ex-wife destroy her body and health by gaining > 120 lbs (!!!!) in the 3 we were married in the most textbook "Now I can let myself go" manner way,  Aw man. sorry to hear that man. This is honestly why me not having dated at all at this point(I'm 18) has been a blessing since some of the cutest girls either put on weight and/or were fat sympathizers. If you didn't mind, what are the warning signs that they will let themselves go and how can I avoid that?