I'm right there with you. Used to be a lot higher but I currently eat about 3000 calories to maintain my weight of 125 as a 5' 11'' male. No one on either side of my family has ever been above 200 lbs. What you say is spot on, though. Naturally some metabolisms will be slower or faster than others, but that's only a framework for how much effort you would have to expend to burn fat. Its not like having an average or below average metabolism prohibits you from working out just a bit more to compensate. fucking excuses from the fats, no surprise there.