I feel ya.  I just have to watch who I'm with before making a snide remark.  My BFF is a closeted shit lady and I can tell her anything.  She totally gets it and I love going to bars with her and watching the fat women glare at us.  GLORIOUS!! It's especially cool when 20 or 30 somethings glare at me. Bitch, I'm 48! Suck it!