Yes, you do look that big. So a fat girl (early 20's) I know struck up a conversation about weight. I guess I'm cannon fodder since I'm normal sized after having had my 3rd baby. The subject of clothing sizes came up and she proceeded to tell me a story about an xl skirt that didn't fit her. She kept trying to get me to say something like, oh no, you don't look like a 2x or 3x. She had to point out that the tag said made in china, so it was obviously a Chinese size. I made a big deal about vanity sizing. Of course I just tell her how when I was younger, I would have been a large at my current size. (34-26-38, very pear shaped, DD bust.) And that to me she looked like a 2x-3x. She kept talking about how the skirt was obviously smaller than it said because someone smaller than her picked it up to buy.  Then ideal weight came up. Apparently I'm so skinny with a bmi of 21.6. She asked me how much I thought she should weigh. So I looked up her ideal bmi. I told her that according to science she would be healthiest at about 145 pounds. But that she could go up to 179 for the high end of the healthy range. (She told me she's 5'9") She about choked on her beetus. She said 180 sounds ok. But that she thinks she will aim for 190. But she doesn't want to diet. I was cordial as it is a place I frequent. But I don't get why the fat ones are always looking at me to tell them their flab is ok. I always cite research and never waver on my opinion. It seems that fats always seek validation from non-fats.