I know the feeling exactly. Trust me when I say though: it's better to wade through the grease. There are good, smart, fit people you will eventually meet and make friends with (platonic or not). ...fit-people kink is an extraordinary thing. I'll admit though that "public" play-parties are to be avoided, as 80% of attendees are usually fat-as-fuck systems administrators/cosplay enthousiasts and their co-dependant cow-subbies. Once you have a tight group of intimate fit friends, you will have the best times of your life, sexual or not. EDIT: I'm re-reading this and feel a bit hypocritical. I've a tight group of friends and haven't been to a munch in aeons. I've become specialised in corrupting fit vanilla ladies instead of trawling through the community for play partners, so there admittedly are other solutions.