While I'm not trying to say it's not a dickish thing to do, I will defend that sometimes you gotta be dickish to an extent. If you think about it from a guy's perspective, there is never really a good time to approach women and if there is it's very rare. For instance in the comic it kinda makes a joke of this, where she is basically saying "unless i'm holding a sign dont talk to me" the joke being that she will never be holding a sign. So in this example, of hypothetically approaching someone you find attractive in a coffee shop, there will never be a good time. It's super rare (in my experience at least) that people just kind of sit by themselves sipping on coffee totally unoccupied. Virtually everyone is reading, playing games, listening to music, sudokuing or something. Almost all of which you could consider it dickish to interrupt. Like real life isn't a romcom so it's not like people conveniently drop things and then apologetically offer to buy you a drink or something. So in otherwords (and I don't really have this problem because I meet most people through mutual niche hobbies) if a guy were to wait for the right moment to approach a girl he'd essentially be waiting forever or have to do it in some sleezey area like a divebar where it's expected. The line between a good approach and a bad approach usually depends on how the girl reacts. For instance if you're walking your dog in the park and another person with a dog comes up and starts chatting you up a bit, the line between "why are you fucking bothering me while I'm just trying to walk my dog and listen to music" and "hey a cute guy is talking to me about our shared interest" is kind of blurry. edit: i say this cause I used to be much more socially anxious in my highschool/early college years and back then it'd be like i'd see the same cute girl at the bench infront of the building every day waiting for her class reading and i'd rehearse an opening line every time in my head and it'd always seem so... inadequate and she was always reading so I'm like... "i don't want to bother her she's busy, and I don't have anything that great to say anyway. what am I just going to walk up and say "Oh, I see you're reading a book how is it?" that's stupid... don't bother her, she'll just be mad you interrupted her and you'll get rejected anyway"" (yes that was a quote in a quote). It's sort of impossible to ever get a opening that isn't dickish, so really you just got to acknowledge people are always busy and go for it anyway, sorry people at the coffee shop who get bothered by dicks. some day you'll be "that guy" too.