You're not alone. If they're not crazy, and not obese, it's interesting to have in-person chats with some of these people.  The motivations and histories are fascinating, even if I don't fully understand.   (I guess I don't need to understand though, so long as they're happy.) I'll talk to anybody, if they're human-sized and articulate.  Raping them afterwards is just a cute bonus, if they're into that stuff too.  (Frequently they are.  Interesting cross-over!)