content: I don't think that's the end game here. I'm female and all this stuff feels like indoctrination of purity culture. They are playing on a person's insecurity in an attempt to get them to give up their own autonomy.  Women are being infantilized, everyone is now it seems, but this stuff particularly seems geared at forcing women to not grow up. Backpedalling toward the years when a wife was basically like a mans child. He made the decisions because she was not capable of making them herself. Regret sex is a part of living in a free culture that says it's ok to have control over your body. It is not rape. The question stated she liked him, flirted and made out with him. She can't remember if they had sex, and that sucks, but for all she knows it was the best sex ever. Or the worse. She'll not know until she acts like an adult and discusses it with her partner. If he's a dick about it who cares, it's just sex. Tell your friends he was a terrible lay. Go get checked out, pop some plan B and try to avoid whatever it was you were drinking next time. Stick to lighter stuff. Enjoy life. Don't give people who have no right to your body or decisions you make with authority over you just because you feel bad about something you don't remember. Find out the best you can from everyone you knew there and try to make better choices next time.