Yeah, I feel like victims of child abuse get a small cushion to turn themselves around. No one will blame a fat 4 year old. I won't fat shame a toddler. I will, however, call out the parents. They're neglecting their child's health and well being.  Now by the time you're 18, you should be aware of calories in vs calories out but sometimes it takes a year or so to undo the damage. I honestly think children of fats should see a therapist/nutritionist. I know too many people whose moms told then drink your juice it's healthy and natural and would cook everything in butter etc etc.