Now that I'm 18 my shitlords and ladies, I could use some advice on dating and family... Hey everyone! So first off I'm officially 18 as of 3:30 PM today, and graduated from high school on the 8th. My grad night was pretty fun, albeit I did have to deal with some shit with the racist Fatipino kid ''R'', but that's another post. But the object of this post is this. As I'll be starting college in the fall, I'd like some advice on having a shitlordish/fit girlfriend which my family may or may not like. First off, I'm African American and so is most of my family so unfortunately that means that quite a few of us are overweight. Me and my sister aren't, my female cousin is kinda chubby, her brother in Nevada has a bit of a belly on him and so does their father my uncle. Our grandparents are also overweight(my grandfather has dementia) and my dad while having muscular arms is getting a gut on him. And then of course there's the extended family, in particular my cousin who last I saw was so fat just one of his thighs was bigger than my head. My mother is big to the point of having cottage cheese thighs and is diabetic. Yeah. Now me I'm in decent shape. Skinny(not lanky skinny) and tall with growing muscle since I started hitting the weights. I even bought a new workout bench and dumbbells with all the graduation/birthday money I'm getting. Once in college I plan on signing up for any martial arts programs available, as well as scouting the local dojos and take up things like swimming, biking and rock climbing since several of you claim that is the one physical activity fats can't ''cheat'' at. Now with these hobbies finding a nice fit girl to date shouldn't be a problem. However the things to consider regarding my family is: The college town I'll be living in is 80% white. Not a problem for me as I'm mindful of racism but don't think all whites are secretly with the Klan. However this is relevant as that would mean a potential girlfriend would likely be white. Not a problem for me, especially since black women are the least likely I would date since so many of them are ''thick and curvy''. But of course my family does have a bit of prejudice, making typical ''white folks'' jokes and my own mother saying outright before that she wants me to be with a black woman. Even my female cousin says that the interracial relationships in our family haven't worked out a lot in part due to this mentality. Now I'm sure many of us know that black men dating white women can elicit..strong reactions from the black community. For me this is amplified since I'm also not a Democrat, don't like lots of stereotypically black things(huge nerd) and am not Christian(I'm Buddhist.) Since my family is almost completely the opposite of me, having a fit white girlfriend could result in me getting a lot of shit, or at least subtlely which will be annoying when I visit. My cousin had a white girlfriend for a time, but in my nuclear family's case it may be different. Basically in your experience, how have you dealt with your fat family memebers in terms of introducing your partner/spouse to them, and dealing with any of the subtle jabs they may give you or them?