TRIGGERED. As a man i don't like when people generalize men like that. I would be pleased if you at least used a gender-neutral term like "significant other" in your analogy.  Almost 24% of all relationships had some violence, and half (49.7%) of those were reciprocally violent. In nonreciprocally violent relationships, women were the perpetrators in more than 70% of the cases.  http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17395835  More than 40% of domestic violence victims are male, report reveals  http://www.theguardian.com/society/2010/sep/05/men-victims-domestic-violence