My bf sexted my mom and masturbated to her on chat. I am a 27 year old female and I was in a with a 32 year old male for one year. After one year of being with him, I saw a chat between him and my 45 year old mother where they had been sexting and masturbating. He had masturbated to her in that chat and actually “finished”. It was a coincidence that I saw that chat, I stumbled upon it completely by mistake. This guy treated me very well for a year and I never saw any red flags. He respected me and treated me very well I had no complains throughout our relationship. And my brain is not able to process and comprehend where all of that came from. Is the guy sick in the head or was it just a mistake? I am very conflicted and it’s giving me way too much emotional distress. I feel like I got severely traumatized and I am not able to think clearly since that day. I lost my mom and him and I feel very low. I haven’t been the same since this incident my whole life has changed After 2 years of him asking for forgiveness and being sincere about it; part of me thinks that this sick vile action was actually a mistake and it’s not character to do act that way. But I can’t help but brush off the feeling that he is sick and mentally unstable and has no respect whatsoever for me or my mother. My questions are: 1. Can someone redeem himself from this disgusting act that crosses every single line and boundary 2. Can I eventually forgive him for this ? Or is he just a sick person. 3. Can I forgive my mom? TL;DR my boyfriend (32 Male) masturbated to my mother on chat. i would like to know if this can be forgiven or should I cut him off even though he has sincerely asked for forgiveness for 2 years now. UPDATE: I just found out from my mom that it wasn’t just one chat where they sexted and he masturbated to her. There was another instance where he called her on video call and masturbated to her. I don’t know where this came from because he was the most loving and caring partner for a year and a half. I never saw any red flags at all. I am not sure what happened but my brain is not able to process this because of how well he treated me and how honest and loyal he was. I am in shock and I really don’t know what to do to get out of my feeling. I just know I’m shocked and I can’t believe this is the same guy who I felt so protected with.