Shameless asking for support on something and a rant about a former partner turned chubby, but adopting HAES bullshit Pretty much as it says on the tin, really, but this is an odd one. I met my ex partner nearly three years back. At the time, he was of a similar mind to me on food, exercise, etc. I was a fat kid and hit my late teens and did something about that. It involved a massive amount of rethinking what I thought I knew and questioning my relationships with my family on my part and it was tough, but I did it. When we met he was a healthy weight. Partly because he was a student and living on a very small amount of money, but he also ate well for the little he spent. Fast forward to a year back, April 2017 and he starts to slack off. His eating habits changes, he uses take out as a treat for a bad day. And we all do that to a greater or lesser extent, but it was often. He started to thicken about the middle, although he was underweight when we met.  It carried on, he started to be friends with a group of right on SJW, danger hair HAEs fucktards, and it spiralled from there.  I ended it yesterday - it got really bad in the last two months or so, but I've been ill and hadn't been able to go and see him and have that conversation in person. And I know he's gone full blown hambeast mentality, but I felt like I wanted that talk in person and to make sure he understood how serious I was. He's not even really fat. He's chubby, but he doesn't see it as an issue and is happy rolling along in his groove being chubby and miserable and having an unhealthy relationship with food, and that's the kicker. If he were chubby and working on it, then fine, I guess, although I probably wouldn't have got involved with him. But he doesn't see it as an issue and his friends - one of whom has already made a move on him - is a massive fattie. You know the type, thinks soap and razors are a tool of the patriarchy, undercut, shitty hair dye, too mentally ill to work, all that jazz - totally reinforce it. I guess the reason I'm posting is to ask you guys and ladies to share with me your similar tales of woe on relationships which started fine and ended when the other person became a hammie. Or to just remind me that I did the right thing. Apologies if this isn't the right place to do this. EDIT TO SAY: Thank you so very much for the really lovely, heart-warming responses.  I appreciate you all for taking the time to do so.