I 29M told my wife 27F that if she had an abortion I would leave her I 29M told my wife 27F that if she had an abortion I’d leave her I (M29) have been married to my wife (F27) for 6 years, but we have been dating since high school. For some backstory: my wife grew up in an abusive household where both of her parents were alcoholics. She had gotten into some pretty heavy drugs since she was a teenager and had gone to rehab twice. I’ve done everything I can to comfort her, and even to this day she still struggles with depression and anxiety. After she got clean we bought a house together and she was able to get a job that was good for her. We never really talked about having kids and whenever I brought it up she would be super dismissive. I just figured she was waiting until she was older. Well, two weeks ago I got home from work and my wife looked kinda upset. I asked her what was wrong and she said nothing. Like an hour later she grabbed her keys and started to leave but then I asked her where she was going and she told me she was going to the doctor’s office. I asked for what and she said for an abortion. This caught me off guard because I didn’t even know she was pregnant so I asked her what was going on and she explained how she found out she was pregnant a few weeks ago and scheduled an abortion. I told her that she can’t just make that decision without me and that we should at least talk about it but she ignored me and said that it was her choice and she doesn’t want kids. Before I could even say anything she walked out and drove off. I was literally standing there in shock for 5 minutes because that happened to fast. I texted her trying to convince her to come back and talk but after time went on I said that if she followed through with it, I would divorce her. She saw my message but didn’t say anything and about half an hour later she comes back home. I was waiting on the couch and stood up when she came in. She told me she didn’t get the procedure and just walked away. She slept in the guest room that night. The next few days around the house was like walking on eggshells and we barely talked to each other no matter how hard I tried to start a conversation. She already goes to therapy every week and last week we went together (per my suggestion). She talked about the situation which shocked me because she never talked about it at home. She told her therapist that she wasn’t ready to be a mother because she didn’t want to be like her parents, and that I wasn’t allowed to force her into motherhood if she wasn’t ready. I tried to explain how it’s not fair to take my chance of being a father away behind my back and that I can say my piece. Her therapist talked about the text I sent her and I told her that that’s how I felt and I expected my wife to be open with me. (I’m keeping this very vague because there were a lot of personal details.) I thought the session was good but my wife was still being short with me for the next week. I scheduled a doctors appointment with her to check on the baby but my wife doesn’t seem thrilled at all. Whenever I talk about the pregnancy she doesn’t smile and overall just looks sad. I feel bad that she is struggling because I love her so much and just want us to start a family. I confided with one of my co-workers and she said it’s not fair to anyone to have a kid wanted by only one parent. That stuck with me and now I’m not sure how to go about this. How do I help my wife with this? And how do I make her trust I won’t leave her? I don’t want to lose my wife.