Just look at a BDSM munch (likewise for swingers).  Augustus Gloop will be thinner than most of the men and almost all of the women.  Apparently there are private parties that enforce basic standards, but PhillyShitlord would know more about that than I would. Lesbians actually have it worse than in your country (and your country has it pretty miserable).  For all the reeeig about "you're shallow," the hams like thin women just as much as you or I do.