This is over the top.  I disagree. I'm not doing anything to her she isn't. Whether she has 4 cubes of sugar in her  tea or 5 can hardly matter from a moral standpoint. If it's me meddling with her food you find objectionable, then tell me if you'd think the same if I modified her diet to be lower in calories, by switching her to coke zero, and eating a larger portion of her chips or whatever. Then it'd be funny?  Seek therapy for the well being of yourself and those around you  Now you're blowing things out of proportion. I'm not Joseph Mengele.  I'm just making a fattass eat more chips.  I'd hate to be friends with you.  My friend doesn't know.