Exactly!  When I was trying to lose weight last year, someone asked me what I wanted out of it. And amid the stuff about being able to do poses I yoga I just can't seem to do, out popped the confidence comment: "I want to feel more confident." And the person I was speaking to said: "You don't need to lose weight to be confident, you can feel confident right now."  Bull fucking shit.  Confidence is the result of looking better, not something you can magically talk yourself into--if you do, you're delusional.  Students have self-esteem as a result of accomplishments, giving them a gold star for nothing doesn't benefit them at all.  It's hard to do, but I keep reminding myself of this.  It's hard because you're trying to lie to yourself, fatso.