If you feel very safe, you might not take risks, because you feel very safe and you feel that
everything is under control and you don't need to really do anything out of the ordinary.
In order to encourage people or create an environment where people feel, yeah, let's take a risk,
you almost have to take a little bit of safety away. On the other hand, you could also easily
see how taking away all safety or too much safety might again produce that original result
that people just feel too scared to take any risk. If you're too afraid to make mistakes,
you never come up and jump and create it. Who was that again? I think it's Einstein. No, no, it was someone.
I mean, Einstein made a lot of bullshit theories before he came up with the good shit.
Like many kids in America, I think I watched a lot of television and what I would see in television
was these perfect lives. That's what I wanted. How was I going to achieve that? You need to go to
the top. You need to be efficient and effective and do the right thing. And I think that's general
for Western societies, really. But now you log on to the internet and there are millions and
millions and millions of opinions about what it means to be successful. It's necessary to fail.
You can't be perfect all the time. I think we have more and more tools to help bring our manifestations
into reality. You set the intention of what you wanted to happen. And maybe you had this dream
and maybe you never imagined it would go that far. But you know that you had this thing in your
heart and you had this feeling like, I'm really so interested in this thing. I love it. I'd love
to see it develop into something. And that energy behind it set in motion a certain chain of events.
I think the way you view yourself, your own agency, your own ability to act, to take responsibility,
to take risks, growing and developing and playing with our identity has always been part of that
mechanism of a certain anonymity, of a certain... It's not quite me. I'm playing now. So I think
the anonymous part of the internet is kind of dangerous because you kind of see parts of your
soul happening there and that online space that you haven't seen before and somehow you're confronted
with that because you're not really face-to-face talking to someone and you're not really acting
out your own personality but somehow creating second separate personality and then you have to
kind of see whether that fits together or not. So yes, it is easier to find the right people kind
of for your goals. But then to really get into an interaction and really have a relationship
going, whether it's a work relationship or a private one, it really means that you talk to them
and feel with them and have failures together. There is a lot that just cannot really be
understood and conveyed until you actually are in a room with a person and understand the person.
The context of the environment has given people the feeling that they can actually open up and I've
had conversations with perfect strangers about how their lives are being or all the topics that I've
discussed and it's very good to be able to enter into that relationship. What you do on the web is
not so much attached to your own personality so somehow you can succeed online whether you are
a failure in real life or not. If your ego is not in the center of your action then you kind of can
try out all those actions that you have thought about before but you never dare to do them because
they were so closely attached to your ego you thought okay then the failure, the possible failure
will be attached to me as well and like I don't want to fail so I don't take that risk.
I always believe in taking responsibility for my actions and my comments. This is something I
didn't used to do. I used to think you know there's Oscar Wilde's famous quote giving man a mask and
he'll speak the truth but I think it's far more important that we actually take responsibility
for our own truth and that we actually stand up and be counted and we don't take potshots from
behind the scenes. There's so much disconnection that technology provides us with unless we can
remain authentic to ourselves then we're kind of just creating problems but you know in other
people wear masks in real life I've never believed it in real life either it's much better just to
be yourself and take take accountability for that.
If you have less of a fixed idea of what is successful then you're less likely to fail and
more likely to enjoy what the success comes. Your need for success always is attached to
your feelings for need of love to feel loved and to feel respected and that's exactly why we fear
failure so much because it's really a fear of people not loving you or not respecting or not
liking you anymore. Do other people think I'm failing you put that like you know does he like
you know what I mean this sort of shit you know it's like a lot of the time you're thinking I'm
failing because what other people are thinking about you and only when we can go inward and really
be happy with ourselves 100% no matter how we are does that fear disappear and then there is no
failure. Is there a difference between losing a game and failure? When you play games it's a
contained set of rules and within that you can you can lose but I think failure the way it's used
in the English language is it's almost like game over you don't play again. I mean game over in a
game isn't actually game over it's just start again isn't it? I think we need to get away from
this idea that failure means you don't play again because you always play again and you might play
better because you've done more than lose you've failed and it's a much more deep experience of
learning and the capacities you might develop as a consequence of failure might make you
much better equipped fitter to play again and win this time or actually succeed. Is the game I'm
playing actually the game I want to be playing or am I just being forced to to play this particular
game to enter into this social or economic structure or do I want to start playing an
entirely new game and when you're playing an entirely new game you've got to find some people to play with.
So
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