I gotta say something here. Devotees (those attracted to disabled people) would NEVER actively make their partners disabled or more disabled than they already are. They accept them like they are and take care of their needs, trying to make their life easier.  There could be a common point in control issues, but it ends here. Feeders actively destroy their victim lifes just for their sexual pleasure, which is disgusting, and I don't even need to start ranting about doing this through obesity.