At this stage, names have been passed along patrilineally for so long, there's little point making that the focal area of your "feminism". I mean, what else are you going to do? Get him to take your name "on principle"? Make up your own? I'm getting married in a few months, I couldn't give two shits about my surname. I'll probably take his for the sake of having the same surname as my children, plus I'm not terribly attached to my family name. It's hardly going to break the patriarchy either way. Priorities, people.