This is the age of virtual victimhood and identity politics. You're not allowed to mention personal responsibility because it's racist and ablist and whatever other nonsense is made up to make under achievers feel like blue ribbon winners. And that's all it is, really.  Everyone wants to feel like the best but no one wants to work for it.  They want to be handed a career, an attractive partner, and goddamn respect just because.    It's a fucking embarrassment.