Lol, I take it you find online dating as frustrating as I do?  I'm a pretty good looking guy, but I'm no Adonis. 5'7, green-eyed, and although I lift, I wouldn't call myself ripped. My profile is well-written and playful, and I have a good variety of pictures tailored to demonstrate my interests, the fact that I have friends, and the fact that I'm physically fit. (I had female friends critique it for me.) But none of that helps if the people looking aren't attractive. I get a fair amount of views, likes, and messages, but most of the attention is from buttergolems who share my nerdy hobbies but not my commitment to staying in shape in spite of them. Occasionally there's a publicly "straight" guy who wants to come over and give "another straight guy" oral, which always strikes me as counter-intuitive and weird. (And it's happened a few times. Why?) All my careful work nets me is the occasional opportunity to have my messages read, and a bit of conversational fodder for whomever I'm talking to. I still have to initiate, and I usually have to carry the conversation.  Shouldn't complain too much, though. If you're looking for more than a one-night stand, it's nice to be able to filter your prospects. And it's nice to be able to ignore the hammy 3/4 of the population instead of being eyed like a sleeve of Oreos or having to deflect drunken advances.