I know it wasn't self defense, I just made out to security that it was otherwise I may have been thrown out, that was the point I tried to make in the post. My gf didn't run crying to me, she was angry but just wanted to leave. She tried to pull me back when I went storming over to the ham but I didn't listen, if she didn't want to make a scene infront of the children she certainly didn't want me to. She's not a violent person, not at all. She's a strong woman and a good person, she has handled herself find without me for years before we met and she will continue to handle herself fine when i'm not around. This was a pretty rare occasion, nothing like this has ever happened before and I can't imagine it will any time soon so I think i'm safe. I appreciate your concern though lol