Advice for a Shitlady -Found out boyfriend of one year had a pigfucking indicent before we were together. To begin, I find this completely inexcusable and I'm currently really upset and can't really figure out how to feel and what to do.  Some background: the bf is a close friend of many years, normal weight (6' ~160); we started dating over a year ago. He isn't exactly a shitlord (was opposed to haes and fat acceptance but thought that was an extreme and that most hams are not like that)  but I've slowly been influencing him and now he openly makes fat jokes to me, talks shit on fat acceptance, and comments on fat people to me when we're in public. I really thought I was gonna have the shitlord partnership I've always wanted. The incident: he mentioned to me he has been getting messages from this random girl he hooked up with from his university (they 'met' at a college party) for over a year now trying to talk to him and out of curiosity I asked to see a social media pic.  He suddenly got really quiet and was extremely hesitant to give me his phone and show me (although he openly shared her pathetic messages). So I ask him why he's suddenly so secretive and he admits that he knows I wouldn't like her.  Guys. She is HUGE. Like obese intsaham eats-all-the-noodles-at-the-buffet gross, complete with fatface (looks 40 but is probs early 20s). He immediately started trying to explain, saying the usual bullshit: 2 year dry spell, very depressed, low self esteem, trying to rebound, reckless behavior following a breakup, etc (all of which I can sort of understand although it's unhealthy btw, but with a fat pig?), but I couldn't even really pay attention as I was so shocked. I told him he got what he deserves (a creepy internet stalker) for sticking his dick in a diseased mass of rotting flesh and left it at that.  The aftermath: I feel tainted. I feel like I lost a lot of respect for him as a person and also as my significant other. We are very close and very in love, but I almost feel like this cheapens his attraction to me and by extension, my attractiveness. I know some of you will say to break up with him and I'm seriously considering our future together in the long term but I don't want to make any rash decisions while this is still fresh. Edit: My biggest (teehee) issue is that I can't find a way to articulate my feelings about this or explain why it's affected my perception of him and his attraction to me to severely. TL;DR: Bf means a lot to me, reveals he fucked a pig before we were together, I feel gross myself and disgusted by him, advice for coping/what to do.