I still believe in chivalry, although some people think it's dead.
If chivalry is dead, who killed it?
Men?
Women?
Or both?
Is chivalry dead?
Okay Jude, do you think chivalry is dead?
Yes I do.
Okay, if you think it's dead, who killed it?
Men?
Women or both?
I would say men.
Men killed chivalry?
Men killed chivalry.
We want the example.
Dig a little deeper.
I was ready for you to say women because I know some men, some of my guy friends would say women were the ones that killed it.
I wanted to say women originally because I was thinking that women wanted the independence and they wanted to be extremely independent.
Right.
But at the same time I think about the role model.
Yeah.
The men don't know how to be chivalrous and they don't know what that means.
Like for example on the train, a pregnant woman could be on the train.
A young man wouldn't get up because he doesn't know to get up.
He doesn't know to get up.
He was never taught to get up.
Now could chivalry and feminism exist in the same space?
I don't think so.
Why is that?
So, for example, the pregnant woman on the train.
She's like, I got this.
I'm carrying this nine month old baby.
I've been carrying this, I can handle it.
I'm strong.
I'm woman.
Hear me roar.
So how does that?
It kind of, they cancel each other out.
But not all pregnant women feel that way.
We're going to use the example of the pregnant women.
There are women that do want that.
Now I am referring to the extreme feminists.
Yep.
But I'm still referring to the feminists.
Yeah.
That I can do them.
You don't think it exists in the same space?
I don't think it can exist because it's like me telling you, like, no, I need to take
care of you.
I need to be extremely courteous to you because you're a woman.
But at the same time, me as a feminist woman, I'm saying, oh, I got this.
I don't need a man to do what I need.
Okay. So what about the woman that was never exposed to a chivalrous man?
Is she faulted if she meets one?
No, she should not be faulted because she should be faulted.
If she's never been exposed to it?
If she's never been exposed to it, I get it because, like, you know, you're ignorant to
it.
You're on, you know, I don't know.
It's to me.
But at the same time, someone's been courteous to you.
So what is the problem with someone showing you some kindness?
Yeah.
I think sometimes it depends on where you live or where you're from.
I know in New York.
Because it's handled differently.
It is handled.
It's a little bit more closed off and just like, who are you and why are you talking to me?
Okay, the last one for you is, is it a woman's job to make a man feel needed or wanted?
I think it matters on her role.
So I need a yes or no.
Don't give me roles, Jew.
Don't give me roles.
Is it a woman's job to make a man feel wanted?
Is it a woman's job to make a man feel wanted in all roles that the woman may have?
As the mother, as the girlfriend, as the sister?
So we'll speak from it from the significant other standpoint.
Significant other?
Yeah.
No.
Is that the woman's job to make a man feel?
Why?
Why?
Why?
I feel like that's something that should have been laid in the foundation.
He should have had his self-esteem and his courage already taken care of already.
I don't think, like, you being in a relationship, you need to have-
But that doesn't take away from that.
It does take away from it at some point.
Because at the same time, you need to know who you are and be confident with who you are.
I don't need you bringing that to the relationship at now at this age or this point in your life.
I'm supposed to let you know that you're amazing, that you're wanted, that you love your special?
Let me say this about chivalry.
Because I feel like men have a specific role that they play.
Women have a specific role that they play in their relationships.
But you also have to find the balance between the two, though, Jude.
I think one compliments the other.
And so if a woman is making you feel wanted or needed, that's not to say that's taken away from your ego or your manhood.
It's just complimenting you.
You may be down some days.
But if it's vice versa, if she has her moments where she doesn't feel like superwoman,
the man should be there to compliment her.
So what you're creating is a spectrum.
And it's not reality.
Because the word chivalrous itself means courteous, especially a man being courteous towards a woman.
I think it definitely depends on perspective.
I think nowadays where we are, I think it's based off of perspective.
But I also think it just depends on who the person is.
I know for me, I was not exposed to a chivalrous man.
It took me some time to grow into that.
I actually had to let the man do his thing on what he felt comfy with.
Who am I to take away from him wanting to walk on the side of the street?
You know, it actually feels good that he's cognizant of that, that he's walking on the street.
You said something about him.
Well, it does.
And I feel respected.
I feel protected.
But that's not to take away from me being a woman.
But if you want to open my door, if you want to pay for a meal, that doesn't mean that I can't pay for us.
But if that's where you feel like you are in that moment, then by all means do it.
I just learned that I had to let go and I'm okay with it.
I am okay with chivalry.
I don't think it's dead.
I just think it's, I think it's a little tainted and it's based off of someone's experience on what they dealt with.
At the end of the day, I think we just need to kind of find like a balance.
What works for the modern day women that people consider that would shun chivalry.
And it's not necessarily the modern day women.
I don't want to put that stereotype on there.
But I feel like if a woman likes a chivalrous man, it doesn't have to be too much.
Find what you like and what works for you and then live in that space.
Ah, I like that.
I like that one, jeez.
I like that.
Live in that space.
Live in that unrealistic space.
Don't do that.
If you were texting your crush, tell me how you would respond or what your thoughts are about this type of character.
The emoji meme obsessed girl.
What do you think about her?
And this is a girl that you like.
Just remember that.
