You are a good parent, I wish there were more like you! I agree, they only see the baby, not the adult that they are going to become. Children really are treated as status symbols nowadays don't you think?  They do put no effort into parenting, I see fat children and fat parenting whenever I leave the house and it makes me rage, why have children if you don't want to parent them properly?! I am Childfree by choice but seem to care more about children's welfare than the fatty fuck parents who make up a great deal of our society.