I'm married now, but when I was dating, my only standards were:  Women only (straight guy, can't change that) No one with serious self abuse problems.  That's it. So basically, women who aren't fat or have serious drug or self-harm problems. If a person could meet that criteria, and they were interested in dating me, I would give it a shot. If ever a fat person tried to call me shallow for rejecting them, I would state that these are my only rules. It didn't comfort them any more but it was funny for me, so that was nice.