You have nothing to apologize for. People with a victim complex are gonna play the victim.  Just curious, do you really consider the whiny fucks to make up a significant portion of the community? I've done a lot of LGBT and HIV advocacy work and the majority of trans people I've met have just wanted to get on with their lives and roll their eyes at the whiners. I thought the whiners were just the very vocal minority (kind of how most feminists are reasonable humans, yet everyone equates SJW tubblerinas with feminism because they won't shut the hell up).