Holy shit this. I looked around a bit on that sub and either these people's judgment is completely fucked or they're lying to spare feelings/catch a wiff of Internet snatch.  Probably some combination.  Either way it is absolutely pathetic and as you've said, seriously damaging.  It's bad enough that these weird looking young guys get told they're adorable by the girls who friendzoned them--they can't even get an honest answer from Internet strangers.