Full comment  was a size 4 and 125 lbs, but the stress from my divorce made it difficult to keep the weight off. Plus, I was pregnant too so I couldn't eat my low calorie diet. I pretty much ate nothing during the week to stay slender because I would gain 7lbs in a day if I didn't. I ate whole grain oatmeal with only milk with a cup of green tea for breakfast, a wheat bread and ham sandwich for lunch, and a light dinner. All I drank was water. Now I don't give a shit because I hated starving myself to lose weight. I don't always eat unhealthy nor eat a ton of food during the day. Being overweight gives you less energy, and makes it difficult to excercise due to the extra pounds on your bones. Losing weight isn't an easy venture. BTW, there are women who are skinny that are lazy as fuck, and same with men. My ex who is all muscle eats unhealthy and sleeps all day is skinny as fuck. If I lowered a mans social status due to his peeps not liking a fat chick with him then he isn't worth it. A man shouldn't care what others think but love the woman he's with. A real man wouldn't judge you. Only an assholes would care about this list of standards. Otherwise, he'd help you eat healthier and excercise with him, instead of judging you. I don't look older but younger. I get told that I'm in my teens to twenties by people. I am sure the fat and ugly men out there shouldn't be too picky but they are just as judgmental as a skinny asshole. I've seen slender men go for bigger women so it depends on the guy.