Exactly. It's easier to assume that they simply never had the opportunity to change, or access to help or whatever when you haven't tried to offer it up yourself. And even after the first handful of times it's hard to accept that it's true of all of them. But it is. Normal sized people are rare, but we're not THAT rare. Almost every fat person out there has been offered up help and then refused it in some way. While then crying out their excuses. Only to entrap some other kind hearted person.