As a woman, I also don't get it. I helped my friend design and sew her own wedding dress, and she obsessed over almost every stitch and cut. I almost couldn't finish working with her, it made me too anxious to mess up.  Weddings are so big because it used to be assumed it was the only one someone was going to have, but with the divorce rate, like you said, it doesn't make sense anymore. The best wedding in the world won't make the best marriage. As an aside, this ham was hilarious, she thought she wanted a ball gown because she wanted to be a speshul princess, but adding that much volume to her frame just made her look like a shapeless pile of tulle. And she criticized the only dress that didn't have her tits spilling out over the top, even though that one "fit" her body the best. Hams will be hams.