I let myself get hurt by a fat person TLDR; I let myself get hurt by a fat person, and I'm feeling angry about it.  The title makes me ashamed. I wanted to share this rant with you all, as I feel no one in my life would understand my underlining anger.  So, for over a year now, I've been attending a Zumba class. In the past, I've refrained from ranting about any of the Zumbafats there because I honestly believed people were there to try and be healthier, lose weight, and take care of themselves. I've since been proven wrong (on many occasions, but I digress). I've tried to be patient with the smallfat instructor. She would often bring the mood down after class by ranting about how terrible her life is. I would try to be a good friend and listen, but she would never do anything to better her life, though many other attendees had good suggestions. In short, she's a miserable being who doesn't want to change. She constantly complains about her weight, but eats terrible. She teaches  Zumba several nights a week, but as we all know, you can't outrun a bad diet.  Her good friend (who also attends class) eats similar to myself. (Sugar free, and similar to keto, but with complex carbs thrown in the mix. Basically, real food that's good for you.) We go back and forth for food ideas, recipes, where to find specialty items, etc. I've heard the instructor bad mouth her way of eating, so I refrained from ever bringing it up. Plus, I don't really care if other people eat exactly like I do. It's a free country, so to speak. But, tonight. Oh, tonight. Our mutual friend had to leave early, and she expressed she was a little stressed. Someone joked that we should bring her donuts to her work, to she (and I) both expressed a loud no. I told her I could bring her healthy donuts, maybe. Which sparked this... When the friend walked out the door, the instructor immediately launched into a loud rant to everyone in the room how our mutual friend is a health "psycho" like me. She went on to say how we don't eat "real food" because we eat things like almond flour and stevia instead of white flour and white sugar. She even acknowledged mid rant how our mutual friend lost all of her weight eating this way, "But, she doesn't even know what she's eating!!!!!!" And even if I did make healthy donuts, they'd "taste like sh*t" because they wouldn't have crap in them. She want on further to say all the health food she's tried from our friend was terrible, and how it tastes like dark chocolate, which everyone knows is awful. She continued, but I'll spare you the rest.  Logically, this shouldn't have got to me, but it did. I've tried everything to be there for this instructor through all her drama and real struggles. I tried to be a friend when hardly anyone else was for over a year. Then, she had the nerve to try and embarrass me in front of the whole class, and drag her friend through the mud when she wasn't event there. It makes me...well, hate her. As a "fitness instructor" I would think she would at least not openly complain about people eating healthy. Keep your dang fat thoughts in your head. I wanted to defend myself, but this person is "yelly" and I'm just now realizing, a bully.  I'm unsure if I'm going back. I'm definitely taking a break. I go to Zumba to release the stress from my work day, not to be told what a crappy person I am for eating well, and taking care of my body. I can't decide if I'm more angry about the instructor's actions, or that it hurt me.