Funny, I'm in a similar situation. My sister got pregnant around the time I got a scholarship to study abroad (it was an once on a life time opportunity, and I earned it by having a top 10% GPA), my niece was born 2 weeks before my trip. My whole family abandoned me to my own luck: even my father (who isn't her father) had pretended I didn't exist. About a week before she was born, I had a meltdown and my mother constantly mocked me publicly for being "jealous of an unborn baby". It (of course, an obeast) even posted it on Facebook in an attempt to further humiliate me. I was left alone in a time where I needed the most support in my whole life.  I know my niece is not the one to blame for all this situation. However, seeing her or talking to her still brings up a lot of resentment. I honestly want to repair that relationship once she gets older, but, at this point, she's likely to resent me back, too. Just a reminder that he might have wanted to do the right thing, but just wasn't ready.