I'm a shitlady and I like pole because it's a combination of dance, gymnastics, and contortion. There is obviously the "sleazy" style where you walk around in circles and hump the pole/air, but for a lot of people it is very athletic. I think fats gravitate (lol) towards it because they do associate it with strippers and think it will make them sexy by association. Spoilers: it does not. You only ever really see fats in intro classes, because once they realize that it actually takes work, they NOPE the fuck out