It used to be that you had to have decent hygiene and put a modicum of effort into your physical appearance.  Currently, you hace to got to private parties if you want anyone who isn't a landwhale--even in low-BMI Canadian and American cities, the BDSM groups are all-landwhale. Political correctness and "it's mean to say no to landwhales" poisoned BDSM groups just like they're currently poisoning the US Army.  What's even worse about BDSM/kink/polyamory/swinger/etc. groups is that not only do they have the above problem, they actively lobby against self-selection that would normally keep out fat, ugly, lazy scum.  They amputate the one thing that makes it possible for a group to be fuckable. A pertinent example of this was a Reddit post on some kink sub.  The poster was trying to get money, and actively solicited fat, hairy, ugly, no-effort crossdressers.  As a furfag jota, what's the motherfucking point of crossdressing, then?  How could a crossdresser stand to be fat, bald, and hairy?  The whole reason Louis XIV's effeminate Kinsey-6 brother Philippe, Duke of Orleans crossdressed was aesthetics and looksmaxxing. If BDSM groups instead told people "look your best before showing up," the results would be spectacular.  The crossdressing parties HIV-prevention activist Mema Ortega organized in the 1990s were a smashing success, and it's not like the jotas being pretty was due to "socioeconomic privilege," because the Nezhualcoyotl neighborhood of Mexico City was a dirt-poor shithole barrio when Annicka Prieur wrote Mema's House.  Likewise for the gay crossdresser subculture of early-2000s Colima in Cesar Gonzales's Travestis al Desnudo.  Likewise for the crossdressing male hooker locas of Guatemala in Whitham's Male Homosexuality in Four Societies.   It horrifies me to think how all three of those are now possibly gone because everyone wants to drink Cokes and be landwhales. It should also be noted that gay clubs in Mexico City and Colima banned crossdressers, so they instead organized private parties.  Shitlords should do likewise. When the Army had fat-shaming and "what the fuck is that, Private Pyle?" the percentage of fats in the army was low.  As Paratrooper_19D can attest, even the guys with poor genetics instead of Chad's handsome mug had fit bodies women loved.