Why is shame considered a bad thing? I love how fat people cry foul about so called "fat shaming." Since when is shame a bad thing? Shouldn't it be a good thing? Why reward bad behavior? Isn't it healthy to feel bad about doing something harmful to yourself or be living life wrong? Shouldn't I feel shame for smoking or doing drugs? Shouldn't I feel shame if I can't pay my bills? Shouldn't I feel shame if I cheated on my spouse or stole something?