Except there are completely unfuckable Tumblrinas like reddit.com/u/TumblrCoworker's foul-smelling, PCOS-bearded coworker who don't get any sex even from slobs.  And it doesn't motivate them so much as it makes them bitter.  Lots of hams are sexless, so withdrawing sex doesn't motivate them because they already don't have it. Of course, said people often have delusionally high standards and refuse sex with slobs.  Caleb Luna insists on only having sex with thin young white guys, and then rages on BlackGirlDangerous about how said guys are bigots for not wanting him. With that said, you're generally right.  Female fatties on Tinder have a very inflated ego because of the outpouring of undeserved attention they get.