this was my experience in my 20's, every girl i knew had their own rape story, it was like, they thought weren't validated as an attractive woman unless they were "raped"... i was like, "wtf, who is raping all these girls" but every rape story boiled down to, "i had sex with this guy + i regretted it the next day = i was raped" no, that's not rape, and rape isn't an allegation that you just toss around