That was beautiful. Call me old fashioned, but I think a woman should want to stay fit and beautiful for her husband. And that he would want to do the same in return. This is what happens in a healthy relationship. Butter golems do not understand this. In this case, it sounds like OP's husband is also a lard monster:  We weigh the same but he is 1-2 inches taller. He's in great shape and runs marathons but has high blood pressure/cholesterol issues.  So in this case, I have exactly zero sympathy for this pig's husband because he sounds fat too. He got himself into this mess.