Hello, FPH, I'm having a moral crisis. Good morning FPH Friends, I'm having what I would call a moral crisis.  Yesterday, I went to pick up big work table I saw on Craigslist.  As a tiny shitlady, I called my man friend to help me move it.  So, we pulled into this man's driveway and I knocked on the door.  He came out from the back door, and looked exactly what you would think of when trying to imagine a "Deadhead". He was probably about 55 years old, ~300 lbs., tie-dye shirt, cargo shorts, and a gray beard down to his tits. I asked him about the table and he had no idea what I was talking about, but then informed me I was at the wrong house and told me how to get to where I was going.  He was super nice about the whole thing (some people FLIP when you come on their property, as any regular Craigslisters who also happen to be bad at directions will know) and it kind of amused me that he looked like a psychedelic Santa Claus.  Anyway, my friend has a thing for me and wants to capture my attention in any way possible and, knowing I'm a big advocate of anti-obesity, got out and started smoking a cigarette (on some random dude's property while he was standing there), then came up beside me and started trying to snap pictures of him discreetly, but they came out looking like he was taking a picture of my phone.  I'm pretty sure the guy didn't notice at all, but it has me kind of feeling bad/sad that that happened anyway.  My biggest feeling, however, is a little tingle of anger/frustration, although these words are not entirely accurate, maybe shame? I don't know, I just feel a little upset at my friend for doing that.  My whole family is fat, so I don't really have anyone else that I feel would give me an honest answer, my friends would just go along with me and I know that every time I talk to them.  Am I wrong or was this just TOO tacky? Has something simliar happened to anyone else?