My sweet, sweet, friend... is fucking retarded. She is dating a fat fuck. This breaks my heart guys. I've been friends with this girl for years now, and I've always known her to be a very sweet, shy, kind, and a very giving person. She is beautiful inside and out! She'll give you the shirt off her back!  However, there is something wrong with her... she has no self esteem. She always needs to be in a relationship, but the guys she chooses are not good for her. While none of them have been fat, they have all been mentally and physically abusive, they cheat, steal her money, and just make her feel like garbage. She has such a hard time breaking up with them too. I understand it's hard to let go and no one really knows what goes on in someone else's relationship, but this girl would be showing up with bruises. One ex actually kept trying to convince her to have a threesome with me and while it made me feel awful I swear it took her a while before she looked at me the same way again.  Cut to two months ago. She finally dumped the last one (you go girl!) but then IMMEDIATELY latched onto someone else. I know nothing about this guy, but I heard he was nice. Ok, great! I mean it's kinda soon, but whatever! Aaaaaaand then a month later she reunites with one of her old boyfriends... and it's love apparently. She dumps nice guy and starts to date Fatass.  If I had to guess... He's 6'3 and maybe 400lbs. Covered head to toe in hair (hair isn't bad on a man, I actually prefer it, but for some reason on a fat it's gross, especially when it's long enough to braid his back). He wears the weirdest glasses... like sporty sunglasses but for inside, He's covered in sweat even while sitting, balding (once again not a bad thing but on fats yes), He wears tight clothes. So he is roughly three times the size of her.  Ok, so maybe he's a nice guyTM and he makes her happy? Well onto his winning personality, and keep in mind I've only met him a few times so far. First off... he's still married. She doesn't talk about that part much though. All I know is that he is separated and still lives with his wife, but he is looking for a place (he wants to move in with her). You can tell he's controlling. He berated her for smoking a joint on our other friends birthday, calling her stupid and having a terrible attitude about it for the rest of the night. It helps her with her anxiety. At dinner I was sitting closest to them ( I got stuck there) and I pretended not to listen to what they were saying, but these things came up: What should I do shitlords? I just don't get it? Is it because he's fat that maybe she thinks that he'll treat her better than the other guys (even though that's not the case)? This girl is perfect, I don't understand why she is insecure. Maybe it's because she's 34 and thinks she's getting too old? I mean all of a sudden she wants to marry him and have babies, whereas she never wanted to before! I truly fear for her. She's already doing a fade away on all of us and always spending every waking minute with him. Should I give up? Or should I find out where he lives and murder him in his sleep?