I feel similar - I don't see it as a bad thing to want to be better looking. I don't think making a plan & achieving a goal of a better body - as defined by beauty standards - is a bad thing at all. Who doesn't want to be better?  I think these FA need to be told "if you think you are at your best, your best is not good enough. Other people have better 'bests' than you do. Figure out a way to fix it because you aren't good enough"