Thanks.  I too am life long Southerner.  Was taught same manners as you no doubt.  I was looking through the manners taught a Victorian era child, and I pretty much was taught the same: Never talk back to older people, especially your father and mother. Never whine or frown when spoken to by your elders. Never argue with your elders for they know best. Never do anything that is forbidden by your elders. Do as you are told in a pleasant and willing way. Never contradict anyone under any circumstances. It is very impolite. Always great members of your family when entering a room. Always bid good bye to members of your family when you leave the room. Always rise to a standing position when a visitor enters. Never address a visitor until he/she has started the conversation.