Confrontation With a Fat Who Had a Miscarriage Was at some family reunion type thing. Like a picnic outdoors. A not so close relative was there. What I know about her is she's been huge most her life (probably about 350 lbs right now), is engaged to a skinny as hell beta, has no education, once in a while will have a part time job, but most times no job, and fiancee works manual labour job, no education either. Live in a shitty run down house. Most of the time is complaining about money. Fiancee works hard 6 days a week and barely makes enough money to get by. Well this time it was a different complaint. She's going around talking about a miscarriage. Everytime someone asks her what's new it's "oh I had a child. It's in heaven right now" and all that kind of shit. She would bring it up constantly. My sister and I were getting sick of it, until she finally came up to my little family group and started talking about it.  Eventually I just blurted out "Well maybe it was for the best." She looked shocked. She asked "what do you mean?!" I'm too far in now, might as well go all the way. I said to her "You're life isn't exactly set up for bringing a child into the world. You're clearly unhealthy and have hardly any money to support you and your fiancée let alone another human. Maybe it was better this happened, and now you can get your life in order." Her response was "you're too young to understand any of this" (I'm 24 she's 28) "no one is a perfect parent. If I had my child my life would have been totally different. I would change so many things for it." So I told her "that's selfish. A child shouldn't be born with the responsibility of fixing your life. You lost your child because you're unhealthy. Getting pregnant at your weight with no proper income is selfish." Her - "You have no right to tell me that! I've been losing weight! I've lost nearly 80 pounds" Me - "Then keep doing that. But don't have a child in the middle. Take this as a warning and a chance to get your shit in order. Go to school or get a proper job, finish losing weight, and THEN bring a child into the world. Not the other way around." Then there was just yelling about how I'm a heartless person who doesn't care about people and how dare I critisize people when I'm not perfect, blah blah blah. I got kicked out and my sister and I went to the park and fed fish. I don't think I'm allowed back at family things.  TL;DR - Fat has miscarriage, tell her she should wait until healthy to have a kid, I am a bad person now.