People ask me why I started the divorce years.
And I have to say, there wasn't one catalytic event that brought me here.
Yes, I was about to go through a divorce.
So I will say that the idea of a business around divorce, though, despite the fact that
I was getting divorced, was not something I really ever imagined.
I truly walked into the bank one day and saw my girlfriend who had already been through
a divorce trying to get her life organized so that she could run the administrative side
of her life herself.
And she was in the bank at that moment trying to open a bank account and get a credit card.
And unfortunately, she was so scared and emotionally overwhelmed that she had the banker call her
ex-husband on the phone to help the process.
So this woman, a very capable, successful, small business owner, was unable to open a
bank account.
And it really hit home for me because I could not imagine ever being in that situation.
So I helped her with her administrative side.
I helped her with getting her online banking set up.
I helped her with something so simple like her internet wasn't working.
And she didn't even think about how to get that fixed.
So we worked on simple things like that, getting her house in order.
And eventually, they became things that she figured out how to do.
Now after this one event, I started to go through my own divorce.
But I had come up with this idea and I thought, I'm going to start this business.
And as all of you know, everybody's divorce is different, different personalities, different
people, different family structures, different asset structures.
But the one thing I will tell you that regardless of the structure of the family or the personalities,
divorce causes overwhelming emotions.
And unless it's a really short marriage with no children, no assets, maybe you can kind
of move on as if it were just another relationship that didn't work out, but anything that really
involves more than that, it just becomes bigger than simply a piece of paper that needs to
be signed.
And on one hand, it's a business transaction because you really are dividing up assets,
you're dividing up homes, you're dividing up furniture, you're dividing up bank accounts.
But on the other hand, you're also dividing lives.
You're dividing children's lives, you're dividing extended family lives.
In some cases, you're dividing up friends.
And we can't ever imagine what that feels like until we are in it.
And so what my business is, is trying to help weed through all of those different components
with you.
Whether it's, I'm not sure if I want to get divorced, helping think about what are the
consequences of getting divorced?
What are the consequences of staying together?
Understanding what the process of divorce is.
Even before you make the decision, understanding that it can be a very long and difficult process.
Understanding what the impact is going to be on your family.
Understanding your finances.
I mean, I'm not going to help you invest your money, but we might be able to sit down
and say, well, this is what I've got, this is what I need to live on, this is where I
think we can negotiate.
Helping you think about the children, what's the best place for them?
How can we minimize the impact on the children?
There's so many decisions and they're all coming at you.
And if you're also holding down a job, trying to go into work every day, you know, feeling
brand new and ready to conquer the world is really hard.
So having that sounding board next to you, having somebody that you can call, having
somebody to answer to, that's the kind of thing that I can help you with.
I can help you get organized.
I can help you with your finances.
I can help you to be someone to bounce ideas off of.
And I can just be there as really as you're confident.
So there's no one perfect answer to what is the divorceeers, why did I start the divorceeers?
But at the end of the day, I'm here to support you.
I really, really, you know, understand what you're going through.
I love to help people.
I love the feeling of watching my clients come in, sometimes defeated and come out feeling
empowered or go through, start the process in a terrible emotional state and come out
feeling stronger and better and starting a new life.
Hope that answers some of your questions.
If you want a little more detail, if you want to get some more information on how I can
help you personally in your divorce situation, give me a ring, look me up on my website,
thedivorceeers.com, shoot me an email, Karen at thedivorceeers.com.
