Ah, ye olde Bateman's Principal. Whenever a species has more than one sex, one of those sexes will put more resources into reproduction than the other. This is true for almost all mammals, where all males have to do to make a baby is cum, while females must endure pregnancy, childbirth, and in many species, sole child rearing. That's a hell of a lot of resources to waste on bad genetics, so females must become highly selective so they only invest their resources into the best possible outcome. This, in turn, makes the males of these species more competitive, having to prove to the females that they have the genetics that are most successful, and most viable for successful offspring. Bucks grow antlers, peacocks develop colourful plumage, lyrebirds sing, and all the females are the plainest looking things, because they have no need to compete. Unfortunately, this principle is due to the biology of our species and our brains haven't figured out that we aren't in the wild anymore. We never gave the ole lizard brain time to adapt, so instinctively men are competitive and lower their standards for available mates, while women are selective and raise their standards. We don't have the same worries about childbirth as we used to since we don't live in the wild anymore, and we need these instincts less and less in the modern age, yet it persists. There is one cure for this, and we saw it in action today with this post; MEN MUST RAISE THEIR STANDARDS. The more we see fatties reeing about men not wanting curves, and about how they don't get the love they deserve, and that society is making men only want healthy mates, the more we see Bateman's principal failing, as we are indeed beginning to adapt to our new, comfortable, resource-rich environment. Only by raising standards can men force women to begin competing, and therefore, making more of an effort to be a worthy mate. This community is a lovely example of how ditching Bateman's principal is for the best. Now that we have supermarkets and hospitals and charity, we have far more control over our lives. We are able to each find worthy mates because we on each side of the sexes understand the importance of making an effort. Especially since not doing so, now results in your offspring being unhealthy, unhappy, and less successful. It's a new world, and we're one of the few communities adapting to it for the sake of future generations. If we keep giving into our lizard brain, we'll be lazy overeaters who breed excessively and unsustainably.  TL;DR men must raise their standards if our species is going to survive successfully. All humans will be willing to mate even if they personally are in shitty health, because of opportunity, male OR female. Don't give fatties the opportunity. Do what women do, and be selective. Force your potential mates to compete in order to weed out the unworthy. As long as men give fat women attention, they will continue to think they deserve it.  So remember, dudes: if you're a shitlord, you're already a more worthy mate than other men who have let themselves go. Make sure you hold your mate to the same standard, don't give in, and don't forget that you deserve someone who will make you happy, who you can rely on, and who understands the importance of making an effort. Never settle for less than you deserve :)