I agree with this advice but if I were within 10 pounds of my marriage weight, I’d still be a fat ass. Both husband and I were obese when we got married, and shortly after we both lost all the weight and became normal/healthy.  We kept it off for 4 years now.  It pisses me off that there are fat asses out there getting married and their first thought is to let themselves go. Seriously?  You snagged a spouse, you’re set when it comes to double income and almost guarantee a family in the future, the next thing should be to lose all the damn weight and be healthy for your spouse and kids !