I think a lot of us guys have to learn the lesson. My dad never sat my brothers and I down and said, "Avoid the fats, laddies, they'll fuck up your life and make you miserable." Probably because he had work on his mind and all that shit. So my fatass mother got free reign of the 'morality' raising, and we all grew up 'nice guys' who would never say anything bad about a girl's 'character.' Then we left and went to college, and dear dad's genetics kicked in. One of us became a fitness instructor, others went into physical jobs, and we all learned just how fucked up people are nowadays. Thankfully, reality is a cold, hard bitch-slap that will wake up an intelligent person.