He's not a nice guy  I believe this is the real obesity paradox.  People insist fatties are super nice and have wonderful personalities but don't realize it's because it's all relative.  The vast majority of fatties are terrible, terrible people, so when one acts even slightly normal they seem like an angel by comparison.  So you get people thinking that any fat person who isn't a complete asshole all the time is a nice person. It's like how shots don't hurt anywhere near as much as they did when you were a kid.  When you're 2, it very likely is one of the worst pains you've experienced.  When you're 20, you've definitely felt things that hurt a lot more.  So you think it "doesn't hurt" when in reality it hurts just as much as before, but you were expecting it to be much worse.