My friend is dating a gas giant and she is ruining his life. Sorry in advance about the rant. So I used to work with this guy (lets call him Adam, early 30's, regular guy) out the back of a retail store organising online sales. The company itself is fucking terrible to work for, pays minimum wage and management are a bunch of assholes. Luckily I only spent about a year here before moving onto something I really enjoy, but Adam is still working there and has for the past 5 years or so. So the nature of the job means that he doesn't really get out to meet girls much because he is basically alone out the back merchandising stock all day and he is a pretty introverted kind of guy. Because of this, he started internet dating. So about a year ago he started dating this Christmas Ham that he met through internet dating. At first I couldn't figure out why Adam, a normal guy with appealing qualities, would get involved with such a trash-fire of a human but the more I got to know him, the more evident it became that he has appallingly low self confidence and evidently doesn't believe he can do any better. I had been encouraging him to get out there for a while and was pretty over the moon he had found someone until I saw her. While working with him, I made it no secret that I was a dedicated Shitlady and we would often laugh and share fatpeoplestories while at work. When I first met this ex-human, I was gobsmacked that her knees hadn't given out already. I suppose its just a matter of time. This thing must be at least 250kg. That's kilograms, not pounds. Anyway, fast forward a year. They are still together, Adam is still working this shitty job, and Hamerella is still heavily invested in the relationship. Since quitting that dead end job I hadn't seen Adam in a little while and I'm friends with both him and his housemate, so I decided I'd go to their house for a catch up. I hadn't spent any real time around Hamzilla until this point. This is where I saw the real impact of the gas giant on my friend and those around them. It's worth mentioning as well that Adam's housemate fucking hates this beast. I have never experienced behaviour like this from an adult woman. Here are a few examples of things she was doing while we were all sitting around trying to chat like regular people: - Tapping the TV remote on her gargantuan thigh while intensely staring at Adam, and when he asks her to stop, she says "I only do it because it annoys you" and continues to do it. - Becoming jealous and angry at Adam when I mention that I managed to secure tickets to an artist we all enjoy because Adam couldn't afford to buy two for the both of them on his minimum wage job.  - Constantly complaining that Adam doesn't earn enough money, despite her not having a job at all and living 5 days a week at Adam's house rent free  - Pulling Adams leg hair when he isn't paying attention to her while Adam and I are mid conversation about something else - Constantly asking if we were hungry and if we wanted to order pizza (We had all had dinner and it was about 10pm when she began asking this) etc. I've never seen an adult act in such a fucking childish manner and was absolutely gobsmacked. Now, as implied in the examples of her annoying behaviour, she doesn't have a job. She is currently enrolled in a course to work with AT RISK YOUTH. As in, kids who have dropped out of school, gotten into drugs, come from shitty families etc. She believes she has something to offer these kids that will improve their life skills. She herself has been in therapy for 12 YEARS with NO IMPROVEMENT. She bursts into tears at the drop of a hat and flies into a rage any time Adam pays attention to anyone except her. Yep, sounds mentally stable to me. They currently have a plan to move in together next June as thats when Adam and his housemate's current lease will end, 6 months BEFORE she is qualified. Considering she wants to work in an industry that requires you to have qualifications BEFORE becoming employed, and also considering she is actually just unemployable as fuck, somehow I don't see that plan coming to fruition. Adam works full time but earns minimum wage, he cannot support them both with rent, bills, and the trough of food she would consume daily. I brought this up to him a few days ago and and he just shrugged at me. Rage. And, of course, her eating patterns are influencing Adam. I can already see that he has gained weight in the time he has been with her and I'm tossing up whether to intervene or just cut all ties and run. I'm a vegan for several reasons and at one point the topic of food came up (big surprise). Butterball, of course, said to the group that she would rather die happy eating what she wants than eat lettuce for every meal. This annoyed me so I retorted with something along the lines of "I actually don't find greasy garbage to be that appealing anyway", she then accused me of being a "bad influence" on Adam. K. So this is what I'm currently dealing with. I need to formulate a plan to wake Adam up and make him see that if he doesn't bail on this now, his life is going to be ruined.  Bonus Fact: She is desperate to have children. She is 34, morbidly obese and a mental child. There is no way nature would allow it.  Help me shitlords. EDIT: I am trying to encourage him to find a new job. I figure the job is half the reason he is so miserable, and maybe finding a new job will give him new confidence/happiness and he will realise on his own that dating a bin bag full of camel shit isn't good enough. He can be quite sensitive so I am concerned that broaching the subject directly will only result in hostility from him.  TL;DR - Friend is dating a fat fuck, she is ruining his life. How do I help him see?