As a stay-home mom myself (I'm also a published writer, but family comes first and I was only able to do that because I got to stay home with my kids), I don't get that either. How can you not make an effort when you have not only the time but the money to afford the best gym/trainers, as well? I'd love to join a gym--it's not in our budget--but I at least make sure I'm active for as much of the day as possible, and that I don't shy away from doing hard physical work. And yes, I stay slim because I love my husband and want him to feel as lucky as I do. I want him to be proud to be out in public with me; I want him to be proud to take me to work functions and to introduce me to his bosses and coworkers etc. I want the women he works with to know that they can't compete with what he's got at home! Fuck these selfish bitches who think a ring is a get-fat license and their husbands are obligated to love them even if they stop taking care of themselves completely.