Seriously?? I'm 5'6, 132 lbs female. BMI somewhere near 21(?) I think.  I had lunch with a guy friend a few days ago, he's very gay and we've known each other for years. I adore him, he's an incredibly loving and sweet man. He'd kill a bitch for me, he's like a brother. He would never say anything to me out of malice. Now, I've been busting my ASS (swim a mile Mon,Wed, Fri, walk 3 miles Tues, Thurs) for over a year. I'm turning 42 this May and MY midlife crisis is fitness dammit. He on the other hand is maybe in his late 20's and is overweight and not happy about it even though he has the face of an angel.  He has no trouble getting laid at all but says often that in the "gay world he's way too fat!". I agree that he could be healthier and encourage him to lay off the soda. It's all good, no one gets on anyone's shit. Anyway, He mentioned to me that I look "frail" and "too thin" like I'm sick or something... FRAIL? Has it gotten that bad? A fit 40-something looks like she's got cancer now?? I know he was seriously concerned and it came from a good place. I KNOW I look good and not "frail" but it stuck with me anyway. It made me look in the mirror and wonder if I was overdoing it. That's what honked me off, it wasn't his comment but the fact that I LET his comment derail my confidence for awhile. I am by NO means thin, I'm lean as fuck.  Anyone else ever get the "frail" comment? It's so much worse than just being called "skinny"