And this is the danger of preaching about how "looks don't matter" and "beauty is on the inside" that fats like to spout. Those things DO matter. Granted, we all age and go through things like wrinkles and hair loss - but those are out of our control and I think spouses reasonably accept those. It's the conscious and willful ballooning up ("because you should find me MORE attractive 'cause there's more of me tee hee") that is altogether different.