I'd like to add as a female I will look at your exs to see if you're worth my time. If all u can catch is fat/ugly you have no standards (something must be wrong with you) and I can't be seen with you. Like it or not the amount of and quality of attention you can get is a direct reflection of how attractive someone can find you. I'm not interested in changing so someone can feel better about themselves. If you don't like some thing about your self change! I don't spend hours on working out, eating right, getting my hair done, my nails done, make up, cute outfits etc to be with some who doesn't value and respect themselves like I do.