It's like how on gay SJW sites not being attracted to nonwhites is racist but being attracted to nonwhites is fetishizing and therefore also racist.  Exact same logic Whitney Way Thore applied when she went on a date with a thin, fit, attractive (!) male fat admirer: "what about my personality?"  As if being sexually attracted makes you treat people worse--and as if Thore doesn't have a thoroughly repugnant personality in the first place. It's like not being allowed to say "no" to food you don't like buy also not being allowed to enjoy and savor food you do like--instead, you're only allowed to eat food you don't like. See also: /u/PenguinOrgy's comment.