Exactly. OK, so her pride is wounded. How hard would it have been for her to just kind of laugh, smile, and say "Oh, you're right. Guess I have put on a few pounds, want to go for a walk later?" Then... actually follow up by tracking her calories, cutting back, and adding in some workouts. Now she's gone and blabbed to social media about it and made a mountain out of a molehill.  My SO of 16 years has gotten back into lifting within the past year. Lately, he's been complaining that although I am not fat and I love cardio that I need some muscle definition. I looked at him said "you know what you're right." Thought about it some more and asked him later "Hey, want to start teaching me to lift some weights?"  Now we have a standing weight lifting weekly date. It's fun.