Yeah, that's why I left him: I realised I couldn't change him no matter how much I tried to and truly wanted it to work out. Going all personal here, but it still breaks my heart as I know under the layers of lard he had a golden heart and a brilliant brain. I know he used to do fencing and was great at it, but fatness consumed him. I hate hams for normalising this. I hate fat because it ruins people. :(