Is it OK to 'Vanity Shame' Fatties? So there's this concept of Vanity Sizing or mislabeling clothing sizes just to appease the fatties and make them feel better about their sizes.  But I guess you already know that.  I for one, am extremely annoyed by the practice-- I can't find the right sizes in most stores/brands, and sometimes have to resort to Asian brands like Uniqlo or Bench.  Anyway... Yesterday, there was this woman, 40lbs. overweight middle-aged (and potential cat lady) at the supermarket checkout counter after me.  She just made an unsolicited comment about how those "greens" and bag of black/violet rice mix in my cart, "won't help me grow larger".  This was notwithstanding I have some decent muscles already showing and am in no way rail thin. "But they're healthy", I snappily replied, hoping to avoid any further conversation. "But you'll just be thin forever if that's what you eat," she said almost patronizingly. It was then something snapped in me.  I looked at her nicely and said, "So what do ya reckon I eat, ma'am?"  Then I looked at her cart and it was full of processed goods like boxed cereals, bread, spreads, crisps, candy, etc. And then, before she could reply, I blurted out, "Sorry but I just can't eat the same food you eat.  I don't want to be morbidly obese just like you." --Which is stretching the term too far I think, because as I have mentioned earlier in the story, she is only around 40lbs. overweight.  But my remark seemed to do the trick and she didn't engage in convo with me anymore after that.  I glanced at her once as I was picking up the bagged goods and she really looked very hurt. SHOULD WE VANITY SHAME those fatties?  if they vanity size our clothing, then should we vanity shame them too?  Like calling a small fat as morbidly obese?  Seems to really shock them and deliver the message clearer and faster. :-)