You can't blame yourself for what may have happened after you provided help for kids in need.  What would have happened to them otherwise?  Evil people try to take advantage of us this way (our tax $ funding some of these people), and then shift the blame to us whenever possible.  The goal is to paralyze good people through guilt and shame. I think there are times in our lives when we are placed into other people's lives to show love, mercy, grace, and light.  And sometimes that is the spark or impetus that causes the trajectory of their lives to change.