This part is particularly rich:  No one is claiming the world is unjust..its just frustrating to be ignored or deemed, "less than" because of your outer appearance. Complete strangers don't approach you on the whim of you having a good personality. Honestly, even as an overweight person, I'm not attracted to overweight guys. I've gradually come to the realization. That I can't accept my body as it is, so why should I expect someone else too. Its just frustrating to feel undateable because of your weight.  >men are so shallow >why does dating require physical attraction >I have a great personality, why aren't you attracted to my personality >P.S. NO OVERWEIGHT GUYS, I WANT FIT MEN ONLY Holy fucking bingo card, Batman!  I suspect the following comment came from one of us:  So you know that ov  546d  erweight people are less attractive then? In that case it's hypocritical to complain if other people also avoid overweight people (i.e. you).  Especial in light of this FitTomato comment:  You do make a really good point. That there is more to a relationship past the initial attraction. It just feels like i'm not even getting past the first phase.   How dare prospective dating partners have an evolutionarily hardwired visual evaluation for fertile, physically healthy mates with good genes!  How dare natural selection favor the survival of our species and favor not producing high-mutation-load retard babies!  How dare human males be K-selected instead of sticking their dicks in every hole possible! Ever notice this about Reddit--and normies on other sites?  They say "there's more to it than physical attraction" as if that means physical attraction doesn't matter or is less important.  Sure, I prefer people who aren't evil psychos with borderline personality disorder and aren't LLs who won't fuck me (Chuck Johnson's "don't marry someone who won't fuck you" is extremely sound advice--Johnson himself should take his own advice and stop being a fatass), but I have to be attracted to said people in the first place.    The alternative is pityfucking people who repulse your genitals.  If anyone thinks that's a good idea, look at the outcome on /r/DeadBedrooms.  That's the logical implication of doing what the "you're shallow!" media shills want.     I will catch men looking at me when their fat, dumpy wife is directly beside them, even if the man is just as fat and dumpy as she is.  Shitladies will always be attractive.  That's the problem with Reddit's "forget losing weight and not being fat, just lower your standards" logic.  It won't stop how your penis reacts.  You can't force yourself to be attracted to someone because moralists say so.  I'm not pontificating here, that was my IRL experience in an /r/sex post.  If you could fuck someone's personality or make yourself attracted based on similarities and compatibility despite not being physically attracted, straight men would date other men.    Clearly, if you want to be a fatass, you're better off paying attractive people for sex than marrying someone with the same low SMV you have.    You can see why people with severe physical injuries like /u/Mike_1990_TX are fucked if they ever want to get another partner.