I have a bit of an inferiority complex, not the kind where I turn into a beta, the kind where I over achieve at everything and develop drinking problems over stupid shit like not getting a promotion. What you just said really highlights my situation in some ways. I am 6'1''and 155 lbs. I used to be 200 lbs. My wife is 5'5" and 125  2000  lbs, but she used to be 250 lbs after kids. We chose to lose weight together, get fit, and not be disgusting fat asses. This was at least 5 years ago. Along our uneventful weight loss "journey" we ran some 5ks, sustained some injuries while training, and overall had a really great time. We also educated ourselves on proper nutrition and noticed how rampant obesity is in our world. Making fun of fatties is a family event now with our kids. Tying the two previous paragraphs together is looking at the potential men that my wife could leave me for. She is immensely turned off by huge, musclebound gym rats. Not really their bodies so much as their attitude. She does not dig the macho alpha male want to fight everyone personality that is often associated with those body types. Luckily that is only maybe 20% of the available men. The rest are all disgustingly fat, total no go. The end result is, due to obesity the standards for a skinny guy are really low. I simply eat proper calories for my weight and do 30 minutes of cardio per day.  As much as I hate obesity, I have a secret desire to not eliminate it because it makes it easy for average looking guys to be significantly more attractive. Edit: I should add that my rational brain knows that my wife is attracted to far more qualities in me than just not being fat. My rational brain knows there is nearly 0 potential for my wife to leave me, we are best buddies in every sense. My inferiority complex requires me to do a certain amount of risk assessment and risk management to properly examine my position in any situation. If my wife knew I thought this I think she would cry knowing that I have that kind of mental anguish going on.