You're 5'7" 144 pounds and look like this while she is 5'7" 145ish pounds and looks like this.  She looks and is fat. You don't and aren't. I think a vast majority of the 34k subscribers here would agree on both.  This a big part of why BMI isn't good enough. It makes people who are clearly obese or clearly overweight by body fat percentage think that they are in better health than they are. No one is saying that everyone with a BMI of 23 or everyone with your stats is fat. That would make no sense. So there's no need to act defensively.