He Killed Her with Food I hope this doesn’t get me banned. I just want to first say the one thing that makes me the most angry and outspoken is what people feed to their children. I believe most, if not all, cases of obesity are generated from an ability (or really, inability) to feed one’s self, and I think exercise is a much lesser component. I think exercise means nothing if you eat garbage—and all obese people have this in common, no matter how much they claim to “exercise”. And I think cancer is caused almost exclusively by what we eat. I think there is no place in this world for chemical food additives and I am strong proponent of the WHO’s added daily sugar recommendations (6-9 tsp’s/day or the equivalent of 24-36 grams). As I’ve learned about the importance of whole and natural foods, I’ve also realized how little anyone adheres to this.  I find myself obsessed with watching My Big Fat Fabulous Life. I realized at the end of the 3rd season that Whitney (384lbs) believes people watch the show because she is interesting. I think she thinks they watch because she is “tackling life head on no matter her weight” but in reality, I think the people who watch are like me and watch to see her struggle. I feel like a parent teaching their kid how to walk—I want to see her succeed—but the more I watch, the more I realize she will likely die unknowingly from her obesity. I think the No Body Shame movement is like Marxist Communism—when you explain it in theory, to some it sounds good, but in reality, it’s an utter failure. I think fat acceptance is absolutely horrible. It should be equated to anorexic acceptance or alcoholism acceptance. One can’t claim to be healthy when they have to hide what they eat out of embarrassment. I want to see everything every obese person eats—and I want to yell at them for every piece of garbage they rationalize as healthy.  My Big Fat Fabulous Life, My 600lb life, and other bariatric clinic shows--no matter what, if they are struggling, or even after they lose some weight, they never gain a concept of what healthy food really is. It’s so so simple, but the info is lost in today’s food climate, where everything appears both healthy and unhealthy to the ignorant.  I think about my family and the one’s I know. Now I can barely spend time with my family without berating them on their food choices. My boyfriend’s father’s favorite past time is feeding his grandson. Literally, it’s his favorite thing to do. I will be cooking healthy/normal food, and he will hurry up and make the kid a TV dinner. He gives him sugary popsicles. He feeds him milk with chocolate syrup. He has a special horde of peanut butter cups (10+ packs) for the kid. Did I mention—the boy is 2 ½? I counted out the grams of sugar and I lectured him the entire day about how he fed a 2 ½ year old more added sugar than an adult male is supposed to have in one day. And the excuse? He is active. He is active so it’s ok to eat crap. That’s what Whitney from MBFFL says too. She’s active therefore she is healthy. She passed out from moderately dancing for a few hours. She is borderline diabetic. And yet year after year, she hovers around 380lbs. She has no concept of healthy. We see so much of her life but you know what we never see? What she eats. Every time she is confronted with a hurdle, every time someone talks to her about her bad decision, she walks away. It’s this kind of behavior that associates “fat” to “lazy”. When she or Tess the size 22 super model drops dead by a heart attack (which they WILL, undoubtedly), perhaps the Beauty at Any Size movement will finally come to an end. Michele Obama’s attempt to address child hood obesity is an utter failure. Why? She is simply focused on children’s exercise (“Lets Move” Campaign). She even partnered with multiple processed food manufacturers (i.e. obese people’s heroin) in an attempt to reduce calories in the market. All that equated to was smaller packaging or “light” foods i.e. oreo’s reduced from 160 calories to 150 calories. No one is talking about how oreo’s shouldn’t even be in a child’s diet. We are poisoning ourselves and our children and no one is talking about it.  And now on to my personal life. This I’ve been wanting to talk about but never can. My step-mother died last year the Monday morning following a holiday weekend. She was obese, something like 5’11” and 260-270lbs if I had to guess. High amount of belly fat (sign of poor food choices). She married my father, who is a horrible person. I cut ties and I hate him. I hate all the things he’s done and all the horrible decisions he’s made in his life, and I hate what he thought children should be fed. I can count how many times I’ve puked from over eating candy he gave me before I even turned 10 years old. I think he damaged my body with his food choices and there is no way I will ever be able to repair the damage caused by him being a bad parent. He also has a high amount of belly fat. He adds sugar to everything and he force feeds huge portions. He is very very mean and horrible, even the littlest disagreement will get you spit on in the face and screamed at so hard that he breaks things. He used to cook so he is obsessed with food. Long story short, after a weekend of them partying and eating horrible sugar laden/fat laden/alcohol laden foods, she died Monday morning of a double heart attack & stroke. They had only been married a few short years but he killed her with food. Of course I can’t say it, I can’t tell anyone. I can’t talk about it. But he killed her with food. I know that adults should be able to make adult decisions, but I also think there are poisonous people who contaminate the well.  What I want you to take away? Every time you comment on an obese person’s post—please always mention that they eat garbage and that is why they are fat! Tell them about the recommended sugar levels (there is a reason why the food industry continues to lobby against adding sugar recommendations to food labels—the more garbage you eat, the more money they make). Tell them every time they eat a packaged food, they are killing themselves. Obesity is ignorance, pure and simple. P.S. For anyone who has Netflix and is obsessed with fat people and fat children, you should watch FED Up. It will give you fodder for the fire.