....how big was she? Seriously, can you guesstimate the weight? I'm trying to visualize. Parents that do this to their kids are terrible. My mom was like this, and I could kill her for it.  My father lived out of state at the time, and he was awarded full custody of my sister. It was the first case in NYS where a child under 12 was not only allowed to pick what parent she wanted to live with, but where full custody was given to the non-custodial parent who lived out of state. In NY, its almost unheard of that a mother loses a custody battle to a parent that doesn't live in state. Interesting story, one day maybe I'll tell it if anyone cares.