My athletic brother is getting fat - I do not know how to approach this reality! My brother was fat and pudgy when he grew up, he “grew into his body” and eventually started to go to the gym in his 20s. He has gotten married and had a kid in the past year. Looking at photos he has increased the contours of his body – he is getting fucking fat. He used to be the most in shape of the family and that has suddenly passed to me. He’s going to get fat and that dynamic change is interesting. Looking at recent photos compared to past years and the change is very noticeable – cheek width, neck girth, arm flab. It’s all there. I didn’t want him to get fat, but it seems he has always been an obeast at heart. My whole family are obeasts – do I go aggressive or passive with underhand comments? I’d love for everyone to be thin (read:human), but my mother does not believe changing diet is related to weight – that is a lost cause.  Do I just shitlord all the time? How does one effectively shitlord over familial pressures? I constantly hear disparaging remarks from my family about my low weight (BMI 19.7 – you know “anorexic thin”, clearly I starve myself). How do I change this? Is this a lost cause? He was reasonable, but marriage and a child seem to have removed any self-reflection. This is why people become fat, this is typical. I think there is nothing that can be done. My family are obeasts - and I am alone.