Fat Privilege is not being painted as the bully Recently, a large amount of the fat acceptance I've seen has come from a place where fats like to act as though they are targeted because of their weight, and that people are constantly seeking them out in order to bully and shame them into some sort of triggered sub-society that they have to battle out of. However, I've had a hugely different experience with fats in the past and I want to share one situation in particular where the roles were quite reversed.  A couple of years ago in my old high school, I knew a fat through a mutual friend who I'd had since birth. I didn't spend much time with her at all until I got closer to the mutual friend, and at that time I would be at her house and the fat would show up to see her at the same time. Instantly she took a disliking to me, as I exuberated confidence and happiness whereas she was constantly talking about some new fad diet she was embarking on which left her starving and exhausted all the time, miserable because she wasn't losing weight at all. It's notable that at this time, I wasn't even as skinny as our mutual friend, in fact I had a pretty 'average' body type. I'd never been fat, but at that point I already disliked fat people as they always seemed to be pretty disgusting, miserable people 99% of the time.  Pretty soon the problems started at my school; the fat started spreading rumours about me, saying I had sent her messages calling her a 'fatass' on Facebook and telling her to 'leave my friend alone' as she was 'mine first'. It escalated to the point where she had effectively told a dozen people I was cyber-bullying her when my friend confronted me. I was pretty shocked as I'd had no idea of what was going on, but showed all my Facebook messages and she luckily trusted that I hadn't said any of it, though was too shy to confront the fat on her lies. I can only assume that the fat continued on her brigade against me, and her friends began to give me dirty looks whenever I passed them, one time I was even shoved into a desk by one of them and they all laughed.  I stood up for myself soon after that, but the looks continued and the fat would go out of her way to make my life more difficult; trying to convince our mutual friend I was harassing her (though obviously never with any proof), literally crying to friends' parents about it so they'd view me as a bully, laughing at me constantly, throwing parties and inviting all of my friends except me and genuinely making my time there fucking annoying to the point I made all of my friends people who went to different schools and I was only there for the lessons, trying to avoid circulating rumours so I didn't get into genuine trouble with my school. Years down the line, and she's finally shut up. We live nearby and I see her around but she leaves me alone now, knowing that everyone had eventually realised she'd been making all that shit up. She's even fatter now than she was before, plaguing FB with stupid HAES eCards while furiously untagging herself from any photo she's tagged in, opting for the classic black and white MySpace angle as her only photo.  I don't really care about this anymore and I'm long over it but I just want to point out to any lurking fatties that while you'd like us to believe that you're all angels with beautiful bodies and souls, I was ruthlessly outcast just for being confident and normal-sized, and lost friends because of it. So while you're making your 32nd PB&J of the day and cursing those 'skinny bitches' for making your life harder, notice that it's not just your body that's unforgivably disgusting, but your fat-clogged hearts too.  TL;DR; Fatties are as much 'bullies' as the people that want them to lose some fucking weight are. Edit: grammar