WHAT THE FUCK. I'm so sorry that happened to you, what a fuckface! You're not being ugly at all, they're ignoring and minimizing your hurt after you'd helped them through their dark time. Miscarriage is HARD, and takes time to come back from. For her to be so blatantly callous and selfish is something incomprehensible to me.  A lot of women have had miscarriages, and there are support groups out there if you think you'd like to talk to women who share your heartbreak.  And fuck anyone who tries to give you all that bullshit about moving on before you're ready, I'll always wonder what my life would've been like if I hadn't lost the pregnancy and had an 8 year old now.