A while ago, I saw some kind of "explanation" for this, written by a fatty whose name I (un)fortunately don't remember. It unironically said something like:  Asking a marginalized persyn about why they're oppressed or asking us to explain a triggering event is taking part in the oppression. It's asking us womynx to do emotional labor for you about something you can - and should - research yourself. It's racist, homophobic, transphobic, fatphobic, islamophobic etc.  That's a whole new level of laziness. Trying to make genuine questions seem "oppressive", just because you are too lazy to answer them.