content: Femininity is the aspect of potential, and masculinity is the aspect of actuality. By asking the question you will draw the actuality to you. You need to have men around you who will help you weed out the grifters who will come to you looking for less than you want. It is unfortunate that your parents cannot be those people, and you might have to be that person. It will be hard, but you can do it. I wish you well. If you pray, and if you work at it, you will find which you seek. Good luck, God bless.