Oh I cut off all contact with BBW, and my friend was very beyond apologetic, she had no idea it would turn into what it did.  Apparently, BBW convinced friend to tell her where the event was because she was “having a very bad night and needed to get her mind off it”.  She also assumed it would be free and my in-laws were going to pay for everyone, when apparently they told everybody invited they were just taking care of my costs.