When my mom started getting fat, out went being able to hold anything.  Did she go see a doctor, go on a diet, rethink her life choices? No, she just started carrying a pack of spare underwear everywhere she went.  Did it keep her from going out as much out of shame and respect for others? Hahahahaha..no.  Would she tell you if she had an accident in your personal space like your car or home furniture? Take a wild guess.    Nothing will stop a fat from being a fat.