She's still going unfortunately. She has diagnosed me as a narcissist after I claimed she was acting like one...   Taking care of yourself physically is easy, sure... if you're not someone who literally can't get themselves out of bed or remember to go to the gym or remember to take their medication due to depression or focus issues or even a disability. I will, again, say that I was not whining that my life was hard, but acknowledging that despite hardships, I am working past this. OP mentioned no hardships in his wife's life, and if I can lose weight from where she's at with these hardships, she should be fine once she starts working on it if she doesn't have those hardships. Re-read that if you don't get it.