Dating in a world of hams - "Beggars can't be choosers". Apologies in advance for the length of this rant. TL:DR at the bottom. "Beggars can't be choosers" is what my sister said to me last night at dinner with her boyfriend.  The subject was dating and Tinder, and how I'm 29 in a couple months and have been single for more than 4 years.  Que the "Oh let me see your profile" "Oh I have a friend, I'll show you her Facebook two seconds". "What about her? Or her? Ooooh she's cute? Oh she says she likes (interest) on her profile?!? huh! You like that??!!" Ham. Mayobeast. Obese dyke. Obese dyke. Obese dyke. Too Justin Bieber-y. Obese dyke. Ham. Overweight femme.  My sister is overweight, and her boyfriend as been fattening her up since they first got together, so of course their fee fee's were hurt when I blasted their choices.  "I'm not attracted to fatties." Outrage. Conversation about beauty being deeper than physical.  "Uh no, I'm not having sex with their personality am I. I have to be ATTRACTED to them" Utterly offended by the fact I don't want to be rolling around in bed with someone double my weight, they both stated that being single at 28, beggars cannot be choosers, and that I'm potentially throwing away meeting the love of my life because I won't give a planet a chance.  I lurked on reddit's FPH, and I was thrilled to find Voat, because ultimately I NEED you people in my life. I need people that understand that just because the population is more than happy to expand their waistlines, doesn't mean I have to lower my standards. I'm not claiming to be a 10/10 here, but trying to find a funny, intelligent, kind lesbian that isn't overweight in my area is honestly a new level of patience and determination I think should be included in my CV.  There is the possibility of a transfer coming up at work, and the driving force behind it is my dating life. I've exhausted the small gay scene in my area. I'm tired of being set up by friends to find out its a ham. I'm tired of snooping on Facebook profiles from Tinder to find out my predications were correct, and those Myspace angles are hiding more chins. I'm sick of the "Beggars can't be choosers" mentality being shoved on to me because god forbid I'm single for a few years.  As much as I would absolutely love a companion, I'd rather be alone with my dog my whole life than be with a butterhuffer.  So tell me fellow shitlords, are you experiencing anything similar? TL:DR - Refuse to date fatties. Majority of lesbians in my area are obese. Family members think I should just settle for a fatty. I'd rather be alone. Hows the dating scene for you?