I am working on balancing my 'walk all over me patience' with actual backbone, hopefully I will get there, but I always have to watch myself. I am in a line of work (see user name) where I have to be 'on' even when I am not at work, especially in my small city - or I could lose business. But it is becoming more and more apparent that even associating with fats brings down my mood and my ability to remain rational, so I am starting to enforce more boundaries where I can!