I definitely see your point. I feel like I have mostly done as you suggested but it seems he is opting to ignore me for the time being, and has tried to turn it around on me and shame me for not 'bending to their desire for an apology'. He used a ridiculous analogy to make his point about offending someone in their 'personal space' involving a temple, in a message dripping with sarcasm, but the better analogy would be demanding someone apologise for wearing purple in your house because purple reminds you of your ex, or something like that