Notice how they want us to force ourselves to believe things that are blatantly false:  Instead of thinking “What kind of military wife does THAT?”, or “I can’t believe she came to the store wearing XX!”  Perhaps shift your thought process to “I bet she’s losing weight so her Rheumatoid Arthritis doesn’t keep her from taking her baby to the park” or “I bet she’s trying to get her health under control after multiple surgeries.” Instead of assuming the worst?  Try assuming the BEST. At the very least you should ask “Why?”  “Why might she look like that?”, “Why….?”   Because she consumes excess calories, that's fuckin' why.  Not "genetics" or "children" (the /r/askwomen commenter who said she could use pregnancy as "guilt-free eating" was closer to the real truth) or "thyroid condishuns."  If hams' excuses were true, thin people with the aforementioned issues wouldn't exist. Does your husband not have stress too, Miss Piggy?  Then why isn't he nearly as fat as you?