Accidental shitlording is creeping into my life and I don't know what to do! I have publicly shitlorded twice in the past week: 1) On Sunday, my dad and I finished our 6-mile run and decided to reward ourselves with fancy coffee. We showed up to the hipster coffee shop kinda sweaty but happy and feeling great. We approached the register and my dad asked me what I wanted. The counter was overflowing with gorgeous homemade baked goods, the kind I would literally never eat even if I had just run a marathon (no shade to those shitlords and ladies who fit these types of foods into their diets, but I find total avoidance to be most effective for me). I'm talking cinnamon rolls as big as a child's head, 6-inch long chocolate croissants, and big fluffy beetusmuffins. I pointed to the chocolate croissants and said "I'll have one of those!" My shitlord dad and I looked at each other and cracked up, as if I'd just made a hilarious joke. The ham behind the counter didn't think it was funny. I felt bad because she probably made them/had one or several for breakfast, but if maybe my comment will cause her to rethink her lifestyle?? I said "just kidding, I'd like a small black dark roast, please." Then my dad and I went home to make eggs and toast to enjoy with our post-run coffee. It was such a nice morning! 2) Last night, some coworkers and I went out for dinner, and I was seated next to a fat. We were all talking about foods we like, and someone mentioned [redacted to avoid triggering lurking hams]. The fat spoke rapturously about how much she loved them. I said "I like them, but that's one food I will probably never eat again." Everyone looked at me like I was insane (perhaps some of you also think I'm crazy). But here's the thing- what I am doing is working for me. I have cut certain foods that I don't really miss out of my life, because it's just simpler to do so. I allow myself occasional indulgences (within my calorie allotment) but only things I REALLY enjoy- otherwise it's a waste. The fat sort of scoffed, probably thinking my life is totally devoid of pleasure without [redacted to avoid triggering lurking hams]. I added "40 pounds ago I really enjoyed them, but now I just can't justify [usual topping], and I don't really like them without it."  In both instances I felt sort of guilty for accidentally shitlording. Help me feel okay about it? Fat people really bother me, especially since I've lost so much weight (normal BMI right here, guys!) and am working to lose more. But I can't help feeling a bit superficial and mean. I recently rejected a lovely guy I went on a couple of dates with because he was a junior planet. I just wasn't attracted to him/ didn't find our lifestyles compatible. Any feedback?  TL;DR Shitlady in training feels guilty about potentially hurting the fee fees of hams and seeks validation for occasional accidental shitlording.