i have 30 years of examples, where would you like to start?  thing is about gaslighting, it is 100% psychological. If i told you each of the individual things, then youd think im just anal (dishes not washed, bins not emptied, toilet rolls not replaced) but when they get away with that shit you get - 25 years ago accusing my best mate of sexual assault, hes never allowed anywhere near the house again. I was there that night. He did nothing of the sort, and is absolutely not capable of it. 20 years ago smashing a lava lamp given to me by girlfriend. pretends its an accident, sets up the gaslight by 'nicely' offering her bankcard to girlfriend to buy another. Waits two weeks, accuses her of stealing from her, then 'accidentally' smashes the replacement. Over the course of a year manage to lie and stir both myself and that girlfriend into a mutually combative relationship i solely blamed her for for over 20 years (not her fault, actually reached out and apologised a few days back, wont make a difference to anyone but my conscience) Bathroom fan? Yeah only 2 people can hear it. So it gets turned on late at night and intentionally left on to get a reaction. Calling my niece a whore to get at me Trapping my niece in her (my sisters) bedroom with her in it, my niece begging to be let out, and not moving a single inch until i yell. Last two were done literally in front of mum and grandma, and i told them months ago what would happen if the fat cunt tried it on again, thats not my sister, thats some fucken random cunt who is in her room abusing my family member. Visitors at the house with a car up your driveway? Any normal person would say 'oh sorry, let me just move my car out of your way' - that fat fuck does not move a single fucking inch, until someone asks her nicely to move her car, then tells her to move her car, then tells her to move it before someone else fucking does, SOLELY to get a reaction out of everyone around her. Works. Every. Time. The number of times people have been late to work or appointments solely so they can avoid an argument with her and therefore wait for her fuckin ass to move is unbelieveable. the list goes on. Oh what killed it in the end - i had to borrow mums car for family duties for the day. Sister stirs the fuck out of mum before im even awake so by the time im in the car, literally 5 words turns into 'stop your angry diatribe im calling the police' 'the fuck you on about' 'stop being angry' - literally did not have a fucking clue what was going on until the whole damn lot blew up. At this stage, im about to call Child Protection Services and get them involved. Dont give a fuck if i never see any of them again that fat fucken cunt needs to be taught a lesson. But im the one with the 'unknown' anger management problem for 30+ years, despite pretty much every fucken therapist etc ive ever been sent to telling me im fucking NORMAL.