Every family has to have a leader who is the strongest, spiritually. That leader needs to pull him or herself together and hold it together. I know this seems harsh, but I’ve gone through several really rough times in my life. Both my parents deceased, and no siblings, I have been left to fend for myself. Now, I am the leader of a family, and I refuse to let ANYTHING get me or any member of my family down. If this ever happens, the last thing I would do is blame someone else.