Honestly the way I see it is that for so long, genders have been defined by certain traits and behaviors.  Now we're figuring out that we don't have to have traits and behaviors forced on us and we can just act like normal people.  Maybe some people have "girly" ways of doing certain things, and "boyish" ways of doing others.  It shouldn't even be worth fucking mentioning at this point, imo. The hams, however are in this strange mindset that is self-absorbed and egotistical to the extent that NORMAL human behaviors and emotions are somehow "shpeshul" because they read something on tubblr about them being some kind of fluid gender-binary-whathaveyou.  The echochamber is fucking real, and ANYTHING to try and make themselves marginalized is worth pursuing (because it takes literally no effort, as well) I despise this because it honestly DOES take away from real transgender issues, and makes a truly trans person seem like they're on the same stage as these butterhuffers, and therefore invalidated.