What adults do in the privacy of their home is none of our business.   But you have a judgement about it:  ...the filthy things they do in private is unacceptable.  Attempting to change the definition of 'marriage' is unacceptable.  Only a spouse can automatically inherit. Only a spouse can gain access to the ER when an accident occurs. Why do you care so much about not granting these human rights to gays?  If it really is none of your business, then let it be so.