deleted by user Never posted here before, but I saw this post and it made me think back to a silly conversation I'd had when I was in my late teens after deciding to get fit, figured, why not share? So, at the time I was about 19 years old, I was a small fat, heavier side but never obese (Thankyou Dad!). My weight was more or less caused by pure laziness, couldn't be bothered to take care of myself and let it go (Gaming! 24/7). So, I have four elder siblings, the youngest of which is about 10 or so years above me. Between the four of them, I have 5 Nephews and a single niece. I held my niece when she was a baby... One day, She was about a year and a half, she got tired during a walk and I decided to carry her on my back. I was so fucking exhausted, I barely held on till we got home. Similar experience with a nephew a few years older, could never lift him despite him being Healthy and at a good size. Kinda made me think, do I want to be that fat lazy uncle who can't even play with his nephews and nieces? Do I eventually want to be a father that can't pick up his own children in their younger years? That was my reason for wanting to get healthier. Anywho, I didn't really feel like telling people that didn't really need to know but a friend of mine, old school friend, who was obese by this time, was talking to me when I mentioned I was losing weight and getting fit. Before hearing my reason or anything, her instantaneous response was "You shouldn't lose weight to please other people. You're fine the way you are, don't change for them." To me I'm like, Wtf? When were other people brought into this? Is it inconceivable that a person might want to better their looks, health and life overall through losing weight? Are you saying that being fit is me pandering to another person (Which can actually be a good source of motivation. Don't personally think there is a bad reason to do it, so long as the reason is enough to get you to do it) and there are no other reasons or gains to do so?  Fatlogic at it's finest, amirite?