And a lot of the time, they're surrounded by an insulating bubble of other fats who feed this denial and crabbily undermine their friends' efforts to get healthy. Body Positive crabs build up their delusions of personal beauty by twisting not hating yourself into being proud of a shitty body. HAES crabs build up their denial of health by pointing to fat powerlifters, "perfect" blood work, low-grade pseudoscientific studies, and Ragenesque fat internet folk heroes whose exploits, if less epic than those of Pecos Bill and John Henry, are no more mythical. The end result is that a fat person surrounded by fats essentially has to distance themselves from and maybe even abandon a social circle of former friends and maybe family to be successful in weight loss. And the size of these social circles only grows with the obesity epidemic, even as the pool of prospective fit alternative friends shrinks. Additionally, many fits are frankly too fit to really hang out with a recovering fat until they're done recovering. It's like deciding not to be Amish, or something. By dosing a fat with facts and reality, you undermine the delusions that are the lynchpin of its protection against the dissonance it feels about its disgusting body and its failure to really address the problem. The fat blows up. Other fats who see it emphasize and feel their own dissonance threatened and they blow up. They mobilize. They reee on social media. They comfort each other's bruised reeee-fees online, and assuage their fee-fees with more disordered eating. Every unsuccessful challenge to their world view pushes them further into obesity and raises the stakes riding on their delusion. Fat people see the keystone of their worldview at risk when they're confronted with facts. Meanwhile, you have almost nothing to gain by berating a fat. They're pitiful. That's the heart of the fph, I think. I'm mad on behalf of society, I'm mad on behalf of rationality and reason, I'm mad on behalf of the human race. Although I'm disgusted by individual fats, they only anger me when they're caught in the act of misbehaving. But I hate the obesity epidemic because it represents a shift in human beings away from the traits that have kept us on a path towards progress until now. Ironically, our trend of getting fatter diminishes us.  This is what has created the environment you find yourself resenting. This is why the consequences for speaking out against fat logic are more severe than they should be. This is why you resisted the impulse to brutally shitlord an old deathfat.