My thoughts exactly. I have friends and family who were abused as children. The skilled manipulators never threaten harm or make the child feel scared. They fool the child into thinking they're in control. I have a young niece who's abuser told her at 12 things like "we can stop anytime you want. You're in control" while knowing goddamn well a child is not going to say no to physical pleasure especially with a trusted adult. They're doing something risqué and fun and it's the best they've ever felt in their lives.  They're not in pain or being forced so there's nothing wrong in their minds.  Oprah is 100% right in what she said. The abusers who never get caught operate exactly like she said and you're a damn fool if you think otherwise.