why would anyone call you gay for grooming yourself? straight people also groom themselves. i once rode a greyhound bus crammed next to a fat, sweaty, snoring man whose sweat-soaked arm was pressing against me the whole time, and he slid his shoes off halfway through. 12 hours next to him. i wish i'd said something, but i was 16 and traveling alone. if it happened now, i would've flipped.