With balance, kindness, empathy and compassion guiding our actions, we don't really need a code of etiquette.  I say that because it always shocked me growing up how the people who were the absolute worst to children when no one else is around (or stole valuables from the parents at parties, etc.) always used "etiquette teaching" to silence the kids who tried to out them.    Considering how many pedovores have hidden behind etiquette to keep from being confronted and called out, I've always considered it a way to silence valid dissent about things that are too horrible to talk about and yet MUST be addressed.  Just to provide a balanced perspective about etiquette.    I prefer a general level of graciousness and harmony due to a well functioning society based on Judeo-Christian values — to strict adherence to etiquette codes that suppress the truth natur  ffa  al flow.