I had to delete my other thread based on lawyerly advice. A sincere thank you to everyone for the advice and support today. Some more stuff happened this afternoon (based on the advice of one you...seriously...thank you so much...I wish I could point you out).  I want so badly to talk about it but it almost certainly will come up in court and will be used to my advantage. Maybe in a year or so when all the dust has settled and there's little interest in my internet history and it can't be used against me.  But seriously...thank you. A big knock on wood, but I am thinking this is going to work out great for me and my kids.