Ham parents getting an early start on ruining their son's life This has really been bothering me but I can't express it to my boyfriend as the hams in question are his brother and sister-in-law. (Neither my boyfriend nor his other brother are overweight... but genetics, right? /s) So these ham parents have a toddler son, about 4 years old. I've met him a handful of times and while I'm not really great with kids, even I think he's a really cute, bright, outgoing little dude. Funny, happy, not whiny or demanding. He LOVES my boyfriend because he'll actually play - run around, "wrestle," play active pretend games, pick him up and hold him upside down, etc. Little nephew thinks this is is awesome (I'm sure because his parents are too out of shape to keep up).  Boyfriend's brother, the dad, is a nice guy except for all the fat. Sister-in-law, the mom, is unpleasant as well as massively obese (surprise surprise). On the few occasions we've met she's shut down my attempts at friendly small talk with grunted one-word answers. But whatever, I'm civil for boyfriend's sake and just enjoy catching her jealous glares at my rockin' shitlady body out of the corner of my eye. Anyway, they live a few hours away so they send out photos of Nephew to family members a few times a year - school pictures, minor holiday greetings, etc, so they can see how he's growing. The last one we got was a few months ago... and Nephew is getting fat. This upsets me SO goddamn much. It's not fucking genetics. He was a healthy, normal-sized little kid. But they're already ruining his health. Seriously, he's not even five years old and they're setting him up for a lifetime of unnecessary struggle.  I was always sort of afraid this might happen - after all, it seemed sort of inevitable that two people who can't make good lifestyle choices for themselves would eventually start pushing those same bad choices on their kid. But it pisses me off because he really does seem to be a bright little guy with a lot of potential. And instead of helping him maximize that potential, they're putting a huge obstacle in his way. Just needed to vent because every time I see his photo on the fridge I want to say something, but boyfriend isn't a full-on shitlord and I don't want him to think I'm saying anything against his nephew. I'm not. I'm just pissed at his fat fuck parents.