This.  I was abused as a child and when people yell and rage, especially at children, it literally brings me back to that place and time in my mind.  I don't sit there wondering what people think of me or think about anything else other than the horrible memories that have been brought back to the forefront of my mind.  Even so, I have learned to cope with that and get back to my life as quickly as possible.  I have never blamed society for this.  Sometimes parents need to raise their voice.  My being triggered sucks, but it is my problem and my cross to carry.  Getting to a place where it no longer effects me that much is my responsibility.  Society can't change that for me.  Being strong and learning coping mechanisms is how we grow and learn.  It gets easier and easier. I refuse to be a victim.  True victims hate that title and will spend their whole lives fighting their way out of it.  These fat fucks are victims of their own appetites and have no intention of learning to cope.  Their plan is to force their problems onto the world.  Fuck them. ETA: One of the things I did to build confidence in myself after escaping my upbringing was getting into the gym and getting strong and fit.  Just that little bit of work made me feel much stronger and more capable.  Being fat would have made everything so much worse.  These assholes victimize themselves.