (public service) which they love. He packs me lunch every day, does all of the laundry, and takes the kids to the playground so I can study.

The bad:
I am exhausted, I have put all of myself into helping my husband overcome the abuse of his childhood, which I know I was doing to try to heal my own childhood trauma. I think I've realized it's useless, it won't ever be enough, and it was naive for me to think these are things I could fix.

I'll be 30 this year, we were together on and off from the time I was 17 to 23 and have been married for 7 years. We have two young children and I was a stay at home mom for year. I dropped out of college when I got pregnant, I just went back to school to finish my bachelors and graduate this year. I want to go to graduate school, but I am using an education benefit he transferred to me.

From the beginning things were rocky, he was explosive and drank, but I was in love and was sure he would grow up. Dumb I know, I cant believe how stupid I am just writing it.

We got married and had kids, and things were ok for a while, but he never stopped drinking. He doesn't get fall down drunk, but it's a few to several most nights. 

He gets angry, more so at our children and animals, but has taken to yelling at me in front of the kids lately, which again, WTF how did I get here?

I thought for sure once he got his dream job, we got a house, he got promoted, etc etc things would get better.

I have zero physical attraction to him anymore, whenever he comes on to me all I can think about is all the ways I am unhappy.

I have finally come to the realization they won't but I am financially unable to leave. We have so much debt and a mortgage. I'm still in school and we moved hours away from family for his job, so I have little to no support here.",4.454514891284486,4.578516213776727,5.3278503562945385,85.70479581582316,69.76009501187649,8.852219989037092,29.01891101772337,8.730908602173464,1.9031852000730864,1590,54,353,25,26,521,210,421,0.10300000000000001,0.782,0.115,0.7696,4,0,1,0,2,0,52.0,8,0,3,2,19,18,2,0,19,1,42,9,1,3,8,61,78,30,0,5,8,2,0,0,0,4,2,1,1,6,16,27,4,1,7,3,1,11,8,7,0,2,24,3,54,11,54,46,12,60,0,2,2,2,43,19,1,1,27,242,70,11,0.0,0.1071538817295776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896898934757096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08496919277658438,0.06954100613091325,0.07551169889278236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10189231424359388,0.0,0.07998479310728672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09220725881662774,0.0,0.0,0.1558081350621382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07220714157765752,0.0,0.0,0.05832483244160076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07914263755163102,0.0,0.0,0.0885945124624838,0.0,0.0,0.07554909061434077,0.0,0.0,0.09344631588136207,0.20172387517974266,0.0,0.08180607403217371,0.07619765974660014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08525661139886384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09907007582538044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23624981840325204,0.0,0.05139782699068232,0.07585484893668823,0.3616564371821869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06061848153916016,0.0,0.0907163833088836,0.0,0.08906291364833763,0.10435295922578093,0.09681542445246508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17949091778473353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994043855614895,0.07371879310881288,0.10201766070621099,0.09576046229466446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906423306087829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16324710381398114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059195369674624,0.0,0.09612095881853178,0.06648211273452823,0.0,0.06975112675592751,0.0,0.0,0.08486965163571811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09631319507833401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909148639219538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745833309263317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10216885484336223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963945512234306,0.14444732230552254,0.07560996370624301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10262762611762792,0.17047291710527088,0.0,0.2039936777043027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24033114767760266,0.17384647237987075,0.0,0.0717974289375605,0.052734948040274586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061401259356191965,0.0,0.08834448825269386,0.0,0.10878541344612552,0.07810913257225773,0.0,0.0,0.05334249648525299,0.07178523385873309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08383665060141653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284886894491541,0.0,0.0,0.2329556454112903
divorce,FIREplusFIVE,2020/03/03,"Retired and in our 30s. Unique situation? How will this affect Child support and alimony? Background: 

My (38M) wife (33F) gave me the ""I'm done."" text messages a few hours ago.  She asked me to pick a day this week that she could have the kids out of the house while I pack and move out.  I told her that I couldn’t leave prior to some sort of divorce agreement being in place, as I've heard that this can be a detriment to custody and other agreements for the person who moves out.

Married 15 years

Five children between the ages of 8 mos and 13 years.

Residence in Utah

No abuse or cheating of any kind.  My wife says I'm emotionally abusive, I very much disagree, though we have certainly become more distant. We have developed religious differences over the past few years, and I see this as the main reason she wants a divorce. I told her yesterday that I am most likely done with ""The Church"" for now and (surprise surprise) within 24 hours I am asked to move out.  I began using Adderall (Dr. prescribed) when I went back to school, and she claims that it has had extremely negative impacts on our relationship.  I do have some worry about her trying to play this medication issue against me.  

I had great luck with a business that I ran for 10 years and we sort of happened into retirement when the business closed down last year.  We had paid off our home and cars (zero debt) while the business was going well.  We are by no means filthy rich, and cutting our assets in half will almost certainly mean I'll need to go back to work, but I'm not sure how it will play out.

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Here are my questions:

We have been living off of our investments for the past 15 months as our sole source of income.  Since this is how I have been supporting the family how will this be looked at in terms of alimony?

Previous to the business ending I had some very high earning years that I doubt I'll ever be able to repeat.  Is there any chance of having these past years affect alimony/child support or is it based on current earnings?

I did go back to school last year to finish a bachelor's degree in a completely useless subject with the prospects of maybe pursuing graduate school next year.  Assuming I can keep it together while a potential divorce plays out this would be my last semester of undergrad.  I didn't intend for this degree to necessarily lead to a career of any sort.  It was mostly to set an example for my kids and to give myself something to do.  How might this affect alimony/child support? 

I have recently started a new business with a friend, though it has no guarantee of succeeding and has yet to earn any money.  I invested $30,000 into the business last month.  How might this be viewed in a divorce?  My ideal scenario would be to essentially buy her out of the business for $15,000 since the $30,000 is a marital asset.

So far she has said her main priority is to keep the house to preserve some normalcy for the kids. I think 50/50 custody is quite likely, so it seems like this preserves normalcy for her more than anyone else.  I feel like it might make me seem like the outcast parent.  Should I concede this?

Neither of us wants to gouge the other (as far as I know).  I suggested a 50/50 split of assets and she didn't balk at this. Obviously, child support and alimony are up in the air. Should we work on it ourselves and see how far we get, or is that crazy?  Mediator?

Thanks in advance for the advice!",5.171099362202078,6.2136512190332365,5.512288016112791,81.7443098355153,68.53172205438068,8.66390063779792,29.96790869419268,8.904972459349038,2.3493654514937896,2705,101,518,46,45,862,311,662,0.052000000000000005,0.8240000000000001,0.125,0.9938,4,0,1,0,5,0,84.0,15,0,0,10,23,33,2,1,38,0,61,2,0,16,5,100,105,41,0,10,5,3,1,5,1,11,2,3,1,7,35,38,0,2,10,3,7,11,9,4,1,3,22,8,64,29,91,63,15,95,1,1,4,0,56,36,0,22,52,356,99,13,0.06331552670809258,0.15003709143508834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06187119991277967,0.056125394186446714,0.0,0.06340135408927072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06860234673527066,0.0769352951800808,0.17222691737371135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04427168843362101,0.06487423939521984,0.0,0.0,0.11838294100845168,0.0,0.0,0.14605719541290113,0.0,0.0,0.06992702480079308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06638512512512908,0.0,0.0,0.05055229604511352,0.0,0.0,0.04083327676388397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06615124938704127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12958753300744116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05289199809367609,0.07122144550969263,0.05607876361939442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05727251878978309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05968824364281645,0.0,0.032014232722327715,0.04523262493130177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04891741887371751,0.0,0.033079749452984634,0.060738022591709025,0.10795101880528377,0.0,0.0,0.06980559171911704,0.0,0.0,0.0559897111652282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668963302307375,0.06351063572071468,0.0,0.1247060797317108,0.14611523383159722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0660849599929777,0.0,0.11255549862175307,0.0,0.06593337781072342,0.034796557634694594,0.2064424195114956,0.0,0.06704200074352053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15466384079393322,0.0,0.055908770077468715,0.0,0.05316909601191675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042263605730774166,0.0,0.06360895676348594,0.13793834033560862,0.0,0.06378373202715644,0.0,0.20150330450270487,0.0,0.0,0.10107569870607902,0.20188315422133146,0.04654419730832268,0.04694766078592482,0.0,0.061150530238695426,0.06733678095304607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07030439952192627,0.0,0.18132550363216268,0.0,0.05528467572779358,0.06615124938704127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709278803520723,0.06734385631628934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0650989066420013,0.06251644418218498,0.06797718051009308,0.0,0.0,0.06022756500912078,0.05035104813743545,0.0,0.1922360798497018,0.10090855459494516,0.11528015510033862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047505159550676,0.07116930483647313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04874338577665074,0.0,0.0,0.04481505568721544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3592485469270293,0.05967413461389728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05829243028352051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040570032945629386,0.12441436704042627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12100139819374052,0.0,0.04298708649446732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07616078279465129,0.05468428617096198,0.0,0.1044838809451104,0.07469027620232843,0.0,0.050787896391535005,0.0,0.05692826239964813,0.058694127589519814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09218891505555,0.06429999078087269,0.0,0.08995506712444229,0.0,0.0769352951800808,0.3669581098703378
divorce,Shep432,2020/03/03,"Over a year later Still not over it, still have dreams of her it’s so hard...
I am having a baby with another woman now (wasn’t planned) I should be able to just move on but I haven’t, I’m so scared of the future idk how I can make any of it work if I still love my ex wife just needing to vent I have no one close to me",-2.002933333333335,-0.30056035999999864,0.7186666666666675,104.75266666666668,92.6,3.866666666666666,12.333333333333336,5.033348758259628,-1.6696666666666669,243,3,68,1,9,83,54,75,0.127,0.772,0.102,-0.2172,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,2,9,2,0,1,3,0,9,1,0,2,0,11,13,5,0,3,5,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,1,0,1,1,1,9,1,10,10,0,12,0,0,0,1,5,4,0,1,7,48,12,1,0.2630656958328261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788936940734127,0.2758473192012783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356551920976399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.237427061259621,0.0,0.17559839470701713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795972025788124,0.0,0.195059880166712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17826012369004274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633746537103462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6302538135237221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915149596636133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16940568316870808
divorce,Mad_Dawg707,2020/03/03,"Struggling to take the leap I (34) want to divorce my wife(40). We met on plenty of fish 4 years ago and started dating. After about a month she got pregnant and I've been on a wild ride ever since. 

I did the right thing and sold everything I owned and moved in with her to raise the baby girl. After the girl turns 1 she stopped taking birth control without telling me and got pregnant again. So after a year and a half of badgering me because she needs ""stability"" to get married I give in and ""do the right thing"" we tie the knot.  

Anyways I feel like I'm constantly criticized. Everything I do or say is wrong because it's not her way. She constantly complains about having to do ""everything"" yet is completely obsessive about how everything is done. 

She gets very jealous. I'm not allowed to have female friends. If I tell her about a conversatuon or something with a female coworker she get very suspicious. Another example I started riding my bicycle at 5am for fitness so I could get home before the girl woke up and so my wife could sleep in. After a couple weeks of this she gets suspicious that I'm cheating on her at 5am when I'm riding my bike..complete nonsense. One time I sent her an emoji and got accused of trying to send it to another woman and she demanded to see my phone etc. Because I don't usually use emojis it must have been for another girl.. 

She tells me I should be grateful of how great a wife she is and how many men would love to have her but I just want out. I feel like my soul is being sucked out of me. I just want my life back and some freedom. 

We had a blow up about 2 months ago. I started going to a therapist after. Then she wanted to do marriage counseling which I agreed to. First couple sessions went ok as the therapist was being very gentle with her since my wife is so defensive. Third session my wife acussed me of being a marijuana addict and being emotionally abusive. And then acussed the therapist of ""wife bashing her"". She blew up the therapy and the therapist said she would not do marriage counseling with us. I continued to see the therapist individually and my wife is very threatened by this and has even gone a far as to say the therapist is trying to hook up with me etc.

A few days later my wife demands we go see another marriage counselor or I have to move out. I refused as I know it'll just give her an opportunity to blame and shame me into giving in to her demands. Got in another fight with her and finally said I've had enough I want a divorce. 

Anyways this is a bit of a rant but i feel like I've been manipulated, gaslighted and marginalized for the last few years. Always told I'm overreacting or my complaints arent real etc.  I'm pretty sure my wife had bpd or npd and the therapist agreed. 

I know I want out of this disaster of a relationship. It's still hard because the kids are so young 3 and 1. Although I believe it would be best for everybody in the long run. I expect she's going to try to use the kids to hurt me.. ex Withholding time trying to keep them from me. And she's started accusing me of emotional abuse I'm worried she'll make more false allegations..

I've hired a lawyer on retainer and had him prepare the docs I just need to serve her papers. I'm paralyzed with fear of the unknown. Extremely stressed and anxious at the moment. I've been staying at my parents house the last few days and am being made to feel unwelcome in my own home.

Any advice would be helpful.",3.3103037710386296,5.091674265602325,4.674863646780235,83.07568915030686,74.1233671988389,7.9700659486160985,28.633437730756498,8.6894789155246,2.2552393807450404,2735,114,538,54,57,908,298,689,0.13699999999999998,0.765,0.098,-0.9835,3,0,1,0,4,0,62.0,5,0,1,4,26,24,5,5,42,1,53,4,1,10,3,101,116,49,0,18,16,10,5,3,1,8,2,4,2,8,14,42,0,7,6,0,1,13,6,14,0,4,25,12,88,10,89,73,13,87,1,1,3,1,80,28,1,7,47,361,102,5,0.0,0.1268885765514333,0.0,0.05837399521986671,0.0,0.052325384419080814,0.0949321438930641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044555287760282114,0.0,0.0,0.03641370973731226,0.2807428250961449,0.0,0.06049272480712094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04117423996908928,0.0,0.13056670673672333,0.0,0.045564444880310064,0.06032898905393636,0.05619413947470065,0.0,0.058459316631798174,0.0,0.0674404118552082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11228575481897747,0.11573029334771892,0.06005737108231461,0.08550564164123722,0.1184971926575526,0.0,0.06906660632969636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05479704200091087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12046604948443955,0.0,0.055328233633596284,0.17915675310713813,0.03536720450367577,0.048436212107556526,0.0,0.0,0.19249790637481312,0.0,0.0,0.06025511887106438,0.1082996312623124,0.1147616899858568,0.0,0.05865798185477756,0.0,0.045546942690278515,0.0,0.0,0.04137018113378743,0.0,0.13988015498765,0.15410111903985568,0.09129576548346792,0.0,0.1713053032666517,0.05903561635224966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04796748039432065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03589134015053703,0.0,0.10742375882385888,0.0,0.0,0.061785901926099535,0.05732303486680487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04759492091770516,0.0,0.0,0.058855921891374736,0.08729569635445954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037821739861874176,0.07848089194988253,0.0,0.0,0.047387297448869284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0483281433550307,0.05066734579822367,0.03574295342448082,0.05428812455408887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08548120608099524,0.11382370329824275,0.0,0.07940865545401239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0362847468459276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059457465452800874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054476420134937115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06094806420365503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057489302081260824,0.0,0.09145747367450527,0.10187067637834796,0.08516524500604558,0.0,0.0,0.1280097747691417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08858905311635683,0.0,0.053585543759419305,0.0,0.0,0.041222998782087454,0.0,0.0,0.15160300882489933,0.05707384181808468,0.04276260182591826,0.04476758337137531,0.06133776193165805,0.055978817773531184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050467293958254014,0.0,0.08052116878265163,0.0,0.1404069811299541,0.0,0.06123551575820234,0.4352043255116792,0.07114832598118961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06244722434070441,0.0,0.0,0.05116633170731481,0.0,0.1454192470196252,0.05824362128726857,0.0,0.0,0.06441029498387185,0.09249461137370264,0.05897431539711993,0.1767271119279236,0.18949999774516613,0.04250301526515824,0.042952071501277014,0.0,0.0,0.04963848759347946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05161727460108773,0.0,0.0,0.054379448604447767,0.0,0.1521526485462077,0.058545099530623236,0.0,0.10344729153323268
divorce,names0fthedead,2020/03/03,"Divorced parenting can really suck So my ex and I have 50/50 parenting time of our 3 year old, which has been working out pretty well.  We co-parent fine together, no real drama, which I am extremely thankful for.  

Lately though, I have been really struggling with how to support my kiddo through her emotions.  She's been crying and having meltdowns screaming ""I don't want you I want \[my ex\]!!!"" And just casually saying ""I wanna go to \[ex's\] house.""  I want it to be a safe place for her to feel her feelings and I want to be supportive and help her through them but the truth is it absolutely kills me, and I don't know what's going on, how I can help, or if I'm just the worst parent ever that no one wants and I should just give up.

Looking for advice, support, hearing I'm not alone, anything.  It's really been crushing me.",3.037386759581881,4.906034585365855,4.376132404181185,84.55231707317077,75.09756097560975,7.124738675958188,26.34843205574913,7.957251820313856,1.6492383275261324,648,24,126,10,14,214,106,164,0.179,0.6629999999999999,0.158,-0.7108,4,1,0,0,1,0,34.0,2,1,1,1,9,14,2,1,3,0,17,0,0,2,2,33,37,14,1,8,7,6,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,7,10,0,1,3,2,0,2,5,5,1,1,4,6,25,9,16,30,1,11,0,0,1,0,21,4,1,2,5,92,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12328726369462226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13066919361719526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10382328578649926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385866495970521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14191897273115542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11412373020799828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12758592550920828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210292449170238,0.14340528646943895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14219745411453766,0.0,0.16913187228793888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14557780832271078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13958320325992424,0.0,0.06933714527633733,0.0,0.1423199453662545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10594707019851896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323892512414039,0.0,0.08549286741322468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42027488015283215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13181587779784293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12835545976162754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14360372401607638,0.2424741511575149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003317045373548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318953571919077,0.0,0.0,0.42951263656763977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615605053556333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239567593511654,0.0,0.07356799667851252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37207779187092416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11343774984219065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09184983559553613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08124631190861277
divorce,tadpoletears,2020/03/04,"Dating someone who is going through divorce First off I apologize if this isn't the right place to post this, but I could use some perspective as this hasn't something I've ever gone through before so I'm curious to know what is considered more ""normal."" I'm not the person getting a divorce, never been married personally, but recently started dating someone who's been separated for 1 year, moved out for 6 months, 2 kids that he has custody of Friday-Sunday and they're with their mother the rest of the week. We're in UK, he's opting for 2 year no-fault divorce and is basically still a year and a half out from that which I'm alright with.

Ok so my main question is what is a normal amount of time for him to not want to tell people that he's been seeing someone else? I by no means want to push him to do it and I want to stress that I'm fine with waiting until he's comfortable. I know it has a 90% chance of making his semi-civil relationship with his ex more difficult before the divorce is final anyway so I don't want to cause issues for him that way.

Any perspective for people who have been there would be much appreciated! It just feels a bit weird to be a secret for lack of a better term and I don't have much a frame of reference for what is normal in this type of situation.",6.269983827493262,5.401102437735855,7.109878706199464,77.80212264150944,66.1320754716981,9.8355795148248,31.004043126684635,9.04235418022936,2.384687331536388,1026,32,208,15,14,344,141,265,0.08,0.813,0.107,0.8775,0,0,1,0,4,0,20.0,0,0,1,2,9,8,0,1,14,2,24,0,0,3,2,41,44,13,0,11,6,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,19,11,0,1,7,0,0,4,8,3,0,2,5,2,14,5,39,35,11,30,0,0,1,0,27,7,0,3,17,140,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08511600581302682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21301117536650468,0.0,0.0,0.11069763864559017,0.13664698186900473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285781987037407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09993349679948492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10455869932190086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11321826150229765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328682322242317,0.0,0.0,0.13711135614989906,0.0,0.10646467681426336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0653931729062808,0.0,0.07113374753312676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13063899475621726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375740353283507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08354813210189037,0.0,0.0,0.13634059944728522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09990493808763427,0.13302982669829688,0.1840203020094264,0.0,0.09653441266508696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3679032729881404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735463110231211,0.2185772515643455,0.13077003788319175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987278635107568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14021264430467376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12358463142841665,0.13437960057998274,0.0,0.10688961543716803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09973973000806316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14068990043004648,0.0,0.0,0.318153877322308,0.096357581506485,0.0,0.0,0.08859192508467646,0.0,0.0999563596198333,0.0,0.1433752654919256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093991018608113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07298430108240754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10810175530249104,0.0,0.0,0.2953005525666731,0.09934958345299873,0.10039923957097167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08891311686966244,0.0,0.0,0.2418050874520543
divorce,itsthegringo,2020/03/04,"Four months into it... And I don’t know how or if I’ll ever get completely over this. The damage just feels catastrophic. I feel completely abandoned. I just wonder if I’ll be able to love someone again. Sorry for anyone reading this, I just feel the need to put it out to the universe to get it off my chest. 
To the reader, I hope you are having a good day.",1.4863899613899605,3.410111770270273,3.3625868725868737,89.78337837837843,79.94594594594594,5.850193050193052,20.03088803088803,6.868970318607317,0.2967320463320462,277,7,59,3,7,93,51,74,0.139,0.7340000000000001,0.127,0.0018,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,0,6,5,0,0,5,0,4,2,1,1,1,19,14,5,0,4,6,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,5,1,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,3,7,3,10,13,0,9,0,2,0,1,2,4,0,5,4,42,12,1,0.2255044332352261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576779429573031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4728742156915017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454317039204203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039816702337112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3420654512814664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23563351802631824,0.0,0.0,0.18914241961233955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2239767842090505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239313390556658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035265552756848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799954871705709,0.0,0.0,0.1672086798876219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266942401437956,0.0,0.0,0.22556545793745625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19106917449066174,0.0,0.0,0.2524337506869616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2445499384685104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,camonroe36,2020/03/04,So I guess I’m looking for some feedback and support . Ok well here goes nothing . So I am looking to leave my wife . When we fight she brings up she wants a divorce and will openly tell me she will put me thru the ringer about it . This is when she doesn’t threaten suicide when I say I am unhappy . Long story short should I be worried . Also am I wrong to take our vehicle if it’s in my name only (she refuses to put her name on any form of vehicle stuff),0.6400000000000006,2.6766413333333356,2.5352500000000013,93.98475000000002,83.58333333333334,5.506666666666668,23.141666666666666,6.742157984588678,0.601786666666666,352,13,79,4,10,117,70,96,0.18600000000000005,0.745,0.069,-0.9001,0,0,0,0,2,1,8.0,2,0,0,0,9,5,1,0,2,1,9,0,0,0,0,12,17,9,1,3,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,4,4,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,2,1,0,0,3,18,3,10,13,2,12,0,0,2,0,16,5,0,3,4,56,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17158629694656058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14591048966425704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23636580754460176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271916911880281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18988188307398388,0.3603584829784028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20587939728701016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16318515663336106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4313910186648916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706294509794945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456237927765029,0.2346975666756353,0.24348403695598744,0.0,0.0,0.16132499613704815,0.0,0.18753789453426029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126555069788456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929182910344736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21789957768068186,0.0,0.0,0.2345914272833005,0.0,0.0
divorce,redsunglasses8,2020/03/04,401k Question So how does the 401k split work?  We are in Michigan and very high conflict divorce with myself 35F having exclusive use of the house. I was the breadwinner.  I’ve been contributing this whole time we’ve been separated. Can he get a % of what I’ve contributed or is his % based solely on the day of filing?,3.111038251366121,5.579503737704922,3.850409836065573,85.5650136612022,77.19672131147541,7.3453551912568305,24.92076502732241,8.344100000000001,1.7514240437158466,252,9,48,5,6,80,49,61,0.05,0.924,0.026000000000000002,-0.3481,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,2,0,8,9,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,4,0,6,6,1,5,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,2,2,29,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186402921973011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966792817944149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771243128009531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3581939620753665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3911843470724526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37978075026367897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976856849109652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928050172450259,0.0,0.27972756621815204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3785044822292417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468110928453004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,fidev1,2020/03/04,"How to tell her ""it's over""? My wife and I have been in marriage counseling for almost a year. Even the counselor appears to be fed up and told us during our last meeting that she may have to refer us to someone else. I guess that's therapist code for ""don't want to deal with you guys anymore and your relationship is beyond repair"". 

I have seen almost no changes in our relationship and I am totally done at this point. 

We have been on a trial separation organized by our marriage counselor for the past 3 months. The goal was for us to get back together, but the separation made me realize that I no longer want to be with my wife. There has been too much damage done and our relationship can never be fixed.

So here's my question... Do I tell my wife immediately as a courtesy, even though I have not seen her in a month or do I wait until our next counseling visit which is two weeks from Friday?

I've started writing a letter which I will read out to her since I wanted to get all of my thoughts down on paper. Is this okay to do or should I try to discuss it without a letter?",5.273898840885141,5.264212940639276,6.174520547945208,80.799167544784,67.99543378995433,9.112890762205833,30.08816297857394,8.841846274778883,2.1798504390586584,850,29,176,13,13,282,129,219,0.054000000000000006,0.917,0.028999999999999998,-0.4872,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,9,2,0,1,10,2,0,0,10,1,27,1,0,2,3,34,42,13,0,4,5,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,9,9,1,1,4,1,0,2,6,1,0,1,12,2,32,1,34,24,3,25,0,1,2,0,35,12,0,8,11,137,41,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24491574977123626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212809041080984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403507763590024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293688283402566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12607778711777035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502945580849449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10215935886615132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16154555973660506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277851515302796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13471853745563142,0.12108840750938678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09968438506860366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11571574361342972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19522477782883946,0.0,0.08989876592554749,0.0,0.09431920796971972,0.0,0.13005903762777565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167416487987214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156055644925112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13699514186757755,0.0,0.1223251957699642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3938878523443445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10116129033275953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036177009941668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08655897908126463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21377737441483852,0.0,0.0,0.14199055584161901,0.0,0.0,0.12015136909818905,0.09708626866127952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11685534397365087,0.0,0.08302830965131637,0.0,0.11946161371187003,0.0,0.4413070230736497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21639315034530515,0.0,0.09809534751042204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11788522212215168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07875210404898786
divorce,FoilPatinaRepeat,2020/03/04,"Sock Day Approaches!!! So I have a court date (SOCK DAY, WOOHOO) and it could be the first and final hearing. We're past the WI waiting period of 120 days. No lawyers, we're in Wisconsin, 1 kid, I make twice as much as him, but still am not considered a ""high earner"". We agree on stuff, not high conflict. 

What happens at this (potentially) final hearing if we have everything ironed out? 

What if he shows up and decides he wants to fight me on something we had agreed on in writting? 

I submitted a customized child support plan with my parenting plan which he verbally agreed to, but he hasn't filed his yet. Which has me nervous. What if he doesn't file it all and shows up empty handed and tries to fight it?

Just nervous and thrilled at the same damn time. :)",3.576666666666668,5.3196313513513545,3.969999999999999,88.56666666666668,73.32432432432431,7.636036036036036,27.1981981981982,8.344100000000001,1.7269981981981983,592,22,122,10,12,185,97,148,0.11599999999999999,0.741,0.142,0.7476,1,0,1,0,2,0,28.0,3,0,0,3,4,7,3,2,6,0,9,1,1,1,1,27,16,14,0,5,8,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,10,11,0,2,1,2,0,1,5,5,0,2,1,3,11,2,17,13,3,25,0,0,0,0,17,12,1,3,12,76,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14788540911480574,0.0,0.0,0.3583603305180901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16646639386338216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4058052534516768,0.0,0.15755049899378745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637919934338956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4175193261989466,0.0,0.0,0.3913963138538013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236377200075078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361601390907918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20566810410732703,0.0,0.1768162107062369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14259363295364266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14791924239042425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21203589941199225,0.0,0.21018874509197946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10800495899974982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12575418665879445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10924926182603004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,orwell_goes_wild,2020/03/04,"Does anyone else feel like divorce is a betrayal? I've done everything I physically can for her. Everything.

But when I think about leaving her it feels like I'm about to throw a kid out on the street in winter. I don't know why, it's just the mental image I get. I start thinking she's going to kill herself or some such.

I've been taught my whole life that divorce is only justified when someone is unfaithful but I've left my former faith. Apparently some of it remains in my head...",2.518015873015869,4.581411459183677,4.06891156462585,85.28481859410435,77.26530612244899,7.212698412698412,25.174603174603178,8.167268648758528,1.611336507936508,385,14,77,7,9,128,69,98,0.057,0.845,0.098,0.4215,1,0,0,0,2,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,6,4,1,0,4,0,7,2,1,0,0,12,17,5,1,0,4,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,5,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,3,2,12,3,10,14,3,13,1,0,0,0,7,6,0,3,7,47,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14335342901640946,0.21006528102220728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794127291479365,0.20980470670603715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17126632307295764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3685141142091441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20732663245749408,0.29292995667140354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10711350036263306,0.0,0.11651651622876374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104077279930724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268221621155333,0.0,0.11267259125162313,0.0,0.0,0.21708457559991626,0.2227527757620012,0.0,0.14481035379064153,0.2003229847978484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20661003352351445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15592551068533872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737111788044315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451128730713788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26273465249850164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18499695522643486,0.2288953975509903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,mad_hatter_md01,2020/03/04,"Would Have Been Married 3 Years Today....   Together 4 years total. Married 1.5 of those. She cheated on me with a friend of ours and left to live with him after it. It's been a year since it was court official. 

   I remember the day like it was yesterday. All the happy smiles. Our family and friends gathering and congratulating us on our new life together. Our honeymoon to Italy the following day....like watching a old timey movie play out in my head. The time seems so long ago but the connection seems to have been lost. Looking back at old photos, knowing my family and friends were so proud of me for getting here.

   Now I cant even remember what it felt like to love her. I still feel the absence of her in my life, but know it's for the better. I loved her, and a part of me will always love her. Regardless of what she did. I've come to terms with it now and am moving on.

   I have wonderful family and friends that have helped support me through those rough times. Many of them pulling me up from a hole I thought would be my grave. I've seeked help and have found a new purpose in my life. Finding my own personal happiness. Bettering myself not just for future partners, but for my future self. I've already seen the improvements and love them. I'm now literally a new person than 3 years ago. I love myself to an extend and want to love myself more.

   I have someone in my life who now loves me like that again. She knows what I've been through. The pain I still carry. Works with me to help me through my low spots. I love her for it. The future is looking bright and I can see a new life opening before me.

   To all of you just starting this process, know I've been exactly where you were. I hit a low so bad that I almost killed myself. But not everyone has the same support I did. I will be here if you dont have anyone because no one deserves to be alone during these times.

I love you all. I love the person you are now. I love the person you want to become. I love the person that you have shaped through this hardship.",2.0317315528807,4.1210061760391214,3.0696821515892445,91.73330010657641,78.92665036674815,6.444260547928032,22.95661713999123,7.5161900641278425,0.8735419848285368,1582,51,339,23,39,505,190,409,0.078,0.643,0.27899999999999997,0.9987,0,1,0,0,0,0,51.0,5,7,2,5,18,36,2,0,24,0,33,19,1,0,5,53,71,19,2,6,9,0,3,3,5,4,6,0,0,7,21,18,0,0,14,1,0,4,5,8,0,1,16,9,64,28,45,47,9,54,0,4,6,12,51,16,0,5,37,233,85,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067628698410682,0.0,0.060301674602891785,0.0623698034493334,0.06645431525349048,0.0,0.050107900156986566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04210725446472132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04630549614023788,0.05028122076692506,0.03670957945659587,0.06650830658204117,0.05124282143692832,0.0,0.0,0.10651946914701764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05187423506035743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07767389210389893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0705774422581758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039774770654307866,0.0,0.0,0.057542832051347824,0.0,0.0,0.17031029214451793,0.0,0.030449063304938975,0.0,0.05782068533683715,0.0,0.05504002860285205,0.0,0.0,0.0660281692089212,0.1861034243011828,0.0,0.03146248713632185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282107117710106,0.0,0.0,0.06180313791401538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210926769302611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06662455557546351,0.0,0.13238144364132515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06542925325253247,0.0,0.2126759875234964,0.08826141398107007,0.0,0.053175401520800414,0.053292843310823484,0.10113933914175158,0.0,0.0657372909708922,0.0,0.6522112827645432,0.0,0.0,0.06105367200189556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06400437576627042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23264357231588725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12638161069426232,0.0,0.04080665985055151,0.0,0.06407837190544245,0.0,0.0,0.06521243849911564,0.0,0.0,0.2629090950935985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13643513973779176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04798757779892802,0.10964413143674352,0.06282263867072453,0.0,0.0,0.04981464211879081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05102424727104102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042624056602258986,0.0,0.09618360874581484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13667398300580744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04780798774019047,0.10534437458400826,0.0,0.05708155970845447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07243729739775039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0710386835778183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06530606814939152,0.0438409087434157,0.0,0.0,0.08555718193308072,0.0,0.0,0.15511893398740886
divorce,freeagent2120,2020/03/04,"Divorce without a lawyer. Has anyone gone through the divorce process withiut a lawyer. I intend to find a para-legal to help with the paperwork but would like to avoid the expense of an attorney. 
What are things I need to look out for. Divorce is basic. Dividing some furnishings etc. She will keep the house. She gets half my 401k minus my half of the home equity. We each keep our pensions. No kids involved. Have agreed on who keeps what as far as debt. As well as vehicles. 
What are the pros and cons and what issues do I need to be aware of?",1.525384615384617,4.123883738317762,2.397570093457944,92.53310567936735,85.44859813084112,5.9091301222142345,22.24946081955428,7.321109707123232,0.9265117181883538,428,15,87,7,13,134,76,107,0.079,0.8290000000000001,0.09300000000000001,0.1406,1,1,0,0,3,0,14.0,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,10,0,9,0,0,1,0,18,17,7,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,6,6,0,4,1,0,2,1,2,1,1,2,1,1,9,2,18,13,3,4,0,0,1,0,11,3,0,1,1,62,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15771956769813558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515634441173746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061613759360146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11784786096672133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15119076985378066,0.0,0.22625904645863534,0.0,0.0,0.2602705287441713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23543017423129556,0.0,0.6014748436109857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11019915874736497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18941691935859814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3345056412156878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149854674327936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028090920666103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174356112633393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16023416771641955,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,basylica,2020/03/04,"Constant ""co-parent"" drama - I get overwhelmed with the stress sometimes so I'm 40F, my kids are 16 and 13yr old boys. I've been divorced for over 12 years now. 

The kids are easy. I handle being single mom with no help and working a super demanding job with aplomb I think. I've had people comment how I'm winning at life and to be admired, but to me it's super easy and I work my ass off for my kids and do my best to be there for them.

That being said on a fairly regular basis I've gotten just into a really dark place because of my ex. he refuses to communicate point blank, even ignoring court orders to use our family wizard. he calls me and hurls abuse at me generally whenever he's privy to my life going well (ie, new car, renovations, taking kids on trips...etc) 

I've had to take him to court like 6x now due to contempt of court. he won't pay half of medical unless forced to, was getting constant tardies and got custody reduced from ""expanded"" to ""standard"" about 8yrs ago (no overnights on school nights) and most recently he was ""laid off"" about 2yrs ago and decided since money was no longer being taken out of his account automatically he just didn't have to pay. ever again. 2yrs later and he's still not working and we have a court date with him asking to have support reduced to 0, despite admitting in legal discovery he had 18K in his account when not paying support (his yearly income was <30K a year. so thats a huge number for him...he got a big severance package) and that he hasn't applied for any jobs in 2 years. 

ex has lived with his parents, adult sisters, and teenage nephew since divorce 12 years ago, and drives his mom's old car. he has college degree in graphics but has 0 interest in working and was only too happy to be terminated so he could do nothing. he tried during our marriage to convince me to let him quit and stay home....while kids went to daycare. uh, no.

​

so all this is well and good, except everytime we go to court because he's flat out ignoring court orders in multiple ways he either gets physically aggressive with me or trumps up complaints about parenting and arguing he should have full custody. he currently has them \~70 days a year. 

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My 16yr old struggles with ADHD and is in like 5 honors classes and marching band. he has tendency to ignore large project assignments in ONE class and lies to me about having overdue work. teachers email and ex accuses me of being bad parent, he should have custody. 

16yr old has marching band at football games that fall on HIS thursday 2hr visit, he accuses me of doing this on purpose to withhold kids from him. he should have full custody. 

My kids do not have PC, game systems, tablets, or cellphones (i'm not asking for judgement on this - kids are 100% supportive of my decision. I'm in IT and have like 0 electronics for fun at my home) ex sits and chats at my older son all day on gchat distracting him in class, and in 12 years has NEVER to my recollection called the kids during holidays, birthdays, first day of school....etc. I CALL HIM so the kids can talk to their father. after a decade of this on a whim I didn't call him on xmas one year. he never did contact the kids. 

he's accusing me of ""denying him electronic communications"" 

I take the kids to orthodontist appointment and return the kids to school immediately after and he accuses me of keeping the kids out of school ""often and for no reason"" and thus....he should have full custody

My 16yr old has been begging to bleach and dye his hair bright blue - and I'm dreading this will be used against me in court this week now. 

I make 13 and 16yr old boys rotate chores weekly of 1 - unloading dishwasher and taking out trasn, 2 - clean THEIR bathroom (I have my own) and 3 - wash and load dishes and ex accuses me of child abuse. 

I know there is NEVER anything I can do that would ever have my ex saying ""oh my ex wife is a great mom"" and I honestly could care less about his personal opinion. 

I know that I'm a hard working single mom who has 0 debt, decent assets, large home, give my kids anything I can within reason, never miss a band event, volunteer whenever I can to chaperone, always try my hardest to do whats best for my kids and my ex is a 42yr old unemployed guy who has terrible personal hygiene, has been sponging off his parents every year of his life except when he was sponging off me, and is constantly being found in contempt of court for ignoring court orders and that no judge worth their salt would EVER remove custody from me and grant it to him...

​

The nearly constant judging and accusations of me as a parent, lies in court, $$ on legal (I think i've spent over 60K at this point in legal) it just has me constantly on tenterhooks worried what ex will do/accuse me of next. 

I find myself in a fit of weakness briefly thinking of how much less stress i'd have in my life if he had custody, or the kids turn 18 not because I don't LOVE parenting the kids and I have 0 stress about being a single mom....it's all because of that constant looking over my shoulder wondering when the next invasion of the mongols will be. 

it kinda feels like sometimes I'm sitting in a WW1 trench just knowing there will be a bombing, and just waiting for it....

I should probably at this point seek out therapy but honestly I know the answer. I'm a really good mom, ex will never coparent with even a drop of civility, and his accusations are baseless and court will not entertain them.

At the same time I just can't stop myself from living in fear half the time. Fear of having to defend myself to a court, fear of having to spend yet more money and time from my job dealing with it....more phone calls that ""what if I accidentally picked this up on bluetooth and kids were in car"" sort of calls where he unleashes venomous attacks at me for no reason other than he's jealous/angry i'm doing well and he isnt. 

I think i'd just feel better if I wasn't alone in this.... if I had support from people in similar circumstances.

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TL;DR - my ex is bitter and spends all his free time drumming up reasons to accuse me of being a terrible parent and taking me to court. I get in my head and feel a little shell shocked at the constant bombardment sometimes.",5.597312951496384,6.049614301470591,6.193013415892676,79.34698142414862,67.34150326797386,8.991124871001034,31.301341589267288,8.916525866297963,2.518559803921568,4931,186,937,78,76,1608,473,1224,0.135,0.747,0.11900000000000001,-0.9698,18,1,0,0,7,0,176.0,4,0,6,15,43,59,6,10,41,0,103,13,4,10,12,163,161,74,0,13,27,28,5,4,0,14,7,2,4,26,31,69,1,9,23,10,13,10,26,26,4,5,27,12,106,34,166,104,20,165,0,2,3,2,148,75,1,13,75,589,137,26,0.0,0.09005348090464176,0.0,0.0,0.04567161204994974,0.0,0.10106075235045482,0.0,0.0,0.039359122198711655,0.0,0.0,0.03162111881596375,0.16470274283905567,0.18470875619152669,0.025842998665581436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625456280738055,0.0,0.07105440271849173,0.04323332244812112,0.0,0.0,0.03173049461464919,0.09266386897430022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0797625444885735,0.033610117162748365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328287681022113,0.0,0.03874607474355507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2874703630431644,0.0,0.06068379736025434,0.0,0.0,0.07352539310430302,0.03917890200022769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476565126849234,0.05020057694683549,0.10312629286261192,0.03201873971437645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035825368631898995,0.1282901111542422,0.05764560751400968,0.027148988870396042,0.0,0.0,0.03473359048437713,0.03232490146314497,0.0,0.0416677724912554,0.0,0.0,0.07941893720283133,0.03645545448349718,0.043195385521604256,0.0637493768773006,0.060788131114128376,0.0418978831220171,0.0,0.037628443198661016,0.0,0.040454360866139134,0.03404276962617515,0.0,0.039001521936775634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02547227026050108,0.0,0.11435879820940364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131348324231248,0.033778362233287125,0.0,0.0,0.08354070606224534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038860124238007034,0.10736913979174564,0.07426439475921619,0.03808848198906231,0.06711379580097457,0.0,0.031912523274271166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03429873400002206,0.0,0.025366959431389613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03828351402439287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670483657456245,0.0,0.0,0.02793620526388503,0.0,0.1465493284052055,0.036703044923671636,0.08083216569628922,0.035662765686122144,0.0,0.036464417339710016,0.0,0.2791405687303836,0.0,0.05150294606536181,0.028902608680311432,0.0,0.0,0.2953809013166209,0.0,0.0,0.05269228791161962,0.06636462280563589,0.03970451717315116,0.0,0.10777391923215404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040973115401417085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04042032953863045,0.0,0.0,0.04869074074896888,0.15629157004112698,0.03752287756672601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03614907369640942,0.030221108051371036,0.0,0.1538422086640527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04293200054994455,0.0,0.06287211047670957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11275631304903705,0.0,0.0,0.04050560156009077,0.03034884031031894,0.03177178611225871,0.1305951833404101,0.039728457316169405,0.0,0.0,0.17249911659189973,0.0,0.0,0.1428657277995536,0.03054496467725528,0.0,0.0,0.043459163140520514,0.0,0.0,0.09740185316110456,0.0,0.0,0.08863823801245067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051602396923969895,0.04133580011660224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06564390542869482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03016461038176404,0.060966615843266236,0.0,0.1025064164182182,0.03522869210234045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04121208300259225,0.16599760676845046,0.03859337672150969,0.0,0.05399176191756173,0.0,0.18470875619152669,0.22025123803675414
divorce,thisisalloneword1234,2020/03/04,"STBX lives 3+ hours away and makes it difficult/expensive for me to visit. Long story short, we separated a few months ago and she went with our son to her parents home 3+ hours in a neighbouring state.

She is good about lettinng me visit but says I need to stay in Airbnb and rent a car or take uber to get around. She has our car and can easily lend it to me. She can also easily pick me up/drop me off from the train station. There is also plenty of space in her parents house for me to stay. So I feel she is just being petty.  

So far I have been staying at an airbnb. But thankfully she has picked me up and dropped me at train station. And she has lent me her ( our former ) car. But she still grumbles about it.

Had she taken our son somewhere nearby to where we lived I would not be complaining. But she decided to go 3+ hours away. At least she can try and do her best to minimize some of my incoveniences and expenses? Or am I totally wrong about this?",2.859916247906196,4.011053517587939,4.170934673366837,88.78842881072029,74.12562814070351,8.120737018425464,23.316917922948075,8.648137234880735,1.2638399329983252,746,20,167,14,15,246,113,199,0.033,0.87,0.09699999999999999,0.9203,3,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,6,0,0,1,12,5,0,0,5,0,17,0,0,3,1,29,26,18,0,2,8,4,1,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,4,12,0,0,2,0,2,7,1,2,0,0,4,2,36,3,29,19,5,35,0,0,0,0,30,15,0,3,8,119,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12823525632816546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23137432220956475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287809766324925,0.0,0.0,0.2718317998036144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15181517206218714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07314609364986173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07558058543487861,0.0,0.0822154675142578,0.12133668354663707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14510905035527202,0.0,0.4273925287799124,0.16692198545279335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554806274699793,0.1280224376244967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09656385300804007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11546883830396712,0.0,0.0,0.10726597830015126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3212628730496846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11504203503402795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4625753786885656,0.1155282706473576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087687720433038,0.0,0.0,0.13318649869196075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09821686128576354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13410429637958204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027646331747794,0.15816657113578456,0.0,0.0
divorce,SumGuyGetnBye,2020/03/04,"Love my kids more than anything In the middle of divorce.  Have 3 kids.  14, 17, and 21.

Their mom wants to move out of state to be with a guy she's been talking to for the past year and a half.

15 years of marriage.

Losing my wife hurts.  But it's been clear for a several years at least that we weren't really meant to be together.  Just too different I guess.  Honestly what hurts most is feeling like I'm never good enough for anyone matter how hard I try.  I was never a super dad or super husband.  So I get that...  But I did give it my all even if surviving was what most of my effort went into.

Now I'm faced with my wife taking the kids out of state.  I could miss graduations.  I'll definitely miss my boys growing up the rest of their youth.  Swimming in the summer at the local pool with them.  No matter what...  I'll miss all the little things that happen day to day.  Random conversations.  Hugs.  Ruffling someone's hair.  All of that...

I don't know what to do.  If my ex has fallen for this out of state guy, I'm going to likely be fighting a losing battle.  And worsening my relationship with my boys by fighting with their mom.  That's just kind of how this goes especially with boys attached to their moms.  No matter the intentions or methods their dads fight with their moms, boys tend to be protective of their mothers.  I get that.  I don't hold that against anyone either.  

Of course there's a lot more to this story.  But I spent my entire night last night crying with a broken heart.  Not good enough.  Losing loved ones.  Losing time with loved ones.  Broken family.  Broken dream.  Hit hard as hell.

And I don't know what to do.  I honestly have zero ideas what to do.  Powers all in my ex's hands.  And if I try to take any of it, I'm just making it easier for my boys to not want to see or know their me anymore.

I really just don't know what to do...  Am going to therapy.  Am working with my psych.  But that's more just enduring which has been my life for years...  I'm kinda used up...",0.7905557935318086,3.0774137463054214,2.5585778539301782,92.43908331548514,85.1822660098522,5.500878132362392,17.200471192974938,6.895973343053719,-0.025854615549368187,1535,34,331,20,46,506,189,406,0.16899999999999998,0.732,0.099,-0.9790000000000001,2,0,1,0,6,0,63.0,1,0,9,10,12,27,5,0,15,0,27,9,4,5,7,70,62,19,0,6,18,12,5,2,0,0,1,0,0,10,24,20,0,2,7,3,1,7,11,14,0,4,10,6,40,13,60,46,15,40,1,9,1,4,45,14,1,12,18,218,64,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05981247573818658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08722781275213974,0.12300048474205352,0.0,0.07237954291033054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07022498055044459,0.0,0.09661453377555447,0.11344751043535845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09189434635069606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18176223492303045,0.0,0.058093505895555314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829162288724995,0.0,0.04447273509113313,0.06283513222053272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09190580621209883,0.0843745346674026,0.0999738065208944,0.14754510910826868,0.0,0.0,0.09689244523563266,0.17417873018607047,0.07777839356879664,0.0,0.15758096486211032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042272024007804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883154810066908,0.09929058807279284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09159168893636688,0.19335126388231014,0.07169513567714028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06212527957694786,0.08594082612523307,0.08815410449675422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3935969803433527,0.0,0.07477627025097915,0.2381487019104033,0.0,0.05871070401602785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4120477426988295,0.0,0.09348233867230256,0.0,0.0,0.13567277177254272,0.0,0.0,0.16507978311346028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11920128742963265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08396308352644415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11269256278687002,0.0,0.0,0.09443084790718982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07008881730593992,0.0,0.0,0.09936421367019396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07452406037532876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322625595954526,0.07069496780632183,0.0,0.0,0.10058430813627844,0.0,0.05843345201933552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05128731894855778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11943146203686815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759649557627156,0.0,0.0,0.10375637911550116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08153524747364592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06403235137890809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22656077100808625
divorce,GG_daehtop,2020/03/04,"Just a note away. My wife left a note while I was at work saying shes unhappy, no longer has feelings for me and is leaving me after 10 years of what I thought was a good relationship. Totally blindsided I was more happy then I've ever been. Note said she's been feeling this way for a year. That was in July (2019). We have 2 children and She hasn't spoken to me in person since, besides the few words when we swap kids. It's been very hard not having anyone to talk to. It would be nice to have someone to talk to.",1.9531702344546389,3.3875880275229378,3.5314984709480117,91.31469928644242,76.9816513761468,6.312334352701327,22.202854230377174,6.937597516519254,0.4689686034658514,401,11,90,4,9,133,78,109,0.063,0.833,0.105,0.6705,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,5,0,16,0,0,0,2,13,20,5,0,1,2,1,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,3,5,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,9,5,12,3,14,9,3,13,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,0,7,63,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15547320687730598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20890637644600693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20112949104119024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248550079367088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864977306409075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23669710562299556,0.1991831007927404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354379338094142,0.2415853504597751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941485886507224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387220958203979,0.0,0.0,0.21150701510783926,0.17682268737723897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18393130252989015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883975446173009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3574351232187921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17652210439286206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834631184428301,0.0,0.17649212141144185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16187440291232666,0.0,0.0,0.15795199206903698,0.0,0.0,0.2863739089735402
divorce,IPaid4it,2020/03/04,Investigation of hidden assets. Access to ex spouses tax records on joint return. My friend believes her ex spouse hid assets in their divorce.  They filed a joint return in the past.  She asked the CPA who prepared it for a copy and all supporting documents.  The CPA is only providing the supporting documents with her name on it.  Is she entitled to have copies of all tax records (ex his W-2) since her name is on the joint return?,3.764125,6.450329162500001,4.240000000000002,82.47500000000002,76.125,7.5,26.25,8.472884824447931,2.104375,343,13,61,7,8,108,50,80,0.016,0.797,0.187,0.9186,0,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,0,7,0,4,0,0,0,2,6,7,1,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,3,11,7,2,9,0,0,0,0,19,5,0,0,4,37,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946711280059332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3551244834877084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24352412392978096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397251676545296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3008957779241674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607381809637556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7153745203875109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,haircuts_,2020/03/04,"Question: any STAW / trailing spouses here? How did you prepare financially for a divorce? I will keep this brief.

I want to file for divorce. I am living in a different country and will be here for another year most likely. I have no job, career, or money but want a divorce. I have a career break that's a little longer than the years I worked and I am struggling to find meaningful employment. 

Anyone else in my situation?
- no individual savings or income
- gap in employment
- want a divorce
- no kids

How did you prepare financially for a divorce? What was the negotiation process like?

Did you wait to get your 'ducks in a row'?",2.9566666666666634,5.737758000000002,4.561025641025643,78.39230769230772,80.1111111111111,7.018803418803419,29.512820512820515,8.139509932561175,2.540569230769232,494,24,86,10,13,165,72,117,0.111,0.8,0.08900000000000001,-0.6739,5,0,0,0,5,0,19.0,0,4,0,1,4,4,0,1,10,0,11,0,0,2,0,17,17,7,0,3,3,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,2,3,0,1,1,3,1,0,0,4,0,12,3,12,10,1,9,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,4,4,61,15,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15422154860070744,0.2378038027831041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15857331603017427,0.2323679902396253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369420129654675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894497324571516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20727734355756586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11848578063771124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250490778664092,0.20157689129749404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215913507923192,0.2272981070121177,0.20025527329154247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25405105575052106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25491579532601105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370848789686653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4012909330430559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16510215081926735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29208415573684354
divorce,princesscarolyn25,2020/03/04,"Separation/gaslighting/drama My husband and I have been married for 2.5 years. We’ve been together for 5 years. I got with him when I was young and I just don’t see us together anymore. We don’t share the same ambitions or goals in life. Plus he’s an addict. I was accepting of it at first but his lack of focus in his career,  recovery and this relationship has finally got me to a point of wanting divorce (after a lot of personal therapy). 

We’ve been in marriage therapy for 6 months or so and we just keep going in circles. We’ve finally gotten to a point where we are cordial and working towards a separation in the next couple of months. 

He keeps making these comments though about how unrealistic my expectations are for the kind of partner I want (I really just want someone whose focused in his life, kind, emotionally mature and loves me). That men won’t want to build a life with me, they just wanna get in my pants and he’s offering me more then that. 

This morning he talked about his ex who he really loved and wanted to be with and wanted to start a family with (I think she’s trans now) but they had a lot of addiction problems. This makes me think that he never actually loved me in a real way. I was just someone he was codependent with this whole time. He claims that he loves me but it hurts to hear that. 

Also the amount of gaslighting that goes on is insane. I literally helped this man build his life, get a career and get on a good path (I shouldn’t have invested so much in him, I know but it came from a good place). Not only did he emotionally abuse me during this time, he now turns around and implies I wouldn’t be a good mother because I’m not kind and nurturing (I will admit, his actions have made me bitter). 

Feel free to leave any advice, support etc. I’m just ranting here.",3.3813965517241367,5.041187672222224,4.722490421455941,83.31500000000003,73.66666666666667,7.965517241379311,25.74712643678161,8.641336200584522,1.7924195402298846,1422,48,285,27,29,472,184,360,0.065,0.782,0.153,0.987,0,0,0,0,2,0,41.0,4,0,2,3,19,18,1,0,17,0,24,10,0,4,1,66,59,26,0,12,14,3,1,0,1,4,6,1,0,4,18,23,0,2,6,0,2,3,8,3,0,1,14,4,41,16,44,39,9,40,0,1,1,4,49,18,0,4,18,191,59,4,0.0,0.1029438707078167,0.08478669400992166,0.18943375928492254,0.0,0.0849024830251958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06948146658729193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059084408211804426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08616603196011627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773455847608266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05296395681293835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09937266925636758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09613599593997928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954666331650564,0.0,0.0,0.09689913323714476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08190693084717808,0.0,0.04393139060021152,0.0,0.0,0.19035534526914732,0.0,0.07390387230869137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13618062379761495,0.0,0.04937843754223079,0.21862367378924205,0.13897887004743398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09792509438841744,0.0,0.05823681816604664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09301160514660012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15445378988281058,0.0,0.2714303665482575,0.04774942377195893,0.0,0.0,0.0919980918121197,0.0,0.0,0.245476237757762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14773211178899148,0.3136664482368119,0.08221217128787564,0.11599209561796305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387006847410459,0.0,0.06387007084818137,0.0,0.06701064729141512,0.0,0.09240260266322146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06607954253884345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07586415406763318,0.09077576216553516,0.0,0.1642677854042127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08313668861256365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09889353024193734,0.11132081225460576,0.0,0.0,0.0932813881498158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06923566098339687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723383208850874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061497263833913435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09859544893357816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0698344331151361,0.0,0.0,0.19871989073448704,0.0,0.0,0.111344099948075,0.08536353505856636,0.0,0.10132604783356104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09450533660800044,0.0,0.0,0.1045113005327845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3074802129110903,0.06896483555988613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09700339022739747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06325291740461582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11190147969812796
divorce,Mr_Konodera,2020/03/04,It happened. My mind is so numb. Went through so many emotions today.,0.30128205128205465,1.7953586153846146,0.6230769230769262,98.31358974358973,116.69230769230768,1.7333333333333334,27.41025641025641,3.1291,0.3272256410256409,54,3,10,0,3,16,12,13,0.20600000000000002,0.794,0.0,-0.4795,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4649738851967538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3655325070311477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4190817296987984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4173753351805258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3918165442331074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3831884672969591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Worried-Agent,2020/03/04,"I dont know what to do and I need help I ve been married for ten years now. My husband recently left me a few months back. He did it so dirty. My husband is the bread winner and Ive been home for the past ten years now. He makes very good money and just became a doctor. We have four children. My marriage Ive always felt not good enough. For my husband had a porn issue. After seeing he was searching happy endings on his trips for work I became alarmed. long story short marriage got bad. abusive mentally emotionally physically and financially. I always loved him though and always just wanted him to love me back. Now that he is gone I noticed where hes been planning this leave with someone else for a long time. so heres the bullet points

1. I felt he was seeing someone else, by his actions , and noticing he was at his boss house for 45mins one morning before work finding evidence hair and hearing someone in my house
2. i wasnt allowed to look at computer or his phone ever
3. i wasnt allow access to the account anymore and got money when i could or he felt like giving me some
4. I told him i was sick bc my stress started keeping me up at night and i had insomnia and depression but he didnt care. now I wet the bed at night and i have fainted behind the wheel
5. he talked down to me and started brain washing my kids documenting every conversattion and videoing me without my consent
6. When he knew i was to go to the womens shelter he called the police and claimed I had a pipe in the house so cps would be called
7. I told him i could take a drug test but he pretended I could not and told my family i was on meth I have never done meth only smoked weed
8. Behind my back he sent mykids to my parents miles and miles away across sea one cps got involed ( they investigated me for 60 days and found my drug use inconclusive
9. Then up and left me homeless for months
10. barely would give me money and be nasty with me. he moved out with someone and I dont know who
11. Now he doesnt was to pay child support and he loves his money he plans to fight for custody
12. hes bashed my name to my family so I have no access to funds and had no car and mile miles away from home
13. He bought a brand new car
14. he wont answer my calls which has upset me left me crying and saying cuss words to him bc i dont understand how he can do me dirty or leave me stranded or wont offer me a blanket n let me homeles eventhought he promised he would n take my kids from me
15. I m now trying to get home to see my kids before he does so he doesnt run off with them. i love them so much. so much control he has over me
16. I have no money and i find out tonight he is now tracing my calls and if he feels they are harassment he send it to the police which ive only cried and told him i would take him to court
17. he feels asking for money is harassment
18. i was actually trying to get things right between us and be friends for our kids but he refuses

i dont know what to do.. Now he is trying to move to a fault state and take custody. He is a hacker and very believable con and narcissists  he works for the military and he has alot of money. I have nothing. Im scared with the strategic planning set ups and documentation he is going to take my kids from me and I cant let that happen. Im so hurt and how i could be married to him for ten years and he be so cold and mean. im a great mom and i worked so freaking hard guys. im scared. I cant file bc i have no money first in my no fault state and more time i give him the more it seems to hurt me. i belive pi are following me and he ll send me messages about calling progressive o make a claim but it really is a tracer hack thingy. what do i do and he is so mean to me and ruining my life after i stayed home n now hes a dr he left me. its about control n someone new in his life. im guilty of loving him n not putting up with the abuse.",0.6518036998972256,2.588280965227817,2.643054128126071,93.79706834532377,82.87290167865706,5.410277492291882,20.360226104830424,6.5431188927421005,0.11300678314491285,3031,87,694,30,84,1015,342,834,0.13,0.8009999999999999,0.069,-0.9948,2,0,5,0,2,0,52.0,3,0,4,12,35,30,3,5,29,0,78,19,2,10,2,111,137,68,0,11,15,5,8,1,1,6,10,2,5,9,15,51,1,4,17,2,12,15,23,16,0,7,35,15,116,14,80,85,8,93,0,4,4,6,114,34,0,8,41,420,131,9,0.0,0.11530908157734925,0.04748546828986412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12146789216214768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04825797757637208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04549084520215405,0.0,0.09143597435100877,0.11225038355339892,0.040629347752637865,0.0,0.0,0.08281272332818139,0.05482353502074005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054321027562668114,0.24843821642571445,0.0,0.049612455271302834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091534082840734,0.15540527406478566,0.0,0.10690218767128216,0.03138189094710773,0.0,0.041911075822020534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04980591548763935,0.0425829876733649,0.04979641791252398,0.22811820407394665,0.0,0.11286108151883956,0.0,0.08129893301232542,0.05473632814247738,0.04309861426328194,0.050279134489312934,0.0,0.0,0.04401605948305469,0.040998431516916976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09174526764797873,0.0,0.04920825560274505,0.0,0.140164659649126,0.0,0.08894933051790213,0.041390456674745085,0.0,0.05335354646011182,0.03759485464234821,0.0,0.05084603402729556,0.14003828389803785,0.05530958029429133,0.0816279617956549,0.11675434695849166,0.053648191877787715,0.0,0.048181382694329686,0.04303017414221655,0.05179983217098184,0.04359010290896154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054843734841448194,0.0,0.032615997293193026,0.0,0.1952411368496184,0.0,0.0,0.1684424823531422,0.10418379153364336,0.0,0.26280756347173423,0.050788748102084516,0.0,0.04325154216339231,0.0,0.0,0.08022734374278034,0.0,0.0,0.1030485389832799,0.21147838839594865,0.09951698015118728,0.06874046830153156,0.023772982086752215,0.0,0.0,0.08612573165791511,0.04086242655593247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2195892639062045,0.0,0.06496230384566164,0.0,0.0,0.10601074165240124,0.0,0.0,0.049038173336468184,0.0,0.0,0.05699039704244752,0.07768043139272134,0.1034364719485445,0.07154189131558271,0.036081022336879966,0.0375298506941125,0.0939929108508813,0.0,0.09132885739596072,0.0,0.04669090446539754,0.11080022938974536,0.0,0.0,0.06594700559785371,0.07401675601291384,0.0,0.0,0.054031544214702576,0.0,0.0464517964422168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045999745631933465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0489170774374125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03117305705833643,0.0,0.0480462110614036,0.0,0.0,0.04155566079865791,0.0,0.038696652018853916,0.0974349697679424,0.0,0.11632796239596818,0.04429854205240109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20614872258186906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06888407210114791,0.05186544337556377,0.0,0.0,0.055740250120015176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05521917228324148,0.0,0.0,0.18293258290471,0.039111334602117916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03232776482968655,0.0,0.047808532747602085,0.0,0.05674846610689618,0.0,0.0,0.1859881441560968,0.0,0.09911152134352587,0.0,0.0,0.05065712554604845,0.058532392438856724,0.04202690651207805,0.0,0.08029974612397874,0.028701126732302417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0469068271513369,0.0,0.14170121567928107,0.0,0.0,0.13826762534697404,0.0,0.0,0.09400698236634618
divorce,tHoOwawaaaaayyyy,2020/03/04,"Is that bad that i want my parents to divorce? 
I have a tough relationship with my dad. I've had these ""child to father"" love until i was 11. Then i started fearing him. I mean, he used physical violence towards me once, when i was 6. My mom talked to him and he how uses only psychological one. I started hating him when I was 12 and i still do.

 He used to beat my mom 2 years ago. It's when i took up self-harming because of that. I hate him for that.

 He constantly manipulates, calls me and my mom with curse words and he says that it's normal and why the hell i'm getting offended.
I feel like i'm in a goddamn circus. Like i'm an animal and he's the guy who gives me sugar cubes for doing something that he wants me to do. In short, he sometimes gets offended by some shit, doesn't talk to anyone, calls everyone shitheads, doesn't allow me to eat with him in one room, refuses to iron clothes, screams at me if i do something wrong. 

Sometimes it's just fucking ridiculous : he turns off the internet, or doesn't allow me to work on my laptop for whatever the fuck is the reason.

I'm fed up with this. I really really want them to divorce. I fucking hate my dad,i never want to see him again. I know,it's their business, but i have seeing them cuddle, when a week before he called her a piece of shit and promised to break her arm. I just hate him.

 I sometimes talk with my mom about it. She knows i can't stand him and i always fake my love towards him. She never actually asks for an advice, but i often encourage her to divorce.

 Is that wrong that i want this so bad?
And what are the tips for maybe distancing from him?",1.4510428994082822,3.3691926065088778,3.331741863905325,89.98861871301779,80.03550295857987,6.355177514792899,22.69267751479289,7.413659706084162,0.834304437869823,1263,41,275,18,32,424,167,338,0.185,0.745,0.071,-0.9877,1,0,2,0,3,0,44.0,0,0,3,2,12,27,13,1,12,0,18,12,3,8,2,43,53,21,0,7,6,7,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,2,17,14,3,1,4,0,0,1,6,21,0,2,6,6,57,6,39,47,2,31,1,0,2,6,55,12,6,4,18,174,74,2,0.0,0.0,0.08128968977164062,0.0,0.0,0.08140070310032989,0.07384124689678538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06931304549005735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058245945949257874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07787512321368771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13910559138956685,0.05077947275428045,0.0,0.07088295462729483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25517868435944396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09001871035539387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852376458072911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07959760682658916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09373670343662156,0.04211945228941311,0.05951019986151835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23103109791429136,0.0870425938934963,0.07990984094148161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08248101562529546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3289696836265679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09156002343346303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08139325180420949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15036468025253513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08368697893891576,0.09073913148314344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39024416204669105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284936225742811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08161722332668532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08871277005046277,0.1128937297973842,0.0633541096979903,0.0,0.0,0.09249582293860166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10672941549348557,0.08564722809953293,0.0,0.08943402255168938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06624424168278045,0.0,0.0,0.13276010978364636,0.0,0.08690103553226278,0.0,0.17101441178093468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282582487264948,0.2471602444285889,0.0,0.11792165167516895,0.0,0.06652422898893907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008623924873225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255039644166647,0.0,0.09060748958710256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21583576926571849,0.0,0.0,0.2456652289836859,0.0,0.06681898009228253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516613121031637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060644067952109776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18215297671597086,0.0,0.05364306673275825
divorce,EXmormonchick287,2020/03/04,"How do I secretly prepare to leave? I am the main bread winner, and I get a bonus so I think first step is a separate bank account. We have two children, I feel heart broken even considering this. My story isn’t as bad as others I’m sure, I hope we can work through it but it’s feeling extremely doubtful. He talks disrespectful to me, and I am sick of pulling as much weight as I have been. I feel depleted.",0.2188961038961068,2.5841071666666693,2.4191341991341986,91.3198051948052,90.42857142857143,5.911688311688312,23.11255411255411,7.348242739294969,1.1051333333333335,318,13,69,6,11,107,63,84,0.161,0.72,0.12,-0.6586,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,3,3,5,0,1,3,0,9,4,1,1,1,14,16,9,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,4,2,0,5,0,3,2,1,2,0,2,1,4,13,3,8,15,2,3,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,2,1,47,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281345051347541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18046494261009927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4144578363215742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324081451733714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14275068949548705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32377725891573594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713776940108561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893096831007293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008544915740762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575147636256283,0.0,0.0,0.219610834486868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17507388271106414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26690468370375703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3327188804042319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1989137071114255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,dafood00,2020/03/04,"I just need to talk... I'm terrified. I just let my wife know I wanted to get a divorce.  I'm in my early 40's (M) and we have three kids who are my entire world.  I would give up everything if it meant I could keep them with me 100% of the time.  Things have been bad for some time now, and today it became too much.  I wasn't left with any other option.

My wife hasn't said a word in response.  I said it to a door because she wouldn't open it to talk to me.  This has also been going on for some time now.

I'm scared and depressed and in pain and I don't know if I did the right thing.  I'm scared she's going to try to take the kids from me, even though I am the primary caregiver (and only income/job).  I feel alone and scared and I just want to curl up in a ball until it's all over.  I don't know what to do, how I will pay for a lawyer or anything.  I just know I have to make it stop.

I pray I don't lose my kids.  I just needed somewhere to talk.  I'm sorry if I broke any rules, keeping it a little vague for privacy sake.  Thank you.",-0.07805860805860831,1.24394088888889,2.219816849816852,98.99423076923078,82.41880341880342,5.311843711843712,16.27106227106227,5.916634753146586,-0.8120424908424909,784,12,206,5,21,267,122,234,0.154,0.807,0.038,-0.9727,2,1,0,0,1,0,31.0,1,1,1,1,12,9,0,3,10,0,20,1,0,2,1,44,46,16,0,10,9,2,1,0,0,3,1,2,1,3,13,12,0,3,6,1,1,2,6,8,0,1,7,3,33,1,28,34,4,24,1,3,0,0,18,13,0,7,9,133,46,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330190226875144,0.0,0.10270872559430924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17467922218666268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10569034387696154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10723713201028227,0.07829225222030466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025442002628354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11062012607197624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08482953011635001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11542831258022802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06494015402603501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06710153084884793,0.1232057184238395,0.14598414918110866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12745105412380006,0.2283163079487466,0.0,0.0,0.28233615117027505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13954405564057878,0.13133259734700806,0.0,0.0,0.12872473690487699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14368493682309935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08573077760935742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944138617482028,0.19046455675157767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09767994165023684,0.13666296725134433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10968204338330446,0.2443405333014623,0.0,0.3857549023074455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14377149100765566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10737668173472972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09656648027612327,0.3096914607658203,0.0,0.11824488920278235,0.0,0.0,0.17065185519318996,0.0,0.12618587846120782,0.0,0.22467291826846345,0.0,0.12174053573963547,0.0,0.0,0.08719834213406769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515075523719638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09123591942919533,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,FrogSweater,2020/03/04,"How to divorce and not mess up my 15yo daughter Hello friends  
In 2007 there was a massive crisis in the family, my (46M) wife (47F) confessed one boozy night to cheating on me 4 times over the years (been together since college) just after finding out her pop had terminal liver cancer.  Our kids were super young - 1 yo girl and 5 yo boy and I was faced with the decision of leaving while my kids gramps was dying and then watching another man raise my kids -or- swallowing it down and staying.  I stayed, and told myself I'd stick it out until my youngest was 18.  
Fast forward 13 years and I don't know if I can manage to stick out another 3 or 4.  Other balony has come up over the years and I'm feeling at my limit.  We've had sex once in 4 years and I feel like I've been taken for a massive ride by her and her family.  I'm pretty much broke having put a lot of my money into setting stuff up for her side of the family and carrying the financial weight for her and her entire family.  
My kids are my world though, once I decided to stay in 2007 I also decided to throw everything at raising them and I could not be happier with that decision and I feel huge amounts of pride over how me and my wife have raised them.  Eldest (20M) is hitting home runs and youngest (15F) is going great with her study and on track to get a great degree  
If I leave now (like I feel I have to) wife will just be able to get by (she finally got a job 2 years ago and has enough to get by living within her means) and eldest will 'get it' and not be too messed up by  
My worry is my daughter.  It's a tricky age for sure and I can't do anything to mess her up.  
Any advice?  
Thanks",2.035409917519626,3.5514062824207504,3.63101858292756,90.34187319884728,76.95389048991355,6.861134850442214,22.34015701083176,7.6298220110432995,0.7986604193580447,1288,36,284,18,29,428,189,347,0.066,0.8240000000000001,0.11,0.9214,1,0,0,0,1,0,31.0,1,0,2,3,9,14,1,0,12,0,28,6,2,2,1,56,47,32,1,3,9,5,5,2,1,2,1,0,1,7,7,29,2,1,12,0,1,7,5,5,0,1,12,6,41,9,49,28,4,53,1,1,1,1,30,26,0,5,20,180,48,3,0.10378800407804016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101420436387842,0.09200180340535667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08299922936363564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07057940181537796,0.21766154343721344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08540868404516057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894041754952981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08286627594955999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10771556222039347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10724075249491284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09327796577620663,0.0,0.3913683733958353,0.0,0.20991333336981244,0.07414617085117567,0.0,0.1136946853499326,0.09486035544909883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08018635449341809,0.0,0.21689979375552426,0.0,0.0589851145130428,0.0,0.08300874807581889,0.2288532817997617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041078304468714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10299357929570624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05703917275049453,0.0,0.0,0.2197930210277832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10141115251589246,0.0,0.091646709085291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08823684957300115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11305556293698504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07629612499816524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09739801103502696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22106167413818686,0.07032943761793765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10558971260836082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10433561053750998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08585450948899552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3318726087415048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188124336069351,0.0,0.0,0.09781896556297748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09555404979694533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10197118704619516,0.0,0.060519619818924675,0.0,0.0,0.09917388563376953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12638582831596118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10540175613085737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3341803590143943
divorce,hill322001,2020/03/04,"The ole switcheroo? Married for 7 years, I'm 34M she's 30F, with 2 kids. I bring in all the income and she's a stay at home mom. So the day comes that I was ready to leave a few months ago. Spoke with a lawyer and came to terms about how much I would owe her and she reluctantly verbally agreed. We've been back and forth as we havent written anything up in a separation agreement and I'm second guessing everything because i dont know if I can afford the alimony and child support and still be able to survive. She doesnt want me to stay just because of the money, which is understandable. 

Well, the tide has turned and now she's the one ready to go. My question is, if she's now the one leaving, should that not change the terms of what we had agreed to previously since I was originally the one leaving? I'm not expecting her to owe me, just thinking that I should owe her significantly less.",2.800996376811593,4.379877831521743,3.815739130434782,89.55389855072464,75.03260869565217,7.080579710144929,25.31014492753623,7.793537801064563,1.1291931884057966,707,24,157,10,15,228,111,184,0.022000000000000002,0.875,0.10300000000000001,0.9292,5,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,0,1,10,3,0,0,14,0,15,0,0,2,1,33,34,13,0,7,6,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,1,2,5,14,0,0,4,0,4,4,5,0,1,4,7,1,21,3,18,23,6,21,0,0,0,0,16,4,0,4,11,102,26,1,0.1523458628867581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13504541542573625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12536766444702765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11714456481101057,0.0,0.1857372479851825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17424308174149325,0.0,0.0,0.1611617225936542,0.13123247125235146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982504783031776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17854821669049845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13691863824467165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08658166469033257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16782614359421527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15281532199782158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08372530205405057,0.0,0.0,0.4839368153730078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17842563335478426,0.12160101429189768,0.0,0.11199173836141588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3097004983019649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17066223242180018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12602207207863447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3247608391504631,0.12166360289453867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17288027982373888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976170774815041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1657085516049977,0.0,0.15859741603053665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985753707581222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369772267378087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10822212997841027,0.0,0.0,0.09810574084375603
divorce,jenthedoglover,2020/03/04,"Post divorce loneliness and living alone I really am very happy since i left. Separated and living apart for 11 months! Officially court divorce since December. At first I was focused on so many things happening, moving, court stuff, work, finances, therapy, i dropped weight, eating healthy, exercise. I joined meet up groups, did a bunch of stuff, I have new hobbies.

BUT.... I just feel lonely. I miss someone being home and telling them about my day. Silently watching tv together, a warm body sleeping in my bed. It's a constant weird emptiness i feel in my chest. Online dating sucks, i don't really want to be tied down in a relationship right now but I do miss it. I miss someone wanting and needing me. I can't distract myself from this feeling. I feel like something is wrong with me if i can't truly be happy by myself. I get anxious and restless at home by myself. 

Any tips or advice?",3.3088904543853483,5.939025299401197,4.210038746037338,82.37549489256783,77.44311377245509,6.56414230362804,28.386403663261714,7.724431198458867,2.0607875308207126,703,31,122,11,17,226,116,167,0.171,0.706,0.12300000000000001,-0.4745,0,3,1,0,2,0,31.0,0,0,1,2,4,13,1,2,4,0,12,6,3,0,0,18,25,10,0,4,5,0,6,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,6,6,2,0,4,2,1,1,3,9,0,1,2,7,25,4,16,20,1,21,0,4,1,0,7,11,1,2,8,77,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13050964959453265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13832402602446736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09082284919670217,0.0,0.0,0.15088057938312868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483509172677879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14432689028439818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08613275077521683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13666141523201858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27012026923795274,0.09541263202179748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11360290223578125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06977764316628718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181033759709532,0.2843462837915725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26793567362912635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14510928733352452,0.0,0.0,0.06524885147020243,0.0,0.2358652814995623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13540510387755209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10660334727020722,0.14194918774059406,0.0,0.09903028819695567,0.0,0.12898948598414967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12790999640500025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17111914377834944,0.0,0.0,0.14338946103038278,0.0,0.11405633207071385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22095826735887505,0.0,0.1336527312128854,0.0,0.2263236026751907,0.10281814813240484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3057799715674189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11673407411040015,0.0,0.15273324397076374,0.0,0.08872885690311913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11019791687930916,0.1575499067260098,0.0,0.0,0.16263556690048106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09723056137072604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14602282448654966,0.0,0.0
divorce,TheEndThrow,2020/03/05,Impending Vacation I want to ask my husband for a divorce. I think I want to do it soon. We have a vacation planned and paid for in mid-may. Should I do it before or after?,-0.001756756756755351,1.977336864864867,3.006689189189192,89.98138513513516,85.75675675675676,6.943243243243244,25.466216216216218,8.07648339933343,1.6924108108108116,132,6,30,3,4,47,27,37,0.0,0.915,0.085,0.1531,0,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,9,2,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,6,7,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,2,23,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5069868597075033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4614660637476236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3474904986499054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6397372503155017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,this_isntmy_bestwork,2020/03/05,Not sure I will be able to mentally survive a divorce. my wife of 10 years told me she thinks if we don't do marriage counseling we will need to get a divorce.  we have one child together and we are in our mid 40s.   I am terrified if we do get a divorce I am terrified that I will be so financially and emotionally ruined by this process and become so depressed by how much of a failure I am that I will want to just end my life out of these feelings.  how did you cope because I just don't know if I will be able to.,3.513976833976834,3.5749553783783803,5.264555984555988,85.56162162162164,71.7927927927928,8.865379665379669,31.17245817245817,8.841846274778883,2.2432512226512222,401,17,93,7,7,138,65,111,0.184,0.804,0.012,-0.9652,0,0,0,0,3,1,5.0,6,1,0,1,6,3,0,0,4,0,18,1,0,2,1,23,26,10,0,5,6,1,1,0,0,5,1,0,0,1,4,9,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,2,1,19,1,11,16,1,5,0,2,0,0,15,3,0,3,2,71,23,0,0.4988959516495885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15206117077039047,0.2754956911663589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21484917605819573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805953980232461,0.22093686649892627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261283916500664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260652543565864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13709008388515773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17619248237811727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25138488884132965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18337296408318388,0.18496251333026006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16903240418323653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23510176511933506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598361906407229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383582307587487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14713087911566158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16063631795802388
divorce,underdog2291,2020/03/05,I’m depressed and tired I’m in a marriage where it’s like a mother son relationship. My husband says he wants me to be like his mom and he even says he is jealous or out two year old daughter I do everything. I’m scared to even go to school and better our life’s because of how irresponsible he is. I might as well be a Single parent he does everything financial but nothing else when it comes to our daughter and ignores car problems wants to buy a PlayStation with our income tax instead of taking car of priorities first....I can’t take anymore I want out. I’m tired of being called a bitch and told I’m hated every time he gets mad. I’m sick of the immaturity and manipulation it’s only been three years so it will only get worse please pray for my escape I need to finish school,2.6041614906832287,4.451897583850934,4.3595962732919284,84.28920807453419,76.26708074534163,6.587577639751553,24.54347826086957,7.447530270364453,1.1215888198757755,625,21,127,8,14,211,102,161,0.257,0.653,0.09,-0.9876,2,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,3,0,0,1,8,12,4,1,6,0,10,4,0,2,0,21,28,12,0,5,2,7,0,2,0,2,4,2,0,0,4,10,0,1,0,0,2,4,1,8,1,2,2,2,11,4,17,21,1,14,1,1,0,0,23,4,1,2,8,67,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13715047810907013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08430273315597198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12230979646653704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412136267394442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11912802763469756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11911241157917865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12102200324230195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155268837649862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826837532026056,0.0,0.11651865176837055,0.0,0.24857944325610865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11763279787492505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14450580457412304,0.0,0.0785956619231404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13653668476125194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09768113549802424,0.13512691675138955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14670806975575332,0.0,0.16196825052661112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10254324181604346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13269681392345664,0.0,0.14511627972717073,0.0,0.0,0.2103576234455345,0.0,0.0,0.15355911072506492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15180527292523002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132328672125644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14847599097225178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21995386429971966,0.13845641031130745,0.2799218035829685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079597402721843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064033813062134,0.3178971969728053,0.0,0.13214583460971985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350931340490393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447081364345201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12434290611481208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14093339134902394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17811359177842248
divorce,ThrowRA_2772,2020/03/05,"Agreed to separate. Just recently my wife and myself agreed to a trial separation after some mediation with a counselor. My wife will be the one moving out and we are in the process of finding a place for her for at least a couple of months while we try to figure out what we want to do.

We don't have any kids and since we've cleared the air about our feelings towards the relationship, there is a lot less negative energy between us. I've been wanting to be apart for some time now and now that is is happening I'm beginning to get worried, for myself and for her (she's never lived on her own before).

I initiated almost all of this but I'm getting scared of being away from someone that I've been with for so long (together 9 married for 3). I'm confused about the way that I feel considering I wanted this, is it normal? what else can I expect?  Advice from people who've been in this situation before would be appreciated.

Thanks for reading.",3.6766666666666654,5.357912765957451,5.177787234042555,80.2636666666667,72.93617021276594,7.992056737588652,26.895035460992908,8.648137234880735,2.0021690780141843,752,27,145,14,15,253,117,188,0.057999999999999996,0.858,0.084,0.4437,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,6,0,0,0,7,3,0,2,10,0,18,0,0,0,3,33,31,8,0,6,2,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,9,13,0,0,4,1,0,1,3,2,0,1,3,2,18,1,34,22,7,23,0,0,0,0,14,11,0,5,10,111,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16593432975944444,0.0,0.0,0.17003809868687095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11547520551253715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15954012636220705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2889880583206317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878892287204736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14185272413795752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717199684839169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15520135845201133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17743525458789666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501605788916989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14994350042601046,0.15027466168833714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14436461738332704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135539058102997,0.1804789408354964,0.0,0.0,0.1309663327720074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16637570357160147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11506623821715402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177234278083951,0.0,0.17741312994192107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16985386794971075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16766483079265254,0.18231015242601112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17000734666206194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404668624615594,0.1908712117129392,0.0,0.0,0.14387769576933965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563363141943396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09901636109656396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11528842815116234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20425801446877612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004713244284729,0.13478561942886844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724481808790448,0.0,0.12062667115558097,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,lillylazer,2020/03/05,"This may be a silly question, but I'm nervous. Ok, so I called the cops on my husband recently bc he pushed me when I had our toddler in my hands. 

He was arrested (he deserved it and he knows it & now we are seperated) however, I just got a job...they're doing a background check on me. I know I'm gonna pass. I have no criminal record, never did anything wrong, but I am worried this incident will show up? I think I'm just victim blaming myself and experiencing anxiety.

Child protective services came to visit my parents house where I am now living to make sure we're ok. And everything was more than fine. I just can't get out of my head.

If anyone can provide some support, I would be eternally grateful!",2.4735102925243737,4.513016535211271,4.292535211267609,83.74244312026002,77.30985915492954,7.467822318526544,29.2329360780065,8.384062270229773,2.3150004333694465,556,26,109,11,13,188,104,142,0.16899999999999998,0.682,0.149,-0.6362,3,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,0,0,0,9,9,1,1,4,2,16,2,2,1,2,22,28,8,0,2,6,2,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,4,6,0,1,4,1,1,4,3,3,0,0,6,2,19,6,9,16,2,16,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,4,6,70,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.230090237678272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624535947499749,0.0,0.0,0.14848593085917086,0.0,0.1747528690921857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21684166949312728,0.2428814366774471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19085403697188136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11094849923059114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698424117895274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21794098380052204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450330818161614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107329445619532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334132459767954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18751635778679293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14175088099041605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16378388956057632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357988722783944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378900085036569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20967830089234935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409817957598121,0.2001452788421532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360706880640264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21566026332267169,0.0,0.1508533145002928,0.2321805738205581,0.0,0.0
divorce,BillieWonka,2020/03/05,"Separated for 6 months, no divorce yet. Girl I really like wants to get a little more serious, wife wants to work it out. 3 young kids

No mortgage

I've been living downstairs in our mother in law apartment.  We (me 38M her 38F) are separated.  We had issues of feeling lonely and being neglected and thought we couldn't work it out.  I thought we could not.  There was a lot of baggage with that like resentment, she thought I hated her appearance.  Which I didn't.  I do not hate her one bit.  I love her.  I still do.  I worked a lot which meant I was gone a lot and it was a strain on our physical relationship and we just started to not talk, like we began to be okay with that.  We eventually just felt like roommates.  It was lonely.  I was getting anxiety over this and I finally brought up if its gonna work out, she said it will not work out if this is how its gonna be.  So we separated, not divorced.

Now, she started to date around after 2 months. It stung, but It was what she wanted.  So I started making myself available.  Started talking to this woman who i'm really into, same age with 3 kids.  I'm really digging and the conversations are fun, exciting and going out is fun.  My wife comes back to me and says she wants to work it out, and i've been wanting to as well.  I miss her immensely.  Am I gonna fuck myself over emotionally? Should I at least try? I dunno guys, slap some sense into me.",0.8174669227486149,3.162641570422537,2.9318565941101165,89.37097524541191,85.76056338028171,6.118480580452412,21.63422962014511,7.463857097105799,0.9115037558685444,1082,37,229,19,33,365,151,284,0.091,0.799,0.111,0.8608,1,4,0,0,2,0,40.0,10,0,0,6,12,20,4,1,6,1,24,2,0,2,0,65,59,16,0,10,10,3,2,4,0,5,0,2,0,5,19,30,0,1,6,0,0,5,9,10,1,1,19,4,42,10,33,30,8,39,0,4,0,2,38,18,1,8,20,162,61,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08290841481736116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09647886387764876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08333553132405337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11832005195504106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09335753422642233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08653053563011788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219099884761944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05479887012012459,0.0,0.10405930042242006,0.11872214491231305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10019316048495756,0.11324543740297807,0.0,0.061593374319417984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10731066566510457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21400049130080892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11311784889422485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117908943177106,0.1086226271663842,0.09569923029622923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764157711339677,0.09781483537814008,0.0,0.07234275646511433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730116143571455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07343933147604445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208288013959802,0.0,0.0,0.11635676913496275,0.0,0.0,0.10309172614605153,0.08618605890782849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3068403278416989,0.0,0.08655033211632239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17421929867935687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25811865061092953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07358114092829651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31961899417888306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09744429874238347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4734002304344751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,J9lander,2020/03/05,"Still Crossing my Mind My ex-wife and I were together for a total of seven years, and didn’t make it through the first three years of marriage. After a fairly civil divorce, all contact was cut by them unexpectedly. Problem I’m running into now is that even after being apart for almost two years, and having not spoken for a year and a half, they still cross my mind all of the time. I feel like I have an illness because not a day goes by that I dont think of them, am reminded of the previous life, or stop to think that I am worse off. I try to read advice, but “getting over” seems way easier said than done. I want to move on, I even want to forget, and simply I just don’t want these feelings to consume my life anymore. I’m tired of hurting.",3.4007142857142867,4.345254785714288,4.658311688311688,86.60032467532469,72.57142857142857,6.898701298701298,25.688311688311693,6.980632752743323,1.0195012987012984,583,18,122,5,11,193,100,154,0.125,0.81,0.066,-0.8338,0,0,0,0,1,1,17.0,0,0,3,1,6,4,1,0,9,0,12,4,0,1,3,29,25,7,0,4,5,0,2,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,5,6,0,1,5,1,0,4,5,3,0,5,5,3,16,1,24,19,3,23,0,1,0,0,7,5,0,3,14,89,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14987525398292514,0.0,0.0,0.15358186135692026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15210575079283428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349533955236768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09891351282292013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15695480651652335,0.17975313327867998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20260410187150146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551009602881896,0.10957038427329696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13045980798111345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08013156133947141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16418999124642028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166651207939313,0.07493076731546464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10237830609497572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3097279455971213,0.0,0.0,0.1630122418640124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14675816156530605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15341546041647966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14589375372127927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13962588853303873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24496927756131665,0.12822749421674515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19655167510549326,0.0,0.0,0.08943358670460957,0.17628079933499075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041308478811885,0.0,0.1498240681679928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713917977587163,0.12174110670427905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563011634992321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3950711944630643
divorce,dookin4life,2020/03/05,"I know I want a divorce, but I can't get there emotionally. I have several logical reasons for getting divorced, I know that I no longer love my husband, but whenever I even think about telling him I want a divorce, I can't help but break down into tears. We've been together almost 12 years and have 2 great kids, but I have been unhappy for a very long time. How do you get there emotionally? Or do you just ride through it?",5.462325581395347,5.314705697674423,6.211023255813953,81.16769767441862,67.6046511627907,10.135813953488373,34.64186046511628,9.888512548439397,3.138398139534884,334,15,71,7,5,110,58,86,0.135,0.7,0.165,0.568,0,0,0,0,3,0,10.0,0,2,0,0,6,2,0,0,3,0,9,1,0,2,0,17,18,7,0,2,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,5,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,14,2,6,16,0,7,0,0,0,1,11,2,0,2,3,46,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252509259894725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5060679470277084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485747117290188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35257500267074704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480037595385532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507765623907306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24724887791591835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19907013169082352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20302254781335966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23128195308520236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25412495208624003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19661271922086845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441363141165609,0.0,0.0,0.13116782178434885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18560400855730866,0.2653579583378493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14485784909482474
divorce,denman08,2020/03/05,"Moving on So I wasn't married to my ex, but we were together for a good 8 years and it felt like a marriage sometimes! We have kids.
So after a bad year we decided to separate (in 2017) she didn't really want to do it anymore and I made the decision to call it a day but to try and remain amicable. Neither of us cheated and it wasn't a toxic relationship. I tried so hard and sometimes whatever I did, it was not good enough. We were close in the following couple of years and I still went round to help with the kids bath/bedtime routine. 
In the last year she moved away back to her roots and has made a conscious decision to move on and try and meet someone else. 
She has become very distant with me and we rarely speak, just at the handovers with the kids.

I have moved closer to her but not to try and rekindle anything but to be a good dad and see my young children. I do admit that Ive struggled to move on as quick as she has. Memories of old times do pop up in my head on a regular basis.

There is no chance of getting back together but in recent months I've been thinking she is a good person / good mum and I'm unlikely to find someone as good.... Or maybe it's the validation that I am craving from her! because I sometimes couldn't win with her particular way of doing things! Either way I need to move on..

Any thoughts?",2.9471099567099555,4.197712403636366,4.406597402597402,86.79351515151518,74.05454545454545,7.5653679653679635,27.277056277056275,8.11559375814309,1.6280510822510812,1041,39,223,16,21,347,146,275,0.067,0.809,0.124,0.9520000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,6,0,0,1,9,11,1,1,16,0,23,1,1,3,0,48,36,25,0,3,10,3,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,5,9,23,0,0,9,0,0,8,8,3,0,0,13,5,30,8,42,21,3,41,0,0,2,0,30,15,0,1,17,153,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059816496965160414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08723367712791047,0.0,0.0,0.07238440902842233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264225590254667,0.13527316046187632,0.07344376166950126,0.05362020976171946,0.09714601481725862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08981801661131272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09732717451907308,0.0,0.05672756878820483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734801293943282,0.0,0.0,0.09088722745105232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08445635505013996,0.0,0.0803947613310425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04595599254602352,0.0,0.0,0.4426650859511769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07879577956027985,0.0,0.09027336373603022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05895840480626083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716999557821421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04297330198807818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166461651835855,0.0,0.0,0.08836864822805797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07020963177067815,0.5609317412605819,0.0,0.06522196766325683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923002738762336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07680415322573057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056350069586179385,0.0,0.08685087675539119,0.09443719654713624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07009352941723837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149058141341114,0.0,0.26098703732408585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07024576899181942,0.0,0.0,0.091955936585956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05843738053375552,0.05636185770666573,0.0,0.06983120942438711,0.051290767024361805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388789829648201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10580625380445613,0.0,0.0,0.0725770378145937,0.0518816773581238,0.13963869663152648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0815407291349952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265760028183791
divorce,CypressCity,2020/03/05,"I know I can't be alone, when did you know it was time? Do you ever really know? I've been struggling in my marriage for quite some time now. We were once best friends and now practically enemies. I miss the fun times we had growing together, bonding, knowing our ins and outs, becoming parents, etc. 6 years later....our marriage has really made a downfall, we have our good days and bad days. When they are bad, they are the worst. He is so verbally abusive, especially when he drinks. He doesn't care about the foul language he uses in front of our child, hw calls me a c*nt bitch all the time. Last year he started showing signs of physical abuse and has twice. No TOO serious, but he grabbed me hard enough to bruise my arms and another situation. I can barely look at him without crying or being upset, but I have to. We have one child together that we need to communicate about.

I feel like I've lost hope in our marriage. I will not put all the blame on him, but I am not as open minding and excepting as he wishes I would be on certain things he enjoys. We have different views in that department. I know I get upset a lot, but mainly because he puts so much effort into making me unhappy. Our marriage is constant arguing, belittling eachother, unloving, we don't sleep in the same bed, we don't cuddle, hold hands, watch movies together, nothing. Now I see us as roommates with a child. I would have never thought this would happen to us. I can't imagine living without him and uprooting our child's lifestyle.Has anyone gone through this and tried working it out? We went to counseling once. Haven't gone back because we got in an argument soon after, go figure. I don't know if he would want to go again. When did you know the fight was not worth it anymore. I feel like I have given the patience I have. Any words of advice? Thoughts?",3.5015833333333326,5.367323769444448,4.331666666666667,85.38,73.80555555555556,7.466666666666668,27.833333333333336,8.238735603445708,1.9044,1447,57,283,24,30,465,205,360,0.158,0.7490000000000001,0.09300000000000001,-0.9728,2,1,1,0,2,0,55.0,18,3,2,5,16,23,3,3,13,0,38,5,3,3,5,71,71,23,0,9,12,1,5,2,1,5,0,0,1,4,8,23,1,1,13,2,1,10,14,13,0,2,16,9,49,10,34,47,11,48,0,2,4,1,49,14,1,5,26,188,57,1,0.0,0.22338074166828173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09211611870257204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09763164976899363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06410444272512777,0.098846629369517,0.0,0.0,0.0934870235280658,0.06591331851756066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07248510868269395,0.15741715587934388,0.11492794931075632,0.1041099271736778,0.0,0.0,0.09892686082881044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09625662139489737,0.0,0.09611096457354028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10186858212182084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10354730798872178,0.1215881694455382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09848841382501602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234526823561054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09740247861681214,0.10513204963393452,0.0,0.0852694330588735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09532793499330776,0.1346879922572854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07283005291552548,0.0,0.049250348006149976,0.0,0.10714763224622853,0.07906625565546688,0.0753935199200214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335954187230132,0.0,0.08444425524861071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09362789012352678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3626447663251869,0.07683976732217516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09210768653366226,0.0,0.08323903380298188,0.0,0.07916010626020738,0.0,0.10290300456127496,0.08014199503268883,0.0,0.08919722791738305,0.06292361111119414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951822780743332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06929671333695593,0.06989740460603333,0.0727041250183501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09045123528841097,0.0,0.0,0.20078146121981805,0.06387741026004598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10467177654230587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895277091576532,0.0,0.10026401089788664,0.0,0.0,0.12077904897868386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.075118184278603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059594793949028,0.09433456370144803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06672230367546539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985477981691784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06262646432830242,0.0,0.0,0.14967411975259332,0.2198701832343088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06400075588940007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22678195083602395,0.08141597711359856,0.0,0.0,0.0556008155513439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08738597654162111,0.0,0.0,0.10840180621595842,0.18173905636986354,0.0,0.06862712420552483,0.0,0.0,0.267856826853665,0.0,0.0,0.12140905212168188
divorce,flipflopflamongo2,2020/03/05,"All done..... time to move forward..... Final decree is signed and entered. I’m single. Never in a million years would have thought this a year ago. Never would have thought I could ever be happy about it six months ago.

Life is strange and kinda moves according to its own plans sometimes. I have a clean conscience and a positive outlook. Honestly glad she never wanted to reconcile. She isn’t a safe partner for me, and I know that now.  Honestly can’t wait to start this next chapter. 

It’s a big world out there and there is a lot of life left to live......",1.8663888888888884,4.376681379629634,2.7792592592592613,91.1666666666667,82.42592592592592,5.4518518518518535,23.814814814814817,6.816661863887847,0.8735037037037037,431,16,85,5,12,136,74,108,0.016,0.784,0.2,0.9643,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,0,0,1,5,5,0,0,7,0,13,2,0,0,5,24,20,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,1,6,6,0,2,4,0,0,4,5,0,0,2,3,0,6,5,10,13,4,23,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,2,15,60,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3087798459738721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139059425886448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782349106949988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575454372017171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19079314823711385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18540567470594824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09571848770602097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18923465406632334,0.0,0.2460408146300512,0.0,0.0,0.15379403265980313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14807188452778022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13901968587733002,0.37022723949221775,0.0,0.0,0.4029886004217649,0.0,0.18523024339024494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722571629742408,0.0,0.12327740582488872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.276540769514951,0.10155909011777492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10272913141993666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474487010192091,0.0,0.0,0.2243176893594457
divorce,burgeroburger,2020/03/05,"Anyone ever utilized any legal loopholes to keep more money in divorce? I know this may sound pretty shady but hear me out. My parents are getting a divorce and I’m an adult but my family has been running a ~65 employee small business for 3 generations now. So I’m concerned about my career and future here. 

We had a really rough year financially last year and then my mom cheated on my dad. She is not a bad person in terms of her intentions but I’m almost positive she has a personality disorder, she’s very difficult to deal with, and the decisions she makes are so reckless that I’m almost 100% sure that in 5 years or less, the millions of dollars she’ll receive from the divorce might as well have been lit on fire. 

I have a wife and son to look after and I love my mom but she’s completely destroying millions of dollars and putting the business in severe jeopardy at a time when it’s already on the rocks. If she isn’t amenable in the divorce, which is very possible, my dad will be forced to sell the business to separate assets. This is my family’s future and yes I’ve told her, she’s just an insanely unreasonable and frankly stupid person when it comes to something like this and talking to her just makes it worse. My dad has seen three expensive well reputed lawyers who all say the only answer is an amenable 50/50 division of assets. Lawyers in my experience are primarily motivated as risk mitigators and not willing to present alternative solutions. Has anybody ever had any experience with some sort of legal loophole to get out of paying the spouse 50%?",5.531184939091915,6.845968873754152,6.308305647840536,75.36440753045406,67.90365448504983,9.454263565891472,33.93466223698782,9.725611199111238,3.419473532668881,1265,59,225,28,21,416,171,301,0.141,0.731,0.128,-0.8822,3,0,1,0,4,0,22.0,1,0,0,1,13,11,3,1,19,1,24,1,0,4,4,45,40,24,0,1,10,9,2,1,0,5,0,3,0,4,10,17,0,1,4,1,6,4,3,6,2,3,6,8,26,5,35,28,5,33,2,0,3,1,37,13,0,8,17,152,36,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.246843822810926,0.0,0.13601477344932114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16763502643653633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08618264524652021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10291263743040976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10617312514134668,0.12923034767203506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12707032100941504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14126071723607966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229821063470485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24113375539079535,0.2323873748329945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12879112646561286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389171549942257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10955455903616576,0.0,0.0,0.06773763297795461,0.1004691397261067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06021608569816912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10350301743163964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11124229922456767,0.0,0.16454711660682855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307539003095706,0.0,0.28870914214780674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09374085478442801,0.0,0.0,0.1368599061305832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32286409877688343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389513051434323,0.0,0.12539447635749315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12390515065910368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07896020231911713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09801719051048492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13924287851216793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09488759234475352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11616622170472668,0.0,0.0,0.09906756617981574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0718708844742866,0.0,0.0,0.11777527516823398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033962914916458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216417948570392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12560720506662734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.238116214690318
divorce,a_ruiz03,2020/03/05,"I know I'm not alone here, when do you know it's time to step down? Do you ever really know? I've been struggling in my marriage for quite some time now. We were once best friends and now practically enemies. I miss the fun times we had growing together, bonding, knowing our ins and outs, becoming parents, etc. 6 years later....our marriage has really made a downfall, we have our good days and bad days. When they are bad, they are the worst. He is so verbally abusive, especially when he drinks. He doesn't care about the foul language he uses in front of our child, hw calls me a c*nt bitch all the time. Last year he started showing signs of physical abuse and has twice. No black eyes or anything like that, he grabbed me hard enough to bruise my arms and another situation. I can't look at my husband, can barely talk to him without crying or being upset (but I have to, we have one child together).

 I feel like I've lost hope in our marriage. I will not put all the blame on him, but I am not as open minding and excepting as he wishes I would be on certain things he enjoys. We have different views in that department. Our marriage is constant consistant arguing, belittling eachother, unloving, we don't sleep in the same bed, we don't cuddle, hold hands, watch movies together, nothing. Now I see is as roommates with a child. I would have never thought this would happen to us. I can't imagine living without him and uprooting our child's lifestyle.Has anyone gone through this and tried working it out? We went to counseling once. Haven't gone back because we got in an argument soon after, go figure. I don't know if he would want to go again. When did you know the fight was not worth it anymore. What if you can't afford a divorce immediately? I feel like I have given the patience I have. Any words of advice? Thoughts?",3.5315126050420136,5.4463861708683465,4.222428571428573,85.98507142857146,73.84593837535014,7.3370308123249295,28.14649859943977,8.131152278815165,1.876304649859944,1441,58,283,23,30,459,206,357,0.13,0.7809999999999999,0.08800000000000001,-0.9384,3,1,1,0,3,0,56.0,16,4,2,4,14,22,3,2,13,0,38,6,4,2,5,66,68,22,0,9,13,2,5,3,1,5,0,0,1,4,9,21,1,1,12,2,1,10,16,11,0,2,14,11,45,11,34,47,8,48,0,2,6,1,50,14,1,6,27,182,54,1,0.0,0.23684198453631186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09766716771715983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351507257138776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06796746809606198,0.1048032685797366,0.0,0.0,0.09912068522746743,0.06988534932995856,0.0,0.0822479627009432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07685316496635633,0.16690333875733404,0.06092683592632455,0.11038374023469334,0.0,0.0,0.10488833490147674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10205718302154324,0.0,0.10190274871188068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10800732852548367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10978721681325594,0.1289152463750978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10442346645437096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979101261286822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10327209123792194,0.11146745725576862,0.0,0.090407891007631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010725326496191,0.14280448323874634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07721889603183688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11360450175802694,0.08383090126499984,0.07993684122310032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838290704751912,0.0,0.08953298680273679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09927004064537273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3295699357967909,0.08147024156145732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14648734112054373,0.0,0.08825513698964796,0.0,0.08393040744136343,0.0,0.10910408674008848,0.0,0.0,0.09457238040001724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091809823645642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07708537953953427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09590195604812056,0.0,0.0,0.2128808391370582,0.06772675433003825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11097944744957022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004744599428762,0.0,0.10630606354548472,0.0,0.0,0.12805736715208355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07964491346227325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11234474911713754,0.10001929938345497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07074308509011241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10448642938401638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08033370813742521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06640042460792757,0.0,0.0,0.15869369620310148,0.233119874831942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06785753294336869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12022407771566372,0.08632222029767582,0.0,0.0,0.058951400190858774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09265198042674372,0.0,0.0,0.11493425404430828,0.1926909117452668,0.0,0.0727626928287004,0.0,0.0,0.2839982622039491,0.0,0.0,0.12872533518521576
divorce,WisestFool429,2020/03/05,"Finally realized it’s just not going to work, what comes next? After 15 years of marriage it’s become painfully apparent my marriage me (M35) her (F40) is doomed to fail. We want different things, barely converse, and just have different trajectories. It hurts, it sucks, but it’s probably for the best. What is my next step? Move out? Call a divorce attorney? The longer we stay together the more deafening the silent moments get and it’s a challenge to handle. Lots of emotion and I’ll spare the gory details but really I just feel lost. Any good advice on starting over at 35 and where the hell I go from here?",1.8470689655172408,4.651363275862072,3.0047413793103463,86.43314655172415,88.65517241379311,6.693103448275862,24.49137931034483,7.865858978985527,1.8994413793103453,484,20,89,11,16,155,84,116,0.188,0.7190000000000001,0.09300000000000001,-0.9108,3,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,2,0,0,5,5,10,2,0,8,0,3,1,0,0,0,18,12,6,0,1,6,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,9,8,0,0,2,0,0,5,1,7,0,0,1,1,8,3,12,11,3,18,2,4,0,0,8,5,2,1,7,55,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17940104664277273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12484681596792566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20275962734781555,0.0,0.0,0.1926653296268004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18746489613070869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15814566796730276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3836228614764912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20651291531216764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09282811495408838,0.0,0.0,0.2011127764378635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09591767547602284,0.0,0.2086757197438409,0.15398574341278395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19653582225943253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004090812877821,0.15608080313638772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19512605335981867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3904979698975054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19535164066424346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19793999389730688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11761181487279485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12994523957793708,0.1956814473847359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12196837433316672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10828554920241486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13365497899783907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11822529720810156
divorce,oldmaidwithfullshoe,2020/03/05,"[MI] Can I move out with the kids before filing? What is separation vs. divorce? We have 3 kids aged 4, 3, and 18 months. 

I’ve wanted a divorce since the day we got married. 

Are there repercussions to doing so? What’s the smart way to handle this? Where do I begin?

I make more money than him. I don’t want or need his money.  I’m not trying to take the kids away, but I want full custody (mental health issues/suicide attempt last time I tried to leave; sex offender registry). I want to amicably co-parent. I just don’t want to be married.",0.3109350649350624,2.670069600000001,2.4924675324675327,91.18727272727274,89.36363636363636,4.5974025974025965,18.766233766233768,6.1826913282559595,0.0007142857142850013,416,12,86,4,14,140,79,110,0.046,0.8690000000000001,0.085,-0.2566,2,0,0,0,2,1,23.0,2,0,0,1,4,2,1,0,5,0,9,2,0,1,0,17,20,4,0,6,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,5,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,12,1,10,18,2,12,0,0,0,1,9,4,0,1,6,49,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19458710900156506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17623575988939524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13356912260721615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656451668268203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22014875009209348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688226798605233,0.0,0.21930008872235845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382478503579165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20871864598128384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16531360526303945,0.22012565825046848,0.0,0.1535697929876526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17132392521026701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22654524435179094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15572130204668802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207677835599332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812288349871028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6107956212602713,0.16439465492276084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,melr18t,2020/03/05,"How to get started with lawyers and moving after separation Its happening. I (F33) am heading to mediation next week with my STBX (M37). We have been together for 12 years and married for 6 years. Its a long story and I should have seen the writing on the wall sooner. I thought he was my best friend. He has some issues and has cheated on me multiple times, specifically after we had kids (4 and 2). I kept forgiving him. I think he struggles with depression. One day he realized he doesn't want to be with me anymore; he feels I am the cause of all his problems.

I am really struggling with everything. I have made some progress, in that I have accepted that this is going to happen. There is no hope left for working things out and staying together. I am scared and don't know even where to begin. He told me yesterday he made an appointment for next week for mediation.

He was a part time dad before we started talking about separating. He's around maybe 2 weeknights and at most 1 weekend day. This is while we were together. He can be a great dad when he wants; when its convenient. The kids love him.

I live where I live because of him. My friends and family are an hour away. I feel so alone here. I would like to move back home. He knows this and verbally agreed to it when we first started talking about separating. He has said he wants the kids 1 night a week and every other weekend. I need the support of my family. My kids are very close to my family. Am I going to look like the bad guy if we move away after we separate? I probably wouldn't move for a year. I need to get some things in order first. What aspects am I not thinking about? 

I plan on talking to a lawyer but trying to go through mediation. Calling lawyers is intimidating to me. I call an office and get a machine asking me to pick a mailbox number. I don't know who I want to talk to. How can I be a better advocate for myself?",2.1485035561877623,4.342587915789476,3.755405405405409,86.4306756756757,79.05263157894737,7.160739687055478,25.27027027027027,8.186683628785799,1.6483997155049788,1488,57,304,29,37,494,192,380,0.066,0.847,0.087,0.7871,0,1,0,0,0,0,46.0,7,0,0,7,16,19,1,3,19,0,35,2,1,6,1,65,72,21,0,12,3,2,2,2,2,3,0,1,2,5,14,27,0,1,11,2,0,7,6,7,0,3,12,5,47,12,48,54,7,56,0,1,2,1,48,15,0,6,34,202,61,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08661211995271982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829352911171137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07444556100403595,0.07817974725595267,0.0,0.157140218720868,0.06430382916673041,0.06982486529674395,0.05097810676750759,0.0,0.07116022741063285,0.0,0.0877611425897681,0.07396108796908625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707845777107024,0.0,0.0,0.08590773553608098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10786470516237316,0.0,0.07202762007234552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05523469718485465,0.0,0.07045916600668659,0.0,0.07515835444547395,0.0,0.2365076469158153,0.0,0.08456842181834777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14226578676479756,0.0,0.0,0.12921968017968988,0.0,0.13107461748259547,0.0,0.14258107281888116,0.0,0.0,0.09219881633559307,0.0,0.08280365653234036,0.1479017645800446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08582519902939341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08388447535453393,0.0830602583228535,0.08235552953537276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08728462776240523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13787726802952455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086073737155244,0.0,0.0,0.08171163770659393,0.0,0.1476879515515879,0.07400706563406494,0.0702254303302428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07547643081159926,0.15825935589759935,0.0,0.0,0.08401433721145889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3555281155163824,0.0,0.12401639030879512,0.0,0.0,0.17787605109634005,0.07847806472557099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05666766804415156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09055964959522628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09016380924522578,0.08001953108142748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05357345442112678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0795482148043334,0.0,0.0837249921000416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17757438852466834,0.08913501686769054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17484972826539347,0.0,0.0,0.0948986749664152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688641409451577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11111582880043286,0.1071693233783925,0.0,0.06639031935085875,0.09752689178854963,0.0,0.0,0.07990896870629494,0.0,0.056777091847503625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.069000848728928,0.19730095793306746,0.0,0.2012410674913836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06088128929259193,0.0,0.0,0.05940606266640289,0.0,0.0,0.16155870679113565
divorce,Lucas21Lfc,2020/03/05,"Is a Clean break order sufficient without a Consent order? My wife and I are now looking at a divorce, she cheated on me and has decided to leave the family home. She has also agreed she will not want anything from me. We have 2 kids together and have decided to co parent. So we do not need anything in writing in terms of the kids.

The family home is under my name. I bought this in 2013, we were married in 2016.

My question is, I do not need a consent order right as it is already owned by me? If we owned the house 50/50 and wanted to make things official I understand a consent order may have been required.

secondly, a clean break order will stop my future ex-wife from claiming a percentage of the home if she suddenly changes her mind.

In summary, I just want to know if my assumption that ONLY a clean break order is required, consent order is NOT required in my situation.",4.672784200385356,5.734278277456646,5.924985549132947,78.26104287090561,69.69364161849711,9.003660886319848,32.33574181117534,9.2995712137729,3.006044701348748,694,31,128,14,12,233,92,173,0.094,0.846,0.06,-0.2425,1,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,4,0,0,3,4,1,1,0,13,0,19,0,0,1,0,36,29,10,0,8,9,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,6,2,4,8,0,4,5,0,1,0,5,1,0,1,3,1,23,0,20,23,3,25,0,0,1,0,17,10,0,5,5,97,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820021396477475,0.1318928550948207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714433682089854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17447194617583392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31095886405668377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4963086681879971,0.0,0.0,0.19030475836056227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906401108057214,0.0,0.0,0.17463492911640974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13849797455697296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11009071491218833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665302555769862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24458403158034084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12543516936071353,0.0,0.0,0.18313301648101474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847570958546977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14084760346066982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853859724880428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378871857542167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10957082895547493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716958554921507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918364073033572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15898469819118008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,gemblack,2020/03/05,"Currently separated and preparing to divorce Any Californians here? 

My husband had an affair for about 6 months and we just separated a few weeks ago. We don’t own any property, childless, cars paid off, individual credit card debt.

Last year I was making double his income but ultimately left my career as it was killing me in December. Currently unemployed and we were living off his paycheck and health insurance. He has agreed to continue to financially support me with everything until I get back on my feet. I just started counseling as this all did a big number on me. 

We agreed to give time to process all of this and I have started looking for a job (we agreed for me to take off a few months due to how stressful my career was).

I’m okay with leaving this marriage with whatever I came into it with. I believe he’ll be on the same page. We honestly haven’t discussed about any of these things. We’re pretty minimalist people. 

How should I proceed when the time comes? Is a lawyer always necessary?",3.881111111111114,6.425169624338626,5.112407407407408,77.11083333333335,74.97883597883596,8.432804232804234,29.54761904761905,9.150863307647796,2.959171428571428,805,36,141,20,18,266,120,189,0.062,0.8059999999999999,0.132,0.8919,7,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,6,0,0,0,9,6,1,1,8,1,13,2,1,3,2,28,26,12,1,1,3,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,7,18,0,0,0,0,3,3,2,2,0,0,8,1,23,4,29,15,8,31,0,0,1,0,16,10,0,0,18,100,30,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15699683264371514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14736924226156972,0.0,0.0,0.3613214782132387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361862272686241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19954168966697844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20256601719691628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15256410046705038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159174544848766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09253237262822422,0.16989951351189667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882590530159863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17575379105148867,0.0,0.1959453547326691,0.0,0.0,0.1443678323173209,0.0,0.18753332468125475,0.19242992508880125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563908805702057,0.0,0.14872732369007147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182219266699887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827341310314902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12278538573789526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18018397276664272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507179468271267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20287826546026488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20098169399768948,0.0,0.0,0.13316425755523162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11766364235418282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20654787781735545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420665099227692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140526727847702
divorce,GoingDownTheRd,2020/03/05,"I have no idea what to do Hello Reddit,

I have never posted before so here it goes.  My wife (45) told me she was done.  We have 3 kids - 8,9 and 12.  I have not been the best spouse I could have been.  We have our faults.  When she told me that she no longer has feelings for me, I was indifferent.  I went through a lot of self reflection and realized that I was not the person I wanted to be with either.  I am trying to work on this.  Today I caught her in a lie and asked her if she was cheating on me.  She said she is in love with someone else whom she worked with and that is where she was.  She said she has not acted on these feelings as of yet.  I sincerely believe this.  She says that she has no one to talk to.  I think this person was there at the right time at her peak vulnerability.  We talked about it this evening, calmly and not accusatory.  I am completely numb.  If we work this out, I am not sure I can ever mentally move past this.  I just have no idea whether to say the hell with it or to try and move forward.  I don’t know what else to say.",1.1052242152466365,2.7183652959641265,2.6750919282511205,95.74286210762331,79.89686098654708,5.89497757847534,18.773318385650228,6.742157984588678,-0.1872222421524663,803,17,195,8,20,263,118,223,0.139,0.8190000000000001,0.042,-0.9597,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,5,0,0,4,10,9,2,0,6,0,29,2,0,0,3,40,42,13,0,4,11,2,2,0,0,0,1,5,0,4,17,15,0,0,8,0,0,6,11,4,0,1,15,7,42,5,26,25,3,24,1,0,0,1,39,11,1,4,8,153,59,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12205529661025732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11109632568934708,0.1470955924965405,0.13701390277689382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13688891437623948,0.0,0.0,0.10424095626540253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336074661051505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21813104018667376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08623316887944864,0.11809833763133908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13202938319954552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29477105633165096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07175196235098351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11099682557153644,0.11783484179902975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13157303992066566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775276917343438,0.0,0.0,0.10069536052479566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08847034269241492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246335997416377,0.0,0.2279986436044361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12503969419289673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11149690629127426,0.2483835339342339,0.3114779238985089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136201796285114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11062244884104393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12305057026315412,0.0,0.0,0.20987719724576487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08365711077093763,0.0,0.0,0.07613016236645316,0.0,0.12375492547832873,0.24950996184050656,0.0,0.17728235327819447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07700724224384997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121029754645269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28514611840433124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,_chicken_lover,2020/03/05,"Ugh I hate my husband. All he does between loooong bouts of ignoring me is yell at me and find fault. 

Hes been low key abusing me for years... but I was blind to it. (I come from an abusive family so shit seemed normal) 

I would have left 5 years ago (when I joined this sub) but I couldnt due to financial abuse issues.

When I was young - he is 20 years older than me - he conspired with his lawyer to write a really shitty prenup that my lawyer advised me not to sign. We have been married 13 years, together for 18. 

The current prenup actually leaves me potentially owing him money as my only stake is the family business which with creative accounting could be shown to only have debt. LOL. 

My husband is worth millions and he actively and passively makes my life a fucking misery. 

I emailed a lawyer today and will see what can be done. 

This time next year I plan to be separated at the very least, I am finishing my undergrad degree in November and will apply to complete my post graduate studies in another city. 

That way Ill at a minimum have some fucking peace while I write my thesis.",4.279386792452829,5.7906843443396285,5.1624056603773605,81.65040094339625,71.12264150943396,8.69622641509434,28.816037735849058,9.188382445141503,2.4571924528301885,859,33,165,18,16,280,139,212,0.21100000000000002,0.7120000000000001,0.078,-0.9857,2,0,0,0,1,0,23.0,1,0,0,1,3,8,4,0,8,1,24,6,1,1,1,25,32,12,0,4,3,2,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,7,9,0,1,2,0,5,1,2,8,0,1,5,3,29,0,21,19,3,27,0,1,2,2,14,7,3,2,17,104,36,6,0.0,0.4812439257085662,0.13212080587422295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12001478999572088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14196789333936413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11662622850482132,0.14195351259833033,0.0,0.0,0.10809764958623468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11848042886707673,0.13855065773156947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25526669807286234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237437225875094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25033117093685464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13366928767666866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14131165955085748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433581314974453,0.14710129280655454,0.0,0.09562974100550684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09037366845729287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14398846978644828,0.0,0.13265314887325422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20593991814353227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296658965101974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08673410136695796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788805285049163,0.12325368761848494,0.0,0.0,0.13897556974369102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07894681619649882,0.0,0.12833359409008974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11171067224854718,0.0,0.10746603293777657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09617695026004774,0.0,0.0,0.4359326026588735
divorce,yesIknowitsfuckedup,2020/03/05,"Recording arguments I do it, it's legal here and here is my reasoning, I thought my husband was gaslighting me. 

Looking back it's been there but I didn't realize it. As things have gotten uglier during this process I've heard, ""I never said that"", "" you hear what you want to hear"", ""it didn't happen like that."" It had me questioning my sanity. Questioning if my reasons for being angry were completely invalid. So I started recording the arguments. 

The first one he twisted something he said less than 24 hours later. I wasn't sure, and he was so insistent, I doubted my own memory of the discussion. When I listened to the argument again my memory of it had been correct. Tonight I told him I had recorded our last few arguments and why,he then proceeded to yell at me for breaking HIS trust. Dude, you have spent the last year telling me every memory I've had has been false. FUCK YOU. 

How do you deal with someone who is constantly twisting the truths and rewriting history? Fuck my life.",3.1590705487122084,5.729221872340427,4.085968645016799,83.39184210526318,77.61702127659575,7.787681970884662,29.04367301231803,8.6894789155246,2.6457829787234046,784,36,142,18,19,252,115,188,0.207,0.741,0.052000000000000005,-0.9862,0,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,1,5,0,1,9,7,2,1,6,0,21,3,0,3,4,20,37,12,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,7,0,0,13,5,0,0,6,0,1,0,4,3,0,2,20,8,29,4,11,16,3,17,0,0,1,2,25,1,2,4,16,102,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12182456755805725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661131272128074,0.17120890332204491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633366216144363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13348594540163064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13476233200662344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29293599631330197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14010105420253674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35712916439968145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15602378430136235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582867459373953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11190533465645587,0.07740196079346945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13304312966150073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221926648247146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10735774592991193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3549606026847317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32578933729670845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30141056898575075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13423907261342266,0.12196883303357316,0.0,0.0,0.11213911297730632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14932045538436786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13847670915221272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10525530102856967,0.0,0.0,0.1257774544652506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513887381638441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09344740503969168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020251299967274
divorce,mjames74,2020/03/05,"Is there any loopholes to bypass having to live in separate residences? In Alabama. I found out that it is a requirement for us to live in separate houses to file, but want to know is there any way to bypass it? She has absolutely no where to go, I know for a fact, and I am the only one bringing in money. And it's not enough to continue paying all the bills and rent a room or extended stay hotel while filing.",5.024999999999999,4.977477214285717,6.695333333333334,76.98300000000003,68.52380952380952,10.529523809523807,28.704761904761906,10.355215969177356,2.7905076190476192,322,10,65,8,5,112,56,84,0.045,0.937,0.018000000000000002,-0.4853,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,5,0,6,0,0,0,2,14,12,6,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,4,0,1,3,1,4,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,5,0,15,11,2,13,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,1,2,49,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3547386957844565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695010420639491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2859801886976346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14823235997230144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3009560193845368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2866842340639691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4606249588073183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17674117613735332,0.1983684989636537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2780038116963654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3137393059166693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538408256492378,0.2070300487211766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,michelledruss,2020/03/05,"Boyfriend hates his ex I have a wonderful boyfriend for a year and a half. He is divorced with two kids and I am a divorced mom of four years. I’m not sure he can get over his hatred of his ex and I think the constant talk about her is ruining our relationship. Everyday is his ex did this or his ex’s fiancé is doing this. It’s like every hour sometimes 
He complains to me that she’s five mins late for their kids baseball game or she’s on her phone too much or she forgot their kids lunch. And he shares it all with me which I’ve told him is too much to bare. My ex is such an absent dead beat father so I’m so happy when he at least shows up for something so it’s hard for me to be empathetic when it’s so minor in comparison. I don’t want to compare but it’s bringing so much negative energy into my life and our relationship. I can’t convince him or help him to give up some control and let go a little. Please help!  It wasn’t this bad at first and it’s become so overwhelming. I want my boyfriend back!",0.7356430666108054,2.713857447004606,2.6125785504817784,93.89990678676165,82.82488479262673,5.7887725178047775,20.462714704650192,6.980632752743323,0.26788663594470075,794,23,184,10,22,264,122,217,0.109,0.762,0.129,0.3507,0,0,1,0,2,0,12.0,2,0,2,3,13,10,1,1,7,0,16,2,0,1,2,25,29,20,1,2,6,7,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,12,10,1,2,2,2,0,2,5,5,0,5,4,1,29,5,22,23,6,22,0,2,0,0,45,9,0,6,12,123,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12268687560444852,0.13322059780525786,0.0,0.17621442412756955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724207673812222,0.17895293806607482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344307959117309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13571621713479667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08336017464989959,0.1530583591127407,0.0906779921255936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698477822002986,0.14292869290641114,0.15752615504075598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21389083988589205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15712816388036116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799834190629559,0.0,0.0,0.16315437388056994,0.1126974316237805,0.07794983331981241,0.1599146310733857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18686725687495007,0.0,0.0,0.3518707802254316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751419481192096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3426017266293315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12283216223097565,0.15780259771278482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15037738694382022,0.0,0.0,0.12824314602287273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10223550927151023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15246030960192444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558606906002005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18821770333310595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730290813642252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20549458427539188
divorce,Dirtycummins87,2020/03/05,"Looking for advice I've had a few drinks at this time, so I'm sorry if things are not clear. AMD I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this.

I've been married since September of 2018. Not very long. It was very happy in the beginning. 

I am a commercial plumber and make very good money. She currently is working two jobs and still makes only half what I do. I'm stressing out way too much over money and how were ever going to move to the next level of our relationship. We currently rent a one bedroom apartment for $1400.00 a month. I dont have any Bill's other than rent and internet. Which I would have on my own. She decided we needed a horse, so she took a job at a barn for little to no money so her horse could get cheap board. The barn where she works is 30 miles away. Every saturday, monday and tuesday night we have to go back up to do a night check on all the horses, her boss pays her $20 for each night check. So 3 days a week she puts 120 miles on her vehicle. We get a discount for boarding her horse there @ $250 a month. Normal board is $1000. As it may seem she uses a TON of fuel going to and coming from work. She also recently totaled her car, and we were forced to get her a new one. Currently paying $360/month for that. 

I did a split cost of everything we pay for each month, if we were just roommates( i.e. split rent and tv/internet) my cost of living would be roughly $1000 each month and hers would be $1700. 

She was recently offered a job much closer to home (maybe 5 minutes) and a certain pay raise but turned it down.

A little side note, I was given an early inheritance from my grandmother for $15k. I've already burned through that because we are always coming up short for bills and rent...

I currently have $-118.00 in our checking account. And this is stressing me to the max. We are always broke. As I said before I make great money but I'm spending it all on her expenses.

Would any of you look at starting the divorce process or what would you do?

I'm honestly looking for some solid advice as I dont have any RL friends. Anything at this point will help, I dont want to divorce her but it's looking like my only option.",2.3871444837298483,3.8962642638580967,3.737176244981125,89.9791592257446,75.98447893569845,6.64951159585306,23.94085216036436,7.329194593529364,0.8843628093725657,1697,53,367,20,37,557,227,451,0.048,0.885,0.067,0.937,11,0,1,0,2,0,62.0,11,2,0,3,13,11,0,2,25,0,39,1,0,6,7,65,69,28,0,12,11,0,1,1,1,7,0,1,6,0,17,27,1,0,2,1,25,9,7,3,0,4,12,6,47,8,50,47,12,68,0,1,4,0,38,29,0,8,29,230,64,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15329949093869993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08655945757634738,0.06272769109912363,0.13053516965252948,0.0,0.0,0.16002375982212455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06454866618695079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07369608263425118,0.060314798420740785,0.0,0.047815725336991764,0.0,0.06674586610881021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13513661624183645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06262720991691682,0.0,0.0,0.050586707143928315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757899962864847,0.07684042060448604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07095262406117787,0.06608829442439397,0.0,0.07049597289547913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06060182622890351,0.0,0.1229435203779238,0.0,0.13373618300997114,0.06579096532252039,0.0,0.0864793449157353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08349984213999695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05257605113913565,0.0,0.07868077666914412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335160028636859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038321364534319884,0.1572330975126513,0.06926313053542747,0.0694161032596579,0.2634762333294955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15707605282171072,0.0,0.078802582661485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3130465624506747,0.08336831141375857,0.1153234746307624,0.05816157201889395,0.0,0.07575693674471061,0.08342083437936143,0.2208292437188933,0.07685362847781313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10630467949876962,0.119312885462498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195212692083068,0.0,0.07415026917593302,0.0,0.07512294070123274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07885292428152145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548982253768616,0.08421419967881474,0.0,0.06698653202693232,0.07461351217845542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07140797785209109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06488560426383927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08780611018786058,0.055519573185298564,0.0,0.06264153779190476,0.0,0.17970336546659868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392788948181009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052111428683932114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0457384489777101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08714868619252036,0.0,0.08531917723005569,0.07662356783440394,0.0,0.0,0.0677461665861689,0.0,0.19416132767868866,0.04626539220198158,0.06226127792319248,0.06291908572684382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713137182743698,0.0,0.0,0.2786043025061247,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,kitkateast,2020/03/05,Trying to turn the kids against me I am in the process of finalizing my divorce (has been just over 1 year since we separated) and am dealing with a situation where my STBX trash talks me to the kids constantly. We have 50/50 custody and parenting coordinator etc but she does not stop. She will straight up make up lies about me which are very upsetting to the kids and I don’t know how to get her to stop. Any tips from people who have been thru this? Does it get better or is this going to be what life looks like? Thanks.,3.703357142857144,5.128339561904767,4.250654761904766,87.96455357142858,72.42857142857143,7.916666666666668,25.505952380952376,8.472884824447931,1.3813095238095232,414,13,91,7,8,131,79,105,0.07,0.7759999999999999,0.154,0.8416,1,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,2,0,0,1,4,4,0,1,5,0,12,1,0,2,0,15,20,6,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,3,6,6,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,1,12,3,16,16,1,12,0,0,1,0,13,6,0,1,6,61,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14094766381445126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18330951279770116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22398039910786235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21368165433147046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3627589137263861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311558475200592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22704925057469896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21657536352919665,0.0,0.11779377377253199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11390771157456088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463977692299403,0.10125946568118778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740508390740044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13835134676890967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23014383627366425,0.0,0.0,0.14369181723622051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17145218334470175,0.23297513315489585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3465665177392478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665921771798073,0.0,0.19082224757471275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14071968558637746,0.2254453724093448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.171015763970568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13347220204263852
divorce,MandalorianRogers,2020/03/05,"Conflicted. My wife cheated on me with my best friend back in May last year and we split. Neither of us have the money to pay for divorce yet, so we've been putting it off have all the paper work filled out and everything. The thing is I'm still not over her and would take her back in a heart beat. We don't talk anymore but I still find myself dreaming about her every night. I know that it wouldn't work out in the end if we got back together but can't seem to get these thoughts out of my head, any advice or has anyone gone through something similar.",4.723242236024845,4.7927940695652165,4.669316770186335,90.84695652173912,69.17391304347825,7.962732919254659,27.732919254658388,7.447530270364453,1.1960310559006206,438,13,99,4,7,135,85,115,0.03,0.9279999999999999,0.042,0.3291,0,0,1,0,1,0,8.0,4,0,0,4,8,3,1,0,5,0,10,2,2,0,1,24,18,8,0,3,5,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,5,10,0,1,4,1,2,3,5,1,0,0,4,0,14,2,17,11,3,22,0,0,0,0,11,9,0,4,10,69,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17836066384363153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241228041391696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18101509064955248,0.12762525617137835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.421049832065778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915480245793347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616623812175217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537846211184326,0.0,0.1640410995098239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668239318715095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141017845397097,0.0,0.09536142955903236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14598138145466186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18732262192681629,0.0,0.0,0.21629221111317748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10031059892076499,0.14878169100269178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17128672015198765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18348736626252293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16616329585234196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14051614737334198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2915283331036693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372355815154003,0.1467061433982205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12126105516714138,0.0,0.0,0.14490393068709675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2195542966235378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657597737155851,0.0,0.0,0.12966004789814925,0.0,0.0,0.11753968490014448
divorce,kalishab,2020/03/05,How did you know your marriage was over? Did you stop caring about the simple things? Stop sleeping in the same room? Stop being affectionate?  When did you know it was truly over?,2.1372727272727303,5.017451818181818,2.002181818181821,92.46327272727272,91.42424242424242,3.852121212121212,15.690909090909093,5.6839178017228535,-0.5823890909090911,142,3,26,1,5,42,23,33,0.152,0.62,0.22899999999999998,0.6553,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,4,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,6,1,1,1,0,7,9,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,4,2,4,3,1,8,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,4,21,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32271889702979123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3479083325980304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167541443850946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7938886071952428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21028551302740145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,yoyodellirum,2020/03/06,I got married because I was pregnant can I file for an annulment on the grounds of an unsound mind I was pressured by everyone. I wouldn’t have married my husband if I wasn’t pregnant.,3.576666666666668,5.3196313513513545,4.847027027027028,82.27882882882884,73.32432432432431,7.095495495495496,42.06306306306306,7.793537801064563,3.702809009009009,148,11,27,2,3,49,26,37,0.064,0.9359999999999999,0.0,-0.2263,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,3,7,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,0,7,0,4,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,21,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3552877661196294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5569190537824866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4661424037046347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5884921666838131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,librolady9076,2020/03/06,"Moving On/Navigating Coparenting Been divorced about a year, separated almost 4 years. Finalizing the divorce helped me accept everything and move forward. Thought I had my emotions better in check but recently I found out that ex husband is moving in with his girlfriend and has been bringing her to our kids practices, pick ups etc. This person was also his affair partner. I know his life is not my business anymore but we do share two younger children. I’m having a hard time accepting that this affair partner is fast becoming step mommy to my kids. I’m uncomfortable with the knowledge that I will soon be seeing her at soccer games, dance recitals, etc. I want to be able to hold my head up high around them. I don’t want to seem weak in anyway. I know that my kids are watching me. I also don’t want to play everything off like it was “no big deal” because it was the biggest deal to me even if it wasn’t to them. I don’t want to give my power away but I don’t want to come off as childish or still stuck on him either. So my question is, how do I act around them now that I have to deal with them as a legitimate couple ? Please be specific as social interaction is not my strong suit. Thank you in advance.",4.096291666666668,5.52405337916667,4.950000000000003,83.32166666666669,71.45833333333334,7.5,28.333333333333336,7.984000788550335,1.786458333333334,961,36,188,13,18,312,142,240,0.083,0.7959999999999999,0.121,0.6425,2,0,0,0,2,0,21.0,2,1,4,4,12,9,0,0,6,0,26,3,1,2,0,36,44,14,0,6,8,2,1,1,3,1,2,0,0,7,10,10,0,1,9,4,1,10,8,1,0,1,10,3,36,8,32,30,3,36,0,0,2,0,37,18,0,5,11,133,46,0,0.11725603581260766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11741498226704565,0.0,0.0,0.1875392189518068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11628647988938814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208765463192874,0.0,0.0,0.11016590547861224,0.0,0.0,0.07147819110018891,0.1295000792161602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037034349655724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10100569229359907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12974157338120526,0.0,0.0,0.36265747268263104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13189725805823255,0.0,0.0,0.2615429503286406,0.07744650578621587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21076432855107285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12844825580296088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285651910638513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11248267403720624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050383766554932,0.0,0.12033852111088635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07859424915403516,0.12388743963911167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12888170154470885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08282140576739554,0.05728537626689584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3738738283024191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10238344769542948,0.0,0.1287119159955404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13135359541456598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577618949138806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09343787935251477,0.10674549117507837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11952776211017192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09364082166574464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10795360393100532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930881948089118,0.06837293743039316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11454210902053805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3458032396070393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15101808534634967
divorce,hairqueen2528,2020/03/06,"Today is a rough one. So, I've been separated for about 3 months. I'm financially secure, new apartment..that part I'm secure. But, when we separated I took my dog away from her home, yard, and best friend(the other dog we had). She's been miserable every day, and gotten worse day after day. She hasn't ate in a week, or barely got off the couch. It broke me. I cried all the time because I knew she was miserable. 
Her whole life she's had her yard and free to run as much as possible. Where I am in an apartment shes not able to and she was on a leash or by herself in a strange place. So....I broke down and let him take her back. I know, that shes happier in her environment, but I'm so upset I dont have my dog.",0.4330086580086565,2.202243383116884,2.7425714285714267,93.6857619047619,82.70129870129871,6.184588744588745,19.357575757575766,7.3011,0.2017814718614721,547,14,133,8,15,187,97,154,0.122,0.807,0.071,-0.7543,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,2,0,0,1,6,9,0,3,7,0,14,2,0,0,1,15,24,14,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,3,7,1,2,2,2,1,2,3,5,0,1,11,1,25,5,17,12,5,24,0,4,0,0,16,11,0,2,11,85,28,0,0.1919500670485634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18034340660194492,0.1475977531898094,0.0,0.11701097925669475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014397529894235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108481353720793,0.3713757408404349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22496404901141268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16172621022692218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14830014564899144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535200035910703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19254156790154145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054907369219616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19628194857208572,0.13558000899428754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15321271220770316,0.0,0.14110538533847808,0.0,0.0,0.18538657087207866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300703331388874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078632172161118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20054696557654744,0.0,0.0,0.21639485956970966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443225619399293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11192762771756656,0.0,0.18194621942980765,0.0,0.21326358724986666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15397076553679867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21430539492763725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19561351707549104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,drewmc83,2020/03/06,"What is going on ? Hey so confused my wife 34 moved out in November, btw I’m 36. Anyway since then she has dated others, got a steady bf now, has taken me to court over custody filed for divorce and just lies about everything. 
 The other day she found out I was talking to a old friend of hers and that we have plans to meet up for drinks. Wife blows up my phone going on about all kinds of crazy. Seems very jealous about me trying to move on. I have fought for this marriage and she knows that I have, but says that this is it and she can’t move on from me chatting with this women  . She even picked me up during lunch today and we drove around chatting, said things like this women is not good for you, you destroyed and hope of us getting back together but maybe we can hang out Tuesday like wtf .",2.9429914529914534,4.473223061728401,3.1823456790123466,94.44209401709404,74.55555555555556,5.7253561253561225,21.103513770180435,5.8734145424116955,-0.05741842355175698,624,14,136,3,13,191,108,162,0.124,0.8059999999999999,0.07,-0.8201,0,0,1,0,1,0,14.0,4,2,0,1,10,10,3,1,3,0,11,2,0,1,1,25,24,10,0,1,4,2,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,2,12,14,2,0,3,3,0,7,2,4,0,0,7,2,21,6,29,17,1,28,0,0,0,0,29,13,0,3,10,93,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15751634367384573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13605786453838195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11411327780653907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733362924426574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11686885594184306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15902451441197646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19400832408182064,0.13670534064149906,0.0,0.09244515596744607,0.0,0.20112100676543973,0.14841097843448492,0.1415170854644683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17574383239467706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18425839058532928,0.0972429734463824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17289034072087714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17776252922606206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.564185641905068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856713943405999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16831284193131382,0.14071178213744398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16108181129589294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14636866882712982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422196832675987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175527381409908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16772080564543893,0.0,0.0,0.12013234626263394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128400474756036,0.0,0.0,0.14599609776039746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,melvaley,2020/03/06,"Clarify legal mumbo jumbo Each party is hereby enjoined and restrained from causing or permitting the minor child of the parties to be removed from the state of Ohio except by a signed written agreement of the parties or unless authorized in writing by this Court. The minor child(ren) shall not be removed from (my) COUNTY for purposes of relocation unless by agreement...

So i know the last part means i can go wherever in the state as long as i don't move there but the first part does that mean moving or does that mean i cant visit relatives in other states with the children unless i have a written agreement? I am assuming that is what is meant but i just want to clarify. 

Also now am i finally legally separated or what?

Sorry i am new to this.",5.5151748251748245,6.841976776223781,6.407979020979023,74.5904300699301,67.95104895104896,8.796923076923079,33.18111888111888,9.120678840339163,3.166589370629371,601,27,100,11,10,199,88,143,0.01,0.87,0.11900000000000001,0.9034,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,11,0,13,0,0,2,0,27,22,14,0,1,12,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,8,3,0,1,6,0,0,6,3,0,0,1,3,0,10,3,24,16,3,18,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,5,6,83,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14322365483411334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18398175910575995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3134576519621752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1961918019707091,0.0,0.15233965571446856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10178484482493318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984269233904408,0.1459878044770675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15849504164723374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5852667927393099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3807031328208365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17297281582496793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3878887863254933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004842167392953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10563593920634626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,HeftyScarcity,2020/03/06,"Resigned despair The title really does an adequate job of summing up my inner state, I guess. I'm tired. Tired of fighting with my wife, tired of fighting in front of the kid, exhausted at the lack of reciprocity when I try to make massive, unwanted changes to myself in the hopes that it'll help heal the relationship and see nothing of a similar effort on her end... I'm just exhausted, and despairing over the loss of my family. My home. My kid, my way of life. Our dogs. Financial security. Emotional security. A place of belonging.

Income-wise, I make about half what she does. Between us, we do fairly well for our city, but on my own I'd need a roommate just to make ends meet each month, to say nothing of establishing a savings or safety net for the inevitable financial emergencies. I'll be the poor Dad whose presents suck at birthdays and holidays. The social loser who can't afford to date, or travel, or have an apartment of his own, let alone a house.

I'm forty years old. I've battled depression and anxiety since puberty (which, to be fair to her, absolutely contributed strongly to the impending divorce), and this is it for me. I'm done. I'm done trying and hoping. I don't know how you guys do it, but I have no intention of trying to come back from this or rebuild. Just holding down a regular, easy, no-demand job is difficult for me, and so I fucking give up.

When this is over, I'll see you guys in the other side, if there is one.",3.6004975505205152,5.34315074295775,5.139032455603188,80.2111114513166,73.26056338028171,8.882792406613596,29.24923453766075,9.43228470229965,2.756317085119412,1137,48,220,28,23,383,167,284,0.174,0.721,0.10400000000000001,-0.9565,5,1,0,0,6,0,49.0,4,2,0,4,11,21,5,0,19,0,16,8,0,5,0,35,35,18,0,6,10,2,0,0,0,1,7,1,1,4,12,11,0,3,1,2,1,3,3,14,1,2,2,3,26,7,41,29,4,31,0,6,2,1,27,16,2,8,10,144,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12027321410044582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08883732772279075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08929498801173026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228476464970189,0.1000336803174246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10002056726975132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032481629065207,0.2376777913677586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13062796608521665,0.2057092433255431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10947480510205143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10735813310617634,0.0,0.11140021517975407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12792768921441086,0.2299692448551183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07783791008342017,0.0,0.11648549267154396,0.2306819008230312,0.0,0.13399570643992226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304775303599962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0638207146465257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11874838109577385,0.08202438733742913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325483068981183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269197534624883,0.0,0.0,0.08610717456007598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22285520757322727,0.0,0.12185642474998586,0.0,0.07869109513735215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12132866862761366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07439434062126679,0.0,0.0,0.1246776271766716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234936136696244,0.0,0.0,0.18507739000527368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960619848955841,0.0,0.0,0.11837750598481706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40041492175079896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23652913682876694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13968725403880386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09217671635017287,0.0,0.0,0.104412695878512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07478239358913656
divorce,theDependantMan,2020/03/06,"Where do I draw the line? I (35M) am in quite a jam. We separated 3 weeks ago and I moved out 2 weeks ago. Divorce was first discussed in early January but we've had issues for the 5 years we've been married. Mostly me turning to the internet and having emotional affairs. It is the main reason for where we are now

She started seeing other people almost immediately after we discussed divorce and suggested we try an open relationship. I was against that and it's been hell since. 

In the 2 weeks I've been out of the house she has since fallen in love. I've been paying all the bills at the house. I feel like I should no longer be supporting her since he basically lives there now. 

Here is where the jam comes in. We have a son that I absolutely want to keep supporting and living in his house. He is not my biological son so I'm afraid of losing him if I stop supporting her financially.

I owned the house for 2 years prior to our relationship and I own the car she drives. She is unemployed at the moment.

Any advice aside from talk to a lawyer would be helpful.",2.7334481062469287,4.707028813084116,4.352164289227744,83.92065174618793,76.28971962616822,7.4959173635022145,23.412690605017207,8.371475516178862,1.4024990654205602,842,26,172,16,19,282,126,214,0.084,0.79,0.126,0.8569,2,0,0,0,2,0,18.0,6,0,0,3,8,8,1,1,16,0,21,1,0,1,1,28,33,9,0,4,3,2,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,15,0,2,2,0,2,5,2,3,0,1,7,2,26,5,22,22,5,35,1,1,1,1,29,14,1,3,17,114,31,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11157868956800387,0.202433375904768,0.0,0.1143381737559712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764862236382092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983588820849232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12844094781276522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05773455403674185,0.08157263836276757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09712433526540967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.076534721059327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5270092172071996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191777959141756,0.0,0.10149144559659994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05578423791253136,0.0,0.20165205489458315,0.0,0.0,0.12774200914203726,0.0,0.0,0.10305496968011932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213588757807956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07916038727704329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12144809295472285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11739954462922905,0.0,0.24518046304374894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909893803884328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2833610464557489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08081959285654279,0.0,0.0,0.0954624288604924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3887218817656832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09177628564053802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07752302826130228,0.12419874237099175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06734832324147871,0.0,0.2747730898999031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08111260589657572,0.0,0.0,0.14706072214321925
divorce,Mlifecrisis,2020/03/06,"Talk to me about what kind of attorney you chose and why. The best you can find?

A certain gender?

Someone who understands the specifics of your situation?

Someone who is well-regarded in your locality?

Did you hire based on price? Experience?  

Seriously, based on previous experience, I can make an argument for just about any type. I really cannot tolerate the type who obviously churn. But how do you avoid this? 

Discuss?",3.1426909090909088,6.279858760000002,4.690424242424246,73.57854545454549,88.06666666666666,9.66060606060606,29.484848484848484,9.339509955726095,4.073666666666667,337,17,57,13,11,112,57,75,0.094,0.826,0.08,0.4329,0,1,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,6,0,1,4,5,0,1,5,0,6,0,0,2,2,10,8,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,9,3,9,7,1,4,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,0,0,39,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17187448900916827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652390837736435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.49446397774566503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310033055067573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26319383271029323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16870848644174935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619141860045178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28409468365189844,0.0,0.0,0.4282980979408086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20314593765383493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631152675455569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22724707982523235,0.0,0.2280620182122145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,crankenfurter,2020/03/06,"Seeking support Hi, 63 yr.old male here, recently divorced (8 months) and knew it was coming for a year before it happened. Was a 21 yr. old marriage.She wanted the divorce, I didn't.
I was a house husband for eighteen years of the marrige. We decided to have children and I would stay home and raise them.
I quit my job and did so. She continued to advance her career and now is a COO at her company.When we divorced I fell into a depressive 
and anxious state, I didn't eat much, shower or do much more than manage to exist. I took a low paying soul crushing job.
She took advantage and conned me into accepting a one time payment of 25k and that was all. Now I'm healthier and actually participating in my own interest (still anxiety ridden but over the depression, at least for now) and I want to take her to court and demand alimony and health insurance. Also she is on the brink of becoming a CEO and her salary will most certainly rise. 
I know she'll hate me for this but I feel I must do it for my own security. I am open to advice and support. Thank you in advance.",2.689429414658143,4.6520769345794415,4.517584849975407,82.7346704377767,76.38317757009347,7.869749139203148,27.618298081652732,8.6894789155246,2.2357700934579436,840,35,165,18,19,285,134,214,0.092,0.794,0.114,0.5483,4,0,0,0,3,0,27.0,2,1,1,4,7,12,1,0,12,0,17,2,0,0,3,35,32,19,0,4,3,1,1,0,0,4,1,0,2,2,5,20,1,1,5,0,1,8,2,4,0,1,10,1,29,8,23,18,8,32,1,3,0,0,19,11,0,2,11,118,34,6,0.0,0.0,0.1411941075703989,0.0,0.0,0.14138692941430964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115706524261073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11068552500514656,0.16345566702162248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15979595245606787,0.12311838744457275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12463545119998695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24923822639308946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14805141174694045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315833648847808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12794665937633753,0.0,0.0,0.14284893025134338,0.0,0.15379602372576007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14513333800477762,0.0,0.0,0.1669499240456484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2871599934814472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07951645426455238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11548816491844555,0.0,0.21272388926526214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30365033920852863,0.0,0.09804397995498533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15389294329027406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428614297650706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15421760077111665,0.1155476072093336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3283792718949597,0.0,0.0,0.1087869772331667,0.0,0.0,0.13320879080255751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08436843224374954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3215062246535127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706808470538916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10278183342098053,0.0,0.0,0.18634798474316516
divorce,totoro1997,2020/03/06,"1 year later... Been seperated for almost a year and divorced for 5 months I believe. I left him because he wasn't treating me right and it was very toxic. 
Every day gets better. There are still days though where I just want to say I love you and miss him a lot. When we were married I was miserable. He was too selfish to show me love and affection. He'd say mean things and make me feel bad for feeling things or tell me I'm just delusional so he could get his way because I started to believe I was crazy. Anyways why do I still love him? He was a bastard and hurt me so much. I wish my heart could heal and just forget about him.",2.1254545454545486,3.649397606060607,3.214242424242425,93.39136363636364,76.72727272727272,6.012121212121213,24.12121212121212,6.574015621080383,0.5648848484848488,492,16,110,4,11,158,83,132,0.154,0.677,0.16899999999999998,0.4728,0,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,1,1,0,1,14,11,1,1,3,0,13,5,1,2,0,24,27,12,0,4,4,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,8,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,6,0,0,8,4,23,5,7,16,2,14,0,3,0,3,19,3,1,3,10,71,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477414186827665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12319092194581685,0.17987975902430833,0.0,0.0,0.3324573096596293,0.0,0.1304883951627512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355996348235781,0.0,0.0,0.19030401874597105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12431000880572896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14920274900681846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15416860362234686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748372917431272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15794614042268296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603041833007337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254344381907297,0.3994856727905849,0.0,0.0984850427724595,0.0,0.0,0.16071585839660968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117766152913405,0.0,0.10845991920140853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12599956556088052,0.0,0.2346617163259564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10443057566647236,0.0,0.2356535353904313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289577032421396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19603992552689087,0.0,0.14495869492936905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12173712235370213,0.08702375151485192,0.1171115108098656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13313318192892729,0.0,0.16966535030745036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19002367283146046
divorce,veasel79,2020/03/06,"Just a letter to my ex wife for inner peace.  I met you by chance and everything fell into place so fast, I couldn’t see how manipulative and destructive you could be because I just loved you purely. I dealt with your gaslighting and narcissistic behaviors for 19yrs, you were constantly emotionally indifferent towards me and everything was always just about yourself and it hurt but I stayed because I stupidly loved you and we had built a family with four beautiful children that I didn’t want to rip apart. As the yrs passed things just got worse you’d make up shit about what I’d say or accuse me of lying constantly wanting to engage in constant fighting, when the kids had issues I had to deal with them alone while you went and zoned out on your headphones or tablet. When I’d get angry and correct the kids you would be the first to get in my face and make it about me and never their actions or behaviors, every emotion I had was wrong. If I was down well I was “just feeling sorry for myself”, if I was happy “ it was eh sorta stupid” etc.

  In April of 2015 I went to the park and bawled my eyes out about the fact that if I stayed with you I was going to kill myself because I loved you but I was always wrong or to blame for everything, so that day I made a choice that we needed to end for not only my sanity but I didn’t want the kids to go through it anymore.

I tried to be amicable and work out a peaceful situation but when I wouldn’t do as you commanded you filed a false PFA and blocked me from seeing our children, I had to go to court and fight to see them which I did as the court and services found you to be a vindictive liar. Next came custody and I tried to do a 50/50 solution because you’re their mother but nope it was a all or nothing situation and when they moved in with me you just disappeared from their life, but you found the time to try and do a character assassination on me and spread lies to relatives, friends etc.

Now yrs later you decided to reach out and tell me you’re in a wonderful relationship now and treated like gold and a princess.. does your attempt to hurt me ever stop ? What about the kids ? Why can you not find the time to be involved in their lives but can find the time to tell me things like this ? 

It’s ridiculous that I still live in your head rent free. I don’t love you nor do I hate you, I nothing you. You are just another person to me so please get over yourself...",5.444949331456717,5.451529157142861,5.785777621393386,83.67602040816328,67.63265306122449,9.125967628430683,29.141449683321603,8.841846274778883,1.9740422237860664,1917,60,406,29,29,614,223,490,0.165,0.693,0.142,-0.9296,2,1,0,0,3,1,30.0,3,25,7,3,25,26,10,0,23,0,36,9,4,5,6,88,66,50,1,11,24,3,1,2,1,2,1,1,1,7,17,35,0,2,7,0,2,11,10,14,1,2,26,6,79,13,65,30,3,58,0,2,4,4,60,21,1,10,26,287,96,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08376706506849246,0.0,0.0,0.13459692032878062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08480950648472113,0.0,0.0,0.08021101355415408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19721426465457467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09250492728183664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622069431549336,0.0,0.06457592697844806,0.0,0.0,0.05216077022974733,0.08338350679153582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07077844478747894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18195774373646856,0.07163548301141329,0.0,0.18040467949291208,0.0,0.07316039587876097,0.06814470707766672,0.0,0.21806860647372245,0.0,0.07624626306806312,0.0,0.040895249400801664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14784531623840064,0.06879630370121682,0.0,0.17736101897355738,0.06248752116707632,0.0,0.12676904822888524,0.0,0.13789753686752498,0.0,0.06468695247725725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08609803495793095,0.0,0.07985204297512231,0.08300599310507642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17316696501843884,0.0,0.0,0.08441748218660178,0.0,0.0,0.0894814986323144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05712778395993814,0.07902755499297064,0.0,0.1428366636702527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29198865444624256,0.07653040804455921,0.10797576889804608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08596241150313773,0.0,0.05997133566426562,0.062379476179804376,0.0,0.08601656878071663,0.0,0.0,0.15521266986386892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061512720983703036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07062110847822248,0.08450216081458488,0.08878171605434906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683462054627825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06431885121320119,0.0,0.0,0.19335215102422024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08302193690527414,0.0,0.1818245338698613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905382974473086,0.0,0.1724141785679162,0.06459070068160687,0.06761912171646241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14138499381136366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10746587043876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414849589440638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647361945344091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431149779350496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07272063987853143,0.14995274176674778,0.0729814258081394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08771067660140193,0.05888144666601147,0.0,0.08242341054574763,0.057454678624146126,0.17685869608922788,0.0,0.0
divorce,tHammerr,2020/03/06,"I’m pretty sure I (32F) and to divorce my husband (33M) Apologies, on mobile

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Tale as old as time like the slow boil of a frog: he became more verbally and emotionally abusive and I accepted harsher and harsher words and actions. It all came to full on blows around thanksgiving 2019 when I told him I’d watched porn and he absolutely went berserk saying he feels like I cheated on him with the porn(????). Since then it’s been hell in our house. 

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He’s been smoking weed since he was in his teens which I honestly never had a problem with until the last maybe two years it was so constant he couldn’t do anything without it, including things like having breakfast with my parents etc. His drinking became alcoholic in the last year or so drinking at least 12 beers every single day, sometimes polishing off an entire case of 24 then moving on to vodka. He also developed a cocaine addiction over the last six months that coincided with gambling. Needless to say he drained our savings and checking accounts to the point we were struggling to pay daycare for our 2.5 yo (he makes well into six-figure range  so normal everyday living bills had never been an issue before). During the last 6 or 9 months and especially since our thanksgiving blowout he’s said things, lied about an incredible amount of things, and done things to me and our family I simply can’t / don’t think I should have to forgive. 

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He stopped all drug and alcohol use 2 weeks ago after I packed my bags and stayed at my parents with our 2year old and is now all of a sudden “cured.” He finally agreed to go to couples counseling but the thing is —- during that week at my parents I’d never felt better. I actually started humming tunes to myself again and feeling happy. I even told a friend I felt manic but I think that was just my old-self coming back to life after years of slowly being pressure cooked. 

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We had our first counseling session yesterday and our therapist asked why we wanted to be together. I didn’t have a single answer I just let him talk and never answered for myself because I don’t want to stay together anymore. I feel very clear on that though things are obviously complicated by his new sobriety and our 2 year old child. 

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Am I wrong for wanting out right now? He’s finally gotten clean and I thought the emotional/verbal abuse was due to his substance abuse but in the week since being home I can tell that this is simply how he treats me. He’s not part of any sobriety program, but has been a total gym rat as his coping mechanism. 
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I just want to be done. I want to wish my toddler and I to a beach with no one around and just live in peace. 
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Do I owe it to him/ our marriage / our child to stick this out until he’s had some true sobriety under his belt? 
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I’m at a loss. I just want to be done.",4.4471972477064226,5.8275631669724826,5.139529816513762,82.48232224770643,70.54128440366972,7.945412844036698,28.67087155963303,8.395991825355821,2.041705504587156,2206,82,420,34,40,712,288,545,0.084,0.816,0.1,0.5886,4,0,8,0,3,0,54.0,14,0,0,3,21,21,2,2,22,0,40,13,0,3,12,91,70,40,0,11,13,4,5,3,1,1,5,4,2,2,19,36,8,1,12,7,6,6,12,7,1,4,26,10,59,14,68,36,13,79,1,1,1,2,59,25,1,3,49,276,78,3,0.0,0.2384898795884412,0.06547506036087174,0.07314347474213194,0.0,0.0,0.05947568641571749,0.1434083416791104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053655862772907216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045626913977818095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06654023027463751,0.0,0.0,0.0552134840995226,0.119457584471201,0.06272478597655272,0.0,0.0,0.051591928389725816,0.0,0.04090050107239635,0.0,0.057092919727172835,0.0,0.0,0.059340092239818426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0767388278757541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05779641821352088,0.0,0.07250588002838541,0.0,0.0,0.07423936279772964,0.0,0.04327073688012381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20598449921617265,0.0,0.13145515134142655,0.07780892124440318,0.0,0.0,0.07547286608156233,0.0,0.0,0.0748286823976859,0.04431562752508017,0.0,0.0565304476284209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06325121298590998,0.0,0.1017757733642482,0.047932695265123226,0.12884348105497473,0.1469986283467254,0.0,0.05707098922559105,0.0,0.0,0.05183744555155553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03813164572998644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07142389577743738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06730177505105618,0.0,0.0,0.07741864403712168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07002976841963475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21876558345371414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0686092031624914,0.04739119643722743,0.09833771213457343,0.0,0.11849226273475184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044786446450438465,0.0,0.06740596517021158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10710920872149493,0.07131138733859949,0.0,0.0,0.20699126095012352,0.06480078783143342,0.0,0.0,0.06573887338989186,0.0,0.0,0.28161974505012155,0.0,0.045465321577758136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22350323664833024,0.07265736764759972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06342648035922334,0.0,0.0,0.06825975582403589,0.0,0.06420087218489287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05729877996609777,0.06382272805363591,0.106713304846524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0699947381135433,0.0,0.0,0.2220067735518078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06635868980117306,0.0,0.047490200067038295,0.1430287268066502,0.0,0.05609444053395996,0.0,0.07014228216675476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06323626174696029,0.0,0.0,0.053928435079043616,0.05864400428773235,0.0,0.0,0.07790248887082807,0.2674496973223616,0.08598355850593782,0.06592051589985314,0.053265950816699874,0.03912364537562133,0.0,0.0,0.1282243326599591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06554208466555153,0.0,0.0,0.05794855436323839,0.0,0.055360417763348005,0.2374462848825249,0.0,0.1614587323589605,0.0,0.06032648022792464,0.062197755179443835,0.060542819045246575,0.0,0.07715596106908959,0.06467720440963454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07335787096060133,0.0,0.17282797078627507
divorce,Character-Comb,2020/03/06,"I found the most bizarre divorce of all time. The most bizarre divorce of all time is the civil war between Cleopatra the 12th and Ptolemy the 13th.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ptolemy_XIII_Theos_Philopator",9.489516129032255,14.143207548387096,4.180887096774196,78.89133064516129,70.29032258064515,5.680645161290323,36.782258064516135,7.1686216300943375,3.1140258064516124,178,9,22,2,4,44,21,31,0.267,0.733,0.0,-0.8437,0,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,5,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,15,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6849780853999662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7285636708770186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Feeling-Database,2020/03/06,"8 months divorced, 1st rejection hits hard I was married for 6 years and we divorced after I found out my wife was screwing around with my [now] ex-boss (also married). She came into a lot of medical issues early into our marriage and could no longer work. I took care of and provided for her the best i could, and got taken advantage of for what i understand was over a year with at least 2 people.

Since then I've lost 45lbs, and have been taking time for myself, trying to be happy alone again and not get attached. But that loneliness in your 30s when everyone else has kids and a spouse really blows.

I've been hanging out with an amazing woman, one I've known for years and just now finally getting to know her as a person. We've spent every weekend and several trips together, and had a blast. Recently figured out she just wants to be friends, which honestly is still amazing. But i can't help but feel really beaten down.

I don't know why the rejection (as kind as it was) hurts so much. Maybe it's because it's the first time putting myself out there again, but goddamn, i didnt miss this feeling...",6.514938837920487,6.116914178899084,6.705091743119269,79.34720948012234,65.46788990825688,10.018960244648321,32.3868501529052,9.516144504307137,2.7882464831804294,873,31,170,15,12,281,145,218,0.136,0.759,0.106,-0.7719,0,1,0,0,2,0,29.0,2,1,0,6,12,16,2,0,9,0,17,2,0,0,0,41,36,21,0,3,7,2,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,7,22,0,0,8,1,1,5,5,7,0,2,15,3,19,9,29,16,4,35,0,5,0,1,17,11,1,1,19,115,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498683023736099,0.0,0.11571865461631363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12881603467293407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08820939059842378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15185650070078713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16550127907176287,0.14753399265717554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23106657831569125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12088049382444578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12191822116635405,0.1382695804117917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14633201241638855,0.0,0.0,0.1585146769023326,0.0,0.12308399771258947,0.0,0.15865898368939374,0.11179690620875278,0.0,0.15120232146963716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11573192573432242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15403865858614413,0.12962514931640834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969911341586791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15490717654536287,0.0,0.0,0.15103196865756144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15068553952449235,0.15904958110385994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15796003282984447,0.1230210159594966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14537325838229825,0.0,0.0,0.14577269347536034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11550027238149048,0.0,0.10637309532772556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980542586174346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003185957454408,0.12634877001742648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454661274874693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18540044212673976,0.0,0.14287640696626389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16347280326627014,0.0,0.11969952500743206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11555972090414557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10879838216204016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16875455439843104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607699652429684,0.09824359885822988,0.0,0.0,0.15064055885714836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08534937038331697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13057163196213498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10534525049817656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27955128143359764
divorce,SassyOrca,2020/03/06,"Help I brought up divorce to my husband of 4 years
. I feel like I have been gaslighted and manipulated so many time, every time I bring up a challenge we are having he’s led me to believe that there is hope of change (without too much detail) and I am trying to figure out if I want to stay or go. We are starting couples counseling, and he has his own therapy he is starting. But I am afraid he will take these steps and then regress to what things were, I gave him 3 months. But after the three months where do I draw that line? When do I say enough is enough? I have just held out hope for so long that I feel like holding out hope even longer will either be a good repair for our relationship. Or it will hurt me even more in the end because he talks the y’all and there are no actions and if there are it is for two weeks and then he gives up. I just need help....",2.486648351648352,3.6657773351648397,3.2898901098901128,94.6301098901099,75.0989010989011,6.079120879120879,22.89010989010989,6.1826913282559595,0.16783076923076926,673,18,158,4,14,213,111,182,0.045,0.8320000000000001,0.12300000000000001,0.9013,0,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,3,1,0,1,12,9,0,1,5,0,22,0,0,2,0,34,38,18,0,7,10,1,2,2,0,3,0,1,0,0,8,12,0,2,3,0,0,6,2,2,0,2,5,3,22,7,19,29,6,29,0,1,0,0,21,8,0,7,16,112,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08823794187745904,0.0,0.0,0.16308310020872605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15312576088372434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601625507709668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12820507882421406,0.2991298217171384,0.0,0.19121133791977984,0.0,0.12195768319107032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14637937660391948,0.20681812046006287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13885689468560072,0.08226446746113833,0.12140899951379268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19404505575793626,0.0,0.0,0.4313066948314024,0.0,0.0,0.15495731630930532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414345725224534,0.0,0.0,0.1280987382627194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14675325735829814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310753141380564,0.0,0.10640752576541417,0.10732990820771862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554067747408448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11511059942678915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049088594707874,0.15428369031999162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10883359760731894,0.11634415215657334,0.0,0.0,0.1655336498975584,0.0,0.0961651252377183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16880917622880998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09827539797151476,0.0,0.14139921286073368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08537699594191979,0.0,0.11610930484103772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395333370951169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932139218419668
divorce,3EA472,2020/03/06,"Getting on the Divorce Train at the same stop as last time Kinda going through everything in my head right now and I guess that not opening up has ever been my downfall, so here I go trying to change the habit.

I'm 33, and have been married twice; 1 year the first time (with 7 years living together prior to that) and this time 3.5 years (with a year and a half together prior to that). As you can probably guess, I've found my way here because that second one just informally ended. No kids, no house, and living on the other side of the planet to pretty much everyone I know after following my partner half way around the world for a job.

Early days so no mediator or anything, but I can say two things; firstly, it's amicable at this stage. Secondly, pretty sure there is zero potential to turn the situation around. And I'm pretty sure of that because I made all the same darn mistakes as last time around.

In short, we had a rough time after moving here (and that job we moved for didn't work out). I slipped right back into my old martyr-like behavior patterns, tried to carry all the burdens in the world on my shoulders and became pretty closed off because I couldn't handle the stress. Never stopped caring in the slightest, but we just couldn't connect. Some time passes, nothing really improves, and then my dumb self is shocked when she throws the D word out in conversation then moves out. Had started seeing a therapist, but it's a bit of a case of too little too late.

Not *quite* sure where I am, emotionally speaking. Alternating between crying, laughing, and just being a bit cold. I'd say that under the surface there's probably more going on than I realize - but as mentioned, closing myself off is a defense mechanism that I use so freely as to not really realize when I'm doing it. I'm sure more will come out in the next therapy session. Mostly, I'm just kicking myself for making the same idiot mistakes a second time around like that.

Guess this is a bit of a vent, as well as an introduction? Having walked the path before, I hope I have at least a rough idea of what to do and what not to do. I think the biggest mistake I made last time was taking the easy way out of dealing with my emotions by just getting really *angry* about it, instead of working through what genuinely caused it and avoiding a repeat. So, this time I'm determined to learn and be a better person.

We've agreed to take it (somewhat) slowly; not going to leap into untangling the finances while we're still dealing with the emotions at their most raw and she's still looking for a new place to live. But I won't deny it; I gave up more or less a whole life to move out here together, and now this is happening it might jeopardize my green card, so I'm maybe a *little* bit terrified about my whole life unraveling and having to go back to England and start from scratch yet again. But being real about it? Not a concern just yet. Getting through the rest of the week is number one right now!",6.453384791309317,6.306071502572897,6.763464837049741,78.03815323041741,65.53516295025729,9.399428244711263,32.074899942824466,8.927757054556999,2.580118810749,2358,84,445,34,33,764,281,583,0.083,0.8,0.11599999999999999,0.9648,2,1,0,0,1,0,72.0,3,1,1,6,42,20,3,2,44,0,31,4,2,5,8,105,69,42,0,6,20,0,3,1,1,3,2,3,0,4,28,40,0,4,8,0,1,14,14,10,1,12,10,10,35,10,83,51,22,117,0,0,3,0,21,47,2,12,53,324,63,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04962684256321676,0.21474112109457394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09274345024540173,0.0,0.1102862512978442,0.0,0.05131611208717903,0.0,0.0,0.053335909937581576,0.2633548902173594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06148616331654797,0.06195105252385055,0.06379593549620212,0.051948428797396515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.066243500085902,0.03889249305248695,0.12434603416696954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20350898538153406,0.05341337010671733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054550386735071205,0.0,0.05762513336614763,0.05419930038665921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10259280113967437,0.0,0.0661226067773549,0.0,0.0,0.09452246018983268,0.0,0.1713669414438162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993021480350165,0.0,0.05332855026786399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0618915325815656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059897637784231024,0.0,0.0695852276259664,0.0,0.06807832965182227,0.0,0.0,0.1196891440694152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033142695940944024,0.14747274165046215,0.06802799072282059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08519206794606536,0.02946255030342972,0.12088525816145695,0.15975436879958704,0.0,0.050641997437723935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11412631945682172,0.040254839251867916,0.0,0.060585657215438876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06397532022506552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25638367512097243,0.04433197661101293,0.0,0.04651183894054566,0.05824407838285221,0.06413629992363308,0.0,0.0,0.057865400163280074,0.0,0.06328118474240818,0.0,0.08173004811500145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05265702478606783,0.06300711603616396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454122365889485,0.13004051026244146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06414303899866186,0.0,0.06864162840976243,0.1159010373635118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15450342858185176,0.0,0.0959157797300604,0.0,0.0,0.048056212598539295,0.0,0.06291249149126663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06778666600548311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08537004032473122,0.0,0.09632117648761293,0.10083732314493173,0.06908051825781945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22735142019627766,0.0,0.09068547490253312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0689653653988014,0.07002011580190713,0.040064742152094365,0.038641761071515214,0.0,0.0,0.3164851338578512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818878667269465,0.06559579966774177,0.05891036890733859,0.0,0.0,0.05208517142237913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14360470106368825,0.048373974956261126,0.0,0.05422249266624545,0.0,0.0,0.13465937863046515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08780722544132283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15534079467382966
divorce,jrock1978,2020/03/06,"Spouse re-financing house in her name, how does increased equity work when splitting. So, for clarity

I do not want the house, the wife does. We’re going to get an appraisal, we’ve done a ton of work and remodeled a lot of the home. 

How does this work? Does she have to “buy” me out of the home? If so is there a percentage or something?

Ex.
Purchased home for 135k
Estimated value pre appraisal from our RE agent ~170 - 180k

Does that mean potentially she will have to give me the ~45k?

Also, in Michigan. 

Also, totally amicable through this whole process. So I don’t expect any kind of pushback or anything, just looking for far, not to fuck each other over or anything.",3.077093023255813,5.3309368062015485,3.878468992248063,86.40281976744188,76.28682170542633,7.090697674418602,27.02906976744186,8.07648339933343,1.7728651162790705,524,21,103,9,12,167,88,129,0.01,0.902,0.08900000000000001,0.8769,0,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,0,3,10,2,1,0,9,0,7,1,0,2,1,18,14,13,0,3,7,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,2,2,3,1,0,0,1,1,8,1,17,12,6,8,0,0,1,1,9,5,1,5,1,67,12,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21901393846389772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931205800615809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225371878933912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5991642492418273,0.14013217476589546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12659431564387852,0.07154295052891389,0.13136064865541566,0.07782338667053643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4120712832983988,0.0,0.0,0.31600949579113186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425968595566607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11499101621231975,0.0,0.0,0.1164173456235508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491624940010019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10541934854092584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08076788403323246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15288317577005778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2990712036002912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,shiznitwhit,2020/03/06,"Stbx wants a divorce, but wants to keep future plans? I could use some advice. My stbx has said they have decided on us getting divorced this past Monday evening. In her explanation she said this doesn’t’ mean we can’t keep our future plans like going to my friend’s wedding (week after next) and comic con (summer) and my niece’s graduation(summer). In the moment I told her I’m sorry but no we can’t go to these together because you want a divorce..

Honestly, I have been thinking about it. That maybe we should go to the wedding together.. because I do still want to work things out and maybe this can be an opportunity to spend some time together to see if this is a possibility.. and honestly from other conversations she seems to have doubt in getting a divorce. I want to do everything possible to save my marriage because I think that will make it easier for me to walk away knowing I have done my best.. 

would any of you go to a wedding with your stbx after them just deciding getting a divorce? I just really don’t know if I’ll be helping or hurting myself by going with her because she seems to have some doubt..",4.189058283864,5.8698555366972505,5.27080949811117,80.11361305990286,71.61467889908258,8.065191581219645,28.878575283324338,8.671277953709913,2.251617053426876,889,35,168,16,17,293,123,218,0.049,0.8140000000000001,0.136,0.9607,0,0,0,0,5,1,25.0,5,3,2,5,5,10,0,2,9,0,22,0,0,2,0,44,51,9,0,10,7,0,0,1,1,3,0,2,0,0,11,10,0,2,9,1,1,6,5,3,0,0,5,3,31,7,28,40,4,24,0,1,1,0,31,6,0,10,13,119,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183473309066556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08235898127963158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11378687071475704,0.0,0.0,0.29531022885191643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12709751668832522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09669651334669714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12393762099190375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07999204021353666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884589610521307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09356931765843354,0.0,0.1898249941979709,0.0,0.3441481379131041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08117750794641096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12965080431366444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2152963391615234,0.0,0.0,0.1331178230456498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059168248786308615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08084189315512573,0.0,0.2433426300226157,0.13192433984976953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12880190312897233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11561323852574927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730667494104108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07758619380297639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23040676682801065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965090229282396,0.22050806646490034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355727760659598,0.0,0.0,0.09671863560883907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08046013012452863,0.15520484880457566,0.0,0.0,0.07062023915639425,0.0,0.0,0.11572583473724367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456804680726221,0.10460019071865992,0.0,0.0,0.3571692017322854,0.0,0.0971471700690328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08816955264634513,0.0,0.0,0.08603309868496536,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,greenr31b,2020/03/06,"At a loss So I think that my depression is finally catching up to me.  I am a 29yo M and I have been with my spouse for 5 years, married almost 2.  I have experienced fairly significant depression for as long as I can remember and it has certainly affected me in the past.  However now I feel as if it is getting to the point where it is putting my marriage in serious jeopardy.  
I don’t want my wife to have to watch me slowly wither away and I know it’s been very difficult for her.  It’s already put quite a bit of strain on things and I’m not really sure how to fix. Although I have been trying to make improvements more diligently lately, I feel like it may be a little bit too late to really make a difference.   All I can really try to do now is feign happiness and maybe I’ll feel it eventually?",2.3608571428571423,4.032193921212127,4.739761904761906,82.0725,76.45454545454545,9.32034632034632,26.331168831168828,9.784248007369934,2.594298701298701,627,24,132,19,14,220,102,165,0.136,0.779,0.085,-0.8039,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,2,6,10,0,1,7,0,19,0,0,4,3,24,29,12,0,2,2,2,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,0,6,0,0,3,2,6,0,0,3,5,19,4,22,24,4,20,0,3,1,0,4,9,0,3,9,92,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15004224548738346,0.0,0.1653512070539087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14077879598505966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3271710461331902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581124479523852,0.0,0.0,0.15655000027053426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272895004001153,0.10704510513174728,0.0,0.16414144394095145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07828476156987628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15950654120586905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08234766777046269,0.0,0.3380501326214915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07320383074389901,0.15017817342264653,0.0,0.13260291578004998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000375669361905,0.0,0.15053354684609851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14303840519869107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14164641109030096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3012594250184587,0.0,0.1593723598907442,0.0,0.0,0.2879723525228286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16973852603971898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14122160770223588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09954646061167544,0.09601086491131404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20346186851178785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12363297550528013,0.08837900166683282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09649148770059154
divorce,Cr822,2020/03/06,"Listening to my step dad talk this morning. these are the collective thoughts of being awake in my house for five minutes and listening to the way my step dad addresses my mother, and two younger siblings.....
I was going to send this to my mother but not sure if I should. 

Here it is:
I’m going to spend as much time as I possibly can outside of the house. I will not allow myself to fall under someone else’s misery. It’s sickening to see someone be so unhappy, unwilling to change, and miserable. I’m beyond over being around someone who enjoys seeing others unhappy. I’ve seen the affect it has on everybody in the household. It’s beyond comprehension to see how someone enjoys breaking the confidence down of others. And then to see someone try too change the way they act when I’m around when I know their true tendencies and motives is appalling. Once again I hope you understand... I will NOT allow myself to be trapped in someone else’s misery. I will be home to eat, and sleep. The rest of my time will be spent doing healthy activities. I will not be around any longer to see someone disrespect you emotionally and psychologically. Done and over with it. He has a tone of voice of someone who is unhappy, miserable, and defeated in life. Misery loves company. it’s just sad to observe and listen to everyday.",4.322185886402757,6.451207919678719,5.336293746414231,77.92289156626508,72.21285140562249,8.598278829604133,29.929432013769365,9.23628265651192,2.900164888123925,1048,45,184,24,21,344,130,249,0.228,0.6759999999999999,0.09699999999999999,-0.9917,0,1,0,0,0,0,32.0,0,2,2,2,13,11,0,3,9,0,23,4,1,5,2,33,43,19,0,3,7,4,0,0,0,6,1,4,2,0,13,14,1,0,4,0,2,7,4,5,0,2,5,10,21,6,39,25,2,31,0,4,6,1,17,14,0,2,7,134,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06708399470727099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634527935081917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20871292013097392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10095111160279546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009414892529686,0.16481542254972742,0.11096567589952563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11212781655903996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895194585173868,0.097979681571081,0.0,0.22765299925194396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05421433824149504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06967797060550257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903363421165153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07251760023343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10505685650792436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11121075132039103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3930482554987039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987192010886956,0.0,0.6686727623402631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09297453363606924,0.0,0.0,0.07928949249499452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07831546013395596,0.11504483606247334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0669754885438371,0.0,0.0963647215532683,0.10269600402702453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15660431588321816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Pdearnest,2020/03/06,Beginning the process I'm not sure this is even Okay. So my STBX decided he wanted a divorce he is 39 the reason he gave me for wanting a divorce is because we each had our own problems. My question is does the random bouts of emotion and depression get any better this is not my first divorce but this was the first love of my life we got together for a second time after my divorce we were married when we were teenagers we've been together off and on for the past 22 years we do have children together and we consider each other's children our own I just really need advice and yes there was emotional abuse and physical on his part Please advise away,4.849606837606839,5.941627584615388,5.564871794871795,80.89235042735045,69.30769230769229,8.854700854700855,32.136752136752136,9.150863307647796,2.8330341880341883,526,23,99,10,9,171,84,130,0.081,0.795,0.124,0.7285,0,0,0,0,5,0,2.0,8,0,0,3,5,6,0,0,8,2,13,2,0,1,1,26,22,8,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,4,13,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,2,0,3,8,0,16,4,10,14,5,12,0,1,0,1,22,4,0,2,8,72,20,1,0.0,0.22596252535264005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18636155160256826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296906945183657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17918019456753462,0.0,0.0,0.11625626034684328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686692590935986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642599594661942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668933495976089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4290506442828022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12596347222910936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32443904635388693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09963914459995904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15252980206907066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13470552014515705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17212501889294454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14141052574557905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20652250285159554,0.18205617610802205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20934449774679625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18248562035976093,0.0,0.0,0.21364107780239197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12217498569075964,0.1960836910636384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1797437957056552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11120569634232398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.224973748404954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12281227026645213
divorce,Mopalot,2020/03/06,"Old medical bills My ex is sending me medical bills from over a year ago for my kids for me to pay half.  To be clear, I would happily pay for anything and everything for my kids, no issue there, ever.  Even elective costs not required...  But if it were me on these, I would have rejected the bills outright or negotiated them down or away  If I'm getting charged OVER a year later from anyone including a doctor, I certainly would not have paid them in full, but she did.  She didn't even try to work with the doc office or her insurance one them.  And now she wants half.

Isn't their a reasonable time frame these have to be submitted to me to pay or is it seriously never ending?  I can't even prove if the kids went to the doc way back then or not and outside of the bill, she probably can't either at this point.  Is there a rule or expectation on this?

Any help would help!  #loveyourkids #bethedad #divorcedandok-ish",3.718153117600632,5.235168917127074,4.5770047355958985,85.27493093922655,72.53591160220995,8.486345698500395,26.740726124704018,9.04235418022936,1.9898063141278608,718,25,149,15,14,232,104,181,0.063,0.862,0.076,0.747,0,1,0,0,1,0,23.0,0,0,4,2,8,3,0,0,10,0,18,3,0,1,5,32,23,15,0,9,15,1,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,3,6,4,0,1,2,0,9,2,9,2,0,3,5,0,20,1,23,12,2,25,0,1,0,0,16,10,0,9,12,110,26,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14640234964271318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11231290996135936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11548211470552855,0.0,0.13591072741271493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15517111026398692,0.12699608855390027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16904592002843435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14628071442427806,0.0,0.0,0.3272553401173603,0.14939460902361865,0.0,0.0,0.14843310515730748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08628808965547888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2214034704950293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723817455406482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3327580455554952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12737981175530286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17330523977872053,0.0,0.11191514226032227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15612742473038135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17806795103250106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16980963839470187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963047920043099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11213124750942607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09741429962308107,0.1310945070139494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15310285680648186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023678381936626,0.0,0.0,0.4692932096133614,0.0,0.0,0.21271230759941476
divorce,_nathangreen_,2020/03/06,"When can I get off... ... this rollercoaster I’ve been on for the past 5 months. It never stops. Therapy is partially helping. I’m in the gym. I’m going on walks. I have no social circle or a job now, so that also needs rebuilding. 

But when can you finally wake up and say, “ENOUGH!!!!! I’m done letting you invade my thoughts like a cancer?” 

She’s moved on with him. Why can’t I move on without her?",-0.4710199556541035,1.7418206341463431,1.9953215077605329,94.03449002217295,92.65853658536585,5.420842572062083,18.43015521064301,6.980632752743323,0.3029853658536585,300,9,67,5,11,102,66,82,0.10099999999999999,0.8220000000000001,0.077,-0.6103,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,2,0,0,5,1,0,0,4,0,8,2,1,0,1,9,15,7,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,2,0,1,1,1,0,4,4,0,0,0,3,1,9,1,10,11,1,19,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,1,9,45,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17648514925731487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22584177018841103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280310354161391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417543351617857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11530104787815022,0.0,0.12542281197799995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14792338232229646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190000720959899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22566975601167216,0.0,0.10781764195490856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17615208954939054,0.4691155891562235,0.0,0.16363831569336967,0.17020918915401415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21067290332752048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17550098498359953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249649439121041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18450613220108875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523774417787528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17520264877680428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991377624637534,0.0,0.0,0.21273660479733894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,mclaugh123,2020/03/06,"My (34M) Wife (33F) isn’t in love and never was. 2.5 yrs into marriage she wants to move out. Newby, so i apologize for not following the rules. 

A year into marriage I could tell that something was off. We were supposed to be trying to have a kid, but my wife had zero interest in me or my life. Sex was sparse, as well. I assumed this was the roller coaster from being on birth control, to going off of it... and then after a big fight about her not loving me and we shouldn’t have a kid... back on birth control. 

Fast forward a few months and we go to marriage counseling. The therapist asks what is going on, where my wife proceeds to drop the bomb, she doesn’t love me. We went to a couple of sessions where the therapist asked about our relationship and about where things were lacking. Wife decided she was being ganged up on and decided she was done with it. Wife said she needed to go to therapy on her own and that it was her problem to deal with. 

Fast forward six months and after another fight I tell her that she needs to make up her mind if she wanted to be with me or move out. If she wanted to stay, I’d thought she should, that she needed to go to therapy and that I thought that would help whether she stayed or left. It was at this point where I had assumed she was just depressed and pushing me away as a result. I know she has some past trauma and she doesn’t seem to cope with issues. Anyway, she went about 6 times and the therapist more or less told her she had to make a tough decision. Wife had looked at places to move to, but never did. I should note that during this time she transferred departments at work to a much much less stressful job. 

Over the next several months I thought that things were getting better. We were having fun together. She seemed interested in my life. We actually did things on the weekends together. Around Christmas time i had asked her how things were going for her and she said the same as before. Fast forward another two months and I feel her pulling away again. I ask her if she is pulling away and she admitted to it. Said she just feels that something is missing. I told her that I was a willing partner to work on things, but that if she was not going to put any effort in that we were not going to grow together. It was here that I said I was “done playing house” and that she needed to decide if she wanted to be married and participate or pull away and just be on her own. 

The very next day she found an apartment and decided she would go home over the weekend to fill in her parents on what was going on. Am I the only one that thinks it’s crazy she hadn’t told her parents anyway after all of that time? 

It’s not been a week since she found her apartment and she’s moved some things, but has still slept in a separate bedroom at our house. She said it was hard to leave everything that we had together. That she loved everything about me, but just wasn’t in love and didn’t love me like I loved her. I asked if she was done done to which she said she didn’t know. I asked if I was supposed to continue wearing my wedding band and she said that she was still going to wear hers. 

I wrote her a letter last night (probably dumb) about how I loved so many things about our relationship, too, and that I thought we could rebuild that love. I am struggling with the mixed messaging... doesn’t want to be here, but isn’t ready to give it up. I believe that marriage is sacred and should be saved if at all possible, but it seems like I’m the only one trying. 

Is there any hope or should I just face it and expedite the process? Insight on how to process?

Thanks, Reddit!",3.5206665837582385,4.824854400820797,4.024644695933343,89.88043178709118,72.70725034199725,7.231548314886209,25.32921278447955,7.686295010490155,1.1152974555403552,2841,88,608,35,55,894,262,731,0.055999999999999994,0.818,0.126,0.996,3,0,2,0,2,0,76.0,12,0,0,6,34,30,3,2,29,0,76,16,4,8,4,138,150,56,0,29,32,8,3,2,1,8,2,7,2,3,47,44,0,2,23,5,0,29,17,10,1,5,61,11,107,20,97,71,14,116,0,2,1,10,123,52,1,22,40,455,154,5,0.0,0.0,0.04628064667689352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06450221116638613,0.0994599732816784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04221893213473631,0.2660197921160911,0.0,0.17823204339757154,0.03646743960256661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040355781744717295,0.05343252883987572,0.0,0.04194418191581403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10638392131961344,0.07573113248894034,0.052475640346453495,0.0,0.030585656186650875,0.048893819227169365,0.04084769007914479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19413184758894994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08524633095369909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047959722693163884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10399967491556662,0.0,0.0,0.02477797335149019,0.045495057552915934,0.2964843308066452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04248411617264584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031788450258644414,0.0,0.04757184880316815,0.04710442586410368,0.0,0.1094457917606573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049500114260767385,0.04706269414050293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05212785417383285,0.03865827926344431,0.0,0.05021697368701376,0.051528167066854494,0.0,0.06699635573661276,0.046339607633097496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039825647590787036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3852319521147607,0.0,0.06331405248539608,0.048082220942004164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0478864423326604,0.0,0.15141898052051372,0.20162407507632452,0.06972669984766565,0.14066223681914733,0.07315525453843041,0.0,0.10087555024569082,0.0445058112804698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06427376996353343,0.07213877121929299,0.0,0.0,0.10532126552667323,0.0,0.045273201593509366,0.0,0.0,0.049549767503816525,0.0,0.04483262040974559,0.053465356356177364,0.0,0.0,0.05113293112704367,0.04537999454389306,0.0,0.04767593242479122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10183491683227093,0.0,0.0,0.31578893971355176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129523741485327,0.0,0.0535775472711697,0.0,0.03923103312161472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07302124918157668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109898232244066,0.07574845828391727,0.0,0.05432598465153467,0.04957964391599877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08290431279329437,0.04366321716588311,0.10847085333551833,0.1651946959411748,0.22055271666743767,0.030388476690992164,0.0,0.15060284853923905,0.1106172395022808,0.0,0.0,0.13595188005574715,0.0,0.06439788095323758,0.0,0.0463280223974588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03913117330888119,0.13986454734089268,0.0,0.03804203974266068,0.0,0.04264140424309814,0.08792820703609472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06905295591176593,0.0,0.0,0.06737972000691313,0.0,0.0,0.030540598999676805
divorce,MrSp00ner,2020/03/07,"Divorce Self Care: Cuddle Parties Not everybody is an EXTREME cuddle-bug, but I definitely am. I've been separated for years, and divorce is likely. The worst part has been no cuddling.

If you can relate, I have a crazy idea for you: try going to a cuddle party. I tried it, and it is an amazing, safe way to fill your touch tank!

For anybody curious what they are like, I wrote [a detailed account on Medium](https://medium.com/@mrspooner/my-first-cuddle-party-152e93304a7f).

Has anybody else tried something like this, or am I way out on the fringes here?",4.5484848484848515,7.462037838383839,4.361909090909092,81.42286363636366,74.65656565656566,5.980202020202023,28.081818181818186,7.1686216300943375,1.671492121212121,442,18,74,5,10,135,70,99,0.1,0.6409999999999999,0.259,0.9538,0,0,1,0,2,0,32.0,0,3,1,0,1,7,0,0,7,0,12,3,0,0,0,10,15,5,0,1,4,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,1,1,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,3,1,9,6,8,12,2,8,0,0,0,3,8,3,0,2,4,50,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25375664024016753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079129523373052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21170295173568654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14144808185588295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28096285853242736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36478049895950143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26952010829075546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25964317187547425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916051881003028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5069333200240209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3951094522628177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16027491399052632
divorce,Displaced123,2020/03/07,"Divorcing the only father my kids have ever known. I was a single mom raising two children on my own. My current husband came into our lives and has taken care of us for 7yrs now. The kids 16/12 adore him and call him their dad. He is a great provider, great father...but shitty husband. I found out he was cheating on me and I asked for a divorce. I just signed the papers. We still live in the house and I’ve moved to the upstairs bedroom. I have a job, but it doesn’t pay enough to support myself and two kids in our town. I’m afraid of being destitute with two children. I receive no support from their Bio dad. The last time I was on my own with them...I was working two jobs and had a mental breakdown which led to a S attempt. I was in a coma for a few days and I recovered. I met my current husband a few months later. And he’s taken care of us ever since. He knows that I’m afraid, so he offered to let us stay with him for as long as I need. He also claims to have only cheated because I checked out of the marriage. Which, I understand. I did checkout of the marriage. I struggle with depression. I just asked my husband if he wanted to try counseling before sending the divorce papers to the attorney to file. The truth is...I’m scared. I can’t raise the kids on my own. And I don’t want to break up the only family they have ever known. My children have a good life right now. They are safe and happy. I honestly, cannot provide them with that if I’m on my own. I just can’t. I have no support system. No family. No friends. I’m truly all alone.",0.6866269841269848,2.834708200617285,2.6246067019400354,92.73344444444449,84.27777777777777,4.937425044091711,22.22010582010581,6.1826913282559595,0.35751650793650835,1203,42,257,10,35,401,158,324,0.107,0.736,0.158,0.9607,4,1,0,0,3,0,47.0,6,0,5,2,11,21,2,4,23,0,23,2,0,1,5,42,44,17,0,5,6,8,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,7,5,20,0,1,5,0,2,5,9,7,0,4,12,0,46,14,38,30,9,36,0,1,0,0,49,14,0,2,14,176,51,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010657943565884,0.0,0.07803649981647369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18245248501787886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05948524130416855,0.0,0.08303531784901479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09964240004521804,0.11160811173213424,0.19898323963562992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06293248633231334,0.0,0.08404745943408302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10082856222342626,0.0,0.0,0.26480622851774904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18398374438437012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10699391375237974,0.07539181370340396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08184737176446494,0.0,0.21516957711647156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387813263422492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11259682891997125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19367067606361904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0536286593020579,0.07954256781449352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09978447448806296,0.06892523763392998,0.0,0.0,0.17233385060435594,0.08635723130192327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983399686927827,0.0,0.0,0.11428716609180264,0.07788923068960557,0.10371450159163256,0.0,0.07235601095226107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22264712285800808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08333471872837585,0.0,0.0,0.09769686781375307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08072105566942538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10400970775959126,0.07792932063571363,0.0,0.0,0.10201416781982772,0.0,0.0,0.3322055841874333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056901001817755925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06625195055792814,0.0,0.3812947636027727,0.10158657636131994,0.3521383392764078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151130930157721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07104104907220718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,downtownMangos,2020/03/07,"I don't want a divorce but feel we are headed that way I love my husband.  I love his humor, his brain, the way he smiles.  We have fun together. We have similar moral, religious, and political ideologies.  He can be really good in bed. I thought we were supposed to be together forever. 

But he is lazy. So very, very lazy. 

In this marriage he got a pretty good deal.  He comes home and delicious meals are waiting for him. They magically clean themselves up at the end. His kids have chores that they do without him being involved.  All then plans are taken care of.  The house looks reasonable and cleans itself.  He does have to take out the garbage but luckily he is reminded.  The bills get paid.  Money is put into savings.  Wise investments are being made in his name and all he has to do is sign the papers.  There is always money in the joint account from his wife's ""job"" (though let's be real, is it really a job if she works for the state?) . Kids stuff and school things are scheduled. Even his mom gets birthday cards magically! Sometimes friends come over. Sometimes we go on trips. All of that happens without having to plan it at all, things just run smoothly! The kids birthday parties and Christmas happens. Just happens. Everything goes so much smoother. 

He often remarks at how much better his life is now.  How marriage was his best decision ever.   And, I'm just drowning. 

Over the years I've tried to say ""I need help'. I've tried to soften the blows.  I've tried to make it about our life moving forward.  Please help. Please help. Please pick up the ball. 

But every ball I have dropped stays on the floor.  He says ,"" the quickest way to make me not do something is to nag me."". I try not to nag.  

Our closet has been broken for 4 years.  The molding around the back door has been down a year. I asked him to fix it as a mother's day present. He said he would. Maybe he meant next year's mother's day.  There are so many unfinished tasks, but he talks about his honey-do list to others like it's active.  

I don't think it is malicious. I think he doesn't get it.  I think I have been too nice all these years in my words.  I think it is easier to do it then keep arguing. 

Last night I tried to lay it out, why I am unhappy.  Make it crystal clear  I tried to not accuse. I tried to be as diplomatic as possible and tell him I need help. I need help. I need a partner. 

He says:
You hate my kids

He says:
You are just saying your better than me.

He says:
Did you meet someone else?

He says:
You're calling me worthless.

For the first time in 10 years he didn't kiss me goodbye in the morning. 

I want my marriage to work.  I want so badly for it to work.  I want him to love me enough to admit he has let me do it all. I want him to go to counseling.  I want him to put out even the smallest effort to save this.  

I just don't think it's going to happen. And I'm heart broken. I don't want a divorce but I can't live like this forever.",0.5201615794796375,2.881195447986581,2.00753240783304,95.21123793325368,87.80872483221478,5.077833961570287,19.74156476969753,6.6033845720624615,0.15787016640617854,2261,69,494,27,73,728,267,596,0.08199999999999999,0.716,0.20199999999999999,0.9983,2,0,1,0,2,0,91.0,7,4,2,10,24,25,4,0,26,0,57,10,3,8,8,85,109,28,1,13,17,5,2,2,2,1,2,8,7,5,26,21,1,2,11,2,6,11,12,6,0,1,14,11,69,19,63,86,10,61,1,1,1,4,93,24,0,2,24,294,95,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051759267433231365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0553753432587245,0.058152968179580274,0.0,0.0,0.04783155053079702,0.051938300036341666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0652799620305475,0.11002994883347934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06944098253827043,0.06351792159584736,0.0,0.06342180541781425,0.0,0.0,0.10716762813733592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023373043751672,0.06413028198567053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05443572473002527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051964018732671535,0.0,0.05509487310466507,0.06427405107688354,0.0,0.08217119396110698,0.05626768408311282,0.05241011620736121,0.0,0.055905545207099325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03145254951323245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052911259380838536,0.0,0.0,0.048059172697650816,0.0,0.09749811590796176,0.0,0.1060570401116958,0.10434864957492462,0.049750756028184635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200295322308611,0.0,0.0,0.061414232024675365,0.06383993608757083,0.0,0.0,0.0737128318602075,0.208472390907184,0.0,0.0623963545198283,0.0,0.0,0.07177583586941111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234570706048953,0.0552903676326161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05070510730051249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12721697639035914,0.08787399416353615,0.0607801180514963,0.0,0.05492786206489653,0.0,0.05223625502423194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16842642628117585,0.05885956152751071,0.1245662980635312,0.06306577060755733,0.06249295053987905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07285335612085236,0.0,0.0661137184317135,0.09145517764495334,0.184495894461328,0.0,0.0,0.06615537081137887,0.05837486767308121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20484613941596985,0.0,0.07012641748551987,0.0,0.06328451100438871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12506574608647694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07080253126469227,0.07969980716418258,0.06395675955047439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05917088461688,0.34627354459035264,0.0,0.06295444562781985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052705813889766535,0.04788819297591548,0.1230440157384922,0.0,0.0,0.06630190019191301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07120946327361173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04677016936217445,0.04999775639407513,0.054369622186395135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08265203563941248,0.19929119979907206,0.061115771123374935,0.0493835585833094,0.03627204252953802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29563020756630937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10265073248089476,0.25682947668157546,0.14812551176848987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056130038144034576,0.0,0.0,0.1199261616096596,0.0,0.13585721890502844,0.0,0.0,0.04418841187351676,0.0,0.0,0.2403466029226309
divorce,travel1986,2020/03/07,"Gaslighting to the fullest? My STBX keeps changing his reasons as to why he wants a divorce. He told me ILYBINILWY when I caught him cheating with a coworker.

I’m so fucking confused. First it’s because he’s unhappy. Then because  I’m “emotionally abusive” then it’s switched to my depression/mental state being-according to his views. If you read back on my old history you can see he never talked to me about the problems/issues. Ever. I didn’t find out how terrible of a partner he truly feels I am until he got caught cheating. It’s making me doubt myself and wonder if I really am this terrible person he has painted me out to be. 

He wants to move forward with the divorce but won’t file. He’s in a relationship with his coworker. What the hell?",2.948367346938774,5.260754687074833,4.559421768707484,81.07545918367347,76.95918367346937,7.465306122448977,30.22789115646259,8.418075326091056,2.6164503401360544,597,29,108,12,14,200,93,147,0.166,0.821,0.013999999999999999,-0.9623,0,0,0,0,2,0,16.0,0,2,0,1,6,8,4,2,8,0,7,1,0,3,2,22,21,11,0,4,3,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,5,6,0,1,4,1,0,4,3,8,0,1,5,3,18,0,18,14,0,18,1,0,2,1,22,5,2,5,10,69,23,1,0.0,0.2364820555030087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15347274224827584,0.0,0.2433369813778567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21114023985498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.224512401152676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18054099606565885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091893260678336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824220627616376,0.16977154164715286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18451816229927534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15963072222913385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20832058296377565,0.0,0.17740516973267165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13322818058634847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121330702297093,0.0,0.0,0.15393646560112972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20943661098307395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17427468939681687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.199644470051528,0.0,0.12786275822555968,0.20521223260795168,0.0,0.21428545729014856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15904775399338006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16042324981958134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19071723591745027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23544724672373046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800993440703702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21644733778439146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,heygirl246,2020/03/07,"Divorcee in the making 33F with 1 kid, divorcing a 33M. When I met him he said he was marriage ready then strung me along for 2 years. When we eventually married, I wasn’t even happy and went through the motions. I have asked him to make up for what he did and propose in a romantic way and treat me with respect instead of ignore me. My self esteem has taking a beating, I cannot trust people easily, it’s caused me so many issues at workplaces because I feel people are out to hurt me or are lying to me. The entire ordeal broke my spirit and I gained over 40 pounds. I thought having a kid would fix things, it made me realize how much I don’t want this life for my child. He walked out on us today. I’m happy but panicked about bills since he was the breadwinner. I’m excited and optimistic though.",3.6237525562372177,4.818941226993869,4.620383435582824,86.13012525562374,72.3128834355828,7.396523517382414,25.853271983640084,7.793537801064563,1.3493235173824132,632,20,129,8,12,206,114,163,0.106,0.7559999999999999,0.138,0.4821,0,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,2,0,0,2,8,9,0,0,8,0,12,1,0,5,0,24,25,13,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,4,5,11,0,1,3,0,1,3,3,3,0,0,9,2,22,6,20,15,1,17,1,2,0,0,18,8,0,1,5,83,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18055144569650708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177308855400984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19839877195780545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275612262685457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09765285355544642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4111831531705353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20675076596128092,0.0,0.0,0.2015786221204982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364141606354322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18274525375965547,0.25783292930672097,0.1958045550142192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14197353167972365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677854825461392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18371183956987155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20147778841800676,0.0,0.0,0.15975998680242492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14521050185665738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12830767707653454,0.0,0.1897502599885664,0.1533244677781642,0.0,0.0,0.1830656376881721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23231285389286346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11391368750366705,0.15329842500757485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17903440309742727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371947451101495,0.0,0.0,0.12437005362569195
divorce,thr0w4waii,2020/03/07,"Terrified I'm making the wrong decisions 15 years together. 3 years married. 1 year seperated, been through 2 failed bouts of couples councelling and are now stuck in a limbo stage. She says she still loves me and wants to be together (her words do not match her actions in the slightest). I am on the fence about our future until we have had the opportunity to discuss the problems within our relationship and see if there are viable resolutions. We tried for 6 months between us, things got worse. Each time we tried councelling, it was always me and the councellor 'ganging' up on her.

She has issues with mental health and often threatens to take her own life if I don't reply to her calls and messages. I'm stuck in a dead zone. In the past she has threatened to take her life if I don't want to be with her anymore. Now she is telling me I need to make a decision if we're getting divorced or not. I explained my position quite clearly that purely WANTING to be together will not make that happen. We would need to discuss the issues that got us to where we are and agree if they are fixable or if we have just grown apart.

Now the children (x2) are coming in to play. She has weaponised them in a way she always promised not to. Tonight she refused to give me further access to my children (it is my agreed weekend) until I make the decision. When I went to collect the children as usual after disregarding this warning, she stood firm. She allowed the children to hug me at the front door (very distraught) but would not allow them to come with me. After asking 3-4 times and a volitile situation beginning to unfold, I decided to leave.

I feel awful. I feel I have failed my children, I have abandoned them. I just couldn't continue to let them be party to an aggressive arguement laying out faults and insults again. It's the whole reason I moved out a year ago to prevent this. I guess I'm not so much looking for advice, but just needed to vent. The house will be extra quiet tonight.",4.960816541930536,6.15170498186529,5.331669545192863,82.30042506236808,69.12953367875646,7.7910573786221455,30.87660717712531,8.045849151850463,2.1608329687200154,1577,64,296,20,27,502,206,386,0.132,0.818,0.05,-0.9815,1,0,0,0,1,0,41.0,10,0,5,4,14,14,2,1,22,1,32,5,0,7,2,76,67,24,1,16,19,0,2,0,0,4,3,2,1,5,9,23,0,5,8,2,0,7,9,9,0,0,9,6,57,5,50,47,5,51,0,3,2,2,51,16,0,10,26,213,66,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055468777928366,0.0957450337091019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17974723222651764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10711766394970014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10097549283826612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11029107607021764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18608343488261195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11951186647813858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922698488273573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05643117117259351,0.1036137759879053,0.0,0.0,0.17277216507707902,0.0,0.11898604425066962,0.0,0.0955135702935014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148104014172338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12462993081301042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254703709045925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11436781361019052,0.0,0.11044833385582227,0.1525824071598408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09070184653015324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974839401043758,0.0,0.2883921201101038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884945528125137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08621316892346663,0.11479835872516618,0.07940034640014307,0.2402658598483741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10310850497791052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10335172306429877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114882752924363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105306432518966,0.0,0.115963148833621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08589450232086784,0.0,0.0,0.08607060227616943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214086348861128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08625754323895729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16242131912823116,0.0,0.09440617680507883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07175755850503733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12596390125299653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466644503839492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598473230053988,0.0,0.1189586073612522,0.08912019993939863,0.1911226580158512,0.08573392451528464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10012706914657098,0.0,0.12059017132377145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11007220581331648,0.15345550902543287,0.11809282500512006,0.0,0.27822158744240466
divorce,Soulfight101,2020/03/07,"Should this have been discussed before? Ex introduced our kids to new girlfriend So, we have been separated for a year, not divorced yet and still live in the same house (that will change within the next month or so) He has been going out with this woman for less than 2 months and has now introduced my children to her and her kids. I wish he had waited a bit more but my biggest issue is him not having any sort of discussion with me beforehand. Is this an unreasonable expectation?",4.851754658385089,6.553888119565219,5.055279503105592,82.2276086956522,69.97826086956522,8.300621118012423,26.186335403726712,8.841846274778883,1.8918335403726707,385,12,73,7,7,121,71,92,0.0,0.975,0.025,0.2982,0,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,2,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,5,0,13,0,0,0,0,17,16,7,0,3,4,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,4,7,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,0,9,0,11,10,4,13,0,0,0,0,16,4,0,2,8,57,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18169405624049026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22735362231348524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2916953653034354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28264489327052483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15184663567592696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082940799060359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2788703327148423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23592807372264554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4265269091567071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580476513137953,0.28415286186626765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21337322226157707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30724803208456275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.172057522119716
divorce,forensic_cpa,2020/03/07,"Thoughts on Step-Parenting? (and hopefully food for thought for those seriously contemplating marrying again) For those who are remarried, I have concluded that parenting is not the hardest thing you will ever do. STEP-parenting is the hardest thing you'll ever do. Care to share thoughts? Stories?

Please keep it positive and encouraging, not a rant that bashes your stepkids or spouse's ex :-)",6.049285714285716,9.480430984848486,5.608354978354981,71.6468181818182,72.48484848484848,10.438095238095238,36.701298701298704,10.290406445055957,5.085548051948052,319,18,48,11,7,98,49,66,0.022000000000000002,0.684,0.293,0.9616,3,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,3,0,1,3,5,0,0,3,0,8,1,0,1,2,13,14,3,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,8,2,1,1,4,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,4,4,5,9,0,4,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,2,3,35,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442342180664968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4333681053044151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896612859576903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.237924305879153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21292045561301728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659886893329457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26295076461797456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31828887813915896,0.0,0.0,0.5705208833055928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,k42624,2020/03/07,"my ex husband wants me to keep the pets after he already took them from me I really wanted to keep our cats but he insisted on keeping them through the divorce but he learned he’s going on deployment, and wants me to keep them now. I’m living in a friends house before I leave the military in a year and I can’t keep them here but I still feel awful that they might have to go to his mothers house (she loves cats they will be fine) but like why!! Why two days after a divorce and I’ve moved out and settled somewhere would he do that? My heart hurts and I feel horrible for my babies bc he put me in such a bad position. I need the money before I make a cross country move and a whole new apartment isn’t realistic right now.",1.0134868421052623,3.172869953947369,2.632105263157893,93.11223684210528,83.01315789473685,5.642105263157895,22.0,6.9077264865688965,0.5366236842105261,571,19,125,7,16,187,93,152,0.124,0.7979999999999999,0.079,-0.7955,0,0,0,0,2,0,9.0,1,0,6,0,5,6,0,0,10,1,8,2,1,1,0,26,25,10,0,5,4,3,2,1,1,3,0,0,1,0,2,7,0,5,3,0,1,7,2,2,0,1,1,2,23,4,16,20,1,23,0,1,0,1,22,8,0,1,9,76,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426757598875522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10795252879560742,0.0,0.0,0.22003412297328234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08338195598791785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13074676123965226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998898543253448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14695803377756145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15321037843801005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983687561240851,0.13840861812556404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5745986102551811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13690043019722792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06316501925903936,0.0,0.11416626279822215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669011513236376,0.0,0.0863027019191131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13715724852403774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748316016423454,0.0,0.09586758878116873,0.0,0.12486998901617788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12997309833299944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08282708253712219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11041375057999436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10325190632233132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14364698409474902,0.0,0.0,0.12629845509864052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22877742676787816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23332991471814196,0.1443487097519432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918445694578027,0.0,0.0,0.08325912205693126
divorce,upfnothing,2020/03/07,"Texas mediated Marital Settlement Agreement (MSA) and No CS Hello everyone! My STBX wife of nearly 2 decades earns twice what I do and is filing after I proposed the idea following her recently uncovered affair. 

We are moving amicably toward a divorce in which she is happily splitting every asset from 401k to home buyout perfectly 50/50. She has strongly mentioned to me that she does not need nor will ever want for me to pay her child support.

This is due to my complete willingness to do split custody of our son, live minutes away, and also that $500-800 a month would cause me extraordinary financial hardship to give and is money she doesn’t require. 

It’s our collective belief that paying CS would actually harm our child’s future wellbeing by creating a massive difference of quality of home environments. 

She also doesn’t want me to lose potential financial resources in a swap for CS. It is our goal for me use to those funds to secure my own home loan. She strongly feels that due to my love, loyalty, and total devotion as a husband and father that I genuinely deserve a full 50% of everything.

It is my hope to mediate our divorce and get this in writing and submitted to the court as part of an MSA. I read that mediated agreements -in essence negotiated formal contracts- have a lot of weight in Texas even overriding normal considerations and mechanisms used to decide custody for example. Is my logic correct in assuming that the court would honor an MSA in terms of CS? Has anyone here had luck in securing their desired CS level using an MSA? Especially interested in hearing from any Texans who have been down this path!",8.7789,8.62974865666667,9.186500000000002,62.59575000000002,60.76666666666666,12.7,40.41666666666667,12.048122262838008,5.318466666666667,1327,65,208,39,16,444,184,300,0.044000000000000004,0.78,0.175,0.9917,0,0,0,0,2,0,26.0,6,0,1,8,5,17,0,0,13,0,22,2,0,4,4,39,36,14,0,9,1,4,2,0,0,4,0,1,3,2,17,10,1,3,7,1,5,2,5,2,0,1,2,3,30,14,44,30,6,25,1,1,0,1,32,15,0,4,8,149,47,6,0.0,0.0,0.1346965334487958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22076371292767666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938645510352406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09651318671347688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12968292428341474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14179395260579125,0.0,0.0,0.14472093120653254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14421107731171975,0.0,0.0,0.12079023394025094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09116694772538984,0.12485526292491002,0.11629550683709546,0.13189276205236744,0.12405169431680435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06979168243947635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07211453071589602,0.13241013212744845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555688767652912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4153634564533553,0.13709408423539432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15581810243523422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12188226282577885,0.0,0.0,0.15441930547429356,0.0,0.11734744212764428,0.12457669133717693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101735457417821,0.14670313577402885,0.0,0.10234686119971728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352392546053978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14947211194164786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13806649649103833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13628712758639136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15663383671530676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3576385885592201,0.0,0.0,0.1628263305025,0.0,0.0,0.16808231193466894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2941558306124406,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,TheyConfirmedIt,2020/03/07,"I'm considering losing everything I have (legitimately, not faking it) so I don't have to give anything to my cheating wife. Is that legal? I'm a 41yo man in California. 

I found out my wife of 12 years has been cheating on me for the last 2 years with a close ""friend"" of mine. When I found out I knew nothing about divorce laws and I've always been very straight forward about my intentions, so I told her I knew about it and wanted a divorce immediately. Turns out after doing some reading that I should've gotten a lawyer without saying anything and kept the element of surprise.

I always made good money and paid for her Master's degree after we got married. She did nothing with it besides trying to setup a few failed online businesses that never turned a profit. We have no children, but she one day decided that charity work was the most important thing in life and over time I ended up paying for all of our expenses while she worked pro bono for a non-profit. 

Long story short, even though from my perspective I got completely scammed in this marriage since she took my money for everything, including her education, while refusing to leverage that education to  contribute financially to our marriage, and then cheated on me, it looks like I'm going to have to pay her a lot of money. I cannot start to understand how divorce laws can be so inane, but I am not here to rant about them, I have a very practical and serious question.

I know for a fact that I would rather lose absolutely everything and have to start over than give a single dollar to her, if that is a choice I have. Please don't tell me to reconsider. I know myself very well and I will never be able to let go of the resentment of seeing the woman who exploited me in every way possible spend my money to go on dates with the friend she cheated on me with and buy nice things for herself. On the other hand, I have a talent for making money and am very confident I could rebuild myself over the years. I also enjoy working, so I won't see at all the loss of money as a waste of the years I spent making it. At the end of the day, my mental sanity and happiness take precedence over everything and I cannot possibly find peace of mind giving her any money at all. I will however be very happy to watch her struggle financially while I rebuild myself with more drive than ever.

Everything is in my name, our house and two cars, and fully paid for. I also recently sold my business and have been working on some ideas for a new business, but I am currently not earning anything. My question is this: What would happen legally if I lost everything before divorce proceedings even started? Let's say I sold the house immediately for way below market rates and took all the money in my accounts and our joint account. Could I lose all the money in a casino? My personal choice would be to give everything to a charity; it would be poetic justice in my mind and it would be nice to know that my money actually helped instead of going to casino owners. But if she could somehow legally recover the money from the charity, I would rather take out everything, literally burn it and send her a video of it.

Could I legally still be liable to pay her based on my past income and assets? Could she come after me once I start making money again down the line? Based on the financial situation I described, is there any way to essentially burn everything I own so thatI don't have to ever pay her anything, even in the future?",8.479336053412464,6.985596390207718,8.748707344213653,69.85329840504454,62.10089020771513,11.748442136498518,36.19603115727003,10.686352973137794,3.7865164688427297,2773,102,501,56,32,921,290,674,0.08800000000000001,0.7859999999999999,0.125,0.9818,3,0,0,0,4,0,56.0,6,0,1,12,28,27,5,1,38,0,54,2,1,6,10,100,104,43,0,17,13,2,1,1,2,9,1,2,0,4,24,34,0,2,13,4,30,11,13,14,1,2,23,7,87,13,96,58,13,85,0,6,4,0,55,35,0,10,39,376,111,18,0.05673516603469075,0.0,0.0553653379037664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09074218356018256,0.09441640620050568,0.0,0.0,0.07716371687066431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18675282998844736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048277447553092254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04887232186396381,0.059485742155668216,0.0,0.0,0.2264920674811172,0.0,0.0,0.07317897701839171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10050103443457137,0.0,0.0,0.11241912625145603,0.10264041165586567,0.047801824351873315,0.0,0.4589091803462008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051854913911511764,0.0,0.0,0.12441436230961272,0.08766689708147535,0.0,0.0,0.2177021640992819,0.1289756092797164,0.04758676548817815,0.0907525902679895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05017071995371382,0.12079127846010786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038028385867080385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13092952838965766,0.0,0.06404709662502123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093540490499675,0.04624673266001182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160311023911493,0.0400737256284972,0.02771793632061891,0.0,0.0,0.0502088365891445,0.047643250352444017,0.1904164154981589,0.061933135766847676,0.048234209293957005,0.0,0.05368418590094952,0.11361349165182125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0571757031095038,0.0,0.11457268863447632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08751531531598954,0.0547951768955012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10887784393235082,0.0,0.0,0.06042110019143539,0.03844521682274425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05416013569796188,0.0,0.04953895860412244,0.0,0.06227817505548805,0.0,0.1279207501775442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12711274082315002,0.0,0.056750519376368214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056019131877827394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023616242721663,0.0,0.0,0.09042116360587947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046931915628924896,0.0637727037332651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16062977013460447,0.0,0.045308776883105695,0.0,0.0,0.059311914064679165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853155681591111,0.0,0.049589035817988486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07538464662677175,0.0,0.055742012568911856,0.0,0.033082731566947465,0.0,0.0,0.054212882478273335,0.12606971404405662,0.03851945354344647,0.12342313746538693,0.05542201327383724,0.059063308715208526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340622688293941,0.033463870884725626,0.13510120198119666,0.0,0.0,0.051011727884712726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054690675458320584,0.0,0.1652155063432844,0.0,0.0,0.24181820483764566,0.0,0.0,0.14614234716341984
divorce,WildRoses26,2020/03/07,"If your spouse was going to tell you they wanted to split up, how would you want to receive the news? I was in a bad place today. Had to stop myself several times from just texting my spouse that I was done. I want to be respectful, not be a shit about it.

I guess at home, when our kiddo is out of the house, would be best. There's no reason to do it in public. I have thought about having him come to a joint session with my therapist, but that seems less comfortable for him since I've only been to that therapist on my own. It shouldn't be an ambush.

But, do you just rip off that bandaid?",2.855501792114694,3.769246306451617,3.7720430107526894,92.55862007168459,73.83870967741936,7.124014336917562,21.842293906810035,7.3871296695380915,0.4595315412186385,458,10,106,5,9,147,85,124,0.044000000000000004,0.848,0.10800000000000001,0.7771,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,4,1,1,7,5,1,0,6,0,18,2,1,2,0,22,26,5,0,7,6,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,7,3,0,1,3,0,0,3,3,2,0,0,7,0,17,3,21,12,3,15,0,0,0,0,13,8,1,3,4,82,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15805891799485886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19866033655460727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630665552743398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19372124758666198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10758445433692533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20853704010694704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18988492644786115,0.0,0.0,0.2184286152561335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439723871537055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977798676040572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19463355954915795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17233305511525665,0.0,0.21385691073173788,0.1943153586969984,0.15659222893761715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15826460307836634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654579308248031,0.0,0.0,0.4395874658022225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15028431486883526,0.11038327769046674,0.0,0.17943577000246724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33496494190555953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2689488321239705,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Hailsbails91,2020/03/07,"Been wanting to leave for years...why can't I just pull the plug? Long rant/tale incoming:

So, F 28, married for almost 8 years. We have a daughter (7) and a house.

Little background: We met in highschool and were each other's best friends. It was just us, always. We never defined the relationship as BF/GF though. But each would be incredibly hurt if the other became involved with anyone else. So, we were best friends from about 15-18. Graduated school together, went to prom, drank together. Ocassionally, things got sexual when we were drunk, but we never actually had sex; hands was as far as things went.

During this time I'd say he had maaaaybe 2 sexual partners. I had 2 as well. One day he just asked me to marry him, just conversationally-no big event, no ring. I, who had always had feelings immediately accepted. Even though we had never called ourselves bf/gf before. Whatever. I was 18 and stupid. After that we're engaged, move in together, and start hooking up. About a year into it, I got pregnant. We ended up getting married when I was 4-5 months into it.


Writing it out, this is all so ridiculously trashy. But I needed to describe how I felt like...he never really wanted me. I was just the easiest path to take.

Anyway, after baby the sex stops. Maybe once or twice a year. To once a year. To going a full year with nothing.

Three years into the marriage, I break up with him because he won't sleep with me. He throws this whole self harm fit, slicing his wrists and laying under my car. I moved in with my mom, but still saw him every day because we had the baby and we worked at the same place.

While we're apart, I get together with my ex. From when I was 16. I don't think he's forgiven me. But I wanted to have sex without having to go out and date or meet new people. So that was me being shitty and going with the easy option.

We never finalize the divorce and he begs me to come back; impressing me with very spontaneous, public acts. Should be noted I am VERY VERY sexual. Maybe to the point of it being an addiction issue. Real talk. But I never really had a problem with him other than the lack of sex. Everything else was chill.

So we get back together. As soon as we sign the lease...the sex stops. That was 5 years ago. We've had sex 4 times. I've given him probably like 10-12 handies/BJ's in that time. He has never touched me non-penatrively. 

Now, since we got back together, I got a corporate job, we bought a car and a house. I make good money. I work full time and keep everything going. Do all the driving, cooking, shopping, bill planning, and some cleaning. He works...10-15 hours a week. He cleans every once and a while but doesn't keep the house clean. Like he'll let the dishes pile up and then do them kind of thing. Not really bitching that the house isn't clean, because I'm not super on top of it either. He just tries to supplement his minimal earnings by saying he cleans the house. But it's not enough to make up for 20 working hours. And I wouldn't really care if he just did his freelance stuff, but I don't make quite enough to keep the house afloat myself. The bills are all a month behind, but I always make sure to keep them from getting turned off (for the most part) and keep groceries around. But we have debt and absolutely no disposable income.
I made about $48k last year, he made $5700.

We've fought about his job and the lack of sex pretty badly for the past few years. But I just don't have the energy to complain while nothing changes. Like I'm tired of begging for sex and feeling dirty and guilty about it. He says he'll do it more, but doesn't. I'm tired of telling him he needs to get a job and him acting like I'm mean and ungrateful for the minimal shit he does around the house. I'm just done! I want a motivated man who wants to go out and kill it at work and bring home some money. Like just the DRIVE to want to! And I want someone who wants to fuck my brains out almost daily! 

But I'm afraid to leave him. He's so...emotionally fragile. And his parents, where he will undoubtedly end up living for the rest of his life if I leave him, are crazy, and I don't want them raising my daughter....
He is nice. He is funny. We have a good time hanging out when we aren't fighting and I think we could be great friends under different circumstances. I want nothing more than for these two things to be different, or to not matter so much to me...but this marriage isn't what I want out of life and I feel like I've wasted my 20s on this guy. I want to take my power back. I want the things I want out of life and relationships without feeling selfish...",2.037033736939751,4.094603092373795,3.365238624157797,89.77882366224003,78.76369495166487,6.33708133971292,21.535506786446643,7.3919655934924595,0.6709461868958111,3593,102,758,49,88,1170,386,931,0.11599999999999999,0.757,0.127,0.652,9,0,0,0,3,0,159.0,20,0,3,13,41,38,8,1,46,0,63,24,5,8,12,180,137,73,1,26,37,5,8,6,4,7,6,4,6,4,34,73,4,7,10,3,7,20,27,15,1,4,39,13,90,23,105,83,25,119,0,1,1,9,95,40,3,12,64,468,124,13,0.0,0.0,0.042485252309805634,0.0474611090407248,0.0,0.0,0.038592397315004086,0.0,0.08719084410148363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10867733291682936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030441667530398533,0.04460819311009138,0.0,0.07751326365499395,0.040700662872316315,0.0,0.0,0.13390723629461918,0.03635108071203553,0.07961816750137775,0.0,0.037046275121297545,0.0,0.09137754477873324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04860102774263838,0.044455538455740816,0.0,0.044388267733692366,0.0,0.04605574510395022,0.03750275901802602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034760277810749834,0.0,0.0,0.05615476072418839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909725565845596,0.0,0.0,0.03809900250671884,0.04455285912363401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07273816192487455,0.04897259720489788,0.07712066731663099,0.08996949136765994,0.0,0.028755385734558967,0.0,0.07336259997142336,0.0,0.0782554294095745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08805326051525025,0.031102417332703518,0.041801777431926784,0.04769200501751798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009083584443599,0.04024870605310295,0.11372987686549338,0.0,0.12371371487843155,0.07303254400386365,0.1392801648571408,0.047999041601095235,0.0,0.043107886983623486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043670565222581406,0.0,0.08574918085412657,0.3516461726175103,0.04660662334506058,0.0,0.0,0.04544069702428952,0.12960949631264018,0.19348579131440816,0.04816658307389938,0.04533646755938815,0.0,0.03548798183043455,0.0,0.13829630421258765,0.0,0.044518925084872624,0.09225315380247,0.14888782293622685,0.04363491649903558,0.038443444353463814,0.0385283495312415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08239040054312369,0.11624355698302367,0.0,0.08747634356222167,0.04742390955438102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050989312831546944,0.06950068823389413,0.09254461979704362,0.03200426796582742,0.06456338719124652,0.2350457231060585,0.04204773246055511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12532306797586315,0.0,0.0,0.13909455538396792,0.029501395614319182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0483420269678597,0.047145685390147615,0.041560426024324665,0.03018266235744078,0.0,0.0454862782922798,0.0,0.04115597612789522,0.0,0.0,0.044292176789239975,0.04693960945357692,0.04165846107283285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046306327062026933,0.0,0.04955396165870608,0.1115621466598518,0.0,0.0,0.09348361456079607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038656930492996,0.0,0.044061167435150456,0.0,0.0,0.04541796666887507,0.0,0.04468949539318293,0.036013765152903415,0.0,0.0435678477341359,0.0,0.03688825574498675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030815292433040955,0.0,0.034768230279264366,0.07279677013285757,0.0,0.0,0.0498387691762835,0.0,0.0,0.04103254766992243,0.0,0.06546791867313206,0.034992914223800436,0.038052738017948735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446182690057266,0.05579274241956676,0.08554859621241369,0.0,0.12693214300997874,0.10007738906863783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029558362047273468,0.04735510821950634,0.042528742830921874,0.0,0.05236893623711389,0.0,0.0,0.10776628400289287,0.3595046056397417,0.0,0.03492227902799645,0.0,0.03914445774192113,0.08071736955530498,0.0392848349968281,0.04860684281704929,0.0,0.08393508407296756,0.0,0.12678008909992092,0.0,0.0,0.030927013888150695,0.0,0.0,0.2523241641213956
divorce,drakcirsirk,2020/03/07,"It's my son's birthday party tonight with my stbx and her family Not looking for anything other than an opportunity to ask for prayers/vibes/energy. My oldest just turned 7 and tonight is his birthday party. When his mom texted and asked if I wanted to help her throw his party, my initial response that I wanted to reply with was ""no way"". Then I realized that it isn't about me or her, it's about him. I'm committed to being the dad that he deserves and I want to be civil with his mom and be able to co-parent with her. 

My anxiety is through the roof as it will be her family there and my family that is less than supportive of me in any situation. I know I can do it. I'm just nervous as hell.",5.309109589041096,4.567007,6.722020547945206,79.37426369863014,68.04109589041096,10.03972602739726,30.578767123287676,9.516144504307137,2.480304109589041,546,18,117,10,8,188,84,146,0.07200000000000001,0.8,0.128,0.7447,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,1,6,4,1,1,3,0,12,0,0,0,1,21,23,12,0,4,5,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,10,10,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,1,24,2,21,17,1,8,1,0,1,0,18,1,1,2,5,86,34,0,0.18680099674550027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270310834660646,0.0,0.14290225121349534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537213038451059,0.0,0.3492674313521277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5282980646060684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12520877052249255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10266094254321988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15686579023299513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4375581394080367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20997214699689634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119795574148304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031858432025548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3305402031823037,0.14827393634588398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,DuffNinja,2020/03/07,"Torn - 2 years later, do I let her explain? 2 years ago, after constant fighting, my wife decided to leave.  We had been together for 12 years, married for two.    Her reasons were that she wanted to be self sustaining (I supported her financially and helped her build her career), she wanted to be single and fully get to know herself.  I wasn't fully on board but I understood.  I wasn't happy either.  


One week later, she was dating someone she worked with.  I lost it.  One month later, she introduced him to her family, they were not happy.    I went off on her many times and she gaslit me.  Telling me I was overreacting, that it was normal, blah blah.   We sped through a SA because it was clearly done.  


I'm now with someone amazing.  She treats me better than I've been treated, she's just a lovely person.    


My ex and I split a dog. In one of the recent text exchanges around trading the dog back and forth, we talked about finalizing the divorce.  She said something like 'out of respect for our partners'.  While I agree, that comment stung.  I didn't get that level of respect and I told her so.   


She apologized for everything (over text) and said she was truly sorry.  That she didn't end things well or transition things well.  And she wants to meet up discuss everything.  And thus, I'm torn.  


2 years later she apologizes.  Over text.   With me prompting it.  


How am I suppose to take it as genuine?  Is it even worth listening?  Has anyone done something similar and did it give you closure?",2.233803191489361,4.882441542553191,3.2873005319148945,87.19031250000003,82.15602836879432,5.936347517730496,24.415336879432626,7.292943589461545,1.2955421985815605,1153,44,215,17,32,369,161,282,0.08800000000000001,0.755,0.157,0.982,0,0,2,0,3,0,48.0,4,1,1,3,10,15,1,0,6,0,24,1,0,3,1,35,44,16,0,4,5,2,0,3,1,0,0,3,0,3,14,18,0,0,5,0,3,1,5,2,2,4,23,3,49,13,31,18,2,33,0,1,0,1,52,10,0,1,23,152,63,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10561782548512884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08331129840052551,0.0,0.0,0.10606729463672168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09161772847849514,0.0,0.07263172978491418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10537703529219514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12875704081760647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438602640501971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055300752044477,0.0,0.0,0.0786963631069751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141657129817872,0.0,0.11232246279890144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305211962309932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12450019302174672,0.1142979566271278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536712735675421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07986262913680554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0654808185317277,0.0,0.0,0.1261609016264678,0.0,0.12183726297229908,0.0,0.058209866612493465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13006450156247248,0.0,0.10753603998750212,0.0,0.0,0.12079772835484474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09510307821859396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11674008785290314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24221402169925646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10403574563098693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12250435049323764,0.1176446239228246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266747358386897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12429771694068024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019080248331756,0.18345244562240606,0.0,0.13337682579699872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352081384375833,0.0,0.0,0.08958473287956636,0.0957669324747686,0.1041409117553964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15831374219263508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0694763625045351,0.0,0.0,0.11385135679785742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163906274532444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21083035598381308,0.0,0.09557362145232444,0.0,0.21425735606680527,0.11045171645758836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674141966517994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3069105302941049
divorce,adrift1234,2020/03/08,"Almost a year since he said he was done + And I’m not better. Divorce has been final for almost 4 months. I thought I was on the upswing but these last couple of months have been brutal. I’m weepy and lonely and depressed again. 
I did all the things. I went to therapy, I exercise, I have the love and support of my family and friends, I’m trying to meet new friends and yet, I miss my old life badly. 
I wish I could say my ex sucked. The problem is, he is a decent guy. I thought he was my rock, the guy who loved me forever, we were best friends, our families loved each other. But surprise, he just didn’t want me anymore.  
I don’t know how to recover at this point. How long is this pain supposed to last?  How do I get over being left?",0.35830740037950903,2.4630137870967768,2.2020113851992416,95.51478178368124,85.3225806451613,5.195445920303605,20.73055028462998,6.522977012572876,0.183212523719166,567,18,129,6,17,187,96,155,0.188,0.5760000000000001,0.23600000000000002,0.9079999999999999,0,3,0,0,1,0,23.0,2,0,0,2,6,18,2,0,7,0,19,6,0,3,1,25,36,11,0,4,4,1,0,0,3,0,3,2,0,2,6,8,0,0,3,2,0,1,3,8,0,0,13,2,20,10,10,21,3,17,0,3,0,3,21,5,1,2,11,80,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652432982911097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313469919978901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11058363574602184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13898983096576278,0.11713428986356107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10574425366621347,0.14654468358578246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11407220146981845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13553426881035047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497092820877653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450838656664338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3069733536215202,0.0,0.06919553988704172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622770370840378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07278672394920492,0.21591600465396252,0.0,0.0,0.14389874785163748,0.0,0.0935477841528233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172071060062754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35860254495910593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211428068745426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12791342208499182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13897572283291768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14092775055793286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252006098237481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12672921945599064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12598278239111638,0.1053232874299754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10955748796191536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15029374508160415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514591034562539,0.0,0.08798865766130866,0.0,0.0,0.2102884942479018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08991950384579618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07811779217792825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12277516951958943,0.0,0.0,0.1523018985552562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08528838118752707
divorce,abeaver269,2020/03/08,"Is it normal to think they can get back together? I have a friend going thru a divorce. Trust me folks, us friends don’t have all the answers. We just had Reddit! They have been separated since August. Their divorce was finalized in January. She has an order of protection on him. He violated it. She had him put in jail. Now they are chatting all sweet and flirting with each other. I’m trying to stay calm thru this but I just want to scream “What the fuck are you doing?”

So... is this normal? What can I expect from this? I’ve gone thru all the ups and downs of their marriage as if I was in it and this just seems crazy to me.",0.4900781250000002,2.871781601562504,2.0956250000000023,94.286875,88.453125,5.075,18.15625,6.6274283507984215,-0.02107187500000008,487,13,106,6,16,158,85,128,0.109,0.7959999999999999,0.094,-0.7936,0,0,0,0,2,0,18.0,2,1,5,0,6,9,2,0,6,0,17,1,0,0,3,21,25,7,0,5,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,10,6,0,1,3,1,0,3,1,3,0,0,6,2,18,6,18,19,4,15,0,0,0,1,19,6,1,2,4,84,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19347504033769586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756299913246933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3887915099171821,0.232612373838592,0.1314575261085376,0.0,0.1429975952831613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4930550796545483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529407890861233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290592318487423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081370614009239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681862216830483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612235961083772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17082886474723705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3026597316555916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484080003065982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,BrokenMendingHeart,2020/03/08,"Divorce and reconciled Wanting to know anyone have any stories of two people getting a divorce (NOT because of an affair) and one the person came back regretting their decision.  (they wanted a divorce because they said they never loved you).  

Success or regret stories?",6.907666666666664,9.923163711111117,6.628611111111113,67.57625000000003,67.44444444444444,7.166666666666668,40.138888888888886,8.07648339933343,4.226222222222224,217,13,25,3,4,68,36,45,0.23,0.77,0.0,-0.892,0,0,0,0,3,0,7.0,0,1,4,1,1,4,0,0,4,0,1,1,0,0,1,13,8,3,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,2,0,2,2,1,5,2,3,6,0,3,0,2,0,1,12,0,0,1,2,21,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20252710850008485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082419446066568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290044004245907,0.0,0.3630953529938109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3406255554981849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555981169211325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16367351424445656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687932430801653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296963453708235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018098379532396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20647017107204188,0.2600440323789691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2832940350858296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29092585351784245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35132268295801755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Karla2345,2020/03/08,"I want some advice I want to kind of explain my situation and see if anyone has any advice for me. I dont have a lot of friends that have gone through a divorce that I can talk to. I lurk this sub daily trying to find someone in a similar boat to talk to. Thought maybe posting my story will find me some support/advice. 

I (30f) have been married to my husband (30m) for almost 5 years now. No kids. We moved across the country to attempt a business venture 2 years ago. It didnt go as well as planned. We didnt lose any money but we did not make any money either.

Prior to marriage (during our engagement) he purchased our home which was sold before our move (after marriage). I also sold most all of my belongings including my car. Left an AMAZING job. And my family. We decided to close my personal bank account and just combine all of our money. So anything that was sold prior to the move went into his bank account. This also included my small amount of savings I had on my own. 

My husband does not give me access to any bank account documents or investment documents. He keeps me in the dark with everything. I do not have my own bank account either. The only thing I have is a secondary credit card on his account. 

The business venture we took on required an insane amount of work that I was 100% involved in throughout the process for the last few years as far as labor and the actual work goes. Never involved with the financial part of things. 

At this point, we have been sharing a vehicle and anytime I mention that I want to get my own job he says ""it is not worth it for you to use the car for that"". 

I still have been applying anyway because I really need to start saving away some of my own $$. I actually have an interview next week so fingers crossed!!

As far as my marriage goes, I'm not being treated well. I'm demanded to clean everything, cook everything, do all of the shopping etc. Which would be totally be ok if my husband didnt verbally abuse me daily. Which that all could be it's own story. For years he manipulated me into thinking I was actually in the wrong for things but now I'm seeing the light and I am not the one in the wrong. 

Anyway, I feel like my questions needed a bit of back story. I want to divorce my husband. I'm afraid since I have zero access to any financial documents that I'll be kicked out on the streets with absolutely nothing. And to top it all off be across the country from all of my family and friends who would help me. I am hoping to get a job and open my own bank account again. Even though I am worried that I will get yelled at for not just directly putting my checks into his account. I am looking into divorce lawyers that offer free consultations because I'm completely dependent financially on him. Does anyone who has been through a similar situation have any words of guidance? I'm terrified.",3.946422309117103,5.425197444247793,5.177250463058243,81.3472216505454,71.90265486725664,8.016875900391026,30.66165877752624,8.569652575389874,2.447328462646636,2256,99,429,39,43,749,250,565,0.063,0.8440000000000001,0.09300000000000001,0.9584,3,0,0,0,4,0,59.0,10,1,0,7,17,20,0,1,29,1,46,2,1,4,8,82,81,25,0,12,16,4,2,1,2,4,0,2,2,2,26,25,1,2,8,2,25,11,13,4,2,2,20,8,67,17,73,50,26,60,0,1,3,0,49,30,0,12,19,306,93,11,0.0,0.09147674550126073,0.2260263999161033,0.0,0.0,0.2263350730466913,0.06843865541572107,0.0,0.07731087662371437,0.0,0.0,0.12348357201566612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31501726149918896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10796876790978224,0.0,0.06353414042464964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07253778489039728,0.05936681730105944,0.0,0.09412838986535288,0.0,0.06569680646599174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08428919568716238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08094925245559104,0.0,0.0,0.061642884110745484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13512736630260036,0.0,0.09048511449759128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08610534351856254,0.05099397996891228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20816391596728875,0.0,0.1455663055290138,0.0,0.03903778447245505,0.05515613878698536,0.0,0.0,0.14113017221172647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11929866765847275,0.0,0.1210111896869975,0.0740632410523017,0.04387807387892946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051749701634000576,0.0,0.0774441333789866,0.07668319670429306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22984577983957805,0.06862443548930121,0.0,0.08039839701423983,0.0,0.06293337364010353,0.0,0.0,0.08388478361670115,0.0,0.0,0.037719059113259734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06483377967265433,0.08637401126874023,0.0,0.06563796707645668,0.0,0.0,0.05153575117219983,0.0,0.07756402491941806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461739792881321,0.0,0.11449486727624482,0.059546196252421225,0.0,0.08210969054649894,0.0,0.0,0.0740814500745074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05231693258781536,0.05871880913456391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08360681225418104,0.0,0.0,0.06741349306760001,0.0,0.0,0.07298483288105018,0.0,0.07394221671135996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07761357530900065,0.08648863554806313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04946028132413601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0613974847437324,0.0,0.0,0.12304672237098725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06386578277074309,0.17356605153451166,0.0,0.0,0.06541657941619049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05464695968860269,0.0,0.06165698679133124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761270319122201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12411086976571302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15387714526020907,0.04947062813931865,0.07585471886717671,0.061293114430899534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0857789508824686,0.05241795523337424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06668138499796765,0.0,0.0,0.18215291491531554,0.0,0.061930172443563275,0.0,0.1388353272261242,0.07157093916670497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11241409494028193,0.07840666379406662,0.0,0.1096901666539106,0.16882576243379907,0.0,0.19887309675024453
divorce,glitterbitchfest,2020/03/08,"I’ve never felt so certain of anything in my life. I have been married almost ten years. I did not end up here out of love. More like a serious of increasingly poor fire fighting life decisions. 

On my wedding day, I felt dread. I was almost the person who spoke up to say “if anyone knows why these two should not be wed...” but that only happens in movies. 

Instead I put one foot in front of the other, moved to a new country with my husband and had two of his children’; erasing my own identity and dying slowly inside in the process. 

About a week ago I finally worked up the courage to say enough and initiate separation. 

Now I want to move back to my home country and live a life that is mine. 

Problem is, I gave up my career to raise those kids I mentioned before. And he has a high powered, high earning job, all the money and family support and nearly methodically cut me off or discouraged me from seeking any kind of independence during our marriage. 

He would of course deny all this if you asked him. He’s a champion gas lighter - seriously if he ever finds himself in the 19th century, he won’t struggle for employment. 

As someone who has struggled with anxiety my ENTIRE LIFE and over thought even the most innocuous of decisions, I guess I’m surprised at how calm and sure and correct this all makes me feel. I’m not afraid of the possibly long road that lies ahead and I have absolutely no misgivings about ending the longest relationship of my life. 

That’s not to say I take it lightly; more like I finally feel awake after years of being half asleep. 

I feel positive. I see the light at the end of the tunnel. 

Now just have to stay playing nice with the ex so he doesn’t utterly fuck me over. 

Joy!",4.250597014925372,5.686111970149253,5.240179104477615,81.35997014925375,71.08955223880595,8.345074626865673,30.11641791044776,8.841846274778883,2.439718805970149,1350,56,260,25,25,443,206,335,0.11900000000000001,0.747,0.134,0.853,3,0,1,0,2,0,33.0,1,1,0,4,13,24,3,4,19,0,17,9,2,3,8,55,38,20,1,7,10,2,6,2,0,3,5,4,1,3,12,15,0,1,10,1,2,5,8,11,0,5,9,13,33,13,47,24,9,45,0,1,1,2,31,20,1,8,21,174,45,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09048763125604256,0.0,0.20443645637144084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06941780105769245,0.0,0.07809080875929753,0.0,0.0,0.07137660725831109,0.0,0.08400302191785472,0.0,0.0954308835443816,0.0,0.0,0.07849310656604629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08686243705525347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0658330608514197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059427719236292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712373547077157,0.10547577664999554,0.0,0.06742278070303814,0.09233707195246983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09623180129710802,0.0,0.1548439237272744,0.0,0.19602533583145726,0.2236469804485916,0.09329913704925714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09437117995388368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11245246755546576,0.0,0.09026887759970403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21570594024489506,0.10239441645330406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10129850372593048,0.0,0.0,0.1063004592713008,0.05610041803480504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36051009802732187,0.09974212063732313,0.0,0.09013838110326408,0.0903374583555987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09213105352651134,0.0,0.06813909508078912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169894594153603,0.0,0.0,0.07873027628113381,0.09858935890889056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06917195078858923,0.07763632871638558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08913219094280334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507969739015365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976766339101498,0.0,0.10261844772319516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10959556067239394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435339908035285,0.0,0.0,0.08134442716281721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08649192887100647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10880354200402448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134320542279706,0.0,0.0,0.11583900840184078,0.09620905414985456,0.0,0.07675134607006896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810400014942962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19943436877767406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06020934257456258,0.0,0.08188230136398916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09211119055735396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07431534933838982,0.0,0.0,0.0725145993320677,0.0,0.0,0.13147215806748327
divorce,misterhalitosis,2020/03/08,"I feel like my ability to speak my mind has been ripped from me. Haven’t been married very long. STBxW is the one who regretted getting married, and honestly, I’m really beginning to as well, and for a few more reasons than just what I’m posting here. She’s the one who asked for divorce, but I told her she’ll have to get the paperwork together. Nothing has been done. Her mental health has been declining severely (also part of the reason she says she wants a divorce) and I’ve tried to be supportive, but according to her, she “can’t be herself around me” and relies on friends online, friends from back in our hometown, and recently, one of her ex’s.

She was self admitted to a mental hospital by the recommendation of her therapist, and spent the week there. I brought her clothes, visited her, coordinated visits with friends. The only time she’d call me would be to ask for something. It fucking hurt. She even called just to talk to her dog on the phone - not to me.

The night before she was self admitted, she stayed the night at her ex’s place. He has a male and female couple as roommates that she’s also friends with, but I found it insulting and inappropriate. She’s hung out there previously and she knows how angry it makes me, but claims they’re “all just friends.” This time I was livid and wanted to talk in person, but my chance to talk about it was eliminated by her call to the hospital. The day after the hospital, after I drove hours to pick her up, the first place she goes to after a thankless ride home? Her ex’s. I’m pissed, understandably. I try to talk to her and I try to be careful with how I word things, but even the most cordial of discussions about “real life” stuff is making her despair of life. The conversation was really short. I just folded.

She makes many bad decisions, finances are shit because of her, and I’m afraid of saying anything inadvertently that will push her over the edge. And honestly, most of her depression seems to revolve around the looming financial crisis of her student and credit card debt. We have separate finances, thankfully, but she’s creating her own inescapable cycle.

I’m sad for her. Empathetic. Angry. Hurt. Lonely. I love her and desperately want to give advice, but I don’t feel like I can say anything to her about anything. Suicide is the ultimate trump card. It’s her constant mental state and possibly her excuse.

How do I manage trying to support someone who doesn’t want my support? Discussing things like finances and even divorce?

Tldr; STBxW is suicidal, has pushed me away since before it got severe, needs guidance on real life responsibilities, but I feel like it’s ripped away my ability to talk about important stuff.",4.644448703819061,6.617588174852656,5.201412621591835,79.88286932771098,70.98428290766208,8.502199434568018,29.31050840960276,9.114032605525557,2.5844792850639706,2147,86,392,45,41,688,242,509,0.159,0.6940000000000001,0.147,-0.9699,1,2,1,0,3,1,68.0,2,0,0,1,25,32,4,1,24,0,36,8,2,9,1,71,76,33,2,7,14,3,3,4,5,3,4,4,1,4,18,24,0,0,12,0,6,7,5,13,1,4,16,7,69,19,66,52,7,42,0,7,0,2,89,16,3,3,20,266,87,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06668984332408914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10915365382798817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16848355105789697,0.12150798765164117,0.12760282327202466,0.0,0.1282399615127911,0.05247746658743515,0.05698310789675096,0.0416025286401868,0.0,0.1161457569381524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20906240156922612,0.0,0.06958201517187369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07375039110458799,0.0,0.0,0.0755136278539682,0.0,0.04401344783407237,0.0,0.0587807456367559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06984002480317514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13522881981738855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10352268102458284,0.14626627610543844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05805057154627016,0.0,0.07482893678531864,0.2636359893703327,0.06309293464744839,0.07131212296931698,0.06546841205869998,0.0,0.0,0.05458308602159366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07254300499081896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06845696142306275,0.0,0.06720920986333853,0.0,0.14611891557301132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03750657786089096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446138963126124,0.13336747727523912,0.0,0.0,0.06039614381246083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0615952724336953,0.0,0.1366655203941289,0.06919139842096593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20632973529166132,0.0,0.06890966859451415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05060403138551555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12808972880307012,0.0,0.06548450797554091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387371029801786,0.05190465793014761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07390447889940112,0.0,0.0,0.059590348461111435,0.1426064619252131,0.0,0.0,0.07693785147365108,0.06536143224915705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155359273430052,0.08744111200807697,0.14033785963888626,0.06738534040985872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16281744250424612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062129193331114774,0.1423922945040071,0.15419859345220668,0.07005421263852436,0.056454339878722976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05782517097335066,0.05253961075771918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07274185581260517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562521886989258,0.14930153166696086,0.2323364926758593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.274270388634742,0.0,0.06283235250114158,0.0,0.07923962884106966,0.0906800927529642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07959034899678967,0.0,0.0,0.06521260537141682,0.0,0.18534000099021505,0.0,0.0,0.0710471767428835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05631063936003392,0.16101458593943865,0.0,0.054743351638343436,0.0,0.06136194070095905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048480467012066535,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Melbamo,2020/03/08,"How to I let go? My story/Anyone else deal with this?

My H and I were HS sweethearts and have been together for 23 yrs and have 2 kids together. Around 5 yrs ago he said he was unhappy and since he could not afford to move out just started sleeping somewhere else which was a female coworkers place. A year later I found out he was going there and about the affair. He said it ended but wanted to still be friends with her (it never ended). Fast forward to 4 yrs later he has moved out and moved her in. He will not file for divorce unless I go with him. He says we will never get back together but still wants me physically and is still very much physical with me. This OW has never meet any of his family nor is she talked about. I have always held out hope that he would wake up and come back but I also feel so much like a doormat.  I am so torn what to do has anyone else had a situation like this?  I know I should file but I’m very afraid and also don’t want to see her win.",1.6917853290183371,3.3350968300970862,3.3082847896440164,91.7276267529666,78.27184466019419,6.325350593311758,19.211434735706586,7.1686216300943375,0.17686062567421826,761,16,171,9,18,252,122,206,0.026000000000000002,0.8540000000000001,0.12,0.9666,1,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,1,0,0,1,15,7,0,1,5,0,24,2,2,1,3,43,42,20,0,7,8,0,1,2,2,4,0,3,0,1,8,20,0,1,3,0,0,8,7,1,0,0,10,5,20,6,23,25,2,32,0,0,1,0,27,9,0,1,19,113,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021163904319518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18424816465618668,0.09585425914034053,0.0,0.0,0.07833883125613934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16109873566860672,0.236068655020972,0.0,0.10255095881243444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17716084740100715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992331818855742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09197651214752643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187644449591045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28870032930819883,0.0,0.20406309848535825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10859875606003637,0.0,0.05824774926644581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12630904951285848,0.08900196278422101,0.0,0.06018638549442645,0.0,0.196409638518126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11441795877870177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06331000283594346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117798122217461,0.0,0.1125601940522846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3673128589460797,0.16936809063253674,0.0,0.26654421780997245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12035776154245277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191600302282529,0.09161035507706028,0.0,0.0,0.09179817361024148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09529326911880427,0.1294877768752824,0.11528154919179255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08153798810896301,0.0,0.2759926636984297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09259207356471076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19010141372001202,0.20384092218961453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08183360570526031,0.0,0.0,0.07418396325439164
divorce,IQ818,2020/03/08,"Do you keep in touch with your ex after the divorce if you have no children, mutual friends, or financial ties? If so, what is the nature of the relationship? How often do you speak? 

Also, if already in a new relationship, how does your current partner feel about your relationship with your ex spouse?",5.91209090909091,7.5980190727272765,6.2925,74.43875,67.36363636363636,9.136363636363637,31.931818181818183,9.516144504307137,3.1036363636363635,239,10,41,5,4,77,39,55,0.038,0.893,0.07,0.4329,1,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,7,0,0,6,1,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,2,0,11,6,8,0,3,4,3,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,7,1,7,6,0,5,0,0,0,0,18,2,0,5,3,33,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796419407114877,0.2026502217835392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22175897816410264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12813065822678602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19578233010949087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22524060236794485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24474294787444584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8161958112853365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,stayorgo1234,2020/03/08,Leave or stay Wife is trying to kick me out of the house. Tbh I don't know whether our marriage is over or not. I don't want to walk out on my two kids regardless of how I feel about my wife right now. She will be back in an hour and wants me gone by the time she is home. If I leave am I abandoning the kids? Very lost at the moment,0.706622807017542,1.5918055394736896,2.236842105263161,101.58622807017548,79.13157894736842,6.119298245614036,17.929824561403507,6.42735559955562,-0.6201596491228067,255,4,71,2,6,83,55,76,0.10400000000000001,0.88,0.016,-0.6629,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,1,0,15,14,6,0,4,5,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,3,0,1,2,0,0,2,3,2,0,1,2,1,12,0,12,10,0,15,0,2,0,0,8,7,0,3,5,47,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19329049750740368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12710185799589727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25214784538545426,0.0,0.24755199624432056,0.2900509573754152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381481532164435,0.0,0.0,0.5323359102291316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744035748601189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214671364918778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679304168810006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14657775188847266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17066592258094507,0.0,0.2455551197268236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20740924066382066,0.2965328877903043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,LordBeepomweepum,2020/03/08,"Is there any way a 16 year old has a choice with visitation after divorce? I originally posted this on r/custody, but the post didn’t show up and I’m getting desperate for help. 

I am 16 years old, and my parents are divorced. My parents have been divorced since I was 10 years old, and I live with my mom. I love living with my mom, it’s easy, we live in a nice area, I love my mom and step dad and all of our pets, and I’m content with the school I go to. I visit my dad for two weekends and then stay at my moms for another two weekends, but the weekends I have with my dad are horrible every single time. 

I know my dad loves me, but he almost never shows it. The only thing he does for me is cover my dental and get me fast food. It’s so hard to communicate issues with him because he always turns any serious discussion into a joke, or ignores me until I get angry so he can call my mom so he can make the excuse that I’m being a brat. I cry every single time I come to my dads, I hate it here. He never cleans his house, the fridge hasn’t been cleaned out in 3 years, some things have been there since my mom left the house 7 years ago, there’s no counter space because he refuses to clean the kitchen, you can’t walk in the basement without shoes, and most rooms without socks. He doesn’t keep much water here, but he has five 6 packs of Dr Pepper sitting on the kitchen floor. All of his silverware, bowls, plates, and cups are sticky and slippery because he barely cleans them, I’ve had to start bringing over my own bowl and fork just so I can eat food without worrying of getting sick from eating food that I make for myself. I forgot them this weekend and I’ve only had delivery pizza since I got here yesterday, and I can’t make myself food. I used to clean for him because I felt bad after the divorce, but eventually I just got angrier and angrier at my dad over the years and stopped cleaning his messes. I’ve only seen him clean one time, and that was months ago. He hasn’t done anything since. I can’t even keep a toothbrush here, I have to keep it in a case of my things in a ziplock bag, because every time I kept one here it would gather dust and fuzz, and on three or four occasions I found a bug in it. The toilet seat isn’t even clean, I have to lay toilet paper down on the seat just to sit on it. I’m tired of having to live like this at my dads house. I’ve told him and my mom multiple times that I’m not happy at his house, and the issues that are present, but I feel like I can’t do anything about it. I haven’t felt love for my dad in years, I just want to stay at my moms house. The only reason I like going to my dads anymore is to see my cat Nosey. She’s the only thing here that makes my happy. 

Is there any possible way I can have any control over visitation, especially with these conditions?",4.523232955914235,4.276763033726812,5.404560828715971,86.49162563237776,69.59021922428332,8.261122621055168,27.398169115875692,7.6583078777640585,1.3242369453143823,2201,62,491,22,35,723,247,593,0.105,0.7879999999999999,0.107,0.2664,2,0,0,0,4,0,58.0,2,1,2,1,21,16,1,0,26,0,43,18,1,8,4,79,84,35,0,2,16,19,5,3,0,1,3,0,12,0,23,32,10,9,6,7,0,9,17,5,0,7,18,7,76,11,65,64,8,80,0,0,2,4,62,29,0,6,37,302,99,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09168417048178362,0.0,0.05178494192652226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04303088955285977,0.0,0.0,0.14067145792854438,0.054227518693029525,0.0,0.0,0.05128722494899018,0.0,0.0,0.08511381362949857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04317973115268997,0.15762443189394518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05280663356265507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04454775539441739,0.0,0.0,0.05800259030493647,0.0,0.0,0.0568063232442696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04525600486153086,0.052922236185545916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10583438360114936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06831432798635079,0.0,0.13071594907409084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02614857689022866,0.03694509192900691,0.09930871247068948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501351585394735,0.05670265262972644,0.0,0.0,0.1080754775019298,0.0,0.058781470522636214,0.0,0.08272216335293807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101028173287492,0.04632633868469732,0.05105769780525897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03466336705603405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983599091549197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10795371375300104,0.0,0.13789957746244605,0.0,0.0,0.028421123527083817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056188324823331325,0.0,0.0,0.07579577561421932,0.0,0.1826606042242216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18669864822275206,0.0,0.13808022871511189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4845423633300974,0.04127829178779902,0.0,0.038016357682745014,0.0,0.07977134523736773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16279807518153572,0.0,0.07008662775925031,0.19665733036683844,0.0,0.0,0.11484641925141725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05830071164453397,0.0990570425673213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05317146847036541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05233817886172328,0.04121003182543103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711161997539859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036604029827638135,0.11024227682446644,0.0,0.04323592176009537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13742816671455152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15077669501008814,0.05943860085865596,0.0,0.04941574567688326,0.0,0.0,0.05625089547744349,0.10103576816592898,0.0,0.0,0.044665017401194815,0.0,0.0,0.030502752434652093,0.08209766550622123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14955378052966092,0.0,0.0,0.05251893017576575,0.0,0.03673673846521184,0.0,0.0,0.2331186293249207
divorce,aeburnside,2020/03/08,"A new mantra for recovery: ""This feeling of mine may be real but it may not be true"" If you're having a rough time please remember that this too shall pass, hang in there.",5.218,4.851928085714288,5.395,87.55250000000002,68.14285714285714,9.285714285714286,26.07142857142857,8.841846274778883,1.4655714285714283,133,3,30,2,2,42,31,35,0.083,0.8009999999999999,0.11599999999999999,0.0521,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,1,9,7,2,0,1,3,0,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,3,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,21,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193794603125611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4190376960755896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4762627747477274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4938429900913652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4914940571996292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529951065244033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,tildacowscomehome,2020/03/08,My ex-husband passed away and we had 2 teenagers. Looking for others who have been through this. Are there any support groups for the loss of an ex spouse and you had kids together? I'm heart broken for my kids and it would be great to hear how others have dealt with this situation including the financial challenges. I looked on FB for support groups but not finding anything for this specific situation.,5.418399999999997,7.546761973333332,4.8610000000000015,82.47550000000003,69.26666666666667,8.200000000000001,32.5,8.841846274778883,2.7846,328,15,59,6,6,99,56,75,0.049,0.8540000000000001,0.09699999999999999,0.4019,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,1,0,2,2,5,0,0,3,0,8,1,1,1,0,10,14,5,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,7,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,3,5,4,11,9,0,3,0,1,2,0,10,2,0,0,0,41,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15101452575833854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18274385422622666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208641122698832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20296703036510966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24483184137514474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502878870495803,0.26315281799350965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3729640379879327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4992296898682634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5040025080478021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577514364015517,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Equal_Raisin,2020/03/08,"What's the easiest way to file for divorce? Divorce isn't easy by any means, but the least time consuming and tedious way possible is how I'd like it to go.

We have no kids or any big property. Living in a rented house. I'm almost 100% certain that he will agree that we should just keep what's ours. I would only need to change car insurance.

Of course, it's so much easier to get married than divorced. I've done some research, but want to know what you guys think are the easiest ways to get it done. I know I'll likely be doing all of the paperwork, which is fine with me because he has a history of bad luck with the government. Want to make sure it's done right.

I definitely don't have money for a lawyer, but I don't think we'll need one because it'll be no fault.",3.489888455103181,4.0625679386503055,4.812403792526492,86.95282766313444,72.06748466257669,8.626659230340213,26.47462353597323,8.841846274778883,1.6919251533742328,606,19,136,11,11,202,103,163,0.08900000000000001,0.7170000000000001,0.19399999999999998,0.9473,1,0,0,0,3,0,17.0,4,1,0,0,3,8,0,0,8,0,20,0,0,2,3,30,35,7,0,6,5,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,1,2,11,5,0,1,5,0,2,2,5,2,0,1,3,0,10,6,17,25,4,9,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,4,3,79,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15660268900278232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21270206896060195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13057969667173053,0.19066863044591212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16544061711136948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4801259315761923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634153651854693,0.0,0.08888043517017052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15485137432563534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18045386294179094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13900723414674185,0.0,0.0,0.17189647041168254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15280918654024134,0.0,0.13809584761615626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10439200233915333,0.0,0.0,0.17035531278024266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11496515430406065,0.2319234352980637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059743813733456,0.11894216968034232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763070088456309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13355679778860755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14739637786429832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004176832965213,0.0,0.0,0.09119267107042564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18448656599945645,0.3724069594603667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11109546163066407,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,goldenmanateedreams,2020/03/08,"Coparenting with very different financial situations I grew up working poor and worked hard to “move up” to working class. My ex came from money. I put my career on hold to build his business and raise the kids and we split right as I was getting back into the workforce, a few years ago. We have 50/50 parenting time. He got a large inheritance just after I moved out. I get child support but and work hard building my own business now but money is tight. He works maybe half time and lives off his inheritance.

I was super lucky to buy a house in our nice neighborhood but the only was I could was to get a 1 br fixer. He lives in a 4 br house twice the size that’s completely redone. 

My kids are early elementary school and starting to notice how little I have and how much he has. They don’t want play dates here bc they are embarrassed by my house. I feel so ashamed even though I also feel super proud of myself objectively. I try so hard to just be proud of my sweet house and make it as nice as I can but it breaks my heart when my I can see how my kids feel. They ask me for some expensive thing and I’m like oh cool let’s put it on your birthday list! And they’re just like never mind we’ll ask dad (he buys them whatever they ask for). They are sweet and kind with me about it. But I don’t know how to manage these feelings or navigate this.  I’m so sad tonight.",1.9036504484914405,3.816053049469964,3.1235512367491185,92.0549599075836,78.57597173144876,6.473987496602337,20.778608317477573,7.468242284971852,0.4806320739331342,1075,28,240,15,26,347,165,283,0.067,0.7440000000000001,0.18899999999999997,0.9913,3,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,4,1,6,9,18,18,0,2,9,1,19,1,1,5,1,45,39,30,0,2,9,3,8,2,0,1,0,0,0,4,8,18,0,2,5,1,8,6,3,3,0,2,6,12,39,15,30,29,4,31,0,1,1,0,28,11,0,3,15,145,47,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08967166052513413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808970959683421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28371101135108834,0.0,0.0,0.07778529626482689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11569934770106025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606365425896,0.0,0.0,0.08076750988446806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056899904995358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668147968837417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2045968282458817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15855475615995815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08090637359873562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718567247155457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987431728925114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4668972337965897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10534189662308567,0.055594533435189435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10344228954137864,0.0,0.0988426977001871,0.10138824461736287,0.1786511194597617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06752465190833844,0.0,0.10162816421930168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10214210661645624,0.0,0.0,0.21503276052357945,0.07436376208925848,0.0,0.07802032730589804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11517059091195175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07693624439537483,0.0,0.0,0.1123254872190449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20338617510746465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08638953251771887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10237866324644747,0.08061090512487637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11370734826210115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160110887861516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11479443204326753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0672057774393416,0.0,0.0993885481555569,0.0,0.11797366144231085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0686805586485716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08346705834558735,0.0596664058152936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3682260594722905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06514330501908719
divorce,cupcakeeater3,2020/03/08,"Waves of depression roll in like the tides. I thought I was with my best friend, my partner in crime, my forever. I was dead wrong. After giving in to ever whim she had, spending thousands of dollars on her bills and shit she got herself into, she left. 3 kids and 8yrs of marriage went up in smoke in just two weeks. 

This all started in August of 2019. She was depressed for years and had no job. I begged her to get help and find a part time job doing what her degree was in; LPN. She didn't. Two years after she got her degree, still not a single job. Why? Her depression and her untreated, undiagnosed bipolar disorder. Believe me, I'm not making assumptions. If you knew the whole situation like adopting 4 dogs, 2 ferrets, 4 cats, spending 60k, you would agree. Anyways, she asked for a separation and to rent an apartment for 3 months. I agreed. I just wanted her happy. 

2 weeks later, she decided after school away 21k from my savings, she wanted a divorce. Tinder profile was up way before this. She had this planned.

But after all this, I'm still so fucking sad and depressed. I want to therapy, was put on Prozac. That didn't help. Than a combo of other prescriptions that didn't do shit. 

I have no true close friends anymore because of how isolated she kept us for years. I have no money left. All I have is three beautiful kids. But...

I was feeling better until my daughter asked me about Mommy's new boyfriend Patrick. Remind you that out divorce was finalized right before December. She already had a new boyfriend. Apparently it was seriously. That was in January. Anyways, I had to hear about Patrick from everyone, including my daughter (4). This made me feel like shit. No fuck that, lower than shit. 

I can't get a hold of myself when I'm alone. I keep it all glued and smooth at the surface in front of everyone. My business partners, my followers, my family, my not so close friends don't know how empty I feel. How I cry every night. How I can't date.  I'm just so lonely after this divorce. Searching for happiness. I'm not going to do anything irrational or stupid like hurt myself or others. I just want to know, does it get better? Some tips? Tricks? 

If nothing, thanks for letting me vent.",2.2761099959855486,4.882640264150943,3.3462224006423162,87.13972501003614,81.5,6.061340826977117,25.29486150140506,7.378060373470096,1.4241121637896428,1728,69,325,26,47,554,216,424,0.18100000000000002,0.69,0.129,-0.98,7,3,1,0,3,2,77.0,1,3,0,4,19,32,8,0,11,0,30,8,4,6,6,58,66,23,1,7,14,2,4,4,5,1,2,1,1,4,17,13,0,3,9,0,6,5,14,17,0,4,25,5,58,15,51,39,9,55,0,7,0,2,43,24,6,5,29,219,75,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08584895265089795,0.0914710813267077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08220452153911226,0.0,0.0,0.06821133657300621,0.0,0.15498176061500935,0.0,0.07787780280567949,0.0,0.0,0.0505289222398112,0.0,0.14106642342751508,0.09338854821113096,0.08698785087918995,0.14661878597436628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09105067835773553,0.0,0.0,0.2855718459967556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09499902273031352,0.0,0.07253752235793627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07497867278245009,0.06983832758777597,0.1584097300607264,0.0,0.0,0.07814123393944834,0.0,0.1257348932991309,0.05921657114930974,0.0,0.09080184919914733,0.07575987975124547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19212162590003687,0.15326077971149468,0.12991967678588776,0.07951555855387339,0.04710824834532095,0.0,0.1325892727842443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17647570964543505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934229573737168,0.0,0.1111187242674946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08873536734522244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467663486707037,0.07367636415644623,0.0,0.0,0.09110825799101588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18012026826486036,0.08476055306502435,0.0,0.16198330026629087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07843244085487815,0.055329661269577286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06616193856740726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16011119099090104,0.0,0.07778656920575795,0.0,0.07953510807062196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08976169933753429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833272579537823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07078753368371324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08388901828546201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3403412223903996,0.0,0.09317173632741096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05866990778653217,0.0,0.13239198484439355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.076313896232927,0.0947918406274904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06580533285112007,0.04833377545726225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16194280327464652,0.0,0.09970636061904972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19556247560755868,0.06579415555364218,0.13297857839383853,0.0,0.0,0.07683978074962974,0.07479525471586082,0.09254362885140158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058882616703162076,0.09062710872136398,0.0,0.16013516095927136
divorce,Muggtrox,2020/03/08,"Posting cuz I need to outlet Maybe putting it down in words will help, I know it was ridiculously hard to even get them on paper. I have a long track record of issues. Starting with early childhood sexual trauma, abandonment, growing up in a family that doesn't talk about uncomfortable issues, Mormonism, Combat trauma (11B. Right in the thick shit. Real fun...), PTSD, TBI, all the body fallout from years or army service. However, I know that none of these issues excuse any of my behaviors!!! I have identified that these behaviors, these Script that I've been building and running my entire life have been so to protect my psyche from more perceived pain. I'm wrapped in pain cloaked in toxic shame. I don't even know who I am anymore. My false Identity, or fake self that I present to the world is wasting away and can no longer be maintained. I'm not sure if I got to my breaking point or just gathered enough knowledge to formulate rational thought. My mind, I feel, is so shattered. So with broken words and a shaky frame I was able communicate to my wife that I wanted a divorce. Lord's of Kobald I can't hurt her anymore! This is what I need, the pain of this lie to end (not talkin about suicide, already walked that path). I need to find the real me... If he didn't die when being assaulted as a child, or told I didn't matter in life, or when the IED's (improvised explosive device) blew up in my face... To do this I'm going to have to subject myself to more pain. Not sure I can handle that. I've seen the recon reports, I know whats coming. 

I've have to soldier-up, knuckel-down, suck-it-up and drive-on through so many storms in my life to the point that I've weaponized it. Now, it feels like another super-storm is on the horizon and I have take my armor off for this one!",2.916749520241247,4.88708840226629,3.6594663255048903,89.10769167504343,75.74220963172804,6.481184318742575,25.268116604221877,7.359569317364363,1.1488659234213658,1398,49,282,17,31,443,196,353,0.18600000000000005,0.762,0.053,-0.9933,1,0,0,0,1,1,64.0,0,0,1,0,12,19,4,2,14,0,26,10,3,1,3,45,48,20,2,6,11,1,4,1,0,1,7,0,0,2,23,8,0,2,10,0,0,6,10,15,0,1,10,5,33,4,44,35,5,38,2,2,1,0,13,20,1,8,11,173,56,4,0.10394343563717036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11470416594288226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07068510060556175,0.10899375526068199,0.0,0.0,0.20616791543546412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09765827938978884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11545772462269015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08953806602063795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10787687563929216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09206303192830563,0.10740135484496906,0.0,0.13730731784892408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09798862038985223,0.0,0.10511384841789027,0.07425721118807498,0.0,0.0,0.09500241707826372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054306155013325565,0.0,0.059073449850018174,0.0,0.08313306089259845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09311290175946048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06967109387400762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112735976588608,0.0,0.0,0.3254698243584425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284983754820241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22025496768937206,0.050781512266585935,0.0,0.0,0.09198666962972944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10538232916875773,0.10442515204485983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10495323905083344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312182213874136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07043476206500464,0.0,0.4424125763002597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19652028832929555,0.0,0.09954907872096116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12150431387630314,0.10449186218492053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366207717383524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887671260968601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10843567259054744,0.0,0.1066964429742488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07357169873791634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11369724788478792,0.0,0.19593091593600148,0.0,0.07815252767897819,0.08354579625779443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08251947730148425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09932240714939154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06130853142035785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06693616463093488
divorce,Chemical-Feeling,2020/03/08,"Not sure if I'm in shock or if I really just can't feel anymore Josh (M34) and I (F30) were together 8 years, married 2.5 of them. We lived in this dreamy little apartment by the ocean, in a beautiful town I could never afford to live in myself. When he dumped me, I had to pack my shit and move thousands of miles across the country to live with my parents. So I not only lost my dream guy and best friend, I lost all my other friends, my home, and loads of valuable resources in the form of doctors and proper healthcare.

And that's important to me, because I've got schizoaffective disorder. He knew about my disease before we married, I never tried to hide any details of my life from him, but he underestimated the sheer amount of work that goes along with it. I didn't blame him for leaving me. He really tried hard to do right by me and he was a good husband, for the most part. Better than I could've ever hoped for.

When he first asked for the divorce (prompted by yet another one of my hospital stays), I cried and begged him to let me stay. I begged for another chance. He refused, and I respected that. After that first conversation, I didn't cry, and I stopped feeling altogether. Even watching him crying while he helped pack my things didn't reach me.

It's really weird... like my emotions are blank. I feel like sometime soon, the other foot's gonna fall, and the grief will destroy me. But right now, I sit here, making these clinical plans for this empty future I have now, not feeling any particular way about anything. I've texted Josh occasionally over the last few days, but I haven't felt any strong need to talk to him anymore.

Am I over it already? That fast? I don't think so. Sometimes, I'll feel like I'm brushing up against something huge and awful inside, and I just quickly distract myself and the feeling goes away. I really haven't let myself think to deeply about my situation, and the fact that everything is gone - the love of my life, the friendships I made in our beach town, hell even my therapist, psychiatrist and insurance. All gone. All I have are my dogs and whatever I could fit in my truck.

And of course, I will sometimes think about how Josh will soon move on from me. He is a very handsome, fit guy with a great career and sense of humor. He won't be single for long. It hurts a little to think about but not as much as it should. I guess it really was time to break it off...

Has anyone else gone through this? Just feeling blank and indifferent about everything? Should I be worried - is something wrong with me?",4.410964444444447,5.658874052000005,4.7654666666666685,85.6341777777778,70.48,7.795555555555558,27.288888888888888,8.167268648758528,1.613562222222222,2006,67,406,28,36,633,249,500,0.121,0.708,0.172,0.9759,3,0,2,0,1,0,75.0,3,0,1,9,24,29,4,1,18,1,33,7,2,3,8,75,62,35,1,8,14,2,9,3,2,7,4,0,1,2,20,27,0,2,13,2,0,6,14,12,0,4,16,11,64,17,65,33,11,59,1,4,1,1,32,25,2,6,26,266,84,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08478458072290213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15674251851976248,0.16112736211853282,0.0,0.0,0.15239080573075953,0.05372180725308776,0.0787221248565247,0.0632251142985285,0.0,0.07182632698146603,0.0,0.07218496559494035,0.0,0.0,0.04683527760190208,0.0,0.06537726126611937,0.0,0.08062907268403566,0.06795050476411042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18402917081478667,0.0,0.2531847271442203,0.04954944122156993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0880546309768325,0.07863947032703304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06418218566656883,0.08642418898693575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10149189681396817,0.0694977608531187,0.0,0.0,0.13810094637722165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.271935349737146,0.10977572548442584,0.07376951436027478,0.0,0.0,0.1307042971754533,0.0,0.0,0.1187184063238344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06444194044659894,0.061448524158226776,0.08470611074942061,0.08463767078877803,0.1521489316122095,0.0,0.0,0.06882521023255403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051497994288674236,0.0,0.07706744990819503,0.07631021438238354,0.0,0.0,0.08224884637348992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06262726960643364,0.0,0.08135261087240621,0.0,0.15712917895420367,0.10853558185485453,0.11260678783387908,0.1540090779406183,0.2035287297227653,0.06799274596997916,0.0,0.0,0.1677395555598256,0.0,0.06934270049658098,0.07269905981764138,0.05128508446867568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633177361943937,0.05647939992838635,0.056968985664649835,0.11851313447978246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052062466266242516,0.05843320448175807,0.0,0.0,0.08531139276117472,0.08320015389482402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460985478873833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312259847972206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07886560272537399,0.0,0.08636091850198589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182960428302759,0.2279625610919946,0.0,0.0,0.1637825931075713,0.0,0.06423389996325722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07241201930956934,0.0,0.0,0.06175360108895552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08920635680443391,0.0510428987836668,0.19692002426556293,0.0,0.0,0.04480059519863089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10432599508781387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06339336844588349,0.0,0.060984628275124526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05593365987058725,0.07802529863491887,0.0,0.0,0.08400230218800532,0.0,0.049476447579584415
divorce,hegotadog,2020/03/08,Divorce after 28 years of marriage Is there a reddit for people that have been divorced after a very long marriage?,10.152857142857146,9.109610952380958,8.895238095238096,68.6914285714286,58.523809523809526,8.4,40.04761904761904,3.1291,3.0823904761904752,94,4,13,0,1,29,18,21,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,4,11,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5761521389581271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4513509062356688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5371782578391959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4192500346083014
divorce,tmonstar1,2020/03/08,"Contemplating couples therapy I dont know how to bring this up to my significant other, I really dont want to cause her pain.  i do love her, but Im not in love any more.  We’ve been married 11 years.  6 or 7 years ago she pressured me to get a vasectomy and now Im suffering from chronic pain, you know where. I didnt want to vasectomy, but it was really important to her.  Since the pain has began,  we cannot make love comfortably, or passionately.  

She doesnt deserve it, it’s not her fault, but I resent her for this.  I do probably need to seek therapy.   I just dont know how to tell her this, i just sit quietly and say ‘Im fine’ when she asks , “whats wrong”.   Im not sure what to think. Im extremely depressed, I have nothing to offer her other than financial support.  I plan on raising my children and supporting her in any way necessary.  Im just not in love. I dont know what to do.  I wish I felt different.",1.148802083333333,2.9542179427083326,3.934583333333333,85.85208333333334,80.51041666666666,8.225,24.729166666666664,8.998388855275968,1.9562791666666668,703,27,158,19,18,250,102,192,0.171,0.633,0.196,0.8554,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,1,0,1,8,19,1,1,2,0,14,9,0,4,1,31,35,11,0,4,12,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,11,4,0,0,6,0,0,1,11,9,0,0,5,3,29,10,19,30,1,15,0,2,0,5,22,6,0,2,6,96,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07911672946336977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12138917352545303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834388003203145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09168664063210652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09875591079262837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07687282729487611,0.0,0.0,0.0932495989967103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4184118627510906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569615121794869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046630613933751903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5784464381017413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962027974357094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.322214540743456,0.0,0.05957656617324291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06617940829064176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856399356211283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28491204228827954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962290150555392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11435454635787427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07097696704727217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07383037885163551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20256477845244625,0.0841191840635395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780103955329062,0.0,0.20413543969886375,0.0,0.0,0.0571892343458046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10528657235285777,0.0708442772323545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263567629504948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09758331816856376,0.0,0.11495103825138382
divorce,milliesasha,2020/03/08,"Life after 4 months from divorce Life is good and bad like always.
I m more chill but I also drink more.
I got so used being alone, living alone...I had sex as you can imagine, but I don't want relationships.

I think I m becoming a prick as a woman. I have shared custody with my ex, our relationship is good, we talk mainly about the kiddo.
I still care about him a lot.

I had this guy that I really liked and made me feel really good, but I can't have relationships, I m so scared of doing that again. I m scared of the thought of being with someone else all the way. I like to leave doors open, or at least cracked..you never know.

Am I becoming a cold emotionally unavailable person or I just need more time?",1.4951761252446192,3.4719102397260286,3.348375733855189,89.63082191780823,80.16438356164383,6.637181996086106,19.33268101761252,7.7094869923839395,0.5062598825831706,549,13,121,9,14,184,94,146,0.141,0.6829999999999999,0.175,0.7259,0,2,1,0,1,0,22.0,2,1,0,0,8,12,1,2,7,0,13,5,1,2,2,24,23,12,0,2,6,1,1,3,0,0,2,0,1,3,3,6,1,0,5,1,0,0,3,4,0,0,5,2,22,8,13,16,7,9,0,0,0,1,14,2,1,3,9,79,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439153695159187,0.0,0.11112218311164558,0.1156216080209013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11602153712512375,0.0,0.3069295392411491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14167378113408888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13612290105329344,0.0,0.0,0.11607898842173832,0.15630555937888724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07025977243144141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3496463316707273,0.11113492708633453,0.0,0.0,0.1375871971916416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07636597890744075,0.0,0.0,0.14713317531121498,0.0,0.0,0.19629591012882394,0.2036590353760195,0.0,0.12269972223401528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11813448667683228,0.0,0.13148248591413844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11091247525799997,0.0,0.0,0.10303329745919806,0.10717058497018632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12133005870453947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17803613382213665,0.0,0.0,0.4475566796738361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782361910174324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11773603561615775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11096956242032567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11168668488551224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903668899451764,0.0,0.11031466897328436,0.08102571947869397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12001241870363505,0.0,0.0,0.08195920005849736,0.1102959315880624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,nothappyhusband,2020/03/08,"Young dad thinking of divorce I'm 25, and I've been in a relatipnship with her basically since graduating highschool. We've been married for four years. We have two kids under the age of 2. Her ego is too big for her to ever hear me out when needed. I'm not the best husband either. We are seriously thinking about divorce. We just moved to a town where neither of us have family, but she has friends out here. We just signed a 12-month lease. We make enough to get by but but not much to save, and we have no savings. How do we do this without fucking our children up and without going into debt?",1.593634615384616,3.97432499166667,3.153333333333337,88.89576923076925,82.41666666666666,5.35897435897436,25.06410256410256,6.67199483983844,0.9394679487179484,469,19,95,5,13,154,84,120,0.079,0.866,0.055,-0.2408,1,0,0,0,2,0,14.0,9,0,0,1,9,6,1,0,5,0,10,1,0,2,1,33,20,8,0,1,10,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,14,0,0,2,0,1,2,6,2,0,2,2,1,14,4,20,18,5,16,0,0,0,1,21,9,1,0,5,74,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23853613320640835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23486048601279186,0.0,0.0,0.20560483444191932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21427713869814072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756105375035628,0.210134135945902,0.1187542743601907,0.0,0.12917918179202045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561823378713301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15172375587477266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814277836709354,0.24158271935296835,0.16709081744658427,0.16853922661853332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18802396808929375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29128786661910794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22203796106762716,0.0,0.2734125452896039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4382159849797188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14637301531015096
divorce,canteatsandwiches,2020/03/09,"Happy Sock Day To Meeeeee....! Got my divorce decree finally!!!! In the past, I never understood why people celebrated their divorce but NOW I GET IT!! Woo hoo!!",1.0890476190476193,3.0584260000000008,3.5085714285714285,78.21976190476191,110.42857142857143,6.152380952380952,26.095238095238088,7.1686216300943375,2.538838095238096,120,6,19,3,6,41,26,28,0.0,0.6970000000000001,0.303,0.8755,0,0,0,0,2,0,14.0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,1,2,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,5,11,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25368539671266965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4309079072499795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20551496299602656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3146068420586301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4187402536097445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3033843651407073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3755077228558789,0.27270708930983845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3549472501507536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,fastnfurious76,2020/03/09,"Did something wrong and now I’m silently paying for it. It never pays to be snoopy.

Recently I had a few minutes alone at the ex-wife’s house and my curiosity simply got the better of me. I saw fresh flowers on the kitchen table which was the first sign. Then, while upstairs getting kiddo stuff for an overnight, I walked into her bedroom and looked around. Nothing was unusual except that the bedside table drawer was wide open and a box of condoms was visible. Immediately my chest got tight and I became hot and flushed. I walked out of there awfully fast and wished that I could unsee what I just saw. Guess I still have feelings for her after our messy divorce last year, but that was not the way I wanted to find out. 

Moral of the story: don’t snoop around your ex’s bedroom lest you find out in the worst possible way that she’s moved on.",5.936987951807227,6.219600048192773,5.882795180722892,82.45226506024099,66.59036144578313,8.326746987951807,30.455421686746988,7.908726449838941,1.932989879518072,672,23,131,7,10,211,113,166,0.07,0.9079999999999999,0.023,-0.81,1,1,1,0,1,0,15.0,1,2,0,2,6,3,0,0,11,1,11,3,1,0,1,28,22,10,0,3,4,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,9,14,1,1,3,0,2,3,3,2,0,1,11,6,18,1,21,9,2,28,1,0,3,1,8,12,0,1,11,89,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892130824349672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32526796662784363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16157560215029831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14586413150200406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923742068526036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3339530636076007,0.15539712025001526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544866013518898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2922298318924821,0.0,0.2012550557169442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21080122318319827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489177870395039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15341467389738006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941719319013082,0.0,0.0,0.14090278749779067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17529722256527966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20595698265776946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18038561150793414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14064468261606394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14589750234902338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209137821642474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10775605780769014,0.2900236891446837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100859705246267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997442492172188,0.0,0.11764720273500205
divorce,CountingBadger,2020/03/09,"Rambling uncertainty Forgive the ramble. I’m not sure what I’m hoping to get here. Maybe nothing, maybe my own thoughts straight and lack of people in my life I feel comfortable venting to. 

I (36M) have been with my wife (30F) for 12 years, we have been married for less than 1 year.

We’ve had our ups and downs over those 12 years, including two separations, 2 children and a heap of other milestones. During the second separation I took advantage or my new found single status, but we still ended back together and it was different/better than it had ever been. Although the relationship in itself was far batter emotionally and physically, the physical has died down for some reason. Probably to the point where we are best friends, but that’s it. I don’t think neither 

Anyway, we’re looking at a third (and, absolutely as far as I am concerned, final) time. I’ll likely be gone by the end of March. Out of the house and into an apartment not too far away. We’ve discussed it calmly and rationally, which I will admit can be rare for me and mutually agreed separation and divorce is the way forward.  We’ve continued to agree it’s mutual, although by now it’s probably 70:30.

I do think she’s wonderful, and I regret so much about how I haven’t treated her well and what I might have done differently if I had my time over. Some of the things I once loved about her now get on my nerves and I resent.  She has repeatedly over the years put me down, and while I laugh the majority off the percentage I take as a joke has decreased. 

We’ve amicably agreed custody, finances, even what happens with the dog as I can’t have him in the apartment block in moving into. I’m sure it will all turn to shit at some point lol

On the one hand 

I feel like I’ve taken her youth away, and I suspect she does in a way. 

I’m not sure whether my new found reluctance is fear of the unknown, of somehow being humiliated by her inevitable new relationship and jealousy at the new guy’s proximity and relationship with my kids or because of missing her, and what should have been the rest of our lives together.

I guess I don’t know how I feel... apprehension, anxiety, excitement, sick, worries, guilt, relief, heartache, numbness, all at the same time. What a fecking roller coaster.",6.2665234993839105,6.523369935926777,6.81534324942792,76.13629070586167,65.88787185354691,9.926738250308043,33.28366484773807,9.757249324022393,3.0628205245555358,1790,72,342,35,26,587,234,437,0.14300000000000002,0.7070000000000001,0.15,0.7378,2,0,0,0,1,0,60.0,5,0,0,2,17,27,2,3,25,1,35,6,2,3,6,70,63,34,1,5,9,1,4,2,1,4,3,0,0,3,18,27,0,1,14,2,1,5,8,8,1,4,16,5,45,19,56,40,15,64,0,2,1,1,27,34,1,11,27,242,63,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07167060372397069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17604479053219793,0.07203982677524406,0.0,0.05711096879377134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983191450912137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09723272872434444,0.09788339150295958,0.0,0.0,0.08198647412466696,0.09587473664371096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10538571378211352,0.1659584550623594,0.0,0.0,0.061879643385820325,0.08474561600886621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054243704085846,0.14211349162395406,0.06693029649300128,0.0,0.1026299660898647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20544679438015204,0.0723826519876485,0.0,0.09789559823976987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10320723229788403,0.09276525442178284,0.08284745743891052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09305272639317748,0.0,0.1081026796183721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051488144297684696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06617418050784303,0.09154186153738553,0.0,0.08272768966044453,0.0,0.07867381930071915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08455653530652364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882431692724708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09938752493485102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09957487830592683,0.06887101800096955,0.0,0.0,0.3619354946387664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08989558600661526,0.0,0.0,0.09977402220140054,0.0634850061428353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06495104605285879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771297488058927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20202172354559572,0.0,0.0,0.0941817125266034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963262496823211,0.0,0.3017556146614632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09616876864562196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07481887778160792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26489779415216896,0.0,0.07044126443131911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06224174487351036,0.1200622045660996,0.0,0.07437732974171779,0.1638896271361578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10409014738313972,0.0,0.10190498698816793,0.09151897541273134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487293929129582,0.0,0.0,0.08423622301439955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159998766898604,0.0,0.09514410127639704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24132645291544536
divorce,Throwawayyy1105,2020/03/09,"Biggest mistake I’ve made Fair warning, I’m just getting all my thoughts out here so it might not make sense and ramble. 
I (27f) got married in September 2017 and divorced in June 2019. I can honestly say the downfall of the marriage is all on me. I’m not sure what happened after marriage but it’s like this crazy angst set on and I felt trapped. My ex even gave me the space I needed...we even tried an open relationship and I blew that too. I feel like I was having this internal battle with myself and I got so lost and caught up in it I did things that weren’t me. We were together for 7 years total. The divorce was amicable and we do talk every now and then. I miss him every single day. I regret my decision to leave him every single day. I have to live with my past decisions now and I’m just trying to navigate how to do that. Some days it feels like I’m completely drowning and some days I’m feel like I’m doing well. I will say through this process I have had a lot of self growth. I’ve learned a lot about myself, things that are really hard to accept. 
Again, this is just thoughts thrown down. Does anyone share my experience?",1.5162267525035773,3.7372729313304736,2.882945278969956,91.68490432761088,81.4892703862661,5.943419170243205,22.154685264663804,7.1686216300943375,0.6785337625178829,895,29,191,12,24,290,137,233,0.121,0.758,0.121,0.2175,1,1,0,0,2,0,24.0,2,0,0,1,15,14,1,0,7,0,18,0,0,3,4,46,40,15,1,2,6,1,5,4,0,2,0,2,0,1,15,16,0,0,10,0,0,2,3,5,1,0,15,7,28,9,21,23,9,26,0,3,0,0,16,11,0,5,16,126,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921462801885282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13817278167067013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33995853285262395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11532487030751015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740838821119067,0.0,0.3331005447833226,0.0,0.0,0.12890982008961607,0.0,0.0,0.1999015101632352,0.2824390673623175,0.1265330912563972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06885158369849241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107990484229311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11653595774738572,0.0,0.11805237817569444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13953999053310295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25753158486738176,0.0,0.11636748845210165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14385755874237166,0.2240757071632593,0.0,0.12469699509250814,0.08796669368697208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13980176054244586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12580252567858866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08442406131568607,0.0,0.0,0.14148645654436526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20959949591327195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13747921916840564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12420464912660167,0.0,0.0,0.105922807134647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17510256982965178,0.0,0.0,0.20924319524314866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17894506655407008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11848944106997955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08486443093627256
divorce,HungryStand,2020/03/09,"I need advice I finally admitted to my wife that I was suffering from depression and had thoughts of suicide as an escape from a life I was miserable in for years. She was caught completely off guard because I was very good at putting up a happy front. We have twin 7 month old boys that I will admit I was not as invested in as I could have been because of my mental state. I was  irritable and easily frustrated at the time, but since then I have come clean about what's going on and started seeing a therapist and I have been a lot better with it. She would get very angry if I showed any sign of frustration around the kids...fast forward to after bringing up how I am unhappy and want to get a divorce...she is now claiming she does not trust me alone with the kids. She claims it's because of my prior lack of interest , irritability, and her not understanding my mental health issues. She says that if I want to see they kids she will have to be there as well for now until she trusts me again...this hurts me and makes me feel like a bad father. I love my kids and want to be their father and be a major part of their life. I am not sure how to approach this in an amicable manner while also getting her to trust me alone with the kids. I feel like she is using the kids as a means to continue spending time with me, but that's not good for my mental health at the moment.",6.724966954753434,5.344736964412808,7.187323335027963,79.2824288256228,65.47686832740214,10.590849008642603,31.10345704117946,9.606745405546679,2.4864232841891205,1081,31,229,18,14,356,144,281,0.16,0.672,0.16899999999999998,-0.3144,1,2,0,0,1,1,23.0,1,0,3,1,9,20,2,1,16,0,25,5,0,4,1,47,49,24,1,9,9,3,2,2,0,3,4,1,1,6,8,16,0,1,7,1,2,8,5,7,1,0,11,5,43,13,43,31,4,36,0,4,2,1,27,12,0,3,19,165,51,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11467004144153235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24307201568411466,0.0,0.09384228080371664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07979992217878253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044636280803648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09797976750722842,0.2146007598215293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10378380499547724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101083971576372,0.12303600156342698,0.0,0.0,0.09369195830418067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10107072084987588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10269107093230613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11866824623292653,0.1676653106031102,0.0,0.12854780303747182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18392675005478995,0.0,0.06669095269693573,0.19685003971809828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12491796678416367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494685539495265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12562229320830262,0.0,0.0,0.12247968540677212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16577118450258127,0.11465954472095899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09976414574389696,0.10591016698374864,0.0,0.07832997303185367,0.0,0.0,0.12782518542519253,0.0,0.0,0.3547742522281351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09366518328153436,0.0,0.0,0.08701124619361111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12313584121607382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270752671726258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11796605507012076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09331897206913113,0.0,0.0,0.1870205871798105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09707057582948574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08305874623576052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283584723713886,0.0,0.11059807307454167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13624880596675484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09316033804122674,0.13685185273948985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12216227082464208,0.0,0.10135005253275532,0.0,0.19364697912498705,0.2076427420061582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550896406994864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335987737086864,0.0,0.0,0.07556756208499317
divorce,wanderingaboutppl222,2020/03/09,"First steps in divorce Tomorrow I will file a divorce requested by my husband. I have been blamed for all the problems in the relationship and been mentally abused. Does anyone have any book recommendations or groups to join to help me get through this. I am 28, was married for two years, no kids. I am very broken now but hopeful it will be better in the end. If you have a similar story feel free to reach out to me and let me know how you got through it. Any advice is welcomed, as I’m feeling very lost, scared, and anxious.",3.1424893162393173,5.101625278846157,4.0070512820512825,86.9157264957265,75.05769230769229,6.92991452991453,27.901709401709404,7.793537801064563,1.6523773504273511,415,17,84,6,9,133,76,104,0.162,0.657,0.18,0.4933,0,0,0,0,3,0,12.0,0,2,0,3,2,7,0,1,5,0,13,0,0,1,1,14,21,8,0,3,3,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,3,1,1,1,1,3,0,2,5,2,10,5,14,12,1,10,0,1,0,0,11,4,0,3,5,57,13,1,0.0,0.24642215798831826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20323553934568228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2828669113548305,0.0,0.0,0.2349580741576352,0.0,0.1454243733632923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18394130950373416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18200460141591845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842084489405955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21032176079444487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769075863651007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10866090735228688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16634051564405694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394045348030694,0.0,0.0,0.206570956473896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11430030722257828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2126735264029145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22703461594846785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20959480956877968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19900866438233888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22329256525884772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082241501302474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031661297772033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3432103777968504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13393222889182105
divorce,madhattertorn,2020/03/09,"Letting Go I think I'm officially done. There was no infidelity, abuse, money problems. Just a profound sense of loneliness and being forgotten. My family will think I'm nuts because he is a ""good guy."" They dont know how hurtful or dismissive he can be. I don't talk to them about it. He'd hate to change drastically.  He's made very clear he has no plans to do so. That's ok. 

I moved into the guest room. It's small. But delicate and feminine. It feels like when you move into a new apartment and the possibilities seem endless. It's the first time I've had my own room in 15 years. 

I love him, but i cant do thus any more.",0.24065384615384744,2.5392814307692326,2.646442307692311,90.56043269230771,88.53846153846153,6.3269230769230775,20.43269230769231,7.645422480735847,0.8264999999999998,486,16,109,10,16,166,94,130,0.121,0.774,0.105,-0.2562,0,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,0,1,2,2,6,7,1,0,6,1,16,1,0,3,1,19,27,9,0,1,4,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,2,1,5,5,0,0,5,0,1,3,5,3,0,1,4,1,12,4,8,18,2,15,0,1,0,1,13,7,0,2,6,62,17,0,0.0,0.22483684607984414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12904461337519388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156771056290379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20074295070110107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19419232893664906,0.22239955793499036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17889065057625705,0.0,0.09594932887736522,0.13556595415429418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16141139291464385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10784607267057757,0.15916329599546675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18789413594439805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18735061028382724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20314406099359408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10428818898298907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940444208080368,0.0,0.0927080892707059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17126754234547276,0.1795573177368231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4033737812218493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832732456150912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21392805347874166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18157653032325288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17275212576064244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525234439061052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431835532294904,0.0,0.0,0.11065170205856376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15657345815747162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12220045542295893
divorce,conjob8632,2020/03/09,"Confused This is more of a rant and maybe looking for some insight. I've been separated from my wife for 2 months now. Back before Thanksgiving she told me she didn't love me anymore and wanted to separate. That was a pretty rough time for me. Overall I'm doing pretty good, I'm happier and healthier than I was then. For the past two weeks she has been in contact with me. Mostly small talk, but she also wanted to go get breakfast last Sunday which we did. But nothing big came from it just mostly catching up and seeing how each other was doing. I told her I wanted to know her intentions, because its confusing going from no contact to where we are now. She said that she didn't know and just wanted to be friends for now. I'm not going to push it, but it's been driving me crazy. She has been kind and reaching out to me more and more. I honestly don't want to get my hopes up. It's bitter sweet talking to her, one I want to be with her again, but I don't know if that will ever happen. I don't know if I can do this whole friends thing either it just brings back to many memories. But I feel like I have to go with it, If I want any hope of getting being with her. Haha I don't know what I really want from this post.",2.853624820806882,3.8839401089494174,4.194212574237149,89.08399959041573,73.9805447470817,6.9669465492525084,23.64304730698341,7.273561745256523,0.7923976653696498,956,26,209,10,19,316,132,257,0.08900000000000001,0.74,0.171,0.9809,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,2,0,0,0,14,14,1,2,3,1,27,2,0,2,1,54,62,18,0,13,13,1,2,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,17,16,1,0,7,0,0,9,8,3,0,2,14,7,35,11,32,44,9,31,0,0,2,1,25,7,0,10,15,156,52,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899501942048549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764902391122351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11154990948466507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17298031336109887,0.0,0.06856674787075816,0.0,0.09571217294402536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12864712472692588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101744575670125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05687325426865865,0.0803557155740495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17380349708216494,0.0,0.1762984312103476,0.0,0.2556998442671514,0.09434286523210264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09946566913371437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223435986608005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11713058356090325,0.30908025927040417,0.09168619094005193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05495203349044152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09445484897132972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151756763439083,0.0,0.0,0.1140370387431874,0.11300125176046436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08978044176089188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10792756821666608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07621934107768218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10737486212158248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077247223182122,0.2288651407483583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07205755126630707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10699421249464956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08963197608291555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808142841372132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07472669642829605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655879771132107,0.0,0.0,0.2149588698884006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10987659017262633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5307488212127309,0.0,0.0902246500891946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255798735699054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,daysofthunderlight,2020/03/09,"Annulment vs Divorce Just discovered my wife (married in Cali) had up until earlier this year a lien against her for unpaid rent and eviction in NYC, i knew about eviction, not lien- she said she has paid it off). She has a history of work theft and arrest (which i knew going in). Am I in a position for an annulment after year and a half of marriage, or must I go traditional divorce route. If so, for either option, better in Cali, or should I move back to New York and be a resident for six months? No assets at this time. No kids. Only dog which was mine prior to relationship. Love that dog to death and no way she would ever get it.",2.1824540682414693,4.274778944881891,3.868208661417324,86.17953083989502,78.44881889763779,7.067979002624672,23.181758530183732,8.07648339933343,1.3250057742782158,494,16,100,9,12,165,88,127,0.14,0.794,0.065,-0.8442,5,0,0,0,2,0,20.0,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,6,0,9,1,0,0,2,19,17,10,1,4,7,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,1,1,7,5,0,0,2,0,2,3,4,0,0,2,6,1,12,2,21,7,1,22,0,0,0,1,13,8,0,4,10,74,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087371418699686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400856420576573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24555247372942696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14182743277529947,0.0,0.3085556594957842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450046078175212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21667798427293464,0.2885206201907707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621792141723729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20645870791086424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2914480659157398,0.0,0.0,0.2582220563578167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15829138724087166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154735080469055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976272095296828,0.0,0.0,0.19283846532033336,0.0,0.0,0.34962461942300355
divorce,wordsofencouragment,2020/03/09,"Seeking experiences and information Long time lurker first time poster, be prepared for along jumbled mess of a rant here. Im.just trying to get all this out to someone besides my lawyers and family to see what my odds actually are.

Wife and I have been married nearly 12yrs. We have 4 kids under the age of 10. I've been a stay at home dad since the eldest was born so nearly 10 yrs. Our marriage has always been sort of off. Shes threatened divorce many times the last 5 yrs to control me. I moved down to the basement and after a few months came to a conclusion she would never change and I filed last January. We've been in the same house since. I have filed a motion for temp orders the court date will be set sometime this week. I knew this was going to be rough because we didnt agree on anything. She wants it all split down the middle and we be on our happy ways. She is away from home 10+ hrs a day and makes over 120k a year. Her idea is 50/50, we sell the house and use the equity to pay off our debt. She wants to shove the kids in daycare 11 to 12hrs a day and we alternate weeks. She doesnt want to pay child support, hence the 50/50. She refuses to pay spousal support. Even though I gave up 10yrs of my career prospects while providing a stable home for her to come back to and raising our kids with everything that entails. She also refuses me any access to her 401k which has over 150k. I dont see that as totally fair..... My plan is keep everything stays quo. The kids and I stay in the house for now. Our state uses calculators for support and a random formula and judge ideas for spousal. In my state it's common to get upwards of 40% of her earnings after CS. My spousal support would pay the mortgage and car payment with a bit left over for my basic needs. The child support is set automatically at 2200 a month. Prior to my filing I researched and talked with quite a few lawyers and legal counsel. They all pretty much told me the same thing. Shes screwed. I dont know if they all were blowing smoke or if I do have a good chance of getting my plan. My lawyer now doesnt say much he isnt the super comforting type. He just kinda grins and says dont worry the law is in your side here. He only edge she may have is I used to drink 5yrs ago. No legal issues, no DUI, no nothing like that. I stayed up late and drank beer. I have been totally sober now for 3yrs. She thinks because I drank she will get her plan. What I'm looking for here is what's the odds? What's the possibilities of things going one way or another from a group that doesnt want to line there pocket with my money. Her job doesn't allow her much time with the kids, as I said she is gone nearly 12hrs a day. Shes only stepped up her mommy game since I filed. She doesn't cook, clean, help much with any if the kids stuff like homework, playdate, reading, bathing mostly the kids general care. She does laundry once a week. I haven't worked for 4yrs as per her request. The last job I had in was making 12.00hr, working 6hrs a week. Childcare in our area for 4 kids will cost 2500 to 3000 a month. I cant afford any of that and still live. As I said her plan is place the kids in day care while we work and get those last few hours a night and weekends to see them. Take them away from their schools and friends and activities. She walks away with everything we built and says screw you with any of the financial stuff. My plan like i started was the kids and I stay in the house, rent for a small 3br is the same as our mortgage now for a 5br house. Staying in the house keeps staus quo and consistancy for the kids. She isnt around all that much anyways her time works out to 80/20 as it is now.  I still take the kids to school, all there dr appointments, speech appointments, if they are sick she doesnt need to take time off, I am here like I have been the last 10yrs. The kids have primary here and every other weekend at her place per state requirements. I know the house will need a compromise. There is 100k in equity in the house and we happen to owe that much in debt there is also the 401k. I've seen this being possible but the house doesn't get sold yet. I raise the kids here for the next like 8yrs. That would get my youngest into fulltime school and get me working for 5yrs. I hope to refinance the house then if not it can be sold. Our debt can be settled with the 401k. I know I maybe giving up a few grand but she doesnt want to be poor when she is old it terrifies her. She keeps the 401k intact and assumes the debt. Her incentive to keeping the house as it is would be she gets all the tax credits for the house till its sold. To cover my half of the insurance stuff and more incentive she would also get the child tax credits for the next like 5 or so. I do plan on going back to work, I'm not expecting a free ride. My skillset now is crap and I would make that much and or get full time hours in my area. I do plan on working if I have the time, I doubt t few employers will hire for every other weekend... me staying home now would save way more money than me working.",2.726498357963873,4.217238056513408,3.3741926655719787,93.00793103448277,75.044061302682,6.503995621237,22.86918445539135,7.07126945348624,0.5109402846195952,3977,109,890,40,84,1249,406,1044,0.073,0.865,0.063,-0.4018,13,0,3,0,1,0,102.0,16,2,6,22,33,30,3,1,76,0,88,10,1,8,10,136,159,63,0,23,15,2,1,6,1,13,2,6,8,17,33,57,5,8,10,9,23,12,22,5,0,3,26,12,120,26,128,111,29,145,0,0,5,2,103,53,3,18,70,559,153,35,0.0,0.0,0.036609360584313765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03325490405036388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09000252081736293,0.031215597976457118,0.0,0.0,0.10204631424282776,0.039337890533334925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03087175998578621,0.033396424228810666,0.0,0.0,0.10574011405849364,0.0576936469932082,0.0,0.045737756745415366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0409568115859717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04290732081859919,0.07649836170565688,0.0,0.03968603898582966,0.03231596738053643,0.0,0.0,0.04207641439361593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09677663528448407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032829747849919835,0.0,0.131902378078239,0.03675055058826483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02477839315678333,0.0,0.06321623927691088,0.0,0.10114855428106544,0.03669700106868473,0.035365930948881026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03191035505652997,0.0,0.0,0.028984100595052294,0.0,0.21560120886744705,0.035987936348140105,0.06396214805339641,0.03146591572918727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033174510390465546,0.03993555928686487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02514560451283109,0.0,0.15052295864890333,0.03726099429023357,0.07388970315644605,0.5194491532896482,0.0,0.08470004314971515,0.04052278392493105,0.03915605468066899,0.07445596652473525,0.13338070444808156,0.0,0.0,0.06185201202760505,0.1528992123862353,0.042318706841664507,0.0,0.040760304443651266,0.0,0.0,0.10996800133451952,0.0,0.03312655191914984,0.033199714348457615,0.03150326535698255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07512493268539222,0.038034459121750235,0.03768899594515951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08983266962352576,0.039872651944993134,0.19304558776253072,0.0834509927701482,0.02893398520046803,0.0,0.07979554432045889,0.03520541328299137,0.0,0.03599678426139356,0.0,0.03936582393883395,0.039952394901914434,0.025421226686132496,0.057063902026134775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07839066372950218,0.0,0.0,0.08458535695394089,0.0,0.038166379696118996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03990196438959704,0.03752528758711348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07137096940154836,0.08950062439205166,0.0,0.11390195976500901,0.08968411757879867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930987231663777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031786452532916155,0.0,0.037103428228155724,0.0,0.02655340596699007,0.2799029999593857,0.059919271275141836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12883756404797198,0.0,0.21285865572015775,0.0,0.0,0.08462013914612143,0.030153244833605482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04984677806315377,0.02403818400713885,0.03685843011339808,0.0,0.17500301739743168,0.0,0.0,0.035847319606571365,0.0,0.025470314418271123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09720309581988408,0.0,0.0,0.11063699438584104,0.08933330502381649,0.1203695151474353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184917233361566,0.03809844108629108,0.0,0.18654773107614328,0.0,0.0,0.02415851725335373
divorce,whiplsh2018,2020/03/09,"When Should I leave? My wife and I have been having issues going on probably 6 years now.  We on on our third marriage counselor (first two quit on us) and went through one marriage class.  

I think the primary issue is I just don't like her anymore (really struggling to find a time when I did).  I tried doing (faking, on the advice of a counselor) all the things she wanted for six months and she said everything felt disingenuous (it was), so I quit doing those things. 

I haven't left yet for a couple reasons, I made a lifetime commitment to her and second, I don't see any benefit of not being with her.

The primary reason I would leave her is so she could finally stop being hurt by me not caring about her.  I don't drink, do drugs, never cheated on her, I have always had a well paying job, I help take of the kids and our belongings.",2.923028229255777,4.674890203592817,4.253759623609923,85.81133233532937,75.10778443113772,7.166638152266897,23.305816937553463,7.957251820313856,1.2082595380667236,652,19,130,10,14,215,105,167,0.113,0.823,0.063,-0.711,1,0,2,0,0,0,24.0,4,0,0,3,9,8,1,1,10,0,21,2,0,3,3,24,31,9,0,4,3,1,1,1,0,2,1,1,0,1,4,7,1,1,5,1,1,2,7,4,1,6,8,3,29,4,17,18,1,20,0,1,1,0,19,7,0,0,12,104,33,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13673296466255114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11642870194824405,0.0,0.0,0.09515371061332714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138767873250756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426627316457989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11171862382645667,0.1548242085188419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13707310377658138,0.1622684273327038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257554517858656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13434981945830302,0.1532808568760585,0.12788879728241384,0.11902002392334254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07952252884700907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09378869164514764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14979246856588513,0.0,0.0,0.2920904237249007,0.13885384385900398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2963204699922777,0.15202878192398414,0.0,0.0,0.06836022416783033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13240029632820952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11168669719436243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791868672901647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09481671397840036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15086267721034158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2976546483312391,0.0,0.0,0.08963945544265428,0.28773214400236385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331005949409853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11150200617597716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169834577061212,0.0,0.14627985627733853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10520608924309008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859197338001433,0.08965820751712103,0.0,0.0,0.0815913176161806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09499980260411864,0.0,0.13668626723893798,0.0,0.16831239150385885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825313143353125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12580926346934684,0.12971175740749466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09939861382745883,0.0,0.0,0.090107029406376
divorce,sarasmith1985,2020/03/09,"Really need your help, what should I do? Hi,

I need to talk about this with someone and ask for guidance. It is about my sister and I do not know what to do. 

Background: My sister is divorced for two years. She married very fast after 6 months of courtship (was common in our family and hometown at the time). Education-wise and profession-wise he was very lower than my sister. Naturally,  culturally and financially he was far behind and my sister was supporting him a lot. After five years of living, she finally realized that all criteria she married to him was a lie. For example, my sister hated smokers and he was a heavy one. Or my sister hated drunks and he used to drink heavy and drive. He was also abusive. He did not hit her but when angry he put his hand on her neck and hit his sister and broke her arm. Finally the last piece of truth hit my sister when she realized he cheated on her. She finally came to her sense and filed for divorce. When she married him, because of her profession and my family background, she was higher mid-level financially. She divorced and left everything of her belonging to him to just runaway. Some of her belongings, such as home appliances, gold, cash, etc. was as high as 50 times of her monthly income that she left just because she hated drama and she didn't want their abusive and aggressive behavior hurt my old parents.

Since we were worried about them hurting my sister, we arranged for her to come abroad and live with me for a while. It has been two years now and finally she is more stable and she found a good job. Through this process my family and I were all supportive. We were just happy that she does not have a child. After divorce, he made it really ugly for us. He went on applying criminal complaints by fake witnesses. From the beginning his eye was on our family's wealth. When last year we went home for Christmas, she was arrested in the bank. He even made complaints against me (I am living abroad for 9 years now). Following the court, they were found guilty because of false accusation. His witnesses were all his friends and terrible family and I have heard that the court session was a circus show so that the judge told them you are all lying. They could not all  say the same lie! But just when they were about to be thrown in jail, without out knowledge, my sister went and took back her complaints. She told us I don't want the hassle and let everything just finish. My family and I were devastated that how could she do that. But as my mother encouraged us, we said she is going through very tough time. We never had a divorce in our family so we didn't know how we should behave. We just said thank you for finishing it and now everyone just can live calmly. She and I came back after. She told me once that what he cared was all about money. He forced her to take extra shifts in the hospital while he was not working at that time. His income was one third of my sister. He had already threaten my sister for more money and had told her if she does not give him this much, he would force everyone in our family to go to court and make my old parent's life miserable. She wanted to transfer him some money and asked me to lend her because she already left everything she had, but I refused and told her she is crazy to do so.

After divorce, my sister has been living with me. I have a two room apartment and its like a shared flat. I was trying to look after her. She is one of those people who are always silent and you never know what is going in her head. She hardly show her feelings of anger or sadness. Everyone knows her as the kindest person they know with a very emotional heart. She believe she should not hurt event a fly! She literally catch them and release them outside!!! During this time, I talked to her a lot, she cried a lot. she was very depressed. Sometimes, I checked her phone and diary app just because I was worried if she has suicidal thoughts. She was getting very angry when I suggested her a therapist. Slowly I felt that she is getting better. After two years from divorce, she was laughing more. So I did not check her phone anymore. She told me a year ago that she has deleted his contacts. 

Yesterday, she gave me her phone to take backups. I noticed that she has contacted him again after all these dramas. I could not read the messages but I noticed that a month ago she has sent him two text messages and he has replied. They were in contact a few times. I am devastated and worried. On the one side, I am telling myself that I should not have looked into her private space. On the other side, her behavior and marriage hurt us a lot. My dad had a heart attack. I had sever stress. If you look at photos, in this two years all of us look 10 years older. And that is beside the financial harm and reputation harm we all had going for the first time into court rooms, police, etc. We used to be very calm family and all these never has happened to anyone in our first or second circle. 

I don't know what to do. How could she be so selfish. She knows how abusive and dangerous he could be. On the other side, she is kind of a person that would do anything for you if you asks. She never says no to you. She also deeply loves us so much. Obviously she is troubled. His influence on her is so deep that after all this. She told me once that I miss him so much and I hate my self so deeply because I know what he has done to me and my family and I still miss him. I can't understand why she texted him. I am so worried about her and I cannot tell her that I checked her phone. It would destroy our relationship and she has no body now. I read before that after two years, things should go back to normal. Why she cannot move on? How can she still think about such a monster? I was so stressed and did whatever I could to take her with me abroad because I was worried about him hurting her physically after divorce. How is it possible that she cannot see that? She has a doctorate degree. What should I do? Please help me out. I cannot talk with anybody about this. My parents cannot handle this news. It would break them.

I tried talking about dating with her but she all refuses and says I don't want to. She is not moving on. I am worried that she poke the bear again and it would hurt her again. What am I missing?",3.0596294138470204,5.055246877009643,3.933517212897137,87.18874465323464,75.40675241157557,6.976713177379862,24.354966223192424,7.867833862948331,1.2839751113602171,4961,161,987,75,109,1589,409,1244,0.174,0.765,0.061,-0.9995,8,0,2,0,8,0,140.0,23,8,11,4,58,50,10,3,41,0,123,13,8,12,18,190,205,95,1,28,33,18,4,1,1,11,2,6,4,4,55,75,2,2,18,8,9,19,29,32,0,16,69,16,231,18,121,111,30,136,0,13,6,1,250,40,0,13,77,747,286,7,0.0,0.12240507886442754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06105186600618087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07600320142064869,0.0550778098055187,0.028653976900297477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034151814527642245,0.024078843715003368,0.0,0.028338355016341913,0.0,0.09658060611373293,0.03917655886755562,0.0,0.07943876789501755,0.0,0.14694545309849474,0.0,0.029302976519862908,0.03879821106914216,0.0,0.030456339208070195,0.0,0.03825125542710352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0787725021649151,0.03511036839463546,0.0,0.0,0.029664047555040738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16496874806073153,0.0,0.037826944572749516,0.0,0.0,0.029660159004019356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03524727876176277,0.06027133212336181,0.035240557397957395,0.0,0.03373471904730342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03873649540508956,0.0,0.0,0.0768117354582611,0.02274502335904127,0.0,0.0,0.09871682759871868,0.09284807999046008,0.0,0.3246372436084813,0.0,0.017412159636343603,0.0,0.03306449834877172,0.1508942746484214,0.0,0.05858344135260275,0.0,0.07551582203021384,0.02660560113417976,0.0,0.03598336297492493,0.03303468662002612,0.09785545430405802,0.028883753024076163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03045213662490174,0.03665835888100973,0.030848394080165025,0.13599589585031302,0.03534184590864715,0.0,0.0,0.08161497973681943,0.04616420107653214,0.036384116751009485,0.06908535571452203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2211903007919848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03417297253921175,0.0,0.0,0.03586037840610159,0.15140346397443946,0.05614078580962189,0.0,0.0,0.11224627087313938,0.03521371614771582,0.02432356101394733,0.0168239639489832,0.0,0.1520405686595719,0.0,0.11567215063491446,0.0,0.0,0.1171069287240679,0.031080340245580464,0.06516941216552442,0.022986671464985217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08246080187942985,0.07320122770975704,0.07594450262549317,0.051068546371083864,0.10623839327928933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033740517608690734,0.0,0.07841250449731907,0.07227075455387759,0.07334762585643409,0.09334041818337638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11471317506472348,0.0,0.0,0.023873975007505682,0.0601373525059976,0.0,0.03780100220385383,0.0,0.03882204765210015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03461825463433391,0.0,0.0,0.06889175882577192,0.0,0.04412188476945909,0.0,0.0,0.036971978336522375,0.0,0.0,0.06551410964884273,0.08215600501474417,0.0,0.0,0.027441480114787642,0.0,0.035924842822128995,0.03890351126414361,0.0,0.02848627861268292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029177985868075167,0.0,0.03405863876685168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0550021632228696,0.0,0.07889392715683123,0.0,0.0,0.03766800778737185,0.07815640127905082,0.0,0.0,0.07767602319268843,0.11071521123289507,0.06019814326841243,0.03170455810984341,0.0,0.03998350081112231,0.02287812055135219,0.02206555741091821,0.0,0.027338782348996882,0.1405616470666058,0.0,0.0,0.2303392643970103,0.03826028567931405,0.046760328060022484,0.0,0.2354766097156544,0.035849673837123,0.24853765252811705,0.05948426305680056,0.0,0.1988963816740964,0.08124630215551074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09576910946160552,0.062147278976338975,0.0,0.0,0.03319561534499479,0.0,0.025070226101796208,0.2098319920023195,0.0,0.12231372234140718,0.0,0.0,0.2217601584455064
divorce,Thegoodfriend123,2020/03/09,"Being the best friend in during an abusive divorce In despret need of venting.

My friends is going through a nasty divorce with her manipulative, cheating, narcist ex.

Hours and hours i am on the phone with her building her up, 5 mins of him dropping of the kids and he tears it all down. 'Your friends don't know you like i do, I'm right about you. You are unstable, bad mother, completly helpless without me, you don't deserve childsupport you've had enough inherantance, your fault i cheated cause you didn't put out during pregancy and after c-section and my pornaddiction, ...' He goes on and on. He wants to 'win' this divorce, he loves to tear her down because of all the sexual and financial frustrations he had during their marriage. He loves seeing her unhappy, because he was unhappy during their marriage. While all she did was try to make him happy the best to her abillety. 

Building her up takes so much of my free time and i don't mind. But i should be having fun with her and our kids, not picking up the mess he leaves behind after only 5 minuts.

End rant.",5.925712669683257,6.668997250000004,6.089803921568628,79.35142533936656,66.69607843137254,8.629864253393665,33.339366515837106,8.617729084823388,2.6912538461538458,845,36,155,12,13,269,121,204,0.18,0.675,0.145,-0.6608,0,0,0,0,3,0,27.0,1,7,2,3,2,19,3,0,8,0,17,2,0,4,3,27,27,11,0,3,3,2,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,2,2,12,0,0,1,0,1,2,6,7,0,0,6,1,30,13,29,18,7,23,0,1,1,2,44,12,0,0,9,105,32,0,0.0,0.1980809347259221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395882972972693,0.2038227239787203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3508901423842732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17173988774891133,0.0,0.0,0.17528502466834187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14807183756703887,0.1727416057888335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3874885054970896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950122333308374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17796619372414654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3292772020970509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187774297139976,0.0,0.0,0.17701945627115576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08167569194986096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3017729119359315,0.0,0.11159393251316738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16880411864962167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12289651873035692,0.12396183427342415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12714790557570868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16806205184043976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427707865079111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332207964365669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12569853655207713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09748398874529232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11350423008769164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09860708164617583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16115553155163148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Nethid,2020/03/09,"I'm crushed Hey Reddit... My wife (26f) told me (29m) yesterday that she isn't attracted to me anymore. Tonight, she said that there is nothing I can do to change her mind and that she wants a divorce. We have been married for 2 years and have 2 children (4yo and 9mo). I am head over heals for this woman. She is my everything and this is ripping me apart. My wife said that she needs to find someone that she feels the same way as I do about her. She is 100% checked out at this point. She said that she isn't sexually attracted to me anymore and that she wants to find someone who she ""wants to rip their clothes off"" like when we first met. She created a Tinder profile to find my replacement (I snooped after the events unfolded and confronted her about this). I am at a complete loss of words here and nothing I can say or do will change her mind.


She cheated on me while we were engaged. I know this is obviously the biggest, reddest flag in exsistance, but after we did counseling together she broke down and told me that she made a huge mistake and that she wanted to get married to me. I believed her intentions and we still got married.


She honestly has been an amazing wife aside from the incident two years ago. She is supportive, caring, and always wants the best for our family. We share a car for financial reasons and live in an apartment together. I want her to reconsider jumping into divorce and finding new partners, but she is standing by it. A divorce would mean that I have to find a new place to live and purchase a car. 


I  am not okay. This woman is my soul mate and I love her unconditionally. She had a change in attitude 3~ weeks ago. She purchased a bunch of new clothes with our tax return (understandable, as she needed new clothes), picked up smoking again (she was a social smoker when we met but quit shortly after), and has started drinking more. She went out with a friend  2 weeks ago for karaoke and I'm thinking that her friends marriage got her jeleous. She told me that she has already considered everything and her decision is final.


Has anyone gone through this before? Is their any chance of recovering this? I'm so scared and emotional. I was late for work yesterday (and was a shitty employee) and will be calling off tomorrow (today I guess, as it's almost 5 in the morning) because I can't concentrate or sleep. I'm on the verge of losing my new job over this. I can't think about anything besides salvaging my marriage. I begged her to just give this some time before we decide anything but she insists it's over. I'm a shitty emotional husband/father right now because this has shooken me up so bad and I can't get a grip on the situation. I don't know how to proceed. 

Our conversations always start out with loving intentions but emotions ultimately take over by the end because she insists that this is what she wants. She started a new job a month ago as well. I pushed her to apply to this new and better job  because she deserves the world. The new job gave her confidence that she didn't have before. One of the things she told me is that I'm not a confident enough man. I begged for her to give me a chance, and that I could adjust my life to make her happier, but she insists it's over. 


My wife deserves to be happy, in fact I want nothing more than for her to live a happy life. I just wish I was the one that could make her feel this way. I want her back.",4.516882598784194,5.59675287797619,5.0522416413373845,84.3065881458967,70.07142857142857,8.159625126646404,30.81572948328268,8.464757390353514,2.2206042553191487,2682,111,538,41,47,858,279,672,0.067,0.797,0.136,0.9942,5,0,2,0,3,0,79.0,11,0,2,7,18,27,2,1,35,1,52,8,2,8,2,100,108,42,0,16,12,4,3,1,4,3,3,4,0,5,38,39,1,0,17,1,4,6,9,8,1,4,25,7,111,19,75,76,7,86,1,3,0,2,103,34,0,5,44,371,149,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19949227251689566,0.0,0.05633849165451065,0.0,0.06208676475355216,0.0,0.09362935717490216,0.0,0.0,0.038260242570997985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11159401892818696,0.0393398561462387,0.0,0.0925980352677227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043262178455814586,0.046976608115957184,0.13718772153348074,0.0,0.14362502966407775,0.06338826150694359,0.05904373443081206,0.04975936624564629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05745002260490593,0.0,0.057363088453693686,0.0,0.1785539230353902,0.0,0.05898987287526479,0.0,0.0,0.08984161773087262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05511556161759446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18986229258543694,0.04983163217173599,0.058133918656388235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011297207211334,0.0,0.05303901887660603,0.0,0.0568957432837431,0.0,0.0,0.061632517825816,0.2571132735969744,0.047856620165007815,0.0,0.0,0.0869361115252116,0.0,0.058789381244640074,0.1079437065043239,0.0,0.0,0.08999608257387401,0.0,0.061979184313309926,0.0,0.0,0.11978437021355225,0.0,0.0,0.05774127489030546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233263091357321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06184049536694965,0.0,0.06346624083649684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07947934731240595,0.027486881404945082,0.0,0.14904172734174126,0.0,0.0,0.06294303887815282,0.0,0.0,0.10155771005527434,0.05323667801642007,0.07511094464639179,0.0,0.0,0.061286057273261335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136176181485372,0.0,0.04490797152382843,0.0,0.0,0.08343545444352655,0.0,0.4347072628979898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619553679525783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762494799880235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05878205071582165,0.0,0.05318598854062958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0598418021437793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05784693814905152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04804763306128766,0.160554780763526,0.04474197982100859,0.056328302628013416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06324109861977689,0.0563028572843657,0.05735225350382105,0.09534160197001823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11946807810802985,0.0,0.04493108586379908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06384570662148872,0.0,0.0,0.04230219156396115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037378122556013964,0.07210112450634111,0.0,0.0,0.032806956066778845,0.0,0.053330011089061775,0.21504386965374936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05496001897327546,0.05857096081250921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2986642640877813,0.08931667142815065,0.09026032702632324,0.0,0.05058649743651335,0.05215564659257865,0.0,0.0,0.06469878255928041,0.0,0.0,0.04095957015509885,0.0,0.0,0.0399670706664684,0.0,0.0,0.07246205702790827
divorce,throwawayintoledo,2020/03/09,"Absolutely gutted I (29f) packed up my shot yesterday and left an emotionally volatile marriage while my husband (31M) was at work. I drove 14 hours and I’m exhausted to say the least but I feel like my heart has broken into a million pieces. I love this man so much but he has brought me so much pain and I refuse to be driven off the brink of insanity. 

We’ve been together for nearly 3 years and we just don’t know how to communicate, he is financially irresponsible and he calls me names when he gets upset. Even given all of this, I still love him. He is sweet, caring and selfless but when he gets angry he is just nasty. On top of that his parents use him like a bank and I’m tired of their dependency and driving us into debt. I just wish things were different and I feel physically ill being away from him. 

I genuinely don’t think I’ll ever be capable of finding another man who loves me like he does and that scares me. His father has caused him so much pain and suffering in this childhood and still to this day. I just want to hold him and protect him. I know this marriage will never work but it just fucking hurts. If I knew this is what divorce feels like I would’ve never gotten married. Part of me wants to believe people change, but I know I can’t.",2.7314240056818164,4.555802589843754,4.066931818181818,86.63034090909092,75.8359375,7.154545454545455,24.13636363636364,8.00094639256281,1.2315765625000004,997,32,209,16,22,328,150,256,0.2,0.634,0.166,-0.9148,3,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,2,0,1,4,15,17,1,2,5,0,17,11,2,4,4,50,43,26,0,4,11,3,3,4,0,1,5,1,0,2,12,16,0,3,9,0,2,4,5,8,0,1,9,5,34,9,23,30,7,29,0,2,0,4,35,12,1,2,17,136,46,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12814586756913587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11481854999657938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13768670026095953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12478815248025935,0.0,0.12459932136017747,0.1255414012788635,0.12927998495273033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07881412628393869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12768147296084606,0.0,0.0,0.10694514787820013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13746768433461504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0807173095708941,0.11054423955732193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18537628968042733,0.1746110082766015,0.0,0.0,0.1116960061477087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11297943614130612,0.12769739572478028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14481720860533734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12035037958358435,0.0,0.13082631821822835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20148715741271173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13277947811887886,0.0,0.0,0.2388188545411772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3308927942921641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695110852103298,0.0,0.18850886946286807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600761083875814,0.0,0.13569765302642667,0.1323394830344775,0.0,0.08472372179836055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09718480075403704,0.1223516458059406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19519112228849111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08118964354502066,0.07830602766487972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404602544557719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14700131923701934,0.10554857649428802,0.0,0.0,0.14416302896365074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14053330490082666,0.0,0.0,0.17793793124126225,0.0,0.0,0.08681314092452004,0.0,0.0,0.07869802144046233
divorce,PuppyPulverizer,2020/03/09,"Non registered marriage divorce question Good day everyone,

How would a ""divorce"" work in the event there is a wedding ceremony but no legal paperwork has been signed, no joint bank accounts opened, and no joint loans? I want to protect myself as much as possible in the event the marriage goes south. Would this shield you if the ""wife"" doesn't work or makes substantially less?",8.315746268656717,9.111518149253731,6.9693656716417935,74.92927238805972,61.537313432835816,10.282089552238807,37.6455223880597,10.125756701596842,3.8794805970149255,304,14,51,6,4,91,53,67,0.115,0.764,0.122,-0.2982,0,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,0,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,6,0,6,0,0,2,0,12,8,7,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,5,5,2,7,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,3,3,32,4,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036285525340528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30170661677806904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648308181105016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107613579383203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23210793445643635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3559535574154981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3537051825136747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18623380287840136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4597303185094867,0.0,0.0,0.4485905017511368,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,notamanonlydynamite,2020/03/09,"Beds are Baind-Aids; Do Not Sleep Around Word of advice. Just dont. If your heart is broken, dont get into a band-aid bed. I made the mistake of sleeping around massively in a heart shaped box. No one fits in that box.",0.3717391304347828,2.457425739130436,1.5936521739130465,100.02308695652177,85.08695652173913,4.5495652173913035,15.72173913043478,5.6839178017228535,-0.9137165217391304,168,3,40,1,5,53,37,46,0.17600000000000002,0.8240000000000001,0.0,-0.7717,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,0,5,4,4,1,0,9,7,1,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,1,0,2,0,7,6,0,7,0,0,0,0,1,7,0,1,0,23,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139068032601828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.389735286718719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5130989552154427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11436635248889294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5187957305413263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20712872135964844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14833248319313005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4381166997162551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Jay6425553,2020/03/09,"I screwed up and I want out. As starters, this is obviously a back up account to share my(35M)stories. 

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Been together for 12 years and married for 5 to my wife (34F), no kids. Half of the duration of being married were spent long distance as I relocated overseas to work and now back living together for almost a year now.

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My wife is a good person, she takes care of me and my family (when I was away) but we have been seriously lacking in the sex department. I have gotten tired of having to initiate for it each time to a point where I felt that it seems like a chore/duty for her to have sex with me. Spoke about it many times throughout the relationship but nothing changes. I have just lived with it as I always felt the need to prioritise other's happiness over mine. 

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I have always been the one giving in whether emotionally or financially (she also holds a job with good pay). Felt it was okay for me to suffer in silence as long as others are happy.  After relocating back home, I was depressed and seeked a counsellor's help. Multiple sessions of theraphy helped me realised that I have been neglecting my own needs in every aspect of my life, even my marriage. Many times I have mentioned my needs to my wife, but it neever gets fulfilled whether its sex or a trip or an event I wanted to attend. 

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Something I must mention, I had an affair when I was overseas and while it certainly didnt help things, I felt that I was finally in a relationship where I felt happier and satisfied. The affair ended after I left the country. I got tired of hiding and confessed to my wife my affair as she was suspecting, hoping that it will allow us a fresh start.  

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The last 6 months has been crazy, not in a form of bat-shit crazy but just silence and I felt the distance growing. She said she wants to work on it and save it but I dont see any action. I also tried to be more pro-active but there has not been any reponse on her end. It was just arguments out of the blue or silence with minimal interactions. Nowadays I feel like we are more roommates then a married couple. Sex has been only once in the past few months, and that session I had no feelings whatsoever, felt like I was just doing my duty as a husband. he love is fading. 

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It seems like we are going nowhere and we tried couple theraphy but I dont think it helped.I feel like giving up as I do not see where this relationship could lead.I think by letting go, I can finally live the life I wanted but what about her?

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I feel terrible and I am worried for her if this really ends. Will she be able to cope? How will our family and friends think of her as a divorcee?

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Before anyone judges me, yes I know I am the a-hole who had an affair.",4.199991929698708,5.683230216911768,5.093825322812052,82.17466822094694,71.27941176470588,7.954375896700142,28.34182209469153,8.482186458684032,2.0423555954088948,2194,82,422,36,41,715,248,544,0.086,0.748,0.166,0.9934,1,0,1,0,1,0,88.0,6,0,0,2,21,23,1,0,30,2,53,10,0,2,3,86,94,45,0,12,22,5,11,5,1,4,4,2,1,2,27,25,0,3,19,0,3,7,8,6,0,2,32,16,69,17,65,53,7,59,1,3,3,6,48,21,1,9,36,308,96,7,0.04610566040373841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04616815894549715,0.0,0.0,0.07374135993470661,0.07672720580671627,0.3996437102776729,0.4481873912524277,0.06270686021001015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03223814976429398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043317785654843934,0.10635722075370456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0392325211612346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04700779356279956,0.0,0.04877367531475233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03681161818065317,0.1020300725861206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0397107377464539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10807098123228068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05186266230197127,0.1225077906980525,0.0,0.0,0.030452353863829832,0.0,0.03884600741097728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869286266598981,0.0,0.09324962888088767,0.06587578600955454,0.3098806502445723,0.10101299469083824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03562111885789267,0.0,0.02408830461999655,0.08845750130512625,0.05240581862561098,0.07734248095682833,0.036874908457103166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981606656621022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09271095690904628,0.0,0.046247736610718994,0.04579332389573067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04575275373060246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0253384651907079,0.03758226686956774,0.0,0.0,0.05009393493200345,0.04714616151688583,0.06513158289905589,0.11262448393201988,0.0,0.12213642849407105,0.08160411719357401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04161215859953914,0.0,0.0,0.09348780615968463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07360219652121176,0.0,0.0,0.102560288960011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04423962463392445,0.0,0.0,0.04910102360400642,0.031242388713443005,0.035065432337670614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04401306981958551,0.0,0.04025768428631996,0.0,0.0,0.04358475174797444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029536466657542417,0.0,0.0,0.14850067413565682,0.0,0.0,0.043857041133951176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734804840436081,0.08394572324812025,0.0,0.0,0.04732679784829436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03549438989756412,0.0,0.0,0.03263382373829782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034665718703377146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030630552089197807,0.08862793656523077,0.0,0.0,0.08065374405995766,0.1059833484349215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0626054339182089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055459432625461616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10877725225038157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06713093977937347,0.046822536162010826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4481873912524277,0.05938106733310634
divorce,Wayne47,2020/03/09,"I think I'm getting a divorce My wife and I have been married almost 7 years. We have 3 child and her mother lives with us. Her mother living with us is my biggest regret in life. I often feel alienated in my own house. I feel like the 3rd wheel. We use to have boundaries with her but that has broken down since we had our 3rd child. 

Today I was complaining about my mother in law to my wife. Honestly it's a dumb complaint. My mother in law is constantly asking if there is something she can do to help me. Multiple times an hour she asks me. I told my wife I was exhausted with her. My wife started screaming at me and even slapped me a few times. 

Later she told me that she had told her mother to move out. I said that maybe I should move out. Well that did it. Now my wife says our relationship is over. 

She said it is more than about her mother. She is still upset with me because I didn't want our 3rd child that is 4 months old now. Honestly I didn't want anymore child but now I am incredibly happy that we had our new baby. I have tried to tell her that I am happy now and I was just depressed before but she doesn't understand she says that I am a horrible person for not wanting more children. 

I don't want to get divorced. I love my wife.",1.1840583554376671,3.2167647547892737,2.7924329501915715,92.92182360742706,81.52873563218391,5.701208370173888,20.38328912466844,6.844919456158928,0.2669939876215741,975,27,215,11,26,320,126,261,0.138,0.745,0.11699999999999999,-0.2547,0,0,1,0,3,0,22.0,10,0,0,0,12,14,1,1,6,0,30,3,0,1,0,36,51,8,0,7,6,12,2,1,0,1,2,5,0,6,11,15,0,0,4,0,0,2,5,7,1,0,15,7,59,7,24,35,4,28,0,2,0,1,59,10,1,3,17,153,70,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12081212382650355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11965097074062238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255802692781768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07354625370082925,0.0,0.1026630542091233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13037825228425962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10391444396840754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07968724830783691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12200709285844355,0.08619136866546816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12606780547420518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25686531076237623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08086819907916748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188145471250657,0.13921226112731191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852176590743648,0.05894280131358065,0.0,0.21306981059351568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10889005263022176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12120771348455225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09630054439165088,0.2564606910648518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11652314903009035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12660038797542764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10534568520934122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12953142195667594,0.0,0.0,0.2295288530085836,0.19188918437953387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09980175097392252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092881170169965,0.0,0.0,0.0853956849147447,0.0,0.09635011072579816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10545217550620538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730673759698377,0.0,0.0,0.14070231283492368,0.0,0.11436074545394218,0.34585466142834537,0.0,0.08191246529526514,0.0,0.0,0.12559942523330964,0.29025076999949884,0.10420163492010057,0.0,0.0,0.2846466302434533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10847756148189053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769372900559288
divorce,SLPeach20,2020/03/09,"feeling like a shitty mom STBX and I have been separated for 9 months now. We share the most wonderful 6 year old little boy. Tonight after picking him up, he cried on the way home. He just wants things to go back to “normal”. He misses doing everyday things with his dad that are no longer possible due to distance. I initiated the divorce for many reasons, but I always feel like I’m to blame for my son’s hurting. I hate seeing him upset. Does this ever get better?

Sidenote: He is in counseling and is doing really well in that aspect.",2.7945714285714267,5.0687595523809525,4.350714285714286,82.57178571428574,77.28571428571429,6.866666666666667,23.833333333333336,7.908726449838941,1.4707904761904758,423,14,78,7,10,141,83,105,0.185,0.672,0.14300000000000002,-0.7153,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,1,0,0,1,5,9,1,1,4,0,7,0,0,2,1,15,17,3,0,2,2,3,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,4,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,4,1,0,1,3,9,5,13,16,1,17,0,2,1,0,14,5,0,2,12,48,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15949576627266193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473925382301869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695282011552415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105549792050527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16774324790479428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17338841591606854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19384155667632344,0.27387701293008865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001465533165381,0.0,0.10893797201339378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892474620020163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19227386457118145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052008152286181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18729344489412614,0.19211690947320528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943366648611068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22449703089441586,0.15299969039761555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878088242047303,0.0,0.0,0.20113925925155807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160939914236208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12279715735769145,0.19708224012208472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527466820327698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546915830157154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130597095143439,0.1521491910250461,0.0,0.0,0.17234620454810734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20787223869107932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12343768728188573
divorce,jwfowler2,2020/03/09,"Men on this sub, what books are getting you/got you through your divorce? I'm considering writing a book about my experiences as a guide to men who find themselves on the other side of divorce struggling to start over. Any current book suggestions would be great info on where the gaps may be currently. I found \*zero\* options, but maybe I missed some.",7.274076923076925,8.068866215384617,6.359807692307693,78.40894230769231,63.769230769230774,8.961538461538463,37.78846153846154,8.841846274778883,3.3109230769230766,284,14,50,4,4,86,53,65,0.07400000000000001,0.885,0.04,-0.2846,2,0,0,0,2,0,11.0,0,2,0,0,2,3,0,1,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,9,10,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,5,1,10,5,1,9,0,1,0,0,9,6,0,3,3,32,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23064849083281405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33177515434575106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30999692915266164,0.0,0.0,0.3718844305120377,0.0,0.0,0.17720329446303196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712667148935422,0.373938165467357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3407437142734849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24006758335959216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3545760630051939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409379531539367,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,justsolost209,2020/03/09,"Devastated I didn't think I would ever be here and I'm so devastated that I am!

Im 29 and my spouse is 26. We've been together nearly 5 years and married for 3. They are gorgeous, funny and so clever... But they have been having mental health problems for the last 2 years and I can't take it anymore. 

They haven't been in work for nearly a year, despite all efforts. They now don't contribute anything towards household costs. They also don't contribute to any household chores. I'm now just all out of energy to put into this relationship.

Today I talked to some friends about it and I think separating is going to be the right move for me, but I'm so scared. I feel too young and like I've not tried hard enough... but I also know they have pushed away my help at every turn and refuse to get any kind of help. They are stubborn to an extreme and genuinely believe they can pull themselves out of this, but with no evidence that they can... I'm exhusted.

Tomorrow I'll need to tell them how I feel, they know I've not been happy with our situation for a while now, but I've finally had enough. 

I'm not ready. I need support",1.920533596837945,3.993752413043482,3.3655335968379454,89.55407114624504,79.21739130434783,6.442687747035574,23.06324110671937,7.520522993642371,0.9291739130434776,885,29,188,13,22,290,129,230,0.135,0.78,0.085,-0.9283,0,0,0,0,0,1,28.0,1,0,11,2,15,10,1,1,5,0,23,1,0,1,3,40,41,21,0,4,9,1,3,1,1,1,1,0,1,0,6,14,0,2,6,0,1,5,9,3,0,0,6,3,25,7,27,32,5,28,0,0,0,0,20,10,0,1,14,123,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22780536116056674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19371705308981246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14125409979499026,0.0,0.0,0.11720925763005348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338193900209497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16047189451066793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29434030340452844,0.0,0.0,0.1288377418834436,0.12000495726874665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440356226418158,0.0,0.0,0.15602710444879164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11004247621078267,0.0,0.07441475094252198,0.0,0.08094728961801838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15162132833403513,0.12759094051614495,0.0,0.0,0.15139837167199754,0.0,0.0,0.1909381025872728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15385081456745694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14832082980427486,0.15655361439318774,0.11610094911505978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06958499615513855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14353778127712102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15138249119473174,0.0,0.21122278992372406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136288022585742,0.0,0.14318332605398398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529184785580965,0.0,0.12163600201046125,0.0,0.0,0.14259910624457492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16009934119016533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16162994936846942,0.0,0.0,0.10709100803274822,0.114481307308406,0.1244916947213301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18252912717309175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13500871786488775,0.0,0.0,0.09670186105178666,0.15492492743038955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10369206639957036,0.0,0.0,0.10117948332101487,0.0,0.0,0.2751642803013633
divorce,Emptyone65,2020/03/09,"Stuck and don't know what to do I have been a jerk for a woman for 15 years. She is very controlling and has made me distance myself from my family and friends. I justified this by telling myself this is just the way she is and I have to make my marriage work cause we have something special.

The other day I discovered messages to other men that were sexual in nature. She hates it whenever I try to talk to her in this way. She says it's only fun flirting, but there were details in those messages that discussed meetings. I don't buy her excuses. Now I feel like a fool for giving up everything and wasting my life.",2.7804765395894435,4.761994862903227,3.93700879765396,86.91414956011732,76.1774193548387,7.089736070381233,26.59530791788856,8.00094639256281,1.6875419354838712,489,19,97,8,11,159,81,124,0.099,0.778,0.12300000000000001,0.2732,0,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,2,3,8,2,0,5,0,13,1,0,4,0,14,20,6,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,2,11,6,0,1,2,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,5,2,20,5,14,15,0,9,0,0,0,0,20,4,0,0,4,72,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24291411016872885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652149689725038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524999972914282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21251898537356195,0.0,0.2229176229596768,0.0,0.11956352245921854,0.1689302384277129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18269183462503025,0.0,0.0,0.2268382313347634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334596725428789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129954668485861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16702182235390778,0.11552457785125955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22374836429948375,0.15784184543253882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17984185705243433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18804600838135416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820418733940282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19006115440716712,0.2066803373331436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605438283064969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19510792206640015,0.0,0.3753889213477827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17214892375115184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522753422815905
divorce,blue_nirvana,2020/03/09,"So indecisive about where to live bc of kids My stbxh and I are mid thirties with two kids (5 & 3). I told him last week that I'm ready for divorce. (Basic backstory, we've been married for five years together for eight, and it's been a long road of contempt, silent treatment, gaslighting, road rage, and physical intimidation on his end, with some emotional codependence and initially poorly managed anxiety on my end)

We bought a house three years ago. I love this house but I can't afford it, and it's entirely too big for me (husband owns a lot more stuff than I do). It'll either be sold or he'll keep it as a rental property (potentially with the income from it being factored into child support? I have to ask my lawyer but I think it's possible).

Currently we live half a mile from a great school, two miles from our daycare, and five miles from husband's job. I started working again last year and I love my job but it's 13 miles away so I have a commute. 

I know we'll split custody and that's going to be hard on me because right now husband does all of the drop off and picking up of the kids since my commute is longer. I'd like to move closer to my job but I feel SUPER guilty about changing daycare and potentially losing out on a great school. The other option is to make my commute even longer in running the kids back and forth, which doesn't seem like much of an option. Co-parents, any insight or experience here would be greatly appreciated!",3.9521849529780577,5.413221679310343,4.7281504702194415,84.6423510971787,71.86206896551724,7.617554858934167,28.35423197492163,8.150884317080207,1.8151724137931031,1157,44,232,17,22,373,171,290,0.07,0.782,0.14800000000000002,0.9841,8,0,0,0,1,0,35.0,4,0,0,3,11,13,2,1,14,0,17,2,0,2,1,40,34,20,0,1,7,3,2,2,0,4,0,0,0,5,14,18,0,1,5,0,3,3,2,4,0,7,5,2,27,9,36,21,7,40,0,1,0,2,20,21,0,8,17,146,41,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10093231422464803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12337006657326367,0.0,0.07743046438373026,0.0,0.08710456819725823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644614950061597,0.0,0.10697764959356146,0.08755330188692416,0.0,0.06940957683665705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12045152050906495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996419181028374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12808008606296525,0.2016969135988468,0.0,0.0,0.07520516553873377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11137945962367628,0.0,0.0,0.05757234570249638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06471073274918708,0.0,0.0,0.3766017158628424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10199851399496188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627642782357512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3389731480412537,0.10120629992248747,0.0,0.0,0.06257590062448383,0.1856264125844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11125501819263044,0.0,0.20108550260250496,0.10076480737133303,0.0,0.12738311109801814,0.0,0.0968019005894467,0.2055308624020312,0.0,0.07600416167616407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12101791149320833,0.08370210340887159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12836295985021434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972380280540791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304700358658693,0.0,0.1036562237745789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09418830945265784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08059252586433367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130345421923676,0.0,0.12920991557843967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07295854884813296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10880058234906433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22245440727368293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09133370004262976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08289332019215569,0.0,0.0,0.08088471566847387,0.0,0.0,0.2199713207042376
divorce,OutdoorJimmyRustler,2020/03/09,"What happens when there's disagreement over school district? I am not married, nor divorced.  I am seriously dating someone that is.  She has a 50/50 custody arrangement for her 10 year old son with the father.  The kid has always been in a school at Pleasantville.  My girlfriend has been driving 45min + each way to take her son to school on the days where the kid spends the night or needs to be picked up. 

My girlfriend and I just moved to a new area where the schools are really good (like, 10/10 good).  Her son will now need to go to a middle school.  The father wants the son to go to a middle school close to him, but he's using his grandma's address (technically not allowed) to make that happen.  My girlfriend wants her son to go to the higher rated middle school associated with our new address.

In the event the son goes to the new middle school by us, the father will be faced with the commute of 45+ minutes each way on his days.  According to my GF, their divorce agreement did not touch on the school zone policy, how far parents can live from each other, etc.  We live in California.

If this goes to some kind of arbitration/court....

1. Does the fact that the dad wants to send the kid to a school using a fake address matter?
2. Can the dad successfully object to the plan due to the commute?
3. Does school ranking/quality matter?",3.5727062937062968,5.531668284615384,4.086783216783221,86.81185314685318,73.84615384615384,6.573426573426572,24.89510489510489,7.348242739294969,1.086730769230769,1054,34,207,12,22,332,142,260,0.023,0.9179999999999999,0.059000000000000004,0.8082,2,0,0,0,2,0,40.0,3,0,1,2,7,8,0,0,28,0,16,1,1,6,1,31,30,7,0,6,7,12,1,1,4,2,0,0,3,3,6,9,0,0,0,0,1,6,4,2,0,0,3,1,19,6,36,23,5,39,0,0,0,0,35,18,0,3,14,125,25,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06354482373176877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09850290606549172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13366141772167614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08517121737080385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13020616893592113,0.12810877882768232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13506506694119882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07952618349275616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03730985849983955,0.0,0.13486981118422114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05097665819669872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08116777520884526,0.0,0.11325275331517752,0.0,0.22127191643672608,0.0,0.0716667924528949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801360379235945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08479833374803103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048923704380448234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8501805152637986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0647068982880219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05741971081523101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09186206726533444,0.13191596489069954,0.0,0.0,0.13513260220284706,0.12123573873540425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04917889837135496
divorce,Loveandbeloved22,2020/03/10,"Husband caught me in emotional affair Well it happened. It was bound to happen eventually

My husband placed a recording device in my bedroom and heard me talking to my lover (who is in another country). He called me today telling me he wants a divorce.

A little background: My husband and I were already separated. He caused me emotional anguish throughout our entire 6 years of marriage and I couldn’t take it anymore. Plus, I’m still in love with my first love and that’s who I have been talking to.

I feel life a knife has been struck into my heart. This “over the phone” relationship lasted as long as it did because I never had the heart to tell my husband I had love for another man. He always suspected and I was always trying to end it. But my husband’s lack of empathy and hurtful words led me seeking affection somewhere else.

I’ve been debating divorce for a year or so, so I guess this solidifies it. I feel like an idiot and I feel so ashamed. I know what I did was wrong and I feel awful for hurting him. He deserves better than me. 

I don’t know what I expect from posting this. Just needed to get it all off my chest.",2.278947163189706,4.693364174887893,3.7482550204718272,85.45848703450967,79.89686098654708,6.0307272372782235,27.632871904854746,7.255503002510835,1.6503282901150316,893,40,168,12,23,294,129,223,0.125,0.745,0.129,0.2284,0,0,0,0,2,1,21.0,1,0,0,2,6,13,1,2,8,1,16,8,3,3,2,34,35,16,0,5,3,5,4,1,1,0,1,1,1,1,15,11,0,1,7,0,0,2,3,6,1,1,13,5,33,7,24,21,2,21,0,2,0,4,31,9,0,2,10,116,48,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13426479242786502,0.0,0.202476747760052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551611583714597,0.0,0.0,0.1206629774240816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07416830716038683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10760636355965987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12423767594658786,0.0,0.0,0.12498760194747917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163885653043997,0.273722549457465,0.10776264114320856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460780551972248,0.08692037437771631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10349160885189032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06356704284001702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13403214597679353,0.0,0.2151830305304273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883567562560955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26049841118775496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13373222629714815,0.09917649273413692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08593842916087714,0.05944133892261067,0.12194432469557773,0.0,0.10767325669859516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3294331307359812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09021603892916448,0.09383865123369907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12711823315600415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11652529165776512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13062699739519287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09716503897421096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09147996343703953,0.19558590397421452,0.2126881778503716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11532800746617987,0.0,0.0,0.08260528008668985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07176354213072399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093950635844268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330259767822234,0.0,0.15670172353748849
divorce,sheriffpocket,2020/03/10,"A Little Numb Hello! 

I just wanted to introduce myself. I’m a single 32F and mom of three kids under the age of ten. I’m recently divorced after ten years of marriage. I left over a year ago because of the lack of emotional support and any sort of effort to grow as partners. 

My D-Day was last week and my mom was a witness to the divorce. I filed a 103 in my state because my ex husband and I are able to exchange the kids and work out financial issues mutually. It was not a typical lengthy proceeding. My ex didn’t have to be there bc he signed a waiver and my mom witnessed that we have lived apart for over a year. Abracadabra! 

Divorced.

As much as I’ve been looking forward to getting my maiden name back and just move forward with my life, I feel like I’m numb. I have good days, great days, and days where I’m struggling with my emotions. I’m a pretty social person, but I’ve developed some rough habits of hibernating in my own space the last ten years. I plugged into some social groups in town and it’s been nice. I’ve been meeting people, open to going on dates, and reconnected with friends I’ve had over the years. 

I don’t have supportive family that lives near by and I think that’s a main piece of why I’m having such a hard time. My sisters live five and seven hours away. I have my mom, who helps with the kids twice a week, but she’s never been emotionally supportive though out my whole life. There are days where I really feel distant from others, which I distance myself even more. I don’t like spotlights but I feel like I just need a pick me up. 

🍻",2.6648182762201458,4.369037517133961,3.8242367601246094,88.82011422637592,75.69781931464175,6.6247144340602295,24.349948078920043,7.3871296695380915,0.9948159916926272,1237,40,259,15,27,402,172,321,0.027999999999999997,0.8540000000000001,0.11800000000000001,0.9799,0,0,0,0,3,0,31.0,1,0,0,2,11,13,0,1,20,0,20,4,0,1,1,42,38,19,0,3,7,8,5,3,2,0,4,0,0,5,8,21,0,0,4,0,1,5,5,3,0,7,9,6,33,10,40,28,10,51,0,0,1,0,29,24,0,3,28,166,41,1,0.0918036124437493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08137836331837152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06242960454175993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862525158810272,0.07059131127043193,0.0,0.11192526011077096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2960286765142577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3098001227123838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060635420198606786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08654427549969095,0.0,0.13925599452443266,0.1311690381460872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07092724324533377,0.0,0.047963598447487606,0.0,0.0521741085668617,0.07700051452492596,0.0,0.10121380681445606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08223800468243901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06153402628394774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09040806582760376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09581912006396652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14966439401317422,0.0,0.0,0.09974489353387836,0.0,0.12968721284877274,0.13455182358130682,0.09201133734298424,0.24319281512393734,0.0,0.07709191312213516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4300771254079622,0.0,0.09757271142723742,0.06748621820518658,0.06807121538769062,0.070804605429806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06364506571569252,0.08015937335547774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09339727784972228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058811744897311675,0.0,0.09064499201787483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18716444356975329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09597306842746156,0.0,0.0,0.3125329544374184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05882404798655276,0.09019658311358424,0.0,0.05353142468104511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05414814916890482,0.0,0.147278640787674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828384810920061,0.10249545479743914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06683412323479666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29559258257054793
divorce,NewlyDatingguy,2020/03/10,"Received Full Custody of kids All,

Long time lurker here during my very highly contested divorce.  Recently I had my week long trial, and won full custody of my kids!  As a man, I was for a very long time perceived to be the toxic one, and the court treated me as such based on false allegations from ex.  The situation couldn't have been worse for me, and my relationship with them suffered.  My time was restricted with them, and ex had temporary sole custody while I was under supervised visitation.  

It was rough for almost 2 years of my life, but (at least in my case) the justice system prevailed, in spite of me being a male and virtually not being able to be a major part of the children's lives during that period.  There is hope for men (or women) in my same situation.",8.522442084942085,6.994589912162162,8.761119691119692,69.90743243243246,62.04054054054054,11.7003861003861,36.00772200772201,10.608840637214634,3.6823830115830094,609,22,112,12,7,202,95,148,0.055999999999999994,0.86,0.084,0.6563,0,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,0,0,2,1,3,5,1,0,9,0,14,1,0,0,1,17,16,10,0,2,3,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,7,2,7,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,2,0,1,8,1,16,3,22,3,7,23,0,1,0,0,15,9,0,3,11,82,18,1,0.18529332416969935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185544498590732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19577257029472045,0.0,0.18403807981745454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13087815463567093,0.0,0.0,0.1636173999729124,0.4919362831479476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12555955188630935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20065461337316007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18295480366438996,0.19893568606748946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4165549197053829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32413808223837826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30577279585350314,0.0,0.0,0.1486311279279146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18882972738047427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11932282568502005
divorce,hopefulfinn,2020/03/10,"He’s moving on... Whether it’s for physical needs or he’s actually getting into a new relationship, it hurts like hell to know that he’s sleeping with someone new. 
He was served divorce papers last weekend. 
We’ve been separated for 4 months. 

Why do I feel like I’ve been kicked to the curb, even though I’m the one that left the marriage because 4 years of ME trying to work on things with him was enough for me. Half my marriage was spent on the couch at couples therapy with him. 4 years of ME doing the work and him not giving a damn. I’m the one that’s feeling like I’m nothing. What. The. Heck.

I haven’t slept with anyone, haven’t gone on a date with anyone or am even thinking about it. 
Is this just a guy thing? That they NEED to have sex? It was always an issue in my marriage - he wanted more more more while once a week was just fine for me. And if my emotional needs had been met, maybe we would’ve had more sex. 

I’m heartbroken that he could move on so quickly. 
I wish I could cut him out completely but we have a child together.",1.4045929339477752,3.3921261105990794,2.7413824884792644,93.81302611367128,80.52073732718894,5.792319508448544,21.39324116743472,6.868970318607317,0.3320881720430111,814,24,183,9,21,263,120,217,0.053,0.8809999999999999,0.066,-0.3053,0,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,2,0,1,2,8,8,3,0,14,0,20,4,2,0,0,31,39,10,0,8,8,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,2,13,11,0,1,4,1,1,3,3,4,0,3,14,2,18,4,25,23,5,24,1,1,0,2,22,10,3,3,14,114,31,3,0.0,0.0,0.12745574879219265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086773259784858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18264999352137185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07961816241827363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13694127221057234,0.0,0.0,0.20856165354918788,0.14451660713389072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469177822349446,0.0,0.1349542284355363,0.0,0.17253230339228345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13207988234043014,0.18661449208209416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06823792176274658,0.12529225590198725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12932365269439267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13981986110858902,0.0,0.0,0.13632208236958632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0717794063363124,0.10646393869427054,0.0,0.0,0.14190728930920748,0.0,0.0,0.1914271886966195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312145069661359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10425102569508826,0.27763384166600785,0.0,0.2905352238118166,0.0,0.25228637865647896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12532305997479726,0.0,0.0,0.1390945465036818,0.17700836238507733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14022541288870952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13070353485783334,0.0,0.11066476016973192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14936301485291367,0.0,0.1735419117273446,0.08368910828634249,0.12832288612603518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08867508048049072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07703669629022185,0.0,0.1047668303953056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178544974662378,0.0,0.1501941462541807,0.0,0.0,0.1901701215087505,0.0,0.0,0.09278103574098374,0.0,0.0,0.16821609867475507
divorce,md-8888,2020/03/10,"How much longer to wait? Married 8yrs, but no longer have romantic feelings towards my husband \[51M\], and I \[40F\] just don't have any sense of fulfillment in my marriage anymore. No kids. We get along great, but are more less roommates at this point, no intimacy in over 6 years, not that he doesn't try sometimes, I am just not attracted to him anymore. For about a year I have considered divorce, about 3 months ago I approached him and told him how I felt and he started taking better care of himself and trying to be more romantic to rekindle my feelings, but its just not happening. I just feel annoyed by it actually. When I told him again that I am still thinking about leaving he broke down and went on about how he couldn't live his life without me and how he doesn't want to lose all the stuff we worked so hard for (nice house with pool); he wouldn't be able to afford to pay the mortgage on his own. This is his second marriage and he says he feels like such a failure. I asked him to consider therapy for himself, but he refused. Now I just feel guilty and feel like I may be just dragging things out and giving him a false sense of hope. I don't know if maybe 3 months wasn't long enough to wait to see if any of the feelings I used to have would come back or if I should give it more time.",7.0464597902097905,5.6157578825757595,6.5436363636363675,84.31814685314686,64.87121212121212,9.638228438228438,33.94405594405595,8.139509932561175,2.272264335664336,1027,36,222,10,13,318,148,264,0.121,0.7490000000000001,0.13,0.762,2,0,0,0,1,0,31.0,2,0,0,3,21,11,1,0,6,0,21,1,0,5,1,59,49,23,0,9,18,1,9,2,0,4,1,1,0,1,9,15,0,3,10,1,1,3,14,3,0,1,5,11,31,8,35,36,8,26,0,2,1,0,34,10,0,6,15,151,40,2,0.12153980264684695,0.0,0.11860531505601403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10773770175436838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16530246715455538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410696510129351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11362330880745505,0.0,0.0,0.09345660603113458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10749207861383778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12391792900168773,0.0,0.0,0.10469577811065836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12558310577136195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4301792325649613,0.17365611859141666,0.11669727052723095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06349953051261628,0.233184107051344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13399806149134455,0.0,0.0,0.10747724608924447,0.0,0.1088757903214152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12071644783075178,0.0,0.140240614008194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06679509699427126,0.0,0.0,0.12869310204088996,0.0,0.0,0.0858471569684548,0.11875641672136884,0.0,0.10732187244957372,0.10755890070791564,0.0,0.1359719504843218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12210306781855725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19402382183071776,0.0,0.08934573949436017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11489439863724644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09665332931525024,0.0,0.0,0.0968514868982418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020597258243823,0.0,0.0860264978753694,0.0,0.09706184339313538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13913399588762165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09138280577536076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13899135662550108,0.0,0.0807456443153606,0.07787779797396273,0.0,0.0,0.07087083632057843,0.0,0.0,0.2322729798057588,0.0,0.1650350958300634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10497136634027134,0.0,0.0,0.0716873245888138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11266861470880432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11716003259358874,0.0,0.08848242385896778,0.0,0.0,0.08633838865302518,0.0,0.0,0.15653529613122474
divorce,nevergiveuplove,2020/03/10,Final Divorce final today!,6.475000000000001,9.141556500000009,9.57,33.57500000000002,109.0,1.6,29.0,3.1291,3.0363,22,1,0,0,1,8,3,4,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9177859214734816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3970755625130713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,togume,2020/03/10,"Friendly Dissolution After Three Years We've been together for five years and married for a bit under three. For various reasons, the dynamic has changed and my wife has decided that we need to go our separate ways. We remain  on friendly terms and are working to get through this as fast and painless as possible. I've been the primary earner for most of our relationship and have supported travel, multiple moves, and more. Much of this was to enable her to find her passion and professional purpose (long subject, definitely part of the issue, etc). We did not have a prenup and she's asking for a lump sum of money to go our separate ways. We've negotiated it and are ready to sign, move on, and heal.

We got married in California and we're now living in separate places - she's in the East Coast and I'm living in Colombia (South America).

We've looked into LegalZoom, lawyers, and more.

Any thoughts on how to get this done as quickly and painlessly as possible? Any other thoughts are also appreciated.",5.053814616755794,7.106099764705885,5.993925133689839,74.293632798574,70.06951871657753,9.478645276292337,33.3222816399287,9.888512548439397,3.656752869875224,804,39,139,21,15,265,111,187,0.0,0.86,0.14,0.9753,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,7,0,0,2,4,5,0,0,7,0,12,3,0,2,0,29,24,20,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,6,19,0,0,5,1,1,5,1,0,0,3,8,1,12,5,31,16,9,27,0,0,1,1,16,12,0,1,8,97,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12112129548749878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059939266461845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14159323779418045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16535343787970722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16022299412541874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15499461510230475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689162466735457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384303111063992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340328991275633,0.0,0.15826161406596478,0.0,0.17215469442487033,0.0,0.1211351862038325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580833078684294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674812336616649,0.13403599283158085,0.1271869813469065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.321952799604344,0.1113394132849949,0.11230454727539488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16401477939951006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15824188020760127,0.0,0.0,0.3414933688687549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15572454763805835,0.0,0.16260973080329835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17187329356387962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404822375365754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404413906721856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11026358071739477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950685967599345
divorce,mrjuicepump,2020/03/10,"Going through divorce, losing step child in the process. How to cope? I’m going through a divorce at the moment. My ex had a daughter and i came into her life when she was about to turn 2. She is going to turn 9 this month at the end of march. I don’t know how to cope with the fact that she’s not in my life anymore. My ex doesn’t let me see her at all, which i understand, and when i asked if i could at least give her a proper goodbye, she told me the child didn’t want to see me. this was days after i officially left and days after the child found out about the situation. She could be lying to me and just wants to get back at me or she could be telling the truth and the child really doesn’t want to see me but, i just don’t know how to handle this. it’s going to be almost 3 months since i left and still i wake up almost every other night crying at the fact that she’s no longer in my life anymore. it’s hard even until this day to function at work and am told to take extended breaks to compose myself. i think about the child all the time. i’ve been trying to not look back on pictures but it’s just so incredibly hard. i’ve been to therapy and am taking antidepressants because of this. 

There was no physical or emotional abuse in the marriage whatsoever. No cheating as well. I drifted apart, and can admit that it was I who could’ve handled things better. I loved the child so much. 

How do i cope with losing the child? i miss her so much and it’s not getting any better. i’m just tired of constantly crying, not wanting to do anything and just missing her so much. i would’ve done anything and everything for her. I can’t talk with my ex about seeing her because she will just say it’s up to her child but never gives me any response from her. i know it’s also up to her and if she says no then i’m out of luck so i don’t see that happening at all. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Also, if i’m in the wrong sub, can someone point me in the right direction?",1.7742619047619037,3.348593902380955,3.3728571428571463,91.6604761904762,77.83333333333334,6.19047619047619,21.666666666666664,6.937597516519254,0.3848095238095239,1549,42,350,16,36,513,178,420,0.125,0.799,0.076,-0.9698,0,0,0,0,3,2,35.0,0,0,0,5,29,13,1,0,20,0,32,6,1,4,7,67,73,37,0,11,18,4,2,0,0,2,4,2,0,8,20,20,0,0,7,0,0,7,16,6,1,0,13,10,52,7,58,50,7,55,0,4,6,1,46,26,0,8,21,245,72,1,0.0,0.09677241481792163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.079812603216618,0.0,0.0,0.1635729426439671,0.0,0.0,0.130632144692271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666269440258184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16200080550158505,0.0,0.0,0.13442437547561292,0.0,0.07635580618804393,0.0,0.0,0.12560722922086714,0.0,0.09957756520827953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14447113726104868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09341530588193757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08826247609693677,0.0,0.2608457797246807,0.0,0.17943396493586822,0.15802231673142614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08358265532528464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187423193654523,0.07234047692533521,0.0,0.0,0.05394606635519576,0.0,0.06881534684634245,0.0,0.07340490276417415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08955325043642391,0.0,0.0,0.08534442264957147,0.15670165453742085,0.18567285679242504,0.0,0.0,0.09004780902961512,0.0,0.0,0.07222560105094042,0.0,0.14633086875580648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346605780258233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17748189515454774,0.08351899393247217,0.1730700051268311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06858706424584564,0.1827485576183112,0.0,0.0,0.0737155583779017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13038561797804135,0.0,0.1801232345764398,0.0,0.06299337796718248,0.0,0.0,0.07664716388223178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07720998909918951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05232358054588231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06975064912199458,0.0,0.12990367835759092,0.0,0.0,0.3254250135928455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06756302915123323,0.0918069715170127,0.0,0.0,0.06920360277952665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06522636402834849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228200072667712,0.06564787863061385,0.07138821050993728,0.0,0.09340334478636243,0.0,0.05426174288164967,0.05233452634730333,0.0,0.0,0.04762578998336316,0.09387426621899013,0.0,0.1560893694692713,0.0,0.05545247680112786,0.17767953689431848,0.0,0.08502734216189793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19269790749426646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07343631326238652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059460922922712975,0.0,0.0,0.11604022695290245,0.08929961721238941,0.0,0.0
divorce,yoeamos77,2020/03/10,"Does he remember the kids? My husband and I have been together for 2 years, married for 6 months. He left me and my daughter (from previous marriage) in January 2020 and went ghost on us. To this day we still have not heard from him although I do see him posting on Reddit all the time. It killed me when he left. The pain was so bad I wanted to die. But then I thought who would take care of my youngest daughter. She suffers depression, anxiety, add, and autism. So I decided to get help for myself and her. My husband on the other hand has not tried to reach out to her at all. It kills me that he just pushed her to the side. She cries all the time because when he left, her life was disrupted too. She misses him a lot. He was her go to person. When she would have a panic attack, he was the only person who could calm her down. I hoped he would at least keep in contact with her, even if he couldn’t be with me.",2.04529761904762,3.62723025925926,3.1269279100529097,93.68340773809528,77.09523809523809,6.4181216931216944,22.92361111111111,7.1686216300943375,0.5919547619047618,705,21,160,8,16,226,112,189,0.195,0.74,0.065,-0.9796,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,2,0,0,0,10,12,3,1,9,0,16,3,1,0,3,30,28,14,4,8,5,4,1,0,0,3,2,1,0,3,7,10,0,1,3,0,0,3,3,9,0,0,8,3,31,3,24,14,5,27,0,3,1,0,38,13,0,3,10,112,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10850534860256512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613607059343953,0.0,0.0,0.11842844178379434,0.08646286281980631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446128499679673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11324575381154853,0.0,0.15580190440500893,0.0914734951622165,0.0,0.12216448645208923,0.0,0.14720499866928055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12412300850504568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09368237363870864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07410427331247824,0.0,0.0806095565433155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950707296650245,0.0,0.0,0.14087670524720194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12607174435440138,0.3138445002325857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4623207864637861,0.0,0.10018406642905248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205852251636486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132133907605697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10787385923432116,0.1509251689011468,0.16641582130962584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24769418075229765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13584117925000136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16067431097784232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130261751211097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11327166221471192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10664419658808337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11260318278934554,0.16541324895435575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962983958213061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17061312607365928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08365947041631007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13148484328495455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3022720088693363,0.0,0.0,0.09133874119945884
divorce,readitrepostedit,2020/03/10,"[venting] guilty feeling of failing your kid I’m in the process of getting divorced and can’t help but feel that I failed my kid (5yo now) for what she has to go through in the future.. although I decided to divorce to avoid a lifelong conflict with my STBX (something we saw my parents go through) and help provide my daughter a stable peaceful upbringing, i still feel like I failed her. Can’t give you all the details but I did my best to save our marriage for 4 years, but decided in the end that divorcing was the right thing ... not trying to validate myself but man I feel pretty guilty for failing to provide the most lovey daughter a two-parent home and take care of her until she is strong and independent.. I hope she will forgive me at some point",5.897074829931973,6.3071237414966,5.790884353741497,82.63625850340135,66.68707482993196,8.165986394557821,36.061224489795926,7.793537801064563,2.668518367346938,598,29,114,6,9,187,94,147,0.158,0.593,0.249,0.9592,2,1,1,0,2,0,17.0,2,2,0,6,2,12,0,1,9,0,7,0,0,1,1,26,20,10,0,1,5,3,4,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,4,6,0,2,7,0,0,2,3,5,0,0,3,5,23,7,20,16,4,14,0,4,1,0,23,6,0,3,7,79,27,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22375222293485425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21738324446538745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888420266499829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4312243850424496,0.1523182754295147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139416286301393,0.2045318145524164,0.2423459179482809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28582223049822497,0.0,0.21386843056541108,0.21176704050168646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041643262437962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23674604130428964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015537004844881,0.0,0.0,0.21691265702561344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182081380994272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641405616271694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17027090914587292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16030844743642966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14164818827372588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14475655327368608,0.0,0.20827656882412093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373011590029575
divorce,dangerouslydinking,2020/03/10,"Photos/home decor/misc items Hey everyone -

Feeling quite bitter today and I (28F) was wondering what you all did with wedding photos, photos on your phone, home decor with your names on it, etc.. My stbx (29M) has moved out, of course leaving me to take care of all our responsibilities (home and dogs), and I'm tried of looking at photos of us.

Do you think there's a reason to keep photos from our wedding, trips we had been on, etc.? Or like home decor items? I feel like this may be a silly question, but I don't want to start deleting things or throw them away if I may want them at some point.... But idk why I would?  No kids. Just me and the doggos.

Thanks in advance. :)",3.3226666666666667,4.481642785185186,3.8350000000000013,91.61250000000004,73.0,6.288888888888889,21.64814814814815,6.2581,0.10768148148148128,516,11,114,3,10,162,93,135,0.067,0.8140000000000001,0.11900000000000001,0.8008,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,4,4,2,2,2,6,1,0,3,0,11,0,0,1,2,30,24,9,0,4,6,0,2,2,0,3,0,0,3,1,4,8,0,1,6,0,0,4,2,1,0,0,4,4,18,5,18,16,7,15,0,0,1,0,17,9,0,8,4,73,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15467674454770153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16785281996175094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3672153552451785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15731248486562607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664852993699154,0.117612800036323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4954165523587177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14633207085034727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17432102248008474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16086130228147302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13824902416914972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749772653713074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556300122543907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18442499460330225,0.1751059001911136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16926863521843832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165270463777495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237824241333341,0.0,0.0,0.15157059659879632,0.0,0.0,0.10937387517005076,0.1054892387861255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15605144337924962,0.0,0.0,0.11177400417721904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19803146359605625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942078871828448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485543516929032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17853587477615407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11694951750013947,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Moleetov,2020/03/10,"I feel worthless So I hope I follow the guidelines right. And there will likely be typos that I don't care about since I'm on my phone in tears right now, but here we go. I'm Mark I'm 34 the 7th was my 12 year anniversary with my wife or soon to be ex wife I guess. We have two biological children and I've been raising a child she was pregnant with when we first met. We are only renting a two bedroom apartment and I felt like we were just getting our lives together. We have two cars we are making payments on. She just got a job 4 months ago after being out of college for 3 years and I work as an electricians assistant picking up knowledge and my boss was helping me find classes that could fit my schedule. I was a real piece of shit at the start of our marriage. There was physical abuse and I'm 100% ashamed of that period but I went to classes and worked on myself and we stayed together. There has also been infedility in the past. We  have struggled and fought tooth and nail to hold this together or so I thought. Our main hobby is playing video games on xbox live together. We occasionally watch movies but not really any t.v we always just enjoyed gaming together. Two years ago I bought player unknowns battlegrounds for us to play together on our side by side t.v and xboxes and we were having a blast. But I worked 2nd shift so once the kids went to bed she would hop on and play and would meet new people to play with and she would introduce me to them. Well s year ago she introduced me to a guy from nova Scotia that we started playing with. Well one night she asked me if I wanted to see what he looked like, to which I said sure why not. I expected her to open FB or something to show me. What I was shown through was a screen cap of her and him video chatting and she was wearing a very low cut shirt. So my immediate response was wtf? To which she said it was nothing and I vehemently disagreed. From that point on if has been her and him in a relationship. Writing letters and phone calls and video chatting etc. She even moved her t.v and xbox into the bedroom where she would remain almost all the time. And I've lost memory of alot of other stuff along the way. I've list err ned to them fight and break up and she would even ask me to come sit with her basically wanting comfort. Well at some point I finally began telling her if it didn't stop I was going to leave. So at the end of this past June I left and moved into my friends neighbors basement for almost a month. I told her she needed to go file for child support so everything would be on the up and up on my side. We only had one car at the time and we were two months behind on payments because we were struggling since I was the only one working at this point so I got the car payments caught up while helping out food in the house I was in and I helped pay a few Bill's. Well her whole family always told her that they would help her if she would just leave me. Her and her immediate family absolutely live bashing me shd pointing out everything I do wrong like she's some perfect angel. So her dad paid the rent but Bill's had started falling even further behind at the apartment. I told her she would have to find a job because even when she started getting child support it wouldn't be enough to cover all the Bill's and I couldn't afford to keep myself up and able to work and pay sll.tje Bill's there. Just not plausible. Well she had already been in a relationship with this guy f ok r 6 months right in front of me so I made a pof account and ended up talking to this girl for a few weeks. We only met twice and nothing happened I just wasn't ready for anything intimate. Come to find out she was actually engaged and living with a guy who was best friends with a friend of my wife's sister and she was looking for an out by cheating. So I ended up getting put in touch with her fiancee and told him everything. The girl begged me not to but I was like, I'm literally in his shoes right now. Well once my wife found out we started talking and i agreed to move back in if she cut communication with the guy from canada to which she agreed. So i came back and that never happened and here I am a year later still living here and as far as I knew up iij until a few days ago they weren't really talking until I found a letter she was going to send to him. So on wed night this week she will be getting on a plane t ok g ok spend a week with him. She says she has to go for her to find out if he really us the love of her life. I've spent the past few days begging and pleading for her not to do it but there's nothing I can do. I can't even put devastation like this into words. I told her I'll be gone when she gets back and she has contingency plans for everything. I just want to disappear. I love my kids and I love her but I don't have anything but this. No where to go no.kne to talk to. I texted my boss and told him very vaguely that she was going to canada for a week. I just can't see myself being at work right now in the emotional state I'm in. I just want to get in my car and drive until I run out if gas money and see where I end up. A very idiotic idea I know but it's just how I feel. Yes there has been very very toxic periods in our marriage and I've done shit I wish I could take back but th iij s just feels wrong. I feel like I'm losing everything and I don't know what to do. Somebody please help me.",2.4819597069597066,3.8976820908289262,3.723439153439157,90.56272893772896,75.53439153439153,6.677737077737078,23.660832994166327,7.278113599176779,0.7522817528150858,4257,127,946,48,91,1389,409,1134,0.08,0.7809999999999999,0.14,0.9971,5,1,1,0,2,0,66.0,25,0,4,12,61,54,8,3,49,4,83,11,6,6,5,193,172,95,0,28,37,7,6,7,5,12,1,3,6,12,30,95,1,3,17,16,14,30,17,17,6,10,64,16,166,37,142,85,15,175,1,4,7,3,156,77,2,17,70,633,196,16,0.03979053553271027,0.04714527800974077,0.038829822826169084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410876357048602,0.0,0.0796889472101202,0.0,0.04390984541469212,0.03182047688958387,0.06621782623311406,0.0,0.0,0.02705892863784671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06548844074013838,0.0,0.07439755879123837,0.0,0.0,0.12238586280590236,0.0,0.04851188227668383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041757712160622164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04063058562747321,0.045509772329803536,0.040569102875776634,0.0,0.0,0.06855204613325866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06353900967504961,0.0,0.0,0.051323207259449326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04071953282882348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04475899681463436,0.14097041610128594,0.04111425988590023,0.04437696527202003,0.13140636722938442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788058381412882,0.0,0.07502195126652861,0.0,0.08047716134863454,0.02842636653509315,0.03820515410063939,0.043588586730072834,0.14547131444226413,0.03384580919711886,0.048114873510262224,0.08725653682291401,0.09222620714364266,0.0,0.1247334751323077,0.0,0.15829714821543306,0.0,0.063648252400212,0.0,0.0438337609139224,0.15759554414587193,0.07037327832262814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13335378609542187,0.0,0.0,0.03952097997681508,0.0,0.045912935625183164,0.0,0.04491867129579867,0.0,0.0,0.0789719334717203,0.035367656246144415,0.0,0.0,0.04373567543274812,0.0,0.0,0.08426486365872976,0.04323253328182537,0.0,0.028105231992690532,0.13607752034588705,0.0,0.17567885935894054,0.0,0.06682805669004573,0.044515431236292924,0.043436069930175084,0.0,0.10773753553349916,0.03765076681595013,0.02656049144665624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12704170335342746,0.1268731263744314,0.0,0.02950417791345965,0.03068891401153195,0.03842994716801254,0.0,0.07468144422529739,0.0,0.11454027600093995,0.0,0.0,0.08475124343948212,0.08088928999235424,0.12104998121131315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11395370567674636,0.02758574724272056,0.0,0.0,0.04367805914135376,0.15045967006441688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08000095686006578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04529034069307461,0.07647250787144295,0.0,0.0,0.08544028793981755,0.0,0.1699044996657106,0.07569982246511847,0.03164303093076468,0.0,0.0,0.0951237153647038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08168882583793374,0.06583028435341302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030632698242760218,0.0,0.0,0.14081972925407382,0.04241141657865303,0.03177677307595255,0.03326666940758422,0.0,0.08319541438058428,0.04555064338273382,0.0,0.09030765636668037,0.037502108837934166,0.0,0.02991753072735128,0.12792850088998034,0.034778681894435885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03158924056702244,0.046404362512267545,0.0,0.0,0.22812937132466146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19434785712256009,0.0,0.09572622993286306,0.0,0.0,0.16415679508240213,0.09387795517767794,0.03158387500888876,0.12767026990494487,0.0,0.21465882057070174,0.07377245016627852,0.03590476929638129,0.04442471192032582,0.04575715213980842,0.0,0.0,0.17380790262482426,0.0,0.0,0.2543944931658028,0.08700940836420784,0.0,0.12811900149556496
divorce,f-upme,2020/03/10,"Is This Still Possible? I really hope so I am a 46 y/o Male. Together with my wife for 10 years, married for 3.5 years. We have 2 kids.

I cheated on my wife for 5 months back in July 2018. Thought i found my soul mate when the affair happened, i would bail on spending time with my kids to spend time with the AP and thought everything was perfect with the relationship, feel like i had this connection with her that i didn't have with my wife. I was so into the relationship back then and can't see myself ending the relationship with the AP. I confessed to my wife around Feb 2019, she was devastated, took the kids and went to my in-laws place for 2 weeks. During the 2 weeks, i continued enjoying my time with the AP. I felt terrible, but at the same time i seek solace in the AP. My wife has always been the person who supports me whatever i do, she's an admin clerk at an oil & gas company, we live a fairly normal life i would say, with the kids we don't have much time to spend on our own, perhaps thats why i thought i was getting bored with the marriage.  


In April 2019, decided to walk out of the marriage but we didn't officially file for divorce. I gave my wife the house even though she didn't ask for anything, whatever that i'm already paying for, i continue paying. She was very devastated at that point she didn't want to see my face. 

I went ahead and be together with the AP, moved in with her. I see my kids once a week, but did not talk much with my wife at all. And i thought, wow, this is just what i wanted, until December 2019. I guess its true when people kept telling me that i will regret this once the reality sets in. The ""honeymoon"" phase is gone, and thats when it hits me. That i threw away everything that i built with my wife, i hurt her without feeling anything, disrespected her in every way. While my AP did not threaten me to leave my wife during the time we were together, i realized that was what she was after, she loves me but she also enjoy being with someone who is taken, it makes her feel special, makes her feel like a winner, to ""own"" something which belongs to other people. I felt sick to the stomach, i ended the relationship (was an ugly one because she didn't want to let go) and have been spending past 2 months trying to reconcile with my wife.

I rent an apartment nearby where my home is, every time i spend time with my kids i try to have more conversation with my wife, but she shuts me down immediately. Almost disgusted everytime she sees me, i have been trying everything i could, i just wants a life with her but right now, she just doesn't want to even see me. And she has already filed divorce too. Is there still chance in this guys? I know i f\*cked up big time, i regret it and i'm still regretting it every single day. Should i let this go? Should i continue fighting?",3.77950920507454,4.8527020105078815,4.761953782409979,85.72693904574774,71.80210157618214,8.092623125880996,26.186023664089532,8.482186458684032,1.5834082354448769,2212,70,468,36,41,722,245,571,0.095,0.818,0.087,-0.2805,1,1,1,0,4,0,76.0,6,0,0,2,22,20,3,0,31,0,49,6,2,2,3,88,93,25,0,15,12,11,6,2,1,5,3,1,2,9,26,36,0,1,16,0,8,9,11,9,0,1,35,13,96,11,65,47,8,76,2,4,5,1,67,27,0,3,40,316,122,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07062119396603712,0.0,0.15565349116098584,0.056399291223807727,0.058682943044630995,0.0764144505256987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160731077008205,0.06278273004386198,0.06593190917859748,0.0,0.06626111616279465,0.10845965542908824,0.0,0.04299174688411697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05630894727269944,0.0,0.0,0.045483173033667536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12492948454585134,0.0,0.0,0.09316297803768828,0.0,0.1782625614819522,0.0,0.1901515663547194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426394354653042,0.1007669954294256,0.13543125829630462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07732767250052337,0.0,0.0,0.03684671149417102,0.0,0.08016263950393446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769189179023014,0.06983142506552886,0.06236554895554056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07074292006167006,0.07004782696680119,0.0,0.08137706534851698,0.07549910592728283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03875902149676663,0.0,0.0,0.07467641987130039,0.0,0.14423439414895026,0.09962862401897588,0.06891048468688174,0.0,0.06227539068777808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06365210116506431,0.0,0.09415276190519777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112585710922264,0.07495754413838697,0.10368885123419824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06910010711660104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15021490962908332,0.04778996701815805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06732465863408303,0.09778713234042256,0.06158022748890605,0.0736842340540565,0.0,0.0666694812498145,0.07950700941691945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045180500772321414,0.0,0.0,0.3028723735652833,0.0,0.06022847105738061,0.0,0.05608478222563467,0.0,0.0,0.28099883311829904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05975610606552585,0.0542940470427076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689654889600497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08003160714463077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0566858001732285,0.06164247680356213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06929103702227209,0.22395777215540252,0.3701163637520949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07835652877095704,0.14364674463038007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0581910002439338,0.2079891099657976,0.055979933009292965,0.16971412994476848,0.0,0.0,0.1307558625114055,0.06363837810781219,0.0,0.0,0.06798415491853016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10019871554601682,0.0,0.0,0.09083233921006544
divorce,117madhatter,2020/03/10,"Changed his mind on kids, now what? I (32f) have always wanted children and until recently so had husband (31m).  We’ve been together six years  and exactly a year ago he told me tat he didn’t think he did actually want more children.  Obviously this was unexpected so we went to a therapist and determined that he had some things that he needed to work through.  so we’ve been going together, he’s been going and I’ve also gone on my own over the last year.   All in hopes to figure out where he was on kids.  I’ll also mention that he has a young son from a previous brief relationship that we have partial custody of.  

I’m conflicted because I have two really rough choices.  I can either come to terms with no more children or we get divorced.  I am still very much in love with him and I don’t want to go down that road, but how do I determine I won’t resent him later? I always planned on kids of my own but I still don’t currently want/am not ready for them and I worry that I may never be. I am afraid of making a mistake and I’m not certain enough in any direction to move forward.  Full disclosure Our marriage isn’t perfect and it could definitely be better but it’s pretty damn good. Hoping someone here may have been through something at all similar? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.",2.246961538461541,4.556338696153848,4.013076923076927,84.1019230769231,79.34615384615384,7.230769230769233,26.153846153846153,8.263242389622931,1.9145000000000003,1031,42,202,21,26,346,156,260,0.071,0.785,0.14400000000000002,0.9653,1,0,1,0,1,0,23.0,4,0,1,4,11,12,2,1,6,0,30,1,0,2,7,47,49,19,0,9,7,2,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,6,11,15,0,1,2,0,0,9,9,4,0,2,13,1,23,8,27,28,12,38,0,0,0,1,31,15,1,6,16,137,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.1342396076992582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12193944943441845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22001482487230192,0.2289233988016079,0.0,0.0,0.1870922760254651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838558557777628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12166144878991855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455212060403459,0.11849654608400892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10983119560655924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14213719549111606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0718698994313616,0.0,0.2345371108712784,0.1153795673009894,0.0,0.15166139222819824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732580507373543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11213050411510504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241540947297758,0.0,0.09182297761337486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388973079336618,0.0,0.0,0.14620548049993412,0.10112309902518886,0.1019996739702532,0.10609545647599238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399489025739286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08812504332385196,0.0,0.1358248061269574,0.14768893984011436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11655491519286645,0.10590111145463567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21971264565180465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15971882251314898,0.09138935815143494,0.08814347859174415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314453474261976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13437702363010184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11350215977899307,0.3245479622988883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12752034452575614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014598301516033,0.13969978452910695,0.0,0.09771932578817848,0.0,0.0,0.2657541536037257
divorce,Smokin234,2020/03/10,"First time poster - What is to early to go on a date? Is the day of our first mediation appointment to early? My STBXW doesn't seem to think so. Hello all, I have lurked off and on for a couple years trying to understand what I can expect if it came to a divorce and it has come to that after finally deciding we are not good together anymore. I finally can be honest to myself and say I deserve better and so do my boys from a healthy relationship they can learn from and find their own happiness as they grow up.

I (35M) have been threatened with divorce from my STBXW (39F) since 2015 after our second child just turned 1 y.o. and I was about to leave on a 15 day work trip. We tried to make it work off and on the 14 years we have been together, 9 years married, but we always seemed to be unable to truly speak the other's love language along with some verbal/emotional abuse from her end when upset but no infidelity(that I know of). Some instances of her lost temper leading to physical slapping, or throwing things like glasses of water or her engagement ring with the ring in it at me. To blocking me from exiting the house when I had enough and needed to leave in the dead of winter and walk around for 2 hours. 

Anyway I am OK with moving on because I have truly given my all in many ways especially the past 18 months sitting her down on several occasions to discuss why I was not alright with how I was being treated. She continued to blame my immaturity, trivialize my feelings and dismiss that she had done anything the would have hurt an adult in the relationship but not in so kind of words. 

Since 2013 she has owned and run a small business that I fully supported financially and physically by renovating the space after my regular work day was over often until 11:30-midnight and on weekends with help from friends and family. In the end this business consumed her time and ended up being the excuse she used to escape ""dealing"" with me and handing off the kids once I got home from work. I didn't complain because I believed in her goals and the business, also I love spending time with my two boys aged 7 and 5 now. Many things to digress about here so I will skip onto my question because my wall of text has become lengthy at an alarming rate.

We have our first mediator appointment on Thursday and she told me tonight she hired a babysitter to watch the boys Thursday night because she was going out. I am not crushed by any means, only can't stand to look at her face without concerns of things not being amicable anymore with what emotions and thoughts are streaking through my mind the rest of the evening/night. I know I will keep a cool head at the mediator because that is how I am *most* of the time. I am not surprised that she is doing this for many reasons, most of all because she has never truly considered how I would feel about the majority of decisions she has made in our relationship with heavy narcissistic and selfish tendencies when dealing with others.

So does anyone else NOT think this date is too soon while I live at the house still until the divorce is finalized, let alone filed, and I can move out without concerns of issues of abandonment could be used against me?",10.000587208577484,7.377135761750406,9.289959481361423,70.72525464405936,60.102106969205856,12.085500561027304,40.424448323151715,10.214889679676881,4.000288667248473,2563,103,474,40,26,817,305,617,0.09300000000000001,0.8059999999999999,0.10099999999999999,0.7737,0,1,0,0,4,0,47.0,9,0,3,11,24,24,1,2,32,3,54,6,3,9,4,104,84,44,1,6,16,0,3,1,1,4,0,4,1,6,20,44,1,3,17,1,1,12,14,8,0,5,18,10,72,16,104,54,12,98,0,3,2,2,55,36,0,11,48,356,92,8,0.0,0.08515970102017321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07444045572004046,0.0,0.0574781274526881,0.059805462204005615,0.0,0.0,0.04887722312824472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425606686316491,0.05025642278991445,0.07364406731649079,0.0591467085267293,0.06398367215234621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628846980022899,0.07937989824125742,0.0,0.08097811182553598,0.0,0.06356728246548236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08220544598976542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061913642250908514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057386055353487876,0.07952792735724845,0.0,0.13905959950139832,0.1481992054997212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06289798599040825,0.07355271594044424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060042042949969364,0.16169860260065125,0.19097880521663085,0.0742657213480756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06775701840688657,0.0,0.07268395997140968,0.0,0.0,0.2362054804125633,0.0656921231981878,0.18340960836525053,0.0,0.0,0.055530172254327374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08169603394600887,0.06028504196125342,0.0574847192940371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765118958582095,0.0,0.0,0.07376412136660321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04817605933492596,0.0,0.07209612900176933,0.0,0.0707820470509784,0.16586737997350315,0.0769432937699848,0.0,0.0,0.07501845551793937,0.0,0.06388548670947758,0.0,0.07484638215664867,0.07900085015934437,0.0,0.0,0.1522097418579321,0.0,0.0734966939305705,0.0,0.03511432090468468,0.0,0.06346662813391986,0.0,0.0603565995125497,0.0,0.07845966520720883,0.0,0.12973934615166105,0.06800952673487484,0.047976883497829435,0.21860882586691344,0.0,0.07829255892554693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07257290205675905,0.0,0.0573696557290219,0.15278274538698444,0.0,0.05329413837451751,0.055434156975718615,0.0,0.0,0.13489897038399154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07654415094235968,0.0,0.054663906140945545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06861248121581069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08051605142439475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.073899105525802,0.0,0.2314994104349873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057157602355834114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13086395434626685,0.0,0.0811978902826118,0.0,0.11891089776692708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05739918415530178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08156249512867522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14325096080310998,0.09210874039165466,0.0,0.05706043946938112,0.1676427334572066,0.0,0.0,0.06867930319523663,0.0,0.09759633164259113,0.07817897418284124,0.07021108414314159,0.07482403999808243,0.0,0.12415323214487832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0570507475268206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06485568751649701,0.0,0.0,0.13856918540568686,0.0,0.2093023896534631,0.0,0.0,0.10211537091654907,0.0,0.0,0.13885474418173355
divorce,Eld3rDrake,2020/03/10,"I (36m) cant stop asking her (37f) to reconcile So about a week ago my wife said that she wanted a divorce. We have been married for 9 years and this isnt the first time we have gone through something like this.  We tried couples therapy in the past and it did help for a bit. 

Thinking about divorce has my mind doing flips.  One minute Im good with the idea of leaving this marriage and the other I want to fall to my knees and beg for her to go back to therapy (she doesnt want to). 

While I feel blindsided by all this deep down I know that I could have done more for our marriage.  I sort of stopped working on myself mentally and physically and I know that is a big part of her wanting to leave.  

How do I stop myself from flip flopping?  I know that this is a process but does anybody have any real life advice on how to get my mind right and stay consistent?",2.6187789305666382,3.9263362290502815,3.5696129289704714,92.2429748603352,74.97765363128491,6.678531524341581,25.63487629688747,7.1686216300943375,0.9275200319233834,671,23,151,7,14,215,109,179,0.016,0.9159999999999999,0.068,0.6599,0,0,1,0,2,0,15.0,4,0,0,2,6,2,0,0,9,0,16,2,1,2,1,34,30,12,0,5,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,11,11,0,3,7,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,5,2,24,2,25,24,4,22,0,0,0,0,17,7,0,1,12,103,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13319099802162138,0.12082192161438395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09268882389354556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12742230701746562,0.0,0.0,0.10480645627640993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14880453937022312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10882463524264686,0.1508136015438855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11927724149604342,0.13948244802712972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06891748686293918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11593689795310165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07121123964234208,0.0,0.07746255636653505,0.1143221582596951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09135916473535377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15386635845755572,0.1472276274067633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22472110993233968,0.0,0.0,0.2886445066843254,0.0,0.0,0.0962728766361475,0.06658940296047555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13735856413939013,0.0,0.2752487358184351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09236055690799017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14759985647355,0.13011398318650486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551394908779778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11639964360014833,0.12965272215966767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10493056878963224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452778997626786,0.0,0.3418592624467353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31174236171419484,0.0,0.0,0.08733567775339554,0.0,0.0,0.07947775468789015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09253890275784434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3215736059401646,0.0,0.10933181540592728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09922818387301856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08777287324251078
divorce,wishingforoneday,2020/03/10,"Stay for the kids? Is it worth staying in a marriage for the children if you and your spouse do not fight? My wife and I are basically roommates. We never argue but we are going through the motions of life. I feel like I am living with a friend.

I fell in love with someone else and cheated on my wife. My wife doesn't deserve this and neither do my children. I desperately want to be with this woman but I don't want to hurt my children. I always thought of divorce and cheating happened only in super unhappy couples that fought all the time. Can I justify getting a divorce because I want to be happy when I know it will hurt my children?",3.007400568181815,4.900325109375004,4.2513068181818205,85.30846590909094,75.25,5.904545454545455,31.16761363636364,6.574015621080383,1.7559906249999997,506,25,96,4,11,166,79,128,0.125,0.613,0.262,0.9591,0,0,0,0,3,0,10.0,2,2,0,1,1,12,5,0,7,0,12,2,0,0,2,22,23,9,0,4,4,4,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,6,5,10,0,0,3,0,1,3,5,7,0,0,2,1,20,5,15,18,2,12,0,2,0,1,22,4,0,1,4,72,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16771260719675152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12286803598780575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22302036554020088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16837605117420607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10191390534369106,0.14399325124166815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15572340090089948,0.0,0.10530586454421736,0.0,0.11455019613410646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17823729131368618,0.2145625008661365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4315445422175976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11077114081810524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423665499610289,0.0984711779131376,0.0,0.1779796239684188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18191418640720367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15545414501501958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15329412867312406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17077964778543728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42966854419370304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16001473307836714,0.11753023415232082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35665282711911184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,StartingOverAt50,2020/03/10,"Divorced 2 years now. ExHusband went no contact immediately and avoided all family functions that I attended (even our kids birthdays). His father recently passed and all of a sudden he wants to be “friends”. You can check my username for backstory and details. 
So, EX all of a sudden wants to be friends after 2 years of no contact and complete avoidance.  I agreed to go to dinner with him just to see what would happen. It went well, small talk and polite gestures but then he asks if I have to go home or did I want to go out and do something. Um, I declined. 
As we are leaving the restaurant he is being very flirtatious. 
I’m all for being civil adults who can be around each other at social functions but I’m really, REALLY spooked at the thought of being even remotely romantic with him. There are soooooo many issues that need to be discussed and he is acting like the past 4 years never happened. I’m mildly confused by his behavior and I’m not sure why I’m posting here. Maybe I need someone to scream some sense into me or maybe we can actually get to the point where we can finally address all the crap that caused our split. 
🥺 confused 😞",3.386300448430493,5.566006139013452,4.368365470852016,83.60295179372199,75.05381165919283,6.97121076233184,28.63878923766817,7.908726449838941,2.008876412556054,911,39,168,14,20,295,139,223,0.09699999999999999,0.826,0.077,-0.6601,0,2,1,0,1,0,19.0,5,1,0,0,10,11,1,4,7,0,19,2,1,1,7,44,40,16,0,7,7,3,0,1,2,1,0,1,2,2,7,17,1,2,1,0,1,8,4,6,2,0,4,2,18,5,26,28,7,29,0,0,1,0,29,8,1,6,13,111,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.13504959300583447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12319727599622632,0.12937684624990148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14216561554926851,0.0,0.0,0.1451002661942843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18281181958670747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13046266049687022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15160050881377207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21384099184071287,0.0,0.07230355357801954,0.0,0.2359522789942231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447573000398079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13881739519016992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14444418487342645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14653602197399368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06761082223624561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403066904913467,0.2780645977943265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052302549523411,0.10673562343053668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13210981021851473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308241689445557,0.0,0.13254026445395234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17731355802484966,0.0,0.1366443563261645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11027966058216077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14107213398888266,0.11725819323675772,0.10654010575518907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13043182190391653,0.0,0.0,0.11123339434473856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10986694688353456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11418701787163313,0.2448796836336775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12443007394498674,0.256579573247104,0.12487629681320045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09830895219884478,0.0,0.0,0.2673576815286797
divorce,TiredPokeman,2020/03/10,"Signing lease on new apartment tomorrow My wife and I have 2 kids (12 and 7) and she wants me to move out for a while, so I am taking a short-term lease nearby.  We will split time with the kids 50/50.  I know that I will be extremely lonely when I don’t have the kids but I am mostly afraid that I won’t want move back in when the lease it up. There is so much tension in the house and not having to deal with the mood swings and screaming will want me to make this a permanent split.   

I wouldn’t care so much if it was just me but I know it will really affect the kids...they hate the fighting but we often have good times together as a family.",2.5010869565217395,3.316390557971016,3.6441739130434776,93.51495652173914,74.57971014492753,7.259130434782609,20.321739130434786,7.554174236665415,0.2760556521739135,499,9,120,6,10,162,84,138,0.12300000000000001,0.797,0.08,-0.7854,0,2,0,0,2,0,13.0,2,0,0,0,9,9,2,2,11,0,16,0,0,2,0,27,25,16,0,5,6,1,0,0,0,6,0,1,0,3,6,10,0,0,2,0,0,2,4,6,0,0,1,1,16,2,12,17,3,16,0,1,0,0,9,6,0,3,8,84,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16651088042856274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22078357363075168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22324991761850926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041407540129046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18162891772727516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2137948222834316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498655697229916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23801657006722626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445464603182827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4603092871673744,0.31837316541948285,0.0,0.0,0.2091419447005054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872522334761095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16281600725601422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525399937703005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3831741823218431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,purplepeacock123,2020/03/11,"Has anyone ever noticed that divorced dads get different responses here than divorced moms for similar issues? I have noticed that when dads ask a question about children and custody, they get different answers than moms who ask similar questions. 

It seems that, in general, according to replies,  what the mother thinks or wants seems to take precedence over what dad thinks or wants. 

I’ve actually tested this theory using alt accounts and the result has been interesting. 

I’m a woman, a mom, and I notice I get way more empathetic responses than when I ask the same question from a man’s point of view. I get a lot of, “They’re her kids too!” when I post as a dad but I never get “They’re his kids too!” when I post as a mom. 

It’s really something how biased things seem to be towards women. It really sucks for the dads. 

Does anyone else see it? Just curious.",3.2817073170731703,5.764207597560978,4.524573170731706,80.8800304878049,76.6829268292683,7.758536585365856,26.713414634146343,8.660442795831766,2.3113609756097557,682,27,122,15,16,224,97,164,0.044000000000000004,0.905,0.051,-0.4372,2,0,1,0,2,0,19.0,0,0,1,0,11,2,1,0,11,0,5,0,0,3,2,26,25,13,0,2,4,10,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,12,3,0,0,9,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,11,1,17,23,3,14,0,0,2,0,28,4,1,9,7,76,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.1012367366509534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.145076934297954,0.10629542377270762,0.0,0.0,0.2909528882171376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21677556923180602,0.0,0.0,0.09078488354761413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08666270932753016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09384012378477186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27100325330820624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10827917048340123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819731132765485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4860031521054664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08001183831813359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35433114742987115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980692473352929,0.0,0.1987113555772479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34864265860875515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13291891947893347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08266854203574242,0.28332708914680976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07986527311220279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07800069531737502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06892124122266492,0.13294672537605548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0895993452322266,0.0,0.0,0.12237884612812998,0.08234517193152381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Wonderful-Judgment,2020/03/11,"I can't see past the fog of tomorrow. What do I do with 13 years of memories, 13 years of photos?  What do I do with the future I had planned up until 5 days ago?

​

5 days ago.  My fiance whom I've referred to as my ""wife"" for as long as I can remember now, let me know that she was no longer happy and couldn't do this any more.  She told me that, this last year she's felt as if I've pushed her away.  That she feels our lives have drifted apart and that we no longer have the same goals.  She says she knows I want children and she doesn't know if she'll ever be ready to be a mother.  She says that this way I can find someone who wants the same things I do and I can be truly happy.  Well I'm 40 now and I don't feel like I'll ever be happy again.  I don't see myself being in a relationship in the near future if ever again, and I don't see myself having children.  I was okay with the thought of not having children because I thought, at least when I die she'll be there holding my hand and I won't be alone (I was sure I would die before her).  Now I'll have nothing.

​

We were happy at the end of 2018 the best we had been in a long time things were looking great.  My mom got incredibly sick in December.  I spent almost two whole months in between the hospital and work to try and be with her.  She almost died in January while I was in the the room alone with her, it was one of the worst days of my life until that point.  I told myself I needed to spend more time with her as these moments might be my last with her.  My wife hardly ever joined my to visit my mother, she always said she didn't know what to do while she was there, so I told her it's okay, just stay home and relax I'll be okay and I'll be home soon.

​

In April of last year while my mother was just out of a nursing home and trying to adjust to living at home with the loss of a leg and complications from her poor health, my wife told me she wasn't happy and wanted to leave me.  I broke down, everything that was holding me together in that time came tumbling down.  I didn't know what to do.  I begged her to stay, and she did.  A month later on Mother's Day my mother passed away.  I couldn't have made it without her here to get me through it.

​

In August I was hurt on the job and had knee surgery in December, she again helped me through this.  I've always been grateful for her.  In January it was my mother's birthday and it was a hard day.  I cried a lot and told my wife that the pain hadn't gone away, but that I was afraid to share it with here, because last time it was too much for her and she wanted to leave me.  She told me that I shouldn't think that way, that she would never leave me, that she loved me.

​

Today I sit here, I can't eat I have no idea what I'm going to do, I love her so much.  What do I do?  I feel like screaming, I walk my dog and cry wanting for random strangers to console me to hug me like my mother used to, like my wife will never again.  What do I do?  Sorry for the long post.  I've run out of people to talk to so now I find myself here trying to get it out.  Thank you for reading this.  What do I do with those 13 years?  What do I do with my life?",1.8747921261128797,2.8679789393939434,3.1994772523074424,95.41274687576576,76.34487734487735,5.980549429606035,20.001878624520128,5.9583978994396425,-0.2491707424650813,2467,48,598,13,53,804,244,693,0.079,0.8320000000000001,0.08900000000000001,0.8834,1,2,0,0,0,0,84.0,4,1,0,5,28,29,0,1,24,3,80,12,3,2,7,93,123,38,3,14,8,13,7,4,0,8,5,4,5,3,43,38,1,2,18,2,3,9,21,7,1,2,40,15,116,22,88,61,11,101,0,3,4,3,73,30,0,8,60,422,159,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08857192575297017,0.0,0.10005417527007272,0.10348567078733054,0.0,0.0,0.08314038801970541,0.2706547566209884,0.3035304852308056,0.033974081517388656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14081540450869254,0.0,0.0,0.060909530642864876,0.0,0.04251174010628218,0.0,0.05242927153221999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057140204465005125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10975603352795456,0.16109828760252068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555498005412247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05112090297143957,0.0,0.0,0.04424916884427702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18076442421349564,0.0,0.0,0.0449002560456181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757828684721752,0.07138196096615869,0.04796882526915925,0.0,0.09132390940989696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052203412643187085,0.0,0.028393058558651506,0.0,0.03995706822737327,0.05508037650790189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659133662438601,0.08950755640425878,0.0,0.0,0.05310446900510743,0.0,0.0,0.033486709397070984,0.0,0.20045326694337864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053482533733534614,0.056398042238884866,0.0,0.0,0.04957696110705154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13728180282533167,0.16289420251101966,0.0,0.15869926256000186,0.0,0.051086835770194,0.0705755542330868,0.09763048917188713,0.0,0.08823006954376543,0.1326373982242431,0.04195328418252111,0.0,0.0,0.04247366573143078,0.09018055527835647,0.04727275932160016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052998991466924925,0.0,0.05851180471438235,0.07975417732911247,0.0,0.07345176364426967,0.0370442362648983,0.07706348468280577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04793735832341019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03385375881980502,0.0,0.05316028697269865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04769186710587097,0.03463553336074905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047227748410355035,0.0,0.04784726181999322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049972884916327114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05363766145708559,0.05659422177832541,0.0,0.04752279688717279,0.07945938486237121,0.0,0.0,0.11943343741692568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0423304080118817,0.0,0.0,0.05592541911082026,0.0,0.10650007200179744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047086110458634436,0.0,0.0,0.04015544532271794,0.0,0.04599587122613885,0.0,0.0,0.06638156464002981,0.03201194395106427,0.0,0.07932431091121167,0.11652683044879708,0.0,0.04735563661680583,0.2864298864757803,0.0,0.1017573886610822,0.0,0.04880304042323751,0.0,0.0,0.04314885093277649,0.0,0.0,0.1473366399950155,0.07931083736154831,0.0,0.0,0.0449194691956823,0.0,0.0,0.05577784709689685,0.0,0.04815904525118644,0.0,0.03637101288064912,0.0,0.0,0.07097939927140468,0.0,0.3035304852308056,0.16086096604167488
divorce,babablackdeep,2020/03/11,"Good marriages don’t end, that would just be sad. For one of you, for me, it was not a good marriage. My STBX told me when I left I’d never find anyone to love me the way he did. What he didn’t understand was that I didn’t want someone to love me his way. He was abusing me in ways I had no idea until my therapist pointed it out. During our marriage I was filled with guilt and shame about what was going on I couldn’t even tell anyone. Had I been able to do that, to get feedback, I would’ve been able to leave sooner. I stayed and stayed and tried and tried when he helped me believe everything was my fault. If I could just fix myself our marriage would work. When I’d tell him something didn’t feel right or made me feel bad, he’d tell me other women would do those things for him, that in fact I was the only woman who had a problem with it. It is sick. 

If you are in a relationship now and your gut is telling you something is not right. If your spouse is doing things that make you feel bad. If they say things that make you feel bad, that is not love. It is not love. Don’t doubt yourself anymore. Good marriages do not end.",2.5511483031148323,3.620525874476989,3.2151115760111573,95.66098442584844,74.77405857740587,5.9805671780567184,21.645978614597865,5.82211442006289,-0.07792626685262682,880,20,207,4,18,276,113,239,0.141,0.758,0.10099999999999999,-0.8072,0,0,2,0,0,0,25.0,2,7,1,1,8,16,0,3,5,0,36,6,1,3,2,40,52,14,0,11,12,1,4,0,0,3,1,1,0,2,20,8,0,0,7,0,0,2,13,9,0,1,18,5,36,7,18,27,0,24,0,1,0,4,39,9,0,6,8,139,56,2,0.1958534412401582,0.11602715083893665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09711699316033116,0.1369452799344484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24529416394773934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11032988001223763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07818651804535379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17346801655758765,0.0,0.0,0.06467967540066405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08801022214193031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980587692569809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08950324855462538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0511626697476498,0.0,0.05565401205055322,0.2464088614629949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06563821662496071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11054734789866824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10369025763443183,0.1063976684834334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3535307546962351,0.09266063081976716,0.130733692854701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07552712393303697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06635768025561506,0.0744776837786045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09257240369933672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09370264634091696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10513664989383632,0.0,0.167257768694073,0.0,0.07787525872784982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08297299259717329,0.15077754760008094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087537092324556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3423690804675177,0.0,0.0,0.11370047034124425,0.1951744855584656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935731781099033,0.0,0.13297163044453789,0.0,0.0,0.10194516973679346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057759717015566626,0.2331890181437033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07129181891303117,0.0,0.0,0.2782573306945202,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,hurt-and-healing,2020/03/11,"I'm worried So I have depression and anxiety. Anxiety is new due to my husband's treatment of me and mmt allowing it. My friends husband divorced her after she caught him cheating. She sought therapy and medicinal help. She lost everything. They were married 12 years I think, she was the sahm, he makes alot of money and he wanted her home. She got zero spouse support, lost the kids and pays him (hebearns 250k a year) child support. She now works at dollar tree to get him his money and scrape by. He triggered her in court and depression was used as the reason she got fucked. I cant imagine a scenario where I dont get at least an anxiety attack. I'm afraid that divorce is up ahead. One from me initiating it, as much as I love him and don want this I don't trust him with my heart and this hurts deeply. Nor should I trust him, as bad as i feel about it i know im not wrong. Or from him initiating it. Maybe he will find someone that praises his behavior and joins in even. Let's him have his cake and eat it too. I am scared I will lose my children and be homeless and starving. I am hard pressed to find a job, I have a spine injury from having children, at least that's the verdict of my physical therapists. I can't lift, weakness and numbing is spreading across my shoulders and sometimes I get vertigo just for fun.  I don't want tp leave him, I want him to behave better. But, does anyone have experience divorcing with mental health, on either side?",2.200643441166015,4.487160020618557,3.2457850456215205,89.66443298969072,79.37800687285223,6.350562862898449,25.49840028439389,7.503015589744147,1.309363455385709,1150,45,234,17,29,368,168,291,0.183,0.7020000000000001,0.115,-0.9707,1,0,0,0,2,0,34.0,0,0,1,7,7,24,3,2,10,0,23,11,3,5,0,39,46,24,0,5,5,3,3,0,1,3,5,0,1,4,10,17,1,0,7,0,4,1,7,15,0,2,8,3,49,9,30,33,5,18,1,6,0,2,42,10,1,2,7,153,59,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2715201230171612,0.0,0.0,0.08272499453407957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13459452856381196,0.0,0.0,0.09878377885206656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10463544364241197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20380019244517025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035337427220413,0.0,0.138658257330185,0.0,0.0,0.12106050762140312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07814253688111278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10632926011205847,0.11572973038612468,0.0,0.0,0.059821012495111174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21626611011370075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140589284316528,0.10937554537450556,0.1854360330162172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18924638187127976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059823827867902,0.0,0.0,0.1257578329223776,0.0,0.1401977360819142,0.07930059530530363,0.0,0.11867442102935667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12665313612081114,0.0,0.12779493477818246,0.0,0.1174042657521002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0650199967966177,0.0,0.0,0.12527304336668774,0.0,0.12097983235089133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13235845417933462,0.2582983433796886,0.0,0.10677925432652434,0.0,0.07897274029453198,0.0,0.11885814132586248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192284970871695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08697134905295481,0.0,0.0,0.11426438563184466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08016981292188508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12164222523856533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11844879426336975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10024354782235573,0.0,0.11701146197773732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685132203663171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13529761867585452,0.13736684889035988,0.0,0.07580817159722042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10218172007095667,0.0,0.0,0.27912884776692704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08613097629546787,0.12014939059449825,0.0,0.0,0.1293532430250367,0.0,0.15237532260613013
divorce,CREGLAS,2020/03/11,"Am I pushing myself too hard? Hey everyone. 
I’m a M27 with 2 littles ages 2 and 4. I’ve been divorced now for 2 months, and separated for maybe 4 at most. Was married for 5 years. We split because of major incompatibility and emotional abuse/neglect. It’s been fairly amicable. 

Im a very anxious person by nature, so my healing is rocky, but I’m in a place where I felt like I was making progress. I’ve been able to start dating casually and I’m trying to be as great of a father as I can be for my children!
I recently started up EMT school, and am feeling EXTREMELY overwhelmed. It is all I can think about and it causes me major grief and anxiety. I was feeling like I was making great progress, but now I’m just taking steps back and can barely function at work or at home. I felt pretty pressured (by a few different sources) to start up this program, but wasn’t really sure if the timing was right for me. I did it anyway. Now I regret it. 
My question is this: Am I pushing myself too hard? With so much already on my plate, did I just cross the line? 
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.",2.3235135135135145,4.2585048198198185,4.419180180180182,83.14958108108108,77.37837837837839,6.602162162162162,26.41531531531532,7.554174236665415,1.5092082882882885,858,34,170,12,20,295,128,222,0.07200000000000001,0.721,0.207,0.9877,1,0,0,0,2,0,29.0,1,0,0,3,15,11,0,2,7,0,24,1,0,3,2,32,39,17,1,3,7,1,6,2,0,1,1,0,1,2,7,11,0,0,6,1,0,4,1,4,0,0,13,6,22,7,24,22,6,28,0,3,0,0,7,11,0,4,15,113,29,3,0.13503280480025107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13195249403985218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14901205790047978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09182693773635177,0.0,0.10329972607115216,0.15254863386450904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10383189181378476,0.0,0.08231474447705198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13871588702783838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14108054074880447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518937304816392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12902963169036116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365532867776445,0.09646746273012953,0.2593053371595955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4466224319998641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24192573991029304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13544891311658294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14585860092991304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13194041530994607,0.13533834480051773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802708915021621,0.0,0.13565860206440608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10778189650345664,0.0,0.09926464860183816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11790543669349544,0.14108054074880447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373769076514708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15126764508543206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08650547246762041,0.0,0.1333286042612957,0.0,0.0,0.1153172774927039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366604075152415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867307427429494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12726682047663326,0.0,0.1015278641698837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08652356893031628,0.0,0.0,0.07873871438407737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09167841067327014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11141620573955104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09830549012752604,0.0,0.0,0.09592343024965913,0.0,0.0,0.0869566990669518
divorce,Rabbit_dj,2020/03/11,"How do I know when it’s over? My wife and I have been married for almost 5 years and just had our first child together. Things have been really difficult since he was born, but the past month has been extremely rough for us. Fighting at the drop of a hat over nothing, holding resentment, comparing who works harder constantly... We have tried talking things out, fighting through issues, and things will get better for a few days but then we’re right back to where we started.  I feel like everything I say gets misconstrued into the most hurtful things possible when all I really said was that I want to have more input when it comes to raising our child. We are starting to see a counselor Friday. Neither of us want to continue down the road we are going, but I don’t know how to turn things around and they get worse daily. Any advice?",6.1753750000000025,6.8248707875,5.842500000000001,81.67250000000001,66.125,9.4,30.375,9.3871,2.5407625000000005,666,23,126,12,10,206,107,160,0.122,0.8,0.078,-0.8586,0,0,0,0,4,0,17.0,8,0,1,3,9,7,3,0,7,0,16,0,0,2,1,27,31,13,0,2,4,1,2,1,0,1,0,2,0,2,9,12,0,1,3,0,0,2,2,5,0,1,7,5,17,2,19,23,5,28,0,1,1,0,19,10,0,2,16,90,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13941488249508074,0.0,0.0,0.1428627914578225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09702008156458276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12700601003322756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970395900276653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12617948678176985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12289705176954595,0.0,0.1541749327531925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200995762084996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12822205367308925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07213793331057716,0.10192304494872023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12135451528302225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22361661271104505,0.0,0.0810823055162928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15273053908616474,0.0,0.0,0.14890978266303315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15681473773623167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06970106033476263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138773506743124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13689513319579996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13619408177997722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16083830742407193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18279533656426905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12183888457949413,0.13571126647855855,0.11345642996225105,0.0,0.0,0.1136890370756888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801759860615198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019642654886712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146722562162053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4739160359982072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09686315476151217,0.1551833342076988,0.0,0.0,0.3432274337338821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683002122950895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10386501941078216,0.0,0.14539230302537068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187441336969188
divorce,rhubarb5549,2020/03/11,I wish my husband still loved me... I wish he still loved me...I don't think I've done anything to make him not... I'm just so stuck in limbo because I don't want my marriage to fail but idk... we haven't slept together in 1.5 years... I'm just tired of crying and self medicating to manage...,0.5255376344086038,2.294734564516133,2.523870967741935,95.37247311827957,82.38709677419354,5.423655913978496,20.010752688172047,6.42735559955562,-0.06323440860215035,221,6,53,2,6,74,43,62,0.203,0.664,0.133,-0.6777,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,0,0,4,5,1,1,0,11,15,3,0,3,4,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,8,2,6,12,0,5,0,1,0,2,8,2,0,0,3,26,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866196256048087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13824224864023169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491058577630741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320734433568588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40935343332070506,0.0,0.15137660673043646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22845577777676135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365797419614211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36221167750165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14531069500725474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606488645192524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13376000901686952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5215688451009086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460381088432904
divorce,RuffledFeathers411,2020/03/11,Business Owners: When divorcing do you use the balance sheet to determine how to break up the businesses? How do you divide up the business when divorcing?,7.300000000000002,9.4468502962963,7.1564814814814826,67.7991666666667,64.55555555555556,11.325925925925928,39.425925925925924,11.20814326018867,5.43145925925926,126,7,18,4,2,40,17,27,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,3,0,3,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,2,15,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,checkmick,2020/03/11,"Leaving for lack of love? I feel so selfish. 

Things overall, are good. We agree on all the big stuff. We coexist well enough. But I think back on the love and devotion I came into this with, and it's just not there anymore. My actions in our relationship are motivated by consequences, and by wanting to be a decent person. 

Not by love. 

The love... I don't think it's there anymore. I care. I want good things. But I want freedom. I've given up on us, other than what makes life livable. I appreciate what is feeling like a friendship with some very comfortable, familiar sex. But I just can't find the love. 

Is that enough to leave for? Should I just try not to throw away a decent thing? A thing many people would be satisfied with? After all there is no guarantee of anything better. But honestly at this point... being alone is looking better. That's not looking very scary at all. It looks like lower stress at this point.",1.4591814427981509,4.113972435754192,2.6072285644887043,90.23174155938791,87.2122905027933,5.571144036920088,21.74908914257955,7.079830092131019,0.8327326208404178,722,25,142,11,23,230,105,179,0.07400000000000001,0.5770000000000001,0.349,0.9956,1,1,0,0,0,0,33.0,4,0,0,3,9,18,0,1,8,0,13,7,0,2,3,38,32,8,0,6,11,0,2,2,0,2,1,0,0,1,16,10,0,0,6,0,0,3,7,2,1,0,2,5,15,16,25,25,7,18,0,0,3,6,11,13,0,1,4,105,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139697558418307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2182630995396108,0.0,0.0,0.0905547375339953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10338756498701084,0.08461508289864828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946454408975177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12585810387240967,0.11219459255361236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22740446837911996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112805273884002,0.07861363414789004,0.0,0.0,0.10057589208999616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18459509541634592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23303601446956815,0.0,0.0,0.07772553072469936,0.10752138850706187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772213110472629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4965835264225437,0.0,0.07345352262301551,0.1115647590096361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07628888619156385,0.09608394998632733,0.0,0.0,0.20804947832242449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181433358586148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12605210963362432,0.0,0.12597113351333594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924266000061188,0.1410202362652831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747109215061533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323663157760348,0.0,0.0,0.18159144209396688,0.19471589555190955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09894047934998376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07817028911554566,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,thebestcaramelsever,2020/03/11,"Advice for a friend going through a difficult time. Hey All,

I have a close friend who is going through a divorce right now and is struggling with depression. Every time he has to see her (they have children (12 and 10) he falls into a funk that includes tears and pain for 5 or days following. He is struggling working through the land one that is shared friends, and close ties with her parents.

He has never worked with a therapist and can’t see the benefits, and has never seen a psychiatrist. This has been a year long process (to see if he could keep the house without her help) and I am starting to get concerned. His birthday was last week which didn’t help.

Is there advice anyone can share how I might be able to help him, or resources I can share with him that he might find helpful. He is a man’s man, a carpenter, built the house he is trying to keep, and doesn’t have much family outside his kids and some siblings.

They were married for over 10 years and together for 20.

I appreciate your help guys!",5.191899766899766,5.9838743282828295,5.010606060606062,86.26667832167836,68.34343434343434,8.112509712509711,30.38228438228439,8.139509932561175,1.938554312354312,799,30,162,10,13,246,114,198,0.081,0.763,0.156,0.9299,1,0,0,0,1,0,23.0,0,1,2,2,3,12,0,2,14,0,27,1,0,1,3,32,38,14,0,2,4,1,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,5,6,17,0,2,1,0,0,4,6,5,0,1,5,4,15,7,19,29,3,22,0,1,4,0,38,6,0,6,12,103,21,2,0.12064527042248573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23578632392193044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08435797822166054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632543143735316,0.0,0.0,0.07780621868830367,0.0,0.10391159463164044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016488437187906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11373362380021715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102675914927928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27963070996463857,0.0,0.06303217434584353,0.0,0.1371309749048931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194577855406565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4043299083551852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784168878469532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144701193336752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09834199770406894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10676726783864343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559711330085286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08868815538325776,0.0,0.18609814018964496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08175235756241597,0.0,0.12837507385354896,0.0,0.13396229539900786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10303040174624456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28841598159271026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539334336283443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522492630843132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14007845769391136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406984547738316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08191021925332778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967743587223886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162977354507614,0.0,0.17566238749161087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553831972830295
divorce,cLiCkDuCk,2020/03/11,"Parents are on the edge of divorcing, how do I stop them? Our parents have been talking about it for a few months now and my dad just recently told me about it (eldest) he decided to only tell me since he figured I could understand it best. If allowed what’s the one thing I could do to prevent it from happening it’s just hard to picture a future without them together. My dad really doesn’t want it to happen, my mom on the other hand has been really stubborn and aloof with him basically denying any and all love she’s been receiving from him. Any help would be deeply and greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!",5.302500000000002,6.236102250000003,6.190000000000001,77.40000000000002,68.16666666666666,9.666666666666666,32.5,9.827888789773867,3.1695,490,21,92,11,8,162,84,120,0.068,0.748,0.184,0.9461,3,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,2,2,6,5,1,0,5,0,13,2,1,2,1,22,20,6,0,5,4,5,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,3,3,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,4,2,14,4,15,12,3,10,0,0,0,1,20,3,0,1,5,69,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468114121337731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904413889362867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897777830262317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20007112627632376,0.0,0.0,0.32094633959375185,0.0,0.16256132179372942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12163540064761168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637836050392344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212535269579854,0.14484748557581156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12296865208961914,0.13801598171806076,0.0,0.0,0.4030015375023411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325084375385909,0.0,0.17917956270106786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15011371717530286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15171690208734429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14585857398216873,0.15861262848579816,0.16707303660050618,0.0,0.0,0.12056049035549025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17340219759932016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889164910721868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10703560641544664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17493043865477267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12891095935600158,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Actual-Pea,2020/03/11,"50/50 Parenting Time with Odd Schedule Reddit, can you grant me any clarity? 

I [F(30)] and [M(36)] are locked in a dispute regarding parenting time. 2 kids ages 2 and 6. Going through a mediator to divorce, separated 2/17. No assets. 

STBX is adamant about 50/50 parenting time but we can’t come to terms on a schedule. For context, I have the breadwinning job that is mostly 9-5 but has frequent evening meetings required (financial stress is major divorce contributor). STBX works exclusively in restaurants and refuses another line of work. Because of his work, he needs to work every Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday am. He is asking for Sunday pm -Wednesday or Thursday (sometimes?) and will not budge. 

I’d prefer the 2-2-3 schedule, or even 2-2-5-5. With the impending divorce, I will need to find a second part time job, and also need to balance the 2-3x per month I am required to meet on Thursday or Friday nights as well as at least 1x on a weekend. I am a supervisor and can schedule myself in advance, but do need availability on those days at least a few times per month. He is also asking me to pick up from daycare/school on Monday and Tuesday because of inventory and other prep items, unless he communicates that he is able to. 

Reddit, is 50/50 possible? I feel like if he’s not willing to work out a better schedule or change professions (he makes $11-$14/hour, not high level), he needs to concede to a 70/30 and I can work with his odd schedule then. 

I am looking at a $400ish child support payment per month if 50/50 is awarded. If we move to a 70/30, he may owe, but I would be able to afford extra help. 

Feeling stuck. Any experience?",4.053315481986367,5.991274234177219,5.169620253164557,79.64631450827656,72.48101265822784,7.646348588120737,31.14118792599805,8.384062270229773,2.545477507302824,1302,60,234,22,26,429,173,316,0.047,0.862,0.092,0.9301,7,0,0,0,3,0,72.0,2,1,0,11,6,6,0,1,15,0,26,0,0,2,0,49,42,27,0,10,15,3,2,1,0,5,0,0,0,2,4,17,0,3,4,1,1,4,5,1,1,1,1,3,17,5,40,35,9,49,0,0,1,0,28,15,0,9,31,141,21,11,0.19995889279862905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15990705432790545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13597890398567358,0.10483716691820147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869345723003347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12189308509870167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0884236955966614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10576499748897332,0.08612344028781954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0644784718343236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13207096283626227,0.0,0.08423699566958734,0.0,0.0,0.09779908313016923,0.0,0.0,0.10110522429147044,0.07142533648450826,0.0,0.0,0.0913794027285835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056820623415976865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06701411544517984,0.10563377437338782,0.0,0.0,0.09845961537749978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19842834693932296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04884490735380001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08395755450841104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06673705682466705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23940792076912645,0.1062623290358274,0.0,0.3706674633506317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09382393765231564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33304603036998914,0.10826799752453048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11271180362736374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10118453740400392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09888222895674688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11452611805512605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11345549096389908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.291494096044251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08989352936179967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4367173663689635,0.0,0.0,0.07102253017161908,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Eve1181,2020/03/11,"Emotional affair or more I just discovered my husband of ten years has been seeing someone for a year. Hes 45 and she is 26. The only messages I could see before I confronted him were extremely sexual in nature. Let me see what your wearing, I want you to rip my dress off, your so sexy, I want you so bad, blah blah. He has the gall to continue to say he only kissed her and throughout this whole year the time they've spent together adds up to 24 hours. Oh, and he did tell her he loved her. He says it was an emotional connection and he was getting attention, validation, praise etc not sex. Now, is there any chance in hell that this man didnt sleep with this girl???? I also asked her and she denies it, but that doesn't mean anything I guess. I am beyond devastated and feel like my life is a complete lie.",2.158678861788616,4.116127591463414,3.5679024390243934,88.95595934959353,77.96341463414635,7.300162601626017,22.518699186991874,8.238735603445708,1.1797606504065046,631,19,135,12,15,207,115,164,0.098,0.785,0.11699999999999999,-0.4121,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,4,0,1,7,7,2,0,6,0,16,6,2,0,0,19,28,11,0,3,4,1,1,3,0,0,1,2,0,2,8,8,0,0,3,0,1,0,3,3,0,1,7,6,24,4,12,19,3,12,2,0,3,3,29,5,1,2,8,84,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282601584581264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10906758207427797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13198353085109302,0.0,0.14993871261850208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13391512225126767,0.0,0.0,0.13647617525110042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16816105620436328,0.0,0.0,0.12805470322573884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36082400925618896,0.0,0.0,0.17887213373421246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08109568488439975,0.1145793725477855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08379475969209133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17668261667302868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15794732662823502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16400495331798645,0.1132849617997046,0.07835621240604156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14475409893409402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747067355690833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24396067075598266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550898388706297,0.0,0.0,0.3834192318404998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16050124346398612,0.0,0.13589404168912014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401839220142327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09352202529246273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18919894646134766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790645881936096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3098488465211621
divorce,C010RV1B35,2020/03/11,"Can I remarry my husband right away or do I need to divorce him first, then marry him? Got married to my 2nd while the divorce from my 1st hasn't been finalized. 
We got this fixed eventually. I got the divorce decree here with me.
So can I marry my 2nd now or do I need to divorce him first?
I've read something about backdating but apparently there's a timeframe for that. We've already elapsed that.
Can I just marry my 2nd again then?
We're in California btw",1.705483870967747,4.094602612903231,3.3896881720430123,87.32453225806455,82.01075268817203,6.300645161290323,26.504301075268817,7.554174236665415,1.5578094623655918,365,16,74,6,10,121,58,93,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,1,0,4,0,9.0,1,0,0,2,7,0,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,0,0,8,12,7,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,4,0,16,0,9,8,0,11,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,2,8,52,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718890708289192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314843460460063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698998421164985,0.0,0.419145434339355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5911634637361262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36537880936276623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464490435243728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104091968782276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18967718477596784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,noogaman68,2020/03/12,"Lurking for awhile, ready for some advice... Ok first the basics. I'm 52M, stbx 42F.  We've been together 17 years, married for 16.  She makes nearly 3x the salary that I do.  We have 3 kids at home, the youngest almost 15.  We bought our house 4 years ago.  She told me on August 29th she was ""done"" and wanted a divorce. Her ""plan"" is for us to stick it out until the youngest graduates from HS, then sell the house and go our separate ways.  Quite literally overnight she went from a caring, supportive and loving wife to being mean, uncaring and spiteful ""roommate"".  The morning of 08/29/2019 we kissed and said I love you and went to our separate jobs like we always have.  That evening she dropped the bomb on me and has been cold and totally focused on letting me know she has zero feelings for me.  This is not what I wanted, but I know now there can be no reconciliation. Full disclosure, I  have never abused her or cheated on her. After much reflection, I can admit that I became lazy in our marriage and never really tapped into her love language. I wasn't the husband I should have been. I became comfortable in my own way and didn't put in the work a marriage needs.

For the past 6 months I have been dragging a twin mattress to the back porch and have literally been sleeping with the dogs every night to avoid questioning from the kids.  I believe she expects that to continue for the next three years. I have been miserable but hopeful she may change her mind if I just go with the flow, but like I said, I am convinced that won't happen now. I'm pretty sure she isn't cheating, but my mind dwells on just that nearly every day. Some days I'm ok. Confident in the future and able to compartmentalize what I need to do.  Most days I'm just the opposite, weak and scared and sure that my life is ruined forever. 

So I guess I'll get to what I wanted to ask.  This house was supposed to be OUR dream house, bought with the assistance from my VA home loan guarantee which I can only use once, and this was it.  In three years, barring anything crazy happening in the market, we will probably have between 80 to 120k in equity which I assume we would split evenly.  That amount would essentially be my nest egg for a now very shaky financial future.  If I left now, would I lose any rights to that money? I agree with her that the kids don't deserve to be uprooted from their home and their HS experience rocked to the foundation over their parents divorcing. I  just don't know if I can do this for three more years.  I absolutely will need my share of the profits from the sale of the house, but for my own sanity I am not convinced I can keep going like this for three more years.

I know this was long, and I  apologize for that, but I want to emphasize that I do still love her.  I don't wish anything negative towards her and genuinely want her to be happy, whatever form that may take.

Thank you for your time, I look forward to any advice you may give.",5.220817788528631,5.783783106712568,5.5430041401125765,83.29021630925247,68.19104991394148,8.966106898637019,28.61148067172164,8.994212911058018,2.0671183979159884,2319,75,472,39,37,739,274,581,0.076,0.746,0.179,0.9962,3,1,0,0,2,0,69.0,12,4,3,5,14,33,3,5,29,2,58,10,1,2,5,91,107,31,0,18,16,3,1,3,0,10,2,2,5,3,26,30,2,2,10,3,7,8,13,11,0,6,20,5,83,22,66,70,12,65,0,3,1,5,60,23,0,16,36,328,109,5,0.0727277707957813,0.08617051585991231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14213747180409933,0.06446878066787137,0.0,0.0728263569472494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060515331402336225,0.0,0.0,0.09891475616531743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11969751711450458,0.0,0.0679906481666584,0.0,0.0,0.05592316652457816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08193929271446271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07415080937813621,0.0,0.07693633814366845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14071018663475252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07442576006677465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607201339734253,0.0,0.1225525672369591,0.0,0.0,0.07114171520334879,0.0,0.0,0.03677334613935479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06186220468589264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037997258512753436,0.06976710477359424,0.12399860446613463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08011783893293291,0.0,0.12862585505511576,0.07742006437951196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2188556519044228,0.07223508643193906,0.0,0.41959041440455097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07217109043568277,0.06464378432250698,0.0,0.0,0.1598771233353608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07901893576820175,0.07436907309591285,0.051369775328767256,0.10659334556765547,0.0,0.0,0.06436178854478684,0.06107301051132742,0.08136377247717724,0.0,0.0,0.2625586104997723,0.0,0.04854635174657953,0.0,0.0,0.07922186327320245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14686863229358713,0.0,0.058050612785786125,0.0,0.05346327969945888,0.16178016154450264,0.11218428072511602,0.0,0.07734680931988411,0.0682500861775333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07745270231984087,0.0,0.05531274692905826,0.0,0.0,0.08075558271731426,0.0,0.06942688654337087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07399028900487449,0.07841283768400878,0.0,0.0,0.07311149719484243,0.08147174782353657,0.07735493647957158,0.0,0.0,0.046591272272781585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062109118881808825,0.1383615290374423,0.0,0.07281318602877357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07278029392206795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05808049170380235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08253061243597627,0.1370901265544211,0.0,0.0546822325556759,0.0,0.0,0.06695796006458994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04240814801226005,0.0,0.0,0.06949450167551594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08748255353309291,0.06281344304546886,0.0,0.0600080275748417,0.2144836176345923,0.1154558385172158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13483874431209125,0.0,0.0,0.08363334719021337,0.0,0.0,0.05294668332289844,0.0,0.0,0.1549911651349188,0.0,0.0,0.2810057995131228
divorce,Brand-new-shoes,2020/03/12,"first time posting here So im a 33 year old male i was married for 8 years and together for 10 we have two kids together and a house. I went in yesterday and signed the paper work for the divorce and then i took her in to sign her side of everything this morning. the lawyer thinks we should be don in no more then a month but as soon as two weeks. The separation between the two of us is going well we are getting along and everything like that.

Things for use have been rough kinda since the start for us she had a hard time with lying which we found out later could be related to some metal trauma from her childhood but it all really came to a head about 7 months ago when i caught her making plans to cheat on me with a couple from a town not to far away.

She is leaving our two kids and I tomorrow since the papers have been signed and is going to live in a different state and has given me full custody of the boys. I guess im not sure what im hoping for out of posting this but i dont really have anyone else to talk to and i just feel so empty inside like things are never going to be ok again and i just have to do my best to put on a happy face for the kids. shes going to a place that she is gonna have all the support she could ever need and im just not in a place where i can afford it right now.

I have never felt so scared and sad in my life and i just hope someday it doesn't feel this way and i can do more then just act happy and actually be happy. i guess if anyone reads this and has any questions or advice all is welcome.",2.5332860696517443,3.2820774567164186,4.013750000000002,91.14729166666667,74.43283582089552,7.016169154228858,21.12251243781095,7.1686216300943375,0.32850497512437826,1208,24,282,12,24,402,173,335,0.086,0.78,0.134,0.9655,2,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,7,0,0,4,17,17,1,1,21,1,34,3,2,2,7,67,59,30,0,7,13,0,5,2,0,2,1,0,0,5,13,26,0,0,6,1,0,10,8,4,1,5,11,5,34,13,43,40,8,58,0,1,0,0,25,19,0,9,27,203,47,5,0.0,0.0,0.08448398254624293,0.0,0.0,0.08459935816336893,0.07674285178779472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05887346087037024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210694614480676,0.08870555317998148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08133936064413026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09085433742879362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09901788191017458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382449929896334,0.09579276439423937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09045166810628966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10146437986996387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07232167950534417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07831136840477443,0.0,0.0,0.1556147127049387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08754908727225841,0.0,0.08312485963854667,0.0,0.0,0.07364001546630201,0.0,0.09492419997631964,0.0,0.0,0.04523147402786205,0.0,0.1968085725805233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907426005298292,0.0,0.0,0.27647970682216044,0.0775535258675276,0.0,0.08885016036036644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17197553527447154,0.0,0.09989506440370846,0.0,0.0,0.3740601982877513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09166963370494502,0.0,0.0,0.06114995527428309,0.08459161406724612,0.0,0.07644665160728936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0577889862089882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13820548572684338,0.0,0.0,0.0641937117004325,0.13354280225899298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908451152788486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809033362125793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658284062850655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870310363416529,0.09698297692840012,0.0,0.08659768132937108,0.0,0.11092336680153084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07393393911966098,0.0,0.0,0.08667593036063229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432302336074465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06127770194434121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09824343647446218,0.08159520898910877,0.0,0.0,0.06958510527295153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11503217375717703,0.05547328567581325,0.0,0.0,0.1009642863967383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09618718068171817,0.0,0.0,0.3382818622180563,0.0,0.20827633376208046,0.0747723580309909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06871861241652058,0.06944464376395684,0.0,0.07784065069297777,0.08025519998047792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06302708735624454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11150196110499504
divorce,goldbug989,2020/03/12,"seeking advice i have been married to my wife for just over ten years.  I have been a stay at home dad (one child) taking full time classes for the last 5 years.  I am deeply in love with my wife, but over the years my wife has clearly grown tired of me.

She moved me to a separate room. she no longer wears her wedding ring.  she barely talks to me and will not touch me. When this all came out I immediately asked for counseling, because she never gave much impression that we were close to the tipping point.  she said she is tired of catering to me , though i have followed her across the country over 3 jobs away from my family while she moved up the employment ladder.

heres my issue:

she spent a weekend with a friend who went through a rough divorce a couple of years ago she came back with a plan. She said she is not ready to call it quits (she knows i love her deeply) , and she is not willing to go to any counseling.  She said that the only way to save marriage is for me to get a job and move out(without the child), then, she can reflect on her feelings and regain lost love. She refuses to talk about anything further. It has been 3 months in which i have faithfully, kindly served her and our child daily.  She says nothing has changed, and that the plan remains the same. 

I feel like she may have cooked up this plan with her divorced friend to get me to abandon the family and lose rights to any alimony?  I had not considered alimony. I know I cannot afford to live near here and see my son. My plan was to move across the country to live with parents while i find a job and see child during summer and whenever else she would let me. This breaks my heart. 

So i am wondering is it possible she is plotting against me? I love her deeply and never thought she would deceive me.  I do believe her friend that went through the rough divorce could have come up with this plan though.  

I am curious if I am being paranoid , or if anyone can help.  Thank you",4.077945280940142,5.241272460154242,4.176286265148736,89.86536953727509,71.18508997429305,7.40804260007345,26.746327579875132,7.7094869923839395,1.2783484392214477,1533,50,325,18,28,473,194,389,0.07400000000000001,0.778,0.14800000000000002,0.9898,7,0,0,0,3,0,39.0,2,1,0,8,9,16,0,0,21,0,37,9,2,0,4,52,67,22,0,5,9,6,5,1,3,5,2,5,2,4,13,23,1,2,8,2,1,12,8,3,0,2,17,12,67,13,50,42,4,53,1,3,2,4,66,21,0,5,18,227,80,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0831722432747766,0.07544826907751104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11576063734390585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05951356440115973,0.0,0.07004142459038158,0.0,0.0795699354709356,0.0,0.07996723897413299,0.06544727652520288,0.0,0.05188459682072191,0.0,0.0,0.09589413264368857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08691073011135166,0.1946950790544434,0.0,0.0,0.09003913959543379,0.07331802247073703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06795646230701673,0.09417682683567727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07110167798487438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16047547575941085,0.0,0.0860722131133832,0.06080533253026315,0.0,0.0,0.07779249273167227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19727618675609065,0.0,0.08893691969287326,0.0,0.04837214735606738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10086029067998932,0.0570500017840225,0.0,0.0853761047489871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08883671849080327,0.253387009699833,0.0,0.0,0.08863294952953622,0.09355266297719944,0.069379126160672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08703465118864616,0.0,0.04158231490728626,0.0,0.1503141310539315,0.0,0.0,0.09522059724760333,0.09291179274183678,0.0,0.30727419517454185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06793704190157142,0.3618500980455384,0.06256845361031074,0.0,0.1312900556010323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08166900920133667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05767532958119428,0.06473289816383389,0.0,0.0,0.09450882847864324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08046007444678305,0.09595304743344192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905290281826761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07268674023327944,0.2428882111150719,0.06768592868297944,0.0,0.0,0.13564939524541694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09072001111928467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06399500274209066,0.1368225345844017,0.0,0.07836137329571155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16724779892665878,0.06757086856967819,0.049630554962589404,0.19565163877730327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06755939138893735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578027342465678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08204668858079328,0.0923023108963716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209248363894684,0.0,0.0,0.2192420471259524
divorce,GSCS2020,2020/03/12,"My ex might be pregnant, could be mine So I'm going through a divorce. I filed papers Feb. 10 and now I just heard some interesting news that my stbxw might be pregnant. Last time we were intimate was Jan. 23rd. It could be mine but she was also having an affair so it might not be mine. I'm freaking out and I want to ask her if it's true. Should I ask or continue with No Contact?",-0.42003367003366776,1.81321474074074,1.558361391694728,97.00535353535356,92.95061728395059,4.426936026936027,18.47474747474748,6.1124844417494595,-0.2312074074074073,298,9,68,3,11,98,58,81,0.08,0.8340000000000001,0.086,-0.128,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,2,0,15,0,0,0,1,20,22,8,0,5,5,1,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,4,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,1,12,2,4,7,1,6,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,6,4,50,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18598111849346105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4348313585993676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3713664043545735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13217131840511884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18957046721435028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7401400481587782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13560977217523426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13717210435286367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,RedRust,2020/03/12,"What do you all do with old pictures, videos, mementos etc? I was wondering what you all did with pictures of you and your ex?  I'm thinking of storing it in a box, sealing it up, and maybe revisiting it when I'm of old age.  Just feel like throwing away or burning the pictures would erase from memory completely,  as if the relationship never occured.  Also, who knows, maybe the adult children may look at it later on in life and realize there was a time when mom and dad actually loved each other...",7.402499999999996,6.66758341666667,7.754250000000002,73.66575000000002,63.79166666666666,11.013333333333335,36.90833333333333,10.355215969177356,3.723885833333333,392,17,74,8,5,129,69,96,0.0,0.929,0.071,0.7757,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,4,0,0,5,2,0,0,5,0,7,2,0,0,3,20,15,10,0,2,3,3,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,2,8,7,0,0,5,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,3,2,5,2,13,10,4,15,0,0,1,1,12,6,0,4,9,54,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.20741739289697872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16997554654635064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996970031032574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228538291216904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370485820295533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10747127967471426,0.1518452160505171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11681150098804158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15012981060423153,0.10384082001089248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17848782562148413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19183398318644607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4270685505061424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489350953127555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639310733816069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4460693352908758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22819833420538616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361929675132033,0.0,0.0,0.1239391682834834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23050057876167146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509888783051508,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,nikkicolla85,2020/03/12,"I'm in denial, how is this my life? My husband of almost 12 years is leaving me.  We have a 2.5 year old and 8 month old.  To make a long story short I was diagnosed with pretty severe PPD after my youngest was born. Found out around 3 months old he was having an online affair with ""the one that got away"". I read every message exchanged between them.  Started drinking more.  Started to get sober etc. I thought if I could get her out of our lives we'd be ok.  Well he told me to my face he doesn't love me and hasn't for awhile.  I lost my mind. Confronted a few women including ""the one that got away"". Blew up Facebook.  Apparently he's been ""harassed"" but I'm broken.  I DON'T WANT THIS
 My whole life has been turned upside down and now my children will grow up in a broken home.  I'm not handling it well.",0.8294243641231596,3.022667578313253,2.294618473895582,95.03709504685408,84.06024096385542,4.6527443105756365,20.065595716198125,5.82211442006289,-0.13942998661311945,622,18,136,4,18,201,113,166,0.11199999999999999,0.846,0.042,-0.9066,1,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,3,0,1,1,5,7,2,0,7,1,17,6,1,2,0,20,34,6,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,2,5,9,1,0,2,2,1,1,4,3,2,2,11,0,21,4,20,19,4,25,0,1,0,1,16,11,0,2,13,85,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13788408873013033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12257990886207408,0.0,0.0,0.2587425419270615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10994019565547143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13975999591952018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348910623148164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15356903639364552,0.0,0.0,0.11601602608823315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509781279184302,0.0,0.0,0.14388245091180762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220258432033948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13812175239493749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14580169953703553,0.0,0.0,0.19451953815592116,0.0,0.0,0.12158935601438076,0.12185789506081365,0.0,0.0,0.1503130140381578,0.0,0.12427730928938666,0.0,0.09191410572133953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13903515413732853,0.0,0.219817554515092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4334708779875772,0.0,0.18661468838690812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14008779241430155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13773469581462736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555589051990707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19492590351055145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10931638079684916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13157579806200842,0.0,0.0,0.14977526621862886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08121751356176952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476130580086011,0.0,0.0,0.15373426641166052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17734526444326493
divorce,coldhandsbigdick,2020/03/12,"Husband Waiting on Counselor - I don't have that sort of time. We've been seeing a marriage counselor. Even though I've explained to the counselor how dire the situation, he still will only see us every other week. *I don't have a few weeks to keep this together.* But I digress.

My husband refuses to listen to the counselor. He refuses to do any of the things the counselor suggests. (Except one communication thing that he took and twisted it to do the exact opposite of what the counselor said for his own benefit.)

He says he's ""waiting to hear what the counselor says"". Hello? The counselor *has* said things. I guess he's waiting until the end of all the sessions? Which let's be honest, if we're staying together, we're going to be going to counseling for a *long time*.

I get the feeling that he's really just waiting for the counselor to say, ""OC, you're the jackass in this and you need to change. You need to give Spouse bj's every night right after a steak dinner."" He will only take the counselor's suggestion if *I'm* the one who has to change. And between us, the counselor's not going to say that. Unfortunately, it's pretty clear to everyone involved (except Spouse) who needs to make adjustments.

I don't really know what to do. It feels like I've lost all control in this. I can't play tennis if the ball is in his court. I can't make things better all by myself.",1.6791351476014782,4.268292774907748,3.257461946494466,86.7919862776753,84.35055350553506,5.6015221402214035,23.966904981549817,7.04035,1.1485026752767529,1086,42,205,15,32,357,131,271,0.059000000000000004,0.89,0.051,-0.2964,0,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,2,2,0,3,5,6,0,0,22,0,19,1,0,4,5,37,49,10,0,6,8,4,2,1,0,2,0,8,0,0,21,3,1,8,5,2,0,4,6,1,0,2,5,12,16,5,34,39,5,20,0,1,2,0,37,5,0,5,11,132,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07677686991106741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09985217375477534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388695662442113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12662859675796148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09999718986637203,0.0,0.0,0.07457035492636015,0.0,0.19024871266514845,0.10788219112137604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11417274923135667,0.08065683141854224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05898635728192327,0.10830537596072462,0.19249351852698396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12437369581195895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12724816005496406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003520124175052,0.0,0.0,0.06204769427707805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11544940051105547,0.0,0.05515795447381972,0.0,0.0,0.09991424652734206,0.0,0.0,0.1232452893871286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15072521339383094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25114502423348084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10595037972117913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15300991348822796,0.17173330815468915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11486138193810505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14465514303244986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09641723693297956,0.21479030080910866,0.35913511608366955,0.0,0.0,0.17993570545628346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12690598060776864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12033794304956096,0.09016325832034368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08488785330182974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3000268749135808,0.0,0.11092511924374296,0.0,0.1316675080375206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12543768531924884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716131300317889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18112549530680253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Youkaiyume,2020/03/12,"Heartbroken and still in love. My husband (29m) recently told me (31f) that ""he loves me but isn't IN love with me anymore."" I am devastated. Completely and utterly devastated. 

We have had a rough past year, our older child (2) was diagnosed with ASD and has been in intense therapy for it. I was pregnant with our 2nd (6mo) and during the pregnancy I had hyperemesis gravidarum I was extremely sick. Two weeks after finally giving birth I developed postpartum preeclampsia, and could have died. I spent a week in hospital. While all this was going on my mom was diagnosed with lung cancer. She passed when my baby was a month old.

He class that during this time I wasn't intimate or affectionate enough. I acknowledge this. He also acknowledges that I have addressed all his complaints in addition to the dogs barking, rehoming my cats and cleaning more. 

Despite all this he says the feeling just aren't there anymore and he doesn't see them changing. I feel like he's not giving us a chance to reconnect. He's agreed to go to couples therapy, but he says he feels it will only be to settle things.

I just don't know what to do. How to get through to this man who I can't imagine life without.",3.5824711558632245,5.939840559471367,4.636286972938958,81.07566813509546,75.12334801762114,8.552884413677367,29.31172645269561,9.23628265651192,2.871383217956786,945,42,174,24,21,308,142,227,0.154,0.741,0.105,-0.9535,0,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,4,0,1,0,7,5,0,0,7,0,24,9,1,1,3,32,39,14,1,1,7,2,4,1,0,1,5,2,2,2,13,13,0,0,7,0,1,3,8,0,0,1,12,7,26,5,22,24,5,24,0,0,1,3,29,6,0,1,16,117,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10766654057543416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670409544278332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14242462837513511,0.0,0.1411608982764968,0.0,0.0,0.10749407350241467,0.14896965501768314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733007920260583,0.13972854976276242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13911262692870693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042245686905818,0.09618235944680698,0.0,0.1474846639817468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07034056407580938,0.2583058723599003,0.15303089616028626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07399117382674107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09509578097220583,0.06577523701646333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3645365775398491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15768139055715127,0.10746335415035432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14127544568434616,0.0,0.0,0.10239501405783163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12852312384191653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132934560282529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141322825210145,0.0,0.0,0.10728564707497554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10751866603414538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30793079406334384,0.0,0.08944466395194334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07850600725817007,0.0,0.0,0.12864829304415115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13151758546701306,0.0,0.16194779316103966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21599010509325428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129782105682433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08669970422424267
divorce,4d5a9000,2020/03/12,"it feels bad to be so disposable I was just separated from my wife of 10 years. Two weeks ago, and she's moved on. I honestly thought I was fine with it. I thought I would be able to start living and being happy, but the only feeling I have right now can be described as bereft. I am absent everything. I was motivated yesterday. Today I've fallen into a pit. I just want to sleep. I wanted to be happy for her, I really truly did, and being able to work together in the interest of our kids without fear or anger was a promising thought. This just makes me feel like a toxic bag of neediness that is best dropped on the curb and not given a second thought. How do I move on? How do I ignore how happy my absence has made her? How do I pick my ass up and continue existing? Sorry for this, but right now I am spiraling and I have no other outlets.",2.1543103448275858,3.850074775862069,4.328252873563219,84.69203448275864,77.10344827586206,7.628505747126438,24.818390804597698,8.447377352677275,1.6687728735632188,657,23,136,13,15,227,109,174,0.08800000000000001,0.653,0.259,0.9884,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,0,3,10,13,1,1,7,0,22,2,2,8,0,36,35,15,0,3,8,1,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,8,0,2,8,0,0,3,3,4,0,2,11,3,24,9,20,17,1,21,0,0,0,1,6,8,1,1,10,103,30,3,0.2785358728618724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12345262269957942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11628290969424075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461531071353928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12516504121574482,0.0,0.0,0.15671514727587016,0.211254159578292,0.09949304161331032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4447599240224602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06803927904496407,0.0,0.12297613937539192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13177868880878038,0.09296242900089946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29603955249078684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105919541309293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892186062369806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378681135298859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393685140690627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15589905280054087,0.0985745622139516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4422527405868243,0.0,0.0,0.13200971956414465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360445374703897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16428767442955552,0.0,0.11171233809247033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13424932093152145,0.0,0.1013887163948391,0.0,0.0,0.0989319462482352,0.0,0.0,0.08968398498286824
divorce,throwaway9998881212,2020/03/12,"Advice: Separated but ex is now pregnant So me (39m) and my ex (37f) have been separated for just over 4 months now. We were married for just less than 10 years and together for close to 19. 

The reason for our separation is that I found out she was having an affair with a co worker. We have a house together and 2 kids, 7 and 10. We went with a separation instead of a divorce because we want to sell the house before we file for divorce. So far the separation has been amicable and we have worked on the co parenting schedules and the division of assets.

I found out that she is now pregnant with the AP. It's impossible its mine as I've had a vasectomy for over 3 years now.

How will this affect the divorce now that she will be having another kid? I'm planning on filing as soon as the house sells which should be in a few months.

Ex is living in Ontario and I'm in Quebec.",3.4434102564102567,4.471102366666671,5.3466666666666685,81.39115384615386,72.55555555555556,8.427350427350428,27.179487179487186,8.841846274778883,1.9509102564102565,686,24,144,13,13,237,101,180,0.0,0.9790000000000001,0.021,0.3612,1,0,0,0,3,0,17.0,7,0,0,3,12,0,0,0,15,0,20,0,0,3,0,29,26,14,0,2,3,4,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,7,19,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,8,0,15,0,26,13,2,23,0,0,0,0,20,11,0,0,11,105,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18159775869155986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19486629050968035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11328450601158367,0.0,0.15813359343944175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4075213414267495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6432928166558117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640974694459248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.296666629531716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063499883198596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19107137983623795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10961147329870026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17227275426432542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13529154415862973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393458610794529
divorce,ginshee,2020/03/12,Child Support Calculator Who should I speak with to confirm numbers are accurate and correct on the child support calculator? We've run the calculator but come back with different results based on a different factors that don't make sense. Would an attorney be an advisor to speak with about this? I just want to make sure I have the correct numbers before I sign off on anything.,6.630869565217387,8.471912086956525,6.722434782608698,71.44539130434784,65.81159420289856,10.157681159420287,39.88695652173914,10.355215969177356,4.689751304347826,310,18,50,8,5,99,48,69,0.0,0.873,0.127,0.755,2,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,6,0,6,0,0,3,3,17,12,2,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,2,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,3,11,9,0,7,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,1,34,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071911256262164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936010721045381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21424379382105388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21688370408283086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5261070267513009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3361263794234945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5714274080680612,0.23729696586671364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14850467490844618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17885524969134212,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,19912112,2020/03/12,"Martial Help (Texas)  

Hello,

My husband and I seperated almost a year ago, it's been on and off since. He lives with his Father and I have my own place with our dogs. I became pregnant in January and informed my Husband right after I found out. About a week later he tells me he's seeing someone else. We are not divorced and I cannot divorce him now since I'm pregnant. How should I legally go about resolving this since I'm pregnant now? He has made it clear he does not want to be with me and he has moved on to dating other people now that I'm pregnant.

Thank you,

A sad wife",0.9656346153846158,3.1903448583333365,2.5633333333333357,93.12576923076924,83.75,4.6923076923076925,21.73076923076923,5.8734145424116955,0.18463461538461529,453,15,95,3,13,148,77,120,0.038,0.8590000000000001,0.10300000000000001,0.7564,0,0,0,0,2,0,12.0,2,1,0,1,6,3,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,2,1,22,17,7,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,11,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,3,1,16,2,13,12,1,18,0,1,1,0,21,7,0,1,9,58,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19407655243413305,0.0,0.2192361657260798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19159532892787332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18289576029119867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24005573216008996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12442829646703828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467504529657194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19332748579764933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20716573734148536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23269791469465154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517850007037058,0.0,0.2287450557157561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18697303628871575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17446634158007962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5433267586875696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185506628206076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19136267034469853,0.20156996786250905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12913612025197596,0.0,0.17561996632588978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14098978404359913
divorce,Throwaway6973860015,2020/03/12,"Probably a long time coming, but heartbroken and hopeless My wife and I have been together for more than 7 years and married almost 6 years. We have a three-month-old who we love very much. We met in one city and moved closer to her family at the start of our relationship. Everything was pretty normal until she got pregnant. Once that happened, she started shutting off from me. I tried to keep the plates spinning but things only got worse after the baby was born. 

After 3 or so years of resentment, depression, a dead bedroom, and very little affection, my wife left with my kid about a month ago. She came back the next day and said we would get through it, she just needed some time. Last week, she wanted to leave again as she said she loves me as a person but she's just going through the motions. We took a few days away and it was clear to me that our relationship has been over for a long time. I told her that much and she didn't blink. No tears. Just a very business-like attitude. 

We are now juggling our daughter and switching staying at other people's houses. It's heartbreaking on so many levels. I put my all into this relationship and feel like I was met with mostly selfishness. I'll need to find my own place and she'll be moving back in with her mom in a few months. Money is tight, as she went to start her own business while I worked my job. Her lack of sympathy and empathy is what hurts the most. I thought we made a pact to stay together through good times and bad. I guess not.

So in the end, I feel hopeless. Like the deck is stacked too high against me (the coronavirus isn't helping either). If you've felt like this, how did you get over it? Any advice is helpful and appreciated.",3.140041828198328,5.058274328402369,3.757884105284635,88.87955621301776,74.94674556213019,6.9105896755764125,24.081207916751683,7.753152298057669,1.1029460110181597,1345,42,276,19,29,424,194,338,0.146,0.718,0.136,-0.7112,1,0,0,0,0,2,41.0,10,1,0,1,13,14,1,0,19,0,20,2,0,3,2,60,50,28,1,7,10,4,4,3,0,2,0,2,1,2,13,27,0,2,5,0,1,9,4,8,0,1,21,6,46,6,40,26,13,60,0,5,0,2,46,19,0,7,33,185,59,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08977113409405049,0.08143433931612251,0.0,0.09199128944833476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06247254666127335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631184455806247,0.14127973481788167,0.07670490685119398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10507109920978107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07913507881453517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11849291977649047,0.0,0.07912470528776068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08136668136066612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825639197774139,0.0,0.08660380486318747,0.0,0.09290118771530716,0.06562963129627387,0.08820649568937508,0.0,0.08396455381699762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09599318028833304,0.0,0.0522099964572629,0.07705347922527278,0.14694847941685435,0.0,0.1012015926677884,0.0,0.08123747197381682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12315270476232225,0.09706227517826102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10600190612086803,0.0983452660087742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09116358346580172,0.08165539680853233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07488367023264543,0.0,0.09727363372884723,0.09981350292473427,0.0,0.0,0.134644374872179,0.09207462721761624,0.0,0.16259838244344926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16582667421584782,0.0869265490227977,0.0,0.09313847500912903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10759323834505027,0.21998151276323652,0.19527965337110595,0.13506527701921406,0.1362360761632724,0.0,0.0,0.09770134086487972,0.0,0.0900099190864881,0.0,0.0,0.0963987103748286,0.09783510059168622,0.06225129372363745,0.06986881022510999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06368884388853961,0.08021451087262235,0.09598121076663407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09346152104166768,0.0990479044980896,0.0,0.0,0.09235146700147943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2958915583749609,0.0,0.0,0.1747726509980019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950712954913151,0.19583548459304032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06103219291300135,0.0,0.0,0.0729319453748536,0.2142729847980392,0.0,0.0,0.08778262550371367,0.10206734994883238,0.0623714993639599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273990927979301,0.05418539490047897,0.0,0.0736899731013217,0.0,0.0,0.08516140637000573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06688009499656883,0.0,0.09362007626118334,0.06525951011659327,0.0,0.0,0.1774775433185303
divorce,mybirdsthrowaway,2020/03/12,"How do I know it’s time to end things? I’m not sure if this is the right place to post or not but just looking for guidance. 

I have been with my spouse for 6 years. We have one child, who is a toddler. For the last 2-3 years, things have been difficult. I’d say more bad days then good. We’ve gone from times where all we do is yell and fight, to where we are now which is just coexist. 

The issues started after I got pregnant. I had a high risk pregnancy which kept me from having sex. After the baby was born, my spouse (recovering addict) relapsed, and I was devastated. We had this new little baby, and I was worried about the life I had chosen. Trust was pretty much gone and I felt it hard to reconnect.

We’ve gone to couples counseling, as well as us seeking individual therapy. He hasn’t relapsed again, but he has begun partaking in other things that cause just as much worry honestly. I’m not sure if it’s that, the initial relapse, lack of intimacy and connection or what, but I just feel like giving up. I constantly find myself daydreaming about life without him. I have a great job, good friends, beautiful child, and this is the only part of my life that I feel unhappy in. I feel so selfish thinking about giving up. Ruining my child’s life and breaking my spouses heart, but I don’t know what to do. 

We have talked about this many times. I told him how I felt, and he said he felt the same but wanted to keep trying. Deep down I don’t want to. But I feel like that’s not acceptable. I should want to try. I don’t know how to get there. 

Have you had these feelings? Any advice? How do I know it’s over?",1.667068181818184,3.727013415151518,3.128238636363637,91.00235795454547,80.0,6.428030303030304,21.82765151515152,7.531066641456977,0.7516742424242424,1257,38,273,19,32,411,168,330,0.151,0.7170000000000001,0.133,-0.7539,1,0,0,1,1,0,47.0,6,1,0,0,19,18,1,1,11,0,33,7,1,5,3,64,64,27,0,7,19,3,9,2,1,1,5,3,0,3,22,14,0,2,15,0,0,3,9,6,1,1,20,13,37,12,34,43,7,36,0,1,1,1,28,13,0,4,20,183,59,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11067762228962087,0.0,0.09920940156796523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06904072262469581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476943042805793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10429450568660682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10971284084943524,0.0,0.0,0.11233587389329107,0.0,0.0654754547756439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899213299110809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566713490700919,0.14505946731625508,0.29244078533915385,0.0,0.0927923348765805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07843823716935197,0.0,0.05304280750777813,0.19478474256971254,0.0,0.1703093013097087,0.08119910064294691,0.11193206193372784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09094677616755968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203080341030953,0.0,0.10726711133193348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10596609315462832,0.10074824888541582,0.0902404000341811,0.0,0.0,0.22318271922508565,0.08275671446024394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2868414418442381,0.09920032009076843,0.10175507704161424,0.0,0.0,0.08525572810431963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10293077459540484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14926563467104212,0.0,0.0,0.09805382017961543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06879620781757513,0.0772146071301363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099420655281925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10607238705428797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09723322556857336,0.10328778471776212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0867020981584696,0.0965738613583347,0.08073703695866077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07186016857974871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19137289053636436,0.0,0.0,0.08160223436733544,0.0,0.0,0.11610309108138378,0.0,0.20234680322527285,0.06505334785493898,0.0,0.0,0.17760075225063934,0.0,0.0,0.0970118271555334,0.0,0.13785810303593524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12212250117432186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17964685383728474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09128348654842583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097866818955961,0.0,0.0,0.2062078516398201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307579995290189
divorce,kenosha_wosha,2020/03/12,US marriage certificate but living in the UK (spouse is British). Divorce is looming over our shoulders and I'm not sure if I will need a UK or US lawyer to go about doing things. We married in Washington State 2 years ago. I am living in the UK on a spouse visa and my husband is British. Anyone ever been in a similar situation? What did you do?,1.8044285714285733,4.00389115714286,3.481428571428569,87.91357142857143,80.28571428571428,6.285714285714287,27.142857142857146,7.447530270364453,1.5568571428571425,271,12,55,4,7,90,53,70,0.069,0.9309999999999999,0.0,-0.5504,0,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,4,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,5,0,9,1,1,0,2,10,12,5,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,8,1,8,9,0,11,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,2,3,39,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22979831819115715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812648212631306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344950745956949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14733059148513222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4578227564249662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19222125114659225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2913937050299533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2443281864218561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17222581290285308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6236613587137786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669403894957861
divorce,throwRA8507,2020/03/12,"A conundrum of how to tell my wife what I’ve done, the fallout and asking for a divorce. Seeking advice. Long story short (long version posted in another sub) I took a paternity test behind my wife’s back with our 12 year old son. Test results came back negative and I am NOT his biological father. Without getting to deep into other details, this personally will not change nothing for my relationship with my son in my eyes. However I cannot continue a relationship with my wife. I’ve spoken to an attorney to understand the legal aspects and I have those ducks in a row. 

Now comes time to pull the trigger. To further complicate things I’m out of the country for the next few months for work. I’m torn on how to proceed. Sending a letter in the mail with papers seems very cowardly an impersonal. A phone call/FaceTime seems a bit better but after dropping this bomb I worry about her mental state alone with my son and no real friends or family close by plus me being out of the country. I don’t think I can sit this either until I get home. That’s daily phone conversations with her pretending everything is ok, making future plans knowing there is no future etc... 

Could really use some advice on how to proceed and pull the trigger.",5.195398361876394,6.613495067510549,6.32722759990072,74.53027550260613,68.78902953586497,8.951998014395633,30.818813601389927,9.325443323948027,2.9185385455448003,989,40,171,20,17,331,150,237,0.105,0.845,0.05,-0.917,1,1,0,0,1,0,23.0,1,0,0,3,8,3,0,0,18,1,11,1,1,8,0,40,26,12,0,1,6,7,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,8,18,0,0,5,1,0,6,8,0,0,0,3,1,20,3,37,20,6,40,0,0,1,0,24,13,0,4,17,117,28,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27276000518615423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445458714088219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14634467625865416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13047319127856388,0.0,0.0,0.21463169419944872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12343272415768172,0.15236738042820494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14251011072039887,0.1596236577302758,0.0,0.0,0.14763985685627973,0.12022174346848236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11143023370223246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14282208937679622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15565038349028015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254308270355757,0.0,0.13156820676274178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10782654485849474,0.0,0.14583251407880132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13999373984162816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07670054285579805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470189114023613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09315983312560938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406473531377127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139838948545162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148427545836056,0.0,0.0,0.13391510494499465,0.0,0.14644859401146534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12186161299187225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13366341642622268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15885401027472318,0.08940806041821632,0.0,0.0,0.2996783016106229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25410704614873825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12198479866690072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927199005753448,0.08942676408613366,0.0,0.0,0.08138069803085972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15506037203570094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14529070193399796,0.0,0.12053820033084453,0.0,0.11515464363319745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13453439706363424,0.0,0.10160401359641276,0.14173368096614114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08987442738789478
divorce,AcceptablePause4,2020/03/12,"He GHOSTED for 15+ Years! Now He's Back??? 


I contacted my daughter's father after 15+ years of NC. Our adult, unmarried daughter was in a serious accident. I informed him via text message. He barely came back into her life a year ago. 
Last interaction was in 2004:  I needed her medical card (his insurance) as me or my family members were not able to get the medical info from him. I had to go to court for the card. He didn't show up.
2003: He went 100% NC.
No phone calls, no visitation, no holiday or birthdays, special events acknowledged for years. Nothing from him or his family.
2019: He sent a message on IG to our daughter and has seen her a handful of times this past year.
So, I felt obligated to inform him of his daughter's motorcycle accident, believing he was wanting to be included in her life after reaching out.
He thanked me, then BOOM!  He completely stopped responding to my text messages (3) & didn't answer my daughter's calls or text messages from the hospital. 
I wanted to send him a message ""no response is a response,"" then block him until I go to my grave.
I almost want to kick my own ass for notifying him or even reaching out for him to help his daughter.
It just seems so weird to me that many dad's yearn for a connection to their kid(s) & don't get it. I believe in 50/50, as long as it is safe.
Encouraged  my child for years to have contact with her dad and his family. They were ALL NC as well. 
I took her  to ""Kids Turn,"" an 8 week workshop for kids / parents going through divorce (which he chose not to attend).
This is ALL so puzzling to me how a father can walk away from his ONLY child (I think), missing so many years of her life and now has an opportunity to make up some lost time. My daughter lives separately from me, over 30 miles away.
He has no clue that our daughter will be leaving to college this August. Barely a year after reconnecting and he'll be in his 70's when she graduates. 
Our daughter is in a very delicate situation at this moment and will be needing care for three months minimum.  
Of course, I would want to be at the hospital during her surgery and be a part of her support system. I'm not sure if he intends on going to visit. From his track record, I doubt it.
But honestly? I'm bitter over his actions through the years, he makes me sick. 
There was no reason for him to alienate his daughter! I was concerned over him having child porn magazines in his possession. The reason for the divorce.
But, with all of the new technology and social media available, a relationship could have been maintained or established without physical contact. If he knew he has a problem with kids. Basically, no excuses for ALL the years absent will never be acceptable.
I've managed to live less than a mile away from him and not run into him. And, I can't imagine being in a hospital waiting room or even seeing him face to face. What do I do?
Constant reminders, every minute of every day surround me.  Surviving with basic BASIC necessities, hanging on a thread for years.
And, now my child has just informed me that her phone has stopped working. 
Ugh! Seriously, how can I NOT be angry? Been doing this, doing this & doing this. Over and over AGAIN.
His opportunity to make REAL amends at LEAST with his procreation.....will he? 
Not one time has he justified or apologized for his actions. No reason or excuse, nada, zilch. 
I'm not even sure WHY he ghosted our child or what are his intentions NOW  after ALL these years.
I'm hoping anyone can give me an inkling of WHY would someone do this?",3.5833329977347117,5.5481648890510975,4.795304555751327,81.71815693430658,73.83211678832117,7.760634281399446,28.744651396929267,8.53829466247534,2.2683173923986915,2779,116,523,52,58,916,302,685,0.098,0.825,0.077,-0.9317,1,0,0,0,2,0,115.0,5,0,2,5,21,25,1,1,28,0,53,11,4,10,8,97,92,39,3,14,24,15,2,0,0,6,6,1,1,9,19,21,0,5,15,2,0,17,21,11,1,2,20,6,81,14,101,56,10,95,0,4,2,2,120,32,1,18,45,358,100,5,0.07013376482311094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06216935088646339,0.0,0.07022883466900648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22796971465278976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049039159055574336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976789421410229,0.10785707210005516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580334725546551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14322883061877625,0.08021434310950477,0.07150604740756329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07353391806631716,0.07578968429736839,0.0,0.05599610437487081,0.0,0.0,0.045230476289305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13896807065512645,0.0,0.11818144341588913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19834761519000932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06733941267320379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07328399491136284,0.06727869787622348,0.15943453912887418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047009184204617416,0.0,0.0,0.06965865319893147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05716837895973265,0.0,0.0742615304314594,0.0,0.0,0.1486126565891991,0.0,0.0,0.12385879849788582,0.062066174887581115,0.0,0.0,0.07655928910076681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14044449785110674,0.14220925920194105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14130477922601434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055980101966661186,0.0,0.0,0.10400659590925894,0.05409148304103896,0.0677356270973111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06729523886587221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047524454120239895,0.053339888496456565,0.0,0.0,0.07787524606457391,0.07594803281793966,0.06695061432456313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06710854116388666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07982757860384876,0.0,0.216327573000584,0.0,0.07529741659124001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05588753031487762,0.06384714545496725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07883329015073222,0.0,0.07149254108389529,0.05942411134195271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172699355484535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07958696519855149,0.13220048669353687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06456974788064873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0449388846213446,0.0,0.0,0.12268668680745755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779211932743479,0.0,0.07628539670999766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05786770098110625,0.16546684638344086,0.0,0.0562570757376196,0.0,0.06305867730252908,0.06501470263114645,0.12656962828712856,0.0,0.0,0.06760644656024488,0.0,0.0510582160803324,0.0,0.0,0.0996420285886437,0.0,0.0,0.5419661414433679
divorce,avaughan11,2020/03/12,"Back sliding. Who here has back slid with their partner after filing for divorce?

I (28F) filed for divorce from my husband (35M) on Valentine’s Day. We were together almost 10 years, married for 8.5 years with a 7 year old child. He cheated and had a pretty serious drug addiction. I had no intentions of ever going back when I left him.

The back sliding started last Friday. It started innocently enough. He called to talk to our son while I was in the shower. I answered, told him I was in the shower and I’d have him call him back. He made a dirty joke to me. We laughed. It was over. After our son FaceTimed him, he texted me. We started joking around with each other over text and somehow it turned into phone sex. Then we stayed up all night texting each other. He told me he’d quit using and was willing to submit to random drug testing to prove it to me. He told me he wanted to work things out, but understood I had trust issues with him and wouldn’t blame me if I had no interest in working things out. I told him that I was willing to keep talking, but I wasn’t willing to call off the divorce until he proved to me he had truly changed. He told me he wanted to go to counseling, which I’ve wanted him to do for years. We continued to text back and forth all weekend.

Today I went to his house. To my surprise, it was clean, he’d been keeping up with the laundry, the fridge was stocked, and he was sober. I slept with him. Twice. We laid in bed and talked. He felt like the person he was when we started dating, not the mean emotionally abusive addict I’ve been living with for the last few years. I’m still in love with him. I’ve never stopped loving him, and maybe I’ve screwed up now by letting my emotions get the better of me. I still have no plans to call off the divorce or move back home, but I tentatively want to see if we can reconcile.

How has backsliding worked out for anyone else here?",2.8067422279792744,4.473664217616584,3.757380181347152,89.60866094559587,75.21761658031087,6.172150259067358,25.015867875647675,6.770275591412753,0.8558914507772024,1492,50,309,13,32,479,192,386,0.07400000000000001,0.8170000000000001,0.109,0.9215,2,0,2,0,4,0,49.0,10,0,1,6,18,13,2,0,14,0,31,9,1,4,6,65,61,21,0,7,7,3,1,1,1,4,4,0,5,3,12,32,0,3,7,3,0,7,7,3,0,1,28,2,52,10,58,26,6,65,0,0,1,4,65,19,1,6,39,211,64,5,0.0,0.091883018122436,0.0,0.1690799599597343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07765423484354568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054224143000227765,0.07945823072168949,0.0,0.06903515204358654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4174133681776632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06858588859284892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31674526002480863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08203667903556339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05001276248437007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17986470201060548,0.0,0.06478233312694752,0.1744646288695718,0.0,0.0801289640376327,0.0,0.0,0.07014761258759662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07445930992016248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04051621088361628,0.0,0.08814589621227173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07778808342760407,0.0,0.0,0.08948126459730123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08094112620521222,0.0,0.1378584298152256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264257550701773,0.0,0.0,0.08425733831057368,0.07929922227841099,0.0,0.037886579513447115,0.0,0.06847728765061607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13998220462072988,0.07337884589330007,0.0,0.0,0.07790850743833846,0.08447371848926301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08242243452605807,0.0,0.0,0.05981065678935794,0.0,0.0,0.07277458934217051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08137474905454098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06771289436769083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07889532745250617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08248302751218545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06179660283915519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21955864563785596,0.0826570363481453,0.1238616438238854,0.06483453098778226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18699311885309366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10304036979815558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0735074916580116,0.37050750440219,0.0,0.0,0.08435116628619707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06697753481088756,0.0,0.0,0.18296190458577047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07188880479360171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693700338706214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496954315088178
divorce,Plane_Tea,2020/03/12,"Should I give in the my ex or take her to court? Long story. A little background and perhaps longish story. Me (38M) and my ex (34F) have been separated since 2018, after 6 years of marriage with an almost 4 year old toddler. We are living in Canada. Back in 2016 when my child was born, my mother came to our house daily to help us with childcare while I was working full time and my ex was nursing and on a maternity leave. When she had to return to work full time, we decided that we would all buy a bigger house together with the intention of my mother moving in with us to help us with child care more. My mother had contributed a significant portion of money for the down payment but never added her name on the new house. Within a year my ex and I were having a lot of problems and I decided to walk away from the marriage. It was also around this time I also moved to another country for work with the agreement that my ex gets full custody of our child since I wouldn't be in the country. 

Here's where things start getting messy. We eventually sold this home during the separation and the proceeds remaining after paying out the mortgage was a significant portion that should have been divided 3 ways. However since my mother's name wasn't on the title my ex decided she would not give any money back to my mother and keep half of the proceeds and I had no legal recourse. Keep in mind my ex never paid any significant amount on the down payment of this new property or any previous properties we owned together. Her contribution was always to help pay half the bills and mortgages. Because I didn't want to see my mother homeless (retired with small pension) I gave my half of the proceeds to my mother while my ex kept the other half (250k). 

During this time our separation agreement stated I was to pay child support (I make about 50% more than my ex) and more than half of any extra child expenses. However, my ex stopped taking care of our child and left it to my mother while I'm out of the country. She pretty much only sees our child a few hours a week while my mother does the rest and our child lives with my mother permanently. After learning of this I've already made arrangements to move back home in the next few months.

Also my ex will refuse to sign a new separation agreement unless I pay extra spousal support and to top it off she wants an extra 20k from the division of assets because of a previous property (solely in my name with no contributions from her) that I sold shortly after we got married. However this property was sold so we can buy our first matrimonial home together. If we do not count this towards my assets my ex would be owing me 30k. I tried to take the high road and settle the amount at zero with no spousal support payments and just child support payments but she is refusing to budge. After speaking with my lawyer, he says we can go to court which can be lengthy and costly or I can just pay her. I'm also seeking for shared/full custody as stated before my ex dumped our child onto my mother despite having full custody. 

I want nothing more than to have this all finished and sign the divorce paperwork to avoid lawyer fees and court costs for everything, should I give in and pay her or take her to court?",7.447354588539426,6.7334670142180135,7.5123940830102,75.36735028005172,63.69194312796209,10.137182249030591,34.189717075973,9.339509955726095,2.9861178515007896,2592,95,481,39,33,838,258,633,0.066,0.843,0.09,0.9668,5,1,0,0,1,0,47.0,20,0,0,5,16,12,1,1,36,0,39,0,0,3,4,93,76,40,0,12,12,24,0,0,0,8,0,2,3,10,18,44,0,7,4,0,20,6,10,3,0,7,25,4,80,9,90,40,23,87,0,0,2,0,84,37,0,7,41,341,98,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07182582169834639,0.0,0.07915428269472986,0.2294453099902265,0.059683932926494015,0.0,0.0,0.19511160347651685,0.07521368073205173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0638536524323633,0.0,0.0,0.06739137145332195,0.16546457447448884,0.0,0.08745016539040829,0.0,0.061035747018417186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08203839823040565,0.1462641559027824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06277017246781938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06446503159388485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06101230200013945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07495045555937513,0.2064257984856112,0.040765010675459616,0.0,0.05736790594377938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442344856829449,0.07578519349383693,0.21584887244529605,0.0,0.07063821251276257,0.24829548713952104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127511333019662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07595022000514974,0.07793332289559637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07189089094341347,0.12667531817392774,0.0634775449711567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060981082168060426,0.0,0.06787132617018726,0.04787939079776701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07242542836407538,0.0,0.05725307619673679,0.22870841872847314,0.052728766837583686,0.0,0.1106430210501386,0.20782775753493685,0.07628416919399153,0.0,0.0,0.06882551662303056,0.0,0.07526708914349621,0.0,0.0,0.05455282489895781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07297376291007726,0.0,0.06863457345962046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057041453732236735,0.0,0.0,0.11431679897513294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17800389257944202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050769865177629145,0.0,0.0,0.0599683130225501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3255870155787411,0.0,0.0,0.21572389174740025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04765328796146872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16730207058919586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048699004212679885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25884198613705195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12692214239356145,0.056934816040415885,0.05753634828549833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15665780338115412,0.0,0.0,0.15286179699834762,0.0,0.0,0.1385725807117498
divorce,throwawayyyy135790,2020/03/12,"30F, on the brink of divorce #2. Someone tell me this gets better. I've been married twice. The first was when I was 21, and it didn't even last a year due to his cheating and abuse. The 2nd, everyone loves him. In private he is controlling, critical and manipulative. He choked me 2 years ago and I stayed on the conditions he would go with me to marriage therapy and that he would get individual counseling. I asked for a separation a few months ago because we had hit a breaking point. He hasn't been physical with me since but he is still self-centered and controlling with me. Spending time with him exhausts and depresses me, I hate being home with him. I hate when he looks at me, or touches me. I don't want to be with him. 

BUT this would be divorce #2. I take marriage so seriously, I desperately want to have a happy marriage and family. I don't think I can do this with him anymore though. I'm in therapy to try to figure out why I'm staying - I haven't been in a relationship since 18 where I wasn't physically or sexually assaulted at one point in the relationship, so I have a lot to work on. I don't want to be divorced multiple times but I can't stay in this anymore. 

My question is: Has anyone every gone through more than 1 divorce? Have you had a successful marriage after multiple divorces? Please tell me there's still hope for me to have a healthy and happy relationship.",3.0405434782608687,4.996666387681163,4.671086956521737,82.0559782608696,75.34057971014492,8.223188405797101,29.2536231884058,8.959647251330699,2.496640579710145,1097,49,220,25,24,369,141,276,0.11699999999999999,0.775,0.10800000000000001,0.7433,0,0,0,0,6,0,33.0,1,1,0,6,10,13,4,0,14,0,32,2,0,3,0,37,50,19,0,7,5,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,6,18,0,2,3,0,1,2,8,7,0,3,10,2,34,6,33,32,3,36,0,1,1,1,32,15,0,5,15,149,40,2,0.0,0.12303543091218455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18409879831170226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20596612113597135,0.07260852915156794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09707796932285953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06330093481514484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09183954260483462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23293458659205316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08943870167410063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06858646167419633,0.0,0.08749110858235193,0.09922519175323102,0.0,0.0,0.0978927104856944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08832769462678146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10850600180225146,0.0,0.05901562957567564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2210828352859769,0.0,0.20504435522766268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041616890685403,0.1031382358274484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464484281921618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08720087248382401,0.0,0.0,0.08828249758120582,0.09372118601175793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08288545203125855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07036582149565937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11398700049565985,0.19632793699356146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11632646620026695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3344613635038265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10832953725642322,0.0,0.0,0.17179785005871362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08798473309439299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3320442980486373,0.1658562271110478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780760330675676,0.0,0.18152444079577248,0.0,0.2375040613805417,0.0,0.0,0.06653756664893186,0.10202394030750776,0.0,0.12110185746963747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07050169607952347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18374557043741352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09370098021842456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07559799234107098,0.0,0.0,0.22129848707134914,0.0,0.0,0.1337412968805809
divorce,machomaddy,2020/03/13,"Well, he’s gone He completely moved out today. We didn’t exchange goodbyes. He just left. I feel empty.",0.1454999999999984,2.0951365499999994,1.6999999999999993,91.78000000000004,108.5,4.0,20.0,5.985473137389443,0.4215000000000004,81,3,15,1,4,26,18,20,0.095,0.794,0.111,0.0772,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,2,1,2,1,1,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,6,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4523689342933861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181549603397193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4687735713055058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4585649127207921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4089657954209491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3879269240565885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Z-A1,2020/03/13,"1 Week Left to a Divorce Finalisation & My Moods a Mess I’ve a week left till my divorce is final & I’ve scrolled the internet and tried to look for something from any South Asian women about how they were after their divorce or some community to turn to. I’m so bloody tired of being isolated in this & so I’m here - no idea how this all works.

Put briefly, I was married for 3 years (we spent 1 year practically in different countries). I love and hate him so much & it’s killing me. He’s a victim of his own parental shit and being a psychologist I see/saw all the dips and issues and familial toxicity and abuse. I knew I wouldn’t stay, but I’ve been so low since the decision is coming near an end.

All I wanted was a happy marriage (naturally) & I knew he saw his family for what they were but it was just promise after promise broken. We lived with his parents (typical in Asian cultures) & I moved half way across the world to do this, I did plan of course, had an amazing job & friends, who kept me sane.

The regrets I have a really simple, we’re going through an amicable divorce (but it wasn’t easily reached), I drove everything & he really did try to hurt me and not agree to sign, he did though. The divorce process is quick thankfully (3 months) but it almost feels too quick & I see how he’s matured & seeing all the flaws - but not quick enough. Not in time to “save” this - but even if he did things wouldn’t change - we were wayyyy too broken (I feel very guilty for wanting this when I know how hard others struggle to finalise divorces & end things easily).

I’ve written an essay but I suppose I really wanted a community to even speak to & this seemed like a good start to healing & learning from others who have or are going through the same & getting some advice on when it feels okay. 

The disclaimer in all this is because he was so abused psychologically by his parents - he put all that on me too in the marriage. I was physically abused also. So I had all this anger & I thought I had healed and moved on. Instead I’ve been pulled right back, I feel disgusting wanting to have a man care for me who physically and psychologically hurt me so bad. 

I feel disgusting & I can’t share because I know I wouldn’t want someone I love in this situation - I don’t like being called a victim or a survivor or all those things (I also don’t want this to be triggering). But lately I’ve felt a lot of love/hate for my ex & I don’t want to succumb to anger when I was healing. I’d love some advice from those who’ve been in the same/similar situations.",4.90196708963439,5.312074019120459,5.7526681731270655,82.04668462830988,68.8470363288719,8.786812677443653,29.615215250014487,8.754623652393294,2.080832249840664,2044,72,426,32,33,672,230,523,0.17,0.703,0.127,-0.9769,5,0,1,0,9,0,85.0,3,0,3,2,30,33,9,1,28,1,40,8,1,5,8,79,81,40,1,12,17,4,7,2,1,3,4,1,0,2,27,14,0,1,15,0,1,9,12,16,0,1,29,12,50,16,50,45,16,51,0,4,4,3,44,19,1,11,23,267,77,3,0.0,0.15871202470560958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08726467404558351,0.0,0.0,0.04471142071309691,0.0,0.0,0.07141460788784919,0.0,0.8224468282167758,0.0,0.03036413918689052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03433378148930502,0.037281631571310966,0.054437541315179534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045593555227160916,0.0,0.045524562442742375,0.0,0.04723472554528995,0.03846279167581354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046650680959849165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07909487831211391,0.04613630962444525,0.0,0.05898298898672431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04012934458282191,0.0,0.08418577841041487,0.0,0.11288416853365132,0.0,0.04287186060817858,0.04891287205586512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034497170082234886,0.0,0.023328249311421703,0.0,0.0507522642856538,0.0374510515909657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047531707134749766,0.039998430855979566,0.044083513899701866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09559941142317208,0.05040542460384538,0.0,0.04660393285755122,0.044309122727779864,0.0,0.04939959882996023,0.0,0.04907792743927024,0.0,0.050368153491240096,0.0,0.09702665434692437,0.0,0.0,0.04362834298525646,0.0,0.039427557603356235,0.0,0.037495505496248575,0.0,0.0,0.03796059350085867,0.1611967011394609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035639917740199374,0.09491366835864376,0.032823544820125235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14873860172988546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08977296262150786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08581351848983834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03813161966148837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10674294507241333,0.04064849709128343,0.0,0.0,0.04583350122531061,0.03693568107541085,0.10037895171518706,0.0,0.0,0.037832557741194116,0.034374439785181614,0.0,0.0,0.03160413271758568,0.04759191220550468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046678809345574314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041108544324235836,0.0,0.0,0.0889922101562245,0.0,0.04386927682700335,0.03544782242574284,0.026036295469411903,0.05131963444817725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06063005237327172,0.04856735104094613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03684166391853553,0.18435377976551745,0.035441801472135735,0.07163250802176102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03250638275271624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05750742382986448
divorce,gavuroglu,2020/03/13,"Here, My Dear - Marvin Gsye Just hit my playlist. .thought I'd share for the men and women going over the hump.  Remember that divorce is not a four lettered word.",1.7408064516129007,4.4699042903225825,1.8970161290322598,95.26552419354843,86.74193548387099,4.390322580645162,23.87903225806452,5.985473137389443,0.4998322580645169,127,5,25,1,4,38,29,31,0.0,0.8490000000000001,0.151,0.5859,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,6,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,2,2,2,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,14,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3800240696933141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7574797352986076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5308541768373708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,papabardo,2020/03/13,"It happened I'm 21. Got married at 20. Been together 3 years. Told my wife last night I wanted a divorce. Long story short we got married too soon, too fast. Different goals, different values. I moved out of the house two weeks ago. I was drowning. Now it's happening. I feel guilt, shame, and that I failed. When I moved out we still saw each other and I tried to rekindle that connection, but I'm emotionally spent and I can't anymore. I've got too much going through my head and I know I should contact the IRS to refile taxes. I know I should get an attorney because I know poop about the legality of divorce. I'm just drained and don't have that energy. Do any of you have any advice? Anything is appreciated.",1.287949461474728,3.803794232394367,3.0408864954432486,88.13845484672743,85.54929577464789,6.158077879038942,23.845898922949466,7.510576382923642,1.291541342170671,559,22,113,10,17,185,94,142,0.086,0.866,0.048,-0.4443,2,0,0,0,2,0,21.0,2,1,0,2,9,3,0,2,5,0,10,2,2,0,0,19,28,7,1,3,2,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,10,0,0,4,0,2,3,2,3,0,1,8,2,18,0,10,18,2,18,0,1,1,0,8,4,0,0,11,66,24,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15882809636899414,0.1440781741611491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22105982645017752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611918325619973,0.0,0.0,0.13375310917021366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908031116442388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33963062062431976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18283089105915348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08218298088883517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08491824372870453,0.0,0.09237283713104576,0.0,0.3899841661626748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2874597309623598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16680861579192507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18754448331936688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26797626442206673,0.1324883651320924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14383906261624402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3454996521714361,0.1194825098903053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15252883179936766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12980129471001378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15530991608527733,0.0,0.11035113471195657,0.0,0.15877385295434926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958678222114122,0.0,0.13037640960292812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046677221209946
divorce,Colorc,2020/03/13,"Dreams during Coronavirus pandemic I’ve been doing great since this whole divorce process started. Still a few months until it’s final, but I’ve been running around dating and enjoying single life. 

Then this while coronavirus panic goes straight to my head. I had dreams all night that the coronavirus got worse, and then my ex all of a sudden changed his mind and came to get me. Pathetic thing I woke up wondering if he’s even thought about me during all of this.

It sucks. It’s like my brain finds any reason to go back to someone who treated me poorly for years and then packed up and abandoned me.",5.58045652173913,6.887453773913047,4.9971195652173925,84.83915760869569,67.78260869565217,8.184782608695654,29.15760869565217,8.472884824447931,2.036065217391304,484,17,91,7,8,146,81,115,0.156,0.7090000000000001,0.135,-0.6956,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,5,7,1,1,3,0,4,3,2,1,3,18,13,12,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,9,7,0,1,4,2,1,3,0,3,0,0,7,0,10,4,12,6,6,21,0,1,0,0,5,4,1,2,15,58,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13685095750555898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17914738682669518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15474210688727896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22465180039221413,0.0,0.2301663899021696,0.0,0.0,0.2128865692058232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329179541315308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22044996349121015,0.18393086564383954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10514025230706328,0.0,0.11437004553821782,0.0,0.16095101918302807,0.22186919934877605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20653159063659007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421426531919648,0.09831631443862957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20319630494076504,0.0,0.16062885360080956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888512898444018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23611325849726594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20690953173578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166468849657765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17051106635692384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424395994536105,0.0,0.1607115300122626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336957509367201,0.0,0.0,0.15976308139650292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22467867980189948,0.0,0.0,0.21823756185131665,0.0,0.0,0.2050820362351025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12959277334285074
divorce,witheredaway_mama,2020/03/13,"S/O For Inspiration Through This Shoutout to all of those who have experienced a divorce without dragging it around your social media.

I admire you and having seen that in people like you have given me the strength to do that as well.",6.1349242424242405,7.438514159090907,5.952727272727272,78.50742424242426,66.5,7.684848484848485,32.84848484848485,7.793537801064563,2.36249393939394,189,8,33,2,3,59,40,44,0.0,0.716,0.284,0.9231,0,0,0,0,1,0,3.0,0,3,0,1,2,5,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,1,5,6,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,5,5,9,4,1,2,0,0,1,0,6,2,0,0,1,29,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4298708311843108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23591366056372745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3347722839460795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4922413665753697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4341724188178897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4654847784060111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Make-2Day-Your-Bitch,2020/03/13,"Almost one year later.... (Excuse format/grammar, I'm on my phone)

So I have 2.5 months to get my old name back. It's been almost a year and I've went through his angry phase where he spray painted the few items I took when I left, leaving him with everything (13 year relationship) He sold my car to his dad, I'm paying $200 on a loan for a boat I don't get and his Jeep. The angry texts, name calling, and talking shit to our kids. 

That moved on to the sad phase, suicide texts, regrets, apologies, still talking shit. Then to the sex phase where, I swear to all that was holy, had he sent me one more dick picture I was going to drive to his house to cut it off so he could just frame that mother fucker. He tried every way possible and I literally had to push him off of me and out of my house at one point. 

I guess, as of this morning, we're back to the angry phase because he found out I am moving. See, his family gave him a house so He doesn't understand how much a mortgage is or how much a house rents for so he thinks I'm wasting money and trying to get the most expensive place. $1000 for 3 bedroom is NOT expensive for my area.
He also found out that I have a date tonight and is throwing on the guilt as heavy as he can. 

I'm a single mom with a full time job and two girls I have 90% of the time. I want someone to hang out with that I'm, one, not in charge of, and two, not arguing with. 

I have to admit I'm dreading the hell out of this whole dating thing. I'm old-fashioned, I *catch feelings*, I like phone calls the next day, I like honesty about emotions... I'm not sure I'm going to survive in this new dating world haha... We shall see.",2.3460773601398617,3.2447111732954568,3.702500000000001,92.63096153846158,75.05113636363636,6.438111888111888,22.913461538461537,6.490185161304077,0.3402500874125871,1271,33,297,9,26,418,181,352,0.151,0.81,0.039,-0.9908,3,0,0,0,1,1,57.0,2,0,0,1,16,14,6,2,19,1,18,5,3,2,2,44,47,22,1,3,6,3,1,2,0,1,0,0,2,2,11,19,0,0,6,0,7,13,6,10,0,6,12,3,33,4,48,33,10,56,1,2,2,3,40,22,5,5,22,174,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19177006513580053,0.0,0.0,0.07657542406323542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472597248656364,0.0,0.05837150037589205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19555359494815208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07645276070670119,0.0,0.0,0.06175420270750459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10771174717521499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08067791245762321,0.0,0.08605862777080732,0.0,0.09026951029395676,0.0,0.04841672218695101,0.0684075565415006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20998133788784126,0.0,0.0,0.15008446897702046,0.0,0.10883980952318817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10548518307621056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4419547233922561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09502229202400997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10139096423174836,0.10403833923895067,0.0,0.0,0.09356233868899322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121473698723956,0.07643091225314823,0.2035453142968823,0.14078222583295086,0.0,0.0,0.09248099930524883,0.10183677505703342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009580154648294,0.0,0.2595448922123117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10004383649208437,0.0,0.09051964462676444,0.10794963606794804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10280528327371066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526090441237665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19658273826232914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08113309694224885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07647025159603414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10474068159646527,0.0,0.09024817250524783,0.0,0.0,0.15392885592847486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06361552099386777,0.061356085940927375,0.0,0.0,0.11167129110262247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10638758552742764,0.13002303334775847,0.0,0.187077894861,0.09968457301769126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0564789164919246,0.0760060457534365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08876605896368382,0.0,0.10690729639251824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18498968895012333
divorce,IndependentCupcake1,2020/03/13,"Any regrets before filing? Any regrets before you filed for divorce? Curious about your stories, how you got here and if you have regrets of not trying hard enough.



My story: Last day of the year my husband told me he had a year long emotional affair. I packed up and left 3 days later. He barely reached out and when he did he would keep saying how this was tough and how he was sorry. 20 days later we met for the first time, he told me he was talking to his AP every day and didn’t want to burn that bridge. Then and there I lost hope and left. A week later he said he wants me in his life and he can’t imagine life without me. We met again, I still had some concerns but figured I’d try reconciliation. He contacted her the next night.

For about a month and a half he continued to gaslight me, telling me he wants me but still contacting her. He didn’t do anything to gain my trust or love, and at times wouldn’t even respond or talk to me. I gave him multiple chances and an ultimatum. He seemed to jump at the extra chances and then a day later not try. My last straw was this week. He had said some nasty things, then apologized with some kind words about me but when I said I’d go to marriage counseling (it would be our first time) he didn’t even respond.

I waited a day for a response. Should I have waited a few days? I had a gut feeling something was off so I checked his email. He had sent himself some semi nude photos, possibly of the AP the same night he apologized and professed how he hurt my beautiful mind and beautiful heart. I tried to call him. No response. So I sent him a few texts that I saw it and how I was done.

Got my lawyer appointment next Friday to further discuss filing.

Part of me knows I tried. Part of me thinks I should have given it more time apart or marriage counseling (though he never tried to go when I asked). My heart says one thing, brain another.",2.2296531145095138,4.2011407232376,3.0965132413278664,92.35254308093997,77.79895561357701,6.1525997762029085,23.21439761283104,7.110495986334442,0.6815647743379336,1479,47,319,17,35,468,184,383,0.055,0.816,0.129,0.9840000000000001,0,0,1,0,1,0,41.0,3,4,0,4,21,10,0,0,17,0,27,8,5,5,1,63,57,36,0,13,10,1,2,0,0,5,2,5,0,0,9,19,0,3,6,0,1,5,10,6,0,4,31,8,50,4,30,20,12,55,0,5,1,2,68,10,0,10,40,196,59,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11457926937541885,0.0883384527804543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06932663329882663,0.0,0.07875790320179149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433729450128752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09404552084250754,0.08602378308836367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3803183570150767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08621210365123783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09476452711110768,0.0,0.08704782664692406,0.0,0.11128633915950198,0.0,0.07098022660352175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04259691168923914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14331787267444135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09575699355753553,0.0,0.13475718781486248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07546716466146385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19966196939246428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836745066914885,0.0,0.0,0.09018624442279846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07488101739800951,0.0,0.08772842680117866,0.04629896663495095,0.13734218760006334,0.0,0.0,0.18306534390100013,0.0,0.11900977272414992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07455436370718782,0.0,0.0,0.09196360328505432,0.0,0.07603459515436126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0850636509392049,0.0,0.06724372639279583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06497510290278449,0.0,0.1791914825242134,0.1581168535857562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05708673756492251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18245871513139045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09497382116691906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404094725808152,0.13399035170223636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07669367916642474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06485608189867438,0.0,0.09430562027044316,0.0,0.0,0.13455667409753233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13542622437538807,0.07363403064914699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11193755411104883,0.05398093171882352,0.08277049541776885,0.0,0.1964962480092783,0.0,0.0,0.1609998252289354,0.0,0.34318182348417153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14907003052504214,0.0,0.13515285880730274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08120938039008402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11969076640175187,0.0,0.0,0.10850231197947542
divorce,shapeshifter83,2020/03/13,"7 years of isolation after divorce She divorced me 7 years ago, after just 3 years of marriage, 5 years together total. I probably deserved it, i was struggling and failing career and school and just not as ambitious as i lead her to believe, i think. I promised a lot and delivered nothing. But i never laid a hand on her or spoke an unkind word, and was 100% faithful. I was somewhat neglectful i think, at times, but my world revolved around her, and it was so easy to show her affection and pay her complements, i never had to *try*. She was so beautiful and seemed like such a warm and honest person, and it just felt so perfect. I didn't have eyes for any other woman during that time - legit, I have never felt that content. Probably never will again. I think i fell *too* hard. She emotionally murdered me when she gave me the divorce papers and left, and moved in with her boss immediately.

I completely fell off a social cliff since. Haven't touched social media in 7 years (no great loss there i don't think)... have seen my mother maybe 10 times in 7 years, and it blows my mind how much older she looks every time, other family members only by accident... I haven't dated - i dabbled a little, more in the beginning because i was suffering so much emotionally at first, no surprise nothing came of that... I have basically *one* friend and have been a complete hermit ever since. I hardly leave the small town that i now live and work in. This winter, for example, i didn't leave a 2-mile radius in this little town from September until just the other day, when i had to go to the next town over. I just feel like i don't want to be seen or known, like... I feel *embarrassed* that i got divorced. That i failed.

I still think about that damn woman multiple times every day. I just want to *forget*, and move the hell on, 7 years grief after a 5 year relationship just seems so ridiculous to me, but there it is. It just isn't going away. Every time i perk up a little and start browsing dating apps or things like r/r4r, it just brings her back to the forefront even more, and kills my mood and desire to seek someone new.

I hate her so much but still fantasize about her coming back - accidentally, i *try* to about doing that, it hurts. But the mind wanders.

And i *dream* about her all the goddamn time still. My brain is just torturing me, I swear.

I keep thinking I'm taking it slow and getting emotionally healthy so that i can treat the next girl better and make it work right this time, but it seems like the healing process stopped. I'm just static and scarred now, scarred waaaay worse than i expected, long term. I'm not getting better.

I'm about to be 37 and i want kids and a normal life without constant heartache someday. I want to feel content again. But i just don't think it's possible. I feel like i had it and screwed it up, just like everything else I've screwed up. Good game, thanks for playing, sorry you didn't win. No backsies.",2.654540719696968,4.903633769097223,3.5721414141414165,88.10518181818182,77.6284722222222,6.341868686868688,24.01439393939394,7.417985360599375,1.0850504166666672,2305,78,456,31,55,736,270,576,0.17,0.6759999999999999,0.154,-0.6855,0,1,0,0,4,0,101.0,0,1,0,12,44,42,9,2,22,0,31,7,3,5,8,102,75,49,3,7,26,1,11,7,1,1,2,1,0,5,30,30,0,3,17,4,1,10,19,19,0,2,21,16,69,22,52,51,10,91,2,7,4,2,34,27,4,8,61,298,99,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05644689868188665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04330337228007907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05668711513724405,0.0,0.0,0.05982778255132388,0.09792923899230203,0.0,0.038817651030284485,0.0,0.0,0.07174354634915177,0.0,0.11263641922591275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07108595163010749,0.0,0.07283091802913118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05485314688545415,0.13353080138642198,0.06881353222552677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08213436608332954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053194980645628026,0.2148882752773937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04205886283426513,0.05760059438770077,0.1609549368166639,0.0,0.05722987689951591,0.0,0.060030157297664574,0.0,0.1287904826006162,0.09098346420984367,0.12228215190484586,0.0,0.0,0.0541646602272866,0.0,0.0,0.04919763374438682,0.0,0.06653848201375223,0.0,0.07237959821260095,0.05341026858499634,0.05092928854558944,0.07020546083130512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11408635241161665,0.06286905754394022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06816885005588072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0566001265459759,0.07045051418891847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13485207821718312,0.06918657084949434,0.0,0.04497780899925228,0.2177697277432527,0.19146691177353084,0.05622903367962201,0.05635321964113318,0.05347366587078533,0.0,0.0,0.05413694431522498,0.0,0.0,0.04250570539765236,0.0,0.06397332953709657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285936963711634,0.0,0.0,0.13535973768611914,0.1404324527841128,0.0,0.19645027134650905,0.0615008203463242,0.1354450158298879,0.0,0.06239113408063113,0.12220193635196375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04315000894148401,0.048430154710175616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055601364314717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07178762366475801,0.0,0.0,0.1373117796941454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06836657588874692,0.0,0.054380850768748885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06444575686026717,0.0,0.17391077593230608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10535056094837904,0.0,0.0,0.12982384938981062,0.05395434799224702,0.0,0.0,0.07128255233142332,0.04507177088851928,0.0,0.1525605229369202,0.05323784208736409,0.0,0.06657030012413262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04787809554939914,0.0,0.0,0.058626348265887175,0.0,0.0,0.04230497893916706,0.2856170189409605,0.0,0.0,0.2970502509072548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08646666098849952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15023625274895833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061383530386183466,0.0,0.09271700311710786,0.0,0.06489354495517187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32805348014582464
divorce,wantedkezza18,2020/03/13,"This sucks... Only separated right now but my god this is so tough. Thought I was having a good day, then I cried in Lowes for no apparent reason...

I guess this post is not really relevant to anything.",1.1892307692307682,3.774593564102567,3.185333333333337,86.11800000000002,87.71794871794874,7.222564102564102,20.620512820512825,8.238735603445708,1.4773651282051283,155,5,31,4,5,52,34,39,0.192,0.664,0.14400000000000002,-0.293,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,1,0,4,0,0,1,0,5,7,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,4,1,3,5,0,7,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,1,3,21,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28160357984393336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37589348429368935,0.22069236540052245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28702330273642823,0.0,0.0,0.3769747409428869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26026049531710554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32773549446552863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21922374628619284,0.35184126355781864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2922391481410335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27167063767858235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,doneplayinggames1101,2020/03/13,"I’m done I am officially filing for divorce after my (F43) husband (M41) has been messing around with every little girl he could in his new city. I found out that he may have herpes, he may have another child, and he may have gotten another girl pregnant. I don’t know how to deal with all this, so I will leave him to handle all this by himself. He left me 3 months ago and decided this was the life he wanted. I tried my best to fight for my marriage but he’s not reciprocal to anything I ask. I’ve asked him to call me but he refuses and instead posts random crazy lies about me and our relationship. It hurts to read these lies and he won’t stop. I don’t know what else to do or how to get through to him or get him to at least call me. I tried to stay beside him and support him but I don’t want to sit here and read all these stupid letters and there is no other way to talk to him and it’s not fair to me.",2.533023930384335,3.2281939086294464,3.973999274836839,91.63371827411169,74.38071065989848,7.0498912255257435,23.208484408992014,7.1686216300943375,0.5451540246555475,708,18,169,7,14,235,113,197,0.149,0.8140000000000001,0.037000000000000005,-0.971,0,0,0,0,2,0,16.0,1,0,0,1,8,6,2,0,1,0,19,1,0,2,3,38,31,17,0,3,7,1,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,3,10,13,0,2,4,2,0,0,7,4,0,0,5,0,27,2,27,20,5,15,0,1,0,0,35,6,0,6,5,112,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13470190935329926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3186831606397799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12504877502831593,0.13527514926461978,0.2841210902808805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15947091409279382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31033293228400594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12132637816046556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566623872191878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555061516939978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12694170323439286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280314644697005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666144882913803,0.0,0.0,0.158783932900085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626745574224519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16702467110502187,0.0,0.0,0.16090195245699093,0.1651031927822241,0.0,0.10733267712139943,0.0,0.15230218840555718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212917058515328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14676232212740611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14553409491074934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039989458012305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631463999476834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16196738326449778,0.0,0.12704398552401905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17244053571441947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12213836630329175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063394907875217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792579448289819,0.12061746579616718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,allbutdecided,2020/03/13,"No clear option This is a vent session, though advice or input would not be dismissed. 

I (M29) have been with my wife (F28) for 12 years. We married last year after many years of ""when are you going to propose?"" I told myself I should stop wasting her time, but I am not sure if I ever wanted to be married to her. I love her dearly, even now that we stand on the brink of divorce and removal from one another's lives. 

Whether she will admit it or not, we fight far more often than we should be. A relationship takes work, sure I will agree to that, but it should not be this difficult. We would fight, argue, and blow matters out of proportion far too often.

We never had what I would call a healthy relationship: cheating, verbal abuse, emotional abuse and manipulation, physical abuse, and codependency galore. We have been together since we were teenagers, and we have done horrible things to each other.

Over the last year I have been growing tired of the fighting and the toxicity. I tried to leave her.

She did not take this well: threatened/attempted suicide, self-harmed, etc. I tried to leave her for nearly 5 months. I could never find the strength to simply walk away. During this time, I also began having an affair. (I know, I am a terrible person.)

I was upset and stressed. I never thought I would be capable of doing such a thing, and now I am forever changed- forever tainted by this mistake. 

My wife, being the clever sleuth that she is, discovered the evidence she needed to confirm her suspicions. Naturally, she confronted me, and being the coward I am, I fled. I packed a few bags, and went to sleep at a friend's place. 

I did what I did because I was hurting and I wanted to leave. I tried to get that through to her. This affair was a symptom of my desire to leave rather than the cause of it. 

She wouldn't hear it. To try to wrap up a very long story... I have moved out of my home and into my own apartment. It is sad, dark, and lonely. I am not sure what I want now that I have had time to think about everything. I still love my wife; I care about her more than I can say. That may sound meaningless given my affair, but it is true.

I thought for sure with the affair that she would cut ties, hate me forever, and move on with her life. Fat chance.

Instead, we are going to counseling. I have been mulling things over in my head, and I now feel that I am 95% sure that I cannot stay with her. It would not be good for her health or mine. Yes, I will be sad. Yes, she will be sad. I think we just did not get along very well. The good times were good, but the bad times were explosive. 

So lately I have been wondering what to do. If I say no to her desire to reconcile, she will cut all ties and she has been making it known that she is sad, miserable, and running out of money. I want to help her, but I do not know how long I can last.

I know we love each other, but sometimes love is not enough. Sometimes people just do not get along. I wish she could see that. I miss her terribly, until she calls.

The amount of stress, depression, and anxiety through this ordeal are insane. Despite everything that has happened, she still wants to work on things. She says I owe her a chance. I worry about her so often. I do not know how to proceed.

This sucks.",2.8019876733436035,4.5770129892141735,3.684727272727276,89.66200616332821,75.50231124807397,6.815531587057011,23.048073959938367,7.62072044053348,0.8850170107858246,2526,73,533,34,55,807,279,649,0.24600000000000002,0.635,0.11900000000000001,-0.9984,1,2,0,0,8,1,114.0,12,1,0,3,29,47,10,4,24,2,81,11,3,5,12,129,124,38,1,25,27,3,1,0,1,16,5,5,1,1,38,42,1,1,14,0,2,10,19,27,2,1,26,7,108,20,70,70,10,63,0,9,1,4,73,19,1,11,32,404,146,3,0.0,0.2246746643562056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06176646472663955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05054769191904035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06627946262057405,0.04835421212060096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059386322298228385,0.0,0.0527763291752648,0.03853122139312217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290855779386506,0.0,0.0644451219481214,0.06493238347235633,0.06686604954810596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10093344285945216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05444125628447551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06468408401485574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07110088228539535,0.0,0.06531111866749341,0.07049401480234559,0.041748516780309435,0.05717556822272414,0.0,0.0,0.11361517240679955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0319600392263549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05777128365329767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0488346117683364,0.0,0.09907125677055843,0.0,0.07184551999035574,0.15904848662087087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05589493212701513,0.0,0.0,0.062405156177858113,0.06486999919381302,0.06718751665309981,0.07124040043210603,0.0,0.0423672223340908,0.0,0.06340312530773637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06766584231406646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13895061694498725,0.15456971629143784,0.07130176809776556,0.2677140498303269,0.0,0.0,0.044645924478420224,0.0,0.0,0.055814128055830484,0.11187479533543686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22819200240822016,0.0,0.042192062159299805,0.06408334248420318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05045229919292344,0.13436093844085895,0.0,0.046868188074902735,0.1462505206475355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04283161148371365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04382070884167037,0.0551910901692266,0.06603926895951248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13572421831521062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15079744257979985,0.0,0.0,0.05036886860761745,0.0,0.06594009070531243,0.0,0.0,0.05228659746341501,0.0,0.06325399488640995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12502934199073426,0.0,0.0,0.0673716873102422,0.10095653444780983,0.05284500801864387,0.14480989488464135,0.0,0.0,0.0691396720226629,0.0,0.29786559303181553,0.06569767413450134,0.09504962049639176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16797126732523676,0.0810027124874696,0.062101879583091726,0.10036073347857252,0.18428647597809766,0.07264869606392124,0.0,0.060398283886070235,0.0,0.1716572728768487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10430701127497544,0.18640960240699894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11366378917537218,0.05859477053184053,0.0,0.0,0.07268647913359229,0.0,0.0685467555724451,0.0920328582279467,0.06419114415251029,0.0,0.2694083752225746,0.0,0.0,0.16281641130759505
divorce,NoWolf7,2020/03/14,"I don't know how to do this (throwaway account sorry if this might be long)

Been married for 14 years together for 16. Marriage had several rough patches due to husband being a workaholic and often being away for work and not checking in with me or answering the phone when he was away. We've been living in his country, my family is somewhere else so being alone with a child was very tough and I'd feel so lonely. Everytime I'd confront him about it he'd reassured me he wouldn't answer the phone or text me because he was tired or busy, but was happy with our lives and loved me. To me it often felt like I was furniture, but I loved him and I wanted to believe him.

5 years ago we moved to a different city for a fresh start, he promised to be home more often but things ended up more or less the same with him away very often and not keeping up with us. I'd become very resentful, at the time I realised it wasn't ok, but I was so afraid and felt like I couldn't do anything about it other than leave. He wanted a successful career so I tried my best to be supportive, even if it meant being alone a lot.

Looking back though I was living in fear he'd leave me at some point and I'd have vivid nightmares about it, but on the other hand when he was around he'd always act like he was entirely committed to our family and we were in this together and we've had so many lovely times when he was present. I have a history of depression, so I always had some times where I'd feel really down but I'd ride through it and eventually I'd feel better. About 2 years ago I started to develop some physical issues, I couldn't sleep anymore and had to be put on sleeping pills, and developed a physical condition that made intimacy painful. I would dread if he tried to be intimate with me and as a result I'd act really cold towards him and push him away. I see now that I had let all those issues pile up, but was too scared to do anything about it.

Around 6 months ago he'd started to be very cold and distant towards me. That only made my anxiety worse. I'd ask him what was wrong, but he insisted everything was fine, just stressed with work. Things had escalated to the point we would argue a lot and in January he said he was unhappy and he would leave. I begged him not to be hasty in this decision because he's my only family in this country other than our child, so let's try to fix this or at least find a solution where we could part peacefully. He agreed to it, but last week he left suddenly, packed up his stuff while we were asleep and ended it with a text. 

He insisted there was no one else, but I could tell something was off and as it turns out... He'd been cheating for the past 3 years. Many many affairs and hooks up, and an ongoing affair. When I confronted him with proof he denied everything and tried to manipulate me into believing I was wrong. My child confessed to me that he saw him sending texts to his current woman and talked to him about it, but at the time my husband told him that he was wrong, deleted the text and made my son check on his phone to show him he was mistaken (husband admitted to doing this).

Rationally I realise that loyalty and being faithful are choices. We had some tough times, but the first affair should have gave him pause and made him confront the issues we had. Nevertheless I can't help but feeling guilty. I did push him away, and it's clear I didn't deal with my mental health as I should have. Idk if it's codependency on my part, but he was my family and I still love him. I want nothing more than for him to come back and have our life back. I am so angry at all the lies he's been telling me, but I feel like this is my fault. If I had been kinder and less resentful maybe we would have made this work. And I don't understand myself, I loved him so much and wanted to grow old with him so pushing him away when all I wanted was to be by his side was stupid.

I don't know how to cope alone.",4.884055210246864,4.930441975339086,5.618535443770603,84.25963537079446,68.82737361282368,9.234464883363945,28.511562948237252,9.070445807138313,2.014747381665366,3106,97,668,53,49,1014,307,811,0.14400000000000002,0.733,0.12300000000000001,-0.8123,2,5,1,0,0,0,66.0,13,0,0,7,44,41,8,5,25,1,91,14,4,9,6,147,132,80,0,21,29,4,9,4,0,8,5,1,1,4,37,57,0,1,17,1,3,11,13,22,0,2,53,16,101,19,94,47,20,91,2,2,4,5,101,41,0,21,43,461,138,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14442144300949195,0.0,0.0,0.1687391323927528,0.0,0.0,0.09037667942822376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041545226053728034,0.0,0.05385862500337319,0.0,0.0,0.08938118557667091,0.09669069703077818,0.050770349191527474,0.0,0.3061431146754193,0.12527775961434767,0.0,0.06621091452843662,0.059978565100987084,0.0,0.12237231489315613,0.05699255895702196,0.048030729115587915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046781257026798084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08672052580483376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05598883276446229,0.046775124643668106,0.0,0.0,0.056739966117181184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907341949702644,0.0,0.09620096905626012,0.0,0.0,0.035869710020709086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09761648083523994,0.0,0.20478578731429986,0.06111123769886321,0.13729797220491113,0.038797416976617115,0.10428777750885088,0.0,0.049636235056505884,0.046194084309387436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05781153451197558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057726523604185176,0.0,0.0,0.036401292709481566,0.0,0.0544750303624638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17004932298034733,0.0,0.04827116069066844,0.0,0.0,0.059692160601093065,0.044268007017135014,0.0,0.17251197305551885,0.05900545251253862,0.11106656318011968,0.038359119991604684,0.10612795576822448,0.0,0.1438640274783811,0.04806058725900627,0.04560477291284977,0.0,0.0,0.0923408938394958,0.24507400461973794,0.25693619651397503,0.0,0.16517838879130967,0.054559363352197764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05472936747917912,0.057611865615664136,0.0,0.0,0.04334787152921714,0.05772046855395178,0.03992239304164931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05210968301956798,0.0,0.05698677393960479,0.0,0.03680028901925207,0.08260687468215666,0.05778719980119945,0.0,0.0,0.11761984897596177,0.051842824978627314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026766215521587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054594217625326166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06958178003446766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05165903939234253,0.0,0.054371461077515,0.0,0.04327618920053629,0.0,0.0,0.06135221959565582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10869379940688394,0.0,0.0,0.04180870479440471,0.0,0.060793000793666126,0.1153177648854951,0.0,0.04337018287852845,0.0,0.062209263205385563,0.0,0.0621692998537605,0.0,0.061627710947752115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0436504555207115,0.09493461091411566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0721592180444715,0.0,0.053357019223186496,0.0,0.15833622278984694,0.06241868842690345,0.0,0.05189331492043845,0.0,0.1474853977074071,0.05907116028673375,0.0,0.056536209463308576,0.06532545152613617,0.0,0.0,0.1792380920859374,0.16016038171129418,0.0,0.043562344583368016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186099120976608,0.0,0.055344164889343836,0.15431446897840373,0.1781307660105354,0.0,0.13988945980879586
divorce,ponlaluz,2020/03/14,"Not sure what to do 30 M married to 30 F for almost five years, we've been together for longer. One young child. Our relationship has been rocky since before the baby and wife has brought up divorce before but we've made it through.

But...over the last couple years we've had a sort of escalating familial conflict that neither of us will budge on, and combined with the previous stuff divorce seems to loom ever closer.

I guess I am just preparing for the worst, but I have no idea how to navigate these waters. Most importantly who will care for our child. I make a decent living and could support myself on my own, but I have nobody to watch them during the day if I had custody. My wife doesn't make as much but she has a strong family support net to fall back on. This combined with my own upbringing in a divorced family makes me terrified that I would not be granted any sort of custody, only able to have visitation on weekends if even that.

All of this makes me want to avoid divorce and push off our problems as long as possible. But our situation doesn't seem like it's going to improve.",5.3514551495016605,6.120164148837213,5.8764950166112975,80.28377906976746,67.97674418604653,8.933554817275748,30.24086378737541,9.04235418022936,2.4179700996677744,872,32,168,15,14,282,134,215,0.136,0.759,0.105,-0.7443,0,1,0,0,4,0,19.0,5,0,1,1,6,9,0,1,9,0,19,1,0,6,3,39,33,15,0,6,10,2,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,11,6,1,2,3,1,0,5,6,3,0,2,6,1,20,6,30,22,7,22,0,0,1,0,18,8,0,9,10,117,31,0,0.13695805344041928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13714370697074907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09313617283125512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10531228917956777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23308243208103224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396378632582839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10934986129393803,0.15154148114801444,0.0,0.08832661421200276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904595026152318,0.12388640033339515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38733559148704544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07783641796977038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508747366520964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15460897174267282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163909310183102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0669107868924941,0.0,0.1209364703757473,0.12120356747616967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12959302167251907,0.3656822566727761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10067992787430947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09280632151351054,0.10416277120769088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154399626928404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13105036055334462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14704169427434313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493629361348108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11329311709138774,0.1539465903845249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15678420426207848,0.0,0.31083675203565114,0.12908134453561002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16474367508848053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08078140837996622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972910716455526,0.0,0.0,0.17639299213892798
divorce,CarelessNobody4,2020/03/14,"Divorced due to the Coronavirus Essentially. I've been laid off for some time (since mid January) and recently asked for some help from my wife. She gave it to me but apparently this was a VERY bad idea. I'm scheduled to resume work the first week of April. A bill came due today and before she left work I asked if she could cover it and I would get her back next month. This was strike 3. She looked extremely annoyed, said okay, and went off to work in a huff. I doubt if she got much done there because when she got home she was all raring to go. 

She said this was not what she signed up for, men don't ask their wives for money, I've never done anything for (not true I bought several valuable things for her although I have been Daddy Warbucks either) and then she was going to get her shit, get out of here and to NEVER contact her again. I asked her how I would return the money and she said she didn't give a damn. She smashed a wedding photo near the door, took it out, ripped it up and tossed it in the garbage. I said it was kind of hilarious she was divorcing me over the coronavirus, but okay. I asked her how I could get a divorce if I didn't know where she was going. She said she didn't give a damn, that was my problem.

She may not care, but I'm going crazy over this. I said it was hilarious, but it isn't. I'm trying to think of earlier signs. One thing I can remember is before all of this Corona nonsense, I took her out for a motorcycle ride and since the roads were empty I was going 5 or 10 over the speed limit. I should have known better, she likes to go slow, but we are always out in traffic so I kind of thought this would be okay with her. She stiffened when I got up to speed told me to stop and that she wanted to go home now. She was very cold after that for a few days. I'm sure there were more signs that were missed, but that was a major recent one. No sex except for once early on after I had been laid off.

The frustrating thing is it is hard to just say she is selfish and call it a loss. She nearly always cooked for me, wasn't the best food but she tried hard. She was a very compatible lover until recently. I have a feeling she met someone else. Yes, I'm not Mr. Perfect and I'm sure she could come on here and give a few more incidents than the motorcycle thing, but nothing serious. Oh well, 3 years of marriage down the drain. Sorry if this all doesn't make too much sense, my mind is all over the place. No idea how I'll sleep anytime soon.",2.6120270270270254,3.844719034749037,3.62961196911197,92.10542181467184,74.86872586872587,6.724401544401545,21.637258687258687,7.1686216300943375,0.38016277992278,1932,45,441,20,40,622,234,518,0.133,0.767,0.1,-0.9572,1,0,0,0,2,0,56.0,1,0,1,9,18,28,5,1,27,4,49,6,2,4,10,82,101,35,0,13,20,2,3,1,1,5,0,7,3,2,27,21,2,2,8,1,4,13,15,12,1,3,45,12,65,16,59,47,15,73,0,2,1,2,69,27,3,9,34,298,92,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11541518525600665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05707194686172223,0.0,0.32418038007835753,0.0,0.0,0.053328491102731725,0.057907200177332516,0.04227719481737615,0.0,0.11802928701171947,0.0,0.0727821246792166,0.061337454904605376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0708175854451381,0.07932182469886473,0.07071042331704093,0.0,0.0,0.0597418214567709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16611916284021253,0.0,0.0,0.04472721177020132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14194523415589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05793587454086833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03506716776397791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0589919748327749,0.08386241825889501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14493717637644835,0.1995903303086451,0.2759059867423643,0.0,0.1664047717935653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12425406532576574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04648612859205056,0.0,0.13913424925295276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15658311557396667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444418075540414,0.03811482020413205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0753526825275505,0.0,0.0,0.033882572786818194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058239397016958065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04629393949017053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07002717332803983,0.0,0.05535722992535376,0.0,0.1019654720203438,0.0,0.10697925007315803,0.0,0.07375813797717065,0.0,0.0,0.06654646704642073,0.0,0.0,0.07385911784395903,0.09399133054019176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07245955198027475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06636184666788865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20543437556275534,0.0,0.07856389351246254,0.0,0.3958258461807975,0.05515261500851604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07834961225947075,0.07119027838696995,0.11473971430830905,0.0,0.06940349586912949,0.0,0.05876291894976155,0.0,0.0,0.0776354640739143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05798255592097078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13072953569281026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18430129478579665,0.04443886454608918,0.0,0.055058860423845085,0.04044053090164675,0.0,0.06573892308211701,0.06627015501103158,0.15410837996382715,0.09417282537180928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17167147875349487,0.04090643790594743,0.0,0.0556311219009591,0.0,0.06235704429948517,0.06429130558254917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514703246961198,0.0,0.0,0.14780001714078347,0.0,0.0,0.04466132198411138
divorce,samezeez,2020/03/14,"Too poor to divorce? I've thought on and off for a while now about getting a divorce. My husband and I just don't have a great romantic relationship together and the spark is long gone.

That being said, I have no idea how I would support myself and my kids. I assume we'd split custody.  I make a terrible wage, for a variety of reasons, and I'd have to look for another job in a different city. We can barely support ourselves on two incomes. How on earth would I do it on just one? How would I be able to repurchase all of the thrifted furniture ive bought over the years? How could I even afford an apartment by myself? We have no savings. 

What do people do in this situation?",2.5682603406326017,4.4403155036496385,4.280018248175185,84.71131690997571,76.44525547445254,7.486374695863748,28.93491484184915,8.344100000000001,2.1644506082725066,532,24,107,10,12,179,87,137,0.128,0.8170000000000001,0.055,-0.8693,5,0,0,0,2,0,15.0,3,0,0,0,10,5,0,0,10,0,18,0,0,6,1,24,27,10,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,4,7,0,0,4,0,4,1,3,1,0,2,4,2,16,4,18,16,1,14,0,0,1,0,9,9,0,1,4,84,20,2,0.19260683011182805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20196505507113746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15378088128388787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20123314319276656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12721499477058484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10062911917967983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123497101601328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21742966701231647,0.0,0.0,0.1911325591645559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704509836654892,0.1617412280242126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12856655471619205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13051537278771722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13352932453796024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980318999772154,0.0,0.2067876544461427,0.0,0.0,0.18321320195664006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21649814695553107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4371358966334021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15290830871709393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881488861522397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4104670978545548,0.0,0.0,0.12403248372903974
divorce,liquidzero,2020/03/14,"How To Find A Great Divorce Attorney? Hi. My wife is asking for a divorce.  Attorneys are not yet involved.  She basically left me a letter stating that she wants a divorce and that her mind has been made.  She wants to wait a bit until this Corona Virus winds down a bit.  We are amicable but I'm very uneasy as I've spent 11 years married (We have twin boys) and I have literally worked my butt off for these 11 for my family.

I now feel like every day is a lost day of my life and all the hard work is going to nothing.

I want to speak with an Attorney to understand the process, what I should and how to protect myself and assets.

**What is the best way to find a great a divorce attorney?**  I know I can go to google but thousands of results will come up.  Is there a better way than a random google search?  \[I am in a suburb of Chicago\]",0.8957343941248475,3.1512008255813946,2.7591309669522666,91.40471848225216,84.34883720930233,5.7140758873929025,21.261933904528767,7.0608816371341465,0.5730186046511627,650,21,140,9,19,216,108,172,0.055,0.7929999999999999,0.152,0.9655,0,0,0,0,4,0,23.0,2,0,0,5,5,6,0,0,16,0,15,2,1,4,1,29,30,11,0,4,3,1,2,1,0,2,1,1,0,1,6,9,0,2,5,0,1,3,1,1,0,1,4,3,19,5,22,24,4,17,0,1,0,1,17,5,1,1,7,94,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15010073990359246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684964827832168,0.14200115014300266,0.3505771004039696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13830713014899526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20709419795575376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13527765593778435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15136048248189785,0.0,0.08118331878110924,0.11470318970172165,0.0,0.0,0.29349554323150057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824984541183503,0.0,0.0,0.3540331360985368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14382908627072616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08823887973340305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17444753131531246,0.0,0.11340738018306552,0.07844088596462022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17526882174502975,0.0,0.0,0.15192455367708368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16211854843521456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540604329482158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16714730166171993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13247776836985556,0.28410509891216823,0.25488809497954096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23377733722225374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10339455881425258
divorce,cranapple247,2020/03/14,"Just thinking... Just thinking of al the little touches she left around the house that I have to throw out now because I can't stand to see them.

Of how now I have to try to be twice the parent I was before, but with the same amount of time available.

Of how I knew she was the foundation of my family, but I still couldn't do enough to keep her happy.  And sometimes I did the wrong things and pushed her away.

House is colder, everything is darker.

Just not having a good day today, filled with so much sadness and regret.  Yeah I'm getting a therapist.",3.0674774774774782,4.683971783783786,3.6776576576576585,90.66261261261265,74.4054054054054,6.374774774774775,22.243243243243235,6.937597516519254,0.5183945945945951,432,11,90,4,9,136,74,111,0.131,0.8009999999999999,0.068,-0.8114,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,1,0,11,5,0,0,8,1,12,0,0,2,0,22,19,8,0,2,6,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,1,3,0,0,3,3,3,0,1,4,2,13,2,15,13,4,15,0,2,1,0,6,5,0,0,6,69,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17224210772991638,0.0,0.0,0.181784931946144,0.0,0.0,0.11794627428813648,0.0,0.1646409455505761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247814101758594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19992107277959872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17389127314788785,0.0,0.18239984157378406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010875960035228,0.0,0.0,0.16228550726612193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059677065369344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4465099637021615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17197779549119674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2102213309121565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939221659370441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422332723680125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21484149226231586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15418199002218996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19136098638099044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545168654488404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22465026293500245,0.1285424160730384,0.2479539396806023,0.0,0.0,0.1128222903787143,0.0,0.18340055641684355,0.0,0.0,0.13136318456998267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21154478166900054,0.0,0.0
divorce,wrongwayupagain,2020/03/14,"STBXW dragging out settlement in Australia......... Hi folks. Interesting one here. 
Quick backstory. She initiated separation after 10yr marriage. I was devastated naturally but I have come to terms with it. Mainly because she moved on sooo quickly with a new bloke and has been acting really quite poorly. Making it easy for me to get over her. (Which I honestly never thought I'd be able to!)

So here's the problem... I'm very much a doer. A problem solver and I like results. She wanted this and so that's fine, I have done ALL the work to date in splitting our assets legally and getting the consent orders done.

We have made it to the draft copies and she is basically just ignoring it all. I've stopped asking for her input or thoughts (we are still talking) because she just ignored everything I send.

I am a high earner and as such will be paying her a lot of cash. Which I don't have a problem with. And she receives the lion's share, but I can't for the life of me understand why she is just ignoring this. Ladies?? Any thoughts?? 

Our divorce facilitators even are stumped. They said they haven't ever seen it before when the person receiving the money drags it out?? 

I'm lost. As I am stuck in limbo until it's all done. What I do know is I have acted like a gentleman throughout all this. So I hold my head high. I'm just rediculously frustrated!!",1.773406488549618,4.4415191030534364,3.321445610687025,85.83232108778627,85.06870229007633,6.1757633587786245,24.21803435114504,7.531066641456977,1.4552095419847326,1063,42,202,19,32,349,155,262,0.134,0.765,0.10099999999999999,-0.9024,0,0,0,0,1,0,47.0,4,0,2,3,17,14,1,0,15,0,25,2,1,3,6,46,44,17,0,4,7,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,0,1,14,15,0,5,5,0,4,7,4,8,0,1,13,2,32,6,24,28,8,29,0,1,1,0,27,9,0,2,14,146,46,3,0.13531383162046245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09201804561091577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265001665405505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649721116365124,0.0,0.11514210437439215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116560884435552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4154190891198604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08937350961017562,0.1223991075637685,0.0,0.0,0.121611346774241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14139178429849927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13887102928396208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2859329847037946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07436494309619282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09557616097895036,0.13221500632823066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477110316335068,0.11503898077530705,0.0,0.1280372192308555,0.09032303333578116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14381718859818282,0.09947123565005388,0.0,0.10436236877881584,0.1306869417728975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09169215425551264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11815081847319425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3884311869859592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14392291603712246,0.0,0.0,0.08668550544475083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287144404267112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10806180072410328,0.11312842218700422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10876013225968456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3222722028149497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14086647081547896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11164808229773496,0.07981160375023727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12209968631731972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985100809996532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Captain_Howdy69,2020/03/14,"Ready to DIY, guidance welcome. I'm a 42 year old male and my wife (39) of eleven years left me over six months ago to have an affair with a 30 year old girl. She cited alcoholism as her reason for no longer wanting to be with me and that she's been a lesbian this whole time. I entered AA and worked a recovery program in earnest hoping to save this marriage, in total denial that her frequent out of state trips to visit her girlfriend were ... I don't know, happening? Anyway this is it. She is moving in permanently with this young woman on the other side of the country. I need a divorce.

She has been collecting disability throughout our marriage, currently a student of psychology with plans to finish her studies at Berkeley. Dunno about that but we don't own a house, have no savings, and I borrowed some cash from a friend and moved a couple of boxes into a camper and that's all my worldly possessions. She said she's selling whatever she's not taking when she moves and that's fine with me. Her daughter is grown, no other children.

I was hoping we could just fill out a MDA and file it and be done. But the form I printed from the internet, i just noticed, states it cannot be used if either party has a retirement fund. Well I started paying into a 401k about 3 months and I'm wondering now if that's going to complicate things?

I have no clue how to go about severing this marriage. Would barely be able to afford an attorney. And she's leaving the state in two months. What should I do?",3.8766069330199775,5.459317101351353,4.737238542890719,84.02103995299647,72.24324324324324,7.309988249118684,27.734430082256175,7.893859768569023,1.7429737367802578,1186,44,227,16,23,384,172,296,0.035,0.87,0.095,0.9417,3,0,1,0,1,0,32.0,3,0,0,2,10,8,0,0,20,0,24,2,0,3,2,48,39,18,0,9,8,2,0,0,2,2,1,1,0,4,18,22,1,0,3,0,5,10,8,0,2,3,6,1,32,8,37,26,7,44,0,0,0,1,33,14,0,7,17,168,50,5,0.136498308157322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120997514344828,0.14587517963391314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10898279209519902,0.15103278173676235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13968516044529727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10545825428365366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15515026826110395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12070500311093448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711472379717034,0.0,0.1575007209998882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07501590042411327,0.0,0.0,0.14453199953879306,0.14830581120158978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3268549419040593,0.4352282991140836,0.0,0.10121176593487173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15540422854180608,0.2864640258484171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14034299454684773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298411488556623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542042355190531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09661420506668897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10262974031025793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09068341070245713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07959326117685123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333390130897968,0.0,0.0,0.11789071232938365,0.0,0.0,0.0805102387004059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122728371821234,0.0,0.0,0.15239548642204107,0.0,0.0,0.14802659256862208,0.0993723940255344,0.0,0.0,0.09696448178717687,0.0,0.0,0.26370130554147164
divorce,aremeiarceel,2020/03/14,"Need advice. Not yet divorced but, my wife and I fought again for the Nth times and every time happens she always say unnecessary words, lets just say cursing and belittling words were used.  Not gonna tell everything what happened to us but just to be short, my wife told me she would have left me long time ago if wasn't for our kid. I was shocked to hear that from her and I just kept silent. Now i am comtemplating about leaving her but i do not know where and how to start. What should I feel about this? is this enough to leave her?",2.3738888888888847,4.434606388888888,2.279407407407408,97.95633333333336,77.7037037037037,5.801481481481483,20.059259259259264,6.742157984588678,-0.058314074074074185,422,10,96,4,10,125,75,108,0.07200000000000001,0.9279999999999999,0.0,-0.7622,0,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,2,0,0,0,10,2,1,0,1,0,11,0,0,2,0,25,23,10,0,4,10,2,1,0,0,3,0,3,0,1,5,5,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,6,4,17,0,10,12,1,12,0,0,0,0,17,3,0,1,9,65,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18309801350470686,0.1660942118011903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559087385713189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19360564249082968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15786921862459968,0.0,0.16839811428213144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09474104952868106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33138535879399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21118216589094624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029748992858733,0.0,0.0,0.3968003586426065,0.2035805194052494,0.19160084075247025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16581856253082156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13893416388745555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2980118990690547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13262305697965107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16377162259135272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32777483202291435,0.0,0.0,0.17904223347695014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253857700565421,0.16182948095302613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13310388450835506,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ana23rdz,2020/03/14,"Just got left After yet another talk of finances, I (23F) got left. I have a 7 month old baby and I'm doing everything in my power to not beg him(24M) to come back even though he's got nothing to offer. 

Send the cavalry pls.and tips on how to buy a car with no credit. I'm hurting. Bad.",0.4495698924731215,2.199898258064522,3.0948387096774184,91.2789247311828,82.54838709677419,6.068817204301076,21.623655913978496,7.1686216300943375,0.6162817204301083,220,7,50,3,6,77,51,62,0.14,0.8170000000000001,0.043,-0.7003,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,1,0,6,8,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,3,2,2,0,0,3,0,3,1,9,5,0,12,0,1,0,0,4,4,0,0,5,26,3,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23290926589493302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17079442727874147,0.18545859605422665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913343124717688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14670632517297774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19962462996478605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5329422810816375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23778107178918784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4826620063716959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17729184129033218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21312745760464366,0.0,0.2330746522153614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17852940316141172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21822903524724055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwhoe1987,2020/03/14,Coronavirus shutting down court? Is it true that the states that have declared emergencies due to the Coronavirus will not be holding divorce court? We filed this week and are waiting to get our court date. I don’t not want to wait any longer than I have to for this to be over with. Texas.,3.5987500000000026,5.811859946428572,2.8958571428571425,94.24914285714287,74.53571428571428,6.622857142857143,25.485714285714288,7.554174236665415,1.0842471428571434,231,8,48,3,5,67,42,56,0.022000000000000002,0.9209999999999999,0.057,0.4475,0,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,0,1,10,12,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,10,9,0,7,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,3,32,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5175094567355287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.397593673031148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4488604319268102,0.0,0.6104322616026908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,bamfomet,2020/03/14,"Living two lives since informing of decision to divorce I am exhausted from trying to juggle moving out, worrying sbout financials and actually filing, making appearances for the oldest kid, moving in, a revolving door of feelings of guilt, anger, regret and just plain sadness... but also late night texting, drinks, movie, cuddles and warm fuzzies jumping straight into a new relationship. The divorce, the kids, the feels, and something completely separate but entagled none-the-less.

Am I doing this right or no?",12.339642857142856,11.839541773809525,10.861904761904764,54.591428571428594,53.88095238095239,14.114285714285714,47.19047619047619,13.023866798666859,6.773104761904763,415,22,52,12,4,130,68,84,0.139,0.807,0.054000000000000006,-0.6542,0,0,2,0,2,0,20.0,0,0,0,0,2,6,1,1,6,0,3,3,0,1,0,17,7,8,0,1,4,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,6,1,0,4,1,0,4,1,5,0,1,0,3,2,1,10,7,0,13,0,2,0,1,6,5,0,2,4,33,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.21071447730434967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726774594203143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22639628944701606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21152713224855807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2183592629875048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435760704369728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3813365740962944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441335464543242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4589943598702152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20854450628304488,0.0,0.2026337018677048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318257502045368,0.0,0.18440124230795726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1786177858758811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16623184266230948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14660086665712094,0.0,0.21093017762214172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21928525850976335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,DivorcingandC0nfused,2020/03/14,"Not sure what I even want. Lil bit of backstory: Ex makes $150000 a year, I'm making $50000 a year through a temp agency. We were married for 7 years. We have 2 beautiful kids that he doesnt want anything to do with now that he's got a new gf.

I have no idea what to ask for in the divorce! He wants the house, and I don't. But I also don't want to be homeless if the temp agency can't place me permanently and we move out. He of course doesn't wanna pay me any alimony at all but obviously i need something to start my life over! I'd like to move back to Cali where the rest of my family is from but I don't want to do that until I can find a job either to support myself and my kids.

What should I ask for for spousal support? I've asked my lawyer to help me figure this out and she said it can come in many forms like asking for the down payment on a new place, etc. But again i don't wanna ask for the down payment on a new place if I can't afford to even maintain it because I don't have a job once my temp job runs out...",2.4593506493506467,2.4883409956709954,4.106043290043292,93.05335064935066,74.10822510822511,7.19896103896104,23.19220779220779,6.742157984588678,0.3536462337662334,794,18,202,6,15,268,121,231,0.015,0.861,0.124,0.9645,4,0,1,0,1,0,20.0,3,0,0,0,7,5,0,0,14,0,20,1,0,2,3,37,40,12,0,11,8,1,0,2,1,1,1,1,0,2,9,12,0,0,3,0,1,4,11,0,0,0,3,1,24,5,36,35,6,30,0,0,0,0,20,15,0,2,13,127,33,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829479705664362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07053581327519691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853559372130742,0.0,0.4848392544715762,0.0,0.0,0.0797572816161575,0.0,0.06322913068166483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11323964165922107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08934896112119325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11567957394177872,0.1370173240207253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09778166787201166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09480177143862653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829574834000379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06952394813156765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11968346188120806,0.0,0.1170916651392793,0.0,0.0,0.30878991706741565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0732632626525995,0.1013485228536603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384730260575383,0.10515976109635697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22048419510274456,0.0,0.07690996240077258,0.0,0.3005315857731969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11046257525744714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3251082174032488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09866518763231534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07985173072760397,0.0,0.0,0.07341631489604733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354093198609255,0.09775855436932547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3058952372844639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20038438522335347
divorce,cattlesheep,2020/03/14,"Telling your kids How did you tell your kids? I have 9,6,4 -boy, boy, girl. I’m “amicable” with my STBX who’s a covert narc and only cares about appearances which is helping me since he’s very worried about what people will think and wants to show everyone how “great” we are doing. He moves into his house in 1.5-2 months which is 1 mile away from mine. Till then we are in same home. Any advice. We did talk to couples therapist yesterday and spent most of time on kid stuff. Wanted to hear from people who have been there. Thanks.",2.52542857142857,4.732768066666669,2.6650000000000027,94.65750000000004,77.85714285714286,6.104761904761905,19.07142857142857,7.1686216300943375,0.11088571428571424,417,9,90,5,10,126,83,105,0.023,0.8640000000000001,0.113,0.866,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,3,0,0,5,3,0,0,1,0,11,0,0,2,0,16,20,7,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,6,6,8,0,0,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,4,1,11,3,15,15,2,13,0,0,0,0,22,6,0,2,5,53,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18888761249564145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13144860321144738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816089148610614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197079196221522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138794779724464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18470358782171584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21311064885208492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21785979188558424,0.0,0.12956291913703993,0.0,0.1938926732676525,0.0,0.0,0.22303881051765453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542878385810695,0.2054441434125161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147011095320525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680156330009237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15989729384860735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22127884396976616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553648241028484,0.3379002338004356,0.17796192733201746,0.0,0.22443274059131027,0.0,0.12385692653079775,0.0,0.0,0.11271304782229227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594902866262683,0.2280231831350628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963025084241516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,KnottyLife,2020/03/15,"Currently separated... I am 37, been happily married 17 years. We have 3 kids, 12, 15 and 18.  To put it out there the 18 year old. Is accusing her dad of somethings. He is denying adamantly. We are going through some legal stuff. He does not want to lose his family and I do still love him even if I shouldn't. I'm heart broken, angry and just lost. I don't really have any friends. It was my husband and I against the world. We've went through poverty and cancer together but this is too big. I just need outside people to talk too. I don't know where to go from here.",-0.1414423076923086,2.164822136752136,1.885806623931625,94.56665865384615,92.58974358974359,5.318162393162393,20.98771367521368,6.9077264865688965,0.56799188034188,438,16,97,7,16,145,87,117,0.111,0.7879999999999999,0.102,-0.0189,1,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,0,2,9,4,0,0,2,0,13,3,1,0,0,18,22,7,0,4,5,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,4,8,0,0,1,0,0,4,4,2,0,0,4,0,13,2,10,17,1,13,0,2,0,1,13,4,0,2,5,60,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15596290153974338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20070191733951898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15148063390230926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.216206660568512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17719187452737908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606848278814339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717756906928639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12604236724567305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25657910968413195,0.2503578611134693,0.0,0.20699339666443994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17005688793206264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24065967177975756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15899939124341642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305557164669141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14692469135639585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1765614804589865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831557264083144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26254589026990444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18433934003326014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13527400212410778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2126057083711745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953821488360766
divorce,Hawk295903,2020/03/15,"Hard time on house decision during my divorce Hello, I have been following the post in this community and it has been a great source of information and has help me to cope. We are going through divorce process via a mediator. I am trying to figure out what to do with the house and has narrowed it down to two options. My STBXW has not worked since we had our son 4 years ago. She has been working on her PHd while my son is at daycare. She will not be able to afford the mortgage on her own. The first option and the easy one is to sell the house and split the equity between us. She will need to move to an apartment with my son and I worry about how this might impact him. I need to mention that I never wanted this divorce, and we are here only because we wanted separate things in life. I wanted a family and she value more self-growth and career development. So here we are. The second option is for me to buy her out of the house, take sole ownership of the house, and then rent it to her. The rent money will cover about half the mortgage and more importantly will keep our son  in the only house he has known. I envision this rent situation to last for about 3 years until she completes her PHd and after that I will take sole possession of the house, sell it or keep it. Do you guys think this is a good idea? keeping the house and renting it to her will also allow me to keep building equity and tax benefits. But I know a lot of things can go wrong, like she never wanting to leave, settling down with a new partner in my own house, etc.",4.666538461538462,5.1435351410256445,5.470923076923079,83.62407692307694,69.38461538461539,8.291282051282051,26.817948717948717,8.238735603445708,1.5604033333333334,1212,35,250,16,20,396,158,312,0.024,0.895,0.08199999999999999,0.9463,8,0,0,0,3,0,26.0,8,1,0,3,8,5,0,0,22,0,30,1,0,2,2,54,47,22,0,6,4,4,1,1,1,7,1,0,4,2,16,24,0,4,7,0,9,4,4,1,0,5,4,1,39,4,44,35,6,32,0,0,0,0,36,14,0,6,14,189,55,6,0.07642583571840438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0677468920933073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06111771321211405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04658848009497845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08013103468837393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852350090833203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07204747619011648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06500777681991847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08686912734568895,0.06410236500138165,0.0,0.08425975368644242,0.0,0.07567359301399536,0.0,0.0,0.06846253723970305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05122662669457044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7936663796092484,0.0,0.0862754659413825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717231773662153,0.0,0.0,0.04200164060256102,0.06229725653091225,0.0,0.08092392500625854,0.0,0.0,0.05398182794838862,0.03733780291393768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06497451251403892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08107573422255576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08122856841506633,0.0,0.11333757759389745,0.1178886320187118,0.07381254837636092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0517881241989654,0.1162505838878014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0731948245659681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07972881450972852,0.0,0.0,0.06322024106905884,0.08590584146447819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11492543429526066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10154785861144484,0.048970589588361216,0.0,0.0,0.044564519407691884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051888125729183734,0.0,0.07465693638861665,0.0,0.09193087030428414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18031175212735948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112778372606174,0.07761414597038792,0.0,0.0,0.08355965382938853,0.0,0.09843146496640393
divorce,fmeo87,2020/03/15,"Starting over So I’m in the process of a really ugly divorce and my STBX has turned a lot of friends against me and made it really ugly. I’m dealing with starting over and just struggling with feeling lonely. 

What are some tips for meeting new friends and starting life over again?

I’m 26 with no kids",2.5669999999999997,4.955867033333334,3.0599999999999987,90.935,78.66666666666666,5.333333333333334,30.0,6.42735559955562,1.4745000000000008,242,12,47,2,6,75,42,60,0.212,0.677,0.111,-0.7897,0,2,0,0,1,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,3,0,2,1,0,1,0,12,11,5,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,2,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,2,2,11,10,2,9,0,1,0,0,6,4,0,2,5,30,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645872180090344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12976619340075662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3965628221228915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18127423528456715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21818833330784848,0.0,0.2428414027756097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2478669909830157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3288236009649769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5449587907365636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682985346811109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27915341672836425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,schoolgirl2106,2020/03/15,"Today I Am Hurting. Today I am hurt and exhausted, and sad, and lonely.  I downloaded Snapchat because a friend recommended it, only to realize my STBXH has been using it.  He left at the end of January after ""trying"" couples therapy for a few months.  I've since moved out on my own and have had to start completely over.

I am trying to reframe and working to rebuild.  I am grateful to be out of that house where I was surrounded by everything about us and the constant reminder that he had an affair with a subordinate.  How he lied, hid things, picked her up from her home for ""work"" and went out every week for a period of time only to wait around until it was him and her while I waited at home each night crying because I knew what was happening.  He denied my reality for months until I looked through his phone, completely devastated.

He called me a stalker.  He made me feel crazy.  He was not a good man, but he is handsome, successful, and in his early 30s so life is completely open as women continue to throw themselves at him.  He is a covert narcissist and so, so good at hiding things.  No one would have belived me if I had hadthe courage to say anything, anyway.

Today I am hurting, and sad.  Today I sit in bed crying, trying to breathe through and feel the pain.  Today I am trying to be grateful to be alive and for the strides, I have taken to work on me.

If you are feeling how I'm feeling, please know that you are not alone.  You are amazing, and warm, and kind.  Know that someone cares.  We are going to be okay, but not for a long time.  We'll get there one day.",3.867975674542152,5.152347717041803,4.974153502027125,83.48406822312319,71.82958199356915,7.981042919054942,27.991192506640573,8.456263369488248,1.9518797986858656,1224,45,243,20,23,403,167,311,0.13699999999999998,0.711,0.153,0.8935,0,3,0,0,0,0,44.0,3,3,0,4,10,19,0,0,13,1,31,4,1,5,0,46,51,28,0,3,7,0,5,0,1,2,3,1,3,2,10,23,0,2,8,0,0,4,4,8,0,2,12,7,34,11,46,33,3,46,0,6,1,0,29,18,0,2,23,170,44,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971430454405732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07718506474061762,0.08349718860838172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143527844577339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577489849086004,0.0,0.0956299706191166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2950259458802074,0.10135877377306772,0.0,0.0,0.10378207637678324,0.2060581966810518,0.06048983653062865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08307428433412545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07902609898971197,0.0,0.08429664861131378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897017195289039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07246556989001261,0.0,0.04900387124099282,0.0,0.053305702263421316,0.15734112624601546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08294236329270831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188167508324988,0.0,0.0,0.10822651657636896,0.3012275708448985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09767276990149347,0.10309425301929002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10190824037175104,0.0,0.06624998629953066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08300537781245815,0.07876394404592056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08875083423514314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14973210519704178,0.09968894624638718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0880199931820857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271154627049737,0.1426702259368225,0.09980419769680828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10295843921364348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07458932792954683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07758796365107526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07947196394884193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06638838730249462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072624394023467,0.0,0.12462609173196253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10938491386499584,0.0,0.4445321487249653,0.0,0.0,0.25472183876050913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128235024568959,0.08100852523795775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07523646873169143,0.0,0.0,0.08694864739187809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20485102508030298,0.0,0.0,0.06662907971999935,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,westernunicorn,2020/03/15,"Canadian children maybe stuck in Cuba thanks to COVID-19 My niece(5) and nephew (3) are currently in Cuba with their father and his family. Their parents are divorced, with their mom having full custody.  They were supposed to return March 19, but now with airlines potentially no longer running the fear is that they're going to be stuck there with their deadbeat dad, who refuses to discuss the possibility of flying home early or respond to any attempts at communication.  

Does anyone know of any source of information or resources for reporting Canadians in another country? 

I'm willing to fly there today just to bring them back.",11.723669724770645,10.62292870642202,10.341357798165136,59.74836697247707,55.51376146788991,12.756697247706425,45.653211009174306,11.602472056035307,5.596473761467887,515,26,74,11,5,161,84,109,0.096,0.887,0.017,-0.8462,2,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,0,0,6,1,5,2,0,1,2,0,7,0,0,0,0,13,14,5,0,0,4,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,6,0,1,2,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,3,0,8,1,19,9,1,15,0,0,0,0,19,5,0,2,7,50,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3487079521116301,0.26884724548951205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792738329829569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19714806597502305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22436859627963202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417016517884161,0.28851000429986096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14571233219513935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25718005126251675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14090522594676322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575781926215686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002808418215064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846907272750252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890411752829479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23604944334768801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430277188970809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,CimpleMan,2020/03/15,"Why do I hope for a change that will never come. How do you just walk away without completely shutting your emotions off or trying to hate the person? 
Throw away account. I’m just using this to vent. I filed divorce last week and I hate the feeling. I miss my wife, but not the way I’m supposed to. I think it’s the comfort and familiarity of her. I separated and filed because I wasn’t happy in our marriage. I paid almost all the bills, took care of all the child care (I make my own work schedule), did most of the cooking, half of the cleaning, and did my best to make sure she wanted for nothing. And, there was absolutely no appreciation which created resentment, and all the problems that come along with it. Not to mention, nothing was ever good enough. She’d come home to a clean house, dinner, kids in bed, homework done, but would go ballistic if there were dishes in the sink. Mind you I was also the bread winner, she worked to pay her tuition.

I know I enabled the lack of appreciation, I didn’t say anything for years, I just did what I could to support. Before I go any further, I don’t want to paint the picture that I was perfect, I wasn’t. When I got tired of the feeling of being unappreciated, I would get upset, argue, be negative. Sometimes that was a response to how I was being treated, she could be verbally abusive at times, but I’m sure I was as well. 

There was a lot of sexual neglect on her part. I would cheat at one point, yup you read that right, feel free to judge, talk your shit, you’re a better person than me blah blah blah, I get it. I won’t and don’t try to justify my actions, I was wrong. I came clean, she decided to stay, and was nicer to me than ever before, but still wasn’t actually nice.

Anyways, outside of the stupid things I did almost 7 years ago, I’ve been the staple of a good man. I volunteer my time to the community and elderly, I still make sure she’s ok and has what she needs to finish school. Whatever her family needs I make sure to cater to. We split time with our kids, although since she almost always works or has school, I have them most of the time since she just can’t take care of them. 

All that, and there’s still no appreciation, no kind words, nothing. Once again, I enabled that, and I’m not attempting to play the victim. But I have this nagging thought/ desire that if she would just tell me that she realizes how much I do and how supportive I’ve been throughout the years, coupled by her addressing her anger issues (she is very abusive verbally and emotionally), I would be willing to go back to her.

Anyways, I feel like a fool for hoping for a change. It doesn’t seem possible. And, if I painted her to be some kind of monster, she isn’t. She just isn’t nice to me. Which is funny, cause in her mind she is. Although when asked, she can’t say a single positive thing she’s done for me, outside of saying “well I’m with you, that should be enough”.. I wish she realized that her meet presence wasn’t enough. Not for me at least.

Thank you for reading, responses are welcomed. I just had to get this out of my head.",2.7743905611296924,4.4836134621578125,3.9647624798711765,87.90776059085842,75.40901771336554,6.838114703332095,24.985785953177253,7.61054688173877,1.1461499814195468,2404,81,506,32,52,784,275,621,0.149,0.643,0.20800000000000002,0.9931,0,1,0,0,1,0,95.0,3,7,2,9,29,47,10,1,29,2,62,7,2,10,12,109,111,35,0,21,22,1,4,4,0,9,1,3,7,6,24,25,4,1,11,4,6,11,23,16,2,2,30,7,93,32,68,62,18,51,0,2,0,0,59,16,1,15,23,360,117,10,0.0,0.15322974409136975,0.06310158796325052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05731969145734338,0.0,0.19425143148049492,0.0,0.0,0.05171083655131778,0.053804649141587765,0.0,0.0,0.04397293732902824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05321199407012158,0.0,0.060451011086670926,0.0,0.12150570240342905,0.04972171983553498,0.0,0.03941785699678702,0.0,0.110046600228748,0.0,0.06785964383210552,0.05718901257334327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07395704365463174,0.19778417417712524,0.06642653187813946,0.13680938645239998,0.16710389029472958,0.06779774012613375,0.0,0.0,0.10325600572675946,0.07154818424140258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13234503768525044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454739460073993,0.0,0.20044194625984355,0.0,0.0,0.11698245165494148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0609583551052041,0.0,0.13078186574807465,0.04619513399326915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10135096917978613,0.0,0.11024811816678452,0.1084722168067748,0.05171676697469231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06883477796335698,0.0,0.12768230194333055,0.06636271208521417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648620842051955,0.12844954794489333,0.0,0.07461221646499559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06749118775335194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13467276008063198,0.035536996689459394,0.052708831544224066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03159098929253218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054974020133152834,0.0,0.0,0.17265174707300568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13058203677219313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04753461543593076,0.09589332849774672,0.049871955781632143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18613716920019704,0.0,0.0,0.06886379660850701,0.0438172026570726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07002353645072996,0.0,0.0,0.11292216655118448,0.0,0.0,0.061127269032327874,0.07289761767266464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0618735891370545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12936064425769322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05522169791504897,0.0,0.1542674177505512,0.0,0.13088445903054946,0.0,0.05886660590351605,0.0,0.0,0.06637545904218058,0.1069795115308415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06395318581664347,0.0,0.0,0.06892196613578963,0.15491944300779334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14675721152496685,0.2437757833959985,0.0,0.04861839584709382,0.05197352810528067,0.05651815782503718,0.05953284010888892,0.0,0.0,0.08591821327752057,0.04143332629669603,0.0,0.05133505891221469,0.15082164943451576,0.07432040327073189,0.0,0.0,0.07184277610732058,0.08780362508734108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05584791797580877,0.0,0.05335360138535794,0.07627961725416374,0.05132633944831037,0.05186861657059506,0.0,0.116279287949785,0.0,0.058348140505264,0.0,0.07435905576041027,0.062332654308031116,0.0,0.14122591680738916,0.0,0.0,0.22967307256092176,0.07069864650301998,0.0,0.12492221474450385
divorce,SadCoffeeBeanChild,2020/03/15,"I am the new girlfriend after the divorce. I've never gone through a divorce, but my current boyfriend has. 
He is in his early 30s and I'm in nearing mid-20s. 
I'm not sure of the purpose of this post - perhaps to encourage people that dating after divorce is possible, or to tell you things get better and not everyone will judge you for your divorce...? 

Anyway, our story is I moved cities and went to various meet-up groups to make friends. Met him, we hit it off, went on our first date and we clicked so much we spent 8 hours + together. 
We had our second date next and I was very much crushing HARD. 

This is the time he told me about how he had been divorced before. It was via text. He was extremely ashamed. To be honest, I've never met someone who has been divorced before (that wasn't a parent of a friend). I guess because I was still quite young and in college. U didn't know what to think! I talked it out with him, I told him it was surprising but it's not a big deal. I really liked him so I wasn't going to run away just because he had a divorce. I told him everyone has their own stuff going on. And hey, there was a time where I was so in love with my ex, I wanted to marry him. 

He was so shocked because he said a lot of girls he dated after his divorce would ghost him right after he told them. He said here divorced men have it very hard. I think that's true. We live in Asia if it is relevant. 

Our relationship got serious and yes I did have times where I'd get jealous over his ex. A stupid thought I had was ""it's going to be my first time to get married but not his (if we get married)"". It was silly things like that. I got over it though. I can't change the fact he got married. I've gone through many things in life and have had my regrets and mistakes - I'd hate for anyone to judge me for that. 

We officially moved in to his house. His house was very... Bare. I could tell he everything was about function not style or aesthetic. He was one man living in a three bedroom house with two bathrooms. The second bathroom he had was filthy and covered in dust. One of the rooms was dusty and filled with boxes. 

We talked together about plans to utilise space more efficiently and decorate. I wanted it to be homely for us! We printed pictures and got frames. I helped him clean up a lot and actually taught him a lot about cleaning (haha!). We made one of the sad rooms into a home office. I would get down on my hands and knees, scrubbing areas that I swore never had been touched before! It was crazy but somehow very exciting? And tbh I looooove cleaning. It's very satisfying. 

It's just a house but these small things, making it a home with your SO, is really important. 

We also have pets. I transported my cats and he has a dog. I've met his parents and I love them. I've met his siblings too and we already make inside jokes. My parents love him too. I haven't told my parents that he's been divorced but I don't think we need to if it doesn't come up. I told my boyfriend he can decide if he'd like to tell them, it's not a big deal, my sister knows about it and she doesn't care haha. 

I could the divorce really hurt him and put him in a bad place. Probably contributed to the state of the house being as messy and dirty as it was. She moved on fast too, ended up married within months. I can't imagine how much that would hurt. 

I'm glad I'm here for him, although we don't have a perfect relationship. We have our own fights about random things but we get through it. He has asked me about marriage and stuff, and I think I'd like to marry him one day in the future.",1.871996495256511,3.7102832280701774,3.0552673877575707,92.85636654782768,78.3927125506073,5.935351582170122,22.93554494732814,6.8221615863531175,0.5272725079058156,2796,88,616,28,67,900,288,741,0.113,0.7759999999999999,0.111,0.6709,5,0,0,0,12,0,94.0,22,4,4,6,29,36,4,1,30,3,69,6,2,6,7,108,127,50,1,14,21,7,4,4,3,4,1,2,10,3,40,49,0,0,9,1,1,15,19,13,0,10,56,7,99,23,78,59,10,84,0,4,1,3,129,38,0,12,33,405,139,2,0.0,0.0,0.05491032001146118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062094119619561836,0.04499821121374764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0393445163885938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05260381665384793,0.0,0.05286647466047358,0.0,0.04698217301629711,0.10290297970568346,0.0,0.14364204364206498,0.0,0.0,0.04976526079455565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05736988374784621,0.0,0.05952502490942044,0.04847066657333313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985226046710032,0.0,0.0,0.03628877921033962,0.11602151020447288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04983753528134593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10753467199278907,0.05057085032918927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09572457862507376,0.0,0.0,0.08694641007199866,0.0,0.17638903649698634,0.0,0.09593672116025273,0.0,0.18001348721635166,0.0,0.06198652643522307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10081174667806783,0.05555387975015338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03771585104583383,0.0,0.16932685445531975,0.0,0.05541352240403218,0.32463372278708297,0.12047402161433095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06184782105961864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03974438126137728,0.10996055012383106,0.0,0.09937292199177034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351339492055,0.15235461103890566,0.05324298449148228,0.11267976355647928,0.057047822974898126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04491329137121677,0.17941477614416168,0.12409232617389007,0.041722669149324855,0.1301941111131015,0.0543448448494326,0.05984260315109876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15251702516951768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499197746503868,0.0,0.0,0.039009763594188215,0.0,0.05878901410179457,0.0,0.0,0.0634347192151544,0.05389004271383325,0.0,0.060667380706929085,0.0,0.0,0.05656577628585989,0.0,0.05984889106906461,0.0,0.0,0.10814187584883707,0.0,0.0,0.12082346019577846,0.0,0.048053324836413176,0.10704920017222112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04767644812019502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0449364084493374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12882883427364986,0.0,0.0,0.053032763157698296,0.0,0.0,0.0904536051310688,0.14754447072418148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18691275204631955,0.14421933136870438,0.05528389899041184,0.04467121357260557,0.13124336965860192,0.0,0.0,0.3226040159783672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05496652959719092,0.0,0.06768454678039043,0.0,0.0,0.232138637108478,0.06637769870731704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10432365001495378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11991541562802326,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Ariya1BJ,2020/03/15,"Ex-Hub wants me to move near When divorcing, is it unusual if the ex-couple moves close to one another?

My husband and I are getring a divorce soon.
Little background: Together 13 years. 12 years Married with co-dependence, emotionally, verbally,and physically abusive.(He blames alcohol and me that was a contributer). He's very controlling. 
FINALLY leaving him after all this courage.

We have 1child. He wants me to move near HIM so he can be close to my child. Like same neighborhood. Or in the least same area within 10mins. 

Mind you he wants to be BEST friends when we split and he says if i need sex or anything to come to him. He still having swx with me. We arent goin thru lawyers and doing mediation. I am scared if i dont play along he will get depressed, then mad and wont play this divorce nicely. I know its wrong but im in survival mode. And trying to save myself and child. 

All this makes me really very weary and i feel like hes trying to control me. Doesnt it? Or is this something that exes do?? Move close to one antoher.

I told him i want to be by myself for a while i dont want anyone. Im leaving bc i dont want him controlling my life anymore. I told him that and he got very upset. I told him to follow ME if he wants bc i have 2 dogs and i need to find best school district ect etc. I told him i need to look out for me and bridhe and what is best for us now. And work best we can with thay. Im not just gonna follow him around and have him pick oit my new house.. 

Am i looking at this wrong?  Do people usually move within 10 mins of each other or is he being controlling. I could have blindera on coming out of this relationship",0.08059798546474539,2.4341316568914984,1.9386236134132344,94.36706585490248,91.66862170087977,5.193956394236898,19.143248756853247,6.800593979768761,0.25979811296697664,1289,40,282,19,46,423,176,341,0.071,0.809,0.12,0.9624,1,0,2,0,2,1,43.0,5,1,0,10,8,18,1,2,5,0,31,3,0,6,2,68,57,28,0,15,11,1,1,2,1,3,2,1,0,2,14,31,1,4,3,2,0,9,7,6,0,2,6,4,49,12,37,43,11,39,0,1,2,1,40,16,0,8,16,181,63,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07917398878543683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07768424306426777,0.0,0.0,0.07347209212324272,0.051801728491409314,0.0,0.060965376486705004,0.06595106911159497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3109891900706641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12763477811395066,0.0,0.0,0.3323690577924244,0.05915058600651003,0.08197328563686497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06380902346988071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604800679564092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08333528974370409,0.0,0.0,0.08262399790160029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03745943852648248,0.052926107825280434,0.0,0.08115614207603344,0.067712052331342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05723763743043666,0.0,0.038706185834692826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059252283707549924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08548377009329378,0.0,0.0,0.240072491436536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04071500082339859,0.0,0.0,0.1568899512492644,0.0,0.0,0.052328198085509765,0.07238806173167306,0.07425230877944503,0.0,0.0,0.12442493942251992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04945209696296347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07480440428267641,0.0,0.0,0.39370143433174093,0.0,0.16479854711113953,0.0,0.07155144239145357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10040338849404737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05136098668138757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04746054092980867,0.0,0.0,0.07953921734146407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05891510843965296,0.07417168553620322,0.0749776479954976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05703400356053605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059164118498263835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2831643335993897,0.0,0.1005972648439599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08911474424421538,0.0,0.08159380476223548,0.18338285111587246,0.3058794324286688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05393452696959408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16199992789134107,0.0,0.09541620564486
divorce,HBKShaunMichael,2020/03/15,"I wish I understood what’s happening It’s always something. 7 months ago Aug.  she (31F) asked for a divorce. Said she would never go to counseling with me (33M). 

September she changed all of the passwords to the accounts preventing me from paying any of the bills without going through her. I was unemployed but but got two jobs that month. Asked her if I could start paying bills that ended in an argument. Saying too little, too late. That she never wanted this but it’s for the best. 

First year anniversary in October was completely ignored. Power got cut off and she called me asking why as if I had any control over that since she changed the accounts. I spend everything I have to pay the delinquent balance and get the power turned back on and started paying the bill. And she said she doesn’t love me. She hates me, I’m a piece of shit. 

November lived in our home together in complete silence. 

December same thing until she apologize on the 22nd for how she handled this situation.  No real explanation or details about what she’s sorry for though. Then she left for Christmas. No details given

January I wanted things to start getting better. I have been sleeping on the couch or an air mattress since July. I asked to move back to the room and another fight. She ignored my inspirational good morning texts for two weeks. I also started buying the groceries for the house. She never gives me a list of anything she wants. Pretty much just eats whatever she wants. While continuing to lock me out of the bedroom. I took myself off of our family cell plan and got my own account because she was clearly watching my call logs and texts. 

We have been completely silent February and March. 

She still hasn’t filed, still hasn’t budged on therapy. Found evidence of her staying in hotels since August but denies any affair of any kind. I hate this grey area of being married to someone who doesn’t love me but won’t let me move forward with my life. It’s like she wants me to file and/or move out so she can say I gave up and didn’t try hard enough. I have completed anger management and I’m now seeking to start sessions with a second therapist. I’m doing really well at my job and she just continues to trash me to anyone who will listen to her. I’ve started working out.  I’ve bought books on fixing my marriage, being a better man, a better partner, learning to listen better, and controlling my own emotions. She sees none of this. Or rather she ignores all of this. She is controlling the narrative so that she can be the victim. She locks herself in the bedroom only leaving it to eat food that I bought, go to work, or disappear for the weekends without notice or warning. I feel embarrassed and ashamed. I feel like all the good I attempt to do is spit on and for some reason I keep trying to endure. To be here for her. At this point it’s better if she doesn’t change her mind. She has told every secret I’ve shared with her to her friends and family. Obliterating any trust or intimacy between us. She doesn’t appear to be any happier going through this either. She seems to be depressed and constantly sick. I don’t understand. Why draw it out any longer? If you’re unsure about the divorce then why force yourself to do it. If you have someone else in your life and you’re sure you don’t love me anymore why not just file already. Just do something.",3.7047660818713415,5.8782180925925935,4.358499025341132,84.06271929824563,74.0925925925926,7.201689408706953,27.417803768680958,8.090928345107859,1.9036086419753089,2676,104,493,43,57,852,316,648,0.106,0.752,0.14300000000000002,0.987,6,0,2,0,3,0,67.0,4,3,0,16,21,33,7,2,28,0,40,12,3,5,8,91,95,43,0,14,25,0,3,2,2,3,3,6,6,2,26,26,3,8,10,3,14,11,19,13,1,4,20,12,88,20,81,64,13,73,0,1,3,3,79,30,1,14,35,341,114,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05138965855444571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06397476155202986,0.046361070103013005,0.048238266426915914,0.0,0.0,0.27596588960349483,0.06078985402269185,0.0,0.0,0.057493741056583364,0.04053614206565315,0.0,0.04770692473632302,0.0,0.21678810475292898,0.0,0.0,0.0891554765953159,0.0,0.03533986594328292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06083919570211568,0.2563624955480722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11839404136764285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18398357034242213,0.0,0.2431347850808223,0.06264832980328003,0.19506529613874746,0.04628680600926592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04993214928869859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11864191622181736,0.048429089215248335,0.0652119387231137,0.0513469625706802,0.05990171333439881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04884484024696867,0.0,0.05210248749986389,0.0,0.10930376543385116,0.0,0.058625886279486325,0.04141599688403132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04931189241209859,0.07010130714090756,0.06356451593466601,0.044789876128695255,0.0,0.06057710788839332,0.0556130836585532,0.1317898033482966,0.09725017777690463,0.13909916097579342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05126542416405744,0.0,0.05193251385869748,0.11447287543751734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058151749873169865,0.0,0.0,0.06689317807964743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11505872009892378,0.051529158293146166,0.0,0.06037006638703585,0.0,0.0,0.06539618613138137,0.0613851461883966,0.06298794682318665,0.05928142635578351,0.08189623525730945,0.05664546028997841,0.05810428001230662,0.051191312704828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569689685961123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058536308487119125,0.0,0.09254715659372154,0.18484870375902035,0.0426169017079804,0.0,0.13413729456138673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06600276283296913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044091157750240466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05480332158233611,0.0,0.0,0.058979488194356215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06598608396558299,0.0371390547317841,0.059606006035108475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102913946974756,0.0922050779027262,0.0,0.0,0.04619705786502183,0.052776536312866884,0.0,0.0,0.0595085578768457,0.14386785143416056,0.06516419756365477,0.05801497120622935,0.0,0.09824084531110132,0.0892610551127175,0.0,0.06489614329115903,0.24620196721083665,0.061791615002936985,0.092594791041866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054638964176411065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06629729651453313,0.06731124170019498,0.07702950821404271,0.0,0.056958280063349076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05539578499110516,0.06441025134453522,0.07871986394830728,0.06305808945595424,0.1132625970339088,0.060352045508043364,0.06973450574003391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709701930388305,0.0,0.046502526923718465,0.0,0.052124782537781626,0.0,0.20924683588597345,0.0,0.06666620822274015,0.11176800642989647,0.0,0.08441021993487488,0.0,0.0,0.04118242955595712,0.0,0.0,0.037332778075417405
divorce,Batoutofhellodolly,2020/03/15,"Coronavirus cancelled my sock day... Courts cancelled all non-emergency docket numbers.

Stbx(not so soon now, huh?) is a teacher so he and our son are home playing video games since Thursday. I’m delivering things for them to my old house. (That’ll probably end soon, because stbx doesn’t want to go a whole week with our 5 year old, so I’ll end up having my high risk parents watching the kid while I’m at work. )

I can’t get my name off the mortgage, I gave notice to quit my job just before a global pandemic hit so my interviews are on hold, and tomorrow was supposed to be a day of celebration! Now I can’t even hug my kid. 

If I’m going to die in a zombie apocalypse I was hoping to at least do it as a single woman. That’s ok, while all you fools were fighting over toilet paper I got some Cherry Garcia to drown my sorrows in.",5.106529411764708,4.975138358823532,6.1023529411764725,81.59058823529416,68.35294117647058,8.91764705882353,30.52941176470589,8.548686976883017,2.169047058823529,651,23,134,9,10,217,118,170,0.132,0.8009999999999999,0.066,-0.902,3,0,0,0,2,0,23.0,2,1,1,2,10,8,1,1,8,2,13,1,0,0,2,12,24,10,2,3,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,4,3,0,1,0,3,0,2,3,4,0,0,5,1,17,4,19,16,6,28,0,1,1,1,15,10,0,3,16,81,21,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11403534946000896,0.0,0.1591816941620402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412876846072297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19414778690009105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3313747046949651,0.0,0.0,0.12355711883375275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09773568012985903,0.0,0.2126309180715126,0.0,0.14961593663961995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19764836316506232,0.18764516903206824,0.1858014387878828,0.0,0.2158521753038257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18563682974858606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21297896650381384,0.392594286128481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20771766464442915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016917094002078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1989706000946203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15474517023433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12428013878177414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11033797208918936,0.0,0.15005523555268727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208855534386446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13618824904030574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204661161130512
divorce,p0lzeee1111,2020/03/15,"Baby’s last name My husband of a little over a year, has had a change of heart since his return from deployment and decided to divorce me at 34 weeks pregnant (I’m almost at my due date now). This was unexpected given how in love we were a week before he came home but that quickly changed. 
I’ve never been married prior nor have children; I am his 2nd to be ex wife, who’s about to have his 2nd kid ( his children will be 8 years apart).

He talks a whole lot about child custody and how often he wants to see our not yet born child, expresses his wants and stresses me with child support amount. Quite frankly, after what he’s put me through, and the way I feel right now, I wouldn’t mind if he just disappeared and not sent a penny for our pending baby, I can manage just fine if it also means I don’t have to worry about child custody and his desires of “ wanting our baby for the whole summer “ not knowing where the hell he will live, what state, and what he will be doing with his life. When I consulted with a lawyer, they strongly discouraged me from saying no to child support as things happen in life which would mean, dear husband will be in baby’s life ( time will show). 

Anyways, my question for you lovely people is this:
I want to share the same last name as my baby. It’s just important to me- it’ll be two of us, i want to know and feel as close as possible to my angel and sharing a last name just happens to be very important to me. I didn’t hyphenate my name when I got married because I knew it was important to my dear husband and his dad, and I wanted to show him that I am invested for life. But since he wasn’t as invested, and our marriage means nothing to him, I’m thinking of changing my last name back to my maiden name once we file for divorce. But like I said before, I want to share my last name with my baby: do I give my baby my last name ( maiden name) at the hospital, once baby’s God willing born, or do I give my baby husbands last name ( and my current married) and upon divorce not change mine? 
I just really would love to know your opinions so I can make the right decision and cover my basis.

Thanks so much all",8.756859023032144,5.447348817767658,8.597748671222478,76.86023221969124,63.1002277904328,11.304530498607948,36.917362692989116,8.680891452615391,2.9700203998987598,1677,55,350,17,18,546,204,439,0.05,0.812,0.138,0.988,1,0,0,0,3,0,45.0,7,2,1,2,23,17,1,1,14,0,36,8,1,3,2,84,72,34,0,13,15,7,2,1,0,10,4,2,1,8,14,23,0,1,13,2,2,4,11,3,0,1,13,5,62,14,52,43,7,49,2,1,1,3,73,14,1,8,30,232,76,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783770265111801,0.0,0.0,0.06259323151044417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060185510974561374,0.0,0.04771323020846772,0.0,0.13320558676747585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08952108811290198,0.0,0.0,0.33120104682579043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07915226426489183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15016920932648145,0.0,0.0,0.06260040997414723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13842944332613333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927514245650901,0.0,0.0,0.07851212093381353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12904696245409328,0.4466087615026179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22114028006275133,0.038239220989377695,0.07844803069637554,0.06911466194238253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06654314257398271,0.21192770075109985,0.0,0.052246451111357534,0.0,0.0,0.2557799540567321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07903132306393645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05753813682337972,0.0,0.060367363637995226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07510306479561127,0.0,0.0,0.16671196411710631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05426320509097767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08823870901830662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07868389954014668,0.08768135063659371,0.08325076471450525,0.0,0.0,0.050142359650894704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336858868475756,0.07445357480499798,0.06224418218539781,0.0,0.0,0.0623717945168563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294930381851181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08965908166524178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17764183930177366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06291120573692416,0.0,0.07206135293734635,0.0,0.0,0.051999725524712236,0.05015284915306168,0.0,0.0,0.04564040658321705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07645932181747522,0.0,0.09415028713430552,0.0,0.0,0.06458171141972292,0.3231635419691725,0.062127818111847276,0.1255684317505779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17477338807099865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07948792505291212,0.0,0.11120284072955666,0.0,0.0,0.10080782069138516
divorce,robinbanksgreyson,2020/03/15,"Redditors in Australia, have you ever used an online, no court divorce service? Would you recommend it? Why or why not? Looking to find an easier option but the ads for these services seem a bit shady.",2.5102702702702686,5.468382729729734,3.5608648648648646,82.71318918918921,86.56756756756756,6.203243243243244,26.318918918918918,7.554174236665415,2.087144864864865,159,7,26,3,5,51,34,37,0.040999999999999995,0.851,0.10800000000000001,0.3798,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,1,1,9,5,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,3,4,1,2,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,3,1,18,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3662221895958866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30343179968189304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3065932725070177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28169172285876976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053791387986202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897192531042425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6053790472378546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23829253964070676,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,MurkyPhrase8,2020/03/15,"JuGoing to ask for a divorce, I might need advice I (42m) am going to ask my wife (39f) for a divorce soon. We've been married about 4 years now and I'm just completely out of patience. I dont love her anymore. I can't even bring myself to care about her because she doesn't seem to care about anything except herself. She dominates my life, I'm not allowed to do anything that doesn't also involve her- all we do is sit around the house. I am miserable all the time.

She hasn't had a job in almost a decade. Before we got married I told her she would have to get a job and help contribute to the household finances which she agreed to do. She did not get a job. Instead she went on an alcohol bender, of which I participated insomuch as I could while also working full time, that resulted in several trips to the hospital and eventually rehab for her.

Of course, I agreed that a job just out of rehab might be a bit much so agreed that she could wait until stable before job hunting. She agreed and started up on a nearly $45 a day pot habit.

She decided that she would like a cat to replace her old cat that died. I told she could get a cat after she found some sort of employment. She agreed. Then she volunteered to house stray cats for the local shelter. Eventually,  one stayed and hasn't left yet.

She gets some money each month from her father. Years back she told him that she wanted to go back to school so he offered to help out with money. I dont know how much he sends her but it is at least 2 grand a month. She has never enrolled in any classes. Nowadays most of that money is spent on a storage unit, pot, and cat food. Her father had surgery almost two years ago and still has lots of medical bills and is not a rich man yet still she takes his money.

All day long she sits at home and plays some sort of game on her mobile phone. It's a productive day if she runs the dishwasher or sweeps the floors. Mostly, the place stays clean from disuse. 

She won't cook herself. The most she does is heat up the three or four premade dinners from Trader Joe's she likes. She eats a lot of random snack foods.

There is no just talking with her. She always has to prove she's the smartest person in the room and so will often interject with statements made up on imaginary facts. Everyone else is always at some sort of fault, in her mind, especially other women. She doesn't like or get along with other women unless they are of a lower station in some way. She hates my little sister, constantly making fun of her job as a massage therapist because my wife thinks that is a fake job.

Sometimes we argue, my wife and I. It usually devolves into her telling me I'm a spoiled child and when I start to point out the hypocrisy she will get physically violent. I've gotten black eyes, bloody noses, hair ripped out, all manner of bruises. Never laid a hand on her other than to get her off of me and when I have she screamed bloody murder and threatens to call the police and report me for domestic abuse. Last time she threatened to send an email to my work and to a high school near by that I could be a threat to minors. The type of stuff that could ruin my life just by insinuation.

I feel like I should at least get a lawyer on retainer in case she doesn't want to make this easy. There is a pretty big chance that she will, just from past arguments when divorce has come up, but I feel like I should be prepared. Her mother lives off alimony from two previous marriages so my wife might be persuaded to try that angle. 

Thing is, I don't make much money and I dont really have much for her to take if it came to that. The only thing I own of any value is my condo which I own outright and have since before our relationship- in my state that means she has no legal claim on it and couldn't get it in a divorce. 

We have no kids. No joint property. In fact, she made me get rid of a bunch of my stuff so she could move most of her things into my place. She's pretty big on separating her stuff from mine. The condo we live in I have owned well before we got together and in my state, Washington, that is considered my property, end of sentence. 

She's cheated on me at least once that I know about. With her non-blood related nephew. I've never cheated on her but she acts as if will given the opportunity.  Sex is the furthest thing on my mind. With her or anyone. I just want to be alone because being with her is killing my soul. The only time I feel any peace is right after she has drifted off to sleep at night. 

So, I'm wondering what sort of things I should do to prepare? Is there a way I can legally compel her to leave if she refuses? I'm assuming that I should retain the services of an attorney but if there is anything else I should do? 

Pretty sure my wife has no money for an attorney. Her mother lives off alimony and doesn't generally have much to spare because she has ""lifestyle expenses"". Her step father might be willing to pay for one but they aren't speaking right now.",3.334081746636201,4.746688853465347,4.250891089108915,87.64888296521963,73.33663366336634,7.278497080477277,24.43386646356943,7.838174586533798,1.1401939578573246,3922,116,820,53,78,1266,412,1010,0.111,0.797,0.092,-0.9844,10,1,1,0,5,0,97.0,7,0,2,3,40,28,8,1,54,0,89,19,5,9,11,152,148,54,3,23,25,12,5,5,0,17,6,2,6,6,40,46,7,4,14,3,12,14,26,13,1,6,17,10,139,15,139,100,30,127,1,2,2,2,131,62,0,35,48,579,179,21,0.0,0.059192599811275275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04881882394881044,0.04428515596445999,0.053390394971428584,0.10005235223378893,0.05174189261375533,0.0,0.07990351669746908,0.08313887316094414,0.0,0.0,0.10192038747874103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04954536304173996,0.03493211327086467,0.0,0.1233346549847848,0.044473616684874116,0.0934088229059912,0.0,0.0,0.07682993616169423,0.0,0.12181684168251795,0.0,0.17004386208587433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05454169364448705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05101316816178,0.057139163342376086,0.101871948691538,0.0,0.0,0.043034785288270816,0.05238048948253909,0.05398734170050582,0.0,0.23932656657510115,0.0,0.0,0.09665721138749182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0518489887824512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04371898056315958,0.0,0.1756528112795462,0.0,0.0,0.05111997152344425,0.08346775711077313,0.0,0.044248362602657285,0.0,0.0,0.03299708830417903,0.0,0.0,0.047737444597061966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07578148767103879,0.07138066035172155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12081992398367625,0.054776867197701286,0.0,0.0,0.2610123073566657,0.0,0.056785082446319586,0.0,0.07991268037987556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049323631301030506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06697219850551149,0.052783850530774966,0.050112403646566134,0.0,0.0,0.11529069885051055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3470324045330546,0.0,0.05527162840628851,0.0,0.05491172059334554,0.040722808624633115,0.0,0.05289879032712793,0.054280007445284335,0.0,0.07057426831177696,0.1220358878704451,0.05007149638524015,0.13234269292275522,0.04421166050187048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08494578368070202,0.04508945607214256,0.0945437959773496,0.100042969775333,0.0,0.0,0.054419403229031695,0.0,0.0503278874342419,0.0,0.21199210319693398,0.10088759582589424,0.0,0.07975272416877544,0.053097931283350934,0.1836260632925244,0.037043561300693806,0.11559312082231822,0.0,0.0,0.046882625662349034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052422994520161866,0.05320412402048765,0.06770628397533755,0.07599131235924861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047690998136595664,0.0,0.043621795847291416,0.10439190454920452,0.0,0.04722688789755062,0.0,0.0,0.15247712712221173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032004665480062644,0.0,0.0,0.05363668415251283,0.0,0.08532849506387001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10112124706402767,0.0,0.04548030104934612,0.0,0.056438833948934675,0.0,0.04132615016491086,0.0,0.049994534317046174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04941018934866072,0.0,0.07072170305196901,0.10649813151810483,0.07979377326356799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17157143527777255,0.0,0.0,0.04708525252654317,0.0,0.07512508138438584,0.040154713670754204,0.043665891606698114,0.0,0.0,0.058005616707813686,0.16595088783818285,0.032011360677700815,0.0,0.0,0.11652470727263405,0.0,0.0,0.1432123337911859,0.0,0.0339185115304709,0.0,0.09760430241567568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055022180015246114,0.0,0.08840037326938148,0.07930939227908354,0.0,0.0,0.04491865074086048,0.04631198822167879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05417781327397335,0.07274070036581162,0.0,0.0,0.07097810599183962,0.0,0.0,0.09651482104545367
divorce,ThrowRA-i,2020/03/15,Where can I sell my wedding band and rings Just curious about a place I could have buy my rings and bands?,7.553636363636365,5.304659818181818,6.3990909090909085,88.36863636363636,64.45454545454545,10.618181818181819,31.09090909090909,8.841846274778883,1.8893090909090908,84,2,20,1,1,25,18,22,0.0,0.887,0.113,0.3182,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,3,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,13,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6071927385851458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7945545784963237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,vievelamorgan,2020/03/15,"Beauty or the Beast Towards the end of our marriage, my stbxh would make a few comments here and there about being able to understand why someone would date girls that aren’t very pretty. I’d brush it off and not think too much about it, but it would come up again. I finally asked him why he kept saying that and he looked me straight in the face and said “beautiful ones like you get too much attention or cheat”...”with ugly girls, I don’t have to worry about that anymore”. By this point our marriage was going downhill fast anyway for things he thinks I did and did things he told he did. We’re now in the process of getting a divorce, but I just recently discovered that I think he’s been having over a year long affair with this girl and she’s butt ugly. Truth be told, when I first saw her picture, I thought it was a boy...but it’s a woman. She’s overweight, ugly, but super nice and buys him things w/o expecting anything back. He stuck to his word and wanted the beast. I’m not saying looks are the most important thing but I’ve know him since we were on high school and he would’ve never gone for a woman like that even if we hadn’t been married for 20 years with 4 kids. I’m confused!",3.910855834136932,4.813769897540986,4.128958534233366,91.0241417550627,71.3360655737705,7.0526518804243015,24.59884281581485,7.048011613610866,0.7541970106075215,941,25,204,8,17,292,148,244,0.10099999999999999,0.768,0.131,0.7832,1,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,4,1,0,2,14,6,0,1,12,0,19,3,2,1,2,43,43,17,0,6,10,0,0,2,0,3,1,3,0,6,16,14,1,1,7,0,1,3,6,1,0,2,17,7,21,5,21,21,4,27,0,0,3,1,37,10,1,5,16,125,37,1,0.13018590707042935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12910943781709766,0.0,0.0,0.1071319089607923,0.0,0.12170624930520064,0.0,0.0,0.1001049266406938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121436314931688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11530607243998388,0.0,0.0,0.08598656380748704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14261229775879056,0.0,0.11073606604860578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13603352643827613,0.0,0.07398765112353077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13754855852219305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07154676987030721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12720451650088632,0.0,0.0,0.1152104310457469,0.2186467475612557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690010387964739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19140324215843732,0.0,0.1004073972393094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08821733986867977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12306776198545585,0.0,0.0,0.1324458701690545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12854287748719578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12383660989672353,0.207058117164208,0.0,0.13175508824914195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10769112763270247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11030609659153827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34595892763543784,0.2502536177225973,0.0,0.10335306830698758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24879642640055494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13552812051292218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10741700750425401,0.07678702099068395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23494506401711246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322101080043331,0.0,0.36992133266673344,0.0,0.0,0.16767091168146175
divorce,Dom_CBL,2020/03/15,"Why does it hurt to know she has another man, after a year of separation and divorce almost through? We were not healthy for each other. We tried, for the longest time, to make it work. I think we were great parents for our boys (7 and 5) but horrible spouses to each other.
Even a year of couple counselling didn't help, and ever since february of last year we are separated and it's only a matter of time now until our lawyers will work out something and I will leave our house.

I know it never really worked well in the 8 years we where together, and I thought I had come to terms with everything.

So why the hell does it hurt to know she has another man now?

I just found out when she came back home at 2 a.m., and now it's almost 4 and I still can't sleep in my room. 

Why is this?? 

Heck I had some my fair share of nights out this last year and don't want her back, just like she would never want me back. 

I don't want to feel like this.",3.5505361305361305,3.9348353434343473,4.414646464646463,90.5394055944056,71.82828282828281,7.910489510489511,24.32167832167832,7.882392219407189,0.9061300699300704,730,18,171,9,13,236,112,198,0.152,0.7709999999999999,0.077,-0.9403,1,0,1,0,1,0,23.0,8,0,0,3,15,8,1,0,6,0,15,1,1,1,3,45,28,13,0,4,4,2,1,2,0,3,0,0,2,3,11,22,0,0,7,0,0,2,7,3,1,0,8,1,25,5,24,17,4,34,1,2,0,0,21,8,2,3,26,112,36,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22567747136482594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23632215933342454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599456983916361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12888274599359578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09706899745736627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246848981545272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19722452823672496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07442802977273885,0.10193092406964868,0.0,0.0,0.10127489653137156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056977419427723525,0.08050288960166893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235543653144552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12423669535602005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07553103986576133,0.0,0.11303322996889277,0.0,0.0,0.13002449621409348,0.2412653533465944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18578780970848105,0.1837082341813704,0.0,0.11931818665681218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11010535974610554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07521876944971406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17382075571392555,0.0,0.0,0.10574816257892546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08570276878077368,0.0,0.0,0.1251244499257137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07218952694425974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09321501056434467,0.0,0.11276736463295972,0.0,0.0,0.08675117594764678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08999117251487701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07220462859094305,0.0,0.08946008427873232,0.13141620712408286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07650638634431123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993953391572878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10131823280506268,0.0,0.3050447205700717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461102156624605,0.0,0.0,0.08004889003046066,0.0,0.0,0.3628303962288203
divorce,justmeSarahBee,2020/03/15,Divorced after 14 yrs and jumped into another marriage too soon I divorced after 14 years and jumped into another relationship right away and got married to quickly and now I know I’ve made a mistake and want out but I feel stuck because my kids adore him like they do their dad and I don’t want to put them through another divorce. I’m also financially dependent on him and I feel so completely hopeless and stuck!,5.077541666666669,6.749022337500005,5.835000000000001,76.97666666666667,69.375,8.833333333333334,34.583333333333336,9.2995712137729,3.3919583333333336,337,17,59,7,6,110,54,80,0.138,0.736,0.126,-0.273,0,0,0,0,3,1,2.0,0,0,3,0,6,4,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,20,12,11,0,3,1,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,11,0,0,3,0,0,3,1,2,0,0,4,2,11,2,10,8,0,15,0,1,0,0,12,6,0,1,7,39,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17582753263231926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6916490506888101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065722513805219,0.0,0.0,0.1340288612527202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305263298650213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223426877334978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17584769729757996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12083313405439987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10741589328588033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080434386302463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22102702768628946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23605483770688826,0.0,0.1877651869455768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593664652596982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14158711696527435
divorce,Chentelle,2020/03/16,"Help I just found out today that my husband of 31 years is leaving me. I am in so much pain that I cannot breath. Please, any advice for how to get through this night....",1.4475000000000016,2.8030554166666697,2.2011111111111106,100.655,78.16666666666666,4.800000000000002,20.333333333333336,3.1291,-0.6944333333333335,129,3,32,0,3,40,33,36,0.149,0.779,0.073,-0.4292,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,1,1,0,4,5,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,6,4,1,5,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,21,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31646981166018223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22023421309473476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3550930449198939,0.0,0.0,0.1692021828235097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170748630664628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3429183429209905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23807253418074975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039183354571562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34460722546186595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35549829460161586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30697905285723426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20855361906231246
divorce,peachprism,2020/03/16,"Finding myself lost So, I’m (24F) married to (27M), we met in 2016, married in 2018. I have been unhappy for a very long time. I bring up to my mother (my best friend and confidant) that we were only really happy in our Honeymoon phase when we first met, started to become unhappy, and decided to get engaged. Then, with that obviously not fixing the problem, we got married less than a year later. Here we are, over a year into our marriage, and I feel the same as I have practically since the beginning. I enjoy his company maybe 5% of the time. I have become unhappy with myself in the relationship as well. My self image is a huge part of how well I do in life, and it’s become apparent that the two go hand in hand. I’ve been on antidepressants for 9 months now. I have gained almost 100 pounds. I work from home and don’t leave the house anymore. I used to be a very outgoing, social, and positive person. I’ve always loved fiercely and unconditionally, unable to see the faults in my SO, even when they’re extreme issues like cheating and physical abuse. I’ve always struggled with blaming myself for the relationship problem. 
This is not the same. I don’t feel like I love him enough to keep fighting for this. We live in a fixer upper house, we have two cats (his) and a 5 month puppy (I told him I needed a companion and he finally caved). He doesn’t care about being financially responsible. We are barely scraping by to pay bills, and he spends hundreds of dollars each month on MTG. I went to my parents this weekend to get some space, and thought long and hard about all of this. I’ve been thinking about leaving for a long time now. We haven’t been intimate for a year. I actually worry that he’s gay. Not just because of the lack of intimacy either. I just don’t want to be with him anymore. I’ve always been a very co-dependent person, and have been almost miserable alone, but I’m looking at being alone as a 100% better situation than the one I’m in now. I don’t want to leave to find someone better, I want to leave so I don’t get swallowed up by this relationship. How do I know if I’m making the right decision? I just want to see him happy, but I know that that would require me to be happy, and I know I won’t be in this marriage. Is this something I need to stick it out for and hope it gets better? Or if I’m having these thoughts now with such intensity, maybe it’s already too far gone? I don’t want to fix this, I really just want to walk away. Am I weak for that?",3.715057205720573,4.724519295049507,5.2558828382838305,82.3655184268427,71.89108910891089,8.224972497249725,26.89906490649065,8.59863814320734,1.814206820682068,1944,65,400,33,36,658,230,505,0.078,0.768,0.154,0.9894,3,2,1,0,3,0,70.0,11,0,0,9,24,27,2,2,25,0,38,9,2,4,2,84,84,32,0,15,13,2,5,2,2,2,3,0,1,3,20,33,1,2,12,1,4,5,12,9,2,4,16,8,55,18,68,60,11,54,0,2,3,3,40,24,0,7,27,267,75,3,0.0,0.08424065268571528,0.0693823380969634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14239069548876218,0.14727418018043062,0.07845948084765286,0.0,0.1774801147684699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14102214579167235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0667998222942777,0.0,0.0,0.043341271899553474,0.23556967760085684,0.0,0.0,0.07461398204813306,0.18864378221857334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.072490137918441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07346424146152576,0.0,0.04696019881429053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07189955054355474,0.050793118027745165,0.0,0.07788544581348271,0.12996634014050468,0.060476747148513726,0.0,0.0,0.054930887478651456,0.0,0.14858510827930685,0.0,0.04040718285175668,0.0,0.05686434093559909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22705852538597604,0.06369071142458457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.071318063479155,0.07061731924325737,0.0,0.1640773297798154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742088520814379,0.0,0.0631960309052296,0.0,0.0,0.11722240274023032,0.0,0.0,0.3011341713423586,0.0,0.0,0.05021930481475838,0.06947073031469589,0.0,0.06278169267523004,0.18876105199998575,0.05970522765953658,0.0,0.07761292404011935,0.0,0.12833919175273822,0.0,0.04745911424379321,0.0,0.14285694245763933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17025155742935555,0.0,0.0,0.10543797000716733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04817850179914186,0.05407397015840962,0.0,0.0,0.07894699165061657,0.07699325544071964,0.0,0.0,0.12416175553076055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13606422340052246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09109564092891537,0.0,0.0,0.22900105563759465,0.0,0.06071813148762066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11331334697764375,0.0,0.07417173131320216,0.0,0.0,0.058813802299266964,0.07991822066488058,0.0,0.07247644571615935,0.060241926145162925,0.054735460314000464,0.0,0.0,0.05032421656708826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07432808017836841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045557348814634864,0.0,0.11288927992585937,0.1243751426608498,0.0,0.0,0.06793811225096166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13890672426360032,0.0,0.0,0.06140668170293444,0.0,0.1759922878089246,0.2516160859842832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12785302447387978,0.06590945705047799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05176089659154304,0.07220445476856828,0.0,0.050506668014347764,0.0,0.0,0.13735621588908986
divorce,bookgirl100,2020/03/16,"Divorce in a Pandemic 34/f married 12 years together 15. Divorcing bc I fell out of love. Using mediator. We live together until I get a new job (harder in a pandemic thanks a lot God) different bedrooms. We have a home, no kids. 
I guess I just really want to say what a shitty time this is in anyones life but especially with everything going on right now. It brings new meaning to “til death do us part.” I’m just feeling down because once his family heard we might separate (that’s all they know) they stopped communication. I get it, but one of his sisters was a very close friend. I checked on her when she was really depressed, we vacationed together etc. and now she just ghosted me. It hurts. Add to the fact my best friend is not supportive at all, she’s been left before so I think this is bringing up her issues with that, but in general yes my husband, ex ,whatever, is a very likable charming person. Just not a great partner. So feeling lonely (everyone probably is a little bit right now) and just thought I’d try to reach out. Hope everyone stays well.",1.9531715210356,4.585510878640776,3.7963349514563127,83.13262540453073,83.41747572815535,7.705177993527508,27.02993527508091,8.59863814320734,2.5111042071197422,835,38,158,22,24,280,137,206,0.133,0.691,0.177,0.8526,2,2,0,0,1,0,31.0,5,0,2,1,12,13,0,0,11,1,11,2,0,1,3,39,31,10,2,2,10,3,2,0,3,1,1,2,2,3,8,12,0,1,6,0,1,4,3,3,1,1,5,4,24,10,21,25,7,32,0,3,0,1,27,16,0,4,11,102,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09157739673759456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07983820756548059,0.0,0.1114459788066915,0.0,0.13744512620330512,0.0,0.14298551819329694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11280442618258996,0.0,0.0,0.13683596501831344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14606637377237014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502952437607203,0.11770755492870348,0.0,0.12346703191237045,0.0,0.13244491886312698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20237447606247186,0.0,0.13685302941080654,0.0,0.07443337286297115,0.0,0.0,0.14439508845362709,0.14427842161479673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13137377159611136,0.1300829427555188,0.0,0.0,0.14020628904143256,0.0,0.0,0.13669884329663445,0.12996769699436872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07197778707701229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422994863835602,0.0,0.0925081130726144,0.0,0.1312665298592359,0.11564907053797994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113461655324722,0.11820570302698814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14266492385059218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13893866647265518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529836365640169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394789698441791,0.08874878512444848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14182794458049974,0.0,0.0,0.11435811151012215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14120800817975693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678057050482675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22369564030938116,0.0,0.1041527457971069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395967882936588,0.0,0.1094969369370958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14862341091267964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205797475485149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08392040453324331,0.0,0.10397569530869327,0.07636976658765668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08892015673627529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575410034855336,0.11311618660080873,0.0,0.21612823356263772,0.07724960689580031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11775792285788048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08434050343498034
divorce,alternativeriot,2020/03/16,"Husband wants a separation. My 15 year anniversary is coming up. We have two girls, 11 and 13. We’ve had some rough spots. Too much alcohol at times, snarky remarks, but a general feeling of love and support in the madness. 

2 years ago, my mother came down with lung cancer and moved in with us. It was one hell of a change. She’s needy and sick. I love her. I’ve done my best to care for her, my girls, and my husband. My sex life suffered, my affection suffered. It takes a lot to care for my mother. 

My husband has been my rock all these years. Always telling me he loves me. He will support me. We will always be together. 

My mother’s sickness has caused me a lot of depression.  3 months ago, (I remember none of this) I got way too drunk. I screamed I wanted to die. I screamed I hated him. I have greatly reduced my alcohol intake, and will never allow myself to do that again. 

Just a week ago I noticed his behavior changed. I asked him, and the floodgates opened. He isn’t happy. He isn’t in love with me ( but loves me and will always support me, his words.) He wants to separate. He said my meltdown was the nail in the coffin, and it had irreparably changed how he views me. 

My mother could pass any time. The world is falling apart from this virus. And now my last thread of sanity wants to leave me. 

He has stopped wearing his ring. He said he needs time to think. He said he has not looked at apartments. 

I don’t want a divorce. I want to save this.  I won’t beg. But I do want to show him our marriage is worth it, things are just hard. 

I want to believe he just wants time to think. We are still talking. We are not fighting. I’ve cried too much, but my plate is rather full at the moment. 

Anyone have thoughts on what I might do?",0.5150926290894731,2.862323966101698,1.7873643410852722,96.91115687820259,87.58757062146894,4.7619498094862704,20.661936670608327,6.270204493941655,0.08069276047825548,1340,44,297,13,43,425,178,354,0.156,0.654,0.19,0.9432,0,0,2,0,3,0,60.0,6,0,0,1,11,23,4,0,13,0,34,15,2,4,2,60,68,15,2,12,10,7,3,0,0,6,6,6,0,2,11,20,3,1,5,3,1,5,8,9,0,2,12,11,57,14,32,48,9,40,1,3,2,6,51,15,1,4,19,186,68,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161245311253422,0.17370717611799252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20287102516493816,0.0,0.0,0.055266815648701166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056826314502477174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759770688163502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09156417020867133,0.08528851274121557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929519505826882,0.1657216484567486,0.08348732457925243,0.25792065299736244,0.07000745200770737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06488798542637815,0.0,0.08927197146179641,0.0,0.0,0.06999827498800013,0.0,0.08434608351177066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08316807159187319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04109287270491601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06499954744779661,0.08960115706925648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08651409741984137,0.07280252177572505,0.08023792213723142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06624641092807007,0.0,0.08605386317801669,0.0,0.0,0.057403849801039776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06824686111341212,0.0,0.0,0.1381867676217884,0.36674958535049135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08621529590050751,0.0,0.0,0.06486944192157036,0.08637781857461421,0.1194865291154998,0.06026114276117235,0.06268092043976611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09252715151589946,0.0,0.0,0.0550710825472101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09206378162728414,0.0,0.2319209412619249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06490283052237783,0.06794588618056799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766748452728514,0.0,0.0,0.06110539990338856,0.06532225434280793,0.07103411323078779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05399259570203761,0.10414987695808704,0.0,0.06451980262286658,0.18955823289129875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07938959694279596,0.0,0.09775856193812943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4314197118213373,0.06450884367781021,0.06519039764186693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15700686449604814
divorce,Stalledin2020,2020/03/16,"I just need to do it I just need to tell him.  I don't want to be married any more.  Once he starts shouting, I won't be able to tell him I don't want to hear him scream at me.  Or my kids. He'll just be shouting.  I will hear him tell me it's all my fault. I don't listen.  I didn't do what he told me.  I'm just trying to screw him over.  I'm just trying to win.  I know it's not a healthy place for me or the kids.  I've been so shut down and isolated for so long, I can't be like this any more.  I just need to do it.",-2.9130952380952384,-1.450218817460316,0.2352063492063489,108.33757142857141,94.31746031746029,3.6774603174603184,12.368253968253967,4.604124745555138,-1.890599365079365,383,5,119,1,15,134,59,126,0.141,0.825,0.034,-0.7971,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,1,8,5,1,0,2,0,15,1,0,0,1,17,29,5,0,5,9,0,0,1,0,3,0,6,0,2,6,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,3,6,22,2,13,19,3,7,0,0,0,1,17,5,1,2,3,73,28,0,0.18913827391176835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572410241755521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42634516169921377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394544894872228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09240340689005172,0.0,0.0,0.1673814205775346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4207309006296287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20142608891054412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976092402082591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13387304376410294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4959455640172952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18072972606535634,0.0,0.2568249452474428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231173087137255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Divorced4advice,2020/03/16,"Divorced. Unique childcare situation. Looking for help desperately. Thanks for clicking on the post and maybe giving me some advice. It means a lot.

**Details:** Keeping some details vague. I am a 25+ year old male. Indiana. Divorced. I teach at a school that has daycare, and we have been using it for my son (1 ish years old)

**Issue:** The daycare is convenient because I just take him on my way to work and we don't have to pay for the days I'd be off like summer and breaks and so on. Now with the virus we are closed and may not open again til next year. This means I basically watch him every day from now til August potentially. My ex is wanting to change daycare options so that we don't have to deal with issues like me having him for super long periods of time. This issue here is that it is tough being a single dad and watching him while I still have job duties as well as trying to live my own life and find someone and all that stuff. She also thinks he would get better care and education somewhere else.

**My Dilemma:** One one hand if stay with the current daycare I get lots of time with him but also it is much more of a financial strain on me to entertain him, feed him, etc. I love time with him but it is difficult to have so much time taken up by him. On the other hand, if we go with a different daycare it would give me so much more time to comfortably do things and take care of work and so on. She says I could have more time than normal when I am off, but it wouldn't be like if we kept up with what we have. I'm not sure what to do. I feel like I'd be a terrible person to give up time with my son and I may regret it. But at the same time if I stick with it I am like a babysitter than pays HER money to do it while also feeding him and entertaining him and so on. Any help is appreciated.",0.9690097259062788,3.0670118779840863,2.734376657824935,92.67585322723257,82.74005305039788,5.5642793987621575,20.011494252873558,6.788186056548923,0.18933032714412024,1406,39,313,16,39,465,181,377,0.048,0.794,0.158,0.9917,3,0,0,0,3,0,46.0,7,0,0,4,17,21,0,1,15,0,36,6,2,1,2,70,59,39,0,11,11,4,3,5,0,5,1,1,0,2,21,33,2,3,5,2,3,1,5,5,1,2,3,8,44,16,51,46,15,51,0,1,4,1,38,16,0,11,35,228,65,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08823469772472484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166253323821256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061403326652598685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05504266251327598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07985810894789669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184122432135024,0.0,0.09551956220960474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07209277607544948,0.0,0.0,0.11646490895442098,0.09308961968930272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943384886992124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07542943195592153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10070218710128928,0.0,0.0,0.07607697384997555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04565559017969065,0.06450637766417221,0.0,0.0,0.08252749728963461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943502533620929,0.2598560107771562,0.051316420385078484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12104494154325207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28273185960596736,0.08960331527259642,0.0802578615910658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06377764485030166,0.220566552137918,0.0,0.07973165923565108,0.07990775247640419,0.07582460210116812,0.0,0.0,0.15353023567130072,0.08149427219445954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09071291781189443,0.1967142674026062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19913044451033168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960291787054999,0.0,0.08846939590294836,0.0,0.0,0.18949768557151395,0.0,0.12237172093478625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07884163647267052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08647712949831289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07180577585035704,0.0,0.09138281042572216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10149475213633176,0.0,0.0,0.07650619985594058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09624187641841936,0.07210926948597364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10336554977102796,0.0,0.0,0.08510145652685487,0.0,0.1357803877956416,0.0,0.0,0.08313100397207009,0.0,0.0,0.05998762461342976,0.05785704170415393,0.0,0.0,0.4212113890512284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061304008783616325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07798541918354734,0.0,0.0,0.05325800980891771,0.07167153659635707,0.0,0.0,0.08118556019452998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13147087926149362,0.0,0.0,0.12828518224507646,0.0,0.0,0.1744400084244353
divorce,ThatMustangGuy88,2020/03/16,"I need info In all seriousness, how is life (emotionally speaking) after divorce? Married for almost 10years to my high school sweetheart but unfortunately things have not been well lately. Honestly I feel like we've turned into 2 completely different people in the last few years. I'm tryijg very hard to not be a dick here but sometimes my life is hell and I cant handle it, most of this comes from my spouse. Arguing just to argue, not hearing me out, all sorts of shit like that and I'm just so so done with living this way. I know somebody has to have experience here and I'm just in need of advice or information, something, but I cant keep doing this, I'm too young and have too much life ahead of me to live like this. Please dont confuse the words either, I love my wife and would still take a bullet for her but at the same time I feel like I'm cheating myself out of a happier life by staying.",3.1402380952380966,4.860098554945053,4.378263736263737,85.28340293040294,74.43956043956044,7.270915750915751,24.22124542124543,8.021203637495839,1.2678142124542124,715,22,146,11,15,235,115,182,0.149,0.667,0.183,0.8063,1,0,1,0,1,1,17.0,0,0,0,1,12,15,5,1,6,0,14,7,2,1,2,40,30,13,0,3,12,2,3,4,1,1,4,2,0,0,7,10,0,1,5,0,0,1,6,7,1,0,2,5,15,8,24,26,7,19,1,0,0,2,11,8,3,5,12,98,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13824140614371094,0.0,0.0,0.1416602935302978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218626085212814,0.1483270577790826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14780449944916926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14477141874488647,0.16580005866754768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591330504132332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13838336394136871,0.0,0.0,0.14306147462423618,0.2021302862362188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267280118913699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15944531022718256,0.0,0.0,0.14946926469808167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12574372584184956,0.0,0.0,0.07774740207337202,0.11531573010225485,0.15958265906898653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3996936140540239,0.2764575034727792,0.0,0.2498386002589318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12768086785957813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039956440606193,0.20979423872022407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09807646326039356,0.0,0.0,0.15528995915790186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431737007818417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.145215408804867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10890938270905802,0.13991598938450678,0.0,0.0,0.15078662554610162,0.11297694746840445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10636672544721636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398540247345168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824914350699232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538771323907882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11672634959048775,0.0,0.11229113098422802,0.0,0.0,0.12719719440611607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10049518181775408,0.0,0.0,0.09110109240527396
divorce,lippy0902,2020/03/16,A little levity I guess my divorce has been training me for covid-19.  I've been practicing social distancing since September and didn't even realize!,4.283076923076924,7.6896730769230786,5.098846153846154,70.08365384615385,87.46153846153845,10.292307692307693,33.42307692307692,9.516144504307137,5.2868,124,7,17,5,4,40,24,26,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,3,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,11,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3156764360542004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5265074180159175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4790238272263415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39535887771793343,0.0,0.0,0.4872020702474226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,singinportlandrain,2020/03/16,"About to be a 22 year old divorcee Hi all, I have been with my husband for 4 years, married for a little over 2. He is 21 and I am 22. He is in the military and we have no kids, but we do have a dog we named Captain. Since we got married, we have always had issues and I have felt like it hasn't been the same with our relationship. At first, we had an issue of him spending too much time with friends and me feeling alone, then when he was deployed he would hardly contact or call me when he had the time. He said this was because it was hard on him emotionally to call me, but he would spend the time getting drunk with friends. After he got home from deployment, I noticed intimacy was very rare (and bad when it did happen). 

That being said, the other day I confronted him and told him I can no longer feel like this because I keep questioning myself and wondering why I'm not good enough for him. He told me that he had a porn addiction from when he was deployed, and I was hurt because he's been home for months and months and never mentioned it to me and said everything was fine with our sex life even though it wasn't. 

He is going to counseling on Friday and wants me to come with for his next appointments, but I'm not sure how I feel anymore. I am tired of feeling heartbroken and not good enough, and I know there would be another man dying to be in his position. It seems like things get better for a month or so, then they all come crashing down again. I don't think a marriage should be like this at such a young age and such an early stage in our marriage.  I have been having panic attacks for the last couple of days, even throwing up because I feel so upset and alone. I have been close to cheating on him in the past but I know I would never get there physically, but I also know its because of how insecure I am with him. I have daydreamed about it though, but i know it isn't the right thing to do. I feel horrible about myself and just don't know what to do at this point. Thank you for listening to my rant.",5.138022328548644,4.796012064593307,5.599629186602873,85.93698763955341,68.30622009569379,8.784848484848487,28.89992025518341,8.212053250817874,1.6757748006379585,1585,48,349,19,24,510,190,418,0.165,0.76,0.075,-0.9919,0,2,0,0,1,0,36.0,9,1,1,2,23,20,3,3,17,0,51,6,0,2,5,77,86,38,1,6,12,1,9,4,2,5,3,4,2,2,19,33,1,1,16,1,2,4,12,8,0,1,26,13,52,12,48,50,6,50,0,1,0,2,55,17,0,5,32,248,71,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09003250060435983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17107136275932816,0.0,0.06604514639973218,0.06871936651065126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08660013238749864,0.0,0.0,0.08190454915542518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09395513637821458,0.0,0.0,0.06895706321079031,0.251722686165881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07304187980239371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16866202133832411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14228353454860715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09138143217174513,0.0,0.10652413378077616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08571272445443011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092899754695233,0.0,0.17066980628249326,0.0,0.10909645121456454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07422426633105453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25055214861559594,0.059000484057397364,0.07929689440408806,0.0,0.0,0.07024883477383828,0.0,0.0,0.12761370346165926,0.0,0.12944558710804954,0.0,0.04693634571414091,0.13854085366028304,0.1321054414880606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07303180096223655,0.0,0.14796424987959406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16568387335496415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08841156326289795,0.0,0.0,0.17239966216513852,0.0,0.07340751185776953,0.0,0.0,0.2269394874933939,0.0673197868775996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058333951687672435,0.16139220727300266,0.08277431196771327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19776152144018486,0.0,0.06071127146445308,0.0,0.1273930510704502,0.0,0.08783267999879739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09402634849463808,0.08666162619363448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09689856707118946,0.0,0.0,0.07883905700437294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07807182597499535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925168344815976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08866800370405001,0.0,0.07052922301154016,0.23567870499667415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07518450414343529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06831718428896902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07783768537142255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603541932030915,0.0,0.0,0.10973485158542948,0.05291869719372056,0.16228348211558455,0.0,0.14447220227137048,0.09492211385192792,0.0,0.15783167737656914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06814328774108995,0.04871221222525742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.074522319475493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08956255637269746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23467099297546884,0.0,0.0,0.1063672080053826
divorce,Soberhungover,2020/03/16,"Not coping My (44m) wife (40f)  told me last month that she was unhappy and had been for a year. She wanted to separate and would not even consider counselling. She said it was too late she was done. We have been together 18 year and have a 3year old son. We have had a very tough year I took seriously ill this time last  year and was very lucky to survive, I have been left with a disability and am unable to work at this time. I knew she was unhappy since December/ January but believed this was due to work stress. I have been totally blindsided with this. We didn't argue, we laughed a lot and spoke about any concerns we had. I thought we were the perfect match and would last forever. Since the night she announced this she will not speak to me about us, I feel I need answers to help me move on but she refuses to engage and I am really struggling.",4.121842105263156,5.126523245614036,4.734751461988306,86.49756578947371,70.9298245614035,8.97485380116959,27.700292397660817,9.2995712137729,2.082629239766081,669,23,144,14,12,214,97,171,0.109,0.8,0.091,-0.053,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,7,0,0,4,4,9,1,2,7,0,26,1,0,0,2,34,35,10,0,4,5,2,1,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,7,16,0,1,4,0,0,2,4,5,0,0,22,4,27,4,14,10,2,19,0,0,0,0,24,3,0,2,14,98,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10339088223208716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17129447802636338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555874025759477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004194986475329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07687485360868566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10190769766183833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3717931704677567,0.17150520203480155,0.0,0.16518945805134794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12925705642272595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12135507992365975,0.16159206501926274,0.0,0.11273406367384554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14267712717236314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15953804101710098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09739927451365032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14462271463575213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515343925098641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17415872664458576,0.15894286513697647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12070098912556175,0.17730886702034376,0.0,0.0,0.14527858364230933,0.16891953221498246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828826909219777,0.0,0.0,0.2508941295513483,0.08967580292876713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213705826001654,0.0,0.0,0.21600650799692794,0.0,0.0,0.3916292998176789
divorce,Olivis_Klothesoff,2020/03/16,"Question about restraining orders? With regards to a separation. Hello, if I made a mistake posting to this sub, please let me know where a better outlet may be.

I'm in Florida and have been living separate from my husband for over 6 months now. We have a soon-to-be toddler and an unofficial, working parenting plan. What's relevant here about it is that we agreed that who ever is spending time with the baby picks up the baby.

I'm completing the paperwork on my own with minor help from a pay-by-the hour lawyer. It's taking forever.

I left because I couldn't trust my stbx to care about me or the baby above himself. I should have filed a restraining order (I know that's not the right term) multiple times before but was always too scared. At this point, a lot of the fear has worn off, but there's not much evidence worth a RO at this point. 

However, I just got a text today saying he prays I get hit by a car and die. 

For context, he called (after texting) earlier today to ask if I could drop off baby because he's having work issues. I answered the phone and agreed to this favor but told him to call when he's ready because I probably won't see a text. He asked why and I explained that with am active baby, I'm not close to my phone all the time. He started to complain about my tone of voice and I hung up.

He called back 5 times (left no voicemail) and left two other rude text messages aside from the one about me dying.

My question for you being, is him texting that he hopes I die in a crash enough to request a restraining order? Or is it a waste of time?

I've had harbor house tell me that unless he makes a direct threat, it's likely not going to go through.

I appreciate your time in helping me with this, r/divorce.",4.101060606060607,4.899487590909093,5.181704545454547,84.03526515151519,70.81818181818181,7.912121212121212,27.166666666666664,8.07648339933343,1.6240280303030301,1360,44,276,18,24,449,196,352,0.14400000000000002,0.759,0.09699999999999999,-0.9684,2,0,0,0,1,0,43.0,2,2,0,4,14,12,2,2,25,0,21,0,0,3,2,49,43,16,3,7,13,2,0,1,0,3,0,2,0,0,18,15,0,3,6,0,2,3,7,6,0,2,7,3,32,6,44,27,6,44,1,0,1,0,38,19,0,9,18,175,50,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08354726199038834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18773531809682298,0.0,0.0,0.07720733468181376,0.0,0.18362283249597888,0.0,0.08543956969469631,0.0,0.0,0.08880246396298172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30758250839806583,0.0,0.10237235679544383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052755783569674,0.0,0.0,0.08016738980894726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3126220660719114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10374800979227737,0.0,0.0,0.0908245262502693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11298659386216325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05245888667080768,0.0,0.11412803613790495,0.0,0.08030522173576944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346023491028206,0.0,0.0,0.0997275161711264,0.09888137322660816,0.11585702157968945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10479956723504408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103629080436082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3272798269054553,0.1026736909464682,0.0,0.04905413753397544,0.0,0.08866185149215366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08536304828683189,0.0,0.0950082072533559,0.06702292913316918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08014447979920382,0.0,0.07381122324554704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06803886594340414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114908845431765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11021751869255664,0.18983548976080705,0.0,0.09616283527207534,0.0,0.10825649866874504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22495923933633405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574763959749764,0.0,0.07984824467162918,0.10052563852052174,0.0,0.08001194865660666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07106909714606241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07549410543874219,0.0,0.08776076815586413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35129127482930794,0.0,0.1903495460333033,0.0959438741196692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980837472926238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09060234495010083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14619602406835858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,crenzz,2020/03/16,"Divorce in an otherwise happy relationship? I know the title sounds a bit weird, but does anyone have experience in separation from a spouse they actually do not hate, or doesn't hate them? My partner had an affair last summer, we started marriage therapy to try to solve the underlying issues (which seemed to be she wanted some more excitement in life), and she decided to stop therapy in January, move out and get her own place, and focus on herself. We have not committed to a divorce yet (I offered her one if it is what she wants, but she said it felt too soon), but we are definitely separated, and only discuss things (bills/etc) via email. We had a few meetings in the last few months, and when we are together we still get along great, but she has shown no emotions to me since she left in January. 

There was no emotional abuse, neglect, gas lighting, and I still think she is a good person. I feel like she just wasn't ready to be married (I am very stable in my career and life, and I think she wanted more chaos and excitement). She also never communicated her struggles with me, and basically let it all build up until she felt like she had to leave.

Anyways, just curious if anyone has experience where a supposedly happy relationship just falls apart.",9.19627157652474,7.610635109704642,9.292896049098584,66.81193325661681,60.77215189873418,12.668814729574224,38.00115074798619,11.567385478589935,4.337653164556961,999,39,180,24,11,331,143,237,0.11,0.703,0.187,0.9744,0,0,0,0,3,0,35.0,6,0,2,0,13,13,2,1,11,0,19,2,0,0,3,48,35,20,0,5,12,1,3,2,1,0,2,2,0,2,6,19,0,2,8,0,0,2,7,5,0,1,8,6,34,8,23,24,8,30,0,1,0,0,38,15,0,5,15,136,40,1,0.0,0.13963629054637114,0.1150073273700666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09424683751700402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16481082884148168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128664728444349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10313377502884476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26513706346078025,0.0,0.0,0.1314370193131476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23056529521656055,0.0,0.0,0.0595899141908937,0.0841940602376296,0.22631432981532215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12314644230001046,0.0,0.0,0.09884933288936336,0.0,0.12993312245417754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509129833083789,0.0,0.2327104716843623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230076987771662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06476881397016268,0.1921315149225924,0.0,0.12478909321809127,0.12804740651119606,0.1205124675749593,0.16648582874380974,0.11515384524479605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09406897652242006,0.12525886992179233,0.0,0.0,0.09089534083522603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0798601038908453,0.08963236118558543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102904514728319,0.12313108700071905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25305959312966564,0.0,0.0,0.11210499598564268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072887582520613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09748904981347416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834168148280744,0.0,0.18823478851659492,0.09853021365040517,0.0,0.12320532983359204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695498839236571,0.0,0.0782961602108468,0.15103062459252395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08001431168879138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09724089835063186,0.2085378957100595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,gerardoe97,2020/03/16,"I really miss her. I can't believe it's been it's been 1.3 years since the separation, 1.3 years since I haven't seen her face, 7 months since I deleted every single picture I had of her and of us and 2 months since we last spoke.

I still really miss her. Her hair, her eyes, her smell, how happy she was, how she always pulled me in to try new things, she had a literal glow in her, such good vibes and good energy.

The most vibrant red hair, a face full of freckles and big beautiful blue eyes that looked right into your soul. The most beautiful girl I ever met in my entire life, with the most beautiful soul and personality.

Where am I really? I still wake up as if it was the first day. Fighting through it, repeating time after time that it'll all get better eventually. But when? I've been saying that to myself since a year ago! I started therapy, a very expensive one at that, I do am a bit better, but it's basically negligent. Am I supposed to just live with this amount of pain for the rest of my life?

I did it all! I got a new job, moved countries to be as far away from my old life as possible. Got some new friends, I'm close to some family, cut contact with the ex. Yet I'm still miserable. I practice a sport, follow my hobbies, nothing, still am incredibly sad and lost.

When am I going to feel better? I tried dating, to no avail. I don't really have issues getting people attracted to me. I suppose I have a ""charming"" personality and good looks, I'm still very young too. But what's the point when I can't even conceive liking someone that isn't her? It doesn't help that only like 2% of the world looks like her, and even then it wouldn't be healthy for me to be with someone just because they remind me of my ex wife.

That's all forgetting that I'm fucking divorcing at 24. What a failure! She was my first everything, in highschool, prom together, college together. Everything I've done that's meaningful in my life I've done it with her. I met her when I was 16 and she 15! She's all I've ever known! We married at 19 and 18, we were so in love... What am I supposed to do with those 7 years together,  4 of which we were married?

I'm devastated, completely and utterly devastated and I don't see how I can recover from this?

It's not like it happened yesterday. It's already been more than a year but I'm still completely devastated.

I'm seriously starting to consider suicide.",2.9328856662463214,4.438328286885247,4.644508196721312,84.05047078604456,74.53278688524591,8.365783942833124,26.652164775115594,8.986495653885253,2.0366108028583434,1876,69,394,41,39,635,223,488,0.134,0.7659999999999999,0.099,-0.9765,1,0,0,0,2,1,72.0,5,1,1,6,24,25,3,1,19,0,38,14,7,3,6,51,68,29,1,2,8,3,3,4,1,2,5,2,0,3,30,24,0,0,3,1,1,4,10,10,0,3,22,16,63,15,47,41,15,63,2,5,10,2,41,20,1,6,43,256,93,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06810798192327634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08478732931675853,0.0,0.0639313642127781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07218730572744164,0.0,0.0,0.046836795934070266,0.0,0.0,0.08656468773239696,0.0,0.2038581228644917,0.08388193750033908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611162635928019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04955104754300913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15725404664835455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101495187034922,0.13900002774063386,0.06473527145663567,0.0,0.13810542341077586,0.0,0.07243148806318303,0.0,0.03884916649844024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13070853442030556,0.0,0.0,0.05936112750169384,0.07103104069759986,0.08028433511882388,0.0,0.043666069188843734,0.1933320886841687,0.12290103246155508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06794333102165867,0.08179035326297872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051499663779394265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08019388239217136,0.07624507974022028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06262929989221219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170782008438422,0.15014725117809768,0.0,0.06784510927690514,0.0,0.1935615713286716,0.0,0.08387249671717682,0.0,0.06934494848694603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12265502915645513,0.08166151535995686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2226179041661805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07372351241964399,0.0,0.08062350206034183,0.0,0.05206415405633015,0.058435098801992685,0.08175592510590361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05326645570778562,0.13417554565744216,0.0,0.0,0.07263219372650116,0.0866178707607765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968852208379656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06561511947721667,0.0,0.06110083191523648,0.0,0.0,0.061226100162661314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3177860196144704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13020101523902888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10876584643649807,0.0,0.3681544807962179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08404303295851512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08786544218405377,0.0,0.05104455352084675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08960409513865875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10432937718614724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924208603436997,0.0,0.0,0.12679084713496355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473902576733749
divorce,paybackmama,2020/03/16,"About ready to ruin my husband’s career My husband is in the Navy. He is a petty officer and I just found proof that he was sleeping with an Aschool student who just graduated last week and was shipped off to San Diego. He filed for divorce last week, and I had a feeling he was cheating on me, so I wanted to wait until I had proof of it before I acted. 

He expressed wanting to get divorced for a couple of months now, because he doesn’t want to be responsible for taking care of me after I became very ill. 

He’s a real shit head.

Anyway, apart of me is angry at how he’s treated me since becoming ill, and I want to teach him a lesson. I want to report this up his chain of command, and hopefully end his career. I’m not sure how likely that will be. Apart of me also wants to just get this divorce over with and get him out of my life for good. 

Anyone have any advice? Anyone have experience with cheating military spouse?",3.906691086691087,4.7190760793650846,5.2514285714285736,83.30703296703297,71.27513227513228,7.296866096866098,27.236874236874236,7.321109707123232,1.4107514041514042,725,24,145,7,13,243,111,189,0.141,0.764,0.095,-0.9218,0,0,0,0,3,0,17.0,0,0,0,1,10,10,3,0,7,0,14,6,3,2,3,31,30,11,0,7,4,3,1,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,6,10,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,6,1,20,6,32,21,0,19,0,1,0,0,20,9,1,1,10,95,26,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502645023235227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229716449441122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10457043043596163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150423214315594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09373816086414012,0.16982941328870912,0.1308488931252012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15678109827996378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17014611434874313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13619660711390574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15041880643841152,0.0,0.0,0.07775189028290311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16860337924024987,0.0,0.0,0.2410190247908629,0.0,0.0,0.1289769013717836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15781473308737906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15273058082743984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506898805105549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10861391617950203,0.07512537367016392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227395749919354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17502653132548576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578450461585017,0.1272020275209602,0.0,0.15388334274345572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14492856372568969,0.0,0.1156176250586834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126878243780466,0.5441932852977267,0.0,0.2466937116490709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,aus2Nyc,2020/03/16,"Newly Separated/waiting on residency to file So TLDR:
Married for 4 years, gave up an amazing career opportunity to move for my husbands new job, a month or so in we bought a house. the day we closed on our house I found out he had been actively having sex with a girl he met here and though I saw the signs he boldly denied cheating/gaslit me etc.
I hadn’t even unpacked our beautiful new house that day and discovered this, put my stuff in my car, took the dogs and left.

I got my own place because I’m just so hurt and upset that I didn’t even want to see him or be exposed to his manipulation. It’s been a few weeks and I’ve only interacted with him a couple times to pick up various belongings from our house while he’s not there. But he’s clearly dating someone already as there were condom wrappers everywhere (gross *gag)

Anyways we haven’t been here for 6 months yet so I can’t file yet and have been in contact with someone but this divorce thing a whole world I never prepared to be knowledgeable about. 
When the time comes do I just serve the papers? Or do I have to actually “tell” him I want a divorce? I’m just so overwhelmed with all of this and rebuilding my
Entire life that I don’t know what I’m doing",4.166059532246635,4.990169116465863,5.239622017481693,83.58510276399717,70.68674698795179,8.107819513347508,27.900070871722182,8.313332769828598,1.7412171509567678,966,33,201,14,17,319,147,249,0.05,0.8759999999999999,0.07400000000000001,0.5529999999999999,1,0,0,0,2,0,18.0,6,0,0,1,20,7,0,2,13,0,19,3,0,2,3,37,34,21,0,2,9,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,10,17,0,0,3,0,1,5,7,4,0,0,15,2,27,3,26,17,6,33,0,2,2,2,24,12,0,3,16,135,37,3,0.0,0.0,0.12558532838623546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14201538802995856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07844976132940036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11085720457358857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14239581765562526,0.0,0.1659920485954138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.143526170114669,0.17000038196849673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14110469779643367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10292715878043622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5939755247895457,0.137767996646971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277074613852984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07072603944143947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13982479171931236,0.0,0.09089932768878407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054422718564972,0.13677977457731375,0.0,0.0,0.0992555995222763,0.2485840616150288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09787645510015723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13445628508331164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293715204864822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10255127083526204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21808149696502488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14732213775566455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124829285496914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08549758712173786,0.0,0.1264397404300902,0.0,0.15008327827675513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14298211694563315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15181235672895468,0.0,0.10322937116497828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14368059467987165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08287375890107572
divorce,Hungryjack14,2020/03/16,"After divorce feelings Why am I here
I should be in the ground rotting away 
I caused hate i caused pain 
Let’s just call it and go where I should
Away from everyone and everything so I don’t cause anymore pain 
At least there’s something that you can enjoy and be happy with
I’ll miss you and her and everyone else that’s been part of this
Yes I’m talking about jack and his best friend
And my boys that I love so much not to mention all the friends and family along the way 
Goodbye to all, take care Logan, Valeria, baby diamante and all those young lives I was supposed to be part of. 
Big hugs to those that heard me and didn’t abandon me when it all went to shit. 
Move forward and don’t forget to tell your close ones you love them. 
Mama te quiero, I’m so sorry that I wasn’t the son you expected
Dad, fix everything and make it right for you my mom and all the kids involved 

Adios my people, Go dodgers, lakers and Raiders 

Ps. Jack you were my little friend that didn’t judge,you were just my best friend and I wish you can be lying next to me so  we can be together again after you have fun on earth.",1.829350649350648,3.6797905497835535,2.6454545454545446,95.68818181818185,78.56709956709958,5.785281385281388,20.95670995670996,6.655083550727371,0.13701385281385292,871,23,197,8,21,273,133,231,0.09699999999999999,0.705,0.198,0.9826,0,0,1,0,1,0,13.0,1,9,1,2,12,19,2,0,5,1,22,6,1,4,5,38,37,20,0,4,3,3,1,0,4,2,2,1,0,2,12,19,0,1,1,0,0,5,6,6,0,1,9,2,31,13,21,20,11,23,0,2,0,3,31,12,1,0,7,130,43,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166569832149046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2210338157711492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468900753855996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201130022394702,0.0,0.11993124561996367,0.3625140924016753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09826446051120956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22480030142842305,0.2114358501647866,0.0,0.11089074475944698,0.0,0.05947707442566765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3635214360186125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13370325703772742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12521892660217426,0.0,0.11613490497455822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028426455213888,0.0,0.0,0.1178957899337048,0.10386911683271384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21233066415300164,0.0,0.07851869027594051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13776639894761533,0.0,0.12502167908729678,0.08647131141329405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12510044413889682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07970888039109157,0.0,0.2503324359588702,0.0,0.0,0.2547628489748676,0.0,0.0815495732875168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10045505982096624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12074512303087401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09055703470209844,0.0,0.13167673836319108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08844284126744051,0.0945462394683054,0.10281347983937457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09336892370826816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10904384388249927,0.10614244339091762,0.0,0.1352682673056116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,hughesnadja,2020/03/16,"Un-diagnosed Bipolar? My daughter is in the process of trying to separate from her, suspected un-diagnosed bipolar husband.  He displays all the symptoms but refuses to get a diagnosis. How can she effectively handle the separation?  She does NOT want to continue the relationship, she has tried everything and is DONE.  All the articles I have read on this subject leans towards comforting and helping the Bipolar spouse and to stay in the relationship!  There is nothing I have read so far that helps the non Bipolar spouse separate and get a normal life back.  Can anyone help with tips and suggestions how this can be accomplished?",7.5065366972477054,9.646769137614685,7.477878440366973,65.7175516055046,64.04587155963304,11.68853211009174,41.14793577981651,11.45678717892309,5.710714678899082,512,30,76,17,8,164,72,109,0.023,0.792,0.185,0.97,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,10,0,11,6,0,3,2,17,14,9,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,3,6,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,7,1,11,12,2,8,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,0,2,56,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313051317862598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443967162051899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3811999803811053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16433378822215486,0.1921714384680702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16877096928664884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19622205590342973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37760927671027505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13263960770912953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18399152233316185,0.18018682167566166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3756759078081813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4032262134623132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20015610114316235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19518273675382133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549902773970945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11076171823222168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,thacuriousmale,2020/03/16,"Divorce and Avoidance My wife and I are divorcing after several years of a very toxic marriage. We were just two different people and struggled everyday to get along. We have a 9-mo old and we took turns watching her over the course of our marriage. But as it just ended very recently, she’s taken on the day to day as we moved out into separate homes. Im currently struggling with depression and grief from the divorce, I can’t help but feel better when avoiding the whole situation, just blocking her and taking some time to try and get myself back on my feet and in a place where I can actually be a good father again. I’m just struggling to the point where it’s become hard to even get up in the morning to go to work. I feel like if I add that additional responsibility I’m setting myself up to fail. I think a little time would help me cope and reach a place of acceptance, but is it a terribly selfish thing to do? She seems to be okay, she seems to be in a place of acceptance and has rather quickly moved on. I, on the other hand, feel like I’m spiraling. I don’t feel like I’m in a good head space to take on the responsibilities of
watching a 9-month old right now. 

Maybe avoiding it will make it worse, I don’t know, but feel like the other alternative of having to communicate is just too painful at the moment and really puts me in a bad place.",6.866703296703296,5.835159021978023,7.575439560439558,75.48206043956047,65.00732600732601,10.730402930402931,33.41941391941393,9.957137785484203,3.009099633699634,1075,38,217,20,14,360,145,273,0.165,0.688,0.147,-0.6808,2,3,0,0,2,0,23.0,5,0,0,3,15,23,0,6,21,1,17,4,3,1,0,50,40,19,1,3,11,2,7,4,0,2,1,0,1,0,9,21,0,4,11,0,0,5,3,13,0,1,3,9,25,10,41,32,2,50,0,3,2,0,19,26,0,4,22,147,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0954024410925192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07517359864843591,0.08162789786419526,0.0,0.10797138919846176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08646329798142642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260979036440234,0.0,0.08420300117558051,0.0,0.0,0.10214137257919964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08658886932151445,0.0,0.0,0.06457144172357346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471591770849495,0.2793672040152486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15323116547360804,0.0,0.0555608817382602,0.16399768386352073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875763128122444,0.0,0.10033289073702294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131056757888257,0.0,0.09806411165322794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10560065635125013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053727906740566836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19104796518213996,0.09798406092825393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06525746285198741,0.0,0.09821592505592447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07803337575558299,0.20781287996680445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20517133538750046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10402656732316347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06777645208679976,0.0,0.4085654903167985,0.0,0.09241749488775984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09827866854241568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06262938635305583,0.0,0.09652902215313536,0.0,0.0,0.08348894144213176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779992574924556,0.0,0.11044419567221404,0.0,0.0,0.1098895417526137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.306608878508543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14701099593615416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06494929482406102,0.06264248807161157,0.0,0.0,0.1140126103802077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10861812573549427,0.06637455918687148,0.10633790966797706,0.09550010090747378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16132918291072934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10914873294695278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07117252060703881,0.0,0.09962869830363516,0.06944792510861089,0.0,0.0,0.0629560714079566
divorce,isaacseoma,2020/03/16,"Not sure how to handle future divorce I'm a 23F that's more than likely divorcing my 27M husband. We unfortunately had a semi-shotgun wedding last year that is not working out well. Our relationship is very emotionally taxing, as well as controlling, manipulative and emotionally abusive. So I'm really worried about how I'm going to be after the divorce. 

I've got a history of depression and I'm so scared that it's going to come back. I fear being alone. My husband is the first relationship I've had and I'm terrified I've never find love again. I've moved back to my country and I no longer have a job, friends, and soon no longer a husband. I'll have gone from living with him 24/7, to having absolutely no one.

Those who have divorced, how did you deal with the sudden change of no longer being in a relationship? I've never had a break up before and this break up is of the worst kind so I'm scared. I'm trying to process that I won't have the intimacy of a husband anymore but all it does is make me feel like I'll be alone and depressed afterwards.",3.0903322949117324,4.900239009345796,4.982180685358255,80.51824506749743,74.7943925233645,7.746209761163032,26.84215991692627,8.515128840125781,1.962448390446521,844,32,166,16,18,289,117,214,0.19899999999999998,0.7659999999999999,0.036000000000000004,-0.9757,1,2,0,1,3,0,20.0,2,1,0,3,13,14,0,3,13,0,19,1,0,6,4,27,34,16,0,0,3,4,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,9,12,0,1,2,0,1,5,9,6,2,2,6,1,11,8,22,23,3,24,0,2,0,1,20,4,0,0,15,107,20,3,0.0,0.15221111689745204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26610391468656275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274036800160359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975647366666909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10931504213435904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358999170654348,0.1106620211826208,0.0,0.0,0.1440854610999352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13244273008358728,0.22129502980957466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11242139866052876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890137542494664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14455988381957854,0.06495623279112506,0.09177608410218543,0.0,0.0,0.11741553015777426,0.10927305209923914,0.0,0.0,0.09925245672641372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14602029391893318,0.0,0.10274593761442613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12748261018630824,0.0,0.0,0.1337774943702338,0.0,0.10471687683459187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12552392598775078,0.0,0.1134377673741573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159455149954759,0.0,0.08575200399932899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13653894999292615,0.0,0.0,0.19816168554993013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870518370346957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0822985625598713,0.0,0.0,0.4137729865334303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25723360849595484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12107761610934566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08721993188359084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10599784402856248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310125934860719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935247250660044,0.13046338501552196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08272784523360796
divorce,hopingforhappy,2020/03/16,Did you try marital counseling? I'm curious how many people here who left/asked for the divorce legitimately gave marriage counseling a good faith effort before leaving/asking for divorce.,10.173870967741935,12.068939451612904,9.867903225806456,51.92185483870972,57.70967741935483,12.651612903225805,44.532258064516135,12.161744961471696,6.70434193548387,157,9,18,5,2,51,28,31,0.0,0.75,0.25,0.7906,0,0,0,0,2,0,4.0,0,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6580367594545817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29947682802069026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29519235805686744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3823861503791043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35681407692681744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439923569759761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23894560191061315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,malbo89,2020/03/16,Separated with a newborn We had been Together for 11 years and experienced and conquered so much together. Turns out he has been planning on divorcing me since I got pregnant. I just had our little boy on March 8th and as soon as I brought him home he asked for a divorce. Turns out he has been seeing his baby mama and fell out of love with me. Now I’m left with a newborn as he moves on to a new family.,4.800714285714285,4.697484309523811,6.133428571428571,81.01157142857146,69.0,9.577142857142855,31.08571428571429,9.3871,2.521817142857143,318,12,68,6,5,108,55,84,0.0,0.9470000000000001,0.053,0.6369,0,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,2,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,4,0,7,1,0,0,0,12,15,8,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,11,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,2,9,1,16,8,1,16,0,0,1,1,15,8,0,0,5,45,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23762948343089865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396238238873873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20329566702023347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549691607611599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27617370026875576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547610268595637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294126790439665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701593616014349,0.18685586738874685,0.0,0.0,0.2454943049794535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20255323527098001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21026518502987465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5529624880713978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16368737167036754
divorce,KobeRIP123,2020/03/16,Asset division: property belonging to children or pets How are items like a child's xbox or an expensive dog bed treated in the division of property in a divorce?,6.7940000000000005,8.098055066666667,8.353333333333339,61.89000000000002,65.0,14.0,45.0,13.023866798666859,7.213999999999999,132,9,20,6,2,46,25,30,0.0,0.833,0.16699999999999998,0.6124,0,0,0,0,1,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,1,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,2,1,13,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,maddyedmunds,2020/03/16,"please do my survey lmfao hi, this is for my school project, all answers are anon btw

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divorce,kolachampan,2020/03/16,"My brother is divorcing and he needs help keeping custody and living on his own. So this is kind of a long situation and I am asking here because truthfully I really want to help my brother, he has been in a very tough spot economically and emotionally. So before we see a lawyer, I wanted to get some insight and help him with some research. 

My brother got married around 7 years ago at the age of 20. He has 3 kids with his wife. Upon two years in their marriage she cheated, he told her to leave her job to work on fixing their marriage. They ""tried"" to fix their marriage and constantly had trust issues and big fights (no domestic violence thank God) but really big in terms of insults. Around 2 years ago they moved into a mobile home (note: This mobile home's title is under my father's name) and she got a job again. In this job, she began meddling with people that were not really good influence (drugs, weed which not saying it is wrong but for a person with two asmathic kids is not the best environment, cigarettes, and typical party-crazed people). More stuff happened, she cheated with a married man, she cheated with another woman, she did some crazy drugs, and just went batshit crazy at the same time we really blame the toxicity of the marriage messing with her head. So after all this they finally decided the best decision for the kids would be to separate and then divorce. They had a big fight and this is when my brother found out about the married man, the texts with her family saying how much she hates him and wants him to die. He left the house and went to stay with my dad (who he has been living with for the past 2-3 weeks). 

I know these may all seem like things he can include in the whole divorce process but he refuses to use any of that against her and he just wants to be with the kids 50/50 or fully. Of course here in Florida, they don't care how much of a bad wife you were, they care about the kids. So I really want to know more about this:

How can he make her leave my dad's mobile home legally without obviously kicking her out? It is my father's mobile home anyways. He is the one living with my dad instead of being in the place OUR father allowed him to go.

What are some of the recommendations in terms of custody? He's trying to be fair with her still and not use anything against her and sadly we cannot force him. But I as an aunt of these kids cannot allow this woman to be using heavy drugs, and meddling with criminals while she takes care of them. It would break my heart if anything happened. To the point that she has one of the neighbors up front which my brother consecutively told her not to contact anymore, to pick up the kids from school and stay with her while she either goes to work, to the man she's seeing or at night when she wants to go out with friends.

Please help. I do have my opinion about the whole situation but trust me , I really tried to keep it all for myself. There is more to this whole situation but I really want what's right for my brother and the absolute best for my niece and nephews.",6.870910123966942,6.163371720661161,6.8796358471074415,79.41309013429755,64.85123966942149,9.942665289256198,31.63352272727273,9.188382445141503,2.461447314049587,2421,77,486,36,32,774,257,605,0.14,0.8,0.06,-0.9958,4,0,4,0,5,0,59.0,4,1,10,5,24,26,7,0,33,0,37,5,2,11,5,108,76,43,1,11,18,16,0,1,2,3,3,2,5,13,24,46,0,3,7,0,0,6,10,12,0,4,15,4,70,14,90,53,23,63,0,1,2,0,111,30,0,10,25,336,94,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11418172408149115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0437973902990415,0.0675339215536844,0.0,0.0,0.06387213558522065,0.0,0.0,0.1059991264827748,0.11466763791672288,0.06020968093907227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05377521683930165,0.03926049457925164,0.0,0.05480363826092827,0.0,0.2027662116972128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19699458798015645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06959857789467205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06684188868854042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22406694177116065,0.0,0.0,0.07244659532241167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06071499955877961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07055217784677745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0706164063352947,0.04975889528777986,0.0,0.033648786609659614,0.0,0.07320532664527396,0.05401958914571279,0.10302061066545698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139056900060805,0.0,0.0,0.06358628684102616,0.06609778147752575,0.0,0.0,0.07631985479594153,0.172676395156519,0.0,0.2584125773803086,0.0,0.0,0.07431435251055579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06722175208950883,0.19173511851979852,0.11449167594966438,0.0,0.06706756239373288,0.07079025457944746,0.0,0.0,0.13639051166996216,0.06997587225652574,0.0,0.0,0.031464872988243686,0.0,0.17061153470515744,0.05699611428105189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04299062339062836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06845198133612901,0.09468969922952884,0.04775525346265088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06043942841581285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08728455468982957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06148155371490376,0.08930019032536868,0.05623568156078978,0.06728918179233953,0.07069699725815601,0.06088323915437061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888150061239882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05500124402571071,0.0,0.1024343716240813,0.0,0.06518097362187929,0.10264438143584972,0.05863160095594025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171806731792732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13729363714958392,0.05143365990126352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07372794885218348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04842430340041883,0.0,0.0,0.059295175447336,0.0,0.0,0.042787606983759066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03755488629519008,0.0,0.0,0.12308286170904685,0.0,0.13117964836575904,0.0,0.12582802617356662,0.0,0.0,0.16687489234616065,0.0,0.05314060523747238,0.2659128386876808,0.0,0.05166154872065005,0.0,0.0,0.1194075654839455,0.0,0.21571657247829135,0.0,0.062083812338410364,0.0,0.09377474683987833,0.0,0.0,0.09150247230348543,0.07041640614857599,0.0,0.12442350519472616
divorce,McgridddleMonster,2020/03/16,"No petition recieved, divorce TX My husband informed me of a court date about a week before the divorce. I never received a petition of divorce or any other papers. What do I do now?",1.4482857142857135,4.1638286857142885,3.9971428571428578,78.87285714285716,90.71428571428572,5.085714285714286,32.714285714285715,6.742157984588678,2.6808285714285716,144,9,22,2,5,50,27,35,0.066,0.8370000000000001,0.09699999999999999,0.2577,0,0,0,0,3,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,3,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,1,4,19,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43671017389395417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5464550794359799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4952953294628016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5151248458271682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,truthpastry,2020/03/16,"Social Distancing + Split Custody: how are you guys doing it??? Just curious about what you guys are all doing for split custody arrangements during this time. My step child's (5m) ""other parent"" contacted us tonight asking to cancel their spring break trip and tac on extra weeks to this Summer's visitation. (""Other parent "" moved several states away, and only gets visitation during breaks from school)",6.436521739130434,9.236124173913048,6.167463768115944,71.32771739130439,68.13043478260869,8.657971014492754,25.99275362318841,9.2995712137729,2.7105536231884058,324,10,46,7,6,101,55,69,0.028999999999999998,0.929,0.042,0.212,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,2,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,5,6,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,7,6,2,15,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,0,5,28,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181720220502682,0.0,0.21926138461097924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12192763189687382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.462151434684795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480383046135536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774904956500359,0.0,0.0,0.5182656511847771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361856862965418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2636447851867455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23789413345144306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13608152963276224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2807186887180659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871975464882165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,wazowskiii_,2020/03/16,"Angry I’m sorry, I have to be selfish here. My court date was set for next week, the 25th. It’s been postponed now because my county shirt down for 3 weeks. I’m so angry and upset because I was going to FINALLY be done with the asshole that is my stbx and it would have been in time for my 30th birthday. Now it’s just going to be another wait until the county can re open and reschedule.",2.8647967479674783,3.8327450731707344,4.418048780487805,87.72918699186995,73.87804878048779,6.442276422764228,24.642276422764226,6.42735559955562,0.7533593495934956,304,9,64,2,6,102,54,82,0.19399999999999998,0.8059999999999999,0.0,-0.9393,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,3,0,13,1,1,0,0,8,18,5,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,5,0,6,0,10,9,0,15,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,9,44,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.303617542480265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3530129631591586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2963093219177853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31718695378057044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32911492271087506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3079388185154789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3241265809777041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16883844478078186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4645177446365104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20568741702322405,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,starlog_rules,2020/03/17,"Sharing the limited details of my impending breakup. **Stats**: I'm in my late thirties, married for 10 years, no kids, and we rent.

**Legal System**: Still in the very early stages; no clue how we're going to proceed.

**Basic Reasons**: Lack of emotional support/fulfillment. Went poly a few years ago, which helped but didn't fix things. A few days ago, we got into an argument. I told them I was miserable, and they left to spend time with a partner in another state.

**Emotional State**: Roller-coaster. Some hours I'm happy and excited about being free. Other times I'm depressed and sad. Anxious about if they're going to be angry at me. Guilty for taking precautions.

**How can y'all help**: Just listen to my story. Help me figure out what advice to take. Family wants me to safeguard my assets, but I know that'll upset STBX. I made a new bank account and STBX got really upset at me. Now I'm paralyzed with fear.

**Rant or Vent**: I can't. Not now. I'm on an alt, but STBX is smart; I'm afraid they'll find this and read it, even though they're not a Redditor. I'm afraid even these sparse details are enough for them to figure it out and attack me again.",-0.3997601566324036,1.4388413392070518,1.4522232011747431,93.63559373470389,109.17621145374449,4.484738130200685,16.938717572197746,6.3155176332259595,0.14036943710230074,892,27,178,14,45,290,144,227,0.191,0.696,0.11199999999999999,-0.9638,1,0,0,0,0,0,64.0,2,1,4,1,12,14,1,6,9,0,10,0,0,4,0,34,29,15,0,3,8,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,2,9,14,0,1,5,1,5,3,6,9,0,0,7,1,21,6,25,18,5,33,0,3,0,0,15,10,0,3,16,103,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14067663251005222,0.2552247722229076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15095524160729334,0.0,0.16263450162288484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637759657081887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09284267765280013,0.0,0.12399305412105953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3238725976197609,0.0,0.1487497832403018,0.0,0.19016923759310853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357132418305755,0.16199569880624187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13157738064007704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636322534875109,0.0,0.23027688627814524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532487359931652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2894812675361369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14177219267541266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07911698104920209,0.0,0.1623938276603393,0.0,0.1564136134870825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13621900085873578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13903804487888932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14399955811803553,0.0,0.09222484689649378,0.14801547374857724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11496712138907335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16336478324993728,0.0,0.0,0.21648091066840475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09564102604195483,0.0,0.1414405589013126,0.0,0.16788916751171734,0.0,0.0,0.13756052291615067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11878257205016107,0.08491169196816373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13345291879014473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854118133641983
divorce,MaximumOrdinary,2020/03/17,"Terrified and lonely, need advice Married 15 years, feels like it defines me. Found out my wife has been cheating on me for the last three years, haven't told her I know yet.  Had already noticed her becoming distant from me, sex stopped, she's constantly irritated, snapping at me.  Love our Son more than life itself, have tried to keep it together for him.  Wife has had some major issues lately and is exceptionally unstable - so I haven't been able to discuss where to go from here for fear of pushing her over the edge. And now Covid19, meaning selling the house, moving on, keeping down jobs is going to be hard and multiply the stress. I have no friends or family (apart from my son) as I moved to a foreign country for my wife. Can't bring myself to hurt my son even if I am hurting every day. I feel like I am on thin ice here, does anyone have any good suggestions?",6.110828402366862,6.28100153254438,6.222301775147929,80.55250591715976,66.2189349112426,9.126863905325443,32.876331360946736,8.841846274778883,2.5943486390532544,685,27,133,10,10,218,118,169,0.177,0.742,0.081,-0.9459,1,2,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,0,0,8,11,1,2,5,0,17,3,0,0,0,18,30,8,0,2,3,6,4,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,5,0,3,5,0,1,6,4,6,0,1,6,4,22,5,24,23,3,25,0,3,0,2,17,10,0,3,11,88,25,1,0.1460087419225647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14267805276505455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16112427744891933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09929095136044656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10209270722460198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16125518412921624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15778357946243587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09416355953820983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12777323399198498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09643739699861284,0.0,0.123018662375163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764404743933456,0.16430042750943216,0.14765281397574875,0.20861734880681265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16009104923406187,0.1128059918190292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16596026561474306,0.12246520538680722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307951537229782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684744846696986,0.3126107561054673,0.0,0.0,0.15239519230508786,0.14489114683967375,0.25955855703445696,0.0,0.0,0.08024258610216065,0.11901661219407965,0.16470422058180434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10313029241139872,0.1426649922338731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317785901469985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15904632388310042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3103683714013674,0.0,0.10826363206553054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16623192041826546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12206984608594434,0.16725252056025314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13951760997418375,0.0,0.09913035149988614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18804968542697534
divorce,TitosandFritos,2020/03/17,"Terrible, awful, no good, very bad day Long time lurker, first time poster....
My STBX and I were married for 14 before the rug was ripped out from underneath my feet. I was completely blindsided by our separation and a year out, I’m still trying to accept and come to terms with it. We never had children (we wanted them, but he couldn’t have them) and I now recognize this as a good thing because children make this process so much more complicated and painful. My biggest struggle right now is the belief that I won’t get over this, and that I’ll die alone. I’m in my late 30’s. I’m not the prettiest pear on the tree. My face and body have seen better days. He’s already moved on, is in love, living with someone else. Most days I can forget about him long enough where I don’t cry all day. But days like today, when I wake up from a dream where he is holding me telling me he is sorry and that he loves me, then getting a call from my lawyer with more questions, more paperwork, it sends me into a spiral of sadness. Sometimes I just worry about him. What is he doing right now? Is he sheltering in place (corona is in full swing here) with his girlfriend and her kid? Are they making dinner? Is he happier with her than he ever was with me? The answer to all these questions is probably yes. I used to want him to be miserable. I didn’t care if I was ever happy again, just as long as he wasn’t. But now, I think all the time about how I just want to be as happy as he is now. Thanks for listening to my sob/rant. Kleenex for the win.",2.465882783882784,4.025840326984131,3.5572222222222223,91.13788461538464,75.8888888888889,6.6239316239316235,22.591575091575088,7.321109707123232,0.6600256410256411,1193,33,261,14,26,385,176,315,0.13,0.695,0.175,0.9642,0,1,0,0,0,0,45.0,3,0,3,3,21,18,0,2,12,2,28,8,4,4,6,52,47,22,1,5,8,0,0,1,1,1,1,1,1,3,11,21,1,1,6,1,0,3,8,6,0,1,9,2,37,12,42,34,11,50,1,2,1,2,35,19,0,4,29,176,48,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11406825277521268,0.1215384242231381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09195942079482666,0.06713822005433122,0.0,0.09371809409870922,0.0,0.0,0.09740683039039898,0.0,0.12233688113837456,0.0,0.0,0.11246173394120117,0.0,0.11229155532436633,0.0,0.0,0.09487288768181766,0.11547607969011996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12097983112850624,0.35514482443975204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143043530070548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200495706413923,0.0,0.0,0.11380049992070618,0.0,0.0,0.19924963405151144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09368209515487004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150836057554129,0.0,0.0,0.18475462941448048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344848158879661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12423882824708928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05380715625988822,0.0,0.0972525935090616,0.2924021490701261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19880507700511488,0.0,0.14703400781905807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170577252108474,0.08096303844208633,0.0,0.0849440988656491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171930568912546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11506925582230156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11874583129676075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467562891038919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18811202784040548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09331834338881934,0.0,0.10892786644599492,0.1232888533293202,0.0,0.0,0.0879551929657959,0.0,0.0,0.11513863771226072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626420120789576,0.10139894007976363,0.0,0.0,0.07316983150772663,0.07057105561870676,0.0,0.0,0.192664528087811,0.0,0.10439657368676494,0.0,0.0,0.07477548948389566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09512261934842668,0.0,0.0908741901111775,0.19488417632474206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118490150540572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07092432873654661
divorce,vth0829,2020/03/17,"Ladies - when did you change your name back on Facebook? This question is for the ladies who have decided to change their names back to their maiden names.  When did you make your name change Facebook/social media official?   

My ex-husband and I separated in over two months ago.  We are still working through the details of our divorce and won't be ready to file for a few months, but I've been thinking about changing my name back to my maiden name on all my social media accounts.  I feel like changing it back is 1) my final step in completely moving on from my failed marriage (especially since he's the one who left me) and 2) my way of re-intoducing myself into the world.  I've already hidden all of our pictures together and removed my relationship status, so the name change is the final step.  The only thing holding me back is that legally and professionally, I will still be using my married name, and part of me thinks I should wait for everything to be ""official"" before I change my social media accounts.  

What did you ladies decide to do? Did anyone have these kind of internal debates about this?  No? Just me? All right. 

But seriously, any feedback would be appreciated.",5.122315508021387,6.982452718181822,5.440695187165776,79.1051604278075,69.54545454545455,7.72192513368984,29.304812834224602,8.313332769828598,2.189991978609626,938,36,165,14,17,298,125,220,0.055,0.903,0.042,-0.4525,0,0,0,0,1,0,29.0,3,5,2,2,13,4,0,0,8,0,21,0,0,2,3,34,27,11,0,2,3,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,9,8,0,2,6,0,2,4,2,2,0,2,5,1,30,2,25,14,5,29,0,1,0,0,27,10,0,1,15,120,39,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08626825730705526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10739497684890864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06618089831957097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06804836677889523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3741651439028915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08281210333594738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.720661166930338,0.0,0.10203810839405464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874648893262017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04920788719635655,0.06952538655290838,0.0,0.21321848066386054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10134374438785354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057384025626241,0.0,0.0,0.04754560821215741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0649618174937791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15535969964861385,0.1034356975529354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06594651187382576,0.07401620187325908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10538801424946666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10902060860597378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10448519755196606,0.0,0.08311069936957255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08050406232728749,0.0,0.0,0.19841085170807546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554396640022367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06465504560421027,0.12471737942659945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09506744293537704,0.0,0.0,0.08405318374028255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07724804069211083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07085007740391917,0.0,0.0,0.06913329509085908,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Khaluaguru,2020/03/17,"Impact of proposed Stimulus on Newly Divorced Couples Hi - 

I'm leaning on this community for some quick help, hoping that someone has this answer or the eventual answer will help others with the same question.   

On to the question: I was divorced at the end of February, and my ex has been sending me a deluge of articles about a potential economic stimulus that could potentially be putting checks in the hands of Americans to the tune of $1,000 per person.  I know nothing of the validity of this, and whether it is proposed, approved, or just rumor/conjecture.

With that said, how would this effect the newly divorced?  

1. Would it be based on Tax Year 2019 Filing status (which for me, would be married filing jointly) or would it be based on current situation (which is single/HoH)?  
2. If there is an income requirement, would it be based on new income (I guess same question as number 1 above)?  What about alimony/maintenance and child support?

I've googled quite a bit on this and have come up empty.  Any information would be appreciated.",5.954285714285714,7.76689286772487,6.469708994708999,72.72297619047622,67.4126984126984,9.20952380952381,34.13492063492063,9.606745405546679,3.58299365079365,828,39,134,18,14,269,116,189,0.009000000000000001,0.889,0.10099999999999999,0.9474,3,0,0,0,3,0,32.0,0,0,0,4,6,2,0,0,12,0,22,1,1,2,0,35,29,11,0,9,6,1,1,0,0,7,0,1,0,2,16,7,0,1,8,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,3,2,6,2,26,12,4,18,0,0,0,0,15,10,0,10,5,98,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09800249714053738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573352194098213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12414149493997287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11506334373641995,0.15945945728078234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12764227462375655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587578756764677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931932223246577,0.0,0.0,0.14313777086324697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07920131398961508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13918624930982704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13828131952913567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258348313387541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14487442667912595,0.484322160372083,0.15328303349351605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370854650967314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16199023242333466,0.0,0.0,0.12210736846613306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16353891821247873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6142469256076214,0.0,0.0,0.0928047244276763
divorce,yawnoc1977,2020/03/17,It Hurts I’m 43 years old and have been with my STBX for the last 25 married 20.  I wish this was easy but is not the last three years seem to have brought to two different places and she seems to be ok and moved in with it where as I stayed stuck.  I just hope this gets easier.  We have three wonderful children and I left everything (monetarily) behind.  I just get so lonely having to adapt to being by myself again.,1.9467352941176483,3.965468776470592,2.99139705882353,92.54003676470587,78.88235294117645,6.602941176470589,18.86029411764705,7.645422480735847,0.2995000000000001,326,7,73,5,8,104,63,85,0.091,0.713,0.196,0.8831,1,2,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,2,1,9,0,0,0,0,16,19,7,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,7,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,2,0,3,4,0,9,2,12,13,0,13,0,2,0,0,3,4,0,4,6,50,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22352899442327087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19228169572022727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223556870036922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124975651092128,0.0,0.0,0.2290346021022724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3487905887439777,0.0,0.0,0.2324539538564156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273917165699189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22450130209522484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22352899442327087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3895384801543191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22803894946641845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089950524858689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24602839863144196,0.0,0.2320163076529536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27554960305136805
divorce,pelican-paradise,2020/03/17,"Can my husband make me wait to file for divorce? My husband wants me to sign a separation agreement that includes that I will not file for pdivorce until I get my first nursing job. I won’t graduate until December.
He knows he will be paying child support and alimony since I’m a student and only work minimal hours. We have 2 kids. 
In exchange he will loan me money to get a place until the house sells and I will get half of the net proceeds and then payback the loan.
I understand why, but I also don’t want to still be married if I’m dating. If I do sign this document, will it actually keep me from filing before then?",3.9614285714285735,5.045237047619049,5.509682539682538,80.49642857142858,71.38095238095238,8.13968253968254,30.66666666666667,8.515128840125781,2.3905619047619053,492,21,95,8,9,167,81,126,0.0,0.9490000000000001,0.051,0.5803,1,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,1,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,6,0,12,0,0,1,0,18,25,13,0,4,4,2,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,2,4,5,0,2,2,0,6,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,15,2,12,17,0,12,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,2,10,63,19,5,0.0,0.0,0.2273798039812663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18633445303458335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19827056019089545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19819440061008112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.365207346585831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294635299796181,0.2688571191631321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23122205364171314,0.2071060375558899,0.0,0.0,0.1280537558902336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15553301300969727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17721121934410772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434412055862692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927445976166312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18607853209924435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26441193531308754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24256699347689756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748654190623369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2102512659187743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16963081446508288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,PappyVanNick,2020/03/17,"Your Guide to Filing for Divorce in Florida Getting a divorce is often one of the most stressful events of a person’s life—especially if you have friends or family who don’t support your decision—and that stress can become even worse if there are children, pets, or other items of contention involved, such as a home or vehicle. But you have to do what’s best for you, and sometimes that means moving on from a marriage that isn’t working.

Read More: [https://communitylawfirm.com/your-guide-filing-divorce-florida]",16.024482758620685,11.834770528735636,13.216551724137931,51.95862068965518,50.60919540229885,14.358620689655172,48.54022988505747,11.20814326018867,5.437133333333333,424,17,64,6,3,129,65,87,0.105,0.785,0.111,0.1298,0,0,0,0,3,0,18.0,0,5,0,2,4,5,0,2,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,10,11,8,0,2,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,6,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,2,0,1,0,0,5,3,11,11,4,4,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,7,1,51,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491940666974353,0.0,0.0,0.2367880510992737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14902855538921753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127068355868628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17432359772505707,0.0,0.11788399856857648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263284279414215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15937135357520496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24578062687242586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23981231072171744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15289484936673609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970141473901465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256941910755621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22315693652297286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5169239797017429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560458038045272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642636070429267,0.0,0.2299394374228208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,_MyrnaMinkoff_,2020/03/17,"Going through a second divorce only to realize ...I wish I’d have made things work with my first husband. That ship has sailed of course, but the nagging thought is there. 

I guess I didn’t understand how good things were until I was made to feel like a hostage in my own home.

Has anyone else fucked up this bad? I wish I could turn back time.",2.61391304347826,4.4640711884058,2.7471739130434787,95.84945652173916,76.2463768115942,5.759420289855073,23.09420289855073,6.42735559955562,0.3163507246376813,268,8,59,2,6,81,56,69,0.18,0.6629999999999999,0.156,-0.5994,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,0,0,2,3,5,2,0,3,0,8,1,0,3,0,13,19,3,0,3,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,3,0,2,6,1,8,2,8,12,1,7,0,0,0,1,2,2,1,1,5,38,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399186236710616,0.2050320330903111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15386900358882424,0.1670799793442557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15976819354088076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16716271365108798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011795018188509,0.1429556190274139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17020988592702002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18499458184633705,0.0,0.0,0.1137247340195077,0.16783924582995846,0.0,0.0,0.22043909192592495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20072242674548801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09776158308492756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3786898807757406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521894732479867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26588279550410965,0.0,0.0,0.1588616481916404,0.11668329753512742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21765764175865307,0.0,0.20831718838813085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4602235745467168,0.0,0.0,0.14567940108768465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,aaanonybugs,2020/03/17,"I want to leave, but it feels petty... I'm almost 25f and my husband is almost 30m. We have been married 4.5 years but together 6 on and off. I'm pregnant with our second kid and just moved states with him for a job.

My husband has cheated on my 5 times that I know of (got a girl's number at the bar and used a fight to go over to her house, had a one night stand while I was pregnant the first time, went on a dating site when he was on a work trip, had an emotional affair with a girl he worked with and kissed her once, didn't end his other relationship right away when him and I decided to get back together). He never did anything to rebuild the trust. He told me about the first time he cheated and said he thought we were over (bullshit because he kept her number). Then I found out about the dating site from his email (I was looking for a $50 gift certificate in his email) which caused a lot of trust issues with him. Then 6 months later while he was in the middle of his emotional affair, he told me about the one night stand. I didn't find out about him kissing this girl or him having feelings for her until probably a year ago. 

He keeps things from me for a very, very long time. I got a really strong gut feeling that he cheated on me again after moving. I leave back to my hometown for 2 to 3 weeks every month to month and a half at a time to finish my last semester of college and a contract for work. He swears nothing happened, but he made me feel so comfortable before that I just feel he is a greasy weasel. I have asked him about it a few times, and he swears he hasn't done anything. His word doesn't mean much to me now.

Lately, I want him to give me more attention and he admitted that he doesn't want to have sex much because he watches porn and masturbates too much. I asked him to stop for a few weeks to see if it will change our sex life. I've turned into a really big snooper now. He looks up models and girls he used to work with before. He has even looked up this woman he currently works with who he knows I am threatened by since they talked before and he cheats so much (they used to work together). I've told him I snoop through his stuff a lot now and hate that he can't stop looking at other women for a while. I also told him that it's shitty that he is looking up people he knows (I caught him STARING at this chick's ass right in front of me at a Christmas party that we went to very shortly after he told me he cheated when i was pregnant). 

This current girl he works with texted him the other day and called him late Sunday night. She is his boss but didn't send the messages in a group chat with the other person like she normally does. My husband said he instantly felt anxious and guilty because he knew I was thinking something was going on.

My husband is emotionally abusive too...but he has been pretty successful at tearing me down. I think a lot of our marriage problems are because of me and my low self esteem and insecurities. He has made my feelings seem invalid, told me I am crazy, threatened to kill himself 3 different times and it would be all my fault, threatened to throw things at me, blocked me from leaving, punched things. 

I want to leave more often than I want to stay. I just feel like I need a better reason since it's been a year and a half from the last time he cheated. I'm just exhausted from communicating things I need, him agreeing to do them, and then him just blowing it off within a week. I know I should leave, but I feel like things will get better if I just try harder...",5.907720523401406,5.104232741403028,6.060742778541954,84.81174549430395,66.84044016506189,8.831926074842167,29.92025535216732,7.702957570686157,1.6758372588438617,2781,82,599,25,39,886,297,727,0.138,0.754,0.10800000000000001,-0.9842,4,0,1,0,1,0,70.0,6,0,3,13,26,26,9,1,40,0,44,10,2,8,2,108,111,43,1,13,14,4,9,3,0,4,2,2,0,11,31,37,1,5,25,2,0,11,8,14,0,7,38,19,92,12,92,68,12,111,0,1,8,6,115,38,1,10,61,376,123,12,0.0,0.06290281642955507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04706096784172702,0.0,0.10632367501973414,0.0,0.0,0.04245595107261517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05997644338493353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08737688141925055,0.0,0.09926372652814544,0.0,0.049879681903466165,0.0816456683112761,0.0,0.12945237166156687,0.0,0.13552671122568516,0.0,0.0,0.09390735411118237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054210694624013296,0.0,0.0,0.054537922327809095,0.056162044600974216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03423857511403506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05546761613382811,0.0,0.0,0.046459304332293776,0.05432937097326088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17915687927136267,0.04702186825680118,0.0,0.0,0.035065359435559385,0.0,0.044730506501838345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21475067369584394,0.07585482964155052,0.05097460226152131,0.0,0.0485231807639209,0.0903164351855657,0.0,0.05821030387090353,0.0,0.0,0.055474533329700086,0.05092864236219045,0.06034439488122621,0.0,0.08492164021103707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0469471980519413,0.0,0.0,0.05241525689460902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06125858374991808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05541203268381418,0.05268350558068936,0.047188717138016964,0.05873607691651149,0.0,0.11670721986623335,0.08655066219690716,0.11977537501012606,0.28107254182971514,0.0,0.0,0.037498946307645116,0.07781108865304619,0.0,0.0,0.04698286565316944,0.2229106052492318,0.0,0.0,0.13540533076013175,0.0,0.10046984018065894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05783043391295111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12712748681778185,0.11285226311919933,0.15610865666044035,0.07873093406350624,0.04094618180193883,0.0,0.0,0.14946374404115328,0.052016802041236994,0.05094116356388919,0.0,0.0,0.05653898050138565,0.07195014183541111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03680583227279812,0.046356028038272136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054011485487793665,0.05723986081940489,0.05079983709957863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06802146227739159,0.054585230026778536,0.0,0.056998653681247236,0.0,0.09067692039757992,0.10100125054495228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04230575403152032,0.048331025114443,0.055384314464692976,0.0,0.0,0.08783298067162931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04087117683149909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056586739206696414,0.0,0.08877101959333518,0.0,0.0,0.060775201248367564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04267162771809295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17635275806923542,0.06803569198817759,0.0,0.042147427789606375,0.24765704815965656,0.0,0.0,0.30437788411514105,0.0,0.03604453785046532,0.05774653507190279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13755780980657556,0.0,0.1314141120720379,0.15656890866417714,0.0,0.12775647780170954,0.0,0.0,0.098429685564886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705504113402227,0.0,0.0,0.03771352150401519,0.0,0.0,0.10256440991458343
divorce,RubyShoesWhiteRabbit,2020/03/17,"Played nice and got screwed, anyone else? Anyone else play nice with their STBX, just to get screwed? 

We’ve been able to agree on everything so we figured there was no need to get lawyers involved. Finally submitted the decree, the default papers are due this Friday and now all of a sudden the amount he agreed to paying for child support has dropped significantly and it’s too late to request alimony to make up for the difference. 

Something tells me everything was a facades and he intended on screwing me this whole time. Is it too late to lawyer up?",4.641251348435811,7.017139446601941,4.453915857605182,83.51403451995688,72.00970873786406,7.684573894282633,30.861920172599785,8.515128840125781,2.520064509169364,445,20,80,8,9,136,73,103,0.09,0.754,0.156,0.7744,0,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,1,0,6,8,3,0,6,0,6,3,0,2,1,12,12,5,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,6,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,3,0,0,4,0,4,5,15,8,3,12,0,0,0,3,8,4,3,0,7,48,8,4,0.19063502090472054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665928782031882,0.3906562142427815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19917302224953573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3185021964285936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34266092914410995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20883134723491545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19919786050477986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524682410580877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4300892141151387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12725035675909838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14135345247327133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467601526769105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21633036259547173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666234108493995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11116081373577084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128371928710419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,paginagrifo89,2020/03/17,"Thinking of leaving my husband... My husband and I have been together for ten years and have two children, a boy 6, and a girl 2. I have been feeling for several years now that we maybe don’t have what it would take to last. He’s a very poor communicator and has been since before we were married, I just thought with time it would get better. He cannot talk to me about his thoughts or feelings. Our only conversations consist of what he did that day or heard on the news etc. but nothing of substance. I don’t think I can live like this. We don’t fight. We’ve just been living in this very shallow partnership in my eyes and I feel alone. I need a deep connection with someone. I’ve brought it up to him many times and he never has anything to say. This weekend I told him I wasn’t happy and I couldn’t life my whole life feeling lonely. He said, “I’m not good at talking about my feelings and I probably never will be.” I asked about therapy and he said I don’t know. I brought it back up this morning and he said he would go but he doesn’t want to. I’m just wondering, am I crazy? Should I stay the rest of my life just existing? Or is it better to have a deep connection with someone? Is that even possible?",1.341633466135459,3.4129690916334643,2.7582693227091646,93.16949960159364,81.19123505976096,5.928350597609563,24.382629482071714,7.087006719466742,0.853170071713147,946,36,210,12,25,307,132,251,0.073,0.846,0.081,-0.2419,0,3,0,0,1,0,27.0,4,0,0,2,10,7,1,0,7,0,31,4,1,0,2,47,57,15,0,7,10,2,5,1,0,5,3,5,0,3,14,16,0,0,11,1,1,3,11,2,0,2,16,11,30,5,24,34,3,23,0,1,1,0,32,8,0,4,12,136,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11950575448482785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09495336856029048,0.0,0.1078709271445605,0.0,0.0,0.08872519948742208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981855272756496,0.0,0.0,0.20410020272195906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07441483351146239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286865984725971,0.07621178380601187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917147467499282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06028475408375718,0.0,0.065576883434551,0.09678083448096844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12283121796013274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0634134766634268,0.0940555075121908,0.0,0.12217778535023167,0.0,0.0,0.24450297686554195,0.05637208118013956,0.0,0.20377702437171408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169839366670911,0.11592138330615767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855577273736506,0.1779865716708709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11071658773361376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08775673500750514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13008109316328528,0.0,0.0,0.12440630776568865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32927733785880464,0.09176008298185116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13035405341006584,0.0,0.09544901637591108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19553344182332347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12298679962580356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08675638905010212,0.18548681197911945,0.0,0.0,0.13195467251952908,0.0,0.0,0.14787019247369332,0.0,0.1832081978560067,0.13456574890573142,0.0,0.0,0.11025687398672657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11271597550772365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19041211534702934,0.06805802655344798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12882505665064686,0.0,0.0,0.12513188297876596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459020634916985,0.0,0.0,0.1486104189514295
divorce,gloriousmoonlight,2020/03/17,"Need help with resources for minor children If I’m posting in the wrong sub please feel free to remove. I’d appreciate a point to a more appropriate direction also. :)

This is for a friend who’s going through a hostile divorce. I’m helping her as a translator and sanity preserver, since she isn’t comfortable communicating in English and her manipulative, abusive STBX has been making her life a confusing hell. 

They have 3 minor children together. Shared custody. The children live with her primarily. The 2 oldest are teenagers and have been frustrated and feeling powerless by the custody process. They don’t want anything to do with their father but don’t know who to talk to. Is there any resources that offer advocacy and support for children of a hostile divorce? They’re frantic and I’d rather directing their energy into something structured and productive than having them act rashly out of frustration.

They are in Atlanta, GA. I’m helping via phone and emails from another state.

Thanks for reading and much appreciation for any advices/ resources you could suggest!",6.196326658322903,9.109008882978724,6.29740926157697,69.61029411764707,69.21276595744679,8.891614518147685,37.654568210262816,9.478462496947786,4.375950187734669,882,50,127,21,17,280,123,188,0.127,0.6940000000000001,0.179,0.7678,1,0,1,0,2,0,20.0,0,1,6,0,3,14,5,2,11,0,15,2,1,2,0,26,27,13,0,5,3,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,4,14,0,0,3,1,1,3,3,8,0,0,2,2,12,7,25,24,2,12,1,0,0,0,31,6,1,2,1,83,16,1,0.0,0.2324430660679443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19170634769671235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568863208406756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668203732214825,0.20571346866823192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16144070626226373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566350104111998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983905803721883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15156938485515942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11149450026546452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3944890884561242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10781625353911384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385688360047872,0.0,0.0,0.17323190969103736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13095271316157273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14421601787313418,0.14546613925156476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21534843817477567,0.18545498354107945,0.0,0.18788770271688365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19623464724872813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16228341184105874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15103014770663067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22262450685882504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15768330488049595,0.0,0.18061762053705888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11571296563984615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21449373628421115,0.0,0.0
divorce,teethingcats,2020/03/17,"Has Anyone Gotten A Divorce for their Partner’s Sake I’m recently married but I think I made a mistake. I’m not in the right headspace for marriage and I don’t bring anything but negativity and stress to the relationship. I think my husband is starting to see that because he has been pointing out my negativity more and my inability to contribute as 
much money as he does. 

I never wanted to divorce but my only other option is death and I don’t feel like making him a widow at 30. 

How exactly would I go about getting a divorce? I’m Canadian btw.",1.7319407198306287,4.351672596330278,4.351559633027524,78.79800988002823,84.50458715596329,6.289625970359915,28.568101623147502,7.61054688173877,2.22488934368384,439,22,78,8,13,154,72,109,0.221,0.7509999999999999,0.028999999999999998,-0.9743,0,0,0,0,3,0,6.0,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,1,6,0,8,0,0,3,2,21,23,10,1,3,4,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,3,0,1,2,6,2,0,0,3,2,13,1,12,19,2,10,0,0,1,0,11,5,0,1,4,55,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17673698176945052,0.0,0.208001488492519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15408129448621175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22119362235134646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12780399991955307,0.1805731358056094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320576486432405,0.0,0.14365039989525247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12348668586144025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391694000374155,0.1687205159737826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858090631327186,0.0,0.1949455422200996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19223679774156274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23894167411677705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495718606324225,0.27137166296614923,0.0,0.215857262335972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20141849119407695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1789061578679999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2895378767076999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3239192100770417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14908550419664288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1795547856987608,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,IlianaTomato,2020/03/17,"Covid & Custody As the virus spreads how are you co-parenting? I have custodial rights and my ex sees our kid very often, but, of course lives separately. With this thing spreading, I’m working from home and social distancing. My ex, not so much. Even if the virus affects many people very mildly, I do have an autoimmune disease and rather not risk it! What to do?! I’m pretty sure more draconian measures will soon make it impossible to maintain visits across two homes. But until, then do I freely let my kid spend time with my ex not knowing if he’s infected or an asymptomatic carrier? He’s saying that he’ll hate me forever if I ask him not to come by anymore. But this is serious craziness going on! And people’s lives are at risk, maybe even my own. Help!",2.725225225225227,5.196633864864868,3.8850270270270286,84.78249549549552,78.5945945945946,7.189909909909911,25.40720720720721,8.238735603445708,1.7962607207207215,604,23,116,12,15,196,104,148,0.08800000000000001,0.784,0.128,0.765,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,1,0,1,7,5,1,2,4,0,10,1,0,3,1,25,20,16,0,4,12,3,0,0,0,2,1,1,2,2,7,7,0,0,1,0,1,4,4,4,0,1,0,2,13,1,13,17,3,12,0,0,1,0,16,4,0,5,4,74,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19570904171698655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17913323085930666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16886165738475314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15559397801828648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386045705991803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026543621716098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783315509308766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12107032383571555,0.0,0.3623667774428256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09926775502323644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18470312138165493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31899351366681983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12056977888807092,0.18312720541026814,0.18146387937482486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13278146719746087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504477337851178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18376237274741733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542542840212544,0.0,0.14364166605625778,0.0,0.0,0.14393615860570474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18412625633301705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17023860343500272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200004072121948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053249285462741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17644611891085654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2980720221357395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13149844780145326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,costs-have-sunk,2020/03/17,"What do you do when you are a stay at home mom? I have been a SAHM for nearly 5 years now. My STBXH and I are common law married (in Texas, yes I'm sure.) I was on the job hunt, but with the recent COVID-19 stuff, my older kids are out of school until at least April 3rd. It is very, very possible that they won't go back to school at all this school year. I live hours from any family. I can't afford care on my own. I mean, how could I? I'm jobless.   


He has said I can expect no help from him. I know that I can file child support and all that, but the details of what happens next is fuzzy to me. I don't know where to go from here.",-0.006284779050734104,1.4461037234042564,1.779007092198583,101.62615384615387,82.68794326241135,4.9058374249863625,15.810692853246046,5.369823440869387,-1.0884734315330058,479,7,127,2,13,157,95,141,0.047,0.884,0.07,0.47100000000000003,3,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,2,1,0,6,3,0,0,5,1,17,0,0,1,3,16,28,7,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,8,4,0,0,3,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,3,1,19,3,19,23,4,24,0,0,0,0,10,9,0,0,12,83,27,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11309739858920607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12788313695542264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16956547170647113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327860537155835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15678350829942134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18903710814556848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14706854833401073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11147497006454904,0.0,0.16682381110435948,0.0,0.16378314633955618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16503831982318587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828007007663732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14685593983809914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811617800000308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19478180437547055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768739723451186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18749102113509195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16421236154881458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15820014733500815,0.0,0.0,0.5049477950955132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772657354519151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19038666828243603,0.0,0.18872811160516584,0.1567464480189098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744485080402426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141980707799092
divorce,GovrmntCheese,2020/03/17,"Gulp...first date since 1998 Ok then.

I just accepted my first date since 1998 with a nice gentleman (I hope) 

I'm aware 20 year olds don't date but my generation did (sorta')

This feels super weird on every level. Wish me luck? I guess? 

*gulp*

It's okay to run or bolt halfway through the date, right?",-0.875,0.8211688333333313,0.5199999999999996,100.24000000000002,110.66666666666666,4.0,13.333333333333336,5.985473137389443,-0.8246666666666664,230,5,52,3,12,72,49,60,0.03,0.6629999999999999,0.307,0.9571,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,2,1,8,0,0,2,2,2,1,0,0,0,11,7,3,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,1,6,7,4,6,0,12,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,5,8,21,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396117477817027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14379667336050767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4838058090698542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3132888334863632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824645081102709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2984205952376521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428684255904133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4705024748767526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3270357030438039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18313852924828325
divorce,Paninibeanie,2020/03/17,"very lost on what to do next ex husband and I legally divorced a few years ago, agreed to split the debt. He defaulted on a loan and they are coming after me because I was on as a joint account holder. I have been blocked on everything and he has changed his number, job, as well as moved. I do not know what to do I can not afford the amount and the bank or collection agency will not work with me. I did send the divorce decree to them and they said its between us to pay it even though it states the account belongs to him... help",2.4078383838383846,3.908039581818184,3.3366666666666696,92.90944444444445,75.9090909090909,5.9797979797979774,24.949494949494948,6.42735559955562,0.6418282828282824,414,14,91,3,9,132,75,110,0.078,0.835,0.087,0.0018,3,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,1,0,3,2,3,2,0,0,8,0,11,0,0,0,0,13,15,10,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,5,7,0,1,1,0,6,3,3,1,1,0,5,1,14,1,16,9,2,12,0,1,0,0,15,4,0,1,4,67,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22735357159234365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15634750196457425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27132126714654103,0.22093434978190046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16940226842880746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305072062191144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17191277975670924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545162946511841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14095440703874906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2799776347579668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725970826685757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.272768821869642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24397070544656016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25198977320387583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085132182076337,0.0,0.0,0.2116224202166622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306058419493755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867201059601985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16516436714437396
divorce,HoloNailPolish,2020/03/18,"I have such a hard time standing my ground - esp. during all this corona distancing My husband (47M) decided to separate from me (45F) for at least 6 months - if not a year - and chose to move out January 1.  We have been together for 22 years.  Almost 1/2 our lives.  He's a recovering alcoholic who was very hard to live with for the last 6/7 years.  Lost all his jobs b/c of it.  I was hardly perfect I'm sure.  We have two kids, 11F and an 8F.  After he left we still saw A LOT of him b/c he was coming by to see the girls, or work on his car, or cut the grass or whatever.  We have flip flopped on going to counselling - at 1st he wanted to and I didn't.  Then I did and he didn't.  Then I just decided to accept it and then he asked to go.  I will share food I cooked with him when he comes over b/c he's broke as a joke and he is the father of my kids.   I have zero desire to have a contentious relationship.  He's a human and I have empathy.  But I cannot be treated like shit anymore.  I got very ill last year and it was 100% caused by stress from him.  Alcoholism is a bitch.  I'm in Al Anon and it has been a life line.

So now it's Coronaville - he isn't really working b/c of it - all his jobs are delayed but has been doing Uber eats as a driver.  So making some money.  He texted me yesterday something along the lines of ""If it gets dire I'm coming to stay"" I knew this was coming but also like fuck you dude.  It's very selfish - as are the majority of his decisions.  He LEFT me - and he thinks he can just walk back in b/c he's broke or whatever?  To infect me & his kids?  So selfish.

But I also have empathy (this whole thing is so fucking confusing) and so I didn't say no but was like let us talk and define dire.  And I will not let you twist in the wind and I will share food and whatnot but you left me and so this is confusing.

He hasn't responded in over 24 hrs.  He will 100% show up at the house and just walk in with his stuff.  And I will cave and get infected.",-0.6539953271028018,1.3359545257009344,1.9469981308411235,96.34987102803736,89.02336448598129,5.573532710280374,17.204859813084113,7.003673034542,-0.09428201869158848,1499,37,368,23,50,515,201,428,0.139,0.823,0.038,-0.9912,2,0,3,0,0,0,61.0,6,3,0,4,16,23,5,3,19,0,42,13,1,2,5,70,64,46,0,4,17,2,3,3,0,5,6,1,0,5,15,32,6,1,6,3,1,10,9,13,0,2,17,6,43,10,46,39,8,48,0,3,2,2,51,18,4,11,21,227,58,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053428926142412,0.09620194527283256,0.0,0.0,0.15365703192015173,0.0,0.1040936633139077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09527732626868578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08981408501225775,0.0,0.0,0.07387321885918073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986921157136467,0.0,0.3310291036002003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09830534901080172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23234059880543506,0.0,0.0,0.17763350530320415,0.10038701198823703,0.0,0.10919953947807848,0.0,0.07683732698803958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25818415931563005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11085386054060012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19067270651484747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15662254086775831,0.0,0.0,0.3131465990999485,0.19647967576207345,0.06785829364546325,0.14080736187552806,0.0,0.16966616932789522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048736259815705,0.08167673673192265,0.0,0.0,0.0641286159254533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07668352651935745,0.10210902923072854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06154600083352192,0.0,0.0,0.10314506832181533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07640008398759167,0.0,0.0,0.07655671859180645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09861623509646313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07396070002377858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023996656872568,0.07672299588397072,0.0,0.11004982520409404,0.0,0.10997912898243348,0.0,0.0,0.09054645464269803,0.0,0.0,0.07721880557038195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06382577869826565,0.0615588759138653,0.0,0.0,0.05602018973917263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938481060139914,0.0,0.11556244442399112,0.0,0.0,0.23780767952736045,0.05666558677526028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10726063913610814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13988270579281953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474681390941208
divorce,throwawayhelp32323,2020/03/18,"[NE] please help me understand this motion for temporary relief I received in my email today. [NE] Question about motion for temporary relief I received.

I’ve been waiting on the parenting plan and mediation to be scheduled and for the temporary court order to be scheduled. For 5 months we agreed on a 50/50 agreement. I noticed that was not working well because the children’s grades were affected and they weren’t doing well in school so recently I changed it to me having them Tuesday through Saturday and him having them Sunday Monday, he was not in agreement but since there was no temporary order in place i was advised I was doing nothing wrong. I got in the mail today from his lawyer a motion for temporary relief and it says. 
“Plaintiff by and through his attorney moves the court granting him the following relief
1 granting the parties temporary joint legal and physical custody of parties 3 minor children subject to an equal parenting time schedule. In the event the defendant is no longer with temporary joint legal and physical custody then the court should find it in the children’s best interest that the plaintiff be awarded temporary sole and legal physical custody.”

So does this mean it goes back to the 50/50 custody temporarily and if I disagree then he gets awarded temporary full custody? Or is this his request to the judge of the parenting plan?

I just need this laid out in laymen’s terms, thank you so much.",8.474534883720928,9.075075523255817,7.857534883720933,69.36304651162793,61.2093023255814,10.755968992248066,41.23100775193797,10.504223727775694,4.749289612403102,1167,62,177,25,15,366,135,258,0.046,0.733,0.221,0.9938,4,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,1,3,6,9,14,0,0,18,0,18,0,0,1,0,27,26,18,0,3,6,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,10,13,0,1,4,0,0,7,5,1,2,0,9,1,22,13,30,13,5,39,0,0,0,0,27,13,0,3,17,129,32,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11980350042890538,0.0,0.0949765467333275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16350646952350234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16481975525728546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13634495011493175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424018451364524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140105182579739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12461052704790225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044319989475682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16971600716598345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12436110195447501,0.16559477597094607,0.11453371563982848,0.11552653910412905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14949794244093315,0.17738365218461513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5190050254642607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627818036333389,0.1710257788638171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17453590670748168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15383745031295756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12390143053362218,0.0,0.15768175754448704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288825084687596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14344320065980454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09085044525050172,0.0,0.295367558196701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.162197244320223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2801726442657953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11342701768141387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703469903025017,0.0,0.0
divorce,plainjanie82,2020/03/18,"Confused want out 

I being married since I was 19 I am (37) F. He is 45( M). When we are together we are just arguing he treats me like I am a child like if I can't make a decision without him. I been wanting to separate since last year as I feel like this relationship is hopeless. A few days ago I decided to go through his phone messages since he had disappeared for 3 days without coming home. In one of his messages he text a guy asking for a woman. The guy told him she will be home in 30 minutes then my guy says he would give her $100. When I confronted him about it. He says it's a woman he owed money to. I don't believe him he has cheated in the past. He never admits unless he gets caught. Now I been telling him I want to separate I can't live like this anymore. He doesn't want to break up but every moment he gets he tries to say I'm the one cheating. Like his trying to blame me now, that I'm cheating. He stays out for 2 days again. Comes back home and argues accuses me of cheating.",1.2368125922282331,2.838664943925238,3.3045007378258724,91.43186669945894,79.46728971962617,6.374422036399411,23.87998032464339,7.273561745256523,0.8594616822429906,774,27,176,10,19,263,123,214,0.17,0.7659999999999999,0.064,-0.9769,1,0,0,0,0,1,22.0,2,0,0,0,8,15,7,1,9,0,19,0,0,1,1,25,38,8,0,6,6,0,1,5,0,2,0,3,3,6,5,7,0,0,4,0,2,5,7,9,0,2,6,4,29,6,24,28,1,29,0,1,0,0,46,6,0,2,21,101,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10449158858321836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169031378215857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11019986359502204,0.0,0.0,0.0906407791216252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328079540891096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20308263485479933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280643557856807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09931716020436064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05960257532118472,0.08421194903610955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123172607351127,0.1130791606902188,0.06699269025276555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3501527687915945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3547232396983392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09608616865148227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879457802515117,0.0,0.10408828812358434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07868437034745739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909146534616795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15975414369833507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11252773187501977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265566804807061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812235575165669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2925292902361459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12564208820221762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10303042366042946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11263732309881692,0.0,0.16006262482360575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781096052946848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272600533483972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08373703206179743,0.0,0.0,0.0759094611066965
divorce,darkpeonies,2020/03/18,"“I f*** told you so” moment The ex and I got into a Cold War because I wanted him to visit his son earlier (1 month after his last visit) than he planned for (1.7 months). He made a big deal out of it, saying I’m controlling his life again, and why does he have to “obey” me etc 
Now with all the international travel restrictions and the country is on lockdown he can’t see his son for until who-knows-when this virus is over. He already bought 2 plane tickets and now can’t use them. 
I’m tempted to send a big “I f**** told you so” message but I’m trying not to. He probably realises by now that his stubbornness and idiocy have consequences. 

Anyway I’m trying hard to just ignore him and accept the fact that he doesn’t give a shit about his son, only his d****. Why expecting anything from him. I already got his money, I don’t need his sh*t in our lives. I’ve been trying to make sure he’s in our son’s life so my baby doesn’t feel missing a dad. But since we live so far apart and this guy doesn’t make my son his priority, may as well forget about him altogether, rather than expecting the world from him and be disappointed.",0.4184825260576339,2.7246285536480706,2.5952713059472714,91.27716201716741,87.49785407725321,5.732004904966277,18.621857755977928,7.1686216300943375,0.3484458614347026,875,24,190,14,28,295,136,233,0.106,0.855,0.039,-0.9343,0,1,0,0,0,0,35.0,3,2,1,2,14,9,3,0,10,0,13,3,1,6,3,37,32,16,1,5,5,7,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,5,12,0,4,2,2,2,4,7,6,1,0,7,5,30,3,26,23,2,25,0,2,1,0,46,11,1,1,10,109,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3257056482701011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12144175664945475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.089960428672127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655180553303006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15214347761893046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12914398955837153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16458527814979318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07461841917355087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415675105766276,0.0,0.0,0.2360586232254608,0.0,0.0,0.1461225790757844,0.0,0.0,0.13219832854622324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12029342642629777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084733553377061,0.0,0.0,0.2606230845700501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13963915493030016,0.19701508860495956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355861194527283,0.0,0.0,0.10942508796403554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11223753531571944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15911094869420098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11735766552126263,0.0,0.0,0.11759827090454306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514837488306502,0.12207567140488773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390878122571145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2820287192049184,0.0,0.3005814757687525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12745752875299796,0.0,0.0,0.08704363440774676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13268776370193078,0.0,0.2663271994975728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,LuckySpartanII,2020/03/18,"If a BJ is offered, am I wrong/wierd for declining it? Going through this grey area of living together till she ships out to basic (I too am currently active duty) and a BJ was offered up. I still find her attractive, but after ""the talk"" it just feels wierd doing something like that, knowing where the relationship is leading up to.",3.407619047619048,5.834073492063496,4.612936507936507,80.69178571428574,75.98412698412699,7.374603174603175,27.96031746031746,8.344100000000001,2.2932984126984133,262,11,46,5,6,86,51,63,0.0,0.8690000000000001,0.131,0.7331,1,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,1,0,10,9,4,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,2,10,8,0,11,0,0,1,0,6,5,0,1,5,36,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19167254927611932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34646919968891043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21543800170408087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20833061862587698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18519770817517572,0.0,0.3347316357879494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4069864673622304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918317328793593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027311103507216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3046874601407755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4144608192609314,0.0,0.0
divorce,divorcethrowfaraway,2020/03/18,"STBX said I love you Using a throwaway because my STBX knows my reddit.

I (43F) went over to STBX (48M) last night to get some things. We have been separated and living apart (me at my cousin's, he at our shared house) for about three months. He initiated the separation. We have been kind to oneanother in the interim but distant. He will not show physical affection and has not said anything in response when I've told him I love you. He has told me that he isn't in love with me any more, no longer finds me attractive, and doesn't think he wants to get back toegther with me. He also hasn't filed for divorce. I think he's using this seperation as a trial for bachelorhood. We have been in counseling for about two months. He has been reluctant to go each time and has told our therapist that he isn't in love with me. He isn't abusive or mean, he just has lost that feeling with me. Anyways, the other day, I went over to collect a few more of my things and when I gave him a hug good bye, he said ""I love you"". Out of no where. That's it. i didn't ask him about it, i just walked to my car and left.

​

Anyone else ever deal with this? I don't want to give myself false hope that he might be changing his mind....but I can't remember the last time I heard him say those words to me. Anyone have any experience to share or ideas about why he may have said ily?",2.149166666666666,3.7483037288732386,3.276408450704228,92.64881455399063,76.85211267605635,6.846009389671362,21.6924882629108,7.645422480735847,0.5833220657276992,1065,28,245,15,24,343,145,284,0.054000000000000006,0.75,0.195,0.9939,0,0,0,0,1,0,43.0,5,3,0,1,13,13,0,0,8,0,26,6,0,3,1,42,58,13,0,3,7,1,1,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,13,16,0,0,8,1,0,5,12,1,0,2,17,7,39,12,36,37,5,30,0,1,0,6,51,13,0,6,13,151,52,0,0.0,0.11791837486759747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07958843559171334,0.0,0.10783303197564792,0.12093122961556416,0.13535798388860626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13917746612665471,0.1019729829082352,0.08189887546208299,0.0,0.09304048673725918,0.0,0.0,0.07652697501252949,0.0,0.06066824251893106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10528204307044016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06418404396487748,0.10260375071688277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08313862124426319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09002417036572548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09735250344456828,0.0,0.0,0.05032177389126713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09096213721202834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10399322618729484,0.09547144440325747,0.056561163558802315,0.08347509551744392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09884870614355123,0.0,0.11483607654627948,0.0,0.11234925201454976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10363779631565928,0.05469518887661262,0.1622489104506681,0.0,0.0,0.10813193348756753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08788055333948551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086410133320948,0.0,0.4491165619218328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10840962570475836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10557808059388864,0.10048976883950246,0.0,0.15887647535721833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09339550966262944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127400567950304,0.0,0.3786763137130347,0.07914461300811422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11555376984937313,0.13223719900193293,0.1275405250132624,0.0,0.0,0.11606521894054556,0.0,0.0,0.2852952179072184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09721942234027067,0.0,0.0,0.17191168115556915,0.0,0.0,0.11740238235691135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18451747027159413,0.08980394695202631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12093122961556416,0.0
divorce,pebbles-pebbles,2020/03/18,"22 and divorced after 5 months. I'm the stereotype I used to laugh at. I will always love him, and he was a good man to me... mostly.

But I will not share my husband. He cant keep himself faithful, and I was more than accommodating (forgave him once before, the dummy me) and then he started fucking our mutual friend who is also married and her cuckold husband enjoys it.

Im now taking depression and anxiety ocd medication, and yesterday we decided to end this. I tried to forgive it a second time but I cant. How do you guys cope with this? I was betrayed by my husband and 2 friends and now 2 more wont talk to me because of how I found out. I want to be angry but im just hurt.. maybe its the meds or maybe I'm just tired..",0.7346052631578956,2.8247208815789486,3.175526315789476,89.21618421052631,83.60526315789474,5.642105263157895,23.97368421052632,6.9077264865688965,0.9001763157894742,562,22,120,7,16,194,98,152,0.121,0.759,0.12,-0.2652,0,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,2,1,0,0,7,12,1,0,5,0,11,4,0,3,0,28,21,17,0,1,7,3,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,2,6,12,0,1,3,0,0,0,4,3,0,1,4,0,21,9,13,13,3,11,1,2,0,2,23,2,1,2,9,82,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14346735009760286,0.14927645635000164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13724169028550398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10936151621223722,0.0,0.15265750058404726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15451828715795599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15889651898042645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19670453337509813,0.2772103760808649,0.16585383679441582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15047350364402548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17763573424946955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920530635596559,0.0,0.3875689064366323,0.0,0.0,0.15946033550673244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16191689796345252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3604659287530674,0.0,0.19927467244651484,0.18072818180303785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14319660100669482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19105678956243885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12698133637435915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13488763445659432,0.14419616563518706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10461048314431197,0.2061956840488476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12180187229946494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549453332186207,0.0,0.0,0.10581567891532566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,mccoy0707,2020/03/18,"First time poster, just confused Hi,

I’m (M28) going through a little bit of confusion and hurt. My maybe (is that too hopeful?) STBX (F29) brought up that we should separate yesterday. We have two kids, ages 2 years and the other is 6 months and bought our second house last August.

After our most recent child was born, she went through a period of the baby blues and never really snapped out of it. It has been like she was on autopilot. I’m not perfect and probably could have handled it better, but when I wasn’t feeling loved because of the baby blues I would press her to try to get some sort of validation. I’m thinking that made worse. I should have just been there for her more. I feel like I messed up big time.

We were very happy before our second and she is a great mother, it just went downhill fast. I’m not a doctor and won’t diagnose her, but it seems more evolved baby blues into full on depression, or it could just be me. I don’t know. Has anyone have advise on if it should just take its course or let her know we can work on it? I told her I’m for counseling, but she said it would just be part of the motions and a bandaid. Any advice would be helpful.",2.9409310039805376,4.442495768907567,3.7725740822644873,90.32583149049096,74.50420168067227,6.859265811587792,23.030517470145952,7.475848149327749,0.7831815126050419,915,25,196,11,19,292,138,238,0.08,0.8029999999999999,0.11699999999999999,0.905,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,7,0,0,4,9,13,0,2,9,0,30,4,0,1,2,51,53,15,0,10,14,1,3,2,0,7,3,1,0,2,14,14,0,0,6,0,1,5,6,5,0,4,13,7,25,8,21,27,7,32,0,2,3,1,25,11,0,10,18,135,39,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13952730611414008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09709831818104517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09983820312157504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08704007176164562,0.0,0.12149904524003045,0.0,0.0,0.12628123742919842,0.15588363195921326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280035200546444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12298003235995847,0.14492320503200531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14614592868954784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14439221011890851,0.10200523529578796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12145237509219853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07459897875929661,0.0,0.0811476899721319,0.0,0.0,0.15742035354093956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15199669566298074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09570540302049974,0.0,0.0,0.14181717022041262,0.0,0.16475407772517933,0.1528537003989145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15694119253088934,0.11638837901450876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460067678927018,0.0,0.13951453399749808,0.14310752366878135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12886853535215495,0.13510609325981002,0.0,0.0,0.1434461654930149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11396918092702694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11012416556487853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15462163856783334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15394578034839554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09147137100639154,0.0,0.14098241276832849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13582070351606548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12998559517388755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073561321157584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09149050630738394,0.0,0.0,0.16651751503208362,0.0,0.0,0.13643665509814815,0.0,0.09694126483281086,0.0,0.13947965435923734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11781211986492107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647252200969122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394877575850377,0.0,0.1455095468130994,0.3042899169132873,0.0,0.0,0.09194850053933347
divorce,drama-foxhole-savor,2020/03/18,"Need Advice - Apartment Hunting Friends - need your advice

I’m doing collaborative divorce - we agreed that I’d move out - split the time with them 50/50. 
The plan was mid-April. 
I’ve done some apartment hunting. 

Thing is - I’ve got 3 kids ages 5-11. 

I’m not big on space.  I like urban living and I’ve already got a long commute. 

I think they can all go into a second bedroom with a triple bunk situation. 

1 place I like because it seems to have kids their age has a 1000sq ft 2 bedroom
Another has 1200sq ft but the bedrooms are oddly shaped.  The extra sq footage is in bigger walk in closets and bigger living room.  

Do you think the extra storage and living space is worth it if the community isn’t as kid friendly or is better to go with the kid friendliness?

I’ll take votes. I really appreciate it.",1.6785534591194953,4.184195628930819,3.217264150943397,87.72954402515724,83.27672955974845,5.29433962264151,22.669811320754718,6.691623216298621,0.7187886792452831,631,22,123,7,18,207,107,159,0.0,0.8340000000000001,0.166,0.9738,0,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,1,2,3,2,0,5,0,0,11,0,14,0,0,0,1,20,26,7,0,3,4,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,5,4,5,9,0,0,3,0,1,4,2,0,0,1,4,0,10,5,11,22,5,23,0,0,0,0,13,15,0,4,6,64,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3389644617242671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913938511135929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818655355295649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10572658461918742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533923819759201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774879444473568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679965247295172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19713835103409805,0.0,0.27742944727950536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16946671671740013,0.0,0.4594484877056812,0.1534877378413141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18433782545648286,0.0,0.2572051065754018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18120646336644491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11110923338188086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15789202317137005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19495229718506346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13040427192670315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11522492517992035,0.2222649536284584,0.0,0.0,0.1011334652378712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Franktherzr,2020/03/18,Sad. Do I miss you? With my entire being I miss you... Does that change anything? No not even a little. I’m blocked and forgotten you are moving on while I am doing the same. I force myself to get up and do the best I can every day. It’s for me and it’s also for you. You may be gone I may be forgotten but I wish it wasn’t so. I wish you would reach out I wish you would care. Knowing that day may never come eats at me. The thought of you hurts me but it’s slowly hurting less and less. The want for you is slowly fading. I love you. I love you enough to let the time make you fade away. To miss you alone and to accept what has been is all I can do to show you how much you mean to me. Be safe my love....,-2.027495711835336,-0.18419756603773507,0.512913093196115,104.25780874785593,96.9874213836478,3.3940537449971417,11.629788450543167,4.851557810540192,-1.7520088050314468,533,7,141,2,22,179,88,159,0.125,0.659,0.21600000000000005,0.9729,0,1,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,15,0,1,4,13,0,0,6,0,23,4,0,2,2,31,42,11,0,6,3,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,7,8,1,2,4,1,0,3,4,6,0,0,4,0,34,7,16,28,7,16,0,6,0,3,18,6,0,3,7,108,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15165419524304835,0.0,0.11709760611484392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12049693135451163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375729714469452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15366608576636911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492920689235591,0.0,0.15490033343125592,0.12613388109067886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888665820148269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12813924035685234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14983136005687014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15129821675923452,0.0,0.09671364187408456,0.0,0.12337104927201188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07650205553204525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31350622945998685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08047244094991891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497315117600041,0.0,0.0,0.1467583056074777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39646820955770623,0.0,0.0977411487712592,0.0,0.0,0.15950191199832042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15562871072301174,0.1076406812644255,0.0,0.11293351691378994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11624666915646015,0.08538275184132532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08636642889111698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5051514152471595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20803505632120292,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Soywip,2020/03/18,"Question Hello. I’ve (23f) been separated for about a year with my (23m) ex. No children, and I’m trying to going about the divorce without a lawyer because we have no assets to fight over. Just want it done as easy as possible. 

I left him because I was really unhappy and being taken for granted/ was treated badly. 

I’ve blocked and removed him from all social media and the only way to contact each other is through email (just incase either of us have any concerns about taxes/the divorce process/etc.) he lives in Canada and I live in the US. I plan on divorcing through mail. 


That’s all fine and figured out. I just have to go to the courthouse and file for a waiver fee in order to continue the process. 


My question is... do I HAVE to have him on email? Or can I just send the divorce papers/get the divorce done without talking to him? 


My partner gets very uncomfortable and doesn’t know why I have him on there. He trusts me but he feels it’s unnecessary. 


To be clear, my ex likes to email me randomly about things other than the divorce, and I can’t handle confrontation so I tend to just go along with it. I mean, I HAVE vocalized that there shouldn’t be small talk but he tends to email randomly again after a while of no contact. 

So my partners emotions are perfectly valid. I’m not handling the situation well. 

I just don’t know how to go about it. I don’t have a middle man or someone to serve for me. Especially since he’s in a different country. It makes things a hell of a lot more complicated.",2.304976021922812,4.488043245033115,3.748862754053437,86.73321192052983,78.47019867549669,6.417172870518383,26.30783283854761,7.503015589744147,1.4615173327243665,1188,48,236,17,29,391,159,302,0.086,0.835,0.08,-0.1663,1,0,0,0,6,0,39.0,3,0,0,2,18,10,3,0,17,0,26,0,0,2,4,48,42,19,0,2,14,2,1,1,2,1,0,0,0,4,11,15,0,1,7,0,1,6,11,4,1,0,6,1,30,6,47,32,6,25,1,0,0,0,40,12,1,7,6,168,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09250026268680657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357347206562325,0.16583664172676515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14211501985103225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2783973847273468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15300749776030628,0.0,0.0,0.15170153260110014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06877728479819815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14213274257822303,0.0,0.3092198826700191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14950929951659944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477893208082014,0.0,0.0,0.06645393702563238,0.0,0.2402214937141534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11564183818827024,0.0,0.0,0.09079636776417073,0.0,0.0,0.1481688566478808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034515742487515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15334542547178276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30475364313227943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08713977754627353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251958044859336,0.15289548214641693,0.0,0.1386582561503449,0.11525179448146924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21866017121057446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18073519260914372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09235064654267908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3272376941939457,0.0,0.0,0.11223316983591283,0.08022985343079808,0.10796867732978964,0.0,0.0,0.12230095751744988,0.0,0.12273954508971835,0.0,0.0,0.2622425176792802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08759431278395363
divorce,i_like_the_ocean,2020/03/18,"Looking for advice w/re CoronaVirus and split homes My ex-wife and I have a relatively good co-parenting situation set up. We have two children we share custody with. We live apart and have not been remarried but I do have a serious (together for two years) girlfriend with two boys. My ex-wife is requesting that I don't have my girlfriend over at my house (for fear our kids will be contaminated when they stay w/ me), my kids around my girlfriend or her kids during this time of social distancing during the Covid-19 pandemic. I want my kids to be safe but I feel as though my ex is trying to control my life through my kids. She's said she won't let me have them if I don't agree to her demand. As I look at her request, if I was remarried there'd be no choice in the matter. They are like family at this point. Do you think my ex-wife is overstepping or am I the asshole?",4.218071161048691,4.964195882022473,5.177022471910113,84.36568352059928,70.51685393258427,9.079400749063671,28.316479400749067,9.2995712137729,2.1569310861423223,689,24,148,14,12,226,107,178,0.075,0.848,0.077,-0.1815,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,4,1,3,1,3,6,0,1,5,0,23,1,0,1,0,22,29,13,0,3,7,1,1,1,3,2,1,1,1,7,3,9,0,2,2,0,0,0,5,2,0,3,3,4,35,4,19,20,0,14,0,0,2,0,29,9,0,4,4,101,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17663587148362134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16091407792613738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20273689716594795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17040375728995524,0.2034044384250818,0.09139732063964376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516123037895674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813162910178196,0.0,0.0,0.20857193412492986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18483860548512795,0.12767562160695398,0.08830985125277202,0.0,0.15961375147294166,0.0,0.3035845311970876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17087594141944526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17194346396577848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20318099859701205,0.0,0.1842613172923474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19266533634446706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158232446691291,0.17759506990529225,0.0,0.10540218686985144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227236823626509,0.0,0.5297266389237926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10661650369597582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116403046663075
divorce,PurpleFuzzySlippers,2020/03/18,"Looking For Advice Hi all, I’ve (26F) been contemplating leaving my husband(27M) for quite some time now but I have a ton of mixed emotions I guess I just need to get out. 

My husband and I have been together 5 years, married 3. We have a 1 year old son. Since having our son I just haven’t felt the same about him. He wasn’t very supportive/interested during my pregnancy and that didn’t change much after I gave birth to my son. There’s a lot of things I’ve tried to communicate to him that I’ve needed, help around the house, help with our son, etc. I feel like he’s another child a lot of the time. He puts no effort into helping me run and take care of the household. I feel like a single mom a lot of the time. Anyway, I just feel stronger and stronger about wanting to leave him but I have so many fears I can’t work past. First of all, that I’ll never find someone else. Or that I’ll fall in love with someone else that is horrible to me and even worse than my current  husband. Idk. But my biggest fear is what it will do to my son and our relationship. It breaks my heart thinking about him having a broken home. It breaks my heart all the time I’ll lose with him, having to share between two homes. Missed holidays, birthdays. I don’t feel like there’s anyone irl I can talk to about this. I feel so unhappy in my relationship but when I think about ending it I feel so guilty and selfish and scared. Where do I even start to work through all this? Thanks in advance for the advice and support.",1.4945505793924203,3.627606831715213,2.5796200020879,94.32162543062952,81.00647249190936,5.540494832445977,21.294602776907816,6.6834051587181325,0.2501177784737441,1177,35,261,12,31,374,159,309,0.152,0.7,0.149,-0.2262,1,0,0,0,1,0,35.0,4,0,0,7,20,14,0,3,14,0,20,3,2,0,5,48,43,18,0,3,8,8,7,3,0,1,0,0,2,1,13,16,0,0,10,1,0,4,7,6,0,2,6,8,38,8,37,36,13,31,0,2,1,1,31,8,0,6,20,167,51,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18837924209511275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10107163320899996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0673970047869871,0.0,0.0,0.08580610435341396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09827438953356717,0.0,0.10196613802905408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16104026635702612,0.1084239674109102,0.08537150566939677,0.0,0.10749853613509544,0.12732724763309702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169274770037405,0.2924212026754132,0.20657965938618675,0.09254797198185076,0.0,0.08809724401124944,0.08198791694510138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050358956505079225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10618268064656078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284414170845289,0.19382132201413532,0.0,0.19337083229213092,0.0,0.0,0.1112192629468508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204122779361125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14127149861011007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08094197319372122,0.10783395538633604,0.0,0.2458378918405299,0.08699428698095528,0.0,0.0,0.09772270067198097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11288891968750707,0.0,0.0,0.07085655866725939,0.14294154258295247,0.07434067002088475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10114340306947286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09201362668170374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09689695655333982,0.0,0.1025209195110857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20697012119218644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09650159542400996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07973347386387031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16333914339914798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06822419992427002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10938040492068404,0.0,0.0,0.07247207505635285,0.07747333831489459,0.0,0.08874148111053215,0.0,0.0,0.06403616463343684,0.12352357912639784,0.0,0.0,0.2248193859031762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06544139102781625,0.0,0.0941574531453619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07953051796046706,0.05685237090400701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14034379462671567,0.0,0.09822800607872227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241419283850584
divorce,Lanky-Finding,2020/03/18,"Am I overthinking this? Hi there. I am looking for some advice to see if I'm just overthinking things or if we should start planning to go our separate ways. I want to start this off with, I don't regret getting married. We have accomplished a lot that others our age haven't, and I got wonderful kids out of it. I am just at the point of my life where I realized this isn't what I want in a marriage and it took me going through this marriage to learn that.

Anyway, my wife (30F) and I (30M) have been arguing a lot over the past several months. About almost everything. It usually starts when I come home from work and tell her to spend time with me or we can watch tv together, and she refuses and goes to bed and watches tv alone on her phone. I work, she is a stay at home mom. So when I come home, she kind of hides to decompress. I don't blame her, but I would like to spend time with her. When I come home from work, my routine entails me cooking dinner, helping with my kids HW, getting the kids showered and in PJs, doing the dishes and cleaning a bit, doing my HW for grad school, and getting my stuff ready for work in the morning, just to repeat it all over. That usually leads to arguing somewhere along that timeframe. 

Then there is the intimate issues, that I consider issues. I'm more of a physical person. I enjoy cuddling, hugs, kissing, spending time together, having sex, etc. She does not. She read some love language boom and said that's not her love language and that I need to deal with it. I ask her what her love language is, and its materialistic things and me cleaning. So I do that stuff, but still don't see any results from her or her trying to see things from my point of view. I don't enjoy the sex we have, and I addressed it with her. I recommended we try different things, literally anything, and she calls me names and shames me. 

The parenting issues... I had a kid with someone else prior to us getting married. I was young and dumb. Anyway, I have full custody of the kid and noticed my wife treats her differently. Other people have noticed it too, and we all commented on it. She denies it. I also like my kids playing video games with me and my wife does not. She says it rots their minds, and I say people are getting scholarships for this stuff, so they should at least be aware of them. That leads to more arguing and needles to say, my kids rarely play games. Now this isn't a bad thing at all. But I don't like how she won't even work with me to reach a common ground. We also don't see eye to eye in terms of punishmen, and other things parenting, that I won't go into detail about.

Things in common... or lack of things in common. We don't have much things in common. My wife is big into arts and crafts. So I tried to learn some things and show her what I've learned in Hope's that we can do it together. Instead, she gets upset and we argue that I am trying to one up her when all I want to do is spend time together. She never took any interests in my hobbies and will not even try them. She says she doesn't like them, and I ask how do you know if you've never tried them. So now I've stopped trying to incorporate her into my hobbies. And the funny thing is, I asked her why she said she enjoyed one of my hobbies when we were dating, and she literally said ""haha i tricked you"". What kid of response is that? 

I can see my wife is turning into her mother, and her mom is absolutely crazy. Not just in my eyes, but my wife and sister and law say it too. My wife also blames her mom for the reasons she doesn't show affection because she never saw it growing up. So I said, then what are our kids seeing, and we argue again. 

I try to think back as to why we got married so I can see what i feel in love with. And I remember, I proposed to her because she got pregnant.... I was young and dumb,r remember? We never really dated long enough to find commonalities or to see if we are compatible. We just jumped into marriage and I didn't know what love is. 

Now that I shared most of the stuff I nitpick, am I overthinking all of this?",3.696943498130452,4.56717898433735,4.719709181553802,86.71289156626507,71.80722891566266,7.796427087660987,26.238055670959703,8.047967983731553,1.392087245533859,3167,99,679,43,58,1036,296,830,0.071,0.812,0.11699999999999999,0.9925,5,1,0,0,0,0,112.0,20,2,6,9,40,33,7,2,21,1,60,17,3,7,9,147,115,71,0,14,23,14,1,4,0,6,1,10,9,10,60,74,3,2,13,12,5,12,24,11,0,2,16,27,141,22,91,92,21,91,0,1,16,10,127,34,1,18,47,494,201,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04884017532342358,0.0,0.0,0.05004805553840315,0.05176452242010928,0.0,0.11990769488490265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06797664221643301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041129532187741465,0.0,0.14017451420788676,0.0,0.0,0.03843176923064756,0.04173146676362943,0.060935059715473576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054565547970315535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05103547925359917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12916082087652905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05152749953992713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10443756133649104,0.0,0.0,0.08747620294601917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041752131262088994,0.0,0.0,0.05164301535479582,0.055741251461226236,0.0660230397859825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04491907513492381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025271543807257043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045681093045776486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15667587813550554,0.0,0.08521487690920371,0.0,0.1199214464202472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0335007447151337,0.0,0.20053728312200347,0.04964171996390906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15649935851487148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052046796190809236,0.05493573675396158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03530256731792402,0.09767140913663787,0.0,0.0,0.04423099688995377,0.041970868104557024,0.0,0.0,0.0849829355230134,0.2255458818621243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05046585998530016,0.17560898647716044,0.03989380238868439,0.0,0.036741274777781684,0.037059762652761716,0.15419156875671444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138058163850408,0.0,0.0,0.06773589595932014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11099442724561287,0.0,0.04771185624591752,0.06930010037310155,0.0436408742524863,0.0,0.0,0.09449508604773538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04999383010165409,0.0,0.03201866302336172,0.05138807746157522,0.0,0.0,0.11323588434241165,0.0,0.19017086065859665,0.1987317218849139,0.0,0.05058273669915686,0.3186226551285881,0.0,0.0,0.05646351800702744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042348149998206096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10612895078702823,0.05327235474184343,0.039914335912685686,0.04178577271697302,0.0,0.0,0.2288619648913662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04368498929759065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3652516296645184,0.03202536114920792,0.0,0.0,0.11657567045600105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105991511871917,0.2714667688996025,0.05436421933106658,0.0,0.0,0.06012015266721271,0.0,0.11009248897267113,0.0,0.0884390360091393,0.0396720394961399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09019890214389156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054201508453278494,0.18193128549860474,0.0,0.0,0.035504574469070745,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,passing-thru,2020/03/18,"Baby boom or escalated divorce rate? As I catch up on the world news and prep my remote work station at home I feel a tinge of anxiety.   They say COVID19 could be the onset of another baby boom era. Getting pregnant is definitely not my concern after 29 years of marriage but if we can stand a 30 day reprieve of being locked in together 24/7! 

Anyone else?",2.7481366459627314,5.2282832753623225,4.5006625258799176,80.35173913043481,78.56521739130434,6.8414078674948255,28.697722567287784,7.957251820313856,2.2493461697722568,282,13,50,5,7,95,60,69,0.02,0.9420000000000001,0.037000000000000005,0.2851,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,9,7,5,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,10,4,0,11,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,2,4,30,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3687400385928032,0.2690144629799741,0.0,0.0,0.2458847587314935,0.3603112342439769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2807672251988495,0.0,0.0,0.2267878357600446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2937619198687165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778069047605012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18372477989722136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3527377855598636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796494952234312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560084100941759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264537437969059
divorce,worldwideweb18,2020/03/18,Congrats to all of you who were able to get divorce before the Coronavirus! My divorce has now been halted due to the Coronavirus... it should be fun to be quarantined with my STBX hahah wish me luck!,4.487017543859646,6.31115963157895,4.876315789473686,82.66254385964915,71.10526315789474,8.224561403508767,28.456140350877188,8.841846274778883,2.322866666666667,158,6,29,3,3,50,30,38,0.0,0.7240000000000001,0.276,0.9183,0,1,0,0,2,0,5.0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,1,6,8,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,2,6,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,22,6,0,0.5488688103948176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4670469315479174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28676129970656405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6311720444522674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,milecam,2020/03/18,"Worst month of my life To give some context I am 31 years old been married for 7.5 years, no kids, 3 animals and a house together. Husband and I have been throughout many ups and downs, in a relationship where I felt I carried the emotional load for many years. I put in about 80% of the effort and I got tired, I tried so hard to make this work. I stopped trying so hard as my efforts where met with heartbreak, lies and deception. I started to put as little or much effort as he did and that’s when he decided to end our marriage. The same week the corona virus forced our city in quarantine and also lost my job. All in one god forsaken week. As I was preparing for the chaos that was to come, extra food and supplies so we can comfortably wait the madness in our home he was planning his exit. Well more mine, because he asked me to leave. The home we built together I now have to leave in this chaos, will not be able to see my animals and are unemployed. I’m In shambles.",3.8479985496736764,4.869776675126907,4.632882523567805,86.90986040609137,71.58883248730966,8.26816533720087,28.28462654097172,8.634040054169528,1.9090626540971711,763,28,162,13,14,246,122,197,0.198,0.76,0.042,-0.9834,3,1,0,0,0,0,21.0,5,0,0,6,10,6,1,0,9,0,13,3,0,1,1,23,25,19,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,1,2,0,2,1,4,13,1,2,2,0,0,3,2,4,1,1,10,4,23,2,28,13,7,28,0,2,1,0,17,13,0,2,12,106,27,3,0.13936640766682698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114512658594653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13028877808634784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495646856146909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12005181985988855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567684504195377,0.12343727105145005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13381360693139144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16852241335019494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13369295743868692,0.0,0.0,0.11146404757479336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496898538344956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795917402642773,0.0,0.0,0.16081012275544565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382996550198435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29513780559696384,0.0,0.0,0.0984386152894098,0.0,0.13968175335114924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521348971128376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302815931549822,0.2825913259030439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11124093696657454,0.0,0.10245034533950806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14624160089316607,0.0,0.09443828466602168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28020346593050083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14962736541209642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105698308083348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09864426066154376,0.0,0.0,0.11651655722410816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16018118398623993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18924128510902397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22358265155641704,0.0,0.125307137725183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10146040462735434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692421916908268
divorce,ginozilla1985,2020/03/18,"I dont know I'm 35 been married for ten years we have an 11 year old daughter our marriage had really good highs but really bad lows.  Cheating caught her twice plus messages from other guys. Toxic childhood friend who gets her drunk till 5am on more than one occasion once had to pick her up because she is our neighbour at 8.30am and tonight I had a bad feeling when I asked to show her phone she said she forgot it at her sisters eventually I found it . When I asked to unlock it she got extremely angry. Argument ensued all calm kept asking to unlock it and found messages from her toxic friend and then she called the police on me saying my husband and is tormenting me and took my phone police asked if I hit she said no and they said call again if I do. This is not to mention the lieing over the years stealing my coin collection,  a cocaine and alcohol period where she had no control. Am I crazy for staying or am I selfish not fix things ?",2.0602380952380983,4.494339931216931,3.079626984126985,89.81467857142859,80.90476190476191,5.8964021164021165,23.20661375661376,7.1686216300943375,0.9351458201058204,753,26,149,10,20,240,119,189,0.21600000000000005,0.7140000000000001,0.07,-0.9886,0,0,2,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,1,1,4,10,1,0,6,0,13,2,0,2,1,24,32,16,0,2,6,3,1,0,3,0,1,4,0,1,8,9,2,3,4,2,1,2,5,6,0,3,15,5,31,4,18,16,2,24,0,1,0,0,41,9,0,3,12,101,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14254205428480068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4987670727092531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227325163405615,0.08130686647478752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723906346543196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495963794587491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15631970615741994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06744065067114781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29248733529034365,0.20609724347357264,0.0,0.06968525051021815,0.0,0.0,0.1118723431470606,0.10667571976989404,0.0,0.0,0.1320666119674403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14092269764523924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733018500975423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399592817146896,0.14204474678192658,0.09038135802328624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17089256472694378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3806231629335109,0.10606868132106323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14216473255355425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08861137092355241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14818946155830084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576759521653857
divorce,Sodomitus,2020/03/18,"Lasted 2 months We've dated since last August but knew of each other for 2 years. We've only been married since last February. She is a Romanian expat on tourist visa here.

I used to be a drug addict for the first 3 months which strained our relationship. I sobered up and moved back to U.S where she then came. We decided to get married not long after. 

Our relationship has dealt with unimaginable hardships first starting because living with my insane parents didn't work out. They kicked us out, so we had to figure out our own way with minimal amounts of money. She borrowed some money from her ex to make it work.

Which brought him back in our lives somewhat. She cheated on me with him before she followed me to the U.S. 

I sorta was forced to get over it.

When shit hits the fan she has a tendency to seek out comfort in surroundings she's familiar with. To defend her, she's a foreign national here and people aren't very friendly to begin with. I personally have almost no real friends here. It's depressing and has caused us to only be with each other which has caused fights here and there.

So I've been employed the last 2 months. She just stays home and tries to find work under the table, or apply for education. We live in california. This state sucks. Too expensive. So we're living paycheck to paycheck.

I've started to withdraw lately because I get intense bouts of depression. I literally become unresponsive and it put further strain on our relationship. Last week in particular I sort of ignored her for 3 days. It seems to have been the final straw.

She's been trying to rekindle a relationship with her ex, and another ex lover who she claims would just be for her to see a familiar face because she is so alone. I checked her phone behind her back and confronted her about it and she said it was my fault because I was distancing from her and this is how she reacts. 

She's trying to leave but finds it difficult because of the plague. 

I'm at a breaking point too. I feel like I shouldn't be with someone like this who cant hack it out in this relationship. Granted I did put her through immense stress when I was a drug addict. I also do occasionally get drunk and vent as well, which I know isn't healthy. I never cheated on her though. 

In romanian culture apparently cheating isn't a big deal. I wouldn't know. To me it is a big deal. 

I dont know what to do. I'm pissed off and frustrated.  I bought her a phone. I want to go to the store and disconnect it, and leave our room and let her deal with the next months rent (I'd pay for the previous one), and then I'd file for annulment and say she was cheating on me. Though I dont want to be vengeful I'm upset at the situation.

I actually don't want her to go. I still love her. But this seems unsalvageable. And I feel like i should just cut my losses as i fear that in the future she'll just cheat on me again when things go south. 

I dont know if this is my fault or hers. I feel trapped. Now this leads me to post this stupid post and ask for strangers help. 

Please give me advice.",2.657222936637829,4.747006453355155,3.748320960953944,87.62216346153849,76.93780687397708,6.852010755202246,24.658668459200374,7.83500028581142,1.270580757540332,2417,84,498,38,56,781,276,611,0.192,0.735,0.073,-0.9979,6,2,2,0,1,0,61.0,11,0,1,7,31,34,13,5,23,0,44,10,3,7,1,87,83,40,0,8,11,4,3,3,3,5,4,2,3,1,30,40,1,1,14,1,10,10,14,25,1,3,17,6,86,9,80,54,6,86,0,3,1,2,75,33,3,10,40,330,116,6,0.0,0.0,0.06362299864471073,0.14214900051223522,0.0,0.0637098854427854,0.0,0.0,0.06528551267211782,0.0675245690980145,0.0,0.05213812504587678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06836488035140759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06095051995646381,0.0,0.0,0.15039771656228085,0.0,0.19871784080493646,0.07200511297168392,0.05547795961399758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07456815335528147,0.0,0.1339508333805169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042046758242088894,0.20164614916528628,0.11230839312547973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22923166883449225,0.0,0.15121595500925958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07336490239366625,0.09889689074173978,0.09315369208006836,0.0,0.07142027422755266,0.11917799989763155,0.11091329890004968,0.0,0.0,0.10074228904545827,0.0,0.13625124782429718,0.06254303240916803,0.11115910231597148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043700265077172035,0.0,0.06539804193015887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433225606637552,0.265721832535774,0.07354520770261089,0.13806870379905434,0.0,0.06666848744793973,0.0,0.09555608030566798,0.0,0.2302810575456017,0.057697412554693926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05884295951180332,0.0,0.04351959366074142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081589235279624,0.06929423623269418,0.0,0.0,0.05028404953852774,0.0,0.06933789237403143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04417926577203588,0.09917071763406583,0.0,0.0,0.07239370249776864,0.0,0.0,0.04519948409999218,0.05692762322897429,0.0,0.07156687554291663,0.061632365845747376,0.0,0.12488166573532886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13108225583901514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07420861273134634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3499866164812356,0.0,0.0,0.06201740507115061,0.05184737831628175,0.0,0.0,0.05195367523584355,0.11870604555306324,0.0,0.0,0.06692392183762676,0.10786348706632344,0.07328431102946538,0.0,0.0,0.05524132063886457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922937349839502,0.06949147081055894,0.05206651597138056,0.0,0.07468309749402938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04331407927558968,0.0,0.12811170759183851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327937243794718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15684825100920213,0.056309391322356864,0.0,0.05379446410457979,0.11536487769548155,0.05175045082953562,0.05229720880710459,0.0,0.05862005393545415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423928716162803,0.0,0.0,0.046314173877146106,0.0,0.0,0.04198481715976568
divorce,erileah,2020/03/18,"Divorce & dealing with it 3 years later Hi, newbie here but looking for some advice or words of wisdom. 
We have been divorced for almost 4 years now. Our kiddo was 3 going on 4 when it happened and she took it surprisingly very well. Now though, is where I’m facing the most trouble.
For some background, my ex and I had a very easy divorce, and agreed on 50/50 custody. We get along well for the most part and he’s flexible with schedule changes and whatnot. 
There have been a few instances where my kiddo has said to me: I wish we could all live together, or I can’t wait to see daddy, but that doesn’t mean I don’t love seeing you! I just wish we could all be together again like we used to in the old house.
These words absolutely devastate me and I don’t know how to respond. I’m glad she opens up to me but I feel clueless as how I should be dealing with this. It seems like now that she’s older, she’s realizing she doesn’t have what her friends have and finally understands the divorce.
Has anyone gone through anything similar like this? 
Also, sorry for the novel. Just needed to get this out there. :)",3.2453861484803213,4.88214929596413,4.057810164424513,88.03606253114101,73.97757847533633,6.749277528649727,25.841803687095165,7.3871296695380915,1.184180069755854,875,30,179,10,18,280,131,223,0.057999999999999996,0.703,0.239,0.9932,0,0,0,0,4,0,28.0,6,1,0,0,18,11,0,0,7,0,21,2,1,3,2,50,44,18,0,6,7,1,1,3,1,1,0,1,0,0,11,18,0,1,6,1,0,3,5,1,2,0,7,5,26,10,23,32,8,23,0,0,3,1,26,8,0,8,15,126,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13866825899756322,0.0,0.0,0.14209770300302912,0.0,0.0,0.1134816516661576,0.0,0.15375438004011002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09922351540986904,0.0,0.1167760063122262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15011703709960922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22659973916094545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29259635553652924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07175160528656631,0.0,0.0,0.1554503671672317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10963571612374433,0.0,0.1482793697612932,0.0,0.08064807673491793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12548642631795712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16373971344512714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07798746546234044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20798334827517467,0.0,0.1253050178478321,0.0,0.11916474849106475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807511256779194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15457651969184874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10522101388642496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14890578661157555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15366965808120786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13498447735377245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22616037192372845,0.1291852948323952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15885141372018807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394212791743207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576620576395015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477284668034175,0.0,0.1225606545297586,0.0,0.2341735392944023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25517989131757857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32636828281255986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18276477690747472
divorce,tehPaulSAC,2020/03/18,"So after 16.5 years of marriage... my wife said she was done.  

So my wife has been pretty snappy lately and tonight she dropped the bomb.  That she was annoyed by me and she was just exhausted.  That she still loves me but doesn’t want to have sex or even kiss me.  I’ve seen it coming as we never do anything alone, past year rarely sleep in the same bed, and works weekend nights.   So it’s pretty difficult with that alone.  

I’ve decided to keep living here for my girls in the meantime but planning on moving out later this summer, early fall. 

So after that, what’s next?   What would you do?

Oh and I’m not bitter or upset really.  Kinda one of those things you saw coming but still a bit of a shock.",1.7442249240121583,3.905133397163123,2.7321833839918948,93.41250000000002,80.27659574468085,5.163323201621076,17.872847011144884,6.1826913282559595,-0.2741067882472139,543,11,114,4,14,172,98,141,0.068,0.7609999999999999,0.171,0.9344,0,2,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,2,0,2,9,8,2,1,5,0,11,5,1,0,1,23,20,14,0,2,7,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,1,11,9,0,1,1,1,0,4,3,6,0,1,8,4,14,2,15,11,2,25,0,0,2,3,14,4,0,3,16,78,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3669475571240027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14577920027406396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19340171216436772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30519775244342057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812857617079016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170057793962932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15745889151918266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19983270286017998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15642652860848671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598846207775188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882822137780095,0.0,0.0,0.13662885514813036,0.0,0.18840083367171004,0.16624309712421104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12004129657642874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16910953947572482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3604500884962944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348670507809945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16851003711697585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17727774643012564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829441357252252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11769046283125688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10448754829475113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12896717221949705,0.0,0.0,0.12584214302623947,0.0,0.0,0.22815734034098306
divorce,Tough-Difference,2020/03/18,"Divorce conversation during covid-19 quarantine I have spent a large amount of time and many days to solidify I want a divorce. I have suffered enough and want to choose the path that makes me happy. 
Now, with this quarantine, I feel like I have no support. Every business is closed, there's no where to go. 
Sat on the couch with my wife for an hour tonight in silence. I keep telling myself that there is never a bad time to do the right thing. But this is Corona, maybe it is a bad time to bring it up? 
I have so much anxiety and depression already that I can get suicidal over things way less serious than this which makes me worry for myself. But this is the reason I have sunk so deep. I have already written everything down, like phrases I want to use and examples if I need them. I think I want to be as short and sweet as I can. I'm a very lost soul trying everyday to better myself.",3.912165082108904,5.128303915730342,4.5994382022471925,86.47438634399313,71.64044943820225,7.948833189282628,27.17545375972342,8.384062270229773,1.6951403630077784,699,24,145,11,13,224,108,178,0.129,0.72,0.15,0.2315,0,2,0,0,2,0,18.0,0,0,1,2,6,12,0,0,10,0,15,0,0,4,1,25,35,12,1,6,3,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,12,8,0,1,4,0,1,2,3,6,0,0,4,2,22,6,21,30,4,22,1,3,0,0,6,10,0,1,11,100,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33249043609180884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11524628091674448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25157169938855584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13323703891110228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09715631769005766,0.0,0.12975399742989688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15566096931055182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12692850931020042,0.0,0.13539385196620635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07617279854760442,0.10762387018784944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07870802692485136,0.0,0.08561745312659652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16036895160899825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483591871692752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13390399508091952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14719924965346412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16445147661993287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011191180590361,0.15273471671089314,0.15134744260133565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11074454902222736,0.11170452649434927,0.11619000598285098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15489254246134335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12865365535746287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16478585246187147,0.1709550088608374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316741040713177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001693648923964,0.09652997069899506,0.0,0.0,0.26353440639369197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10228096697153724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13011260180273262,0.0,0.12430142686432474,0.3554273758156919,0.11957838015595572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15299164864720574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,sassymouse317594,2020/03/19,"Depressing I saw someone I used to work with at the time I got engaged. I let them know I was getting a divorce. They replied, ""That was quick. I never imagined you as the married type. It's just not you.""

It's hit me really hard. I understand why he said it. If you aren't close to me, I can come across relatively confident. It's not natural, I've taught myself how to do it. In my youth, I was the weird girl that nobody liked. I grew up, shaped up, learned to work with my looks. Didn't really date much. Whoever I did date treated me like shit and I stayed bc I thought it was all I deserved. I grew up a bit through the years but still didn't see the warning signs from my husband....or I just chose to ignore them. In a relationship, I give and give and give until it hurts. I was not perfect, not at all....but I was a good wife who adored her husband. 

What he didn't know is I had a miscarriage with my first/only child, mere weeks later.... my husband decided he deserved a much younger gf, he lied and gaslighted me for months, yelled at me that my baby was dead and I needed to get over it, told me he was dying (spoiler alert- he wasn't). At the end, I was literally a shell of a human being. I decided I would either give up and die or die crawling my way out of that hole. I'm literally just now recreating any semblance of a self esteem. 

His comment hit me. I know it's illogical but it felt like I didn't deserve marriage. I was a good wife. I know I was.",0.3184377387318591,2.4288866038961068,2.5013827349121454,93.26367074102372,85.55844155844156,5.701451489686785,22.04583651642475,7.048011613610866,0.6007067226890759,1126,40,257,16,34,380,158,308,0.133,0.775,0.092,-0.9348,0,0,0,0,3,0,55.0,0,3,3,3,7,14,1,0,16,0,25,1,1,2,3,44,51,13,4,3,12,4,2,3,1,1,0,2,0,4,16,12,0,1,11,0,0,3,11,5,0,0,25,7,52,9,30,21,5,34,0,2,3,0,34,15,1,2,17,165,68,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08310256027324811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334145550940366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10526748161188387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10525368248442556,0.0,0.3804837716761451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082360157121712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11733450957686448,0.0,0.0,0.10394622183475524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12769255420280592,0.4689148721024115,0.0,0.2049969704709069,0.09773729038143546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10947031926660013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308213580662152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686393576320394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12496134285747107,0.0,0.1791073499682589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10262014958827484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975416557640219,0.0,0.17966724464059827,0.09061233562427663,0.09425086116664563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15657336326179966,0.0,0.0,0.1312008094132619,0.0,0.0,0.116243498463624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097380355732858,0.0,0.12748488634841282,0.0,0.12544012114642195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035426161969417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302526552204921,0.09759186090391413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09701591675493698,0.07125783478403537,0.0,0.0,0.11677066674454095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12721813752621586,0.0,0.10554457472315118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09699943821566548,0.09802426439232663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102696375929774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17793118489847828,0.0,0.0,0.08680984948911477,0.0,0.0,0.0786950376818823
divorce,batteredmen_,2020/03/19,"How to destroy a narcissist in court | fight back against the narcissistic rage Learning how to [destroy a Narcissist in court](https://batteredmen.ca/narcissistic-rage/) is complex and stopping the bleeding on your family is hard to do.  However, it’s not impossible to accomplish.",14.618636363636362,14.124436318181822,12.83545454545455,42.22318181818181,49.45454545454545,16.98181818181818,56.09090909090909,15.247664890283005,9.02771818181818,234,15,29,9,2,74,33,44,0.32,0.68,0.0,-0.9191,1,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,0,1,0,1,3,4,4,0,4,0,3,1,0,2,0,7,3,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,8,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,22,2,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4453290115278475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5459691280421691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5188027913938615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.48419360421059005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,sloopgrl,2020/03/19,"Cohabitation, splitting up. Advice please We’ve been married for 15 years, 2 kids. At a point where he just doesn’t want to do this anymore. We’ve had a hard year this year with lots of things, I just didn’t think we’d ever actually get to this point. He wants to just be friends and cohabitate for now. Where do I go from here? What steps do I need to take? How can I move forward?",0.5003194444444432,2.6995738375000013,2.036666666666669,96.2927777777778,85.625,5.055555555555556,18.88888888888889,6.42735559955562,-0.2682777777777776,297,8,71,3,9,96,58,80,0.019,0.8809999999999999,0.1,0.7041,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,0,9,1,0,0,2,0,10,0,0,1,1,12,17,2,0,3,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,3,1,5,1,11,12,1,15,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,1,6,43,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.2214023004137423,0.0,0.0,0.22170465863921265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22500414618432196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052260865410181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17528704256903874,0.0,0.11853551524268717,0.0,0.12894121878849152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032400523125063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19288539184718867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411376960241283,0.0,0.168228757857064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24904627597182585,0.4289501554112695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17058563865685025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15072909162095904,0.14537564032816702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2676395837231109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4383101378260138
divorce,aussieex9,2020/03/19,"No way to fight I was married 12 years and I am currently cohabiting with my ex.

I know my STBX is running me down to my 9 year old son. She has done it in front of me, things my son has said reveal it and I have caught her doing it when she didn't know I was there. Consequently every time we communicate I find I am getting less and less access.

I will NOT put my son in the middle of our dispute. I will not tell him all the nasty hypocritical things my STBX is doing. That is between us and not something a 9 year old should be dealing with. I am losing this fight because of that and I don't know how I can have a relationship with my son going forward in the face of all of this negativity.

I despair of this situation.",1.8477526395173456,3.3984193660130764,4.116339869281045,86.5127601809955,77.56209150326798,6.7991955756661655,23.53393665158371,7.61054688173877,0.9161487179487184,565,18,127,8,13,196,86,153,0.16899999999999998,0.831,0.0,-0.9735,1,0,1,0,2,0,10.0,3,0,0,1,3,4,2,0,5,0,22,1,1,1,2,21,29,7,0,1,3,5,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,10,9,0,0,5,0,0,6,7,4,0,0,6,1,29,0,16,19,4,20,0,2,0,0,18,6,0,0,9,99,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11819449063177613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19989367664816554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984183756885416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633619952675077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17721336613960065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013003334860652,0.0,0.1101930373916328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.319673179287966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169150514597251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40691313609009006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949145632445359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081669652577607,0.0,0.0,0.18443526693419784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179422284970082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14926718962707072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694697628062607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25762586370833385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11305972336731755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23322766415214954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15390208928864815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3745794080465486
divorce,colocop,2020/03/19,"Am I wanting to put my kids at an unreasonable risk? My wife and I have been divorced a little over 3 years. She has the kids the majority of the time because I am forced to live with my parents who live an hour away because the majority of my income goes to her after our divorce settlement (I didn't have affairs or was abusive) it was important to me that she not have to work full time so our kids didn't have to have a nanny. It KILLS me not having more access to my kids. 

I work as a police officer. Obviously with all the COVID19 stuff we as a department are taking extraordinary measures to keep our officers and their families safe. We sanitize our cars at the start of every shift. It's mandated we wash our hands immediately every time we come into the police department. We have a bleach boot bath for us to dip our boots in when we come into the PD. We are minimizing our contact with the public whenever possible. If a report can be taken over the phone we do that. We have severely limited our traffic stops to essentially obvious DUIs only. They have issued us N95 masks for when we have to have contact with a probable COVID patient or anyone showing symptoms. We are not allowed to congregate in the PD or have lunches at the same time. When we are done eating we sanitize the table. I also take my temperature twice a day to make sure I'm not starting to get sick and go to work and expose my co-workers. This week I had only one extended in person contact with anyone really. That person ended up passing away and was tested for COVID and was negative.

My ex has been keeping the kids at home and said she feels like my exposure as a police officer puts the kids at undue risk. I outlined all of the steps the department and myself are taking and she thinks that's all fine and good... But still puts the kids at undue risk of exposure.

During the conversation she says it feels like I'm just concerned about me getting to see the kids and not their safety. I don't even know how to respond to this. Of course I want to see my kids. And of course I will do everything in my power to keep them safe. If I had a possible exposure to a COVID patient or thought I was symptomatic I would wait the appropriate amount of time before exposing myself to them.

Am I being unreasonable to want to see my kids? No matter what I or my police department do to keep our families safe am I unnecessarily putting my kids at an unreasonable risk?",5.087826763485476,5.937282168049794,6.417570020746889,75.87975752074692,68.60580912863071,9.7594398340249,30.41519709543569,9.903583721103773,2.9446325726141076,1943,74,368,45,32,659,215,482,0.079,0.873,0.048,-0.9393,4,1,0,0,2,0,33.0,24,0,5,5,10,13,1,4,35,0,44,6,1,3,6,78,75,29,1,6,14,3,3,2,0,2,3,2,2,13,13,34,2,10,5,2,0,14,10,5,0,2,15,8,71,8,64,56,9,52,0,0,3,0,64,20,0,7,20,271,84,6,0.0,0.10383721275723587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07008442347370931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12255766056336324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16467838599480966,0.0,0.0,0.10684715105884462,0.0,0.07457385189098267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15098550055876886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05651953935325256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08968454471406866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08967599625878568,0.0,0.0,0.07762163946811873,0.0,0.0,0.057884358678864364,0.0,0.1476783197958045,0.0,0.07876377292112573,0.0,0.16523543065152765,0.0,0.08862525026716363,0.12521782856852715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915749285473637,0.0,0.049806941291776916,0.07350695990262686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.087908494234338,0.0,0.08630620341520516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914717552201155,0.0,0.3115882651574905,0.09695894176909296,0.0,0.04816379101692194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08563142347674206,0.0878367336424538,0.15477268448758588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05849933477353465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05938607052709456,0.13330595537798634,0.0,0.0,0.09731210890723398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530449992292818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197598331333334,0.0,0.0,0.09448905380501346,0.0,0.0,0.3524033255905186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05614342450362173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08336421909922162,0.06969359973575164,0.0,0.0,0.20950945434116885,0.0,0.0,0.0990064843782974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12406186837163605,0.0,0.069988166067116,0.07326965445587677,0.0,0.0,0.1003250388551037,0.0,0.0,0.08259818625833568,0.09108988839005264,0.19767958538702007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05615516939510854,0.0,0.0695751267586056,0.2555133762311607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108364893284344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550742558403952,0.0,0.07029826495112856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25520729294124905,0.0,0.0,0.062255828570452365,0.0,0.0,0.056436277727711925
divorce,lumperton,2020/03/19,"Nuclear Option Employed. I’ve been ‘going through’ this divorce for just over a month.  My STBXW has just employed the nuclear option of an ex parte order of protection and I’m looking for advice on how to cope.  She sites that I harmed my daughter and it is a flat lie.  I’ve hired a reputable lawyer weeks ago whom everyone I’ve talked to says “is the best”.  He says the claim is without merit and clearly retaliatory. Now I’ve got to go 24+ days without my baby until we have the chance to fight it. 

We had a temporary hearing scheduled to determine possession of the home and temporary custody.  I’ve been journaling my care of my child and I feel there is no question who provided most of the care before this order was filed. When our temporary hearing was canceled due to the Coronavirus, she filed the protection order just hours later.  

The supposed abuse happened the day before the order was filed, and my STBXW allowed our child to be with me all the following day. I was served by a sheriff when I got home with her that evening.  This is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to deal with. 

I’ve got (happy)pictures, of all of us after the supposed event, phone records to disprove her other claims, and a half dozen witnesses who saw us the next day as well as a boat load of folks willing to testify about my fantastic parenting, and undying love for my child.  

Advice, stories of triumph over similar situations, or words of wisdom are greatly appreciated.",6.509260989594394,7.091480490974733,6.696835846251857,76.07119983011258,65.38989169675091,9.838946697812695,35.427691654279045,9.773937934552695,3.4822284561478014,1164,53,208,23,17,374,153,277,0.057,0.83,0.11199999999999999,0.9509,4,0,0,0,3,0,26.0,6,0,0,2,12,11,1,0,23,0,18,1,0,2,4,31,34,15,0,0,6,3,1,0,0,1,0,4,2,3,12,13,0,2,2,0,0,3,3,2,1,2,12,7,23,9,38,20,5,30,0,0,2,1,31,4,0,5,19,142,35,4,0.0,0.14560835018454624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401796317715397,0.10893740971353716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091461288765384,0.0,0.12896883488380534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25059562219522685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3170237975342479,0.1266974963096873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0811698017012945,0.11116393809195718,0.0,0.1174297221606462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062138496081670686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13968607894338567,0.0,0.2948667633970565,0.13549019041433633,0.0,0.0,0.10867405375697052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.277019143296712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465438058819173,0.0,0.1210250502328141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10319933927069434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109159139878266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980921823501875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306983158301644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13645835875899734,0.133081363244964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13766851305059172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19545921556408047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381371094560741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987769016460336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816447835263882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2956507840940264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985775148289181,0.0,0.11049574858590128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23692932492281696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwawayadviceneed2,2020/03/19,"Husband won’t let me go. Trying to keep away from lawyers but I’m starting to feel like I don’t have a choice anymore. I’ve been a stay at home mom for 11 years, married 12. I have a degree but no real work experience. I had a part time job and was trying to get on my feet financially before the Covid outbreak. Not currently working, but I’m stuck at home with my kids and my husband right now and I’m losing my mind. My decision to leave has been over a year long, but husband won’t let me go.

He isn’t abusive but since I started bringing up separating he has been a lot more distant. He refuses to talk to me about it or come to a compromise. We are terribly unhappy but he doesn’t want me to move out. But I have to.

With his income and mine working part time we could have afforded a place for me to live (he won’t leave the house) that will also accommodate the kids, but he refuses to help me monetarily even though he knows I’m ready to leave. Been sleeping in a separate bedroom for over a year. He won’t discuss it with me and when I bring it up he just rolls his eyes, or walks away. I feel completely trapped. 

I can’t get a full time job right now because I still have the duties of picking up kids from school etc, but before the outbreak I was working as much as humanly possible for little money.

I don’t want to do this, but I’m considering seeking legal advice. I told him I’d like to do it without lawyers but I feel like he’s giving me no choice?

One more thing, we just came into a large sum of money, but it’s inheritance, and we will be getting more. I told him it’s a perfect opportunity for us to park ways without having to worry about finances for a few months, but he won’t budge. And I’m not a monster or anything I do not want to take his inheritance or ANY of his money really, I just need to get on my feet.

I’m not sure what I can do other than talk to a lawyer. I didn’t want to do it this way, but my mental health is suffering immensely continuing to live under the same roof. 

What can I expect when I speak to a lawyer? The inheritance is in a joint savings account right now, we used some to pay off debts and now we are just sitting on it. Any and all advice from a legal perspective would be appreciated. Also any advice from SAHMoms who have experienced this would also help. Thank you.
I’m in Texas btw.",2.6330721406367243,3.883941305498986,4.493609711651839,85.85943911458894,74.84521384928716,7.5309465108800495,25.75200986172151,8.119692808369301,1.421835845213849,1835,63,401,29,38,626,217,491,0.08800000000000001,0.8059999999999999,0.107,0.8119,6,1,0,0,0,0,45.0,7,1,0,7,18,11,0,0,26,0,47,5,4,2,3,79,84,35,0,9,28,4,3,3,0,9,1,1,3,4,17,22,0,4,5,0,10,8,19,3,0,1,12,6,50,8,65,58,13,56,0,2,1,0,45,25,0,6,22,268,67,16,0.0,0.0951752438279644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.235486031406114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19271420858283134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16387686569364085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07966353941332358,0.0,0.0,0.06610289066561535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15094112336099336,0.0,0.0,0.04896704844208295,0.0,0.13670599101130415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187354197273542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06919524055294284,0.0842221134774208,0.0,0.0,0.06413516892572768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08958667057254327,0.053055718704298135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07857594936330481,0.0,0.0,0.12184836600745355,0.11477231571575812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16787172770903194,0.07705769359432414,0.09130421851466047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853846378003178,0.0,0.0,0.10768398993758546,0.0,0.16115055770734352,0.0,0.0,0.09268743397974223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15942578644215089,0.0713989915629502,0.0,0.0,0.04414602849974161,0.0,0.0,0.2551664540993725,0.0,0.16428112549935514,0.0,0.11773223768711001,0.08050950443958202,0.14186174294232587,0.0710875275240601,0.0,0.08986620083448857,0.0,0.06829177717945342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095147477253255,0.0,0.08110812468586298,0.09407888537780054,0.06411684055868858,0.08537568163530451,0.05905013600604244,0.05956200589753623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05443215964988479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739742422703671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08392539777618926,0.0,0.0,0.09055746425232528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914305610335854,0.051460011055590976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20579836877590896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08129596753810259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06644794165076094,0.0,0.08038575782887024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11371278425614785,0.08561868938663766,0.06414984179210502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07570795005123927,0.0,0.06039646814932278,0.12912879909451608,0.0,0.07395499622783545,0.0,0.0,0.05336618517795744,0.0,0.07892160268847494,0.0,0.14051926417340685,0.0,0.0,0.15351320752037192,0.0,0.10907453348853474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09662438805334476,0.06937738155409642,0.0,0.0,0.18951754345918093,0.12752085179694408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15486616145945026,0.0,0.2339182234132678,0.08157672535731689,0.0,0.114125052215288,0.0,0.0,0.15518530450260185
divorce,AzorAhai86,2020/03/19,"If you could read the terms and conditions of your ex what would they say? Obviously if we went back in time we wouldn’t have agreed to get married, what would be something in those terms that you know now would have been a red flag?",8.85936170212766,6.084257170212768,7.13244680851064,85.78250000000003,62.40425531914893,11.102127659574473,32.01063829787234,8.841846274778883,1.9897319148936168,185,4,43,2,2,54,37,47,0.0,0.9470000000000001,0.053,0.3527,0,0,1,0,0,0,3.0,2,3,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,9,0,0,0,1,12,12,3,0,7,2,1,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,2,6,0,4,4,2,8,0,0,1,0,8,2,0,2,5,30,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24600064815172046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554320769510776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671462973760199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17582103450743386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32000906684218955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25441520580848115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462919637803675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18654937740953967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.296571354575927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6817912763259424,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Indigo_Etcetera,2020/03/19,"Relieved but sad about my sock day Today's my sock day.

We had no house, no children thank God.

We dated for 7 years and were married for 3 years. I didn't realize I was in an emotionally abusive relationship because I grew up with abuse. I felt so stupid for picking someone just like my dad.

Just as I was starting my new job, the abuse escalated. He poured bleach o my work clothes. He yelled at me a lot. He cornered me. He threw things at me. Threatened that I better not tell anyone else we were having martial problems. 

I left for a friends house. I wasn't doing so great at my new job with everything going on. He threatened and intimidated my friend that I was trying to stay with, so I couldn't stay there anymore either. I tried calling the police for help but he manipulated them and told them I was missing and suicidal. The officer told me that ""If I was his wife, he would want to know where I was going and what my mental state was. Your husband has a right to know where you are."" It was terrifying not to have police help. After a few nights at motels and sleeping in my car, a spot at a domestic violence shelter opened for me. I finally got housing a couple on months later, but was tied up in legally for awhile trying to get out of my old lease. 

It killed me to file for a divorce and a restraining order. I was devastated to leave my cat behind. I was worried it would make him angrier if I tried to take him and I didn't have a safe place to bring him. We had so many nice memories mixed together in between the abuse... I know that outside of the abuse there were things I did wrong too. I hope that my next relationship goes better and that I have learned from my mistakes.

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Relieved but sad. I know it is for the best. I'm glad my hearing is still happening by phone with the virus. Devastated about my cat and how this ending. Can't wait till this over.",2.570093370681608,4.559545100529103,3.792443199502024,87.67439775910366,76.83068783068785,6.669281045751635,25.13881107998755,7.618777277803332,1.2302727046374105,1480,53,306,21,34,482,197,378,0.253,0.608,0.139,-0.9961,2,0,0,0,6,0,45.0,4,2,2,4,15,22,2,0,18,0,33,1,1,4,0,53,57,23,2,9,11,3,1,1,2,2,0,2,0,1,15,20,0,3,7,1,0,6,9,8,0,0,25,3,57,14,48,29,4,51,0,3,0,0,36,22,0,4,20,208,72,5,0.0,0.4999602478415142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914399124862113,0.10254688058288428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08369529996899264,0.0590096331778372,0.08647072666187007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05144526389535351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885653749535883,0.14927771664452213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0861748133336294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09337938436968693,0.0,0.10885316411180826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07049962438704781,0.09493090330683228,0.07474725693393768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.075847096402026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08103063178048248,0.09244854010671416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304038335051403,0.0,0.044091923075447216,0.0,0.09592511220686356,0.0,0.06749688916483752,0.09304371499820056,0.0,0.0,0.07462855911960392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09511718205991128,0.0,0.11313386156398735,0.0,0.0,0.08382141235890286,0.0,0.29213499603784737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16749430313206434,0.0,0.0933684856712386,0.0,0.1855210112398105,0.0,0.0,0.08936013085010458,0.09169337404238916,0.0,0.0,0.04123021657423124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07174801444353124,0.0,0.0,0.056333064294239725,0.08556137973826668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08504841755607839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06736178486598869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16301480633276672,0.08975304272330474,0.07919722810061165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08855638514428614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08817285038581164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08075282026539149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812132596830407,0.0,0.07207126511775487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08445406975724785,0.0,0.07150601845014685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059733886158690436,0.17990367849430916,0.06739645628719942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09231237796886944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06345312493082446,0.0,0.07376330845244264,0.07769784821359814,0.0,0.0,0.11213408064876776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07999481187824348,0.16128248942038453,0.0,0.22918956065801005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0497772499377234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06143919797239428,0.08570531198525765,0.0,0.11990090510010618,0.09227063071157413,0.10254688058288428,0.10869280733089848
divorce,_divorce_throwaway_,2020/03/19,"Lawyer recommendations, northwest CT Does anyone have a recommendation for a good divorce lawyer in northwest CT? Sadly, the courts are shut down by this whole coronavirus situation for all but the most urgent business, but I’d like to know what to expect from this process and also have all my ducks in a row and be ready to proceed swiftly when things get back to normal, whenever that may be. 

A bit more on what I am looking for: I am not looking to do my spouse any harm or give them an unfair deal, but I have a feeling there is a potential for things to get ugly and I also do not want to be taken advantage of myself. I also foresee the process being potentially complicated by some factors beyond our control having to do with shared debts and assets that will be difficult to get out from under. (More debt than asset unfortunately...) So the long and short of it is, I am looking for someone skilled, on the ball, and willing to be a bulldog in defending my interests if absolutely needed but not necessarily someone “aggressive” per se.

Thank you in advance for any recommendations. Any moral support would be much appreciated as well. All of the backstory behind this post is another post for another day, but needless to say a divorce or even the process of considering and moving forward towards one is never a happy time.",10.124641148325354,8.257742906882594,10.079013617960985,62.795053367684964,59.202429149797574,12.544571218255427,42.29260213470739,11.20814326018867,4.806120647773279,1066,49,179,22,11,354,147,247,0.09699999999999999,0.743,0.16,0.9264,2,0,0,0,2,0,23.0,1,1,1,4,10,13,1,0,17,0,26,0,0,1,4,35,40,21,0,6,11,1,1,1,0,4,0,1,0,0,10,9,0,1,2,1,2,3,4,4,1,1,1,5,13,9,41,28,10,25,1,1,3,0,10,14,0,6,9,145,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32804388857224315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789561011847596,0.28675984764851004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09560919424700344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10514176788432346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14928061585571625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15336137776483336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08818359606305443,0.14096911239689278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11965885008252256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903130309007408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06913797741432683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2143172060741257,0.13116991028829894,0.0,0.11468791384449517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14555832483131065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07514668980856076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06680244517724311,0.0,0.0,0.12100731507794267,0.3444721406658905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14532903826400187,0.10051690728250604,0.10138822751822442,0.1054594574780197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13397253374063442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09265604983795747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619111395813166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087381871403034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15369732059658922,0.0,0.0,0.2317124320100875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15516672311967106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12588840605127052,0.0,0.0,0.18168303243213166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07973203113864112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806506074022653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12294234736660492,0.0,0.0,0.15266118625033115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09713353827806102,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,StarlightSunMoon,2020/03/19,"Losing friends during a divorce At first they were all super supportive and wanted to know details, now only a few keep in contact. I stayed with one in particular for 3 days when he filed and now she says she doesn’t want to get involved. She has been trying to get me to me to open up about my marriage since last September before he filed, before I knew we were even getting a divorce. I confided in her and we spoke constantly, she even made an appointment for me to go see the lawyer I retained while I was working as a favor. She was very pro me getting a divorce because she knew he had not been treating me well. I moved to a different state to be with my STBX and my support system here is small compared to where I’m from. I realize people are going through a lot right now with COVID... but no little texts to see how I am? No returned texts? This just adds to the loneliness. 

Yes I am in therapy. No, they were not friends with my STBX.",2.836236910994767,4.562824073298433,3.9546302356020964,87.97184064136127,75.282722513089,6.869240837696338,27.12074607329843,7.645422480735847,1.5010023560209431,742,29,152,10,16,241,117,191,0.07200000000000001,0.816,0.11199999999999999,0.5733,1,0,0,0,3,0,18.0,2,0,2,4,12,9,0,0,10,1,15,0,0,2,1,28,34,9,0,2,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,12,0,2,4,0,0,3,6,1,1,2,12,4,29,8,27,21,3,27,0,1,2,0,24,11,0,1,10,109,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544691731224626,0.0,0.26646828500553155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16920239494062222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009781869842301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635879791982122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20683316463725707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13318296467569252,0.0,0.0,0.2419395483923104,0.0,0.3272167595042884,0.0,0.17797082879389006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13917141957100138,0.0,0.0,0.08604975112728415,0.1276298578696641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15692969573576845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17516783455634158,0.0,0.13311481530816086,0.0,0.14815543979631834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16641488275855204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10609955074940884,0.11908265568246434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10854967535811144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13371454554642942,0.0,0.12451505136543235,0.0,0.0,0.2495406614834591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12952079804872468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16688855518696405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35535984197570936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17905762824917734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10630442624151312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12919111204228825,0.18470446836471627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14078009850934628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11398876406835758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,spartan0116,2020/03/19,"Just my story,some advice is still appreciated thank you kindly. Hello, So to start off we have beautiful 4 year old boy together. we got married after her stroke for insurance reasons. And there were many red flags that I ignored. I remember when she was in recovery I read messages from her lover while she was in ICU. I was heartbroken 😔 like bad. When she was in recovery I broke down tell her I was willing to fix it. I forgave her and was willing to work things out. I couldn’t see my son without his mother. 

We got married immediately after she got out of recovery so my insurance can kick in. We we’re doing great things. So I thought. My gut feeling was that she was still talking to this guy. But I was in denial. On a trip to Disney I noticed her on her cellphone a lot. On the hotel when she was sleeping I decided to snoop through her phone and what do you know, she’s been talking to this dude behind my back. I was 😔 hurt. I should have called it quits right there. But again when you have a kid together it makes it really hard. (Crying because I’m missing him).

Well, Yesterday on her way to do her boob job, because she always been self conscious about her body, and again I want it to make her happy. I get her cell phone from the nurse and again I decided to check ,And behold she is calling this guy baby sending him pictures of my boy. FUCK. I lost it. I threw the cellphone slamming it to the ground. I then pick it up back up and threw it in the sewers. And immediately called her sister and her mom to go to the house just so things would go easy. On the way home I snapped. Fuck it she doesn’t care about me. I let know I want a divorce. One of the worst days of my life. 

Through it all my step father told me that everyone goes through this but your pain your pain. It don’t matter hard well prepared you are or how many times you practice something to get excellent results. Win or lose that’s life. Fuck i cried hard.  Ya take care, stay safe and healthy lol, thank you for reading my story. I love you all and if you’re going through this hang in there, you are stronger than you know.",1.5583326253186058,3.7839489836448585,2.6779354290569235,93.18845369583687,81.35981308411216,5.6666100254885325,22.811384876805445,6.883109765328512,0.5874981308411211,1647,56,356,19,44,525,208,428,0.102,0.74,0.157,0.9728,1,0,1,0,1,0,49.0,4,12,0,6,25,28,3,0,12,1,33,14,4,6,2,52,67,28,0,6,9,5,5,1,1,4,5,0,1,6,25,17,0,2,10,3,1,9,4,13,2,1,22,7,79,15,51,39,4,53,0,5,2,6,72,20,4,4,22,247,104,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08660642233440081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07374573759635149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13629918463668514,0.07400082025159185,0.10805382007216567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098445917482013,0.0,0.0,0.27149781349101404,0.0,0.1807246528851036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947077669700193,0.057157837858256115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08468801485823073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044813065913871374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458059460946393,0.092609122043214,0.0,0.15110829496209813,0.0,0.21265213252916132,0.0977128707096541,0.0,0.17551164552006682,0.0,0.09434633538508083,0.2381802968942585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08890128117296088,0.0,0.0,0.10226500915246686,0.0948782894245442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08794978353381279,0.0,0.0,0.0922926009623042,0.14612317381311415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906283089379784,0.12520139554693244,0.04329924725734359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09915225242771317,0.09674811746343924,0.07534850106888732,0.07999038402701107,0.0,0.1183199838520664,0.17971010801248766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038002419650264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10090375938133724,0.09300035593253464,0.0,0.060056741952750785,0.0,0.1886132440327895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426696863771443,0.17730430880830944,0.0,0.0567774753882629,0.09112452013364547,0.0,0.0,0.10039843999152157,0.07568797323353416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07062517705106468,0.0,0.09245851077388816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08869217656725835,0.0,0.0,0.06823029552574232,0.0,0.0,0.06273147514931231,0.09446583725319642,0.14155714267443714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06663735420075488,0.14247193232400746,0.07746492734161847,0.16319382339925856,0.0,0.0,0.17664185471513374,0.0,0.0,0.0703608674051789,0.051679798867277284,0.0,0.0,0.08468801485823073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10455038231310884,0.1406978326640813,0.0,0.0,0.15937473794262516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08543439352587702,0.0,0.06452236358036123,0.0,0.0,0.06295890935913169,0.0,0.0,0.05707363592478454
divorce,throw947968,2020/03/19,"Struggling to cope with my ex husband’s emotional abuse I’m not sure if I’m venting or reaching out for help, but I have a nonexistent support network and struggling to keep it together.

Married 11 years, divorces oct 4, I deployed oct 21, and I’ve been stuck out here in the desert since then- thanks to covid I will likely be stuck here for the foreseeable future, and it’s hard to describe how devastating that is, this has been an incredibly stressful several months.

Ex is a textbook covert passive aggressive narcissist. Leaving was very hard. We have 2 kids that are in his custody right now. I’m friends with his roommate who gives me updates about my children because he either won’t, or I have to put up with his mental abuse if I want to talk to the kids.

At first it was just constantly having tinder hookups flowing through the house, complete strangers spending the night. I can’t imagine how confusing that must be for my 4 and 7 year old to have their mother deployed, and walk out of their room- which is attached to my ex’s- and see tonight’s new rando in bed with their father. I have been begging him to not bring casual hookups into the house, even going so far as to offering to pay babysitting fees in addition to the child support I pay, so he can go out whenever he wants, if he just keeps it out of the house. Well, he did that for a while but then I found out he was just pocketing my money and having fuck buddies babysit my children.

Then for the past few months he starts floating the idea of rekindling, working things out. Well I never wanted to divorce in the first place, but I felt like I had no choice from the way he treated me, so of course it sounds enticing to have my family back. He would tell me how much he misses me, how he wants his family all together, etc etc, then I’d call an hour later and he’d have a fuck buddy over. He did this to me over and over and I kept fucking falling for it. Finally I told him if he wants to even consider this, he needs to go no contact with all fuck buddies and he told me he wasn’t willing to do that, and he didn’t want me that much anyway, and basically dumped me.

The thing is, when we divorced I was so happy. I felt so free, like I just got out of prison. But over the course of this deployment he has been breaking me down to the point where I can’t even function. I struggle to focus on work, my boss has to take me to the ER last week when I couldn’t calm down, and now I’m on like a ton of tranquilizers, anxiety meds and antidepressants. I feel like he saw how happy I was moving on, and just did everything he could to make my life a living nightmare.

I’m so hurt and lost, I feel like I’m going through the grieving process all over again from square one. I miss my girls so damn much, but I’m afraid to call because my ex always ends up monopolizing the conversation and I always end up sobbing. Everyone at work thinks I’m a suicide risk- I’m not, but I am clearly a hot mess- and they have to take turns checking on me to make sure I’m sleeping and eating and taking my meds and seeing my psychiatrist or whatever.

And now I might have to stay here even longer watching helplessly as my kids are neglected and exposed to potentially dangerous situations. Of course I’m documenting this and will get full custody when I get back (he’s not even fighting me on this, he doesn’t want them), but it doesn’t help me right now.

I didn’t used to be like this. I was happy and healthy. He’s always been abusive but I just sort of handled it better and I loved doting on my family and taking care of my girls... This all feels so hopeless, I feel like I’m lost in the dark and there’s just no way out. I have no one to talk to about this, so I guess I just wanted someone to hear me. Thanks for reading.",3.9546356499542448,4.922216236671005,4.679363531281608,86.87817740692581,71.2886866059818,7.776920483552472,28.28495400471993,8.045849151850463,1.6509023069883924,2982,108,631,40,54,959,322,769,0.18100000000000002,0.695,0.124,-0.9933,0,1,0,0,7,2,75.0,2,0,5,8,47,55,9,7,29,0,59,8,1,9,9,123,132,68,2,17,28,7,9,8,1,7,1,2,2,8,27,47,1,4,10,2,8,10,18,27,3,4,30,16,80,29,97,89,13,94,0,10,5,5,73,42,6,11,46,411,107,8,0.0,0.21082458798154452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14805667207801188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04537341527452175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09121432795980552,0.0,0.07231192620590013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052456525697591516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12112809364267735,0.0,0.060472400486565235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0621873632212856,0.0640950564007267,0.0,0.04735569888437898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06069084631310905,0.0,0.06671786627965091,0.10506541745990622,0.0,0.13229681832133044,0.19587464110094333,0.0,0.0,0.05667502987735705,0.05330568086025958,0.0,0.16774184640580056,0.0,0.11995944662612636,0.12711722712368267,0.11389738572722025,0.06497325024552658,0.0,0.10090128612541388,0.0,0.06503239985344351,0.04582420067166707,0.2193314581331892,0.06197600413117786,0.056897346583797914,0.13483320154223,0.0,0.047437117616344684,0.0,0.06533870746256479,0.0,0.0,0.1894157533053426,0.1062635640968185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06684878382605301,0.0,0.07951098730336642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058410240709502785,0.2053137905815828,0.06349457944964414,0.06695587743809381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10543822373085056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048347087175944485,0.0,0.06280270231411883,0.0,0.0,0.041893725134469637,0.23181425481138376,0.0,0.05237346446978067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12949181668734236,0.0,0.053531274906150624,0.0,0.07918226246216634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13176422481828093,0.0,0.059772410797169474,0.06292051702736852,0.0,0.0,0.09468433141358702,0.063039127194818,0.13080313843199454,0.043978997225371824,0.04574496764904358,0.057283769940330714,0.0,0.05566016850231882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06223782621312654,0.0,0.08038251103669769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05661988753455165,0.0,0.0,0.06196827625796818,0.0,0.05606888481778948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059624807545830064,0.0,0.0,0.05932791680095958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10130401926525373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09452775640480623,0.0,0.0,0.06700552631792803,0.0,0.0490633886057784,0.0666690226421946,0.0593547004880427,0.0,0.05025475172955395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04198124414994976,0.06321855763979006,0.0,0.0,0.06794154230114477,0.18601692151562507,0.0,0.06487755488196606,0.13461280569923034,0.11180146387177896,0.0,0.17838056762095694,0.0953452626639666,0.05184118530683483,0.10921279513324443,0.0,0.0,0.07880833677453944,0.03800464893202946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11335005975471413,0.0,0.0,0.06451427855926413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05122640893122405,0.0,0.048938501229423635,0.27986940306506264,0.09415799724748423,0.047576401403058535,0.0,0.1066569815069454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295392349128585,0.0,0.0,0.04213344798491064,0.0,0.0,0.07638979439207368
divorce,youmustbeaweasley93,2020/03/19,"Divorcing at 26 after 1 year of marriage. I am a failure. Yesterday my husband of 1 year (our anniversary was a week ago) asked me for a divorce. It's my fault entirely, I have severe mental health problems which I have left untreated which have caused me to treat him appallingly. I take the whole responsibility on myself.

That being said I just feel unutterably lost, devastated, like a failure. How do I face my friends? How do I face my family? How do I continue on knowing I got a divorce so young and couldn't make the one person who has treated me with such respect and love, happy? I really feel like I just don't want to go on.",3.091818181818184,5.114919360000002,4.984218181818182,79.56810909090913,75.4,8.385454545454545,28.163636363636364,9.095868883498916,2.5502,500,21,96,12,11,171,83,125,0.191,0.648,0.161,-0.4837,0,0,0,0,2,0,16.0,1,0,0,1,7,11,0,0,7,0,12,4,2,5,0,16,24,6,0,3,2,1,2,2,1,0,1,1,0,1,5,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,3,0,1,4,3,21,8,11,18,1,14,0,1,0,1,13,5,0,0,10,67,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18073833793228825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19061189954698365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20945369141066766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19221163800227195,0.0,0.20618827880974602,0.14566079345901944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15752678642759993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11587676725054645,0.0,0.16307140301328066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170472841831981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167281197324079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11205394783986168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22152972288245049,0.0,0.0,0.19922308558196175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22257267396309624,0.0,0.1840208794858953,0.0,0.13609978095530698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20547561445474835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13816278803550613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17803100626738824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19509752021011345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306187122743249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939483927951809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23034041137741856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15330173339954448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12026103848525167,0.0,0.1635502095609324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276386178133059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26260008139953633
divorce,FinalSweet,2020/03/19,"Scared that my marriage leads to being unhappy and eventually divorce anyway Married for almost three years. Me f27, husband 28m. 
I am unhappy it seems like. 
I don’t have violence in my family, he has a good soul and heart and is not a bad person overall. We are staying true to one another in the sense that we aren’t cheating or anything. 
He works long hours and doesn’t really have much time for anything else. Even during lunch together he has to answer calls etc
So therefore he is not in the mood for being really outgoing or do extra stuff in the house or something for me for that matter, since I have more time for that.
Our situation is not very stable financially or socially. There is always a kind of tension in the air as to what we should be doing next and probably aren’t. 

He’s not a great communicator. It’s usually me who doesn’t shut up but I get tired too. He was never a great reader, his topics are quite limited and when going out with some people who are more versatile in more areas he just feels overwhelmed and usually not good enough, doesn’t have much to add. Therefore we don’t even go out with other people because he is not comfortable with them

We are already discussing babies. I’m trying to navigate whether I am afraid of having a baby or having a baby with him is what keeps postponing it... i know I will most likely be the care-taker and That stresses me out, I’ll never be free again. My career I haven’t quite figure out and I won’t have the time for that either.
Our support systems are far away because families are spread out across different countries and we are too in a different homeland. Which makes everything harder and isolates us, but keeps us together since there aren’t other close people to rely on for anything.

I feel like he isn’t really going to be committed , although he wants a family with kids and all. 
And I’m so not into risking to end up as a single mom, I just don’t want this as an option. 
And I also don’t want to keep being unhappy. It’s just a very isolated, boring life, yeah even before corona... not much has changed for me with having to avoid social contact

I am having a period of being depressed for a good while now and I’m afraid this makes my perceptions even worse and that someone else would be more appreciative and would find a way out...",3.397229763700352,5.3327494335512,4.7847494553376935,81.72060331825041,74.2723311546841,7.7578012401541825,25.05899111781465,8.5409612609427,1.8341443606502432,1846,61,345,35,39,614,220,459,0.136,0.775,0.08900000000000001,-0.9755,5,1,1,0,2,0,41.0,10,0,1,5,18,26,1,8,21,1,57,4,1,5,5,92,77,34,0,6,20,2,2,3,0,5,2,0,0,2,21,38,1,5,8,0,1,4,23,12,0,2,1,2,35,14,52,62,15,48,1,2,0,0,36,24,0,10,20,258,56,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08296845045508869,0.0,0.09143380509654474,0.06626002106187825,0.06894294161748042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08688188169388893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20455061741256705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778460660987349,0.0,0.0691814116522386,0.1010166614585412,0.0,0.0705044680693637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08460537749872891,0.0,0.08447735149721758,0.0,0.08765080428357193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0713638674901725,0.0,0.0,0.17313405166656373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13843133751140005,0.0,0.07338594242620022,0.08561253608600179,0.09240649232849192,0.2189027823937879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07446575136092176,0.0,0.23432816963770506,0.0,0.08378910260308221,0.05919243925424949,0.0,0.0,0.07572900613880136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043288910670460916,0.0,0.14126715247613658,0.2084873843545187,0.0,0.18269836224257616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09818491867090487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08159660267744763,0.09560485507786744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22093901885039705,0.0,0.08628191414529097,0.04553556480918063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05852373835397294,0.12143796671002087,0.0,0.0,0.07332507196463202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106142267305469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09704010367141827,0.0,0.0,0.18272637787404686,0.0,0.12780751814790725,0.0,0.08811843933871767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05614546127191266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17232603392332918,0.07234678099443485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08933292713160099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762553966391771,0.0,0.0,0.1592392848101883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08295344530114694,0.0,0.0,0.07542911326018495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13707890183111654,0.09313376704752874,0.0,0.1689227902124173,0.07020373413498117,0.06378670055104874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08831361533382699,0.0,0.0,0.09491142246803973,0.0,0.0948504511857276,0.0,0.09402415987775216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14494223553414307,0.09523093831906858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056253876707475364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19933145670742505,0.0,0.18250865330417396,0.13672997720748664,0.1466120850946889,0.06576734316605233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0603202529438497,0.0,0.08443747995553531,0.11771724180196155,0.0,0.0,0.053356634264031366
divorce,cutekelceymarie,2020/03/19,"Relocation clause I’m in Rexburg, Idaho. My divorce decree says I cannot relocate more than 300 miles (I have three children and full physical and joint legal custody). It doesn’t say if it’s driving mileage or radius. Which is it?",2.0400757575757598,4.886667704545456,3.0927272727272737,85.95075757575759,87.86363636363636,5.660606060606061,27.787878787878785,7.1686216300943375,1.8709060606060608,185,9,33,3,6,59,39,44,0.0,0.9620000000000001,0.038,0.128,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,5,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,2,5,2,4,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,2,0,20,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,dilsche,2020/03/19,"My wife just told me she wants a divorce I guess she’s not quite my wife anymore...

Anyway, after initially crying like I never have before, and fucking crawling around on the floor, I am now strangely composed. I got in my car, drove around town blaring metal really loud, and stopped in some parking lots to sit in for a little while. 

I feel like I’m weirdly ok, but also on the verge of something huge hitting me. I’m scared of that.

Does anyone know what I’m talking about? What happens?",2.2590625,4.6978401145833315,3.1498333333333366,89.57850000000002,80.14583333333334,4.673333333333334,25.225,5.6839178017228535,0.7073075000000002,385,15,72,2,10,122,72,96,0.11599999999999999,0.799,0.085,-0.4574,0,0,1,0,1,0,15.0,0,0,0,1,7,6,1,1,4,1,2,1,0,0,1,15,15,5,0,1,3,2,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,4,0,1,2,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,3,2,12,3,13,11,2,20,0,0,0,1,7,12,1,3,7,46,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722441304144304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2136050658571844,0.15060292018584084,0.0,0.0,0.3834784624698995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18327764764213736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.236591440261492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18848576635789868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108905648419547,0.15387182290412915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991209140972928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.172263884119558,0.0,0.23727199493619364,0.0,0.19046515505023104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11837052928435825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104534694279713,0.21587338605080847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18311350047147895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16611898450239332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22908955534902606,0.0,0.0,0.13798180612475444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156389904771341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16581468874211094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800723654700893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731191322766542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20581058187864296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270402609833063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,justinecz90,2020/03/19,"I've slept with a bunch of married women including my friends wives lmaooo I'll share this with you guys. I'm not a woman so the things that will be said to me will be far less than what a cheating woman would get lmao. I love sex. What man doesnt right? But I'm addicted to it. It's so much better when the line is drawn. I know reddit and their rules are strict, so I'll say this in a non profanity type of way. I love sleeping with married women. Women cheats way more than men. We all know that. They just know how to in a much secretive way. Us men are not as smart. We lash out for nothing and it becomes obvious. Women just keeps it to themselves. How many married women have I slept with? I would say like a little over 20 something... close to 30 I think. I don't know, lost count a while ago. I even gave it to a pastor's wife. I've slept with my best friends wife probably 100 times by now. Her last daughter looks like me. I'm sure its mine, but she keeps me away from her. Her husband, My friend is a doctor who gives me anything I need. Notice how I said need. Anything I want, a house, a car, money.. he wont give me jack. So I repay him with his wife. While hes at work, I'm in the house. I get what I deserve. You refuse to give me what i want, I'll gladly repay you with your wife if you have one. If not, then you have no use for me. 

Women always cheats. One time I failed with this woman. I tried flirting. She secretly called her husband and he confronted me and punched me in the nose. Not much I could do. I guess there are loyal wives out there. But you dont get to see that as much. Most american women cheats. Especially white lol. I have another friend who just got married. Unfortunately he doesn't know that his wife has been over my place for the past 2 years 😅 oops. Am I a selfish guy? Lmao I dont care. How many women cheated on me with my friends? Lol I don't know. How many times my heart broke until I couldnt feel anymore? Who knows 🤣🤣🤣. Truthfully I cant give less of a damn. To me women are for sex and pleasure. They're the most selfish pieces of shit in this planet. All they do is lie and hurt. They seek high paying jobs but dont want to do the work, they want equality, but they expect to hit you and not get hit back, they want equal pay but cant lift a finger to do a mans job because they'll break their nails 😂😂😂.

Right now I'm a supervisor at a company working in an airport who goes to law school. I have it big for me. Who knows how many women I got pregnant. You could say I destroyed 8 marriages, but it's the women's doing as well. I know for sure, I caused 8 divorces. I look at it this way, I'm doing the man a solid. Leave the garbage and get something worth while for the time being. A good woman is literally winning a lottery. Literally. They're super hard to find. Once I get a good woman, I'll settle down. For now, I like banging taken woman. 

Btw those women who got divorced, tried telling me they're pregnant with my kid. Lmaoo sike. Idc really. They ain't living with me so they can bring some guy to my place. If it's my kid? I guess I'll be the father I don't know 😂😂.

You women are something else 😂😂😂😂. I should be one to talk right? But the only reason I'm like this is cuz of these women. If you can't beat them good, beat them by being bad. 🤷🏿‍♂️",-0.29193192349818986,1.7758044825174828,1.7150930996714138,98.10950711938663,88.0909090909091,4.508720195467183,17.006066222933693,5.862370978326857,-0.6264388743786329,2555,60,611,19,83,845,292,715,0.102,0.741,0.157,0.9877,2,0,3,0,2,0,98.0,3,11,13,11,23,45,9,0,35,2,54,14,8,10,6,98,115,41,0,18,20,11,3,4,5,7,2,5,0,30,33,24,0,3,16,0,4,2,20,16,1,3,12,13,97,29,65,85,17,51,1,4,4,4,114,26,2,9,22,356,130,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0661377709733084,0.0,0.0,0.053779087478561034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05048116728074309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06361635724494379,0.0,0.0,0.06016698722518068,0.0,0.0,0.09985024033618103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057000182943769725,0.04665043814148388,0.05065577900217013,0.03698303891299188,0.06700374471107909,0.0,0.0,0.06366799312984195,0.05365648055316485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06194946305106379,0.0,0.0618557202857139,0.06232340366713925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09687794235247553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06209692223717321,0.0,0.0,0.21330957739516396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050680862622477264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04007106353813845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03067588650537856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05545003646795312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343621979825972,0.0,0.19018115760839027,0.2327955448746316,0.0,0.15265792666520792,0.14556675714017736,0.0,0.13366669026252348,0.1802144712223067,0.0,0.0,0.05434718354529449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07189262870987494,0.0,0.06409974749615747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14000692656297498,0.06494703227414915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12040852473879668,0.10785014687761496,0.0,0.0,0.3334189708801945,0.049453037698555365,0.0,0.06423932829311332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11855852908501435,0.06080591398267458,0.05357151928103546,0.0,0.10189275307651638,0.0,0.06622698559883261,0.0,0.1095116297845044,0.0,0.0,0.2460339084076807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17839371963061568,0.08997005341050254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05821319486619269,0.06907164702136148,0.0,0.06461011997370543,0.12333191865735275,0.046141233399498535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057915080231086276,0.0,0.0,0.12677162910548914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06541105343647491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0388658833211667,0.06237746470748683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15543205732875368,0.1154195363505664,0.14473840914640412,0.0,0.06139990108832216,0.048345050075453866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06227548557053096,0.0,0.0,0.06071245264765623,0.0,0.0,0.14011704571600656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11435894757183472,0.0,0.0,0.04876315352505711,0.05302706411219516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04030554762574079,0.038874013847335735,0.0,0.0,0.14150548393366413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08238004627120064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07297690216202196,0.05239822458834503,0.0,0.0,0.1789196742360201,0.1926237653389444,0.0,0.0,0.05454839200634895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13250247412578406,0.0,0.0,0.08619452021939528,0.0,0.0,0.03906861408328797
divorce,hftgt,2020/03/20,No what? After 22 years and her cheating numerous times.....i have caught her again...i have asked her to leave and she has.  Kids r grown.  Finances r equal.  I have to draw the line after 8 times.....different men some friends unfortunately.  How do I move on....this all happened this morning. Help please.,0.4600974025974018,2.536796892857144,1.1454545454545446,95.91772727272728,106.85714285714286,4.1792207792207785,19.37662337662337,6.1124844417494595,0.12119999999999995,230,8,47,3,11,70,43,56,0.163,0.696,0.141,-0.0772,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,5,0,0,1,1,5,8,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,6,1,4,7,3,6,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,1,3,25,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33768876574045376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3773944719975171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790750535838625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31942265154910426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421158767305296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38247622995333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3839160867382291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3965073618280959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326116511663382
divorce,ginger_snap77777,2020/03/20,"My wife hates me I am at the point where no matter what I do, it is not good enough.  We are 2 different people and everything I do is a disappointment.   She likes steak, I like vegetarian. I recently tried to get my wife to come visit my family. She freaked out, didn’t show.  Then accosted me when I got home. My wife is now threatening to take our assets given her situation and I am not sure if I care enough.  Should I?   We have animals and a house.",0.9348913043478221,3.160451402173912,3.517565217391308,86.2296086956522,83.8913043478261,8.027826086956521,20.069565217391304,8.841846274778883,1.4394356521739122,347,10,77,10,10,121,65,92,0.21600000000000005,0.7,0.083,-0.9169,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,0,0,0,3,8,1,0,3,0,11,0,0,0,1,13,18,6,0,2,3,3,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,7,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,3,0,0,3,0,21,5,5,14,2,10,0,1,0,0,10,4,0,1,6,55,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22656750997516306,0.0,0.0,0.19142235463861715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321719980727413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4592241300155603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19971648690749202,0.0,0.2094886932055436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11610047576440224,0.0,0.0,0.18638710730253694,0.17772917119640233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193956721225606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229041980428097,0.0,0.0,0.2564113762165258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21713036884087128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540589665668758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100691806185702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21941486960069756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24978393996242276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094391745423984,0.0,0.1670813491305641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15087240007142394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Lifeisamessica,2020/03/20,"Divorce over cigarette butts...? There are a lot of (mostly small) reasons why I am looking at a potential divorce. My husband is not always kind, he’s unapologetic, doesn’t take “no” for an answer for anything, and thinks it’s funny when he makes me cry. He is not like this a lot of the time but it’s enough to have wore me down over the years. A lot of times he is helpful, sweet and a good father. 

It feels mostly manageable most of the time. So I married an asshole... a lot of women do. Fine. I can deal. 


But for some reason, and I cannot explain why, I have reached the end of my rope after finding cigarette butts in our yard. AGAIN. 

For 11 years he has been a smoker and I have been cool about it. The only thing I’ve asked is that he doesn’t do it in the house and he throws out the butts when he’s done. It just feels so REASONABLE. And yet, I am constantly finding the discarded butts in our yard. I don’t mean a few times a year. I mean every week I go out with a little basket and pick up handfuls at a time. 

I’ve lost count how many times and the different ways I’ve asked him to just put them in our outside trash. Every time it’s “oh of course sorry honey it’ll never happen again” and a few days later I find them again. 

Today I found about 30 on the ground again, RIGHT NEXT TO THE TRASH. How hard is it to lift the lid and put it in?!

You would think after 11 years and constant lies about this that I would be unaffected, but I can’t explain it. I just feel snapped. It just reeks of total disrespect. Disregard for me and the safety of our small children, bc I have to pick all these up before they can play outside or our 1 year old will eat them. My husband has not once gone out to pick them up. 

I know this is a long rant and I’m sorry. But I wanted to ask in this thread bc you have been through or are going through divorce. I feel like I have reached my Limit but also maybe divorce over cigarettes isn’t worth it. It’s a lot of pain over litter.",1.6026816239316233,3.1793662980769213,2.985897435897435,94.23688034188037,78.32692307692307,5.872222222222222,20.930555555555557,6.56203326957186,0.11865138888888847,1524,39,351,13,36,496,190,416,0.095,0.8290000000000001,0.076,-0.6767,1,0,4,0,4,0,49.0,5,2,5,2,20,11,0,0,29,1,37,7,5,9,3,73,63,27,0,3,14,3,6,2,1,4,1,0,2,2,22,17,1,2,19,3,1,6,11,3,0,0,8,11,40,8,50,50,14,64,0,1,1,4,38,25,4,11,34,233,62,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06800566009028855,0.07075926294808332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06997985379462829,0.0,0.2384999655533311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07236192825677071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18379390347805066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09341135182941986,0.05484312192649832,0.08767147819107947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884765865600401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08702442512729194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701613022643585,0.0,0.0,0.07531931587194986,0.08786802260589506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14329805570143295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17199310050246452,0.060751880837470976,0.0,0.0,0.23317232478576802,0.0,0.0,0.0932408776340064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09665925042234694,0.07132668118877714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07519970963437228,0.0,0.0761782434542911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05699985126198341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09812359207273773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08855503561981194,0.04673521216572735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08309152290011218,0.08523142169772888,0.0,0.07525684176082514,0.07141134502049909,0.0,0.09283011746113776,0.3614855972463088,0.0,0.0,0.05676419493711559,0.08621620178840812,0.08543310867676249,0.1852648089230898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06558732171268937,0.0,0.09043994458980446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08923412869927186,0.09056376297523948,0.0,0.06467599389504335,0.09048749504044183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709753721794274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623027753731575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07262284403951913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903884035473289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06393874712955698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05649613502111369,0.1089791189800939,0.0,0.0,0.34710848619056395,0.0,0.0806070316306017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050158207338764985,0.06750000245570603,0.06821315884829766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534689467328009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12081853589020845,0.0,0.0,0.2738116495565979
divorce,amalgaman,2020/03/20,"COVID-19 delay. Argh!!!! It's been almost three years, basically due to her delaying and delaying and delaying. I finally had a court date for next week. Nope, not any more. Honestly, everything has been signed. Can't we just video conference and get it over?",2.641149068322981,5.6448219347826125,3.6467701863354063,80.62152173913044,90.52173913043478,9.585093167701864,26.13664596273292,9.23628265651192,3.5674385093167698,203,9,36,8,7,65,40,46,0.134,0.866,0.0,-0.7323,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,12,6,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,4,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,1,3,0,3,1,3,3,1,11,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,10,22,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4110328180086133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2791380255277268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3689097175989399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4496568285544968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21445697543832312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4365463045440392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32925940580305096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643333414171849
divorce,jctigerstripes,2020/03/20,"Wife wants to get divorced so she can try and get financial assistance as a single mother TL,DR: My wife (34, formerly made about $25K/year) wants to divorce me (36, $77K/year salary) because she wants to qualify for ""single mother""-type government financial assistance. Please tell me why this won't (or will?) work. 

Hello all. I apologize if this doesn't belong in this sub, but I feel this community would probably know best. For a while now my wife (34) and I (36) have had our disagreements about money. Mostly just her dissatisfaction at how little we have (we have similar financial goals). We make a good amount of money now (though her job is uncertain due to the California lockdown), but I've accumulated debt and really am unable to save any part of my paycheck. Debt isn't frivolous: she's a foreign national so the whole visa process, plane tickets, were things I couldn't really afford. Then we had a baby  a year after getting married after which she was a stay-at-home mom for two years. Between a couple of moves, healthcare premiums, daycare for my daughter (4 years old now), I've taken on some debt, $15K at this point, over the course of 5-6 years. We have savings to pay it off, but want cash-on-hand for a down payment for a house at some point in the near future.  

My wife believes that if we get divorced, under the eyes of the gov't, she'll be a single mother, and thus would be eligible for some assistance. She uses my sister as an example, who was 21 at the time of her first baby, an unmarried, full-time student, but her boyfriend (the father of her child) is very much in the picture, and she said she received some assistance from the government. Exactly what, I don't know, but my wife thinks our situation would improve should we go down this path. I am fully aware that this is welfare fraud and I tell her that.

Does anyone have any knowledge of why this wouldn't work, or why it would? I make $77K a year, which I think would matter as the father of the child. 

Here's to my first reddit hail mary. Please be kind and gently tell me to fuck off if I'm encroaching on your space.",6.012246376811596,5.974990285024155,6.528804347826089,78.9784239130435,66.43961352657004,9.991787439613526,30.535024154589372,9.725611199111238,2.6371951690821263,1654,55,328,32,24,540,214,414,0.078,0.8340000000000001,0.08800000000000001,0.3632,6,1,0,0,3,0,80.0,9,1,0,6,11,7,1,1,26,0,33,2,1,6,2,60,55,26,0,15,11,12,1,0,0,10,0,1,0,2,18,14,0,0,6,1,7,3,6,2,0,3,8,3,44,5,49,33,14,43,0,0,1,1,49,21,1,11,19,213,62,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315556775139773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06763393382853086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058964026493837876,0.0,0.0,0.1089784738492526,0.10150926868258768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10702684906335548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846466578054346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04890819786011949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16455227845599224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08942277288723535,0.20214395833780507,0.0,0.05497231843435768,0.0811302180400286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11161024580216443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959868584553802,0.0,0.0,0.10072653358654073,0.1063175207358183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09694610363122264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09152565136051252,0.1291323649260017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11328577209403475,0.0,0.10280574619129368,0.07110564950720373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10149896500614147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10474617275133984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21235492135484726,0.1828770098289172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10428832246295612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12393189100804967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200975365075424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10872546822219466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10309836573736994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25363160830762865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06426127889717438,0.12395781686890542,0.09503402022205756,0.0,0.05640243033649695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06567144525800818,0.0,0.09448845650668992,0.0,0.0,0.08354127712776696,0.0,0.07981010144423474,0.2282089243502476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618438620013509,0.10799250689599374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14083716255682793,0.0,0.0,0.343561273168838,0.0,0.0,0.4360241896056536
divorce,Relationshipgoals94,2020/03/20,"Covid and divorce. Hey. 
Just need someone to talk to. Been married less than a year but it's going horribly. When said things that I cant stop thinking about and wanted to talk them over with someone. I am so hurt that I will randomly start crying. I mean I did everything I could for this person and they destroyed me over such a small thing.",1.5907352941176498,4.151275132352944,2.301470588235297,93.70161764705885,84.44117647058823,5.1647058823529415,21.735294117647058,6.6274283507984215,0.4716411764705883,271,9,55,3,8,84,54,68,0.257,0.7120000000000001,0.031,-0.9626,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,0,0,2,0,5,2,1,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,13,13,6,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,6,4,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,3,1,9,0,9,8,1,8,0,1,0,0,8,3,0,1,4,41,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929719366087584,0.0,0.2654880576838125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21721779448272235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13735951867318938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25873701052268155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632741808938407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17921205820258074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110367238405737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299050837704405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4095708433623533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17107132141878753,0.0,0.0,0.20206590102475824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38852683871603816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3211397514252427,0.1548669088900066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14255660347992816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556421603762447
divorce,these2cents,2020/03/20,"Walking away from everything I completely stuck my head in the sand and ignored everything. I have no idea what was ordered, when it was ordered, or what (if anything) is left to be done.

I'm 63 and afraid of him. I never want to see him again. I have no money because he didn't let me have access to any. I went to court once, and he was ordered to pay temp spousal support. But he has never paid. Then he got a mean lawyer and that was it. I couldn't deal with anymore bullying so I just ignored the lawyer.

I was never allowed to go anywhere. I wasn't allowed friendships. I wasn't allowed to even drive a car. Now I'm simply afraid. We were together 20 years, but only married for 6. My kids want me to fight him, but I just can't. So I do nothing.

I would rather be homeless, living on the streets, than have to face him again. I know intellectually this is not rational. It wasn't wise to ignore everything & isn't wise to not even try for support. But I think I can apply for SS early & receive a small amount to live on. 

That's all I want. Just to not have to deal with him and his lies, bullying, demeaning, cruel ways. Money doesn't matter when all you want is to ease your mind and put all of that turmoil behind me.

BUT, I know I had support ordered for awhile. He never paid. It was ordered June 2019. Does anyone know a way to get the money he was ordered to pay me? I live in CA.",1.0944482758620708,3.1175687896551736,2.7955172413793115,92.83120689655172,81.79310344827587,5.379310344827586,22.75862068965517,6.48374012150746,0.4466551724137933,1079,37,237,10,29,356,143,290,0.125,0.83,0.045,-0.877,3,0,0,0,1,0,45.0,1,2,0,0,13,13,2,3,8,0,33,2,2,3,7,50,55,18,0,8,14,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,10,9,0,3,6,0,7,7,17,8,0,0,19,2,35,5,33,31,4,36,0,0,1,0,20,8,0,2,13,158,45,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24443435012098266,0.0,0.076706877798284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11186584555834077,0.07887136450878207,0.0,0.09282359047334607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059779449836956,0.0,0.0,0.06876094533095399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11826712707277055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23258069134252266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09871076579913901,0.11543207310636285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149004748678519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30412817357609184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05893258353761278,0.0,0.06410601187447218,0.0,0.0902152998051204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157638483004593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273358260433443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18597338917658965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12255594786265432,0.115344153351713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29880954217248445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12287068220425212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11389437396900184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34798876309567844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823324495187152,0.0,0.0,0.12012676778104528,0.0,0.08578837544286161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11339369166722475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0898858353171386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3840073522799845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07227675224959383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765828069367439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26612601452723195,0.1790684674273859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10456538016567686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08012884915403204,0.0,0.0,0.07263856394974053
divorce,thoowawayy,2020/03/20,"Logistics Like the title said, I have decided I want to leave my husband.  We have no kids together, no assets, nothing shared.  I'm not on his lease.  I don't want to be with him anymore, and the reasons are irrelevant.  I don't want to hurt him any more than I have to, but I am done.  I need a bit of advice though please.  Should I move my stuff out while he's at work and then tell him when he comes home or tell him and then move my stuff out later?  Which is the kinder, easier way for him?  Also, what do I do if he refuses to accept it and tries to come see me and talk at my new home or my job?  Do I have any recourse?  Thanks pals!",1.293596837944662,2.377660507246379,3.1549011857707505,94.78832015810279,77.98550724637681,6.757312252964428,19.79183135704875,7.348242739294969,0.13658550724637664,482,10,121,6,11,162,87,138,0.040999999999999995,0.762,0.19699999999999998,0.9685,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,4,0,15,0,0,1,0,25,25,15,0,6,5,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,2,1,5,11,0,1,3,0,0,4,5,1,0,0,2,2,23,4,15,21,2,16,0,1,1,0,19,5,0,3,7,81,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14836101765904214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12141389419994045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20649155637731376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15056897906567346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16575289036926882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26156650339635273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15536904327062806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3045844451370241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625311286780093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506622607915537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16076008660295124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0741737184589641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3227305569281248,0.0,0.11257584693250196,0.0,0.1466329230626246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14567957817714075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16665756675642387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15610073914056058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14441974373336244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12098436648484008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3476051610163524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12203067796650005,0.2654023834147285,0.13977948206715698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491666731172498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10307878152528163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26864984198383585,0.12051111842414353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11052994991050206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,reganrregan,2020/03/20,"Back home from college: quarantined parents Let me start of by introducing myself, I’m a female in college. Is anybody else here back home from school and quarantined with parents who’ve just been creeping towards divorce all their lives? With my dad working from home and my mother on vacation, all they do is fight or pretend like they don’t exist. All I want to do is go back to my school apartment, but I fear that if I do nobody will be home to defend my mom/play referee. It feels like I’ve been at tears for days now. Is anybody else in the same predicament?",6.872162162162162,6.3841457207207215,6.614189189189191,80.59263513513515,64.76576576576576,9.201801801801805,34.71621621621622,8.344100000000001,2.630091891891893,449,18,87,5,6,141,74,111,0.09,0.855,0.055,-0.594,2,2,0,0,2,0,11.0,0,0,3,1,6,4,1,1,2,0,13,0,0,0,3,14,18,5,0,2,4,4,1,2,0,1,0,0,4,0,2,4,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,1,12,2,16,13,4,13,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,2,8,60,14,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35790526786704113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10005973904094308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25921796858038354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17458832250535491,0.07844914799062623,0.11084010408799758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08817604681691331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6225175288562514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586526936960796,0.0,0.15159815498910673,0.0,0.13700142108114027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18171130176693806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.344554266867758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3140427531731184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10981687321097533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915122436648418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11295197831251153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,mcm2363,2020/03/20,"Wife(ex wife now) filled the papers. Couldn't convince her not to. Now what? Last Julye my now ex wife(f28) told me while in marriage counseling that she was divorcing me and not to come back to our house.  I tried to convince her to give the counseling a chance, instead she shacked up with a friend and they've been dating ever since.  I lost my home, pets, best friend and partner.  Now I've got to start over and I still can't wrap my head around how the absolute love of my life could do this to me. 

I thought when the papers were finally done I might feel some kinda closure, but that didn't happen and she refuses to talk about it. 

I hate this.",3.5114615384615377,4.945129530769236,3.549230769230772,92.77076923076923,72.92307692307692,7.046153846153848,25.30769230769231,7.554174236665415,0.9959076923076928,509,16,111,6,10,155,87,130,0.07400000000000001,0.8420000000000001,0.085,0.1179,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,2,12,8,1,0,6,0,10,3,1,1,1,21,21,9,0,2,3,2,1,0,3,1,1,0,2,1,6,8,0,1,2,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,9,1,19,6,15,9,2,20,0,1,0,1,18,4,0,3,14,77,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17786787687574146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15363690480143802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20968191916486453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17211341153712578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15952719630869733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20446881184970556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18073411225313551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10102688082870494,0.0,0.0,0.21887546147378886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3087360731001505,0.0,0.0,0.19167015568872964,0.0,0.0,0.15980147168301315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17668597359755325,0.0,0.0,0.19726503561604802,0.20505649669251005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20041965340737405,0.0,0.0,0.2305469327282668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628668871660291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14112743916939002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21810961455228048,0.0,0.1803308662270696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119604167637106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16527989260160106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14142226457566964,0.0,0.15956369299646164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16059484700284107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586220184088546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19092123714868905,0.0,0.13565376693913214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,TrustTheMach1nes,2020/03/20,"Physically abusive spouse served me divorce papers while I was on the stand in court, defending the need for a restraining order that she contested... Here is the back story. On March 8th of this year my (hopefully soon to be) ex wife punched me in the mouth while we were having a verbal disagreement during our car ride back home from a weekend away.
This was the wake up call I needed to realize that she had been abusive in the past and it was only getting worse. I left the house as soon as we got home and went to the police on the matter and they took her into custody for a couple days. 

During that time I considered a few other things and decided that she would likely be continually hostile if we tried to move forward with the relationship. It was at that point that I filed a restraining order against her.

The restraining order was approved for filing and we were given a juncture date to meet in court. When I arrived in the court room I noticed that she had brought a lawyer. They contested the restraining order and put me on the stand and her lawyer asked about 30 questions, trying to get me to contradict what I had said/written in my prior statement, and were also trying to provoke me act out in some way that they could use against me.
I stood my ground and remained composed. However, upon seeing that they weren’t getting a reaction they served me the divorce papers while I was on the stand. The restraining order was awarded and we are to have no direct contact in any form for two years.

No surprise, but she wants everything, even though it was her abuse that lead us down this path.
Other pertinent facts: The house is in my name. We were only married 1yr and 3mo. There are no children. I'm 33 and she is 24. We live in WI.

All that being said, what is my best recourse? I feel like I have a few things in my corner that would help me keep the house and some belongings, but I most certainly don't have the money to go back and forth legally for months and months on end, to ultimately be left with all the bills, the mortgage, and a huge legal fee.

Given my situation is it even worth fighting?",6.004393203883495,6.365671313106798,6.1027339805825225,80.66168349514564,66.45145631067962,9.019184466019418,30.55766990291262,8.841846274778883,2.3248006601941738,1679,58,322,25,25,533,207,412,0.07,0.855,0.075,0.4853,3,0,0,0,5,0,39.0,9,0,5,4,13,9,2,0,33,0,36,2,2,3,4,60,58,27,0,8,3,3,1,2,0,2,0,1,3,1,25,27,0,6,5,1,4,11,5,2,0,1,25,3,52,7,49,26,9,73,0,0,1,0,40,32,0,6,25,242,77,8,0.0,0.363101416312908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08169118035513448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06946708646892172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09549863778418456,0.0,0.09597547546311036,0.23564650585112096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10720256667327986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043089489182088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08156032225667549,0.11302960873870953,0.0,0.06587980116049183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904766428110806,0.0,0.0,0.13494129937018748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180792621579074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05165128672500023,0.07297764403460583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.160111126692314,0.0,0.05805552250180759,0.0,0.08170054905457506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06847055264924153,0.0,0.20493422935667108,0.10146031168233313,0.0,0.35361021625841177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907976833649511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219776080534496,0.0,0.0,0.09981293577922606,0.0,0.0902023777599217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16307402835727974,0.1085717590472498,0.0,0.15148931472786148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11630110328654453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155382898273847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09751595652150864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965669691725277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10269130500646667,0.1144339868031992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10967337158248244,0.0,0.0,0.19434051448405312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140218026768144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148234974741054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357309361970857,0.0,0.10036414429249577,0.0,0.059565844352502124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11349499585782875,0.2080641771979359,0.0,0.09978798182644448,0.0,0.12287667374215855,0.08822681364462061,0.0,0.0,0.06025209014310288,0.08108376372290431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09469623212570966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041019500633578,0.1451321668306216,0.0,0.0,0.1315655009748763
divorce,cececela3,2020/03/20,"What do you realize the most after you are ending your marriage? I realized that ex husband to be is a party animal. He will never be ready to settle down. But I still do hope he will someday find the right person that is way much better than me. I hope he will because he deserves it.

On the bright side, I find myself back. I'm able to figure out what I need in life and find my true self back again. Myself that love being alone, animal lover, love t read, love to nurturing plants, gardening, hiking, nature, and also love to help others who needs. I'm hoping after all the emotion rollercoaster is done and my divorce is finalized (which is suck!), I want to be able to volunteer my time for animal shelter or anything to help other. It is still hurt because you are losing this big gap in my heart.",4.442767548906787,5.4726548417721546,5.471311852704262,81.41920023014964,70.20253164556962,8.2771001150748,25.123130034522447,8.575989854853784,1.6839417721518992,627,17,119,10,11,207,99,158,0.054000000000000006,0.679,0.268,0.9908,0,1,0,0,1,0,22.0,0,4,0,2,6,15,1,0,5,0,18,7,1,0,3,22,31,6,0,6,2,2,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,2,12,4,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,17,12,17,23,3,20,0,2,1,5,22,8,1,5,11,84,29,1,0.25475760197223524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13192602238521248,0.0,0.101864781127905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10482189983434301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958928706683517,0.0,0.15529786958770234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11265619814375567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13035273838389322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14328400639148786,0.11281980964251175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395372502536884,0.3492657493192822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509444924735641,0.17075865054221384,0.0,0.0,0.3795476720164797,0.0,0.0,0.13636164096666378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08997141417517752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14250429606803372,0.0,0.0,0.4598573643615936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09363807511748383,0.18889953384055894,0.09824238397448733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11122225579168388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274132714986884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10878080005620026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13288386971276722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20344975001883714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07427560320818796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07513131709254607,0.10110736322762999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Hulikkala,2020/03/20,Is it just me Is it just me or does anyone else just sit there listening to your parents argue and start the listening session by kinda laughing bu then it all turns into sadness about halfway till the other one leaves the house? (I'm a child of divorce and now listening to my stepmom and my dad arguing.),5.224,6.1381047333333365,5.993333333333332,78.81000000000002,68.33333333333334,8.666666666666668,33.33333333333333,8.841846274778883,2.9028333333333336,244,11,44,4,4,80,46,60,0.084,0.87,0.046,-0.3384,1,0,0,0,1,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,6,4,2,0,4,0,2,0,0,0,1,10,8,6,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,3,5,1,7,8,1,6,0,1,0,0,10,1,0,2,4,34,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23529102285893203,0.34478753091568104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29447641988597495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811054371954488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.388279779243746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3563085458803683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22802343343798734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3736472373263868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381788602423644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3660191032385667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Everline,2020/03/20,"No kids, separate financials (prenup). What are the next steps towards divorce? We're 36, have been together for approx 10 years, married the last 3. I'm drained. We got to a point where it just seems impossible to communicate and share interests (hobbies or just basic interest in the other person). We're seeing a couple's therapist and we're still stuck, it seems hopeless and maybe it's time to take the decision to separate. We have no kids, we have separate financials although we own a property together 50-50 in another piece that we're renting out. We rent an appt together and I can't afford to live there by myself. My family or support system is in another country.

Where to start? What would be the next steps to consider? Thank you",4.387190476190471,6.610511242857143,5.6485714285714295,75.34476190476191,72.28571428571428,10.095238095238095,31.666666666666664,10.317481424215053,3.8899523809523817,594,28,103,19,12,198,90,140,0.084,0.825,0.091,0.2593,3,0,0,0,1,1,21.0,5,1,0,0,6,6,0,0,9,0,9,0,0,0,0,18,19,7,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,7,10,0,0,3,0,2,2,3,1,0,0,3,1,9,5,14,14,2,18,0,1,1,0,11,8,0,4,7,65,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4098620105741125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21624549805226434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18423905511977592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15630750312771324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15930589503958315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17257299500420675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19634107784087484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4156954247753147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706466097351442,0.0,0.0,0.1847495764794181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15573667122229445,0.3558340060539502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383301469609655,0.0,0.15607492333729944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217777196965792,0.0,0.0,0.14694306132192692,0.0,0.0,0.17993061314284076,0.0,0.2269155050708272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139599245069239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13883166565781396,0.0,0.0,0.1258539581012648
divorce,dramat227,2020/03/20,"Missing something that was never there. Today, in isolation because of COVID, I found myself missing my ex- (married 8 years, divorced for 1.5, no kids).  

I found myself wishing I were not alone in such a frightening, uncertain time.  That I had someone to hold my hand, hug me, hold me while I sleep.  

And then I thought a little more.  He didn’t touch me romantically for 4 years before we split.  We were roommates. 

It’s easy to remember things were better than they were, but he was cold, and I was very much alone with him, too.   

It’s important for me to remember that.",3.1192660550458733,5.327832165137618,3.9252201834862386,86.33480275229358,75.97247706422019,6.928807339449541,26.496330275229358,7.908726449838941,1.6329845871559634,442,17,86,7,10,141,74,109,0.096,0.745,0.159,0.6937,0,3,1,0,1,0,23.0,2,0,1,1,3,5,0,1,2,0,9,3,2,0,1,17,15,5,0,1,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,5,0,2,5,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,12,3,19,2,11,3,2,10,0,2,0,1,9,3,0,1,7,60,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4021241387832109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11834098560266695,0.0,0.16519192220868614,0.0,0.0,0.17169386235594705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4257111488276358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19457113321893224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427092609674421,0.0,0.1497264653837483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4398271281341751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19427206892278734,0.0,0.16448730279867718,0.14945219734174925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12897258774507586,0.0,0.0,0.15411901941137085,0.1131998541026428,0.0,0.18401431276604427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16017912323112155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22324206888994227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25002911781391546
divorce,1and1makes2,2020/03/20,"What are things you'd wished you'd considered before you got married? My parents got divorced and caused huge amounts of emotional and financial damage to everyone in the family, plus a few extended family members. How do I watch for signs that a divorce might happen before I commit to getting married? I dont want that damage happening to my loved ones or myself.

Also, how do I protect myself before marriage? And is protecting yourself a lack of commitment?

I'm almost 22 and very naive, so I could use a reality check before I move forward with my romantic life.",6.5697142857142845,7.818062161904758,7.454285714285718,68.33571428571429,65.47619047619048,10.571428571428571,35.95238095238096,10.608840637214634,4.381952380952382,457,22,70,12,7,153,73,105,0.11199999999999999,0.7170000000000001,0.171,0.7611,1,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,0,3,0,0,4,3,0,0,5,0,9,2,0,4,2,20,19,10,0,4,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,6,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,2,0,1,2,1,14,1,9,13,3,4,0,2,1,1,8,3,0,3,1,51,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16510102163008494,0.0,0.0,0.13185249465962626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5611945091846036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16937463254975474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13164128499594868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932352276715108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18546502018024852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575475378043702,0.0,0.0,0.3108637077643138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08614170010099588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2637352321529976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2916012961217459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11645786969449305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14880840072326731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17490899531047827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17523871264597266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11172527587342224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18307697608187154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095372992670162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424012411663241,0.0,0.13604122290215515,0.0972490342199526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896010131805631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,archaeogoro,2020/03/20,"It feels real now... We're working with a mediator and she just emailed us a draft of the dissolution of marriage paperwork. 

He told me he didn't love me anymore about four weeks ago and I moved out of the apartment a few days later when I found out he was also cheating on me. We were married for three years, together for five, and he was the love of my life and the person I was more than happy to spend the rest of my life with, have children with, etc. We had some issues, but we were talking about going to marriage counseling -- of course now I look back over our relationship and see a LOT of red flags and other terrible things he said/did to me, but I was blind in love (cliche I know) and kept thinking I could fix everything on my own, even if he didn't want to. 

Despite everything, I still love him so much, even though I know I would never take him back because he's hurt me so much and I don't think I could ever fully trust him. I can't watch or read anything with romance because it hurts so bad. Seeing everything laid on in ink on the paperwork made it real and made it hurt even more, somehow. 

Sorry, just wanted to vent how I'm feeling. I've been journaling per my therapist's advice but I felt like screaming into a different void.",5.832412823397077,5.277589350393704,6.351856017997752,81.83732283464569,66.91338582677164,9.461867266591675,31.13498312710911,8.841846274778883,2.2709266591676047,981,33,205,14,14,320,146,254,0.18100000000000002,0.7559999999999999,0.063,-0.9866,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,5,0,0,1,21,15,1,0,11,0,16,7,0,3,2,50,40,21,0,6,7,0,3,1,0,1,3,1,0,2,6,19,0,1,8,1,1,2,5,7,0,3,16,10,32,8,31,21,10,26,0,3,6,4,28,11,0,5,14,143,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10178581930530056,0.09233325423062376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.083298247013843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033006320527093,0.0,0.0,0.08571638213111023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601881685554725,0.08697084945374411,0.12699227503760166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16632962922877353,0.0,0.0,0.06717581905945122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088270330367148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161680708865642,0.2063938904746221,0.09422041688078182,0.0,0.0,0.2808420425254984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10533478942274778,0.0,0.10001177463555652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11420816512380418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05919761757450651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11088229702577937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3345224579099159,0.0,0.0,0.10871797873850292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144893305073895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147145284153478,0.050888250993378216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08746977603350635,0.0,0.0,0.0885547365657276,0.3760407856728159,0.19712104789493184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11070763287455468,0.15314198734188886,0.0,0.08033609140395903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909501677988149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10419010422074293,0.2371181299063284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11183091684076052,0.0,0.0,0.0990818354558916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16600712316617974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11660073769007755,0.0,0.0,0.08318384108976018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07831679811772095,0.08372140292099481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12094001336666595,0.06920054895530955,0.1334855004730876,0.10233855412867517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09953117500225532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12529396046326566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12287479421944895,0.0,0.08355240648787443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07583111579397155,0.0,0.0,0.07399363694927659,0.0,0.0,0.06707685916069911
divorce,nightlyear,2020/03/20,"Life after divorce with kids My divorce is almost final and truth be told it cannot get here soon enough.  I’ve had my moments, but overall self reflected, got myself into a good spot and am happy.  

I have children and a good custody split 50/50, and everything has gone surprisingly smooth up until now.  Hopefully that continues. 

My question for folks that have moved on with kids.  I’m at the age that most single woman have kids and I’m fine with that.  Once those serious vibes happen again and their kids are involved and my kids etc, if they have more custody, how do you get past spending more time with their kids than your own?   

I am not anywhere near this point but the thought crossed my mind today picturing my potential life post divorce and the thought has been on my mind.  If anyone is been through it, how did/do you handle it and any tips for anyone I’m a similar situation?",4.592887989203779,6.225746678362576,4.652280701754389,85.13647773279355,70.52046783625731,7.600719748088169,28.358524516419248,8.139509932561175,1.846369860548808,706,26,135,10,13,219,107,171,0.008,0.861,0.131,0.971,0,0,0,0,3,0,17.0,0,3,3,0,6,8,0,0,6,0,17,2,0,2,1,31,29,16,0,3,5,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,9,9,14,0,0,4,0,1,3,2,1,0,0,8,1,16,7,16,20,7,23,0,0,0,0,21,7,0,6,12,91,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17041750450304094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11573286520723633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379971460032461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17584846618113656,0.18980327746418876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529529290744261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18643132919718172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17783116566961388,0.0,0.0,0.2854892397224812,0.13611393699835853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150495632020562,0.18116702143398267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16903390040791372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24041595063587876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34368032199354964,0.0,0.0,0.18088164329087547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812433959304716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624625650121016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16088154253763634,0.0,0.1629919178216609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906481737325536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17754195682067675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912971024305052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702186305653452,0.0992372961904408,0.0,0.1613171943020907,0.16262078797655868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,EllevenElleven1111,2020/03/20,"Have something to say to her mom and dad My ex and I have been divorced for almost three years. We have two kids together. We are on good terms now and things have calmed down to the point that we are very amicable. She has moved on and is happy with a new bf. We divorced for many reasons but the main reason being for her (and I'm sure the rest of her family) because I cheated on her with a couple of escorts. I'm sure her family hates me but because I don't do that kind of thing anymore and have changed my ways and become a better person I would somehow like to make amends and at least tell her mother and father I feel bad for what I did and offer a sincere apology in the form of a letter. 

My ex is coming to my office in a few weeks because I do a service she wants done and I trade with her  with what she does. My idea was that I could give her a letter (sealed maybe) and ask her to give it to her folks the next time she sees them. I'm sure she would read it beforehand but the hope would be that she would at least pass it on. Bad idea? Good idea? Depends? I'm not sure but I would love to at least have a chance to apologize, even if I'm never forgiven.",1.9078800000000025,3.1643130280000022,3.3034,93.64270000000002,76.72,6.28,20.9,6.742157984588678,0.1507200000000002,907,21,212,8,20,297,126,250,0.075,0.748,0.17600000000000002,0.9733,0,0,1,0,2,0,18.0,4,0,1,1,3,18,2,0,15,0,26,1,0,4,5,50,42,17,0,9,6,6,1,1,1,5,0,1,0,2,11,21,0,0,6,1,1,3,3,4,0,2,4,3,37,14,31,30,8,23,0,0,1,1,43,11,0,5,9,151,48,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10343008988666584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10243599952353853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09656227698474423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17248579638234302,0.18889401303866932,0.11407577274247978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09135167755380733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092672035690932,0.08897525367956373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824687200932868,0.11428850337289374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903898406873018,0.1057016082675363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06822212038203157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947453802472794,0.0,0.052226565436767965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981705036568585,0.0,0.1732696286821006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10995420550288584,0.0,0.10197756484688612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10259035046938067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3498057664732733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10756071840189088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050462313259144125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932233253963942,0.0,0.0689469271194687,0.10471992402619353,0.10376876346175316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12097208746569492,0.0,0.1097810033011558,0.0,0.0,0.07966367346697238,0.09975819807097587,0.10985016655710346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09018890940136126,0.0,0.0,0.09764250717259068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10331802675580562,0.0,0.0,0.2123988000642814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08214041339574628,0.0,0.0,0.08230881675960082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07951774602732943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3893986931783139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09028007823961903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13724267236230875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060229273366127815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10089939463481568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852251292822882,0.060923162385375984,0.08198685377346086,0.08285306779938459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3668715286956557,0.0,0.0,0.06651542179838604
divorce,sledrunner31,2020/03/20,"Feeling deep sadness. I dont want to believe it could be true but it looks like my wife (33F) is leaving me (36M) after being together for 11 years and being married for about 6 months. Im a rather introverted person so my wife was my one true friend that I have these days and ever since she told me she wanted to leave me she seems like she absolutly hates me. I probably didnt react well at first, lashing out and all, but after I found messages on her phone sent to another guy I blew up. Now 2 weeks later Im trying to talk back all the things I said but she still seems to hate me.

I've dealt with depression my entire life but its gotten worse the last couple years and after we got married I became rather distant with her because of it. I didnt even really notice. She said she had been sending me messages and trying to get me to seek help over the last few months but I didnt see it. I guess Im stupid for that. She said she was hoping that getting married would fix things but since it hasnt she seems to have given up on me and now will barely talk to me. Not to mention I think she may have something going on with a person she know at her program but she insists thats not the reason. Now I have no idea whats going on with that. 

She has bipolar disorder and hasnt worked in over 7 years (she has SSD) so she has a community program she goes to during the day. Maybe this has to do with her disorder, she was hospitalized recently and had all her meds changed. Maybe she will come to her senses.

I left after a few days of her telling me it was over and I said some mean things to her about not paying the rent on our apartment and other things I left behind. Just tonight I tried to tell her I didnt mean it but she still seems like she hates me, or at least is very angry at me. Im staying at my moms who is the only other person I have in my life since i have no siblings and no close friends anymore. Imagine how pathetic I feel. A 36 y/o man living with his mother. Im also out of work due to the coronavirus so I have noting but free time to sit around and sulk.

Im not sure whats next for me. I know Im only 36 but I feel like Im too old to start over. I dont even want to think about that. Im so deeply hurt and I have a very low opinion of myself right now, like Im a total loser. I still have lots of stuff at the apartment and she doesnt even want me over there at all to get it. Ive though about suicide but I would never have the guts to actually do it. I just dont know if I can even do this. I dont want to die alone.",0.9232432432432418,2.5104410090090106,2.7926936936936957,94.81066216216215,80.35135135135134,5.521081081081082,19.388288288288287,6.2581,-0.18441333333333354,1980,46,469,15,50,661,231,555,0.149,0.769,0.08199999999999999,-0.9902,1,1,1,0,0,2,41.0,2,0,0,4,32,22,4,0,17,0,49,4,1,3,10,91,92,34,2,12,21,4,3,5,2,5,3,4,1,5,29,26,0,0,18,0,3,5,19,9,1,2,21,9,86,14,70,62,10,73,0,5,2,0,62,32,0,12,39,324,115,5,0.0,0.0,0.052902167109956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05614630109465781,0.0,0.043352559023183655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0568450151964502,0.0,0.0,0.05376279704245178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04825933005190298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0416849530516694,0.0,0.03304655437791548,0.0,0.0,0.06107729197323272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0573481053165448,0.0466980214731623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043283114152728334,0.05998349837656956,0.0,0.104884932100249,0.0,0.046691900001075266,0.0,0.05626251357607145,0.0,0.1242611253652524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541397987080376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14322355535026762,0.049037000542571374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08223221086907267,0.038728386670744026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0461118934828351,0.0,0.059439620843838435,0.0837666492251287,0.0,0.08496911221041879,0.0,0.06161878075307281,0.0,0.04335753088298178,0.0,0.059719586033325237,0.05367746493148177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16056657270631025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03633652570781686,0.0,0.0,0.05384380702539938,0.0,0.0,0.058034052820303265,0.06119767957442335,0.5855723926180464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08937892998255179,0.08837848632738032,0.0,0.11480335407988218,0.11780093411708742,0.0,0.07658173905132318,0.13242390949778235,0.0,0.04786935246704059,0.0,0.045523630618625806,0.0,0.0,0.04608829815002211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089245772050764,0.1181034571695018,0.06021625821614358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06349132938098963,0.08654148965375981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04181090562089766,0.0,0.057654069244787186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061719642472694465,0.05688538021955013,0.0,0.036734812103385535,0.08245989639672169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420049998295158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05844868344623365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03472898832463059,0.05573799071142111,0.05352687418085611,0.0,0.0,0.04629594255058653,0.20626850017686768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043199190038985535,0.19740682434282814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345318282554638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041734316654548534,0.0,0.0,0.03837086191573928,0.05778176885478254,0.1298790494361659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06205868512424365,0.05929809252234119,0.0,0.051093275331225235,0.0,0.0,0.08714558089158801,0.09476569850344428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14406165750514324,0.06947250687084726,0.0532620837443717,0.0,0.031610900611687816,0.0,0.0,0.05180098373756911,0.0,0.11041723823025562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08945959135132961,0.15987541634504454,0.0,0.0434848362798397,0.0,0.04874224659868087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07893258360420702,0.0,0.05524569378151457,0.07701995247632144,0.0,0.0,0.10473042111092894
divorce,csousa19,2020/03/20,divorce how do i help my girlfriend dealing with her parent’s divorce when i don’t know what it’s like myself?,2.7504347826086963,4.634501652173917,3.77326086956522,88.49293478260874,75.95652173913044,4.6000000000000005,28.89130434782609,3.1291,0.8864956521739127,90,4,17,0,2,29,19,23,0.0,0.755,0.245,0.6369,1,0,0,0,2,0,1.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,2,12,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5687473145180832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3697726216333125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031832810524556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269517986258073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6125639996706929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,DreaGrace,2020/03/20,"Is it time to ask him for forgiveness?! The man I feel like I destroyed is scared of having the girls fly back home, so he driving them from Beverly Hills to nyc. I know he hates me. He wants nothing to do with me, but it's been tears since I've seen him. Years since I've hugged him. Should I ask for forgiveness? In case you guys ask why he hates me...

I cheated on him with his best friend. I got pregnant by his friend n had twins and couldnt tell my husband until he found out 3 yrs later when he came back home from his deployment after 7 months which I got pregnant again with the BM son. 

I regret my action. I've lost the one man that loved me more than anything other than the girls. He saved my son from dying. He remained in the girls lives, and he did so much for us. Can any one tell me if I should or not. This guilt is killing me everyday. He saved my baby boys life. I don't know how to repay him after what I did to him!",1.4319029411764708,2.8811400549999995,2.5682352941176454,97.60382352941177,78.45,5.7058823529411775,19.264705882352946,6.2272716619740125,-0.3126911764705884,721,15,175,5,17,230,117,200,0.129,0.7040000000000001,0.16699999999999998,0.8971,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,1,1,2,7,19,5,2,6,0,14,3,0,1,0,25,30,10,2,6,4,3,1,1,2,2,1,0,2,7,7,7,0,0,6,0,0,3,3,9,0,2,10,2,33,10,25,17,3,19,0,2,1,2,42,4,0,2,13,103,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09548144027283377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11554283480286626,0.0,0.3937842196882828,0.0,0.0,0.21592832824498165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14734827653220467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605879769556239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14572009334259234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709938979613675,0.10030664756984876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15394881151019546,0.21695589422214132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22459229230240155,0.0,0.0,0.1390248089366543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27724529739004045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2816789414211622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553393236723541,0.0,0.15432781310429206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09917347673960857,0.06859567134951051,0.0,0.12398177874358805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15327061068204506,0.0,0.12672262086282313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120713699833372,0.0,0.10321515505496584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13472411353494426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19028656589934412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405717031999068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23229191546196645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24544346766389355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08187233550364598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16889209525269594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08281556977182049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12669530013421546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904173772202044
divorce,aaaaaand_she_gone,2020/03/20,"Is cohabitation wise? I’m looking to divorce my husband. We have one child and 3 dogs. I want to move but I only make less than 2 grand a month while he makes 75k a year. I recently got a great job working from home and have been looking for different places to live in the area. I can’t buy a house but I could rent but once again, i don’t make enough to really live on my own. Should we just live in separate bedrooms until I can get a divorce finalized? I know It takes months but I’m so emotionally done with him. He doesn’t care for our son and I’m just done. 

Has anyone else lived with an ex after divorce?",0.5311648351648373,2.6326333692307697,2.4637362637362616,93.9376923076923,84.53846153846155,5.868131868131869,20.05494505494506,7.1686216300943375,0.3241868131868131,478,14,111,7,14,159,89,130,0.0,0.858,0.142,0.9536,3,0,0,0,3,0,11.0,3,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,7,0,13,0,0,3,0,20,27,10,0,3,6,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,1,7,0,0,1,0,2,1,3,0,0,1,4,2,14,4,15,21,3,15,0,0,2,0,13,5,0,0,9,66,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10095511710847238,0.147936224417719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472068756687611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527712513130325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15084825912509908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2955054354924728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12061247380827368,0.16241010059614785,0.0,0.1491850032220113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15816321319695942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0754335354738546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11547532128454255,0.1591814528916369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448267254688452,0.0,0.0,0.16659722121190196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432766658347095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07934846569607057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5099671261939138,0.0,0.2424887102502424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28912793369337725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304883631215571,0.1534550122794682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537619132714173,0.09783684964474662,0.10980887098023186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15084825912509908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09249468323040366,0.0,0.1425596169226914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10855715098218646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08516013108666387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10511167570997973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09297715052616826
divorce,pink_wallpaper,2020/03/21,"I don't like my new boyfriend My common law partner and I broke up very suddenly in August, I moved out in September, and other than to exchange mail, we haven't talked or seen each other. 

Well I got back in the saddle and joined dating apps in the fall, met this nice guy in January, and though we haven't actually talked about it, we seem to be exclusive. I went on dates with a few other guys before him (and plenty before my ex) and he and I are really compatible compared to anyone else. On paper, everything about him is great.

And yet, the idea of anyone other than my ex touching me still makes me feel sick. I miss my ex, still cry about him now and then. Still hold out a tiny hope that we'll get back together, even though I also realize that after all this time that's really unlikely. 

Yeah, I should probably be in therapy, but it's not covered by my insurance and I'm living paycheck to paycheck. So instead, every time I have a date coming up with the new guy, and I feel that dread in my stomach, I wonder what the hell is wrong with me. I ought to like him! I ought to be happy! He's so much nicer and sweeter and more caring than my ex!    

Thanks for listening. Has anyone else gone through this?",3.1652867883995697,4.560098138775512,4.465886143931257,86.01133190118155,73.73469387755101,7.770139634801289,23.50698174006445,8.371475516178862,1.3050816326530614,944,26,196,16,19,312,138,245,0.102,0.782,0.11599999999999999,0.5827,0,1,0,0,0,0,31.0,4,0,0,0,18,14,1,1,8,1,15,2,1,1,1,40,33,21,0,4,3,4,3,2,1,4,1,1,0,4,14,23,0,1,6,0,1,5,4,5,1,0,5,5,33,9,33,21,5,37,1,2,1,0,23,13,1,4,21,139,47,1,0.0,0.0,0.1164796277930628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09545336636969046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25038105534724137,0.24459997046011586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18356328601578106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20313572840673486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12169702715419647,0.0,0.0,0.10281938258901173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311130276130496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19942247172215705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788371598450959,0.0,0.10056723067442512,0.0,0.10727443989204873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12070554431442973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06236146900879326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095464313376408,0.13159649987129587,0.0,0.35456001961690026,0.0,0.12706256015394454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185529240842708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13474463009827128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11662802135983615,0.0,0.10539841111738643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07967474308490359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12686240850830746,0.08774445290486438,0.0,0.0,0.2305602043190573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286919093250263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15293209540073072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086622471224614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2859667980141086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918765408034125,0.0,0.10989205313479236,0.13650030336789956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345441795279421,0.0,0.13920132722729062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09848575656139164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073203434145054,0.110649327132124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12944247946256068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13050308710045472,0.0,0.0
divorce,turkeytwizzler89,2020/03/21,"Sudden divorce Hey, it's a long story this but I really need advice on the whole situation I find myself in, been married around 18months.
A year ago we went to a friends birthday and my wife disappeared for an hour with the host, when she came back she said they had been sitting at the front of the house chatting and smoking, we had a blazing row after the party as the host is notorious for taking  advantage of drunk women and trying his luck.
So being that i trust my wife i believed her and left it at that. 
December 2019 we go to a wedding and his the dj for the event, end of the night she walks over to him without realising I'm behind her and says ""is vegas going to be awkward"" (we went to vegas in a big group) when I questioned her about this she said ""I meant because he plays shit music"" she still says that to this day! 
Any way last day in vegas and we separate from the group to have a talk about moving our marriage forward and asked her if we could spend more time focusing on each other than always hanging out with our friends,(we wanted a baby) she doesn't take this well but acts as if all is fine, it's only when we get back home she says I ruined her holiday and I'm trying to stop her seeing her friends. 
The next issue that occurred was I went for a job and failed to get it and this job would have made us set for life but no worries I'll keep looking, instead she was more down about it than I was.
We had a couple of arguments she said I've got really needy and doing everything for her which she doesn't like, so she decided to stay at her best mates house for a whole week from last sunday till today, refusing to sort this situation out and not wanting to talk until shes ready. 
I managed to talk her round to try marriage counselling, she agrees, we went last night and the councillor said "" Daisy, you dont look like you really want to be here?"" Daisy said (fake name) ""I dont as I just dont see how we can move things forward"" so as you can imagine I was in for a real awkward hour session at this point.
We leave the session, I offer her a cigarette were standing there smoking and I asked her what she wants to do next, she replied "" i dont know, I dont even know if I want to come next week"" I take this bad and said ok fine see you later.
1 hour later she turns up at our house, shes sitting in the car and I knew it was going to be the news I didn't want to hear. She barged past me at the door and said "" I need to speak to you, I xant dpnthis anymore I want a divorce""
I knew it was coming I've been living on my own for the last 10days in our house whilst she had to clear her head, we havnt slept in the same bed for nearly 2 weeks, we havnt had sex for nearly a month now.

Shes holding onto the fact I dont trust her yet I do and theres no talking to her about it as she said too much has happened for us to not get a divorce now., this women is the love of my life and I'm completely devastated and heartbroken and all she has done is count the blame to me.

FYI all arguments we had was her thinking I didn't trust her. Small things like always being on her phone and taking it everywhere with her dont help.


The situation has got a whole lot weirder, were still living in the house and she has given me completely mixed signals, we had a chat earlier she said I cant ever see us being happy together again now yet she said whilst shes living here she will still make me food, do washing etc

I'm so confused and I feel as though I'm holding onto false hope or she really is messing my mind so I cant pick myself up and move on.

Any advice is welcome, ask if you need to know anymore on anything.

Thanks",2.250646843588342,3.648067106910041,3.6654466501240712,90.81719003659,76.10560625814864,6.51292425453169,22.670837363839013,7.1029339738359605,0.5917178533877281,2849,79,632,30,62,938,316,767,0.113,0.768,0.11800000000000001,0.7242,2,0,1,0,3,0,61.0,22,6,1,3,36,30,1,3,42,1,65,10,3,4,6,112,137,52,0,17,12,2,2,3,3,2,3,15,3,2,27,51,2,5,12,6,1,21,18,9,1,0,45,23,121,21,96,83,15,113,0,2,7,2,128,37,1,11,56,431,148,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08943352881002956,0.04056404324648517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07615303080497363,0.0,0.0,0.062237604081212004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09076451037909107,0.0,0.0,0.037657104806616916,0.04073666833149735,0.1283400537756728,0.0,0.0,0.07037420971462219,0.038208220080855206,0.02789525929481589,0.0,0.0,0.05155656705187715,0.048022964833038334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05233797741952666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07883747289667732,0.0959583135417636,0.0,0.0,0.03653614469363122,0.05063327394104323,0.0,0.059023649759804064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04682901892552356,0.3754178764535197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040530341490516486,0.0,0.051035206010755486,0.030224468850307003,0.041393115588752666,0.0,0.0,0.04112670945176175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02313795278368196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04182439276608963,0.0,0.0553339433358215,0.0,0.07070910854035756,0.0,0.07172413166148214,0.0,0.07802047288564253,0.0,0.0731979226961123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04046597975810702,0.04871304850351036,0.0,0.0,0.04696361502542247,0.0,0.05157556315291992,0.0,0.03067239007433948,0.0,0.04590164953547808,0.045450637340796435,0.13519502761617047,0.264008153084227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0477622155524161,0.09082074155120484,0.04067415632356512,0.0,0.0,0.07544654728127048,0.14920410545634166,0.0,0.048453906772698764,0.04971906548544317,0.0,0.06464418177019457,0.06706900665097812,0.0,0.12122244129349337,0.04049672332724871,0.07685481915153232,0.0,0.0,0.03890405676335285,0.04130076108433972,0.043299820732141385,0.030545580222036375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04620519800584825,0.0,0.03652570349761732,0.1459089440221423,0.033639333137078675,0.10179279647187472,0.0,0.0,0.1460008682835081,0.08588651494882417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03480302613556925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04368370549340346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0432585926672712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05126238572909232,0.0,0.0,0.052085622651301934,0.1172617421209421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4352884442191465,0.10917208460226736,0.0,0.0,0.14586121066453428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04697263580171244,0.0,0.1543106182712274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04877474989629911,0.10963351033677697,0.03825794116611697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376252147612417,0.14712266504811572,0.0,0.042130245982921775,0.0,0.0,0.06080266711909496,0.0293215681559568,0.044959593052895035,0.0,0.026683395158890625,0.0,0.04337573278120875,0.0,0.0,0.09320540519373588,0.04977443204885383,0.0,0.0,0.16513323416699127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889356633050036,0.036322663296512014,0.11011926715991208,0.0,0.04114430787346208,0.16968227408412132,0.0,0.1532703494431013,0.0,0.04411162064437902,0.0,0.0,0.04647214767203841,0.0,0.032507043255274884,0.0,0.0,0.029468349604974305
divorce,throoowww67,2020/03/21,"Custody for a 15 month old Hi, I live in California and my soon to be ex husband and I have been trying to come to an agreement on custody. 

I am a stay at home mom and have been one since our daughter was born. She had health issues for a long time and I took her to multiple doc appointments a week for months, alone. I watch her every evening when he’s home from work as he plays on his phone most nights. 

After he divorce I will be moving to be closer to my parents, who are in a different state. My husband wants to split her 50/50, even after I’ve told her that’s not necessarily in her best interest (at this age). He won’t hear it, and he wants to split the physical custody. I don’t want the divorce to become contested, but if i contested this issue, is there a world in which the judge would rule against me? I originally offered 25/75 and thought that was decent, considering the fact that we’d be flying her back and forth so much. I don’t think it’s good for her schedule or stability to do so much back and forth, so that’s why I’m wondering. If I contested this could it backfire?",5.205579487179489,4.937673195555562,6.001777777777778,82.85969230769233,68.15555555555554,9.411965811965812,30.64102564102564,9.057496981413335,2.2344461538461537,859,30,187,14,13,283,133,225,0.006999999999999999,0.927,0.066,0.8767,2,1,0,0,2,0,24.0,2,0,0,2,10,5,0,0,11,0,22,1,0,1,1,25,33,17,0,7,5,6,0,0,0,3,1,1,2,0,12,9,0,0,3,1,0,3,4,0,0,1,8,2,26,5,27,16,4,32,0,0,1,0,30,10,0,5,17,125,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15070740234622687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22378076093562133,0.0,0.0,0.16070748286978956,0.0,0.0,0.15270673242798774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12534641416651107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11618015029014175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15202993131723433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19221969711984846,0.0,0.12260083099392895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220492538154608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15467332850714388,0.16400352934472134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.291922455766213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3037551677989234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12849049040899427,0.12877427111892786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17042286198668302,0.2322938973112864,0.15465710451312162,0.21393733861620087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13655392896982727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15269123196401518,0.0,0.09860325613337198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16157477190010044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12036971254252275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15509731037122498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09323874272086274,0.0,0.115520929123617,0.08484969845084785,0.0,0.0,0.1390437401193465,0.1616701027056368,0.09879365647419076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574817029078593,0.0,0.11672161103074255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313026915062062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578024515699456,0.1059350696621248,0.0,0.0,0.10336813592552646,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Heros-exist-01,2020/03/21,"I'm just looking for a little encouragement. I hope this is okay to post here. I (F27) have been married to my husband (M27) for 8 years but together for 12. The whole relationship is garbage. I've been wanting to divorce him for awhile but I keep letting guilt and fear hold me back. He wants out too but he isn't able to admit it but he tells me on a daily basis he's miserable. He's cheated on me twice  before and ""tested the waters"" with many other girls. Unfortunately I wasn't in the position mentally or physically to leave then but now I am. He's controlling and I'm always on eggshells and there is never any peace but still I am having a hard time envisioning life after divorce. We have two kids and own a home. He can be kind of intense so i don't know if the divorce would be peaceful one or not. Like I would love to keep my home and he has said 100 times he wants more land and hates our street so I would hope he wouldn't fight me on that but I wouldnt hold it past him. I just want some peace and to be able to breath. Basically I'm wondering how others felt after getting out of these types of marriages? I'm hoping if I hear some positive stories about  people doing better on their own (mentally) after divorce maybe I'll feel better about all of this.",2.089568965517241,4.051747655172413,3.616000957854407,88.50721982758621,78.19540229885058,6.495593869731801,22.752394636015325,7.492282038375204,0.8656371647509573,1002,31,212,14,24,331,150,261,0.151,0.727,0.122,-0.8838,0,0,0,0,5,0,23.0,2,0,1,3,13,16,3,3,8,1,25,4,1,2,2,53,49,23,0,14,14,1,3,1,0,5,1,2,2,2,8,12,1,5,5,0,0,0,7,6,0,3,5,6,23,10,30,35,7,24,0,1,1,1,31,11,0,10,13,137,31,2,0.24310641181480916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10114200473926377,0.0,0.0,0.08266034825407427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09346691231116948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10343282541055376,0.0,0.0,0.2150078654171932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13633225630404333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367811504486512,0.06146095317196961,0.0,0.11671013975927826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06350653316305846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10888779701020616,0.1200086255956148,0.0,0.0,0.13699929727556248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438555527354868,0.3621892808782465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21608414888589825,0.0,0.1265789588412792,0.06680246307574818,0.0,0.0,0.12870729415854246,0.0,0.12429638852198514,0.08585662408776816,0.059384756516768035,0.12182824549219512,0.0,0.0,0.1020740790050324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970651408544252,0.0,0.0,0.12323587226003882,0.12211653319530805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.244994083871038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09374932591323908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08236759814455204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160362890705554,0.08426968800024183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11641437084973795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13050265312713652,0.0,0.0,0.11562493422201205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970725472543304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10624285963749486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14175730373919151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11873981979991867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867809207166288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13570981348037878,0.0,0.0,0.13181926669396615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590437298343009,0.0,0.0,0.07827627932596833
divorce,earl_had_to_die,2020/03/21,"15 reasons why she really left you 
WRITTEN BY Rob Miller
Oct 6, 2018 · 4 min read

No man wants to know out of the blue that the woman he loves is leaving him. As a man you do not want to be confronted with accomplished facts. Separations are something that is difficult to handle and even more difficult if you have not seen them coming. Because you are not prepared for it.

If you recognize an imminent separation, you can take action to guide the relationship in the right direction. 

You can make changes to prevent a breakup from taking place. At the very least, if you recognize a breakup in time, you can focus on the emotional roller coaster ride that awaits you after a breakup.

But now it has happened, the woman you love has separated from you and you have not seen it coming. But have you ever thought that you did not notice anything because you were not attentive enough? Maybe she was trying to tell you that she’s not happy, but you just did not want to see her clues or not want to see her.

Maybe she gave you one way or another to change you, but you were just too selfish for that. It’s hard for you now I know because you feel you can not really complete the relationship because you have so many questions and so few answers. You want to know what made her leave you. At least you want to learn from your mistakes with her, so you do not make the same mistakes in your future relationships.

Well, if you’re really looking for answers on why a woman leaves the man she loves, read the list below carefully:

1. She’s gone because you’ve never really given her the feeling that you appreciate her. You never gave her the impression that you are grateful to have such a woman by your side.

2. She left because she was tired of constantly having to fight for your attention and love. She no longer felt that her efforts would even bear fruit.

3 . She left because you never really became the man she needed by her side. She has never felt really safe in your relationship. You have increased her insecurities and often showed her that she can not build a stable life with you.

4. She left because she sensed that you were distancing yourself too much from the man she had fallen in love with in the beginning. She felt the distance between you two more and she was so tired of having to bridge this distance with all her strength.

5. She left because she finally realized that you took her for granted. You have never really appreciated her efforts. You never really understood how much she gave you.

6. She’s gone because, even if she was in a relationship with you, it felt like she was not in a relationship with her at all. You have not really made her feel like you’re 100% her partner in all circumstances.

7. She left because she was tired of crying to sleep. And one morning, she realized that a relationship should make you smile rather than cry.

8. She left because at one point she only felt she had to force herself to be happy with you. But then she finally understood that happiness can not be forced.

9. She left because her goals, dreams and worries never really caught your interest. She always had the feeling that she had to deal with her worries and problems in life alone.

10. She left because she was tired of all the drama, the quarrels, the power struggles and the psycho games. She realized that two people who love each other would never do such a thing.

11. She left because you never really inspired or encouraged her to be a better person. In fact, she felt you were constantly provoking the worst side of her personality. In the end she had the impression that her life was just worse when you were there.

12. She left because you did not look at her like she was the only woman in the room, the only woman in her life. Many more wandered and searched your eyes for more, for something new, for something that interests you more than them.

13. She left because she realized that she can not lead this relationship alone. She realized that a relationship never has a future unless two people do everything they can to stay together.

14. She left because she saw that she deserved to be with someone who strives, values ​​and does not take for granted. And she has had enough of your cold kind and that you are only half in our relationship.

15. She left because she finally realized that you could never love her the way she deserved to be loved.",4.627757795079869,6.533334541616409,4.966054940234674,81.83025505355121,70.8938480096502,8.208802134736997,27.75964104251197,8.841846274778883,2.1967135504624045,3481,126,644,66,66,1100,289,829,0.121,0.7509999999999999,0.127,0.9291,2,2,3,0,1,0,84.0,1,60,3,8,23,37,2,2,44,0,66,19,2,9,18,137,126,35,0,20,36,0,11,3,1,3,8,0,1,14,35,27,1,2,30,7,0,11,31,11,1,7,46,22,145,26,86,70,20,88,0,0,9,8,188,45,0,10,32,483,180,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06869633228902894,0.0,0.0,0.027595316716735818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03477561278993852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02729135591294261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3841158160871813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02933108829547185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03381316803815733,0.0,0.07016676828505151,0.057136137872238174,0.0347720901689426,0.07167755521709207,0.0,0.026478958848303442,0.0,0.07285875322253069,0.0,0.03419089044896231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02902226285501187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037305322849922835,0.029373686069897414,0.06853508112039079,0.0,0.0657140325239582,0.02999896714523102,0.0,0.0,0.029805893760026594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06707537478084268,0.0236925502471308,0.1910573126772232,0.10898946019310013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029327040982459574,0.10591189772614708,0.02970865816660845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0345354679087528,0.05467862133400125,0.0,0.0,0.10534847184061012,0.5044628381035771,0.0,0.09369957576140242,0.04860713909471152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0556992427819557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23945627812153356,0.06276163951721735,0.0664121927870929,0.0672466980389759,0.06663590302686813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04875908639459404,0.02459087470260958,0.2813614958441913,0.03203024393387305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037757723887421865,0.0,0.0,0.06741887202617497,0.10089164081954237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04598383700188683,0.05791549615201101,0.03464958760172158,0.0,0.03135094040920695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031733712901743844,0.0,0.0,0.03715155535890745,0.0,0.06634645901282975,0.0,0.2337045792016913,0.034098377420974164,0.0,0.3560599826651074,0.0,0.028322092382604795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05285523455110425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03318820561625567,0.0,0.028099965459859686,0.0765943907842544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03534868295957686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03467047983620188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0748061767745929,0.0,0.028987020458476637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.022032857243340358,0.0,0.0,0.026328713818522125,0.0193383436667976,0.1524697288797043,0.0,0.0,0.03684670734073574,0.02251635204224293,0.0,0.09718997391975404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027363983441895928,0.1173668203813094,0.05264848356355325,0.0,0.0,0.02981864792136205,0.0,0.05985116315277018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06735982113704983,0.03379720893059834,0.04711787014498468,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,NYCthrowaway79,2020/03/21,"Anyone in NYC who’s ex unilaterally is placing children under quarantine. Or threatening to fly out of NYS to stay with family Cuomo or trump is declaring NYS a disaster zone to get expedited funds? 

We live 4 blocks from each other and I have the children 10 nights a month

I’m not sure what to do in such a situation if she should unilaterally do this after we just resolved things after a very contentious divorce. (Waiting in decree)

If you have some thoughts please backchannel

Thanks",5.722571428571428,7.769307511111113,6.206507936507936,73.465,68.33333333333333,8.6984126984127,31.74603174603175,9.23628265651192,3.046603174603176,396,17,66,8,7,128,71,90,0.146,0.7809999999999999,0.073,-0.7879,0,1,0,0,1,0,5.0,2,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,0,1,19,12,5,0,3,6,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,6,0,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,5,3,14,10,2,11,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,5,4,46,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20074341966748888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706475078485099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14999522859609052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535100442708931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22915639906033206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694191022877602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29995305096940506,0.31514397198947225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3227066808091702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30600494941961404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27058353254479706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26431839872987417,0.0,0.0,0.1907330854172975,0.0,0.0,0.2279212707736141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368833480622768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Chiquitabananabonia,2020/03/21,"My kids aren’t suffering My kids are happy. I know you are going to tell me they know I’m Miserable, but they really don’t. Yes, we argue sometimes, Most of the time they take my husbands side, But they are happy. I am not happy. I’m here because the financial burden of leaving is overwhelming. I’m here because I’m afraid it will ruin their lives. I’m here because I have guilt for not leaving years ago. I KNOW that me leaving would be worse for them than me staying. I’m just so unhappy. I’ve thought a few times about just leaving them with their dad, so it wouldn’t ruin they life too much of I left, but I know their quality of life would greatly diminish if that happened. I have no where to go, no money, no family and a tremendous amount of guilt. I just need some advice on what to do. Diviorces CAN hurt kids and I don’t want to be the reason my kids are hurting. Although, It’s hard to continue to suffer.
Also, we live in his inherited house, I wouldn’t stay here. I would have to leave with the kids. He WONT leave. He has done stuff and I tried to kick him out in the past and he refused to leave.",0.6900999000999022,2.9375576320346326,2.433441558441558,93.44049200799202,85.23376623376623,5.631768231768232,20.57292707292708,7.010146845296331,0.4420661338661343,867,27,190,12,26,285,120,231,0.251,0.6809999999999999,0.068,-0.9926,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,2,1,10,0,13,17,1,5,7,1,25,2,0,1,0,34,42,12,0,8,9,2,1,0,0,7,2,0,0,5,7,9,0,1,6,0,2,2,11,13,0,0,2,1,34,4,24,31,5,17,0,8,0,0,28,7,0,3,6,127,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09137909029979747,0.08289296911495161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07478171407022717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17101260245149014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09569550046797327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08815502872680904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10629033550633334,0.0,0.0,0.10309758786194864,0.0,0.0,0.08269257553820583,0.2986365930457273,0.0837686100363941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10790058351297367,0.20021359947972334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205567552380124,0.0,0.0,0.6931118087123284,0.10160133531723836,0.0,0.13210093802477074,0.0,0.0,0.1651460633270949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06874226481407393,0.0693381499044625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08926802558334955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059906343093885976,0.09614616941070196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09248600824460003,0.0,0.0,0.1993432366776574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070491558307702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07030957569565441,0.0,0.08173382989179655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07423828259946562,0.10905549219281173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06348868074387821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05515594899752084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09529697367509997,0.19928526228543908,0.0,0.0,0.06021882431272161
divorce,NotADad35,2020/03/21,"Love is a choice? How? Hi, i have been reading and watching all these videos where people seem to state that love is a choice not a feeling. How is this possible? If i do not want to be with someone then how someone could say that no, you should, it is a choice...",1.5016666666666652,3.345745092592594,2.170148148148151,98.7396666666667,79.55555555555556,5.060740740740742,21.91111111111111,5.6839178017228535,-0.1159066666666666,201,6,47,1,5,62,38,54,0.084,0.758,0.158,0.7991,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,4,0,10,2,0,3,1,14,15,6,0,4,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,5,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,3,3,2,3,11,1,3,0,0,1,2,5,1,0,2,1,36,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345832198857823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14855906421093884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5303496359640082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20369072304549346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3312264067410979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938893117439715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23364934772028725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674734095978202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4978881846538691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17329663394581107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,QuanticoMVP,2020/03/21,"Not sure what to do. Sorry for the long rant. Yesterday, my wife told me she wants a divorce. She’s 33 and I’m 32. No kids but we’ve been together for 10 years—dated for 5 years, then married for 5. 

I don’t know what to do. I’m devastated. I could tell in recent months that she wasn’t as happy—kept to herself more, seemed mentally checked out. I asked her point blank a few weeks ago, “Are you and I ok?” And she said everything was fine. 

But even then, she’d already been planning it. She says she’s only been seriously considering it for a month but I think it’s been longer than that. 

Yesterday she just sits down and says “I want a divorce.” Didn’t leave any room for discussion, already had her bag packed and now she’s staying at her family’s while I’m alone in the house she and I bought together a few years ago. 

She framed it as, she needs to find herself and figure out who she is, and doesn’t feel like she can do that while being married. She’s legit gone through some job crises lately so I get where she’s coming from. And I know I can be selfish and wasn’t always the best husband. But I don’t understand why she didn’t talk to me sooner/more openly. And why we can’t still be together while she figures herself out. 

She says she doesn’t want my money, etc. (not that I have any but still). But I’m pretty sure she’s already talked to a lawyer. 

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. We’re going to talk again on Monday. I know I can’t do anything to change her mind but I’m hoping to understand the why a bit better, and for us to start talking logistics. I’ll need to find a lawyer who does mediation, I guess? Whatever is the simplest, quickest divorce process. 

So yeah. This is pretty much the most painful thing ever. I’ll need to rebuild my entire social life because she’s always been the center of mine. Not to mention she was always better with finances, etc. But most of all I still love her and I’m deeply hurt that she did this. 

Ok rant over, thanks for listening.",1.2928808848553572,3.5112791048780494,2.7203119682359613,92.5419710720363,82.34146341463416,5.667612024957457,20.99829835507657,6.926510163978652,0.4069886557005105,1563,47,338,19,43,507,197,410,0.087,0.773,0.14,0.9799,1,1,0,0,3,0,50.0,2,1,0,4,11,17,0,0,15,3,37,3,0,0,4,62,71,30,0,9,12,2,1,1,0,1,2,5,1,1,16,20,0,0,12,0,4,3,14,4,0,0,17,6,57,13,38,47,12,44,0,1,0,1,59,14,0,6,26,214,73,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08401355817941833,0.1524229068281532,0.0,0.0,0.08904394153323049,0.2846259167805306,0.0,0.2146137081651818,0.0,0.0,0.17539739204067234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07074991689658944,0.0,0.08037481183397799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05240942677489771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09022522545249646,0.15207540922560278,0.09386219047410664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09094991544035716,0.0740596586543338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06864386452624911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07523710773817946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19176920810050235,0.05678553012463749,0.07776910899110279,0.0,0.0,0.07726858692097442,0.0,0.08104936928623024,0.0,0.043471431088750664,0.06142039869326661,0.0,0.0,0.15715877934042366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04491827310843645,0.0,0.0488614477156325,0.0,0.0,0.0947874964346927,0.09471091102110203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539235374763432,0.0,0.09920335079742518,0.09203777818872518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08531670119399754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14174846891964338,0.0,0.09698329455778988,0.09103487628929877,0.0,0.0,0.06072652838788663,0.042002933853265985,0.0,0.0,0.07608497319962773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07759559396529833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08664235489768378,0.0,0.08681001728337354,0.0,0.13724849535388658,0.0,0.06320135432947052,0.19124762586079394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06538769295956841,0.09148322563062043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08127395486163523,0.0,0.0,0.17493451575079222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08488972135459574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08178170205251385,0.20511178309386752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.078268209046437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764045927099423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09624172528695547,0.060853390488618285,0.09163767420613644,0.2059787066807485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16206042188477296,0.0,0.0,0.2764130800605241,0.07514574560014359,0.0791540246503717,0.0,0.0,0.057117822358598726,0.05508916633301842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215258489629695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790055522477323,0.10341707232651944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15213045505842107,0.0,0.06896378111812185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23273659429364735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06107401566517705,0.0,0.0,0.11072987667736107
divorce,bjachapman,2020/03/21,"Anyone like me? Just thought I'd put this out there to see if there is anyone like me. When my ex left, I wasn't ready for it. It's been a year and a half now and I've pretty much moved on. But I'm curious about some of what I went through and how common it is. First off, I know this is going to sound petty. I'm actually a little embarrassed about it, but for the longest time my mind kept going to winning. Something inside me was obsessed with coming out on top. Financially, maybe. Emotionally, maybe. I'm not really sure. But when I heard of small struggles in her life, I fed on it. And when I heard of small victories she was having, it bugged me. I think I won, just knowing how much better I feel now than the last few years of the marriage. I'm doing OK financially (she earns more but is renting. I bought her out of the house). Our kids are grown and I honestly feel I've got a better relationship with them than she does. Maybe that's all that matters. I haven't dated yet - it took me a while to feel ready and I'm just there now. She's dating, and while that hurt at first, I eventually realized I wasn't jealous that she was with someone else but I was jealous that she got there first. I'm over that now. I'm pretty much over most of it, but I often think about how winning was so important to me for a while. And I wonder how many people feel or felt the same.",1.4022916666666667,3.2706682569444467,3.0331944444444474,92.31458333333336,79.97222222222223,6.072222222222222,20.041666666666664,7.093109894594671,0.25013333333333376,1070,27,242,13,27,353,138,288,0.067,0.752,0.18100000000000002,0.9882,1,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,1,0,1,10,24,16,2,3,11,1,16,2,0,4,2,52,48,27,0,1,12,1,5,2,0,0,1,3,1,1,17,15,1,1,12,0,2,8,4,6,0,4,20,9,35,10,34,28,9,45,0,1,1,0,16,16,0,6,23,167,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.117771776983584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16877241322495548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21347328497094809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10395999390877243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10561281815625932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10081736742369526,0.13575510283578934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24408914614556795,0.0,0.11587714186868668,0.0,0.0,0.3079654350036561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13717686252375694,0.0,0.1930466646894093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13925502671793144,0.12919647529751213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326513447241552,0.0983749055143728,0.0,0.0,0.1311253026030055,0.0,0.08524383768458216,0.11792181673201865,0.12095871803109548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12235629811292907,0.3637348443958132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12185809429830302,0.0,0.0,0.12826973751139126,0.26615349829458496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836682280714833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455613693383152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12132240329779714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07731431227255234,0.0,0.0,0.12957121362243088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09617083104683233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10225655239687256,0.09290970298789056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261668361500183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11374478885076655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15466097199152595,0.0,0.09581091862806204,0.07037276808248759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13408618829878755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11187679876123582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13087843009380545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15543519257395275
divorce,Silly-Lime,2020/03/21,"Making the moves to leave after 10 years. I have been in a 10 year toxic relationship with a narcissist and I think I have had enough and I want to leave for real this time.

We have two kids together and own a home. She doesn't work at all so I am terrified that when we get a divorce I am going to have to pay child support on top of alimony which would leave me hardly anything to live off of.

I have tried to leave before and she attempted suicide by trying to go full blown reverse into oncoming traffic on a highway I told her I would stay and she stopped..... I feel stuck in this relationship that I am not happy in, she is always berating me arguing, berating the children yelling at them all the time etc. She has her deadbeat dad living with us too which isnt even looking for a job and her friend and her friends boyfriend.

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I am just frustrated and done, I have signed a lease for a apartment getting the electricity hooked up and everything and I am moving in next Friday. I am going to have to take our van until I can get enough money to buy me a vehicle then give her the van back. I will have to take half of the bank account which I am sure is going to cause a meltdown so i have money to buy food gas etc. I will have to get new cell service because I am sure she will have her sister cancel my cell phone.

 I am scared of her that is why I do not want to be around when she finds out that I am leaving her, I am also scared for the kids I don't want her doing anything stupid to them to get back at me....

Nobody in the house has a job besides me so I am going to have to continue to pay the mortgage and car payment to support my children on top of the new bills I will have at my apartment.

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I need reaffirmation that I am doing the right thing......",4.737063882063879,4.6085797432432445,5.639361179361181,84.5861670761671,69.13513513513513,8.565110565110563,29.52088452088452,8.150884317080207,1.8134054054054047,1395,47,301,17,22,460,170,370,0.10800000000000001,0.826,0.066,-0.9346,4,0,0,0,2,1,38.0,4,0,2,4,12,12,3,2,22,0,48,1,0,2,4,39,73,19,1,6,3,2,2,0,2,6,0,1,1,5,11,18,1,1,3,0,9,8,5,5,0,2,5,4,60,7,52,61,8,48,0,0,1,0,40,23,0,0,16,228,71,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06556674763323685,0.06822159700047314,0.17767056586824567,0.19925174692103828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13494028017877993,0.07298778632122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12608929476945194,0.0,0.0499798660071279,0.0,0.06976678532297066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08422551136806435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08390343557687914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16943355760633205,0.1828793008235461,0.05415310491685196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07368662201663538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04145621188122778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749366594583736,0.0,0.09914168727889644,0.0,0.12668933215427414,0.0,0.21417991088451585,0.07865152838888999,0.23298180880994415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08727904663917695,0.07344623457928982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08224187017023678,0.0,0.0,0.09460454894134056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16272329450046685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4340737152551595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14479596237419176,0.0,0.06885029320931045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054728439354964964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17428312565935894,0.0,0.060793965913539375,0.0,0.15837139438651918,0.08719646298573958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09332167926804988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17605147202853144,0.0,0.07001834378528514,0.0,0.0,0.1641710197552914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08738959686964595,0.0,0.06854665708543753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896828965843861,0.1860807848634552,0.15454773443046071,0.0,0.12329137579028301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054469992972123474,0.05253538001082279,0.0,0.0,0.0956171441578565,0.0,0.0,0.07834421091632203,0.0,0.11133059357242844,0.0,0.08009155202313445,0.0,0.09862293361705986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14507809429171376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07398251620974397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05968912684541629,0.0,0.0,0.11648557548905712,0.0,0.19925174692103828,0.10559673592864066
divorce,Lisa867,2020/03/21,"How do I know divorce is the right decision? First Reddit post. 
I’ve been married about 11 years. 2 elementary age children.
Backstory: my husband proposed quickly after we started dating and I said yes. We got married fast. 
I had doubts from day one but at the time , felt like the good outweighed the bad. 
I cried on my wedding day. I blamed it on being overwhelmed and stressed. But, the more I think about it, I know that I knew that day, I was making a mistake. 
People’s first reaction is “then why did you marry him?”
I did at one point enjoy his company, he was a nice , pleasant person. I never felt a strong feeling of him being the love of my life, etc. 
Next thing we know, baby on the way. 
Here we are , 10+ years and 2 kids later. 
And I feel like I live in a prison. 
I don’t even recognize myself when I’m around him anymore. My mood goes from happy and laid back until the second I lay eyes on him. Then, it changes to angry, sad, irritated, and resentful. 
What caused the feelings? We are very different. Different interests, different habits, different work ethic.  I’ve always felt like I had to “Mother” him, which I hate. Initially , I was bread winner and that also had a great impact. Our parenting styles are opposite. And the list goes on. So, no major issue such as abuse, etc... basically just no love. 
I have tried so hard to live with it for the sake of the kids.  I have tried so hard to put how I feel on the back burner and just go through the motions. 
But, it’s killing me. Eating me up inside. Making me an angry person that I don’t want to be. 
Anyone out there relate to this or have advice for me? I do not want to disrupt my happy, innocent children’s lives because of my selfishness. But also don’t want to live the rest of my life in misery.
My husband ignores me or tells me to “Stop saying that” when I mention divorce. 
I need help and insight on what I need to do. Anyone who has stayed for their kids and been glad they did? Stayed and regretted it? Left and regretted it? 
Thanks for reading.",1.3494278606965149,3.748398768656717,2.9522089552238846,89.80796517412938,83.70149253731344,5.662885572139304,21.61990049751244,7.0316486544052195,0.7126085572139305,1563,51,315,21,45,513,211,402,0.204,0.627,0.16899999999999998,-0.9596,5,0,0,0,3,0,67.0,6,1,2,4,21,30,3,3,21,1,29,7,1,5,1,61,57,32,1,8,9,4,9,3,0,0,2,2,0,7,18,21,2,2,14,1,0,3,7,13,0,5,17,12,56,16,42,37,5,49,0,4,1,2,38,17,0,3,28,218,74,2,0.0,0.10186232045371507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08401047943665396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375029589706581,0.07153528115914673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08526075325706556,0.12022672183574187,0.0,0.0,0.07653297555664056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13221374973717948,0.07178271796100391,0.05240750619032821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08831654346123857,0.09094658250933804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09443579593920184,0.166333762529547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3592882106164618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08797043781668762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19176218056739144,0.05678344917432684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17387935217618666,0.061418147894560314,0.2476387337780996,0.0,0.0,0.14625484493865534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0488596571495397,0.0721089222867068,0.06875936420366209,0.09478402287250673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18303679231057868,0.15402738345963088,0.0848791834375456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05762496973784512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08973204302468048,0.0,0.0,0.0951148681198418,0.0,0.14174327443577073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09340842487490113,0.0,0.12144860603320427,0.12600418386838652,0.0,0.30365808877429823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551855008277374,0.0,0.11477345793097092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12749374496098234,0.06630661914377291,0.0,0.09143180121867783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651319957249705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09546131833016427,0.0,0.0,0.0596019017007943,0.15013421818032505,0.0,0.0,0.08127097651378418,0.0,0.08233705443321428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08642523120343205,0.0,0.0,0.08599489268623232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07341930018060742,0.08177870509786858,0.06836808887054206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06085116046837258,0.18326863214331535,0.0,0.07187613018048201,0.09848020888253337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751429918253297,0.07915112398902675,0.0,0.0,0.057115729231178414,0.055087147547290036,0.0,0.0,0.05013074738575446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11673818355150972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07093559640006215,0.1521248801185197,0.068240276293647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775760218261742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06258836876834196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11072581889414122
divorce,sleeplessconfusion,2020/03/21,"Don't know what to do My (39m) wife (36f) of 14 years sent nudes to another man. We have 3 kids teen and preteen.

This morning when I opened my laptop my wife's Facebook page was logged on. Didn't think anything of it, but then a message popped up from a male friend of hers who she has gotten to know through a local organization.  She proceeded to tell him how she had drank to much the night before (she did) and it was good she hadn't drunk texted him because it would have probably been a nude. They then discussed why that would be bad, which followed with her getting in the shower, and sending him a topless shot.  I sat at my kitchen table and watched the entire conversation unfold over about 10 minutes.  I was absolutely furious, which is very out of character for me and our youngest child was in our room so I asked her to leave and shut the door. I ripped open the shower curtain and told her, shaking mad, that I had seen the whole thing and I was leaving and didn't know if I'd come back.  I spent the day in my truck, but came home this evening and we talked. I yelled (no kids around), she cried, and apologized over and over and assured me it will never happen again. She was honest as far as I can tell and said she has sent 3 pics including this morning all topless and he has sent her one, all of which have been deleted afterwards and all over the last 2 weeks, with no physical contact. 

But there's a little backstory. About 5 years ago we went camping and she got blackout drunk and made out with another guy right in front of me. I absolutely lost my mind and we went back to our camper and had the biggest fight of our marriage. It's been very difficult for me to get over that, mainly because I was literally standing 5 feet from her, which to me shows zero respect. The next day we talked it out, I yelled, she cried, and apologized over and over and assured me it would never happen again.  But here we are dealing with it again. 

I'm 100% lost and don't know what to do. I thought we had a strong marriage but apparently I was wrong. I don't know if I can ever trust her again. I don't want a divorce, but I also dont want a shitty marriage. I don't have anyone to talk to about it either, so here I am. I haven't slept or eaten anything, can't get it off my mind, and feel so incredibly betrayed. 

In the interest of honesty, I misstepped also very early on in the marriage. I sent and received nudes from another woman about 6 months in when we had a very young child. I told her about it then, apologized then, and have done nothing of the sort since. 

I've never felt more depressed than this moment. I tried to go to bed but couldn't stand to lay next to her. I love her deeply, but this may end it.",4.354549549549546,4.845935729729732,4.816373873873875,87.99032657657658,70.08108108108108,7.8243243243243255,27.84909909909911,7.695328111545312,1.3832072072072077,2130,69,464,23,36,677,254,555,0.094,0.789,0.11699999999999999,0.9472,4,0,0,0,2,0,63.0,12,0,1,3,25,20,3,1,23,0,51,11,5,2,9,89,94,52,0,8,12,2,2,0,1,5,0,3,8,8,28,47,5,0,9,3,1,14,17,10,0,2,44,7,76,10,66,43,9,81,0,3,2,4,79,32,0,5,33,320,104,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07758614830053169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399883541383265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753346156819847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06119992267520347,0.0,0.144052194222429,0.07791632533354498,0.08182460498026052,0.0,0.0,0.13460354132534616,0.07308020582365023,0.10670956597586724,0.0,0.07447782453322269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10010594982227594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07539553967331351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19228548598859949,0.1128935203938183,0.09023503279395437,0.07538565634898764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08956905959907971,0.1025793313699154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07752168753115808,0.0,0.0,0.057809822070138725,0.07917190071944544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04425556459293538,0.0,0.08403828548371553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06762204827653533,0.0,0.13718551383057204,0.0,0.04974280582272072,0.07341230636177533,0.07000220430545366,0.0,0.0,0.08666408788068877,0.15479716790366296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08779529610641612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405088570090925,0.07134503199448047,0.0,0.1853539093114189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08772362791930725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910890261281053,0.0,0.07899525584624913,0.08281882287465152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17675177609657045,0.0,0.06986208527407928,0.0,0.06434137429657054,0.0,0.20251537607407452,0.0,0.18616890086324064,0.08213683046022167,0.0,0.08398315742595462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059309600192039284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09436738201330556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07474636961422898,0.08325687254960898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07240206668704037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110492445137658,0.153002434702548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05814810815954258,0.0560828594311622,0.0,0.06948553616593764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16726889068510606,0.0,0.05942412549813177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28887108944278955,0.10324971307624063,0.0,0.07020774318690165,0.0,0.0,0.1622741845661901,0.07897822488578149,0.09771918765352346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865269887045167,0.09569548496806234,0.0,0.11272721157162065
divorce,mustlovedogs19,2020/03/21,"Does anyone else ever read a post and wonder if it’s their ex who typed it? I don’t know. I think maybe we are all just super not unique with our situations. I swear to god, I don’t even know why my brain thinks maybe it’s him, he barely used Reddit and I doubt he would be lingering on this sub. Maybe this is more relatable for those of us that were the ones who got left and didn’t want a divorce.",0.8985344827586204,2.5648887816091985,2.3501005747126453,97.58308189655176,80.72413793103449,5.729310344827588,15.472701149425287,6.6274283507984215,-0.6872747126436787,312,4,77,3,8,101,68,87,0.046,0.8640000000000001,0.09,0.5574,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,3,0,1,1,3,2,0,1,3,0,8,1,1,1,2,19,16,4,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,0,5,1,0,0,4,1,0,1,3,0,11,1,5,11,2,4,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,3,1,47,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322983596833928,0.1938655551970629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21121826663593246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16557685390194474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15805867893794612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12496984144992995,0.17114911490636506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15132660956098934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20796710767428966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2055746210637348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5702534241673654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12821197275897614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18120858784720034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18925881151582225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21267728028466884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424731922775223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22759345740885745,0.163414624940786,0.0,0.0,0.11159955013556044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17073043798678725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20518758117499944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13440765697943616,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ThrowAway_CS2020,2020/03/21,"I foresee a coming storm of child support and alimony problems due to the virus. The courts will be overwhelmed. What do you think? Short story: I have a job (and we're all now working from home), but my job security is now in question. And I know I'm not alone. Surely, there are divorced dads out there with child support orders working in restaurants, bars, Uber drivers, airlines, tourism, etc., and layoffs have already started.

If you think getting child support orders modified based on a change in income is easy, then you've obviously never done it yourself. I know it's the ""stock answer"", but it's not automatic. And it seems the child support enforcement ""system"" has no interest in lowering any man's payment. In a best-case scenario, it still takes three months to get on the court docket. And you need a cooperative judge and ex-spouse. And if your income has gone to zero, good luck getting a lawyer.

If I'm reading the tea leaves correctly, many thousands of men will stop paying child support in the coming months for reasons well beyond their control. So, what are the courts to do? Lock them all up? Seize all their assets in the midst of a crisis?

I think the courts are soon to be overwhelmed with child support non-payment issues, and the old solutions won't work anymore. The courts themselves are even closing now. This is a giant mess about to happen.",5.394996904024763,7.105076074509808,5.146171310629517,82.07145510835916,68.64705882352942,7.093911248710011,31.06811145510836,7.475848149327749,2.043235294117648,1089,45,191,11,19,335,152,255,0.079,0.74,0.18100000000000002,0.9791,5,1,0,0,1,0,45.0,0,4,3,4,12,16,0,2,20,0,19,2,0,2,7,43,43,16,0,5,7,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,8,8,15,2,3,9,2,1,3,5,4,1,3,2,0,13,12,26,36,4,34,0,2,0,0,18,15,0,6,13,122,21,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10624984742455178,0.11320800236483496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06976310730072129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017393643304698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10765939010680432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10852411149395856,0.17674032161751888,0.0,0.0,0.11506075193216506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10498276469080907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11441232693973645,0.06775816307966764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607934099333857,0.0,0.0,0.08604563806615015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09071790373581684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10290375888008642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10707483418402493,0.2036047894678016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11275895874963696,0.0,0.0,0.10862548927532888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10400775657694274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16376893744261795,0.0,0.0,0.07606742887511647,0.0791219057407398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10764846216360804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09816250858456052,0.0,0.0,0.11492162556396368,0.0,0.10261539317140864,0.0,0.0,0.10547717112932052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09339192679687697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07261205359232026,0.0,0.08192661503485013,0.08576785350521562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6984913710560056,0.09668762861530374,0.0,0.07713313170077246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19720203587723886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09223860099899754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2240550526374026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,stCruzEd,2020/03/21,"Wife had been doing drugs and suddenly flipped from happily married to wanting a divorce. My wife went through a couple months doing hard drugs and suddenly flipped from being happily married too demanding that we get a divorce. She suddenly says that she's not been happy for a long time and that everything she said about being happy before wasn't true. I'm not sure how to take this, weather it's just the drugs she was doing speaking or whether there was something going on that she never let into. How should I handle this? I have no proof of what she was doing but I have a strong feeling that that's what caused this. he seems to not want to do any counseling and has no interest in pursuing any other type of relationship beyond a divorce. Any advice in this matter would be greatly appreciate, it is a very hard time for me and the children, we're all confused by this sudden change. Background information: she's been clean for a month, and doesn't have a history of regular drug use, it was meth, and she had only dabbled in it a few times long ago.",6.594983739837396,6.789763258536588,6.786646341463418,76.83297764227643,65.1951219512195,9.760162601626016,33.66869918699187,9.516144504307137,3.075869918699187,848,34,155,15,12,273,118,205,0.096,0.7909999999999999,0.113,0.8573,0,0,6,0,3,0,16.0,1,0,0,1,7,8,0,1,12,0,27,4,0,4,5,34,38,12,0,4,7,2,3,0,0,2,4,3,1,1,18,9,0,0,3,0,0,2,8,1,0,0,12,6,14,7,21,20,2,21,0,0,0,0,21,6,0,3,13,115,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12324318016982055,0.11179792985384968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572981415978268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10731898393228388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12956016619303234,0.13341842742939386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13954958025102684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5850374728579288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11334868544708294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06377015246121706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06589258859621087,0.0,0.07167700469626337,0.0,0.0,0.13904794361880626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685145534664876,0.2259578173829476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12896642888448795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22322478093910464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20133584873065946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09727165782632456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09592008003154892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13540587408765245,0.0,0.0,0.11996917234630013,0.10029582917559546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11481507506775615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09709347618645446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11886677701525535,0.0,0.09482667945910137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22062507345058804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10892734167959524,0.0,0.10406235681797857,0.14877789957061896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11691467034133755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08959215725922932,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Larry94960,2020/03/21,"Covid and the feminist mother in law I put this post on r/marriage but it probably belongs here. Me (40M) and wife (35). I have been housing the MIL (60) for about two months. She has been completely dependent on me to provide shelter and food as she has nothing to her name. Somehow she is a ""strong and independent woman"" and does nothing but constantly let my wife and me know how men are all dogs. I am working at home now and she never shuts up with her cutting comments. I can't really say anything since she would probably just call the police on me. My wife wants to help her and doesn't think this is a big deal but I want to put this woman out on the curb. What should I do to get her out of my house. She doesn't deserve anything from me and I get angry watching her eat my food.",1.7452965235173818,3.6250813619631934,3.1989202453987744,91.48263394683028,78.93865030674847,6.309856850715747,24.36359918200409,7.3011,0.953931206543968,614,22,134,8,15,201,101,163,0.039,0.902,0.059000000000000004,0.5023,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,2,6,2,1,0,6,0,16,3,0,3,2,31,22,14,0,4,4,4,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,3,5,12,3,1,2,0,0,2,4,1,0,1,2,2,27,1,20,17,1,18,0,0,1,0,24,11,0,2,4,94,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24810199375324984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15392837556689307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15805416420866011,0.16290271921122884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15541236052261542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319187163241051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15425064663059027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3645649800840337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575169781534159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10104177113058152,0.0,0.15121038678886903,0.0,0.0,0.3478809615539026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08284598129360582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15414785330113834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12032390577470205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11626449899144492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892894330633966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14437286210222966,0.0,0.3250590627814303,0.0,0.0,0.30308244744915425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09657165679819177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987915689534373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12469853162509904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09659185905054496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472567991811283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17782762565290927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097447801065645,0.0,0.0,0.1070855325186826,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Berman9407,2020/03/21,"Divorce with small children Parents of young children/preschoolers, how did you go about telling your kids about the divorce? When did you know it was time? What was the hardest part? After all was said and done, was it worth leaving the relationship?",4.593181818181818,7.830866500000003,2.860181818181818,90.23027272727276,77.18181818181819,4.42909090909091,31.52727272727273,5.6839178017228535,1.4570418181818183,202,10,34,1,5,56,33,44,0.0,0.9359999999999999,0.064,0.4329,1,0,0,0,2,0,7.0,0,3,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,1,1,5,10,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,8,1,3,0,5,2,2,6,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,0,4,26,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3539206085658938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19655229369778146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900679574378833,0.0,0.0,0.3662010557953814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38402113669732574,0.3745175953407187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3713092538515149,0.0,0.0,0.3289788140228886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3022847121783648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20166562678278896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Liliac100,2020/03/21,"It’s not even 2 weeks, and I’m not mad anymore? I found out about 12 days ago that my husband had a 2 year affair with a woman he met at business meetings. I found texts (accidentally, had hopped on his computer to print something as mine was having problems and a message popped up) and they left no doubt in my mind and I told him immediately we would not be reconciling.

He initially tried to play it off as it wasn’t sexual, etc., but ultimately it doesn’t matter and regardless I find this hard to believe (he even stayed with her for a month when he was taking a course in another city). The things that hurt the most was when he was supposed to be being a dad and I can tell from time stamps he was chatting with her.

We do have a child so part of my rush to move on is to focus on him.

Anyway... I feel like my attitude maybe isn’t normal? I will never really forgive him but I feel like he’s not worth the energy to engage with. 

Does anyone else feel this way? 

I feel like maybe everything going on with the virus has forced me to have some clarity, perhaps?",3.379885321100918,4.4951565642201885,4.717327981651376,85.50929472477067,72.80733944954129,8.018807339449541,24.175458715596328,8.472884824447931,1.3291550458715595,833,23,179,14,16,277,134,218,0.105,0.8,0.095,-0.2987,0,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,2,0,1,0,7,10,1,1,11,0,22,0,0,0,1,39,33,13,0,4,6,2,5,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,9,14,0,0,9,2,1,3,9,4,0,0,12,5,24,6,29,16,4,25,0,1,0,0,28,11,0,3,12,119,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12591126287676932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14894294893946966,0.0,0.0,0.14086704888834328,0.09931875367942056,0.14553835262674225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600321848501918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091605048289867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12430151671612112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186574878018163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15841387410381266,0.18763420695502206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12765778533396036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28728190014725835,0.3044235329240731,0.0,0.0,0.1298234024708242,0.0,0.0,0.31148245388728873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08072548563581368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12724132808522515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15205841595948225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15432855857798108,0.0,0.0,0.20818297811194705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.285399655270426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14342147297882193,0.0,0.11337620924279845,0.1509676874435313,0.0,0.0,0.109551199159416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13917055972690578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15381715570067608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13591457924651507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09099545346023423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10935052392932162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513973919864049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10679756754632712,0.0,0.1241505745458319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09436609359576632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08282556947985972,0.0,0.0,0.135726787110101,0.0,0.09643688790729836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11274597009280594,0.1139371627799972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10090224102638194,0.0,0.0,0.09147010052993086
divorce,silversid730,2020/03/22,"I shouldn't care Well I found out that my XHB is getting married to his gf. They were planning on going to Las Vegas but bc of this virus, their plans were canceled. There was a little chuckle, tee hee, etc running through my mind. 
This should be a sign for my ex but I know he cant/wont talk to me but I  dont care. 
Thanks for listening.",0.3217253521126757,2.4800815070422573,1.4994190140845092,100.11983274647888,86.04225352112675,4.113380281690141,20.142605633802816,5.148860815047168,-0.4665929577464789,261,8,61,1,8,82,56,71,0.14,0.816,0.045,-0.687,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,2,2,2,5,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,0,0,10,16,3,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,4,1,11,5,9,9,1,5,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,0,0,39,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5612155356009495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32255881960386185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3069459338272918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3017673585098855,0.0,0.0,0.14379244115095496,0.0,0.1564153374338195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512551348991911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2758453335105168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778963534817729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22121348839483815,0.0,0.2533879787391496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474581566151781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,MRS_Charles,2020/03/22,"What did you do with your wedding dress? Hello Everyone,

I’ve been separated for 4 months (in N.C., you have to be separated for a year). We were married for 1 yr and 5 mo. Unfortunately, the relationship began to involve emotional abuse. I was (and still am) young and sheltered. I missed the red flags, etc etc. But, I’m so much happier, less anxious, and getting my life together! 

Anywho, I have a gorgeous wedding dress hanging in my closet. I paid 2k for it. I freaking love it, so I don’t want to burn it. (I’ve got my bridal portrait that WILL be burned). I think I may try to sell it? Has anyone else sold or gotten rid of their wedding dress/mementos/wedding related stuff? What was your experience? Let me know!",1.6504285714285702,4.16920082857143,3.583928571428572,84.95232142857145,83.57142857142857,6.642857142857142,25.892857142857146,7.865858978985527,1.7624999999999995,556,24,110,11,16,187,97,140,0.094,0.7879999999999999,0.11800000000000001,0.6478,0,0,0,0,1,0,34.0,1,4,1,0,3,4,0,0,4,0,16,2,0,0,0,12,28,8,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,8,6,0,0,2,0,3,1,1,2,0,0,10,1,18,2,12,13,4,8,0,1,1,1,13,2,0,2,5,71,26,0,0.0,0.2497105041498437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380934394493891,0.0,0.14736496865652926,0.21594365594225914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760589649283966,0.23707128543211345,0.0,0.0,0.4700956209623657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20138566974865152,0.0,0.2061590718383672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11011091769436293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685602234844137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11582557175067465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21551151865131551,0.14886266337623533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19021483840066486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16822282703415584,0.0,0.15492935598714153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22627226179206655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16830941209874353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412643344918255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13504345203348375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14308897803594708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12430890486599172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13571946886397426
divorce,Expensive-Echo,2020/03/22,"The virus has made me realize I don't want to be married Anyone else? My husband has turned into someone I don't like during all this. Spending money frivolously. Hoarding food and obsessing about toilet paper. 

I have plans to leave him. Only, now everything is on hold because of this. I told him I wanted to move into the spare room. He, took apart the bed. 

I don't know what to do and I'm so angry over this virus bullshit.",1.382941176470588,3.8918699411764734,2.856764705882356,89.72044117647059,84.88235294117645,4.811764705882354,21.44117647058824,6.2581,0.4454941176470593,335,11,64,3,10,109,62,85,0.17800000000000002,0.8220000000000001,0.0,-0.9181,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,1,3,0,9,1,0,1,1,11,17,3,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,4,1,1,2,0,2,2,3,1,0,0,3,0,10,1,10,13,1,9,0,0,0,0,5,6,0,0,2,41,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183098799761466,0.2683068071034314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15962759917966926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21875066686147035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353431392252584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3166424959341588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14391156434650013,0.0,0.0,0.27727223207560675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127931708131383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477785330952744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2783160415292476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19915654654770146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22187336963247667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502187240040737,0.2909364116204709,0.0,0.2848287949044699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30890396120770164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,sincerequestion87,2020/03/22,Can I be fined for picking up kids per court order (California)? Due to the stay at home order? (Sorry if this is a dumb question).,0.8375641025641016,3.1739425000000066,3.220769230769232,87.40756410256414,85.53846153846153,5.005128205128205,20.2051282051282,6.42735559955562,0.29945128205128224,99,3,20,1,3,34,25,26,0.13699999999999998,0.863,0.0,-0.5661,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,0,3,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,2,1,12,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4651551913571626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5194794758913943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5191035182394149,0.0,0.4942704314770865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,PrivateVenue,2020/03/22,"What was the first thing you did to take back your identity? For example, my STBXH had health issues and avoided gluten, the first thing I did was buy a bag of real whole wheat flour.

I found out he did the same thing, but with a pack of American cheese singles.

So what did you do?",3.7913157894736855,4.713902122807016,3.837675438596492,92.92914473684212,71.63157894736842,7.805263157894737,23.021929824561404,8.07648339933343,0.7953192982456136,219,5,50,3,4,67,43,57,0.038,0.9620000000000001,0.0,-0.264,0,1,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,3,0,2,2,1,0,1,5,0,8,1,0,0,0,8,10,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,8,0,6,0,6,2,3,4,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,39,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20560675356186828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4548843659650807,0.0,0.29317983060941805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28422354811914496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27908616302696543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3043488750782399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20104434373089952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5329270074202715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2985318920485288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,katiedid2012,2020/03/22,"Trust the process??... I met my dream girl on her first day of work in January.  She was gorgeous, funny, smart... the total package. We became close friends and I quickly found out she had two young kids in a dead marriage (she doesn’t wear a ring). I took off my dream girl glasses and settled with friendship. She talked about her marriage, how many times she’d wanted to leave, planned to leave, but felt stuck with two kids under the age of 4. A few months later, I finally caught on to her flirting. We tried to shut it down multiple times. She decided to file for divorce a month later. I got caught up in the fantasy of a life with this woman and didn’t think it through.  We spent all of our free time together, talked constantly, spent time together at work and after, took weekends away together. As soon as she filed for divorce she arranged a split parenting arrangement as well. She told me she wanted to do life with me and I believed her. I bought a house in the same town she lived in because that’s what she wanted. We moved in together in October. During a big fight in December, she tried to work things out with her ex, went to counseling with him, put the divorce on hold, said she can’t imagine living without her kids 50% of the time and was hoping maybe she could just go back for them, despite the fact that her kids and I had become our own family with her as well.  After that she declared she needed to be alone- without anyone to learn who she is and what she wants.  Went back and forth telling me that I am what she wants and she doesn’t know what she wants. She proceeded with her divorce, I left my house at the beginning of this month, and finally her divorce is almost final.
I’m living away from home, trying to give her alone time in the best way I can while still being completely broken hearted myself. Her kids became my own, we all became a family, she’s absolutely the love of my life- which is why I could let her go, give her the time and space without asking her to move herself and her kids out of my house.
Is it possible that after divorce she can still want to be a family with me or am I delusional?  Is it possible that she means it when she says she’s still in love with me but doesn’t know what she wants? Does she just need to finalize her divorce, grieve it, learn who she is outside of that relationship and things could really just be okay? And how long do I give her (knowing it’s completely an unknown process). Or was I just used and am just a huge idiot?!",4.071305220883534,5.260973379518077,4.519457831325301,87.29898594377512,71.22891566265059,7.9429718875502,26.48393574297189,8.344100000000001,1.5719092369477905,1965,63,407,30,36,621,217,498,0.046,0.845,0.109,0.9863,1,2,0,0,8,0,63.0,7,0,1,6,18,16,2,0,24,1,32,7,2,3,4,82,75,28,2,14,12,2,1,0,1,0,3,3,1,9,26,35,0,1,11,4,4,11,8,3,2,3,22,4,86,14,73,44,8,80,0,1,0,2,97,31,0,4,37,289,112,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06715874182835288,0.13892408644777585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04689538475207397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06269936570182158,0.0,0.12602486431412385,0.10314203978563784,0.0,0.040883925456270835,0.07407114678984468,0.0,0.07556247539602183,0.07038354774454209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406386833077409,0.07247649580074317,0.0,0.16064460993107282,0.0,0.0,0.043253200686062934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05869150825718319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896767381033317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06439563253337671,0.2938781093592829,0.0,0.05704786024710661,0.0,0.07353641169175898,0.05181643755468848,0.0,0.0,0.1930127157532529,0.07623238447813734,0.0,0.053640268825496905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07947569911561121,0.0,0.0,0.06727449987450425,0.06661348616058403,0.0,0.23216180648765355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11057617290382077,0.0,0.0,0.14203029207391255,0.07286939137504522,0.06858139812870255,0.14211597107283858,0.0,0.0,0.17766636262783886,0.05935291729093741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12106266657096088,0.0,0.0,0.06799625089435922,0.06737864776886106,0.07305652631477706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605987013691561,0.14256497439842927,0.0,0.09945988931806037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07447088606723369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15121779791894227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06742169141248275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04296536799566513,0.0,0.0,0.07200574785309279,0.0,0.0,0.06379686281940743,0.053335028742252696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16068136226111648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107813159346988,0.058620237818431266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08911376961107882,0.042974356111179314,0.0,0.0,0.2737545290211119,0.0,0.0,0.06408618379602038,0.14902964933799748,0.1366039583209892,0.0,0.13103104526626294,0.0,0.0,0.0579250697367187,0.0,0.0,0.3164667410413814,0.05323532012709413,0.0,0.0,0.12060406381388925,0.1243450969856188,0.06051828304932137,0.0,0.0,0.193952978653464,0.0,0.14647853270454142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,dontfaqwithme,2020/03/22,"I finally got brave. My now STBX and I really rushed our relationship as far as we met in March, engaged in May, pregnant in August, married on October. That baby is almost 5. He and I are not compatible. We’ve had a dead bedroom for 3 of the last 6 years. 0 sex. Our daughter senses things aren’t right. My older kids are miserable. We had a calm conversation yesterday and we discussed the basics and why we are at this point. We decided mutually that our daughter will live with him which will be 10 hours from me bc I’m moving close to family that doesn’t have a great track record with being nice to children. I’ll have visitation, he’s waving child support. I know all this needs to be in writing and approved by a judge. Anyway a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. It shouldn’t feel so good to be getting divorced, but it does.",2.841785714285713,4.866883892857143,4.370857142857143,83.67414285714288,76.14285714285714,7.337142857142857,25.485714285714288,8.238735603445708,1.6828185714285713,666,24,131,12,15,222,120,168,0.03,0.8590000000000001,0.11199999999999999,0.847,1,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,8,0,0,1,3,8,0,1,7,0,20,3,1,0,1,24,28,9,1,2,2,2,2,0,0,4,0,0,1,3,9,13,1,0,3,0,0,3,4,1,0,0,5,2,17,7,19,15,1,24,0,1,0,1,23,12,0,2,9,83,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22992691367381554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20093820975571366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164612071862042,0.0,0.11610057591381567,0.0,0.0,0.2515327299235871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11996470432032902,0.0,0.0,0.19259071997296745,0.18364461757193665,0.2531520736694671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261251706761681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12619076072339447,0.18716740774494725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20275483285595566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440451061843643,0.0,0.17025710103153213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21706101524389665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14709767022366066,0.0,0.0,0.2465212855379463,0.0,0.19609051741855352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605651277429518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525464403791477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27961001274705893,0.0,0.0,0.2071924170040713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478649555711794
divorce,7106,2020/03/22,"To those of you who moved to a new city to start a new life post-divorce, where did you move? How did it work out? I work from home and can live anywhere in the United States. Seeking suggestions for cities I should check out!",2.3408695652173925,4.12321026086957,2.2341304347826103,99.52771739130438,76.82608695652173,5.469565217391305,20.195652173913047,5.985473137389443,-0.3182869565217397,176,4,41,1,4,52,37,46,0.0,0.9209999999999999,0.079,0.5349,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,1,0,5,5,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,9,2,0,10,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,3,26,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673916400282253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18828641189087286,0.0,0.0,0.2353863656587424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5666438603941963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.514910310173049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553005596565656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886797557948604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3881325530660093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,bigmiracle,2020/03/22,"Told her I'm speaking to my lawyer last night, today she's singing Hello
Married 18 yrs, never had normal physical intimacy, 4 kids 17 down to 9, I'm suffering and so are they.
Had a horrible weekend especially locked up like this, had a major blowout w wife after she continues to disrespect me in front of my kids, told her last night she doesn't have to worry I'm not attracted or interested in having sex with her anymore and that I'll speak to my attorney because we have to do something here.  I'm also visually impaired btw, haven't driven in 3 years. Tough to be with someone who doesn't love you and therefore is not prepared for challenges of life. Anyway, she didn't flinch last night and today she's singing.  She I be singing too?
Tx
For the record, I really dislike this woman completely, she is the antithesis 9f everything I stand for.
I just feel bad for the kids.
I told her, just stay out of my way, ( bc she loves to tell me what to do and control me)
She said, no problem, like there was a relief there. 
Thoughts
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divorce,expat_india,2020/03/22,"Someone pinch me Married 20 years 2 daughters (17,14) wife declared y’day that she’s felt stifled all thru and now that she is entering a career (as a pschytherapist) she finds me clipping her happiness and wings and wants out. I am in a lockdown and we aren’t talking. Is this a bad movie? Or just a sick dream.",2.647759562841532,5.001157737704919,3.2700819672131125,89.72566939890713,78.18032786885246,6.033879781420765,28.19945355191257,7.1686216300943375,1.5422437158469946,246,11,48,3,6,77,49,61,0.157,0.753,0.09,-0.6399,1,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,5,0,4,1,0,0,1,12,6,6,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,8,1,4,5,1,5,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,1,2,32,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3372344973428929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26047812245595925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38780143875139095,0.0,0.3691516653038569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4299525178445209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34221795171822544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32463458053171884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382270595548574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26009439972676457
divorce,GasStationHotDog,2020/03/22,"Thursday it was finalized! We did a joint divorce through one lawyer. I found out in September she had a 2 year affair with her “friend.” Found a sex video on her phone when we were on vacation with her family. I drove back home and started making a game plan of what to do. I was in the process of changing job but I had no reason to stay up there so I quit my job and moved closer to my family and friends. Our house sold last month. We are about to split up our back account and phone plans when this virus blows over. 

I told the other wife about the affair when I found out. She was pregnant during the first hook up and it makes me sick. I still stay in contact with her because I feel awful how we got put into this situation. She is leaving him. We  found out a lot through the lies. But I feel like I made the right decision.

My ex never made time for me, the house, the dog, my friends, or my family. Just her needs. It’s sad about 5.5 years of marriage and almost 10 years together but I found more love for my friends and family and me during this tough time. I’m just happy I don’t her anymore. 

Everyone hang in there during these tough times. Lies and excuses aren’t worth it!",1.5421296296296312,3.6349474567901225,2.5867335390946486,94.55071759259262,80.60493827160494,6.025308641975308,20.4130658436214,7.1686216300943375,0.3357189300411525,924,25,206,12,24,293,133,243,0.102,0.777,0.122,0.8099,3,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,7,0,0,4,15,10,0,0,13,1,12,3,0,6,1,45,31,18,0,1,6,2,2,1,4,0,1,0,1,0,10,21,0,0,9,2,3,4,4,3,0,2,18,2,39,7,31,13,2,41,0,1,0,2,34,16,0,3,20,136,49,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09682454867482927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09589394568630567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14870262872360013,0.0,0.058943445374189135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10228887630409073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09239475983932408,0.0,0.0,0.3646160139590437,0.0,0.0977822533615224,0.06907783843519329,0.0,0.10592297640436073,0.0,0.08224742112364711,0.0,0.5300970267890761,0.2988205581928923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07733460571818805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10293200300204773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969914401362973,0.0,0.0,0.2231425775282567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19190670937630092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07881808828718287,0.0,0.10238442944150708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047239548102088455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08220533533779352,0.08726963707914448,0.18298740951380735,0.12908729187364926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07717980987779324,0.1027698623229632,0.0,0.07169698711064923,0.07457596950433458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06552200165213076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09720365010100968,0.0,0.10284541375356404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09941699740295128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08257570001309245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10868751810237744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06844013985320054,0.2061247594630913,0.07721953468173899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16914822999027654,0.0,0.0,0.09239475983932408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18680228459440548
divorce,PositivelyInNature,2020/03/22,"What to do next...? I told my spouse yesterday that I wanted a divorce. We’ve been together for three years and married for around 7 months now. I’m miserable. He didn’t work for six months, by choice, and so I was responsible for all of the finances. I’ve been paying rent, utilities, my student loans, my credit cards, his student loans, his credit cards, food for him, food for me, dog expenses, etc. he finally started working again last month and still couldn’t help out with rent this month. I have spent well over $8500 on him over these past 7 months, not including food. I told him yesterday that things had been rocky for a while and I wanted a divorce. He, of course, started saying I was crazy and a bunch of other nonsense. My question is, we live in an apartment and I want to keep it. Should I hire an attorney for this? Because I’ve been supporting the two of us on just my income, I haven’t been able to save up money like I would have liked to. It’s costly to file for divorce in my county ($287) and this doesn’t include the fee to serve him. If I got an attorney do you think I’d have a shot at being able to keep the apartment? I just want him gone but I know he’s going to make this as difficult for me as possible. He also said that he would say “no” to the divorce, but I don’t think that’s how it works? Also any information on how much this will wind up costing me would be greatly appreciated. Or any other words of wisdom. Thanks so much!",2.7412736900780392,4.2227932207357854,3.910221571906355,89.21788531215164,74.9866220735786,7.123801560758082,24.16401895206243,7.793537801064563,1.0604079152731334,1139,35,247,16,24,371,158,299,0.045,0.8390000000000001,0.11599999999999999,0.9551,3,0,0,0,4,0,44.0,2,1,0,3,13,12,0,1,13,0,26,3,0,3,1,40,48,20,0,10,7,1,0,2,0,5,0,3,2,0,17,11,3,2,5,0,14,2,7,2,1,3,15,3,34,10,40,25,5,34,0,1,0,0,29,14,0,3,20,164,51,10,0.21174206660564168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16933005416423005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14399186623668914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09424766560202567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06453799924199571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180741878764089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11597654204801568,0.0,0.0,0.38405902113921736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060168948024912974,0.0,0.08467473683521708,0.11672318797394073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709631219572782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18820607775937764,0.0,0.0,0.058183951136513534,0.08629902256038144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10344647823860756,0.0,0.09348606205363684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07066973683167957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4225262435686825,0.0,0.15565478230958696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11259504499823593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10106588084466284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193536826338683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11859978702337735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007075968936613,0.16838579006905827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149872124573909,0.0,0.08454874395482165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12014119396353455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09747182324332088,0.0,0.0,0.0703360101974877,0.1356757665109745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023286186486076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10342061587404294,0.0,0.12734981750678295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497819138635677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09519077353919464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312261194871237,0.0,0.0,0.2256232334099512,0.0,0.0,0.06817747432884183
divorce,i-love-life-123,2020/03/22,"Better feelings after separation. I'm getting out of a very long marriage that was not exactly blissful. I was accused of being dead in bed, told I was to comply with things I wasn't comfortable with doing. Abusive spouse, very dark character. Not a hitter but a screamer. Always fighting. I refused to play that game anymore.

Strangely enough after being separated, I am feeling so much better, lighter and so much more sexual. I think it was the fact that I just couldn't stand my ex. From time to time things were okay between us, but most of the time I would see that angry rage filled face and everything would just shut down inside me.

How can you give yourself fully to somebody that you don't trust and that you find depressing, dark and scary? how can you take off everything you're wearing and expose yourself to somebody that you find terrifying? For somebody who is not a masochist, for somebody who has a sunny disposition, I don't think it's possible.

Looking forward to happier times ahead. It's sort of like removing an infected splinter. The wound is still there but it's no longer festering and it begins to heal.",4.655092153765138,6.922295364928916,4.975979462875198,80.2658543970511,71.65402843601895,7.722064244339126,30.679568193786203,8.515128840125781,2.5933915745129017,906,40,156,16,18,286,128,211,0.22399999999999998,0.664,0.11199999999999999,-0.9803,0,0,0,0,2,0,24.0,1,5,0,3,8,10,2,0,9,1,20,5,2,2,2,33,32,13,1,3,8,2,2,1,0,2,3,0,1,0,16,9,0,1,6,2,0,3,8,3,0,0,7,4,17,7,24,20,5,19,1,1,2,0,16,6,0,2,12,112,33,0,0.0,0.18791907267102773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13197071928865342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157291936958979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805436052505866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136604860525857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16387969097812274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850849859002583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16038927089058047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2899212356386746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08286372098974233,0.15214681612571698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07748560108634123,0.0,0.0,0.14035900212605998,0.13318689561026212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23318346984036076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17880148262605902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126386361017001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266608657536585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11925000484097778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21073807909038472,0.20325328614288946,0.0,0.0,0.3699316300306389,0.0,0.0,0.15155232831411558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19078034024489693,0.0,0.0,0.26172880090480605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22533458406048434,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,elle_bee_3,2020/03/22,"Ex drives by my house on a daily basis with our children.... It has been three years since our divorce was final. We were married 15 years and had 2 children together. Now 15 and 13. Earlier this week, my oldest flipped out on me me after returning from a week long visit with his dad. He told me that his dad would drive by my home each day with my son and they saw my boyfriends car in the driveway. He (my son) wanted to know what I was hiding and that he and his dad know that my boyfriend and I must just use each other for sex. Okay, but even if it was true, so what?


Why is my ex driving by my home every day? I think its fine that I don't have my boyfriend over frequently when the kids are home because they are my focus. My ex had three live in girlfriends in the year after our divorce. He married the third one in after dating for 6 weeks and living together for 4 weeks. I don't know if I want ever get married again. But somehow my ex has convinced my children that I am a slut and my relationship is only for sex because my bg doesn't live here??? I am so confused. When I confronted the ex about driving by my home each day, he told me I should be more concerned that he meet my bf's ex, and she said he was a terrible husband... he befriended her on facebook and took my kids when he meet her face to face!!!! Wtf?????",3.728514492753625,4.105993952898551,4.584202898550725,89.50644927536234,71.42753623188406,7.437681159420292,27.28985507246377,7.1686216300943375,1.145472463768117,1025,33,230,9,18,332,140,276,0.076,0.885,0.039,-0.902,0,0,0,0,2,0,39.0,4,0,2,0,13,8,1,1,9,1,24,5,2,1,3,37,37,19,0,7,5,12,0,0,2,3,0,1,5,5,13,18,0,0,4,0,0,7,3,4,0,4,13,2,45,4,27,20,4,41,0,0,1,3,49,9,0,4,25,152,58,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15338808814853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434156830159125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08309787414514133,0.1138044783087898,0.1060023356261054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13782128562831958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06573176295773406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5048002021203161,0.0,0.0,0.14517056618555904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20742954067167296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3332838442939644,0.1113399754022192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08525370803558513,0.09568596556674386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13507538568800698,0.0,0.0,0.11967636067883985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10407328045584097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08061547722904427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404381942169675,0.1397821560325188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086614800759397,0.0,0.0,0.14841477374418785,0.0,0.4036763303150265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135260818447558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08937348750894789,0.0,0.0,0.2430570957789692
divorce,NecessaryAge2,2020/03/22,"I NEEED YOUR HELP.... This is something i have NEVER wanted to do, but i feel like I’m emotionally being forced to... please tell me, that some of you dont regret filing?.....",4.94029411764706,4.7676142058823565,5.963529411764708,82.58588235294121,68.70588235294119,7.976470588235292,22.882352941176467,7.1686216300943375,0.7026941176470585,129,2,27,1,2,43,29,34,0.105,0.654,0.24100000000000002,0.6367,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,6,8,1,0,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,6,1,3,7,1,1,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,19,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4252053694817276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4081073797047892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18344537289390475,0.2591883372455684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24318089363129594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772484519228152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27981798464117796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39825151445173906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27930541573382445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31710801732902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21399209670780225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,brendlejn,2020/03/22,"I sold my wedding ring today. I asked for a divorce in December. Found out he was a gambling addict and had been lying to me and stealing from my family since the spring of that year. Went to counseling. Tried to make it work. The lies never stopped. Had to cut him loose. 

I tried selling it for months. Hard market.
When I finally got a bite on the marketplace, I sold it. 
I teared up on the way over to meet the guy. 

I remember when he proposed. I couldn’t stop staring at the ring. I remember the joy I felt that my life was going the way I planned it to. 

Coming to terms with the harsh reality that the life I’m living was my nightmare. I would have nightmares of this: that we wouldn’t work out and I would be single going through divorce. 
Now. I’m living it. Trying to find joy in this new life that is completely not to my plans at all. I’m sure everyone can relate.",0.8851117318435726,3.1645221340782115,2.6010586592178773,92.35521927374303,84.64245810055866,5.81463687150838,21.240502793296088,7.1686216300943375,0.6293729608938547,678,22,146,10,20,223,102,179,0.11699999999999999,0.8190000000000001,0.065,-0.8039,0,0,0,0,2,0,22.0,1,0,0,4,3,5,1,0,13,0,14,4,0,1,3,24,28,5,0,4,1,0,2,0,0,3,4,2,0,1,12,8,0,2,5,0,4,4,4,2,0,0,12,5,21,3,26,11,3,29,0,0,1,0,10,10,0,0,13,96,33,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602465262094487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13742072133447494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12662339707974446,0.15412172907451793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14046026632398612,0.0,0.0,0.13857404498842674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411384975664804,0.16102611773068976,0.13435100081862114,0.0,0.0,0.16117271085466256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16708158283215793,0.0,0.11756553438882365,0.0,0.0,0.1455484138692955,0.0,0.0,0.13167887644588866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3114812891545961,0.0,0.0,0.2595990080165536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09812047472792884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11733021081630166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11337180329452035,0.1419689341015309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3330339397688999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215959946600425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457892318329194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13854128903702215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13933431485755718,0.0,0.0,0.29940038913455075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333559840821301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136266074870934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2140285939520943,0.0,0.0,0.2088424245356337,0.0,0.0,0.09466012534941756
divorce,nlaurie,2020/03/22,"Married 7 years So yesterday morning my soon to be ex wife told me she slept with my “friend” . We have a 15 month old girl together and a beautiful home and all that .  I’m in so much pain , but I loved her so much that I couldn’t stand letting her rot in her car on the streets . So I allowed her to stay in the spare room but man it’s still very painful . I don’t know what to do I just wish she didn’t go down this path . I did everything for her but obviously I failed to be there mentally even though I thought I was doing my best to break through . 
I’m getting everything she said she’s going to just disappear over seas or some thing I don’t know . Doesn’t make this easier knowing I have the house and all her shares in the company she owned with her brother in law . I just want my family back before she decided to sleep with another man because he preyed on her weakness and apparently asked the right question and showed he cared even though I fkn care . 
I just don’t know how to get through this I know I will but right now I’m in so much pain I can’t eat or drink . I can’t just curl up in bed because I now have to raise a little girl nearly on my own . 
Anyone been through similar situation and got any advice how to get through it ? 
I still love her and can’t see her in pain but I also can’t be married to some one like this , I’m so fkn confused .",1.1155899198167276,2.8719984054982817,2.684123711340209,95.01514318442156,80.40893470790378,6.510423825887746,22.46162657502864,7.526774132740827,0.6521303550973654,1060,34,254,16,27,347,147,291,0.099,0.754,0.147,0.9407,3,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,2,25,15,0,1,8,0,23,11,2,4,3,45,51,25,0,3,12,3,0,1,1,1,5,1,3,4,10,11,2,0,8,2,0,4,10,7,0,1,9,2,44,8,34,36,10,37,0,1,1,2,34,20,0,6,11,169,54,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10429545021711804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08535204838846397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07258015002262552,0.11191584988318147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07462819023334888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09977826636551722,0.0,0.0,0.08206888382377334,0.0,0.13012339626029826,0.0,0.09081948169982457,0.0,0.11200668931808652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176369665197147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10455489725040502,0.0,0.10921157073989253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14098849182220866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19184432215936745,0.0,0.10061567016919512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08245943560308923,0.0,0.16728626730039586,0.0,0.12131438777724547,0.0,0.08536183693215392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10705902512647304,0.0,0.0,0.12315224302687412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932804479008304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091387916545775,0.0,0.052142951585395336,0.1069716317627653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19265622318227366,0.0,0.07124319220741987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10755887035075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08519097348541046,0.0,0.2353767837107944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119953201032205,0.0,0.07232309997000592,0.0,0.4542735439955298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195621747225448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18229389995889705,0.10152479694853213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08505009719445103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199691407314393,0.10680721171118138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137601203340053,0.17046964334439366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07090675752108311,0.0,0.20972362653789148,0.08473180332234131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019852154096519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08806353698460599,0.0629521974225824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227343850661664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06873070603609142
divorce,Raindelaygoaway,2020/03/22,"Call from MIL MIL called today worried about her princess.  

We’ve been divorced a year.  She cheated on me and carried the affair through the divorce.  Watched her skip and dance like a teenager in love through the whole process.  Yes, I am still bitter.  

Pretty sure they ended things a few months ago.  Her bubbly demeanor turned pretty glum and it looks like she packed on some pounds the last few months.  Kids indicated she sleeps all the time.  That’s all I know.

Well back to MIL.  She told me I need to talk to her.  She doesn’t seem right, depressed etc.  All I asked was is she neglecting the kids in anyway.  That’s all I care about.  Otherwise not my concern.  She went on about how she was my wife for 10 years and she is still my kids mother, etc, etc.  All I kept saying was if she’s not taking care of the kids I have an issue, otherwise I do not care. Got heated and we hung up.

Am I out of line here?",0.9950117096018758,3.359428360655741,1.6074785323965664,99.05885245901642,85.0655737704918,4.360031225604996,18.550351288056206,5.622346879071545,-0.5246927400468384,702,18,157,4,21,214,110,183,0.08800000000000001,0.75,0.163,0.9313,0,0,0,0,2,0,24.0,1,0,1,0,10,12,2,0,11,1,11,2,1,1,6,24,26,7,0,2,4,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,4,4,7,0,2,2,1,0,2,4,4,1,0,8,4,30,8,19,18,12,22,0,2,2,1,32,8,0,3,14,103,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11626567998745138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12261716229144727,0.0,0.0,0.10085416407250064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2678586336877037,0.0,0.4011799595706646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129681623421344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11616908316768518,0.0,0.4388351694197273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049008626213539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13689726231593186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07208226317628717,0.10691313901076722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12815658138376107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11014160687420832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11837727916548615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20938177825941845,0.0,0.0,0.09725369031642117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668743281476993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120101677960491,0.0,0.10430392400154387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11940339855142032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312550086239315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209489548025946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236170175571416,0.0,0.09861621214880543,0.1054216698113999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08713706612893883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07648061766601888,0.0,0.12432461517992788,0.12532927424699375,0.0,0.0,0.14266472779807585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11792884904133955,0.12158689937742395,0.0,0.14643577557619789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331996373422409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689258481513504
divorce,bugcatcher89,2020/03/22,Just need to vent Been together for 15 years married 10. Put a no contact order on me. Got a divorce attorney to try and see my kids. I just found out she's pregnant. But my child support is going to be 1800 a month and I'm currently unemployed. Plus I got accused of raping my adopted daughter. So I'm going to court for that too. I just have so much stress. I've thought plenty of times of just ending my life.,0.5051162790697674,2.7740706744186063,2.582604651162793,91.86413953488373,86.44186046511628,5.300465116279073,23.71627906976744,6.742157984588678,0.8379200000000001,322,13,68,4,10,108,62,86,0.14300000000000002,0.826,0.031,-0.8617,3,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,7,3,1,1,3,0,4,2,0,0,0,12,15,6,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,2,0,0,5,1,9,1,12,9,1,11,0,0,1,1,6,2,0,0,5,41,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354152458406457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29143021118148305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30211454973429586,0.0,0.4251606656351975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877386839580242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21215482406942174,0.0,0.195389715189884,0.19708343037968493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671971247239224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21180399365275596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30446697439184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.301620718911401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21101133243904915,0.15498704921257947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804571799005972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17116309687142275
divorce,DrDoom12912,2020/03/22,"It’s about to happen....I think.. So here is the long shorty short of the situation I am in. I’ve been married coming up on 5 years this year, my marriage itself is not the best marriage nor not the worst it is “normal/average”. We were together for two years before we got married and knew each other for about 5 years before that. 

My wife does not do anything wrong, I’m sure i piss her off more so than the other way around. Me myself I am not an emotional guy, and have very rare moments of true feelings for people. This was the case in regards to her. I do care for her as a person and out of responsibility, but what I’ve always felt was missing more so from me was love. We know love comes in many forms, but from what I’ve experienced in the past I was never “in love with her”. I realized this early on in our relationship and in highs sight should have said or done something about it then; but now it is really becoming an issue. 

Before her the woman I was in love with, we were never together because of weird circumstances but nevertheless I was truly in love with her and it probably took me a solid 5 years to actually be ok with the fact that I was never going to see, or talk to her again. Now fast forward to this issue. There are things in a relationship a man should be providing for his wife from emotional support, mental stability, and reassurance...but for the past few months I just can’t. The more I try or will myself to be what she needs I feel like I’m dying inside and wasting her time. 

It’s gotten to the point where sex isn’t even a chore, duty, or an after thought, it’s more like a cheating on her with somebody type of thing. We do not have kids together and no nothing else is going on with anybody, but deep down inside I know I can’t be with her. I’m struggling to tell her and end everything because I know it will destroy her  and I don’t want to cause any pain, although I know what we are going through isn’t actually great.

We have done marriage counseling in the past, and other things. I’m unsure where to start, unsure what exactly to do, but I know this is it...any advice is welcome. I’m honestly not myself, and feel like things that I have changed about myself for her are killing me.",3.5978085490668303,4.71954800220751,4.8718041340557905,84.58393738711621,72.28918322295806,7.786714830423437,25.427051976720854,8.199878495009871,1.4207077262693155,1747,53,364,26,33,580,200,453,0.1,0.7509999999999999,0.149,0.9819,0,0,1,0,0,0,51.0,8,0,0,1,17,27,4,1,22,1,46,8,1,1,7,74,84,29,2,4,17,2,4,3,0,4,1,1,1,5,29,31,0,1,13,0,0,7,16,10,0,1,19,8,52,17,62,57,9,58,0,1,2,6,44,27,1,4,28,268,81,2,0.0,0.0,0.15965321225369708,0.0,0.0,0.07993562139420905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06806552217545107,0.0,0.0,0.11125584828227236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0673157844194605,0.07282080758604388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09973104786774907,0.09034349079344592,0.20882152642121501,0.0,0.0858457803510191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08340222953584173,0.08403282338468168,0.08653529458840081,0.1409297490325191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08489719337222176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07158517136139785,0.16742296885295693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06833477838411896,0.18403168231541436,0.07245197803266369,0.0,0.0,0.054029215463278484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07351804451122114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240841097178803,0.11687822399668595,0.07854240803674002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13946928103063885,0.0,0.06542424875023872,0.09018660311621852,0.0,0.08099649003162898,0.07233692509574811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08642792985305743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17075933065131949,0.0,0.0,0.09050140099153588,0.0,0.2247802257617278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11989245631414785,0.0,0.0,0.07239188225411848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3691458947508538,0.0,0.0,0.08293402941488688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08243681886456074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06529329312599468,0.0,0.0,0.06065488374587497,0.1892714161143376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08014824460480717,0.07849088520542563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08704271841829646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342667804711669,0.05671096130717801,0.07142604174653683,0.0,0.0,0.07732899576941461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819600948289445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05240422885535196,0.0,0.0,0.17564870803736396,0.0,0.0,0.0778120974031696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06518532068966967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09194847706715148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06297490328952597,0.0,0.0,0.0578996258230594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855168410766358,0.0,0.0,0.09282753809223354,0.07709708294405136,0.0,0.0,0.06574906418360148,0.07149824385309966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21738151421550692,0.05241519152794983,0.0,0.06494136931499235,0.0476991974109368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088463819196448,0.0555379477964852,0.0,0.07990832155774867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06749492462405625,0.048248730012952434,0.06493033876515683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08943725808270699,0.0,0.2633878891370827
divorce,davedavid3687,2020/03/22,"Odds on getting custody agreement changed in Illinois? We amicably divored 3 years ago. There's no change in material situation. She's a good mother. I'm a good father, there's nothing much either of us could say or use against each other, nor would we. 

I agreed to 70/30 but would like to now go to 50/50. My daughter is 9. 

I don't think my wife would agree -- do I have any chance of getting it changes through the courts?",1.908452380952383,4.338539607142857,2.8000000000000007,91.61166666666668,81.5,5.161904761904762,27.190476190476193,6.42735559955562,1.006604761904763,333,15,69,3,9,105,66,84,0.036000000000000004,0.782,0.182,0.9072,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,1,0,12,14,3,0,4,3,4,0,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,9,4,10,10,3,7,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,1,4,42,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16952597002906356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130052250216286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6069313186555765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15269250485395694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998338433296851,0.0,0.10868818202444898,0.32081222539476084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09343199462229787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14058609854401585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835034544257811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15208463835680402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2149658922415324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12254121844332146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.230042581768698,0.1651731233759045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4075620376751797,0.0,0.0,0.12315465008216875
divorce,BrieFiend,2020/03/23,"My husband is always late. Here’s a post about how that screwed me over recently. I originally posted about this incident in r/Marriage, but I’ve come to feel like my post is a bit out of place there. I saw in the r/Divorce FAQ that cross-posting is not allowed here, but a mod told me I could post a link to the original post, so here it is:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Marriage/comments/flgkfb/my_husband_is_always_late_heres_a_post_about_how/

I thought of putting my post here to begin with, but I didn’t think it would quite be appropriate because I have no specific plans for divorce. But I was definitely thinking of divorce after the incident, and I called my mother that day and told her as much. I have been especially irritable when my husband is around me since then, which I know is wrong, especially since he’s been relatively very nice. It’s one of various incidents over the years that have increasingly alienated me from him. I know he thinks of divorcing me too because he’s said so.

At this moment, I don’t think I really want a divorce, but I suspect this incident and other things I mentioned in replying to the replies are the kinds of things that lead to a lot of divorces. We also haven’t had sex in almost a year (he has low T and ED), which has driven me crazy and is usually a pretty sure sign of doom. This incident doesn’t exactly make me feel better about that.",8.078455598455598,7.8900535057915056,7.616505791505794,73.40653474903476,62.204633204633204,11.106563706563707,34.71621621621622,10.608840637214634,3.48839305019305,1114,42,208,24,14,351,142,259,0.099,0.797,0.10400000000000001,0.2823,1,0,0,0,5,0,38.0,1,0,0,5,15,9,1,0,14,0,24,2,0,6,2,41,42,17,0,3,6,3,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,18,10,0,0,11,0,0,5,6,4,0,1,11,4,30,5,30,28,5,35,1,2,1,2,20,11,1,2,14,144,48,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10539042320525438,0.0,0.0,0.08416659131268757,0.08757456303242032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936928153959834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12831610863529885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09308308605798547,0.11490328907195038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10746972483062044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906616212976238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08403176794442345,0.0,0.0,0.06787609477462678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10643285411371343,0.07518901690147273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10959934043427616,0.11568282690123442,0.0,0.11872405143579093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05141873661837497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08947787724862521,0.0,0.0,0.07025369344438144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07736920957817689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07131860233672928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10996150269346397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7055877900481786,0.10707480365866803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10580306297780882,0.0,0.1119439421980524,0.0,0.0,0.06742440660675042,0.0,0.10391946046406472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001147160989006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17412406037778225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09919476313567002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13984386301832355,0.2697540456672714,0.0,0.08355496084827906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20113747958931807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11591553237914078,0.08684041996506876,0.06207785252659795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07476498514805685,0.11507189756395872,0.0,0.1355522065327267
divorce,someoneelseiknow,2020/03/23,"Hurts that she doesn’t care Kids and are stuck at home because of COVID-19. Ex wife and I are on good terms for the most part. 

What hurts is when she asks to video chat wit the kids or how the kids are doing. She never asks how I am or if I want to talk to her for a bit.",0.495322580645162,1.4442404677419347,1.6169677419354862,105.55545161290323,79.80645161290323,4.960000000000001,15.625806451612902,3.1291,-1.4951070967741935,207,2,59,0,5,65,44,62,0.127,0.763,0.111,-0.2648,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,2,1,10,12,8,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,7,2,8,11,4,5,0,2,0,0,13,2,0,4,3,39,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4803014836978693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15659337089170486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28044948609625986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619091354624094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21546110534691487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25767439385609103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5499967018474851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19812385207659547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27817903990751586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20647266450340146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515161313453974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,menacher,2020/03/23,"After the divorce, how did you improve your relationship skills to ensure success in your next marriage? How did you identify areas of improvement?

What were the areas of improvement?

How did you improve on those areas?

How did you know you had improved",4.914318181818182,8.231765431818182,5.005636363636363,74.84845454545456,76.5,7.156363636363636,31.52727272727273,8.238735603445708,3.14795090909091,205,10,29,4,5,64,27,44,0.0,0.625,0.375,0.9689,0,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,0,7,0,2,4,1,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,4,0,5,7,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,7,1,6,1,0,7,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,0,2,27,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3417684319419827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6613753659182992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6676653085823422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,devan1229,2020/03/23,"My wife took my kids out of state to be with another man,what are my options? So recently my wife decided to be with another man because our marriage has always been toxic and unhappy, I'm 24 with 3 kids, she told me that she was visiting her parents for a week but met another man at the airport and is living with him now, I dont really mind if she keeps the kids as long as I can see them 50/50, she went to washington state though and I'm in florida...I have not filed for divorce yet because I cant afford it thanks to being in insane debt and paying most of my income to bills, will I be paying child support out the a** if she keeps them as sole provider even though she was deceitful and performed adultery? I've been the sole provider for my family for the last six years ,she never worked or brung in any financial support either. I'm not too sure what to do?",4.0000093109869646,4.651100318435756,5.191745810055868,84.4085498137803,70.95530726256983,8.87169459962756,28.324487895716945,9.075114841892004,2.132753817504656,683,24,144,13,12,227,107,179,0.102,0.8590000000000001,0.039,-0.8896,4,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,1,0,2,2,7,4,0,0,7,0,17,0,0,0,2,26,30,15,0,2,7,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,3,11,0,2,1,0,4,3,5,0,0,1,8,1,23,4,25,17,2,19,0,0,1,0,26,6,0,5,8,97,26,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302134158102606,0.0,0.0,0.10641954671529552,0.4922847642687084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19079146078864487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18340680425234546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10336112137488963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14752620390731586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781935675629613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756141166685978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13818481012799155,0.1384900014569011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580117454796821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12069584727475023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17376522655816742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10025242478223564,0.0,0.15451641946732547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247034180654604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3551692671978449,0.14749133185630162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440762942820252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30750409395258754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14953427889269502,0.17386774985946746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12552799515961233,0.0,0.0,0.14506913432986607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11392763340353458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007753577183704
divorce,lobo06nyy,2020/03/23,"Coronavirus and time with kids My ex and I have been maintaining status quo so far, but now that NY is in lockdown other than for essentials, I am curious of what others are doing about their time with their children. Yes, I want my time with my kids, but is it the right thing to do for their safety to continue picking them up and dropping them off with this virus running rampant?",7.169189189189191,6.754947135135139,6.773648648648647,79.4493918918919,64.13513513513513,10.102702702702704,33.364864864864856,9.516144504307137,2.8906324324324335,304,11,58,5,4,95,55,74,0.0,0.852,0.14800000000000002,0.8922,0,1,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,8,0,0,1,0,11,9,6,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,7,7,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,11,0,14,8,0,12,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,0,5,48,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3991018903624184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.310476883455943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8175211149269473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756465356162301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,GiveToTheFire,2020/03/23,"Good deal or no? My(31m) wife(31f), and partner for 12 years has been gone six weeks.  Found out 4 days ago she has been cheating.  Yes, I do consider it cheating when the whole time she was talking about working on things and sending me cute selfies telling me she loves and misses me more.  She said it’s been going on for about two weeks.  When I began grilling her about what I already knew she said it was over anyway and wanted a divorce.  What she says she wants from divorce is 50/50 custody(3 kids) and for me to continue mortgage payments for the next 15 years in lieu of child support or alimony and she would make no claim on my retirement savings.  I don’t want to walk away from my home, and give to someone who would do this to our family.  I take full responsibility for my actions that led to separation, but I feel I didn’t deserve to be led on, lied to, and cheated on.  Damn it, I hate that I still care so much.  She txt me last night saying how sick she was so I went to check on her.  Some part of me wanted her to leave with me, but I guess I’m glad she didn’t.  Sorry getting a bit ranty.  What do you guys think about those divorce terms?  I feel like it could be worse.",4.077210743801654,4.644758570247936,4.400485537190086,90.45254648760331,70.73553719008265,7.207024793388431,27.521694214876035,6.9077264865688965,1.03790826446281,922,30,206,7,16,289,145,242,0.14400000000000002,0.768,0.08800000000000001,-0.9404,1,0,0,0,3,0,30.0,1,1,0,1,11,14,5,0,4,1,20,2,0,4,0,33,46,17,0,7,4,0,2,1,1,2,1,4,1,4,14,10,0,0,5,0,1,8,5,6,0,2,15,6,38,8,33,26,8,35,0,1,0,1,34,11,1,4,17,138,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12071822467522587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15028159080683046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12794863605445256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14867682599619844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13884788844502974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108731235125939,0.0,0.0,0.0878269230899864,0.1403989397721179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12838143786762268,0.0,0.1377166751200184,0.09728933325559967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14931789258423012,0.0,0.0,0.07115012169713897,0.13063937213870772,0.07739607314985351,0.11422403982447182,0.0,0.0,0.15002119135191475,0.1348428174515117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13445275455220834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13660289256464733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110075160376514,0.0,0.14419838694669398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06653225176493835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12291069027664442,0.0,0.0909033696092027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10011035021560644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14483241979544514,0.12779874463158555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474731770338261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590828921489705,0.21659675552553526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153876165959044,0.0,0.0,0.1524459867363734,0.0,0.0,0.1087561106959386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15453912593689406,0.0,0.0,0.102392847623513,0.1094589290950142,0.11903015353162075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09047409285034567,0.08726072080567188,0.0,0.0,0.07940954190181485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13303123644568499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3212976113341821,0.0,0.21847595999088595,0.0,0.0,0.1262432270485334,0.0,0.15204372312109948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09914302003181856,0.0,0.13878235514795648,0.1934813316006208,0.0,0.0,0.1753950821324812
divorce,hemogoblinss,2020/03/23,"I feel like the worst person ever. I’m (24F) the initiator of the divorce with him (25M). We were happy, we liked each other, nothing was wrong...except for the fact that we were not on the same page on one very important topic: having kids. One of us doesn’t want them ever, and the other did. 

Some background info: we got married young and suddenly. We’ve been married for 3 years but together for just under 9. He’s AD military, and he’s deployed right now.

A couple months back we had an argument on the phone about having kids...again. He said, “we will decide what we do about it when I get back.” I was destroyed. I never thought about divorce before.

So I went to therapy, worked myself out, and decided that yes, divorce is the best option here. A month after that, I told him. Also through the phone; I wanted to wait until he returned home but he could tell something was wrong...and I couldn’t pretend anymore. 

He said he felt like this was all a big miscommunication, that he never meant divorce was on his mind. That he really went and thought about it and decided he is okay with not having kids, that he just wants to be with me. And since I came up with the divorce option so quickly, that I blindsided him and didn’t give him a chance to tell me the decision he came to.

But the thing is...I don’t want to try anymore. This isn’t the first time this argument has happened, it’s just the first one to go this far. I’m worried he’s just telling me want I want to hear because he is begging and sobbing for me to stay. It sucks. He is having lots of mental health issues because on top of being extended on his deployment, his wife is leaving him. I’m also excited to return elsewhere, because the location we were brought to put my career on a long hold. I want to focus on me again.

He was never malicious. He only wants to be with me and it hurts to hear him so sad. It hurts to know he is really struggling with depression and even possibly self harm right now. I caused this. It’s my fault. But I can’t bring myself to love him like I used to. I’m just the bad guy and I can’t do anything about it because this is the solution I want. 

I just want him to be okay, and I know it may take a while...but I just want him to be okay.",2.237262917848604,3.8635715271149667,3.738004338394792,89.31657211190834,76.67895878524945,6.723866733411202,23.75109850381,7.5161900641278425,0.9683962511819346,1738,55,373,23,39,575,201,461,0.124,0.757,0.11900000000000001,-0.9385,0,0,1,0,5,0,70.0,9,0,1,5,28,23,2,1,24,4,41,2,0,2,7,87,84,24,0,13,13,1,2,4,0,2,1,4,1,5,26,31,0,2,12,1,0,8,12,12,0,5,26,6,52,11,52,49,8,50,0,5,0,1,63,16,2,5,29,252,78,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12582769685416773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15604266693165975,0.0,0.0,0.06474022763310337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12098758998657352,0.06568770695976678,0.19183051335518408,0.0,0.06694394819774879,0.0,0.08256125081504193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17995927139895218,0.0,0.08081765906012249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06281306904629742,0.08704890345623235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06775994740862433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05196201363612767,0.14232638113954665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03977885017640427,0.05620318393490197,0.07553731147906884,0.0,0.0,0.13383646744883107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041102793522380304,0.07546920526386991,0.04471102421528803,0.0,0.0629210636605277,0.0,0.0,0.07789749829631523,0.0695692553739837,0.0837476450995116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362449556896692,0.17733778079714824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07891427806047413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16843968084068184,0.0,0.0,0.08211296973052037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08647198043511264,0.0,0.0,0.08330212772030426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15374036426887785,0.0,0.0,0.06962210982667484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06688399184283737,0.07100441437948092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07928271897397203,0.0,0.07943613966322782,0.0,0.12559023701043925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820297374435654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07548775995328089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15993024075699067,0.0598334854978465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06869322316424696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08869068796444869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07908693655630616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007984006809534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343706566829876,0.1496698862513466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08207189516282365,0.0,0.0,0.06507816564305142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0605654321537988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08385372235199652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08224489702544117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05915143886826321,0.0,0.20628798827806505,0.0,0.08996811451445981,0.0,0.052266080069149866,0.0,0.0,0.12491331917221485,0.04587418723457152,0.0,0.0,0.07517432217776218,0.0,0.05341302064037776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09463254654212512,0.06794721727256038,0.0,0.0649125137874398,0.5104296369839277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14585918256225547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05727404232559333,0.07989508047252486,0.0,0.0,0.17203063136203053,0.0,0.05066209075804153
divorce,percocet_20,2020/03/23,"I feel so stupid and at the same time so utterly lost My(m31) wife (f30) and i have been married for a year and a half, back in February she told me she didn't feel like we were right for each other and wanted a divorce. We're no fighting over property and we've managed to decide amicably on who gets what. As for feeling utterly lost, I've loved this woman for 9 years of my life and I know that I could've done more as a spouse, I could've helped more around the house and helped ease her stress, I know that's my failing, but in the end I thought that we would be ok because of how much we loved each other. But love isnt enough, I see that now, but I've never really pictured my life without her in it and I just feel so lost. We're stuck still living together until our lease is up and we can separate and file for divorce in june, she rarely sleeps here and shes managed to begin treating me like basically a stranger the entire time, shes not cold or mean but when she looks at me it's like seeing in her eyes that the past 9 years never even happened and it breaks my heart single every day. I've never felt so alone in my life.

....Now for why I feel stupid, over the course of 9 years I've dealt with her infidelity(of varying degrees) 5 times, each time i forgave her and took her back out of love and willingness to move on. Yesterday I learned that she's already began talking to a new guy a few weeks ago. It was like a knife through my chest the absolute betrayal I felt brought me to tears, all the lies of the past just came flooding back to me all at once and I just feel so stupid, stupid for taking her back all those times, stupid for thinking I meant even half as much to her as she meant to me, stupid for not seeing this coming....just so stupid and hurt that she could find someone new before we even fully got divorced and now I have to live my life knowing the woman I loved more than anything never really cared about me at all. I feel so utterly wothless.",3.5139899074852816,4.42118877073171,4.112573591253156,90.7586585365854,72.26829268292683,7.216148023549201,24.869638351555928,7.372421405659032,0.8763254835996629,1556,44,346,16,29,493,191,410,0.185,0.732,0.083,-0.9922,0,1,0,0,5,0,39.0,6,0,0,4,26,27,8,1,18,1,15,13,4,1,8,73,57,36,0,3,11,2,9,4,0,1,4,0,0,3,18,29,0,0,20,0,0,4,10,14,0,2,20,15,55,12,50,34,16,58,0,5,5,5,43,18,0,1,39,225,73,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06932065445157276,0.0,0.0,0.08099286951652616,0.08629698005234894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06435293281993877,0.06961565669765285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24052761428571576,0.0,0.04767073190073354,0.0,0.06654347008919655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08944135142907869,0.07973134563669328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18731190916373927,0.0,0.0,0.050433311154510746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08002698891520538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06926306088858103,0.08080275463810807,0.0,0.15495348541242876,0.0,0.06588789238432234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767861709252521,0.05586696019246037,0.15017085075943495,0.0,0.07147448938873173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04085690469375263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06254465161371463,0.0,0.0,0.07743149287508569,0.06915307191669401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09266881061154457,0.104833245573042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023369707572436,0.083716012915359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12893201996332976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22094330979615093,0.15282064483272118,0.0,0.13810620263896647,0.0,0.06566932109021359,0.0,0.2560975761756529,0.0,0.3528982269244761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08518404337850702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08311551052322026,0.11497377488763175,0.0,0.2412543770327453,0.15105443222813747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08328173665195354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493038075751919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10019539542153016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06678340622693336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869487193545548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07825768617910102,0.0,0.06625963163022539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06245158748260931,0.0,0.08957922207017507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058797577809962163,0.0628551705498355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05010817786990311,0.0,0.062083025739121736,0.22799877272644686,0.0,0.0,0.07472460758566019,0.08688442192825609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04612509989964962,0.0,0.0627282937984256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07056442878565147,0.0,0.0,0.07538317601642977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055551896023986566,0.0,0.0,0.20143606176650727
divorce,JustOkIsOk,2020/03/23,"Not Sure I Can Take It My (M51) group at work got the green light to work remotely last week.  I might have to go into work just for my own sanity and mental health.   A majority of people should already be working remotely so there should not be much of a threat.  I feel if I stay here with my STBX (F46) things are going to get out of control.  

We were suppose to have the court date on April 6 at 8:30AM to have the divorce finalized.  She would be on her way a couple months later.  She was mostly hanging at work, doing other things or hanging out with her new guy.  We crossed paths in the house long enough to exchange pleasantries and update each other on the kids (so one doesn't play us off the other).   She is in a non-essential job and will be here a majority of the time.  After a weekend of being here with her and the kids I would be better off going to work.   How can two people that used to love each other and not want to be apart from one another be in this state to where one still loves the other, but doesn't want to be around that person?    So close to the finish line and this virus just took the finish line away.  Sorry, I just needed to rant.  Thank you",3.493470342111742,4.4331748619246865,4.2603051932069915,89.55859955697761,72.34728033472803,6.9624415456559205,21.590204282549838,7.048011613610866,0.4047984740339645,908,18,197,8,17,291,136,239,0.052000000000000005,0.898,0.05,0.3832,1,0,0,0,1,0,24.0,3,1,0,8,14,7,1,0,17,0,27,3,0,3,1,41,42,13,0,8,9,0,1,0,0,6,1,0,0,4,12,18,0,1,1,2,1,7,5,1,0,4,4,3,19,6,40,23,8,45,0,0,1,2,18,19,0,4,16,150,31,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13196290732184715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12539329069606464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10645429825434356,0.0,0.0,0.1123522442832902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10576152038736064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13412259757639508,0.0,0.1323164084468361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12356129281917293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06046480057193378,0.0,0.0,0.13099742384941915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06247722601982831,0.0,0.20388546807327546,0.0,0.09564151676421477,0.0,0.0,0.11840605443978187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12711122682237375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13798282393298336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11866775935253855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09747617437543953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10582726668565792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21585680511846014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12051162289264583,0.12685875505244995,0.0,0.0,0.09545007712568997,0.0,0.08790732648312695,0.08866934189429929,0.0,0.115494088139492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430977785911184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16580770769814646,0.10441533681466968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13386347264009155,0.0,0.12745965699720702,0.09549920572041476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11270564189456805,0.0,0.08991159721439099,0.0,0.0,0.1100960376754002,0.0,0.0,0.15889137539387446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06972985820950763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13286120686582056,0.0,0.0,0.11681529741429092,0.0,0.1438437267268709,0.10328139007497547,0.0,0.0,0.14106640300914502,0.09491948630883186,0.09592233721223853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5223474582811882,0.0,0.0,0.16989678438618064,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,forthelolz508,2020/03/23,"So confused...what am I missing 29(m) my to be ex wife 29(f) has begun taking better care of herself then ever in our 7 years of marriage, prancing around me in the nude and refuses to sleep without me in the same bed. I spent months trying to convince her to go to couples counseling and to give us another shot and now that I’ve agreed to get our finances in order and dissolve our marriage (easier as we have no children) she has moved out of the guest bedroom and back into the master with me. I’ve gone to sleep in the spare room only to wake up to her sleeping next to me nude ( that’s new) with a leg thrown over me. I’ve tried to brooch the subject with her and she insists that nothing has changed and she still wants to divorce and will not go to therapy alone or with me. I feel like I’m taking crazy pills what am I missing here? We can’t afford to live separately but this is driving me crazy.",3.21721198156682,4.448401059139787,4.182826420890937,88.73709677419356,73.35483870967742,6.604608294930878,27.264208909370197,6.868970318607317,1.1640596006144397,711,26,149,6,14,230,116,186,0.062,0.889,0.049,-0.364,1,1,0,1,1,0,18.0,6,0,0,2,7,6,0,0,7,0,10,8,7,0,1,26,24,13,0,1,4,2,1,1,1,1,1,0,3,1,5,17,0,1,1,0,2,5,4,2,0,0,2,1,25,4,34,20,1,27,0,2,0,2,22,11,0,1,11,101,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.171804799094291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.173942828377474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14767107257901196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12755381645218353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467100662847246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16912881220777728,0.0,0.17548225831896666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18354642579544395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500507043589504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387544796359785,0.11850687510109692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08666704049907123,0.1591301249506351,0.18855030592076014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08104207302344191,0.0,0.14647776118872813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324062578781307,0.17630741659483495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16021087125430228,0.17641849223281186,0.0,0.0,0.15916924832597829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12616152495861188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.498008508594987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13247440798945812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494467995311684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18970171017705126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22524738716344397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19953686941572246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09784211337081283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599053285542584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10682323743042113
divorce,SeattlePioneer,2020/03/23,"I Swore Off Marriage At Age 18-20 Or So I'm a hugely introverted personality with little in the way of social skills.

After high school,  I got a job as a clerk at a Target like store while I was going to school.  During those years there was a regular epidemic of divorce going on among people with FAR more people skills that I had.

The nominal rate of divorce is often described as being 50%.  But what were my personal odds as an introverted nerd  ----60%,  70%,  80%?  Who knows.

So I swore off marriage and NEVER married.  I'm age 70 now.  I have lots more money than I care to spend,  since I've never had anyone helping me to spend it.

I'm seventy years of age.  No divorces!",2.0091965811965835,4.1290288370370405,4.105925925925926,84.12128205128204,79.14814814814815,6.5242165242165235,22.236467236467234,7.61054688173877,1.050270655270655,523,16,103,8,13,179,90,135,0.052000000000000005,0.9,0.048,0.2424,2,0,0,0,3,0,24.0,0,0,0,2,5,3,0,0,8,0,8,0,0,0,2,10,16,9,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,3,0,0,1,0,4,2,3,1,0,0,6,0,9,2,21,9,3,24,0,0,0,0,10,11,0,3,11,66,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435102791870172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092583360858636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332880055764057,0.0,0.16415112053160566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137569674510797,0.21684989589665896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036714423582056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127958719801128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10027108410718603,0.20570683399079875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17448977445554592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31659122963597863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845785170735747,0.3584195466299025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4154325930805257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697786590208246,0.0,0.0,0.20921881060627312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16291188769299178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264338791577786
divorce,cadyrwolf,2020/03/23,"Social Isolation Sucks Well, I found out today that he’s engaged. We’ve barely been divorced for 3 months. He is getting married to the person he left me for. In a span of 5 months, I’ve been left, found out about the affair, had a baby, found out she was pregnant, got divorced, found out they moved in together and bought a car, and now this. Postpartum is eating me alive, and being alone all day doesn’t help. I feel hopeless.",2.4454411764705877,4.588041235294121,3.26904411764706,90.54944852941178,77.82352941176471,5.661764705882352,22.389705882352942,6.6274283507984215,0.5327941176470592,335,10,67,3,8,106,61,85,0.11800000000000001,0.765,0.11699999999999999,-0.0258,0,2,0,0,2,1,15.0,0,0,1,0,3,4,1,0,5,0,8,1,0,0,1,13,17,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,7,1,0,5,0,1,2,1,2,1,0,10,1,6,2,11,6,1,16,0,1,0,0,11,9,1,0,5,38,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17432731802463067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085515789865132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17223195911485506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08510694677151401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7382106734787701,0.0,0.0,0.0879395267826205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134619768847417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11282041647405094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3657573251496349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687006177621863,0.17889604507473944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14696931815467976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17157962632929524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595463615773835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15133864490410198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,weezyl24,2020/03/23,"I left today Mid-30, Female. Today I left my husband. It had been a long time coming. He hasn’t worked in nearly 2 years. Was spending my paycheck like it was endless. And I am almost certain he is over medicating with his benzo anxiety medicine. We’re set to lose our house soon & only had 1 car (in his name). I finally got the courage to leave today and my family came and helped me get my clothes. I left everything else In the home. Telling him didn’t go as I’d hoped,  but it’s done. So now I start the process of getting my life back on track. 

Any advice on what to look for in an attorney or questions I should ask? 

Any tips or book recommendations for moving on or for learning to set healthy boundaries/not be codependent?",2.243469387755102,4.3807769863945625,3.4356122448979605,89.13260204081635,78.45578231292518,6.37687074829932,25.465986394557824,7.447530270364453,1.227606802721088,575,22,119,8,14,186,107,147,0.031,0.89,0.079,0.7693,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,0,2,4,5,0,0,5,0,12,2,0,0,1,17,22,9,0,2,4,1,0,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,4,6,0,0,2,1,1,5,2,1,0,0,9,1,17,4,19,11,0,30,0,1,1,0,12,12,0,6,12,68,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13904852994544967,0.0,0.0,0.14248737853947904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541760217644831,0.0,0.1935302670031496,0.0,0.1088548962903516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330261409270328,0.0,0.0,0.1094156804175394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16274699024706674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12257410455292075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14561666808905915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11886878856674772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278851134882153,0.0,0.13414258241733504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558766598091046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486859973262367,0.0,0.080869238526426,0.0,0.11380590346127167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953769980117795,0.0,0.14273297665659562,0.1413305365764068,0.0,0.1641887380199545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15066932047753562,0.4638101431084614,0.0,0.10050680728214713,0.0695179008276237,0.0,0.0,0.1259261469649186,0.11949153482407948,0.15919113813084226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14334672974361815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15123652498954462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082213725924513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15940239576742535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007167732566254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243716571918089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08297306212032593,0.0,0.40463561879651616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035920843123362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09163298702422956
divorce,Divorce_throwaway86,2020/03/23,"A flood of emotions So my wife left me 10 days ago. She just came and picked up the papers to look over before she signs them returns them and I go and file them. Managed to keep my cool all up until when she walked out the door. Then I went and hid in the closet so my son wouldn't see me crying. Broke the news to him last night and he took it like a champ, to the point he is asking questions regularly with seemingly no negative impact so far. Should I be concerned at how ok I am with how my life is unfolding even though I desperately want my wife back. I can carry on an almost perfectly normal day. Then I lay in bed and just cry until I pass out. Sorry guess I'm just posting to find out im not alone. Even though I know im not just based off this sub",1.9454884379424264,3.1945159509202483,3.4165644171779133,92.89987258140631,76.60736196319019,6.487777253421425,19.90042472864559,7.010146845296331,0.10001972628598432,592,12,139,6,13,195,109,163,0.10099999999999999,0.784,0.11599999999999999,0.3614,0,1,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,3,2,15,6,0,0,8,2,7,1,0,3,2,36,20,18,0,4,6,3,0,1,0,2,1,0,3,0,2,12,0,1,4,0,0,6,5,1,0,0,3,3,23,5,21,14,1,33,0,1,2,0,14,14,0,4,13,89,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380957387182304,0.0,0.15599813516870098,0.1613483057146781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14563977614028606,0.0,0.0,0.11979055463232825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325632271008309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17817877795980966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3422493165859041,0.20093940009622965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17523935952357667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20579163314105528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14238645739475253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885373184063454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716168979362345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33655329587224303,0.0,0.0,0.13847060634741354,0.0,0.0,0.08561643799688473,0.12698716346879205,0.0,0.0,0.1692629858140997,0.0,0.1100369356815054,0.07610963862983314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13082180886525027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14619550688921912,0.15263814224567313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472690302097897,0.0,0.1492008423776417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745170466046003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241420358090144,0.14182259571530778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17439074513915884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061197907409557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17308504260690394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09188718419477893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444160709316518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,RealLifeTVProducer,2020/03/24,"NOW CASTING: Married 4+ times and are currently engaged again? Serious question: Have you been married/engaged 4+ times and currently engaged again? OR Is anyone here in a serious relationship with someone who has been married four or more times? 

If so, what's your story and would you be willing to share it? I'm part of team casting a documentary series for a major cable network and would love to hear from couples in this situation about possibly being interviewed for the TV series. Email us at [Casting@TFcasting.com](mailto:Casting@TFcasting.com) to be considered or to refer a friend. Thank you!",6.051923076923077,9.170483423076927,6.619846153846152,66.12515384615384,70.53846153846155,8.775384615384615,34.43846153846154,9.3871,3.981956923076924,492,25,71,12,10,160,73,104,0.024,0.8009999999999999,0.175,0.9528,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,4,0,1,6,8,0,0,5,0,12,1,0,0,0,13,16,9,0,3,4,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,4,5,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,1,5,6,13,8,3,11,0,0,0,1,15,3,0,5,8,55,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.162125307643656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565540675856404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791382227476155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613285589691232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20926709702611354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510870582341135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613928016415355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597417182277459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489360964732868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26062582769343473,0.0,0.0,0.1964583512096304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21347001949523686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4056068094458675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789048888315594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3294203010468534,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,0Airavata0,2020/03/24,"I need emotional help. I have been married 19 years. I am 39 he is 41. We are just separated right now. I have lost 15 pounds, can't sleep and it is so hard to take care of my three kids. 19, 14 and 13. I feel like throwing up all the time. I sometimes think about ending my life. The only reason I have not is because of my children. I need my husband.  I love him. He says we have grown apart. I helped him get through law school, he changed for the better. Got a life and career goals. I stayed home and raised the children. There for I guess I'm boring.  He never said anything until he felt like it was too late. Please help me.",-0.967045454545456,1.1420954772727292,0.6612727272727277,102.0769090909091,98.01515151515152,3.246060606060606,15.690909090909093,4.935628992294339,-1.1232981818181815,481,12,114,2,20,153,91,132,0.048,0.772,0.18100000000000002,0.9526,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,0,3,6,7,0,0,5,0,12,4,1,1,2,18,26,6,0,2,2,1,3,2,0,0,2,2,1,3,2,6,0,0,4,0,0,2,3,2,0,1,6,5,21,5,9,20,1,13,0,1,0,1,19,3,0,1,9,62,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377154674403464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10201550790702874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14800820259829478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17062531656059934,0.0,0.1770349799397793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18824715014814453,0.1482231560962319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846176040240225,0.11955546080398866,0.16068303340669532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874338974388204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13384574028625476,0.0,0.18435579793028534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14991346562226598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3365151855108685,0.0,0.16786651959899382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887790167082822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364096697156804,0.16351831700165068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18268319131132807,0.0,0.15104065083018514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481770283044705,0.12907127091649814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12727784138509568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837009482454176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720645174415774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429166877527466,0.1591889548462778,0.13308409076805847,0.0,0.1693679664806048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674716809428094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655142422859077,0.0,0.0,0.1783737097089454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12582699121290464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072316495232003,0.0,0.0,0.09758361021308244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10776844267197856
divorce,whattaguyiam,2020/03/24,"Divorce and break up Three years ago I met this wonderful young woman at work. We started talking, then walking then kissing and eventually falling in love. She knew it was love very quickly, it took me a couple of years to realize I was in love too. She was everything to me. I just could not face reality and get a divorce.

My marriage was bad, sad and pointless (other than caring for my daughters) and my friend knew it, she knew everything about me. 

My friend got me into talking to a therapist and that really helped. To the point where after a couple of sessions, I asked my wife for a divorce. A few weeks later, my friend tells me she is unsure about us. That she has met someone that's her same age and same religion, but at the same time tells me her love for me is unchanged. 

A few days ago I visited her and after a romantic moment we started talking about her making a decision. I questioned her and she admitted to exchanging phone numbers and  texting in a flirty way with the other person.  I ended our relationship, wished her the best and left.

Part of me understands her, life with me would have been way more complicated. The thought of being with someone her same age and religion seemed attractive. I honestly wish her the best. 

Now I feel like I have nothing to live for, I have no feelings for my wife at all.",4.981072048611111,6.2124485742187545,5.674635416666668,79.70960069444446,69.1171875,8.813888888888886,31.409722222222207,9.150863307647796,2.7530727430555566,1049,44,195,20,18,341,132,256,0.040999999999999995,0.7440000000000001,0.215,0.9942,0,0,0,0,3,0,29.0,4,0,0,3,8,16,0,0,16,0,14,7,1,1,1,44,40,15,0,4,3,3,2,1,3,1,1,0,0,2,9,18,0,0,13,0,1,4,2,2,0,1,13,2,46,14,32,24,11,39,0,1,0,5,49,11,0,3,22,151,55,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925253669470265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101521421311568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906720706656478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.227926956644441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11071957338925772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08670406228033624,0.2403160253526584,0.0,0.07003462253201108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09618270570976813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19519589751966487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098175254131584,0.07758010290268058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517000768175835,0.0,0.056736268798353424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08685313271902571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07278876415649496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11798850115462299,0.0,0.07670367535030789,0.05305390391267671,0.0,0.09589114366809096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3920439653728532,0.0,0.07248783121942551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10419958043394068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11759751934584205,0.0,0.0,0.09482073698834788,0.0,0.0,0.1026571288304696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216509602248375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06956857022825919,0.0,0.0,0.1165901087327266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09886057142277656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840239391031098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15372782972838514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26185301199974004,0.1898331759607059,0.0,0.0,0.1260868613697856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862120922412535,0.06332246533144922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12065275022326526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130509526068305,0.13062609953173251,0.0,0.0,0.08960203224668138,0.0,0.1723948975490801,0.0871081489135362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497571799869367,0.0,0.1177663615922459,0.07905826300550071,0.0,0.0,0.07714258651505289,0.0,0.0,0.13986290238738802
divorce,LebenTheNinja,2020/03/24,"My friend doesn't have a reddit so she asked me to ask this custody and male roommates I wasn't sure if this is the right place, my friend has a daughter and is filing for divorce, she has a male friend looking for a roommate but her family said that may lessen the chances of her getting custody of her daughter considering how long the divorce process may take, they said that's how it was ""in the back then times"" so she was wondering if anyone had advice or if she should stay somewhere else until she's back on her feet",10.490142857142855,6.535466942857141,9.032261904761906,77.05982142857147,60.523809523809526,11.642857142857144,40.535714285714285,8.07648339933343,3.2414285714285715,419,15,86,3,4,128,67,105,0.015,0.9009999999999999,0.084,0.7201,0,0,0,0,2,0,5.0,0,0,1,0,6,4,0,0,8,0,13,1,1,2,1,14,21,13,0,4,5,2,0,0,3,3,0,2,0,2,5,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,6,3,14,4,8,12,0,11,0,0,1,0,23,4,0,7,6,62,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19324422886044754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382751313012434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3697490945328316,0.0,0.0,0.3041232984746201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16519921060056095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18642613414724013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4583558538425483,0.0,0.10331900275007344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17500725231075642,0.16606467908355044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066122395229886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688819792722788,0.37622122644258027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21078087954222588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18638206698162352,0.0,0.14868740422164298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11531272867050618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21445722982700832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,WishingForAChange,2020/03/24,"Things you wish you knew to protect yourself before you divorced? My STBX sprung it on me last Thursday. She wants out after having multiple affairs/one night stands on me (before you blame game, im not guiltless. Towards the end of her first affair, I had a 2 week fling of my own because i thought she was truly gone then).  

She has legal counsel through legal shield, but claims she will not be paying for a lawyer beyond making sure the paperwork is in order. I'm keeping the house, our daughter will live me me primarily (STBX is cop, works nights, cant support our kid in a normal day to day life).   

We reside in Florida. I dont want squat from her, im just tired and want this to be over with. However... She's lied to me in the past, and I dont trust her to not screw me in the end. I can't afford a lawyer and she doesn't have the assets to make hiring one worth while.   

I just want to protect myself here, have this thing uncontested, and move on with my life. Where should I even begin? Life feels like Hell right now because I have a half a dozen other things weighing on my mind, this is the last thing I needed..",3.3102244582043348,4.5067668903508755,4.028307533539731,90.06942724458204,73.07894736842105,6.41733746130031,23.499484004127968,6.522977012572876,0.5174031991744066,873,23,186,6,17,278,136,228,0.126,0.7809999999999999,0.09300000000000001,-0.8667,2,0,0,0,1,0,33.0,3,4,0,2,7,6,2,0,13,0,20,6,0,2,1,30,36,7,0,8,6,1,1,1,0,3,4,0,0,1,9,8,1,3,3,1,2,2,8,2,0,4,5,1,36,4,28,26,1,36,1,0,0,1,21,15,2,0,18,127,45,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15499368818395332,0.0,0.21635534934013564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16397576860040305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29798919628372844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251976597377501,0.0,0.0,0.08396770668091064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06428039619684607,0.09082120058368867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10813612151992588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466901487621686,0.0,0.0,0.2746429288592536,0.0,0.0,0.11299836713709305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20725470188731704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693855624257911,0.062108956661804965,0.0,0.1122575050487344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16971959594625755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12836435712083835,0.0,0.0,0.13511833160136422,0.0,0.09426476848622592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23860448072010576,0.1245597263676788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08614610690628073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12135930618903595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085677314767672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14426482827124054,0.11981786504006965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3378362440947482,0.0,0.0,0.10092646734439706,0.0,0.14611643412259093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29993663055926273,0.0,0.10197545980152008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14619242622857012,0.0,0.0,0.09255164782686184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,IamHunkyDory,2020/03/24,"Is my ex is acting not how he supposed to? Me and ex have separted recently after 14 years of being together. We have a 12 year old and a 1 year old. When our little one was only 3 months old he started an affair with his coworker. He fell in love. I found out almost 4 months ago, after fiddling back and forth he desided to leave our family for her. It was hell, but now I've accepted it, life goes on. As far as I know, she is separating with her husband, will be sharing custody of her kids 50/50 with her still husband. So, only a few days ago I told him to move somewhere else. He found a room, but still comes straight after work to our house. Takes a shower, has a dinner with us. Plays with kids for a bit. Then leaves. Today after doing all of this, he said he has to leave at 7pm. I'm guessing he went on a date with her, but I'm not sure. If he did then I find it disrespectful because he does all the regular things here and then goes on a date. I wanted him back, but he left us anyway. Now he started sending me emails from work, asking how our day goes. I don't know... I still want to save our family and I could forgive him this because I've also done some stupid things in the past. Although I'm not sure if there is still hope. I'm not sure if it's a good idea to keep letting him have this comfort with us and see where it leads or just draw some boundaries now. Drawing boundaries will push him away I believe... I don't act needy or desperate. I just act as if we can live easily without him. I know we can. But there is still a tiny hope in me that our relationship can be saved. Long and complicated post, but I feel lost...",1.6309565217391295,3.2369718492753634,3.260217391304348,92.17119565217394,78.33333333333333,6.223188405797102,21.644927536231886,7.0316486544052195,0.4095971014492759,1268,35,289,14,30,420,179,345,0.061,0.81,0.129,0.98,1,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,12,0,0,4,23,17,2,0,14,0,27,3,0,3,5,68,54,31,0,9,19,4,1,0,0,2,1,1,2,2,11,19,1,1,10,1,0,10,7,3,0,1,10,3,42,14,37,37,6,64,1,1,1,1,53,15,1,12,38,186,53,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547636329382178,0.0,0.08741340737369242,0.0,0.0,0.06980983954625808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08160911069735967,0.0,0.08201659607963359,0.13424904778858152,0.0,0.10642853435458197,0.0,0.0,0.09835165555719977,0.0,0.0,0.09530361213809774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07519697705562971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06969801373082687,0.0,0.0,0.11259620263435842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07639250797422831,0.08933316942554248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07292383329323072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16458805436941532,0.0,0.04413901259542035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07978611661789678,0.0,0.0,0.19142908687719054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07321896681165656,0.0,0.0,0.09616536630573352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17340741186663078,0.0,0.1007267955226936,0.0,0.09854551352802872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07759187319027139,0.0,0.0,0.14392526996068353,0.0,0.0,0.2772986384749386,0.09484635387631236,0.08926512810802452,0.06165909274798876,0.0,0.08749259789726811,0.07708315011163026,0.07725339392495036,0.0,0.0,0.09529288586300698,0.0,0.07878721297191732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13935619125949034,0.09278084911239896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748044882562309,0.0,0.05915340170179782,0.132783675662094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08333302626271243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08360455079255079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08619335472169087,0.09372224075336212,0.0,0.0,0.0830376062292769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06956287225252766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235758060859528,0.0,0.3485697963339215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468237238907761,0.0,0.06563503202493805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11598993717791715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08274552348968425,0.08341418464188416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3150156788270294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10297779336597188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08092340864206281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08414933669498204,0.0,0.1271037078442028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16864549770767093
divorce,Matchete,2020/03/24,"Anyone else worried you aren't going to make it through the quarantine? My STBX left me for someone else a little over a month ago, and now I'm stuck alone under a shelter in place order with no family within 1000 miles. I'm worried I'm just going to snap one day and kill myself.",6.3458045977011475,5.275832775862072,7.005172413793105,79.2737356321839,66.06896551724138,9.11264367816092,29.67816091954023,7.793537801064563,1.8858091954022984,223,6,44,2,3,74,47,58,0.254,0.746,0.0,-0.9231,0,2,0,0,0,1,4.0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,8,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,1,0,4,0,9,7,0,15,0,0,0,0,1,8,0,0,4,25,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998651232782146,0.0,0.0,0.23351842215923546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15765352911600744,0.23102016551069685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14540918620822618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37670170063505537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125525948967394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25627904557015463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494486151087721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449732905603971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22597968957797102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15050265378096614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799676178238804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15278398030595775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355676571255448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19103959056525646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4579504792969651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,SilverSword7,2020/03/24,How Do you Get Over the Loneliness? How do you get past being so lonely without a partner?,1.6483333333333334,4.104466055555555,3.653333333333337,84.90000000000002,82.8888888888889,5.822222222222222,25.66666666666667,7.1686216300943375,1.5048,71,3,13,1,2,24,14,18,0.299,0.701,0.0,-0.7507,0,2,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,2,0,3,5,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,4,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,12,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6102009772703552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.557465928803571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5629267319656044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,lajurg,2020/03/24,"Divorced, lonely, hopeless I am getting a divorced. I’m 33. It would have happened already but we have an agreement regarding health insurance. It’s been over a year since he left. Four years earlier I started infertility treatments. I ended up pregnant Fall of 2016 and 2017 but miscarried a few days before Christmas each time. In 2018 when I was starting up treatment again he told me he wasn’t sure if he loved me anymore. I stopped the treatments and then my dad died suddenly. His heart stopped. Things were chaotic for a few months as my brother and I took care of packing up and selling the house, along with all the other things involved. My ex became distant and angry with me for everything. In December of the year he asked for a divorce and left a few weeks into January. A day before he left my aunt died. He was the one who ended up telling me bc of a fb post. 

I have never lived alone and had to learn he to pay bills and make a budget. I ended up buying a house using the little money my dad left to help. It took a year. A year in which I went through 4 egg retrievals involving hormone and shots. 

I jumped into dating too fast. I ended up meeting a guy in February who seemed great but ended up being completely mentally unstable. He would have really intense mood swings and he would yell at me for little things. He couldn’t communicate at all when it came to emotions or feelings and got intensely angry if I was ever upset. I stayed because I don’t know why. I was trying to find a place to live, going through hormone injections, and I guess I just wanted someone around. I kept thinking maybe the person I was first attracted to would come back instead of this terrible person who kept yelling at me. We ended up breaking up in November. And I went into a deep depression. I still hadn’t found a house yet and was staying in my marriage house (my ex had moved out).

In late December I bought a house and moved into it in late January. I started doing meetup to get myself out there and try to make friends. My core group of friends left me shortly after my ex left stating that watching my life (dating and trying to find a house) was too stressful for them. One girl decided this and the rest followed. I do have other friends but I see them maybe every other month. They all have kids and are busy. I understand.  I also started online dating, but the guys that message me are awful. They get bent out of shape if I ask a question or am just honest. They say I’m having an attitude, okay guy I just started talking to 3 minutes ago...

Recently I found out my ex husband had started cheating on my the month my dad died. The girl (who he’s now dating put it on her instagram). It make sense why he was so mean to me. He flipped out when he saw I had started dating. He had moved in with her a month after he left and they’ve been living together ever since. 

I feel so alone. I don’t understand why he gets to do something so awful and be happy and I get to me alone and struggling. I still talk to the ex boyfriend but he is still moody and angry. He is the only one I have to talk to but I feel like it’s really starting to grate on my mental health. His idea of sweeping all emotions under the rug and just “move forward” seem stupid to me. 

I started doing a lot it meetups. It’s nice to have people to do things with but it doesn’t feel like friendship. occasionally go on a dating site but it just seems like guys are going after me for my looks and are really rude to me. I did a dance meetup and some guy just physically came up and took my body to dance without even asking. What is wrong with people? 

This is all very disheartening. I keep wondering when it will get better. It’s been over a year. I just feel like this is a cosmic joke and my life is over and I have to just wait it out until death. I have been trying but it doesn’t seem to be working. I have a really hard time getting out of bed in the morning and can’t concentrate. The emotionally stunted ex bf keeps telling me to go on medication or talk to someone. I do have a therapist, but they never seem to help me (even previous ones I’ve had). Medication I tried after my first miscarriage, but it made me incredibly sick and I stopped taking it. 

When does it get better?",2.7393286494925846,4.665770765807963,4.036045901639343,86.40704153005467,76.11943793911006,6.7092334113973475,25.672380952380948,7.603071568975378,1.3738389570647933,3350,122,666,46,75,1099,340,854,0.127,0.768,0.106,-0.9724,1,5,1,0,4,1,82.0,2,0,6,5,33,34,3,3,45,3,67,11,2,5,10,139,142,62,4,9,27,12,6,4,4,5,7,3,3,10,38,56,1,8,24,3,7,23,11,13,0,7,38,13,94,20,102,95,12,156,0,4,4,1,86,60,0,16,74,450,132,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0369883888032356,0.0,0.0,0.12964948636166673,0.04604668371893782,0.033368995524410965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04138188319932869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03714579726774254,0.11702708675358885,0.0,0.0,0.032085418788602084,0.0,0.025436337553779883,0.0,0.07101305558778773,0.0,0.0,0.07380812347568733,0.0,0.04634919128618743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544893965352734,0.042543366555712926,0.0,0.0,0.03594403893674387,0.04374987212958717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05382081102309266,0.0,0.03593932716472216,0.0,0.1299178368715016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036515500870065984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14081147522401485,0.22174594681348028,0.0,0.0,0.05512046214985279,0.07548875953368979,0.035156722050851436,0.0,0.0375014568975759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10549189937419427,0.08942914032774513,0.0,0.0,0.07627528112476338,0.07098577809111498,0.0,0.0915028079818792,0.09671432342414074,0.0,0.174404709599504,0.0,0.09485746011299477,0.0,0.03337282242577711,0.046004066511663465,0.04596689662541085,0.20658101014319374,0.03689896945187825,0.04441907249950585,0.03737911611340618,0.0,0.0,0.08870750997234214,0.0,0.049446590254392034,0.05593733754302111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28888351649264193,0.0,0.0471046033229829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07417759118329367,0.0,0.0,0.022932018945482684,0.0,0.09413954585098287,0.0,0.3173548750439017,0.0,0.05894590227738645,0.08154264371786556,0.08364265343192644,0.11053688023640627,0.0,0.03504009591580292,0.0,0.0,0.03547472742897074,0.03766016616180068,0.03948301195270083,0.08355911100437483,0.0,0.0838405808365504,0.045452838569449185,0.0,0.0840709455582433,0.08410182370807581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13322408854286358,0.17739641052927427,0.0,0.0,0.06436473204680714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131009387484994,0.03173519598155812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05785637213885969,0.07286865812959355,0.04359574070908796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03996284620262467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0419470704457918,0.04674368979461629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106925310254667,0.0,0.0412002904839256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033182914296709415,0.0,0.0,0.033250945539298124,0.1899330623845452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06903386368413625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07071015229407833,0.032123414558186555,0.0,0.0,0.26581070034745563,0.08895067002972935,0.09996949469655328,0.10465669761257816,0.04779803538839562,0.043622027095168665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03932711965038569,0.0,0.03137344397466282,0.13415404138835282,0.07294231852698801,0.0,0.0,0.04844815958832616,0.11088602179072306,0.026736919608404124,0.0,0.0,0.04866259454118601,0.0,0.0,0.03987185147651039,0.13908039983112672,0.14164916717499312,0.0,0.0,0.08687837152904991,0.0,0.03603865358343236,0.0,0.03442907143984013,0.02461161312128401,0.0,0.033470810948570275,0.0,0.0,0.07736252878815895,0.11295614048589045,0.0,0.0,0.0402232530228974,0.045251054856734564,0.030377688057704362,0.0,0.0,0.11856640103290393,0.045621826604951086,0.0,0.1612245750684003
divorce,hellybtoomuch,2020/03/24,"Feeling trapped.. So I've been technically married since the end of September 2018. My husband and I had a strained engagement as well as a strained marriage-- before he moved out of state. There were plenty of signs we shouldn't have gone through with it honestly, but rose colored glasses and weird, uncommunicated notions that ""things would get better if we did this thing."" So we got married and here we are. Separated, living in different states with basically no communication on his end. 
lol not even 2 months after his move for ""work and intentions for school"" he already engaged in an affair. I should've figured, and in retrospect I look at the situation now and I'm just annoyed with myself. I digress.. Considering our sour predicament I've been doing my part to be civil and communicate so we could have a smooth process and ultimately divorce. 

It SHOULD be simple, my terms I think are easy. He had an affair because he was unhappy, okay cool, then he gets to pay for the divorce. I've asked for some of our wedding gifts and hes agreed to everything. But then theres radio silence, he basically ghosts me. I reach out respectfully asking for updates on his end and nothing. This has all left me feeling defeated and stuck. I'm moving forward with my own life, hes taken our whole lives in the move I was expecting to be part of. So it's been tough here and there but I'm doing my best to be happy! 
But I wake up every morning remember I'm still married and feel stuck. I dont know if this is normal.. I've done counseling prior to our separation and afterwards but now I can't afford it. So I dont know if this is a common predicament or feeling to have.

Okay eep that was long winded..",3.436697154471545,5.711574966463418,4.611195121951223,81.47608130081305,75.25,7.422113821138211,28.31138211382114,8.344100000000001,2.159547235772358,1351,57,253,25,30,443,181,328,0.083,0.769,0.149,0.9714,2,1,0,0,2,0,42.0,9,0,0,4,16,17,1,2,10,4,34,2,1,1,1,55,55,32,1,9,11,1,5,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,12,25,0,0,9,1,1,6,6,6,1,0,16,9,33,11,35,31,8,35,0,1,2,0,29,12,0,5,17,172,45,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12753571131621932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160869730016416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0704511409117306,0.0,0.09834259305629367,0.0,0.12128486158507305,0.1022133492375232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09227421229458696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12074732320851812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11826947999344395,0.2708972101191899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30708538350954784,0.0,0.0,0.0763336985489471,0.0,0.09737373448368238,0.0,0.1038679573543284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23374511844384785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12076238123595588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09243285950147337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230277090487044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12702983632787948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12556846493144014,0.0,0.08163136809167207,0.0,0.0,0.20410300314168514,0.10227688982699584,0.0970507145419584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09224784243138233,0.4913356527451776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11323525412003806,0.1108936992465337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503047303677718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13091965908168102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11696424119490408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09560170460486672,0.12990688963916375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09229532282114757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15356076183928802,0.07405336899994783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039124032178327,0.0,0.0,0.12903113598485005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08413722209028858,0.0,0.0,0.08209847633238168,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Right_Suggestion,2020/03/24,"Parents divorcing under quarantine (20f) My father (51) announced this morning that he was divorcing my mom (55). He has rekindled with his high school sweetheart who he hadn’t seen in over 30 years and says he doesn’t love my mom anymore.
My mom is devastated, she never saw it coming and is still very much in love with him.
The worst part is my parents had been planning to go live on a boat for a year and cross the Atlantic together in September 2020. They have been saving, planning, and talking non-stop about it for five years. It’s been their dream.
Now my dad wants to go with this woman and leave my mom here.
My mom has no close friends, her family lives four hours away and me (20) and my brother (23) are going to live on our own for our studies so nobody is going to be there for her.

She is inconsolable. She knows a lot of divorcees and has always pitied them/ been scared of ending up like them.
She has always been scared of being alone and can’t see her life without my dad. I’m afraid she might hurt herself and fall in a deep depression.
How can I help her? We are now all stuck together in quarantine and I don’t know what to do. I realize I have to process my own feelings but my mom is the priority and I am most sad for her.
What can I do?",3.0469455252918323,4.4322996381322985,3.884535019455253,90.09964299610895,74.0194552529183,7.163346303501946,24.912256809338523,7.734863291789972,1.0939091050583656,985,31,214,13,20,315,149,257,0.099,0.8440000000000001,0.057,-0.8316,2,3,0,0,1,0,32.0,3,0,4,2,8,14,0,3,7,0,33,3,0,1,2,32,49,15,0,1,2,12,1,1,2,1,1,1,0,1,9,18,0,0,4,1,0,7,7,8,0,2,11,5,39,6,30,35,8,30,0,4,3,2,47,14,0,3,10,150,48,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10138700033991857,0.0,0.0,0.16290863236008166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09708295320876746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919731292662305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08432563190567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08431457796835859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08670360761105629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09228423955499053,0.0,0.049497337187472665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07563142297783566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2225380202562118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06561521012896106,0.1034286919431934,0.0,0.0,0.09640429198078773,0.0,0.10479583549233627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10759820240868016,0.0,0.0,0.1036539137235194,0.0,0.0,0.06914429492103108,0.047825280367552014,0.0,0.25932233968531065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08322461514115954,0.17670342027256095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10384836325630332,0.0,0.6879023523932296,0.0,0.0,0.0719621753322095,0.0,0.07550065132966692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2173958438474523,0.106007926249885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07784796309246365,0.1960147334377776,0.09907233184323083,0.07800756612234898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07817699458142792,0.08184242710242243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07868220049422373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077147952680737,0.057739471969817574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09436477727020676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891184821395808
divorce,pinkcleats502,2020/03/24,"Rant: STBXH breaking quarantine to spend time with his GF I’m surprised how hurt I’m (32 F) feeling after finding out my STBXH (34 M) is having his gf over to his apartment when we’re supposed to be “sheltering in place.”

This is the same person he cheated on me with that led to our separation and me filing for divorce. 

I’m feeling super isolated and alone now that I’m in the apartment by myself and now it feels worse now I know that he has his new gf over to ease the loneliness. 

I’m 100% sure getting divorced was the right call but some days emotions flood in unexpectedly and kick my butt.",2.5505454545454533,4.614442600000004,3.807878787878789,87.19227272727277,77.16666666666666,6.363636363636362,26.74242424242424,7.348242739294969,1.381333333333333,472,19,95,6,11,154,81,120,0.107,0.813,0.08,-0.5187,0,2,0,0,2,0,10.0,1,0,0,1,5,5,1,0,4,0,6,1,1,2,1,18,16,7,0,0,1,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,5,7,0,0,5,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,1,3,11,3,17,14,2,21,0,1,0,1,14,11,1,1,8,55,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.272582210514509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687432067220075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697337496513509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29604978977934104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3992255478485973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405480189709907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13750426997689336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817469734329334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14464061349883878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541875061999026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298046116601904,0.2749742487606364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22476013757373414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24805049772970594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15346637262108356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26820989163622266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,changeiscoming2020,2020/03/24,"Hiding assets I need advice on assests. I filed for a divorce on March 9th and he received the summons and petition on the 18th. My stbxh is very financial irresponsible,  we agreed he could keep the house but missed 2 payments on it and the bank sent a letter of possible foreclosure. His parents and I helped him get it caught up so now it is current. I  moved out in December so it really put me in a financial strain with paying rent and a house payment. He also didn't pay the utilities and got a shut off notice. 
One day he wants the house then next he says he isn't paying for it. I told him if he can't afford to live here then  we need  to sell it and then once again he wants the house. I recently found out that after we helped him get caught up that he took out a 401k loan to go on a guys trip and im very upset about it still. He makes really good money and just blows right through it. 
So now the part about assets. I have two inheritance,  one from my grandmother which is a large piece of land worth about $100k and from my dad which is mineral rights and I receive a royalty check every quarter. I understand and have accepted that he has a claim to it because we live in a 50/50 equitable state and he has made sure to constantly remind me of that. I finally told him that everything can be sold idc anymore i just want a divorce. However,  when I brought up that his tools probably have to be included he got very angry and said ""no effing way because they were a gift from his dad"" I just laughed and said and my inheritance wasn't. Shut him right up! My lawyer is out until the 31st and I will be asking about the tools because a friend told me that they can be considered as an asset. He has probably $20k+ in tools, $5-10k in dirty bikes and bicycles. Anyways,  I noticed he had changed locks on 3 of the garages but claims he hasn't. I overheard him talking on the phone about putting something in his brother garage. So my question is are tools and bicycles considered assets and if so do they have to be disclosed on the financial paperwork for the lawyers?
I was just wondering if anyone has been through this and could give me some advice until i talk to my lawyer.",4.127733157779243,5.1454476938775535,4.942191500256019,84.96723502304148,70.92743764172336,8.774222807402532,28.284763367712678,9.11188708381993,2.142035564333261,1727,62,361,34,31,560,211,441,0.057,0.856,0.087,0.8981,5,0,1,0,2,0,35.0,4,0,3,0,22,8,0,2,29,0,35,0,0,2,1,56,65,39,0,10,9,4,0,0,1,1,0,3,1,1,19,30,0,1,5,1,13,12,6,3,0,4,21,3,46,5,53,36,3,61,0,1,0,0,59,29,0,6,18,236,65,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762621428850146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07212363970459608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08944266937800624,0.0630618339667592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08431398975854493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16493405476870654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09540738029743104,0.0,0.0,0.09746163228731912,0.0,0.14401621499551484,0.0,0.0,0.05816406400364984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07598762607448899,0.0,0.08105552843805441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987969958923335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09888693757677007,0.06967934262823589,0.0,0.09423944473199254,0.08651694190273611,0.05125615237262597,0.07564576019928351,0.1442638223138244,0.0,0.0,0.08930070630672496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12090278162661135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4162612695342705,0.0,0.0,0.0974189603053351,0.0,0.0,0.08016360361739018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15927603850923094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08533845516703256,0.0602014646770648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958560079261469,0.0,0.13374712798897298,0.0,0.0,0.09591639827976874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053602074108982,0.0,0.0960477142997598,0.1222280027965024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014355735340537,0.09766526033285372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016738823617557,0.0,0.0,0.1944767220698462,0.0,0.0,0.18132852655288328,0.10103166092440599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11555401100503887,0.0,0.08905017546643104,0.0,0.0,0.2310612306773564,0.17157966362733204,0.07172144433696155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06943144500652215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07202458153777477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08500151004572465,0.0,0.0,0.1449800569952851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585366749931048,0.10020264309977228,0.0,0.0,0.08810097267307894,0.09388931653185928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22324465314584813,0.15958638455357566,0.07158736273879518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09780548456583027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,awaayitbthrown,2020/03/24,"Taxes So I owe $6000 in taxes from going from married filing jointly to single at the end of the year. And because he only worked part time, he owes nothing. FML. Still glad I'm out,  I guess at least my divorce was amicable so I didn't have attorney fees.  Always a bright side right?",0.2229310344827553,2.623828448275866,2.4961206896551715,90.07969827586209,92.10344827586206,4.279310344827587,19.31896551724137,5.985473137389443,0.08909655172413844,222,7,44,2,8,75,49,58,0.046,0.9009999999999999,0.053,0.1078,2,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,8,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,4,2,8,6,3,11,0,0,1,0,3,6,0,1,4,25,4,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28196306775215313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20656913594552176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3001340669677464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19258495382933316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3732983216601958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32515038562483817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257722323393137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.366958087591014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893891066854823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706182588421777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975950760597271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466979674583732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21821813704278295
divorce,BlBl_SD,2020/03/24,"Out of work, state lock down, ... good time to initiate divorce? Live in Illinois. We have been married for 19 years. I don’t want to be married anymore (there is more to it, but let’s leave it at that). She wants to be married (to me). We are like room mates, no fights, but not much in common. No children, very little debt (a mortgage but we have about 60% equity in house), some assets (savings, investments that tanked thanks to pandemic).

I lost my job a couple of weeks ago. She hasn’t been working for many years now.

Is this a good time or a bad time to initiate divorce proceedings? Depending on how much of a fight she puts up, it could go relatively quickly and I may or may not have a job by the time we are in front of a judge. If I don’t have a job, would that help with alimony (as in judge may not order me to pay them)? I am perfectly willing to split everything else 50:50 or maybe even 40:60 in her favor so I don’t have anything to do with her after this is done. 

Given her age, she can start accessing retirement savings in about 4 years without tax penalty. And her social security in about 9 years would be based on my contributions and - depending when I start working again - pretty close to the max.

How realistic is this?",3.0892105263157887,4.7039371417004086,4.179536437246963,87.0940819838057,74.34412955465585,7.693036437246962,26.115182186234822,8.395991825355821,1.632794493927126,962,34,202,17,20,313,142,247,0.09699999999999999,0.755,0.149,0.9451,5,0,0,0,4,0,45.0,4,0,1,5,12,13,2,0,10,0,32,0,0,4,1,38,40,15,0,6,11,0,0,1,1,6,0,0,1,1,9,11,0,1,0,0,4,3,10,4,0,0,5,0,24,9,40,24,4,42,0,1,0,0,21,17,0,10,21,143,33,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11462984029897196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12824561479668467,0.0,0.0,0.10641512937638872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079725248137317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10324741066668633,0.14308445709930065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13233402124566152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10802599041764463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08541125982879308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11621987748684699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07349262738748655,0.21692637509553594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08667703942737423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14921201144461235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3849751997078434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369257882274101,0.0,0.13223322798806295,0.0,0.06317671929871435,0.12960748379833822,0.11418740978463893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411624692535528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13110499336822773,0.12991417986590048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19012263456263664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131559724326078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12999717321534754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13182023698431453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18305947783100185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11905576915578278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3016181899927373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10669832043199287,0.15254653543309132,0.0,0.10372859802360647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246549314393639,0.0,0.2824283222416568,0.0,0.0,0.1837231636058277,0.0,0.0,0.33309817648763834
divorce,jinthrowaway,2020/03/24,"A little bit peeved today It's been 2 years since my divorce, most days are OK and others are bad but for the most part I'm 90% over it. I try not to think of the details and have been moving on with my life: moved to a new state, switched jobs, bought my own property. In that time I've made some friends and some got closer than others but there's always this one point where I get close enough to a friend to let them know that I was previously married (I'm pretty young so hard to tell). I just mention that I left because they were unfaithful and that's that. 

But one in two responses ALWAYS without fail mentions that I must have done something to cause them to cheat and that I'm not 100% perfect. Like yeah? Nobody's perfect, EVERYONE fights, but not everyone cheats??? I'm just angry at why they would choose THAT time to point out that's probably why they cheated? Ugh. For what it's worth I'm male so my guy friends, especially at my age, aren't really the type to give a shoulder to cry on (they're more of the let's go out for a beer, shoot some hoops types, totally appreciate that btw) so I'm posting here.",2.3408695652173925,4.12321026086957,3.208913043478262,92.53902173913046,76.82608695652173,6.513043478260869,22.80434782608696,7.365786028017652,0.6670173913043485,880,26,195,11,20,279,136,230,0.168,0.6970000000000001,0.135,-0.8555,1,0,2,1,2,0,28.0,0,0,5,3,8,14,4,0,9,2,14,3,1,2,4,34,28,12,0,2,10,0,1,1,3,2,1,0,0,2,17,9,1,0,3,1,2,3,5,7,0,3,8,1,16,7,27,16,11,29,0,1,0,0,16,16,0,5,9,116,33,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21690491797320602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088275903786988,0.07945342247347799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14229639080115294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338940191799865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14317123131421358,0.08405784887548688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13338201252711018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13467499124307747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24908893062650705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3020986799694732,0.0,0.06809672896046727,0.12503301054020435,0.07407463670019279,0.0,0.10424397591521974,0.0,0.0,0.12905606586798835,0.0,0.0,0.11675811024147688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293413097824022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07163088575912062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416136653634037,0.2665608421172687,0.09206226460124886,0.06367703395999615,0.1306338828433654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233298788621064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27705938249287115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12588218327867626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17664210992506085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14114439618471208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464248998351876,0.0,0.12482869815147288,0.13260158372690112,0.14052744760511746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08349847762880183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10781773761012793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10034130199703184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11392199914524558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835159450449371,0.0,0.0,0.15200339571534974,0.0,0.1235460973973647,0.0,0.0,0.0884916006384622,0.0,0.12732222848582872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23522128351546226,0.0,0.0,0.12564210979386672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09258906016353,0.0,0.0,0.08393401925449373
divorce,thr0w4w4y1122,2020/03/24,"Had quarantine sex with ex wife in her house. Now, for me, lots of old feelings arose. She is distant now, I can't get over my feelings. English is not my main language. I (M40) was married for many years to F39. We have two kids, age 9 and 4. We separated very painfully in 2018. The kids live with her, during the last weeks I've been going to help the kids with their homework, during this week at first, the dynamic with the F39 was respectful, but distant. As the week passed, I spent more time with the kids, and I even cooked a few meals. 

About 4 days ago, we hooked up, during those 4 days we had amazing sex every day and every night. 

The family dynamic peaked, we played board games, they behaved excellent, and the house was in great order.

 Two nights ago we were having sex again and she stopped, saying it felt like routine now, and therefore she was not aroused.

 Next day she became very territorial about her soace. By the way, I have not spent the night there. Anyway, I did not think much of it, but then I felt this urge to leave, I felt heartbroken. I did not know what to do or how to react. It was not my house so I would not escalate or confront. I just left. 

Today she texted me saying the kids miss me, and they do. I spent time with them, but I felt my heart wasn't it it. She spent most of the time in her room working. 

Before dinner I left. I have not felt this heartache since before my divorce. I can't cut contact because I see the kids. 

Because of fucking Corona, I can't go out and distract, my therapist is not working, and this is not a subject I would bring up with anybody else, family or friends. Staying indoors do not help, but I don't really have much options. Books, movies, music, do not keep my mind at ease. I am not a drinker, I don't smoke or do drugs. 

I need to get over this so I can face my kids and not mop around them or the ex. 

I appreciate your help.",2.1175309396485886,3.9144548103896133,3.0168258212375854,93.60187738731855,77.51948051948051,5.983957219251338,22.492360580595875,6.794906146795322,0.4101382734912149,1462,43,325,14,34,463,185,385,0.042,0.823,0.135,0.9896,0,1,3,0,1,0,64.0,6,1,5,4,14,15,3,1,18,0,35,12,3,3,0,70,58,24,0,3,24,3,7,1,1,2,2,2,3,7,12,25,3,2,9,4,4,4,20,6,0,3,21,10,58,9,35,35,7,50,0,1,1,5,41,15,1,8,29,213,70,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580428691671394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07935771964716368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086836139170131,0.0,0.15171121825719774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22996393382368405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10337959846576676,0.0,0.07446899265365015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05887926096431784,0.0,0.15021657885628575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16807545706531454,0.0,0.09014851952421564,0.0,0.4279646576308565,0.0,0.0,0.0758264715128677,0.0,0.0,0.06887300608857018,0.08241287698424657,0.0931488961576376,0.0,0.10132602178155553,0.0,0.0,0.0982823921249471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10563694779877017,0.17925552325145752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085831883923257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07923594212820463,0.0,0.0,0.0489916185484436,0.07266486224804497,0.0,0.0943914096800242,0.19371204477525047,0.0,0.0,0.04355161778335544,0.0,0.07871643988188506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757876713097911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09037877598019876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09001077652574475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131063284139305,0.06609969621456033,0.0,0.0,0.09480644382599687,0.2509689029788974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09354241036148324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09485629004325964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05710840403568715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14178295277139766,0.0,0.0,0.07103681730374907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07374145129957436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950164332692437,0.0,0.07452899546502498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10350391561982183,0.0,0.05712035079551369,0.0,0.0,0.15594304681635904,0.0,0.08449879144583759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17416291826103136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14710749532936584,0.0,0.07075894639361567,0.21451960331941586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12979686692608713,0.0,0.0,0.12665173323542173,0.0,0.0,0.05740629074980125
divorce,theDigitalNinja,2020/03/24,"Living together Wife and I decided to divorce after I found out about her affair. I checked the lease and it's not up until 2021. I'm not sure I can stand to live with her that long but I guess I'm kinda stuck. 

How did you all deal with this? She isn't going stop seeing the guy and that's whatever but I don't really want to hang out with the guy in my own house.",0.20472222222222314,1.9653601358024704,2.489614197530866,95.24701388888893,83.44444444444444,6.025308641975308,16.297839506172842,7.1686216300943375,-0.21148271604938265,285,5,69,4,8,97,57,81,0.07200000000000001,0.8959999999999999,0.032,-0.2186,0,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,1,2,21,12,7,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,8,0,1,2,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,3,1,11,1,13,9,2,11,0,0,1,0,10,4,0,2,4,45,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582457572484916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746510216085071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14236010294012824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759446490613029,0.4960519724551543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28903358152052433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.442377201340216,0.22167711198271628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16047128140082104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19960930955530015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20942212631813106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23608529239971415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477463880350564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,anb0121,2020/03/24,"To those womxn being left, we will be more than alright [VENT] I’m currently going through a divorce and I want to let womxn who have been left know that it gets better over time. You’ll grow from this pain, learn to love yourself, start a new journey, and yes, you’ll find peace and happiness.

My STBXH and I had been together for 10 years. Our move from the east coast to the PNW exacerbated our issues (miscommunication, selfishness, and failure to empathize and appreciate one another). An argument about a sports penalty led to a separation that has now resulted in our divorce. 

When my STBXH announced that he wanted a divorce in December, right before the holidays, my heart felt like it shattered. Although we had separated for 9 months, it never crossed my mind that he would seek out someone to replace me. Maybe that’s because I assumed he was doing what I was doing-working on myself and trying to create new friendships. At the time he dropped the divorce on me, I couldn’t eat, sleep, or concentrate on anything other than trying to save the marriage. While I begged, pleaded, chased, and love bombed, he was letting go and nurturing a whole new relationship with someone he told me not to worry about when I first discovered his cheating.

During this time, I was able to lean on my family and friends to support me through the tears and rage of heartbreak. Every time I wanted to call or text him, I’d dial up my mom or my best friend. And before Cornavirus, I’d schedule nights to either go out and grab drinks or stay in and watch movies with friends. This little community of support was such an outlet for me. My personal growth comes from weekly therapy sessions (get yourself a good therapist), meditating, journaling, and getting a dog (they provide unconditional love). These means of support have allowed me to slowly build myself up, love myself, and nurture myself. 

It’s also been helpful to read about how happy Cassie (who dated P. Daddy for 10+ years), Ciara (who dated Future), and Meghan Markle are now with themselves and in their new relationships. They had to let go of situations that were no longer serving them to make room for themselves and their new loves. 

Take it one day at a time and when it gets difficult lean on your support system. We got this! Love yourself! The love you deserve is coming!",7.54902097902098,7.940643920745928,7.193309090909088,74.05396363636366,63.17249417249418,9.567962703962703,35.34181818181819,9.281916038205594,3.244082069930069,1858,78,317,29,25,585,240,429,0.073,0.7190000000000001,0.20800000000000002,0.9964,2,0,1,0,4,0,64.0,6,4,5,3,11,30,2,0,19,2,28,12,2,5,1,55,61,31,0,5,6,1,2,1,3,4,1,0,1,1,23,30,2,0,6,4,0,12,4,6,0,3,15,3,44,24,56,36,4,67,0,1,1,7,48,22,0,5,31,212,67,3,0.07242061970771853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057914743415413264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07593933423369839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05959599938274542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04414693758993534,0.0,0.12324922668117393,0.0,0.07600097238607854,0.06405015293224094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07394954983227661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12476790263658324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04670530850309255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07094463649568983,0.0,0.07410437378852645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06101749557946886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06827171499033842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06953515198916271,0.0,0.06619113440270635,0.06160094212729465,0.0,0.0,0.16785597341720632,0.0,0.15134713898573715,0.0,0.16463322845493011,0.0607429798378049,0.05792138532977757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15418619266963576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08581878304533527,0.04854201482893778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07558831150716032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0398004786285358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573704304246192,0.22216497089473727,0.0,0.03538105668239175,0.07258448652658185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4575370574319112,0.0,0.048341326010230334,0.0,0.07275624648928868,0.07888728569387514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07312418110678294,0.0848181545231761,0.057805447717686725,0.07697165765075566,0.0,0.0,0.05585524650818005,0.3497214289757993,0.0,0.06796184568837171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09814817234863918,0.0,0.07706064540235293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06323489173525808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0724402177559235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15550528581151854,0.0,0.06184681353084825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140381085649477,0.07247292101316273,0.0,0.12272351212911226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05125968737600717,0.07719074473836446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32872824408459084,0.0,0.0,0.05445129316287725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828192901553673,0.08408592129943752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21114522871383512,0.0,0.0,0.06920100564820124,0.0,0.09833769393442378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12814667357150628,0.0,0.05809145278509161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08085503561423736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052723073672636935,0.07354665469372469,0.0,0.05144553039127505,0.0,0.0,0.09327300937697076
divorce,greenduvet_sd,2020/03/24,"Less than a month Until my divorce is finalized. I’ve accepted it but it’s still very painful. Stbxh wanted the divorce but I filed because I couldn’t wait anymore for him to make the decision to. The last straw was him saying he was dating other women and that it wasn’t cheating because we weren’t living together. My heart is heavy and just doing what I can to process the grief and rejection after being married 16 years and 20 years total (with two kids 10&8). I can barely look at him now.  He’s not the man I married. I understand people grow and change and I wanted to do that with him, but he didn’t want the same. Now it’s on to a new chapter for myself. Day by day that’s all we can do.",2.077405835543768,3.9305278068965532,3.5710344827586202,89.32625994694962,77.82758620689657,6.116710875331565,23.56763925729443,7.010146845296331,0.8297851458885939,552,18,114,6,13,182,88,145,0.128,0.851,0.021,-0.9598,1,0,0,0,2,0,15.0,2,0,0,0,4,5,1,0,8,0,15,2,1,1,2,27,22,10,1,4,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,9,10,0,1,3,0,0,1,5,4,0,1,5,2,16,1,15,15,4,17,0,2,1,0,15,2,0,0,14,82,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22309452262595247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20419926577941494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25103166173372565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21781681094888533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655792642792644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255553659424568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439946335116577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16783745462961244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818150685015019,0.0,0.17290566077870778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374410554983376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16434885849410685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988612489390492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21909404055737106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14274638800884012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16374138178223935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16443344960922782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011361474271782,0.2143510433405193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16989055514023654,0.3643386627528884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26518802681507403
divorce,ER-girl84,2020/03/24,"Finally worked up the courage to be honest about where I stand Hi all.  Longtime lurker, first time poster.  I (35F) have been with my husband (37M) since high school.  We’ve been together for 20 years and married for 17 with two children ages 17 and 13.  I don’t want this post to drag on, and with 20 years of history and infidelity, it could, so I’ll try to be as brief as I can.  I have always felt like my husband married me because he felt he had to.  I got pregnant in high school, we raised two amazing children and despite everything he’s put me through, I really feel no ill will towards him.  The straw that broke the camels back so to speak, was a year and a half ago, when he was having an emotional affair and told me he wanted a divorce.  We separated for a little over a month, and despite my heartbreak, I tried to be as supportive as I could, to keep things amicable for our children...even while he was pursuing a relationship with the other woman.  Skipping ahead of details, he panicked and came running back to me...and I felt like I owed our marriage another shot for whatever reason, and took him back.  He made all of these grandiose promises about being more affectionate and making me feel loved, and after about a month, that wore off.  He rarely initiates sex.  He’s constantly watching porn behind my back even though I’m completely willing and that includes indulging his fantasies.  He even signed us up for some website for swingers behind my back, which leaves me feeling completely disrespected and violated.  I also found out that he contacted the other woman two months after we reconciled and he has hidden that from me this whole time.  We’re now a year and a half outside of that debacle, and maybe it’s just all the shit (pardon my French) with the COVID19 that I deal with at work on a daily basis...but this isn’t how I want to spend the rest of my life.  I feel like I’ve been pleading with him for 6 months about how alone I’ve felt and how unhappy I am with his lack of affection, and it’s gotten me nowhere.  The love and affection I feel towards him just comes naturally.  It isn’t forced.  It’s not something I have to work at...and this leaves me feeling that him and I are just on different wavelengths.  Maybe he’ll meet someone and he won’t have to work so damn hard at loving them.  I mean, that’s my hope.  Anyway, I finally worked up the nerve to tell him that while I do care deeply about him, I’m not in love with him anymore and I want to separate.  Yeah, my timing sucks, I know.  And now I’m second guessing myself.  I think mostly because I feel terrible for hurting him.  Part of me wonders if this isn’t some sort of anxiety-fueled crisis, because as a healthcare worker, I’m anxious AF every day.  I feel that it was right to speak my truth, but God, I feel like an asshole.  I just don’t want to have to ask a person to love me.  Am I crazy?",4.293023560209427,5.304278649214663,4.968128708551486,84.95795222513091,70.53577661431062,8.033664921465968,28.810165794066315,8.317959484511023,1.8881330191972068,2258,83,460,33,40,727,267,573,0.084,0.82,0.096,0.2488,2,1,1,0,1,0,76.0,6,0,1,8,29,26,4,0,24,1,34,10,1,8,4,94,84,42,0,10,8,2,14,4,0,4,2,2,0,5,27,39,0,1,20,1,2,6,9,8,0,7,20,17,69,18,75,54,11,59,0,3,1,7,58,20,3,8,35,302,96,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06061647507900685,0.0,0.0,0.0708230800108145,0.0,0.0546850228155926,0.0568992625553976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07170443966890665,0.0,0.07725214232731496,0.06781652223400042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06392789482760743,0.0,0.0,0.26290750304710003,0.0,0.1250550108818226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07821073665311358,0.06971995812847735,0.0,0.0,0.05890499724219925,0.14339435263105452,0.07389659766348852,0.0,0.10919484977604577,0.0,0.0,0.044100702351055766,0.07049879052406338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07144458614569632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07692049275391376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13549690436736256,0.0,0.057614744383474976,0.0,0.06145728973356925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3111837290952354,0.09770416125000417,0.2626295930028116,0.14981817325394844,0.0,0.05816565397743927,0.0,0.07497728150850866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054691294331568184,0.0,0.07533043027572378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06125679797562274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14449857477482905,0.0,0.0679187084224423,0.0,0.0,0.07320429460374983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06078102146192365,0.0,0.0,0.037580932825021215,0.0,0.0,0.1448132285295457,0.0,0.0,0.0483001954399026,0.13363187180426614,0.06853668112268331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085869103087771,0.06470465698861859,0.04564548437767749,0.0,0.13739772515973045,0.07448799327463877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21832728876191204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07405099092985115,0.0,0.0,0.05970848342503082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06549100810564852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06874274961909829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04380722987723195,0.07030803630575429,0.0,0.0734166258974132,0.0,0.058397813916689766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13841237360739805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07019309170361078,0.056566257858343766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05793980655886041,0.052643767977495336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07759902948612273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0597688406585768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04542993081047371,0.043816394105559583,0.06718492126864709,0.0,0.11962219948172967,0.0,0.0,0.06534188618587068,0.0759748654745795,0.09285371425828587,0.0,0.2003976943108796,0.0,0.08225506937079938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20166723689380703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07634600805540963,0.0,0.0,0.07415731065263594,0.2489143797129389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17614294202333144
divorce,hope2112,2020/03/24,"Dealing with emotions Hello,

I am a 30 year old woman going through a divorce. I am the one who initiated the divorce. Right now I am in the process of selling the house and it is turning out to be way more emotional than I thought. Especially since I am struggling with some depression that has worsened since the COVID-19 out break. I am a teacher and can no longer go to work since schools are closed. That was a huge source of distraction for me that I no longer have. There have been showings every day, which have made me paranoid that someone who is sick is going to come into my house (crazy, I know.). It is also very disrupting to my schedule. I feel a huge amount of resentment towards anyone who is looking at my house. It is the first house I ever lived in. I grew up in an apartment. Buying a house was a major life goal, and unfortunately I am unable to afford the house on my own. I have always looked at this house as my little piece of paradise. I have looked at many different ways to keep the house and nothing pans out. Financially, I know it is the smart decision to sell, but my heart is breaking for the home I have become so attached to.

I wonder, does anyone have suggestions on how I can make this transition easier for myself? I have been crying every night since the house went on the market. I want to confront the emotions and not stuff them down, but I also want some kind of relief....

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Any advice would be greatly appreciated.",4.530886757529867,6.000945204946997,5.051580010095911,82.84783274440521,70.44876325088339,7.5106175332323755,28.670536765943126,7.957251820313856,1.844049436311628,1155,43,219,15,21,369,155,283,0.08900000000000001,0.838,0.07400000000000001,-0.3133,2,0,0,0,2,0,38.0,0,0,1,3,7,9,2,2,21,0,33,3,1,3,1,32,52,12,0,3,3,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,15,13,0,1,6,1,3,6,3,5,0,2,7,4,31,4,38,42,7,40,0,1,3,0,10,22,0,3,8,162,46,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07060436983106454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556069948809597,0.06011992171450393,0.07828562347269925,0.08779477433141801,0.04913422152091653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10104134613905888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0797972809187661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062239186656350524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07936604940827499,0.04659692681111206,0.07448922142263929,0.062231027950011016,0.0,0.0,0.0754885517509565,0.0,0.0,0.06322870611457357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438232304735384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06535658114746215,0.12175180367454815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03653306756894032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061457994472106675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12318839243643227,0.0,0.0,0.07965870745937842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08561963684101155,0.0,0.0,0.07247521332950822,0.0,0.0,0.7503278277896239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06422139915189096,0.0,0.07523992742539456,0.07941623978688904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051034123084020916,0.0,0.07241605108073172,0.06380033820120254,0.0,0.18202187077513046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06836712354456621,0.04822914786874088,0.07325275993680161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06780413728087165,0.0,0.06932828432122476,0.0,0.07581691227618287,0.0,0.048960207631121085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06170329532041546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07312345267650623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390722720397342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061219363450989925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07553406815195632,0.08271190010299008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057360465540631136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07859004235365373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05961593263128026,0.08523286910885182,0.11470144527489858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0669788511792896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07835482413597099,0.05260072749584905,0.0,0.0,0.05132614880902363,0.0,0.08779477433141801,0.046528282658737735
divorce,usmcbush,2020/03/25,"I need adice Hello all,

I'm a male married to a female. After 3 years of emotional abuse, I've finally come to the conclusion that this isn't going to work. My wife has cheated on me numerous times, and a whole list of things that are just too much to name off. We have been discussing a divorce for awhile. I always tell her it's up to her because I (always the optimist) am still willing to try and make this work. It has finally become clear that this isn't going to work anymore. I'm a truck driver and never home. How do I ensure when/if we do get the divorce, she doesn't get any of my money. Because I am heavily in debt because of her, and my inability to say no to her. I don't have any proof she's cheated on me. I only know from when I caught her, and when she told me about it. No kids, no house. Only thing she can get from me is my money and we've talked about it numerous times where I've told her if we get a divorce I'll still take care of her, because she is incapable of working herself due to medical reasons, but at this point,  I don't even want to do that. After devoting all of my time, and money into her, and sacrificing my family and social life for her, I need to start rebuilding my credit, savings, and life, and don't want to have to give her anything that'll prevent me from trying to enjoy my life.",4.713357142857143,4.2219440499999985,6.111428571428572,82.41607142857146,69.21428571428571,9.142857142857146,29.285714285714285,8.660442795831766,2.0002142857142853,1034,33,224,15,16,353,132,280,0.07400000000000001,0.851,0.075,0.6409,1,0,0,0,4,0,33.0,3,0,0,5,11,7,2,0,9,0,23,4,0,3,5,36,45,16,0,5,3,1,0,0,0,2,4,1,1,2,15,16,0,1,3,0,5,4,10,2,0,0,4,1,42,5,38,39,4,28,0,0,0,0,35,9,0,1,15,156,57,5,0.0,0.13650134400463054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19172274848008372,0.0,0.0,0.15668929243044558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11425429303591099,0.0,0.0,0.0948054667951002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809162406293835,0.12723697555391453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11746111808825205,0.0,0.0,0.09924054779700192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12959226203384014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07609307440660755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10860681716221103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524070669681077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407634121125249,0.11051696132804352,0.1309494784491606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556191940999748,0.0,0.0,0.13293330073778992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06331470223048588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24412213285314935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07690150388217014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11605883670578668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08469033126987068,0.17084892099297322,0.08885466764563645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17524008580101674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10890776366852054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11845188632851633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09161715515893347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11743893160281728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08154404053605438,0.0,0.18400876677836064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08662125510723523,0.0925989465178886,0.10069591317966466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15307669743107788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20153421884458556,0.0,0.0,0.2201702701898999,0.0,0.1564358526338594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13590403530457373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12862439548856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33548799665596196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07418946980464332
divorce,whyyyyyamilikethis,2020/03/25,"I told my husband I want a divorce. A few days later he took his own life. I'm writing this only an hour after I found out. He shot himself in the head in our house I just moved out of. He left his dog upstairs in her kennel. It's been a couple of days and he was just found. The dog is okay, I'm going to the humane society to pick her up.

Any words of encouragement right now are appreciated.",-0.3348235294117643,1.7474536941176488,2.4402941176470603,92.70632352941179,88.52941176470587,4.811764705882354,17.911764705882355,6.2581,-0.2430941176470593,304,8,70,3,10,106,60,85,0.0,0.884,0.11599999999999999,0.8074,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,7,1,4,2,1,1,0,11,12,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,0,11,2,12,6,2,17,0,0,0,0,16,8,0,0,6,42,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15832388203163747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576081328534716,0.0,0.3002960509036976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5105447383869378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13231554917699614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389379204045809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292783376390509,0.2686401335742657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25295689237551616,0.0,0.16444588379817834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24744815487625796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17706819809585958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19882487087159853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224670961475752,0.25866880631901906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13732179218778567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,usapyonnn,2020/03/25,Where is a good place to go to get away from partner? Hi I’m asking this for my mom but my dad has been yelling at my mom all week and he keeps drinking. I really feel that he is dangerous. We need a place to escape to because he refuses to leave. My mom doesn’t want to ask a family member because she doesn’t want to burden them and most hotels are closed rn because of the virus. Is there any cheap places that 2 adults and possibly a small dog could stay? I don’t really trust my dad with the dog but if I had to I think she would be okay for one night.,0.5053856749311301,2.354633801652895,2.2879545454545465,96.61859848484852,82.88429752066115,6.0168044077135,17.521349862258955,7.1686216300943375,-0.10245509641873296,434,9,105,6,12,143,80,121,0.076,0.8059999999999999,0.11800000000000001,0.4938,0,0,1,0,1,0,7.0,1,0,1,0,2,5,1,0,6,1,13,1,0,0,1,20,24,6,0,6,3,5,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,3,6,1,2,2,2,1,1,3,2,0,1,2,2,13,3,15,19,2,12,0,0,0,0,18,8,0,2,2,61,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011541144777347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781196284433453,0.0,0.13975415877552028,0.0,0.0,0.2720272054571947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11876361301094228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457169493639561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140226894204215,0.0,0.07521173603042101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07771497775347734,0.0,0.08453722860307117,0.12476322600904405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13221454539511127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575032363451356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5226375102457002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11029516468199116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13959043722008666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10079586679650114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4662317241959764,0.0,0.0,0.16769163970192782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19058425949178015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15854616216251494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09531206432831553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17547149689615654,0.0,0.11931711404960285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10566670177361093,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,DaddyMagumbo,2020/03/25,"I would NEVER EVER EVER have believed it. I tried so hard to do this with compassion.  We decided to separate. She made me promise not to divorce her until the kids were out of school.  Two more years.  Then we would split everything and move on.  She can have the house, joint custody of the kids, and move on.  Seriously trying to be Mr. Nice Guy.

She asked me to move out and I did.  Found a little tiny studio apartment.  I continued to pay the mortgage and all bills, utilities, heck, even her credit cards.  

Then she moved her boyfriend in with her.  You know, the one that also was still married.  In the house I am paying for.  MY house.  Then I noticed the big wedding ring on her finger.  She said the boyfriend bought it for her.

Had my lawyer do a background on him.  Didn't even file for divorce from his wife until he moved in with my STBX and my kids.  I guess they have had an affair going for a while.  Stoopid me.  

He has prior DWI's, drug charges, multiple assault family violence charges and has a assault with a deadly weapon AND impeding breathing pending!  (Felony 2 and Felony3)  Around MY kids?

Going to see the lawyer tomorrow.  A good deed never goes unpunished.  I'm floored.",1.7748049087476403,4.4576040748898675,2.490728445563249,91.6450165198238,85.34361233480178,5.533606041535559,23.0851164254248,7.021680442328713,0.923950409062304,923,34,181,13,28,287,136,227,0.1,0.841,0.057999999999999996,-0.8298,1,0,1,0,2,0,37.0,2,1,1,0,8,8,3,0,16,0,18,3,2,1,5,30,29,16,1,2,1,1,2,0,0,2,1,2,1,6,4,17,0,0,3,0,5,7,4,4,0,2,10,5,32,4,30,16,2,36,0,0,1,0,32,14,1,1,15,126,36,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937121896022783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10431881277145297,0.10955144009286326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13202650304284086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13589650792244956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547981627488138,0.21199969717658454,0.0,0.0,0.10531763344738364,0.0,0.11047086669721104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12848646409607642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13319700140204374,0.09828857572133856,0.0,0.0,0.12909164523210104,0.11603081535137627,0.0,0.0,0.10497405634588483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4056446177819016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0644013903807806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11744938788337572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11088255561884597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6227414774188201,0.0,0.0,0.18075941089859046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334150271150758,0.0,0.0,0.07940706971866612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11146904146543668,0.0,0.0,0.11859670098829515,0.09338066261401914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358348065540824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15912080543865384,0.0,0.11447196909501768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16648863532507238,0.0,0.0,0.07546280466800365
divorce,ahk689,2020/03/25,"Need Unbiased Advice Hello Everyone,

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I'm new to reddit and also new to the situation I'm facing in my life. I'm 28 years old, and got married in March of 2019. It's only been a little over a year since I've been married and I'm already considering divorce. My husband has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. He's often very very mean, dismissive and verbally abusive. He screams very loudly in our condo community to the point where I am embarrassed to face my neighbors. We share a dog, and I think that is one of the big reasons why I have not left him yet. I still love my husband a lot, and I'm one of those people that will hold on to 2 good memories, and discard the 100 bad ones. Lately life has been only full of bad memories. He's seeking counseling for his BPD and I am as well to figure out how to cope, but he's so rude to me every single day. I guess another reason I am scared to leave is because I'm from the Indian community, and I'm nervous that people will REALLY judge me, and speak badly of me, and that i'll be alone for the rest of my life. Advice on how to proceed would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading.",4.3729414893617005,5.2287546851063835,6.2062101063829775,76.7271875,70.2340425531915,9.279255319148936,30.006648936170212,9.516144504307137,2.737601063829788,921,36,178,20,16,320,138,235,0.14300000000000002,0.787,0.07,-0.9293,0,1,0,0,1,0,27.0,2,0,0,0,9,14,1,3,10,0,17,7,2,4,0,29,31,17,0,2,2,2,0,0,1,3,4,3,2,1,6,14,0,1,5,1,0,0,1,8,1,3,5,3,19,6,29,21,4,24,0,0,0,1,17,13,0,3,11,110,25,1,0.0,0.1347055370174956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221955419276728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177498446268589,0.1254611184118849,0.09091884932099847,0.0,0.12318441885596168,0.1381473094913468,0.0,0.11921518562565316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28478232760973193,0.06930512905725206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14319014591442802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07332144901039651,0.0,0.0,0.11539422273959568,0.0,0.0,0.13030001905423189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09578977924053078,0.1086368588437176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09535882411786777,0.09092927628960233,0.12534500141807775,0.12524372647004978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12824867889882074,0.12038261507875725,0.12352587275340285,0.0,0.2409104704692457,0.0,0.1139484974700936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966562327433144,0.10261078941269576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12384309794654405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08430061923213525,0.0,0.2196074300273101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192998390241088,0.0,0.23112039439310805,0.1729346332591215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576383915094026,0.09927081179086247,0.0,0.0,0.1074749768752818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11372201367947872,0.0,0.07283352419563645,0.2337870747716133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11382477205899755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09404657454781334,0.12779372534433073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907939768855511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10467162553326034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07284876056295538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2814215569849077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10222208501469393,0.0,0.102588667067761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0807630000591242,0.0,0.1381473094913468,0.14642687138287425
divorce,hopingforhappinessxx,2020/03/25,"Because of indefinite quarantine, do you think people are going to change their minds about filing? Just curious, my husband is threatening to file after a passionate and angry fight with me last week. I filled out paper work, but I really wish he would calm down and realize our fight was about something so stupid.",9.350654761904764,9.388484660714287,8.547142857142859,67.03119047619049,59.53571428571429,12.466666666666667,34.73809523809524,11.855464076750405,4.413566666666668,255,9,40,7,3,80,51,56,0.222,0.625,0.153,-0.7013,0,1,1,0,2,0,6.0,1,1,1,1,4,5,3,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,0,12,8,4,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,0,7,2,9,6,0,7,0,0,0,1,7,2,0,1,3,27,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104245478569618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3651651241362659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19617936458948448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813758253439848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3485433777928316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393112004081448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22113747721377608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26574403526987594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22118373794148385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768905014476871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3969513281437481,0.0,0.0,0.25130234496091497,0.0,0.0,0.24521298787242776,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,jSki001,2020/03/25,"Question Question:

With everything going on is it best to wait on the actions of starting the separation paperwork and attorney? 

I just feel weird paying for a session via phone. Just looking for advice/suggestions. 

Thank you",6.126315789473683,9.555602947368428,6.1255263157894735,68.06618421052633,72.15789473684211,9.06315789473684,38.44736842105263,9.516144504307137,4.948663157894737,184,11,24,5,4,58,33,38,0.042,0.792,0.166,0.7184,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,7,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,3,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,2,7,7,1,5,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,2,1,18,3,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3393923651190463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2906545074616991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16352269266524172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18379784833101007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2715777642355202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7245726037419559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289068940516965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.297746794203634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,gotproblemsalot,2020/03/25,How’s your quarantine divorce going? My lawyer let me know my original March date is now in May.,2.6557894736842123,5.2230811578947405,3.6413157894736834,85.87671052631579,79.52631578947368,8.010526315789475,25.28947368421053,8.841846274778883,2.2165578947368423,78,3,15,2,2,25,18,19,0.0,0.8809999999999999,0.11900000000000001,0.3182,0,1,0,0,1,0,2.0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,4,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,4,10,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4396937373072987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4251880706959707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7911286380296053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,myfriendscallmekatie,2020/03/25,"What if marital house is a ‘fixer upper’ I don’t want This is my first reddit post. Sucks it has to be here. Things finally tipped into divorce territory with my (37f) STBXH (44m). We’re in WI (US), married almost 8 years, together 9. No children together (he has 3 of his own, I have 1). We separated all finances a while ago, after realizing we have drastically different approaches (I’m a saver, he’s a spender) and have just been contributing jointly to joint expenses, but everything else is separate. 

We own a home. He had it about a year before we met and refinanced it together once we got married. I don’t want the house. He has started SO MANY house projects and none of them are finished. There would be just so much to finish in order to sell, on top of fixing all his mistakes.

He’s a hoarder. We have a very large garage/outbuilding that’s packed to the brim with junk. Old snowblowers, scrap wood, tires, anything and everything just piles up. You know these types. The basement is in the same condition. I don’t even know how long it would take to empty it? He’s been unwilling to sort/organize in the past. 

I do want my portion of the equity. I’ve bailed him out of so many bills, and I don’t want to keep throwing money at his fuck ups. 

What are my options? I’m worried how any appraisal would come out in the state the house is in. Do I just cut my losses and forget about it? That’s SUCH a hard pill to swallow. ☹️  Has anyone else figured out a creative resolution to this?",2.4701628138205334,4.465673023489939,3.9990082028337066,86.04985707183695,77.15436241610739,7.636291324881929,26.13770817797664,8.515128840125781,1.864755008699976,1163,45,239,24,27,386,172,298,0.096,0.863,0.040999999999999995,-0.951,2,0,0,0,1,0,48.0,7,1,1,3,15,5,3,0,18,0,29,4,0,2,2,46,45,14,0,9,6,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,1,1,14,19,1,1,4,0,6,3,6,5,0,1,5,1,25,0,34,35,8,35,0,1,0,1,22,16,2,3,13,151,39,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10651154210743864,0.0,0.12031943995466335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08171058229428972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08401626171391284,0.12311459689846815,0.09887861226954367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10224438405052792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035042385081534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12553803294710714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20075077828002366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07936227577371463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21597793981699687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316256401267049,0.0,0.10220510999278372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11108280510675347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961001788954995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10763667812163884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12052682834378442,0.0,0.0,0.5545781586528471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068006728919296,0.0,0.0,0.1320698078801798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10633477599048986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.243639788474183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08832889823443754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12608409898597345,0.12796281671550075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11470303413288944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150767717590232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08504743280767421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09034278072340238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0798266804882821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13810229192010492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445335492276488,0.0,0.0,0.09914174720862028,0.28348581293925623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12202482093602253,0.0,0.2560673218964101,0.0,0.0,0.15475377248341293
divorce,Big-Dwarf,2020/03/25,"Im 24 about to get married, should i get prenup eve though I dont own anything but a car? my friend lost half of his house when he got divorced and paying Alimony even when he found out she was cheating on him on the phone with someone on Facebook. they loved each other but she changed later on life. he was saying I should get a prenup and I heard it so many times from other people since Im about to start my own business and thinking about buying a house two years from now. but right now I dont own these so what should I do?",3.1063392857142844,3.977764098214287,3.461071428571429,95.18392857142858,73.19642857142857,5.957142857142857,22.92857142857143,5.148860815047168,-0.006253571428571192,417,10,96,1,8,129,71,112,0.07,0.8420000000000001,0.08900000000000001,0.4871,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,0,1,1,11,4,1,0,4,0,8,2,0,0,0,14,18,11,0,3,3,0,0,0,1,3,1,2,0,0,5,6,0,0,2,0,2,1,2,2,0,2,6,2,13,2,14,9,4,16,0,1,0,1,14,6,0,0,9,64,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.143298283094792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18421176026636374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4081698899670604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11501453752068515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909300599343397,0.13453628345873395,0.0,0.272935080281297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927168196179415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4018568634447873,0.0,0.0,0.3761914037513513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12299671346625694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19008894317938707,0.0,0.15716365302874116,0.0,0.0,0.1765455773527405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12072329629756876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487103544809459,0.0,0.13847915610898984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440462868999758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14754403622398424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12325366247795992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115786886956118,0.17108677170498593,0.0,0.10153952973933973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17010461042628244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11213724277836427
divorce,Giggity231,2020/03/25,Advice on do it yourself options I'm a 34 year old male getting a divorce in Utah. Been married almost 10 years. Own a home and have 1child together. When I Google divorces in my state I see plenty of do-it-yourself options. I don't know yet if mine would be uncontested-but if it was are these good options? We're not ending because of abuse or adultery or anything like that. Just turned into a 1sided loveless marrige. I'm thinking/hoping/praying we can keep this from getting too ugly. Thanks in advance,1.3738961038961044,4.069072111111112,2.66280663780664,88.5665909090909,90.51515151515152,3.6366522366522367,27.273448773448767,5.288315135182226,0.9733024531024532,405,20,71,2,14,130,77,99,0.08,0.8320000000000001,0.08800000000000001,-0.0516,0,0,0,0,3,0,13.0,1,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,0,0,16,18,6,0,3,6,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,5,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,6,3,8,14,1,13,0,0,1,0,4,5,0,8,7,43,11,0,0.0,0.3033334945107482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25017290190854075,0.0,0.0,0.2563599988331176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21067685268142775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15606312442616402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22675149423131186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675124105149695,0.0,0.0,0.21473152472085674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568018732900891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275560822778753,0.0,0.0,0.1406980277119413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250750007314687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686425359118875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040091833195521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357023374993157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784685849299682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18186426168899114,0.0,0.0,0.3297279055505664
divorce,newstart300,2020/03/25,"It's official... I'm Divorced. Hello

First time poster here. I (32f) received an email this morning to say my divorce has now been completed and my certificate is ready. 

I am officially divorced. 

This is something that I actually feared - namely due to my culture as it was always seen as taboo and there is a stigma attached to it. I was devastated when it happened. I felt like a failure. I felt like no one would ever want me again. I felt sad that he didn't love or care for me anymore. I felt awful for what I'm about to put my family through. I felt stupid and humiliated. I felt guilty for not being able to make it work. I felt relief that I didn't need to deal with the toxicity anymore. I felt anger/pain/hurt/sadness/happiness/freedom/regret/guilt/confusion/the list goes on - you name it, I felt it.

Our divorce has been pretty quick - we had no ties to each other so everything has been done in 7 months. I spent the first 6 months in NC. Started it off at my lowest point: hardly any confidence, barely existent self esteem, low sense of self worth. I had pretty much carried the weight of saving this marriage on my shoulders for such a long time that I had lost so much of myself. 

Fast forward to now, I cried my eyes out when I got that email. I don't really know what I'm feeling.

But what I do know is:

I have another chance to be happy in life - with someone who would love & respect me like I wish to be. I am so thankful because not everyone gets this chance.

I am proud of myself for being strong enough to make it to the other side when it was something I was so scared of facing/dealing with in my culture.

This experience has taught me A LOT about myself; there are many things I wasn't aware of about myself that I now have a chance to work on and make better decisions in life as a result.

I now realise the importance of never losing yourself. Like seriously. I now have boundaries and expectations (within reason!) that I never put in place before. I am free to be me and I am so grateful, because again not everyone gets this chance.

I'm sorry if this is of no use to anyone, I just needed an outlet to talk out my feelings because I don't really know what I feel right now. A mixture of happiness/excitement for what my new future could be, but also a sadness/grieving for what my past was - because that door is officially closed now.

I was fortunate in my situation because we had no kids or ties and I still found it difficult. I have the utmost respect for those of you going through this that do have ties and children and many many years of life together. 

Every time I feel sad I will remember that this is another chance to have an amazingly, happy and fulfilled life. This has been therapeutic for me.",3.885675578197557,5.324151951940852,5.042234344709438,82.41422478697986,71.99445471349352,7.865849150173572,27.428023984491233,8.407314429234152,1.8904480501329968,2150,77,420,35,41,710,242,541,0.096,0.7759999999999999,0.128,0.9454,1,0,2,0,4,0,72.0,3,2,0,9,29,29,1,2,17,1,56,9,2,6,3,69,99,27,0,9,9,0,15,4,0,3,4,1,1,4,42,19,1,1,20,0,3,5,14,10,0,3,33,18,68,20,63,56,5,58,0,5,2,2,29,22,0,4,37,304,110,4,0.06715378750998881,0.0,0.0655324095594413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05370285960974288,0.055877330786065695,0.07276110071051681,0.0,0.045666878308288486,0.1408332029016396,0.0,0.0,0.1331970248978332,0.04695548963031565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20468162783584185,0.0,0.0571429270608401,0.0,0.0,0.059392067857927715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06846776193175841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07040946854994959,0.0,0.0,0.05361683497330367,0.0,0.07376528228079063,0.0,0.06923260620988404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06872163991974731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06938781383674786,0.0,0.0,0.060744445429676185,0.05657996229627154,0.12833664355627042,0.0603534941127627,0.06568928998630807,0.0633066143303807,0.07556668081299034,0.13581989084239854,0.0,0.5803035041678329,0.0,0.0,0.11424195470093647,0.0,0.07363066184226805,0.0,0.0,0.0701701646072059,0.0,0.0381650450015671,0.0,0.05370901848697537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059383872516294074,0.14297291104797566,0.06015660326083382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07188951843711203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11071789617667488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897308243669697,0.13123179403420526,0.0,0.0,0.05942898873988532,0.0,0.07512791095008207,0.07330629184324808,0.0570917486988257,0.12121783017335652,0.0,0.13447702386187044,0.20425020099419636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10720302501193807,0.0,0.09873152126732916,0.09958736507220968,0.10358628165477024,0.06485754643888375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0455051443704493,0.0,0.07145636460468822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06410588878772665,0.0,0.0,0.07016141499285453,0.0,0.06348203521929742,0.0,0.0,0.13663908824012033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13501620889621407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08604087169980737,0.06904527800778447,0.0,0.0,0.07607215040030689,0.057348967611469286,0.0,0.05340338718361143,0.06723265637044909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401120921395508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07548367079462796,0.0,0.0,0.05689918623493623,0.1033965329248139,0.0,0.07517316715587145,0.047531796438217526,0.0,0.05362910145156073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05397567066026871,0.0,0.06182618514330451,0.0,0.0,0.04461399247509418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11747374060058477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057999311141967276,0.0,0.0,0.0396090437680309,0.0,0.0,0.08177522185147941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07722354149601535,0.0,0.0,0.09777751421004197,0.0,0.0,0.0954082478216118,0.0,0.0,0.043244837433024035
divorce,udonowho,2020/03/25,"I’m living my worst nightmare! My divorce was final this month, the virus shelter in place happened and my ex is out of work (just filed for unemployment.)  I’m off work but still getting paid.  So I’m quarantined with my ex and he’s out of work.  Now what?!",0.9281410256410254,3.2870165576923114,2.313076923076924,93.91525641025645,85.34615384615384,5.005128205128205,22.128205128205128,6.42735559955562,0.36022051282051315,199,7,43,2,6,64,39,52,0.063,0.937,0.0,-0.4826,2,1,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,0,0,3,4,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,8,4,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,4,0,8,6,1,9,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,4,25,6,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3434852817371711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16382007333400547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27727654352623576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.276875700861108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502774151577157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3275992927674191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504062340970851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6848175277043996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,outwithbathwater86,2020/03/25,"How do I do this? How do I ask my husband for a divorce? We've been together 13 years, married almost 12, 4 kids together. Due to some things occuring (no infidelity) I've come to realize that I'm not in love with him, and haven't been for a long time. I stayed, trying to convince myself I could make it work because I wouldn't find someone else. But now I know I can't do it. I have love for him, always will, he gave me 4 beautiful children, but I'm no longer in love with him. He has no clue I feel this way, he thinks things between us are getting better. I was trying, attempting, but I just can't. How do I break his heart?",1.6379986431478957,2.9641807238805984,3.6027001356852115,90.93015603799186,77.58208955223881,6.962279511533242,24.122116689280872,7.686295010490155,0.9881432835820888,483,16,112,7,11,164,83,134,0.121,0.8170000000000001,0.062,-0.8053,0,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,1,0,0,3,5,5,0,0,2,0,17,4,1,4,0,22,30,7,0,2,5,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,7,4,0,0,5,0,0,1,8,0,0,0,4,1,20,5,11,23,1,11,0,0,0,3,17,2,0,2,5,71,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939145462170591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16113401136567754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18103851735699447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11804848686247747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712694934174797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668140863140122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546153972360904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16177143148090026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791629059052026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17699445729462673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10117519879965878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294786011428954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10642609736925823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17137596252989612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5243355834137455,0.0,0.12926424119018434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16408074602884162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20640730962568715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25730762258754064,0.1240844086324364,0.0,0.0,0.11292006249413088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.262954048553318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329395617381629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15371197649219742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14098099233077133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12470556535920747
divorce,throwaway022223,2020/03/25,"Hating my life right now I can’t stop crying over my sex life. How pathetic is that? While I was married to my narc ex, we barely ever had sex, maybe once every 3-4 months, and it was only after begging him. Sometimes I wanted it so badly I felt restless all the time, and yet he still didn’t want me. I lost my virginity to him and we never had passionate sex, whenever we did it it was just taken as an obligation than it being fun. Now that I’m divorcing him I feel like my life is over. No one would want me again, no one would want to have sex with me and give me what I’m looking for because I’m already used.... I wasted my sexual life on a man who never wanted me.

It kills me even more because anywhere I go people tell me I’m insanely beautiful and that guys must be all over me. Guys never chase after me, my husband never wanted me. No one ever wanted me before and now they for sure won’t want me now.",1.7972938144329902,3.1871247474226827,4.101636597938143,87.2518363402062,77.29896907216495,6.7056701030927846,21.403350515463927,7.413659706084162,0.6913206185567016,707,18,152,9,16,246,107,194,0.17600000000000002,0.742,0.08199999999999999,-0.9676,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,3,0,1,1,13,9,2,1,3,0,17,10,0,2,10,36,38,10,1,11,1,2,2,1,0,4,4,0,0,3,11,10,0,1,2,0,0,1,10,5,0,3,10,3,34,4,14,22,3,25,0,1,1,6,17,5,0,0,20,112,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12618811134536606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954775060207156,0.13941344462704916,0.0,0.09730346076802264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256081481931966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07552712218787888,0.206872313574302,0.0963448395930056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05781881546787774,0.08169169059006291,0.10979396975980346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10969497693644786,0.06498776226611461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264490330630816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11289698938530335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12651137560025544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3230752566388505,0.0558656529299288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960252328259882,0.0,0.1248265753839359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148799836969761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09127311003299092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35277519761523035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12177905937493015,0.23245963714523746,0.0869683573421136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07927591891372987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09765430836484636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11309511232813535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913200887234972,0.09560175271965607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777355832238594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09994697412147366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06667842722180765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09876171884345508,0.0,0.0,0.5395729248854232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16246197344724367,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,callmeonmyzelphone,2020/03/25,"Divorced father of 3 kids from a devout Mormon. Feel hopeless due to financial situation. First post. Sorry in advance if this is an unintelligible rant. It’s late, I’m tired, and once again can’t sleep. My divorce was traumatic on so many levels. And. So. Expensive. We agreed to be amicable at first, but instead she chose to make it nasty on so many levels (I could write a book).

I have the expanded SPO in TX. 30% of my income goes to CS. I cover my kids under my health insurance. I was helping my ex with her childcare costs for several months on top of CS. 

I realized several weeks ago that my divorce attorney (and I) made a pretty big mistake in not having brought up negotiating claiming children for taxes in our mediation—something that I guess is super common. Well, due to that, my ex refuses to allow me to claim one of our 3 kids, and I ended up having to pay $5k extra in taxes for 2019 due to not having taking this into account in my payroll withholdings, and now that it’s correct I’m currently taking home several hundreds of dollars less a month. The reason she gets to do this is because we have to fall on IRS code since it’s not stated in our decree—and the code states that whoever has the kids >50% of the time gets to claim them.

I feel like such an idiot. I felt like I was on the brink of climbing out of a financial hole, only to be thrust back in. Of course she didn’t care about all the things I’ve done for her outside of the decree to help her out. My job is more flexible than hers, so many times I’ve taken kids to medical appts, or stayed home from work when they’re sick during her parenting time. I switched our weekends around so she could date a divorced guy(s?) such that they’re on the same schedule. Helped with her daycare costs. And now I’m left feeling like a dumbass for doing anything above and beyond for her, and when I needed this I get a cold response.

I just don’t know if I’m ever going to get over this divorce and find peace.",4.3621219715956565,5.171203892230579,5.522205513784464,81.79194653299919,70.2280701754386,8.317126148705098,28.311612364243945,8.515128840125781,1.9662955722639928,1559,54,311,24,27,519,214,399,0.078,0.7959999999999999,0.126,0.9683,4,0,1,0,5,1,48.0,6,0,1,7,20,9,1,0,19,0,23,5,1,4,3,48,46,20,0,6,8,4,4,3,0,0,4,0,2,6,16,17,0,2,8,2,8,5,6,3,1,3,9,5,43,6,62,33,5,65,1,1,0,0,38,30,0,4,29,204,59,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09448210385364957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08771123888087355,0.09488418362441499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195809464150969,0.0,0.06497386785883702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10867158336048237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17020057869377928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10907453684043728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09440360544588153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09641318598637297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616793309718777,0.15229019335295638,0.10233932461757024,0.0,0.09741772034236053,0.1813240823604124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22274725147671864,0.0,0.06057530949351194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11741655263481303,0.10553694868068267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11329598883572245,0.0,0.0,0.21432715127783775,0.0,0.2138290008277541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10577020987731454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05857690658294969,0.0,0.12023370895044112,0.0,0.11580605710721613,0.0,0.0,0.1562176830660959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10085429932118706,0.07114701720614339,0.3241845814364278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073742337299864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17015193925415795,0.0,0.0,0.07903220683540081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11351066653531346,0.07222546714339585,0.08106349531729826,0.0,0.0,0.1183511968741443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10207997448306044,0.1084363330203949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10958821309434803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3612356999366719,0.0,0.08816908344832645,0.11980718796226253,0.106663026935003,0.0,0.0,0.08205514997060166,0.0,0.11931435862023593,0.0,0.11360654945404693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16027889225612602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07081103669101071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186453551776207,0.12250498706009355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08549690155284767,0.0,0.09583366100527503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07759591511730632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Dianej414,2020/03/25,"Uncontested Divorce $500.00 Licensed paralegal will prepare and file your uncontested divorce for a fraction of what an attorney will cost. legalinnovations@yahoo.com
(417) 414-3743",9.71769230769231,14.474116538461539,8.72961538461539,44.052884615384635,75.92307692307692,10.292307692307693,44.96153846153846,9.516144504307137,6.909107692307693,154,10,16,5,4,48,23,26,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,8.0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,shitpostingcrab,2020/03/25,"My dad just left. Hi, I don't know if this is the right sub for this so delete it if it breaks any rules but I just need some help. My dad just announced he wanted a divorce, packed his bags, and left my house in the span of about half an hour. I was just wondering if y'all had any resources for my mom, who is a 59 year old woman who's been a stay at home mom for about 20 years and so doesn't have much of a resume to speak of, and me, who is a college freshman with some very expensive tuition. I really don't actually know what I'm looking for but I'm lost and just need some help.",4.2682527472527525,3.0950540230769263,5.177472527472529,91.02038461538464,70.30769230769229,8.65934065934066,26.263736263736266,7.447530270364453,0.9053736263736268,453,10,116,4,7,149,81,130,0.024,0.917,0.059000000000000004,0.631,0,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,1,0,1,9,1,0,0,8,0,10,0,0,0,0,24,20,11,0,6,10,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,8,5,0,0,3,0,2,0,3,1,0,1,4,2,11,0,13,16,4,12,0,1,1,0,16,6,0,7,4,71,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.17470565664037324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434905725335449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23999760049978144,0.0,0.17957983907998204,0.0,0.1763066727043622,0.2065744570247935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19677838679034587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3890292340009249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503385629429924,0.0,0.19543038228632287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41935122874724295,0.0,0.0,0.1316062950383811,0.2654942207220939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878599355644066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146900220004142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15288906834901764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908201954871759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477169793189073,0.10559544577884612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19414840002615066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23057652757876299
divorce,Bigslamkylo,2020/03/25,"Life tip #437..... If you are married to an asshole piece of white trash, don’t be. Life becomes much easier and happier that way. That is all.",0.06892857142857167,2.441872321428576,1.8900000000000008,93.98000000000002,93.64285714285714,5.6571428571428575,21.285714285714285,7.1686216300943375,0.8443285714285721,107,4,23,2,4,35,26,28,0.0,0.8009999999999999,0.19899999999999998,0.7351,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,1,3,4,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,3,3,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,15,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5273644462738202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6745488505723093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3510195794928864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3790195823575884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,jjraerae,2020/03/25,"Divorced Parental Rights during Corona Virus quarantine My brother is a young divorced kid who has a POS for a baby mom. She unfortunately got sole custody of the baby (now a toddler) and he gets her every other Wednesday for a couple of hours, then every other weekend with legal overnight stay. He pays her an insurmountable amount of child support (usually used for going out/ new tattoos) but that’s besides the point. 

She recently claimed her doctor thinks she has the virus, meanwhile the child is still under her primary care. Does he have any legal rights to keep her until she feels better? Assuming that the health and safety of the child is of utmost priority?",8.375678571428573,8.981599591666667,7.714047619047619,70.29,61.41666666666666,9.523809523809524,35.476190476190474,9.23628265651192,3.3973690476190472,541,22,83,8,7,169,82,120,0.013999999999999999,0.851,0.136,0.9367,1,1,0,0,2,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,12,0,6,2,0,1,0,10,15,5,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,5,4,0,1,3,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,10,3,13,14,1,18,0,0,0,0,22,5,0,1,11,52,15,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13261111977433293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17246741875333016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198822142317641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21577100385807585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19959743502296926,0.17065151863994374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3286028051335533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986011551449156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018828574234067,0.0,0.11082669850408926,0.0,0.15596452718874465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20728281046197766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19204213984745772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17333075382869712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283892778446403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18833851092280884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165316615505493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843441918484877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19254541145435536,0.0,0.0,0.3330690029442444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078510024910746,0.155732457733858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212910864887472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12495230316472468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16842302083259006,0.21477213003439533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,lovelyhummingbird,2020/03/26,"What I Have Learned You are loved.

I (41F) am a week away from the day my divorce is final. I never thought I would say those words. Feels like 13yrs down the drain, although most of them were great years. I gave it my all and stayed true to myself and to my marriage. Communicated in a caring and kind manner. My story is one that may resonate with many of you. Your stories have helped me with my healing and have made me realize I am not alone or crazy. I was told by my STBX one day in October that he was separating from me to figure some things out. He said he was staying with his father and a friend during separation. The night before he left, he was hugging me and crying saying how much he loved me. The next day, he was a stranger. One who was cold, mean, hateful and hurtful. Such confusing times for me. Did not know what to think, which end was up, was I crazy, etc.  It was only three months later that I found out he was cheating on me the whole time with a woman who was over 10yrs older than me. He actively got her number when he was out one night before he even left me that day in October. I found this out later. He actively pursued her for a place to stay so he wouldn't have to stay at his dad's house. I realize now she was complicit during this time, which just makes it worse. During those few months, he cried every time I saw him. I realize now it was due to a guilty conscience. He lied to me every time I asked him if he was cheating on me or what next steps were. He led me to believe he was working on himself and he was just confused. Always crying. I found out during those short few months that he went with her to two places we have visited yearly our entire relationship. He even took her to the tropical island where we got married. How hurt was I? You will never know. Seriously, who does that? He sold a few of my personal items during this time. When I confronted him, he just shrugged and had no answer. He also lost a lot of my money in stocks. That's another story. Why was I so kind during this time? Why didn't I check the phone records earlier? Why did I let him stay at our house a few weekends...while I would go and stay somewhere else...hoping it would make him realize the pain he was causing? Because I trusted him. Won't make that mistake again.

During this time, I took care of our house, dogs and everything else. Like many of you, all I asked for was the truth and communication. Not him walking out of the house every time I saw him. Chasing after him to tell me the truth. Never a phone call, just text messages. He wanted a child, so did I. Yet, he left me for someone that cannot give him a child. He had a drug overdose in July of 2019. I saved his life. I woke up and found him dead on our couch and saved his life. If I had found him two minutes later, he would be dead. Can only imagine what else he did behind my back. I stood by his side through everything. He disrespected me on every level through 2019 and I just now see him for who he truly is. He continued to go out with the guy who gave him the drug, even after I told him not to. Why did I still stay by his side? Love is blind, I guess. Once I put his clothes and belongings in garage after I found out he had been cheating on me, he threw them all away. Out of sight, out of mind. Coward. Still has items in garage...they are now outside by side of house waiting for him. He has mommy issues and many other issues he will never get help with. He lied to me about so many things, including his family and past. I say this because he blamed me for everything, yet he continues to take his anti-anxiety medication and drink heavily. His dad at least knows the truth about him after I told his dad the truth. He hid me from his dad all these years. He lied to his dad and few friends about me. Yes, I want justice but realize karma will hit him someday. It just has to. The back to back trauma I experienced in 2019 is immeasurable. 

The classy, intelligent, handsome man I knew and loved is now a complete stranger. The daily notes I left him, texts, inside jokes, amazing love, vacations, cooking, cleaning,...while he never lifted a finger. The day he left was the day he truly died. He is now a shell of himself. Of course, he says he is happy and I'm the one with the problem. He is 34(M) and his affair partner is 51(F). They live with her parents. What adult would live in that environment after he had everything and more? He is soon to take our dogs, my babies, when divorce is final and he moves into a rental...who knows if it's with her. He only is moving into his own place as I essentially paid him off through a refinance. He wanted to rehome the dogs. Hated to give him that money as he is a gambler and who knows what he will do with it. He is in debt. He is a master manipulator and it's taken me the past few months to reconfigure my brain back to where it used to be. Seeing things for what they should be. As much as I heal everyday through the guidance and kindness of my family and friends, it still hurts me greatly. One day I'm fine, the next I'm not. The dreams I randomly have of him. Why did he turn out this way? Was he always this way? Well, I do know it's not my fault. He is the person who could have a billion dollars and still find something to be unhappy about. His baseline depression, anxiety, family issues, and so on. It will soon catch up with him. I say this as we all need to talk to someone, honestly talk to someone. I have healed on so many levels during the past months as I have been open and honest. 

Oh well, I will not let him change me. I will continue to be kind and caring. I cannot randomly go out and be with different people. It would make me feel empty. My next love is out there. I'm working on myself and my strength. Please remember this: Communication is paramount to any successful relationship. That's all I ever asked for during this whole time. Never received anything close to it, especially in the end. There are no excuses or justification for what he has done to me. 

To those that have been cheated on, have been hurt, have given it your all...build your self-worth, self-esteem and confidence every day. You are worth it and you deserve better. Do not question yourself, what you think you should have done, or your worth. That is your goal every day and allow yourself grace. Take as long as you need to grieve. We are all different in our stages of grief. Thanks for listening and know that we are all going to get through this. Know this.",2.1247984896834424,4.187390584544762,3.2973751096348027,90.34813978514693,78.5026778882938,6.2702993885332905,21.720124905916236,7.3138001815848295,0.6381504083701897,5062,145,1071,66,123,1633,443,1307,0.083,0.789,0.128,0.9963,5,1,4,0,2,1,193.0,11,14,4,8,52,66,7,2,52,1,121,21,2,13,20,193,211,68,5,20,22,7,3,2,4,18,10,7,1,9,72,74,2,1,34,4,9,17,21,23,2,10,73,18,173,43,155,110,27,178,1,8,6,7,208,66,0,17,87,722,245,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03634510230991456,0.0,0.028063348116874248,0.058399310468249525,0.0,0.0,0.023864008596367725,0.03679739987929871,0.05369111965907413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028878022735155606,0.0,0.09841986020427504,0.0,0.06594085596253728,0.10793543680768404,0.0,0.042783954648430905,0.0,0.05972202844239517,0.03953707336547735,0.0,0.03103634122633685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03917468020296104,0.03583322376383025,0.0,0.10733700133496893,0.03604952100209965,0.03712306446502305,0.0,0.036793672459908784,0.0,0.0,0.028018394471266462,0.0,0.11564193102352567,0.20368502538707936,0.0,0.03022499878883114,0.0,0.03642032996417351,0.07332809565916461,0.0,0.0,0.03070956127010285,0.07182333746266531,0.0,0.03437715361566777,0.08139199448611631,0.0,0.058630328705132614,0.0,0.06216283110650039,0.0,0.03913725834846919,0.06953451969550775,0.03174304926492602,0.17740096410863998,0.0,0.12615500386120235,0.0,0.09924586338407164,0.0,0.0354875038834486,0.025069989445485517,0.0,0.07688393153711756,0.032073781863628144,0.0,0.0,0.2308617727664403,0.08133681231591514,0.0,0.036668620090262935,0.06732757993269012,0.07977518899800555,0.0,0.0561331330870945,0.07737890296183482,0.038658191581091884,0.03474695423626368,0.0,0.03735647042987556,0.0,0.06929288185549999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0470433392294511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20245936287946092,0.15026839140529588,0.0,0.0,0.10988192164696486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14617317375062844,0.1542867492595754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19063976251395573,0.07176863264763499,0.04957354423400034,0.034288709639921124,0.0,0.06197439471536233,0.031055634864900764,0.0,0.0,0.038307457034951364,0.029834270092491993,0.1900333533920356,0.033205240125396586,0.09369769286729536,0.17789072857248012,0.0,0.03822586840354275,0.0,0.03535186143061781,0.0,0.0,0.035433280528268135,0.0,0.14005193726900678,0.07459525144718658,0.05159384568286488,0.05204108150614449,0.16239235135718988,0.0,0.14928449457441215,0.0658636064581261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037372218779642,0.1426769505598013,0.08006796474315643,0.03734074590515568,0.0,0.038965913578148034,0.0,0.10049888701263214,0.02432862432020876,0.0612825914524252,0.1099921434887469,0.03852087393305128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033578649795588354,0.0,0.03527751500767065,0.03931147516903432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07535212473342752,0.03975280374633385,0.0,0.03338087102835967,0.13953426838391442,0.0,0.0,0.055928135996896895,0.0,0.07321797099204044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892009298470309,0.02701581367019494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618265107070976,0.11209921811741083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07915526368560853,0.056411820397961436,0.030672269948571137,0.03230833086028248,0.0,0.0,0.06994141526972053,0.04497153544790563,0.0,0.02785941448508661,0.20462637688338287,0.0,0.0,0.10059676329463342,0.07797780774950602,0.0,0.03817041133984597,0.0685602744311387,0.0,0.0,0.030308532375073718,0.0,0.0,0.06209515053293909,0.05570936490549128,0.028148974958406226,0.0,0.06310449325797883,0.03253096987884435,0.15832698600287742,0.07835873484473478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05109531297251834,0.0,0.03576211350568213,0.14957163685301114,0.0,0.0,0.06779498909144208
divorce,f_ckconfederacy,2020/03/26,"When is it time to call it quits? We’ve been married for a year and together for 3 (23 YO F & M). I am a nursing student with a part time job. While my husband is a family business co-owner. Since getting married I have realized just how much money and work comes before EVERYTHING. I cannot seem to get over it and my husband has plainly told me there is no compromise when it comes to finances and work.  

1. My husband and his family “share” financial decisions and have a bank account that I have no access to. 

I was able to accept this at one time (seeing as I found out after marriage, I had no choice) but the longer we’re married the less I understand or feel that it is fair. 

2. I became severely Ill in December-Early March and my husband left me on several occasions for miscellaneous work that “popped up” when I needed help. One occasion I drove myself to ER. I ended up back with my parents for a few weeks because I couldn’t trust him to be flexible temporarily 

Now that I am better I am like hold on, work and money came before my health. Money that I have no say about how it should be managed.... how is this marriage? I love my husband but I have a sinking feeling that this is unsustainable and of course resentment. When I talk about this to my husband he makes me feel selfish and like this is normal. Need an outside perspective",2.747288557213931,4.761836440298509,4.307537313432839,84.06874378109453,76.38805970149255,7.451741293532338,27.21144278606965,8.344100000000001,2.0035965174129355,1058,43,206,20,24,353,153,268,0.085,0.787,0.128,0.9129,2,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,0,6,13,9,1,0,10,0,24,3,0,4,0,39,42,22,0,5,4,7,3,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,17,16,0,1,9,0,6,4,6,2,1,2,7,5,33,7,27,31,4,28,0,0,1,1,19,9,0,2,17,146,50,8,0.12906144275903067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398380193081085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09924028299426783,0.0,0.07867465760090267,0.0,0.21964356392702614,0.0,0.0,0.114144358053464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13178616299132911,0.14761190815567266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22235001011154684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11431013081877467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11599210282194725,0.0,0.24333528411791056,0.0,0.1957720299642813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415092104410628,0.0,0.0,0.13485855405397035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13718627846770304,0.0,0.0,0.08650716458292422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807356743102602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402256351863718,0.0,0.0,0.12610580357356008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164829909851734,0.0,0.08614951522018027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948750104278187,0.19139484894843609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264528115649271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749107474998218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433074587918951,0.1397609655622465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13727273086123234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263483942898706,0.0,0.0,0.10284526023762408,0.11749269027902512,0.0,0.29160538887711906,0.0,0.10676095913441992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037346989291464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257702954722608,0.0,0.0,0.1233237393628766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13435751350839228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10352530451507544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3758330697717557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08311133769120073
divorce,Luvsthemnugs,2020/03/26,"Why.. My wife left me monday. Im 28 and shes 25. We were married 5 years and together for 11. We have 2 kids. Came back from work and she was gone with our kids. Our relationship was one of struggle. She had an affair twice in our time together. I tried to forgive it but those insecurities kept manifesting itself in our daily interactions. Im at a lost. Ive seen a docter and received pills to help. Then i talked to a counselor to see if that could help. I know it will take time to heal. But i still hate this. From what i understand she had papers ready and a place. I just cant believe this. I loved her so much. Too much. Now i dont know what to do. I know her personality type. Shes going to try to hurt me again. Just like last time. Left me and our first son for 4 days to spend time with another man. Why do i want her so bad.. The way she acts, i just dont know. Lost for sure..",-1.173695947256153,0.8886327434554993,1.3165328679464814,98.22340120224938,95.91099476439793,4.71444638355633,14.927477215435331,6.42735559955562,-0.6551991080085315,678,15,169,9,27,229,114,191,0.092,0.778,0.13,0.7601,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,7,0,0,4,10,11,1,2,6,0,16,3,0,0,1,27,33,12,0,3,6,2,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,4,9,11,0,1,6,0,1,5,3,7,0,3,11,2,32,4,20,20,2,26,0,3,2,1,31,6,0,1,15,105,41,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13445273402708732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09859538054864876,0.10706064094317527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14446313127706986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466526678381335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10237543283134268,0.0,0.0,0.08269306657988501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30055221766853435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10906620621890822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07287194410129799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12659342025045114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17189001391160186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13726510656029228,0.0,0.2770051477203085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818714818186353,0.10451865546017024,0.0,0.0,0.278628787559481,0.0,0.0,0.0626431591969889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27994055823884195,0.0,0.11572603863182605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885169504852804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08688705428615938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11195916010466513,0.1339654836308284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13766324819677073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10217693123002332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10239885431867048,0.0,0.0,0.13404625914620974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208484250543565,0.0,0.0964075509870682,0.10306058999861432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2990708682273597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17410966188764634,0.0,0.0,0.13348440546763962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07562910048321166,0.10177725120559143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314021774166828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09334768961474403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08257124748469832
divorce,Maebeewondae,2020/03/26,"Time to go It's taking me some courage to post this as I was debating to put this on here.... So here we go. Sorry for the length.

Growing up, I was extremely sheltered. My mother was a JW and never told us about the real world besides it was WORLDLY. (Yeah I heard that a lot) When my sister was about 13 or 14 years old, she was raped by her father and that's when my mother became more shut in. Not only to the world but to us.  My sister became a prostitute and drug dealer, eventually because emancipated. As my brother, moved out. So I was the only one left in the house. Couldn't go anywhere and the only reference s I had about life was TV.

Fast forward: I never had a life outside of high school. I had track after school, but I had to be home right after. Once I got home I was an emotional punch bag for my stepdad. He would get home from work and just yell at me for the smallest things such as a small piece of notebook paper on my bedroom floor. My mom turned a blind eye to everything that happened.

I supposed he wanted me to earn my keep. So at the age of 17, I started my first fastfood job.... And started to crush on an older guy... Like 11 years older. We started talking and began dating. I noticed he had a drinking problem and wanted to break up. He began crying saying I was breaking his heart and he doesn't want me to go. I felt responsible for his pain and decided only I can make him happy. 

Months later I graduated high school and the next day was kicked out of my house. I wasnt a trouble child. They just didn't want me around any more. I couldn't stay with my dad bc he was in jail. My stepmom is a basket case. My brother was in a trade school living in forms and my sister didn't have a stable life. I turned to every relative I could but no one would take me. The sad part was that I was leaving for bootcamp in 6 months and had a steady job. Anyway, my only option was my boyfriend. I thought, ""Damn, he must really love me.""

Fast forward: So in bootcamp, he was the main one sending me letters and in those letters he hinted marriage. Again, I thought he loved me so much that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I mean he helped me out when I was kicked out. I need to marry him.... Then I didn't know that was ""obligation"" speaking.

Now as I continued with basic training, we began arguing all the time. (I was able to have a cellphone at this time) He had that I didn't have time for him and that I need to talk to him more.... I waking up at 4am most days and some days I was at night school.  He hated that I was making friends and spending money... Yes he talked me into sharing a bank account with him bc we loved each other.

My roommates and friends seen the mood I was always in and I asked for their advice as they had more experience than I. They told me that no one should control me as he is doing. That was the first time that ""manipulation"" crossed my mind. A week later, I broke off our engagement and 2 weeks later slept with a guy just bc of curiosity. No relationship wanted.

A week later, my boyfriend calls me saying that he apologizes how he has been and wants to get back together. I told him about my encounter.... He cried and again I thought, ""wow he real must love me.""

Fast forward: We get married right before I turned 19 (yes young) and now I'm at my first duty station.... pregnant. Just to speed this up. Before he came with me to the station, he would use up all the money and I couldn't eat for days. He would say it was for bills or whatever and we would argue a lot. When he got there all he did was complain about taking care of our kids and how he hated it there.

I got out of the military for him to make him happy and buried my happiness. Something I wanted to do since I was a child. Gone. But he said life would be better back at home. Ha.

We lived paycheck to paycheck ( bc of his spending habits) and I was in a deep depression without knowing it. I would cry when I was alone or until one of the kids found me. I failed college bc of it. Then, I took it upon myself to join the reserves at least to make ends meet. He hated it. And started making comments like, ""If you decide to leave me, I'll make sure you will never see the kids."" Then, after 5 years of being with this asshole... He manipulated me this whole time. I was terrified to even think of divorce bc I want to see my kids. Yet I still wanted it.

Months ago, I began playing a mmo to escape my reality. Formed friends and began talking to someone. He is literally everything I wish my husband was. Smart, kind, ambitious, and not an asshole. And I had a job to do near his home town and asked if he wanted to meet up. He didn't hesitate to say yes. We definitely had sex and it felt right.

About a month later, my husband and I get into an argument about how I play the game too much. Well, it's always an onesided argument. I gave up on defending myself. It was so bad that I left to my mom's who is not a JW and changed for the better. No questions asked she let me stay for two days. And I was happy being away... (Actually when I have to work out of town I'm extremely happy away from him) anyways he gave me the ""I will change"" speech, but I'm beyond over his negativity, manipulative, non supportive and non ambitious ways. 

Now that matured, I realized that he wasn't showing me love and on many occasions he told me to leave if I wanted, knowing it will have the opposite effect. I loved him harder when he said those words, but when he said it 2 months ago... I was going to take him on that offer.... And I will after my deployment and pursue my new relationship. If it doesn't work out, that's okay because either way I will be happier and more financially stable.

Thank you all for reading my life.",1.7165048091839914,3.6673346808873752,3.37568228358672,89.83753056158861,79.32423208191126,6.002432516289173,22.343965249767297,7.018957405659447,0.6279331740614338,4434,137,945,51,110,1471,428,1172,0.098,0.754,0.14800000000000002,0.9972,4,2,3,0,1,0,182.0,12,3,4,14,49,50,7,0,54,6,94,23,4,15,10,172,192,82,0,34,22,13,2,2,3,15,9,11,6,8,44,69,2,3,17,7,9,16,24,16,1,9,82,18,166,33,142,85,26,171,0,4,5,8,150,67,1,14,89,644,210,21,0.04032972117400577,0.0,0.03935599023360966,0.0,0.0,0.039409736772586114,0.07149972892924704,0.0,0.0,0.041769428328746167,0.0,0.0,0.0671151175267521,0.0,0.0,0.027425593363391124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03590200224228241,0.11310853555655732,0.0,0.07578220123243479,0.062022132355376874,0.03367363260671598,0.049169247401470925,0.0,0.0686352445895159,0.0,0.0,0.07133672203675988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041181154451804605,0.04612645706275178,0.041118838571916665,0.0,0.08532699494381196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045233211602444666,0.03220000069816432,0.0,0.13290091491549633,0.13004666881322546,0.0,0.03473592975145184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03950777306531972,0.04676967272278303,0.0412673730869366,0.0,0.045365508088688535,0.03572016246473217,0.0,0.0,0.02663740047677167,0.0,0.033979529495711244,0.0,0.07249150583152637,0.03945020597493705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07744571374376576,0.0,0.0,0.1029133206844851,0.0,0.04421945763691253,0.09347592761051393,0.0,0.08428245906224609,0.0,0.11460154970988325,0.0,0.0967660866389872,0.0,0.0,0.07986552918399259,0.035663439243223766,0.21465869058923567,0.0,0.1194517505141006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047790913771233436,0.02703216198889921,0.08522112935135788,0.2022699931099915,0.0,0.0,0.09307016692557646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12006307586140992,0.03584690921821159,0.0,0.041997198498026383,0.06649248013172207,0.0,0.0,0.12811005471370848,0.08763672011745766,0.04123987232262862,0.17091644854050814,0.039406129265432785,0.0,0.07122376534278183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06857377347532519,0.21839488762189105,0.0,0.1615224122943966,0.040888007270403065,0.0,0.04393088942138722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0407215216745756,0.09446736402474762,0.16095399336553926,0.04286411113139309,0.05929397092017377,0.059807954468967625,0.09331430165351837,0.038950696020254125,0.042891115999266434,0.037846711311567485,0.0,0.0,0.04591565486019772,0.04231925818279865,0.04294983683060508,0.13664231404446991,0.15336285139834524,0.04291366678590563,0.0,0.0,0.04367315792881004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03862472472008439,0.0,0.0,0.038590096515708286,0.0,0.04054250892360827,0.04517851760517231,0.0,0.040340634969315066,0.09180810399125654,0.02583625208559896,0.0,0.0,0.08659805512813376,0.0,0.10332408457424457,0.11508840074910215,0.12828725197619942,0.0,0.20407915464573997,0.06427513253816028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03336116211097683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034171241875843195,0.03104778969165656,0.0,0.045145821011395235,0.11418233689158795,0.08597223346268335,0.032207367425585616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04576568965944338,0.03801028492385521,0.0,0.121291724908498,0.12966200886791732,0.0,0.037130188788101384,0.0,0.0,0.026793274716070292,0.02584165688553509,0.0,0.09605188121577146,0.1410995084375355,0.0,0.0,0.15414710749597785,0.04480780414720748,0.0,0.13160146699905145,0.039396277449319804,0.0,0.09702337780946606,0.03483193031058772,0.0,0.0,0.285450173465686,0.0640237109478467,0.09705020902352084,0.0,0.03626126274023397,0.0,0.0,0.04502669343340292,0.04637718901767544,0.038876412042285334,0.0,0.08808155201801147,0.0,0.0,0.20054353764049385,0.0,0.0,0.07791305452263493
divorce,clo102090,2020/03/26,Protecting my mom during possible divorce. My mother called me yesterday and asked me to open up a new bank account so she could start sending me part of her paycheck money. She wants to do this just in case a divorce happens between her and her husband. I know the courts would raise their eyebrows at a new account where money is being hidden basically. But what if I were to just receive the money from my mother and take it out in cash. I can keep it in a safe and guard it with my life. That would probably be the safest option for the money to not be taken in case of a divorce. Is this a good plan?,3.7244990892531895,4.957585803278692,4.7851912568306005,84.89906193078326,72.11475409836065,7.0615664845173045,27.489981785063755,7.3871296695380915,1.4723085610200366,476,17,94,5,9,156,78,122,0.0,0.925,0.075,0.8391,0,0,0,0,3,0,8.0,0,0,1,1,4,2,0,0,10,0,11,1,0,0,0,21,19,7,0,5,5,4,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,7,7,0,4,1,0,8,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,16,2,17,11,1,15,0,0,0,0,17,9,0,2,4,73,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22175785942636592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422163265133704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893916279584907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19895917515602105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20976262951627608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108417499041967,0.0,0.0,0.13036354851034065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16754732780598885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778156440011238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4581947558661255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568736117666339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674168613854029,0.0,0.0,0.2557508055185744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16789734626648234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17835121692732944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139911676712018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3370121228640067,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,OverIt2222,2020/03/26,"My suicidal wife has been reading through my text messages with a friend I know I'm probably in the wrong but I don't know what to do. 

I woke up this morning to my wife telling me she ""knows all about the texts"" I've been exchanging with a friend, venting about our relationship problems to him. During the last 6 months, she's been incredibly insecure, jealous and accused me of being in an affair with him, despite the fact that I'm a lesbian and this male friend is platonic. She read through my whatsapp conversation, copy pasted it to a document, and has been sending me screenshots. She is unapologetic in her total invasion of my privacy and won't apologize. There's been a lot of instability in our relationship and more arguments to boot which led me to vent outside our marriage. We are now living in separate rooms while undergoing this stupid quarantine and she's sending me non-stop messages over Facebook messenger about how much of a traitor I am and how she wants a divorce ASAP.  

I guess I need to hear the brutal truth. Was it wrong of me to vent to my friend about her? I have felt for months now that I can't really speak with her openly without her becoming suicidal. I feel often I have to keep my mouth shut even if I'm unhappy with our living situation. And now things have come to a head and she's demanding divorce and is stating firmly that she doesn't want to work things out.",6.033382352941178,6.647610573529412,6.527941176470589,76.75823529411765,66.42647058823529,10.223529411764707,34.382352941176464,10.194018383442646,3.4733250000000013,1124,50,213,26,17,366,146,272,0.185,0.753,0.061,-0.9892,0,1,0,0,2,0,21.0,5,0,0,1,12,12,3,1,14,0,22,3,2,3,4,42,38,15,2,5,3,2,2,0,4,1,0,2,1,1,12,19,0,1,5,2,1,4,5,7,0,0,8,4,42,5,38,28,5,24,0,0,0,1,41,11,0,4,8,154,54,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14597840524893838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385823059978953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08730123931355609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06683233916196553,0.0,0.12691003379345275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4084765119878867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14560716243222588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13565107842490606,0.0,0.14897236420744422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11748442206435936,0.0,0.0,0.21792201253246565,0.10774137489000768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334282952431829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123716147531618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110038193183397,0.0,0.09716483313878696,0.09800709627245142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12617729185814242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14250847183964682,0.1264749258843361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644242579592592,0.0,0.08467556090006265,0.0,0.0,0.28381589042152583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485717668140526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105053555756101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2891589698898297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11552796470570274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756242010192573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15592208361044094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274132944885355,0.0,0.09622596442345996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28902820092708764,0.0,0.0
divorce,uinstitches,2020/03/26,"How can I legally ""divorce"" a family member? I just googled this & the first 15 articles are all terribly useless.

Don't you need a reason such as emotional/physical abuse to apply for a restraining order? I'll fill out any amount of paperwork but as far as a ""reason"" I need to discuss with lawyers or police, it'd seem petty.

I still can't believe there's no legal framework for this. When I die, I don't want other same-surname family members to be notified. I want them to get in trouble for having a random name (mine) on their Medicare card, etc. I want to become total strangers.

Now *relatives* is 100% a legal definition, I don't find it vague at all, who cares if you can simply choose to ignore them. So why can't these bonds be legally dissolved?",3.618333333333332,5.335731812080539,5.091426174496643,80.67503635346758,73.16107382550334,7.919686800894855,28.52404921700224,8.59863814320734,2.3046237136465333,596,24,110,11,12,200,105,149,0.175,0.7290000000000001,0.096,-0.912,0,0,0,0,2,0,28.0,0,2,3,1,8,5,0,0,7,0,13,0,0,3,3,24,21,9,1,6,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,2,5,0,0,1,6,4,0,1,0,0,15,1,18,18,5,11,0,1,0,0,9,5,0,4,4,76,22,5,0.0,0.2318489765609525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21201935772173194,0.0,0.13306921024464868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21611334875856816,0.0,0.2204645169684356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995089514542991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20308509886808135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2182350898232692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3689396553596853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17884810948323904,0.16644543323316435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10223480050445163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901886993685581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4023835635794056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17813985676578328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15627041831309246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34625166212429465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17657089673547316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,trash11457,2020/03/26,"What to do... I’m on my phone so I may be short or miss a word now and then. 

I woke up one day to my wife telling me she wants a divorce. This was the first time hearing it and really the first time she even let on she was unhappy (to me at least..). We talk and I get a reason and I tell her I’m going to fix it. I wasn’t aware it was an issue and she seems pretty set in her choice already. I tell her I want her to do whatever makes her happy but I’m going to keep trying and would like her to as well. She agrees. 

One night I happen to notice a message to her and I’m one of the least jealous people probably ever but I knew she never mentioned this guy before. I decide to check it out one night and low and behold it is (likely) an ex. Who seems to be not much of an ex anymore.. messages and pictures. No nudes, but some sexy pics and messages about meeting up in a few months blah blah. 

She has no idea I know of this and I would definitely consider it cheating at this point. Do I even try at this point or just start getting ahead of the game on this divorce. I screenshot all the messages. 

Would really just love some advice. 
No kids. Mid 20s. Few years married. 
Thank you

Throwaway account too.",-0.5762352941176481,1.6061548470588285,1.495000000000001,97.7025,92.68627450980392,4.098039215686275,17.303921568627448,5.7212163849143,-0.5368431372549014,926,25,212,7,34,306,137,255,0.083,0.7879999999999999,0.129,0.9347,0,0,0,0,2,0,31.0,1,1,0,3,10,10,2,0,13,0,16,2,1,2,3,43,39,20,0,5,8,3,0,4,0,4,0,1,0,2,14,14,0,1,7,1,2,2,6,4,1,6,6,1,34,6,29,26,8,34,0,2,0,2,38,16,0,7,17,152,48,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11810757115623233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333771851731893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11986529001701304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028469446644532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07794772281337972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15965996882353284,0.1093290270399907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20561487830290093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12629361860951155,0.0,0.13738037140496565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11967504027570758,0.10688024161138324,0.12866270444469213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13622328395305616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13644151744494068,0.0,0.12615132930556286,0.0,0.10743008525157167,0.0,0.0,0.06642406988429447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12359232904612907,0.0,0.11809675976943555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090850969089384,0.0,0.08067811563705135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09647303829506257,0.0,0.08884945020060896,0.0,0.09321829599314886,0.0,0.0,0.22684663818255765,0.0,0.0,0.13760524473632368,0.0,0.0,0.3276041537062101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08379235416078347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22851238811881625,0.0,0.0,0.12296283608530285,0.1303125725929658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15485802400653764,0.12426902596445324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200613393728999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08554864599215617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971464553734359,0.31692318553880844,0.11127596308599376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14095433935578364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16411837443274552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14257824518808218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10867186690488473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575764129249389,0.0,0.0,0.07783289431012408
divorce,Klutzy-Condition,2020/03/26,"Is it normal to fear a parent or spouse after divorce? I have a fear that my parent could hurt my other parent after the divorce is finalized. No one has got physical ever, but I was just anxious about this.",4.128455284552846,5.410266073170731,5.857073170731707,77.41211382113823,71.1951219512195,7.417886178861789,25.861788617886177,7.793537801064563,1.70250569105691,163,5,28,2,3,56,32,41,0.247,0.753,0.0,-0.8176,3,0,0,0,2,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,2,3,0,6,0,0,0,1,6,7,2,0,2,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,2,0,4,0,4,4,0,4,0,1,0,0,6,0,0,1,4,27,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23404888371222465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16541245282832176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18740173154983536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4662591528050962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22695018645128906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.165696846733974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217852206914193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20298760254746276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14038720395134735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6901302658438728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,tactlesspoppy,2020/03/26,"My husband says he doesn’t want to be with me but won’t let me leave. I’m a 23 year old girl who immaturely married her high school sweetheart, we’ll call him James. 
Throughout the years James has continually flirted, sexted, made plans to meet up with last girlfriends/flings. I’ve tried many times to get out of the relationship. The toxicity and the manipulation I’ve been through is mind blowing. 
He lies about anything he can. When I got pregnant with our daughter I received a message from a girl named... Claire. She said hey just letting you know I asked James how he was doing.
I didn’t think too much of it because things had been going to well, we were having a baby. He changed a lot, he was being the best he had ever been. Then I asked him about it, as soon as he lied I knew something was up. After 20 minutes of prying he finally admitted he had confided in her for advice on being a parent. 

Things got worse from there. It’s been a little over two years since then and she has always managed to weasel her way back into our lives. Threats, nudes, stalking. All of it, but the worst part is he’s always the one who seeks her out. 
The last time I know about her talking to him we discussed how I wasn’t happy and I wanted to figure out how to improve on myself and our relationship. THE WHOLE TIME HE WAS TELLING HER EVERYTHING. Then his reasoning was he was bored and I said I wasn’t happy.... yeah not sure either. 

Now we’re in March 2020, tax season. We filed together and claimed our baby. After two months of not hearing anything about our taxes I decided to call the IRS. WE GOT OUR TAXES THE BEGINNING OF FEBRUARY.  He looked at me and sAid oh yeah. We got them, I bought a car. 

After many days of fighting over this I decided it was time for me to move out so I could fix myself and be better for our relationship and our daughter. He says, you should move out because I don’t know that I want to be with you. You don’t ever show me you love me or appreciate me. So we decided to separate because let’s be honest the only thing we have in common is our daughter. 

He agreed to help me get into my own place and help with bills. It’s been two weeks of me trying to get into an apartment and trying to get a loan so I could pay the deposit and rent. Found out today that he jacked up my credit so bad no body wants to work with me. 
 The story kind of gets sloppy in the end but I’m so lost. I can’t stay in a house where I’m unwanted but I have no where to go. I’ve never felt so unloved.",1.267010328090219,3.4116964177949716,2.8673376884055344,91.8794168096055,81.92069632495166,5.526645012955731,20.779862048830328,6.725074872412051,0.29014728659538,1956,57,424,21,53,642,245,517,0.109,0.7759999999999999,0.115,0.6618,2,0,1,0,2,0,55.0,17,5,1,5,25,19,2,0,26,2,47,3,2,6,5,77,85,32,0,8,9,5,1,0,1,3,0,6,1,2,14,34,0,0,13,1,10,6,13,7,1,4,32,8,70,12,69,39,9,70,0,1,1,2,88,28,0,2,34,284,84,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07535131081942784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283239243799919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269104438390425,0.0,0.1441754773823825,0.0,0.0,0.05929307520831505,0.06438389506658387,0.14101720337863816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08092252196133662,0.068197810430063,0.0,0.08565218060213534,0.0,0.0,0.1574765133249667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08157249253401969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12313262963384952,0.0,0.0,0.04972977626987336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682968546563035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13950139550628227,0.0,0.0,0.06930178218646936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07403799829485626,0.08447058481940048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845474841888133,0.0,0.0,0.2014347940863023,0.0,0.0876471420492653,0.0,0.2466886635381278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16417073585665035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690893318271635,0.0,0.10337084218048197,0.08147128516985835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08897495454604816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08029853068623613,0.12713344335365473,0.1257104027467903,0.0,0.08164869346485527,0.0,0.23655157522119066,0.0,0.0,0.07728479676762108,0.06808982398237126,0.0,0.06475324682937683,0.0,0.08417502159405604,0.0655564353172054,0.06959507305488337,0.07296364783600476,0.0,0.15635552007859754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778594400274057,0.0,0.06154872056974167,0.1639121306238631,0.0566849565414002,0.0,0.059472231345319086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08091430793818069,0.0,0.05225194746194229,0.05864587196080433,0.0,0.0,0.08562188332888113,0.08350296061477035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805638707618931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07928225014710204,0.0,0.2483628730878893,0.0,0.0,0.22004871300203305,0.12264244054216918,0.0,0.07803975906874923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06378645231830549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05936329046834995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08218933969121721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07267556264483213,0.0,0.0,0.061978353141869474,0.06739781716400664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15368600779937006,0.049409178531368926,0.0,0.0,0.17985458734216475,0.0,0.07309156568695671,0.0,0.0,0.15705853386870475,0.0,0.2259767298885193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18192665489741314,0.06120658165370217,0.06185324629647255,0.0,0.06933143692918424,0.0,0.0,0.08609091686274647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056137230264235984,0.0,0.07858200229379175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14896955090321554
divorce,thenmegsays,2020/03/26,"Corona Virus woes First, people asking me ""are you going to reconcile?"" HELL NO! Second, I filed for custody and made sure the date I left was on the paperwork and guess what....this virus has everything shut down so he's not getting served.  I just want this to be over. I want to be divorced already!",1.6340640394088697,4.249098120689658,2.493152709359609,91.94568965517244,85.0344827586207,5.383251231527094,20.354679802955662,6.868970318607317,0.4831300492610837,233,7,46,3,7,73,47,58,0.188,0.7340000000000001,0.078,-0.8705,0,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,0,1,0,1,2,3,1,0,2,0,5,0,0,1,1,10,12,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,2,2,0,6,1,7,8,0,8,1,1,0,0,4,5,1,1,2,29,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3443674312616708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.291735213038412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2804605964506662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26543920303314456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16303916209067298,0.0,0.17735164205584147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3437707308214518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3390555419312738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952799703800053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163440300846708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29411410505885843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3681237086047471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,frank45454,2020/03/26,"How to initiate NC with Spouses circle STBXW (33F) initiated divorce from me (33M). She asked for space but after 2 months she informed me we were getting divorced. It eventually came out that she was leaving me for a coworker. She gaslit the hell out of me leading up to this and I felt manipulated and confused.  I was completely broken but worked on myself with intense therapy and tried everything I could to get her back but she seemed more interested in continuing to hurt me.  We are still in the process of divorcing (she’s procrastinating) but recent discoveries have lead me to go full NC.

I’m looking for advice on following:  For NC to work I feel I need to cut all ties, and that includes mutual friends and family.  I don’t want to one day open Instagram and see photos of my ex, I don’t want to talk to friends and wonder what will or won’t get back to my ex, and with her family they are no longer my family.  All this will slow down my healing.

So this: how do you go NC and unfriend/say goodbye to these people in a way that shows it’s not personal.  I also can’t help it but in the back of my mind i know I’ve been cast as a villain so just going straight NC to our overlapping circles makes me look guilty when I’m trying to walk away with some dignity in this whole craziness. 

Bit of a ramble - thanks to anyone who is reading this.",4.159217323752183,5.166883977859783,5.473738590017478,81.22283938628863,70.8450184501845,8.952495630219461,29.02330549621285,9.276330184999452,2.3766265682656837,1062,40,217,22,19,356,162,271,0.133,0.764,0.10300000000000001,-0.9194,0,0,0,0,2,0,25.0,3,1,1,4,11,9,3,1,7,0,16,1,0,6,2,48,40,22,0,4,8,3,2,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,14,19,0,0,6,2,0,8,6,5,0,1,6,5,35,4,43,30,7,37,1,1,3,0,27,17,1,5,11,150,49,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12868750199344808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10531372053401973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920818248488202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231138637887372,0.0,0.12372858804465042,0.30378812197519445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14377311335809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15062010105438334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380761312843196,0.0,0.0,0.10514502235692384,0.0,0.0,0.08493018387163936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11835591360371372,0.0,0.3724413450974852,0.0,0.06658722706333509,0.0,0.12644458270928546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20348919845420985,0.0,0.20641026825121125,0.0,0.22453010394631584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08827009984632797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14097857561085514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07237425629844578,0.0,0.0,0.13944238379874252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22117554399038236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08790516192342193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329709693802989,0.0,0.1051149743100508,0.0,0.0,0.09764764865548567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08923763263102451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09129837010057362,0.11498802072623225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13172723210477896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13002956216558648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10472644165124807,0.0,0.0,0.10494115063954616,0.11988708163243167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10516907747191193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584871526134812,0.0,0.12124392688178692,0.15060081533447653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17881989638952062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553502288823883,0.10453065796623323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14702896226904133,0.0,0.0,0.14281391663604362,0.19174609845467788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,MOGicantbewitty,2020/03/26,"How do you survive when you know you want a divorce but you aren’t ready to tell them? Like everyone, it’s complicated. He’s in school full time for a BS. I’m supporting him through school and I feel like I owe him this one thing, after all he’s done for me. But I can’t make it for two more years, so I’ve realized I need to tell him and we need to make different plans. But we are working and schooling from home right now. With our 16 yo.

I know I’ll make it all more horrible and painful if I tell him now, but I feel like a piece of shit every time he goes to be affectionate, because I know I don’t want him to be. How the fuck does one do this ethically? 

We are in marriage counseling, supposedly. But he’s cancelled 2 of the 4 sessions we’ve had scheduled, and is now acting like everything is fine. Everything is only fine because I’ve just started shutting my mouth and not saying anything about my interior thoughts or anything that criticizes him. Which for me means no fights, but for him means we are great. 

I can’t have sex with him. I can’t make out with him. I want to vomit holding his hand. And not because he is a bad guy. I love him, always will. Because I’m lying with my actions. I can’t pull the trigger yet; how do I not make it worse?",1.1198142235123392,3.0850239320754724,2.8566981132075497,92.73509071117563,81.37735849056604,6.190130624092888,23.777213352685052,7.321109707123232,0.8493047895500729,982,36,224,14,26,325,132,265,0.13699999999999998,0.6859999999999999,0.177,0.8242,3,0,0,0,2,0,30.0,5,4,1,3,11,15,3,0,7,0,22,8,3,9,2,54,47,20,0,6,12,0,3,4,0,1,2,1,1,1,9,16,0,1,9,0,1,3,10,5,0,3,3,4,41,10,24,41,6,21,0,0,0,3,35,7,2,2,15,141,50,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09149530597306786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809749810307628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09181178345841604,0.26812172882926705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148845165287575,0.0,0.0,0.0962265027507252,0.11252698335755612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926458169962006,0.10507123644375742,0.1976494343129227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11119788915322402,0.1571105094676323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10165600065379744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12123099306459355,0.0,0.10887742283216123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102985770762732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18129297954771698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21488308370571765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09924295152506098,0.0,0.36699487584380935,0.0,0.0,0.2395567685731413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16306749642747195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14902312078805138,0.08362933139765767,0.1170049079162426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093905010583638,0.0,0.08744439259402159,0.0,0.3338553587053332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11287208505320498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778300644892078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12478100114449366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883289581330397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07305236013898543,0.0,0.0,0.08729574483347226,0.12823680836632045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10741468069361884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19457129722597785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08005199473634053,0.0,0.11205836134743137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0708104624367062
divorce,missbo30,2020/03/27,"Coronavirus will be the end of us... We were rocky before but now that I'm home working and running the house I fear I'm going to reach my limit. Before this outbreak, he would literally pick a fight once a week . Every freaking week I wonder what discussion, which one of my requests is going to set him off. Should I just call it quits during this quarantine? I'm in years frequently and now I fear the uptick.",2.4725,4.79639950617284,3.655046296296295,86.89145833333335,78.62962962962962,6.519135802469138,22.47067901234568,7.645422480735847,1.070245679012347,324,10,63,5,8,105,60,81,0.187,0.799,0.013999999999999999,-0.9481,0,1,0,0,1,0,10.0,2,0,0,3,3,4,1,2,5,0,6,0,0,1,0,10,12,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,6,3,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,4,0,1,1,0,9,0,6,7,0,13,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,1,7,39,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3510766984151601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106460584256848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18271249385023494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738089679784879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4642691961118949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344797279941649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069265777202758,0.0,0.0,0.238031984300456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196930600617684,0.13978804261700767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21941574918719645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24814253488969976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3309482095605773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22371366514804247,0.15018222129028555,0.0,0.0,0.14654312602469624,0.0,0.0,0.13284456651408366
divorce,ExpertTotal,2020/03/27,"When is time for a divorce When or how do you know when is time to stop trying and it’s time for a divorce? I’m right now in a position that I feel that every time we tried to fix the problem or communicate better we ended in a worst position.
I don’t know if it’s time to consider divorce or just keep trying I also don’t want to get to a point where we hate each other.",2.0000401606425697,2.6752557710843408,4.448373493975903,87.808624497992,75.6265060240964,7.461044176706826,23.471887550200805,7.793537801064563,0.9415477911646586,291,8,68,4,6,103,48,83,0.157,0.7909999999999999,0.052000000000000005,-0.8591,0,0,0,0,3,0,3.0,3,1,0,1,8,4,1,0,6,0,5,0,0,1,0,18,13,10,0,3,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,2,3,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,7,1,9,13,2,16,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,4,11,47,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16802507584704446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858254249226356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18609530067540847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17702693162598718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10623804591679067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10977392373521147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20744035389045187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18675562732486514,0.0,0.0,0.2309421762379289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19862208195542805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2010471150928908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17943298928012075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17566156125766946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6125848268878242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4279531646226088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12392845803214685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Grrawrboo,2020/03/27,"I tried to make it work with my ex husband So, if anyone kept up with my other posts, I filed for divorce about 6 months ago. And everything was great, I moved on and I was growing attached to someone who was great for me. Then, we decided to end things, it was mutual but it still sucked. I cried it off and decided hey, I’ll do online dating, no harm in that... right? So I went on and not even 5 minutes later, my ex writes me on there. At first I didn’t want to talk to him, but..... I hate to say it, he was familiar and then I remembered the good times. So I told him to call me, dumbest mistake I could have done. We talked for a while and go figure, he was still using meth for the past 6 months and shocker, he was fucking a friend of mine as well. And to top it all off, he FAKED a pee test with CPS can’t to his house. Funny right?  Just a fuckin catch. It should have scared me off and it should have been a fuckin huge red flag but no.... I drove to his house and I spent about a month over there. Now the first few days were great, I felt confident and I felt that we could make it. But then.... he started to be stand off with me. Then he started threatening to kill me if I said anything to CPS, I still stayed. In my mind I thought oh well, he’s coming down he’ll be ok in the next few days. Nope. It’s just got worse. I felt like I was there to clean and to watch his daughter. And it sucked. I finally had it when he went behind my back and wrote his fuck buddy about me leaving soon and stuff. And when I brought it up oh she wrote him first, it’s not what it looks like, just bullshit. Now I’m back home and I’m so happy I am not in that situation. The only thing that made me happy is that I now realize I don’t want to be with him nor do I care what happens to him. It just sucks because his daughter was so happy to see me and to be with me again and now I’m gone. But man.... it’s just drama with more drama. I feel so relived I’m back home doing me and only me. I just needed to vent lol",-0.1595016526824331,1.6444716819221985,1.7254797864225786,99.9882908721078,85.04118993135013,4.9828426137808295,17.033765573353673,6.079149491110277,-0.6585791100940757,1523,32,386,12,45,501,196,437,0.14,0.701,0.159,0.7713,0,0,1,0,1,1,66.0,3,0,0,5,35,27,9,1,11,2,32,5,1,4,1,75,75,42,1,10,16,5,4,2,1,3,0,2,3,1,29,31,0,1,10,2,1,10,10,13,2,3,31,10,60,14,53,35,4,70,0,0,4,4,42,20,7,2,39,263,89,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769709548361961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06128743776874455,0.0,0.07212909349340829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20219403395845126,0.0,0.05343107963374531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08950120895517764,0.0,0.08936577451529072,0.0,0.0,0.07550335431455264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399639728029519,0.0,0.09628022586647746,0.11305495665983907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896971421894908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07763254253618407,0.0,0.0,0.057892489363901664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07877483641814957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044318849474774505,0.0,0.2524753774172025,0.09601710506361084,0.0,0.2236670326868332,0.0,0.0,0.06771874692616871,0.16206339978181514,0.0,0.0,0.0498139373881587,0.07351728500517024,0.07010230654725526,0.28990576210868885,0.0,0.0,0.07750926292033998,0.279917538634667,0.0,0.08653696272111001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17584168447619986,0.0,0.0,0.20227437934621226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09697256103749408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928094814956344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856434516333888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07360454905478807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08293725271433125,0.1170151036814984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08850226441889547,0.0,0.20988596144246469,0.0931588688592642,0.0,0.0649919156148651,0.0,0.0,0.09321755998520548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333246801036551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08367255246660803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08394518327683745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09929120578445223,0.1497065119014517,0.0833759287946272,0.06970338919738688,0.08775368494232408,0.0,0.06984629431227042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09852310800727697,0.0,0.0,0.07426619044803726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12407929463323572,0.09342403016520764,0.2099939907144008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10033913093992426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14090069479253056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11646251839602813,0.0,0.0,0.06958489957901884,0.051109853346956995,0.0,0.0,0.08375404151175496,0.0,0.059509101224803275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07570210001491312,0.0,0.0,0.10339735882321174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15761708950099912,0.1625062345397984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06381078511277573,0.0,0.08932359574026519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,2farbelow2turnaround,2020/03/27,"falling apart, or falling into place? How do I condense this?

Married 14+ years. Husband has sex addiction. Has stepped out many times. Not counting ""virtual"" infidelity. He ran off over Christmas with someone who ""understood"" him. Wasn't home Christmas, or the next day, or the next day. Oh, and we have 4 kids- so I'm sure that wasn't traumatic to them. 

But I have ""stood by my man"", because 1. I love him with my entire self (I apparently have loved him more than I have loved myself), 2. our family. We have always felt that the family together is best, 3. I know his potential and wanted to help him be his best self (and no question that when he is away from us he is not his best self).

So I decided, yet again, to stand by him. I have been a stay at home parent for 14 years. I got a job, partially to help myself grow, partially to help take the burden off his shoulders. 

Last night he tells me he doesn't' want me... but also doesn't want anything to change. He doesn't want to move out (did I mention he is unemployed?). We rent, and it is criminal what a good deal we get- so I know he doesn't want to lose that. However, in the end he will. Landlord has made it clear that if we divorce, the house is for me and the kids. But he's had a house, food (meals that he doesn't prepare) and gets to see his kids when he wants (though he has helped VERY little at home, espec

I am 99.9% positive he has ""met"" someone (yet again) online and has met her in person too (how lovely- maybe I should let her know he has herpes?).

Anyway.... I'm kinda devastated. But I also am thankful. I FINALLY realized that I can't fight for this joke of a marriage anymore. I'm sure I'll mourn the loss of what was and could have been. But honestly, what ""could have been"" might have been a lifetime circle jerk of heartbreak and pain, and eventually, disease.

(I also want to acknowledge that I have not been a gold star spouse. I have many, many failings. He has been patient with me and I have grown a lot as a person through our trial. I wouldn't take any of it back, because it made me who I am today. I think I am better off having gone through all the hard times.)

​

Just needed to vent.",1.359455782312928,3.5128531995464884,2.8415238095238102,92.14514285714287,81.63038548752834,6.006167800453516,21.818140589569158,7.213258583274324,0.639863854875284,1675,53,363,23,45,546,216,441,0.10099999999999999,0.755,0.14400000000000002,0.9728,7,0,0,0,2,0,99.0,8,0,1,7,19,23,2,0,18,0,57,10,1,4,4,68,92,32,1,13,13,3,2,0,0,4,2,0,5,9,19,22,2,0,10,1,1,8,13,9,0,0,21,3,54,14,40,63,6,45,0,5,1,5,68,15,0,8,20,237,73,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08506504585336606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18720351103788296,0.06492784299006511,0.08454629554164109,0.09481591393628357,0.053063592389534286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773855461387477,0.0,0.0,0.06421266658725723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07331246736027516,0.060000837663344624,0.0,0.09513365372413626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24566540459161534,0.06901186585842528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08254619726051468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12460242441068844,0.0,0.0,0.10064676937466982,0.08044628693876912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06911209234388366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471209113839983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07492176617592061,0.08547888314563028,0.0,0.0,0.0943551043721489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08153570269215209,0.0,0.0,0.06544849909792334,0.062408326783255336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06990023389429813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092094936551552,0.0,0.2348136426761786,0.0,0.0,0.18007404018310186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07743348866546733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12865099456293533,0.06360548378797926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07979173854613797,0.0,0.0,0.07820732064253458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0872964606168149,0.0,0.0663389614965287,0.28170322863935865,0.1476691830792284,0.0,0.2373328287926647,0.07839238617264678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08277830495043424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08293434862386881,0.0,0.05785881959858371,0.0,0.0,0.16597319637615224,0.07322658203640313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08303022990588184,0.0,0.08664392433680991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13626689917890858,0.0815255358932224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741230905014177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06218041280997295,0.0,0.2442093007522887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13223041896073115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08317040752473306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14708613513550028,0.0,0.1173388405036178,0.0,0.06820232332888408,0.0718402397750219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04999896007627101,0.07666482522833327,0.0,0.09100072698381237,0.0,0.07396403630499779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09386139625350118,0.0,0.0,0.06438354880053429,0.322171946477274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09481591393628357,0.10049850182473152
divorce,seetheworldgirl101,2020/03/27,"Taking a break My husband of 7 years says he needs a break, space, and time to think about what he wants. He says he thinks he still wants to be married but doesn’t know right now...he said he doesn’t feel like he can be himself around me right now and he just wants to do what he wants to do and he needs this time to think.I’m very hurt by this and feel like the time apart is making me feel even more disconnected from him. Has anyone currently or who has been through a divorce had it start this way? With their spouse saying they need a “break” not a true separation? How did it turn out? How long was it? 

Note:We started therapy 2 weeks ago and he has been gone since we started- he had plans to leave for a bit before first appointment.",1.5249019607843124,3.5881135163398703,1.9618562091503304,99.16435294117649,80.5032679738562,5.38718954248366,18.04313725490196,6.42735559955562,-0.4479913725490192,580,12,137,5,15,176,96,153,0.068,0.889,0.043,-0.5855,1,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,1,0,2,2,8,4,0,0,7,0,17,0,0,3,1,30,38,9,0,7,4,2,3,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,9,9,0,0,6,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,8,7,8,3,15,28,2,25,0,1,0,0,25,6,0,1,16,72,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12260013405790285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09670693659452888,0.0,0.0,0.12312187343273905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176884208344119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15099458965269374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913499650505778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20979536698556048,0.1976120064991038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11764321442157473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14805968707906908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07600949075912733,0.0,0.0,0.1464463349934114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13513888242641722,0.0,0.0,0.12239666737996333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09232048707133196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3076569664850168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362255411764841,0.13156090306591287,0.3299600122770908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11440834834997915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2936815989289806,0.0,0.11045153941594148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10398907769714202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581652353604739,0.0,0.0,0.2658631560614752,0.0,0.0,0.2419424368316723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15043747007084204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11411713001254804,0.326306407570444,0.10978105319612837,0.11094092070759452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08906468199143451
divorce,vvdaus,2020/03/27,"Sleeping in my own room 
My wife is six months postpartum from our third child. 

Since then, she’s been frigid and distant and I feel bad for saying this, but it’s really hard to look at her body.

Her stretch marks on her stomach stretch from the area above her vagina to her breasts and beyond. And they haven’t faded as much  and are still purple.

She doesn’t wash her hair and it seems like she sprouted a bunch of crow’s feet and bulging veins in her legs, hands, and feet overnight. 

Her breasts are size D but are deflated and her stomach makes her still look nine months pregnant. The middle from the belly button to halfway to her hips looks like a burnt cinnamon roll. 

She wears baggy clothes that she never washes and when she does get into jeans I can still see all the cellulite. 

She’s also begun spending time on Instagram trying to get validation. Posting stuff with the hashtag tiger stripes or real woman’s body. I feel like it is trashy and pathetic and my friends have told me that their wives are concerned about how she doesn’t seem to be recovering from baby number 3. They kind of make fun of my wife saying how insecure she is and how nobody really wants to see those body parts of hers. 

She blames me for everything- we tried having sex once and I couldn’t keep myself hard because calling it the hotdog down a hallway sensation would be putting it kindly. But she goes and accuses me of not being able to get it up.

And she wakes me up at night to yell about this or that. Yesterday was the final straw. Our four year old girl was hugging her mom and she started giggling. My wife asked why she was giggling. And she said “ fat fat mama.” And my wife started yelling at me because I didn’t scold our daughter. SHE IS FOUR. WHAT FOUR YEAR OLD HAS A FILTER? 

So this morning I told her at least for now I just want my own room. If I could leave the house, I’d honestly go and live in a hotel for a week or two. But I really fantasied about leaving the marriage and wouldn’t even mind being a single dad. 

Love the kids. Just one person I can’t stand right now.",3.7604857748184015,5.297990753026639,3.900580357142857,90.08479305387415,72.46246973365619,6.712136803874094,25.01278753026634,7.1686216300943375,0.9266053874092002,1643,50,338,16,32,506,224,413,0.062,0.833,0.105,0.9681,0,0,0,1,2,0,33.0,4,0,3,0,18,14,0,1,17,0,29,25,20,5,2,55,54,37,0,7,11,8,6,3,1,2,4,5,2,5,15,24,2,1,4,2,1,2,9,2,0,8,8,17,60,12,41,38,8,48,0,0,6,6,60,21,0,6,26,224,75,0,0.0971318119480676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07767627492211257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090805132340646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110100577814093,0.11842130203731625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3236746388242111,0.0,0.0,0.09918243998659686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07755184815305995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08500070319548386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06415464571976269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729580948353344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09822552521068606,0.0693909858635532,0.0,0.1064031522236486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07504379696519975,0.0,0.15224208832550792,0.0,0.05520224713357155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740220497465369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11207706982136374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08633521739661806,0.0,0.2022956701959658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20569712825304612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14236109100147856,0.0,0.08576916948743232,0.0,0.2446987762932801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08766525256226178,0.0,0.12967247743243165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980754409004799,0.11375960421461602,0.15505937121081514,0.0,0.07140305791135301,0.0,0.0749140413606165,0.0,0.0,0.09115162562386847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20384699462007397,0.10344220968528343,0.06581902956706194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518428691378157,0.0,0.0,0.08481175164441296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302542613349976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09764429899428513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11055726685676996,0.1866753778083714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08295003668444588,0.0923945961237376,0.1544862308931368,0.0,0.0,0.15480295684904682,0.17685030716358205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08034843857589065,0.0,0.0972019593810162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13750079286306938,0.0,0.2327087714760098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11119268609813124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05663834066025849,0.0,0.0,0.18562721761746712,0.0,0.13189224882629752,0.0,0.0948836664689776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11458171857088145,0.0,0.07791328064416149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876463523962356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06899965236007707,0.0,0.0,0.12509940460601562
divorce,i_miss_youuuu,2020/03/27,"Stab me again, please. New trigger during drop off-  seeing the wedding ring on my Ex's hand. The wedding was recent,  while our children were with me.
Divorce final 3 months ago, separated a year ago when ex's affair was exposed. Left AP after a few months, played the field through the summer...proposed during the holiday season.

Ex didn't wear a ring during our 9 year marriage because it ""irritated the skin""  with an ""allergic reaction.""

Thank you, ex, for showing me another way your new wife is important to you. Feeling all kinds if broken, damaged and unwanted.",4.778435814455231,7.1883972427184455,5.484983818770228,76.12180151024813,71.71844660194175,7.684573894282633,31.832793959007553,8.515128840125781,2.9317149946062564,448,21,71,8,9,145,78,103,0.175,0.6829999999999999,0.142,-0.5994,0,0,0,0,1,0,23.0,2,3,0,0,2,4,0,0,10,0,5,4,3,1,1,8,8,4,0,2,1,5,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,6,9,3,8,4,2,20,0,1,1,0,16,3,0,1,15,40,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39093786057364144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312241036884571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13442093189030466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11149655008922638,0.0,0.0,0.2415580749730613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296273730932854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395849074079189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3520181727087319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4259401258732229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2420539108111457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21772715625003755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17571802843770756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20301610628314065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17503068164569052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840025950865485
divorce,JC7898,2020/03/27,"Really need help. Hello. I'm 28M and my wife 25F wants a divorce we've been married for 4 and a half years. She has depression, bipolar, and bpd, in February she lost her job and fell into a bad downward spiral stopped going to therapy started drinking and smoking heavily and eventually would up cheating on me and after i caught her she told me she wanted a divorce.





I desperately want to work things out I'm willing to do counseling or whatever it takes she just wants it to be over but wants to remain friends. Two weeks ago she kicked me out of our home but then invited me over that weekend where things seemed to be a bit nicer, then on that Wednesday she tried to commit suicide cutting her wrists after numbing them with lidocaine she stole from work and taking a few sleeping pills. Her friend found her and brought her to the hospital and they called me. She was admitted to the mental health department for 5 days and was released Monday. I have been home with her since then and her father is staying with us so he can keep an eye on her when i go to work. She finally seems committed to going to therapy and getting help and allowing me to support her in that.





Things have been almost normal since but I've pulled back a lot she doesn't need the stress of me trying to act like our relationship is normal I've just hugged her i let her initiate any further affection such as kissing. She's clearly conflicted i catch i her looking at me the way she used to then turning away quickly when i ""notice"" and she's been quite cuddly but then will bounce off and just be very rigid and attempt to avoid closeness for a bit. It's all very confusing.





We had a long talk last night and she insists she still loves me and wants to be together but also still wants to divorce. She says her reasoning for wanting the divorce is she needs to work on herself to focus on becoming a better person and improving herself because she can never feel the consequences of her actions or her bad behavior if I'm always waiting at home with open arms willing to forgive everything. Which honestly that makes sense but i just feel like it would be better if i could still support her. She has no one but me, her family lives in texas and we're in new England  and she has no friends besides the one who found her that night and they're only available lately due to the whole corona thing shutting down their job otherwise they're alway busy. I worry so much about her being alone it terrifies me because she's always at her worst emotionally when she's alone.





What can i do? I'm more worried about her general well being and put all the relationship stuff on the backburner for now just trying to focus on her but in the long run i still want to try to fix things. Thank you to anyone who takes the time to read this mess felt good to get it off my chest.",4.867040750915752,6.004548505357146,5.286785714285712,82.73385531135533,69.30357142857143,8.457875457875456,29.71611721611722,8.768130331264683,2.2730705128205133,2273,86,438,38,39,725,278,560,0.106,0.7390000000000001,0.155,0.9875,2,3,1,0,4,2,28.0,4,1,3,9,23,30,2,4,23,0,35,13,5,5,6,98,82,48,1,19,17,2,3,2,3,5,4,1,3,1,22,34,1,6,10,3,0,13,4,13,1,4,14,6,82,17,71,54,10,83,0,2,2,3,81,31,0,9,39,310,104,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05877667362703121,0.0,0.06639633896267218,0.1373469854072209,0.0,0.053025249886759065,0.16551685233156702,0.0,0.0,0.04509066465812374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0463630165934572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062297099237740135,0.050985572752477136,0.1107262443201738,0.08083960177982856,0.07323027257095048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172853461563756,0.1447789561351104,0.0,0.08351066170698268,0.0,0.06770630633280565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05294031068842298,0.0,0.0,0.04276217951361156,0.0,0.0571096544478625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0649550849483358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07458583977267592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05959196828855062,0.0,0.06250782674790957,0.0,0.06705307411789986,0.04736934629000877,0.0636645971767846,0.07263548285567531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14540321583938132,0.1536846131146593,0.0,0.06928477440365348,0.0,0.11305046302117334,0.05561471043155426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07048066340017055,0.0,0.0,0.08888764119521819,0.0,0.199532348683432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13159785508271946,0.05893622577902625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05404861244311751,0.07479657185549181,0.0,0.0,0.06780284491221515,0.0,0.06478797146296644,0.0,0.05854981652005306,0.11735825620273325,0.05568072436079878,0.0,0.07238133074304137,0.056371378791122424,0.0598441664222555,0.0,0.04426007507559046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06682131343735732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04874287537893236,0.14749619359822122,0.05113962747514384,0.0640391895693384,0.0,0.12444823676563825,0.12993249977272375,0.0,0.0754903410266026,0.0,0.0,0.08986194288016516,0.050429048602807634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057896240889359525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06665630347723386,0.0,0.07052507908165515,0.06632440069374129,0.0,0.04247761437203945,0.06817408135188595,0.0,0.14237664112094073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05272955613143186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207258167220565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10969877321665054,0.0,0.06635434295515791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0469320517011313,0.07067386104671047,0.21180968956487015,0.05543516724649642,0.07595382272480225,0.0,0.07590502984142093,0.0725285022303718,0.1504875637831277,0.0,0.0,0.14956261167775414,0.05329461867328411,0.0,0.06104607725905881,0.15165442500306792,0.0,0.2202553194214516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03866382843014832,0.0,0.0,0.06335866137903552,0.0,0.18007092794173413,0.07212238508201034,0.06477177400350811,0.0,0.07975850394261326,0.05726748983036936,0.0,0.10941954276874076,0.35198339770996856,0.05263097943345727,0.053187040441839584,0.0,0.05961746813042649,0.0,0.0,0.07402879155131876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930875622628109,0.1346748518074948,0.0,0.09420440957451323,0.0,0.0,0.04269918451013656
divorce,greenebean94,2020/03/27,"Separated to reconciliation to divorce So my stbxw had an affair with a coworker a year ago. I immediately filed for divorce and we separated. During this time after 2 months she realized she wanted to reconcile and move back into the home. I was not ready as I was working on myself and IC. 

We started church MC as there was a long wait for licensed MC. During this time I kept my IC and again worked on my issues (mostly being more open with communication and showing affection). We stopped MC in November 2019 and seemed like we were happy and communicating well. Moved back in together in January and had our first MC session in February and that's when it fell apart. I was excited to work through everything that i had learned in my IC, but I learned she had been burying all her emotions and memories of the affair. After our 2nd session she completely closed down and stopped communication with me and wanted no affection. 

She said she wasn't sure if we were healthy for each other and felt she was codependent on me for her happiness which I still dont understand.  Last week in our session she said she wanted to move in with a male coworker to have her space, but continue to come over and help with the kids. I hate ultimatums but I recommend staying with a girlfriend or leasing another apartment.  She said no and I said if she moved in with him we are done. She is moving out Saturday and once again I am heartbroken.

I had already had the divorce moving forward but paused it once we decided to reconcile. She always wanted to throw the divorce out but I refused as I knew we had a lot of work ahead of us...and I'm glad I didn't looking at where we are now.

I am nervous how this will play out and nervous about our kids. For the time being they will stay with me till she finds a place and we go back to 50/50. I know better days seem ahead and I remember coming home and liking my own space and feeling proud of who I was becoming.

I hope the sadness and emptiness I am feeling will fade as it did before, but for now I am going back through the grief process. Just needed to vent.",4.766160639192599,5.984368670731713,5.637939444911691,79.82256097560978,69.60975609756098,8.972245584524813,30.967199327165684,9.314750747691287,2.708105971404541,1665,69,322,34,29,546,201,410,0.10099999999999999,0.778,0.121,0.8272,0,0,0,0,4,0,31.0,14,0,1,9,17,17,1,2,16,0,34,0,0,3,2,94,62,39,1,8,11,0,3,2,1,3,0,4,2,3,11,49,0,5,16,2,0,13,6,5,1,1,27,8,65,12,59,30,6,73,1,2,1,0,50,27,0,8,35,242,76,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07403145557738898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09216143580513103,0.0,0.06949158991455373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875732881717609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568730709916764,0.0,0.0,0.09223631308497778,0.07106554300226889,0.0,0.0,0.07386267679038247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438824240749151,0.08756441737182824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053860591246496635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08546535692341274,0.09787954911815247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09394370152470992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750583502073872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08445589672845538,0.0,0.08018798116499595,0.0,0.07633165797352626,0.07103824534415876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09492757148595812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778076147100698,0.0,0.08245427028659848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05597868214080375,0.0,0.16754572062088854,0.08294973996584383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716848854194909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04589793707677898,0.0680762827187618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08160291379782879,0.0,0.0,0.0739085932783784,0.07013198974461125,0.0,0.0,0.07100189526363193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06666127879525523,0.5325825851275283,0.0,0.061925688261354174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17788257298303747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08725592668653596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09460678606456736,0.0,0.3177694780152644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520587570915649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05911270383749884,0.17803283111128246,0.06669558966276201,0.13964540244232998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07871237449330339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14609568661751896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08694258537054918,0.10045886875148123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19703843313303085,0.0,0.06699110001951501,0.0,0.07509046822793125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24320112735388946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053781246644062176
divorce,seneca333,2020/03/27,"on keeping an open heart Beautiful article on Medium on the necessity of keeping an open heart.  Reminded me of the days of just crying that seem so so far away.  Wanted to share it here for those who are new to the journey.  It gets better 

[https://psiloveyou.xyz/whats-getting-me-through-my-divorce-is-something-nobody-ever-talks-about-1eb88ab094d7](https://psiloveyou.xyz/whats-getting-me-through-my-divorce-is-something-nobody-ever-talks-about-1eb88ab094d7)",24.40875,31.467329041666673,11.215,36.03000000000004,29.41666666666667,8.966666666666667,28.66666666666667,9.516144504307137,2.8561916666666662,406,8,36,5,4,90,35,48,0.055,0.784,0.16,0.7096,0,0,4,0,2,0,41.0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,5,0,1,2,2,0,0,7,6,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,10,6,0,10,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,1,2,26,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231936332425314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21010081412338835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609463926783778,0.15320530695320594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4297697621432509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12411429036628707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5630149300026827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4223050678820077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294350710510924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21626395121174505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14011790871163274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,StayorGo110,2020/03/27,"Is there anything worse than being stuck in your home during a pandemic with the person you are divorcing in the near future? Maybe having bamboo shoots hammered under your fingernails? It’s a close call. Thankfully we coparent well but for fucks sake it’s brutal being stuck in a house 24/7. I told my friends, “if you don’t hear from me for a while and she tells you that I took off, check the backyard for a shallow grave.” I was only half-joking lol.

Divorce is hard enough. Being under a mandatory shelter in place order when you were suppose to be moving out to stay with friends is just brutal.",4.536106280193239,6.323398243478267,4.7846376811594205,83.51772946859906,70.91304347826087,7.1980676328502415,25.82125603864734,7.793537801064563,1.5173574879227054,478,15,86,6,9,150,85,115,0.204,0.6679999999999999,0.128,-0.8992,1,0,0,1,1,0,12.0,1,6,0,0,4,8,3,0,9,1,12,1,0,0,0,9,19,5,1,1,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,3,6,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,4,1,0,6,2,13,4,18,9,1,18,0,1,0,1,17,11,1,1,3,64,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17643708124819926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21893152002083416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215377226870536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33129760751895715,0.1982140066495959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19206480438119436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24165006505849024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21506573885877814,0.0,0.0,0.2473946321424255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153986828998668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22787862868974565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16306469606462282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18721021287286352,0.22400763532611093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285272475010288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18739945717940745,0.19739535664433874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048732059612676,0.2382118908838431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927758819604042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21849705515080045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Ramenhead,2020/03/27,"I find it therapeutic to write maybe some can relate. Down the rabbit hole 

I thought I was on the right path until I was intrigued by a separate path. I choice that path or hole you can say. As I traveled down this way it was exciting and new. I felt things I never did before. Was never happier, until I wasn’t. Things started to fall apart but I thought to myself if I just keep going I’ll feel what I did once before it was only illusions of grandeur, but I didn’t realize this until it was too late. The deeper and deeper i went the more and more I was infatuated with my surroundings. I thought to myself? “ How did I get here? How do I fix this? How do I get back to that happiness?” 

Sometimes life puts you down a path for a reason. That reason might not be apparent while you’re living it but will come later. It’s the self reflection and realizing why you are where you are. Mistakes and regret are only learning points if you let them be. If you don’t take accountability for why you did something then you don’t grow. I chose the path I did because it’s what felt right. Was it the wrong path? No it’s what i ultimately needed. It’s what will make me stronger and better in the end. 

So what now? How do i get out of this hole? 

First I have to trace my path back, I have to see where my missteps were. Correct those and rebuild my strength to crawl back up. That is the only true way to get back on the right path.",0.6601620648259328,2.9569757244897987,2.3918767507002805,93.3153781512605,85.97278911564626,5.363585434173669,19.19127651060424,6.794906146795322,0.1348018407362943,1109,31,245,14,34,364,139,294,0.055,0.843,0.102,0.9407,1,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,0,8,1,3,15,8,0,0,13,0,35,1,0,7,4,48,54,25,0,6,9,0,3,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,26,10,0,1,13,1,1,7,8,3,0,1,22,5,41,5,27,26,3,43,0,1,1,0,12,16,0,6,18,181,67,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35167983065584746,0.0,0.06970025030962065,0.0,0.19458885302394044,0.0,0.0,0.10112392694628164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984932876336006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101270790035223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05781344721088603,0.0,0.2195675516150454,0.0,0.1045041601526212,0.09725705382925023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389505149583871,0.0,0.06498172839969349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217164407097071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163013173396064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12897984813997834,0.0,0.0,0.11691980559124936,0.08076131508267663,0.0,0.0,0.10096380430335948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763224519559923,0.0,0.11486931752765565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12129605769125547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08478123252439149,0.17637122189029358,0.1104297261326168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12176775265268686,0.0,0.2608808479832548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10808771143099076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11494269973597315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23511993776498635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2929357246017891,0.0,0.09092729751652637,0.0,0.0,0.09111371565267833,0.0,0.11928095350799756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802407307150217,0.11308461187732932,0.0,0.08093003129882183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08596901552691909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15192406254065724,0.0,0.0,0.2723181873737177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18151462203109567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10599378958781401,0.2063470877500677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125012208507772,0.0,0.0
divorce,sparklefishies,2020/03/27,Joined a dating site I just joined a dating site. I am a divorced female. I've already been asked out by two gents after short conversations. I've agreed to meet one for coffee. This is scary after having been married for quite a few years.  Any suggestions besides keeping a six-foot distance because of COVID-19?,3.867471264367815,6.685381724137932,3.845517241379312,84.70954022988506,76.58620689655173,5.2459770114942526,26.90804597701149,6.42735559955562,1.2767839080459782,252,10,42,2,6,77,44,58,0.062,0.897,0.040999999999999995,-0.2732,0,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,7,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,2,0,8,5,1,9,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,5,25,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4271186627314361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632068800423374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3618389625526302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23594173571912735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34402731089424043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26227470585499235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4116747040781806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37809104566391066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492471384149429
divorce,Greendaniel33,2020/03/27,"Thinking about divorcing spouse of 33 years My husband and I have been married 33 years and know each other for 37. After counseling for the last 2 years I realize I have been going along with decisions just to keep peace in the house. I am the major breadwinner in the family.

My husband has always been a person who never listen to his doctors or anyone and always tuned out the conversations and only heard what he wanted to hear.

12 years ago the doctors told him if he didn’t change his lifestyle and eating habits he would probably develop kidney failure or worse. 5 years ago his kidneys shut down and he has been on dialysis. It’s been rough because he has a major heart attack. 2 rounds of congestive heat failure, 2 rounds of septic pneumonia, and severe back issues. His back issues are so bad he was on OxyContin and fentanyl at the same time. Doctors took him off of that and put him on a pain patch which is not strong enough.

By time by husband was 40 he became diabetic and had high blood pressure. By the time he was 50 he was on 3 blood pressure medicines, 2 cholesterol medicines and 2 for diabetes.

To this day, he won’t follow the renal diet and goes to Biscuitville for a steak egg and cheese biscuit. He is still smoking 2 packs of cigarettes a day.

He finally found a doctor to operate on his back but he has to give up the smoking for 3 months and all the other specialists have to sign off on the surgery (heart, kidney and regular GP).

As of today he is still smoking.

His constant “panic attacks “ being sick and needing medical attention cost me my job last November. By Christmas I tried to walk out. I had had enough. But he wanted counseling, so we are going.

But it has been noted to me by the counselor his lack of concern, his not facing how sick he is, his constantly throwing me under the rug and then being sweet during the week.

I feel like since I tried to walk out in December he is setting me up know. Not sure but it feels that way.

Last year I put all assets into a trust because he became so sick.

I’m afraid I will lose half of everything if I try and divorce him and still be responsible for paying his bills. I’m 63, will be 64 this dummy and still looking for a job.

Any advice? I don’t want to stay anymore, it’s really bringing me down",4.048580392156861,5.509249293333332,5.016653594771245,82.66917647058824,71.62222222222222,7.871895424836601,27.679738562091497,8.405096225971981,1.9659189542483664,1802,65,343,29,34,589,227,450,0.11,0.845,0.044000000000000004,-0.9805,2,0,1,0,1,0,39.0,1,0,0,2,13,14,2,4,23,0,39,23,8,1,4,63,63,34,0,8,12,4,5,1,0,4,12,3,1,1,13,28,3,1,9,0,3,10,7,9,0,1,18,10,35,5,58,37,9,68,0,1,3,0,47,23,0,4,33,221,48,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08124655786155646,0.14740283339259844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13836358032504065,0.0,0.0,0.05654021672218485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824556980185229,0.058135647943172275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18917475115551727,0.0,0.19179593081982305,0.06942108636192279,0.10136662741659433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08795446505846118,0.0,0.0,0.1796964910855312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10724095178211004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34040229062525923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507623470437647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17181827081428874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07472373333776491,0.0,0.07837999501572776,0.0,0.0840793847520219,0.05939750778862801,0.0,0.091079294872193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09116221060383152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0797585188884388,0.0945043758425192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09370841186076828,0.1970501484634188,0.0,0.08784533955183191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959360721683826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735597671749401,0.16501356329443911,0.07390148279247875,0.0,0.0,0.0913866398982268,0.2033183776001407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04061956033782798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06981933503259208,0.09301595651725733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08375801151546729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06636409682451039,0.0,0.0,0.06164961797872784,0.06412514968362737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06323413856758571,0.08847021059013893,0.09755061308850824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07259742192987269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08964241551676336,0.0,0.0,0.16716372992401782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05326365314519276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09392813298573184,0.0,0.06877690159208794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08861957237648893,0.2655930189243472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07836146765508067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053274795604562004,0.0,0.0,0.14544437891909232,0.0,0.07881001745288782,0.07944687603873644,0.0923751374768822,0.16934629432252574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14712001356986806,0.0659951900472241,0.0666924476761162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08473000836759689,0.05906253294237952,0.0,0.0,0.3212489100839265
divorce,rusty2fan86,2020/03/27,"Taking the Leap I have battled with a decision to remain in my marriage for years.  The last five years I have been unsure, but now I see my marriage of 11+ years must end for my health.  Throughout the whole marriage, I have been the sole source of income (M33) through the Navy, and now GI Bill, VA disability and current career.  Not bragging, but yearly income is over 80K.  I have never had access to any of it.  Money has always taken a precedence in our marriage, and I am blamed for every cent “wasted”.  There has been verbal, emotional and physical abuse, from her to me.  I am “not allowed” to speak to my own mother because of something that happened between them 9 years ago.  An event that has been resolved more times than I know, yet never goes away.

She was my first relationship, so it has always been hard to let go.  

I’ve been talking to VA psychologists and therapists, all of whom say leaving is the right thing.  I’m scared as hell.  I plan on doing this on Saturday, with a police officer present.  Her reactions and responses are completely unpredictable.

Through all this, I feel like a horrible human being.  There is a global pandemic happening right at the time I had planned on making this happen, something I’ve been preparing for since New Years, a horrible night filled with verbal and physical abuse... the worst start to a year I’ve ever had.  It was that day I made the decision and to start planning.

I guess I’m asking for help.  This is right around the corner, and I am legitimately afraid of what will happen.  Does anyone have any advice on what to say, how to start the actual process of physically leaving?  The act of leaving frightens me the most, I have a safe place to go to, and will be removing my things, but man...  this is so damn hard...",5.003860039564786,6.326846798219588,5.46785237388724,80.87054216122655,69.14836795252225,8.465331355093966,28.878461918892175,8.841846274778883,2.2619951533135505,1389,50,259,24,24,445,182,337,0.14800000000000002,0.81,0.042,-0.9916,4,0,2,0,2,0,52.0,1,0,1,5,10,9,3,2,22,0,38,1,0,4,6,37,58,17,0,1,5,1,3,1,0,3,1,3,0,2,16,14,0,1,5,0,3,5,4,6,0,2,14,7,28,3,45,38,7,51,1,0,1,0,20,16,2,2,31,184,44,1,0.0,0.2268098952653977,0.09340265261091188,0.0,0.0,0.09353020801681723,0.08484431853082493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15928274120614833,0.0,0.0,0.13017704061636584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06692516444306124,0.0,0.0,0.08520538356593957,0.08947928207123762,0.0,0.08992606428891928,0.0,0.0,0.05834611334791906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035387338420236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06172734446912645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08375960368572423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10766490100677753,0.08477382746806082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865784178035481,0.08064282388859252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048395664707314455,0.06837780461564125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08141392694285413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087924727360378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10543930528865587,0.0,0.3385568302840461,0.0,0.17148114511271184,0.0,0.0,0.10173906563228502,0.0,0.0,0.06415479881420512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052601683471956116,0.0780193469159509,0.0,0.3040406013255569,0.0,0.09787362598182936,0.0,0.046760823202164986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09056650887097524,0.0638895615587305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476404354074702,0.09244077731847083,0.0,0.08982071618873821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10000032526384467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10276057103254102,0.0,0.2452166371762892,0.0,0.1522305697254269,0.09582599646945446,0.0,0.07627133557492341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07917526701403718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473699885426804,0.0,0.0,0.2032397053856748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07196470460379807,0.07693095446992819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111308499056496,0.12717570645582055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11162272284289393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10686080009712484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43145487684469264
divorce,Eb580,2020/03/27,M 32 recently divorced I've been divorced for a month and broken up with my ex since October. We broke up due to her unwillingness to help us get out of a bad financial situation we were in and one that I'm still trying to resolve in addition to her infidelity. I've been having a super hard time moving on and trying to forget her and rebuild whatever confidence I once had in myself. Im currently working away from home and getting away has helped but the loneliness has taken hold and my dumbass has contacted a couple of my other exes. Now granted were only together for less than a year but I was genuinely in love with her and I convinced myself that she felt the same way. Now I find myself having major trust issues with everyone because of being cheated on. I think the point I'm trying to make is that I need help or suggestions on how to get past all of this and start to rebuild myself,7.484113607990012,6.45384402808989,8.497490636704125,69.36617353308367,63.7752808988764,11.731335830212235,35.508114856429465,10.980518767755715,3.95027141073658,719,28,129,17,9,247,108,178,0.113,0.742,0.145,0.802,1,0,0,0,2,0,6.0,3,0,0,3,4,8,1,0,8,0,13,1,0,2,1,29,25,12,0,1,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,15,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,8,2,21,5,31,16,4,26,0,1,0,1,17,13,0,1,11,97,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024667240112446,0.0,0.13440033641768068,0.0981237080855344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781064136775794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15381042600331046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15455312028310186,0.0,0.14712050041410454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522951188034891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441944018179663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3236774340182731,0.0,0.1614625629416822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17387148402557756,0.16800724620812602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14527858592457282,0.0,0.10744641465180373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12848195565205048,0.17108195672227827,0.0,0.1193546490062882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17142411056556262,0.10907509261596206,0.12242230627533444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15366077513843976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152165408258571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15893503803117992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13315318437327767,0.18093313397470587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11393294473467115,0.0,0.12854808590693095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031408585931266,0.0,0.0,0.09386088330028644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3278571414076705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936229270282416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12776774621551773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11718555743276253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036571735663465
divorce,Secure-Spirit,2020/03/27,"Divorcing covert narcissist I am not new to reddit, but this is the first time I post something. Please, be easy on my grammar- English is my second language...
Thank you in advance for your understanding.
 I am 57 F, getting ready to divorce my husband after 25 years of lonely marriage.
Verbal abuse started 3 years ago when he stopped taking his psychiatric medication and his drinking escalated.
I have been financially supporting our family since beginning.
 I was in love, then busy raising our son, then busy with my career, then sorry for him -that is the reason I stay so long in that marriage.
I learned a lot about myself and his behavior after I figured out who he really is. I am not psychologists, but the patterns and reactions in my husband behavior are very similar to those described as covert narcissists.
I am no longer sensitive to his abuse, I separated myself from him mentally and physically but we are still  living in the same house. 
My plans are to apply for the divorce as soon as possible- It would be the best to postpone any drama because my father is very sick.( cancer)
I recently noticed that my husband is active on several dating websites. 
I don’t know how to react to it. 
We talk about our divorce . He wants to divide our property equally and he demands alimony since I make more money than him and he is on disability.
I talked to attorney but does not retained one yet.
Is his dating ,( or preparation for dating) ok? 
Should I hire private investigators to have pictures or something?
I would appreciate any advice. 
Thank you",4.5314121188326135,7.2435703286219155,5.634880251276012,73.3319853422327,73.62897526501767,8.574218034288705,32.03625179950268,9.250403328903447,3.516478968721372,1245,61,197,31,27,411,169,283,0.08,0.785,0.135,0.9655,1,2,3,0,5,0,37.0,6,3,0,4,8,7,0,0,7,1,25,5,0,4,0,35,37,21,0,4,9,5,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,8,10,1,2,5,2,1,1,5,1,0,3,2,0,44,6,35,30,5,35,0,1,0,1,37,9,0,3,23,152,52,3,0.0,0.3148847328482168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12984986625099304,0.1177910714301346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18072739996414694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08100308098459827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13945050907678952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116285140025262,0.0,0.0,0.13017288285911355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252684684425445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11302858989254998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06942488667007715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15332694045866194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07302797361663567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173364396852002,0.11759558585274114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11297075346479865,0.11993037453005673,0.0,0.08869916147031415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13386372147931647,0.1339128878592296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283373877323462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15128600520292668,0.0,0.0,0.09004366766155537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14586353675984415,0.0,0.14980346669796005,0.12726335544502204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08512703084268322,0.13662389500229724,0.13120404852319092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501178120823975,0.0,0.21984122670422854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20459671487351636,0.0,0.148749504569103,0.09405392161812193,0.14163356483256234,0.10611901258416977,0.11109454383737867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15079188971637514,0.0,0.0,0.09991004474100168,0.21360957834468305,0.0,0.244678114742592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07748403397710453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383339042009976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21928163645174306,0.07837671152971139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887898319601728,0.0,0.0,0.17114213453307447
divorce,ljohns64,2020/03/27,"I was so prepared yesterday. (22M) I went to the courthouse today to file an uncontested divorce petition. The main area was open, but the office in which to file was closed due to covid-19 concerns. Three people gave me the runaround about ‘call this number and they’ll help’ and I eventually walked out relieved that I was not able to file.... 

I have been the emotionally abusive and controlling one in the relationship, and after a few years, my wife (22) decided she was absolutely done (two days ago). Initially I was relieved that it’s finally over and I’d never have to be so stressed and anxious about her, and I was so hopeful for the future. Today, I feel the exact opposite. She came to ‘my’ house and got some of her stuff and we later discussed child support (one daughter, 18 months old). We settled on a reasonable number politely, and discussed other bills. Since then, I’ve wanted nothing more than to talk to her and practically beg her to come home. I know that our relationship isn’t healthy, but that doesn’t stop me from missing her deeply as well as holding onto my last bits of hope. I’ve been talking with friends and family on the phone, but have been otherwise unbelievably lonely. 

Are mood swings normal in the very beginning? I feel like I’m crazy. One minute, I’m laughing and hopeful, the next I’m imagining what my life could be if I maybe tried harder, or I was just different. I had two different therapists agree that we need to break it off and “she needs to grow up,” so it seems like they are just telling me what they think I want to hear. I made it clear that she’s not really doing anything wrong, but I am the one that needs to work on myself and somehow be comfortable with her how she is, and I went to them for help for that. I want to change whether or not I ever get back together with her. I feel like I’ve already ruined our relationship and any chance of reconciliation. 

The worst part is, I just don’t know what to do. She made an embarrassing post about our breakup the day of, so maybe she does need to grow up some (as do I). 

What’s worse, is I don’t even have health insurance and the loneliness in compounded by this quarantine and ‘work from home’. I’m so lost.",4.751736111111111,5.840867738425927,5.240351851851852,83.13983333333336,69.5324074074074,8.908148148148149,28.98333333333333,9.21078282632365,2.2674716666666668,1741,63,354,34,30,557,220,432,0.113,0.7290000000000001,0.158,0.9575,2,3,0,0,1,0,56.0,6,0,4,4,18,22,0,2,19,0,35,2,0,5,4,79,70,38,0,13,14,2,3,3,1,1,2,1,2,1,21,30,0,3,10,0,1,7,8,8,1,7,21,4,55,13,52,44,8,47,0,4,0,0,43,16,0,10,25,242,76,2,0.0868394726114473,0.10289057494891904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.076977952876094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09582951742701304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05905381922818631,0.0,0.0,0.09810388617778383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07146148675662567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06677419415745672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09480621286548238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08867281077138338,0.09932122236802647,0.0,0.0,0.09186464751975726,0.07480451636236506,0.0,0.0,0.09739785264397206,0.06933425268804275,0.0,0.0,0.11200855156811733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18145753207877088,0.0,0.0,0.07599380768315661,0.08886693050242273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09768271841440962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05735665265728911,0.07855127463068687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08186452626292781,0.0,0.13172593975965816,0.12407627316993004,0.0,0.09512839756595333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06709196112497852,0.0,0.04537004027242559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06945345918416973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092306298589157,0.09787439693373004,0.0,0.11641333598786485,0.0,0.17421414297418106,0.2587535713450921,0.0,0.10020109210283512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544940619768998,0.07078576048834352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06133728765377544,0.1272761396602836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947955425719154,0.0,0.0,0.16433921735111606,0.0,0.0,0.17448384451327512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06931443854156223,0.0,0.0,0.25756147440970445,0.06697595476162134,0.0,0.09235476429461152,0.0,0.08508424539337969,0.08332481604421155,0.0,0.0911234185340858,0.0,0.2353786962589295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403868639336824,0.0,0.06020355619947022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0831682101143896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05563158980667388,0.08928544093830759,0.0,0.2796992844579057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07905539440296347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07183450911853832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07260168751735349,0.0994743224764614,0.0,0.09941041997831307,0.0,0.09854440442516166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13959655732864515,0.07590152666709761,0.0,0.0,0.1008273208536571,0.0,0.05564322762519484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16462733232527318,0.0,0.0,0.05895830161048138,0.0,0.16965909294499487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07165165946973748,0.15366051263815494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07807911487909439,0.16100212223651733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264403406285215,0.0,0.0884968414947637,0.0,0.09494533101182424,0.0,0.05592177321782467
divorce,m_engineer,2020/03/27,"Abusive Relationship Need Help Background: My mother has been in an abusive relationship with my father for quite a while and it’s only gotten worse with the quarantining and them spending time at home together. My dad is quite wealthy (like millions in assets) and has all control of the finances, and my mother has no control over any of it. She has no degree (my parents are immigrants) and thinks she just has to take this pain. Obviously, this means she has no access to money to pay for a divorce lawyer or any of that. 

If I were able to convince her to divorce my father, could she get any of his money? She raised us our entire lives and I’m now 23, so I feel like she has some leverage in court. We live in North Carolina, could she find a way out of this and survive financially? Any advice would help. Thank you in advance!",2.821560559006212,5.253019770186338,3.725679347826088,86.2737364130435,78.00621118012424,6.0125776397515525,24.96933229813665,7.1686216300943375,1.1635369565217384,657,24,125,8,16,210,100,161,0.134,0.78,0.086,-0.861,1,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,3,1,1,6,3,5,0,0,6,0,14,1,0,2,2,27,23,11,0,5,3,6,1,2,0,1,1,0,1,0,6,11,0,2,4,0,5,1,3,1,0,1,3,1,22,4,22,17,2,14,0,0,0,0,26,9,0,3,5,89,28,3,0.14016297868475874,0.3321404202431063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13696564058539182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.381262527595902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3144093977898885,0.22381746662880495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07087061344930738,0.10013245997827903,0.0,0.0,0.12810642325141192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07322937134918016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878965802072116,0.0,0.1405948958115551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13695310295970248,0.0,0.24753295616690296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526785739729129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10392907269609447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10660026127547367,0.14914329154535774,0.0,0.15563440065921513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29816116166662393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3009651691539473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105385116473016,0.0,0.0,0.12904323928284686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08981077720816644,0.0,0.0,0.08173016003189933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16859880554538373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11125484843032044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14283804973803962,0.09956775858533393,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,PDXAirman,2020/03/27,me 32m finally decided after 5 years to do it we have been together for 6 and married 5. im 33m and shes 32f at this point. she no longer says i love you for a year or will let me hug or snuggle her for the same amount. she only shows affection when i buy her something or food. we are just the 2 of us in a 4 bedroom house and i only get one room for my things. i pay all the bills including hers. i just cant do it anymore without getting any affection. i honestly dont know what to do besides divorce. i dragged her to a marriage retreat with no results. now im not oblivious to my own faults. i drink to much and focus a lot on my job. however i feel i dont have  partner that matches me anymore nor i her. im willing to pay off the car i bought her and pay for all shipping of her good to wherever she wants.,-0.060343769183546676,1.65762355801105,2.804594843462251,92.86507519950894,84.13812154696133,6.232166973603437,25.52516881522407,7.3871296695380915,1.1718137507673414,628,28,150,10,18,222,110,181,0.075,0.799,0.126,0.9169,2,0,2,0,1,0,13.0,3,1,0,0,4,5,0,0,8,0,14,4,0,3,2,26,21,10,0,1,7,0,1,0,1,2,0,1,2,1,6,8,2,0,3,2,6,1,8,1,0,1,2,2,33,4,21,16,7,13,0,0,0,2,20,6,0,4,6,104,39,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10553382947170932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30781153940088035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36376066242229615,0.152026121376391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07846821224709337,0.0,0.0,0.1700019442917006,0.0,0.0,0.18765513313719112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621596758960987,0.0,0.0,0.13016515527776132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17906724924934914,0.0,0.0,0.5028921936299922,0.0,0.15400111866215638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08528780600895522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15869124855256048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13193612295434706,0.14006411531006474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11408175810232278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051600705801888,0.2360564279112001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14670374957804874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12341250738008105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194720602532712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10310066394584637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866732375274916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09153448243897506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495966407938875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.199873232778437
divorce,dryersheet07,2020/03/27,"You Said You Loved Me You said you loved me, but you would never plan creative or fun dates for us even though I wanted desperately for you to do so. 

You said you loved me, but the only times I felt appreciated and respected were on Valentine’s Day, my birthday, our anniversary, and at Christmas.

You said you loved me, but you never cleaned the house on your days off when I had to work and couldn’t get to it. I was so embarrassed when your parents visited, I got home from work, and the house was still messy.

You said you loved me, but you would rarely cuddle with me, even though I asked you to countless times, even though my love language is physical touch.

You said you loved me, but you always opted for porn instead of having sex with me.

You said you loved me, but you disregarded the script my doctor gave you for the fertility clinic after we tried for a year to get pregnant.

You said you loved me, but you would very rarely cook dinner for us on the nights I had to work late, even though you knew I would have greatly appreciated it, and it would have helped me so much.

You said you loved me, but you offered no emotional support when one of my grandmothers died, and then my other grandmother died just 2.5 years later. They were such important figures in my life.

You said you loved me, but you never would open up to me about your past, your upbringing, your relationship with your family, your thoughts, your feelings. I hardly even knew you for the vast majority of our relationship.

You said you loved me, but quality time for you meant sitting on the couch next to me while you watched tv, and I sat on the computer. 

You said you loved me, but you would rarely go to the gym with me even though I would have loved to spend that time with you because exercise is super important to me.

You said you loved me, but I would always accompany you to your events, hobbies, your rec games, and meeting up with your friends when you invited me, but you very rarely reciprocated. In fact, most often you would completely neglect me and would hardly acknowledge me when I would accompany you to those events.

You said you loved me, but you only occasionally would hang out with me and my friends when I invited you, and when you did go with me, you would sit on your phone and complain how much of your free time was being taken from you.

You said you loved me, but you would never go on walks with me and the dog, even though I was desperate for that quality time.

You said you loved me, but you didn’t prioritize your medical appointments, even though you have a potentially life-threatening condition, and I was incredibly fearful of becoming a widow at age 40.

You said you loved me, but you neglected your hygiene and keeping up your appearance, even though I have high regard for self-care and looking nice for you.

You said you loved me, but almost every time I disagreed with something you said or tried to talk with you during conflict, you would get incredibly defensive and yell at me.

You said you loved me, but you completely disregarded the seriousness of the time when one of my former patients started stalking me. 

You said you loved me, but you were never my cheerleader when I got my dream job, had the opportunity to guest lecture at my local university, and passed 2 certification exams. All of those things were super important to me.

You said you loved me, but you never did support my goal of going to grad school.

You said you loved me, but you never took care of our dog and cat when I asked you to.

You said you loved me, but you made a huge fuss when my car battery died, and I was stuck in a parking lot with no one else to call for help, except you.

You said you loved me, but it was rare that you verbalized it before I did. It felt more out of obligation coming from you.

You said you loved me, but before we got married, there were at least 3 times that I was so upset by something you did or said that I bawled after you left my apartment. I felt so hopeless, and I wish I would have spoke up and defended myself.

You said you loved me, but the emotional manipulation was ruthless. 

You said you loved me, but the only positive memories I have of being with you were all of the fun times we had during our first year of dating and our honeymoon.

We worked hard to improve things after I finally had the courage to completely vent my frustration and sadness I experienced in our relationship. After 6 months straight of weekly counseling sessions, date nights, and spending more time together, I feel it was far too late. After 8 years together and almost 5 years of marriage, it’s over. I’m moving into an apartment next month and hopefully moving out of this state by the end of the year to start a new life. I look forward to improving my mental/emotional health and healthy future relationships, and I hope you do the same to improve your overall physical, mental, and emotional health. I wish you the best STBXH.",9.884120908130939,7.26361555227033,9.044305966209084,72.38713476768746,60.31995776135163,12.63789862724393,37.40256071805703,10.9516,3.754843315733897,3916,130,765,75,40,1236,324,947,0.084,0.679,0.237,0.9996,2,0,2,0,0,1,109.0,12,120,1,11,42,58,2,3,29,0,58,42,0,3,10,146,160,87,3,23,32,1,9,0,3,17,8,31,3,0,19,53,2,7,11,6,3,15,11,11,0,4,72,44,227,48,105,68,12,124,0,4,3,32,214,37,0,11,71,565,246,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0447284362267052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0371672599705615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041758444305232977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.013614564557671295,0.024666085718938958,0.038009081601992116,0.0,0.023438095629807768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.022805453224275057,0.0,0.02277094370401434,0.0,0.0,0.019238714596120383,0.07025014398068674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0288070916133614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06953732130423093,0.0,0.0,0.022859737368247958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.018657143823024108,0.10049072071768707,0.01978124472460625,0.0,0.0,0.13276223039599858,0.0,0.018817310510423527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.021054454101269385,0.02513189545186046,0.02258542561490589,0.0,0.06433226407983747,0.02446574324325711,0.0,0.01899724078701729,0.0,0.0,0.0345102984297045,0.0,0.035005690770891586,0.0,0.050771578720977734,0.0,0.053587484176147615,0.024623251366837337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06002047916985239,0.0,0.0,0.047479874754581326,0.0,0.0,0.029939942869272932,0.023597037346498186,0.02240276615820909,0.04436529015369834,0.0,0.05154074397988846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.022162992570824547,0.019851435014224927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0503873217481974,0.0,0.024265894776050703,0.0,0.047325374001006976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03750977489931933,0.0,0.0,0.018987519949614142,0.5845604190844631,0.0211329171908034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02249909825475414,0.04501472375378735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035653480975176816,0.04747489449578926,0.032836036247699034,0.0,0.1205771975790547,0.021570261639518855,0.0475048042085844,0.04191778574438538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04540217402178204,0.05095791092500288,0.0,0.0,0.024799201023732058,0.0,0.021320276046645967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959131875649156,0.0,0.0,0.6160961413174795,0.0,0.0,0.022603143002073226,0.0,0.0,0.023299173745019792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03438752142603788,0.0,0.0,0.031616160081998565,0.0,0.01783591599309927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05068858844288121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.017951177653746216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02967535910036715,0.0,0.17554388740714064,0.017730656278172968,0.1432541215645526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02481383281174233,0.030326562964765193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05372996783964572,0.0,0.0,0.03685568449367628,0.013173138428427492,0.0,0.017914942176461442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05136586523108569,0.0,0.0,0.06503750696026721,0.0,0.0,0.2697116733388249,0.0,0.0,0.08629396354372867
divorce,lhcrow89,2020/03/28,"Separated and 4 months pregnant So my husband and I are separated with the intention to divorce. We have a 7 year old son and I’m 4 months pregnant with our second child. Been together 10 years, married for 9. We’ve been trying to fix our marriage for the past year and a half or so without success. 

About a week ago he told me he wants a divorce and thinks it’ll be the best option for us. A little later into the conversation he confessed he has feelings for a female friend. So now even if he were to ask, I can never take him back knowing this. I knew he was hanging out with her during our marriage and I didn’t like it and I was very vocal about it. He did it anyways, insisting there was nothing but friendship there. Turns out he was running to her for comfort when things got rocky with us. Yet he’s jealous and snarky if a dude so much as looks in my general direction. 

The thing is deep down I know that the divorce is the best thing for us and that I deserve better so I feel free in a way, but I’m afraid of possibly seeing him do everything for her that he never did for me. Just thinking about it causes my heart to hurt in ways I’ve never felt. I have my flaws too, I’m not perfect, I realize there were times when I was too prideful and unforgiving to him but I’ve always done my best to be a good woman/wife to him. Just sucks and needed to vent I guess.",1.7736713286713304,3.6102818216783237,3.4293706293706308,90.06790209790212,78.68531468531471,6.078321678321679,23.937062937062937,7.010146845296331,0.8128713286713283,1075,37,231,12,26,357,153,286,0.07200000000000001,0.812,0.11599999999999999,0.9297,0,0,0,0,3,0,22.0,7,0,0,7,22,16,2,1,16,0,24,1,1,2,4,50,46,25,0,4,10,2,3,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,12,19,0,0,10,0,1,2,6,4,0,2,17,5,33,13,34,26,4,32,1,1,2,0,37,9,1,5,20,164,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10405455182523812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976735657537257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10973895193918023,0.0,0.0,0.09026167346551234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.369564349341874,0.10381732562317852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12058653541477117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12012541617466027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07753156018654712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10549789857106172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11870657431409595,0.0,0.11270782638026006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09069121332926486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09845680967873567,0.09388335618321728,0.0,0.12931260273590972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13910156550957614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12566286734336926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12902324383544586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057348289025537014,0.1176504181167724,0.0,0.0,0.09857367661587044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873908714893911,0.0,0.08629134211323727,0.08703934953391174,0.2716032069730025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11263389146444122,0.0,0.12317561226407375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120570838947533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13233373633390172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09354049602599633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0882587687007385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23395575627454665,0.15043089342656338,0.0,0.0,0.06844802692775642,0.0,0.0,0.11216621675253456,0.0,0.07969658092013357,0.127680965818121,0.0,0.0,0.42359842110135937,0.0,0.0,0.09685476211167887,0.06923660250936196,0.1863491973643469,0.09415901436009813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11315476833866905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267759078558369
divorce,sadsoutherngal,2020/03/28,"“We’re in love” Is what my husband told me last night about him and his girlfriend of 4 months. They have been texting nonstop and met maybe 3-4 times in-person. We have been together since 2012.

He says he still loves me, but doesn’t have the connection with me like he does with her. He says we NEVER had such a connection like they do. I feel like we did have that intense, passionate love. If he always felt this way, why did he marry me?  We got together young. We have different interests. We don’t dislike each other, or really even fight, but we would certainly not be together anymore under different circumstances. However, we have a young child together. My plan (which I thought was OUR plan) was to live together until our kiddo is much older... maybe 12-13. 

I don’t know how to feel. I am conflicted, because our relationship is NOT horrible, yelling matches, etc. I’d certainly say, if you’re one of the people who says you should try to make it work for the kids, this is a relationship you’d say to stay in. It seems selfish to disrupt a little person’s life because he likes to stay in and I like to go do things.

This is hard for me to handle emotionally, yet I don’t really have many tears to cry. Thanks for letting me get that off my chest.",3.1304991394148014,4.963534775100406,4.293723465289734,85.39759036144581,74.7429718875502,8.276993689041882,25.913367756741252,8.976282227363876,2.0006066551921977,985,35,201,22,21,322,141,249,0.07200000000000001,0.746,0.18100000000000002,0.9834,3,0,0,0,2,0,38.0,11,2,2,3,6,15,1,0,7,0,31,6,1,2,3,35,47,10,0,4,7,1,4,5,1,2,1,6,0,3,12,14,0,1,6,0,0,1,7,2,0,1,12,10,33,13,23,30,3,21,0,0,0,4,44,6,0,4,16,125,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09213784239790876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10981632725884706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350023224229538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12163383357101268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23138261280862685,0.0,0.0,0.09690226455505856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12455852536980325,0.0,0.0,0.12349538077364836,0.07313740025979923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119787892593715,0.07910691814422093,0.10632002491051827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05785286695572017,0.0,0.06293151179548452,0.0,0.08856244582701793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09919406586655406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060855376858829385,0.090261308107776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11323090822444445,0.07821324205910596,0.2704901564332976,0.11098249151488312,0.09777832935363766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2998196900749519,0.0,0.07391442800637305,0.11226480437416456,0.22249022883685005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838517592175495,0.0,0.0814007149076587,0.0,0.08540329646591384,0.0,0.0,0.10391442198441776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07503482649074747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07676758288411736,0.19337371306974027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14187542899655606,0.0,0.0,0.23776932081452398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4402924050431846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10080619693225848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09159860282050583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360510236527115,0.08843066817926068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019470905760996,0.0,0.0,0.07356537883224724,0.0,0.0,0.08790878935190506,0.06456868313192378,0.0,0.0,0.10580911141887424,0.0,0.07517971680266368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08789385769443997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999183501770978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08061416917744695,0.0,0.0,0.07866079121517787,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,beautifullyunspoken,2020/03/28,"What was dating like after your divorce? Did you find that people were more open minded dating at an older age? If you are a mother, did you find yourself feeling like damaged goods? What were your emotions like dating after a divorce? Did you find yourself understanding more of what you needed in a partner? Did you refuse to settle? Have you found love with someone afterwards? 

This is the shit running through my mind. I’m in the midst of a divorce. I’m not in a rush to date- I want to find myself. But I do think about these things and I’m just curious to hear from others.",2.0062423417290667,4.626958106194691,2.83716814159292,90.20345813478558,82.98230088495575,4.538869979577943,21.966643975493533,5.8734145424116955,0.3250795098706605,458,15,86,3,13,144,71,113,0.043,0.7759999999999999,0.182,0.9399,0,0,0,0,3,0,13.0,0,9,0,0,2,7,1,0,8,0,11,2,1,0,0,20,22,3,0,3,4,1,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,1,8,3,0,1,8,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,8,2,13,5,16,14,2,16,0,1,0,1,17,5,1,1,12,63,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20301796582055992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912571256884762,0.1289363819641585,0.0,0.0,0.6598291392816769,0.0,0.0,0.19788920519933126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15137974467976606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20341633908161968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645231765736014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16289205793355216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3644707551529233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13382512141648414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12512349894817448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18526218673499087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15292181896505175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11990422591308578,0.11564558263246524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18788813447452427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10645296393983518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,davgespn26,2020/03/28,"I just wanted to thank you all I'm extremely grateful for this subreddit. I've been so lost for so long. But here I've found companionship and a lot of  understanding.

There's a grim, but reassuring feeling when you know you're not the only one going through this. That you're not alone in this fight, that there's people who actually understand the pain you're going through and most importantly that eventually, we'll all get over this.

I'm very young, I see most here are in their 30's and 40's. I'm in my early twenties. But this divorce business completely messed me up, and 1.3 years after the separation. I'm still struggling. But I'm better than before. I am.

Being here helped me a lot. Even met a nice girl who was going through something similar, we started talking and all and she became the first person I actually have liked since separating which was a huge milestone for me and my moving on process.

So yeah, thank you all. I read and try to upvote almost all posts I find here and I think I comment a lot.",3.4677606290040783,5.3741222524752486,4.582731508444962,83.3704513686663,74.0,7.525218404193361,26.238788584740828,8.313332769828598,1.7085610949330228,813,29,161,14,17,266,117,202,0.09300000000000001,0.7390000000000001,0.16899999999999998,0.9319,0,1,1,0,2,0,23.0,2,3,1,3,13,12,1,1,10,1,8,1,0,0,5,36,30,17,0,1,7,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,11,10,0,0,7,1,0,4,2,6,0,2,6,2,20,6,17,22,10,21,0,2,1,0,19,7,0,6,10,105,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.2881302639634689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14782965594133876,0.1528996772604011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12562186228442318,0.0,0.0,0.1305663282052745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15478676043815448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09750791664896843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07464592951601566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13493072198978154,0.12557360848232824,0.0,0.16186816702638024,0.0,0.0,0.07713033973020397,0.0,0.2517038034555588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895296653866467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0811333325126942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07212433456528447,0.0,0.0,0.13064749433006476,0.0,0.0,0.16115507854033367,0.3765280584061495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15690683402371344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10003759473593432,0.11227891508586384,0.15708823568240407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10234773244082274,0.12890441709116834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14138828756505548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14766948732796015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11764162707238585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221206783021681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136524298618668,0.0,0.0,0.10449294590624728,0.0,0.1178971386924658,0.0,0.0,0.15433444554550454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118659029474889,0.0,0.2718348854399502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09459504608429346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10023076474754784,0.0,0.0,0.3073751082355661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12180982877576532,0.08707572568250786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950685813966028
divorce,iwantadivorcen0w,2020/03/28,"Does therapy help? Looking for recommendations for digital/remote help I signed up for BetterHelp to get therapy while going through a divorce. It’s expensive so I want things to move along quickly, but my therapist only responded to me once a week. Should I keep trying for a more responsive therapist or am I expecting too much? The therapist told me to journal about things that are happening and how they make me feel. She also wanted me to have a clearly defined answer for “why now?” What have you tried for remote therapy or even just on your own?",5.44735294117647,7.4732705490196105,6.272696078431372,72.7996323529412,69.0,10.590196078431372,33.338235294117645,10.686352973137794,4.210623529411765,444,21,74,14,8,146,75,102,0.0,0.868,0.132,0.9056,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,2,1,0,9,0,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,2,1,17,15,8,0,4,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,13,0,16,13,3,8,0,0,1,0,9,2,0,2,4,60,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123587347520324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13524092724355988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10207367054563103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07814118359661196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08074192493555575,0.0,0.08782989796099727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366611637277204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20717276818337935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13736421483055805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12977653186844804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10315812356046132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16425390914824733,0.11360630438255065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16458240729829351,0.0,0.11753631275862762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5301974483630659,0.538306242815945,0.2053419513358009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14767170204753166,0.0,0.20984802898024146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18230599609333525,0.0,0.12396443703143326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394503047853901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Stoneyriverrafter,2020/03/28,"AITA and do not care Divorce not yet finalized but recently came to agreement with terms of divorce via mediator and lawyers.  Reasonable child support until 18.  Large portion of savings dedicated to kids college, remainder split.  No pension, no 401K and 1 year alimony to get her going.  House to be sold and equity split.  Her “just for fun job” ain’t gonna cut it.  So why is she so agreeable..even against her lawyers advice?

First, the circumstances.  Happily married, then found out she was was talking to someone.  Tried to work it out but she kept it up.  I knew and kept detailed records of her texts, pictures exchanges etc.  I accused and confronted, but never presented my evidence.  She kept lying. Kept feeding the fire.  Finally had enough and served her.  She kept seeing him......

HER Dday was 6 weeks ago where I showed her the pictures, the texts, the emails and even so crass enough the freakin hotel bill.  Basically everyone in the world was gonna find out every last bit of what she did, including her co-workers, her devout Christian parents, her sisters, neighbors and eventually OUR kids.  She never begged us to reconcile but sure as shit begged me not to do this!

Yes this is blackmail.   As presented to her:  My terms= silence.  Her terms=my story.  Period.",3.422307692307694,6.348380290043291,3.9148268398268407,82.81971278721281,79.43290043290042,7.19020979020979,30.0967365967366,8.263242389622931,2.6718496836496843,1001,49,173,21,26,314,148,231,0.107,0.782,0.111,0.6079,3,0,0,0,2,0,46.0,2,0,0,2,7,9,3,0,7,1,12,2,1,1,3,36,28,20,0,0,8,2,1,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,6,14,1,5,5,2,3,2,8,3,0,1,15,2,28,6,24,10,7,27,1,0,1,0,32,7,1,0,18,109,34,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15065177660741902,0.13666116640536366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683121874327693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176327813230745,0.15718516768175853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3185947618346446,0.1719387472986241,0.20365381931809476,0.0,0.12989369902044076,0.14731470890791218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3377683423346448,0.1409073120467381,0.1311357367271358,0.0,0.16903791801652845,0.0,0.0,0.08054673308172051,0.0,0.08761757108597107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17788987119346164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15298855193957012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256679897528419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378086648671731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17118599132111342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15851100277097244,0.15222289848106454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12285241797512965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15825185765604358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13062655879139473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17494870606836824,0.14530208578089968,0.0,0.0,0.12391488496331834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10467036295881887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18544584963602806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236647556912482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391131866954923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22447316128033196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09927952705764304
divorce,lost_sheep_ny,2020/03/28,"This is painful, how do you break the news I posted about my relationship in a prior post. I did alot of thinking about my situation. I think my marriage ran its course. We are married since 1993. 4 amazing, beautiful kids, including a 2yo girl. We have a profitable computer business together.

I love my wife and would never cheat on her or risk her health.I knew her since 5th grade. 

There is nothing wrong with her, but I just feel I need to live my life. If she does decide to get someone, he will be the luckiest person on the planet. Delicious cooked dinner every night and tons of affection. Random kisses, love notes and texts,  PDAs, etc. Maybe it became overwhelming for me.

I was only with one woman my entire life. It is like buying the best car or house, in the best neighborhood, but your needs eventually change.

 With this corona stuff going on I see how temporary life is. People die and never get a second chance. I never touched any other woman or really experienced life.

How do you have a conversation with your spouse about this? Just the other day she was talking about forever marriage and taking our last breath together when we are very old.",3.705330261136712,6.26431139170507,4.3727188940092185,82.11717357910906,75.63594470046083,7.4513056835637475,23.69738863287251,8.418075326091056,1.7197840245775733,920,29,164,18,21,293,142,217,0.044000000000000004,0.741,0.215,0.9928,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,4,4,0,2,11,13,1,2,12,0,16,11,1,4,3,38,30,15,1,4,8,2,2,1,0,2,5,0,0,5,9,12,2,0,5,1,2,3,3,5,0,2,5,4,30,8,18,22,5,20,0,1,1,3,29,5,0,6,10,112,39,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08833655847258967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726443926385926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374171376763316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08377485228173409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13481585017367584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11367649922892333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14487300809481835,0.0,0.0,0.10944648140870106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06568142039480443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13573493697139025,0.0,0.07382525047213592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13807778818169114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149887335776831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588596219735692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3670092785322597,0.0634626532215876,0.0,0.11470421493667728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344799193573445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13050216340632906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19263863490830516,0.30056101813819264,0.0,0.0,0.12190249386663098,0.0,0.12464270018278605,0.0,0.1363083589641312,0.0,0.08802370548184035,0.09879491984415446,0.13822292138140455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09005641010148219,0.11342380307416072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24881687761606405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08321736426379651,0.0,0.0,0.1394641504940087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351360367228517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21490949774407764,0.1460132145197482,0.0,0.0,0.11006397805327872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14870459678935574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976687487454963,0.10440882241150866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664695457451653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10718123042896274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09227734163878087,0.14202542518405345,0.0,0.0
divorce,begone_useless_eater,2020/03/28,"lost my 20 year marriage, trying to recover I’m 42 and have been married 20 years to a woman I thought was my soul mate. We have three newly adult children and one teenager. So about two weeks ago I started to get this feeling in my gut that my wife had been speaking to someone else. I asked her but she denied it, so I didn’t bring it up again. Then on day last week I asked her and she finally confessed that she had been speaking to her ex-boyfriend that she had when she was a teenager. She said he messaged her on facebook about a month ago and all the feeling she had came flooding back. I was floored and destroyed.

Over the last year we had gone through so many changes financially and it has been a hard year. I know it hasn’t been easy but I just didn’t ever think this would happen. Anyways, she said she just didn’t want to be married anymore. I asked her if she wanted to be with him and she said she didn’t know. She said she hasn’t seen him yet, but I don’t know if that is true. She told me she wanted to get a divorce, but she wanted me to stay there with her and the kids in our rented home. She said we would still do everything that we normally would like going places and even being intimate. She said because I am still her friend and she still loves me. She is just not in love with me anymore. I told her that was pretty messed up and I just didn’t think I could live with her and do all that while knowing she was talking to someone else. So I slept there next to her with a broken heart unable to sleep or eat. I have lost 15 lbs in since this happened last week. And of course she cried and said sorry but she wouldn’t change her mind about us. Finally, I realized there was no point in fighting for someone who already given up. 

This morning I packed mine and my child’s stuff in my car and we left. Unfortunately the only place I had to go was my mothers house. As I left she said she just had a lot to think about and needed time to figure everything out. She said she wasn’t going to talk to him right now. She said she didn’t want to talk to anyone she just wanted time. I know she probably messaged him the second I left, but that doesn’t matter anymore. I told her I would not contact her, I would give her space and let her contact me if she ever wants to. Now I am sitting thinking of how hurt I am but realizing that this might be a blessing in disguise. I can finally focus on myself and my daughter. I spent the last 20years doing everything for our family that I lost myself. Even through everything I still love her and I hope the best for her even if it isn’t with me. I just pray that my heart mends soon. I just wish it didn’t take so long.",2.1251881720430106,3.8035998745519706,2.985327060931901,94.36465725806455,77.13620071684588,5.7969534050179234,22.73611111111111,6.42735559955562,0.29862831541218604,2102,62,472,16,48,664,222,558,0.096,0.813,0.091,-0.3724,1,0,0,0,3,1,43.0,8,0,0,4,38,16,2,0,15,0,58,9,5,1,5,99,120,42,0,22,22,3,3,1,2,7,0,12,2,5,24,33,1,0,16,0,2,7,17,7,0,4,50,16,114,9,53,57,4,71,4,4,1,3,107,24,0,8,39,343,138,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09665319179440224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06016156822426065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16220054007847418,0.038119999469599215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15289989408980864,0.0,0.0,0.04192069776917665,0.0,0.03323344557140568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057212896682158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062353653196281535,0.0,0.0,0.11534486257570625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04352789709649515,0.0,0.059885064420734324,0.03515936580813035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05578515311253559,0.09108498051977572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10802515544080232,0.09862864792981987,0.0,0.0,0.1959877476887473,0.0,0.051394376327367285,0.0,0.05513151079496528,0.0,0.0,0.17916421997807436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04212019119885545,0.0,0.056966430521073814,0.05229828522243872,0.09295088859712453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09641953290855973,0.0,0.04883709450056181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292073249489286,0.0,0.0,0.054685635123619236,0.05414831481891864,0.0,0.06290603355361214,0.058362258093101936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14980733799742565,0.17775660248604014,0.0,0.0,0.17770071672845544,0.055747977633873534,0.0,0.02663456370258293,0.0,0.04814007238270439,0.048246393277531184,0.0,0.0,0.17853732299569572,0.04634894550673856,0.1476128880231396,0.0,0.0,0.055272327153965316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05783459762915681,0.055047272255639185,0.0,0.04351545781726991,0.0,0.0,0.04042413713092717,0.0,0.0,0.05798012556180902,0.0,0.05341570918315642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03694256183723458,0.041463119685415495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11391865459697754,0.0,0.05153678873207458,0.0,0.0,0.05546403639114702,0.058779233617433875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046557764217622866,0.5185875731044837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04509755279194379,0.0,0.05455700910137025,0.0,0.13857785103550724,0.0,0.0,0.0610280313264971,0.038587864151333084,0.05810854736305759,0.17415142169606504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062409651267238984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04099047830746228,0.13145763486697604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397308021525145,0.0,0.04328091419082097,0.06357934524294619,0.0,0.0,0.1562818156986052,0.0,0.03701389696997112,0.0,0.05325580973967884,0.0,0.06557800487075098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225091404119379,0.0,0.13119228012345935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06269259215578728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19363882609836086,0.0,0.0,0.14043028348663808
divorce,Annoyedstepmom,2020/03/28,"Last night I told my husband I want to leave My husband and I have been together for six years now, married for a little over four years. It’s been good, but rocky. We have an age gap (I am 25, he is 38), which probably has to do with all of this. 

My husband has been married twice prior, has a child from each marriage. My two stepdaughters, I love them very much and we are very close. I have raised these two girls like my own, my husband received sole custody of the oldest 4 years ago and has 50/50 of the youngest. 

We starting dating when I just turned 19 and he was 32, quickly I was starting to be the “babysitter” for his kids. That should’ve been a big red flag. Things got more serious quickly and we moved in together 6 months later, again bad idea. He became less and less involved in his children’s lives and everything started to fall on me, especially after receiving sole custody of the oldest. We had agreed that it was best for him to work and for me to stay home with the kids, which seems like the best option at that moment.

We had to get married, immigration reasons. He did not propose, he did not buy me a ring, we did not have a wedding. He just said “fine let’s do it” .. while I do not need an expensive ring or a wedding, a little bit more excitement would’ve been nice. That should’ve been a red flag.

Things became rocky when I wanted a baby. We had agreed on having one child together eventually. After we got married, he suddenly said he changed his mind and did not want another child and that he was not going to change his mind, end of story. I was heartbroken and probably should’ve left right then and there. But I didn’t, and this was three years ago.

I’m 25 now and I feel like I have grown up a lot and matured a lot. I have been craving more independence. I have been talking about getting a job, but he has shut me down, because “the girls”.. in the mean time he is gone all the time, 6 days a week at work, and gone with his friends most weekends, leaving me with the kids. 

I started volunteering, and was offered a job there where I could make my own schedule, I accepted it. He didn’t like it, and has complained about it since day one, this was 6 months ago. This job has brought me lot of opportunities. I was offered to work with some very skilled people that can train me to achieve something bigger. My husband shut it down because it would require someone else to pick up the kids from school (they’re old enough to stay home alone, but he refuses to let him be without me). 

Over the years I’ve became very resentful, I have missed out on so many opportunities in life while I have supported him through everything. I’ve thought about leaving many times, but without a job, education or family around, I didn’t know what to do.

What recently has became the last straw for me is that suddenly I don’t do anything right anymore. I am 100% responsible for the kids, cleaning the house, errands, car maintenance, cooking, our animals (we have a lot), you name it and then I work my side job. All he does is work, which I understand is a lot to deal with but he claims I don’t do anything, every day when he comes home he’ll find a small spot that I forgot to clean and complains, claiming I should have a perfect house  because I’m home all day. He has told me he can’t stand being around me anymore.

I’m not a perfect wife, but I have tried everything to improve myself and he will find something that I do wrong. The other night, really did it for me. I was home all day with the kids (since he doesn’t want me leaving anywhere without them and this whole quarantine too.) I told him I was going to walk my dog to the local park to get out for a little bit, (it was 8PM) he got mad at me and that he wasn’t okay with it. I ignored him and left regardless. 

I’m done. I can’t do this any longer. I have given up everything I’ve ever wanted, and the number one thing on my mind is a child of my own. Last night I told him that I think it is better that we split up. No clue what I am going to do from here, but at this point, it’ll be better than being here. I am only 25, enough time to start my life over and find someone that does want the same things in life as me, and find somebody that won’t see me as just a nanny or a maid.",4.452884012539187,4.76678786206897,4.996792058516199,87.41195924764892,69.80459770114942,8.120376175548591,28.34691745036573,7.9396628663295825,1.5296735632183904,3320,109,727,39,55,1063,318,870,0.051,0.833,0.11599999999999999,0.995,5,2,2,0,0,0,110.0,12,1,2,16,24,30,2,0,46,1,96,5,0,4,8,130,147,48,0,11,24,6,1,4,1,6,3,4,8,13,47,53,1,4,14,2,2,14,21,9,0,9,48,8,98,21,87,85,30,120,0,1,3,1,90,43,0,12,64,479,145,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13221694804429365,0.0,0.0,0.051493214663294984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033810181820406286,0.052134023310176435,0.0,0.0,0.09861448376942283,0.0,0.0,0.08182792889523582,0.08851974193918494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0415127441693336,0.09092353112961322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10435267851515176,0.0879436776654814,0.10855911900635076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10519084035899434,0.0428279547750564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0396960555710482,0.0,0.0,0.1603211080779199,0.05125743406533489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701772344526564,0.05087913224542515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04153330036120671,0.0,0.044035699486420006,0.10274468887947392,0.0,0.0,0.04497309254844207,0.041889852853845486,0.0,0.1787345827033653,0.0,0.04687003404294505,0.0,0.025139090815496846,0.035518798024425195,0.0,0.0,0.1817666788206528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03841227263486549,0.0,0.07792735495476827,0.0,0.08476824945046256,0.041701391758955236,0.11929291519652313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24935778611046744,0.0,0.0,0.11473659745898812,0.0,0.056125963594797865,0.0,0.0,0.24668894555320145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02732390402832229,0.12158126927365523,0.0,0.2105782087313356,0.10803826200057573,0.1016807595010596,0.10535261944353,0.0971594946114213,0.14949253969841045,0.043902212511249185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113438092835324,0.04487275055641871,0.0,0.033187383620013694,0.10081320332939454,0.0,0.05415785683061732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506040762996397,0.0,0.07936942268929595,0.05284273604293334,0.036548706733561004,0.036865525352709184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399719058538141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05217104310950158,0.0,0.10107131877127798,0.03781304434561819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03446844265015121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04699990961949162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10720957729378372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0318508470900752,0.05111874272474621,0.0490908709694548,0.0,0.0,0.08491839573822788,0.09458706941332196,0.0,0.0,0.05031762290720492,0.039619086611025374,0.04526171708420789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08225506312784528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08425239049839718,0.07655122721959932,0.0,0.0,0.17595451444893212,0.10598628829521624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056419792564544234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03996172513878252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13212264583834255,0.031857510109763496,0.0,0.039470815028712636,0.11596467508365207,0.0,0.0,0.19003205008084104,0.0,0.0337554949591014,0.05407928606580879,0.09713520403804134,0.05175855408632276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16409137739557933,0.175951020232512,0.0,0.039881060114378135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0555087604334993,0.0,0.14378014093535446,0.0,0.18097774885506385,0.0,0.0,0.07063697641512763,0.05435920904801109,0.0,0.16008493141725014
divorce,ElkorDan82,2020/03/28,"Divorce is now finalized. I'm homeless now. But, 11 soon to be 12 year old daughter wants to live with me. I'm 32/M. We've been married since we were teens. The relation was doomed from the start. She cheated on me. 

We finalized our divorce monday. I'll be giving her $750/m for child support and I'm giving her the house. I didn't do it for her. I did it for the kids. She wants to remain friends but,I don't want too. I'm actually happier without her around. All I care for is my kids.  'm staying at a friends till I can find a new apartment. 

Did I do the right thing? The house was my house. She didn't ask but, I couldn't allow them to be homeless. The kids have a life too. My Son's HS is nearby, my daughters middle school is nearby. After she left she took the kids and went to her sisters home. Why?

Regardless, we have joint custody. My daughter wants to live with me. Any advice?",-0.9114209726443754,1.2165050159574449,1.213677811550152,98.32000000000002,97.24468085106385,3.9623100303951366,18.9483282674772,5.773587663045528,-0.27886079027355626,685,23,157,6,28,226,102,188,0.045,0.8740000000000001,0.081,0.652,0,0,0,0,2,0,33.0,4,0,1,0,6,6,1,0,11,0,22,1,0,1,1,20,38,5,0,6,3,5,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,5,3,8,0,0,1,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,10,0,29,4,19,24,1,22,1,1,0,0,32,7,0,0,12,94,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.13503785158910564,0.0,0.0,0.1352222661371998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09410240180377984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12318656503793955,0.12936559803039135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141086517900622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031746568705708,0.12647581382271694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21382240018010126,0.0,0.0,0.2654913131512384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13880532619499664,0.0,0.0,0.479012037839782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15034908707329225,0.0,0.09774111418681347,0.0,0.0,0.24438221975576804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336472104310974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452053847947524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181748302735847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14004684132656858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144684616303959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09794530242880206,0.14749350269432887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15703074351378488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09193279684282994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15374405701770474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32647785789607986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12827863291465685,0.12486543987829375,0.0,0.0,0.1333923280426006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08911147901526184
divorce,burgundian_bananas,2020/03/28,"I just can't take it anymore We were so young when we first met and got together (I was 19 and he was 22)..we got engaged in 2014, and 3 years later we were married and I moved to another country for him, where I knew no one or nothing. From the beginning I showed him who I was and what i do. I do archery, play violin and I had a great social circle. He was confident and ambitious, we shared the same positive spirit and outlook on life. 

During the engagement he slowly started getting annoyed me hanging out with my uni male friends. It came to a point where I actually broke up my friendship with all of them online for his sake..being convinced that's what you would do for someone you love. His attitude towards the other gender made me not want to invite him to my archery place, which were like a second family to me. A part of me said perhaps I'm wrong and they've been wanting to meet him for ages, once I did bring him..all he did was being grumpy becasue I ""laughed and joked"" with my archery senior male friends. This changed their view on me and question my entire principle system and I was really embarrassed. Becasue he doesnt listen to music I had to give up me playing or bringing a musical instrument to our shared flat once we moved in. What I wear, post on social media and who I text, he felt completely entitled to have an opinion about. He was convinced that what he was asking of me was reasonable from a spouse and that couples always make sacrifices and compromise for each other. 

2016 was when I moved to the county he lives in and at the same time I also started in a new uni and it was three very tough years which he helped me and supported me through (I wouldn't have been able to make it without him)..at the same time it was the most loneliest too. I was away from my family and friends and becasue he didnt agree with me going out with 'mixed gender' groups I almost never got the opportunity to form friends and socialise, because it was a small university and everyone were friends with everyone. Hes been overly protective and jealous and it has broken me. 

It's all piling up and I have brought up my traumatizing past caused by him so many times and he feels very apologetic and sorry for me..he wants to fix it but I can tell he still believe in some of the stuff he's asked of me. He loves me deeply and always tells me how much. He takes care of me, spoiles me, buys me whatever I want. He cooks and cleans and hes the kindest man on the planet. Hes never layed a hand on me and he is always supportive of my hobbies/career. But how can he fix something that is so broken? I feel like i havent lived my life properly since I met him. None of my friends back where I'm from have met him properly becasue im embarrassed due to his strict demeanour and attitude. No one knows about how scared I am. We have had our wonderful moments but I can't let go of this dark part of our marriage. It's not NORMAL. Nobody knows about this and it has haunted. I've reached a point today where I told him I want to separate (which isnt the first time I have..).",3.445971776350987,4.872724398073842,4.434956861958266,86.38345722980203,73.07704654895664,7.888295880149813,27.264880952380953,8.472884824447931,1.812323729266988,2432,89,503,42,48,790,279,623,0.081,0.8009999999999999,0.11800000000000001,0.9656,1,0,1,0,0,1,60.0,9,2,2,4,20,33,2,3,24,0,55,7,2,8,4,93,101,47,0,8,9,1,4,2,6,2,2,2,1,3,30,49,1,1,9,5,1,10,15,8,0,6,40,7,87,25,68,57,13,66,2,1,1,2,80,28,0,8,28,341,117,2,0.07673717285994351,0.0,0.07488441124104066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07684119395757963,0.0,0.0,0.06136668941171989,0.19155442531866573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08046561658100898,0.0,0.0,0.07610265558361004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14347779573431152,0.0,0.0720970999351787,0.05900614922629927,0.0,0.04677826832673385,0.0,0.0,0.08645651585702073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08776688273566788,0.07823866199518968,0.07883021475427307,0.0811777538998104,0.0,0.08045746575784074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08490822220517284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14665131433394735,0.0,0.0,0.14468195427772712,0.0,0.07760124058409593,0.05482105162395578,0.07367971994122728,0.0,0.0,0.13054520006693007,0.0,0.0,0.3557216963808285,0.0,0.040092005609310616,0.07361328857421331,0.08722300749029684,0.0,0.18412118163074034,0.08460300398410599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05143530941783885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08288931485371505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08434548670676256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07846895835181952,0.10840346915758173,0.07497981303009449,0.0,0.13552065905101912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13851658905071465,0.07261056838729599,0.10244531751585016,0.07779944890444428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446784115753533,0.05641065154433229,0.0,0.11836887681247367,0.07411323972772396,0.0,0.0,0.07518613655823783,0.07363138697211268,0.0,0.0,0.1634451693308917,0.10399818860708177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661977604488275,0.07325431448691365,0.0,0.0,0.08017401296396078,0.0,0.1450828639977945,0.0,0.07349299948602776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08596319573016678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04915979790169129,0.07889859425811402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07299462402557368,0.0,0.07682729694084522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06347778236980928,0.0,0.0,0.1564477679813264,0.06501915754269193,0.059076024706648814,0.0,0.08590098245183099,0.10862993182865832,0.0,0.06128240537139808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08784570371688087,0.0,0.17416086876964698,0.0,0.0,0.11539360786336485,0.0,0.13414334281479484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17898425039452134,0.0,0.07273786722911621,0.07332565716697369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266324083526563,0.2263078637219342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07397189626458618,0.08321819057797207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05451188590265543,0.0839000521191383,0.0,0.09883244678952803
divorce,Puncubine4GGCTroll,2020/03/28,"Please help me avoid insanity! My husband is a narcissistic entitled parasite. Originally I tried MANY things to help (including seeing a psychiatrist) and read multiple books about autistic people, dyspraxic people, the lost child in the narcissistic family, you name it, I know about it.

I came up with the most flexible plan possible: he gets to pick TWO household chores that wants to do and once it becomes easy he can pick one more at a time?

Easy right? He picked moping the floor and cleaning the cat toilet.

I make 90% of the money and I have bought the highest quality cat sand I can find (needs minimum scooping/no odor/organic) and the easiest moping equipment to use.

It's the third time this week that I wake up, he has been playing video games all day and done NOTHING.

I confront him politely but firmly and I hear the following:

1. ""I have no time for myself"" (while me, his wife, working 16 hours straight have TONS of time for myself).

2. You expect too much for me (expecting things he has AGREED to do and CHOSE himself).

3. ""I was too worried that I will catch Coronavirus and did too much research about it and forgot my jobs"".

He is 32 and I am trapped in the same house as him.

Please if ANYONE has been in a similar situation, offer some advice that doesn't include leaving (incapable bc of lockdown to physically leave), seeing a couple's therapist (I am NOT spending more on that when the shrink told me my marriage isn't viable) or ending up as ""wife tosses husband and his laptop off the balcony"" headlines.

Thanks for even reading this hot mess.",6.172148227712135,7.08646443537415,6.378750447547443,76.89043501611172,66.21088435374149,9.590834228428212,32.82062298603652,9.682069395223575,3.1272,1240,51,223,25,19,397,182,294,0.073,0.825,0.102,0.6797,1,3,0,0,0,0,49.0,0,2,0,3,8,6,1,1,18,0,22,1,1,6,1,37,38,19,0,5,4,4,2,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,14,14,0,2,2,6,3,3,4,4,0,3,10,5,30,2,28,27,9,26,0,1,2,0,26,12,0,4,11,147,44,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256487813628051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08990748051435941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14200864801284507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14706348210247622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422734683904743,0.0,0.08292471249409883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315839649558345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113885431655485,0.0,0.0,0.08492715716151518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12121560735816585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11752156159377974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06717875542116189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14492118883131969,0.0,0.1723715248902558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266273077692951,0.1483662923570467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12759773264247418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07066527024824855,0.0,0.0,0.2722994125028333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14036237418386102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08582944186561621,0.13036190308820805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890450380643978,0.09534187754401977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233778370910873,0.0,0.0,0.1369355671832548,0.08713044870791564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782850512419068,0.0,0.0,0.2822887103128299,0.0,0.14495681495843118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572334675841876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10980827223059976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20492631356448052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14453148533965596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11838097270015542,0.0,0.14929354011430154,0.17084825185307492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2999086475908607,0.0,0.0,0.12286555172416062,0.0,0.08729869535392135,0.0,0.1256058694404003,0.0,0.0,0.11105350998141934,0.0,0.0,0.07584095829484183,0.0,0.1031406744749212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093609182044459,0.1305811992436803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ImProbablyOnMyCouch,2020/03/28,"Staying for the kids? Plus gaslighting. Help! I want a divorce badly and have verbally expressed this often. My husband is very much in love, with but we fight (scream, some hitting) multiple times a day. He is a stay at home dad to our three children and I’m the bread winner. When I’ve asked for divorce I’m always told that it’s his house (state does side with original owner where we live since it was pre marriage). He also says due to me being on medication for mental illness and regularly seeing a therapist that he is going to take my babies. I’m not allowed to hang things in my home because it’s “his house” and I can’t go certain things like laundry because he says I do it wrong (??). I don’t love him... we were friends who took things too far and have known each other about 12 years now. He told me marriage would fix our fights and I idiotically agreed 5 years ago. He now says the fights are due to our children being young. He also has said ill end up paying him so much alimony that I’ll never be able to afford the lifestyle we live now. I came from poverty and worked really hard to get where I am..... I think I’ve got a deep fear of losing everything that defines me. I’ve chosen to stick this out til the kids are older... I’m scared our constant blow ups are going to damage them though. 

Has anyone else experienced a delayed divorce for the children? What can I do to stop hating him so much until I can leave?",2.045877976190475,4.209158260416672,3.376289682539681,89.17625000000002,79.24305555555556,5.6420634920634924,22.438492063492063,6.7097532225279775,0.5712992063492068,1121,35,228,11,28,365,171,288,0.18,0.7190000000000001,0.10099999999999999,-0.9791,2,0,0,0,6,0,38.0,8,0,1,2,14,17,5,2,12,0,23,6,0,2,2,31,46,17,0,2,2,2,1,1,1,1,3,5,2,5,16,17,1,2,2,0,1,6,4,12,0,1,8,8,30,5,29,33,5,42,0,2,1,2,50,12,0,2,22,139,46,2,0.1109095277771212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09831460447643987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773886185857102,0.0922856118875904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07755052059673004,0.11363991788927355,0.0,0.0,0.1036854367858872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09260482299982603,0.13521883741582852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12685095314169567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11985379819547763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07152747009993718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970576751638772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09265067885802214,0.0,0.0982329219186118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09967833207844168,0.0,0.0,0.1248040534334204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568842603762472,0.0,0.057945650641599726,0.0,0.18909732164042575,0.0,0.08870448114154482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09935315203691658,0.10950019700944946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07434031859649644,0.0,0.2225025987412001,0.0,0.0,0.2559494081131098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11743717584437155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05418479301526055,0.0,0.19587028996788405,0.0,0.0,0.12407939202410305,0.0,0.0,0.20020035803184566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11172968096133963,0.11177071780000672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24459379299002626,0.0,0.08554026517722138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07105148349479222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550035894234586,0.2645991242125591,0.11103978562845486,0.0,0.0883805341333974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09174550748467067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364295992563527,0.0,0.0927253314215814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08339016202735773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12877451010034432,0.22105008612933671,0.07106634706912887,0.1089680479225915,0.0,0.06467223755763536,0.0,0.0,0.21195761342886985,0.12322456625114585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09151197580152176,0.06541731304972473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08074345714784477,0.0,0.0,0.078786946383058,0.12126215775492585,0.0,0.14284419915352198
divorce,throwraziah,2020/03/28,"Quarantine blues I know if I was still there and we were still together this would be the hardest and most volatile quarantine.  But I'm not.  

This time in my life is pretty terrible.  I moved out in Jan. (it's my house but due to his child I am letting him stay there though school year) and now I don't have a partner, the comforts of my own house, or any human contact. I'm in a sterile place with an unstocked pantry, still processing all this loss.  Very overwhelmed and sad.",1.4802870813397109,3.983238578947368,2.0623923444976064,95.65856459330143,84.26315789473685,5.559808612440191,23.3732057416268,6.980632752743323,0.7451052631578943,375,14,80,5,11,115,71,95,0.10400000000000001,0.812,0.083,-0.4667,0,2,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,1,7,5,0,1,5,0,9,1,0,0,1,16,12,9,0,2,5,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,4,7,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,2,1,11,1,7,7,3,14,0,3,1,0,7,5,0,3,7,55,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14599428102437312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.495439129614435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179861659598123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21953164073802375,0.1516395269270568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281779286762816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22430185107869186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21841349996351306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21727434706544954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288273993954536,0.5143470978384822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109285394193789,0.0,0.12518550959732294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17713896654282174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15250723347541928,0.0,0.0,0.1382511610806633
divorce,jacksoninwa,2020/03/28,"Divorce and assets Hey guys, found out my wife is cheating on me with a woman, I'm currently considering a divorce. I have about 500k in assets whereas my wife has only about 20k. (As a couple, I pay literally all of the bills and expenses), we share a joint account of 100k (she didn't put any money into it), but she recently secretly took out 50k without my knowledge presumably for her girlfriend since she doesn't want to tell me where that money went. If we go through with a divorce, by law we'd most likely split the total assets evenly. I'm wondering if I were to give my son (a college student) or my sister most of my assets before the divorce, would this protect it from having to get splitten with my wife since the assets would now belong to my son or sister and not to me?

Thank you guys so much, your replies are greatly appreciated",9.409010327022377,6.648047560240965,9.439294320137694,69.62524096385546,61.349397590361434,11.654388984509465,39.37693631669535,9.606745405546679,3.7476189328743534,669,26,123,9,7,222,108,166,0.045,0.84,0.115,0.8966,1,0,0,0,4,0,19.0,3,2,0,0,6,5,1,0,10,0,11,0,0,0,2,31,22,10,0,5,7,7,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,3,4,11,0,1,5,0,6,4,4,1,0,0,5,0,23,4,24,14,5,13,0,0,0,0,29,6,0,7,4,89,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13611650474325268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703224698174403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22147460122562646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13220460904172354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21946646460576807,0.0,0.0,0.10457598479922822,0.19201289708416014,0.11375624350568744,0.0,0.0,0.22067847003783367,0.0,0.3963821871765378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09778866969258317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471415397847963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15223164008306753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012173277377484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976350735603321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3311508867320063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17494974329570415,0.1842815741970349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223864988051425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11806028337497156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185551471704142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929482893601856,0.21706632284018892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28437759921940603,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,cassireann,2020/03/28,"Headed to divorce... How would you feel if your spouse works in close proximity to someone they used to have a sexual relationship with? If they promised you they would go to another shift or find another job, but it’s been well over 6 months and neither of those things have happened.. How would you handle that? Is it wrong for me to want to separate for that reason?",5.21742857142857,6.613197314285718,5.210000000000001,82.64500000000002,68.71428571428571,9.028571428571428,28.285714285714285,9.3871,2.314514285714285,292,10,57,6,5,91,52,70,0.055999999999999994,0.857,0.087,-0.212,1,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,4,3,1,3,3,0,0,1,0,7,1,1,4,0,17,12,7,0,6,4,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,1,8,2,12,8,1,5,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,3,1,43,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4597514602226649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108463626750136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003669837411797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12459018759368085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19385927139717796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249873163933954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175462313048366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17498269681457196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253990304241614,0.0,0.2353647913351828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18574798710829246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14564284390459414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18933935634519106,0.0,0.0,0.12930413663242507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971089194965696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595978576387465,0.0,0.0,0.4671918306499146,0.23968729199817845,0.0,0.0
divorce,Zwied33,2020/03/28,"Birthday gift for step daughter? So my STBXW and I split up a couple months back, everything is still really fresh as you can imagine. Her oldest daughter (my former Step) has her 13th birthday coming up. I know my ex is probably hurting for money (she refuses sposal support) and can't probably swing a nice gift. I had it in my head to ask her what her daughter wants and I'll amazon it over, and she won't have to tell her it's from me. Being that her daughter is a teen, she just defaults to hating my guts of course. I still care for her (and her mom, of course) and just want her to be happy. What would you think if an ex offered this? Would it come off as arrogant or would you do it for your kids sake?
Nothing can be easy, can it?",3.2035645933014365,4.184818973684212,4.238564593301437,89.28586124401916,73.07894736842105,7.10622009569378,25.002392344497608,7.348242739294969,0.9821763157894736,572,17,124,6,11,186,91,152,0.086,0.795,0.11900000000000001,0.6503,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,4,0,0,6,6,1,0,4,0,18,2,2,0,0,21,28,11,0,6,4,7,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,10,8,0,1,3,0,1,4,2,2,0,0,1,0,26,4,18,20,0,15,0,1,0,0,28,5,0,2,6,90,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16777041717518534,0.0,0.0,0.13799328629119842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829709314250677,0.0,0.0,0.3091769559337693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19856853512502895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16128663652794709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19103798608953315,0.0,0.17717911311862086,0.1841772319647439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19211511778708654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986262537643209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21018080988167992,0.14324286923216056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1721962404883071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3869754104385032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11496635782566896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2866331939946181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20364852595856334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15685552227876948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11499040814695298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21169973799687652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3824486621956462,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,littlecooter,2020/03/29,"Husband threatening to not pay CS Current husband set me up - he quit his 200K/year job last summer claiming he didn’t trust me around his kids and that I said I refused to be around them without him present. He supported our household and his exes as well (she refuses to work, that’s another story). 

Told me to get off my fat ass and get a job or he’d divorce me. At the time, I loved him enough to not want a divorce, so my fat ass got a job. 

Now I make ok money, but am slammed with deals at work, and he’s claiming that the courts will view him as the primary parent (works from home and watches baby) and and I’ll have to pay him in a divorce - that he won’t have to pay a dime. 

So if this is true, ive now made myself lose out on time with my own baby just to work my ass off and have to pay him to remain underemployed????? WTF. How is this real life??????

I just want to SCREAM.",2.6357387057387065,3.132449619047623,4.065185185185186,91.81179487179487,73.97354497354497,7.085225885225888,25.120472120472122,7.010146845296331,0.7570477004476999,674,20,161,6,13,224,107,189,0.154,0.753,0.09300000000000001,-0.9543,6,0,0,0,3,0,31.0,1,0,1,6,10,8,0,0,8,1,12,7,5,3,1,30,23,16,0,3,8,3,0,0,0,2,3,2,1,1,6,13,2,2,0,0,6,0,5,2,1,0,5,4,27,6,27,14,2,19,0,1,2,4,30,10,3,2,8,101,33,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16043078733896182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723996920370637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15773328014896246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15808689110526747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15986932802346335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12236574821189415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15346855437107199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.45547800745153494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12471304736508115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080663682587768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711646068757094,0.0,0.0,0.13808584576333416,0.14476954443983905,0.10212674460594864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16988516077846774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16273123638822568,0.0,0.17414418202191553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14553526713045967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736192829158442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17842766533180338,0.0,0.0,0.14619527459410256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804832936132738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375627567601482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147483733586209,0.0,0.4455348104159587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09852510877809033
divorce,miscreation00,2020/03/29,"How you all doing during self isolation? A lot of us divorcee's are still single (we all have our reasons), which means a lot of us live alone, or just with our kids. Being alone for some of us is amazing, we love having our own space, we love having nobody there to harass us or make us feel terrible, or even not having someone who is there but just ignores you and creating an empty void where love should be. We have a few select friends that we keep in touch with, but there is no need for constant communication to maintain those friendships.

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Some of us are extroverts, we thrive on companionship and being out in the world meeting new people, spending time with friends and family, maybe being able to finally experience the feeling of freedom and being ""allowed"" to have friends and be out and about with them. For some of us, not spending that time with loved ones and friends could feel like you're neglecting them or being neglected despite the obvious inability to connect physically. Phone calls and video chats just aren't enough. 

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Some of us are all of the above at certain times.  

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This is hard for us, one way or another. How are you all doing? I'd love to hear how you're coping, how you're getting through this, if you are in need of support or if you're just in a place where you need to vent. 

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I will post my own feelings in the comments - please join me and lets have some conversations and support each other.",8.391088189788551,7.581735537906141,7.504767921609076,76.49762635379062,61.85198555956679,10.224755028365136,36.392212480660135,9.23628265651192,3.154832078390923,1172,46,216,16,14,361,144,277,0.079,0.693,0.22899999999999998,0.9955,1,3,0,0,1,0,46.0,18,5,2,0,16,19,1,0,10,0,30,5,0,7,6,74,49,24,0,7,16,0,6,1,4,2,0,1,0,2,8,24,0,4,6,2,2,0,4,5,0,2,0,7,28,14,36,38,17,23,0,2,0,5,45,14,0,15,8,169,36,0,0.061311466501867876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270003774502032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26572379335645485,0.2980005706967888,0.0,0.06429041847245227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06260586233131353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06625591399100263,0.0,0.048952217042306234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06335113448451153,0.0,0.04049564538227155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05997437898685819,0.05779899403717866,0.0,0.12400367866715516,0.04380092391954468,0.0,0.06716371467198977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894763477186984,0.0,0.03203271070976691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054923031186351966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06910247872926249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054496448518579696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06269512847710597,0.0,0.02995368557101635,0.0,0.054139148199287286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10424963260219527,0.2766799613870393,0.0,0.040925879981336656,0.0,0.06159560892233346,0.06678616109284434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363850266090916,0.0,0.059214996403434035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830924729097809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04250565103881763,0.0,0.06405743301400824,0.06730157873121015,0.0,0.0,0.058719436854071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630383989742463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06396123109543822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05194900660380363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04896341634764165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13915105122513996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10725362751297587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6637513060798912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04866618829532419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2980005706967888,0.0
divorce,throwawayintexass,2020/03/29,"I feel numb We have been separated for a little less than a month. I am 27f and he is 31m, no kids and together for 2.5 years. 

At first when I left I was on a rollercoaster of emotions & crying most days. I felt guilty for leaving him but I felt like I had no other choice. 

90 percent of the time he is a great guy but 10 percent he’s just an asshole, he has called my names in the past like bitch, stupid, garbage etc when he’s extremely upset. 

He spat on me during our honeymoon and I never actually got over that incident but I figured it was because he was drunk. 

I never wanted to have kids with him because he’s financially irresponsible in my opinion. 

It’s been a month and I thought I’d feel great to be away from all the drama and constant stress but I just feel numb most of the time and a little uneasy. Is this normal? He 100% doesn’t want a divorce but I see no other option, because I refuse to be unhappy.",0.5517522373999064,2.7922136735751266,2.749498351389544,90.97524140367406,85.83937823834195,5.581629769194539,21.20796043334904,6.980632752743323,0.5471886010362699,721,24,157,10,22,244,112,193,0.23399999999999999,0.6759999999999999,0.09,-0.981,0,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,2,0,0,1,4,10,2,2,12,0,16,4,1,0,3,34,26,13,0,3,7,0,5,2,0,0,2,0,0,3,6,8,1,1,7,2,0,0,6,6,0,1,10,6,21,4,19,14,7,23,0,0,1,0,20,10,1,4,15,100,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.14434240393318884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16026439833338532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13896976084592136,0.0,0.0,0.27050039882314003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15103639357144508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15984212866557174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624762196720659,0.09539207977531074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663829687501993,0.0,0.0,0.16496283991041244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22436878574203128,0.0,0.28404063599320245,0.0,0.0,0.12581529110876338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11830007310001618,0.32615068403828995,0.0,0.14645778705332824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156619218198007,0.16070863392697926,0.0,0.0,0.14452629432296876,0.2964967088798995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23612655849465206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281602799144409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14492399036606546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14120033363798393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11786804357624026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16943460784775655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11742693090000075,0.17249929952020535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744866283235508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09525155315891083
divorce,RioInca,2020/03/29,Need advice on best 50/50 co-parent arrangements Hello. A week before corona virus hit I split up with my wife of 20 years. For the last 5 years I have stuck it out as much as possible but I'm so unhappy that I decided enough was enough. We're currently stuck in the house together with our children. So I've got a bit of time on my hands and was wondering if there is anyone that has some advice on how we can survive living together through lock down. I'd also really like to know if anyone has or knows of really good arrangements for co-parenting where its 50/50? Especially if you have a strict 9-5 employer that's not going  to be flexible with start and finish times. I'd like to see my children as often as possible and would love some advice on who has the kids on which day and other arrangements that work really well.,4.241546184738958,5.473498114457836,5.5146385542168685,80.164046184739,70.86746987951805,9.870682730923695,25.279116465863446,10.125756701596842,2.459800803212851,661,19,130,18,12,221,107,166,0.051,0.8029999999999999,0.146,0.9558,4,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,1,0,3,8,6,0,0,6,0,11,2,1,1,0,25,24,17,0,5,6,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,3,9,9,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,5,2,9,6,25,16,7,21,0,0,1,1,10,10,0,8,12,84,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4419651174281567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12056335474593813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21083090899472007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12828633403364342,0.0,0.15821415505711173,0.0,0.16459174341979507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972282418172334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31155240802585626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568083511485577,0.12645100357228928,0.1205771814752038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739577179944259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16570838239000946,0.12289017118111654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147308220205292,0.0,0.1331245456549831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13606750522156444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11082653241988252,0.1117872205564618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3399202923697147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28974368067482764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201368359967447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10670926794842192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758196660200584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12093121745527699,0.0,0.13555206198204275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16349365312268266,0.1097556556349806,0.0,0.0,0.1070961445200072,0.0,0.0,0.19417002052614016
divorce,throwAwayDAccount,2020/03/29,"Working Towards Uncontested - Wife Changes Her Tune As We Are About to Submit Paperwork to Mediator - WTF!?!?! Wife and I had agreed to an uncontested divorce. She was getting everything she wanted out of it. We've been living in the same home and getting along reasonably well. I was willing to take a serious financial hit, to keep some peace and move on. We were to work through it, then I was going to move to CA and start over. We live in NV.

Now, as I'm completing paperwork for mediator, she backs out and says she is not ready. She will not sign anything. No explanation, just that she is not ready. We've been in a lousy marriage for 20 years, stayed together for the kids, who are now off to college and thriving. Kids are not an issue.

Time to move out, get an attorney and file for divorce. I don't see another option. I'm exhausted, unemployed, and thought we had an agreeable plan; now this.

We live in NV, near the Nevada/California border. I have a free place to stay in CA. I would like to go there and shelter-in-place, ASAP. I will not change my residence, (we've been under the same roof and making the best of it). I am going to the CA home (vacation home of a family member) to stay temporarily and ride out the divorce.

Will moving out and using the CA home screw me in the divorce process? Is she forcing me to lease a home in NV? Any guidance is greatly appreciated. My therapist is going to recommend an attorney, who should have answers, but experiences and ideas would help.",3.385570934256055,5.403292775086506,4.760614532871973,81.52097716262979,74.5363321799308,8.361024221453288,28.515017301038064,9.065960079200117,2.4962057024221447,1168,49,227,27,25,388,150,289,0.037000000000000005,0.8759999999999999,0.087,0.9333,2,0,0,0,4,0,53.0,5,0,0,4,8,8,1,0,19,0,28,2,0,3,0,47,46,17,0,4,7,2,0,1,0,7,1,1,5,2,7,24,0,1,4,0,1,9,7,3,1,0,10,2,25,6,46,28,4,39,0,0,1,1,26,19,1,2,9,157,32,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06834087707625522,0.1053790511230258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08269982781723273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07727539140436564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10546458479376893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2126233549617638,0.0,0.10536837667538178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09031952423895363,0.09830458876287952,0.09473889410306384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157515384393089,0.0,0.228457275441878,0.0,0.0,0.1107974394631908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06736049919177947,0.0,0.5040295227959178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11344800211939128,0.0,0.10489194595916744,0.0,0.08932565957590513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04909737777587641,0.0,0.2662200154270742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06708200850576282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4272463185753684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10499716238875327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10332685376853193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07991862930355911,0.0,0.0,0.08008247759032777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07113174313489773,0.321346803396082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556065198395477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11668385940902935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0797827746773248,0.05860015517793296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679646912806943,0.0,0.0,0.0592752754629981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09035817262820042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14632489294188222,0.0,0.0,0.14277926536647553,0.0,0.0,0.0647162720263394
divorce,ikickedyou,2020/03/29,"Journaling I (F33) tend to be like a Coke and outside events and emotions are like Mentos. Drop one in, bubbles, but with enough Mentos, eventually, I’m going to explode. And when I do, it’s messy. Feelings get irreparably hurt, relationships are ruined, I appear extremely unstable. 

The last couple of days I have been forcing myself to write down the thoughts racing through my head at NASCAR speeds, and it’s...actually helping. These thoughts that I’d never share with another soul in a million years now have their own space so they can stop invading mine. 

I’ve heard all the same advice about this that you have - write cathartic letters that you never send (or burn), list things you’re grateful for, etc. - yet I always disregarded it as touchy-feely mumbo jumbo that would make or keep me weak. But it’s really, truly helping me even out these emotions and think through issues ina more detached way, and clear up some space in my brain. 

Even if you’re reluctant, you should at least give journaling a try. It won’t hurt and it just might be exactly what you need.",5.8611255411255385,7.348950696969702,5.42066378066378,81.38909090909092,67.28282828282829,8.485425685425685,29.799422799422803,8.841846274778883,2.3451907647907646,850,31,154,14,14,260,140,198,0.17800000000000002,0.728,0.094,-0.9613,0,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,0,4,2,0,8,7,0,0,6,0,14,4,2,1,5,38,28,15,0,4,6,0,1,2,0,4,1,1,0,0,14,10,1,3,4,0,0,3,3,4,0,2,4,2,17,3,19,18,8,26,1,3,0,0,16,10,0,6,13,101,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543904025390108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314640855279216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16567101515923974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17637412042839198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17481791559921084,0.0,0.1018933857020723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35544510716303185,0.0,0.1632505591176969,0.1762056379637846,0.20870776204028654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07988676935222684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08254560831429769,0.15156272660909825,0.08979191864895206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621479443993263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118007737554359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33827277242578635,0.0,0.0,0.16490521582696535,0.0,0.14043277619222447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12878660949859702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15437626987720754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054625594900818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16760720302267584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11715092413306688,0.2437102058994204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10706116608148702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121532611630348,0.0,0.0,0.16962697147000852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13209048140093485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049645292639934,0.10123649979839623,0.0,0.2508599789455716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10726789842796043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12540868469026675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11223476385899003,0.0,0.0,0.10174328170224373
divorce,chris_cagle,2020/03/29,"Cganges to child custody After custody rules are determined, can they be changed later? Does that involve more legal fees? What if one of us moves to a different city?",4.6080000000000005,7.503802466666666,4.043333333333333,83.885,74.33333333333334,6.666666666666668,33.33333333333333,7.793537801064563,2.7153333333333336,134,7,22,2,3,40,28,30,0.0,0.851,0.149,0.5766,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,4,2,1,3,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,15,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43143424230177935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4260996747716155,0.0,0.0,0.35689823803393445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4334629461658544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763588393800007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4905740266412834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,uniqueUsername_1024,2020/03/29,"My parents are getting divorced and i just want it to feel like normal again... Will I ever stop crying? I just want to go back to the way we were. My home feels so empty now, and dad’s house doesn’t feel like home. I can’t go over there without feeling really sad.",1.4119642857142836,3.0819291249999985,2.8958571428571425,94.24914285714287,79.17857142857143,5.194285714285715,20.128571428571426,5.6839178017228535,-0.1848599999999996,205,5,46,1,5,67,42,56,0.152,0.6729999999999999,0.175,0.0861,1,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,1,0,0,0,8,3,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,1,15,14,3,0,3,3,2,4,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,3,0,1,4,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,4,7,2,5,12,0,9,0,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,7,29,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16076499588110496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22965796485424644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18911939712338266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4228563729866449,0.29872500592175466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10923253256074746,0.0,0.23764313760141656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4194365253084349,0.0,0.0,0.2412433180580079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042859852914548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20484812333277874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23215192789949385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339381540874875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747952205483142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.246634516952363,0.16595320470195538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20153986922083988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,hb4292,2020/03/29,"I feel so distressed, and I do not know what to do. Strongly considering divorce I have been married for 2 years. It has not been easy at all. There have been a lot of arguments because I really just don't feel understood or accepted for who I am. My spouse has done a lot of selfish things that have hurt me over the years, and I honestly built up a lot of resentment over time. Looking back, I really don't know If I was ever extremely in love with my husband. It is terrible to say and try to admit, but I just don't feel like I was ever at the point where I was really extremely in love, even at the beginning of the ""honeymoon"" stage. I almost wonder if I just settled. I understand that relationships change over time and it is not sustainable to be ""crazy"" about someone, but I just feel like my spouse is very controlling and not a thoughtful person. Obviously I am not perfect either, but I just really often feel upset and hurt because even when I try to talk to him about our issues, he doesn't really understand how I feel. He says I am ""asking for too much"" because I wish that I had a partnership with someone who, if I was having a bad day, they would be thoughtful and try to help take some stress off of me, because I would do that for him. There has never been a point where I have had just a really bad day at work and expressed that to him and he has just done anything to try to make me feel a little less stressed or better. He often makes me feel bad about who I am. I am a very driven person, so I can worry about a lot of things in my life because I want to succeed, and he will just insult me and say that I am neurotic etc. It is very hurtful, and I have expressed that as well. There have been a lot of arguments over time about his excessive drinking as well. I do not like his behavior toward me whenever he drinks, and there have been a lot of huge arguments over it that have been extremely hurtful. He continued to do that for several years in our relationship, even knowing how much it hurt me and affected me. 

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The issue is that he has cut back his drinking somewhat over the past few months, and now that I have also expressed to him how I feel about getting a divorce, suddenly he is begging me to stay and saying we can go to counseling and he will do whatever he needs to do to fix things etc. I am so torn and hurt and upset about this entire thing. In the past, I have tried to get him to go to counseling when we have had a huge argument over drinking and I wanted to leave him.. and then he pretty much would beg me to stay, promise to go to counseling, etc.. and then he would never go to counseling and the same or similar thing would happen later. He has made some very small changes though, so I can't pretend he has not changed at all. Part of me feels like the best thing for me to do is go through the divorce, work on myself, and find someone in the future who is more compatible with the way that I think and what I want in a marriage. But I also feel so upset because yes, we have had good times together. He has been my best friend, but I just also do not feel in love and I am not sure if I ever felt extremely in love either. Also, we are in the process of buying a house (stupid, I know), and all of these feelings hit me in the face at once and I am terrified to back out of buying this house that we are under contract for. But at the same time, I don't think I can make that financial commitment given the way I currently feel. We have no kids together, and I am in my 20s. 

Is it normal to feel so conflicted? Am I just taking the ""easy"" way out?",7.046596980255513,5.184055769647696,7.567303910181959,78.3647073170732,65.15176151761517,11.252713898567558,33.687340301974444,10.09235958154656,2.9942712659698016,2810,93,599,52,35,934,245,738,0.161,0.726,0.113,-0.9891,1,0,4,0,4,0,79.0,8,0,1,10,54,43,4,6,34,1,89,10,1,9,12,152,147,62,0,15,34,3,16,4,1,7,1,4,0,3,36,40,4,2,31,5,2,6,18,21,2,0,25,21,89,22,93,112,28,85,0,6,1,4,67,41,0,20,36,472,125,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047273681410787714,0.0,0.0,0.15101427633130876,0.0,0.05115167538897087,0.05736493621992742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03884954930418991,0.0,0.04413468385727021,0.0,0.0,0.10890400406875714,0.1182543483477543,0.17267151952744167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908730634473392,0.041753131083534296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14982476499342942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05294967751371881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06089268421543185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09662379988884827,0.0,0.18499007865988495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15795383864581744,0.09354465768063733,0.12811159220902538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35805953833301085,0.10117982799067103,0.04532870232157637,0.0,0.043148798008456855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036474086531623706,0.0,0.04933022517428262,0.0,0.13415176337783574,0.03959724502540097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04174736968835402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03164365759369301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10894727900750943,0.30323367362965825,0.0,0.0,0.09854929408459936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10378083581612577,0.0,0.0,0.04998824125788378,0.0,0.0,0.033345597594492966,0.09225707230374128,0.047316508108599255,0.0,0.0,0.0396442464340409,0.0,0.0,0.2408159223799865,0.17043434032291155,0.044670946665563295,0.09453849659620453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037682321203077865,0.0,0.10411365435396168,0.035005384204422264,0.07282204092865599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04625546901476165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050276775158818746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05112348971947026,0.09013397493359523,0.0,0.08244335424049562,0.0,0.0,0.08925682615736928,0.0,0.0,0.048029223162187225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18146240352586515,0.0,0.0,0.1013710707223386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15017214963559705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053333507823262266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12000184201853528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10063848830794052,0.0,0.0,0.10815707231817052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0444945706400809,0.0,0.0709916175688989,0.037945357581939385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18818410705231325,0.060500121483096414,0.04638327709935485,0.07495843510827564,0.13764173867747145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16026139038419376,0.0,0.0,0.09829389676791628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15581174160435465,0.08353648843290562,0.1124185546799693,0.0,0.0,0.08489435528968041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05428880938328018,0.0,0.051196890968886535,0.06873842779139877,0.0479437280568423,0.0,0.16768203319992458,0.0,0.05736493621992742,0.09120447045284193
divorce,Brittewing86,2020/03/29,Getting divorced I’m so freaking sad. I can’t stop crying. I have like a month to find a job and move. It’s like a bad dream.,-3.4216091954023007,-2.4579758620689667,-0.27741379310344705,105.66020114942528,117.9655172413793,1.9333333333333331,15.178160919540227,3.1291,-1.5441080459770116,96,3,25,0,6,33,24,29,0.441,0.363,0.196,-0.8688,1,0,0,0,1,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,4,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,11,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30657933371877705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40332916084302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3355951792647127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918360015183663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36436874543869613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35877046577454463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2930789714415422,0.3902534301716285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3069782912509277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,amirH2K,2020/03/29,"Kid who went through a bad divorce [20M] Might not be the right place for this, but i think it fits 

My parents got divorced when I was 10 years old, I still remember the exact moment my mom told me what was happening, I remember the numbness i felt that entire day and I remember looking back on the street where I grew up for the last time, still not really understanding the importance this moment would have on the rest of my life. 

My parents fought a lot so when I was told they were getting divorced even though I was young I can’t say I was surprised at all, but looking back I didn’t realize how messed up It all was. My parents split and left every part of the family they made for me and my brother in the dust. They left the city we grew up and went to completely new areas and the only effort made to get in touch with that part of my life was through me.  It was almost cruel to have such a fulfilling life taken from you completely, and I still feel that way even as I’m dealing with it as a 20 year old, my ability to make relationships and trust others was almost completely decimated, the interests and things i enjoyed doing were made irrelevant and replaced by anger and confusion. I never understood how my parents could be so selfish and just move on from what had been me and my brothers whole life, our whole family. Even to this day I’m told “we moved on, why can’t you” and to be completely honest I wish that I could. The happiness and carefree environment i experienced before they divorced doesn’t even feel real to me now, i went from being accepted by close friends and family to being an outcast and doing what i had to do to fit in wherever I went. Being my own person and expressing myself seemed trivial. My goals seemed unimportant. All I was focused on was survival and getting by. Some of my childhood friends that are the closest things i have to family don’t even feel the same, the relationship i had with a lady who was damn near my second mother now feels like I’m talking to a stranger, and her son who was like my brother feels like I’m forcing myself into being his friend now, I’m plagued by this dark shadow all the time saying that it wasn’t supposed to be like this, and it keeps me up at night. 

It wasn’t even the fact my parents split, but what truly fills me with anger is the fact that after everything they put me and my brother through, and how hard I’ve tried to make things work is the fact that they never did anything to give either of us a sense of belonging after they split up. I feel as if I have no true home and no support system, I feel as if the friends I’ve made are temporary, everything is temporary and nothing lasts, I lost the ability to smile freely and laugh and enjoy myself and make lasting bonds with others and even as an adult I’m trying to recapture the ability to enjoy life but to be honest everything just feels like a massive pain in the ass. I can honestly say that the way they handled their divorce set me on a path for failure, and I’ve excluded a lot of details because I don’t want this to be my life story or anything like that, I’m just venting because I’m tired of these thoughts keeping me up late every night, I just want to figure out how to pick up their pieces.

So for all you parents out there with kids going through a divorce, do what you gotta do because I understand, but don’t rob a kid of their childhood because you adults couldn’t get your s*** together.",8.041025432900433,6.106322021645024,8.010338654401156,76.20455560064937,63.27128427128427,11.259902597402599,36.37486471861472,9.903583721103773,3.3256219696969698,2743,102,548,45,32,890,272,693,0.096,0.73,0.174,0.9961,6,0,0,0,6,0,46.0,4,6,11,5,32,36,5,1,39,0,59,10,1,12,12,120,117,52,0,9,15,13,11,6,4,3,9,3,1,6,37,41,0,2,22,0,0,11,16,12,0,1,41,17,86,24,83,60,17,83,0,1,2,1,68,34,2,12,40,397,123,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10652819393535116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08754495522816043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818027178446444,0.044413091945114336,0.1297013797839005,0.0,0.04526246788149636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22308316865898176,0.0,0.0,0.08493895555272488,0.0,0.0,0.06860886945717493,0.05483860866263949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24592966587822754,0.0,0.08963309574410225,0.0,0.14341659918329916,0.0,0.20057870642603431,0.0,0.2151637573755056,0.11400111030993294,0.0510726544627512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16438400597119254,0.0,0.1111624827475639,0.051026606157251415,0.03023023517398897,0.0,0.04254249562023883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04703750333940488,0.05662386516657636,0.04764957734934378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05335590553387466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09455897399908496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13007572009762508,0.06000288447229608,0.0,0.11558651107836287,0.0,0.2254264644571798,0.15592152436066598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08933575398641652,0.0,0.05806534335446125,0.09044385979835276,0.0,0.2013261979033827,0.10651820420166004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05642829823070208,0.0,0.06229781878963246,0.0,0.11306934010110185,0.0,0.0,0.08204988766800046,0.05137315786146353,0.0,0.09983416336054003,0.0,0.05103915144410893,0.0,0.11163209664209553,0.0,0.0,0.040454907254414495,0.056600030383544116,0.0,0.3543804772482416,0.11520348881153306,0.0,0.0,0.04644519618059737,0.05557431087233716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053472644235915065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06054413272681885,0.03407615248394686,0.0,0.0,0.1142165868943646,0.1807684751870128,0.045425670998396735,0.0,0.1269012223291134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09684798452517948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12743758187502394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060361642787866016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042753708731817296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060151888606938,0.034083281025120656,0.05226086260620329,0.04222850047850636,0.06203335722479447,0.06113637057371965,0.0,0.15248168511214175,0.0,0.07222774264963658,0.0,0.0,0.11074948031405596,0.0639834176758518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06274803072157938,0.0844426555995335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19723803999261025,0.047997499787815034,0.11877392016466665,0.06116816632331975,0.0,0.0,0.038724404087251134,0.0,0.0,0.037786065352040266,0.0,0.0,0.06850779846362337
divorce,unknownsmalltowngirl,2020/03/29,"Dating after divorce I am just starting the process of possible divorce, after being in a marriage for four years (26F) and (26M), no kids, two dogs, and I have a career and he has been sitting on his haunches using me as an excise to not have to progress. There is no more trust and I feel like divorce is inevitable. 
I know I am still youngish, but is it hard to get back into dating? Do people automatically write you off if you are divorced? 
I told myself if I got divorced I wouldn’t get married again, but I also don’t want to live the rest of my life alone, and I was hoping one day to have children, which my current husband is “starting to feel comfortable with the idea” but up until I brought up divorce it has been “I am too scared”. 
I just want to get past this and if there is hope of possibly dating, at least know the reality of it all even if there is uncertainty. And what are the best ways to go about dating if I do choose to?",6.108238341968916,4.997423891191712,6.732854922279795,81.1667435233161,66.56476683937824,8.963523316062178,32.77150259067358,7.554174236665415,2.074602487046632,733,26,155,6,10,242,114,193,0.079,0.794,0.126,0.9076,1,1,0,0,6,0,20.0,0,2,0,2,12,7,0,1,8,0,24,1,0,1,1,34,42,18,0,10,11,1,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,6,9,0,0,6,0,0,2,5,1,0,3,6,3,21,6,27,34,5,27,0,0,0,0,16,7,0,7,17,123,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17871238535733708,0.0,0.13799019852289196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13268224706046147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18108323803255813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11128210905099917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11396932085006177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17449549090026406,0.12327156425320605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27045473038764434,0.0,0.09806558113799044,0.0,0.13800602383830654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545731770477139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.342767199356783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194790806907132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18966071930471956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218789572406694,0.08430045179572679,0.0,0.1523670481956277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11692606224551892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16472091774233896,0.11962620018656513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38905410955841613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17275518784658006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442671423578864,0.0,0.13780067597299053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16488134012586678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16855875215131902,0.0,0.0,0.14902998679830196,0.0,0.0,0.2035519096216213,0.13696416925873928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111181740756048
divorce,jokanoi,2020/03/29,"Husband with anxiety issues Hi guys, I need some help.

Husband (m35) and I (f28) are together for three years, had an amazing time together, but ever since I know him he is drinking a lot, like every night until we go to bed. He is very lonely, doesn't have  any  other close friends, or a goal in life atm. Absolutely lost and depressed. Every time I try to talk to him , he discredits me by saying I'm a walking bundle of joy that has and always had everything and I wouldn't understand it.  He has an immense anxiety issues, and traumas from the past. Couple of nights ago he had one of the episodes and while I was trying to talk to him, I have offended him by asking something regarding his sexuality (which btw we are fully open about normally), so he just snapped and started calling me a bitch over and over again. Couldn't help but slap him, as he kept insulting me. 

I feel terrible cause I know what  he's been through, but now that escalated with him calling me abusive.  ?

I just don't know what to do. I love him, and I'm pretty sure he loves me too. Overall he is a wonderful man, charming and funny and I love spending time with him. I try to be as supportive as possible with everything that he wants, tries to do and be a part of, but that doesn't seam to be enough, or I'm not doing it right. it's not always like this, but when it is, it gets messy. I feel like he misinterprets some of the things I say because of his insecurity. When does it get too much? What can I possibly do?  Is it a time for a divorce? If any of you has ever been in a situation like this, help out.",3.5323602484472048,4.509598447204972,5.0414285714285745,83.85357142857143,72.2919254658385,8.457142857142857,27.975155279503106,8.841846274778883,2.00999254658385,1228,45,261,23,23,414,164,322,0.132,0.669,0.19899999999999998,0.9822,0,2,2,0,1,0,46.0,2,1,0,2,12,22,3,1,14,0,31,5,0,1,3,53,54,28,0,6,12,2,2,4,1,1,1,2,1,2,19,21,1,1,7,1,2,2,7,9,0,2,8,4,34,13,36,41,6,28,0,3,0,3,46,8,1,7,22,176,53,1,0.0,0.11778672769112085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881225630057739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654371635099125,0.0,0.0,0.13520686667373188,0.0,0.1520995106080534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09293661388970066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06060051089662553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030211264952204,0.0,0.0,0.10212330338593374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10999726644470564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08562323812767178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08699593656883745,0.0,0.0,0.09738571805248712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027189643977058,0.0,0.0,0.17984733002626435,0.16751745908605925,0.0,0.17868983241442848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10053118667756622,0.07101981016264704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0768053104884913,0.0,0.10387712541321596,0.0,0.05649801718751701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984333120265436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19990090315500253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075201835151303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16390237718568518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07021749467114917,0.19427033702144927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10851972364615073,0.08451635781168898,0.2691690938247264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07307911185853729,0.07371259045126508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18658248091627072,0.09740245739641294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06736400883731491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10765329236565556,0.09489981228638183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2241437364020291,0.0,0.10113754032728096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08489713447648511,0.0,0.15811250775925534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08223446869230955,0.1117430289878252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07653206086978198,0.0,0.0,0.07036418408545582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11281133315925887,0.0936944455099803,0.0,0.0,0.15980687922922152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06604478295671147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318712813522157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2699763479938723,0.0,0.0,0.10349119029804862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08202514668392914,0.058635655624025465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078078570521974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0640179401979494
divorce,Ladybeweavin,2020/03/29,"Would you take back the moment you met? ""I'm still learning how to go back & re-read my own chapters without feeling like I want to set all my pages on fire."" - E.V. Rogina

Such an emotional rollercoaster coaster. All you had to do was open your mouth and talk to me, instead you turned to your co-worker. I'm struggling with the person you are now. I don't know him. After almost a decade together it hurts to look back. Some days I want to forget it all. I want to rewind to a time before our lives were intertwined, but that means forgetting all the good. I struggle when remembering the good because I know how this chapter ends.",3.01645818181818,5.020841744000002,3.5682181818181853,89.72010909090912,75.56,6.465454545454546,24.163636363636364,7.348242739294969,0.9718000000000004,498,16,101,6,11,156,87,125,0.11699999999999999,0.81,0.073,0.1474,0,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,1,7,0,0,10,6,0,2,7,0,7,1,1,2,4,25,21,5,0,4,2,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,6,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,4,3,18,3,13,16,7,15,0,1,1,0,12,2,0,2,12,67,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666342038544034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803036795504354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3838738907779019,0.0,0.1014411554382682,0.0,0.14160148635385364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10731979879697516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18718730917256207,0.14738865223130054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08414120263398983,0.1188823575133678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09457385851497828,0.27915132491161243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17814387864870027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829076606208456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08129885030364879,0.0,0.1469418677907144,0.0,0.13974133692995375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812677808935915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453015958031206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664536611263367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885085367669122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13289414574925987,0.0,0.0,0.3479328595744146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12511857888891068,0.13375295221231134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09703420955247376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810048024632504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29445636192051033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16041197965318665,0.0,0.12114746352935105,0.0,0.0,0.11821191525219735,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,BeautifulGrass9,2020/03/29,"Heading towards divorce. If it better for the kids to stay married, or get divorced and let them see their parents happy. I'm just not sure if I'm doing more damage by staying in a dead marriage. Are the kids getting false impressions about what love and marriage is?",4.7085294117647045,6.550940980392162,4.884460784313728,82.75257352941178,70.56862745098039,5.8843137254901965,34.318627450980394,5.985473137389443,2.125427450980392,214,11,36,1,4,67,44,51,0.154,0.6459999999999999,0.2,0.4488,1,0,0,0,2,0,5.0,0,0,2,1,2,6,0,0,3,0,4,2,1,0,1,8,10,5,1,2,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,5,6,9,1,4,0,1,1,1,10,2,0,3,0,25,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432324314645761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873727143918938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29276341136121764,0.0,0.0,0.28224938834831537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812261099732819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24821586984018446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053766497388819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191549642820497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5862684683715377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25920265912769297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,becomingindependent2,2020/03/29,"Staying in touch with some of the inlaws/worried about the future The divorce is ""amicable"". Still a lot of healing to do, but I've realized that this is for the best. We've been together 8 years. His siblings have had children in this time and I've become an Aunt, and I've loved being an aunt. I am closer to some more than others due to distance. I don't want to give up my relationships with those children, they are my family now. We have no children, so there really is no need for me to keep any part of his family in my life besides nieces and nephews. He is okay with me still being an aunt to these children, and their parents are totally on board with it is as. Is this weird? I love those kids, it would break my heart not to watch them grow up. I guess the hardest thing that hit me today was thinking about it and if I stop by and his sister lets me know he has a new gf, or is getting remarried or something of that matter and how I'll have to process that. I don't forsee that anytime soon, but it would hit me like a ton of bricks. I honestly don't think he'd ever get married again, but I don't know. He has a lot of mental health work to do to ever be in a healthy relationship with himself, let alone another person. I know it would hurt to see him get his life together for another woman when I've spent the last 2 years trying to help him. Once everything is final, I plan on going no contact except for the nieces and nephews.   


It's hard to explain, even though things aren't final, I wouldn't be surprised or really hurt if I found out he was sleeping with someone else at the moment (I know he had an emotional affair, don't think there has been any physical cheating but I don't trust him), what he does is not my concern .I guess I'm just worried and upset and not sure how to deal with the fact that he might someday get his shit together for someone else and that will make me feel like I wasn't worth it. But I'm so fucking worth it.",4.813308823529411,4.609088811274511,5.616470588235295,85.07411764705886,68.97549019607844,8.662745098039215,29.009803921568626,8.212053250817874,1.7492627450980391,1537,49,334,19,24,504,198,408,0.13,0.778,0.092,-0.904,1,1,1,0,3,0,39.0,1,0,3,3,19,17,3,1,18,1,47,10,3,3,5,70,78,28,0,8,15,7,3,2,1,6,4,0,0,7,25,20,0,2,11,0,3,2,15,7,0,0,9,5,41,10,48,54,9,35,0,2,2,3,47,11,2,12,22,231,66,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09657633656888004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12682305893285425,0.1955563665937674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10298458943054628,0.0,0.0,0.09785754752389893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09613412633722328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08160155665031796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15579272029250385,0.1048909394523894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061589125269265285,0.1686954893339653,0.0,0.0,0.08380488249048264,0.0,0.17581097674031598,0.0,0.04714876147291034,0.06661606611587416,0.0,0.2042962593846348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10224112214379424,0.0,0.08620585451062852,0.19487197835663236,0.08945154376651608,0.05299472977694522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054453713980232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08353148631099183,0.0,0.0,0.09911778187124236,0.0,0.11049879201072396,0.0625018650932248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19964685503255866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08288270412428722,0.0,0.0,0.2049856525035351,0.07600919628357633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19070386877891832,0.13172700002412874,0.09111208257059404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15855145957057296,0.16831910335546285,0.0,0.0622434616149849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09397159518816152,0.09892091144173323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06914187446894192,0.0,0.0900590618295665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09930559414614587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10354036569627592,0.10097800635341417,0.0,0.0,0.08142016120158363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11947353253001215,0.0,0.0,0.20022593683690287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0743062220550275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09571726685909512,0.0,0.0,0.0933148891334504,0.0,0.15801668772693506,0.07178651724370479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09938947798282773,0.1489352227667565,0.077959124532315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08788470938585766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12389905346063144,0.17924778859068488,0.0916152413564024,0.0,0.054373394456972535,0.0,0.08838777128356078,0.0,0.0,0.06330896339519207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054999819104727975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0678853246944924,0.1893948203808317,0.0,0.1987211456814945,0.0,0.0,0.1200967258871007
divorce,CheChe1999,2020/03/29,"Too far gone? I have been with my husband every day of my adult life.  We started dating at 18, married at 22 and currently 45.  We have two teens.

During the 2nd Clinton election, he informed me that he's a Republican.  Oh, ok.  Since that time, he has become an ultraconservative and has immersed himself in the rhetoric that is offered.   He is at the point where I feel that he has been radicalized through brain washing.  He is unable to explain his views without becoming angry and aggressive (he does not intimidate me or make me afraid).   I find that not only do I not like the person he has become,  I'm not attracted to him and certainly don't love him.  If I met him as he is today, I would have no interest in dating him.

I struggle with the idea of separation.  In all honesty,  we are coparenting our children platonically under the same roof.  There is so much in the world that I want to talk about, but tend to walk on eggshells so as not to start an argument.  Our youngest has three years of high school.  I am thinking that after graduation,  I will seek a divorce. I'm reluctant now because I have no intention on being a single parent.  We are a good parenting team.  When we talk about mundane stuff, we can laugh and have a good time, but his core beliefs are too hard for me to accept.

I sometimes feel guilty because he's not a bad person.  That being said, he isn't the person I fell in love with.  In the interest of transparency,  our marriage has been rocky for a long time, but we had a mutual love and passion to help us work through.   When does one know it's time to let go?",4.0488206695374345,5.337814693290738,5.174260313932488,82.20428253924156,71.39616613418531,8.127184331157105,29.263647728851232,8.587818076936951,2.1381374913182385,1241,49,248,21,23,410,171,313,0.099,0.7709999999999999,0.13,0.9095,4,0,0,0,2,0,39.0,11,0,0,2,11,18,1,2,19,1,33,7,1,2,2,45,52,17,0,3,12,3,3,1,0,2,2,1,0,5,10,16,0,0,10,1,0,4,11,4,0,3,7,5,37,14,37,40,4,38,1,0,1,4,51,17,0,2,18,171,47,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666811146384892,0.1411519316585696,0.3835964379472905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12924428861691195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07466593238195421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20263268925380595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09754626069435222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11707963333570587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10581715278189567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06579816030347327,0.1942148064367304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10371254179069513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0776022022563302,0.12232368463818635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13069699470279428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06362745352278097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11838878867032793,0.08177600207005782,0.0565622981737639,0.0,0.0,0.10245810341949606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3134770398302247,0.0,0.07728136896676031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08510867029092664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07845280370550001,0.08805285361717778,0.0,0.0,0.257111060237074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3032733731009835,0.0,0.0,0.10944572787949172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101294741174973,0.0,0.0,0.11717147775026712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577109114340827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11450540949593566,0.0,0.1638936760811092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12103419712698635,0.1325358036015384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18611270236657712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07418457632406499,0.0,0.0,0.27003963147145177,0.0,0.10974209639828272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11309631438373573,0.0,0.13926425476908594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06828767557352998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11160391801235683,0.0,0.08428629592606672,0.0,0.0,0.08224393793040398,0.0,0.0,0.07455593844050021
divorce,throwawaythejars,2020/03/29,"How do you know when it's too late? My heart is saying it's time to split, but I think my brain only agrees when I'm drunk or after I get mad. How did you know it was time to divorce?

Is it normal to hate when you have to spend time together? To get resigned to the fact you'll have to watch some stupid show you don't care about or channel surf for an hour?

Is it normal to feel excited when he says he wants to play some video games, knowing that means you get 3 hours to yourself?

Is it normal to know you have nothing else to talk about after an hour alone, despite your best efforts to start new conversations?

Is it normal to expect your spouse not to destroy your things or the home you've made together? Is it reasonable to ask for an hour of help around the house every week?

Is it normal to feel disgusted at how much your spouse has let themselves go? To feel nauseous when you have to touch them, after not changing much physically from the day you married yourself?

I don't know what to feel anymore, so I thought I'd ask this supportive community for some guidance in this confusing time. Thank you for your help!",5.788037953236188,5.5838330088105765,5.6711013215859065,85.5044900033887,66.9295154185022,8.746729922060316,29.355811589291765,8.139509932561175,1.7170802439850896,891,27,189,10,13,278,120,227,0.14800000000000002,0.753,0.099,-0.9414,0,1,0,0,1,0,18.0,0,15,1,2,13,13,5,1,7,0,19,3,2,5,1,36,45,13,0,7,6,2,5,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,14,1,1,0,13,6,1,1,4,7,0,0,4,8,22,6,34,39,6,25,0,1,1,0,30,3,0,7,21,117,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10521225139824268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007458159846854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09043289881503334,0.18993801853677106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066080290170954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134033484570864,0.0,0.0,0.10357349272254493,0.0,0.1074643058605922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06551443656347401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08486190010811002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08559041726784604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054593297465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159223162001293,0.0,0.05773355078650357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10029494543341587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12037966128423876,0.1361816398649025,0.0,0.1018988394953121,0.0,0.40016619762873934,0.11721637321896405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27914449297904315,0.0,0.1145932063736871,0.0,0.0,0.10387836243029756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09612293953728188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106567163326589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14935450219126034,0.0,0.0,0.09811219798282844,0.0,0.0,0.4976625730211042,0.09747431421022876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07726057799727798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044471207689393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16157020991379653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07190295160209825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527836119675836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08165081747374486,0.0,0.09352655551068204,0.0,0.0,0.06748909113676603,0.06509207833512289,0.0,0.0806477773984196,0.23694198600721064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05991793642304252,0.0,0.08148600063560077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,kahoonakyle99,2020/03/29,"I’m Conflicted and Honestly Kinda Ashamed for Thinking this way Alright so let me start off by saying I love my wife and I’ll love her forever even if we get divorced. I’m only 20 years old and I was with my wife for 3 years before we got married. We were together through most of high school and were each others “firsts”. I always spent most my time with her even through high school and did mostly what she wanted me to do and we’d often get in fights about me going to do anything without her because we had a large friend group and shared some of the same friends so I would hardly ever be able to get out of the house without catching shit for it. We lived in the same house for about a year and a half the first part of that was at her moms house and then later we moved to my moms house and I always made sure I was working full time. She’s always been the jealous type and doesn’t like me communicating with females at all and she doesn’t have much confidence in herself even when I try to help. I proposed on our 3 yr anniversary of being together even though I felt a lot of pressure to do it. The pressure mainly came from me still feeling like I needed to be free and experience other people cuz I was only 19 and I’ve only ever been with one person and like I said before it’s hard to go out without pretty much pissing her off and I don’t like being told what to do or someone trying to control me I just need space and it’s hard to do that in a marriage because I’m constantly trying to make sure that my wife is happy but I’m the process I think I’m making myself unhappy. I do anything and everything for my wife and I know that if I told her how I felt about this or that I was even considering wanting to get divorced so that I could go live my own life again it would tear her apart. Honestly it should too because if I were her I would be going through a ton of emotions and thoughts like, “I thought you loved me” or “I thought you wanted a future with me” or “ why am I not good enough for you?” I just feel like this makes me such a terrible person to have married her last September and not thought this through enough to say before that I wanted to work on my own life instead of trying to make a whole new one with you. Even typing all of this out makes me feel horrible and idk if I could even divorce her cuz I do love her and she may be the only person I’ll ever actually love but I have large urges and wants to go be free and have an open life by myself without anyone telling me what to do. Oh and idk if this matters or not but I signed a three year active duty contract for the army a month or so before we got married so I haven’t even been home since late September. That’s what makes this even harder because then I will feel like the biggest piece of shit like I just married her to get more money out of the army or something and that wasn’t the case because originally I just wanted to be married so I wouldn’t have to leave her for the army and be super long distance but I’m starting to realize this is how the army is and I’ve been gone 6 months now and we’ve just been having problems. Some days are good and other days aren’t but I just feel like I’m too young to keep up with this but I don’t want to hurt her I’m so confused and I think about it so often I just hope she would be able to understand but I honestly don’t think she will I think she’ll take it really bad and that scares me. I’m open to advice but I’m the end I’ll still make my own decision I’m new to this whole reddit thing but I thought it could be useful to hear from other people sorry this is really a lot to take in and if you take the time to read it Thankyou I could just use some help rn is all😪",2.1775834382871544,3.5416354382871584,3.5005785579345097,92.06205171599498,76.22921914357683,6.2723236775818645,22.85965050377834,6.770275591412753,0.4665038413098239,2934,83,661,26,64,959,279,794,0.07200000000000001,0.7909999999999999,0.13699999999999998,0.9941,2,0,1,0,4,0,16.0,9,5,0,6,46,44,5,5,29,1,71,11,3,16,7,178,151,72,0,27,37,6,10,9,2,10,3,4,1,3,40,56,0,4,21,1,4,9,16,14,0,6,32,14,104,32,89,92,28,71,0,1,0,5,68,24,3,27,46,470,144,8,0.09523434985424156,0.0,0.04646749386880797,0.0,0.0,0.04653095223830988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11886391221514847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033295035863506114,0.0,0.07836975543754761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039758352093420386,0.14513493934467045,0.0,0.16207483476931173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05446136275648388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05145724978491136,0.053406710651333324,0.15207375813807128,0.0,0.0,0.06141827711479441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053562912696483535,0.04217468345912155,0.09840254114582746,0.0,0.2830562545598181,0.12921738256888002,0.0,0.0,0.04279524645133235,0.04657873409822385,0.0,0.0,0.12038337189586942,0.13607087712918606,0.09143991060046124,0.0,0.0,0.0810062893355277,0.0,0.0,0.07357782245836797,0.0,0.1243900428650126,0.0,0.13530968924654774,0.0798780542946129,0.07616760940186308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050689368147689984,0.12796690730510693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053668016853726526,0.0,0.06383357725335981,0.10062031934963993,0.0477639089190327,0.04729459887013136,0.0,0.2197753066464516,0.05097517060131949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04232433295225428,0.0,0.0,0.026169154043239072,0.03881435294528042,0.05371424737594303,0.05041971287052963,0.0,0.04869178752528642,0.10090025657456396,0.20937011789682847,0.0,0.08409367569546686,0.04213970138539222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08096483863349725,0.21488179735179386,0.04505652225116498,0.2224938381209331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11153731954312963,0.07601514946495994,0.05060952117751425,0.07000820494760418,0.07061506370685475,0.0,0.09197792853202244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04996621501502331,0.0,0.06453326014558045,0.14486002897662362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05156476018624958,0.0,0.06602350706600273,0.12473244139891325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0484437855842778,0.0,0.04556320556531236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04763006081091151,0.0,0.061009563131525085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045294837579030835,0.07573417743100604,0.04767309898537707,0.09638224637177596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097756691570998,0.03938941916202275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040345877792176264,0.03665802762358211,0.0,0.053303528855381116,0.06740736299534082,0.0,0.07605427481282208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08975724768538698,0.0,0.1074065685439718,0.0,0.04161950969824612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031634735175105594,0.15255581498022774,0.04678363260029381,0.18901359001040213,0.08329787288154386,0.0,0.0,0.09100050246413112,0.0,0.12931574440824778,0.0,0.0,0.04957115840900087,0.0,0.08225190109757433,0.0,0.0,0.1966009044333406,0.03779629706009479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04296709399395336,0.10632575059755756,0.0,0.18360502962757827,0.0,0.06933174092952038,0.0,0.0,0.1353034994589402,0.0,0.0,0.12265559785064452
divorce,throwawaytoken12345,2020/03/29,"Date Attorney Anyone on here have experience with dating their attorney? I’m well into my divorce, attorney stuff has been done, I’ve done all the work on myself stuff, therapy etc, but kept thinking my attorney was worth a shot.

Thoughts?",4.975697674418607,7.701109302325584,5.616453488372091,73.9423546511628,72.25581395348838,9.881395348837213,31.68023255813953,10.125756701596842,3.979609302325581,192,9,31,6,4,62,35,43,0.0,0.899,0.10099999999999999,0.504,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,0,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,1,7,10,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,4,1,4,4,2,5,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,23,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17586699132519218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5147797689587391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805086692159934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460325274666381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5758550761144167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.287632356629329,0.0,0.0,0.16116235645291824,0.0,0.19967692199507592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22614457645112024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831078472268154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,DaliGoLightly,2020/03/29,"""Should I Stay or Should I Go Now...??"" Cheater or Not? So... advice needed. I'm a forty something. My marriage has been in trouble for a number of years (I never fully trusted him after he tried to connect with ex gf from HS when we were newly married, plus his tendency to be negative and neglectful, my building walls/indifference, she tried to connect again a few years ago on FB and he let her for awhile until I pushed back pretty hard). 

We have beautiful, sensitive children (the youngest in elementary, oldest in 9th gr), so I can't say I regret our union.

Even though we have good jobs, our finances are not great due to his huge credit card bills (50k+) and mine (15k).  We have debt consolidation which will take a few more years to pay off.

I've stayed because of that payment, and of course, the kids who I don't want to traumatize. We do have a lot of shared values and a lot of history being married 20+ years. We haven't been fighting as much lately, but that's because we've been more like partners/roommates and not making many demands on each other. We've talked about divorcing but decided to stay together for the kids and our finances and see what happens with us down the road (we do share a room and companionship but not much else).

Anyhoo. Just found out he's a having a long distance relationship with aforementioned ex gf from HS. Cheesy, vomitous love letters, probably virtual meetings/calls since he's been doing many extra hours  at work this last month.

He doesn't know I know, but I've made a couple subtle digs so he's not sure what to think. He's been extra nice lately.  I'm not feeling totally wrecked and devastated, but I am really sad. Maybe more for the kids and the loss of our family unit?  I'm guessing he has given himself permission to look elsewhere since we've grown apart. I value respect and loyalty and would never do that while still married and living together, and he knows that choosing that person would be hurtful since she's tried to break into our relationship before.

So, r/divorce should I stay so we can raise the kids with two parents for a few years and pay off that big debt?  

Or should I dump him and go my own way, no matter the financial and parenting consequences?  

I'm at that stage where I'm asking reddit for advice, but I'll take it. : /",4.7272477578475325,6.030802069506731,5.270288677130047,82.10144198430497,69.7847533632287,8.265582959641256,28.287275784753362,8.660442795831766,2.073937443946188,1817,64,347,30,32,583,243,446,0.11199999999999999,0.782,0.106,-0.5391,5,0,1,0,3,0,69.0,14,0,0,2,16,19,2,0,19,0,35,2,0,2,4,78,61,38,0,9,16,4,2,1,2,7,1,1,1,6,14,34,0,1,8,0,8,4,14,8,0,1,9,5,38,11,45,41,15,53,0,5,2,1,57,18,0,6,25,219,52,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819484682149137,0.0825257107877174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08703401101655056,0.0,0.0,0.07158657289823188,0.0,0.1135032859975976,0.0,0.07921949397100021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10301110508395556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07777138674809113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06149031446141496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08776445677923414,0.0,0.04707311813181868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10207709111022484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10581941485726012,0.07808613903094941,0.0,0.10264081272089227,0.10255788206664797,0.0,0.08232620505719752,0.0,0.08339747217120268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09168272239853947,0.0,0.09966327532265508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09238534488829828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15349258709326208,0.07588725056578934,0.21003707341547348,0.0,0.0,0.09519895605723053,0.0,0.04548295323246005,0.0,0.08220719082315772,0.08238875145771662,0.07817882625015755,0.0,0.0,0.1582970867776891,0.08402452989826564,0.08809152631032009,0.0621436010194871,0.18877340729626754,0.09352939868775996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07430989127109441,0.0,0.13687540271532375,0.06903094637177068,0.14360574855207212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067485004301916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08128953437633715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09471407909780637,0.1003753304734001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0596409272981884,0.0,0.0,0.19990470339699049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07403522232101943,0.0,0.0,0.07418700851209338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23103474576557026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07167134620124234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3969200879928562,0.07434813891470288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08774371113179671,0.0,0.13999613649790513,0.07482860148027191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05965340384776625,0.09146825800552263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896221800704433,0.0,0.09094316433318198,0.0,0.11198536465326643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05491157988175476,0.0738968151678845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0677764125489648,0.0,0.0,0.13226821764031546,0.0,0.0,0.29976012032555177
divorce,someonefun420,2020/03/30,"Hurt finally incoming I've been numb since we broke up. Saw her yesterday and for some stupid reason all of the emotions came flooding in and I can't stop thinking about her.

I've been trying to deal with the thoughts as they come up, but not too linger on them and now I am. 

Can't stop thinking about her. Don't even want to be with her. 

I suppose I still had hope that we would separate for a while and figure our own stuff out and hopefully get back together. I guess the reality that were never going to get back together is starting to hurt. 

We were married only two and a half months. Why did you even marry me?! Did you know you were going to blow up our marriage before we got married?
Did you know you weren't happy before we agreed to promise our lives to each other?

Why have you told me you miss me and still love me and then tell me to let go of hope for us.

Why do you send me kissy emojis still?!

Why oh why do I miss you so much and can't stop thinking about you after you caused me so much pain!!

Why!!",2.392170671085335,3.7560877089201923,3.4232311516155782,92.83595691797846,75.66666666666666,6.514112123722729,21.91908312620823,7.048011613610866,0.4011383043358188,794,20,180,8,17,255,115,213,0.111,0.7440000000000001,0.145,0.8998,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,9,11,2,0,14,14,1,0,5,0,22,3,0,2,2,43,47,15,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,20,0,3,8,0,0,6,7,8,0,2,15,1,39,6,26,29,6,29,0,5,1,1,32,6,0,5,17,129,43,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15562501563103748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17221853887384922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11573982268561595,0.0,0.1039548721971499,0.0,0.08717030714525853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10432733233283832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11383046079356635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13367634127169495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11085389007651407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10574014880550313,0.0,0.17253390640699773,0.0,0.0809346769927213,0.0,0.11147741366525453,0.0,0.0,0.1077236812397075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3015276267521224,0.0,0.0,0.21666212184759684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11122796402800134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034784766518057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08935680839914596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09133220274001368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077267511496136,0.0,0.14877955337629334,0.0,0.0780476210772588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07696315892311899,0.10767833692133166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10404504552224926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08370933371400363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07162615702135425,0.0,0.24244274754962375,0.2538099986969167,0.0,0.0,0.1158437653813703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08844866211438658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945245078176352,0.0,0.08033731910379406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09669590959920082,0.0,0.06870458509820866,0.0,0.09885255570906804,0.0,0.12172481108564474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05968727885305791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5478750719932322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07188583907706515,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,SyerenGM,2020/03/30,"Issues within a divorce and a question. So back story is my ex of 13 years decided on a divorce and had me sign papers, the person who served the papers was actually a friend of his. More to this is I learned after signing the papers and him filing them he was hiding a woman from me, one who I believe he considered to be in a relationship with before we signed the papers. A day ahead in fact he had a new FB with her as his relationship. Before bringing up this woman he made the divorce out like it was because he wasnt good enough, he'd be too busy to have any time with me, and he didn't feel he made me happy. Clearly this wasn't the case at all. Now she is moved in to our home after he pretty much forced me out asap.

For the most part I don't care anymore, and I moved on. Initially I got suicidal because before telling me any of the other things he was making me feel like I wasnt good enough, he went off on his own family, and me, then started leaving for nights, all of which I had an old post about on suicide watch in reddit.  He brought up the other girl after a thread of lies. He started out by saying he wanted to see me happy and do better, that he would help me as he could (which he didnt at all). Then he slowly brought up a woman he has been hanging with but it wasnt serious, then he wanted her over to our house that same night to see him since he was sick, to at the end of the night being angry she didn't stay over because \*she\* felt uncomfortable.. But fuck me right?

Now in the divorce, I still cared about him and didn't want to take anything.. I still don't want to do anything major but he has broken every promise he made to me within our personal divorce agreements. He was supposed to hold on to my dog and cat until I could safely come get them. He has instead put my dog at a friend of his house, and my cat to a place where she may get sheltered. If this is done I may want to at the very least get a little alimony so I can pay for them to be kept with someone until I find work where I am at and get my life sorted a little. The COVID virus isnt helping me with this much lol..

Anyway, California is a 50/50 state, and has the 6 month wait after signing the paperwork.. Would I be able to change the terms of divorce at this time? I really hate to do anything like this but he has literally kicked me when Im down in every way.",4.586990029081846,4.236413415662653,5.655835756820387,85.09897590361447,69.46184738955824,8.154106079490376,27.01177122282232,7.372421405659032,1.2413079074920377,1843,49,404,16,29,614,219,498,0.095,0.825,0.08,-0.8324,0,0,0,0,6,1,49.0,4,0,3,3,15,18,2,0,33,1,50,3,0,4,5,66,83,27,2,10,5,1,3,3,2,4,2,1,1,6,18,23,0,4,7,0,1,9,11,3,0,1,28,7,56,15,78,43,15,79,0,0,3,1,70,36,1,6,33,281,74,7,0.0806432698182614,0.0,0.07869619841109865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10968037770394497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07997645416669838,0.0,0.0,0.1990876194255816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062009696678269714,0.0,0.1474781663323297,0.0,0.20586444887358493,0.09085734952119852,0.0,0.07132241874844257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644423763438209,0.0,0.08530988655173724,0.0694670363053258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12877417789458775,0.0,0.0,0.05200823758152134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252606376933316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07142600086836685,0.1666521100542191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13589086587518506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07602329771743885,0.0,0.08155132055851022,0.057611568071453165,0.0774301855790143,0.0,0.07370648763787571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12460958043461738,0.07455340347864507,0.16853112020730054,0.0,0.0,0.13527949725907232,0.06449778977656158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17169252055409656,0.0,0.07961853331781465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10810696774401844,0.0,0.08089177487802975,0.0,0.0,0.1861030119952204,0.0,0.0,0.08710856985830172,0.08417062191100043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08538957876859589,0.0,0.0,0.056960726377461676,0.11819468455290873,0.16165148421007625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22891983532418905,0.05383000880894223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06436868858726408,0.17142206684616842,0.1185641644999446,0.0,0.0,0.07788577251049816,0.0,0.22703473739856506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08462154601613686,0.0,0.054645966693080916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873288025839022,0.0,0.0,0.14082918529876842,0.08425505291504475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07723396062716828,0.08204319718400263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08106875998793497,0.09033891827576716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05166214363451869,0.0,0.0,0.17316138376716486,0.0,0.06886891179745498,0.0,0.06413076494332459,0.0,0.0,0.12852449025162782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06670894613822204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06832878081971093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11415944289199455,0.08595499569779326,0.12880363889604374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17642129649768631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060633702724573066,0.0,0.07048577231715987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05357580512199324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09404747829405027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06653914324650713,0.2378274496694261,0.06401087394650035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07475711905187593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05870926088440233,0.0,0.0,0.11457333022089546,0.0,0.0,0.05193162176950142
divorce,Anon244,2020/03/30,"Hope or need to cope? This is all so fresh and I'm dying inside.

To put it very short -

Wife and I have fought a lot, and after our latest fight a week ago, she said she was filing (she always threatens, even has done it once and retracted it). Well she did it the next day and was immediately on dating apps. She met a guy on a dating app, met up with him, spent the night and had sex with him. She moved out 2 days later with the pets to live closer to him. She's spent every moment with him since.

I've literally lost everything and I now want to work to improve myself and our relationship and stop the stupid fighting. As sad as it may be, I want to forgive her and take her back, but she's not interested. She's literally choosing a guy she just met 5 days ago over her husband. 

I don't know if I need to keep trying and hoping she comes around, or if I need to start figuring out how I'm to cope with this loss. It's the greatest pain I've ever experienced and I'm lost and alone.",1.957010976639463,3.314517794258375,3.714753729242897,90.326805516465,76.79904306220095,6.6401350971010435,19.94962003940332,7.285733465282438,0.23741857585139314,765,16,177,9,17,257,119,209,0.14300000000000002,0.7609999999999999,0.096,-0.8372,0,1,0,0,3,0,23.0,2,0,0,4,9,14,4,0,10,0,11,2,0,1,2,47,35,22,1,9,7,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,2,8,22,0,2,4,0,2,3,2,9,1,0,14,2,27,5,25,19,3,31,0,4,0,1,33,9,0,8,19,111,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2475472235533832,0.0,0.0,0.14461461836344944,0.0,0.0,0.1161833845457451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12430034502478975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073668872131463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12027892170998394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701494868233984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14491394393469892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14289001648950098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09222432909122688,0.1263033713867744,0.11764433670283275,0.0,0.12549048275103172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765113980597473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27736828437142497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241096012926088,0.0,0.0,0.07673702213181073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12329588954854932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3048453809454554,0.11870847265164695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14840464236109335,0.0,0.3106017315782572,0.0,0.0,0.14849813894023542,0.1310333402113447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14870144291047865,0.0,0.0,0.14857621454562692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14036676320631725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14991041527797638,0.0,0.0,0.13282014955530627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11550341768790265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09883086586356132,0.0,0.0,0.1167369714231034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10498441809063096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09479963628410663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11520941192912898,0.16471483869583747,0.0,0.11200280126386526,0.0,0.12554418105231258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10165233712474747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,LucyMckonkey,2020/03/30,"Distraction My first post. My husband left a few weeks after our 20th wedding anniversary. Moved in with his gf a week late. This was all just a few weeks ago. Trying to sort out our finances to reduce the cost of the solicitor (UK) and I’m awaiting his offer. So tonight I’m reading your posts to stop me from contacting him. I know him dragging his feet is all about power, it puts him in control. So tonight I won’t chase him.   
All your posts are so familiar though I don’t suppose you’d need to be a psychologist to know that lying and infidelity would create feelings of betrayal, degradation and humiliation. I know I’ll get through. Thanks for being there.",2.49658482142857,5.125599953125004,3.647589285714286,85.19562500000002,80.71875,6.7821428571428575,26.330357142857146,7.957251820313856,1.814388839285714,526,22,101,10,14,170,90,128,0.147,0.815,0.038,-0.9337,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,3,0,3,7,3,0,1,6,0,9,1,1,1,3,18,18,7,0,2,1,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,2,4,1,2,2,2,2,0,1,1,1,19,1,16,12,5,19,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,1,10,67,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16270805446260053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20586953173519976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928095668078308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15612950741326784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958985099993319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3026266600068228,0.0,0.2070550090041541,0.0,0.19943012992266385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19508706488549524,0.0,0.13610171756963044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5273771445688158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18452077647792536,0.0,0.0,0.18360198926455776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15345795627567047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16899031283095692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18033921990014307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12461997482450325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4417037919411337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13039029990817488,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ethanwa79,2020/03/30,"How do I deal with the pain? I’m just now coming to terms that my wife doesn’t love me enough to want to stay in the marriage anymore. It’s been a long time coming (almost 2 years) but I have been holding on to any hope I could. Almost 16 years married with two kids. 

This week has been brutal though. I have been crying non-stop, feeling hopeless, and my kids are the only things keeping me alive I feel like. It’s so painful. 

We are separated but living in the same house and trapped in quarantine because of COVID-19. We can’t make plans to sell the house or anything because the future is so uncertain with the housing market, etc. Neither of us can afford to move out. We live in Florida and I have no friends or family here. 

I am in so much pain. When does it pass? How do I get through this? She was the love of my life and I feel so broken. I just want her to change her mind but I can’t.

I feel like I’m drowning, gasping for air, and there nothing to grab onto.",0.5188786052518282,2.748801757425741,1.9134352130865253,96.98698880757642,85.88118811881188,4.50314248816186,20.663796814464053,5.7926816847441245,-0.12238941024537242,753,24,169,5,23,241,121,202,0.18,0.688,0.132,-0.9457,1,2,0,0,0,1,26.0,4,0,0,1,13,12,1,1,9,0,20,6,0,3,0,39,36,18,1,4,7,1,5,2,1,0,4,0,0,2,7,14,0,2,4,0,1,4,5,6,0,1,5,5,24,6,24,30,6,23,0,1,0,2,15,9,0,6,11,114,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23527665255316996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07988980121422888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165076772883252,0.0,0.0,0.09667527089823097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14322831045836834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12427728680189565,0.20239564587766684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937974840066067,0.0,0.12904525021703206,0.0,0.12111577039078575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10280673237848734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213872911716321,0.13102022557957946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11074881887606552,0.0,0.2376038056967013,0.16785415284735522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090764043840013,0.0,0.06137796921211864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11668323149066588,0.0,0.40666524710005575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044208018999567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08297894669175307,0.1147886863166256,0.0,0.20747235545900905,0.10396528671701144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21205890822653312,0.0,0.07841819645651904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862037873227255,0.0,0.0,0.12486166742640667,0.08636063926219517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11272434326833455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08934813223195961,0.37501806398208903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12521706550285908,0.0,0.09821776913643776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780478789495335,0.0,0.11542259714823082,0.0,0.06850299481910828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147599883183567,0.0,0.14131286538868248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13858440734887506,0.0,0.09423462972409696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513053483858951
divorce,drjimenez,2020/03/30,"After my 3 divorces, After 3 divorces, I have a very positive outlook on living & thriving thru and afterwards (ps they hurt like hell every time). Here's a short video interview, made by the Museum of Broken Relationships in LA. Hope it can be helpful to you in these trying times. Good luck! https://vimeo.com/393580047 (Password: widgetwonder)",5.450788177339902,9.013804965517245,5.137980295566507,72.9836206896552,76.93103448275863,8.141871921182268,28.975369458128082,8.841846274778883,3.3303714285714285,280,12,39,7,7,86,53,58,0.153,0.594,0.253,0.7339,0,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,0,1,1,0,1,6,1,0,3,0,3,0,0,1,0,4,5,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,4,4,9,3,0,9,1,1,0,0,7,4,1,2,6,23,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3306586404030402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571243868529919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559675925420076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2045533937597265,0.0,0.0,0.3031091510661375,0.0,0.0,0.32669778485372664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14909383643618432,0.0,0.2694764651675884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28876540949305274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3276453817627664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3559017750852905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20719483008356854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518025961317504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,JuliaGoolia767,2020/03/30,Online divorce? Anyone divorce online without lawyers? How'd it go. Would u recommend it?,3.0530000000000013,4.53253946666667,3.965833333333337,73.30875,121.0,4.166666666666667,37.083333333333336,5.985473137389443,3.6213333333333337,72,5,8,1,4,23,12,15,0.0,0.7979999999999999,0.20199999999999999,0.466,0,0,0,0,2,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4665887926572781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3792396247848938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6432494129975861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4740278454246094,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,whowantsamuffin27,2020/03/30,Can’t afford to separate Long story short my husband of 6 years is a man child and I after wasting damn near all of my 20s hoping he’d grow up I’m over it. My family is well aware of my situation and still refuses to let me stay with them until it’s all figured out. I literally feel trapped and seems the only way out would be literal death. I work full time and still couldn’t afford to live on my own. No friends to try and room with I’m running out of options and trying not to let depression take over me again. I just want my independence and to find myself 🤕,3.6147500000000012,4.129155641666667,5.305,83.74500000000002,71.75,8.666666666666668,26.666666666666664,8.841846274778883,1.7656666666666667,447,14,98,8,8,153,83,120,0.12,0.7809999999999999,0.099,-0.5577,2,1,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,1,1,5,5,1,0,2,0,9,0,0,1,2,27,16,8,1,4,2,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,2,12,0,1,4,0,0,2,4,2,1,0,0,1,15,3,22,10,4,23,0,1,0,0,7,11,1,3,8,67,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18201079744249715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992149926799338,0.0,0.10685044069310252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193143915564121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16326637622586038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098898150173196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43218086296104813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18660065269096734,0.1870127739734542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16071943420429854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923790503192292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375340884023534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252404769704129,0.3375230587233285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588873806728104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12322319777255415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869466949831297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12464282678470005,0.16773707754804604,0.0,0.0,0.19000330190804926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15384448357924446,0.0,0.0,0.15011664730794494,0.0,0.0,0.13608404214613765
divorce,Just-that_Guy82,2020/03/30,"I miss her. I miss my STBXW she was my best friend for many years and through many dark and hard nights. I miss her until we spend too much time around each other and I’m reminded that EVERYTHING is my fault and she assumes ZERO responsibility for anything. 
I miss her and her friendship until she treats me like shit because I’m having a bad time in my head and tell her I just need a little personal space to work it all out. I miss her until my children tell me all she does is sit in room with the door closed and won’t come out for any reason but I ask that I take the rest of the day alone and bring the kids home and she acts like I’m a neglectful father. I don’t want to miss her anymore.........",2.7370024570024576,3.7714815945945968,3.6897051597051593,92.573230958231,74.27027027027026,6.733169533169535,21.562653562653566,6.980632752743323,0.2518297297297303,548,12,128,5,11,176,87,148,0.151,0.76,0.08800000000000001,-0.6597,0,2,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,2,3,15,1,0,7,0,6,2,2,1,2,26,21,13,0,2,2,1,1,2,1,1,0,0,3,3,4,17,0,1,2,0,1,3,2,10,0,1,1,1,29,5,16,19,6,21,0,7,0,0,21,9,1,1,10,81,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18780885158756885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12331433298887935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798360528444345,0.0,0.0,0.14922363513418396,0.16142700727787965,0.16952417926685076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15140753708368693,0.11054041505207862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903003807411094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15620444469708286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11694637202296572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15868788552901594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16297262142205135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400993287677771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16244095678946324,0.0,0.18610250015568103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18189425441798127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771826950707605,0.18174577230062672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3676913951859716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333024299128445,0.13445794800222474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.170171047873786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583351317166397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864430571777522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861382467441836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363417005785492,0.0,0.316990374411665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21147633328581772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10695635422260846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13201437664213625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167740927519891
divorce,throwaway111501,2020/03/30,"Stuck WFH with soon-to-be-ex... We can’t get through the day without some conflict or another and our son is home doing online school while we try to work. What terrible timing. I know this is temporary and it’s going to just straight suck for a while, but this morning has been so hard. 

Anyone else in this same situation? Surely there must be others.",2.406832298136649,4.802207115942032,3.3035610766045562,88.93434782608698,79.28985507246377,6.2616977225672885,22.900621118012424,7.447530270364453,0.9800708074534166,277,9,55,4,7,88,60,69,0.11199999999999999,0.79,0.09699999999999999,-0.0047,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,0,0,1,3,3,1,0,2,0,8,0,0,0,2,15,13,7,0,1,4,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,5,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,1,4,1,7,9,2,7,0,0,0,0,4,2,1,2,4,38,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30403567175650165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027383250294915,0.2970859051890326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18699241952309675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422142791561448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15148581935267316,0.0,0.16478408295198232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597363818498235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2908414014270462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15934779226293774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29344277135035884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32591360678944203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732724801617965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16907096196717494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19685560280478695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27949944494943063,0.0,0.21108553667059216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,blahhhhhhhhhpoo,2020/03/30,"Property division I am in middle of divorce and settlement process. I have two properties that my ex appraised few months ago. I have settlement scheduled in next few weeks and they are going to take the estimate based on last appraisals. I am planning on selling one property to pay her share and planning to keep another one.  However, I have option to delay the settlement if prices might significantly drop in next few months.  I don’t want to sell at too much loss as it will impact me significantly and I might not be able to afford a house anymore.  Any suggestions would be appreciated.",5.372500000000002,7.702931250000002,6.134444444444448,72.45500000000001,69.83333333333334,9.985185185185186,33.2962962962963,10.25414643259724,3.9796407407407415,477,23,80,14,9,156,75,108,0.076,0.861,0.064,-0.0772,2,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,0,0,1,3,1,2,0,0,3,0,13,0,0,0,0,13,17,6,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,2,0,0,4,1,2,1,0,3,0,0,11,1,14,11,4,18,0,1,0,0,6,7,0,4,9,57,13,1,0.20241509661398446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17942877012022915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764920680693302,0.21224987769715895,0.0,0.0,0.2007413852821024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11503716406345935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335598447214487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17991583828240806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16499531972346027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4294608602299229,0.0,0.0,0.3231315979292328,0.0,0.14879838619079716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4305415031963537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2743234160190212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15219096178412705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19773013732798253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11938966837724455,0.0,0.16236518101332698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14378987706173646,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,d-vorce,2020/03/30,"A few getting started questions. (Part 1) Background:

* Ohio
*   I haven't been served yet nor have filed, but she has an attorney on retainer who probably is working on such a filing (although she lied about that, I found the receipt in her purse) and I'm trying to do the same.

Questions

* My wife is right this moment going through all of the ""important papers"" she can find and destroying whatever SHE wants by ripping it up into a trash bag, regardless of whose name is on it.  She's one big trash bag into it. Can I call the police to stop this destruction?  I need a restraining order of some kind I assume.
* The two lawyers I've spoken to don't agree on whether I should move out right now. One of them says I should to prevent getting arrested (she threatens to call the police), and the other one says moving out would hurt my 50/50 coparenting effort.  Should I move out or not, because things are getting REALLY crazy here (e.g. she told me I'm in for the fight of my life). Eleven plus months of this seems evil.",2.809388191290409,5.133627101522844,3.4882019770237767,88.52120491584292,77.4771573604061,6.583916644402884,24.58161902217473,7.669130373188453,1.2912903553299495,797,28,156,12,19,251,126,197,0.21100000000000002,0.753,0.036000000000000004,-0.9919,1,0,0,0,1,0,33.0,0,0,1,2,5,6,4,0,13,0,16,1,0,0,1,34,28,9,0,7,4,1,0,0,0,4,1,2,0,0,11,9,0,4,6,0,0,4,4,5,0,5,3,2,21,1,28,21,5,26,0,1,0,0,21,15,0,6,6,112,32,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08894831049013315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2979906592925939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13336348784220806,0.0,0.0,0.1599880516973591,0.0,0.0,0.22870338881726496,0.0,0.08292674600457826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15620481609758474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15194781491027873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10306394163083586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11646780484239448,0.465253035256098,0.0,0.10819397865598272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966269434993433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580115139781539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15732083845901498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32691595042055466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09347676012394926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492208915538196,0.0,0.2320746182574999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13283535783878478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032792496435294,0.0,0.0,0.12199131019332145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09693931245411573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13942784874004388,0.0,0.09906657415526997,0.0,0.14253756174485185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08606433221553518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10622771551195934,0.0,0.0,0.10365369061558538,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,justasking40ish,2020/03/30,"Just would like advice on 20 years of marriage So here it goes.....

My husband and I have been married for almost 20 years. Together we have three children, 17,14, and 4. We have had our struggles, but we never wanted to end it. Well, he doesn’t want to, it’s me. Over the years he has been a workaholic. I noticed that anything he wants to do, he does it. Whether it be going out with the guys. I moved with him because his job transferred us three times and stayed home most of the time maintaining the home and raising our children. I have no friends and literally no one to talk to. I do own my own business, but it is not anything that could I support myself and I feel like I have given my life to him and been the supportive wife, while he goes and does what he wants. I also never felt like he truly loved me over the years. I used to think he would be better with someone else. I do think he does love me now as we have talked a lot.

  
Around April 2019 I told my husband I wasn’t happy. He was shocked. I had been fighting with myself in my head and trying to decide if I truly wanted to leave. I have also lost 20 pounds not because I wanted to and I'm already small as it is.  I mean 20 years is not anything to just throw away. Once I told him I wasn’t happy, he started to change. He started to ask me what I needed, and we would talk for hours, but for whatever reason, I feel like I don’t want to be here. I want to be on my own. I just want to have my own thoughts instead of thinking in the back of my mind what would my husband want or what would he want me to say. It feels like I am not my own person anymore.

As far as he knows, I am ok. I act like I am ok, even though I am mad once I start thinking about my life over the years. When I tell him how I feel, he doesn’t understand, because he feels like being a Mom is enough and that I shouldn’t have to be more. He tells me I am blessed and to be happy with my life. If you are wondering, we still have sex and act like everything is normal. I can’t have an orgasm and I am unsure why. This has been an issue for me for the past 4 months. For those, wondering we have talked about it, but he gets upset and I understand. So I decided to drop it.

  
Now I know that once I leave, it’s going to be hard to make it. He is a person that doesn’t give up. He will try to get custody of the kids because he already told me he would. I don’t want to hurt him, but I know I will. I am changing everything and breaking his heart. I am also scared to tell him. Not because he is abusive or anything. I am just scared to start the separation part.

For anyone that has experienced this, is this a phase? Will I eventually get over this and be content being a Mom and nothing more? This has been going on for a year now and he has done some major change like he has been helping around the house and helps me with our youngest. He doesn't work as much like he used to. 

I made an appointment to talk to a counselor and went to one session, but ended canceling the next appointment because he wanted to know what I was saying and when I told him something he didn’t like, he would get mad and honestly, it just wasn’t worth the fighting.  He wants to do marriage counseling together and we will once all this virus thing has settled. I'm really not sure if it will help. I feel extremely alone with this. I hate this so much. I just wish I could be happy with him, but I’m not.

  
I also want to apologize, I know that I am not the best at writing. Thank you for reading,",1.7625097817581086,3.2097953274932607,3.1515433440570386,93.78342926702022,77.5309973045822,6.080897313277108,22.479871315537785,6.6834051587181325,0.3521115729067037,2711,78,627,24,62,885,255,742,0.09300000000000001,0.735,0.172,0.996,1,1,1,0,5,0,85.0,12,2,0,4,31,41,5,4,26,2,91,9,3,6,4,139,163,55,0,31,27,6,8,11,1,13,3,2,2,6,36,44,0,0,25,1,1,8,24,12,1,4,26,11,105,29,77,111,17,58,1,2,0,4,95,17,0,11,41,433,141,5,0.0,0.05522353988026943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04554536005920539,0.0,0.0,0.0466717552642867,0.04827242728561569,0.10286744300855376,0.1490914423419508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0462231822988247,0.03258979934090046,0.0,0.15341954365663008,0.08298302667723452,0.0435727259265899,0.0,0.04379029046968064,0.03583911719667095,0.0,0.1704729282762871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048912823938263364,0.04122149697873348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479170768094004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07442630912088284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12236243420724748,0.04769675437302269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038935483727861236,0.0,0.08256272657782494,0.04815911722882758,0.0,0.030784524209249188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08377756373718093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14140017569529334,0.13318870116133644,0.04475154119724533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036009669424727636,0.0,0.09740422695072312,0.044711192156015454,0.07946618179663184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04614981703625854,0.0,0.19846277906682389,0.04175212833974986,0.0460163184059592,0.0478338445206223,0.0,0.0,0.05523138578239304,0.09372223606067913,0.0,0.09350440190481918,0.0,0.04590005778908103,0.05378003775889679,0.04989544351523133,0.0,0.0,0.048647243008401016,0.046251818862924864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807426949268752,0.0,0.0,0.09870350234867384,0.0,0.0,0.0987630446980434,0.2504765499855365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05087876540966832,0.03962494372361073,0.08413211730920847,0.044102160609886684,0.0311115857316808,0.0,0.0,0.05077040194315716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04706137413527252,0.10917479944560456,0.03720251989046408,0.049537539069662316,0.06852533094760263,0.0345596677847963,0.07189481272961581,0.0,0.049568748271533916,0.0,0.04566650755909006,0.04472218474936195,0.053064171553071734,0.0,0.1985464449277684,0.06316635331406212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050472544748734346,0.04449315870434994,0.0,0.08139361982080066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046621187938826684,0.0,0.029858646623530417,0.04792137774360712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07413001913687478,0.0933266290062928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03949129434399281,0.0358815581212569,0.0,0.0,0.13195915710217018,0.04967853947803761,0.037221668198956635,0.0,0.0,0.048725402392923535,0.0,0.0,0.10578171713885416,0.04392803034437445,0.0,0.0,0.1873110354037278,0.12221384670912952,0.042910913797239665,0.0,0.0,0.03096466619785919,0.11945957154393914,0.04579268828940167,0.03700200231887402,0.05435566979338249,0.0,0.0,0.17814596310303252,0.0,0.06328832591081905,0.0,0.0,0.09704234062207788,0.05606437695831472,0.08050968808583413,0.0,0.0,0.4123641767921205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041906706386687434,0.04320661597308791,0.04205698943425295,0.0,0.05359756104266018,0.0,0.101090022790016,0.03393159770290197,0.0,0.0,0.23176576088518056,0.0,0.0,0.21010075922912871
divorce,Seattlesbest94025,2020/03/30,"Custody Agreements 32F-breadwinner-Will be married 11 years this year-3 kids-Haven’t filed for divorce yet but it’ll be in the works later this year/ early next year. We’ve talked about getting divorced for years at this point. I’d like to have as many of my ducks in a row as I’ll be asking for the divorce. One area of contention that has come up- is custody. We weren’t able to come up with a custody agreement that suited either of us previous and it became a standstill. The custody agreement I believe is only needed for the 2 younger since my oldest is from a previous relationship.

Looking to see what other people’s custody agreements look like and why or why it doesn’t work for you.
- He has proposed I get them every other weekend which is BS and I don’t think any judge in their right mind will grant that *fingers crossed* Thanks!",4.32080206378987,6.126174579268298,4.223902439024393,87.24867729831148,71.5,6.021763602251407,29.688555347091928,6.297961479604792,1.4083166979362107,677,28,126,4,13,207,110,164,0.0,0.8370000000000001,0.163,0.9792,1,0,0,0,3,0,17.0,2,1,2,2,2,7,0,0,8,0,15,1,1,0,0,13,26,7,0,1,3,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,13,7,0,0,1,1,0,3,3,0,0,1,1,4,10,7,22,20,1,22,0,0,3,0,12,9,0,1,12,75,23,2,0.1569647052676764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106741382131114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467408107475896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17684547168209866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704223899665163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13224953402024406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16401516004612687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533700528005473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26362163970729824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15913757455675356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15848960671270074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11638734006342337,0.0,0.0,0.16693374477793038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10636334656787892,0.11937873145657897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10881956293306816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483823819543627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685213510563851,0.0,0.1340470006580169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12508054780943922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12984282622593024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12616228437679758,0.0,0.14451201173723946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10057664517851536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888092138826037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2832724644119176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285443497509711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5054006195118574
divorce,CaptainIronweed,2020/03/30,"Co-Parenting, Stay at home order and Significant Others - Do you/ Can you see your SO? - Please weigh in on this issue  What are people doing in areas with stay at home orders (or even just the social distancing orders) who don't live in the same house as their significant other and have split custody with their EX and are continuing to transition their children back and forth? Are you not seeing your SO until the social distance/ stay at home orders are lifted? What if your SO also has children that are transitioning with his/her EX? I can't find any discussion on this issue and am curious where people stand. The written orders don't seem to address this issue. It seems ridiculous that you can go to the liquor store/ weed shop but you cannot see your partner. Please let us know what you are doing and why. Also, for those of you currently drafting your parenting plan & separation agreements - You should consider adding a pandemic clause. We are in uncharted territory here",6.820166666666665,8.130720905555558,6.6488888888888935,74.11000000000001,64.94444444444444,9.555555555555557,29.44444444444445,9.725611199111238,2.828444444444445,793,26,132,16,12,250,110,180,0.01,0.909,0.081,0.8993,3,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,13,3,1,10,2,1,0,6,0,21,2,0,0,0,21,29,16,0,2,5,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,3,13,10,2,0,4,2,2,1,5,1,0,0,1,3,19,1,19,26,1,25,0,0,3,0,28,11,0,4,4,99,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20255810889895728,0.0,0.1372212864308533,0.0,0.08612387288746483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09738323930511893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364873139905385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11575248563495028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07197604929923067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3811098985841445,0.0,0.0,0.14613290439529747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3965577121856207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06960153156893728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12950449147074278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11183106289937893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14062580368241873,0.0,0.0,0.17560129012017373,0.0,0.0,0.27803936096713633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027622741572473,0.23058819319782484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582000457214509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4049645312218725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15233998672074167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11427864821707025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,wiserone29,2020/03/30,"Anyone else work in healthcare and have their ex refuse to let you see your kids? My ex said she wasn’t letting me see my daughter for the duration of the pandemic. I only found this out when I arrived to pick her up. I called the police and they took a domestic incident report. 

I brought it up to coworker who mentioned his ex did the same and now I’m finding out from a large messaging group I’m in that this is running rampant. 

I’m in NY. The courts are closed and there is literally nothing I can do to address this. 

Now I get to deal with this disaster without seeing my daughter on my days off for next few months.",3.835083114610676,4.834796952755909,4.872388451443573,85.26340332458443,71.5984251968504,8.164129483814524,30.646544181977248,8.515128840125781,2.2216218722659664,491,21,102,8,9,161,88,127,0.059000000000000004,0.941,0.0,-0.795,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,2,1,4,0,0,0,7,0,10,0,0,1,0,14,21,5,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,7,8,0,1,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,6,4,18,0,20,13,2,19,0,0,3,0,21,10,0,0,6,72,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14323071411219584,0.20988545873950284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091672052097529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13210653574238831,0.2111837339012213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17111971388073172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872224323755695,0.0,0.0,0.22459934630119985,0.0,0.0,0.10702180794182968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4189308897120181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.163503415131402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178524371480008,0.0,0.0,0.1965520066970648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557920336960578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19485222838133132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4896991117585448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275876742607117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974609639704082,0.0,0.1491278580489753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Altherraxx,2020/03/30,"Well this isn't something I can get over. Made the mistake of marrying and having kids in another country(Japan).. after the divorce my ex blocked me and made her entire family block me as well, It's been 2 years since the divorce and 1 year since iv'e seen my daughter.  
Most of the time i'm fine but when I come across an old picture of my daughter by chance I get hit with depression that feels no less worse than it did 1\~2 years ago.. talked to lawyers and tried to negotiate with her family by letting me video chat and sometimes visit my daughter.. nothing about the situation can be done so i'm just trying to get over it somehow.. because whenever I see an old picture of my daughter I think to myself ""I wonder what she looks like now."" and I spend hours trying to find recent pictures of her but in the end I can never find any, so i'm just left with my thoughts and it makes things worse.  


if anyone has a similar experience, is there a way to get over this type of situation.. will it pass? or is it something i'll have to live with.",5.110423260949574,5.4562439952153134,5.64172248803828,83.24898049319106,68.37799043062199,8.72741994847258,30.430990062569013,8.617729084823388,2.1416261317629743,821,30,169,12,13,265,124,209,0.09699999999999999,0.8540000000000001,0.049,-0.9046,0,0,2,0,2,0,25.0,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,0,10,0,15,0,0,3,1,33,34,15,0,2,6,5,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,11,12,0,2,6,2,1,3,3,2,2,0,7,4,22,4,29,23,2,25,0,1,3,0,15,7,0,5,15,112,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10898186414107952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08360569570481198,0.12891682487514666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08596485074369765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07494512665256146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590481215400298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10589092948122518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258137347746681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108891318921808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12026218986515733,0.23180010238830195,0.0,0.062163853130997634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22473599401914085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25693130982600304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12107443730141187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13357831237460555,0.1257179077450108,0.0,0.060063911993021885,0.0,0.1085612328108853,0.0,0.10324145214598754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23266394583445374,0.08206564256034468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482149277597778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11796746266203754,0.0,0.2580167346028902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139172873892297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979699345273788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034000235365813,0.27638695899178434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892955986675268,0.1215941194178522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09881720984345294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08167810056709103,0.07877713613898134,0.0,0.09760328909322064,0.07168925761070265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25041139869404283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09758671078642166,0.0,0.0,0.2210816778592665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13332682152961992,0.0,0.0,0.2505795593764657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375144647388733
divorce,emptyrollercoaster,2020/03/30,"How do you know it’s past the point of no return? I’m 24f my husbands 25m we have two kids and have been together since we were freshmen in high school. 

For the last at least 5 years things haven’t been good at all, we’ve been to two weekend long marriage seminars, we did counseling, I’ve been to personal counseling nothing changes long term. 

My issues with the relationship are in my opinion he doesn’t show any love for me, his love language is supposedly touch but the only time he really touches me is to try and have sex. He doesn’t do things for me, say nice things to me, buy me gifts ever there’s no signs of love. I’m extremely lonely and I feel starved for emotional connection.

His issues he says about me are basically that I’m crazy, clingy, dramatic and I yell when I’m upset. That’s all I can really get out of him as far as what he will say when I try and communicate. 

How do you know when to give up? At this point I just feel like I’m wasting more of my time and dragging something on that will never happen.  I feel like I’m holding up a dead relationship because I’m scared to leave. I still have a lot of love for him but I can’t remember our last “good” day.",1.9176444608023573,3.7026019514170088,3.5028064041221936,89.9462007729113,78.06882591093117,7.243945528156054,23.373021715126978,8.150884317080207,1.1556008097165993,930,30,208,17,22,308,133,247,0.127,0.742,0.131,0.2312,0,2,1,0,0,0,20.0,4,2,0,0,10,12,0,2,6,0,24,5,0,2,4,30,43,15,1,0,3,1,5,2,0,2,0,4,0,2,9,11,0,1,6,2,1,0,7,3,0,2,6,9,28,9,29,35,6,31,1,1,0,5,29,13,0,2,20,123,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07709407784198534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06910803599350324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11992823460661757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07311293415412919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275236588535972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10254778031485724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17196669049294366,0.16198013925474278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05923006271518017,0.10875284567726276,0.0,0.1901752767530896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10025088335190148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11977943909803368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366533235372543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12460809559060232,0.1848199828737847,0.0,0.12004026554776705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107716852936294,0.0,0.0,0.20065409564689385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963813573726032,0.4092759208165612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08743633413415566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10877958340779864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08622141695978912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10822251407172828,0.0,0.09898850096188284,0.0,0.0,0.21433866934039586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452527938440955,0.0,0.0,0.24342945345075234,0.1284237614179999,0.0,0.0,0.270464177172262,0.11350107201888818,0.11473439444476508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937791206412288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0872761687812831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09053577286345732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22594983954217854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13221149970899773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15393876139412227,0.0,0.22148798314909213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07300522800833648
divorce,no-guess-again,2020/03/30,"STBX asking about future relationships?!? STBX wants a divorce, I did not, but she is done. I’m coming to terms with it. We still live together. We had a decent marriage and a good friendship, but I will not stay in touch or be friends after DDay. I don’/won’t hate her, but no way I can heal if we are in touch. 

For now we are getting along and can keep it light and even laugh occasionally when in the house. While we are shelter in place during the COVID19 pandemic we’ll watch a movie or something and she might ask “would you date a virgin?” Or ask if I would try online dating.
I just say idk in a calm, non-reactive response. I am still not over her and want to present a strong confident front about the divorce, cause l have hope and want to handle this like an adult.
However, I am hurting inside and the idea of her dating someone else twists my stomach. I do not have any evidence that she is dating or seeing anyone else, but who knows.

If she is over me, fine, f@ck it, I get it, but why the hell would she ask about my future dating and relationship goals like she’s excited about it?!?",3.7805993150684927,4.966302273972605,4.4038327625570775,87.8682148972603,71.92237442922374,7.301484018264841,25.10302511415525,7.645422480735847,1.090034018264841,854,25,180,10,16,272,131,219,0.079,0.72,0.201,0.9838,1,0,1,0,2,0,33.0,6,1,0,2,10,13,2,0,13,0,23,3,1,1,0,45,39,22,0,10,17,0,2,2,1,6,1,1,0,1,8,16,0,1,2,0,0,2,5,3,0,0,3,6,29,10,19,29,1,27,1,1,2,1,29,8,1,9,17,123,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911509671084174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09372303186477528,0.1373385705665517,0.0,0.0,0.5012326633539892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376947502288753,0.0,0.11546254077420527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13716820969618312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22394440321190096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885313503536806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355802929716726,0.0,0.14005946110274808,0.0,0.0,0.1124253696352965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13233554558431335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13313075303803912,0.0,0.15466275627662804,0.14349128675414274,0.15131346789948072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11913982679584262,0.0,0.0,0.07366420833193943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130969155159215,0.0,0.11835869886344015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14219396411080035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400419968958765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2878149752330982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10659301815617972,0.0,0.0,0.1068115539789108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357062372391373,0.10318960175173107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428675055587798,0.2140870864640627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09100353340567832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371786366470576,0.10639374494912313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12094915097977085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28565191166617554,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Lyricaljesters,2020/03/30,"Opinion Is it okay to be no contact with my STBXH, who has absolutely no interest in the welfare of our 3 kids ever since we separated?",10.735555555555557,6.405002555555563,11.98444444444445,57.23000000000002,60.48148148148147,15.244444444444447,49.22222222222222,13.023866798666859,6.2494,107,6,20,3,1,39,26,27,0.139,0.6970000000000001,0.16399999999999998,0.19699999999999998,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,4,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,1,16,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7379530119594694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6748520964922221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Weible74,2020/03/30,"(Ex) Wife Has Given Up I put ex in parentheses since she’s not my ex yet. We are still living together, with our 3 young boys, during the divorce process. 

I am going to counseling and trying to be the best dad I can for my boys right now. Being active with them, cooking, cleaning, and giving them all I can. 

My wife on the other hand has checked out. She doesn’t clean anything. She rarely cooks.  She spends most of her time with the neighbor lady drinking.   

I am going to buy her out of our family home. She isn’t up to the task of maintaining it and all that comes with homeownership. I’m guessing this is why she has no interest in doing anything around the house. 

My question is should I just stand by and watch her give up? I know I can’t change who she is or what she does. It’s just hard to watch the woman I love degrading right before my eyes. 

Everyone keeps telling me that this is going to be the hardest time of my life. They also say it will pass and things will eventually get better.  Time will tell what happens next but for now I am worried about her. 

Thanks for your thoughts and support.",2.764132290184921,4.577181563063069,3.530806069227122,90.55931009957328,75.7117117117117,6.475486012328117,23.395922238027506,7.273561745256523,0.7884198198198198,865,26,182,10,19,274,131,222,0.036000000000000004,0.856,0.10800000000000001,0.9331,1,0,1,0,1,0,25.0,3,1,3,2,9,7,0,0,8,0,24,7,2,0,2,29,41,9,0,1,5,6,2,0,1,4,1,1,4,3,12,15,3,1,3,3,3,6,5,1,0,0,2,6,36,6,28,32,4,27,0,0,3,1,38,11,0,4,9,129,48,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11638097710081262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395189974239773,0.12955332077784756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12383604400340945,0.0,0.15272566025993475,0.12871022026710446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15395235441697025,0.1253619507170271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273550373272397,0.0,0.0,0.14256483977157644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390609744383868,0.0,0.0,0.13719354399849046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603386839785628,0.2792129259048756,0.2481256264930655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603186508758955,0.0,0.12869245991181005,0.0,0.1303670664362838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459793196171658,0.0,0.0,0.1679230744456452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129354516149295,0.0,0.0,0.0799799553395976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10279275110502968,0.0,0.0,0.12850641666431112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13134728411237334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15477372186859886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14629871137195533,0.16302787081544182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485651205484329,0.0,0.11573198198544625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12038463223633253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11622113372225187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16514669663984607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544007743942848,0.133985264279821,0.0,0.0,0.09668423756856666,0.0,0.0,0.11553524781604167,0.2545806464336419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09880590183952236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13131896633076376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14779365375680426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwawayRADadshome,2020/03/30,"Living together for the time being... So we’re finally to the point where I’m done. All of my needs should be meet because he pays 70% of the bills, and I only pay 30%. If I need anything out side of the bills, or him giving the youngest a tablet while I work, I’m shit out of luck. So anyways, I can not afford to live on my own yet. I’ve been working part time nights, so I can be home days and home schooling our 3 kids. Our schools are closed most likely until next year, so I couldn’t put the kids in school until August.. 

So how the hell do you live together for 5 months when you’re just done?? I’ve sat him down and told him I want a divorce. He doesn’t really believe me, but he’s also doing LESS than he was before. I honestly didn’t think it was possible to do. But he doesn’t want to “spoil me” anymore because I’m asking for a divorce. He’s not working right now due to Cornavirus, and I am still. So I have been work 40 hours a week, and I’m still doing everything. He has quite a saving so he’s still paying 70% of the bills, and doesn’t feel that since he’s around he should do more than sit in front of the TV. I worked 13 hours last night and got off at 7am to stay up with the kids until noon when my youngest napped. He stayed in his room and played on his phone refusing to “spoil me” and take the kids after he had already slept 10 hours.  If I ask for help he just refuses and won’t do it. There’s no way to motivate him to do it while still being a good parent. I would have to actually neglect my children before he’d step in. 
Since smothering someone with a pillow was still illegal the last time I checked, any suggestions?? I have tried talking to him until I’m blue in the face and he’s being petty. I think he’s hoping to “show me” I need him. It’s doing the opposite",2.966547452547452,3.4143745948051967,4.283701298701299,90.72467282717285,73.18181818181819,7.481518481518482,23.8986013986014,7.468242284971852,0.7649500499500506,1389,35,326,15,26,460,192,385,0.073,0.8490000000000001,0.078,-0.2598,2,0,0,0,2,0,42.0,2,1,0,7,24,11,3,0,21,0,39,3,3,2,1,48,61,33,0,12,9,1,1,1,0,4,0,0,4,5,5,17,0,3,4,4,7,3,9,4,0,0,13,2,37,7,45,37,6,62,1,1,1,0,46,20,2,6,36,196,42,12,0.0,0.0,0.08724325101789374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09865709876711386,0.07149457944258518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06079628315573851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08866255304909754,0.0,0.0,0.07357005593149178,0.07958654769137409,0.1671572112445531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10899700319937812,0.0,0.15214867766899698,0.10072520288325028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05765675874989925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18297814233250773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08034856450548647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04520423142398841,0.0,0.0,0.0979352914029806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08576234368272627,0.0,0.07498598010601759,0.07150277875153772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05992413556246566,0.0,0.17935457019412013,0.0887961501144609,0.26412826462520617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457487828658357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0436771989059466,0.0,0.2368302563862318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07135965611420585,0.0,0.0,0.1988708842147331,0.0,0.0,0.09507981827798093,0.16779504799943126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06799409015982262,0.0,0.0,0.09927010819463498,0.0968134268077296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08451358909274254,0.10078708575331892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08987349224151743,0.0,0.09508980872067656,0.0,0.0,0.057273076161619786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07634864047546139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714381543027156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09176965305559937,0.14790816965957196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07574984684342723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19058082645189012,0.3569819262908918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06721902015279857,0.07185777260336605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11457011473987452,0.0,0.0,0.15639270870898722,0.0,0.0,0.08542724190858449,0.0,0.060697947159722536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105462984537403,0.07096297986869071,0.07171272358557304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3254278407234065,0.0,0.0,0.06350846680166887,0.0,0.0,0.057571821832297775
divorce,Agitated_Rice,2020/03/31,"I'm Tired I've been going through this process for a while now and I'm so tired.  I'm tired of being the better person and trying to hold things together.  I'm tired of feeling alone.  I'm tired of feeling like weight of everything is on my shoulders, that I have to be strong all the time.  I miss the feeling of having someone to tell me that everything will be okay.  I don't miss him.  I miss the support and companionship.  Any feelings of love are long gone, but I'm tired.  I'm so so so tired.",0.8239073426573427,2.949602317307697,2.3934265734265767,94.74248251748254,83.51923076923076,5.320279720279721,21.954545454545453,6.574015621080383,0.3358000000000003,387,13,87,4,11,126,59,104,0.24,0.622,0.138,-0.9268,0,1,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,2,5,9,0,0,5,1,10,10,1,0,1,10,28,9,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,1,7,0,0,1,4,3,1,1,4,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,2,5,7,6,12,22,1,7,0,3,0,1,5,1,0,0,5,49,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348090530761475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07451098298451526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096905274052289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19694791233741515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216064235264335,0.07827643664521937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062270843203199526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05353009847913857,0.0,0.0,0.09696551489443164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988907060878247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09567181704865936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09283783902992583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124338112882592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957685283679583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07279307360888057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0638908271616255,0.8815377475128374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07439046391088801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133426071359571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Ratb33,2020/03/31,"Question about Custody even when its 50:50 - from an emotions point of view Hi all,

Whenever we can finalize the divorce and sell our home (curse you Covid19!), we will be moving on and we will (unless things change, which thy ALWAYS can) we will begin 50;50 custody of our 2 daughters - 9 and 11.

These girls are my world. I have spent 100% of the time with them since the Corona lockdown, and for a few years prior to that, I have been the one making them dinner, taking them places, etc. STBX does things with them on occasion but the lions share has been all me for a few years.

My question is an emotional one... since I love being with my kids, and they mean the world to me, I am wondering what people in a similar situation have to offer. I know I will cry hard and often. I am just wondering how hard it may be and how long its taken people to 'get used to it'

I can share more info if needed...

​

Thanks.",6.069668508287292,5.59666317679558,6.1375082872928175,83.29775414364642,66.40331491712708,9.007955801104972,28.044751381215463,8.238735603445708,1.6587233149171277,709,18,146,8,10,225,114,181,0.04,0.866,0.094,0.902,0,1,0,0,1,0,36.0,6,1,5,0,7,4,0,0,11,0,21,2,0,4,2,34,35,13,0,2,4,1,2,0,0,5,0,0,1,2,10,14,1,0,7,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,4,3,25,4,19,23,6,16,0,0,1,1,23,7,0,7,8,109,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11657796236344645,0.15180290004598487,0.1702420030804223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14821172295765886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15389794359331627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226061763140304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3151968551618024,0.0,0.0,0.156253277450489,0.09253753802944176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15347736138016324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07319868982231016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510117835694149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14053598958316407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07699763363704491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12398785545324792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12644955874710614,0.0,0.09352067708542527,0.0,0.0,0.15261460494404488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14890864885176788,0.0,0.103885528656623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18987653608838215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19426129710197151,0.0,0.1463791251539673,0.0,0.13244380517896442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3138976563909152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317913724534009,0.15748305098255225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053409623826122,0.0,0.0,0.12898917294934567,0.0,0.0,0.1861580810134762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08169591685795277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12100509126502874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3038741727740477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702420030804223,0.18044509140861192
divorce,sine_nomine999,2020/03/31,"Fizzled Marriage I’m 43 years old male and have been married for 10 years; together for 20. Two kids - a senior and a sophomore. We own a small house together. I’m laid-off while she is working in the medical field. We haven’t started an official divorce process yet. I hope it can be collaborative. I’m waiting out COVID-19 to see where we are at but starting to consider calling a family lawyer for advice as it becomes clear that we are done. No infidelity on my part and I don’t suspect her but have my paranoid moments when she gets nervous when I’m by her phone or closes a computer to fast. No abuse, no addiction, no passion, no sex, no chemistry, no talking, no communication. A path of no’s leading to the end of a long relationship. Emotionally, I’m a bit numb, sometimes angry, stressed a lot, sad, and nervous - especially when I’m around her. I’m not really looking for anything from this group; advise if you want or feel the need.  I don’t have my own support network, not many friends, estranged from my family. I’m talking with a therapist tomorrow and trying to get better at expressing my feelings so I thought I would give this a try. It’s a pretty lame divorce story when I read it. In a way, I’m a little jealous of some of the more dramatic stories on this site. It would be less confusing if I caught her cheating or she had a gambling problem but no, she’s a great person, she’s just not into me anymore.",3.1726884570082454,5.043216508833922,4.8532729681978815,81.26928518845705,74.72438162544171,7.684864546525326,32.28636631330978,8.472884824447931,2.706319316843345,1124,58,215,21,24,380,166,283,0.244,0.667,0.08900000000000001,-0.9933,0,0,0,0,3,0,39.0,4,1,0,3,9,16,2,4,21,0,17,5,0,1,1,42,42,20,0,8,12,0,2,0,1,2,3,0,0,3,9,14,0,1,4,1,1,2,16,10,0,1,5,4,27,6,27,33,8,34,0,2,2,2,30,14,0,9,17,144,36,7,0.0,0.1580833784477181,0.0,0.14544978954992058,0.0,0.13037853796383295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13231887771493073,0.0,0.0,0.10979502506417801,0.11877396160583062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473542338041023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11800101046037473,0.14566238389716016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136238887868541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13653713776092713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15008191129822462,0.11817238427286145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515569748364311,0.0,0.13492445151395366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10308158824639747,0.0,0.1394150873417666,0.12799064177654004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14709834305571398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13251825629299965,0.0,0.15395119690633588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337240016108178,0.0,0.11807436539707285,0.11204096595289274,0.0,0.0,0.11343070343209093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13526907421208595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13440873523223631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09893080112749757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14000405639413754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14448313907497795,0.0,0.0,0.11649903676274932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13573824807117169,0.0,0.1276669365399339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334582120703374,0.0,0.0854736176702552,0.0,0.0,0.14324541017958936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063201443860724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319578745802931,0.0,0.1888737069106053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15283457181266344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15140582493957075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144792699733537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15491334875221854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10592224889204924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811697040424081,0.0,0.1303340107217565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07869581505694244,0.10590425757684577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971328823294079,0.0,0.0,0.1895584722885057,0.0,0.0,0.17183892389462674
divorce,SkipjackFeedback,2020/03/31,"Anger consuming me Despite my best and repeated efforts, we are cruising fast toward a divorce.  I have resolved that I will file if things do not improve over the next year, after years of my husband being emotionally abusive in myriad ways.  There are legitimate logistical reasons for me giving it a year, but I don't want to give any identifying details.  I am just so angry today, because I feel gaslighted, constantly criticized, and unfairly targeted for things that are outside my control.  When I discuss what the problems are and how to solve them with my family, my best friend, and my therapist, I resoundingly hear the same sentiments and advice over and over.  He is the only one who cannot see the problems clearly, or his role in them.  I think my anger stems in large part from frustration that I just cannot get through to someone I love, and fear that I will never get through to him.  I am angry at myself for accepting his treatment in the first place and letting it go on for so long, and fearful about the effort it is going to take to extract myself from this.  No one WANTS a divorce, but I want my dignity and to be respected more than I want this.  Mostly, I have really important things I need to focus on, and my anger is a massive distraction.",10.305941422594143,7.661529071129709,9.974514644351467,66.11875941422596,59.543933054393314,13.242008368200835,43.146861924686185,11.602472056035307,4.990536066945609,1004,46,176,22,10,329,141,239,0.24100000000000002,0.6459999999999999,0.113,-0.9897,0,0,0,0,2,0,25.0,1,0,2,7,8,16,4,3,11,0,20,1,0,3,2,38,37,19,0,8,7,1,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,14,13,0,1,5,1,0,3,6,9,0,3,0,3,35,7,32,32,6,29,0,0,1,1,18,12,0,3,13,146,49,0,0.0,0.15378582472513638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12683415033324766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08826503591494568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07912181388926304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724236434422691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14026226073193254,0.14557610454355724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14600188034920755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12235915382266226,0.2921108708550044,0.06562824079105313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104035420003911,0.0,0.0,0.10027927805004466,0.0,0.13562503785349725,0.2490223399320174,0.1475309542735893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14628837344335555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327241589071131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11486447114040695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11714503519984625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09624133157770502,0.10010588865775966,0.0,0.13803843161915993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17590487245735398,0.09871492957204442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14055531277040972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356081265809607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483925295462812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08314998651175984,0.13345085473049292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034297928717106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10997486367808733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09758967028881936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15070197343151792,0.25869004806106405,0.08316738102549577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12303046263717678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30622576363905873,0.10302521209555787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507511310534929
divorce,Hdiaz0814,2020/03/31,"Scared I'm currently 22 F, husband is 29. We married when I was 19 and he was 26, started living together when I was 17. (My situation at home was not safe) I was  aware that he had a history with drugs, and I believed him when he told me that he wasn't into that anymore. A year after we married, I found out he was using again. I've gained so much weight, I've lost who I am. I've never been alone and im so scared as to what is going to happen. We tried marriage counseling. He's always said that all he ever wants to do is make me happy, but I don't feel that way. He was scared to get married, too scared to purchase a house, when we did decide to ttc- I had to beg him. (I'm now glad that we did not conceive, and personally it was very immature of me to force him into that). I guess now as I'm getting older, I don't see him as the same smart guy I had married. He has no dreams or goals. How do you guys cope with being scared of being alone? What if I can't find love, or the divorce is a mistake?",0.7748844963086441,2.11524622171946,3.1490307216003828,93.20270302452968,79.99547511312218,5.919599904739224,21.133841390807333,6.5966054737557815,0.17780904977375567,769,21,185,7,19,266,120,221,0.141,0.777,0.08199999999999999,-0.9467,1,2,1,0,1,0,30.0,5,1,0,3,12,12,0,5,6,0,28,3,0,3,3,35,47,18,0,3,6,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,3,11,14,1,1,4,1,1,1,8,7,0,0,19,4,26,5,20,26,3,20,0,1,1,1,29,4,0,4,14,118,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613237409431913,0.0,0.0,0.10497374687471142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251150563152576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421371142349694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14630348472108562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11411733432638653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06378938758021492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11530632919022993,0.0,0.0,0.13832597852679096,0.0,0.0,0.1318249278197547,0.0,0.07169862477496054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13897750453317215,0.2498329483289227,0.1115612989072863,0.1342977730249198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12654698279334387,0.0,0.0,0.14556964964768646,0.0,0.0,0.13627252842000928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11140002118862176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13771660199266053,0.0,0.11386272073408416,0.0,0.08421159269631642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09274080898524552,0.0,0.09730099807158342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11015649313960234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200053588883906,0.0,0.6315319425839475,0.0,0.10053176902670144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418071271426105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892954387336273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12054958733627935,0.0,0.08565315136937078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089601976521539,0.0,0.10409374535539516,0.07441138787344352,0.10013852429506713,0.0,0.15362672694811774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08124175858923377
divorce,chrisleb20,2020/03/31,"Text message downloads Hello there-
I’m 29F and the petitioner in my case (involves a 3yo and 4 month old children). I’m divorcing my alcoholic, emotionally and financially abusive husband (that’s been a difficult sentence to come to terms with TBH). 
My attorney has tasked me with giving her a downloaded copy of my texts with STBX. She wants to use them as evidence for threats and such. She said it’s an app. I have an iPhone but I can’t figure out which app, and I’ve googled how to do it and am at a dead end. 
Has anyone else had to do this? How? Thanks! 
Hang in there everyone.",0.38860153256704777,2.8233401206896573,2.1819540229885064,90.89733716475095,96.06896551724137,6.026053639846745,22.82375478927203,7.3871296695380915,1.3169938697318009,458,19,95,10,18,150,85,116,0.111,0.831,0.057999999999999996,-0.7993,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,1,0,5,3,1,0,7,0,9,1,0,3,0,17,17,10,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,5,11,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,3,1,11,1,15,14,1,10,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,0,4,59,16,0,0.0,0.3167493865674673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2857008293218004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869275126507285,0.2739172738676705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23028625004786346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22332488307063386,0.3007169621840271,0.23678030287050836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554509573937916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.256453003896949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133850053730204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28052410958857704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542977085015635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461270257537648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23089242711727515,0.0,0.0,0.15768167020138218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,soritong,2020/03/31,"struggling after infidelity About 2 years ago, I found out that my wife was having an affair. I was completely devastated and heartbroken. I could probably get over a small fling, maybe just a drunk one-nighter or something along those lines. But the more I prodded when finding out the texts on her phone, I found out that it was a 3 month long affair she was having with someone behind my back at work.

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She (along with her mother) convinced me to stay and give it a try, and I did. We went to marriage counseling. I let all my feelings out. She said that she felt lonely and that I didn't care anymore which I still struggle with, because I was working so hard to provide for our family and for our life. Our marriage was a little shaky but I tried to fix it before I found out - we went on a vacation together, I got a vasectomy (on her urging, although I kind of wanted one myself) only to find out that she was texting this person throughout our vacation and while I was recovering from surgery. 

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I've been struggling with myself for 2 years since. I've had my good days and my bad days, but they were mostly good at the start because I was so focused on fixing this. But I'm getting tired of constantly fighting myself to get over this and I have more bad days than good days. She recently left town for a few weeks for some family issues and I had a mental breakdown because I just spiraled out of control with the bad thoughts being all on my own. 

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She tells me that she loves me more than ever before and she appreciates me more, but it seems like a hollow sentiment, just like it's lip service. It hurts to think that I gave her everything I had and more and she decided to throw it away and she needed to essentially break me in order to realize how much she didn't want me to leave.  

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We had a talk a few nights ago and I let her know my true feelings. How it's different now and I don't know how to fix it. I appreciate all the little things she does for me to provide for our family but it doesn't fix what she did, it doesn't fix the anger and resentment I still feel every day that fills me up inside. 

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She said she understands if I want to get a divorce - I'm leaning towards it, but I still love her but I'm not ""in love"" with her anymore I don't think. I could see myself living my life without her as my partner but as a friend that I care for. I'm worried about what will happen if I make this decision. Very few of our friends and family know about what actually happened because I didn't want people to think differently or less or her, but I'm scared of the reactions if I chose to leave.

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We have a small child (5) and I agreed that if we do this amicably that I'll give her everything she'd need for him and we'd do 50/50. She hasn't worked for about a year but she's held jobs before, but even when she worked I make about 4X more than she does. She seems remorseful for what she did but it's not enough for me. She keeps asking me what she can do to fix it but if I knew, I would just tell her and get on with my life happily. She asked me if there's anyone else and there isn't - I spend my days working from home and then spending time as a family, there's no room to fit anyone else in, and honestly I don't \*want\* anyone else, but I told her I want to feel happy and not guarded all the time. I'm scared of what the future holds if I do make this plunge. 

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Just looking for some advice for anyone who has been in a similar situation - after infidelity and giving it a try and getting to the point where you realize that it might not be fixable given your best effort.",4.28468456375839,5.0146665221476505,5.077912751677854,85.19498993288592,70.35570469798657,8.161342281879195,27.248993288590608,8.302211771458257,1.6273404026845633,2889,92,605,41,50,938,289,745,0.1,0.778,0.122,0.986,3,2,1,0,3,0,93.0,12,2,1,8,28,32,3,6,30,0,50,9,1,7,6,140,117,64,0,18,35,2,6,2,3,3,4,2,2,3,44,47,1,5,25,1,2,4,16,14,0,1,37,10,122,18,90,69,21,74,0,2,2,3,84,34,0,17,35,438,166,7,0.0,0.0,0.04292047856052104,0.0,0.0,0.04297909294578103,0.07797548897575657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3335843895953628,0.3741040168789359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08723744617183853,0.1230140688874687,0.13519550139731906,0.0,0.0,0.0822352149622076,0.0,0.04132291328408897,0.03381975127846499,0.11017040235342516,0.10724505298456716,0.0,0.11227735065542956,0.0,0.046156816052184274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08968597760512284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046114710349764776,0.04752935013909156,0.04933000230161338,0.07023273618124212,0.0,0.0,0.17019005932871273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09190449514129864,0.0,0.0,0.07697859051619432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11022495629763752,0.0,0.0,0.045445577175675454,0.0,0.029049960864532688,0.03978459948691966,0.037057069547999616,0.0,0.07905709152262244,0.0,0.20731346530465075,0.0,0.08895529329965894,0.0,0.042230002048136456,0.0,0.08039823489076182,0.0,0.0,0.14467329665933545,0.06796138737910418,0.0,0.1378739344024888,0.12657577945758305,0.0,0.11067105296729073,0.03517674372076771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07778698339680107,0.04682008341081849,0.03939959201696109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04411793402316777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04708406963134036,0.0,0.0,0.04590619936028981,0.04364574611413792,0.039093578624970614,0.0,0.04580090215077691,0.07251473158188389,0.0,0.0,0.09314202360028022,0.04778700706790392,0.08994996926035483,0.09319821101793238,0.0429751587052115,0.08816384021590151,0.0388372656265149,0.03892304058757458,0.03693413935014568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11908750149929903,0.0,0.08807578201913588,0.0,0.04418623315494069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04432391514993775,0.046658376677745854,0.0,0.0,0.035106332634346045,0.0,0.032332125205607624,0.06522478566278739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08254900724348384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05960722599628261,0.03345059766684125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030491858755255417,0.038403735824289666,0.0,0.0,0.041577585044185975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04742046690697165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04342731462996683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08367466989727489,0.0,0.08806811181564435,0.0,0.035048278949449924,0.08007985149546311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03638269637325598,0.0494380611943102,0.0,0.0,0.03726614539775966,0.03385980085629495,0.0,0.0,0.03113096960243924,0.04687938711784731,0.10537320607678312,0.0,0.0,0.13793986449182402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035351387671202224,0.07688511365585272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029219952698208894,0.08454643934051677,0.0,0.03491711328608689,0.05129298310833743,0.05055129954967948,0.0,0.04202706870781127,0.0,0.08958348901517378,0.0,0.0,0.045787230267262405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03629008679972496,0.15565175691943564,0.0,0.03528002887627225,0.0,0.0,0.08154425220773676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04239746477388657,0.0,0.16009855774288909,0.04466626288288892,0.0,0.0312438355514001,0.0,0.3741040168789359,0.08496967212294047
divorce,daydreaming96,2020/03/31,"Divorcee at 24. Questions Child support? Hi All, I am recently islamically Divorced my husband and I met online 5 years ago were friends for a long time then fell in love long story short we met up, got married a year later I got pregnant. He turned out to be abusive,controlling and a jerk all round. I am now single and pregnant with my first. I asked him for a divorce because he was physically and mentally abusive while we were away visiting his family in his
 Country anyway I returned home without him because we were still in the process of doing his visa stuff. He has decided to agree to the divorce and not have anything to do with our child he said he doesn’t want to see the child or pay for it. I am worried and not sure what to do? Am I able to try and collect child support he is in Saudi Arabia but his passport is Yemeni. Please any advice would help I am stressed out.",2.802954545454547,4.895214295454547,3.8522727272727297,87.03590909090912,76.5,6.218181818181819,29.181818181818183,7.1686216300943375,1.656529545454546,700,32,137,8,16,226,111,176,0.066,0.831,0.10300000000000001,0.7528,0,0,0,0,4,0,13.0,4,0,0,1,3,7,1,1,7,0,19,1,0,0,3,26,31,11,0,2,5,1,1,0,1,1,0,1,1,4,3,14,0,0,2,0,2,2,4,2,0,1,9,3,21,5,23,20,3,26,1,0,2,1,34,10,0,2,14,93,24,1,0.1548545996687507,0.183477378595942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15132212257651728,0.13726925921445698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10530643796524036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12743214106038048,0.0,0.14476814685591188,0.0,0.14549099389049644,0.0,0.0,0.18879585329928206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17368260108238004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459831348612601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13171924337073046,0.0,0.0,0.1196402795706336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24770273918399535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10379577396309646,0.0,0.15533178954005442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740828954335526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397623221282762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15605701427555213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16998384847276402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17347259176901653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15290023537478833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473021856314906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12339906684338832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236670833293054,0.0,0.17738542072147565,0.0,0.1772714679823466,0.0,0.3514543291881364,0.14594862755888754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09029696237455133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10513610825219394,0.16843733682190373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913372550289602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14927430808139988,0.0,0.0,0.15726236278476294,0.0,0.11000426460916317,0.0,0.0,0.1994425701583859
divorce,MaineEack,2020/03/31,"What happens after you file for default? So I began the process of divorce about a year and a half ago. We supposedly agreed on what we were going to do and who got what. I stayed in my current state and my ex moved to the other side of the country.

When I began the process he would refuse to give me his address, saying he knew what it was but wanted to speak to our child first. Now for some clarification he was MIA for 8 straight months, and now only texts me on our child’s birthday and Christmas. Says he will send stuff every now and then but never does (I have provided my correct address btw)

Long story short I had to pay a server to locate him to deliver the papers, and with no response I filed for default in November. I was told I would receive paperwork if more information was needed or for my court date. To date I haven’t received anything, and with COVID I suppose the process would be delayed. Has anyone been through this before? Is this a normal time frame?  I’m super anxious to move forward in my life, and just hoping for some or any advice. Thanks for reading",4.0975,5.506466915887857,4.679521028037385,85.33507593457945,71.42990654205606,6.658411214953272,28.328271028037385,6.9077264865688965,1.3971411214953275,856,32,166,7,16,273,136,214,0.068,0.853,0.08,0.6799,1,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,4,1,0,2,7,3,0,0,10,0,17,1,0,0,2,35,30,17,0,8,6,1,0,0,0,4,1,3,2,2,10,13,0,2,3,1,1,7,3,0,0,2,12,3,24,3,29,13,3,36,0,0,0,0,26,9,0,6,20,118,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16827438933114344,0.15264721624936914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11710367419858457,0.0,0.0,0.19453992433896405,0.0,0.12040806298129425,0.0,0.14170806854267154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14653173068043004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150695657153885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14508811892465662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14647544499094656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16519242677060034,0.0978667069263341,0.0,0.13772615154390747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15227819192835493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17103603860873434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12163179017902084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15239388355747907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374504737257484,0.3660482264309283,0.0,0.1276860471497884,0.13281326234358998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16872198753951392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13096783829873807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722492021163177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738848410715849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835450610701732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971307797739938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585410194471041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10041272183683222,0.0,0.0,0.16454696545379674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10156955606678963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3669833624274255,0.0,0.0,0.11089282957640803
divorce,APirateLooksat46,2020/03/31,"Its My fault. For allowing it. For hoping for change. Feeling pretty stupid right now. ​

Getting Divorced this year and I am needing a place to vent/rant/rage.   In one of those situations where you dedicate your everything (and I mean everything) to a person. Build them up.  Build their career - credit- green card to citizenship - life - home etc....... To be lied to over and over again and cheated on repeatedly.   Then ultimately - he put his hands around my neck and choked me until I blacked out.  He was taken from our home by the police that night.   Now I begin the fight to keep my home.  It absolutely sucks that at this age - I don't know what is going to happen and the stress is killing me.",3.2394539048737485,5.769913603053436,3.743053435114508,86.1748620082208,77.09160305343511,6.778860833822668,23.817381092190253,7.882392219407189,1.3003958896065768,546,18,105,9,13,171,97,131,0.19,0.741,0.069,-0.9558,0,0,0,0,2,0,33.0,1,2,2,0,5,9,5,1,5,0,6,3,2,1,0,15,18,8,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,9,8,0,1,3,0,1,2,1,7,0,1,2,4,16,2,22,15,1,23,0,0,2,0,11,11,1,1,10,71,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18134222789762008,0.2033693961775787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489922398358393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17705224362344182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18665860428617084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3008375897818808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846258555658853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08744242361340622,0.0,0.095118603495738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14800221049619866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5036486676424684,0.16623333563426906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14876360542708827,0.18516694457250965,0.0,0.09198060394338144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11821636168082772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18231188245998364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12410061472611734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15706272454325246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11341230658083468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461385323123526,0.17486304059463909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702725524861492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682502043292414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14293062436848378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18812767946224665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19171849512176514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033693961775787,0.10777895178324982
divorce,jones2b3,2020/03/31,"Don't complain, you have hope! You could always have HSV2 and be on the cusp of separation/divorce.

Regardless, as soon as this ridiculous ""pandemic"" is over I am out of here despite never being able to find someone because who wants the BS of dating someone with HSV2. So cheer up folks, you at least have options when the time comes.",6.256904761904764,7.05334512698413,5.91123015873016,80.73446428571428,65.98412698412699,8.204761904761906,33.21031746031745,8.07648339933343,2.453003174603175,265,11,48,3,4,82,52,63,0.042,0.826,0.131,0.7202,0,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,0,3,0,0,4,4,1,0,3,0,9,0,0,0,1,11,12,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,4,2,12,9,1,11,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,2,5,37,6,0,0.3258224229732473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.271110357003847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198618324870098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2806671671024729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601426923322832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29779579182666266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3236151834080629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25129433891220365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5521365633030115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189989675030218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921785068375122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,chubzillion,2020/03/31,Can I get a mutual divorce with property? My wife said I can keep the house. I offered her 5000 to get her own place. How can I keep this house with no strings attached to her. We bought it while married. I'm pretty sure I only put my name on it cause she really didn't want it.,0.4475000000000016,2.309934083333335,2.4700000000000024,95.165,83.16666666666666,6.0,20.0,7.1686216300943375,0.28200000000000003,215,6,51,3,6,72,43,60,0.065,0.8390000000000001,0.096,0.4214,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,2,1,10,12,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,3,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,3,1,12,1,5,9,1,4,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,0,1,31,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498870431716853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541784966021595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5613608186297412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4324275107440748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850042793566918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25414680273576873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474749647544438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2445356740023851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15583360490471534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313885712735639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22926234438010185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14347646543461795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,throwwawayyyy8675309,2020/03/31,Leaving a mentally ill person My STBX is suffering from depression and anxiety and drinks to mask their pain. They refuse treatment or even therapy sessions. Am I wrong for wanting a divorce or should I continue to try and help?,6.655772357723577,8.565308073170732,6.7204878048780525,71.22186991869921,65.82926829268294,11.320325203252034,40.495934959349604,11.20814326018867,5.4086032520325205,185,11,29,6,3,59,35,41,0.386,0.562,0.052000000000000005,-0.9451,0,0,1,0,1,0,3.0,0,0,2,0,1,4,0,0,2,0,3,3,0,0,0,8,4,5,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,3,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,0,4,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,6,0,0,2,1,20,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23590708384918366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26560412108720843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3020914487163984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036796882163552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20669818477648572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32652605652745426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31077085646919783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3281342065940641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692623572028492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35265526163092925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093673171888384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18188837653125786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3371611578108611,0.0,0.0
divorce,InterestingShame2,2020/03/31,"Refinance in only spouse’s name? Not divorced, but potentially heading down that road.  Spouse wants to refinance in only their name as I’m on leave from work currently. We’re in TX, if we split does that put me in bad spot or can I claim community property if I’m still on title? TIA",2.8621052631578934,4.8137587192982485,4.589333333333332,82.46400000000001,75.84210526315789,8.770526315789473,25.43508771929825,9.3871,2.2493256140350883,225,8,46,6,5,76,43,57,0.094,0.746,0.16,0.7359,1,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,1,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,9,4,5,0,3,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,10,4,0,11,0,0,0,0,7,8,0,3,2,23,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28677037898219226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3005595754977888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.352483671071671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3636690005179541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5224256441940462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3452668972397486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.274283415470056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20257851640515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500391562398791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,DutchWaifu,2020/03/31,"Nothing hurts as much as being given up on Yesterday it was the final conversation. We're done. He's given up because he doesn't feel it anymore. I've been crying constantly with every thought of it. I was so ready to work and fight for us. But he just gave up. Nothing I could say or do to convince him otherwise. I so fucking hate this, it hurts so much. I'm at my parents place because I need to mourn and cry, and after that make the decisions on what the hell I'm going to do now.

Everything I believed in, dreamed of is gone.and I love that fucking bastard so much it is torture for myself. I just want to make this sadness and pain stop.",0.9893181818181844,3.3318895984848496,2.770787878787882,90.87118181818184,84.83333333333334,5.3381818181818215,25.46666666666667,6.742157984588678,1.0612084848484855,505,22,104,6,15,167,84,132,0.239,0.659,0.102,-0.9726,1,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,1,0,0,1,7,14,7,0,3,0,11,4,0,2,0,18,27,12,1,3,4,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,10,5,0,1,3,1,0,1,1,12,0,0,8,2,11,2,20,17,3,15,1,4,0,3,11,8,4,1,6,71,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510127775749271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18564703625629292,0.0,0.0,0.1715582524538245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645517950330021,0.0,0.1215766970817198,0.0,0.3345269963609213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15582698985574495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12829561723316854,0.0,0.1368521374904759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07699323232544537,0.0,0.0,0.16680638971882744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815457787990403,0.0,0.0,0.08653961237316636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503369458929017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32602037068138223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13743130704402212,0.0,0.20328531020336296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3358120334642679,0.11290766158221685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2922179305855328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16202800479421545,0.0,0.16907989058620898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15909169389909486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12109270213343355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273061009344548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12088685521224135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831643099072848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08981389368246327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11085573432707012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,SunRiseSetStare,2020/03/31,Indifferent Husband My husband has stopped being affectionate and loving. He went almost 3 months and didn’t have sex with me. He says he is impotent from taking Blood pressure medication. Over the years I’ve found multiple porn videos on his phone (he even watched on my phone and his work phone —so it’s definitely a problem). He will be cold for a while and then for 1-2 be loving then back to his indifference. Why do men stay with women they really don’t care for? I guess because he pays child support to his ex. I imagine in a few years when that’s over we will be over. I’m really sick of the sexless marriage. I never imagined this. It’s awful and I feel lonely. I Refuse to live the rest of my life this way.,1.4864913793103476,3.886086937931037,3.1623060344827567,88.53173491379309,83.06896551724137,6.107758620689657,22.165948275862064,7.413659706084162,0.90225,566,19,117,9,16,187,96,145,0.134,0.738,0.128,0.4741,1,2,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,1,1,3,8,0,1,6,1,12,8,1,0,1,18,22,9,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,3,5,8,0,2,4,1,1,1,3,3,0,0,3,4,15,5,17,13,2,19,0,1,1,4,26,6,0,2,10,69,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032750159499595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15609434611002082,0.0,0.12374681795649473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20697186555632516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340794794241532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10264281829208066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22257884606817255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22362720956596374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14338479002683924,0.0,0.0,0.1792525773698471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3664305615053578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20450098158648497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16203253512300375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565659907322468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942434306330284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26009379052802645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614336201530187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21637081887288914,0.0,0.1697169555170112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23036181215867665,0.0,0.0,0.1526306156298024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16113182369607332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881828849448448,0.1831757805045926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14778630084099156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26145048199804993
divorce,daddyxross13,2020/03/31,"Blue & Yellow = Love, Anger and Resentment. So my wife filed for divorced, started having an affair with a guy and bringing him around our kids, neglecting our children and then abandoned our kids and moved in with this guy out of town. She totally slandered and lied about me, kidnapped the kids when she first left, destroyed our lives and is now parading around on social media and elsewhere showing off her new bf. I mostly just want to get it out because it hurts so bad but also I want her to feel the pain she caused so many people in her actions. I gave my all in our marriage. I wasn't the perfect husband but I loved her fully with all of my heart. I cant wait till she gets what coming to her or hopefully snaps out of this ridiculousness. We still have custody battle ahead of us. Anyone else been here? Any dads give me their commentary on custody and such? I want full custody because I dont want my kids around this strange man.",4.819694816053513,6.043618603260871,4.551739130434783,87.63841137123747,69.48913043478261,6.965886287625418,28.827759197324408,7.010146845296331,1.4310339464882946,749,27,146,6,13,228,121,184,0.171,0.745,0.084,-0.9497,0,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,7,0,1,3,14,14,5,0,5,0,7,4,1,1,4,38,23,18,0,5,4,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,8,6,19,0,3,1,1,0,4,3,10,0,1,3,3,32,4,26,20,5,28,0,3,2,2,38,15,0,3,9,104,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11719587039473768,0.0,0.158786712488233,0.0,0.09965893046372283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10247106982804988,0.15015765041526508,0.0,0.3913813383248132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12236301202121776,0.1786708693157288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505470756218883,0.0,0.1262397283014529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17175534491288175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12242360347580868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07410001273612518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246552363697914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531325068468339,0.1405839798394974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.290214804614597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17366229015422904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14555707833379405,0.0,0.0,0.1568846565475515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592268520963467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12940621162887286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645339413536684,0.0,0.0,0.14857855650994176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15575930897943546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415387683599833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559393839722245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159922083562932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14938912719303274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10372874546128973,0.0,0.1170349078015036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17628143782252706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3457556185000977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,DoktahManhattan,2020/03/31,Two weeks from tomorrow would have been our anniversary... It’s just really hard sometimes.,5.556000000000001,9.26149026666667,4.641666666666668,75.14250000000001,79.66666666666666,11.0,27.5,10.125756701596842,4.445000000000001,74,3,11,3,2,22,15,15,0.115,0.885,0.0,-0.1761,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,8,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4323299135504026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3091767204881193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4773204178944607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4714465480854349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3871261364221337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3428371724535855,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ivanolo2010,2020/03/31,"I can’t believe it happened to me! Male, 35. Been together for a total of 15 years, married 7, no kids, own a house.

She gave me the ""I love you but I'm not in love with you anymore"" speech, said that she sacrificed a lot for me and now she's unhappy with who she has become and she needs to work on herself. I know there's somebody else because since the beginning of the year she spends every waking minute on her cellphone, refuses to show me the messages, and changed her password. I think this person lives in a different state.

It feels like we've been on autopilot, but I thought we would get through this period like we've done since the beginning. Although I know I haven't been the best husband, I'm devastated. I really love her and I thought we'd grow old together. She's so cold, distant, and cruel... I see her, but I don't recognize the person inside. She has absolutely no desire to try to salvage our marriage. Totally checked out.

WTF am I supposed to do now? I feel betrayed, broken, powerless, depressed, hopeless, sad. What kind of prospects exist in the dating world for a divorced, mid-late 30s man? How do I regain my confidence? This is, without a doubt, the lowest point in my life.",2.989132364810331,5.036004313559324,4.142857142857146,85.37663841807911,75.77966101694916,7.3765940274414845,29.03470540758677,8.269060116576782,2.1565942695722358,942,42,184,17,21,307,145,236,0.192,0.672,0.136,-0.9602,3,0,0,0,1,1,43.0,3,2,0,2,5,12,1,1,15,0,15,5,1,1,2,30,35,11,0,3,5,1,2,2,0,1,1,2,0,5,8,9,0,1,7,1,2,1,7,5,0,0,8,6,38,7,24,25,5,21,0,3,1,3,35,10,0,2,11,121,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14925670541828878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09174410750949752,0.16621670200694888,0.0,0.1695632645116538,0.15794167754468144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15921026680903094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296264247259646,0.0,0.0,0.15724167499013195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540149349916944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12572440355833586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12680371459512785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15219581257882733,0.10751805558175273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07863064205798896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13308767479694525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17365812680898446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567237937420769,0.16542299826741824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10630341699835733,0.1470545249693153,0.0,0.13289527764144546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12795070045883922,0.40749950646810185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11159469983182926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15792564570873274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628236078161657,0.0,0.0,0.1422722382477816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09641489403446762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14316106332628686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199299355066348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489922221798881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964350634929244,0.0,0.23896221269626625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10218040544915012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450777432840776,0.0,0.10956663368551102,0.0,0.0,0.10691170279897944,0.0,0.0,0.1938356195734416
divorce,MotherIron,2020/03/31,"Advice? I understand if this doesn't belong here, I'm just at the end of my rope. I had a very significant relationship just blow up in my face fairly recently and I am still not coping with it very well. If anyone could give me some tips or advice on how to allow myself to heal, I would greatly appreciate it.",3.1866666666666674,4.7170863968253975,5.2446349206349225,79.90314285714291,73.92063492063492,8.214603174603175,22.123809523809523,8.841846274778883,1.4593390476190482,245,6,49,5,5,85,52,63,0.0,0.847,0.153,0.8115,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,2,0,5,2,1,2,0,14,8,5,0,4,6,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,8,2,8,5,1,7,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,4,3,38,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4924325686197501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17617907268029445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20117273486059736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231652986611484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24170680801312386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777911765306349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487840322557557,0.27051501872682576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20121875922923665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623033882885294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41579334121281103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265458769187981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17898798159279564,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,chucky-larms,2020/03/31,"Those were my memories... It’s been a few months since my husband and I separated after he cheated. I was willing to try and work it out; him, not so much. We’ve been married more than a decade, and there are things I expressed interest in doing/places I wanted to travel to during that time. I’m learning the new fling, which seems to be more than just a fling, and he have done several of those things together. It’s so painful to learn someone else is creating memories that were supposed to be mine. We haven’t even filed for divorce yet. It all seems like such a slap in the face and a deliberate attempt to gut me, unprovoked. Not to mention, covid isolation has made this so much harder as I’m incredibly lonely, and I have nothing to do but ruminate. Not sure what to do to keep my mind off things. I’ve reached the end of Netflix, Hulu, my pantry.",4.2439803921568595,5.318799888235296,5.0667647058823535,83.96877450980394,70.70588235294117,8.490196078431373,30.049019607843128,8.841846274778883,2.284254901960784,671,27,137,12,12,218,109,170,0.067,0.882,0.051,-0.5362,0,3,0,0,1,0,24.0,1,0,0,2,8,6,1,0,8,0,17,3,2,1,2,23,24,11,0,1,5,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,14,8,0,1,4,2,0,1,4,3,0,0,7,0,13,3,22,14,6,11,0,1,0,0,8,4,0,2,7,98,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079100388684185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16971968096426468,0.0,0.17994536439136702,0.0,0.0,0.13418966780915484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18058386906678092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09925697142227127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19224121320441304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051404179232755,0.0,0.16216569571879072,0.0,0.2987017546176156,0.0,0.0,0.1962196335356044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949438969536992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21618365859292552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36991060747012505,0.0,0.2295205052436224,0.0,0.16806156686735005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17214245811802326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19148217979120255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40492471892715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11846811767398766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13793683105907367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11983296439038872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14790775368288034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,makeitwork1989,2020/03/31,"Met his girlfriend today... We are coming up on 3 years since he up and dropped the divorce bomb, completely unexpected. Our son was 5 months old at the time, we had been together for 10 years and married for almost 5. I’ve spent these past 3 years trying to rebuild my life. At times I thought things were finally getting better but lately it’s not been the case. He’s been dating this woman since August of last year, and they are moving in together. I’ve been asking for a while to meet her because she’s around our son and he finally let us meet a week before they move in together. I’ve been crying for most of the night. I hate that there’s another woman around my son. I hate that I can’t shake that feeling that I wasn’t good enough. What does she have that I didn’t? Why is she good enough but I wasn’t? I hate that this still tears me down. I feel replaced. I thought I had finally got over this but I feel like I’ve just taken 10 steps backwards. Does this ever get better? Will this feeling ever go away? Why can’t I just get over him and move on?",1.3395454545454548,3.42354222727273,2.6309090909090926,94.01136363636364,81.27272727272728,5.636363636363638,20.0,6.782984794422108,0.16554545454545444,830,22,183,9,22,267,119,220,0.121,0.7879999999999999,0.091,-0.8594,0,0,0,0,1,0,23.0,5,0,2,2,8,9,3,1,6,0,20,1,0,0,2,26,39,9,0,0,6,3,4,1,1,1,1,0,0,2,15,10,0,0,6,0,1,7,6,4,0,0,18,4,29,5,22,19,3,46,0,0,0,0,27,15,0,2,24,111,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10340785593842204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10828536698686364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838605987578952,0.09654151938247266,0.0,0.0970235643109704,0.0,0.0,0.06295113575213518,0.0,0.08787335230610754,0.0,0.0,0.18266408010605675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08895612702901687,0.10827439814183992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11343490736689067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18074081989741048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21340663226912784,0.0,0.0,0.18682340329531535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088613540126149,0.07377458777973131,0.0,0.3393747154363482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16185960134685246,0.0,0.058689510980606215,0.17323238161057086,0.08259275025404769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3058669294262322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08417709796215794,0.11649065668317755,0.0,0.0,0.10559839485787424,0.07294115138333722,0.05045146557968745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08242742951480861,0.32927221236819826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09690990151193897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10836225924073503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09858086801088056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17084850030340426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08246985529277323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06860658492995908,0.0,0.0,0.163966309111634,0.12043265224549166,0.0,0.09788586705002104,0.0,0.0,0.07011210582621638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242185339495695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08283525721038375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18636638283663806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26600449298836465
divorce,anonymous1082,2020/03/31,"I think I want a divorce. Where do I start? My husband and I have been married for 8 years.  We are in our early 30s and have two small children under 5.  I’m fairly certain I want to file for divorce.  I am a stay at home mom but I can go back to teaching in the fall of 2020.  We are in Texas.  

We are not in love anymore.  He sleeps on the couch and we haven’t had sex in 3 years.  We don’t talk very much and never laugh or joke or even watch tv together.  The relationship has been distant for a long time.  

He is an awesome provider and wonderful father, just a lousy and emotionless friend and partner.  I’m assuming we would file for joint custody.  What does that look like? 

Who gets our house?  

Do I contact an attorney to file?  

Do I get child support?

Is it possible to do this in an amicable way?  I don’t think he will be that upset or hurt.  He seems as miserable as I am.  We have openly talked about whether or not we should file for divorce.  So he will not be blindsided.  I don’t know if he will ever have the courage to do it.  

Is it possible to become close friends as two unmarried people and co parent in a healthy way?  Is it possible to not hate each other after a divorce is over?  

I don’t even know where to start with how to split up our entire life but I am tired of being in a completely phony, loveless, and sexless marriage.  I’m scared of being alone but not sad at the thought of our relationship ending bc we don’t even really have one.  

Any advice is appreciated.  Thanks.",1.0450000000000017,3.1746341331168857,2.9137500000000003,91.31562500000004,82.66883116883116,6.057792207792207,22.936688311688307,7.292943589461545,0.8427740259740258,1155,41,253,17,32,385,164,308,0.111,0.731,0.158,0.9453,1,1,0,0,4,0,32.0,13,0,0,0,11,16,1,3,15,0,42,5,1,1,3,53,64,23,0,5,15,4,0,1,3,5,2,0,2,3,10,22,0,0,8,2,0,2,12,6,0,3,4,2,28,10,38,51,2,36,0,3,2,2,40,19,0,8,13,172,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11460563843939825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12146774865531572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07975510354530359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11631124029256207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09018185172078208,0.0,0.0,0.12952765313683864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12296689992387362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263339576992483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387615751032646,0.0,0.0,0.2323889884590585,0.10608738136949826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18122202345301167,0.0,0.12254896658926998,0.0,0.06665349655307397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157907093651286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176424081757808,0.0,0.0,0.13532653062005112,0.12555173901022368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289091437967662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08283904058960516,0.05729757380708871,0.0,0.0,0.10378999673559848,0.09848650425854692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10585068385611976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373580928517427,0.0,0.0,0.08621503147974093,0.0,0.09045433939536134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07947264265817935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13022667418228998,0.0,0.0,0.08130788018859385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39665012611186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07513321345528493,0.0,0.0,0.2518318113323118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11741874349834325,0.0,0.0,0.10676822005466098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11736570159685494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16602419464858784,0.12500594410092106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13308909197506658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18853205482432167,0.0,0.10797659004908157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15029786180955898,0.0,0.09310801569639927,0.06838749579950514,0.13479725982446514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.229132996003956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967691098541884,0.13835074802896727,0.1861844018593269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12718624451143742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08331305933284645,0.0,0.0,0.15105024100780995
divorce,StayRealGround,2020/03/31,"Navy Officer /Domestic Violence/Corona Hi everyone 

I am 36F with three little boys 1,4,8
My husband is a Recently commissioned Naval Officer.
We are in California, Right before California issued the stay at home order -my husband and I decided to separate . he moved into an Airbnb and this is because he hit my eight-year-old son a in the face and then put him in a chokehold and carried him up our stairs( my son had been teasing his little brother, a very minor offense “set him off”)
To make matters worse - My senior parents were in town and witnessed this. The attack was so aggressive and violent and he didn’t seem to have any sort of remorse or empathy and it was not de-escalating -so for a while there I was considering calling the police and having him removed from the home . 2 hours later he finally decided to up and leave and has been at an Airbnb the past two weeks. He claims he staying out of the house because of the coronavirus not because of our arguments in order to keep germs away from the kids and I.So I fear when the stay at home order is lifted he’ll try to come back into the marital home

Well since he has been gone I decided to go through my Google Photos and from year 2017 to now there’s been approximately 57 domestic violence incidents or instances in our relationship where he’s broken things broken my phone , thrown make up in the toilet , push me into the wall , slap me in the face.
The problem is from the outside we have accomplished a ton of things together we have nine rental units , we’ve traveled all over the world together I really enjoy the military life and being a military spouse but I can’t no longer deal with his violence
And want a divorce 

I have talked to several lawyers - Where I’m torn is if I should introduce all this documented pictures and videos into court 
I’m afraid that it will affect his career and then spousal support will change,  my kids won’t get their G.I. Bill his retirement will change , my kids healthcare 

I’m not sure if anyone’s been in a similar situation that has any advice??  I want to be honest in court about everything that’s happened and trust me, part of me thinks he should have to have consequences for what he’s done all these years . but then part of me thinks maybe we should just negotiate out of court and so he can keep his career

 I feel like either way is a lose lose for me. The sucky part is we have these adorable kids , awesome house in California , rental properties and a successful online business, but he just refuses to get help for his impulse control and anger so I it’s making me have to leave out of fear .... He has threatened to kill me on more one on one occasion",4.173554817275747,6.085197108527132,4.9576301218161705,81.40104651162792,72.10077519379846,8.635215946843855,28.177187153931346,9.23628265651192,2.4927373200442964,2132,82,402,48,42,689,260,516,0.131,0.787,0.08199999999999999,-0.9708,3,0,0,0,3,1,42.0,8,0,1,5,16,22,7,3,32,0,45,3,2,5,4,76,68,37,1,8,13,7,1,1,0,8,1,0,4,5,14,36,0,4,7,2,1,8,7,13,1,5,13,1,48,9,64,44,9,70,0,2,0,0,55,38,0,6,17,267,62,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08534542778003726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11878531497059633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06106857783974344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09935928664240166,0.08205668080982971,0.0671573302841979,0.0,0.15972082523601375,0.0,0.07431798319386915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891815965035794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18478349466496166,0.07523372877029379,0.0,0.0,0.09795670081107873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004137396209679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08937683005235647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345495242847521,0.0784935282784521,0.0,0.0,0.1965584755116577,0.04416058506362292,0.06239409822046382,0.0,0.0956742240824152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09126072783140857,0.0,0.0496360497949267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07723247419499495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05854064547740631,0.0,0.3504274933608923,0.0,0.08601008010575152,0.2015520493237124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09115790849988607,0.0,0.15525959076938387,0.09662626808421704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18495611013690708,0.0,0.0,0.06168922796714053,0.042668807694920236,0.17507071792904336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954171797126912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17489585699184346,0.0,0.08774249785481017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09282619475562008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09164626533250976,0.0,0.11836462458274084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09697822347838604,0.28373478113653705,0.08337375438401756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08357042104115345,0.0,0.08779855057971933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05595079203909202,0.0,0.08623548079780066,0.093768046491634,0.0,0.07458595193412307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950899744515255,0.0,0.09866678541517156,0.0,0.07224668025646523,0.098171277987807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2792712274793174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09910983126257797,0.08231478544469988,0.0,0.0,0.07019876634490155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11604662601358555,0.11192499326588183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059296591807814374,0.0,0.08531628037140519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07206278145526199,0.103028122656147,0.06932463201213701,0.07005706612598699,0.0,0.07852711623697846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08900461755266982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16872792138284806
divorce,michealn,2020/03/31,"Need some guidance and info. Struggling. I am 39 and we have been married for 11 years, and together for 17. I found out she was cheating on me again. Once in 2005 when we were dating, and then again in 2010. Two years after we married. Yes I'm weak, and should have left her already, but it was all worth it, because of my daughter. This time, she has been dating him for a year and a half, in a long distance relationship. He is a co-worker that she has only been physically in contact with 3-4 times for a few days on company funded trips, often to tropical locales, and yes I have proof and its likely career impactful if exposed.... We have an amazing 7 year old and yet this is how she decided it would be best for her to instigate a Divorce? And then BAM!! I figure it out, shes done with me and is in love with this man, and now we are stuck together in the same house indefinitely because of the quarantine.

My biggest issue now is financial. She is the one with the bigger salary, and in my state alimony is not an easy sell. I walked away from a more lucrative career path when we found out my daughter was going to be born. I have a PhD in chemistry and could have uprooted us for some other more elite path. But, I chose a softer more supportive career path. I became a teacher with a more flexible schedule for my daughters schooling, but a tight ceiling on future salary.  And, now I will be hurting financially and I had no choice or chance to make anything right. It is in my best interest to hold on as long as possible for financial reasons, but the fear of what is going to happen during the divorce is my next great hurdle. We are pretty reasonable, but she is so vain, I am afraid she is going to fight compensation. I insisted I stay in the house. Which she tacitly seems to be agreeing to. I suspect this is solely out of fear of me lashing out at her publicly and professionally. She is a clinical narcissistic, so her public face is her most valued possession. I hope that is enough for her to agree to 20% spousal support.  If I knew that was coming I wouldn't have so much fear. 

I honestly would at least consider reconciliation with her even now. She is the most amazing person I have even meet, but her damage runs so deep, and she refuses to confront it. I have forced her into counseling but we all know how well forced counseling will go. If she embraced it, and worked off her addiction to this affair, then confronted her demons, she would be better off, and would be a better role-model for my daughter. She is going to do the same thing to this fool too, and the cycle will continue.

I'm not sure what to do honestly...  Any insight would be greatly helpful.

PS: A second followup question. During a divorce proceeding, is there interviews with the people around you. So if I claimed infidelity in the divorce, would the boyfriend be questioned and asked about the affair, or called in to talk to the judge. And if it was hard, would her co-workers also be questioned or involved in order to confirm the affair? Yes, it would be petty, but I think it would be that card that wouldn't need to be played if this is even a thing that could happen. And I deserve to earn off her amazing career that I have supported her into achieving for so long.",4.950069365850098,5.8874921161695495,5.692308422474536,80.63682779015008,68.96860282574569,8.625738381220106,30.04158300171589,8.841846274778883,2.3523325836953743,2566,97,493,43,43,837,284,637,0.10099999999999999,0.7440000000000001,0.155,0.9937,2,1,0,0,5,0,84.0,9,1,0,8,27,35,4,5,35,3,78,5,1,5,4,118,104,57,0,23,19,4,2,1,0,15,3,0,0,2,31,48,0,3,16,1,3,9,5,14,1,4,15,2,75,21,80,60,18,82,1,2,0,1,71,37,0,20,34,392,106,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08059167661654024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08158062149847818,0.059119640629880725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050273103776855614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06083587457539912,0.06581097665264855,0.06911205251166734,0.0,0.06945713838378141,0.0,0.0,0.09013080025257077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551642953075972,0.13076539065302065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07548804592756139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06368182893525226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180498781021434,0.0,0.0,0.04767699710598538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07565330198569993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07638667005690275,0.0,0.1464848669748696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495663198787869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621149525030293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21007296087325392,0.0,0.0,0.16301023371788678,0.0,0.0,0.13074734671064067,0.0,0.06622434619197802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04955191550366752,0.0,0.0,0.07342649645627526,0.0,0.17060437301693585,0.0791407110523066,0.0,0.0,0.07716090150083432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04062851451380283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0803222352703809,0.0,0.0,0.0361171479456431,0.0,0.0,0.19627002078648176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06672228080460184,0.0,0.049347051420003785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05434507676670323,0.10963232269436986,0.0,0.0,0.07862252958999076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07757427269461703,0.0787301691370604,0.05009505641862939,0.0562250482000887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05125188629810287,0.0645504728880995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08334193076349583,0.0,0.07521064847806484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484465084078481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15201916816622826,0.0,0.07937026110329927,0.0,0.06313351617256582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07481838138746222,0.0,0.06730064369898492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07879667282908914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07728487252565615,0.0,0.0,0.2516754954231637,0.0696756118726521,0.0,0.0,0.059419968980813115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982280355779512,0.04736963321663442,0.0,0.0,0.08621521433834937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07221623679709355,0.0,0.08892544778825599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06646952722827809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16145987970998146,0.0,0.0,0.4726425397824888,0.0,0.0,0.19042704740245656
divorce,Spanky550,2020/04/01,"When is it a sign that someone isn’t meant to be married? If you met someone you fall in love with but find out they’ve been through 4 divorces already, is it I sign to pump the brakes?",2.310416666666669,3.2946098750000026,2.8850000000000016,98.1266666666667,75.25,5.333333333333334,28.333333333333336,3.1291,0.43858333333333377,145,6,35,0,3,45,33,40,0.0,0.92,0.08,0.4515,0,0,0,0,1,0,3.0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,5,1,0,0,0,9,8,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,3,1,6,4,0,4,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,1,1,22,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4606283050709739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3815101395549781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3767337212314157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7073494760521934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,VenturaHighway,2020/04/01,"In a Unique Situation My wife(25f) and I(30m) were married for 3 years together for 7.  A few months ago she had an undiagnosed bipolar manic episode and decided she was gay which caused her to begin cheating and having relationships with women.  During this time I was crushed and she was very cold about it to me.  I began to accept that this is who she was and started moving on and getting the separation together.  She recently went to the psych ward and got on meds and is now wanting to be with me again.  I cannot bring myself to do this because of the horrible things that she did to me.  She has begun seeing other women again because she says that she is bisexual, and she is only doing it because I won't get back together with her.  I was still ok with her dating these women because I had accepted her sexuality.  She is now actively talking to guys and it's hurting me pretty deeply.  I have started seeing someone casually to keep my sanity, but nothing serious is happening.  The issue is that I do not know how I am supposed to move forward with life.  Her family and I are very close, my best friends for years are her cousins who like me a lot more than her.  Her sisters were my friends before I met her and my brother in law was one of my closest friends before I met her.  This means that for most likely the rest of my life I will be forced to be around her in some capacity and have to deal with her and these potential other guys.  Just trying to sort my head out as I feel like I will always be stuck in a world of hurt because of the situation.",7.594930332261523,6.064685491961416,8.128154340836018,73.71606859592714,63.85530546623794,11.122915326902463,36.16741693461951,10.047579312681364,3.4177226580921762,1232,48,242,22,15,412,161,311,0.06,0.8270000000000001,0.113,0.9444,0,0,0,1,0,0,22.0,0,0,0,1,10,15,1,0,11,1,36,5,1,2,0,41,56,17,0,1,3,3,1,3,3,3,3,1,0,5,20,23,0,1,6,1,0,5,3,4,0,1,17,5,52,11,39,32,7,34,0,2,2,1,42,12,0,4,22,190,72,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10156442703583778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09533614405437543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019966464707876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08810162542641525,0.0,0.3492213547449557,0.0,0.19499092921308447,0.0,0.12024010718537903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11770078447128007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11812249486568725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10801175393476442,0.0,0.0579329063174823,0.08185288853764508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655626579731503,0.0,0.11972212751042975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916366378182526,0.0,0.0,0.22689587311618944,0.10131889524923204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11758770255235827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24531126985862803,0.0,0.0,0.11958724200807205,0.0,0.10184012863478398,0.0,0.0,0.06296779720151495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618563820868439,0.16792766911763962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09740814569519066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12480650430641925,0.1272677510122929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09145321449527448,0.24355163034357324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10993845488485464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07763944586984743,0.0871399674606811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11656465705021762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11312966128289267,0.12301140134685296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09111517930269483,0.0,0.0,0.1826039652639989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25757572924096345,0.0,0.0,0.09707960167673853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16219451175098684,0.0,0.09150028588637778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09209159136825013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07611899053895156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06681000028068948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07778936563451122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18907387033075665,0.06757970449559719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10621280305301573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14756596255134438
divorce,mehmench,2020/04/01,"How in the world do you figure out a reasonable support offer? (RANT + Question) TLDR - if you have commissions in your settlement how are they handled and are you in California?

My company has a very comprehensive compensation plan. I'm in sales and so I get commissions but my compensation plan is 75% base, 25% commissions. Of course if my team is over our goal we do get into accelerators but my commissions are based on my team's performance and not simply my own.

I also have an employee stock purchase plan that our mediator was classifying as 'income' instead of an investment. My hope was that we could simply split the proceeds from these stock sales at the time of sale 50/50 until all the blocks that I had purchased during our marriage were sold. I believe that would actually work in her favor as if we treat it as income instead of investment she would likely get a smaller percentage. I don't know.

Basically, the conversation around my income was turning my dream job that provided well for our family into something that would absolutely destroy me emotionally after the divorce. 

He wanted to have me submit to him my commissions every month for CS/SS evaluation to see how much I would need to pay her (and also probably pay him for at least an hour of his time). 

Well that's fucking ridiculous and really would be cruel to me to have to do anything like that every month. I lost it. It wasn't great. 

Towards the end of the conversation he suggested that he could just provide us a table for every $1000 that estimated what my CS/SS would be depending on how much I got paid.

My commissions aren't guaranteed. I think the idea of a cap on support would be good because I don't want to over pay. 

I'm not sure we can continue with the mediator we're using because I don't feel like my needs going forward are being considered. She sold mediation to me saying 'we could come up with a plan that works for us and we don't have to get lawyers involved.' Well that's not what's happening at all. I have been very honest and forthright with my STBXW and the mediator about how we approach these conversations in a way that won't trigger me terribly.  HE ASKED THAT QUESTION in the beginning of our mediation process. What triggers you? This nickle and diming over every last bit of my compensation. I absolutely want to be fair to her, I don't believe I can support her in the absolutely same standard of living we had together but now that she's working perhaps it'll be close. This shit sucks, she cheated on me. She lied to me, she dictated many of the circumstances in our life and I tried to make it work for years. I'm being punished for being a hardworking, dedicated husband who stuck to his contractual obligations but she didn't and I'm going to have to pay a high divorce tax for the next decade.

We have two boys, a preteen and a 15 year old. We want a 50/50 custody arrangement and are amicable about that. She moved out and I am in the family home. We're trying to figure out how I keep it, at least for now because there are some special needs for our sons and being able to stay in their home would be the best for their mental health we believe. 

I just want her to tell me how much she wants so I that we negotiate from there. The dissomaster that the mediator came to us with yesterday didn't include my commissions but I thought it was a little low and wanted to offer more. I'm not trying to be a sheister and get out of spousal or child support.

I just also am entitled to a life that isn't slavery to my EX. 

I'm pretty sure we're headed to lawyers - that may not be bad. I'm considering just going to one to help me craft an offer that I feel is fair and protects me from being so resentful going forward that we cannot communicate except over email or through lawyers even about our children. 

I felt like a slave in our marriage, I even said so out loud to her. I do not want to be a slave anymore.

Oh yeah, and this virus thing sucks ass.",5.307242064990309,6.106125433889602,6.3023604923355725,77.08336227944324,68.08857509627728,9.601459890759898,31.32072289763145,9.725611199111238,2.905380709305545,3159,125,606,68,51,1052,312,779,0.09699999999999999,0.779,0.124,0.981,5,0,1,0,2,0,65.0,25,5,3,14,33,35,10,0,40,1,73,7,3,13,4,125,131,47,0,26,21,3,3,4,0,11,3,3,2,3,39,47,0,3,12,3,16,10,18,14,3,2,21,7,105,21,104,82,13,70,0,2,1,2,85,41,5,11,25,438,144,19,0.06300368091047677,0.0,0.061482504178391725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15115206258451594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06248272186911018,0.0,0.0,0.05184666112780146,0.05608663356636126,0.05889993677954335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05260544189473836,0.11521937731200788,0.0,0.0,0.21295072002309826,0.06611847609732772,0.0,0.06878370174394867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07205942658947888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054272092377213685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15090993765252236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07087066096067167,0.055802560803443375,0.0,0.0,0.08322667407900705,0.0,0.21233327397421084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11878852635677906,0.0,0.06371310823427068,0.045009842231175295,0.060493413970604176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05824588777394703,0.16458411447345508,0.0,0.14322577512728116,0.052844498358313584,0.05038979911989267,0.06946178062633322,0.0,0.0,0.055713946956283095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06465995317653189,0.0669699666228951,0.0,0.0,0.042230039253697164,0.06656684802403402,0.1263956579187077,0.06257687106728413,0.062045934571756126,0.0,0.0,0.07112348691353054,0.0,0.0,0.06252143167620199,0.05600056643750671,0.0,0.0,0.034625175339797115,0.05135640893131284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08900272613454754,0.12312166421604495,0.0631462399331577,0.0556334045248941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06877596024401897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04205544623934332,0.06387584362448137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06349289173386248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10057787402513003,0.06696294200948147,0.1389448642969131,0.14014929323512934,0.0,0.0,0.0670051294094682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06611176475565751,0.0,0.04269292473301695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06409739371810194,0.06792862410977221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14115708337895816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04036177129270335,0.06477827722420801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05993092824361902,0.05010305584259754,0.0,0.0,0.0502057765715843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06467237306738162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04850331164623886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06715354094408076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2859833218792453,0.1187604472803756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05506799411540278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04185684605838718,0.0403702147502986,0.0,0.050017885063468714,0.07347590600215917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12832609100394587,0.06852991286818864,0.061545441456644215,0.0,0.2273570120900394,0.0544149515270814,0.0,0.1039692700607764,0.2972896269606751,0.0500093893267807,0.0,0.0,0.16994362672925042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18346972029218067,0.0,0.0,0.3580480580391032,0.0,0.0,0.08114460969905586
divorce,FreeFromYou414,2020/04/01,"I’m all kinds of frustrated right now & it’s not good! First, I am separated from my husband of almost 16 years.  We have 1-child together.  You see, my husband over the years gradually got worse & worse as the years went on.  I was oblivious to some of it, some of it I thought was depression & he would snap out of it.  

Last summer - he flipped out on me for the last time, I packed myself & my child up & left him.  I felt like I endured years & years of BS, money problems, addictions, depression, mental abuse & some physical abuse & numerous suicide threats from him.  What we didn’t know was that he was bipolar & never treated because he didn’t know.  Me leaving prompted him to get help. 

Fast forward to now.  I started noticing a change in him, now that he’s medicated.  We could have actual real conversations.  I started liking his company in small doses, so we would go out for family dinners, take our child to the park, etc.  I liked seeing him clean, medicated & being a good dad.  

But.... What I found is that as tome goes on....I don’t want him to touch me, hug me, hold my hand or kiss me.  I cringe every time.  I like living in my own place, I don’t want him spending the night, I don’t even like when he comes over here.  I don’t know, he’s trying like crazy, but I think I just lost the ability to feel any type of connection to him.  I don’t know that I even want to try to get it back.  I feel I put so much in before, he was crazy & I cannot live through that again.  I feel if I let the guard down, I’m setting myself up for another round of dissatisfaction, disappointment, struggle & possible abuse again.  He doesn’t it & thinks I’m ruining my child’s life because ‘I’m doing this’ to is.  But my reality is that HE did this to us, he created this situation & he is responsible for it and I’m afraid it’s unfixable! 

I just don’t know where I go or what I’m supposed to do from here.?",3.1233321693583567,4.176885032911393,4.6289044085552185,86.13556962025321,73.35443037974683,8.28371890004365,26.532082060235705,8.74248658614541,1.7167337407245746,1488,51,330,28,29,499,184,395,0.138,0.78,0.083,-0.9794,0,0,0,0,3,1,87.0,6,1,0,2,16,22,2,2,9,0,30,10,1,0,2,47,65,12,1,8,9,3,7,6,0,2,6,0,1,3,20,9,1,2,13,0,2,6,12,10,0,1,14,9,56,12,44,46,7,49,0,5,3,2,36,20,0,7,30,192,76,1,0.0,0.1898372984873686,0.052117970786244236,0.05822200787298476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05347985028513403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8101373542311769,0.0,0.03631890000033506,0.056002371985903805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0410670353230956,0.0,0.0651133762469287,0.0,0.04544580953483775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0564980045396221,0.04600579242538527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042641506051366115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09199952339012234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059563428604433276,0.07055023906801815,0.0,0.044998083267015175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05034779429640954,0.0,0.08101324005980161,0.0,0.05127953105052917,0.0,0.0,0.04542835291495122,0.0,0.058558516445002075,0.0,0.0,0.055806380593210185,0.0,0.06070537353408829,0.08959127668779229,0.042714819663742264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03579789049808526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05561564456724091,0.14675669940119015,0.08706840608191345,0.0,0.056550782141513774,0.05802735481654025,0.054612739971250567,0.03772326406157279,0.1565531052577271,0.0,0.09431952034207416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058300544759747275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076047818990256,0.053822151858326825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03926062367983515,0.0,0.041191120831915055,0.0,0.0,0.050119277466615535,0.0,0.0,0.060804740128008065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055799422018846426,0.0,0.0,0.060208879536650994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051103720447782094,0.0,0.05368924230185385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060789374798535266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04560967372769538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08511765197677681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060032215750353335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07560414136573827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05583306670813054,0.0,0.05841908607138641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04015575861432516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06844267978694119,0.0,0.042399552642876336,0.062284631598646285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07252031073914443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06424259102923227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09450329996339464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04950924473449492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10885351628738472,0.0758782456827444,0.0,0.0,0.17196324605963742
divorce,anuneemoose,2020/04/01,"Divorce but stay together? Polygamy? How? My spouse and I are best friends and I would never leave her willingly unless she did something that I simply couldn’t forgive... Which she hasn’t done. 

We trust each other and we have a very open relationship (in the sense that we talk to each other and tell each other how we are feeling). 

This will be frowned upon by many, but we are considering Polygamy. My current spouse is fine with this. It’s her suggestion, actually. I don’t really want to go into detail about why, but it would be a mutually advantageous arrangement for all three parties. There are valid reasons for exploring this.

The person we are interested in is a close family friend. She is not a citizen, so I would need to be legally married to her in order to bring her back home with us. I can’t legally marry her until I divorce my current spouse. 

I believe I would eventually need to divorce the second spouse also in order to keep things equitable in terms of inheritance and spousal benefits.

So the final arrangement would be: all of us legally single. In the eyes of the law, we would all just be friends and former spouses livi together and raising our children communally. 

I’m sure many of you have judgements about all of that, but my question is really about the divorce itself. 

Can my spouse divorce me without us needing to go through the whole child support and custody thing? For example if we all agree on 50/50 custody and no child support, can that be done? Or will the state get involved and force a decision upon us? 

There are no worries about me not supporting the kids.",5.172039130434783,6.9986026300000015,5.623623188405798,77.97586956521741,69.36666666666667,8.55072463768116,32.710144927536234,9.085049710711278,3.027536231884058,1279,59,224,25,23,410,155,300,0.038,0.778,0.185,0.9934,2,0,1,0,5,0,35.0,13,1,0,2,13,14,0,0,15,0,36,1,1,3,7,65,50,23,0,12,11,6,1,0,3,9,0,0,1,6,16,26,0,1,6,0,1,4,10,0,0,2,3,2,38,14,37,31,12,28,0,0,1,0,49,12,0,3,8,185,54,3,0.0,0.0,0.09748120839485078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07988443709319623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07681159047631189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11254526141926888,0.10483159450520227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20445054736393845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09417027858123674,0.0,0.05050892822491316,0.0,0.0,0.10942795504613087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23153137108771826,0.0,0.052189996409116764,0.0,0.11354304626391153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10020087530940347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887895338694234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10577231798678716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20255175051712893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22220829556006,0.0770436794306885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08722275940492058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11190307913734596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279880932355427,0.10270669397639386,0.0,0.1072477532445018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07690255128041995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10647270157097427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34007235273803593,0.09414801873402494,0.0,0.0,0.0802902508126598,0.0873109298650954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13272900926513828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.48063616518229,0.0,0.0,0.08242222902997069,0.05891950983993551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901379414945658,0.11152702447222948,0.0,0.09629333683241226,0.0,0.0,0.10144624259411393,0.0,0.4257669457453747,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,HaleySchwarz1076,2020/04/01,"How to tell one of your parents that you don’t want to live with them anymore? So this started back when I was in 8th grade, I’m a highschool senior now. My parents divorced by the end of 8th grade year and custody started out 50/50. I’ve always gotten along with my dad better. Over the past few years I’ve had several big fights with my mom over the divorce,living with her and her boyfriend. She even kicked me out once. I haven’t wanted to live with her for a while now and now I’m 18 so I can technically choose. I cannot stand her boyfriend and we’re supposed to be moving in with him at the end of this month and I really just don’t want too. But I don’t know how to tell my mom without breaking her heart, she even made me a room there and everything. And my moms the manipulative type that would try and guilt trip me into things and I hate it. She overall is a good mom, I just hate her boyfriend and she knows that. I think she knows deep down I don’t want to live with her and I’m not happy with it but won’t let me go live with my dad. It’s not like I don’t want to see her at all, I just don’t want to live with her. So how do I get out of this situation and tell her I don’t want to live with her anymore?",1.0691643769193462,2.456559795539036,2.482085016971069,98.09848553418459,79.29739776951672,5.570454178115404,19.87409083562308,6.0469075449839425,-0.34461706804590264,951,22,240,6,23,308,123,269,0.054000000000000006,0.898,0.048,-0.6623,2,0,0,0,3,0,20.0,0,2,1,1,18,8,3,1,9,0,18,1,1,5,1,55,41,22,0,8,8,8,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,10,28,0,0,5,0,0,3,13,4,0,1,4,1,44,4,39,33,2,34,0,0,1,0,33,14,0,0,16,158,54,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07677459516890679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830106685551284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07094860708838649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08160378997870336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16344460763280466,0.0,0.0,0.12188464914129205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829247749015931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04820636477142918,0.0,0.052438186262274256,0.07739025033412075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09822129306654126,0.0,0.1821916358219755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10933834857924717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521246905916454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09435056121670886,0.0,0.04507761787530645,0.0,0.4888474566181909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08730647152074421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4322539479593594,0.07364765577014815,0.0980665727978795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09826270017111843,0.06252337017528266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20490599744155466,0.0,0.08808050761164875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05910941879116977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07352586811873067,0.0,0.0,0.10423688615183548,0.0,0.0,0.10371340551875054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306159180425654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24193961428636296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061298941144092164,0.05912178415213036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06264410118820593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3809555288839053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08894332323790863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655447343245825,0.0,0.0,0.118835486246725
divorce,howsitchina,2020/04/01,Any body know if a divorced parent can Harass the children with financial threats to get the other parents attention ? Please help with this. A friend of mines dad keeps threatening that he won’t pay for any of his schooling or his extra needs if the mother that doesn’t earn a fifth of what the dad earns doesn’t pay. She is currently paying all she has and has no more. He is being very mean and she is desperate. She has never been rude or mean to the children yet the dad has a reputation of being mean. Please help we’re you can 💫,3.1047222222222217,4.871891879629633,3.84,88.905,74.64814814814815,7.022222222222222,23.11111111111111,7.793537801064563,0.9830666666666668,425,12,88,6,9,135,67,108,0.141,0.726,0.132,-0.0052,3,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,1,0,2,1,4,3,0,10,0,15,1,1,0,2,17,22,6,0,3,4,6,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,5,4,0,1,5,0,3,0,5,3,0,0,1,0,8,1,9,18,3,3,0,0,0,0,21,0,0,4,3,59,13,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24780612487395354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20238445641585234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14076819343666933,0.0,0.09519260576391933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24425124447356036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619487962278866,0.0,0.0,0.10013301332795067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5954115554877123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13509987949227142,0.14052479607693902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4046257361575014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4000044023433872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18439733941296926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503350698231299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,TheTater0427,2020/04/01,"From a child My mom and my step dad are getting a divorce maybe

My stepdad and mom are about to get a divorce after 12 years of being married I am 15 years old so he has been in my life as long as I can remember. He came home drunk and told me I was a worthless piece of shit just like my dad. 


My dad is not a piece of shit he has getter his life together he is 8 years sober and is remarried with two kids and it’s mentally stable and loves me. And now I have to make a decision because I’m a month I get my license and I don’t want to leave my mom but if my mom makes up with my stepdad again I don’t want to live under the same roof as him.

They do this almost every year because my step dad has some residual trauma from his childhood that makes him go crazy once a year but he has never said anything to me during these fits but now he has and I don’t think I can go on living with him. If they stay together I’m moving in with my father. Am I justified?",0.6713194959229051,2.153236028169019,2.8534667655053134,94.57180874722022,80.73708920187794,5.986557944156165,20.600197677291824,6.8360192770164,0.18062065727699528,746,20,180,8,19,254,112,213,0.08,0.862,0.057999999999999996,-0.6486,0,0,0,0,2,0,7.0,0,0,2,0,6,6,2,0,9,0,22,6,2,3,1,33,39,18,0,4,7,9,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,2,4,14,1,0,3,1,0,6,5,4,0,1,5,1,32,2,24,33,4,27,0,1,0,1,29,6,2,4,15,117,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178754254279302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968701191709967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351698602808402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13463557901848072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09918068544061086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845050281258791,0.0,0.13380126707424905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180786011957502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12464409432099867,0.0,0.0,0.16629238025462806,0.0575100210201591,0.0,0.2078905144125058,0.10417482796118058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10624315567111384,0.0,0.2357287432040689,0.0,0.11826139910143625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862989544513527,0.0,0.0,0.5514695497431611,0.09395967291667512,0.12511332516686746,0.0,0.0,0.09078972484081434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12352298858163735,0.12536354445282885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13334911713330824,0.0,0.1119747353966978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416672684347291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12546943954543824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07542756715192132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11248254468965092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149912862014522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13886372316721513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37902575791021215
divorce,SideAngleSide,2020/04/01,"Super intense unhealthy crush I have a crush on a guy that feels so good I’m reluctant to stop letting myself think about him. I want it so badly, and he sort of initiated it so I think he likes me too. I’m only 5 months into our separation (headed to divorce), although we started down this path two years ago.  I have two small kids, my crush is a coworker and the complete opposite of my stbx (who is also a coworker, although we’re all in different departments) which screams rebound to me. Seems like a bad idea all around.  If he were some dude off the street I’d date him causally if nothing else to get it out of my system. I can barely think straight!

Have any of you had this sort of thing happen and figure out how to get past it without doing anything dumb? I feel like it isn’t anything actually special, I’m probably just so lonely anyone who smiles at me seems like Prince Charming.",2.8137359550561776,4.860871988764046,4.062233146067418,85.75323735955057,76.30337078651685,6.6971910112359545,26.85533707865169,7.645422480735847,1.5772348314606741,706,28,138,10,16,231,115,178,0.127,0.695,0.17800000000000002,0.8757,1,2,0,0,1,0,18.0,2,1,0,1,10,13,1,0,7,0,11,1,1,1,2,29,26,13,0,3,4,0,2,4,0,0,0,1,0,2,12,8,0,1,9,0,0,1,2,5,0,2,2,3,18,8,21,23,3,21,0,1,0,0,13,12,1,7,11,89,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.1485392065496091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13492879915638184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12172572639253745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351094847745376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064317826816522,0.0,0.2505188104838687,0.13550300462410186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541851768614933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15959380499358414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15903155375331368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12715552186686874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539282543936142,0.10874193140447247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15905138608943722,0.0,0.0,0.12767013903468738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15071609512602066,0.13460260907105065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15621579291092824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17183142512419514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15564944184225138,0.0,0.2974568872252644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214960077162081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14605373290283274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11576583958719225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14530577953263313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164112767723251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27714037682440545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10773807000650992,0.0,0.0,0.12725797643919431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10112442206553923,0.29259834553164776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2973825208612212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08977994206294843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14672916026199267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09802102322884564
divorce,alxeandraj,2020/04/01,"Abandonment I truly feel like I have been abandoned. 12 years together (today), 4 years married (anniversary was last week). We have 3 children together, including a 2 month old. He left when she was 1 month old. He only contacts me when he’s feeling down and wants to vent. Rarely asks about the kids who are struggling with his absence, and if he does he doesn’t respond when I tell him they’re upset. I feel so used. I feel so alone. I feel betrayed. He told me he downloaded a dating app 17 days after he left. Has blocked me on all social media. Spent 100k of our savings. I’m so angry and so sad that I am left alone to rebuild the pieces of my life and our children’s lives. When does it get better?",1.5131220657276998,3.8064424718309873,2.7273521126760585,92.36999530516434,82.02816901408453,5.476807511737089,22.846948356807516,6.742157984588678,0.6356435680751176,549,19,114,6,15,176,96,142,0.20600000000000002,0.7290000000000001,0.065,-0.9692,0,2,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,0,0,1,9,8,0,2,4,0,9,1,0,1,1,19,21,13,0,2,1,0,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,6,0,3,5,0,1,0,1,5,0,0,5,5,17,3,9,16,2,21,0,3,0,0,24,5,0,1,17,57,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3086421440555228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13929669905301967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13178010640958265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09609392394333788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607852016095003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3766992864805617,0.10644701489522597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07784736322732044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12145646719664202,0.0,0.0,0.4856731276430513,0.0,0.1052444759292874,0.0727948209494764,0.0,0.13157144185748235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23786385207695096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31270494002402066,0.0,0.0,0.11332268878929776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15188871241349813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15576917828825732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13023426209195652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412364157020526,0.14237773792074268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12868983468051995,0.0,0.0,0.08788520404810589,0.0,0.11952036769693905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919047268137281
divorce,linustechthrowaway,2020/04/01,"Contemplating divorce and I feel like a PoS because my wife hasn't actually done anything wrong I keep seeing these posts like ""they cheated and I can't get over it"" or something unforgivable.  But I've been having these feelings for a year now and I'm feeling horrible because I just don't want to be married to her anymore.  The attraction is gone and I just find myself fantasizing about having my own place and being on my own.  I was thinking about seeking counseling for depression right before the pandemic hit so thats on hold.

Anyone else get divorced from someone just for the fact that you weren't feeling it anymore?",6.221949152542372,7.506535559322035,6.462500000000002,75.00103813559323,66.28813559322033,8.950847457627118,35.936440677966104,9.188382445141503,3.4317084745762703,508,25,86,9,8,163,82,118,0.125,0.7829999999999999,0.09300000000000001,-0.7024,0,0,1,0,2,0,7.0,0,1,1,0,7,6,1,0,5,0,12,0,0,0,1,20,25,8,0,1,5,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,2,6,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,5,5,13,3,11,17,2,9,0,1,1,0,6,5,0,1,4,61,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.18737041781205813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3808372433458692,0.13425524514891676,0.19673310917232573,0.1580047964456621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23409047452324955,0.0,0.16338318994179304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16537471505574375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19648907267499904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16039659705162326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3883365477542087,0.13716931437991306,0.0,0.0,0.17549024810606814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20063069783001514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.170663990859294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18760912534515864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006056809123139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838889268373051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16397230156331216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15300413440386096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626862856055342,0.14781580369685535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12302986200722164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11325027005485434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099287095870333,0.0,0.12364573975706752
divorce,MediocreRub2,2020/04/02,"MARRIAGE PROBLEMS VISA K1 Please HELP Hi,

I have a serious marriage problem. I’m married to an american citizen and I came to the US with **fiance visa K1** one year ago, full of hopes and dreams about our happy future life together.

Things changed dramatically after I came to the US and we got married. My daily life now is full of control and manipulations from him. We got married but he didn’t tell about it to his parents, we applied for a green card 5 months after our marriage (I payed for it with my savings I had, because he “didn’t have money”). He always tells me that I cannot do anything right, criticizes literally everything I say or do. I'm educated and have degrees but he constantly insults me with words “stupid, crazy, asshole, bitch” etc, shames me and tries to put me down. Tells me “you are crazy! You probably have a history of mental diseases”... **BUT** he's nice and polite with other people.

He acts very unpredictably and I truly don’t know when he’ll be furious again. He was trying to throw me out of the house and now started talking about filing for divorce. **He doesn't hit me, but prefers to create psychologically unbearable atmosphere in the house...**

It's hard for me to focus on what's really going on or talk about this to people who know just his good side. Today he's almost filing for divorce \\ kicking me out of the house and shouts that this relationship is the biggest mistake in his life (while criticizing me for not being the woman who does everything his way) and the next day he's buying me clothes online and is very nice all of a sudden again. Subconsciously I started preparing myself for a bigger scandal after these moments of ""peace & generosity"".

I'm desperate and I don't have any relatives or close friends here. **What can I do in this situation?** Since he plays this game of extreme insulting and than being ""nice"" until this circle repeats again. I don't have permission for work or social security number or basically anything :,(

Thanks,

T.",2.812945116279071,5.6273322480000045,4.205296124031008,80.44565581395351,81.18666666666667,6.901705426356589,26.32093023255814,8.057270187336151,2.1016195348837208,1583,66,277,32,43,521,203,375,0.135,0.75,0.115,-0.8764,1,0,0,0,3,0,66.0,7,2,0,2,12,21,5,1,14,0,26,3,0,2,1,50,42,26,0,5,11,1,1,0,1,1,3,2,0,2,17,26,0,2,3,3,5,6,8,10,0,1,8,4,40,11,47,29,4,46,0,0,1,0,50,15,1,7,24,182,57,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251999622988104,0.0,0.1045140640228268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0868463491195577,0.11308764870716835,0.0,0.07097693467045482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17177948330080836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06362455707645835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387488566714211,0.0,0.0,0.11041235216878324,0.0,0.0,0.11278968182026153,0.11706272540039585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06731168069302447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09133714963370324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11640301828431365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876066929671324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08063799774371591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05931734346903116,0.08754276963858226,0.16695257646601208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11110655406081377,0.09349733237329078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06995874145966018,0.0,0.0,0.10366552391890924,0.0,0.36129583798518944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11472088268921968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2211643234373728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518301369910757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08330919897108939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110014247599277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07072556256959625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11589340035821802,0.0,0.0,0.14471761288757853,0.0,0.0,0.11456975225072435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11253129610553103,0.1997409297972104,0.0,0.10492327254761966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06686374847432712,0.0,0.0,0.1120570924387467,0.0,0.08913361452250837,0.0,0.08300126620707153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08633807817051628,0.11731915491372726,0.0,0.10639470313316128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14775090111435998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16778145527641858,0.2736787105414026,0.09609225036613264,0.0,0.0,0.0693405055610774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098933003522362,0.0,0.0,0.1417242636083651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510947295485546,0.0,0.0,0.17223662143043492,0.0,0.08284609724016406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07598448257701494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06721252065002865
divorce,vecisoz,2020/04/02,"Tax filing question My divorce should be finalized in July. From what I understand, you file your taxes based on your status on December 31. So on that day in 2020, I will be no longer legally married and will be required to file as ""single"" for my 2020 taxes. Makes sense.

But here's where I'm confused. Should I switch over my tax withholding at work now to single so I don't owe a lot of tax next year? Because right now my job is withholding taxes at a married rate.",2.934255319148935,4.7626723723404245,4.056329787234045,86.90875,75.27659574468085,6.827659574468084,25.57978723404256,7.645422480735847,1.3731106382978724,369,13,73,5,8,120,65,94,0.051,0.9329999999999999,0.016,-0.4767,2,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,3,0,2,6,1,0,1,2,0,9,0,0,1,0,12,13,5,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,3,2,0,7,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,11,0,14,6,3,16,0,0,0,0,5,10,0,3,6,50,13,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20006103624247454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116548265237629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35951512991507256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.325677052774711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27901464646212715,0.0,0.0,0.21906878037100413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3490328433277065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3676469145110105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28027170804476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34165643930483186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23892558190130905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21134302771734054
divorce,schaadillac,2020/04/02,"Disadvantages of a divorce I'm talking about legal disadvantages or opportunities that are no longer available to you because your status is divorced. Not including children. I cant seem to find any info on that specifically. All the forums I'm reading are about how it affects your social wellbeing. 
I understand some churches will frown upon your existence. But I'm more curious about how it has affected job opportunities, etc..",7.268288288288289,9.928163216216221,8.036216216216218,59.413963963963965,65.48648648648647,10.87927927927928,39.36036036036036,10.864195022040775,5.447809009009008,354,20,48,11,6,118,57,74,0.11900000000000001,0.7609999999999999,0.12,0.024,1,0,0,0,2,0,8.0,0,4,0,2,5,2,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,4,1,13,11,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,8,10,4,2,1,0,0,0,9,2,0,3,0,36,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333021659049305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091347990667528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38261833100699016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31356353008880805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3404481265914339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3431669604233373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3123217936068172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.349720860685622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757499819935437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3571522577603662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,giveit2mebish,2020/04/02,"Do yourself a favor. Get a lawyer and get it taken care of **now** Out of curiosity, maybe masochism, I put pencil to paper on the cost of my separation.

The lawyer and legal fees to get it all done were less than $5,000. I am still on the hook for a fair share of community debt and child support over the next few years, but adding up all the expenses and costs over the year between separating and finally filing, I spent more than $750/mo. trying to ""do the right thing"" after I left (beyond child support and community debt service).

I left her most of the savings to cushion the blow financially. I kept her on my healthcare plan until she was ""in a better spot."" She lost her job. I paid her bills. She wasn't sure how she'd cut it alone after finding work, I picked up the other half of the car note for the car she was to get. I paid her full for appliances and electronics even though they were half mine. I let her take the lion share of household goods.

I wanted to make things easy on her. I wanted to keep things comfortable and secure for our child. In mediation you know how much that adds up to? Nothing. She wanted more and more and more, no matter what I offered. I'm still the asshole. I still lost most shared friends because she badmouthed me while I kept my mouth shut.

And now she wants to split time with the kid in her favor. Nothing to do with the bigger child support check, of course. Of course!

Get a lawyer. Put it on credit. Borrow from family. Whatever it takes. Take care of yourself.",1.7040154048849736,4.158138444816056,2.7429674673152924,91.534805918719,82.61204013377927,5.49715212323908,20.097395358264926,6.850034144686104,0.3089299888517281,1181,33,244,14,33,375,157,299,0.073,0.752,0.174,0.9858,3,1,0,0,0,0,48.0,1,1,1,5,10,21,1,0,21,0,12,1,1,4,3,36,41,17,0,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,11,15,0,4,2,0,13,4,2,3,0,2,14,0,39,18,48,25,12,39,0,2,0,0,29,21,0,2,14,167,50,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11586151812758068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06819369904093715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989381617623918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281137784836038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11447981139874115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07388776389087222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10545920145820463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12254593413370912,0.1022453321805371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08642894508154324,0.0,0.2922320836432497,0.0,0.0,0.09382957713590863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11101173591113728,0.09943342507623523,0.0,0.0,0.061479731312062615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430898349054644,0.1143926169417789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24423428993709545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07467276366488061,0.0,0.1123864495998455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08223585719864908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11897289507410272,0.0,0.0,0.21468074055547764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22491649134481914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09553466715492287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680138058475425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.380839467590913,0.1054342731501768,0.0,0.25233245844796515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22296040011230947,0.0,0.10990974936812713,0.0,0.06523113478260273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07595103387276322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639305968567657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08144124178988668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14407865816599144
divorce,Cbarr24,2020/04/02,"Divorce is final So last week we have final mediation and settled. Now just waiting because of this virus for the judge to sign off. Things seem to go feel in my favor. Unfortunately, we still have some time until he refinances and buys me out. The process has started already once I get my money I will purchased a smaller home. But it was literally like almost a weight off my shoulders after we left mediation and I finally felt like this is over. I even texted him wishing him the best in life. I have no desire to fight anymore I am just happy it is over. However, in this whole process now that it is almost finalized he literally since last week almost daily want to start a fight with me constantly getting my attention. Literally texts me to start drama all this commotion. I thought he would be happy this is over and feel the same that I do. Instead it is like he wants every last bit of drama to go on. Anyone deal with this behavior? Anyone know the reasoning? I try to ignore and walk away but I never expected this behavior in the end.",3.2853934340802478,5.63423417821782,4.679088066701407,80.45186816050028,76.02970297029701,7.618968212610736,26.968212610734767,8.532816995589336,2.189332673267326,832,33,152,17,19,276,117,202,0.043,0.863,0.095,0.8137,1,0,0,0,3,0,17.0,3,0,0,1,8,10,2,0,9,0,16,3,1,1,2,39,33,9,0,6,4,0,4,3,0,2,1,0,1,0,14,11,1,2,8,2,3,3,2,3,0,0,3,4,22,7,26,27,6,37,0,0,0,0,13,13,0,5,24,109,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33605956818388205,0.0,0.12344935490383327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11094320748145173,0.15644171129032505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10510386865714233,0.0,0.0,0.06819382436522423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11739878789834962,0.0,0.12213111506100692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12088979641960262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11533121556005205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908203253663586,0.0,0.0,0.07388789967953692,0.0,0.0942537943492773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11312785958540934,0.0,0.10741102782719836,0.4901846373794626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11689304827936148,0.0,0.12715456698512734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381715859913436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11221293888736833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061479844297625874,0.2735625735145361,0.0,0.0,0.12154514082425097,0.0,0.07901582722856304,0.16395947467521269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862796623773856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11913599593772516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11501915466216635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10184061970412184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09253854186703164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.237542690983802,0.0,0.08933809946502966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07432026995402986,0.0,0.0,0.0888108653781801,0.06523125466238014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07595117345324216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13196554095015794,0.0,0.1794678654788682,0.13622534604912204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12489686485022004,0.12864292416765985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07946796891022026,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,msbrightsidedark,2020/04/02,"Destructive path Is anyone else struggling with self-destruction like me? I have my life together (on the outside). I own my house, I have a great job, and I am in school working towards my PhD which is my dream. But... ever since my marriage fell apart, I’ve been making highly questionable decisions. I am already in therapy and have been for over a year, but I just can’t stop making dumb choices. I guess I’m trying to escape my reality by experimenting with things and people, even though my brain is telling me no! I guess I’m seeking instant gratification due to all the pain. I don’t know how to stop. Anyone else experiencing this?",4.844089253187615,6.355255303278687,5.849125683060109,77.27119307832425,69.73770491803279,8.700910746812388,29.94899817850637,9.150863307647796,2.58427577413479,505,20,94,10,9,167,82,122,0.18899999999999997,0.722,0.08800000000000001,-0.9306,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,1,5,6,2,1,4,0,12,3,1,3,2,20,19,7,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,5,0,2,3,1,0,1,3,4,0,0,2,1,18,2,12,17,2,13,0,0,0,0,3,7,1,3,6,62,21,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17365275260063315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22006217698165492,0.3224716936817639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756679058055988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629113245331877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10393604059920937,0.1423428336712248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539301184225454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17349203320124024,0.3467037138324228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16626147074481162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18157448690586855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15615738903250315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08648197635425277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111493527685495,0.07687906811254464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.210080559682142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674441399494023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10909491700558152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17628132460290208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592586282674882,0.0,0.0,0.1641627648888202,0.0,0.0,0.13017137699404854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631231632871728,0.0,0.16450880861111838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13754122306178335,0.0,0.17995702915384687,0.0,0.10454424376371263,0.0,0.15460725255465216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10683839007241418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11456132608946605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10133589430813754
divorce,pkaypatrapolis,2020/04/02,"Cost for a lawyer Hello everyone. I am just beginning the process with separation with my wife. We were married for 15 years. We've agreed to be civil in the process of getting our separation agreement and divorce. However, she has now retained an attorney (something I naively thought wouldn't happen) and I am now scrambling to get representation for myself. 

My question might yield a wide range of answers but I'd like to get an idea of what my legal costs might be for this, I've heard anywhere from $3-8K if it's a fairly simple and civil process. We live in Annapolis, MD if anyone is from the area and can share their experience regarding costs in this area.",5.293845486111111,6.6029074296875025,5.905104166666668,78.05725694444446,68.453125,8.813888888888886,33.75347222222222,9.150863307647796,3.0442836805555555,533,25,98,10,9,173,87,128,0.0,0.8959999999999999,0.10400000000000001,0.8591,1,0,1,0,1,0,14.0,3,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,8,0,11,0,0,0,0,21,18,7,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,3,0,2,0,0,4,8,0,2,4,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,12,3,17,10,0,10,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,5,5,62,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17885154910937193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24441452626997084,0.0,0.2502078322778417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40091295203391214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261907537387393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2887513090056633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12496414072246285,0.0,0.22586376284581036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.542697141763662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2865389083823284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19691659305158046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20306554715646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16471782589794942
divorce,usentto,2020/04/02,"does it ever get easier In the fall of 2018 my husband decided he didn't love me anymore.  We had been married almost 2 years, together 5+.   We had been living in an isolated part of the country with decent jobs but no prospect for jobs in the rest of the country.  

We decided I would  move home to finish grad school (Jan 2018) so I could be more employable  in places we wanted to live.  I had flown back to where he was 2 times, in between semesters (cost a fortune), he had never made the effort to come home to see me (keep in mind his family and my family are from the same place so coming home was a thing we normally did). 

It was like one day he was just gone and I was devastated.  Never answered calls/text    I finally got  hold of him at work  one day and he said he wanted out - that was it.  I was on one side of the country in school, hes on the other with my whole life, dogs, belongings, everything.  The only contact we had was one phone call where he told he never loved me.

I had to start from scratch, replacing every belonging ( I came home with 2 suitcases for school) , I no longer have my dogs, living with my parents, trying to get through school so I could get back to work. He was on the other side of the country in our apartment, that I had made into a home, with all of my things ( I still don't have my belonging back) I lived in the arctic for 7 years and my mom had to buy me a winter coat because he has it all, I had what came in the 2 bags for school. And that was it, I haven't seen or heard from him outside our lawyers in almost a year. 

I was doing ok Or so I thought . Today I was deleting my Facebook , its be inactive for 3 years, so I was downloading all the pictures to keep on an external hard drive so I could be rid of it completely. A lot of those pictures included him.   Its been 19 months and now it feels like day 1 again ... I'm just so sad",2.0377125959079265,3.4474628312020457,3.6310669757033263,90.7925595428389,76.69820971867006,7.138139386189258,23.471946930946288,7.865858978985527,0.9898675831202048,1441,44,326,22,32,479,182,391,0.069,0.894,0.037000000000000005,-0.9223,4,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,8,0,0,3,18,6,0,0,22,1,42,3,0,3,7,58,68,16,0,7,5,3,3,2,0,1,1,2,5,0,18,23,0,3,5,0,2,8,8,1,0,4,38,7,46,5,52,23,9,57,0,1,2,2,34,25,0,5,26,224,64,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15491110072498118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07671110726792843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17843373564512807,0.0,0.047152267314477816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898371057728247,0.17693718318963655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13326155376920526,0.08110073477625973,0.0,0.0,0.18527471385304894,0.0,0.0,0.14965440266767546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06769011672796968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0699681343913038,0.06517129883724962,0.0,0.06951781940219211,0.0,0.1458387073252478,0.0,0.03911083683558707,0.05525935382170306,0.0,0.0847339083498943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12123764089296413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061864418992387614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06929103182530777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38794528242197934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15351726392152099,0.13750570815565233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054635085247628036,0.07557928742659457,0.0,0.2732083324493612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06576079701342455,0.13962404911590712,0.14638220066377589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07810215437198048,0.09059220216691236,0.06174058885658321,0.08221155023025503,0.0,0.0,0.1789728795279014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07578726054104014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096593381854668,0.058828691081645325,0.0,0.0,0.08588879584823796,0.08376326773165345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616300314729946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07357822655026812,0.0,0.0,0.3914151776453963,0.06163849135958423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054749221883990576,0.0,0.061772367022294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10277673288972017,0.0,0.0,0.06140781373859355,0.04510381380909685,0.0,0.07331941694626977,0.07391190634927694,0.0,0.05251604623807888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09124689106532496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08635929151908651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112624458192083,0.0,0.0,0.054947716275964835,0.0,0.0,0.1992452528517579
divorce,spdrqwr,2020/04/02,"It’s time hey all.
So I’m in a same sex marriage. 
I love him.
I moved to another state for him. But I miss my family my old life etc and we honestly rushed into marriage while I don’t regret anything there are very apparent things I’m our marriage that we have to work on. We have to go to counseling for this to work. But with my mental health and just being away from my main support system i don’t think I can hold on anymore. The decision came to me after weeks/months of thoughts and I told him last week. He told his family and I waited to tell mine until he did it for me recently. It’s been so damn hard. We’ve cried, argued, and cuddled and he pleaded me to stay and try counseling etc but I feel like it just won’t work. I feel like my thoughts on relationships have changed. But he’s trying everything in his power to keep me here. He’s being extra sweet, always asking if I’m okay, not being petty or crabby or rude like he usually is, he went to my mom to talk to me but my mom is a wise and very balanced person and gave me unbiased advice.
I feel cornered like I HAVE to stay but I don’t want to. We are young and only really have a lease on an apt that just started. I’m just ready to go home.

I know I love him
And I’ll miss him once I’m gone, but I miss home more. I know that I can flourish there and be myself. Unlike here, I don’t know anyone but him and his craniotomy and friends but I haven’t connected with anyone here.
I want the best for him but being together is making us toxic for one another. And I don’t think that he is the one like I once did.
I want to leave and grow on my own and rediscover the things I like because I literally feel like I just dropped the things I liked and left my own identity behind. We haven’t been married a full year but we are close and I don’t know I just need a crap ton of advice. Legal or not or even just compassionate or wise advice.
I’m sorry for the terrible grammar by the way.",1.3459213759213746,2.9615026028708167,3.3824531229794377,90.93379348247772,79.19138755980863,6.719875856717963,20.866675287727922,7.63319966405982,0.6051999741368159,1520,40,347,23,37,516,182,418,0.075,0.743,0.182,0.9944,2,1,0,0,0,0,34.0,8,0,0,5,15,28,4,0,13,1,32,7,1,1,1,80,73,40,0,6,26,2,5,8,1,1,2,0,2,1,12,30,0,3,13,0,0,8,11,9,0,2,12,6,65,19,40,55,12,39,0,4,0,4,45,13,2,6,20,230,77,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499985405504792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07095827412475622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17884320665964978,0.0,0.0,0.08457303590152307,0.1192569672880999,0.0,0.07017667287479996,0.0,0.07972358307771492,0.0,0.08012165376429722,0.0,0.0,0.051984784713083904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949418471953209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09753551525430616,0.0,0.0,0.09021300298030936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09367407224605023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902154175530506,0.05632543112952949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07664252603684207,0.0,0.16078534999333188,0.0,0.17247683291974156,0.18276823843781545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0658857074221154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09693110558817854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07639249557104699,0.0,0.0,0.09064671355685563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17108192785436555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07579916133849325,0.0,0.0,0.18746662178024576,0.06951309556295864,0.0,0.09029727544259444,0.0926549880063964,0.0,0.060234497854292274,0.3333008747541979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15393376707954953,0.0,0.056923844836742364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08594034400979178,0.0,0.0,0.1997535386759701,0.06806822667428818,0.09063720544221764,0.0,0.06323268712683602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08948510063159475,0.18163694903609964,0.11557339847486656,0.06485789581305776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07446161416102373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054631383372471455,0.0,0.08420191100212532,0.09155684681627102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09546193647465072,0.060360332067727014,0.18179037850096852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09677266380614977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06854336778259304,0.07453688482238242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16996509299816054,0.1092856239067622,0.0,0.13540269254122478,0.04972639035504006,0.0,0.0,0.16297390382841792,0.0,0.11579656772223335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10257914599299743,0.0,0.09392186311944427,0.14072685290383002,0.15089783348486052,0.06768984692771518,0.06840500908021621,0.0,0.0,0.07905372374087266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862505838848226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054916349544353316
divorce,Chickybot,2020/04/02,Quarantine I (30F) have been married to him for 4 years together a total of 8 we have a one year old babygirl. He has been emotionally abusive. Is heavily sarcastic and loves to belittle me. Also infidelity. I have been furloughed. We just signed a lease to an apartment. I have a lot of hurt and anger I’m trying not to argue but it’s extremely difficult for me we escalated an argument and he put me in a chock hold I freaked out and scratched him I was not sure where it was going. He has apologized I know it doesn’t mean anything and claims he thought I was going to throw his play station ( I disconnected it) I just feel stuck and hopeless.,1.3364062499999996,3.928317328125004,3.3862500000000004,85.03375000000003,86.65625,7.2625,26.75,8.278499904357787,2.279475,510,24,101,13,16,172,81,128,0.22,0.706,0.07400000000000001,-0.9543,0,1,0,0,0,1,12.0,3,0,0,0,4,9,2,0,7,0,14,1,0,0,2,24,23,8,0,0,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,10,0,1,4,1,0,4,3,6,0,1,8,2,18,3,11,15,2,11,0,2,0,1,13,4,0,1,3,70,22,0,0.0,0.2970029996912854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20046073513154364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20628007900290066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819700482914214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12674630067005652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28492311332913084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683474552171084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377616947594077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21311069833673515,0.22623949193939394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730531527921381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630360327968241,0.0,0.1698605020115607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519926190773914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23625353990518885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19900400639141108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17018849825370208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3228465659171478
divorce,joejon22,2020/04/02,"Married and confused I’m 32 (male) married to (f) 33. Married 4 yrs together 8. 
Super confused and frustrated. 
We Have been having the same arguments since the start. And it’s over very little things, such as personality and life views. 
We don’t have kids and I thought it would be easy as two adults just trying to make a go at life and be there for each other. 
We’ve come a long way tighter but I don’t know if we have much patience left for this and was hoping things would have changed and got better by now. 
I’ve been told that I’m not emotionally supportive enough and heartless when it comes to emotions. 

We tried to talk to a therapist and didn’t get to far. She can’t seem to express her self with out crying and it really upsets me that she can’t express any of her emotions with out getting worked up. 

I’m ready to call it quits and relieve myself from this emotional baggage and get back to being happy. I just don’t want to throw away so many memories and time. 

Do separations work?",2.9702721685689184,4.777398383084581,3.873912788996197,88.34755048287974,75.11940298507463,6.918466491074043,25.256365232660237,7.724431198458867,1.235028446005268,789,27,164,11,17,253,127,201,0.102,0.7709999999999999,0.127,0.7394,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,4,0,0,5,8,11,2,3,5,0,20,2,0,1,0,41,39,20,0,5,5,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,5,12,25,0,0,3,0,0,4,7,5,0,1,7,1,13,6,25,27,4,20,0,0,1,0,18,9,0,5,6,105,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08492536188051411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11733257287255805,0.09602804149193872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11044969664044453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12752046594350924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13211064985476073,0.2151529132374391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13717914435980644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5619104958316771,0.0,0.12903849394746172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19574011329127608,0.0,0.07097442124385195,0.0,0.09988109545087392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13294127669392414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12403793111413675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06863294761086333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135686766579335,0.0,0.1764184406308399,0.0,0.12516651640386506,0.0,0.11051835732795708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08336099991322793,0.1266127141900682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180406547648527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10904383970229263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328294428142205,0.0,0.0,0.08000385001458273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136896489681052,0.1302811859446458,0.0,0.0,0.10330528596005124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08839349574314798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14171681555038385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10037698072160092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14499988015766685,0.16593468160026315,0.0,0.0,0.0991438989544001,0.07282082989931883,0.0,0.0,0.11933195677367606,0.0,0.16957599578049876,0.0,0.12199346336093005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10304232968055753,0.07365978364084103,0.09912705896888953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18183399184870044,0.0,0.0,0.17742793623722564,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Sichoo,2020/04/02,"Any suggestions on handling a separation with kids involved? I can only tell you how my dad did it... My dad divorced my mom when I was 10. He came home one day, sat us all down on the couch (my sister was 7), cried and told us he was leaving and not coming back. He never came back to the house, but is still around and we still talk. 

One day he was there, the next day he was gone. I'm not sure I ever got over it. 

Now facing the same situation myself, with a 12 year old and a 6 year old, I'm wondering how best to handle things? 

I don't have anywhere to go, so after telling my wife I'm separating (she has a long distance boyfriend I found out)  I'm likely staying here and living with them through it all. I'm thinking we give ourselves a year of being separated and see how we feel, go from there. Maybe leave the kids in the dark and enjoy my last little bit together with them?

Anyone else here have to live together through a separation?",1.985909502262441,3.6918481641025633,3.5276319758672727,90.20158371040723,77.61538461538461,6.434389140271492,22.7526395173454,7.285733465282438,0.6826259426847665,732,22,162,9,17,242,118,195,0.028999999999999998,0.912,0.059000000000000004,0.8597,0,0,0,0,1,0,26.0,5,1,2,1,16,4,0,0,12,0,13,1,1,3,5,35,33,13,0,0,3,5,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,4,19,0,0,4,0,0,6,4,0,0,2,13,2,21,4,20,19,5,35,0,0,1,0,29,8,0,1,21,102,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08105000426560878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08333704373526435,0.12211929377569596,0.0,0.10610007215979107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18329208142769174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12507748529284776,0.0,0.1301193395716221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726321718664312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10266747264608199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13091931537669374,0.2305937287637997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09956391803278873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10780981191555884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06026360427910475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13068038975881302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11433327763652057,0.1354713601964222,0.0,0.0953232701408655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11955244568201664,0.0,0.0,0.13752368684186916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09715182293893453,0.0,0.2523997771821789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05822785495897001,0.11945485381290245,0.21048538160530075,0.10547512703521696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11973752525163392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13958823343794902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09192295248757867,0.0,0.1267547829735423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501295786593052,0.0,0.1615259147092897,0.09064569429964632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949751514463918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13396912744040146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12703553568645218,0.19036286527256904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11233061448828187,0.0,0.0,0.09579652692090987,0.20834618795318235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07918133260612929,0.07636904598749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138865397964123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867301750276027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12925123536857072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302540301583962
divorce,treal777,2020/04/02,I was only engaged but I fee everyone’s pain it’s horrible being in a toxic relationship with a mentally and emotionally unstable person unwilling to get help who is a pathological liar who lacks empathy and is unfaithful and uses you for security privately but is publicly ashamed of u because they want to appear single even though you have done everything for that person I cannot wait to find a wife that treats me right,7.277468354430383,8.302127632911397,8.496050632911395,62.29167088607596,63.81012658227849,12.90227848101266,37.31898734177216,12.340626583579946,5.465367594936708,349,17,55,13,5,120,61,79,0.23399999999999999,0.6559999999999999,0.111,-0.9337,0,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,0,2,1,0,2,6,1,1,4,0,8,2,0,1,0,12,13,6,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,5,4,0,2,1,0,1,1,1,3,0,0,2,0,7,3,8,10,2,3,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,1,0,41,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15184908530498076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549158484033843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802040410102751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645282411696719,0.0,0.0,0.2380257835202552,0.22387507303129175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22767294319960835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13014450080309434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669665202851007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25103427283017593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894518214969118,0.26506002808282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4350091305788575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26744024274009986,0.0,0.21273009129013895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24473954547664076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21514247366378644,0.0,0.0,0.14692567011447286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,amaidanstears,2020/04/02,"I can’t believe I’m here... I’ve been married for five years and have been together for ten in total. We have two children, one school age and the other about to turn three. 

My husband has crippling depression and anxiety.

About 3 years ago, he had a complete mental breakdown. He spent all our savings (we were in the process of buying our first home), attempted suicide, trying coke with me and the kids in a room adjacent etc. 
It was hard but we worked through it and he did worked on himself so much! I was really proud of him. 
The thing is, after he was on the road to recovery he turned to weed. At this point, I was the only one working. 
Again, I was okay with it but he promised me that if he would listen to me if I felt like he was abusing it. Silly me...

He found a job about five months ago and I noticed he was on the beginnings of the same destructive path. He has no started smoking cigarettes again (which he lied to me about 3 or 4 times), is jobless again...

I grew up in a 2 parent home until my mom died. And, I don’t mean this as an insult at all, I wanted the same for my kids. 

I’m finding that I’m also remembering all this shitty things he has put me through (not saying I’m a saint!) like he had cyber sex with one of his friend’s girlfriend’s. He refuses to see my Dad or visit my family when we go. When he gets moody he is just the biggest asshole you’ve ever met. He drove home drunk the other night and wrecked our car. 
I’m working from home and all he has to do is go by the list of chores (I had to write it for him so he wouldn’t forget...) and keep the kids quiet / homeschool the biggest. And even this isn’t being done. 
Our littlest doesn’t have a bedroom because he has claimed it as his pot room and it’s just filled with so much crap it’s not funny. 
I know I’ve enabled this behaviour. I thought it would be easier to not fight him, let the kids live a calm life but I just feel like I’m suffocating. 
I’m on day 3 of silent treatment from him at the Moment... he was super attentive on Monday and this is the end result because I didn’t put out...

The other thing is, his friends, my friends, our family have basically told me to leave. I’m just worried for my kids and the impact that would have on their sweet souls. 
It’s like I know what I have to do... I just, I dunno?

This has turned into a bigger rant than what I intended as I didn’t think I’d get this far, I appreciate you taking the time to read it and I hope it has made some sense.",1.7537722048066868,3.2421745287356347,3.323408220132361,92.36582288401256,77.65900383141762,6.354649947753396,22.59160571229537,7.075746649084167,0.5409371647509582,1912,56,437,21,44,632,239,522,0.109,0.784,0.107,0.3287,3,0,1,0,1,1,73.0,9,1,1,9,21,22,4,0,29,1,50,5,1,3,6,75,86,32,2,8,15,4,3,4,4,4,1,3,8,6,32,25,2,2,11,2,2,9,11,6,0,9,26,8,55,16,58,53,11,57,2,1,1,1,64,24,1,7,28,287,87,7,0.0,0.10680320376856099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15981040033635324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07208630473127843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06895817272031624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10989911750913003,0.0,0.0,0.10155885559118237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09451188340328552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058133955237834385,0.0,0.07763893545845672,0.0,0.09355287876832087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09224628097810544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07983881266483205,0.0,0.10053185100740424,0.059537759063745824,0.08153835076562166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16995519141023227,0.0,0.04557836449950355,0.06439726618687194,0.08655019188935098,0.0,0.08238790338476454,0.07667450504045925,0.0,0.09883574851877168,0.208929818853308,0.0,0.09419066145969858,0.0,0.102459239007332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08074927975478523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3616779986052969,0.08953107195008794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08945175273793833,0.08012210673766584,0.0,0.0,0.09907906904768572,0.0,0.0,0.0954470710938842,0.0,0.09217602086605252,0.06366976601257532,0.17615477395296525,0.0,0.07959679444488428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08529427951311824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09819076422669022,0.0,0.0,0.09084165700824803,0.0,0.0,0.10557289859416197,0.07195026470921323,0.0,0.13252907909150094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08459190232876429,0.0,0.0,0.10262695110599904,0.0,0.0,0.1832470967710205,0.06855684362928761,0.0,0.0,0.10009171780319634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08521306628799713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18123466141063155,0.0,0.0,0.0901661184009306,0.0,0.05774709709845599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10211300208537297,0.0,0.0,0.07168431756103077,0.0,0.0912282379042684,0.07183128395325884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06380277674913275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09860041630444724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06777535875099304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796584695978725,0.05775917746931146,0.0,0.07156246053903251,0.10512472922789612,0.0,0.0,0.08613428095650587,0.0,0.06120031406062889,0.2941449351057179,0.08805536699541927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05316792476091554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26249699686134603,0.09154329708740393,0.0,0.19210228495257686,0.0,0.0,0.11609663067871374
divorce,TerriblePhysics6,2020/04/02,"Life on hold....could use some advice Before the pandemic we had started the process of talking to realtors to sell our home. Once the pandemic hit we put everything on hold. It was actually my idea since his mother lives with us and I was worried about risking her health by bringing strangers into the home etc. 

So now the three of us are living in the home. His mother and I get along quite well and we have been trying to make the best of the situation. We have been trying to keep the peace. I also keep busy with my work. Him...he is like an adult  toddler. He has done nothing at all to help make this situation bearable.  Of course I am not surprised since that's the main reason for our marriage ending. 

But I feel so stuck. It took me years to get over how crazy in love I was with him and come to the conclusion that he will never treat me right, he will never take responsibility for anything, and he will never be loyal...and now my life is on hold.  I am turning 32 in a couple months and I feel like I'm wasting precious time. I was hoping by this time our home would be on the market and I would be looking for a new place for myself. I imagined and day dreamed for months about myself being in my own space feeling peaceful. Now...I dont know what to do. 

I care about his mother a lot and I care about him as a person too. Neither one of them is super healthy and I could never forgive myself if they got sick because I decided I needed to close this chapter right away. 

I have tried to do the things I would be doing on my own. Trying to better myself... do home excersises, start meditating, read more...but sometimes the anxiety of the situation is really hard to deal with....I dont know what to do. Suck it up and try to make the best of it? Not sure what kind of advice I'm looking for....but I just needed to share this with someone.",2.3256581818181843,4.158463597333334,3.6940848484848487,88.8177090909091,77.02666666666667,6.1454545454545455,22.83030303030303,6.980632752743323,0.6527866666666671,1439,43,302,15,33,472,187,375,0.075,0.784,0.141,0.9834,0,0,0,0,0,0,53.0,9,0,2,7,13,20,1,1,21,0,38,5,0,6,6,63,72,18,0,8,5,3,4,2,0,6,4,0,5,2,14,23,0,4,11,2,1,4,9,2,1,2,11,6,47,18,54,48,10,39,0,0,2,1,33,19,1,4,18,214,61,3,0.0,0.0,0.07615428180792698,0.0,0.0,0.1525165639253935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0624073299319526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059699209891585024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06421900498506936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07331970399453154,0.0,0.0,0.047571522157986164,0.0,0.06640498342692304,0.0,0.16379310272779105,0.06901867798261847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15913082616563065,0.0,0.0,0.06722322508543421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12461472384904301,0.08634807397776577,0.0,0.050328352081594536,0.08045422774852251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0798604410845646,0.1829209927184572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06911891436137936,0.0,0.08703351375655557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07013593776965305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11837577366530393,0.05575069290375345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08154375103754903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062414487075655035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06990713370882275,0.0,0.0,0.08295123594949227,0.0,0.0,0.05230753615296215,0.0,0.39139470167443774,0.07750980116374506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08809592481561627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872834149732835,0.0,0.0812650493756566,0.08577579575564932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11024174727915872,0.07625130139595844,0.0,0.13781878349750748,0.0,0.13106530731888902,0.0,0.0,0.06634550977976869,0.07043275885341889,0.0,0.15627383825371294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12457911180598708,0.0,0.0,0.11572906162314806,0.24075229150295024,0.075370032966625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07488000907603673,0.0,0.0,0.08310841521678028,0.052880881557609886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06814017500564963,0.0815335832350601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07845020875963561,0.0,0.08300351036770777,0.07805958039750645,0.0,0.049993437098352606,0.08023653630715526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13328884044515646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12910844452185172,0.2631555031885459,0.0,0.0,0.0661217356771643,0.0,0.07718203443678444,0.0,0.1104720502459088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07355032696442908,0.0,0.0586752114787541,0.06272435977660093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05184528660499358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09100970961667083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08670360277980653,0.26491496587031743,0.08488343743602597,0.0,0.0,0.187741322522972,0.06740017519674231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07016594945368204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056812929828835686,0.07925184632072699,0.0,0.16630885328923736,0.0,0.0,0.0502542109889203
divorce,TightLipsB,2020/04/02,Narcissist MIL My MIL is extremely toxic. Is there any legal action I can take with a possible divorce to prevent her from having any contact with my daughter? Daughter is 3. MIL has only seen her twice. Once after her second birthday and again a few months later for Christmas. She walks in and out without any care for how traumatizing it is for my daughter. I would like to keep her as far away as possible.,3.1303846153846173,5.7393650512820535,4.2483974358974415,81.96951923076925,77.97435897435899,6.464102564102564,27.698717948717945,7.645422480735847,1.975841025641026,326,14,56,5,8,106,55,78,0.07400000000000001,0.862,0.064,-0.4268,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,1,0,10,12,5,0,1,1,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,1,1,10,2,15,10,1,10,0,0,1,0,10,4,0,0,5,44,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5015472658603313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309786296166965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506544499978581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21851753663953624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12010701178118352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962304193560184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618159486543896,0.0,0.18697552023568076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.554304579926572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848441715046108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369849445359691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17464059878882088,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,johnvicente57,2020/04/02,"Contemplating Divorce but.... My story is I am a 41 year old man who has 4 amazing young children (7,6,3,1). My wife and I have been married for about 11 yrs now but things don’t seem to be working for us. We are seeing a therapist and I find I’m trying my hardest but she always finds a reason to fight and complain. I am terrified of the divorce route because I absolutely adore my children and couldn’t bare a day without them. To have to “share” their time breaks my heart but at the same time I’m not sure I want to be with my wife. There is no other woman in the picture for me and doubtfully a man in her life. We just fell in love and grew apart. 

For those in my shoes or going through the same, how do you cope? How do you kiss your child one morning and wake up to realize they are with your ex the next? How do you find the strength to just do it
How is life after divorce?
Please help",1.5750802139037423,3.362365438502678,2.834759358288772,94.33096256684496,79.10695187165776,5.683422459893047,23.299465240641712,6.522977012572876,0.4174085561497334,695,23,158,6,17,224,114,187,0.10300000000000001,0.747,0.15,0.9162,0,0,0,0,4,0,20.0,3,5,3,2,9,10,1,1,11,0,19,7,3,5,1,36,26,16,0,2,9,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,6,5,11,0,0,6,0,0,3,5,3,0,1,1,1,27,7,24,22,2,20,0,0,1,2,31,7,0,3,9,111,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15567323194295288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140478619014352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12065707985685965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5129885174989042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10632712441811527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217016457226464,0.12540197136777714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642933208593101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16885534014183945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19897152520322853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963186816179992,0.0,0.12677650837153184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053677995285715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19235889450452925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490858987438814,0.1703190140762254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763293910290911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172250231553886,0.12429377532486645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21818647634568747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270213105347495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22504531548501455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11035007883871392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803473474230647,0.0,0.1362031921916806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12047933416542575
divorce,tangySponge,2020/04/02,"How do kids turn out when experiencing infrequent communication with non-custodial parent? Someone in my family has two daughters (9 and 7) who haven’t lived with their biological father in 4 years. 

They spent one summer with him two years ago but haven’t seen him since. He lost his physical custody due to domestic violence. In the meantime, he’s called an average of 3-4 times a month, for maybe 30-60 minutes total per month. 

The oldest daughter is having a harder time dealing with this and gets upset with him. 

I’m looking at the literature on these types of scenarios but I am having a hard time coming to any conclusions. 

How do these kids usually turn out? Do they have behavioral problems? Will they ever have a good relationship with their father?",5.422136363636364,7.451832992857143,6.3993506493506525,71.85110389610394,69.07142857142857,9.662337662337665,29.87012987012988,10.018931242160765,3.2820714285714288,609,24,103,16,11,202,99,140,0.127,0.846,0.027000000000000003,-0.9356,1,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,0,0,5,2,4,4,0,1,8,0,13,0,0,2,2,19,22,7,0,1,2,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,11,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,3,0,3,3,4,11,1,18,18,1,22,0,1,2,0,22,7,0,0,14,66,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532453371082165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11756252403487255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17652709991997972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14891852665424382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17822895352295434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15637745758757454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629733768649342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032127844907184,0.0,0.0,0.14500131637833644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15486414615348207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15265386447649082,0.0,0.14517343103227398,0.0,0.18871604576407106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17367853114653556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759780977253611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11714616428665164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19195983495702584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654202732835621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18560557291285565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430059277309303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146478414928031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30241851347032056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3760818206581295,0.3377520955081708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19039997356297406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2226546866542138
divorce,tarabithia22,2020/04/03,Leaving my husband with my child tonight in an hour or so. What do I pack? Need advice what to bring so I don't forget. I have somewhere to go.,-1.617096774193545,0.2910414838709734,0.5312258064516122,102.29683870967743,101.90322580645164,2.4800000000000004,19.103225806451608,3.1291,-0.9073922580645162,110,4,26,0,5,36,24,31,0.0,0.93,0.07,0.2369,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,6,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,4,6,0,5,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,18,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4936368508897373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28709427029323525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4974811913486982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5348918749116285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3745700012230836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,theidiotingreen,2020/04/03,"Looking like a divorce is coming Things have been super super rocky as of late. First my (29ftm) says that he(34ftm) wants an open marriage and we come to an agreement. Then a week later says that he needs less emotional neediness from me. Today hes decided to start sleeping in a different bed. 
Please tell me your opinions and advice. Im willing to give any additional info.",3.755714285714287,6.4398294285714295,4.324285714285715,81.87071428571429,76.14285714285714,6.857142857142858,28.57142857142857,7.957251820313856,2.2054285714285715,300,13,51,5,7,95,59,70,0.0,0.775,0.225,0.9442,1,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,1,1,0,3,0,4,0,0,5,0,5,1,1,0,0,12,12,4,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,1,0,3,7,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,3,6,4,7,10,1,11,0,0,1,0,10,2,0,1,8,30,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21503343353088472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14964371727684705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3791126820877368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299087508906573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2475302239260219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871771336658069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21109507431863966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376952099025701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482295866979206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10750687484929178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847892604199225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16316665442519518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415523253277732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3499902629376749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22021211291866932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15575478270802445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923361900364773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14619356355966753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20858469694680015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12979307469224774,0.0,0.17651339812834016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,generalkesh,2020/04/03,"OneStep Ahead Cheater 
I always been very skeptical about intruding on others privacy, loved ones or colleagues.However we all know curiosity can get the best of us at times and only by knowing the truth on some hot-button issues do we truly find peace and closure.I decided to feed my curiosity and give it a shot. After a long tedious search and being short-changed by incompetent hands,I stumbled on probably the most reliable hacker,he as done different type of hacking job for me and sure he is good and wonderful.He hacks Facebook,WeChat,Viber,WhatsApp,Text messages,Credit card hacks,Cell phones,Icloud accounts and a lots more...For more details or probably need help contact him on ghosth114    (at)  gmailcom",9.055044642857146,9.22421646875,8.227366071428571,68.64531250000002,60.09375,11.376785714285715,41.723214285714285,10.914260884657429,4.86268392857143,580,30,91,13,7,181,101,128,0.07,0.743,0.187,0.9383,3,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,0,0,2,1,6,1,0,6,0,6,2,0,0,3,22,12,10,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,9,1,0,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,7,5,16,9,6,10,0,0,0,1,9,6,0,5,4,53,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17190514460649142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21681066733109566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185520929588871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21584975553539554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21142032523402832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888257948641949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10793833674738744,0.1981865414425864,0.0,0.17328365125925851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13847752598736154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21563345501747944,0.20501551342863925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270804717527668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828317272752615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17564126950667694,0.18646173977616334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531889601103389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13999538477045675,0.15712622800004933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44549273345149293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947151034568256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12046829534936025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485105950369279,0.0,0.0,0.17046405297228934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ThrowAway988799,2020/04/03,"Anyone need someone to talk to? I (29F) recently separated from my spouse (32M) after 4 years of marriage. He was abusive and controlling, and while I tried to get out before, it was difficult/unsuccessful until he ""let"" me. We have two young kids together and have been civil enough. We won't be able to officially divorce until next year due to state laws.

There's a stay at home order in effect in my state, plus many of my pre-marriage friendships fizzled out over the years (and no new ones were acquired.) Basically, I don't have anyone to talk to about this stuff, and it's taking a toll on me.

So if anyone needs a divorce survival buddy or someone to talk to, let me know! It would be great having someone to talk to who's going through the same thing, or has been through it before and just wants a friend :)",6.269451388888887,6.017566431250002,6.609583333333338,79.33930555555557,65.9375,9.111111111111112,31.527777777777786,8.515128840125781,2.293631944444445,639,22,125,8,9,207,103,160,0.04,0.8759999999999999,0.083,0.7777,0,0,0,0,2,0,27.0,2,0,0,4,4,2,0,0,6,0,17,0,0,2,0,24,24,14,0,5,4,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,8,11,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,5,0,11,2,28,13,2,24,0,0,0,0,15,7,0,3,12,88,19,0,0.1374889346870231,0.1629019052471468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884063797303785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339859137602492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15420553117290742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14206282264059794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062236098831454,0.0,0.0718322937274592,0.0,0.07813813001637845,0.0,0.0,0.1515820358710211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379126116536055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556032285771512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28118350175560514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13939220003103728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20389260590892389,0.0,0.1327876698685069,0.14622104181760565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09316606038552397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13575373621476572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3494817845755733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14654491089151167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15739193627721446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033745681756004,0.4420335908525849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09134153895077284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09334596164178828,0.0,0.13430671126565022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08109453589387199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09766819445141288,0.0,0.0,0.2656150985599545
divorce,throwawayaddness96,2020/04/03,"Wife of 4 years, dating for 8, leaving because she is gay. Not sure how to process anything. Last week we where planning a get away and nothing was wrong. Then overnight she comes out as gay and I can't react negatively because I still want her in my life, obviously not sexually anymore.",3.5950909090909065,5.884098327272731,4.361818181818183,83.38272727272731,74.81818181818181,6.581818181818183,32.81818181818181,7.554174236665415,2.292927272727273,228,12,43,3,5,73,49,55,0.037000000000000005,0.89,0.073,0.2244,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,2,2,12,6,5,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,1,0,7,1,7,5,0,11,0,0,0,2,5,4,0,0,6,27,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818884799832674,0.0,0.0,0.23390428682251074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670516785002469,0.0,0.0,0.3465386287443115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448465298578407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14850302442170174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316925322391216,0.0,0.30096781379329635,0.0,0.0,0.2007662473234693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727347632412805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22699344677772634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2678916744066194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676513893598621,0.0,0.22799919415588216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3107704715559797,0.0,0.18304044704405334
divorce,electromouse1,2020/04/03,"Can a judge rule you homeless? If you are low income but we’re always the breadwinner, can you be ordered to split your income with your ex spouse or is there a minimum standard of living allowed before determining alimony? For example, you make 2k income and everypenny goes to rent, food healthcare. Can the judge order you to give half to your ex wife, leaving you homeless? Are there protections against this? Im posting on my friends account, I dont use reddit. My wife has a free place to live and a job that affords her food. I payher health bills and will continue to. We are in our early 60s. Idont know how much work I can get, and the current climate scares me even more that I will have nowhere to go.",3.093127090301003,5.400076239130438,3.684782608695652,87.55168896321074,76.46376811594203,6.564994425863991,27.282051282051288,7.61054688173877,1.6241676700111487,563,23,108,8,13,177,96,138,0.034,0.8959999999999999,0.07,0.7851,8,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,9,0,1,4,4,0,1,7,0,14,3,0,4,0,15,20,8,0,1,3,5,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,3,6,2,1,1,0,4,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,19,3,13,17,2,11,0,1,0,0,19,4,0,2,3,70,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16884947055886768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17267383471389675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378260458202508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13402974272598533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4907543107569995,0.0,0.15677899375147553,0.0,0.10601969507381992,0.19466370637758187,0.11532669065819018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21569929343358288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21919332176357612,0.0,0.20137129099900705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11152201848723704,0.0,0.0,0.2148677844754823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3583721674790821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13545370404528706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491728833405313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21201295066439968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943456127263334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20316286180311866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752616462048749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477314796060804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Amazing_Consequence,2020/04/03,"Seeing other people in love makes me sad Yeah, I know it’s probably cliche. It makes me wonder why I didn’t have what it takes? Where did the love we have go? 

My STBX became very controlling such that everyone could see it but me, but I’m still really sad I couldn’t have a lifelong love. I feel like I’m mourning that too. I wanted to believe in soul mates.",-0.6582000000000008,1.4950729466666672,1.3221666666666678,96.71525,99.53333333333332,4.633333333333333,14.25,6.42735559955562,-0.4636,281,6,62,4,12,92,51,75,0.122,0.6809999999999999,0.19699999999999998,0.7319,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,1,4,7,0,0,2,1,7,3,0,3,0,12,22,2,1,3,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,3,10,4,3,18,0,5,1,3,2,3,5,3,0,1,2,36,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317393086258083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23069595348359476,0.16422468359142464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965431630914797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040017496842204,0.14694314795758232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11689691200078405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130404376198628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10048849332086207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5569228344727095,0.0,0.27459592626119755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14259777216350708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217658487192749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13176864074377673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3278125178574301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16426225497197236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15465135647102454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16971367901175127,0.12131978106135055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18560092161577152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22305925422119546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,lemonlimesparkle,2020/04/03,"SO and money issues re: his stbxw. Well, SO and I had it out last night.

Long story short. My divorced was finalized in September. I have sole custody of my son and do not receive child support or alimony. SO’s divorce is still going on. 

Per his verbal agreement with his stbxw, he has been giving her $3K/month for rent ($2600/month) and the rest for the kids. No formal child support or alimony orders have been put into place yet. 

He has had financial issues so I have been trying to help him out, but I grew very frustrated and blew my top last night. 

I helped him put a down payment on a car so he could sell his old car and have some cash in his pocket. He swore he’d make the monthly payments, but I have been doing it. The payment is...are you ready for it? $950/month. 

Meanwhile, he still shells out $3K to stbx while I am making payments on and paying insurance on a car I don’t even drive. 

He also lives with me rent and utility free. 

I am a generous person and don’t mind helping to support my partner, however I finally got fed up with him over this “verbal agreement” he has with stbxw. I could be spending $950/month on myself or my son but instead I am enabling SO to enable his stbxw and I have had it. 

Well, shit hit the fan last night and I unleashed my feelings about all of this. He feels terrible, I feel terrible, but you must admit this is total bullshit. 

He claims he had a talk with stbxw recently to tell her that going forward, he would be unable to give her $3K/month. She rolled her eyes and said, “Oh here we go...”

Now things are strange and awkward between us. He feels like a leach and an overall shit bag. 

I am primarily upset because I feel he does not stand up to stbxw enough. I am also upset with myself for allowing this to happen as this is my fault too.

How do I fix this?",2.5280875781948207,3.967486227882041,3.9061849865951745,89.20229803395891,75.46112600536193,6.689151027703308,24.49767649687221,7.3011,0.9685986416443249,1405,45,300,16,30,463,189,373,0.13,0.769,0.10099999999999999,-0.9348,3,0,0,0,2,0,56.0,2,2,0,3,20,18,3,3,12,0,39,4,3,4,3,52,60,32,0,4,9,2,5,1,1,2,0,1,2,5,12,25,1,0,6,0,8,12,5,9,2,0,12,7,48,10,38,40,5,49,0,0,1,0,51,19,2,4,19,197,60,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506470231685355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057417199297829465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15040570724061475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08242608773703282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09732319353793002,0.0,0.06221144364740235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381258464536533,0.06728917848825901,0.0,0.20636054128901124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18071078781762814,0.1605906219992856,0.0,0.07533215001179171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0832916876662608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894002183553541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19661926209724195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23033166052967702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04601635569312575,0.0,0.08317127768984328,0.0833549675812413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12574478327953295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951048002264132,0.0,0.4510881741699821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26517210829775834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09883630153531127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08224285940431186,0.09840824480088048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18937343465063547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09300101812387256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08959602450591887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19336885618213304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15044011711091992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32065624711192103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07570615575766798,0.08232599585641731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06257548673271257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06394865962808037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11329867579116255,0.0,0.0,0.07771641071836421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693757996779659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06690969821951602,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Mundane_Momma,2020/04/03,"I don't know what to do anymore After years of constant fighting and growing to the point where I can't stand to be in the same room with him sometimes, I (28f) have finally decided that I don't want to be with my (36m) husband anymore. For years it feels like we have been on a rollercoaster that goes between just okay and completely horrible and I just can't do it anymore. 

There have been a lot of red flags that have come up over the years that I have noticed but decided to ignore because he is my husband and we have three beautiful kids together, but I just can't anymore. He is overbearing and controlling, he constantly tries to tell me what I am and am not allowed to do. When he gets upset he gets in my face and yells, trying to intimidate me, and he has punched at least one hole in a wall of every single house we have ever lived in during a fight. He talks down to me like he thinks I'm the most mentally incompetent person that has ever walked the face of the earth and when I call him out on it he denies everything and says I'm just trying to pick a fight or I'm just looking for something to get mad over. When he gets mad he throws things and if something isn't working he demands that I get it working before he smashes it to pieces. I feel like there has also been a lot of mental manipulation but I'm not sure if that is true or if I'm just being dramatic. 

Either way the final straw for me was when he hit me across the face with a stack of paper plates. I know they were just stupid paper plates but it still really hurt and what worse is he did it in front of the kids and my niece and nephew. When I went to my room afterwards because I didn't want a scene in front of the kids he was such an asshole about it and demanded that I get my ass out of bed and come join everyone for dinner and when I told him I didn't want to be around him he told me to pack my shit and leave or pack him a bag and he would leave. I really wish I would have, but my niece was recently removed from her abusive home and I didn't want to cause any scenes in front of the kids so i didn't.  

We had a long talk that evening and he said he immediately knew that hitting me was wrong and he felt bad about it as soon as it happened, but the thing is I feel like if that was true he wouldn't have been so ugly to me after it happened like he was. I have told him I am so tired of trying so hard to make this work when it clearly hasn't been working for a long time and he started getting all teary eyed and begging me not to leave and he wants to try and make it work and he thinks we can make it better. The problem with this is I feel like it's just talk. He has threatened me with divorce so many times over the years or threatened to kick me out because he doesn't have to put up with my attitude and made it seem like he didn't give a shit whether I was there or not, and now that I have checked out of the marriage mentally and emotionally and don't want to be with him, all of a sudden he never meant any of it and he was just speaking out of anger and he loves me so much and he doesn't want to lose me.

The thing that just makes it worse is he keeps throwing it in my face that we have been together for almost 8 years. He just keeps saying it over and over again. ""I can't believe you're willing to throw 8 years together out the window and just give up on us like that. I know if you would just forgive me we could work this out and things would get better."" 

I don't want to be with him anymore. I know deep down that if I stay I would regret it in the long run. But the problem is if I leave I wouldn't be able to take the kids. My work schedule is completely opposite from my kids school schedule, I'm off while they're in school and work when they're home. This worked out well for us because I was home with our youngest during the day while he was at school and he took care of them in the evening so I could work. But now it means that I can't take them when I leave and it is crushing me. They are entirely the only reason I've been having any second thoughts about this at all and this quarantine is not helping at all being trapped in the house with him constantly begging me to reconsider my decision and begging me to forgive him and give him a second chance. 

I'm sorry for the long emotional rant I am just so lost and I needed to get it out. I have no one I can really talk to about all of this but I plan to call my mom tonight and talk to her so hopefully that will help.",4.4457723214285725,4.075598913541668,5.120505952380952,88.884375,69.76041666666666,8.482142857142858,27.455357142857146,7.8965179332212925,1.3013482142857142,3527,99,826,39,56,1141,309,960,0.159,0.757,0.084,-0.9974,1,2,2,0,6,0,45.0,10,1,4,16,53,39,9,1,40,1,97,11,8,11,12,191,169,90,0,30,42,4,6,8,0,9,1,5,7,7,56,74,1,4,22,0,1,15,27,19,1,5,37,14,103,20,120,111,14,111,0,4,3,2,104,47,3,18,54,559,159,15,0.046539313633962034,0.05514147649136228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046602400014486775,0.0,0.0,0.03721747229888853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949449875164801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307724681913455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04142985604169578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03885838293592913,0.11347973451588535,0.0,0.03960152812008527,0.052433869495208035,0.0,0.08232048186406495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09504368525495584,0.0,0.047449931932485284,0.047808694946028484,0.0,0.08017899564641147,0.09759116979542752,0.15087739393273902,0.05219779755864972,0.07431570999660445,0.0,0.0,0.0300140071925498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10470092763568754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06147755546502301,0.08419494721581527,0.03921137896075113,0.04447030857572143,0.041826534221938654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09412670129297857,0.13299077983638813,0.04468503942757562,0.1019630865246533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21883383480970225,0.13393425103771234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823091226961381,0.0,0.04169008376323277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062388641844433074,0.0,0.1400481784756693,0.046224039401292535,0.0,0.10740023889147016,0.049821297794135536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08273256062031979,0.0,0.0,0.10230715866010824,0.0,0.0,0.24639206695979585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818940628001639,0.0,0.04109506657853994,0.1647433122370543,0.03908130222687644,0.052065587661011166,0.050803158450716,0.07913212037997931,0.04200354757076846,0.0440366238339824,0.12426141293745033,0.047183559390723176,0.0,0.050694956014687764,0.0,0.0,0.14070204593894067,0.0,0.0,0.05450628165209196,0.0,0.0,0.034211750403020484,0.03450831136208101,0.0358939877321901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052985317032759625,0.0,0.0,0.06307248673055267,0.03539524516041862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04063633356016638,0.0,0.0,0.043994694219646975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08906367575221343,0.0,0.04678486444681016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08944282806344776,0.04785016552745317,0.04595195766890646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04426954466148434,0.07401986030599733,0.0,0.14130081003882974,0.0,0.042367643237979404,0.0,0.0,0.09554387331470904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07165647468114039,0.04602857119115672,0.05209695138349371,0.032940765726651014,0.04960471608108833,0.03716635598536427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0438627523298558,0.0,0.06998354392738983,0.18703268710555165,0.040677411419365775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12367460810473507,0.0596410260030418,0.0,0.03694701653358716,0.05427489607841902,0.05349009481263557,0.0,0.1334109257271643,0.05170688985075637,0.15798569518340322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11196212813421336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196007437867924,0.03694074093589888,0.0,0.0,0.04184443210380942,0.04314240999611416,0.0,0.0,0.053517913893892564,0.0,0.0,0.33881174606074577,0.0,0.09485507311560792,0.16530096563713184,0.05088343359488748,0.0,0.17981875277362522
divorce,sarayoung12,2020/04/03,"Divorce process in Morocco? Has anyone been able to divorce their partner in Morocco without having to be there?

I have been married to a Moroccan man for 8 months, I am 26 years old and he is 23 years old. Our marriage is not working out because there too many arguments and problems, and I just can’t take it anymore just want to be able to move on and be happy again, I am tired of being with a narcissistic person, but I don’t want to travel back there for divorce as it will be very difficult, I just want to be able to do it without having to go there again.",4.928024844720497,5.0484397652173945,5.900621118012424,82.01913043478261,68.73913043478261,8.6583850931677,32.95031055900621,8.418075326091056,2.4651614906832293,443,19,90,6,7,147,68,115,0.087,0.856,0.057,-0.6485,0,0,0,0,3,1,9.0,1,0,1,1,11,3,0,0,2,0,20,1,0,0,0,17,25,6,0,4,7,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,3,6,0,0,0,1,0,3,5,2,0,0,2,0,8,1,20,16,0,15,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,0,8,70,11,1,0.5193112190497329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716723954033681,0.12103815964894622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13310609076024138,0.0,0.10552243302008256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09837884443923416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842721497437736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755000223325233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381697535091565,0.1839818803365492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3632865112285904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15114750856891127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16563690070617307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13015246921558912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19895728417708186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14282871412886605,0.3063032118852677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33373165566658325,0.0,0.12602158414499115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22294626585393787
divorce,jace95,2020/04/03,"I’m left with nothing atm My [M25] husband [M23] has decided that in the middle of the pandemic he was going to leave me to go live with his “best friend” who he has admitted he used to cheat on me with. Anyway I’m not stopping him because this is the second time he’s pulled some crap like this. Anyway.... because of this whole plague situation, my landlord has offered all tenants the option to quit the lease without penalty as long as we give notice by May 20th, and vacate the apartment by June 30th, and that we are still responsible for all rent payments between now and then. It’s the only option now.

The thing is whereas he’s salaried at ~$73,000 a year, I only make ~$33k a year as an hourly worker. He’s not going to be making any rent payments because he needs to save up money and rebuild his credit so he and his boyfriend can go find a place to live.

Not only am I left here with no money but a meager ~$600 a paycheck to support myself, I also have nowhere to go. None of my friends or family will take me and my dog because they’re afraid of contamination during this quarantine.

My parents have told me that if I am absolutely healthy by June 30th, I can go back home and live with them but I ABSOLUTELY cannot bring my dog. So, I have to give my husband the dog.


I know that once I vacate this apartment, I am going to be on the hook for about $7k plus late fees and perhaps interest. 

I’m trying to keep this whole thing amicable bc I just cannot be angry anymore. It is eating away at my soul. I don’t even think my ex is an evil person, I just think he lacks all sorts of foresight and doesn’t think anything through and it ruins every relationship in his life. (Im not going to go into detail, but just take my word for it... it’s been bad. Really bad. He has the impulsivity of a 16 year old).


I’m thinking of suing for alimony, but I know if I do that it would make his life a whole lot harder. But he’s kind of left me high and dry.

Idk my options. Idk what to do. I can’t afford counsel right at this moment. I feel stuck. And I’ve had a headache for the past three days.

PLEASE please do not come yelling at me about how we’re too young, or how I should have seen the red flags.... I know. Doesn’t change the fact that this is devastating.",2.4562765121759647,3.9171928528784647,3.8413315003927733,89.5047780832679,75.6950959488273,6.386735495455056,23.855964538211197,6.950104931194217,0.6990051172707896,1764,54,385,17,38,581,230,469,0.092,0.8270000000000001,0.081,-0.8529,4,1,0,0,1,0,63.0,2,0,1,3,19,16,3,1,24,0,38,4,1,6,4,76,76,31,0,6,18,4,1,1,2,4,2,1,5,1,24,22,1,2,11,0,7,12,14,7,0,2,6,4,46,9,55,63,11,52,1,1,2,0,34,20,1,11,21,245,70,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06637287463009257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056440979320844735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08231097467518572,0.0,0.0,0.0682996688272181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07797865293148712,0.06381976578084289,0.1385984818217532,0.2023774245491676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08710049832671478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878000904724643,0.0714947858799768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05352636311621027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849269118871445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054818903990510835,0.0,0.06992876676132323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782424252030645,0.0,0.04196590578539649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07585798721099431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12824694625821687,0.0,0.0,0.15923705907824207,0.4245232728748697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769115649908918,0.08325301368748092,0.0,0.08173557739581841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08965127752042618,0.0,0.0,0.0737717735070768,0.0,0.08642886885082246,0.1368393619193574,0.0,0.09362451845351784,0.08788210891291665,0.2705302803675321,0.0,0.11724683108763495,0.04054826631305778,0.0,0.21986428954882534,0.07344995867426728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07056129797066596,0.0,0.0,0.1662039360710801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06154141273586716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0796381043720849,0.09449292462444014,0.087091657209399,0.08838936756153004,0.0,0.1893694566896217,0.0,0.0,0.09215862932671008,0.0,0.07923027098516941,0.0,0.07247000148626682,0.08671446613889035,0.182212124195022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08827779675080688,0.0,0.0,0.053170166653091364,0.0,0.0,0.08910799073606658,0.0,0.07087920205930194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09329239177725436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06628171484788459,0.06938942133431986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09418430111783188,0.0,0.0,0.12480721285848692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11027937621258814,0.21272515822243,0.0,0.0,0.04839636668557137,0.0,0.0,0.07930743367399609,0.0,0.0563496878860803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07168297992010701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779904127456015,0.0,0.08000639180613715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058958868460254076,0.0,0.0,0.16034253264346313
divorce,Anondivorce,2020/04/03,"Ex quit his job to not have to pay child support So my ex has quit his job to stop paying child support, just like his brother did during his divorce. We have been separated for 6 months and have two children who don’t want to spend nights at his place because they feel scared of his temper. I have sought a lawyer and am in the process of filing a custody order but this just pisses me off. We are trying to sell a house in the middle of this pandemic, he hasn’t given me a cent for the kids going against our agreement when we split. In fact he claims I owe him money because he was paying for the place we lived in after we moved out. I think he did it just because the kids said they didn’t want to go to his place and I backed them up instead of sending them. Said we could meet him somewhere instead. 

He has a massive temper, will yell quickly and has punched holes in the walls as well as threatened to kill me on two occasions. The kids now feel scared of him because they have discovered life without someone yelling on a daily basis, now the yelling scares them.

Financially I’m not going to be that much worse off so all he has done is make it harder on himself. Our assets exceed the legal aid amount so he will have to come up with a stack of money to cover legal fees. Now because he quit his job he will also want 50/50. I just dread what would happen if the kids wind up in his care for a week at a time",5.175598307816274,4.969092599315072,5.3334810636583425,87.41732070910558,68.2123287671233,7.555519742143433,28.13537469782433,6.2272716619740125,1.0731387590652697,1117,32,239,5,17,352,153,292,0.121,0.789,0.091,-0.9538,4,0,0,0,3,1,17.0,8,0,6,3,17,14,4,4,19,0,27,2,1,1,2,34,47,13,1,6,9,3,2,1,0,4,1,5,0,7,7,13,0,1,3,0,10,6,6,8,1,2,9,7,36,6,44,32,3,41,0,0,0,0,52,22,1,1,13,162,43,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08595171397947657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0826454825891356,0.0,0.3275940398788045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10958301910063907,0.0,0.0,0.09258449963524078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08581403108884203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099893521780186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10869023079258576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18325007583358305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09504420551542107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240174848575461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.319971934819877,0.0,0.1189106911012266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759162997444996,0.05250929702724444,0.0,0.09490680560355244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07174373193396805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08578950739793663,0.1142342262568536,0.07901016387578466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100862695362812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3368811596450142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3429546171994601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20447617775800428,0.0,0.32281867813524473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106745183533857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985808930181231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439340515580587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06886884159256923,0.0,0.0,0.06267245000592643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07297186212002997,0.0,0.20998467729929635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19018345907595116,0.0,0.08621396970754122,0.0,0.09663742424354983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10360688072312664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10953129820934336,0.07635070541530757,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Fedora1991,2020/04/03,"Difficulty signing divorce papers My partner and I are polar opposites. Our relationship finally exploded a few months ago when we decided that ending our marriage was best. At the moment I was going through some important career moves (still am) and dealing with the divorce and that was way too emotionally taxing for me. I couldn’t do it. 
We agreed to wait to sign the paperwork. Well, it’s almost time. I know this is the right decision. I don’t doubt it. I don’t understand why it’s being so hard to even think about signing the stupid paperwork. 
It should be such a simple thing but it makes me feel so scared. 
Has anyone else gone through something like this?? If so, do you have any advice?",2.4984090909090924,5.3349598257575765,3.629015151515155,83.73852272727272,83.31818181818181,6.936363636363637,24.91666666666667,8.07648339933343,1.9478848484848488,555,22,100,12,16,179,94,132,0.096,0.825,0.078,-0.5244,0,0,1,0,2,0,17.0,4,1,0,1,10,6,1,2,7,0,16,0,0,1,0,24,24,9,0,3,2,0,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,11,6,0,1,6,0,1,3,3,3,1,0,4,2,14,3,9,16,3,14,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,4,9,74,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991776116341485,0.18068054251154966,0.0,0.20410352958523312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13860950696756302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14252073949835298,0.20884508588062645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21390410433995088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21013692567397915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17027149739632455,0.2292782010652767,0.18053042799966515,0.0,0.0,0.13462596407891594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10306117257984436,0.0,0.0,0.2232827691343897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115839712873519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18258916369403075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120181159010771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09957968960979156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13605625978435498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16269295157447958,0.21663608993984534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2188341664410989,0.0,0.1740673420254728,0.0,0.0,0.2040666167000981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15691616092206873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16277669038667522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13541375565636146,0.1306042597754776,0.0,0.0,0.11885329783480515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21219133636628668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16178856900431898,0.0,0.0,0.18326515980340552,0.0,0.1839223731494915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,YuraBae,2020/04/03,"Vindictive mother trying to claim everything in divorce Hi Reddit,

I usually don’t post and just browse but this matter in my family has gotten out of hand. My mother intends to steal my dads hard-earned money through divorce. He has owned property and has been working for our family for 40 years. My mother on the other hand, doesn’t even compare. She’s jobless (own choice) because she knows dad will give her a monthly allowance, when that stopped, she demanded childcare payments to which they were suppose to go to my sister. They all went to her leisure and now she mocks me, taunting that she’ll take all of my fathers hard work. She has never paid for anything in this family, no electricity bills, no water bills, no tuition...when I say literally nothing, she has genuinely not given a cent back into this family. I’ve only recently realised how vindictive and draining my mother is, what is the likely outcome ? Will she win anything in a NSW Court Decision or will she receive a low sum of 20-80 or 30-70 ?",6.4780191972076775,7.245018507853409,6.8038874345549765,74.63141579406634,65.49214659685865,9.50802792321117,34.76483420593368,9.516144504307137,3.4050101221640485,809,36,137,15,12,262,126,191,0.128,0.799,0.073,-0.8411,1,0,0,0,2,0,27.0,1,0,2,3,6,5,1,0,6,0,15,3,2,3,3,21,23,9,0,0,5,8,3,1,0,4,0,1,0,0,8,6,1,1,2,0,5,3,7,3,0,0,6,4,24,2,20,13,4,21,0,1,0,0,29,8,0,2,10,94,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753911642058344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286638712860495,0.0,0.10200077744257582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11051767929230777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15038241062395247,0.0,0.6309627246207977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16051497700232864,0.09509559559524514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2997836379252775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09195835508243284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08174735293907591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13355854175861198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12905263375233428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16055444085428885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272594631820496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602526846825898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16521488800559958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13306487417532148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398925781995321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12580882250444742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11360381694412328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842866736856432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15511348802931826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436315992616985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10775288151616516
divorce,JamesRavana,2020/04/03,"Entitled to spouses inheritance once divorced My sister has mental health issues. She separated from her husband 5 years ago but she has not got divorced yet.

Should she be left an inheritance from one of her parents, and then her husband were to divorce her, would her husband be entitled to anything of hers?",6.939727272727275,8.880895654545455,6.936136363636365,69.82420454545455,65.18181818181819,9.136363636363637,39.20454545454545,9.516144504307137,4.225272727272727,251,14,38,5,4,80,38,55,0.0,0.925,0.075,0.4939,1,0,0,0,3,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,7,1,0,0,0,5,8,3,0,2,2,6,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,10,0,7,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,18,1,0,0,4,31,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766940983360223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568653868426885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24964761398909116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3317912091007844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3257940310955473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3391420305665997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3145646381505205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3324199001448915,0.21151477044896455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34659556011585885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22173595882525152,0.0,0.0,0.2010085230866515
divorce,vodoo4youdoo,2020/04/03,Stupid fucking bitch Okay so this is just me ranting... my current husband divorced from his ex wife (we will call her susan) about 5 years ago... well they had one child together and in the divorce my husband was awarded majority custody with her only having supervised visits at first because Susan had some mental and drug problems. Well 5 months into this parenting plan we stopped visitation because the supervisor quit and while we tried to supervise Susan didnt like that and our baby was coming home with bruises and such because the way Susan was handling her. Well at month 6 we go back to court and the court orders that my husband is a bully and that Susan can have 3 full unsupervised weekend visitations a month. We fight it with evidence but Susan's adopted parents own a rather large business where we are that supports our court so we are overlooked. We attempted to ask the judge to recuse herself to which she agrees only to recant her recusal on the base of no bias. We follow the extremely controlling parenting plan mostly peacefully for the next  2 years. Then in 2018 our baby starts kindergarten. There were several issues before this but we came to swift agreements and thought everything was sorted out well about 3 days after school starts a lawyer contacts us to let us know we have court in a month... because susan wants 50/50 custody on the base we are bad for the child. We look for a lawyer but cannot afford one then the fun starts... court gets pushed back for not confirming..  this has happened 5 times now. We finally get a lawyer and go into court only for them to delay again. Finally in 2019 we go to settlement conference alone because our lawyer has disappeared. We agree to hire a guardian ad litem and that's all. We meet this women once 4 months after we ask for one and she talks to us for 2 hours and we dont see her again. We contact her for issues such as being lied to several times an d a few other matters always backed by proof only for her to side with susan so again in late 2019 we receive the GALs notes only to find that although she admits that the child was told to lie to her by susan and that the child and susan dont have a bond although the child is 6 she agrees that a 50/50 custody plan is best. We are baffled and go into settlement conference again and disagree with the GALs plan. We decided on a court date and to let susan and the child go to therapy... once again the lies started and court got pushed back again. Now we find out that we have been lied to just today about what her therapist said. Susan her lawyer and the GAL are all ridiculous. I dont know how much more proof we can hand to a court that susan is a bad mother to get them to listen. I need some help. 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divorce,Real_Pepe_Silvia,2020/04/03,"She's gone, and I have no idea what to do Hello all, I'm reaching out here because I'm completely and totally lost and I desperately need someone to talk to.  A couple weeks ago I  (24M) returned from a \~2.5 month work trip and my wife (23F) told me that she basically had no feelings for me anymore.  I posted in r/relationship_advice around then trying to see if anyone could give me advice to repair things (Link:  [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/fmd5pa/my\_24m\_wife\_23f\_suddenly\_lost\_interest\_in\_me/](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/fmd5pa/my_24m_wife_23f_suddenly_lost_interest_in_me/) ) .   But it turned out it was useless.   She left 2 days ago.  And now I'm stuck alone at home while she's out staying with a friend and posting on social media about how much fun she's having like she doesn't even care that she just destroyed our life. 

 I still don't even know what happened... things were perfect before I left and then all of a sudden she just stopped caring.  I'm a very affectionate person so when I got back all I wanted to do was hold her close and shower her with love, but apparently that made her feel ""suffocated,""  even after I tried backing off to giver her space. A few months ago she would have reciprocated 100% and been overjoyed to have me back.  But apparently now she's so emotionally closed off that she can't even say I love you.   I begged her to talk with me or try to go to a counselor to figure out why she's feeling so numb, but she just doesn't care.   After a week of me giving her space and cutting back to basically just saying ""I love you"" before she left for work, she apparently still felt so suffocated that she decided she was done.   She's a completely different person than she was before I left... I just can't wrap my head around the fact that she would all of a sudden be willing to throw our marriage in the garbage for no apparent reason.  I don't think she was unfaithful, but she had some sort of emotional turning point that led her to feel this way.  And she doesn't care enough now to wait it out to see if things can work.  So now she's gone.

I'm off work while this pandemic is going on, and I also recently got  reassigned at work from doing my dream job to doing something I hate.  So I can't even look forward to going back to work, because even when I get there I know my job is pointless and meaningless.  So I'll be sitting here for at least the next few weeks just crying and trying to figure out what the hell is going on.  It doesn't feel real.  She's my entire world and my best friend, she has been for 6 years now.  I don't really have friends and I don't know how to meet new people.  I don't have coworkers that I can reach out to.  My family and I aren't close. And I can't leave the house because my state is on lock down.   I literally can't imagine life without her.   All I've been doing is binge drinking and trying to distract myself with video games and exercise, none if which has helped me get rid of the knot in my chest.  I don't know how I would even start dating again. I've lost my hair in the time that we've been together and I'm not very attractive to begin with, so I doubt I could get a date even if I wanted to.   And I know I'm just ranting and spiraling now, but it's been pretty hard not having any emotional support through all of this.  

The worst part is that she doesn't care.  She makes friends easily and could literally just walk out the door and meet a new guy whenever she wants.   She probably hasn't given me a second thought since she walked out the door.  The thought of her with someone else puts me over the edge.  I don't know how I'm going to survive this.  I'm sure with time it will heal but right now it's unbearable.  I considered not reaching out for advice because I know people are just going to say ""You're young, forget her, hit the gym, find someone else, etc.""  but I can't imagine going through this on my own.  Can someone give me advice to get my mind off of her and try to start the healing process?   Thank you for reading, I know this was long and needy so I really appreciate anyone taking the time to help.",4.9301382177528215,6.187922043424322,5.062702102651168,83.95103021200646,69.26054590570719,7.740507596534761,25.058465021113573,8.032893268588372,1.2157058726220016,3301,88,665,42,57,1034,311,806,0.109,0.785,0.106,-0.5703,8,1,2,0,0,0,117.0,2,3,0,11,54,33,4,2,28,0,69,13,3,8,10,137,147,60,0,14,26,1,8,1,4,5,6,3,4,3,30,49,1,3,26,7,0,16,28,11,0,1,28,14,109,22,92,108,19,115,1,3,3,3,76,43,1,8,53,449,139,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14750657455244706,0.13380805049068645,0.0,0.0,0.05211288544707341,0.0,0.04023821513021485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03421705449295817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0499006066110048,0.07036515772230625,0.0,0.0,0.08958499098657872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934520298662179,0.0,0.12269027659103625,0.0,0.128447315969024,0.0,0.05280423078180575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25650594345581257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10551212219630003,0.0,0.0,0.12052127703823125,0.05567442767677365,0.05527048874352653,0.03245008335425568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052570200746080514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05149141314423186,0.0,0.04929117142369522,0.0,0.0,0.08406622651606503,0.16979841148415406,0.0,0.05199056066786845,0.05611637693670552,0.26586943708750344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047434069341984485,0.0,0.12720807668329526,0.0,0.0483118846747316,0.0,0.04598851602785881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15549810798737246,0.0,0.10515351322837528,0.14480497663245706,0.2001728235090382,0.0,0.08048565964705241,0.0,0.0,0.04982140455428444,0.04449485660429126,0.0,0.04507384450479555,0.04967728503887312,0.05163940991090595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06745239365149452,0.0,0.0504717129349217,0.0,0.0,0.05805867043905216,0.0,0.056801385008639016,0.0,0.0,0.09986304288620773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212217652217827,0.0,0.0,0.05327807819448637,0.2186767949273198,0.0,0.07108029053937086,0.024582178670958483,0.0,0.0,0.04452866106691988,0.042253322147860164,0.0,0.10985315728147138,0.0,0.13623825147055485,0.04761084066133768,0.03358676152162349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0508054833203741,0.0,0.08032455653921222,0.0,0.03698853489142153,0.03730916611468322,0.0,0.09719228828374116,0.05351233914850192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054488039873164855,0.0,0.06976647370383499,0.0878691340865713,0.0,0.0,0.047565507844847435,0.0,0.09637890367665096,0.051190132776513214,0.05424987017097807,0.0,0.0,0.050582141240820055,0.0,0.0,0.05033027678694172,0.057271375235900576,0.06446828214749216,0.051733907102754856,0.04968163188210941,0.054021262767989256,0.0,0.04297015304241586,0.0,0.1200414837007934,0.0,0.0,0.08019172761221158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04162246142770632,0.0,0.0,0.05129149873507996,0.17053257223867865,0.03873622341325191,0.0,0.0,0.07122878239651842,0.05363086512470299,0.080365899958762,0.0420669811119734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05709874992441576,0.04742285693874969,0.0,0.0378318666231566,0.08088525131095592,0.0,0.04632482062510957,0.0,0.0,0.10028446008701593,0.032240884276399435,0.0,0.07989161583885876,0.0880201479174084,0.0,0.0,0.04807972527006775,0.0,0.2049702571706196,0.10946015541017973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08303302880761664,0.08903420986268895,0.039939022965098686,0.12108296971774928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0454029597407274,0.0,0.0,0.04850346505600967,0.0,0.21978676816872086,0.0,0.0,0.10723053564394487,0.0,0.0,0.032402279590815264
divorce,throwawayaccountfor9,2020/04/03,"Had a divorce a while back and now he wants me back. I don’t know if it will work out between us. I (34F)am just unsure where my heart is. 

So my husband (34M)ask for a divorce in early April of 2019. We argued a lot at the end of the relationship but it was a fine relationship overall. We were together for 7 years and married for 2 years. 

He fell into a bit of depression and asked for the divorce in January 2019. I tried to make it work but he moved forward with it. When we were moving things out of each other’s place he told me that he never loved me and he just got married with me because he thought it was what he needed to do. 

We were separated for 8 months with minimal contact. Divorce was finalized in October 2019. He came back back 8 months later in December. We met up and he cried and told me he still loves me and he doesn’t think he would find a relationship like ours. 

We have been taking here and there for a few months. I am trying to let him back in slowly. But I just don’t know if it will work out

Anyone else go through something like this. Any success stories or stories of him doing the same thing again. 

He told me there was no one else and it was because he was depressed.",1.3824193548387098,3.503139306451615,2.838477419354838,92.3807161290323,81.33870967741936,5.742193548387097,22.82322580645161,6.918507183188421,0.6124143225806455,940,32,205,11,25,306,131,248,0.09,0.8370000000000001,0.073,-0.5218,0,0,1,0,4,0,22.0,8,0,0,4,17,9,1,0,12,0,23,3,1,1,1,45,41,18,0,5,9,1,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,13,24,0,0,5,0,0,6,5,3,0,1,18,0,24,6,30,19,5,40,0,2,0,2,42,14,0,4,24,142,37,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07137880301638617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07339294405529681,0.10754754541838177,0.0,0.0,0.1962534720030365,0.0,0.0,0.4035523962409613,0.0,0.1279695931544866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145929946834817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12005032120547887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11529751426895833,0.0,0.0,0.18080987743583565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753671293961323,0.0,0.09296653700433072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11498242179540052,0.09593476923164176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05965319571195514,0.0,0.08394892738025074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12438229411668683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153704273840442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073323258291702,0.0,0.10255976237984243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08923624375469667,0.18946737641244396,0.0,0.07006397453362563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25134267619839745,0.2231192524719823,0.0,0.07782913106543589,0.08095434883375599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07112600765752336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096645535155166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33807466460384217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08080605714271101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382401447751177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07891951529586591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13946621703180007,0.06725639485750669,0.0,0.08332932208989934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30089146684210405,0.0,0.14252670028246311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12625820854418834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0619102123359405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292441103303013,0.0,0.0,0.07456308357036694,0.0,0.0,0.1351861500919462
divorce,Fiestafry,2020/04/03,"I’ve fought for years to save my marriage, now I’m ready to walk away My husband and I married when we were 21.  In the beginning he was great, but slowly red flags started popping up. I stopped working at his request, as childcare was too expensive. He started drinking every night, and became angry with me regularly. Over the course of 13 years he has screamed at me, called me names, broke many household items from windows to electronics to decorative items, removed the license plates off my car so I couldn’t leave, tried to make me fall down the steps, threatened I may “go missing”, poured water on me while sleeping, etc. He’s threatened suicide many times. 


Currently we are under quarantine and are stuck in the same house. While his behavior has improved over the past 6 months (he hasn’t physically damaged anything), his words and attitude are still awful. He acts like a bully toward our children, so I stand up for them and it causes a huge fight. I’m just so over it. Our household is toxic. 


I’ve wanted to leave for so long, I dream about a happy life. I haven’t left because of my kids, but now they are suffering too and it’s time. I love my husband, despite all of the pain he has caused me, and it makes me sad we couldn’t be happy together. 


I haven’t told anyone my plans to leave, and I’m still in the beginning phase of figuring out money/living situation. It feels great to get this off my chest, to be honest with myself, and to start putting a plan in place. Thank you in advance for any advice and encouragement.",3.9660514541387,5.769814771812083,4.41827181208054,85.50121085011187,72.42281879194631,7.114317673378077,28.18847874720358,7.793537801064563,1.7178787472035792,1214,47,234,16,24,383,176,298,0.19,0.6629999999999999,0.147,-0.9258,1,1,1,0,1,1,40.0,5,1,2,4,13,19,2,0,12,1,19,7,2,4,1,35,39,20,1,3,3,2,1,1,0,1,2,1,1,2,6,16,2,1,2,2,1,9,5,9,0,0,6,3,35,10,43,28,5,55,0,5,1,1,31,23,0,1,23,146,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201969644715222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364615805815287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600645484897264,0.0,0.10122086758213036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556522949735727,0.0,0.0,0.07498139758087839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12559966556242014,0.0,0.0,0.2527156256657815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12049596836648906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13718069554656026,0.0,0.0,0.10363520880951656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06219393835149864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06426391399120059,0.0,0.06990535602075935,0.0,0.0,0.2712221595703441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618776487155382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14192877780261898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3907267836810248,0.13364295979878427,0.0,0.08688055277375265,0.060092980912425174,0.0,0.0,0.10885365432281813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11101487727820693,0.0,0.1642107191592063,0.24941117397214602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09817970383179407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154298451961449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13088370804841995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11742014135052707,0.0,0.0,0.12851180167072634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12365184098532454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13826036050620652,0.12309168429328216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26118615755726915,0.0,0.1964604747559364,0.1028358928979586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13454515712466358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11324450118349445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14344790561515153,0.0,0.0,0.11753449731216087,0.0,0.08351086313815774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07255026965466295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08954754201648629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584196091838108
divorce,jakeo6931,2020/04/03,can anyone talk? 30m and feeling so down.  can anyone chat? over the phone preferably or online is fine too. I feel like i’ve exhausted my friends with this.,0.35806451612903706,2.756785451612906,1.2925161290322578,96.83877419354843,97.70967741935483,3.7703225806451615,19.103225806451608,5.6839178017228535,-0.17771483870967675,123,4,25,1,5,38,28,31,0.07200000000000001,0.662,0.266,0.6966,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,6,5,3,0,1,1,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,3,3,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,1,14,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6272707924610841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4535989893377913,0.3204429906518476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3465472990495325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21913803925808487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3605261277781041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,jo-porter-39,2020/04/03,"To All My Wounded Warriors The global pandemic has me  thinking of those of you who are where I was a few years back.  The best advice can give on the road to recovery is the next time you're out on a stroll at night and the weight of all your problems feels like it's going to bury you just think to yourself, ""Why stare at the ground when I can lift up my chin and gaze at the stars.""",2.635040650406502,3.5459230731707336,3.2668292682926854,95.9828455284553,74.3658536585366,6.442276422764228,22.203252032520318,6.42735559955562,0.11799349593495867,300,7,72,2,6,94,60,82,0.033,0.8859999999999999,0.081,0.6124,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,3,0,1,4,3,0,0,9,0,6,2,0,0,2,10,11,3,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,8,2,14,10,4,18,0,0,1,0,5,11,0,0,7,50,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27620485418501056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2173424060443953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29662647053581825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14291764978505092,0.2019270773989776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711461341800114,0.16063798908199306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13808978540711414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30060425190788104,0.2652503222621174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27046036979676197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3622247523831871,0.0,0.0,0.16481700693433626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3441947256819983,0.0,0.0,0.255050012098884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18201901040948426
divorce,throwawaye76,2020/04/04,Copy of Maryland Divorce Decree Does anyone have a picture or pdf of their final divorce decree from Maryland? I believe it may be called Verification of Divorce. I am trying to get an idea of what it looks like/format/etc.,5.643571428571431,7.145183833333338,6.446190476190478,73.78214285714287,67.80952380952381,6.552380952380951,33.04761904761905,6.42735559955562,2.216990476190476,179,8,28,1,3,59,33,42,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,3,0,5.0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,6,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,6,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,2,1,19,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335586717885057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3763327987146111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3410777844215465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29230831106904565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37252716791012697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36590904015685577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745147433651588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3770745769012809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16318817965888646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2804976246469109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267816561990613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,MorningStar2008,2020/04/04,"Watching STBXH be the spouse he could have been with me. Just as the title says. My ex and I make better friends than we ever have married. We've been separated since July 2019. In January 2020 he started dating someone. Awesome, I was really happy for him. Then he went to his new job. 6 weeks on a boat and 2 weeks back. 

He got back on March 16th, and in that time his gf had got engaged to, and had sex with her new fiance. 

Ex got furloughed due to the covid19. So he slept on my couch for a few days just so broken over this chick he had been with for 2 months. AND THEN she talks about self harming, 4 days after his being back from work and she broke off the engagement. He goes because he cares. 

He's been there since. He bought her flowers and cooks for her. We were together for 6  years and I thought I was done with him, but holy hell does it break a person to see this in someone they loved. 

I'm angry and hurt and still don't want him back. I just want it all over with. When the divorce finally goes through, I'm thinking of cutting contact so that I don't have to see him be the person he could have been with me. However, I promised I would always allow him time with our dogs (she is not to be near them without me present), and despite him never asking after their well being, I don't know how to manage this. 

Ugh I'm so sorry for the babbling. I just really need to get out of my own head I guess.",1.7419243807040417,3.4366448677966126,2.875,94.6589928292047,78.28813559322035,5.623207301173403,21.515645371577573,6.297961479604792,0.11678878748370235,1096,30,248,8,26,351,162,295,0.107,0.8,0.09300000000000001,-0.7453,3,0,0,0,1,0,33.0,3,0,3,2,19,15,2,0,10,0,28,5,2,3,3,44,52,21,0,6,7,3,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,4,7,21,1,0,3,1,1,1,6,6,1,0,19,4,38,9,42,25,3,41,1,2,3,2,47,11,1,1,28,162,45,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10052931350252717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129474635004999,0.0,0.0,0.3716028589334513,0.0,0.0736488420024822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10685270261230696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12318085003749993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929248779860703,0.0,0.0,0.15583377123787898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10572765629230113,0.12363760377800412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10928577496869077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323489745825658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09334281334307147,0.0,0.06312182755587939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2898848610751798,0.0,0.13309340229313946,0.0,0.0,0.1286118037039012,0.0,0.0,0.12399296333178493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12933695713168109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11989210020170027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06639779160592273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10904194133976333,0.0,0.08064619826154408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09643487223025952,0.0,0.0,0.08958417754925561,0.09318141754929993,0.2333713700077167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21098525989335387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547967600359615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607842351726832,0.0,0.0,0.1925508048695476,0.0,0.1260383436184499,0.0,0.0,0.1998819251609717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20473548219225265,0.0,0.0,0.13524459349935555,0.08551480176765107,0.0,0.0964845077035646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09710802289554682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07741457132769516,0.0,0.09591509866510473,0.14089857587465776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14252183926740716,0.0,0.1938240096109975,0.0,0.10862887481519977,0.11199844803885532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11646315042194502,0.0,0.08795611960378688,0.0,0.0,0.08582483738089934,0.0,0.0,0.0778021025434238
divorce,taangeriine,2020/04/04,How did you know you weren’t in love with your spouse anymore? I think I’m there...,-0.1833333333333336,1.8178573333333359,0.3755555555555557,108.40000000000002,86.77777777777777,3.6,14.555555555555555,3.1291,-1.7379777777777776,64,1,17,0,2,19,16,18,0.0,0.769,0.231,0.6369,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,4,6,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,1,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,10,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6258864777745943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3468387481766722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5695968121575908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4043865369693473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,xianorm,2020/04/04,"Wanting divorce because of a gut feeling that our relationship is wrong, before kids are involved Husband (31M) and I (30F) have been together for 12 years, married for 4.  Throughout the entire relationship I have had a gut feeling that something is off and the relationship isn’t right for me, but he’s a good guy, a very very good guy, and that’s why I have stayed. 

On paper he is essentially perfect. He has a secure, well-paying job, he works incredibly hard, we don’t argue. I feel safe and secure with him. But I chose security over happiness. 

He has been pushing for kids and I’ve been saying that I’m not ready, and I realized lately that I do want kids someday, just not with him. I don’t want this relationship to be my forever. I want to be with someone who makes me happy. And I want him to be with someone who he deserves. 

I have no idea where to even start.",3.2182512315270952,4.831130545977015,4.7870279146141215,82.8786206896552,74.0,7.5001642036124805,27.94581280788177,8.192908349453996,1.8642640394088683,681,27,137,11,14,229,96,174,0.068,0.6940000000000001,0.23800000000000002,0.9842,1,0,1,0,1,0,26.0,2,0,0,2,4,11,1,0,7,0,21,2,2,1,1,30,32,9,0,5,5,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,8,12,0,4,5,0,0,1,6,2,0,0,4,5,19,9,16,25,0,10,0,0,0,0,27,5,0,0,3,86,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07871742984260495,0.0,0.10988148764187963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08529020939038892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958784633297324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21661893281146968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557211884514377,0.0,0.2749259963829849,0.1156765569734465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14577386777876106,0.0,0.0,0.12814319586982542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14566607870082765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08619635124082396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5545560844887756,0.0,0.11027768789591252,0.0,0.10269063785624427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21882558527148835,0.09941182084262756,0.0,0.0,0.0914000169673064,0.1376371129042007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21309420115074024,0.3808258411990043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11610482391370673,0.0,0.11652119132310908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09400934876756804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411851422192289,0.0,0.08315652197712364
divorce,Eliza_D,2020/04/04,"Anyone else want to live alone forever? Left him 4 days ago and don't miss him at all.

When I think about the future I see myself living alone for the rest of my life. I never want to have shared finances with a man ever again. I look forward to doing what I want, with nobody to control me. I crave freedom. 

I think I will be open to dating in the future but he'll have to be comfortable living apart from me. 

Does anyone else feel that way?",1.2924154589371994,3.2903179999999987,2.7618840579710167,93.46814009661837,80.95652173913044,4.958454106280193,16.743961352657006,5.82211442006289,-0.5295400966183577,344,6,74,2,9,112,65,92,0.034,0.809,0.157,0.8308,0,2,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,4,0,7,1,0,1,3,15,17,3,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,4,0,1,3,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,0,3,14,2,14,13,2,16,0,1,2,0,5,6,0,0,10,49,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15298974836313597,0.0,0.0,0.3575003388116603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413565043506251,0.353675682966384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19357325585282806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11130563673542007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510338100743816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883519517704887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15611664496581454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08726619169849029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875184697750101,0.0,0.12190472535081726,0.0,0.0,0.45719778663986,0.0,0.14493130493723744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331112881353771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13753109977173605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22117614393289411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30539241800443506,0.13699312674147188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,curious_cat789,2020/04/04,"That “I’m going to be alone forever” feeling... Ugh. It’s the worst, and about 3 months in, I’ve FINALLY hit that wall. That deep stomach ache, heart in your throat feeling... totally painful. I moved to a town in the middle of nowhere where I don’t know anyone so it just intensified that feeling. Started a job where everyone knows eachother so I’m “the new kid”. Idk why I’m posting... solidarity?",0.91,3.4918457142857164,2.7711688311688327,87.66246753246756,91.85714285714286,5.916883116883117,26.48051948051948,7.348242739294969,1.7392961038961037,308,15,61,6,11,102,56,77,0.207,0.746,0.048,-0.9079999999999999,1,1,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,0,0,6,3,0,0,5,0,2,4,3,0,1,8,13,3,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,6,1,0,0,5,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,3,3,0,7,11,2,16,0,0,0,0,2,9,0,0,4,31,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25924939664252444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17502508763107089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391853696081109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3796982283204468,0.0,0.0,0.2742063111081904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14225898608307502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966228185522092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483976217497069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751316141196425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19979792559671594,0.26604374043549056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417544325141684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26635131643177873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397312335796111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771732528477378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258690881840133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ubamjanine,2020/04/04,"Favorite toys/kids/parenting time I'll be moving to an apartment May 1 and my Stbxh is keeping the house. We have 50/50 parenting time and 2 and 5 year old daughters. What are some strategies that have worked for dividing up toys? Also, did your kids bring toys back and forth with them to each others homes?",4.108305084745766,6.207788305084747,3.612000000000002,90.18342372881357,72.72881355932203,6.753898305084746,25.359322033898305,7.554174236665415,1.1801633898305086,246,8,48,3,5,73,49,59,0.0,0.9390000000000001,0.061,0.5204,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,0,0,10,9,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,7,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,5,6,2,9,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,2,5,29,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25129847160840696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24163198729170315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31520941669403435,0.0,0.0,0.36259200607519854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27931190314551724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3339885283796767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3297431438451281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3489275223409991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3664729920849339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287712428836384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023609474587716
divorce,LakeLoaf,2020/04/04,"Going back? Left partner a few months ago. Was just very unhappy - we had a DB, we had grown apart, we were terrible at communicating and lacked intimacy. We could have fun together but we were roommates. Everyone told me I did the right thing - I deserved a deep connected passionate love and that I could find it. 
Now I’m lonelier than I’ve ever been in my life. I feel so, so alone. And I can’t bear the thought of feeling this alone forever. I feel like I don’t matter to anyone.
I was lonely in my marriage but not *this* lonely.  I wasn’t happy but I sure as shit am not happy now. And a huge part of me is convinced I’ll never find that thing I’m looking for. That it’s for other people. That I should have been grateful for what I had. 
Anyone else go through this, go back and regret it?",0.4158588957055223,2.753568791411041,2.5737760736196336,91.12594018404907,88.079754601227,5.7139877300613495,20.419938650306747,7.1686216300943375,0.6181094478527607,615,20,132,10,20,207,98,163,0.158,0.618,0.223,0.9249,0,6,0,0,0,0,23.0,5,0,0,0,8,13,1,0,6,0,20,4,1,0,3,31,32,11,0,5,6,0,3,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,14,10,0,0,6,0,0,4,6,5,0,0,13,4,21,8,12,16,3,20,0,3,1,2,9,8,1,0,9,95,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13677658219541755,0.0,0.0,0.3196140591087143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21577862640413614,0.15809736155310997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23729251596002124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24639008332706724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12889685372555534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395721043448996,0.0,0.14743912203830162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340543383351105,0.11023109826682843,0.0,0.0,0.28205262775131124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630747028279311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3285078976049594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676461048452884,0.0,0.10898581026082338,0.07538260297196735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295721363982172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13926069718592393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12315983533323425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11900475187116068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16709057124102986,0.0,0.10697136446623454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13177033776375244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15838550764352202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454247991710162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20501854182487367,0.0,0.0,0.1224960170980404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14743912203830162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12731267492492845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ohhemmgeezus,2020/04/04,He kicked me out. His family owns the house and I am laid off with (so far) no unemployment benefits. The only place I have to go is back with my 70+ year old parents. I am terrified.  I dont know what to do. I have no income and nowhere else to go and I am so afraid of hurting my family. I applied for unemployment but have heard nothing. His family owns the house and I have no claim to it. I grabbed a few things when he was at work but essentially he has all of my things and I dont even want to go home because I am worried he wont be there and I will go into a mental downward spiral wondering where he is.,0.43598611914401175,2.2182552706766927,3.1278195488721816,90.85979178716022,82.75939849624059,6.7990746096009245,21.508964719491033,7.882392219407189,0.8540808559861182,473,15,112,9,13,166,77,133,0.14800000000000002,0.838,0.013999999999999999,-0.9138,6,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,7,3,0,1,5,0,18,0,0,0,1,16,26,11,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,4,10,0,0,2,0,0,4,6,2,0,0,2,2,18,1,14,21,4,16,0,1,0,0,9,8,0,1,4,81,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12197220919923195,0.0,0.09669583264015401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3718127336672873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13251015476935676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476978007979912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4486103014493419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36059912589079496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15911299387758154,0.0,0.0,0.3660620310636487,0.16981047387778753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08717570528245018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15985587258412842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15220418639671662,0.0,0.16644940172816022,0.0,0.0,0.12064084276862505,0.0,0.0,0.17613338874280482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16572851490575866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21076572408544106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09356065582744434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17202116530990186,0.11548029798755692,0.16109056260176294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10214877630170277
divorce,tdswimz,2020/04/04,"What has everyone done with social networking accounts during or after divorce? I still love my STBXW and we're getting along (6 weeks so far)... we were always best friends too. That will eventually come to an end, so not sure what to do about my social networking accounts. She has a large family and we share many friends too. 

I don't think I can bare to see her even through friends or family. Do I shut them all down? Can I suspend them? Do I remove all links to her? Aarrgg, I hate this. I don't want to think about crap like this. It shouldn't be this way!",1.4931120943952791,3.7960767699115086,2.493119469026549,93.96026917404131,82.18584070796459,5.890560471976402,20.921091445427727,7.1686216300943375,0.4699091445427723,437,13,95,6,12,138,73,113,0.098,0.711,0.191,0.9272,0,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,2,0,2,1,8,10,2,0,2,0,14,2,1,0,3,18,22,6,0,2,3,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,7,7,0,0,3,0,2,2,4,2,0,0,2,1,17,8,12,17,3,10,0,0,1,1,15,3,1,2,5,66,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15851659905736992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19992473002106015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16410440858044845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949542057302437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687321390573173,0.0,0.0,0.12582769089613624,0.0,0.0,0.18203704422519615,0.0,0.0,0.3591849882704492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4415543527177858,0.0,0.09953173936865932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18808564489112944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09307181188622124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17193947808425047,0.0,0.0,0.1931436044093586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15180894840644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3883945996433181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15213866970760914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17955004229649096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441376378053538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123656198622234,0.15121512548107272,0.15281275554729584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Top-Babybear,2020/04/04,"How to leave a partner who is hurting? Should I? Tw: suicide 

I feel like a shit person for writing this, these thoughts have been brewing for a long time. My (28f) spouse (30ftm) has had a rough few years. Career changes, PTSD, and leaving grad school early have left him feeling despondent and useless. He is struggling greatly with mental health issues, and I don't know how to support him anymore. He just got out of the hospital after a suicide attempt last week, and things have been tense. I'm working full time still, but there's a real fear of being laid off or having my hours reduced. He works a few hours a week. I've been supporting us for about 3 years while he tried grad school and later took time to focus on his mental health. Lately I've been fantasizing about starting fresh and focusing on my own needs. I've never been single. We've been together 8 years and I've never felt like we were compatible, but there's a comfort in having a partner. We don't get on intellectually or romantically (no sex in 7 years... like the marriage was never consummated), but we are great friends. I know I need to unpack this in therapy.  

I'm worried he will seriously hurt himself if I bring up separation. I'm trapped between caring for him and caring for myself. I think I should wait until he is in a better place mentally, but it never seems like the right time.",4.159577922077921,5.944142598484852,4.9567965367965385,81.91590909090912,71.87878787878788,7.14978354978355,28.1017316017316,7.793537801064563,1.7653140692640692,1082,41,202,14,21,350,155,264,0.135,0.69,0.175,0.9498,0,2,0,0,0,2,37.0,4,0,0,4,8,20,1,2,14,0,25,4,1,2,4,42,48,19,2,5,8,1,4,4,3,3,2,0,0,3,6,13,0,1,8,0,0,2,7,7,0,0,13,4,21,13,27,31,5,42,0,3,0,1,23,14,1,4,30,125,27,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09345849432561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08334560386981553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19216326925904348,0.0,0.09969101070167023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060436329622694,0.09529884400447873,0.06732344492883731,0.09048298821155372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07280782754941498,0.0,0.0492353183999409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0753705122670608,0.20779483467804247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20034057603071148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856103399672278,0.0,0.2017668534587507,0.0,0.0,0.09835969439025014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10358117112108337,0.07681631832149187,0.10630425117859682,0.1995682740867004,0.10238955689042864,0.0,0.0,0.18415915652009293,0.0,0.0,0.08339741538797188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2849083659122417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13975214837782715,0.2907277523253711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08228474087943284,0.0984583583607224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11015884993511722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10726315491972166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08047849669626195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190747204475427,0.0,0.08579047960485135,0.0,0.0,0.09673366381194264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06670194219599973,0.0,0.07525836372911039,0.0,0.0,0.09851772458271216,0.0,0.2061615372854488,0.2138796923816787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10776904400791808,0.0,0.06260735276594344,0.06038372486506036,0.0,0.07481422203686362,0.21980308599733667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10470157271328008,0.06398122493790342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133563721760616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511836269046966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13721236287343105,0.09570297754851624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427440040464117
divorce,secondchanceatlife20,2020/04/04,"The price of happiness?? Long story, but I’ve been married for almost 18 years and dated 6 before that. I didn’t realise I’d married an emotionally, verbally and even physically abusive man until 10 years into the marriage with a 5 year old. Yes, looking back there were signs but hindsight is always 20/20.  There is so much that I could say about the things I’ve put up with but that would take an entire page. I’ve been miserable and stuck things out for the last 8 years for a multitude of reasons. First, I’m afraid if him. He’s extremely unstable at times, despite finally getting some help for a mental health disorder. He’s threatened a multitude of things that would upend my life. Second, I couldn’t stand the thoughts of not spending every night with my daughter who thinks I hung the moon, and I feel I need to protect her.

My daughter is now 12 almost 13 and knows the dysfunction of this marriage and begs me to leave so I can be a happier, less stressed mommy. I’ve done a lot of soul searching lately and know I have to leave for the sake of my daughter and myself. I’ve started taking steps to get away and of course now life is on hold while we are quarantined. 

While I’m pondering my future (while walking on eggshells and pretending everything is fine) I keep getting caught up in the unfairness of the situation. Most of the years of our marriage I’ve made more money and he’s spent more. Several years back we were able to upgrade our home and now live in a wonderful neighbourhood. He’s told me numerous times when he’s been stable enough to have a rational  conversation that he would fight me tooth and nail for the house. Honestly, it’s a status symbol. That’s it in a nutshell. I really don’t want the house and all the costs of the upkeep, but I would like to keep it for the stability of my daughter at least until she graduates. He took a new job a few years ago so either one of us could now afford it alone so that’s not an issue. But the thought of his ass living here in this upscale neighbourhood with all our friends while I move to an apartment somewhere for the time being pisses me off to no end. I’m the reason we have this damn house! He will also get half my 401k which I’ve padded for years while he bought new flashy cars. I’ve literally worked my ass off and even now put myself on the line going to work every day in this pandemic!

I know that probably the best thing to do is to let him have it, get half the equity, 401k, without a fight and move on. That’s the only way this won’t drag out for years and deplete our entire savings on attorneys (He would just to prove a point.) Even though this is sooo unfair I think I couldn’t survive the stress of a drawn out, even more contentious divorce. Am I crazy to throw in the towel on everything I’ve worked so hard for, for the price of my sanity??",5.57070505530859,5.692301590509667,5.9096996795203145,82.50034606637034,67.36555360281196,9.295172128605397,29.5648196009511,9.088552180705676,2.2075524242737505,2251,73,459,37,34,722,273,569,0.13699999999999998,0.7859999999999999,0.077,-0.988,4,2,0,0,3,1,51.0,8,0,0,6,25,15,4,4,45,1,37,7,4,3,3,76,70,38,0,12,11,4,2,1,1,7,3,1,1,1,26,28,0,4,13,1,7,11,9,8,0,5,16,4,44,7,74,40,16,80,1,1,1,2,40,25,4,7,43,301,70,5,0.07167065104994827,0.08491800182260026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06353170779614603,0.0,0.14353560844485708,0.0742291797503158,0.0,0.05731499375075061,0.05963572308970595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06733693591498889,0.11022061338428056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06098644525062619,0.0,0.07521392654913793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11444636593885993,0.0,0.0,0.0462216407621898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08214077535725207,0.0,0.0,0.07334395954265105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806198358252884,0.063478923853988,0.07405494130725848,0.0,0.1893511563059293,0.0,0.1207712292788289,0.0,0.1288259196268718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0362388346329672,0.0,0.0,0.07851169499147145,0.0,0.06096301917011695,0.0,0.0,0.055372567214453175,0.0,0.1872247853828209,0.0,0.0407320826424872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07629474075301093,0.06420282579022206,0.0,0.0,0.07618255059535818,0.0,0.0,0.04803932664629521,0.0,0.07189150667079477,0.0,0.0,0.2480949258774985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07480553907642258,0.07112206220419617,0.1274083354413845,0.0,0.0,0.11816494640280027,0.058421146360077274,0.08084761613816704,0.15177774207365466,0.0,0.07328809653374455,0.10124620077908078,0.03501465987858536,0.0,0.12657299588860246,0.06342627083534304,0.060185296167238986,0.0,0.0,0.06093182455593051,0.0,0.0678165029473061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07222715914131768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15234911931126255,0.05268617505251472,0.053142879618014685,0.0,0.1384399227842697,0.0,0.06725805090732451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07520629197572931,0.0,0.04856588800247305,0.05450875972671212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06775193124387856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07727308380271185,0.0,0.0,0.14409759974369452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045914054294502835,0.14737873201884613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0569953783642148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.080967435446688,0.0,0.0,0.08056081466270605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05072885569996989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16419697725572518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777482013397016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904591836254584,0.09184731851751204,0.07041605076480302,0.11379698248850008,0.12537519896199906,0.0,0.0,0.06848437845650103,0.07962873042174216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08621096863857705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04227320691179797,0.0568888268092396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06908795003900317,0.07772376379838293,0.15653126267308978,0.0,0.0,0.2545638708722353,0.0,0.0,0.4153819451541268
divorce,Betrayedforskittles,2020/04/04,"Sock day, Y'all In the midst of the quarantine, distant learning, struggling, and social distancing I assumed my divorce was put on hold...until today! The beautiful news surface today on another special person's  birthday making this day monumental for me. 

He (EX) HAS to pay child support and he's been wriggling out of that since I left! I have our child FULL TIME! He wouldn't give a dime toward them.

Hell has a special place for him and heaven came in the form of a sock today, friends. 

Thank you for all the help this community has offered. I have met many great people and possibly the greatest one of all. Nope- not possibly! Thee greatest!

I will remain part of the group to give advice where I can. Months ago i was in my deepest despair and today I just can't get the smile off my face. There is hope, people. I promise you, PROMISE you...it will get better. Just hang in there.

Thanks again friends. I couldn't have made it this far without you!

<3

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divorce,Menyana,2020/04/05,"Moving on. How do I learn to trust again? Is this the right place to ask about first relationships after divorce?  Specifically how do I learn to trust myself, my emotions again?
I (f30) thought I found someone sincere, I thought he loved me. Turns out he didn't. In fact he married me because...life script says so.
I am not perfect. I now realise I was afraid of love and was holding back. I realised much too  late that I loved him but wasn't in love with him. 
I am bi but wasn't happy to be so back at the start of our relationship (8 years ago). 
My life was a lie.
Now it's been over a year since I last saw him. 
I've done a lot of soul searching and realised I am still in love with my best friend (f). 
We have been dating and my feelings are mounting. This feels, in turn so intensely sweet and perfect yet painful.
For the first time ever I don't have that 'this is too good to be true' feeling which accompanied all my relationships with men. 
It's such a wild foreign feeling...
It's painful because I'm on the verge of happiness. It's just a breath away. But do I deserve it?
How can I trust myself to know how I feel is real? 
I'm terrified.
But maybe this is love after all and I'm just gay!",0.6780990629183385,2.8337567028112467,2.176144578313256,95.88649263721555,84.38152610441767,4.974029451137885,22.07362784471218,6.238725200709706,0.17137322623828588,925,32,212,8,27,299,132,249,0.083,0.6679999999999999,0.249,0.9940000000000001,0,0,0,0,1,0,38.0,2,0,0,5,22,22,0,1,9,0,26,12,1,4,7,42,49,16,0,0,7,0,5,0,1,0,3,1,0,1,12,10,0,1,11,0,0,1,5,3,0,2,13,8,31,19,27,34,5,35,1,0,1,8,22,13,0,1,21,143,43,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925475303775565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09760331297423523,0.0,0.09809065958245887,0.16055991439967882,0.0,0.06364349187997884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10956518238824843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10684117520598957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174400462996385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09443907253263598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639480950050289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776113712119104,0.0,0.11447320598881976,0.08066199578336791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08756882255303718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2222792392152696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05737751193396424,0.0851029038098502,0.1177718570781743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07374338080348733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08876024397367137,0.5653701852909346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10488749243876068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109645501164094,0.07674869061910614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22218567482464235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090795860038504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11883420287431512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3362713226034326,0.0,0.0891601408757846,0.0,0.08302596756044507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863637725662278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08846086811525854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07389743604840482,0.0,0.08337688435574603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16576966146607502,0.06087860396553917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22712236717014495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13446504647828106
divorce,x0just_me0x,2020/04/05,"Cheating Asshole Husband (34M) cheated while away for work. Used the excuse that we were having trouble...well, no shit, we’ve been apart. Came home and said he wanted to work on it as I slowly learned about the affair...trickle truth. We are in counseling and I’ve been trying to get over it, but he withholds intimacy and gives me scraps. No sex since May ‘19 and only gives me pecks here and there when I ask. Says he loves me, but I’m sick of feeling rejected. I deserve more! Is the first step just to contact a lawyer?",1.6843881118881114,4.02380586538462,2.6203496503496524,93.11555944055945,81.69230769230771,4.935664335664336,22.91608391608393,6.1124844417494595,0.3687807692307694,406,14,84,3,11,128,79,104,0.18,0.735,0.085,-0.8943,0,1,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,0,3,5,6,3,0,4,0,7,4,1,1,1,18,18,10,0,1,3,1,1,0,0,1,1,2,1,0,3,8,0,1,2,0,0,2,2,4,0,1,5,3,8,2,11,12,1,10,0,1,0,2,14,5,1,1,3,49,11,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.224458273146709,0.0,0.2255790238135912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27460699179959075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12140025128210873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042263754098604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12544076663566978,0.4606458176877866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24083685535914456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21669690575724784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18260457862182405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22838721732404466,0.1909347617111273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464561079808473,0.19861070963613475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630100945281888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20736670904836346,0.0,0.0,0.1416154242698573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3495869337316109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,coconutlvr_kitty,2020/04/05,Dissolution vs divorce Hello I actually need some advice I don’t know if anybody’s willing to message me if you could help me figure out what steps I need to take in my divorce.,3.279166666666665,5.0896641388888915,5.478888888888887,77.155,74.27777777777777,7.022222222222222,31.44444444444445,7.793537801064563,2.3666777777777765,143,7,26,2,3,50,29,36,0.0,0.917,0.083,0.4019,0,0,0,0,2,0,1.0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,10,7,2,0,5,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,4,5,1,3,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,3,0,18,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.3963979508249539,0.0,0.0,0.3969392919978665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3243220210582852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722709695566731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232399075975524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6023924300673473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054159666696235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,anono85,2020/04/05,"Physically and mentally unable to leave I married a great man. We’ve been together for 8 years. He has many great qualities, we just don’t get along on a basic level. He’s quick to take care of me when I’m sick, cook dinner every night, and pick up the house. Which is great because I’m very deep into a graduate program and I need support. 

But our relationship is toxic and always has been. We’re terrible communicators and it feels like we’re always at each other’s throats. He’s not great with communicating with others either and really doesn’t have any friends. Everything to him is a debate or he is constantly telling others how to improve what they’re doing. He comes from a divorced family who is also toxic and has always hated me and made me feel too nervous to even speak every time I’m around them, which exasperates my not wanting to be in this relationship. 

Also, not very attracted to him— emotionally or sexually. He’s never even smelled (pheromones) great to me and the sex is boring. I’ve always dreamed of a man’s man that’s patient, gentle, loving, and good with kids. He’s not consistently any of those things. I cringe when he talks about having children. I have never wanted to have children with him. I feel disgusting even admitting it, but I’m never very proud that he’s my partner when we’re around others just because of his argumentative, doesn’t get along with others personality. 

I’ve told him my feelings about wanting to leave, but I mentally and physically can not at the moment due to some sort of mental block I do not understand. To add to the difficulty of the situation, I am in a difficult graduate program and without him, I wouldn’t have a place to live, a car to drive, a TV to watch, or food to eat. This is not the driving factor for being with him, but it does not make leaving a marriage right now easy and rational. 

I can’t bear the thought of actually leaving him, being alone, or starting over. The thought of starting over terrifies me. Being quarantined has made these thoughts and feelings 100x louder and intrusive thoughts are always there. I have dreams about getting a divorce, I think about divorce all times of day, even though I don’t want to. But I also long for a relationship with a man who agrees with my political beliefs, who I want to have kids with, who brings me up, and who has a family that welcomes me into their arms. 

I wish I didn’t have these feelings. I 100% WANT to be content with this marriage. I do not want to throw it away, despite the aforementioned problems. But the intrusive thoughts are killing me, lately. Part of me wants to believe that maybe some really good marriage counseling can fix this. Sorry for the word blurb. I’ve just been so depressed these past few weeks. Just had to get it out.",5.3230139690252045,6.538410616104872,5.9487610081992095,78.11866535074402,68.30711610486891,8.91904038870331,30.724567263893107,9.21561531244674,2.6563049498937144,2215,87,411,42,37,720,241,534,0.10099999999999999,0.79,0.109,-0.1798,0,2,0,0,3,0,62.0,2,0,2,1,27,24,3,1,26,0,44,9,2,5,4,103,89,35,1,12,25,0,6,1,2,1,1,1,0,10,31,37,4,1,15,4,0,6,20,9,0,0,13,9,43,15,70,70,7,47,1,1,1,2,52,19,0,7,23,280,74,4,0.0,0.0,0.06437142805545865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06831889464911356,0.0,0.15825435629398052,0.2744370001658274,0.0,0.0,0.08971567477228101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174440353637638,0.0,0.0,0.06197542592070291,0.0,0.0,0.0804221835826626,0.0,0.0,0.07431893097886481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06725477730695595,0.0,0.0,0.05682221530441251,0.0,0.07128373787088765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042541375458588215,0.0,0.056814766688947964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05772561219508055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06749772326742103,0.0,0.07420071310101302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17427461468476732,0.0,0.11115516724686897,0.0,0.059284263012659676,0.0,0.1243701306635584,0.0,0.2001205294595055,0.04712475296329796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0797640291182577,0.0,0.05096368569206898,0.0,0.1378540399481369,0.0,0.0,0.11065508373988832,0.0,0.3636281633241881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06512587383923787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07611369347839406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0729794827251897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07441035706112473,0.2793857511477143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032226718218712896,0.0,0.05824749243237681,0.058376136308680014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059535158912212185,0.12483361761271768,0.04403153658285023,0.06687722511146726,0.06626978598489458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19942883753175708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048911530562322066,0.1526266984969696,0.0,0.0,0.06190282190505642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07143267205021946,0.06297017972896829,0.0,0.05759729156300656,0.06891842536913145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06311871729739181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845165593587601,0.0,0.0,0.21246221130510834,0.0,0.05633296513091005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07414639132887309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07384138861681741,0.0933794327215796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07485525791205852,0.0,0.0,0.0495967799140913,0.05301942998908156,0.057655514665973975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043823604628368915,0.04226711987595947,0.06480937510004943,0.261840562032675,0.07692837271728956,0.0,0.0,0.06303150664762411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06867093513069207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16328182652443046,0.31125859444513315,0.0,0.0529124072417121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07585543823303996,0.06358702057754853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04247870573208394
divorce,projektman,2020/04/05,"Can she take MY car? So my wife told me yesterday that she wants a divorce. I am shocked and heartbroken but that’s not the point of this post. We’ve been married for 4 years, I have one 18-month-old baby. Right before we got married I had just bought myself a new vehicle. When we had our baby a year later my mom loaned us a car to make life easier. The loaner car is a stick shift. The car I bought is not. I’ve let my wife drive my new car so she didn’t have to learn the stick shift. She is not on the insurance for it, and has never help me pay for it. She has wrecked it three times in three years. The loaner car is a piece of junk, the one I bought I bought brand new and it still new except for the dings that she has put in it. Now she’s taking my car to go hang out at her friends house because she can’t be in the house with me, this is the third day in a row she’s just leaving me and my baby here and taking my new car that’s covered by my insurance to go be with her friends. I want to tell her she can’t drive my car, but is that me acting hurt and being petty? I know for a fact that she drinks and drives and smokes weed while she’s driving.",1.7734436677631569,2.5597753945312505,3.0780180921052636,96.99280427631581,76.3046875,6.326973684210527,20.114309210526315,6.339386263674448,-0.20696562500000004,895,17,227,6,19,291,120,256,0.057,0.882,0.062,0.3109,0,0,2,0,1,0,22.0,4,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,18,0,23,2,0,1,2,28,38,14,0,2,8,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,13,13,1,0,2,1,6,18,7,2,0,5,10,0,43,2,23,24,1,45,0,1,0,0,28,9,0,0,17,149,56,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07628837753092486,0.0,0.10649077884840104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08070938557229737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12259630017941052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19337634076785315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14224771379575896,0.0,0.1000913937042743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08388331684021534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888053979476679,0.13397232524077138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0687774533248138,0.0,0.0,0.1325124779682847,0.0,0.12797116552903404,0.08839494359851377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08353651533588452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14657051535134258,0.09989104702556748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09652099025030364,0.604338191069515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13132060040363536,0.0,0.16960553177329082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11830425428132102,0.0,0.11985611890352806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12580718193879012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10687475320602352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999424614079728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28228464101688994,0.0,0.1093838907036544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07297415314101803,0.0,0.0,0.11958320854430465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15053628979142514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476297465758837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417714661962669
divorce,sploogegillz,2020/04/05,"Advice on house Hi r/Divorce. I'm a 28F and my husband is 33M. We've only been married for just under 2 years. It's been that relationship that once we moved in together he became an entirely different person. We've talked a lot about divorce. I know this relationship won't last much longer.

He's recently been on a kick where he needs a post-nup about the house. I bought it before we were even engaged and it's all in my maiden name. He's not in any of the paper work. Even the bills are all in my name. We've mostly done 50/50 on payments. He did pay for a bathroom renovation and when he was in a good mood decided to make a payment of $30,000 to get the PMI removed. If and when we get divorced, the house is the only thing we don't know how to split.

He's been pushing me aggressively to decide who gets to keep the house in the event of divorce. He thinks he should get it because the lump sum payment and bathroom renovation. He also has 2 kids we have primary custody of. He borderline threatens me that if I keep the house I essentially have to pay him back his $30,000. I'm undecided. I wanted to find a lawyer to learn about my options but everything is closed because coronavirus. I would love to hear all your opinions on this matter, maybe someone had been in my situation!


*Edit to specify I live in CT, USA",3.56688888888889,4.786523948148152,4.971296296296295,83.46583333333336,72.48148148148148,8.066666666666668,27.94444444444445,8.548686976883017,1.9296444444444445,1046,39,216,18,20,350,148,270,0.03,0.925,0.045,0.7769,1,0,0,0,4,0,31.0,5,1,0,1,13,5,1,0,19,0,21,2,0,2,3,41,38,12,0,6,5,1,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,2,11,11,0,2,7,0,4,3,3,1,0,0,11,1,22,3,32,24,6,25,0,0,0,1,34,15,0,6,7,129,33,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11134209644333422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09111879745013758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07748397506188112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761380825990803,0.0,0.13891508887288329,0.0,0.0969556339160019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11904438251532368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166014851684492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150514276712831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10240307211631602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10414026227093484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23811845634852666,0.0,0.0,0.09556853661007003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12842009933186682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6573646737113655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025524832302832,0.0,0.0,0.12523829120882948,0.09287734768215007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10061223442844414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968687984879426,0.10283645037877463,0.0,0.07605668666443516,0.0,0.1144693267401308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12110154460278533,0.08375994829397865,0.08448601259365066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12134374056375845,0.0,0.17331494995518348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994891275003544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10912424636828304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11250326431748099,0.2446605787174133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280747684557333,0.0,0.0,0.09654207361200208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09158168182977147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07569752101324892,0.07300896907299974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06720551684808357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08295060614301447,0.0,0.0,0.08094061351206693,0.0,0.0,0.07337444619260025
divorce,galacticjane,2020/04/05,"I'm done listening to what he and his family says about me. I'm not ""mentally ill"" or ""crazy"". I am a strong woman who is thriving in the most difficult time of our generation. I am the child of survivors of genocide and the descendant of people who experienced famine, war, and colonization. I am going to always accept constructive advice as always, but never never will I accept disrespect ever again. While I am trying to save the world, he can't even keep up with my strength. Strong people cry, and strong people express themselves. And for that, I am crazy and irrational. I am a warrior queen emerging and transforming into a completely new woman.

No matter what they say, I will not listen to the opinions of cowards, abandoners, and evil people any longer. At one point, he said he knew me better than myself...just like my abusive dad used to say.

I'm no longer giving in and I am no longer afraid. I'm tired of being someone that he and his family just talks about like I'm some odd specimen. It's like they have their hands over the ears and want to ignore all my positive traits all cause they just need someone to talk about because their beloved son can do no wrong.

I will get back to who I was. I will focus on being the nerd I always was and to brush up all my old talents and interests.",4.316730211355157,5.783166503937008,5.1402196435971845,82.02038334024039,70.96850393700788,8.18201409034397,25.966846249481968,8.6894789155246,1.8550425196850395,1028,32,195,18,19,334,143,254,0.18600000000000005,0.609,0.204,0.5606,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,1,0,5,6,9,21,2,1,10,0,21,5,3,2,6,42,37,17,2,2,6,2,1,3,0,4,2,7,0,3,8,15,0,3,3,0,0,1,9,8,0,1,5,10,27,13,30,26,5,20,0,1,0,0,31,10,0,4,12,132,35,0,0.0,0.15839468153637595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13063528375179229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.333709502022391,0.0,0.0,0.0909102791465503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027953942688082,0.0,0.08149304096115294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182333820062119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13733116145034954,0.0,0.0,0.14016601698116085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14684652535694828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13680601127007685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829757960001841,0.12092559630054595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520523492648432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06984481410285774,0.12824268523927204,0.07597617843090869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188252330729413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19593498839595827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347228811903271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09912561897777884,0.20621198842223376,0.1291136567670559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14027975707568982,0.0,0.0905883110598076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3707209573396434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263753896996722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271649015331426,0.31893466442738605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265414714318566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21490162974230226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07795270843996849,0.15365106399581374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907632347487034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11546078386678063,0.0,0.0,0.07885078549426627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14616339228787345,0.0,0.0
divorce,fatboyiv,2020/04/05,"Help. I’m a 57 year old woman thinking of divorcing my husband of 30 years. How do I split my mortgage? We currently owe $520k on the house. How do I buy out my husband’s share of the house? We immigrated here in 2001, and since then, I have been going through physical and mental trauma from my husband.  

Long story short, the COVID-19 situation has pushed him and his anxiety to the edge.  The house is valued at around 700k, and we currently have a mortgage of 520k and have no equity due to some recent refinancing (for a five-year fixed term mortgage). I would prefer to keep the house and buy his share out, as I plan to continue to live with my son who is willing to sign on the mortgage.  

How would I go about buying out my husbands share? What should be my next steps?",4.1041558441558434,5.223414350649353,4.88818181818182,84.95227272727273,71.07792207792208,8.197402597402599,27.63636363636364,8.575989854853784,1.8367090909090904,606,21,125,10,11,196,94,154,0.044000000000000004,0.87,0.086,0.755,7,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,0,0,1,7,4,0,0,10,0,14,0,0,3,0,25,20,11,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,2,14,0,1,2,0,4,4,1,1,0,0,1,0,19,3,24,14,2,25,0,0,0,0,18,9,0,1,12,82,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12233129882340953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14235448540608525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817619477108382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10718481613851756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7380622189224514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14213603689064755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14120413668899184,0.14151599642295046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16115244141055454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17006691452370984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16779944975560718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15789259032848044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13227983867885745,0.17974640175888604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246436238167594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22719204118614855,0.0,0.0,0.3089318726052436
divorce,Whimsicalfriend,2020/04/05,"Considering Divorce My husband (34m) and I (33f) have been together for 15 years, married 13 and we have 1 child together (13m). Over the last few years I've realized that him and I don't have anything in common or share any common interests. We were married young and basically spent the first half of our marriage just struggling to survive. He joined the military ~6 years into our relationship and I feel like that's when the disconnect in our marriage really began.
Him and I have a cordial relationship. We don't agree on a lot of things, mainly because we grew up with completely different backgrounds. Lots of arguments over stupid, trivial things. Neither of us has been unfaithful to the other, as far as I know, though last year he admitted to me that he had fallen in love with another woman and when I lost my sh*t he quickly retracted his statement and told me he didn't mean it, but I just can't seem to get over it. 
I've been asking him to go to couples therapy going on 3 years now, and every time I've asked he's said we're fine and don't need it. I haven't been good at standing up for myself so I just went with whatever he wanted and forced myself to act like we are fine. A few weeks ago I finally admitted to him I didn't think I was in love with him anymore and was considering divorce and now he's panicking. He agreed to therapy finally, but I can't help but feel like he's only doing it because I'm actually serious about it. 
He's not a bad person, he's hard working, supportive, a good father, and lover. I just feel like we'd be better as friends than a couple. I guess I'm just looking to see if anyone else has been in my shoes and had any advice they could offer.",4.422737613751263,5.159232633720934,5.81629929221436,80.00180485338728,70.04651162790698,9.354701718907988,30.072800808897878,9.54385415503706,2.660497876643074,1342,52,269,29,23,454,177,344,0.091,0.759,0.15,0.9740000000000001,1,0,0,0,2,0,35.0,10,0,1,5,13,21,1,1,11,0,29,4,1,0,0,53,59,27,0,4,11,2,4,4,2,0,0,1,0,3,11,25,0,0,11,0,1,6,10,5,0,2,18,7,39,16,39,38,6,44,0,1,2,3,53,15,0,6,26,169,50,1,0.0,0.0,0.09970767580388464,0.0,0.0,0.09984384166966608,0.09057162264024084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13896447049480656,0.10713898231227424,0.0,0.0,0.10132975321553496,0.07144285962849456,0.10468995745593164,0.0840809942328527,0.0,0.19103892659427565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08531152749962483,0.12456938194989504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09036513516154404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10712812959112007,0.0,0.0,0.08157810822291582,0.22610851450689515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10675071566999147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08535377187935354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860865116292659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15498765116613006,0.2189806750949136,0.0,0.2238545714662688,0.0,0.08690966698081658,0.0,0.0,0.0789398465166563,0.0,0.05338201411176796,0.0,0.11613636549119324,0.1713984223883144,0.0,0.0,0.11255684688637972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09152837711473988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06848548411228852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05615249091702595,0.16657188058955907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19966940423358134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08580093502981477,0.0,0.11153565130031894,0.17373039107240473,0.18443314069830485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11129809856653768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07576117510051497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777083914129381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892149241958457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06545566841660604,0.0,0.0,0.2193945763963808,0.0,0.0,0.0971914472872232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08141993174769123,0.0930159231574506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10681508183239297,0.0,0.0,0.1159465311485938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23369113128551766,0.0,0.1357605352200196,0.06546936137761701,0.10038603083282244,0.0,0.05957883395415424,0.0,0.0,0.0976322138579426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290346961925215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06026522939527286,0.0,0.0819583052082432,0.0,0.0,0.0947168826570106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07438432947381238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3289854790897464
divorce,jingyuan101,2020/04/05,"The aftermath of a divorce household It's been about eight years now since the divorce. My father has moved on with his new family. However my mother still hasn't moved on from the divorce. She is still very salty about what had happen in the past though its been eight years. The marriage hasn't been pleasant for much more then eight years, constantly fighting, adultery and blaming. At first I blamed my father for leaving the family for having affair. But now I could understand a little better why someone would choose to get divorce. But time to time my mother would blame me for siding my father's side or for spending time with him and my grandmother. To me my grandmother is old and I don't want to regret not spending time with her. I treat my cousin, aunt and grandmother with kindness as to me they are still my family. And what ever I do for them is just when I visit them buying fruits and snacks. And in my heart I always told myself if I treat them well I must gift my mom more. I spent time cooking breakfast for my mother so that she won't go hungry during work. Dinner I also spent time and effort to make a nice meal for her however she is never truly appreciated it. Buying flowers and gifts for her when I have money. I have a habit of saving thus when she needed some cash to get by that two months I was able to provide that for her. But in the end she forever view me as I'm not doing enough. And the cause of starting a fight.",3.9391003787878813,5.43804440625,4.511287878787879,86.0352272727273,71.9513888888889,7.041919191919192,23.50757575757576,7.520522993642371,0.9835916666666672,1151,30,225,13,22,366,151,288,0.079,0.848,0.073,-0.1761,3,0,0,0,7,0,21.0,0,0,4,4,16,11,2,0,13,0,24,7,1,3,3,38,37,24,0,8,8,9,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,8,14,6,0,2,1,8,4,7,3,1,5,8,2,46,8,37,24,5,42,0,1,1,0,34,9,0,3,29,171,54,1,0.12081284374194087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09661398749195192,0.10052596410842148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10684914253813717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12410806995240466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305557645359961,0.0,0.09645922509737302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10700432040353218,0.1248319628942296,0.0,0.0,0.1092821338304221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.341674791036468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10276334316962507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12623944897785036,0.0,0.06866072323162159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10683439873045472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14316380152536315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12580798557594833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127923357525174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12108620810228085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064351132485176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14149454244170384,0.0964316592530554,0.2568098667437339,0.08881134105429057,0.0895811928206646,0.09317831296935378,0.11668179731844648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12677275659938525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11532952960989512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09993763278881294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10236433045005014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08551195262083994,0.0,0.2894438792178789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11869800557614532,0.0,0.4226816444224744,0.0,0.0,0.1154418495161022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801659354309085,0.12577043102913335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09968324863164876,0.07125854539184445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10862525556325887,0.0,0.10901480024133492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0879531891181574,0.0,0.0,0.17164395580889968,0.0,0.0,0.2333985310954104
divorce,Rotting_pig_carcass,2020/04/05,"Separation with kids can you get your STBX to move out or “timeshare” the house? Can some of help me understand how it could work or has worked, where a separated couple can agree sharing a house where the children remain present at all times?

This is for a friend not my situation but she wants to leave her husband and is going to ask for a trial separation. She doesn’t have a place to go yet, just staying with friends and family and having the children with her is not appropriate, nor fair on her STBX.
The idea is the children could stay in the existing house and her STBX moves out during agreed periods when she will be home to “share” the kids.
Is this realistic and how does it normally work with kids? Do people just leave first without kids? Do people ever manage to get their ex to move out? Or do people just remain in the same house and not share a bed until the house sells or one party finds a flat?

Kids are 9 and 14. Location is UK

Add to this the lockdown... no house sales, no fun days out at the zoo, etc",5.032076544145512,5.592129812807883,5.380788177339902,84.29769988632059,68.60591133004928,8.610685865858281,26.452823039029933,8.617729084823388,1.5791435392194009,804,22,168,12,13,256,114,203,0.038,0.82,0.142,0.9713,0,1,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,2,1,4,10,6,0,0,18,0,21,0,0,2,2,41,28,17,0,4,12,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,8,5,16,0,0,3,0,2,5,8,0,0,2,0,0,12,6,26,24,4,28,0,0,0,0,27,12,0,5,9,116,17,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09323610047752684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592560182499737,0.1103517306824153,0.0,0.06431898823855617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08727627942949583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112277139253942,0.0,0.09021344242670963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09401859818994407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09115338130916027,0.08483211864251143,0.0,0.0,0.15410562847515605,0.0,0.10421186760513737,0.0,0.11336016208914496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06684836008847983,0.0,0.10003948141523884,0.0,0.0,0.6904650876268158,0.0,0.11258546162795066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112039003015156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3179984867981324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09771633508563188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06758108815949596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20742515293172634,0.0,0.1041988732840112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121031189143276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21260241124939847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05815462060966019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10382468882091513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058824607982980885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09613823682389933,0.0,0.2178185862037285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,opeitsathrowaway,2020/04/05,"Relieved but hurting and I have so many questions My (22F) STBXH (22M) and I agreed to a divorce 2 days ago. 

Background: We have been married for 3 years. He’s in the military and has been deployed overseas for about 2 months. I moved across the country to live with family during the duration of the deployment, with the original plan of moving back to our duty station at the end of it (not happening now). I’ve been furloughed from my amazing job due to the COVID-19 crisis, so I’m stuck at home and temporarily jobless.

I’ve been grappling with telling him I want to leave for 2+ months. I was sick with worry that he would react poorly, as he’s a very temperamental person. I tried to bring it up a couple times, but we would just drop the convo and pretend like everything was fine. We finally came to a head with the conversation the other day and agreed that getting a divorce was the best decision. Our discussions have been shockingly mutual and considerate. We’re on the same page about everything for once (who gets what furniture, when to file, etc). This is the most mature I’ve EVER seen him be, which hurts a lot.

I’m experiencing so many emotions. I’m heartbroken because our marriage failed. I’m relieved that we’re on the same page, but anxious about what’s to come. I’m hoping you guys can answer some of my questions!

My most pressing question: How the heck do I tell my parents that I’m getting a divorce?? They’ll support me 100%, but being emotionally vulnerable and admitting failure is hard.

When do I take off my ring? Remove my FB relationship status? Etc?? I am still wearing my ring and only a handful of people know we’re splitting up. Thinking about my husband taking his off and changing out his profile pics of us makes me really really sad, even though it sounds kinda ridiculous.

When will it start to actually feel real? It’s only been a couple of days, so we’re still occasionally texting about specifics and feelings and figuring out how to navigate it all.

Is the anger stage of grief imminent? I’m worried a switch is gonna flip and we’ll go through some hateful arguments and a lot more sadness.

Any book/podcast recommendations? Preferably non-religious and uplifting.

This was definitely part vent/part plea for advice, so any words are welcome and helpful honestly!",4.069216066807812,6.407135158256885,4.9814678899082585,79.25983886144438,73.56422018348623,7.8662902846389064,30.44554222535874,8.69343788997812,2.690104751823101,1843,84,326,37,39,599,247,436,0.17600000000000002,0.698,0.125,-0.9804,3,0,0,0,3,0,60.0,8,1,1,3,23,20,3,0,27,0,30,4,3,5,2,70,61,32,1,5,6,2,5,1,0,6,1,3,1,2,17,28,0,1,13,1,1,7,1,10,0,0,13,10,34,10,49,40,16,42,0,6,1,0,37,12,1,11,22,208,51,3,0.0,0.0,0.09009585759008976,0.0,0.0,0.09021889706877748,0.08184051979256511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12556829795539706,0.0,0.0,0.10430094252290632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07099220691633984,0.0,0.05628044784795786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968893652941385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10559517577865583,0.0,0.0,0.09766758172537154,0.07952979097510705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20431165763996567,0.0,0.1786259131163621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077063406103845,0.0817725243708652,0.0,0.20593350432357527,0.060979775268769625,0.08351322561788224,0.0,0.0,0.16595146881378145,0.0,0.08703576974454444,0.0,0.09336456285907548,0.0,0.0,0.10113749733463226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447079666387719,0.0,0.0524704109386005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09141624059014547,0.08164267050982048,0.0,0.08270504315235834,0.09115179874205948,0.09475206013521677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0618834846346775,0.0,0.09260947767195736,0.09169953207749966,0.0,0.0,0.19767159055719594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09161829173847044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05073939176899432,0.0,0.0,0.09775881788119736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04510531928432018,0.0,0.08152464442214961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15698278439381852,0.0,0.0,0.06162763774672695,0.18720606740220308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473858284722706,0.1962536746907597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09832308524416652,0.0,0.14043460766382151,0.0,0.0,0.10251595884502564,0.1999579019055305,0.0,0.06400651288631097,0.08061460705461962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3102753047853096,0.0,0.0,0.1050860340918139,0.1182914862387538,0.0,0.0,0.09912247152328206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06534809251923518,0.0,0.14746168863763914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476928756192733,0.0,0.0,0.13883378247309436,0.0,0.1613921951258756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0591581160791845,0.09070881920603306,0.0,0.05383543539692008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06268259767384791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105557728498022,0.0,0.0,0.07617777345212165,0.0544556623294498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18752098740482534,0.0,0.1311700266546587,0.0,0.0,0.059454256925167336
divorce,The_Final_Countdown_,2020/04/05,"I don’t know why, but right up until today I thought she might change her mind. She lives three blocks away from me, right on my normal walking route. Sometimes I see the car we used to share parked on the side of the street. 

Today I walked past her parked car and there were two car seats in it. 

Whoever she’s quarantining with has a young child too.",3.979295774647888,4.972470309859158,3.5761690140845097,94.71495774647889,71.25352112676056,6.806760563380282,21.242253521126766,6.742157984588678,0.056141408450704144,276,5,63,2,5,82,57,71,0.035,0.9229999999999999,0.042,0.1154,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,1,0,11,8,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,1,2,0,0,5,1,0,0,2,2,1,12,1,10,5,0,19,0,0,1,0,8,9,0,1,5,37,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21921603973065715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468263736009625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12822903821121254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060298001276285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2475204128334051,0.235591222427725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22860846155759354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22273462773736066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3985156806532921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18592941058761456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23076388754718666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852335831401785,0.0,0.0,0.4423286708274636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279241241906219,0.0,0.0,0.20151744590900564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21053906169346898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,daisytoot3,2020/04/05,"Split custody n Covid-19 What are you guys doing? 

I have 50/50 split custody with my ex husband, I’m conflicted if we should just keep everything the same or if I should keep them during the lockdown. We live 5 mins away from each other so I don’t know! 

I don’t want to take them away from their dad during this already weird time.",1.2460074626865671,3.7469955970149305,1.7658022388059709,97.31944962686569,85.56716417910448,4.544029850746268,20.315298507462693,5.985473137389443,-0.0815656716417914,263,8,56,2,8,80,50,67,0.034,0.9440000000000001,0.022000000000000002,-0.1759,0,1,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,1,3,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,0,0,16,13,4,0,5,4,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,11,0,6,11,2,4,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,3,2,36,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3181368179227581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5417186724386276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590977938321217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854538911482797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5124934287183591,0.0,0.0,0.1584374583931178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545666593217041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21675931527012895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681050808533168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17004178477094273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,DakotaMayhem,2020/04/05,"My ex got furloughed on Friday and left the state Married 12 years.  We were pursuing mediation because it’s free.  My ex is an alcoholic.   He started an affair and told me he wasn’t going to end it so I kicked him out of our apartment.  He understandably has been angry over the years but today he told me that he is unemployed.  Then he told me that he decided to move back to Minnesota.  Then he told me than my insurance is discontinued at the end of June.  All over text messages.  Three separate texts after years of radio silence.  He claims that I have been pushing him away.  He has never apologized for the affair.  Every time I talked to him in person he says he’s confused and will continue his affair.  So we would go months without communicating.  I’m a little shell shocked that he would leave the state and tell me after the fact.  We have been separated for 2 years.   I don’t wish him ill, I’m just done enabling his disease.  All I want is 50% of his 401k.   Is there a point of getting divorced now or should I wait until next year until things settle down?",2.16,4.604149473684213,3.5848564593301435,86.28149521531101,80.57894736842105,6.479425837320576,23.375598086124395,7.686295010490155,1.2433043062200952,836,29,164,14,22,274,126,209,0.073,0.893,0.035,-0.7861,2,0,1,0,1,0,20.0,4,0,0,1,7,3,0,1,10,0,20,2,0,0,4,25,35,12,0,5,4,2,0,0,0,4,2,1,0,1,7,8,1,1,2,1,1,4,4,2,0,1,11,1,25,2,25,20,2,41,0,0,0,0,40,12,0,2,23,105,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461862594046581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12851813632283046,0.105182598703261,0.0,0.08338554354011855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13998303995980307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.242309599587154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11525096217570376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07146681138333771,0.0,0.1554811272187608,0.0,0.10940297248208802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448402149692362,0.14862207430998506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13709890633454253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10918398739889296,0.1453854754322855,0.0,0.0,0.10550041166872984,0.0,0.14547706990260395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119439220609657,0.0,0.0,0.1293101893844505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10878041459491124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09682023548830199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109946131549204,0.11955995757230213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09087679366645747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0797629943247512,0.0,0.12966034895700732,0.5228325029560925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424025808847952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806819273088477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15730104967951958,0.1318600922469517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19434251835235586,0.0,0.0,0.4404394171553153
divorce,Marketplaceoutback,2020/04/05,"Dating: Rejection after divorce. Hi everyone, I’ve been going on two years since my divorce and have started dating a little while ago, about 6 months now. 

I recently started dating a girl that I was very excited about. We were inseparable. Texting all night and day, couldn’t get enough of each other almost 24/7. 

Since the quarantine started everything changed. It started with the texts slowing down, then she told me she’s “going through a lot” was feeling increasingly isolated but that she didn’t want things to end and that she didn’t want to lose me. 

Two days later she tells me she’s not interested in anything more right now. It literally brought me right back to the rejection I felt when my wife told me she didn’t love me anymore. 

I feel clingy, sad, I miss her, I want to “fight” to get her back, I want to text her constantly telling her I miss her. But I am realizing it’s an overreaction but I can’t control it. For almost a year with my ex wife I felt this way and I feel like I conditioned myself to feel this way whenever I face rejection and now the idea of meeting someone new seems so scary. It’s excruciating. :(",4.265951871657755,5.913388900000005,5.17251336898396,81.02788770053478,71.36363636363636,8.631016042780749,29.759358288770052,9.168548406835145,2.540082887700536,898,37,175,19,17,293,124,220,0.207,0.7170000000000001,0.076,-0.9884,0,1,0,0,3,0,25.0,1,0,0,2,9,12,1,0,9,0,11,2,1,1,1,32,36,12,0,5,4,3,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,12,9,0,1,9,0,0,4,6,8,0,2,12,6,37,4,19,23,6,41,0,7,0,1,27,6,0,4,30,113,49,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10331389910173118,0.0,0.233414524538834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558556195129753,0.0,0.0,0.095910121750283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17923839489177498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12329367786837778,0.0,0.0,0.1259483601614263,0.13071992102701915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15032927952586925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10322806298834028,0.1204265554886728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11136782578869894,0.10474697221051048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357232591227029,0.08326282453776418,0.22381116055705955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12178437040256873,0.0,0.1324752764346302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315699437687326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05694008807987761,0.11681299100693995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13038882530676615,0.0,0.09908602479969324,0.10519027005183723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302851845518542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11256401496461213,0.0,0.10937359825922932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507834733385187,0.0,0.0,0.19906488613489365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10610208164332474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928215274584121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987518215302664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3299767036736827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20373840495275536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07743015874536413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227356515773979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22770341059113705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09616535696712436,0.27497512565573035,0.1850227773459027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15010782230376687
divorce,zippi104,2020/04/05,"I Keep Getting Stuck On If It's the Worst Decision I'll Ever Make I'm 29M. She's 26F. Married 2 years. She's hands down the most beautiful woman I ever met. She cooks, cleans, does groceries and helps out.

But I'm just not very interested in her anymore. I hardly give her attention. It's just boring to me.

I love my work. I love my career. I know what I'm here on earth to do. It's more important to me than anything else.  It's all I want to focus on. I want to dive deeper into that adventure. Be the best I can be. I don't think I'll be able to give her the attention she deserves.

She has guy friends that she hangs out / goes on walks with. Someone else who can fill her attention void there. But it doesn't sit well for me. idk.

I really don't feel good about the idea of having kids. I keep thinking about it, but it never settles right.

so the only other option is...

Let her go. Move near my business partner. Focus 100% on the adventure. Go to all the personal growth opportunities I want. Achieve my dreams.

That feels better. That what feels natural. Thats what I love.

​

What do I do.... What if 3 years fro now I look back and see a divorce as the worst decision  I have ever made? 

​

\*I'll be super rich then so part of me thinks I'll be just fine, unless I want to experience kids\* ",-0.4322068220682205,1.8103024132841337,1.74869048690487,94.2980532805328,96.82287822878227,4.857924579245793,17.679866798667987,6.584502450881947,0.058232400324002676,1018,30,222,15,41,339,148,271,0.062,0.721,0.217,0.9916,0,0,0,0,1,0,56.0,0,0,0,6,15,18,0,0,10,0,18,5,1,2,6,45,48,12,0,6,10,0,5,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,19,6,1,2,13,2,1,7,5,3,1,0,3,7,37,15,28,39,8,29,0,0,2,3,27,12,0,4,9,143,56,3,0.1122035774309645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431450585365811,0.2726792557443565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11127579881086458,0.0,0.0,0.09233398386129672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08627762513091089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177507321031816,0.09923494611068437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09819010673640223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18746338258996684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3044836786870373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10975662890596397,0.0,0.0,0.17020050026813538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08668820559015511,0.0,0.058621738175803025,0.215271791145076,0.12753575757294744,0.09411103728641887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111099182277969,0.0,0.0,0.10051236634950456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752076928020716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12666418145317418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19946339012722,0.0,0.0,0.061664151779005125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11473575994811536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942227458489259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3038043280547642,0.10616973793418306,0.07489675921022651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11925464576334995,0.0,0.0,0.086538316045896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08533587672308994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215055401989345,0.0,0.0,0.0979718359189833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0718804848390794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09582124205611232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08941172416633704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095069727042885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156865655076303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925797022897857,0.2647223082529277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10088449121837233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816855407078997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726792557443565,0.1445108502535032
divorce,sweatpea357,2020/04/05,"Initiating conversation Hey all! 
I’m (25f) getting ready to have the conversation with my husband (25) about pursuing a divorce. We’ve been separated for 3 months now and he is just continuing to not try to fix our marriage. (It’s a long story) 

Does anyone have any tips on how to begin this conversation? Or like just anything about how to have this conversation!

Thanks!",3.3223529411764723,6.312985058823532,4.904411764705884,75.03985294117648,80.76470588235293,8.105882352941178,27.617647058823533,8.841846274778883,2.801641176470589,296,13,52,8,8,99,54,68,0.0,0.871,0.129,0.8306,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,2,1,9,9,4,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,10,8,1,6,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,1,6,32,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28647670063314096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2945603957226266,0.0,0.3466676874745763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36865448464049777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200951541273649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20581027631936688,0.0,0.0,0.3728089426484054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3362521157674364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3878469952121279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28601333395626755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Stock-Amount,2020/04/05,"My husbands a serial cheater I don’t know what to do at this point. I catch him checking out every home that he’s around, mostly my sisters. He’s often very sexually aroused and eager to get home and have sex after every family function where she is present. He’s talked about how tiny my sisters and friends are CONSTANTLY yet tells me how much I need to lose weight bc he’s concerned abt my health. He lies constantly, even about things that don’t matter, and he’s the most manipulative asshole I’ve ever met. He’s called me stupid, a fat bitch, annoying, snd even said his biggest regret was marrying me. I stay because I’m afraid of him and the crazy things he might do. He’s cut me off from our bank account and threatened to never let me see the kids again, I have no where to go and I have no idea how to get out. I need help",3.2707827260458835,4.5752621871345065,4.100233918128655,89.09437246963566,73.32748538011697,7.132883490778228,25.43454790823213,7.61054688173877,1.1069546558704446,658,21,142,8,13,211,106,171,0.18899999999999997,0.758,0.053,-0.9726,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,1,14,9,4,1,5,0,12,5,2,4,2,26,22,10,0,3,0,3,1,0,1,1,2,1,2,1,6,10,2,0,2,0,3,2,5,7,0,0,3,3,21,2,16,17,3,20,0,2,1,2,25,9,1,4,8,84,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14436002719294214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988534545236772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655872153419298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3504825870665185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142151198824941,0.14668630343961395,0.27325973459091457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528734549095766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252872319921937,0.0,0.16944762578985872,0.0,0.09216133808263227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723723744509058,0.0,0.0,0.108694874828057,0.0,0.32532672143043434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830630196898133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08912089986109302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16582331675409234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814196419846512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17203000376067246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11920893988933193,0.2404845800863481,0.12507060222143132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532970630528277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542547641179171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12922343186351626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17284487194831633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130340997416709,0.14173817579110715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21546864380976555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338019925500208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974716358261072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,bookworm9908,2020/04/06,"STBX wants another chance and I need advice I am 37 straight female, have been married for 10 years (together for 12) with my SBTX. We have had significant problems in the past, the most serious being his affair about six years ago. We were able at that time to go to counseling and work through it, but this last January he told me he didn't want to be with me anymore. We were extremely open in our communication and worked on it for a couple of months, but he decided he wanted to leave me and left just as the quarantine was beginning in early March. We have two kids, 9 and 7, and own a house together. A week ago, he asked me for a divorce, which I agreed to. That night, I found out accidentally that he had already started seeing other people (even during a quarantine). When I confronted him, he admitted it and has already been getting physical with his girlfriend. Today, he came to the house and said that he thinks he messed up and made a mistake, and wants to know if there's a chance I would take him back.

I have been emotionally devastated since he first said he wanted out of our relationship, but tried to work on things he mentioned as problems, chief of which was that he felt we weren't physically intimate as often as he needed/wanted. After improvements in that area still failed to change his mind, I have been civil and friendly for the sake of our children. I am by nature a forgiving and easy-going person and try to avoid conflict as much as possible. But I don't think I could or should give him another chance. I have already worked through one infidelity - the fact that he was already out there with another woman cuts me to the core. I don't know that I could ever trust him to not get bored and leave again. He's not abusive to me physically or emotionally, but is high-maintenance with a quick temper and easily hurt. I'm constantly walking on eggshells to not aggravate him and trying to referee between him and our kids (he and our 9 year old are constantly fighting a battle of wills). Since he's been gone, as painful as it has been to adjust, it feels like I can breathe freely again.

Our kids seem to be adjusting well to the situation. They miss him and are always happy to see him, but are fine when he leaves and don't really ask me about him much. It may be easier on them right now because I'm working from home due to the quarantine and they have so much more of my time and attention.

My question is, do I consider taking him back for the sake of my kids? He and I are quite amicable and I asked him today what he would say to our daughter if her husband had treated her this way, and he admitted he would tell her to leave his ass. Am I crazy for thinking maybe I'm better off alone than being on an emotional roller-coaster for the rest of my life (or until he decides to leave for good)?",7.424930875576037,6.297157824372758,7.577124935995902,76.23330645161295,63.946236559139784,11.268919610855091,34.08627752176139,10.451354775682146,3.263096569380441,2238,79,448,46,28,728,267,558,0.12300000000000001,0.7609999999999999,0.11699999999999999,-0.4198,0,5,0,0,3,0,58.0,12,0,3,9,19,26,5,1,22,0,52,4,2,1,2,97,92,48,0,17,15,2,2,1,2,6,2,3,1,7,21,40,0,2,18,0,0,4,8,16,1,4,24,7,64,10,78,55,7,60,0,3,2,1,87,20,1,10,36,304,85,6,0.06887481590537609,0.08160539435462827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06730367297556983,0.12210673726304493,0.0,0.0,0.07133353772030178,0.3040202881295021,0.0,0.05730936427973815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21666374934784047,0.0,0.0,0.06830531016301558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19316596636442326,0.0,0.0,0.10592096408513696,0.0,0.04198544850298841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06091417761575867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07877444093543459,0.0,0.0,0.07286042275320646,0.0,0.0,0.14885841553418766,0.0,0.10998187221133064,0.07620867377936329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324246927903017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04549116633164163,0.0623012141440391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03482517637842476,0.049204182244639606,0.06613062428262398,0.0,0.0,0.05858488322439687,0.0,0.07551768064642488,0.053212511917125636,0.0,0.07196849721473064,0.06607099935766382,0.07828629019956125,0.057768927837922014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07331852225327055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0727700244938244,0.06908705606232497,0.0,0.0,0.15894458049001695,0.07373191492953003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07570359517909782,0.05614216756210502,0.0,0.3646424265272584,0.07483268900618263,0.0,0.04864831934426083,0.03364875605003542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06517101613304617,0.0,0.0,0.06919400998141206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06954393006145843,0.0,0.054975220951598514,0.0,0.1518927435850182,0.051069803284212886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06463434901921031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07227253330159412,0.0,0.04667135775172868,0.0,0.07328766015890431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06574880512954588,0.04774912520070829,0.060138832623081034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764600630205934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13180779414875918,0.0,0.0,0.07715555655613197,0.0732568446840337,0.0,0.0,0.04412297070943947,0.0,0.0,0.07394577660207269,0.0,0.05881871645759064,0.13103144420030774,0.05477201804064514,0.0,0.0,0.10976862204821758,0.06270104564307602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11394791889927228,0.07741817881930634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04874994919455717,0.0,0.05500351695126002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10357057996848727,0.0,0.06019962488169485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04575736726791298,0.13239660296696815,0.0,0.0,0.08032291806204463,0.0,0.1305705443149096,0.06581283816297934,0.0,0.1402844368142875,0.0,0.06728068723737993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031207545296924,0.05466962300689228,0.05524722285444078,0.0,0.061926731031798576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507084313710609,0.0,0.0,0.1467800793125162,0.0,0.0,0.13305936988056308
divorce,freshstart93,2020/04/06,Florida divorce question Hey everyone. I know in some states relations with your Stbx can hurt out your divorce process. In Georgia it’s called Bona Fide State or something. What I’m wondering is if anyone knows if there is something like this in Florida? Our marriage is irretrievably broken for sure and would hate for a heat of the moment mistake to come back and bite me. Our divorce was petitioned beginning of 2019 and he has been dragging his feet because of custody. Thanks in advance.,5.301039325842698,7.965961842696629,4.924030898876406,79.57458567415732,71.02247191011236,8.045505617977529,35.84410112359551,8.841846274778883,3.542291011235956,400,22,65,8,8,122,71,89,0.128,0.7929999999999999,0.078,-0.7096,0,0,2,0,3,0,7.0,2,2,0,1,2,6,1,0,2,0,8,1,1,0,1,17,16,6,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,2,0,7,3,12,13,1,12,0,1,0,0,13,5,0,6,4,41,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820050097101556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20015155064784976,0.0,0.15867402067383116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657913105524734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242219488277846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487239749870196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25698840274205903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786522428840239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28610373962484925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12716747357723218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2915910824488927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4007771429312784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453258918762945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23964557745946716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822798997170559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18490680437916512,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,123overit456,2020/04/06,"Military Divorcing Immigrant - I'm the sponsor I'm divorcing my spouse of three years. He is still waiting on his 10 year card since USCIS has been backlogged or whatever.  We are splitting up amicably but I'm worried about down the road. He wants to stay here in the states and try to make it but I just found out that since I'm the sponsor I'm financially responsible to keep them above the poverty line. I'm unsure if my spouse knows this and if I should bring it. I'm honestly terrified, any help will be greatly appreciated.",3.108737864077668,5.5310797281553405,4.465834951456311,81.3902087378641,76.96116504854369,8.391844660194176,28.74660194174757,9.120678840339163,2.7028881553398056,424,19,82,11,10,140,73,103,0.131,0.737,0.132,0.036000000000000004,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,1,0,17,21,7,0,4,6,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,7,2,10,16,0,12,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,3,3,44,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18950634178943992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30554918326289404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30723658124665004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867877956658517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476962500096465,0.0,0.0,0.15315070245164614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186015552853244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4610402922355562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970270003479385,0.2225476145080719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18919982149076525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16436781458072616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2830046827938604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3589109326846194
divorce,CaliMama81,2020/04/06,"I can’t do it anymore My heart is broken. I have 2 young children and my husband has given me no choice but to leave permanently. Our marriage has been rocky for the past 3 years but the past 6 months have been the worst. He drinks at night and smokes weed all day. I left back in January but came back after he promised to change and get counseling. After 2 kids and 13 years of marriage, I have him another chance. But last night he got drunk and was verbally abusive to my son. This isn’t the first time. I knew this was coming but I had hope. I have no hope anymore. I will not let anyone hurt my child. I just need support and words of encouragement.",1.8171139386928843,3.942422105263159,2.684210526315791,94.0402429149798,79.82706766917293,5.8968189705031815,21.508964719491033,7.010146845296331,0.3930282244071712,512,15,113,6,13,161,86,133,0.14800000000000002,0.69,0.162,0.4703,0,0,2,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,1,3,7,0,0,4,0,17,3,1,0,1,21,27,11,0,3,7,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,8,2,0,1,2,0,2,5,2,0,1,9,0,16,5,10,16,2,21,0,1,0,0,13,3,0,2,16,70,19,0,0.0,0.19316995335907247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17095653494933616,0.0,0.0,0.3233740534609245,0.1139979442156789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25072788207062263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864687402312869,0.0,0.0,0.172469535577472,0.14044031675340385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10514416258715736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15971234605795764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13867758681275968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08517911934766348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13039407621050775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19319739804209285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3238613146898349,0.0,0.0,0.1745324641912551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132895379958837,0.0,0.1726306479665081,0.1771381311171671,0.16671445259361772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301330745486765,0.0,0.0,0.12088847307811465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3059948250768241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31127093302426506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18501031815651292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09506708752783427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20997853942611888
divorce,secretsforavi,2020/04/06,"11 years divorced and now I have to fight for my kids future I tagged this as a rant over alimony/child support and custody/kids because there isn't much to be discussed there as much as how absurd and pointless my situation has become. And because I'm only posting this to rant anyway. 

So context, I was in an abusive marriage for 9 years and finally left 11 years ago. We had 3 kids and the oldest is getting ready for college in the fall. I won full custody since he had a DV charge at this point and he only had to pay daycare and a nanny for 18 months while I got more securely on my feet, and then I took over everything. However, part of the settlement was that we would split all college costs 50/50, at HIS suggestion.

Now, I've been informed that he won't be paying his share since he's been claiming unemployment for a year and is on the verge of accruing debt just to pay rent. Did I expect this to happen? To be honest, no, but I can't say I'm shocked either. What frustrates me is he's able to draw this out because of the virus, rather than it probably taking a matter of weeks to wrap up. 

As if that's not enough of a headache, he also is suing me for the 18 months of payment from a decade ago, because originally we settled on him giving me a flat monthly check and I'd budget it for daycare and whatever else accordingly, but it was never determined that I HAD to put my kids in daycare at all. So now apparently, I unfairly took money from him and have to defend myself from that, when I know its really to just make holding him to paying his 50% more of a challenge. 

Icing on the cake? His attorney is his girlfriend's brother. Fantastic. 

So yeah, this sucks. I know pretty much how things are going to go down, and I trust my attorney when he says this isn't going to be much of a battle, and they're likely banking on just reducing the overall amount he is responsible for. I guess you can truly never be too thorough, and there's no expiration date on dealing with bullshit.",5.435288861180382,5.53722706234414,6.316274937655862,79.53738830008317,67.65336658354116,9.07734829592685,31.67092684954281,8.841846274778883,2.4894562759767243,1576,60,310,24,24,523,208,401,0.098,0.795,0.107,0.7092,6,0,0,0,2,0,39.0,3,1,0,2,20,13,4,0,19,1,31,1,1,4,4,46,50,33,0,4,9,1,0,1,1,2,0,2,1,3,18,21,0,2,3,0,11,7,9,5,0,0,14,2,35,8,57,29,13,53,0,0,0,0,36,21,1,2,25,218,53,8,0.11530346978633535,0.136615757133899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20441913790463595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09220814313013613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811516998945438,0.1273436234454641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887281439134345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632125358839666,0.0,0.0,0.11913930684959888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10362732383330706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12630931516185295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0602413039881456,0.11060959478506173,0.19658885714723498,0.0,0.09221871796055488,0.0,0.12701977139777493,0.0,0.10196247753649963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12673554309665644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12527755729625267,0.0,0.0,0.05633145113437879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07696596142849517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761023885725537,0.0,0.3390452691209139,0.0,0.1778582882653198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17538696909169765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12486242153749633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10899904832314283,0.0,0.11042885123238301,0.11730508111834828,0.12431664221012227,0.0,0.0,0.1159118341673172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07386635525921023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18338789423299748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19076044344087292,0.12960593106584584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13084501110559735,0.0,0.0,0.08669385958545665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07660250187131509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562127949949525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09248948846451603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08190827671804869,0.0,0.0,0.2970066166785892
divorce,Ihatecoldwater,2020/04/06,"Will my ex-wife be able to collect on work pension in the event of my passing? Hello, my father and mom ended on good terms, and we talk to our father often and love him very much. But concerned over moms financial stability in the event of my fathers death. Will mom be able to collect my fathers pension from his past workplace he’s been receiving on? He’s currently retired.",4.009497716894977,5.931136000000002,4.834452054794522,82.07213470319637,72.56164383561644,7.0584474885844735,31.34474885844749,7.793537801064563,2.288033789954337,300,14,54,4,6,97,49,73,0.05,0.855,0.095,0.5514,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,5,1,0,0,0,6,6,4,1,0,1,7,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,9,2,12,1,2,14,0,0,0,1,17,6,0,1,6,34,9,3,0.4268265697261976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18902082596979386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17900093801844807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926138217998895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7498411797305162,0.0,0.0,0.15688332002165514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203727128618356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17153351442140646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17608831045932788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15536741312029126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,omgitsr0b,2020/04/06,"Consultation with Divorce Lawyer on Wednesday. How can I prepare to make the most of my time? I've never ""done this"" ... talking to a lawyer about a potential divorce.  I've found some good information via Google but wondering what Reddit may suggest to me, if anything.  I'm not an anxious person in general but I feel like an elephant is standing on my chest today, since I made the appointment.",4.8482648401826465,6.978232753424662,5.481027397260277,77.43651826484022,70.7808219178082,8.154337899543378,34.08447488584475,8.841846274778883,3.218307762557078,313,16,53,6,6,101,57,73,0.0,0.8959999999999999,0.10400000000000001,0.7438,0,0,0,0,2,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,6,0,4,1,1,3,1,17,10,4,0,1,4,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,1,6,2,9,6,2,8,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,5,5,35,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3214127992723756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341256538705215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2911502286847796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14385567750160413,0.20325240842427575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31194808591038703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386316199051352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13899612585057633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26920813199658505,0.18991114635775472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21942993231543967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484212116297749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23534776816389685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22867656933832625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16589876920020247,0.0,0.2696801002537258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085365413218736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,mensrightsactive,2020/04/06,Our Children to My Father's Graveside Service Only if She Comes too My father died unexpectedly three days ago. I'm in the middle of a no-fault divorce with her (15 months into the divorce process at this point). She will not let me take my kids to my father's graveside service tomorrow without her! It's COVID19 compliant. My attorney has emailed her letting her know that her choice will be closely reviewed by the commissioner. But I can't believe that it's up to her if the kids can go or not and it's not in the statute. She said she only feels good about letting the kids come if she is there to supervise. I hate this. She is not invited to the funeral. This is vindictive. This is wrong. The court is not fair to dads. Has anyone else been denied child time for a family funeral?,3.0116208791208763,5.101022634615386,4.110842490842494,85.43653846153849,75.85897435897436,7.277655677655678,28.45054945054945,8.192908349453996,2.0190472527472525,625,27,123,11,14,203,94,156,0.15,0.8320000000000001,0.018000000000000002,-0.9599,0,0,0,0,2,0,16.0,1,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,10,0,16,0,0,0,0,19,25,6,3,3,11,4,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,5,9,6,0,0,2,0,0,3,7,2,0,1,2,2,21,1,17,17,0,16,0,0,0,0,26,8,0,4,5,87,30,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16351027869399098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12897684228261455,0.18899831559908467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20782022630074776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3177872848260175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11895970728458295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914375691173788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540904161893165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17388993866787905,0.0,0.0932671599100531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10483134195022806,0.15471404285061374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821134085358866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137291539618924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5658603005432645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723206762449612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28057619740922995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17437178291018207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17546114521686287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386889435810918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075585427325504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17781026761505078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20167511546358424,0.0,0.0
divorce,jfkilwe7,2020/04/06,Any advice for someone who is getting divorced? Spouse left me because of chronic illness. How should I go about negotiating things? Any general tips?,4.6798,8.158904080000006,4.7835,71.89925000000002,88.2,5.7,38.25,7.1686216300943375,3.7756000000000007,122,8,16,2,4,38,24,25,0.12300000000000001,0.877,0.0,-0.5007,0,0,0,0,1,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,10,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3952631925709245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5501344834409855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24657350309599255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113294617958796,0.0,0.229881131524906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4394798419989268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3427232776483405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687253499006007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,expendable4341,2020/04/06,"STBXW is stealing everything and taking all the kids possessions. How does this work to get that stuff back? Basically the separation agreement states that the children's property belongs to the children but the items are to be divided equally between the two households. 

So far my STBXW has packed nearly everything and has told the kids that these are their FORMER bedrooms and they are taking everything except for a few cloths that dont fit or a few toys they dont want. Again Ive made a list and reported it to the lawyer and shes making a request with my STBXW's lawyer. 

I'm not even going to mention all the stuff she is straight up stealing from me but again I have a list and photos of that stuff. I'm mostly concerned about the kids toys and cloths and what she is implying to them by taking everything. 

What has your experience been when it comes to this situation? 

Thanks for your time.",6.2687632135306535,7.125427081395353,5.944228329809724,80.29548625792812,65.97674418604653,9.277801268498942,31.33403805496829,9.339509955726095,2.652306976744186,726,27,136,13,11,225,99,172,0.069,0.883,0.049,-0.5358,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,4,1,8,4,0,0,15,0,16,0,0,3,2,22,29,14,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,15,10,0,0,0,2,0,2,3,2,0,1,3,0,14,2,18,25,7,14,0,0,0,0,17,5,0,2,6,103,29,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11346579389818125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12711128817534975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291321869011603,0.0,0.3458822897771817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09746307254199606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5304755543017506,0.14434360027303852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0770948673160191,0.0,0.08386268143950057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13962639310464692,0.09849854155460046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16586546766744514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.506768327207044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33284397046765085,0.0,0.0,0.13585493398683615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08604437983403265,0.0,0.0,0.141001472094849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14414628222734935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08703567936328169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10742663248276392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,rebuildingmyself2020,2020/04/06,"Rebuilding self-esteem and self-confidence Hi everyone,

My  marriage/relationship with my husband is coming to an end as he decided  that I was too mentally ill to deal with. I have been constantly  working on myself and therapy, but when he escalates it into rage, and  anger and breaks or destroys valuable objects- I start to shake and cry  and get emotional. He will break items when I asked for help resolving a  fight we were having or something as small as when I sighed over the  dishes. We have had fights like this like every 3-4 months after we got married 8 months ago. Things were actually reasonably fine when we were together for 5 years before that. Unless there were red flags I missed?

It was somehow always my  fault and that I made him escalate. I believe it, but my therapist told  me that I'm not responsible for if he acted that way- he could have gone  for a walk or do something else. A lot of it was over stupid stuff,  like chores or if I didn't like someone cause they are racist but he  liked that person and that I was insane for not liking them.

Maybe  I am mentally ill and sick. I am definitely going to therapy for  everything now and trying to be better. I don't know anymore. I don't  have this problem with anyone else, but I know non-personal  relationships are different from personal ones. Are things really all my  fault?

My question for those who  have felt to be in a similar position, and worked hard to make the  marriage work and were the only ones going to therapy- how did you  recover your self-worth and self-esteem? How did you regain your sanity  and confidence in what you thought?

One positive change I can say is that ever since I moved out- I have been sleeping like a complete baby.",4.7093636363636335,6.350208178787881,5.470121212121214,79.35518181818183,70.24242424242425,9.401212121212119,28.35151515151515,9.791249743138472,2.7739187878787868,1369,50,254,34,25,445,189,330,0.192,0.6729999999999999,0.135,-0.9744,1,0,2,0,2,0,35.0,4,5,2,5,11,23,6,1,9,0,37,5,1,6,2,56,54,34,0,4,13,1,2,7,0,1,3,1,1,2,20,24,1,0,8,0,0,8,5,11,1,3,21,4,38,11,32,29,3,33,0,1,1,0,33,8,0,9,21,179,58,3,0.0,0.0,0.08866847247446741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08054392366782216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07560469087065896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09011096047919501,0.06353301469915124,0.0930991374153842,0.0,0.0,0.08494396077185651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07731710293070743,0.10237066793289064,0.0,0.08036029759115819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09334058465915876,0.09612023808313776,0.07826980363581221,0.0952673656597392,0.09818983888063623,0.0,0.07254613233298253,0.0,0.09980794152781593,0.0,0.09367501484114636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949317373782928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15180754162522705,0.10220782862724,0.08047700549490439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08219012888077222,0.07655538478136996,0.08682279671338024,0.08166115312182111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08724203223694046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047471788011696055,0.0,0.10327824857832417,0.0,0.07267086101913263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08139475041814981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060903067030215974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09987105917586968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3107350224387688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07724785616847071,0.0,0.08597608070497684,0.06065127351441268,0.0,0.09128336704644832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18313560250224634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14505080060925676,0.0965722177344856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847118853793104,0.06910485385885197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380122990509877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08694292508915195,0.0,0.0,0.10178654179282856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05820869944568077,0.09342155085831368,0.0,0.19510415623881205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07225732730364974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3791566728199432,0.0,0.0,0.07516221207482711,0.0,0.09092789374101022,0.0,0.07698730998004598,0.13990043545222247,0.0,0.0,0.06431278526881028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10401556522823542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31172678745425786,0.10549810343150873,0.12072971497151555,0.0,0.0,0.0721344962155909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682279671338024,0.0,0.06168951975304862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07212224388454587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198446453113196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05851232547942342
divorce,rcx87,2020/04/06,"Is there hope? Hi everyone. 

So we recently divorced. I find myself thinking about her often however deep down I know it would never have been successful. I do not want to be her but this loneliness in a foreign country (none of my immediate family is here) is killing me. I am 32 already and hurts to think I haven't yet settled down or started my family.

Just wanted to know if any good post divorce stories out there.

Thanks",1.3436178861788621,4.034103646341468,3.1920731707317067,84.34794715447156,91.8048780487805,6.635772357723577,26.34552845528455,7.793537801064563,2.2535089430894306,337,16,61,8,12,112,67,82,0.188,0.71,0.102,-0.8451,1,0,0,0,2,0,9.0,1,0,0,1,8,6,1,0,1,0,10,0,0,0,1,19,19,5,1,5,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,5,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,12,4,9,16,1,10,0,1,0,0,6,5,0,4,4,48,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490974731484493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15350340421687153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156936537096208,0.0,0.0,0.4255942674055851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20631214082472532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893307060454045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22419974735964632,0.0,0.0,0.2416474744148508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24973560227324285,0.0,0.248109419057372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740960566302702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21618590536629287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228800735178049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15977208935880974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20782085924881996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892759511142631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662815275054292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16035134624393835,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Blainedecent,2020/04/06,"Ex won't take coronavirus precautions, is risking exposing children to infection. What in the hell can you do when an ex refuses to take basic precautions, and ignores shelter at home?",8.648125,9.9117925625,8.718750000000004,61.05125000000001,60.875,13.9,47.25,13.023866798666859,7.3355125,150,10,21,6,2,49,28,32,0.29100000000000004,0.7090000000000001,0.0,-0.8779,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,1,3,1,1,2,0,4,1,0,0,0,3,6,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,5,0,3,1,0,0,0,5,2,1,0,1,14,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5549226224773847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8319019672189879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,honeymyth,2020/04/06,Will I always wake up with such a heavy heart? When does it get a little bit easier? Our divorce just became final so this is all brand new but we’ve been separated since August and every morning I wake up with a heavy heart. I miss my dogs that I never get to see anymore. I miss all the memories which I thought were such genuine loving times but turns out they were all fake (he cheated on me a lot). I didn’t know he cheated until after we had our child so now we have custody orders in place and we’ll always be in and out of each other’s life until our child is 18 (maybe after). He still begs me every day to come back home and constantly tells me he can’t go on without me. Is that part possibly what is making my heart heavy? Knowing he wants this picture perfect family that I know will never be real? Will our child be okay growing up with two divorced parents? Will i love any new dog I get the same as my old dogs? Will life ever be good again? Or will I always have this heavy heart? Is that something that just comes with divorce?,2.1478017135862904,3.9552880837209337,3.367343941248471,91.07505507955936,77.46511627906978,5.642594859241125,21.083231334149325,6.339386263674448,0.2078372093023257,818,21,172,6,19,265,123,215,0.07400000000000001,0.8059999999999999,0.12,0.9066,1,1,1,0,3,0,18.0,7,0,1,1,12,10,2,0,6,1,24,10,6,1,7,37,42,13,0,1,6,1,0,0,0,7,2,0,1,3,12,15,0,0,4,0,0,4,5,5,0,1,6,1,26,5,22,25,8,36,0,2,1,2,23,11,0,2,20,118,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27977157796080593,0.0,0.0,0.07621632616257107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11115044721214078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08618043384259999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12235925358312627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19308913435309746,0.0,0.12111561618290127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07228050963415207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09807949610057844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10138022647789374,0.18885971716862127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10565639134516143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12277507316154845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17566710329355145,0.0,0.06369604460834576,0.09400502170075266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5312479950144284,0.0,0.0,0.11242255045136364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847840623146678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158326854481116,0.0,0.11233077878775154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09528401110858242,0.20230806272420115,0.0,0.07481238840717172,0.0,0.11259659220462195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17288166218129675,0.216489679023796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176061477278251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244484457211735,0.12136866485065124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11709679941386204,0.0,0.0,0.12635018132724304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275683684478659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931100233204176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09271140204414603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08628248929428502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08950498127865038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979603959287269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08897676232889079,0.0653531053637942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12190778882303975,0.10948312008725963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06610602499325811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10803840270600994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Unkwnsoldier83,2020/04/06,"Back From Deployment Blindsided by Divorce I've been back six months. My world has been completely turned upside down. Everything seemed better than it was before I deployed and happier. She blindsided me with this. Out of no where. No discussion, no compromise. I am utterly devastated. I don't know what to do. I feel gutted and empty. (not going to self harm) I don't have anyone to turn to, I don't have anyone to talk to about what I'm going through.",2.0142006269592443,4.788693471264367,3.634775339602928,83.09003134796241,85.55172413793103,7.761337513061651,22.85161964472309,8.575989854853784,2.128894252873564,360,13,66,10,11,119,60,87,0.14400000000000002,0.784,0.07200000000000001,-0.659,0,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,11,1,1,0,0,8,19,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,3,0,0,2,7,1,0,1,3,1,9,1,15,16,0,9,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,1,3,49,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3341364416939924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3674510225818017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033152509580178,0.0,0.0,0.21131772211447275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505177719162362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21473848878383292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208122186421774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2715834172812351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313118876038518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907148535684445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21751655621240204,0.24926029030045696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19204611297275245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5197831998099031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Alex230894,2020/04/06,"How to handle with parents divorce? My mom has an affair at work. And since she’s met that man her fights with dad was getting worse. Dad doesn’t know about her affair or pretends he doesn’t know. So they are going to divorce after pandemic. My dad isn’t a sensitive and talkative person and he never spent time with my brother and me, even in the childhood. My mom is a very good mom and she always stay in touch with us. I am afraid that after divorce my dad will be more emotional distanced for us. (My brother and me) especially for me, cause I am very close with mom. 
I don’t think about mom’s affair cause mom becomes mad when i don’t support you and honestly I don’t want to be blamed for mom’s ruined life, so I just let her decide on her own.",2.383461538461539,3.9714873461538462,3.6887179487179513,89.98961538461538,76.1794871794872,6.338461538461537,23.538461538461537,7.010146845296331,0.7310153846153846,590,18,126,6,13,193,88,156,0.106,0.8170000000000001,0.077,-0.672,1,0,0,0,4,0,15.0,2,1,1,1,8,7,2,1,4,0,16,1,0,3,1,24,25,12,0,1,2,14,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,13,0,0,4,1,1,1,7,4,0,0,3,1,25,3,19,18,2,13,0,1,0,0,36,5,0,1,6,83,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08493465101631464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11273391603986635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20971846832221103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148207360630699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06741963351474746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05333002094792814,0.0,0.058011625334086235,0.08561574163605414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11219559871283244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10437869418268278,0.0720986539977355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8368437729208228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07872660127691343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11334230643326568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08912803039373175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08443756833965388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10879846322753664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11583360122095852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06540559534538247,0.0,0.0,0.059520805194342385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455675275063423,0.0,0.0,0.1684452769947089,0.06020653209810396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07431188041594525,0.0,0.10402323609154043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,htcf24,2020/04/06,S. I'ma see my real dad soon. My savage ass wants to use my mom's clothes for our meeting. I know he will be mad to see this scar on my face. I could tell he didn't like that I got earrings. I got them at 18. For some reason I love him. I'm so happy he texts me.,-3.3764756944444443,-1.862598890625,0.08958333333333357,107.08597222222224,100.40625,2.844444444444445,11.798611111111107,3.1291,-2.0414909722222223,197,3,58,0,9,70,48,64,0.172,0.698,0.13,-0.2189,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,1,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,4,3,2,2,0,7,13,1,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,2,13,3,6,7,1,3,0,0,2,2,11,2,1,1,2,28,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21487433019414814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4304875279758745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2864884556561169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479040043630185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13148082993576776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428957255594892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31519582499856297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3063230500588245,0.0,0.27670521529997905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4289153960504305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23522702085917974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23243750101171476,0.0,0.0,0.1587368361732659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ManInCrisis1,2020/04/06,"Am I being selfish and hurting my kids for leaving? I am getting started on the process. While I am certain that divorcing is the best path forward for me, I can't help but worry about my kids. My wife is blaming me for breaking up our family and said it will be difficult on my kids. I know that is not true, yet I can't shake the guilty feeling. For those who have kids, could you tell me how did you overcome this? Thanks!",2.7039408866995096,4.189077850574717,3.6341543513957326,91.14413793103449,75.0919540229885,6.3507389162561605,28.52052545155993,6.868970318607317,1.2888042692939252,331,14,71,3,7,106,59,87,0.159,0.653,0.188,0.4444,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,2,0,1,3,8,0,1,3,0,14,0,0,1,2,10,20,5,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,4,6,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,2,2,16,4,8,14,1,9,0,1,0,0,13,4,0,0,4,55,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3282162737322552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497088072254169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2948368578971496,0.0,0.15813793818969582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16340117908489915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20963257082653095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3348098765971371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17188154806570768,0.0,0.0,0.3311615762166404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29750089703339083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22136905693479225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733609861767179,0.2879420792950453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31761710661308445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,littleapostateannie,2020/04/06,"Getting a divorce after 5 years, I'm devastated. F(27)and my M(29) husband getting divorced:
Less than 5 months ago, my husband and I decided to break up. After years of feeling so alone in my marriage I decided to end it. I always felt like I put in 100%and he would put in 10%. It became lonely after he stopped trying . I gave up having a family because he said he would resent me if we had children. It slowly turned into  living with a roommate. He would leave me alone in our room for hours and forget I was there. I paid for literally everything while he took shit jobs and bought things for himself. I supported him as much as I could. Then there came a day, I couldn't lie to myself. I said we had to separate. although it was a good choice, I'm still hurt and consider suicide. He refuses to take any responsibility or try again.  I feel like its my fault somehow. I don't know what to do with myself. Especially due to the fact that it took him less than a day to be over it and sends me memes like nothing happened. Right now All I need is comfort,and reassurance that it isn't all of my fault.",2.778232912598241,4.616178321266972,4.270297689926173,85.16378899738034,75.7420814479638,7.005572755417957,26.563705644201,7.85451343220497,1.5553656108597291,863,33,175,13,19,287,129,221,0.157,0.769,0.07400000000000001,-0.9561,1,4,0,0,2,1,30.0,3,0,0,0,7,12,2,0,7,0,15,1,1,0,3,32,36,13,1,7,2,2,3,3,0,3,0,2,1,1,12,11,0,2,6,0,2,6,3,6,0,0,13,5,30,6,30,17,5,35,0,2,0,0,25,10,1,3,21,116,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11817915428915512,0.0,0.0,0.27615633172077736,0.0,0.0,0.11093199859789096,0.0,0.0,0.09066141866834518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08126995950838027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524812965773698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644428748491867,0.0,0.0,0.1719593130617557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180809677007464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198184242180086,0.0,0.12568118686668364,0.0,0.13482007576721886,0.0952430435125684,0.12800704409124564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393072376993622,0.0,0.0,0.11182156184174843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11789345643470918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13129225416619358,0.0,0.1427206318963518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322984294639481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07326857678328932,0.0,0.0,0.14116545753607238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19539863018248574,0.0,0.1177230246820718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10641386813773494,0.0,0.09800472593016428,0.0988542695861284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12792307308112988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680446199785618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385360583924807,0.253633593165633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368499274110174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10646863984623714,0.11146056383932393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14582922997368294,0.15128869942332265,0.0,0.0,0.1002392154950936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08857114828268861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29624439023600324,0.18102955358833567,0.14501267166621168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2841177485936818,0.0,0.0,0.17170599160697725
divorce,Rare-Bison,2020/04/06,"It happened. Married 8 years, she just asked for divorce. I am devastated. Not looking for advice just kind words.",2.265000000000001,4.741069500000002,2.8800000000000026,83.32000000000005,104.0,4.0,30.0,5.985473137389443,1.882,90,5,14,1,4,28,18,20,0.171,0.684,0.145,-0.1531,0,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,2,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,9,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4453224873432201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.426034938898932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40299004184300297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4745603099180707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3826884579448187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29346753770304274
divorce,Tiny-Communication,2020/04/07,"How do I pretend like I'm okay? I'm having a really difficult time coping with the stress of being basically trapped with my husband. 

Before this shutdown crap started, I was working from home to save and move out. Now I realize that I must have a financial cushion. Neither one of us has lost our jobs, but I don't feel safe caring for a baby on my own with no rainy day fund now that I'm watching people I know and care for struggle and face impending homelessness. 

He refuses to be a parent or be a decent human being, and I'm just a blink away from rage screaming at him every day, all day. By midday I'm watchimg the clock for bedtime so I can shut myself away from him with a valid excuse. He refuses ti accept that I will be filing as soon as I can afford it and gets angry at me if I'm not pretending to be a happy wife. The anger lasts days until I'm walking on eggshells. How the hell do I cope with this?",4.258647469458984,4.474408089005237,5.7536256544502615,82.16125872600351,70.2041884816754,8.460907504363004,28.482111692844683,8.344100000000001,1.8952719022687607,719,24,148,10,12,245,122,191,0.239,0.669,0.092,-0.9833,3,1,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,2,7,17,4,2,12,1,17,2,2,2,2,28,31,14,0,2,5,3,1,1,0,2,0,1,1,1,6,11,0,3,4,2,1,2,4,9,0,1,2,3,18,8,27,21,3,22,1,1,1,0,13,8,2,2,13,101,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3387882887498221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534187228943633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36764783098429016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4651043402628485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15190726137747818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09116313806653237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09419728383762034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19192857760082824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18085171377113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17891608386322874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908603512085264,0.1469654056365207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08808357954094581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19681451849217294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19162624762569594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12217332036570197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20019751014779325,0.0,0.0,0.12499463164026063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11550231438833955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12761452521782965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20652860197184167,0.18848465628213312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051321203606802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21687403903707106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13125772627921767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,LovelyWoodHome,2020/04/07,"JMJ When you hurt your hand yesterday and I saw the image, I just wanted to reach out to you.

When you cry and I know about it, I just want to hold you.

I invited you to dinner this Sunday, think about it.

I am more vulnerable and accepting of what your 50% has been even if you can’t and won’t discuss it. All I ask is for a chance to work together, a post nup and healthy boundaries. Please reach out and message.",0.7274712643678143,2.7654810574712663,2.421379310344829,94.91988505747128,83.2528735632184,6.16551724137931,20.011494252873558,7.3871296695380915,0.3760942528735627,320,9,75,5,9,105,57,87,0.096,0.72,0.184,0.5955,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,8,0,1,7,2,0,0,3,0,6,2,1,0,1,18,12,9,0,3,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,8,1,1,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,2,15,1,11,9,2,7,0,1,1,0,11,2,0,1,4,54,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3221911193729297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3785699667281021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276309343384084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3689433804271356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18940468549174697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3783103369366765,0.0,0.0,0.3300690765325836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22083087675302435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4065542465984766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250901434636626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,bruinsirishcider,2020/04/07,she won’t sign the divorce papers she won’t sign and notarize the divorce papers. but she’s moved on and is seeing other men. she didn’t stay faithful through the marriage. why won’t she sign them? it doesn’t make sense.,1.5959999999999999,4.039134377777781,2.3422222222222224,94.3,83.0,4.488888888888889,22.333333333333336,5.6839178017228535,0.1731333333333338,177,6,36,1,5,55,28,45,0.0,0.9079999999999999,0.092,0.5927,0,0,0,0,2,0,5.0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,1,0,7,8,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,1,1,6,1,2,4,0,3,1,0,1,0,10,1,0,0,0,22,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32725295351563194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5210697426436576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3906744580259964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5225528814487856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4423842014044279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,sixersfan10,2020/04/07,"Has anyone dealt with divorce / coparenting with bipolar spouse? Looking for anyone going through an experience with a bipolar ex (who struggles / denies therapy).

​

My story - 

About 18 months into divorce/custody proceedings with my spouse.  Married 10 years but at the end she had significant bipolar/depression episodes (a mini midlife crisis) which led to her having affairs, being emotionally and physically abusive and being institutionalized for around a week for suicidal thoughts.  I filed for divorce after getting tired of it and her not wanting therapy and was able to get primary custody with her having supervision to start with a gradual increase to every other weekend visits.

The problem now is she is now not getting treated for bipolar/depression (denies she was ever mentally ill and blames it on the marriage and being unhappy with me) and the episodes are getting much worse since the person she had an affair with dumped her (surprise).  She has been able to delay the divorce settlement and goes back and forth between begging to get back together and threats to take me to court (she took me to custody contempt court already 3x with all times any allegations dismissed).  She also has indicated she will make it awkward and difficult for any future relationship I have.   I have tried to work through my attorney and make sure everything is in writing (we are using Our Family Wizard for that reason) but I want to finally end this.  Our divorce trial is in June (assume we are out of quarantine then) so hopefully that part is done.  With the child, I have many more years of coparenting with her though.

I am hoping she finally moves on in some way and gets help but I am not sure the way out of this cycle and look forward.  Anyone go through anything like this and have any advise?",8.129716981132077,9.315413009433962,7.79150314465409,67.52102830188682,61.987421383647785,10.259371069182393,39.48490566037736,10.241411754978122,4.497347924528302,1459,75,217,31,20,463,176,318,0.161,0.763,0.076,-0.9876,2,1,0,0,5,0,39.0,4,0,0,1,10,14,3,2,14,0,29,4,0,5,4,57,50,22,1,5,6,3,0,1,0,1,4,0,0,2,11,32,0,1,3,1,0,8,3,7,0,0,8,2,31,7,49,38,6,42,0,0,2,0,36,11,0,4,24,169,42,3,0.2028022705566724,0.120143764068482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11189867427860553,0.08109045124686433,0.0,0.10986808770913044,0.1232134782705201,0.20686874754708154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127060944413265,0.0,0.08344449439740627,0.090268508686821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15594242782099985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17467329846138385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10376856711194256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140626289684475,0.1796226168102064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172313218380873,0.08543482986710169,0.0,0.09113280200522136,0.09918976765455996,0.09559196587048112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221599744981642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31786744803247463,0.0,0.11525720393751593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06796704353287268,0.0,0.0,0.2014284142351918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04953947272781091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17030283021059106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13537209038201814,0.1028048356347196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10218849455901452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08093741875590751,0.10777335932145034,0.0745415017937388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10980754803794107,0.0,0.0,0.08853956010092598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09702719193892008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042572554013618,0.0,0.1088668709734166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838800669526588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0717722454587854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10600648313978914,0.0,0.11091638392426872,0.0,0.19113873993337688,0.0,0.07624103420231836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319220707746893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09962610056928084,0.08050117479427571,0.059127817427126875,0.11654568829285356,0.0,0.0,0.11266039232586365,0.06884471470865754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08757802371581998,0.0,0.0,0.11961803359997288,0.16097500269920334,0.08133787429808953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07382123416432121,0.0,0.10333641978996873,0.0,0.0,0.1232134782705201,0.13059801310487415
divorce,Glum_Cauliflower,2020/04/07,"Disappointed I \[28M\] and my wife \[26F\] have been married for 5 years. Almost immediately after we got married she started getting more controlling and demanding: refusing to work, no sex, criticizing everything I did, name calling, demanding I quit my job, silent treatments, gaslighting, etc.

I kept insisting she needs to work, and she's held a couple of part time jobs over the years before quitting due to conflict with others. I insisted that she get into therapy, which she did grudgingly. At some point I discovered she was lying to her therapist and projecting all her behaviors onto me.

As time went on, she kept getting more aggressive. Threats to hurt me, hurt our pets, kill herself if I left her. Eventually she started throwing things, destroying my property, pouring water on the bed, physical intimidation, hiding knives around the house, threatening to kill me, etc. And blowups kept coming faster and faster, until there was no honeymoon period in the cycle of abuse.

We kept going to couples' therapists, and the story was always the same. They'd say she needs to stop, and she should be on medication. She'd argue with them and get angrier and angrier. She'd keep insisting we just needed to teach me to not be so sensitive. She'd refuse medication because she believed doctors were just trying to take your money. At some point, the therapist would decline to continue with us.

When I finally left out of fear for my safety, she called me a coward and told me I was just playing the victim, that she didn't feel safe around me, and that she was filing for divorce except not really it was just a joke. Then she told me she'd decided she was polyamorous and was going to sleep with other people. 

When I gave her an ultimatum that she needed to work on reducing her abusive behavior or I was going to file for divorce she told me she has no control over her behavior and wasn't willing to work on it. After I filed she immediately started posting on social media about how I had abandoned her and she believed love is a choice you make every day.

We live in a no-fault state, so she's going to get half our savings and alimony. Meanwhile I'm struggling with anxiety, depression, insomnia, panic attacks, and ptsd symptoms.

I absolutely share part of the blame, of course. I enabled her and allowed her to push me around. I shut down in fear in the face of physical threats and let her control me. And I often withdraw when I'm hurt before I'm able to talk about what I'm feeling.

There were good things about our marriage too. She's one of the most creative people I've met and is spectacularly fun when she's in a good mood. She's incredibly intelligent and has a great sense of humor. And we shared a lot of interests in common, she would have been an awesome partner for the quarantine if her mood was stable.

The whole thing is just so disappointing. It's incredibly sad that she won't honestly self-reflect. Without that, she'll never be able to improve and never find a place of peace, happiness, and confidence in herself. It's heartbreaking to watch someone you love destroy their life and their marriage and take no responsibility for their actions.

The stickied post says to tell you what I'd like you to do to help. I guess I just needed to get this off my chest and share my story. I'm still in a lot of pain but talking it through seems to help.

Thanks for listening.",6.40570241605085,7.346507042386186,6.770681165524369,74.19252440938851,65.7032967032967,10.045089405368152,33.90393230462917,10.097256963172876,3.509294781177012,2714,117,477,61,41,880,304,637,0.14400000000000002,0.77,0.085,-0.9771,3,1,0,0,3,1,83.0,9,5,5,10,26,45,10,4,26,0,42,14,3,6,3,103,90,43,2,10,14,1,2,1,1,6,7,3,2,1,20,44,1,15,5,2,1,9,12,24,0,2,31,6,100,19,85,44,14,71,0,9,1,3,95,32,0,12,28,343,120,9,0.13025725754085613,0.1543335503615369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06521691390264943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054192236482667015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04982322274448133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17393486303047798,0.0,0.07409321750048799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039701807596375975,0.0,0.11083933226692616,0.14675532381974893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13300722358368067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056102546802819515,0.0,0.0,0.21914188549723815,0.0,0.14412717793632274,0.0,0.04200257759989914,0.0,0.05609519252605509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06666191128283154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14527127410907245,0.0,0.0,0.05487367871381138,0.0,0.058533412020634834,0.0,0.0,0.14657562840668126,0.06586198320533201,0.0,0.0,0.0713452293557798,0.0595263867915772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041621226851619,0.0,0.14805640248029306,0.10925360761154476,0.052089314041177004,0.07180454314365448,0.07174652725715899,0.0,0.0,0.06933063638805166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08730869402448804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751496932639911,0.2091646323632488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292602290847399,0.05788931773088792,0.14411035625066765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14152489144573194,0.06659843551736493,0.04600227658293147,0.031818558243121096,0.0,0.05750977241608059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11074006231762602,0.11756226051349705,0.0,0.043473865436351365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13122048321389634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414602649570688,0.10046242712071947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04413284439700281,0.0,0.06930145292148794,0.07641441311510869,0.0,0.14105591643966364,0.0,0.09030398146056984,0.0,0.06804555514307921,0.0,0.12313521124251925,0.0,0.12475044629248505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07613188176767817,0.0,0.0,0.1385446270774547,0.0,0.0,0.04172306730418784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10358579933998556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05929065757236837,0.06794336383370386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06517566388722534,0.06639043518983095,0.05518327580679491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382951359767648,0.0,0.052011807066143334,0.054450449919027095,0.0,0.06808658373221371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676935825990443,0.09793724695500816,0.10469584955411884,0.05692529220586842,0.05996169106457455,0.07448026301526398,0.22685807337327274,0.12980570098648025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07595405437319043,0.0,0.0,0.1866995874486412,0.0,0.044218063779647994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07834172133427206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06037489136599707,0.0,0.07271378814476179,0.0,0.06278167401415513,0.0,0.18965766969238632,0.0,0.0,0.09253101849372952,0.0,0.0,0.08388140320436864
divorce,saysomethingfunny40,2020/04/07,"How to Do It -Living Together While Finishing Paperwork/Mortgage Documents Help! We have been talking about divorce for 3 years. Finally after weeks of being home together I realized I can't do it any more. We have so many issues and zero hope to move forward. I thankfully had everything lined up, as I was prepping to go.  So as of two days ago, we have decided to move forward with the separation agreement and transfer of mortgage. 

This process is going to take weeks, add in COVID-19 and it could be longer until he can get into a house. He wants to buy and not rent. 

We are are in separate rooms, he stays upstairs all day, but he is walking around like a zombie, not speaking to me or the kids. How on earth can I get through this for several more weeks, if not months? I have had friends do it for a year +. My state requires us to be physically separated before the clock starts. So we are basically wasting time. I need some coping strategies, words of wisdom, and advice on if I try to engage him, or just ignore him? We have two small kids at home too. This is not going to be fun.",2.7159813084112154,4.898481766355144,4.0773925233644865,84.88758411214954,77.13084112149531,7.270654205607477,27.522429906542047,8.238735603445708,1.9908157009345795,854,36,167,16,20,281,134,214,0.03,0.8440000000000001,0.125,0.9648,3,0,0,0,1,0,30.0,7,0,0,1,9,9,0,0,6,0,26,0,0,2,1,38,37,19,0,6,10,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,4,2,7,15,0,2,2,0,2,8,5,1,0,3,4,1,19,8,32,28,4,37,0,0,0,0,20,12,0,6,20,119,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14239844271049773,0.12917429660212598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990963681867288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12972401310343318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239992035597632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163476422376178,0.0,0.0,0.1879580493069703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13096608079007646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159631990503161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11258492285351143,0.0,0.15226809287677912,0.0,0.24845254316312235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09767479018014667,0.0,0.2923433078696589,0.1447354267162316,0.0,0.16814432064701254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520965393082966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07119270388719695,0.0,0.1286757296466524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477398490235801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11631439273774455,0.3097601340755949,0.0,0.10805146488577366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16462506493707738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10314320958442537,0.15532090752183544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10956526327685752,0.11712630972423622,0.0,0.13416179589025612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497202262757507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09893608305807636,0.0,0.28469962079402683,0.0,0.1752863510140315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08595096775092335,0.0,0.3506696507369438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876811593517827
divorce,shockingdelirium,2020/04/07,"Mom is thinking about divorcing alcoholic and abusive husband Hi, if this is not the appropriate sub for this, let me know.

My mom (65F) is thinking about finally divorcing my alcoholic and abusive dad (64M). I (19F) want to help her plan and make steps so that it can go as smooth as possible. I am afraid he will get physical once she starts divorcing him. He probably won't leave without trying to drag us down and taking everything. 

I know that if we were to say that he is emotionally abusive and an alcoholic, we would need evidence proving so. I just want to know how I am supposed to do that. I have a few journal entries throughout the years talking about his abusive behavior, but some are not time-stamped. Do I need to take pictures of his alcohol use? Or pictures of the beer cans in the trash? Also, if he is emotionally abusive, how do I gather evidence for that? What can I start doing now?

 Thank you.",4.097134740259737,5.866190028409092,5.202629870129872,80.15340909090912,72.01136363636364,9.119480519480518,33.02597402597402,9.606745405546679,3.332056493506493,719,36,136,18,14,237,110,176,0.096,0.8490000000000001,0.055,-0.9072,0,0,5,0,0,0,26.0,3,1,0,1,10,2,0,1,6,0,21,5,0,4,1,32,39,17,0,8,9,4,1,0,0,3,4,1,0,0,9,7,5,0,6,1,0,2,4,1,0,0,1,2,21,1,18,34,2,9,0,0,0,0,25,2,0,5,5,96,30,0,0.0,0.6143912189717683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4433336593082946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08293607508440234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333174033438935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09320699038592756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11360817483699187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05418368856741747,0.0,0.058940232621715286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06951397777460443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17098731459041078,0.0,0.0,0.10981289003976223,0.0,0.1060495112910304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06922658389257455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24292552870682102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15379786564639727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11044673393462257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169163505365898,0.0,0.0,0.11181587680415817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08247358448707036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468115726776439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15595256999782622,0.08335739115462071,0.0,0.09548134252979333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13290511969687924,0.0,0.0,0.06047357031944809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07041162480227617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12474919563285207,0.08957130511614561,0.0,0.0,0.12234054766688122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09997180557639274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07367192047598997,0.0,0.0,0.06678521610248431
divorce,Happy-External,2020/04/07,"Can she really do this? So, my wife and I have recently decided to get a divorce. We are very much best friends and love each other very much but agree that we are better off best friends rather than husband wife. That being said...... Can she get to stay in our home that I support, have me pay all the bills and get alimony AND child support? She owns a salon and chooses to only work 2-3 days a week but has great earning potential.",4.010344827586207,4.867084000000002,4.7132758620689685,87.09681034482759,71.06896551724137,8.098850574712644,28.29310344827586,8.344100000000001,1.7818137931034488,336,12,71,5,6,108,61,87,0.013999999999999999,0.634,0.35200000000000004,0.9908,0,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,3,0,0,5,2,9,0,0,4,0,9,1,0,0,1,14,16,8,0,1,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,5,8,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,10,9,6,14,7,6,0,0,0,1,15,2,0,0,3,50,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3917984364873391,0.16509492568165932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12038705738008695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884423969640701,0.0,0.292582962558445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20580493268600786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18724577483622512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684774531814101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744486554173938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14197135966460608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195859298319481,0.0,0.18431464113152976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17756643353758314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19896596155475169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4236630401493491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30804549542687115,0.0,0.0,0.14973584981819293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13589837855502065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Swayne-SW,2020/04/07,"Divorce and Social Media - Best Practices? Hello everyone, hope everyone is doing well.

I [26M] have been married to my spouse [28F] for just under 3 years, and have now been separated for just over 3 months. We are filing a joint petition with an attorney, and are in the final stages of paperwork and getting things finalized. The short story is essentially this - my wife discovered a strong new desire to no longer be exclusively monogamous and believed she was polyamorous. Despite telling her I didn't want that, and that I certainly wasn't ready for that to become a reality in our relationship, she pressed forward and began a relationship with an ex-bf without my consent. We tried to work things out, but it was clear she was moving in a direction I wasn't comfortable with, and she felt as though she would become extremely unhappy staying in the kind of marriage we had agreed on at our wedding. It was an incredibly painful reality, and I did what I could to make things work, but it became clear to me that we needed to end our marriage. We don't own a home or have any kids, so that thankfully makes things much less complicated.

Fast forward 3 months (to now), and something that has been on my mind is social media... I have already talked to my closest friends and family about the full situation, but due to my work and social circles, there are a lot of people on my Facebook that currently have absolutely no clue what has been going on. Not to mention that my STBX has been VERY private with who she has communicated with, including members of her own family, and even some of her bridesmaids. Since things each day are getting closer to becoming final, I feel like I need to begin forming some kind of plan on how to let ""the world"" know. So... there are a few questions I thought I would ask here.

1) How did you approach social media in your own divorces?

2) How did you deal with pictures of you and your ex, or romantic/intimate posts for anniversaries or birthdays?

3) Before posting anything publicly, did you message people who you weren't super close with but played a major role in your life or your marriage at one point in time?

4) When changing your status from ""Married to ________ "" to ""Single"" or even just removing that section entirely, does that trigger a notification or status update on your profile?


TL;DR

How do you move forward with announcing divorce and dealing with divorce fallout on social media platforms? What has worked for you?

Thanks for your time!",7.392922529516415,7.848734685589522,7.282760795730232,73.06169739608605,63.49781659388646,10.103962477761604,36.1769367620896,9.906371001090498,3.6454868833899408,1978,88,338,38,27,631,235,458,0.052000000000000005,0.86,0.087,0.9466,1,0,1,0,4,0,66.0,8,14,0,8,20,15,0,0,18,0,44,2,0,7,3,74,62,34,0,8,15,3,3,1,1,2,2,0,1,1,24,32,0,0,5,1,0,8,9,1,1,1,21,3,51,14,61,36,16,60,0,0,0,0,64,31,0,11,24,261,75,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09072852509907957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05591039237071957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06765760142488639,0.0,0.07686181443310877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724067145982243,0.06996062773581595,0.09263042611333218,0.08628168922174083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08697470468389253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06564359973975803,0.0,0.0,0.053023175714098106,0.16952427323413444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07194866751788886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07281987567185615,0.0,0.0,0.1086071314963992,0.0,0.0,0.15712377028122676,0.0,0.0,0.15501377707400635,0.0,0.04157139523246407,0.05873585491585174,0.07894123174421948,0.270194177261866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06352066505510959,0.0,0.08590999825785764,0.0,0.04672582668074555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824703737837673,0.08166005117765521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17123274711933625,0.04518432356969285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08407247246487448,0.0580723120790371,0.04016708261967061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06989796958165444,0.0,0.0,0.10976099743022676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08301575191431942,0.0,0.1312496805952611,0.17476735983239175,0.060438969094286886,0.12192575587858295,0.0,0.07940570943168679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05571237997619578,0.0,0.0874847051174111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11399785799521862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07772165799558413,0.0,0.15748235494467552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09210187770830117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1765406194353525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06801076785662896,0.09241537429423748,0.0,0.4190494860027712,0.0,0.0632946781097268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08763240310238793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06608292567571084,0.07186129860790709,0.15138877007581733,0.0,0.0,0.273106671280191,0.0,0.08077780388638278,0.06527112948311556,0.09588281008824344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0558199591429623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06783765127004883,0.04849372807025595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392297409216574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07925427254935348,0.0,0.2394198765946671,0.0,0.0,0.1168092229799074,0.0,0.0,0.05294506474837191
divorce,Glassix407,2020/04/07,"Looking at old pictures...I don’t know why I’m being stupid for looking at our pictures together of happier times. I don’t want him back, it’s for the best that we split, we are HORRIBLY unhappy together....but.....damn we were happy once. Feeling nostalgic. I guess it will take time to completely forget him.",2.0234382566585936,4.7065372033898285,3.8971428571428617,82.13423728813561,83.74576271186443,8.11719128329298,28.767554479418894,8.841846274778883,3.0293418886198547,241,12,44,7,7,81,45,59,0.185,0.606,0.20800000000000002,0.1466,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,4,0,0,1,1,3,1,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,8,14,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,3,8,2,6,11,1,6,0,0,2,0,6,2,0,1,4,26,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20669338057960127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2820928003894472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818354664456489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359151797212078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29611747694047114,0.0,0.0,0.2861464367232988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14772743190876056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4514546578549636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.282064166620524,0.2862670673427894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20210685851641053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3134830883698873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15854733114353414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24255344447975935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,YouShallNotPaste,2020/04/07,"Just wanna put it into writing Hey guys. I want to talk about my divorce and how it is devastating me right now. I dont like to publicize my problems- hence why im reaching out to thousands of strangers under the veil of a burner account- but maybe just putting it to words will be helpful, if nothing else. I've been feeling really angry lately and feel quite a lot of guilt for it.

I'm 28 and have been married for a few years 3 years- but she is leaving. I was in the military and had a rushed  courthouse wedding with a girl i hadn't been with very long. I go married, like many others do, to get an extra housing stipend so that my girl could live with me at the time. We got together and i knew we weren't ""soulmates"" but over time I grew to deeply love her and more and more knew she would be who i would be with forever. We explored all over the southeast US and went through so much together. Life in the Navy was hard for me especially, but she was always there and was always my rock. I got out last August and she told me then she wanted to see other people.

I tried nursing us back to health for the past few months, and finally found success recently. We were back somewhat to our old ways and falling back into the groove but then I saw a text from a guy she had slept with during our separation. Upon further inspection, she has been lying to me for several weeks and while saying she wanted to make things work with me, she was deeply and intimately involved  with him via text (he lives in LA).

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 I felt so betrayed and still do.  Like many of you maybe felt, I just feel like my chest is full of mold, and digging into memories pains me- which leads me to tremendous anger, I text her every couple days to tell her something passive aggressive about what she did by disguising it in logistics- like needing to pick up a box or see my cat or something. I say something mean and and block her then i unblock her and apologize and i feel like every time I unblock her i take another shot in the chest. 

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I went out this weekend and camped and cleared my mind. I discovered i would approach the situation with love. I try to be a believer in a God that says love is always the answer, and today when i went to talk to her about this I resumed spewing venom. Guys I'm trying everything I can to feel normal as I live in a room of a house with black walls and boxes everywhere- but I fucking cant. I feel like a really shitty and rude Dr. Banner where I just turn into an asshole and cant control anything I say or do around this person who has gouged my heart with a rusty knife. 

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I'm hurt. 

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Thanks for listening, and if you didnt listen Im just glad to have written it.",3.740734387563656,5.087624142857148,4.5373581702850005,86.25113776467434,72.22344322344323,7.451371392834807,27.41963727329581,7.933642134475585,1.5972556597873666,2146,77,436,29,41,691,271,546,0.129,0.7829999999999999,0.08800000000000001,-0.9734,0,0,3,0,1,0,63.0,8,2,0,5,21,21,4,1,26,0,40,12,4,5,2,103,82,48,0,13,16,0,9,7,0,4,4,6,1,6,18,49,0,2,14,2,2,12,6,8,0,1,30,19,75,13,70,43,10,68,1,1,4,4,58,27,1,7,35,299,93,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15469524277176966,0.2685834841049464,0.30120762063500656,0.0,0.06498230500846787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05099709456572382,0.0551675902293173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429562991991108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06982042668789196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06950607561103607,0.04947903551206309,0.06857005796393191,0.0,0.03996635779453207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07262989488772101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05176906405290648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044269757855837,0.0,0.05569580300607728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18800728928465205,0.1328169141881764,0.1190043210403816,0.06788652331120021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0679483250714866,0.0,0.0572914625987309,0.032377443280790175,0.0,0.03521971444029215,0.0,0.09912820980045864,0.0,0.0,0.18408397215856706,0.0,0.0,0.05551410691268721,0.0,0.0,0.06587258748470873,0.0,0.07343628162640413,0.04153805198808076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14301310542166426,0.06634155181793286,0.0,0.133879263432831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05051487570955185,0.06990631877473595,0.06561865226909029,0.0,0.0,0.043772157575416935,0.21193230728717288,0.0,0.16416536358487965,0.054842644959757145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05268577794122863,0.1677945367391344,0.0,0.04136631987901456,0.1256583304276202,0.12451698841837396,0.06750490654123657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06257334078742544,0.0,0.049464895533346334,0.0,0.045556031509306254,0.04595092917564135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06071871024957558,0.05946312785164961,0.0,0.06502844823199748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06594182598802598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05915861220528236,0.04296309226189718,0.054110943470643866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05929815883586378,0.0,0.12459653386862865,0.0,0.06591409923733903,0.0,0.0,0.07940079544873067,0.0,0.06118917643261506,0.0,0.0,0.052923146367011384,0.0,0.19712824095178424,0.0,0.0,0.09876619554171304,0.0,0.0,0.0700099226554307,0.0,0.0,0.06965833081508631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14312558901392686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04949035534311226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046594700574098834,0.0996203571776143,0.05416564234532808,0.05705484129759069,0.0,0.0,0.04117097398809934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10840787946183908,0.0,0.05874154048380749,0.05921622702255176,0.0,0.12622332192320704,0.06740697223501277,0.0,0.0,0.1490876724238258,0.0,0.0,0.05113280760885448,0.10965682425154748,0.04918992855461589,0.049709633898669316,0.0,0.0,0.17234403086813688,0.05591945370737147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045115840018240295,0.0,0.0,0.1320678873844306,0.0,0.30120762063500656,0.07981496289840212
divorce,laurinaamber87,2020/04/07,I had an affair and I regret it I had an affair with my ex. I have been with my wife for 7 years. I told her about the affair. And she is leaving me. I just wish she would give me another chance. I don’t want to lose her. I feel like the affair was a cry for help. I needed some attention and physical affection. We hadn’t been intimate in over two years. She is married to her career and I felt so alone and on the back burner. I tried to express that a few times. I tried to spark things up a few times. And then I found the attention I needed elsewhere. But the guilt ate me up so I told her. And she is done. Just like that. I am heart broken and it’s frustrating because I KNOW I would give her a second chance if she ever needed one. How can you give up on a marriage without a second thought? I have been begging and pleading. I have told her I will do whatever it takes to fix it. But she won’t. Was she already out of love with me... to give up so easily? I am so scared. And so ashamed. I feel so alone.,-1.1172171253822647,0.9497766055045886,1.3173944954128451,98.560250764526,94.87155963302752,4.558042813455657,16.44097859327217,6.2581,-0.4462518654434251,772,20,185,9,30,260,105,218,0.131,0.74,0.129,-0.3741,0,2,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,1,0,1,12,9,1,3,13,0,24,3,1,2,1,41,45,21,0,9,6,2,3,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,15,1,0,8,0,0,0,4,6,0,4,16,3,44,3,23,25,3,16,0,2,0,1,32,9,0,2,9,143,51,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630238965791164,0.14012448312963935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13314855214471133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976390124247279,0.0,0.07740521932459067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394804681264386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12994360232956148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11485977444457665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12840879455641185,0.09071382238687696,0.1219197521804314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13922591854425112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4872393058667306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504707254101376,0.08511134654894112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06978433716244575,0.0,0.0,0.13445242581312136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12407105008618648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14205702011402274,0.0,0.0,0.1146035043524386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28245995684410746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08604425608772187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12712812984620375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954724046530692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08435920480488737,0.0,0.0,0.10080714165827566,0.14808495112160472,0.0,0.0,0.3640016258501999,0.0,0.1724208106476654,0.0,0.12404003143012513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07489550362968299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14601958245404315,0.12240322395482632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804044756261597,0.0,0.0,0.16354062460574853
divorce,_duhhh,2020/04/07,"Finally divorcing after a year of talking about it. Please help me feel better. This will be my(f27) second divorce as well as his(26). He came to me a year ago wanting a divorce but we decided to separate and work on our marriage. We reconciled but in October things started getting bad again when he let his friend move in with us. He had his friend spying on me while he was at work and would call me to yell at me for doing something or not doing something(not doing the dishes early enough or walking the dogs every hour). He constantly told me how I was not worthy and that he didn’t need a wife, he needed a maid. There were multiple times where he choked me, punched me, held a gun to my head. I stayed because I cared about him, and I wanted to make it work. I realize I’m stupid. I went to visit family in December and asked him to deposit a check that was sent to me but he told me already had and gave me my portion of it ($10), when I told him it wasn’t for him he called me an ungrateful bitch and said he wanted a divorce because anyone was better to be with than me. 
I came back before Christmas and had to stay with my parents. I moved out most of my things, but we did keep in touch. We talked about working on ourselves and maybe coming back together in time. We talked almost daily, I would go over to the apartment to visit our dogs (one is mine but we decided not to split them up), he would borrow money from me. We were cordial up until the quarantine when he stopped working and decided my mental health was too toxic for him (I suffer from depression & anxiety). Recently he asked me to leave him alone for a while, if not for good. Tonight I got a text from him saying he does not see the point in holding off on the divorce any longer as we have tried too long to make it work and it hasn’t. 
I know with time I will get better and move on with my life. I won’t hurt anymore. For right now... I feel heart broken. I feel like I am unworthy of being loved. I’m scared of getting hurt again. I’m scared of how long I will be hurting over this. 
Note: I am in weekly therapy and I see a psychiatrist monthly for my depression and anxiety. I also get blood work done on a regular basis.",3.2007803921568616,4.450876113333333,4.38732026143791,87.18117647058823,73.42222222222222,7.5163398692810475,25.679738562091497,8.027739517013583,1.4037189542483652,1721,56,361,25,34,565,216,450,0.16899999999999998,0.759,0.07200000000000001,-0.9946,1,2,2,1,4,0,54.0,11,0,1,10,19,21,2,2,19,0,34,7,3,4,0,71,73,34,0,9,13,2,4,1,2,7,2,3,1,0,12,31,1,4,9,0,4,12,9,11,1,2,25,9,66,10,66,36,3,69,0,6,2,1,64,25,1,5,31,246,78,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06646254551984779,0.0,0.0750785886363664,0.07765351206812042,0.08273893272259072,0.05995904270906651,0.0,0.08123749790540168,0.0,0.05098689952033119,0.0,0.11471432857294415,0.0,0.07435699106720263,0.052425629261247934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401866609508404,0.0,0.0,0.11530529854137925,0.06260262447028722,0.0914105100127219,0.0,0.06379986520383339,0.0,0.0,0.19893306757693796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15311970511224535,0.17150732167033012,0.0764440011517695,0.0,0.0,0.06458600661706967,0.0,0.08102345079568014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12915508054944538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06561283736004486,0.07672745497965387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0774712356764616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06317131714125793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07068159908030404,0.0,0.11373180164342715,0.053563550636136256,0.0,0.08213358782915665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11585401673287535,0.0,0.15668945479478275,0.0,0.04261113057799351,0.06288711142595885,0.05996591907255454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07694798524982363,0.07969699560113586,0.0,0.08884805102125226,0.05025547155472365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07383719634322025,0.0,0.2407931386314679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06664296134657607,0.0,0.0,0.04120537288428283,0.0,0.0,0.0793897680496629,0.0,0.07666901490459344,0.052958439662781305,0.036629952298931234,0.0,0.0,0.13270448910563992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06766962792374337,0.0,0.10009539747313843,0.0,0.07532442748320345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07555913446561431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05984588904522487,0.2390659080727815,0.0,0.1111889221363683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05080632418119886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08325303405352194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08230217990110741,0.07087745584933001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0740306963973333,0.0,0.0,0.06402990871110192,0.07132025242746366,0.059624682860837025,0.15013002078676646,0.0,0.11949384944770905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0577209219272523,0.0,0.0,0.053069073665505416,0.1598309130825049,0.0,0.06268409045907995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18079090569224093,0.0,0.0,0.08574268075300953,0.0,0.09962271281921972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13115899378636434,0.0,0.0,0.21493107670748596,0.0,0.05090442988094133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09018804351736913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13267004946539868,0.0,0.06014198964138109,0.0,0.06741328566055978,0.06950438715329732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3820888063668267,0.0,0.0,0.15978442994017167,0.0,0.0,0.09656539981058712
divorce,PlutosFriend,2020/04/07,"Is there anyone out there? If I actually leave him, make the move, I don’t think there’s anyone else out there for me.  I’m afraid to be alone.  I don’t know which is better, suffering with him or being alone...",0.2043181818181808,2.351914431818184,2.055636363636367,95.99845454545458,86.5,5.3381818181818215,13.345454545454547,6.742157984588678,-0.7586399999999993,161,2,38,2,5,53,31,44,0.149,0.782,0.069,-0.34,0,2,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,1,1,0,6,0,0,1,0,8,10,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,6,1,5,8,0,3,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,2,0,25,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.2692336488227439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.571487874218683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3858242933662143,0.28268695477765965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24400664111112544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304748080685595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15162463569818635,0.0,0.0,0.29213288986604835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18416200503210087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29323264323795634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17678232801715665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,mcfeazy,2020/04/07,"What can I do to keep my kids? My (40) wife (35) of 15 years is, again, making threats that ""if I don't change"", she's going to physically separate from me. 

I try so hard to keep her happy. I've never cheated on her. I'm not an addict, I don't have any big vices. I've never laid a hand on her. I have a good job. I do not verbally attack her. She's never known financial insecurity. We have a house and she chooses to be stay at home, with our two kids (3 and 6). 

Her main complaint is that I lie to her and that it doesn't seem like I love her. I do apologize to her for the lying, in my mind it is rare, and primarily motivated by wanting to keep the peace and not set her off. It's true that I don't love her. I'm afraid of her temper and her silent treatment. 

But..  I would never ever say that to her. I tell her that I want to be closer to her and am willing to work in it. I choose to stay with her and keep working on things. She makes me miserable, but I would do anything for my kids. 

She seems determined to identify something wrong with me so that I can be at fault. 

And so, she's telling new that if I don't change, she's going to leave. My question for you good people is, can she decide to leave and take the kids if there's no legal cause? Like, as a Dad, do I have any rights?",1.3287086411821392,2.2812231060070687,3.4784082878252502,93.03565290716352,77.65724381625442,6.7002248634757455,20.990844844201728,7.1686216300943375,0.2511003533568905,981,23,245,11,22,337,133,283,0.11599999999999999,0.7759999999999999,0.107,-0.354,1,0,1,0,0,0,45.0,2,1,0,3,6,17,4,3,8,0,28,4,1,4,6,48,45,19,0,7,8,2,2,2,0,3,1,1,1,4,14,14,0,4,8,0,0,2,13,9,0,1,0,3,53,8,34,39,1,24,0,1,0,2,40,11,0,6,10,168,67,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12227937030262465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152555790649248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09230447543962024,0.0,0.0,0.12760697343631214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152271454477907,0.2373171476164569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10146212357143336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12749499924371796,0.1881619218954264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11940462264085715,0.10048024425137876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251336776801547,0.0,0.0,0.12942648781613456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11130915335860124,0.3987992898207178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23753883739189285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109598963399989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2024714914608725,0.0,0.14974564687715872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11325742078196607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34604263929708984,0.10833228198519547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07776297313148982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12565351608432473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09579061916410757,0.0,0.08920027224266266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042265573312121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08635219011605329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391117281584255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08433616525379638,0.0,0.1960790608214771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07451924839388782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07615451832817942,0.0,0.10957156286982483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13231885367990875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16331887070682147,0.0,0.0,0.15936145867719242,0.12263779235848304,0.0,0.07223233348200837
divorce,nicolebuda,2020/04/07,hello anyone there?,5.190000000000001,5.6959746666666735,5.246666666666666,62.79000000000002,135.66666666666666,1.2000000000000002,3.0,3.1291,-1.4634,16,0,1,0,1,5,3,3,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,leftcornerofmychair,2020/04/08,"Lockdown is making us see each other more. I miss him. After being divorced for several years and finally establishing healthy boundaries this lockdown is messing everything up.

We have a small child who is usually in school while I work but now he picks her up in the mornings so I can go to work. He’s working from home so he studies with her also and drops her off when I get back home.

In the past we screwed up by trying to reconcile and we ended up getting emotional and intimate. It hurt me a lot because it was clear he hadn’t changed and would never compromise with me or put me before his mother or career. 

We established healthy boundaries eventually but we are seeing each other way too much now. I miss him again despite knowing deep down that he hasn’t changed at all. The other day I let him come inside and we kissed. This virus and hearing about death all the time is stirring up weird feelings in me. 

I don’t know what to do.",3.8567207207207232,5.669244113513518,4.528108108108111,84.56531531531532,72.72972972972974,7.311711711711713,29.63063063063064,8.021203637495839,2.053511711711712,751,32,143,11,15,240,120,185,0.10300000000000001,0.825,0.07200000000000001,-0.7897,0,2,0,0,1,0,12.0,7,0,0,3,10,7,1,0,6,0,15,2,0,2,4,34,28,16,1,1,4,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,10,18,0,0,4,0,0,3,4,6,0,0,2,4,25,1,22,23,7,34,0,3,2,2,24,14,1,3,15,107,35,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12454361255460306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11975289946431128,0.0,0.09493643183800876,0.0,0.13252155694908416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32950028188485103,0.13415448648163694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004381182306039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751842744833053,0.1379376316821232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399672613659618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07874580602042708,0.0,0.0,0.17060335319141395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16273334152483532,0.0,0.08850948743410726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17552803091111813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3124357996691526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667207369594958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17117905035838968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592526440682634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13240286796052342,0.0,0.0,0.10395631616303727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11448534045488667,0.0,0.12011473711209192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486695314489106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15655969283161553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15761515807951249,0.24820602557790974,0.0,0.0,0.17593959712645146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09081207308151652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573587078711416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18733362377692592,0.0,0.17152339103356365,0.0,0.0,0.12361756568669367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.340137329785276,0.0,0.0,0.1106317981719974,0.0,0.0,0.10029015805460433
divorce,TonyaP70,2020/04/08,"Divorce Summons My soon to be ex husband filed for petition to divorce in November.  I got served papers outlining this.  I don’t have e a lawyer as he said he obtained one just to file paperwork.  I looked it over and everything seemed in order.  I didn’t see the part where it said I had to respond to the summons within 20 days with my answer.  I asked my husband about not hearing anything a couple weeks ago and he said his lawyer would be sending me something soon and we could possibly handle everything over the phone as I’m living in South Carolina now, he lives in Wisconsin. Nothing about me not responding to anything. 

I just need to know what to do next.  Or should I call the clerk of courts and explain my oversight. 

Thank you and any help would be appreciated.",3.7097625193598343,5.847477033557053,4.402147651006711,83.91563242127002,73.96644295302012,7.537635518843572,29.58234383066597,8.384062270229773,2.296335673722251,614,27,115,11,13,196,96,149,0.0,0.94,0.06,0.8176,0,0,1,0,2,0,11.0,1,1,0,1,8,1,0,0,6,0,12,0,0,0,0,21,26,8,0,5,5,3,0,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,4,7,0,0,4,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,6,6,17,1,22,13,1,18,0,0,2,0,24,9,0,2,7,77,21,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14556977471618832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11167419813066078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702756344999265,0.0,0.15352211153825251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16768542946600185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311150942161271,0.18170462534893814,0.0,0.10590733456047154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2951779630710182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13134052061599305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18508616272323009,0.0,0.11007218599974093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902501822785334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900158540642064,0.0,0.1379021642610955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12176592259390195,0.0,0.0,0.17464821718464288,0.0,0.0,0.15757206117637124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11127869249314434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17783261156507274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18513166264779551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.468628142242934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13086086763618268,0.14949833716496133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12642340939005395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511903135297769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317261596678494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23331219398449785,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,mylifemyfault,2020/04/08,"Help me understand what an emotional affair is. We all have our buddies of the same sex we confide in and bond with.  We share things with them we dont share with our spouses.  Why is it considered an emotional affair if I do the same thing with someone of the opposite sex?  If I dont have physical contact with either the Male or female friend, why is one ok and the other grounds for divorce?  Unless the friendship leads to sexual tension or inappropriate behaviors, I don't see a problem.  Help me understand what i am missing.

Edit:  I am exempt from stay at home orders.  I will do what I can when I'm not dodging this virus.",3.1157871396895764,5.215994089430894,4.600177383592018,81.9976496674058,75.58536585365854,7.724759793052478,28.2549889135255,8.575989854853784,2.3097219512195126,495,21,93,10,11,165,78,123,0.035,0.757,0.20800000000000002,0.9525,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,6,0,1,1,1,7,0,1,9,1,14,2,0,1,1,25,19,8,0,3,7,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,8,11,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,3,0,1,0,1,16,4,13,18,4,7,0,1,1,2,18,3,0,4,1,73,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4496297862692557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4315496630139704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14820181954600387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571495589566042,0.0,0.1924139088088816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12998409378345135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835485134925989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15285793632463218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16253083606448054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044575821064718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25487708970780604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3993885998664317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3461804819848323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ThrowRA212222,2020/04/08,Divorce This is probably a dumb question but I don’t know where to begin. Spouse and I have to decided to an amicable divorce. We have 2 older kids. I want to move out of the family home and we will share custody 50/50. We want to just live separately for awhile before we do any legal paperwork. Im looking at rental places in my (expensive) area and most want proof of income that is 3x the monthly rent. I have significant savings and Spouse will give me child support but it’s not legal yet. How do I get a house/apartment right now without being able to prove I can afford it? Will I need my spouse to co-sign on a lease? I hate that idea as I want to just start out on my own but I need his money to do it,0.7702097315436269,2.9234968389261735,2.85127097315436,91.20697357382551,83.96644295302012,5.8726510067114095,20.72189597315436,7.1686216300943375,0.5233251677852344,555,17,122,8,16,187,95,149,0.05,0.8240000000000001,0.126,0.7193,4,0,0,0,2,0,14.0,4,0,0,0,6,5,2,0,6,0,14,0,0,1,2,32,28,9,0,6,7,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,6,10,0,0,5,0,3,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,19,3,20,24,2,17,0,0,1,0,15,10,1,2,6,81,25,2,0.19257176492665184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309554037173206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16386438837190084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18153952152466327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10061079906768737,0.18473238424699534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901247496094343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19316518156341075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21739008268640156,0.2080105516015565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10583240581695487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700443965085176,0.0,0.1617117821000571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537089455226496,0.20467331021134946,0.0,0.28557904725027794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011965075375016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20762493309629326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.215724448836642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16445523505311327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13630328637651873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185281567601043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.45433526526450296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856323094498356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Jellybelly3345,2020/04/08,"Financially Abusive Husband Files Domestic Abuse On Me I posted on this form months ago but ai had to delete everything because my husband went through all my social media and screenshot a lot of private conversations. He also took away my phone and computer access, and stopped giving me, a SAHM money for food or house supplies, even for our baby.

I'm living with parents now, but as we were doing Friend of the Court the interviewer let it slip that he also filled out the domestic violence screening.

It just fills me with absolute rage that he thinks he's been abused. He's began telling people that everything he's done to me, I've been doing to him, and that I'm a horrible cheating wife who is taking all of him money. 

Not only has he taken all of the material possessions we got during our marriage but he's trying to get full custody of our child, a child he won't feed, hold, or see unless he has to. I'm just terrified that the courts will believe him over me, and that they'll take my baby.

Not really looking for advice, just wanted to kind of get it out there. Get it off my chest. It's so frustrating! I don't even feel like I can trust my own memories anymore. Every issue I bring up to him about stuff he's done he claims hasn't happened and that I'm making it up. If I didn't start keeping a diary I don't know if I'd still have the emotional strength to get through this divorce.",5.031178331356267,5.593157291814947,5.909721233689207,80.49790727560304,68.60854092526691,8.806722024515619,29.845986555950972,8.841846274778883,2.2957115856069588,1113,40,217,18,18,367,161,281,0.153,0.787,0.06,-0.9845,1,0,0,0,4,0,24.0,5,0,1,1,12,8,3,0,11,0,21,3,1,1,3,37,48,18,0,3,13,4,1,1,1,3,0,0,0,2,17,12,2,3,3,0,2,5,7,3,0,0,12,4,27,5,33,32,7,23,0,0,3,0,38,10,0,5,8,141,44,2,0.0,0.4406546617209807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12114263394054328,0.1098924554927376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982784854463797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12294552168463445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11647445802651835,0.0,0.0,0.0755713261098436,0.0,0.0,0.13967241173863199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537299275997381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13945023717432245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16376282205111764,0.0,0.10445057593062224,0.0,0.2228335602803643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06268325943307326,0.08856462024249112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499057396305365,0.0,0.0957793767744749,0.0,0.2590780837919435,0.1189238942750817,0.0,0.0,0.09915061244221957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10962679071502854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14304542590212413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12939309612049635,0.0,0.1101907639317817,0.0,0.12909630108754686,0.0681309987501977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12676833609328125,0.0,0.060565772364365826,0.0,0.10946830960299228,0.0,0.10410407983360953,0.0,0.0,0.10539536949941834,0.0,0.0,0.08275133705614603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989521488664876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942852263857357,0.0,0.0,0.13765467855319935,0.0,0.0,0.08594560355227923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11872956459517067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07941873976124827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09878851636947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263724130475895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08774702759595301,0.0,0.09900307999368207,0.10364497126911963,0.0,0.0,0.14191667542218805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18642092327838505,0.0,0.1083557671963658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07943535371896036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13773589625345048,0.08416789864607246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07312107088315753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11492198669268212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,MrsJessicaC,2020/04/08,"Early years of infidelity still haunt me 15 years later...divorce on the table Right now, husband & I are ok. But I know something that he doesn’t realize I know. He’s talking with an old female friend (Lisa)from when we first started dating. A brief but not thorough scan of messages proved neither emotional or sexual. I don’t like her and said it awhile back because she knew of his flirtatious and disloyal ways and was in our wedding. She also knew He was secretly talking an ex he grew up with and planned to marry before she moved. 

Background stuff—He remained talking to the ex for the first 3 yrs of our marriage. In between all this, he was cheating, from chatting online, sexually, to u name it. He even lost his job over it which was one of the last things I know of. I already had our daughter(13yo). I cheated emotionally after that, he was convinced sexually. I know I should have ended it early on. We made it throughout it all and had a second child (7yo). 

PRESENT DAY: He works and I am at home. I left a great paying job 2 yrs ago and he supported me getting my degree. I like to think all our foolishness is gone. We’ve had conversations that seem like it. However from time to time I get this feeling maybe not completely on his end. And I have beat myself up for not leaving his first cheat (otherwise I wouldn’t have to think of these things) however in between has been pretty good. Recently I found out about his old female friend I talked about in the beginning but what I did was bring up an old family female friend (Mary) he talks to on IG. He showed me her messages not knowing I know about Lisa. So I ask him “are we ok talking with old friends online now because we didn’t discuss it”...His answer was that he thought we were trusting each other and he is ok with it. I told him im not but if he is we can try it but I’m not comfortable. Still nothing about Lisa. Why not talk about it then? 

SO: I am uncomfortable with their friendship & that he didn’t bring her up (prolly because he senses I won’t like it). In the past, I find out and then he says something. That behavior is iffy. I can’t tolerate anymore infidelity and will leave at the drop of a hat should something happen with anyone. Is this enough to blow up things while we’re in a really good place? I still want to tell him we shouldn’t be talking to opposite sex in solo interactions. Have all the guy friends you want. 

Before I stayed through it all because I was hopeful and I cherish family but I’m wiser and well spent at this point. My family is pro-marriage and I feel a little biased.",2.357568093385215,4.6002325466926095,3.525036575875486,88.09963268482491,78.59143968871595,6.524451361867706,25.065992217898827,7.627320914984058,1.3265786459143971,2035,76,409,31,50,658,246,514,0.07,0.764,0.16699999999999998,0.9945,5,0,3,0,1,0,66.0,11,1,1,7,17,26,3,0,17,3,42,1,0,1,6,79,77,29,0,8,15,3,2,4,5,6,0,2,1,2,29,30,0,0,20,2,2,6,16,4,1,5,26,5,63,22,59,44,8,71,0,1,1,1,77,27,0,4,39,267,92,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062261146377731585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07750862927511755,0.05616875949572266,0.0,0.15220421393394926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0696565481931512,0.04911156730228591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06566241293796968,0.0,0.0,0.05400816365413637,0.0,0.17126407361769105,0.0,0.1195335723380976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07364249378791511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04529726086614341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158015062821008,0.12441883610796865,0.07257392726668113,0.0,0.04639108749202928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986404832434573,0.0,0.07102819886036339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06419563810111266,0.1792314857499876,0.0,0.07701159615304587,0.2713258963313266,0.0,0.07339220161159478,0.0,0.0,0.11782346340000092,0.0,0.07743689335294929,0.0,0.06954598957962682,0.062110630188624824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07045375884602847,0.06976150693956576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07586835847616025,0.0,0.1393994047756484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23160356552379194,0.057252790319297885,0.0,0.14874236100265273,0.07631305378369617,0.0,0.0,0.13725762707731493,0.07039624673096732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07667233190166373,0.0,0.0,0.0664602505315342,0.0,0.0,0.07056282856259308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0746511556748394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06739460293230723,0.0,0.2948090089598598,0.0,0.047594625845551734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06704946953931122,0.0,0.0,0.07338305023701706,0.0,0.06639697018824701,0.0,0.0,0.07145660529855434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04499582577565417,0.0,0.06935088009025044,0.0,0.0,0.059982287582172014,0.06681177558504761,0.05585553605098963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06394141827589174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622163614586682,0.0,0.0,0.04971433666548227,0.07486363783752895,0.16827484364675802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08040492736542597,0.0,0.07970447848226404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4516327787337331,0.06139051358926255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13998766350737782,0.09001047730323804,0.0,0.05576058656249802,0.08191189234995687,0.0,0.0,0.0671147692951965,0.0,0.04768652983876144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285558234438803,0.05575111540512295,0.0,0.0,0.06315178591922158,0.0,0.06337825666019492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05113360554413638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09046106262715574
divorce,OppositeSock6,2020/04/08,"Can’t stand the moments when I see my Ex. We’ve been together for 17 years andwithin the last year things between us became rough. I’m very emotional and was trying to get just a bit of his attention, but he remained cold and distant. 3 months ago he told me that he didn’t love me anymore.  
Long story short, he had moved out and now is interested in our kid and nothing else. And it hurts me fucking much each time I see him. Fellows, how you stand visits of your Ex, especially if you have children? I tried to approach him several times regarding the reconciliation options, but he replies that he is not interested in the relations with me anymore. The memories of him denying me are in my head each time I see him. How can I stop reacting in such manner each time I see him?",4.379415584415587,5.567042006493509,5.501168831168833,80.55746753246754,70.49350649350649,8.976623376623376,31.532467532467532,9.339509955726095,2.7614493506493507,615,27,123,13,11,204,103,154,0.063,0.845,0.092,0.6865,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,3,0,0,6,5,1,0,6,0,10,3,1,3,0,21,19,11,0,1,5,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,10,0,1,1,0,0,3,3,2,0,0,5,6,24,3,13,14,5,25,0,1,4,2,25,6,1,2,14,76,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13801490450475354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30881673102141777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16997945419707852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13006383601893895,0.1751367833258696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14393822899929667,0.0813446128614868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597887765661359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16667554020430705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12691283164960687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377858555372177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14052150971224248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12427487687952317,0.16547996175858126,0.11445430432824998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14939428887812672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4962774775307384,0.0,0.0,0.17589190120664952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13016863394276249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10343735023016154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3631498184083015,0.0,0.0,0.14877397886217003,0.0,0.2114144131536156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18728283902101084,0.0,0.0,0.1284653146757561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20052594027325565
divorce,motsanciens,2020/04/08,"If owed child support arrears, will I get anything extra from the coronavirus relief bill? Normally, a tax return paid to someone who owed child support would get garnished to pay back child support. Is it the same with the covid19 checks?",7.213571428571428,9.10513416666667,5.603333333333335,79.82500000000002,64.47619047619048,7.504761904761906,37.80952380952381,7.793537801064563,3.1396095238095243,193,10,30,2,3,56,33,42,0.028999999999999998,0.73,0.24100000000000002,0.8796,2,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,11,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,4,8,2,2,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,18,3,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048819318835864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19144334269928948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601541591852992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24393873343863104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109523333191309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8475880731549131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17686186593913994,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,trapezoidhead,2020/04/08,"Why are you contacting me asking stupid questions? We’ve been divorced for 8 months, I haven’t heard from you in 6 months. Why are you texting me out of the blue at 10pm on a weeknight asking questions about filing taxes and the stimulus check? Out of all the people in the world to reach out to. You always told me you were smarter than me because you’re 5 years older and have an MBA, but you’re reaching out to your ex wife about questions a google search could answer. Leave me alone, you got what you wanted.",5.764692556634308,5.709639466019418,5.310825242718448,87.56228964401299,66.96116504854369,7.64336569579288,27.846278317152105,6.42735559955562,1.08934433656958,407,11,84,2,6,124,70,103,0.065,0.8809999999999999,0.054000000000000006,-0.2755,0,1,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,8,0,0,2,1,1,0,7,0,7,0,0,0,1,14,13,3,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,6,0,0,4,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,5,2,14,0,18,7,1,13,0,0,1,0,19,9,0,3,4,51,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19827050441575905,0.0,0.0,0.1592905234567707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35793461543247984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669792805523807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15284648691777955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15310927613731246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20270363744589573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3056056137627694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327179814924734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6433581568677398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18292580231714645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11291422168299355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34548337335513885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12327884483034672
divorce,Rockandrollracing,2020/04/08,"How bad is it going to suck and for how long? I think part of the reason I haven't pulled the trigger in asking fora  divorce is how overwhelming the transition is. 

It can't be worse than it is now. I'm so far done. 

She's on a walk right now. 

When she gets home i sending the kids to their rooms and telling her I want a divorce. 

I'm done.",-0.2889000000000017,1.58349896,1.7542500000000023,99.183375,86.06666666666666,4.816666666666666,18.708333333333336,5.985473137389443,-0.4149666666666669,262,7,65,2,8,87,51,75,0.091,0.8540000000000001,0.055,-0.5493,0,0,0,0,2,0,7.0,0,0,1,0,7,3,1,1,6,0,9,0,0,5,0,9,17,7,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,4,2,3,0,0,2,0,8,0,7,14,1,13,0,1,0,0,10,5,1,0,4,43,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528930882648434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22586701086099706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5536573283904892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14133184945279073,0.0,0.15373874137859875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713465414569883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23939544496535325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2929391595925769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781323627056215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310165781171563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364402384423477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17333377318095486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595555445003893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756758028885204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,MiniJunkie,2020/04/08,Kids - living arrangements For those of you (probably the dads?) who can’t afford two full-sized homes...how do you manage having your kids visit if you are forced to live in an apartment or small condo etc? Especially if you have three or more kids?,4.0867021276595725,6.2013593191489385,4.30739361702128,85.10875000000001,72.82978723404256,7.253191489361702,20.26063829787234,8.07648339933343,0.8542808510638298,196,4,37,3,4,61,40,47,0.076,0.924,0.0,-0.5484,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,4,5,4,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,5,0,4,5,2,4,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,4,0,26,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4381377053065789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6937971701182052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4235646513085024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3837627184687985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,burnerthrowaway32,2020/04/08,My mother has physically and mentally abused me my entire life and the divorce is coming up within the next year or two. All she does is walk around with a sinister laugh saying “I’m getting half of everything you have for the rest of your life” to my farther. Can I stop her? I can explain more about this if someone can help me what to do. I’m at the point where I don’t see my mother as a mother this week she said I probably have a small penis like my father and that crossed the line that’s been crossed my whole life. This weeks fight started because I asked her nicely to apologize to my brother who is her son that she hasn’t talked to in 4 years. FML. Why does she get half of everything my dad has worked hard and long for and all she’s done is torture us on a day to day. My mother has a bipolar disorder and has medicine for it but takes it when she wants and I believe she has some sort of chemical imbalence that makes her not mentally stable. She’s never been stable only crazy. I have video of her wishing death on all of my family members. Can I get rid of my mother myself ? What should I do Im stuck in this house for atleast 2 more years because I’m under 21.,2.7923427471116824,4.0709990772357765,3.9936200256739416,89.49098202824133,74.4878048780488,7.130166880616175,24.73598630723149,7.669130373188453,1.0775642276422768,927,29,202,12,19,303,134,246,0.121,0.8320000000000001,0.047,-0.9522,0,0,0,0,3,0,13.0,1,2,0,1,4,5,2,0,10,0,24,4,0,1,4,26,41,12,1,4,4,9,1,1,0,1,4,2,0,0,13,10,0,1,1,1,0,4,4,2,0,3,5,4,39,3,29,35,8,30,0,0,1,0,35,13,0,4,14,140,52,1,0.0,0.15744473110842508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182941219458885,0.12422775019578446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16200859519882285,0.0,0.0,0.14971373653624362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11446701478940548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17139719835603534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522955322968773,0.0,0.2325737731083728,0.1359855359378769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23885350385211565,0.0,0.1252703498953544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082777881633028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11903714672961488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08906873341481257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15332924333189527,0.0,0.0,0.1435365388330197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815777664678193,0.06491996503819787,0.0,0.0,0.1175973520637293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08870049367536667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26782979829145426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10248763011975276,0.0,0.14132267253988992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10106357702757296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256174705930254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432704449011048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12640224743731052,0.10567396580672356,0.0,0.0,0.10589061739852848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11259140997832175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09405533424826988,0.0,0.0,0.11109621240684604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09991154532639837,0.1068063933124192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298074691587903,0.0,0.15984199444840402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07837788869812393,0.0,0.2131815970156226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11990631906361457,0.1483592231955831,0.1528089942210322,0.0,0.0,0.09674047132790556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567170574688066
divorce,Playfulnonsense,2020/04/08,"Womans preferance for well endowed and taller men causing more divorces, some studies and observations. Look at this study from the UK, there is a surge in Global popularity for Cuckold porn and in this UK specific study for Giantess (Someone who prefers endowment).

See the study link below in this reputed newspaper.

 [https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/porn-cuckold-giantess-popularity-uk-surges-study-pornhub-a7511866.html](https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/porn-cuckold-giantess-popularity-uk-surges-study-pornhub-a7511866.html) 

 [https://www.livescience.com/23785-penis-size-matters-orgasms.html](https://www.livescience.com/23785-penis-size-matters-orgasms.html) 

There have been many many studies that prove, the bigger the penis, the more orgasms in a woman and its also proven that penis size has a direct correlation with height. Havent you heard women say they prefer 6 Foot and taller?It doesnt make rational sense to anyone for women to have this preferance, except for the fact that height is a subconsious evaluation of endowment and of possibility for better orgasms and fullfillment.

How does this relate to divorce? in the ancient world the avg man or guys below 6 foot 2, were the providers who go out for agriculture and hunts. Meanwhile, the big guy comes from the cave does his mating ritual, assures survival of progeny and moves on. As social groups formed and civilisation progressed, marriages were instituted to ensure that this does not happen.However, Biology is biology and the womans biological clock is ticking and wants what i wants.

This is where cheating occurs. Where the woman want to feel fully satisfied and let the husband work and provide.But this doesnt explain divorces right?actually it [does.In](https://does.In) ancient times to medeival times, if a guy(the cuck provider left), then, the woman will find it difficult to survive, so cheating has continued till modern times. However, in the 21st century all sorts of social and financial protection is available for women, so even if she divorces the man, there is noo consequence. So, women make a call, fulfillment over commitement self over others.

and there is nothing wrong with [it.To](https://it.To) each his own.

Will be great to know your opinions.",10.821161473087821,13.55182117847026,8.268641359773376,60.92982889518418,56.76203966005666,10.407206798866856,37.916033994334285,10.53366545652748,4.614192611898017,1888,84,244,42,25,549,200,353,0.028999999999999998,0.897,0.07400000000000001,0.9167,3,0,0,0,4,0,130.0,0,2,1,5,13,9,2,0,23,0,22,5,4,4,5,50,35,27,0,9,5,1,1,0,1,2,0,2,0,15,19,21,0,1,10,0,0,3,4,4,1,0,4,5,7,5,40,27,7,36,1,0,2,3,37,23,0,6,10,152,26,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10437675885965346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09126258552889527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11543429139588005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133275464509254,0.0,0.0,0.13407994459433975,0.0,0.11243138205337798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3426566699767289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08620719766405671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06599480967038471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11929287201779265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07417749683992042,0.0,0.0,0.14389870840848806,0.0,0.3877058198816798,0.1154183629480528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07173035250301868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418103102887859,0.1334654944298145,0.1843802047703403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10960388781098768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355987059430155,0.0,0.17424616359719053,0.26465349183924713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872205376122868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12523741456749116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14714163546188133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11146332628712444,0.0,0.10379470491625847,0.0,0.0,0.10400750366824398,0.0,0.13616077580269345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660973096195619,0.1105891322010159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22832170175132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309521489217219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173531121147336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09502007990600887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427030786946638,0.0,0.0
divorce,queermelon,2020/04/08,"Child of divorced parents here. ~4 years ago my parents divorced and i stayed with my mum. The court decided that my father should pay X amount per month. It's been 4 years and he hasn't paid anything, not a dime. We contacted the court and apparently if he doesn't enter the country, the court can't do anything about it. How can this motherfucker go unpunished for 4 years? Am I supposed to fucking starve with this coronavirus thing going on? He wanted full custody but he doesn't give a shit whether I'm eating or not? Anything I can do?",3.6099266247379447,5.594764500000004,4.142955974842767,86.33715932914049,73.81132075471699,6.975262054507338,28.758909853249477,7.793537801064563,1.8006595387840676,431,18,84,6,9,136,73,106,0.076,0.885,0.039,-0.386,3,0,0,0,2,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,3,2,2,0,6,0,11,3,1,1,0,16,18,8,0,3,6,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,6,1,0,1,0,3,3,6,2,0,0,2,0,7,0,7,15,2,11,0,0,0,1,14,2,2,2,5,49,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18374208780198786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.511723770904835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121001968161489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916279318219612,0.0,0.19884280977860636,0.2356051226977316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16544970574820853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4603220106360785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127709538056688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22093395186246226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13770827691541607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222596962288863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4004464777533757
divorce,wydra91,2020/04/08,"Rough Week Hey,

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It's been a while since I've posted on here. Life's been pretty good, haven't heard from the Ex in a good while. That's fine by me. It's a bit of a bummer being alone in this quarantine. Don't get me wrong, I'm getting more and more comfortable in my own skin, making myself happy and all. I'll tell ya what though, I'm really, really wishing I had someone to hang out with right now. I have friends, and we spend time online playing games or otherwise chatting, but I know I would have been having a blast with my ex.... Well, I don't know that I guess, but my ""image"" of the relationship says I would have.

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I dunno, it's been rough at work (another thing I'm definately thankful for, I'm in IT for local city gov't, so I'm essential) so I've been worn there too.

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It's been 2 years in May. I've been spending the last 2 years working on myself, turning a critical, but gentle eye on myself. My friends and family all tell me that I've seem to come into my own, so I'm definitely happy for that.

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I know, believe me, I know that I have so many things that others don't. A support structure of friends and family, a good job. It's amazing how I had about a year of generally feeling really well, only to be reminded that I'm here stuck in my apartment, while my ex is in quarantine with their SO.

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Sorry for this weird rant. I don't know why I felt the need to post it.",2.5349747474747493,4.001277653198656,4.17497053872054,87.17134469696974,75.4983164983165,7.23956228956229,24.159511784511785,7.937092434478242,1.198712794612795,1121,35,239,17,24,376,144,297,0.076,0.72,0.204,0.9899,1,3,0,0,0,0,65.0,1,1,1,2,15,18,0,0,13,0,25,3,2,2,2,36,53,19,0,4,4,3,5,0,3,3,1,2,0,0,20,12,0,0,8,3,2,2,5,2,2,0,13,8,31,16,31,35,7,30,0,0,1,0,17,16,0,5,10,152,51,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07655159163002252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4004235995948072,0.44906201169439386,0.0,0.07750423989969879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08327465606540968,0.0,0.0,0.080693868116695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06366951695921562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13935722324589447,0.0,0.03737264077687751,0.0,0.07096808466406826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17131503408087,0.0,0.07723299846154283,0.0,0.0,0.1859841883950574,0.0,0.0,0.08142351808055419,0.0,0.0,0.15736355587623427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07334726154935751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031032978413987,0.060248971546737126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05220694774078038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0493375108693519,0.07493619521182572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05480556342190216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056214177886568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14157647216632094,0.0751961075687153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14205170848933607,0.0,0.0,0.07935491599200045,0.0,0.06312131020500457,0.0,0.0587785954797302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06728763207657512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06114160907643764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06262625700744885,0.0,0.0,0.08273956796023403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387561251502576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12920646437846547,0.0680491728754694,0.0,0.0,0.09820904458412484,0.0,0.0726191610964582,0.0,0.04309927292634063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0803961347067326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05928856156313043,0.0,0.13291335258083803,0.0,0.0666949988097753,0.0,0.08499631852002476,0.0,0.0,0.10761910915885407,0.0,0.0,0.10501136912636426,0.08081227788135331,0.44906201169439386,0.1427926732806081
divorce,iloveturtles2020,2020/04/08,Discord? Hey ya'll can we make a discord? Might be helpful since we are going through COVID together.,2.765000000000001,5.727312166666671,2.483333333333338,87.94500000000002,94.0,4.622222222222223,33.77777777777778,6.42735559955562,2.444311111111112,81,5,13,1,3,24,16,18,0.255,0.621,0.124,-0.4515,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,1,0,4,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,8,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3266281491165344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38522450435463146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38363185825231105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6096899512296449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4754165480427742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,swishyswisher,2020/04/08,"Considering divorce after today My husband has always been a bit selfish and has a hot headed. But lately he has been extremely controlling (eg what I eat, when I eat, i am allowed to run outside even with a mask, he won’t let me pick out groceries, etc, etc). This was before the shelter in place orders. 

Our anniversary and some birthdays passed recently and I realize he doesn’t care about the things that are important to me like celebrating birthdays and anniversaries, enjoying the special moments like babies first steps and measure his height, or keeping in touch with family or having friends. It is almost like he wants to take away/ruin anything that might make me happy. He is too busy on Facebook to talk to me at dinner and just looks at his computer all night. It’s like I am a single mother who has a higher income. He doesn’t have pictures of us on his phone or anything. He is completely apathetic. 

But what pisses me off more than anything is that he is not very interested in our son. The guy has never bathed our son, feed our son, walked him in a stroller, carried in an ergo, or put him down to bed or a nap. Not once!  He hasn’t changed a diaper in over 6months. And today he snapped at me because at 5pm while taking care of the baby and working full time from home, I had not made him dinner. He started screaming at me in front of our toddler. I don’t want my son exposed to that. Then he made himself dinner and locked himself in my son’s room and fell asleep. Meanwhile I’m taking care of the baby feeding him bathing him and taking care of the dog. Like he has zero responsibility for those things and doesn’t care about our son at all!

And I just can’t be with him anymore and honestly think my son and I would be better off without him entirely. 

I haven’t wanted to get a divorce before because (1) I’m older and really want another child (I know not the best environment) and think I cannot meet someone else in time (2) he is cut throat with those who cross him and I’m a softy. I’m scared he would try to take my son away or destroy me financially. (3) I do not want my son to have to be alone with him for extended periods. He cries so hard and pushes dad away.  My husband hasn’t put in the time and effort to get a great relationship with our son. (4) And finally I didn’t want to be a quitter or failure. 

I just think my son and I deserve happiness. 

Just reaching out to see if anyone could provide some advice.",3.6614284141575335,5.0099983706721005,4.84609786976386,83.95427038035999,72.42158859470467,7.589167171244565,27.934221390433198,8.098718942377014,1.7851130181097592,1924,72,385,28,37,635,238,491,0.071,0.7959999999999999,0.133,0.9834,2,1,0,0,2,0,53.0,8,0,0,6,11,26,3,1,22,0,43,11,4,6,3,78,76,36,0,10,20,15,3,5,1,4,0,1,5,2,15,30,7,2,5,3,0,10,18,6,0,2,7,6,54,20,59,59,11,60,0,0,2,0,64,30,1,12,24,253,69,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07790229203834759,0.0,0.0,0.07982891569666914,0.08256675812674519,0.0,0.0,0.06633413356612439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835942622920717,0.0,0.0,0.07906166164245806,0.05574267197417495,0.0,0.196810400863982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247010886846844,0.0,0.0,0.09719418052646374,0.0,0.1356731433906763,0.0,0.08366211376758513,0.07050661344472382,0.08703452076219975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4064035988354207,0.0,0.08433408877132234,0.0,0.08358579455046017,0.0,0.0894137121600161,0.0636506118398716,0.0,0.0875696104041007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16314866391648927,0.0665965406811869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17781964217613394,0.052654869608958176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07515372247626784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08733029453223934,0.0,0.06781051434794767,0.0,0.0,0.061592131011433474,0.0,0.08330170761435303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08789251864645146,0.0,0.07893617526794111,0.0,0.16972865461496042,0.07141422289598008,0.0,0.081816591642232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07996651266552016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07085955449800896,0.0,0.0,0.043812494320596834,0.0,0.08992859127984074,0.0,0.0,0.0815199704540113,0.0,0.19473790245359046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06694543585342265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15086759181999726,0.05321428646726939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08457122374756368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061485634211962285,0.0,0.0,0.07481261735642111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08490010352224976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08329132060984025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16028294674280769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051071217926752496,0.0,0.0787147218535466,0.08559035828472633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07981447833930666,0.0,0.06352719601611642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06754721756418024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05642682800368885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29970078936905953,0.06407659951774697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10592598086302893,0.1532457052226812,0.0,0.0,0.1394576063295902,0.0,0.15113208871257702,0.0,0.0,0.05412522418654432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09589436687024046,0.0,0.0,0.06577805035428679,0.28212853721963105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07684805462664111,0.0,0.05803772832497199,0.0,0.0,0.11326280917997845,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,galaxycat7,2020/04/08,"My husband wants a divorce and I don't Title pretty much explains it. I love my husband. Our marriage hasn't been perfect. He's cheated on me, and I still stayed. But now he wants to end it. I'm absolutely distraught and heartbroken. 

My mind knows that this is for the best, but my heart doesn't want to let him go. I'm so conflicted. I can't stop going back and forth with anger to immense sadness. I don't know what to do.",0.1853421859039841,2.47616737078652,2.0171399387129725,95.01149131767107,88.77528089887642,4.58467824310521,22.6976506639428,6.1124844417494595,0.34240674157303364,332,13,73,3,11,109,62,89,0.23,0.6859999999999999,0.085,-0.9099,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,1,0,0,2,4,7,2,1,2,0,9,2,1,0,1,17,20,7,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,2,3,0,0,2,5,4,0,0,1,0,12,3,7,18,2,9,0,1,0,1,10,1,0,0,5,47,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18964231919448404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588217036457965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184399082895544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28032965452701125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2922563085083805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27108147070083216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25219465160390264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2225921157279891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490247760991557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18130054115395494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25091014827616426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26287347953104445,0.19695807357089126,0.20619271519410187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4364041581183033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,jlella216,2020/04/08,"The good 'ol Gross vs Net issue Divorcing in Ohio, trying to understand how spousal support (child support + alimony) is figured out.  My attorneys say it is based on 40% of your Gross Income, but that doesn't make sense to me. I am in a 35% tax bracket, and support is now non-deductible to the payor.  so if the ex gets 40% and the government gets 35%, that leaves me with 25%?  That can't be right?  What am I missing?",3.4007142857142867,4.345254785714288,4.620000000000001,86.875,72.57142857142857,7.980952380952381,29.47619047619048,8.344100000000001,1.977704761904762,318,13,68,5,6,105,63,84,0.08,0.8079999999999999,0.11199999999999999,0.4291,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,1,0,0,3,7,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,2,0,11,16,6,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,4,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,6,4,9,15,0,6,0,1,0,0,5,5,0,1,1,40,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24005168271924834,0.0,0.0,0.192688869061748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397812273532377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432537331369533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153348345154105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1961904500923908,0.0,0.18269264477422928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7820937549135277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559734069760874,0.0,0.0,0.2391598177061588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,trulywhoiam,2020/04/09,"It's be one hell of a journey.... I am currently married and living together with my husband. We went to marriage therapy to give our relationship one last chance. We gave February a try and I don't feel like I'm inlove with him anymore.

When he wants to have sex...it feels like I have to..like a chore..if not he will feel like I don't want to be with him or he'll start doubting himself. He wants to spend more time together and i rather be by myself. We been sleeping in separate spaces but sleep together a hand full of times...if that. My husband is still talking about let's go back to how we were back then before all of this happen. I'm thinking to myself I don't want to go back...i was not happy and I'm 100 percent different from that past me....so much has happen...I can't...I refuse to go back. I don't love him anymore but i care for him...i want him to be happy just as much as i am but we can't be together.

Before all of this...we were living separately and I met someone and the new guy was supportive of me trying again with my husband. So we stopped talking in February...last week we started talking again and he wants to be with me. I want to be with him too. 

We started to look at apartments together and he let me meet his child (he said he never bring women around her but with you..it's different) and I met his mother and few of his sister's and brother. I went to wedding with him and met his closest friends. He is such an amazing man. ( We known each other since November of last year) 

I am planning on telling my husband, I want a divorce asap once that check hit my account. I can finally be with the other guy and live my life...with or without the new guy. (I wanted this dirvoce for a while now and my family and his said we shoukd give it another chance and I'm done.) I can finally do what makes me happy and it's okay if it comes off selfish....I'm happy and it's my life.

It's not wrong for me to do what makes me happy? I rather be happy then depressed.

I am afraid to be on my own (I never been on my own before...just thinking about it gives me anxiety) but I'll make it. I'm working 2 jobs and I can support myself without any help. 

I don't feel like I'm being a bitch if i come to him and tell him how I feel and I want a divorce. I know he'll cry and probably call me names like he did before. I'm willing co-parenting, she will stay with him and I'll have her during the week because I work 3 12hr shifts Fri to Sun and my part time during the week days but I'll have time for her and if he wants to keep her longer..that's fine. I'm all for her spending time with her dad...i'll never deny him to see her. We'll make it work. 
 
Any advice??",0.3497335298452491,2.269392424347828,2.5144996315401613,94.3931378039794,83.88695652173914,5.498305084745763,21.05011053795136,6.695933590792649,0.2763002210759025,2064,65,478,23,59,697,225,575,0.125,0.8029999999999999,0.07200000000000001,-0.977,5,0,0,0,2,0,94.0,12,0,0,4,19,25,2,2,14,1,47,5,3,6,6,106,109,45,0,16,19,7,6,5,1,6,1,2,0,6,18,50,0,3,9,0,4,9,14,6,0,2,16,10,86,19,59,73,13,57,1,1,2,1,87,12,2,6,40,298,104,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0583538698791651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08121797492438315,0.06261752480960535,0.04568264372395157,0.0,0.11844462583061212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053159978696050665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18367194188475772,0.0,0.03640237286382705,0.0,0.15244197728392214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060976802312113325,0.0,0.06088453139014877,0.0,0.0,0.10288024404777804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06559531840699441,0.038511936448277134,0.0,0.051433378927261166,0.0,0.0,0.12478120367852365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06111029081170522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0562950129908404,0.0,0.1509712413201597,0.1706447402510496,0.0,0.13083211059142935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046136501309261294,0.0,0.0,0.1718553384465214,0.1018140865793308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773849464433079,0.10561347846861173,0.38141331533448575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040026434897429165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05925900280716585,0.053078402633352485,0.0,0.0,0.03281840014934685,0.14602974529380608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12212749134736915,0.08435847766838855,0.1458713206374538,0.0,0.15819119875502327,0.0,0.050146473878735484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05389610071957193,0.0,0.1594438092627664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08779639112184226,0.0,0.13817018489558533,0.11534833944132795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06359568459457225,0.08093033312808677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06466670380713567,0.057005762830102336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06438404270163438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06411273018513336,0.0,0.0,0.1136073487062034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04758599051601545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049397764924830966,0.0,0.11951842810737985,0.0,0.05059724741474291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12680206292520013,0.06364940412634756,0.047689344862877514,0.049925323317936185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13553021755654635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439925881276019,0.1043889856767874,0.0,0.06829055071852783,0.0,0.0,0.0765273156764397,0.0,0.0,0.1392837241025094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08108660751104753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3874430535841485,0.0,0.14370193086505814,0.0,0.0,0.11071482333810384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11512835534909653,0.0,0.13042206942090845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06529016763089407,0.0,0.038455202680307804
divorce,butchcassidycanada,2020/04/09,"screen time killed my marriage I'm brand new to Reddit and have never posted anything like this on any forum in my life but I am so lonely and bored I think I need to express myself. I'm holed up in my bedroom feeling so depressed and lost. I've told my husband we're getting a divorce because I can not see a way forward to us. I've been sad and not myself for about five years basically because of excessive screen time in our house and with our kids, which sounds minor I realize, but somehow isn't. 

I wanted a ""slow parenting"" sort of lifestyle but my husband undermined me every time I'd try to initiate this. When our oldest was very young we ( I initiated it) bought a beautiful old farmhouse in the country and I spent some of the happiest times of my life there with our one child . My husband was working but I was in grad school so went with our oldest on our own. It was an old heritage farmhouse near a beach and we had no phone, car, internet, cable or even heat (besides a wood stove) but it was such a beautiful few months. Although I've have definitely contributed to the stress and complication of our current life but I've longed to return to that simple lifestyle. I've became increasingly screen addicted since my kids were on them all the time anyway, and it has become an unhealthy escape from stress. Many times I begged my husband to just help me and help all of us and throw them all away, or shut off the wifi etc and made a big, bold break so we could start over but he never did it. I thew them away and they somehow came back. I bought devices to limit the time on them but they were disabled. He could see how miserable I was but took no action at all to help me. 

I don't even recognize myself anymore and feel so little joy. I have really longed for a simpler and more wholesome lifestyle. We've taken on a lot in the last few years ( I've certainly contributed to that) and it has been pretty stressful all around. My husband is a great guy for the most part but I sort of hate him now for choosing ""screen time"" over my happiness for so many years and I worry that I will never forgive him for letting this go on for so long, watching me in such pain and doing nothing about it. 

When this pandemic made us all stay home I was actually looking forward to the time together and slower pace, cooking, reading, playing games etc. but it quickly devolved into the same individual screen time again. I couldn't seem to get anyone to follow my lead and my husband seemed to be working against me. So, I finally said forget it and just sort of went on strike and have been holed up in my bedroom for the past few days internet stalking old boyfriends trying to imagine a better future as a divorcee, which isn't easy. I feel like there's no good future for me anymore, it's all been blown. The dream I had for my family feels dead and I don't see a path to happiness for myself at all. My parents had a terrible marriage and I've always been so surprised and pleased with how I've been able to create a beautiful family and life but I feel like it's all caught up with me and it's all gone to shit and is unrecoverable now.",4.07858695652174,5.35475963216561,4.860144004430903,84.53377596233729,71.30891719745223,7.626474660758793,28.30185544170589,8.04050195162591,1.7778504846302958,2491,92,495,34,46,805,278,628,0.14300000000000002,0.7240000000000001,0.132,-0.6813,4,2,0,0,2,0,50.0,13,0,6,6,32,28,3,4,30,0,40,8,1,5,14,104,77,57,2,5,18,8,5,3,0,1,6,2,4,4,21,39,1,1,12,6,3,15,13,14,0,2,34,17,73,14,76,37,23,94,0,5,10,0,47,33,1,12,49,344,94,6,0.06866513018272295,0.0,0.06700726199422828,0.07485512725305107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05713488896091772,0.0,0.0,0.04669464315189627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361947165407563,0.048012255567558816,0.0,0.05650555149211948,0.06112652371560829,0.0,0.0,0.12902630024906747,0.05279924666497544,0.0,0.08371525206538316,0.07583524154152302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060728727634001486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07853461632963331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10964703823681866,0.0,0.0,0.04428332844336715,0.0,0.0591411760103784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15315954192234915,0.0907053417788448,0.0,0.05785333368172504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12946274739236224,0.0,0.17359576488350162,0.09810876544495806,0.0,0.07521929379012549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07174939294347621,0.0,0.03902397587138748,0.05759305340223229,0.0,0.07570354843565634,0.0,0.06798927439728455,0.0,0.14619061580483225,0.0,0.0677926002696287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13807436808796478,0.0,0.06887672418577508,0.0,0.0,0.0792303410740108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07596779296176205,0.0,0.0,0.05597124571176213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07021474781673785,0.1940008484688296,0.1006389425927462,0.06882049942003811,0.0,0.1822994383382241,0.05766141559854275,0.0,0.07495610090317824,0.05837663819305885,0.0,0.12994521286456626,0.0,0.13923132917387754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05480785180829527,0.0,0.0,0.05091432397778374,0.15887634440375414,0.06631721060998268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06588604431912466,0.0,0.2161575102258145,0.0,0.046529269279349764,0.0,0.0730645397660587,0.0,0.1524890021952299,0.0743576446198004,0.06554863638083938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0753736931890307,0.0,0.0,0.06576221391993828,0.06985712295572942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0686837119421273,0.0,0.043988640666198085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06531626296036341,0.0,0.0,0.06949277760125873,0.16415165595376885,0.1250203112728352,0.0,0.0,0.07048376938813021,0.05680050525302501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0486015325608168,0.07318789258850032,0.0,0.0,0.23596702388715304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043997842844651656,0.0,0.0,0.4003918959989536,0.0,0.0,0.06561247446910004,0.0762894861508004,0.09323823219309338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477870912859865,0.0,0.0,0.05665592359492405,0.04050047283394792,0.054503184240317235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273065272117719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999780651415516,0.06973277278529204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13265427768884666
divorce,PuzzleheadedMeet0,2020/04/09,"Take a risk or play it safe? I am 24 and married (no kids) and have been thinking about ending my marriage for a year. I got married too young and our marriage was very difficult for me in the beginning because I felt my husband started treating me with less love after we got married. Then about a year ago, he told me that he had cheated on me a year before that. 

After I found this out I completely lost all my love for him. It not only hurt me that he cheated, but possibly even more that for a whole year of our marriage he had been lying to me. That whole year felt like a lie to me and any good memories we had during that time were ruined. I didn’t look at him the same anymore, but I still cared about him and I know he was very sorry. He started treating me the way he used to when we were dating and saying he wouldn’t take me for granted again and I felt like a failure if I got a divorce so I forgave him and decided to try to work on our marriage. 

For this whole past year since then I’ve been trying to love him again but I’ve just don’t. I have moved on from what he did and have no resentment towards him, but he only feels like a friend to me now. I feel alone and sad in this marriage and regret not leaving before. I feel like I would rather be alone than in a marriage like this. I recently told him how I felt and that I wanted to leave and he begged me to keep working on it and that he could get me to fall in love with him again. I’m worried about staying forever and never regaining feelings for him again and living my whole life in a loveless marriage. 

Meanwhile (after I already told him I wanted to leave) I started a new job. One of my coworkers is a man that is completely my type. I already let him know I’m married because I would never want to do anything with anyone else while I’m still married. But the feelings I’m getting for him are making me realize more and more how much I want to be in love with the person I’m in a relationship with. I don’t know if I can feel this empty and have no love for my husband my whole life. I have more feelings for this coworker than I do for my husband and I just feel like that is a significant sign that something is wrong in my marriage. 

I also come from a very religious family and everyone in my life is religious and divorce is not really allowed so I know if I do get divorced I won’t get a lot of support and will lose a lot of friends and my life will never be the same again. This decision and fear of making the wrong choice is giving me extreme anxiety. I have eaten in days and all I do is sleep constantly because I’m so sad when I’m awake. I’m afraid of leave I will be even more miserable. 

Is it worth leaving my whole life behind and hurting my husband for a possibility of being happy? Or do I just do the safe thing and stay married to a perfectly fine guy who loves me and who I feel comfortable with?",3.9978446306169104,4.339654006600662,5.1713201320132045,85.66247143945165,70.8151815181518,8.063569433866464,29.234831175425235,7.969615865706242,1.7548459507489205,2272,83,489,28,39,755,218,606,0.131,0.7020000000000001,0.16699999999999998,0.9862,2,2,1,0,3,0,35.0,6,0,0,5,27,45,3,4,28,0,52,14,1,6,6,107,117,49,0,13,17,4,13,6,2,7,5,1,0,4,26,39,1,3,22,1,1,3,14,18,0,1,25,15,85,27,68,78,19,62,0,9,1,7,66,17,0,7,45,352,111,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048320430441371576,0.0,0.0,0.11291325359469667,0.12030778575043735,0.043592172552125136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037069132884138864,0.0,0.04170052238506474,0.0,0.054059948901889136,0.038115136160512604,0.055852635292325405,0.04485764652144826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09968761705104212,0.0,0.09276915064380382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05557727305541015,0.0,0.0,0.04695612567674082,0.1143068255447608,0.058906681765948724,0.0,0.043522343853567125,0.0,0.0,0.035154880213545014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04553667999730157,0.0,0.04828028445924793,0.0,0.0,0.07200758247072467,0.0,0.0,0.05208729247679166,0.0,0.0,0.05138781948736541,0.061339671911877364,0.2480601472889093,0.11682732593803763,0.20935521182974745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05976814902372556,0.08422963509910451,0.0,0.11391832560861985,0.05229161306269907,0.0,0.04572097366342022,0.13079151567553102,0.0,0.0,0.05397414515259598,0.0,0.05802763441252839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11670962459627475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05409344056375639,0.04845159861041716,0.0,0.0,0.11983058058895285,0.0,0.0,0.2885947065971741,0.0,0.0557408653660362,0.19251253318644015,0.1597869941592318,0.0,0.048133930723346915,0.0,0.0457752438573489,0.060983509656951575,0.05950484846448596,0.09268606471489503,0.3443861300308437,0.0,0.0727726067858453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05793622804934774,0.0400716232123922,0.0,0.1261259948746349,0.05264675617308018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03693784874439183,0.08291565972919766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0520366138032422,0.0,0.04759662478457433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229052067286528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03492093859553805,0.0,0.05382272207322211,0.058524072214564626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043349082076694335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04509179929400756,0.0,0.05455004877603465,0.0,0.0,0.04196498601102665,0.0,0.061020245435011826,0.11574882345770038,0.11620226787247755,0.08706460182123077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06185807574120605,0.0,0.0,0.08197049757146226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036214474840752894,0.034928243861257924,0.0,0.0,0.03178561692876922,0.0,0.0,0.15626187743037498,0.0,0.07401834955253564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04707972717986026,0.0,0.13493106394979928,0.12860724982678046,0.04326804196020447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3651553773368893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07936885115869577,0.05535824339311775,0.0,0.07744564874495204,0.11919774666584106,0.0,0.21061855131010326
divorce,alwaysgottatry,2020/04/09,"Divorcing narcissist Hi so I separated from my ex I'm July last year. I recently attempted to start mediation with him in order to get a separation agreement started. When he realized that I wanted him to share his financial information, he pulled out of mediation. I was just wondering how I can force him to provide his financial information and what's the cost/process? I've retained a lawyer but I'm not sure if I'm going about this the right way. She said to file a statement of claim for divorce but how can you do that when you've been unable to do a separation agreement first?",3.3799919549477053,5.879103893805312,5.333177795655676,75.12322606596943,76.43362831858406,9.418825422365245,30.62670957361223,9.800150414767053,3.5624230088495583,472,23,86,15,11,162,76,113,0.024,0.8859999999999999,0.091,0.7155,0,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,0,1,0,2,7,4,0,0,6,0,6,0,0,2,1,18,16,9,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,3,0,1,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,3,1,13,4,14,13,0,15,0,0,0,0,17,3,0,2,8,55,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682612554959345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16477253479391962,0.0,0.1792371798080816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257076015647012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31139876040602216,0.0,0.0,0.2693319821622822,0.2999976939100736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4464538241444813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29724101858571594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860187325754553,0.2503332071030057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3420151223193376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030937655762208
divorce,NeedingAnswers_2020,2020/04/09,"Divorced - Unsure of Final Order Section Maybe one of you can help me, any question I ask of the mediator gets ignored no matter what means I use to contact them. With the COVID-19 I've been laid off. I've been responsible for covering insurance for my two children. I've always been unsure if my ex was supposed to help pay for insurance but since the insurance will be gone at the end of the month I'm not sure what to do or where responsibilities lie. Can anyone help me understand this section better? (For clarity my Ex has never paid a cent towards insurance and I'm unsure if they were supposed to do so outside of their share of doctor visit costs.)

Thank you anyone who can give me some clarity!

**Health Insurance**

\[Parent 1\] must pay the premium to provide health insurance coverage for the children. The court has considered the needs of the children, the cost and extent of the coverage, and the accessibility of coverage.

The other parent must pay his/her proportional share\* of the premium paid. Health insurance premiums are included on the Worksheets (line 14). No separate payment is needed. *\*Proportional share is each parent's percentage share of the combined net income from line 6 of the Child Support Schedule Worksheets.* 

**Health Insurance if circumstances change or court has not ordered**

If the parties circumstances change, or if the court is not ordering how health insurance must be provided for the children in section 19:

\- A parent, non-parent custodian, or DCS can enforce medical support

\- If a parent does not provide proof of accessible private insurance (insurance that can be used for the children's primary care), that parent may have to:   
\- Get (or keep) insurance through his/her work or union, unless the insurance costs more than 25% of   
his/her basic support obligation   
\- Pay his/her share of the others parent's monthly premium up to 25% of his/her basic support         
obligation or  
\- Pay his/her share of the monthly cost of any public health care coverage such as Healthy Kids, BHP,   
or Medicaid, for which there is an assignment.

**Children's expenses** **not** **included in the monthly child support amount**

Uninsured medial expenses - Each parent is responsible for a share of uninsured medical expenses as ordered below. Uninsured medical expenses include premiums, copays, deductibles, and other health care costs not covered by insurance. A parent can ask DCS to collect those expenses, or a parent or non-parent custodian can ask the court for a judgement.",5.545223798526338,8.569439293302544,6.144340151765096,69.37314280215553,71.77136258660508,9.758913449906522,35.25178708896953,10.01380297108016,4.612124205432751,2006,108,291,61,42,650,192,433,0.046,0.79,0.16399999999999998,0.996,13,0,0,0,1,0,95.0,0,2,3,2,5,19,0,0,35,0,32,11,0,3,6,50,59,26,0,11,24,12,0,0,0,5,11,0,0,9,11,7,0,2,3,0,18,2,9,1,0,2,8,0,13,18,53,43,9,26,0,0,0,0,46,12,0,19,8,188,24,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04950784033490931,0.0,0.0,0.08092256691847134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08320601040752885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16687028273823365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05262193041983376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18198924204794198,0.0,0.1258838663361359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060899632021385326,0.0520678769637856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05269835367079809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06517812241857121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06217142545603072,0.05707675400132815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4427117420636306,0.0,0.0,0.11964254930675305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0528853445683921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059774629178760835,0.06481173063215362,0.0,0.17981660713618275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899657757823264,0.0,0.0,0.08823534159578683,0.04588920963928881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04031798566997771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.660664727875391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06665237039250405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049218094165414325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3375931593315918,0.05607699685080775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054778581215883054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05812176706606448,0.06194043970100485,0.0,0.10277586975458383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043315898359467066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,sweet_b9,2020/04/09,"1 Year Divorce Anniversary! What to do? What to think? Last year on the day I went out to eat later that evening. 

I’ve been meditating and reflection on how life is better w/o him in my life.",0.4646153846153816,2.8700011025641032,2.2776410256410284,92.62569230769232,89.25641025641025,6.196923076923077,20.620512820512825,7.554174236665415,0.8135189743589741,149,5,33,3,5,49,32,39,0.0,0.9079999999999999,0.092,0.5502,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,1,0,5,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,1,7,3,0,10,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,5,20,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3075398052014511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242577233829598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3558156169214565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22967304131182326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834471702884856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4912253678900996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228119795177841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3223501142288118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4478547172977545
divorce,SebastianArnault,2020/04/09,"38, married 15 years, starting separation I’m a 38 year old married man who’s 15 year marriage is coming to an end. We still live in the same house and I’m the one more actively pushing for this separation. We have tried therapy and had a good run. I’m not bitter or fueled with anger or resentment anymore. I’m in an accepting state and just want to move onto the next thing.

I have no idea where to start thinking about things like living situations, how we figure things out with the kids (we have 5). We own a nice house that suits us well. All of our finances are tied together. We file taxes jointly. She is more of less a stay at home mom with a very small side job. I’m a successful career professional who is the breadwinner. 

My goals are to maintain a good relationship with my wife and make this transition as easy as possible on the children. I plan to support them and hoping once lawyers get involved it won’t completely tank the scenario. I’m okay living more meekly if it means my kids are taken care of. 

Secondarily would be to make a life for myself that will make me a happy vibrant person again. There is someone else in my life but I’m trying to temper my hopes there as I don’t want to be selfish. 

Where should I start?",2.6113849929873787,4.737527620967743,3.888604488078542,86.38823281907435,77.2258064516129,6.8936886395511925,24.49228611500701,7.893859768569023,1.3436586255259466,982,34,198,16,23,321,154,248,0.055,0.799,0.147,0.9203,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,8,0,1,3,11,18,4,0,18,1,18,2,0,4,1,40,42,13,0,7,6,2,0,1,0,4,2,0,1,5,11,17,0,0,5,0,2,4,4,5,1,1,2,1,21,13,28,34,7,28,0,0,0,0,22,11,0,5,12,124,32,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11710788443223327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12039480247833165,0.0,0.0,0.10171915902319738,0.12380913030463035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09864427116329053,0.0,0.1045876307258473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06169416722118645,0.0,0.0,0.19808699818130573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12570292134369346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184481698099471,0.2345686860578705,0.0,0.2725068302703237,0.0,0.1333027889427604,0.0,0.0,0.1171804360669844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16681285088944126,0.05769001890763085,0.0,0.3128117716120438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23646653941837095,0.0,0.0,0.12862840824978114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382988920335889,0.0,0.12550491143001122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255839809233744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12390959732572213,0.1257559138654495,0.08001697023029168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10310664637793468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13312229328795985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267783345086996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327316883048765,0.0,0.0,0.10005243481977244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25074200246196804,0.12586214039408736,0.09430226568215272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13400065172552073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350396755492472,0.0,0.2353498636553488,0.0756636443173204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603429618661752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142040860258261,0.0,0.0,0.0974319051616121,0.1392983461489699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061719571089009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08388369085830047,0.0,0.0,0.22812723159312906
divorce,Opeth-Ethereal,2020/04/09,"Hello my friends.. I can’t believe I’m actually doing this right now. I need advice. Hey, let’s just say my name is Allen. I don’t really want to give up too much personal information but let’s just say I’m in the very beginning stages of all this.

I have an addiction problem, and my problem is alcohol. She left me on Sunday and I haven’t touched any since. But it’s the work week and I generally don’t drink during it. 

I am a terminal manager for a freight company. Things have been super tough with all the current situation but I had the problem before that. Just not quite as bad. When I drink I get absolutely bombed most of the time. And then when I wake in the morning my addiction drives me only to drink more. 

She’s pregnant with our first born child. Due November 2nd. So it’s the early stages. 

We never really fought. Which is why it was such an easy decision for us to get married and move in and have a child in the first place. And when I say never really fought, I mean that in all honesty. This was the first real fight we had, and it wasn’t about my drinking but because of it.

I was black-out and from what she told me, it wasn’t the worst way I’ve ever acted. I still acted shamefully, though. Yelling and being upset that she didn’t want to watch a movie with me. Then I “cornered” her twice although I don’t know the extent of how or why I did. Then I threw her shoes but after that I was acting more normally. I even helped her pack her things. I remember none of this.

Anyways, my drivers license expired a couple days after they shut everything down for the pandemic. So I can’t drive. I wanted to start going to AA but nobody offered to take me, even her, until *after* she already had left (she said she would last night).

But the problem is, she’s still leaving me. She’s taking most of the furniture today while I’m at work. She won’t stand by me to help me with my recovery at all. 

I have no interest in drinking at all anymore. I don’t even feel the addiction *craving* creeping in like I usually do once today (Thursday) hits. She tells me she loves me still although I doubt that.

Before we even talked in person yesterday as we planned since Monday night, she had already emailed a notice to the place we rent from stating she’s moving out. She even brought a handwritten “document” for me to sign stating that she will give me the keys back once all her stuff is gone.

I don’t understand what’s going on. We’re having a child. We’ve had one real fight the whole time we’ve been together (5 amazing years almost)...

...and she just ups and leaves and won’t reason or try to make things work. She says I’m not being reasonable by not going to AA but why wasn’t that just the resolution to the fight in the first place? Why does she refuse to help me until she’s gone?

I can’t help but feel like I’d been living a lie and all this time she was just looking for a way out.

I don’t think I can ever trust her again. The worst part is I don’t think she knows that. Wait no, I think the worst part is I don’t think she cares.",1.4061493426199334,3.5118928092209845,2.9740797940797954,91.52273273273278,81.16216216216216,6.219405960582432,21.271885330708862,7.3871296695380915,0.6473349029701971,2383,71,517,35,63,782,262,629,0.10099999999999999,0.795,0.10400000000000001,0.4341,2,0,6,0,4,0,77.0,7,0,1,10,30,26,5,3,35,0,54,12,2,4,11,94,97,42,0,10,20,0,3,2,1,4,4,6,1,5,27,25,6,2,15,5,1,14,26,17,2,6,26,11,93,9,60,62,20,96,0,0,2,1,71,27,0,6,50,361,120,4,0.0,0.0,0.060253630186059365,0.2019315379021568,0.0,0.06033591560345185,0.0,0.06598598869175687,0.061828100228660074,0.0,0.13627296724932902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041988311063757715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061233856148672064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047477634333544114,0.051553997093270514,0.0376388147251474,0.0,0.10507987781983756,0.06956479789707044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0629525334843875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06831900706328023,0.0,0.039820031680510654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054032942790544713,0.0,0.0,0.302430040969928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20390797791116247,0.1117026941442492,0.0,0.0,0.05549188774156708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06243965031764812,0.04411021354402248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21007902918750715,0.0,0.0,0.04770357227375651,0.0,0.06451780388911953,0.11846171434140737,0.10527230066855224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655438861470004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0678662178104591,0.050329929022619464,0.0,0.13075681429970448,0.13417094814113056,0.12627566990937653,0.0,0.060330392545827866,0.0,0.054521438692676484,0.0,0.051849747446456346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055726733995619615,0.0,0.04121486817880257,0.0,0.0,0.06725775540721682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13124905687975766,0.045389240302179897,0.04578269215648359,0.09524217939085836,0.0,0.0,0.11588587829144717,0.060496404955585836,0.0,0.07029641158245979,0.0,0.13151154726798572,0.04183960514946871,0.04695940047542761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13372634210345125,0.0,0.0,0.10782566148963174,0.1935292772262045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363242180415149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656727724181626,0.0,0.14055729542407416,0.11866513605570922,0.12696705874674602,0.0,0.0,0.06994437177715546,0.05272938244212527,0.05873306618450004,0.1964065086986066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10215121573515076,0.06940329549488547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04370300594654082,0.0,0.14792747898924724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07068256874122583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09284821311680133,0.049627811961628285,0.0539673293542216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230607124836298,0.1582532801877114,0.0606635620465599,0.0,0.10801097304838744,0.0,0.117052948134655,0.058999422668455585,0.0,0.041920396346357865,0.0,0.0,0.06427810062456303,0.07427091392229086,0.0,0.0680027362641684,0.050945598529786695,0.1092553451612799,0.0980196656136048,0.04952763538894235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22285887842289448,0.06893542046670269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348519813630578,0.0,0.0,0.043861452063111886,0.0,0.0,0.03976137089514797
divorce,youmychic-fil-a,2020/04/09,"Need some hope for best friend in darkest hour My best friend is experience her darkest hour. I’d like to hear the stories of you who have experienced a rejection of your spouse by their infidelity, divorced and come out the other side with a story of life and hope and gratitude that you never gave up. They’ve been married for almost 20 years and she’s shattered. There’s no hope right now and I’d like to have some stories for her that she can move on and have joy again. It would be greatly appreciate and someone whose her main support.",5.4702021563342305,6.374896235849057,5.455336927223723,82.92160377358492,67.77358490566039,8.321293800539085,30.23719676549865,8.418075326091056,2.056885714285714,435,16,86,6,7,136,74,106,0.111,0.589,0.3,0.9778,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,3,1,2,3,13,0,0,4,0,8,1,0,0,1,19,16,7,0,5,0,1,0,2,2,1,1,1,0,0,6,10,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,2,2,10,12,14,12,5,14,0,1,0,0,17,6,0,6,8,59,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17668453825663233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3703370341836272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519920521181634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725974170394537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726424913335306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945316297701972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988667417849873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5257501580670702,0.3475262702460293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12462857425209968,0.172404578345104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875334914517477,0.0,0.1308319970029451,0.13608553736888646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506833713940588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14950157899170166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20022810094496005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253417196448814,0.0,0.0,0.11362502536999215
divorce,Arsymective,2020/04/09,"She won’t stop having sex We separated in Mid December because she’s bisexual (we’ve known for years) but she wanted to explore more - have sex with others, bdsm, threesomes and didn’t want to have to talk to me about it at all. Didn’t want to have to “process it with someone else”. Agreed to separate because I wanted a relationship, not a hostage situation. She agreed to only sleep with women, doesn’t bring anyone home and we tried couples counseling. 


Cut to mid January, and I’m asking for a divorce. I feel like our other issues we can work on but the crux is she wants to be able to sleep with other people and I don’t want that. So we go for a mediated divorce. 

But we’re still living in the same house (2 bedrooms, separated by a thin wall). And she’s still fucking people. At least once or twice a week, since December, she’s out late, or staying overnight. She’ll say when she’s at work or seeing a friend, but when she doesn’t say where she’s going, it’s pretty conspicuous. 

Cut to pandemic time. We’re trying to sell the house. It’s slow getting on the market but I’m pushing hard because I want to get away from her. (She works emergency services, so she still has to go to work, thank god)

Sunday night, I hear her on the phone, late night, talking over previous sexual experience. We share a paper thin wall for our bedrooms. She says there was a couple she was fucking before New Years (while we were separated) “the girl was ok, but it was much more fun with the guy. He said he only had to tell her if she asked but she asked, so drama drama drama.” Talks about how she partied with them over New Years but didn’t get to have any ”fun”. 

Cool, so she lied to me about the separation. 

Cut to Wednesday night. She comes home from work, says she’s gonna take a walk  and talk to a friend. Comes back an hour and a half later, still talking, but on speaker phone. From upstairs, I can hear her saying how she went to a guys house on Tuesday night for wine and chill. She offered to go down on him but another guy wanted to sext with her right then too “isn’t that funny!!”

So I come downstairs and confront her. Can you please not talk on speakerphone about your sexual exploits? I can hear everything. “Oh, I didn’t know” yea, just like I heard you on Sunday, and how you lied/cheated when we were separated. 

I. Was. So. Angry. 

I left the house and stayed at a friends. Asked her to move out. Drank until I couldn’t see straight. 

She refused and wants to talk this all out, saying she didn’t cheat. 

God, I just want this house sold. I already have an apartment lined up, I was just hoping to not have rent and a mortgage, but maybe it’s worth a loan.",2.35785124610592,4.283723624299069,3.3800525700934583,90.68123150311527,77.24299065420561,6.2527258566978166,22.360786604361373,7.1686216300943375,0.6096300623052957,2069,60,442,24,48,663,239,535,0.064,0.7929999999999999,0.14300000000000002,0.9918,2,0,1,0,2,0,80.0,9,4,1,5,28,19,7,0,27,3,35,8,2,3,2,78,80,43,0,13,21,0,4,2,3,3,0,12,5,5,13,33,2,2,4,4,5,13,14,7,0,2,19,19,65,12,70,56,7,80,0,0,2,4,88,33,2,5,34,274,78,8,0.0584855530655325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06454026214322185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03977218163963342,0.061327201838523075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040894458560262144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2187043885877889,0.0,0.05494910233174568,0.044971780209652035,0.0,0.10695675091641332,0.0,0.04976689799424201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15114037590352244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12942630410802747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048857174883998176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052563043925068914,0.05721009339584774,0.0,0.0,0.02957205292417934,0.04178209079598248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13555737965622972,0.1081379027708764,0.09166886272367247,0.0,0.13295475042896568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17372967786129448,0.0,0.0,0.05239156781336201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19775240671613944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11733155669049515,0.058089350663193436,0.05759648875203378,0.3374223790847941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06104372237669292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03214213043546675,0.0,0.1319485026186038,0.0,0.06354472453211978,0.0,0.0,0.05714617401684824,0.0,0.05164381486186896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05875659904695265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06216088713744436,0.042993610937150935,0.0,0.0,0.11297142319448025,0.0,0.21953891852793225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06228520525282906,0.0,0.08896179713258745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08109303695549472,0.0,0.0,0.06419957438399206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05950083340351316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06279159638515941,0.0,0.04994634275833194,0.0556331540222112,0.2790603554155486,0.0,0.0,0.09321082728629553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04837985386883767,0.0657402120942729,0.11705558126500608,0.0,0.049554619319632384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246756356348172,0.18682655290801206,0.04889654117249501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04397385728839477,0.3290593051248978,0.05111895123437556,0.05384563948087543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03410339632087092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07941570287793136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34496294506480263,0.0,0.04691358287499226,0.0,0.0,0.05421669363343136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21289089595641408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129883359500719
divorce,jackn2482,2020/04/09,"Ex-wife has boyfriend over during quarantine (we have kids) So little background: We've been separated for over a year and divorced for over 5 months. It was for the best, we were a bad match clinging to a 10 year relationship bc of the kids we made. We ended it after 3 different marriage counselors and thousands of hours of arguing but most importantly, when we saw the collateral damage we were causing our really young kids.

Fast forward to now, she seeing somebody (good for her) but he is coming over while we are in quarantine. She won't let the kids see their cousins who live 5 minutes away and with whom she has a really good idea of their contact circle in reference to contagious diseases, but she sees no danger in having her boyfriend over (she tells me when kids are not there). She works with him so she sees him anyway, but what I'm most worried about who/what he has in his place that is being brought to hers, then into mine as we split time with the kids. 

She thinks I am overreacting by asking them to not physically see each other for 4 weeks while this gets under control. I know it's her call, but I can assure you I would have the police over at my place by now coming to get the kids if it were the other way around. She's says that they are being ""really careful"" but man, the PM of the UK got COVID-19 and I'm sure they are a lot more careful around him than my ex and her boyfriend are.

I guess I'm just trying to see if I am overreacting? The one last good thing I used to be able to say about her was that she was a top-notch mom to our kids. But with something this obvious and important, that feeling has changed as I see her putting her needs over the safety of the kids. Thanks for reading",7.256710997442454,5.885729037681159,7.031952259164537,80.79299232736574,64.42028985507247,10.20460358056266,32.468030690537084,9.007467420416297,2.405393861892583,1358,42,285,18,17,430,181,345,0.062,0.835,0.10300000000000001,0.9261,1,2,1,0,1,0,34.0,10,1,5,3,13,13,2,0,19,0,30,0,0,4,3,54,58,24,0,4,12,3,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,10,16,24,0,1,5,1,0,5,4,4,0,2,11,11,50,9,51,41,6,44,0,1,8,0,65,21,0,6,19,204,66,2,0.10165566482026156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809901878850623,0.09503432410089872,0.0,0.09550884339849293,0.0,0.08487823396496216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10668134857274264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10380179956617996,0.0,0.20728945055833248,0.10442837011203802,0.10753821431970434,0.17513470806988626,0.0,0.0,0.11401547205255227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10620853343183354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900367460308785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051400158544094285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106221778371498,0.0,0.0,0.25579184589265624,0.08130332157847503,0.0,0.11198517556050763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10011035287364436,0.0,0.0,0.11475687201202618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0558672948599086,0.08286293462935891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394980466072776,0.0,0.0,0.10188568205127617,0.08976381445440629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08642401098921124,0.0,0.09618904798407857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11905788602306296,0.08114058180791885,0.0,0.0,0.07537638738997207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06888450935149311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21241706686366707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10219202062738753,0.0,0.0,0.10168317428686784,0.0,0.1953696657777733,0.0,0.0,0.10914014044642248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16168132964939178,0.0,0.0,0.5670448242091932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07825949722507149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09580926104771967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08885153170770763,0.0935908782971971,0.0,0.0,0.06753550668556478,0.06513684534098245,0.0,0.0,0.05927623564989589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06901752355986691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.087797855517485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08068953505260704,0.08154204254363674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07400653470227507,0.10323626210837243,0.0,0.07221326764480386,0.0,0.0,0.13092583046471634
divorce,Charged-UP,2020/04/09,37/M Steps to take before getting married What are some steps I should take before I get marriage to protect myself,4.194545454545455,6.632443000000002,4.2545454545454575,84.1518181818182,73.54545454545455,4.4,29.181818181818183,3.1291,1.0928363636363638,94,4,15,0,2,29,17,22,0.0,0.8740000000000001,0.126,0.3818,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,5,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,9,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6807725332282202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4179862948377505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6015282331942877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,internetMan54,2020/04/09,"Move out of state or lose my family I'm in a situation with my wife and 2 yo daughter. My wife  has relocated to another state with our daughter.

She won't agree on choosing a place to move together. It's her decision and she's already proven she will divorce me over it by filing for separation. There is only one place in the world she is considering living. She won't choose a place with me.

What do I do? I would never risk losing my daughter. She's so precious. I'm having a really hard time accepting the fact though that she's not considering me as an equal in this decision.

We already lived in the place she wants to move to for 5 years before. It's not me. Weather is really crappy. It's her hometown

Is it wrong of me to feel this way?",0.8314141414141432,3.1912826753246786,3.3012121212121213,86.6329292929293,85.88311688311687,6.7988455988456,21.542568542568546,7.984000788550335,1.2615927849927853,588,20,123,13,18,203,88,154,0.091,0.833,0.076,-0.3078,0,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,2,0,0,2,3,6,0,1,8,0,12,0,0,0,2,20,16,6,0,2,3,5,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,9,7,0,0,6,0,0,3,5,4,0,1,0,2,23,2,21,12,1,21,0,2,0,0,18,12,0,1,3,84,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3022102161252573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14358251970567631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651691904619145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12908494605409154,0.0,0.06923566940006892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12266193617932218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24182251408127103,0.0,0.0,0.3063781702662922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4366031647343803,0.0,0.0,0.10560847172751923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927869728680809,0.10414105492269866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5722487335788561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754410877804063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15391449496317994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13453253838287646,0.0,0.07984469252592044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08076456673811941,0.10868826344484993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09727078800088228,0.14971091254331614,0.0,0.08817810849949295
divorce,missme1995,2020/04/09,"The car is in my name, how do I handle this? (24F) My husband could not get approved for a loan on his own. I had to put the loan in my name and he’s the “CoSigner”. (I didn’t need him to Co-Sign, he just wanted to because he thought it would help his credit.) 
He makes the monthly payment. He has had the car for 1 year. What do I need to do in order to protect myself Incase he doesn’t make a payment in the future? I do not have the funds to hire a lawyer to write something up. Is there a cheaper way? Could the bank run his credit again and see if he gets approved this time in order to transfer the loan to him?(he doesn’t bank at the same place as me, so he’d have to open up a new account). 

I just don’t know what to do :(
I’m having to pay for the whole divorce myself, so I don’t want to have to pay a lawyer if it’s something simple like getting something notarized that’s signed by him saying he will pay?",1.3756500000000005,2.499889865,2.9730000000000025,96.01150000000004,77.85,5.2,22.5,4.557286568694721,-0.15439999999999987,703,20,169,1,16,232,103,200,0.062,0.87,0.068,0.4895,0,0,3,0,1,0,25.0,0,0,0,2,7,3,0,0,17,0,24,0,0,3,0,26,37,8,0,9,6,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,7,3,0,1,2,0,12,4,7,0,0,0,4,2,19,3,28,28,3,24,0,0,1,0,21,11,0,2,7,110,26,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12005773744524124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3144940737442443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3086917700421746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320101640011437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823752845019677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09621889638565097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629287802383915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15720209925901724,0.0,0.0,0.29206905023962004,0.0,0.19021370808979185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057688525604865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19798724401774356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566210388535386,0.0,0.0,0.15694214156903447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4548608221663927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15635479689119142,0.11484202445571337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23233019140209366,0.1563282394071513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21988552698869004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13990628382465625,0.0,0.0,0.1268281231024827
divorce,AlternativeTip3,2020/04/09,"My wife left me out of the blue less than 2 weeks ago and my brain can't handle it... what can I do? She's 24, i'm 28.
We had our ups and downs. We struggled through things as usual. But we also had a lot of good. Even until mid march we were still planning a move across the country for this summer. We've dealt with a lot in our area of recent due to her growing up here and fighting sobriety so it was going to be a fresh environment. We had talked about having kids very seriously and planned on trying this summer right after our move. She wanted to be trying since fall last year but I said we should wait till we have a bigger place.
Everything has been normal. We still cuddled, went on dates, had sex, talked  about our future, she showed us off on social media, even put in a lot of personal effort for a sweet birthday present for me at the beginning of March.

Then... towards the end of March, shortly after going into stay at home order, she got distant. The conversations started of not wanting to move and be far from family, not wanting to have kids (ever, with anyone), not caring about her sobriety cause it's unimportant to her, just a complete 180 on everything. This then led to her ""taking time to figure out what she wants"" at her mom's. 2 days later, she wants a divorce.

Anyone curious about mental illness yes, she was diagnosed with Borderline personality disorder (supposedly due to childhood trauma, drugs/ alcohol since 12 and poor family structure etc). This happened shortly after becoming sober, but didn't get much attention due to poor therapist options. She got on medicine, things got a little better and that was it. She now believes though she's perfectly fine and our relationship caused her ""craziness"".

She still loves me. Still wants to stay in contact and be friends. It's the ""it's not you it's me"" situation. I'm perfect.. best husband anyone could ask for, would be the best father, have always treated her right and am amazing. She just doesn't think she loves me enough, not as much as I deserve. She feels lost, thinks she'll be happier single. Not just single from me, single in general. She just wants the freedom to do whatever she wants whenever without informing anyone of what she's doing or feeling obligated to make someone else happy.

I get it... but I just don't understand... we've only been married a little over a year but still. Why now? What am I missing? How can things be so positive and normal feeling literally just a week earlier... moving and kids and ""many more years together that she wouldn't have any other way"". To her not being sure of anything and wanting divorced..

Supposedly there's noone else, esp since she wants to be single. But she also is supposedly not going to be sleeping with anyone either (for a very very long time). Which is a big thing because in her past she'd always be hooking up with someone right after breakups. But she doesn't want guy distractions while focusing on herself, and doesn't want to make feelings any more hurt between us. However, she wants to continue sleeping together as fwb for a few months or so till she decides she's done. At which point she'll be sleeping with noone for a while and we will just be good friends. This is another thing with her, even though she's never been married before. After all dating relationships, unless it ended in abuse she ends up being friends with all of her exes, whether a month or a few years later.

Does anyone possibly have advice? Tips to turn this around? I want to bug her everyday and beg to stop this. But I also want to give her space and hope that after a month or so she'll decide it's not really what she wants and realize what we have is right... At the same though i'm terrified if I just step back she'll give up even more, she'll see my distance and i'll lose any percentage left of her possibly changing her mind..

It would be different if things ended badly or I saw no hope but it didn't. It was all very sudden and sooo fast. Good to done in 2 weeks. Not even a middle period of figuring anything out or giving it time.. it's maddening. I can't sleep. I can't just let it go. I can't give up.... I just don't know what to do...",3.729034337514879,5.5820676453987765,4.631575863016209,83.52222323963008,73.15950920245399,7.614137899459755,26.151909165827302,8.351877782099677,1.7748998260232574,3301,114,630,56,67,1069,344,815,0.08800000000000001,0.778,0.134,0.9939,3,0,2,0,5,0,125.0,17,1,0,10,43,32,1,2,30,1,73,13,5,6,8,148,133,62,0,27,41,4,4,0,3,10,4,1,1,6,42,44,1,2,15,1,2,14,25,10,0,0,23,9,90,22,109,82,24,143,0,4,3,4,99,53,0,14,72,455,132,0,0.0,0.05506114877595525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04541142874418218,0.04119419604646318,0.04966391897131823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11148976649011752,0.07733605009368136,0.0,0.0,0.09480667576964573,0.04872943768625233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19496379196028032,0.0,0.07648419801349084,0.04136950282126664,0.043444595366750036,0.0,0.0,0.03573372819350616,0.03880177572617943,0.028328605538037444,0.05132413964025885,0.0395438383286084,0.05235748610443758,0.0975379804248682,0.04110028047522115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05187758222294901,0.0,0.0,0.047380808926158965,0.09547809861855587,0.04916070326992748,0.0,0.048724501602412505,0.0,0.0,0.03710372504402168,0.0,0.0,0.029970284086434474,0.0,0.0,0.047167611716847024,0.0,0.04855284449167053,0.05326038478821433,0.0,0.040667537847572086,0.09511299327631527,0.0,0.0,0.053892206195012636,0.0,0.0776419790129938,0.0,0.16463988296680535,0.04801749986336095,0.05182802584308124,0.15346999406027534,0.042036147831114916,0.0,0.0,0.08353120627582425,0.0,0.08761842107061761,0.0,0.09398958159008397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10771133667997426,0.0,0.0485588993676306,0.17831885522661134,0.10564333659276473,0.11693431134546725,0.11150255262086514,0.0,0.0,0.046014108246697716,0.04109460916502973,0.04946979416920807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04661472078438268,0.09231340444425257,0.0,0.0,0.049748720284698636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02553953050528078,0.037880488969983785,0.0,0.0,0.10098287877314877,0.04752027485504385,0.0,0.0,0.09315333743382052,0.0,0.04112583032823319,0.0,0.0519897407672707,0.050729150609187736,0.1185252661999729,0.08388471724271955,0.0,0.06204019714571059,0.04711482442438215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04683235909687013,0.0,0.04692298480831269,0.05442687926102377,0.1112793649395054,0.19756747319154766,0.06832382441270461,0.0,0.03584169892501922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106443999210996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03534368289983147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04436232150716753,0.0,0.08115427261785993,0.04855284449167053,0.0,0.04393060465401395,0.10477930628648384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04671671028200052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02977084387475635,0.0,0.04588501684662721,0.0997860359364676,0.0,0.1587456870122187,0.044205054705628265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03703178250241323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11532515769652933,0.052235932387128654,0.18602031340350908,0.04737185946573974,0.07875033139650371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03289277904542759,0.09906490815702666,0.18556106823606927,0.03885226921671907,0.0,0.04858211980147984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04379885497145493,0.0,0.034940797465390944,0.07470409039408764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053957013234306114,0.18524166643586767,0.0595541435387301,0.13697408903270333,0.0,0.08129374613975385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06310221938528418,0.05054766605642823,0.0,0.0483784882872768,0.11179902655374448,0.0,0.05118181072391026,0.15337547424789644,0.4385616778632721,0.036886927263983724,0.11182994388192152,0.0,0.0,0.04307956200123531,0.041933316070083146,0.0,0.0,0.044796884218616835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06602406493907305,0.0,0.0,0.11970453373364973
divorce,cozyfeelings-,2020/04/10,"Ex husband offered me to move back in into our marital property because of the COVID Hi, we are in TX. My ex husband kept our marital property after divorce due to the court order. I am still on the Deed. He has to buy me off the house so he will have a sole ownership. He failed to do so because he lost his job due to COVID. My job cut off my pay significantly so I will have to downsize from my rental house into the apartment. We spoke on the phone recently and he offered that I will move back in into our marital property for a while. I could really use it right now but what legal consequences can I face. Would that be a court order violation that he can use against me? Technically I am still on the Deed of the house. Please, advise.",3.0633999999999983,4.606836473333335,4.782333333333336,83.03950000000003,74.26666666666667,8.466666666666667,27.166666666666664,9.075114841892004,2.178266666666666,581,22,120,13,12,197,81,150,0.073,0.882,0.045,-0.488,3,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,5,0,0,2,8,4,2,0,11,0,15,1,1,2,0,12,20,6,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,5,6,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,4,0,0,3,1,19,0,23,11,0,27,0,2,0,0,23,13,0,0,10,84,24,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581850239499359,0.0,0.20468118131137655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13404179501291816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5811471412903134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3331981336292956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832653298036396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3568684641682436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18428632992328375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10755085499601756,0.0,0.16576529755496608,0.0,0.0,0.14337210625368987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26814492228332154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28999592306606503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11926004960395176,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Elle_Lure,2020/04/10,"Parents are divorcing and I can't stop being mad at my mom My parents were married 35 years before separating in October. Up until this, we were a tight-knit family; my parents were very loving and supportive. 

This divorce did not happen due to cheating or abuse. What I (and my siblings) are taking issue with is how it's been handled, and the fact our mom is treating it so cavalier. 

My siblings and I are all adults, which is a sliver-lining that we're not kids. 

To start, Mom told my sister and I before saying anything to our dad. It was literally ""I'm leaving your father and I haven't told him yet, and I don't know when I will."" She avoided and deflected any of our questions. 

My Dad was blind-sided and devastated. Dad wanted to talk things through, he wanted to try couples therapy, etc. He at least wanted answers as to what brought it on. Mom would throw a tantrum any time he tried to talk to her. She'd then talk to us about how she couldn't help it that she's non-confrontational. 

We later found out that our mom had racked up a $50k credit card debt. A debt our dad had no clue about, and it's literally all frivolous spending. In fact Dad had been putting in extra hours right before retiring to have the mortgage and cards all paid off. So much for that. 

And then, despite not telling our dad until a week before October, she had been secretly paying for an apartment as early as August. 

I'd actually always been closer to my mom than my dad when growing up. But the level of disappointment in my mom is rattling. She is acting completely irresponsible and selfish. We can't even talk to her about our concerns because she'll throw a fit and refuse to talk about it.",4.65576479832373,5.7042995843373525,5.535950759559982,81.08249083289681,69.72289156626506,8.183551597695129,29.19381875327397,8.456263369488248,2.087110110005239,1330,49,257,20,23,436,175,332,0.114,0.8320000000000001,0.053,-0.9663,6,1,0,0,2,0,42.0,11,1,0,0,12,10,3,1,11,0,33,1,0,2,5,45,48,30,0,5,5,19,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,2,17,20,0,3,5,0,6,6,9,6,0,0,19,1,39,4,41,23,7,40,0,1,0,1,62,17,0,2,17,177,56,2,0.0,0.09805569278013772,0.08076068990330999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06886198469697474,0.0,0.0,0.11255769847933313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0681034739527732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050449020830101936,0.0,0.28168671004486795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08677106936929506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09157108255389697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922979831050945,0.054661433417515344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07801766916760243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09074079662865346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07318336905033232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05547150608694772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08150078707223103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637872771963999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04548209422881445,0.0,0.0,0.0876296623107561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07469308437760731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6784830736934809,0.0,0.0,0.06083726988186153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756816944933869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08319549251959958,0.09270884124487458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07067559732171591,0.0,0.06581315140274252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058577133032354615,0.0,0.0,0.06919009608076805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09391375109248347,0.0,0.0,0.062224348345880476,0.3325921044123372,0.07233487405534753,0.0,0.09464194624305992,0.0,0.054981296061783404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04825734523424508,0.0,0.0,0.1581592366762951,0.0,0.11237564008999247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09954869490172784,0.0,0.0,0.06828471035019168,0.14643992442617496,0.0,0.0663841496510531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058789505592269524,0.0,0.0,0.0532939797167025
divorce,brightestredstograys,2020/04/10,"Has anyone divorced young? I'd love to talk to someone and kinda see if I can get advice or at least told I'm not crazy. I'm 24F and considering divorce. 

Thanks 😊",-0.7048571428571435,1.4758968000000008,1.9742857142857169,93.37571428571432,95.28571428571428,3.9428571428571435,18.42857142857143,5.6839178017228535,-0.28545714285714263,128,4,28,1,5,44,29,35,0.0,0.747,0.253,0.8456,0,0,0,0,2,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,6,9,4,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,3,8,1,2,0,0,1,1,5,1,0,3,1,12,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3896000195118006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787767281364205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20830161772353573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.359837692606097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3177081977925065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3378128754930363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.320455839862521,0.0,0.3670646764223964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3809700406949689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,papa_bear_uk,2020/04/10,"Help. Tell me I’ve done the right thing. So An hour ago I told her. I wept as I told her I didn’t want to be with her anymore. I’m weeping now as I write this thinking of her asking me if we could fix it and me saying no. 

I’m weeping for my 4 year old who is going to live in a broken home.

I knew I wanted to do this but has anyone else doubted it straight afterwards for no reason other than the Adrenalin fading out?

Is this normal. What the fuck is normal anymore. Can I get through this?",-0.4013888888888886,1.5456420092592609,1.7959259259259284,98.2166666666667,87.24074074074073,3.9703703703703694,18.259259259259263,4.7782277997778095,-0.7151074074074071,379,10,90,1,12,127,75,108,0.185,0.765,0.049,-0.9295,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,0,2,5,1,1,5,0,10,1,0,1,0,16,22,6,0,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,10,4,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,5,1,17,0,13,15,0,12,0,3,0,1,13,4,1,2,7,62,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16574006156027182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3708534537917882,0.13073569411361782,0.1915756777639885,0.0,0.0,0.1747942817581572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14928252674176262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913380387739314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561917407826165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17285329451065382,0.09768554484486816,0.0,0.10626092259798237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12532389309002595,0.0,0.18754891304843885,0.0,0.18413049593035247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651003637251318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3663871937983804,0.0,0.0,0.19619644889403215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19223912723907705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15967370687461027,0.0,0.14868823531466574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16342242463335427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12421638703657473,0.1198045885535111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35732095027944394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22056274446116886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12040432083976872
divorce,AntiDentiteBastard0,2020/04/10,"I still think about him everyday Lurker here, first time posting. I was with my partner for 8 years total but we were married for only 2.

We got divorced because he had been emotionally abusive in the past (and still was when we separated, but less so), I couldn’t get over it. By the end I was suicidal and thought I’d give separating from him a shot instead of ending of my life.

Some things he said to me over the course of our relationship:
-	“Your parents country is a shithole, no one cares about it”
-	“I don’t think our relationship has a future because I don’t want my kids to have hair like yours.”
-	“I don’t see the point in you going to therapy because it isn’t benefitting me any.”

The list could go on but those are a few examples. I’m cringing while writing this because I know how bad it sounds. But I can’t help it. I left because I couldn’t get over a lot of the things he said. I loved (love?) him, and even though it’s almost 2 years since we separated and a few months since our divorce was finalized I can’t get over it. I miss him terribly. I wonder how he’s doing in this crisis. I wonder if he is thinking of me at all. I think about him every single day. I’m afraid to text him and ask how he is, but after 8 years it feels strange for him to be out of my life this way.

He’s been dating someone, and I am too. I met up with him late last year in the hopes of getting some closure but it backfired. I found out him and his girlfriend had been talking about our meeting and it just made me sick - I still feel like another woman’s dating my husband. I like the guy I’m dating but it’s hard for him to measure up. My ex-husband was really everything to me.

After our meeting I pretty much decided that life without him wasn’t really living and that’s where I’m at right now. I’ve been in therapy for nearly the last 10 years consistently (and on medication for the most recent 8 of those) and it isn’t helping. I just want to go away, forever.

Thanks for reading.",2.279891490576812,3.792697029126217,4.029086236436323,87.75888920616792,76.28155339805825,6.9829811536265005,25.224443175328393,7.724431198458867,1.2254152484294694,1544,54,335,22,34,520,195,412,0.099,0.795,0.106,-0.1059,1,1,0,0,2,0,46.0,9,3,0,1,21,13,0,1,16,0,32,8,1,4,2,60,70,26,1,7,11,2,4,3,2,0,5,3,0,4,21,19,0,0,12,1,0,3,12,4,0,2,20,8,59,9,53,46,11,58,0,1,1,2,55,23,0,9,33,232,80,1,0.0,0.10523287785180767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08893676739130803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06039817882840734,0.09313171043143936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08303131880072366,0.0,0.0834459054613686,0.0,0.07415796103421267,0.2707081810467201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09055421089259362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07091264625248188,0.0,0.0,0.0572792125584746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09990646451571884,0.15732988757898614,0.0,0.0,0.05866237627760944,0.0,0.07483162430777565,0.0,0.0798224285385468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08981645296811394,0.0634504341397693,0.0,0.09729399457886237,0.0,0.07554716093306545,0.0,0.09738256797807307,0.0,0.0,0.18561155512990613,0.08520075737563748,0.15142917350979676,0.0,0.07103456648329311,0.0,0.0,0.08794217229806771,0.0,0.0,0.0795620242953621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906348440966827,0.0,0.0,0.08821469793061011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04881115548443443,0.14479439522648765,0.10018873655848642,0.0,0.09649924841106172,0.0,0.1882008911691504,0.13017357969833124,0.0,0.07842648395983418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07550850365246699,0.16032048730322526,0.08404019898983643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08947315116742464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0708923810371562,0.0,0.0652902530062202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06018427247741289,0.06754885337690562,0.0,0.0,0.09862007076478617,0.0,0.08478527717215051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08396017984155654,0.0,0.08506153358036983,0.09035818072306744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888404073029297,0.0,0.11379608477713313,0.0,0.08769545279007825,0.1907110905685278,0.0,0.07584869668644269,0.16896941766319515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07077514965348726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14693964199089404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07525382405621517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21278660901747726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09715069584979626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07138723577544026,0.0,0.08177018278662976,0.2031385243686875,0.0,0.11801130252736765,0.227639780567636,0.08726163487006437,0.07051027874592268,0.0517895409486769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10477239510761746,0.070498302294674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08561581350765217,0.19263513428082524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2859741591107543
divorce,empawthy,2020/04/10,"Advice on gathering financial records to prove massive addiction-like spending to split debt I just want this to be a bad dream and to wake up from it.

TL;DR - husband is full blown sex addict and emotionally abusive, coerced me into huge debt, meanwhile spent tens of thousands on hookers and strippers, I want the debt split unevenly to reflect that. 

Background: 

I am divorcing a man who unfortunately has very serious issues ultimately leading to a huge amount of cheating, a lot of which was with prostitutes, and insane amounts of money spent at strip clubs over the course of our marriage. I had been agreeing to continue marriage counseling on condition he was going to therapy but after speaking with his friends, business partner and some of the women he was involved with this, and some painfully slow trickle-truthing/lack of honesty, and after emotional abuse around the lying and around our finances continued, and now he is lying about therapy, I am beyond done and wish I had been done way way sooner (no use beating myself up at this point I guess)

I am leaving with a huge amount of debt in my name (my stupidity in agreeing to help him while he was building businesses that ultimately failed over money mismanagement.) A chunk went to living expenses because my income has only ever been 35-40k with some side hustles and he had been working part time, with only a few exceptions, until this year, and he insisted on a certain level of living- buying expensive stuff, vacations, refusing to give up eating out and then, all his money especially cash earnings from his business, tips from ubering, flipping cars and ATM withdrawals just... “vanishing” to the tune of tens of thousands. 

The Question: 

Getting half the debt back including student loans not used for tuition seems like it should be fairly straightforward, lawyer is very confident on that, but I want to be able to push for more because I didn’t benefit from most of it. It was grossly misspent. This has been going on since 2014. To do that I probably need to basically launch an investigation which feels pretty daunting at the moment. Particularly given the current circumstances. Luckily I got out of the house through a friend’s generosity. 

How far back could I get detailed bank statements? What’s the best way to get info from individual or business accounts? 
Does anyone have advice how to organize this and present some of the less obvious cash trails in a convincing way?
Should I hire an additional professional to the lawyer?
I have no interest in getting revenge just a fresh start and for this to be over quickly... 

This is a whole lot and any advice or just moral support is much appreciated. Reading through this sub has made me feel a lot better and a lot more hopeful.",9.719878048780489,9.29851780081301,8.945769105691056,65.97809268292684,59.0,11.774439024390244,42.64747967479675,11.044913438933486,4.962609821138212,2226,113,349,48,25,703,271,492,0.124,0.708,0.168,0.9804,7,0,0,0,1,0,56.0,2,0,0,7,16,17,2,0,29,0,38,5,1,7,5,80,65,27,0,9,10,1,2,1,3,2,2,1,0,3,22,30,1,1,8,3,22,6,4,6,0,5,22,3,27,11,80,36,22,62,1,1,0,1,30,33,0,15,20,258,49,11,0.09259309215574292,0.21941534654015807,0.0,0.10094013770348273,0.0,0.2714426940672443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06296647781832848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06474324293192163,0.0,0.0,0.16485496578825765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14239674487456142,0.07731136433400221,0.11288777912026213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09717073767763176,0.08189106551393313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392804971787949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08102883891932762,0.18950976182055126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09474584916612296,0.0,0.20830953197144653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837557529094377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09363569901014544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430743866248619,0.0,0.19350427604972328,0.08882373116976529,0.1052455761615096,0.0,0.07405515433689111,0.0,0.10200173004706396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062063197893378975,0.0,0.0,0.0919658328817988,0.0,0.10683999656120516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09664313177001932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09804271520585432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04523630776955512,0.0,0.16352279351521667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31487734316201144,0.0,0.08761382260507115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06806657663220182,0.0686566045906728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14084243797794682,0.09852557835210876,0.0,0.0,0.1002692956737089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08753040081946532,0.0,0.0,0.09420046253989957,0.09983101401878657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10372545413906402,0.0,0.09261814916148027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08429327354525264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765939626618435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06553786720186472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10599693781511603,0.0,0.10507354370055198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21177654089617898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05399177664993627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599414049651026,0.0,0.15279799632313176,0.16384141427325807,0.2939843467981904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08583472407886829,0.0,0.10337688070193414,0.1064774863706653,0.0,0.0,0.06740887386778603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0596269155645244
divorce,bunnycakesy,2020/04/10,"NMO (Devic’s) lookin’ ass people? Got dragged, kicking and screaming, through an unwanted divorce in November. Am finally doing better and started dating an awesome dude I’ve known for years, always loved dearly, but never saw him in a romantic way until he called me up for coffee a few months ago.

Here’s the thing. We’re struggling with debilitating symptoms of Neuromyelitis Optica, mostly in the bedroom, and all the mental awkwardness/fuckery surrounding it. Has anyone gone through NMO and got their groove back? Anyone?

Xoxo,

In love and feeling hopeless",6.844375000000002,9.5403846875,6.4212500000000015,70.39875000000002,66.70833333333334,8.55,34.91666666666667,9.188382445141503,3.805879166666666,454,22,62,9,8,141,79,96,0.124,0.6509999999999999,0.225,0.9286,0,0,0,0,1,1,17.0,0,0,1,1,2,7,0,1,7,0,3,4,1,0,2,13,11,7,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,6,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,4,3,3,4,12,7,3,17,0,1,1,3,7,6,1,1,9,39,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981592321930946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860074206828264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3126158458239117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718923737274846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977074637578688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282645282493319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11303111305433733,0.0,0.0,0.2448827166366868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3575788555261423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4035163386318669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252808699060375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17843155615478828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724117526524143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549780167703803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582263635631423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23369786237157866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323489398717728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14851342306287696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774396853466719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439557071822561
divorce,das21548,2020/04/10,"I just want to spend time with my daughter like a normal parent I'm over the fact that my narcissistic ex through a fit because she didn't get her way on absolutely everything over a year ago, moving in with her parents across the country with my 4 month old. I'm over the part where I spent the worst year of my life at first trying to support her new college classes for a different career, while paying down the debt of our childbirth complications, unable to afford to regularly travel to see my daughter until I finally filed and cut her off except for child support.

I just spent a trial period of sorts visiting the area, staying with my parents nearby, and doing a weekend of psuedo-supervised visits with my daughter, mostly because when we went to our first hearing and I begged for my equal rights as an equal parent, she made up a bunch of lies or exaggerations about me to drag that out and have this ""temporary setup.""

I'm beyond the years of emotional abuse, the narcissistic narrative she's invented that I'm solely to blame for this seperation. But what I am tired of is waiting for a ""real"" setup to see my daughter. I literally just want to fly in, pick her up, spend the weekend with her at my parents for now, and then fly home. I'm not asking to fly a baby across the country to stay at my place. I'm not asking for anything unreasonable. 

I don't know how I'll be treated in the next hearing, because I expect her to lie and exagerate again. Every visit in the past few months was fine, until after they were all over and/or I'm back here and she's attempting to ""work with me"" by making more excuses now to kick the can down the road. She wants to wait months/several more visits before our daughter (now 1.5) can stay the night with me. She's also decided that the one day our daughter was fussy during one of my visit days (until she had a nap and some food) was somehow because of me. She's also decided conveiniently now that every night following a visit with me, she's had ""nightmares"" that can only undoubtably somehow related to her interaction with me. 

I'm tired of the whole thing. I'm tired of having to meticulously document every wild accusation against me that has no basis in reality when my daughter and I have spent perfectly pleasant days together in our limited time. I'm tired of begging my already highly-vetted lawyer to take my calls and emails and actually discuss this with me so we don't fly blind into the next hearing. This is the second laywer I've worked with after the first suddenly decided she wanted a sabbatical and dropped all cases. I'm so exhausted from begging paid professionals to take as much of money as they need and give a fuck about helping me in return.

The state law entitles me to up to 50% of our daughter's time/custody, or as much as I can take advatage of being out of state. I'm tired of having to wait for what seems like an eternity for new chances to beg other people for my basic rights.

I'm also beyond the fact that at the very end of this, she will no doubt feel entitled to as much money home/equity as she can possibly squeeze. Nevermind the moral/ethical situation where I've already been extremely lenient with letting her spend money after our separation, and I waited to file until I mathematically/financially couldn't afford the insanity any more.

I just want my equal time with my child, with as many notes on her development and what works for my ex when she has her, and no other interaction with my ex outside of coparenting.",10.21479381443299,7.347144268041237,10.168530927835054,65.3511469072165,59.9278350515464,13.175699558173784,40.15574374079529,11.421723077169249,4.491912223858615,2814,108,505,59,28,938,297,679,0.08,0.858,0.061,-0.9412,10,0,0,0,1,0,64.0,9,0,2,9,28,13,2,1,40,0,30,10,0,4,6,85,79,42,0,9,10,16,2,2,0,1,8,3,1,2,19,37,1,5,6,4,12,10,9,5,0,6,14,8,79,8,124,60,18,104,0,0,3,1,72,38,1,9,51,366,98,9,0.0,0.07898761555116307,0.06505582842632777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059094868025677615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471338863591006,0.15993692484047822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04533476824616448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05485995627344077,0.0,0.12464632768807167,0.0,0.0,0.05126158911510022,0.0,0.1625544728421065,0.0,0.056727358014757985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06807284234273438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12898103272477665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06965116965191656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07498961894168096,0.059045770335659366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16850546214887493,0.0,0.059914576380224085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033708036889407544,0.0,0.0,0.07302870353934841,0.0,0.17011670379763294,0.08061208442415396,0.0,0.0,0.06163110192399712,0.03482992781757011,0.06395154067469201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254103033579546,0.0,0.044684422419657435,0.0,0.13374169359682966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036637568626052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06816990354503706,0.04708775413639978,0.06513870872567702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06308042756371708,0.04449968216975996,0.06758826724695559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10642339643614084,0.07085478583713922,0.147020251910888,0.049431560499016806,0.0,0.12877174642734374,0.14179885028424938,0.12512195185389793,0.06531795228017334,0.0,0.0,0.06995413869979268,0.0,0.09034842102041163,0.0507020521568417,0.0,0.0,0.3701202701197255,0.07219214793447704,0.06363968195475504,0.046217404793951485,0.0,0.06965116965191656,0.0,0.0,0.07515523873603347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07587983717280541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138638002918134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10624740908973733,0.060689690026972186,0.0,0.07531294338021638,0.0,0.0,0.07493471961763451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21316938678372352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15130224581439716,0.0,0.0,0.15037228637259606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04428953947192461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15549255835371184,0.3831104382485623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04526144074391866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055005949131961135,0.19660494500561848,0.052915903397635085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06179950758586464,0.0,0.07442955507461142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14559964827704588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12879102462188938
divorce,EzeSharp,2020/04/10,"Need help getting started I'll keep it short: 26M married to 28F, we have decided to end things.  No fault, uncontested, we have already determined how to split our assets/debts.  In Montana.  I'm not sure what I actually have to *do* to go about this process.  Like who do I go talk to at the court, how much money do I actually need to pay, etc. etc.",0.2266979655712049,2.5602480704225385,2.610610328638497,90.39679186228486,89.42253521126759,5.972456964006258,23.381846635367765,7.3871296695380915,1.0988109546165887,267,11,59,5,9,91,51,71,0.113,0.782,0.10400000000000001,0.0869,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,2,1,10,14,2,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,1,0,2,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,6,2,10,14,3,7,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,3,35,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.44721365064245816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528608275520665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20294933709675106,0.0,0.5111016017914614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197157852547239,0.0,0.2604501988684397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15358718934595486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203669467348768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119458487886868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684436920459781,0.3398076569381209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621859195292397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21596100341849012,0.0,0.0,0.18417342566931535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15222991630137253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Zoklett,2020/04/10,"Child tax credit... My divorce was finalized last February.  Our marriage ended due to domestic violence on his part that had been going on to various degrees for over 10 years.  Most of it was verbal but he was also physically violent and even spent two years at one point habitually raping me as punishment for something - I can't remember what.  People ask all the time why I stayed, and I get why people ask.  I know they don't MEAN to put the responsibility on me to have left, but that's how it always feels when they ask.  I didn't think I had any options and so I did the mental gymnastics required to deal with it.  I also DID leave several times, but - to be fair - I did always take him back until now.  This is the longest we've been apart in our adult lives and I think he still can't understand that I will never take him back now.

Besides the verbal, physical, and sexual abuse he also forged my name to the escrow company to cheat me out of my half of the house while using my money to pay for it.  He told my identity and destroyed my credit.  He filed for divorce to punish me essentially for finally telling his mother the full scope of the abuse.  She was aware that he was abusive but unaware about the depths of it.  When I finally told her she said she was very sorry (his father was also abusive to her) but that she will have to take her sons side and support him.  I told her at that point that I understood and that she was no longer welcome in my life for obvious reasons.

During the divorce he lied about everything.  He insisted on getting the house, the cars, and just enough custody to not pay child support and instead receive child support, despite that I'd been a stay at home mom our daughters whole life.  He even quit his good paying job to take a lesser paying job to avoid paying any money and then asked for alimony.  He did and said whatever it took to justify his lies.  He accused me of being paralyzed for nearly a year after my csection - claiming that I didn't do any parenting this whole time - which was easily proven a lie with photographs.  He accused me of being a drug addict because he found some expired heart medication pills from one of my previous care taking clients in his own medicine cabinet.  He claimed I never worked as a stay at home mom, which was easily proven false with financial documents.  He claimed I was a violent alcoholic (that has no history of alcoholism) and insisted I go into treatment, which was denied.  He claimed I was ""mentally retarded"" because I'm bad at math and therefore I should have my daughter removed from me.  He - himself - submitted the police reports detailing him assaulting me as proof that I am crazy, not that he is abusive and he is STILL confused that the courts didn't accept that.  He is STILL confused that the commissioner told him that even if I was mentally ill it doesn't excuse abuse.

In any case, now that you have some context, at the current juncture he pays the absolute minimum in child support.  He intentionally manipulates and terrifies our daughter when he has access to her and uses any chance he can to undermine my parenting.  He makes everything more difficult and unpleasant, not the mention that interacting with him alone is re-traumatizing.  Especially since he's so incredibly unrepentent and entitled.  Currently he is doing his taxes and despite that he doesn't do 50% of anything he, for some reason, is entitled to 50% of the child tax credit?  Just another way the system is fucking me over, but oooookay.  Unfortunately to GET the child tax credit he doesn't deserve he needs my social security number and signature.  Now tell me, why would I give this person who has already stolen my identity, forged my name, and tried to destroy my life my ssn?  Excuse me?

Now, tbf he HAS tried to be more pleasant lately.  That basically is just code for the last commissioner fined him for superfluous litigation (it was his second fine for this) and explained that he needed to stop being so manipulative and full of shit if he wants to ever get anywhere.  So he's now pretending to be a decent human being in the hopes that the courts will have more sympathy next time he pulls some kind of fucked up stunt.  This is also a man who called me stupid every day for a decade.  How stupid would I be to give him this information?  Couldn't he just go home and laugh about his stupid exwife giving him her personal information?

Now he's saying he has found my information and he'll just use it and send in the divorce documents.  Am I being overly difficult?  Is this normal?  Is he really entitled to use my snn?  Can I take him to court to have his child tax credit every third year, which I think is fair?  How can the court system force me to not only interact with my abuser like this but also insist I provide him (the person who has destroyed my life) my personal information?  I just don't understand how this could possibly be a thing.  Please advise!",6.153741532976827,7.008498437433157,6.755093582887702,74.38754233511587,66.22994652406416,10.211942959001783,32.16087344028521,10.241411754978122,3.34317504456328,3929,155,704,93,60,1289,381,935,0.192,0.7170000000000001,0.091,-0.9990000000000001,6,2,4,0,9,0,93.0,4,1,2,3,43,43,16,3,39,0,85,16,2,15,6,115,143,59,0,12,19,10,1,1,0,7,11,3,3,14,50,34,2,4,20,1,19,10,19,22,0,6,38,4,103,21,95,86,17,91,0,0,0,3,148,32,3,11,44,481,153,23,0.0,0.4024294339019871,0.0,0.052895482881518935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10370923051027724,0.0,0.0502535322223182,0.05354456625178075,0.2328152536479881,0.0807473756808429,0.0,0.0,0.16498106329777767,0.05087891360887498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039928974024158986,0.0,0.18144381871749055,0.0,0.0,0.07461991584579047,0.04051333831829111,0.05915638440606655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049545769597516234,0.0,0.04947079626885911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038740385908758806,0.0,0.0,0.031292285880354744,0.05002342796577757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05626941400067291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042975554304449895,0.05013557191018757,0.0,0.09614377189766213,0.04389037993255118,0.08176273646708035,0.0,0.08721580279904997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024533875358084236,0.0,0.0,0.1594584504646615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10640241095570308,0.0,0.08971449614497598,0.10140170554706604,0.13963843100842688,0.08272748133988304,0.040697444278381255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05749808702753685,0.0,0.0,0.14601274697406658,0.048192693704993614,0.0,0.11197435109046383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09629999568144457,0.0,0.0,0.05052756651005415,0.02666608990146432,0.07910282643419404,0.05473424731841666,0.05137715166451543,0.05271863794278963,0.0,0.13708838573599322,0.023705102823186133,0.0,0.04284528098490925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03238840812383016,0.0,0.0,0.05285402399375022,0.0,0.04888020103434553,0.14669446226310764,0.0,0.0,0.11365534343949735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07195599957466367,0.07484538257726847,0.0,0.05160305434290401,0.0,0.04754066530616142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06575870636984624,0.03690270756781836,0.0,0.0,0.10775453467563133,0.0525439427121728,0.0,0.06727725214666808,0.16946804320215167,0.0,0.05326192131527941,0.09173680408004382,0.054700582703952214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04877740395513165,0.0,0.05160847649627651,0.0,0.0,0.031084048277338662,0.09977615114845688,0.0,0.0,0.05496528217087788,0.0,0.0923099163969124,0.03858616103240856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05481536559968917,0.049806514983151084,0.040137399581410084,0.0,0.0,0.049461452043989385,0.0,0.03735414062700096,0.0,0.0543157295101832,0.0,0.15515205417241495,0.11624774684338805,0.04056605909786419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22024601743420516,0.0,0.0,0.21889230412790506,0.0,0.0848196762825833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03223545899858092,0.09327165266096743,0.0,0.0,0.11317286314464617,0.0,0.0,0.18545709011284428,0.05390905548911559,0.06588568473339729,0.0,0.04739835275351996,0.1010249673696011,0.0,0.16762762644984525,0.0,0.04003523267712833,0.028619176081812026,0.038514025087766635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13134903665830666,0.10834481006112824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035324153650455346,0.0,0.0,0.0689364141193356,0.0,0.0,0.12498475089408374
divorce,lilesthobo,2020/04/10,"Someone please tell me divorce won’t make me happier. With my husband 20 years. Every one of those years has been a struggle. Some good times. But a struggle. Every day. 

He just yelled at me, called me stubborn, told me I don’t care about anyone but myself. Because I didn’t fully close the door when I let his dog out. The dog he said he would take care of. I’m also potty training our 2.5 year old and trying to keep our son quiet while he gets work done as he’s working from home. 

All I did was not close the door fully. We have double doors going to our back yard.  That’s all I did. 

I get through every day. I try to find other things that make me happy. I have no job and a 2.5 year old. My family loves him. He’s successful.  We have some good times. But when he travels, my god I’m just so happy. I’m so happy when he’s gone. 

Burst my bubbles. I’m not going to divorce him but I think about it daily. So for now I just make a part of myself dead and get through every day.",-0.5028241758241734,1.6194746809523828,1.5514285714285734,98.32549450549452,90.28571428571428,3.8021978021978025,15.695970695970695,5.069623422648166,-0.9693479853479854,753,16,174,3,26,249,114,210,0.062,0.743,0.195,0.9864,1,0,0,0,2,0,29.0,5,0,0,3,14,12,1,2,7,0,14,1,0,3,2,30,35,16,1,1,9,2,0,0,0,2,0,3,5,0,6,9,0,2,2,2,0,4,6,3,0,1,9,3,30,9,17,23,6,25,0,0,0,1,25,4,0,2,17,104,36,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897628208409892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07848478151473115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08630999084831567,0.0,0.0684239179156764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11461537773298415,0.0,0.2288838803864715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21716751170327067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148662901164414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3782872685512445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058152270006236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025905078441686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759311876441481,0.0,0.1275836006409775,0.1882926831746128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3584628051311205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11259155782765515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11138650656126683,0.0997691078673796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11477880129489637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013060985174282,0.0,0.2247745667151132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23556589544752776,0.0,0.07606057016611717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12155112112413068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12321203767599286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10677133509358884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09510539098141543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23468708849806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08439477384335145,0.0,0.09810766201929254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07457103481350895,0.07192249232954624,0.0,0.0,0.13090270434609627,0.0,0.0,0.10725554678642696,0.0,0.1524148823251542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634323675516335,0.0,0.0,0.07973610267869534,0.0,0.0,0.2891301225303093
divorce,RenaissanceXX,2020/04/10,"When things are good, I forget how bad they can be. How can I make the decision to leave and stick to it? I love this man so much, but he is an alcoholic and I cannot see the future I want for myself when he is drinking. The problem is that when he is sober, he is wonderful.

Any advice on how to be more resolute in my decision to leave?",1.3641552511415538,2.62875393150685,3.541301369863014,91.3433675799087,78.17808219178082,7.606392694063928,21.755707762557076,8.344100000000001,0.9510474885844752,259,7,62,5,6,89,47,73,0.11900000000000001,0.7020000000000001,0.179,0.7814,0,0,2,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,0,7,4,0,0,4,0,11,3,0,4,0,13,16,10,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,2,2,0,3,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,8,2,7,14,2,6,0,0,1,1,7,2,0,1,4,46,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546894510337893,0.0,0.2785394912423257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17724069963483938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21761929170975308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553230205935605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186082254855776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5519495464657141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352332130423221,0.0,0.1739758491423088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915966730559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493924421175912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20769230603762107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17315427576213294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15372924293006882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28264747908364224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,bluepil,2020/04/10,"Ex wife still talks with my family after a year of divorce. Is it normal? It is been over a year since I divorced my ex wife. We had no kids. We did not really have big fights during the marriage or prior to the divorce. We just had deep misunderstandings over various matters. As a result, we agreed to divorce.

I am kind of surprised that my ex wife still contacts my mother. Also, she probably contacts other family members as they are still friends on Facebook. She is also on my Facebook friend list as we never deleted each other. After the divorce, we agreed on chat that it is better to stay friends.

I remember that I contacted her 2 or 3 months after the divorce. She viewed my messages but she never answered them.

Even if after the divorce, I am still having a good connection with her father. He was like my friend. We met at least twice in a year because he had to bring some important documents I left in the house after the divorce.  After my ex father in law knew that I lost my job, he was trying to offer me helping sharing with me links of job offers on some online job websites. I could clearly see that the messages were forwarded (on WhatsApp). It was clear that it was my ex wife looking for job online for me even after the divorce! I am sure because my ex father in law is not familiar with those websites but my ex does!

My ex wife is the only woman I loved. Even after a year, I still have good feelings for her. I am not sure whether if she is doing this because she wants to go back or simply because  she wants to be polite with my family. What I do not get is that why she does not contact me directly?",3.665851393188856,5.1737086253869995,4.9020507739938095,82.92924953560373,72.65325077399382,7.025585139318888,27.78068111455109,7.554174236665415,1.6815397894736837,1278,48,240,15,25,423,145,323,0.019,0.815,0.166,0.9933,4,0,0,0,10,0,32.0,7,0,2,2,12,16,1,0,16,0,30,1,0,1,6,48,42,13,0,6,14,17,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,2,17,13,0,0,5,1,0,3,8,2,0,1,13,4,51,14,41,27,5,41,0,1,3,1,71,16,0,7,24,189,68,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15931844484039473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07659503894436001,0.0,0.24288880607982136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08809821260676011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07953161924045005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17434126259303054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973772248142927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817143653947181,0.0,0.05036653062949134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3078381665290289,0.0,0.0520428594522477,0.0,0.05661146967870436,0.1670986783678816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06676743999790855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11493821301364215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3953958851846148,0.0,0.0,0.10372997290962946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10822810721648332,0.0,0.0,0.04866511180940787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364851114982029,0.0,0.10873763984221396,0.0,0.08990320222464733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950889091942011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15365294716115138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09759804924174648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757589791216263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10739796634199512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06381363102235216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11284032903941235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07937741082014707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08239960201554894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106172527775675,0.3977490725605757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18776518274780105,0.0,0.0,0.08006389204692582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06762962046834149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11750680132483965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08988381956847892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565859731594305
divorce,guest88888888,2020/04/10,"Ex spouse Hello, I am paying spousal support for X amount of years unless my ex spouse gets remarried. I believe my ex spouse did and is hiding it. Anyone know how I can obtain a copy of my ex spouse's marriage certificate so I can take them back to court?",2.0665384615384603,4.195224884615389,3.216000000000001,90.529,79.0,5.6984615384615385,21.93846153846154,6.742157984588678,0.5263800000000001,202,6,41,2,5,65,39,52,0.046,0.898,0.055999999999999994,0.128,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,1,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,1,0,4,9,4,0,0,1,8,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,8,1,5,8,1,2,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,0,2,24,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3068573766562121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33745213861574885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4944389111264809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22928344268611384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24118303977627956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4980070585872067,0.0,0.0,0.32996408227503804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826080075641394
divorce,Memaw44,2020/04/10,"Two days into it. So fresh. Completely struggling. I'm terrified. There I said it. 

Officially, my husband (51) and I (47) sat our three children down and said we're getting a divorce. It was the worst thing I've ever had to do. And it was something I never wanted to do. He's done. He says he hadn't been happy in a long time (which is true), and he's not interested in counseling. 

It's over, and I literally feel like I'm dying. 

Watching him pack his things as if 26 years of marriage is nothing, threw me into such a panic (heart beating as though it would burst, couldn't catch my breath, laying on the bathroom floor). 

Living with him wasn't great. No real affection, though he was never mean. So why am I wishing I could stop all of this? (It's moving ahead very fast so there is no stopping it. It's happening. But still). 

And I'm scared, and afraid, and sad, and mad, and worried what my future is going to be (a destitute middle-aged woman all alone, forever). 

This sucks. 

This wasn't supposed to be my life. 

I can't see how I'm going to get past this and find happiness again. It seems impossible.",1.2321113602391631,3.506003995515698,3.0615526905829604,89.66225429745892,83.03587443946188,5.8691330343796695,21.39928998505232,7.1686216300943375,0.6800464872944696,853,27,178,12,24,284,139,223,0.205,0.727,0.068,-0.9843,0,1,1,0,1,0,48.0,1,0,0,2,12,14,2,4,6,0,22,3,2,2,6,37,42,21,1,6,3,1,1,1,0,1,1,3,0,2,18,14,0,2,4,0,0,5,10,8,0,2,13,6,16,6,18,24,3,28,0,1,2,0,17,8,1,2,16,115,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416483324890927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14339655191104575,0.0,0.0,0.10919652452852974,0.0,0.0,0.08820275747215442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14194151839601307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13995910506231615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12371267958349735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06915300040192007,0.09770565976652837,0.0,0.0,0.12500164888413298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14290918336594988,0.0,0.15545454239218326,0.0,0.0,0.1507850009736977,0.0,0.0,0.12094172464773965,0.2911799063846087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620683718854344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09660187246748916,0.06681696067715544,0.0,0.12076688619001645,0.1210336087512767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489782714363765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.145360616803329,0.0,0.0,0.21096474551633446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13123066833856756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16046543646847838,0.0,0.0,0.13055862512059185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15566965313715928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26019157562865186,0.10876181485545236,0.13692662787964624,0.0,0.10898479712110444,0.12450663242707093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052891507798907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092215065476016,0.22868500472548006,0.0,0.14297752126656155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817225103290012,0.0,0.2687438068116121,0.0,0.07974935610762889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336005119115622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11284627564964553,0.08066813196864263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12341004498542145,0.0,0.15727415367483394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388925146786977,0.0,0.09715464441964937,0.0,0.0,0.08807282178887864
divorce,sadnsexy69,2020/04/10,"i need advice hey guys! so, i am a 20F and am married. crazy, i know. i met my husband (24M) about 3 years ago. to make this short, there have been red flags since before we really started dating. he had a legal emergency a short time into us knowing each other and dating, and marriage was his only option. i was in love, so naturally i did whatever i needed to do to help him. the red flags continued, and i eventually ended up calling him out a couple of times and moved my things out. we would discuss, he would apologize, beg for me to come back, and i would. 
the past few months, the relationship just has not been sitting well with me. last week, another red flag appeared. recently, i have realized that this isn’t what love looks like. i know i’ll never be able to trust him again. to put it simply, i’m not happy anymore. i love him dearly and i don’t think that will ever change, but i am tired of dragging myself through all of this. i am 20. i should be living my life, not obsessing over what my SO is doing behind my back. 
i suppose what i am asking for is thoughts on the easiest way out. he’s in the stage of the pattern where he’s “trying” and things are “better” which has made it hard to get out in the past, but i know it’s only a matter of time before things go back to the way they were before. 
i’ve been very conflicted on how to handle the matter, and quite frankly a little scared of the emotional stress i’ll experience, but i know i’m ready. the third time is the charm, right?",2.7715043290043297,4.0958583149350725,4.279935064935066,87.2351406926407,74.61688311688313,7.2112554112554115,22.8982683982684,7.793537801064563,0.9483632034632032,1163,31,248,16,24,388,172,308,0.065,0.8059999999999999,0.129,0.9375,0,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,3,0,1,2,14,13,0,3,18,0,32,5,0,3,3,51,56,16,0,6,7,1,1,1,0,5,2,0,0,1,16,19,0,1,8,0,0,5,6,3,1,1,11,5,37,10,33,38,3,49,0,0,4,3,27,17,0,2,24,169,53,1,0.10365805186486568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10129344858913827,0.09188660860924536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10869450549235106,0.0,0.0,0.10280093370051302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09690628568522178,0.0,0.0,0.23911993036318266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646161020821826,0.0,0.0,0.09167712319223913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584646061901372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10965647430584846,0.0892922331704036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11469566278081705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11660135635562545,0.09181026661243502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937646424472377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10139746514452493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054157053771077185,0.0,0.058911259675545814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263776844191558,0.0,0.11034592372379176,0.09285725395456104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06947980714706352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28483877206338903,0.08449514732574999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0732167475649444,0.050642088170729016,0.10389259991592102,0.09153195890022303,0.0,0.08704665661901312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2806663166657708,0.09808375502137627,0.06919255453776202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08273886804303514,0.11017210447919364,0.0,0.15372226402278386,0.07994747991438009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576732389078836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197906679316131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10420497267022748,0.0,0.1102530976800948,0.0,0.0,0.06640600234074849,0.0,0.10234982081599957,0.1112899547598953,0.0,0.08852340991462235,0.0,0.0,0.10377979321008612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574701167536848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07336970263501688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11873994818720443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065974109886573,0.06641989410631963,0.0,0.08229291446395104,0.2417753745534985,0.1191396819032272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07037701292301543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246878733141406,0.0,0.0,0.08552874873791746,0.0,0.16455787337033753,0.08314823664869357,0.0,0.09320103745808644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22090711784999906,0.0,0.0,0.06675238683824516
divorce,6ixthrowaway666,2020/04/10,"[M Toronto] Divorce not final. With someone new. My divorce isn't final and won't be for some time given the current situation in the world.  I've been with someone for the past 9 months and I feel like they're the one.  How wrong am I in thinking that? Is it normal to be confused by this? I literally met this person 2 months after my ex moved out. ... The honest truth is I couldn't be happier with this person, even when they do shit that's probably annoying. I love everything it.",1.7258762886597978,4.00157772164949,3.6424845360824776,86.22455154639178,81.06185567010309,6.35422680412371,24.13298969072165,7.554174236665415,1.2873554639175255,377,14,75,6,10,127,66,97,0.14400000000000002,0.737,0.11900000000000001,-0.3687,1,0,0,0,2,0,15.0,0,0,1,0,3,8,2,1,5,0,11,2,1,1,1,15,16,4,0,2,1,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,7,6,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,4,0,1,3,1,8,4,11,8,1,15,0,0,0,1,8,4,1,2,11,50,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12915717144625008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17574533699795195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09887460882763853,0.13969905620166845,0.0,0.4284250975120827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09553455109117744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17648910578544366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3121680365799869,0.2078358717892211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888608360348696,0.0,0.0,0.1915948710485112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13250793595451354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18667205924320807,0.0,0.3414887830771656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21083310242399148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007265307314876,0.0,0.2198033992341642,0.0,0.0,0.3313732471258359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12529883731450098,0.0,0.0,0.11402522440919155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138003148263697,0.0,0.0
divorce,divorceddad2019,2020/04/10,"Co-parenting and COVID-19 Hey All.

Been a while since I posted, but just trying to get a feel from everyone to see if COVID-19 is being used by your ex as excuse to block or inhibit time with your kids?

I work in a hospital in a clinical area, but I am not directly managing any COVID-19 positive patients.  They are in isolation rooms, so we are not exposed. I've done my PPE training, and I can work without having to see the patient directly.  My STBXW does have a health condition that puts her slightly at risk, but all she needs to do is to exercise some common sense and she will be fine.

Her line is that I may be positive, I could pass it on to the kids, and they could pass it to her.  

I got the letter from her lawyer yesterday afternoon, so no time to sort it out before the easter long weekend.

It's frustrating also, because the Family Court of Australia has released a statement saying that everyone needs to be reasonable, and not use COVID-19 as an excuse!

Anyone else in this boat?

Thanks in advance!",5.273826630222569,6.124303411167513,5.893604060913706,79.7990238188208,68.18781725888324,9.91940648184303,32.412729402577106,10.035473477838034,3.2237992190550564,800,34,153,19,13,260,125,197,0.10300000000000001,0.8009999999999999,0.096,-0.5488,1,1,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,2,2,3,4,4,1,1,12,0,21,3,0,3,2,33,31,16,0,5,10,1,1,0,0,2,3,1,1,2,8,8,0,1,3,2,0,4,5,2,0,0,3,4,20,2,26,20,3,23,0,0,2,0,19,10,0,5,8,109,28,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13682188375350662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11634814906855752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11963121871861145,0.1753035539615702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10429584604523873,0.0,0.14558634271004334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27320542761627536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497234045175362,0.17508609963749794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429250705424566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32697069492339675,0.0,0.0,0.16128992552135898,0.0,0.08650904929130265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893882949122299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13683757508150815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18186236095449676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514106743671778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537244941190412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638584503868219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17199430507687088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759106511265884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360589005199638,0.0,0.0,0.2726756939353412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14152873233982433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15751815039408645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995297655450091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615995974958282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2955364040022189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16492618860105465,0.0,0.2491134323231853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,xxx420x69XX,2020/04/10,Books for adult child of divorce? Posting here and in the ACOD subreddit. My parents divorced when I was six. Didn't understand at the time. When I was in high school I remember it hitting me hard when I started to date girls. Now as a 24 year old I think it's effected me in some of the most negative ways possible. I want to start healing and dealing with these issues but don't know where to begin and don't have the immediate ability to go to therapy. Thought getting a read in might be a good way to begin. So if anyone has any book suggestions please let me know. Thanks.,2.3578996865203763,4.5074026896551755,3.781347962382444,86.73481191222571,78.13793103448276,7.666457680250784,27.78683385579937,8.575989854853784,2.1708724137931044,456,20,93,10,11,150,84,116,0.032,0.8390000000000001,0.129,0.9012,1,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,7,2,0,0,7,0,10,1,0,1,0,17,24,10,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,3,4,0,0,7,3,0,1,4,0,0,1,4,1,10,2,16,16,2,23,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,4,12,62,13,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270638717902093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13064931379708614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19263333350197745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09762100158190178,0.0,0.1061907133701874,0.15672025439198026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16738019341868934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974164516741536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19502203283563024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20537488125350795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910659791390984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19821748686029994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960668170327968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074739382986888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051043254912772,0.0,0.21064441241355325,0.17894989562253494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868997764882955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21166373361491064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891013783904092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264505668542175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17202565082931792,0.21367835849294808,0.0,0.0,0.11972543068961355,0.0,0.14833740341604415,0.10895327837403937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19451661973913925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020850659197357,0.29662441543633833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12032476671787085
divorce,SamaraKai,2020/04/11,"Breaking Point. This is my first post, so I apologize if it seems stupid, and for how long it is. This has been festering for two years now.

I've been separated from my ex-husband for two years now, divorced since last fall. During the few years we were together, I endured constant emotional and mental abuse and manipulation. He controlled all of our finances--had my paychecks direct deposited to his account, gave me a credit card he could track purchases with, and nothing was in my name. The house, his name. The car I drove, his name, after talking me into selling mine and driving what he wanted me to.  I had to constantly walk on eggshells around him, in case he flew off the handle. He was prone to screaming fits that would leave me cowering and crying, but he never hit me.

During our relationship, I worked full time at a slightly above minimum wage job while he had a much better paying factory job. He would work long hours, so I would force myself to stay up late with our son so that he would sleep through the morning while my husband came home and slept. My son and I were going to bed at midnight, and I was getting up for work every day at 4am, surviving for two years on just 4 hours of sleep, often interrupted by nursing. *I was tired.* When I came home from work every day, he would just be getting up for the day with our son and getting ready to leave for work, and I would be tasked with taking care of the house and our son while he was gone. After working full time, I would still clean the catbox, do the dishes, do the laundry, make lunch and dinner for our son, and other daily household chores.

But nothing was ever good enough for him. Because he worked long hours, nothing I did ever measured up. One time he ripped the internet cord out of the wall while calling me a lazy bitch while I cried myself to sleep in the bedroom. Another time he tore all of his clothes out of the closet because he didn't like the way I hung his clothes, while berating me for the way I had done it. Even just days after I had given birth to our son, he came home pissed that I hadn't vacuumed the house and began flipping furniture while he screamed at me that he shouldn't have to do it himself. I cried and nursed our son and pretended I was anywhere else.

Sex was a nightmare. He refused to take the time or care to help me ease into it, and as such I had burning pain every time we were together. Sometimes I would bleed after, it was so rough. Because of that, I never wanted to have sex, and he blamed me for the lack of intimacy in our life. We grew more and more distant, and he forced me out of the bedroom into the spare as a way to ""make me realize what I had"", and in his words, ""hoping I would beg to come back"". The final breaking point however, was a routine trip to the store that set him off on one of his fits, and while our son was crying in the backseat, he turned and ""popped him"" on the mouth and screamed at me and told me that I was a ""fucking retard with no life direction"".  We had a fight that night that resulted in me being locked out of the house at midnight in April with no coat, no car as he had taken my keys, and no phone because he had smashed it.

I was done. Moved into a friend's home with my son. The day I left, he told me to ""take the kid and go. I don't want him if I can't have you."" Then he started his car, closed the garage, and told me he would kill himself after I left. I left anyways, and called the police for a welfare check. They arrived at the house and found him sitting in the living room watching TV.  A few days later, after realizing that I was not coming home, he took the spare key for our car and ran to my work and repossessed my vehicle, nearly hitting myself and a customer with it. He brought it home and chained it in the yard. He would harass me all day and text constantly. He once sent me 34 unanswered texts, and he began watching me from his car across the street of my work.  His next step was to ensure he got custody.

And he did. Even with multiple witnesses to his controlling and manipulative behavior, even with texts from him calling me vicious names, even with his violent felony and drug related misdemeanors, he got primary custody. I've never had so much as a parking ticket and was the one abused our entire relationship, yet the judge saw fit to give him primary custody. So now I have the standard parenting time and only see my son that I nearly solely raised from birth every other weekend and I pay my ex over $400 a month in support, roughly 40% of my income. I fought for almost a year in court, racking up nearly 10K in lawyer fees fighting for even just joint 50/50, to no avail. I've spent the last two years working my ass off in an attempt to better my life so that I can try again in the future.

But to be honest, I've begun to lose all hope of ever correcting this. In the court's eyes, he can do no wrong, and I've had to bend over backward against a known biased judge and a system that would rather side with the money than with the love. When I return him to his dad it breaks my heart and I find myself on the side of the road in tears. Nobody in my life can understand how a man like him could wind up with primary custody, and some days I still can't understand it either. I keep moving forward for my son. My only solace is that someday I know my son will be old enough to understand, and when that day comes, we'll have a heart to heart talk about what kind of man his father is, and hopefully he'll understand why I can't be there when he needs me to be. But for now, every day is a struggle, and I honestly just needed to vent.

So thanks to anyone that slogged through this mess.",6.255939040467732,5.477931416958042,6.3709515075088845,82.78910065344493,66.12412587412588,9.28485612747908,31.07927318583057,8.35264218426727,2.0664457354121293,4447,141,929,51,61,1420,439,1144,0.133,0.804,0.063,-0.9978,7,0,1,1,7,0,135.0,17,1,1,18,43,37,11,1,67,0,84,26,11,9,11,165,150,84,1,27,15,17,2,2,1,16,8,3,15,3,37,84,3,4,11,5,13,29,17,19,0,8,63,10,138,18,154,60,17,199,0,1,5,5,130,74,4,10,89,621,175,17,0.0,0.09481552777766483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040066311551991016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04195614744010297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027977371890457996,0.0,0.0,0.035619228177190716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030766814473097863,0.0,0.09756395371348482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07077485435192937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12257040098655872,0.13728945712018562,0.08158995053202134,0.0,0.0,0.10340057438553253,0.0,0.12971650965577794,0.08975388472106563,0.06389276923518461,0.0,0.17580553423869535,0.2580447708114982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818924855046385,0.0,0.0,0.046401301889602765,0.0,0.03342495289997547,0.04500819684318701,0.0,0.08268633498065864,0.0,0.13213798484363032,0.10857963276152027,0.16855948677925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043831270387677784,0.03657031000141767,0.034034249001818666,0.0,0.0438711730006475,0.030913228480167237,0.0369905169036135,0.06271397038834121,0.038383226528329095,0.045479566527000345,0.033560228618586166,0.06400262017974796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14224349808623302,0.026819249230378588,0.0,0.24081223067269986,0.11922305052537913,0.11821149677472835,0.23084280159638984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07941161732248918,0.035564569080962415,0.04426743068543987,0.04166641698724581,0.02198958901044067,0.06523035995452155,0.045135361343760574,0.08473401640843739,0.13041970373262435,0.0,0.11304684232215505,0.03909575573008741,0.0,0.0353313936680033,0.10622827695802488,0.0,0.04476327519001377,0.0,0.0,0.03611245821537371,0.0,0.0534167390852705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04032275881957231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03193725507022148,0.08505300315554147,0.058826955262401365,0.059336890535099024,0.09257933249409132,0.0,0.04255329374786152,0.0375486201818388,0.0,0.1151779900267496,0.0,0.04198594004117363,0.04261155207774772,0.08133964891034293,0.0608619693241373,0.04257566691828963,0.0,0.04442867215036081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07564868438925901,0.0,0.038320505742311536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08591598497749528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03188444193927999,0.03642548866944193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03309840040307427,0.0,0.12012290824485035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039572963475370336,0.0,0.028320751333726833,0.04264754622798652,0.063907386645276,0.0,0.0,0.041829306434182166,0.0,0.0,0.0454052264735912,0.0,0.0,0.09025229838921194,0.06432037757409574,0.0,0.03683774118725788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16331953145521647,0.04598799210002871,0.0,0.11469975179309368,0.044454885531665315,0.02716557122383574,0.043521645857508263,0.15634392603837408,0.16661591710367096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07080047230568162,0.09527916383098407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03610467255987242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.291292658123273,0.0,0.0,0.3410811453660825,0.04374692081553861,0.0,0.1545987796611093
divorce,separatedmom2919,2020/04/11,"Communicating while separated and things are currently heading towards a divorce. How did you guys deal with a spouse who is disrespectful a majority of the time you converse with them? We have two children and I am a stay at home mother. I cannot just sever communication since we have kids. I am working towards regaining my independence. My soon to be ex always seems to talk down to me and is disrespectful quite a bit. I try to keep things about our kids or bills. He constantly puts that I do not work in my face.. even though he was the one who wanted me to give up my job and take care of the kids and the household. He also almost constantly instigates an argument or takes anything I say as coming across sideways. Despite his meanness. I do try to be as nice as I can and I help out where I can. I do pay for our pets, groceries, and the things our toddler and baby need. I also pay one of the bills on my own. So I am not completely useless. It is just difficult to listen to someone put me down in almost every conversation or elude to me not working after it being one of the most difficult decisions I had ever made. It isn't even like I can go back because my certification expired over a year ago. I am currently working on getting two new certifications. But I wont be finished until late summer or fall.",4.324566801619433,5.6469118615384675,5.858380566801621,77.43398785425106,70.76923076923076,8.704453441295547,30.222672064777328,9.134995656068208,2.6055384615384622,1044,43,200,21,19,355,151,260,0.05,0.904,0.045,0.2117,3,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,5,2,1,5,14,6,0,0,14,0,26,2,2,3,1,37,40,23,0,2,10,3,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,5,9,14,0,1,3,0,4,5,6,3,0,5,4,2,36,3,35,31,4,37,0,1,0,0,31,14,0,8,18,157,45,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042560057715344,0.0,0.23554300272336606,0.0,0.0,0.18810866342353214,0.0978626658452139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09678471428999158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904364238248188,0.0,0.07169522762726002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284019216721808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11991334612512017,0.0,0.0,0.10131238618627313,0.12331402012425954,0.2541937353651756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12125288219387775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553633290326504,0.10638685279719301,0.09909324346458613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061447453508025315,0.11282421666094848,0.06684165104907452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11645444250274678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12070391724490676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07883289289447684,0.0,0.11797449800097068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11671183389932276,0.10453901379245112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326715403552689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057459317701696586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112873865340752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12811402587545495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08720786133987403,0.0,0.11359047229707198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390909520077157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364652346313001,0.0,0.1250949160279375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09352984048149303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10706961340492976,0.0,0.13286816473314308,0.0,0.09728992156120957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09965232717885557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253588202683499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17685928270599527,0.09453212863407627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344087043631549,0.0,0.11555326386786192,0.0,0.06858054515880843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15970175364045375,0.0,0.22977980983383345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06937064745558481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34249195749698136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07573831848628655
divorce,copingbear,2020/04/11,"It all unravelled so quickly I (38M) really believed we were in a good place. My wife (37F) and I have been together for a little over 10 years (and married for about 8 of them). We have two adorable young boys (5 and 1.5) and just bought our dream home together in a nice neighbourhood 6 months ago.

The journey here has taken a few turns (moving countries, multiple miscarriages, a reset of my career as I started and grew a business, …) but it all felt like a natural part of the story. We’ve had a handful of fights in these 10 years, which is understandable given we are completely different people. We’re from different cultural, racial, language, socio-economic, and life experience backgrounds, … but it all seemed to work because we were open and communicative and complimented each other.

I really thought we understood and supported one another. And my family adores her.

All this unravelled during one of these arguments in mid January. As with many of our other arguments, it was about how close she was with other men. This time it was about a texting relationship that I felt was far too intense (a few hours per day at the outset, and has calmed down since). Instead of pausing to understand her side of the story, the anxious and insecure person in me tried to control the situation by asking for things like no phones in the bedroom. She interpreted this as massively controlling, and point blank told me she is not going to back off. I kept escalating it, pointing out that she seemed to have no interest in me and instead only wishes to talk to other people.

And this is when she broke.

In an emotional conversation (which is unusual for her), she blurted out that she is tired of having to change who she is for me. That she hasn’t loved me in a long time. And that she will never sleep with me again — she’s tired having acted for so long. (Years?) And that she's been scared to express all this before, but now she is admitting all this expecting I would walk out right then and there.

But I didn’t, and wanted to understand more about what went wrong. At this point she immediately put us on a “break” (as in no physical or emotional intimacy) and we’ve been living essentially separated in the same flat (the supposed dream home) for the past months. We only communicate around practical matters for the children as she gets space to work through her feelings.

Initially she would say she “was confused” as to what to do and could only see two options: 1. Leave and look for happiness elsewhere or 2. Stay with me for the children, home and shared finances, and be unhappy. But in the months since, we have tried couples therapy (which fizzled out in seven or eight weeks because the therapist wasn’t great and then COVID-19 got in the way of the sessions) and she’s been going to individual therapy. This has been great for her but all that it has resulted in is that she feels stronger that her personal happiness is important (which I obviously agree with) and now she is a lot less confused: she just wants to walk away.

I have taken this time to work a lot on myself and have grown to be a better, calmer person. But I don’t know how to ask her to reconsider when she genuinely believes people cannot change. I feel like we’re throwing a lot away for this abstract notion that she can only be happy outside this marriage, without taking the time to consider what might genuinely be making her sad in it. I know I am a big part but I cannot be all of it, as there are possibly many things at play here: postpartum, childcare, sleep deprivation, career uncertainty, financial difficulty, social isolation, or lack of sexual attraction because of returning to birth control or being touched out by children.

I am doing my best to give her space but if anyone knows what else I could be doing to make our lives happier, I am open to ideas. At this point I don’t even know if I want to save the marriage or become close friends again for a good co-parenting relationship post divorce.",8.371141052631579,7.583636578666668,8.26550175438597,70.95650526315791,61.88,12.054736842105264,36.936842105263146,11.313756151347434,4.165600000000001,3174,129,574,78,38,1027,340,750,0.091,0.754,0.155,0.995,3,1,0,0,2,0,95.0,11,0,1,8,27,34,1,4,37,0,64,7,3,8,10,130,108,60,0,12,21,1,7,3,1,4,3,1,4,8,48,51,0,4,19,3,2,12,13,9,0,6,27,10,76,25,105,68,21,98,0,3,2,1,75,50,0,17,35,431,124,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054385329200322866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06433349269213348,0.0,0.06931091236211251,0.0,0.042899125870157886,0.0,0.0,0.05461677240285507,0.1147126948820928,0.0,0.11528547095974236,0.0471763199157165,0.0,0.11219982564300096,0.06775906555162567,0.05220649683076794,0.1382466168136637,0.06438571065882649,0.054261340149698516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12980571476810965,0.0,0.06432697598419028,0.0,0.20643628785399848,0.09797002950616557,0.06788542392189592,0.0,0.03956731585268743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12820070226947886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05125217862758565,0.1380267102374436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04052277723748066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060014561484298776,0.05783771903890776,0.0,0.09306507032711338,0.04383027029282981,0.11781612882131595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04740082395215767,0.0,0.032054172446225944,0.05885495151541264,0.06973613020554764,0.1029192075207772,0.049069234770535285,0.13528279456019485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19593277448575816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846248145671079,0.0,0.060419898138805224,0.0,0.0,0.0692595552674344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348710165465785,0.0,0.0,0.06496348637788496,0.0,0.0,0.043335116831113414,0.08992126311688979,0.061491367821973265,0.10835084224967644,0.1085901430635938,0.05152068563270672,0.0,0.0,0.15647921890673394,0.05537306708177634,0.0,0.0819066001826267,0.12440370161103954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06508535461344322,0.0,0.0,0.14691304786266055,0.06520804567152608,0.0,0.0,0.04731886484536423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08314814440044796,0.18664550001083846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13287765460069909,0.058567946235353566,0.12760238875961905,0.1607120270301039,0.06410035113473941,0.0,0.23199194307693385,0.06916577591834246,0.058758778547323365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06167625325123548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07860802249296724,0.0,0.0,0.13173934521938502,0.0,0.05239473806912767,0.0,0.048790006167956604,0.0614246004232664,0.0,0.048890034897074164,0.11170610516460623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10150291818343654,0.0689628309715176,0.12279370582916947,0.06254119315667246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043425647017880084,0.06539364958406824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06962214082438346,0.0,0.0,0.04612947830159789,0.04931285154965361,0.0,0.0,0.1403239639046943,0.07123503330673353,0.08151980924180073,0.0,0.0,0.04870706745754979,0.1431006491222309,0.14103144994028688,0.0,0.0586249858005902,0.0,0.08330870131969291,0.06673395095964886,0.1198650428713494,0.1916104886778153,0.07379955730345006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10856196160955213,0.04869879436844498,0.04921331074254662,0.0,0.0,0.056874423731933875,0.0,0.0,0.07055239872609231,0.05914166385551777,0.0,0.13399615004737234,0.0,0.0,0.08716617512828664,0.0670793764991805,0.0,0.11852708206514395
divorce,MargieJoy,2020/04/11,Marital Assets [sc] I currently own a house that is considered a premarital asset since I purchased it in my own name 4 years before marriage. I am very interested in refinancing with the super low rates but I'm not sure if that potentially makes it become a marital asset in the event of a divorce. Any advice?,4.347796610169489,6.506763779661018,6.812000000000001,67.24105084745764,72.22033898305084,10.143728813559322,30.444067796610174,10.355215969177356,3.867451525423728,249,11,41,8,5,89,45,59,0.069,0.7440000000000001,0.187,0.7007,1,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,6,0,2,0,0,1,1,7,4,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,3,5,4,2,7,0,1,0,0,3,4,0,1,3,26,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3497507996175907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433947545548016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3952894541148992,0.3045596550879583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4129863324208515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389113177035322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29607132856067897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33733104137499265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29531769998979274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23048579151211215
divorce,bratpack3342,2020/04/11,"Quarantine, separation and custody At this point in time my child is quarantined at her grandmothers residence. There is not custody order in place between my husband and I at this point. My concern is that my husband will attempt to take my child from the grandmother and break the quarantine, which I do not believe is in the best interest of our child.
I understand he is legally allowed to have the child without any custody arrangement in place. Is there anything I can do to inhibit this? What can I do legally in this situation? Would it affect any custody dispute in the future, and in what ways?",6.211818181818181,7.972191409090911,6.39977272727273,73.6696590909091,66.72727272727272,9.863636363636363,39.20454545454545,10.125756701596842,4.48790909090909,485,28,79,12,8,155,59,110,0.046,0.862,0.092,0.6416,1,3,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,5,0,14,0,0,2,0,11,16,4,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,9,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,12,2,17,14,1,19,0,0,0,0,9,14,0,0,2,66,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31920008306054354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19313325375454649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644198909681935,0.24629698700350244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4904107817963039,0.0,0.4437235840395574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638060108324381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17646076126938698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13685202180889175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2443248434925058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862892589197018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22623674515567524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16671996071051776,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,rae_thetoothfairy,2020/04/11,"I hate this house Being stuck in this house for weeks is starting to get to me. It’s like his ghost is everywhere. I can’t even go near the room that used to be his studio knowing that he brought his AP in there once to listen to his music. Supposedly that’s all they did but who really knows.

I hate that room so fucking much. I hate his seat at the kitchen table. I hate his spot in the garage where he used to park his car. I hate the ash marks on the bench in the back from where he would put out his blks. I hate finding blk tips in the yard. I hate his chair in the living room. I even hate my chair in the living room because that’s where we used to drink and laugh and play video games or watch movies. I hate the sign by the back door that says “This is Our Happy Place”. I hate it when the kid across the street plays basketball because it reminds me of how much he loves basketball. I hate the right sink in my bathroom because that was his. I hate this twin bed that I sleep in now. It used to be in the other room. I would go there while he was out all night cheating on me so I could try and sleep without having to lie next to his empty spot in our queen bed wondering where he was, who he was with, and what he was doing. I hate mornings like this when he still wouldn’t be home the next day but for some reason I’d still be missing him... listening closely to every car coming around the corner hoping that one would be his. 

I hate all of these memories and I really, really hate this house.",3.2205523590333702,3.946870721518991,3.753590333716918,93.73439010356735,72.79746835443036,7.011277330264673,21.642117376294593,6.980632752743323,0.2372329113924048,1172,23,275,10,22,368,147,316,0.228,0.695,0.077,-0.9963,0,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,3,0,1,1,19,26,17,0,17,0,23,6,2,6,3,37,58,14,1,6,4,0,0,2,0,4,0,3,12,1,24,12,2,0,5,6,0,7,3,18,0,1,8,4,41,8,38,39,6,54,0,1,1,2,34,33,1,4,16,177,65,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05142998844904605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884734419813384,0.0,0.10565318093573163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04976610123627975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04612683306045566,0.0,0.0,0.03725863883448916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0565952923373154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07631670175874222,0.0,0.04867602641421233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05280323907061377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053409968560052284,0.030183872940960414,0.0,0.06566716071206366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06150015758446958,0.0,0.8555793222478456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0579507702051447,0.05738136792182344,0.0,0.19998596085106046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06350077565860549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056449686545782536,0.0,0.10202877834381094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05214215478348442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849392248082246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228839319613797,0.05421580424547802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061526084177137084,0.039148304796670017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06036021854464457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05807756212495749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110320926416824,0.05940000027721866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049337605558419394,0.0,0.04594320285238464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562892852452075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0408918437737118,0.0,0.09227477194691112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039223899162090174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19958839748739515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046341808416642684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05569086116095066,0.06265207371413738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12312029389787675,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,BigJaySazs,2020/04/11,"The mouths of babe3 Me 41/m was told by my 8 year old son, that "" he sees now, that i was the one that kept the family working right"" and now that im gone( moved out 6 m ago) "" mon is getting crazier and( im) getting nicer"". Pretty sure that is a win. 
  Divorce isnt easy, stay safe and sane my people. Little victorys make all the difference.  Have a good day!",-0.07105263157894726,1.8189568947368429,2.088684210526313,97.0082894736842,85.3157894736842,5.378947368421053,18.71052631578948,6.6274283507984215,-0.124889473684211,268,7,65,3,8,90,55,76,0.076,0.762,0.161,0.8215,0,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,0,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,6,0,6,1,1,1,2,9,13,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,5,1,4,4,3,8,1,12,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,0,6,31,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19556012611597814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422771433399057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304936448176121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20797431579107115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305223889714009,0.0,0.0,0.18503972944968614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4765998255732953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22111219740925464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472609001082445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23447672052014346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23149624736486116,0.0,0.14949308797384858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529452863204821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244427473150887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18840230877100989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758000095038431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351441197080875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20792515509447732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21080518929069544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16060890187130406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14206754810315547
divorce,WEEGEMAN,2020/04/11,"13 years together with 2 marriage and I’m feeling really confused She was my first. Started dating when we were 18. I care about her and don’t want anything bad to happen to her, I just feel like it should have ended a long time ago, and it didn’t because I was too scared to.

She doesn’t like to talk about things with me. She yeses me to death. I’m a guy, so I know it might be abnormal, I just need to talk about things to understand. And she doesn’t. 

I feel like I’m a parent with her. She’s never been financially dependent. Up until we got married her father took care of all her financial things. When we dated I tried pushing her to take control of it, but she didn’t. She doesn’t take her health seriously either. She’s needs to see a dentist, but drags her feet about it. She only acknowledges a problem when I get angry, and say how tired I am living like this.

Intimacy has been pretty absent. We’ve tried and tried, but it never works between us. She thinks it’s painful, and I feel like it is work. I suggest she talk to a doctor, she thinks it’s my fault. I suggest that she touch herself to figure things out. She thinks it’s gross. I try looking at her during the act. She thinks I’m being weird. I want to hold her. She doesn’t want to be touched when we’re trying, only after.

We don’t have kids because of this. I don’t know if I want kids. She wants kids. But sex Isn’t working. I’m scared that I’ll turn into my dad and bail after we have kids.

I thought about divorce. My parents are divorced. I saw what kind of mess it made mother into. Family
stop talking to each other. People and friends judge.
I feel like I’d take divorce better over her, and I worry what will happen if I leave. I want her to be happy, I feel like I’m causing her stress. 

She actually has said I cause her stress because she thinks she can’t do anything right. I don’t know what else to do. I feel like an ass when she says that. I care about her. She doesn’t change. She fainted a while back. She doesn’t have a eating disorder. But she doesn’t eat well. Mostly carbs and chicken. Doesn’t like fruit, or vegetables, or any type of food really that isn’t pizza or fried. I’ve tried to get her to eat different things for so many years and she won’t. It’s finally at the point where she might nibble if I beg her, and she knows im upset. But she ends up saying she hates it, and that’s the end of it.

It’s hard. I care about her, but it’s not working. A part of me thinks I really cares about her I wouldn’t drag this out longer, but I don’t want to hurt her like that. She tries. It’s just not enough for me.

I’m so freaking lost. I thought about counseling, but I worry I might trick myself into saying things are better when they’re not. She might need counseling for herself, but again...I don’t know how to even suggest that without upsetting her.

I built a life with her. I don’t know what I’d do if I just stopped it. COVID isn’t helping matters.",0.3838217730822251,2.5549332893890693,2.0278401469912737,96.35040514469452,85.88102893890675,4.904768029398255,18.21047312815801,6.2581,-0.2761252916858057,2294,58,523,21,70,746,243,622,0.156,0.7120000000000001,0.133,-0.9626,3,0,0,0,3,0,84.0,6,0,0,9,30,41,2,7,14,0,51,17,2,7,3,112,113,44,1,17,26,5,10,10,1,8,7,5,0,5,39,29,7,4,24,0,0,3,29,20,1,1,15,19,109,21,58,86,6,44,0,2,3,2,90,13,1,14,38,335,148,7,0.0,0.0,0.05321015188953766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04833459168227187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037079996713702094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08974158585249313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04192763367854819,0.04552748120527996,0.0997168324439296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964487945125088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779678052751147,0.11202779406405737,0.05768197337035499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06115628257683214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056968751395725464,0.06249227315118454,0.05581034416502645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673831488170422,0.04555002540605209,0.0,0.14488330180376466,0.056340612810633135,0.0,0.03601434284585816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05140287968621824,0.0,0.19299221366003766,0.23372312891120234,0.0,0.05973128775118562,0.0,0.046380346783072984,0.06593385035745042,0.0,0.042127160115033216,0.0,0.0569758557935607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043609948890063525,0.0,0.0,0.053989963324431615,0.0964354858191144,0.058044640538142,0.048845174749208686,0.05383378532381115,0.0,0.05795928685178565,0.0,0.0,0.03654806896723807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05837191430958673,0.0,0.05889814662746081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056781122714748826,0.1797985489029577,0.0,0.0,0.057735856976540274,0.0,0.0,0.038513790544876934,0.2663897047369654,0.0,0.048148037306881566,0.048254375792829936,0.04578865918187338,0.0,0.059522287516376525,0.0,0.0,0.05159444146842957,0.0,0.05528147213179953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313766661703298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12129247628910834,0.08410863903185531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829399597741498,0.0580202077056368,0.0,0.12109080011344332,0.059047056193829335,0.0,0.037801918575387235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05154531565349927,0.0,0.0,0.0554732130878687,0.0,0.05217464698116486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10479351856509103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04656546734401006,0.05186733750257223,0.17344714546949608,0.10918139227472616,0.0,0.043450686220505096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03859424863305305,0.0,0.0,0.09117345396918113,0.12492020325636825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12299178092742248,0.175305846586792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21735052917703435,0.2096308815702015,0.0,0.08657615030443043,0.031794932321334665,0.0626703712881273,0.0,0.0,0.0605811224760762,0.2591401472375988,0.0593093453401443,0.0,0.05676417316006487,0.06558885495490402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251286461898207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04902601323613843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05256175177936879,0.0,0.15878422348497928,0.11074893440366547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07022675905613962
divorce,thatguyfrey,2020/04/11,"Filing divorce online So I am a 26M Military STBX 23F with no shared assets or property. I’m trying to file online and I’m trying to find out if there are any sites that others have used in the past to file. 

The STBX has left back for home and is now trying to string along everything and ring me out financially. The sooner I can file the better and the cheapest way also. Because right now she’s got me tapped. 

Any assistance with my question is greatly appreciated.",2.6779569892473134,4.981763247311832,4.1733333333333364,83.54666666666667,77.81720430107526,6.713978494623658,22.161290322580648,7.793537801064563,1.1387548387096778,374,11,71,6,9,124,67,93,0.023,0.8640000000000001,0.113,0.8122,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,6,0,7,0,0,1,0,14,11,8,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,9,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,6,3,11,10,0,11,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,3,4,45,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18673891924230315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31759141179559985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17955579225143622,0.0,0.14234633406332092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065217875538016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098649186470756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21342511721279311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18676033527278085,0.25744705605101403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342308945681291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537107337884573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22291297849464128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615861213820042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994173924675833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4756165771393408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016788073885754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18535041775488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,nofi4372,2020/04/11,"The early days Long time listener, first time caller. I’m moving two weeks to a new house. Out of the house that my STBX and I designed and built together to be our forever home. I grieve the life that the house represents and the life that was supposed to happen in this house. 
I had thought my husband was depressed, but apparently he just didn’t feel an emotional connection to me any more. After counseling and glimmers of hope, he said he was done. Poof. 18 years together, 12 married, 3 beautiful kids and done. 
I constantly feel like I’m not worth it; I’m not worth the effort, not worth the time, not worth the marriage. He still tells me I’m beautiful, that he loves me, but he just doesn’t want to be with me. I feels like I go between depression and anxiety most days and work is so difficult now to focus on. This is hard road.",4.1564257028112435,5.367235746987955,4.874879518072291,84.7507931726908,71.04819277108433,9.147791164658637,28.29116465863454,9.516144504307137,2.3825718875502004,658,24,136,15,12,212,97,166,0.133,0.711,0.156,0.857,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,0,3,5,8,0,0,10,0,12,3,0,0,0,24,27,10,1,2,8,1,4,2,0,0,2,2,1,1,7,9,0,0,4,0,4,2,6,4,0,2,9,6,13,4,14,16,2,21,0,3,0,1,15,4,0,2,17,78,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08924134536910695,0.0,0.100391091743882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14181371731714915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16926583183654287,0.0,0.22605754140613835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685890443839021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14761682351025282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19906248635229667,0.18750241205033505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11162472795143676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07458140534633811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11604683466221875,0.0,0.11755689039200318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13163504667892212,0.1303416506484855,0.0,0.6056902251932768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853841849030549,0.12822533845814058,0.0,0.0,0.1161349999286089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11844078956269355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13947741785315554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126743384175984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12483040425223785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10480097045750912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147013765387071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10418248132139606,0.22956495046509284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281932812000677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07740324028238565,0.0,0.10526531558624336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09553747965916247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08450823913862614
divorce,2throwawayaccount020,2020/04/11,"How did you decide it was time? 
Been married for almost 3 years, together for 7 and have a 5 month old. 

I had a traumatic experience a few years back and was diagnosed with PTSD and anxiety/depression. STBX seemed to not grasp how bad anxiety is and generally would brush it off... first few years of dating were horrible but I assumed it was the age difference and I thought would get better as she got older. NOPE.. we constantly argue about little things.. she doesn’t really do much around the house.. if I don’t clean up or cook it doesn’t get done.. she has the “I’m not doing it just because you told me to do it” attitude... our marriage was struggling and then we found out she was pregnant.. I thought everything would change and get better but it hasn’t. I think she had PPD so I always tried to help since I know what anxiety and depression is like. She constantly complains about the baby.. about losing sleep... about not being able to sleep in anymore... huffs and puffs when she has to do something for the baby... lately I have been trying to study for the dental admissions exam and I have not been able to study more than 5 hours in the last 5 months. Every time I sit down she wants me to help with the baby or do this or that. I understand it’s my baby and I need to watch him feed him and all that but shouldn’t you help your spouse better himself? She knows I have been waiting so long to finally apply to dental school and she acts like it’s not important.. is it time to ask for divorce?",2.6358555555555583,4.644155230000003,3.690000000000001,88.39722222222225,76.7,7.2444444444444445,22.44444444444445,8.167268648758528,1.1585111111111113,1179,34,243,21,27,380,158,300,0.086,0.8029999999999999,0.111,0.8769,0,0,1,0,1,0,41.0,3,4,0,5,12,11,1,1,11,0,37,5,2,2,1,55,55,27,0,7,13,1,0,2,0,4,1,0,1,0,15,19,2,1,11,1,0,1,11,6,0,1,19,2,37,5,33,31,5,33,0,2,1,0,30,8,0,7,25,173,52,2,0.2142583916082351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10727441481755133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08914007284997104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16390708312929286,0.0,0.10624337576405056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09536769697412018,0.1001513366984338,0.0,0.0,0.08237573888275047,0.08944840370693999,0.06530496342494405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842412037809616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11332848433631565,0.0,0.0,0.23153720464039626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18454043873627615,0.10873387868932334,0.0,0.11192720832827843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10963036176995368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902609679092972,0.0,0.09628081345831878,0.10479290997741414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11735479756968906,0.0,0.09112403922400734,0.0,0.1174616336943586,0.0,0.0,0.16791174963946062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568100432283589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154193252829103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105500678333888,0.12361270851679505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177508086868684,0.08732459292365036,0.12084639908636748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10467582753038927,0.1073715980452839,0.0,0.09480596712745164,0.0,0.11985016751778133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710190040374022,0.0,0.07875228535927938,0.07943494125964204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11241406992598198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12522829703008834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06862970603195362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084204655085679,0.0,0.09752639636886047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08861837781172935,0.0,0.21441312645624816,0.0,0.0,0.08247328878897305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11199469569661304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07117187745749813,0.06864406298394299,0.0,0.170097230042353,0.18740368675065752,0.0,0.0,0.10236653751166226,0.0,0.14546738361179026,0.0,0.0,0.11152527094609577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06318757530702307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283045210373777,0.0,0.0,0.20696306918759685
divorce,drooseA,2020/04/11,"Child of Divorce My parents have been together for the past 25 years, my dad raising my moms kids, which weren't even his. Bare in mind, he didnt NEED to take care of my brothers. After that my mom and dad decided to move in with each other and start a family. Then along came me. My parents never really got along, they kind of stayed together for the sake of the 'kids.' A couple of weeks ago, (I'm 15 BTW), I was on my mom's phone, being given the AUX cord while we were running errands. We stopped at a gas station and she had to run inside. She didn't take her phone and while I was on it I had gotten a weird notification. And clicked on it. There was a plethora of shady and really weird texts. Mind you, my mom is going crazy.  She's been like this for about 5 years and its getting really bad. For example, she'll talk to things for no reason, she'll spend her money like crazy on random  and unnecessary things, she spends around 8 dollars of cigarettes on 3 packs each day separately so that's around 24 dollars she spends each week, slurs her words, always talks, drives and walks very slow, etc., So she's obviously not in the right frame of mind. My dad has been having to deal with it for a while and I feel really bad for him. Anyway not knowing what to do, I told my boyfriend and he said to tell my dad or ask her about it when she got back to the car. And I told my dad. Having to be silent in that car for about an hour felt like a year. Trying not to cry, trying not to scream at her that she's a piece of shit person, having to be quiet. When we got home, I asked my dad if we could go on a drive to talk and once we did, it all came out. And as we talked more, the more I realized my childhood was kind of a lie. I was never given hugs and kisses like all the other kids around me were, I was never really loved like that, loved but not hugs and kisses and appreciated loved. My dad wasn't surprised, in fact he was happy that she wasn't on any drugs or anything like that. Which now she still is, obviously still is. My dad and I confronted her about it and she acted like a child. As she always does. I kind of blocked it all out but what happened that night will haunt me. So basically I had told my mom I had sex, which was something that was supposed to be between me and her. And she decided she wanted to tell my dad that, to get back at me. At that moment I cried even more, feeling shame, embarrassment and fearful of my dad's reaction. He understood and told me it would happen eventually. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years... Anyway, I was asked to step out of the room and they came to the conclusion of a divorce. My mom hasn't apologized for what happened that night, I don't think she ever will. But I'm happy they are getting one. I'm tired of being in a toxic environment, there is still tension in this house. She's moving out in a couple of months, and I'm really happy. That night a bunch of suicidal thoughts flooded my mind. But I'm kind of OK. I know I'll be fine and me and my dad will be happier and better off. It's just the mild annoyances that she does. She's never happy, and she won't ever be happy. At this point I hate her. I don't want anything to do with her except her be out of the house and gone. I'll try and make updates if I remember or if anyone even reads this. And if you have and you've gotten this far, thank you for reading and I'll update if you want. :)

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""hold onto hope if you got it, don't let it go for nobody."" -paramore-",2.139467213114756,3.582472864754102,3.5633551912568318,91.24462295081969,76.5,6.68327868852459,20.943169398907106,7.365786028017652,0.4193618579234979,2715,64,616,33,60,893,277,732,0.109,0.782,0.109,0.6993,2,0,3,0,2,0,98.0,6,5,3,2,28,43,4,4,28,1,61,11,1,2,12,123,118,58,1,13,20,20,3,7,0,7,2,3,2,6,41,60,0,3,14,2,6,18,20,13,0,1,46,7,98,30,95,54,12,93,0,0,1,8,100,34,1,11,47,416,139,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0468694347673762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08799047688523932,0.0572887417862295,0.06424745609399023,0.0359559981094206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036970591354568635,0.0,0.08702126691549236,0.14120667957591684,0.1482896007661086,0.0,0.0,0.08131337922806647,0.08829483134979979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04676258064319316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18142062936983985,0.053908364437683626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04221542808156697,0.11700771126872545,0.11615877627210595,0.034099227798122696,0.05451056761944338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09254043992734902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061316823367014064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05896826518071455,0.1047679415893142,0.09565476099691377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049844714364105126,0.05949772642887054,0.05346916539141496,0.0,0.05076714111627256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08287313692393879,0.0,0.09014819953260753,0.0,0.16915203654951988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14026838402517255,0.2814257241668265,0.0,0.0522019324400488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053036733925789545,0.05251561509871714,0.05207004381710049,0.12201853581357508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22023971110308668,0.05811611702078333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054067044297554386,0.0,0.18082028042484674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14316201043296,0.0,0.03529367304311909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21354986737289344,0.3715509433764661,0.04220336387602183,0.11239296655361736,0.0,0.03920525381749869,0.16311814099475366,0.0,0.0,0.14885544268839607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05630887293554656,0.035828656250756284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11742019864684328,0.0,0.050474026284294385,0.0,0.046167363993054815,0.0,0.0,0.04998283269809025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10577621971349528,0.0,0.20323386673945312,0.05436307401510584,0.0,0.0,0.05989570991710527,0.045153937545167284,0.05029509316256275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054274197376782594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04070483554040622,0.0,0.0,0.037424348809927815,0.056356437268066564,0.12667525842590344,0.04420486554862375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05783535702671255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950903693700552,0.16999183514263438,0.09242806595789814,0.048679092560655036,0.0,0.0,0.07025400852928639,0.03387939702193945,0.0,0.04197589229446586,0.0,0.06077065672230514,0.0,0.202092732589568,0.0,0.10769352138172752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0436264235929564,0.093559014033643,0.0,0.0848243484575877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037560031530274034,0.0,0.06424745609399023,0.13619597840580214
divorce,itsasecret312,2020/04/11,"I'm desperate I have had extremely bad chronic depression, anxiety and PTSD along with a bunch of other health issues. I've tried for years to get help and am still trying to figure out how to fix all the issues. I applied for disability and they told me my household income is too much to get disability. I have not had enough work experience to qualify for the other type of disability.

My spouse is a very kind hard working person but he drinks too much and has been physical with me. I can't look at him the same, I still love him but there's just so much pain. With this corona stuff going on I have been home by myself for over a month (spouse has been gone, don't want to give away too many details) and I've realized I have way less anxiety and stress. 

I'm scared to leave because I have no form of income and I have so many medical issues that I can't hold a job. Which I'm already embarrassed about. I'm in my 20s and I am honestly my own biggest disappointment.

My family all lives in the same town and they love my husband a lot and it just hurts me even more because I am so conflicted about what to do. I don't want to hurt him and I do still love him but I am struggling so bad. I know my family will be disappointed that I didn't make it work but I'm never going to throw him under the bus and tell anyone what he has done because I want him to be successful in life and dont want to screw him over. 

I've thought about buying an RV and just living in it but that doesn't solve my income issue or where I would even put it. I also have a lot of credit card debt because we ran into some hard times and my husband has some spending issues. I feel like I'm drowning right now and I don't know what to do. 

I'm so lost please help me, any advice will help. I don't have anyone to talk to about any of this.",2.220366037105133,3.5754176269430085,3.847994317232161,89.65205331773359,76.0984455958549,7.1568109643991304,21.77803777369213,7.831003766801068,0.7414433561758313,1428,36,322,21,31,477,179,386,0.16399999999999998,0.71,0.126,-0.7738,5,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,2,5,25,22,1,4,12,0,41,10,0,2,3,57,70,29,1,5,10,4,3,1,0,3,5,0,1,1,16,23,1,2,6,1,4,6,12,14,0,0,12,4,47,8,45,53,17,31,0,6,1,4,27,16,1,5,9,224,63,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820879347687199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927007267099701,0.06717813064619091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11425147709048016,0.0,0.1285259704571306,0.0,0.0,0.1174753836151002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07892471379973004,0.0,0.14028000099552815,0.20483272936380667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07235269679729209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08596546512230276,0.09845230007573066,0.08229213803070366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679879725311593,0.0,0.11096796740172764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08217222950181836,0.1583833724743694,0.0,0.042475048990253034,0.06001261928026276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08777745765688043,0.08058448589194732,0.0954830486817462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15050253124152832,0.0,0.0,0.08929253938526331,0.0,0.0,0.1689187392552544,0.0,0.0842630647136537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17985647307257738,0.0,0.0,0.4383928138410416,0.08336120923885533,0.0,0.0,0.08747745032321727,0.09233302594161646,0.0,0.0,0.0889483215382389,0.0,0.0,0.05933465275199903,0.041040210282230746,0.0,0.14835450023883084,0.0,0.07054237337065962,0.0,0.0917005106696421,0.14283473843964176,0.2274512183674156,0.0,0.05607345768644268,0.17033415335930646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08462539665194442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06705135324499835,0.0,0.1852582641630088,0.0,0.06478921991050562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08938639453837792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07334922971027709,0.0,0.0922113887089606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09819641773375842,0.08444742595176206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07173913021809568,0.0,0.0,0.0841028616756394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20125759465686802,0.0,0.09622653051105223,0.08781943205653774,0.09616471440077656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06751939620499225,0.0734233759008029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06668995367948234,0.048983526208916585,0.0,0.0,0.08026961571663359,0.0,0.11406667906973265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06931226495926858,0.19819142119104102,0.06667862612563881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18346818041707166,0.0,0.0,0.05967417548582087,0.0,0.0,0.05409595243084458
divorce,daucmantra,2020/04/11,"1 1/2 years divorced I have such a better life now. No verbal or physical abuse, thriving in my job great new relationship and a happy home. But... sometimes I think of him. We spent 14 years together. I raised his daughter that now grown won’t talk to me, had to walk away from our business that was a huge part of my identity and at night sometimes I just wish things were different. I know I did the right thing but will I ever really be ok with it?",2.4764010989011003,4.342155472527478,3.628667582417586,89.3069574175824,76.69230769230771,7.187362637362638,23.46291208791209,8.07648339933343,1.1754714285714278,352,11,75,6,8,114,74,91,0.047,0.8,0.153,0.8109,2,0,0,0,2,0,12.0,2,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,4,1,8,1,0,0,1,12,12,5,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,5,4,0,0,2,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,5,0,14,4,9,4,1,14,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,1,7,52,19,1,0.0,0.2364309606366565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18748128904362274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764834009318028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20848449260508006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18050198795552785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22000164026242014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21242184767185904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20016224615484168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19801993839335535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10966599618440252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14094618336061124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19272405869092302,0.0,0.18726165530588024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160903170385765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278351318987796,0.0,0.0,0.2142391582727531,0.0,0.17041233297703626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39471483159006937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16038858839678596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26514076391430114,0.12786187429587467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294695862049501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25700388143344594
divorce,awaythrowing6988,2020/04/11,"Long but need advice This is long but I hope to tell the full story. 31m here. Been married for 4 years and together for 6. About 9 months ago my marriage reached a breaking point due to my wife's emotional and physical reactions during arguments. She called me names, said she hated me, threatened divorce, and completely immasculated me every time she was angry. Several arguments including slapping, kicks in the balls, chokeholds and shoving (all from her I just stood there and took it). Most arguments, regardless of the topic, usually spiraled out of control to two topics: (1) my family sucks or (2) i was a ""whore"" (literally she called me this) in my past before her because I slept with more people than her and didn't always have a relationship when it happened. We are talking about a difference of 5 people between the two of us and all of this info she demanded to get regardless of my hesitations about providing it or lack of interest in her sexual past.

She threatened divorce 9 months ago and I called her on it and said ok you're on I quit and started packing. Long story short she begged me to stay, extreme tears, collapsing on the floor yada yada yada. I agreed under the condition that we attend couples counseling while she also went to her own counselor for anger issues. We went and she went for around 6 months and things definitely improved and no fight like those previously have occured since. We still argue but much more healthy. Here's the problem: she thinks we are fantastic and all is well. 

I still think about all of those things that happened and get annoyed with her and her habits extremely easily. I think about divorce all the time and go as far as ""hypothetically"" shopping for apartments and dreaming of life after divorce. I'm a good person and feel awful giving her false hope but I don't think my heart is in this anymore, but I'm literally sitting around miserable and dreaming because I don't have the balls to tell her or hurt her feelings. 

1. Do I leave?
2. How do I do it?

Please help. TIA.",4.754955244046614,6.795196900523564,5.3713038338118615,78.50087907448071,70.8324607329843,8.489241682148286,30.385407870292177,9.11188708381993,2.80211558858301,1624,69,286,34,31,523,200,382,0.17800000000000002,0.677,0.14400000000000002,-0.9471,0,0,0,0,5,0,47.0,6,0,0,2,17,17,6,1,14,2,17,4,2,2,5,62,45,34,0,7,9,1,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,15,30,0,1,7,5,1,6,4,10,1,2,12,4,51,7,45,33,12,47,0,2,0,1,48,17,1,6,22,196,66,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09229179472806152,0.16744182645848932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07552864207488495,0.07858685641155401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09366531402661883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681543949603853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11514713011903335,0.0,0.0803668131725791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893205815046967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990251094157232,0.0,0.10592951442922942,0.0,0.1045029931649618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09867624254968696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10623933330018813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0795750496703585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903553087263616,0.0,0.09550973632160534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09868854816051367,0.09060146111801064,0.053675987547826605,0.07921704409227387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16703703619872273,0.0,0.0,0.09324613104261843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11191927591633416,0.06330533897578933,0.0,0.0,0.187612898541735,0.0,0.0,0.1011066774922244,0.0,0.0,0.09857736024001483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000049551245492,0.0,0.0,0.06671018837880431,0.046141673239018265,0.0,0.0,0.25074591103857186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22615831720074706,0.0,0.06942887013372487,0.0700307069900913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18031928892897064,0.1309542931800437,0.0824668335359546,0.0,0.10367363464916653,0.08928224588237177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09037231805722913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10045522589024912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10139994050016858,0.0,0.0,0.17968004740908955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10669739367273616,0.0,0.0781269243994956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06684955077712687,0.1006671494513801,0.15084981461947208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07591232831317794,0.16510039279147218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12549180038716873,0.24206940599225904,0.0,0.0,0.11014475047196877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049332728719438,0.0,0.0,0.18452054995361425,0.0,0.11360722504042745,0.0,0.10401921498113596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08491853261323798,0.2626578949270897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06082029656895392
divorce,jammyjr,2020/04/11,"Filed Petition, Now What? This may seem like a dumb question, but after searching online I can't seem to find a clear answer. I'm in CA and with the quarantine situation going on, I didn't file with an actual human clerk but was directed to put the documents into a physical drop box in the Family Law Dept of the courthouse. But then I realized, don't I need to pay a filing fee? Would someone contact me about when they're ready? Is everything just going to get mailed back to me with an invoice? How long does that process take before I get copies back? Sorry, I guess I'm just antsy and was wondering if anyone who's been through this process could answer my questions. Thanks again!",4.496641791044773,5.993268365671643,5.1345074626865665,82.11758208955227,70.56716417910448,8.64358208955224,27.579104477611946,9.120678840339163,2.25503223880597,547,19,104,11,10,176,96,134,0.048,0.8370000000000001,0.115,0.8656,0,1,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,9,3,1,0,10,0,10,0,0,1,1,29,23,9,0,4,6,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,5,6,0,0,9,0,2,3,3,1,0,0,4,0,9,2,16,16,0,16,0,0,0,0,6,4,1,8,9,65,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.18025774438477185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12915884985986778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840728848124985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15718108350933638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14748198331654122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616476278660548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16601227984205624,0.0,0.1741353260249079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16882855177733436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19301465763638745,0.0,0.20995855249563786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20348727589145613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09024369523112064,0.0,0.0,0.16346927471975384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13696576944005456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856922203428148,0.413852002189052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3363199546082704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076303362991788,0.0,0.0,0.15651063400523169,0.0,0.0,0.20677624462268174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13888465653363635,0.0,0.0,0.17006316039300504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20031837169798195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13121809241904586,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,gddr1999,2020/04/12,"How did you experience your parents divorce? So long story short, my parents are getting a divorce. (After 25 years.) My dad has cheated on my mom for the last 5 years. And still they tried to go into relationship therapy, however this didn't work. 

The only feelings I have actually had so far is how all memories from the last 5 years feel fake. But I am not really feeling any sadness, or anger. Is that weird? Or is that still coming? 

In a way I had a feeling about my dad's affaire, even before my mom had any suspicion. But I just couldn't bring it up in my head. It's like I knew but didn't want to believe. But now that I know I don't see my dad any different. Although he hurt my mom a great deal. 

I guess I'm not really looking for answers right now, I don't really know how this is going to play out. But I would appreciate if people could maybe share their stories. I do not really know how to deal with this story. So I hope the stories of other people might give me some insight in what's to come.  I've seen it happen a lot of times with other people. I guess I just never saw it coming in my own family. 

Thanks! 

-Anonymous (Male 20)",1.1948417721518965,3.2834688691983125,3.397114978902956,88.29541930379749,81.82700421940929,6.312869198312237,21.689345991561183,7.492282038375204,0.8575345991561178,890,28,188,14,24,304,133,237,0.086,0.804,0.11,0.9104,4,0,0,0,2,0,31.0,0,2,2,1,15,12,2,0,9,0,21,1,1,4,2,47,48,17,0,6,13,8,4,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,13,8,0,0,10,1,0,6,9,6,0,0,9,8,28,6,22,35,4,31,0,2,4,0,22,11,0,9,14,125,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.10188759925232793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21300400645085293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884391237283719,0.1176325845981272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698159389866698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08336166229296113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21528108257055928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10908462212554693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06896080542736112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10213151169459267,0.09842700725150172,0.0,0.21116822503059512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054549112866694914,0.10015811197010334,0.11867547177674333,0.0,0.0,0.11511069957843875,0.23003538726991946,0.0,0.0923280594390994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10715320537058028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037011625822626,0.0,0.0,0.1117714195801006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17214048303042548,0.17021366589265535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05100870138001352,0.0,0.0,0.09239820463504056,0.08767681337781418,0.0,0.0,0.08876434196676836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10489233501467904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11076088021718976,0.0,0.36684579162072095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805262436116196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07940734130035762,0.0,0.0,0.2318664855667913,0.0,0.0,0.2171510469716675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675469409413145,0.0,0.0,0.11209561599839132,0.0,0.08916425733181804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08320002758240456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16676146760643062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09612528545081847,0.11940017727458813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0608814146844786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07088649314982957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06158281688916819,0.08287457849466473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07601060491057647,0.0,0.0,0.07416877682940831,0.0,0.0,0.2017068819411309
divorce,disco_mop,2020/04/12,"How the hell do you deal with it when your SO starts seeing someone else? This may sound like a dumb question, but does anyone have any tips or pointers on how to cope with your SO seeing other people?

My wife and I are separated, heading towards divorce, and she has started seeing someone new. He's always there when I pick our daughter up or drop her off. When my wife picks her up she's often headed to his house. (This is all happening while we are supposed to be social distancing.)

The separation isn't mutual. I have been with her for 10 years and have been pushing to work things out. I have finally accepted the reality that it will end in divorce, but discovering that my wife is already seeing someone else has really been a hard emotional blow. 

Has anyone discovered any tricks that helped them deal with this type is situation?",5.6444425385934816,6.929007886792455,6.077461406518013,77.23533447684395,67.61635220125785,9.05225843339051,30.17781589479703,9.339509955726095,2.695259119496856,670,25,120,13,11,216,103,159,0.07400000000000001,0.884,0.042,-0.6384,0,0,0,0,2,0,16.0,2,3,1,1,10,5,3,0,5,0,20,2,2,4,1,22,27,15,0,0,4,4,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,10,9,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,3,6,19,2,16,21,1,19,1,0,4,0,24,7,2,5,11,88,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15608773016570862,0.0,0.11769331109710265,0.0,0.0,0.19237447601599567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978028288407663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2916465244884256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12377919941992373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363177736411857,0.1591062357726464,0.12527801032979036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549457416571026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12507907023994375,0.0,0.12670665764671535,0.0,0.29032611282862386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09480739266585177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632081789242935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0691027297824604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13660816081661986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980599369316044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15845042140593832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09061308886426432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4508524128922751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15898975531950146,0.0,0.14418504660105627,0.3595368747494088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20023055598791512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09396956550695612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10297341727258713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09108574145810384
divorce,MightyTOne,2020/04/12,"Are you hated by your ex? Let me preface this with some truth bombs. I didn’t cheat, didn’t lie, didn’t steal, didn’t do anything that would produce such strong negative emotions from my soon to be ex husband. And he HATES me. I see all these posts about people who have decided to get a divorce and are still living together... how? I am kind and patient with him, and all he’s doing is hiding money, being nasty or flat out ignoring me when we have to interact for the kids. I went to classes geared towards this type of situation for help so I don’t completely fuck up my kids through the process. He’s just so unfeeling and downright mean. He cheated on me, hid money while we were together as well as now and lying about it to the lawyers, he was a drug addict who I encouraged to get help but he always had it “under control” according to him. And still I’m nice to him and I go out of my way to do nice things like I’ll mail him our kids paintings and send him photos and have them call him when he doesn’t even seem interested. Am I wrong? Sorry for the long post. Thanks for listening.",2.5391833844701424,4.274864103139013,3.6976823223979243,89.45663441113994,76.13004484304932,7.026575407127685,24.74132641019589,7.85451343220497,1.2186556053811657,857,29,183,13,19,278,138,223,0.129,0.7390000000000001,0.132,0.5852,0,0,1,0,1,0,23.0,3,2,1,3,15,18,5,0,6,0,24,3,0,3,3,31,37,20,0,1,3,3,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,3,9,16,0,2,3,0,2,3,7,8,1,0,8,2,27,10,30,25,3,20,0,0,1,1,36,6,1,3,9,126,36,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17671537725802386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13488205588365146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333963379067742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655245190893848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16996112266086966,0.0,0.1818114547061936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18798714335380504,0.0,0.0,0.1823432103734214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10706700582833628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14986091598108972,0.16938346787091715,0.0,0.09212644305456276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32008481907861674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21730743942088848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16880454608485665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1657605311065193,0.0,0.07919497015884489,0.0,0.14313925463037294,0.14345538821480458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17657686972215056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11238128802616047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3104982883242933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12917450402266747,0.14757179823372846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822097183096499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18146019487025766,0.0,0.0,0.2589101289277509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492419706213269,0.0,0.0,0.10769353048122146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12866921904001785,0.0,0.0,0.1457493884411498,0.15027040771425698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11515278587399043,0.17723336069760046,0.0,0.0
divorce,Silly_Initiative,2020/04/12,"I’m done. Easter Sunday 2020- The straw that broke it. I want out. 35 Female, Married 17 years, we have a 6 year old daughter. For my daughters sake, I was to remain in the same house as we work through the separation. Does anyone have tips for me. To make this work? Otherwise I’m so fucking done with my marriage.",0.31190476190476346,2.7451979682539718,1.7495238095238117,94.98714285714287,93.12698412698411,4.06984126984127,19.698412698412696,5.82211442006289,-0.09047301587301604,244,8,51,2,9,78,50,63,0.047,0.9309999999999999,0.022000000000000002,-0.3612,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,4,0,5,1,0,1,0,7,10,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,7,0,9,7,1,6,0,1,0,1,5,2,1,0,4,30,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917076576714327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23993004072091614,0.5611469382633638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534678875275584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3163580407597085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18301214943594976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2876977241444121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617139351150967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3992014218086296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3531159639027364
divorce,de37timechamp,2020/04/12,Need help My wife and I have been together for 17 years. We have not had sex in 14 years. I did not fall in love with her because of the sex. I fell in love with her because of who she is. However we are now getting divorced. To be honest the sex wasn’t very good at all. She is no good at it. How do I tell her that she is horrible at sex and not make her feel bad. I want her next relationship to last and it will not last this way very long. Most men will not be as patient as I was and not have sex for 14 years. I have had sex with a blowup doll that is better than her. The next man will leave her immediately or 6 months later after the newness wears off. Please help.,0.03510204081632652,1.8595617619047644,1.8782585034013617,99.05126530612246,84.4421768707483,5.280544217687075,17.282993197278913,6.42735559955562,-0.5440590476190477,517,11,132,5,15,170,83,147,0.106,0.7609999999999999,0.133,0.5346,1,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,2,0,0,1,2,7,0,0,5,0,21,9,1,2,1,23,28,8,0,2,7,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,6,9,0,0,1,0,0,2,8,1,0,0,6,1,20,6,20,17,2,23,0,0,0,8,23,7,0,2,13,88,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14410757671897995,0.21042164279920272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15264409194959574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08726798314180856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09017248805044667,0.0,0.0,0.2895248980736486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313703070406635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813719407543162,0.0,0.18275059850484135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15273898264297725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3115430440841688,0.0,0.11520687265614014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13776173315215542,0.0,0.0,0.12797519483126765,0.0,0.16669096799128658,0.36710828686740543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894548000917654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852998163109235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15085350300116915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2848138713800686,0.10179956241674844,0.13699593900377846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3334318460132917
divorce,Throwawayz70,2020/04/12,"Ex wife ruining my relationship with my girlfriend So my ex wife were together for 5 years, married for 4. We've been divorced for 2 years. I divorced her for cheating on me and because we would argue over different parenting styles. We have a son who's almost 3 years old and split custody. He seems to have behavioral issues as he's a very difficult child who constantly throws tantrums, breaks things, screams the moment I'm out of his sight, throws things, hits things (and people), pulls things, is a picky eater, etc. I have a girlfriend and recently my son climbed on her and aggressively ripped a bit of her hair out while she was lying down on the sofa sleeping. She immediately woke up and yelled in pain. She picked him up and set him on the floor off the sofa then he began to scream and tried to hit her and threw a nearby toy at her head.

For sleeping, I've tried the cry it out method but he ended up screaming all night, 10 hours straight while my girlfriend and I got zero sleep. And that morning he was up all day. He doesn't seem to require much sleep. He hates sleeping. He's not potty trained either and is still in diapers. I've tried but it seems extremely difficult with him. Lastly, he still can't talk aside from the basic ""mama, dada, baba"". I've tried contacting my ex wife about all of this but she ignores me and wants nothing to do with me. I suspect it's because she thought I would forgive her and stay with her after she cheated on me during our marriage. She's been even MORE bitter since finding out I have a girlfriend.

I found out through a couple of my cousins (who go to her apartment a lot for play dates with their kids and my son) that my ex wife feeds him candy and junk food, she rarely plays with him, she doesn't discipline him when he misbehaves, she doesn't clean up after him and just lets her apartment remain destroyed and messy, he doesn't have a specific bedtime, she won't try to potty train him, and she doesn't try to help him use more words with his talking. I on the other hand, do all of this, or at least I try my best. But no progress is being made. NONE.

My ex wife hates confrontation. I tried pushing for full custody but she ended up putting a stop to that by calling CPS and lying to them, claiming I abused our son. They then took our son from me and I had to get another lawyer (after the divorce one) to fight for at least split custody again and support with evidence that I did not abuse our son. The divorce and CPS cost me 100k total. Over 70k went to my ex wife. She did everything in her power and manipulation to get every last dime from me. I truly hate her for it.

Anyways, I have an amazing girlfriend who's a first grade teacher who generally likes being around kids...except mine. Well, she did at the very beginning until she experienced his bad behavior and resistance to discipline, or inability to improve. I suspect this is because my ex wife gives him no boundaries nor discipline at all. He's also gotten to the point where he won't eat 99% of what my girlfriend and I cook or make for him. He literally just won't eat at all and at times, chooses to starve himself. If I place the food in his mouth, he immediately spits it out and screams. He recently ripped out a bit of my girlfriend's hair and threw toys at her head while she was sleeping.

Speaking of sleeping, he'll only sleep if I co-sleep with him. This includes naps and overnight. I found out my ex wife has been co-sleeping with him for the past couple years at her place. I really want my girlfriend to sleep in the same bed as me but my toddler won't allow it. She's also getting fed up with his destructive behavior. She's basically taking the toll for my ex wife's lack of proper parenting. My girlfriend also has a higher than average sex drive (I love intimacy as well) but almost every time we have sex, we're interrupted by my son, the exception being when he's at his mom's house. Our relationship is going downhill.

I really don't know what to do. I'm depressed, broke, sexually frustrated, exhausted, etc. No, it's not my girlfriend's fault. My wife won't step up as a parent. In fact, I recently found out she's been dumping our son at her parents house a lot, almost every day that she's supposed to have him. She hates responsibilities, she hates being confronted, and she'll do what she can to manipulate to get her way. She also doesn't have a job and hates working. That's probably why she used her lawyer (that her parents paid for) and CPS to get so much money out of me. My girlfriend is truly the sweetest person and nothing like my ex wife, but my girlfriend is at her wits end.

TL;DR Read above. Ex wife won't step up to the plate, manipulated the legal system to get every dime out of me, doesn't teach our almost 3 son boundaries (who misbehaves a LOT), feeds him nothing but junk food, and refuses confrontation with me. We have split custody. She dumps our son at her parents house the first chance she gets. All of this is taking a toll on my girlfriend. My son ripped a bit of her hair out and threw toys at her head. No matter how much I try, he's not improving. Probably because his mom does nothing.",4.993683196918632,5.7175969491691125,5.463700850585783,83.08570052961001,68.75562072336264,8.414403058023664,29.54040647203864,8.489948576735458,2.0270298624181136,4081,146,819,59,67,1309,374,1023,0.171,0.767,0.062,-0.9988,9,0,1,0,7,0,127.0,12,0,3,8,22,46,21,0,41,0,60,32,18,10,9,142,111,70,0,7,22,43,4,2,13,10,2,6,4,3,33,65,9,7,13,8,5,16,25,35,2,4,28,13,153,11,134,66,29,125,0,3,1,3,191,62,0,15,44,533,186,9,0.0,0.1035927179351636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17510119739208033,0.0,0.0,0.1398388057571316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045840079671344375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03891654398929746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036501067427246466,0.10659556904413726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04587728697431078,0.0,0.14317978016087726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0446389646443246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04724150889368837,0.0,0.0,0.09674193366104024,0.048020017255338346,0.056386458597800386,0.0,0.03765256124321336,0.0,0.0,0.04567395737456829,0.0,0.0,0.038256201250934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894648453990192,0.0,0.0,0.11615830764667913,0.0,0.0975098809533608,0.02887403216174818,0.0,0.14733059682093208,0.0,0.03928915797655052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0399556686291079,0.07436968267999355,0.15858482748807345,0.14379714451828696,0.0,0.0,0.1598787863167851,0.04193640907125066,0.049689666001678685,0.0,0.0349637107697136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2589632339783983,0.1345958075285318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029301940155522982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043051493530305546,0.1513273223931003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04562818803556259,0.04338142426077194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02402519234202227,0.07126881469692921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04470261281044803,0.0,0.04271489797858874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114974418678114,0.039455432939453965,0.041365174111408165,0.02918079619855352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10239939552152257,0.0,0.0,0.0964089584214386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041024542187573065,0.0,0.16778687785062446,0.0,0.04587263021018128,0.0,0.02962312012252245,0.03324801838343578,0.04651694883047221,0.0,0.29124893423144765,0.0,0.04173190680729053,0.03030719781263605,0.03817115997135987,0.09134791474913656,0.0,0.041325788126598165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942665701328848,0.0,0.0,0.04394669470840582,0.0,0.0,0.043727870238128984,0.0,0.05601122934718361,0.0,0.1294929468412753,0.0938693334995284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11939232302431615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03616236008410923,0.0,0.4812237238396308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04659548209637635,0.06982337211940334,0.036548566962211836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0496084441979868,0.0,0.0,0.06573804318885873,0.07027459412704039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161719780494329,0.0,0.0,0.034705652676069315,0.050982349024447315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048570129024864316,0.2671228944212231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07551324513972034,0.0,0.07214062272195408,0.05156970613813013,0.03469975778294564,0.0,0.0,0.07861194019289748,0.04052520710495236,0.03944692655623605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031825797816902084,0.0,0.0,0.06210924116382694,0.0,0.0,0.11260678603971895
divorce,jennalynn2787,2020/04/12,"Stuck in a nightmare I honestly never saw my divorce coming at all... I constantly find myself wishing and hoping this was a horrible nightmare.. My ex husband and I seemed to be doing okay, we had fights/arguments here and there like any other married couples, but never in my wildest dreams did I ever see us divorcing. Like holy shit, the heartbreak that comes with this territory sucks in fucking plain English. We JUST welcomed our daughter into the world 7 months ago! I feel so alone, scared, and down right depressed. I wish I can rewind time and fix all of my mistakes.. The only good thing with the Corona virus is that it's prolonging me being served the divorce papers.  Has anyone on here served their significant other the papers and decided not to go through with their divorce?  I literally find myself hoping with everything that he changes his mind and doesn't want to go through with it.",5.5545174825174835,7.6325149878787935,5.379393939393939,79.10139860139861,68.81818181818181,7.7435897435897445,31.480186480186482,8.384062270229773,2.595759906759907,723,31,120,11,13,224,114,165,0.158,0.675,0.166,-0.4528,0,1,0,0,4,0,20.0,4,0,2,0,6,15,3,1,8,1,10,2,1,0,5,37,26,9,0,6,3,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,17,0,0,5,1,0,4,4,7,0,0,5,3,22,8,18,19,2,20,0,2,2,1,16,9,3,3,9,87,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14062657038310786,0.0,0.0,0.16430527893461375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788200719563296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11092618234105947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16782221191242527,0.2733120898171707,0.0,0.17143565472674185,0.0,0.0,0.1755343671815622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366381311696722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14350078090951218,0.0,0.0,0.1425772097273596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0802141671599124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2899918470805243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146661982369392,0.0,0.0,0.1803198209295348,0.1330613916749844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31513462364314204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15500894601026813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16018320683547416,0.0,0.1266265392354664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447089969103607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12065439765605347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13547941014833353,0.0,0.0,0.15882832781722808,0.0,0.12641714290561254,0.14442172816764054,0.0,0.0,0.16284374401513768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10539470258361107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09250543207862183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19082680553700146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09357116805637417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3648609656698744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Lucas_daul,2020/04/12,"When can you start dating? My marrage has been over for a while now, and am about to file. When I was widowed the one year rule seemed the norm, but this is different. Is filling ok, or when the divorce is final?

P.S.I have been faithful,  not sure on her end.",1.7948076923076923,3.8560027115384656,2.3083076923076935,97.03669230769232,79.57692307692308,4.929230769230768,21.93846153846154,5.6839178017228535,-0.034389230769230394,199,6,44,1,5,61,45,52,0.078,0.8,0.122,0.5449,2,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,1,0,0,5,3,0,0,4,1,10,0,0,0,1,6,12,7,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,0,4,3,5,9,0,13,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,2,10,34,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4206848219657269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3566294651708345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44108472693815376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27284688542779223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3665585455598938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28499860392438153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3794940069706976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592941823978507
divorce,throwawaybrokenman1,2020/04/12,"Is there a future for a divorced 36 year old guy with 4 kids? I'm a 36 year old man that was married for 12 years (together for 14) with a woman. We had 4 children and we divorced early last year, because I found out she had been having an affair with a friend of mine for 1-2 months (she invited him to our house while I was away with the kids). This wasn't the first time something like this happened, as I caught her sending sexual photos of herself to another guy 10 years back, which I (had tried) to forgive her for. 
Tbh our marriage was already kinda shitty because we've been growing apart for quite some time and it either needed to improve or end. I haven't missed her a single day and I don't regret my decision to leave. 

I then met a woman that I connected extremely well with. We could talk about everything, we communicated really well and we had so much fun.
We recently broke up, because she didn't want to deal with the baggage that comes with a divorce and 4 kids. She said she loved *me* and that it's not about who I am, but rather the total package. 

I really understand her choice, but it makes me very afraid for my future. Who will want a 36 year old guy with 4 kids? I feel powerless, since it doesn't seem to matter if I'm a great guy or not, the total package will always be too much. She also wants kids (in 5+ years from now), and I said I'm willing to have 1 more if we have a strong relationship over time and everything worked out with her and the kids. She said it's not really good enough for her since she feels like I will only be having that child for her sake. While there is some truth to that, I wouldn't love that child any less than any of the others. 

I feel like my life is over and I don't really know how to change my way of thinking. Nobody seems to want to have a child with a guy who already has 4, and I'm afraid to go into a relationship with someone who already has kids, cause I already feel like I have enough with my own. 

Do you have any tips as to how I can heal from all of this? 
I feel like I should just be alone after this. That I don't deserve anything because of my failure. 
I can't see a happy future for my life anymore.",3.980950544464612,4.225151546052634,4.930133091349063,87.72236842105266,70.8201754385965,7.956321839080459,25.59255898366606,7.753152298057669,1.1224311252268606,1699,45,379,19,29,556,204,456,0.075,0.82,0.105,0.9054,1,1,1,0,3,1,47.0,9,1,0,4,15,22,0,2,23,0,42,5,0,4,4,80,75,26,0,12,12,0,5,5,1,6,3,3,0,19,23,34,0,0,13,0,0,5,12,5,2,1,17,9,60,17,58,48,14,44,0,3,1,2,68,9,0,9,34,257,83,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07508491573307109,0.32000849032405304,0.05797573798460703,0.06032322137915425,0.0,0.0,0.1479011168464448,0.076019311916466,0.0,0.0,0.07189743592727582,0.0,0.0,0.05965876461476844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.068113216068222,0.05574563464020296,0.0,0.17677372880189432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0744742778154692,0.07669209852105034,0.0624496527616697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05788286878139023,0.0,0.0,0.04675449753516291,0.07474111186599683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06421072770081968,0.14981733723520962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13031106300723885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18328303329186826,0.2071671752515352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06166581892213829,0.0,0.07948909964239748,0.056010918579540735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04120165416256843,0.060806953045113736,0.0,0.07992807887655815,0.0,0.35891660292548355,0.06410876177795508,0.0771742891351559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08365167923617997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03984239564144977,0.0590946426490339,0.0,0.07676374043260037,0.0,0.0,0.1024133969870324,0.1770915962731315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308625501931024,0.0,0.04839223806095117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05786632717898905,0.0,0.1065871137852381,0.05375552648369927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282198771933898,0.0,0.0,0.05513715286308261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0771093679881503,0.0,0.0,0.18577346047808,0.0,0.07158193432098921,0.15566906065288136,0.0,0.0,0.20688343647148136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05777063636562115,0.13199689455878266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11994035571399507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06142638095375375,0.055811648997163205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058270255298946125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04645308081264762,0.0,0.0,0.12682056141188428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04922063054530715,0.0,0.0,0.07547182084957968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059817528022061216,0.17104217987673642,0.057544658064295234,0.0,0.0,0.13036682407029468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052778600486287255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3267993488049475
divorce,coorrryyy,2020/04/12,"Any recommendations on divorce filing software? Some context. We've been married less than 2 years, no kids, and only have our house as shared assets. She's already moved out as we've been separated for 4 months. We are great friends just not good marriage partners. So the least messy divorce I can think of. 

With very little complexity to our divorce, we'll use a filing software. What do you recommend? Thanks in advance!",3.645180375180377,6.7039209350649385,3.837575757575757,82.78747474747475,79.9090909090909,5.500144300144299,29.334776334776336,6.937597516519254,1.8350992784992783,340,16,57,4,9,105,66,77,0.052000000000000005,0.7140000000000001,0.23399999999999999,0.9362,0,0,0,0,3,0,12.0,4,1,0,1,2,5,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,1,0,10,10,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,7,5,10,7,3,8,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,1,2,34,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31886754478574275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19649839478587244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22324487791641404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423606174169059,0.0,0.318572425937833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33341372347007764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896074742537224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306400515142312,0.3071120073735584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21976227620865535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660297043817972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18514983538671806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24956318365239416,0.0,0.23841702795112826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18607668080572384
divorce,dessertisfirst,2020/04/12,"Living alone: peaceful or lonely? For those of you already divorced and/or separated, are you finding solace in living alone? Or do you find yourself marinating in loneliness or sadness? Just curious.

I find myself daydreaming about living alone and not being smothered by his nonsense. I feel like having my own space will calm my mind a bit and give me some peace.",5.613489583333332,8.527826703125001,5.532500000000002,74.39583333333336,71.03125,7.3916666666666675,30.979166666666664,8.344100000000001,2.8576854166666665,295,13,43,5,6,92,51,64,0.21600000000000005,0.593,0.191,-0.2439,0,5,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,3,0,0,2,5,1,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,13,7,5,0,0,5,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,10,2,6,5,3,3,0,2,0,0,6,3,0,4,1,32,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5716370550166358,0.2030242572727898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008562859196328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302478610390456,0.13143389365748784,0.0,0.0,0.5044575759185275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17648842653746535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08988233972466661,0.0,0.4873677363657357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857652965915773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,StardustDreamers,2020/04/12,"What should I do now? I’m laying in bed, alone, which isn’t anything but normal for me.  I’m flipping through a new ebook I picked out and sipping coffee when I’m hit in the gut with this feeling... it’s something that’s been there for a while, but I was just able to put all the pieces together.  I am no longer in love with my husband and I want a divorce.

It feels like a mixture of queasiness and some feeling of familiarity.  Like getting a text from an old friend you were thinking about at that exact moment.  I don’t feel sad, or any emotion close to that.  If anything, I’m feeling relieved that I can put words to this feeling now.

So, I’m wondering... what now?  I’m (30s F) a stay at home mother, my husband (30s M) makes great money, has been the sole provider since before we tied the knot and everything is in his name.  He’s a wonderful father, great people person, everyone adores him.  I’m certain my own mother likes him more than me, he’s just that lovable.

He’s never done anything wrong per se, but he also isn’t anything I had hoped for.  He’s a workaholic and a very showie family man.  If it’s not something public he can show us off at, he has no interest in spending time with me.  He will play with our kids at home though, just no time for me.  If I ask, I get treated like a client “email me what you want to do for a date with some times and I’ll get back to you.”  Yet no time ever works for him, so we haven’t been on a date in two years.  He spends tons of time out with coworkers and friends though.  He apologizes, and even buys me things to say sorry, but they feel like empty gestures and I know he’s not sorry in the way that sorry would normally be defined.  He feels bad that my emotions inconvenience him, but I don’t think he really cares, or believes, that his actions hurt me.  I’m a romantic, so I’m not okay with that.  He doesn’t even kiss me unless prompted, and even then it feels like it’s scripted or something.  Before you ask, no, we haven’t had sex in forever.  I’ve tried, but work and his phone full of emails always creeps into bed between us.

I was upset at first when our lives became more separate.  I even threw a fit and suggested counseling, which he agreed too, but nothing worked.  He won over the counselor, like he does with everyone, and they just sided with him and said I was over reacting.  It’s gotten to the point that I’ve realized, if he cheated on me right now, the only worry I would have is how soon I’d have to move out.  I wouldn’t even care if he left me for another woman.

I live in a state where everything is technically his, so when I leave, I’ll literally have nothing.  Is it even worth it to leave?  Or should I just sit quietly, content knowing I’m being supported and am not in love, so nothing he does (if anything) can ever hurt me?  Should I start planning for divorce now and have a goal date waaay in the future to tell him I want one?  I have no savings or any way to exit at this moment and just need some direction or an exit plan is even a good idea.  Help?",2.5371360000000003,3.9498611216000015,3.803720000000002,90.05566000000002,75.384,6.7920000000000025,24.5,7.404127859558343,0.9490320000000004,2351,75,514,28,50,769,276,625,0.098,0.706,0.19699999999999998,0.9973,0,1,3,0,2,0,84.0,7,4,2,8,39,35,1,1,28,1,45,5,1,4,6,110,92,51,0,19,30,5,9,7,2,7,0,3,4,4,27,34,0,0,17,2,5,5,19,7,0,3,14,12,61,28,64,68,10,78,0,3,0,4,71,36,0,18,39,325,88,4,0.06447495911682273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06677661301474043,0.0,0.051560601511562,0.0536483309664832,0.0,0.0,0.0876903662799915,0.06760761630923477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652869886529829,0.0,0.12055076658903625,0.0,0.0,0.049577263759122366,0.0538338977417055,0.0,0.0,0.10972688280657968,0.0726412000535675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314730357007442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11284494242442752,0.06598026840418576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450513018283564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2980957169318785,0.11664258356447522,0.0,0.12321717289959247,0.11589187176967387,0.0,0.060781253330925336,0.0,0.2934042892670488,0.1381827710272924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054842367287721266,0.0,0.0,0.09962638695321197,0.0,0.10105651509821464,0.0,0.0,0.054078536713474866,0.0,0.142167740085796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0432162060221973,0.0,0.12934728192202255,0.06403818230009031,0.0,0.0,0.13804355447476216,0.07278438092389636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07086750272951134,0.0,0.0,0.13653934451108365,0.0700522317316122,0.0,0.0,0.22049445787949365,0.0,0.11386514027232772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11638233574680505,0.0,0.04303753586674175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0685266779021724,0.0,0.047807365225883504,0.0497270632260434,0.06227031728392765,0.0,0.0,0.1263435412089484,0.1855963865155644,0.0,0.06765562373758399,0.0,0.04368990092261623,0.0490361117612732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04469881849716003,0.056297047385703965,0.0,0.0,0.060949676513898585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12963028403121635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04130430978592018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05506126280057512,0.06133045073717318,0.051273075325067016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0533343524472793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14890792046890095,0.0,0.21652331426589846,0.0456357079136805,0.06872172775225116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07316541954293716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056353956116961125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04283429792313755,0.08262590083462981,0.12669263995006125,0.0,0.18797933577452916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04377426499285295,0.0,0.06298266647915943,0.0,0.15511087445041294,0.0,0.0,0.053198593635342364,0.11408700412707334,0.10235444296922926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13984068568915115,0.14081561439031168,0.06547745067212657,0.0,0.0916023221592842,0.07049324634559803,0.0,0.04151975977666392
divorce,coptivity,2020/04/12,"Finally got the numbers from the soon to be ex.... was wanting some advice or comments or things to consider. Been lurking for awhile since I’m going through a divorce. Decided to finally post after some hesitation. I believe I am getting a good deal, but was wondering if anyone had some comments on it at face value. 

We have 3 children, she has her own business. Which has been slowing but will pick back up.  Married 8 years. 

$1400 a month child support 
$400 a month spousal for 34 months
Half of my 401k 
She is leaving my pension alone
We are going back and forth on the house. She wants 70/30 split on the house since she’s leaving my pension alone and will be having the kids mainly due to school etc. she will be buying a house right away.
splitting everything else 50/50 bank accounts, property we sell etc. 

The house profits will be a lot. Above 120k at the least and above 150k best case. Full price offer on house would be 180k profit for reference. 

I offered 60/40 split on the house, no spousal support. She is thinking on this and probably going to accept if not she will want some more cash from the house sale or savings etc. she is also paying for the attorney I do not have one. 

I will be providing all the health insurance to the children and paying the medical bills for them.",3.8871256454389,5.908089152610444,4.151554790590936,86.41686746987953,73.13654618473895,6.991853126792886,28.72461273666093,7.793537801064563,1.8354660929432016,1025,42,194,14,21,319,147,249,0.046,0.8420000000000001,0.11199999999999999,0.9687,0,2,0,0,1,0,31.0,3,0,1,1,4,8,0,0,19,0,29,3,1,1,1,34,42,13,0,6,9,1,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,4,4,8,0,0,5,0,12,3,3,0,0,2,6,0,21,8,26,23,15,28,0,0,0,0,24,12,0,11,12,135,25,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08516234491496152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18052302570606693,0.0,0.06969412921584789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06093757363145924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08188065295910538,0.13402652898925702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09818863695359203,0.0914589494424966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08984821736133752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07280296149492864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.291587140187182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07832514409641765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909379678025068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04553247773741168,0.0,0.1485887118784997,0.07309760582734354,0.06970212204134704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09263678101886258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7039188807479833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845593426071408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07409213847995542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08779484145317483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086878109975816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05905535449670054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08346597562522656,0.0,0.09396285221408948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07442595027815042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08820083959547745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441833936041546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19779444204558924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05789884149539736,0.05584244598129081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15421066035659495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945108719868891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06190913109895833,0.0,0.0,0.05612198884524061
divorce,Clvrgurl,2020/04/12,"When did you know?   I just want to know when you realized that enough was enough. It's Easter morning and I spent the night on the couch because I can't even look at him. 
  My parents went through a very messy divorce and I promised myself I'd never put my child through it. Now I am 29, married 2 years been together for 8, and my daughter is the same age I was when they started the process of divorce. 
  Things have been mediocre but tolerable for awhile. He doesn't help out around the house unless asked. We never go anywhere. Always on his phone. He is at a dead end job.  When I realized we were going to have a baby I traded in my car for one that the baby would be safe in, got a better job, and started going back to school for my masters. I tried to motivate and support any idea/attempt to better himself and our position for our family. But nothing has changed. He just tells me he ""wishes he could provide more"" but provides no action to show this. 
  Yesterday was the breaking point. We have a joint savings used towards our future house and our daughter. Something came over me yesterday (maybe seeing people post about getting their COVID checks deposited) and I asked to see it (its through his bank)...he got frazzled. He handed me the phone and I went to transactions and there it was. He's been taking money from it for a year. I'm an idiot for not checking sooner but I honestly never imagined this would happen. He started going off about how he puts some back when he can, he's struggling, ect. I asked to see transactions and it's not towards anything serious (as much as I could see) he is just really bad with money. Snacks. Beer. Paying some debt. But I'm broken. That money was for a home. For our daughter. He never once asked me for help. He just went behind my back and took from our family. 
  At the cost of sounding like a broken record I am just so low right now. I don't know where to go from here. I just know that my daughter deserves more than this. But am I ready to break a promise to myself? Start this long process and put her through this? I just want to know when you knew it was time.",1.914399697689486,4.277182909738723,2.8285267760742836,91.82543322176636,80.94774346793348,5.347462751025697,23.107374217231694,6.574015621080383,0.6142061757719719,1659,57,335,16,44,524,207,421,0.10400000000000001,0.8059999999999999,0.09,-0.9067,4,0,2,0,2,0,54.0,9,3,2,5,27,14,1,1,19,0,30,3,1,3,4,64,72,30,1,7,16,5,1,1,0,2,0,1,2,1,18,20,2,1,10,2,11,17,10,5,0,1,20,7,51,9,53,47,8,66,0,1,5,0,52,17,0,2,30,230,69,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692891641651851,0.0,0.0,0.056627970296741575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06852594806406181,0.07412993730459562,0.31139316753936275,0.0,0.0,0.19209360881772627,0.06952883176565558,0.05076197704222347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472950365390035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09524124440385337,0.0,0.0,0.08809097530116204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329721956371371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07375447715008072,0.17208494236795815,0.0,0.05500052097303182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15700329029222973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04350630198838355,0.0,0.2366276297815489,0.0,0.1332008149545693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07363735585902413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163123771881182,0.0,0.08352883388874427,0.0,0.0,0.19216994062230386,0.0,0.09400420903397612,0.0,0.0,0.1652696735619427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22882119266998055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04068260416438566,0.0,0.0,0.07369330100491693,0.06992769854050697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08365814517584147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06121466871388567,0.0,0.25689870199126724,0.0,0.0,0.07814534459048787,0.0,0.07990194824996054,0.0,0.0,0.08868220468622412,0.0564274165263239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924639541499587,0.0,0.0,0.057730477668997277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07871917104792805,0.0,0.07975177547437792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511347660553507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053346321310056836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07111402738167127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08427594002680235,0.2654287364333631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0641070291221299,0.0,0.0,0.2357620451902552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08705421263019635,0.0,0.0,0.09449633706391407,0.0,0.0,0.06261035180124264,0.0,0.07278359729746726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05532236785802253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048556705573118884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251850885010486,0.05653637641020037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07192046818717371,0.0,0.06870830874606501,0.09823223469913826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315825677715918,0.0,0.0,0.09575895213428352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11830840258520132,0.0,0.0,0.10724916877886248
divorce,Deleted991,2020/04/12,"Bills while separated and not living together? First and foremost I'm not trying to mooch and get a free ride. Just trying not to get completely screwed..

Anyways. 2 weeks ago my wife decided we were separating and left to live with her mother. There was no infidelity, abuse or anything like that. According to her I did nothing wrong, just diff views of what we want in our lives. I want kids and sober family. She no longer does and wants party lifestyle instead. Is what it is.

While we were together our arrangement was she pays rent, I pay every other bill we have. Power, water, cars, wifi, phone, insurance etc.
Her job started making quite a bit of money, and my job was turning into a joke with hours and management falling apart. She told me multiple times over the course of the last 9 months to quit and just take some me time and find another job somewhere. She was making more than enough to support us till I got a new job and wanted us to spend more time together anyways.
Early march she told me I should quit again, so the next week I finally did. A week later she left.

So now i'm stuck with all the bills including rent and no job to help. She has offered to pay her half of phone bill/ insurance till she gets on her own individual plans. I do have savings to help for about a month, and yes, I AM trying to get another job. Not just bumming around.

Should she still be helping with bills like our rent even though she's not living here? Or is that no longer a ""shared responsibility"" once separated?
Like I said, i'm not wanting some free ride through life. I'm just slightly frustrated because if I knew she was leaving I wouldn't have quit my job yet. Extra frustrated since she told me to quit it again so soon to her leaving too. And i'd rather not be getting evicted before I can get back on my feet because of it. 

Neither of us are on the lease. Our landlord never made one up, just a verbal agreement.",3.793280282935456,5.488945909814327,4.460071618037137,85.46869274977898,72.66047745358091,7.573085764809903,26.35977011494253,8.238735603445708,1.6187991865605658,1516,52,303,24,30,484,201,377,0.066,0.8170000000000001,0.11699999999999999,0.9563,12,0,0,0,1,0,47.0,11,0,0,8,27,15,3,0,13,1,25,4,1,3,2,60,54,25,0,10,17,2,0,3,0,3,1,1,4,1,8,24,1,0,3,1,15,4,14,5,0,3,17,2,49,12,37,32,11,46,0,0,1,1,43,11,1,5,34,201,57,11,0.0,0.08392970939886879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06279231327279372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14855656429614655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058292431738012324,0.06305953339064445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05446892209282833,0.0,0.08636258717220778,0.0,0.06027667299388585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07733514852023703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07427075807544757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06198952817716629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07319307532050649,0.07900146009351773,0.04678686256742221,0.0,0.05968283496761796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06677837987332365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07759796042790408,0.06474330867498594,0.06025351955071366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22205499176402407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056654447202452926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14244070651464008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0697597169609414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4920603074930633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05774122955687708,0.0,0.15001132282964294,0.15392820270020838,0.0,0.05003393878061209,0.10382145711986487,0.0,0.25019982888592485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06702724113440098,0.0945678728694066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130820910822442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054633501879500564,0.06841436585353818,0.07533545742839881,0.0,0.0,0.06796956475145392,0.0,0.0,0.07543859675192563,0.04800066863632611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3767168662337519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06738176514443985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058596712848795814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05013846328991787,0.0,0.05657014747791834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08038445922179492,0.0,0.0,0.05326025777935863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06959653490260308,0.0,0.12391605771281115,0.0,0.0,0.20306203133078893,0.0,0.14428007006303198,0.07704980766328888,0.0,0.0,0.2556228852374521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089061150353863,0.0,0.17046238410848782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0774486297171336,0.0,0.0
divorce,chewchainz,2020/04/12,"Does anyone else feel a little guilty for trying to move on? Coming upon the one year mark since he asked for a divorce. Due to some stupidity on my behalf, we briefly dated for a month in December before he cut it off and left me. Again. 

Haven't had much of a drive to date since the beginning of the year as a result. But any time an opportunity comes up and I feel like maybe I could get myself out there, I feel a little guilty and want to hold back.",2.182659574468083,3.824398276595748,3.6797340425531937,89.60875000000001,76.87234042553192,6.402127659574468,18.132978723404253,7.1686216300943375,0.0274723404255317,354,6,78,4,8,117,69,94,0.107,0.825,0.068,-0.5687,0,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,1,0,0,1,3,4,2,0,10,0,3,0,0,1,0,16,12,5,0,2,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,0,1,3,0,0,4,1,2,0,1,1,3,7,2,17,10,2,24,0,0,0,0,5,10,0,1,11,48,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306269036883017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343128860302028,0.19681757417611956,0.0,0.0,0.17957700537476304,0.0,0.0,0.1477043541479671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634533365572577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33093481444643746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153367197355772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16809811671582714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16046546140920634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2913774565493817,0.13722820638191638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035841810840533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20870493569015536,0.0,0.0,0.09384483653789537,0.3850466838467344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19297891863970645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15332336851222209,0.20415988971524715,0.14120729725077494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13016427509830644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31779551692890323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11200846629472068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13041561895157255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11329889270169848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473976511486058
divorce,Z1stCNTRYdgtlBOY,2020/04/12,"I left a year ago, and it still hurts Nearly a year ago I left my partner of 12 years (married 7 years). We were young when we got together: I was 21, she was 20, so we grew into adulthood together. We connected early over music, socio-political outlook, and appreciation for all things ridiculous. We were probably 70% compatible, but the 30% incompatibility became more and more defining over time. We had major lifestyle differences as well as some major gaps in our ability to communicate, which combined left me feeling unheard and unsupported through the last few years of the relationship.

At first it was clear as day to me why I was leaving. 6 months of marriage counselling followed by 3 years of trying and failing to get her to uphold the promises she made in counselling left me burnt out and lacking the willpower to try anymore. The first few months after our split were full of her stalking, sending hateful messages, and regularly trying to fight, and this made it easy to keep in mind the reasons why I left.

Eventually those things stopped though, and we were able to have a good few months of just space from each other. This gave me the breathing room I needed for my anger and frustration to fade, and for me to start properly working on myself. In recent months I’ve been able to recognize the extent to which my own anxiety and communication issues contributed to the breakup. 

I feel like at this point, I’ve largely figured out what normal life looks like again. However, reminders of what was normal in my old life continue to be painful. What were once fond memories of time with family or friends, or movies that we loved, or places we travelled have become haunting reminders that there were times when we were legitimately happy. I honestly can’t say at this point whether I still think that the relationship needed to end, or whether ending it was the biggest mistake I’ve ever made.

Does anyone else still feel like this? Did you ever find clarity?",7.891595238095236,8.377281572222222,7.419047619047621,72.40500000000002,62.444444444444436,10.07936507936508,36.58730158730158,9.842372674337009,3.628563492063492,1586,70,269,29,21,498,204,360,0.10300000000000001,0.7509999999999999,0.146,0.9605,3,0,0,0,1,0,40.0,12,1,0,4,13,20,5,0,15,0,20,5,1,4,4,59,38,26,0,6,8,0,3,3,2,0,3,1,1,1,21,27,0,2,7,1,0,4,1,9,1,2,21,5,36,11,49,16,14,69,0,2,1,1,28,27,0,5,41,186,57,2,0.16184044148900134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14346178648653315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0619037473811589,0.0,0.08025111506659388,0.056581299833402175,0.08291232886201037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893700262334407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052186848017367185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08454440768696493,0.0,0.0,0.0708138304852572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06759846097609629,0.0,0.1433425943712497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463939448669376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.076284382402696,0.0,0.12274708496701782,0.1156188437369918,0.0,0.0,0.07395961576706933,0.1376613968543167,0.0,0.0,0.06251876181591469,0.0,0.042277475480057225,0.0,0.0,0.06787204192661797,0.06471929273222372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08614107968791154,0.0,0.07989196502014857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08662676993880143,0.0,0.0,0.08445968672388465,0.0,0.07192561025726626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06596078018475943,0.0,0.08568282981092637,0.439600283041352,0.0,0.1143126900141528,0.11860059725259535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06795260514700799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07303365855826348,0.2297060083125916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08170635519004084,0.0,0.25835899269728924,0.0,0.0,0.12000263669130652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15856927067988566,0.0,0.0,0.08491215942506465,0.08617739414258495,0.0,0.0,0.08610482017191974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08454440768696493,0.0,0.15299152866073598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08724568435364109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08319946416908018,0.07989895569702453,0.17375606706474525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06435100743586629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05727574873704803,0.0,0.19386897844640602,0.0676529279100327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075195980224084,0.051850410037770286,0.07950370602707033,0.0,0.14155569437788687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16481855442816545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07275699657713805,0.0,0.1460358257734485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05891088445717412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3126598145148403
divorce,Naber2299,2020/04/12,"I just filed The marriage has been over for years but I finally filed the other day! It's a huge relief to finally do it. But then I found out my judge isnt really up on father's rights. My stbxw lives in California and the kids live with me in Nebraska. She doesnt work and has no way to support them. I've been taking care of the kids pretty much by myself the last couple years. We dont really talk but I want her to see the kids but idk what this judge is going to do! Anyone with a similar experience any insight would help.


Thank you",1.2697129186602891,3.21320252631579,3.35708133971292,89.45275119617224,80.75438596491226,6.952472089314195,18.25837320574163,8.00094639256281,0.5433263157894741,424,9,94,8,11,144,78,114,0.035,0.737,0.228,0.9778,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,1,1,1,1,4,0,0,8,0,11,0,0,0,0,15,19,7,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,5,6,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,3,1,13,4,15,15,1,17,0,0,1,0,12,8,0,0,7,62,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12824273173841602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318614383855008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922726744505892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20866321777380628,0.0,0.12162026790895986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2210175698235062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18447010844339112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4131663533095628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20677124349544565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10717591850442336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12640303720390172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15372010501352304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.333044033404456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13863001441149242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19185644593292803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24162186767942906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161048631772536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502760299535633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21400146148356264,0.0,0.0,0.14179075301515134,0.15157566510583226,0.0,0.1736216524855692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11123098758946323,0.14968820326313206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13729048261452667,0.0,0.0,0.13396376963212045,0.0,0.0,0.24288220659865636
divorce,im_shh_eye,2020/04/12,"STBXH still salty over a comment I made weeks ago! A few weeks back(to make a really long and detailed story, short) my teenage out-of-control stepdaughter was shipped to stbxh’s parents house to live the remainder of the time with them until stbx finds a place of his own, then she can move back in with him. Bit of backstory; stbxh has full custody of her so she lives with us fill time. She is very mentally ill and gets that from her bipolar, schizophrenic, manic depressive diagnosed mother. Sad that she will never be right but it does play a big part in why I want a divorce. I have two young toddlers as well can can’t continue to subject them to her ridiculous and out of control behavior. It’s lunacy! About 6 weeks ago SD had a massive mental breakdown where it landed her in a mental institute for a week. She came home with new Meds, new coping skills and was like a new kid. She does good for a week or two and then BAM💥 right back to the same old out of control lunatic behavior as before. She completely disrespected me because I asked her to sit at the dining room table to do her school work. She has an epic screaming and crying episode and calling me names etc... well; stbxh isn’t gonna stop her at this point because it literally gives him satisfaction that his kid is so against me and disrespectful. So I had called her social worker, my attorney, the police, her personal counselor and no one had any suggestions or fix.

Meanwhile, my stbxh won’t tell me what the game plans here. I have no idea what’s going on, where she’s going, what his thought were on this and he kept telling me to shut up and calling me a retard in front of my 3 year old son...who starts repeating this mind you and stbxh is cheering and egging my son on. So at this point my 3 year old is calling me a stupid retard like his father and (after asking about a dozen times to stop calling me names in front of the kids and  he refused.... I blurted out “You’ll be lucky if you get to see your kids after all of this.” He is STILL holding it against me and throwing that in my face. I don’t regret saying it. To call me names in front of my kid is a big no no for me. I’m not gonna tolerate it🤷🏻‍♀️",3.5022618562304646,4.698844724215249,4.311850794944967,88.22070865606743,72.60986547085201,7.558526973773612,26.519635820084254,8.00094639256281,1.4218857997010463,1721,58,367,24,33,553,229,446,0.13,0.8009999999999999,0.069,-0.982,1,0,0,0,1,0,47.0,1,4,2,6,15,14,2,0,23,0,27,6,1,4,2,51,45,29,0,3,5,4,0,2,0,5,4,2,2,6,18,24,1,7,3,2,0,9,10,6,2,4,10,3,58,8,56,28,8,77,0,3,1,0,65,32,0,4,37,233,76,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334039034400432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05117056055493845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14069163041222335,0.0,0.0,0.1735809634481941,0.0,0.09173978182569452,0.0,0.06402968010455053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215026766807385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4610137829312106,0.08606255598702786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07889507904949808,0.0,0.2531878267203013,0.0,0.0,0.08265532884292284,0.0,0.0,0.06481015645595406,0.07637415125027004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13169836561545425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839203288159825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06877442196900976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07862693466681145,0.07218380751186038,0.08552924214135242,0.06311363847617392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07547890609869387,0.0,0.0,0.08682496946229372,0.0,0.08494473747841451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07352379571499752,0.0,0.13288901170278636,0.06659125343544922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07120055893863943,0.05022797665533157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835824868144265,0.0,0.2274939230680057,0.0,0.07597804952215109,0.0,0.0,0.07997568421656763,0.0,0.0,0.05803514816902081,0.21802215065529945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23687729940314545,0.0,0.05098933476139682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08355292164253618,0.08148520044071847,0.0,0.0,0.0657028039571939,0.07861713056616816,0.0,0.14226553019062882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04820517406283481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12852110451321436,0.0,0.059839458245207734,0.0,0.07615401134576763,0.05996214043833448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07670487073973888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05326023494549595,0.0,0.12018475030450902,0.12581977240599054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13153844128263265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05973773644010661,0.13163144448886774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14701082847312436,0.0,0.09051291185683344,0.0,0.0,0.06208668004334656,0.044382647724956655,0.0,0.3017931421395421,0.0,0.13531223308550105,0.0,0.06789874041508907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054780733839740116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969132401657239
divorce,ladymommy,2020/04/12,"Good outcomes with children after divorce? My husband is an asshole.  Like a real piece of work. I overlooked the abusive house he grew up in thinking he'd be different but he is very verbally abusive to me. We have a toddler and I'm pregnant.  I contemplate divorce sometimes when it gets bad. Tonight he told me that he doesn't like me and that I should get off his property and leave after I asked why je's been ignoring me for three days. I am no shrinking violet so he is also defensive cause I call him out on his bs and try to talk rationally with him or talk about how he hurts my feelings, but he always turns it around on me and tries to put me down. I of course dont have any money or anywhere to go and we are in a world pandemic.  I think I'll probably wait until I give birth in 6 months, wait another few months for baby to be ready for daycare, get a job, then get an apartment somewhere.  Un less of course it gets better. My main concern about all this is that every divorced family I have known had lots of issues and the kids seemed to damaged bu their parents not being together. I thought before that sometimes it's best to try to work things out for them. Could you all please give me some examples of how your kids or others kids have faired well with separated parents? Or the opposite if you think it applies. I feel so heartbroken about my son because he gets so excited when me and his dad are in the same room. Like he is joyful when we are together and getting along. It breaks my heart to think of him not having that.",3.807396896407103,5.076722623794215,4.670616524535159,85.66027401090453,71.95819935691318,7.852425555710893,28.63427932336083,8.321376580360154,1.9204971620299176,1220,47,248,19,23,395,177,311,0.11900000000000001,0.775,0.106,-0.757,4,0,0,0,3,0,22.0,3,3,2,4,14,14,1,0,10,0,24,1,1,3,2,52,48,27,0,3,9,5,2,3,0,1,0,0,1,4,14,19,0,4,9,0,1,3,5,5,1,1,4,2,40,9,41,38,10,31,0,2,0,0,43,15,0,8,15,169,54,3,0.0,0.2527393123487525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08529258694816869,0.08874615111999451,0.0,0.0,0.07252958626535573,0.11183788247933384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09494625455238072,0.0997087547423016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905311942227062,0.06501637218482127,0.0,0.0907562113121689,0.0,0.1119286586299506,0.09432836814680168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10890747393294617,0.0,0.0,0.10956486345485597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08515595988889296,0.0,0.0,0.06878415324863332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11143258724343454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12499977721444065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08986209279632719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10054557515943853,0.0,0.10785673177508397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39006269280575945,0.2046278812315273,0.060614936389464975,0.0894578061435043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263876101837695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123066447666549,0.11417721600893928,0.0,0.0,0.11132092194979684,0.1058394021792076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11293306877874665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15631987687946053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09067492821246624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17026324851942476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23685723870421746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11707601586136655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11499296759339887,0.0,0.0,0.10721851518129596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139762502241888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09709541436999383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21097058278936104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17145174824327114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07085735955104631,0.273362863291194,0.0,0.08467277398257161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10191416629118807,0.0,0.21723681610800388,0.1160108592350597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08800218655605191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09589635305827827,0.0,0.09624025019147306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15529335295997532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,deplwhoreable_girl,2020/04/12,"My ex husband religiously watched bestiality porn and I hadn't anticipated how it would have affected me Before our divorce, during the time we were in marriage counseling, I discovered through searching for a grad school document on his computer that we shared, a file that had hundreds of videos downloaded of women (I guess?) ""having sex"" with dogs. I was incredibly disturbed, and talked to him about this. He said it was because he had a porn addiction and had exhausted all other outlets. I asked him specifically which other types (child, rape, homosexual, etc) and he said he didn't look at any of those types. He accused me of mounting some other hard drive, which I have no idea how to do, or even what that is, as well as accusing me of asking someone for help to do it. Like I *knew* there would be THAT on there anyway to specifically look for. We've been divorced since October and it's honestly still affecting me. I looked at the details of when it was downloaded, last accessed, etc, which was very recent to the day I was trying to find the document I was looking for. He insisted that he never looks at it, but the accessed dates proved otherwise and he accused me of not knowing how that works. I asked him why he downloaded them, instead of just looking, he said he was curious, then said he was just saving them in case he wanted to look at them later, but never did. Is it normal for me to still be traumatized by this? He said he googled it, and it's normal... But I feel like it's akin to rape.... Animals can't give consent, and now I find myself feeling disgusting because originally, these videos were downloaded years before. Some were within the last 6 months of our marriage, but my other concern is: I only found this type... Am I crazy to believe that there are other types, possibly of a worse nature, that he saved and I was just too disgusted to have stumble upon that?",5.689473073351905,6.739703596100284,6.2181232590529225,77.12415796193132,67.35654596100278,9.548792943361187,32.228528319405754,9.725611199111238,3.0950026926648087,1497,62,274,32,24,486,181,359,0.106,0.838,0.055999999999999994,-0.9548,0,0,0,0,2,0,57.0,4,0,3,1,19,13,4,1,10,0,35,7,0,6,4,49,58,21,0,5,9,2,3,2,0,2,2,5,0,2,33,12,0,0,9,2,0,1,7,6,1,0,26,16,36,7,42,28,5,28,0,0,8,5,47,10,0,4,19,198,69,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10140138629835778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06325420478283145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26087276858450426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11340362277455494,0.0,0.15829986826757753,0.10479740338152528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05998775312855941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20747529856232566,0.06143632198999646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09406356978168574,0.0664507909425381,0.0,0.0,0.17003024097725125,0.0,0.0,0.10198746082499173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08922961352861411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246782961587217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08332424379902703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062346797296679426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105003966370756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051119270226188986,0.15164123330743146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088603251813863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.546771261305386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07424464238245711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14347965342079588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822722510498265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07074301058790572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10486178810264124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09184227466636363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4423985273326064,0.0,0.0,0.09413735899038073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07694396077416497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07881232331634731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14856571288432358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07476289713053656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05423849348311265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06315189317911739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07674810537851262,0.05486336396460946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08363273343491323,0.0,0.08393265158979896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06771690047703201,0.0,0.0947914530796636,0.13215207759414604,0.0,0.0,0.0598993823121096
divorce,nellyjelly321,2020/04/12,What made you leave your marriage? What was your breaking point for ending your marriage? How long did you contemplate it?,4.274285714285714,7.691739285714291,2.3114285714285714,90.95857142857146,84.71428571428571,4.704761904761905,26.04761904761905,6.42735559955562,1.195876190476191,99,4,16,1,3,27,16,21,0.08,0.92,0.0,-0.1877,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,2,12,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4185586332291085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5003856431393958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4182114569667932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4471591681247283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4467334040712281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,iamnobodybut,2020/04/12,"Need Advice Please! I'll give you guys the short rundown. I am in Texas and married exactly 10 years. No kids. My life has been miserable with her and she always end the fight saying I can never find another woman, that nobody would love me, etc but if I could go ahead and try, please find another woman, and one day after hearing this for 8 years I decided to follow her advice and find another woman and had a child with the new woman i fell in love with. I confessed to my wife and asked for divorce. (That's the background)

I am the breadmaker and she doesn't work. She worked here and there but no real job and she's a high school graduate and her English isn't too good. She became a permanent resident because of me. She always said men should work and not the wives so she always took 8 bucks part time jobs and I worked hard in my career and currently make good salary. I've always asked her to help me out with the bills since we don't have kids, but to no avail. 

Currently we're separated but I pay for all her bills which she uses for shopping, buying phones, ipads, computers, dresses and I pay her rent. I'm fine with that for now. However where we can't seem to agree on is she wants 65-70 percent of our assets. She says if I don't agree, she'll go to court and she'll get 60% for adultery plus spousal support for 5 years since she doesn't have income and it'll end up being more costly for me anyways so just settle for about 67% vs my 33%. Mind you, that 67% leaves her enough to not work for 5 years and live a decent life since she'll be getting it in all cash.

In one way I am sorry to her so I feel like just giving her that much but in some ways I feel like it's too much and i'll take my chances in court? What would you guys do? Just go to court or give in and divorce with a 67% - 33% split.

\*I wanted to give her 57 to 58 percent since it's my fault but she says no way. She wanted 90% originally but her lawyer talked her out of it.",1.0210405716647948,3.0017480508474605,2.4528222996515687,95.41847989133647,81.8087167070218,5.578905096557019,18.54774700289376,6.697824305789354,-0.11316294808952908,1527,35,350,16,41,494,197,413,0.091,0.82,0.08900000000000001,0.7468,8,0,0,0,3,0,45.0,3,3,0,6,14,11,1,1,12,0,27,4,0,3,4,73,56,34,0,10,16,2,3,2,0,7,2,5,1,10,13,31,0,0,8,1,10,6,13,3,0,2,4,8,59,8,46,42,11,40,1,1,0,2,66,15,0,5,18,214,72,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553069039690988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644889808006213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24998172184275996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485803417155118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048441858597524465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06344729533582415,0.0,0.0,0.05124912561944888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14076693467107182,0.0821098283663957,0.08862582014170395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0803609979127614,0.1135413398540688,0.0,0.0,0.21789200439647086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08303562043178292,0.30492488444450183,0.13548742011301784,0.13330495842891985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15736806544782272,0.0,0.0,0.07118610741179582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08956418404061045,0.0,0.053264519505842885,0.08396040443434408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15771588546457407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08414323292620958,0.0,0.0,0.11225865582996734,0.07764634370607673,0.0,0.07017011143870153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14344269807805926,0.0,0.053044306283620515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023820981961202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11683360257878825,0.05892318118552775,0.06128923320597408,0.07674895218477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10769670890155177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08605415184091186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17446005105901274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09044993419033348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0755905548005392,0.18958413790700404,0.0,0.08042403798725234,0.0,0.07234304491811312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26294105084564456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08895590611125495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09017730326434167,0.0,0.0,0.059748693518659836,0.06387192229896436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04633738089787416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08828987333654657,0.0539523342323978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0686332832799812,0.0,0.0,0.14061367287929982,0.18922971470160765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892617041073091,0.0,0.0,0.1129010184958763,0.0,0.0,0.20469451236567224
divorce,Knowsekr,2020/04/12,"FL. My wife cheated, and refuses to work.. Is she entitled to alimony? Hello... we have been married almost 5 years. I was making 39,000 when we got married. 60,000 in 2019, and just accepted a new job for 110,000. 

She was working for $15 per hour when we met. Then got laid off in 2018, found another job for $15/hour, then quit that for another $15/hr job. Then she attempted suicide in june 2019, then she quit that last job, got a part time job for $12/hr, and even quit that one and has been unemployed ever since January.

So my wife and I signed and filed the simplified dissolution of marriage, and checked off the ""we have verbally agreed on all debts and assets"".

After she discussed with her family, they believe that she should consult with a lawyer, and that she deserves some monetary assistance from me...

The thing is... she hasn't been looking for another job. She said she doesn't want to work, just wants to be a housewife (we have no kids).

In November of 2019, I discovered that she was sending and receiving naked pics and videos to her first boss. She told me that one time in his office he removed her shirt and bra.

In 2018 we were going to marriage therapy and she made no effort to come forward about that information. In fact she was still trying to communicate with the guy up until November 2019.

I've made efforts to fix our marriage. Spent thousands of dollars trying to make her happy, and all for nothing. I started going to therapy in January, and have been discussing divorcing my wife since then. This was before I even got the big pay raise.

Will I have to pay her alimony? If so, what is it based on? I am in a lot of debt due to this marriage and I will not be able to survive if somehow I have to pay her a ton of money too.

We purchased a house in 2019, and put down $45,000. Currently I'm the only one with an income, and she's happy just staying home and watching TV. She hasn't applied to a job in months.",3.3185525656025407,4.946367341968909,4.367683436403143,85.92614658198231,73.76683937823834,7.8821995654354,27.73658699649005,8.558390810932622,1.9753034598027743,1518,59,309,28,31,494,190,386,0.055,0.9079999999999999,0.037000000000000005,-0.6075,13,0,0,0,0,1,69.0,8,0,1,11,14,4,1,0,15,0,29,1,1,5,4,58,50,31,1,5,6,3,0,0,0,3,0,1,1,2,13,31,0,1,3,2,10,8,6,1,0,5,21,3,46,3,53,24,6,50,0,0,2,0,54,19,0,6,24,209,59,17,0.08391144826230808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402519445111298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26396540963095194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07140246210102898,0.09453946746926263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07228228265057585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11084544037907597,0.07590270897433288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07910424549405311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07137503502573604,0.0,0.09200457190561233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09537761957510746,0.0,0.2684466025281935,0.0,0.0,0.08308552631878767,0.0,0.17865059400453442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08417002432839105,0.0,0.1652717477285906,0.09682254512800277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5828841525602774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06839902984559103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07046448290206522,0.0,0.0,0.07133851261082813,0.0,0.15879808247947108,0.11202308659632984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06697731744106104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08104219961706735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08051529771195909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17058170696366964,0.06381843759815947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086792135714034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08435418200114514,0.0,0.2677504622738781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07981900282575857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13882483423912326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05939295496991565,0.08943843907416836,0.06701179097511578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09178550501980423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19192010808635807,0.0,0.05574703766026631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09785888055948724,0.0,0.0,0.08018098476075107,0.0,0.11394073055596395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09898629251153536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18326560114645715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05403622153602821
divorce,believere,2020/04/12,"Grounds of Divorce- Police & Domestic Violence I have been married for 18 months and I've finally gotten the courage to file for divorce. I left him a few months ago, basically fleeing my home state to go be with family elsewhere. On top of his cheating and alcohol issues, he was verbally and physically abusive. I have at least 30+ pictures of evidence (photos time stamped & documenting the abuse). However, I never reported his abuse because he is a police officer. 


He was previously a special victims investigator and was recently promoted; he is very well respected within his patrol unit and his department. I received a call a few months after I left, from an investigator within his department. Apparently, they received an anonymous tip that he had been physically abusive and they were concerned for my safety and wanted to get more information. I wasn't comfortable at the time providing any info/making a statement, mostly due to being caught off guard, scared and knowing if I said something he would potentially get charged with multiple felonies and lose his job and any future career possibilities within law enforcement. I have 3 years to report the abuse before the statue of limitations is reached. He's been put on administrative leave pending termination but they haven't given him a reason why and I'm assuming it has something to do with this situation (although I fear there could be an investigation into something larger and this is just part of the discovery process). 

Now that I've established residency in another state, I'm filing for divorce and I have the option to file for on either grounds of abuse or irreconcilable differences. My initial thought was just to try and settle this as amicably as possible and file for irreconcilable differences (we have no children, no joint debt, no joint property, etc. plus I'm not asking for any spousal support or any part of his pension; which I could easily do and would most likely get awarded). I'm debating on filing based on the grounds of abuse. It doesn't feel right that he can go out and respond to calls of domestic violence but come home and abuse his own wife. At one point he even handcuffed me with his handcuffs while suffocating me with a pillow.. this memory alone makes it difficult for me to not want to hold him accountable in some type of way. If the divorce is filed on the grounds of abuse, he will not be criminally charged since the state I am in does not have jurisdiction but it would at least be documented somewhere and that gives me some sense of holding him accountable.

My attorney said it's completely up to me on how I want to file but I have mixed feelings on just choosing the easy route (irreconcilable differences) or taking it a step further/potentially getting dragged into a contested divorce, presenting evidence, etc. (grounds of abuse). Has anyone been through a similar situation? Any advice?",8.944692047040064,9.294180761078998,8.896398910371403,63.15554913294801,60.27167630057805,12.47653976479968,41.403295462095535,11.941018711569596,5.3948564347883865,2361,122,372,69,29,770,260,519,0.10400000000000001,0.809,0.087,-0.5855,4,1,4,0,15,0,58.0,1,0,3,5,8,14,2,2,26,0,42,1,0,3,1,77,70,34,0,10,17,1,2,1,0,4,1,2,3,1,15,30,1,4,9,0,3,11,11,6,1,1,17,4,41,8,68,42,15,64,0,1,0,0,44,33,0,11,17,254,56,8,0.0,0.7263307892874147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05990379717038296,0.05434069864803509,0.06551340512767563,0.0,0.0634905880484993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13284180911426288,0.0,0.2084379796290345,0.06428069831998072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04286392130840565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05730927876460105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03736925014692012,0.0,0.05216365430649112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251927937381773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05280641442494996,0.06427418695988185,0.0,0.0,0.09788963178514773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19214324426073875,0.0,0.0,0.05364596547629947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13673630774028706,0.04048952279267108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05779025533165935,0.06898201435885339,0.06199246519437988,0.0,0.0,0.06715356010210706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12811147056932207,0.058806653030699436,0.06967890223522458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12298220321374227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06398356658692375,0.06083297118135205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03369008413793083,0.0,0.0,0.06491017501031182,0.13321003225389744,0.0,0.0,0.0299491568341104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06858147765858102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040919692344004326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14679248574488352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04728003328724493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04153995502505135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327686104301712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057950390541356374,0.1382180320024194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06162563950509992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06302886811624052,0.060528523729659264,0.0,0.0,0.05235174106733725,0.11662485432506416,0.0,0.06137419319246985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05070981062361153,0.13781247519657824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141580278016837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695650063978361,0.0,0.0,0.046091622796747236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04866709669056332,0.07149160779781756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04162016760528977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05058073239676676,0.1084728717690506,0.04865883039065224,0.0,0.0,0.055118036968060655,0.0,0.05531569761203865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306419651566609,0.0,0.0,0.03947660482976155
divorce,throwawaycuznda,2020/04/12,"Lay some groundwork, or rip off the bandaid? There's a lengthy history but I'll try to keep it brief. She (39F) and I (40M) have been together 20 years and married almost 14, with three kids. We've just fallen into that same groove as many of the couples who really shouldn't have ended up together. Sex only when she wants something from me, separate living situations for years, and we generally resent each other.

I decided six months ago to improve many of the shortcomings in my life: I lost 70 pounds and negotiated a decent salary for myself. When I turned my efforts to the relationship, she made it explicitly clear that there is and will not be any room for physical contact and shows no interest in counseling. Then and there I lost all interest in trying to salvage it.

I've completely checked out the last few months. Although she appears as miserable as I am, I honestly believe she is completely OK maintaining this awful marriage because of the security and support I provide her.

Just before the Coronavirus hit and she lost her job, I met with an attorney who laid out two options: I can begin to prepare her now by letting her know I've been considering divorce and attempt to keep it amicable while we plan to separate, or I can start the process and keep her in the dark until I've filed.

I fear that if I spring it on her it will make her fight twice as hard. I wouldn't put it past her to use our children as pawns. On the other hand, I don't know that she will be mature or willing to work with me while we're working through it. We have to live together and I don't know that I can deal with it being worse than it already is.

**My question for the divorcees out there who may have been in similar situations: Did any of you prepare your ex for the divorce and wished you hadn't, or vice versa?**

I would love to hear stories and advice from all the ex husbands and ex wives who are willing to share it, since I'm new to all of this.",5.178808290155441,5.863256487046634,5.930563730569947,80.04371088082905,68.32642487046633,9.28480829015544,32.27937823834197,9.3871,2.810713077720207,1548,65,305,30,25,507,209,386,0.094,0.792,0.114,0.91,2,0,1,0,4,0,39.0,4,3,0,8,9,15,2,2,16,2,32,5,1,3,5,64,56,33,0,6,9,5,2,0,0,9,2,1,1,2,24,27,0,4,5,1,1,4,7,7,0,4,10,3,46,8,51,32,7,37,0,4,0,2,45,14,0,11,19,216,70,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10874089761790837,0.09864243382376256,0.0,0.11143019956905836,0.0,0.1227995351652548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15134755439997835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06783486183231997,0.0,0.09469053482844272,0.12537372625042342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23334857267226325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12312848952606747,0.0,0.0,0.11472412854527135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09856047889602804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12522021165933386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996844444136714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254199204039163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11042758895917053,0.29673061058815664,0.0,0.0,0.18346866958507535,0.0907075264248107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137906796964454,0.07859989922121764,0.0,0.0,0.19652341805258744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.364423683102716,0.0,0.1004339623488104,0.10529521614000187,0.07427983343158807,0.22563959957651994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17764423867890847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10747429429752024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08463296377000187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10622873568411254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11186648714441348,0.12465834485984904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07128840415967662,0.0,0.0,0.11947238192604198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09205143222493338,0.2501653144490614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856682839473132,0.0,0.0,0.07876410008362837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12627849311422665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15110275468963458,0.1210399833581645,0.10870376012313764,0.0,0.0,0.09610963375864204,0.0,0.0,0.06563544661345005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12796576622367772,0.0,0.0,0.16202539125947973,0.0,0.11340316940891584,0.07904966089376421,0.0,0.0,0.143320512116654
divorce,in_turmoil,2020/04/12,Feeling guilty over divorce I found out my husband was having inappropriate behaviour with other women.  I might add that he is also an alcoholic.  For 13 yrs I have been told everything is my fault.   I cant trust him anymore and he just lies.  He thinks what he has done should just be forgotten because he apologized.  I am tired of the alcohol and the lies. He says he will do better. I am feeling sorry for him as he is sad.  I know that I have to leave him for my personal self but I feel bad for him.  Is this normal?,0.68589010989011,3.103437076190477,2.8438095238095267,89.05978021978025,87.76190476190477,6.278388278388277,21.41025641025641,7.61054688173877,1.0630805860805863,403,14,84,8,13,136,71,105,0.20199999999999999,0.741,0.057,-0.9144,0,0,2,0,1,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,3,0,19,3,0,0,0,17,26,5,0,2,3,1,3,0,0,3,3,1,0,3,5,5,2,0,6,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,5,4,16,2,10,17,0,2,0,1,0,0,20,2,0,1,0,59,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4428935021704814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1657074665059961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20549875465059708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17301347434669673,0.1263145919434323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18326229118540088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21204995279567335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18622890246231974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31431803878091324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22719740661311824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11387836827583135,0.0,0.0,0.21940772793590732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21981932580668448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20302389333487536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18092964047289295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16478340366496178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161674441921848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23195701623999346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13277316685310514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23815986274898285,0.0,0.19800007130099326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Kaibigunz,2020/04/12,"Lost in the Sauce. She said “I’m so close to divorcing you.”
I was so shocked that I couldn’t reply. 
After hours dwelling about it, I began to wonder what is keeping her from wanting a divorce. It’s weird that she still packed most of her things and moved in with her parents. With all this going on, I just don’t know what to do anymore.",2.0994761904761887,3.754583614285714,2.782857142857144,95.8904761904762,77.14285714285714,5.238095238095238,23.095238095238088,5.46131890053228,0.078238095238095,263,8,59,1,6,82,53,70,0.107,0.8759999999999999,0.017,-0.7088,1,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,0,1,0,1,5,4,0,1,2,0,5,0,0,0,1,12,14,3,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,8,4,0,1,2,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,4,1,10,0,12,9,2,10,0,1,0,0,10,4,0,2,4,44,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3070721345709172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17597122523743355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30492553782001164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2752154989209426,0.0,0.0,0.17016586639354092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33800033493317155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3290902336661099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3438101314940958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2945313122103694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472728301624239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20570600449321105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826292085351224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.335783123728612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,i-m-s-o-s-l-e-e-p-y,2020/04/12,"I told my STBX today I am in my mid 20s married in my very early 20s married for 4 years last November and I told my STBX today that I want to end it. 

He was abusive emotionally and physically and prevented me from finishing school and moving forward with my life. I moved in with my parents two weeks ago and now we are states apart. I guess I'm just not feeling very confident in my decisions. 

He was bawling and sent me a sad message trying to get me to take him back. I think I'm just happy to be done. Now all that's left is the paperwork.",2.54517543859649,3.8870105350877218,4.462280701754388,85.63096491228073,75.22807017543859,7.873684210526315,26.701754385964907,8.515128840125781,1.7821649122807015,427,16,92,8,9,146,74,114,0.102,0.8440000000000001,0.054000000000000006,-0.7517,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,2,0,7,1,0,0,1,19,18,6,0,1,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,9,0,1,3,0,0,4,1,1,0,1,6,1,19,1,12,11,1,24,0,1,0,0,9,8,0,1,13,57,22,1,0.0,0.21064193816333496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15759252193620538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13670295538346872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819321399355576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19998019393019928,0.15746158960570494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08989163899329088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09288346597612916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958463020196669,0.0,0.0,0.18925165122769366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14491560369871315,0.0,0.0,0.19316005730866734,0.0,0.12557229036272374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3779070760077719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974052527286553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17992431096938272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336695194833374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11391516976607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33703203984301683,0.3397555736679955,0.0,0.12070192948397696,0.0,0.1736666365345379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933766174563172,0.1048601008639248,0.0,0.14260554945214945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11448542008809932
divorce,wastedbestyears,2020/04/13,"This has gotten out of hand and I no longer feel safe in my home. My wife and I have been more then rocky for the last couple of years, but lately it's been getting almost terrifying. She hides my things, she gaslights, it's like shes constantly trying to set me off into a rage. I cought her seeing another man on EASTER for the live of god. After I went and got our daughter an easter basket and toys, and I was making us a huge dinner. She went out and went shopping with some other guy, then gaslighted me about it. Stuff is constantly breaking around the house, she takes screws out of furniture and appliances. She breaks things that are valuable to me under the guise of an accident. It's like she just wants me to snap. I am thinking about taking out tax money and escaping with it. I dont know how else to get away from her. It's like she has me stuck and she knows it. I have no support system so she knows she can just bully the shit out of me and no one would be the wiser. If I snap she'll make it out like I'm crazy. I would hate to have to just up and leave but right now I dont think I have a choice. I cant just stay at home and allow this to continue. Its dangerous to my health and the mental well being of my child. I have no way to prove any of these things because I'll come off as sounding like a quack. I have to get away and I dont know what to do. Help.",1.1883219954648538,2.9214535238095247,2.62401360544218,95.64400226757373,80.08843537414965,5.716099773242631,18.03174603174603,6.605766666666668,-0.2615206349206347,1072,21,251,10,27,348,157,294,0.146,0.6970000000000001,0.157,0.3685,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,0,0,0,11,14,5,0,13,0,26,5,2,4,1,50,52,22,0,4,7,2,2,5,0,3,1,1,2,3,19,25,1,1,8,2,3,4,8,5,1,1,9,4,43,9,45,38,2,39,0,0,1,1,22,19,2,3,15,178,62,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108622753201903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07376720185766136,0.11374623897623258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09656637912658053,0.0,0.0,0.20383299866879187,0.0,0.0,0.0661257853238497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09344221814079597,0.0,0.23444740928661226,0.0,0.0,0.12002630868146573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3813981689157144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09061753550555733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05484857776143578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17002224222623066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08675793386968791,0.0,0.0,0.10740800635964906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10709730476529757,0.0,0.11530460603147401,0.0,0.0,0.07270898112074843,0.0,0.2176199612353266,0.0,0.0,0.12516640386876074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23846165095510816,0.08842218083160676,0.12236532453355782,0.11486011309272012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649787602984469,0.0,0.09578603834542612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448167560665177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10931800083455914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0735059477391014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09263766271836263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864410956136218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11134875637082382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562067255874282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12417873412995058,0.0,0.1230969489896137,0.0,0.0,0.16312046628191496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21619932282446835,0.13901370844039854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736478858256368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304829215716567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06398178363102536,0.08610296861381014,0.0,0.0,0.09753268972999124,0.30167420682753204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15411606259640542,0.0,0.0,0.06985480003008314
divorce,Texas4thewin,2020/04/13,"How the hell do you even find/pick a lawyer I mean ive never had to be involved in the legal system, yelp, cold-calling off a google search?",3.1830000000000003,3.5901692999999995,4.026666666666667,92.91,72.66666666666666,6.0,21.66666666666667,3.1291,-0.2273333333333327,109,2,25,0,2,35,27,30,0.16399999999999998,0.7829999999999999,0.053,-0.6249,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,4,0,4,0,0,1,1,3,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,3,3,0,4,1,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,16,3,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3780090228734185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5230860439627885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6234194135655156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4414050339849691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,RichyTheExplorodoro,2020/04/13,"Where do I start? I'm a male (29 years old) and about to get out of the military. I've been married for about three years and am currently stationed in South Carolina. I've finally come to the realization that despite my best efforts, I am not able to make my wife happy and we have many irreconcilable differences.

I got married to live the American dream (i.e. have kids, own a house, and enjoy life with my wife) but, it's very clear now that time alone will not solve our marital problems and I've exhausted every option of compromise that I can wrap my mind around and even some that I can't. After getting fed up with that I started putting my foot down more and standing up for my point of view and it's only made things more miserable to say the least. 

I need to move on with my life so I really think it's time to do the divorce thing and just cut our losses. 

Where do I start?

As far as I'm aware, in South Carolina you only have two types of divorces: 

Fault, (i.e. Drugs, Alcohol, Cheating, or Beating) which there is none of in our relationship. It also only takes 3 months to process.
OR 
No Fault, which takes a full year of being legally separated as in living in separate places.

A year is long time. I've seen a lot of divorces in my family and how divorces can get ugly real quick and unexpectedly. 

I do not know what my STBX might do/not do so my question is:

What do I need to do to protect myself throughout this process? I'm about to have 'the talk' with her but I want to be smart about this too and give myself time to be prepared for whatever may come with this.

All advice and recommendations are greatly appreciated!",3.7051376146788972,5.1508952079510735,4.739334556574928,84.38081834862388,72.45565749235475,8.045455657492354,26.841467889908266,8.608573733854374,1.7978475596330268,1291,45,266,23,25,422,178,327,0.129,0.7929999999999999,0.078,-0.9655,1,1,2,0,4,0,39.0,4,1,0,4,17,13,2,1,11,0,27,7,1,3,2,50,51,24,0,4,8,2,0,0,0,3,5,1,0,2,18,23,2,1,3,1,0,4,6,8,0,2,5,3,30,5,48,40,10,44,0,2,2,0,19,20,0,8,19,179,48,2,0.11391914859986516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11132047356110901,0.0,0.12174492482789324,0.0,0.1179858817318282,0.0,0.09110110197745737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10141219451592423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11955111820261285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19626251885601548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11902126383204994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13211004543983504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07524252325313227,0.0,0.0959817959879773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10739283475536307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12479285896715987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17855415991189455,0.10928162776228624,0.0,0.0,0.0911115498475876,0.12559626350127498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12126905200251716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13144740240657488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06260698482737084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16092892729111338,0.0,0.0,0.2011853906184689,0.10081486168433446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968499863523002,0.0,0.10779305285497236,0.07604191628709614,0.11549613636286793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12085021417068167,0.11502586538705395,0.0,0.09092917756033854,0.12107802641406888,0.0,0.1689392104450188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11953898319211845,0.0,0.0,0.2599219377109095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11902126383204994,0.0,0.10769041734977818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10900524009299667,0.0,0.11452020902283735,0.12761551805378005,0.0,0.0,0.12966493118222827,0.07297952365958757,0.0,0.0,0.12230653254503172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09059307934643368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418976791528737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713060446682568,0.09156389646391752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513656407733529,0.07299479056918062,0.0,0.0,0.2657086866484276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11128245508236444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939952281732762,0.06719246538756582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2934407868492537
divorce,Bat_Mama,2020/04/13,"Just separated from my husband We technically separated right after Christmas but were still living together. Last week we actually separated. I'm staying at my parents place for now.

He really threw himself into working on his issues and improving himself, which is great and I really do want the best for him. I want him to change and work on his issue is for himself though, not for me. As I don't think it will be a true change or long lasting otherwise.
He has been checking in daily and we did meet up on the weekend quickly so he could drop off some Easter stuff for my son.
I do still love him very much, there has just been so much hurt I'm not sure I can get past it. I was hoping this time apart would help me figure it out.
Anyways, just thought I'd post here and maybe get the insight I'm looking for as I'm not really sure how to feel right now.",4.831849529780567,5.23987932183908,5.837711598746082,81.38299373040752,69.0,8.856008359456636,29.61128526645768,8.841846274778883,2.1698000000000004,678,24,139,11,11,225,110,174,0.066,0.753,0.18100000000000002,0.9769,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,0,0,3,15,8,0,0,4,0,17,1,0,1,3,33,32,13,0,5,8,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,10,0,0,5,1,1,1,4,1,0,0,7,2,22,7,21,21,4,30,0,1,1,1,20,13,0,3,13,99,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.13457545127188442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14472285859388262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917705483225521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11010597368249757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06972894490181514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14409941022039927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15204082200059074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09243485875764064,0.0,0.0,0.1369708468384408,0.0,0.0,0.147630225264607,0.0,0.0,0.2878741198738906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22482206930224127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12177269972618028,0.12204164370070188,0.11580552307625945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244647061465168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13854417439558614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20275218199108974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15312725571588084,0.0,0.1316459896834457,0.0,0.0,0.14408144226671485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13207493264948195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26503654942655075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355403455534395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14698845139477584,0.2202623275313299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15786830695567355,0.0,0.0,0.2599477851395716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08836399786516362,0.1354910270628738,0.10948121817795524,0.08041355292849578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11378612195300634,0.16267996172781118,0.0,0.11061912555831982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20079306083082585,0.0,0.0,0.09796380212455792,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,professionalweener,2020/04/13,"What did you do wrong? I see a lot of posts and comments here seeking validation. It seems everyone's ex is abusive, controlling, manipulative, etc. It can't possibly be that everyone on this sub is without fault in their divorce. 

In my situation, while I have not started the divorce process yet, I've been thinking about what my wife would tell people about why we divorced. I would be shocked if she accepted any blame, and while I haven't been perfect and at times a downright asshole especially once I emotionally checked out, I'm really not sure what she would say.

So let's be honest with ourselves. What did you do wrong about? What could you have done better?",5.635564444444442,7.187635312000007,5.780266666666666,78.35857777777778,67.88,9.075555555555557,34.68888888888889,9.444778638647367,3.2841022222222214,534,26,98,11,9,169,87,125,0.157,0.7609999999999999,0.08199999999999999,-0.8766,0,0,0,0,3,0,16.0,1,3,1,3,6,9,0,0,3,0,21,0,0,2,2,22,26,7,0,5,4,2,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,9,6,0,1,3,0,1,0,5,4,0,0,5,2,14,5,11,13,2,11,0,0,1,0,15,5,0,3,5,71,23,0,0.0,0.20008980647499927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11484110441450622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14935662166835198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18940818919797092,0.13483331402634874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17281822883276424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899621635236708,0.0,0.0,0.18834077914211614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32273547982319445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17268660045713946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435718778337997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798468543850546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11707698120103953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19038170818733974,0.16173601007596589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818594457111508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13429654469130434,0.0,0.0,0.1345718779766519,0.1537378771063023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18982309368281772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11953092043910657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15916312336171262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14760459633466275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10820857646773736,0.0,0.0,0.09847263932516133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15238383658609653,0.0,0.0,0.16278991799568546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3598928464998064,0.36927761201241577,0.0,0.0
divorce,Ohlunax3,2020/04/13,"Friend 25/f/WA's husband wants a divorce. Unsure what to do next or how to go forward. A little backstory:
My friend started dating this guy who was in the military for about 6 months, met and hung out a few times, before they got engaged. Her family, and friends (myself included) were a bit skeptical about how fast this was going, and insisted maybe a somewhat reasonable time for engagement is fine. She moved to WA, to be closer to his base. They got married the next month. 

Fast forward to 2 years later, he all of a sudden wants a divorce. They have been fighting over little things, but make up and they're good for a week and then same fights. He wants to go on spontaneous road trips with his boys, but she wants him to at least plan it out a bit better before just up and leaving - like financial wise. It's not like she's not letting him go. She tried to compromise, saying budget a bit and then go. As he has a lot of debt, that she's help paying off. She already dropped 10k towards it, and they have about 28k left, and he's suppose to pay her back $600 to her savings. He won't consider, he thinks compromising is a ""loss."" Now - on Sunday, he said he wanted a divorce. Left for the day, to come back evening to pack a bag and take his ring off. She tried messaging him throughout the week, but nothing, not even when their landlord needed their money for rent. Husband comes back on Friday, with his friend, and talked a bit more with my friend. She wrote a letter on what she's feeling, and he said that she's not fulfilling his ""love language,"" and how he wants to be loved. She expressed that she can try and work things out for them, but nothing reciprocated. Before he left, he said he understood her feelings, took pictures of her letter, and said that he may come back every now and then to spend the night. And left. But then a few days later, he goes over , hand writes something, and tells her to sign it. She foolishly signed it without reading it because he kept insisting she HAS to sign it, repeatedly. Now she needs to find a divorce lawyer, but doesn't know what to do next. 

I'm not sure how to go about with this, or how to help her. I don't even know where to start with google.",4.911786531546254,5.446106480549201,5.024016835567182,86.8408895881007,68.86270022883295,8.073520758417784,27.96412226217718,7.957251820313856,1.5289765282772154,1720,54,360,20,28,538,212,437,0.053,0.8240000000000001,0.12300000000000001,0.9862,2,0,1,0,7,0,70.0,0,0,7,4,22,21,3,0,23,0,20,3,1,7,2,79,60,37,0,8,15,2,3,2,5,2,0,6,2,2,20,29,0,1,8,1,7,14,9,4,0,0,15,9,41,17,58,40,12,75,0,1,0,2,87,27,0,5,39,223,61,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805806045326414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22459488795760488,0.0,0.044512987508304167,0.0,0.1864067448560008,0.0,0.0,0.0645812328787173,0.3188805349862848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18870364722984886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09418514295513092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14468925240951666,0.0,0.06152342986382174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06883779855271924,0.0,0.07384332888557682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06673996656791581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2820796207624061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24899745854637065,0.061246637940154836,0.1168032956485686,0.0,0.0,0.07230237375577184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09788901417257233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08026097866504975,0.0,0.0,0.07731880618519663,0.3173505745170663,0.07466902661952522,0.0,0.07134884638036396,0.1463726599595894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062079931734182185,0.13180879537996082,0.0,0.04874215423084785,0.0,0.07335951411196287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165694978016294,0.0776098778883967,0.0,0.1082884473881428,0.0,0.0,0.2329763189300461,0.0685253599302315,0.0,0.14013143819758014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07304086498637198,0.0,0.0,0.07507785701051849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778391679425887,0.05806931310199801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0562152136851222,0.0,0.0,0.10336942711822317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06882152676398436,0.0,0.05490278294915616,0.0586915977573674,0.06382366381468448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09702395426189256,0.04678897526120339,0.0,0.0,0.08515838643647795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08112913382601496,0.14872961004761925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25841843585633617,0.0,0.11714625083084101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07038973891449735,0.0,0.05316023370836324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047023197167424605
divorce,JustSAtisfaction1,2020/04/13,"Hate My Marriage, But have two kids I have been Married now for 3 years and I have one kid and another on the way. I am 28 years old and she is 25. The first year of marriage was good, however I know have to much built up resentment for my wife. All she does is drain me as a person, I feel like a shell of who I use to be. She is toxic to my soul and I walk on egg shells everyday. My mission when I wake up every morning is finding a way to stay out as long as possible to avoid spending time. I miss my old life before meeting her. I jumped into marriage with her without knowing her properly, she tricked me into thinking she was a good person. I am scared of loosing my kids. I want advise on what to do. Should I leave and start over as I am still fairly young. I want to work on myself for a few years first, before even thinking of even talking to another female. I am a very caring person and I feel like she take advantage. Please Help me, I am mentally stressed. I have gray hairs now, I also have anxiety because of her.",2.3314829001367983,3.628859423255815,3.9414227086183327,89.33032831737347,75.69767441860466,6.919288645690835,25.6703146374829,7.510576382923642,1.1822859097127223,796,28,174,10,17,266,117,215,0.095,0.7929999999999999,0.11199999999999999,0.5709,1,2,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,0,4,7,13,3,3,8,0,21,4,2,1,1,25,35,13,0,3,2,1,3,2,0,1,1,0,0,6,2,10,1,1,7,0,1,2,1,7,0,4,3,4,40,6,32,30,3,32,1,1,1,0,25,10,0,0,19,124,42,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09793605591829888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568326628183095,0.09368619302565312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07465416737526101,0.0,0.2084191769538622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12486229988268535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10717086561623736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161775342005766,0.0,0.10318292902036807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12384502911968935,0.17497954114234202,0.0,0.0,0.11193175101650976,0.20833911909184175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054374247113087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12090987012450947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08208641182391087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134608276603431,0.0,0.0,0.12967386422059854,0.0,0.0,0.08650139284788383,0.11966145203616782,0.0,0.0,0.10837860044498343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12341697405125025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09002663785506894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2570150368810422,0.0,0.08298616490854542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.320797893304158,0.0,0.13443094700666275,0.0,0.1380620704833467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12260988039894807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08668210050076994,0.13053251464565174,0.09780154570493872,0.0,0.14028444647541946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09207922849234257,0.09843357203743268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15694259972171878,0.0,0.0,0.07141093858562028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196315358113762,0.0,0.0,0.10577134663778696,0.0,0.10104731691071213,0.1444672985210068,0.1944157002876108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11805290196357808,0.0,0.08915674294455678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3154564839038867
divorce,Gavin_Guile76,2020/04/13,"Can My Wife Keep Me From Kids If I Start Working During Pandemic? New to reddit. My STBXW and I in the process of separating. I'm out of work due to pandemic; I was a business director for a restaurant group that decided to close (hopefully) temporality.  My unemployment benefits have yet to come in. It's almost four weeks since I lost my job. She is working and keeping us afloat. No abuse in the relationship, but after 20 years, she wants a fresh start. One kid going to college, one still in HS. My STBXW only ghosts me at home. We communicate through text and email, even if we are within talking distance (silly, I know, but I'm trying to respect her in this). I have an opportunity to work again, although, at about 1/3 of my average pay, it is a three-month term. My question to reddit is if I accept this job, can she ask me to isolate myself from our kids? She is working from home but has gone into work a couple of times during quarantine, she is in IT at a hospital. The position has limited contact and strict policies in place. I want to work, to be out of the house, to feel like I have value again but don't want to jeopardize seeing my kids during the quarantine.",4.1633384262796005,5.490273324675329,5.544909600203717,79.51047364400307,71.16450216450217,8.72533740769035,29.17265087853324,9.168548406835145,2.4759139801375096,922,36,179,19,17,310,132,231,0.059000000000000004,0.831,0.109,0.9282,4,2,0,0,1,0,36.0,4,0,0,10,6,8,0,0,12,0,16,0,0,0,0,31,34,12,1,7,7,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,6,11,0,3,5,0,1,3,2,1,0,3,3,2,31,7,39,30,1,32,0,1,1,0,22,16,0,6,14,125,37,13,0.0,0.1453545469436265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12284529126913173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11468829868367693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10567709035144138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13574197316216666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08102831834054977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062030185317408774,0.08764189762775884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06972129927100287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461140666747756,0.1218479216118144,0.0,0.14155508755874835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434799431805755,0.21808545275962027,0.0,0.0,0.06742116661701658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059934759577472886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13391861353342338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09792120236340918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11848413659836385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662609222073242,0.09330290285312114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12817343754718427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13742854937583984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317113279261948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977592746939524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014813313369734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17366564636416787,0.0,0.09797160285768584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09860472815643634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715351077979097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08329098387691768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475677243820461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21707774700192853,0.0,0.0984056888813424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6251823797080817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07900124976847094
divorce,divorcedanon,2020/04/13,"My tears have no salt I watched an old video I filmed of Jane and Jane Jr. playing together on Our bed and immediately felt this pit in my stomach. I ache to have that feeling of togetherness back. Now my treasured memories, which used to being me joy, just bring me back to that rut of resentment. Why does she not want this anymore? Why am I not enough? Why do I feel like the only one who is taking our marriage vows deadly serious? Why did she give up the fight before I even knew we were fighting for our marriage? Why can't she see that maybe her lack of happiness has nothing to do with me? 

I oscillate between being willing to walk over broken glass to have her back and thinking about how much better my next partner will be. Over time the oscillation weights itself to the former. I know time will help me evict the power Jane has over me but I wonder if I will ever get back the treasure of joy I used to feel when I see memories of our family playing together. 

My tears have no salt.",4.8588694638694605,5.568127287878787,5.487373737373741,82.84849650349652,69.05050505050505,8.516550116550116,29.372183372183372,8.617729084823388,2.0690593628593628,785,28,158,12,13,254,119,198,0.102,0.772,0.126,0.8359,2,0,0,0,3,0,15.0,5,0,0,2,11,13,3,0,7,0,20,2,1,3,1,24,37,7,1,3,5,0,5,1,1,4,0,0,1,1,8,5,1,0,8,4,0,2,5,4,0,1,4,10,32,9,24,26,3,20,0,0,3,0,18,6,0,2,13,114,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12809750747521645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39728130818223184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10991036071483293,0.0,0.0,0.11423642325697653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130336341421125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13346253054014465,0.0,0.08531262072182225,0.11683762544207404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12176577530371716,0.0,0.19592993344797585,0.09227588730440177,0.12401917388512106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06748366333409711,0.12390735528342575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374991187360931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08657693850647538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07098600259783314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06310375824901827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12976414556467947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09495153358929813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13736901672413385,0.0,0.0,0.12393781886767816,0.0,0.13553750583606247,0.0,0.08752591246877406,0.09823621329396258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20585642389746794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09711641093542234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08276406230486312,0.0,0.0,0.1506349297342786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22311510931311854,0.0,0.0,0.07618518182449363,0.0,0.0,0.15728882984349266,0.0,0.0,0.5827590454082927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400745178717729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,indigotrees,2020/04/13,"Married in a different country, divorcing in USA My dad and stepmom are immigrants and have been married for 30 years. Due to crazy immigration laws, my dad immigrated to the US in 2001 to live with me. They were physically separated, but he always supported her and my siblings. They have a home there too. Fast forward to 2014, she and my sister’s immigration paperwork finally went through and they were able to join us in the US. Since then, I’ve witnessed how horribly she treats my dad. He’s been dropping hints about leaving her for years, but hasn’t been able to because he was legally required to be her financial sponsor for five years. We are passed that point now. Yesterday, I went over to drop off some supplies for him. I haven’t seen him in a couple of months because he was out of the country for 2 of them and came back right when we went into lockdown. I’ve been face timing him and he seemed fine, but after seeing him in person I see just how much this marriage has drained him. He’s lost about 20 lbs since the lockdown started. This woman is slowly killing him with her verbal and emotional abuse. My sister and I are encouraging him to leave her. Should he consult any special kind of lawyer because of the overseas assets? I want him away from her ASAP, but I’m afraid she will go off the deep-end and try to take everything from him before he has things in order with a lawyer.",5.87753676470588,6.4530566801470615,5.920588235294119,81.11264705882354,66.75735294117646,8.9,32.17647058823529,8.841846274778883,2.5229205882352934,1115,44,215,17,17,352,152,272,0.099,0.821,0.08,-0.85,1,2,0,0,1,0,26.0,5,0,4,2,10,9,1,1,10,0,21,1,1,2,0,31,36,18,1,2,5,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,4,18,0,1,1,0,0,7,2,3,0,1,14,3,39,6,42,19,2,40,0,1,3,0,46,16,0,2,16,142,43,5,0.24257507774162199,0.14370590047678464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10092094848267534,0.0,0.0,0.08247968555907978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11395363531075972,0.09326263075867657,0.0,0.2218072738362335,0.0,0.10320676232971446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872063309917546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13420235483469362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12671966338326288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364321563732345,0.1074247593907322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10900541927143176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13286457034491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06893050341271202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216612906688739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341866915166468,0.12630230750461205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25685198225216344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10709911891364736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323996761923585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09681055637606382,0.0,0.08916029659313167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590360066353066,0.0,0.0,0.1146559278300342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10357889549181916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19330093065888476,0.11041562014660103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20066061100955684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08584794427629662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376356617882334,0.0,0.0,0.09119313481039604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08057805147178299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07072373928412032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08234627737013245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4376819265624306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07153853287777874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3373042909832892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23431559539391406
divorce,Master_jaguar,2020/04/13,"What should i do? Is she cheating should i get a divorce? So to be frank this is my situation 

She is 26f and im 28m.
Married for 6 years

My wife doesnt want to kiss me hug me or even get intimate 

This has started when our son was born. and it keeps getting worse we have a 3 year old son. I thought it was because of the stress of having a child but sonce he his getting older and its getting easier that things would change it just keeps getting worse 

I would try to kiss her on the lips twice a day just to see her reaction and she would either move her face so i kiss her on the cheeck or just be like a wall when i manage to kiss her on the lips. 

Intimacy well it would take me a whole month just to get her to have intercourse and she doesnt even want to look at me.

She went to the hospital last month to check her private some lady issues thats all i know and it took a month for me to find out about that. 4 months ago she went to the hospital and found out she is a diabetic and I found out that to about 3 weeks ago. I am literally heart broken why my parents her parents her brothers know all the updates and me not knowing anything and finding out later by her family or mine. 

She keeps threatening to leave me and go back to her country to be with her family. She said theirs nothing i can do to stop from taking our son like he is all hers i told her i have every right like you do for our child. 

When we are sleaping i woke up peaking through my eyelid that she is on her phone at night covered by the blankets.

I have caught her looking at a guys profile from her country  2-3 times and i told her to stop. Last year when she visited her family back in her country thats when she changed completely in the middle of her stay.  Thats when she started searching him. 
Found out one of her friends tried to hook her up down their with that guy found that out 6 months later when she told me. I also found out she was at a tavern for just single people and alcoholics with a friend .... she admited it... 

I feel like she has cheated on me in the past and her guilt is catching up with her. She is exptecting to go back to visit family in 2-3 months when this corona pandemic ends. And i feel like she is going to stay their with our son i dont want to lose my son i worked my whole life to have children because i never had no one my parents abandoned me when i was 15 and i worked and lived alone since then. What should i do. Is she cheating? I dont talk to her for days weeks and we live in a apartment i try she just doesnt budge. Thank you..
I also have other reasons why i think she cheated/cheating",2.1921332458155582,3.4795137220216614,3.463414834263212,92.65739333770924,76.03971119133574,6.552609123728257,23.42123400065639,7.075746649084167,0.5941891696750905,2038,60,470,21,44,664,220,554,0.11,0.8220000000000001,0.068,-0.9632,3,1,1,0,1,0,35.0,7,2,3,3,27,21,3,2,22,0,46,12,4,1,4,82,92,36,0,10,12,10,2,5,2,7,3,1,0,5,23,33,1,6,16,0,1,11,8,7,1,3,20,6,108,14,71,62,8,87,0,2,3,5,91,29,0,4,50,332,131,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11238777020663476,0.06774761554532951,0.0,0.06565581412649786,0.0,0.10139038553351816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0521668663049256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462354318667273,0.0,0.07728731508420114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13412233645888896,0.0,0.06646613619244185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08176621282121009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14859175992724574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05614719763207158,0.0,0.0,0.08374068233595594,0.0,0.05341116127129043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390443294984074,0.0,0.0641066006340415,0.09057564637736903,0.0,0.0,0.11587972665014395,0.0,0.0,0.3475346213184365,0.0979542275145154,0.0,0.23184082123017,0.0,0.10808275354607748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255376611321702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751207636073907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06847509349284124,0.06616560476290563,0.0,0.16903927844906114,0.0,0.0,0.10451706166478056,0.10334717261799843,0.0,0.06712381340900514,0.0,0.0,0.0447762036555249,0.15485258010554548,0.0,0.11195399328739997,0.0,0.10646795860054364,0.07092031887045644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3035971300776277,0.0673765053950589,0.0,0.0,0.04889242914289494,0.0,0.0,0.05948984083800336,0.0,0.060827093526120674,0.0,0.06652007126726472,0.0,0.0859131927984188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111705800694509,0.0,0.06051559289756379,0.043948579995750636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06517834811172847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05413709789693597,0.06030106188532371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050515847639422816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052439172529800515,0.07125615413191158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08973948875335605,0.1351365629388123,0.0,0.1059984251133317,0.07261622892167838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953269803335336,0.050952724840391886,0.0,0.058363565676948226,0.0,0.0,0.042115354099492186,0.04061954135076752,0.0,0.05032679571263555,0.03696484673911397,0.0,0.0,0.1817235878518368,0.0704317243068642,0.12911863343205476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11217213331204233,0.0,0.10169974771078896,0.0,0.05699773307231109,0.11753150636406208,0.11440426911526815,0.14155157650361092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923014149926817,0.0,0.12920534145582954,0.1801296821064568,0.0,0.0,0.12246863867766435
divorce,nothingtoseehere678,2020/04/13,"I think my ex got my stimulus check?? Divorce was final last November, I made her file a joint tax return for 2018. It was supposed to be direct deposited into her bank account. The return was like 6 or 7 grand (thanks to kids) and she was going to give me 3,000 and change off the top because I wouldn’t sign the papers otherwise. Then we were going to split the rest, like 1300 each. 

So SHE filed the taxes (most of the income was hers so she could have that headache) and I think she flagged something with the IRS because they found an OLD school loan of mine and applied the WHOLE THING to what I owed. I got a cold email at that point (she’s money hungry af) stating that the return was applied to the loan and according to our divorce papers I OWED HER 1300 dollars (because I agreed that all loans and debts in my name were my responsibility AND that I would split the 2600 of the return). 

ANYWAY I got screwed. So I told her to pound sand pretty much. I have no money and she works so oh well. I haven’t heard from her sense. 

But now I’m hearing that stimulus checks go to the last place you sent direct deposits. I worked some in 2019 but I’m in the service industry so I hadn’t filed. I’m pretty sure she got my check or WILL get my check, so I’ve been emailing her but get no response.  I’m betting she’ll just APPLY that 1200 to what I “owe” her but can she legally do that???  I’m technically homeless and don’t have a job anymore. Can’t afford a new lawyer and my last one won’t take my calls. Is there someone I can call about this?  I need that money!!",1.5989343852991134,3.6046828173374617,2.721226405672624,94.11074802756418,79.95975232198144,5.282293019075203,20.94567062818336,6.207218560251982,0.04823068011584963,1222,34,269,9,31,390,172,323,0.022000000000000002,0.903,0.075,0.9206,7,0,1,0,2,0,35.0,2,1,1,3,12,7,1,0,19,0,27,1,0,1,2,36,56,23,0,4,7,1,1,2,0,5,0,2,0,1,14,14,0,0,3,0,22,4,8,1,1,1,19,4,49,6,23,30,7,26,0,0,0,1,35,9,1,5,14,169,63,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12812058988237274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362569066376101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638324474946223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13666463588176966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10314675616327897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14152003155045234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416488669457415,0.0,0.0,0.13499164697581267,0.1239296826501379,0.22026294125887602,0.0,0.4132963862117908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14560518306260575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281999641985113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3159183791786628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262302583400865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12224157990458168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949686432895696,0.0957918689825802,0.0,0.12477136203975901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13556192888656768,0.0,0.08754168411638961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13497481468165592,0.0,0.12212518718745435,0.0,0.0,0.2628629370624717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13074597730336251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10946126326528187,0.09945586097197306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217589287493762,0.0,0.09713391073368502,0.0,0.0,0.1189397032976196,0.0,0.0,0.08582730788921385,0.16555795179093666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12344544848929775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615625915973135,0.0,0.0,0.14423469775510575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18810199112827855,0.0,0.0,0.09177202718998087,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,g_bay,2020/04/13,"Severe shame over young marriage and divorce I married my husband at 22. We eloped after only knowing each other for 8 months so I could move to a foreign country with him. He was 28 when we married... and already divorced once. He left me a little over a year later but I’m pretty sure I deserved it. I was 23 when he left last year and now we are getting divorced at 24. I feel so gross and flawed and broken, I’m ashamed of myself. You’re not supposed to get married young and I always see people on reddit making fun of people for being so dumb to marry young. I live in DC where everyone is so together and smart so I’m too afraid to date because I don’t want to tell anyone about my past. I’m still super in love with my husband and the sadness mixed with the shame is unbearable. Am I the dumbest person alive? Should I never marry again.. do I deserve marriage? Why did I do something so obviously stupid? Why am I still heartbroken over something so silly?",1.4063589503280234,3.8480967680412377,3.0552764761012163,88.86392689784442,83.89690721649485,4.558200562324274,23.76663542642924,5.852544927426893,0.6097092783505151,759,29,144,5,22,250,119,194,0.20600000000000002,0.65,0.14400000000000002,-0.9552,0,0,2,0,3,0,19.0,3,0,0,1,16,14,2,4,6,0,14,1,0,1,3,26,26,18,0,3,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,15,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,8,0,0,3,2,22,6,22,20,1,31,0,1,1,1,17,12,1,0,18,93,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817731575533838,0.0,0.13706064376950655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11517639705954524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10041208226777684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315159084183917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573974878326379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08328762940930184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17211931563621233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905260738913982,0.1342691848947654,0.0,0.0,0.3579385902843427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650932053355629,0.14545121113255627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486666739998083,0.0,0.1099522066368495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13147832417434355,0.17507181340879396,0.0,0.0,0.1270425971459676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754219467306019,0.0,0.1252773557886167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15724434691238506,0.22839289605429036,0.14382757893861864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16757995715625276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312609046767906,0.0,0.0,0.18608726869959952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536197625557302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630919933478317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552471131246808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14397296924623296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971564131924262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2972692444981943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121491909114601
divorce,letithail1,2020/04/13,"Divorce paperwork asks about roommates? Hello all, 

My STBX and I are trying to fill out our own divorce paperwork and get this done uncontested. There's a question in the California divorce form FL-150 that asks how many other people live with me and how much money they make. I have a girlfriend and her three kids living with me. It doesn't seem right to put her information on MY divorce stuff. Any advice?

Also, my ex moved in with family members. She only pays a small amount for rent and food and whatnot, so she would have to include the same information right?

Thanks for the help.",3.6945454545454512,6.363467727272727,4.079090909090908,83.62863636363637,76.27272727272728,6.545454545454546,24.54545454545455,7.686295010490155,1.417818181818182,470,16,84,7,11,147,80,110,0.0,0.943,0.057,0.7303,1,0,0,0,4,0,13.0,1,0,1,0,6,1,0,0,6,0,6,1,0,3,1,20,12,10,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,5,10,1,0,4,0,3,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,13,1,13,10,6,10,0,0,0,0,20,7,0,2,0,60,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911662576329781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156444328470366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330343330354419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3657731518392107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20019624442264666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844214784579565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23655519374738104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10220800494055786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13112590101695315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34548773450778714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13058378297200227,0.19833695863175974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20792251821008004,0.14380972126782915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14878456322062025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13562441938616418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19666103711124144,0.2191490946976874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3341319546722007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780931666182949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22394824062921528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801087704997001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328191543606231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389691291064731,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,anoanotherlaurasmith,2020/04/13,"Amicable Divorces I am new to this sub, but appreciate all the stories I've read here. I'd love some insight from anyone who wants to give it. My husband and I have decided that our marriage is over, but our friendship is not. Has anyone else come through a truly amicable divorce? We've been married 20 years and raised two kids. I have faced the reality that I am gay, and this is the reason we are divorcing (full disclosure: I thought I was bi and was completely open about my attraction to women when we met and married, so me admitting my lesbianism isn't a surprise to him. He understands and respects me.) I don't want to paint too rosy of a picture....there have been fights and tension, sadness and lots of hurt feelings before I asked for the divorce, but I can't imagine not having him in my life. He can't imagine not having me in his life. We want to be friends, and to go through the process of unraveling our   
 lives intentionally, with as little acrimony as we can. 

That said, we're new to this process. Is there anyone else facing something similar?",5.1558321775312095,6.193044402912619,5.958280166435507,78.55242718446603,68.5631067961165,8.992510402219137,34.61719833564493,9.23628265651192,3.129743134535368,841,41,160,16,14,276,121,206,0.09,0.78,0.13,0.9131,0,0,1,0,4,0,28.0,7,0,0,0,6,9,1,1,8,0,23,8,2,2,1,38,37,16,0,3,6,1,1,0,1,0,2,1,0,2,8,16,0,0,9,1,0,2,7,4,0,1,7,2,26,5,22,29,4,12,0,2,0,4,29,6,0,2,4,112,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3453699982875256,0.3373956997736161,0.0,0.0,0.1539204759668763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14010042827455926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418267445971234,0.17262673100258616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27507887376565576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08324925696825237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12720400983408775,0.0,0.0,0.15794210326191002,0.09357132063158907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17625544996614922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325867007337272,0.0,0.16501714326807054,0.14538419856341073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13997495149544756,0.1485981799962625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3180295620226192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16468915554595426,0.0,0.0,0.1692820707088993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15661471819437273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267514571790123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13070942172045746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16083385077398452,0.17140083549804833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2913349532937965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060257245586972
divorce,SorryThat-Username,2020/04/13,"My aunt is getting divorced and I want to do something for her. Recommendations? I just found out that my aunts husband wants to get divorced. This is hard on everyone because it’s not what the rest of the family wants but that’s not the point. I want to hug her but I can’t because of everything so I’ll have to do something else. 

I want to give her something or do something for her. 
What was something nice someone gave you or something you got yourself ?
Anything you wish someone got or did for you?


I’m just a broke teenager but I’ve gotta do something",1.422702518720218,3.8984809911504494,2.5238938053097364,92.44947583390065,84.22123893805309,4.8928522804629,27.27637848876787,6.297961479604792,1.0403007488087137,444,21,91,4,13,141,63,113,0.043,0.815,0.142,0.8776,0,0,7,0,2,0,8.0,0,4,0,0,3,3,0,0,4,0,10,1,0,0,0,19,25,8,0,6,10,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,6,1,15,2,12,18,1,3,0,1,0,1,15,3,0,3,0,60,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11109107219662873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645859011295815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11277271541110005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12899546939671588,0.1213266466548068,0.0,0.12726320722083936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480173007979553,0.0,0.0,0.14106077688065094,0.1295014743862876,0.0,0.0,0.21593895113912764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12093084344286835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12761585007140416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22876512999807655,0.7274912877822715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3981237978202189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15523994874289446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ApprehensiveBuns,2020/04/13,"Quarantine Encouragement? 
We’ve been married 13 years, two kids (12&6), a mortgage, & a car note. Minimal debt. 3 months of assets. Stbx was accomplished & self-employed for 10+ years but hasn’t worked since 2016. I am employed full-time with a good salary, commission, & benefits. 

Of our 13 years together, I’ve been sober a total of 6 - I feel off the wagon in 2016 when stbx abruptly stopped working and we became a single income household. I’ve been sober the last 21 months. Over the last 4 years my stbx has refused to take responsibility for actions or behaviors. They haven’t been sober, held down a job, helped around the house, or decided to take the journey toward growth and healing with me. Allays promising the world and never following through. Always bringing out the worst version of me. Always a pessimist. 

I first called the attorney in October and made an appointment. I chickened out & cancelled on her voice mail 3 days prior. I blamed the bad vacation on my parents/siblings we’d just come from instead. I finally met with her mid February and we made a plan. It would likely take 2 months to get the process started on my end because of my outright fear. I will pay child support, I will agree to maintain insurances and the like, I will do what is best for our kids. 

We’ve been home for 25 days of quarantine and while my stbx is not wooing me or physically harming me in any capacity, I’m afraid I’ll lose the courage to ask for the divorce, freedoms, and health I deserve once this is all over. I need to do it in the relative safety & view of our couples therapist and not stuck inside with our children alone. 

Quarantine is killing me on the inside. I’m sad. I’m lonely. I’m sacred. I know I am worth more than this & I deserve happiness, but I’m feeling bleak atm.",3.6175811099749033,5.8378726657060565,4.282112113042672,84.29890861764433,74.5043227665706,7.359263735242168,29.637352421678905,8.259297600419973,2.2478581202937624,1433,64,269,25,31,456,199,347,0.15,0.701,0.149,-0.5252,8,6,0,0,1,0,62.0,7,0,1,7,4,19,1,2,24,0,22,2,0,2,3,41,46,16,1,2,8,0,2,2,0,4,2,1,1,4,5,19,0,3,4,0,4,7,5,9,0,2,11,4,34,10,41,30,7,46,0,3,1,0,22,18,0,3,23,154,39,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09406082997450024,0.0,0.0,0.1511369418014711,0.6888145033197506,0.0,0.06175986068088834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08084793744546853,0.08490326663411317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07582985829529011,0.05536226379977754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09530866945654093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927360924491997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07823230688923533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10048921357369794,0.0,0.11714115412561235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08043845134323754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10219633686413787,0.09184137220298616,0.0,0.0,0.09948749559732538,0.0,0.07725037781881419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04744904568295701,0.0,0.0,0.07617445416036725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09667824246551776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965360787048608,0.0,0.0,0.06087389017318931,0.0,0.09109860580863426,0.0,0.0,0.10479263778743443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09012359051961992,0.0,0.100477485057351,0.0,0.04991160695351948,0.14805879663966628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08873890242443531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016029447469616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17186978421823698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21747196659505652,0.0,0.0,0.06734094841030687,0.07004501468506043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967189990669748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947437575197239,0.0,0.0,0.0751262040833999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06428197491668394,0.0,0.0,0.0759285371356472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10306003519708372,0.0,0.0,0.2048531803716432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10544756241230394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08871671705974586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13223425552693732,0.0,0.0,0.06451503049422308,0.0,0.0,0.2339371758236851
divorce,PsychedelicAirFusion,2020/04/13,"Married but separated, filed taxes separately... So we filed together last year, but we will be getting divorced (when can afford). I filed my taxes separately and have been living in a new residence for months. Will I get a stimulus check sent to new address or my account? Just worried that since we filed together with her account last year, she will get my check.",5.865454545454547,7.7934443333333325,6.364060606060607,72.94609090909094,67.78787878787878,9.522424242424243,34.41212121212121,9.888512548439397,3.75734303030303,290,14,48,7,5,94,45,66,0.044000000000000004,0.956,0.0,-0.4215,1,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,0,0,9,11,6,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,10,0,4,5,0,10,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,8,31,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4244409135519481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4414715477106287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23911879462663824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21614765632613192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5230750403271497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22400615392707854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2750075930613702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3487688993220785
divorce,lightoftheskyx,2020/04/13,He filed abruptly after our fight 3 weeks ago. I can't focus on work or anything anymore. How did you guys stay focused on work? I want to die right now.,0.08531250000000057,2.366481906250001,1.5425000000000004,98.2525,89.3125,3.2,20.5,3.1291,-0.5730249999999999,119,4,26,0,4,38,29,32,0.18899999999999997,0.698,0.113,-0.5574,0,0,0,0,1,1,4.0,1,1,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,3,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,4,2,0,9,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,5,13,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2878911400068991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3220869552675659,0.0,0.0,0.2672600156315926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33706247982425536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3215757400533131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773538580142398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3461641697271793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19155917811363013,0.0,0.26051283207276066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4728763554546313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,FlorenceRidingFail,2020/04/13,"School and working during a divorce I am having a really tough time concentrating and keeping my emotions in check. He filed, his excuses were weak, he is probably cheating, and we still live in the same house but do not communicate. 

I am a mess. Anyone else in a similar situation? How did you make it through? This is the worst thing that has ever happened to me, I want to crawl into a hole and die.",3.1625824175824206,5.289479397435901,4.791611721611726,80.55576923076926,75.53846153846153,8.046886446886448,27.809523809523807,8.841846274778883,2.370906227106227,315,13,60,7,7,106,62,78,0.20199999999999999,0.7490000000000001,0.049,-0.9312,0,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,1,1,0,1,3,5,1,0,7,0,9,1,0,2,1,14,13,6,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,6,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,5,0,0,2,0,8,0,7,11,2,7,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,3,46,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17656026417567006,0.25872545753455084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26206462476767123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21093898802166544,0.2840387994918836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284089766011903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22329300155954332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2913616489246529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22444172872328347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229701997793739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16855181396639413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722475645314237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16176382311020535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25555273391216715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2838308568684226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016541280761791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16775585473286933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14724011212491148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14893643504707718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18382966374414625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Advanced-Baker,2020/04/13,"It’s not fair! I’m sitting here in tears, balling my eyes out and she doesn’t care. I was abused as a child, from 4 yrs old to 12, I told her about after she caught me being self-destructive. I knew I loved her so I told her everything. Everything about my past and how it made me feel. I told her that I had grown accustom to pleasuring men at a young age. The torment is live as fuck. I lost her and all I can do is blame my past abuse. It’s like I let those fuckers win again. 20 years later, and my beautiful wife is leaving me. She is diagnosed BPD. She discarded me after I told her everything. She made me feel like I could tell her anything. We kicked our drug habit together and I thought we were going to make it. There’s no way she cares about me. She will hurt me to ensure I am not happy without her. It’s what BPDers do. Look it up. Check out my other posts. I can recover and I make it through this. And, I know when I do it will be an amazing accomplishment. I need help.",-0.16779904306220314,1.9850575215311004,1.7287732057416283,97.5582124401914,88.61722488038276,5.640650717703347,18.886315789473684,7.087006719466742,0.1515001339712918,758,22,182,12,25,249,123,209,0.152,0.69,0.158,0.5472,0,0,1,0,2,0,28.0,3,0,0,3,9,13,2,0,4,0,20,6,1,5,1,27,43,12,0,2,3,1,2,2,0,2,2,0,0,2,13,11,0,0,5,1,1,3,5,4,0,0,13,4,49,9,19,24,1,22,0,2,2,3,28,5,2,0,13,122,62,1,0.0,0.29321184860879346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018234889184238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558400950536995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523124722723889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09879245213987313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255885768224109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14349349546214388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3336155340898801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12512842349209335,0.08839641882336241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11439115613780595,0.0,0.0,0.07032153956142224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13171837240148795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08293706557832059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324610416316655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06800160474788544,0.0,0.0,0.13101766226216358,0.0,0.12652757839598527,0.0,0.12090149239328615,0.0,0.10926040801684613,0.0,0.10390636596189463,0.0,0.13507153736473948,0.0,0.11167580753193712,0.23416238922936106,0.16518835238224833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09174804893398704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12983922975061962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362384110549928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11850407408662715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12908275137656053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081499785443814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09823189101664467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4729369692425016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09821520593930916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11927627306779573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07968138243381617
divorce,silly_skirt,2020/04/13,"The First Easter Alone I don't even celebrate this holiday in the religious sense. I took my two kids (7&3) to my parents house for an egg hunt, I napped with my little one, we had a big meal, and played for hours. I know my kids had a blast.

But, as I sat there, in my thoughts, I started to tear up. When I leave my parents house, I will be going home alone. I will have my kids, but I won't have anyone to talk to when I get home. I will be alone. It's a simple holiday filled with candy for the kids, but it's a reason to be with family. And, frankly, mine is broken. I am so sad.",0.2910367454068279,1.9135789370078733,2.381594488188977,96.83779855643046,82.46456692913387,5.808136482939633,18.457349081364832,6.816661863887847,-0.1546792650918638,443,10,110,5,12,149,73,127,0.14300000000000002,0.792,0.066,-0.812,2,3,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,8,0,14,2,0,1,0,12,21,9,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,4,3,6,2,0,3,4,0,3,2,1,0,3,5,0,22,1,15,9,0,13,0,1,0,0,8,5,0,0,5,75,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5099546526832834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17783029136259554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11476061137741216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10840357690642256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15472324582252886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13960536531138246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574898328370881,0.0,0.0932765036017972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3292632218084661,0.0,0.16163090294093066,0.37875839298989533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901992756380694,0.0,0.0,0.17378557867353644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644972204571638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112159244826314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3644846698700081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16874871030587674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11616912233399015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13191814233535545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13029759293341747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823498598189192,0.0,0.0,0.1603271083463355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Brkenwife,2020/04/14,"I’m 25. Give me reasons to RUN I got married four years ago, my husband is a few years older than me but in my culture 21 isn’t really that young to get married. I am now 8 months pregnant, and dealing with my husbands insane porn addiction and infidelity of multiple prostitutes.

I just read a comment on here that said “there is nothing worse than entering the dating world in your 40s/50s, run now and don’t waste another ten years like I did” on somebody else’s post. It kind of shook me in a way no advice has.. right now, the thought of bringing a baby in the world, going through a divorce (big cultural taboo) and being a single mum seems so tough. I also fear that it will be hard to get remarried because, well I’m divorced and come with a kid and i believe it takes a strong man to be involved with that. (Not that there’s anything wrong, I just know that it’s not for everyone.)

So, please, stop my mind about wondering if I should keep it together just for the sake of my daughter in a miserable marriage where I’m not valued in the slightest, or whilst I’m still fairly young, leave when I can, rebuild myself and hope I find happiness in the future.

For those who got divorced later and held on knowing it wasn’t heading anywhere but stayed for the sake of the kids, so you regret it?

Please smack sense into me. The hormones have me going through about 100 outcomes a day.",4.147981818181819,5.395747607272731,4.747772727272724,85.51365909090909,71.10909090909091,7.536363636363636,30.113636363636363,7.908726449838941,1.9630181818181816,1092,45,216,14,20,349,164,275,0.14,0.762,0.098,-0.8833,0,0,0,0,3,0,31.0,0,2,0,1,19,12,0,3,19,0,15,3,1,1,0,38,38,17,0,4,10,4,1,1,0,2,1,1,0,3,15,13,0,4,7,1,0,8,7,6,1,2,7,2,23,6,33,26,2,46,0,2,0,1,21,16,0,5,20,142,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15017660005394728,0.0,0.1346155646701217,0.12211419273252384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101650567272667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14445131878905612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113363131139609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08397602401595006,0.0,0.0,0.15520613976630004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11866635558678147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884254090191357,0.14202249276693427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507916768946537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13163371299317694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15501609670230734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12590835504548953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14394578278866987,0.1321500669076354,0.15658214024914036,0.0,0.22035538186908804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14664599772267234,0.12340414754277115,0.0,0.1413794946865268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13682481931904011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12244567767437756,0.0,0.14345380236864802,0.15141643482506054,0.0,0.0,0.14586587619807287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06730162108339736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13909635240859478,0.0,0.10995715514590727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13218255702646647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024339251571206,0.0,0.0,0.13193412476784153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13779532167094072,0.0,0.08825132945018363,0.1416382111446727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11764461550240238,0.1310394445855028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12540974796001894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468317438950913,0.11001375060056726,0.11517189183338067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10357690367604984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10936449793360753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10934592193871527,0.0,0.0,0.12386102418282965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14939272060538952,0.0,0.0,0.14038721419243255,0.0,0.150616793731752,0.0,0.2661349881695804
divorce,rdkbdlr,2020/04/14,Side Bar listing of appropriate questions to ask when visiting the attorney. So just a suggestion really. When first joining this sub it was a place to look for information about how life goes through this process. As I myself and looking for appropriate questions and how to do this. I know being from all over is going to be a challenge but just some broad strokes for people to think about before they have to make the call. I know I’ve talked with a few so far. But with the quarantine finding the right questions is a lot harder.,4.841707920792079,6.772245386138617,4.989195544554455,81.77904084158416,70.38613861386139,8.218316831683168,30.446782178217827,8.841846274778883,2.5223356435643565,428,18,79,8,8,134,69,101,0.0,0.988,0.012,0.0387,0,1,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,2,10,1,0,0,9,0,7,3,0,3,1,22,15,11,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,4,1,0,8,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,3,5,1,18,12,4,11,0,0,2,0,10,6,0,5,3,60,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18592948379916735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692354454175205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20308257246375214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817761687431997,0.16917043878935786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11303023352904468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21860264473560773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14047749311559946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.334024564395922,0.0,0.0,0.16908387472738026,0.0,0.0,0.13275646524871124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13788096890236592,0.0,0.20779121630918898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6683860394998168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12741004001007294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16984565854718178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15985524606001295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274366934803142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,wizard-lady,2020/04/14,"Can't get a new place without a job, Can't get a job while living with SO... what do? So I'm getting a divorce mid-COVID, and currently have no job. In order to acquire an apartment of my own (STBX and I are renting a house with 3 months left on the lease), I need proof of income. However, my STBX is not okay with me breaking shelter-in-place guidelines to begin the job hunt. I'm not really thrilled to go out and be exposed to the virus either. I had employment scouts contact me already, but they have not yet had any remote opportunities, so it would entail going to a physical workplace.

We have some savings, not a lot, and no kids. In Oregon which has relatively easy divorce laws from what I've heard. No family or friends nearby.

Any advice? I am afraid if we continue living together that there will be growing animosity, as STBX still wants to stay married.",3.9761674208144773,5.490630652941178,5.197058823529414,81.09368778280545,71.88235294117645,7.8190045248868785,29.547511312217196,8.384062270229773,2.19916742081448,681,28,130,11,13,226,115,170,0.09300000000000001,0.8270000000000001,0.08,0.3539,9,0,0,0,2,0,28.0,2,0,1,2,6,6,0,1,11,1,16,0,0,0,1,27,27,12,0,4,9,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,1,5,10,0,0,0,0,1,3,10,1,0,0,3,1,11,5,18,20,4,21,0,0,0,0,9,7,0,4,8,86,16,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573992519788799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17774871646067852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21907113490174301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518458493540854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12444505925721205,0.0,0.2524629145816717,0.0,0.18308367096228495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18585730146040166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6393627524053903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17500693130695474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2844618692269809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13693900967505832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285674060952985,0.0,0.0,0.11943402908428855,0.0,0.1555658809147236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16828762308904205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031878689187245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716830198088634,0.12863358033191602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09500537908522244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15526919680760118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11442205983605465,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,NoNutNovember2029,2020/04/14,"Am I considered legal father? My wife has been floating the idea of a divorce after 4 years of marriage. My wife had been a foster parent (along with her then husband) for a couple of years to two kids. When their marriage failed, she decided to adopt the two kids on her own to keep the adoption process short. She also has two biological kids from her marriage with her ex husband.

I met my wife when she was separated (but not divorced) from her ex. We got married a year later, as soon as her divorce was approved. Before our wedding day, her adoption of the two kids (as a sole parent) had been finalized by local child services but the final papers for adoption were stamped by the judge (and hence, legally approved) only two weeks after our wedding date.

Therefore, legally speaking, am I considered a father to the two adopted kids? After my wife's first divorce, her former husband has acted as father to all four kids, but he pays child support only for the two biological kids. Even though all four kids call him dad (they call me ""pops,"" which I think is very cute), legally, the two adopted kids have no dad. Therefore, in the event of a divorce, will I considered legal father to the two adopted kids given that the final official approval of adoption came only after our wedding? The idea of whether I will be considered a legal father or not is important to me as it will have implication to my visitation/custody rights or child support obligation post divorce.

I feel the marriage is saveable and have been asking her to try marriage counselling instead of jumping into divorce, but I would like to be prepared since she seems to be leaning strongly towards divorce.  
If it is important, we live in North Carolina.",8.858254716981133,8.115921767295603,8.376973270440255,70.4033844339623,60.88679245283019,9.962578616352204,41.25864779874214,8.841846274778883,3.9123138364779866,1374,68,222,16,16,437,149,318,0.027000000000000003,0.871,0.102,0.9644,2,0,0,0,8,0,43.0,5,0,2,6,7,6,0,0,22,0,28,0,0,2,2,31,39,20,0,2,10,18,1,1,0,4,0,1,0,13,4,9,0,1,6,0,1,3,3,1,0,12,13,2,36,5,43,19,3,34,0,1,0,0,74,9,0,4,22,169,40,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695370769503143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08129024572028543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07399144375311711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17757949820285593,0.09945220341825674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09621293958979453,0.0,0.05607813209275772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057432292429168925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04396655163954115,0.0,0.0,0.2857615478349445,0.0,0.07396302219958613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06954505176437738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963209485037151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07728870445513206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04248132886404416,0.0,0.07678196907089689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19839729038788914,0.0,0.0,0.1931042382853621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08327788918646332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07425823508840362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07915964965011395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0719292417368327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19734872207487256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05571660779731498,0.08543185683423754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0590360535760796,0.0,0.7644727480659196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07174615095286996,0.0,0.0,0.06974924836492327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061769621940788125,0.0,0.0,0.16798656217583244
divorce,SleepnReaper88,2020/04/14,"I’m hurting  Sorry for format I’m on the phone

My wife told me a few days ago she doesn’t want to be married anymore and there is nothing I can do to change it. We have three kids and have been together for 8 years (two married). I fell in love with her soul not just her body and personality. I’m 31 and she is 30. She said it’s a bunch of little stuff that has been adding up over the last year. I’m devastated, what if my kids hate me for this. Also she told me to let her know when i want to tell the kids and when I want to move out. I feel as though she is making it seem like it’s my choice when it’s not. I wanted to grow old with this woman. I don’t know what to do and have no where to go. I don’t want to lose her or my kids. The thought of waking up in another place without them hurts so bad. I have always been loyal to her. I don’t ever lock my phone or ignore her in any way. I’m also not the needy type that needs to be up her butt and has to follow her around like a puppy dog. Our sex life has always been very active at least 3-4 time a week still after 8 years. I don’t want to leave my house but I don’t want to make her more mad at me. I just don’t know what to do.",-0.5524480628860182,0.8766975620437947,1.827299270072995,100.73189219539586,84.32846715328465,4.799326221224032,14.553060078607526,5.369823440869387,-1.245633464345873,908,11,246,4,26,309,138,274,0.084,0.836,0.08,-0.7179,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,2,0,1,1,14,11,2,0,9,0,28,6,3,2,1,40,56,19,0,9,10,1,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,6,13,12,0,1,6,0,0,5,12,7,0,2,8,2,40,4,37,45,4,36,1,3,0,3,31,15,1,4,17,161,53,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026869008483075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852775341500176,0.19277956775785712,0.0,0.0,0.07877649967594648,0.12147038700398648,0.0,0.0,0.1148840886152356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10312389710336184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09672319110775664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12867429385265974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12254542500643195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07470847560438154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10478567756267937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0585731715374957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06583565083871204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11436994465938215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13366605924449546,0.2480224107999621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909911216922457,0.09442665201085043,0.0,0.1226599007955742,0.0,0.11845624434132307,0.08182259647441734,0.1131890525822641,0.11610406856789399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295975129427559,0.0,0.0,0.10455188435375493,0.0,0.15465080483001695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12312166201513318,0.0,0.08589533949943108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11115347711451867,0.0,0.1215566417962568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011487241591912,0.12103018402388573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101922237887827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10545816228248953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12967558102213356,0.0,0.0,0.09251153241962223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13261131997148554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10125097189379692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11381412957158615,0.0919655701301804,0.06754837372417583,0.0,0.0,0.22138389866004168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11316075450394912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955817422610442,0.4782860921092034,0.0919499494123672,0.09292142632845972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11166750779361707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22379525697144054
divorce,cheerry,2020/04/14,"Seeing them with someone else I was married for 18 years, in September I found out my husband was cheating with someone we go to the gym with, someone I thought was a friend. I feel betrayed and blindsided.  I feel humiliated because now I have to see them together.  Since the isolation things have been good because I don’t have to see them. Out of sight out of mind. Ran into them at the store the other day, saw them holding hands and now I am just so sad and can’t stop thinking about how I missed the signs or how I could have been blindsided. I don’t understand how you can be married one day and the next be in a whole new relationship and just discard our relationship like it was nothing. Man this sucks. Hoping for better days.  Some days are good but the last couple of days my mind won’t stop thinking.",4.08907867494824,5.476816080745344,4.5940527950310575,86.02205227743272,71.4223602484472,7.602691511387165,28.94461697722567,8.07648339933343,1.8032356107660457,643,25,131,9,12,204,94,161,0.127,0.8009999999999999,0.073,-0.7706,0,1,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,1,5,1,9,10,2,0,9,0,20,1,1,3,0,36,36,11,0,2,4,1,3,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,4,13,0,3,7,1,1,2,4,4,0,1,10,8,21,6,19,22,2,22,0,2,5,0,13,7,1,3,14,91,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16245314702894845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11784678031551782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10638746216796156,0.1474360680639016,0.0,0.4296687813185415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11131137230952304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13474810202660134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460992476532152,0.10294685814344924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07572775012296835,0.22352373173030832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13234505176039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10861467635437234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06509810552039884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26908442563001034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12869147855350185,0.14171046216696956,0.0,0.0,0.12785478130760475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902921037313984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861163700002217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31854354423821823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11022389114926684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33870108293250256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22280212116325765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08852386454681756,0.17075951768063394,0.0,0.10578380597764997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13871557603176876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487663211282987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08580716315418895
divorce,Gracefaith123,2020/04/14,"Need to file for divorce after being cheated for 4 years Hello All,

I hope everyone is safe. Posted it on this community so many user can read and provide their feedback.

I have been deceived, cheated brutally by a liar called husband, got separated from cheater whom I had genuinely loved. I trusted this man and he fooled me for 4 years cheating on me, impregnating his girlfriend 2-3 times then terminating pregnancies to hide the affair, I stayed with him and gave him chance but he continued to cheat and manipulate. Finally, I got separated from him (its legal separation we are living apart but still legally married) I only got house in settlement as we mutually got separated, he pleaded that he didn't want divorce and want to re-concile with me in 1 year so I didn't file divorce 3 months ago. As form of child support he only gave his house share, I am getting no alimony, no other assets from him. I didn't cared about his money then as I was hoping to reconcile. Now, after 2 months of separation he tells me his girlfriend is pregnant again and he wants to support her and live with her so he's living with her in other place while still legally married to me.

I want to apply for divorce, lawyer told me I can get divorce but legal separation agreement won't be changed as we already had done asset evaluation and figured out child custody, my daughter is living with me. As per lawyer, If I had not mutually consented for agreement I could have gotten money he had spend on his girlfriend for years. I didn't took divorce 3-4 months ago as he pleaded he wants to be with me and didn't wanted divorce. Now, he wants to live with his girlfriend and future children.

I am devastated and shattered, this guys is a snake and a monster who manipulated me, gave me false hopes. I want to move on, it just sucks that he is having fun with his girlfriend after murdering our relation. Please any ideas, suggestions or advice from you all would be appreciated. I want to move on but pain is not going away. I feel like dumb and stupid that I served and cooked, i was feeding a snake for 20 years and he got away so easily. How can I move on with this situation?",5.483932005494509,6.532801122596156,6.287458791208793,76.44682692307694,67.82211538461539,8.923626373626375,32.40521978021978,9.140100540675403,2.8509652472527467,1721,73,315,31,28,567,198,416,0.158,0.698,0.14400000000000002,-0.6745,0,0,0,0,7,0,42.0,4,1,1,0,12,26,10,0,5,0,35,4,0,3,2,62,68,35,1,16,9,2,1,1,5,2,1,0,0,5,14,28,2,1,4,2,3,5,10,12,0,0,24,1,54,14,57,37,3,46,0,0,0,1,66,14,2,5,26,207,68,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08004663171966844,0.14522584869525865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09039551247092878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05570517723376036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15392414285746184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364462628147805,0.0,0.08351805410170272,0.0,0.08665547018781987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06540265955422385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382773846902908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07827352930307954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0414188103693558,0.05852026911865235,0.0,0.08973414955430642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08559467169134469,0.0,0.04655432284192,0.0,0.3275755322786377,0.0,0.0,0.08110897363484182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440809712230614,0.0,0.18903839472386333,0.0,0.09247234357008928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04001965218658776,0.0,0.3616633211089842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07393170897421647,0.0,0.0,0.08304920376940403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19615190690190185,0.2611888329164607,0.0,0.060739118011749076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12460047379865817,0.08716359870085326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08558399877398694,0.08991834297137191,0.0,0.0,0.07845216355499353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08193741484141462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920761702055382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08731075457083265,0.13083524479510095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18591290404732672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07159753679886617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047765439510971605,0.0,0.0,0.07827352930307954,0.09101085392769004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4348416174708664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05819024149829832,0.0,0.0,0.26375366818258456
divorce,Front_Sky,2020/04/14,How long did you contemplate? Hi all! Feel free to share as much information as you want but I am just wondering how long you contemplated making this decision if you were the one breaking things off?  Or did it not take much time at all. Thanks!,1.9279432624113504,4.692119702127659,2.77989361702128,89.0841666666667,86.02127659574468,7.388652482269504,20.599290780141846,8.344100000000001,1.366009929078014,194,6,40,5,6,61,38,47,0.0,0.812,0.188,0.8269,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,4,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,3,2,15,10,7,0,2,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,1,5,4,5,7,4,6,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,3,3,30,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15852943632530705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5549257345376122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092827165869211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4609590632703927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21245503415460265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357344221874706,0.0,0.0,0.2886549302939802,0.0,0.0,0.20829441211979907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18282099688472173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849272398316548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.340008297419968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,kitanooo,2020/04/14,"Will I have to pay him alimony? My husband is currently unemployed but for years his career has been a struggle. He did an MBA but has never used it and doesn't want to apply for most jobs that are not creative. For years I have written cover letters and applications for him to help him get jobs - he finally got one that he enjoyed then they folded the team. Recently yet again I am driving all his job search efforts. He only efforts job search attempts when I spoon feed them to him. Meanwhile I have had to take on more and more demanding work to the point where I work all the hours of the day - and this is how it has been for 5 years while parenting. I can't take the dynamic any more - I'm so resentful and angry and tired. 2 kids (6 and 4). If I initiate divorce, will I be stuck paying alimony to someone who wont get a job?",3.68986274509804,4.6270527117647084,4.92794117647059,84.964068627451,71.88235294117645,8.490196078431373,28.87254901960784,8.841846274778883,2.131666666666666,651,25,137,12,12,216,108,170,0.177,0.779,0.044000000000000004,-0.9722,9,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,0,0,2,6,6,4,1,1,8,0,20,2,0,2,3,18,30,15,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,6,7,1,0,0,1,2,1,5,2,0,1,7,0,18,2,14,19,6,18,0,0,0,0,20,3,0,2,14,93,24,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09927679982710548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941501387910616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599226435556403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15254533796938452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11675988538664793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09785263345470993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437687058856672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7243524804845491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11259489294682434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09892520084843837,0.11103040067319844,0.0,0.0,0.1621023218608333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13800578310910278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14414547062954136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12369510094465368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15261828379343442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21952951272330096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16779165201928664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260867003757081,0.0,0.0,0.08610746464770208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21256190625275304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2820343252112439
divorce,gdbeav,2020/04/14,"Allimony question. If ex loses job after allimony and child support has been set, does it get adjusted? Kinda worried my spouse may lose their job with the upcoming recession and wondering if I'm better off financially getting divorced before that happens. Not fun thoughts, but we weren't in good shape before the current sht storm.",7.908275862068965,9.7331675862069,7.561551724137932,66.67612068965519,62.793103448275865,10.627586206896552,40.36206896551725,10.686352973137794,5.096641379310345,272,15,38,7,4,86,52,58,0.18600000000000005,0.755,0.06,-0.7196,3,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,1,0,1,3,0,6,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,14,11,5,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,3,4,4,7,0,6,0,2,0,0,7,3,0,6,2,21,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3683413077142849,0.0,0.0,0.19141959528388056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18940414873001565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261572124790352,0.0,0.0,0.181535813492752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19139318184122228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4295576384551016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4842718843529388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424572732975145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24560841996592056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.171825596538287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347150475841073,0.0,0.2198007378819156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,BWGOZ,2020/04/14,"Some Practical Advice  Hi Everyone,

Looking for some advice on next steps in my relationship. It all very daunting for me however I know what needs to be done it's really just going through with it and the practical next steps. Have been going to see a psychologist and we talked through my options and my belief is that I need to separate from my wife or even look towards divorce.

To give you a bit of background we have been married since 2013 and have a 6 year old and 3 year old. Since getting married we have lived in 3 different countries. We have had troubles since early on in our marriage and how we treat each other in front of our kids is not the kind of environment I want to raise my kids in. Neither of us have been unfaithful - we just cannot get along - AT ALL. We have been in and out of marriage counselling - the advice goes in one ear and out the other. There is no physical abuse however sometimes she can be verbally abusive towards me. I am done with it and just need to move on. That all being said I was hoping to get some advice on the following points before I take any next steps:

\- How do you approach the living arrangements situation? Any advice on finding accommodations in an expedited manner?

\- Can she make seeing the kids difficult for me?

\- does anyone have experience with a parenting plan?

\- The day we separate - what does this look like. I have this vision in my head and it is so terrible. The kids standing there watching one of us walk out the door...

\- She will make life hell for me. Any advice on how to deal with this?

\- She is 100% financially dependent on me. Of course, I would support her until she can find a job however what are our rights in this area?

\- We are currently living away from our home country and I would like to move ""home"" someday however she will not. What rights do I have? Can she keep the kids in the country where we currently reside?

\- what happens to our pension / savings after we are divorced? How does it get split?

Any other advice you have would be very appreciated.

I know that I should see a lawyer on these points however with the current covid-19 climate we are not leaving the house and living on top of each other which makes it difficult to contact anyone.

thanks again",2.9229120645709443,5.487457217289723,3.863449447748515,84.68892098555652,78.46261682242991,6.9750212404418015,25.84876805437553,8.07648339933343,1.7977551401869154,1771,69,332,33,44,568,192,428,0.063,0.882,0.055,-0.8105,11,0,0,0,3,0,58.0,19,3,0,2,13,13,1,0,21,0,46,3,2,8,3,73,76,19,0,9,7,2,0,2,0,6,1,2,3,5,25,35,0,1,5,0,0,11,6,5,0,2,9,9,53,8,62,57,10,61,2,0,7,0,48,34,1,7,17,248,78,3,0.0,0.16896481327546406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4877353291962593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19395396602744586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09971344416273993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06699152452495613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06067360932275191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778444189962145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0459845423411179,0.07351027183297874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07449646879788904,0.0,0.0,0.1871932322030092,0.1459354690763466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04709496526361046,0.0,0.0,0.06813308114787303,0.0,0.0697480252118471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13033931773928162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490115180469445,0.06840034386009815,0.08104628689198562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06305301577025586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07317745860911565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14304546433038834,0.07081997693243246,0.0,0.08227409957402995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07075723463914388,0.06337739096994932,0.0,0.0742511119340731,0.07837253851216837,0.0,0.0,0.07549959166026136,0.0,0.0,0.05036342425138948,0.06967009752123601,0.0,0.25184745468589176,0.0,0.1796297094355249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14278593744409354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15156762962278006,0.0,0.15861083407856197,0.0,0.0,0.22749467837873816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496410279102588,0.0,0.09663352907240708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07917355384621796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13480878218954165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045678533668260995,0.0,0.0,0.07655274773737904,0.0,0.1217847609457157,0.06782549020689745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17045780068732214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17694775871318955,0.08014757009497063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07052049955416474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08091381013909954,0.0,0.0,0.05361098933349637,0.0573106580817584,0.0,0.06564623123535591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715374821082668,0.0,0.0,0.11766490049445018,0.04205636236783206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15195483637896615,0.0,0.0,0.09183360064295044
divorce,AreaGuy,2020/04/14,"Am I Crazy? 42/m, have two kids under 10. Married 10 years. Wife cannot throw things away. It’s to the point that rooms are unusable, and there are no flat surfaces in the house at all, as something is stacked everywhere. We’d made progress, but she’s been backsliding for years and every attempt I make to address it is met with “now is not a good time” and how this discussion stresses her out and how I *almost* threw away something that she thought valuable seven years ago and therefore can’t be trusted to dispose of things. So we kick the can. House is filthy all the time and whenever I try to clean she tells me I don’t do it right or passive aggressively finds a half dozen other things for me to think or talk about. That’s not the only problem, by a long shot, but I keep thinking to myself “do I want this to be the argument to define my next 20 years?” I want my kids to see an example of an orderly life. I want an orderly life.

I’m done. We “discussed” the week before the lockdowns ensured we’d be locked together for who knows how long. Then one of her parents died and we’ve been dealing with that while she supports them. Also pandemic and full time job and homeschooling. Timing of this all sucks. I don’t hate her. I feel I need to support her as she works through this time. But I’m done with this marriage.",2.9736702849389403,4.6316011567164175,3.6027001356852115,90.93015603799186,74.74626865671642,6.8130257801899585,26.73405698778833,7.520522993642371,1.2791134328358211,1042,39,222,13,22,328,152,268,0.106,0.785,0.10800000000000001,-0.4909,2,1,2,0,0,0,28.0,4,0,1,3,8,10,3,1,14,0,24,2,0,6,3,44,45,23,1,5,7,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,2,17,15,0,1,6,0,0,2,7,5,0,5,8,2,31,5,31,32,4,32,0,0,1,0,26,11,1,3,17,150,48,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10247242642184344,0.0,0.11575670311331054,0.0,0.0,0.09244527943176888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21722001345097366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09836708693125483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11917852556405036,0.0,0.0,0.11997455066705905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23659787398873894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09739798704813912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05845083414813147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10565630709736427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09695979665049696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141310687357453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667737619477506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11471516411260985,0.10275059282948174,0.0,0.0,0.06353073762136226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16330339951061273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046047272093282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10938351650726623,0.0771638986477601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08571593634749168,0.0,0.0,0.1229419130451483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783335527657074,0.08791901027380045,0.0,0.0,0.128360121324229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10927936663694253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11061358931111122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987217696504919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921182344102102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779890577144683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13241941114281744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26236302355288504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09291490235280528,0.10103949658442003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303985130902788,0.1481436264711951,0.0,0.09177348854289744,0.3370364525165177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07848481283285938,0.0,0.1129244041250792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20455162792652146,0.0,0.0927273483160416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841581778789597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2977704434757541
divorce,goldenstitchtattoo,2020/04/14,"I filed for divorce and I'm scared Him M28 and I F29 had only been married for three years. No kids, just pets.

It's been going down hill ever since I started working again. Lots of negative comments of how it's not a real career. How I need to make more time for him instead of focusing on work. I finally thought to myself, I can't take a life of negativity like this.

Finally, I went to the lawyer today and did it. My money is gone and I'm scared shitless because I don't know what comes next.

He's not a bad man, we just don't make each other happy anymore. I don't want his money. I just want to feel like myself again. Not forcing myself to walk on eggshells because we don't agree on whatever he wants to argue about next.

Does anybody know how I can cope with all this fear of the unknown? Are there any books to read?",1.5911054913294789,3.4527631502890164,3.223406791907518,91.21060151734108,79.34682080924856,5.71228323699422,22.95122832369942,6.6274283507984215,0.5320985549132944,647,21,140,6,16,214,106,173,0.151,0.782,0.067,-0.9102,0,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,2,0,0,2,12,8,1,3,5,0,12,1,0,5,2,32,30,7,0,4,6,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,2,7,9,0,0,4,2,2,5,11,5,0,1,7,1,20,3,21,23,4,20,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,1,13,91,27,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10554488479097927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15392189227866976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295898917072745,0.1892233463643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336955706590838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13582115063132622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14039202441835102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17464904359350952,0.07847643227609523,0.11087865381248553,0.0,0.3400395060869082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08820671407710037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16521886303372188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17059348086489504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096260503286624,0.15165088019318151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13194994407663366,0.0,0.0,0.2072014045528896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11508271818172255,0.0,0.0,0.3301250650599857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11804057813867455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15524723982507282,0.17665754082771976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3107750401902387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12838737761627975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10985506706004504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669502426021225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12321562323859366,0.09050142303686322,0.0,0.1471164189785703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27463221372100544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14387681156484514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259825250760389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09994708536591036
divorce,jeuehdvwiskd,2020/04/14,"How do I deal with this? Seperated 8 months ago we had bare min conversation untill the lockdown.  During 8 months he did not call me much and we did not speak a lot. I did contact him as I do care about him. 

I started casually seeing a guy and it's only casual FWB relationship, my husband now wants to Change and wants me back. My husband had no idea that I have been seeing someone. Tho it's not a relationship but I still share an intimate space with this who knows all about my situation and help me heal from the lonliness and endless pain I went through in my marriage. 

He talks nothing about the changes he is going to make but just is highly emotional and wants me back anyhow. 

It's so weird now , I was looking forward to the divorce but he says he is not ready and loves me but unfortunately he is late. Our families are all his side and continuously pressuring me to get back. Wtf do I tell him. 

It's a very emotionally exhausting situation. I don't want to get back but he is trying to show as if I am the one who is breaking this up. But what do I do now I waited a long time for him to reach out and he didn't give a fuck. I asked him several times to seek therapy with me or talk he would shut me down and now. 


I need advice?? 

I have so much in my life to focus on and this now is like giving me anxiety ,how will go back?? What the hell will he get our of me now?? I know he will not change like I left the house and he still did not realize I was gone and he needs to do something I kept calling and doing stuff for him.",1.042416795665634,3.0215767585139304,3.1422281346749235,90.51244436919504,81.72445820433437,6.63811919504644,21.548858359133128,7.756953410329674,0.7926440402476778,1195,37,273,21,32,405,163,323,0.12300000000000001,0.7859999999999999,0.091,-0.9403,0,1,1,0,1,0,25.0,4,0,0,0,22,13,2,1,14,0,33,6,0,3,2,55,61,30,0,8,15,2,0,2,0,4,4,2,0,1,14,20,0,2,4,3,0,5,9,6,0,1,13,5,46,7,30,44,5,41,1,0,3,2,49,12,2,4,27,191,60,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09483582765386164,0.08602868891462195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07424274235708016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09072835347028588,0.0,0.0,0.3731260810444598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19819715562754409,0.0,0.09894862050552472,0.0,0.30799709092483224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000539624078569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2183356631562912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914898045464063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972086869846448,0.15211336239051287,0.1861977996438985,0.11031114346048702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09609444494496372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06505035723237305,0.10253831917566593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11198230479440607,0.0,0.10955727991496296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066719361332426,0.0,0.1094762703460816,0.0,0.10544476525139118,0.0,0.06854906166349951,0.09482714652694554,0.0,0.0,0.08588591605653778,0.08149729168023215,0.0,0.0,0.0825081705113624,0.0875911285685175,0.0,0.06478141744082408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549282631660005,0.0,0.14268536832781498,0.14392222143169667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09312178890849336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06576337730811913,0.07381065764354684,0.1032677059171418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20839008082398772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07717780372911133,0.0,0.0,0.15467206561141622,0.0,0.0,0.10963851843252984,0.0,0.0,0.2181758212942884,0.0,0.0,0.0822298820201744,0.07471358789382916,0.0,0.0,0.06869226560083426,0.0,0.1550080054572768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11109866884810517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15600971908552494,0.08482570114976992,0.0,0.11098477121980828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131809019806741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06589036469113134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08007615287795956,0.22896967155409126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899660290445366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06894131077489471,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,CokBallZ,2020/04/14,"How do I support my heart broken mother Hey everyone, my parents who have over 28 years of marriage decided to separate back in October. They still haven’t officially divorced, the hope was as time went on they would see they needed each other. My mom seemed to find out how much she missed him, but my dad seemed to find the peace he was looking for and confidence in making it a official divorce. Last week she found out he’s been hanging out with another girl which broke her heart. And now today they talked on the phone and he only reiterated that he wants to end things for good. He would like to remain friends, but my mom is so hurt she doesn’t think that will ever happen. I’m 20 and still living at home with my mom, and I can’t help but feel anxiety and sadness all day long thinking of what my mother is going through and how she’ll act when she gets home from work everyday. I’m afraid to talk to her at the end of each day fearing that she’ll be a mess, and that she’ll just be sad about everything. To make things worse, obviously we’re in the middle of a pandemic, as well as today’s my sisters 10th birthday. Any and all advice is welcome, how to comfort her, how to get over my own anxiety thinking about her, anything.",5.38843373493976,5.534798124497996,5.811710843373492,82.96190361445784,67.75502008032129,9.049638554216868,29.853012048192767,8.841846274778883,2.132327228915663,979,33,202,15,15,315,147,249,0.132,0.736,0.132,-0.0643,1,0,0,0,2,0,21.0,0,0,4,1,16,16,0,2,8,0,19,2,2,7,4,46,42,22,0,5,4,8,1,1,1,6,0,0,2,1,11,16,0,0,10,0,0,4,3,8,1,0,5,3,27,8,37,29,6,35,0,5,2,0,41,13,0,3,19,131,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079904396817209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07515152671369503,0.11588081561639005,0.16908180354750865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909414480076102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497642830888058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425413930097842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19576055898714906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999638683993066,0.0,0.10559835764835396,0.0993205008334652,0.0,0.0,0.12435602436946044,0.055877873269482285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20201079502632735,0.0,0.0,0.121170022024079,0.08538081659503305,0.0,0.11547526775058095,0.0,0.06280616291751379,0.09269170078464037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977248466961873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619130303116735,0.0740734472694923,0.0,0.22170384558935752,0.1097627338550598,0.0,0.0,0.11830471592100765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09008152291951847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053990277200848785,0.0,0.09758357153637492,0.09779909204003476,0.09280172461340204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14753440605112564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3882887712042021,0.0,0.0,0.08123857851543517,0.08194278658644706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08404888288860766,0.0,0.0,0.12270980725499064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08806326039996702,0.20121081623456827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17650905862934493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12540700226392712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776497192617856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468376981961606,0.2124336865234519,0.0,0.0,0.06444007328684427,0.0,0.20950372939032502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06518247406231893,0.0,0.0886455615789454,0.0,0.09936300080685123,0.10244515467717727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804535994506656,0.0,0.11262053554864765,0.15700822457074612,0.0,0.0,0.07116570424712931
divorce,omimoussquirrel,2020/04/14,"Can I get my prime movies? Currently in the process of getting a divorce. When my wife and I first got married I didnt have an amazon prime account so we just used hers. Well I've purchased some movies that only I like and watch ie John Wick, Godzilla, The Account. Is there any way to transfer them to my account? Should I just call it a day and spend the money all over again?",1.4884740259740283,3.728256467532472,2.1092045454545456,97.08380681818184,81.72727272727272,4.36948051948052,23.910714285714285,5.148860815047168,0.12053376623376665,296,11,64,1,8,91,59,77,0.021,0.907,0.07200000000000001,0.5606,1,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,1,0,1,1,7,2,0,0,6,0,5,0,0,1,1,10,9,5,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,6,0,1,0,1,1,2,1,11,2,5,6,2,8,0,0,1,0,6,2,0,1,6,42,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25036505628187594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3759379757245782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374361868877924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31316125031979924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3847023896092106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2944554551234853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17986698848529595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800063314083061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3179766460133345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2922325103862439,0.0,0.0,0.3310248557440152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,itsmyfaultsorry,2020/04/14,"I love my husband and don't want a divorce. I originally posted this on the marriage sub, but figured this would be a good place too.

My husband and I have been married for 10 years, together for 15. 2 years ago, we got into an argument where I said the most idiotic thing ever that I wish I could take back.

5 years ago my husband sustained a semi permanent leg injury, nothing serious that would effect his mobility. He was just left with a slight limp, but he could do everything he did prior.

During the argument I told him I could never be with someone like him (referring to his injury). I didn't mean an ounce of what I said, but I understand when somebody attacks you with something so personal it's hard to believe anything they say. I can't apologize enough for what I said. I got into therapy 2 weeks later to work on being better.

In therapy, I found out why I hurt my husband the way I did. It came down to my parents having similar behavior. Every time my family disagreed, they turned arguments into a competition. It was more about ""how can I win this argument"" instead of having a healthy discussion. That behavior and copping mechanisms transferred to me as well. However, I'm not blaming my parents. I made the stupid choice to hurt my husband.I wish I would have gotten help sooner before hurting my husband, but I want to change for the better.  

Ever since the argument, my husband has been colder. Never disrespectful or abusive, but just more reserved. We had talks about him doubting if I loved him (understandably so after what I said). He appreciates the gestures, the ""I love you"" and affection, but he thinks it might not be genuine. I try to reassure him and I express my remorse to him all the time.

Recently, he looked into divorce in our state on our home computer. We talked about it and he says he doesn't want me to resent him for his injury in the future. It broke my heart to hear him say that. I would never resent because he is the person I want. I don't want to lose my husband.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.",4.104194162436549,5.987128769035532,5.474311548223351,77.74441148477159,72.2233502538071,8.376776649746194,30.58661167512691,9.017664075816787,2.8333454314720816,1621,72,288,34,32,543,200,394,0.168,0.6579999999999999,0.174,0.8997,3,0,1,0,2,0,52.0,5,2,2,6,16,23,5,1,20,0,34,5,2,5,6,66,64,19,0,16,12,9,2,1,0,6,0,8,1,2,17,18,0,0,8,0,0,1,10,12,1,0,19,11,64,11,39,31,5,40,0,5,1,3,62,15,0,5,22,211,81,3,0.0,0.09534628127778444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07863640615067685,0.14266732498590642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0547237884660809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06622168279464437,0.0,0.0,0.09154863268587402,0.0,0.0618780787394283,0.0,0.049055046105696894,0.0,0.06847583125125815,0.09066450134239484,0.0,0.14234206840586508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920386460028691,0.0,0.0,0.08512881307400373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927512747089152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08314919230721339,0.0,0.0,0.14558324568376124,0.06780121617286082,0.0,0.07232313587802727,0.0,0.0758619353775872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08823350560711501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0674961806913706,0.1287217815310408,0.08872077589817343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07208719653356138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09069790682547828,0.09535982763124856,0.05393875329734855,0.0,0.08072007901030265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584411467753148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08743317364229848,0.0,0.0,0.03931460394704005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06757629776942173,0.0900276975136411,0.0,0.0,0.2178876400947284,0.07614464809001968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08765770964255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08536818269736557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861951366698084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07721515164936406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17870949077371046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14053026999857093,0.08407621836181045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07707002860926067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0794564919176715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061895854743405,0.19198393486933932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0665673538637339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06818375038452436,0.06195135517809984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06050500538521439,0.12936085377183712,0.0,0.0,0.18405372235553896,0.0,0.05346208843864108,0.051563273263751465,0.0,0.0,0.0938478589456358,0.0,0.0,0.07689454145528365,0.0,0.05463527453126034,0.0875305381905939,0.0,0.16754859114189155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373226518651761,0.06387500843282128,0.06454986575035401,0.0,0.0723540834802264,0.0,0.0726135548896205,0.0,0.18507789040892492,0.0,0.0,0.05858464824601772,0.0,0.0,0.2858253599284059,0.0,0.0,0.15546418478348298
divorce,Personalandreal,2020/04/14,"Need Opinion Divorced in early January. Ex had 90 days to secure a loan for the house, which is currently in my name only (I don’t want the house, he wants to keep it). I would follow up with him from time to time reminding him of the deadline and asking where he stands with the process. I was either told it’s none of my business or my messages will go unanswered. The agreement was that if he secures the loan and gets my name of the mortgage within 90 days, I let go of any equity in the house (there isn’t very much). If he does not close on the loan within that timeframe, the house goes immediately on the market to be sold with any equity split in half. The deadline expired in early April and my attorney reached out to his letting them know that the deadline passed and suggesting potential agents. We finally got a reply in which they blame the coronavirus for the delay, with a tentative closing scheduled for end of April. Can he use the coronavirus as an excuse if he had 90 days? Or is our divorce agreement still standing and now I should have a claim to the equity? Thanks for your input.",5.985928443649375,6.3124756930232575,6.117674418604653,80.65869409660108,66.48837209302326,9.220035778175315,31.422182468694096,9.057496981413335,2.5254865831842586,874,32,168,14,13,278,123,215,0.022000000000000002,0.894,0.085,0.8924,2,0,0,0,2,0,20.0,2,1,2,0,4,5,0,0,22,0,16,0,0,1,0,32,31,11,0,8,7,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,13,0,4,1,0,4,4,4,0,0,1,7,0,18,5,33,18,3,37,0,0,0,0,24,15,0,6,16,115,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198917935826573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367294417247382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829686991127709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12798944723222894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12953923896426844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16021609380750454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07641262561263612,0.0,0.1662410975672517,0.0,0.11697413408222072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6750382843706363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299988863133847,0.0,0.0,0.08037836970099943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991129550953998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10751485069185232,0.10844683186378357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112341360437359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11680008089191132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13465270218071304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17056588100420114,0.0,0.0,0.13975369662223322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12631806332193846,0.0,0.1206763625667911,0.17253093529213426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10389593300742757,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,BossyTacos,2020/04/14,How do you know when it’s over? Wondering how did everyone know their marriage was over? Was it just one normal day and something simple made it clear? Was it one big blowout?,2.0755882352941164,4.756553911764708,2.301470588235297,93.70161764705885,83.41176470588233,5.752941176470588,23.20588235294117,7.1686216300943375,0.8988470588235291,139,5,28,2,4,42,25,34,0.0,0.9,0.1,0.5514,0,0,1,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,3,1,10,9,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,2,0,2,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,2,20,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280432978198539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3378807687229222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3886595632125605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3345856772649289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34645375983136906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4792181791475174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722192123764182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3834650419864261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,WideKey6,2020/04/14,"My wife gave me herpes My wife left me last year. After she left I had a bunch of friends urge me to get an STD test, but at the time I refused because I didn't think it was possible she could have cheated on me. I haven't been with anyone else since she left, but I'm finally looking at trying to date again, so I gave in and got tested. I tested positive for HSV-2. I haven't had any symptoms, which apparently is relatively common in men, but it's still transmissible. So now not only was my future ripped out from under me, but now the process of rebuilding and trying to be happy again just got way more complicated. Hell of a way to find out you've been cheated on. This has reopened all the wounds that were finally starting to heal,  and made me see everything she's said to me since she left in an entirely new light.

I don't know how, or even if, I should approach her about this. We are not on good terms (entirely her choice), and I think she'd flat out deny it anyways.",4.297187141216991,4.7518871840796,5.234029850746271,85.07586681974743,70.19402985074628,8.572675086107923,27.40183696900115,8.617729084823388,1.7134528128587831,768,24,166,12,13,252,123,201,0.11900000000000001,0.823,0.057999999999999996,-0.9291,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,0,0,12,6,3,0,7,0,19,4,0,2,1,28,33,13,0,3,9,2,0,0,1,1,4,1,0,1,7,9,0,1,4,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,14,4,29,3,26,15,4,36,1,0,2,1,17,16,1,2,17,113,36,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931058730877066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09573310066823223,0.1402840576118865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08346119713293497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10931428679421844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11437365858855482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09043007366569003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12304902308688442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29996408789713325,0.12513645608107424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10577902833972973,0.0,0.07153165141218132,0.0,0.0,0.11483654566881488,0.21900446205914667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14574696370910845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07524407748633279,0.1116027738524122,0.0,0.0,0.5950276614230359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11497285513696892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12955086151924042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13223190879729446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041288842102016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15434939650817414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13023608875151893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10910233105077864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265125194854817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09690807803703463,0.0,0.10933929575498263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423055468751295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17545728141454445,0.0,0.0,0.07983536127036643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859105547771969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21735112262224404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881678033378266
divorce,itsmekeoni,2020/04/15,"2020 Stimulus deposit and sending off my ex's ""share"". 2020 Stimulus payment just hit my bank account, we are in the process of getting divorced but it got placed on hold due to the current covid-19 pandemic. I have our 6 kids full time and have full physical custody (court ordered) of our children (4-14yo) so the payment was for a family of 8. It was unexpected to receive the amount I did ($5400) because she supposedly filed taxes this year. She is demanding cash for her ""share"" of the money.

She owes me over a years worth of child support (court ordered CS), says she doesn't make money but she works under the table in a cash industry and will make $75/hr. but never reports her income, she lives for free with her BF hasn't paid for our children's necessities since she left over 2 years ago. She is a stereotypical dead beat parent.

My friend is telling me to take my ex's share of the stimulus because it doesn't have her name on it and it was to the household. I'm struggling keeping up with our bills and I'm now disabled. My ex just got back 3 weeks ago from her 2nd Vegas trip in a year and when asked if she would like to put any money towards buying a new computer for our kids to do online school work she immediately went on a rant saying I'm supposed to use the money I got to buy them a new computer, not her.

I'm not interested in ""taking"" the money if I have no legal right to do so. Our local child support office isn't taking any action against her while our kids are wearing clothes and footwear that are too small for them.

Would there be any legal repercussions for me not giving her the money? Will this hurt me in my quest for full custody of my kids when we get divorced? Anyplace better to ask or another place to find information? Any help would be greatly appreciated, thank you.",5.487151515151516,5.779825088888893,6.03348484848485,80.95090909090911,67.55555555555556,8.767676767676766,31.641414141414145,8.575989854853784,2.3287777777777783,1432,55,285,20,22,465,188,360,0.075,0.809,0.11599999999999999,0.9372,4,0,0,0,2,0,41.0,9,1,2,4,10,14,0,1,19,0,27,1,1,3,1,34,53,18,1,5,11,4,0,1,2,5,0,2,0,8,8,11,0,2,2,0,19,6,9,2,0,0,9,2,45,13,44,36,4,49,0,1,0,0,60,23,0,3,19,175,53,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19771818776341388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3033599539104216,0.11694239765219575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20851934224763488,0.0,0.0,0.08575489581689562,0.0,0.13596771114377088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09863371241622336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051346857773038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10193070611536016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08616298869675314,0.0,0.11653313456979356,0.10698376313645527,0.0,0.0,0.2675872422698363,0.12295535105381487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07475203276730072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11938850326324205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991274517216418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12117090332118352,0.0,0.0,0.05448488114438961,0.0,0.09847753285328273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14888596605088966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860140072866543,0.21542070563285884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12383394955849593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23303720778588075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11211219275656464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09524069093347673,0.0,0.17737635760117632,0.0,0.112868010050147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09225361568560662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11658885967842993,0.0,0.0,0.2531117070433136,0.0,0.0,0.25155598907939075,0.0,0.09747669131479024,0.10267610448931172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06503040762150908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963207307278872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08945764194984683,0.0,0.0,0.10338365286846242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623812668122004,0.0,0.0,0.2376698610734558,0.0,0.0,0.28727060785682834
divorce,lana_rice,2020/04/15,Need help coping with divorce Hello first time poster. I am currently going through my first divorce. My husband decided to divorce me and I need help coping. It's been very hard on me. So much so that I am falling deeper into depression. Could you please give me advice on how to cope?,1.0650101010101023,3.6253897636363632,2.4551515151515173,88.34494949494952,96.8181818181818,4.6262626262626245,22.47474747474748,6.42735559955562,0.9464141414141412,227,9,40,3,9,73,40,55,0.121,0.7509999999999999,0.128,0.1137,1,0,0,0,3,0,6.0,0,1,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,8,8,4,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,1,1,9,0,7,6,1,9,0,1,0,0,9,3,0,0,4,29,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26082538590603643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131092033610208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22989273778985636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.45407402299752503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.256048342427247,0.15169344368370738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391026214845476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3578138125263329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962125874678961,0.39582687127893457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29299154757284723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15563976804234994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202320999664321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Estropelic,2020/04/15,"My ex refuses to give me the child credit for Covid-19. We alternate claiming each year and she tried telling me the stim check is a loan and she will have to pay it back, which is false. Don't get me wrong, we pay taxes so it's paid back but regardless, shes not entitled to 100% of it. I told her I'm going to hold off on a CS check until my haif is paid off if she doesnt get back to me by the beginning of next month ""she straight up ignored my texts going forward after I sent her a few articles stating the pay back is a myth."" I try to be reasonable with someone and they have to make things difficult. I would believe she would ask the same of me if the tables were turned. Anyone else going through this issue or can send me any type of supporting documentation that proves my point? ",3.859362527716183,4.479241067073172,4.758691796008872,87.49983370288251,71.25609756097559,8.402660753880268,27.104212860310426,8.575989854853784,1.6278,621,20,138,10,11,202,107,164,0.076,0.8640000000000001,0.06,-0.16399999999999998,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,1,0,5,5,0,0,10,0,15,0,0,2,1,22,31,9,0,5,5,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,7,7,0,3,2,0,10,6,3,3,0,0,5,0,25,2,21,22,3,23,0,0,0,0,20,7,0,3,11,93,32,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11453014860773705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177619185836278,0.17256434457631553,0.0,0.0,0.15744827850455956,0.0,0.0,0.518012787654905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897496336282893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406917918337779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17598311244397075,0.1615620800661287,0.2871478260113816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17578484023630042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124204536400352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13442979726936774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17911466214272898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592096328219598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731619555317584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14270019096014674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19111897301110994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14720492666438145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111889565861339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609308037117361,0.0,0.228689799689882,0.18319063478029454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392789086139427,0.18413885862956714,0.0,0.10845579643710256
divorce,regalia13,2020/04/15,"Divorce and pets and guilt I feel so torn up and guilty....

The best option for the pets is to keep them all together or give cat 1 to ex, since she likes him most. He wants cat 2 though (not cat 1), but this will exaggerate problems between 1&3. And I want cat 2. I just got him through surgery and he likes me the best, spends all his time with me, sleeps with me, etc. I have paid the vet bills (he can't keep a job) and done the bulk of the care for the past 5 years (he doesn't help around the house), and am keeping the house, so the mediator thinks they should go with me. I want them all, and would be crushed to lose them but I feel like he's leaving the marriage with nothing. I'm getting the house and the pets. How do I combat this guilt? Should I give him what he wants? He has no plans, hasn't filed for unemployment with this pandemic, is just playing video games all day... But he claims the cat 2 is his ""baby boy"" and is moping around and crying. He claims the only thing he wants is equity and cat 2. How should I handle this? I feel so guilty wanting them all to stay together and he doesn't want cat 1 even thought she likes him best and cat 2 likes me best. I feel so guilty and upset and don't know how to handle this. He fucked this up with his addictions and never holding a job and treating me like a maid, so why do I feel so guilty???",2.3337990430622004,3.4953503368421077,3.001220095693782,96.61876794258372,75.45614035087719,6.304625199362043,21.3755980861244,6.574015621080383,0.012052631578947535,1046,24,254,8,22,327,127,285,0.177,0.665,0.159,-0.7994,4,0,0,0,1,0,45.0,0,0,5,6,15,19,1,3,18,0,22,3,1,3,6,68,49,32,0,12,7,1,5,6,0,5,1,0,4,1,8,26,0,4,8,3,3,1,8,6,0,0,4,5,32,13,21,39,11,11,0,1,0,1,34,4,1,3,11,150,40,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10675665981237123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061056280048783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17435448278004365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4110802153427288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09984476329957001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10756999997155237,0.06315586391305421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10021498699175066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10921630697886753,0.06468093550034211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2475782848366072,0.06996023172742785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09053343899554228,0.051163666506883324,0.1878841275135089,0.0556550963108287,0.0,0.07832247011709154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06563949539909067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3389894672249676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943581061907413,0.26113039352901235,0.0,0.0,0.053819013137913256,0.0,0.0,0.10369227774445022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2870578877497705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10955708605574792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07552859536442501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093965160141691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07447913476463328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09348395670503468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937044718707106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810075734153646,0.0,0.0979993513282492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10437888810263728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0650594293262329,0.0627487109221793,0.0962143802353832,0.07774439225055578,0.05710297076683996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4043258960966377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08836535534689785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06956568793697457,0.0,0.0,0.06306282600170539
divorce,whattheheckhelp,2020/04/15,"We love each other, but I want more.... I have been married for seven years and my husband and I have also been business partners the entire time.  I thought I was in a happy marriage for many reasons.  I had never considered cheating, we never fought, and I felt that my husband was my other half and thats the way it would be forever.  I took very good care of him during our marriage and was kind and thoughtful of his needs. Because we spent so much time together working and living, we became more like roommates and close companions.  We were very kind to each other and enjoyed each other's company, but we were not so much lovers anymore and hadn't been in years. Sex was more of a chore and was done for maintenance but not out of true passion. Recently, I met another man through work that I was obligated to spend a lot of job-related time with.  Spending time with this person changed me.  His story and ambitions changed my outlook on my own life and I felt such an intense attraction to him emotionally and physically. I tried to suppress my feelings but I ended up having an emotional and short lived physical affair with him.  I definitely fell in love with the other man, but it was not really about the physical connection as much as it was emotional.  I have since cut it off with him and want to focus on my relationship with my husband and what can be fixed. My husband is aware of what I did, that it was more than a fling, and we are currently in therapy to figure out exactly what happened and why.  We have uncovered many issues in our relationship that essentially caused me to lose respect for him.  He has always been a very emotional person with personal struggles from his childhood that have greatly affected his initiative, self-esteem, and ambitions in life.  I am not proud of it, but I honestly had no guilt for cheating and I struggled to cut it off afterward even though my husband asked me to stop communicating with the other person.  It was like I didn't even care about my husband and his feelings, even though he had been my life for seven years.  I am not proud of that, but I am being open and honest about it and seek to understand why and how this could happen. Now, we are diving headfirst into the issues that brought me to this point, which happen to be deep issues that relate to our dynamic and personalities.  Without getting into too much detail, I have always been the dominant and ambitious one in the relationship, making big decisions and taking charge of everything.  My husband is much more passive, self-conscious and emotional. I have had the task of constantly lifting him up when he faces difficulties in life.  I have been his support system and rock and I could never really depend on him to be the same for me. Whenever we had a conflict, or more importantly, if HE had a conflict, I was the one to find the resolution for him because it was too difficult for him. Over the course of seven years this dynamic caused me to completely lose respect for him without me even realizing it.  I am, again, not proud of this, but it is the truth. The person that I met and had the affair with was completely the opposite of my husband.  Confident, ambitious, and strong willed. I feel that staying with my husband may not allow me to grow as a human being in this life.  He is endlessly supportive, loving, affectionate, and handsome.  He is a wonderful person.  But his lack of drive, confidence, and ability to make important decisions makes me feel that he will never reach his full potential without me helping him and he will never push me to reach my full potential.  I will always be the one pushing him along.  So having said all this, I do love him and he loves me.  Even considering everything I have done, he still wants to make it work.  And I know staying with him would be a comfortable and familiar life with someone that will support me through my endeavors, but he will never push me to grow as a person.  Has anyone ever experienced something like this with their spouse?  The love is there but something important is missing and you don't think it will ever exist for you? Do you stay in a comfortable, sexless marriage or do you leave it behind in search of something more?",7.122427764680082,7.366617281210598,7.382441197434073,72.83892195295796,64.08196721311475,10.779637041504474,35.27191732002851,10.520239216186061,3.7921997587587035,3356,143,590,77,46,1092,299,793,0.077,0.7020000000000001,0.221,0.9993,2,0,3,0,0,0,83.0,13,4,1,11,28,51,5,3,33,0,85,16,1,11,12,153,130,66,0,10,24,10,6,3,3,10,6,1,1,12,46,73,0,4,18,1,3,9,20,12,0,7,45,8,105,39,99,65,22,72,0,3,0,9,95,31,0,7,30,487,151,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040591259948614095,0.12670449631477732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053224327251087854,0.0,0.0,0.050338427984094616,0.035491266190465755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04745200172386462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061883372487545066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10350259717520233,0.10428516739521776,0.107390747070756,0.0,0.10643787170827927,0.054851508706357056,0.0,0.08105247660325599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038863840901106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28548033410158186,0.044956639280480805,0.0,0.0,0.16762633789618048,0.0918272729902472,0.0,0.0,0.09123627256131624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10265934692192802,0.0,0.09747153362013572,0.0,0.04639201323162306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02651902908808409,0.0,0.0,0.042573513051144186,0.0,0.05596101989651446,0.0,0.0,0.13465574590893528,0.0540329755261821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034022106050227305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589349077896835,0.05036961405887305,0.0,0.0,0.10571356754217824,0.02789534199438753,0.0,0.0,0.05374553305996595,0.0,0.0,0.21511181903842155,0.0743935784408257,0.0,0.08964072125580297,0.0,0.0,0.11357073291560288,0.0,0.0431527488330352,0.2748671760161356,0.0,0.13552578943618254,0.10292155840937717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18656533720958526,0.037636511841449685,0.23488680396060194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10318507194382333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3545603453458745,0.0,0.0,0.04798284136783819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06503391839377243,0.05218781361374373,0.05011753199966772,0.16348571471212756,0.0,0.0,0.048282607177886086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059036035568741,0.0,0.0,0.041987651441441294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04300720066139434,0.11722826986037622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16230424588921802,0.040535509908600234,0.042436071283076165,0.0,0.10612684100785412,0.0,0.0,0.17279918058660376,0.0,0.0,0.03816379845558143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058046347738139624,0.0,0.0,0.03252376156351463,0.0997392142649058,0.08059257439067764,0.1183899001904498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05639415246180188,0.034461439884210215,0.0,0.0,0.05284100565850325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12564232455678254,0.08981538433453301,0.04028944271070935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09160263870096197,0.0,0.0,0.14678708427740064,0.05504502912876137,0.11085757421311716,0.0,0.0,0.0721142415266512,0.0,0.0,0.13074629175694585
divorce,googlyeyes1982,2020/04/15,"Case in limbo because of covid My lawyer was in the discovery phase of my case when courts closed due to covid.

Anyone here on the same boat?

Was hoping to settle but looks like it's gonna be a while, right?

In California.",1.3866666666666667,3.7778076666666682,2.3422222222222224,94.3,83.44444444444446,5.377777777777778,15.666666666666668,6.742157984588678,-0.4068666666666667,175,3,38,2,5,55,36,45,0.0,0.879,0.121,0.6715,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,6,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,2,8,2,1,9,0,0,1,0,0,6,0,1,4,22,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3726779611817909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3249048507588477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5293778554282997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26039126536612983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4475761146835336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4551692782588765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,megamanxtc,2020/04/15,"How much of my 401k/Retirement is my STBX entitled to? My stbx doesn't work, hasn't worked since we were married.  She had only ever worked part time jobs prior to being married and quit that altogether after marriage.  We've been married roughly 5 years.

Our divorce lawyer has told me she is entitled to half of my retirement funds at the time of my retirement.  This seems really unfair and can't be right.  I'm going to work another 30\~40 years after our divorce, and she's somehow able to get that money that she wasn't even a part of my life for?

Can someone chime in here and let me know I need a different attorney?",5.212378048780487,5.937635065040648,5.947713414634148,79.80498475609757,68.26829268292683,9.402032520325204,30.00914634146341,9.516144504307137,2.641309756097562,495,18,95,10,8,162,80,123,0.028999999999999998,0.93,0.040999999999999995,-0.18600000000000005,2,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,3,0,0,5,5,0,0,0,3,0,14,1,0,1,1,11,21,5,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,2,0,2,1,4,0,0,1,5,1,16,0,14,13,3,12,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,2,8,64,20,6,0.1791836299769053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878896593392906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18720875603428544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11834909767868393,0.16208185177052611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936160511313371,0.0,0.10183418620424853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17781210426440416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09847463697855112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18322740171374055,0.12656269694217714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13172058516573318,0.1328623912003439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13627722492104066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3880768198954336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19058384662941688,0.0,0.0,0.11478962162227592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530218409575563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16312204706447755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148222550349437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15182170820657462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20896683119223064,0.0,0.0,0.1712176371887008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5217912667596811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307767658781065
divorce,notthatothergirl,2020/04/15,"Not angry anymore Maybe rant. Maybe I’m just disappointed...

My STBXH went zero communication/no response 1.5hrs before he was supposed to have our son(2yo) stay overnight yesterday.

I found out today that he “fell asleep”... and that’s why there was no communication... And only found out because I asked why he disappeared mid conversation. No previous acknowledgement from him.

This isn’t the only time he’s had no communication/no check in about a planned day with our son. 

The last time he spent time with him was 9 days ago, and little to no effort trying to reschedule his time.

Is it normal that you stop getting angry, and start feeling bad for your child about who you picked as a partner? It’s not my responsibility to maintain his relationship with our son. I imagine growing up with a father who is 5min away, but still doesn’t see his own child for no other reason than “I took a nap”. My heart breaks",3.6844705882352966,6.3508905058823535,4.27470588235294,82.22617647058824,76.29411764705883,6.588235294117648,24.70588235294117,7.724431198458867,1.378882352941177,726,25,134,11,17,230,108,170,0.1,0.862,0.039,-0.7844,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,3,3,0,2,5,2,0,0,6,0,9,2,2,2,0,23,20,6,0,1,4,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,9,10,0,1,6,1,2,5,9,2,0,1,9,2,18,0,20,11,1,27,0,1,1,0,27,7,0,0,13,79,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13899414447934216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555039199688418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14658726094427724,0.0,0.1473191910627646,0.0,0.13092183217404146,0.09558410331909686,0.0,0.13342564014879582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20224664618764693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0792830224696586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3438472159616281,0.0,0.0,0.08192176716896707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18580929670633808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127813300468431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157155251038344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3150542692740393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15363115613322478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385076267477252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16121698504579154,0.0,0.16834501006319574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12494966333758376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109841706295363,0.16712842437415076,0.12522104764008227,0.1310922032503799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3657264301172038,0.0,0.14862849919703386,0.0,0.17421107734833505,0.1064572177633064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14535559470933224,0.28297604768249746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,railroaded_,2020/04/15,"Questions about NJ state divorce. Laws, alimony, child support, etc. Hello, I was wondering if anyone here has experience with getting divorced in the state of NJ.

I am a 37yr old male, my wife is 35, and we have a two year old daughter. 

We do not jointly own any properties or assets.

Unfortunately, the relationship has become something that cannot be fixed, (no, not made worse by quarantine).

I had plans to move out and get started with divorce proceedings before COVID-19, but obviously have had to put that on hold. 

While we are waiting, I was curious if the community can give me an idea of what to expect, or how badly I am going to get screwed in this as well as what to expect with alimony, child support, custody rights and court and lawyer fees. 

Thank you, and feel free to dm for more info or to give insight or tips.",6.792222222222222,6.846442050955418,7.0719320594479855,75.43079971691438,64.79617834394904,10.03510261854211,35.27883934890304,9.725611199111238,3.3136219391365884,650,28,121,12,9,211,109,157,0.06,0.812,0.128,0.865,0,1,1,0,3,0,27.0,3,1,0,1,4,7,1,0,6,0,16,1,0,2,1,35,30,16,0,4,9,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,12,0,2,6,0,2,3,4,2,1,1,5,1,11,6,21,24,3,16,0,0,0,1,17,5,1,8,6,82,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11358433144947636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11678941270163885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394608676804283,0.0,0.1844685948832152,0.14212798000895294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862796565097168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16338480673270306,0.0,0.0,0.08445405111079547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617947031808369,0.32045572410369355,0.09492549703042412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18855355720166772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15804532524500356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17752364886056698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3505342316164651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16790862864317901,0.1871088676211374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17932487487551926,0.0,0.14264045160897582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12858582085659218,0.0,0.0,0.11822282409103604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37908133431533775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15377635095103964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16316145931238918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15017765454661472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811340454745348,0.0,0.0,0.17021514794381454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075601427212031
divorce,wordfactories,2020/04/15,"Single lawyer divorce? Does anyone have any experience with this? If it matters, we aren't combative, we don't have a ton of assets or debt. We have minor children.",2.1966129032258053,5.038922129032258,3.800241935483872,81.62036290322581,85.7741935483871,5.680645161290323,23.87903225806452,7.1686216300943375,1.4404774193548382,130,5,22,2,4,43,26,31,0.08199999999999999,0.815,0.10300000000000001,-0.264,1,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,7,5,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,2,0,17,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41586042909836907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42759502706457103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5351528128912696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5981923296017184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,RKKP2015,2020/04/15,"401(k) Division? Unfortunately my wife had an affair and my marriage is history.  We now have the fun task of splitting up our assets.  My 401(k) had about 45k in it when we got married 7 years ago.  After the recent downturn in the market, it is at about 145k now.  The market went up roughly 85% since we got married, even factoring in this downturn.  Is only the 45k off limits for splitting, or does the interest earned on that 45k matter?  That original money grew to about 83k.  I know this is something that the lawyers hash out, but I'm just wondering what the deal is.  My wife wants to keep the primary residence and two rental properties, and honestly I don't think she has enough to buy me out of the equity on all three of those.  She's getting extremely angry at me about the uncertainty of all of this.",4.302499999999998,5.9326429679487145,5.213333333333335,80.84000000000002,71.24358974358974,8.78974358974359,28.384615384615394,9.2995712137729,2.4941769230769237,637,24,121,14,12,208,99,156,0.059000000000000004,0.8640000000000001,0.077,-0.2142,1,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,4,0,0,2,9,3,0,0,12,0,10,0,0,1,2,21,20,6,0,1,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,8,0,2,3,0,2,2,1,0,0,2,5,1,14,3,26,15,3,22,0,0,0,0,11,12,0,2,8,87,24,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286100707557677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26588041401113804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256873442635016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26647647228985044,0.0,0.1703384921576547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13474050334342352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4125274737789709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22923064396119056,0.0,0.0,0.1417334099516335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19614223905198916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546421087112747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133350082552646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19854165895491735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652499414338874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519278299394723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15211429313671912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390730409235755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.279678223012144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16607716955909246
divorce,banned4lifer,2020/04/15,Argument about how often to call the kids when divorced. Every day or just... Just jumped out of an argument on this sub about how often one should call. I was in favor of only when the number of days away were long (5 days or more) or when the kids ask. Heated arguments were made though. How often do you think you should call?,2.4643589743589764,4.535170230769236,3.158076923076924,91.71608974358976,77.46153846153845,6.17948717948718,16.98717948717949,7.1686216300943375,-0.03874358974358971,255,4,53,3,6,80,43,65,0.109,0.835,0.057,-0.5719,0,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,0,2,0,0,14,1,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,4,0,16,9,10,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,3,1,10,3,1,12,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,6,7,41,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21070355316977046,0.0,0.21175562465022388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6904265864233244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4360619745593617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898956846506968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19945768867369404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132637273743839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527259862795049,0.17141463756846673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14441692394258868,0.22143857026591585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,movemetal17,2020/04/15,"Just wish I knew you were OK. I get so deeply sad when I think that you may be alone and sad. I hope you are with someone and having a good time. Even though I initiated this crazy life change, I still care deeply about you and just want you to be happy. I love you, always. Til the day I die.",0.4919047619047596,2.1941657301587334,1.6161111111111095,102.1775,82.17460317460319,4.834920634920637,13.674603174603176,5.46131890053228,-1.4109873015873018,223,2,58,1,6,70,45,63,0.198,0.507,0.295,0.7808,0,1,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,6,0,0,8,8,0,0,2,1,6,2,0,0,0,12,14,7,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,14,6,4,9,0,5,0,2,0,1,7,0,0,2,5,38,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26737700711905804,0.0,0.0,0.2148106878014996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.263212412366305,0.0,0.2731001769401554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16649253046709014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679304281791181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705129493479178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13487850180360814,0.0,0.0,0.21653325382997812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27481725529073625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25641218911422115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18234679567754952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330004413868448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21873903349585636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20616776082401853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16541918703485828,0.2536419366341791,0.0,0.15053579368731165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15227008547609786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29687248531498234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,fearosis,2020/04/15,"Looking for advice on where to start divorce process I am a 26M and my wife is 24F. Married for 4 years living in TN. We own a small house together and 2 cars. I caught her cheating 2x last year and forgave her, trying to work through it. She lied this past weekend and managed to shack up with someone even during this quarantine. I'm through with the emotional abuse she's put me through and I want to get started on divorce proceedings.

I see there is a way to divorce online but wondering if I have to get a lawyer involved with this at all? We have no kids and she's basically said and agreed she wants nothing but the dogs and her clothes. How easy can we make this? I don't have a lot of extra money right now to hire a lawyer and she sure won't have it for one either. TIA!",2.2362698412698414,3.963927141975308,3.1994003527336865,92.73444444444445,76.96296296296295,6.110052910052911,26.386243386243386,6.868970318607317,0.9728910052910056,615,24,135,6,14,196,106,162,0.059000000000000004,0.8170000000000001,0.124,0.8834,0,1,0,0,4,0,12.0,3,0,0,1,5,2,1,0,8,0,10,0,0,2,2,27,23,13,0,3,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,6,15,0,0,1,1,1,3,3,1,0,1,2,3,19,1,22,20,5,21,0,0,2,0,18,8,0,3,9,89,25,5,0.0,0.2377786563941319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19610685123309374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257433739585558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13255040912042645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20969903651293276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315632997605978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16358488645934016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17720834365041524,0.0,0.1685246773378537,0.0,0.0,0.170615029364671,0.0,0.0,0.1339586536757486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19256246563999765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13598920544480522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19157633716325947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2017436404606742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17138371158818005,0.1908971888055387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15991979250437965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17003956879147414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840914503369854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891430367551992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13625179708812118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23673817389055135,0.15929424282495738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21763409087842872,0.14610091509155312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25846884625755306
divorce,mrdiego71,2020/04/15,"Going through it Hi everyone...I'm going through a divorce. I admitted to a crime I didn't do. (I panicked and blurred whatever came to my mind, never been in trouble before) Now I might be facing prison time. But it led to my divorce, no contact order. I just wanna go home and be with my family. I haven't seen my kids in 2 months. I'm very stressed out, depressed. Everything is closed cause of the virus so there's no counseling. Idk...it's just really hard.",0.4365050167224069,2.898674456521743,2.4330434782608705,90.22366220735789,92.47826086956522,5.874247491638798,23.381270903010034,7.321109707123232,1.3360876254180605,358,15,72,7,13,119,68,92,0.20800000000000002,0.726,0.067,-0.9187,0,0,0,0,2,0,20.0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,3,0,8,1,1,2,1,17,15,4,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,6,0,0,1,0,0,5,5,3,0,0,4,2,10,0,11,8,0,14,0,1,1,0,6,4,0,2,4,45,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103679884115995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28275647716792235,0.0,0.2539654266341013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129322248684972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22218748326621932,0.0,0.23305920425902898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4215064308520464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22146264233511292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2479841476259661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26226381688603084,0.24962407145113774,0.0,0.197330499883114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19067309656320414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15837695084640713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28319233615438016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14415732487195035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20398430800445588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Throwaway5557771,2020/04/15,"Need some urgent advice. I (24F) got married last month, and now want a divorce/annulment after finding out something tragic. I’m originally from the UK and have no papers yet here in the US as we were in the process of filing. We live in MD and with this lockdown I have no idea what the first steps would be considering I have to technically leave the country as my visa expires may 3rd. 

He is willing to accept the divorce/annulment. We have no assets together, rent a basement, and have little money so I won’t be going for any alimony or anything like that. We just want clean and simple. Any advice on how to do this? Also, I ideally want an annulment but I understand it’s harder to get? If anyone has any input on this I’d really appreciate it. Thank you",2.4414000000000016,4.799071006666669,4.515333333333333,80.50100000000002,78.93333333333334,7.2,25.333333333333336,8.238735603445708,1.9357333333333333,601,23,110,12,15,206,105,150,0.053,0.8029999999999999,0.14400000000000002,0.8909,1,1,1,0,2,0,18.0,5,1,0,2,7,5,0,0,9,0,15,0,0,2,0,29,25,13,0,7,4,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,2,0,7,11,0,0,4,0,3,2,4,1,0,1,2,0,13,4,17,17,1,16,0,1,0,0,7,7,0,4,8,81,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37703857722689416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15427813399718948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3935768498406714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348942192973132,0.0,0.1587568041615576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763254760460349,0.1640977382166662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10079278958835304,0.0,0.1096409384816506,0.0,0.15429582728380126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21778331019977248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572556299247853,0.0,0.2042745300755048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09425101592275163,0.1933566217869996,0.17035198245896854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15398698298270214,0.0,0.0,0.14304780941544126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12358955584303408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14851931794080148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776149081331844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20083662743775346,0.2320591262644202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34136781949891803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13704490364968633,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,whatthefirstguysay,2020/04/15,"Lost my kids I don’t know how to feel anymore. I held out so long manifesting I would be able to win them over but it didn’t work.

She left me to move in with her mom back in the Dominican Republic. Mostly financial stress other just us falling out of love. I hold her dearly to me and will respect her. But the catch was she wanted to bring the kids with her. Of course that’s fine if she means we could alternate a month at a time or even 2. But no, she wanted them to live there full time. I didn’t know what to say, I felt like I got punched in the stomach. I want to hate her but I cant. I loved this woman and had 2 wonderful kids with this woman. I made sure her and the kids were happy. But it wasn’t enough? I don’t know how to feel. Anyone went through something similar?

(Her Mother is a widow) (the kids flew down before all this coronavirus stuff) (sorry if any grammar errors, I feel like I had a lot, I just needed to pour some words out.)",0.4940782649693531,2.4886898316831707,2.181230551626591,96.55681518151816,83.85148514851484,5.431777463460631,17.539839698255538,6.655083550727371,-0.2735764262140501,734,16,173,8,21,240,120,202,0.102,0.7170000000000001,0.18100000000000002,0.9595,0,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,2,0,2,3,8,13,1,1,10,0,15,3,1,3,2,46,38,14,0,8,10,2,4,2,0,2,0,1,0,7,9,10,0,2,9,0,0,6,7,3,0,0,14,5,33,10,25,20,6,22,0,1,0,2,27,11,0,7,7,118,42,1,0.14869366485221944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10111679102254216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14746416035376378,0.10397006776458416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11433624995918112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12652735698333506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11871979207086875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15364030411441645,0.0,0.09821076327153858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255519540820461,0.10622678388082464,0.1427692365386199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11892390720711125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15828717118265054,0.0,0.14680420989704895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24515444858249466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161556101933728,0.0,0.0,0.14528842767934042,0.0,0.13129923025873494,0.13158921427745848,0.0,0.0,0.16231670014558106,0.12641403652158265,0.2684036758348037,0.14069754094557735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619709920656227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.174148223157344,0.11868586466473065,0.1580378338660007,0.0,0.11025446839733463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11824717041718727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114471647718432,0.0,0.16645038407241558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17032809070476498,0.0,0.17021867160815896,0.0,0.0,0.1401420194059755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17340894347621316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17886017064915485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26311012814955936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378405170160889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16125193668515111,0.10825075894541697,0.0,0.0,0.10562771328135476,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,spacebtwn,2020/04/16,"Poll: Mans Perspective after Divorce Do you regret leaving Your SO? 
Are you happier now that you’re out? 
How difficult was it to leave and why? 
Was it amicable or a shit show?  
What was the “breaking point” that made you leave?
Would you do it again?
Are you happy with your shared custody if that applies? 
Are your children happier? 
How is your relationship with your children? 
Did you commit to someone after a divorce? Did it work out. 


Gathering personal experiences so if a guy ever thinks of leaving he’ll have personal data to weigh the pros and cons.

Not just for people who are adulterous, but all marriages. I just figured this would have the best data. 


Gathering answers for a friend... 😬",2.2134991776315798,5.118255226562503,3.3545559210526337,83.0111677631579,90.484375,6.444736842105264,26.26809210526316,7.669130373188453,2.197259375,551,25,94,12,19,177,80,128,0.06,0.8079999999999999,0.131,0.9115,0,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,0,11,0,2,9,7,1,0,7,0,16,2,1,3,3,25,19,10,0,5,7,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,6,10,6,1,0,3,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,6,0,12,4,12,10,2,9,0,1,0,0,27,3,1,3,5,75,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760283753508473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15172663564464406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16407779998660954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12959226426502135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16608481501466704,0.0,0.17855787988668073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7104319792210502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587156711994192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11628688495425625,0.2929208642515512,0.0,0.0,0.15856454955786312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18008547759636878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17217838996133775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14212200041137055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10747832881990887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513554713504883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221136613220137,0.0,0.0,0.23830940182806384,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,nomoney94,2020/04/16,"When does it really end? I've been divorced for over 2 years now, but I still find my self struggling to completely move forward. I feel like I do good for a while, I don't think about him or worry about where I'm at in life. Then suddenly out of nowhere I am hit with reliving my divorce grief. It feels like an endless cycle that I can't seem to break free from. I always have to remind myself of my reasons for the divorce as if it's some kind of security blanket. I have not dated anyone since for fear that it would be too early and I wouldn't be ready. And even now, anyone I find potentially interesting, I automatically compare them. I know it's not fair to them and it's definitely not fair to myself. But I am just having trouble breaking free of this and moving on with my life. I am interested in starting a relationship, but I just feel stuck. Has anyone had this problem? And if so, what helped you through?",3.1288709677419355,4.731899091397853,4.662129032258067,83.7231935483871,74.21505376344086,7.325591397849463,25.84086021505377,8.021203637495839,1.466398279569892,725,25,149,11,15,243,114,186,0.166,0.6779999999999999,0.157,-0.2306,0,0,0,0,3,0,19.0,0,1,2,0,12,14,0,2,4,0,16,2,0,1,0,32,26,16,1,5,11,0,3,2,0,2,2,0,0,1,11,8,0,1,9,0,2,3,6,5,0,0,3,3,25,11,26,18,1,24,0,1,0,0,10,8,0,5,15,109,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13521871600624752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34088570058392736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17038533870663433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422108381336497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439328330786395,0.0,0.0,0.10733424071789974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18286538402322172,0.2465050359796042,0.2321898499093932,0.0,0.0,0.2970566307232129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363030343378479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10892491497328773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692258753625533,0.08930951394965579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295667858217219,0.15878527516320348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3454381238400292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554971068725702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10410604829935367,0.1670841056143508,0.0,0.17447153867229698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14794013143683402,0.16953008428942054,0.0,0.0,0.13442734428124795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11502318370312832,0.0,0.12977817903673372,0.0,0.0,0.16988744194874586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10412782670441548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650335928023327,0.0,0.11544020254150515,0.0,0.0,0.10464908236186957
divorce,Aero-SF,2020/04/16,"Separated But Want To Financially Help My Ex - Contract Needed? My wife and I separated (I moved out) in January. She's a medical professional dealing with COVID, so we haven't done anything in terms of lawyers, paperwork, filing for divorce, etc. I'm just giving her space to do her job.

She's asking for help financially - a monthly stipend, if you will - to help with rent and other expenses. I don't mind, but I also don't want it to be considered community property. I want to make it clear that this is separate property (my money) that I am giving her for a period of time, and that it should be factored within any settlement reached in a divorce.

Is there some sort of contract I should look for? Is this a common issue? Note: we're in California. No kids.",3.9449771689497695,5.8505900958904125,5.804315068493153,75.11871004566213,72.6986301369863,9.52420091324201,30.65981735159817,9.928628108626363,3.3472118721461186,598,27,110,17,12,206,89,146,0.039,0.8390000000000001,0.122,0.8616,2,0,0,0,2,0,26.0,1,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,5,0,14,1,0,1,1,22,24,8,0,7,4,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,9,7,0,0,0,0,4,1,4,0,0,0,1,1,17,0,20,18,3,13,0,0,1,0,19,7,0,3,5,78,26,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606537223060158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13661384216104916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653174748044725,0.0,0.18780744222921347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20711142708956595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20558285603990675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2240483283872005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3854289333188529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4039621818523267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096796582408773,0.19935488575420945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16869916970426788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13409735598837594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20237813769128446,0.0,0.0,0.20284423607162907,0.0,0.1603505393920235,0.21351701802355255,0.0,0.14895930132737298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11714207795662945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35547494292994475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,brokenwendahl,2020/04/16,"Just gave up custody of my son, for the best My ex and I broke up a year ago and she’s moved our 2 yr old son a few states away. I was an idiot in letting her do so, thinking we’d make it work. It’s been a year now and she’s with a new guy. I found out a few days ago she’s expecting another kid with her new guy. This tore me apart and the realization that seeing my son only a few times a month and the FaceTime calls won’t be enough and it’ll be easier for him if I let him go and he gets to live somewhat of a normal life with a mom and a dad. Maybe it’s easier if he simply forgot about me so he wouldn’t feel abandoned. I’m leaving the door open for when he’s older and wants to re connect with me but it’s tearing me apart.",-0.05021696252465446,1.2305960887573946,2.4892071005917167,97.2833570019724,82.19526627218934,5.6900986193293885,18.367258382643,6.42735559955562,-0.3614500197238657,565,12,148,5,15,196,101,169,0.040999999999999995,0.9159999999999999,0.043,0.09,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,0,2,6,4,1,0,15,0,11,1,0,1,0,30,22,15,0,6,4,6,1,0,0,3,1,0,1,3,7,15,0,2,3,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,5,2,20,1,17,9,6,24,0,2,1,0,24,8,0,3,13,91,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29467504118296084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17428849735073038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15616229322492284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744299631808725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16972173972933116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10719343433082196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17174213976380714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08404212997198783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822436349813252,0.0,0.0,0.08683927011718158,0.0,0.09446250184754824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.329153389164322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17599523902190814,0.0,0.33992747265031104,0.11740093812653572,0.0,0.0,0.1467688500354906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11094826094124546,0.0,0.16698298716280313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946662931546544,0.13266938304195824,0.17665778461081064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3210585026198154,0.0,0.0,0.16285314546927654,0.0,0.0,0.1744122577050429,0.0,0.0,0.12641224023790046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324499939465862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065023800931659,0.0,0.0,0.09691995592708363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09803655072235876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12100481758026893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21407104515381653
divorce,OddBit1,2020/04/16,"My husband is awful with money. What to do? Hi everyone, have a question here and would like the brutally honest truth. 

About 5 years ago I got married. My husband is a civil engineer and I'm a nurse. Together we make okay money.

However... my in laws are not well off at all (in fact quite poor) and I didnt understand just how poor until after I got married. My in laws arent really educated and dont really want to work so they rely on their children to cover their expenses. We are of Indian decent and this is kind of the expectation in our culture that you take care of the elders. 

I have no issue with that. If they need their necessities covered and we have a preset budget of what that would be then that's totally cool, however that is not the case at all.

My husband makes about 70k per year, and at least 25-35k of it goes to his parents and they divide up some of it for their other 4 children and their expenses. 

For example, my brother in law wanted to take an online graphic design class for fun so my husband gave him 3-4k to cover those expenses. My mother in law and sister in law wanted to vacation to Europe late last year and my husband paid for it about 4k. My sister in law wanted new makeup and clothes and my husband regularly takes her on shopping sprees spending anywhere from $200 - $1k

And on top of all these things he covers their rent (about 1k) and their food and Obamacare health insurance every month (not sure how much this is varies year to year). And that doesn't include everyone phones bill, Netflix, spotify, hulu, disney+, etc (and when I say everyone I mean even his siblings who are grown and have their own jobs). 

The thing is my husband doesnt tell me about any of these purchases. I have to pry and be nosy and I always find out after the fact. And I'm sure there are purchases I have no idea about hes never going to tell me.

My family thinks that because my husband is a nice person and isnt abusive or violent that I should stay with him. But his financial behavior is starting to make me resent him and I really dont know if I want to continue or have children with him given his financial disaster. I've talked to him about it not exaggerating about 100 times. And he tells me to just stay out of it, and his family is none of my business. I have a roof over my head and food on the table so I should be thankful. But we have 0 savings and are living paycheck to paycheck because of him. 

Im worried how are we going to afford a mortgage, future cars, vacations, retirement, emergencies, a college fund for our children? His parents arent even super old yet but they are extremely unhealthy. I cant imagine now with coronavirus how this will affect health insurance and what medical bills may be thrown our way. 

I'm just frustrated, all I do is worry about money and my husband thinks I'm just being dramatic and need to count my blessings. Also my family is no help. They're more paranoid about how it will look if I get a divorce than my financial well being.

What should I do? Do you think this will potentially lead to more problems down the line? I feel like before I have children with him I need to make a decision. I'm so torn. I dont want to come off like a gold digger but this behavior I dont think is very normal.",4.2738332668528125,5.331857165137617,5.507687807472411,80.89792580773835,70.62079510703364,8.745060497274299,28.437574790586357,9.085049710711278,2.310863422417232,2582,93,503,50,46,862,290,654,0.081,0.853,0.066,-0.9043,10,0,0,0,1,0,69.0,8,2,12,5,33,24,4,0,20,3,60,6,1,11,11,123,102,53,0,20,17,15,1,3,0,9,3,1,1,6,30,45,2,0,13,2,18,6,20,5,2,0,6,4,84,19,80,81,13,55,1,0,1,0,73,23,0,8,26,358,114,5,0.0,0.0890010289127865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0665864391658192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060070813095711786,0.0625031277352697,0.0,0.0,0.05108194482485487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09158090946518044,0.0,0.06391879531478177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765865013515626,0.0,0.0,0.06470640218386503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35214494120654644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08377499796312038,0.0992277689968467,0.0,0.06328907556805652,0.2153317323627512,0.0,0.0,0.21244007254723635,0.0,0.03798127016309533,0.05366339910759608,0.0,0.0,0.0686553203694227,0.0,0.18166286971675696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039245385382141465,0.0,0.08538112501788035,0.0,0.1201554045550266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07709142493255304,0.1596911194955311,0.0,0.0,0.05034915339540892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847976325835927,0.08113894668168596,0.07840233876541068,0.0745417529700752,0.0,0.0,0.0782225036318922,0.04128218432507727,0.06123015173123812,0.08473493095698159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11009470392634596,0.0,0.06632943913466761,0.0,0.06307912538374698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20056397306158705,0.0,0.0,0.08182412828032343,0.0,0.07567219177626326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05995744850073805,0.0,0.05521943155173277,0.16709428615404134,0.05793464454018162,0.07254819535289336,0.0,0.0,0.07359843589209494,0.0,0.0,0.07882236066433138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16681645411005944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06558902169883943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07187655540873564,0.0,0.0,0.08414791661925196,0.07989587702315187,0.0,0.0,0.14436508111572405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059735829963189775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053168000376381724,0.16012885584719816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14159323749393654,0.0,0.16943527303290226,0.06037597341204639,0.196965970093278,0.06915738266366968,0.0,0.0,0.09980842073961604,0.1925270419814193,0.0,0.0,0.04380116295825465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07819915367790338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06197916008615164,0.26583472266243185,0.05962415519669135,0.0,0.0,0.1350779031857682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05468586611362813,0.15256934892146287,0.0,0.10672152403671292,0.0,0.0,0.24186352139079925
divorce,Charming-Salad,2020/04/16,"Need tales of hope Can you share your success stories with me? I have been separated for 10 months and it is getting harder and harder. My ex is a narcissist, who happily spent all my savings and then fell out of love with me as fast as he fell in, and cheated on me. I'm having financial issues and now lost my job due to Covid. Literally my life has fallen apart in the last 12 months. I am so lucky to have my family who have caught me at this horrid time in my life, so at 38 I am living with my parents, paying my way when I can, helping them as much as I can and enjoying having company because living alone was sending me round the bend. Just wanting some inspiration from others who have rebuilt with very little money and a broken heart. I need to know this can get better. Stay safe x",4.084579333709769,4.893650919254661,5.362902315076231,82.68219649915305,70.86335403726706,8.090570299265952,26.43760587238848,8.296473431620573,1.6253677018633548,622,19,126,9,11,208,105,161,0.092,0.72,0.188,0.9581,2,1,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,2,1,3,5,12,1,0,4,0,17,4,1,0,1,24,29,15,0,4,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,7,12,0,1,2,0,3,5,0,2,0,0,5,1,22,10,22,24,3,26,0,1,1,1,13,10,0,3,9,88,29,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196189170485648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11547289784738775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675327252674573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17857485029137368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19793550440493896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22447182316538225,0.1269688776991456,0.0,0.0,0.18814368231120232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19771249943082705,0.1879769981832588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041040863499856,0.15440822977914465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675956842374607,0.0,0.18985554730527693,0.3345348979039823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20678186994817052,0.0,0.1709651993303977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30239753530938995,0.0,0.1392505887089575,0.2809153355741505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21033618771866594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201903902479728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11045636575160554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156297054988653,0.11172891072878276,0.15035827930671594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Itchygiraffe,2020/04/16,"I’m getting there. You will too. You let time pass. That's the cure. You survive the days. You float like a rabid ghost through the weeks. You cry and wallow and lament and scratch your way back up through the months. And then one day you find yourself alone on a bench in the sun and you close your eyes and lean your head back and you realise you are OK. 

-Cheryl Strayed",0.6575999999999986,3.146445226666668,0.2363333333333344,106.7265,90.06666666666666,3.0,19.5,3.1291,-1.0294000000000003,292,9,68,0,10,82,52,75,0.129,0.804,0.067,-0.6081,0,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,12,0,1,4,2,0,0,7,1,3,2,2,0,0,9,5,8,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,8,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,12,2,5,3,0,14,0,0,1,0,12,4,0,0,9,41,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933660303087802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4356101457069871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31114154852128,0.3653511815804332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588892990887404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14798868113031474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.290700631198711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896467133452305,0.0,0.13838374350551813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22609088026947094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19194044470962535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16516786050254348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22483407934841595,0.2272095142391775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,stay-frosty-beyotch,2020/04/16,"Divorce and Kids Hello. 

My ex and I are divorced and I finally moved out about a month ago. My youngest seems totally unpaused (5) my oldest (8) is struggling and has been manipulative? She will be at my place and cry for her dad or say things like she’d rather be at her dads or with my ex’s girlfriend, etc. it’s like a grater on my heart. Anyone have any advice or pearls of wisdom? Thanks.",1.5857500000000009,3.730898074999999,2.765000000000004,93.05,80.75,5.5,21.25,6.6274283507984215,0.2431250000000001,306,9,67,3,8,98,60,80,0.07,0.792,0.138,0.6966,0,0,0,0,2,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,1,2,0,9,1,1,1,1,14,11,8,0,1,4,4,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,1,2,7,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,12,4,8,6,2,10,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,4,6,43,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.248988067781536,0.2258652405587812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17327305530401213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781624112034817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27988634891725606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2841698745991021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27912145747484657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30193978067092186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489652757938403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20337930213065966,0.27081257277522897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662122569052006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026275586086645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319607758735283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663727716263777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345860368482321,0.0,0.0,0.1692781085951022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,hardenmvp1981,2020/04/16,"Just asked for divorce I have been in dead bedroom for 3 years, she never wants to have sex. Divorce has brewed in my mind for 3 months. Yesterday I told her I wanted divorce. It was met with understanding at first, her telling me she failed, then self pity over her life. Then she barged back in 30 minutes later yelling at me saying i never loved her, I'm a liar, all I care about is sex. 

I feel it was the right thing to do but I still love her and am deeply sad by how things are turning out.",3.4867545076282944,4.109407883495145,3.781581137309292,94.15825242718452,72.10679611650484,6.662413314840499,24.423023578363384,6.1826913282559595,0.3628984743411925,384,10,90,2,7,119,74,103,0.142,0.784,0.07400000000000001,-0.65,0,0,0,0,4,0,11.0,0,0,0,2,5,7,1,0,2,0,10,5,0,1,3,14,22,5,1,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,1,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,4,0,1,5,3,18,3,15,17,1,19,0,3,0,4,19,8,0,0,11,61,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19985710094964199,0.0,0.0,0.1643849888021382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21796476714059515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10809448872460084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18184266837065965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15100038976649235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3858927965742155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21585865013881012,0.0,0.17063857298843638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32976336779265075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18256846753142306,0.0,0.17000784783350326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22302101511085926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17072640144860338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18685469392284249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840542236721079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20427764716647603,0.0,0.0,0.2325331819188743,0.0,0.2225543669080016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521880592552552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376684538121268
divorce,nibbio1990,2020/04/16,"Just a thought: Facebook memories are toxic, avoid them Today should be my wedding anniversary. Make yourself a gift, avoid Facebook memories (and social media in general) for a while.

(Don't know if ""Facebook Memories"" is correct, English is not my mother language - anyway, you got the point)",6.9954081632653065,9.62320236734694,6.767091836734696,68.36451530612247,66.14285714285714,8.981632653061224,40.82142857142857,9.516144504307137,4.851363265306123,232,14,30,5,4,73,40,49,0.08900000000000001,0.852,0.059000000000000004,-0.128,0,2,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,1,0,2,2,0,2,4,0,6,0,0,1,1,12,10,3,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,4,0,2,6,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,2,22,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3632128039627751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495804159279853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031382703898773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4293038424981864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4629328791418755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3605320243282797,0.0,0.0,0.4304663560688629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Dangarc,2020/04/16,"How are pre martial debts used in a divorce? Hey all, i am just wondering 
My and wife and I have been married for 3 years, unfortunately things aren’t going well.
My situation is, when we got married she had a massive student debt, $80k. In the time we have been married she’s brought it down to $45k.

During this time I have been able to save up $40k that are sitting in my bank account.

Now, during divorce will my $40k be split 50:50. Or does the debt she had counter acts to it? I mean like she wasn’t able to save due to her loan, so it seems unfair to me that she would get money, when in fact she makes more than me.  We live in the state of Oklahoma

Thanks in advance. I have no idea how this will affect me and that why I seek out for advice.",2.339854166666665,3.331358943750004,3.548750000000002,93.36791666666667,75.1875,6.333333333333334,23.958333333333336,6.42735559955562,0.3957708333333341,581,17,138,4,12,189,98,160,0.08,0.831,0.08800000000000001,0.3174,4,0,0,0,2,0,22.0,3,0,0,1,8,5,0,0,5,0,19,0,0,5,2,23,29,9,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,9,7,0,0,4,0,7,4,3,0,1,0,8,0,23,5,19,17,2,22,0,0,0,0,14,9,0,3,8,90,32,1,0.4462500673866612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180352005730261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19525822059810188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11657362095861315,0.0,0.12680709856633904,0.0,0.17845347230429195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518810041673258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10900762098177573,0.0,0.1970234925913276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14893769258457953,0.0,0.0,0.24304857303706984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20312465068420435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508018864437457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20542355323112607,0.0,0.0,0.1482343579313185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26021200294114205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19270838969159387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006162015296124,0.0,0.20133563802931465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24196958116371364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15850162216578093,0.0,0.0,0.14368520625691955
divorce,JennyToy,2020/04/16,"Sad about initiating a divorce I don't want [addiction]...and feeling like a ""friend"" I've (44f) been married 13 years (49m), together 15. I am 'stuck' emotionally. We have been separated a year so I am not living with the day to day addict drama. He wants to drink daily and wants to convince me he's not, so we are basically... friends. Text buddies (Cuz you can't hide drinking in person and you can'thave fun with anyone without drinking). Which isnt enough for me....but sometimes it is I guess, or I wouldnt keep going. I start thinking about the logistics of divorce, pensions, paperwork and health insurance...I'm not miserable, he's not miserable so another day goes by and we just... chat as friends. When we don't talk, I miss talking with someone. When we do, I feel inauthentic because we arent doing anything active to get divorced. I do go to alanon...he went to rehab (twice) and relapsed within a week. I don't hold out hope for reconciliation and I can't be happy being all-in living with an active alcoholic (not to mention a 5 year EA on his side which has caused damage). All this to say...I'm just feeling stuck. Thank you for listening.",2.646400491400492,5.024899545045051,4.1850941850941865,83.03056511056514,78.32432432432431,6.91924651924652,27.65847665847666,8.00094639256281,1.9812540540540544,897,39,170,16,22,298,136,222,0.10300000000000001,0.7959999999999999,0.10099999999999999,0.1862,1,0,4,0,3,0,58.0,6,3,0,0,9,14,0,2,8,0,21,7,0,2,1,41,41,14,0,5,9,0,3,1,3,1,4,1,0,1,4,17,4,2,4,5,0,3,14,5,0,1,5,4,22,9,25,33,2,18,0,5,0,0,25,5,0,3,11,103,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459054626313204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14303436165460456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14034301274666264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358410863261643,0.0,0.11013899694305236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08158768163338784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13749064885301818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25894737316557714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3933370284778057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15055209614479784,0.0,0.13829259920410975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203020725358258,0.09561539293122263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3102135837061467,0.0,0.06992592728848505,0.0,0.15212882436175929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14743995748678704,0.0,0.0,0.14247527333200988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14226576579297148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329334167574707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11896322890428905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0653875114797075,0.0,0.23636651763533675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11686401133731596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10643501807537578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11340228091839298,0.0,0.13237127945018695,0.0,0.09473271041147176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21515120239860894,0.0,0.12322198048288928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08575933073131435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23682707287296215,0.0,0.10735845370464747,0.0,0.0,0.12407111196289668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12901707861648065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585659054560743
divorce,heyamaki,2020/04/16,"I want a divorce Im living in Japan with my husband (bf for 9 yrs) under spouse visa. I want to divorce him because of the ff reasons:

1 he still wants to live with his sister 
2 i don't trust him anymore 
3 im not sexually attracted to him

BackgroundDuring our 9-yr relationship as bf and gf, there have been instances where telling lies have been an issue. We've been together since college but after grad he went  to Japan to work while I stayed in my home country (5yrs of LDR). 

Before we got married he told me that we'll be living as husband and wife so I agreed NOT KNOWING that he invited his sister to live with us without any consideration for my feelings. I honestly felt cheated on this because I do love him that's why I chose to migrate to Japan then dropping a bombshell that we're not going to live truly as a man and wife. His sister is very naggy and emotional in a way that she wants her opinion to be expressed all the time. I dont want to be rude bec she takes good care of us but I honestly think that I want a husband and wife alone time. He tells me that will be moving out but it's been the 2nd year of us living with each other. His sister is a working 28 yr old with no bf. He told me her sister went home in Japan because of emotional depression but I really think that he just wants to stay with her. We always fight about this and it's been a major issue that is causing our marriage. 


Anyways because of the ""lying incidents"" back then I never trusted him 100% and I think it's already a BIG reason why I should not got married in the first place. 
I honestly regret the decision of getting married because we actually haven't sorted out this lying issue. He still thinks it's not a big deal. He is very nice to other people but it's just towards them. He always bully and teases me everytime and he ignores me when he is at home because he's addicted to computer games.

Another thing is that he had  Crohn disease which really affected our bedroom ""stuff"". I honestly feel that he is already okay with his sickness because i think it's just amoebiasis since his doctor cannot actually confirmed his sickness and his very much okay. He does not lose weight and no flare ups. He very much ALWAYS point out that I should be the one doing the work and all he wants is oral.

I am super desperate to move out because the issues are not good for my mental health anymore. I have a good job here in Japan as a KG teacher but I would very much let everything go just to get divorce. Please help me. 

BTW: His family is very nice to me and we have a good relationship. I wanted to save the marriage but I don't think he will make any effort. We've been talking about this but no efforts have been made.",3.0843656565656548,4.752599998181818,4.409393939393941,85.21853535353536,74.47272727272727,7.070707070707071,26.58585858585859,7.793537801064563,1.5363737373737365,2149,79,429,30,45,710,238,550,0.114,0.733,0.154,0.9756,1,1,0,0,4,0,39.0,11,0,1,8,15,27,4,0,23,2,43,7,0,6,3,87,77,30,0,13,20,12,4,0,4,6,5,0,4,1,27,29,1,1,14,1,1,6,17,8,0,2,16,4,66,19,58,49,7,44,0,3,0,1,86,20,0,2,14,272,93,8,0.0,0.0,0.11423656677809782,0.06380795520239838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06062096341924696,0.12918189223750096,0.0,0.14610864622491096,0.0,0.0,0.07960683009343844,0.0613753625725208,0.0,0.0,0.11609500498820816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04500709690239441,0.0,0.2854419863845856,0.0,0.049805980330698565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059676747052690736,0.060127955489439215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06034338807077885,0.05041307987801956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059909452254074964,0.05122129453651837,0.0,0.06859846125429178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13168007877413493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05260432209691916,0.0,0.05517827227829982,0.0,0.0591905521799033,0.0,0.05619940190332052,0.0,0.0,0.049786848884353835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061160567335085285,0.0,0.06652958042014348,0.1963737211499664,0.09362594658461633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062216228555408364,0.0,0.0,0.039232418748341734,0.0,0.17613554712732454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264480897232144,0.24436664196815774,0.05808346455779932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032167371903324665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05985240620982971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31010622693543183,0.0,0.0,0.0654817568424933,0.0,0.0,0.05282694793457255,0.05538390371843501,0.039070218893197964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058985967336697115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12441940514213005,0.12908212247401055,0.0,0.04514308744750395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06141894454570605,0.0,0.03966244716598311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040578359977643,0.0,0.06115294113981142,0.06424999081474354,0.055331169754722014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07499353260210405,0.12036022427489455,0.0,0.1256818142394268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09683569389726436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247735443921679,0.09348663463478528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06700454361937105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04400839030441751,0.04704538828365165,0.10231819069775344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03888571597535885,0.22502766249342795,0.0,0.0,0.06826035597251154,0.0,0.0,0.11185867916541943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112184989955298,0.0,0.0,0.2897676165167218,0.3107104624611069,0.046459566178246994,0.0,0.07127557688350271,0.0,0.10851854085881008,0.10563111744651044,0.0,0.0,0.05642226016928813,0.0,0.1278348485109529,0.0,0.0,0.0415790856262076,0.0,0.0,0.03769235552634966
divorce,lele0418,2020/04/16,"Custody and PFA got a Pfa against my stbx husband due to his actions. He has visitation with supervision with the kids. He wasn't a horrible husband but our relationship was toxic and he was physically with me in the past and recently in Oct 2019 and against himself that landed him in the icu. I'm having regret over the pfa. I dont want to hurt him, I just want to keep my kids safe. I know he is loves them so much and misses them. Even with everything I find it so hard to hate him. How can I after so many years. I just dont want to be in that toxic cycle anymore. I was scared of what he would do when I got the pfa to protect myself and the kids ( more me). He was behaving erratic when I decided to leave. I am still angry about what happen months ago because I told myself I would never let that happen again and stay... and I did. I'm afriad if his angry but i dont want to hurt him. I just want my freedom and primary custody of my kids and the ability to live near my mother. My question is... if I dropped the pfa would I lose my chance at gaining primary custody of the children?",2.13875028982147,3.6879859911894286,4.040398794342686,87.37450034778578,76.7533039647577,7.0696962670994665,25.16322745188964,7.85451343220497,1.3086792951541848,848,30,183,13,19,288,113,227,0.152,0.7040000000000001,0.14400000000000002,0.4674,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,2,2,13,9,1,1,11,0,21,1,0,1,1,38,38,20,0,11,7,3,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,6,14,0,3,4,0,0,2,5,7,0,0,9,1,38,2,27,24,2,24,0,5,0,1,29,8,0,3,12,132,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11523681091544985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12892468160573467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07924655590324277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4570757256998878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08586351663118612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168352674280804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11881728878831632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079451282970048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22991645233971886,0.0,0.11645411641640455,0.1283477013937062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27833454335495555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11554962686837833,0.0,0.0,0.07144438610688922,0.0,0.0,0.1376508169797433,0.0,0.13293340940418852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11479203770988275,0.0,0.0,0.1454363114547446,0.0,0.0,0.11732972393358793,0.0,0.0,0.13179920072680465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10376444877381466,0.0,0.09556467161037396,0.0,0.10026371378269773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12409933791463752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14562931548620045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12835893202632348,0.13957093060200984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13015228865234102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13856228771610932,0.10381785681395632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242201987734486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3833856920166139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2770439801278721,0.0,0.0,0.08371548691002448
divorce,jienstar,2020/04/16,"15F suspecting parents are getting a divorce So today i was sitting with my mom who was showing me some pictures on her computer for work, and i happened to chance across a folder named “Divorce”. I asked her “what’s that” and she laughed it off (ish) with a “thats none of your business”.

I’m particularly worried right now - my parents are on good terms, they talk and all but sometimes they quarrel (but these quarrels resolve real quick, within the same day usually). I dont know if they are going to get a divorce and i do want to know so i can mentally prepare myself. is there a possibility that i may just be overthinking? because after all, the folder must have been there for a reason. what should i do?",2.6466527632950982,5.124268540145987,3.902340980187695,84.5141788321168,78.92700729927007,5.958081334723673,28.76381647549531,7.1686216300943375,1.7528502606882173,558,26,103,7,14,182,94,137,0.025,0.8909999999999999,0.085,0.7624,2,0,0,0,3,0,16.0,0,1,3,2,7,3,0,0,8,0,16,0,0,1,3,25,25,9,0,4,4,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,0,5,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,19,3,14,18,6,15,0,0,0,0,17,6,0,3,7,84,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18902415173388265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232556221649044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303984414824934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23696993223865576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21127610200099287,0.0,0.11491154375595597,0.16959078433938213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17879953933695195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22224113488404468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037640557416172,0.0,0.0,0.2368072391280988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4490251507383432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279434222239932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301411059808909,0.0,0.20788916886139885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17267262231116615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.199975095244286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16251592630324052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916563267723448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.222688191122978,0.0,0.1192592951454601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471996836638669,0.2053378824738475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,SomethingbeatsNothin,2020/04/16,"It’s my birthday tomorrow. I’m all alone, in the midst of divorce by a man who cheated on me and left me unexpectedly. I have no friends or family around and in the middle of quarantine. How do I get through this stupid day? It’s been a while since I posted here. Tomorrow is a tough day. Shit, it’s already a tough day.",0.2618283582089553,2.5183700149253743,2.646399253731346,91.00601679104479,87.65671641791046,6.335074626865673,23.30037313432836,7.645422480735847,1.1720164179104473,249,10,56,5,8,85,48,67,0.262,0.6940000000000001,0.045,-0.9186,0,2,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,3,6,3,0,6,0,4,1,1,1,1,6,6,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,1,0,6,1,8,5,1,13,0,0,0,0,4,6,1,1,6,37,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29387662633100514,0.31312219843209343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525952525481176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5489805988574817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674916990641554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21922245805499546,0.0,0.14824625161944027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082922687872716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717514758489132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2912625231555892,0.2347186965187254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ishie1013,2020/04/16,"I miss him After all my spew and some super legitimate complaints and some sexual exploration, I miss the bastard.  He’s goofy, he gets me, he’s a good snuggle bug.  We lost our way, went sexless, I gained weight, got mean on ambien.

But now we’re chatting again making the same stupid Sharknado jokes and I really missed it.  I still really like him and feel super conflicted.  He was the devil to me for about six months.",3.544603174603175,5.597219086419757,4.656190476190479,82.29,74.18518518518519,8.579188712522045,22.682539682539684,9.23628265651192,1.8686317460317448,330,9,63,8,7,108,61,81,0.222,0.5760000000000001,0.20199999999999999,-0.25,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,4,4,12,2,0,4,0,1,1,0,1,1,15,11,5,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,1,1,3,2,0,2,0,7,0,1,4,2,12,5,5,7,4,9,1,4,0,0,9,1,1,2,6,36,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15369496354861695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15881033071981088,0.0,0.0,0.25495328901744724,0.24311035997418995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148503033505682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3318161362920242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029004848738465,0.0,0.0,0.33110942207670424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24262374118132995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38945837925721577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24274862073942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412750368858578,0.0,0.3701501941634528,0.0,0.2817806654506389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Medical_Solid,2020/04/16,"General question about asset/debt allocation (TX) Involves a friend. He was married for 7 years, wife moved to Texas and filed for divorce in January. (Everything has been delayed due to the coronavirus.) During the marriage, she spent most of the time as a student or unemployed, while he worked. They bought a house together, have some cash assets, and ran up a bunch of credit card debt during the marriage. 

General question: he’s accepted that he will be dividing equity in the house and cash assets with her. However, he feels that the debt should also be divided (which might just look like him paying the debts but asking for a greater share of assets). Would a court tend to agree with this thinking, or tell him to pound sand and just give up 50% of all assets in common while shouldering the entire debt?",8.346689189189187,8.224909885135139,7.570945945945947,73.73317567567568,61.635135135135144,11.183783783783785,34.71621621621622,10.686352973137794,3.6993486486486478,645,24,111,14,8,200,99,148,0.053,0.809,0.138,0.8765,8,0,0,0,1,0,24.0,0,0,1,1,4,5,0,0,14,0,10,1,1,0,1,25,19,11,0,2,5,1,2,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,1,5,0,10,2,0,0,0,0,5,3,5,5,20,8,5,14,0,0,1,0,22,5,0,7,8,70,9,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17618615707286392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059651718061062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19800528818987204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139809311586783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17021514243200275,0.0,0.0,0.21134662058060194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5084288155582445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10763498277692048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18500946000468044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23371983822362136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23416041866475004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4936073707280027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925653827346012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411692214206672,0.0,0.0,0.1284676897021735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16039224542224634,0.0,0.0,0.1565057490318038,0.0,0.0,0.14187590336777814
divorce,rodrage05,2020/04/16,"Bitter Divorce! I started the process of my divorce right before the quarantine so I don’t know if it’s a good thing or a bad thing! A little insight we had been together for 16 yrs and only common law not really married have 3 Kiddos two teens and a 5 year old. We would constantly argue and lately it got worse. she lost her father weeks before and started drinking uncontrollably. Arguements started getting physical, hitting on one end and shoving on the other. She started getting the children involved as well calling them to come see when we would be arguing and it would drive me insane. I build up the courage to walk and file and boy was it a relief. However now it sucks because I miss my kids. I play fortnite with my baby and now she doesn’t want her playing with me (online) with my buddies cause she wants to be petty. I know she’s doing it to annoy me but when my little girl is crying it frustrates me that much more. She has a debit card that’s linked to my checking account and I’m debating to get her off of it. I gave this girl the world and stopped all communication with my family that she didn’t like.(yes I was a dumbass for doing that) I’m talking to them again and she hates it btw.",2.8090984534138066,4.920095585062242,4.154471897397208,84.78833553376086,76.55186721991701,6.5394945303659,27.137118068653336,7.520522993642371,1.6297950207468883,960,39,182,13,22,316,144,241,0.16699999999999998,0.785,0.049,-0.9797,1,2,1,0,2,0,19.0,3,0,2,1,7,17,7,1,13,0,17,1,0,1,1,37,39,19,0,6,4,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,17,20,1,1,4,3,3,3,4,11,1,2,8,2,35,6,20,25,3,28,0,2,1,0,30,8,1,2,17,130,52,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182127583347435,0.08630539550716672,0.0,0.24094702453599434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14456824174609562,0.0,0.0,0.14544088752413767,0.0,0.12195798589328333,0.0,0.15299687016959934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15551815591009827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386937632853743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12539719080616785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334683148109697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22190794088093352,0.0,0.0,0.1187499560644674,0.1132338581589206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13978019618599313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15561650419862566,0.0,0.1597075585342431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06916846914272626,0.28379920145534315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15455047376722691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10407703761808952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14856360461303608,0.0,0.09593776256392053,0.10767739793100888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09069929163096256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12090790424055925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11282033035176238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4008420818361457,0.0,0.0,0.11836659085098612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11379603663879335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18811792276759068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13830235305460067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670142173582017,0.0,0.11356633283995307,0.0,0.12729674696186455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14428134919469304,0.3017215070773471,0.0,0.0,0.09117239387243893
divorce,buffalo_dick,2020/04/16,"I think I know what I want but I don’t know how to do it. I think she’s gonna be blindsided. I don’t mean for her to be, but I have brought up the fact that I’m not happy and that we have problems several times and she still seems to think we are “ok, but could be better.” So I guess my main question is, what happens if I want a divorce and she doesn’t? Can that even happen? We don’t own a house (currently rent one) and have no kids and a dog. I’m in OK, if that matters for this stuff. It probably does.",-0.3935098814229256,1.104956052173918,1.9290118577075115,99.85320158102768,84.13043478260869,5.5731225296442695,19.1501976284585,6.574015621080383,-0.2549130434782607,386,10,103,4,11,131,67,115,0.09300000000000001,0.775,0.132,0.321,2,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,3,0,0,1,4,5,0,0,4,2,15,0,0,1,1,30,31,12,0,6,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,10,8,0,0,8,0,1,1,6,1,0,1,1,0,17,4,7,25,2,6,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,5,3,72,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1765499285611642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593823674712979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746910439230685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13184881550362762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199067509978889,0.0,0.3530511338826051,0.2125019227490366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303376277006248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21941467231161196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21744748476044767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352694101674709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21522687832418744,0.19101182640564685,0.0,0.0,0.22362294840467425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18172887761570244,0.0,0.225516667894316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15941883102507012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285200672566276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3837302202945931,0.0,0.0,0.11640151768222805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354851110538813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,TellMeMoreeeee,2020/04/16,"What made you jump ship? Just curious...
Who called it quits in less than one year of marriage? Why did you? Are you happy with your decision?",0.2844444444444427,2.4572463333333374,0.938222222222226,97.95400000000002,104.1851851851852,5.122962962962963,16.511111111111113,6.742157984588678,0.1167688888888887,109,3,23,2,5,33,25,27,0.0,0.848,0.152,0.6868,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,4,1,4,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,1,16,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4207203771179444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4386049223658411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3898650380976905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27919666974046553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4382359557713783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3717856350190577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.265328563655954
divorce,Plane-Assist,2020/04/17,Quarantine Nightmare My husband and I have been fighting since March 2. He now lives downstairs in the guest room while I am upstairs in the bedroom. I would leave if I could but we are in the middle of a covid nightmare here in New York. Anyhow things just got out of control in front of his daughter. Verbally and physically. I can’t take this much longer!  I have nowhere to go Nor any money to go somewhere with.,1.750740740740742,4.428803148148152,2.2825802469135823,93.12461111111116,85.41975308641976,4.721481481481481,25.38395061728395,6.2581,0.8136409876543209,329,14,65,3,10,101,63,81,0.042,0.958,0.0,-0.2828,0,1,0,0,2,0,7.0,1,0,0,1,3,1,1,0,4,0,8,0,0,1,0,12,12,6,0,3,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,2,5,0,1,0,0,1,3,2,1,0,0,2,0,9,0,12,8,1,15,0,0,0,0,7,8,0,2,4,45,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21657621520633175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3572005768728895,0.2542790665801433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3619971982240148,0.0,0.2547162490028318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33722261310375257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812222387734015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341182492625145,0.0,0.0,0.30758839788602105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634486017912304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394561019014718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115828800530463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22623789908716066,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,AdorableMatch,2020/04/17,"What advice would you give to someone single in their 20's regarding life or marriage etc.? I'm a lurker on this sub and I'm in my early 20's. It's been a year since the dissolution of my relationship (infidelity) and it taught me **huge** lessons. In recent months I've found myself finally coming out of the tunnel and seeing the light and not harboring negative feelings.

Nonetheless, I now feel like relationships are a fundamental blur between reality and ideals and I find myself struggling to imagine myself coming to terms with that. Therefore, the idea of entering another relationship, let alone **marriage** just seems so naive to me. For example, to sign up to marriage is to sign up to the possibility of divorce; if I am not okay with experiencing the latter then how can I justify experiencing the former, with the nonsensical justification of blindly doing it ""in the name of love""?

Anyways, I'd love to receive absolutely **any** advice from browsers of this sub. I really appreciate this sub and hearing about so many stories as I feel like it wakes me up to reality instead of sleepwalking and projecting my own ideals, and then complaining when there's a violation of my expectations.",4.3622386248736085,7.397656111627906,6.057512639029322,68.28277047522752,76.25581395348838,9.320525783619818,31.20829120323559,9.653516015845867,3.896235591506573,964,47,153,30,23,328,129,215,0.065,0.847,0.08800000000000001,0.7135,0,1,0,0,1,0,34.0,0,1,1,3,10,10,1,1,13,1,8,5,1,3,0,40,23,18,0,5,5,0,3,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,9,15,0,0,10,0,0,4,3,3,0,0,3,9,18,7,36,18,4,25,0,0,2,2,16,10,0,4,13,112,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.284947593786037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15100453683280876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09914880784599298,0.15288371671220688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511870939342921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626052258547201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22116215445942652,0.2083186951759522,0.0,0.15971646430722491,0.13325830076071932,0.0,0.0,0.15986186516382286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139864374807887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16432687845518848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16459013468756736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490900897687636,0.10298265255087646,0.14246075505910782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631798755814008,0.0,0.0,0.1478180297630391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11637594380398746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16436727510323482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09340303269117477,0.0,0.14395963200071368,0.4696029989562851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11618349839986468,0.1327305873064926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12060703328576115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12353562782453507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15242152164426434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10357193638601478,0.0,0.0,0.0938902380853104
divorce,A_TreeFalls_Ahhh,2020/04/17,"Now or Later 30m, no kids, one house, married two years, together 5 yrs. Have had these feelings since maybe the fall, some highs and some lows. We don't really talk or communicate. Just kind of love together. Quarantine has definitely amplified this. 

Should I move out now, wait till Corona is over? Do we sell first and then divorce. I'm so confused. I feel like I know what I need to do but want advice.",1.7988888888888894,4.3478972151898745,3.0687763713080187,88.69517580872015,83.17721518987341,7.055414908579465,21.436005625879048,8.167268648758528,1.2584672292545709,316,10,65,7,9,102,67,79,0.065,0.835,0.1,0.3899,0,1,0,0,1,0,15.0,2,0,0,1,4,5,0,1,1,0,8,1,0,0,0,19,16,8,0,3,4,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,5,0,1,3,0,1,2,2,2,0,3,1,2,6,3,5,14,2,13,0,1,0,1,6,4,0,5,8,39,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548334104020476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26371869682619425,0.18630290165585467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218212607133328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27553078007396525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3009077195972368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2715645979150121,0.14331911236247188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12740504167030506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.235366175065702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619908359140673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27717027612992307,0.0,0.1933667445490181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17671281132434158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16706379616217246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157217838011436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096069057125527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547463789846736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15381613606445355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16793522806657446
divorce,Dickiedoolittle,2020/04/17,Any firefighters in here that have divorced and reached successful custody agreements? I’m just wondering how custody works with a funky work schedule like a firefighters where the work days are always rotating.,11.58970588235294,13.068580323529416,8.392941176470586,65.16823529411766,54.58823529411765,12.682352941176472,49.352941176470594,12.161744961471696,6.79710588235294,177,11,23,5,2,50,30,34,0.038,0.6990000000000001,0.263,0.8126,0,0,0,0,3,0,2.0,0,0,0,4,4,3,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,1,0,5,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,3,13,1,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2987867161175761,0.0,0.0,0.2441894845928663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315795221620257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754303410618367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3894113619563975,0.7842524500537723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,grettledog,2020/04/17,"It is the quarantine heading couples to divorce? With most couples cramped in tight quarters facing each other 24/7 with no relief in sight. Homeschooling, binge drinking The TV blaring constantly with negative news. Is all of this leading to divorce as the escape?",7.298863636363634,10.507799340909097,6.131818181818183,70.69272727272728,66.95454545454545,8.036363636363637,42.81818181818181,8.841846274778883,4.843518181818182,217,14,27,4,4,65,35,44,0.12300000000000001,0.7829999999999999,0.094,-0.3527,0,1,1,0,2,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,0,2,4,2,1,1,9,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,4,1,1,0,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,9,2,3,4,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,1,1,23,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38021853640136,0.0,0.0,0.7786177301833077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3446733232248824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3610936098550032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ThrowRAWeary_Today,2020/04/17,"It’s been 10 days We were together for 15 years, eight of it married. It has been 10 days since he asked for the divorce. He has been calling and texting an out of state number for 15 days.  If he asked I would take him back, why? My head and heart are just messed up.",0.2594736842105263,2.2315780175438604,1.3641228070175444,102.20302631578949,84.6140350877193,4.5017543859649125,18.271929824561404,5.46131890053228,-0.7351964912280704,205,5,51,1,6,64,41,57,0.042,0.935,0.023,-0.2732,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,8,2,2,0,0,7,11,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,0,4,0,7,6,0,8,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,1,5,30,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4941996235669637,0.0,0.0,0.2032427149199618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26989622305681465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5113859269033469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712645061004368,0.0,0.0,0.3132157729668646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186449547225888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19873276306011398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23850410898993096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18776252698294812,0.0,0.0,0.1702108599787554
divorce,yungclavicleondamic,2020/04/17,"Need advice Hi everyone I’m not sure where the best place to post this is but I really need help andI think you guys may have some unique insight. Thanks in advance

My parents have been divorced for about 5 years now, and as a legal adult I am beginning to understand just how evil my father is. He has refused to help pay for me and my brothers college education and has spent his money on lawyers who cook up lies in order for him to keep his money. My dad earns a good living and my mom was a stay at home mom, so she ended up getting screwed by this. My dad has also harassed my mom for years over text and email, spewing vicious lies that have made her miserable and by extension made me extremely depressed for years as a result of how she acted and treated me. At 16, a year into the separation, I had to threaten to cut my mom off bc she was so psychologically abusive to me, but now I realize that my dad was actually pulling the strings that made all of us missable. He really made us suffer. The incredible thing is that he is completely two faced; he is very nice and loving to me, which is the creepiest part for me, bc I still love him and he (presumably) loves me. It sounds to me like he is a sociopathic master manipulator who only cares about appearances. I want to confront him on behalf of my mom and force him to at least pay for half of me and my brothers education, which he would have no trouble doing and it would massively alleviate my moms financial burden. I also wonder if I can continue my relationship with him. It is so sad bc we get along well and have a lot in common, but he it turns out he a monster who has hurt my mom so deeply. At the end of the day, I will protect and stand by my mom at all costs, her love is truly limitless and if I know anything, it’s that she is an honest and well meaning person , but doing so may very likely mean cutting off my dad, who treats me well and who I love. My dilemma is that my dad is good to me and seems like a perfectly moral individual but everything I learn about him that is unrelated to me completely contradicts this apparent facade. Can I continue a relationship with a man who is a good father to me but is an absolute monster to my mom? On one hand he doesn’t deserve me and my brother in his life with the way he acts and the way he lies, this has already changed the way I view him  and I wonder if I even want to see him even though I love him; but on the other hand I love him and we enjoy spending time together. Please help.",6.966360078277887,5.442609252446187,7.760856360078279,75.82695185909981,65.08610567514677,11.07228180039139,34.33432485322896,10.078955797065145,3.1220591937377686,1972,71,410,37,25,666,234,511,0.146,0.6509999999999999,0.203,0.9916,2,0,0,0,1,0,37.0,4,1,0,5,23,40,7,1,25,0,41,13,3,8,4,79,75,44,0,9,12,20,2,3,0,5,1,1,1,4,26,30,1,3,12,1,7,5,3,14,3,3,10,5,76,26,60,60,7,49,1,5,2,8,82,22,1,11,18,292,102,7,0.0,0.07137763485529527,0.058788091452328786,0.0,0.0,0.0588683754555984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06647921159601174,0.09635197738686824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04957453013031817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06322089627677221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061421349787688234,0.0,0.06372868720027043,0.0,0.1263264483650582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038851495865723035,0.0,0.05188686659359213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067141324715242,0.0,0.0,0.07957934362649792,0.0,0.0,0.057564389809499864,0.05414216805427244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06294854838828476,0.0,0.0,0.151585914257514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059649649337848214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12113804290461765,0.0,0.060428243743475836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06449095360229952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053546394459765737,0.0,0.0,0.03310775970547266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04255113282571262,0.08829448010153948,0.0,0.053195323071491545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051216107667086265,0.380599115281595,0.2280120342279457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13124371306917987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6349986879156391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08933825514306985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040821947594875,0.04581721501544802,0.0,0.0,0.06689228256558004,0.0652368695868385,0.0,0.0,0.05260151819057465,0.06294069924719382,0.06612828873202105,0.0,0.0,0.05769576208569669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07718590950845984,0.0,0.0,0.12935602316820696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04800555579131407,0.05484260417280682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06421060038338201,0.048109821412576935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05677794137484025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055463295959785934,0.0,0.0,0.04002250927917362,0.038601028185263946,0.059188052610352176,0.0,0.035127946879526716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06552665410676484,0.05884827056375426,0.0627146753852034,0.14492887039101174,0.0,0.0,0.09941291491365337,0.07106529740104207,0.14345332509656425,0.0,0.0,0.16249600765953934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306610686287653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08558923494421228,0.0,0.0,0.15517704750640834
divorce,aanpa,2020/04/17,"Losing my mind in quarantine I’ve been lurking and decided to post to get outside perspective. 

I’ve been with my husband for 10 years, married for 2.  Things seemed fine until marriage, but I’m reevaluating and wondering if that was true. 

I love him and we generally have a good time together. Even with everything on my mind I still feel some positive feelings toward him but also feel like I’m at a breaking point.

Since the marriage, he has lost two jobs but is currently employed. The job losses took a big toll on him, and I feel he sank into a depression. I have also sank into a depression and don’t know how to come out of it right now. 

We decided to move into a cheaper apartment to save money for a home so we can begin a family. A year ago, we had previously tried to get a home but I was told his credit score needed work as he wasn’t paying his car payments on time. I had assumed he was on time so this was a bit upsetting. I began encouraging him to set up auto draft but he did not do so... for a year. He continued to miss payments and the car ultimately got repossessed 4 months ago. I used all *my* savings to get the car out for him. He promised he would make it up to me and put the car on auto draft. It has been four months and he claims he is having difficulty getting the car on auto draft but has been on time with payments. He placed all of his bonus into savings after he realized there’s a possibility I might leave.

I can’t help but look back on the relationship and realize I have been pushing for every big thing that has occurred including the marriage. He initially mentioned wanting to marry me, so I started talking about making it happen and he seemed to back down. I got upset and recall telling him “I can’t do this” which led to him getting me a ring soon after.

I’ve been feeling like a caretaker for a long time.

I’m tired of pushing, it seems to be a common theme. It’s making me wonder if it would be the same if I start a family with him.

I’ve had to go to counseling for all of this because I’m so torn and depressed. The therapist suggested marriage counseling and I’m feeling unable to even make the appointment.

Is this going to continue to be an issue forever? Can I keep pushing for every big life event? Is this what partnership is? 

So I come to Reddit for outside perspective. 
Any similar experiences shared or advice is appreciated.",3.793527077497664,5.196796107142856,5.457002801120449,79.48881419234363,72.17226890756302,8.734267040149392,28.978524743230626,9.225670689056813,2.545461437908496,1881,75,364,41,36,641,219,476,0.091,0.7859999999999999,0.12300000000000001,0.9582,4,1,0,0,0,0,42.0,4,0,0,5,21,23,0,2,30,0,42,3,0,7,4,83,89,35,0,7,12,1,6,2,0,3,2,1,2,0,18,29,0,1,17,0,4,16,5,9,0,2,21,8,40,14,63,62,6,76,0,7,1,1,44,27,0,12,32,242,58,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08369663339927537,0.1518479211082043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13698927592670748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05824524651710121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13171982610145894,0.0,0.05221172242314796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09350811364740903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14756056604172654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213118343037947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11314263555116573,0.0,0.14432840491645765,0.0,0.0769771062308031,0.08378258007820588,0.1614872526623671,0.0,0.2598446615061972,0.12237740441106645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22374413837208126,0.0,0.09735425484728516,0.07183953804237111,0.1370049864519706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07574041454074795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0574096945897022,0.0,0.17182877986413914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08939682239127826,0.16998972112143845,0.07613005985416227,0.0,0.0,0.04707125014567942,0.0,0.0,0.09069146495452693,0.0,0.0,0.06049744939069579,0.0836889719371997,0.0,0.0,0.07579795746162056,0.07192481062842772,0.09582095066936397,0.09349758945291424,0.0,0.077302879704762,0.0,0.228689375345344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086159758487733,0.17296508681217193,0.0,0.13673075214484304,0.0910328789063512,0.0,0.06350872715079614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08948649576307356,0.0,0.08096736470126059,0.09655801885790416,0.08202945997075471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08610236414536251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09195653494178403,0.0,0.07314502063139755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339188724296515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0708509415094222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12124766585773715,0.0,0.06840056404665279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06884259139216481,0.07486227291526881,0.0,0.0,0.09944677982786727,0.1138047130036618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497173456283448,0.0984425983955486,0.0,0.0818426802752972,0.09516080705578536,0.05815103673926361,0.0,0.08366804909150083,0.0,0.0,0.07397449312126078,0.0,0.0,0.050518857518598685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857685298081268,0.062354551372516435,0.0,0.0,0.12168725167986492,0.0,0.0,0.16546825468610746
divorce,skillsharked,2020/04/17,"Grieving over lost time We are about to file jointly for divorce. It wasn't mutual, but it is amicable at this point. 

I broke down today thinking about the lost years. We have been roommates for so many years. No kissing, no sexual affection at all. Dead bedroom. Yes there was plenty of good, but also so much bad compromise.

I took a lover when we decided to separate. It has been amazing to feel wanted. I'm constantly shocked that someone finds me attractive. I'm so cautious to say anything I like or want, and yet every time I even barely mention something, I get a positive response. Maybe I'm not gross. Maybe my needs are not weird. Maybe I should explore them.

Why did I let this go for so long? How did I ignore how important it was?",1.9069607843137248,4.552315611111112,3.2010294117647082,87.19985294117649,83.8611111111111,6.4437908496732055,25.83169934640523,7.724431198458867,1.7505184640522875,584,25,111,11,17,189,101,144,0.188,0.557,0.255,0.941,0,0,1,0,1,0,21.0,3,0,1,2,13,15,0,0,3,1,14,2,0,3,1,23,27,12,2,4,5,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,7,4,0,1,5,0,0,3,5,9,0,0,10,2,14,6,14,15,2,17,0,4,0,2,8,5,0,1,10,73,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13448653856928147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13839066180563298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14041602217055482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18173344583438167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11107556644085784,0.0,0.1416915847107987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08503246903884605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15370553376957474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08786257023776586,0.0,0.09557563291602512,0.1410541188480157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17196656190903936,0.0,0.08216000906726037,0.0,0.0,0.14882632031851775,0.0,0.0,0.3671577088069776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17049931625866974,0.5068520642206863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12362526539009075,0.1246968979969088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15897624893754525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13373657831986382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14249100810931878,0.12946649316417608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10775738716824597,0.0,0.0,0.19612409048564075,0.0,0.15940674134993474,0.0,0.18684451701517105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19838359562645086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15174845297116105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21659362423611314
divorce,BelieveInPixieDust,2020/04/17,"I'm excited to leave, but scared of the finances. What do I do now? I'm very excited at the prospect of leaving my wife. I'm a 31 years old, and been married for 8 years. We have 1 kid, 8 years old. The reason we got married was because we were expecting a kid together, and to stay in the same country I needed to marry her. I'm a US citizen, and she's a Canadian. We're living in Canada with our daughter.

The entire relationship I've felt controlled. I hate being yelled at due to the fact that I had a very abusive upbringing, and when an discussion or argument didn't go her way she would start yelling at me. And when I asked to her to stop she would insist she wasn't doing anything. She has threatened to destroy things I love. And never initiates any romance. I feel like I get nothing out of the relationship.

Yesterday, was the final straw. We had an argument over some money that was lost due to cancellations as a result of coronavirus. It's a lot of money (10,000). And she kept yelling at me about how we lost money for the house we're gonna buy. That I don't prioritize our family. And she kept yelling at me and I finally yelled ""shut up and listen to me!"". I'm not proud of that. I shouldn't have responded that way. But then her face turned to pure rage, and she told me to leave the fucking house. I just left. I didn't know where to go. All the hotels are closed. So I just walked around for a two hours, until my daughter called me crying to come home. I wasn't gonna let her worry all night, so I just came back home and slept on the couch. But my wife knew that my dad would make me sleep outside when I did something he didn't agree. I just felt so pathetic, and I realized I was living with a similar pattern of abuse that I grew up with. I couldn't stand it.

I told my wife that I want a deserve. She just yelled fine. I had threatened divorce in many arguments before because I wanted her to take my feelings seriously. It never worked but it felt like the only power I had. The only thing I wanted was for her to to stop yelling and mocking me, to stop raging. She just told me it's hard for her, and that I need to me patient with her in the past.

But I can't anymore. And really committing to divorce feels like freedom. I'm so happy to think that in some time I won't have to worry about whether or not buying something will set her off. I won't have to think about how I'm emotionally and physically ignored for weeks on end. It feels good. I'm excited at the prospect of having a relationship with my daughter without the constant controlling of my wife.

The only thing I'm worried about it finding a place to rent and the future of my finances. My wife has been a grad student for the basically the entirety of our marriage. And I don't think her job prospects are great. I'm worried that I'm stuck working the job I hate for the rest of my life on the basis of paying alimony and child support. I want to be absolutely clear, it's not that I'm against these things in principal. I don't want her or my daughter to suffer. I want them to live good lives. But I'm also not keen on the idea of paying 16,000- 20000 a year on another place to rent and utilities. The cheaper option will be to find a room to rent, but then the question becomes will I ever get a place to keep my daughter? So paying after paying for the current place and other expenses, I don't really have much to find my own place. In some ways that feels like it'll be the continuation of the same problem. Money and her control over it is much of the problem right now. And once I get to this line of thinking I don't want to follow through.

But I know I can't live like this anymore. I don't know what to do next. This morning we discussed that we're okay doing a mediator. It doesn't seem like we want to get revenge on the other person (for now). What do I do now?",2.7524438492063474,4.1317835487500005,4.2008809523809525,87.56161111111112,74.7625,7.2293650793650786,26.073412698412696,7.848740169899961,1.3660996031746029,3029,107,650,43,63,1006,305,800,0.165,0.731,0.10400000000000001,-0.9959,7,0,2,0,7,0,87.0,11,0,1,9,29,35,7,1,51,1,61,6,3,8,9,136,134,51,0,18,23,11,9,6,0,12,1,8,7,5,38,41,0,10,24,1,16,7,25,15,0,1,33,17,104,20,103,83,12,91,0,3,0,2,69,37,1,10,47,437,142,12,0.0,0.13126693555513125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04429899096507117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03767018449823592,0.05808600164180008,0.0,0.0,0.10987299085006252,0.0,0.0,0.045584983762666766,0.04931288196404703,0.05178641407783625,0.0,0.0,0.04259497940197282,0.0,0.06753599080650095,0.06117891362922742,0.04713667070955434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05656401542511653,0.06335659268263018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04771748837756152,0.0,0.05986181487540635,0.1863890495204017,0.0,0.0,0.06084829740984279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062311397857967986,0.04906311752399741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050107529819125175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05222103918916818,0.0,0.1400457108110125,0.11872160420575903,0.15956232669260054,0.12136401452662005,0.15188880889142986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051211356539866665,0.11576543634887652,0.0,0.06296398351938899,0.09292461837309232,0.04430407136579582,0.06107267224348632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058968514347187126,0.04962262426445502,0.109381273199359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11113047375786142,0.0,0.05455246024466463,0.12783571581893288,0.0,0.0625336892592878,0.0,0.0,0.10994106026434504,0.04923720942147648,0.0,0.0,0.09133016599198727,0.0,0.0,0.17596444799573074,0.0601863261790281,0.056644666844321075,0.03912679946424615,0.16237783519809024,0.0,0.24457195379253435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12093936090724555,0.04709445415324881,0.0499957320958086,0.0,0.0369762833758291,0.05616136567157373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08144271646561739,0.08214869408497373,0.08544736329641338,0.0,0.05891271819060561,0.051984020140154776,0.0,0.05315255193806065,0.0,0.11625449575158353,0.05899337367619921,0.0,0.12639012394305102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05288035327824801,0.0,0.04836837275725436,0.2893775034934264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10601018080373924,0.0,0.0,0.062054558710674536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07097431730367522,0.05695480964840032,0.0,0.17841900468521948,0.0,0.04730663164938305,0.0,0.0,0.05545959486619074,0.0,0.0,0.05042910571513096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05543454194636015,0.0,0.0,0.08529084132840174,0.0,0.0,0.03920853817229867,0.05904320561734325,0.0,0.13893693918902053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628610637632188,0.0,0.0,0.041649797644044834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14720667494670214,0.14197832947054953,0.0,0.0,0.03230099980594146,0.0,0.0,0.15879556101949266,0.0,0.0,0.06025334896017474,0.0541124131899572,0.0,0.06663280706997099,0.0,0.0,0.0914125882832483,0.2613850636284223,0.131908814426225,0.04443415597330879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053398356595528856,0.0,0.08065576488950968,0.2250233636308528,0.0,0.11805206851990635,0.0,0.0,0.14268906174850712
divorce,missms09,2020/04/17,"Feel guilty about taking husbands retirement Did anyone feel guilty about asking for your half of the retirement accounts? I didn’t work for most of the time he was contributing (first 7 years of marriage) due to raising kids and being in school. I’ve only had my career for the past 3 years. I had originally said I didn’t want any of the retirement, but now looking at my income and how much debt I’m taking away from the marriage, I’m starting to change my mind but feel so guilty.",4.542766917293232,5.97173681052632,4.732330827067671,85.3063157894737,70.36842105263158,7.533834586466164,26.203007518797,7.957251820313856,1.4693007518797,387,12,75,5,7,121,61,95,0.11699999999999999,0.871,0.013000000000000001,-0.8625,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,2,5,0,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,2,0,12,19,6,0,1,2,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,0,2,0,2,0,0,2,7,5,7,0,15,11,2,12,0,0,1,0,8,3,0,1,9,45,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595144865802059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16401560820378086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2192896945817412,0.0,0.22038463783331932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481421570273553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.355814338931493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19952367476289176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19697829309390275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23684711344679085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17243468907510415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17839976096151502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22392198274884093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231281673481849,0.0,0.0,0.2373956409525972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660286489015607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3527323359762363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13677866112690185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13835445983273184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17076851490714665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021085870509912
divorce,kmaureens,2020/04/17,"Jaded about the word “forever” Now that I’m divorced and dating, I feel like the concept of “forever” is so far fetched. My brain is wired to think nothing lasts and I’ve convinced myself of that so much that I have a hard time taking anything seriously. I just can’t picture anyone sticking around and showing up for years and years to come. I was so optimistic about love and marriage at one point in my life but it all seems like crap now.",3.73256157635468,5.473183241379314,4.1766830870279135,87.25448275862068,72.9080459770115,6.810509031198686,28.52052545155993,7.447530270364453,1.5863904761904766,350,14,69,4,7,110,64,87,0.087,0.784,0.13,0.5896,0,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,9,6,1,0,3,0,5,4,2,0,1,14,12,9,0,0,2,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,7,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,2,0,1,1,2,7,4,11,11,2,14,0,0,0,1,3,6,1,1,9,45,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801471015322112,0.0,0.21201485332137676,0.2293532337511611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.287610206325917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219330898943674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13026996341809274,0.18405727371986688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.230793839033162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100100810705117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819779665281112,0.2517386945622536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325291561399825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893942276633401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472114624736137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17458277887594786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24355202627338254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345447682286553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937123809090636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650845970146271,0.0,0.0,0.15023130800364826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33182199487751685
divorce,ConfusedinSV,2020/04/17,"Does no Sex mean I’m headed for Divorce? Wife and I have been intimate 2-3 times in past 6 months.

She outright refuses to have sex w/ me these days. 

For the 10 years of our marriage, I was unemployed (by choice, doing a startup) for 5 of them. I was also unemployed this last year after the co. I joined went under.

We had a son 2.5 years ago and since he came around, things have slowly deteriorated. 

Nothing I do is good enough, every 2 months she has a new set of requirements that I’m not meeting.

I recently landed an offer that I’m super excited about and she doesn’t share my enthusiasm. She said yesterday, “Part of me is skeptical. I’m wondering how long this will last?”

I’ve done a lot of work on myself and am starting to wonder if I’m just not the guy for her? I asked her this earlier in the week, offered to move out for a few months, and she refused. I told her I’m not going to go another six months without intimacy.

I want her to be happy, and if it’s not with me, would like to figure this out sooner rather than later so we can move on with our lives. 

Do you think I’m headed for...?",2.131544622425629,3.6127363695652193,4.163226544622429,86.77511441647599,76.60869565217392,7.450800915331807,22.97482837528604,8.20500826718156,1.162086956521739,855,25,187,15,19,293,143,230,0.047,0.8690000000000001,0.084,0.8815,4,0,0,0,1,0,33.0,4,1,1,3,7,7,1,0,10,0,20,4,2,1,0,35,40,11,0,5,9,2,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,9,14,0,3,5,0,0,6,7,1,0,1,9,1,29,6,32,28,4,38,0,0,0,2,30,9,0,5,23,123,38,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141846853727444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10301146869165814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350713460779677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146706118101014,0.12042248494189155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14732741133275182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08307353431734481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11272486077338754,0.13182011368623928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13309795166531502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10853025438519064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464144504357606,0.10804198027638644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12754482371571094,0.0,0.13712351313506044,0.0,0.0,0.2643979828667209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20999908384786534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06293137805296746,0.0,0.11374397299849125,0.11399518493881025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10951195013410678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14031479172990347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4112682689494932,0.2738150265248573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12440810718382575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12359925859635147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13949160009459824,0.1229662964653334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271869999852817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12253037437006822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10655519556110653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117429120600147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08557743335187809,0.08253797616226327,0.0,0.0,0.07511172055459593,0.0,0.0,0.12308605385038765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07597706717421797,0.0,0.10332577711518988,0.0,0.0,0.11941066230685725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12417084495137735,0.2793837541336241,0.09377717887827874,0.0,0.0,0.0915048454106798,0.0,0.0,0.2488534642110353
divorce,curi_killed_kitty,2020/04/17,"Is it normal to be curious about your ex husbands life a year after divorce? We divorced a year ago, and went absolutely no contact for a while. A few months ago, I did see him to grab our marriage certificate and he seemed well. He's working out, bought a house and seemed in good spirits.

Ever since then, I've been a bit curious about whats is happening and whether he's dating someone.

I find myself looking him up on the social media's occassionally and once im a few minutes in, it starts to feel weird... like why am I doing this?!

I want to confirm, I absolutely have no feelings for him and our divorce was very painful, I have to admit, after him neglecting me for so many years, it felt a bit good to know that he was suffering a bit.

But now that he's good, I don't know, I find myself wanting to know things.

I'm more the happy to block him and erase him from any ability to look him up.

But I'm also wondering if this behaviour is natural? 

Its definitely a selfish thing. I liked knowing that he was miserable and I was out living my best life after all the suffering he put me through.

I like knowing that he has the same small town, safe, stuck-to-your-parents life and nothing changed.. perhaps it will confirm that it was the right decision to leave.

I'm open to a slap in the face! Hahaha
It does feel a bit weird. I want to believe im strong enough to cut him out an not look back. In fact I might just do that...",2.597886803185439,4.151206733788399,4.112546928327646,87.32203996018204,75.51877133105802,7.340671217292378,26.884101251422077,8.07648339933343,1.6022401592719002,1115,43,238,18,24,371,157,293,0.102,0.716,0.182,0.9703,1,0,0,0,3,0,41.0,3,1,0,3,9,20,1,1,19,0,20,5,1,0,3,48,47,17,0,5,6,2,5,3,0,2,4,0,0,0,18,14,0,3,16,0,1,2,4,9,1,0,10,9,30,11,33,34,11,32,1,4,4,0,29,14,0,5,19,152,48,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17523098892531058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.079042130170797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06721443450066897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760016838570387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11135857655014866,0.1037262430631577,0.0,0.4316297281488568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10455937337066634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08649535077890408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10212790628669303,0.0,0.0,0.08940623269778852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14992907598072278,0.0,0.09490168152088901,0.0,0.18067552243420748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24870633466490055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874036841909135,0.1052167754945925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11404782671239873,0.0,0.0,0.21352783007337076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2715987697684858,0.0,0.0,0.1046570474925538,0.0,0.0,0.20944036257111026,0.14486436041736886,0.0,0.0872773297389014,0.0,0.24900154581051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10020801556140208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10485337885387366,0.0,0.0,0.07889296323579319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968419911493641,0.09483942721202994,0.0,0.0,0.1052611316814249,0.0,0.0,0.10517248641245568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993612708549876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08440862546329271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07876250166705244,0.17996003301633492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08176128099994512,0.0,0.0,0.10075470063852736,0.08374661829327086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06995929953495084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13132950558988812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0815531634572794,0.17489477559694985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08886882544602999,0.0916254591233104,0.08918752092637536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10718751679939956,0.07195653138520172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19094871824903206
divorce,anony40ishbalddad,2020/04/17,"Still Sleeping on My Side It’s been a year and a half since I found out she (50F) was cheating on me with a guy 20 years younger than her. We were married for 20 years with 2 young kids. Even after I forgave her again, she moved out Feb 2019 to be with him (and quickly dumped by him). At this point, I asked for divorce. 

A year and change later, I realized I’m still sleeping on my side of the bed. I don’t know why. I still feel like that side of the bed is not my place to be. 

What is wrong with me?  How do I get mentally past that feeling?",0.9549999999999984,2.2712778898305106,2.212,100.2207118644068,79.42372881355931,5.397966101694917,21.122033898305087,5.6839178017228535,-0.30246372881355965,413,11,106,2,10,132,77,118,0.086,0.857,0.057,-0.6553,0,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,1,0,0,0,7,4,2,0,6,0,9,2,2,1,0,17,16,4,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,5,10,0,0,5,0,0,1,2,3,0,1,4,2,19,1,19,10,0,25,0,0,0,0,11,11,0,0,14,70,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16770400379561454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897692152079478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184843925884294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18140840091464305,0.12815515881841588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19669019817711386,0.0,0.0,0.09372307159399353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17762278872464685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09858721170352626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764014518510177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18078138515130626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906615540684909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17124659285270366,0.0,0.0,0.18742277027054088,0.0,0.1695800876368371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483919961412944,0.0,0.35903604443464754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4297795916257557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618701920921125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19613313108176525,0.0,0.4620811728168252
divorce,soulchance,2020/04/17,"Husband's involvement in family business/ workaholism is causing resentment. When is it time to walk away?  My (23/F) husband (23/M) works for his parents in a family business. They work 6/7 days a week minimum but are on call 7/7.

They are very protective of their earnings and pool their money together instead of dividing it between them. Because of this ""set-up"" they make investments together and consult each other for ALL financial decisions such as buying vehicles, home remodels, etc. I literally have no idea how much my husband actually earns.

When we got married we agreed to have a joint bank account, and the mechanism of his family business was NOT disclosed. We in fact did get a joint bank account yet, he does not deposit his earnings into it. He keeps about 2,000 in there to fullfill our ""agreement"".

We have now been married for over a year and I cannot seem to ""get over"" this. I feel left out and excluded as a wife and I feel like I am looking at a lifetime of overinvolvement on his parent's behalf. Additionally, it is hard for me to accept my husband's work schedule and committment to this business when I have literally no idea what is going on.

When I tell my husband how overwhelming this situation is, he makes it clear that this situation cannot and will not change. SO I just tried to accept it and soldier on, afterall the bills are paid and there's food in my belly. 

Now, in January I suffered an injury and I had to resort to moving in with my parents for two months to recover. My husband ""could"" not alter his schedule to accomodate my needs and while at the time I accepted it, now I am growing resentment. I know arrangements could have been made. I feel that work and his family come before everything. This situation opened my eyes and made me fearful for the future. I do not feel that I am in a partnership, in fact I question my role here in general. If I did not love my husband as much as I do I know I would leave in a heartbeat.

TLDR: My husband and his family hide their money together and consult each other, effectively excluding their wives. They work on call 7/7. I got sick and had to move in with my folks because he could not tone down the schedule temporarily. What is the point of this partnership?",5.60365613922011,6.730464144859813,6.432217209152437,75.23350467289721,67.59813084112149,10.01559780857235,33.91749919432807,10.165852483727232,3.6066600708991294,1786,82,322,44,29,590,200,428,0.095,0.848,0.057,-0.9474,3,0,0,0,0,0,58.0,5,0,9,9,18,11,2,2,16,0,33,4,1,8,5,74,55,31,0,6,10,13,5,1,0,2,1,0,2,0,21,30,1,2,15,1,11,6,11,5,0,1,12,7,58,6,57,38,6,53,0,2,2,1,47,28,0,3,20,238,79,10,0.0,0.0,0.08752985979773978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08427186572699195,0.0,0.0,0.10935507672058888,0.0,0.07632425585589052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18317824829610035,0.0,0.0,0.09214197629273303,0.0948859355343592,0.07726472270752195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2148436512358801,0.0,0.0,0.05784617091740087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07849312800425952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10003418161082307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08061252307840319,0.0,0.4227846277788424,0.10093236341236693,0.1814109397640287,0.06407847618864207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10846014290080497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09372438326843384,0.0,0.05097601416794415,0.0,0.14347535485552346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08034954131440808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08997189008898435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20251058154055024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07972547303289095,0.0,0.0,0.09858859145264816,0.0,0.0,0.0949745732158412,0.09745441265080927,0.0,0.0,0.04382068586384273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07532162146118412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095368193684488,0.16974408332641092,0.11974487253740855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07159408460845043,0.1906642224177348,0.13187301172419394,0.06650806952619519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2987886816803988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847912304732238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10047947690751713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08165540563740416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024644675553813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783978120064603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10460432340589697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060897350143582475,0.0,0.08761946075357444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0740081731649073,0.0,0.0,0.07194831196595197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3264969260138955,0.0,0.0,0.06371710281611756,0.0,0.0,0.057760954967713427
divorce,ClintoniousRexus,2020/04/17,"Woes (first post here, feeling especially raw tonight) \[16 years ago: got together. One year ago: he asked for a divorce. Still waiting on California to finalize the paperwork.\]

**The worst part about going through this divorce is not having him - my best friend - with me to help process the experience (like we used to do for everything else).**

I'm sitting, alone now, thinking about what could have been. Thoughts haunt me, wit finds me and fleeting musings knock at my door - but I'm socially distant, from him at first, and now the rest of the world. This pandemic throws asunder my usual coping mechanisms of hanging/adventuring with friends, leaving me in a stew of stimuli: thoughts, fears and humors about this divorce and the thoughts, wits and musings that I know my SBTX would uniquely find interesting to co-ruminate on... were it not about OUR divorce. Anecdotes and efficacious self reflection fall dead on arrival. Inside jokes that would land, were he not in the air. Sores aching to be soothed - ameliorations I so desperately wish I could provide again (and vice versa). We've been through so much together, it's demoralizing to run the final leg of this relationship alone. 

Mostly venting. Wallowing. Hoping someone out there might relate?",5.114818840579709,8.324674064814815,4.570756843800325,79.01949275362324,74.55555555555556,7.645410628019325,33.465378421900155,8.587818076936951,3.2463834943639283,1002,52,162,21,23,302,147,216,0.115,0.758,0.126,0.1724,0,2,0,0,4,0,51.0,2,0,0,3,12,11,0,1,10,0,14,2,1,1,0,34,29,10,1,6,4,0,1,1,2,3,1,0,1,1,9,11,0,1,9,1,0,4,3,3,0,3,8,1,15,8,29,15,6,31,0,1,0,0,17,11,0,3,15,105,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23836477228431066,0.0,0.0,0.2785006438801968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256932052988627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14109765892033596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21469580231745394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11231626311059216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12083557195844415,0.13151853167290115,0.0,0.15129435720786133,0.06798228683583428,0.0,0.0,0.2945682234506626,0.2457709108788698,0.2287273030480459,0.0,0.0,0.20775247246968367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07641140101959573,0.0,0.10753246458398363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09011943448362968,0.0,0.0,0.13353982927792174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07389055931900064,0.0,0.0,0.14236382187025115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06568579468501151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426308892452645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09883669552234063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911072379137042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14559694841555212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12876655408802615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14434967796387116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14026134725807549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13705550269143926,0.11391959676473196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10737246024909776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08615054562046336,0.0,0.3202163859408933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11612219040609525,0.14807839245780124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546116085324445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910197638853774,0.0,0.0,0.17316361686387852
divorce,girlinthe_corner,2020/04/17,"How do I tell my friends that my parents are getting a divorce ? this is going to sound so selfish of me, and extremely rude, but my “friends” have been pretty toxic towards me. I want to tell them that my parents are getting a divorce (they actually are, I’m not just making this up for their pity) without seeming like I want them to feel bad for me. I was going to tell them over Snapchat or something since, you know, quarantine, so I was wondering how to word it. I AM telling them this kind of hoping that they’ll start being nicer towards me but not because I want their pity. any ideas, please?",4.665254237288135,5.563194974576278,4.862500000000002,86.47222457627122,69.59322033898304,7.255932203389831,32.54661016949153,7.1686216300943375,1.9504372881355927,469,21,94,4,8,147,71,118,0.11199999999999999,0.6990000000000001,0.19,0.856,2,1,1,0,2,0,15.0,0,1,8,0,5,10,1,0,2,0,12,0,0,3,0,21,27,8,0,4,7,2,1,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,7,1,0,0,5,0,0,2,3,5,0,0,3,2,24,5,14,22,0,7,0,2,0,0,19,4,0,4,2,69,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.1561016191116245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10878088706979833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13356311301219267,0.09751246359588388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08088251679816329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471753103123297,0.0,0.16714899363769764,0.0,0.18182225736133686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15888017287323747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18057968868432284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16657770887684542,0.0879119353512905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781502452961128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10677709599100292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3552417966494707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755922447069093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627407190702478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14562505936453474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323237298834755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231479683762558,0.0,0.0,0.11322321936842207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5592617384420041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2830524272746825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541994199365566,0.17347394569140567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,CyberJulian,2020/04/17,"Year update - the unthinkable A year ago in February she told me she wanted to separate so she could have the time alone she never had (home schooled, then met me right before college). Needed to ""find herself"" the cliche made me grind my teeth. 11 years together, 3 years married.

After a year of separation (mandatory before a divorce in this state) she just pulls up in front of my cabin at 11pm like some cheesy movie scene. This happened last week. She stayed for 6 days. The way we were together... it was as if nothing ever happened. I mean we had long talks about how and why it happened, and how we're much better now as individuals. But we laughed, reminisced, embraced, pondered, made love and fucked hard. It was like a parallel dimension where nothing mattered.

She said she was starting to develop a relationship with someone and realized that it would be counterproductive to proceed with it. She initiated this so she could go through it alone, not to replace me. She still loves me and wants to be with me over anyone else.

But she still needs time. So again, we're apart. She does her travel nursing, I stay here and get an education.

Whereas last year we went our separate ways without regard to one another, this year she wants to put us on hold. So we're not ""together"" but we agreed to not let someone else take our place.

It's really weird.

I don't even feel emotional about it, just numb.

I don't know if I'm lacking respect for myself or if I'm being strong for our relationship/marriage/love. Maybe I'm too forgiving. Maybe I'm signing up for a second, final slash to the heart. I don't want to be the reason it ends for good, that's for sure.

I have my shit together now, and when I'm done with school next year I'll be doing temporary Wildlife/Forestry jobs around the country for little money. I mapped out a new path with the assumption that I'd be single. Not even sure if a stable relationship is possible while living that lifestyle. The biggest shame would be me sacrificing it for someone who ditched me.

I'm just glad she didn't lie. I guess I can wait some more.

When they say they need time, try to believe and respect it.

I just wanted to chime in on the subreddit that supported me when this all started. Let the time go by. Breathe deeply. Love y'all ✌🏻",3.1226045491915566,5.349335948314606,3.9166346944368335,86.31381748424225,76.03370786516854,7.217867909016171,26.35927651411345,8.176038313617813,1.7189227185530287,1807,69,357,32,41,576,239,445,0.059000000000000004,0.815,0.125,0.9864,1,2,0,0,1,0,65.0,9,1,2,2,27,21,2,1,20,0,29,9,4,5,5,74,68,29,0,17,17,0,2,2,0,2,1,2,1,0,22,20,0,2,8,1,1,7,10,5,0,2,14,4,52,16,48,41,7,70,0,0,0,4,42,19,2,8,41,227,74,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06641907803767677,0.0,0.0,0.15520545105850408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07856845466202961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052391342128737535,0.0767725061264078,0.0,0.06670173228205313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275162783074931,0.0844181047132194,0.0,0.06626765414174149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964769048570688,0.0,0.0,0.04832230820339413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06556992559950622,0.07667727409573996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12518532118571246,0.08428382224898016,0.06636389518654708,0.0,0.0,0.09897836579147312,0.06777659115009849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037885806457535885,0.0,0.0,0.08207987125485636,0.06848275922913719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06926965242496687,0.0391467443967663,0.0,0.08516652454390881,0.06284598233026574,0.0,0.0,0.08254154865609918,0.0,0.19877553017284444,0.0,0.06712069680360154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08878994308928115,0.0,0.0,0.07515881057589544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07435439662504346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04117842396444854,0.12215250663782395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532377444826961,0.0,0.07321199154289221,0.07509745767957735,0.0661627239611022,0.06630884920910349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20287611297578648,0.14179721457992042,0.0,0.0,0.1505503283998104,0.08161846811002715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055080640733727516,0.16667430441921316,0.05778902919281895,0.07236584969856696,0.0796866903788505,0.0,0.0,0.14379071545910854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0507730960980244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07828372627071394,0.0,0.0,0.08446996893841696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07532325239176828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048000742637012914,0.07703837849332458,0.0,0.24133362745297576,0.0,0.0639880322091783,0.07127360793353743,0.05958568744140291,0.0,0.15166210559138418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07691243064680549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19045854423100333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606873142178423,0.15972638131486874,0.1196750635261816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08502731292720381,0.14123735115640002,0.0,0.05633646912139974,0.06022422192706649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17476428516746445,0.0,0.0,0.07159683620751123,0.0,0.05087113763519648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09012905921059956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22097213550332814,0.11894858672582308,0.06010265589570497,0.0,0.0,0.06945893026196459,0.06761079131866067,0.0,0.0,0.07222783873255223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064532857154628,0.0,0.0,0.3860089784760645
divorce,illability,2020/04/17,"Is it time? Hi all,

I (34m), her (33f) have been married for 6 years. We have a 4 year old daughter together. I currently sleep on the couch and we haven’t been intimate in 2 years. We haven’t been physical at all really tbh.

We live in an in-law apartment connected to my parents. They and her don’t get along. She resents me for this move as I was a bit forceful with it to save money. 

We have talked about our marriage. She sees is as contractual. I don’t agree with this and it builds resentment on my end. 

Now with quarantine, things are heightened. Her anxiety is often present and I can’t control my anger at all.

Everything seems like divorce is the next step. But being the breadwinner, I know she will have a tough time financially, which means my daughter will be affected. Plus, she has no family to lean on. I still care about her and want her to be ok...and for my daughter to as well.

Has anyone gone through something similar and came out ok on the other side? I’m pretty paralyzed with making the first move, and need some advice.",1.9774290293040304,4.250857947115385,3.306510989010992,88.99801282051283,80.10576923076924,7.231135531135532,24.327838827838825,8.269060116576782,1.5606434981684991,815,30,170,17,21,265,126,208,0.076,0.825,0.099,0.6966,2,1,1,0,1,0,34.0,6,0,1,2,6,9,3,0,9,1,25,1,1,3,3,35,37,12,0,2,1,4,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,8,20,0,1,3,0,1,5,6,4,1,1,6,1,29,5,29,26,5,29,0,0,1,0,24,11,0,3,14,118,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16693231003765666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13068386486205052,0.0,0.0,0.11944774353673487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18650123409337585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19538308707238428,0.1741717471619925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19159946555316013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15130395997229712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15353026330009234,0.0,0.16104255950154528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14530722407207713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892512024890119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09388325675769266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345851465439177,0.0,0.15084530692071346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140298126608922,0.0,0.0,0.1860830711821014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3631287937884257,0.0,0.12666768184400387,0.0,0.0,0.1816787844883846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17925650121187053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18968560226001624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737947032146565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094375551973838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13612874927948362,0.15551648116997302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709525635347628,0.0,0.0,0.13151265852647984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364244139870659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373060342254108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11349132493923153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992237521112643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10075948390674372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15359596002986564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33002519779834244
divorce,TheCPL,2020/04/17,"Questions about the world being in hold I (m29), have recently been asked for a divorce. It was 13 years of relationship total with 4 of those being married. 

The day after our 4th anniversary she dropped the bomb on me and from what I can gather from our talks it is irreconcilable differences. I feel emotionally devastated and like everything is falling from underneath my feet, I'm able to sleep again and I've been eating regularly but it's been tough trying to get out of bed especially being essential and emergency services. 

I've gotten mental help through the VA and I've built my support network, but it's still mentally exhausting. It feels horrible to say but at this point I wish I could just tear it off like a band-aid.

I'm just wondering if there's anything I can even do now with the state of the world to at least get the legal separation process or divorce process actually started? With the separation pretty much looming over me at this point since our lease ends in June, I want to/need to start looking for new residence and was looking into buying. There's no hostility between us and we're trying to be civil at this point but I'm just trying to cover all my bases.

Edit: a few words because a wrote this with out proofing whoops.",5.8716250000000025,6.9465842458333364,6.485000000000002,75.28500000000003,66.95833333333334,9.666666666666666,32.5,9.827888789773867,3.1831250000000004,1009,42,183,22,16,330,147,240,0.105,0.7909999999999999,0.10300000000000001,-0.1531,0,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,4,0,0,0,10,6,1,0,12,0,16,4,2,0,3,36,34,13,0,4,9,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,12,14,1,1,4,0,1,1,1,3,0,0,7,5,17,3,37,22,5,33,0,0,2,0,15,18,0,4,14,122,29,3,0.1407948833311839,0.0,0.13739549622514566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11586219248003292,0.0,0.13162421000248128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0858272540678293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124132577560239,0.0,0.0,0.09080105207852864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471006864177299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440683151289581,0.0,0.15837529327437122,0.12470247649603006,0.0,0.0,0.09299369257207732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12653736263158294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14238024685030026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14711903089206965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09437184246812627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13757053634271596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23646448380142845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28377625417571845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10350043931532693,0.0,0.0,0.1359805756697073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39929002102811895,0.0,0.0,0.1432390130220541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15772249175369826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13901796166825836,0.151161013683522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11196574231778376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11646698242573432,0.0,0.14089656371210035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19931068617819894,0.0,0.11243897570044856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15977236510937398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11316559400621372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867714512890153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693589090306662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304447005837387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16190716739149014,0.0,0.1526860450650492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09066728872370712
divorce,NinaBeena1,2020/04/17,"How did you get through divorce? I am about to divorce my husband, and I would appreciate tips to get through it. Thank you.

No kids. From the US. Married 2 years. Together for 8. We don't own property; renting an appartment. I am going to let him keep everything. He was emotionally abusive and it started to become physical, so I just want out asap",1.1114925373134348,3.741382910447765,3.4021044776119425,82.60464925373138,93.02985074626864,6.8591044776119405,30.58059701492537,7.908726449838941,2.9238967164179104,273,16,50,7,10,93,54,67,0.09300000000000001,0.81,0.098,-0.1585,1,0,0,0,2,0,12.0,2,2,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,1,0,9,14,4,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,4,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,10,1,10,10,1,4,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,0,2,38,12,0,0.0,0.34189169645742284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.318687451332082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3245866818205209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593355428977882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3015172195272905,0.0,0.1639930348805924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564818472640876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2950680788085699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042414348236654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656636127724618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34709736084765364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17019781572302314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20498191620451825,0.0,0.0,0.185820614996478
divorce,HopeIsMyPoison,2020/04/17,"Its Time Monday, I am calling a lawyer for a consult. Its big step for me. Its the first time that I am taking back control of the situation. After being cheated on for the third time, it will be the first decision I make in 17 years that doesnt put her or my attachment to her first. I cant follow through until the lockdown wanes, but my plan is firm in my head. And it starts with the phone call Monday.",3.2885714285714265,4.205258333333337,4.3390476190476175,88.88928571428572,72.80952380952381,7.028571428571429,24.714285714285715,7.1686216300943375,0.8604428571428571,316,9,69,3,6,103,58,84,0.027999999999999997,0.9520000000000001,0.021,-0.1406,0,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,5,1,1,1,0,8,0,8,1,1,2,0,7,12,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,1,1,0,0,3,2,1,0,4,0,0,10,0,12,9,0,20,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,1,13,53,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16841639892475554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4472972129753505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456547145536757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5589066422856372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22478242967542095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462006222144109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22018021944699973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461928287884597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550267402119349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16467924233413095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38314501934473977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410446623230591
divorce,throwRA0428,2020/04/17,"Always questioning Is there anyone here who was in an open marriage?

I'm looking for advice but my situation may not make sense without a ton of backstory. 

I went from a dead bedroom to sexual revelations, and I am beyond excited for new adventures.

But there's still an unbalanced libido situation. I have to almost role play to get him going. A very familiar fear of rejection has returned.

I don't want to feel like he is holding me back, but it does already, deep down. We don't have kids. Basically just roommates that care deeply for each other. We talk openly about sexy stuff since opening our marriage.  I just don't have faith I'll get to experience half the things I want to.",4.1914920194309495,6.266512160305346,5.358362248438585,77.85719639139488,72.43511450381679,8.733102012491326,28.7029840388619,9.339509955726095,2.743375572519084,547,22,99,13,11,181,97,131,0.152,0.7040000000000001,0.14400000000000002,-0.0642,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,0,0,0,9,8,0,1,6,0,12,0,0,1,0,22,23,4,1,2,7,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,6,7,0,1,2,1,0,2,5,2,0,1,2,2,12,6,17,20,2,13,1,1,1,0,12,7,0,3,5,68,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867876232730422,0.0,0.0,0.1914071209112163,0.0,0.21093658241767893,0.0,0.1590504570082958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336551331226507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14698102095730745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19488813571418845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16727491182244855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18697943237256776,0.0,0.21509465375005574,0.09665017729644017,0.13655617665778724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19973389194006733,0.0,0.10863381918656644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338526250955033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16051618668528156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275927810763153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846119393396949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141295176662929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15811960928068675,0.42971674443487307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15265104783677466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2188187398825463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15363753001576508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12699024438543727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15771712702835047,0.2254880977434919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771961204564677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184259860670098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,totalfhtwowaway,2020/04/17,"Help me In the process of getting a divorce here's the story 

For years my wife has been a heroin addict and probably before we even met. She has cheated on me with her dealers and who knows whoever else. 

During the few years of her doing this she has subjected the four of my kids with drug deals they have watched and drugs in the house. Before I found out the house was ways a mess according to the kids during my time of cleaning it out I have found a massive amount of used drug supplies. 

We have already tried rehab multiple times and literally nothing has worked and I have no idea what to do anymore.

Before all of this the kids were taken away by CPS and I recently just got them back.

I'm in California will I still loose Everything even though I'm not at fault here's the assets

House 1 Bought when I was 18 before we ever met

House 2 bought after we got married. 

Car 2015 Civic si  ( almost paid off ) 
Car 2 is paid off 
Car 3 is also paid off

Bank accounts

Wells Fargo ( checking ) $14,482

Account ex doesn't know about is bank of America

Balance is nearly $100k

How do I protect myself right now I'm lost?

( Does anybody know any divorce lawyers in O.C.?",2.4262587412587417,4.559976388888892,3.3838228438228453,89.74678321678324,77.84615384615384,5.9639471639471635,23.884226884226884,6.980632752743323,0.8493401709401711,921,31,186,10,22,294,145,234,0.071,0.879,0.05,-0.7097,0,0,3,0,2,0,19.0,4,0,2,2,15,5,1,0,13,0,21,5,0,2,2,27,42,10,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,5,0,1,3,5,14,0,1,6,0,10,3,3,4,1,1,17,1,23,1,28,24,3,29,0,1,1,0,22,14,0,1,11,115,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11986454097015335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11010162548094699,0.0,0.12133540532358145,0.08792903788487152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07477152431050109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090434134560402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10330406760347388,0.08454674645963177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3742461861359429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11335628118382116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09622024304088693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3825302528171097,0.0,0.09185127113924504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14524528318691687,0.0994584028168306,0.0,0.0,0.09881828842802827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411146557805416,0.0,0.0,0.0574456845219403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17587824393782348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07369889615647895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5074820556588072,0.0,0.12412307847589972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18128118610812144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12002622876184807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550246520794153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185474771700646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10856490721090577,0.0,0.0,0.09389890189110726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878082718040288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10802785083301723,0.0,0.1282284663276096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07465058381981565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09496372565183236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08727523952089784,0.0,0.0,0.09886057350102934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08004678720780421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14161171217346602
divorce,stoleitback,2020/04/17,"It's Official I got freedom papers in the mail today saying that I (34f) am officially not married anymore. It has been such a long and drawn out journey with a lot of ups and downs. We spent almost 2 years in the process of working through the paperwork in an amicable way. It took foooorever and most people I talked to said I was being to nice and not asking for enough. But honestly money is not my priority, our kids having a living and mentally stable dad was. That meant I had to take the time for the needed emotional rest periods and the time to learn good boundaries and communication skills. I am still concerned for him and the rabbit holes he goes down sometimes but I am pleased at the progress I have seen him make since we separated. 

That's all, I just wanted to share my happy news :)",4.911260997067451,6.187875387096772,5.740293255131968,79.00498533724341,69.32258064516128,8.733137829912026,29.574780058651037,9.095868883498916,2.4557096774193545,635,24,120,12,11,208,107,155,0.0,0.809,0.191,0.9813,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,0,0,3,3,5,0,0,12,0,12,0,0,1,1,28,23,10,0,2,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,6,12,0,0,2,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,10,3,16,5,20,12,5,18,0,0,1,0,14,8,0,3,7,87,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20390806417131774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019482569065386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19036846041136615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22905862642801264,0.0,0.2104063219975807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17079688610424887,0.16286313709972633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167700832142384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798108138296873,0.18020793925305445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17312067056028602,0.0,0.0,0.13592596172832153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20521319219206585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15099057056022144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411728104313083,0.0,0.0,0.22352682016967865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19370069247212304,0.16193636401274838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684465200796018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20139728523086484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16262080276813742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531059447758744,0.16367171284138776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374789493461617,0.0,0.1930193550457763,0.0,0.2262426787141813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12010744763742486,0.16163362768766726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14824654360349387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13113235143959892
divorce,Rumncoke75,2020/04/18,"How to ask husband to leave Divorce has been coming up again and again for months. I had a consult with an attorney scheduled but is now postponed due to covid. 

I am checked out and want to be alone. I have a good job and am the main breadwinner. Husband works but squanders money. We have no kids, just dogs. Since he can't be trusted with money in the shared account, everything is now paid through my private account. Good because checks are no longer bouncing, bad because he knows that and spends all of his wages. He makes enough to support himself, if he didn't spend it all. Drugs and alcohol play a part. 

I am ready to be divorced, but as I pay every bill and the deed is solely in my name, I can't afford to physically be the one to leave. Nor do I think I should be. He will not go, as he doesn't agree with my decision. I know that I can still file without his agreement, but my state requires a 6 month separation before filing. 

Is there any (legal) way to get him to go?",3.3915151515151507,4.7050377474747505,4.03981818181818,89.60972727272728,73.04040404040404,6.694141414141416,27.84646464646465,7.0316486544052195,1.2403228282828285,766,29,162,7,15,243,127,198,0.135,0.7609999999999999,0.105,-0.5168,3,1,2,0,2,0,25.0,1,0,0,2,8,8,0,0,9,0,26,2,0,2,2,32,38,15,0,3,8,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,3,12,1,1,4,1,12,3,9,1,0,1,4,0,19,7,23,27,5,18,0,0,0,0,20,4,0,1,9,109,22,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881259577831399,0.0,0.1823173083975902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197086137704958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16456728109980392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14698037072728293,0.2146164120709783,0.0,0.14979128941248826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516370164461269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20414262743418196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818893542687092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483155649035085,0.0,0.15820729123788835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09197008252315267,0.0,0.2000874507245212,0.29529659593560403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17468579057954445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19348648826575415,0.0,0.0,0.3727874873818024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11750352923046653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2810160447041921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11928465342515165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19062680341554325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14561648374064642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14058034247894766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997603914997035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11279496790867945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10382894338072787,0.13972696204706622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16968972493279713,0.0,0.12815426757432494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,surelookithey,2020/04/18,"I left but it's not that simple I loved him dearly. He had his faults we all do.
He blamed me for a lot of his issues which I had trouble coping with.
Nail in the coffin was i developed the want for kids  
it was a deal breaker for him. 
The resentment of everything that had happened and of never having kids mounted so I left. 
I am so broken it's been 4 months since I left. 
He has someone new now. When I found out I couldn't breath. How do you cope?. I am avoiding him so I don't say or so something I regret. 
Feelings are still so strong. 
Strength and hugs to everyone this is so hard.
Learning to be alone after 17 years with him.",-0.4846434494195684,1.72573294029851,1.4909452736318407,97.63262023217251,92.73134328358208,4.171807628524046,17.892205638474298,5.82211442006289,-0.4063336650082916,490,14,111,4,18,161,88,134,0.23800000000000002,0.635,0.127,-0.9545,0,2,1,0,0,0,14.0,1,1,0,2,10,10,1,1,5,0,17,3,1,1,2,20,22,12,1,3,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,7,6,0,1,3,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,7,3,21,5,13,13,2,13,0,1,0,2,16,5,0,2,8,81,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20179381756156628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20086983044442036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18617643652474325,0.17510818663111638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985161470080456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21363024403457026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17229494968482195,0.0,0.17453693221490804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20336066430692326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6350774604295554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656446363746933,0.17584925894560974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15551814842846878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502713820225295,0.1881761364973684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15494331234923653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16117233416937166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16508594024018436,0.14999611580549713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555981943364091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11492073375989866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12546953867999716
divorce,VorpalPaperclip,2020/04/18,"Treat her like a princess? I would just like some feedback on a situation that happened to me a while back, maybe January?  I’m 46(m)

 STBXW (38F) after 1.5 years of separation (whole ‘nuther issue, for another time) tries to come back after telling me she cheated 1.5 years ago. Let that timing sink in and there is a little gap irl time because this happened while she was overseas on phone call.  🙄 I said, “lets talk about it when you get back” and was open to the idea, I still think she’s hot and we have two little kids. We’ve had a lot of space, I am over the emotional loss and what the hell, maybe she sees me differently, now? I have worked my butt off to make myself a better person during that time and feel great about myself. 

She comes back to my place one evening after returning from her trip and tells me she is upset because when she got back I didn’t “treat her like a princess,” and decides it was a bad idea. 

She expected me to have a string of awesome dates lined up, and kids at babysitters every time we got together. Said I can’t make her happy and called it off again. 

So, any thoughts?",3.4837556561085985,4.9105421719457,3.736108597285071,91.43095022624438,72.98190045248869,6.8289592760181,23.859728506787327,7.285733465282438,0.7281927601809954,864,24,187,9,17,267,132,221,0.071,0.7979999999999999,0.131,0.9179,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,2,1,0,3,16,13,2,1,12,0,15,1,1,2,0,27,31,14,0,2,1,0,2,3,0,1,0,2,0,3,8,14,0,0,6,0,0,3,2,5,0,2,10,5,31,8,24,18,3,41,1,1,1,1,26,13,2,2,28,120,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09372801895846054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07190367217348899,0.11087274659130816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40651983471164005,0.0882846109384753,0.12891059089688875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09351433544751303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21593525362925772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182163304318466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11047094896255892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189380509793094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06983720957492176,0.0,0.08908660305342314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05346297616317675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055242362727479684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16913245665607105,0.11657361019721647,0.0,0.0,0.18700286334346994,0.11255725929286024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23872470773320606,0.0,0.1103602473154062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162431434516228,0.0,0.15497087133819407,0.2119492213707282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0898924238818949,0.0,0.0,0.141158350746817,0.0,0.2124507664267099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07164901793662154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09232403994372793,0.11047094896255892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20115708537366345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08425739413719611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188509773457276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08444039690429031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08498607901989577,0.1848347342226907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06775095074506522,0.0,0.0839420668992685,0.3082757002465851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07178737033967009,0.0,0.10328808500285608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11804975596310202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07697660304516019,0.0,0.0,0.07511136767111855,0.0,0.0,0.13618021328230887
divorce,yepmyfault,2020/04/18,"Wants to live as roommates So my husband has been working in another state for a little over a year. About  6 months before he left he said he thought we should split up he wasn’t “in love” with me anymore, and he moved to the bedroom upstairs. I desperately want our marriage to work- and I have been seeing a counselor to better myself. Now he is transferring back, and he wants to come back to the house but just live as roommates. After being married 18 years, supporting him throughout his military career, deployments and retirement- I said no way.  I must add he moved me and our son almost 2 years ago to a new state after he got out of the military so we can be together as a “family”, for him to pull this “I’m not in love with you” crap 4 months later. I had quit my tenured teaching job and I am now starting from scratch. A few friends, and no family close by. I am mad, and hurt beyond belief. He went out and bought a brand new corvette- without me knowing. I just can’t wrap my mind around all this. Part of me is ready to move on because damn he has been gone for so long, but part of me just can’t give up. I just don’t get how he can just throw it all away? How he can not even try?",1.9176444608023573,3.7026019514170088,3.1683934486566048,92.34377162311372,78.06882591093117,6.272285609127714,23.373021715126978,7.1686216300943375,0.7120380566801621,930,30,206,11,22,301,143,247,0.092,0.818,0.08900000000000001,-0.2168,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,4,1,0,4,18,9,3,0,10,0,22,3,1,2,3,43,42,19,0,5,10,2,1,0,1,2,0,2,1,0,3,19,0,0,3,0,1,8,9,4,0,0,12,4,26,5,38,26,5,43,1,1,1,2,30,15,2,1,17,134,29,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10455061863065547,0.0,0.11810430711692348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12367501601136538,0.0,0.0,0.11696917947972033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10499554615722194,0.0,0.0,0.11081267214151544,0.1813839689647991,0.0,0.07189782829127253,0.0,0.10036202079592706,0.0,0.0,0.10431226148293178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159868078904284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07790118201188889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22237501894786532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09112357212267193,0.0,0.06162109539877049,0.11314304208306775,0.0,0.0,0.0943309331105764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13609203382793664,0.1262619490372418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11704164518284435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06481917284784239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12814696559351416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11821130148081035,0.20829418067196293,0.10437710685423887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128989013765915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11909024961119835,0.0,0.1882842335706602,0.3760687826054539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278229261004313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554446427918501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12544841672652812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2243843191338216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398643841128193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08348167285027464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13384193863694938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09363470092485283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0800765242057107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20870003754558064,0.09361879669853644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10933566593912276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11369421926573448,0.0,0.17172989588150114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278570330750835
divorce,WTF_2020,2020/04/18,"Help! How to get over cheating spouse? How do you stop feeling the pain of betrayal? 

My wife (F31) and I (M34) had a child 6 months ago, and I thought we were happy. But, I just found out she cheated on me with another woman. Apparently, she had been wondering what it would be like to be with another woman even before we decided to have a baby. I had no clue, and I feel completely betrayed by the one person I thought would never hurt me. I feel like our family has been betrayed. She was planning to leave me for the other woman, but the woman ghosted my wife. I’ve filed for divorce but I also fee like we should try to fix our marriage. I’m so confused. I feel like I would be able to think more clearly if I didn’t feel so betrayed.",1.7735193945127712,3.69040792715232,3.5422563859981078,88.87690397350995,79.0,6.433491012298959,24.69299905392621,7.447530270364453,1.1586363292336808,571,21,120,8,14,191,93,151,0.177,0.693,0.13,-0.8336,1,0,0,0,1,0,21.0,5,1,0,1,7,10,2,1,6,0,18,1,0,2,2,35,30,12,1,5,5,3,5,4,0,4,1,0,0,6,3,9,0,1,11,0,1,0,3,5,0,1,11,5,25,5,15,12,1,7,0,1,0,0,21,3,0,3,8,85,28,0,0.1562814518440479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13853407757652406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12497822057675173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3277494573785848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329840048464619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16385812887943518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032224250175178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14732824410553869,0.0,0.3951029889228672,0.22329500084779685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713545454340332,0.0,0.0,0.08165060830946266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16636451152977771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10475216289944517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16730252648892166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16547949224258718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054048931598091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12474236384989758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12053389010802985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590035636529066,0.0,0.1662944834236971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13645893569361514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306582915618054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10013884397321828,0.0,0.248140031913207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061048472181841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16948056800446631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3330535783683163,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,JDgone,2020/04/18,"Divorce during a pandemic, new city, no friends or family - utterly alone My stbx and I have been together for 10 years, married for 1.5. We’ve had ongoing problems that boil down to him not loving me or giving me basic needs (a hug or an I love you once in a while or even hanging out with me). He simply doesn’t love ME anymore and we’ve grown apart. The thing is, we’ve moved to a new state and I have no family or friends here, I’m about to start a new job (which is stressful all on its own) and I haven’t been alone in my whole adult life. I’m mourning the loss of him and so angry that I can’t be what he wants/needs. Logically I know I need to move on and taking this new job and getting a new apartment in this city (which I love) will be better than moving to the country with my parents where I’ll won’t really be able to jump start any career or social life but at least I’ll have family. I’m looking for advice - how do you move forward when you aren’t sure you can do it on your own.",2.24475,3.1648155069767516,3.865508720930233,91.28244912790701,75.32558139534882,7.049418604651162,22.73982558139535,7.413659706084162,0.6353779069767445,774,20,181,9,16,259,123,215,0.091,0.8220000000000001,0.087,0.2877,4,2,0,0,1,0,22.0,0,5,0,2,7,13,0,1,10,0,20,8,0,1,2,26,36,18,1,3,8,1,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,1,10,10,1,0,2,0,0,8,8,4,0,0,3,1,22,9,23,28,5,31,0,2,1,5,20,13,0,6,11,114,32,3,0.10224244595175136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09991013487445012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117846785952973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06952836929005511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10139703301935962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09042513480008382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0675301712796586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2891552360959333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579845202379401,0.0,0.05341745810845437,0.09808027058954152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20291970267779155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0561897744241231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444337264881425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08585790418145674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3691111971322388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4346701576946237,0.0,0.15162295632779013,0.0,0.4937319570660417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088848681061564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11352813665170294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09783221263189013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0654991289441464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10422329795298298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14473545896726187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171183763965651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963622953198794,0.0,0.0768735951263214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0679253379959867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11415003961688727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06584078304266253
divorce,used2befast,2020/04/18,"Advice counteracting things my STBX is doing to the children I posted this in another reply, but figured I'd start my own thread.

Wife is making this divorce high conflict.  

Toys arriving from Amazon on a daily basis.  My kids have told me they prefer moms house because they have more toys there.  

Their diet with her.  Never cooked a meal in our 13 years of marriage.  She  feeds them utter garbage on a consistent daily basis- Dominos, Chinese food, McDonalds, Mac & Cheese, Lunchables, etc.  All non nutritional, binding foods that is causing my son constipation.

Then there is the issue of her allowing my 6 yo son to spend as much as 10 hours per day on his iPod. 

Telling the kids ""I get sad when you guys leave me""...

Other than sharing these concerns with the ongoing custody evaluator, how else would you guys address and combat these behaviors?  Obviously I've raised them with her to no response.",5.109649430324276,7.5220870858895745,5.239057843996495,78.23835889570553,70.77914110429448,7.601928133216478,30.047765118317265,8.418075326091056,2.516102892199825,717,30,118,12,14,225,124,163,0.085,0.8809999999999999,0.034,-0.8201,0,0,0,0,1,0,27.0,1,2,5,0,4,2,0,0,7,0,8,6,0,4,3,16,12,7,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,5,7,4,6,1,2,4,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,22,1,17,10,5,14,0,1,0,0,27,6,0,0,7,75,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17813435082434562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19751410216613466,0.0,0.0,0.19114982700005967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11112395925053913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872648536469825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175637333463591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522821887647503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20330458638669174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4408581974044743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952404301604999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3609969352632083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926022830490164,0.0,0.0,0.17952162385870368,0.2103413410506917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902662541569748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930216853277089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216818161108994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134990479857916,0.0,0.0,0.13400613506520598,0.0,0.14059539519042116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745860497238177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12902773605898807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15933188523102354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211071930154467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17418852023611694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12949552868024414,0.0,0.0,0.11739054461101105
divorce,AmbitiousCorgi,2020/04/18,"Why is breaking one vow worse than breaking any of the others? I've tried googling and looking at sites for help for a broken marriage but all I come across is about cheating. I'm tired of reading about cheating. Why is one broken vow worse than the others? To love and to hold, to cherish, those are vows too. Wheres my chumplady for falling for a man who bait and switched me? Who gave me so much attention and affection and then took it all away once I was his?  Wheres my websites and subreddits for a man who completely and utterly ignored me for years. No touch, no talking outside of what was necessary, no love, no support. Me begging for marriage counseling, for affection only to be ignored?
But that's fine right? Because in his words he just can't love me like I want. He didn't beat me or cheat on me. So it's just all fine right? 
I just want to know I'm not crazy for wanting to be told I'm loved, to have my hand held, to ask me how my day was, to show any ounce of interest in me as a person. But yet all I come across is support for cheating. There was no cheating... it would have been so much easier if there was, at least I'd have some resources and help to navigate through this.",3.3696780045351464,4.4888674122449,4.022823129251702,90.46380385487532,72.83673469387755,7.240362811791383,28.713151927437643,7.594959193182576,1.5055124716553283,936,37,204,11,18,297,128,245,0.191,0.5870000000000001,0.222,0.9185,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,0,1,15,18,5,0,6,0,19,6,1,3,4,38,40,19,0,5,9,0,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,3,12,10,0,4,2,2,0,4,8,7,0,2,11,3,20,11,38,26,8,23,0,0,1,4,22,13,0,3,5,138,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18155798249586527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12479679866059228,0.0,0.12541992603907035,0.0,0.0,0.08137535294831001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22998270475701216,0.13996359650682266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08609115765405526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1789534588432002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07336359377840855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0652173430908644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11209947841203168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4819261903611789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19626364308320196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421643940418847,0.18091497626152267,0.10152651766092494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11655987741215225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335279095074677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280025095533909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029697907353868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072956399908007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15342916911767948,0.0,0.1275571209787424,0.14831428463998325,0.09063215920396007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362107398681845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24091114480832695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2720790663337277,0.094828733809102,0.0,0.0,0.0859643326690505
divorce,desertcampcali,2020/04/18,"A couple lessons of high conflict Today. Mid-covid19

Youngest and oldest with me and middle with her

I could get into specifics but zooming in misses the big lessons

6 cps or LEO referrals/investigations (all unsustained) last literally ending 4/6/2020

First family court hearing 3/2017 next coming in June 2020

Hindsight: It only takes 1 to make it messy/nasty/trench warfare

Hindsight: lawyers have zero integrity/accountability and keep it in writing and record everything

Hindsight: high conflict comes with high emotional and financial costs

Hindsight:  literally said to me by a CPS case worker “you can not expect the other parent to parent like you”. 

Hindsight:  never stop showing effort for the kids, or you will lose them forever (straight from a career child psychiatrist).  Know that some lawyers or counselors will aid another parent in target alienation. 

Hindsight:  combat aint got nothing on family court with a deceitful selfish enemy 

Hindsight:  it gets better but not on its own, good luck",8.120023030861354,10.767119233532936,6.943353293413169,68.16262091202212,63.251497005988035,9.210317825886687,37.397052049746655,9.661875296680813,4.272996683555966,820,41,110,17,13,248,121,167,0.168,0.73,0.102,-0.9121,3,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,3,1,7,0,7,0,0,7,0,6,0,0,1,2,34,18,10,0,2,7,3,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,2,7,12,0,4,3,1,1,2,4,3,0,2,2,2,8,4,18,13,3,24,0,2,0,0,13,13,0,5,10,64,15,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502880486415793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12675871597396302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24692242577014545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144328089747873,0.1585856365867051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16122057169560908,0.12694280867230198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12881065930515098,0.0,0.2702268311106398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12191159535720217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497620858490411,0.0,0.0,0.12021364159454916,0.11462955349385245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16153692776112627,0.0,0.0,0.4542900467810641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12739324304232086,0.0,0.0,0.07876729929809148,0.11682845194197365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07002102429960691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16034325574618774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09567009808732313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11054055304561423,0.0,0.15242704277765146,0.0,0.0,0.13752355275462505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090046055737882,0.0,0.0,0.4774340959746006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13633425147603154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11982555110676625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10776205346066862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13585469909633646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,1Zara1,2020/04/18,"Help with divorce hello

how i get a divorce and i have no money for it and even have debt and i feel lost 

i wanna pay or reduce this debt and file for the divorce and i am not working 

i have kids and i feel lost",-2.337500000000002,-0.6425264166666658,0.5166666666666693,102.04500000000002,104.83333333333334,2.4000000000000004,14.333333333333336,3.1291,-1.5159666666666665,164,4,40,0,8,56,29,48,0.27,0.675,0.055,-0.8176,2,0,0,0,3,0,0.0,0,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,13,9,8,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,7,0,0,2,0,4,0,2,2,0,0,2,2,7,0,4,7,0,0,0,2,0,0,6,0,0,1,0,30,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415371562708621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36981131711389853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910597986387811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451166937384021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7983954683263439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662292768008236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,pro-rntonp,2020/04/18,"How to truly be happy for the married friends in your life I have been separated from my POS ex for 8 months now after he had an affair and left my 16 month old daughter and I. We were together for 8 years, married for 3. I'm going to be 31yo this year and all my close friends are either seemingly happily married, pregnant, or have their growing families in place. I had always imagined that I would have a little happy and intact family of my own as well. But now, I'm a single parent with full custody because my ex is a deadbeat. 

When my friends tell me they're engaged or pregnant, the grief all comes back to me because I can't help but think about what could have been for my daughter and I. 

Does anyone else get these feelings and struggle with being genuinely happy rather than sad when someone else is living the life you thought you would?

Any advice would be great because I feel so shitty about feeling this way about news that I should be celebrating.",9.596309523809524,6.9328832010582015,8.857612433862439,73.6365773809524,60.904761904761905,11.143121693121692,39.498015873015866,8.841846274778883,3.461449206349206,771,30,144,8,8,244,121,189,0.08199999999999999,0.732,0.18600000000000005,0.9498,1,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,1,3,1,0,12,12,0,1,7,0,23,2,0,1,2,33,34,15,1,6,6,5,3,0,3,4,2,0,0,0,6,11,0,0,7,0,0,3,1,3,1,0,6,3,22,9,20,18,6,22,0,2,0,0,17,7,0,3,11,103,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269762002400899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081207754747307,0.0,0.0,0.08836388973385964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09085730975702652,0.13313923802162256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999161037628634,0.0,0.2376312828374417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11193210061312632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10374679130628577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11371167064780585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170969675877857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24499238377318344,0.0,0.19710522652285636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3011747622267078,0.0,0.06788846662672514,0.0,0.07384809194619676,0.0,0.0,0.14325968794042665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.414971737113874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08709627352833936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14118056390774522,0.0,0.1835614154562685,0.0,0.13023436119640716,0.11473970432998633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20743428568384925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363505326625019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14428337455940465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13576000304086733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11829280891888548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11009803176096893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13584186057548442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357358796942635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0832605256454262,0.0,0.10315811862323852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10314059680655352,0.0,0.0,0.11683197442377433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769176765257296,0.0,0.0,0.16735464249137705
divorce,Thnnxx,2020/04/18,"Is it worth it? Hello, and welcome to my pity party. My husband (m25) and I (f24) have been married 3 years. We never should of gotten  married.  Our relationship  ended  probably  6 month before our wedding. I was just to blind to see it. We have a 2 year old and more than anything I've  always wanted her to get to grow up in one house with parents that not only love her, but eachother. He doesn't  love me. I can see that now. He just tolerates me. We had a heart to heart right before all this quarantine mess happened.  Said we would try to make our marriage work. Agreed to counseling. Promised  to take me on dates, be affectionate.  Yeah that lasted a week. He got more distant. when I  asked  him about it  he said he would work on it.. yeah I'm  sure you can guess how that went. I can't do this. It hurts so much being  around someone  when you know they want nothing to do with  you.  I've  been getting the worst anxiety  attacks I've had in years. Every  time its just him and I  together  my heart just drops to my stomach. I've  gone through so many emotions and I'm  sure this roller coaster wont stop anytime soon. I just don't  know what to do. I know I  don't  make  him happy. I don't want us to hate eachother. I just don't  know how I  can leave. Before I got pregnant  I  had a car and a decent  job. I could support  myself no problem.  Now I'm  a stay at home mom. He works crazy long hours  and I  appreciate  the hell out of him for what he does  for us. Now we only have 1 car. I  have no income. No way to support myself. How the hell am i suppose to afford  rent, a car, get a job, pay for daycare, and be able to take care of me and my daughter? Especially when we cant even afford day care as is? I feel stuck,  like I'll  never be able to stand on my own again. We have no friends or family  to help out. Should  I just stay married  and be unhappy? Do I  tell him I  want a divorce and still live together  making things even more awkward?. I want us to stay on good terms and be able to co parent to the best of our abilities.I'm sure we would  make better friends  than romantic partners.  I just  don't  know how to start.",0.6236545240893072,2.6403292072072126,2.392816294555427,95.09885428907171,83.5045045045045,5.212220916568743,20.688209949079514,6.391308007922933,0.08420383862122982,1624,49,372,15,46,535,211,444,0.154,0.667,0.17800000000000002,0.8426,8,1,0,0,1,0,57.0,15,3,1,5,27,29,4,1,13,2,42,7,4,8,6,70,86,24,0,12,11,5,1,1,3,6,1,2,2,1,17,25,0,1,6,1,3,6,16,10,0,1,14,6,62,19,47,59,9,51,2,2,3,2,54,12,2,2,28,236,79,6,0.2223448528935239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061669576427403214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05669773462630698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060990289640703924,0.06597801964049937,0.06928747436885972,0.08431645630384732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891990933401632,0.0,0.07777906850814749,0.06554865124050209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15113026402172994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05917475755671162,0.0,0.0,0.047798011995194116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648584930408818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08336934423539387,0.06564384807163616,0.0,0.0,0.09790445223461497,0.0,0.06244504273922185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06986897970761925,0.0,0.03747474611276348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11452205453018778,0.0,0.11616600869148914,0.0,0.0,0.06216410450899789,0.11855299363187607,0.0,0.0816459742808604,0.0,0.06553960636953003,0.07889674346363193,0.0,0.07317317001175999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634797212275531,0.049677689355393684,0.0,0.07434333878113135,0.0,0.07298829738006775,0.08551870254924619,0.07934158788938184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14709530541546514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20365819388338446,0.0604135770268072,0.0,0.07847703171729993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03620882135048153,0.0,0.0654448595505078,0.06558939934209572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13378327377269728,0.0,0.1978892211233405,0.07514092747647358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08680253481337262,0.059157846761992976,0.0,0.054483016734468884,0.0,0.11432403845124962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07111529434172667,0.0,0.07777117356055703,0.0,0.0502222088835577,0.11273551991221464,0.0,0.0,0.16459176426596028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07990845252574884,0.07091799863027093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07957172058977936,0.0,0.06329376316647772,0.14100058104048505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11812004044732745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06279735744012106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05245894376023785,0.2369900292604647,0.05918829557844114,0.061963417654149484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16820953610523715,0.2095573925088974,0.0,0.11145043881171257,0.0,0.0647797338916782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04923868015829632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04321702392405199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050319186671747236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26745348143124553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21857459165516166,0.058828998308621074,0.059450543118802164,0.0,0.0,0.06870530207001868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618697010209026,0.0,0.0,0.15794740411007893,0.0,0.0,0.14318279540107634
divorce,i8bonelesschicken,2020/04/18,"Thinking of throwing in the towel is it the kid? Hi All
First time posting.apologies if it's long

27M married to 26F been together for close to 4 years and married for 3. We always got along, sex daily and used to fight once a month. After a year the sex became every other day and the fighting got worse. About 2 years ago it felt like we clicked no more fighting and life was just smooth. Had a kid shortly after. 

Life changed alot after the baby. We were saving for a second condo since we had to move due a job change for me (wife was stay at home). We rented our first place out and hence moved into a basement rental. Wife didn't like it so I saved as quickly as possible and we bought a second place. She didn't want to sell the first cause in our city rentals have gone through the roof and the couple living there would be out of options.

Our child is a baby girl whose healthy and a handful. Doesn't stop sometimes would barely sleep. When we planned for her I mentioned to my wife that children are like pets they need to be fed and exercised. I grew up in a home with alot of fighting and my parents never really spent time to take us out. So I would watch TV from after school till bedtime everyday and never had a chance to make friends. 

I'm trying to raise the little one differently but I feel it's a one way struggle. She only gets to go to the park when I take her, she only eats fruits and vegetables when she's with me. Wife is working and has an opposite work schedule of mine. I'm just tired of being the only one trying to make the little one strong and healthy. Some days I have to work 12-15 hours (4 day week though) and my wife is of. What do they do?

She puts her on the TV with herself and they sit and eat chips together for hours!!

In the past few months I can't find myself to care about my wife anymore. She's been putting on alot of weight which even effects us alot in the bedroom she gets exhausted from even mild sexual activity from her part. Sex has dropped to once a week at times, she keeps accusing me of wanting a fitter wife. She accuses me of not loving her when I get home and she's sleeping so I do things with the little one instead of lying down with her waiting for her to wake up. 

I don't ask her to exercise or diet. I don't ask her to cook or clean. I don't ask her for anything and she accuses me of being in my own world and not demanding things from her. I don't say I love you to her cause I don't anymore.

I want to break up but I'm the primary earner 4Xs what she earns and my parents are in love with the child. If we were to break I know she would take the little one and leave the country to be with her parents and I don't think I would argue.

We've tried talking it through but whatever we agree upon 48 hours later she acts like we never had the discussion. Should I just move on?",1.984064729536904,3.716108596964588,3.0851559865092746,93.25503713192371,77.70151770657672,5.978064599818393,22.196426255026594,6.759486899279683,0.3926842910883384,2230,64,494,21,52,715,268,593,0.08800000000000001,0.8440000000000001,0.068,-0.9125,9,0,0,0,7,0,45.0,15,1,3,10,18,19,5,1,40,0,44,24,4,6,4,95,81,41,0,12,12,10,5,4,1,6,6,1,8,6,14,46,8,3,7,5,4,10,16,7,0,11,19,9,81,12,86,51,10,86,0,0,2,6,81,30,0,10,44,334,95,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05746434281581219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0539404299769759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285799570876202,0.0,0.0,0.05334627928752904,0.0,0.1818106938292959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06609443339912098,0.13318833032280242,0.13715463715243825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0717287424716261,0.0,0.1254222325704072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06772937860967722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13266637564583672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08563393096127679,0.0,0.054618705858137474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032777976365380816,0.0,0.06224313169901525,0.0,0.05924979493216578,0.16542290239950272,0.0,0.0,0.050084411318090896,0.0,0.10160673739837288,0.0,0.036842113045037116,0.0,0.10369455770608338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19507730839527693,0.0,0.19152167269721032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06432980799734417,0.05762033258170849,0.0,0.0,0.03562667747308429,0.0,0.0,0.0686413800673834,0.0,0.0,0.09157705014063204,0.12668284789688286,0.2598907530903828,0.057242550840166925,0.057368975228961186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17552400378949642,0.0,0.08654372458490486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034869987994928,0.2066993550971537,0.0,0.048067661936427364,0.14999343634273438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13807516109379345,0.26356667567791225,0.1479092958803101,0.0,0.0,0.21594482359448886,0.07020024709614449,0.0618837578069939,0.0,0.0,0.13545875721935444,0.0,0.0,0.07308158131861933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13033608190066098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04152919931743401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05155224178369789,0.0,0.06560737882365257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05362474193926279,0.0,0.12974564484845486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06411457739031708,0.0,0.0,0.06909589687017438,0.0,0.054197443613745636,0.0,0.06777021655774701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14622326612790942,0.05210468794326481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08613503555886616,0.08307577398893058,0.06369122161595253,0.0,0.11340169599832513,0.07450795744315904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13203780806055648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559554064633833,0.055988855182507916,0.0,0.0,0.1147081735169732,0.05145586604794245,0.1039990233099114,0.07894061090748053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14158231301605326,0.0,0.06606323821000183,0.2302526730630349,0.0,0.0,0.12523746710553887
divorce,Gnar8520,2020/04/18,"split custody taxes calim vs covid 19 stimulus check according to the contract that my mom and dad signed my dad was able to claim me on even years, but that was when i was still a kid (under 18), i am 19 years old now turning 20 and attempting to apply for the stimulus check. is my father allowed to claim me even if ive been living with my mom for the whole time i am considered an adult? if so then am i not eligible for said stimulus check and will my father (who i have not lived with for 2 years going on 3) claim my check?",7.1521621621621625,4.690747459459463,7.73827027027027,79.12362162162165,65.3963963963964,11.402522522522526,32.10990990990991,9.888512548439397,2.632155315315316,412,11,92,7,5,138,67,111,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,0,5,0,11,0,0,1,0,13,14,9,0,2,6,6,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,3,5,0,0,0,0,5,1,2,0,0,0,5,1,14,0,13,8,1,13,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,2,9,61,17,1,0.21916358279211728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2895109589064325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12455571472750765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3870509177368225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.513363478692616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22997531285747666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084747551907669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17502432032292595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12779604759292928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383870436707504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446883134046403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4234024852734234
divorce,jakeup58874,2020/04/18,"Does your ex throw you off balance? By this I mean, you are doing your own thing, child is with your ex, you are feeling good, then ex does something to annoy you.  As an example, our child plays roblox.  her account requires 2 step verification.  To get the verification code, it requires accessing a Gmail.  I have sent child the username and password, and her mom just excuses ""it doesn't work"" - but really she just doesn't want to do it.  Checking remember me for 30 days should work but mom just unchecks it randomly at random times to get the child to call me as a nuisance. I tried to walk child through setting up the email but her mother keeps whispering unhelpful answers to my questions.  example, I was asking if the phone is iPhone or Android and they told her to say it is an Android when it is an iPhone.  This is of course just an example but it does get annoying that mom won't get the password for child, and will have the child call me just to annoy me - where I have to immediately drop everything and grab the password.  I've thought to disable 2 step authentication - but this could cause child's account more susceptible to hacking - or the other thing I have thought about is to set the child's email as her school email which the child does regularly have access to.  Child is 10 year old and I feel is old enough to be able to grab her authentication code if mom allows.  As opposed to just having child call me whenever mom feels I should be called.

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There are of course other things, but I wanted to know, just going based off this example, swhats the best way to not be rattled by your ex when you know they are doing things to annouy you.",5.94855140186916,6.5162610124610625,5.851431464174457,81.6975210280374,66.601246105919,9.03682242990654,30.69174454828661,8.982922981607832,2.30451015576324,1319,47,262,21,20,413,150,321,0.042,0.925,0.033,-0.4278,0,0,1,0,0,0,36.0,1,10,2,5,12,6,3,0,18,0,32,0,0,2,0,49,51,23,0,7,18,10,5,0,0,4,0,2,0,12,19,7,0,4,11,1,3,6,4,3,0,0,5,7,35,3,37,38,4,23,0,0,0,0,56,5,0,7,8,174,54,5,0.09506615080935103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10300413468371357,0.11551577874209926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08887401801970267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09976606015899944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3882926760368258,0.0,0.0,0.09765912405765907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07590258581817141,0.0,0.0,0.06130980264559985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3327721168509929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09822874657001672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08543932644665411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14420490680230588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19867256034883726,0.0,0.054028284305259314,0.07973697691590836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08449916286513058,0.0,0.0,0.1044917405803827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355490782848137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5567016342730713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19951186685311764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10649584581716644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060901810516385525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10769141682844767,0.0,0.0,0.07560041879949378,0.0,0.09621201995862833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07318656740494565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526309055145213,0.0,0.0,0.1509438095010668,0.05543383703866602,0.0,0.0,0.09083978106872652,0.0,0.0645436760935185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11214495765278208,0.0754590855473766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13841858004319826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11551577874209926,0.061219484255035074
divorce,AdorableBite3,2020/04/18,"Verbally Abusive Ex-Spouse Hi there.  I’m at my wits end with my ex.  I’m 44 years old and have been divorced for 5 years now.  We were married for 14 years with 3 children (but together for 20 years total since we started dating at 15).  We divorced because we became different people and because my ex will never forgive me for becoming an alcoholic (I’ve been sober now for 10 years by the way and I was 5 years sober when we divorced).  Anyway, every communication I ever get from him is highly verbally abusive and harassing.  He’s constantly telling me that I’m a bad mother, that I’m lazy, that I don’t parent my children, etc etc.  I’m at the point where I feel like there should be repercussions for his behavior, it’s been constant since we divorced.  Lately I’ve just been ignoring his messages, but that doesn’t stop him.  Plus his new wife totally feeds into his behavior, tells my kids I’m parenting them wrong, etc.  Has anyone else dealt with this??  Can I file a restraining order or something??  It really wears me down, I know what he thinks shouldn’t matter, but now even his parents (whom I used to be very close with) think I’m mentally abusing the kids because it’s what my ex tells them.  It needs to stop.",4.096291666666668,5.52405337916667,4.9991666666666665,82.9691666666667,71.45833333333334,8.333333333333334,28.75,8.841846274778883,2.25725,961,37,187,18,18,313,136,240,0.128,0.86,0.013000000000000001,-0.9768,4,0,2,0,4,0,33.0,6,0,2,0,11,6,1,0,6,0,17,3,1,1,4,40,32,10,0,3,5,8,1,1,0,3,1,0,0,4,12,17,2,4,5,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,6,1,31,2,20,21,5,33,0,0,0,0,40,9,0,1,23,111,43,0,0.0,0.3640151466176808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094444942749888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160702731141666,0.10493052324277337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08550756382668377,0.18728344263871094,0.11310312644217695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22133634009730851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10699601684820507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08554990527926166,0.0,0.09070432369222413,0.0,0.3426406249339439,0.06764043689750948,0.0926351571913199,0.08628432878298165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0517812651383052,0.07316128937976163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053504679996252635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10820114423799873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05628152304664797,0.0,0.11552225366656535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050032055535560435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10320457916383348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07593526578832313,0.07898443566385795,0.0989076279635294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074614287215884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3411405280528781,0.0,0.0,0.07099777716192128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09680997611827023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656060782052672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16942821297918162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07883975244795216,0.0,0.0,0.07248589403516052,0.0,0.0,0.17123767289952427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685309647841521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13123960526233527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08844883291994934,0.0,0.0844984727390415,0.0,0.08128780779657106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11196859254307087,0.0,0.3956897410110352
divorce,fizzysnork,2020/04/18,"First lonely night I have a strange story...  I have two kids. The wife told me in December she was legally separating from me. That's not happened yet, and now we're sheltering in place.

She's at one end of the house, me and the kids at the other... separated by a single, convenient door that divides the home.

Earlier this week she told the kids I would be given full custody. That lasted 24 hours until she realized, as the bread earner, she would be giving me a lot of child support, in addition to spousal support. (She earns six figures; we've been married almost 20 years.)

So, she wants 50% custody, despite her having shunned the kids the past 4.5 months, and really most of the time before that. 

So I told her to take the kids this weekend. She needs to start acting like a mother. So far, she blew her 5 p.m. home arrival by 30 minutes, then cleaned herself up for half an hour. And now she's been gone a full hour to a grocery store that is 5 minutes away and not busy... to buy dinner despite our kitchen being fully stocked, and then some.

The kids are sitting in silence on her side of the house, looking at screens, bored and uncomfortable. I ate my dinner alone and am here now wishing I'd kept my mouth shut and hoarded my time with the kids until sometime after we hammer out a custody agreement.

It's going to be a long weekend.",5.12738537239991,5.783757372623576,5.429080742563187,83.69356967121449,68.42965779467681,7.709147841646165,31.44016998434355,7.510576382923642,1.9698192350704544,1051,42,205,10,17,334,156,263,0.043,0.892,0.065,0.7003,0,3,0,0,0,0,45.0,2,0,0,2,8,6,0,0,23,0,15,6,1,0,0,27,33,17,0,5,2,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,5,8,9,13,5,1,2,2,2,3,2,2,0,5,10,2,29,4,30,17,6,47,0,1,2,0,31,17,0,4,27,138,38,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340241677350731,0.13862071085329594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12574965740718536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11389031135052315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118544938505866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11384656386545568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12839414937835605,0.07606591194230124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11835669045934025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26851035650781635,0.0,0.3954244066462601,0.30887309725470674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10909969454786952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06538880072476125,0.0,0.0,0.11844661061247302,0.11239419007029136,0.0,0.0,0.11378830888260574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068319958770069,0.0,0.0,0.09924269369834963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12560234208085566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09069530258544624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277680372526731,0.0,0.0,0.13983717337093632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574308467195113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13237388941367126,0.0,0.09473457825558394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3037663040706409,0.0,0.0,0.10063308141966566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15608955276029687,0.0,0.0,0.38367741321885995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307449061073208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07894391413017017,0.0,0.10736057049044168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15391254240804253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19015608070342851,0.0,0.0,0.08619033453267168
divorce,crazywitch7,2020/04/18,"Harassing Aunt? So long story short my parents are in the middle of a nasty divorce. I have sided with my mother for multiple reasons. My aunt on my dad's side has reached out twice to my mother in a negative manner. The texts I believe have been what I think harrassment. She doesn't want to bring it up to her attorney, because she doesn't think it will matter. Could it possibly help her legally to bring it up?

 I am the one that finds her aggressive.My aunt is saying my mother should be ashamed of herself and lying saying she only married my dad for money. She is also saying how she is not going to tell my dad, because it would hurt his feelings.

Some background their marriage was rocky. There was some good times, there was some bad times. Things drastically turned when my father was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. He became very angry. He then took out a bunch of loans, cheated on her, and asked for a divorce. So yeah.",3.1227843137254894,5.4468992000000025,3.813856209150327,86.57794117647059,76.44444444444444,6.235294117647059,24.47712418300653,7.285733465282438,1.1754084967320255,736,25,137,9,17,233,112,180,0.18600000000000005,0.754,0.06,-0.9819,1,0,0,0,2,0,21.0,0,0,1,0,7,6,2,1,7,1,20,2,0,2,0,21,30,8,0,4,1,11,1,0,0,3,2,3,0,0,8,6,0,0,5,0,2,4,4,5,0,2,6,4,25,1,21,19,4,22,0,1,0,0,34,12,0,3,5,99,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14704034465594756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718931291348077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15352332296469384,0.2241702383853125,0.0,0.0,0.20715792250218495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14680480613373767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18662363645880986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09296992611626344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680533598488125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10449725418014932,0.15422098353634522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12324382652520807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968360650617067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16271869040809545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12459470800016033,0.13984101353721282,0.0,0.0,0.2041652812951288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20728519478791813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18904843334056776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4386611354220305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16071001670347035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12215470233219315,0.23563225757767264,0.0,0.0,0.21443152725272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20428574094671634,0.0,0.19999717837286274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15171156491644788,0.10845097429573658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13061559239728748,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Skinbag69,2020/04/18,"What did you do with your “ex” wedding ring/band? I’m conflicted!  You are now divorced or on that difficult road - what did you do with your wedding ring/band?  I am considering melting it down (it’s a platinum band - with “Forever my love” etched in it - lol - guess not!).  I can see regretting it, so for the moment, I’ll wait. But it got me curious!",0.835108695652174,3.1803927101449325,2.823025362318841,90.18497282608696,85.66666666666666,6.928260869565218,24.56702898550725,8.07648339933343,1.6160855072463782,263,11,57,6,8,88,50,69,0.07200000000000001,0.7809999999999999,0.147,0.7458,0,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,0,5,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,1,7,1,0,0,0,10,13,3,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,1,9,1,7,10,0,6,0,1,1,1,11,4,0,2,2,38,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4400842393022312,0.0,0.6061610994835471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4966210339018322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4384770603771068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,dayyyyyyyyyyy,2020/04/18,"Is hiring a paralegal worth the money/necessary? In the very early stages of working out my divorce, nothing has been filed yet. I am thinking our divorce will be pretty straight forward, we have no children, only been married 4 years and we don’t really share any joint accounts/bills besides filing our taxes together. The tax thing is what I am the most nervous/confused about. We owe tax for 2018 that we pay towards monthly, so not sure how that gets sorted out in a divorce. In reading about what documents I will need and what all needs to be sent in when filing, I felt like it was a lot and I definitely want to make sure I do it all right the first time, so was thinking of hiring a paralegal but also have heard from some people they were able to do it on their own without having to pay for that additional help. Any thoughts ?",4.548415132924337,5.9732678036809865,5.0547392638036825,83.0160148261759,70.34969325153375,7.396523517382414,30.147750511247445,7.793537801064563,2.006624130879346,664,27,124,8,12,212,108,163,0.048,0.8540000000000001,0.09699999999999999,0.7761,1,0,0,0,3,0,16.0,6,0,2,2,8,4,0,0,9,0,20,0,0,2,4,30,32,9,0,3,3,0,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,10,10,0,0,4,1,7,2,4,0,0,1,9,2,15,4,20,19,6,20,0,0,0,0,16,11,0,4,9,93,25,9,0.2009466176991349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16069693757398484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733011815770953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19294026562891048,0.0,0.0,0.17092509036125692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049863139820088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13469028207082145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09817236720207534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708376284487535,0.0,0.0,0.13413342769023132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16039367310488953,0.0,0.0,0.29799874167712204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928136992425692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528289577615819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13931108317381227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044349518131177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2010009967077127,0.0,0.1287315488302857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17160731356139572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37877961815179456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13350000383211932,0.2575169575056132,0.0,0.15952916849810225,0.11717358875025866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16580200443405216,0.11852352146628956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937053686651912,0.0,0.14629153094763625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294030335045888
divorce,BeautifulAshes90,2020/04/18,"Going Through Divorce During Quarantine, & Just Looking For Online Friends to Chat With. Hi guys! 
So I'm (29F) newly separated (about 1 1/2 months) from my (26M) STBX, but I'm hopeful for the future and doing well despite these crazy circumstances. I'm new to Reddit and am just looking to meet/talk to some new people online, so feel free to message me if you're looking for a friend. :)",2.4115,4.954613533333337,3.484916666666667,86.77537500000004,80.33333333333334,5.3500000000000005,25.375,6.6274283507984215,1.1001000000000003,305,12,56,3,8,98,58,75,0.0,0.708,0.292,0.978,0,1,0,0,1,0,19.0,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,10,11,6,0,2,4,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,4,2,6,12,11,1,5,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,3,4,29,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501763678128896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167482577774663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3567802781975795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13122385783984544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22862393384896024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22933242080758734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5816849693853399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842994618975338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4460027469317953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16007462868255426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855859395224763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20760377145700093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,fierynight1591,2020/04/19,"How much is too much? I miss my wedding ring. I threw my band out the door when I found out he was cheating on me. 

He's my best friend and I love him. But how do we keep doing this if he keeps going behind my back. The trust is gone. I question every day if he still loves me. 

So much of our lives are together. I don't want to leave him. I don't want him to leave me. It's been so many times. And she's still in the wings, waiting for him to dump my ass. 

It just kills me. I could never hurt him like that. I can't forget it. It haunts me. He gave her what was mine. There is nothing left for me. If anything, she has more of him than I do. 

I just want to be okay.",-2.26992746767581,-0.4848253973509921,0.10832544938505252,107.09295805739515,97.67549668874172,3.141091138442132,11.826237779880163,4.375723439535773,-1.9318252286345,499,7,138,1,21,165,89,151,0.138,0.696,0.166,0.7692,0,1,0,0,0,0,22.0,2,0,0,1,12,12,3,0,3,1,16,3,1,2,1,24,30,11,1,7,6,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,7,5,0,3,2,1,0,3,4,5,0,0,7,1,34,7,14,21,5,15,0,2,0,3,23,5,1,4,8,98,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363757173187281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12743057890212273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17391582041450174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13231614502077374,0.0,0.0,0.10687747526129857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13962857934808992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18170646094921464,0.12803699922869066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09418406796421457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17740965037818232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946040208585334,0.1833476885846482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35095296502244416,0.18005827199978205,0.0,0.0,0.08096377331584358,0.0,0.1463362400572608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29914253618863124,0.0,0.0,0.16801687522663708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3654759076874112,0.0,0.12781561493157614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15901546517190018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856474272564332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26469283270941524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09663427855062733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29324274634754843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,lost_353,2020/04/19,"Best time to divorce When is the best time to start filing a divorce? I called the cops on my abusive partner (took a lot of strength) and got a report filed but they didn’t arrest him. I wouldn’t say I’m in imminent danger since the police scared him but I would like him out the house ASAP. 

I just don’t know if all of this moving too fast.
Sorry if it’s a dumb question.",0.7614999999999981,2.70192415,2.3225000000000016,96.2225,82.5,4.5,18.75,5.148860815047168,-0.524,292,7,66,1,8,95,58,80,0.23199999999999998,0.6709999999999999,0.098,-0.9118,0,0,0,0,2,0,7.0,0,0,1,3,3,7,2,1,8,0,5,0,0,0,1,13,10,6,0,4,5,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,3,1,9,4,7,5,4,10,0,0,0,0,10,3,1,4,6,43,11,1,0.0,0.26733345726686103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4735674082629063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303924249704381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18045611439205952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2603455601940681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12399979184471205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11023092724108616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19182169818531344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23980790823437556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527561057038107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794292284240165,0.22589397964533606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866426315846771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525731810716858,0.1597013599754224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631321563127932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506821091467289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602803604297659,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,coltoncarter,2020/04/19,"Seeking professional advice/help to edit letter to my wife Hello,

I recently turned 30, wife is 28. As of early March, she asked me for a divorce to which I was devastated to hear. The trauma this has caused me in the past few months has been devastating and traumatic but, not as devastating as the emotional abuse I perpetrated on to her and our relationship for the past year or so. We have been together since 2012 and have many happy years together, recently married in Sept 2018. I don't want the marriage to end and am seeking help.

I am in therapy, which has been helpful. However, the therapist is asking to charge by the hour to read the letter I have written to my wife over the past month which will cost a lot of money that I am not willing to yet part with. The letter is 3 pages long at the moment and I am seeking out a professional in writing or marriage counseling who would be willing to help edit what I have written. Right now it seems a little all over the place however, I have the groundwork of what I would like to say written down. Please let me know if you're willing to help read/edit, I would be eternally grateful. I know I am subjecting myself to the public, trolls, etc but feel this may be the best place to actually find a professional who may help. Thank you for the consideration.",6.905025210084034,6.578423337254902,7.524551820728291,73.55691176470589,64.64705882352942,10.893557422969188,33.900560224089645,10.451354775682146,3.4111736694677868,1041,40,198,23,14,346,136,255,0.081,0.7609999999999999,0.158,0.9739,2,0,0,0,2,0,25.0,2,1,0,1,3,5,0,0,21,0,34,0,0,1,1,31,47,14,0,5,7,3,1,1,0,9,0,2,0,0,11,8,0,0,6,1,2,0,3,1,0,0,7,3,25,4,36,27,7,32,0,0,0,0,29,14,0,7,19,148,36,6,0.0,0.1336182811837286,0.11005077080316386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21085619492787305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11834894098862678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158495573713231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12685512684099054,0.0998839411516306,0.0,0.12577238005834246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057021723213342826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10307303200808894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12004959966053205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271040490994593,0.0,0.4535386220541034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105928452446208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12395484817219266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11531865187458865,0.0,0.055095487043882216,0.11302877901332925,0.0,0.09980109174750576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09587608624565064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143347350683727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180029631358106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12212282463088288,0.3229655000421762,0.0,0.0,0.2356488294116718,0.12379155313715848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256082465063161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227006598819874,0.1210766475489074,0.0,0.09630804258285663,0.0,0.08968209718773454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10266485461540044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09328749152059054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038267839772957,0.12896644576501398,0.13093884756222288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226652986081267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06651679415960142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24033340032058115,0.0,0.0,0.14524500853108513
divorce,FlexedTW,2020/04/19,"Dating apps post divorce Has anyone actually had decent experiences from dating apps after a divorce? I’m about 6 months out of a divorce. I was the one left but feel like I’ve worked on myself a good bit. A few weeks ago I thought “what the hell. I’ll give it a try” I’m 30yo. It’s honestly been depressing. Only a few “ matches “. Dead end conversations. No responses. I guess I shall keep drowning myself in work, CrossFit, and golf.",0.6238190045248899,3.1243118705882367,2.785882352941176,86.73493212669683,95.0,5.4389140271493215,21.832579185520363,7.010146845296331,1.0671719457013578,339,13,65,6,13,114,64,85,0.20199999999999999,0.6759999999999999,0.121,-0.8573,0,0,0,0,3,0,12.0,0,0,0,2,1,5,1,0,8,0,5,0,0,0,0,7,12,2,2,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,4,1,6,3,7,7,3,12,1,1,0,0,5,4,1,1,8,35,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.2289884608249631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208006618302902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16407553712755873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.256181399939233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021071517167988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20783380051333114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295366446583257,0.0,0.0,0.1186481161096516,0.1676368689308136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251015046725056,0.0,0.19681664733477766,0.0,0.0,0.25849784297969725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085712624300949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549522643481473,0.0,0.0,0.11464009460820222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18729858903629334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15900762750918382,0.1784649456460322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247336736019109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18628906983312168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15931466713097464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18822528967952312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34166182249013205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,TheR3528,2020/04/19,"Dissolution with a lawyer? Hi everyone,
I read posts often but have never created a post.

I was wondering if anyone has experienced a dissolution  with a lawyer?  I finished most of the paperwork and we agree to most things but I’d like to have a lawyer look it over to make sure I did it correctly before going in front of a judge. Is this normal? Does it cost the same amount as getting a dissolution through a lawyer?

TIA!",2.3676287262872653,4.973154109756101,4.080406504065042,82.03600271002712,81.07317073170732,8.034688346883469,23.74525745257453,8.841846274778883,2.0781338753387537,335,12,65,9,9,112,56,82,0.026000000000000002,0.777,0.19699999999999998,0.9446,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,10,0,6,0,0,1,3,17,11,5,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,1,1,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,2,5,2,11,9,4,8,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,5,3,46,10,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18955301710940128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23067833635902565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372334191875544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590389130569197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416337739961694,0.0,0.15406717052935326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324412901223532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22764802795243064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18095523942354388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20908196648990976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26561146321055035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5192601727605929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711641990363005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25549990659192073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18010070697868644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2939864498560644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,soulsisterofthesea,2020/04/19,"Book recommendations for women recovering from a covert narcissist who gaslighted and gave me an armchair mental health diagnosis to justify him wanting to move on and cheat? I have some time to read, so anyone that is recovering or has recovered, please give me your recommendations.",13.76978723404256,12.214314595744682,12.65585106382979,46.18250000000002,51.97872340425533,16.208510638297874,46.90425531914894,14.554592549557764,7.087391489361703,234,11,33,8,2,76,41,47,0.062,0.89,0.048,-0.1779,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,0,3,1,0,0,0,5,6,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,6,5,1,3,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,2,1,23,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540088635989782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3484844748783665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3861421135074689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36609364828969176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3861016102907751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3987645638781471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3633712145356386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118273538593212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21426777305425115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,teegerthestumpy,2020/04/19,"Did anyone divorce after a lengthy marriage simply because you felt you married the wrong person? Maybe you feel your spouse is a ""good"" person but something about them or the marriage makes you miserable?",9.793428571428574,10.563783342857146,7.417857142857144,73.04964285714289,58.42857142857143,8.142857142857144,40.35714285714286,7.1686216300943375,3.4195714285714285,167,8,23,1,2,48,28,35,0.17800000000000002,0.8220000000000001,0.0,-0.7724,0,0,1,0,1,0,4.0,0,5,1,0,1,3,0,1,4,0,2,0,0,1,0,5,5,2,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,6,1,2,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,12,0,0,1,1,16,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326334857975003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20281249726939954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16822449779601392,0.0,0.3194467972823662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790552664585866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220816569547096,0.0,0.33424461237838343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5810063849281188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25613081732349696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3637582086720932,0.0,0.0
divorce,StraightPossibility0,2020/04/19,"Does and Don’ts when talking with the kids (Wasn’t sure which flair to use.  There’s no custody issue, just a question about kids and divorce.)

Hi, My husband (43m) and I (40f) are cohabitating (different bedrooms) and are discussing a divorce.  We have 4 kids under 11yrs of age and have been together for nearly 16yrs.  We are amicable and plan to keep it as such.  

What advice do you have based on personal experience for how to discuss divorce with your kids?  

Things you wish you Had Not said (in particular)! 

And things you wish you had said to them?

We are thinking about keeping the discussing focused at first and giving them short phrases that will be easily remembered in the future:  “We are a family.  Nothing changes that.”  Etc 

Thanks everyone",4.631034063260341,7.015432729927009,4.8829379562043815,80.38868917274941,72.06569343065694,7.778345498783455,30.39476885644769,8.59863814320734,2.5666403892944043,592,26,104,11,12,186,94,137,0.016,0.853,0.131,0.9377,1,0,0,0,3,0,23.0,4,6,2,2,7,2,0,0,6,0,16,0,0,2,1,26,26,11,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,5,7,14,0,2,3,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,6,2,14,2,18,18,1,11,0,0,0,0,30,7,0,1,4,78,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17204331089573624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18624761189890388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18394471063240805,0.0,0.0,0.1540708594897561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963528875839614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16823240213226068,0.0,0.17221997930643745,0.16597323265651487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14975612522698253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16889232015329408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837603817871933,0.0,0.31297955542651595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16893384364003794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15372836905401854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972269389924449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994410987006829,0.0,0.33494581343062274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16593400012098622,0.0,0.0,0.14150996130571825,0.0,0.16209193809516326,0.0,0.0,0.2339322243379329,0.11281182199399177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15205888458741462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4049194844756471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,lexibillings,2020/04/19,"Venting I think that the hardest thing about all of this isn’t losing my husband. Yes I love him. Yes he was my best friend. Yes I miss him. But the thing that breaks me down is the loss of the life I thought I would have. I got married young and I imagined us having fun together and growing up together; buying the fixer upper house and arguing when the sink breaks for fifth time that week. I imagined adopting a bunch of dogs and fostering kids. I imagined the vacations we would take and the hardships that we would face together. I imagined having someone to get old with. So while I can accept that my husband and I are not going to be together, I’m struggling to accept that my life will not be the way I imagined. I don’t know what life looks like now...",3.4954385964912262,5.073296263157896,4.100000000000001,88.22833333333338,73.21052631578948,6.908771929824562,27.798245614035093,7.492282038375204,1.493458771929824,600,23,121,7,12,190,89,152,0.075,0.723,0.20199999999999999,0.9667,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,3,4,12,1,1,10,3,15,5,1,0,1,26,26,10,0,3,3,2,0,1,1,4,3,0,0,1,10,9,0,0,10,0,1,2,4,5,0,0,3,1,24,7,11,17,3,15,0,3,1,1,12,3,0,0,8,86,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20599807413374374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15165598618982584,0.0,0.10255532981320377,0.0,0.11155820424196464,0.0,0.15699396276774802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264965159066648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10787785589676772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4159440278700895,0.09589916166289184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648372272323858,0.2196023831151581,0.0,0.0,0.17716268192126888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20597716434361366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16631897169092713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052087417198168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14758839490452685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608175561895272,0.1257770442060034,0.0,0.15583523098975258,0.11446040520804222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361170905915829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15580876175604702,0.15745492487346355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41832412865284097,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Bluebirdregalia,2020/04/19,"My husband left us. Out of the blue my husband left the kids and I Monday (we had been bickering but he never let me know he was already making arrangements to leave us). I work from home FT right now b.c of the virus and he works morning until 2. 

I've hired an attorney and am going to file for divorce. 

Thankfully my family has been helping me. My brother bought us dinner. My mom & sister have been alternating days babysitting the kids since daycares/schools are closed. They've been a god-send. 

My 7yr old from a previous relationship isn't his biological child but he's been around since she was 1.5 - so she is having the hardest time. 

We are all just taking it day by day. I found a great book called ""Runaway Husband's"" to help me cope.",2.6920408163265317,4.940762795918371,3.756700680272108,86.8305612244898,77.50340136054422,6.648979591836735,24.785714285714285,7.7094869923839395,1.3154979591836735,589,21,117,9,14,190,102,147,0.009000000000000001,0.884,0.10800000000000001,0.9468,0,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,5,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,9,0,17,1,0,1,2,16,24,7,0,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,8,1,0,2,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,10,1,20,2,12,13,1,16,0,0,1,0,26,6,0,0,9,69,21,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15987182060536767,0.0,0.0,0.15697068192922467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289683807259612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14793232896130826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802948122357556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365741079372369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15884662391604526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823351087497998,0.0,0.0,0.1597238557582648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942116841118316,0.0,0.14532021531726433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07961884163795477,0.0,0.0,0.15340041668282275,0.31481157539374754,0.1481432572730148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09670437423879967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16967442216040438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11173559162163564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15202066348632848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555402240315681,0.0,0.12372141798300475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14662000150836646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396821785901289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089270540633311,0.0,0.0,0.13338031377010592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08447706714523517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5227959645902399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21093967701173508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,trust_help,2020/04/19,"Just starting during a pandemic 33(F) divorcing 34(M) because of his drinking problem/lack of communication in NJ. Been together ~12 years and married for < 3 years, no kids. He has forced my hand and I am 100% sure of my decision to leave - I did everything I could to save the marriage and I am in a good place mentally about leaving. I have been at my parents house for over a month quarantining with them. He is in the house we share with our cats. 

I know I need to start the process but I feel very conflicted to start during this pandemic. I want my house back and to start unraveling my life with him. What steps should I take? I don’t want to ruin his life I just need mine back. Help please :(",2.103206577595067,4.400177496402883,3.223150051387464,89.63807553956836,79.7913669064748,7.136896197327852,24.31706063720452,8.192908349453996,1.4300931140801645,548,20,117,11,14,176,89,139,0.098,0.768,0.134,0.2617,1,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,2,0,1,0,5,5,0,0,6,0,11,4,1,0,1,23,22,5,0,6,3,1,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,8,1,1,3,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,2,24,4,20,17,0,16,0,1,0,0,14,6,0,0,9,73,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22477117217398127,0.0,0.08909585138105129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166943416175848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431780579711995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313563410319978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07390128841210743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12258942068283082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09796584712416884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5059361002236571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08032397539600046,0.0,0.0,0.30951797443617746,0.0,0.0,0.2064697929772348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472917154469946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11666099303894413,0.0,0.0,0.2167468856809231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16228987121988214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15270278698147524,0.16043631717589335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398523542925375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4138022465533899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377510893699751,0.0,0.1098917521348477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12059469747584632,0.17241417875239667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18824042243891828
divorce,MNDadthrowaway,2020/04/19,"It's all over now. And it was all a lie. We had been having problems for a while, but she recently said she wanted a divorce. I recognized the faults I had and the blame I shared for the marriage being in the state that it was. 

We agreed to some discernment prior to separation or divorce. I was happy and hopeful. There was a chance! I had started therapy, she did the same. I was spending more time with the kids, doing the things that I hadn't in years. 

The counseling session came, and it went okay. There was still hope that we could make it work. But, it all came to an end tonight. I found out about her ongoing affair. Even drove by the guy's place and saw her car myself. It's over now. There is no going back. I just hope the kids can forgive me as they grow older. I know it's not going to be easy for them.",0.8781722550953291,3.0364432899408307,2.315453648915188,95.1845677186062,83.55621301775146,5.412360289283368,19.448060486522024,6.691623216298621,0.05340210387902733,632,17,142,7,18,204,101,169,0.065,0.745,0.19,0.9741,0,0,0,0,2,0,23.0,3,0,2,1,10,9,0,0,15,1,19,0,0,1,3,33,35,10,0,6,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,12,12,0,0,4,0,1,8,3,2,0,0,19,2,22,7,16,13,6,28,0,0,1,0,20,6,0,5,13,110,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13770043813299487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40963656719635855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14297974080007828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15861054223005805,0.0,0.0,0.11827976811111746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19635051099878492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20354906232956105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17731603127324372,0.0,0.19063256692837788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5335965576563599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09841694998192928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11953639825320868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18709908809126696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17135409557865405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17681857569702591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17034481730244455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12675279952429605,0.0,0.14301245175518404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20479205822705274,0.0,0.11897190655363606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10442220862315796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10562523532229792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16600771489680854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303713996246575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153207877748461
divorce,loohme32,2020/04/19,"Watching in disbelief I read posts on here all the time about cheating spouses blah blah blah but, then I saw my cousin go threw a cheating/divorce ordeal and it hit me like a ton of bricks, make me think and want to ask yall . . . What kind of person do you have to be to knowingly sleep around with a married person( kids and no kids) . . . How is that love all of a sudden? How do these people sleep at night?? Kind of f'ed up if you ask me",0.9645665445665444,2.9185868241758257,2.098388278388281,98.02716727716732,81.85714285714286,4.923565323565324,18.902319902319906,5.82211442006289,-0.421784859584859,335,8,78,2,9,106,65,91,0.092,0.792,0.11699999999999999,0.7461,0,0,0,0,2,0,14.0,0,3,0,0,5,5,1,0,5,0,5,3,2,3,2,15,16,8,0,2,2,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,5,0,0,2,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,2,2,9,4,14,12,3,12,0,0,2,1,12,5,0,1,5,50,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18901026895476367,0.3969820324105548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12066663907556315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4421982779617767,0.11668579993907972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10372907673313282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19162755032059728,0.0,0.1417255894901554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19924841616849887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471963083722681,0.3707801604626651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033443583001332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123779674988804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4249476917737125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13604641003613271,0.0,0.0,0.12380579713998364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125232138159117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Dirk_diggler22,2020/04/19,"Is it worth it? So for a long time I've had a feeling I don't really love my wife anymore. We have always been opposites but as we have got older, that gulf seems to be widening. My fear is I'll stay with someone I don't love and look back in 20 years full of regret. I'm only 36 so I still have a lifetime ahead of me. The only things holding me back is starting again. I can't leave as I have no where to go and starting from scratch will be tough. I don't know what to do.",0.07485981308411027,1.6013690560747662,2.257766355140188,97.9333785046729,82.73831775700937,5.0276635514018695,20.04579439252336,5.6839178017228535,-0.3237170093457946,367,10,92,2,10,124,71,107,0.187,0.7759999999999999,0.037000000000000005,-0.9571,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,0,1,7,5,0,1,4,0,17,2,0,0,0,11,28,7,0,1,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,1,3,0,1,1,5,3,0,0,3,3,12,2,12,22,1,16,0,1,1,2,5,3,0,1,11,62,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776423353772026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21172656455922745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3283241344929905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.240237704047073,0.1079479023984496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12133234763506448,0.0,0.17074894846664584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11732954651548895,0.0,0.0,0.2260570607963065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18893358362585505,0.17927939853155644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38536948953048494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32474036951987245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367683564302931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943549770376112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18089096565000992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3022212838435863,0.2275539236568812,0.17049488033905694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14183450967119282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12448882419289065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13748176239881474
divorce,camelsships,2020/04/19,My parents. My parents lately have been fighting a lot and my dad is getting really mad at her and he is now probably considering seperation. My dad and mom are not talking to eachother. What should I do as a 15 year old child?,1.8053333333333328,4.300461088888891,3.915555555555557,83.02000000000002,82.55555555555556,7.155555555555559,29.0,8.238735603445708,2.4731333333333336,179,9,34,4,5,61,36,45,0.13,0.87,0.0,-0.7178,2,0,0,0,2,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,2,0,7,0,0,0,0,6,8,4,0,1,1,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,6,0,3,6,1,5,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,1,4,25,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14893165191232502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32155916215929564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24234711410114834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33385785684344915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991216487508317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6330489517392547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3073420005680876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18261620484944416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22911976448987625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18356876064443006
divorce,classifiedtuna,2020/04/19,"Feeling lost Last Wednesday I had to put my wife in jail because of domestic violence. She smashed my Xbox and kicked over my Harley and scratched my neck pretty badly. I now have an order of protection against her but I still don’t feel like I’m out of the woods yet. Her father in law told me she contacted one of my works (military reservist) trying to say I with withheld medication from her, which is 100% untrue. And he also went on to say that they told her to file a restraining order against me and that the police will take my firearms. I have no criminal record and have never/will never make any sort of threats against anyone. What can I do here? I don’t want my firearms taken and I also don’t want anymore heartache or legal troubles.",4.316103896103897,5.784578755102043,4.5524304267161435,86.22601113172544,70.97278911564626,7.522325293753865,29.69016697588126,8.00094639256281,1.9273591836734687,595,24,117,8,11,186,96,147,0.142,0.784,0.07400000000000001,-0.9265,0,0,0,2,1,0,13.0,0,0,1,2,6,5,1,0,4,0,11,2,1,1,1,20,23,10,0,2,2,2,3,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,4,8,0,3,2,1,0,2,5,4,0,1,6,5,24,1,19,16,0,15,0,1,0,0,15,5,0,2,7,79,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31270195268178197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329549499193931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938954930874853,0.13670662422104093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632444584701734,0.1191823771908447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19771361054179,0.13967390171454994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15936847715755967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09551734895180633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134245808307527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13050586212735085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19695789779343775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30158200866658463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324840763146656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19890611978506392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965436872093396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3109581793872839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561362361924392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14700078679402695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3736404293207408,0.0,0.13273989964416352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306362346461411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18124169934004114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14233515609801808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,lifesucks12445,2020/04/19,"Where to even start? My husband has made it very clear to me that he no longer cares. We have been together almost 10 years, married for 6.5. Have two kids, two dogs. I have been a stay at home mom for the past 5 years. I don’t even know where to start. I feel like I’m living with a room mate, taking care of my own kids because he does nothing for them besides the play with them every so often. I’m tired of being given the silent treatment and being treated like complete shit the rest of the time. I’m heartbroken that I’ll have to put my kids through this. I already know the house will be his because I can’t afford the upkeep. I can’t even afford an apartment. I’m not sure how I’m going to get a job with everything going on right now and have to put my kids in day care, which also isn’t even open right now. 

We have a prenup because he comes from a wealthy family. I can’t afford the lawyer that I initially signed it with because it’s one his parents picked out for me. 

Where do I start? Lawyer first, line up an apartment first and use savings to pay for it? Any tips appreciated.
Thanks",2.6604560892770515,4.006447187772928,3.490443959243088,92.69749029597284,74.93886462882097,6.136923823386706,22.76589034449297,6.42735559955562,0.3201468219311021,862,23,192,6,18,274,127,229,0.07200000000000001,0.8029999999999999,0.125,0.9063,5,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,0,2,2,13,11,1,0,15,0,19,2,1,4,2,26,42,6,0,0,1,3,1,2,1,1,1,0,2,4,9,12,0,0,3,1,1,5,7,1,0,5,4,1,21,10,26,34,2,32,0,0,0,0,17,14,1,2,14,115,30,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11733083552052635,0.0,0.12930221895135532,0.09370240844748748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07968098002342938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28570786185383923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3583939984185329,0.0,0.0,0.10093330544634728,0.1228526158305537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556624852209852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025380094132128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095640115628534,0.0,0.09872246609502404,0.0,0.10530664098120264,0.0,0.110459336365334,0.0,0.059245685329849265,0.0837077023387163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993328917494821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061217535459312564,0.0,0.13318309904319464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11753307260691905,0.0,0.0,0.13520075962099676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11627513301784012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12878933704691253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11448864413598893,0.0,0.10346502531914396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108709823171793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13723043374094593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11242969700265837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0793987816523676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13010564293409066,0.0,0.1118539351298714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355804522321771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001285006505208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12027537724878258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488048403639569,0.12488976494222045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11043322613196044,0.0,0.08809876400287939,0.0,0.0,0.10787623778598332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06832393720807357,0.13467198072390565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289200423008521,0.0,0.0,0.10119898980782692,0.0,0.09667917370073646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15090985656410988
divorce,WippleWomps,2020/04/19,"Feeling guilty for not following the ""how to divorce"" guide I come from a Christian family, which adds a few caveats to this imaginary guide (mostly that anyone you get advice or counseling from needs to be Christian). My most closest family and friends understand, but more removed family, no matter how well they're meaning, ask questions about things I've tried as if so long as I don't try these and he hasn't literally cheated on me, beat me, or violently raped me, it's just a phase we need to work through and we'll eventually get back together and our marriage will be stronger than ever. 

Forget the hurt he's caused you, because you're not fucking trying hard enough. So check off these damn boxes, go through the motions, and then we supposed you can divorce. But remember, ""God hates divorce."" 

And, of course, they're praying for us to get back together. Which they can pray for whatever they want. But don't tell *me* that you're praying for that. All it does is tell me what you want and expect from me and my people-pleasing nature can't handle that.

I'm sorry this might not make a lot of sense without context, but I'm too scared to throw that in and give myself away.",7.467763157894738,6.857672881578949,7.0357894736842095,78.4605263157895,63.605263157894754,10.056140350877193,35.2280701754386,9.2995712137729,3.0275017543859644,939,37,179,14,12,294,141,228,0.145,0.733,0.12300000000000001,-0.9107,0,0,0,0,3,0,33.0,5,4,2,2,11,10,6,1,7,0,12,2,0,4,2,47,32,23,0,6,12,0,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,15,13,0,0,5,0,1,6,9,8,1,0,0,2,22,2,26,27,7,16,5,1,0,2,23,5,2,8,5,119,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13421229420220593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960350677093341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12839936941215604,0.0,0.1290404849160692,0.2112202048636459,0.0,0.08372445540587435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14109151612304804,0.0,0.11831086447503217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12019184828614192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419144694790387,0.0,0.0,0.12423673942564074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38843094012217255,0.0,0.06944593974004112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10611268284350553,0.12697357026066386,0.2152718424070292,0.13175418237936753,0.07805653204154737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12303446333541912,0.13560010626713068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470310463175776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12154631976933715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11676611180295672,0.0,0.0,0.09167909292822804,0.0,0.0,0.14960935896656818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14570172026596204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20367968522958704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15076395897971726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15385823385308114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15558551666707449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13750666338799852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537468835822397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24009179316015064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09124615293891443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2797454473627933,0.0,0.0,0.14298136135833006,0.1652095547123003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620197012154659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12348997130123207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13239602387232566,0.0,0.09998905635465133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,loulousattic,2020/04/19,"Caught My Husband Sending Dick Pics Caught my husband in the act of sending a dick pic to some rando, tonight. We have a basement window even with the ground that he's quarantining in. I walked around to knock on the window and noticed he was looking at naked pics of a woman, so I stopped and watched. He proceeded to whip out his boner and take a pic (looked like snapchat).

I confronted him and, after awhile, he fessed up to interacting with amateur porn stars on some app. I asked him to show me his phone to prove he wasn't meeting up with anyone and he refused. After several go-arounds and him showing me his work phone (refused to show me his personal) I told him that if he didn't show me, we were done. He still refused.

So, my marriage is done and I've wasted 11 years in a bullshit marriage. That man got more sex than any man I've heard of. I'm cute, take care of the house, and have been his biggest cheerleader. I've been a chump. Marry the right man, kids. Fuck.",2.6940936374549835,4.552371530612248,3.3554501800720296,91.5408103241297,76.04081632653063,6.244417767106843,26.325330132052823,7.048011613610866,1.0587890756302518,764,29,162,8,17,240,109,196,0.129,0.818,0.053,-0.9348,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,2,0,0,1,5,5,2,0,11,0,11,6,2,0,1,23,24,11,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,6,3,15,0,4,1,4,0,6,2,2,0,0,13,4,23,3,27,11,3,26,0,0,3,6,41,13,3,3,8,91,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323815409778207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361170350350193,0.0,0.0,0.34659322174350576,0.18198916168463453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984779377876518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3984277852181494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285769855927868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17996827954558126,0.0,0.0,0.11063483329619953,0.0,0.15569451854609442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246217967542156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951054011304017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32694572810275985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216318555029854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699773920803289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662461938966278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21992046912232568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554628508540935,0.16275193368949945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2927336017582427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18601449526731528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14172129214442938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12536040191037134
divorce,flowersnyouu,2020/04/19,"How do I get out? I'm [M27] and she's F[25]. We've been married for 2 years and it hasn't been a good time. She's foreign and I sponsor her green card. We own a home, have a joint bank account, and share two car payments. We don't have any kids. 

She's brought up that she'll commit suicide if I ever leave, is extremely self-conscious, and very controlling. It's extremely unhealthy and I want out more than anything. But I feel like I'm trapped. I need advice. Thank you.",0.10772727272727067,2.3504900000000006,1.5729545454545466,98.47943181818184,88.3939393939394,4.512121212121213,22.391414141414145,5.985473137389443,0.15035959595959625,366,14,84,3,12,117,69,99,0.161,0.722,0.11599999999999999,-0.738,0,1,0,0,0,2,20.0,2,1,0,1,2,4,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,2,2,19,17,9,1,3,2,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,10,0,1,1,0,2,2,2,0,0,1,3,2,14,4,5,13,2,8,0,0,1,0,10,3,0,1,4,46,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548783819814812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773721783954071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21463945504387186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2925411009869203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359341170321918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13188261821571784,0.1863357793531994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362720139388795,0.0,0.0,0.21877039105249288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26163203710176386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.276179493825855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127427525401707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19340086883397184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27210078642291946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28530381030964586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24013564200107185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15209107086262771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25479133520528785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21521065177317508,0.153843280678538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16796486433929386
divorce,Asterlight12,2020/04/19,"There is always hope I recently went through very painful divorce and wanted to tell all of you who are currently in the process or thinking about the divorce is that there is a hope and new life is not as scary as it seems at first. 
I was very unhappy in my marriage but was afraid to leave. I was afraid to be single again, to be lonely, to live in a rental apartment, to have no money, to move to the city I always dreamed about to live. My ex would tell me that I’ll fail in life, that no man would ever love me like he did, that I’ll run back to him when life will get hard, that I won’t get a penny from him and that I’ll fail in all my dreams. It was so painful to hear it from a person you lived with for 9 years. But even more painful was the realization that he would rather see me dead from misery in his bed than see me happy but not with him. 
I left and I don’t regret! I could no longer let the fear to control my life. I gained my confidence, I learned about dating again, I make my own money and I have my apartment where I’m free to do anything I want. I live in NYC where I always dreamed to live. I have new friends and new plans for life. Of course sometimes I still have to work hard not to let traumatic experience of my horrible marriage to affect my life, but everyday I’m learning how to do it better. I know how horrible it is to want to leave but not being able to do it. Stay strong, do your best and remember your life doesn’t end with your marriage. Good luck to all of you!",5.197744790706253,4.1511778432601885,5.5257274571270525,88.86782039461555,68.3730407523511,8.885192697768764,28.79605384473539,7.724431198458867,1.3810481652222015,1168,32,278,11,17,373,146,319,0.17600000000000002,0.644,0.179,0.4719,2,2,0,0,2,0,26.0,0,6,0,10,18,22,0,3,9,0,33,11,0,5,4,47,51,19,1,11,11,1,2,1,1,5,10,1,1,2,14,10,0,1,6,3,3,3,10,10,0,1,7,5,41,13,49,33,7,33,0,4,2,1,26,13,0,5,17,189,55,5,0.08793399234442215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21950437762744726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07236218323773877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06761581227144325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09228129986926632,0.07777047034855006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09862544959340533,0.07020813763294192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07788341702545153,0.0,0.0,0.05807957261825755,0.07954133039159991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08601631772306723,0.0,0.09895018849256254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07479660896706468,0.0,0.0,0.06793758435560131,0.0,0.09188376331653783,0.0,0.0,0.07375486077849244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09360736997658092,0.1575431702885788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991080002200639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.174676591013381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048326222519924085,0.0,0.0,0.18621880245314248,0.09554053997360383,0.17983692976485707,0.4347726551697873,0.042960106941965504,0.0,0.3882366313277329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07936386126311859,0.0,0.05869662270854276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09345991765764547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547815932728956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2807039029857069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07678057034295048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682420900423649,0.0,0.09961207161888393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14014401409227298,0.08005180406057748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08696896689499567,0.0,0.0,0.09372593584918136,0.07022419987522407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15371637031325536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056344551675315324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14510950575364231,0.15559724092776597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08151569187625032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06401699371553354,0.0,0.0,0.18739735563595186,0.0,0.0,0.056626608040621425
divorce,Foxxyginger37,2020/04/19,"What happens to money between filing and finalizing? I’m in Indiana if it matters. We were supposed to have a court hearing a month ago to set temporary orders for the divorce process, but of course that has been pushed off until maybe June now. We are still running our finances together (I manage the finances and am caring for the children while he is the sole breadwinner at the moment due to Covid). 

My question is what happens to the money he puts into joint checking and me and the kids use to live on? Is it tallied up at the finalizing and I have to reduce my settlement by that amount? Is it just still considered marital funds and maintaining the household during the time as business as usual? I can’t seem to find any answers other than get a court order for support payments, but the court is closed and he is supporting us.",6.367169811320753,7.1150914088050365,6.6411886792452846,75.76819811320756,65.72955974842768,9.127295597484276,35.39685534591195,9.120678840339163,3.2858070440251566,670,31,115,11,10,216,105,159,0.0,0.915,0.085,0.9288,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,4,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,14,0,14,0,0,1,0,21,24,14,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,8,11,0,0,4,0,6,3,1,0,0,0,2,1,10,3,25,22,1,28,0,0,0,0,12,8,0,3,14,86,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630338884572291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250718344318489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18751858899656584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40295050669499016,0.1680994506288236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960905533170104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3252795087564336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20729108681542774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16240463549015074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847722534902596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468031042583102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18489029193854808,0.20603237271551966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16743376345407687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2937573289856789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4174202310886681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10724516891869973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212329863681718,0.15884773623759638,0.20256177863477012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Keithlct,2020/04/19,"Should I or should I not divorce. I'm 52 this year. Been married for 20 years. The last 2 years has been hell for me in terms of my career. I've lost my job three times. Now I habe started working back again and seeing tough time ahead.. But I just take it within my stride. We had been having constant arguments over many things.. My shortcomings, like I am not  a good provider, don't have a nice car, can't afford to buy another house.

The last straw was I've asked for a divorce because I could not take the verbal abuse anymore. She is in her late 40s. And my only son is 15. He does not even respect me saying I have a stupid brain... Maybe he says it out of frustrations.

I felt useless at times and I'm trying my level best to be a good husband and father by bringing ffood to the table. 

I have been thinking whether should I  file for divorce and lose everything.. Need to sell the house, need to rebuild back my life... Or shall I just stay like a worm in the soil and just live with it.

I love my son very much and part of the reason I stay put is I do not want to have the stigma of coming from a broken home. On one hand I'm not happy with what I am today.. So I guess I am asking all of you for some kind opinion.

Thanks.",1.4401259022998154,3.0933709343629374,2.651932180627836,96.10637569246263,79.03861003861003,5.276548598287729,20.141178445526272,5.7926816847441245,-0.2318351183481617,948,23,219,5,23,304,154,259,0.163,0.752,0.084,-0.9540000000000001,2,0,0,0,4,0,34.0,1,1,0,5,9,18,3,0,15,0,27,4,2,1,1,39,47,12,0,7,13,4,2,2,0,4,1,2,1,0,6,12,0,0,3,0,2,4,8,7,0,2,8,5,31,11,29,33,6,33,1,3,1,1,18,9,1,5,20,141,37,3,0.0,0.14015592340145944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124038809352504,0.0,0.0,0.11731324742477127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22117291468821085,0.0,0.0,0.18191751472227552,0.0,0.07210931766089825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12413948870542532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13205228372328692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10189753600436073,0.0,0.12783094089716232,0.0,0.09444602883857096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351756994179023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07813033040577427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10631265065013004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357826017196948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19843436795001604,0.0,0.0,0.13031127392610267,0.0,0.0,0.1259233567842538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11865588315675335,0.0,0.0,0.27298470431290145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173859262876838,0.0,0.0,0.12318225262367498,0.0,0.19284649988288471,0.13343781119960135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835526888087056,0.11558237081751654,0.0,0.10445344176560016,0.0,0.0,0.13233777875374358,0.12912899757927482,0.0,0.10676257457198064,0.0,0.0,0.11992887671062495,0.1188395747547121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08695776344811341,0.17542309534403444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08015728977017564,0.08996591286881139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280980199932419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11891549329082525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162322377173615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881400813208038,0.0,0.0,0.09426290201366562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08372723640603154,0.25216571008943617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17788076863677027,0.0,0.0,0.10890679518719776,0.0,0.0,0.07858752613809697,0.0757963297679941,0.0,0.0,0.20692993717480532,0.0,0.11212638179261143,0.0,0.0,0.08031207142637882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09760276391898504,0.06977131141452686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08611752196342294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285272805837372
divorce,ForgivenDeity,2020/04/19,"I've been divorced for over two years now, and today I wanted to reach out. He took the cat as when we split I had to stay with friends who were allergic. I never got to see her again, and man, I still miss my animal so much.

I dont miss him though, and I don't want him to think that there is hope because he holds onto things for a very long time.


So instead of reaching out to him, I will reach out to you all. Shit is so Hard sometimes, and I really hope that she is doing good with all my heart. 

Never thought after all this time ghosting here I would post..but eh, it's a bad day and I'm in my memories a little too much.

So if you've lost a pet to a divorce I am so sorry cause it hurts.",2.5103246753246737,2.55197574675325,4.054961038961038,93.41958441558442,74.0,7.19896103896104,22.542857142857148,6.742157984588678,0.2835812987012987,531,11,134,4,10,178,101,154,0.14800000000000002,0.747,0.10400000000000001,-0.6962,0,0,0,0,2,0,17.0,1,1,0,1,14,10,1,0,6,0,12,3,2,1,5,26,25,14,1,6,1,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,1,1,7,11,0,1,2,0,0,1,4,6,0,1,7,2,20,4,20,16,5,22,0,4,1,0,14,7,1,3,13,93,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362021725867481,0.09943920216080274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16757383164715747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052018297930704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19118073953969314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12602961070273078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13682112014306752,0.13046559194526325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14612754198336905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19330335879027533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32403893916904464,0.0,0.0,0.17462818799848676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16349363791658206,0.0,0.14436007979810242,0.0,0.0,0.1780696990573543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398306044062628,0.0,0.2516233946218113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15622821225980066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10450175383975796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12998913418762853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16744499049629902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16133433569884215,0.18260456116451554,0.0,0.17386904936144598,0.13027146396404887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10837269235735887,0.10452361502421333,0.16026902691258024,0.1295026592015016,0.1902384557532769,0.0,0.15462298504983454,0.0,0.18123735995367407,0.0,0.0,0.15934896727944595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345948247414349,0.1924301537119006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11587898903352252,0.0,0.0,0.10504685196666468
divorce,chancey888,2020/04/19,"Is online divorce legit? We called a divorce firm a couple of days ago and they referred us to an online filing form which automatically charges my credit card. Then because of the pandemic, they can't see me in person. Should I be skeptic? Anyone here did divorce purely electronic/online and became successful? If yes, do you have online recommendation of legit sites? Thanks",5.050194805194806,8.233189863636365,5.965930735930737,69.08318181818183,74.60606060606061,6.8017316017316025,27.61038961038961,7.957251820313856,2.4446389610389607,305,12,42,5,7,100,55,66,0.055999999999999994,0.764,0.18,0.8738,0,0,0,0,3,0,9.0,2,1,2,1,1,4,1,0,4,1,7,0,0,0,1,7,9,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,8,3,5,6,1,5,0,0,1,0,10,2,0,1,3,31,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3129907057733524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24688694323617125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2152388222584696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3605417472054043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3906845294026701,0.0,0.22771218445095434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3083023277664845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813649701623619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32507547002830445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4247207080623991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Wings_McKenzie,2020/04/20,"Wife says I've changed, but can't look past old hurts A few weeks ago, my wife dropped the bomb on me and said she wanted a divorce. Since then, I've gotten into therapy. Self-help books. Meditations. You name it. I feel really good about where I am, and I'm confident for the first time in a long while.

I had done therapy before, but it wasn't a great fit and I stopped going and never picked it up again. That was my mistake. I become emotionally distant and not involved and it's due to a variety of factors. I feel like with my new therapist, I'm understanding these issues and have a good handle on them. 

My wife says while she sees the changes, she worries about the long term. She doesn't want to take me back, only for the cycle to begin again and get hurt. What can I do to change her mind? I asked her if there was anything concrete I could do to demonstrate long term sustainability, but she said she isn't sure. 

Does anyone have any advice for me? I really love her, I don't want to destroy our family.",2.782901199314676,4.420642281553398,3.971804683038268,88.16956881781843,75.2135922330097,7.177155910908053,23.282695602512852,7.928766900206844,1.0278181610508277,794,23,170,12,17,259,124,206,0.135,0.722,0.14300000000000002,0.7838,0,0,0,0,1,0,27.0,1,1,1,1,7,10,1,0,11,0,16,1,0,1,2,29,35,15,0,6,5,3,2,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,7,10,0,1,3,1,0,1,7,4,0,1,8,8,30,6,18,26,3,31,0,2,2,1,24,7,0,1,23,106,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11393210230961455,0.10335154581828132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07928638364195599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08152365790786681,0.0,0.09594507059258996,0.0,0.10899754139002947,0.0,0.0,0.08965185392824884,0.0,0.0,0.12876642048387554,0.09921098628166508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3700158151451825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09308901998210882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10203022038418684,0.1193138333301077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13115001855286282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10991231931789187,0.0,0.1179045773486174,0.08329316481125874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09917287741103843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060914373801814636,0.0,0.06626177465599953,0.19558324548307893,0.0,0.1285428087500674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07814898798085114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24962774552539604,0.0,0.0,0.12169148866775965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05696083656943151,0.0,0.0,0.3095400720545086,0.09790770011053544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10522860050219203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11772442430669107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08992274019563512,0.11260503234564186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12234342190033395,0.0,0.0,0.08867327471298858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11130001174636348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493833127026132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22181089450831146,0.18543686807036408,0.0,0.0,0.09290852433954444,0.0,0.12163061612465467,0.0,0.0,0.09644589500124258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974759181503846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10988633838769214,0.0,0.08766248104705243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666656393947648,0.13537200044426612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0679855832071264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12137611675203355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063064932104064,0.0,0.0935228638838032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184045749634878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Tville888,2020/04/20,"Going Thru It.... Hello Everyone Im new to this site. I have been lurking for sometime now. I wanted to get some persepctive on my situation. Me (36M) have been separated from wife for 4 months now. She came home 4 months ago and stated she wanted a separation. She packed some things and stayed at a friends house during the week but would come and spend time with me at our home on the weekends. We had been in couseling for 2 months prior to her leaving and once she left she cancelled all future appointments. I was very sad. She tells me she loves me but doesnt want to work on our relationship. We sat down 1 month ago and she told me she wants a divorce. I dont want it but it takes two. Since then she has been very mean to me telling me all the things I have done wrong in the relationship etc. Its like I dont know this person anymore. I think she is seeing someone. She swears she isnt, but who knows. She makes me feel like shit. We have been together 10 years married for 6 and she doesnt even want to try and work things out. I dont know what to do? Why do people treat people they are leaving so bad in the end? I love her with all my heart but I cant stand this libo phase. Any thoughts on moving forward is appreciated.",1.2610226244343856,3.387538090196081,2.4412745098039217,95.02842760180997,81.82352941176471,5.3348416289592775,19.611613876319762,6.490185161304077,-0.08899698340874806,963,25,219,9,26,307,141,255,0.10300000000000001,0.7879999999999999,0.109,0.5322,0,0,0,0,1,0,28.0,5,0,1,2,4,10,1,0,8,0,26,4,2,1,3,40,50,14,0,7,5,1,1,2,1,1,0,0,2,1,12,15,0,0,7,1,1,5,7,4,0,1,12,2,43,6,26,37,6,38,0,1,1,2,36,14,1,2,20,139,55,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17088458882690344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06554725892561925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955911614996006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08048009340008933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11024238507267813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.083029871173334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098638560209956,0.3388986419725364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08537130653538867,0.0,0.10749828538850034,0.06366347531743888,0.0,0.0,0.092103024297382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04873675343098842,0.06885972584236741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07446925880769341,0.0,0.05035883903988081,0.0,0.054779616634570566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142204421158108,0.0,0.0,0.1933703812434048,0.0,0.0,0.11121900352144376,0.0,0.0,0.10411576077089182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15891724762529155,0.0,0.0,0.20412230323285624,0.1047260255925552,0.0,0.0,0.09418077939074228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17398816812343054,0.0,0.06433985001204445,0.0,0.0,0.1049949711418154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30774446156052554,0.10244536749736656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09309229242714173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10265025220226157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13364683734345972,0.08416242965518496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20696963842232705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07680888976828958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09894106840282788,0.07973328788089969,0.10834433833708472,0.0,0.0,0.08166938120054244,0.0,0.09533036191044936,0.0,0.0,0.10273696128511957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07247190601101779,0.0,0.168495013068466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19210804579606214,0.061761645500228425,0.0,0.0765214380222804,0.056204715374716885,0.0,0.0,0.092103024297382,0.0,0.06544123838196107,0.0,0.09415723351761973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15906066490180584,0.34111342975524833,0.0,0.07731677361071101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08697532859607747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403434672666426,0.0,0.0,0.06847138840304515,0.10538532946638354,0.0,0.062070819408390876
divorce,curlieeq,2020/04/20,"A letter to my ex-husband. You texted me at 1:58 AM with a “hey” and we all know those type of late night messages.. I asked what you wanted and you asked if I missed you, and that you hated yourself for leaving. I did not know how to reply to something so vein after what happened us. I felt more angry that you thought a simple text would help you in anyway? But this was how our unhealthy cycle always began. I loved you so MUCH that you found it as clingy and felt so unhappy to be around me, you belittled me in any conversation I brought up with how I felt, you manipulated me to the point that I thought I was the root to all our problems, you pushed me to my breaking point when you asked for a divorce, packed a bag and walked out the front door when I begged you to stay! You were the one to give up... I tired with making our weekly appointments with the therapist, I tired learning the best ways to serve your love language, I gave you all the space and attention you asked for, I changed myself in the hopes you would stay and love me the way I needed to be loved. It was very heartbreaking when you left me, I felt abandoned! The very next day I received a notification from your email because you connected it to my phone and it was a tinder verification, I called you to talk about it and you told me you were too high to even remember.. this is when I picked myself up and realized I deserve so much more than this. I got the boxes from work that Monday and packed up all your belongings and changed the locks on the apartment.. I was DONE!! I no longer was going to sit around and wait for my “husband” to love me the way I needed. I was not going to be your mom anymore and fix all the sh*t you put us through. I cried and cried because I thought that this divorce was another failure that I had caused, another failure that I couldn’t save! I picked myself up and went to work everyday and made sure to look in that mirror every morning and tell myself “I got this”. I did not get messages from you, nor did you come knocking on the door to talk. You left me alone, you showed me that if a real man loved me they would do everything in their power to fight for me. I was the one who had to file for divorce even when you lied and said you did. I had to move the bills around and tell our families. I had to do EVERYTHING just like in our marriage. Days dragged on and on and I had days were I thought I would never get over the pain but it got better. Everyday I got a little more of my smile back. I took days I felt awful to get myself that Taco Bell and lay on the couch while watching Netflix. I used my good days to exercise and practice gratitude. I still think about you almost everyday and care about you but slowly I am getting the chains you had tied so tight around me to become more loose. I laugh more, and find myself becoming more the old me. The me that would be silly and be outgoing! With you life was walking on eggshells everyday but now I feel so free and happy! I’m sorry that I can’t reply to your “hey” at 1:58 AM anymore because I no longer have to serve to your needs! When this first happened I thought life was over but a few months later  I believe my life had just begin.",3.9298434575463688,4.761215004594182,4.4172659520163355,89.2388409052238,71.23583460949466,7.458349498043219,25.996562872213715,7.554174236665415,1.1068167364301509,2510,75,546,27,45,794,264,653,0.08199999999999999,0.815,0.10300000000000001,0.9782,2,1,1,0,4,0,57.0,8,40,2,6,32,25,2,0,33,1,45,14,1,11,7,108,106,53,0,14,12,2,7,1,0,5,7,1,3,1,29,40,0,3,20,3,2,13,9,7,0,3,49,10,129,19,79,46,15,86,0,3,2,6,88,34,0,4,33,400,158,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06048103185300186,0.06255531200295557,0.0,0.0,0.050256937729162315,0.0,0.0,0.041073498449879765,0.1266675664148082,0.0,0.0,0.11979946951348305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150722230738467,0.2258602368619084,0.0,0.0,0.046443224097336734,0.0,0.11045629789118024,0.13341224884274594,0.0,0.0680491676422246,0.06338518973367327,0.05341814675024528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06167429310019167,0.0,0.061580966725733086,0.06204657272978094,0.12778860052799282,0.05202852630041435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326912773394056,0.1947623002768673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06180930852470006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07978614812045949,0.0,0.05088889540427317,0.0,0.10856573686296676,0.0,0.0569389505455662,0.0,0.030539628953385155,0.0,0.28996331649568674,0.0,0.055203735966556235,0.05137549273286431,0.0,0.06622455895990413,0.0,0.0,0.12622426817813712,0.057940375751046574,0.06865246650445757,0.05065994790762987,0.19322689610416893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10682155146581007,0.06429602654970606,0.0,0.05963166380841772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040484282284664615,0.06381502631374958,0.0,0.05998999190030825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06638759505721421,0.0,0.06813288075161184,0.06395398711435438,0.13124772325625506,0.0,0.12798513401643113,0.029507977600587182,0.06053582350021866,0.0,0.0,0.05072008059897636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3270755880955077,0.05715114345986076,0.040316906809695977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07073876357792921,0.048210031479763785,0.06419474608198797,0.08880066113456876,0.1343556304847734,0.04658355395187807,0.0,0.06423518948767981,0.05668051800343995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0633787558336465,0.0,0.08185606487676092,0.0,0.0642689623103056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11419345362618227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057793836888664074,0.0,0.060717835904723676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06874746458548478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06842047162612652,0.0,0.0574534302945086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04649822247691809,0.0,0.06761191215666777,0.0,0.12875493160982246,0.048234845405216366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0569254913909514,0.0,0.0,0.0970931102506908,0.1055830521598692,0.0,0.0,0.07012807742012328,0.0,0.03870134147934837,0.0,0.2397509230368637,0.0,0.13883989353241166,0.0,0.05771398358550075,0.0671056866408406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453055000581564,0.05216547976416671,0.0,0.09967126132146564,0.03562498813307673,0.14382612023348998,0.04844856113133402,0.0,0.0,0.05599062435366253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08794261239464543,0.0,0.0,0.21452914366907075,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,psalyer,2020/04/20,"I a[M] terrified I can't afford it I really want a divorce, and I am pretty sure she does too.  My major problem is I just did a breakdown of my pay and what rent and child support will cost me, and after all my expenses, I am left with less than $300 A MONTH for little things like food.  And thats factoring in moving about 30 minutes away for cheaper housing.

I live outside Boston and there isn't a 2 bedroom apartment less than $1800 within an hour of the city and based on the calculators I have used for child support, I will be paying about $350 a week.  Thats $3200 a month just in rent and CS, assuming I can even get a """"cheap"" $1800 apartment, more realistically its $2k.  

I have no idea how to make this work.  My youngest kid is 3, so I am in this situation for another 15 years.

I am miserable and I need to be out",4.524034090909094,3.932785153409093,6.158090909090912,82.25963636363639,69.625,9.312727272727274,30.1,8.841846274778883,2.0943677272727266,641,22,145,10,10,222,111,176,0.084,0.825,0.091,0.0553,3,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,0,0,0,1,9,6,0,1,10,0,16,1,0,3,2,23,23,11,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,3,8,11,1,0,2,0,7,1,3,2,0,0,1,0,20,4,21,18,5,18,0,1,0,0,5,11,0,1,7,96,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941862074552965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739906185997227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.162059636148699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12231520624815045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22393057509679715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09675330718072132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823732924086144,0.21368257523812534,0.0,0.20905518734673215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20120776247340108,0.0,0.0,0.09047370881302393,0.1856074496954481,0.16352476952976405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12361470976817035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29563126345060475,0.19682598526278594,0.0,0.13731486847845675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18840320172246586,0.0,0.17720030971381606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11863644522238463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20815954553913335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4202992536501517,0.1745378962210122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12303095888869847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15994333770203878,0.0,0.0,0.10922892942535244,0.0,0.14854698182091206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348193768774491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11925527219607115
divorce,WaffleOfWaffles,2020/04/20,"I am a 12 year old boy whose parents are going through a Divorce, who's side should I choose          Hey, to anyone who is reading, as the title states my I am 12 and my parents are going through a divorce.
It all started a few days back. We were on a vacation and the night before we left my father had a bit too much to drink, and called my 9yo little sister a bitch and bumped into walls and embarrassed my mom in front of her friends. The day later when we were going to fly back to our house, my Mom did not want to go, she got into a fight with my dad about a lot of stuff that has happened throughout their 20y marriage. Anyways, my mom did not fly back with us and stayed in the house. 

We were all sad and scared of my mom divorcing my dad and then later on the second day, she called him and told him that she is planning on divorcing him. I was floored, because even though they fight sometimes, I've never seen anything like this. 

I am back at our house with my dad who has been crying a lot along with me and my sister. We have been calling her a lot, though she usually does not pick up. 

Although I have chosen my dad for now, I have called my mom many times and have started to realize that this fight was not just from that one night, and was instead from many years of fights built up and finally unleashed. I feel her anger and reasoning is justified, though am scared about choosing the wrong option.

I have attended a school for 8 years and have known my friend group for 8 years. My mother makes much less than my father, (CEO) and am scared that If I go with her I will have to lose everything, My house, my teachers, my friends, and the world I have lived in all my life.

I am afraid of choosing wrong
I want to be with my mom
Though, I might lose everything

Is there a way I can pick my mom but not lose everything I know",6.902423167848703,5.113707138297876,6.522092198581562,85.50777777777779,65.38297872340425,9.738534278959811,31.52718676122932,7.984000788550335,1.8834466903073293,1428,40,320,13,18,445,173,376,0.106,0.872,0.022000000000000002,-0.9667,2,0,1,0,6,0,35.0,8,0,2,4,18,21,6,5,20,0,38,2,0,4,4,62,54,27,0,4,8,18,1,1,3,3,1,0,0,1,13,31,1,0,8,2,0,7,6,17,0,2,14,2,62,4,42,36,11,52,0,4,1,0,63,17,1,6,26,230,75,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04519384314575843,0.0,0.05318856614445175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19879931436534554,0.0,0.039400502288700574,0.0,0.0549990747154256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07056397442547119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26399560798339483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07099780288199363,0.12505143380478315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05656195875535097,0.0,0.0,0.06331706037196841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04269038124096562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17426756920470746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032681071431328444,0.0,0.0,0.07080377551315482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14980902472167126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18366596440920133,0.0,0.051693997360552864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05715594579076415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983174662015444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035521350628237316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07022541474691772,0.0,0.04565315570056504,0.0315770805608277,0.06478060276975449,0.05707331874504545,0.0,0.0,0.2169279279214083,0.0,0.16484944929288614,0.0,0.0,0.04314393319411425,0.13105818040157574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06856683551988638,0.0,0.5298928196829106,0.0,0.0,0.09502737423947484,0.0,0.04984999839226008,0.0,0.0,0.12130992556998912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06782288186243776,0.0,0.04379791102583703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435376023308716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06465184498181208,0.0,0.0,0.06645488075635937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19413079174774608,0.06541341691925114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0639250288097535,0.0,0.0914970568756683,0.06889162149774578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07399087170508654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540116985840448,0.0,0.037688811597587656,0.0,0.0,0.06176089509873357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07774716965313908,0.0,0.07118560946671193,0.0,0.07624603322420237,0.05130374172976001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14133503927305455,0.0,0.166489619441651
divorce,Throwaway2232n22,2020/04/20,"Been isolating for nearly 2 weeks We haven't done much besides put a new bed frame together, clean, watch Netflix, and sleep. I would like to have fun with him by getting drunk so I got cider today and he got all huffy about it saying he was gonna pour it down the sink because the last time I went out ages ago I snapped at some girl. Vodkaaaa I apologised for that etc.

I was like, we aren't going anywhere we're isolating and I'm taking that completely serious. So why can't we have a little fun? 

And it's stuff like this that makes me think, I love you but man you're... For once, I'd like to get drunk with you and laugh our heads off together and listen to good tunes, and what better time than now? But no. I guess not. 

And I'm going to stop asking because it's just never going to happen. Lame. 

Don't think we'll work out, because of other things as well. And I want to be myself and not feel like I have to keep things from him like when I want to pop open some cider in the evenings or go check out ghost tours. 

Marriage isn't easy.",2.0867020202020186,3.507140650000004,3.0148484848484856,95.2167171717172,76.5909090909091,6.161616161616162,20.404040404040398,6.691623216298621,0.036191919191919115,813,18,189,7,18,258,136,220,0.09300000000000001,0.72,0.187,0.9584,0,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,5,2,0,2,8,15,0,0,5,0,15,5,2,1,2,39,40,17,1,3,6,0,1,6,0,3,0,2,2,2,13,19,2,2,3,3,1,6,9,2,1,0,7,4,22,13,27,29,5,28,0,1,1,1,18,10,0,4,18,110,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11963560600849865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261711841307168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24681461585725975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193628577245777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141505013718241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13811291009369256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15051822526084974,0.08914108056781997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06824080593375449,0.09641682830831996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14102407403217093,0.0,0.30680789545643605,0.11319966195579738,0.21588276560846592,0.0,0.1486757794010747,0.0,0.1193463871851151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13850987461421485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11996036270560285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11001198442398903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39561348489455866,0.13526730759643152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12180840925824955,0.0,0.09008813491641213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09921254597629127,0.0,0.10409095898928168,0.13034707103427312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14373004860704403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13567401434432036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10732714209675542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13505939586015034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11283421497787904,0.0,0.0,0.15449911816709658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014745736141428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17932541594842713,0.17295630783853602,0.0,0.0,0.15739477106857325,0.0,0.1279281270313766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15920808371917852,0.0,0.10825831783940304,0.0,0.12134698152084215,0.12511105935373562,0.1217821480077418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982538909508457,0.0,0.0,0.09587308138288868,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,slightlyslytherin,2020/04/20,"107 Days.. I can't wait for August 5th, 2020. Hopefully I can get a hearing for our divorce before our 5th wedding anniversary in September. That would be the best gift I could get.

I (25F) kicked her (25F) out last August. Thanks to my state, we have to be separated for an entire year before I can even *file* for divorce. I'm 8 days away from double digits. I keep counting, it's the only thing keeping me sane while she tries gaslights me from 1,000 miles away.

She keeps trying to tell me the divorce is my fault. She didn't *want* to get divorced - this is ALLLLLLL my idea. Never mind that any time she wanted to win an argument, shut me up, or get leverage, she would threaten divorce. Never mind the fact that she slept with so many other people I lost count. I know that she still hasn't even given me the full truth about what happened. Never mind that she forcibly hospitalized me when I started calling her out on her gaslighting behavior. Or the faked suicide attempt. Or the time she tried to keep me in an argument with her, so she grabbed my wrists so hard she left bruises. There was also the time she sat next to me on a bed and encouraged someone to sexually assault me. When I looked to her for help, she told me it was ""hot"" to see someone else have sex with me. 

She slept with one of her friends for an xbox, while I lay sick in bed less that 20 feet away from her. She claimed he ""pressured her"" into giving him a blow job that night, but she gave him another blow job the next morning when I left for work?

She actually had the balls to email me and tell me that she "" finally understood"" why our relationship fell apart in November when she found out I started dating a man. She knew I wasn't attracted to her, I didn't love her. But... she cheated on me mostly with guys? Her own insecurities, I guess. 

She's still left me with all her crap to deal with. When she left in August, we agreed that she would come get her things out of the storage on my parent's property in December. It's now April. She emailed me a couple times demanding that I sort through all her stuff and send her the things she wanted. Now she says she wants me to just ""get rid of everything"" she has in storage. All her childhood pictures, highschool year books, her letter jacket, etc. She says she doesn't have a ""connection to items anymore"" because I ""forced her to live out of a suitcase for the last year"". I never forced her to do anything, but sure my dude, go off. 

I still have her dog. Our dog that she insists is her dog, ignoring the fact that I've been the one that has paid for every cent of his medical treatment, training, food, grooming, everything. She was supposed to come get him this month, but the current world situations have prevented that. I have nothing against my dog, I love him incredibly, but I can't fight her forever. I'm exhausted, and if surrendering the dog means I get a more permanent reprieve from her, I'll do it.

Every time her name pops up in my email, demanding something else, I check my countdown timer. 

107 days.

107 days.

107 days until I can genuinely begin to rip free from her grasp.

107 days.",4.310562629552859,5.5025758469055415,4.746409535090319,85.88774874148655,70.66123778501628,7.927095054782352,28.28679301154871,8.296473431620573,1.7781022801302928,2446,88,502,36,44,775,280,614,0.1,0.845,0.055,-0.9840000000000001,4,0,1,0,6,1,98.0,6,0,0,5,19,23,4,2,29,0,34,12,5,0,11,72,82,25,1,10,10,1,3,0,1,3,3,3,2,2,26,21,1,7,7,3,4,5,11,11,0,2,19,8,121,13,73,57,12,87,0,1,2,3,102,33,1,8,48,334,147,5,0.0,0.0,0.06639814408583841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05441231650356028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04627017358661027,0.07134685998270276,0.0,0.0,0.06747833103061268,0.0,0.0,0.055991897563978654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917801135242214,0.0,0.0,0.04147712653367616,0.0,0.11579565988736285,0.0,0.07140477053290492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06947740892000161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11722249305416725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054325155414205836,0.0752860078435345,0.0,0.2632846711005561,0.07014722323604397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11367895195275025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07588363581813792,0.08988080058107313,0.0,0.11465485594609565,0.0,0.12230162220872205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07453552582915507,0.0,0.0,0.08227537679757864,0.07460338063266292,0.05256826278286095,0.0,0.2843886700604316,0.06527107124672497,0.03866923517832821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749547682979721,0.06737122967524553,0.06016838004614292,0.0,0.060951319169859526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0766870863730175,0.0,0.04560640898721025,0.0,0.0,0.0675800076312889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07680994121953111,0.0,0.0,0.13504027151673353,0.2419116611397205,0.0,0.0,0.0373935221398688,0.11092489759553406,0.0,0.0,0.2957067290152921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06008139809841882,0.0,0.057137254487957326,0.0,0.07427472545155722,0.0,0.12281921277932993,0.0,0.0,0.06898283544659845,0.0,0.07411653240856005,0.0,0.06854409050344751,0.0,0.0,0.2061058645070513,0.0,0.054309630525060534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099094753532915,0.0,0.14472462683404308,0.06385181457572754,0.0,0.06528711864579682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09221260603321332,0.05174820221327402,0.0,0.0,0.07555141366719867,0.0,0.0,0.047171021828697535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730505077857347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10821777562361552,0.0,0.0,0.05421982125303643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07648086928657152,0.0,0.0,0.11530173822060995,0.05238124110857476,0.0,0.0,0.09631945749532772,0.0,0.1630127518267833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07789059960611194,0.07442574673983073,0.0,0.06412778233089908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189415641621727,0.06264295753842647,0.0,0.0,0.1356101349173892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19837610141144468,0.0,0.0,0.06501603563510702,0.0,0.13858599929062446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.160529241204017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06139636680245745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04953461592912034,0.0,0.0,0.1450029984039572,0.0,0.0,0.13144840695543628
divorce,Rob_1768,2020/04/20,"The drama NEVER ends. 52M, reached an agreement with STBX last week, moved out Saturday and I was told the blame for the marriage falling apart is all on me, I didn't want to work on things, I was having an affair (constant claim over the entire marriage), I'm a deviant for wanting intimacy more than once every 4 months, it was my fault I lost a job years ago, the bankruptcy filing - again all my doing and other things I cannot recall at the moment.  I discovered this weekend she called our kids, ages 31 & 27 and convinced them I was having an affair, thereby causing an end of the marriage.  We had agreed going into this the kids are not to be involved, she now insists on making up stories with these extravagant claims.  I spoke with my kids and advised I would never speak ill of their mother - I won't mention the years of neglect, the dead bed, being called names, micromanaging my every move in life - hell, I couldn't even throw away the garbage without her going through it all.  I gave her $54K retirement, I only asked for $15k of the equity  - she can keep the house and the extra $30-ish in equity and $650 a month maintenance -  I didn't argue monthly payments at all!  When she mentioned wanting to keep the house I said I would help her in every way possible - now I feel like the chump.  I'm learning that she only treats me with minimal kindness when she wants something.  Upon reflection this has been going on the better part of a decade.  Anyway....I'm setting up my own place, I broke down yesterday realizing this is really over, I can't fix anyone,  I couldn't fix this marriage and now my kids are roped into this mess.",5.974751598622724,6.1138663177570125,6.327919331037876,79.78590752582393,66.50778816199377,8.75166420724709,30.60190195113953,8.371475516178862,2.196310903426791,1292,44,245,16,19,417,186,321,0.094,0.831,0.075,-0.7111,1,0,1,0,0,0,47.0,2,0,2,3,7,13,2,0,25,0,26,2,0,2,6,41,45,9,1,8,2,1,1,1,0,3,2,3,1,4,13,15,0,3,4,2,0,7,11,7,0,0,13,4,41,6,37,25,8,54,1,3,0,0,39,21,1,0,25,167,54,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10219492191318086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249133581918776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806113134352136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777773223312967,0.0,0.10831588109965144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019619353424832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354417241308068,0.0,0.0,0.11843145114104052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124584232554383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042200309554589,0.0,0.0,0.07614594075979178,0.0,0.2914026737273735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05829254405412685,0.08236101749996877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19656068517944297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07727440998646884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660513147068838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144045051737635,0.2049446700425467,0.0,0.12005361377873855,0.0,0.09397424841000072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0814305796392589,0.0563233786126191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258493206028483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07695493189906047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760628219983793,0.24506355789322595,0.0,0.0,0.17783280046280006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12277683529208785,0.0,0.17536183543907824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248445282541789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12045032134848745,0.0,0.0,0.12996870981517586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07385576991570973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10966428641341164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08875352370232037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531830488541709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016161774041601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.271996911729988,0.09150941183821576,0.0924762343517045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111325022464762,0.0,0.08393026999566143,0.0,0.0,0.16379307787021755,0.0,0.0,0.1484820272225505
divorce,spewrok,2020/04/20,"Do I just look weak? I'm 44 my ex(41f) filed for divorce and it was finalized in December. When I see her my heart flutters, I get sick to my stomach, and shakey. She wants to be friends and hang out but i just cant. i put my foot down in February and went ghost (no contact) when i dont see or hear from her i am great; things hurt and my mind always races but i am more functional and productive.
I can tell when she starts to miss me because she makes any excuse to come to the car when I pick my kids up. Obviously cheap excuses: she asked my daughter if she had her backpack which was right in front of her face, she said I have to hug and kiss them good bye
.. now to my title.
I finally asked her to please not come to the car anymore because I cant handle seeing her. I told her how I get sick to my stomach and shakey. She laughed but agreed and I've yet to test it. I asked her not to come to the car before but then the excuses started. So this is my second time asking her. Do I look weak by not being able to handle seeing her? I'm thinking she enjoys the power she has over me..and I shouldn't have given a reason, just a request for her not to come out. I didnt want the divorce so I like when she makes it look like she misses me. I get all hopeful which sets me back three steps after walking forward two. I guess I just needed to vent",0.9202255542739975,2.6553483633218,2.589288735101885,95.56312828399336,80.93771626297578,5.527156221965911,20.3922850185826,6.42735559955562,0.001718082788670916,1043,28,245,9,27,343,148,289,0.083,0.76,0.157,0.9796,1,0,0,0,2,0,30.0,0,0,1,1,15,15,0,0,8,0,19,11,5,5,2,44,56,24,1,6,14,1,0,2,1,1,4,2,0,1,7,15,0,0,2,0,1,14,10,5,0,3,8,9,59,10,30,45,2,39,0,3,7,2,42,10,0,4,19,164,66,1,0.10992279356869623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09146456998055147,0.0,0.0,0.07475126903991962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10901387408440047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4110518940013475,0.0,0.0,0.08452384312521251,0.0,0.13401582938598844,0.0,0.09353620113065816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3787550137204534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12882869540026376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408300947416101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08492607763589566,0.0,0.17229036823095076,0.0,0.0,0.09219802399380564,0.0,0.12119026797103866,0.12109234992124485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12389097729721618,0.13025903963652094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10917813659614546,0.0,0.0,0.1176746239925815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10740544904578836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27692238550414416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14674863654317102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11099068603833248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0815063586045284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12066221814304162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11050276841584644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113018939404036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09387346509972654,0.10456174875027363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35037693888876537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556078381148735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960773666222892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07302781968009897,0.07043408763095123,0.0,0.0,0.06409686490559646,0.0,0.0,0.10503593989271937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10737859691001007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296706232963878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10189953090752504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,TURRRDS,2020/04/20,"I'm considering firing my lawyer and finding a new one. Does anybody have experience with this? I've been going through the divorce process for a little over a year now. My lawyer has never been great at communicating with me and it's starting to get frustrating. I've had several emails go completely ignored, most recently two weeks ago. Last week I called, they said they would get back with me and that never happened. Today may have been the last straw. I sent an email with a couple of questions and concerns. His response was short and didn't address anything I asked. It seems like he either does not care at all or is just too busy. Either way, I believe it's time to move on. Anybody ever have to do this? How did it go?",2.846287726358149,5.2570256408450735,3.5727565392354137,87.51323943661974,77.80281690140845,6.02897384305835,25.635814889336014,7.1686216300943375,1.2050406438631789,579,22,112,7,14,183,100,142,0.10300000000000001,0.879,0.018000000000000002,-0.8969,0,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,0,0,2,0,6,5,1,0,7,0,15,0,0,1,4,26,28,7,0,1,5,0,1,1,0,2,0,1,1,0,7,9,0,1,3,0,0,5,4,2,0,2,9,2,11,3,14,17,4,28,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,5,17,75,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13821670249900725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12831168777735444,0.0,0.14576734805609567,0.0,0.0,0.11989548414372507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17567229792106298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592152434329708,0.0,0.15897431677323592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16348273758752624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725262967090025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2728992683195033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14104165869444946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525230225182577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14251117959384252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629271011868982,0.0,0.2658446157386225,0.0,0.0,0.17190611920438428,0.0,0.0,0.13788256391432974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541967935762493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07617630621659345,0.15627622775254338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16572191768712308,0.0,0.0,0.24051550523237844,0.15059180907631525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10565774361326273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746699133183979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539555648931452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14831887696773582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419468240045841,0.0,0.17614908091485812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11036339805150246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092019915099084,0.0,0.14779716896234818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523145231828595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12376475185965648,0.25014472211205746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11076352274439516,0.0,0.0,0.10040956927636632
divorce,sweetjay49,2020/04/20,"Stop being selfish Hi guys I just really needed a place to vent. Trying to co-parent with someone so involved with himself is getting soooo super frustrating. I don't care that he's dating but his damn on and off again relationship is getting in the way of his parenting duties. When he's not with her we can have amicable conversations(over text) about custody or extra curricular activities etc but when they're together i get one word vague responses. Normally really doesn't matter but now with having to home school and because I'm a health care worker and continuing to work its just irritating he won't step up and take on any responsibility with the kid's education. 

Ok sorry for that I just needed to get it out and off my chest to someone that can at least understand my perspective",5.763264185478951,7.5074085234899375,7.036351433801098,68.74139719341063,67.79194630872483,10.25039658328249,30.323978035387434,10.436869588844218,3.5114107382550337,646,25,109,18,11,219,105,149,0.153,0.812,0.035,-0.9292,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,3,9,7,2,0,4,1,10,2,1,0,0,28,21,12,0,3,8,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,5,12,0,2,1,0,0,1,4,3,0,1,0,0,11,4,22,19,3,18,0,0,0,0,14,9,1,1,7,74,16,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12102054307768027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10848423486052636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3628890801931967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984751321546261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37191206157277373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17621076756601484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18916572256885308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17851080988581436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639137478010311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17436537923269005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205919364000078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19760619862763504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18593284367310592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22801455684562974,0.0,0.0,0.19106503043006165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18010746238970354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30157394916920593,0.0,0.0,0.19921435077425945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14878454546276787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338055864895973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208247963144867,0.0,0.0,0.18526514757343585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14125827955830933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12955875580767678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,Desideratta,2020/04/20,"10 years of marriage over. What’s my first step? Been married to my partner for a decade. Before marriage we agreed we wanted kids just not immediately. Three years ago I said I finally was ready to start a family. He freaked out. Said he wasn’t ready. I was 32 years old at the time. I decided to give him time. 

Every few months we’d address the issue. Went to counselling. We have had issues with him cheating in the past, and dealing with my depression and anxiety. About 3 years ago he came to me and admitted falling romantically in love with one of our good friends though they never did anything. We became estranged from her due to awkwardness and my jealousy. He mourned her loss as a friend for a long time. 

His feet only got colder and colder and I got more and more depressed and scared that I was going to miss my window of opportunity. I had gained 70lbs in two years due to depression listlessness and drinking to cope with it. I have developed a severe hatred for my body. At this point we were barely having sex and I had sunk into the deepest depression of my life. 

Last October I decided enough was enough. I needed to change my life for the better. I told him that in January I was going to take  out my IUD or I was going to move home. I can’t wait anymore. I wanted to stay in this marriage, but I wasn’t going to give up my only chance to have a family. He acknowledged that he felt tremendous guilt for holding everything up and forcing me to make that decision.

In January I asked him if he was ready for me to make the appointment to get my IUD out. He said no. I walked out. 

He begged me to come back. Said he changed his mind. He’d done a lot of thinking and had realized he wants this too. I felt skeptical but relieved. I didn’t want to start over. I perked up a lot. I started taking better care of myself, drinking less. I lost 25 lbs. I started a new business (which due to COVID is probably not going to make it but for a while there it was doing great). We started having sex again and it was good. 

Well about 3 weeks ago our “friend” who he had fallen in love with years ago broke up with her BF of 5 years. My husband found out and outright told me that he was “interested”. I checked his phone. He’s been talking with her almost daily. I hit an all-time low. Finally this weekend I found him up at 3 am and he told me he doesn’t see any other course of action but a divorce. 

I moved into our spare bedroom. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know my next steps. Help?",1.5603846153846168,3.7794147179487183,3.0846893491124265,90.31271449704144,81.30769230769229,6.109072978303747,22.3732741617357,7.321109707123232,0.8166990138067067,1950,64,410,28,52,639,234,507,0.098,0.7759999999999999,0.126,0.9622,0,0,2,0,1,0,54.0,10,0,1,7,9,31,2,3,18,0,38,10,2,3,1,74,90,24,1,6,9,1,2,0,5,0,2,4,4,2,18,37,2,2,13,3,1,16,11,16,1,4,39,7,75,15,73,48,8,81,0,10,1,4,69,26,0,5,38,265,93,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24504466784685355,0.0,0.06920291598414201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04699664961587025,0.0,0.05286837556883328,0.0,0.06853779085512468,0.0,0.0,0.056871011867210525,0.0,0.0646078056079713,0.0,0.0,0.053140735810398576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058806868798301735,0.0,0.0,0.12224300440410935,0.0,0.07676478045659396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07904255386114227,0.07046147091043116,0.0,0.14621681401804404,0.059531486550978736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0712485866468543,0.23809473114839655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07072274155753233,0.0,0.13540148016141704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14281662751206733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058227511093842485,0.0,0.062110924174911035,0.0,0.13030007227412946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13271140663542258,0.151411577688186,0.0,0.05878427993552567,0.0,0.15154941803664476,0.16018087044540724,0.0,0.036106722877686334,0.13259175091240724,0.19638185419683346,0.11593109480451814,0.11054593686061304,0.07619317549842161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04632246342015542,0.0,0.06932219746744878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14426417226894356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07596125632082136,0.05633325036284473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09762779288207137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06115949818113513,0.0,0.0,0.07544089370721375,0.11750840035278015,0.1247475654761217,0.0,0.1383928528934346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06978062646111008,0.0,0.0551623319885761,0.14690435938766644,0.0,0.0512436220281005,0.053301302434947816,0.06674612975198763,0.07349845538590485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07251851664494374,0.0,0.046830206156426614,0.10512137470658696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06597258462319552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06533056509715847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07451144401271023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26295483313413737,0.0,0.06919040037848873,0.0,0.0550711126443981,0.0,0.0,0.07807376432059643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24457936096918845,0.07366124916977795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10392308784899833,0.055547385233508564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04428240724097377,0.06789947244183424,0.0,0.12089445196584155,0.0,0.0,0.19811050678921208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06750968057182481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16304966930467488,0.0,0.05543525966410685,0.0,0.06213750189655224,0.06406495316521041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31152857026278497
divorce,123Divorcethrowaway,2020/04/20,"One year update: It does get better, but the pain is real. It has been a little over a year since my divorce was final. I didn't want it. He cheated and decided bachelorhood was better. 

I was devastated in the beginning. I lost 30 pounds, got so many grey hairs.  I would spend hours in the closet crying. I couldn't go to the grocery store without breaking down.

I am doing okay. Despite the fact I thought I would drown in my sorrows, I didn't.  I don't think the pain will ever fully go away, but it is something you learn to live with. This wasn't my choice, but I won't let it define me. I only cry maybe a few times a month now. There are still moments that bring me to my knees.  And I still do miss my old life. I mourn the future I had planned.

My marriage almost seems like it was a dream, despite the fact we were together 12 years. We didn't have kids, and now live across the country from each other. My life is so different now.

I knew from the beginning that I still wanted to find love and I wouldn't let this ruin me. I met the most amazing man who understands the process I'm going through and loves me through it. I found that people are good and it was pretty easy to find someone awesome despite the fact I'm 35. 

I guess what I'm trying to say is it does get better. I don't want you to think that the pain disappears overnight, or that you get back to normal. Normal ended the minute I found the evidence. But, there is a new normal, and it isn't so bad.",1.4544895199459091,3.3773607843137263,2.8317083615055227,93.55441176470586,80.04575163398692,5.527879197656075,21.00924047780032,6.48374012150746,0.17431363533919295,1144,32,253,10,29,371,157,306,0.172,0.6629999999999999,0.165,-0.3718,1,0,1,0,1,0,37.0,2,3,0,5,13,19,1,0,22,1,35,9,2,0,4,47,65,15,2,10,6,0,1,1,0,5,5,1,1,2,20,11,0,0,12,1,2,5,11,10,0,1,19,3,39,9,21,38,3,37,0,5,1,2,15,8,0,5,24,166,59,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791861623121932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187322445606358,0.07519144593929274,0.08164727749828764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594514768266446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21482679552502812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10216562240650218,0.0,0.0,0.17114648418384493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08660942676140733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08845309171276998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10711985151037816,0.17874937880612524,0.0,0.0,0.2144347401227334,0.0,0.0,0.153267544750744,0.0,0.1667222180661994,0.08201830963329643,0.07820844695226012,0.0,0.10772237212731813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962995738683732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19998574783096376,0.13813837536717538,0.04777333067752386,0.09800732375012436,0.17269376907839815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10674503832684784,0.0,0.1765114781064194,0.0,0.0,0.0991397190480952,0.09823924292566548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07805190199855512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09444238831788118,0.0,0.0,0.2874287373365808,0.0,0.0,0.1026100230030874,0.0,0.06626236654118461,0.07437070679182964,0.3121537941682371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06779254318893382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09948358008836182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11130194699681384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07776340159024357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08902075853499596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08088964123214408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828538132634265,0.07528048815730012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23427622701700745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12531472059405988,0.0,0.07763121066117216,0.057019839304842175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06639031745951772,0.0,0.0,0.10179873947041844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17303025929135227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426227455843826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13892882608484292,0.0,0.0,0.18891305424767424
divorce,MadMrIppi,2020/04/20,Advice on finding a great lawyer My brother recently found out his wife cheated on him and I believe he’s leaning towards a divorce. D-day was recent but he already has some hard evidence and they reside in an at fault state. How do/can I help him find a real shark of a lawyer? What are things he should be looking for? Asking? Etc.,1.1757089552238789,3.6592366268656735,2.646399253731346,91.00601679104479,85.71641791044777,4.544029850746268,24.792910447761198,5.985473137389443,0.7432104477611938,262,11,51,2,8,85,57,67,0.11699999999999999,0.792,0.091,-0.1877,0,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,0,0,1,0,1,3,1,0,5,0,5,0,0,1,0,11,8,4,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,7,1,8,4,2,9,0,0,1,0,12,6,0,1,2,33,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22226981318555492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25100611028944697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2126429923728545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25626783779159445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14669191499206524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536763528584998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4157858955320784,0.0,0.0,0.24939650434204466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25077379867511607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20375813813112764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524606375816706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19100785267577386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258897569410453,0.0,0.0,0.449175654876196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511133200441166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,ThrowHexAway,2020/04/20,"It’s always a matter of trust The drama. The exaggeration.  The flat out lies.  I have stood up for her at times to only find out what she was told wasn’t true.  I have listened to her yell and scream that some thing wasn’t going the way she expected only to find out the other person had made a mistake and was working on correcting it.  I have heard her say countless times that she wants to work on our sex life which she knows is a problem.

And yesterday.  She told everyone who would listen that our youngest’s teacher is crazy for somethings the teacher wants to do.  Then, when a I read them, I was like:  are we reading two different assignments!

I was setting up for a divorce before the pandemic hit.  I didn’t have a chance to tell her.  Her mom was set to have surgery and I didn’t want to do it then.  It felt wrong.  Maybe it would have been better.  

I am really worried about what she will tell mutually friends.  What she will tell the kids.  How hard she will fight.

And more importantly, how do I tell her when we have to be sheltered in place?",2.4715415315540032,4.441277526066352,3.337261162384636,90.91576452980793,77.05687203791469,6.5274133200299325,23.427538039411324,7.475848149327749,0.8611838862559242,822,26,176,11,19,261,115,211,0.106,0.794,0.1,-0.3164,1,0,1,0,2,0,22.0,4,0,1,3,5,10,1,0,14,0,31,2,0,3,2,29,45,11,0,8,0,1,2,1,1,5,1,6,0,2,15,10,0,0,4,3,0,1,4,5,0,1,17,8,29,5,23,21,2,21,0,0,0,1,36,10,0,1,8,126,44,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11324920192635203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581424513909808,0.0,0.0,0.12037268407501248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14219942402735194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13005294147191732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13068091954993888,0.0,0.2487926771526257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10515340002195027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773508832134232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12192220376404445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07479904763155429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09613408576482337,0.06649340498492147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12878463508635196,0.0,0.0,0.1367344849653034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15940303732053332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070260312852983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11884052257327725,0.14219942402735194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13023288325235696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722811124427337,0.0,0.08719153112697305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823514462176403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10477929663926436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4758426173314275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09042126693375713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15872635268680532,0.0,0.0,0.26010588294383463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13295356230960076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24083250932133235,0.10803280149687558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981702650225941,0.13821993898418028,0.0,0.1933683619276174,0.14880805695193533,0.0,0.0
divorce,1--A,2020/04/20,"Where do you stay when you're separated? I'm (25M) just beginning separation from my wife (25F). But I don't know where to stay and live. We have a house together but since I'm the one initiating the separation I feel it's best that she gets to stay in the house while we hash it all out. No kids, almost identical incomes so the divorce should be pretty easy once we sell the house. I just don't know where to stay. Cheap hotel? Friends place? Family? Where did you guys stay during the separation process?",1.3851650165016487,3.9121978712871295,2.880618811881188,89.40099422442246,85.13861386138616,6.931023102310232,20.297854785478552,8.07648339933343,1.0131577557755769,399,12,86,9,12,130,67,101,0.026000000000000002,0.795,0.17800000000000002,0.9599,1,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,3,2,0,1,8,2,0,0,7,0,7,0,0,0,1,15,14,6,0,1,4,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,3,5,0,0,3,1,2,0,3,0,0,1,1,1,10,2,6,11,2,15,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,1,3,49,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13902996410444055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14570585824071655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13088765201187086,0.0,0.07020256412740639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10726879713828928,0.0,0.07253908761249364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13747516821779393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4806142393926409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15260759737396115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12259981523500778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14786194002700428,0.09408276787676847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14506008522774805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141251981502741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148513362399875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7399341980263704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
divorce,lvpteepel,2020/04/20,"Where do I go from here??? My husband (38M) told me (37F) told me one week ago to consider us officially separated. We have a 9 year old son. STBX is currently sleeping on the couch. 

A little background... been together 16 years, married for 12. It has been rocky for 90% of that time. He is a recovering alcoholic, sober for almost 5 years. He was on his death bed for liver failure before he got sober and was on the transplant list. I supported him 100% through getting sober and felt like we had turned a corner after a year or so into his sobriety.  Note he never went into any treatment but just quit drinking. He never dealt with any of the issues that made him an alcoholic in the first place. He is also a huge narcissist and is emotionally abusive to me making me feel like all of his problems in his life are my fault. 

He lost his job 6 years ago as a result of his alcoholism. He has not returned to work since. He was on disability due to his liver issues but that is now coming to an end. Long story short I have been supporting our family financially for a long time and even bought a house last year in my name only and am immensely proud of finally being a homeowner. 

Cut to the chase... he says we are separated but has no plan as to how he is going to move forward and get the eff out of the house. I told him I’m not vindictive and will split custody 50/50 and he can have half the furniture and half of our savings so he can start off on the right foot but he just doesn’t seem to have any motivation to get the ball rolling. He just wants to live here comfortably with me taking care of everything financially and live in limbo forever. He gets really angry when I ask him what his plans are. 

I struggle with the fact that I don’t want to leave him to figure it all out on his own but on the other hand want him to experience what life is like as a real adult having to pay your own bills and figure it all out. I’ve always been his safety net and I’m over it. I’m responsible for myself and my son and I’m tired of being responsible for a man child too. 

I have been completely numb to this separation and impending divorce and don’t know when it’s gonna just sink in. I wanna get on with it at this point but it’s so hard when he’s still under the same roof. 

I’m just ranting and not sure what I’m asking really but want to know how to move forward from here. I just want things to end officially and move forward with my life. Tired of the rollercoaster and I want a more stable life for my child.",3.1909517432921675,4.428986725338497,4.735125725338495,84.72519813519817,73.42940038684719,8.242602787283639,24.28155532410852,8.768130331264683,1.5245472300748903,1975,57,422,38,39,664,245,517,0.096,0.8,0.10400000000000001,0.309,2,0,4,0,1,0,45.0,6,1,0,8,23,16,1,1,29,0,38,16,5,6,7,83,81,39,1,8,17,3,4,3,0,2,10,1,2,4,18,33,4,0,8,2,3,10,9,6,0,4,18,5,46,10,72,59,7,71,0,1,0,0,55,33,0,3,37,270,64,4,0.0,0.09212452272986482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378465845477655,0.24928274839002365,0.07785834062809976,0.0,0.0,0.06217900010864156,0.06469667690446501,0.0,0.0,0.15862400169714086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14537701091705954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06616202738074425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07927430694623365,0.0,0.0,0.06697727533685673,0.08152248100811461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07616828289701152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08746159516895388,0.13773205770128438,0.0,0.0,0.05135508528413471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987933127333025,0.07605729748615138,0.07329855445188123,0.0,0.03931422399484779,0.05554671773170136,0.07465501818899327,0.08517454808830723,0.0,0.06613661325841418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20311351687980167,0.0,0.08837757819765057,0.0,0.06218613106648796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06965136433837665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.179432912909034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16230774245871585,0.07715779805809732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08546196767951457,0.06337902576884842,0.0,0.08232913957845059,0.0,0.0,0.21967681115413407,0.11395848090968833,0.07792887491962687,0.13731454563764006,0.13761781492333755,0.0,0.0,0.08487652169007573,0.0,0.0,0.07357171427891873,0.05190069294931954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2479172190282856,0.0,0.0,0.11993572530534695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0815886338095982,0.0,0.052687406170091364,0.059134616531730175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0812352761503911,0.0,0.07350166273233917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07439906530726806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08269982525768753,0.0,0.08849987096821058,0.09962105201934801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06640058814851449,0.0,0.061832260732893586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07078335874991386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06431803759834069,0.0,0.07780909484875183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05503393296694515,0.0,0.062093600400712615,0.0,0.0,0.08128425758292396,0.0,0.0,0.1764662357047539,0.07328122823550462,0.0,0.05846053636472037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05165560015080725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09067673220938514,0.17873113920557368,0.0,0.22288880606034744,0.0,0.0,0.08457287423306672,0.0,0.0,0.09352721648467376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27516420034088085,0.0,0.06236872057131571,0.0,0.0,0.07207775676682784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056605068248413236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30042207483770844
divorce,melissa-garcia,2020/04/20,"Advisements on my absent dad Hi reddit! I’m looking to get some things off my chest and maybe get some advice. 

My parents got divorced when i was 9 years old.  It was the most toxic divorce ever, they fought for me and my brother, stole money from their bank accounts and tried to ruin each other’s life. As for me and my brother my parents used as to manipulate each other by using us as messengers or as spies into each otters life. These has brought me several psychological problems now that I’m in my late teens. 

After my parents got divorced they did coo parenting for a while until my dad moved abroad and really never saw him for a couple years. My mom in the other hand struggled to make it to the months end financially and started using some toxic coping mechanisms that affected our relationship. (I don’t blame her, i accepted that apart from being my mom she’s also a human with feelings and there’s no manual on how to handle a toxic divorce). She dated for a while and her boyfriends started replacing my father. After dating a guy she choose to remarried and those where the happiest years in her life until she got pregonan with my new brother (5 y/o) and their relationship started to fail until i witnessed the same type of toxic divorce as my parents. 

Two years ago my dad came to the country for a brief visits where he tried to reconnect with me but failed miserably when i found out he had another son and wife in his new home country. After his quick visit he returned to his home country and got arrested for money laundering. After 2 years he’s finally out and wants to reconnect 

The problem here is that he has tried to reconnect with me several dozens of times but he never finds the way to commit to our father and son relationship and just makes me feel loved for a while and then disappears from my life and i feel this is really toxic. Because of this i have developed commitment issues and anxiety that i hope can work thru to live a happy life. 

he recently texted me 2 days ago asking me how am I. I blocked him. When i don’t think about him i live my happiest of life’s but when he tries to reconnect with me he fucks my entire life, if not for weeks then months. I’m so tired of him trying to reach out to me whenever he feels like doing so. 

I don’t know if i should unblock him and give it another chance undo I have a gut feeling that is going to end with him disappearing for another 6 months or just trying to erase him from my life. He has never been a good dad o spouse, he did a lot of damage to my family to the point he stole all of my moms fortunes which she inherited form my grandad, making us be financially stressed causing us to move houses a couple of times and switching high schools. 

Although he has always ask me for my forgiveness for being a trashy man i have never really pardon him appropriately, i feel like he fucked my life.",7.09226525821596,6.425039658450707,7.665830985915495,73.82470892018782,64.38732394366197,10.812769953051644,33.01784037558686,10.203070172399654,3.208963192488264,2298,80,430,46,30,764,258,568,0.113,0.809,0.078,-0.9608,5,0,0,0,5,0,34.0,5,0,4,3,19,20,3,3,23,0,26,16,3,11,8,89,67,50,0,8,10,21,7,2,0,1,10,0,2,3,18,34,0,1,13,0,5,10,9,12,0,2,15,9,80,8,80,48,11,78,0,5,2,3,85,16,2,10,53,297,98,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058272786435506874,0.1057223106597582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047688577758856786,0.04961952591562218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875915508897381,0.045619167110040285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11149781883521882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0363517913041937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06820439316697137,0.0,0.06125963225480069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319658073725047,0.0,0.038458423623238466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10563447356983477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053941563453842586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05621679035498893,0.0,0.1809137578344734,0.08520381360810472,0.0,0.06532515885568599,0.054503583608562174,0.0,0.0,0.06538462883015739,0.0,0.11025970141909516,0.062311679034228275,0.0572055144233688,0.03389087153744988,0.050017424691359294,0.19077618756847908,0.0,0.0,0.05904615593544019,0.0,0.06348055611441346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06300565643385425,0.11963374613564078,0.059229135165711676,0.0,0.06880860422980185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062241475285731124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03277279856533927,0.0,0.06726874725992082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3790856722130332,0.058267452233577974,0.0,0.1053142600495534,0.0,0.050076794716105384,0.0,0.0,0.0506979389365537,0.05382121140280267,0.0,0.11941669504789253,0.0,0.059909475783390835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20952473854514536,0.14279574210995044,0.12676112038611792,0.0,0.0,0.1839709275573902,0.1151880614580249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06257491919892053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3310775663469515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05637256553646763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11412166824467228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146074947492651,0.0,0.058880503459951126,0.1920709341957188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0603518925449022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13473688431429098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12662586984758192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06830952779722096,0.06234147592501229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0396175895425798,0.03821048999946456,0.0,0.0,0.06954509379904486,0.06853948933757043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429218099188033,0.0,0.05825288495088673,0.0,0.21519387227709347,0.15451158538596926,0.0,0.0,0.03517315423074818,0.047333988252716674,0.04783408506873432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04341361543275588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19200884343780306
divorce,NessaBearz,2020/04/20,"Things haven’t changed My husband lies, doesn’t follow through, gaslights me, changes for a bit but reverts back. I knew all this going in and I honestly thought I could change him! Lol I wanted a family for my daughter and I and he had amazing qualities like loving , light hearted, family oriented and he was head over heels for me and adored me. It felt so good. I know it’s my own fault for ignoring all the red flags and pushing my motives for a “fairy tale family” well Five years later and recently a new baby. I am drained, the change has not come, and I am not a healthy version of myself at all. I hate this. I feel angry, frustrated, and betrayed a lot in my marriage. I know it’s not all his fault. I just need to vent. I can’t talk to people in my life about this yet until I can sort my mind out.",1.2425336640680378,3.378008150602412,2.7194401133947568,92.95755846917082,81.95180722891565,6.074557051736357,23.62012756909993,7.285733465282438,0.9050684620836288,627,23,137,9,17,204,105,166,0.198,0.632,0.16899999999999998,-0.6826,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,1,7,12,2,0,8,1,10,5,3,1,4,34,23,12,0,3,5,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,7,11,0,1,7,0,0,4,6,5,1,1,5,4,27,7,17,17,8,17,0,0,1,1,9,6,0,2,8,94,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11408022812849725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16197147008902274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6277838364494942,0.1277996147963628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184539546088631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4195838204958667,0.0,0.0750156326498794,0.0,0.14244954753957534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08431681039195613,0.12443792451117998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14647548578213912,0.15226089039052962,0.0,0.0,0.17580815552269552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16307033235153015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10479155692730374,0.0724815488526476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12613097010068858,0.1339013330448263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14980202408253368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11000758649548599,0.0,0.14328769808473446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285463586707186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14648830262537352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192467187881915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09856426329894838,0.0,0.0,0.11778183158318516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08750699057366812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13339409557642035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955394329581305
divorce,Denedawg,2020/04/20,"Confused So I’m a 35 (m) with one divorce under my belt my wife is 36 (f) with two under hers. One night she came home from drinking with some mutual friends and told me she wanted a divorce because “I didn’t touch her enough”. I figured she was just mad because we had gotten in a fight about her staying out drinking. Time went on and she asked me to go to my moms so we could have some space. Once I was at my moms she insisted she still wanted the divorce. I tried everything I even set up counseling, after I set up counseling she just said let’s not waste our time and call it what it is. I admit I freaked out, but wanting a divorce just because I don’t touch you enough made no sense. I finally admitted that I had an addiction to painkillers thus explaining why I never wanted to have sex or touch her. She lost it on me and said she could never be with a drug addict. I set up appts and was able to kick the addiction and convinced her to go to counseling, after our first session I was feeling good, however in the week between our second session I found out she was already on Tinder (we had been seperated 2 weeks at this point) Once again I lost it. She explained she needed attention that I just wasn’t giving her and she needed to know she was worthy of being liked. I always thought she had cheated and had someone waiting but if she did why would she be on tinder? A few weeks went by and I noticed she was acting different but she swore she wasn’t seeing anyone. I knew she was lying so I hacked her IG and saw messages from a 21 year old kid talking about how in love they were I was shocked, I mean she has an 18 year old daughter that is very judgmental, I figured there was no way she could be really dating a 21 year old but turns out she was, I’m not sure what I’m asking i guess I just want peoples opinions on what they think is going on in her head cause I was married to her and Im clueless.",3.2582532789021097,4.313213088161209,4.342920177191001,88.30876574307304,73.03022670025189,7.188708416572571,26.78789194823243,7.503015589744147,1.3055728133414397,1504,52,320,17,29,491,191,397,0.102,0.813,0.084,-0.8081,2,0,3,0,5,0,27.0,6,1,2,3,15,14,3,1,13,0,40,9,1,4,3,74,83,21,0,12,13,4,4,1,1,1,4,2,1,1,11,23,2,1,14,2,0,7,10,8,0,5,37,8,76,6,43,37,5,56,0,2,2,2,67,23,0,7,22,229,87,2,0.08597111231506988,0.0,0.0,0.2811636067086404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09487126024681393,0.0,0.07153485244835397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06011300065862269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16074276953499728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572215763367545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08778611782028055,0.09832804952279324,0.0,0.08831601418037541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20592281295151732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0898215143507388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16843792104896085,0.09969919626374812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17766228109677035,0.0,0.05678310887123283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07726529229946176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04346957752939675,0.0,0.0,0.0941771513063878,0.0,0.07312698421683536,0.0,0.09426288722930157,0.06642106811405818,0.0,0.0,0.08247132470525056,0.14657809300114494,0.07210849013808397,0.0,0.0,0.09470687268395407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08823116390176508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862360353080531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09286355401721756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047247474989539615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08791128706322505,0.0,0.04200114290852399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18769524946064275,0.0,0.0775922854006752,0.08134794516705213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09364774460631027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013766553862217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12749298089123126,0.13261244353668175,0.0,0.0,0.08067806506482762,0.0,0.0,0.09787868118340286,0.2706366614308869,0.18311285764394591,0.11651250130913185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0596015445067201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08127048945698923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055075295965178316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635564299965145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06850784579767684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07284304447775436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09163376690739007,0.06865664134822785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08102675593063094,0.0,0.0,0.06910032355099782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055086817410128185,0.0,0.06825146011173244,0.10026089390457714,0.0,0.0,0.08214908202812886,0.0,0.058368741969908,0.09351188297243276,0.08398128464062272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07093517128317894,0.25353994739071045,0.06823986732981162,0.20688252180478428,0.0,0.0,0.1593921648475745,0.15515111382647015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061071411556911426,0.0,0.0,0.1660877329718048