I've always found it to be a very interesting question where one's identity begins in terms of being innate and self-inspired and how much is social (nature vs nurture). We may never be able to get all the answers in the world because you can't put the same person on two alternate parallel planes of existence where one is influenced and the other isn't - as fun of a movie concept as that is. That said, I do believe supporting someone (and too many people, especially grandstanding SJWs forget what a supportive role is) and helping them be true to themselves ends when they're given false choices, and are shamed for disagreeing with the hive. I personally don't feel threatened if someone decides to let themselves get fat. It's sad at best and revolting at worst. If fat activists feel threatened by and shame thin people, they're only supporting their own fat asses.