I (f22) gave an almost bf(m23) and ultimatum and fucked up How do I mend a relationship I fucked up? For context: I (22F) have been speaking to this guy, we'll call him Bob (23M), on and off for the last 2 years. Every time it seemed like we were heading into a relationship, Bob would ghost and we'd stop speaking for a couple of weeks. Recently, Bob and I started talking again. He explained that his radio silence was because he got scared of his feelings and needed to work through them. For a few weeks, I made things difficult for him - I needed reassurance that it wasn't going to happen again and he was confident that he could prove himself. Things were going really well, we both wanted a relationship and the effort from both sides was present. At a point Bob even went further as to tell me he loved me (although he only said it once and never again). Heres where it goes downhill - Bob isn't good at talking about his feelings or thoughts. The words literally cannot come out of his mouth, which bothered me to such an extent that I gave him an ultimatum (terrible decision on my part). Bob had two options, discuss his feelings regarding us and out potential future relationship or I'm cutting communication - in my head, I really thought this would be the push for him to open up which I desperately needed. I stopped speaking to him but he still tried communicating with me. Again the topic of his feelings about us came up and the whole thing repeated itself, only he stopped communicating as well. A couple of weeks ago, I called to check if he was alive because he kept ignore my texts to come pick up his stuff. We landed up speaking for over an hour and actually had a decent conversation. I thought ( which is never a good thing) that maybe things would start to pick up again and we could rekindle whatever we had before everything went to shit. Apparently thats not how it works and it didn't happen. Long story short, I messaged him saying that I missed him and he's ignoring it. I need help fixing things between us because I really do want to be in a relationship with him. I also understand that maybe he's just not the type to be expressive and maybe pushing him to be something he's not wasn't fair. Although, I also feel like it's not fair to me to have to guess his thoughts on important things.