You are so on point with this (source: am male shitlord). For older women though I would add, if any older women want to be noticed by men sexually, they should be as thin as possible.  It kind of tricks our brains into thinking they're not matronly / post-menopausal.    To be fair I have seen many sexy 50+ year old women.  The one thing they all have in common is they are very thin and fit.