Shitlords & Ladies. What dating sites do you use to avoid the excess of society? OK so I'm not exactly star material for beautifulpeople.com (that's a thing btw, for real) or whatever but I'm pretty trim and like my partner to be the same.  Just made a post in /r/askvoat but figured I'd get more honest advice here and people here would be more in the know. I'm more interested in actual dating though as opposed to casual things so it's a bit fucking tricky. I feel like tearing my hair out half the time as if you're just looking for someone DTF that's cool but why match with me if I'm saying that's what I'm after? I don't really want to have to pay for an app or service and would rather try the free ones so if you've got any suggestions I'd kill for them.  Currently tried My-bae, Badoo, and everyone knows Tinder and OKC. If you have any secret ones that work a treat please let me in on the secret!