Ask them to go hiking or cycling or something active on the first date. That will help weed out the ones that are thin/not fat now, but may balloon up in the future because they're too lazy. As for coming out openly as a shitlady, that might be a bit tricky... I didn't tell my husband about FPH for a while because I was concerned how he would react, considering most of his family are fat slobs. I started by reading him the really funny or outrageous stories... "OMG you have to hear this! I can't believe someone would do that!" eventually tuned into, "listen to what this fat bitch said to a fit girl." Then I started paying closer attention to what I was cooking, and I also started counting calories. When he asked me about it, I said, "it's so I don't turn into a whale like all your friends' wives. You deserve a hot, thin wife." Eventually I told him about FPH and said I was a pretty active member. I guess since I had been dropping hints for a while he didn''t mind. He just told me not to get myself doxxed. It's to the point now that when he sees me on my laptop, he just asks, "any good stories on FPH today?" I guess what I'm getting at is that maybe it's better to "ease" them into it. If they see your behaviour as normal for you, then maybe they won't make such a big deal out of it. Maybe start off by dropping subtle hints and insults in the beginning, and just progress as the relationship develops. Or you can put something like "no BMI over 25 unless swole" in your profile. That will hopefully weed out the most of the fatties and sympathizers, but you might still get a few 300 pound deathfats contacting you because "BMI doesn't count for muscle mass, I'm pure muscle!" There's also /v/FPH4FPH but I don't know how active it is