As a parent of adult children, I do my very best to not to offer unsolicited advice.  But there were two absolutes I had for my son.  One, stay away from girls who already had children.  Second, never ever date a girl who was overweight. Or had ever had a weight problem. Why?  Because life was always going to miserable if your partner was either fat or playing that yoyo game of loss and gain.  Life's too short.