Good for you, man! My husband was in the exact same situation: a smallfat took advantage of his low self esteem & loneliness when he first moved to the US from England--she also took advantage of the fact that most British women are chubbier and it's more accepted and praised there (as in, many female TV stars praised for their sexiness and appeal are smallfats). Then, after they got married (because he was going back to the UK and decided she would go with him, but they had to marry for that to happen) she started ballooning. That's when the "Real women look like me/real women are fat/fat is beautiful" bullshit really started for her, too. There were a lot of other issues in the marriage; suffice to say she was a typical lazy, greedy, selfish fat who was also verbally and occasionally physically abusive. Then when he finally took her up on her constant, "I want a divorce!" screeching and said, "I think that's a good idea," instead of doing what he usually did and giving in to her (they had a child he didn't want to lose), all of the sudden he was the asshole who "blindsided" her with his "selfish" desire for a divorce. Suddenly she wanted to go to the therapy she'd always refused before (because none of it was her fault, of course, she was perfect, so why go to therapy?) and wanted to work on the marriage blah blah blah. But it was too late. We got together shortly after he asked for a divorce and moved into their kid's bedroom, and once he realized that a relationship could be fun and supportive and loving (and that being in a relationship didn't somehow automatically turn women into cows) there was no going back. Recently he went to visit my SD and of course had to see his ex. He took a picture for me, which we both had a good laugh at. She's now gone from smallfat to fat to deathfat. She is HUGE. Talk about dodging a Howitzer round!