Not fat and living the life needed to maintain this status = aloof, ugly, shameful  You're wrong.  They think being skinny and fit means we're shallow, superficial, and selfish (because only "good" moms spend every minute of their time taking care of their kids...if you go to the gym, then, by definition, you're ignoring your kids for a while and thinking about yourself...) I detest fat mothers, especially those who think they're good moms.