Schlubby desperate betas are going to be schlubby desperate betas.  Rationally, you're much better off being single than married to someone like that.  And he's not even in the military, it's not like marrying a binge-eating couch potato will get him out of the barracks. Notice how physically out-of-shape he is.  That's got to contribute to his mentality.  The guys I know who are very driven and work very hard don't look like that at all. I know a number of people who work 80-hour weeks at two jobs, and every single one of them is a healthy BMI. Especially the extremely intelligent ones.  One guy in my program has a 70-hour workweek and takes 5 classes, he's able to make it work because he only needs 4 hours of sleep a day.  He had an extremely sculpted-cheekbones, low-BF% face--didn't even look like a nerd at all, even a "hot nerd," despite being a CS major.  I feel a lot sadder for the guys who are good-looking yet have a dependa SO--it's like seeing a hot chick married to a fat neckbeard.  Those guys could be banging Russians or something if they learned not to be such a doormat--for them to have a good appearance, they're doing at least some things right.  Guys who are fat neckbeards have a lot more things to fix before they can get to that level.