content: Exactly why I get irritated when someone says "patriarchy"...there is none, it's a tit-for-tat system that exploits and dehumanizes both sides, reducing one to a vagina and caregiver and the other to a penis and a financial benefactor.    Neither of these are right at all.  The problem is one side wants to blame the other and then that other side tries to say that it's deeper than that, they are sold to "shut the fuck up" as one red haired loudmouth puts it, or that they're "mansplaining".     This is why we can't have nice things, like progress.