Yeah, that's what I don't get - they want men to be attracted to them, but they don't want a man to be TOO attracted to them, because that means he's a chubby chaser. and they despise them. So...what is it? You want him to be attracted to you for your sparkling personality only? They want to be seen as "beautiful" but if a man extols your alleged "beauty" he wants a trophy and is probably a fetishist? I swear, the mental gymnastics of being with a fat must be positively exhausting. I do not know why any man or women would bother with such a mess.