Absolutely right on the money on every point.  I agree completely that there is a disconnect which they can almost talk themselves into believing. Like you, I believe they think the more skin shown, the more people will want to have sex with them.  It makes sense.  Everyone is told to dress modestly when going out, but girls on the beach wearing bikinis are sexy, and lingerie which reveals more skin is sexier still.  So the assumption is more skin = more sexy.  And if you show skin, then guys are going to stop and drool, so if you go to a drunken party and whip off your top then guys are going to go out of their minds with lust and desire. But the crushing reality hits these hams at adult clubs.  I've seen women whip off their tops only to have everyone avert their eyes and move away.  They reach this point following a predictable and depressing spiral.  First they arrive nervously at the club batting eyelashes and being ignored.  Then they try to strike up with saucy flirting and get rebuffed.  Then they get drunk and slutty only to have people chuckle and move awkwardly away.  Finally they get completely naked and stand immobile in the center of a crowd of fun, attractive humans who treat them with indifference. Tumblr and sympathy posts follow.