This was my mother's wedding dress. My real
mom's. It was, it's out of Slipper
Satin, which they don't make anymore. It
was a very heavy satin. It was just
gorgeous. There's my ex-husband. He's
pretty lit at this point. You can tell
he's kind of high-eyed. And this is my
sister right here, Linda. My dad was the
nighttime manager for Bob's Big Boy when
they opened up the chain. And I believe
it was in, it was in Glendale. And my
mother was a car hop. It's when they
used to take the meals out to the cars
and have the trays and they did it on
roller skates. My mom was one of those.
She bleached her hair. She was thin and
he made a good living so she didn't
have to work. Unfortunately, she was a
tremendous alcoholic. Well, as a kid you
don't realize that alcohol is playing a
big part in your family. It's just the
way things are. You know, they always had
martinis, happy hour. My mom would sleep
in late, but as an adult I realized that
she was hungover and she couldn't get up.
I woke up one day when I was six and my
parents were dead in the swimming pool
and I went and told my sister that they
weren't going, they weren't talking to me
to give me permission to turn on the
TV because I was six and I didn't know
what the hell was going on. So she came
running out and jumped in the pool and I
did my best to help her pull my dad out
of the pool. And my mom, we couldn't get
out because she had swallowed some water.
She was pretty waterlogged at that point
and she was down at the bottom. To hear
people talk about it, I was kind of a
mess. Sad little kid. Most of my pictures
are not smiling. I don't really remember
being, I think I remember being eight. I
don't remember being the rest of six or
seven. So I kind of blocked all of that
out. It was a horrific time. I think
that's the one thing that life taught me
is it taught me to be a positive person
because regardless of how horrific life
events were, there was always something
positive that happened. And so I
concentrate my practice actually on
possibility thinking and expanding
one's horizons rather than getting caught
up in the ick. Because you know ick is
temporary and unfortunately so is
extreme bliss. So you kind of have to
experience all of it. But I think that's
the one thing it taught me. It didn't
make me bitter. It made me, it really
gave me a sense of knowing that the
universe takes care of us. And we just
have to trust the whole process that
things will work out. And they typically do.
