I suggest you just crawl back to /r/fatlogic where we won't risk hurting your "friends" feelings because they're just a little overweight and they go to the gym like all the time and they have a thyroid issue and just put on a little weight after they sprained their ankle etc.  /r/fatlogic, a.k.a. the sub where, as of 2016, saying "another HAES success story" gets you banned by the mods.    Remember the time /r/fatpeoplestories upvoted the shit out of 300and30?  Pepperidge Farms remembers.  And 300and30 currently weighs more than that.  So much for weight loss. That's my problem with "fat but WORKING ON IT" posts.  People shouldn't applaud you for virtue signaling and wearing workout clothes and posting on social media about how you're "on a weight loss journey."  Why the fuck should we have to do that if there's no actual progress?  These people "on a weight loss journey" aren't losing weight--certainly not nearly the amount they need to be losing.  If you psychologically reward people for announcing good intentions, the brain is less motivated to act.  And the internet points you got for "I'm fat but WORKING ON IT" will be a very small comfort when you're dying of [insert self-caused condishun here].