As a woman who  abuses her children, I can honestly say you have no idea what you're talking about. I adore the bruises and welts I put on my children. I love the feeling of complete terror I put into my children, and how powerful it makes me feel.  I love to beat them. I have a husband who loves me and says I'm hot. You need to broaden your minds. Just because you're non abusive doesn't mean everyone does. I understand that some people want nurturing parents, but I'm happy being abusive all the time.