You guys saved me.  Thank you. I purposely waited to post until I felt I was at least worthy.  And by worthy, I mean a normal human size. First of all, let me tell any and all of the fats lurking here that you know goddamn well that you are not perfectly healthy and/or completely happy with yourselves.  That's why you need the constant bloody validation from the endless flood of selfies labeled with "look at my beautiful little folds hahahaaa <3" So far I've lost 68lbs : 4.8 stone, 30.8kg. Yes, I know how awful that is and please let me have it for that.  All of it now motivates me. but I'm still 15lb away from my goal weight.  Also, I may have lost the weight, but I'm still not fit.  I have a lot of work to do and I know it and I'm not seeking any kind of congratulatory tributes or recognition.  Nor will I when I actually complete what I started out to do, which is just something someone should automatically do anyhow:  take care of myself as best as I can. I'm just here to say thank you.  I was one of the fats who used to secretly lurk here and feel slighted and yes, discriminated against because you guys didn't like what was obviously ugly and unhealthy and unappealing when looking for a mate.  I don't know what post, or what day, or what comment finally kicked my fat ass out of my apathetic stupor, but something happened and you know what?   All of you are absolutely right. Fat is NOT attractive. It is NOT cute. It is NOT perfectly OK. It is not anything that someone should strive for and it is certainly not anything anyone should be content with.  I knew it all along, if I'm being completely honest.  I knew it then and I knew it now.  Only difference is now I freely admit it.  I can't even say "deep down I knew it" because it wasn't deep down.  The knowledge was right there on the surface everytime I allowed myself to acknowledge my reflection in the mirror... which wasn't often.  Also, know what?  Every other overweight person knows it too, that's why they fight so hard to never ever admit that they eat too much.  Because it's embarrassing to admit that you overeat and grew to the size of a planet.  It's so much easier to be a victim of something. Losing weight is not hard.  Will-power is, at first.  Gotta build it up, just like muscles. Anyhow, that's all.   Again: all of you are right and all of the fatties are wrong, wrong, WRONG. Thank you again, FPH, you saved me.