content: It seems more like that the "are you saying" thing is a call out / code word for "you just commited wrong thing" and when you own up to it by  "thats exactlly what I am saying" the lose their ability to talk because they didn expect to have to respond so fast, they braced themslfes for listen to your rambling as you try to appologize for wrong think and then kick you some more when you are down.