I think it's interresting to hear from someone in your situation that isn't batshit tumblr insane. I sometimes feel understanding and sometimes feel dismissive of these sort of things because there are people out there who treat gender like a fashion-statement. You gave me a well needed dose of empathy but I'm well aware that I can never truly know what it's like. As far as the pronouns thing. I think that it's funny that it has been made into such a big deal becaue you generally only use pronouns when not talking directly to the person in question.  I think the development in Sweden was a lot saner as we simply all adopted one single new gender neutral pronoun. Instead of han/hon for male or female we started using hen. As a result we didn't get like a hundred new pronouns that everyone was expected to know and adapt to.