I've been bullied, too. But what I learnt in university, was how people deal with it. I imagine our brain as self-fulfilling prophecy machine. If you want things to be true, they are true. Our brain is always creating a skewed "world". Fats believe they can't lose weight. And therefore they won't lose weight. They will snack and their brain won't pass this information on, just to keep up the: you will always be fat. And it is on the "victims" to see that they can repair bullying. Those kind of thoughts can be created by bullying. I was bullied in school. Got called fat, dumb and ugly. I was fat. But neither was I dumb back then, nor was I ugly(being overweight made me less attractive but there were no other physical deformations). But still those adjectives burned into my head. Even when I lost weight I thought of myself as fat, and "ugly". This lead to some funny sperging out on dates (how on earth does a girl like her be interested in someone like me?) Thing is, I had the choice to blame my bullies for fucking up my mind, or I could blame myself, for not unfucking my mind. In the end I accepted that I was bullied, nothing can undo that. I am still unfucking my mind, but now I cherish my fitness, I cherish my intelligence, I cherish my look. I'm glad that I was bullied. If I wasn't I would never haved turned down soda and sugar. And I truly would be fat, dumb and ugly by now.  Was I happy when I was bullied? No! Am I happy now? Yes! Would I rather be happy back then and now unhappy with a lot of delusion? FUCKING NO.  And this shit is what pisses me off. Yeah everyone suffers, but it is and has always been up to yourself to be happy. You don't get happy by dragging everyone else down, the only difference is you aren't alone in your misery, but still you are miserable. Why on earth would you rather lower the bar than working on getting over the bar..