To be fair, plenty of women, even really attractive ones, do this to men. Happened to a good buddy of mine just recently lost house car and is now living back with his parents so he can pay child support because he can't afford rent. But when Hams do it it just adds that extra layer of crushing depression and defeat to the situation. They just really add a lot of metaphorical and literal weight of burden to the situation. Red flags to look out for is any cunt who says that statement "if you can't handle me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best" steer fucking clear!