I think I finally get why there are SO MANY fat->fit->fat stories. Today someone started a thread on Reddit asking: "Losers, what do you miss most about your pre-weight-loss lifestyle?"*.  It's a very frustrating read because, in spite of being populated by people who you would think have shed the fat logic along with the weight, that isn't the case in a lot of comments. Here are some actual sentiments expressed with sincerity: "I miss being invisible." Really?? Fuck, I spent every waking moment when I was fat, wishing I were invisible. I only appeared in public on a need to shop basis, and got it over with as quickly as possible so I could go back into hiding. Now that I'm human, I leap at any chance to get out in public because my confidence is through the roof and I enjoy every minute of mingling with my fellow humans without feeling inferior and gross in comparison. "I miss cheesecake/french fries/ice cream/chips/whatever." AKA All or Nothing Clearly you have not truly changed your lifestyle, you have only mindlessly deprived yourself unnecessarily. I love junk food but I love being human again and nourishing my body appropriately 1000x more than any calorie bomb. All that means is that I still love junk food -- and eat it! -- but never more than I can fit into my budget. "I miss the feeling of luxury." This poster explains that, when she was obese, she would freely spend money on any and all food that she wanted. She grew up poor, so once she had enough money, she got into the habit of spending it "luxuriously" on all kinds of yummy food. OK, that makes sense on its own, but how could you look back on that behavior -- and know where it got you -- and MISS any of it? Why not be proud that now you have more disposable income and you can use it on more worthwhile things than unnecessary calories? "Just like when I quit smoking and felt like I was breaking up with a best friend, I feel the same way about food sometimes." Another person who hasn't really made a lifestyle change, just a deprivation routine. I love food as much as ever, but when I look back on my "relationship" with it, I am nothing but grateful that I've left that behind. But then, I didn't break up with food -- I just changed that relationship. Instead of missing the old relationship, embrace the new relationship! "I miss the ignorance and the lack of thought." Ugh. When I think back on the ignorance and lack of thought I held toward eating, I feel disgust and frustration with my past self. I can picture how mindlessly I used to shovel food in my mouth, sometimes barely even tasting it, and I can't imagine saying that I MISS living like that. I respect myself so much more now; if I reverted to that I would disgust myself again. What is there to miss? "I miss being able to sit for long periods of time without my butt hurting." The last thing I want to do nowadays is "sit for long periods of time". Aren't you much more active now that it doesn't almost kill you to walk a few steps? And I'm no fan of formal exercise, but I naturally stay active just because it now feels GOOD to move around. Also, ever hear of seat cushions? Anyway, those are just a few examples. I just cannot imagine looking back on my obese days and missing a single thing about it. Literally every aspect of my life is vastly superior to what it used to be. I was shocked that there were so many responses so full of warped views, but then I realized -- THIS is why so many people just gain it all back. The changes they make may be enough to lose the weight, but if they don't lose the fat logic, those changes will not be deep enough to stick. So, fellow shitlords/ladies -- what do you NOT miss most about your pre-weight-loss lifestyle?