Its kind of worse because i am by definition fatty bait. I'm a tall darker skinned hispanic who is somewhat thin for my height. Fatties come for me in droves. I also have to be nice because fatties for some reason have social pull, and if im an asshole to her, her friends might take her side and ruin the party. So i had to let her down easy, that way she can be mad, but she can't be justifiably mad, as in she can't really bitch to her friends.