First of all, I'm sorry you have to deal with diabetes. By 21 years of observing my mom, I've come to know that it can be really hard and frustrating, like you said. What is your mom thinking of actually taking care of herself? Does she even consider that as an option? What does she reply when you ask her about it? It's sad that she feels the need to gain sympathy with her illness instead of actually doing something about it. I bet it feels really bad for you, especially being Type 1.