My (26f) boyfriend (27m) and his friends say I’m gaslighting him but I’m pretty sure I’m not. What do I do? My boyfriend seems to bring up things I never did or said to start an argument and when I explain it didn’t happen he says I’m gaslighting him. Based on videos of gaslighting saying something doesn’t happen is one of the most common gaslighting phrases but I really don’t think I’m gaslighting. Example Him - during our fight yesterday you punched the mirror and it shattered all over the floor. I can’t bring anything up to you because you act so erratically. Me - what mirror? I didn’t punch anything what are you talking about. Him - the mirror in the bathroom. Me - I absolutely did not do that go show me the broken mirror. We go to the bathroom Him - it’s all fixed now because I went to the store today but look there’s a piece of glass right here *picks something up and throws it away before I can even see it*. Me - what? No that never happened Him - you’re scaring me right now I need you to stop this. Please don’t be violent again. I’m so scared I don’t know why you’re acting like this Me - *defeated* im sorry Another example Him - did you really have to call me a *bad word* yesterday while you were at work? Me - what? I didn’t say that Him - I have the text right here look *shows a screenshot* Me - *scrolls back through my texts and the text is not there. Realizes his screenshot shows green text even though we both have iphones* I never sent that that screenshot is fake Him - wtf you need to take responsibility for your actions you cant just call me a *bad word* and gaslight me into thinking it’s not true. You always do this. Me - no I really didn’t say that I think you’re confused (videos show I think you’re confused is also used by gaslighters often ) I’m sorry Him - is it that hard to apologize? You hurt me so bad all the time and pretend it never happens. It’s so hurtful and disrespectful I can’t believe you act like this. Am I gaslighting him? I don’t think I am but I’m honestly so confused. His friends tell him to break up with me all the time because I gaslight him. I don’t think I would ever do that though but he’s shown me lots of gaslighting learning videos and I do say “that never happened” or “I think you’re confused” really often so maybe I am? I don’t know what to do or how to change. Tl;dr! - boyfriend thinks I’m gaslighting him by saying I didn’t do things that I didn’t do.