What to say to my fatty-dating friend? The background story: my friend, we'll call him Rando, married a fat girl. We'll call her Fatty. Rando met Fatty after a long, long dry spell and locked her down presumably out of desperation. During the marriage Fatty went from fat to huge, neglected him sexually despite his inexplicable willingness to do his husbandly duty, cheated on him somehow, left him devastated and fucked over. I won't go into all the details, but she was a typical fatty: slept all day, would only get off her ass for things that involved food, etc. There was a silver lining to all this drama: Rando gloated that he never had to look at her disgusting fat naked body again, or hear about her gross fat woman diarrhea. It sounded like he was over fat girls.  Rando doesn't have the easiest time with women. He's a bit of a character, shall we say, and most people can only take him in smaller doses. It took him months of internet dating to meet and bed a woman. I asked how she looked. Rando hesitated and said, "well... she's not as fat as Fatty... not ideal I guess." I met her. She is as fat as fatty. Just shaped differently. Rather than being a rolly-polly blob, she's built like a great big hay stack. The problems: Like all men in a new sexual relationship, Rando wants to gloat to his friends about all the play he's getting. I don't want to hear about sex with a fat girl.  I'm disappointed in him. I know that deep down he's not an actual chubby chaser and is just settling. He'd drop her like a 250 lb sack of potatoes if a hotter woman came along. He's repeating the exact same pattern he did with Fatty - dry spell, lock down a hog, etc.  Is there anything I can do to help my friend? Should I speak my mind or just let him make his own mistakes?