The Kattle Sutra <I>Ever wondered how the obese have sex? No? Too bad! I found a guide with visuals and hilarious quotes for us. Because we came here to hate fat people and not read, I've bolded the good quotes: </I> I’m a fat woman who has had lots and lots of awesome sex almost exclusively with partners much smaller than myself. <b>When I met my current partner a year ago, I was at my fattest, about 150 lbs heavier than he is,</b> making our sex the most drastic in terms of size difference relative to my past partners.  Most women I know would not be comfortable with that size difference, and in candid moments, <b>friends have asked, “So, how does that work?”</b> The short answer? It works just great and I love it. There are many misconceptions about how fat people have sex, especially when one partner is fat and the other isn’t.  I know many women <b>who would love to have sex with smaller partners but feel that it wouldn’t work mechanically, that two drastically different bodies couldn’t come together in a pleasurable way. </b>Additionally, many women who do have smaller partners tell me they don’t totally enjoy sex because they feel self-conscious, embarrassed, or unfulfilled because they can’t “let go” during sex. <b>You’ll need to overcome the idea that your partner doesn’t know how fat you are.</b> In our culture we have been taught to dread being able to pinch more than an inch and to be disgusted with our muffin tops. <b>Even if we are thoroughly rad and feminist and above that sort of self-hating thinking,</b> sometimes we don’t like what we see in the mirror, and sharing one’s body with another human being is an incredibly vulnerable act that can bring out our insecurities.  Instead of pulling away, enjoy it when your partner <b>embraces your stomach or fondles it – soft voluptuous flesh can be a real turn-on. The way a woman’s form often holds its extra weight – around the belly, hips, thighs – is seen by many partners to be uniquely feminine and extremely erotic. The love handles you might hide under hoodies </b>during the day should come out at night in all their glory. <b>Next, find a firm, yet springy surface to do it on. Pillow top mattresses and memory foam tend to not be as easy to have sex on since you sink down into those surfaces instead of bouncing back. </b> I’ve heard a lot about fat women having <b>“big vaginas,”</b> which honestly doesn’t make any sense at all. The vagina is inside of the body. <b>That would be like saying that fat women have bigger kidneys just because they’re fat. </b> <b> A fat woman’s vagina can be hard enter, especially if it’s not properly lubricated. Fat women can have more padding around the vagina (on their mons pubis and labia) than a thin woman, </b>creating a potentially tricky situation. If you’re lubricated well and <b>take care to spread apart the fat surrounding the vagina, </b>you should be good to go. <b>Many positions are challenging for everyone except gymnasts, so don’t feel like it’s just about you being too fat </b>to do them. Most people have trouble with those positions. I do miss <b>being able to spoon-fuck (my ass is simply too large for any penis, no matter how gigantic, to find its way into my vagina in that position).</b>  Missionary: <b>A big belly and thick thighs can and DO get in the way during plain ol’ missionary.When I was heavier I couldn’t reach past my belly to grab my partner’s butt while he was thrusting. </b>  Being on Top: <b> No, you aren’t going to crush, smother, suffocate, smash, or otherwise injure </b>anyone you have sex with…even if you’re honest-to-god <b>super duper fataroonie fatapalooza fat fattity fat. </b> <b>First, know you may need to move your fat around until it feels comfortable. When I was heavier, I’d have to literally pick my belly up and move it around. Same with my thighs. Bellies hang and thighs can swallow up a small partner, </b> so repositioning is necessary in those instances.  I’m not going to lie, <b>being a fat girl on top can be physically exhausting.</b> Once I figured out that <b>thrusting down on my partner was actually easier because I was fat</b>, a whole new world opened up! Easier? Yes, I said easier! You see, when <b>you’ve got a really huge bottom, you can use the momentum and sheer force </b>of your ass to thrust down on our partner.  Doggie: Doggie is a favorite fat sex position. However, if you’re <b>blessed with an especially large behind, as I am,</b> you may find that even doggie can be a challenge.