"win them over with their charming personality?" exactly that. hams are the #1 reason i don't use internet dating. tried it years back and got fatfished so many times it was ridiculous. do they have nice personalities? sure. can i stick my penis in their personality? nope. now with 60%+ of women being overweight/obese and myspace angles galore on the internet you are best off to insist on a full body pic from the get go.