I'm with you. If you rely on others to love you and make you feel loved, you have a very low self-esteem and those others can take that love away and leave you feeling worthless.    If you learn to love yourself, then only you can hurt or heal yourself. That's choice and strength.    These hams don't actually love themselves, and anyone here who thinks they do is being ridiculous. People who love themselves don't spout it everywhere. The hams say it over and over simply to get others to tell them, "You go girl! You're so strong! We love you too!" and so on. See the difference? These hams only say it to get validation from others. If they really did, they wouldn't need to be validated.