Real women are strong, athletic, people who look great naked, handle their own shit, and don't let dick control them.  They don't need to be in an abusive relationship, on either side, they don't need to catfish or make a scene or feign acceptance.  They are independent and should be just as capable of living life without a relationship.  A real woman is realistic in knowing that until she gets her own shit in order a man will be nothing but stopgap that hurts both of them in the end.