ugh man I feel for you.  Before i got with my current GF after my divorce I had a fuckin whale neighbor constantly trying to get me to go to dinner or go hang out with her.  I'm not one to bite my tongue around the fattys so I told her straight up that she weighs more than 2 of me so she has no chance in hell of me ever doing anything with her.  The bitch still wouldn't stop bugging me. It went on for  a couple months until I got together with my current GF.  So glad she turned out to be a shit lady, we sit here at night when we are both home from work and read FPH together!  Been together 5 yrs now, and she is one hell of an awesome step mother to my kids.