This. He is quiet and will often say that I'm exagerating or something like that. But when I ask why or ask his opinion he ends up agreeing. He has ham family members (few but huge) but he doesn't want to be mean to them. I understand. Asides from the usual fat problems (taking up space, polishing off desert, etc) they're pretty nice for fat people: the jolly-fat stereotype. I think they just put on the show for me and return to being bitter when I'm gone from what other (thin) family members tell me