by telling my best friend I don't like her 'loser' boyfriend My best friend ("Maria") has a bf and I'll be honest, I havent really liked him since I first met him. All he does is sit at home and smoke weed. While she has her problems, my Maria is extremely intelligent and hardworking, and has even picked up a part-time job alongside her studies. Maria's bf, on the other hand, has been a NEET for the better part of 2 years. On top of this, they go through a cycle where everything is great and lovely, then horrible and argumentative, then back again. I've spoken to him before and the conversation is decent and... I'm having a hard time thinking of positive things to say about him. There's A LOT more to why I dislike him, but I'll keep this short. One night we have a little evening together, and Maria breaks down. She starts crying, telling me how awful she feels in the relationship, about how badly they've been arguing, and about how much of a toll it has had on her mental health. I told her how highly I think of her and tried to assure her - but I definitely FU by being too blunt. I told a tearful Maria how much of a loser her bf is, how he has nothing going for him, how he looks like a discord mod and how much better she can do. I asked her what she saw in him and she couldn't give me an answer. It might be worth adding that this was by no means the first time she confided in me with this type of complaint/information. Well, now I don't see her as much, and when I do it is never at her house. We never saw each other super frequently but it's even less so now. Things between them are, you guessed it, great and lovely again. I still think he's a loser, but idk how to tell her that I don't mind conversing with him and getting to know him more. I've told her that I'd like to spend one-on-one time with him, but she never brought it up again. She mentions him sometimes in conversation (positively, as of late) and if she's happy, I'm happy for her. I hope she can tell me when/if things get bad again. I wish I saw her more often. I should've stuck to hyping her up instead of breaking her bf down. TL;DR: I told my best friend that I think her boyfriend is a loser and that she can do better, and now I don't see her as much as I used to.