STOP congratulating fatties for TRYING to lose weight. You are actually enabling them. Lately, I've been seeing fat sympathy here and there on this subverse, in the form of people congratulating fatties on trying to lose weight. Just now, I got into a discussion with someone on here who was doing exactly that, and when I replied to him I figured I might as well make a post and repeat some of the things I said to that person, so that others could see why we should never congratulate them for trying.  Now, the people who are guilty of this usually say that this is actually necessary, because fat people might need some support to get to their desired result. What you need to understand, however, is that patting them on the back for doing the bare minimum of what would be expected of someone in their position only reinforces their mindset that revolves around instant gratification. That's why you see so many hams posting pictures of themselves at the gym, with no visible results after months of what they would have us believe was hard work. They get brownie points for just showing up because of enablers like yourself who congratulate them on the process instead of on the result. If you must insist on congratulating hams at all, even though I'd advise against it, do so once they've shed all of their excess weight. "There is no glory in the process", I've heard said before. So we shouldn't be treating them in a way that would ever suggest there is.