Fat family members that you love tl;dr at the bottom. the rest is just additional information for those who can help, and maybe you can relate to it. First off, I have no intention of sympathizing with fat people with this, but I hope to reach out to shitlords who care. Let me give some background on my family: Dad: tall, skinny. dad`s side of the family is the same Mom: used to be skinny in her 20s, now is quite fat around her abdomen in her 50s and has been since having kids. her dad (my grampa) was the same I know why she's fat. she snacks on chips and shit at night to relax. we have big portion sizes due to her being the cook for the family and being raised by my fat grandfather (I love him very much, for reasons unrelated to his weight). Also, I'm 6'8" tall, very active, and eat 4500 calories a day to maintain my weight. other male family members are also above 6'2" tall, and meals have a way of balancing out so that everyone eats a similar amount in the family leaving mum eating more than she might need. I love my mommy, but I have always been uncomfortable with how fat she is (maybe... 200lbs, 5'10"). Don't get me wrong, she could be a million pounds and I'd still take care of her because she's fuckin' earned it, but I want to do her one better. I know she is willing to change, and she even did get kind of fit for a year when I was about 10. but she also has trouble with wanting to eat high calorie snacks.  ANYWAYS I ask you this: what methods have you tried and succeeded with to improve your family's weight problems? any other suggestions? I don't want my mom to die earlier than her time, but there's no way in hell I'm gonna shitlord her (in the negative sense of the word, at least). I live far away right now, but I will be moving back in with my parents for a bit soon and working from home and I want to use that chance to help my mother help herself. please help me help her. My current game plan: 1: I go for walks to clear my head and listen to music/audio books pretty much every night when I'm at my parntes house. I will invite my mom along for bonding time (been away for 2 years, and she'll be happy for the quality time, hopefully. she is not against walking, just running (she tried with me, and she could do it, but it hurt her knees badly the next day.) 2: offer to cook meals since I'll be at home while she's at work anyways. bring her healthy lunches at school, per chance. 3: have a serious discussion with her about supporting her in weight loss if she thinks she can manage. say that if she can do it maybe it'd convince my dad to quit smoking, and compare the two addictions. 4: hang out with her at night, when she's likely to eat chips etc. offer to fix her a healthier snack if she is too tired from work to do it herself (she's not fat enough to be THAT lazy, but you all know the feeling when you sink into your chair, breathe a huge sigh, and open up reddit. mum is the same with watching TV at night.) I have faith that if I'm working together with her she will make it to a healthy weight, see her progress, and ones the snowball is rolling, I can back off and she will continue. BUT i really need help from experienced people so I don't waste my time or hers. tl;dr what can I do to tell my mom she should lose weight for her own sake, and then help her do it while I am moved in with my parents?