content: While I agree with you in a way..  However, when a highly-visible community member's private views become public, controversial, and disruptive for the project, I must consider the impact that his words and actions have on others and the project itself. In this case, Larry has entwined his private and professional online identities in such a way that it blurs the lines with the Drupal project.  How you get your dick hard is your private business. Sharing it publicly is your choice - but is not without consequence. Nor should it be. When you are a prominent member of an organization, your actions represent that organization and you are expected to act in accordance with that responsibility. I wouldn't expect to keep my job if I publicly said I masturbate to hentai... So we have two options:  You censor yourself out of common respect to others (have a private online persona to discuss your private life), OR We force everyone else to censor their response your kinks.  Which is more oppressive? And further, the guy is treating it like he's some martyr in the crusade for tolerance.  While western culture has grown dramatically more tolerant of diverse practices and lifestyles in the past few decades, there is still much work to be done. In particular, there is still an enormous stigma around those who practice alternative sexuality lifestyles, such as the BDSM community, Leather community, and so on.  I don't have to be tolerant of what gets your dick hard. That's your private business. Keep it fucking private and it's not an issue. It's not my responsibility to be morally OK with your kinks... It's your responsibility to keep your kinks to yourself. I don't see the fucking controversy here.