Encouraging A Fatty At Work To Change Okay, so first of all I have to say I'm a bit anxious bringing this here, because it's not outright hatred of a fat person but rather their condition, and how I want him to fix himself.  He's already started going to a gym near work, but I know that just isn't enough to restore him to human standards.  I should say, with all my heart, I truthfully have no sympathy for his struggles related to his weight, how that impacts areas of his life and his job.  I would just rather work with slim people, so if the opportunity to suggestively guide a fatty who shows willingness to change arises, I want to take it.  I am no fat sympathiser, but it would be nice to not have to continually catch myself making fat jokes and comments for fear of being dobbed in for bullying or some shit. Anyway.  Over the past year or two my step-sister has radically transformed due to gastric banding surgery.  I'm not looking to get into an argument about the merits of losing weight via sheer willpower, one less fatty in the world by any means is good enough for me.  While she's not quite in the range of the shitlords and ladies here, she is now human-sized.  A few years earlier than that, someone I went to high school with took the same path and similarly lost the weight and became human again.  I want this work colleague to do it as well, but I want to convince him in such a way that (a) he'll actually WANT to do it and commit to the idea, and (b) failing that I won't get written up for it. What do you guys think?