Ninja edit: this ended up being a story. Sorry! Yeah, after some childhood trauma, I had an ED in middle school and halfway through highschool: I was deathly skinny. I was lightheaded all the time, couldn't join in on PE, super anemic, just took vitamin pills, etc. Went to a therapist, and went the other way with food. I INSTANTLY ballooned up. Instead of starving myself because I didn't want to feel anything, I ate my feelings away. The therapist didn't fix my shitty relationship with food. So I became over 200lbs in a couple years.  Once I came to terms with my trauma, without any therapy, only then did I realize the true meaning of "fuck your feelings." After I lost a bit of weight, I was at a party, just tipsy, and helped a stranger out who was throwing up outside. It ended up being a trap, that dude's older brother was around the corner. I was held down by 2 men and raped. As it was happening, that's when I had the epiphany. None of this shit matters. My feelings obviously don't matter. These two dudes do not give a fuck. I was able to get out of the choke hold from the older brother, broke his elbow of the arm I got a hold of and ran. After that, the pounds melted off, I began to workout, get stronger and take responsibility for my life. Nothing in my shitty past held me down. My feelings don't matter in any of this. Food is fuel for my body, there is no feelings in eating food.  Once I got down to 125lbs, bringing me to a BMI of 21 I believe? I was told by many family members that I looked "sick" and "not well" and "you should eat a cheeseburger." I was told many things. I don't give a fuck, that is them projecting their insecurities on me. It was awkward at first, but I always came back to them with points on their shitty health like, "oh, I'm sick? Grandpa, that Coca-Cola that you drink every day isn't helping you diabetes" or "yeah, I'm back down to human sized, and I don't wheeze when speaking in long sentences any more, fuck me right?"  I let them know how shitty it was to be just over 200lbs at my height in highschool. They shut up real quick.  Sorry for the long rant, TLDR; I see where you are coming from. Fuck them.