Does that hold true when you're in a committed relationship? The only time I ever got an abortion was to take care of an ectopic pregnancy that happened with my bf of 2 years. I have an IUD (one of the most effective forms of protection, good for 5 years and requires a doctor's appointment to put in). Is that showing a lack of self control? Should I keep my legs closed and deny my boyfriend sex?  And what about the delightful trend of "stealthing," where women ask partners to put on a condom that the guy tries to sneak-remove during sex so he can bust without one? That's happened to four women I know, but fortunately Plan B took care of that for all of them. How about when you're on birth control pills and are using spermicide and a condom but you get pregnant anyway? (Improbable but possible; I have a friend who only has triple-protected sex and has still needed two abortions bc her then-boyfriend's sperm were pretty determined. She did stop having sex with him for a while because she didn't want to get pregnant again; he cheated on her and then left her. Was she being responsible or irresponsible?)