Lots of people (myself included) are squeamish about this at times, but there's lots of studies to show that non-consent is plenty sexy too, both for men and for women. I think the sex-negative feminists and religious ideologues have this much in common: that acknowledging (while suppressing, where socially appropriate) our animal roots makes them extremely uncomfortable and they have to cover it up with a false veneer of dogma. I don't know how on earth I could communicate this to my hypothetical child, but if I could impart one pearl of wisdom for sex ed it would be: Your drives may make you want to do things, or have things done to you, that make society or your 'daytime' self uncomfortable. Don't feel bad about this - just don't hurt or disrespect anyone. I've known a lot of people who would be more comfortable in their own skin if they'd gotten this advice in their formative years, or so I think anyway.