You have the right instincts.  In addition to the fact that they're ensuring these kids will have no romantic prospects later in life, they're drastically reducing their life expectancy.  That's child abuse.  And "child abuse" is a narc's middle name. There's got to be something that can be done to throw a wrench in the machine.  You don't help drug addicts by enabling them and helping them kill themselves.  Fats are the same way.  The last thing they need is "acceptance" of their addiction. In other words, don't just sit by and watch it happen.