My ex-stepmom was a piece of shit, too. Since she and my dad have been divorced, my relationship w/my dad has gotten so much better, like back to normal. It's still kind of irritating, though, when he talks about how awful she was and how much he regrets having been with her/marrying her, because it's like, Dad, my brother and I both pretty much begged you, constantly, to get that bitch out of our lives and our home, and you kept insisting it was because we "wouldn't like anyone [you] dated, because she's not   66ba  your mom." Even though we told him over and over that that was not the case and we would have been happy to see him date a nice woman, we just hated her. She made our lives miserable, her and her two horrible fat sons. Point is, I barely spoke to my dad for years because of her, but now she's gone and we have a great relationship again. Hopefully your dad will come to his senses one day, too.