To sane people, "I discovered I was gay" results in working hard on their appearance.  For example, Kejehara Sprenger's Facebook timeline before coming out to his girlfriend as exclusively attracted to males shows a handsome bearded guy--and the timeline after the breakup shows a smooth-faced crossdresser with dolled-up hair not unlike the fa'afafine of Samoa. And then there's Reddit, where you're apparently supposed to attention-whore without actually trying to look good to the people you want to attract. To academics who circlejerk amongst themselves like Jason Whitesell and Annicka Prieur, looksmaxxing and expressing your sexual orientation in an aesthetically pleasing manner instead of being lazy or having beards-and-makeup fashion disasters is a bad thing.  Whitesell objects to old and now sadly underpracticed tradition of masc guys hitting the gym after coming out because feeling bad about your body and being body-conscious is horrible.  Prieur objects to crossdressing vestidas like Kejehara because fem gay guys dressing and acting like women while having straight-looking bisexual boyfriends is "stealing femininity" (an actual chapter title in Mema's House, Mexico City) and fitting into macho gender norms."  Because something that pops up in the slummy areas of Ciudad Nezhualcoyotl and Colima, on small islands in the Pacific like Samoa and Hawaii, on dirt-poor rural reservations in the United States--and among both white Presbyterians in urban Seattle and the primitive Aché hunter-gatherers of Paraguay is clearly caused by how society constructs gender and not by prenatal hormones.