Even the commenters are picking it up:  First things first: Stop acting desperate. Stop acting jealous. Stop acting insecure. Next and last: Stop acting like you're so invaluable that you have to be all of the above.  As Amy "Advice Goddess" Alkon pointed out, neediness is intensely unattractive in relationships--echoing Kaufman's findings, research by Carter, Campbell and Muncer found that people with the highest notch count were extroverts with low agreeableness and at least a smattering of Dark Triad personality traits, a.k.a. people who show high value and the opposite of neediness.  Glover, matching Alkon's observations, found that patients with high agreeableness, high supplicativeness and no boundaries manifested a lot of unattractive secondary symptoms as a result--not unlike other varieties of high-neediness personalities.  Wow. Is that what fats think adult relationships are like?  here's the thing: if you picked up your phone, and saw that I called and texted you, and you did not take two seconds to call or text me back, that is blatantly disrespectful, and you don't love me!   The infantilizing authoritarianism.  I cannot tell you how many times I got in trouble with a schoolmarm for "being disrespectful."  It screams "bad relationship" when someone's being treated like fucking five-year-old.   My SO and I usually check in but holy fuck if he doesn't text me back I don't think he doesn't love me. It means he's busy and doesn't have time to text. Is this bitch for real with this insecurity?   It demonstrates narcissism/control/abusiveness.  And most of all "I have low SMV, better keep them from talking to the opposite sex lest they realize they could get someone better than me!"     No wonder he hasn't texted or called you with that attitude, not to mention the extra 250lbs you're carrying around. And normally if your guy (or girl) fucks off with someone else you find someone else, too bad that's impossible at 400lbs (but really not too bad because pigfuckers are disgusting)  If Witless weren't so extremely delusional she would have stuck with that guy who was an "objectifying" out-and-out fetishist.  He was thin, surprisingly attractive, and she could be 100% certain he wanted to fuck her and not thinner women, but oh no that would be bad because "he doesn't love me for my personality."  The only women I've ever seen saying "what about my personality?" or similar sentiments--examples: Witless, Jessica Valenti--are women who have terrible personalities.  And if straight men (namely, the high-SMV straight men every fat chick on Tinder wants) were aroused by good personality in the absence of looks, wouldn't they be fucking their male friends instead of a jealous femayo?  Your typical Strong Empowered Feminist Snowflake would be the last person they'd fuck.