My wife is overweight and finally started working on it a couple of months ago. She's down 10 lbs, started coming to the gym with me and I put her on a tough lifting program. How did I do it? I committed the Cardinal Sin. I told her she was getting fat and I was losing attraction. It was tough for her to hear, but we're fucking adults. Deal with it. It's not a sin at all, turns out, men are just pussies. Tell your fat women the truth. A little background though. Two years or so ago, I went from skinny weak guy and started lifting. Really dedicated to it. I've transformed myself. (Which has only amplified my fat hate.) I am a fucking beast now, jacked, lean, still getting a lot of compliments from people who remember when I was skinny. I'm getting a lot more attention from other women, too, of course. So I was modeling for my wife what to do. She admitted she was feeling left out looking at my accomplishments, noticing that other women notice me. I said she should feel that way because she is. But it's never too late to make up for it. She's just as dedicated as I am now because shaming works.  Side story to prove a point: when she started, I asked her how much she weighed because we're tracking it from now on. She gave a number. I called bullshit and made her go stand on a scale. It was 15 lbs more than her number. Yup. Delusion. Pure delusion.