Pudgy Fiance Advice? Hi guys, I already feel terrible for posting this but I need help. Everywhere I look on the internet basically just tells me to stop being a shallow bitch and love my fiance as is. I do love him, but he's gotten really out of shape and I'm finding it harder and harder to be attracted to someone who's got breasts that rival my own.  He was actually really fit when we first met and so unbelievably handsome, but as the next few years went on his diet changed to mostly cereal, pizza, and soda. I am quite healthy and active (weight lifting, cardio, pretty good diet, etc) so you can imagine the clash this creates between us. He always makes jokes about how he's so lucky he's got such a hot fiance and that he doesn't have to try to impress me anymore. He also makes remarks all the time about how I'm way too good looking for him as if there's nothing he can do to change his body. For some reason, this really depresses me. It's like he doesn't care if I find him attractive or not or that I can barely have sex with him without having to look away from his gut or man-boobs. Like I said earlier, I feel awful for even bringing this up but fitness and nutrition is an extremely large part of my life and I fear if he doesn't change it will doom our marriage before it's even begun. I do love him dearly, it's just difficult dealing with all his excuses. It's gotten to the point that I don't feel like he could protect me if a dangerous situation arose because he has such low muscle mass and such high body fat. Anyway, sorry for the rant but I needed some input. Have you had to convince a loved one to get in shape? How did it go? Should I push him harder or just back off? Thanks for any advice.