content: I agree with your first point - there's a lot of blame leveled at men for not stepping up, and not enough acknowledgement of the social structures that hold them down.  But by every metric we currently use to evaluate groups of people, it's the smart and successful men who marry, and the less smart, less successful ones who don't. There are exceptions, obviously. We all know married morons and geniuses who are confirmed bachelors. But the marriage gap is also a wealth, status and IQ gap. My personal opinion is that high-status men understand the risks of a dysfunctional marriage, but marry anyway because the benefits of a functional marriage are compelling.