That's a good way to put it. Unfortunately, here is the sequence of events that unfolds every time a fatty hears something said about it:  Hear something said about you. Is it false? If yes, skip to step 5. So it's true -- does it bother you? If no, skip to step 5. Why does it bother me? Examine the answer, learn from what you find, and make the necessary changes. <--- this is where fatties fail Move on with life.