"Often I am called an asshole for expecting more from myself and others." That's so true, and it weirds me out. I've been told my standards for guys are too high because I want a guy who's at least moderately fit, takes care of his appearance, and isn't a neet. I've also been told I demand too much from myself because similarly I want to look good, be healthy, do well in school and at work, etc. It's like anything that isn't watching netflix for most of the time and being fat is "obsessive" and "assholey."  //Edit because I'm annoyed: literally just yesterday I was talking with a smallfat family member about me taking Lexapro. I explained that I didn't immediately resort to meds but first tried everything I could think of to cheer me up and keep me happy: I said I "worked out, took dance classes, went on walks, meditated, read self-help books, ate healthily" and she was like, "don't you think chasing a perfect life like that is what's making you unhappy?" Like excuse you Ms. Couch Potato