Need advice: Should I be openly shaming my girlfriend for getting fat as fuck? I'm not saint, I used to be severely fat.   I fixed it.   Now I'm a 6'1 at 180.  She's like 5'3 and weighs more than I do, gained most of it in the last year.  I know she's working on it, but not hard enough.  I've HINTED that she lose some pounds, but I feel like I need to kick this into high gear and start openly shaming the fatso.  I barely want to fuck her most of the time.   What do I do?