To me, self care for fats is that little bit of instant gratification happiness that they get when they wolf down a cake. "Cake makes me happy, there fore I am taking care of my happiness and mental health!"  Self care really should be, "I'm doing small steps that are hard and difficult to do now in order to reach my goals for long term success." I hope that made sense. Once again Donuts is FPHing before the coffee kicks in again.