The positive power of shitlording Just a small tale to remind us all why we should continually shitlord the butterhuffers we care about, because it can have positive results. So, 3 years ago I had a flatmate who was a typical ham planet, BMI of around 35 would be my guess, but aside from being fat she was actually a really great person to live with, clean with decent personal hygiene and kept out of my business and was never late with bills or rent, and we eventually became pretty close. Throughout the 9 or so months I lived with her I continually but subtly shitlorded her at any available opportunity, constantly reinforcing the idea that she was ruining her own life by stuffing shit down her throat, at first she was really pissed off about this because 'feelings' and shit but eventually I thought I was maybe getting through to her when I saw she was buying veggies and cycling to work instead of catching the bus, but I was skeptical that she would ever actually do it because you don't end up like that in the first place unless you have serious mental defects. I ended up moving out to be closer to my new job which was on the other side of the city, and we eventually fell out of touch. Well, I ran into her today and holy shit, it actually had some impact, she lost over half her bodyweight and is not a fully fledged normal human being. We went and grabbed a drink and caught up and I mentioned how amazing she looked and she mentioned how my constant giving her shit about her weight had a real impact and made her realise that she was destroying herself. She even said straight up negative comments were more effective than people giving her the softly softly approach and 'positive encouragement' and that if I hadn't given her so much shit for being a lard arse she probably would still be a fat fuck today.  Oh, and she's actually pretty hot now, I never would have guessed because I don't find it possible to 'see past the fat' when it accounts for the majority of my visual field. So shitlords, if you have friends and family who are diabeasts just keep hounding them until they get the fucking message. It can work.