Came here to say this. The doctor even allegedly went so far as to say fatty wasn't to blame because...she's loving and smart.  I said, outloud “I have no one to blame, but myself for this. I did this.” And this.. this is why I love my doctor. She looks at me and she says “No, don’t you say that. It worries me how hard you are on yourself. We all can see what a smart, caring, loving person you are. Why can’t you?”