I'm with you on the ”don't hurt fat feelings” BS.  My 250lb mother and 180lb sister told me that I ”looked disgusting” while I was going through fucking chemotherapy and radiation. But God forbid I say, ”no, let's not eat at Olive Garden, their salads are even unhealthy” because then I'm ”implying that (they) need to lose weight.” But evidently 120lbs is ”disgustingly thin” and ”sickening”. I had a relative go on about how ”cruel” doctors are because his 150lb 9 year old had doctors telling her she needed to lose weight. Shock of the century, she's now 25, constantly tries to sell me cheap ass jewelry over Facebook, and is all about bodyposi.  She even sold clothes for a while and she'd constantly message me to see if I ”needed anything” but she'd get in only XL-3x sizes, and I'd be like, you don't have my size. ”oh but it's stretchy, and then you don't have to worry if you gain weight!”  Hell no. I'll buy my clothes at the exact size I intend to be and if I stop fitting into them, I stop eating anything but plants until the clothes fit again.