hmmm see now I wonder if it's related to first time birth? I tore like a motherfucker the first time. Doctor said I pushed between contractions. Whatever, she was half out of me, I couldn't not push.... My son was born less than an hour. I didn't have a single tear.   And he was a pound bigger.  Reading through a lot of these, a see a lot of first time birth tearing. Now I wonder.