my friends are closeted shitlords/shitladies!! So in this group I got too their is a very obese man. He is supposed to be a leader in the community but during our events he falls asleep all the time. He makes creepy advances toward the women and online he openly questions women's motives and behaviors when they come out as having been harrassed and assaulted. So I had a friend over and she's super fit and into parkour and we were talking about him. I started gently mentioning that I didn't like him and it quickly turned into big of us bitching about fat acceptance and healthy living and fit shaming.  Both of us being fit women get shamed for muscles and viable rib cages and our eating habits often. I also recently learned that my other friend whose male takes extreme issue as well. And I've started learning more circus arts like Lyra, trapeze, silks, and rope, I've started parkour, and I am in intermediate level pole dance classes. Everyone I've met in those groups are shitlords and ladies and I love it! I'm thrilled to have finally found people who are likeminded guys!!!! I just needed to share my happiness.