Help for forgiving the many people who have hurt us in our lives as we have tried to wake people up Holding on to offense cuts us off from some of the promises of God. Healing for one. These steps are meant for those in our circle of friends and family. But there may be some steps that help us to release our anger and hatred at the Deep State too. This does not mean they don't face justice. Of course they have to face justice. But we also have to move forward without the hate and anger and unforgiveness at some point in the future. I have had to forgive some hurtful things and can only share what has helped me. Here are my 6 steps. 1/. Our minds run over what the person did worn or what we hate about them. set time aside to remember the things they did that were helpful, important, kind, generous or that you just love about them. Stop letting your mind rehash just the bad acts. This applies to personal friends/family who have hurt you, not the deep state. There is nothing good to say about them. 2/. If what they did was not about you at all but just about their own insecurities, need to feel good about who they are, poor self control, poor communication skills, limitations, then can you see that we all have such limits and that it does not change how they value you. This is sometimes very helpful other times not so much. 3/. Our reactions to hurtful behavior is rarely just about the present. When we get hurt it triggers our previous hurts and the lies the past hurts made us believe about ourselves. Im not important, valuable, smart enough, lovable, good. I cant get what I want, I am alone, I am not safe. These got installed long before our adult hurts. Therefore some of the pain we experienced is not in response to the present. Can we hold the individual responsible for what they did not for our reactions which are often out of proportion because of a build up of old events making us feel shame and fear. Take advantage of the opportunity to take good notes on what is coming up and what lies you are hearing about yourself. These are your responsibility to work through. Deliverance ministry should focus on these lies. These lies are the enemies strongholds in you. 4/. Visualize yourself standing before God the Father. He knows you deeply. All your failings and sins. The bible says there are no big or little sins. Sin is sin. But because of our faith in Jesus Christ and our forgiveness by his blood we can stand before God the father and he sees only the child he created and his love and joy in you is full and complete. See his eyes gazing at you with love and his face showing absolute empathy, love, joy at your presence. (we all should do this everyday 5 minutes in the morning and night) . Now comes the forgiveness part. Now imagine the hurtful person standing next to you. Imagine that If they are Christian and believe in salvation that God is looking at them just as he looked at you. This is his child. Now imagine the non christian. How does god look at them. Can they see God at all or do they feel alone and shameful. Regardless what they have done would you change places with that person in that moment when they stand before God without the grace from the cross to wash us clean. Does your heart feel sad for them? Can you now begin to forgive and pray for their salvation? 5/. Begin to pray for the individual who hurt you. Ask God to bless them, forgive them, and that they would know Gods love everyday. Pray for their problems. Do this 5 minutes a day. Ask God to help you forgive any remaining hurt. 6/. Now without anger evaluate if this person is safe for you at this time in there walk. Evaluate if you can handle the behaviors they exhibit to stand in their life as a reflection of God so that they might find him someday or come closer to recognizing his love for them? Or is this situation to toxic and you are not in a position for them to receive healing in their walk with God. Forgiveness does not always mean continuing the relations ship. once he anger and fear are gone, you can try renegotiating the rules of your relationship with them and ask for what you need. Don't go backward into what happened. They will want to do that to talk you out of being assertive about the future. Just sidetrack that and don't take the bait. They know what happened at that you were hurt. They know that is wrong even if they are standing in front of u down playing it to try to prevent change in your relationship. Change is scary. They don't now where this is going. Just ask for what you need going forward. If they don't immediately agree, wait and see how they look later. People often need some time to calm down and process and then they can try to change. If you have to walk away then take on intercessory prayer for them and ask God to heal them. IN this way though you have isolated for your own emotional safety, you have not abandoned them or given up on them. Leave the door open enough to revisit the relationship someday. Let the person know you will hope and pray that you can come back together, if they can hear this without getting angry at you you can tell them you are committing to pray for them. That you really want to see them have a happy good life and reunite. Some people you cant say any of this too. Like with the Deep State, we don't have to hold them accountable. We can release them to God for his vengeance. Never put yourself in danger to talk to unsafe people. It wont go well. As I said, not all these steps are helpful with the deep state. This is written for the people in our lives who hurt us.