Tfw your friend is not actually a stealth shitizen D: We're talking about my SO's recent weight gain and subsequent loss when I pointed out a significant gain in chub about 6 weeks ago. SO saw a picture of The Fat Times and was like "oh my god I'm sorry" My friend, who I thought was a shitlady, was horrified when I told her this. "You mean [SO] was apologizing for being a certain weight??" I'm explaining that the apology was for a certain (excessive) bf%, and it's a health and lifestyle choice akin to brushing your teeth regularly rather than an aesthetic thing like finding blonde people unattractive or something. I really thought this woman was a shitlady; she and I have gotten drunk and made fun of fat people in bars before. I'm crushed. How do you turn a friend who's borderline?