The safe way to shame. I have been lifting more than ever and am trying to gain weight.  I am surrounded by obeasts on a daily basis. I just got under 10% body fat so the hams cannot stand it. So I just tell them how I am trying to eat as many calories as I can to build muscle mass and they freak out.  Then I tell them all that I eat are proteins and vegetables with whole grain carbs only in the morning and they are just dumbfounded.  It's like they can't say shit because they would be insulting my goals.