content: We are all born alone and we all die alone. Disconnected is our default condition.  Any alien watching us would most likely have had to evolve by natural selection. Natural selection requires competition for finite resources. Competition requires winners and losers. I chose to win. I do not morn the losers and I would not expect aliens to morn me. If aliens are watching us they probably want to win too and let's hope we don't have to compete with them yet, but if we do, then let's hope we either win or the aliens show us a way we can all win in a universe of limited resources. But so far they've given us no evidence that we can all win or that they are willing to help us in any way (which makes them huge assholes unworthy of our friendship), so we are compelled to use our own 3.8 billion years of evolution picking winners and losers.