First, you should not have gone home ever until all the paperwork was done. Second, if your wife cannot be trusted to carry on your wishes with one of the biggest events of your life, you have a far more serious problem than the annoying hospital staff. Thir  7ffa  d, if you can't raise hell on behalf of your biological child that shares half your DNA because you're afraid of a woman that shares none of your DNA, you are making an enormous mistake. Your child will always be your child. Your wife probably won't always be your wife.  I'd watch your back if I were you. You have a huge "Kick Me" sign hanging on your back and your wife knows it.