I had a cousin who went full blown HAES.  I had tried to help him get a job (30, unemployed, barely finished college because he was a lazy bastard, and we later found out was part of a fat sex cult), kept trying to help him exercise and eat right.  He was "dating" a 45 year old fat HAES predator at the end. Towards the end he blew up at me, and his parents for "fat shaming" and entered an eating competition to show us how proud he was of being fat. He died the next week of a heart attack due to cardiomyopathy.  Turns out he even knew about it. Mostly I am just fueled by rage at this point because of what it did to his parents, and all the depressing fucked up shit we found out about his life afterwards. He left a wake of destruction behind him, far wider than he was, and he was death fat class when he died. HAES kills.