There's a small but decent community of trans men bodybuilders on youtube if you're looking for inspiration! And if you'd like to read from a trans guy who is interesting, I recommend Ryan Sallans who is pretty damn fit especially for a guy in his mid-thirties (book is called "Second Son"). On the opposite side of the trans spectrum from you (mtf), but I agree with a lot of what you're saying. Lose weight, pass better. People are more willing to accept an abnormality like being transgender if you prove you're a real human first.