content: There’s already a lot of good advice in the comments, it doesn’t seem like @ Trasheconomy is going to take any of it, my impression is that he is just as bad as the husband and is in the bubble so he can’t see how sad his life is. Why would you feel responsible for someone else’s decision? I was asked to be a man of honor to my friend I knew from the age of 6 and I turned it down because he was marrying an over weight feminist who was on bi-polar medication and I couldn’t support that marriage.  That’s not the point in any of this, OP is wasting his energy on someone who doesn’t actually value his advice, just like he doesn’t value the advice in this comment thread and only selectively replied to a couple people.  And I’m not trying to be mean @Trasheconomy what strikes me is that you are attracted to this woman and fantasized about being with her. That’s all this is. You aren’t looking for advice, you are looking for points to sage your subvonscious.