I can see where the anxiety to look like you're in the same league with your SO comes from. I'm hyper aware that my boyfriend is ripped and handsome while I'm, well, 22bmi and fitter than the average woman but far from fitness model status, flat chested, and face-wise I am below average. It causes me quite a bit of anxiety and I don't like to be seen by his friends too much because I know the elephant in the room is "he could get anyone and chose that?" It does suck. But, at least I'm not overweight and do what I can with styling. What the ham in the story should realise is she'll feel better if she just eats reasonably.