I haven't lived with her for 15+ years. I see her at family events but I never just go see her to see her. She's just a terrible, terrible person. My boyfriend asked me if we ended up married what would happen if my mother showed up on the doorstep with nowhere else to go (he's met her), I told him I'd shut the door and not even let her in. Sounds harsh, but given what I went through as a child it's the truth.