Does she get the concept of net pain? Ie, something can cause pain to go down a little temporarily, then up a lot, permanently, thus increasing her total amount of pain?   How would you do berrer handling the immense amounts of pain I'm in?  Why, I'd stab myself with a pen to give myself even more pain, of course. That's just as logical as putting on fat to give myself even more pain. Seriously, I'd take a hot bath or do just about anything that's physically pleasurable. Being fat is the opposite of physically pleasurable. Fat people really are like drug addicts. They don't get that they have a future self.   "Thanks for making me feel even worse than I already felt AngryAlmond"  Emotional abuse. It's all your fault for making her feel bad! Her feelings are 100% caused by you! I hate people like that. Feelings are pretty much 100% under our control. They're one of the only things we control. The fact that someone cries about not getting their way always makes me hate them even more. Like, they're trying to shovel it on you.