Is this a drunk rant? I empathize tho, my ex wife is keeping my 6yo chubby, I can only control half her meals, it sucks. I try to enroll her into physical activites like dance but her mother will not take her on off weeks, again it sucks.  My kids are going to grow up knowing their mother didnt put any effort and it will cause them to have psychological issues later in life.  So I get it, all I can do is set a good example.