content: Question: How would you suggest I go about telling a good friend she's uncomfortably misandric? Ok, here's the deal. First I wanna say just so you understand where I'm coming from, I'm not an MRA, but I am an egalitarian, so when I see unfair shit for anyone, I talk about it. I don't have a focus on any one group, which is probably why I don't really know how to handle this situation. Second, my friend and I are both women, and I'm not sure whether that will help or hurt the situation. (I think help, but I dunno.) Third, it's her boyfriend I'm really worried about how she treats, not that he's perfect, but he at least doesn't honestly want her to get him a beer from the fridge when he gets home, it's just a joke, he'll get it himself if he's not covered in kids. Fourth, my boyfriend and I live with them (they weren't an item when we moved in, so she's jostled the whole house up by moving in). So that's awkward. Lastly, I want to actually help the situation, so if your suggestion is "stop being friends with her," or "you can't do anything," that's defeatist talk, and don't bother. I actually want help...so please at least try to come up with a suggestion.  Ok, so my friend, she's really, really misandristic all the time, and it's really uncomfortable. She's not a bad person, per say, I think she just really thinks of herself as a victim of life, and it makes it hard for her to see men as people. She even is more mean to a little two year old boy that is her boyfriend's son than her own two daughters. It might just because he's the red-headed stepchild (actually, he's very blond, which is a shame because his father is a red-head) but I'm afraid it's just because he's a boy. She literally expects the ideal man out of the 50s from her boyfriend. She demands things out of him all day (while he's at work, mind you, she expects him to finish doing things that there literally aren't enough hours in his day for,) while she quit her job to watch his son. I mean, it's fair to ask him to run to the store after work since he's kid free, and all, but it's not fair that she's asking him to fix X or Y around the house when she's perfectly capable of picking up a screw driver on her own and doing it. She has a two hour period every week day where the two year old is napping, and I am a freak when it comes to clean kitchens, so even if the kids had an elaborate breakfast, it's going to get cleaned up, no complaints by someone else. :\ Anyway, she'll always be saying things that make me really uncomfortable like, "that's what a man is supposed to do," when the poor guy gets off work, and doesn't have the energy to move furniture all over the house, or what ever else she wants right away. Or she'll literally tell him he doesn't have the right to be tired, or that he doesn't have the right to feel upset over anything, and she'll mock him behind his back for feeling a certain way about something. I don't think she thinks of him as a person, but I don't think she's doing it maliciously. I don't think it's because she wants to not think of him as a person, I think she just never thought that she should think of men as people. So...my question is, how do I break it to her that she's being really sexist, and what do I do to maybe get started thinking of her poor boyfriend as a person instead of manual labor? Help, you're the only people that might be able to suggest something in this situation!