Even if she really was assaulted, is that an excuse to self-abuse for years and years after the fact? It reminds me of people who cry about being bullied as a teenager. When I used to be in LGBT spaces I would hear it a lot, and this was coming from people in their 20s. Most of the time the bullying ended up being just verbal, and stuff like "someone told me they were gonna murder me" Like fuck, that shit happened to me so much, I started to hear "I'm gonna kill you" to mean "let's fight after school" and then it devolved to mean "fuck off"