Lately I feel like people who aren't fit are being shamed as well. You can be within a normal BMI and still be unfit. People that eat what they are supposed to and exercise control don't necessarily have to go to the gym. My husband just got a weight bench and I can't do more than 20 bench presses with the bar alone but I have a normal BMI. (I'm also super wobbly... idk if that has to do with some weird deformity I have where my arm doesn't go straight up or what...I'm afraid I'm going to hurt myself x_x) That being said they are above normal BMI and by "around" 140 I'm sure she means 155. Even if they were both normal weight, with that mentality they will be morbidly obese in a year.  The "they're not as bad as they could be" mentality is the sort of mentality that makes a size 12 be labeled as a size 8 and people that are overweight thinking they are human sized.