That's awful that he cheated while you were in the hospital. Ted may have while I was up there, I'll never know because I was up there for so long and not at all aware of much of anything.  I was completely in awe that he didn't just end the relationship while I was in hospital as it was fairly new when I went in. Like maybe 3-4 months. I remember being very grateful that he didn't ditch me bc holy cow that's a lot of drama on a new relationship. I think that's why it didn't really register with me how fat he had gotten. Not until his friend made that comment on FB.