Pet peeve: people getting fat in relationships/ fat people being in relationships I'm fit and getting stronger/fitter/hotter all the time. I continuously work on improving myself and I think it's sexy as hell when others do the same. I live my life by Ronda Rousey's admonition to not be a "do nothin bitch." There is nothing attractive to me about someone who degrades their body. So why are so many fat people in relationships/ why do so many people get fat once in a relationship and not get dumped?  I'm happily single and somewhat afraid to date until I find myself the perfect shitlord type so that we can encourage each other to always be our best selves. To me, that's a good relationship- always cheering for the other to achieve more and being happy when they do. I think that people getting fat in relationships/ fat people being in relationships makes a mockery of love. How can love allow such disrespect for the individual? A fat person is not "whole." In order to love fully, we must be our best selves!! How can a fat person truly love if he or she so obviously does not love him/her self?? As a single woman, seeing fatties "in love" is like a slap across the face. If I were willing to settle for that cheapened version of love, love that would "allow" me to be my worst self, love that ISN'T REAL LOVE, I would have a boyfriend in a second. But I have standards. I am not willing to accept mere companionship. I don't just want a buddy for netflix and eating and sloppy fat person sex as we both gradually increase in body size. I want a true partner, someone who will encourage me and expect me to be continuously improving. Someone who will challenge me. Someone who makes the best of the body they've been given so we can enjoy each other's amazing physiques for as long as we live.  So my question for you is this: is it possible for hams to really love each other? Why/how???? What about when a normal becomes a ham while in a relationship? Why do people stay together in that situation? I am stumped, and also angry, as well as annoyed and confused. So many feelings about this...