Apparently there is a sliding scale of acceptable and failing to be thin isn't as bad as long as you aren't as fat as someone else.   You realize that weight loss isn't instant, right? Like they can't just wake up one morning, decide to be thin, and have all the lard melt off their bodies in an hour or two. Going from 250 to 190 is good progress as long as she doesn't just stop there and stay at that level of fatness. 60 pounds is more than a lot of people managed and she should be encouraged to keep going rather than just told what a stupid piece of shit she is for letting herself get fat in the first place.