Thank you. It is wonderful to know preemies do much better than they used to, and they reach milestones more normally. Older people in my family keep telling me different but their only frame of reference was in 80s-90s when they had kids. I didn't realize gender made a difference either.  I will look into support groups. That would prevent me from emotionally vomiting all over voat again lol. I started this post as a way to mock that lady and vent slightly but I was too upset. Things are so bad I can't even make fun of fats properly lmao.