I'm completely biased in this case since I also graduated fresh-eyed and bushy-tailed and 100% ignorant from a private religious school. I feel like the girl (in the beginning only) deserves a little charity because she was probably just a stupid young girl with zero real world experience who didn't have the mental/emotional faculties to know how to protect herself from this monstrosity. Once they hit Critical Mass though (that big reveal where ham's roommate lets girl know that ham is nothing like what he's shammed her into believing) it's her own fucking fault that she stayed. She became a terrible person because she stayed. Co-dependency will turn even a decent human being into a sack of shit. This Sham Ham has ruined a lot of things in its gargantuan wake.