Shitlord Asian grandma The grandson of my grandma’s best friend came to work in our state 2 years ago and visits often. When he came over for a dinner party last summer he had gone from about this to this.  In front of all the other guests, my grandma laid into him with “Michael, your current size is absolutely terrible for your health. You can get heart attacks or even cancer. It’s not fair to your parents, who are going to have to bury you, or to Anna [his slim, pretty girlfriend]. Even your bosses will respect you less. This weight is going to hurt your health, your relationship, and your career. I only say this because you are like a grandson to me.” My mom and I were horrified. Michael didn’t complain or make any excuses like he’d just started a new finance job, didn’t have time to cook, wasn’t used to American food (all true), but just respectfully said, “Thank you for your advice and for caring about my health.” My grandma made him spend the rest of the party in the kitchen with her learning to cook healthy dishes.  When he came back a few months later he’d lost every extra pound and was back to this.  My siblings and parents have basically stopped sympathizing or socializing with fats once we realized how a normal, disciplined human being reacts to shitlording.