Christ. I have an aunt like that, too. No kids, no job- she’s basically stayed at home and just blew up. It’s pathetic. However, I have another aunt: (they’re both 50ish) 5 children deep running marathons. They’re not related, but they’re the same age and I swear the runner looks 15 years younger. And her figure is slammin’. Perfect examples of self care and self harm.