Wouldn't it feel much better to know that you're not a helpless victim and that your weight is something completely in your control?  No cause even though that's true they don't control it, they want to imagine it's because they are victims of life, not because they personally fail to accomplish basic self sufficiency tasks. #Fatlogic On top of those tendencies they live in a world where people tell them that their feelings matter and have a real relevance and impact on the world and people around them.