Fatfuck from Bouldering: A Smallfat Rant So to preface this, I in fact did not meet this particular smallfat at bouldering, but I'm subbing that sport in for one of the others I get up to since I don't want be easily identifiable. So in the spring one of the dudes I now go bouldering with introduced me to someone else at the climbing gym. When he and I had met, he was your typical tubby, sad office worker. Over the months he had leaned way the fuck down, gotten hella strong, and was looking damn good (still is)!! So when he introduced me to this lardbucket I figured she would be making a similar transformation. Stupid me. Piggy was probably 5'7" and about 40lbs overweight when we met. I'd put her in the low 200s, but I'm so used to be around athletic people with visible muscle mass I can't estimate this shit. Off the cuff I'd say 230lbs but don't take my word on that. Typical doughy looking mid-20s female. Not hamplanet yet, but a beefmoon to be sure. Really unfortunate body shape overall, yet when doesn't a ham look unfortunate?? Moving on. So she and I slowly became friends. She slimmed down and was able to do bodyweight squats, moving up to babbyweight with a 30lbs preloaded bar. She'd come into the gym and gush about how she can see X change and oh my god isn't this the best?!!? She's looking so good!! Honestly, to me, she looked her same soft, doughy self, but I wasn't about to just go slapping this chick down. If fatty sees progress (that the rest of us can't make out) then fatty will keep working and become human. Fatty takes random pic and you can see her neck muscles!! Go Fats McGee!! I would encourage her and dabble some shitlording into our conversations at minimum once per encounter. Trying to ride that thin line between openly disgracing her disgusting body and being positive and reinforcing when she saw changes. However, Tubbs McGrubbs started to shit talk fats while being a minimoon herself. Ironic. I had trouble holding my tongue and kind of petered off for a while. Now when I shitlord she goes very quiet.... I'd say she got the message but yesterday we went out for drinks and she saw me slam a big ol' pot brownie before leaving and started rambling about how she's going to buy cookie dough and brownie mix and "make treats". I reminded her that they're not treats if you have them frequently, that premade shit tastes like... well shit, you had a huge brunch and large dessert after, and that she's dealing with an illness currently where large amounts of sugar will only worsen it. Fats looked disheartened and didn't say anything more on the matter until we were walking home and she decided we needed to rush into Loblaws to grab her beetus powder. Yuck. But all of this has just gotten me to thinking about all the other aspects of her as a person I don't like. She's not passionate about anything in her life. She'll enjoy this or that, but there's nothing she just LOVES and nothing she hates. She lives in this constant state of quasi-apathy. She only goes to climb twice a week and thinks thats enough?? Conversation always ends up around her ex and its been months and I'm just very bored and fed up. She doesn't know anything about any of the communities or subcultures I'm a part of so I'm constantly stuck explaining shit. She doesn't even know the big players in this city that make bouldering even possible in the first place like what the fuck. Normally I'd just ghost out and disappear, but she has a car that she lets me borrow to go climbing and do other junk... also in the city a car is just handy sometimes (I have Car2Go but hers is full sized). She has a sick condo and a dog.... and if I decide I don't want to keep on entertaining this charade of progress it will fuck up the dynamics of our larger group. So, I'm not really sure what to do here. She exasperates me as a person most times, but there are very practical reasons to keep her around. This post is half-rant of things running through my mind over the past month and half a really indirect and muddled way to get some input from you shitlords. Any ideas or comments? I'm a bit in a spot and I'm not sure what to do. I think my main thing is that I expected more of her, but she has barely improved in all of this time due to the general 'go-with-the-flow" personality she has. Pretty sure if I sit her down and tell her she's still disgusting and needs to do better then it'll fuck up those group dynamics I was going on about earlier, but thats the only thing that comes to mind.