Fat makes you stupid and fat children are depressing (more from my stupid fat family) It's been almost a year since my first post. The TL;DR is: Went to birthday party and hung out for a few hours without recognizing my little brother. Ham mom yells at me and I have to stare into his eyes for 2-3 seconds before I recognize him. Disgust towards my mother flips the switch from a mild dislike of fat people to fat people hate. Scared and sad for my child siblings :( Just a quick little bit of an update about the minimoons: "Melissa" my youngest sister is now 13. They've both been maintaining weight (still obese), and according to my fat mother, Melissa's pediatrician says she is no longer prediabetic. I find this incredibly difficult to believe. I've started talking to Melissa & Tony more directly and more often; I explain to Melissa she needs to channel the shame into spiteful motivation and it pumps her up for a bit, but inevitably, her situation and my mother's hamplanet tactics weigh down on her. Tony's more difficult because he's autsitic, but, I'm trying. I hate my mother so goddamn much.  And that's what this post is really about: my fat, stupid, moronic, enabling mother and how her bullshit is slowly ruining my once strong support network. Every time I see her she gains more weight. Now she uses menopause as an excuse. Recently some of us gathered together for Kelly's (other sister) high school graduation and here's some of the stupid nuggets from the 3 hour car drive conversations: 'I'm gross and sweaty and my breadsticks got bigger but I'm going to hug you anyway." (note: 'breadsticks' is the nickname she gave her fat rolls. No, I am not joking.) "They [scientists] think they can decipher the age of something by looking at the molecules of it. They're so stupid." (she was referring to carbon dating) "Melissa and Tony would lose weight if people just left them alone about their eating habits."  "I'm convinced the government is putting sugar in the water to keep people fat." "The government is also poisoning us with chemtrails to keep us fat and happy. I guess it's working for me HAHAHAHAHHA" And the thing that damn-near made me lose my shit: WHAT THE FUCK EVEN. She's been saying more and more crazy shit over the years that falls under the "govt' conspiracy theory" umbrellas but this is the first time I've heard her like outright defy science like this (other than with regards to food.) Fat does make you stupid. Oh my god next she's going to become an anti-vaxxer. But wait. There's more! My mother has been wearing down my grandmother. My grandmother and I have been in cahoots for a while to get Melissa and Tony on the path to health, but my grandmother is one of those hippy, non-confrontational types. Mom's constant insistence that people need to stop bringing up weight and food around Melissa and Tony has brought my grandmother to her side.  While we were on our way back home my grandmother said: "Well, you know, everyone has different body types. Some people are just meant to be overweight. If her pediatrician says she's in the clear then I'm sure she's fine." "How fat is Melissa's pediatrician?" I muttered under my breath. Mom heard me, but ignored me. I'm so frustrated and pissed off. With regards to fat kids: Melissa and Tony have said some truly heart breaking shit over the past year. Melissa's expressed that she's safe from kidnappers because no one wants her because she's fat. She's told me she's going to be alone forever, that she outright can't do things because she's too fat and she doesn't care because little debbie cakes are killing her but she's "happy"... but she's not, you can see it in her face. It's heartbreaking and enraging and I hate them all. I don't know how much more of the "diplomatic" approach I have in me.