Need help de-hamming after a breakup longtime lurker here. i guess i'm reaching out because truthfully, i need a bit of help. i was dumped by my fiancé-- who was starting to approach hambeastiness but wasn't quite there yet, at 6 ft 2 197lbs, 24 years old--of almost 4 years, about a year ago. most of his family (parents, siblings) are extremely overweight (250+ lbs) but his older sister is fit and gorgeous, so i figured it was a lifestyle issue rather than a "genetics" thing.  my parents tell me i dodged a bullet because asians are the biggest shitlords (we're asian, they're typical blonde blue-eyed americans), and they were secretly worried we'd raise fat kids this whole time (i love fitness, train every day and am 5'2" 101 lbs), but i can't seem to move on. i still dream about this dude, can't sleep a lot of the time and miss him like crazy. everyone around me tells me i can do better but i can't help how i feel. he was a kind and patient guy, aside from dumping me via phone at 3am on the night of my first exam in med school.. yeah, not the smoothest breakup. please help me snap out of this. everyone tells me i'll meet someone else because i'm young and conventionally attractive and will be a doctor (albeit a family doc- i'm at the bottom of my class lol... thanks ex-fiance...) but i keep remembering how, when we broke up, he told me he felt i kept trying to change him. and he resented me for pushing him to get better grades (clarification- hes not in med school with me). and i feel guilty, like i wouldn't be in med school without all his encouragement and support when i was having anxiety attacks the past couple years. then i remember what a shitty girlfriend i was and how i used to nag him and sometimes get snappy at him when i was overtired, and i secretly feel worthless inside. and his hambeast family treated me like shit after too..  even though, when we were together, they'd share tons of pics of me with their friends and brag about their "gorgeous future doctor-in-law" (their words, not mine). so i guess i miss and am in love with a bunch of people who hate me. tl;dr- can't sleep, can't eat, unrequitedly in love with a future ham.