Hi, welcome to the Cafe of Dreams, Life Made to Order, where we're serving up the life
you would love and all the financial and personal success that goes with it.
Hi, my name's Lynn Kitchen, your host, but I'm no ordinary chef, and this is no ordinary cafe.
This is the Cafe of Dreams, where making the impossible possible for you is what we do.
So what would you love to order up from the menu of life? You see, I built this place to help launch
you and your dreams forward. I believe we can have it all, power, success, wealth, freedom, and fun.
I call it personal sovereignty. So let's do a quick review of the five basic concepts for
success that we've covered here in the cafe so far. First, everything is created twice,
first in our minds and then in reality. You see, we're always cooking up something in our minds.
We don't get not to cook. We are always creating, every day, cooking up something. And our circumstances
reflect our thinking. So if you want to see what you've been cooking, just look at your life.
If you want to create different circumstances, you need to change your thinking. So second,
there are two ways to live. One is by design and one is by default. Are you living by design?
That is, creating visions and dreams for a life that you would love? Or are you cooking by default?
Meaning that you're left to your old habitual thinking and you're just creating the same results
over and over. Third, don't hang out in the victim diner. If you find yourself cooking with the
same ingredients like anger, blame, and resentment, you're in the victim diner. You need to get out
of there before you burn down your kitchen. And fourth, don't get lulled into complacency and
procrastination in the ordinary grill. That place is a waste of time. Decades can go by there.
And fifth, pay attention to your longings and your discontents. These are like clues. They're
like pieces of the puzzle that help to point you in the directions of your true heart's dreams.
So now moving forward, today I'm going to talk about what I have found helps the most to bring
the greatest success and the best results in life. They are the three R's. Your reasons,
your recipes, and your resolve. Your reasons. Why? This is the essential question that we're
going to explore. Your recipes, what are the ingredients that you're using to build a life
that you would love? And third, your resolve. What do you do when you just can't seem to cook
another day? Do you have a mentor? Do you have a support system? Well, today I'm going to begin
with the first one, the most important one. Your why. Why are you doing what you're doing? Why
would you want a different life? Bring your dream to mind now and ask yourself, what is there in
that dream that pulls me? Explore why it pulls you. All great dreams are made with a great why.
Whatever your dream is, it starts with a clear, compelling reason. It's a reward,
something that inspires you and that you will benefit from, or something that will inspire
and benefit others. In order to have a great dream, you need a great why. It's both a catalyst and
a payoff. Think of it like the invisible yeast inside the bread. When it's combined with heat
and moisture, it expands and the payoff is delicious bread, hot right out of the oven. And
the why behind that is that the bread feeds our body, feeds our soul, and indeed the bread can
feed the world. So there's a wonderful book I'd like to recommend to you. It's called Start with
Why and it's written by Simon Sinek. That's spelled S's in sugar, I-N-E-K. And it's become a very
popular book to read, especially for business leaders. Now he says that what separates great
companies and great leaders is their why. The why is the underlying purpose that the company
exists, the purpose for the dream itself. And he says the biggest challenge is when your why
goes fuzzy. I've actually experienced that myself. Your why can go fuzzy. I spoke to you last time
about my nearly 35 year career in the financial money management world, where in spite of all my
success, something was missing, something unexplainable. But in fact, my why had gone fuzzy. Why was I
doing this? So here's the interesting fact. Your why can change. That's right. In fact, it's normal in a
life cycle of a whole lifetime to realize that what is most important to you now is different than
what it was at an earlier age. You've changed. So it's important to realize this and ask ourselves,
what is important to me now? So please get out a piece of paper and a pen and write this down.
Here's the question. What is most important to me now? Choose the primary dream in your heart and
begin to write. Why this dream? Why this dream? What's the benefit in this dream? What's the payoff
to me? Why does this excite me? Find your why. Because here's the question. What is my why? You may
not know how to bring your dream about. And that's okay for now. But the important piece of
information that I want to share with you right now is that please write this down. When you get
clear enough on your why, the how will show up. That's the miracle. That's the magic that happens
inside the oven. When you get clear enough on your why, the how shows up. Why? Because the
why is the catalyst behind everything. You see, without a solid why, your dreams don't get off
the ground. Only with a great why will you endure inconveniences and possible setbacks. And you'll
be willing to plow forward into your dream when perhaps all else is against you. So in the book,
Start with Why, the author gives us a wonderful example of a time in our history when the why
changed the course of history. It was in 1963, Martin Luther King knew that in order for the
civil rights movement to succeed, it would take more than just himself and a small group of his
allies. It would take more than just an eloquent speech. It would take thousands and tens of
thousands of people united in a single clear vision to change the country. You know, the
organizers of the civil rights movement did not send out thousands of invitations and websites
didn't even exist back then. There was no Facebook to get the word out. But people came and kept
coming and coming until there was a quarter million people who descended upon Washington, DC, to
hear that now famous speech, I have a dream. By the way, notice that Martin Luther King did not
say, I have a plan. He said, I have a dream. The power lies inside a dream. That's where the why
is. Martin Luther King was able to inspire a nation to change the way we think about an issue,
not just for the good of a minority, but for the good of the country. Martin Luther King started
with a why. So can you. The power is in the why behind the dream. So what is your why? Next week
in the Cafe of Dreams, we'll talk about the second are your recipes and all the ingredients that you
really would love to use in cooking up a life of your dreams. See you then.
