Original post for the lazy there is some real crab mentality going on here: To give background info, I’m 20 years old and recently lost a lot of weight after meeting my partner. At my highest weight, I was 117kg (257lb) but over the last six months, I’ve gone down to 65kg (143lb). I gained a lot of weight after finishing high school due to antidepressant treatment, emotional over-eating from instable living situations and an opioid addiction I have since kicked. I feel like I’ve been granted a new lease on life and am so proud of myself for what I’ve accomplished thus far. My goal weight is 55kg (120lb) so I’m very close to finishing and it’s amazing to know I’ve come this far.  I’m writing today because I’ve lost the support of my family and friends for this weight loss. Although I’m generally socially isolated, I’m very close with my best friend and my mom. At the beginning, they were encouraging and complimented the effort I was putting in but as I lost more weight, they began to distance themselves from me. Both of these important figures of my life now tell me I’m too light and need to put weight back on which is the opposite of the truth and what I need to be healthy! My BMI is barely in a healthy range and I’m an average size – AU 10 so I can’t understand why the support has switched.  My best friend has recently started a diet so I’m helping her through that but when I ask for help, she accuses me of having an eating disorder and tells me I need to put more weight back on. My average weight throughout my teens was 75kg (165lb) so I’m thinking maybe others aren’t used to seeing me at a healthy weight and getting worried because I was always big. I was speaking to my mom recently and she told me that I’d always be big and wanting to get to 55kg was ‘silly and immature’.  My partner thinks it might be jealousy because both my best friend and mom are overweight given that the support stopped gradually as my weight dropped but it hurts for me to think like that. I have supported and encouraged both my mom and best friend through years of yo-yo dieting and was proud of them when they made achievements so I expect the same from them.  In essence, I guess I’m writing to ask you what you think might have caused this shift because it’s affecting my friendship with these women. I feel really alone and isolated, like I’ve done the wrong thing and this is a punishment for it.